The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-03-23
7 ETTERS of comment and opin-
IL ion from readers are invited,
as we'll as questions about personal
problems. All will be answered.

Dear Jane Jordan-I see you seem to
hold toward divorce quite a bit. I can
not altogether agree with YOU. especially
where children are concerned. Why don't
YOU tell the "other woman" her duty in
the first place? How can the other woman
expect to find happiness over a broken
home. depriving innocent little children
Of the protection of home?
How can a woman with an ounce of
brains trust a man who will trfle? Nine
times out Of ten he's Just out for a little
fun. If the other woman
would nut herself in the Irll1er is
wifes place. she wouldn't
do such things. Just Out
, Most men never did
have any too much vir- for Fun
tue Women. stick to-
Vether Therell be a lot more for YOU If
YOU treat everybody as YOU want to be
treated. Suppose you get man away from
his wife. Do you think you'll have any
more power to keep him straight than she
did?
always have tried to look at both sides
Of a thing. but have seen so many good
women get dirty deals because these other
women are so selfish. that it makes my
blood boil Men wouldn't leave their own
fresides if they didn't have the chance
Jane Jordan, expect YOU think I'm mar
row minded. but there's only one way and
that's the right way. Don't suppose this
will get any farther than the waste basket
A READER.
Dear Reader-Letters of comment
are invited as we'll as letters asking
for advice. In this question. nv
dear reader, we are both right. The
only difference between us is that
I am looking at things as they are,
and you are looking at things as
they ought to be. Close observation
has taught us that human nature
does not change because we pass
laws against it. 1t is wiser to make
laws to fit human nature if we are
to have a universe at all habitable.
Take this matter of divorce. I
agree with you that it is deplor-
able for home containing children
to be broken up. No
Chlldren one knows better than
CuAror =, I do that two parents
~" - III are best for children.
Divorces We can hold a huS-
band and father to
his post by law, but we can not
change his nature by the same
method.
A man held down to a situation
from which he wishes to escape
becomes disagreeable, brutal, unjust
and unkind What happens? We
haven't succeeded in protecting the
children by holding their home to-
gether, but only have exposed them
to an infinitely worse and more
miserable situation.
Psychologists and psychiatrists
by careful inquiry into the human
wreckage that marriage creates.
have discovered that the children
of quarrelsome and unhappy par
ents receive far greater injuries to
their pSyches than the children of
peaceably divorced parents. The
rule Sof divorce for people who have
children would be excellent if only
we could make them behave prop
erly, but no way has been discov-
cred to do it.
Your second point finds us in
agreement also. The Golden Rule
is probably the greatest contribu-
ton of Christianity to humanity.
1t is an excellent thing for each
of us to do as we
would be done by. It's Every
But 1000 years Mon for
has been an in va" iVA
sufficient time in Himself
which to inforce
this rule. People do not do as they
would wish to done by. 1t is every
man for himself and the devil take
the hindermost, except in rare
instances.
If you can find way to make
all people conform to the Golden
Rule, you are a better woman than
I am, and have more power than
the religious leaders of the world
Now as to the "other woman"
who comes in for your just con-
demnation. No righteous eloquence
on my part has the power to put
her out of business. l have no use
for the love pirate who deliberately
generates discomfort in an other
wise happy home.
But / am obliged to face the facts
as they are. Too often the other
woman" is not a cause, but an
effect. The homes she is accused !
of wrecking were on the rocks long
before she arrived on the scene. |
Some incompatibility of husband |
and wife already has arisen to
cause his eye to wander.
Women do not stick together /
Quite the reverse. 1t would be
if they did, but try /
to make theml 4
NO woman Women look upon
Sticks by o oon sIr.t, women as
Another the favor of men,
They knife each
other IN the back with a deplorable
lack of feeling.
1t is impossible for me to place
the full blame for an unfaithful
husband upon the other woman in
The case i@ he has been driven OUT