The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-02-09
BY JANE JORDAN

do the right thing by me, he left
the city and I have never seen
him since. I asked him to marry
me simply to try him and see if
he really would, because 1 thought
him a coward from the very start,
That was two years ago and
now am having dates with other
fellows and have almost forgotten
about this affair. I say almost
because there is one thing that
constantly worries me. Will
have to tell the man I marry?
I am dreadfully ashamed OF it,
and although I strayed from the
straight and narrow, 1 shall never
do so again. Can you help me?
WORRIED.
AnSwer-It depends entirely upon
the man you expect to marry. A
sophisticated man would think
nothing of your childish experience.
Nor would he doubt your capacity
for fidelity because of what hap
pened.
However, I feel obliged to tell you
that the average man is far from
capable of this viewpoint. He
would be Mortified and panied be-
yond words, and reward an honest
confession with desertion. Some
times / think that such a man
wouldn't be much loss to girl, but
I doubt if she would see it that way.
She'd only feel more unworthy and
inferior than ever.
Therefore, I think the safest thing
you can do is to keep your own
counsel. Many men prefer not to
be burdened by such a confession
from their brides to be. They want
to keep their illusions and be spared
the horrid pangs Of jealousy.
Maybe it's really kinder to tell the
truth to the man who loves you
After all, you're not a criminal
So long as you know in your own
heart that you're a worth while
person who will not be a dead loss
as wife, you needn't go out of your
way to make him doubt it.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am the
mother of four grown children.
While they were growing up I
stayed at home and cared for
them. My husband is a good
worker, but he goes out a lot at
nights. He goes with other Wom-
en- and makes big trips. He spends
lots of money having good times.
He has excuses that sound like
the truth, but when 1 learn of
things he does, he lies out of it
and raves.
I am not QuarrelSome. I have
lived this way almost thirty years
thinking he would cease doing this
way. What must I do to test his
love for me? Shall I leave him
or stay with him? have plenty
to eat but not much in the house
or many clothes to wear.
TROUBLED.
AnSwer-Thirty years is the best
test of a mans behavior that
know. At least he thinks enough
of you to keep the home going after
fashion. If you were financially
independent, would not blame you
for leaving. But as it is, you can
neither earn your own living with
out hardship or lean on your chill
dren without feeling your depend
ence.
A woman accustomed to her own
home for thirty years can not be
uprooted without feeling a keen
sense of loss which haunts her like
wailing ghost. After a season of
homelessness I believe you would
find life less supportable than it
is with your selfish husband. At
least you have your own things
around you, and you can find a life
apart from your husband to keep
you interested.
It's a poor reward, isn't it, for a
life of self-sacrifce? 1t takes a
philosopher to enter the evening of
life with a partner who is still en-
gagged in adolescent cavorting.