The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-05-17


burdens of life? Join in this col
umn to express yourself and to ask
questions which you always have
wished to have answered.
Dear Jane Jordan: Your column is
so sincere and frank. and you are so
generous in expressing views that differ
from your own. that I nm accepting the
invitation you extend 70 men to write.
few days ago lady took sou 10 task
for your leniencv regarding immortality
in men. ! am now past 30 and am as
clean as the glorious girl I hope TO
marry.
know there are thousands Of others
with no pledged girl who are ioysl 70
their ideals amid temptations that are
real and ever present.
The idea that men are expected 10
SOW wild oats IS responsible for most Of
the misery caused BY unfaithiul hus-
bands. And women yourself. I think. in
that group arc as much responsible for
this as men.
Very often girls will ignore and even
snuh decent men. 10 pick the ignoble
type. They put q premium on men
who are sure OF themselves. They pre-
fer men who always get what they
want" "a wonderful dancer" so hand
some" likes TO spend money on me,
drives, a keen car. 49,.
For Just about the first time in his
tory. women have a chance to demand
Slavery. the great corruptcr. is gone. Or
gained prostitution. Is an outlaw. Liquor
also is outiawed and will IN another
ten. or: hfteen wears be edeetually sup
Now I will ask you one question. Can
YOU give fellow Ike me few point
ers on capturing the heart OF very.
youns' but very very intelligent giryI"
Dear x Y Z-Thank you for your
letter. I'm sorry there is not space
for more of it. I can imagine moth
ing more stupid than a world in
which all people thought alike. You
are an idealist of the old school. ]
am a realist Of the new one. You
are concerned with making things
as you would like them to be. ]
am concerned with making the best
Of things as they are.
Spinoza said: Il determined Meth
er to laugh nor to weep over the
actions of men. but simply to un-
derstand them" That expresses my
attitude as we'll as anything can.
I respect you for your adherence
to your own moral standards, but
AOQOb IL MOAllCu WILL dRDIC-
ciate you. You are
. e r fectly correct You Won't
when you say that W.: ~
girls Judge men WIN Favor
specifically. They of Girls
will cry their eyes
out for a man with your virtues,
but nine times out Of ten they give
their hearts to the man skilled in
loving rather than depressing. Again
and again I have seen them pass
over men who possessed the virtues
for which they searched. to choose
the easier charm of a man who
would break their hearts later on.
Women easily confuse their emo
tons with economic advantages
More often than not We find them
selecting the man whom it pays
TO love. Although their affections
apparently may be fixed on one
man. I have seen them change
with marvellous rapidity when some
one with more material success APP
peared on the horizon. It goes with
out saying tn
Affection love which is
Rapidly is Of the sense
Switched rather tn a n the
soul, and hardl!
worthy Of the name.
can not agree with you that the
sowing of wild oats is the sole cause
OF unfaithfulness in husbands. The
facts are against you. know in
Vulnerable faithful husbands who
we're as wild as March hares be-
fore their marriage. They tried
promiscuity and found 1t wanting
and were delighted with real love
when it came. On the other hand,
I have seen repressed types break
out in the widest excuses after
years OF homogeneous marriage. AS
one wife said, i can not understand
my husband. For twenty years we
lea such a good life together. Now
he has gone astray."
Slavery is not gone. II only has
changed its forms.
You have only to Slavery Is
spend a day in the -
court to discover NOT UOne,
that prostitution Nor Liquor
goes on as before
Legislation has not outlawed liquor
nor weaned the nation from its
habits. on what evidence do you
base your observation that ten or
fifteen years will see liquo- effectu-
ally suppressed? Moreover, evils
that are suppressed only break out
in other sources. Where is your
psychology?