The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-06-13
Marriage to
Reform Man
Is Hopeless
BY MARTHA LEE.

Until women become wise enough
and sane enough to realize 1t is
easier to change the stripes OF
zebra into a nice spotless coat than
it is to reform man after you
marry him, there are bound to be
more unhappy marriages and con-
sequently divorces than necessary.
It's as true as two and two max
ing four, no matter how you add
them, that what man is before
he takes unto himself a wife, SO
shall he be afterward, only more so.
Brave feminine souls forever are
sacrificing themselves on the altar
of humanitarian service by marry
ing some mama's bad boy in order
to show the world just what a good
woman can do. Which isn't bravery
at all, but just plain foolishness.
If a man has shown definite Ten
denotes toward being incorrigible
before marriage, and he isn't cured
of them. there isn't a chance IN the
world that welded life will tame
him. In fact, it is very apt to have
the exactly opposite effect upon
him.
There is a spirit of the crusader
about a woman who will marry a
rake and expect to make him
model husband. But it isn't exactly
an admirable spirit, because 1t mas
no logic behind it.
A wise woman knows that she
must exert her effort for reform be-
fore the ceremony. If the man
wants to marry her badly enough,
he will change into what she wants.
But once he's married, he'll be him
self and make her like it "or else" "
The girl who marries man WIN
the idea of reforming him has a
tremendous job on her hands. Most
women give up and leave, or resign
themselves to the inevitable. In the
first place, what would be loving
sacrifice on the part of a man be-
fore marriage becomes an irksome
task afterward. A woman, in order
to impress her husband with the
need of reform, either must nag him
to death or be gloom and hurt
pride itself hanging around the
house. However, here is a young
wife who wants advice along these
lines:
Dear Miss Lee: I have only been mar
ried year and am miserably unhappy.
NV friends talked against my husband
when I was contemplating marrying him.
They said I knew his reputation and that
it was foolish for me to risk my happi-
ness with a man of his type.
felt he always had been misunderstood.
That he was not as bad as everyone
painted him, and that besides he loved
me so much. he would be different after
we we're married.
But find our marriage has made no
difference. Recently discovered he has
been unfaithful to me. That he has had
several affairs since our marriage. He
leaves me alone constantly. do not
want to leave him. I do not care for a
divorce because love him and believe in
spite of all this that he loves me. Is
there any way can cope with this situa-
ton.
UNHAPPY 6fC1O6s
If you sincerely believe he loves
you, it would be best for you to
leave him and allow him to make
UP his mind which he would rather
have, you or his silly affairs with
other girls. He never will change as
long as you are there every night
when he comes home.
1t is silly for girl to think she
can change philanderer into car
pet slipper husband. But women
do believe it and once in a while
they accomplish it, if the men love
them enough to know their wives
won't stay with them any other
way.
Simply read him law and stick
to it. After he has found out that
these little night jaunts with diff
ferent girl at his side every night,
is nothing compared to your love
and attention, he'll come crawling
back thoroughly chastened. And if
he doesn't love you enough, it would
be better to separate than to have
your heart broken three or four
times week from now on until
you die.