Evening star., 1937-06-26
EAR MISS DIX am a
physician OF ~ and find that
my judgment is being warped
and that vertigo is 6loWlV

~ and that vertigo is slowly
but surely tampering with the linchpin
in my head The reason is a beautiful
and intelligent young lady 20 years
younger than myself We have both
been divorced. l don't know why she
left her husband. MY wife and I
parted over quarrel about members
of her family not paying back some
money I had loaned them at great
sacrifice. My wife is a person OF high
moral character. good disposition
and easy to get along with She has
written to me lately wanting to make
up and for us to remarry, but l am
in love with this girl Or think am.
Is it possible that girl that much
younger than ! am can really love
me? Would I stay in love with her.
or is this just a last flare-up OF
youth? l would not think of marry
ing woman 20 years older than l.
Why should girl marry a man that
much older than herself? What do
you think of the chances Of happiness
as between the two marriages?
Answer-It is always safest to marry
in your own age class. This goes for
both men and women. because after
the glory and the circling wings OF
romance have departed there Is 4
long, long trail that a husband and
wife must travel together. 1t is a
pretty dull and desolate one unless
they have the same background. the
same tastes and habits and like to do
the same things.
They can't do that IL one is young
and the other is old. There is bound
to be sacrifice on one side or the
other il one wants to stay put by the
fire and the other wants to step out
to dance: if one, in the exuberance OF
youth, wants to be forever rushing
about from place to place and the
other is tired and wants to rest; If one
wants to sing and yell and the other
asks nothing so much as quiet; il one
is eager and curious to go places and
see things and the other is bored to
death at the show he has seen =
thousand times; if one likes to hark
back to delightful memories Of old
plays, famous old actors, books and
political events that were a sensation
20 years ago and of whom the other
never even heard.
20 INTO any home where there u
an old husband and young wife
and note how little they have to say
to each other; how bored they are
with each other; how thick with
silence the atmosphere Is. Go to any
night club and watch the old husbands
of young wives sitting alone at their
tables while the girl wives dance with
boys as young and nimble as they
are and who know all the new steps.
And you don't know which you are
Sorrier for-the old husband, whose
only function is to pay the check. or
the young wife, who always feels that
her husband is q stranger to her. and
that she Is only with friends when she
is with boys Of her own age with whom
she can play.
The difference in age was never 30
important rs it is now, because in the
last 20 years there has been such An
upheaval in manners and points Of
view that it has separated the old from
the young by 4 chasm that not even
love can bridge. Many things that the
young Of today do. with no thought Of
improperly, would have been scan
dals 20 years ago. A cocktail drinking,
cigarette-smoking, half-dressed girl
would have been arrested and put in
Jail before she had got three blocks
from home in those days. Now she
merely represents the fashion. Other