The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-07-03
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 Your Children
By Olive Roberts Barton

Once in Q while we find families so engaged in each other that the success or good fortune of one be. comes @ matter of pride to all. In- deed, occasionally the spirit of Sac- rifice operates almost to the point of fanaticism in certain clans. This phase is passing, unfortunately, as "individualism" advances. Each. one flor himself" cannot help claim ing a wide following as things are now. The entire trend of education and culture is toward "ego."
 Family jealousy is growing. It Is growing, too, in every walk of life. And as a result I wonder If we are not over -doing the cult of self,
 Can't Adjust Themselves
 Not long ago wrote that edu- cators have as much difficulty in placing the too-bright child as they had formerly in adjusting the slow student. Recently I talked with the president of a boys college who had noticed that article.
 At my request he stated his own views and policies, which found remarkable and unique.
 T sense a growing tendency in schools to further the astute and clever student to a place in the sun, " he said. T myself have taken a different stand. I think it high time to teach tolerance and patience to these quick-witted, super-minded youths and make them understand that Gods gift to them must in- clude their fellows. When they get out of school they will have to live in a world of slower -witted people. They must respect them, live with them and understand them, and be decent to them"
 Explains Terms
 And then he reverted to his own word tolerance" T dislikke the word" he explained. Tt connotes condescensio hand permission. It sets up an ideal of I am holier than thou but go right ahead, anyway. I prefer the word appreciate Or even permit in it's larger sense. It looks across rather than down."
 Since then I have reconstructed his opinion and the more I think of it the better like it. Because all jealousy and Encouragement is born of contrasting ability and state with the more fortunate in life.
 Certainly an honor student de- serves to be praised. Often it is sheer hard work and sacrifice that gets him his cum laude. and the lazy and disgruntled need not make jealous grimances at him and feel bitter. But there is something t0 this business of God-given brains and those whom God forgot.
 Parents Can Help
 Tn the family. which is always the miniature school. parents might try a workout on this point. The quick and nimble Alice must learn that slower Sister Jane is tO be appreciated and not tolerated. " Hustler Harry that he Isn't one bit better than Plodding Peter and must learn to be kind and decent to him. When the elect learn to take this attitude Of appreciation of their less-fav0red or less-per- s0nable kin. then Encouragement and jealousy will wane.
 Comparison is always odl0ns but never so 0di0us as between children in the same house. En- e0uFagement Is e better tonic than jealousy. Encouragement and praiss by the successful brother 0r sister goes far to lift the less-gifted cul Of his Slough of pespond and pro- mote his self-esteem. Clcvesnea' without patience end kindness ( never admirable anyway.
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