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Evening star., 1937-08-21
Mental
Force Is
The Best
A Successful Parent
Must Be a Very
Good Actor.
BY ANGELO PATRI,

A SUCCESSFUL parent is a good
actor. He can behave so as to set
mood in a child; change a mood
plant an ambition or destroy one;
create a wish or set dislike Acting,
or behavior-and the two are one
and the same in this association-is
the most powerful force parents can
use in influencing their children
Physical force is sheer waste Of effort
compared to the mental force that
parental attitudes and behavior exert.
This is true from the first associa-
ton of parents and infant to the end.
Acting is always effective, but it
comes into full power when the chill
dren have outgroun childhood and
have become adolescent. Now they
have experience, memory, reasoned
judgment. acquired in their associa-
tions with people apd their affairs,
and with their own efforts and the
results of them. The adolescents'
experiences are not the seasoned,
tested ones of maturity, but they have
great vigor and drive, and the ado
lescent youth believes strongly in them
His very faith in his own new powers
is what leads him astray at times.
This is the time that parent needs
to be good actor.
The day for a simple direction. an
easy setting Of the stage for desired
actions, has passed. This young
person is now an individual in his
own right, tender in all his parts,
easily injured, bit wobbly and un-
certain, but an individual just the
same. He still needs guidance. but
he cannot take it in terms OF another s
will. He must feel his own will in
control in order to feel himself worth
while and of any Importance. That
feeling is essential to healthy growth
and must be stimulated. never sup
pressed. How is the parent to manage
this delicate situation7 How guide
without showing anxiety, fear, as to
the youths decision? Act the part.
Acting demands free flow OF
nervous energy, clear and untram-
meled thought, a clear picture of the
desired effect in the actors mind
as possible, the actor sleeps himself
in the character he wishes to express
AS near as poSsible-and his nearneSs
to success measures his power-he be-
comes the idea he wants to express
He dresses, eats, sleeps, moves ac-
cording to that idea until 1t filters
into his very bones.
II then you wish to have child
dislike an idea and like another,
instead of delivering lecture on the
subject do bit OF good acting. Get
control Of your feelings. Wear calm,
impersonal face. Be calm and i'm
personal in your movements and stay
in character, don't make gestures,
don't exchange knowing smiles with
onlookers, stick to your part. Talk
for the idea you believe better, let
the young person talk in his turn. Say
your lines and end up with some
thing to the effect that, This is my
notion of it. OF course, you will have
to decide, because it is you who must
carry the responsibility" Be careful
that this is said impersonally, with no
hint Of threat, rather with the feeling
OF confidence in the young person s
good judgment. Having said your
say. stop.
If children have been reared by
parents who have faith in the intelli-
eence Of their children. this will work
Intelligence can always be trusted.
Evening star., 1937-08-21

the Travellers Ala, Wnlle many VI tllc'
runaways have fancied grievances,
some have good and Weighty reasons
sufficient to tempt an adult to take
refuge in fight. Extreme poverty IN
the home. such that an older boy feels
that he is taking bread from his little
brothers and sisters, is perhaps tne
commonest cause for leaving. While
the social worker sympathizes with the
pathetic attempt of the child to be in
dependent and make his own way, she
tries to make him realize that no prob
lens are solved by running away from
them, that the mother cannot give up
or leave and needs help, and that the
worst deprivations that must be en-
dured at home cannot be compared
with the hardships of the road.
A LMOST never can young boy flnd
the Job that he leaves home to
find. There Just aren't Jobs waiting
growing boys in strange cities Young
girls of IS and Is years can often
become mattresses, but the young boy
usually faces the alternatives of re-
turning home or panhandling his way.
On rare occasions, the Travellers Aid
has been able to promise the runaway
youth employment in his home town
when he returns. This is done by con-
tacting the home town agencies and
through the menlisting the co-opera-
ton Of some business firm Some
times, the child's rebellion brings his
family larger relief allowance after
investigation by proper authorities re-
veals inadequate provision for the
necessities of life. Under such circum-
stances the child returns, feeling that
his problem is partly solved
The Travellers Aid tries to avoid
forcing the runaway to return home
as long as he persists in thinking his
home conditions intolerable But as
the District cannot undertake the
financial responsibility of children
whose legal residence is outside Of
Washington, the problem is placed
before the welfare agencies of the
Evening star., 1937-08-21

