The Washington times., 1933-12-28
Advice to
loveIorn
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX

Can't Be Responsible for Cousins
Dear Miss Fairfax:
Some years ago a distant
cousin Of mine got into a jam
with a certain young fellow. and
there was plenty Of trouble
with both families on account Of
it. Lately I have met a young
man, and we both fell for each
other Immediately. My parents
seem to like him, too, but when
they discovered he was related
to this other man, who caused
all the trouble, they objected
to his seeing me any more.
What can't see is why we
should be held responsible for
a distant cousins bad behavior.
It sounds like Romeo and
Juliet family troubles to me, or
some Of the feudS Of our South
ern mountaineers.
He has a very good job, is
gentlemanly, and his mother is
simply grand to me. I don't see
why we can't forget the family
troubles and be happy.
PUZZLED.
It seems to me pretty hard to
be held responsible for the
shortcomings of distant cousins
these days. I am sorry that
you neglected to tell me your
age and a little more about
yourself, because if you're over
81 and self-supporting, I really
think that your parents should
yield to your wishes and not
stand in the way of your friend
ship with the young man, who
you tell me is steady and en-
tirely creditable.
But if you're quite young,
say II or 18, and are still in
high school and living at home,
I think it might be well for you
to consider the wishes of your
parents until you are older.
: Waiting is an excellent way Of
discovering whether you are
genuinely in love, or if it's only
a case of fascination.
Always Dreamed Of Marrying 8
Handsome Husband
Dear Miss Fairfax:
I am a young girl of 10 and
employed as a dentists stenog-
rapher. A young man Of Is is
very much in love with me. I
don't know whether I am in
love with him or not. He is
always sociable when we're to-
gether, but makes me embar-
rassed among my friends by a
tendency to crouch. That's his
only fault, I believe.
He is a professional man and
has a desirable position, and I
know he would always be con-
siderate of his wife, but he is
not at all good-looking, and I
have always dreamed of marry
ing a handsome husband.
Do you think, Miss Fairfax,
from what I have told you, I
could be happy with this man
for life, and do you really think
I love him? DISTRESSED.
The fact tn, the young man
isn't good-l o king wouldn't
count feathers weight with
me. You can always go to a
movie and see plenty of Apollos.
But his lack Of Sociability and
tendency to grouchiness would
certainly weigh against him
heavily if I were in your place.
Who hasn't been distressed by
having had to endure a hus-
bands rudeness to his wife in
company? Perhaps his lack of
cordiality to you in public comes
from shyness. Don't you think
1t would be well to find out?
Likes Him Till She Gets Him"
Dear Miss Fairfax:
Here is my story: I am the
type of girl who likes a boy
until she gets him. I have been
in love with a boy for eight
months now, and have not yet
gotten him to fall for me, be-
cause he is in love with an
other girl, and I guess it will
always be that way.
The girl he is in love with is
one of my best friends and I
think she is just leading him on.
DISAPPOINTED.
Isn't what you imagine to be
love only a state of mind, my
dear? It is often just that
with a girl of your type you de-
scribe yourself to be. And if
the young man fell for you, it's
likely that you'd become bored
with him as you have with the
others. I believe, under the cir
cumstances, I shouldn't try to
get him away from the girl
friend.
If he breaks with the girl
who is "just leading him on"
you will be able to apply the
test: Do I really care or am I
only interested in something
that belongs to someone else?
Scarf Collar