The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-19
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

your situation who make success
full exit, are those who make a
superhuman effort to supper
themselves in the face of almost
impossible obstacles.
There simply is no royal road out
of the matrimonial mess in which
you find yourself. There is no solu-
ton which will make things come
right over night. People spend a
long while in getting themselves
wound up a certain way, and it
takes almost as long to unwind
them.
The thing that most of us forget
is that marriage is a task at which
both parties must work and work
hard. Few marriages run along
smoothly on their own momentum
without coming to serious crisis
soon or later. Unfortunately the
partners can't quit when they are
dissatisfied. Their lives are in
eXtricably bound together by f1nan-
cial interests and children.
When such time comes, they feel
the bitter hatred of two animals
imprisoned in the same cage,
snarling and biting and tearing at
each other. The trouble goes back
far into their childhood to lack
of training in cooperation. Unless
they are willing to be completely
re-educated in human relationships,
I see no solution.
Dear Jane Jordan-Last sum-
mer 1 went with a girl for three
months. Then my job took me to
the west coast for seven weeks.
While was away 1 wrote her
three letters which she did not
receive. When I came home she
was very much upset about my
not writing her; so quit calling
her up. In the mean time 1 went
with another girl for seven
months. Then I found she wasn't
what I thought she was. 1 called
up the first girl and she would
not give me any more dates. 1
called her fifteen times in one
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to see me. 1 care for her an awful
lot. I have apologized to her and
asked her to give me a sporting
chance, but she refuses point
blank. I implore your help.
CAL.
AnSwer-You may not think SO,
but your one and only reason for
wanting the girl is the fact that
she refuses to see you. You did
without her quite nicely until she
made herself unobtainable. Why
do you give her the pleasure OF
turning you down so often?
Dear Jane Jordan-I am Is and
in love with boy of 3d. Up I'M
til about two months ago he acted
like he loved me. but he has
changed now. He met a girl
friend of mine and would sit
around in my presence and say
he loved her when he was sup
posed to be going with me. This
would make me mad because
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hurt his feelings and was. sorry
afterward.
He still Genes to my house once
in while, and the more 1 see him
the more love him. I may have
only a crush on him, but I be-
lieve really love him. The ques-
ton is, does he like me now or
did he ever like me? XII.
Answer do not think he would
come to see you at all if he didn't
like you. You're a pretty young
girl to be so grabby about your boy
friends. Why don't you let his
other friends alone and amuse your
self with other boys when he is
calling on others?
doubt If you can count on the
permanence of his affections, and
think you have diagnosed your
case right when you call it a crush
Nevertheless, you should be able to
have a pleasant time when you are
| together.