The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-12-24
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

do everything right except that
am awfully jealous Of my wife. ]
don't drink or run around at night
There has never been another wom-
an in my life except these two.
My wife used not to want me tc
go to her sisters house, but I Woulc
go anyhow. Now she doesn't care
and offers to make dates for me tt
see her sister, and it kind of got my
goat a bit. Sometimes I think ng
wife will walk away and not say {
word about going. Please tell me i.
it would be wise to break up these
two homes for our love.
Answer-After reading your let
ter am not sure that you are in
love with two women at all. 1t is
not uncommon for two sisters to
have love needs so identical that
they fall in love with the same
man. Often the man has a hard
time distinguishing between the
two. How happy I could be with
either we're t'other dear charmer
away"
The fact that your wife is bet
ter looking than her sister gives
us the cue to the whole sorry bust
ness. Without research into the
childhood of the two we never will
know what countless humiliationS
one little girl suffered because her
sister was prettier. Instead of
seeking for legitimate compensa-
tons she is moved by the uncon-
sciouS compulSion to take her SIS
ter's husband without benefit OF
beauty, and thereby prove her SUI
premacy. Of course, she would
have to hide her envy beneath the
cloak of true, undef1led love to
make her act acceptable to herself.
In my opinion you are the help
less victim torn between two sis
tiers who are deadly rivals. The
fact that you have been unable to
choose one Of the two and stick
to her is a reflection on your own
emotional stability. Why GO you
let those women make ducks and
brakes of your emotions? You are
only the symbol of their personal
struggle.
If you married your siSter-in-
law you would be no better off,
for your wife would retaliate in
full. The fact that she is the
mother of your children gives her
a power which she would use to
the limit. 1t does seem handler
for you to stick to her and avoid
the pain of upheaval. Besides, it
is better for your children.
Your wife's instinct to withdraw
from her sister is entirely sound
and thoroughly justified. I do not
hold the sister in the same high
regard that you do, for I see
through her Vaccinations more
clearly than she does herself. Your
wife has tired of the silly strug-
gle first. and unless you step lively
and check the sister out of the
picture you are going to lose your
happy home. After II years of
sharing you, should say she has
every right to look elsewhere for
love-.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a young
married woman and can't under
stand my husband. I married into
a family which didn't approve Of
our marriage. My husband goes to
see them, but never tries to get
them to be friends with me- He
never takes me there or asks them
to our home. Don't you think if he
loved me enough he would do some
thing about it? I have done Moth
ing wrong. MARY ANN.
Answer-Be thankful for your
husbands protection. He knows
his family better than you do and
will not expose you to the hurts
it is sure to administer. You
ought to be glad that you do not
have to get into the tangle, for
nothing is so deadly as a hostile
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