Evening star., 1936-06-18

you nelp q very unhappy
woman? am 35 years old,
with three small children. My
husband is a good man and a good
provider, but he isn't at all lively and
gay. After work he just sits down
and reads the newspaper, while J
love to go out dancing. Last week
I went to dance with friend and
met q stunning fellow Of 25 with
whom have fallen violently in love
He has no Job, but I could always
get my old one back at my former
office. He wants me to run away
with him and I am tempted to dc
so. Do you think I could be happy
with him away from my babies:
Please help me. I don't know which
way to turn.
BEWILDERED BY LIFE.
AnSwer-It doesn't take any traffic
cop to tell you which way to turn
Take the right-hand turn and keer
going along the straight and narrow
road II you want to save yourself
from going over the precipice into the
pit from which there is no climbing
back. When middle-aged married
woman with good husband, a good
home and children gets a brainstorm
that makes her even contemplate
throwing them in the discard for q
dancing boy without penny to hi,
name, she is case for an aienist
and needs to have her head examined
No sane person would even dream
Of committing such a folly, and L
you have an impulse that you feel yot
cannot resist to elope with this lac
and throw not only your bonnet ovel
the windmill, but everything else IL
life that is worth having, I strongly
urge you to go to the nearest lunatit
asylum and get yourself locked ur
until you come to your senses.
X
IN THE meantime, will you sit dowr
and try to calmly think YOU
problem out? Put your husband anc
children and home and place in so.
ciety and your comfortable living or
the scales and weigh them against
disgrace, poverty, the loss of youl
children, with only the compensation
Of having somebody to dance with
And without money you can't ever
dance much. Nor will you feel much
like dancing If you have to support
your husband and come home dog
tired at night.
husband is that he doesn't want to Ster
out Of nights. 1t has always seemed
to me that that is the least fault
a husband can possibly have, and that
it is one upon which wife should
look with very lenient eye because
the reason it is hard to pry him out
Of his eaSy-chair of an evening is
because he has worked so hard all
day trying to make money for her that
he is exhausted. Anyway, there Is
no reason why the woman who Graves
diversion should not be able to get il
in the daytime. There are plenty OF
movies and card parties and tea
dances and amusements to which she
can go In the afternoon If she Is so
minded.
HAVING once tasted ease and lux
= = ury and being accustomed to
pretty clothes that a good husband
provides you with, you will not like
going back to hard work and small
salary and penny -pinching. When the
day comes when you can't afford q
permanent, and your stomach revolts
at cheap food, and you loathe the sor-
did room In which you have to live
boy husband will look a pretty poor
bargain for all you gave up for him.
If you run of with this man you
will lie awake .at night wondering who
is taking care of your babies, wonder
ing if they are covered up in theil
sleep, wondering if they miss you, anC
your soul will sicken within you as yol
know that they will grow up to b
ashamed of you and to hate YOU
memory for the shame you have
brought upon them. Don't commit
this criminal folly, beg of you Tlrr
to the right. DOROTHY DIX.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX-For tht
~ last five years I have been earn.
ing s95 a month and giving my
mother $50, keeping the other $4s
for my clothes and other expenses
My family is not rich, but we live
quite comfortably. However, whatever
is their is not mine, and now am
getting anxious to lay up something fol
myself. I am not a spendthrift, even
have a knack of saving, and I'd like
not only the financial independence Of
having my own bank account but tc
save something for my old age in case
I never marry, or to go to housekeep-