The Washington times., 1937-03-12

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come to me from "Anne."
While the writer insists. perhaps
from a kind Of mental stubborn
ness. that she still thinks the
modern way is best, she admits
her belief that most women at
heart are Victorian, and her
longing for security, q home, a
husband, a baby-something that
would suggest permanence."
But read her letter. It gives a
pretty clear picture Of the outlook
that faces a girl who adopts the
double standard"
MODERN WAY BEST
Dear Miss Fairfax:
Even now, when / am terribly
unhappy, I think the modern way
is best. The double standard seems
OlltmOded and absurd to me-" Am
1 crying, then, because / can't lave
my cake now that I've eaten it?
Am / acting like any Victorian lady
would act under the circumStan-
CeS?
Erred and 1 have been devoted
to each other for five years. 1 did
not regard our relationship, IS
some girls say, as sacred mar
riage.'
eve had both agreed to be free
and independent, and both of US
took advantage of our code. Tnen
made up my mind would like
t. marry, 60 domestic, even have q
baby.
"I had become very dependent
ON Fred. He seemed to me the one
man with whom I could be happy
to the end. There was no cOyneSs
or shyneSS on my part when /
suggested to Fred that our aSsO-
citation had had the test Of five
years, and I thought it would be
sensible for us to marry.
DIDN'T AGREE
"He did not see it the way did.
He laughed and said IL we had
actually been married when we
first knew each other, five years
ago, We would not very likely be
getting a divorce.
"He was very, very fond Of me,
but why marry? Our association
was agreeable in every way. Why
take q chance of spelling it with
marriage?
'I did not say what was in my
mind--that 1 was 81 years of age
and 1 felt, il were ever going to
marry, it was time / thought
about it.
"In my heart I knew he would
accuse me of being Old-fashiOned,
Victorian and ali the rest Of it..
And that, for all my modern ways,
is, I suppose, exactly what / am,
and what most women are at heart.
"There isn't any panaCea for my
present state of mind. / jumped
ON the modern band-wagOn "hen
was Fl, and the world looked
good to me.
"And then, after five or six years,
1 began to grow tired Of what the
band-WagOn had to offer. 1
wanted security, . home, q huS-
band, . baby-sOmething that
would suggest permanence.
when ] suggested these things
to my lover he was mot cruel or
unkind, but I could see he thought
it funny that / had gone domestic,
while the modern band-wagOn was
good enough for him.
ANOTHER MAN
'T'm writing this letter to you
to put the situation in shape and
get it off my chest. Sometimes I
think / will break with Fred, try
to meet some man with whom I
feel could be happy, and marry
him.
Being modern Is great, as long
as youth lasts, but know several
women who have prolonged being
modern into middle age, and they
are rather frightfuI exhibits, poor
dears. Drifting does not look good
to me. "ANNE."
You've got to make up your
mind, Anne, and grow your own
backbone as well, If you do not
want to drift interminably. You've
grown tired of the band-wagon,
and Fred doesn't want to help you
to a seat in the family Ford.
Undert the circumstances, don't
you think it well if you and Fred
call it q day?
Your code was to be free and
independent. I'm glad you spare :.
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