The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-02-06

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/ am . man IN my late thirties-
For years ] have lived for my
parents and feel that while chill
dren owe their parents much, ms
4 general rule, ii Is not fair for
mothers and fathers to impose too
much on their children.
/ have never married because
my father and mother seem to
think that would be running their
lives n / established . home Of
my own. ! make q good salary
and II had to live my life over.
would see 10 It that my parents
were comfortably situated In .
ANAL apartment and then ] would
strike out for myself. As 1t IL
/ don't get any kick out Of life. !
have no home and family Of my
own and every time I mention
getting married my mother laughs
indulgently and informs me that
at my age" ! would never make
= success of marriage as ! am so
set" In my ways.
Ny father Indignantly asks me
what will become Of him and my
mother II I put them out" Of the
comfortable home they live In with
me. Long ago ! discovered the
futility Of arguing with stubborn
and frightened old people.
But I do want to say that any
child who makes a martyr of him
self Tor herself) for parents. is
making a grave mistake. We can
love our parents and do our duty
by them and at the same time
hold fast to the determination to
live our own lives and enjoy them.
My other brothers and sisters
are an married. All have children
Of their own and don't do nearly
as much for my people as ! do.
II they were fair and square they
would each dig up the right share
toward the support of my parents
and ] could have enough Of my
own salary TO get married and
have a home Of my own. But do
they do IL? l should say not.
They are all too busy maintaining
fine homes. sending their children
to college and driving expensive
cars. They simply can't do much
more than dole out = little five or
ten every now and then for the
folks.
Family love is q splendid thing
when fairness and square-dealing
are part Of it. but when selfish
meas enters the picture. family
love loses its charming aspect.
FAMILY GOAT.
Red Hair
Dear Miss Grey: can't under
stand why A. G. A. objects so
vigorously at being called a red
head" Why. I almost think 1t is
an honor to get off that easily.
Ever since can remember, ] have
been called carrot top" brick
top" red headed ginger bread"
or Just '.red." II doesn't get my
goat at all Why should it, My
hair Ii red and It viii stay red
no matter what am called. One
shouldn't take the term, red head.
no literally. II certainly does not
imply that ones entire face and
head are the color of an exas-
gerated blush. The only way
A. c. A. can stop people from
teasing her with that offensive
term, is by ignoring II. A. G. A.
is entitled to her own opinion. but
] think that this is a trivial thing
to get worked up about.
A. matter of fact, Miss Grey.
I think that many Of the preludices
and pet diversions people air in
year column are silly. But may !
hun.bly offer my pet hate? What
] can't understand. Is why people
write to you denouncing the OPP
posits sexes. No matter how
mnch man and women may talk
ahuut each other, you still find
them marrying. They are both
necassary; beth have their faults
and both have their virtues. Peo-
phi may argue Ill they please about
which seg has the greatest INTEL
lecf. hut ! think that the people
who spend their time thus arguing
win find their mental superiors in
either ser. and very easily.
d. o. T.
How to Hold Min
Dear Cynthia: ! have been going
with q nice young man for the last
six months. am crazy about him.
and know he likes me. but I'm
constantly afraid that ! will loss
him.
! do everything in the world &c
paaase him, but even so, there are
times ! think he's losing interest
Ia ne.
1 am 20. but this is the frs,
time I've ever gone with any boy
] tnst don't know how to handle
than
What can . girl do to hold ,
mans iutsrest! QUEENIE.
n only way to hold mans
1nse. Or to hold anything in life
for that matter, "Queenie.' rs
Mt to try too hard.
Relax and he yourself. Recog-
ME that the things that are
roa1ly for you gravitate to you.
m your effort to hold the young
mans interest. you are not being
your sweet and natural self. He
liked you IN the first instance for
what you are: he'll 60 on liking
PROTECTION
~ XoQ Vn1unhaw
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