The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-07-18

I can't give him up. He is insanely
Jealous of me if I even speak of an
other fellow.
He beats me. We've had lots OF
fights. But keep going back to
him. I've quit him and gone with
other fellows but my heart yearns
for him. Tell me what to do I'm
sure he loves me. Every one says
that, yet what is wrong? He isn't
bad looking and neither am 1. He
has a wonderful job. Is there any
hope for either of us? I can't stay
away and neither can he.
SKEETER.
Answer-Evidently both Of you
like your misery. If you didn't
you wouldn't go back to it time
and time again. People who
have no liking for fights keep
out of them whenever it is pos
sibIe, and in this case it is per-
fectly possible.
Many couple fights for the
pleasure of making up. Their
perverse emotions will not rise to
a peak without the unnatural
stimulus of combat. Thus man
whips himself into a frenzy OF
jealousy in order to enjoy the
rise of its accompanying phys
ical excitation, and its gratifying
ebb in the partners surrender.
1t is not love which draws you
and your lover together so much
as the fact that each of you salts
fies a secret need of the others
nature which other partners leave
untouched.
Each man and each woman has
a right to expect that his part
ner'S emotions be aroused by nat
ural means. But if this was your
real wish you would have checked
the man out long ago. Think it
over.
Dear Jane Jordan-I would like
to say a few, words to Tired Hus-
band. I am a wife who was de-
ceived by her husband, just as Tired
Husband deceived his wife. fought
hard the same thing your wife has
fought. Hurt pride is the most
nerve wracking thing. I have had
three operations and my doctor said
1 was healthy, all but my nerves.
Lost confidence is one thing that
can't be built up again. Just like
a convict, you can't go back and
be trusted again by the one you
stole from. Your wife is only hui
man. I went to pieces several
times. Some people brood over
things worse than others, my doctor
told me.
I love my husband, but our home
never has seemed the same. I plead
with him to do right and asked
him if he had lost all respect fol
his family and his dear mother who
taught him right. We live in a small
place where other people know that
my husband has been unfaithful
My children and I often hear little
remarks.
1 would advise Tired Husband tc
move from the location where he
was unfaithful to his wife and
promise her all over again just like
when he married her. Then begin
life all over, just like I have asked
my husband to move. Today is
gone and tomorrow new sun rises
MRS. L. K. P.
Answer believe that your let
ter strikes a universal note be-
cause it is SO typical Of the aver
age feminine attitude. I am not
out of sympathy with the woman
whose illusions have been shat
tered by her husbands behavior,
but I can't help noticing that it is
not the deed itself which hurts
her so much as the fact that other
people know what happened This
is a very human trait, but it
should give the wife considerable
pause.
Would moving to a new envir-
onment change relations between
herself and her husband for the
better? Would it fulfill the need
that led the husband away in the
first place? Or would it merely
remove the audience which wit
messed her humiliation? I believe
that there is a sounder and saner
method of meeting the problem
than that of flight from its most