Evening star., 1935-09-24

EAH MlOO D1n-1 dLlI u WOlu-
an OF 81, married six years
to a man who Is one Of the
~ best. We live with my Wild
owed mother, who has a large country
home and she has established my
husband and me in q little business
Of our own.
It is what I have always wanted
and adore 1t and should be happy.
but I am not. am 50 miserable
wish I could die. hear so much of
the depression, sickness and death
I don't think it is worth while living
A friend Of mine dropped dead the
other day. Another one who has
always been healthy and strong is
dying gradually. Our rivals In busi-
ness are trying to discourage us in
our new venture. The younger gen.
Grafton hasn't a chance. Even rich
people are not satisfied Life is just
one struggle after another. When I
am glad, something inside of me keeps
whispering to quiet down. am afraid
to laugh because know will make
up for it with tears. Is something
wrong with me or is the world all
wrong? UNHAPPY.
Answer: The trouble with you Is
that you are afflicted with about the
worst case of self-pity I have ever
encountered, and that Is just about
as dangerous an ailnent as anybody
can have. If you let it run on, it
will not only kill all the Joy In life
for you, but 1t will shorten your days,
for it has been conclusively proved
time and again that the power of
the mind over the body is almost in
finite and that just as there is no
tonic that braces us up like hope
and cheerfulness, so there is no poi
son that is more deadly than gloom
and despair.
GO, IF you want to live, snap out
- of your depression. Wake up
from your nightmare. Quit doping
yourself up on your own tears. Be
little ray of sunshine instead Of
wet blanket. Take what Stevenson
called "a brave attitude toward life"
instead of turning q coward and
gutter before 1t.
OF course, there is plenty of trouble
in the world, but there is just ss much
Joy. There is just as much sunshine
as rain. Just as many things to
laugh over as there are to cry over.
There is sickness and sorrow and
death, but most of the people we know
are we'll and hardy and a long way
from the cemetery. Why not give the
live wires, the well and strong. a
thought instead Of concentrating your
attention on the moribund and the
crippled and the melancholy?
Nothing is truer than that what we
go out to seek We find. If we hunt
for trouble, We discover it on our
own doorstep. II we are always look
ing for something to worry over, it is
right down our alley. There isn't
anybody alive so healthy that they
can't find some sort of ache or pain
or symptom if they sit down and
explore their systems. There isn't
anybody who can't find some fault in
their husbands or wives, or who gets
all of the love and appreciation they
desire. or who isn't apprehensive about
the future In some way.
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Oh, YOU can always find plenty to
gloom about If you are bent on
making yourself miserable. But you
can always find plenty to be cheerful
about If you will go on a still hunt
for happiness and are determined to
grab 1t. You can look on the bright
side Just as well as on the dark side.
You can learn to laugh things of in
stead Of making tragedies of them.
You can make the best OF people and
Of things. You can even put your
heartbreaks behind you and go on with
a smile on your face so that you
will not make life sadder for other
people.
1t is only the towards who whine
and howl and complain over every
cloud IN their skies. The brave go on
singing through the rain, thanking
God for whatever blessings they have.
In these hard times 1t seems to
me that woman who has a good
husband, good home. a mother
willing and able. to help her and who
yet complains about being unhappy
should be ashamed to look at her
face in the mirror.
DOROTHY DIX.
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nEAR MISS DIX am boy Of l8
years of age and will finish high
school this year. My parents wish
to send me of to college, but I want
to attend a college here in my home