Evening star., 1937-09-24
The Glow of Cranberres Market Hints Turkey Season
|Present>Day
Travelling
Etiquette
Invitation Should
Be From Mother
AS Well as Son.
BY EMILY POST.

DEAR MRS. POST: A boy who
started college with me last year
has written that he and his family
would like me to stop over and visit
them for few days on my way back
to school. Mother is not at home and
my father doesn't like the idea Of my
going, and yet I have to answer this
days young women didn't go visiting
in the families of boys they knew
only as school friends. Also dad
thinks the mother should have writ
ten to me. But she wants me and
can't very well write back and ask
her TO write, can I?
Answer-Yes. you can write to the
boy perfectly well and say that you
would love to come if only his mother
would send you personal message of
some sort in order to satisfy your
father, whose opinions are as you de-
scribe. There are exceptions TO all
rules, and much going about without
invitations from older people is the
common practice, but according to
best taste, the girl who is "just
brought along" has a less high rat
ing than the girl who makes sure
that the invitation comes from the
hostess as well as from the hostess
son.
DEAR MRS. POST: Would the fact
that there are several cousins in
the party alter the improperly of
three unmarried girls and men going
on motor trip for week?
Answer-If one of the men were a
brother to one of the girls. then yes.
Cousins are rather too distant, and
the fact that the girls may be re-
lated or the men related to each
other would not help in the least.
DEAR MRS. POST: The young
man I am engaged to insists on
meeting me in my Office on days we're
having lunch together. We have had
several discussions concerning this.
/ think We should meet in the lobby
of the Office building, and he insists
that staying downstairs looks ungen-
tlemanly of him. l think business
situations are not considered in the
same light as social ones. but We
would like to have your opinion.
Answer-I can understand his feel
ing perfectly. and that he considers il
more polite TO go all the way to meeS
you instead of letting you come half
way to meet him. But it is nv
| opinion In this particular case that
from the office standpoint it is better
to see an employe going out alone
to lunch than to have the entire
office force made conscious that she
IS lunching with man. This point
may seem an unreasonably bothering
one to take, but during Office hours
the impression is likely to be given
| none the less that your interest in
him may be interfering with your
work.
nEAR MRS. POST: am a second
| wife and my husbands only living
relative, bachelor brother, died last
week. Nothing has been said as vet
about thanking people who have sent
| flowers and notes, and / think the
time has come for some one to take
care of this. My husband has son
and daughter by his former marriage
and they both had gone to the bedside
OF their uncle just prior to his death.
L could not go because of obligations
which kept me here at home. but I
was very fond of this brother-in-law.
nevertheless, and to relieve nv hus-
band Of the strain of answering 1
would like to take care of writing the
notes of thanks to his friends and ours.
My husband feels that perhaps he.
or one OF the children, should do this
since they were blood relatives. And.
of course, don't want to put them
in the wrong light if people are likely
to think my writing strange. Will you
give us your opinion?
Answer-I don't see how any one
could think it strange that a wife
should write letters of thanks for
flowers or letters of sympathy sent to
her husband and his family. In fact.
1t Is her especial duty to do this very
thing-only very personal messages to
him or to the children by their inti-
mate friends would better be answered
by them.
| tCopyright 1877