Evening star., 1935-07-30


dearest boy In the world. We
- expect to be married soon,
with the understanding that I will
continue working for o year or two
until he Is earning enough to support
US both. Recently q man has warned
me against my marriage. He says
that q man who will get married
without being able to support wife
has no backbone and will never
amount to anything. Do you think
that my working after marriage will
injure the morale Of my fiance? Do
you think it will be right for us to
marry while we are still madly in love
and get along on our combined sal
aries, or will 1t be wiser for us to
wait for several years until he Is
earning enough for us both? Neither
of us are afraid. We won't live in
poverty If we get married now, but
we will be dependent upon my salary,
as well as his. G. r. B.
Answer: My advice is to take
your courage and your two pay enve-
lopes In both hands and 60 along and
get married while you are still young
and your love is fresh and ardent.
There Is no other more foolish
thinking than that which makes peo-
pie believe, as many do who have
not rightly considered the subject,
that 1t shows q man Is lacking in
strength of character for him to per-
NIT his wife to continue on with her
Job after marriage. Every man ex-
poets his wife to be helpmeet. That
is what the Bible adjures a woman to
be, and every woman who is worth
her salt expects and desires to help
her husband. If she can do this bet
ter by earning money than she can
by cooking and scrubbing for him,
certainly it is the most sensible thing
to do. Why 1t should weaken a hus-
bands morale for his wife to work
outside Of the home any more than
in it, nobody can explain, yet those
who criticize q wife for helping her
husband by working at a mahogany
topped desk would applaud her slav-
ing over a gas range.
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or course. the ideal order of things
is for every man to be able to sup
port his family In comfort and for the
woman to be able to stay at home and
devote all Of her time and energy
to rearing children and running the
domestic end Of the partnership. But
unfortunately conditions are not ideal
in these upset times, and often 1t takes
both the man and the woman, espe-
cially when they are young and be-
fore the man has had time to estab-
hsh himself, to make enough money
to keep marriage going concern.
1t is, then, no reflection on either
party for the wife to help bring in
the bacon. have always felt that
one Of the chief things that the mod
ern girl had to be thankful for was
that she was financially independent,
that she could keep on with her job
after marriage and so could marry
! while she was young and in love, in
stead of having to spend dreary years
waiting for her fiance to make enough
money to support her.
Doubtless there are some men who
are lazy and shiftless and who turn
cutters when they find their wives can
support the family, but for most men
the sight Of their wives brayely work.
ing in order to help them is a spur in
the sides of their ambition that makes
them put forth every effort to succeed,
so that the little woman" can stay in
the home they know she pines for.
DOROTHY DIX.
Dear Dorothy Dix: I am a busi-
ness girl, quite attractive and with
good job. My problem is this: All
my life I have dreamed about a tall,
handsome man whom I expected to
meet some day and marry, but I find
myself engaged to a young man who is
neither tall nor handsome. I must
say that he Is everything any one could
want. He Is kind, thoughtful, loving.
We have more or less the same edu-
| cation. Like the same books and are
quite companionable. But while he Is
devoted to me, only care for him in
lukewarm fashion. We are to be
married soon, but hesitate because I
am wondering if am going to be
happy married to man who isn't my
ideal and who doesn't thrill me and if,
perhaps, I may meet some one after I