Evening star., 1935-10-31

THE husband says: / feel that If We
hire some one to care for the baby
that she will not look to my wife for
the things that all children expect OF
their mothers. Also, I feel a mans
natural desire to support his family
and be the head of the house Yet
feel that if I refuse to let her go and
do the work she loves that 1 would be
as selfish as she would be if she would
ask me to stay at home and do the
housework. I make a very moderate
| salary and out of that get her every
thing that I can possibly manage. but
naturally she wants the things that
she was able to have before she mar
ried. Please help us to settle this vexed
| question. HUSBAND AND WIFE.
AnSwer-Page Solomon, for it would
take no less wisdom than be possessed
! to know what was the wise thing and
the right thing to do in case like
yours. 1t makes one sigh for the good
old simple days when there wasn't any
problem about what a wife should do.
She knew that her destiny was the
| cooKStoVe and the cradle and she
settled down TO it with no longing
glances toward a mahogany-topped
desk.
! AS I have remarked MANY times
being a woman is the most complicated
| Joo on earth and every day it gets
more and more involved For a Wom-
ans emotional life always clashes with
her business life and each one unflts
her for the other and makes her dis
satisfied with the other. Here is an
illustration of it in this girl who spent
time and money fitting herself for a
| clerical JOB. who vas stimulated by
her life in an Office, who enjoyed work.
ing with others. who liked her nav
envelope and the luxuries it brought
/ her.
/ RUT all of that didn't keep her from
falling in love and getting mar
rleo and having baby. And now
She is bored with housework and baby
tending and she feels that with her
brains and training she is fitted for
better work than a servants, and she
needs the money that she could so
easily earn at congerial labor.
| And here is the husband who wants
to be the provider and the head of
the house and for his wife to be sat-
isfed in the kitchen and the nursery
and with what he can give her. And
here is the biggest complication Of
all-the baby. So what? Who
knows?
| More money Will ease the husbands
burden and perhaps give the baby a
better environment in which to live.
but business is Jealous mistress and
any woman who goes into it must
give her first thought. her best en-
ergies to her Job Moreover, a hus-
band who has a wife who works out
side of the home must often pinch-hit
for her in it and make allowances for
the nerves and exhaustion Of a Wom-
an who has had a hard day at the
office and whose boss has been
grumpy.
A ND nothing on earth can make up
to a child for not having been
reared by its mother and not having
! had the divine love and patience that
only mother can give. Money cam
not hire any one who can take a
mothers place. And the poorest child
who has mothers hand to guide it,
mothers voice to teach it, moth
er's breast to fee to with its little
/ troubles, mothers heart TO under
/ stand it, mothers lips to kiss its
hurts and make them well, is better
/ off and has better chance in the
/ world than the little millionaire who
| is turned over to the rearing of SER
wants and governeSses and tutors.
am firmly convinced that no
woman has a right 10 have a baby
unless she is going to give it her per-
sonal attention. DOROTHY DIX.
tCopyrght. 1851