The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-11-15

job, and I am considered good look
ing. The only time feel at home
is when I am playing some kind of
game with boys. Yet 1 can't leave
the girls alone. I am always in love
with some girl who seems to like me
at first, then they get tired of me
or my serious disposition, and we
split up. I wish you could help me
understand myself and explain why
I am so old-fashioned and don't
care for young entertainment.
WORRIED.
Answer do not know why
you are unable to enjoy yourself
in the normal pursuits of your
contemporaries. The fault, of
course, lies somewhere in your
upbringing, to which I have no
access. If I tell you where to look
and what questions to ask your
self, perhaps you can figure it
out alone.
Were you an only child who
spent so much time alone that
you never learned to enter into the
activities of others your own age?
Or were you discouraged by older
brothers and sisters who easily
walked off with all the most de-
sirable friends, leaving you the
rakings and Scrapings of the
neighborhood to play with?
Were your parents strict with
you, constantly forbidding you to
do this and that? Did they cause
you to feel inferior and guilty,
making much of your youthful
misdemeanors? Many victims of
too-strict upbringing have secret
and unfounded convictions of
personal guilt which make them
feel that they do not deserve
pleasure. Such an attitude usually
is pushed so far below the level Of
consciousness that the individual
hardly recognizes its presence.
Perhaps you feel uncomfortable
with your fellows because you
can not or do not outshine them.
Undoubtedly you believe yourself
to be inadequate in adjusting to
a group of loving young,
and defend yourself by assuming
a more serious attitude toward
life which you hope will convince
people that play is waste OF
time and entirely beneath you.
There is hope for you because
YOU are disguised and want to
change. If your discomfort Stimu-
lates you to inquiry into the fac
tors which shaped your character,
your increased understanding will
aid you immeasurably in making
the social adjustments which you
regard with both dread and
longing.
Dear Jane Jordan-I go with
boy who is very charming and GER
tainly sought after by the opposite
sex. I like him very much, in fact
much better than any one else l
know. He thinks my intentions are
to capture him for my husband
merely because I do have serious
side to my moods. 1t is impossible
to convince him that I just like to
60 with him for a good time. He
explains to me that he doesn't have
many dates, but that he would ra-
Their stay home and read. What to
do? I give up.
Heaven knows I don't intend to
inveigle any poor fellow into matri-
mony against his will. If you are
too indifferent, you are a fiat tire,
and if you try to be nice and So
ciable, they think you're on the
verge of proposing, and that they
must CALAMITY step out of the pic
ture to keep from breaking your
heart too cruelty. What brave crea-
lures! REQUESTED.
Answer-A man who is afraid
of matrimony is very apt to pro-
ject this fears on the girl and read
meanings into her conduct which
are non existent. A man who has
a responsibible attitude toward
his sex life does not have to do a
voluminous amount of explaining
to his women friends. 1t is the
emotionally evasive male who
wishes biological relief without as
Stunning the slightest responsibility
for his behavior in or out of mat
rimony, who is such an enigma to
the women who know him.