The Waterbury Democrat., 1936-11-03
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 Your Children
Rx OIiYe Roberts Bartsa

Iondon-It seems to me thaN children would go to their parents with more things if these Same daddies and mamaS wouldn't get so shocked about things.
 Actually we aren't shocked at all. What happens is that our van. ity is hurt, to think that Q chile of OURS could do such . thing. We aren't shocked when tommy Jones does 1t, or Mary Smith, Due when our own family representa- tives go over the wire, why that's terrible.
 Rather than face the signs and gasps of his mother, or the stern stare of his father, Ted Will neg" lect many a confession that ho would like to get off his mind. Ted is impulsive. And he is experie mental. He is ~also very human But he has to keep all his little forays into temptation to himself. He is 50 certain that he will be judged before he is heard that ho will tell anyone other than hA parents.
 Judicial Calm
 One of the things that fascis mates me in the movies D Q court scene. watch the face of the judge carefully to see If THAT testimony won't shock him into 8 start or @ frown, or perhaps even a smile. No, never yet have I caught one mapping, but I still have hopes. Of course, you say that 1t is all set up and this Is not real case. Wrong. Judges are that way. They must maintain the poker face in spite of every thing. Some have sympathetic faces, some indifferent, some hard, but that is apart from the control they must exercise at a hearing.
 I have the notion that the same idea in the home IS not a bad one. The child will blurt out his condolences If he knows he will be spared the emotional demon- strations. He will be willing to take his medicine, too, If the tears and blow-outs are omitted.
 admire the calm parent who can listen to the end, and then advise, or weigh out justice as inc personally as magistrate. " can never amount to that quite, not with close family relation- ships what they arc. But an ap- proach could be attempted. once the boy or girl knows that he is being judged impartially, either excused, condoned, reprimanded or punished, as the case may war; rant, he will be more willing to take what comes. Children know very well when they deserve to be disciplined.
 Shlrklng Parents
 And here is another thing. Mothers in particular have ha- bit of NOT WANTING TO KNOW when Q child has been up to some thing. It seems that they just can't bear to hear 1t. And the child soon senses 1t and acts acs cordingly.
 Don't let my mother know" Why should his mother not know? Is she 50 frail that she cannot el1- dure knowing that bhtoyrog ilr dure knowing that the boy or girl of her heart has gotten tangled in one of life's million experiencesT When they are grown she is not surprised that they are sophisti- cated and worldwide. She even approves of 1t. But they must be sure to get all this knowledge without her knowing 1t. Maybe she resents 1t later, they keep her in the dark about everything they do.
 We'll, I don't sec how anything short of . miracle could make 1t otherwise. Usually the infractions of the growing child are not so ,plbearable. One great incentive to misconduct is the stolen fruit motive. Perhaps pranks would, not be 50 sweet If the child knew that dad and mother could be told.
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