The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-01-15

1t also is true that many men lose
interest as soon as a woman has
said yes. The flame burns out be-
fore time for the ceremony, and
they take flight before the wedding
day on diverse pretences. Sometimes
a man marries a girl from a sense
Of duty and hounds her ever after
with reproaches.
There are exceptions to all rules,
OF course, but it takes a hardy and
independent spirit to gamble with
exceptions. Most women are happi-
est in life Of social safety.
Dear Jane Jordan-I met
young man about a year and a
half ago. We went together for
a year and everything was love-
ly until girl came into the pic
ture and ended our engagement.
Not because was jealous, but
they were seen so many places
that he refused to take me. The
excuse was that girl with high
morals would not enjoy such
places.
He carried. on this affair until
about a month ago. Then he
came back telling me he loved me
and wanted to be forgiven. But
the heart breaking thing was that
he told me the girl was in trou-
BILE and asked my help. I helped
her because he was going to leave
town and let her face the scandal.
Do you thing I did the right thing
by helping her?
I love this fellow, I am sure, for
this was a terrible sin in my eyes.
But my faith in him is shaken.
Would I be making a mistake by
taking him back?
A READER.
AnSwer-Certainly you did right
by helping the girl. But how OF
earth can you love the man who
so weakly lets you stand between
him and the consequences of hi;
own acts? can understand the
force which caused him to leave {
girl with high morals" temporar.
lily to pursue a physical flame, but
can't put up with his running Il
cover when the piper presented thu
inevitable bill. I dislike his turn
ing the whole situation over to Vol
to handle. I think the young mar
would make a miserable husband
and it's an unlucky girl who marie.
him.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am in my
late twenties and have been
having dates with a gentleman for
two years, who is superior to me
in many ways. He has asked me
to marry him, but I'm hesitant
because I feel that if he should
learn about some matters after we
married it would make a diff
ference.
7 have had to get out and dig
for everything I have, although I
haven't lost refinement in doing
so. The road has been quite dis
illusioning to me, and I've lost
faith, or the zest of living. My ed
ucation has been neglected.
speak good English, but somehow
it is very difficult for me to talk
much. I have no social con-
nections, such as clubs and soror-
titles. He is a university graduate.
was graduated from high school.
My family seems to be the type
which has no initiative. They
never do anything and never
make any progress. Also, there
are things that have happened in
the family that I wouldn't want
him to know. His people are just
the opposite, very industrious.
Please tell me if you would take
the chance. TESS.
Answer could answer more in
diligently if I knew the nature of
the things you wish to hide. If they
are incidents which likely will come
out anyway in the normal course
Of events, concealment would be
folly.
Is it difficult TO determine in ad-
vance whether candor will promote
or disturb the happiness Of mar
riage. Possibly honesty is always the
safest course, and if the gentleman's
love is not strong enough 10 stand
the strain of knowing the truth, it
is not worth having.
On the other hand, I do not see
why he is entitled to a complete
family pedigree with detailed in
formation. even unto how long your
grandfather's whiskers were. If