Evening star., 1935-08-13
August Good Month to Plan Any Renovation or De-

OF the best wives q man ever
/ had. She Is good looking,
- loving, kind, a real helpmate
and a fine housekeeper, but I have
been untrue to her and even forced her
10 live In the house with the other
to save my reputation. More
than this, made her stand for it when |
The other woman sneered at her and |
said cruel, mean things to her. Now
am tired of the other woman and want /
my wife back, but I am afraid she will !
not love or respect me again. How can |
I make her feel toward me as she did !
before treated her SO badly?
ANOTHER FOOL.
Answer: Well, brother, you can't. !
The trouble with our foolishness Is that
we can never undo it. We have to go
on paying for it as long as we live. We
may repent 1t in bitterness and tears,
but not all the water that flows from
our eyes can wipe out the score
against us.
We talk lot Of nonsense about for
giving and forgetting. but in reality
neither is possible. We think We can
betray those who love us, that we can
trample their pride in the dust, that we
can stab them with cruel speeches,
that we can neglect them, that we can
show ourselves mean and selfish and
untrustworthy and then, when We have
got over our temporary infstuation or
feel in a good humor again or need
their help in some way, We can say
that we are sorry, and that those We
have wronged will Immediately become
oblivious to our ofIenses against them
and restore us TO our old place in their
esteem.
PUT it never happens. 1t cannot
happen any more than you can
tread a rose in the dust and makes its
crushed and bruised petals whole
again, or than you can shatter vase
and make it perfect again. What is
done, is done, and cannot be changed.
Men are particularly strong in their
faith in the repentance theory as ap-
piled TO their wives. They think that
when they are tired OF philandering
that their wives should welcome them
back home with brass band, and
promptly forgive and forget all the in
dignities to which they have been sub
jected. Why they expect this miracle
to take place and for woman TO be
able TO trust a man who has shown
himself unSrustwortny, and to admire
and respect one who has shown himself
so weak that any adventures could
take him in. is beyond explanation. 1t
is simply one of the things about men
that no woman ever understands.
OF course, many women do make the
gesture of pretending to forgive and
forget because 1t saves their faces and
puts the relationship between them
and their recreant spouses on a more
agreeable basis, but deep down in their
hearts wives never forgive their hus-
bands infidelities and they never,
never forget, no matter how deeply
they bury their wrongs in silence.
The moral Of all of which is that II
a man wishes to keep his wife's love
he must never throw it away.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX would
never contemplate marrying a man
in moderate circumstances for have
had enough drudsery in my life. 1
could never settle down into being
mans scullery maid. My life has been
too active. A woman can learn to love
any man who is worth his salt and has
the essential sugar In his pocket. Just
what are your reactions to the logical
calculations of q MODERN MISS.
Answer: It has been my observation
that logic flies out of the window when
love comes knocking at the door. ana
that the most carefully laid plans OF
girls 20 haywire when some personaoie
youth comes whistling down the street
/ and beckons them to follow.
OF nothing am I more firmly con-
vinced than that you cannot love 70
order. You can admire and respect
man for his good qualities, but II
won't raise your temperature or send
/ a single culver up and down your
suine to know that he is kind to his
mother and has money in the bank
| The something that makes you palpl-
| tate and thrill and that causes some
one particular man to be the whole
universe to you has nothing whatever
to do with his virtues. or his ability
to support you in the style in whlcn
you desire to live.
&x*
OF COURSE. much is to be said for
~ the sensible marriage. the mar
riape that Is based on reason and not
on sentiment. Undoubtedly those who
pick out their mates with their heads
| instead of their hearts, and who select
a wife or a husband because he or she
belongs to the right social set or has
money or because he or she Is indus
trious and thrifty and a good man.
ager may generally count on quiet
and placid existence and keeping out
1
of the divorce court. Provided, oi
course, that after a while they do moi
get tired of plain bread and butter
and long for cake.
And it is always an ever-presenl
danger, that after while the mar
riage that has no love in it will &C
fiat and that the man and woman who
thought that they were loveproof will
find some other woman or man with
whom they fall wildly, desperately
hopelessly in love. For Cupid has a
way of avenging himself upon those
who mock him.
And there Is still another danger
when you marry for money, and that
is you may lose the money and then
you have nothing. But don't kid
yourself into thinking that you can
love to order. 1t can't be done. Other
wise there would be fewer mismated