The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-02-24


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Dear Jane Jordan: Have you
ever known a father who turned
against his only child? And with
out reason? This child is Is and
until three years ago he couldn't
love her enough. If she were a
bad girl, I would be able to I'M
derstand it, but she is very quiet
and respects her parents and
teachers. She is loved by every
one except her father.
When I ask him to explain his
attitude, he says she doesn't de-
serve any better treatment. His
own father says he is acting the
part of fool This treatment has
made the child SO unhappy that
she is unable to be her natural
self, and she hates her father.
He acts IS though he would like
to turn her in the street, calling
her such names as dumb hog"
nuts" snake" parasite" and
useless. !" If she happens to have
some of her friends in for an
evening, why, it's just made too
unpleasant for them 10 remain.
At times I'm desperate. Has any
mother had this problem to solve?
What do you think of it?
HEARTBROKEN MOTHER.
Answer: 1t is my opinion that in
all conflicts between parents and
children, the children always are
innocent and the parents always
guilty. This may not be apparent
at first glance, but a little research
into the upbringing of the children
invariably places the blame on the
of the parents.
This father has not turned against
this child without reason. 1 do not
mean that his reason is a good one.
or that the child is in any way to
blame. But rest assured there is
a reason, buried somewhere, which
you can unearth if you try. 1 can
suggest no solution for the trouble
other than to remove the child from
the fathers house, unless 1 know
what causes his behavior.
Is this father a jealous person?
Is he deeply in love with you, or
has he repudiated you along with
the daughter? Does he feel that
the child has displaced him in YOUR
affections? Does he suspect YOU of
untoWard behavior with other men.
and has he ever questioned the pa
ternity of the child?
Is he in financial difficulties. and
does he regard his daughter as a
heavy burden? Has he accused YOU
OF over indulging her whims and
tastes? Whom does the child re-
semble?
Can it be that he is treating her
abominably to punish you for some
real or fancied grievance? What
is the state of the mans health? Has
he ever had a serious illness? If
so, what was it?
IheSe are only gueSses flung out
IN the dark to help you in your
search for the cause of this disaster.
Look for secret sources of resent
ment. 1t is of the utmost import
ance to the child that this problem
be solved.
A girl of her age is more than
likely to base her concept of all men
upon her fathers behavior. If she
Is Obliged to hate him, it NAV be
emotionally impossible for her ever
10 be happy in marriage.
When you have collected more
iacts, write me again. I will be glad
to keep anything confidential which
you do not want published.
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Lear Jane Jordan-I am reach
ing my 21st birthday, and I 90
with young man of "a. He said
he loved me and 1 worshipped the
ground he walked on, but I can't
understand him. He comes when
| least expect him. If 1 am not
nome, he won't call for a week or
two. He often talked of getting
married, but he knows nv income
is the only support of a family of
eight. -
Ny first duty is to my family is
1t not? He says that I can not
work after 1 am married. What
shall 1 do? Will I be forced to
give him up? I know it will cost
me his love or my position but
VIII 1t not destroy the family's
faith in me if quit my lob?
POOR WORRIED ME
Answer-In ordinary times J
would say that a young girls first
duty most decidedly was not to her
family. but to herself. I do not be-
lieve that it is right for a young