Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1935-09-17
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running youth now. Society
says: Don't marry young
~ and don't marry without
money" and then expects the youth |
Of today to remain sane and sober.
I think this Is all wrong. What II a
young couple does have to skimp |
through the first several years Of mar
ried life? If two can't save something |
by mutual skimping, then how can
the boy save enough in, say, 10 yeats
to support them both? If the couule |
is married, they will have had their |
| start by the end of the depression, |
while those who wait will. in all prob
ability, be no better off financially |
and certainly not mentally, for the
dreary suspenSes they have been
| through.
Wouldn't it be better for me, for in
stance, to marry the girl I love nov
and gamble on getting a promotion |
than to wait until we are older and |
better off financially? Within few
weeks we will be separated py several
thousand miles, possibly for too long. |
Anything can happen at that dis
lance. Should wait and gamble on
the future? KANSAS.
Answer-If you and the girl be-
tween you can make bread and but
| ter, don't wait until you can afford |
| cake to marry. A long engagement is
| one of the most devastating expeii- |
ences that human beings ever go |
through. 1t fraZzles out the nerves.
1t makes the heart sick with hopeless |
| waiting. So tragic Is the long-drawn-
out love affair that young couple is
justified in taking many risks to avoid |
the ordeal.
RUT when the problem comes up Of
young couple marrying on a
shoestring. the question is: Can they
| take it? Have they the courage to
fight out hard times together? Have
they the nerve to make sacrifices?
Are they capable Of love that can
make them say. and mean it: "An for
love and the world well lost?"
II they can. well and good, and
blessings will follow their marriage
But If they can't take it, if their love
| isn't strong enough to stand the bat
tering Of fate, then they will be more
miserable together than they would
be apart, for each will blame the other
for their common misfortune.
Certainly it does no young couple
/ I.o 10 ho IN
pinch pennies during the first years of
marriage. On the contrary, it teaches
them to be industrious and frugal, and
( II puts them on their mettle to make
/ the best of whatever ability they have.
| And If they love each other it brings
them closer together in a community
of interests that richer people never
experience. Many man and woman
whose humble first home was glorified
by young love remember the days
when they dreamed and planned and
worked together as the happiest of
their lives.
know a woman, now a million
siress, who married poor boy who
was earning only $40 a week. who
loves to tell of how at night she washed
her husbands shirt so that he might
have a clean one to wear to work the
next day. and Of how she used to walk
2 miles to carry him his lunch in a
tin pail.
tNUR grandparents had the courage
to marry on love and bread and
cheese and kisses. They didn't wait
until they could have a show wedding
and a steam-heated apartment and
keep an automobile. They were con-
tent to live in one room and eat cheap
food and wear shabby clothes, and
the wife didn't consider herself do
mestic martyr for having to do the
cooking and scrubbing and washing
instead of going to the movies Of an
afternoon or playing bridge.
But the youth of today are not such
adventurous lovers. They want mar
riage, but they want their wedding
cakes put up in fancy boxes and tied
with ribbon. And when they do &C.
casionally undertake a marriage that
Is not adequately financed it nearly
always ends in bankruptcy.
They can't take 1t. They can't
stand the hardships. They can't make
the sacrifices. They can't do without
the things they have been accustomed
to having. Their love for each other
just simply peters out before their
love of comforts and luxuries.
Mary can't stand her hands having
calluses on them instead of being man
toured. She can't stand wearing last
years hat She can't sand her hair
being stringy and needing a wave.
She can't stand sitting at home of
evenings instead Of going to places Of
amusement. John can't stand having
to give up his club, his car, his golf,
never having penny in his pocket
and always being bounded by the bill
collector. And so they quarrel, and
part. So the question of whether
young couple should marry on a meag-
er income or not depends upon
whether they can take it.
~ ~
InEAR MISS DIX-Please solve this
problem for US: Why is it that
most homely men marry good-looking
women? PUZZLED.
Answer: Men marry any kind of
women they please because they have
the privilege of picking out their wives
and so can choose girls who are balm
to their eyes. If they are particularly
addicted to beauties, it is doubtless
their own lack of pulchritude that
makes them especially appreciative Of
| 1t in others.
No ugly woman could hope to marry
q handsome man, because men, as a