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Evening star., 1935-12-03
Letter of
Thanks Is
Necessary
Etiquette Exacts This
Courtesy From
House Guest.
BY EMILY POST.

NEAR MRS. POST: Just what is
the rule for sending or taking
presents to hostesses, and does this
necessity become effective only after
one has stayed in house overnight?
AnSwer.-Although it is proper to
take small present or to send one,
if you would like to, there Is no rule
that exacts sending or taking a pres
ent to ones hostess. ever. Obviously
if you go often to stay in the same
house, and for any one of various
reasons you can make little return for
this hospitality. you would naturally
now and again be inclined to take, or
send. something to your hostess, or
host, or possibly their children. This
something" is usually candy, but it
can equally we'll be toys or books or
something that you think would be
pleasing to the individual for whom
you choose 1t. Etiquette, as you know,
does exact that you write a bread
and butter" letter to your hostess after
having stayed In her house-and this
whether you stay only once or wheth-
er you are a frequent visitor.
Dear Mrs. Post: I am the BRIDE
groom-to-be's mother, and q little up
set about what / should wear at my
sons wedding. I have q lovely new
black crepe dress, which has a beau
tiful, brilliant buckle and two match
ing buttons, and with which I wear
lovely crystal necklace. In other
words, there is nothing funereal about
it, and yet a friend insists that black
is taboo.
Answer.-Unrelieved black has never
been considered suitable, and Of course
the nearer your relationship to the
bride or bridegroom the less suitable
it becomes. If you could perhaps
have your dressmaker add color at the
neck and sleeves-there are many
varieties of neck and sleeve trimmings
that are smart and becoming-that. in
addition to your bright buckle and
buttons, would completely counter
act the black effect. A small collar
and wrist edging-or a narrow, tied
effect of lame. Or you might prefer
q broader drar1ry Of natter blue or
dusty pink or faded geranium or
whichever color is most hattering to
you, of q material similar to the crepe
of your dress. At least this is what
I should do were in your place. But
then I habitually wear black Gin Win
teri with q note Of color on 1t some
where.
tceperlghk M1kA
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Habitual
Neatness Is
Good Trait
To Be Well Groomed
at all Times Has
Conversations.
BY ELSIE PIERCE.

WOULDN'T have had that happen
= for a million" an acquaintance
announced. And what do you sup
pose that was? Looking her shah
biest and meeting one upon whom she
| is ever eager to make an impression
of prosperity is here again. Has it
ever happened to you?
My favorite milliner has standing
joke on herself. One season she was
too rushed to think Of herself. One
| fine Saturday evening found her COM
pletely sold out. all her own hats
given away. nothing but a few old
straws (and it happened to be the
height Of the Fall season. )-nothing
else except but single seasonal hat
that a customer had brought back to
| have reblocked. So, on went the Gus
toners hat and off the milliner went
to keep a dinner engagement. And
who should be the first to cross her
path but said customer?
When she told her story. a wise
young blade volunteered. The best
thing you women can do is to be
prepared for the worst"
And I think that's mighty sound
philosophy.
We cannot look glamorous at all
times. We cannot always be dressed
at the height of fashion. There are
tag ends when the new seasons ward
robe Is being assembled. But the
least that every woman can do is look
ha yhn
is meticulously dainty never permits
her clothes to look shabby, no mat
ter how old they may be. Somehow
she always looks well even when she
happens to be wearing last years
clothes. And she always looks pros
porous, no matter what the inside
story Of her purse.
I know a woman who has the rep
utation of being one OF the best
dressed in her circle. She always pre-
sents a perfect picture. She even
presses her shoe laces "a snooping
young sister told me that. But no
one has ever seen her fuss, and that
in itself is half her success. She al
ways plans for lasting effects: brushes
her clothes SO thoroughly that she can
go through the day without second
brushing; applies her makeup so
that it doesn't need renewing for
hours; arranges her hair SO that it
stays in place with the minimum ad-
justment She spends no more on her
clothes than most of the members of
her set, but she buys wisely and keeps
her clothes well. She contends that
her desire to look we'll whenever and
wherever possible Is actuated by two
things; first, there's a fine feeling
deep down in knowing that you look
well: second. you never, never know
whom you may meet. Two mighty
good reasons, don't you think? Well
worth remembering during the busy
shopping days!
My bulletin, Good Grooming" Is
well worth having, and my Beauty
Schedule too. They will simplify the
little details for you. Send self
addressed, stamped (3-cent) envelope
for both.
Copyright, 1889
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Lesson in
Tolerance
AndCOntrOl
Con liberation for
Others Must Be
Taught Early.
BY ANGELO PATRI.

