Evening star., 1936-06-11

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sonality. She must be intelligent. She
must have comomn sense. She must
have a sense of humor and be fun
loving. She must be domestic. But
where am I going to meet such a
girl? That's the rub.
There may be thousands of such
fine young women, but of what help
is that to me If they cannot be met?
And what good does it do them to
know that the type of fellow they want
is near df they cannot find him? Prob
ably 1t is true that this type of girl is
at home most of the time, but how
can 1 find that home, or how gain
dances do little good to the girls who
are not asked. and the girl who is
asked owes her escort the right to
her company and the obligation Of not
prowling around for new acquaint-
ances
Everywhere, in restaurants, in off,.
ces and on the streets, one sees many
such girls. but what can one do-shall
/ speak? She would probably call
an officer. Suppose she is lonesome
and takes q chance? Like any other
conventional citizen, might well be
suspicious if she did. Only those with
little to lose and much to gain take
long chances.
OUR social codes, in so far as they
relate to lntroductions and ac-
uuaintances, were designed for SIM
pie and small communities where
every one grew up knowing every one
else. BY simple propinquity matches
and marriages we're made. But today,
If we live in cities, there is no commu-
nifty life and the family across the
street are as much strangers as if
they lived in another land. This makes
it very difficult for young people of
the opposite sex to meet under suitable
conditions and is q source OF great
danger, for If one cannot get what he
wants in a mate he is likely TO take
what he can get.
It is very diScouraging to feel that,
though you know just what you want
and though you know it exists, there
is nothing you can do to help your
self but must depend on sheer for
tuity. GEORGE.
Answer:
This exceedingly interesting letter
presents a problem with which both
the church and the social agencies
have grappled with but poor success.
For the cities are filled with fine
young people who have come from
communities in which they knew
everybody and in which they were the
life Of every party They are dying
Of lonesomeness and the desire to
meet other girls and boys Of their
own kind and to have some Of the
clean fun to which they have been
accustomed Nobody seems able to
devise q way in which this can be
properly done. And so the youngsters
who might be friends, who might be
the ideal that each seeks, pass each
other by like ships in the night with
out ever being able to give hail.
Very often. as George says, pro-
pinquity does its deadly work, and
Just because a young man does not
know where to look for his dream girl
he gives up a quest that he thinks is
hopeless and marries some second
rate girl with whom he Is thrown and
with whom he lives unhappily ever
after.
WORSE still is it for the girl who
has no way of meeting the boys
that she should know and of having
some of the innocent pleasures to
which she is entitled. Weary of her
bare hall bed room, bored to death
with nothing to do, longing for some
excitement to break the monotony of
her working life, such girl is often
the easy victim of any evil man or
woman who offers her an automobile
ride or dinner or a dance. The
chief of police of a great city once
told me that loneSoneneSS caused the
downfall of more girls than anything
else.
But this does not answer my CORE
spondent's question of how, in a world
full of girls. he is to find the par
ticular she that he desires and who
has the qualifications that he wants
in a wife and. alas. neither I nor any
one else can tell him down what road
to ride on his search or on what doors
to knock.
Certainly there are plenty Of such
girls as he desires for a wife-good-