Evening star., 1932-08-25

The boor you have with you always
He is the man who pokes you in
the stomach and says, How fat you
are getting!"
If you have cast in your eye, he
remarks on 1t in public, or even in
dulges in the ancient vuigarism Of spit
ting in his hat
He thinks it is huge joke to laugh
at a cripple to his face.
He is forever saying things to en-
barrass women
Actions of all sorts which had bet
ter be done in the privacy of boudoir,
he loves to do in public. He likes TO
pare his fingernails before people, or
cough or sneeze in their face.
Unnecessary and wholly gratuitous
thoughts which better bred people keep
to themselves, even IL they happen to
think them, with him are uttered free
ly. without thought or care as to pos
Sible hurt in them.
Hurting, of course, Is what the boor
enjoys. The psychologists have name
for this sort of enjoyment.
Every one knows this type, and every
one fees from him, but he Is 30 common
that escape is extremely difficult.
He must be viewed with charity, as
one who cannot help himself, and
therefore is deserving the pity Of all
those who learned better how to act
in a happy childhood which he, un-
fortunate fellow, evidently never pos
sessed.
Culture is happiness, too.
Good manners is happiness.
Good conduct is happiness.
Formerly the happiness which lay in
good behavior was understood by a
great many people. They put a premium
on what they sometimes called breed
ing"
It was a homely word but it meant
a great deal. not only in high circles,
but among the lowly and the humble.
A good, honest life. based on decent
treatment of others in every way, was
the goal of thousands OF decent, sane
men and women.
They taught their children to be
polite, to speak gently, to have con-
sideration for others, to make an
honest attempt to behave themselves.
But modern living, as such, has
tended to drag down these standards.
and to make many persons ashamed OF
them. greatly to their own loss and that
Of the Nation
Itewould SEEM as if there is no sub
situate for them all those genuine re-
Sressions and inhibitions which lie
soundly at the base Of good manners.
Clothes do not make them, or money.
The ability to live in fine house
never made a gentleman out Of any
body yet.
The gentleman had 20 be there when
he moved in.
The world is filled with rude people,
people lacking In manners. decent ad-
dress consideration for others, polite
ness, and so on.
Most of them you can tell at a
glance. and the remainder may be de-
tected by q careful study OF their
mouth, that final. 'give-away' OF human
Mostly such persons leave no doubt,
however. as to their eligibility for mem
bership in the Boors' Club, Inc.
They stamp a Dig red "B" right on
their foreheads, w1ere no one can miss
it, and If they dor do that, they come
into YOUR office, sit on the corner OF
YOUR desk and par. their nails, spit in
your waste basket one Of their favorite
tricks and point out that you have
dandrun.
Since there is nc escaping these fel-
lows the only real ooint in considering
them is to devise ways and means how
to avoid them.
The person who was brought up IN
decent home, where courtesy held ordl-
nary sway, must continue to exemplify
his training even in regard to these
uncouth persons, although at times the
strain Of doing SO will prove terrific.
Yet 1t must be done.
In handling a boor, the man who
knows better, and who tries to the best