The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-11-23

to BY the ignorant who can't i
other way.
Nay ! give you an example OF
one OF our difficulties! It Ia his
and my attitude about the movies.
He likes comedies and insists on
choosing the show we go to when
we decide to see . film. while
prefer drama and the pictures that
appeal to something more than a
low sense Of humor. When storm
about the film he wants TO see,
the quarrel Is on and we often end
up by not seeing show or speak
ing to each other for days.
II Ii all very unpleasant. Also,
many Of his friends are obnoxious
to me and ! tell him 10. He
heartily dislil<es many Of my
friends and does not attempt to
Be friendly to them. This en-
barrasses me terribly as my friends
are really much superior to his.
/ feel that I have a right to snub
some Of the men and women he
goes out with. The other night,
because ! refused to 60 TO a party
HIS friends were giving. he went
anyway and did not get home until
almost morning.
Do you think It IL fair for him
to be 20 uncouth and unkind nowy
] don't and must admit I have been
shocked at finding out what a
hypocrite he Ii. He must be one
or he would never have been 30
courteous during our engagement
and 80 iIl-mannered after mar
riage. DrsILLUSroNED.
You wouldn't be half 10 dis
illusioned, ! am sure. IL you
would try to look at this matter
IN less martyr-like way.
You have told yourself that
you are suffering a Justified in
dignation. while at the same
time you have magnified your
husbands shortcomings in your
mind until they loom up like
mountains instead of the MOLE
hills they are.
II he gets angry at you and
treats you with less courtesy
than he accorded you during en-
gagement days. the chances are
you are somewhat to blame for
his manner. am not saying
you are all to blame by any
means. for It takes two to make
. quarrel. but II we are fair we
must admit that we usually get
what we give In this life. II you
treat your husband with consid-
GRAFTON and courtesy I am sure
you win get II In return--BUT
II you think because you are 4
bride and should be accorded all
the confederation q man can give
you. while you 60 not return that
consideration-then you are due
Tor rude awakening.
Husbands are human and like
70 be treated with courtesy Just
~ women appreciate kindness.
Why don't you compromise on
your movie selections. One time,
60 to the show your husband
wants to 80 to and ask him In
al fairness, to defer 10 your
selection the next time you at
tend the theater.
A fifty-fifty basis 10 q very
safe one to found q marriage on.
Sensitive
Dear Miss Grey: I have prob
lem that would like to have you
help me with.
I work In place that II very
noisy. In fact It ID 70 noisy II Is
almost impossible to hear what
anyone u saying.
! try to hear what people say,
but have come TO the conclusion
that the mon who work around me
think ! am dumb because I fan to
understand them 70 often.
Lately I have got to the stage
whore ! nag myself and pick on
my self. I have lost AL confidence
and 60 % far ~ 10 argue lin my
mind) with my co-workers.
/ don't know what makes me
feel this way. but I do and can't
seem TO do anything about 1t.
There are times ! could scream
"a xet relief. I know II Il All in