The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-16
Manners and Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

Bring. your problems to Jane Jordan,
who will help YOU find a solution by her
answers in this column.
Dear Jane Jordan-I was 16
when I met my husband. My folks
did not approve Of him from the
start but I couldn't see things
clearly. Since that time, and it is
some years past, 1 have endured
many things, including serious
injury to my health.
1 despise myself more and more
as go through the days. I never
would tell my parents what my
troubles were. My mother de
veloped such a severe case Of
heart trouble that any shock
would have been fatal; so I made
her believe we were intensely hap
py. In my heart I hate my hus-
band for what he has made me
suffer.
Now mother is gone. 1t will be
a bitter pill to swallow to go back
to Dad, and these are tough times
for getting a job. 1 keep thinking
if my folks had known the truth
they wouldn't have let me go
through this. I could die of shame
to think of all have endured.
I have not fallen down on keep
ing my home nice, and do not fail
to keep up my appearance. tell
you this to show you that I have
not let it beat me entirely, but the
pressure is so great sometimes
that I don't know what to do.
just tell me how can ever square
myself with myself. x. Y. z.
AnsWer-There is nothing more
degrading to woman than the
necessity of living in the intimacy of
marriage with a man whom she
secretly despiSes. If she does so
solely for material support, she feels
little better than the woman who
sells her favors without benefit of
the law.
You no longer are your fathers
responsibility. You left his house of
your own free will and accord,
against his better judgment. Now
it is hardly fair for you to throw
yourself back on his hands. The only
course which will restore your self
respect is to learn to stand on your
own feet for support, and look to
yourself for your bread and butter.
The craving to be rescued is one of
the greatest weaknesses of women
AS soon as she gets in a Jam, she
looks about her environment for
some strong person upon whom she
can depend to pull her out of the
hole. 1t seldom occurs to her to
rescue herself.
Why don't you make clean
breast of the whole affair to your
father and ask him to help you
help yourself? Tell him that you do
not want to lean back on him like
dead weight. You only want him
to stake you while you learn some
means OF earning your own living
Now while jobs are scarce, you
can spend your time in training
yourself for some trade or profess
sion.
1t is true these are tough times
for getting a job, but many people
use the times for an excuse for not
making an effort. The time will
come again when everybody able to
work will be needed. Build up your
equipment now and cash in on il
when that time comes.
A humane father hardly would
want his daughter to live under the
conditions in which you exist. but
he would have right to expect mis-
daughter to be willing to rustic for
herself. The only way that one
person can help another is to en-
gage him in useful activities. That's
all you should expect from your IA
Their.
You are entitled to some finan-
cial aid from your husband if he is
able TO give it. I have not pub
lished your full complaint against
him. which gives you legal grounds
for divorce. Nevertheless. I think
it would be a mistake to depend
wholly upon his resources. hide
pendence will set you right with
yourself and nothing else will.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am in love
with a boy OF %. I am is. He
live in Chicago. I live in In
dianapoliS. He writes me letters
all the time and tells me how
much he loves me and cares for
me. He says he isn't having dates
and doesn't want me to. He
comes here only once a week and
has to GO back right away. He
comes on a truck with his uncle
and his cousin.
What should I do with myself
at night and how do I know if he