The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-04-05
BY JANE JORDAN

Bring your perplexities to Jane Jordan,
who will help you straighten them out in
your own mind.
Dear Jane JOrdan-Can per-
son be in love and not know it?
It's like this. We're both 20 and
have known each other fifteen
years. I'm the only girl he goes
with, but he never has spoken Of
marriage. He isn't in position
to marry, for he has no job and
no prospects, but it seems to me
that if his love was real he would
say something about wanting to
some time. He says he loves me
and seems so sure Of it.
I never tire of him. I'd rather
spend an evening at home with
him than to go anywhere on earth
with anybody else. If this is love,
it isn't exactly what I thought it
would be like. Could it be that
do love him, but that it has come
upon ME so gradually that I don't
know I'm in love?
I'm sure he isn't my ideal in
looks, for he really is bit home
ly But how many women ever
marry their ideal in looks? He is
a swell person, though, and makes
up for his looks by being kind,
generous and loving. do hope you
can help me. Is there any test
that can be used to prove love?
Answer. 1t is typical of woman
that she can not regard love as an
interlude. AS soon as she establishes
happy companionship with man
she examines it for signs of per-
manence. The nesting instinct is
so strong that the moment some
man attracts her, she expects him
to join her in plans for a future
home in which to express their
love and house their children.
But the man is content with the
happiness of the moment. He
makes no plans for permanence un-
til he fears that he will lose the
girl unless he does. Then, if he has
come to believe that she is necessary
for his happiness, he signs on the
dotted line
You want me to tell you that you
are in love with this young man
The fact that you need reinsurance
shows that you feel something is
missing. Therefore, if you want tC
find happiness, you either will have
to change your young man OF
change your concept of love.
Most young girls learn all they
know about love from romantic
novels or from highly colored film
stories Cheap fiction and the
movies fulfill the wishes of women
in way that real life does not. Il
causes them to build up a picture Of
love impossible to realize in fact
Disappointment and unhappiness
result.
The all-conquering male of the
movies is a hero who seldom ma.
terializes. In reality, this godlikt
creature is playboy who avoid;
stern responsibilities as long a!
possible. He likes women to play
with. but he SHES away from tying
himself down to one. How does ht
know that he won't want somebody
else later on?
The girl who waits to be swept of
her feet by a prince, whose inten-
tons are serious from the first
seldom realizes her ideal. She i!
not trained to recognize the timor.
Gus stages which the male goe:
through before and after he com.
mits himself. When finally he give.
up he likes to think of himself a.
a conqueror, but in a sense it's {
truer statements to say that he j.
licked.
Since you are so young, it is ad.
visable for you to stop trying tt
label your emotion until time ha,
had a chance to develop it or de.
stroy it. 1t is true that you have
known the young man for f1fteer
years, but you both were children
Wait and see what an adult view.
point does to your companionship.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a girl
in my teens. I am in a crowd of
girls and boys out for a good time.
They are fine. even though they
may seem rather rowdy to out
SiderS. My mother objects to
some of the boys and won't let me
go to the parties they have.
The other girls mothers let
them go. We modern children like
to have a good time, and are just
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