The Washington times., 1937-10-28
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Rv BEATRICE FAIRFAX

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and Marriage
A LADY. who has been twice married
"A and twice divorced, writes to tell me
that men see INTO be afraid Of her. Both OF
her husbands, she confides, were absolutely
undesirable. They drank, gambled and spent
their money on other women. Why should
she have had to put up with them?
Men who brag about being modern, she says,
seem to be afraid of her as a wife, though they
appear eager to make dates. But she does not
want the gay dates their invitations imply.
Domestic in her tastes she would like to have
a real home, which she thinks is not unnatural
for woman of her age, "a. Quoting from her
letter:
"Just as soon as some man discovers I've
been twice divorced, he grins as if he'd drawn
a. winning ticket in the Irish Sweepstakes. He
proceeds to make violent love to me, and when he
discovers don't want that kind of love.making,
he acts as if were not playing the game square
ly, AS if man of this type would know what
being square meant!"
WIDOW HAS CHANCE
Then the lady asks me what chance think
there is for woman who has been twice Oil
yorced to make successful third marriage.
other things being equal, widow bereft by
death seems to have better chance than the
widow bereft by divorce. At least, that is what
people claim who make business OF keeping
matrimonial statistics. Undoubtedly it's one OF
the deep injustices of life that woman who
hasn't been wise in her choice of husbands seems
to men to carry a danger signal.
For, as this lady says, in spite of all their
Dragging about being modern, multitudes Of men
seem to be just as Victorian as grandpa when
it comes to a question of comforting the family
name on a divorced lady, who, they seem TO
think, is fair game.
OF course, we've had our brilliant exceptions
like Peggy Joyce, who has had five or six nus
bands, and Eugene Bankhead' sister OF tne
charming TaIlulah, who has been married early
and often. But these ladies seem to be the ex-
ception rather than the rule in acquiring we'd
ding rings.
ARE PERPETUALLY ELIGIBLE
On the contrary, the double triple, even
the marriage lines without prompting, and. ike
Mr. Tommy Manvile, to be perpetually eligible.
especially when they have money. But it taxes
considerable charm to get feminine mu4Cl-
marrierS well settled.
Undoubtedly, jealousy may be the reason why
the lady with two or more divorces is regaroeo
by the average man as an unsafe risk Modern
or not, the run-of-the-min gentleman seems 10
desire that his wife shall come to him Tree from
the imprint of past male influences. He Is
jealous and distrustful of the husbands who
previously
way back in the unexplored region of his brain,
there's enough of old Father Adam in him to
make him desire to come first.
AS one of them-a bachelor of 26-wrote to me
few weeks ago. after he had married girl Of
20: 81 don't want my wife matching me up with
predecessors as if were sample in depart
ment store.''
Dear Miss Fairfax:
Several months ago young salesman came into
the office and we became acquainted there He
asked to take me out couple of times but I'd
never want to go because thought we hadn't met
properly Now, Miss Fairfax, I see him almost
daily. While he's always polite and speaks to me.
he never asks me to go out with him. and now
wish he would. Do you think it would be all
right if asked him to call some evening, should
wait until am asked again? I'm 20 years old.
ENID.
It would be quite all right to invite the young
salesman to call. And I think you were little
too nice" if you don't mind my saying so, when
you refused to consider this mountaineering as
sufficient. Some famous men met their wives in
places of business. Good luck to you.