Imperial Valley press., 1935-11-16
Sick Mate
Is Problem
Tow
He Is Unreasonable
and Makes Home
Unhappy
By VIRGINIA LEE

years. The doctors say he cannot |
be permanently cured. We have
two children, 10 and ID.
I'm going to admit that 1 have
ceased to love my husband because,
due to his illness, he is not his real
self. He is so cross, irritable and
unreasonable at times that II is really
trying TO live with him. During
these years 1 have hoped, lived and
continued to hope at times. l have
tried to decide what was best to do,
to divorce him when he Is in such a
condition. and especially with no one
else to look after him, doesn't seem
the right thing, and then, on the
other side, IL is very unhappy home
to rear the children in, and now,
more than ever before. L am be-
wildered
Income Limited
Our income Is very limited. We
cannot afford a place large enough
to really be comfortable, and our
daughter IA is beginning to want to
entertain her friends. 1 know that
is right and should be. but we
haven't a room where she could
; entertain them. and again I must
speak Of her father being unreason-
sable. He does not approve of her
lassociating with boys. She is a little
siarge for her age, and has always
, been dependable, but / feel she is too
tn haua hove tnlyn hn,, f11anac
alone. Now this is causing much
friction, even arguments. She tells
me if she can't bring her friends in,
then there is nothing else to do but
go riding or places. AS it is. don't
have much chance of even meeting
her friends, to say nothing of getting
acquainted with them.
Il go so little / am not able to
leave my husband much. and L
haven't kept up on just what is
being done. 1 still try to hope and
feel that time will surely adjust
things. OF course I realize youth is
too impatient to hope and wait VIII
you please tell me what ! should do
about my daughter having dates and
| going out alone? l have tried very
| hard to reason with her. but she
insists / am just od-fashioned. I am
worried MOTHER"
You certainly have enough 10
worry you. my dear, and You have
my sincere sympathy.
Now about that husband. There
is not much room for argument
there. If you were the one to have
a long. lingering, hopeless illness that
made you practically helpless. weak
and irritable, you would think a man
q brute if he deserted you. wouldn't
you? 1t would be hard for man to
continue to love a woman under
those circumstances, too, but he
would be expected to stay on. OF
course a man probably would have
a chance to get away TO work every
day. so the ordeal would not be quite
so nerve racking, but the principle
is the same. You simply cannot
desert your husband under the cir
cumstances, and the children must
carry on the same tradition of loyalty
| to him in his affliction, even though
| their home life is made hard thereby.
Now. as to the little girl. OF
course she is young to be allowed to
go places alone with boys. Some
allowance must be made for her,
| however, under the circumstances,
because she cannot have her friends
at home as freely as other girls can.
1t is trying situation for her. too.
and YOU can afford to show her that
you are sorry for her and will do
everything you can to make things
easy for her.
Tell her everything that is neces-
sary for her TO know to safeguard
her. and work out a schedule with
her so that she is allowed to go to
school affairs and even to an occa-
sional party with boys or with "the
gang. provided she is home in good
season. Confide in her and show
her that you trust her. That will be
her safeguard. Have her introduce
her friends to you, even if you have
no chance to get to know them we'll,
and maybe when your husband is
having a good time-if he ever does
you can persuade him to let you
entertain, in a very simple way, some
of her pals.
II any of our readers have any
suggestions, / wish they would write
in. And believe me. dear Mother,
things will eventually work out If
you keep cheerful and continue to
work and hope.
BLUES: If you no longer like the
boy, the best thing to do is to stop
going with him. 1t takes a bit of
courage to make the break, but you
will probably feel better when you
have done il.