The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-11-30

il may be that the idea of such
& thing is repulsive to her, or per-
haps she doesn't love me enough.
Maybe she loves me too much. If
this continues, it may be the cause
of our estrangement, thing which
1 least desire at present and will
do anything in my power to avoid.
I am afraid you may say these are
mere base desires, lusts of the flesh,
and that such thoughts should not
be allowed to enter decent mind.
Or you may say that a girl can not
sacrifice her honor even for one she
loves. I realize the logic of both
but I can not force myself to be-
lieve it enough to overcome my de-
sire to do the things I should, 1 sup
pose, wait for. Please help me.
PERPLEXED.
Answer do not consider your
desires either base or unnatural.
If you did not feel as you do I
should despair of your normality.
There are some things in life that
you simply have to put up with,
and this is one of them.
The girl can't help her training.
She has been brought up by stand
ards which have been challenged
by many indignant young people.
Nevertheless, only a small portion
of the populace has changed it's
views. The majority hold fast to
the old ideas of chastity before
marriage.
You can't force the girl, nor can
she force herself, to throw over
he traditions. Ii she got into any
difficulties you couldn't protect
her. You want an adult relation
ship without the adult responsible
ity that goes with it. You can't
have it without getting into more
trouble than you have now.
Your trouble is not individual
but universal. The gap between
puberty and mating is problem
which has not been successfully
solved. Some young men seek re-
lief from girls who they would not
marry on a bet. Others beat down
their SWeetheart'S resistance only
to find that they suffer an emo
tional revulsion against her.
A few live together secretly and
marry with no obvious i'll effects.
Some outgrow each other and
come to look upon their relation
ship with distaSte. From the let
tiers I receive, 1 notice that the boy
usually tires first and either leaves
the girl crushed and disillusioned,
or forces himself to marry her
after love has flown.
On the whole it is better for
you not to involve yourself with so
virtuous a girl. Her painful re-
actions would cancel your pleas
ure. If you're not the type who
can accept a substitute for what
you want, you'll simply have to
submerge your troublesome ener-
gieS in work.
Dear Jane JOrdan-You would do
we'll not to quote such character
as Floyd Dell, for if that man has
all his buttons he talks like a de-
generate. Whoever heard of such
thing as man petting in order to
become interested in a woman
whom he desires to marry? No man
does such a thing. If his intentions
are serious he should have too much
respect for her to even entertain
such an idea, and if otherwise, then
his mind leads in another direction
If any woman wants to be
as cheap and even vulgar
then she should allow a man to paw
all over her, for she has no respect
for herself, so she can not expect
man to have any. Stop this filthy
talk for it is nothing else and GER
tainly don't blame Disguised" for
again making the remark she did.
JOSEPH B. ADLER.
Answer have used only the
last paragraph from your letter
for the benefit of "perplexed." BY
the way, I am holding seven new
letters for Disguised" from
Thelma Fox, K x x, Thelma
Mildred Sutton, Another Regular
Reader, DR.. r. M, CKS and
Busy Lady. I will leave them for
her at any place she may desig-
nate so she can judge their au-
thenticity for herself.
RnIIrDA nIttD thfIII