The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-04-04

Dear Jane, Jordan1,,I am young girl
13 years old. In this day and age, 1t
seems that if a sirl is to be popular she
must pet. drink. and smoke. I do al
hTss Of beg Sen real reSson Fe
writing to you is that am confused in
my own mind as. to. what's right. and
in petting parties, drinking. and smok-
ing, unless carried to the extreme?
They don't seem to hurt me, or haven't
yet.
Dear Thinker-Petting parties arc
not mortal sin. They're just an
unsatisfactory substitute for a nor
NAL sex life. They're very bad
preparation for future married life,
because they lead a girl to expect an
oversupply of petting from her hus-
band.
He is inclined to drop elaborate
preliminaries after marriage, where
as she still places an over-emphaSiS
on petting. She does not under
stand why her husband has lost his
desire to spend hours in fondling
her.
He does not understand that he
has trained her to associate habitual
petting with love, and that she Is
confused when he fails to keep it
up. A normal amount of physical
demonstration Of affection has It's
place in every union, but no mar
riage is perpetual petting party.
Many a girl forces herself to drink
because she wants to be good
sport. She sees in it a way to popu-
larity. Drinking is bad, because it
furnishes an excuse for doing things
for which the drinker refuses to &C
cept the full responsibility.
A girl lacks the courage to let
herself go when she is cold sober,
but if she can say to herself, II was
tight at the time" she feels that it
excuses her conduct, in a measure.
Anything which lessons the in
dividual's responsibility for his own
conduct is bound to be bad. Smok-
ing scarcely comes in the same cate
CORY with petting and drinking, be-
cause it has less effect on the in
dividual'S attitude toward life.
1t is not necessary for all contact
between girls and boys to be amor
Gus. Healthy friendships, teamwork
in sports and school, shared inter-
eSts and lively conversation, with
some affection, is the best possible
approach to cooperation in mar
riage later on. If other girls have
questions on this subject that are
not answered here, let them write!
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a girl of II
and go with boy 20. I am truly in love
With hin him and he seems to be in love
thing but what he does it. We now have
bee been going together nine months, but
not lazy and will work when he can get
job. Would you quit him? Several are
IN favor OF this, including my parents.
I can't get along at home very well.
am a junior in high school and want to
quit. but father won't let me. I can't
know how I feel. Shall 60 ahead as
Work. ~ ~ larger Town ana get
MEsCA1,.
Dear Mescal-It seems unfair to
me to turn good boy down because
he has no job when it is no fault of
his. You are so young that you well
can afford to wait for him if YOU
think he is worth it. I am the last
one to cisparage the value of money,
but I Go think woman makes q
mistake to judge a man solely BY
his money-making capacities, par
ticularly in this time of economic
depression.
If you have a chance to 90
through high school, yod'd better
do so, even if it means two more
years of sacrificing the things that
are dear to every girls heart. You
can't go out into the world and earn
a decent wage with no equipment,
Today, more than ever, you have
to have some ability to sell. Your
high school education is an invest
ment which you can not afford to
refuse. It will yield you dividends.
by and by. Get your teachers to
help you decide on some form of
work and study toward that end.