Evening star., 1935-04-30

them. 1t isn't the diamond, but It Ii
the polish on the diamond.
In these days when social contacts
count for 30 much, and when as much
business Is done over the dining table
as in the counting room, q young man
is hopelessly handicapped II he has
not table etiquette literally at his I'm
gers ends.
You cannot imagine any young
man, no matter what his ability,
being selected for an important posi- ,
ton, If he tucked his napkin in his
collar and stuck out his elbows and
wolfed his food. AS proof of that we
have read of some man whose promo
ton was blocked because Of his table
manners.
OF course. you resent being nagged
about your table manners by your
father. Doubtless he Is worn out nag
ging you and would be only too glad
to quit. 1t Is unfortunate that par
ents have to nag, but 1t is only by tell
ing children thousands of times not to
do this, and to do the other thing,
that enough training soaks In some
how to teach them good manners and
make them ladies and gentlemen.
DOROTHY DIX.
nEAR MISS DIX: We are young
couple who have been married a
year and a half. Get along fine to-
gether. Everything all right except
that can't get my husband up in the
mornings. He gets plenty of sleep.
Is not lazy. But he Is just terrible TO
get up in the mornings. I have let
him be late for work several times, but
I can't take a chance Of letting him
lose his job. He gulps hurried break
fast and is of. Never a chance to fix
the furnace. I am so tired of this and
we scrap over 1t to the extent that he
hardly talks to me for several days.
don't like to have every day begin
with quarrel. What shall do about
it? A. L. 3.
Answer-Quit making an issue of it.
Just accept the fact that your husband
is a sleepy head and that it is part
of your Job to wake him up and get
him off to work. Make a joke out Of it
instead of tragedy. He might have
lot worse fault than that. Suppose
he drank. Suppose he we're unfaithful
to you. If you had to wTestle with a
man who came staggering home at
night, or watch one who was always
chasing some flapper, you would think
that the wife who didn't have any
thing harder to do than to prod her
husband awake of a morning was
lucky woman.
I'M NOT saying that man who
hasn't enough energy and initia-
tive and the get-up-and-get-ou about
him to wake up of himself isn't ag-
gravating. He is. There is nothing
more trying on the temper of any up
anddoing person than to see some one
just calmly sleeping. 1t fills you with
rage and makes you want to do some
thing drastic, but perhaps the offense
is not so great as it seems. And, any
way, there is nothing you can do
about 1t. And that Is the stone wall
you are up against. You can either
beat yourself to death against 1t and
destroy all of your married happiness,
or else you can just accept 1t as one
of the minor drawbacks to your mar
ried life and make the best Of 1t.
And, believe me, no wife Is so wise
as the one who makes friends with
her husbands little weaknesses and
adjusts herself to them. Nothing you
can do or say is going to turn friend
husband into an early riser. You can
have a fight over this fact every
morning and send him to work peeved
with you and thinking bitter thoughts
Of you all day. Or you can make a
game out Of getting him out of bed.
Give him a good breakfast with a
jolly wife across the table from him
and send him away convinced he has
the greatest little girl in the world
for wife. Which policy do you think
will pay better, and do more to keep
you out Of the divorce court?
DOROTHY DIX.
(Copyright. 1880