The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-09-19


respect for me. I could tell immedl-
ately the change in him. He says he
didn't want 10 be intimate with me,
but he did everything in his power
10 get me in that state and then
gave me a kick I now think he
pulled the mad act for an excuse to
get rid OF me. I wouldn't expect
him TO marry me. for he isn't the
marrying type. But at least 1 would
want 10 see him once in a while.
am simply crazy about him and l
feel like there is nothing else TO live
for. I'm afraid I viii commit suicide
when I get in these black moods.
I'm willing 10 ruin my life for him.
Can't YOU please suggest something?
ELIZABETH.
Answer-If the boy told you be-
forehand that the violation Of his
ideals would result in a revulsion
Of feeling. YOU have nothing to
complain about. The boy whom
I scorn is the one who carefully
builds up a belief N the integrity
Of his emotion only to turn on
the girl as soon as he has received
relief from tension.
Nature. with her tyrannical in
sistenCe on biological functioning,
had no regard for this young
mans sentimental ideals about
love. The best he could do was
~tc honestly tell you that even
though his bodily needs drove him
to make love TO YOU, he preferred
resistance 10 surrender.
Now the best thing you can do
is to accept the fact that you have
lost and show more courage than
your letter indicates in making a
personal readjuStment. You must
remember that your suicidal i'm
pulses are a childish effort 10 re-
venge yourself on your lover. The
suicide inevitably seeks to kill
some one else. not himself. His
wish TO slay another is merely
turned back on himself. He is
a self-confeSsed failure without
the courage to face the frustra-
tions which are the lot of all.
Please try to learn something
from your experience instead Of
merely quitting on the occasion
of your first rebuff. Our culture
is not the product Of the moment.
Nor is Puritanical morality in
America likely to come to a sud-
den end because people make in
tellectual conclusions against it.
The fulfllment OF personality
must be made in life as it actu-
ally is. not as YOU wish 1t TO be.
You can not ignore the convic-
tons Of your social environment IN
establishing a way Of life. Since
the culture in which YOU live Is
so fnsistent upon certain nOrms Of
conduct. Il is better for you 10
reconcile yourself 10 the fact than
to risk wreckage by defying it all
your life long.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am going
with a girl who soon will be Is years
old. I am 20. We both really love
each other. She is the kind OF
girl I have been looking for. There
isn't any girl who has her beat for
being decent. Just last night 1
asked her about getting married and
she said she cared enough for me
To marry me She asked me TO
write TO you and ask YOU, and what
ever you said would be all right. I
am a painter and a milk man
Please help me. D. J. c.
Answer-Only a fortune teller
would attempt 70 answer your
question. I do not know either
of YOU and have not the vaguest
idea whether YOU are suited 70
each other or not. Neither do I
know whether either Of yoC are
emotionally mature enough 10
embark on such a definitely adult
task as marriage.
In my opinion your minds are
made up already and you would
proceed with your plans regard
less Of outside advice. wish you