The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1934-04-06

quiet person
and so am I. She is good ma
tured. doesn't get mad easily, and
is very attractive. 1 am not work.
ing at present, but I get enough
spending money for dates. am
a very temperatmental person and
1 take too many things to heart.
I love this girl and she knows how
I care for her.
Is there any hope for us? We
had hoped at first to get married
within two or three years. I don't
think I see her too much. see
her every Wednesday, Saturday
and Sunday. She doesn't seem to
have any reason for losing her
love. Please help us if you can.
P. v. T.
nil Answer-When a young ladys
says no and is unable to give any
definite reason for her withdrawal
it usually means that the young
man simply does not conform to the
idea; image she has built up as a
husband. Her mo" comes from the
unconscious and should be respected
Everyone is thought to have a
secret demand in love. If it is found
happiness follows. If not, all the
efforts of the rejected partner to
win the other persons love are worse
than useless. The young lady is I'M
able to say definitely what she
wants, and even If she did you could
not make yourself over to please
her. Therefore, it is better for you
to give up the suit.
Some men pursue the Indifferent
objects of their affections relentless
ly and will not take no for an
answer When they love it is simply
inconceivable to them that their love
should not be returned. Some even
go SO far as to threaten suicide if
they are definitely refused. Oc-
casionally the girl succumbs under
pressurein the hope that when so
much love is given, she will learn to
love in return.
There may be cases where mar
riage has taught women to love the
men they inStinctively rejected be-
forehand, but I do not know about
them. I know plenty of marriages
founded on friendship which have
developed into love, but in each case
both partners were thoroughly agree
able to the union in the first place
and were not clinging to a dream
which they hoped to fulfil.
The fact that you do not repre-
sent this girls secret ideal doesn't in
the least mean that you will not rep
resent God to some other. The best
thing you can do is to transfer your
affection to some one who recipro-
Gates. This will not be half so hard
to achieve as you now expect.
Dear Jane Jordan-The follow
ing problem has just about got
the best of worried me. Would
you and your readers mind debat-
ing it in your column? I am a
young man "a years old. I do not
dink, smoke or use profanity. I
have become slightly interested in
a young lady of Is who has been
married to man who did not
love her. but she says she loves
him. They have been separated
three or four times and she is
planning to get a divorce. She has
said that she does not wish to
make dates or to go steady with
any one. In spite of this have
managed to be with her several
times and she admits she likes
me, but seems to have no interest
in the future.
Will you suggest something that
I can do to cultivate an honest
personal feeling in her for me.
and then tell me some reasonable
test whereby I can find out if it
is worth while planning a future
for us. UP A STUMP
AnSwer-It is better for you not
to try to play the second fiddle in
this case. AS long as the girl re-
mains enamoured with her unlov-
ing husband your chances are
rather poor. She would always COM
pare you with him to your disad-
vantage. If you are wise you will
look elsewhere for girl whose af-
fections are not centered in some
body else.
-
Dear Jane Jordan-When very
young I became the mother of a
baby born out of wedlock. After a
long time Of gle to provide
for the cp' ~ married its
father. VS. it up to
me every AN argu-
ment sd am unhappy. ! would