Evening star., 1935-08-01

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life hold Ior women between
so and so? Why do our
! 49, children think that at that
age we should be willing to fold our
hands and sit in the chimney corner
and wait for death, with no interests
except in their intere3ts? Why do
they think that it would be terrible
for mother TO 60 out and get Job
and earn her own living. or even TO
marry again? Why can't they realize
that we find it hard to live In
even our children's home and want
our own, and our own independence
and maybe somebody to love us. I
am in my early SOS, strong and
healthy, and am tired Of being
ON THE SHELF.
AnSwer-Good for you, sister! Up
and at 'em. Now that you have got
to the rebellion point, get out and
do something about it. Head . revolt
Of middle-aged women against their
dutiful, loving children who are en-
slaving them in the name Of kindness.
II you do that you will achieve
0 double -barreled reform that will
add more to the sum of human hap
piness than any one thing in the
world. And you will solve one Of the
greatest Of all domestic problems, for
you will not only eliminate the great
source Of conflict In countless homes,
but by so doing you will provide for
the well-being of the trouble maker.
EVERY one knows that 1t seldom
adds to the serenity Of a home
to have a mother-in-law In 1t. Most
in-laws resent her presence. 1t brings
about jealousieS, interferences, daily
conflicts Of will, thousand unpleas-
antnesses, and no matter how much
her children love mother, they would
be happier without her.
And mother would be happier away
from them. She knows herself unwel-
come. She feels herself In the way.
All Of her life she has been busy.
Now she has nothing to do. She has
had her place in the sun. Now she
Is only Johns OF Mary's mother. And
years Of running her own house have
totally untitled her to live In another
woman's house and take orders instead
Of give them.
But when mother had no money
the situation seemed unavoidable. She
had to 60 to live with her children
and be supported by them, no matter
how able-bodied she was, nor how she
choked on the bread Of dependence
And all Of this misery has been Suf-
fered by thousands Of women just
because they didn't realize that they
were still young enough to make theil
own livings, and didn't have enough
grit and independence to roll up Their
sleeves and 60 to work and support
themselves.
Praise be that they are seeing the
light at last and, instead Of mother
festooning herself like the old womac
Of the sea around her children's neck
when father dies and spending the re.
mainder Of her days preparing fol
her latter end, she hustles out and
gets her a Job and often has a more
interesting Life than she ever had
before. Sometimes a woman ever
makes fortune and proves better
money-maker than her husband was
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AT ANY rate. such women have tht
sacred Joy Of independence anc
the interest that work brings to fl
their days, and they have the reSpec
of all who know them. Especially o
their children, who can better appre
ciate mothers virtues when they ar,
not daily rubbed raw by her peculiari
ties and who do not constantly hav
to deny themselves because of tn
burden of her support. For, after all
dollar will only 60 so far, and /
you have to add another cut to 1t, 1
spreads the butter just that mucl
thinner.
Furthermore, in the great majorit!
Of cases mother has to work no harde
for q pay envelope than she has b
work in her children's home for none
Many and many woman who Is o
necessity an unpaid nursemaid or cool
in her children's houses would be IA
better of and happier. and so woult
her children, II she were In some othe
woman's kitchen or nursery.
A dozen times I have said in thi
column that women quit work to
soon. Life may not begin for then
at SO, but q new career may If the.
have the courage to attempt it, an
they are wrong and foolish to settl
down and be dependent on their chill
dren. They should strike out TO
themselves. Make their own living
and be happy and independent.
DOROTHY DIX.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: My hus
band and I have gotten along yer.
we'll. He has treated me with the ut
most kindness and courtesy, but h
shows me no love, in any manner
hape or form. Never gives me a kis
or a caress. I am Of very affection
ate nature and this has hurt me ter
ribly. About a year ago I met q ma