The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-03-15

Is divorce the answer? nave
never worked and have no one
with whom to leave the baby. He
is crazy about the baby, but has
drunk more ever since the baoy's
birth. My friends say divorce,
but I can't see it. What advice
do you have to offer? B. B.
Answer-If your husband is a
pathological drunkard, you are up
against a proposition which you
can't lick by yourself. Your sister
has every right to refuse to support
a man who does not cooperate
with her in providing for the house
hold.
However, the case may not be
that bad. Men drink to blunt their
sensioilities when they are caught
IN a humiliating situation. If your
husbands work should improve,
thereby relieving him Of some OF
his worries, it is possible that his
drinking might decrease.
I see no reason why your sister
should put up with him in the hope
that he may improve. AS long as
he has some one to shoulder his
responsibilities when he fails, he
will not make a serious effort to
carry his own load. If she pushes
him out, he may go completely to
pieces. That's his lookout, not hers.
1 have no advice to give woman
in your situation except to give up
the idea that she should be taken
care of. Other women have earned
their way with small babies. It
took a superhuman effort, but they
did it. can't tell you how to do it.
You have to find the strength with
in yourself. The first step lies in
the determination to do so.
Dear Jane Jordan:-I am 60
ing with a girl of 10 who has been
married. She lived only three
months with her husband because
he wanted her to make living
in the wrong way. He has BACKED
her eyes several times. That's
too much for any woman.
She tells me she loves me and
tell her the same. AS soon as I
get a job and she gets divorce
we are going to get married. Do
you think she will ever go back to
him again? I am only % and am
,,,,,0to Y1ttzz1od
DOUBTFUL j.
Answer: I haven't the least idea
whether the girl will go back tC
her husband or not. You tell me
nothing Of her character. 1t seems
incredible that women should be
willing to return to cruel men, but
sometimes they do. There is some
doubt of the lady in your mind, ano
you must have cause for it which
your letter conceals. 1 am by nc
means a fortune teller. but a per-
son dependent upon facts for my
decisions.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a
married woman nearing 80. I
have a husband and family,
Sometime ago I met man
whom I dearly love. He played
the love role to perfection for
year and half. Now without any
reason he has accused me of
another affair. Of course I
understand it is just an excuse
as he says he is through. I was
SO deeply in love 1 didn't realize
he was so treacherous. I am
miserable without him although
he isn't worthy of a wife. My
experience has made me lose all
interest. I am a frail woman and
it will break my health if I don't
stop worrying.
JUST A WRECK.
AnSwer-Your letter should be
discouraging to those who put their
faith in lovers. Women in love are
so VIGOROUSLY blind that they can
not distinguish between a man
who is honestly in love and a man
who is merely out for a transitory
good time. They put too much
faith in pretty words and do not
look deep enough beneath the
surface.
Time will dim your experience
more quickly than any words Of
mine. In the meantime make a
determined effort to fill your life
with other things. You can gel
over your infatuation r substitute
ing something else for that which is
gone.