Evening star., 1935-09-28
EAR DOROTHY DIX: When
] married. I guess I loved my
husband as much as any
man evar Uas loved htIt to

I married. I guess I loved my
husband as much as any
- man ever was loved, but to-
day we are strangers because he shut
me out of his life. He never talks to
me-, Never speaks unless spoken to.
Never tells me any of his plans.
know less Of his affairs than q
stranger, but on the outside hear he
Is quite q chatterbox, and when
friends come to our house he monopo-
Lies the conversation. am not in
cluded in these talking sprees, so
have quit talking to him. I tried
being very affectionate to him, but
1t was like adoring q stick Of wood.
and now I am cold toward him.
don't think there is any other woman,
but If there Is. she Is welcome to him.
But why do you suppose he married
me7 WONDERING WIFE.
Answer-Many another woman, who
has . husband like yours. asks herself
that question and finds no answer
to 1t. Indeed, why men marry Is one
of the crossword puzzles that nobody
can solve, for apparently q large num-
Der Of men commit matrimony merely
to repent 1t.
THIS seems such an unnecessary
cruelty to some poor, innocent
woman to take her away from her
happy home or her good Job Just to
make her miserable. For no woman Is
in more unfortunate position than
the one who Is tied for life to some man
who doesn't love her, who isn't kind
to her and who takes out on her his
spite at not being free and having
to support family, and his grievance
against life In general.
Why does the man marry, for in
stance. who hasn't an ounce Of do
mesticity In his nature. and who wants
to always be going places and doing
things and Is bored to death at his
own fireside? There are plenty Of
men like that who clap on their
hats the minute dinner Is over and
fare forth to the club or to the theater
or . prize fight or to play poker with
the boys, anywhere TO do anything
except spend the evenings with their
wives.
THE woman who Is married to a
man like that spends her long,
lonely evenings wondering why he
did It, If he didn't want q home,
why did he 60 to the expense Of es-
tablishins one? II he didn't enjoy
his wife's society. why did he pick
her out for . life companion? II
he wanted to be free to 90 of with
the boys every evening, why didn't
he stay that way? Why. did he take
q girl out of happy, cheerful home
circle and dump her down In Q house
by her lonesome? Why didn't he let
her marry some other man who would
have given her the companionship she
craved? And echo answers why?
Why does the stingy man, the man
who begrudges the very food his wife
and children eat and what 1t costs
to support them, marry? He knows
beforehand that 1t costs as much to
set up q family as it does to set up
yacht, and If he isn't willing to pay
the price, why doesn't he stay single
and keep his money for himself in
stead of marrying and raising cain
over the bills? It keeps his wife
guessing, but she never guesses the
answer.
Why does q man marry . woman
he trusts 80 little that he never dis
cusses his business with her, or who
bores him so much he can find moth
ing to say to her? Why does q man
marry woman who apparently isn't
o single thing he wants In . wife and
with whom he never speaks except to
find fault? Why does . man marry
q woman except that he loves her
and enjoys her and admires her?
Nobody knows. Least Of all the wife.
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DEAR MISS DIX: I am engaged to
young man who Is working hard
and denying himself everything so
that he can buy things for our home,
but there are times when he is 20
cross with me 1t makes me very blue
and unhappy. After he has said cruel
things to me he will come back the
next day and say he Is sorry. that he
is tired from overwork or his nerves
are shot to pieces or that I drove him
to say what he did by being unhappy.
This has happened so many times that
I am beginning to think I am getting
on his nerves or something, and won.
derins what he will do after we are
married. Will he treat me differently
then? ..
PUZZLED.
Answer: No. Marriage doesn't