Evening star., 1937-11-30
EAR MISS DIX-Is there any
technique that is usual for a
girl to use in breaking her
oppo Carnepto 7 tako II for


girl to use in breaking her
- engagement? 1 take it for
granted that my fiancee has called
things off because she has passed into
silence and I haven't been able to get
word out of her for the last four
weeks. My letters begging for an
explanat ation bring no answer and the
long distance telephone operator in
variably sing-songs they say she isn't
in" when I try to get her over the
wire. There is no reason for her
change of attitude toward me as we
have had no disagreement of any
nature whatever. I still write to her
every day and every week end I send
her little gift of some sort, as have
done ever since we became engaged
These are accepted, but not acknowl-
edged. She hangs on to the Kohinoor
jr., that I slipped on her finger with
so much pride, although she knows
darn good and we'll that I still owe 9
hundred bucks on it, and because oi
the fact that she hasn't returned the
ring am holding to the hope, forlorr
though it be, that perhaps everything
will work out all right before long
When all is said and done it is hel
privilege to break the engagement and
if that is what she wants to do will
step out Of the picture, but I would
like to know where stand. K. B.
Answer-Well, I'd say that the lady
has waited you out into the air anc
that you are standing in the great
open spaces. romantically speaking
Also, I deduce that there are two
reasons why your sweetie has suddenly
ceased to answer your letters and lei
the silence of the grave descend upor
her. One is that she has fallen out o1
love with you and in love with some
other man and she is ashamed to tel
you of her flckleness. But the mair
reason is that she means to keep thai
diamond ring and she doesn't intene
to enter into any argument about it.
so just charge the Kohinoor up t.
educational expenses and forget it
And in this particular case I thinl
your experience will be worth all i
costs in the pangs Of unreQuited low
and hard cash. For man is lucky t
find out before marriage, instead O
afterward, whether girl is CRATER
and whether she is marrying him be
cause she loves him or because sh,
thinks she can get luxuries out of him
He is more than lucky If a girl who 4
changeable and liable to shift TIL,
objects of her affections does it OF
the safe side of the altar and thu
saves him alimony.
regret to have to tell you that, 81
far as I know, etiquette authoritie!
have not laid down any technique fol
breaking engagements, so there Is n.
rule on how to do it properly. Ever!
girl does it according to her own way
The tactful pick Of quarrel with thu
young man and tell him that mas
much as their natures are so in
compatible it will be folly for then
to marry and they had best call tn
marriage Oh. The sympathetic tr!
to salve the wound they deal by telling
dear John how broken-hearted the.
are at finding out that they were mis-
taken IN their feelings, but while they
can never be theirs they will alway!
cherish the memory Of the many hour
they have spent together, etc, etc
And the very, very sweet girls always
end by telling the chap they are jiltini
that they will be sister to him.
But the method your ex-fianceesa aha.
taken Of breaking the engagement b,
just going dumb is so brutal as to have
no justification because 1t leaves got
out On . Limb. 20 to speak. not know.