The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-17
Manners and
Morals
BY JANE JORDAN

BY JANE JOkDAN
Living together is difficult art. If
ly IN your house, write to Jane Jordan
who will help you by her answers in this
column.
Dear Jane Jordan-My wife is
40 years old l am As. We've al
ways been happy together until
recently when she began to take
leave of her senses. She is very
sensitive about her age and wants
to look and act like a young girl.
This irritates me. All her friends
are younger women, but 1 can't
think why, because she knocks
them all and hasn't a kind word
for anybody.
She never has been firtatious
In her life until recently. I'm
not jealous but hate to see her
make a fool Of herself. What do
you do with a woman who thinks
life is ended because she is grow.
ing old? HUSBAND.
AnsWer-The first thing you do is
to understand her problem. Evil
IDENTIFY, she has been a woman who
depended upon the charm Of a
youthful appearance for her per-
sonal prestige To part with youth |
in a dignified way is a difficult JOB |
Tor any woman. 1t is double diff |
cult in the case of a woman whose |
sole treasure is laid up IN the
pleasures Of youth.
1t is true that attitudes and man
nerisms which were wInsome in
youth are ludiCrOuS at 30. The |
woman who looks her age is more
attractive than the one who strives |
to extend her adolescence into ma
turity.
The fear of the closing door of ro-
nance causes many women to make |
fools Of themselves at 40. 1t is easy
to be faithful to a husband when |
you know you could attract other
men if you tried. When you are
obliged to be faithful because you
have lost your appeal for others, it |
isn't half as satifcatory.
Knocking others is one way of |
establishing your own self-esteem |
Without doubt your wife would be
happier if she chose her friends |
from women her own age When |
81 contrasts herself with the
freSher faces of her young friends, |
she feels inferior. Therefore, she |
speaks unkindly. as if to assure her
self that they are not so smart after
all
The woman who has solved the |
three great problems of life does not |
fear old age. These problems are |
love and marriage, social adjust
ment and occupation. Sometimes I
think the greatest of these is occu-
patton.
A satisfactory marriage is greatly |
to be desired, but without occupa-
ton, in or out Of the home, even
marriage is flat.
A woman no longer is old at 40 |
She is not an ingenue, to be sure,
but if she has worked, studied, and |
found a means of social expression, |
she's still interesting to herself as
we'll as to others.
All kinds of opportunities are
open tN mature women. Girlhood is |
one phase of life. Womanhood is !
another Both have their fascina-
tons. Help your wife to realize this |
fact and the battle is won.
Dear Jane Jordan know
fellow whom I love very we'll. He
has asked me for a date and I re-
fused him. He has not asked me
for a date since. but if he sees me
in the show he always walks home
with me. Why is it that he does
not ask me for any more dates?
Does he love me? LONELY.
Answer-It is a mistake for girls |
to interpret every attention from
boys as evidence of love. The young
man probably hasn't a serious
thought in his head, but only is in
search of feminine companionship
and entertainment.
Let your attitude be as light as
his. If you turned him down the
first time he asked for date, he
may not wish to risk another de-
feat. This fear is characteristic of
timid young men. To the bold a
denial serves only as a challenge.
Dear Jane Jordan-PleaSe per-
nit me TO write a few lines to
Immortal regarding her letter. I
understand how she feels. I have
in my younger days felt exactly
the same. I was trapped and so
we'll trapped that it seemed as if
there were no exit.
ONE WHO BELIEVES.
Answer-If Immortal will send
her address, which I have mis-
placed. I will forward your letter
TO her