The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-02-15
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

with and are the direct antithesiS
of the women who are such COM
Portable companions that their mer
are content to drift with the tide
A balance between the two extremes
is difficult to achieve.
Evidently your young man is not
a s~elf-starter. He might work well
under benevolent direction, but he
lacks the initiative to direct himself
A tactful explanation might help tC
get him going, but I imagine he
would wilt under very harsh
criticism.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am % and
going with a fellow rs. I mean
I go with him whenever he feels
like coming around. Sometimes
that is once a month. He is the
type that hangs around a pool
room. I don't admire that type,
but I fell for him. One time he
was engaged to be married but
he did the girl just about like he
is doing me and she walked off
and married another fellow.
His mother babies him a lot.
His boy friends say that he is
queer and that he has fewer
dates than any fellow in the
crowd. Sometimes 1 think he
isn't capable of caring for any
one except himself. When we go
on a date we always have to go
with his boy friend. What is your
opinion of a fellow who goes
home and reads a book or goes to
the show by himself?
MONTE.
Answer-Any boy whose mother
babies him is a bad matrimonial
bet. His struggles to tear loose from
the apron strings are entirely toC
feeble to recommend him. I think
you are right in suspecting that hi
lives more within himself than il
others. His lack of consideration
for the way others feel shows tina
he will not be apt to put himself
out much for their pleasure. A so.
cially minded girl is foolish to til
up with an unsocial boy. The con.
1licts which would be generated BY
this combination would interfere
with the happiness of both.
I e no reason why the younI
man is not entitled to some tim,
alone. There is nothing queer abou
the desire to go home and read
book, or even to go to a show alon,
occasionally. 1t is only when yol
remember his languid loafinI
around a poolroom and his genera
tendency to keep aloof from other
that you suspect him of not beinI
worth your while.
Dear Jane Jordan - Several
months ago I met a girl whom I
admire very much. We have been
going together since. But recent
ly the girls younger sister ar
rived home from the east, and I
soon realized that I enjoyed the
younger girls company more than
the sisters.
My interest in the older girl has
gone and I am falling fast for the
younger sister. OF course, neither
of them suspects, but I can't bring
myself to voice my feelings, and
I can't go on as at present. Will
you please advise me?
THANK YOU.
Answer-It is not unusual TO
sisters to fall in love with the same
man. Sometimes they are so close
ly allied subconsciously that a mai
makes an Identical appeal to then
both. Although you do not know
it, the same thing that attracted
you to the first girl drew you to tht
second also. It's like meeting twt
phases of the same personality.
If you want to be very Michiavel'
Ian indeed, you might bring SOM:
other men around to sec the girl
in the hopes that the older sistei
might be attracted to one of them
Then you would be free to MAKE
love to the younger sister withou
embarrassment.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am going
with a boy who is very nice, but
my stepfather says he doesn't
treat me as a boy should treat
a girl. Why should he worry if
I am satisfied? Ny father had
trouble with our car and asked
the boy to pull him. He refused
because he didn't want to ruin
his car, but offered to do any
thing else to help dad. Dad got
angry and told him never to see
me again. We love each other
dearly and can hardly stand it to
be apart. We were planning to be
married. Please tell me what to
do. LONELY.
Answer - Almost any decision
which you would make about tht
young man would be better thar
your stepfather's opinion just now
Perhaps when he cools of from hi
childish 1T of rage you can per