Evening star., 1936-07-25
Concerning
Vacation
Problems S
Touring With Friends.
Staying at Hotel
by Ones Self.
BY EMILY POST.

BY EMILY POST.
DEAR MRS. POST: am young
man almost Is and would like to
tour the West for several weeks with a
young woman about my age and her
aunt. Both are rather new friends Of
mine They own the car and would
drive for them if you think the al
rangement respectable looking.
Answer: Nothing could seem more
proper than the situation you have
described.
Dear Mrs Post: am getting several
weeks vacation from my office, but my
fiance-Who works in a town about
100 miles distant-gets none He would
like me to spend part of my vacation
where we could see each other often.
Mother does not think it would look
well for me to go and stay in hotel
alone, but unfortunately there is no
one who could go with me at that time,
and as he is a stranger in the town
where he is working, there are no
friends for me to stay with. What do
you think about it?
Answer: This is one of those ques-
tions that really hate to answer, be-
cause it is not so much question of
rule as of individual behavior. II you
both behave with perfect propriety, /
see no reason why you can't stay at
the hotel and why he can't 60 there
to see you.
Dear Mrs. Post: When I was very
young my father died and I have nat
urally considered my stepfather as my
real parent But I carry the name ol
my real father, which Is different from
my mothers present name. At times
this is very confusing to my new
friends and a little awkward to me
For example, I introduce my parents
as my mother and father and ther
later unsuspecting friends call them
Mr.. and Mrs. My-name. I have tried
to think of an introduction that will
get around this confusion, but
haven't as yet formulated one.
Answer: Why not introduce them
This is my mother and my STEP
father" and after a slight pause, add
"Mr. Blank? There is nothing oppro-
brious about the term apparent, and
certainly 1t would be more enlightening
to strangers.
Dear Mrs. Post: Recently I read an
announcement of an engagement in
the newspaper, and at the end it said
mo cards" What did this mean?
Answer: I haven't the vaguest idea
but would be interested to hear
should you find any one who does
know.
Dear Mrs. Post: Is it considered
improper to serve a dessert in the
fancy individual dishes in which il
was nodded?
Answer don't quite understand
this question. A dessert like pot au
creme is always served in its little
earthenware pot, as is any other small
individual custard. Is this what you
meant?
Dear Mrs. Post: One of the women
in my afternoon bridge club argued
that it is incorrect to put both the
fork and the spoon needed for the
salad and dessert, which we always
serve after our meetings, at the right
of the place. She says that the fork
should be put at the left and the
spoon at the right. It seems SO i'm
practicable to me, when the fork is
obviously to be used only in the
right hand and I think it unduly
fuSsy to say one way is more correct
than another when all the prepara-
tions are so simple. What is your
opinion?
Answer-When fork Is put at the
place, it must 60 on the left. But,
according to etiquette, salad is not
served in the afternoon, followed by
dessert. The only correct between
meal afternoon food is afternoon tea
and for tea no individual places are
set. However, if you follow the con-
ventions Of either lunch or dinner
table setting, the salad should be
accompanied by a fork and silver
bladed salad knife and the dessert
should have a fork and dessert spoon,
both on the plate. not on the table.
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Dear Mrs. Post: Is 1t better to use
a punch bowl to serve an iced tea at
a large party than a silver service?
Answer-n it is really iced tea,
without fruit or punch in it. it should
be served in all glass pitchers. If it
can be called punch, then bowl and
ladle and little glass punch cups are
better.
(copyrisht. 1861