The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-06-09
Nice LOUe1~
Often Makes
Poor Hubby
nv MARTHA LEE

It's a strange thing, but any
number of men who make marve-
lous sweethearts turn out to be the
worst sort of punks as husbands.
A woman usually believes that a
man that is sweet and kind as a
sweetheart will be twice as sweet
and kind as husband. : Which is
all very good logic. excepting that
it fails to take into consideration
the fact that human nature has
way of playing tricks.
ANY one who is trying to make
an impression will put his best foot
forward, whether it is in regard
to social relations, business or what.
And very often, once he feels sure
of himself, he relaxes and becomes
firm advocate of the adage to
BE Yourself"
When a man is trying to persuade
girl that life will not be worth
living without MIN at her beck and
call, he is so sweet butter would
melt in his mouth. He never let's
her see him cross or irritable. His
sense of hunor is a JOY. He posi-
lively struggles to be everything ne
thinks she wants him to be.
Worst of Bargain
But it's asking a lot of man
to expect him to continue through
life that way. He simply has to
let off steam once in while, be-
cause after all he is human, even
if he is husband. Nobody can be
an angel all the time.
So after the wedding bells have
pealed merrily, and life has settled
down to a steady grind very often
the bride discovers that as a hus-
band her sweetheart is bitter dis
| illusion.
The wives probably feel they got
the worst end of the bargain; that
the men didn't play fair. That they
as women we're given false i'm
preston of the men during court
ship.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been separated
| from my husband several times. This
last time I have been away from him
seven months. If he would not look for
me and beg me to come back I could live
forever without him, although 1 love him
dearly. He is only considerate and kind
to me when we are apart. There could
be no better sweetheart, but as hus-
band he is impossible.
Husband is Jealous
! He is unreasonably Jealous "a trait he
never displayed before our marriage) and
| is continuously accusing me OF being In
| terested in some one else. He also is
uuarrelsome I earn twice as much as he
does and have always given toward the
support of our home when we we're living
| together.
I have worked four Of the six years
we have been married. And yet he OBJ
iected to me buying good clothes with
nv own money. He was i'll one year.
maintained our home and cared for him.
| and when he was we'll took him on trip.
During the trip. when was anxious TO
return he accused me of having some one
here to return to. In the meantime MS
mother told him had an affair with
some man during our trip. which was
the cause for our final break. Should
divorce him? He is begging me to come
| back. ~
Your husband probably is sicker
than you realize. Many times
physical illness reacts upon men
tally in this way.
Feels Inferior
Another thing you must CONSIDER
is the fact that your husband sub
consciously feels inferior to you be-
cause your earning capacity is so
much greater than his. There is
nothing wrecks the moral OF man
quicker.
If you love your husband, con-
vince him of the fact. He apparently
does not believe it. Then have an
understanding with him. No mar
rage without faith in each other
can be happy. If he wants you to
come back badly enough he will be
4 willing to start on that basis OF
faith.
Then it is apparent that you are
not very sympathetic in your attl-
tude toward him. When he be-
comes jealous, reason with him.
Tell him you love him too much
to pay any attention to any one
else. And make him believe it.
Put little self confidence into
the man. He is suffering from an
inferiority complex and taking it
out on himself by estranging you
| from him.