Evening star., 1936-07-10
Requisites
And Duty of
Thank You Note to
Doctor Refusing
Invitation.
BY EMILY POST.

DEAR MRS. POST: find myself
with life more than half over,
husband gone, my only child Just
married, not especially trained and
with very little money. The outlook
sounds dismal However, I have been
well educated and have travelled a
great deal and believe that with this
background perhaps might make an
ideal companion fer some elderly lady,
| let's say, who finds herself alone, too,
but who has more money than I viii
| OF companion? And what type Of
clothes must she have?
Answer-Her duties cannot very
well be set down, because they vary
with individual requirements. One
lady likes continually to travel and
merely wants companion CASUALLY
a poor relative or friend) to go with
| her. Another, who is semi i-invalid
never leaves her room and the duties
Of her companion are almost those Of
trained nurse. The average re-
| quirement is in being personally agree
able, tactful, intelligent and COM
| panionablel A companion dresses as
/ any other lady doeS-according 10 the
occasion, her personal taste, her age
and her means.
Dear Mrs. Post: Our family physi-
clan testified in my fathers behalf at
an accident case that was fought in
Il q oh
lost the case. But the fact neverthe-
less. remains that the doctor, who is
busy person, had TO give the better
part of several days to our interests.
He is not a personal friend but took
care of father for weeks after the
| accident. We have paid this fee, but
| he has not sent us bill for his court
| services. Will you please tell US what
We ought TO do?
Answer-Having already sent you =
bill for his professional services. he
evidently does not expect to send you
Cne for his time in court. Had you
won your case I am sure he would have
cone So) In your place, I would,
under the circumstances, write him a
note thanking him for all his kind
neSSes.
Dear Mrs. Post: One Of my less in
innate friends has asked me to a small
party at her house and accepted the
invitation. Now I've Just learned that
on that same evening my family is
giving surprise birthday anniversary
party for my sister and naturally I
should like to be at home. Is there
any way can refuse the first invita-
tion. since you have said only for
really serious reasons is such o thing
possible.
Answer-The only thing you can do
is call the person up and explain tina
your family has arranged this party
at home and are depending upon you
to help. OF course, it is very obviou
that your house has plenty Of peop,e
to take care Of the details. then there
will be no excuse for your remainu
at home and you will have to 60 u
your friends party.
Dear Mrs. Post: My daughter
Just 81, but very self-rehant al
capable of taking care of hersel
However. would like to find a slitab,e
chaperon to accompany her to Eng
land-either one who is willing u
travel with her alone or who is takinc
group Of young people whom she car
join. As time is limited will you tel
me how such a reliable person is tc
be found?
Answer-The best thing I know
would be to apply to a reliable travel
bureau, particularly one whose per
sonal service is conducted, as is often
the case, by a woman of known social
position.
CCopyright. 1936O