The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1931-12-01

A RE you worried about some
L N thing? Ask Jane Jordan what
to do. You can be sure of her SYM
pathy and her continued interest if
you write again. Comments on the
advice given are invited.
Dear Jane Jordan-Visualize young
man, age 26, an idealist who loves the
drama, outdoor sports. etc, abhors par
ties. can't dance, rotten at cards, still he
is a successful business man. He is in
love with girl of "a who can do all
the things socially that are in the book.
Have loved this girl for three years.
Went with her one year. She stopped
me for year and a half and now we
see each other twice a week. Recently
1 have decided that want to marry her.
My salary is such that we could be very
comfortable, could pay cash for our fur
niture, and have a nice car to drive.
1 suggested that she think over my
proposition, namely. that I see her a
little oftener, say three times a week
instead of twice After two weeks, I
preached the subject and she asked for
a little more time.
go at it bluntly. ask her to decide yes
or no, or shall 1 try to see her oftener
for while and see how that goes?
she told me when we started back that
she didn't favor a long courtship, but I
don't seem to get any farther than Just
two dates a week. Guide me, Jane
Jordan.
JERRY.
NEAR JERRY-You have written
~ me before about this young
lady and the more I hear about her
the more am convinced that she is
not the girl for you. think you are
caught in the grip of a trivial phySi-
cal attraction which will yield you
no deep and lasting satisfaction,
even if you win her.
To begin with, your interests are
different. Yours are genuine and
lasting; hers are superficial and
evanescent. Your values are taken
from the serious side of life; hers
from the frivolous. You care for
ideals, as is evinced by your con-
slant references to books, the drama,
etc. She cares only for parties and
social contacts. You are not one in
general purpose. Your personalities
never can meld
Even physically, she holds you at
arms length and herein lies your
tragedy. You want her because you
can not have her. Her lure for you
lies chiefly in the fact that she is
unobtainable. If you marry her,
you will be happy for a short time
only. When you become used to
your possession, you will have moth
ing left.
What you need is a woman who
feels that you are as important as
she is; who understands your feel
ings and wishes as if they were her
own. You need the happy COM
partnership of a mind in tune with
your own. All you have is pretty
and elusive body.
My advice to you now, as before,
is to break this spell and search for
woman on your own mental level.
You can not mold this young lady
TO your taste any more than she
NoAl AIOAO yOu 10 uSTS.
However, if you must have her at
all costs, would be blunt about it.
She has had enough time to make
up her mind. If she loved you at
all, she would have decided long be-
fore this. 1 would call for a show
down. From every point of view. it
Is bad for you constantly to be kept
up IN the air. 1t units you for
either business or pleasure. If she
won't marry you, can her, and give
some other woman chance!
Dear Jane Jordan-I am engaged to a
young man. I am 20 and he is Fl. We
can not marry until he makes more
money. l am willing to wait, but am
distressed by rumors that he occasionally
is unfatthful to me. When I question
him. he says that he loves only me, but
that our delayed marriage makes him
break over the traces every now and
then. He says it has no meaning and
does not affect his love for me. Shall
believe him or shall insist on absolute
fidelity?
AN ENGAGED GIRL.
NEAR ENGAGED GIRL-You
II would better believe him. I
imagine he is telling you the truth.
InSistence upon fidelity would net
you nothing. He only. would lie to
you instead of being honest.