Evening star., 1935-05-25

woman OF 81, crafty IN love
with a man who processes
- to love me. but frankly tells
me that he has no intention
Of ever marrying. OF late the scarcity
of his dates makes me feel that he
is trying to let me down easy. In
fact, there are no dates except of my
making. He never takes the initia-
tive. The days that I don't see him
are such long hours Of hope and fear
and desperate desire that am driven
by something stronger than myself
to call him on some excuse or other.
Usually that results in my seeing him,
and the world is right again. Must
I stop calling him, knowing it will
probably mean never seeing him
again? ALICE.
Answer-Nothing else on earth Is
more prophetic than the besotted folly
of a woman who is in love with q
man who does not love her, for she
refuses to use any intelligence in
dealing with the catastrophe.
CHE shuts her eyes to facts that are
so obvious that a blind woman
should see them. She refuses to ac-
knowledge defeat, and prolongs her
agony by hoping against hope that
some miracle is going to happen that
will turn man who Is cold and in
different to her into an ardent lover
and make a confirmed bachelor lead
her to the altar.
When a woman allows herself to
use her head instead of her heart,
she knows that love isn't thing that
any girl can wish upon a man. She
knows that it is not what she does
but some mysterious force of Nature
that attracts a man to her and makes
him want to marry her, or else repels
him from her. She knows that, while
an occasional woman does inveigle or
coerce a man into marrying her
against his inclination, such marriages
are invariably unhappy. And she
knows that when once a man has
tired Of a woman, nothing on earth
can ever make her glamorouS again in
his eyes.
VET, knowing all these things which
mother Eve told her first daughter
and which have been handed down In
the minds of women ever since, when
woman Is in love she stultifies her
self by clinging TO the fatuous belief
that her case is different. and that
somehow, some way, she can turn
mans liking into loving and make him
marry her in spite of himself. She
doesn't even try to patch up the crack
in her heart. She doesn't make the
slightest attempt to cure herself of her
love sickness. She just goes on vast
ing her youth and throwing away her
chances Of marrying somebody else on
a hopeless infatuation for a man who
is weary of playing around with her
and wants new partner.
exactly what you are doing, Alice. and
inasmuch as you are an intelligent,
modern woman, why don't you have
the courage to face the truth and see
the situation as 1t exists, not as you
would like it to be? Just ask yourself
what you are getting out Of it except
misery and tears.
EVIDENTLY this man is tired of
IL you, or else you wouldn't have to
hound him on the telephone to get
him to make dates with you. A man
in love is eager for his sweetheart's
society and Is always planning ways
for them to be together. He doesn't
love you, or else he would marry you.
All this talk about bachelor free
dom is forgotten when a man sees a
girl who sweeps him off his feet. OF
all useless pursuits, the most profit
less is running after man who is
running away from you. Give it up
and forget him.
DOROTHY DIX.
X y y
DEAR DOROTHY DIx-My hus-
~ band and I are constantly argu-
ing about which one Of us is the more
spoiled. We both pout. My husband
pouts more frequently than I do, but
he says that I pout longer when I
do pout and that he always has to
make up. He Is terribly jealous and
says it is because he loves me so
much that he pouts when I am nice
to another man, and I pout as an
after-effect when we have had a fuss
over it. We will be everlasting CRATE
full to you if you can settle our argu-
ment about which one of us Is the
more spoiled, and tell us how to over
come this pouting habit.
MIR. AND MRS. NEwLYWED.