Evening star., 1935-05-18
Dorothy Dix Says
Are Women Spiritually, Mentally, Phys
ically Inferior to Men?

woman divorcing her husband because
he developed q bay window and had
got bald-headed? Be fair, Mr.. Man.
Women have plenty of faults, but
so have men. Both men and women
were cut OF the same bolt Of cloth.
DOROTHY DIX.
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DEAR MISS DIX: have been mar
ried eight years. Have two chill
dren, a girl of and boy of 2. My
husband is sensible Makes a fair
living. Doesn't drink, gamble or fiirt.
Is devoted to the children. We have
a nice home and he stays home most
Of the time. So far so good.
The trouble is am careless by ma
ture and my husband is very exact
and punctual. He has tried to teach
me to be careful, but no matter how
hard I try simply can't do it. At
my first sign of carelessness my huS-
band starts picking on me. He scolds
me, insults me, calls me names and
has got me so miserable that I am
seriously thinking of leaving him. The
only thing that keeps me with him
is the children. II not for these argu-
ments we would have been as happy
a couple as could be found, but when
he begins insulting me I actually go
crazy. Would you advise me to leave
him? THIRTY-ONE.
Answer-I would advise you to meet
the situation with intelligence instead
Of Mysteries. Why don't you use a
little sense in solving your problem?
Why don't you say to yourself: II have
a fault, a serious defect in my char
acter, one that Is about to ruin not
only my life but the lives Of my hus-
band and children, and I am going
to correct 1t. / am going to overcome
it. I am not going to let the peace
and happiness of my home be wrecked
by my propensity for procastination
and my habit of strewing things about
and never doing anything accurately.
You say you have tried to cure
L yourself of your carelessness, but
you haven't tried hard enough. You
haven't put your whole determination
into it. You haven't brought every
bit of will power you have to bear
on it. You haven't used your brains
in figuring out ways to outwit your
personal devil and get the better Of
him.
You are like the drunkard who
swears off drinking and then takes a
glass to celebrate his good resolution.
Or you are like the drug addict who
indulges in a few shots on the sly
when he Is trying to break himself Of
the morphia habit. The only way to
reform is to reform. Just to shut your
teeth and say to yourself you Will
overcome a fault or die in the attempt.
You will commit a crime against
your children if you deprive them
Of a good home and a good father be-
cause you resented his scolding you
/ for your sloppiness. When they ask
you: Mother. why haven't We any
father like other children? Mother.
why did you leave father?" it will
seem a mighty poor excuse when you
have to tell them that it was because
| you wouldn't have dinner on time or
sweep under the beds or put the top
on the toothpaste tube.
And remember that when you try
to support your children you will fipd
that employers are not more tolerant
Of carelessness than your husband Is,
and that it will be just as much q
bar to your success in business as 1t
is to your success in matrimony. OF
course, nobody likes to be scolded, but
If you will try to correct your care
lessneSs your husband will be so
pleased he will meet you halfway and
try to encourage you, and you will
get pats on the back instead of the
hammer. DOROTHY DIX.
(Copyrisht, 1935I