Evening star., 1934-11-18

three parts the physical would be the one that
would hold The mental and spiritual would
not be so lasting. Anatole France married his
cook and every one wondered why he was so
happy with her. 1t can be answered easily.
The physical is the strongest hold. Some people
live happily together even when they have no
companiOnship.
Creature comforts are most important in
home. wise woman will endeavor to make
it the most beautiful spot in the world. She
will want it to be a place where her husband
can bring his cares and responsibilities. There
will be understanding waiting for him-com-
radely sympathetic understanding.
Understanding after all, is love. When
woman understands a man well, she can attract
him. If he has had an unhappy childhood her
sympathy over his small-boy years will be gen.
uine. If he had to start to work when he was
H. she will understand and be sorry"
DR. ELMORE gives another incident of
- woman's real charm and sportsmanship
acting as a magnet. This maintenance of
sense of values and the unimportance Of trifing
embarassments will help any woman.
A bridge game was in progress at party The
players moved around from table to table, as
their scores mounted Winners went on and
losers remained.
There was one woman who lost constantly
When the scores were added she was sitting at
the table at which she had started. But even
at that she had lost the BOBBY prize, for some-
body underscored her.
But she laughed about it. and was very
charming" DR.. Elmore relates. "A man at the
party decided that he would like to have a wife
with the poise, sense of values and charm
which she revealed
"A friendship began, and eventually he mar
ried her. He explained that he knew that she
would make excellent wife, when she met an
embarrassing situation gracefully"
There is much to be said in favor of marriage
In which the husband and wife have the same
interests so far work is concerned, DR..
Elmore believes. That and their interest in
each other will carry them far.
Marriage is joint adventure, shared ex-
perience," she explains. Work is the greatest
blessing which can befan any one. Shared
work almost invariably makes people happy, for
they do it together.
Nothing keeps people so happy as their in
terest in each other. Emotion, which is the
driving factor in life creates interest. AS long
as two people have it, they will love each other.
Emotional poise is necessary in this rela-
tionship for it makes people kind instead of an
tagonistic. There are those who quarrel to let
off steam. and then are happy because they
found relief. Their relationship is not injured
by this state of affairs.
Women must dress as prettily they can,
cultivate inner harmony and be sympathetic.
Then they will be fully able to win their men
and hold them!''
Not all that a man or woman Is can be told
from the surface view. Not even when two
people have continual contacts are the masks
ever really lifted.
"The mind has two divisions says DR.. Ell
more. "The unconscious occupies eight -ninths
of the mind and the conscious one-ninth. I'M
agne an iceberg, with its eight -ninths sub
merged under water. The unseen part is more
dangerous than the SEEN"
mr. ELMORE believes that marriage clinics
- should be established in America as well as
in foreign countries which are realizing this
demand.
"The first marriage clinic ever established"
she says, was located in Vienna. 1t was
financed by the state. If the prospective hus-
band and wife could have help in understanding
what love and the completion of love really
mean, married life would be much easier for
them. The emotional readjustment and mental
poise that would result would make them able
to handle their love in an easy, graceful manner.
The divorce rate would be lowered and people
would be much happier.
"And one Of the primary principles that would
be instilled into girls mind in the course Of