The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-06-16
IF you find life an ordeal, write
l. your situation to Jane Jordan.
Her comments on your letter will be
published in this column.

Dear Jane Jordan-Ive admired your
observation-disclosures, and wonder II you
could advise me how o tins can aqe be broa sS
minded. 1 have been dating fellow
steady for a year and hall. we are
both truly in love and would pc married
bv now if financial conditions would per-
In the meantime. I have been much
too easy, as all women in love are; ana
allowed him to take liberties with me
which no good girl would permit; I al
wavs have been decent before, too de.
cent. I suppose. for he is just too fast
for me I've tried everything to rouse
I've refused him dates, tried to keep
him interested otherwise, put 10 no aNall.
He is &c and 1 am % and we. get along
fine; Both Of us have lot OIL sense SS
I don't think we ever would get over
it if I quit him for good. which don't
want to do. However. I'm afraid 1t VIII
have to be that. I simply can't go on
like this Please give me your sincere
suggestions. This means as much as
life and death to me-
Dear G. A.-Your request is COM
parable to asking me whether you
should lock the stable door after the
horse is stolen. Now that you are
involved, heart, body, and soul, in a
love affair without benefit of clergy,
do not know whether you are
headed toward eventual happiness
in marriage, or whether your love
will collapse in establishment and
misery.
If 1 stand pat with the conven-
lions and draw aside my skirts in
holy horror while I adnonish you to
deny your natural impulses, you
may blame me bitterly in some lone
ly future time as the murderer of
your love affair.
If 1 side with Bertrand Russell
and encourage you to go on as you
are, I take an
equally serious Wed, Take
risk. For if the X,
young man de- d OIldhce
sertS, as so many on Money
have done before
him, you will feel that I should have
saved you this final humiliation.
Probably the best solution is for
you both to take a chance on the
financial side and get married. If
both of you work, why can't you
make the grade?
feel the greatest sympathy for
your predicament, but I can not adj
wise you. You are in situation
where no one can guide you but
yourself. Hundreds of other young
couples face the same dilemma.
Whereas they are madly in love,
they can not marry. because of eco
nomic difficulties. What shall they
do?
Self-denial has its advocates.
But the greatest number are gath
cred together on the side of self
denial. 1t is al
More Stand ways safer to line
Gel up with the ma
OH Que oA jority. and easier
Self Denial to live in har-
mony with the
conventions. You ask me how to
be broadminded I think it depends
on what attitude you take toward
life. For my part choose the sci
entific attitude, wherein nothing
horrif1es the student. His part is
not to judge or condemn, but only
to search for reasons.
AS one scientist put it, Even if I
should see man eating swill, I
should not be shocked or revolted. I
should only ask Why does he like
Swill?' I do not, but why does hep !"
I hope you understand that I am
not comparing your love affair to
Swill. am speaking of broadmind-
ednesS, not love. feel certain of
the strength and sincerity of your