The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-03-31
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affair. An this time I was loving him
so much il was HE'LL But I definitely
had made up my mind to give him up.
after had Fohs MsS him for 0p tNo ye s
Please don't judge me too harshly. bu.
still love him and always shall. l
wouldn't cause trouble between them for
the world. They are both too sweet.
Please let other girls take my advice and
let married men alone. It's too risky
on the heart.
Dear Reader-The "other woman"
whom I scored in the column to
which you refer herself was married
and the mother of one child. You
are single girl and quite differ
ent type. Although I think you
have not loved wisely, but too well,
I have respect for you for your hon.
esty and for your determination not
to cause any more trouble between
reasonably happy couple.
1t is quite possible for a man to
love two women equally, but in a
homogeneous society he can not have
both without cauS-
ing serious unhap- Cllng 10
pineSs to each Oro Toovo
W o m n and to
himself. the other
Without doubt,
the ma jority of husbands do a little
plain and fancy cheating on the
side and get away with it. These
temporary contacts never scratch
the surface of their affections, a fact
that no normal woman ever under
stands.
But when a man finds his affec-
lions equally engaged by two women,
1t is an entirely different matter.
The only thing he can do without
tearing out the hearts of all three
is to cling to one and leave the
other.
In your case, you are the woman
who is left. It is not half as big a
tragedy as you think. am going
to shock you by a psychological
truth which you may not accept at
first, but which is deserving OF your
most earnest consideration.
The reason you hang on to your
mistaken love for this man is that
your self esteem
Truth Here is so low that you
NIL WEI do not believe you
Aio' WIN can get another
Shock You one just as attrac-
tive as he is!
Almost every human being makes
too low an estimate of his own pos
SibilitieS. When you gather up your
courage and self confidence to the
point where you firmly believe you
can attract a man who is free to
marry you, your love for this man
will begin to ebb, and when a real
lover appears on the horizon, offer
ing you his heart and his hand, you
know very well that you will forget
your married man with the speed of
creased lightningl
Look deep into your own heart
with honest eyes and write me an
other letter, telling me whether or
not am right!
Dear Jane Jordan-I am II years of
age and badly disappointed in a boy. At
first he seemed to think a lot of me.
Then he just quit coming. I asked him
for my picture and things. When he
brought them, I asked him why he quit
and he said he was Just tired.
He told some friends of mine that he
wanted girl who would smoke, drink,
CURSE and stay out till all hours of the
night, and do what he wanted her to.
didn't see him until the other night.
He and some others had been drinking.
We went out in the country and got
stuck in tfR mud. went to the nearest
farm house and got home all right.
1 lost one home over him and If fool
around with him again, I'll lose my other
home. 1 love him more than any one
else and can't keep from going with him.
Advise me what to do.
A DISAPPOINTED LOVER.
Dear Disappointed Lover-Look
for somebody else. He's not grown
up enough. He has come to that
awkward age when he is neither boy
nor man and tries to act like both.
He feels that he owes it to his ap-
preaching manhood to assert his
liberty and to stay out late at
night.
He takes to drink because it is for
hidden and it makes him feel heroic
if he succeeds in getting it.
For the same reason he takes to
premature love experiences. for he
thinks that it is sex that makes the
difference between the boy and the
man.
You can't help him while he is
going through this stage. And you
can't afford to let him disturb your
economic status.