Evening star., 1935-04-23
EAR MISS DIX work for
a large firm. Most Of the
J men In it are married, and
they are always plying me,

large nrm. Most OF the
- men In it are married, and
they are always plying me,
because I am drifting into
old maidenhood, and telling me that
I haven't much time left in which to
get q husband. I smile and COM
pare my lot with that of their wives.
I live in q pleasant boarding house,
where I have delicious food that I
do not have to prepare myself, a
pretty room that do not have TO
keep clean. My days work begins
at 9 and ends at 4:30 O'Clock, after
which my time Is my own. My salary
provides me with good clothes. trips,
amusements. have no man to keep
placated nor tied to me.
Their wives, as a rule, look 10 years
older than do. Their work is never
done. They have to cook and wash
and sew and WreStle with children.
They have to make every dollar do
the work Of five. They have to bear
with men who drink and f1irt and
philander, and who are grouchy and
hard to live with, and to save my
life I can't see where their lot Is
better than mine. Do you?
A FREE SOUL.
| A NSWER: l certainly do not, un-
less they have such an over
whelming passion for their husbands
that it takes the sting out of every
sacrifice and makes them feel that
every hardship is worth while, if only
they can be with their adored Toms,
Dicks and Harrys.
OF course, there is that sort of ideal
marriage, the predestined mating of
two kindred souls, but few of us have
| ever seen 1t in real life and still fewer
have ever experienced it. Yet this
miracle is what every woman who
marries expects to happen to her,
and 1t is why she is never warned
| by the wrecks of marriages she sees
all around her.
livery girl thinks that she is going
- to get a Prince Charming for a
husband, who will remain a per-
petual lover and spend the balance
of his life telling her how beautiful
and wonderful she Is. She thinks
that, just as a matter of course, he Is
going to be a go-getter, and be able
to give her q fine house and a car
and pretty clothes and all the luxuries
she Graves. She thinks that her chill
dren are going to be blue-eyed,
golden-haired cherubs, with naturally
curly hair, who will always be sweet
and smiling and clean and kissable
Apparently it never enters her head
that she could, by any possibility,
marry a man who drank too much,
or one who was brutal, or one who
was grumpy and cross and hard to
get along with. Apparently she never
considers the possibility Of marrying
man who does not know how to
get along and who drags her down
into poverty. Apparently she never
realizes that her children might be
brats, and that assuredly they will
be sick and dirty and bad and trouble
some, and that they may not even
grow up to be anything but a sorrow
to her.
NOW, I'm not saying that q girl
shouldn't marry until she can
take out a foolproof insurance on
matrimonial bliss. If she did, she
would never marry. Marriage is
bound to be dangerous venture, and
the old proverb nothing venture,
nothing have" is good. But 1 do
say that the girl with good Job,
who marrieS, thinking that she Is
going to better her worldly position,
generally finds out that she guessed
wrong.
The only thing that makes mar
riage worth while Is just being so
much in love with her husband that
nothing else matters. But when q
man whose wife Is wrestling with
pots and pans and babies, and wear