The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-29
Policing of
Humans Bad
Thing tODO
BY MARTHA LEE.

his lCed OF policing the dCbIOLoS
thoughts and doings Of human be-
ings is the bunk.
II breaks up more marriages than
any other two causes. It splits up
friendships that might. II left TO
their own natural growths, end IN
FOmances and finally marriage. 1t
estranges children from their par
ents.
Wives who hound every step their
husbands take and pursue TO the
bitter end every thought he mani
tests, are very apt to find themselves
with no husband TO hound and pu--
sue.
Husbands who insist upon an
itemized account of every minute OF
their wives days will not have TO
itemize long.
Trust Is Necessary
Mothers and fathers who attempt
TO live their children's lives for them
by restricting and forbidding and
rebuking constantly will have l. ose
children only until they can ma re
a living for themselves.
Husbands or wives who continu-
ously are questioning their mates
about things are saying in so many
words that they do not trust them
any farther than they can throw a
grand piano. And trust. being one
Of the important materials from
which a stable foundation Of mar
rage is built, is a most important
item. It's lack presupposes the struc-
ture never is to be very firm.
Mothers and fathers who police
their children, especially during
their years Of growing into men ana
women. are committing a double
crime. They are evidencing to those
children that they do not trust them.
They also are stunning the growth
Of their own natural judgment and
intuitiveness and appreciate sense
OF right and wrong.
No Proving Ground
Mothers and fathers have all the
wears Of childhood in which TO IN
still into their children what Is
right and what is wrong, what Is
good and what Is bad. They give
them standards of values by which
10 Judge things. They give them
a set Of lessons in how to manage
situations and how to make the
most out of life. Then when the
fedRIines are ready to fly, the par
pnts NIT their feet down and refuse
to let the Youngsters take the air.
Not only that, but they do not even
compensate by providing proving
ground for them to try out tnelr
new knowledge. It's awfully unfair.
And the result is the kids probably
try their wings when every one else
is asleep.
Dear Miss Lei am II years old and
,snior in high school. When was 10.
NV mother was willing for me to have
occasional dates with the boys in school,
nv father objected strenuously. however.
I did not want to dlsohey him so SVsSeu
bons. The more stayed at home inc
,nore he wanted me to. He did not Wahe
me n have any dates until 1 was 10.
rro1, that I'm II. I am having teW
-, snvuav. but he saws plenty ana II
- -, cuarrei every time go out ne
set wants me to be old fashioned ana
stsv at home. He never will take me any
rlare himself That is why ! think ne ID
unfair. and I 20 against his VIII.
xvrat shall I do? Go whether ne wants
-. ~ or not2 I always treat my 1atner
tindlv and look after all his business al
f.irs since nv older sisters are not 81
home. 49, - =.
IL because he has no confidence in me?
MAE.
It's lust another case of parents
not wanting their children to get
past the stage where they wear
swaddIing clothes. Your older sis
tiers have fled the nest, and mes
bound and determined to ignore the
fact that you are growing up. He's
going to keep you a little girl as
long as he can.
Afraid of Losing Her
Your father does not forbid you
having dates because he does not
trust YOU. Having dates to him
means that you are old enough to be
thinking about boys. and that soon
YOU will be old enough to be think
ing Of getting married, and he's just
trying to put of that day.
If he wants you at home, why not
arrange with your mother to have a
party of your friends in OCCASION
aIly? Let him see for himself that
YOU of the younger generation can
have a good time just staying at
home, If the elders give you q
chance. Perhaps, after few Of
these gatherings, he may get over