Evening star., 1938-05-13
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~ they can tell whether the feel
~ ing that is throbbing within
"A their young breasts. as the old
song says, is an enduring passion that
will last as long as they live or just
passing case of puppy love.
I wish that could give them some
reliable recipe for diagnosing their
symptoms. but, alas. science has de-
vised no more infallible formula for
testing love than it has for tuberculosis
and cancer. We still have to guess
at what ails US and wonder if the
fluttering of our pulses and that gone"
feeling when He or She approaches
indicates that we are suffering from a
faint heart malady that will in time
take us off to the altar, or whether
what we are experiencing is just a
slight cardiac upset that will yield to
the absent treatment and be completely
cured by the sight of a new good
locker.
And this is a pity, because there is
no other one thing in the world that is
SO much needed as some way by which
the young can distinguish between the
grand passion and infatuation. some
sure method by which they can tell
whether they are in love for keeps or
have merely a temporary fancy for
one of the opposite sex.
X X X
IT is a crime of nature that the in
dividual cannot even fathom his
own emotions with accuracy or know
how long his temperature will re-
main stationary. or foretell whether
woman will still be the light of his
eyes or pain in the neck six months
hence. 1t is because of the people who
thought they were in love when they
were not in love that we acquire rheu-
matism in our shoulders from the tears
OF the unhappily married.
So, things being as they are, 1t is
difficult to give the young any tips
on how to ascertain the real state Of
their affections. But there is one piece
OF advice I can offer them that will
save them trouble and divorce and
alimony if they will heed it. 1t is this:
Mistrust adolescent love. Don't take
it seriously. Don't let what you think
you feel for boy or girl lead you into
putting mortgage on your future
that will bankrupt you in happiness
when 1t is foreclosed. Bear in mind
that you know nothing about the pas
sions Of grown men and women, nor
what they need and desire in their
mates. Also remember that you are
still growing and changing, and that
you do not even know what you will be
yourself when you are man or woman.
Sometimes it is true that puppy love
lasts. but this does not often happen.
Don't risk it. Give yourself a chance.
Wait until you can bring mature
taste. knowledge of the world and
ripe judgment to settling the question
Of whether you are in love or not.
AS good test of love as any is how
much Of the society Of the party of
the other part you can stand without
yawning. Any boy and girl can
imagine themselves in love if they
only see each other on gala occasions
when they are all dressed up and pow
dered and perfumedr and when they
have q backdrop Of moonlight nights
with music throbbing in the distance,
and when their conversation consists
Of singing each others praises.
X X X
THE real test of love Is whether
they look good to each other in
their working clothes and whether
they have anything to say to each
other after they have run out of
lovers talk. Any love that survives a
weeks constant companionship in Au-
gust may justly be regarded as good
sporting risk.
Still another test of love is being
able to see the adored ones with all
Of their faults thick upon them with