The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-02-09


DEAR MAJA-If only I could
IL solve the problem of the lone
some women and men who write to
me! With the world swarming with
people, it does seem as if nobody
ought to be lonesome. The question
should be how to avoid people and
not how to meet them.
Statistics from city bureaus and
employment agencies, census reports
and other sources reveal the fact
that more than 100000 women be-
tween the ages of "a and so live
alone. And the lonely men outnum-
Der the women.
These statistics take no account
of the people who are lonely in the
bosoms of their own family; who
long for a congenial soul to go along
with. The people they know are
somehow not satisfying. How are
they to meet others?
My advice to Maja and all other
lonesome people in this world is TO
make more contacts. Go where men
and women gather in churches,
at concerts, art exhibitions, lectures,
libraries, public teas for visiting
authors, Y. M. c. A. and Y. w. G. A.
Join hiking clubs, nature study
clubs, literary or card clubs; play
tennis on public courts, golf on pub
lie links; go skating, ride horseback.
Join athletic organizations, attend
concert or lecture series. Seek work
in an organization that employs a
large number of people and join the
business clubs and organizations. If
you have money, take an ocean
voyage.
The silly rule that forbids our
speaking to strangers does not hold
under these conditions. A persons
presence in such places is usually
sufficient recommendation for his
character.
One new contact leads to others
until gradually you draw q little
group around you with similar tastes
and ideas. OF course this play pre-
Supposes that you keep yourself at
tractive and interesting; that you
read new books and keep we'll in
formed. 1t is a good idea to ride
some hobby that will give you some
point of contact with others who
have the same hobby.
Go, go. Keep on the move. No
body ever found happy companion
ship by sticking within four walls.
Dear Jane Jordan--I have been going
almost two years with man who claims
W tod
together, he did everything he could to
make me happy, He took me places,
the hrst of last year we have been to
only three shows. And he has omitted
the flowers and candy.
He never asks me to so any place with
him. and If I suggest going he has an
excuse to make Yet he saws he loves
me sn Idy hopes s to marry me- can't see
makes fairly good wages and can afford
to take me out What is your opinion
Of this?
KATE.
DEAR KATE-Nothing irritates a
- man more than to know that
a woman expects him to spend
money on her. 1t is a far better
plan for you to suggest economies in
this day and age than to expect eX-
penditures. The fear generated by
the economic situation causes people
to hang on to what cash they have
like grim death. Show deep appre-
citation when he spends some of his
precious money on you, and protest
little, Are you sure you can afford
it? Should we spend this much
money!" and so on.
Perhaps he has had a wage cut
that he hesitateS to tell you about
Perhaps some of his family are in
need and are making extra demands
upon him for money. Or perhaps he
is showing his love for you by rigic
saving to give you the proper sort
of home.
There may be any number Of
legitimate reasons for his economy
OF course, if he is spending hi:
money on luxuries for himself anc
neglecting your entertainment, thi:
puts a different face on the matter
But my feeling is that this is the
hey-day of the economical girl. The
one who can get along without much
money is the one who is going t.
walk off with the pick of the 1893:
crop of husbands.