Evening star., 1938-03-19
Dorothy Dix Says
Friendship One of the Geratest
Assets Any Person Can Have.
NEAR DOROTHY DIX: am

EAR DOROTHY DIX: am a
girl Of l8, in love with a married
man OF 26. My friend has been mar
rled for five years and has no children.
He no longer loves his wife and hasn't
for some time. but just can't bring
himself to tell her. The wife has re-
Gently found out about us. She came
to see me and warned me of what she
might do. I come from a family
where there has never been a breath
OF gossip and don't want to do any,
thing that will cause scandal. nor do
intend to be home -wrecker. I
have tried to break off the affair, but
he simply won't hear of it. Says I
am the first woman he ever really
loved and he can't and won't give me
up. But he knows his wife will never
consent to divorce We love each
other desperately and can't possibly
go on without one another. Haven't
We just as much right to our love as
any one else? The wife is very beau
tiful and could get a man who was
just as rich as her husband, and on
top Of it would love her as a husband
should. Don't tell us to give each
other up. but isn't there some decent
way out?
A VERY BEWILDERED COUPLE.
Answer-The popular way out in
such ceses seems to be via the mental
cruelty route. We see many a man
and woman taking that devious road
to the divorce court when they want
to get rid of husbands and wives for
whom they have lost their taste, but
who have committed no crime against
them except to lose their glamour.
But before you are party to this
mans casting aside the wife who still
clings to him. and breaking up her
home, and before you slime over your
family with the scandal that it is
bound to bring about, let me beg of
you to take time to think over your
unfortunate love affair and determine
If you are ready to pay the price that
it will cost you.
you are so young. Just 18. Still a
child in knowledge of the world
and in knowledge of your own heart
However you may befool yourself, you
are no different from other girls of
that age, and. little as you will believe
me, you are incapable of the love OF a
mature woman. You are in love with
love, sloshing over with romance
filled with passing fancies and
'pashes' that thrill you today and
bore you tomorrow, and the chances
are hunderd to one that if you give
yourself little time and little sep
aration and meeting other men you
will forget this man, and spend the
balance of your life thanking God
that you were saved from the mistake
Of marrying him.
Try to look at the matter from the
wlfe's point of view. You think you
have right to take her husband away
from her because you want him.
Would you think you would have a
right to rob her of her pearl necklace
because it happened to catch your eye?
In one breath you say you don't want
to break up her home, and in the next
you say you are going to do it. How
about that?
If you can come out of the clouds
long enough to get closeup Of the
man who will not let you break of
with him, yet will not tell his wife
that he has ceased to love her and
wants divorce, how much can you
trust his love for you and how honest
do you think his intentions are? Not
much to tie to, I should say
DOROTHY DIX.
(Copyright 1889