The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-26

marry me if he could trust me,
but that he can not do. He is so
insanely Jealous. God knows 1 am
sorry and ashamed of my past.
When I think how happy I might
have been with him except for
what did, it nearly kills me.
Shall we try it again or not?
Your decision is to be ours. We
have agreed to this My husband
simply doesn't think it possible
that I could be true to him. What
do you think? UNHAPPY.
Answer - The most unjuStifiable
of all petty jealousies is the jealousy
of the past. 1t is perfectly idiotic
for your husband to assume that
you can not love deeply because of
your youthful affair. To my mind
your experience has taught you so
much that you will be far more
apt to be faithful than woman
whose chief virtue lies in the fact
that she has never been tempted.
Unless he recognizes the fact that
ne actually is i'll and a case for
psychiatriSt, you will find no peace
with him. He will continually think
up new questions, new doubts, new
fears with which to whip up his
fantastic emotions.
AS Margaret Mead has written,
Jealousy is not barometer by
which depths of love can be read it
merely records the degree of the
lovers insecurity. 1t is mega
tive, miserable state Of feeling, hav-
ing its origin in sense OF insecur-
ity and inferiority.
In my opinion, you are the abused
party in this marriage, and not your
anguished husband. In your place
1 should not consider remarriage to
such a man unless be felt strong
conviction of sin and wish to re-
mold himself after a healthier pat
tern.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been
married eight years and was hap
by until about three years ago.
Now I live in torment. My huS-
band doesn't care to go out with
me and he hasn't for a long time.
I think there are women, or one
special one, that is causing the
trouble. I would give any one
some money to find out. If it
proves to be true, it will be too
bad for her. She will stand trial
and I will get damages.
My child has suffered as we'll
as I. He doesn't treat me like
husband or a gentleman. Oh, how
1 would like to put stop to this
if it is true.
MRS. A. MOTHER.
Answer-While I fully appreciate
the tortures of frustrated love, a
vindictive spirit will not mend mat
tiers. In case there is another
woman, you can't recapture your
husbands love by pounding the OBJ
ject of his affections.
You must look within yourself
for the cause of your unhappiness.
Even if you are not at fault, it will
not help any to keep punishment
upon your husband BY so doing
you only widen the breach between
you. Your attitude admits defeat,
whereas dignity and poise would
win you respect even from an un-
willing spouse. Whatever you do,
don't burden your child with &C
counts of the situation and deroga-
tory comments on his father.
Dear Jane JOrdan-I am "a and
the man in whom I am interested
is Is. We both have good jobs
and are level-headed, sensible
people I am inclined to be timid
to a certain degree and so is he.
1 haven't had him off my mind
since we had our first date. He
intimated that he was saving his
money to share with the right
girl when he found her. I know
he likes me a lot, but he is so
bashful about approaching me for
dates. He is very quiet. When he
looks at me I know that he cares,
but we're like two strangers wait
ing for something to draw US to-
gether.
He is going to take me to an
affair shortly and I want you to
help me in order that I might be
able to make him feel satisfied
and at ease with me. What can
I do to break the ice2 I care for
him too much to give up.
JOYCE.
Answer-Boost his ego whenever
you have the chance. The BASH
full man needs more than the usual
quota of praise to give him cour-
age. Never lose an opportunity to
bolster up his self-esteem. Possibly
the timid man is the only one who
does not like his sweetheart better
for a certain elusive quality. He is
in search of feminine security and
/ usually stays put when he finds it..