The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-01-26
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

a gathering and he took me home,
but first we went for drive 1
had never been kissed before.
When he ventured farther I
struggled, but he kissed me until
I forgot everything.
Then one night he brought
home a wife and child. I can't
tell you how I felt, l was hurt
so much. His wife is crazy about
him, but he surely can't care a
lot for her, for he is carrying on
an affair with a woman who does
not amount to anything.
I think he has told that I am
the kind of girl that will be just
anybcdy's girl when he knows
am not. Now when walk down
the street if man looks at me
feel likS he knows about me and
it's hard to hold my head up. I
have no friends any more, not
even a girl friend. They all seem
so changed. If I ask them to go
anywhere with me they always
have several excuses. I get SO
tired of being alone. If people
have heard all this can't 1 ever
live it down? ANNE.
Answer-Youve had a bad emo
tional shock, but you're not bao
girl You've been hurt in youl
deepest wishes, but there's no ne
cessity for you to let the wound
grow into a tragedy. You chose q
socially irresponsible boy-grown ur
in body, but emotionally still g
spoiled child. Check him out Of
your thoughts as lesson dearly
learned, but extremely valuable.
I think you are projecting YOU
own attitude toward yourself on tt
your friends. If you're ashamed o.
yourself, your friends will bt
ashamed of you. You have violated
your ego ideal; you are no longer
a heroine in your own eyes, anc
your friends are quick to detect
your modification.
Your pride, too, is dragging in the
dust. Snap out of your humiliation
and hold up your head again. What
has happened isn't important ir
itself. but your attitude toward it is
Try smiling at your friends again
and find something interesting tt
say to them. Turn your charm or
some other boy, but be sure to sci
your heart on strength instead Of
weakness.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been
married six years and I sure have
been happy. I thought my hus-
band was too, until recently. He
began to grow cold, but never said
anything about it. 1t got so he
would not talk to me and I asked
him what was the matter And
what a blow! I thought I would
die right then. He accused me of
being unfaithful and said it had
been going on about five years.
If I was guilty of those charges,
I would not be writing you for I
would know what was the matter,
but my skirts are clean. I have
never even thought of such a
thing. What makes it seem even
worse is that he is so good to me
and never says a cross word, not
even when he told me this. So I
am puzzled to know what is the
matter with him.
PUZZLED.
Answer-Persuade your husband
as kindly and tactfully as possible
to tell you the source of his in
formation. Do your utmost to find
out whether or not you have some
enemy who has deliberately mis-
construed some small incident into
a yarn of scandalouS proportions.
If after careful investigation you
find not one scrap of material upon
which your husband could have
based his accusations, then we must
suspect him of entertaining an hal
lucination. If this is true, he is
mentally sick and in need Of treat
ment from a pSychiatrist.