The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-02
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HOIier Than
Thou Pose
Is Resented
BY MARTHA LEE

One of the greatest evils is the
existence of a certain class OF
women who hide a nasty mind and
a bitter heart under a cloak Of
saintliness.
These women, and there are men
of the same caliber, hold themselves
aloft on a pedestal because they
are church members. They use
their church that should be a holy
place for a clubhouse where they
may observe their fellow members
and exchange juicy morsels OF
scandal with the gossipS.
They pride themselves on being
able to quote the Bible. They can
recite numerous prayers and, on ac-
casion, can carry out the require
ments of the beatitudes, but to
their own advantage.
Resent Interference
These women resent interference
in their own affairs, and intrusions
into their families or intimate
circle of friends. Woe to the out
slider, who, unwanted, attempts to
break into the family through
marriage.
Why is it that husbands and wives
can not profit by the experiences OF
others, and realize that no home is
large enough to house two families?
Why must they be the exceptions
that will break the rule?
A mother-in-law, no matter how
good or how kind, and a daughter
in-law, no matter how perfect, car
not always cooperate. Advice
which is bound to come during a
crisis from a mother or a father,
is not always welcome.
Keeps Finger in Pie"
A woman of the type mentioned
above, does not know the meaning
of the word privacy" She prizes,
with the appearance of wanting to
help" she won't share her child
with another: she can't keep her
fingers out of the pie, as the follow
ing letter shows:
Dear Martha Lee-After two years Of
marriage I find I can go on nc longer
unless my husband shows me the respect
and consideration that he shows his
mother.
Because she is ol~d-fashioned and a
church member he thinks she can't do
wrong. and when she lies to him about
me he believes her and abuses me.
She is away on a vacation at present
and he will not even allow me to read
her letters to him. but if I refused to
let him read my mail he would become
suspicious and accuse me of all sorts OF
things. I read her last letter though, and
in it she accused me of being untaithtuI
and warned him to watch me-.
NY father has visited us once since
our marriage. and she insulted him so
that he never will come back.
How can anyone be so contemplate and
still think she is a good women? That
is one reason why I don't go to church.
I have met more deceitful women in church
than in any other place. She admits that
the only reason she hasn't married again
is that there is no man good enough for
her. If all church people are hypocrites
like her, I don't ever want to belong to
one. I feel that I can do better praying
at home.
Do you think my husband will change.
or should 1 leave him? May.
Don't give up just yet, May. You
have reached a critical point in
your marriage that will take a lot
of patience to weather. The two
year mark is a hard one.
Don't Nag About Letters
Can't you and your husband live
alone? 1t is such a trial for a young
couple to live with in-laws. You
owe it to yourself and to your hus-
band to make a success of your
marriage, and if you don't do it
under the present conditions, change
the conditions.
You'll just have to ignore her
"holier than thou" attitude. That
is the only way to treat her type.
Fights and arguments only serve
to make matters worse.s
Don't nag about her letters. After
all, letters ri personal.