The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1938-12-15

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DR.. C. H. Gundry, in the Ca
madam Medical Association Jour-
nal, has gone on record as say.
ing that the liars, YSwindlerS,
malingerers and people who are
just about two laps ahead of the
law are that way because they
had a "loveleSs childhood"
Child Suffers
IF Neglected
Criminal tendencies develop
as the result of emotional depri-
walton in the young. A child
who longs for careSs, an APP
proving pat on the back or word
of Encouragement, and is turned
aside with a curt word by a
parent, suffers more than the
parent realizes. The hurt is in
growing, the child broods upon
it. This brooding accounts for
the fact that SO many children
imagine they have been adopted
and are not the genuine Off
spring of their parents.
Continuing, DR.. Gundry says:
eff parents are too poorly de-
veloped to expend love, if they
really do not want their chill
dren, or if their children are
brought UP without parents or
satisfactory substitutes, it's as il
the children were deprived Of Q
sort of emotional Vitamin.
Strive for Attention
In UnWhoIesome Ways
They are apt to remain inn
mature, to fail to develop stable,
robust characters. Never being
Identified with family group,
it's hard for them to fit into q
large social group. Being
cheated out OF love, they may
try to gain attention in UNI
wholesome ways"
The children of divorced pa.
rents stand out as tempera-
mental SolitareS, or they go to
the other extreme and try to
fill the void of loneliness and
maladjustment by doing con.
Spicuous things. They hide the
hurt inflicted on them in child
hood, though they may be I'M
conscious of the cause of their
eccentricity. They enjoy shock
ing society. doing things that
bring them into the spotlight.
Children are queer title peo-
!! pie; they have the same craving
to love and be loved that is an
essential of normal adult life.
Not always do they know how
to get it. They hang around
waiting for a word of approval
or a caresS, and when it's not
forthcoming, suffer and make
the best of it in their own way.
But it leaves scars.
Daughter COnfided
Story in Me
The writer once reported q
trial, a dreadful trial, where
the plaintiff and defendant
were mother and daughter. The
daughter, who had tried to put
her mother out of the way and
who was no longer really sane,
was moved to confide in me:
when I was a little girl, I
thought my mother the most
beautiful creature who ever
lived. 1 used to watch her get
dressed to go out evenings,
and she was so lovely in her
party dresses. I'd crawl up and
ask her to kiss me, BIT she
always rebuffed me With some
thing like: Your face isn't
clean, or your hands are cold.
Do go away and leave me in
peace Slowly my affection for
her began to change-and here
l am"
TheS world IS full OF unSym.
pathetic parents. And the pity
of it is that these parents, who
are too busy to stop and win the
confidence of their children,
have no idea of what they're
building up.
Would Charles Dickens, the
great novelist, ever have written
his books if a kindly, sympa.
thetic mother had not acted as
his secretary, and put down the
thoughts that sWarmed through
the youngsters head when he
was too little to know how to
write?
Carlisle's mother could neither
read nor write, but she always
had time to listen Sympatheti-
cally to the dreams and plans Of
her gifted son. Are you SYM
pathetic with your children, or
do you brush them aside?