Evening star., 1937-08-23
Weddings
That Are
Informal
Bride M ay Wear
White at Ceremony
in Parsonage.
BY EMILY POST,

YEAR MRS. POST: Just what
preparations must Be made when
the wedding Is taking place ut tbs
parsonage. and At such . wedding
may the bride wear brides eo11eep
Do the bride and groom 20 separately
to the house?
Answer-The clergyman should ~
notified ahead OF time regarding the
hour set. The bride and bridegroom
go together and are met at the
parsonage by the members of their
families and the two or three friends
invited. When they are all assembled
the bridegroom tells the clergyman
they are ready. The clergyman takes
his place. The bride and bridegroom
stand before him and the service j.
read. Afterwards those present con-
gratulate them and that Is all. OF
| course, they may all go 10 rhe house
| OF the bride or OF witness. or TO q
restaurant, and have lunch or tea or
dinner together. At such marriage
the bride rarely wears a white we'd
ding dress and veil, but It is entirely
proper for her to do so if she chooses-
especially if they are going To the
home Of friend for wedding dinner
afterwards. II the marriage is per.
formed by magistrate, however. A
white wedding dress and veil Is out
Of keeping.
nEAR MRS. POST: NV daughter
is having a small wedding g.
nome. and while arrangements are of
the simplest kind. We do not want
to go to the extreme in our informsIitv
on such an important dav. l don't
know whether l am supposed TO greet
the arriving guests or stay out of sight
until 1t is time for the wedding 10
start, and if I'm not at the door 10
greet people, who is? And who tells
guests where to stand, or are they
supposed to be provided with chairs,
And Is 1t simply case Of letting those
VINO come first have the best places?
AnsWer-1t is proper. in fact ey-
pected, that you stand at the door and
receive, and therefore. since YOU prob
ably want to see your daughter dressed
IN her wedding veil, she should try 10
be ready at least IS minutes ahead Of
time so as to enable you to receive
your visitors. At a small house we'd
oing, guests do not arrive long before
hand as they do in church, so that
ID minutes before the hour set would
be early enough for you to take Your
place at the door, or to greet the few
who may have already arrived. The
ushers 1.-TWO will be enough) should bs
on duty half an hour before the we'd
olng. Ribbons should be stretched
across the alter end Of the room n
keep a space free for the hride's
immediate family, and also for tho
immediate family OF the groom, The
otner guests stand wherever th.v
choose back of the family. II til.
wedding is really big one, an a,sl.
should also be made Of ribbons, and
the guests shown TO places within tn.
space on either side OF the aisle. and
oenno the ribbons marking of the
space for the families At verv
small wedding the guests stand where
ever they choose and the ushers make
an aisle by asking every one to stand
back, Just before the bride appears,
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DEAR MRS. POST: Just how .oon
after the funeral should thank
you notes BE- written for flowers and
other kindnesses? And if the widow
prefers to write these personally, how
long may she wait?
Answer; As soon as she is able. But
since every one knows that long
list must be gone through little by
little no one expects to hear for weeks
or even possibly several months.
tCopyrisht 1872