The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-07-28
WOMAN,S REALM -- Lc
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 Your Children
By Olive Roborts Barton

Children are not Intentionally cruel as individuals. Tn O crowd, however, even of two, they can be perfectly hoartless. Like their elders, they use the opportunity to show off before their buddies.
 At this time of year when fam. flies are visiting friends and rela- lives in far places, or arriving at established resorts and camps, many small stranger is having his vaca- ton spoiled. At the time when he should be happiest, he is having some of the hardest battles of his Cor her) life to fight.
 JOhn IEas Problem
 John arrives ct the inn with his parents and marches into the dine ing room where Q dozen or two other families are half way through with their lunch.
 old timers who have been here ell the way to five or six weeks, some of them. They act as though they had built the place and own- ed cit. Not unpieaSantly 90. Tleces. Sariiy, but their familiarity with each other, the easy knowledge of what to do and what to wear, makes even the adult arrival feel aS though out of it as Q fish in Q desert.
 John is aS stiff as his new col. lar. He sees boys ell about eye- ing him coldiy. IIe is aware that all of them have instantly tele- graphed each other over the wa ter-glasges that here's c greenie and he needn't think he can get in with THEM. He needen't think he can help push the old gcow up the creek to their particular cove or Dc In on their beach fires. Children Feel sIlghts
 These things pass like c flash through the boys mind as Katie, who has been kidding those other boys, puts Q card in front of him and waits for the order. Over ct Mrs. Smiths table, Mrs. Smith is saying to Peter, "Now, Peter, there is Q new boy. He looks nice. See that you let him alone and don't go playing your funny little jokes on him."
 And Mrs. Jones is saying to Teddy, T think you had better speak to the new boy. He must
 After that the matter is pretty well forgotten. John has his own salvation on his hands and he kfOWa ik.
 There ts . difference in places. But I had c pitiful letter from ono mother revealing cruelty beyond belief. They had rented Q cote tage in . mice" place, but the old CafnperS' sons had Eormed Q clos. cd corporation that resented the rather diffident newcomer and conspired to make his life n1iSer- able.
 Put It Plainly
 If I had c son who was 1n such c ring, I should talk turkey to him. And if that didn't do, I'd paddy whack him.
 Naturally, boys, and girls too, are drawn together In different groups, dictated by interests, age and proximity. This Is different. Occasionally the outsider iS alien to ell groups because he himself As c SniSfit and not cut out for any sort of mixing. But this 1 un- usual.
 The child who can, end will, 70 tip to c pergonable newcomer and soy, "TEello," will you % in swimming with us7" iS doing c perfectly wonderful thing. The stranger in turn must do his part and not expect to De one Of the fellows oil ct once, nor be too sen. gitive about imagined sights. And once initiated, hO must not get Snooty himself and wire across the dinlng-room to his cronieS that here comes Q fail guy and ItD need- mt expect to be kissed.
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