20 DEAR, there they 60 again. Ex-
~ cuse me a minute. I'll have to
settle them before they hurt each
other. I wish the radio had never
been born"
Mother left her guest, who sat
amazed by the noise in the next room.
Leave 1t alone, I tell you" Il will
not. I want to listen to my program.
I've got rights" Leave it alone. I
want to hear the score" II don't care
If you never hear the score. I'm going
to listen to my program once in a
while. I guess" Let CO." Let go
yourself" "Ma-ma-a-a!"'
"ChildrenI Childreni What is this?
Aren't you ashamed to make such a
scene. and Mrs. Brane in the next
room? What will she think? Now
both of you. Turn off that radio No.
Turn it of. Simon, you go practice:
and you, Rosalie, go to your room and
do your homework Go. I won't have
another word" The two warriors
separated and went their ways NUT
tering, mo fair" Never get chance" 4"
Mother returned to her guest.
II shall simply have to get them
each a radio. Then maybe we can
have some peace. Every day there
is this battle. He wants one thing,
she must have the other. 1t will be
cheaper for me to get one for each Of
them and reserve the big one for the
| family"
Mrs. Brane politely dismissed the
matter, and the talk turned to other
| things. Yes, indeed, Mrs. Brane,
/ heartily agree that what the young
people need most is training in CO.
operation. The day of intense indi-
| viduality has gone by, and We must
| try to teach cooperation and service.
l think the schools are lax in this re-
spect, don't you?" Mrs Brane agreed
1t is so easy to put the blame on the
schools. Schools are impersonal sys-
TENS and cannot hold any one to ac-
count. Everybody knows that. and
knows too that blaming schools is only
a roundabout way of blaming society
Blaming society does no good. for
/ again society is a system and no one
can truly be held responsible. We
come back to the responsibility of the
| individual. Each father. mother. child
must carry his share Of the burden of
/ cooperation. 1t is burden. 1t i'm
| poses self-control, sacrifice, sharing
and all that is against the instinct of
! tho Individual 1fe ,,,l,o L.
wants when he wants it. Is each to
have then, his own radio. his own tele-
phone, his own everything?
Life cannot 60 on if that is the idea.
Yet here is mother taking the easy
way. Instead of teaching the children
that there is to be one radio for the
family and making them share it be-
tween them, and with the other men,
bers of the family, she sets about get
ting them each radio.
If each gets a radio. or a car. or
whatever his heart desires, will that
bring peace? Will that make life
easier? Not by a long way Two
radios. a multiplicity of things will
help the manufacturers, for a time.
But it will breed discomfort, strife,
selfiShneSs. Things do not create
spiritual power. Spirit is apart from
material things and thrives only upon
its own qualities. Self-control, con-
siderations for others. unselfish service
are spiritual qualities and it Is their
cultivation that brings peace.
tCopyriRht. 1880
Evening star., 1935-12-03


~ NE-PIECE frocks of wool are
worn with great chic this
season. Sometimes the dress
~ is of bright-colored tweed,
with hand-loomed appearance,
green or brown, or natural colored,
with threads of bright color woven
into the surface. Sometimes it is of
jersey, enormously popular with
women who like the feel of it and
the looks of it. and appreciate its
perfect adaptability to the simple
clothes which are worn throughout
the day. One smart shop brags Justify
about cashmere and with good reason,
for the quality and practically of fine
cashmere Is just about perfection so
far as woods go. These nice wool
frocks are worn beneath smart fur
capes, or voluminous coats, and there
is always the chance that warmish
day will come, when it may be worn
without a wrap, but with the perfect
accessories that count so much In the
achievement of smartneSs.
These wool frocks are very tailored
and trim, like the model illustrated.
Lines are clipped, neat and, of course.
the garment should be perfectly cut,
fitted and finished, or it will fall fiat
as the proverbial pancake. Interest
ing scanning adds lot to this sort
of garment, and with them the sim
plest sort of fitting is obtained with
very little effort. This dress has q
panel in front and back, shaped to
give an almost basquelike appearance
to the blouse, and widened at the bot
tom of the skirt, where it is let loose
in pleats, which furnish enough full
ness to make the skirt easy to walk
in. This panel is buttoned to the
bottom Of the skirt, or just to the
waistnne, II you like 1t better that
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Oysters Return
Bivalve's Many Ways
Of Preparation Lends
It a Special Appeal
Buffet Supper Provides Excellent Opportu-
nifty to Serve Succulent Specimens Against
Ice-Block BACKGROUND.

