The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1936-01-13

and claims to have had a chance
to work in the White House. What
would you do? Change your ways
or remain as you are? I'll have just
as many friends if stay as I am,
SO why change? A. R.
AnSwer-It is not wise for any
body to act a part foreign to his
nature in order to please another.
In fact it can't be done, permanent
ly. In the early stages of love it is
natural for each of the lovers to re-
press that part of the personality
which is displeasing to the other
and show only the traits which find
favor in the eyes of the beloved.
But sooner or later when the
glamour is over and the two settle
down to the routine Of living to-
gether, the repressed qualities
will out in one form or another.
1t is evident that this young man
is not attracted to what you are so
much as what he wants you to be.
My guess is that he is in revolt
against a too-indulgent mother and
wants more daring, reckless, less
yielding personality. 1t is not so
much that he wants you to drink
and smoke as it is that he wants
you to be different from his mother.
He has confused drinking and
smoking with adventure and chal-
lenge, whereas the two have little
to do with other. Many extremely
conservative women both drink and
smoke in moderation, and many adj
venturous women care nothing for
either.
The real reason why you should
avoid the bother of adjusting
yourself to this lads ideas lies in
the fact that he has no occupa-
ton. He is tied to his parents
who have enthroned him since in
fancy and gains his prestige by
idle Boosting.
His ability to cooperate with
others is very low, which makes him
a difficult friend and an impossible
husband.
Dear Jane Jordan-I went with a
fellow for almost a year. We had
grand time together He was at
my house very often and instead of
growing tired 1 liked him better.
Then he made demands which
could not fulfill and hurt his vanity
so much he stopped coming. have
gone with other boys but couldn't
forget. Then he started coming
around more often than before.
still like him lot, so much that l
am afraid. He is on my mind con-
stantly. Something must be done.
Please advise me what other plan
I may put to use to forget him.
RESTLESS.
Ancwer-The only way you can
crowd one idea out Of your mind is
to replace it with others.
If you had an all absorbing
task, an interesting occupation,
multitude of friends, consuming
ambition, or more demands of any
kind on your time, you would have
less opportunity to weave disturb
ing phantaSies around this boy.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am 20 years
old and have had nothing but dis
appointments. I have gone with
three fellows and each one cheated
on me while was being fair and
square. Now have had some dates
with a fellow who is my ideal. I
get nervous every time I see him
or hear him coming.
I'm in love with him but have
not told him. He has another girl,
but is with me most of the time.
He tells me I am different from
other girls he has gone with and
that I am a lady. Should I tell
him I love him or wait till I find
out which girl he chooses?
PUZZLED ME-
Answer-Let him make the first
expression of love. 1t is mistake
to allow yourself to become over
anxious.
Nothing causes a sutton to take
wings more quickly. AS long as you
admire him as much as you do and
let him know it, I imagine you are
coming along fine.