The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-06

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Dear Jane Jordan-Are most
men totally lacking in morals, or
what is the matter with them?
I have been engaged to a man for
years. We couldn't be married
right away, because he had his
mother to support, and at that
time he wasn't making enough TO
support two women. She led him
an awful life, and he knew that
no other woman could live with
her She finally began to lose
her mind and committed suicide.
In the long years of waiting,
we became intimate. We couldn't
help it. You know how young
people are. 1t always hurt my
conscience. I naturally am de
cent and honest and conscientious,
and I was sure that we would be
married.
But now that he is free, he
lSn ANXIOUS to, and doesn't see
why we can't go on as We are.
The trouble he had with his moth
er seems to have embittered his
whole life, and he seems to shy
away from living with any woman
again.
I can see why it would make
him feel like that, but it makes it
awfully hard on me. My parents
are dead now, too, and I haven't
relative that I would want to ask
to support me, or I would break
the relations with this man and
go to them.
Furthermore, I am physically
unable to support myself I never
have had to work, and just at this
time l couldn't get work even if I
was experienced in anything.
My fance is just as good to me
as can be. He is with me every
evening and keeps me supplied
with more money than I need,
and I have a cute home, but I am
just worried to death at being a
kept" woman.
I have done everything in the
world to persuade him, and he
secs that I am unhappy about it,
but still he puts me off. I feel
now that he never will marry. At
times I have thought of suicide.
I wouldn't have the nerve to
marry another man. and 1 am los
ing my love for this one.
Perhaps 1 am taking it harder
than is necessary, or maybe I am
behind the times, and people don't
think about these things like they
used to. 1 have cut myself off
from friends more or less, because
I am afraid they will find out.
Won't you please help to set me
right in my mind?
ROSEMARY
Answer always have felt thai
true love willingly engages in per-
mament ties. Even when lover,
solve an emergency by ignoring thc
law, they welcome the opportunity
to marry when the time comes.
Therefore. 1 suspect that The
young man has lost a little of hi:
original enthusiasm for you, anc
wishes to keep himself free for fur
Their experiences when they come.
The same thing might have hap
pened if you had married him. II
isn't unusual for a husbands emo
tons to cool down after a few years
of familiarity. But when he has
signed on the dotted line. he can't
escape from the financial obligation
he has incurred.
Marriage is for protection Of wom-
en-, to keep them out of exactly such
precauious situations as the one in
which you stand.
You are not a bad woman, but
you've made a bad bargain. Now
you must find a way to get out Of
it. Little by little, you must learn
how to do something. 1t is true
that new jobs are almost non-exist-
ent now, but you can begin to pre-
pare yourself to take one when
things loosen up.
Set your goal toward independ-