The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-04-09
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

and brothers like him immensely
He has steady work. Since we have
had to stop dating we have not seen
each other for quite while, yet We
still love each other and continue
writing. The last time we saw each
other on the sly mother cried and
begged me to forget him. 1t is net
unusual for mother to cry and pre-
tend a nervous breakdown. She did
the same thing with my sisters and
they married without her consent
They are all happy with the ones
they love. Do you think this boy
and I should try to forget each
other, or should we live our own lives
as we have planned?
I am the last daughter and I know
my parents would miss me, but ii
would take long time to forget the
boy. What shall 1 do? SUE.
Answer do not know whether
this young man is the one you
should marry or not but I do
know that your mother should
give you chance to find out. If
she does not, you have every right
to go against her wishes, even If
it means getting a job and living
away from home.
There are some women who
know no other way of controlling
a situation except by illness.
When they are sweet, self -sacri-
ficing slaves of the family and
sick to boot, it gives them a
power that is hard to lick. This
sort of tyranny is extremely de-
structive to the lives it touches
and it takes a hardy soul to
break it.
Why don't you confide in your
sisters who have had the same
battle to fight and who would no
doubt back you in your struggle
for chance to live your own life
according to your own decisions?
When you cease to be impressed
by your mothers tears and break
downs, perhaps she will abandon
them as method of attack,
though I haven't much hope on
this score. She is one of those
women, who in the tender guise
of maternal love, seeks to extend
her influence beyond the sphere
of it's usefulness. I feel sorry for
your father for the woman who
centers so intensely on her chill
dren is not giving her partner in
marriage what he has right to
expect.
Dear Jane Jordan have Just
met very nice young man. I've
seen him only once but like him
very much. We were never intro
duced but got acquainted in filling
station where I run a sandwich
business. He gave me his name and
telephone number and asked me to
call him some time when I am in
the city. I would like to know him
better but hesitate to call for want
him to think we'll Of me. Would
it be the proper thing for me to
call him, or would he think was
just running after him? I'm not in
the habit of doing things like this
so wanted to hear what you think.
GRACE.
Answer-The only thing that
worries me about this situation is
that after all the young man is
a perfect stranger to you. You
have no mutual friends and you
have no way of knowing whether
or not he is just as nice as you
think he is. Very often girls who
make these pickup acquaintance
are not good judges of character
and are painfully disillusioned
upon better knowledge of their
pickups.
The unconventionality of the
situation is nothing to worry
about. Young men are no longer
shocked by telephone calls from
ladies. and besides he invited you
to call him. He may be as good
as gold for all I know. On The
other hand he may be as black as
cinders. You can't be too cau-
tinus in choosing friends whose
background you have no way of
knowing.