The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-07-26

I also have two small children. My
husband is dead. 1 work Tor the
CWA and so does he. On the otner
hand I go with another fellow Whom
I like. He is unmarried. don't
love him, for he is drinking con-
tinually. He says he loves me, too.
What can do? I love my married
one and the single one loves me.
Please answer soon.
LONESOME BILLY.
Answer-Your letter is the cry
of a spoiled child who wants her
environment to adjust to her, but
who has no wish to do any OF the
adjusting herself. A courageous
person will abandon an unobtain-
able goal and set out in search
of another which there is some
chance Of reaching
To my mind botn of your men
are bad risks. One is married and
shows no urge to cope with his
problems in an intelligent man
ner. The other shows a similar
disability by his escape into
a, 1hol The smart thing to do
would be to check both of them
out because of their evasive attl-
tude toward reality, and to look
for a more responsible partner.
Dear Jane Jordan-Do you think
it is foolish for an 18-year-old girl
to continue to go with fellow who
says he can never marry her? The
girl is continually longing for a
home and babies. She is almost
sure the fellow loves her and she
loves him. Yet should she go on
hoping for the best, or try some
one else? She says she can not
give him up, but l think she can.
He is jealous and gets angry if
other fellows speak to her. Tell her
what to do.
LONESOME BLOND.
Answer-When a young man
wants a temporary and ire
sponsible relationship, and his girl
wants a permanent and response
BILE relationship, the only sensible
thing they can do is to separate
in search of partners who have
the same general purpose. 1t is
useleS for either to try to fit the
other into his scheme of life, for
people do not change their per-
sonality patterns SO easily. When
outward conformity battles inner
protest, we may look for wreckage
ahead.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a young
high school girl, deeply infatuated
with a boy five years my senior
He is the best liked boy in the
group and takes me to many par
ties. He will dance with me only,
but when he wants to pet he
chooses another. He spends prac-
tically the whole evening with other
girls and leaves me to enjoy myself
I always have a grand time and
try to act Indifferent about it.
He talks very confidentially with
me and said that he would never
try to pet a girl he really cared
for. I want to know how I can
keep him to myself at these parties
without having to pet. 1 have
walked out on him a few times.
When he finds I have left he calls
up late at night to see if he is for
given and I can not help but say
yes. Then he is back again and
Goes the same thing over. Please
tell me what to do. NASHIE.
Answer-Your boy friend has bad
manners, and since you obviously
want a boy with good manners,
why grieve over him? He is a boy
who has girls divided into two
classes-those who will and those
who won't. He feels he ought to
prefer those who won't, but finds
himself irresistibly attracted to
those who will.
My objection to him is his
wretched taste when he takes the
young lady whom he respects to a
party and promptly abandons her
to shift for herself while he en-
joys himself with girls whom he
does not respect. A girl of dis
elimination would not bother with
him for turo seconds