Evening star., 1937-02-20

years ago when I lost my employ
ment, but still have small income,
enough to take care of expenses. My
wife, being a college graduate, soon
found work and now earns $3.50 a
month. have poor health, but she
is an attractive woman, strong and
vigorous. The trouble is that great
change has occurred in my wife'S
attitude toward me. From having
been apparently satisfied with me. she
now severely criticizes my clothes.
manners and speech and avoids in
Producing me to any of the people
she knows She has also lost all in
terest in her home and her child. She
is irritable and cross with everybody
and shows no affection to her family.
Now she is away on a three weeks
business trip for her firm and when
she left she refused to let me take
her to the train and even forgot to
tell me good-by. What can do about
the situation?
WORRIED HUSBAND.
Answer: Apparently the tired busi-
ness woman acts exactly as the tired
business man does around home. and
millions of wives who have had to
put up with husbands whose every
thought and interest was centered in
their shop or Office and who were too
tired at night to do anything except
grunt when they were spoken to will
tell you that nobody knows any remedy
for what ails them.
A YOUNG girl can nearly always
"A be induced to give up her work,
no matter how much she likes 1t or
how interested she Is in it, II man
will shake a wedding ring before her
eyes, but when a middle-aged married
woman espouses career it Is grand
passion that obsesses her and makes
her forget all other duties and obliga-
tions, even those to her husband and
child. Perhaps 1t is the answer to
some Illustration in her life. Perhaps
her ambitions were not gratif1ed. her
desires realized. Perhaps she found
domesticity dull and managing a
home did not give her enough scope
for her energies.
Perhaps her work gave her the in
terest she craved, the excitement she
loved. the contacts she enjoyed and
the sense of accomplishment that was
meat and drink to her. But whatever
the reason, once a woman gets good
well-paying job she seldom goes back
into the kitchen of her own accord
And being the money-maker OF the
family insensibly changes her atti-
tude toward her husband. She feels
that she Is the head OF the mouse
and unless she Is of a generous ma
ture 1t is likely to make her a bit
arrogant. do not think that there
is anything you can do to change tne
situation. You will just have to fol-
low the example of the wives OF the
Tired Business Men and be as pnlIo-
sophical about it as you can.
NEAR DOROTHY DIX: My son
~ married 10 years ago and has a
BOY of 8 and a girl of S. have been
the best of friends with his wife and
am very fond of my grandchldren
and they of me. Have kept the boy
since he was a baby of and on and
over the week ends and when his par
ents wanted to go on trips. For no
reason that can explain my daugh-
ter-in-law has suddenly become in
sanely jealous Of the children's afiec-
ton for me and refuses to let them
come to see me. She told my son
the doctors told her that a grand
mothers home was no place for a
child. He believed her, so see nothing
of the children any more, as naturally
I cannot 20 to their house If they are
not allowed to come to mine. What
would you advise? Is this common
situation? a. Z. q.
I should think that your best play
would be to be Indifferent. Don't
make an issue with your daughter
in-law, for that will bring about q
breach between you that you can
never bridge over. Keep away from
ths children for . while and after