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terribly bored with him. He is aW-
fully nice, but I yearn for a differ
ent friend once in a while. I'd love
to win the friendship Of this girl
1 said I like. I want her to like
me and enjoy being with me as
much as I like to be with her.
1 can't understand myself at all
1 know it isn't other peoples fault
that they don't like me. I realize
it is all mine, but honestly I don't
know what to do about it. I hope
you can figure me out and tell me
what is wrong with me.
LONESOME.
AnSWer-Most people have
gnaWing suspicion that they are
not quite as good as others and
this fear cuts deeply into their
self-aSsurance. You have such an
overdose of it that it paralysis
your ability to make the friendly
gestures and advances that so cas-
lily win others. You aren't sold on
yourself. Lonely people are self
absorbed people. Interest your
self in the outer world. Adopt
hobby. Succeed at something to
build up your own self-respect.
At present I believe that you are
more interested in cultivating girl
friends than boy friends. This in
dlcates that you feel more at ease
with women than with men. You
doubt your ability to succeed with
either sex, but Of the two you are
less self conscious with women.
This also is something which you
VIII have to combat in yourself
If you are to live with things as
they are.
1 wonder if your boy friend
really is boring or if you simply
are unable to identify yourself
with masculine interests. Since he
is your only friend try to tear your
attention loose from your own
ego and its reactions and see
what this boy really is like. In
gong about with him perhaps you
will meet others more to your lik-
ing, and the same is true of him.
Don't retire from circulation SIM
ply because every one you meet is
not a kindred spirit. Your Job is
to adapt yourself to a variety of
personalities. AS it is you expect
others to adapt themselves to you.
Dear Jane Jordan-My problem is
not about myself, but about my
mother and father. My father is a
good worker and does not mistreat
his three children, Of which I am
the Oldest. He is a young man OF
Sc and my mother is three years
older. He is funny man about
the other sex. He runs around and
stays out late at night. Sometimes
he does not get in until 3 in the
My mother is getting dis
gusted, I know. Please tell ME
what to do TO help both of them.
ALICE.
AnsWer-SOme one has said
that there are no problem chill
dren, only problem parents. You
must face the facts that your par
entS constitute a problem which
you can not solve. You are not
responsible for their happiness
and you must not think otherwise.
Their difficulties are beyond your
power to understand or to adjust.
The kindest thing you can do is
to let them alone and remain as
neutral as possible in your atti-
tude.
1t is unfair and cruel for par
ents to burden children with their
differences. Parents who expect
children to side with one or the
other have hardly graduated from
the nursery themselves. Persuade
your mother and father not to
talk to you about their troubles.
Try hard to lose yourself in the
activities Of girls and boys your
own age. You can't escape the
home atmosphere completely,
know. but YOU can fno some ref
uge with other young people if
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