The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-01-30

love with my husband and he really
does need me although he doesn't
think so. His life has not been very
pleasant for his people always have
been more or less a burden. There is
always some one around. We
never have a minute together or a
thing in common. 1 am getting so
desperate I don't know what to DO.
1 want some one to love and a COM
panion. My home is just a shelter
for him and his. I am losing inter
est in it and in life. wish you
could put a good column of advice
in for husbands, wives, in-laws and
children who interfere with some
ones else happiness.
FORSAKEN.
AnsWer-I am sorry but do Lot
see any light whatever on your
problem. If for % years your hus-
band has fancied himself as an
oId-fashione0 pater familias, abb
solute head of his own clan, whose
word is law and whose wife is his
chattel, 1 do not see how he is to
be changed.
He is the type of man who does
not look to a woman for compan-
ionShip. He neither needs nor
wants her opinion or viewpoint,
but looks with complete indiffer-
ence upon her mental powers. 1t
never occurs to him thai she has
any rights or that her peace and
contentment is any of his con-
Germ. Doesn't he feed, clothe and
shelter her? What more could a
domestic want?
The amazing thing is that you
love the man who for % years has
left you to eat your heart out in
loneliness. What are his redeem
ing features?
You have told me nothing of his
softer side and therefore given me
no clew as to what sort of strategy
could be used to make life a little
pleasanter for you.
If your husbands family has
been a constant and aggressive
rival for his loyalty, I can see that
you've had an exceptionally tough
row to hoe, but since I know moth
ing of them or their characters
tics, I can make no practical sug-
gestions as to how you might han
die them more wisely.
Perhaps you aren't aSSertlve
enough and have been a bad
friend to yourself. don't blame
you for not wishing to go on your
own, for after such a long period
of persistent squaShing you
wouldn't find a career very much
easier than your present lot.
I don't mean to discourage you
completely, but do feel that you
must make some gain in personal
independence if you are going to
take up the cudgels against your
husband, his family, or the work.
ing world. Why have you let this
man and his people grind you
down?
Dear Jane Jordan-We are two
nice girls with two fellows. When
we have dates with them they
tell us about the wild girls they have
had dates with and how much fun
they had. We think they step out
on us, but still we have dates with
these fellows. We care for them
very much and want to keep them.
Should we start being wild" or stay
as sweet as we are?
TO BE OR NOT TO BE.
AnSwer-In my opinion these
two young men only are boasting.
Boys who have so much success
with girls do not find it necessary
to be continually talking. They
boast, not only to convince you
two girls that they are irresistible,
but to convince themselves.
Either of you would be very silly
to change your manner of living
to please a couple of immature
young men. And indeed your
change probably wouldn't please
them at all. Your cue is to listen
with rapt attention, and when
they pause for breath, to murmUr,
Eyes, yes, go on!"