The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-01-08

Of small amounts of money. 1t is
obvious that they can not provide
for the necessities, but they can buy
noneSSentials, such as pleasant
things to eat, from their own allow
ance. A child who never is allowed
to make decisions is apt to feel use
less, and will seek personal prestige
in illegitimate ways, such as tattling
or f1inging tantrums.
Dear Jane Jordan - Please,
please help me! I'm in a mental
conflict and don't know what to
do. I am deeply in love with a
young man whom I've known for
year. He is wonderful in every
way, everything a girl would want.
Recently we had a heart to-heart
talk. He asked me if I loved him
and I told him did. I've shown
him I do in every way I know.
I've given up everything for him,
and he knows it.
He hasn't a job, but financial
status does not matter to me.
ask only to be with him, to have
our love. When We talked he told
me he did not know whether he
loved me or not, but that he
though more of me than any
one else. Don't you think that
after a year of seeing me as often
as five nights a week, he would
know whether he loves me or not?
Shall l keep on going with him
under these circumstances, or let
him go? I feel like cutting loose
and not caring what happens to
me, or taking the easiest way out,
for unless I know he's mine only,
care for nothing.
JUST OVER TWENTY
AnSwer-You should remember
that possibilities are much more in
teresting than actualities, and you're
an actually. 1t doesn't do a
heSitating lover bit of harm to let
him see that you are capable of
being interested in some one else.
You're trying too hard to tie the
man down, and your very anxiety is
your worst stumbling ock.
Women are too intense in love,
too inSiStent upon declarations Of
devotion. If the man is interested
enough to see you five-sevenths Of
his spare time, why press him for
a definition of his affection? Per-
haps you care nothing for the
financial outlook, but you may be
sure he does. 1t is difficult for a
practical man to commit himself
definitely to a woman when there
is no wherewithal in sight for her
support.
The man is interested in getting
a job. You're interested in getting
him. And here lies the chief
difference between the sexes. If you
were as intent on work as he is, you
wouldn't be tied up in emotional
knots either. Surprise him by in
teresting yourself in something be-
sides himself. No man makes an
effort when there's nothing left to
win.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a girl
Of 20 and have had few dates in
my life. 1 am keeping company
with man past 3d. He seems to
love me and I love him. Now he
wants to marry me. Is it advis-
able for me to wait a while longer
and meet other boys? I realize
that a man so many years older
than myself is something to con-
slider. AS it is my first and only
love, it might not be lasting.
Please advise me to your best
ability. GOOD GIRL.
Answer think your plan to wait
until you've met other boys is ex-
cellent. If the man is sincerely in
love with you, he will give you plen-
ty OF time to make up your mind.
1t is entirely possible that you have
put the man in your fathers place
Given a little time, you might find
some one nearer your own age who
would appeal to YOU more.