Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1937-08-17
Travelling
Problems
SOlv e d
Man and Woman Mo-
toring Alone Run
Risk of Criticism.
BY EMILY POST.

L.
DEAR MRS. POST: Cd Would It
be considered an act OF irnpro-
prlety for man and woman-very
Old friends and neither of us Young
to go on a motor trip together (2)
We intend to share expenses but lust
now Is this done? 49, And what
about registering in hotel? l would
feel more than embarrassed were thl,
lady to pay for unexpectedly in the
presence OF others-and yet if I insist
on taking care of all bills know she
will resent my ofiiciousness.
Answer: % Certainly I think Won
are running risk of criticism to 90
travelling around the country together.
but whether this deters you or not is
| a question which you and she can
| alone decide. If you are not afraid Of
gossip and if neither your appearance
| nor behavior Is conspicuous, it isl
doubtful if any one will pay especial
attention to you. When you register
you let her sign her own name ana
then you sign yours. Or prohab!y
you will leave her at the hotel while
you drive the car TO a garage Size
| meanwhile registers and is shown to a
room. You come in when you have
left your car and register and 60 to
your room. Then at whatever time
you have agreed upon-maybe at once
or maybe later-you meet in the lobby.
AT American plan hotels she receive,
her whole bill when she checks out"
At European plan hotels or IN res
taurants where meals are paid for at
the table, you pay the bills and she
settles accounts with you at the end
OF the day or at the end Of the trip,
or however you arrange.
nEAR MRS. POST: I am married
and happily so, with two half
grown children. My husband lost his
business recently and We are tryln2
very hard to get back on our feet. In
lieu Of this l would like to take a
| position with a lawyer, to last onlv
about six months while he is making
a survey for one of his biggest clients.
l studied law at one time and NY even
slight training makes me well fitted
to help him collect these statistics.
for which he has offered me an al
tractlve salary. This Job will. low
ever, necessltate my going WITH him
on trips that will keep us away for
perhaps as long as a week at time,
and this Is what bothers me. My hus-
band has no objection but the last
| thing in the world l would want to
| do to my children is bring unpleasant
| criticism upon their mother. Will
| you tell me what you think?
Answer: If you had always been
secretary to this man, it would be
entirely conventional to do what tn.
requirements of this job call for. Blu.
to take a temporary job that requires
going away is not so easily understood.
| Whether it is wise or not depends, l |
think, upon the likely attitude of your
nelghbors. The fact that your hua-
band approves is of course an i'm
| portant factor in favor of your golne
but most important of all is the rating
OF your character in your community.
since 1t is upon this that the question
of propriety really depends.
|
nEAR MRS. POST: will soon find
myself III a predicament if I
don't watch out! I know that
shall receive wedding presents from
many of my fances aunts and uncles
and cousins and other lesser rela-
tlves. of whom he speaks often and
thinks a great deal, but all of whom
l have either never met or know
slightly. How should I write them?
Will l seem unnecessarily stiff by
saying Dear Mrs Blank when I have
only heard him call her Aunt Mar
THAI" Or on the other hand, if I
write Dear Aunt Martha might
she not think I am overeager'
Answer: Unless they have asked
you to, it would be very premature
to call them by the names he does
until you are married. Even after
wards what you call them depends
somewhat upon them. In most cases
in-laWs love to be made real rela-
tons by those who join the family
but they like the relationship to be
founded on an impulse of personal
appeal and not just a tag put on
mechanically. Do you see?
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NEAR MRS. POST: Have initials
on the small wedding cake boxes
gone out of date? And If not, what
initials should be used?
Answer-They are marked as always
with the combined initials Of both
bride and bridegroom.