Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1935-06-04

of age Have been married
~ only two years and find that
| have made the mistake Of
nv life. for I am not in love with my
wife and she is not in love with me,
but we lack the courage to tell each
other She married me TO get out
of an unpleasant home. Although my
wife does not care for me. she is one
OF the poSSesSive women who deprive
their husbands of all liberty. She
doesn't want me even to speak 10
any of nv friends on the street. She
will not leave me alone long enough
to go from one room to another. She
has no friends of her own and doeSn
like TO have mine come 10 see us.
Every time l put on my hat 10 walk
downtown she tags along behind me.
She doesn't realize that a man wants
TO be 10 himself sometimes or TO be
with some of his boy friends.
am bored to death. I am so worn
out looking at her every minute OF
the day and night that l feel as II l
could scream. When We go home from
work We have nothing 10 do but stare
at each other. night after night. week
after week. month after month, and
am so tired of it and not seeing any
of nv friends that l sometimes think
will go crazy. I have done every
thing possible to show her that she is
making my life miserable. but every
effort has been in vain. What can
DOT. D.
Answer: The obvious thing for you
to DO Is just to have showdown with
your wife. Tell her frankly how you
feel about it and suggest an amicable
separation. II she does not love you,
she may be as glad to part from you
as you will be to leave her.
CERTAINLY can see no morality
~ in two persons living together IN
an enforced companionShip in which
they are both miserable and which
brings out all that is worst In their
natures. 1t keeps their nerves or
edge. 1t sours all that is sweet and
generous in their dispositions. 1t fills
them with a hate that poIsons their
lives and makes them mur0erers at
least in thought. because they are
always dwelling in their minds on the
possibility of the others death and
looking forward to it as the realization
Of their hearts desire.
But don't get a divorce until you
have tried at least a years separation
because very often couple who think
that they have fallen out of love with
each other are merely fed up with toe
much of each other, and all they neeo
is to be parted long enough to gel
hungry for each others presence
again. Absence makes the heart grow
fonder. says the old proverb, and II
is true especially in marriage. where
husbands and wives are thrown toe
closely together to get a perspective
on each others good qualities. They
need to be parted long enough nc"
and then to get long-range vision
of them.
MANY couples who cannot get alons
4NA together find out when they are
separated that they cannot get alons
without each other. Many man anc
woman who chafed at the restriction
of marriage are even more miserable
when they get their longed-for free
dom in which they can DO as the!
please. because no one cares what the,
do. Many a man who saw only hi
wife's faults when he had her re
members only her virtues when she i
gone. And many woman Wit
thought that all she wanted was
divorce spends the remainder OF he
life weeping over her decree absolute
II every disgruntled husband ant
wife had to go through years sep
aration before they applied for
divorce. there would be mighty few
wrecked homes. As soon as tn
estranged husband and wife had hat
time really to miss each other the!
would kiss and make UP.
PUT any wife who keeps her hus
band tied to her apron strings anc
who cuts him off from his old friends
and amusements is simply asking fol
trouble. She hasn't the intelligence