The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-01-05

Jane Jordan will advise you on any
sub,e touching on human relations.
Write your letter now and tell what is
nearest your heart.
TINE two questions which come
IL most often to the desk of Jane
Jordan are How can I win my boy
friend?" and after he is won, How
can l hold my hUSband?" Granted
a basic congeniality of tempera-
ment, it is an easy matter to make
a man fall in love with you. 1t is
not quite as easy to keep him in
that frame of mind. That is to say,
it requires more prolonged effort.
More Of the SINE thing that won
him viii hold him, but few wives
have either the inclination or the
patience to keep it up after the
prey is shared.
The trouble seems to be that
women can not conceive Of love and
marriage as a task which requires
as much thought and effort as any
other career. When a woman is
married, she thinks her problem is
solved and expects to live happily
ever after, without working at the
business of charming.
The American woman has much
to learn from the French wife
whose methods are described in the
December issue of Harper's maya
zine. The first article of her creed,
as reported by Dorothy Bromley, is
as follows:
Il will please him and surround
him with comforts every hour of
The day" And for convincing him
that he is the most important per-
son in his home, she has her re-
ward.
NNE of the most serious faults to
W be found among the wives of
my acquaintance is their tendency to
belittle their husbands in private
and in public. They take great de-
light in shrewd little digs at their
partners frailties and faults. They
make jokes at his expense and do
not hesitate to make him feel cheap,
if by so doing they increase their
own feeling of superiority.
The French woman makes her
self indispensable to her husband
If she holds the purse strings it is
because she can stretch the family
income farther than he can"
The American wife is famous for
her eXtravagances. If she does not
hold the purse strings. in many
cases it is because she has no judg-
ment in spending. Occasionally the
reverse is true, but it is hard to
convince an American husband that
his wife is an exception to a rule
so generally evident.
Capable IS the French wife is,
her sway over her husband would
be incomplete were she not the su-
perior tactician of the two D..
Flattery IS one of Their favorite
methods. I one case, where a man
was opposed to his ch.ldren's 60
ing to a religious school, his wife
diSarmeo him with the following ar
gument, Should I admire in you
that force 81 character that respect
for spiritual values which distin-
guishes you, if these qualities had
not been bred in you from your
earliest years by The teachings Of
the church? My dearest wish is that
our sons shall grow up to make
their wives as happy as you have
made me?" Monsieur Chose was
not without an appreciation of his
own good qualities, and so his chill
dren went to the parochial school. "
.NTY observation of American
ITl wives convinces me that they
seldom. if ever, make so skilled an
attack on their husbands prejudiceS.
Their methods are more direct-and
less successful. They rely on argu-
ments (often bitter), on demands.
reproacheS, nagging and other dis
agreeable approaches. which only
serve to make the oppressed hus-
band stubborn.
These are only a few of the little
tricks that the French woman finds
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