The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1935-09-10

don't want to be around me for
some reason which 1 do not know.
Of course there would have to
be a girl mixed up in it. I have
liked her for some time and she
always said that she liked me, too.
I have asked her for several dates
which she accepted and broke later
on. 1 asked her one day why she
didn't give me a break" or tell me
not to bother her and all she said
is, Il don't know" If you can get
any sense out of this letter, 1 would
appreciate some advice.
JUST A READER.
Answer Yes, I get a lot Of
sense out of your letter. I see
in it a very timid lad who is
afraid of other people. He is
afraid Of competition and doesn't
like games. because he thinks he
can't win. He is super sensitive
and would like to have warm
friends, but doesn't know how to
make them. His defense is to de-
grade the thing that is most i'm
portant to him and to retire into
silence and pretend to like it.
For some reason you started off
on the wrong foot in life. Either
you were an only child or else you
had more aggressive brothers and
sisters who discouraged you. Per-
haps you have a stern father who
impressed you with a feeling of
your own inferiority without
meaning to do so. Whatever it is,
you did not learn how to Coop
crate with your companions at an
early age. There is not enough
give and take in your nature.
Your job is to interest yourself
in other people and in events
which have nothing to do with
yourself. After all, you live in
an interesting world in an inter
esting time. 1t is peopled with
many other human beings with
whom you have to learn to get
along. Don't think so much about
their reactions to you. Consider
your reactions to them and see if
it isn't a fact that you feel no
genuine interest in your fellows.
You expect them to accept you
when you haven't really accepted
them.
Don't give up on the girl. Try
telling her nice things about her.
self. She probably Graves appro-
baton as much as you do and will
think affectionately of any one
who feels real appreciation for
her good qualities. Women are
always fascinated by the man who
processes to understand" them.
How about a little attention to
her likes and dislikes, her hopes
and aspirations. If you're hard
up for conversation when you're
with the girl, talk about her. and
you'll find that you're perfectly
fascinating
Seriously now, you must not be
content with spending so much
time by yourself. You must not
hate other peoples loves if you
want to be liked. Those who are
disappointed in pleasure take ref
uge in displeasure. They are the
most unpopular beings on the face
of the earth. Don't join their
gloomy little band.
Dear Jane Jordan-Over two
years ago I met a fellow whom I
liked very much. He has had work
out Of town most of the time, but
for The last two weeks he has been
working here in town. He has
called me once during this time and
said he would like to come over,
but that it was too far about a
mile. Don't you think that if he
really loves me as he says that he
would at least call me more than
once a month? Don't you think
that if he really loved me he would
change? He may love me but from
all appearances it looks doubtful,
don't you think?
R. H. G. w. H.
Answer-You are 100 per cent
correct. A young man who will
not walk a mile to see the girl he
loves is a lukewarm sutton. Actions
speak louder than words. Find
some one with more energy.