The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-12-09

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Dear Jane Jordan-There is a boy in
our neighb9rhood to whom I always
ne was still small, I always stayed with
MN when MS parents, went out, and as
he grew older I helped him with his les
sons, and we frequently went to shows.
pail games, etc. together. as he pre-
his age.
Now I am 81 and he is II. He always
has been very affectionate and every
time he came to my home, he would kiss
me. OF course, this just became a habit
from a small boy up, and We thought
two months, he has changed.
When no one is around, he will come
up and grab me and kiss me in a much
dl1erent way, and when we go to a
he can. I have tried to argue him out
OF It and even to laugh it off, but he
insists that I am the SWEETEST girl he
knows"
Even if I am older than he. he is much
larger than I. I do not want to hurt his
feelings. as I am very fond of him in a
maternal way, but I am afraid that if I
Gont SOP INN l will begin to like him
IN a onerent way, too.
I do not want to Go this. as I think he
Is too young for me and that he should
find some one younger than himself. How
can I place our friendship back on the
old basis, and just be a big sister or a
good pal to him againP
JUST WONDERING.
Dear Just Wondering-Now is the
time to let your intellect control
your emotions. The maternal in
in woman always is closely
hooked up with love. She tends to
love those whom she has to take
care of.
Many a woman likes nothing bet
ter than a younger mar whose
youth and i~neXperience excites her
maternal compassion. But too much
maternal tenderness is apt to prove
mischievous poison for a boy who
must prepare himself for the pitt
less struggle of life.
You r right, for both your sakes.
to guard yourself against a physical
desire for a boy who hasn't the
mental equipment
Guard Him; to make a love
IL affair satisfactory
A1elp DOy for a girl who has
- Bottle had more expert
ence in thinking
than he has.
You are right again to guard him
against falling in love with a wom-
an on whom he has learned to lean
from childhood up. He needs to
centeer on a girl Of his own age, in
his own stage of development.
Help him to see that what he
needs at this period is not more
.rnothering, but more spine. Explain
to him that the love Of a man for
a maid should not be too closely
confused with his love for a mother.
A really satisfactory love adjust
ment requires that the partners be
equal contestants in the game OF
His love for you we'll may be based
on fear of young
people his own Love May
age. This is no D. Daz.I
iced first in the be based
fact that he pre- on Foar
ferred to go to
ball games with you, rather than to
De pOlnereQ Win nOIQlng MS own
other boys. 1t is not neces-
Sary for him to make an effort to
attract you. He already is sure of
your affection.
This absolveS him from the neces-
of competing with boys his
own age for girls on his own level.
is ever so much easier to retreat
into a cosy nook that to participate
actively in life. There is less risk
of losing.
There is no reason why your COM
partnership can not be of great
value to him if you avoid these pit
falls. Use your influence TO induce
him to plunge into the business of
but do not let him make a
habit of leaning on your for emo
tional satisfaction.