Evening star., 1935-11-12

it is enough to break of any
marriage for the family to ap-
prove Of 1t. John never marries ths
nice domestic girl with a fat littls
fortune that mother has picked out
for him for wife. No, indeed. His
choice is some silly little fiapper.
Mamie can't see the sober. solid chap
who could give her a fine house and
q limousine and charge account at
the best stores. who Is fathers selec-
ton OF husband for her. She elopes
with a handsome neer -do-well who
rates about zero as a husband.
And a second reason why Social
Service Bureau for selecting husbands
and wives would be flop is because
the rational system of choosing hus-
bands and wives doesn't seem to win
out any oftenef than picking them
out on hunch. Did you ever notics
how often when mother makes her
daughter give up a poor boy in order
to marry some rich man who can pro-
vide for her, that the rich man loses
his money and the poor boy makes
fortune? And you must have OBJ
served how often when a man or
woman marries some one who is suit
able" that the marriage ends in Reno.
A ND how could you tell whether
you would like a man or woman
for life companion just because he
or she possessed the standardized
virtues? A woman might rate 100
per cent as to looks, intelligence.
domesticity. family, social position,
etc, yet have little mannerisms and
peculiarities that would be unbearable
to live with. A man might be Joseph
and pillar Of the church and bank
president, yet bore you to tears.
But you are right about its being 4
tragedy that those who are predestined
mates so often do not meet. In every
community there are lonely men and
women who have never married be-
cause they have never found any one
who fits into their lives none whose
soul responded to their own Worse
still. there are thousands of quarrel
ing husba nds and wives who are
miserable and dissatisfied because they
married the wrong ones. 1t Is all
very sad. but do not know what can
be done about it. DOROTHY DIX.
4 x x X
DEAR MISS DIX have a charm
ing and very intelligent wife. She
could be a big asset to me in my
business career. but she is extremely
stubborn about one thing In our early
married life we made many friends,
good enough folks in their way, but
they simply do not fit into the sd-
vanced social status we have attained
by my rapid financial success.
But my wife insists on clinging TO
some of these people and spending a
lot of time with them which shs
should be devoting to cultivatins
people who could be of great assist
ance TO me in a business way. Sha
says she has no objection to making
new friends provided they are fine,
interesting men and women, but that
she would rather be poor all her life
than spend her time cultivating stodsy
bores who happen to be important
socially and financially. / tell her
that whether they are bores or net
is beside the point. A wife's plain
duty is to assist her husband in every
way she can. even if it means drop
ping her old associates and making
herself agreeable to the people whose
friendship will push his success. Don't
you agree? J. B. S.
Answer-Certainly woman should
help her husband by making herself
agreeable to his business associates
even if they bore her and she has
nothing in common with them. but.
on the other hand, he has no right to
ask her 70 sacrifice the society Of the
people she loves and enjoys for them.
YOU are overlooking one thing that
your wife has intelligence enough
to realize, and that is that the friends
that you made in your early years
when YOU were poor and struggling.
and when you had nothing to give
but yourselves. are your real friends.
hey are people who like you for
yourself, not for what they can get
out of you or for what you can do for
them. They would stand by you in
misfortune, but these new friends for
whom you are going to forsake your
old ones are just fair-weather friends.
DOROTHY DIX.
(Copyright 1880