towels. Dip in seasoned crumbs egg
diluted with water and then in crumbs
again. Fry in deep fat. 385 degrees r.
until golden brown. Drain on soft
paper and serve with tartar sauce.
TARTAR SAUCE.
Il cup mayonnaise.
l tablespoon minced pickles.
teaspoon minced onion.
l tablespoon minced olives.
l tablespoon minced parsley.
Mix all ingredients together and
serve with fried oysters.
Serve oysters with tartar sauce on
the toasted halves of English muffins.
Garnish with olives, lemon and let
tuce.
OYSTERS REMICK.
pint oysters.
Remick sauce.
Buttered crumbs.
Squares thin bacon.
Parsley watercresS or tartar sauce.
Drain oysters. cover each with
Remick sauce. sprinkle with buttered
crumbs and top with thin square Of
bacon. Glaze under broiler and serve
piping hot with parsley, watercress or
tartar sauce. Remick sauce is a may
onnaise highly seasoned with chilli
sauce, paprika, little English mus
tard and a dash of tabasco sauce
Oyster gumbo is an appetizing oyster
soup different than the usual soup. and
1t has all the dainty tang of Creole
cooking.
OYSTER GUMBO.
pint oysters.
4 cups fish stock.
u cup butter.
tablespoon chopped onion.
4 can okra.
u bottle tomato sauce.
Salt.
Pepper.
Drain and parboil oysters; drain and
add oyster liquor to fish stock Cook
onion 5 minutes in one-half the but
ter; add to stock. Then add okra,
tomato sauce, oysters and the re-
manning butter. Season with salt and
pepper.
II you wish advice on your individ-
nal household problems write to Betsy
Caswell in care Of The Star. inclOsing
stamped self-addressed envelope for
reply.
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Gourmet's Guide for the Hostess
BY LUCIE EBERLY.

THE schedule of entertaining these
- days seems to be leaning toward
teas and buffet suppers when dainty
sandwiches and tiny cakes and waters
are the chosen compliments to hot
and cold beverages. The quest for a
change from the general is an ever
lasting one-not only are the filings a
continuous problem but the question
of bread pops up to bring additional
reflection!
DATE and nut bread, brown, rich
and moist, is always a good sub
stitute for plain wheat bread and
makes teasing and tempting tea
morsels. Thinly cut and delicately
spread with cream cheese and chopped
olive filling it is distinctive favorite
OF all. There are some people, how
ever, who do object to this bread
they claim that it is too rich and
sticky for general use. This is true
of some types since many bakers make
It to be equal to cake in sweetness and
richness and unfortunately limit the
popularity Of the bread to a great
extent. We have found a woman
though who makes this delicious bread
Just right! She has struck the happy
medium Of sweetness and moiStness
without making the product too sticky
or gooey and has been successful in
bringing out flavor superior to that
found in some of the commercially
baked varieties. 1t is sold by the
pound and large amounts are made up
to order. Homemade whole wheat
and graham bread is excellent, too,
for a change, as are tiny cinnamon
buns-no larger than a silver dollar
In size. Good old Boston brown bread
Is also versatile and the homemade
variety Is especially good.
X X
FoR the sweet platter try some Of
the homemade paper-thin cookies
end waters. All kinds Of flavors-old-
fashioned sugar. ginger, chocolate,
vanilla. black walnut and pecan-two
dozen for IS cents. The Spitz or Nor
vegian cookie, which is a rich short
Evening star., 1935-12-03

the palate and the eye.
OYSTERS IN ICE BLOCK.
l cake ice.
2 dozen Tor more) oysters.
Cocktail sauce.
Lemon quarters.
Hollow out the center Of cake OF
ice by heating a round tin as hot as
possible, and letting it melt its way
into the Ice. Line the cavity with
lettuce leaves, and fill with oysters
removed from their shells. Drain off
excess liquor) Decorate the corners
of the fee block with oysters on the
half shell. and garnish the rest of the
surface with thin slices of lemon and
rose cut radishes. Surround the base
OF the ice block with green leaves and
have nearby a bowl of cocktail sauce
and dish Of lemon quarters.
FRIED OYSTERS.
dozen oysters.
l cup fine bread crumbs, cracker
crumbs or corn meal.
/ tablespoon water.
4 teaspoon salt.
Pepper.
3 eggs.
Drain oysters and dry between
Evening star., 1935-12-03

