Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1935-09-03

high ideals, fell in love with each
other. They struggled against this.
but 1t was too strong for them and at
last they decided to sacrifice their
families, their good names. their social
position, their financial interests, ev-
erything. and elope. This they did.
but Oh the way 10 the Elysium they
had picked out they Quarreled. The
woman got OH the train and came
back to her husband. and the man
would have returned to his wife had
he dared. Now how do you account
for this? A. l.. r.
Answer-The reason for this is per-
the first time put their love to the
acid test Of living together and being
dependent upon each other for their
comfort and happiness and it could
not stand the strain. Their romance
was beautiful and glamorous and COM
pelling while it consisted OF stolen
kisses and secret meetings. but when
1t became q matter Of putting up with
each others ways and making sacri-
fees for each other and working for
each other. all Of the rosy clouds of
sentiment that had made 1t q grand
adventure vanished into thin air. leav-
ing them Just man and woman do
ing q thing that they already re-
GREETED.
A IL Of us have q laundering for for
hidden fruit, and stolen waters are
sweet on every lip. That Is the lure
that the "other woman" and the
other man" have for married people.
They have gotten fed up on domes-
ticity. Matrimony has gotten dull and
boring. They have looked so long at
their own wives and husbands that
they no longer see them. And here
comes along q stranger who piques
their interest because he or she Is
new: who feeds their hungry souls the
angels food Of romance that they
haven't tasted for years. and with
whom they imagine themselves In
love.
But what they are really in love
with is the adventure. the romance,
the illusion OF having recovered their
youth, the reckless devil-may-care
feeling 1t gives them to be doing dam
gerous things, to be keeping secret
rendezvous and meeting around in
queer places. to be discovering each
other instead Of knowing each others
every mood and thought, as husbands
and wives do.
Take all Of the stage settings away;
thrust an enforced companionship
upon the lovers; let the man have to
eat the cooking and pay for the chif-
fons Of the siren who has lured him
away from his wife; let the woman
have to endure the grouches Of her
soulmate and listen to his comments
on the bills on the first OF the month.
and you would send many q sadder.
wiser and repentant man and woman
back home.
For what takes the romance out Of
marriage Is not marriage itself. 1t Is
just the friction Of daily life. 1t Is
difference OF opinion. different points
Of view. 1t is singing in the bsthtub
and leaving the top OF the tooth paste
tube. 1t is eating onions and crum-
bling bread in the soup. 1t Is over
done meat and UNDERGONE potatoes.
1t Is the price Of dresses and new hats.
1t is being q golf fiend and hating
golf. 1t IS the million little things
that get on the nerves and that dis
enchant men and women with each
other.
And this happens whether they are
married or unmarried. If they live to-
gether And that Is why the best way
to break up q love nest Is to let the
cooling doves stay in for q month. BY
the end Of that time they will be peck
ing at each other just as they did their
old wives and husbands.
DEAR MISS DIX: I am q young
man. q student OF psychology. I
have been studying myself and rec
ognzie that I am Of only average in
telligence and, therefore, notwith-
standing I am ambitious and indus
trious, I am destined never to be q
success In life. Probably I will never
be able to make more than o very
moderate living. I am in love and
would like very much to marry. but I
do not feel that have the right to
ask the girl to undergo the sacrifices
which will inevitably be her lot with
me. SERIOUS.
Answer-Your case Is q shining
illustration Of the proof Of the old
proverb that Q little knowledge Is q
dangerous thing Your superficial
knowledge Of psychology has done you
more harm than good, If it has only
made you realize your limitations and
has not shown you how to achieve
your possibilities. You are like q first
year medical student who always
thinks that he has all the diseases
that he studies about.
It Is, Of course, . good thing for us
to know ourselves and to try to make
q just estimate Of our talents in order
that we may not waste our lives in
trying to accomplish the impossible.
A frail and sickly man, for instance,