The Indianapolis times., 1932-04-05

Dear Jane ,Jordan-Less than a year
ago, I would have declared with We
ouenchable. I was of the opinion that
although ones love was not recprocated
it still would endure. Life has taught
me otherwise. Romantic love can die
know. because 1 have been to the emo
tional heights and depths of such a
was not romantically in love with
the man I married. but he has all the
qualities that make for true companion
ship and I adore him! Which brings
back the age-old adage. "All is not gold
that glitters." CLEOPATRA.
Dear leopatra-Thank you for
your letter, which I devoutly hope
will help many others now in the
throes of a frustrated affection.
receive inumerable letters from boys
and girls who have been dis
appointed in love. They swear by
all that's holy that they never can
love again.
They seem to feel that there's
something noble in their fidelity to
love that failed. The searchight
of modern psychology reveals this
wornout Byronic pose for what it
is. CoWardice, not constancy, holds
them to their love.
People who refrain from friend
ships with the opposite sex after
one disappointment lack courage. It
is obvious that the easiest way out
of a difficult problem is to set it
aside. Their self esteem has been
lowered so much by one defeat that
they do not feel equal to a new sit
uation and they escape from rough
reality by the lofty declaration,
Love comes but once"
Such people are self deceived. BY
contrasting their faithfulness with
the unfaithfulness of the beloved,
they partially contrive to restore
feeling Of superiority. They should
face these facts squarely: That the
pleasures of the martyr are negN~
tive; that it is unhealthy to idealize
any form of defeat; that JOY is the
child of achievement, and victory
the best road to happiness.
The chances are that these re-
jected lovers would not have been
happy with the object of their
efections. 1t was better for them
to have discovered the instability
of the loved one before a marriage
was contracted.
Instead of thanking their lucky
stars for saving them years of pain,
they retreat from life by refusing
to recover. The truly courageous
person does not seek to avoid the
future by hanging on to the past,
but moves on to the next experience
with hope in his heart.
Young people who disagree are
welcome to tear into me with let
ters. Be sure to explain your case
and tell me your reasons for dis
agreement. This will make you
think hard. Try it.
Il
Dear Lonesome Lover-The only
solution I can see for you is
financial independence from your
father. Then you can live where
you choose and have the normal
friendship with young people which
are your birthright. Don't let the
present scarcity of jobs deter you.
OCCA WO1h n Will anu
courage. Write me when you feel
blue and ready to give up. AS for
your love affair, you will find your
answer in the letter to Cleopatra
Think it over and write again.
Dear Bewildered-I can not tell
you what caused the young lady to
change her mind overnight about
marrying you, but can tell you that
such a weathervane personality is
not the type on which you should
center your emotions. Women al
ways will flirt and experiment before
they settle down to permanent love
partners, but do not ike this girls
piecrust attitude toward a promise.
At least she owed you an explana-
ton. Don't let the experience lick
you or deter you in your search for
a happy companionship. The world
is full Of women and most of them
want men. So cheer up.
Dear Girl Out-of- Work. am
sorry that I can not find a job for
you, but that is not in my province.
I suggest that you put your request
in the regular want ad department
and see if you do not get a response.
If you have any emotional troubles
on your mind in addition to finan-
cial ones, will be glad to advise
you, if you will tell me what they
are.
Dark Wells Smart
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