The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1932-03-11

have before we moved to this cold city.
Two LONELY GIRLS.
Dear Two Lonely Girls-I have
answered this question so many
times for established readers that
when new readers ask the same
question, I wonder how I can say all
I've said before in new way. To-
day I've decided to give few cpl
sodes from my personal experience
to illustrate the points which have
made before.
Several years ago I found myself
alone in the world with two small
children. The few friends whom l
had we're good and kind, but not IN
terested in the things which inter-
ested me. How could 1 get &C
quainted with kindred spirits? I did
not know.
One day saw free lecture On
Progressive Education announced by
a private school, I went to the lee
ture and arrived a little early. 1t
was spring afternoon and I sat
down on the porch to wait for the
children to leave and the lecture TO
begin.
Next to me sat woman who had
n child in the school. We fell into
a conversation and discovered some
points of contact. I had a book
which the woman wished to read
and I offered to bring it to her
home, which I did several days later
She asked me to stay for dinner
and I did. The woman became one
of the congenial friends was look
ing for, and through her met fully
twenty others. Some of these be-
came close friends and some re-
manned casual acquaintance.
Again one day 1 was standing in
a bookshop, leaf1ng through much
discussed new book. A personable
gentleman who stood near me i'll
CURED whether I had read the book.
NO" said I, Tell me what it is
about?"
He launched into a scholarly re-
sumo of the book. Afterwards we
discovered that we had several
friends in common in my little new
group. Both of us mentioned the
incident to our friends, who soon in
cluded us in a dinner party.
Although that was several years
ago, that man has remained q
valued friend. Through him I met
many other pleasant people, in
Guiding two women who were deS-
tined to become my closest friends.
The two women brought me into
contact with many others. From
these two casual contacts, unpre-
meditated and accidental, a wide
acquaintance resulted.
l could cite instance after instance
from my own life where unexpected
and implanted meetings with peo-
pie expanded into a series of happy
experiences. Within a few years
the question was not where to find
friends, but how to find time to cul-
tivate the acquaintance had
made.
That is why I constantly admon-
ish lonely people not to stay at
home. Get up and get out! See TO
it that you have one interest about
which you accumulate more than
the ordinary supply of information.
Books, bees, stamps, art, music,
flowers, science-the world teens
with interesting subjects to pursue.
Your unusual information is sure
to make you fascinating to some
one, and, best of all, your joint en-
thusiasm means you are apt to be
congenial spirits.
The main trouble about you lonely
people is that you do not make any
effort. You retire farther and
farther into yourself. You think
more and more about your own ego
This narrows your circle instead Of
expanding it.
To the lonely girl who wants to
get acquainted, I say, develop an
intense interest and go where other
people go who have the same inter-
est. Concerts, lectures, bookshopS
hobby clubs-all these places bring
you new contacts, which will, in
time, dispel your loneliness.
Dead Jane Jordan have met a boy
whom I like very much We were great
friends for some time and he devoted all
his attention 10 me But he suddenly
lost interest in me and now gives his
attention 70 ui ANOTHER girl he used 5sv 70
even asks me TO dance. II hurts when
see him dancing with other girls. How
can I win him back like used to have
him?
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