The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-08-04

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Dear Jane Jordsn-Recently J. inst
young man of about "a, He is working,
but not making much. He is a sales
man. and you know there is no cash
value to that training But the moment |
I met him, couldn't help falling in love
with him, and, being materially in
clined. I just could picture him as the
father of my children.
Notwithstanding all this, I just
haven't the passion for this young man
that always have considered essential.
He just gives me the feeling of being
safe from the roughness of life. I am
convinced that love him, and there is
no room for doubt that he loves me, but
still I cannot get that way about him.
Was ever girl in such quandary be-
fore? ANXIOUS JANE.
Dear Anxious Jane-I would say
that you had nothing to worry
about The kind of love you have
found generally has longer life
than the bonfire caused by aSroman-
tic gust of passion. The chances
are that your feeling will increase,
rather than diminish.
Young girls brought up on the
motion picture idea of love- expect
some mysterious glow to accompany
the phenomenon of falling in love.
Delightful as this form of hypnosis
is, I'm coming to believe that it is
more of a hindrance than an asset.
Too much glamour makes it diff
cult for lovers to discover or dis
close their true selves. When blind
ed by passion, they can not properly
appraise the qualities which would
make or mar married happiness. n
Now and then a
person is struck Liability
down by love and 1AI r
conquered by it, Ans'edu vi
but this is rare, An Asset.
except in senti-
mental ballads. sometimes when
these tremendous gusts of passion
have died the lovers discover that
no true affinity was present, after
| all.
In such a state of excited fancy
you can't see your lover in his true
colors at all, but only through rose
! colored glasses.
Girls of today were not brought
up in such seclusion that they fairly
faint at the sight of a man. The
new freedom, while it is sane and
healthy and frank, does take little
of the edge off the excitement of
bring with the other sex. Men have
lost much of their mystery by the
free association of the sexes.
If you have met a man who makes
you feel safe from the roughness of
life, and a man who is suitable for
the faith er of
Pearl of your children, you
Croo+ p,.;oo have a pearl of
N' great price. The
Is Yours. lover who sweeps
you off your feet
often leaves you suspended in mid
air for the pleasure of sweeping
some other girl off her feet.
Safety and security and honest
affection are more valuable than
emotional fevers and hot flashes, be-
cause they have greater powers of
endurance.
AS for the part of your letter not
published, it is more than likely that
that adjustment will be made later.
Dear Jane Jordan--I am a girl IS
years of age and am in love with man
of 80, who is very prominent in my
community. 1t seems as though all the
girls fan for him, but he doesn't pay
any especial attention to any except to
be polite as he is very timid and bash
full. He is very handsome and almost
perfect in every respect. He is my
ideal Of a man. Please tell me how 7
can win this man.
Dear Puzzled One-The timid
man needs a great deal of encour-
agement. The girl who wins him
needs to go more than half way.
Do not be too obvious in your eff
forts to win his friendship, how
ever. It may be that he is not as
timid as you think, but has set his
mind against any love entangle-
ments, for reasons of his own.
Propinquity will be your greatest
aid in breaking down his resistance.
If you can arrange to be thrown
constantly or often into his pres
ence without his recognizing your
maneuvers. you will have chance
to study his interests so that you
will know what side of yourself to
cultivate.
Never let him feel that you are
falling in love with him, until he
shows some emotion himself. Pre-
serve the atmosphere of a pleasant
friendship free from ties and femi-