The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-11-24
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

I am fitted admirably to be a
housekeeper and homemaker and
feel that that is my true vocation.
There is no doubt in my mind
but what I can make my man
happy in every way. There are so
many things that can happen to
love in two years, and l know he
is mine now. If he spends two
years away from me I can not
be sure of the outcome. 1 would
like to have the opinion of dis
interested outsider.
IMPATIENT MAIDEN.
Answer-Of course it's hard to
wait, but it's the smart thing to
do. 1t isn't as if you had nothing
to look forward to. You have. Your
young man is equipping himself to
shoulder responsibilities. To inter
rupt his program now just because
you're afraid his love won't survive
a separation would be the height
Of foolishness.
1t is true that lot can happen
to love in two years. What you
can not realize is that more poten-
tial disaster lie in wait for this
tender emotion in a premature mar
riage than in two years delay. If
the two years were to be spent in
standing still, you would have q
more legitimate complaint. But they
represent decided progress toward a
mutual goal, which should help to
make them bearable.
Marriage doesn't always give a
woman the firm hold on a man
which she expects, especially if it IS
heavy with burdens which the hus-
band is not prepared to meet. AS
long as he is dependent upon his
parents to finance him, he ought to
respect their reasonable wishes, and
l see nothing unreasonable in ask
ing a 20-year-old boy to wait two
years before he marries.
1t will be we'll for you to bear
in mind that good housekeeping
alone is not enough to make q
good wife. You need understanding
and tact of a high order seldom
found in a 20-year-old girl. For ex-
ample, the dislike of your pros
pective mother-in-law may prove to
be a real menace. How are you 60
ing to solve that?
Your cue is to spend your two
years in the self-development which
will aid you in coping with mature
problems. 1t would be a mistake
Just to hang around and wait for
the young man to do all the grow
ing. II you contrive to remain the
most interesting girl on his horizon.
your possible rivals won't have much
success.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been
foolish enough Ito jump from the
frying pan into the fire by taking
a boys fraternity pin, with all
that entails, just to get out of
an affair with an older man for
whom l didn't care. Now, at the
same time there is a young man
1 have known for several years
who can make my heart flutter
without the slightest effort. Since
l have accepted the fraternity pin
he has commenced paying atten-
ton to me and tells me he cares
deeply for me. He is the one I
really care for, but 1 have made
such 9 mess of things so far. am
afraid to do anything further
without some mature advice.
DOWNRIGHT DUMB.
Answer-You got in your messes
by evading the truth instead of
being straightforward For wears
women had to gain their ends by
subterfuge. The result is that thev
have a bad habit OF taking a cir
cuitous route to given goal in
stead of a straight course. TRY
being absolutely honest and YOU
won't be so involved in embarrass-
ing situations.