Evening star., 1935-11-07

SOUL W oPANAAAN -
sensible, conservative and one
- who spends the money she
makes wisely, for she has a good job;
in fact, earns more than my son does.
Nevertheless, he announced to us
that when he is married he intends
to run his home and pay envelope
quite differently from the way his
father has done. He says he is going
to do all the buying, even Of the food,
and that whenever h'' wife wants
dollar she will have to come and ask
him for it and tell him just exactly
what she is going to use it for. I
can see nothing but disaster in a
marriage run on this plan, for how
will a wife feel to know that her hus-
band will not trust her with even
q cent? It will humiliate her in the
eyes Of the whole community. My
son says that he does not intend
to tell the girl of the way he is
going to run his home until after
they are married.
My husband and I feel very sorry
for the girl for no man can make
his wife happy if he is all boss. What
can we do about it? R. c.
A NSWER - Divorces are messy
= things to have in family. They
cost a lot in suffering and money.
ard it is your duty to try to save
both your son and the girl from
this unhappy experience by warning
her before she marries him of how
he intends to conduct the home
finances. For divorce there will be if
he tries to put his penny -pinching
plan in operation.
I don't believe there is any girl In
these days who would even consider
marrying a man if she knew before
hand that he proposed to make of
her nothing but a slave who would
have to spend the balance of her life
laboring for such food and clothes
as he chose to buy and bestow upon
her. The modern womans concep-
tion Of marriage is a partnership and
not state of peonage.
Your son must be so years behind
the times if he does not realize that
he cannot put any such raw deal
as he is contemplating over on a
wife now. Once it could have been
done in the Dark Ages in which a
husband was his wifes only meal
ticket and she had to stand any sort
of treatment that he accorded her.
RUT the cheese-paring policy won't
~ work now on a girl who has made
her own living. toted her own pocket
book, spent her money as she pleased
and known the delight of financial
independence. She will not stand for
begging for nickels, or husband who
is so afraid she will graft a penny of
of the market money that he won't
trust her even to buy few potatoes.
She will rightly feel she is insulted
and jam on her hat and go back to
her old Job.
Anyway. what is the idea of your
son marrying this girl whom he
thinks Of so poorly that he does not
believe her to have intelligence
enough to ever buy the groceries. or
honest enough to be intrusted with a
few dollars2 Apparently he doesn't
want wife. He just wants an unpaid
servant who will wash and scrub and
cook and mend for him without hav-
ing to be paid
If that is his notion, he had better
. ask himself why any woman would
do it. what any woman would get out
Of such an arrangement or why any
woman would be fool enough to stick
to such an unequal bargain after she
found she had been gypped into
making it? Why would any woman
work twice as hard in a kitchen as
! she did in an Office when she would
get well paid for one and nothing but
insults for the other.
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CERTAINLY no man can have con-
ceit enough to think that his wife
is going on loving him after she finds
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