The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-02-25

mind? Explain it to Jane Jordan,
who will have something helpful to
say about it in this column.
Dear Jane JORDAN am a married
m With one child; We live with
present and 1 work always. Now that
my husband is working, he wants to go
to housekeeping, but as his work is I'M
certain 1 think we should stay where we
are, for he was out of work for a long
time before he got this job. There is no
hard feelings about US staying here.
My family always has helped me.
UNCERTAIN.
Dear Uncertain-Your husband is
right in principle, but you are right
in practice. At present, economic
survival outrunS all other considera-
tons in Importance. Every nan has
a right to his own household, but
first he must prove that he is able
to support it.
Some men claim that it cuts the
nerve of effort for them to have
their wives earning part of the liv-
ing. The pressure of carrying the
entire load of the family spurs them
on to greater achievements.
In a survey made of the private
lives of 200 married couples, the
men were happiest whose wives
were wholly dependent upon them
for a living and so were the women,
for that matter. This goes to show
that the husband as provider and
the wife as homekeeper is a behav-
ior pattern which is so imbedded
in the race that variation from it
brings discomfort to all except a few
unusual people.
Therefore, you'd better agree with
your husband and set moving to
yourself as a happy goal to attain
as 0 as you have saved enough
money to have a little emergency
fund. Perhaps this will satisfy him
without jeopardizing your income,
which you are right to guard in
times when it is a family's greatest
problem.
Lots of people combine their re-
sources for a period of stress. It is
a good measure for temporary re-
lief, but bad as a permanent situa-
ton. So lay your plans for your
own home, but don't jump before it
is safe.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am a married
man % years old and 1 have a terrible
temper and am awfully jealous. When
l was living with my wife, I would come
home and call her names and abuse her.
be sorry. About three months ago, she
left me and I had the police to look for
her and broadcast for her, but they
her yet.
I know that her folks know where she
is. but they won't tell me, because they
are afraid I will abuse her some more.
But If | could e1nd her I wouldn't abuse
her, for I see my mistake now. and I
love her more than anything on earth.
Please advise me what to do and how l
can go about finding her. What can I
DO TO prove to her that l love her?
BROKENHEARTED WHITLEY.
Dear Brokenhearted Whitey-"For
all men kill the thing they love-"
writes Oscar Wilde, and this is what
you have done. Your wife did you
a kindness in leaving, for in 10
other way could she have stopped
your temper attacks. AS it is, she
has taught you a lesson, which, if
you heed it, will prement your de-
veloping into a cruel and disagree
able old man, hated and feared by
your family and friends. If more
wives had the courage to remove
themselves from the path Of abusive
husbands, more men would reform.
You al not force your wife to
return to you. If she did so, the
chances are that you would not be