The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-02-28


left him because he was ignorant
and she felt she married out OF her
class.
When she visited me she referred
to the Irish as dirty Irish" She
said only ignorant, dirty foreigners
were Democrats. She is a Repub-
lican and came from Boston. She
saws that all laborers are ignorant;
that they do not read good books,
listen to good music or do anything
to improve their minds; that they
should be thankful for job and
satisfied with any treatment or
wages and never rebel at injustice
or exploitation. She told me lot
about Emily Post. If this is Boston
culture. then I'll take Indiana back
woodSineSs.
Yet she has been very good to me
in many ways, SubScribes to two
magazines for me and has given me
many gifts. She says she is going
to have my husband and me visit her
in Boston and pay all our expenses.
At first I thought it would be love-
ly, but now I am wondering II II
would not put me under too great
an obligation.
I would end this at once except
that her mother said I was the only
girl she ever had cared for. She
has diabetes and will never be cured.
I hate to do anything mean; yet l
do not enjoy being on the rack. Is
il that she never has lived as we
live and can not see our problems?
Can't she see that physical wearl-
ness often blots out the desire to i'm
prove the mind? Does she mean to
be cruel? JUNE
Answer: No, of course not.
She is as easy to see through as
a glass of water. Don't you see
that back of all this assump-
ton of superiority is g timid,
craven individual? If she lost the
money, which she did not earn,
she could not maintain the same
scale of living, for her health and
her personal peculiarities would
not permit it.
You are more adVanCe geOuSly
placed in life than she, for you
and your husband earn your liv-
ing with your capable hands. You
are busy proving your adequacy
and have no need for false de-
lenses against the sings and ar
rows of fate. Why should you
feel inferior to this sick, made
uuate woman? Mans plight on
earth has turned him into an
inferiority-ridden animal with an
Unsuitable craving for power and
recognition. The healthy in mind
and body forge forward into
achievement to compensate for
the painful feeling. The neu-
rotic refuses to join the stream
of sweating humanity and excuses
his inadequacy by claiming SUI
periority to the average.
Geography is weak reed upon
which to lean for personal pres
tige. People who are superior in
fact instead of fantasy have no
need for the cozinesS Of any So
cial group, club or community, nor
do they rely on the accident OF
birth. Your friend seeks to es-
tablish her superiority by con-
trasting herself with a family
whom she wrongly believes to be
less fortunately placed. Her gifts
make her feel benevolent, thereby
enhancing the feeling which she
Graves. 1t would not be wise for
you to accept anything so preten-
tious as a trip for it would put
you in her power, so to speak.
recommend a solution of poise, pa
thence, humor and Understanding
to be given to your friend in
small doses. After all, it is she
who has something to learn from
you-not vice versa.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am girl
Of is and very fond of boy II, but
I'm not sure that I love him. Ee
has other dates occasionally and so
do I, but we both are very jealous.
I don't want any one else to have
him and I can't figure out whether
I want him or not. Do you know?
Blonde.
Answer-No. But if you don't
know either my guess is that you
aren't seriously interested. At 16
that is as it should be The only
thing wrong in your feeling is
your dog-in-the-manger attitude.
Even if the boy is of no use to
you you won't let any one else
have him. 1t hardly recommends
you as worthwhile person.