Evening star., 1936-10-24
Few Timely
Quest tions
Answered
Etiquette Hints for
Young College
Girls.
BY EMILY POST.

NEAR MRS. POST: Several OF us,
who have just come to college
this year, would like to check up on
Just what is best to say and do under
certain circumstances. Will you please
explain about the following:
(1) On accepting an invitation and
at the conclusion of the evening. are
the actual words, thank you" used
or only implied in what is said?
A.-To a hostess you say. Thank
you for asking me" or Thank you for
a very pleasant evening" To a boy
YOU need not say thank you in those
two words, although this is really
the polite thing to say. don't un-
derstand why so many girls seem to
feel that showing ordinary apprecia-
ton of boys kindness is belittling.
However, If you prefer you need only
say, i've enjoyed the dance" or "the
play" or whatever it was he took
you to.
CD When a boy asks, May I
have this dance?" what is the girls
answer?
A.-Either I'm sorry. this one is
TAKEN" or neutrality-suspicious.
upon circumstances.
90 When a boy thanks girl for
the dance, what does the girl reply?
A.-"Thank you," or she merely
looks at him and smiles. Or if she
is a spontaneous type of person. and
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ably tells him that the dance was
wonderful or that she always likes
to dance with him, or whatever else
is natural to her at the moment.
ca Over the telephone, what does
one say to people who say, Thank
you for calling?"
A.-"You're welcome" if it was for
real service you gave, Or Il was so
glad to find you in" if you called an
old friend whom you hadn't spoken
to for long while. Or perhaps you
say nothing but good-by if the Thank
you" seemed more or less punctilious
expression.
60 In getting into car, does the
girl actually take the nearest seat
and let the boy crawl over her? Or
is he supposed to 60 around the car?
A.-This depends upon the car. If
you sit in front, with boy who is
driving his own car, he goes around
to the drivers side. If you are sit
ting on the back seat with him, choose
whichever side you think will save
the toes of your slippers The custom
of seating "a lady on the right" is
not important today in America, and
especially not to people your age, un-
less. perhaps, you have lived abroad.
co. When asking to have some
thing repeated. what is less formal
than Il beg your pardon?"
Aim sorry, didn't hear" or
I'm sorry. will you tell me again?"
explained this fully in this column
recently.
nEAR MRS. POST: My daughter has
- been abroad studying for several
years, and has only lately returned
home to live with us again. We are
planning to ask a number of our friends
in soon on our twenty y-fifth wedding
anniversary day, and wonder whether
our daughter may receive with us. II
so, is she included in the invitations
we are sending?
Answer. Under ordinary circum-
stances mother and father would
send out cards with the daughters
name engraved beneath their own
But in this particular case, since your
daughter is not celebrating her own
anniversary, the card with the two
dates 1911-1936 should include your
and your husbands names alone. and
your daughters visiting card be in
closed in the envelope. At the party
she of course receives with you.
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