Evening star., 1937-12-27
|TheWedding
Invitation
Problem
The Family of Each
Bridesmaid Must
Be Included.
Photos Through NINA.
BY EMILY POST.

YEAR MRS. POST: Is it an un-
breakable rule that all the men,
bers Of bridesmaids family be sent
invitations to the wedding and recep-
tion? One of the girls in my wedding
was my dearest friend all through
college days, but I know the rest Of
her family only slightly. I grew up
with the other girls who are taking
part in the wedding, and naturally am
very near to every one in their fami-
lies as well. We really have so many
names on the wedding lists now that
it is difficult to know how we are
going to provide for every one should
the percentage Of acceptances be high
Answer-n you are having 4 recep-
ton Of any size, then it will be neces-
sary to include the family of each
bridesmaid. The only time when the
parents and grown brothers and sisters
Of bridesmaid can be left out is
when the reception is limited to i'm
mediate family and the young friends
Of the bride and bridegroom only.
According to your letter, the parents
and families of all the other brides
maids are to be present. Under these
circumstances it certainly .would not
be possible to single out the parents
and family Of one bridesmaid and not
invite them. If you were leaving out
the families Of several because you
were not inviting only the few whom
you know really well, then it would
be quite all right to leave this one
family out. But it seems to me that
three or four added to q list of more
than a hundred would not be q very
serious increase.
X X
DEAR MRS. POST: Can you give
us any good reason why my
daughter should include her father
in any way in her wedding, when he
has not lived with,us for many years
| and has not contributed one cent to
the support Of the children. However
he has not remarked, and has on
occasion arranged to meet the children
My daughter, the bride, feels that he
ought still to be given his privileges
as her father, while feel that he has
shirked his responsibilities and 50 i
not deserving Of any privileges, and
that recognizing him on this occasion
is unfair to me.
Answer-This Is one OF those ques-
tions to answer which requires . great
deal more information than your letter
gives me.
can only answer in = general way
that As your daughter feels that her
father ought to be recognized, thil
seems to me q fairly accurate measure
to 60 by. His presence at the we'd
ding has no bearing whatever upon
his relationship to you, unless he, after
giving his daughter away. takes hii
place beside you in the church. Ever
If he had been divorced, even If he
were some one whom you could moi
bear, your daughter is still his child
and her feeling about him is the one
and only gauge worth following. Thu
fact that he comes into the church.
gives her away, takes his place some
where else In the church and not
next to you, simply shows the brides
loyalty to her father rs her father
It Is not necessary that he be asked
to the reception at your house. 1t
does not seem to me that his appear
ance In church casts any aspersions
upon you. As I said at the beginning
Of this letter, it Is the sort Of ques-
ton that I cannot answer definitely
without knowing more about the par
ticular circumstances.
(Copyrisht. 1879