The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-10-01
Opinion of
Public Must
Be Needed
BY MARTHA LEE

Mrs. Grundy and her sisters may
not be very pleasant neighbors to
have, but we all have them and
what are we going to do about it?
There is a very definite something,
which can not be ignored by the
bravest and most daring Of us. And
that something is public opinion.
II is all very well to say we do
not care what other people think
Of us as long as we think well of
ourselves, but that's pretty much
like the small boy whistling in the
dark.
We do care. All of us care. 1t
isn't human nature not to want to
be liked and thought well of.
The point is when we do things
that make us we'll thought of by
ourselves we are pretty sure to be
well thought of by others We can
fool people by doing all our dirty
work in the dark, being very secre-
tive and underhanded about our
sins, but we can't go on doing the
good and right things without 9TH
ers noticing.
Soothes Conscience
Many a girl who accepts occasional
luncheon dates With married man
soothes her conscience by saying she
knows the friendship is platonic and
that there is nothing wrong about
the fact that she has partaken of
meal with a married man as a COM
panion.
But the truth is not what counts
when it comes to reputation.
Whether there is anything wrong
about the engagement or not, the
world does not approve of such go
ings on. And girl can defy con-
ventions and the opinion of the
world, but it doesn't get her any
place.
It is just about the same with
men. They rave about the Mrs.
Grundys, but half the time Mrs.
Grundy gets her information from
her husband who has picked up bits
o. gossip here and there during the
day.
FdHuly IS luJuIeu
If men do not suffer actively from
defying conventions, they cause
suffering for their wives and chill
dren. These little thoughtless, in
advertent slips have their come
backs.
Dear Miss Lee-I have come upon a
problem 1 can not solve for myself 1t
seems silly for grown person to reach
place where they can not come to a de-
esion by themselves, but here 1t is.
NV husband has done something that
has caused me a great deal of humilia-
ton. He was out one night later than
usual on a business deal. When he left
.se office hi ran into chum. who asked
him to 20 Up to party for few
minutes.
NV husband did, and there was girl
there unescorted. They rather hung
around together He told me about it
when he got home. He did not leave with
the girl.
Later he met the girl on the street one
night and she was going up to the same
home to q party. He went along. Now
I trust my husband. I think he would
tell me the truth. But you know what
everyone else thinks. 1t humiliates me
terribly. What should 1 do about it9
UNDECIDED.
Dent do anything drastic. If you
believe in your husband, that is all
that is necessary between you two.
But your husband has no right to
place you in the position he has. He
not only has Inundated you, but he
has placed you in a false light.
Reflects on Wife
1t makes others believe that you
are failing him in some way; that
he would seek other company. That
is one Of the cases where outside
opinion does count, because it re-
fleets SO glaringly upon you, and in
such false light.
You should try to make him I'M
derstand this, rather than do any
thing about the situation itself. 1t
is a past event, and you have been
quite liberal in excuSing it. But it
should not happen again.