The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-06-12
Child First
to Suffer in
FamiIyFight
BY MARTHA LEE.

In the general run of affairs, the
rights Of mothers and fathers TO
their children rarely is questioned.
When family life is normal and
smooth running as family life in
America can be. the mother has her
special duties toward her Children,
and the father has his.
The mother sees that the children
are fed and clothed properly; that
their education is pursued along the
lines required; that their needs,
both physical, mental and some
times spiritual are cared for.
And father IS the one who pro-
vides the wherewithal for these
things. He usually supervises the
hours between dinner and bedtime.
When things are running smooth
" between father and mother, the
children get along fairly well, too.
They have things done for them,
and there rarely seems any occasion
for quarreling about which parent
should do what. Each one seems to
have his definite duties and definite
rights.
Children Suffer First
20 But just let there be a strain on
the family ties. and the first severe
sufferers viii be the children. Things
thai never before have been points
Of difference will rise up like noun
tains Of trouble. And the children
are the ones who suffer, while their
parents argue and haggle.
The mother usually has the best
of the bargain. Almost without ex-
ception. mothers are judged the
more suitable to keep the children.
Father contributes to their support
and sees them when he can, which
makes it pretty tough for man
who has a real paternal instinct in
his heart.
Dear Miss Lee: I would like you to help
me solve a problem. 1 married a fine
girl but I guess do not understand
her. We have a baby boy Just a few
months old. NY wife SAYS she loves me.
want to believe she does.
After our marriage. we STAYED with her
parents almost year. I did not like it
and told my wife so. I worked hard try
ing to get home for us. I gave nv wife
all Of nv money every pay day. allowing
her to give me my spending money. She
saved the money and bought clothes with
it. when I wanted to buy furniture.
Living at her parents home became
so unbearable 7 finally persuaded her to
leave with me. Although we didn't have
our own things. 1t was our own place at
least. We got along fine until I got laid
of. She became unbearable and finally
left. She viii not even speak to me.
In Court Twice
Since she left she has had me in juve-
nile court twice for not supporting the
child. I viii not live at her parents. and
she will not live at mine. because her
mother has told her my mother dislikes
her and talks about her. 1 am not even
allowed to see my baby because haven't
got the amount Of money the court saws
! must pay each week. Should divorce
her or Just let her alone?
Everyone worries almost to dis
traction when finances are Shaky.
Especially with a small baby to care
for. Right now, there is nothing
you can do. After you find job,
try to save monsy and buy some
furniture. Then ask her to bring
the baby back.
Under the circumstances, I can
not see how she can refuse to let
you see your little son. 1t seems
Unnecessarily cruel.
= Don't divorce your wife. She is
young and has a lot to learn. Once
she is away from her parents, things
swill be different for both of you.
And besides, you have your little boy
to think of. 1t isn't fair not to be
with him when he is growing up.
Here's a tip though. When you
and your wife do go back together
again, don't be quite so easy. No
woman admires and respects man
she can twist around her little
finger