Evening star., 1936-07-16

for two people who really love
each other to become some
- what tired of each other dur
ing a period of nine months steady
company? I've been going with a
man whom I am sure I love, yet his
company has become slightly irksome
at times. ! asked him the other night
If he didn't think we were getting tired
of each other, and he replied, Il won-
der If am not slowing down bit?"
What shall I do? Shall break few
dates? We see each other Wednes-
days, Saturday afternoons and all day
Sundays. Do we see too much of
each other? We are not engaged. He
is "a and a lawyer. I am 81 and
teacher Of art. I want to get married.
He probably senses that and he is
afraid OF marriage. I feel that things
are dragging and that I must make
1t clear that don't intend to teach
all my life, and II he isn't interested.
some one else might be. know he
breads making a mistake and also
possibly breads the boredom of mar
riage MARGARET.
AnsWer-There is no such antidote
for love as for an enamoured couple
TO give each other overdoses of their
society. Any two persons, no matter
how much they think they care for
each other, are sure TO get fed up on
each other If they are together too
much. That appears TO be what has
happened to you and the young man
in question, and the remedy indicated
is for you to part for a while and see
what will happen and If your interest
in each other will not revive.
You say you are together all day
Sunday. That is certainly put
ting love TO an acid test. Personally,
can think of nothing more horrible
and boring or that puts such a strain
upon any one as to have to spend a
whole. long, weary, neyer-endlng day
with any one whom one either had to
entertain or be entertained by. 1t re-
quireS mental agility, resourcetulneSS,
conversational ability, energy and an
endurance that are practically super
human, and when you add to this
having to keep love making at the
boiling point. it becomes an ordeal
under which the strongest may be for
given for throwing up their hands
and quitting.
If you will cut out the gloomy Sun
day business and just have a couple
of dates in the evenings during the
week, with perhaps Sunday evening
thrown in for good measure. I think
you will see that the mans arder
will revive.
YOU may ask how you and the man
will stand each others company
after marriage if you get bored With
each other before marriage. But that
is an entirely different proposition.
Before marriage all that sweethearts
have to talk about is the state Of their
affections and that gets little eooey
and sticky after time. but a hus-
band and wife have a million topics
of interest to discuss because they
have everything in common. Also,
the husband and wife do not have to
keep up appearances and always be
on their best behavior, nor do they
have to make conversation and try to
keep each other amused. The most
blessed thing about marriage is that
a man and woman who love each
other don't have to talk. They can
Just sit and read a whole evening
through and feel that they are in
constant communion.
But if your young man is as afraid
of marriage as you say he is he doesn't
look like very sure thing. 1t seems
to me you would be wise to be casting
your eye around for a more likely
prospect However. a determined
woman can generally drag a man to
the altar if she has made up her mind
to do so.
DEAR MISS DIX have darling
baby months old. Our finances
are very low and barely give us the
necessities of life. have a good job
waiting for me that I would like to
take, but I do not know whether it
would be right for me to do so. I
would like nothing so much as to stay
at home and take care of the baby, but
if I do I cannot give her the things
she needs. What is the intelligent
thing for me to do? In the end, will it
be better for me to give her the ma
terial things in life and good educa-
ton, or be with her every minute now
while she is an infant? I most GER
tainly want to do what is best for her
and myself and husband. My baby
has given me new ambition and I'd
love to work for her if it will be the
urieo thino tn do n F. II