Evening star., 1936-05-13
2 70 &c S S
Of Giving
AndTaking
Should Be Practiced
More Generally
by Young.
BY ANGELO PATRI.

DEAR BOYS AND GIRLS: You
will agree that getting along with
people is a process Of give and take.
I often hear you say so in your
arguments on the playfield. I have
noticed, too, that the one who is
shouting loudest, insisting on the Civ
ing by the other fellow, quite over
looks his giving. He takes, but he
forgetS to give. That is what makes
most OF the trouble in this world so
the sooner you set about mending
this the better your life through the
coming years will be. If you learn
now to give your share, before taking
your share, you will carry that idea
into the habits of society when it
comes your turn to rule there.
Begin with-the little things because
they are most important. The big
ones manage for themselves and you
into the bargain. John was going
downstairs, his arms loaded-over-
loaded would be the better word, for
he had been greedy about making
one trip do-and he met Peter coming
up, almost as heavily loaded.
Now John was only one step past
the landing where two can pass easily,
at any time. He stood still and
shouted: You go back. Can't you
see I'm loaded down? You can't pass
me with those maps in your arms"
Go back yourself" said Peter, net
tied by the tone and the selhshness
OF the situation. You are lust one
step off the landing and you want
me to go back a whole flight, and
walk backwards. Well I'm not going
to-" Miss Prudence had to go to
the scene of battle and make John
| step back If he had used his own
brains and remembered that he had
to give before taking, he would have
Jared better. Everybody would have
felt better. too, which is something
to be considered in such situations.
To make things even we will look
at the same sort of situation on the
girls side. Two girls work in part.
nership in the school kitchen. The
| rule is that they take turns in wash
ing the dishes. one partner cleaning
up while the other replaces things,
enters the records and gets the teach
er's criticism on the product of the
lesson. They are supposed to change
places in regular turns Ruth hates
washing the dishes, so she makes an
excuse of some sort or other and
leaves them to Helen, days in sue
| cession. The teacher is busy and
| this escapes her notice until Helen,
out Of patience, makes protest. Then
Ruth thinks and says that Helen is
no sport. Is taking all and giving
nothing good sportsmanship?
There are countless ways of giving,
and the corresponding number of ways
of taking OF course, taking is usually
easier, and pleaSanter than giving.
Especially at the start. BY and by,
when the taker has taken about all
he can manage, he finds himself alone
with his loot. Everybody else has
gone around the other way and left
him there to enjoy his selfish dipo-
sition by himself.
Giving is one-haH of life's program.
1t cannot be overlooked without pun
iShing consequences to the takers.
Even if you hate to give, do it for
your own sake. Punishment waits for
you otherwise. If you give freely
happiness and success are yours, be-
cause you have fitted the two halves
of life harmoniously in your behavior.
Next time you find yourself demand
ing your rights make sure that you
have done your share Of the giving
first. Very cordially yours,
ANGELO PATRI.
| tCopyright, 1850