The Washington times., 1936-02-03

tending night classes.
"The men in the problem I'm
presenting to you are not the
only kind / know, because / am
acquainted with q lot of nice
ones. And one of the latter,
perhaps, / have grown to love.
'T'm from an aristOcratic south
ern family, who, until a few years
ago, were wealthy, but are now
left with only land, a name, and
pride. l am well.bred, and Ger.
tainly never bore anyone about
the position Of my family back
home. People here have to &C
cept me at my face value.
GOVERNMENT CLERKS
Recently, I find myself be-
coming bitter, resentful and re-
belIiOus against some Of the men
/ meet in Washington.
"These have q way Of dropping
into my apartment, quite casu-
ally, without the fOrmality Of
teIephOning, whether it is cOnven-
lent for me to receive them or
not. They accept my hospitality
(.'Ou know about southern hos
pitality).
"While calling on me they
dream about some debutante
whom they have met, her money,
and lament over the fact they
can't get dates with her, or
haven't enough money to take
her out, as befits her class.
"They brood with q far-away
look in their eyes, not bOthering
to talk to me, or they pick up
. paper or magazine and read.
They are very iIl-bred, throwing
cigarette stumps AID matches
about the room, never helping
me to light my own, as they
would If / were some rich mans
daughter.
eff other friends happen to be
calling at the same time, they
either get into rude arguments
with them, or continue to read,
or act bOred-why do such cattle
continue to call?
''Never do they take me out,
but very often mention the fact
that they are hard up, because
they have sent such and such
debutantes flowers. or took them
to the theater.
"AS most Of these heavy swells
are Government clerks on
salary in the same bracket as my
own, / imagine they can't indulge
in these extravagances very often.
Meantime, they come here.
CAN BE CHARMING
'Yet 1 happen to know these
same young men can be well bred
ON occasion, and can be quite
charming.
"Their idea seems to be that as
I'm a working girl. and not con-
Sidered q good catch financially,
Pm not worth taking out. Still
they like to waste my time, and
seem to think I should consider
it an honor to be bored to death
by them.
Recently, I've tried a little
strategy, got dressed, and claimed
to have a date. Still they CON
tinue to come. OF course, it might
be easier to insult them and drop
them, but my pride won't let me
do that. 1 feel it's up to me to
change their attitude toward girls
Of my class before I drop them.
"CARON."
You nave a large job Of mission
ary work cut out for you, my dear
Caron, if you attempt to convert
the innate Snob from his unlovely
characteristics. Like the gambler,
the drunkard. the dope fiend I
doubt if much can be done with
the congenital snob.
One who regulates his behavior
toward people strictly according
to wealth, station, and ability to
climb, through their aid, is too
tawdry and vulgar to try to re-
claim.
My advice is mot at home
when these gentlemen" call.
REGRETS MARRIAGE
S'Dear Miss Fairfax:
''FOr several years we were just
pals, enjoying our friendship as
much as two people approaching
middle age could. We both had
haIf-grOwn children when we were
married not long ago, and are now
thoroughly miserable.
"Our financial troubles could
be overcome in time, but my huS-
bands 14-year-Old daughter is the
real problem. She has been hu-
mOred and spoiled until there is
no doing anything with her. I've
tried to reason with her and used
kindness, but she won't even listen
to me.
"Her father is afraid of hurting
her feelingS-he is also q very de-
voted father and husband. But
do not love him enough to stand
the impudence Of this child. Please
help me, and advise other widows
and widOwers, with children, not
to marry.
"WORRIED WIFE"
In the meantime do not let this
tragedy consume you body and
soul. Try and have interests out
side the home. See what activi,
ties are open to you in your
church or other clubs. Make com.
panions of your children. Try
and develop some initiative. Don't
agonize over your husband, who
iS annarent1v very hanov with this