Evening star., 1937-01-09
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Appropriate
Circumstances Where
Personal Feelings
Are Involved.
BY EMILY POST,

DEAR MRS. POST: I have been
elected chairman of a parents
organization of my child's school and
in this Office have to write to the
mothers of the children once a month.
There is one little girl in school who
has no mother. I believe she is liy-
ing with a houseful of relatives, her
father for the most part of the time
being abroad. In this case, to whom
shall write? Wouldn't the child feel
sighted if she had no one to represent
her at the meetings?
Answer-Find out from her teacher
the name of the person who signs the
child's report cards in the fathers
absence and send your letter to her.
YEAR MRS. POST: Recently my
little girl had serious operation,
which was success, and she has re.
gained her health almost completely.
I give entire credit to the skill of the
doctor who operated. We are people
OF little means and he arranged for us
to pay the bill in small amounts, and
at that he is being more than reason
able in the total fee. This doctor is
very important surgeon and I don't
think that can take his time at the
Office to thank him. Would it be all
right for me to write him a note?
Answer-Write q very short note
and tell him how deeply you appreci-
ate al! that he has done for your child
and also thank him for his considera-
tion for your finances.
- 4
YEAR MRS. POST-In planning my
wedding I seem to have run ur
against some tangles. which I can,
Straighten out by myself The CIR
whom I want for my maid OF honor
happens to be the ex-flancee of the
best man. Ordinarily such a situation
might not make any difference to any
one, but We happen to know that he
is still very much in love with her
What's more, no one but myself know.
that just before my wedding she j.
going to announce her engagement tt
another man, whom will of course
have to invite to the reception. fee
that If her ex-fiance knew this per.
haps he would not have consented tt
be in our wedding party, and yet OF
the other hand, don't feel that
may tell him, or any one, before sht
chooses to give out the news herself
Oh, dear, I have always imagined m!
wedding would be such blissful oc.
cas;on and now all sorts of distressing
situations are popping up like ghost
In the night!
Answer-In answering your question
I am accepting your statement tha
the man is still in love with the girl
This being the case, you would be only
needlessly hurting him from ever!
angle by making him endure a perfect
gamut of gossip, curiosity, pity ane
comparison with the new man. Ir
other words, the whole situation woule
be in very worst taste. think if thi!
point were brought out to the girl she
would certainly put of announcing
her engagement until several days
after the wedding. This seems to me
the only solution unless she with.
draws from the wedding party.
II y X y
NEAR MRS. POST: have been
~ visiting a friend who is an invalid
and goes nowhere. The president OF
a club I belong to at home wrote,
without my knowing about it, to the
president of a similar club here, and
asked her to do whatever she could
for me during this visit. AS result
this president invited me to a dinner
at the club and I had most enjoy
able evening. This was undoubtedly
only a professional invitation and ]
don't know how to acknowledge it. ]
don't feel that I should presume upon
the local woman's time to call and yet
feel that before going home ought
to do something. What would you sug-
gest?
Answer-I would send her some
flowers with a few words of apprecia-
ton written on my visiting card.
NEAR MRS. POSITIVE are two
hostesses giving party in a few
days. The invitations have all been
answered but three. As this is bridge
for which preliminary arrangements
must be made. how far are We per-
mitted to 60 in finding out something
from these three women?
Answer-The hostess who invited
them should telephone at once for q
definite answer, and If they decline
she should ask others to Ill their
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