Evening star., 1932-04-24
dreadful feature about mar
| riage is its irrevocability.

TIME dreadful feature ABOUT mar
riage Is its irrevocability.
Let Reno and Mexico do what
they will regarding divorce laws
most women will continue to feel
that marriage is final. Once mans
wife always a mans wlfe: or divorced
then some other mans wife. And
with the first, the second, the third
husband-bound.
longer than they do, and be three times
hammer while they did last if it were
NOT for this dreadful element of fixity
He is good and faithful and hard
working, and a paying teller in a
small-town bank" the wife thinks, in
sort of despair Nothing will ever
change for us. Itn be Spring, and
cleaning out the cellar and attic, and
Autumn. getting down the blankets, as
long as we live. This and no more
and perhaps less, is my slice of life
And the very fact that she has man
that he is contentedly tied to her apron
strings for life, is often enough to make
a woman feel restless, II not actually
dissatisfied.
Most of us have heard the old simile
of the railway train and matrimony
The point is that when a man, or
woman, is running for train, he or
she is absorbed only in catching that
train. All other things flash by un-
noted; the goal is the train.
Painting. triumphant, the man or
woman hauls himself on the last plat
walks calmly into the car, catches
breath, and promptly forgets that there
ever was any question about 1t.
II l.
COME women, and many men, are
~ like that in marriage. A woman
will blandly forget that. in the first
place, she really did want to get mar
ried. The thought of not having beaus
of not getting engaged. of not making
happy wedding plans, haunted her
whole girlhood. She was eager, anxious
to find her mate, and establish her
home. and have that priced Mrs" or
her cards. Apart from young love, and
young dreams, for a woman, there runs
under the glamour of her romance the
extremely practical and gratifying con-
siderations that attend this being
turned from girl to wife.
Exceptional cases apart, 1t is safe tC
say that 80 girls out of every
100 want to get married. And
herself superior to the unengaged girl
and the married woman has a faint
sense Of pity for the spinster. These
are deep racial feelings, they have
nothing to do with the fart that
perhaps the engaged girl Is marrying
a complete boob, and perhaps the
spinster is rich. beautiful and admired
as against the married woman's entire
commonplaceness.
But once married, the train Is caught
No more doubts and prayers and thrills
The young couple enters into g time
of deep happiness and complete
absorption in themselves; they don't
want to catch any other trains for q
long. long while.
Sometimes they never do. Often the
first married love is the true love
and despite disappointments and dull
ness and routine neither husband nor
wife ever wants to make change Of
mate.
But that doesn't mean that things
at home don't become deadly un-
interesting, as the years 60 by, and
that the best and most devoted OF
wives doesn't need a break in the
monotony, an interval when she can
breathe her own way, and eat her own
way, and sleep late, and mingle with
new faces and new scenes.
MARIAN CLARK was a typical case
A'A She married Arthur Clark lC
years ago. and they have been full
years. Now. at the end Of them
Marian has a nice apartment, two nice
children, small motor car, an occa-