The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-02-03
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

dropped her. Well, I stepped out
and enlarged my acquaintance,
only to find that they were and
still are gold diggers" AS long
as you have money and a car,
good clothes and are willing to
spend money on them, you're
swell guy, BUT when you suggest
staying at home and playing
cards you find that somebody
is sick.
Do you think a little petting in
return for a good time is too
much to be expected? I'm at
tracted by any good-looking girl
I happen to meet. l get a date
or so with her and show her a
good time.
When 1 start something in the
kissing line, am not rebuked or
rebuffed. It's just the idea that
if they don't want to, I won't force
the occasion. Maybe I'm too much
of a gentleman. Should I get
what 1 want with force, or should
I spend and spend just for COM
partnership?
This letter concerns three other
fellows besides myself, and we
would like to hear the girls eye
view of the question. DICK.
Dear Dick-You boys are making
mistake by assuming that affec-
ton is something you can buy.
When you take a girl out for the
evening, presumably you both en-
joy yourselves and she owes you
nothing other than to make herself
agreeable. Why in the world should
she want to kiss every boy who
chances to take her to the movies?
Possibly the reason girls will not
give you boys date unless you are
taking them somewhere has moth
ing in the world to do with the
money you spend. Their reluctance
to stay at home is caused by the
fact that you'll expect to do lot
of gooey necking, which doesn't
mean a thing.
A decent girl kisses a boy because
she's fond Of him and because she
likes to kiss him, not because he
spent few dollars on her enter
tainment and his. Nothing is more
disgusting to the average girl than
necking boy who is aware of her
only as a sexual animal and not
as a person of taste.
Women seek to dignity all ply
steal intimacies by identifying them
with love, or at least with warm
affection, whereas boys thoroughly
can enjoy paving the life out of
girl all evening and forget her COM
pletely the next day. She never
registered as a human being at all,
with tastes, preferences, ideals and
desires, but only as a good-looking
female.
Until you boys learn to place more
Importance on the art of making
love instead of the art Of spending
money, you won't get far with the
ladies. I want every girl who reads
this LITTER to write her opinion Of it.
The best letters will be published.
Dear Jane Jordan. l am a girl
10 years old. 1 never cared for any
one fellow, although several have
tried to be serious and 1 leased
them out of it. Somehow, fellows
treat ME as if I were older, be-
cause I sympathize with them and d.
listen to their troubles But about
a month ago / met fellow four
years older than I and I am very
much in love with him.
He takes me lots of places and
treats me wonderfully, but he
doesn't want to be serious He
is one of these don't give a
damn" types, and I don't know how
to act. I never felt so plain dumb
in all my life. I think about him
all the time and it is hard to keep
from talking about him all the
time to my girl friends. Maybe
you can help me.
JUST PLAIN DUMB.
Dear Just Plain Dumb-If the
young man doesn't want to be seri-
Gus, why should you? Can't you
enjoy his companionship in a light
hearted way, without worrying
about whether he is going to belong
to you forever and ever? Every at
tractive young fellow is bound to
build up a defense reaction of pre-
tending not to give Damn" to
keep the girls from marrying him
/ before he wants to be married. Your
method of listening and sympathiz-
ing is the best way to wear down his
resistance.
! A n,f,nt "a Till.