The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-05
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

psychological effect on their flu
ture lives. L am doing everything
1 know to keep the peace, but the
Ratchet never stays buried long.
Just what do you think of all
this? If the other mans wife did
not keep things stirred up all the
time, we probably could get set
tied down to decent living again.
Please give me your honest
opinion
MOTHER OF SONS.
AnSwer-When woman confeSSeS
her indiscretions to her husband I
doubt that she does so from the
promptings of conscience. She tells
him for the purpose of humiliating
him. Usually he has been the first
to be unfaithful and her affair is
inspired more by spirit of retalia-
ton than by love.
Your wounded vanity needed the
love making of the other man, but
the real need was to show your huS-
band that you were attractive to
other men although neglected by
him. Beneath all your discomfort
at his jealous harrangues there has
an under-current of satisfaction.
You failed to hold his interest by
being a faithful wife, but you
shocked him into attention by being
unfaithful.
If your husband had the good
sense to see that he has nobody but
himself to think for your depression,
and that your good behavior is de-
pendent upon his, he would cease
to suspect YOU In other words, he
is the cause and you are the effect
The real crime in this case is your
husbands use Of the children to fog
you into obedience. He has no real
strength of his own or he would
fight his own battles without bur-
dening the young Children are
hard to fool, and the chances are
that he will lose their respect anc
perhaps their affection by the con-
tinued persecution of their mother
1t is obvious that you have theil
interests at heart more than he has
and the boys will feel this in
stinctively. They are not apt to be-
lieve yarns about their mother;
wickedness when daily experience
proves that it is not true.
What the solution is, I do not
know. Your separation should be ar
enormous relief to your children
who quite justly resent being torn
between hostile parents. Reconcilia-
ton is possible if you are both will
ing to give up the struggle for SUI
premacy over each other and outline
good working agreement in which
you function as trustworthy equals
AS it is you are behaving like spite
full children.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am so dis
guested hardly know what to do.
1 have lived with a man as his
wife for about year. never did
anything like this before, but I
couldn't get a position. keep
house for him and worked in his
business night and day.
The worst part of it is that I am
pregnant and now he wants to get
rid of me. He watches me in the
business as if 1 we're dishonest. I
never took penny in my life and
I gave him the best of references
when I went to work for him. I
heard he did some dishonest
things in business, but when 1
have always been honest, why
does he treat me that way?
When was about 20 years old I
married a lawyer, but he passed.
away. I am now 81. I went to
church before came here and
lived a decent life. I work until
midnight and on Sundays. He
beats up on me until my body is
black and blue. What on earth
can I do? M. M.
AnsWeT-Tou can take your case
to court and get support for your
self and child. If you had lived
with him for two years you could
sue him as his common law wife
AS it is he is responsible for the
baby See a good lawyer and abide
by his advice.
After your child Is born, you can
begin life over and earn your own
way. The man is not worth your
while If he is dishonest himself
it is not surprising that he sus-
poets you, for people are prone to
project their own faults on to
others in this MANNER
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a boy