The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-03-28

are feeling closer to each other
every year that we stick it out.
Now here is my trouble. I am
of a very affectionate disposition and
he doesn't meet my love needs. I
do a little flirting on the side
don't really want to do anything
wrong, but 1 am starving for af-
lection. If I do not hurt any one I
can not see where the harm lies as
I don't intend to leave my husband
and want to be good wife The odd
part of it is that believe he would
understand if he knew. Of course,
I suppose it would hurt his pride but
I don't believe it would separate us.
was brought up right but some
how l don't seem to be able to give
the men up entirely. want admira-
ton from the opposite sex. Please
understand that I'm not cheating
my husband. When he wants me 1
am his and he knows that. But how
can manage it so that I won't feel
so guilty every time some man kisses
me? BIB.
AnsWer-You can't Every one
who was brought up to conform to
the edictS of our society pays for
violating the code he learned by
an unhappy conviction of personal
guilt. There is no escape from it,
even among the most liberal, for
the demands of the conscience re-
main active below the level of the
intelligence, cOndemning, censor
ing and Furnishing the personality
against its conscious will. Even
those who firmly believe that they
feel no guilt can be caught in
unconscious Furnishing atti-
tudes which reveal what they
secretly think of themselves.
Where the husband and wife
meet each others physical needs,
mild flirtatiOns with others may
act as safeguard rather than a
menace, since they provide little
variety to stave off the dreaded
ennui. The most devoted partners
feel animated by conversation with
other congenial souls, and we see
their eyes shine and color height
en- under ~ Well-turned compli-
ment.
But where one of the partners
is seeking to Sublimate a nagging
physical need flirtations lead to
dangerous corners ahead. A kiss
leads easily to a close embrace
and an embrace to actual in
fidelity. The woman more often
than the man is the first to fall
in love and frequently it is I'M
requited by a less serious play
mate. In the meantime, the de-
serted husband, who may have
been bending over backward nobly
to grant the freedom which the
unconscious does not really want,
is injured.
In short, your plan won't work.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am % years
old and was married when I was 15
but I do not love my husband. I
have three children whom I love
better than anything on earth, but
should I go on being unhappy and
doing without love for their sakes?
Will my children think more of me
for sticking to my home or do you
think they would want me to be
happy now? My husband is fairly
good to me and makes me a fairly
good living, but I want something
else to live for. It's pretty hard
sometimes. JUST UNHAPPY.
Answer-If you could dissolve
your marriage in the twinkling of
an eye; if you could earn plenty
of money to support yourself and
your children; if you could find a
man ready and waiting to love
you who would be kind and con-
siderate to three young STEP
children, then I should applaud
your divorce and say, How right,
how proper, how fine, how good"
But divorce is not that easy. And