The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-08-10
WAN NERS
%NAORALS
BYJANL JORDAN

Young girls bring your prob
Il lens to Jane Jordan, who will
answer your letters in this column
every day.
Dear Jane Jordan--I read your Man
ners and Morals" with interest Oh
how some of your counsels strike home,
such as warnings against Jealousy I'm
not by nature a Jealous girl, but once
in while I have to fight the green
eyed monster as far as one boy is con-
cerned.
What can do to raise my self
esteem? I've always felt inferior until
this last summer. when I really have
mingled with and enjoyed the companion
ship Of many good friends I feel I'm
on the way to recovery. but how to
speed it up is the burning issue.
l can't seem to make myself dislike a
boy who has tried to get fresh with me.
feel sorry for him and kid him out of
1t. l often feel later that l should have
been more angry and never speak to
him again JB R
Dear j. B. R.-There are. of
course, many ways to raise your
own self-esteem and speed up the
cure of your inferiority complex.
say cure, yet 1 do not believe there
is any permanent cure for the in
feriority complex.
AS soon as you get it licked on one
point, it breaks out in another.
Everybody, from highest to lowest,
suffers at times from a sense of his
own inadequacy.
DO not get the idea that you are
alone with your feelings of inferior
tty, for no one escapes the faint of
insecurity. It is as if the world
were too much for the mind of
man, who never has felt Quite equal
to the demands it makes upon his
ingenuity. His wobbly ego always
has been afraid of the complica-
tons of life.
Even the greatest braggart with
the most cocksure manner is no
closer to feeling of security than
you are. He brags to convince him
self that he is good The grandest
superiority complex in the world
is nothing but an elaborate cover
up for the old familiar feeling of
1nadequacy.
If you will remember that every
body has thisl feeling to combat in
varying degrees, it will help you to
feel less Self-conScious. You try
helping to put others at their ease
by raising their Self-esteem. They
will respond by liking you which
raises yours, and so on in a happy
circle.
Why in the world should you dis
like a boy because he tried to get
fresh? If you only were able to like
boys for their decorum, your mus
culine friends soon would be as
scarce as the proverbial hens
teeth.
Any healthy, adventuresome male
is apt to try his prowess with a
lady. Your attitude is exactly right.
Kid him out of it without seeming
too prudish.
Dear Jane Jordan-We are Il and is
years of age and are leading a very
miserable life. We have no mother. and
keep house for our middle-aged father.
We have tried every way to please him.
but he is so irritable it is almost I'M
bearable He thinks We should be sat-
isfied day after day doing our house
work He is a good provider. but lacks
fatherlv love.
Would we be justified in leaving at our
age to work for our living? He doesn't
seem to care whether we leave or not
because many time he has said We
were his biggest load. We feel as II
We don't care how hard we work. lust
so We are away from his constant nag
gins. What shall we do?
RICHMOND SISTERS.
Dear Richmond Sisters-Mark
time Just little longer. At this
period of the worlds history. full
grown adults find it difficult and
often impossible to earn enough to
supply the simplest essentials of
life. What would two little girls do?
OF course it is hard to live when
you're hungry for love. But it's even
harder to live when you're hungry
for love and food, too. OF course,
life seems dark and dreary to you
now, but believe me it would look
even worse on an empty stomach!
1t isn't as if this trying situation
was all to which you had to look
forward. Each year you grow older
and wiser and closer to your own
independence.
In the meantime, you have each
other, warm house an dplenty to
eat. That's something. And the
future is apt to be full of good
things for you both.