The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-02-24
Conscience
May Cause
Unhabbiness
BY MARTHA LEE

In order that maximum amount
of happiness may be obtained for
ourselves, there are certain funda-
mentals which so obviously are true
that they must be observed.
One of them is to be as good as
we know how. No person who does
things he knows to be wrong can
be happy. The devastation of sin
is not, really, what others think of
us for what we have done, but what
we ourselves think. The suffering
that comes from the opinion of the
outside world is an atom in COM
parison to the pain our own con-
sciences can cause us.
The effect of such suffering will
write itself all over our faces. 1t
can be seen in our eyes and in our
smiles. That is why Self-reSpect
is so much more important to us
than all the praise and fanfare of
world of people.
Wife Left Him
Next to ourselves, those whose re-
spect is most important to our hap
piness are members of our fami-
lies. It is not so bad to have the
diSrespect of those we see only once
in a while.
But to live, day after day with a
family casting an accusing eye,
whose every glance bears scorn or
misery or hatred, is living death,
especially if those glances have been
kindled by things we have done.
Dear Miss Lee-I am 26 years old and
have been married three years. I have
one son. My wife has left me. and
taken our boy with her. I do not ex-
actly blame her for going. but I want
her back, and that is what 1 am writing
to you about.
Lost Self Respect
Our trouble started in the usual way.
1t may be that I was too young to be
married, but whatever 1t was, 1 started
being unfaithful to my wife after We had
been married a little over year. You
see We had the baby about a year after
our marriage. and she was tied down
with the child. And besides I felt she
was more interested in her child than
she was in me. With her 1t always was
the baby first.
Any way. I vent along and she didn't
find out about things at first. I didn't
make so very much money. and as re-
suit I started running bills for things
that were not for my home. We got be-
hind financially, and that was how she
found out about 1t ell. For about three
months she stayed with me, trying to get
out indebtedness Strengthened out.
Things kept getting worse and worse
and now she is gone. I realize now what
a great wrong 1 have done. Not only to
ner and my son, but to myself. I have
lost that which Is dearer than life. the
love and respect of my wife, and my
own self-respect. Is there anything 1
can do to set things right with myself
and my wife? --
Start Unraveling
When life becomes SO terribly in
volved, the only thing to do is to
sit yourself right down and start
unravelling it. The first and most
important thing is to free yourself
of debt. AS long as you are involved
financially, because of your own
wrong doing, you hardly can ask
your wife to come back. She should
not be made to suffer physical as
we'll as mental discomfort for your
sins.
Even the books financially. Then
make yourself worthy of her by
proving to her that you love her
more than anything else in the
world. She loves you, or she would
not have stayed on to help you
/ through your difficulties, as long as
she did. Gain back your own self
respect and it will not be hard to
win hers. You have a son. who
some day will be a man, with the
understanding to condemn or
praise you. And he never will con-
denim you for what you have done
if you redeem yourself in your own
! pUac