Evening star., 1937-12-09

unhappy bride, and unless
you can help me ] do not
know what to do. I am 16
years old and have been married eight
weeks. was very happy for the first
six weeks, but since two weeks ago
can see that my husbands love for
me is dying and it breaks my heart. He
doesn't kiss me good-by when he leaves
in the morning and have to kiss him
If get a goodnight kiss at all. try
in every way to please him, but Moth
ing seems to do any good. We made
a promise before we got married that
we would never let our romance fade,
and here it is going right before my
eyes. Gee, I take it so hard! What
can I do? AN UNHAPPY WIFE.
Answer:
If you have any common sense, use
it. At any rate, try to act like grown
up married woman, SINCE you are mar
ried, instead of a silly crybaby who
/ has developed fine case of self-pity
| and is making herself miserable over
her imaginings. You are acting like
| little child who scares herself with a
| bugaboo OF her own invention.
II you were old enough to have any
| knowledge Of life, you would know that
your marriage is just going through
the inevitable period of settling down
that every marriage does when bride
and groom descend from the heights
| Of courtship to the fiat realities of
| matrimony. Before marriage all lovers
| swear to each other, as you did, that
they are going to keep their romance
wrapped up in cellophane so that it
shall never tarnish and that they are
never going to stop billing and cooling
and thrilling at each others footsteps.
But they find that nobody can live
up to high emotional pitch for very
long. The human constitution can't
stand it. Romance wears to tatters in
workaday world. No man looks like
romantic hero; no woman stays a
| dream girl when once their wives and
husbands have got closeup on them.
The kick dies out of thrills when once
they become habit, and you can
get more fed up on kisses than you can
on 80 quails in 80 days.
So there you are, my poor little
bride, and you can't help it or change
it. You will have to make the best
of it and realize that because your
husband doesn't kiss you every time
he goes and comes is no sign he has
ceased to love you. 1t is because kisses
used to be rarity when he was court
ing you and now they are common
place. Just part of the daily menu
and nothing to get excited about any
more than the ham and eggs for
breakfast. And it is no sign he has
ceased to love you because he doesn't
make life a perpetual petting party
for you. He is doing something lot
better. He is trying to make you
comfortable living, and, believe me,
my dear, the test of husbands love
is not how many pretty speeches he
makes nor how often he kisses her,
but how hard he is willing to work for
his wife.
So wipe your eyes and quit telling
your husband that he doesn't l-o-v-e
you. Cut out the kissing yourself.
Maybe he has got satiated with too
much sweets. Get busy learning how
to be good, thrifty housekeeper and
manager. Kissing isn't the proof of
love. Judas betrayed his Lord with
| kiss.
NEAR DOROTHY DIX: am %
years old, in love with a man I
| have been going with for three years,
| who also loves me, but We are not en-
| gagged. In fact, he hasn't even asked
me to marry him, yet he doesn't want
me to go out with other men, and
when I do he sulks and calls me a
cheat. Can be happy if married to
man like that? r. M. c.
AnSwer-Your problem is not
whether you would be happy married
| to a man with that sort Of dog-in-
| the-manger disposition or not, be-
cause the indications are that he
| hasn't the slightest intention in the
world of ever marrying you
No man who was really in love with
| girl and whose hearts desire was
to make her his wife could go with
her for three years without even ever
mentioning the subject of wedding
rings for her. Circumstances might
be such that he could not marry her
at the time, but to save his life he
couldn't keep from talking to her
about it and making plans for the fu-
ture and building the castles in Spain
! which is the universal pastime of all
lovers during their engagement.