The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-07-12

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dan to see and she will help you
to overcome them.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been going
with Young man for almost two wears.
wants me to marry him. I would marry
him in a minute. except for two reasons.
o s7en is 4stre a 9fonf four to ahd amy al
Younger than myself. We are in financial
It would be hard on nv mother 4
and always willing to sacrifice for me-
She would want me to marry and have
truthfully 1 am getting restless. The
children, work. and discussion Of bills
one and very important to me, hardly
afraid Of marriage because Of The phvsi-
cal purpose. I do not feel as II / could
90 thTopFh, With # H. 9lw a,S., have had
You will say that If I really and truly
loved this Young man. that ! SHOULD
pay nm mo ea Of ao rood and q KIND and nd
possesses ali the fine qualities a girl
would desire in her husband. Why am
think nothing Of? JUST ME.
Dear Just Me- do not believe it
is possible for you successfully to
sacrifice love and marriage for your
. needy family, no matter how great
your will to do so. You can not as
sault nature with impunity She
will have her revenge in the form of
nervous breakdowns or painful
psychological conflicts, which de-
stroy your usefulness as human
being.
Hard as it seems for you to desert
your family it is better for every
body concerned if you do. After you
are married, you can find many ways
: to help your mother. 1t isn't as if
. you were quitting
her completely. You sui
The second part - ~,
of your question is Odh OlVe
far more impor- Motbor Aid
tant and will cause Awe
T you trouble unless you get straight
. ened out. The fear of the physical
+. side of marriage used to be more
deeply rooted in the emotions of
girls than it is today. Modern en-
lightenment on sexual subjects has
gone a long way toward putting this
bugaboo to flight.
The cause of the fear lies in the
. polluting veil of secrecy which the
I puritans have drawn around the
subject of sex. When the physical
. facts of life are relegated to the
. back stairs. it is not cause for
wonder if girls get the idea that
there is something shady about the
whole business.
Bees and The Shamed. but
ru, dutiful m ot h c 7
rlOWerS telling her daugh-
Talk Fails. ter ter the facts about
! many a marriage before it was
made. Neither is the bees and
flowers" school of information ade-
quate preparations for vital
healthy married life.
You should begin at once COM
pletely to re-educate your whole at
titude toward love and marriage.
The Libraries are full of sane, whole
some, intelligent books, with the
+ purpose of educating the populace
, and abolishing the idea that there is
anything obscene or fearful in the
physical functions of life.
Edward Carpenters Loves Com
ing of Age" is one of the finest
things that has
been written about Sex Source
the relations of r NIT
men and women. vi li'09'
Mrs. Bertrand Art poatrv
3 Russell writes
( Sex IS not only the source of some
. of the finest poetry and art, OF
heroisms, sacrifices, dreams; it also
is the source of a very important
human experience. In sex-love
3 through physical sympathy and in
innate union, we draw into ourselves
as in no other way the understand
ing of another human personality
and the knowledge that two very
different creatures can live together
f.. in exquisite harmony d.. 1t gives
as nothing else can, the beauty OF
human partnership in love, of mu-
tual abandonment of distrust for
mutual JOY"
Dear Jane Jordan-Wiu YOU please
try to dispose of $4,000 interest We
debts? I am frantic from this predica-
ment. We have six in the family Debts