The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-03-05


years. I refuse dates with boys Ily
own age because they seem so old
to me. I am to be graduated from
high school this year and my a.
year-Old friend is only a freshman.
Should I try to forget my affection
for him and try to be satisfied with
boys in my own grade? l am at
tractive, and was chosen as the most
popular girl in my class. 1 went to
a party the other afternoon with
girls and boys my own age. tried
to have a good time and pretended
to appear as poppy and full of fun
as 1 usually am, but L didn't have
a good time and the relief was
wonderful when I came home and
played cop and robber" with the
neighbOr boys. A joke was put in
the school paper about my playing
cop and rObber" with the boys, but
I love to play those games and 1 cry
when 1 think that it is time to act
like the other girls in my class.
Their dainty feminine ways bore
me and their talk of the older boys
makes ME feel sorry for them; they
don't know the fun they are missing.
My PAL entS prefer that stay their
little girl, but I am teased so very
much and am told so often about
the fun I miss when I refuse dates
that 1 don't know whether to try to
act older or stay the way I am and
enjoy myself. Will you please give
me your opinion?
THE BIG LITTLE GIRL.
AnSwer-You aren't the only
person who ever hated to grow up.
Lots of people leave the realm of
childhood with exceedingly reluc-
tant feet. but few of them are as
honest about it as you are. Per-
hapS il is more accurate to say
that few persons are so keenly
aware of their reluctance as you
are. They only pretend to grow
up because they want TO conform,
but their inadequacy in dealing
with adult problems makes us Sus-
pect an emotional development
which paused at the sanGbOX.
can not defend you in your
wish to stay a little girl. or per-
hapS I should say, a little boy,
for your activities indicate that
the latter is your deepest wish.
II wouldn't surprise me to learn
that your parents expected a boy
in your stead. and that you dis
covered this disconcerting fact
quite early in life. At any rate,
something convinced you that lit
tie boys have the best of it or you
would not look with Scorn on the
attributes of your sex.
1t is a mistake to become toe
greatly enamored of any one
phase of life. You can not halt
at any one stage of development,
for reality is against you. Nor
can you alter the fact that you are
girl. 1t is a fact which you
must accept without protest if you
are TO make a successful adjust
ment.
You need not lead a dull or
undressing life because or these
facts. for you can carry your cop
and robber" game over into other
activities more suited to your
years. such as basketball, tennis
and other athletics. At bottom
YOU doubt your ability to excel
your contemporaries. and that's
why you choose younger play
mates.
hope this answer will serve IS
challenge to push you onward
in a group where competition is
harder. In fact. I dare you to t-y
your skill with boys and girls your
own age And dare you to dis
cover the multiple compenSations
10 be found in the art of being a
womanl
Dear Jane Jordan:-I am a wom-
an Of "a and have been living with
a man four years younger. I nave
husband who disappeared nine Years
ago. So far I have failed TO get
divorce from him. The man I live
with wants 10 marry me. and I am
afraid 10 go on for fear he Will tire
Of me. Will you give me your ad-
vice? I am desperate with worry.
MARY LOU.
Ansver-What makes you think
YOU can not get a divorce? If your
husband had been gone only two
years YOU could get a divorce on
grounds of desertion. And Il he
has not been seen or heard from
in seven years. he is legally dead.
BY all means clear up your situa-
ton and marry your lover.