The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-06-15

Dear Jane Jordan-I was intimate. with
a man for nearly a year. Then got
in trouble. We were to be married i'm
Change. There were a million reasons
WHY we should not be married for a
month. When the month went by. there
breaking dates and 1 received no excuses
I saw. him with another girl one night
and that turned me completely against
Then one day he came to me. told me
how sorry he was, anq SAID ne Wan ll.,
TO marry me. Because wanted my child
to have a name. consented. We were
married two months ago and so far not
a promise has been kept. Every night
as soon as supper is over he cleans up
and goes out and STAYS all hours Of the
night. while I sit home and worry and
As soon as I can do for, myself after
my baby is born I Intend d, to- ten MN IN
living anv longer than that I think |
can make him SUPPORT my oaby ana
D D pc yo lqtf th Rfs'e SOP on aT psGUEp
Dear Disgusted-Yes. When the
tie of mutually helpful affection
is absent, there is little reason for
continuing a marriage. The atmos-
phere in which you now live will
not benefit your child in the Slight
est On the contrary, a great deal
of harm may be done by exposing
the little one to continuous domes-
tic infelicity.
Unwittingly, you became a duty
to your lover instead of pleasure.
When this occurred, you lost him.
Had his love been worth keeping,
his reaction would have been the
reverse. Your plight would have
aroused the deepest feelings of love
and loyalty.
You gambled and lost. AS soon
as you can stand on your own feet
economically, you'll be justified in
making the break and asking for
support for the baby. AS 1 have
said many times, marriage was
made for the protection of women.
Otherwise, a man like your hus-
band could leave baby on your
doorstep and clear out for new adj
venture without fear of redress
from society.
It is barely possible that your de-
parture with the baby may bring
a second fit of contrition, but I
doubt If you can rely on it, since
his good resolutions are broken so
easily.
Dear Jane Observation-Disclosures read
something like what I've just read i'll
your column about a young woman who
finds out that her lover is not her lover
manhood, my blood burns with the un,
fairness OF 1t. Why did our mothers ana
grandmothers teach their boys this code,
/ wonders? Why do they. keep girls in a
MYSTERY. which
proves to be a real shroud after they are
wed? There surely could be way to
teach boys and girls the way to true
Do You believe that fathers can and
for their darling little babies that a
mother does? Or do they just take them
as a matter of fact, and impose on their
children the same suffering they had
WV " 4 VIRGIN BRIDE.
Dear Virgin Bride-We learn by
our mistakes. Those women who
suffered from the ignorance in
which they were brought up are
going to see to it that their daugh-
tiers are enlightened. They're not
going to be Mortified by early sex
instruction, but are going to aid and
abet educators in their efforts to
teach the young something about
human relationships before they are
old enough to rush blindfold into
marriage.
The old system of wrapping girls
in cotton wool has about blown up.
They have a new freedom which
they have not learned to put to the
best use, as the letter to which you
refer indicates.
Some fathers take as much inter-
est as do mothers in their young,
but in general men aren't much in
tereSted in little babies. Their pa
ternal instinct is not aroused until
the baby is 4 or years old, run
ming around and talking and show
ing lively signs of developing in
telligence.
1t is true that a few men are
cruel to their children. They get
even for the suffering which they
endured in their youth by inf1ict-
ing the same conditions on their
own children. But in the main
hope these incidents are confined
to pathological cases.
1t is more common reaction for
both parents to carry the other ex-
IRENE to the point of pathology and
shield their children too closely from
unhappy experience.
Haven't you seen fathers sacrifice
themselves completely to secure for
their children certain advantages
that were denied them in their own
youth?