The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-09-05
MORALS
Fg\ BY JANE JORDAN /p)

faith, from generous motives. Your
best qualities, not your worst, got
you into trouble. No woman who
starts friendship with a married
man ever believes that her heart is
going to become involved
Like a man under the influence of
liquor, she cherishes the illusion
that she could quit If she wanted
to-" Her ignorance of her own
psychology is responsible for the
tragedy. For no woman can. take
care of a man when he is down,
entertain him, comfort him, and re-
store his self-esteem without losing
her heart in the process.
1 doubt if you'll believe me when
I tell you that the woman who falls
in love with a
married man Sc Secretly
cretly holds her Do,h+s uor
self in very low DV""'S AAeh
esteem. She is On Charm.
afraid to trust her
ability to charm in field where
she is not sure of herself. The COM
petition for single men is too keen
for her courage.
Her fear of failure makes her feel
safer with a disappointed married
man. He at least needs her to ad-
minister to his sorrow. And fem
mime competition is cut down con-
siderably, for there aren't so many
women willing to waste time on the
man who is tied.
It is no trick at all to charm
married man, particularly if he's out
of fix with his wife. He is simply
delighted with little outside at
tention. His chains prevent him
from feeling any sense of response
bility toward the girl whom ne
courts, so long as he avoids making
any direct declaration of love.
"She knew I was
Let This married, he says
to himself, and
De lesson tn e reby absolves
to You. himself from any
feeling of guilt.
OF course he is mildly uncomfortable
when he discovers he has hurt her.
but he shifts the responsibility to
her shoulders by assuring himself,
Il never led her to expect thing.
Instead of bemoaning the expert
ence, the thing for you to do is to
learn a valuable lesson from it. Use
your head and learn something
about how men react. He is in love
with his wife, although she is I'M
faithful, selfish, and in no way
worthy of his love.
The charming thing about her is
that she never allowed him to be
certain. There always was some
thing yet to be won, to be fought
for, something desirable, because 1t
was Just out of reach.
There is nothing uncertain about
you. You are the very antithesis of
the woman who
holds him. Faith Some Men
full, unselfsh, and Thirst for
in every way Ahlls1 lol
worthy of his Adventure.
love, you lost be-
cause you represent security.
Some men, I am quite sure, long
I for security. But others never are
happy where no risk is involved. It
is this instinct for adventure that
drives men to jeopardize their lives
by excursions to the poles. and by
joining the armies of foreign coun-
tries for the pleasure of being in
danger once more. When you find
man with this emotional set-up,
the silliest thing you can do it to
permit yourself to become a GER
tainty.
I do not believe for one instant
that the return Of this man to his
wife is going to place her in a I'M
favorable light because of your
selfish devotion. do> not believe
that he will contrast her with you
to a detriment. She is dangerous,
changeable, exciting. You are safe,
stable, and unexciting.
strongly advise you not to
make the slightest effort to hold TO
man so temperamentally unsuited
to you. Raise your estimate Of
yourself. Learn to be a stimulant
I instead of soothing syrup.
| You've had six months of practice.
Now use it on a man worthy Of
/ your steal.
Ny advice is not based on the
/ current mortality, for which I fire.
quently have no respect. but on the
plain common sense which you need
for your welfare.