Evening star., 1935-11-14

EAH MIDI OlA-4 hBLcc Will
all you say about 1t being the
duty Of parents when they go
- to live with their children, to
adjust themselves to their children's
way of living. but what about the chill
dren adjusting themselves to their
parents way of living when they come
back to live with the old people, bring
ing their families with them?
During the depression several times
we have had to take in our children
and their families and provide for
them. We were glad to do this, but we
have felt that they might at least have
made the return of trying to make
things as easy for us as they could.
This they have not done. We are in
the habit of going to bed early. but
they come in at all hours of the night
and disturb our rest, and If they hap
pen to stay at home they turn on the
radio and play it until they run us
crazy. They bring their company in
without even asking whether 1t is con-
venient or not. They tell us what to
do and what not to do, criticize the
housekeeping and the food and our
old-fashioned ways, and We are tired
of it. No one has the right to come
into another's home and upset the
peace and quiet and comfort of it. and
this rule should work for young peo-
pie as well as for old. JUST TIRED.
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A NSWER-And I don't blame you.
= 1t is hard for young people to
stand having their routine of life dis
turbed but it is sheer torture for the
old. The young have many sources
of outside distraction and amusement.
but all the pleasures of life are en-
compassed In their homes for the old.
Our old houses. our old furniture. our
accustomed ways of doing things. our
peace and quiet make up the sum of
our happiness and we cannot bear it
when vandals come in and wreck our
quiet with noise and tumult and tear
up all of our habits by their roots.
The art Of living in other people
houses Is the finest art in the world
and the one that is least practiced.
Perhaps the reason for this is that few
people possess enough sense of justice
to accord every man and woman the
right to run their own houses in their
own way or enough intuition to per-
ceive when they are making nuisances
Of themselves or enough tact and
adaptability to adopt the customs of
the home in which they are staying.
And this goes for peoples children
as we'll as for strangers. For the curl
GUS thing about children is that they
%" = realize that their parents have
any right to their homes or to their
money or to spend their declining
years in peace ami quiet and the pur-
suit of happiness in their own way
Still less do they realize that when
once they have gone from the home
nest it Is no longer their home They
come back as guests and should de-
mean themselves as guests.
ONE of the worst phases of the de.
preston has been not only tha
SO many children had to go back hom'
with their children to be supported
=. t also that these children we're 81
often so ungrateful and so unappreci
ative Of the sacrifices their parent!
ma e for them. and did so little Il
soften the sacrifices that their father,
: Id mothers made. They came anc
went as they pleased without regarc
to the old peoples convenience. They
filled the house with noise and con-
fusion. They did not even try to con.
troll their children. They kept the
radio going half the night. Because
they we're worried and unhappy they
were surly and ill-tempered. and be.
cause they were bitter over being de-
pendent they bit the hand that fec
them.
Real estate men say that more peo'
pie are going back into their owl
homes. Which is grand break fo
the old people. who will once more b.
able to resume the even tenor of thet
ways.
X X y
NEAR MISS DIX: People Otter
wonder that men who know
themselves to be philanderers ant
that they never could settle down t.
loving just one Ioman. ever marry
will tell you why. 1t is because the,
cannot help themselves. Women dra
them to the altar where they woul,
never 60 Of their own accord. A rea
honest-to-goodness philanderer doe
not want to marry and he only doe
1t after some woman puts him in
position that forces his hand. M
advice to girls is not to get you
man." Let him get you. If this recip
were followed. marriages would dro