The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-01-10


 Of today is willing to accept terms only under the yoke of convention and matrimony. So, it is very dis- tateftil to your friend to have you question and leclle him concerning his girl friends. You say he IS lying.
 My dear, there's e difference be- tween lying and gallantry. Possibly he just wants to try you out, and ksee what your reaction would be-, # he did 60 with somebody else. Also, he might enjoy the sophistica- ton of an older girl. Usually, the conversation is Q bit mere inc teresting with older girls, and therefore, little broken heart the thing to do ct this time, is just dis regard him altogether, unless he makes the first move toward q re- cancellation. It will avail you n0th- ing to phone him, or try to argue the situation out. Men insist upon taking the leed in love affairs, and if he loves you, he'll do his best to make up. l wish I could give you more enc0urGgement; because I know what you are suffering. It seems terribly serious to you now; you think that you love him. It is really 6 delightful irfatuation, and if let run it's natural course, you'll find that your present boy friend will, in time, pass into the realm of forgotten men, when you get around once more, and discover, later on, the one right man, who will f0r- give you all your faults, and over- look your shortcomings. So pull yourself together dear; you must take pride in your youth and affec- tions. But remember never try to boss a man, or let him feel that you demand possession of his every thought, until. you are married; and even then, it is the wrong attitude I to take. Better luck little Broken Heart.--vITA VAIL.
 My dear Miss Vail: Here's my | problem, if yOp1l call 1t . problem,
 but suppDse y6h'Il think that I'm just silly child. Miss Van I
 go to dances, ain quite popular
 and considered good dancer. I
 dance with certain fellows; they
 seem to like mo In many ways;
 but when meeting them again
 they seem "stand-o -ofilsl1," as t
 were. Then again overwhelmingly
 friendly. Is inst the average run
 of boys lh this modern age? am
 puzxled I am really very young, ,, but seem older, because I've grad
 uated from high school. 60 with
 an older group of girlu. They seem
 to "pet" me, and tell me that I !. should be hit with my red hair.
 ... Somehow, can't seem to
 understand why all my friends re-
 Ceive SO many dates, and ! Fe-
 main at heme. My best girl friend
 took . fellow right from under my
 nose. It seems that they like me
 in crowds, but they don't get ser- !
 ious with me, etc. etc, --
 ESTELLE.
 MY DEAR ESTELLE: There are several reasons which come to my mind, why you, red-haired and 5NN snteen. should be left ct home, when your heart cries out for att tention. Tn the first place, possi- ply your extreme youth, keeps men from becoming too serious with you. Then too, even though pretty, you might lack that air of sophpistica- ton which the average man of toe day looks for in the girl with whom he Is serious 1t takes a certain amount Of experience for Q girl to acquire that certain something. which spells success with her boy friends The important points to remember are first, simplicity, | though srnartness in dress. Men usually prefer tailored things for street wear, and extreme chic for dances. Clever makeup and care- ful grooming are equally important. Then you must acquire or cultivate poise; don't be too enthusiastic over their attentions to you: give them the impression that your so- Eciety is greatly in demand. Men are very fickle and inconsistent. They pretend that they don't &p- prove of fiirtations, when all the while they'll 60. to any length to escort a popular girl; that is, O girl sought after by other fellows. Tn love, as in every other phase of life, competition is the life of tl~e contest. Give the general impress sion, without Sayiyng 50, that you arc always dated up. On the other hand, when alone In the cone pany of . man, never talk about other boys. This does things toI their ego, which they can't fore give. Be Q good listener when inI conversation with them. Cater tOE the vanity of any man, l don't carel who he is, he enjoys being looked up to. like your good judgment that you don't let them think you are particularly fond of any ono man. You need not actually fiirt.l but frankly, if you really want tol be popular with boys c subtle co-. quettefy goes Q long way. That elli-l sive ''come hither" expressions s draws them like bees to the heart of q flower. But in closing will advise you don't rush the game of hearts. Seventeen Is sweet and tender: you've got years ahead 0f you, in which to acquire popularity with men, and that list of heavy dates. I don't mind your pencil writing c bit; De sure Co write again. Sincerely-vrT VAIL,
 For lack Of space I win have to answer other letters from my readers in many next Heart te