The Washington times., 1933-10-09
Secrets OF
Health
By DIR. LOUIS E. BISCH
Should Married Couples Have
Regular Vacations From
Each Other?

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Each Other?
Suppose you are a married
woman and that you have been
married, say, only a year or two.
Is it not true that you would
strongly resist the suggestion
that both you and your husband
take a vacation each year alone
and away from each other?
Now suppose that you have
been married to the same man
10 or Is, better yet, 20 years.
Do you still think you would
be opposed to regular holidays
that would separate you from
your husband?
ThrOeS of Romance
I know what any husband
would say, although some, while
still in the throes OF romance,
might agree with their wives
that they couldn't possibly go
a day without seeing each other.
But surely we all change as
the years roll by. Married cou-
Piles are bound to become more
or less fed up with each other.
No matter how deep the love
of each may be rooted, no mat"
ter how great mutual respect
may be, no matter how much
they like to be alone or enjoy
only their own companionship,
it is nevertheless an undeniable
fact that such a close relation
ship as that of man and wife is
apt eventually to deteriorate
and stale.
Couples exist, of course-and
in large numbers-who never
have been away from each
other for a single night. And
usually they are so proud of
this that they boast about it.
Thin Ice
Such pride, however, would
cause a psychologist to suspect
that they recognize on what
thin ice they have been skat-
ing right along. Why make a
point of it unless it be con-
trary to the expected?
Furthermore, married folks
who have for years lived to-
gether without either husband
or wife so much as visiting a
relative for a weekend, are
often people who would not
take vacations anyway, under
any circumstances.
Those who oppose regular
marriage vacations are often
motivated by feelings of sus-
picion and even of decided mis-
trust without realizing it.
Men. of course, are much
more likely to trust their wives
than are wives their husbands.
Women recognize that many
men have strong philandering
tendencies.
Yet is it safe to assert that
if a man really wants to de-
ceive his wife he need not
wait for a vacation away from
her to accomplish it. Further
more, if a man is fundamentally
moral, absence from his wife is
not going to change his
character in a few days time.
Daily Routine
But keep a man and woman
In close association for weeks,
months and years at a stretch,
and discomfort and diSsatiSfac-
tion, engendered by the same
ness of this daily home routine,
are sure to follow.
Variety everybody needs and,
indeed, Graves. One gets tired
even of beautiful surroundings,
good food, luxuries and all the
other values in life that are
considered desirable.
The same applies to per-
Sonalities. No matter how fine
an individual may be, he or she
Is certain to "get on ones
nerves" if one is forced to
associate with him continually.
Undoubtedly the way to keep
married couples from becom.
ing quarrelsome, or from some
times actually hating each
other, is to have them separate
at least once year.
In that way the love rela-
tionship is kept fresh and
green. Men and women then
regularly meet each other again