Evening star., 1936-06-25
\ EAR MISS DIX: I have been
4 married for three months to
j a mothers boy. We started
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mothers boy. We started
out fine. We bought nice
new furniture and set up house.
keeping for ourselves and for the
first week we were happy. Then he
couldn't live without her. I thought
that he would get over his hcmesick-
ness, but, no matter how hard try
to make things pleasant for him, he
still wants to go back to mother. And
now he says he doesn't love me any
more. He loves only mother. I told
him that If this was the case we had
better break up housekeeping and he
could go to his home and I'd go to
mine, but he complains that this will
make q scandal, and that the only
way out Is for him to commit suicide
Please tell me, Miss Dix, what should
do. I love him and am willing to
sacrifice my happiness for his.
MRS r. N.
Answer-Your husband is a patho-
logical case and you should take him
at once to some good psychiatrist and
let science clarity his muddled emo
tions. Perhaps psychiatrist can
make him see that the two loves,
the love of mother and wife, do not
conflict, but each has its place in a
well-ordered life
In the meantime go to your moth
er-in-law and have frank talk with
her. She is the key to the whole
situation. Make her realize that her
sons excessive affection for her is
not only Wrecking his happiness, but
Is driving him insane. and ask her
to cut her apron string and set him
free.
If SHE has courage enough to do
this and to make her son realize
that his life no longer centers about
her. but about his wife, and that
his greatest love should be given to
his wife instead of to her, and
especially II she has wisdom to shut
up her house and go away for a
while, so that there will be no moth
er's home to 60 to and no mother to
run to with tale of everything that
has happened to him, all will be we'll.
He will learn to do without mother
and to depend upon you for the baby
ing that mother gave him. He will
come to think of the house he has
set up as his home and begin to take
an interest in it. In a word, he
will get weaned. And he will find
that all of his love for you has
come back.
The reason that he thinks now that
he has ceased to love you is because
his love for his mother is fighting
against his love for you. and somehow
whichever one is away from him has
the strongest claim upon him. If he
should 60 back to his mother, he
would die for love of you.
But what crime a woman COM
mits when she fosters a mother COM
plex in her son! Yet many women
do it. They are so anxious to be all
in all to their sons that they monopo-
lize them. they spoil them, they en-
slave them they never let them grow
up, they keep them dependent on
| them, they never let them walk alone
or stand on their own feet. And. in
reality, Mammals petted, white-haired
darling never grows to mans estate
He remains a perpetual little boy.
Fortunately. Mothers darling gen.
orally refrains from marrying because
he never finds anybody just like
Mother to marry, but, when he does
marry. he is unhappy and discontented
and makes his wife miserable.
lDEAR DOROTHY DIX-What at
titude is it possible to take toward
old people whose ideas seem ugly and
wrong to us and yet who are tied to
us by bonds of blood or marriage? The
Bible says: Honor thy father and
mother" yet I have found that the
hardest of all the commandments to
obey. Our minds expand by studying
and reading and contact With life,
while the minds of the old are static.
How can one honor an outmoded,
narrow and intolerant point of view?
How can one honor a censoriouS atti-
tude and mind that refuses new ideas?
I have obeyed the command to honor
my parents, and the unuttered retort,
the meek silence and polite attention
for long. drawn-out dull period have
been a veritable torture. 1t seemed
the only course at the time, yet ]
wonder now whether it was wise.
MRS. H. C. L.
Answer-Every kindly act is more
than wise 1t is a benediction that
blesses those that give and those that
receive. and I am sure that the knowl-