Evening star., 1936-12-05
Formal and
Informal
w
Church Procession,
Announcements
and Dress.
BY EMILY POST.

DEAR MRS. POST: My husband
and I are invited to a Sunday
night supper in honor of . visiting
bride and groom. We know the
groom's family. but we're not invited
to the wedding in the East and did
not send them a wedding present. Do
you think that after this party we
should send them something or would
you perhaps suggest that we take
something to the party?
Answer-Unless local custom Is
involved about which have not heard,
1t certainly will not be expected that
you take or send anything to the
bride and groom.
DEAR MRS. POST: After our mar
riage we are going West for sew
eral months, but do not expect that
my husband will have to stay on after
that time. His next place will be per-
manent. but we are not sure where 1t
will be as yet. Under the circum-
stances, what should I do about in
closing at-home cards with my an
nouncements?
Answer-I wouldn't inclose at-home
cards. Those who want to write you
can write to your own home address
and by and by, when you are settled
permanently, send out your visiting
card with your address on it.
DEAR MRS. POST: I'm in . pre-
dicament and am finding it very
hard to decide the west way out Of It..
have q father, stepfather. grand
father and q brother, all Of whom have
been very good to me always and Of
whom am equally fond. Whom shall
I choose to walk with me up the aisle
at my wedding?
Answer-Your father, of course. II
you chose any one but him you would
announce to every one that you care
very little for him.
.DEAR MRS. POST: It Is the Gus
tom here In the deep South to
give evening weddings. In our COM
munity many Of these take place at
home. In the case I am specifically
referring to the bride wants to make
the wedding at home as formal as
possible, and the groom insists that
because the wedding will take place
at home the men should be allowed
to wear "tucks" instead of tails 81
Will you give US your opinion?
Answer Correctly, the men should
wear Enthusiastically. Tuxedos are
proper In small communities where
few Of the men have formal evening
clothes. It Is true that q house we'd
ding may seem to have less solemntty
because we know it Is not taking place
on consecrated ground, but apart from
this consciousness Of the fact house
wedding can be Just as ceremonious
and beautiful as . church wedding.
Hk +*
|DEAR MRS. POST: A dear friend
Of ours was married more than
. year ago and to date we have not
given them . wedding present. The
reason for this, however. was not that
We did not want to. Several months
before the marriage we had promised
We would give them q generous check
and between the time Of our promise
and the wedding day We lost every.
thing and could not even buy o present
Of any description. We have not
prospered even now, although We could
buy them q little something. How
ever, my husband feels that We should
wait until We can make good otli
promise Of the check. We have never
mentioned anything and they have
never treated US any other than kindly
What would you suggest?
Answer-It seems to me that In
your place I would have said some
thing about 1t to them long before
this. although perhaps the complete
change in your situation was so OBJ
vious that you thought it needed No
explanation. Now ! think the best
thing to do would be to send the small
present you suggest and say that it Is
an anniversary present, and that you
hope some day you will be able to give
them their real wedding present.
ecopyrisht. 1850