The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-06-16

looks like different objects to us.
I've tried with all there is in me
to keep my troubles to myself,
for the sake of my two darling
babies.
With my own eyes I've seen my
husband with other women. He
has had the nerve to bring them
to my door, and if 1 say anything
he flies into rage and curses and
beats me. I've told him the sensi-
BILE thing to do is to get a divorce
in good understanding, but he says
that if leave him he will expose
my character to my parents.
I've never mentioned trouble to
my parents, and l hate to ask for
support. They have very COM
Portable living and are all alone.
My former lover never has mar
ried. He is far dearer than life
and I have all the confidence in
the world in him.
1 wonder if man can shoulder
the responsibilities of children who
are not his, though I know he is
home-loving and considerate.
Neither a HIGH STEPPER nor OLD
Fashioned.
Answer-Your husband is bully.
That means he is a coward. Your
first step is to show him that you
are not afraid of him. If he has
been unfaithful, he has forfeited his
legal right to live with YOU. You
can force him to behave properly
or get out.
He can not be handled by tears,
reason, or recrimination, but he
would be like putty in the hands
of a determined, Unconditional per-
son. So he threatens to EXPOSE
your character to your parents. In
the same breath he would expose his
own! You can take the whip out
of his hand by telling them your
self.
No doubt it will hurt your pride
to reveal your mistakes to your par
ents. But after all they aren't with
out responsibility, in this matter.
since they prevented your marriage
to the man you wanted 1t is no
Kindness to stand between loving
meddlerS and the consequences of
their own acts.
l respect you for not wanting to
ask your family for financial aid.
However, it is one thing to ask them
TO support you outright, and quite
another to ask them to help you
support yourself. You are not
wholly unprepared for a profession.
as so many women are. A vigorous
brushing up, plus a purpose which
refuses to be thwarted, will put YOU
back in the ranks of wage earners.
Your husband, of course, is obli-
gated to contribute to support of
your children.
one very familiar weakness I note
in your letter. You retire to the
realm of phantasy for recompense
instead of coming to grips with real
ity. Instead of laying practical
plans for escape. you dream of res
cue by another man.
1 doubt if any love affair can be
taken up years after a break and be
made to function happily again.
Even should such a miracle come
to pass, I should think you would
hesitate ever again to permit your
self to be wholly dependent upon
any one person for financial sup
port or for personal happiness.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am II, in
love with a man of %. The last
time we were together he told me
he loved me and asked me if I
loved him. I told him no, be-
cause was told to keep him
guessing. After that he hasn't
been back. Please tell me what
| to do.
BRoKEN..HEARTED SALLY
AnSwer-What a foolish girl you
turned out to be! A fat footed mo-
is no way to keep a man guessing
Why didn't you look like startled
fawn and say. I'm not sure" Who
ever told you to keep him guessing
was banking on the coyness of wo-
man to charm the male.
II is true that coyness is a very
real part of her makeup. and the