The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-28
Failing in
Love Easy
for Youth
BY MARTHALEE


A man who is in love with a girl
who thinks him a fine friend but
no more, wants to know how he
can make this girl fall in love with
him.
The metamorphoSis of friendship
into love is a common enough oc-
currence, but the secret that causes
the change still is a secret. Men
and women stumble on to the solu-
ton without ever knowing they
have. After the change has oc-
CURED it is too late to know what
the magic word was.
When one is very young it seems
g simple thing to fall in love. Boys
and girls fall in and out of love as
easily as few years before they
fell and skinned up their knees.
It SO happens that love, and sub
sequent marriage isn't a question
of reasoning. And youth, not being
acquainted with logic, is much more
apt to fall for the trappings of
love than older folk.
Ideas Are Definite
After man or woman has passed
the age of Is, falling in love be-
comes a more difficult problem.
A girl at Is has formed definite
ideas of what the man who is to
be her husband must be. Her
younger sister may have an ideal.
She may want a man who looks
like Barrymore, sings like John
Boles and dances like Jack Dona-
hue, but she will be content if she
lands one whose profile slightly re-
sembleS the famous John.
The 25-year-old girl has formed
ideas about what a man should be
that are little harder to find. She
wants intelligence, appearance,
money, position, all the intangible
that will go to make an
ideal marriage.
Sometimes, in desperation, because
she feels she is getting at an age
where she must marry, she will take
a man with some of the attributes,
but not all.
A man, as he grows older, is the
same. His wife, when he marries,
must have poise, distinction, an even
temper and amiable disposition. She
must be entirely devoted to him and
his interests. She must make up
to him for all his years of bachelor
hood.
Scares Them Away
Maybe that's what scares the girls
and men.
Dear Miss Lee-I am a bachelor doctor.
30. I have fallen in love with girl. 80.
a girl who has taken the place OF
mother in a home for years.
I find myself thinking of her every
minute and wanting to be with her all
the time. I also find have become ter
ribly jealous of her.
The other day I told her I loved her
and wanted her to be my wife. She took
it all as a Joke and told me she could
be lust my friend. She says her family
needs her and she never would get mar
ried until she felt sure Of real happiness.
could give her everything and I'm
sure I could make her much happier than
she is Shall I continue to see her or shall
I give her a chance to think things over2
Do you think a girl who has given all her
time to her family for so manv years
should remain single all her life for
them? Do you think she ever will want
to get married? DOC.
Sacrifice Is Noble
Sometimes the only way We ever
find out how much we care for
person is by being separated
from them for time. If you have
made the girl happy in your friend
ship, perhaps she will realize how
much you mean to her if you do not
see her any more for while.
[ know of no way of making a
woman fall in love with a man she
does not love. Her self sacrifice to
her family has been fine in its way,
but she is not justified in believing
she should give her entire time to
them.
Her statement that she never
would marry until she feels sure of
real happiness may have something
to do with her refusal. 1t might
help some to find out what her
idea of real happiness is, and then
up on yourself and what
you have told her.