The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-10-05


Mother wants me to go with some
one who has money. This boy wants
money, but doesn't know how to get
out and make it. I don't think mon
ey has anything to do with it. This
boy isn't a bit like his family and
thinks everything I do is just the
stuff. I don't give a snap for the
family or for money. All that counts
is do you really love the boy. What
do you think?
A BROKEN HEART TRYING TO
MEND.
Answer-Without knowing you,
your mother, the boy or his fam
lily, I can't hope to give an &C
curate answer. The chances are
that you are an idealist and your
mother is a realist.
It is all very fine to say that a
boy is immune to the influence of
an inferior family, and that
money has no value, but is it
true? Your mother probably
thought the same thing when she
was young, but lived to learn the
far-reaching effects of the family
on the man, and the dampening
influence of poverty on romantic
love.
Sometimes great man rises
from the gutter. Sometimes a
poor boy succeeds in Showering
diamonds on the girl who believed
in him. Sometimes a painful
feeling of inferiority is the very
spark which fires such a boy to
compensate by glorious achieve
ment. But not always.
Everything depends on your
ability to pick a winner. Your
mother has given you very super
fetal reasons for quitting the boy,
and you resent them because they
conflict with your young ideals.
Nevertheless, you must admit that
she may be right.
Perhaps she intuitively feels a
certain lack of aggressiveness in
the young man which will hinder
him in rising above the level of
his environment. Perhaps she
spots a certain supine streak
which convinces her he will not
succeed in competitive universe.
And perhaps she is only an am
bilious mother set on marrying
her daughter to money. do not
know.
1t may be that you doubt your
ability to win your superior, and
that your vanity requires a boy
who is obliged to look up to you. 1t
may be cowardice and not courage
which DISCUSSES itself from pain
full recognition in the cloak of
idealism.
In the light of analytic psychol-
ogy, we find ourselves much less
noble than we formerly imagined,
and we are often obliged to &C
knowledge that motives which
seemed the most pure and worthy
are frequently quite the opposite.
I can't take sides in your problem
without knowing the people. But
I do advise you to reconsider it
in the light of what have said.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a young
nan of 20 and for several months
[ have been living with a woman
.welve years my senior. We have
IN apartment of our own and pay
expenses fifty-f1fty. Neither of US
any thoughts of marriage.
Until the last few weeks we have
been very happy But recently two
If my friends and my parents
learned Of our manner of living.
They have joined forces in an at
Tempt to separate US. Their argu-
nent is that we are living filthy and
sinful lives and that we should at
once change our way of life and for
get each other.
I can't see it that way. think
that since we are two mature hui
man beings and find each others
agreeable we should be al
lowed to live as we see fit. What is
your opinion? NJ. L. w.
Answer-Logically you are right
but rspcially you are wrong. AS I