Evening star., 1936-02-01
Dorothy Dix Says
Only Marriages Brought About by Real
Love Can Hope to Be Successful.

fred his fancy. But 1t doesn't seem
to work out that way In real life, for
man does not live by bread alone, and
our observation shows us that the most
successful marriages are not the suit
able ones entered into in cold blood,
but those that were founded on that
mysterious thing We call love.
60 MY advice to you is not to marry
- to get a housekeeper and cook.
You can hire them cheaper than you
can support a wife. and they will be
Just as companionable as would some
girl for whom you had no warmer feel
ing than a mere liking. for believe ne.
son, there is no one of whom you can
get so weary as an enforced companion
who isn't your soul mate.
Don't trust to falling in love after
marriage. 1t seldom, II ever. happens.
Marriage is a disillusioning process
that is more likely to separate people
than it is to bring them together. II
you marry . girl you don't live. you
will see her every fault and blemish
magnifled. Her every popularity Will
get on your nerves and you will far
more likely come to hate her than you
will to be ensmored Of her.
Furthermore, there is the almost
certainty that sooner or later you will
meet the woman Of your dreams and
fall in love with her when love can
mean nothing but tragedy to you. A
man in his fifties or sixties might be
justified in marrying q woman to get
a housekeeper and somebody to make
him comfortable. but it Is certainly
folly for q lad Of 30 TO do so. He still
has time for love 70 come to him
trailing clouds Of glory.
II \ \ \
lDEAR DOROTHY DIx-several
- months ago my husbands father
died, leaving his widow and son of "a.
The mother is selfish, indolent, in
competent woman who has broken up
her home and gone to live with q sister
because she does not want to make an
effort to keep q home for her son. He
is lazy and has not worked for years.
not because he couldn't get job. but
because he preferred to sleep until
noon, or play tennis Or enjoy himself
otherwise all afternoon.
Now he has just started to work, and.
Of course, Is getting small salary, and
my husband insists that I take him
into our home, which would involve
my getting six meals daily for him. as
his meals do not coincide with ours,
and do his washing. We would also
have to take q much larger apartment
in an unheated house and would
have to stoke the fires. I could count
on no help from the brother-in-law,
who never lifted a shovel Of coal at
home, even when his father was i'll.
+ X X X
T HAVE told my husband that I will
be willing to help his brother
financially to live at the Y, which
would be less expensive than having
him live with US. I have even told
him that would gladly 60 back to
work to help him support his mother
II he is unable to do it himself. 1t
would ruin our lives together to
have her with US because she irritates
him and makes him Ill with her
fussing.
7 have worked hard and do work
hard to help my husband, but this
putting more work on me Is more
than can stand. What shall I do?
WIFE.
Answer-Stick to your determina-
tion not to let your brother -in-law
come to live with you, for If you
once let him get his foot in the
door you will never get 1t out, and
you will spend the balance of your
life toiling to support . lazy male
parasite. And there Is no virtue In
that.
DOROTHY DIX.
(cepyrtsht. 1880