The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-19
Criticism of
Child Hurts
Character
BY MARTHA LEE

If men and women only could
realize how deeply and permar emily
inferiority complxes affect our lives
they surely would be more kind,
more tactful in their dealings with
young folk.
When We are hurt deeply 1hen
we are young, the result of that hurt
remains, rather than the memory
Of the hurt itself
II Is too bad it has to be that way.
Because so often when we have
grown and could use our influence
upon the young people we come in
contact with, we repeat the injury
done us when We we're young be-
cause We do not remember.
Character Affected
Many a parent, in trying to cor
rect q fault in his child leaves a
wound that never heals, that car
ries its influence, inadvertently
through the entire life of the child
Instead of correcting the faults
the methods employed so often
spread themselves into the rest of
the character until, instead of i'm
provement being the result, the
whole character is undermined.
A mother who admonishes her
child constantly to straighten up, to
throw out his chest and square his
shoulders does so in the hope Of
correcting the childs carriage. But
the result is entirely opposite
The Child becomes self conscious
of his posture so that he is embar-
raised to have to walk before peo-
pie. It makes him dread meeting
other people, because the mother
has instilled into his mind that he
is badly in need of correction before
he ever can be liked by other
children.
Erased With Difficulty
And this idea of himself permeates
his whole child life and is erased
only with difficulty.
Dear Miss Lee-I am girl 81. am
average looking and wear nice clothes
have had good education. And yet
I am total flop.
The reason I do not 20 over big with
boys is because I am such a dumbhell
on a date. I am so self conscious that
1t is agony for me to meet new people
or to be around them at all.
Although I want to mingle with the
Young crowd. have dates and he popular
with the bows I'd almost rather sit home
alone than endure the agony of seeing my
self fail every time ] 90 out.
Ever since 1 have been little girl my
mother and father have sort of made me
feel like / wasn't quite as much as my
two brothers. When ] had something to
say I always was made to feel it was not
as interesting as the things my brothers
said.
They said had the feminine habit of
talking too much about nothing When
/ was younger 1 used to be hurt. but
soon / learned to keep quiet and save my
feelings. I guess I have done that so
long that I am lust a dummy now.
think of things to say. but they seem
so nat I lust don't say them and then
the moment is past and I have said
nothing at all. The whole evening passes
like that. What can I do2 JENNY.
You are just conscious. per-
AloPo' HCSduoC Va bIlC dbIIJuQ6 Oh your
parents, and perhaps because you
naturally are more sensitive than
you have right to be.
Battle Half Won
People hate super sensitiveness in
other people. 1t makes them so un-
comfortable to be around people who
sit silent, looking self protective.
You apparently have acquired that
awful habit.
It is not your silence itself that
the young boys and girls dislike. 1t