The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-11-03

DRING your difficulties to Jane
ID Jordan, who will help you work
them out in an intelligent manner.
Her interest in you does not end
with the first letter. Write as many
as you think necessary.
Dear Jane Jordan-Is there any help
for a Jealous. suspicious mind? Is
jealousy disease of the mind. or what?
have tried so hard to overcome it. but
H. seems there is no use. I hate my
self for it. and am so miserable because
can't trust my husband.
l always am suspecting him OF some
thing wrong. I never accuse him till
1 find out for sure. and then many.
many times I've been wrong Now 1
am driving him from me by it. Please
help me if there is any help. ] am so
Dear Unhappy do not think
your jealousy arises from, a mean
suspicious disposition, but from fear.
A woman is utterly defenseless
against suffering when she loves.
For her all happiness arises from
loving somebody and being loved in
return.
When the object of her affections
begin to slip from her grasp, she
loses her grip on herself. Her be-
havior becomes emotional instead
of intelligent.
In your case, I believe the best
thing you can do is to face the
worst that can happen. AS a rule,
I am not in favor of borrowing
trouble. But as it is you are living
in constant dread of terror that
never quite happens. Let's face the
facts. You're afraid of losing your
husband.
Well, what if you did? Life would
You Fear Suffer ', of course ours e.
You'll Lose but b !; you'd 3,a,g get over over
Your Mate chances are ten to
AO"A NA"'o one that you'd
find somebody else and be happier
than you were before. Other
women have lost their husbands and
survived the agony, to go on to
better and happier lives.
Scare yourself to death. Imagine
that it already has happened. Let
the full strength of the blow hit you
and hit you hard. Just now you're
acting like the little boy who held
his finger in the dam until somebody
came to patch the hole.
The strain is wearing you out. Let
go. I tell you to do this because
any intense reaction quickly burns
itself out. 1t serves as sort of
emotional housekeeping After it
is over, you can see what to do more
clearly.
AS you we'll know, you can't stop
your husband from playing around
by spying, Storming, nagging, or
threatening. You only make for
hidden fruit more
ttr a ii We and Nagglng
yourself less so. w.. wv:
You're dealing won / WIN
all your efforts
should be directed toward causes.
Why does he want other women?
For the one reason that most
human beings are seized with a
perverse desire to do that which is
forbidden. For another, your re-
action to this perversity has made
you less attractive, less desirable,
and less exciting. No one stays
madly in love with a wife who acts
like a policewoman.
Remove the taboo against other
women. If that's what he wants,
let him 60. Look on his errors with
the calm indulgence of a mother
Instead of centering on him Gull
tivate other interests for yourself
which keep you buster than the
proverbial bee. Work hard at this
and note the effect on him.
For one thing, It's not so much
fun to f1irt if it involves no dangers.
Fer another, your attitude will be
unusual enough to
intrigue him anew LeSC LOST
and awaken his Tt TL
sincere admira- Il AhoAC
ton. No nonoo,.
So far as 1
know, this is the only way YOU can
win the victory. If you lose, you
lose with dignity and charm and
your own Self-respect, instead of a
degrading feeling of having acted
the fool.
II, among our readers, there is
any other woman who helped her
husband to withstand the charms
OF other women by wise and in
telllgent methods, Or any man who
now. recognizes his wifeS strategic
hand in shaping his life, will he or
she please write a helpful letter to
Unhappy, to be printed in this
column?
Dear jane JoTdsn-Is there any help
ior meg | am Jealous. I have been 20
and I'm awfullv in love. He is good
70 me. put sometimes I'm simply miser-
h sSss wnen ne leases other girls. 1t
IuSt gets unoer my SKIN.
I've tried hard not to care and also
to give him a dose OF as avn medicine.
clined. or else he will nor show il
They saw jealously is a form of INSANITY.
Maybe so. but II ANYBODY knows a cure
Ior II. please help me. FOR I'm not the
only person who is
INSANE.
Dear Insane-Perhaps there will
be something in the above letter to
help you, although in your case
think 1t is chiefly your pride that
is hurt. You probably know that