The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-11


Jane Jordan her every
once in
while, and she acts as though she
loves me. but is very different
when we are living together. She
is running around now in all
kinds of dives and places I don't
like. She has a girl friend who is
not so much who is her constant
companion.
There is another girl who is al
ways running after me. She said
she would pay for my divorce if
got one and also pay for the
child each week if r would marry
her. She has money, car and a
pretty home. I do not care for
her because I love my wife and
could worship her if she would act
like wife.
My wife wants to come back to
me, but ! am afraid she could not
stop running around. Would you
advise me to go back to her for
the baby'S sake, or just let her
hang herself with the things she
is doing. WAITING.
Answer-If you could get a job
out of town and remove your wife
from the influence of her family
and giddy friends, it is barely pos
sible that you could make your mar
riage into a going concern instead
Of a bankrupt institution.
Sometimes 1 think that any mar
riage would be better if the young
couple were completely separated
from each of their families for at
least the first year. Parents seldom
fundamentally approve of the
matrimonial choice of their chill
dren, and try as they may not to do
so, they tend to keep the young in
a state of childish dependence.
AS long as girl has a sympa-
thetic mother to run to with COM
plants about her husband, she will
not learn that the relation of hus-
band and wife is quite different
thing from the relation of parent
and child.
Your wife evidently needs lot
of gayety in her life. If you try liv-
ing with her again, you should pro-
vide for plenty of amusement. If
she does her part in home making
and mothering, you should do yours
in planning light-hearted good
times. The change from girlhood to
womanhood need not mean that
gayety is permanently exchanged
for solemnity.
1t is the kill-joy atmosphere of
marriage that is SO discouraging to
the play boys and girls. Babies, eco
nomic woes, illness and tempera-
mental battles combine to dampen
the spirits and make home into
sort of prison. Rebellion against a
colorless life drives the young to es-
cape from oppression in whatever
way they can.
1t would be wise for you to exam
inc the criticism of the girls family
with an open mind. How much Of
it do you actually deserve? How
blind have you been to your own
shortcomings? II you are really in
love with your wife you will study
her and make a generous allowance
for her needs. Of course you can
not solve the problem alone. One
can make a quarrel, but it takes
two to make peace. If consideration
OH your part does not inspire CO.
operation on hers, you are both lost.
The other woman, of course, is
not worth considering. No man is
ever happy with the wife who buys
him.
Dear Jane Jordan-For about
six months have been going with
a girl about year younger than
I am. The question want you to
answer is Am 1 in love with this
girl or not?"
I'm very much attracted to her
in every way and look forward to
having dates with her. These
end mostly in my dropping into
beautiful set of the blues. caus-
ing me considerable mental tur-
MOL and discomfort. Another guy
is the cause of it. She may be in
love with him. 7 don't know. But
1 see them together often and I
can't help but feel she is stringing
me along.
I want her to myself. She says
she doesn't love me, but likes me
and the other fellow the best of
any she's met so far. Our religions
differ. Should I keep on going
with her or give up? She init
mates at times that she really
cares, but the rest of the time
not so hot So what?
JUST ABOUT TO.
Answer-The young lady has a
right to look around before she
makes a choice. The trouble with
you is that you don't trust your
own powers to win enough not to
be scared to death when you see
her with another. You'd better
spend your time in bolstering up
your own self-esteem instead of
sinking into the slough of despond.
should think that dates with
other girls would do you some good.
You need wider acquaintance in
order to make an intelligent love
choice just as much as she does. I
haven't any way in the world of
telling whether you are in love or
not, and neither have you until you
see, how your emotion holds up I'M
der stiff competition.
Jealousy comes from the desire
to dominate. 1t is always found in
persons of weak self -aSsurance. It
is the man who is so sure of him
self that he can not afford to ignore
the existence of a rival who is most
apt to win the suit against him.
Dear Jane Jordan - am Is
years old and go with a man of
40. He has three girls and four