The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-02-17


Dear Jane Jordan-I have been married
less than year. and am very much in
love with my husband. He demonstrates
every, day the fact that he loves. me. not
only by words and actions. but in want
ing to do little things for me. But in The
last two months things have happened to
US which 1 am afraid never can be for
When we were married, he told me he
had Job. and 1 never questioned his
word. began to wonder when he never
had any money or evidence of earning
any. Finally. he confessed that he didn't
have lob. The fact that he lied to me
Then. he again said he was working
A few days ago he came to me in trouble
because he had not paid some bills and
said he was not working the SECOND
time as. he said he was, but had been
for the last two months.
He offered me my freedom and said
that he realized how mean and low he
had been in lying to me. but said he had
done it to keep me. from worrying about
intensely. but the Shock Of having nv
ideal of him broken has almost made
me i'll, and sometimes the idea OF 1t
He is j. v vsTS p" peniten Gt We have been
living. on the money make. as | coti-
tinued working after We married. Do
or do YOU think I should take the cl-
vorce that he has offered me? MARIE.
Dear Marie-Only you can decide
whether you love your husband
enough to make it worth your while
to 60 on with him. There can be
no doubt that you have some pretty
weak material in your hands. He
married you under false pretenses,
and you are entitled to a divorce
on grounds Of non-support.
Why hasn't he been at work? Is
it because he has been unable to
find a jF), in spite of strenuous
efforts, or has he some peculiar
aversion to honest toll? To
mind, his initial lie is not as bad
as his ability to live a lie day after
day. 1t seems amazing that he was
able to deceive you as long as he
did.
Where did he spend his time when
he was supposed to be at work? 1t
also is a black mark against him
that he is willing to accept his
support from the woman he loves.
Most men loathe the gigolo motif.
Since you love him so intensely, I
would give him one chance to make
good. You have a right to insist
upon honesty and straightforward
dealing, with no more financial
mysteries. If you find he is in
capable of telling the truth, it would
be better for you to break'with him
early, for there is nothing but
heartbreak in living with a slippery
man.
You must be very naive and
trusting girl to have permitted a
man to put this over on you. Let
it be a lesson and do not believe all
you hear without investigation.
It always is painful to have your
ideals topple down around you.
Like many another women, you
have been loving a self-created
ideal image instead of the man as
he is. Now that you are down to
ugly reality, what is there in this
man to love? Look the fact in the
face and make your decisions with
your head instead of your heart.
fellow who used to play basketball ii the
instramural league. and while PLAYING
he had his nose broken. ] called 70 See
how it happened and to hope he got Nell
soon. NV mother ever since has been
throwing it up TO me that I'm running
after him. I don't think that it NUT
to nav that call. What do YOU think?
I'd like to ask X. Y. z. why a fellow
will pick up with a girl who is the life
OF party sooner than he will With an
old-fashioned girl. Surely it couldn't be
that they're afraid OF us old-fashioned
Girlsl WAITING ON x. Z; 2.
Dear Waiting on x. Y. IA
courteous call to inquire after the
health of friend hardly can be
construed as running after a boy"
Solicitude over the welfare of a sick
person is one of the pleasant
amenities that add to the smooth
ness of living. A girl can be said
to be running after" a hoy only
when she calls him for no purpose
and plies him with invitations
which he does not reciprocate.