The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-17
Single Girls
Should Shnn
Married Men
BY MARTHA LEE

A single girl who plays around
viii married man is lest from the
first. All that is common sense,
honor, decency. loyalty, cries out
against it.
The girl mas nothing to gain. The
man is bound To another woman.
Nine chances out of ten, he Will stay
that way. The terth chance is that
he will get a divorce and remain
single. his first marriage having dis
ilIusioned him for the time being.
Discarding these odds, say the
married man divorces his wife and
n1arries the single girl he has been
counting all the time he was sworn
to be true 70 his wife. What has
she got? She has life that will
be filled with suspicion and doubt
and perhaps, If she is a sympathetic
girl. sorrow for the misery and I'M
happiness the discarded wife is suf-
fering.
No woman ran build her happi-
ness on the ruins of another
woman's life am expect it to be
lasting. No woman can break up
another woman's home and remain
safe in the conviction that the home
she has built will be inpregnable to
the charms of yet another woman.
In such a home, there can be no
faith nor trust, consequently no re-
spect. And surely home standing
on a foundation that does not in
clude these things is bound to col
lapse with the first storm.
Cut Themselves OFF
Putting those things aside there is
this. Experience of other young
girls who have Become infatuated
with married men is none too rosy
to hear. They cut themselves off
from eligible young single men. Be-
cause single men haven't much use
for girl who Will step out with
married man. A man must figure
that a girl who will not protect her
reputation must lack something
fundamental in her character.
Too often to mention, these young
girls throw away their chances of
future happiness by allowing mar
ried men to cry on their shoulders
because they are misunderstood"
It's just a losing game all around.
Usually the girls are left holding
the we'll known burlap. And no
matter how decent they have been,
there always is sort of Smudge
connected with such an affair.
Those who manage to make the man
see the thing for him to do is to
divorce his old wife and try it again
with her, do so 70 their sorrow. 1t
Just isn't in the books for such
things to pan out well.
Here's a girl in just such mess:
Dear Miss Lee-I en- trying to handle a
situation which has gone so far beyond
me I don't know which way to turn.
About a year ago / met married man
with intelligence, charm and all the rest.
He told me his wife's faults. told me he
was going to get a divorce and that he
loved me dearly. He promised me every
thing and fell madly in love with him.
Lately, he has quit seeing me and when
i call him, he ouarrels with me and tells
me what fool have been. He says he
wouldn't think of getting a divorce and
that he is through.
She still Loves Him
I still am madly in love with him.
Just can't give him up. Since have not
seen him, can't work, eat or sleep. It's
getting the best of me. I don't see how
such man can rest after he has been
such cheat liar and cad. I think 1
should get even with him and make him
suffer as I have suffered. What shall
do. JUST ME.
You had better, try to forget him
as quickly and completely as pos
sible. Even if you would get him, it
would only mean constant suffering
such as you have been experiencing
lately. This suffering will pass, but
the other would last as long as you
lived.
There is nothing you can do to
get even" with him, as you express
it, except to forget him completely.
That will be tie most injurious
thing you could do to him. Nothing
else would aurt him half as badly
as it would you You might go to
his wife, but you would be branding
yourself a traitor to your sex, and
pretty much of a gullible fool. You
could sue him for breach of promise,
and let the whole world see what
sap you had been. Those things will
hurt only yourself.
If you forget him, you do yourself
good. You hurt him, because moth
ing Injuries man SO mortally as to
know that his "conqueSts" have a
difficult time remembering his name.