, 1935-03-01
What Occurs
When Girls
Sneak Out?
BY VIRGINIA E

What happens when a girl sneaks
out and goes with boys against her
parents wishes?
Well. one answer came In the
form OF a letter. It said the writer
is oniy 20. but has been married
long enough TO have two children,
a child Of two and a baby OF five
months. She started going With
the man who now Is her husband,
and her father. once catching them
together. forbade the man 70 see
her again and, before the you-%
threatened 10 whip the girl
She didn't love him, she states,
but she wanted to -show" dad that
she could do as she liked. so me
him secretly for a year, then ran
away with him and married him
more TO create the same sensation
and share the spotlight with an
older sister, who had run off and
married, than because she expected
to be happy.
She has grown 20 hate her hus-
band. She can hardly bear TO let
him kiss her; says she feels like
screaming when he touches her.
She is so miserable she wonders II
she should leave her husband. She
would have done SO before II 1t had
not been for the children. Her hus-
band Is vulgar. she states. but the
older child loves them both. She's
only 20 she pleads. must she spend
the rest Of her life like that with a
man she doesn't like? This also
answer the question" she states,
what happens to a girl who sneaks
out 70 60 with boys"
JUST 20: II was all your fathers
fault, YOU know, dear. that you
ran away and married this man.
1t was. according to your own ad-
mission. somewhat because a little
girl didn't have the courage to tell
the man that she wasn't in love
with him for fear of hurting his
feelings. How much more are you
going to hurt him now when his
heart is wrapped up IN his young
wife and children?.
And. too. your desire 10 make q
sensation by running off as your
sister had done, was another cause
OF your marriage. Well. it's no use
pointing out these Self-evident
facts TO you. What should you do,
is the question, indeed. In the first
place, ! think you should talk TO
your family doctor and ask him TO
have a Tx with your husband. He
doesn't understand how YOU feel.
and 10 keeps on offending you,
when If he understood he might
change.
What would you do II you left
your husband? The children are
his, you know. and 1t Is his place
TO support them, not your fathers
or anyone else. You have 10 think
OF the little ones, as ] know you
have been doing. Maybe II you left
him for a time and went home for
a visit you would find that you care
more than you think. II is so very
difficult TO tell you what to do. I
understand SC well how you feel,
but We cannot always allow our
Feelings 70 guide us. II Is sadly true
very often that "as we make our
bed We must lie on IT," even when
We have only made a mistake, not
sinned in making said bed.
Talk 70 your mother. too, and see
what she can advice. A good doctor
might set YOU both right in a
heart-to-heart talk. They often
are the wisest people In the world,
even when they do not pretend 10
doctor the mind-only the BODY.
Y. s. r.: II II makes YOU n
happy 70 see the boy you love al
dances with another girl. and he
won't dance with you. why 60 TO
be made unhappy He probably
won't come back 70 you. so why not
make an earnest effort TO forget
him by not going where you viii
see him7