The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-04
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

ther effort to see the young man
or communicate with him before
you leave indianapolis. You'll put
him out of your mind and look for
some one else. Next time you'll be
q little more subtle in your en-
couragen1ent.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am very
much in love with a boy several
years older than me. I really care
for him a lot, but he says he will
never marry. 1t seems to me if
he wasn't intending to marry that
he wouldn't hang around the girls
like he does. Should I forget him
and go with other boys or con-
tinue going with him. You know
love is such an awful thing
Sometimes I think I will go crazy.
UNHAPPY.
AnSwer-You could have a very
pleasant time with this young man
if you would give up thinking of
him as a potential husband. Can't
you accept the good times the pres
ent has to offer without trying to
settle the future now?
The young man adopts the pose
of not being a marrying man in
order to protect himself from girls
whom he does not wish to marry.
His defense is not without widom
for women are apt to interpret con-
tinued attention from a man as
love leading to marriage They do
not realize that men can make love
madly today and forget it tomor-
row. 1t is not that they are in
sincere. They simply act as they
feel at the moment, but when the
moment is gone the feeling is gone,
too.
The average woman takes love
with deadly seriousness. Almost
with the first passionate embrace
she begins to plan her trousseau
and furnish the house. 1t is an ex-
tremely bitter experience to her to
discover that her lover was only
passing away the time.
Sometimes the woman is willy
enough to pretend to share his
taste for temporary affection. Later
he awakens to find his heart Sc
hopelessly involved that he must
have her at all costs. This is not
an inevitable reaction but a very
frequent one.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been
going with a young girl just II
years old. She is in high school
and will graduate in one year. I
have travelled around quite a bit
and have had my experiences. 1
am now ready to settle down. I
love this girl and she loves me,
but she thinks too much of her
school to leave it now and get
married. Would it be a good idea
to get married secretly? If she
really loved me would she marry
me regardless? I know we could
get along fine and she said she
knew it, too. What should I say
to her to win her?
A LOVESICK BOY.
Answer-No, it would not be a
good idea to get married secretly.
The secret marriage usually is an
attempt to enjoy the privileges of
marriage while evading its respon-
sibilities. Your girl has more sense
than you have. She sees that she
hasn't finished the tasks of her girl
hood yet, one of which is to ac-
quire an education. She is not will
ing to take on a new task until she
has completed the first. I imagine
she is a fine level-headed girl, well
worth waiting for.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am
young woman of 26. I have been
married twice and divorced twice.
For a long time 1 went with a nice
fellow who would do anything I
asked him to do for me and would
take me any place wanted to go.
About a year and a half ago I
started stepping out with a mar
ried man. At first thought it was
smart to put something over on
the first man. Then I got seri-
Gus about this married man.
I became madly in love with the
married man and broke nv dates