Evening star., 1938-08-20

~ EAR MISS DIX-I went with
a boy for four years whose
only fault was that he was
- extremely jealous. He never
wanted me to speak to boy or even
to 20 with other girls; he even made
me give up my chum I had grown
up with. I married him because he
told me he would not be jealous after
we were married. but I find that
he is worse than ever. If 60 to
town, he asks me where I went, why
I stayed so long. whom I saw, and
accuses me of meeting strange men
and running after them. He phones
the house several times day and, II
I am not there. he thinks / am out
with a man. I have only been married
seven months and I feel that I can't
stand a lifetime Of this. Won't you
please tell me something that I can
do to make him realize that I am
human?
DISGUSTED BRIDE.
Answer:
Sometimes I think that when a
woman falls in love her brain ceases
to function and she becomes, for the
time being at least, an ioiot incapable
of knowing 1.-The nature and quality
of her acts" as the law says in defin-
ing the mentally incompetent.
How else, except that she has taken
leave of her senses, can you explain
a girl marrying man so Jealous
that he has already shown her that
he will be grinding tyrant who will
deprive her of all association with
any one but himself who has already
made her give up her best friend;
who will not even let her speak to
other women, and who has insulted
her past forgiveness by his suspicious?
4 ND certainly you would think that
\ a girl with a grain of gumption
left would not be silly and credulous
enough to believe that such man
would change after marriage, for
she would know that marriage is no
cure for jealousy. It incites it rather
than soothes it, because jealousy is
founded on egotism and a sense of
possession, and anything that threatens
that is just so much fuel on the flames.
A Jealous husband is always hundred
times more green-eyed that a jealous
lover.
You had your warning and you re-
fused to heed it. Now you are paying
the price, which is one that will make
you miserable as long as you live with
your jealous husband. There is no
cure for jealousy. There is nothing
that you can possibly say to your hus-
band that will change him, no plea
that you can make that will touch his
heart, no sense of fairness or justice
to which you can appeal. No consider
alton for your happiness will ever enter
his mind. That he is making you
wretched and spelling your life will
not matter to him in the least.
There is nothing that you can do
to allay his jealousy. No matter how
circumspect your conduct, he will
always believe you guilty Of some
crime. You may be as chaste as Cae-
sar's wife and he will accuse you of
unspeakable vileness. You won't even
be able to speak to your mother with
out his eavesdropping. He will open
every letter to see If you are not carry
ing on some clandestine affair.
Whether jealous people are them
selves devoid of all decent feeling and
Judge others by themselves I do not
know, but do know that I have never
known a jealous person who did not
believe his sor her wife or husband to
be liar and libertine, without honor,
or honesty, or loyalty and utterly un-
worthy of any trust, and who did not
hesitate to accuse their matters of the
lowest crimes.
Nothing else in the world will so
surely wreck a marriage as jealousy
1t is the one thing that any girl or boy
should be on the lookout for in select
ing mate. and when they perceive
even the slightest tinge of green in
the eyes Of the ones they love they
should be warned in time and call the
marriage of.
DEAR MISS DIX-I work at cigar
- counter In . hotel and an, very
much IN love With the clark who Wofka