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Evening star., 1937-09-07

Parents t S
Of Bride
Wedding Invitations
Issued by Mother
and Stepfather.
BY EMILY POST.

DEAR MRS. POST: Will you an
swer this very perplexing question
which is giving me no end of worry7
My mother, who was Mrs. John Smith.
obtained divorce and received un-
qualified possession Of us three chill
dren, whom she has brought up. Our
father has never shown any interest
in us whatever. Our stepfather.
James Jones, on the other hand, Is
very dear to us. But now what? I
am about to be married, and / would
like to have mother and Uncle Jim
(my stepfather) send the invitations.
My own father is living. but l have
not had word from him for more
than six years, and don't know what
to do under these estranged circum-
stances
Answer-In your particular case
the invitations could be worded ex-
actly as though your real father were
actually, as well as legally, dead.
Thus:
Mr.. and Mrs. John Jones
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Mary Smith
to
CThe rest of the invitation as usual)
Postscript - Having answered
rather unusual situation, want to
make it clear that in different case
where Mary, though living with her
| y,,ottar opd Stapfott,ar hoe ra,,ai,,ad
devoted to her own father-whether
she spends part Of the years with him
or not-the wedding is properly held
| in a church or in an assembly room
and the invitations are sent out only
in the name of Mary's mother. Thus:
Mrs. John Jones
requests the honor of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Mary Smith
to
| (T'he rest of the invitation as usual)
The wedding breakfast, however,
is always given by both Mary's mother
and her stepfather. 1t is correct,
therefore, that Mr.. Jones be present
as host. and conventionally Mary's
real father, Mr.. Smith, remains abb
sent. This. however, depends upon
| personal circumstances. In any case,
| the wedding breakfast invitations are
worded as follows:
Mr.. and Mrs. John Jones
request the pleasure Of your company
on wednesday, the third of April,
at one o'clock.
The one important rule to remember
is that invitations df announcements
must not be sent out by the divorced
parents together. Nothing could be
more shocking to taste or more un-
fair to the bride and bridegroom. Ac-
cording to conventional procedure,
Mary's real father drives to the door
of her home and waits In the motor
until his daughter is leaving the
house. He then gets out Of the car
and helps her into it, and they drive
to the church by slightly CIR
cuitous route. This is done to give
her mother time to leave the house
Immediately after them and to reach
the church just ahead of them. Mary
walks up the aisle with her father
He gives her away and then enters
pew two or three rows back of the
one occupied by his former wife.
Copyright. 1879
Evening star., 1937-09-07

bright, cheerful designs. There are
heavy glazed papers made for this
purpose, too. Glazed chintz or per-
Gale, splashed with flowers, is useful
and attractive, or wall paper may be
pasted on, then shellacked several
times with white shellac, which will
give smooth surface, easily cleaned.
Built-in wardrobe space in the bed
room is a joy to any housekeeper. A
door opens to reveal sliding shelves
for lingerie, place for shoes and
hats, as well as hanger high enough
so that your best party dress and
evening wraps do not trail. Some
times 1 think that closets have not
been improved for the last IS years
when 1 have to change the hanger
bar in every house and move it up a
good inches.
If you have room for a large
storage closet on your second or third
floor, with little extra planning you
may arrange it for the safe storage
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Habit Lines
Are Easily
.Av o / d e d
BY ELSIE PIERCE

HABIT lines are treacherous things.
They can do more damage and
there's less to be done about them
than about lines caused by age. Here's
proof. The makers of new cream.
embodying a new principle that is
absorbed by the skin, promise that
With persistent use the cream will
cause lines to disappear, gradually but
definitely: Crows feet around the
temples, cross-hatching of lines under
the eyes, deep burrows from mouth to
chin and from nose to mouth.
But they go on to add that they
believe in being absolutely frank and
honest and do not wish to claim more
for it than it will accomplish. The
preparation does not promise to re-
move lines caused by facial expression,
habit" lines such as those around the
nose and eyes due to smiling and
laughing, nor furrows on the brow
which come from frowning.
They definitely recommend correct
exercise, possibly glasses and good
care of eyes for lines around them.
And as for the habit" lines that
come from making faces, there's not
much to be done about it except: Get
out of the habit.
Many women are high strung.
representative, emotional. There
are women who are perpetual face
makers. A slightly sad story, no
matter how inconsequential calls for
hand-wringing, tear shedding, face
making, habit lines are forming. Be
good listener, but don't be too
sympathetic lest it cost you that lovely
smooth, firm, young look that every
woman wants to retain almost at any
price. Try to be placid. That has no
relationship whatever to a blank, un-
intelligent look. It's merely matter
of sane, sensible expression balance
for beautys sake.
There's good deal of truth to the
theory of mind over matter" In ad-
dition to using the best beauty aids
money can buy, you have to help those
aids along. You have to think"
beauty; you have to wear contended,
placid expression for discomfort,
worry, fear, hate and similar emo
tional states not only give the face a
sour expression temporarily-they |
may leave more permanent habit |
wrinkles"
(copyrisht, 1es7)
Evening star., 1937-09-07

