Evening star., 1937-06-17


- and want to marry him.
He needs my love and the financial
help can give him. Here is the OBJ
stacle: He has four children and a
wife who seems to be nice enough.
She has loads Of friends and is we'll
thought Of in the community. l
have been fair and acted like a lady
toward her. I went to her and told
her of my love for her husband and
that wanted him. Instead of hating
me. she told me she pitied me because
love like mine was bound to bring
me unhappiness. But she refused to
give up her husband because she said
he belonged to his children and that
1t was for them to decide, when they
were of age, if they were willing to
let me have their father.
Her calmness angered me. I wrote
her letter and she ignored it and
she never even mentioned my visit
or letter to her husband Has she
no pride? The man loves me SO much
that he is willing to give her all the
children and the possessions she now
has. There are three very pretty
girls and I think I could win them
because have plenty of money. But
the boy is older and will stick to his
mother.
I'HE wife said to me: big boys try
to run away just like little boys do,
but they always come back. l want
to save him from being sorry" I
told his wife that I would commit
murder rather than give him up. She
replied: with world full Of single
men I would hate to have to shoot
some one to get man."
She Is we'll educated and makes
him feel as though he wasn't. lam
his equal. He is very lonely. II she
won't divorce him, what shall I do?
NJ F.
Answer-"The world do move" as
Brother Jasper says. and manners and
customs change, and If you want to
see how far we have got away from
the old standards and points of view.
consider this letter.
Here are the portraits of two
women: One young girl, the other
wife and mother of four children.
Both are modernistic to the nth de-
gree, and their way of solving the age
old problem of the human triangle
Is so different from the method used
by the women of the past that it
makes us gasp.
First. the girl. young selfish, undis-
cIplined, ruthless determined to take
what she wants, no matter whom she
robs or what lives she tramples into
the dust; thinks money will buy any,
thlng; deSplses virtue as old-fash-
ioned hard as nails, no compassion
or gentleness in her; crazed for the
moment with a passion that is purely
animal, and that would not survive
the strain and stress of domestic life.
EVEN decade ago a girl who fell in
- love with a married man would
have considered it guilty love and
hidden it in a secret place in her
heart. She would have gone In SUBJ
tie and nefarious ways about winning
him away from his wife. But this
modern girl goes boldly to the wife
and demands her husband Of her as
nonchalantly as if she were asking
for ham sandwich. And she thinks
the wife is stingy old meanie and
q spoilsport because she refuses to
hand him over and wreck her home
and half orphan her children to graf
ify her whim.
Then the wife. Sophisticated. wise
in the knowledge Of life and evidently
wise to the ways Of a philandering
husband. No doubt she sees through
him and recognizes him for the WORTH
less cad he is, and if she were alone
concerned would be glad enough to
turn him over to any woman who
wanted him. But there are the chill
dren to be educated. given social
position and started in the world and
the husband, poor as he is, is the pin
that holds the home together.
So, instead of hating the girl who
is trying to rob her of her husband,
she is filled with compassion for her.
Instead OF upbraiding her, she gives
her good counsel. In a word, she
meets the situation with philosophy
and handles it like diplomat. Yet
it hasn't been long since wives went
into Mysteries over their husbands
lady loves and rushed to the divorce
court at the slightest intimation that
their husbands were sidestepping, and
spent the remainder of their lives
grieving over the loss Of husbands
whom they were lucky to get rid of at
any price!
DEAR DOROTHY D1x-can you
tell me of q magic charm by
which woman can hold a man? I
am young, attractive and intelligent.
Men are always falling in love with