Evening star., 1935-06-14
8 eggs
/ pint milk


~ rot financially able to 60 to
housekeeping. we are living
with my parents. When we were first
married my husband seemed to enjoy
my company more than that Of any
one else. but now he appears to like
talking to Dad about politics and
business and what is in the papers
more than he does talking TO me,
and I am very unhappy. Am / just
selfish in wanting my husband all to
myself? MRS. r. K. b.
Answer You are, certainly borrow
ing trouble in making yourself mis-
cradle over your husbands being
chummy with your father. If it was
platinum blond. now, you might
have some cause to worry. But as
long as it is only Dad you should
be thankful that he has somebody
to talk to at home, and that he is
doing his best to pay for his board
and keep by trying 70 make himself
agreeable. Most sorls-in-law don't.
They are surly dogs that bite the
hand that feeds them.
YOU are making the mistake that
= so many other women make of
wanting to monopolize your husband.
Every bride dreams Of being all-in-al
to the man she has married. She
doesn't want him to have a single
interest outside herself. She doesn't
want him to have particle of affec-
ton for any other human being except
herself.
That is why so many women are
Jealous of their husbands business or
careers. It is why the first thing that
a young married woman does is to
break up all of her husbands old
friendships and shut the door in the
faces Of all Of his boon companions.
1t is the thing that is at the bottom
of the in-law trouble because it burns
the wife up to know that her husband
still loves his mother anG his brothers
and sisters.
l. that none of us can really possess
another. None of us can supply all
the needs even of our best beloved,
so If we are wise we do not attempt
the impossible. We simply recognize
that our husbands and wives must
have variety in their associations Just
as much as they do IN their food, and
we do not go into mysteries when they
hunt up some roast oeef and potatoes
as change from the whipped creams
and meringues on which we are feed
ing them.
Women recognize this truth about
themselves. They know that no mat
ter how devoted they are to their
husbands, nor what spellbinders their
husbands are, they are bored to death
when they have only them for COM
pany. They crave the society of their
own sex. They want to discuss the
topics of burning interest to women
babies, recipes, clothes, servants;
where Is the best place to buy this,
and the latest divorce scandal, and
whether the Jones boy is really going
to marry the Smith girl or not.
put few wives have the gumption
to realize that their husbands have
an equal need for rhe company of
their fellows and that ii is no disloy-
atty to his wife that makes man
want to cut the apron strings now
and then and get away from the petit
coats into strictly masculine atmos-
phere,
So, little Mrs. Newlywed, take the
knowledge on the chin that you can
never be all-in-all TO your husband
because you are woman and he Is
a man, and you have different tastes,
habits and points of view and neither
one Of you will ever have quite as
much to. talk about 10 the other as
you will have with some member Of
your own sex.