The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1933-03-13

who will answer them in this column
within few days.
DEAR Jane Jordan: I'm a
- senior at Butler college and
engaged to be married as soon as
I am graduated. 1 love my t1ance
and want to marry him, but am
also anxious to find a job, not so
much for the money it would
bring as for the interest it would
hold for me.
I don't want to settle down into
a domestic routine. This attitude
hurts my frances pride. He doesn't
believe in woman working after
marriage. We would like to hear
your opinion on this subject.
BUTLER COED.
A NSWER-I am in sympathy
IN with your desire to create
life for yourself apart from your
husband, but since he is not, you're
in for trouble. William Johnson
gives a most amusing picture of the
plight of the typical male married
to woman with a job
He coins a word for this condi-
ton which he calls ''hemigamy"
Here is his definition: "Hemigany
is the state in which husband
lives when he has wife half mar
ried to him and half married to a
job" And here is how he feels
about it:
Far more men these days have
half wife than any one realizes.
Each year more and more married
women are going out and getting
jobs for themselves, and the num-
Der of these half-wives is increasing
in alarming degree.
st doubt whether many of us men
realize how far we have slipped and
how fast we still are slipping from
our former proud and lofty position,
when each of us had one wife who
was all his own.
TT is a lamentable fact that once
any of our wives begin to earn
money of their own, we men no
longer command the feminine re-
spect and adulation that used to be
ours in the good old days when the
husband was the only wage Garner.
Turn back to the pages of your
own childhood Do you remember
what an important parsonage in the
household your father was, infin-
itely more respected, reVerenced,
feared and looked up to by his wife
and by his children than you are
by your wife and family?
I'm those forgotten days, before
hemgamy became prevalent, we men
were some pumpkins. The whole
household was organized to insure
our comfort and every member of
the family catered to our whims. If
there were any pleasant little vaca-
lions to be taken, it was we men
who took them.
I'VE went fishing and hunting,
attended the trotting races and took
occasional little trips to the city.
Woman's place was in the home and
generally We left her there.
1t was we men who ventured
forth to enjoy the worlds pleasures.
If there was any money to be spent,
We men spent it. If there was any
money to be bequeathed, it went
to the male members of the family.
THE strong, forceful type of he
man still wants the soft, sweet old
fashioned feminine sort of girl for
a wife. The woman who appeals
most to him is the kind that is con-
tent to stay in the home and let him
do the wrestling with the cruel
world for the cash they need.
He wants a wife who will be in
the house to greet him when he
comes in, who will go into raptures
over the presents he brings her, who
will be at his beck and call when he
wants her, who will ornament his
dinner table, entertain his friends,
comfort him when he is tired, cheer
him when he is depressed.
If she'll do these things he is
ready to give her all the money she
wants, and if he hasn't enough, he'll
hustle to get some more. This he
man type Of husband simply will
not listen to the idea Of his wife
getting job. No half-wife for
him"
This outworn masculine attitude
is particularly irritating to the mod
ern woman. What men do not real
ize is that women have been. put
ting up with hemagamy in their
husbands for years. The husband
who is half married to job and
half married to a wife is a univer-
sal institution.