Evening star., 1936-02-04
Chicken in the Platter Worth Dozen the Poultry Show
Dorothy Dix Says
The Unlucky Job-Hunter Needs Boost
Rather Than Discouragement.

and not TO be wet-blanketed with re-
proaches for not having achieved the
impossible. Your mother and father
should hide their own disappointment
and tell you not to give up, to keep
trying, that maybe tomorrow you will
have better luck; that you are so
competent that once you get O toe
hold on the ladder you will climb
to the top. They should encourage
you, bolster you up, build up your
morale; not beat you down to lower
depths Of DESPAIR.
One Of the worst crimes parents
commit against their children II in
discouraging them and killing their
faith In themselves. For 1t Is certain
that the measure Of orr success Is our
belief In our own abilities.
DOROTHY DIX.
nEAR MISS DIX-I am engaged to
kind, considerate man, who
would give me a good home and Sc
curity if I married him, but do not
love him. My mother, who Is a widow
and not well, has set her heart on this
marriage, partly because she wants to
see me provided for, but mostly be-
cause 1t will provide .or her. ! have
tried to tell her over and over again
how I feel, but she works herself up
into such state Of nerves that I am
afraid of killing her. Beside this, I
am in love with man who is gener-
Gus, -go-lucky, selfish and with
not much ambition. He hasn't even O
job and would have to go on work.
ing the remainder of my life because I
could never depend on his making a
living. I am a wreck trying to decide
what to do. Will you help me?
I. M. NJ
Answer-Both propositions look like
bad bets to me and my advice is to
take neither. II you marry the man
you don't love you will be utterly mis-
cradle yourself and make him so.
When women marry TIen for home
they never seem to consider the mems
side Of the question and what das-
tardly, low-dovn trick they are play.
ing upon them. No decent man would
marry a woman if he knew she didn't
love him. That isn't the kind of re.
turn he expects for spending the re-
mainder of his life working to support
her and, in your case. her mother. 1t
is not a fair bargain.
y X
A S FOR telling your mother that you
= don't propose to sell yourself in
order to provide for her, just do it and
make her understand that the SUBJ
ject is closed. 1t Is common trick
for mothers to develop poor hearts and
bad nerves, or go into fainting fits in
order to coerce their children into do
ing what they want them to do, but it
is all camouflage and all you have to
do is to call their bluff. The shock
never kills them.
knew one girl who was kept from
marrying most esimable man for IL
years by her mother going into a coll
lapse every time the subject was men,
toned. Finally the man took the girl
by the hand and rushed her TO the
parson. Mother didn't die when she
heard of it. She took it perfectly
calmly and went TO live with them ever
after.
But the man you sre in love with
sounds like a Weary Willie to me.
The trouble about marrying q lazy
man you have to support is that after
a while the job will sort Of pail on you
because you will get to have q con-
tempt for the man who sits down and
does nothing while mis- wife makes the
living. DOROTHY DIX.