The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-16
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

Discuss your problems with Jane
Jordan if you need help. Put your side
of the question in a letter and read your
answer in this column.
Dear Jane Jordan-I was mar
ried to man four years who
drank, gambled and liked wild
parties. He promised he would
stop all of this if I would marry
him, which I did for loved him.
do not believe in booze and I do
not even smoke; so his ideas were
not mine. After year I sued for
separation, but withdrew the case
as he promised faithfully that he
would stop the foolishness.
In about three months he was
at it again. He went out Of the
house and said I had to follow
him or else; so did else. J sued
again and in about three months
he wanted the case withdrawn,
but stuck it out and was granted
a divorce. Now he wants to be
friends and says that we will be
married in a year if I care any
thing for him. Well, I do, but do
you think it would pay me to wait
for him a year, or would you go
on looking for some one else? He
seems sorry enough and sees me
every week. He is going with an
other girl, but says he just goes to
pass the time away. What would
you do?
BLUE AND SO LONELY.
Answer-It has been said that
promises are like pie crust, and
there is a good reason for the state
ment. 1t is difficult for an indi-
vidual to change habits of long
standing by a conscious resolve.
Your ex-husband's habits, though
Objectionable to you, apparently
yield him considerable satisfaction.
He will not change until he feels a
profound dissatisfaction with his
adjustment to life.
The fact that he is sorry does not
guarantee you a change of conduct.
Unless he can get at the hidden
that push him to escape in
drink, he will not be any different
in a year than he is now, and your
waiting will have been in vain.
Without enlightenment and a real
wish for change on the part of your
eX-husband, you are just wasting
your time in waiting for him.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am en-
gagged to a little French girl in
Canada. We are going to be mar
ried in June. I have never seen
her or her people. We met
through letter. I am going to
Ottawa and bring her back to In
dianapolis to live She is 10 and
I am %. We have written to each
other for two years, and although
we have never met, l am very
much in love with her. I have a
good job and can support a wife.
Do you approve of such meet
ing? Do you think we can be
happy? Maybe some Of your read
erS have had the same experience
and can help me.
JUST ABOUT MARRIED.
Answer-It is hard enough for en-
gagged people to get acquainted
when they see each other frequent
ly. In a romantic attachment, the
pair usually twist the facts to suit
themselves. Reality is seldom faced
by infatuatea lovers. I should say
that it is practically impossible to
acquire any real knowledge of a
girl by correspondence.
I have never known the marriage
Of two people who were absolutely
unknown to each other before the
wedding to succeed. If any of our
readers have had experience along
this line, I shall appreciate their
letters.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have just
started to go steady with a boy
for whom I care lot. He says he
loves me and does not want to do
anything I wouldn't like. Never
theleSs, he always wants his own
way. I love him enough to do any,
thing for him, but do you think