The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-03-14

enabled us to marry.
1 am quick in perceiving, apt IN
almost anything and have common
sense. My husband makes mess
of everything and I have to pull
him out. Everything he starts 1
have to finish. He has no ambition,
no interest in anything besides his
work, smoking, drinking, playing
cards and sex. I don't care Tor
drinking or smoking. 1 have won
that battle with him.
Lately my husband has acquired
the habit of contradicting me. Last
night he made a deliberate fool
of me in card game. 1 shall never
play cards again in my life. l am
strong willed. Through continuous
aggravation I develop temper and
say what I think. Somehow l never
feel sorry for what L say because l
know it to be true. When we mar
ried he didn't know how to love.
After many hurtful quarrels we fin
ally agree on every point. Another
battle won, but oh the fights it cost
me!
We bought a second hand car a
few weeks ago which was WhaC
knocked the bottom out. He asked
me to let him buy it because ne
knows all about cars. He signed
contract without asking what it was
for, without reading it. He MADE
heavy down payment before the
car was fixed up; yet I told m not
to make a payment until the car
was fixed. Up to that time, still
believed in the ability of my nus
band. His stupidness drives me
crazy. Unless something happens 1t
will separate us.
was SMITTEN
Answer-What puzzles me is
why a woman as smart as you are
was unable to 1oresee everything
that has happened before she
married. You must have known
that you were the dominant char
acter. and that it would take
strong willed person to hold MS
own against you.
I am sorry I did not have space
to publish all of your interesting
letter for it shows that you have
been the victor in every issue that
arose. Your husband plays the
submissive role usually attributed
to the wife.
Instead of strengthening his
masculine traits, you have de-
stroyed them one and all, leaving
the proud male bereft OF his
plumage. What more can he do to
establish his vanished prestige
other than to pick at you in pri-
vate and in public. He knows no
other way to raise his own ego
except to tear yours down. He
feels bigger and stronger by con-
traSt when he succeeds in humill-
ating you.
No doubt he felt quite grand
when he signed contract for an
automobile without questioning its
state of repair, and he has few
opportunities to feel grand.
I grant you that the man is
nothing to lean on, but I repeat
that you knew it before you mar
ried him. You voluntarily as
Sumed the role of provider which
belonged to him, and your dis
respect for him must have set in
quite early. Because you are so
efficient you have no patience with
his inefficiency, and this only
serves to discourage him further.
My guess is that you have
grown-up child on your hands
who must be managed like a child
and allowed to succeed at some
thing, no matter how small. More
praise, less criticism, more skillful
maneuvering for the results you
want will bring more peace in
your married life than your pres
ent strong-armed methods; but
it will not turn him into the re-
liable partner which you undoubt-
edly crave.
q =
Dear Jane Jordan-Do you know
of a place in Indianapolis where I
could take a hat designing course?
E. R. T.
Answer have inquired, but
have not located any such course
of instruction. I understand that
Manual Training High School