The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-09-27


pretense and gets him to her house.
She introduced him to a grass wild
ow friend of hers. I can't imagine
why unless she thought he was too
interested in me. She does not
know I know this and neither does
he. Thinking her my friend I fool
ishly made a conf1dant of her and
told her all about him. She still
calls me occasionally. I have been
her friend for years, especially since
her last husband died, but she has
double crossed me. I like this man
very much. Shall I let him know
that I am aware of her treachery
or ignore it? 1 am at sea and very
troubled for I have seen him with
this grass widow twice although he
still calls on me. I feel you can
help me. VELMA:
AnSwer-You can't prevent the
man from meeting other women;
so it doesn't make much differ
ence who does the introducing,
does it? What you feel is a touch
Of malice in your friends effort
to distract the mans attention
from you. If the introduction you
resent had come about in a cas-
ual manner you wouldn't have
been hurt. AS it is you feel that
she went out of her way to en-
barrass you, and no doubt you
are correct.
Now that it has happened you
would be wiser not to mention the
circumstance to the man. Most
men resent the tendency of wom-
en- to regard them as a piece of
personal property as soon as they
become regular callers. More
over they are shocked to the core
by the condolences women make
to each other in regard to their
love affairs. You would have been
a lot smarter to have kept silent
about your affairs in the first
place, but since you did not the
next best thing is to keep silent
from now on.
Competition in love is inevi-
table. The best way to meet it
is by outShining your competitors,
not by defling them or objecting
to their presence. Don't burden
the man with your troubles with
other women. He might be slight
ly hattered by your jealousy but
he would be more intrigued if
your reactions were not so obvi-
Gus to him.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am very
much in love with a man who
drinks. In fact he drinks for two
and three months at a time. While
drinking, of course, he runs around
with other women. When he sobers
up he tells me that he is sorry and
will never do it again. Nevertheless
he always does. This has happened
several times but love him just the
same although it breaks my heart.
Would you quit seeing him entirely
or trust to luck that sometime he
would quit? I have gone with him
about three years. ANXIOUS.
Answer-No, 1 wouldn't trust to
luck to break the drinking habit.
I am not sure there is anything I
would trust to break it other than
the complete re-education of the
man, which he is not likely to
achieve without the aid of an ex-
pert.
Habitual drinking means that
an individual finds things as they
are too much for him and he re-
tires periodically into a hazier
universe of his own where fancy
is prettier than fact. The flight
into alcohol is a flight from re-
sponsibility, and the person who
evadeS responsibility is not
equipped for marriage.
You will find it hard to give
him up, no doubt, but it won't be
half as hard as living with him.
Haven't you often wondered what
trait in yourself has attracted you
to a man who is weak instead Of
one who is strong? Is it that you
feel strong by comparison?