The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-08-22

share of the home which remains in
the parents name?
For several years, the one child
has paid all bills, taxes, food, cloth
ing, coal, etc. This does not seem
fair. What can the child who pays
the bills do to prevent this from
happening? You can't tell the par
entS they are a bother. The other
children think that because they are
living away from home, they owe no
duty to the parents at all. The child
at home thinks they do. Who Is
right? BOTHERED.
Answer-If all the children
shared equally in what advan-
tages the parents were able to
give, it is obvious that they should
share equally in the disadvantages
which follow. You seldom find
a family so completely fair mind
ed. Instead it divides into those
who impose and those who are
imposed upon. Those who are
imposed upon are not necessarily
more unselfish. 1t is simply that
they have found martyrdom
easier than bucking the wills of
more aggressive brothers and sis
tiers.
1t is all very fine to protect
the feelings of the parents when
ever it is possible to do so with
out rank injustice to one of the
children. But when this occurs,
as it has in your case, there is
no respectable reason why the
old should not face reality as
we'll as the young. Their feelings
should not be too tender to con-
slider a simple problem in arith-
metic with view to getting the
right answer.
Make a list of what you have
spent and count out your own
living expense. Then present the
list to the rest of the family and
ask them whether they would pre-
fer to contribute their share now
or out of the estate later on.
Whatever you decide, signed
agreement is your due. Explain
to your parents that your figures
were not drawn for the purpose
of hurting them but simply in the
interests of a square deal.
No doubt you will have to put
up with a season of unpleasant
ness. Your cue is to remain kind
and pleasant to all, but perfectly
immovable in purpose. There is
no other way to solve your prob
lens unless you wish to retreat
into the negative pleasures Of the
martyr in which you find noble
motives for what is in fact a lack
of courage.
Dear Jane Jordan-What are you
going to do in a case like this? She
lives several hundred miles from me
in a small town with all her rela-
tives and friends, and live in a
large city where I have a good job
and a wonderful future. She seems
to be woven into a web of friends
and relatives that apparently she
can not do without, and can hard
ly have my job here and be there
too.
I have discussed it with her sew
eral times and told her couldn'
come back to see her, but each time
1 regret my action before I get out
the door and always go back. She
is 20 and I am %. B. A r.
Answers your object matri-
mony? If it is, you have right
TO expect that she will leave her
family and friends and join you
gladly just as soon as you are able
to support a home for her. If
she objects to this, it is an indica-
ton Of her unf1tness for matri-
mony and you will save yourself
unnecessary trouble and struggle
by putting her out of your mind.
If you have no serious emotion
for the girl it does seem more
convenient to find companionship
closer to home and let her do the
same. In your letter you do not
make the situation clear at all. I