The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1931-06-01
By JUDGE THOMAS F. GRAHAM

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A recipe for marital happiness
for June brides and bridegrooms?
Two simple ingredients OF hu-
man makeup-tolerance and fore
bearance-haye more to do with
making home happy than any
thing I know Of.
And to June brides and BRIDE
grooms and those of all other
months let me urge tolerant atti-
tude toward each Others little fol-
bles; bathroom singing or whatever
they may be. Thus, the spirit of
forebearance in real adversity will
come easier.
Don't be mislcd, either, by the
establishment that may come dur
ing the first year OF married life.
Regardless Of what novelists may
write Of it as a golden era, the cold
hard fact is that during this first
year husband and wife throw off
the characters they falsely-al-
though ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS in
their courtship days, and assume
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Tolerance Is Vital
Remember: Tolerance and fore
bearance!
You'll find that marriage brings
practically a loss OF romance, and
more Conpanionship.
Marriage is a strange bargain.
On the surface, two people assume
its contract as a f1fty-ffty PROPOSE
ton. If they'll just maintain that
all is well. But too soon after the
ceremony, it's sixty forty, or win
ner- take-all" proposition.
And one of the surest WAYS of
attaining the f1fty-f1fty basis is to
comparatively start acquiring some
thing, with both plugging to get
out Of debt.
My earnest advice to 1881 newly
Weds is: Buy an automobile on
the lnstallnlent plan if necessary
but buy it. Then, buy a radio. Then
start buying furniture with the idea,
OF establishing a home.
Gives Stable Feeling
Nothing instills such a feeling of
in matrimony or citizenship
as does the sense of owning some
thing, acquired by joint effort.
You'll seldom see in the divorce
courts the couple starting life by |
buying a radio, an auto and furni-
ture-including the walnut dining
set almost paid for-and a baby |
buggy later. These people have in |
terests in common. They are too
constructively busy for thoughts of |
divorce.
Ownership Of material things, Sc
cured by sacrifices of both husband |
and wife, give happiness and feel
Ing Of progress. Couples who to- |
gether create homes in which they
take pride usually remain married. |
Home Is Best Insurance
In thirty years on the bench, I've
never heard of man trimming q,
then asking q divorce.
Women seldom neglect homes &C
quired or equipped by joint effort.
This $3.50 basis should be car
ried into the amusements. and other |
It is wonderful if the |
couple can enjoy outdoor sports
and games - especially baseball |
games-in common; like the same I!
books, plays, etc. That builds last
Ing conpanionship.
But if the bride insists upon the
bridegroom going out to play
bridge with her friends, she |
shouldn't object when the bride
groom in turn wants to entertain |
his Office and business friends at |
the new home.
Avoid Card Losses
Let both sides remember, too,
that losses through bridge or
poker are equally tough on the
baakroll.
Establish your own home, rather
than live with relatives. Be friend /
~ with each others relatives, be-
cause you'll need them all occa-
sionally. In your own. home, you
can bring q little "Spat" to g def
mite and peaceful conclusion.
Three-fourths of the troubles of |
folks never happen. Lots of |
the grievances they bring into
divorce courts are purely irnagi-
naryl
In thirty years on the bench,
hearing marital woes, I've learned a
lot about human nature. And I've
found that tolerance and forebear-
q divorce-are needed.