The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1931-12-09
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BY1ANt J0RO4N

ZANE JORDAN wants more let
- tiers from people in need of
sympathetic advice. The more she
receives, the better she is pleased.
Send a stamp if you want per-
sonal reply.
Dear Jane Jordan-I am SO years old
married and have two children. My hus-
band is very grouchy. I guess I started
out wrong. humoring him and waiting on
him hand and foot I build the fires
every morning and have breakfast and his
lunch box ready before I wake him.
carry all the coal and water We live
three miles from town and haven't been
IN town for eight years
am very nervous from my husbands
constant nagging. He drinks and stays
out all night and thinks it is all right
He also curses me and calls me vulgar
names. When we sit down to eat he
watches every bite we put in our mouths
and says expenses must be cut. although
he wants plenty of the best for himself
At one time was a stout woman and
weighed l40 pounds. Now I am nervous
and run down and only weigh 90 pounds.
can't stand II much longer. 1 thought
of divorce. but decided to write to you
first. I'm sure I would be lots better off
without him. I believe freedom is what
he wants anyway. What is best for me
to do? BLUE BONNIE.
Dear Blue Bonnie-Divorce always
is deplorable where there are chill
dren, but it certainly is the lesser
of evils when a man is as hopelesSly
cruel as yours. Parents who can not
get along together decently owe it
to their children to separate and
save them from witnessing such de-
vastating and destructive scenes
during the formative period of their
lives.
1t is particularly dangerous for a
little girl to be reared in home
where the father is not respected.
The way her father treats her
mother determines her emotional
health. If her father is cruel, she
will come to believe that all men are
like him, and her prejudice becomes
so deeply rooted in her subconscious
mind that it is practically impos-
sible for her to make happy mar
riage of her own. This has been
proved over and over again.
A quarrelSome father sets a bad
example for growing boys, too If
the boy patterns himself after the
father, it is ruinous. But more often
it happens that he turns against
the father and clings too closely to
the mother. Sometimes he is psy-
chologically unable to pull away
from her apron strings when the
time comes for him to found a home
of his own. This is called mother
fiXation, and is real ailment, we'll
known to pSychiatriSts.
You should separate from your
husband not only for your children'S
sake, but your own. Isn't the situa-
ton gradually driving you towards
a nervous breakdown? Can you care
for your children efficiently, and
be kindly, patient and wise when
your nerves are stretched to the
breaking point each day?
The law has provided for your
protection by holding that the cruel
and inhuman treatment to which
you are subjected daily is grounds
for divorce. You have a right to
your freedom and the custody of
your children. You can get it if you
go after it. Why have you waited
so long?
One word of warning. Be sure
that your husband is tied up legally
so that he has to maintain your
children! A good lawyer will help
you plan your release. After you
have talked to one, write me again.
But even if you have to go to work
eventually to support yourself and
your children, it wouldn't be as
back-breaking or heart breaking as
living in domestic inferno. I
wouldn't be too reckless about cut
ting loose financially lay your
whole situation before a lawyer and
let him advise you.
Dear Jane Jordan-I have been mar
ried for fourteen years and have three
fine children. but I am not happy
can not get along with my husband. We
have a nice home. a car and all We
want 10 eat. He goes into rage at
anything that does not please him. and
we both say mean things and he curses
me and slaps me and has even given
me a black eye.
He never says he is sorry. He told me
he didn't care a thing about me. that
all l think about is fixing myself up.
For one week didn't clean up nice,
and he auarreled about that The last
time he slapped me I had headache
for two days.
I don't think I ever can please him
His people are good to me and they
told me he never would treat me any
y better. I hate to leave, for l couldn't
take the children. as I am not able to
work. I wash for I'VE on the dashboard
and the teacher compliments me on
sending the children to school so clean.
What can I do? He has been mad
now for week. WORRIED WIFE
TEAR WORRIED WIFE - The
- law was made to protect wom-
en- like you. You can divorce your
\ husband on the grounds OF .cruel