The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-12-27

II she values her future happi
to see a young girl making tn
married.
Seven years ago I met = fine
sclean-cut" gentleman who fell In
love with me and asked me to
marry him. I was seventeen and
h was thirty-two. Fifteen years
4 too great . difference as
general rule. for successful mar
rage
When he asked me to marry him
! frankly admitted I did not love
him despite the admiration ! had
for him. However. he prevailed
upon me to consider his proposal
and asked me to 20 out with other
young men, and u. In four or five
years. I had not fallen In love.
he wanted me to marry him.
This I did. went with many
young men but did not fan in
love and did not meet anyone who
measured up to the high type Of
the older man.
I married him when I was
fwenty-one. and though I still adj
mire him must admit things
have changed great deal.
Now he seems like a father to
me, not \ husband. He corrects
me and scoffs at my nonsense
He doesn't seem to realize that
everyone likes to be silly once In
= while. He expects dignity at all |
times. For instance. we were in
Sited out TO a party recently but |
he would not 90 because he de-
scribed the parties of my young
friends as silly affairs"
Well. went because I was tired
Of sitting home night after night.
needed the company OF others.
The first game played was Get
Acquainted" II called for part
hers to be husband and wife--then
, change to other tables and a
change Of partners. Because my
husband was not with me, I had
10 sit out during this game.
Naturally felt self-conscious and
ronspicuous. For one hour ! sat
IN the side lines and watched the
others while they played. en-
3oyed looking on but inside was
crying.
Later enjoyed the games that
did not require partners. but the
most unhappy part Of the evening
came when refreshments were
served. The husbands took care
OF service for their wives. went
up with the men and got my own
dish. As / did 20 two-year-old
baby came up to get his and /. to
hide my embarrassment said.
Here. Ill borrow you for my
husband" Everyone laughed but
] was 50 hurt could hardly wait
70 get home.
There Is q radio program all
young women should listen to. It
Is about q young woman married
70 an old preacher. Also. any
young woman who considers ma.ri-
mony with an old man should see
sDavid copperfield." or course. 1t
represents an extreme case, but
The story gives clear idea Of the
folly Of youth mating with age.
No matter how cultured and
Eentlemanly and moral an elderly
man may be. there Is no getting
away from the fact that he is
1ncspable OF being a satisfactory |
mate for young woman.
Elderly men may be financially
secure but the young women who
marry them soon learn that money
e not everything. No girl can
find happiness when she marries
m old man. I know. and though
my husband Is not old. he Is too
much older than myself to make
me happy.
Superiority and refinement and
nmartness can be inspiring at
times. but at other times they can
be very boring. I must admit that
there are times when I would
much rather scream than repeat
my parrot-like phrase. Eyes. dear.
IN try to do better''--in reply to
husbandly-criticism.
The young woman who expressed
her appreciation OF old men as
husbands made a great misstate-
ment when she said that old men
are safe matrimonial bets because
they have money.
When ] married, my husband
had a good job as q clerk in
department store. He had held
It for fourteen years but when a
new manager moved in my semi
bald husband was let out. Due to
his age he has found it impossible
70 get similar work tthe only work
he knows). He has acted like a
man dszed and for a year now 7
have had to support Us. Enough
pf that-for while he worked he
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