The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-11-04

unwanted sister. But 80 years have
gone by and their hearts remain the
same. They delight in telling me of
long drives in the open country
while I and my three little ones re-
main at home with my husband,
who is a seni-invalid. They tell
their friends of our poverty and talk
about us while I pray.
When I recall the many five-dol-
lar bills which I worked for in
other peoples kitchens and gave to
them during their lean days it
drives me from them and their So
called religion. Recently I decided
to join different church, a church
I was taught to hate. They didn't
seem to notice my shabby clothes
but thought only of higher things,
of lifting up when all I've ever
known was tearing down. I didn't
go as a beggar but as an earnest
seeker of truth and have found it in
the church my family hates. Even
if the Bible does say forgive 10
times 10, can we go on forever or
should we break loose and embark
on a new sea?
MOTHER OF THREE.
Answer-You are not the first
person to discover that he is an
alien in his own family. It is a
bitter experience. Whether or not
it is harmful depends on the in
dividual's ability to handle disap-
pointment. With some families,
hate acts as spur which drives
them 10 built up compensations
in other groups of people and other
fields of endeavor.s Some sink into
envy and despair and never drop
the futile search for the comfort
AMI security of parental protec-
ton which they missed in their
unhappy youth.
Frustrated in their original love
impulses, their viewpoint becomes
jaundiced. Instead of coming to
grips with the problem they re-
treat into some form of useless
inactivity.
I have no wish to discourage
your turn to new religion, but I
should like to warn you that you
will get out of it only what you
put into it. If, as I suspect, you
have chosen; this religion because
it is one which your family de-
spises you have done an officially
worthless thing. If you come
to your new faith with the attitude
of child expecting your life to be
given to you by divinity more
indulgent than your human par
ents, you are counting another dis
appointment.
The reason your prayers have
not been answered is not that you
have been praying at the wrong
altar but that you have been cher
ishing the wrong attitude. It is
better not to ask for a change in
others but to work for a change
in yourself Not that you are to
blame for the situation, nor that
it is necessary for you to turn the
other cheek to your prosecutors. 1t
is only that as human beings we
are obliged to learn how to lead
successful lives in spite Of the
fact, that we are surrounded by
injustice, cruelty and wrong do
ing. If your religion will help
you face things as they are with
out going down to defeat because
they are not miraculously changed
to make things easy for you, you
are on the right track.
u
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a girl of
is interested in boy Of 18. He can't
get married until he is 81 for he
promised his mother he wouldn't. Do
you think that we can wait? What
can do to keep him?
NINA L. w.
Answer know of nothing
which will guarantee per1nanence
in love. If your affection does not
survive the passing Of time it is
not what you are looking for.
Since you are only Is, perhaps you
are the one who will change.