Evening star., 1937-09-04

Tie money WIlcIl we married.
am getting miserably dis
satisfied with this arrangement and
sometimes can hardly make myself
pleasant when my mother sits down
and begins chatting with us. We have
saved several hundred dollars and
talk occasionally OF the time when We
can build our own home and l will
stop working. But 1 am undecided
about this as like my work and the
pay. and enjoy the many contacts
with other people, even the clatterng
telephone bell and everything else
that goes to make up working wom-
ans life. l am not domestic and
doubt il I would be contented to give
up my active life. My husband is
everything that is good and consid-
crate and never talks of being disSat-
lsfled with the way We live, but I feel
that it is the element that makes us
both unhappy. He loves children and
would like to have one of his own. My
sistersin- law have so MANY children
and they are so dlstasteful with their
measles, Whooping cough, bells and
so on that l think Of them as brats
Do you think that if I quit my job
and have children I will change? Or
will regret the time when I was free
and had nice clothes? EDITH.
Answer-If you do not know your
self what you want to do. or what
would make you happy, how can you
expect any one else to know The only
thing that is clear in your letter is
that you want to have your cake and
eat it, too.
You are dissatisfied with living with
your mother and want your own
home, yet you don't want the work
and care of keeping house You
want to hold your job and work down.
town in the hustle and hustle of an
office, yet you want to give 1t up and
go domestic You don't want the
burden of children. yet you want a
baby. How you are going to reconcile
all Of these different tastes, l don't
know.
PERHAPS the secret Of your discon-
tent and unhappness is that you
are thinking of no one but yourself
and nothing but your own pleasure.
People who do that are never happy
because they never get their heart S
desire. There is always something
just a little beyond their reach. or a
little different from what they have.
that they think perhaps they would
like better. II YOU will quit being so
self-centered and try TO make your
mother and your husband happy. YOU
may achieve the contentment that
you lack
Why don't YOU start with YOUR
mother? BY her kindness and gen.
eroslty she made it possible for YOU
and your husband to get married when
you did. If she had not taken you
into her home you would have had
no place to go,
Why not SHOW her some apprecla-
ton and gratitude instead of being so
bored with her that you can hardly
stand her chatter? She made a very
real sacrifice of her comfort and con-
venlence when she let you bring your
husband to her home. and it is up to
you now to do something for her.
AS you are not domestic in your
taste, I doubt very much if YOU would
be happy in exchanging your ma
hoeany desk for a cook stove. Once a
girl gets the love of business in her
blood she seldom gets over it. She
always longs for the excitement of
working in a crowd in the rush and
hustle Of the commercial world. Think
long time before you give up your
job.
AS for whether you will enjoy a
baby. l don't think you need worry
about that. Every child brings its
welcome in its hand when it comes.
and no matter how much you think
other peoples children brats, you will
think your own an angel. Maybe a
baby is the answer to your whole
problem
nEAR DOROTHY DIX: A dear
friend OF mine has just taken his
own life. A few days before he COM
mitted suicide he told me that he
signed over all of his property to his
wife and that she, in turn. signed it
over to their son shortly before she
died. This made the father impov-
erished and dependent on the son.
and the son treated him so cruelty
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