The Waterbury Democrat., 1937-12-13
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PARENTS - Your
 Children
By Olive Roberts BareOa

Letters from young people invar. iably interest me. In them I see the results of home conditions and un. happy environment. But another item seldom escapes me, and this is the ability of youth to analySe It's own cases and unconSciously reveal . certain self pity. m
 Says one young woman, T wouldn't marry the best mnn on earth, afer seeing how my father treats my mother. I have been Tee peatcdly warned by my mother that # I married I would Do Q fool" And then she proceeds to say that her mother was too hard on her, and had planted fear Of men in her heart.
 Similar troubled letters come to me. One young girl admits she was spoiled. To even things up, her mother has now resorted to harsh measures.
 It H, of course, tho old story of why girls leave home. And why they become interpretive and un. happy. Yet l believe there is something to be said about young people themselves, and their share in their own unhappiness.
 Patience With Parents
 If they could learn to live with what they have, 1t might help in 0 measure. If a parent Is too uns reasonable to understand the nats ural urges and cravings of these young people. the way is not to antagonizo that mother or father, but lo conform to c great extent, for in 60 doing, things are moro likely to smooth out than by ,is- ing open defiance. .... If young people are better versed in behavior than their par. ents, and many are today, t seems that they ore in c position to ed- ucate the too strict father or the determined mother Not by try. ing to tell them or show them their mistakes, for this would DC adding fuel to the fire, but by showing c willingness to COG operate and working from there, once the parent gets the ldea thst inc or she counts with the boy or girl, hs well az 2 belief n the. good Judgment Of their OH. spring, some good is sure to come of it, Homo will be happier III the first place, wien these yout1g people stop complaining, because many c rift between mother a'ld father IA cauged by friction orig mating with the cliildron thein- Once I saw c girl, rent to c welfare home by the court come back, after two years Of charac' ter training and home economick. :. ard Teyarnp her whole unhappy fo;njly, ghe gaw what the trouble had been end took her courage in her hands to mako everybody happier and kinder.
 Unseifish Service ..
 Sic forgot about herself and dedicate her life 10 bettering tbe ho,,ic of her brothers and tgtefe. Her mother and father. almost without Knowing it, became rca- Sonnbie and legs exacting. Tho Siri married first, of aii the fam ily not because Ehe was bent ol, escape, but knowing She naa proved how fine she was. ana voting men are alert 10 quality more offer, than we admit .
 Many, many times t B nope. iss@ "a change the shrewish or marrow is mother, and the know-it. aii father. But escape, even ~ this, Is not the real afiSwer' " may me condoned and even ap' proved, but it leaves the wanaeT, er without q lsssac nomc' thst ana "in mary .,,,,:s Ds ths unhapy giri will be SaI',S S a wiser thing by sticking Sv ST1 ienGing her strength and wisdom Sst to tbc uplift of her home nlS, nG5l,So,cvr,uht. 1897. NEA Service, Incl