The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-09

lHtSE are tTouDltSOme tlfHts. MANY new
and difficult problems will arise to dis
turb the peace of the people. If you
want to talk out your troubles to some
one. write a letter to Jane Jordan and
read your answer in few days in this
column.
DEAR JANE JORDAN-My
- husband is a man with
pleasant personality. He is what
some call the life Of the party"
But I am the very opposite. Since
we married, he has invited his
friends out, and of course expects
me to help him entertain them.
I've disappointed him several
times by being so mealy-mouthed,
and 1 have had quite a few baWl
ingS out from him. Lately he has
tried to help me, and 1 have i'm
proved some, but MT as much as
l should, for 1 want him to be
proud Of me.
I can keep up conversation as
long as some one starts it, but as
soon as they end that certain sub
ject, I can't think of anything to
say to start another. I get my
words confused when I'm talking,
especially to a stranger.
I know what I want to say, but
I can't seem to think fast enough
to say the right words. Then I
stumble and usually say it wrong.
Is there any way Of correcting
this or am l just naturally dumb?
Please help me, if for no other
reason than for my husbands.
sake. CONFUSED MARY.
A NSWER-Dr. Alfred Adler tells
N us that the feeling of inferiority
from which you suffer is common
to every one, and that it begins in
childhood. The child feels little and
dependent, and he struggles to over
come it. The degree of his sue
cess depends upon how we'll he
learns to cooperate with others.
The only right way for the in
dividuaD to overcome this feeling of
inferiority, which involves every
body" writes Adler, is to feel
worthwhile, and he can not do so
if he does not cooperate"
Your trouble, as 1 see it, arises
from insufficient practice in CO.
operating with your fellows. And
a lack of cooperation implies a lack
of any real interest in other peo-
pie and their problems.
At first glance, it may be difficult
for you to see how a lack of CO.
operation accounts for the fact that
you can not think of things to say
that you are not entertaining, that
you are Self-conscious and confused
in conversation and are inclined to
be "mealy- All this merely
means that you are not good
mixer and a good mixer is one who
has learned to cooperate.
VOU are not dumb. If you were
L you would not have recognized
your deficiencies and uttered such
a sincere cry for help. You simply
as yet, are not more deeply inter
ested in others than you are il
yourself. No concern for the vel
fare of your neighbor or your ma
ton has been powerful enough to
make you forget completely yom
own entity.
You have, however, made an eX-
cellent beginning in wishing to
please your husband more than you
wish to please yourself. Encourage
this first step in self-forgetfulness
by enlarging this wish to please to
include your friends and his.
There could be no better time to
begin than now. A great national
emergency exists which involves the
happiness of every man, woman and
child in the country. AT this point
the very survival of the nation de
ponds upon the power of its people
to cooperate.
How is your neighbor faring dur
ing this season Of strain? Perhaps
there is something you can Go to
lend a helping hand, or to keep
his courage alive.
AVE you peen interested IN re-
Il factions of the pleople since the
banks of the nation declared a
holiday? If you were a close OBJ
server, perhaps you would have
noted a curious kind of relief on
many faces which at times crowds
away the strain.
Why was this true? Money was
out of the picture for the moment.
There wasn't any. Nobody had any
to speak Of. There was no more
keeping up with the Joneses, for
the Joneses didn't have anything
either. Nobody could blame any
body else for not paving his bills.
And there was nothing TO do
about it.
In such moment We get lust
the tiniest glimpse of what it would
be like if never again would there
be any money to struggle for, yet
everybody was assured OF rent. ra-
tons and raiment. But you can
not conceive of such society with
out the complete cooperation of
each and every one of its members.
THIS is why I believe that the
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