The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-07-26
lMANNtRSANOWORALS1
g\ BY JANE JORDAN /p]

placed on pedestal and worshipped
by the populace. It is only recently
that psychologists have come out
bravely and condemned it as an
overrated emotion which often
causes more grief than good. The
good wife never puts the child be-
fore the husband nor permits
motherhood to diminish her nor
NAL sensuality.
II II
TIME old-fashioned idea that no
Il good woman is sensually suffl-
Gent for her husband has been cried
down by the new woman, who de-
mandS the erotic attention formerly
claimed only by courtesans and CO.
cottes. The woman of yesterday,
with a pious pursuing of the lips,
claims that loving her husband
wasn't 80 hard before the children
came, but that childbirth put all
such unworthy pleasures to flight.
The new woman feels that the
coming of child should intensity
union with her husband. Now that
birth control is an established fact
and the fear of repeated pregnancieS
is removed definitely, the wife can
abandon herself to erotic expression
with a fervor that relieves the hus-
band of all need for supplementary
experiences.
The child Of such a union has a
better chance to grow up without
becoming warped. He is saved from
breathing the arid atmosphere of a
home created by antagonistic and
frigid parents. Neither is he COM
PEELED to suffer from the over
voluptuousness of his mother, which
should be expended on his father.
1t is easy to place too much en-
phasis on the physical side of life,
which, while important, is not COM
plete in itself The good wife is
not only erotically satifying-she is
interesting. One of the commonest
pitfalls Of marriage is its dreadful
dizziness. The narrowing of the
wife's field of interests by the four
walls of the home frequently spells
disaster. If she is physically ade-
quate without being mentally stimu-
lating, the marriage is lost.
n
THERE is an old adage that the
l. way to q mans heart is through
his stomach, but this is just an
other fallacy. The man who has
nothing but a connubial cook to talk
to frequently is found seeking di-
version from his men friends and
surreptitiously paying court to other
women. Neither does the way to his
heart lie wholly through his senses.
A keen need for sympathetic COM
panionship often outweighs his erot-
ic desires.
Intelligent men complain that
whereas a physically exciting wom-
and is easy to find, mentally excit-
ing woman is rarer than rubies. The
woman who combines the two has
the great requirements of a good
wife and mother.
Even so, her chances for failure
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woman is to hold too closely that
which she loves. 1t it not wise for
her to wind herself too closely
around her husband. Monopoly
murders marriage as surely as in
difference freezes it.
The good wife does not invariably
make a good mother Frequently
she finds that parenthood is not
the delirious delight that she
dreamed. Mere provocative power
does not make a good parent. Mel
Their does an enormous capacity for
love and self-sacrifice.
To love generously without stran-
Cling, to manage without dominating,
to give without grabbing, to live and
let live-these are some of the main
requirements of a good wife and
mother.