The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-18
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN


you. The only help for him would
be psychical treatment from an ex-
pert.
Dear Jane Jordan-I do not get
along with my husband due to the
fact that he is chasing around
with other women. Women do to
him what booze does to most men.
They make him mean to me. l
don't know what to do, as repress-
ing my own desires for the last
two years has caused me to be-
come nervous and cross. My house
work has become a drag and life
is living hell on earth to me.
My children are both anxious to
make good, as one is interested in
art and the other in music. My
husband makes big money, but I
know him we'll enough to know if
the home was broken up he would
not do for the children. Other
women would get his money. !
know a woman who broke up her
home in a case similar to mine
and her children have always
thrown it up to her that she
should have carried on until they
got old enough to work. I've seen
other children who felt the hurt
of a broken home. I'm simply on
the fence and do not know which
r. TO1nncA
you can for I'm becoming a
DESPERATE WOMAN.
Answer-Where women are eco
nomically dependent upon their
husbands, and have children to con-
slider, I hesitate to advise divorce.
1t seems to me that the first step in
your escape from a situation which
condemns you to starvation, is to
engage in some kind of work which
would assure you a living.
Where homes are kept together
solely to keep a share of the fathers
income, I question the benefit to the
children. Probably the psychic
harm done to them by living in such
a home offsets whatever good they
get from their fathers money.
You cite instances where children
have blamed their parents for sep
arating before their education was
assured. I can cite other instances
where children blamed their par
entS for subjecting them to life in
a loveless home. Children of I'M
happy parents are apt to blame
them no matter what they do.
All parents have to win their
childrens pardon for thrusting life
upon them without their consent.
This pardon is won only through
the medium of happy home. When
this is disrupted, the children are
critical, and justly so.
The best you can do to make up
to your children for the failure of
your marriage is to extricate your
self from the situation in as digni-
fed a manner as possible. If you
took a lover, your children would be
more Mortified than if you sued for
divorce.
Dear Jane Jordan-Some time
ago 1 met young lady at a
dance. She told me she was not
married. Later she told me she
was married and had two chill
dren, but was not living with her
husband. I found out they were
living together, but 1 kept on
meeting her three and four times
a week. Her husband would stay
home and take care of the chill
dren and trust her in whatever
she did.
She told me she did not love
her husband, so I asked her to get
a divorce. She started an argu-
ment and ran him out and finally
got her divorce. I have met this
man and find him to be a very
fine person. He thinks the world
of his children, but she will not
let him see them but once a week.
Now she tells me she did not love
her husband because he did not
ike TO dance and run around.
Sometimes I felt like I broke
up their home, and I doubt very
much her love for me. Her chill
dren always talk of their father
when 1 go around and it makes
me feel bad. I doubt if I care as
much about her as 1 thought 7
did. Do you think if we marry
that she will grow tired of me as
she did of her husband?
DOUBTFUL.
Answer have no doubt that if
you married her you would receive
the same treatment accorded Der
first husband in time. I have seen
the same situation in operation be-
fore. Life frequently pays us back
for our selfish mistakes in our own