Evening star., 1936-12-31

- prospects OF soon getting
Job. My problem is this: am des-
perately in love with girl, but hesi-
tate to tell her about my feelings be-
cause am not in a position to marry
her. I think she likes me and am
going crazy wondering whether she
does or not The only way can find
out is by asking her. What should I
do? A PUZZLED LOVER.
Answer-Ask her by all means. If
she loves you, as she probably does,
1t will ease the anxiety that she feels
as to your sentiments. It Is wearing
and heart-breaking experience for a
girl to 60 through wondering whether
q man cares for her or not. and
whether he comes to see her because
he is enamored of her or of her
mothers cooking. Many girl has
wished she had a divining rod or
something with which to test out the
sentiments of the lad who was always
hanging around her but who never got
to anything more personal in his con-
versation than the state of the weather
or the political situation.
And, at any rate, even if she doesn't
love you every girl is pleased and fat
tered by having man fall for her and
tell her SO. You needn't think that
you hurt any James feeling by hand
ing her out a mess of solf talk. She
will just gobble it up.
OF course, it is easy to understand
why q man feels that he shouldn't
tell girl he loves her until he is
in a position to name the wedding
day. But that is carrying chivalry
so far it leans over backward and often
harms the woman it is intended to
protect. When a man loves woman
and thinks she loves him, she should
at least be given an opportunity to
wait for him if she thinks he is worth
it. Many man loses the woman he
wants by not speaking out in time.
BY his silence he leads her to believe
his attentions are without intentions
and so she marries some good honest
fellow who is her opportunity instead
of her preference. Options on hearts
are as good an investment in love as
they are in business.
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nEAR MISS DIX: I am a married
man. MY wife is more than 20
years my junior. She insists on serv-
ing breakfast in bed every morning
and on dressing and undressing me
and in putting on and taking off my
shoes. If give her money to buy
things for herself she buys something
for me with it. She denies herself to
lavish luxuries on me. She does not
want me to work. I have had several
heart attacks, but have always been
an active man who has made and
lost several fortunes. I like to work
and it is my disposition to want to
look out for myself. What would be
your advice in case like this BOB.
Answer-Are you sure you are not
seeing things and that the kind Of
tion? I, myself, have never heard Of
such a creature and find it difficult to
believe that she exists and so, lacking
all experience with dealing with what
must be the ideal wife Of every mans
dream, can only suggest that you
thank Heaven for your blessing. Or
else put her IN museum. where other
husbands could take their wives to
see her. DOROTHY DIX.
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nEAR MISS DIX: Would you ad-
wise a girl to marry a man while
being in love with another man?
Could she find happiness in such a
union? The first man has better
qualities than the second. but the
girl is content only when with the
second man. MARCIA.
ANSWER-Certainly not. Such
marriage could bring a girl nothing
but misery and disaster of an un-
congenial marriage, because the secret
Of happiness in marriage consists in
having got your hearts desire and
being satisfied with your husband or
wife.
A great many people seem to think
that marriage Is an automatic cure
for an old love; that there Is some
magic in the marriage ceremony that
changes q persons tastes and affec-
tions and inspires them with love for
the one they marry. Nothing could
be farther from the truth. II a man
or woman is not in love before mar
riage there Is small chance of their
falling in love with their husband or
wife after marriage. When they see
each other at close range and have
to put up with the clash of different
personalities that marriage inevitably
brings about, only love can soften
those blows and keep a man and