Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1937-08-16
Wedding
Problems
Solv e d
Go From Church to
Re ception Unless
Otherwise Stated.
BY EMILY POST,

DEAR MRS. POST: We are invited
to wedding in church and to the
reception afterward. % How soon
after the ceremony at the church will
we be expected at the reception? We
are not close friends of either of the
families. (2J The bride has given US
permission to take a friend with us
who is widow. Am l to expect the
usher to escort US individually down
the church aisle. and is my husband
to follow alone? 90 At the house
whom do We shake hands with first
and what do We say? ~ What do We
say to the bride and groom? (5) What
do we say when leaving? go Do votl
| think I should call on the brides
| mother after the wedding? We both
know the bride and the groom. and
know the groom's parents, but have
never even met the parents of the
bride.
| Answer: % IF the time OF the invi-
| tation to the house is half an hour
/ after the time given for the ceremony.
every one is expected To go immedlatelv
! from the church to the house without
/ paying any attention to the actual
time. On an occasion when the
. invitation to the reception names
/ time several hours after that set for
! the ceremony, then one is expected at
/ the time set. This. however, is so I'M
usual as to be scarcely worth mention
/ ing. 90 II two usherS greet YOU. the
widow takes the arm OF one and Won
/ take the arm of the other. and your
| husband follows alone. II las is prob
able) one usher is alone diSenpaged At
| the same moment 1t is better that Won
/ take his arm and the widow follow nm
| the arm of your husband than that
| your husband escort you. 80 The
brides mother will be standing Al the
door-perhaps alone. or perhaps with
/ the mother Of the groom. You shake
! hands with her-or with them. II YOUR
name has not been announced by
! man on duty for this purpose. you say,
| I am Mrs. Henry Jones" If many
people are in line you say nothing
/ further than giving your name or saw
ing How do you do" If no one else
is entering Immediately behind Won
/ you introduce the widow and eynlal,
/ that the bride told you that YOU might
bflng her Perhaps you say something
pleasant about the wedding. how lovely
the bride looks, and then say something
| pleasant to the grooms mother about
the groom If the fathers are stand
/ ing nearby You shake hands with them
and say something pleasant to each
ABOUT his daughter-or his son. a.
/ The bridal party Will probably be
standing some distance away. Whether
they are in the same line or in a sep
arate one, the procedure is the same
as that in greeting the parents. You
snake hands with the bride and groom.
or kiss her-and him, too, II YOU know
them at all we'll Congratulate him,
ana wish her happiness. or you wish
them both happiness. go You need
not look for any one to say good-bv,
but If the hostess 1.-THE brides mother)
Is not talking with any one and YOU
| pass near her as you go out YOU nat
urally shake hands and say Good by
1t was beautiful wedding" or some
such remark. co. You should leave
| your cards on the brides mother
after the wedding When leaving cards
1t is always more polite to ask II Mrs.
/ Brown is At home than to merely hand
| in your cards at the door and turn
away.
| tCopyright 1917