, 1935-03-29
Here 5 How
To Achieve
Popularity
BY VIRGINIA LEE

MY DEAR MISS LEE: l am
now over 80 and happily married,
but when I was younger I used to
thtfE I'd never be popular. / had
gone with a girl chum who matured
earlier than I and became interested
In boys much sooner. She was less
shy and could talk ehtertaintnSly.
Later I went away TO teach. got into
n new crowd who had never known
me when I was shy. and o on learn
cd how to attract boys.
Here are some suggestions I
would give lonely girls: Get into
some organization, club. church. lit
tie theatre. philanthropic group,
that viii throw you with young peo-
pie In an informal way. Working
with people is better than only
meeting them socially. Be friendly.
helpful, dependable. Make friends
of girls who are the type boys Hike,
and they may either introduce their
friends and get you a date-often
q start Is all that is need<d-or you
may learn from observation or dis
cussicn what you lack.
when with these boys be friendly
laugh easily. There is nothing mor
more complimentary than laughing
at a persons jokes and approaching
what he says. Get the boy TO talk
ing II possible. about his interests.
and that's where working In groups,
etc. will help. II you have an in
terest in common outside Of your
social life 1t will draw you together.
The first thing in being popular.
II YOU are really attractive PERSONAL
ly. is to be well known. Boys are
shy. too, and II a girl is q stranger
and seems Ill at ease. they are apt
10 leave her alone. II you can work
with them and serve on committees
together, the ice viii be broken.
AS a final word. don't feel that
YOU r the type not TO be popular.
It doesn't follow. necessarily. II you
are naturally serious. forget IL some
times, be smiling. ready to kid talk
nonsense and depend on the boys
Judgment OF advice. Even II YOU are
capable. let the boys build fires and
cook steaks. Be there smiling 70 APP
preciate their skill, however.
II hope this may be helpful. There
is no more awful feeling than that
you aren't liked. Remember that
because II that seems true now. II
needn't remain so.
HAPPILY MARRIED"
Nov there Is a fine. sensible. help
full letter which should be q real in
SEPARATION to all. old and young. who
feel that folk don't like them. /
won't add a word to II. And thank
you. Happily Married.
LONESOME c.: I do not know
how you can attract the mar wou
think you love. my dear. II you
never see him except at funerals.
where he Is busy. you haven't much
chance to attract him.
I think II he really was interested
he would try to get to know YOU bet
ter. anyhow. Maybe he will.
Now as you do not seem to be
having much success in attracting
men, why not turn your thoughts to
something that will bring you salts
faction and contentment? There al
ways Is plenty Of work TO do in the
world. why not Join a church, II
YOU are not already a member OF
ore? Work with the members of
IT, Try to visit people who are shut
I'm. Read to them. and try to bring
them cheer. You see II folk cannot
have one thing that they want. they
can iii their lives with other inter-
ests and be reasonably happy. The
queer part of life Is. that when they
do that. very often the thing that
they want most comes to them.
w. M: 1 could not give you the
name you ask for in the column.
Your local physicion could recon-
mend a good eve doctor to YOU. !
am sure.