Evening star., 1938-02-28
Dorothy Dix Says
Don't Criticize Your Husband,
Give Him Pat on the Back.
Star Stan Photo.

| personal appearance as she is in hers
or just as keen about his clothes. Nor
does it enter her mind that he is just
as anxious to have her compliment his
taste in neckties. tell him what grand
figure he has and how swell he looks
as she is to have him hand her a few
bouquets on being the best-dressed
woman in town.
Then there is the matter of criti-
cism. Every woman knows she simply
can't stand to have her husband al
ways picking at her and telling her
of all of her faults and weaknesses.
She just has to believe that she is
perfect in his eyes or perish of cha
grin, yet the favorite indoor sport of
most wives is being critic on the
hearth and chirping to their hus-
bands about their shortcomings.
They couldn't stand it themselves,
but they seem to think that their hus-
bands enjoy being ripped apart and
made over according to their little cut
paper pattern of what a husband
should be. Why wives think that their
husbands vanity can stand having
their grammar and their pronouncia-
ton and their table manners corrected
while theirs can't, goodness only
knows. But it is fixed idea with
them.
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ship and old friends business Every
woman knows that no matter how
much she loves her husband, it doesn't
keep her from still loving her mother
and father, sisters and brothers and
her woman friends. Getting married
doesn't automatically break all of the
ties of lifetime, and one of the de-
lights in having her new home is in
having mother and the girls come and
stay with her and her friends visit
her. And she expects her husband to
extend them all a glad welcome and
show them good time.
RUT does the wife give the glad hand
to her husbands family and old
friends? Seldom, very seldom, indeed.
She gives his people; to understand
that it is her house and that she is
merely doing her duty in entertaining
them, while when the old pals drop
in they get such q frosty reception
that they never return. In doing this
the wife doesn't intend to be mean
and cruel to her husband. She thinks
that men don't love their families like
women do. and 1t doesn't hurt them to
be separated from the mothers who
bore them. the sisters and brothers
they adore and the old chums who are
just a part Of their lives.
Most Of all there is the question of
love. A woman knows. that just 80
long as her husband loves her and
tells her every day that she is the only
woman in the world for him, just so
long as he is tender and appreciative,
just 50 long as she can 60 to him for
sympathy and understanding, she is
happy and nothing else in the world
matters much. But she thinks 1t isn't
necessary to be lover herself. She
thinks that being heart hungry is
feminine complaint from which men
are exempt. She thinks that he is
satisfied to take his wife's love for
granted, even when she gives all of
her tenderness and caresses to the
children and sacrifices him to them,
even when she never gives him a kiss
that doesn't feel as If it had come out
Of the refrigerator.
Husbands and wives are always
complaining that their mates do not
understand them. Perhaps they would
understand each other better II they
realized that both sexes are cut OF Of
the same bolt Of cloth. with the pat
tern differing . little, but underneath
the same woof and warp.
DOROTHY DIX.
tcopyreshts 1882