Evening star., 1935-05-11
General Observations Keeping the Tide of Feminine Acve
Dorothy Dix Says
Don't Neglect Business to Please
Whining Wife.

human industry but q mans desire
to make life soft and easy for his wife
and children that drives him to his
daily task.
In these times what a man needs
Is wife who bucks him up to do the
very best that is in him, and who
makes him feel that she appreciates
the sacrifices he is making for her.
And I am sorry for any husband who
is so unfortunate as to be married
to a woman who holds him back by
assuming the martyr attitude and ac-
cusses him Of neglecting her for his
business. DOROTHY DIX.
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DEAR MISS DIX: My husband
tells me that he does not love
me. He says that he would not speak
to bum the way he talks to me, and
that he has more respect for the
women of the streets than he has for
me. He seems to blame me for this.
and think I should do something
about it. I do not know what causes
his disrespect, as have been a good
wife to him. / am honest, moral, and
neither in my manner nor language
am I common or vulgar. I offered
him a divorce We have no children
and I would not expect alimony, as
I am young and healthy and able to
take care Of myself, but 1t appears he
does not want to leave me. I am.
completely disgusted with marriage
and yet I don't want to quit, and
love him in spite Of everything. What
shall I do? HILDA S.
Answer-Apparently marriage is
one of the things that your husband
can neither do with nor without,
while you seem to be glutton for
punishment. So ones only conclu-
sion in your case is that you are one
Of the couples who get sort of sadis-
tic pleasure out of domestic fights.
You are like those strange people
who enjoy poor health and who
are never really so happy as when
they are miserable. Evidently your
husband belongs to the torturer type
of husband who delights in torment
ing some one in his power who is too
weak and cowardly to strike back,
while you must be one of the doormat
wives who enjoy having O man
trample over them.
Otherwise you would jam on your
hat and leave the next time your
husband began reviling and insulting
you, No woman needs to take that,
especially one who Is young and
! healthy and can make her own liv-
ing. 1t is easy TO see why your hus-
band doesn't respect you. 1t Is be-
cause you have no self-respect
DOROTHY DIX.
DEAR DOROTHY DIX: I have q
~ son who has been out of college
a year. He is very anxious to get q
job. and has one offered him, but
it will take him out of town. How
ever. as I am not very well. I have
talked him out of taking it. I would
turn my business over to him, but !
don't want him to be in it, as it has
very little money in it any more. !
give him good home, clothes and
spending money. but he is very dis
satisfied. Of course, I do not give
him a salary. He attends meetings,
does my banking, etc. He is very
much in love with a fine girl and
they have been engaged for a year.
but I think they are young enough
to wait. as he is only "a I found
him crying one night. He said he
wanted to go away and get q job.
What shall do? He is an only child.
WORRIED FATHER.
| Answer.-Either let him 60 and
get job with some one else, or else
turn your business over to him. It
may be that his young energy would
put fresh vim into it and make it o
success. Can't you see that you are
running your boy and killing all the
manhood in him by keeping him de-
pendent on you? DOROTHY DIX.
(CopyriEht 1881