The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-02-08

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They say the rea-
son I'm not working is that 1 don t
like to work. 1 have tried to find
work. but you know what a young
fellow of today is up against. l don't
believe that they would be salts
fed if their daughter was going
with a millionaire. Her mother has
remarked that she would give any,
thing if her daughter only would
give me up. If they could they
would deny her of courtship alto
geCher. If we stay in for the eve
ninT they are not even sporting
enough to give us a chance to be
alone together, but retire as late as
possible. 1 am supposed to leave at
1890 on Tuesdays and Thursdays
and at II on Saturdays. Does 1t
seem right to consider that a date
and would it be new and unthinka-
BILE for us to see each other On
Sunday afternoons?
1 have tried to make them ike
me, and you can see that their
daughter is one in a million. AS
long as she works her youth away
for her board and a roof over her
head cas- they put IT'D she may have
a few privileges, but she is OF age
and doesn't have to stand Tor Such
unreasonable requests. She is try
ing to please them and me, too.
Shouldn't her parents appreciate
and realize that she is only asking
for her happiness?
TRYING TO DO RIGHT.
Answer-They should, but they
won't. If they had said to you,
Now we have all the sympathy
in the world for your feeling about
each other. Naturally we expected
that our daughters affection
would put forth toward a MEM
Der of the opposite sex. However,
you two have a great many things
to prove before you are ready to
take on the responsibilities OF
marriage.
This young man has to prove
that he has that extra dash OF
initiative and energy which 1t
takes to break through the tough
ness of the times. He has to prove
that seemingly impossible OBJ
stacles only stimulate him to SUI
per-human effort, and that he is
not the type to say, L can't make
the grade because others can't
I'VE deplore his willingness to
place the blame for his idleneSS
outside of himself instead of on
his own inertia when confronted
with difficulties. However, he is
Young. and with encouragement
he may refuse to be daunted by
an economic situation before
which stronger men than he have
quailed.
"Of course, you two realize that
at your age one Of the things you
have to learn is the technique of
denying instantaneous gratif1ca-
ton to every desire. Now is the
time that you deny the needs of
the present in the interests of a
future goal Your task is to toll
crate stimulation and inhibit re-
Spouse. 1t is not easy, but your
ability to cope with reality marks
the difference between infancy
and maturity.
Our daughter is no longer a
child. but a self-supporting wom-
an. She is not our possession and
her time is her own. We have
bought something very dearly
which We wish to give her for
nothing and we hope it will not
be refused. 1t is called old peo-
pies experience
If they had said that, you and I
and your girl would respect them.
As it is they only have nullified
the good they could do by an at
titude which is sure to antagon-
ize. Do you think you could make
them see this point?
Dear Jane Jordan-This sum-
mer. I occasionally went with a
boy. but since school started I
don't see much of him. When We
meet he acts as if he is glad to
see me and asks me TO go places
with him, but never sets the ac-