The times-news. [volume] (Hendersonville, N.C.) 1927-current, 1934-03-23
Child Guidance
by
Frank Howard Richardson
M. D.. F. A. c. P. :,
Black Mountain, N. =, ana
Brooklyn. N. Y.
THE NURSE AND THE NERV-
Gus CHILD

Mrs. Van der Griff has a corps
of perfect servants. Each one has
her definite portion of the work
of the household. One Of the
highest paid, and most Dragged
about by her mistress, is the care
fully trained governess, who takes
over the care of the little Van der
Griff heiress, completely, 50 that
her mother is left free to care to
attend to other matters IL her
we'll organized life.
Mrs. Jones can afford but one
servant; so she does the house
work herself. in order that her lit
tie son may have the services of a
good nurse-maid. She never tires
Of singing the praises of this par
agon among servants.
Mrs. Van der Griff is highly eff
licient with her social, charitable
and political activities; and Mrs.
Jones is known far and wide as a
wonderful housekeeper. But the
Van der Griff girl and the Jones
boy are not getting along nearly
so we'll as their mothers seem to
believe. Different as their sta
tions are, they are singularly
alike in being nervous, unstable,
and below par physically as we'll
as emotionally. Yet both these
mothers boast of the care that is
given their children. What is
wrong?
Efficiency. outside the home and
in, has its place, and it is an I'M
portant one. But can any mother
believe that that place can take
precedence over personal knowl-
edge about her own child? Per-
haps it is true that some nurses
are better than the mothers whose
places they fill; but what an adj
mission for a mother to make!
Are all nurses unworthy Of their
trust? Fortunately, no; but there
are enough who are. It is a serious
business to turn over the care of
your child to another, unless it is
absolutely unavoidable.
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
QUESTION: Dear DR.. Richard
son: Before my S-year-old boy
went to school, he liked his books;
but now he has to be driven to
his lessons, and he hates his
school and his teacher too. She
says he is the worst boy in the
room; he tells her he doesn't want
to learn. He is affectionate with
me, and tells me he was made
to be loved. Don't tell me he is
spoiled, because I side with the
teacher. ! even whipped him
when she said he needed it. Is it
possible that we-the teacher and
| both-have been nagging him
too much?
ANSWER: You've made such a
good diagnosis that there is no
nee need Of my adding anything to it.
Inc connection between being
TOLD by a teacher that he is the
worst boy in the room, and set
ing out to justify the charge. is
100 OBVIOUS to be overlooked. Why
not Try loving him a little more
openly, so that he cannot fail to
know how you feel? Some teach
eLs learn the trick of loving even
chlldren that seem unlovelv. il
sometimes works miracles
QUESTION: Our 15-months-old
W understands mo" perfectly.
Yet sometimes he screams Whom 7
stop him from SCATTERING the con
tents tents OF drawers all over the
floor; and often he SLAMS me
back, when / slap his hands for
these misdeeds. How CAM toaoh
him "don't" without const .eaGn
saying edo not" to him? ''A'iy
ANSWER: Showing displeas,,ro
when dragged away from DIV
the thing we are intent upon anJ
even slapping back when we s ara
slapped are fairly human, normal
characteristics of most folks
aren't they? Why not sunni
things for him to do that viii bs
every bit as fascinating as scat
tering valuable, articles on The
floor? It really can be done, Won
know. Then you wouldn't have, to
say don't nearly so often; and