The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-21


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Dear Jane Jordan-I am 20
years old and rather attractive.
My husband is 26 and good look
ing. We have been married three
years. Three weeks ago we broke
up housekeeping and stored our
furniture to move in with his
mother.
He is the only child. She lives
in the country They all work in
town, so I'm here all day alone.
do all the housework and cook
ing, but I get dreadfully lonesome.
My husband could come home
early, but instead he stays in town
and drinks. He says the reason
Tor this is that business is so bad
and he worries because he had to
give up our home. I don't think
that is a very good excuse. 1 had
to give up our home, too, didn't I?
1t meant just as much or more
to me as it did to him. He says
| haven't a thing to worry about.
He is cross and fussy with me. 1t
seems like I can't do a thing to
please him any more. What in the
world can a person do for a man
like that? Please help me.
LILA LEE.
Observation-Disclosures 1 think that
men are much wiser than women
because they absolutely refuse to
hug their troubles When things
get unhappy at home, they simply
walk out, leaving somebody else
with the bag to hold. This is sell
fish, to be sure, as irritating to me
as it is to you
But you as we'll may aspire to stop
the law of gravity from working as
to stop a man from seeking escape
from his troubles.
The woman who wants her huS-
band to rush home from work with
a glad cry never must allow herself
to become one Of his troubles, for as
sure as she does she won't see much
Of him.
Understand me, my synpathies
are with you. 1 easily can believe
that it went harder with you than
with him to give up your home. 1
could tear into your husband and
call him a lot of names with pleas
ure, but what good would it do? 1
never yet have seen a man behave
properly because a woman called
him names.
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He has the advantage of an occu-
patton which throws him in contact
with others all day. He has change
in his life. without which exist
ence is difficult to support. You
are thrown back OH yourself all day
long with nothing but solitary me-
chanical tasks to perform, and they
are powerleSs to keep your mind
from revolving around your troubles.
You expect your husband to come
home at night and cheer you up
with his sympathy and appreciation.
1t is a vain hope, my dear. He
gets drunk instead.
Let us see if we can get his view
point, for in no other way can we
hope to change his behavior. Earn
ing living in these times is a re
mendouS strain, understood only by
those who are engaged in it. Your
work is scrutinized today as never
before.
The cruel law Of the survival of
the tltteSt operates in industry and
business. It's produce or get out.
That's why he says you have moth
ing to worry about. Isn't he doing
your fighting for you?
At the close of such a day, the
worker needs relief, relaxation, and
a modicum of happiness. 1t takes
an iron will to go home and take up
another problem, if it's only the job
OF cheering up a wife
Isn't it enough that I work all
day for her support, cries the worm
out nervous system. This evening
Will eat, drink and be merry"
You have two courses open to you.
You can walk out Of, also, you have
anywhere to go), or you can create
the atmosphere OF Relation and rest
which would wean your husband
from his bottle.
In your three years of marriage you
must have discovered the things you
DO and say that make him happiest.
Can you recreate your love now as it
was in the beginning?
Instead of berating men for their
determination to escape the ills of
existence. I believe women would do
well to get busy and escape with
them. I do not mean that they
should go out and get drunk, but
only that they spend less time in
breeding, and more in developing
technique Of escape.
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