The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-15
Youth More
Logical on
Ne7O Ideas
BY MARTHA LEE

WHe0 one taxes u1JO CDIlolurI j.
ton that parents were meant TO
be the closest, most intimate friends
children have. it is amazing to find
the number Of parents who do not
understand their own offspring IN
the least.
Children and young people al
ways are either gloriously happy
or despondenGly unhappy. They
have such a hard time striking
q middle road.
Youth is period Of transition,
when ideals are shattered with
painful and sometimes lasting re-
suits. It is a time when ADJUST
ment between thought and reality
are hardest to accomplish
Ideals Are Shattered
There must be something wrong
in our system of education that
sends fedglings into the world with
the idea that everything is perfect.
that all people are good and kind
and considerate, that the CONNER
eisl world is Just waiting with open
arms everhowing with opportunity
for young, ambitious boys and girls
to make money.
There must be something anllsS
that allows parents to spend years
building I'D a set of ideals in their
own children, which they themselves
never bother to follow, only to have
tbose children find in the end that
all the fine talk was just talk, even
in their own homes.
Children believe more infallibly IN
what they see than what they hear.
Thst example, day after day, viii
he the criterion by which they
mold their lives, not a lot of talk
which is discredited completely ten
minutes later by the parents doing
precisely what they have told their
children neither is nice nor gooo
for them.
Children More Logical
All ideas to the contrary. children
and the very young are much more
consistent, much more logical tnan
older folk. They get all mixed up
Ia their minds when people tell
them one thing and do the oppo-
site.
near Miss Lee-Ever since / nave oeeh
r,,i. kid nv father has told me how in
s,,,ts,,- a would he for me to smoke before
was q and how awful It was to drink
,lcohoIio 1iouor and how necessary II was
for ma always to be studious and atteh-
nv. because success and wealth came 70
nan who paid strict attention to business
Mother always has instilled IN ne now
snnortant It was for me to attend sun
dsv school and church and how important
a uas for me always TO he zentlemonY
and courteous to women
always believed what they told me ana
really tried to live up to all they expected
~ me But rye found out that they
we're as insincere in what they were try
inv IN foist of on me as all the rest OF
tbs world.
Of course I always have seen father
smoke. even when he was telling me how
injurious II was he usually was putting on
= cigar. But thought that was Just be-
cause he was past 81 and could smoke
without iniuring himself. It's been that
nav all the way through When they did
the opposite from what they said. I
thought It was because they we're older
and 1t didn't make much difference.
They sent me away to school last wear
And I found out how they had been
rvpping me When I tried to be gentle
manly as they had explained gentlemanly
to me- the fellows all thought I was a
sissy It was terrible wear.
It has taken me all summer to readiust
myself. so that I could think about last
year without being hurt. And now they
are insisting go back. How can make
them understand they have made it i'm
possible for me2 Thew think I am being
supersensitive and silly.
It is so difficult to make parents
understand that their method of
procedure does not work in real
life. They have a problem on
their hands even they know Moth
ing about. Ask them to give you
a year of your own, and try to
readjust yourself so that your
ideals will withstand the thrusts
of other folks lives Ideals and
life are compatible. only it takes
some balance to make the two mix
properly.