The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-01-29
Girls Must
Understand
Alien Vie70
BY MARTHA LEE

If you want to find the real olHer-
ence between American and con-
tinental European men, just study
the difference in their attitude to-
ward women. And then. judge for
yourself whether you prefer the
American attitude, which gives
women free lance, makes them mod
EN- and sophisticated, or the Euro
pean attitude which makes them
dependent, sheltered and unmodern,
according to our standards.
A European girl, from the time
she is born, is guarded over, chap
eroned, disciplined and "bossed."
Her courtShip is conducted under
the watchful eyes of her mother
and father. She never goes alone
any place with the man she loves,
until she is married to him.
A continental girl who smokes,
takes a drink or is seen with man,
unchaperoned, is, with rare excep-
tons, a girl of the streets. There
is no question about the matter.
Those things are forbidden to
nice" girls, however poor and low
ly the family may be. Those things
are unmistakable tags by which
such girl is identified.
Amazed and Baffled
But in America, from the time
girls are old enough to step off the
first lesson of the black bottom, they
are allowed to go out on dates, I'M
chaperoned. They not only are al
lowed to go out, but they are per-
mitted to stay out until unspeakable
hours, according to European stand
ards.
Is it any wonder then, that men,
coming to America from a country
where no nice girl is seen on the
street after dusk, are amazed and
baff1ed by our girls who smoke, &C.
casionally drink with the men, and
are not averse to an occasional
Seni-dark cusS word?
Is it any wonder that they make
a number of mistakes. by judging
the American women by the stand
ards of their own country?
Dear Martha Lee am engaged to a
boy %, of foreign birth. He has good
character, many friends. and comes from
a fine family. Due to his experiences,
leaving home and his family to come to
this country to try to be successful. he
really seems older than he is. My grand
parents came from the same country, so
there shouldn't be much difference in our
understanding OF each others viewpoints.
have known this boy for more than a
year. He always treated me wonderfully,
and I was courteous to him, but at first
1 did not encourage him at all, because
I did not know just how we'll liked him.
I never considered him seriously until a
| few months ago
His constant devotion made an impress
sion on me, and finally I consented to
marry him In the spring. Our engage
ment was to be kept a secret. 1t seemed
| wonderful for while. He was so con-
siderate, and spoke Of the future often.
Lately his devotion to me has seemed
to dwindle. He comes to see me less fire.
ouently. He is not working just now, be-
cause his work is always slack in the
winter season, and I suppose this will in
terfere with our plans to be married in
the spring. When we were first engaged,
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quite late. Now see him only several
times week, and he stays Just short
! time.
He reads g lot, and says that I do not
know how to pass my time. A few days
ago, discovered that he had told his
room mate, with whom he has been stay
| ing for Just a week, about our engage
ment. I did not like this.
He will not consider me working after
| we are married, and that probably will
cause postponement OF the wedding.
PERPLEXED.
You originated from the same
countries, but you are as separated
| in opinion as though you were en-
gagged to a man out of the middle
ages, my dear. He probably is as
perplexed about your attitude as
you are about his. If you will make
a study of customs of courtShip in
his country, you will find he already
has overstepped the bounds of pro-
priety as he knows them.
| Make Sure of Sincerity
The fact that he spends a great
deal of time reading is very good
sign that he Is trying to advance
himself. 1 believe he is sincere in
his love for you and that he does
not understand that you are hurt
| because he is not Showering you
with the attentions and time that
American men give to their f1anceeS.
| If you do not feel he is sincere,
give up the idea of marrying him
until you are more sure of yourself
and him.