The Washington times., 1936-05-29
Beatrice Fairfax Says Girls Rebel at Being Nice to All
Etiquette
Write Note of
Appreciation

Dear Mrs. Breeckman:
Zone Of my girl friends tnti-
mate friends secured me . position
as a clerk in a local store, which
1 was very grateful for, but week
ago 1 was offered a better position,
which l accepted.
81 would like to know II it
would be appropriate to send her
a gift with q letter Of thanks for
the trouble she took to secure me
the position? II so, please tell me
how such a letter should be
wOrded? What kind Of gift should
1 send her?
"FERVENT READER.
Yes, I enthusiastically recon-
mend that you write this kind
friend g. letter of appreciation for
her good offices" in your behalf.
1t would be especially important
to do this under these circum-
stances which you have explained
to me. And it would be generously
appropriate for you to accompany
your letter with a gift. Your let
ter might be worded something
like this:
''Dear Dorothy:
"YOur goodness to me, in Sc
curing me such q fine position,
was SO wonderful that / find it
difficult to find words adequate
to tell you how deeply / appre-
ciate it. 1 needed work 50 much
when you were 50 good to me,
and that position was . great
boon. shall never forget your
friendIiness, and your generosity
in taking so much trouble for me.
Please know how deeply, deeply
grateful l was and am.
81 feel somewhat embarrassed
intelIing you that 1 no longer am
in that position, for this might
seem ingratitude to you. But / am
sure that you will completely un-
derstand when 1 tell you that
quite Unexpectedly ] was offered
another position that had SO many
advantages and possibilities Of
advancement that it seemed the
way of wisdom to accept it. You
do understand, don't you Dorothy,
and You do understand too that
this change in no way changes my
great appreciation Of your great
goodness to me?
81 am taking the privilege OF
sending you, as q small hint OF
nv thanks to you, a gift which l
hope you will find useful.
my dearest love to you, and a
heart full of gratitude.
"AffectiOnately."
AS your gift would like to
have you send something lasting,
something that will always mean
YOUR thankfulness to this kind
friend. How would you like To
send her a travelling clock, or q
clock for her dresser? Or pen
and pencil set, with her tull
name imprinted on it, or the fac
smile of her signature? Or q
handsome leather desk set? Or a
photograph frame?
ANNOUNCEMENT
Dear Mrs. Beeckman:
81 have been secretly married
for three months and would like
to announce my marriage very
soon. AS have been wearing my
engagement ring since my mar
riage, 1 have been letting my
friends know that / am planning
to get married.
81 would like to send announce
ment cards to only our relatives
and would like to know how 70
break the news to our employers
since we have been giving them
the impression that we are just
going to be married, and would
not like them to know until the
last day before I leave their EN-
plOy. don't want the announce.
ment in the papers, and would
just like to tell our friends about
it.
Please let me know just how
the announcement cards should
be worded and If it is quite all
right to let our friends know by
word of mouth. b.
I think that, under the circum-
stances, the best and most dignl-
fled thing for you to do is to
make this announcement as
simply and as Straightforwardly
as possible. Tell your relatives
and friends, those who live near
enough to be told by word Of
mouth, and write to those who
live far away. And when you
plan to leave your position, tell
your employers. It is not neceS-
sary to have any cards Of an
nouncement.