The Washington times., 1930-02-03
ADVICE TO
LOVEI1ORN
BY Beatrice Fairfax.

7 Owe can bring the greatest
- happiness or the greatest
sorrow. There is only one COM
plete human joy-the marriage
of two who love each other
with all their hearts and souls.
Happy, successful love and
marriage is.the natural quest Of
every man and woman. But
unfortunately, unrequited love
is all too common an expert
ence. Not all love is happy
love. Remuneration is often the
end OF the trail of romance.
Since love holds within itself
such possibilities of suffering
and JOY, how thoughtfully we
should try to be kind in our
friendships and affections!
Not every friendship can lead
to requited love. Often it hap
pens that a girl and a boy 60
about together as pals and
finally one of them becomes
seriously in love while to the,
other the companionship re-
mains one of friendship alone.
Bob and Betty, let us say, are
good pals. Bob loves Betty. and
Betty is fond Of Bob in a
friendly sort of way. Then she
meets Jack. They are attracted
to each other Straightway, and
soon are very much in love.
Betty owes a certain obligation
to Bob under these circum-
stances-the obligation to be
very kind in the manner in
which she gradually drops the
association with him and tells
hlm-H it is wise to do So-of
the deeper affection that has
come to her.
Girls too seldom think of the
feelings Of a man they do not
happen to love.
Il told Bob I never wished to
see him again, when met
Jack" Betty is likely to write
me. And she is likely to add
also, Nov I realize that after
all I do care for Bob, not for
Jack. How can I win Bob
back?"
Break gradually with a friend
who has been a good pal when
one still more dear begins to
monopoliZc your thoughts and
your heart. Be kind-appreci.
ate the old friendship. Keeping
steady company with the new
friend is not neceSsary-at least
at the very start. Gradually
encourage the one, gradually
explain to the other one how
things stand. And be kind.
A young man who had gone
about steadily with one girl for
many months found herself in
love with another and realized
that the former association
could never mean anything seri-
Gus in his life. But he did not
break off suddenly. Fewer in
vitations-a less Ella borate
Christmas gift-frank, friendly
talks regarding his feeling for
her-an these kindly, tactful
measures lessened the blow to
the girls rIide and affections
and turned her thoughts natu-
rally in the direction of other
young men. Meantime, his new
friend waited patiently-she,
also, had other friends. ...
In former days it was the
boast of many a "belle," as the
popular girl of other decades
was called, that she had re-
ceived dozens Of proposals of
marriage. She even Dragged
about them possibly, as a savage
might display his collection Of
scalpS to show his conqueStS.
But the modern girl is proud to
think she has managed her
friendships and her affairs of
the heart so tactfully,. SO kindly,
that she has not caused misun-
derStandlngS or raised false
hopes, and only the one man of
her heart las been led to ask
her to be his wife.
Thoughtful consideration Of
others is so essential to success
full romance and marriage that
I doubt whether real love could
ever at any time, under any cir
cumstanceS. ne other than very,
very kind.