of Winter coats and furs. 1t is not
necessary that it be lined with cedar.
We all love that cool, piney odor, but
lining of wood or plywood with all
its cracks carefully filled and several
coats of good enamel paint will be
equally safe. This may be wiped
down carefully and sprayed with any
good moth spray. The important
thing is to have the door carefully
constructed. There is metal strip
ping used for this which goes both on
the door and the frame. A band of
felt fits over the inside and no bug
or dust is able to enter. Along one
side of the closet place your hanger
bar, a good 6 Il feet from the floor. On
the other side build tier of sliding
shelves so that 1t is open on all sides
for the circulation of the fumes of
whatever moth preparation you use.
This will hold your blankets and furs
and good coats. 1 find coat made
of fine material left hanging all Sum-
mer looks very draggy, so I place mine
on shelf with folds of tissue paper
inside it. Other shelves may hold
piles of socks and sports clothes, ski
pants and sweaters. This closet will
be joy in the Winter also for your
evening wraps and gowns and your
husbands dress clothes. AS this
closet is dust proof they will seem
much fresher than If they are kept
In the closet with your day clothes.
This is the time of year to plan q
place for the children's equipment
Start with the idea that this is spot
for their very own" and put the
hooks and the hanger bar at height
| they may easily reach. There should
be self about inches from the floor
for oVershoes and rubbers. This is sc
that you will not have to move them
| when you clean. There should be q
drawer or shelf for scarfs and caps
and another for mittens. Be sure that
the closet Is well lighted, so that
there will be no excuse for things not
being found, or put away carelessly.
Have you an emergency cabinet in
| your kitchen or pantry? 1t may be
| cliiy IlCilCo dSCp-lIlt WluJl Oh LQt
ordinary can of food The shelves
should be of graduated distances sc
that the lower one will hold quart
Mason jar comfortably and the tor
one the tiny cans of things that makes
delicious canapes, but it should be only
"one can deep" as 1t is no fun tc
have to rummage for things when you
are in hurry.
Closets are an important part Of
| any modern house.
The whole day may be changed
depending on whether you are able tc
find what you want, where you look
for it, when you look for it. If you
are building your house plan these
| things as you go-or leave a space sc
that they may be built in later. Il
your house is completed see where
you can improve on the efficiency anc
JOY of it by planning closet and stor.
age space.
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Glass Work
Mostly on
S u f a c e
Lack of Thoroughness
Is Due to Those Who
Plan Curriculum.
BY ANGELO PATRI.

