The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-09-29

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who Will help you see the intelligent
thing to do when you are too blinded by
emotion to see your situation clearly.
A young man who does not want
N his letter published finds him
self in distressing situation. For
some years he has maintained
liaison with young lady with whom
he is in love, and whom he is about
to marry. AS his fiancee, she was
not accepted by his group of friends,
of whom she was very jealous. One
by one he dropped them, to avoid
trouble.
The pair have descended to con-
slant pickering and quarreling.
Although the young lady acts bored
and unhappy, she is unwilling to
break off the engagement. The
young man, still in love, but thor
oughly miserable, asks for advice.
see no virtue in making an I'M
happy union legal. There is moth
ing to be gained in prolonging a
mistake. If the years spent to-
gether without benefit of clergy
were wrong, the mere purchase of
a license at this late date will not
atone for them.
No empty legal gesture can undo
a violation which already has taken
place, but it can cause lot of havoc
in the years to come.
These two young people have
engaged in trial marriage, and the
marriage has failed. Their COM
panionship has revealed the i'm
portant fact that they have in
compatible temperaments. The bloom
has worn off their romance without
leaving anything valuable upon
which to found permanent unions.
If they had married in the be-
ginning, the same thing would have
happened. The only thing any in
telligent pair in this situation can do
is to call it day and quit.
DUBLIC opinion will not permit
Il q young man to break his en-
gagement without branding him cad
and gutter The young lady is per-
mitted to call it off at any time that
suits her fancy, without mourning
condemnation of her friends of his.
There is no intelligent reason why
the privilege of quitting should be
exclusively feminine, and denied to
the masculine half of the partner
ship. A girl gains in prestige if she
refuses man, but man who re-
fuses a girl is no gentleman.
Chivalry is one of the strongest
characteristics in mans nature.
But in my opinion a woman should
deserve chivalrous treatment before
it is accorded her.
One of the foremost requirements
of a happy union is an agreeable
disposition. No woman who is con-
tinuously dlsagreeable has right
to expect chivalry from the opposite
sex.
One of the saddest mistakes the
young LADY in question made was to
weSn the young man away from
his friends. Part of the icy of any
love affair rests in the acceptance
of the beloved by ones circle of
friends. BY demanding his eXclu-
sive attention, she allowed their re-
lationship to become stale.
AS soon as this happens, the situ-
alton is ripe for antagonism. A
couple with nothing to do except to
love each other soon fall to bicker-
ing for want of outside interests to
occupy their restless energies.
If this young man hasn't the
courage to defy the conventional
concept of how an engaged man
should behave. by refusing to tie
himself for life to a fault-finding
wife, the next best thing he can do
is to take long vacation from his
fiancee.
Distance does not always lend en-
chantment, but sometimes it does
throw scare into a woman who
has become too sure of herself to
make any further effort to charm
her lover.
Dear Jane JORDAN wonder if girls
are S Trow wiz " 70 be 'r men " sSSln we of
the thinking class never have cared for
the gutter Snipe; She was common. TO
OF today wants the sweet unsophisti-
Gated type OF woman-the kind that
makes man want TO DO his best for
md peace and comfort. ! wonder IL il
ever occurred to any OF the fair sex to
try IT,
would like for some girls 70 make
an abrupt change. It would make the
world much better ! would like to see
them place themselves above smuttiness,
70 become sweet. charming. loving and
give sympathetic understanding
YOURS WITH A CHUCKLE.
Dear Yours With a Chuckle-Once
more we hear from an old friend
of the column. Well, Chuckle. every
man In love thinks he has found
the kind Of girl you describe. 1t
is only after he lives with her awhile
that he discovers her flaws.
Do any Of our girl readers feel
that they can I'LL Chuckle's order2
If SO, we would like to hear from
ethem.