The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-03-04
Self-Pity Cause Of
Much Unhabbiness
Chronic Complainers Blame Others for
Troubles They Could Remedy Themselves
By CYNTHIA GREY

DIV III N
Some time ago a correspoI
to complain because other mer
worked were mean, jealous al
ment they were getting, while
position at the same salary.
At the time it was suggest
thing about the matter if she
Another writer now comes
to agree that most people are
Dear Miss Grey: ] must admit
I have little patience with the
women and men who complain
about the way other people treat
them. When men and women can't
get along with the persons they
work with. when they are chronic
complainers. 1t stands to reason
that the trouble lies with them.
Let " consider the working girl
who frets because other girls are
lucky" and get all the breaks. !
pity her because her lack OF luck
usually means she does not know
enough to-
Dress as carefully for the office
as for her important dates.
Realise that picking her CO.
workers to pieces Ia destructive to
her own personality.
Face realistically the fact that
she isn't indispensable to her EN-
ployer.
Make friends outside Of the per-
sons she meets In business.
Be gracious about whatever she
has to do. whether she likes It or
not.
Treat with proper respect the
people who are above her.
Realise that no Job 10 free from
drawhaclks.
Keep to herself secrets entrusted
TO her.
Hang on to her femininity.
Hunt another Job II she Is un-
happy in the work she Ia doing.
Realize her capabilities without
over-rating them.
Protest to the right person or
make up her mind to accept condi-
tons without running to co-work-
ers to grumble.
Annoyed
Dear Miss Grey: am a young
woman who has been going with
a man for several months. He is
a splendid man and ! like him ex-
cept for one thing. He lacks a
certain amount of polish that /
love to see In man. He Is gener-
GUS, a success in his business, and
taccording to those who know him)
q man Of honor.
But he never walks on the out
side of the street when we are out.
never takes his hat off In an ele-
vator and what makes me more
annoyed than anything. he never
rises when women come into a
room. Especially Ia this noticeable
when older women are around.
What can be denp to remedy this ?
= - ANNOYED.
Use indirect suggestion. You
don't have to say, See here, ! think
your manners are deplorable. Why
don't you rise when women enter
Q room ?"
All you have to do Is tell him
casually, now and then, that you
don't admire certain men and
stress these very faults that he
has. He will take the hint, ! am
sure.
Money Matter
Dear Miss Grey: I wonder II you
can settle this argument,
A woman know who has child
rem was deserted by her husband.
A mutual friend Of theirs then
declared he loved her and has been
sending her money. Finally he sent
her money with which to get her
divorce and buy some new clothes
$500 In all. Then her husband
returned, found the money and
spent It.
] say she has q right to change
her mind and stay with her hus-
band II she wants to. even though
che did accept the money. This
man knew she was married.
NY husband and ! have argued
about this matter. He declares she
. liable to prison after saying she
would marry the man and taking
his money. say that II a man
sends q woman money while she is
still married to another man he
has no kick coming when she
changes her mind If she finds she
will not be happy with him.
MRS. WONDERING.
I don't believe this man could
possibly sue the woman for breach
of promise as she was already
married when he gave her money
and got her promise of marriage.
However, there Is moral obliga-
ton entailed here that leaves such
. woman q social liability. She
had no business accepting his
money-that alone proves her to
be q woman Of no character, and
the man who advanced her money
should feel that II was well worth
the price to find her out. The story
that her husband came home and
found the money and spent II
doesn't smack of the truth. Frank
~, I don't believe II. I think she
and her husband spent II together.
Their plan to stay together proves
that.
And remember this--no matter
how foolish the man was who
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