The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-06-05


 tears of regret and disappointment gave vent to her mood, as slowly she stepped down to the living room. Something had to happen. She was sick of this situation. Spending the whole day with the dull routine of the household, and the care of the child. She had her friends, yes; but she longed for the society of the man she married; the husband for whom she had given up her career, and cut herself of from her rela- tives. Was that too much to askP Her letter follows:
 Dear Miss Vail: No doubt my letter will seem selfish to you, be- cause most of you c0lumnists seem to take the mans side Tn any situation. But I'm Q married woe man for six years with good hus- band, and . darling boy of four. But I am lonesome. After being home alone all day, my husband thinks am nagging him. when object to him spending almost every evening way. He claims to spend the time with the boys downtown. He doesn't drink, and he is ok. in every other way. But that does not make it any more pleasant for me, left home alone every night. Of late, \ am getting suspicious of him. When ! try to amuse myself with the other girls or reading, find myself detached from them in my thoughts of where is he, and with whom? Miss Vail, what do you advise me to do to alter this situation in my mar rled life? Thank you. l.. F.
 Mrs. l.. F. Before tackling your domestic problem I must tell you that we columnists do not mean to side with men, in particular. But 1t 50 often falls to the lot of the wo- man in the case, to work out and think out the problems of everyday life, that we direct our advice most ly to the feminine side of the diffi- culty.
 Now regarding your loneliness, you are one of many in the same situation. There is only one way to handle that problem, and at the same time, preserve peace in the home. I know of no better solution than to become deeply interested in some hobby, profession or a business job. There's nothing like an outside interest to take your mind from the habits of your husband. With put question, the humdrum of is bound to make any woman dependent on her husband for his attentions and undivided company in the evening. On the other hand, he has been away all day, and longs for the company Of the boys downtown for stimulation. It is only natural that in your lim- tied surroundings, you nurture thoughts of suspicion. To the busi- ness woman, the goings and com ings of her husband are just little incidentals in her busy life. If she combines homemaking with her job, her time is too full to notice these habits. Of course not every woman has the opportunity to take job but she can resume contacts with her former life to great ex- tent. That is your only solution in this problem. Then too, perhaps if you join a Bridge Club, and enter tain at home, you might give your husband the stimulation of the com pany of his men friends, and enjoy his society ct home, both at the same time. Don't be suspicious, Unless you have grounds to think otherwise, just remember that men stick together before and after mar riage. And marriage is just an in- cident in the life of a man; where as 1t is life itself to us women. That is the difference. Tn closing I will repeat my formula of taking up some outside interest. If not a busi- ness career, then a hobby. If you can paint, go to 1t: If you can write ell the better. Happiness comes from your own heart and mind, and it's up to you to bring it out.
 VITA VAIL.
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 Vita Wall, care of Waterbury
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