Evening star., 1936-10-15

make her presents and take her out
to places of amusement. The real
girl, the girl worth marrying, clings
the closer TO him the more he needs
her.
Your pride and your sense Of inde-
pendence are fine and admirable, but
they are making you treat your girl
cruelty when it causes you to shut up
like clam about your feelings and to
quit talking and planning about your
future. It makes her feel that you
no longer love her and that you have
shut her out Of your confidence. That
isn't giving her fair deal. She has
right to know jus. how you stand so
far as she is concerned, and that you
are just waiting until you get on your
feet again to get married and set up
that little home that you spent SO
many happy hours planning.
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A ND believe me, son, you will not
= only comfort her. but also your-
self, by keeping on with building cas-
ties in Spain I myself have got
through many bad hour by doing
that and some of my dream houses
I have actually lived in.
Anyway you are taking your loss OF
a job entirely too tragically. A chap
who is as industrious and determined
to have work as you are will get it.
Perhaps you will get something better
than you had before. That often hap
pens, and what we think was a mis-
fortune proves blessing in disguise.
But my advice to you is not to be
too choosey in these hard times. Take
whatever you can get and work up out
of it. It is easier to get job if you
have a job. And you can't keep q
good man down. But don't let your
pride keep you away from your girl.
She has a right to share your sorrows
as well as your joys.
DEAR MISS DIX: I have a boy
friend who is lacking in good
manners. When We go out together
he always walks ahead of me. When
we enter a restaurant or theater he
never holds the door open, but gets
there first, grabs the best seat. lets
me crawl in as can. Never thinks
of helping me on or of with coat or
into a car. What should I do with
him? Or aren't these things really
important? A READER.
Answer-Give him a marked copy
Of a good book on etiquette, and, #
that doesn't change him, give him
the air. for I can think of nothing
that would get on wornan's nerves
more than to be married to a man
who was boor.
Evidently this youth has had no
social training whatever and is ig-
norant of even the elementary courte-
sizes which a gentleman Is expected
to show lady when he takes her out.
Doubtless his rudeness is not lack Of
respect for you, but his not knowing
what to do and what are the decen-
cies of the situation.
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1T IS pity that somebody hasn't
the courage to tell him that his
lack Of good manners will not only
prevent girls from wanting to have
anything to do with him, but that 1t
will be handicap that will pre-
vent him from succeeding in life.
For a mans manners make or mar
him. It is the first thing we notice
about him, and, If he is uncouth, If
he does not know how to hold him
self, what to wear, how to eat, what
to do in every emergency, we turn
thumbs down on him.
But every door is open to the man
of poise who knows how to make the
right approach, who is easy and grace
full and at home in every situation.
If you could only teach a boy one
thing in the world. it should be good
manners. They will carry him further
than anything else will.
DOROTHY DIX.
Copyright. 1860