Evening star., 1936-04-11

in my face. My husband works with
a very attractive and sweet girl. I
know she is crazy about him and he
likes her, but am sure I'm the one
he loves. Lately she has been waiting
to walk home with him and that is
what has got me all reused up. It
makes me so resentful toward him that
I don't treat him right. A couple Of
times have shown my jealousy of her
by letting loose and he just thought me
silly. How shall treat the situation?
Tell her to leave her hands of him or
Just kid him about her? She probably
will go on working with him and walk
ing home with him. so what is there
for me to do? hate this being jeal-
Gus, and ! hope you can knock it out
Of me some way or another.
MRS. S. A.
Answer-You are the first green
eyed woman I have ever encountered
who realized that jealousy made her
do foolish things. so perhaps you can
cure yourself. The only remedy for
jealousy is an application Of common
sense to the situation.
The trouble with most Jealous peo-
pie Is that they never realize the ef-
feet of their acts. This gives us the
terrible murders that We read about
every day, where men and women kill
those they love for fear they might be
parted from them, as If death was not
the most eternal parting of all. It
gives us the innumerable domestic
tragedies where husbands and wives
make life torment for each other and
kill each others love by their sus-
picions and nagging.
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NOW, being more level-headed than
most women. suppose you look
your problem in the face and try to
deal with 1t sanely instead Of hysteri-
cally. In the first place. calmly decide
what real cause you have for jealousy.
Because your husband works with q
pretty and attractive girl is no sign
that he is in love with her. The world
Is full of pretty and attractive girls.
but not every man who meets with one
falls for her.
The fact that your husband chose
you out of all the world for a wife
should prove to you that you are his
type and until you have strong evi-
dence to the contrary you are justified
in believing that he still prefers you to
any other woman. Nor have you any
proof that the girl is in love with
your husband. Because you are in
love with him is no sign that every
other woman is.
Again I appeal to your common
sense when I call your attention to
the fact that being jealous. making
scenes and accusing your husband of
things which he may not have done Is
no way to win a husband back, even
in case he has roamed step away
from home. Many a jealous wife turns
mild Irritation into serious affair by
her reproaches, her suspicious, her
tears and her generally making things
so unpleasant for husband that he
fees to the other woman for COM
fort. Many a wife's jealousy gives
her husband his first inkling that he
is fatally fascinating to women. He
had thought himself middle-aged and
done with such matters until his wife
got all steamed up about some pretty
young girl in his Office.
My advice to you is to try to realize
that in a world that is full of men and
women you can't protect your husband
from temptation; you can't segregate
him from attractive women. The only
way you can possibly have any hap
piness is by trusting him and not let
ting the thought of these other women
keep you worried and stirred up. If
he has not enough love for you to be
faithful to you because you are the
only women in the world for him and
if he has not manhood and loyalty
enough to be true to you. then he
isn't worth a single jealous pang.
much less putting wrinkles in your
face. In q word. emulate the wife
who said that she had such faith in
her husband that even If she saw
him do something wrong she would not
believe 1t. She would know 1t was her
lying eyes.