Evening star., 1935-11-28

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BY EMILY POST.

BY EMILY POST.
DEAR MRS. POST: Should the
first line Of our daughters we'd
ding announcements read Reverend
and Mrs" or REV. and Mrs?
Answer-Neither way, because this
title must always have The before it.
But you can write The Rev. or The
Reverend.
Dear Mrs. Post: was married dur
ing the Summer and we have just
told our families. To every one else
the marriage is still a secret. My
father is very displeased-not with
my husband, but with our irregular
behavior. Mother has to make be-
lieve that she is displeased, too, or
break the peace. There are so many
people we'd like to tell about our
marriage that it would be almost i'm
possible to write notes to every one,
and the local newspapers would not
reach the great majority Of them. But
how can we ourselves announce it
by an engraved form, since I've been
married for several months? Miss
Mary Smith and Mr.. John Brown
announce their marriage" followed by
last Summers date wouldn't be
right, suppose. And yet mfr. and
Mrs. Brown announce their marriage"
would not be very enlightening as to
who the bride was.
Answer-The question Is: Wouldn't
you be throwing additional Goals on
fire which might Of itself burn out
soon by doing anything Immediately
without your parents sanction? How
ever, If they continue to feel as they
do. then under your circumstances
the only correct announcement is
Miss Mary Smith and Mr.. John
Brown announce their marriage" !"
This may sound to you unsuitable,
considering you have been Mrs. Brown
for several months. but it would be
in very worst taste to attempt an
eccentricity In an engraved form. On
the other hand, you might send your
Mr.. and Mrs. Visiting card-really
an announcement Of new address
and under your name write MARY
Smith that was" to those who may
not know who you were.
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Dear Mrs. Post: My fiance is the
third George 3. Crayton in his family
and we would like our wedding invita-
tions engraved to show this sufix
Which of the following three ways
is most fashionable: 3rd, third or III?
Answer-"3rd" Is the most usual
form, but third" is equally proper.
The Roman numerals have always
seemed rather too dynastic to be quite
suitable for one who Is not a King.
But this is rather exaggerated state
ment and there is no valid objection
to this form, If you prefer it.
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Dear Mrs. Post: I am very small,
which Is unfortunate at times. The
other evening was one Of them. I
went to the theater with q friend and,
OF course, he sat on the aisle. As
bad luck would have 1t, very big
man sat directly in front of me and
I could see nothing but him. So
exchanged seats with my friend. 9th
er friends who were at the theater
saw me sitting on the aisle and told
me next day that I had committed
bad faux pas in doing this. Ger
tainly they couldn't have meant it?
Answer hope not. It is this robot
precision with which some people in
terpret etiquette that makes the whole
subject ridiculous, instead of en-
phasizing kindness and good sense,
which are its underlying motives.
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Dear Mrs. Post: I go out with a
young man who always offers to light
a cigarette belonging to some other,
woman in the group first before mine.
I don't think this Is quite courteous
to me, do you?
Answer-Unless he goes out of his
way in proffering lights to others, I
think it is a rather natural instinct
to help the strangers first. However,
if instead of the indefinite some other
woman" she were definitely the same
one every time, then perhaps you might
have reason to feel that you have
cause to worry about something even
more than mot quite courteousness.