The Northwest enterprise. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1931-1952, 1931-09-24

/ Up to this time you have been toe
young to be having dates with boys
and that is evidently the way your
parents have felt about it.
You speak of having talked with
outsiders, but do not mention your
mother and father. Do you mean
that you have not talked with them,
the ones you should 90 to first? Only
after finding out why they feel as
they do, if their views seem unreas-
enable, is the time to talk with an
outsider-and she should be a family
friend whose influence might count
in helping to change their minds. Do
not go around telling your affairs
to everybody.
Find out why your parents took
the letters written by this young
man. | cannot answer your ques-
ton without knowing the reason. Not
knowing, hesitate to express an
opinion.
Have good talk with each other
and see if you cannot come to some
happy understanding, for | feel sure
that, unless your parents are of the
absolutely unreasonable type, they
have only your own best interests in
mind. Most parents have, even
though their children sometimes
doubt it.
SUE: You may be tired out or
not feeling up to par physically. If
neither of these is the trouble, exert
yourself little more. Or, it may
be that this particular crowd of girls
and boys is not congenial and does
not interest you. In that case, make
other friends. You might be happier
to do so.
Possibly your boy friend decided
you were not trying to be entertain
ing and so thought he might as well
play around with the girl you men,
ton. Don't be influenced by her
acts or what she says, for in the long
run it does not pay, as you would
find out should you take her advice.
Be guided by your own ideas,
make the right kind of friends, do
your best to make those you are with
have a good time, and | think you
will come out all right. Write again.
Fore: | don't wonder that you
have spells of feeling downhearted.
But you are doing just the right
thing to go along and act as if you
were having good time. You re-
member that Walpole, in one of his
books, says something like this -
at isn't the kind of life you have
that matters, it's the courage with
which you meet it." | think he says
that in his novel called "Fortitude. !"
So be brave. Meet your hard places
with courage. urge you to stop
trying to decide the future now. Stop
trying to picture the future so far
as your sweetheart is concerned. Just
live on, getting happiness out of all
you do and see i'll each day, and wait
for the future to unfold itself. Give
the young man chance to show
what is in him. Stop thinking about
whether he will amount to anything.
Give the young man time and oppor-
tunity and he will settle that ques-
ton himself 1t is unfortunate that
your family is so unsympathetic
But you'll be surprised to find how
little that bothers you if you simply
make up your mind that you won't
pay any attention to it. Remember
that you are the one who must live
with your husband, so you are the
one who must do the choosing. Keep
your thoughts about the man and
your marriage to yourself. Don't let
your family into your confidence.
Perhaps if you say nothing they will
stop talking because they won't
know what you think and conse-
quently they won't know what to
say. In four years you will be able
to see clearly what is best to do.
Meantime, fill your mind with your
work and your friends and make life
as rich as possible. The more you
get out of life now, the more you
can put into it when you marry your
chosen one. Nobody can keep you
from living a rich, full, useful life if
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