ONE of the things I remember
about the first teacher 1 had
in the public schools of America
is little verse she taught me and
had me recite daily for a month
or so. Perhaps because ! needed
tt don't know her reason-I lived
with that idea for what seemed to
me then, and seems even now, a very
long time. I'm not certain that 1
understood its meaning, but I must
have caught the spirit of it, for 1t Is
that quality in it that speaks to me
through its words today:
All that you Go, do with
your might.
Things done by halves
are never done right.
think that we need to teach
the children the meaning of that
verse today. They need to do all
that they do thoroughly, down to
the root, and back again.
The children are not to blame
If they are working mostly on the
surface of things. That is the way
of the class room. There is limited
time for class work The teacher is
tied to a program, so many minutes
for each study. The day is packed
like a picnic basket.
Here we put arithmetic. Where
Is phonic drill coming In? Good
ness, we nearly left out nature study.
Reading has to have at least a full
= period. That only leaves us seven
minutes for music. 1t has to get in
somewhere. The supervisor will be
in and they haven't learned new
tune this month. Spelling will have
to fit in here between setting-up drill
and composition. Maybe we could
run the two together somehow"
Any modern teacher of the ele-
mentary grades will know that story.
A lack of thoroughness is not the
fault of the teacher, nor of the class.
1t has to be laid at the door of those
who plan the course of study and
linger fondly over the "old masters"
they find there. This one must be
kept and that one, well-it just can't
be thrown out And this new finger
painting ought to come in so we can
keep up, as it were. Any supervisor
knows that.
Why does the supervisor hold to the
"old masters" and pile on the mod
erns? Why does the teacher franti-
cally try to "cover the grade" in the
set time? Why can't we stop end
stay with an idea until the children
get the full meaning and beauty out
of it? Because there is the threat of
college entrance examinations, of
regents tests, of city wides, of surveys
of this and surveys of that, and we
must all measure up" So we meas
ure up to the set course of study
bound by the tests at the top.
This brings about such tragic
notions as making a college junior
"do' play of Shakespeare night;
read it through; learn 20 lines and
make q report on it covering couple
of sheetfuls of points monographed
by the teacher to help the students
save time.
Pretty soon we are going to learn
that it is not the length of the trip
We take through the world Of
knowledge, but the views we capture
on the road that count. The only way
to get view is to dwell with it long
enough to make it your own. And
that idea might well be applied to
learning in all grades. "Al that
you do"
tCopyright. 1879
Evening star., 1937-09-07

tOiiNthAClb W StOlt w IllJeT dpDdTel
each year. Closets take bit of PLAN
ming, but a good carpenter can do
wonders for you in few days If you
really know what you want.
There are several types-each one
valuable in its own way. The cabinet
space built along the wall for linen,
the closet already installed, but use
less because it is not broken up into
the necessary compartments inside,
and the extra space under the stairs
or under the caves or in the extra bed
room where you have always hoped
you might some day have storage
space.
The first type is useful in the kitch-
EN-, pantry, linen room or bath room.
We will consider here linen cabinet
for the bath room of an eight-room
house. There should be a space about
feet long on one wall and not more
than % inches deep, it may be even
less. 1t may be built from the floor to
the ceiling, especially if you have a
collection of things which you seldom
Evening star., 1937-09-07

pairing tne genu-
inc article, there
is a canned va
riety on the mar
ket that really
cannot be told
from the home
made, if it is
served well sea-
soned with plenty
of sliced hard
boiled egg and
le m on floating
about in it. Put
it, piping hot, in
a deep bowl, and
give him some
substantial type
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Gowns to Match Walls,
Copyright. 1879

PARIS (P).-Matching dresses to
walls is new idea which is in vogue
here. The Countess Antonin de Nun,
whose new house has yellow walls,
has Mainbocher evening frock of
yellow tulle designed with a long full
train and finished with a big rose at
the decolletage.
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Dorothy Dix Says
When Husband-Hunting, Go Only to
Places Where Others Have Been Found.
y EAR MISS DIX: How does a

H EAR MISS DIX: How does
lady go about finding hus-
band? I am a spinster' Al
years old, and have been
nurse for the last 10 years, but the
height of my ambition is to have a
home of my own, where I can cook,
scrub, sweep and dust to my hearts
content. 1 know would make some
man a good wife, but where and how
to meet one who would appreciate
real homemaker is the thing that
puzzles me. MAUD.
Answer-Finding a husband is like
discovering q gold mine. 1t is mat
ter of luck There is no scientific
formula for doing either one. The
only advice I can give is to tell you to
prospect where the treasure has been
found, and if you don't succeed
change your location and go to a
fresh field.
If you are hunting husband, 1t
is sense to go where you will be
thrown in contact with many men.
There is no use fishing in stream
in which there are no fish. Many Wom-
en- fail to marry because they live in
communities in which there are no
men left but senile grandpas and
callow boys.
A girl who lives on an isolated farm
or in little village from which all
of the eligible boys have gone to seek
their fortunes elsewhere is fore
doomed to be an old maid unless she
follows the men to the cities.
Many other girls who would like to
marry fail to do so because they
are not appreciated at home. The
boys with whom they have grown up
have seen them so long and so often
that they have lost their perspec-
tive and fail to recognize how charm
ing and attractive they are. They
just take it for granted that Mamie
is nice, Sally is pretty and that the
chaps who get them will be mighty
lucky, but they make no specific APP
peal to them. There is no novelty
about them, no thrills.
RUT let these girls go to some other
town and the boys fall for them
because they are strangers. Their
little box of tricks, that they didn't
even have the nerve to open at home,
are WOW with the men who have
never seen them before. There is
hint to the wise virgin in the number
of girls who marry away from home.
Of course, too, there is the pursuit
method of catching husband Many
a women picks out the man she wants
and literally chases him to the altar.
But no one can really give you a
reliable recipe for catching a hus-
band. Nor can any one explain why
1T is that some women attract men
and could marry a dozen husbands if
the law permitted, while other women
just as good-looking, just as charm
ing, just as desirable in every way,
are passed over by men and never
have chance to be the good wives
that Nature intended them to be.
1t seems to. me that the woman
who has no allure for men Is far
Evening star., 1937-09-07
BY BARBARA BELL.

