The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-10-06
Attempt to
Force LOUe
Is Faux Pas
BY MARTHA LEE

A love-sick swain who gets moth
ing but the cold shoulder from the
object of his affections will get
about as far as a year from next
Tuesday by trying to break in where
he isn't wanted.
Too many boys who fall hard
without even being tripped, to say
nothing of being noticed, once they
are down, get the idea that little
truth session is good for the case.
1t isn't. It's fatal. When a girl
has no leanings toward nor wishes
for the affection Of a boy he does
not forward his cause any by
thrusting his abject state into her
sight every time she happens to
cross his path.
Fails to Gain Results
That's about as tactful as putting
the spurs to runaway horse, and
about as effective in accomplish
ing the desired results.
When a boy is in love, infatuated
or any of the other expressions,
with a girl who never was aware
of his existence, let alone that he
might be good husband material.
the best thing he can do is arouse
her interest in him enough that she
will discover his shining qualities
for herself.
Once in a while a smartie gets
in some quick work by pulling q
William Haines and saying I'm
swell. You better give me the once
over before you go any further"
Luxury Is Desired
But that's as rare as an original
wise crack. And the boy who can
pull it off successfully has no bust
ness getting into a position where
he has to waste his talents so
wantonly.
Dear Miss Lee-I am Is and have been
going with a girl % for about year.
She has left home and moved into a
home with relatives. because the sur
roundings are more pleasant. / am never
invited to the new home.
We exchange letters and birthday gifts.
During some recent trouble. the girl
called at my home and stayed the after
noon and evening. I took her within a
few blocks of her home ana left.
I always have been in love with this
girl but I think she is playing with me.
I do not want to make fool of my
self. but no other girl interests me.
Do YOU think ! should tell her my real
feelings? have before and have been
refused. I would like to write her say
ing that I love her and want to have
our friendship on that basis or not at
all. JAMES.
You are crying for the moon
James, for no woman as selfish as
your little 22-year-old sweetheart
possibly can "see" you. She is look
ing for something a little different.
Love and devotion, such as you have
to offer her never are going to count
half as much as money and luxury
and the rest.
Likes to Be Admired
She is so clearly revealed in your
letter. Although she likes you very
much, and your devotion to her is
touching, she never thinks of you
as more than u friend. You satisfy
a certain longing she has to be adj
mired abjectly, as you do. But as a
husband you propably have never
entered her head.
Your only hope is to drop out of
her sight completely and let her
find out for herself if you mean
anything to her. And when you do
see her you would be furthering your
case by acting entirely Indifferent
to her charms. You must arouse
her curiosity. When she realizes
that you are less the door mat she
thought you We're and more a man,
she may be able to "see" you. But
not until. s--