Evening star., 1936-02-06
EAR MISS DIX: Do you
think we should marry to
please ourselves or our par
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one Of the finest men in the world
He Is self-made, honest, square, has
q grand sense of humor and a fine
take-everything -on-the-chin attitude.
He has a pleasing personality, a
charming manner and a fine disposi-
ton, and from the first time we met
We have been in love with each other.
But my parents do not wish me to
marry him because they think that
he is not Of as good social position
as am, and because he Is poor. They
are determined that I shall marry a
man they have picked out for me, but
I do not even like this man and I
could never be content with him. I
know I owe a lot to my parents, but
don't believe that should be called
on to give my life and happiness to
them in this manner.
Answer-I fully agree with you, Re-
beccah. It always seems to me that
marriage is the one thing In the
world in which every man and woman
Is entitled to his or her own indi-
Wdual choice. The success of a mar
riage doesn't depend upon the kind
Of husband or wife you get, but
whether you get the sort Of one you
want.
NOTHING else is so purely matter
of personal taste as husbands and
wives and it Is no more to be argued
with than whether you prefer your
beefsteak with or without onions,
or sugar or lemon in your tea. One
you relish and the other you loathe,
but you have no idea of why in either
case.
A husband may have every virtue
under the sun. He may be moral
and upright, domestic, generous and
kind, but If. he isn't Just the type
Of man that hits q woman's fancy,
she win be unhappy with him and
peevish and discontented, no matter
how good he Is to her. And, on the
contrary, she can spend her life bliss
fully adoring a husband who has a
million faults If he has just the one
peculiar quality that she Graves in
her mate.
It, is especially important that
men should marry the sort Of women
they prefer because 1t is the only
thing that keeps them domesticated.
A man who has q caviar taste in
women Is never satisfied with q bread
and-butter wife. Nor Is a man who
prefers corned beef and cabbage con-
tent with the wife who feeds him on
highly seasoned dishes. Most Of the
married couples who make each other
so miserable are perfectly good men
and women who would have made
some other women and men happy.
Their only trouble was that they didn't
suit each other.
OF COURSE, parents always think
they know what Is best for their
children and that they could make a
far wiser choice for John and Mary
than the children can possibly make
for themselves. Mother Is sure that
John would be far happier married
10 the sensible girl next door who Is
so kind to her grandfather, and who
has o nice bit Of money, than he
will be married to some hibberty-
yibbety girl who doesn't know how to
boil eggs and who hasn't q second
dress to her back. Father is sure
that 1t would be far better for Mary
10 marry q settled widower who can
give her q good home and q car and
to wait on her than it win
be for her to marry some poor boy
for whom she viii have to work and
with whom she will have to scuf1e
along.
But the parents are wrong In this.
they can't Judge for their children,
Al - 49,