Evening star., 1938-12-26
Correct Wav
TO Issue an
Invitation
Anniversary Party
| Is Announced by
Visiting Card
BY EMILY POST.

type OF party ana OF course the food.
Answer-Write on your double
visiting cards, below your name,
the hour and the day, and then
above your name, the kind of party
you intend 1t to be. You could call
it the celebration of your paper
anniversary, housewarming or
anything you please. Or if you
want to make it more important and
more formal, then write on the
first page Of note paper:
Mr.. and Mrs. Year Wed
request the pleasure OF
(name written in) company
on such and such an evening
at such and such time
to celebrate
their first wedding anniversary.
A simple supper of sandwiches
and fruit punch and coffee and
wedding cake would be plenty If
you are having the party at an
evening hour after people have had
their dinners or suppers at home.
If you have stand-up supper, the
food will have to be very much more
substantial since you would have
to give everybody regular meal.
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Dear Mrs. Post: My employer has
been invited to the wedding and
reception of the son of one of his
very good business friends. The
invitation was not issued to him
by the brides family, but was given
verbally by his friend when they
were having lunch together the
other day. My employer now wants
me to find out from you whether he
has to 60 to this, and If so, whether
he sould notify the brides parents
that he is coming, and whether he
Is obliged to send wedding present
to the bride. Oh, and there is
another thing! He wants to know
what he should wear. The wedding
is at 5 o'clock, reception following
Immediately.
Answer-This is rather irregular
way of giving wedding invitation,
but since he is very particular
friend of the father of the groom,
think it would be quite proper for
him to go, and simply tell the brides
mother at the reception that he is
friend of Mr.. Jones who told him
| to be sure to come. On the other
hand, there is certainly no obliga-
| ton to go to this wedding; many
people might. in fact, hesitate to
accept such an invitation without
confirmation by the parents Of the
bride, who are the proper people to
send out invitations. That is, I
mean that it's rather stretching
a point to accept an invitation given
by the other side of the family with
out any verif1cation by the bride.
| Whether he sends a present or not
will depend on his personal feelings
for the groom's father-or perhaps
his sense Of business obligation-but
no present would be expected. If
he goes, he should wear a cutaway
coat, striped trousers, wing collar
and black or other very dark plain
| tie.
Dear Mrs. Post: My husband and
I wish to give substantial check
to my son and his bride-to-be for
their wedding present. How do we
write this check-to the girl, to
our son or can it be written to both?
Answer-The check drawn to both
names together would, under most
circumstances, be best. However,
all three ways are possible, depend
ing upon what the money Is sup
posed to buy. That is, if it is to be
put toward the furnishing of their
house or to be put away for future
investment, I think it would be
very nice to draw the check to
both. If it is to buy silver, it might
be drawn to the girl alone. On the
other hand, If it is to pay the ex-
penses of their wedding trip, it
should be drawn to your son.
Dear Mrs. Post: Do you think
our club of women should have
risen recently when the Mayor of
this city took his place on the plat
form during the course of the pro-
gram? He had come to make a
short address. Some of the audience,
rose and the others didn't.
AnsWer-You might rise II the
occasion were a rally to elect him
or something of that sort; ordinarily,
no. The only person for whom an
audience of women would rise would
be President or former Presi-
dent, and even in the latter case it
would be a gesture of enthusiasm
rather than requirement. The i'm
pressiveness of such genuine en-
thusiasm must have been felt by
every one present at the New York
Herald Tribune Forum a while ago,
when former President Hoover came
into the ballroom auditorium and
all the several thousand people rose
to their feet and cheered him.
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Dear Mrs. Post-May we invite
our clergyman and his wife to dinner
again, under the following con-
ditions? We had them to dinner over
year ago. This was the first time
we entertained them. In all this
time Mrs. Clergyman has not seen
mt to call on me although her hus-
band has been here about twice in
the afternoon-both times leaving a
card in my absence.
Answer: Certainly invite them
again. A clergyman and his wife
are not expected to entertain their
Pensioners as often as the parish
oners entertain them. In any case,
the give-and-take is something
which would be forgotten among all
real friends-even more so, in fact,
in the case of clergyman than in
that of your other neighbors.
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