Evening star., 1935-12-05

gagged to yourg man whom
love very dearly. We agreed
- to save our money in sepa-
rate accounts so as to be able to fur
nish our home when we are married.
I saved mine, but the other day he
told me that he had saved nothing,
that his money had just all gone
through mismanagement. He admits
that he is no manager and has offered
to give me full control of the money
he earns after we are married. What
shall do-go on with the marriage
and make up as best can for the
money he should have saved, and
didn't, toward establishing a home, or
break of with my fiance? In spite
of what has happened still love him
dearly. ANXIOUS.
Answer-You can't put cash value
on love and break off your engage
ment for no other reason than that
your fiance has holes in his pockets.
You would always regret it if you did,
though I'll admit that there are few
faults that man can have that are
more aggravating to his wife than just
to be wasteful with his money. And
no fault, not even drink or philander-
ing, can do more to wreck a home.
60 YOU are wise to consider the
matter of marrying a spendthrift
very seriously. and your decision
should depend largely upon your opin-
ion Of how sincere he is about letting
you manage the family finances after
marriage. If he is really and truly
going to turn over his pay envelope to
you, well and good. but If his promise
to make you secretary of the home
treasury Is just campaign promise,
then not so well and good. You will
spend the balance of your life stand
ing off the butcher and the baker and
wrestling with bill collectors and
wondering where the next months
rent is coming from, and that is not
a pleasant prospect for any woman to
look forward to.
One of the dearest delusions of
nearly every mans heart is that he is
Napoleon Of finance and that he
knows far more about handling money
than any woman could possibly know.
That Is the reason so many men refuse
to give their wives an allowance and
dole out the market money. And this
belief Is not shaken by the fact that
in many households the wife has far
and that virtually any nitwit sort of
a woman can get more out of dollar
than any banker can. For women
are bargain hunters by nature and
men aren't.
CUR1OUSLY enough the ability to
make money and the ability to
spend it wisely or save it are not the
same talent, and many a man who is
a good money Garner is totally in
capable of caring for what he makes.
Sometimes he is a spender and wastes
it in buying foolishness. Sometimes he
is an easy mark for every CRATER and
deadbeat who comes his way Some
times he cannot resist gambling as
long as he has a penny in his pocket.
Sometimes it just slips through his
fingers without his ever knowing where
IL went.
Generosity, impulsiveness, warm
heartedness, optimism, the very quail
tiles that make a man a waster, also
make him lovable. But they do not
make him q desirable husband, be-
cause in the end it is the wife and the
children who have to pay for the hus-
bands and fathers lack of thrift.
1t Is the wife who has to go shabby
because her husband lent all the
money to drunken crony or lost it at
poker. 1t is little Johnny who has to
go without shoes because father sub
scribed SIS for floral offering for some
one whose name he scarcely knew.
y X *
WHEN a man recognizes that he
has holes in his pockets. if he
has any intelligence at all he lets his
wife sew them up. He keeps out for
himself just what he needs for his
expenses and turns the balance of his
salary over to the little woman who
has Yale lock on her pocketbook and
knows how to keep it shut. Nor need
any man feel that this humiliates him
in any way or makes him dependent on