4 Y YHEN you are busy around
AN/ the house-dusting, cook
" " ing, cleaning-you want a
dress that permits you
complete freedom. No seams to bind,
no constructing belts. This model you
can make in jiffy. SO easy to fol-
low, a beginner can make this dress
easily in few hours. Blouse and
skirt are cut in one piece with darts
to mark the waistline The cap
sleeves are cut in one, with the yoke
giving you easy arm movement. The
square neckline is new and very fiat
tering. Make up this dress in cotton
for daytime, in jersey or wool, for
dashing about in the car and shop
ping.
Barbara Bell pattern No. 1913 is
designed for sizes IA, Is, 18. 20; 40, AZ
and a. Corresponding bust measure
ments 80, 34 36, 38, 40, AZ and A.
Size Is (34) requires 37s yards of 39-
inch material
Every Barbara Bell pattern includes
an Illustrated instruction guide which
is easy to understand.
Send Is cents for the Barbara Bell
Fall and Winter Pattern Book. Make
Evening star., 1937-09-07

The only thing his mother should
be sure of is that the needles she put
in the kit have great big eyes. A boy
rather prides himself, you know, on
not being able to thread a small-eyed
needle, and he won't half try. But If
there is, among other things, a tre-
mendous darning needle with an eve
the size Of soup bowl, his sewing kit
will probably become the most popular
one on his corridor. And If there's a
spool Of thread that is so thick it looks
like an anchor rope, your young
seamster is going to make a hit at
college. He'll probably come home at
Christmas as official tent sewer for
the fraternity or official tennis
shoe mender.
And certainly he should be given
the chance to win such honors. n.
shouldn't be Disseminated against lust
because Of his sex. That wouldn't be
fair. JEAN
Copyright. 1879
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Manners
of the
Moment

WE JUST thought you might like to
know that boy isn't considered
sissy If he has sewing kit in his
dormitory room at college. II he Is a
freshman. he may be worried at his
mothers insistence that he take along
needle and thread. But If he's a
senior he'll know better.
After all, in this day and age, when
all girls know how to change tire,
there's no disgrace in a boy knowing
how to sew on button.
Evening star., 1937-09-07

whose only reward was to have some
other mans success thrown in their
faces and to be taunted for not being
go-getters.
7 AGREE with you that lots of wives
never do teamwork with their
husbands, and that many a man fails
because his wife did not cooperate
with him. She wouldn't do without
the things she wanted so that he
might have the money to put into his
business. She wouldn't leave mother
and the girls to go where fortune called
him. She wouldn't even make him
comfortable at home and give him
the food that he needed to keep him
in good health. Worst of all, she
failed him spiritually because she
would not back him up with her
courage and her faith when he need
ed some one to stand behind him and
brace up his morale.
But these ungrateful, unappreciative
and Stacker wives do not form the bulk
of American wives any more than
the few lazy, trifling, no-account hus-
bands who do not support their FAM
lilies, nor the wife-beaters, nor the
wife-deserters represent American hus-
bands.
There are thousands of wives who
show their husbands every day by
word and deed that they think they
are the greatest heroes on earth and
that they thank God for being mar
ried to them. There are thousands
of women who slave and sacrifice and
go shabby and do without amusements
to help their husbands get a start.
and who literally make of their shoul-
ders a ladder on which their hus-
bands climb to success. And in these
dark years of depression there have
been innumerable women whose cour-
age and devotion have kept their hus-
bands going. So be fair, Mr.. Man.
Give the good wives a break.
DOROTHY DIX.
Copyright. 1879
Evening star., 1937-09-07

