The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-12-06
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N\"By JANE JORDAN /p;

/ thought exactly alike the world
would be an exceedingly dull place
in which to live. No man of any
spirit likes a wife who "yeses" him,
day in and day out, and who has no
convictions of her own.
A woman who offers a constant
challenge to his intellect, who can
defend her own ideas with skill and
brilliance without becoming intoler-
ant of his, has a better chance to
hold her husbands interests than
the mouse who merely echoes his
own ideas.
While I do feel that similarity of
tastes and background is more or
less essential to a happy union, diff
ferences are not serious barrier if
the partners are tolerant and do not
let such differences give rise to &C
tive antagonism.
1t seems to me that association
with this young man and his friends
is giving you chance to outgrow a
narrow environment In spite of
your convictions, I believe you feel
inferior to him and to his group
Why else would you take offense SO
easily?
A person we'll grounded in the
truth is not easily offended. You
flare up because you feel the neces-
sity for defending your personal
prestige. You are insure of your
self, your ideas and your traditional
upbringing.
If your convictions will not bear
the searchlight of truth, why be up
set about it, and why resist change
if change brings you nearer to
reality?
If you are disguised with your
lovers friends because they have nc
taste, it is understandable, but if
you are disguised merely because
their ideas do not coincide with
yours, you are wrong.
Can't you cultivate a more scien-
tific attitude toward life, wherein
conduct does not shock or offend
but only gives rise to the question
why? Il do not care to act like that
but why do they?"
1 by no means advise you to re-
linquish your ideas about fidelity
provided you mean fidelity to truth
to beauty, or to fair play, and not
fidelity to an outworn tradition OF
q false standard
Hold to your values, and, if they're
real, you have something to teach
your lover and his friends, as well
as something to learn.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am going with a
boy 20 years old, who is very cookbook
ing. But don't care to 60 Steady, as
am so young. He is so kind and re-
spects me SO much that l Just cant
| ing he threatens suicide, and what he
says you can depend on.
am afraid to quit him for fear some
thing might happen, but something has
WORRIED.
Dear Worried-The threat of sui
eide is the. most cowardly way ]
know of getting ones own way. This
method harks way back to child
hood, when we hoped we'd die just
to make our parents feel sorry fol
refusing request. Help him to see
that he's acting like a baby, and
don't take his threat too seriously
Men have died and worms have
eaten them, but not for love-"
r Il
Dear Jane Jordan-I have met fellow
recently fhom I admire. NY girl friend
also is fond of him. She invariably
tries to draw his attention However.
1 do not think he cares for her What
| should do TO win his attention with
out his knowing I care for him. Would
It be all right to invite him to a bridge
party?
| JUST TWENTY
Dear Just Twenty-I see no rea-
son why you should not invite the
young man to party. If you want
to attract him, find out what his in
tereSts are and encourage him tc
talk about them. Establishment OF
sympathetic understanding is one Of
the first steps in love affair.