The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-08-09

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w Write to Jane Jordan and re-
lieve your mind Of its burdens. She
will help you see what to do.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am going with a
BOY J. have known and cared for for
old and have called ourselves sweethearts
for about eight years We both went away
to school for a time We corresponded
and once in great while he would come
While he was writing, he would tell me
that he loved me, but when he was with
me he never said thing about il. I
wrote him that he never had told me
face to face. In reply he said, When l
see you again, I viii tell you"
] don't know whether I love him or not
l do care for him, but is it love? I would
rather be with him than with any other
boy / know think OF him all day long
ana am blue when he is not around But
II love means being thrilled every time he
touches me, then I'm afraid it isn't love
can not be sure he really loves me
I do not think he goes with other girls
II he loved me, wouldn't you think he
would get me some kind of a gift on
Christmas and for my birthday? He hasn't
Ior SIX years never thought love was like
srs hr Rqed 2f his 6Ss5 mean Td hat
Dear To Do-No, love doesn't nee
essarily mean fireworks Of any sort.
I don't know why girls think that
gooseflesh is close companion of
love. Confidence and friendship
are safer than a blind crush. A
deep understanding friendship, COM
bined with common interests on the
one hand and freedom of action on
the other, are the highest thrills any
girl can expect from love affair
However, do not think you two
young people are sufficiently sure of
yourselves yet to enter a serious en-
gagement. 1t would pay you to be
a bit elusive with the young man.
Some reluctance to commit yourself,
combined with the tantalizing prom
Use of great capacity for love, will
make him more keenly aware of you
as woman.
The presents have nothing to do
with the case, as a boy that young
hasn't lot of money to spend on
his girl
Dear Jane Jordan-My wife always
has been in delicate health. yet doc
tors can't seem to find anything wrong
with her. She is excessively timid and
afraid to stay alone at night when I
gentle ana not bit domlreerlng. But
Am beast? PLAIN MAN
Dear Plain Man-No, you're not a
beast and you have a right to be
exaSperated. Delicate health is
often an attempt to avoid healthy
problems. Timidity is a very use
full means of forcing some one else
to pay one great deal of atten-
ton and avoiding the responsibility
for ones self No one can be
tougher or more selfish and OBJ
stinate than the weak and clinging
vine type of woman, who thrusts
the responsibility of keeping her
happy on other people.
Your wife ought. to be taken to a
good psychologist and be made to
face the facts of her own tempera-
ment. All the coddling you can do
only will make her worse.
Dear Still Hoping-Are you sure
you aren't the kind of man who
never loves anything unless it is
just out of reach? So many men
lose interest in a girl after they
have possessed her. But let another
offer a challenge and they're off in
gale of mud.
However, If your unhappy love af-
fair has had settling effect upon
you, and you still want your old
sweetheart back, I advise you to
prove your stability by refraining
from jealous attacks on your rival.
and by persistent and friendly at
tention until her confidence is re-
stored; if, indeed, it ever is.
Dear Wondering-You can get all
the information you want by send
ing me self-addressed and stamped
envelope. Cases such as the one
you describe are a crime. 1 can
help you.