The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-08-14

10 my CIldBIlf
and amazement. he makes every ex
cuse for her and sees everything il
a light that is favorable to her HI
has now offered to divorce her i
possible and marry me, which is. Of
course, my dearest wish. But am
taking too great a risk? 1 can nevel
be contented with the half-loaf
Shall l continue as is mot so bad
drop him altogether this would
hurb, or marry him? Your advice
shall decide me.
Answer-Of the three possible
solutions which you mention. the
situation in which you remain is
the most precarious. To your
mind it represents the least risk
or you would not put up with it.
In truth it involves the greatest
risk in that it is not an honest
way of life. Either of the other
two solutions is safer.
If you break away. your ener-
gies are free for new deal. The
reason you ID not is that you are
afraid you VIII find somebody
else. Your self esteem is at such
a low ebb that you doubt your
ability to win free man. You
feel equal only to a man who can
not assume a responsible attitude
toward you, like your lover. When
he offers a Encouragement result
ing in marriage. you draw back in
alarm as if a lawful relationship
would require more effort to make
it a success. And, of course, you
are right. 1t would.
You say that marriage with this
man IS your dearest wish, but is
it? The reasons which you erect
against permanence do not hold
water. You are afraid your lover
still loves a demented wife who
has not functioned as such for IL
years. She can't be a very for
midable rival. You object to
charitable view of the woman
which he may only maintain as
means of Furnishing himself for
real or imaginary failures with
her. Is this the reasoning of
sensible woman or the demands
of rOmanticist who cries for all
or nothing?
The straw men which you put
up between you and the task of
marriage to a man whom you
fear you can not charm, strength
en- or keep in marriage makes me
wonder if after all your deepest
wish is not to evade the RESPONSE
blllty that such marriage would
entail. Think it over.
Dear Jane Jordan am a gil
of % and have been widow 70
over two years. Now I have falle
head over heels in love! He
grand and is wonderful to me
Neither will admit how he feel
about the other. I live in the coun
try and he recently moved int
town. He has no car and it j
very hard to get back and forth
He lives in a hotel and is unable {
entertain. My people are rattle
hard TO get along with and. there
fore, 1 can DO no entertaining a
home.
What are we to do? I can't eat
l Just sit around and NOPE. w
are even unable to phone each othe
like We did before he left. He ha
never spoken of love and marriag
IN so many words. but it is Their
and he has told his friends that h
cares very much. Should I hav
him tell me what he thinks of me s
l will know where 1 stand. or shout
1 wait until he chooses to tell me i
his own way?
Please tell me what to do an
how in the world can we find
place 10 be together with no car an
no home. or does one have to MARI
TO do that in a case of our kind9
CONSTANT READER.
Answer-What is the matter
with the mails? YOU can still
write TO each other. can't Won?
Believe me. if he is as anxious
to see you as you are to see him
I he will find a way. 1t is better
IN ler him declare his love in his