The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-03-06

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thing about the matter if she
Another writer now comes
to agree that most people ar,
Dear Miss Grey: must admit
I have little patience with Tho
women and men who complain
about the way other people treat
them. When men and women can't
get along with the persons the,
work with, when they are chronic
complainers, 1t stands to reason
that the trouble lies with them.
Let US consider the working girl
who frets because other girls are
lucky" and get all the breaks. !
pity her because her lack Of luck"
usually means she does not know
enough to-
Dress ~ carefully for the office
o. for her important dates.
Realize that picking her CO.
workers to pieces In destructive to
her own personality.
Face realistically the fact that
she isn't Indispensable to her en-
ployer.
Make friends outside Of the per-
sons she meets In business.
Be gracious about whatever she
has to do. whether she likes It or
not.
Treat with proper respect the
people who are above her.
Realise that no Job 70 free from
drawbacks.
Keep to herself secrets entrusted
to her.
Hang on to her femininity.
Hunt another Job II she In un-
happy IN the work she Ia doing.
Realize her capabilities without
over-rating them.
Protest to the right person or
make up her mind to accept condi-
tions without running to co-work-
ers to grumhle.
Annoyed
Dear Miss Grey: I am young
woman who has been going with
q man for several months. He Is
q splendid man and like him ex-
ccpt for one thing. He lacks a
certain amount Of polish that !
love TO zee In a man. He Is gener-
GUS, q success In his business, and
taccording to those who know him)
q man Of honor.
But he never walks on the out
side Of the street when we are out,
never takes his hat off in an ele-
vator and what makes me more
annoyed than anything, he never
rises when women come into a
room. Especially 70 this noticeable
when older womerf~s are around.
What can be done 70 Somedy this?
ANNOYED.
Use indirect suggestion. You
don't have to say, See here. I think
your manners ara deplorable. Why
don't you rise when women enter
= room ?" m
All you have to do Is tell him
now and then. that you
don't admire certain men and
gtreos these very faults that. he |
has. He viii take the hint. ! am
sure.
Money Matter
Dear Miss Grey; I wonder II you
can ssttle this argument.
A woman ] know who has child
rsn was deserted by her husband.
A mutual friend Of theirs then
declared he loved her and has been
sending her money. Finally he sent
her money with which to get her
divorce and buy some new clothes
$500 In all. Then her husband
found the money and
Ipsnt Il.
! say she has q right to change
her mind and stay with her hus-
band>if she wants to, even though
Dhe did accept the money. This
nan knew she was married.
Ny husband and ! have argued
Ahuut this matter. He declares she
y liable to prison after saying she
wutld marry the man and taking
~ money. I say that II a man
Donds Q woman money while she Is
It'll married to another man he
has no kick coming when she
damages her mind II she finds she
win mot b happy with him.
MRS. WONDERING.
don't believe this man could
sue the woman for breach
" promise ~ she was already
when he gave her money
IND got her promise Of marriage.
However, there 10 q moral obliga-
In ontailed here that leaves such
! woman . social liability. She
had no business accepting his
money--that alone proves her to
y Z woman Of no character, and
IL man who advanced her money
IhouId feel that ii was well worth
lhe price to find her out. The story
hat her husband came home and
found the money and spent 1t
doosn't smack of the truth. Frank
b, don't believe II. ! think she
md har husband spent 1t together.
IhNlr peaAsto stay together proves
that.
And remember this--no matter
h0w foolish the man was who
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