The Northwest enterprise. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1931-1952, 1931-01-22

Worried Mother: I can under
stand perfectly how you feel and
I'm awfully sorry that you have this
hard problem. ! do hopeI can help
you to see how it looks to me and
perhaps that will give you a sugges-
ton as to how you can manage in the
future. | feel very strongly that
there is no use in your saying an
other word to your husband about
the habit that worries you. 1t will
be great relief to you merely to
decide to change him and that you
are never going to say another word
to him about it. That is my advice.
Drop that load of trying to reform
him. Never speak to him about it
again. You have said all that can
be said. If he changes it will have
to be because he himself has thought
it over and decided he is doing
wrong. Good common sense tells you
that in order to do right by your
children and make your home happy
for them, you must get your sleep.
So go to bed, put this worry out of
your mind, and get your rest. You
will find that is easier to do than it
seems when you have once made up
your mind that you are going to stop
trying to do anything about getting
your husband to be. different. The
thing you need to concentrate on is
to make your home so happy that
your children will want to stay
there. Plan things that will keep
them at home. You have good
start on that for | can see you have
been very wise in making a point
of getting your children's friends
to come to your home. Can't you
say something to show your boys
and girls how much you appreciate
it when they stay at home instead
of leaving you alone? Can't you
make all your children feel that you
rely on them to keep you company
and make up to you for the loneli-
ness you would otherwise feel? |
don't mean that you should nag
them but simply that you should
show them how much you love to
have them with you and how much
you depend on their company. You
can make them feel it is their privi-
lege to make up to you for what
YOU WOulu OIneTWlSe HISS.
You are quite right in thinking
that "nagging" will wreck a home.
There is nothing that will do it
quicker. What you need to do is to
be a chum to your children. Keep
them so close to you in sympathy
and understanding that they will
love to Be with YOU and will want
to tell you everything. You can;
possibly do that if you nag them.
Let me repeat that the most i'm
portanf thing is for you to keep
your health if you want to make
your home happy. You are not re-
have to do is to take your husband
as he is and make the best of it.. |
know for sure that you will feel
tremendous relief when you make
wants to while you turn all your
wants to while you turn al lyour
thought and strength to making
your home a place where your chill
dren will love to be and to making
yourself their chum. As | said, you
have a good start on this. You have
been very wise in lots of ways that
ether women don't think about,
such as keeping up with the times
and making your home a meeting
place for the young people. SO you
have only to go on and work it out
along these lines. know it is per-
fectly possible to stop worrying just
by dropping the load and trusting.
You are Christian woman. You will
be shown just what to do next if
you keep your mind open for the
message. But you can't get the mes
sage if your mind is all stirred up
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