I wiser 10 accept Ine SITUATION ana rec
oncile herself to it than she is in
keeping up the hopeless effort to catch
a husband. For a husband is only
| desirable when he is desirable. Just
as often he is curse as he is bless
ing and marriage is not invariably the
holy estate.
Many women forget this. They will
marry any sort of man just because
they want husband and home and
then they find that they have got
worthless, drunken, surly brute who
has no home to take them to and
whom they have to support.
You have your profession which
makes you independent. You can
make your own home which you can
scrub and sweep and dust to you
hearts content. and you can have
peace and comfort in it. Far better
| to be content with these than risk the
chances Of marrying some man who
will regard you as nothing but meal
| ticket
After women are Al, men seldom
| fall romantically in love with them.
and the ones who marry them are
| mostly derelicts who want some one
to take care of them
DEAR MISS DIX: 1 am firmly con-
vinced that all the horrors of the
great war, all the slavery that has
ever been endured, all the social in
justices, have not caused the mental
anguish the 5O,OOO,OO0 American hus-
bands put up with through the lack
of cooperation and the ungratefulness
of American wives. Because the aver
age husband is a good sport he sub
mits to this punishment, but when he
seeks out companionship, believe me,
be is seeking a kind word, even though
he knows it is counterfeit. The un-
reasonable sex has gone to the extreme
with its freedom, with the result that
the American female regardless of her
education, culture, religion or social
background becomes a selfish, non-co-
operative migrate just as soon as she
has hooked her man.
ONE OF THE VICTIMS.
Answer-Heavensl What an indict-
ment of American wives! Being in a
calmer frame of mind, after having
got this TRADE off your chest, won't
you lop off few from those 50O0O.-
! 900 ungrateful wives and admit that
not all of them bite the hands that
feed them?
I agree with you that there are
lots of wives who are not as appre-
ciative of all the things their hus-
bands do for them as they ought to
be and who do not say Thank you"
as often as they might. 1t must be
pretty discouraging to man to work
his fingers to the bone to provide
his wife with comforts and luxuries
and to have her take all of his labor
| and striving and sacrifices for grant
ed and as nothing more than her due.
! have known plenty Of men who were
! perfect slaves to their wives, but
Evening star., 1937-09-07
1881 B

yourself attractive, practical and be-
coming clothes, selecting designs from
the Barbara Bell well-planned, easy
to-make patterns. Interesting and
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sions are all to be found in the Bar
bara Bell Pattern Book.
(Copyright 1877
Evening star., 1937-09-07
The Old Gardener Saws;

This is the time to divide and
set out peony plants. 1t happens
sometimes that peony roots ar
rive dried out and shriveled. Per-
haps the gardener who receives
such plants will feel discouraged
at their appearance and will hes
itate to plant them. This hes
itation is wise although there is
no reason to feel that the plants
have been ruined. They should
not be planted in a shriveled con-
dition, but should be placed in
boxes of earth for a few days. the
earth being kept constantly
moist, although not wet. In
short time the roots probably will
become plump and solid again.
The same result is obtained by
the use OF moss, and the moss can
be kept moist with the use of less
water.
fcopyrisht. 1872
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Accident Preventer.

Since serious accidents often occur
If the floor at the bottom of fight
of stairs is highly polished, it is a
good plan to keep a small rug there.
The rug may be anchored by tacking
or by the use of cork mat.
Evening star., 1937-09-07

The butterfly bush, or Bud
dleias. should be cut back as soon
as Winter comes. In cold climates
they die in the ground, but come
up again in the Spring.
To prevent diced fruits drop
ping to the bottom of a gelatin
mold chill fruits and add when
gelatin mixture has partly con-
gealed.
A piece Of chamois wrung out
Of cold water and rubbed over
polished furniture will remove
finger marks. Polish with dry
chamois.
(Copyrisht. 1877
Evening star., 1937-09-07
Flavoring Cakes and Candies

Flavoring always improves cakes
and candies. Vanilla enhances the
flavor of chocolate or spice cakes
White cakes are much more tasty If
they have . blended havoring Of
vanilla, almond and lemon extracts.