Evening star., 1936-10-14
nusua Season Greatly Affected Years Honey Crop
Youth
CreditWhen
Justly Due
Letter From Sixteen
Year-Old Echoes
Problem of Many.
BY ANGELO PATRI.

ct AM q girl over Is, in the senior
l class in high school. I get good
marks and my teachers seem to think
well Of me. But can't get along
with my parents. Nothing do suits
INV mother. She always wants me to
be q little bit brighter, stand little
higher in class, shine more than I
do in company. II is never. You
did well,' but, Why didn't you DO
better7'
with my father 1t Is even worse.
He thinks do nothing right. He
thinks I ought to study until 10
o'clock. II you studied harder, he
says, you would get A instead OF B
plus. II you practiced longer you
could play better. You ought to help
your mother more. Why don't you
do the cleaning for her instead OF play
ing?'
IT do all I can. I work hard at
nv lessons. I keep my room in order
and I help whenever I can. But 1t
makes no difference. If talk to
boy for five minutes there Is terrible
storm. I cannot answer boy II ne
makes the mistake of calling me on
the telephone. But when my friends
70 to parties and am not asked they
both, father and mother, ask what
I have done to be left out like that.
They are certain that have done
something discreditable or this would
not happen. They never think that
1t Is their fault, that by trying to
please them, to keep peace even.
have shut myself OF from the other
young people. How can manage
such parents?"
I don't know. II looking glad won't
please them certainly looking sad won't
help. II working hard doesn't win
their approval, what can one do? II
possible do as near right as sound
Judgment permits and then go ahead.
Some parents are so anxious about
their children that they fret for good
and for i'll alike When that happens
the only thing for the children to do
Is to try their best to please them and
still keep cheerful and happy and
active in their groups.
As q usual thing when a child has
shown himself responsible for his own
behavior. when he shows good judg-
ment and sound sense, they allow him
to 20 his way without any further
protest. One can understand a par
ents anxiety when child proves
himself untrustworthy time after
= time. But when an intelligent child
discovers that he Is still treated as
though he were q fumbling Infant,
well, he Is entitled to protest.
A child should be allowed to be as
crown up as he Is. The measure Of
his maturity is his behavior. If he
behaves with reasonable appreciation
Of adult standards it Is enough. We
cannot expect young people to have
the same feeling of caution and even
apprehension about the consequences
Of their actions as adults may have.
Youth must experiment, risk safety,
dare adventure on occasion II ma
turity Is to have the quality Of strength
1t needs. Strength never comes by
retreating from temptations. by re-
fusing risks, Sinking difficulties.
Strength comes by trial and error
and trial and success. An error must
be followed by another trial and sue
cess If there Is to be growth.
In short. youth must live out its
apprenticeship to life, and it is better
for parents to hide their fears and
put on cheerful, smiling face while
their young ones make their first fee
bic flaps toward the horizon. Don't
make your children worry about you.
They have enough worrying to do for
themselves.