Evening star., 1936-10-30

Is why mothers are SO
~ anxious to get their daugh-
ters married. while they are so
strenuously opposed, as a general
thing, to their sons marrying.
Mothers will. Of course. bitterly deny
this, but it Is true nevertheless.
There is no difficulty at any we'd
ding in telling which is the brides
mother and which is the bridegroom s.
The bridegroom's mother is the lady
bathed in tears, while the brides
mother is the woman In orchid
chiffon, who resembles the cat that
has Just swallowed the canary.
Considering that mothers. as a rule,
love their daughters as much as they
do their sons, and might be expected
to regret parting with one as much
as the other, and also considering that
every woman knows through her own
experience how hard Is the road that
even the most fortunate wives and
mothers have to travel. one would
think that a mothers heart would be
torn to shreds with dread and fears
at the very thought Of the little girl
she has spent her life cherishing and
protecting, starting out on the
dangerous adventure from which no
woman escapes unscathed.
Such, however, is not the case.
Mother begins planning her daughters
weddings while they are still in the
cradle, and she can hardly wait until
she Shoes them out of her house into
their husbands. She is proud when
they marry young, and filled with
shame If they are old maids. So
eager is she to get them married that
she will let them marry men who cam
not support them, men who drink,
men who are rakes and libertines.
RUT far otherwise is mothers at
~ titude toward her sons mar
riages. She looks forward to their
wedding day as she does toward
doomsday, and slaves of the evil hour
as long as she can. She throws every
obstacle in the way of their marriages.
She regards her bachelor son as a
badge of triumph. No girl Is good
enough for her boy, though she were
possessed of every feminine charm
and virtue, and had fortune as well.
Just why mothers look upon their
sons and daughters marriages with
such different eyes it is difficult to say.
In former times, when a girl was a
liability instead of an asset to her fam
lily, it Is easy to understand why her
parents were anxious to hand her
over to a husband to support, but that
reason for wanting girl to marry is
no longer valid. Nearly all girls now
earn their own bread and butter and
furbelows and contribute to the
household budget instead Of being
drain upon 1t.
Nor can the modern mother plead
as her excuse for desiring her daugh-
tiers to marry that they will be better
of and happier married than single.
I0aC Is uldtUCI VI 4uSh. ~ . SAA
gets a husband who is loyal. kind,
tender and a good provider, she has
drawn one of life's capital prizes.
But if, on the other hand, she gets
husband who is philanderer or q
ne'er-do-well whom she has to sup
port, she is in for worse case than
any girl bachelor.
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WHATEVER marriage may have
W been in the past, it is no Sinecure
in these days, as is proved by the fact
that three-fourths Of the applications
for divorce are filed by wives who
found it failure. Even mothers must
know that wedding ring is no tails
man that secures her daughter happt-
ness and prosperity or even a perma.
nent husband, 50 her desire to wish
one on her daughters finger remains
inexplicable.