The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-02-29
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B\o BY JANE JORDAN /D

physically she is a woman at an age
when she still should be child. She
knows more than you knew at II,
and her problems are not the same
that you encountered when you were
girl.
She will resent any obvious at
tempt on your part to change her
conduct, however shocking it seems
to you. Youth wants primarily to be
let alone by its elders, and the exer-
else of your authority as a parent
will make you only into a tyrant
and thereby widen the breach be-
tween your ideas.
The only thing you can do is try
to understand her point of view and,
when you find it difficult, remember
that she has the same difficulty in
understanding yours.
The things you did for amusement
when you were IA seem outworn and
fusty to your daughter. She will
laugh at your wish to have her live
as safely and conservatively as YOU
did. She demands the right to 60
forth and make her own mistakes
While you sit at home and grieve.
The only approach to the girl of
today is through her interests. If
you can provide her with an all
absorbing hObby-if you can fit her
Tor a career in which she is inter-
ested passionately-if you can fill
her life with things that she likes to
do, she is far safer than if she re-
mains idle.
Preaching will not change her one
particle. Restraint will drive her
farther from you. If you do not like
the things she is doing, your onlv
hope is to substitute other things
which she likes to do better. Present
her with as many stimuli as you can
thinks of and when she responds
follow up your lead.
Il Il
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a oirl *
years OLD and lust have gone into a high
school sorority. All the girls say I am
smo g0oq AND g dT}5g ii, Inst because I won't
say II | don't change I'll never have anv
steady bov friends and always will be a
tT W. da9 What would YOU advise me
70 90! UNDECIDED.
Dear Undecided-Well, my dear
l would be myself and behave in a
manner that satisfied me. regard
less OF what my sorority sisters said.
And that goes double. If I were
your sorority sisters, would smoke
my cigaretS and behave as I chose.
regardless of what you said.
What could be duller than a So
rority with members all nodded on
one pattern? One of the greatest
objections that thinking people have
to such organizations is their at
tempt to standardize their mem
berS.
Drinking and smoking do not
make a woman interesting. Neither
do abstinence from drinking and
smoking make her interesting. It
is her ideas and emotions welded
together in her own peculiar pat
tern that makes personality. The
girl who does things that set her
aside from all other individuals is
more noteworthy than the one who
initiates the conduct of her associ-
ates. Don't be a copy cat. Dare to
be yourself.
1 hope that your letter will help
Worried Mother to see what the
young girl of today is up against. It
will help her to understand her
own daughter.
r n
Dear Jane, Jordan-I would like to
answer the letter of Puzzled I think
I NAV be able to explai her case If
see would care to write me a letter,
YOU NAV hand her my address.
Dear w. S. Al do not have
Puzzled's address. Write your let
ter to the column and I vii pub
liSh it.