Evening star., 1935-05-30


- victim OF self-pity or am
plain "touchy" about my
friends. have tried TO play square
and have never failed to help them in
every emergency. l am worried when
they are in trouble and put myself out
TO help them. But am popular? NO!
Although / want 10 be in the swim OF
things, am just another woman VINO
Oils in at q luncheon or a card game.
I don't click. Is it because I don't
Drag, shout, scream, say compliment
tary things to peoples faces and cstty
things behind their backs? Tell me,
does it pay to be hpyocrite, or 10 be
true to ones ideals. I'd love to be
popular, but although I have few
friends who are true TO me, am never
singled out or fused over? Whv is
this? K. M. C.
Answer-If you have only one friend
on whose faithfulness and affection
you can depend, you are fortunate. II
YOU have Two or three whose hands
you can reach out and touch in the
dark, you are rich beyond the dreams
Of svsrice. All OF us have many pleas
ant scuuaintances, men and women
who are intelligent and agreeable and
whose society we enjoy.
RUT these are fair weather friends,
not the real friends who ride cut
the storm with us snd on whose faith
and loyalty we can depend, no matter
what befslls us Nor is this IS unfair
as it sounds. Probsbl these people
give us as much in real liking as we
give them, they would do as much for
lIs as we would do for them, and we
are quits when we mutual lly make lite
pjeaSanter and gayeT for each other.
Think it over and you will realize that
you get g. lot of fun and entertain
ment in going 10 the uncheons and
the bridge parties of T'Umen, even If
YOU know that Jhev have no pro-
found affection for you. and that while
they might send flowers TO your fu-
neral. they would never break a date
10 attend it.
cT1te. Certainly not, il you mean
taking advantage of kissing q sister
10 stab her in the back, but ] have
found that so often women make the
charge of hypocrisy blanket indict-
nent 10 cover all of the amenities of
life. They consider it hypocrisy, for
instance, 10 be Isctful and to keep of
other peoples Toes instead of dancing
a Wsr dance on them. They think it
JS hUnnrFiTiHaI n Mi
or TO say anything pleasant and agree
able.
HAVE known women who thought
1t hypocritical 10 tell another
woman that she mao on & pretty dress.
or that she played a good game OF
bridge. OF that her baby was q dar-
ling, out they would have accounted
IL unto themselves for righteousness
10 spoil another womsn's pleasure in
her new hat by telling her it was 100
young for her. that her bridge was rot
Ten. or that her child was a spoiled
brat.
once knew a woman VINO was in
9 perpetual argument, ano Wnen L
asked her why she always went 10
the mat with everybody and got her
self disliked, she replied that she felt
ike q hypocrite il she DIDN'T express
herself every time she disagreed WITH
any one eises opinion.
DERBAPS in irving not 10 be hypo-
critical you lean over backward
and antagonize people bv telling Them
truths which they resent hearing and
10 which it is none of your business 10
call their attention, anyway. But the
secret of popularity is mystery that
none ca n explain. Some fortunate in
dividuals are born with the magic that
draws every one they meet TO them.
Every eve brightens at their coming
and every hand gives them glad
welcome.
They NAV not he half so good and
kind and unselfish as those who are
passed over. They NAV not be half
so good friends. But somehow, they
get the affection that is denied their
superiors and the attentions thev do
not deserve They just click. and
that's all there is to it.
80 should advise you 10 quit pity
- ing yourself because you are not
a social WOW and people do not make
a fuss over you wherever You go.
You might as well feel that you are
misused because you are not a cinema
star or Miss America"
Be thankful that You are lucky
enough TO have few real friends. snd
then enjoy your chop for a chop &C
ousintances snd get as much pleasure
as you can out of them.
DOROTHY DIX.
YEAR DOROTHY DIX: What's the
matter with the modern young
men? They seem not 10 know even