Evening star., 1936-05-14

~ EAR MISS DIX: I am a man.
IS, living at home with my
widowed mother, who Is
- middle-aged woman in fine
health and financially independent.
My trouble is that my mother insists
that I must never marry, but must
always stay with her. Every time I
have ever gone with girl she has
had Mysteries over it. Now I am in
love with a splendid young woman
and we want to be married, but when
try to talk the matter over with my
mother she works herself into a pas
sion of fury and cannot abuse the girl
enough. love my mother very much
and want to do everything can to
take care Of her and protect her, but
also love this girl and she loves me.
What can a man who is an only son
do under the circumstances and still
do his duty all around? w. P. L.
Answer-He can act with some
courage and common sense and the
part of a man instead Of a fraidcat
little boy. You can refuse to let a
selfish and tyrannical old woman ruin
your life and that Of your fiancee by
the utterly unreasonable position she
has taken.
Your mother married when she was
young. She had the happiness of
having her own mate, her own home,
her own child. She must have found
these experiences very sweet, since she
clings with such tenacity TO what is
left of them, and that makes it al
most inexplicable that she is willing to
deprieve you of them in order that
her old way Of life may not be broken
| up. Certainly no real mother love
could ask such a sacrifice Of you.
| Nothing but self -centered egotisrl
prompts 1t.
THERE are many Of these possessive
mothers who keep their sons from
marrying and who. instead of being
ashamed of the crime they have COM
mitted. boast of it and make repulsive
jests about being their sons best girls.
Everywhere you can see old bachelors
dancing attendance upon mother,
| trotting her out to symphony con-
certs and the theater and parties
fetching and carrying for her and tied
down to her far more than they
would be to wife. And a pitiable,
bored-looking lot they are, too.
Why any mother should be mean
enough to want to keep her sons from
cause every woman knows that nc
matter how much a man loves his
mother it isn't with the same kind OF
love he gives his wife. nor does her
love take the place of a wife's love
And she knows that every normal man
wants his own home: that he wants
children and that if he is deneid these
his life is never fully rounded out.
No one believes more than do that
children should honor their fathers
and their mothers and show them
every proper respect and considera-
ton. But when parents impose unjust
conditions upon their children anc
demand needless sacrifices of them,
think the children should refuse tt
submit to such tyranny, just as they
would to any other oppression. BeinG
parent gives no one right to wrecl
their children's lives.
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60 MY advice to you is to go on anc
marry your girl, no matter how
much your mother opposes it. Yol
have your duty to the girl and yor
have no right to break her heart BY
jilting her, or wear her out in endless
waiting for your mother to change hel
mind. which she will never do. She
will never let you go. Have no more
arguments with your mother on the
subject. Just step out quietly somt
day and marry the girl and from tht