The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1931-11-27

TELL your troubles to Jane Jor-
i dan. who will answer your let
tiers in this column as soon as pos
sible. Letters of comment on the
advice given are invited Let's ex-
change experiences!
Dear Jane Jordan-I married when !
was IA years old and didn't know any
more about men than week-old baby.
We now have three children. The old
est is IL. Seven years ago my husband
was untrue to me. with my younger
sister and ne once told me he loved her
more than he could tell. I managed to
give him little trouble over her and 1t
seems I have won him over great deal.
Lately. he says he doesn't love her. He
is good to me and will buy me any
thing he is able
He never corrects the children as
father should and blames me If they sass
him. He doesn't want to take them
when he and I 20 out. to lunch or TO
show am afraid they will notice this
and not love him as they should
have not been contented with life
since seven wears ago. NY nuspahu
had Younger brother who made MS
home --ifh US ever since our marriage
until 40 years ago. when he lett ana
married a girl he didn't love. never
gave a thought about loving him until
after he married He told me he hao
always loved me from a child up.
told him that I had almost been
mother to him and that he should
marry a Younger girl. I am %. He is
Ok He begged me to leave my husband
and take him
After he had been married Whlle'
thew came to nv house to live and then
realized how much I loved him-more
than any one in this world put nv
babies. He went away with his wi1e
last March. They were expecting
baby. He promised not to be gone
year. but It seems like hundred al
ready. I don't want to do wrong in
any way. but sometimes I nearly go in
sane over him.
respect my husband. because he is
the father Of my children, but the love
have for his brother is an altogether
different thing I sure hope you will
help me. as have to live lie.
A TIMES READER.
TEAR TIMES READER-Your
- problem is hard one, but you
are handling it in the only way it
can be handled. You were wise in
the way you managed your husband
when he fell in love with your sis
ter. Although your discomfort dates
from your loss of confidence in him
then, you did not raise the usual
hue and cry, but stuck by your
home and your children, and event.
ually won him over. I understand
that something Of your love for him
died at that time and never has
been revived.
When his younger brother fell in
love with you, you tried to talk him
out of it and did the right thing in
advising him to marry some one else
and forget you. 1t is too bad that
he married in such haste before
his emotion for you had died, for
that only made matters worse. Now
that can't be helped, and he is re-
sponsible for a wife and a baby of
his own. Evidently he is making
an effort to forget you, as indeed
he must, for the sake of your chill
dren and his.
The only possible thing you can
do is to keep your head and hold
your home together for the sake of
your children. This will require
considerable self-Sacrifice on your
part, but what else can you do and
retain your self-respect?
You can not scrap your children's
home and deprive them of their
mothers care and their fathers
protection. You can not take your
brother-in-law away from his wife
and his young child without hating
yourself ever after.
No happiness can be built on the
wrecked lives of little children. You
wouldn't have minutes peace ii
you deserted them. There is moth
ing to do but to content yourself
the best way you can where you
are.
1 think that it is entirely possible
for you to create a pleasant situa-
ton with your husband and chill
dren. 1t won't be loves young
dream; it won't be sweet romance;
it won't be thrilling or exciting.
But it will be the calm sort of cor