The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-07
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

Your opinion is invited as well as your
problems. If you agree or differ with Jane
Jordan, write what you think in a letter.
Dear Jane Jordan-As you said
you would like to hear from some
women who were married young,
I thought I would write. I was
married at Is and was a mother
at Is. My whole life was spoiled,
The only thing in life for me now
is my son. He is % and he is the
only man that I ever will love.
My husband left me when my
baby was a year old. I surely had
a battle, but now I am happy.
I have a nice home and plenty.
We are pals and he is all I care
to live for. I do hope that girls
will be wiser and not marry so
young. Still, I am thankful that
I have such a wonderful son.
YOUNG MOTHER.
Answer have had many res
ponSeS to my request for experiences
from women who married before
they were Is, and all agree that
marriage in our civilization is toe
hard a ioL to be laid on the should
ers of a child. In your case, you
have your son, but I wonder if you
have faced the fact that one day in
the not too distant future, you will
have to give him up to some other
woman?
Your letter left the impression that
you were, perhaps, a little too de-
voted to the young man and had no
interests apart from him. If this is
true, it will be hard on both of you
when another woman comes into
the picture, as she must, if your son
is to lead a normally happy life.
You still are young, and no doubt
attractive. There is no reason for
you to resist the idea of a second
marriage for yourself No sor. no
matter how wonderful, can be
everything to his mother. Or, if he
is, the situation is fraught with
tragedy for him.
The mother-Son relationship is
healtEiest when the mothers life
aboundS in other interests and is
not centered too closely on the son
She can do him great deal of
damage by leaning too heavily on
him for emotional satisfaction, leav-
ing him little time or desire for
companionship of other women.
Mothers who do this seldom see
themselves as selfish, pointing to
their years of hardship and Sacri-
flee to justify the attitude.
Therefore, if you want the re-
mainder of your life to be free from
disappointment, advise you not tc
say, My son is the only man I ever
will love- but rather to expect to
find some congenial soul who will be
more than you son, thus setting the
young man free from family ties
and insuring happy future for
yourself.
Dear Jane Jordan-I work with
boy whom I have learned to like
an awful lot, and he is more than
sweet to me. I believe he wants
to care more, but now a girl tells
me that she knows positively he
goes steady and has for TWO or
three years, and possibly is en-
gagged to a wonderful little girl.
I hate to fall too hard for this
boy, as I am the kind that doesn't
get over it so quickly. and I don't
want to make a second fiddle Of
myself Do you think he really
loves the girl he's been keeping
company with wnen he sees me on
the same night he has date
with her? I'm on the brink Of
falling in love
Do you think all is fair in love
and war when people still are
single? If he is interested in me.
haven't I the same chance to win
and hold him that she has?
THREE ON A MATCH.
A4to Gl --oC4OAE Il HAL Is IlldLl1EC
all the girls are free to try for him
Then. if ever, is his chance to look
them over and decide on the one
that he wants TO live with. If he
prefers you to the other young lady.
it is far better for her to give him
up now than later.
I think it is entirely possible that
you take his attentions too seriously,
however Girls are very irritating
to men because they interpret every
pleasantly as an indication OF a
desire for permanency. Women seem
to be incapable OF enjoying a tran
Sient friendship with a man without
considering him as potential hus-
band.
Discipline your emotions and try
not to fall head over heels in love