the trick by making the men think
they are the heads of the house, in
stead of proclaiming that they rule
the roost You are borrowing trou-
BILE in fearing that your daughter will
grow up with an inferiority complex
That is an affliction that modern chill
dren are spared. They are born with
an initiate ego that makes every little
tike assume the center of the stage
as his natural right and feel that he
could give pointers to Solomon. In
stead Of finding ways to puff them
up still more in their self-esteem what
children nowadays need is to be taught
their proper place in the scheme of
things.
Try that on your daughter and you
will make her much more lovable
character than you will if you teach
her to be catty and aggressive.
~
NEAR MISS DIX: I am IS years
old, have been married two years
and have baby months old. My
husband and I separated a few months
before the baby was born and now he
wants us to 60 back to live together
We have done this before, but he al
ways changed his mind and now I don t
know if I want to do it or not. Some
times I feel that I want to get my toys
and books and 60 back to school. l
see other girls my age going to parties
and stepping out with boys and it
makes me feel so old and out Of
things. Shall 60 back to my husband
and try it again or stay home with
mother and enjoy life later on?
MIXED UP.
Answer-You poor, pitiful little
child. weighted down with a burden
too heavy for your shoulders to bear,
graphing with the problems Of grown
ups when you still have the heart and
mind and the desires Of kid. Who
knows the right word to say to you in
your perplexity? And what mockery
Of civiliza ton are the laws that permit
children to wreck their lives before
they ever begin!
Married at 49, A mother before she
was Is. A boy husband and wife
whose feeling for each other is the
changing fancy OF children. Crazy
about each other one day. Not speak
ing the next. Quarreling and going
back to mother and making up and
going to housekeeping again. How
| can stable home be built on such
flimsy foundation as that? And
having a baby to play with instead
of doll. Having real human life
laid in her hands for which she i.
responsible, q mind and heart and
soul given into her keeping to make
or mar instead of a plaything made OF
wax and saWdust!
Now she is tired of it all She wants
to 60 back to school and play around
with the other girls and have a good
time as the youngsters OF her own
age are doing The boy husband feels
just as irresponsible as she does. And
they don't know what to do.
don't know either but it seems
to me that the wisest thing they can
do is just to 60 back to their re-
spective mothers and wait until they
grow up. Then they can decide
whether they want to be married OF
not. Certainly husband who changes
his mind every few days about mar
rlage and a wife who is longing for
the pleasures of girlhood that she
has missed have small chance OF
making q success Of marriage. They
are too young and immature to under
take an adult job.
DOROTHY DIX.
Evening star., 1937-08-21


happily married to considerate and
loving husband, I am desperately
afraid of people. II woman makes
a catty remark to me I am not able
to respond in kind and put her in her
place I never know how to defend
myself I am no good at arguing. Now
what l want to know is this: How
can I bring up my daughter so she
will be aggressive; so she will nave
some spirit; so she won't be afraid of
people; so she won't be self-conscious
and self-depreciating?
Should I be lenient with her: not
reprimand her too much, let her be
a little willful; little spoiled?
want her to be competent and assured
able to tell people where to get off
when necessary. What sort Of train
ing will foster this spirit? E. M. B.
Answer: Why do you wish to be
catty and to scratch back when a
mean-natured woman tries to wound
you9 1t seems strange ambition to
entertain, considering that Of all
women in the world none are 50 dis
liked, feared and avoided as those
feline creatures who always have their
claws out for every one with whom
they come in contact.
You cannot put such a woman in
her place by responding in kind, be-
cause to be catty you have to have
ruthlessness and cruelty in your ma
ture and take delight in giving pain.
You lack these qualities. Anyway. do
you think the spectacle of two women
stabbing at each other with their
tongues is an edifying sight. and
would you be proud to be one of then? :?
The only way you can deal with the
cat-woman is to refuse to have a
Evening star., 1937-08-21
Polish Preserver.

