Evening star., 1935-05-07

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Summer a 17-year-old girl
- went to work for him, and
they fell in love with each
other. Personally, think the girl
gave my husband a new thrill and
that it will all wear off. He himself
admits that it is probably infatuation
on his part. The girl has not good
reputation. Strangely enough, the
girls mother does all she can to en-
courage the affair. Asks him to her
house all the time. Cooks up good
things for him to eat. Even went so
far as to tell him that if he would
take out separation papers he could
stay at her house all he wanted to.
My friends think am crazy not
to leave my husband, but love him
more than anything in the world. l
realize he has done wrong. but don't
think he is altogether to blame. Don't
you think that If l stick to him
through this affair he will love me
more than ever after it is over, and
will do everything he can to make me
happy? DESPERATE WIFE.
"A NSWER-You are meeting a dan
gerous situation with courage
and wisdom, and if you will just stick
to your guns you will win out. Nine
women out Of ten lose their husbands
under similar circumstances, because
when the other woman comes along
they haven't the nerve and the back
bone and the sense to put up a fight
for their own. They Just lie down and
quit without striking a lick and let
her walk off with her prey.
The wife always has one trump
card in her hand. That is her mar
rage certificate. Her husband can't
divorce her as long as she behaves
herself, and the other woman can't
! marry him unless she does. That
fact alone should make even a jealous
wife think long time before she
goes to the divorce court and so hands
her husband over to her rival.
EVIDENTLY your husband must be
well off. or else the girl and her
mother would not be pursuing him
so hotly. For mothers have an even
keener scent for money than have
gold-digging fappers. They are try
ing to force you to divorce him so
that the girl can marry him and they
can get their greedy hands on his
pocketbook, but you can at least balk
that part Of their plans by Just sitting
steady.
OF course, your husband doesn't
show up in very heroic light as the
easy mark for a f1apper and preda-
tory old woman. But the point is
that you do love him and you can
save him, and in the course of time
he will get tired of philandering and
settle down into the most devoted of
husbands. and will forget that he
ever loved any other woman but you
For it is a curious thing that a man
can break his wife's heart with his
little affairs and still be absolutely
faithful to her in his heart.
THERE are two good reasons for
- wife's sticking to a philandering
husband instead of throwing him
overheard, as he deserves. The chief
one is that she does not secure her
happiness by divorcing him if she
loves him. The decree absolute does
not heal the hurt in her heart, nor
fill the lonely places in her life. and
she is less unhappy having little of
his society than she is entirely sep
arated from him.
Besides which, she has whatever
prestige goes with being his wife; she
has her comfortable home, her old
friends. her amusements, and if she
has children they have the advan-
tages and guidance their father can
give them. The position of the wife
is almost invariably superior to that
of the divorce.
A ND she saves the man she loves.
often and often and often, from
making a marriage that wrecks him.
To this department come hundreds Of
letters from men who tell how they
thought they had fallen in love with
some young girl who flattered them
into thinking they were boys again,
and how. when they were divorced by
their wives. they married these girls
only to find that they had been mar
ried for their money, and that they
had not one thing in common with
their youthful brides.