Evening star., 1938-02-08
Remembered Art Has Grown From
EAR MISS D1x-My parents
have never got along we'll to-
gether and are now threat
enin1 to Senarate hut Whv

gether and are now threat
- ening to separate, but why
should that make the girl to whom 1
am engaged call of our marriage? Why
must she let their unhappiness cause
unhappiness for us. for she is as mis-
cradle over the broken engagement as
I am? tell her that she is not marry
ing my family and that because my
father and mother don't agree does
not AFFECT our getting along harmoni-
ously together. We will live our own
lives and our marriage will be what
We make 1t. not what my parents have
made OF theirs. But she has an OBJ
session that somehow in the future
their lives would affect ours adversely
and isn't willing to risk it. It is not
an easy matter to give up the girl who
is your ideal, but am afraid I've got
to do it. My reasoning seems to make
no appeal to her. Could you say
something that might help her to see
the situation straight. EE.
Answer:
I have heard of engagements being
broken of for many strange reasons,
but never before for anything so silly
as because the young mans parents
weren't lovey-dovey. If your girl hasn't
any more common sense than that, be-
lieve me, think you will be mighty
lucky to escape taking her on for
lie companion. For no woman in the
world Is harder to live with than the
one who is always taking some neurotic
point OF view that nobody else would
nave thought of, and making herself
and everybody else miserable and un-
comfortable over it. Practical women,
with their feet on the ground, NAV not
pe as glamorous as dream girls, but
they are a heap easier to get along
with.
YOUR father and mother were
criminals. if they had done some
disgraceful thing. or il they had some
hereditary disease, your fiance would
nave Just cause to refuse to marry
you. but just because they don't agree
Is no reason whatever for breaking of
the match. If no young people got
married except those whose parents
spent their time billing and cooling,
there would be such slump in the
marriage market that wedding rings
would become curiosities.
As near as can figure it out YOUR
sweetie's position is: That because
you were brought up in home of
strife you will make your home a
battle ground, and that because your
father didn't hit it of with your
mother you won't hit it of with her.
and that because their marriage Is a
failure yours is bound to be one.
Which. Of course, is all nonsense.
Indeed. the exact opposite is more
likely to happen than that you will
take after your parents. matri-
monially speaking. Just because your
home was happy and you spent a
distraught childhood witnessing the
fights Of your parents you will make
the greater effort to make your own
home a place of peace and rest, and
just because you can see wherein your
father failed to make your mother
happy you will make the greater ef-
fort to make your wife glad she mar
ried you.
The children Of disgruntled hus-
bands and wives are not likely to
initiate their parents example. Rather
they are an awful warning. One Of
the tenderest husbands I know is one
whose father was surly crouch who
never considered his wife in any way,
or showed her particle of affection.
And one of the worst spoiled husbands
I know is married to a woman whose
father was henpecked to death by her
mother. A girl has mighty little
sporting blood in her if she isn't
willing to take a chance on marrying