The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1939-01-06
Laura Wheeler Pattern Good Taste
TOday
DRESSING FOR \ SECOND
MARRIAGE
BY EMILY POST

Dear MIS- Gu@L. an EFfldEI y
ing my husband whom I divorced
ten years ago. He would like me
F 20 wear my original wedding
dress. This IS white and ! wore
Ii the first time with a bridal
veil suppose the vel would
not be proper again. or would II
since I am marrying the same
person r have 90 wear the
f dress without the veil. should I
cut of some Of the long train
now on the dress And what kind
Of flowers arc hest
+ Answer: The veil would Of
course not do at all. but other
wise see no objection 10 your
wearing the same dress il you
would like TO You will probably
have 10 cut off some of the tram
F in order 10 wear hal with II
/ instead Of the veil This is one
+ occasion when halt-attempted
fashion OF introducing colored
+ flowers at a wedding might be
+ permissible. Otherwise. gardenias
+ are about the most appropriate
! flowers 20 choose.
Behavior in Restaurant
Dear Mrs Post. "a Is il proper
for me to help myself TO the re-
+ mainder of an order OF food that
is left on the table by the waiter,
or am I supposed 10 wait until
he returns and serves me? tb)
Also. If I have to attract the
walters attention, Is it considered
permissible 10 tap on the glass
with a spoon?
Answer: car Certainly, help
yourself to whatever you like on
the table. In fact, can add
personally that being helped by
the waiter Is the one thing that
| dislike intensely about restau-
rant service. | have never been
able to understand why hotel
service has To differ in some re-
spects from that of correct formal
service in a private house. (b)
Tapping on the glass is about the
best thing you could do Snap
ping the fingers, or clapping the
hands, are both considered proper
when necessary. But both I'M
doubtedly attract the attention of
people at other tables much more
than tapping class, and there
fore this last is probably best
OF course, If a waiter is standing
anywhere near you, you say
Waiter" II he is not your own
waiter you ask him to find your
own for you.
When You Leave Party Early
Dear Mrs. Post: ! had a big
party some weeks ago. There
were fifty guests and the occasion
was my husbands birthday. Be-
fore ten O'Clock, one of our best
friends came to me and explained
that she felt very i'll and that she
and her husband would have to
be excused and she hoped it would
be all right. was sorry to have
them go so Unexpectedly. but of
course it WAS all right. l did ask
her, however, to go very quietly
and to say nothing to the others
or they too might feel that the
party was over She had made nc
comment about this request at the
time, but the other day she told
me she thought it was very rude
of me. She also thinks that It
must have placed them in the
wrong in the eyes of the others
who later discovered that they had
gone home without saying good
night. What I would like to know
is. did I insult her and wasn't il
better for them to leave quietly
without disturbing the whole party
. Answer; You are entirely right
Going around and saying good
night to everybody would GER
tainly have broken up the party
Moreover. it is one of the most
elemental and long established
rules of etiquette that when any
one. for any reason leaves any
where unexpectedly, they do so as
, unobtrusively as possible.
Copyright, 1889, BY Emily Post)