Evening star., 1938-01-24
Perfection Of Figure and Posture Achieved Through
Dorothy Dix Says
Bit of Common Sense Is Needed
To Make Marriage a Success.

n'hN MAoS OAA: Can you tAu me
what's the matter with me? Or
what's the matter with marriage?
married a man with whom was
desperately IN love, and who was
and Is deeply In love with me.
He Is everything in the world
that woman could ask for In
Observation-Disclosures, understand
ing, generous, kind and intelligent
We have the same tastes, habits and
background We are Well-to-do. Have
beautiful home. Yet I am miserable
For no reason at all I have ceased
to love my husband, and the thought
OF being tied to him or any other man
for lifetime Is driving me wild. I
feel that I have to leave him. Do
many women feel that way? It mar
riage always that disillusioning? I
thought that marriage meant that I
would always spend my life in q world
of beauty and love, and 1 find 1t only
bore. Can you explain me to my
self? DISAPPOINTED
AnsWer-Easily. You are q trouble
borrower. You are one Of the millions
OF women who can't be happy unless
they are miserable; who spend their
lives analyzing their emotions and
taking the temperature Of their af-
fections and vivisecting themselves
anad every one about them until thev
find something over which they can
grow morbid.
They are the women with imaginary
diseases who haunt doctors Offices
and fill sanatoriums. They are the
melancholy wives who sob out that
thelr husbands neglect them and have
ceased to love them Just because the
prosaic men to whom they are mar
RED are not Clark Gables. They are
the great army of women who have
health and wealth, comfort and q
whole world to play around in but
who get no happiness. out Of any of
their blessings because they have
built up for themselves figures Of Door,
forlom women whose hearts are
breaking because they are misunder-
stood, or lonely, or old maids. or mar
ried. or have children over whom they
can worry, or worry about being child
less.
A FTER having spent 40 years hear
ing women weep on nv shoulder
1 have come to the conclusion that it
is just as we'll for woman to have a
genuine, bona -fide trouble as not. be-
cause she has to have something to
worry about anyway, and If she hasn't
real grievance she will make one
over which she can shed Just as many
teaN and be just as wretched.
That Is what Is the matter with voJ.
dear lady. You have manufacture
your little synthetic sorrow and you
are hugging 1t to your breast, ard
you are having Just as much fun out
OF it as If it were the real thing
Life has been too soft for you. You
have had every good thing handed to
you on a silver salver and 1t has made
you selfish and self-centered and
turned you into an intYoveft, inter
ested in only your own thoughts anty
feelings.
II your husband should die you
wouldn't wonder whether you loved
him or not. You would know that the
light Of your life had gone out with .
him. II you were left alone tn the
world you would not chafe ut the
bondage of marriage. If you should
lose your money and had to live In a
hovel and eat coarse food or even 20
hungry. you would not despise, ~ you
do now. the luxury that Is yours.
The cure for what aiLs you y to,
quit thinking OF your own happiness
and try to think OF your husbands.
Go to work and make your marriage
success. Have a baby. That will
keep your mind off Of your imaginary
troubles. No selfish and sel.-centered
person is ever happy.
(Copyrirht 1879