The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-04-18


 financial position of the young htls- band.
 There is no time in life when a man needs cooperation in economy, than the first five years of married life. Take the average young man. He holds a fairly good job, paying approximately thirty-five or forty dollars.
 He paid the expenses of honey moon: he furnished small apart ment on credit; If he is conscien- tious, he has taken out additional insurance on himself, and all the while he is paying the running ex- penses of the new household.
 Just when things are running smoothly, meeting the many part payments on household equipment, along comes some holiday, a family birthday or some such function. Of course, the adoring little wife wants to keep up with family traditions, and is anxious to make big show ing before the folks.
 She insists on making grand present; or doing something un- usual in entertaining. and right here is where the budget system of the new household goes to smash. It is only the experienced wife, who looks back to the many times when she might have spared her husband those extra expenses, 1t is she who begs young newlyweds to resist this temptation to splurge in early life. For the first five years, there should not be Christmas gift, nor birth day nor any of those extravagant affairs which are always bobbing up just when the family exchequer shows profitable results of budgeting the income.
 When a man marries his troubles need not begin, if the bride restraints her impulse and enthusiasm to make grand showing for her husband.
 Dear Miss Vail: I'm coming to you a very downhearted young man, who for the past weeks has been watching your column and have seen how so many single and married couples have been helped through your advice. So I have gotten up courage to write to you a problem which may seem small to you, but to me very large. It all happened three years ago. met a young lady whom fell in love with, and who in return, showed me her affection. Every thing went fine and we were very happy, until few months ago, when we were forcibly parted. Her parents were the cause of our separation, due to the fact that I was unemployed for quite a few years, except for odd jobs. She was unable to see me secret ly, no matter how she tried. It seemed someone always knew and would report to her family before she arrived home, which of course made 1t very hard for both of us. But we always kept up uor cOur- age and we won. Today I am working steady and we're back together again, but the problem is this:
 Before we separated we were very much in love, and during our seperation I grew to love her more. I have asked her hand in marriage and she answered "Yes", but she always wants to delay. Since we're together again she seems so different. I give her all can afford and then some. Now, man whose been used to lot of affection in the past expects little now and then. But she re- fufses always. Her affections are cold; when I speak of marriage she changes the subject. and in the presence of other young peo- pie, she avoids me. love her in- mensely, but due to her reactions I'm troubled. Every time visit her, she insists that we be with the parents. Whoever can stand that without kicking is beyond me, etc, etc. Signed,