The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-01-11
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

husbands wisely and ask me to help
them keep the problem within
| proper proportions
The first step in the solution is for
/ these wives to throw overheard the
ethics of shame and become as in
/ tereSted in sex as their husbands
are. The foolish belief that there is
something notifying about the
sexual instinct is a pernicious in
heritance from our grim and joyless
Puritan ancestors.
Behind closed doors, embarrassed
mothers impaired the facts of life in
Shamed whispers to conscious
daughters. They taught them that
the marriage relation is burden
which they must endure without
sharing. Men were represented as
coarse creatures, at the mercy of
animal appetites, which any good
woman is too pure to indulge.
All this is arrant nonsense. The
squeamish and shamefaced wife has
ruined as many lives as her direct
antithesis-the prostitute. Some
the harlot there exists happy me-
dunn which every wife should strive
to attain.
XXTHAT is there about sex which
w makes it taboo as a subject
for discussion? Nothing but this
false philosophy Of shame which has
been built up around one of the
strongest instincts with which man
is endowed.
Sigmund Freud was the first to
tear down the secrecy surrounding
the sexual impulse and start the en-
Tightening wave of discussion which
some wives still find perturbing.
The very best advice I can give
them is to join in the discussion and
hold nothing too sacred for investi-
cation. Rigid repression has taken
tragic toll from its victims. What
is missed in sexual fulfllment seeks
outlet in unhealthy channels, APP
pearing again in the guise of cruelty,
ungovernable temper, or a vicious
desire to dominate to the point Of
crushing.
The person who suffers from de-
privation and Illustration can not be
warm and generous. AS some one
has said, I'VE can not think graci-
ously of feast from which we are
debarred."
Let candor take the place of mys-
terry. Let worried wives turn from
apologize indulgence of their own
eroticiSm to joyful justification. The
husband who is generously fulfilled
at home will find less need to talk
to other women on sexual matters
than the one who is more or less
starved.
After all, it isn't very interesting
to talk about a subject in public
which one already has exhausted in
private.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am married
woman and have three children The
Oldest girl works and I am working We
two have to make the living, as my hus-
6 2atD1 is trying to work up business.
After while. he will make some money
The problem is that he is madly in love
with. a married woman and says he has
IONeU ner Tor eighteen wears
he SAID ne would like divorce from
me He said she ought to have been his
wife in the first place as we are not
mated right, but everything was pretty
good until last summer when he met
her SO l have had some battle He
curses me and beats me, but have told
him I would have him in court if he hit
me again. Would you please advise me
what to do?
DAILY READER.
Dear Daily Reader-I see no adj
vantage in holding any husband
against his will unless he is an eco
nomic necessity for the support of
children. Since all he gives you is a
few blows in exchange for your gen.
crosby in helping him get a start.
why not let him fight his economic
battles alone?
Dear Jane Jordan read a letter from
a young man signed lonesome" feel
as if We are in the same boat I am a
time. !. too. help my felix's and am glad
can. But have no boy friends Some
thlng seems TO be missing I just don't
| know what II is I wish Lonesome and
l could get to know each other.
LONESOME NO. ?.
Dear Lonesome No. 2-You might
not like each other even though
your problems are similar. I have
tried introducing people with similar
problems to each other, but it never
has been a success.