Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1935-08-27

thought Of having his last anchor
cut, the last bond of human love and
sympathy severed. and he will fee
to you for comfort and sustaining.
Maybe it will make him realize that
he does love you better than he thinks
he does. Sometimes it takes shock
to wake a man up to a knowledge
of his own feelings.
At any rate, whether this plan
works or not, it is your only chance.
For you can neither bring him back
by trying to make him jealous, nor
can you inspire an ardent passion in
his breast by patient waiting. No
man values the thing that he can
have that easily. 1t Is too cheap
I think that no women are more to
be pitied-or blamed-than those who
are so much in love with q man that
they practically shanghai him into
marriage. Such a woman knows that
a man does not love her, that he
would not voluntarily marry her. yet
she uses all her arts and wiles to en-
trap him. If he is sick, she nurses
him. If he Is lonely and forlorn and
discouraged, she gives him companion
ship and lets him talk endlessiy to
her about his misfortunes. If he is
out of money she is the one person he
can always borrow from. And, finally,
in some moment when he is particu-
larly down on his luck she drags him
to the altar.
THE woman juStifles herself by
thinking that she will make the
man love her by being good to him,
by surrounding him with all the COM
forts of home, by making life
pleasanter for him. She thinks he
can't help but come to love her be-
cause she loves him SO much.
But her optimism is seldom, If ever,
justified. Love is neither sold nor
bought. 1t is not the child of graft
tude. A man loves his wife because
he does and not because he should.
The husband who has been inveigled
into marriage always feels like a wild
animal in trap.
So my advice, J. r., is to open your
trap and let your rabbit go. Perhaps
he will come back and eat out of your
hand. Perhaps he will never return.
But as he is he isn't much of a pet,
anyway. DOROTHY DIX.
NEAR Miss Dix: What can you do
with a mother who seems to think
that all of your dates are hers, and
who spends the evenings when boys
come to call sitting in the parlor and
helping to entertain them? It isn't
that my mother has any idea of watch
ing us and chaperoning us. 1t is just
that she loves company and wants to
be amused. love my mother and
wouldn't say anything to hurt her
feelings, but she is killing my popu-
larity, for after an evening in the
bosom of the family, as 1t were, good
prospect seldom returns. Isn't there
some way that mothers can be put
wise to the fact that when daughter
has a beau she should scram after
greeting the young man? SALLY.
Answer-If mother loves the sound
of her own voice, nothing short of
gagging her, which is an undutiful
thing and one that no daughter likes
to do, will keep her from plopping her
self down in the most comfortable
chair in the parlor and RECALLING the
boy friend with two-hour monologue
about the cute child Mary was when
she was a baby, and how sick Johnny
was when he had the measles, and
how different things are in these days
from the way they we're when she was
girl.
A ND mother doesn't mean a thing
by it. She loves young company
and she loves to talk, and she hasn't
the slightest idea in the world that
she is driving away that nice Mr..
Smith, whom she would be so glad to
see Mary marry and probably DOOM
ing Mary to spinsterhood.
For boys will not come to a house
in which the parents are too much in
evidence. 1t guarantees girl against
masculine society to have a papa who
always reads the paper in earshot, just
as much as 1t would to have q small
pox sign nailed on the door. Young
men pass by on the other side of the
street and rush some girl whose mother
a. ~ <n%1 i L.
little brothers and sisters stay in their
proper place. which Is not the parlor
when the girls have company.
A wise mother writes welcome on
the door mat and gives the boy friend
q glad hand, then she leaves the field
open to daughter. DOROTHY DIX.
(Copyrighk 1891