The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-10-15

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I was going to commit a crime
He said he would nail up the house
so couldn't get in when I got back.
Should we have company he watches
me all the time to keep me from
flirting with other women's hus-
bands, so he says. I care for no man
but him. I married him because
loved him, but he is killing my love.
He stops on his way home from
work at beer places and sometimes
stays for two or three hours. He
goes out at night frequently and
stays until midnight or after. Would
appreciate your opinion on this. j
don't know what to do.
AT HER WITS END.
Answer-Perhaps your husband
is projecting his own weaknesses
on you by set of psychological
gymnastics wherein you become
the potential offender instead of
himself. People who doubt them
selves are prone to doubt others.
However, it will do no good to
tell him what you think, for he
only will work the harder to prove
you are wrong. When jealousy is
based upon fancy instead of fact,
the cause of the trouble lies with
in the person who feels it and
can not be corrected by any
change in his external life.
You can not cure your husband.
Only he can do that All I know
for you to do is calmly lead your
own life without being disturbed
by his infantile accusations. If
he loses your love it is his own
fault. You can't Jail yourself to
please him.
Dear Jane Jordan-I'm in a ter
rible spot. I have been in love with
a certain girl for nearly six years.
Two years ago we split up over a
little affair of our own. She started
to go with another fellow and goes
with him to this day. She thinks
quite bit of him, but still cares
for me also.
I asked her to go back with me,
but she said that after seeing him
three nights a week for two years
that it would be hard to quit. He
doesn't like me and neither does
her mother, and she has to slip out
of the house to see me. I really
love her and would marry her if
could. Do you think it would be
wrong to run away and get mar
ried, or should I wait for her to
shake the other fellow and get her
mothers consent?
IN LOVE.
Answer-Quite often we have to
lose something before we can APP
preciate it. But as soon as one de-
sire is gratifed, we build up an
other. How do you know that you
will want the girl after you get
her? Maybe your pride demands
the conquest more than your
heart.
I do not think it is wrong for
two mature and financially re-
sponsible people to marry no mat
ter what method they choose. If
the girl really wants to marry you
1 should think she would be fair
enough to explain the situation to
her other sutton and announce her
intentions to her mother. Running
away is a method of begging the
question.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a man
of % in love with married girl II
years old. Her parents made her
marry her husband because she is
to become mother She
doesn't love him, and so she left
him. I am crazy about her, but she
seems to care for me only when
there are no other fellows around.
When other boys are present she
won't pay much attention to me.
All the same I would take her and
the baby if she would marry me. I
will do whatever you think would
be best. P. j. B.
AnSwer-In my opinion you are
only inviting trouble in assuming
the responsibility for so young
and irresponsible girl. 1t is grand
to feel like a strong armed res
cuer, but it might get tiresome
when the rescued refused to show
any appreciation. If the girl is
Indifferent to you, she will prob
ably settle the problem by refuS-
ing you. In time 1 imagine you
will be grateful to her for not &C
cepting your proposition.
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