To remove the foggy appearance on
highly polished furniture. sponge it
with a cloth dipped in a solution Of
one quart OF clear water and two
tablespoonfuls Of vinegar. Wipe dry
with another cloth, rubbing until the
brilliance has returned. It is best to
do . small area at 4 time.
Evening star., 1937-08-21
It's Black for Winter. .

NEW YORK @.-It will be black
Winter. Designers already are hard
at work on those simple little black
dresses' it's always so hard to find.
Many Of them have soft Eirdled effects
In front. A number are highllghted
With touches Of bright color.
Evening star., 1937-08-21
Capital Mecca for Runaway Children From All Over the Con
My Neighbor Says:

Cut OF all the dead blossoms in
your flower garden now. The
hot weather has left many rob-
bing the garden Of its color and
beauty.
Rubbers should always be placed
on preserving jars before the hot
fruit juice Is poured in. If this
Is done there will be no danger
Of burning fingers.
When putting different kinds
Of iellies away for the Winter it
is a good idea to place glasses OF
the same kind OF jelly in sep
arate boxes and label each box.
Do not boil cabbage too long.
Too long boiling makes 1t in
digestible. Cut it in strips, drop
them into salted boiling water
and boil 10 to IS minutes.
(Copyrisht, 1872
Evening star., 1937-08-21
BY BARBARA BELL,

Y ERE Is a youthful surplice
frock, a fashion that the
young matron approves. It's
"A slenderizing to wear and easy
20 get into. In this design machine
stitching trims the neckline and the
short peplum is detail which adds
TO the youthful distinction of the style.
The front panel in the skirt gives
Evening star., 1937-08-21
Noted Woman Lecturer
Now Holds Important
Office in Washington
Lucille Foster McMillin, Civil Service Com
missioner, Has Led Fascinating
Life.
BY LOUISE HARTLEY WASSELL


THE wife OF McMln Lucille
~ Minister of
for and likewise
hrst white
be elected
Evening star., 1937-08-21
Dealing With Young
Fugitives Presents
Very Real Problem
More Boys Run Away Than Do Girls but
Girls Are More Determined
About It.
About It.
RY ELIZABETH SPENCE.

WASHINGTON rang point for runaway children between two
annually accord
wv % Hodgson of the
problem
Evening star., 1937-08-21
To Preserve Flavor.

Tomato Juice put up In glass Jars
should be stored in dark. dry place
to preserve its color q d favor.
Evening star., 1937-08-21

Patchwork quilts brighten the which
add
odd colored for the applique
and max
The Evening Star.
Evening star., 1937-08-21

EAR MISS DIX-Despite trips
abroad. finishing school. two
years of secretarial work,
good education and being
Evening star., 1937-08-21

= HERE are about 30 Of them to
every puppy. They're the folks
who can tell anybody how to
raise anv dog, The range Is
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
0The High Cost of Electricity" Myth.

As every householder knows, the monthly electric bill IS
n microscopic item in a family budget-totalng, IN many lnstan
cs. less than the cigarette bill or amusement bill.
Electricity is likewise a microscopic item in the overhead
expenses of the great bulk of businesses, as a Chicago Tribune
editorial points out. The Tribunecites its own experiences.
One of its subsidiaries manufactures paper. Electric power rep
resents less than 8 per cent Of total cost of making paper and
delivering it, This could be reduced to under 7 per cent with
more efficient machinery. The Tribune maintains a radio sta
tion-power amounts to 2H per cent of its overhead. The Trl
bune has a garage. Power repre- three fourths of per cent of
cost Of operation. The Tribune owns an office building-and
the cost of electricity used in it for all purposes Is about ia
per cent of the revenue it produces. The Tribune has a dock and
warehouse and power comes to7-10 Of l per cent of the entire
cost Of operation. ~-----~-----~ --
Finally, the combined cost of all electricity used in print
ing, distributing, advertising, editing and managing the paper
comes TO about 30 of q cent per copy.
With a very few exceptions, such as electro chemical in
dustries, electric cost is one of the smallest and least consequent
al costs to business and industry. Remember this the next time
You hear the politicians damn the electric industry for rob
bling the people. If all fine facts aye known, it would probably
be found that no government venture gives the taxpayer less
for the money spent than do tax free, tax subsidized Federal
and municipal electric plants being erected throughout the
country.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
An Echo
From My Den
BY s. ID. Gilbert

