Evening star., 1935-12-20
Dorothy Dix Says
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Girls Make a Great Mistake in MARRYING
Before Husband Is Established
Wage Garner.

There are even girls who insist upon
marrying boys without work, though
how the lad who can't feed himself
can provide for family, it takes a
feminine fnancier to figure out.
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OF course, If these girls were des-
perately and romantically in love,
you could understand them taking a
hazardous risk in marriage, but they
are not. They are simply set on
marrying to be a-marrying. Every
day I get letters from young women
asking me which of two men they
should marry, they apparently having
no preference. Or you could under
stand their eagerness to marry If they
were going to better their condition
and get husbands who could support
them in luxury and ease or raise them
in the social scale.
But a girl will write with perfect
monchalance that she is giving I'D a
good job to marry a ne'er-d -do-well, or
a drunkard, or a poor widower with
six small children, and she doesn't
even pretend that the reason she does
this idiotic thing is because she is car
ried away by some infatuation that she
is poWerless to resist. She Just does it
because she wants to get married.
Of course, the obsession that girls
have about marrying that makes them
rush into any kind of ill-advised
union can be explained in part by the
cosmic urge for mating, but this is
not all. Beyond that lies the insoluble
mystery of why women are so mad to
undertake an adventure that has
brought such dire disaster to most of
their sisters and their cousins and
their aunts. If a marriage license
were a glory ticket, as our colored
friends say, there would be some rea-
son for them to scramble for it. But
it isn't. For most women it is a life
sentence at hard labor, and why
they are so eager to exchange their
pay envelopes for it is past COM
prehenSion.
STILL the question of why girls are
SO crazy to get married-and. be-
lieve me, crazy is the right word to
use in connection with many a we'd
ding-remains unanswered. AS good
guess as any is that many of them
marry to get away from home and
because they are tired of the restric-
tions put upon them by their parents,
little realizing that as a boss a hus-
band puts father and mother in the
piker class.
Other girls marry because they are
lazy and think that wife can do
nothing all day, only to find that a
poor mans wife is the only perpetual
motion machine. Still others marry
because they want to write Mrs. be-
fore their names. And others be-
cause they have dreamed all of their
lives of the great moment when they
will walk up church aisle in white
satin and orange blossoms, and they
are bound to realize their vision even
If they pay for it with a lifetime of
misery.
But, most OF all, girls are bound
and determined to marry because
they are still slaves to the old theory
that If a woman doesn't marry it
shows that she is lacking in charm
for men, and that to girls is the
blackest blight that can befall a
woman. And they are so afraid If
they don't grab the first man who
comes along and marry him that
they may not have another chance.
that they do not wait for Mr.. Right.
or for the auspicious moment for
their nuptials.
DOROTHY DIX.
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