2 cups sauerkraut
Il cup butter or other fat
l. cup flour
l teaspoon salt
Is teaspoon paprika
q cup liquid milk. water, soup sock,
vegetable juice or a mixture of two
or more Of theSe)
eggs
! teaspoon lemon juice
Melt butter or fat. add the -four and
cook for about one minute. Add the
milk, stirring constantly. and cook
until the mixture is smcSLh and thick.
Add the sauerkraut and egg yolks un-
beaten. Beat the whites of the eggs
stiff and fold them into the mixture
Add lemon juice. pour into buttered
omelet pan, cook in a slow oven for
about 20 minutes; fold; serve imme-
diately on hot platter.
Evening star., 1935-12-03

J Is a cripple and whom am
49, very anxious to help to a
start in life. I am a poor man but
I am willing to go in debt to give
her q business course and provide
her with the proper clothes, and when
she has finished the course I could
get her q good position with friends
Of mine so that she would be self
supporting. But the trouble is that
for 10 years and the mother will not
permit the girl to come and stay with
me or with her older sister, who is
married, until she can finish the
business course, or to go to any place
where I could afford to send her.
The mother has no way in the world
Of providing for the girl. But here
We are deadlocked-I wanting to pro-
vide for the girl in the only way I
can and the mother refusing to let
me, and the girl so completely under
her mothers influence that she won't
do what she wants to do. Can you
tell me what to do? J.H.
Answer-The mother evidently
thinks she Is revenging herself on you
by keeping you from carrying out
your plan about the girl, and she is
SO blinded by her own fury that she
does not see that she is wrecking her
daughters life. It Is as terrible an
example Of stupidity as I have ever
known.
1t is pitiful to think that this girl.
who has already been dealt one cruel
blow by fate, should be given an
even heavier one by her own mother.
For the only thing that could take
the curse of Of her aff1iction is for her
to be given some interesting occupa-
ton with which to fill her life, some
chance to do something worthwhile
in the world and the ability to make
herself financially independent
HER mother must know that a girl
who is crippled is cut off from
many of the pleasures of youth and
that she has a far less chance to
marry than one who is not so handi-
capped. But her affiiction will be
minimized If she can have the COM
pensation Of good job, of doing good
work, getting good pay and doing all
the pleasant things and having all
the nice things that money would
enable her to do and have.
The poor crippled girl without anv
business training must take any kind
OF hard menial labor that offers. The
crippled girl with a good business
training can aspire to any sort of
executive position and big paw en-
velope to which her mental abilities
entitle her.
To a crippled girl business train
ing Is pair of crutches on which
she can go anywhere. and it is in
conceivable that a mother would be
willing to deprive her of such an aid.
The only practical advice that I
can give you, poor, perturbed father,
Evening star., 1935-12-03

cake attractively decorated with thin
slivers Of red and green citrus, is an
ideal holiday sweet for formal and IN
formal affairs. Chocolate angel food
cake is another dainty that always
makes hit. It is hard to find,
though, because it Is hard to make.
If you will call us we will share a
secret with you've have discovered
some one who makes this type of cake
with exquisite tinesse!
GLASSES Of jelly that Is trans
lucent and clear as q jewel
ruby red and emerald green-made
without one speck of pectin! Just the
Kind grandmother used to make-the
kind that is as Iare as all fash
ioned dainties. The pure flavor and
color Is unadulterated and if you re-
member how jelly and jam used to
taste years ago before pectin was so
generally used you will rush right out
and buy a dozen glasses or so and
give them as gifts at Christmas time.
One glass wrapped attractively in
cellophane and tied with a perk bow
would certainly make personality"
Noel card, while six packed in a bril-
liant bright box would be a gift any
one would appreciate. Pure grape,
raspberry, strawberry, mint, crabapple.
apple and plum-made with fruits
gathered from vine and bush in the
old-fashioned way-carried to the well
house and turned into jellies the day
they were picked-no time for the
flavor and color to escape! One thou
sand five hundred glasses-sparkling
with brilliance of color, sharp with
flavor and fragrant of field and Or
chard! Send q box of assorted fiavors
to the young folks at college or take
some to the invalid or convalescent-
they will all gasp with admiration
when they hold the glasses to the light
and smack their lips emphatically
when they taste the contents.
For information regarding items
call National 5000, extern
ton 342.
Evening star., 1935-12-03

way. The sleeves are plain, easily
fitted, and good foils for the colored
gloves which you no doubt will wear.
There is a very nice collar. which is
fastened on each side of the blouse,
or a little stand-up collar to wear
With odd scarfs, or your fur. In fact,
it is a dress of infinite possibilities
and much chic.
Barbara Bell Pattern No. 1776-B is
designed in sizes IA, 16, 18, 20, 40 and
AZ. Corresponding bust measurements,
80, "a, SO, 38, 40 and AZ. Size 16 (34)
requires 33s yards of 39-inch material.
Every Barbara Bell Pattern includes
an illustrated instruction guide which
Is easy to understand.
The Barbara Bell Pattern Book
featuring Fall designs Is ready. Send
is cents today for your copy.
Evening star., 1935-12-03
My Neighbor Says:

