The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-01-13
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

Young girls are cordially invited to con
hde their emotional perpIexities to Jan
Jordan, who will help them to act wisely
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a
young girl of 10 and 1 have been
going with a boy Of "a for nearly
six months. I know he makes no
other dates, but l do. I am one of
those girls who thinks she is los
ing her sex appeal unless half a
dozen fellows are hanging around.
L always have coolies. 1 date
them just often enough to make
them ask for another date. 1 don't
particularly care for them. They
bore me, but I want to show the
other girls that 1 can date any
one, and like to keep these boys
from having dates with the girls
who do like them. 1 know I'm
selfish and unfair.
I'm in love with a dear fellow,
who 1 shall call Bill. I used to
love EN- and leave 'em. Now if 7
miss a moment with him, my eve
Q ming is spoiled. He, however, al
though he says he likes me loads
and loads and more than any girl
he knows, hardly thinks he is in
love with me. He says sometimes
it almost puzzles him.
Often 1 think he doesn't con-
TESS his love for me because he
will not be in a position to offer
a girl marriage for probably a
year. I'd never know until the
last moment whether he loved me-
Sometimes 1 am disguised and
chagrined with myself and the
depression, too.
I lie to him night after night and
it gets rather hard sometimes to
sface him and say 1 stayed home
last night. On several occasions
he has been angry with me for
flirting. OF course I meant moth
ing by it, but other fellows simply
gush pretty words and phrases,
and I love it.
Bill is as silent as a Sphinx
when it comes to complimenting
me. When 1 tell him that my
sweet tooth hasn't been extracted
just because 1 am going steady
with him, he remarks that actions
speak louder than words. Shall
l forget him or continue my pre-
tense of going steady?
GIN ELLYNE.
Bear Gin Ellyne-You are vail
little thing, but you know it, anC
that makes you amusing, rathe
than obnoxious. I can't make on
whether you really love Bill or |
your emotion arises from the fac
that your vanity is piqued, becaus,
he does not fall for you as the othe
boys do.
Perhaps he has your number am
will not commit himself, for fear yol
will lose interest in him as soon a
you've made the conquest and there
by appeaSed your voracious vanity
Or perhaps he is trying to decid
whether there is anything worth
while about you.
1t is perfectly natural for a cir
to flirt and annex as many bows t
her chariot wheel as possible. Con
quests increase her feeling o
prestige and make her more de
.sirable to other men. There is n
reason why you should forego tn
society of other boys for one VIII
has not made up his mind.
On the other hand. there is alb
solutely no point in lying to hin
Let him see that he can't monopoliz
YOU unless his intentions ar
serious. If you're perfectly good
humored about it, and he is
reasonable young man, he will sc
the Justice of your decision. If h
isn't reasonable, he isn't worth you
time.
am interested enough in you t
want another letter telling me eX
actly what you want to achieve i
life. Have you some desires that G
deeper than the mere craving to b
admired by many boys, and to spit
the other girls? AS I understan
IL. YOU have no interest in theS
bows per so, but you just get kic
out of exhibiting your power owe
them.
I'm not Scolding you for havin
YOUR fling with the boys. Sine
you're only 10, I think it rather cut
of you. I'm only pointing out tina
your insincere fiirtations are a bal
pattern to carry over into maturity
i what Bill Graves is feminin
Sc urity, you're taking the wronI
tack to win him.
I think it would be interesting