Evening star., 1939-07-15

poor working girl. going with a man
81 years older than I am. He is very
wealthy and could give me every
thing, but I do not love him, yet
make him think that I do. I want
to 60 places and do things and have
fine clothes and he could give them
to me if I married him. I have not
lived the life that should and every
one knows it, but if / marry this
man and he gives me fine house
and everything, my people tell me
that every one will forget all about
my reputation. This old mans fam
lily is of high standing socially and
am not, and they are trying to keep
him from marrying me- I want
money and the things that money
buys. but when think of tying my
self to an old man and having to
live with him and getting no thrills
in life I am afraid it will be very
boresome. What shall I do?
WONDERING.
Answer strongly advise you not
to marry the old man. You must
know that he is in his dotage If he
is willing to marry a child such as
you are, and particularly one who
does not belong in his own class.
There could be no sort of congeni-
ality between you. You wouldn t
want to do the same things. 60 to
the same places, associate with the
same people and you would find life
intolerably dull.
AS soon as you were married he
would drop the little tricks of imi-
tation youth that he practices now
and be his age. He would settle
down into being an old man and
would expect you to stay at home
and doctor his rheumatism and be
happy just looking at him. You
would have nothing to talk about
You would be humiliated by the cuts
and snubs his friends and family
would give you. You wouldn't find
that money and buying clothes
would make you happy. Soon you
would be satisfied with the things
that money buys For, after all, you
can wear but one dress at time,
cannot eat more than one dinner or
ride in more than one car. After
you have what you need the balance
is just a burden.
Marry some young man of your
own kind who will give you love
even If he can't give you a pearl
necklace. You will be much happier
even doing your own work and push
ing your own baby carriage than you
will be with doddering old husband
whose kisses repulse you and whose
"reminiscences bore you to tears.
DEAR DOROTHY DIX-My
neighbor, with whom I had been
quite friendly, suddenly turned very
cold to me. I asked her what was
the matter and she made some eva
sive reply and I had to let the matter
drop. I have never known until
recently what was the trouble. A
friend of mine, who is a friend of
hers. told me that my neighbor be-
lieveS that once when she was sick
and I was nursing her that her hus-
band and I had been untrue to her.
There Is not word of truth in this
Her husband is devoted to her and
he has never so much as paid me
compliment in his life, or showed the
slightest interest in me, and I am
equally devoted to my husband. Be-
fore my friend told me about this
she made me promise that I would
never tell my neighbor that I knew
what she thought and so I feel that
my hands are tied But I want to
go to her and see if I can't disabuse
her mind of this crazy idea. What
should I do? WORRIED.
Answer: There are promises that
are better broken than kept and this
Is one OF them. urge you to 60 at
once'to your neighbor and have 1t out
with her. It would be wise to choose
your time, when her husband is at
home. Make her call him into the
room and hear the story and help
disabuse her mind of q sick fancy
over which she must have been
brooding all of these years.
You owe it to the man to help
straighten out this matter. because
his wife must have treated him as
badly as she has you, believing that
he had been guilty of such an of1ense
against her.
Don't let any foolish idea about
the sacredness of promise keep you
from bringing happiness to two
people, as well as clearing your own
name Of q sin that you never COM
mitted.
b 4 4 4
DEAR MISS DIX am . girl oe
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