A noted chemist gives us the
information that science has dis
covered that it is not dangerous
to leave canned foods in the can
after it has been opened. They
remain In better condition until
eaten If the unused portion is
kept in the can. There Is noth-
ing about the can that will con-
tribute to the spoilage of food.
To keep the coffee pot sweet
fill 1t with water to which one
tablespool Of soda has been
added and set on the stove until
water boils.
To remove dust from uphOl-
stored furniture cover the sur
face with q large turkish towel
that has been wrung out of water
to which q tablespoon of ammonia
has been added. Beat with car
pet sweeper and all dust win ad-
here to towel.
tCopyrisht 1880
Evening star., 1935-12-03

trying your best to do your duty
under hard circumstances, is to get
your married daughter to go and talk
to her sister. Perhaps she can brace
her up enough to defy her mother
and take the course that will mean
her salvation.
-
old woman OF 80 conduct her
self when living with her daughters
in-law? Is there any way she can
avoid interfering with the home life
Of the family? have four children.
Wouldn't it be best to spend a few
months with each one so will not
wear out my welcome in any one
place? My daughters-in-law seem to
like me and try to plan for my pleas
ure. know they will grow tired Of
that, therefore I rarely go anywhere
they ask me to, but always insist
that they go on without me. They
usually go and seem happy about it.
OLD MOTHER.
AlohCl. 1Vu SCCHl W lldNE SOlNtU
for yourself the problem of living in
another woman's house. which is a
difficult thing whether the woman is
ones own daughter or ones daughter
ln-law.
1t consists primarily in keeping
your fingers out Of the family pie.
The inalienable right of every woman
who is the head of a house Is to
run it in her own way without advice
or interference. She has a right TO
cook her own way. use doilies or table
cloths, the best silver every day or
plated ware. She has a right to rear
her children according 10 the latest
Baby Book instead of by grandmas
methods.
A s LONG as grandma respects
these rights and desists from
trying to run a modern household
on the principles of 40 years ago,
everything is o. K. and grandma is
a welcome guest. 1t is only when
she tries to superimpose her ideas on
her daughter and her daughter-in-
law that the fight begins.
You are also wise in not feeling
that you have always to step out
with your in-laws. Old people and
young people do not enjoy the same
things and by finding your own
pleasures in your own way you keep
from being a social burden upon them.
And you are most wise to divide your
time among all of your children in
stead Of staying with just one Short
visits make long friends, as the old
proverb puts it. in families as well as
among strangers.
nEAR MISS DIX-My mother will
not let me use cosmetics. but
there are only three other girls in nv
class who do not use them. and they
don't care what they look like and
are not liked by either boys or girls.
Don't you think my mother should
let me use rouge and lipstick?
-YEAR-O OLD.
Answer: Your mother is right in
thinking it exceedingly bad taste for
a l3year-old girl to daub herself up
with paint and powder. That is what
we old ones use when we are trying
to look young, and it is pity that
those who still have fresh young skins
can't realize how blest they are and
not spoil them initiating age.
DOROTHY DIX.
Copyright, 1880
Evening star., 1935-12-03


great pity not tc
take advantage OF
this height OF
perfection, anC
nc lu d e them
more often in our
menus.
For instance
how about big
specially chosen
oysters in a block
of ice for that ap-
preaching buffet
supper? Some.
thing a little
different, and ap-
Annlinn IA hot b
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Button Chains. "
Copyright, 1880

PARIS (P.-Buttons run in a close
chain down the back Of some of the
new midseason frocks. Patou uses
fabric ones to button day frocks and
clear prystal ones on evening gowns.
The button chains never run lower
than the .hipkne.
Evening star., 1935-12-03
BY BETSY CASWELL.

~ YSTERS, as the cold weather
settles down. get better and
better. Those luscious Chin
colleagues, Cape Gods, Blue
Points and all the rest Of the bivalve
family are plumper, iuicier and firmer
than ever. There are so many, many
ways in which oysters may be used
eaay,,S
Evening star., 1935-12-03
Return Clamoring for Larger Place in Family Food List
Dorothy Dix Says
It Is objectionable to Punish Children
in Order to Hurt Parent.

EAR MISS DIX: I have a
daughter 10 years old who
Is a cripple and whom I am
very anxious to help to a