The Washington times., 1936-07-27


deluged with letters concernil
/ office triangle-wife versus SET
One of the most interesting let
tiers I have received states the
problem and the viewpoint of a
mother who must reconcile her
husbands loss of love for her, and
his love for his secretary, with
the duty she owes to her children,
and which she alone must bear.
The problem of this unfortu-
nate woman, who signs herself
Unhappy Wife" is well worth
more than passing study, for she
weighs her dilemma dispassion-
ately, with q full realization of
family responsibility and an ex-
cellent understanding of her un-
faithful boy-like husband.
Dear Miss Fairfax:
CAS- a married woman who sees
her home slipping, Professor
Smiths definition of the ideal
secretary, discussed in your
column, interests me greatly, for
the girl in this case did not quit
her job when she found that she
and her employer, my husband,
were falling in love.
CHILDREN SAVE UNION
'My husband and 1 have been
married 10 years and have five
children. / shall be 30 in Septem-
Der, and until this girl came into
my husbands life, we were ideally
happy. The difficulty centers
about our children. l feel they
are entitled to a home with both
parents, and, down deep in his
heart, my husband feels that
way, too, though he has begged
me to get q divorce.
Eve no longer live together as
husband and wife, and I would
have left home q long time ago if
1t were not for my girls and boys.
81 shall not say anything mean
about my husband, who has be-
come eStranged, or this girl who
has supplanted me. Perhaps there
are loves which makes words like
responsibilities and ideals seem
Old-faShiOned.
II know that I have been a good
wife and mother, and that I'm
personally attractive and inteIli-
gent. The loss Of my husbands
love has occurred through no
fault Of my own. In every mans
life, / suppose, there comes time,
. place and q woman to make him
forget obligations. at least tempo
rarily.
81 am leaving myself wholly out
of the question. If I were not a
mother, 1 would not hesitate a
moment-Pd walk out of this
house, to which came as bride,
with never a backward glance. l
would set about starting life all
over again, and while have not
been trained to earn living, I
know would succeed.
1.-THE children, always devoted to
their father, have already noticed
the difference in him. He is sell
dom at home, he doesn't play with
them, and he is no longer the
good pal he used to be.
HESITATES TO GET DIVORCE
perhaps you will think I have
no pride when 1 say hesitate to
get the divorce because I have
a feeling of responsibility for my
husband. know if get the
divorce, as he has suggested. he
won't be happy. When sober sec
Ond thought sets in, he will miss
the children, even If he doesn't
miss me. Our oldest boy is the
apple of his eye, and he'll want
that boy to think well Of him in
later life.
Also, my husband is q man who
lives by routine. He likes the same
belongings around him-mealS at
the appointed hour, the same kind
of food. He loves order, and every
thing about him must go smoothly
and on schedule.
"If he marrieS this younger
woman, he will not have these
things for the girl is not sys-
tematic. This know because such
diSagreements as they have had,
and Of which 1 have caught
echoes in his sharp words over
the phone, have been because
things in the office were not done
methOdically.
eff our home is broken up, and
the children lose the feeling for
their father they have now, these
old claims will assert themselves.
He will ultimately blame me, like
the big boy he really is. why did
you let me do this thing?' he will
say. You should have known
was not myself. You should have
stood by me-
"And so / wonder what to do
next. UNHAPPY WIFE"
Dear Miss Fairfax:
"The other day you mentioned
a book in your column, which you
said was very good for making
TASTY dishes ont of IeftOVerS. As