The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1937-12-30
nEAR MISS DENE: What should

L EEAE M1SS DcNE. WHAT SuOuiu
~ do? We have all the makings
of happy home. We two are funda-
mentally c0ngenial, although OppO-
site in temperament. We have two
delightful children and a nice home
we worked for. The bugaboo is
friendly drinking. Only a wife who
has known the anguish of waiting
until daybreak for the husband who
went out on some small errand at
Z p. m. can understand what /
have gone through. The excuse he
gives is always lame and uncOn-
vincing. He simply can't keep away
from his friends and his drinking.
1t isn't fair. There are many times
when 1 have needed him when the
children were sick but always
friends and liquor have won.-G. A.
M.
ANSWERING habit is more insidi-
Gus nor more capable of lasting
harmful effect on any home life
than the cheerful little business of
friendly drinking. Simply because
it all seems so harmless and cosy
and natural, it is allowed to get by
where other more spectacular sins
are condemned.
Actually the pangs of anxiety
woman suffers over the constant
standardization of her weak, good
natured irresponsible husband are
as great as those she endures over
| a major catastrophe. And it is the
height of cruelty for her husband
to go on pursuing his carefree way
at the expense of a woman's in
tense suffering and fear.
One Uonian once dealt with her hus.
bands social drinking by mduIging in
The same sport On those evenings t0hen
she kne,D him to be in a Wondering mood
she carefully united fetO friends to
come oper and help her through the cue
ming. Not an experienced drinker herself
she put up a fair imitation OF her hus.
bands oiOn behavior after an evening OF
harmless Northumberland the spectacle
proved so minimizing to her suddenly Dir.
tuous spouse that he gave up his sprees
in order to stay home and reform her.
Other women have found that
punishment did no good and have
tried kindness instead-giving their
whoopee-making mates a free eve
ming a week in which to take care
of their sprees. 1t has often hap
pened that the man who enjoys his
stolen liberty finds freedom dull
when it is eagerly offered him.
Moyxy xxy.fn har xryr;f{an f0 al
that her lenience has proved more
effective means of curling uncon-
trolled drinking than any punish
ment ever devised.
There is always the possibility
that the easy-going social drinker
doesn't realize fully how important
his chief vice is to his domestic
happiness Faced with wife's tears
and reproaches in the early hours
of dawn with himself in a befuddled
condition he doesn't understand just
how acutely his bad habits are af-
fecting his peaceful home.
Perhaps if his wife demonstrated
this to him by clearing out for
while and going home to mother
with the children-the amiable
drinker might take life more seri-
ously-and might cease to include
his favorite sport in the class of
harmless amusements.
p III. LEE: 1 believe that your
-. romantic interest in the past
love is caused almost entirely by
the lack of sex appeal you feel in
your present inamorata.
1t is so like a woman-and
young one at that-to search des-
perately for some trace of the ten
der passion in her own conscious
ness. Finding that her steady affini-
ty is all too cut-and dried-and pla-
tonic to be even interesting she
hastily enlists the service of her
memory to help her locate some
particularly devastating love affair
she has enjoyed
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