The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-02-25

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Now. mother, maybe you are all
worn out trying to keep peace.
You have explained and excused
until you are weary. Acting as a
buffer between beligcrents is an
exhausting business. l think 1t
unnecessary.
Naturally you have to take sides
at times. II you think that little
May Is being imposed upon, you
champion May. If you know that
Ut heart Lonny is fine fellow
you try to protect him.
Knowing that underneath II all
they are splendid people. these
children. you find reason for
every fuss. And the boys 60 on
and everything gets worse. Per-
haps it il little complicated at
times by dads limited patience, or
there may b. days when your own
nerves give out and you are I'M
reasonable. Then everybody Is in it.
/ know Of only one way to keep
peace In the family. and that is TO
tell everybody firmly that they
have to be decent to each other.
Just because they are at home does
not license tongues. Children have
70 behave at school or anywhere
else. They know this. Restraint is
associated with place in the
child's mind. And 40 are good man
ners. For the children to curb
touchy dispositions is part of good
manners, and this should begin at
home.
Fun and jolly times are great
medicine. The family that laughs
il seldom 4 cross one. Tolerance
comes next. The principal of live
and-lef-live Is a great thing. IL
routs jealousy and helps all around.
Kindness is another cure-all. Have
tn children learn to do fsvors for
each other.
But still maintain that quar- 4
reling is largely matter of habit. |
There are rules for the road and
rules for sports. So, then, there
should be rules for the home.
Etiquette is important.
Daughter
Dear Miss Grey: ! have neigh
bor who insidiously tries to foist
her ugly daughter on my two sons. |
The girl is ugly. She does not ap-
peal to boys but this neighbor
keeps asking me to send my sons
over for Sunday evening supper \
or : party. The boys refuse to 20 |
and as q result, this unfortunate
mother will barely speak to me.
Why is 1t, Miss Grey. that the
mothers of ugly girls are so de-
cidedly on the defensive and seem !
to think that everyone else is to
blame when their homely girls get |
no attention?
ANOTHER MOTHER.
Isn't this rather cruelg Do you
really think this mother thinks her
daughter Is ugly? You should
know better, for all mothers think /
their children are beautiful and |
mothers are particularly concerned
about their daughters because. they
want TO see them taken care of by I
some good man. This mother COM
pliments you because she conveys |
the idea that your sons are worth |
while. Don't be too sure of your I
self. Some day perhaps one Of !
your sons viii suffer because a
girl does not want him.
Disguised
Dear Miss Grey: I'm disguised.
Some bitter old woman wrote to
you the other day to complain
about mother-in-law and daughter,
in-law association. All can say is
this-I pity the girl who happens
70 be this persons daughter-in-
law. She probably will have to be
on the defensive all her life be-
cause the older woman certainly
seems to be looking for fight.
That Is the trouble with this bust
1ess. II isn't the younger women
who are looking for trouble--it is
the Older ones who don't have
enough intelligence to tend to their
own business. When mothers learn
the value Of tending to their own
affairs they will find they won't
have any trouble in dealing with
their boys wives.
And by the way--did you ever
notice that the average daughter
1n-law can get along beautifully
9th her husha nd,a father What's