The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-05-04

J anu QOl1o uP
like a real sheik. Please advise
me. Should I step in and break
up this affair, or let it run its
course?
When you answer this, just give
contempt and condemnation Tor
these ome-wreckers, especially
where married folks are happy,
and quote, What God has joined
together. let no man put aSunder."
His salary is S125 a week. Money
is all they want, these GOLD
diggers. MHS. n. r
Answer-If you want to stay mar
rid to your husband you would do
we'll to stand by and give the al
fair a chance to have its day and
die. opposition only fans the flame
of desire and punishment is worth
less as a cure. The law will stand
bv YOU and see that you and your
children are protected financially
but love can not be legislated.
IT. would be worse than useless Tor
me to upbraid the woman whom you
believe to be the cause OF your
trouble. She may or may not be
INSCRIPTIONS. I have no way Oh
telling. You may be mistaken ABOUT
the amount of money she receives.
In any event I would not call her
cause, but an effect. The cause
lies in the shakiness of the marriage
itself which was not sufficiently
virile to protect it from an intruder.
4 mere surface pleasantly in mar
rage is no indication that there are
M corroding discontentS under
Meath. no infantile desires winch
struggle for ful1llment.
In nv opinion marriages are not
made in heaven. They are not held
together by a Deity whose sanction
makes them sacred, but by the con-
tracing parties themselves. A hu-
man beings capacity for co-opera-
ton has more to do with the Stapll-
itv of marriage than divine approval
You NAV not be to blame Tor the
situation at all. Your husband may
be searching for satisfactions which
are not in harmony with reality. so
far you have shown unusual polSe IN
not splitting the situation high, wide
and handsome. In your search Tor
a solution, 1 can suggest only that
YOU dc not rely on flaying your rival
to win back your husband. 1t can
not be done that way
/
Dear Jane Jordan-My eccen-
trio parents have not let me lead
a normal sex or social life, and
am rightfully considered
queer person. I do not even I'M
derstand myself. My list of &C
compiishments would mark me
as a wonder, and my list of faults
would indicate that was the
most hopeless of failures. How
can I get a better comprehension
of myself?
I tried self-study, but it got me
nowhere. I would like to just
talk and let some one know
enough about me to understand
me and give me some advice. !
hear that there are people called
psychoanalysts who do that kind
of work. Could I get such advice
in indianapolis or Chicago?
When? Where? How much?
Should I try to get such advice
or what? WORRIED.
Answer-There are no psyche
analysts in indianapolis. There are,
however, some competent psychlat-
rists who could help you. Get your
family physician to recommend one.
The Institute of PSychoanalysiS in
Chicago can give you the informa-
ton YOU desire about the cost OF
analysis. A good analysis takes a
long time, approximately four hours
week for eighteen months to two
years.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am one OF
a large family and so-called
black sheep. 1 haven't much edu-
cation except what have learned
from books and hard knocks.
was married off when child be-
cause my family wanted to get
rid of me. Mother never told me
any of the facts Of life. I was
happy until the first baby came.
Then my husband seemed to
change. He would not help care
fox the baby or help me in any
way. I was a physical wreck, too
weak to do my work, but had to
do the best I could.
I have always taken his abuse
in silence rather than quarrel.
1 have had to work and skimp
evervwhere 7 could to buy clothes