The Washington times., 1934-11-21


pens to be that parents are still
pretty useful relatives, as they
always have been, and I hope to
persuade Betty x to agree with
me.
Betty. poor girl, is in agony
Of indecision from which she
begs me to rescue her. she
writes me:
you'll think it is queer for a
married girl to write you Tor
help. When you are married
people think that is an end OF
your problems; they think your
fortune is told.
Well, though I am only IT,
have been married four months
and my troubles are terrible.
On Impulse
"You see 1 went to a party
and there was a lot to drink: A
bow I had never seen before
made love to me, and I thougnt
I liked him. When the party
broke up some of the boys took
us girls out in their cars to cool
off.
"The end of it was that this
boy and drove into the nexC
state and got married in the
early morning.
1T was easy to explain to my
parents why didn't come home
that night. A girl friend helped
me out. Since then there has
never been anything to explain:
"I keep writing to this boy !
married, but his answers would
make you sick. OF course ne
wishes it had never happened
and so do I. u
ought to go to his parents ana
tell them about the marriage,
and that these parents must
support us both. 4
"They could afford to, but
the boy himself is in college ana
has no money. Do you THINK
ought to force this?
Strict Parents
"I would hate to have my
own parents know the truth, oe'
cause they try to be rather strict
with their children and have us
well brought up-you know
what I mean-and they would
think it was a scandal that
got married the way did.
"They even disapprove OF
drinking-that is, drinking too
much. So there's a lot I'd have
to own up to, and what would
be the result? My father might
throw me right out Of the house.
"But why should I keep on
chasing up a boy who won't
have anything to do with me,
even if he is my husband, and
why should I even stay married
to him? For heavens sake,
Miss Fairfax, give me some good
straight common sense on TINS
question. I just cry all night
about it,"
Now, this case isn't a tragedy
by any means. It merely needs
some competent grownup han
ding.
And I hope the grownups in
volved will feel that the un'
happy children, who tied them:
selves together with a legal
knot, have already repented
sufficiently and aren't IN neeo
Of further disciplining.
The matter is much simpler
than if there was youthful
infatuation to deal with.
Betty instinctively knows and
her young husband likewise,
that there could be no happl-
ness in a marriage begun under
such circumstances.
Neither of them wants any
thing more than to be relieved
of panic without being too
severely blamed.
Fresh Start
Betty must telb her story to
her own parents as soon as
she can summon the necessary
courage.
When they recover from the
shock, they will communicate
with the boys parents. per-
haps make a quiet announce
ment of the marriage, and then
proceed either to annul it or
to arrange for a divorce.
After the furry of gossip has
subSided and Betty realizes that
her life isn't ruined. and that
she still has her parents af-
lection, she can forget all
about this episode and start
afreSh.
But I think she is cured of
going to wild parties" don't