The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-12-16

WHAT is the questio"
nearest yow heart to-
dag? Write to Jane Jordan
for light on your problems
and read your dnSaCer IN this
column.
Dear Jane Jordan: I was married for
twenty-seven years to one of the best
men in the world. We lived happily
until the last ten years, when we moved
TO the city and he began to drink. He
then became neglectful of me and the
children. am the mother of four boys
and one girl. I was compelled to
divorce my husband, as he became I'M
bearable to live with and never came
home unless he was Iull of white mule.
l run business OF my own and clothe
the family. AL 1.-The children are grown
but two, and this depression came and
caused the sons to come home to live,
as they were without work or money.
OF course 1 took them in and my husband
became angry and deserted me and my
two little ones
I am a woman of good character, am
clean lives. Now man eight years my
senior wants to marry me- He is so
wonderful to me and loves children. He
has beautiful home to take us to and
has q good position, but 1 do not love
him. ! only respect him
I miss the companionship and love of a
good man. I still love my eX-huSband,
but I am trying to blot him from my
memory. because he did me much wrong.
He never has been back to see his chill
dren and pays no support. What shall
do? UNHAPPY WIDOW.
Dear Unhappy Widow-I give up.
No gereralizations drawn from the
experiences of others will help you
solve your problem. If you we're
alone in the world, I would advise
you to marry the man whom you
respect, for a home and the COM
partnership which you crave for your
declining years.
If respect has half a chance, it
frequently grows into love during
the intimacies of marriage. But you
have so many children to consider.
If your own husband could not
stand up under the return of your
sons TO the shelter of the family
circle, how much less would a STEP
father be willing to divide his earn
ings. particularly
with grown chill Will His
dren, able to work, CD
any? Would your tho Ctro;n
new relationship
be strong enough to bear up under
the economic stress and strain of
the times?
1 conscientiously could not advise
anybody who has achieved economic
independence to give it up at this
time for the precarious adventure
of leaning on somebody else. Many
widews with children have made
second marriages which have been
very happy, but believe such mar
riages succeed only where the wife
does, not bring too many burdens
to the new husband.
Everything depends upon the
character and financial resources OF
the man who wishes to marry you
Does he fully understand exactly
what responsible
You Must ties he would be
-, expected to as
SOHSlueI sumo? Is he will
a. p,.dor ing to house and
'i'0 A feed your grown
sons out of work, as well as the two
little ones who make more appeal
to his protective instincts?
A stepfather. it is true, is not ex-
posed to the conflicts between chill
dren which arise during the day
but if the brood becomes too heavy
a load on his pocketbook, he is
pretty sure to resent it.
No one can decide what is best
but the two contracting parties in
the case. strongly advise frank
talks between the two Of you, and
intelligent planning beforehand
Beth Of you are old enough TO bring
mature judgment to your problem