The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-03
LOUe Alone
Not Enough
in Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

About the middle of June whole
flock of fresh young things were
spewed out of schools and colleges,
to enter the business Of earning
their living for the first time.
A lot of them already have
learned bit about this business OF
living. They are chock full Of theo-
ries and ideas. And dying to have
some one to practice on.
Some of the girls have spent the
years in school, fitting themselves
for some special line of work. Some
of them have careers all mapped
out for themselves.
But most of them are taking jobs
with one eye cooked on the marriage
license bureau, an ivory satin gown
and tulle veil and little apartment.
Most of them are pretty well &C
quainted with a number OF boys
they've known in school. But those
boys Just were interesting entertain
ment to help pass the time away.
Now comes the real business OF
settling down to the hunt for a
husband.
Want More Than Sugar
These girls that have taken their
economics seriously are not going
to be lured into the bare cottage
by the promise of sugar. Their
diets call for something much more
substantial. They want love, with
out doubt. But they want love
that walks hand in hand with COM
Portable security. And since they
have respect for that, since they
know it brings happiness, that is
what they are looking for.
Dear Miss Lee-I am engaged to be
married. The wedding is to take place in
the fall. The boy I am to marry has
several very excellent qualities. He Is kind
and has a marvellous disposition. He is
well educated and we have great many
Of the same likes and dislikes.
Among his bad qualities is a sort OF
satisfaction to Just get by at his work
and rather lazy attitude about life.
love him. but since I have noticed these
traits in him, do not love him as much
as I did when we first were engaged. Dc
YOU think he will make good husbands
He wants things but that's about as far as
it goes. UNDECIDED.
1t is very important that the
character of young man who is
to become husband shall want
things that he shall have an aim In
life-a goal to reach.
But all wishbone and no back
bone is a bad foundation for man
who is about to take upon himself
the responsibilities of a wife sno
family.
He's Bad Material
An ambitionless man, who has
only a hazy desire to get ahead
without the energy to make the de-
sire become a realization, is bao
material foe a husband.
I do not believe you are in love
with this boy enough to marry him
Apparently you have been engaged
to him for some time. 1t takes cour-
age to break an engagement, es-
| peclally Wnen your redSO-l Is az
nebulous as yours is going to sound
It may even sound cruel and mer'
cenary on your part.
But it would be far wiser to ash
for a release from the bargain nov
than it would be after you haC
married. Life in cottage, will
love as a constant menu has beer
tried time and again, and failed.
1t seems to me an essential par
of admirable character include
ambition, and a. desire to do NOR
important things constantly. Am
bition does not necessarily mean ;
desire to see the pay envelop in
crease. If ambition is real ant
sincere enough, that will follow.