The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-09-06

give advice to people. False teach
ers and false prophets have no
stand with the Lord.
How you have the nerve to pub
lish your face I do not know. / feel
your advice could be better done
without. Why do people like Sorry
and puzzled Fiancee" do things
like that and then try to stir up
sympathy by advertising it? MY
sympathy goes to the sick and
needy, for they need it. What about
it? A WIFE AND MOTHER.
Answer publish your letter
chiefly for the satisfaction it will
give you to see it in print, for your
accusations are so general they
can not be answered. Evidently
you are a person who is not stirred
to help people unless you approve
of the kind of trouble they are
having. A nice trouble can be
helped, but bad trouble must be
ignored.
Those who are sincerely inter-
ested in relieving people of their
misery do not discriminate be-
tween troubles, but are stirred to
action by anything which makes
others uncomfortable.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am 30 years
old and my wife %. We had four
years of sweet married life, but no
children yet. One of my wifes
girl friends got mad at her and
threatened to tell me something OF
my wifes past; so my wife, with
tears in her eyes, told me herself
When she was 10 she was going to
have a baby, but would not marry
the fellow, so her mother helped her
out of her predicament.
When she told me l turned white
and cold for while. Now I can't
get over it. 1t is on my mind all
the time. I am ready to give up.
WONDERING.
Answer-Surely you can see that
it is not the deed in itself which
has caused this trouble, but your
knowledge of it. You've been
happy for four years. Nothing
whatsoever has changed. Your
wife is the same. The situation
is the same. But happiness has
fed. Why is this?
The fault lies in your own att1-
tude. You have just as many OF
the elements for happiness in your
hands today as you had yesterday.
Your ability to adjust to a bit of
reality is what hangs in the bal
ance. Nothing else.
Your wife'S experience has done
no harm to her character. On the
contrary, she probably is stronger
for what she went through and
more appreciative of the security
of her marriage than an inexper-
fenced girl. Her sense of guilt
over the affair operated in your
favor. She was a better wife be-
cause of her effort to compensate
you for her secret.
Isn't your pride the strongest
factor in causing your worries?
Doesn't the fact that other peo-
pie, particularly your wife's spite
full girl friend, know the story an
noy you a lot more than the
story itself? Our humiliations are
much easier to bear when no one
knows about them but ourselves.
Dear Jane Jordan-I went with q
girl with no thought of love anC
she went with me to forget hel
past. We drifted' into an intimate
relationship and two months OF
this has converted me into believing
l love her. The whole situation lies
in this phase. Before these relations
1 was cold toward her, and after
wards I was warm toward her. AS
soon as 1 am financially able I am
preparing to marry her. She has a
job and has spent money on both
of us which I could not afford.
Please let me know what you think
of this situation.
MODERN YOUTH.
Answer-It often happens that
men go from the physical to the
spiritual phase of love quite
readily, whereas women proceed
more easily from the spiritual to
the physical. Some men never
really fall deeply in love until
they~have possessed the object of
their love. This is a generaliza-
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