Evening star., 1937-10-13

CluttCIcu up dIlu OIty anu tIlc ClQlQIcQ
in such an uproar that he was driven
to club or somewhere to find q place
where he could sit down and rest in
peace and get something decent to eat.
X X X
( TX, PERHAPS, she was so absorbed
in the children she never noticed
the children's papa and while she
was holding the baby's hand while it
slept, he hunted up some lady to hold
his because he was so lonesome and
neglected.
We could tell the woman who doesn't
understand why her children are so
anxious to get away from home that
1t was because she made home a
prison to them. She is so neat that
they dare not move a pillow or track
In mud or leave toy around, so they
escape to some other fellows house
where they can have fun. Or, maybe,
mother has nerves that everything
youngster does seems to get on.
Or, maybe, she is one of the possess
sive mothers who never will let her
children grow up and have any liberty
or do anything that the other girls
and boys do. Maybe she is one of the
mothers who will never let their
daughters have any dates or buy their
own clothes; who reads all of their
letters and listens in on all of their
telephone calls, and never lets her
children go out of the house without
putting them through a questionnaire
about where they are going, whom
they are going with and whom they
expect to see. And the youngsters have
to go away from home to get even a
breath of liberty.
We could tell the old woman who
doesn't understand why she is lonely
and unloved in her old age is because
she has been selfish and self-centered
and never laid up any of that treasure
OF affection and gratitude in other
hearts that we have to check upon
when we lose our personal attraction.
YEAR MISS DIX: Do you think q
mother is justified in poisoning
the minds Of her children against the
father? Why do so many mothers
always belittle their fathers to their
children? Why should a woman take
out her grievance against her husband
IN trying to make the children hate
their father? The more I see of
mothers, the less I understand them.
G. K.
Answer-It Is easy to see why a
woman, unless she is exceptionally
broadminded and just. tries to preju-
dice the children against their father
IN cases OF divorce. She is bound to
justify herself to them in breaking
up their home by making them feel
that she Is poor, prosecuted martyr
and that he Is brute. Often a
woman revenges herself for real or
fancied wrongs by teaching the chill
dren to hate their father, but, on the
other hand. you couldn't expect a
neglected wife whose husband has
discarded her for a platinum blond to
teach her children to love, honor and
revere him.
In ordinary family life the reason
that mothers so often disparage their
husbands to the children and call
their attention to their fathers every
fault and weakness and implant in the
chlldren's minds the idea that their
fathers care nothing for them is Just
Jealousy. They want their children
to love them best. admire them most
and to grow up believing that mother
was the only one who, cared for them.
Mother Is always telling the chill
dren how much she loves them, how
hard she works for them and how
much she sacrifices for them. but she
never says a word about how father
slaves for them and how he does
without the things he wants that they
may have indulgences. Many mothers
are always criticizing their husbands
to their children and telling what
poor judgment father has, and in any
quarrel they call on the children to
take sides with them because they are
so afraid the children might admire
father and love him most.
1t is all q great pity because the
day comes when the children need
fathers influence, and he has none
because mother has destroyed it.