AS I sit here in my DEN with
pen in hand meditating as it were,
there comes to mind the Thought
that DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM
AGAINST THE CHURCH IS Flu
TILE.
There IS apparently no end to
he amount of criticim that is dires
ed against the church today.
These critics have used the class
rooms, the press and all other avail
able mean in order to spread their
nefarious propaganda in opposition
to the very thing that gives man
kind life, Restraints him morally and
makes him a better citizen.
I admit that the church as an
organization, has not attained the
height of perfection. There is room
for improvement. However when
Improvement is made, it will be
made by the church itself and not
by those who merely criticize and
stop there.
Recently here in Omaha, the Oma
ha Presbytery inacted a deed
worthy of praise when it elected
a Negro minister as its moderator,
in the person of Rev. John S. VII
liams. Here is a case where a
group of gentlemen who believe m
the principles of the Fatherhood
of God and the Brotherhood OF
Man, acted ON the merit of qaalifi
acation irrespective Of color Such
action is a step toward better race
relation and Is indeed worthy Of
commentator.
The action Of the Omaha Pres
bytery is the antithesis of the De
thodist Episcopal church which In
its effort 10 satisfy race prejudies
attempts TO throw the Negro out.
Surely if the price of unification Of
the Methodist church and the he
thodist South is the elimination Of
the Negro then it Is unit hristian
like and SHOULD not succeed.
Examples like hat set by the
Omaha churchmen strengthen faith
in Christianity as far as Negroes
Of Omaha are concerned; the exam
pie attempted by the Methodist
church shakes 1t.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
Alabama Visitor Elated

Frequently we hear many un
worthy things said of the South
so that when we find something
in favor of that section it should
be broadcast. DR.. Thomas Roy
Peyton, young specialist in proc
tology, has returned from his
first trip to Alabama, where he
attended the annual meeting Of
the John A. Andrew Clinical So
eiety at Tuskegee Institute, and
he is filled with a glowing ac
count of the tabled southern
hospitality, and notes how well
the group appears to be doing
in that section.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
Herndon's Release

II seems that when the presl
dent EXCLAIMED recently that he
wanted the Supreme Court
changed NOW, he aroused the
staid justices to a new sense of
appreciation of what "this day
and age" wants in its court de
cisions. The freeing of Angelo
Herndon, a Communist, for al
legedly insurrectionary activl
ties in Georgia, is a healthy sign
that civil rights are not to be
lost sight of in our very INA
terial" and prejudice ridden
civilization.
The Communists are people,
and citizens, and have their
rights as well as other citizens.
OF course we are against some
of the basic doctrines they may
preach, but we do not approve
sending them to the Changing
for comparatively trivial of
fenses, such as the alleged Hern
don offense.
We welcome the decision IN
the Herndon case, and eongrat
ulate the LID for seeing the
young Communist through to
victory, against what at times
appeared to be overwhelming
odds.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08

ends for racial ends, and final
ly racial ends for human ends;
a leadership that can neither be
bought nor sold. A leadership
that will eyince that they are
so thoroughly imbued with the
righteousness of their cause
that all who come under their
benign influence will realize
that: 1T matters not how
strait the gate, how charged
with punishments the scroll,
they are the masters of their
fate, they are the masters of
their souls For it is true that
before one may with success as
sumo a position of leadership
over others, he must have first
conquered himself"
The youth of our group will
do well to study this paragraph
from President Hornsbys ad
dress. Here is a man who helped
found a company pilgrim Life
Insurance Company of Augusta,
Ga.,) 80 years ago, and who has
been its general manager since
its establishment. The company
has admitted assets of 1861, 1894
and a surplus to policy holders
of $114,088. 1t owns stocks and
bonds to the extent of $685., LOG.
Mr.. Hornsby's creed, in the light
of his success, would seem to be
worthy of adoption by all who
would succeed.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
OPINIONS
CalUln's Digest
Bv FLOyd j. Cabin

