The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-04-26

ME- mans SIDE Of the love queS-
Il ton always is interesting. AL
though Jane Jordan is a woman
herself, she often finds the men
more sinned against than SHINING.
Their letters are invited and will
be answered in this column.
I married a girl and in a very short
time I realized l did not love her and
never could. felt honor bound to
stand by and care for her, especially as
there was a child. So for several years
I have led miserable existence, feeling
very keenly the emptiness of life caused
by the lack of love.
Finally I met the one woman. who
herself never had married because she
had not found her mate, and we two
unhappy creatures fell desperately in
What shall we do? Shall I forsake the
woman and child? Would this not put
me in the position of accepting
tired, forsaking her for younger and
prettier face? Shall 1 and the woman
I love 20 through life, crushing out of
our hearts the love that has come to
us after years of loneliness?
Or shall we see each other when OPP
portunity offers and know the Joy that
love gives? I gladly would continue to
would agree to divorce This is a
problem. Jane Jordan. and I'll appreciate
any kind Of solution you may give.
Dear Puzzled-If you are amply
able to support your wife and child,
there is nothing to be gained in per-
a mistake. 1 am for you
and a small group of other lib
Grated thinkers will appreciate your
position, but We are powerleSs to
help you, for society and the state
are against you Those two power
full institutions will not let you off
from the obligation you voluntar-
lily incurred, but will hold you to
the letter of the law long after the
spirit has fled.
You are up against the unsolved
question of whether the state be-
longs to the indi-
vidual, or the in Cold, Stern
d dtyta! If % to the Law Holds
the law was for You Fast
man. or man for
the law. You we'll may question
the wisdom of the state in holding
its institutions Solidly together in
spite of the individual wreckage it
creates, but your questioning does
not change the law.
There it is! Cold, immutable,
blind to painful, spiritual inconlpat-
Utilities. understanding only to
simple and more violent offenses
which it grants are cause for di-
vorce
Therefore, unless you can per-
suade your wife to more generous
attitude toward divorce, it would be
better for you to renounce your love,
for in our culture.
Grief Will the suffering that
Outweigh f lance Of 1fOi society,
Your Joy whether open or
secret, nearly al
ways outweighs the Joy. 1t does
not look so in the beginning, but in
the end is all too clear.
The worst of it is that the chief
sufferer in the case would be the
woman you love, for the world would
wink at your indiscretions as being
nothing more than it could expect
from a man, while it tore her char
acter to shredS without a particle
of mercy
Life is extremely hard on unmar-
ried lovers. Richard lie Caffeine,
in commenting upon such lovers
struggling to diSentangle themselves
from the web of circumstance which
pre- vents their
union. re marks FOOlprOOf
that life with pure CoIut;on
deviliShneSs seems
to say: Here are Is Lacking
two people abSo-
lutely made for each other. They
have but to meet at the right mo-
ment, under favoring conditions, to
be completely and enduringly happy.
Therefore, will hide them from
each other till such time as they
have become involved hopelessly in
the lives of others entirely unsuited
for then. and then, when they are