Evening star., 1934-11-18

IF YOU think that you hate tall young
man, or fat young man, or any other
kind of man-if you stay awake at night
thinking of the nice, sharp pins that you
would like to stick into his comfortable
dreams-weH, you might well get wise
to the fact that you love him!
For hatred and love closely affiliated
as Siamese twins.
If you go to sleep calmly, not caring whether
the man is walking the streets in the rain
without his overshoes, making amorous speeches
to a chorus girl or a chambermaid, or calling
your own telephone number, he will never,
never again send acrobatic chllls ambulatlng
up apd down your spine.
You have grown indifferent.
And Indifference is the antithesis Of love.
DR.. Elaine Elmore who is associated with
the University of Paris, well-known psychologist
and consultant adviser in problems OF lie
adjustment and character Development believes
that when a man woman is certain of
his or her affection for another, the one who
would WOO and win must erect structure of
harmony and understanding.
In order to make the foundations of love
as solid as possible the two people must
understand each other and each must under
stand himself. The latter is decidedly i'm
portanti
IF you want to be happy in your marriage
first of all understand yourself DR.. Elmore
advises. There is the utmost necessity for
emotional understanding and adjustment in
marriage, as they affect the happiness of the
marriage relationship.
1.-TWO people may be unusually companion
able the surface. They may like
sports. They may enjoy tennis, boating,
swimming, golf and riding together. They
may share their fondness for the theater. They
may like to take long walks in the rain, and
or how he tod
to each other for marriage. There may be
an entirely different tension when they come
in close contact day after day. They may be
delightful friends, but unhappy in a personal
relationship.
The fact that an emotional adjustment can
not be perfected easily quite probably means
that the two people are wholly unsuited as
partners in any sort of marriage. However,
the two may need merely to understand
themselves to perfect this adjustment. One
thing is certain. They cannot rely on their
mutual appreciation of sports and the theater
as a marriage basis important as a COM
munity of interest is, of course.
Emotion is the most important part of any
marriage If emotion is removed from the re-
lationship there is nothing left. However, you
may take away all the other qualities which
make up a person, but leave emotion, and the
person remains complete.
Love, hate and fear are the three most pow
erful emotions According to bi-plurality, love
and hate for the same person may exist at the
same time. woman may love man and yet
hate him for small irritating habits which he
possesses
But there is danger that the balance may
swing in the wrong direction and hatred may
surpass love. However, if woman UNDER
stands herself and understands her husband, she
will recognize this emotional trend, analyze it
and overcome its possibility of danger. She will
perfect readjustment.
Love and hate are two aspects of the same
emotion. Hate is not the opposite of love- In
difference is, though
LET us draw parallel line and call it elec-
tricity. One end of it is positive. That Is love.
The other end, which is negative, represents
hate. When a woman doesn't have emotional
understanding, trifes may throw the weight
from the side Of love to that Of hate"
This danger is avoided when two people are