The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-02
Manners and Morals
by JANE JORDAN

much more favorable position than
you were before.
Don't look backward. Nor for
ward. Keep your eyes on the task
of the Gay and do it the very best
that you know how.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am high
school girl of 16 and am crazy
about fellow of 18. have known
him for a year and see him at
least twice a week. He is a good
looking and popular with the girls
of our crowd. At dances he is at
tentive the first of the evening,
then he seems to forget I'm there.
He dances with other girls, and
other fellows come to my rescue.
He talks continuously of other
girls in my presence, but gets
sore if I mention another fellow.
I laugh it off, but down deep it
hurts. He tells everybody that
he cares for me, but does not show
it, and I am no mind reader
I always am second choice to a
frat dance, although he says he
likes to dance with me better than
with any other girl. I'm afraid I
could not live if I were never to
see him again. Please tell me what
to do. QUESTIONING.
AnsWer-In common with most
women, you have put all your eggs
in one basket. Foolish girl. You
are only 16. The world is packed,
crammed, and damned with inter-
eSting things to do, see, and learn.
We live in an economic situation
unique in the annals of society.
Yet everything bores you except
one: Your boy friend. Nothing
seems important except one: To be
first in his affection.
He is buzzing around all over the
place, strutting his ego, mixing with
many people, gloriously selfish,
wholly untroubled All his energies
are focused on enjoying himself
while he is young and footloose. If
perchance you contribute to his en-
joyment, we'll and good. But you
aren't his sole source of entertain
ment by long shot. His interests
are divided.
But you think only of him. You
want to be all things to him at all
times. You can't be. You're Just
an incident. You crave a feeling OF
unity with the boy friend that he is
powerless to give you, because he
isn't interested to that extent.
Like all women, you love too pos
sessively, The boy friend wants to
possess you for his vanity's sake, but
he doesn't want you to possess him
for his freedoms sake.
The only sane, sensible thing you
can do is to take leaf from the boy
friends book and make a pleasant
incident in your life, shear today
gone tomorrow, only one of a thou
sand and one things that clamor
for your attention.
The fascinating woman is the one
forever to be won, but never quite
captured. Concentrate on enjoying
your life apart from him. Now don't
cry and say, Il can't. That's the
wall of a defeated woman.
Dear Jane Jordan-I was mar
ried at Is years to a man six
years older than I. At the age
OF 20 I was the mother of three
children, and now at the age of
% years my husband and I are
separated and divorced, leaving
three small boys without a home.
1 was cheated out of having any
fun since was Is years old, and
I have had nothing but misery,
worry and heartaches.
Now 1 have met my mate and
1 am half way afraid to marry
again. He is ten years older than
1. but seems to love me, and 1
am sure l love him. If you can,
advise me as to what to do.
BOOTS.
Answer: Of course, since I ion't
know the man, I can't advise YOU
definitely to marry him. But since
he is old enough to know his own
mind, and to realize exactly what it
will mean to be stepfather OF
three small children. as well as hus-
band TO their mother, he must be
very much in love with you to make
the offer.
Sometimes I think the mother of
little children takes just as serious a
risk in remaining single as she does
in getting married, for an emotion
ally untitled woman simply can not
be a good mother,