Evening star., 1937-10-21
EAR MISS DIX--I am .
woman In my late 20s, and I
believe I express the senti-

WOilAA IA Aay INV SSSt s>~NA
believe I express the senti-
- ments of the majority of my
sex when I say that the reason that
80 many girls Of my age are SO anxious
to marry and get the searching look"
In their eyes Is not from the fear OF
being an old maid, but of missing what
every woman realize. is living-the
10y Of loving and being loved, and the
happiness Of having children. i ap-
preciate that marriage may not always
be a song, but, after all, it's life, and
one can't blame woman whose youth
is fieeting for becoming heart sick
because she feels that she is missing
the essence of life itself.
TWENTY-EIGHT.
Answer-Certainly not. OF course,
every woman, barring the few who are
born celibates, wants to marry and
have her man, her children, her own
home. It's primal instinct, and In
well-ordered world there should be
good husband for every girl and babes
with naturally curly hair, dressed in
white muslin with blue ribbons, ana
4 vine -wreathed cottage.
Perhaps when the President gets
through settling all the other affairs
of the universe he will take this
matter up and inaugurate H. P. A.
husband provided association and
those young women who believe that
getting married is life itself will only
have to present their tickets and take
their choice of partners.
Unfortunately, however, the glad
day has not arrived. and as things are
I'm this cockeyed old world there does
not seem to be a sufficient supply OF
husbands to go around. At any rate,
men seem less and less inclined to
marry, whether because of the high
cost of living and the realization that
the income that means good clothes
and golf and being invited out TO
cocktail parties for one, connotes shah
biness and pushing the perambuiator,
veal stew and no invitations, if divided
I'D with a wife and babies. or because
bachelor apartments with valet service
have taken away mans necessity for
wife, or whether because men who
spend their days working with women
are fed up with feminine society and
do not wish for another helping, only
men themselves can say.
X X
AT ANY rate, 1t is a condition and
not a theory that confrpnts the
modern --oman in marriage. Thousands
Of them are bound to be old maids.
because men either can't or won't
marry, and / think it is a pity that
they can't learn to accept the matter
philosophically and stop idealizing
marriage and thinking that if they
miss it they have lost out in life.
OF course, no one will deny that
the woman who gets a good, kind.
generous, faithful husband, who loves
her and who is her hearts desire, who
has children who are paragons. who
has a beautiful home and plenty of
money to run it on, is q darling OF the
gods who has been given the best
things in the world. But there Is
Just about one woman In q hundred
thousand that draws this lucky num-
Der.
The great majority Of women who
marry find that marriage means hard
work. worry and pinching economies:
walking the baby at night, quarrel
ing children and wondering where
the rent money is coming from; put
ting up with the whims and temper
of crochety husbands who take them
for granted and never pay them a
compliment, or even take them out to
the movies. Maybe this is the "es-
sence of life" that you pine for, but
it is not without significance that one
woman out of every six that tries it
likes the flavor so little that she gets
q divorce.
However, that is not the point
The point is that so many women lose
al, the pleasure they might get out
of their free, independent lives, in
which they have their own latchkeys
and their own money and limited
hours of work, because they haven't
husbands and because they delude
themselves in the belief that however
other marriages turn out, theirs would
be q dream of bliss. And that's a
pity.
NEAR MISS DIX-We are paging
= Solomon and you have been elect
ed. Here is the problem: John and
Jane have been going around together
for some time. Nothing serious. Just
two congenial people. Mary is an
acquaintance of James, and out of
kindness Jane asked Mary often to
go along with them on picnics, and
50 forth. John feels that he has to
be extra attentive to Mary to keep
her from feeling she is an outsider.
c. vxr;Sl, lana ~, ono cidn of hin, and