The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-05-31

Dear Jane Jorjan--In many Of your
answers 10 your various correspondents.
1 note that when they nave Desu
wronced, YOU ADVISE them 70 iorget me nc
wrong done and form new associations
and tics. I fear II that was a UNI
sanctity Of love and marriage soon
&c can't understand how anyone who
loves with love that Is SO Teal ana
true that it's part 81 MS or hsr Neln
utter inpossibilitv to forget. and as for
new ties. 1 would conslCcf mYsel4
traitor 70 my ioEe u n n,G PC enough 10
grant the possibility that there can De
a reformation. true repentance ana a
consistent. Conscientious effort 70 40
right and live right in the future You
can't reform a criminal BY hounulnR
him. Charity costs nothing ana. Ju-
diciouslv apnlied NAV work wonders
A SAD AND UNDECIDED MAN.
Dear Sad and Undecided Man
The sanctity of love and marriage
depends upon a sincere affection
between the welded pair When
this is gone. there is nothing lett
but civil contract, which, while 1t
is binding legally. scarcely can be
called sacred. When one OF the
partners in an engagement or a
marriage has been wronged notably,
what else is there to do except TO
forget it. insofar as 1t is possible,
and struggle to readjust?
Forgiveness for the offender is a
virtue when. he or she really wants
to be forgiven and proves it by re-
framing from that which gave the
offense. But whenever people are
periodically remorseful for wrong
doing which they perpetually re-
peat, it merely means that they are
trying to balance the account
without changing their style Of life
Under these conditions, forgiveness
is a hindrance to reformation.
While I do not believe that love
is subject to the will and can be
turned on and of like a spigot.
do believe that the intelligence is
a great aid in guiding the emo
tons. For sincere natures, fall
ing out of love is a terrific task, but
it can be done. When a love az
fair ceases to promote the welfare
of both parties. it is time 70 stop
it. This can be done by a con-
scious. determined effort to sub
stitute other interests and occupa-
tons. Then gradually emotions
fade.
In answer to your question not
published, it seems to me you are
bending over backward to be hon.
orable. which is more admirable
than necessary in this instance.
haven't as much respect for the
letter Of the law as you have, be-
cause We have SO many stupid laws
made by stupid people.
II you we're taking anything that
any one else held valuable, 1 would
disapproye of the situation. but you
are not How many a thing which
We cast to the ground. when Others
pick it up becomes a GENT
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Dear Jane Jordan am a girl OF IS
ana I went with a bow OF IS with whom
! was. very good friends before school
me when We are at school. When he
comes 70 see me. he acts as he did be-
fore school started. but when We have
other Girl 10 20 with. This hurts nv
feelings terribly as think he should
take me, DO YOU think am too Young
70 60 with the hoys2 And did ! have
richt 70 feel hurt2 BOOTS.
Dear Boots-You're pretty younl
to be taking a boy so seriously
know how you feel about the par.
ties. If you entertain this boy a To-
at your own home. it would only bI
good taste on his part to return the
favor by asking you to at least on,
of the parties. I'd try to shift my
interest to some one else, If I were