The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-04-29

4 4 about the situations that puz-
zle you. She will study your case
carefully ard answer in this col
umn as soon as possible.
Dear Jane jordan About three years
ago 7 started working ln factory
There ! met man mo has been mar
tinuallv She won't do the dishes oitener
than twice week. seldom cleans the
and The baby. never have seen the
hshT clean. You can't tell whether II
have fallen in love with him. Every
one ALWAYS did say I rad too big
heart. RE treats me swell. ana I'm
9s M ne 70 5sa iay, q ms ,9n Il. saws F bs
only endowment he gets out Of life IS be-
can't 20 on ike this forever DO you
think % would he oil right y keep on
seeing him. oCcae ionallv2 MarAc YOU
would have some suggestion tina. would
help us both / know YOU think 7 am
terrible for having anything n do with
him but Just can't help IL. tfats all
JUST TWENTY ONE.
Dear Just Twenty-one-I do not
think you are terrible. at all You're
entirely too generous for your own
good. The best qualities in your
nature have attracted you TO this
man. not the worst Your sympa-
thies are aroused by his predica-
ment. Your desire is TO give rather
than 10 take. Many another wom-
an has wrecked her life on this rock.
but because she was wanton, but
because she was too kind.
You'll have to do some pretty
clear thinking on this problem and
then rely on your inherent strength
of character to make you follow the
viscst course for you both which is
Pronunciation as long as he is mar
ried 10 another.
Tragic as it is. you can't help
him one particle unless he finds
some means of release from his
wife. The sacrifice of your entire
life will not make his wife wash
the dishes. clean the house or care
Tor the baby. On the contrary, If
she discovers your attachment. she
Will raise the roof and throw SYM
pathy toward herself, while you be-
come a social pariah.
All your undoubted capacities for
love and loyalty and unselfish SER
vice will be wasted. No one will
profit by the flower Of your woman
hood. least of all yourself The
only thing you ever can do for the
man you love is to alleviate his I'M
happiness by a few stolen hours in
secret places. The lack of any real
satisfaction will wear you down in
time. leaving bitter, unfulhlled
woman. with no one made richer
by what you have TO give.
AS YOU are only Il, you have
plenty Of time TO tear your heart
free and search for a more pro-
ductive anchor for your affections,
which will result in a home. chill
dren Of your own. and a husband
whose need Of you constitutes the
real meaning OF life.
Dear Jane Jordan-Four wears ago I
married q man four years Younger than
myself I lived WITH him three wears ana
three days within few short weeks
81 married life. awoke 20 the fact that
I aad married a man who l mao 70
support. I put up with y until I Ws,s
home 10 nv folks. ] have seen him sew
rrai time since and he always insists
that We 60 back together.
since We have been separated. ne mas
uorked practically none. He has killed
an tire love I ever had for him and I
feel as though divorce IS the only
thing left I think I have given MN
enough time 10 prove what he could 90.
would appreciate your advice as 70
whether or not you think ! am right.
PAULINE.
Dear Pauline think YOU are ex-
actlv right. ANY situation which
makes It unnecessary for man to
be responsible for himself is bad.
The chances are that he never will
learn to stand on his own feet until
he feels the pinch OF necessity. You
really arc not helping him when
you relieve him of the need Of pro-
ductive employment
A parasitic individual Of either
sex is deplorable. but popular
opinion places the heaviest condem-
nation on the man. Society expects
the male OF the species 10 shoulder
the economic responsibility for the
family and when he does not he
suffers the loss of its respect.
The kindest thing you can do is
to break loose and let him struggle
10 find himself.