The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1931-10-21
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ByyANt, JORDAN

What's on your mind? If it's
trouble, write to Jane Jordan. She
viii help you to seek a solution
for your problems. Address your
letters in care of The Indianapolis
Times and inclose a self addressed
and stamped envelope If you want
a personal reply.
BEWARE of schemes and femi-
- nine tricks in making man
propose. While many men love the
chase, and prefer the woman who is
not available, this sort of excitement
is not basis for a successful mar
riage.
When two people are mutually
congenial, when they are one in
general purpose, when what affects
one affects the other, it is safe for
them to marry.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been going
with a Young man for two years. and I
love him TO distraction. I want him to
have dates with me and nobody else.
but he keeps dating other girls. though
he goes with me oftenest. Will you tell
me how to get him to propose2
am 19 and he is %. and turn
down dates with all other men. for tear
I might be busy some night when he
would call UP and want to come over.
But I am losing out with my other
friends. and 1 am afraid that unless he
proposes soon may be an old maid. /
pet him and love him. and he seems to
like it. but he has never suggested mar
rage. Please help me. PUZZLED.
Dear Puzzled am not at all
sure that it is a good thing for a
girl to get" a man to propose. If
you work up an intricate system to
play upon the poor fellows emo
tons until his head is all in whirl,
and his proposal is the result of
artihcially created conditions to
make you seem desirable to him, it
is more than likely that he may
regret the decision later. A mar
rage based on such a proposal
won't last.
The decision to marry is one of
the most important decisions that
one makes in life time. It should
be approached with some degree of
good judgment. If your young man
is to marry you and stay married,
his decision should be based on a
knowledge of the real you, not an
artificial you, made desirable
through tricks and strategems. In
stead Of advising you how to get
him to propose, rather would adj
wise you how to make him know
whether he really and truly wants
to propose.
Don't Be Available Always
For one thing, don't always be
available. Don't let him feel SO
sure that you are waiting for him
am not suggesting this to give you
a false value in his eyes; for your
letter shows me that you have run
down your stock below it's real value.
You should raise it to par.
Perhaps he thinks you wait for
him because other men do not ask
Tor your society. Have you ever
mentioned these other offers to
him? Don't turn down your in
vitations. Go out with your friends
as often as he goes with girls. This
will serve to make him realize that
he is not doing you big favor when
ne calls.
Besides, a little association with
other young men in your group
might make some change in your
own evaluatlons.
About petting: You say you pet
him and love him and he seems to
like it. 1 have no prudish obiec-
lions to innocent demonstrations of
affection between two people who
love each other, but don't be the
aggressor. 1t is fatal If he wants
caresseS, let him seek them.
Quit old Maid Worry
If you succeed by these methods
in making him chase you, and per-
haps propose, what of it? When the
hunt is over and the quarry run
to earth, your lovers ardors may
cool again.
Men who value the chase more
highly than the capture make I'M
faithful husbands. It would not be
long until he was chasing some
body else, and so on, ad inf1nitum.
1t is too early to worry about be-
ing an old maid. Few people have
matured sufficiently to choose their
life's partner with any degree of
vision before they are thirty. 1t
seems to me that you have plenty of
time.