pend to carry out their stipu
lations.
As to the essential value of
the Divine teachings, we know
absolutely nothing, not having
taken them seriously enough to
investigate them. We prefer the
orthodox religions, or brand of
religion, as we know them, in
the established churches, so the
philosophy of tn e cult is of
no interest to us now, nor do we
think it will be. But as a Negro
leader, we feel Divine should be
given the respect due his sta
ton, and to that extent we will
support him or any other ind
vidual who demonstrates his
power to lead. Until Divine does
something for which the law
can restrain him, without delib
erately going out to get" him,
we say let him alone.
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
President Hornsby's Views

President Hornsby's Views
The views of President Wal
ter Spurgeon Hornsby of the
National Negro Insurance AS
ISOLATION, as expressed in a re
cent statement to the country,
and in an address before the AT
lanta Negro Chamber of Com
meree, are worthy of careful
consideration by the leading ex
ecutives Of the group.
The insurance leader made
this significant statement in AT
lanta: Although we are unal
terably opposed to segregation
on account of race, We must face
facts as they exist and by intel
ligently directed and adopted
recourses mould this sorry idea
nearer the hearts desire. Segre
CATION on actount of race, Is a
fact, and an accepted fact IN
America today, and Will con
tinue to be so long as the Negro
STAYS with the mudsill group
He viii maintain his mudsill
status until there arises WITHIN
his ranks a type of leadership
oble to bring about in his way
Of thinking a real and aplolns
des;re to become a respectaole
American citizen. He must first
ACQUIRE something which, l am
sorry to say, he has to date ac
onired very little Of, that is
Self Respect--personal self re
speet and racial self respect.
Our leadership must divest it
self of the idea that personal
ACQUISITION of wealth is the high
est good and the supreme enc
of human existance. We need
a c~onsecrated leadership that Is
willing to sacrifice persona
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
The Divine Case
1T Ia our belief that colored
editors should be very careful
how they play the news Of the

INV eAOJ P1"J WS A
sensational Divine case, lest
they inadvertently violate the
principle of unfolding and not
ridiculing Negro leadership. AT
ter all, the so called FEATHER
Divine has demonstrated his
power to lead the masses, white
and colored, and jealousy or
fear of his power should not be
allowed to warp the editorial
Judgment. Venting editorial
spleen, either in the news or the
editorial columns, whethr it is
editorial columns, whether it is
not good journalism.
We have never seen Father
Divine, but we have a healthy
respect for some of the people
associated with him, for we dc
know them well. We recall that
his chief counsel, A. A. Madison,
was not long ago a postoffice
clerk who studied law at night
and was admitted to the bar
long after he was a man. We
have had business dealings with
some of the white people in the
organization, and have found
them uniformly men Of THEN
word, who stick to what they
say, and on whom you can dt
The Omaha guide., 1937-05-08
EDITORIAL PAGE
Understanding
Needed to Solve
Race Problems

The Negro problem in the United
States and in Omaha is by no
means unsolvable, were the senti
menta of the Most Rev. James II.
Ryan, bishop of Omaha as he ad
dressed the Catholic Students
Mission Crusade conference in the
Creighton university auditorium
Sunday afternoon.
81 am not denying it is difficult"
he said. 1.-THE most helpful sign is
that | find is that the eolored man
himself stems TO bear no i'll will as
yet in spite of the fact that he has
been Disseminated against and has
been an object Of racial prejudice
The problem can only be solved,
he pointed out, by complete under
standing and then by the will to
solve it. Bishop Ryan was in high
praias of the Rev. James Pruess,
S. j., former Creighton university
professor and present pastor of st.
Benedict cblored parish, for the
wonderful work he is doing among
the colored people of Omaha.
Bishop Ryan said, in closing,
that there was no racial prejudice
among children and that it develop
as people matured. All races
ARE brothers in Christ" and every
one should accept that platform.