The Washington times., 1937-12-23
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Beatrice Fairfax
Famous Authority on Problems Of
Love and Marriage

Copyright, 1887, King Features synoles'e' A"SV
A RE husbands born, not madef
n Is it possible that a married man OF
several years. standing, seemingly well
domesticated husband and father, can sud-
denly discover that after all he's hopeless
bachelor by temperament, and that to bache-
lorhood he must revertY
It's a novel ground for divorce-and such
simple, artless one that it may become popular
It's the ground taken by Ely Culoertson' famous
bridge expert
Mr., culbertson, of course, isn't seeking the di-
,orco TITS Mrs Culbertson who has already gone
to Reno for that purpose. But Mr.. Culbertson,
who is inst as enthusiastic as his wife is over the
nroposed rupture, made public the excellent rea-
sons that she had for asking for her freedom.
NOT DOMESTIC
Chief among these were his "oachelor lnstlnctS'
which, he implies, makes him undepenoaole Is
domestic partner though not at all as or1ose
mariner. for there is not the least intention OF
dissoving the card.playing association, and even
cause him to be none too agreeable to have
around the house.
Now what does this mean?
Well all admit that some men, more than
others, seem marked from childhood to fit into
the "good husband" pattern. Mothers and maiden
aunts moan over the perfections Of such young
men and worry publicly lest they fall into the
clutches of unworthy girls Nature plainly stamps
them the chief prizes in the matrimonial lottery.
But there are not enough of these paragons to
20 around. And what is the difference between
them and the men who either patiently learn
the business of being husband, or coolly aban
don the effort, as Mr.. Culbertson has done2
SUMMARIZED THUS
With all respect for the distinguished bridge
PLAYER, of whose personal characteristics know
nothing 1 would say that the answer often, II
not always, can be boiled down to this:
First-An unsefish man, with moderate opin-
ion of himself, is pretty sure to be good huS-
band and to enjoy his responsibilities as head OF
family.
Second-A man with big ego and an inclina-
ton to be selfish, is likely to be an Indifferent
husband.
The first type of man finds it natural thing
to fall in love and marry. The second type
doesn't want to share public attention with
wife and family. He wants all possible attention
centered ON himself. In other words, even If he
falls in love with charming girl, he still mas
great urge to remain bachelor. any OF you
girls happen to meet him anywhere, don't sue
cumb to him. He wasn't born to be husband.
THEY CAN LEARN
You will probably ask me whether all men WIN
bachelor incnations are animals so wild that they
can't be tanned by clever wives You will wonder
whether men can't learn to be husbands even II
they haven't a natural talent for it. Plenty OF
hoydenish freedomloving girls, you will remind
me, and plenty of coquettes likewise, are trained
by life to be devoted capable wives. Why should
! men be less teachable?
The answer is that men can learn domesticitys
| lessons quite as well as women can. Only they
have to be willing to be taught And in the natural
order of things men do have, think, this W1lnns-
ness. 10,
Don't imagine, however, that many OF them
don't get tired of being dragged about, socially
| by their wives. Or that they don't nate the
| monthly bills. Or that they don't wish the chill
dren would act differently.
But until now, hardly any Of them have realized:
like Mr.. Culbertson, that what they really wanted
was to be bachelor again. It may be q danger.
Gus, home-wrecking idea to set afloat. Wen
have to watch the news from Reno from now on.