The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-05-10

have 10 go out to work, TINS man
seems to think 1 have nothing to
do but spend all my time with
him. When I tell him not to come
only on Saturday evening ana
Sunday afternoon and evening,
he is hurt.
He works at nights and will in
variable drop in week days, say
ing he only dropped in for
moment. He stays for hours. He
has come as early as 9 o'clock on
Saturdays and stayed for both
lunch and dinner. On these occa-
sions he always goes to the store
and buys groceries. My Dad has
been out of work off and on for
over three years. This friend OF
mine has paid the last four
months rent, bought us radio,
and is always bringing mother
little delicacies that she wouldn't
have otherwise.
Poor old dad and mother with
their old fashioned ideas think he
is darling. Maybe would think
so too if he would only show me a
little consideration. When I am
head over heels in work, he is
hurt if I don't drop everything
and talk to him or play the piano
for him. My parents don't know
it but he isn't spending this
money for nothing. We are sup
posed to be married in July, but
have changed my mind.
I still have little love for him,
especially when I am with him.
But when he is gone imagine
what a pain he would be as a
bull-headed persistent husband.
He would get on my nerves and
he would want me to be petting
him every minute. What could I
do to change his persistence?
L. M.
Answer-Almost anything pals
when we have too much of it. How
you can get the man to see that fact
without wounding his pride beyond
repair do not know. But unless he
has the wisdom to keep from under
foot when you are busy your in
creasing irritation will spoil your
love affair.
1t is difficult for men to take the
work of women seriously whether it
is done at home or in an office. No
woman would dare to interrupt a
mans work as often as this man
interrupts yours. She would be
thrown out on her ear as a pest and
a nuisance.
However, as you say, the man is
not spending his money for moth
ing. He expects companionship and
entertainment during his leisure in
return for his contributions to your
comfort. There is no such thing as
getting something for nothing in
this world. Everybody must make
some return for what he receives.
AS long as you accept the mans
money; I suppose he is entitled to
your time.
The real difficulty is that you are
not deeply in love with the man.
You are fond of him when he is a
convenience, but regard him as an
intruder when he interrupts some
thing which you wish to do. Like
all lovers, he wants to be the center
of your universe, but you have other
fish to fry. He yearns for a close
companionship with an alter ego,
but you find it nuisance to serve.
In way you have reversed a
familiar situation. Usually it is the
woman who makes unreasonable de-
mandS for time, and the man who
refuses to lose himself in love. Your
parents have put so much re-
sponsibility on you that you're more
like a Son than a daughter. There
fore, it seems a bit difficult for you
to accept the secondary role in love.
You want to be as important as
your lover.
Probably this attitude will be a
drawback in almost any love sit
uation, as the men who are content
to take a back seat in love at any