The Washington times., 1937-11-24
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1--WE quit my job" announces
q wife and mother, in an article
In q current magazine.
BY which she doesn't at all
mean that she is getting a
divorce from her husband, with
whom, or the contrary, she is
very much in love; or that she
is casting her idolized young
daughter on the mercy Of the
world at large.
Nor does it mean that she
has finished running the house.
ordering the meals, soothing
the crochets Of the cook, attend
ing to three persons clothes,
fulfilling the responsibility for
the family's social life, which
includes plenty Of party-givings
arranging all the details of sum-
mer vacations and weekends all
the year round. as well as-but
surely 1 don't need to complete
the list. Any housewife can
supply for herself the remain"
ing items.
BUSY ROUTINE
And even any one not a house
wife can easily see that attend
ing capably and conScientiously
to the needs of husband, chill.
dren and house means a pretty
busy life.
The writer of that article
thinks so, too. So, what she's
given UP is the outside "full-
time" job, which she filled sue.
cessfully and which Melted a
good income. The family didn't
any longer need the extra
money, but it did, she felt, need
closer care and attention than
she had been able to give it.
Also she had begun to wonder,
I think, if she didn't owe some
thing to herself. And she was
a little hurt that her action in
giving UP the outside job hadn't
been prompted by her husband,
and prompted a little earlier.
AS she points out, a woman
who is wife, mother and house
keeper, as well as outside job
holder, contributes good deal
more than her share to. the
family needs. In fact, she con-
tributes IS per cent.
There's a hint here, intended
by the author of the article, for
girls who may be over-eager to
start out married life on two
job basis. If it's necesSary-h
marriage is impossible without
tho sensible girl would wish
to do otherwise. There's a big
kick in helping out your young,
smalLSalaried husband who is,
of course, adoringly proud Of his
energetic partner.
SHOULD RESIGN
But it's better for everybody
concerned if such an arrange
ment is understood to be tenn"
porary one. When the huS-
bands salary gets bigger and
the first baby sends word that
he's on the way, I suggest that
it's time for the young wife to
resign her job.
Why? Well, for one thing,
she'll overstrain herself if she
plays too many parts. She won't
be able to be the right kind Of
mother, to say nothing Of being
the right kind of wife.
Also, if she keeps on working,
she'll sooner or later develop
slightly ritter feeling toward the
husband whom at first she be-
heved to be perfect. Why has
he been willing to let her over
work? Does he love her less?
And so on.
Again, it's bad for the morale
of the husband, to put the mat
ter more frankly. In a happy,
normal family, the husband does
what he can to make the family
comfortable. What he can't af'
ford the family cheerfully goes
without. Love between the hus-
band and wife isn't the least bit
endangered by doing without a
few luxlIries.
But winning these luxIlrieS by
allowing the wife to neglect her
babies and her own health is
pretty sure not to work well for
everybody. Consider the tip
from the woman who has tried
it.
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