The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-05-24


and if 1 do it means a terrible
fight, with insults and unbearable
language. I have done odds and
ends of work to make money, and
have been real slave in my own
home. My people have helped
and helped, but he only expects
more. He has had many chances
but misused them by gambling
and horses.
He tells me to get out, but 1
don't want to give up my children.
He is a very selfish type, and says
he doesn't love me any more. 1t
is just that he can not have his
pockets full of money for his own
use.
The children and 1 are always
uneasy when he is around for he
is always finding fault. I am so
full of worry 1 could write forever
but just want to see what you can
tell me. WORRIED MOTHER.
AnsWer-The depression has been
a potent agent in bringing to light
the worst in mean characters. Many
people whose essential maladjuSt-
ment to life passes unnoticed in
times of prosperity will disintegrate
as soon as they are exposed to I'M
usual stress and strain. The ten
dency to react in an unhealthy
manner was there all the time, but
they were much more bearable when
they had adequate financial means
for amusement and recreation.
The unemployed head of a family
reacts to his feelings of insecurity
and humiliation in variety of
ways. Your husband, who was never
any too ConSiderate of others, now
finds his only satisfaction in being
a brute and boor.
Dear Jane Jordan = I am 80
years old, the mother of two dar-
ling children. I have been mar
ried about twelve years and up
to last year 1 never though of 60
ing out with other men. I met a
man in casual way some time
ago and he talked me into the
idea of going out with him. 1 did
not realize the seriousness of it
and had several dates with him.
My husband found out about it
and now says he wants a divorce.
He says l am o. k. as friend, but
he does not want me for his wife.
I have told him that I do not
want him to leave me and that
love no one but him, and will do
everything 1 can to make him for
get my mistakes, but he insists
that he will never forget regard
less of what do to make amends.
I feel as if 1 can not live without
him and want you to tell me if
he isn't little too severe with
me. Why is it a man can step
out for a little fun and be for
given when men are not willing
to give wife another chance to
be true? SORRY.
AnSwer-Evidently he regards his
wife as piece of property instead
of human being. His property
rights have been violated and he is
furious and sulky. I do not know
whether he will get over it or not,
but you should certainly stop hum
bling yourself to earth to please him
when his heart remains untouched.
Of course, you made mistake by
deceiving him. 1t would have been
much better if each of you frankly
had other friendships to provide
variety. Anybody gets tired of
ceaseless companionship with one
person and longs to talk to some
one else once in a while. Where
such harmless friendships are for
hidden, it's a great temptation to
deceive.
Dear Jane When ] first
had a date with my boy friend he
said he would not go with a girl
unless she came across. I'm crazy
about him and willing to sacrifice
everything for him, but he won't
even touch me. He says he isn't
going to ruin my life for he in
tends to be a bachelor He has
seen too much of married life,
and has to support his family.
Why does he still come around for
dates if he is intending to be a
bachelor? / want him even if I
have to ruin my lie, but he won't
have it that way. What do you
think about it? M.
Answer-Your boy friend feels
lnstinctively that your feeling is so
intense that he can not share it.
and he is unusually honest If he
did as you wished you would be-