Evening star., 1936-10-20

~ EAR MISS DIX: Our club OF
girls has been debating the
following questions. Will
- you be kind enough to give
us your views on them? First. Does
the average man like girls to be
feminine in their dress and conduct?
Second. When a man tells girl he
loves her and she has reasons to
doubt it, is it better for her to tell
him Of her doubts or pretend to be-
lieve him? Third. Is it necessary to
keep q man guessing to retain his
love? Fourth. Is it true that the
harder a girl is to kiss the more man
wants to kiss her? Fifth. Does a
boy like a girl to have the womanly
virtues such as purity, modesty, etc?
Sixth. Does the girl who speaks, acts
and dresses immodestly make the hit
she thinks she does with men?
Seventh. How long should a boy
court a girl before being permitted to
kiss her? MISS T. A.
Answer-First. Femininity is always
a girls best bet with the average man.
Only sissy men are attracted to girls
who try to make imitation men of
themselves. 1t is because they are
opposites that the sexes appeal to
each other One chiffon dress will
get more dates than a store full of
shorts. The women who can marry
as often as they choose have fem
ininity raised to the nth power.
Second. The answer to this ques-
tion is: "Oh, yeah" That leaves
it up in the air and puts the man on
the defensive. In this matter of a
mans veracty in love-making it is
neither wise TO tell him he is a liar,
or call his bluff, or let him believe
that he has put something over on
you. Let him see you doubt it and
that will force him to prove his state
ment.
Third. No hard and fast rule can be
given on this subject. You have to
deal with the individual man accord
ing to his nature. Some men have to
be kept guessing in order to keep their
interest alive, but there are other men
to whom nothing appeals SO much as
the certainty that woman loves
them. Some men lose interest in the
love chase as soon as they win a
woman. Other men love a woman the
more just from the fact that she be-
longs to them.
Fourth. Virtually always. The
thing a man hasn't got is what he
most desires. 1t is the apple that is
highest on the tree that a man risks
his neck to get, while he turns away
from the one that is ready to drop
into his mouth.
Fifth. If he has any intention of
marrying her, yes. II he is Just out
for a good time, he likes them as wild
as they come. But, no matter what
a man is himself, the woman whom
he reveres and whom he hopes some
day to marry he wants to have purity,
modesty, tenderness, sweetness, gentle
ness.
Sixth. No. have never seen man
who wasn't disguised with a drunken
girl, or who liked to hear one tell filthy
stories. or who liked to see one in
decently dressed in public.
Seventh. 1t used to be that a girl
gave her first kiss to a man when he
popped the question and she said yes. -
Now every boy expects a kiss as pay
for taking a girl to the movies. so the
kiss has lost all of its significance.
1t has no more thrill to 1t than hand
clasp.
DEAR DOROTHY DIX-You say
in effect. that If a husband wants good
food his wife should give him good
food. If he wants kind words and ap-
probation, his wife should give him
kind words and appreciation. If he
wants peace and quiet at home, then
he should have peace and quiet. In
short, 1t is your contention that if a
husband wants to be a tyrant and q
bully, his wife should let him be q
tyrant and bully, no matter what the
cost may be. And you call this saving
marriage! I call it simply wife max
ing a doormat Of herself for her hus-
band. Why shouldn't the husband do
a few things to keep the marriage from
being a failure? Isn't marriage a fifty
fifty proposition? would fall from my
chair If ever read an article of yours
in which you take the woman's side
of the question. MRS. M. B.
Answer: Well, If my articles urging
husbands to do their share toward
making their marriages a success have
that effect on you, you must be black
and blue from the many falls you have
had, or else you skipped them, for