The Northwest enterprise. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1931-1952, 1931-02-12

PitdSc NIile on one sue ol sneet only
Dear Miss White: For the first
time in my life | am writing in TO
your column, but | usually read
the different letters, and l just
finished reading the one from the
SRI who said she believed boys
girl
| have Just had reason to think
about these things a lot The one
boy in the world whom have
cared for and | have had bitter
quarrel. one that | am sure won't
be made up. l have gone around
with other boys since, and to save
me can't find one that doesn't
expect the girl he is with to smoke.
to pet, to drink (oh. just little
bit). | hate that sort of thing.
Am | different from the usual run
of girls? | love to dance, Il love
excitement and fun. But it makes
me sick to think ! can't have a
good time in life without doing all
those things that are contrary to
my training and my own sense of
the fitness of things. live in a
,siHdi tpWH, anu eliHtr the DoyS
are too sleepy to know what
good time is, or they expect the
girls to go in for all the things
| have before mentioned.
Just because l have taken this
stand am | to be perched on
pedestal all my life? | don't want
to be on pedestal and labeled
saint" | want to be with crowd.
SERIOUS.
don't think you are so much
different from the average girl. 1t
is natural for a girl to want to en-
joy life.
No. matter what other girls or
boys may say, it is possible to be
popular without drinking. smoking
or petting. l know number of
girls who refuse to indulge in this
sort of thing, and they have more
invitations than they can accept.
You must choose for yourself what
you want to do and then try to live
up to the mark you have set for
yourself. You don't need to be
prude, or an iceberg, nor do you
need to be "perched on pedestal"
Just be your own natural self.
Don't act so that the boys get an
idea you are 'stand-offish' or that
you consider yourself any different
from anyone else, just because you
prefer not to let them be familiar.
hope your quarrel will be made
up one. of these days. At least, ]
trust that the bitterness Twill not
last, and that you will be friends.
Dear Miss White My problem
is a little different from most of
those you are asked to answer.
| don't know Just how to Begin l.
haven't any real trouble
My mother died when / was
young and that left me with the
younger children to look after Now
my father has married again. The
kids are all grown up and I'm free
to do as | please, but with no spe-
cial training of any kind. | have
job doing homework now. but l
would like to find something to do
besides housework-somethin more
interesting. | like young people of
any, age, and they all like me- They
get along we'll with me, and they
come to me with things they would
MT tell their mothers. | don't
know if that is just right or not.
But I've never told on them and
they still trust me. l don't mean
these Things were wrong, but it
seems their mothers haven't time
nowadays to be pals with their girls.
| really love to help them, and /
think they know it.
| have been wondering IL there
wasn't some kind of work I could
do so | could be with children all
the time. There must be place
for someone with a real love for
kids. Don't you think so?
know this is a long letter to
write you, so I'll stop now, hoping
you will be able to help me or tell