Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1935-08-29

- addition to keeping house.
did not give up my position when
married several years ago. 1t appears
that will have to hold on to it for
some years to come, as my husband
lost his good job and is working only
part time, and it takes all of our COM
bined earnings to maintain our home,
which we are struggling very hard to
buy. am extremely discouraged.
Perhaps I have spoiled my husband,
and If gave up my position, he might
scratch harder to find something
worth while instead of being satisfied
to wait until conditions improve. On
the other hand, this may not work
out and we may lose our home and
everything that we have striven to &C
complish. Do you think should take
the chance? UNCERTAIN.
Answer-Whether your throwing the
whole responsibility Of the family on
your husband will spur him into max
ing more effort to get along or not.
Is problematical. Sometimes 1t does.
Often it doesn't. 1t all depends upon
the spirit Of the man.
COME men are ruined by their wives
~ working outside the home. When
they find out that Mary can bring in
the bacon as well as fry it, they sit
back and let her do it. They have a
comfortable place to live in. Three
square meals a day. And they can
always strike the wife for pocket
money. So why should they wear
themselves out toiling? These are
those who look for jobs praying God
they will never find them and who
become expert pool players and win
bowling trophies.
But there are other men who are
burned up at the thought of their
wives bearing burdens that they feel
they should carry on their own strong
shoulders, and whose one desire is to
be able to support their wives ana
stand between them and the naro-
ships Of life. And to these the sight
OF a tired little woman coming home
at night so weary she can hardly drag
one foot after another. IS a goad IN
their sides that spurs them on to
make every possible effort TO succeed.
You will have to decide yourself to
which class your husband belongs. II
he is one of the Weary Willles. there
is no hope that he Will ever become a
go-getter.
NEAR MISS DIX: am very mucn
concerned with a religious prob
lem that has suddenly confronted me.
The girl love and to whom am TO
be married has all the worthwhile
attributes I could desire. She takes
her religion very seriously and writes
me that she Is only willing to be
married by a preacher of her faith,
and that no matter how beautiful /
could make her life as my wife she
could not be happy unless l consented
| to this. Her religion exacts certain
observances from day TO day, week TO
week, etc.
Now I am very broad minded IN
matters Of religion, but her insistence
on her own church has made me Zee
! that what once regarded as a mole
hill is now a mountain, and that IN
her pursuit of her respective religious
| inclinations after marriage We wouIo
burn a bridge between us instead OF
behind us. Am I wrong in feeling
that 1t is her place to give to me the
future welfare Of not only ner pearl
and body but also her soul, mean
the religious part OF her soul?
BEwILDERED.
! Answer cannot discuss in thu
! column questions OF religious DelleI
They are too controversial for one
thing. and for another they are ques-
tons that each Individual must settle
for himself.
RUT will say this: think it is
great mistake, generally speak
ing. for the adherents OF inherent
faiths to marry if either one, or both
are ardent in their beliefs and II they
care especially for their churcnes. Also
1 think it is a mistake Tor the re-
ligious and the non-rer1glous TO marry
because there Is no other one thing
about which people can De so un-
Christian as they are about Christi.
anlty.
Heaven knows there are plenty o.
things for husbands and wives tc
quarrel over without their having al
hand all the material to start re-
ligious war at a moments notice. Not
| only will people fight over religion