The Indianapolis times., 1932-05-19

never have loved Just wonder II sor1e-
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my husband. Somehow -7sny heart feels
hungry. All the time Fearn for some
one. but / know not whom.
BETTY LOU.
Dear Betty Lou-You are q VIC
tim Of the romantic complex. You
have an exaggerated idea Of love
that never can be realized. In this
you are not alone. Sentimental lit
erature and moving pictures are re-
sponsible for educating girls TO ex-
pect too much from love. They re-
gard Is as a mysterious visitation, a
great coincidence. accompanied by
heart throbs, and a sort Of sensual
hypnosis.
Romance is far from being a
sound basis for living together. It
Is a ebdazzlement OF the senses that
leads both parties to expect more
from each other than it is possible
to give. Goethe says, Nothing is
more difficult TO bear than series
Of perfect days" 1t places too
great a strain upon faulty beings
who can not conceal their real ma
lures over long periods.
The thing for you to do is to drop
your day dreams and adjust your
self closer to reality. Nothing is
perfect. Everyday life never can
duplicate the love affair Of screen
and story. If you have a husband
who is good and kind and attentive
to boot, you are blest far above the
average. Reconcile yourself to love
as it is, and not as dreamers have
depicted it.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a young girl
and considered good looking. I'm an
honor roll student n n1gn g sgThiDOd5, gyisnds any
come nSne In SSST Contact with nice-looking
gentleman. my heart beats very iast'
What causes me 70 act thus3
I met a young man about week ago.
He asked me to ride twice, but re-
fused How can I attract MS attentoh
Should ask me to go riding again, should
I go7 He asked me to cali az MS hO'ei
Would II be proper ..,...
When having GATE aow whsI ana SuSIheSss ghere
Should Should We spend the EVENING" i When
meeting a young man on the street'
who should speak hrst? My parents oo.
ject to my going riding with ieloWs az
night. Are they right? II Il right 70 let
a young man kiss me goodnight?
BOBBY
Dear Bobby-If you saw more
young men, they would not be such
a novelty. and your heart wouldn't
beat so fast. I would not ride with
the young man nor go to his hotel.
Your parents are right in request
ing you not to have dates at 10. Wnat
they should do is to invite both boys
and girls of your own age TO the
house for informal parties. If you
had associated with boys since you
were little, you wouldn't be at sucn
a loss for something to talk about.
Although / thoroughly approve OF
the association of both boys and
girls at Is, do not approve of pair
ing of at this age to have tete a tete
dates ending in kissing. The best
place to spend the evening is at the
home of your parents, or the home
of your friends parents, laughing
and talking about whatever happens
to interest you. The young lady
usually speaks first when she meets
a boy.
At your age, girls are overwhelmed
with emotions which they do not
understand. Your parents should
talk with you frankly, satisfying
your curiosity on all subjects, and
explaining why it is not wise for
youth to crafty its immediate urges,
but wait until a more mature judg-
ment develops.
Dear Jane Jordan-Several months ago
our daughter. just is. and boy, 10, ran
ages as is and 81 They are both dis
gusted with the step they took. Please
advise what we can do to have this
marriage annulled and do the children
misrepreSenting their ages? Please don't
advise us to consult lawyer. us we are
not financially able.
Dear Worried Mother-I have
made inquiries about your letter,
but can not find any way for you
to proceed with an annulment with
out a lawyer to help you. I was
told that if the boy was as young
as 16, he could apply for annul-
ment himself, but not without
lawyer to file the brief