Evening star., 1937-12-17
Breast of Lamb May Be Cmbed Fried With Sharp Sauce
An Injustice
Maybe Done
BY a Family
Accent Good Points
OF All Children,
Not Just One.
BY ANGELO PATRI.
"TEAN Is getting 20 jealous Of Dor

By ANGELO PATRI.
lean is getting 50 jealous Of Dor
otny that it worries me-"
well, what do you expect? Every
body who comes to the house is asked
to admire Dorothy. Nobody looks at
Jean"
"Oh, it isn't as bad as that, mother,
really"
TITS just as bad as that. What
happened this afternoon? Jean took
pains to look her best and she cer-
tainly did look nice. Dorothy was all
logged out, her hair curled and skin
oiled and whatnot. The minute that
Mrs. Bruin came in she went down on
her knees to the beautiful child. The
others did the same I watched. Not
one of them said word to Jean or
about her. She might just as we'll
have not been present
Il tell you, daughter, it isn't right,
and it is doing Dorothy no good
to be shown off the way she is. Jean
is a flne-looking child She will be
fine-looking woman one Of these days.
But If she is made to feel that she
doesn't count, that nobody care for
her, her disposition will be ruined.
No wonder she is jealous"
Jealousy is an evil thing. I hate
1t in anybody. Jean ought to be glad
she has such beautiful sister"
Yes, of course. You'd be delighted
II Mrs. Bruin had such pretty child
as yours, now wouldn't you? You'd
just love to hear people raving about
her, wouldn't you? That's why you
have Dorothy on exhibition every
time you get the chance. I'm talking
plainly to you; somebody must. You're
spelling Jeans disposition and running
Dorothy. And they ought to be good
children, both of them
1t takes more than plain talk
sometimes to get family to see the
harm their one-sided attention causes
among the children. One brother is
set apart by his good looks, another
by his accomplishments, another by
his charming personality. One daugh-
ter is acclaimed for her beauty, or her
gifts, while another is ignored, left to
grow up in angry, hurt solitude. 1t
creates bad feeling in the family,
an unhealthy mental attitude in the
children
1t is right to recognize the high
points of the children, to accent them
and bring them to maturity in full
power. but it ought to be done with the
hearty accord of the others. The
whole group must be enlisted in the
general cause. The good points of
each must be accented. No one child
is to feel himself beloved above all
others, nor ID any one child to feel
himself an outcast. Each counts to
each. each helps ALL
Many child's life has been made
miserable because of q lack, fancied
or real. my mother disliked me be-
cause looked like my fathers peo-
pie My family pushed me into the
background because I was so homely."
My parents gave everything to the
bright brother. The rest of us had
to work hard for what we got In the
end it didn't matter, but we felt bad
enough at the time. 1t was unjust"
1t is that feeling of injustice that
hurts. If the group agrees on the
elected one. very good. There will be
love and helpfulness and success in
the family life. If they do not agree,
If the elected one is set high and
apart, only bitterness can result.
Mr.. Patri has prepared a leaflet en-
titled "Self-Measuring Chart" which
teaches q child how to examine him
self and check up no his behavior.
Send for it, addressing your request to
Mr.. Angelo Patri, Child Psychology
Department of this paper Inclose a
elf-addressed, stamped (3-cent) en-
velope.
(Copyrieht 1R37)