The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-03-10


put II he really did, 1 can't see why he
would rather spend his time at the club.
Sia n9,5 ne LIVE lived as a bachelor, than in
What can 1 do to keep him with me?
DISCONTINUED.
Dear Disseminated believe that
Romeo himself would have craved
the companionship of other men
after six months of being married
to Juliet! Each man feels a def
mite need for masculine society, no
matter how much he loves his wife.
The surest way for you to kill your
husbands love is to give him an
overdose of yourself.
The sexes never thoroughly un-
derstand each other. Most men
find the workings of the feminine
mind incomprehensible, and while
reasonable contact with women is
not only fascinating, but absolutely
essential, continuous companionship
with the fair sex pals and begets
longing for the familiar and bet
ter-underStood reactions of men.
The same thing is true of you.
If you lived in world of men. it
wouldn't be long until you would
give your eye teeth for the sight
of woman. You almost would
perish for one of those feminine
powwows where two girls take
down their back hair and chatter
about what "he said" and "she
said" and all the other feminine
tolderol which men hold up to such
contempt.
AS it is, your day is largely spent
with your women friends at
1uncheons, tea parties, bridge games
and shopping expeditions, where
you have ample opportunity to ex-
change ideas with your own sex.
Your husbands daytime contacts
with men are spent in business
deals . in pitting his wits against
the wits of his fellows in the age
old struggle for survival. This is
not the same type of satisfaction
which he seeks at the club.
If you have any wisdom at all,
you will urge your husband to keep
his club. You will welcome the
evenings he spends there as a safe
guard against that fatal disease of
marriage which has wiped out so
many homes that should have been
happy. mean the deplorable con-
dltion that we call ennui.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am an interested
reader OF your column, but it appalls me
divorce their husbands. Don't YOU be-
lieve. that the sanctity of the home
should be protected by law. rather than
broken by it? am anxious to hear your
Dear Inquirer am not an adj
vocate of divorce, except as a surg
ical operation to remove an incur
able condition. I certainly believe
that the stability of the nation is
dependent upon the health and
happiness of its homes. I know of
nothing in the world which the
human heart Graves so much as an
enduring love and a satisfactory
home life. 1t crops out in almost
eever letter I receive.
However, the phrase ''sanctity of
the home" becomes a misnomer
when the home harbors hate in
stead of love. What is sacred about
quarreling and violence and misery?
Love is one thing that can not be
legiSlated, even in nation which
seems to believe that you can cure
anything merely by passing a law
against it.
Divorce is an evil when it comes
to a home which has been produc-
tive of children, because it deprives
them of one of their parents, when
two parents are necessary for their
well-being. But it becomes a lesser
of two evils if its only alternative
is the rearing of those children in
an atmosphere of malice and hate.
Dear Jane Jordan-I certainly felt
sorry for that woman whose husband
tell her that he loved her. My husband
wrote to you. He said he didn't like TO
never makes love to me either. Surely
to hear him say something NIGEL Isn't
there any way that we women can
change our husbands who work so hard
for US, but remain so cold and indif-
ferent?
WONDERING WIFE.
Dear Wondering Wife-Mme. Du
Deffand once said the following:
For life to be at all bearable, one
must take things as they come.
and men as they are" Women who
set out definitely to change their
husbands nearly always come to
grief.
His hard work for you is his
means of expressing love and devo-
ton. His inability to put it into
words is probably a hangover from
his childhood, when the softer emo
tons we're considered somewhat