The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-22
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in Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

A list of the most serious buga-
boos in marriage easily could be
compiled, if we could get a list OF
the real reasons why wives and
husbands divorce each other.
A fairly comprehensive list Of
causes for thinking of the divorce
court as way out of a matrimonial
maze could be made up just by
reading some of the letters from
unhappy husbands and wives.
Jealousy takes first prize as a
permanent trouble maker and love
killer. To jealousy and its subse-
quent events goes the double-bar-
relied shotgun for running more
marriages than any other one
cause.
Nagging, suspicion, laziness. in
creasing careleSsness in manners, "a
marked distinction in the attitude
of the man or the woman before
and after marriage, all are con-
tributing causes toward the break
ing up of homes.
Some will say But how about in
fidelity? That's one OF the biggest
reasons of ALL"
1t is my belief that few married
men are unfaithful without some
cause. BY that, mean one OF the
items mentioned in the first list OF
causes for divorce usually Is respon-
sible for the unfaithfulneSs
Unless the wedding is for con-
venience or necessity or some rea-
son other than the only reason any
marriage ever would be performed,
both the man and woman intend
for it to be a stable, lasting, happy
affair.
Granting this, and common sense
is enough to convince doubters that
it is the only thing that would in
duce a man to take on the reSpon-
sibiIities and expenses of wife,
family and home, then the causes
for breaking up that home must
come from within.
Few Who Cheat
There are few men who would
cheat on wives who have absolute
confidence in their marital integrity.
Men can not bear to deceive women
who trust them.
But let a wife be constantly sus-
picious, jealous, accusing their nus
bands constantly of unfaithfulness,
and right there is the seed OF mil
deity sown.
That's what I mean when 1 say
that infidelity in itself seldom is
real reason for divorce. Back OF 1t
may be one of a number of things.
And more often than not it will be
jealousy. Here's a typical example
of the story.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married
three years to the only girl ever loVeu'
Before our marriage she seemed pertect.
So sweet. understanding. so pretty ana
neat. She wanted us to get along. Sne
told me her ideas of how we coulo save
| after we were married
Since we have been married. things have
changed radically. I make falr salary.
She still has ideas about saving and how!
We can not 60 out and have good time.
because she disapproves of suuandering our
money when we could be saving 1t. she
tbeerudges every cent we spend on 1ooo'
clothing and things Of that sort.
Next. she has become very careless OF
her appearance. She is very sloppy around
the house, and since she does not care
about going out, I seldom see ner oreSseo
Lately I have resented her putting the
reins on US so tight. like to go out
and have a good time occasionally. Sew
oral months ago I revolted and when
she wouldn't go with me, went alone
Since then I have gone out few times TO
a show. Now. to top 1t all of she mas
become terribly jealous. She accuses me OF
all sorts Of things. Heaven knows how she
figures I can he very wild on the spending
money I have out of my weeks salary.
am utterly miserable. MY marriage Is
nothing as I had planned. Is there any
thing I can do to save it?
DISCOURAGED.
You would better assert yourself
Immediately. You are a man, the
husband and head of your house.
You are not man to squander your
money, from what you say. Your
wife has dictated for three years,
three years that have meant unhap-
piness for you both. She has had
her turn and failed.
1t seems time for you to take the
reins in your own hands. Simply
tell her how things are going to
be from now on. That you both are
going to enjoy an evenings amuse-
ment occasionally, and that if she
refuses to go, it must be understood
that you have the privilege of go
ing without being accused OF. all
sorts of things. Also tell her to
perk up in her appearance.