The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-05-18

pecting her TO act like a mature
woman. l do not think that you
are unreasonable in your desire for
occasional good times and some in
nocent interests which the two of
you share together. Had he pro-
vided anything like normally
happy life for you, do not believe
you would have turned to somebody
else for comfort.
Men are prone to neglect the
woman whom they no longer need
to court. Why chase something you
already possess? They expect wom-
en- who long for tenderness to be
content with a livelihood instead.
Your marriage is dead because your
husband regarded it as the end of
interesting living, instead of a point
of departure for further adventure
together.
While I can tell you exactly what
is wrong with your marriage, 1 can
not tell you what to do about it. 1
can not advise you conscientiously
to divorce man whose only fault
is that he is too settled" I can
not encourage you IN seeing your
lover, when 1 know that certain dis
aster awaits discovery.
Besides. who can enjoy a. life of
deceit? What is left to you but 10y
atty to your contract and respect
for the rights of your child? Pos
sibly the following letters to Puzzled
Reader. who also is in love with
man not her husband, may help
you:
write 70 Puzzled Reader. I am not
very 9ld or verv Young. very, wise or
10 aSe S her lover T0i eray the Mif urs i and
enchantment Of perfect love disappears
and she is saddlsd with exactly the same
riare. When our partners in marriage
.Soqsht. We look around for someone to to
Don't 90 OF at a tangent in search
II the perfect male. because there amt
vosfs. There have been plenty OF thorns
end stones along the way. and plenty
10 oeie e So ont,s G. a tnnk I'VE i9une mo
where IN my diagnosis YOU think I am
wrong.
Observation-Disclosures Knows.
Dear One Who Thinks She =
Knows-In general. you are right.
Once an ideal is attained, it isn't an
ideal any longer, but just a plain
fact. When the glamorous era of
the courtship is over qualities crop
cut which make the partners realize
that there is nothing godlike about
the beloved. The illusion glides
away, leaving the commonplace
which they had hoped to escape.
Truth compels me to admit that
] have seen second marriages sue
cecd where the first one was a mis-
cradle failure. The cause must lie
n a better psychological adjustment,
and the fact that experience teaches
some people to expect so much less
that less disappointment insues.
Dear Jane Jordan-Four wears ago
dear Puzzled Reader. I was in much the
same situation YOU are. NV husband
ii years old O thou Gaau1iV was eaI N oyc
with married man. He handed out
the same story. that he was not in love
met him and went 70 other towns with
him for wcek-ends
Nerv soon after I broke with him
met the most wonderful man in the
world. who now is my husband. Il was
girl that ne learned about the other
man However he didn't let that
bother. stating that the present and
future belonged to him. the past TO me
But does i belong 10 me? NV daueh-
Ter IS now 10 and nv greatest worry Is
that she NAV take notion that i is
all right 10 20 70 other towns with a
man. or else look with contempt on
her mother. knowing in her own mind
that have not lived right
I seen now that We parents must give
way 10 youth and live so that our
children cannot re0roach US.
INTERESTED.
Dear Interested-It is so much
easier TO be moral when you are
happy than when you are unhappy!
Your experience should make you
much more tolerant anc under
standing in dealing with your
daughter when her temptations
come.
II you do not rear her with
harsh, intolerant attitude toward
transgressors. she will not Judge
you too severely should the closed
episode return to her mind. Your
good and moral life since proves
that one mistake does not make
a good woman bad.