Evening star., 1936-10-16
Dorothy Dix Says
To Be Happy, Woman Should Under
stand the Man That She Marries.

has studied her husband and got his
numbers knows all the answers to the
riddle to which she is married and
how to play upon his vanities and
weaknesses, his sympathies and ten
dernesses, as upon . harp with q
thousand strings.
IF WOMEN understood their hus-
bands they would save themselves
q lot of grief by not taking them too
seriously and thinking there was some
dark and sinister motive behind every
thing husbands did and said. They
would know that men belong to the
impulsive sex that acts upon impulse
and never means more than a tenth
of what it says and half Of what 1t
does.
1t is positively ghastly to contem-
plate the sufferings women endure
just because they have not had the
intelligence to study their husbands
enough to find out the manner Of
men to whom they are married. There
are millions of wives whose hearts
are broken by what they think is their
husbands indifferences to them. They
think their husbands have ceased to
love them because they do not pour
out upon them passionate VOWS Of
devotion and tell them how wonder
full and beautiful they are when all
that is the matter with the poor men
Is that they are dumb love makers.
They are saying it with beefsteaks in
stead of orchids and their wives
haven't sense enough to understand
them.
II wives understood their husbands
better they would not get their feel
ings hurt so badly every time hus-
bands came home grouchy and grumpy
and kicked Fido and spanked the
baby and grunted by way of answer
when he was spoken to. Instead of
dissolving into tears or making q
snappy comeback about what they
thought of man who acted like
brute at home, they would hurry up
the dinner and leave the poor badgered
soul in peace, until he was fed and
rested and his taut nerves had relaxed.
4 \ \ II
THEY would know that there was
nothing personal in his attitude
and his conduct was no indication
that he did not adore his wife and
children. 1t was just the reaction
from a day of toll and anxiety that
had taxed him to the limit. and home
was Just a safety valve where he
could blow of all the irritahility he
dared not show his boss. or his Gus
toners and clients.
If wives understood their husbands
they would know that no matter how
big and strong and successful they
are, they all crave love and tender
ness and appreciation. They all want
some woman to baby them and talk
nonsense to them and tell them that
they are the "boofest fing on earth,
and mothers tootsy wootsy." Ninety
nine per cent Of the husbands who go
astray never start to wandering until
their wives begin calling them Papa
and giving all OF their petting to the
baby.
If women would only study their
husbands they would find out such
lot of things that would make life
easier for them, and keep them out Of
the divorce court. They would learn
that every man has the head-of-the-
house complex and that II a wife will
Just let him crow little he will let
her rule the roost That when he
complains about her extravaganza he
generally only wants her to make q
fuss over what he gives her and to tell
him how lucky she feels to have such
q good provider for husband.
And If she will only laugh of her
husbands faults instead of lecturing
him about them he will be eternally
grateful to her. Most Of all she will
find out that no man ever really grows
up. Somewhere In him still lives the
little boy who Is bound to play hockey
now and then and who wants his wife
to deal with him as his mother did
when he was naughty spank him and
forgive him. kias him and forget y.