The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-02-24
MANNERS
@MORALS
BY,ANtJ oR04N

DON'T bury your troubles!
IL Bring them to the light of day
by writing to Jane Jordan, who will
advise you what to do in this
column.
I have on my desk today two let
tiers from a boy and a girl, who r
strangers to each other. Neverthe-
less, they are suffering from iden-
teal problems. Each is the victim
Of unrequited love. The result is
unhappiness and Illustration.
Unrequited love is the result of
the fierce idealism of youth. When
we are older and wiser, we do not
cling to our ideals SO closely, but
learn to make compromises with
life. If the person we fancy is I'M
responsive, we do not waste precious
time by weaving innumerable phan-
tastes and dreams around the be-
loved image. We instigate a diligent
search for somebody else.
My advice to both of these young
people is to snap out of it. The
chances are ten to one that the per-
sons they idealize are creations of
their own imaginations. Instead of
reaching for the moon, these young
people should fill their lives with
healthy pursuits and mingle with as
many people as possible.
AS a rule, the great advertising
slogan, Accept nc substitute" is a
good one But in this institute a
substitute is exactly what is needed.
Dear Jane Jordan fell in love with a
Years. Just hoping she / some time w Would I'D
since she told me that our dating was
Everything vent blank chat ah9atteV da9. The II
wound hurts as much today as the first.
to me after four years / love every hair
on her head better than I did the whole
I hope that some day she will ask for
what She may become. I will be Waiting
and loving her. Yours with S g
Dear Chuckle-I am glad that you
have told us your experience. 1
want the skeptical girls who be-
lieve that no mere man can fall
deeply in love to read it. While it
is very nice for you to be SO loyal
and unselfish, I can not encourage
you in your obseSSion. Our abil-
ity to drop old experiences and
readjust to new n is the best
test of normality. Write me again
and promise to try to call it a day
with this girl and transfer your
strong young affections to somebody
else!
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a young girl
in nv teens. I went steady for a year
and a half with a wonderful fellow. He
was what I call an ideal fellow; After
R me q T Ting a M l q y SaT m iSterl when he s4 we
the aheA right ff' thing to doY "aoI NAV
What is wrong with the. fellows Of
today? I have been out with them and
actually they are offended when ! say
3 a glri g O. m my 2 ACE sn + CLASS nf Them nay all o %ith
the bow I went with and find them all
lacking. The only reason I can give nv
this other bow. what would YOU. do?
Stop ell association with other fellows
until I've overcome this habit of being
dissatisfied with evervone2
Dear Just Wondering-You did
right to return the ring. Keep up
your associations with other young
people. Let those drop away who
will. Eventually one will stick.
Then you will forget the first boy.
When we have the toothache, no
one can convince us that it will not
last forever. But it doesn't. Like
wise no heartache lasts forever.
Meet new boys and girls. That's
the answer.
Dear Jane JORDAN am 10 and a
stav-at-home girl. I am fond of babies
and homework aand not what YOU would
call a spendthrift. Have gone with bows
OF all types and every one of them turns
out to be a failure. but / feel that some
dav I will meet the kind Of boy I
like. Here. Mr.. Reformed Fast fStepper,
is an answer! M. c.
Dear Mr.. Twentv-One-I read your let
ter to Puzzled Girl. You like a girl
who respects herself. There are many
who do. If a man wants a girl re-
spectacle. why doesn't he treat her de-
Gently? I have had experience with
men. They are all the same. You are
a man. I would ike TO know why they
consider themselves better than women.
MISS TWENTY-FIVE.