The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-04
Bossy' Child
Ruins LiUeS
ofParents
BY MARTHA LEE

SO much has been written and
faid about parents interfering with
their children's lives that I think
it's about time some one came TO the
defense Of those parents whose
children order their lives as soon
as they are able TO utter a word.
Sometimes children unconsciously
direct their parents lives. because
the parents arc sapS enough 70
wrap their entire interests in the
children from the time they are
spanked by the doctor to make them
CRY.
At other times children change
the entire course and plan of the
lives Of THEIR mothers and fathers
BY making demands upon them.
And believe me. nothing Is more
obnoxious 10 an outsider than an
offlcious child and a koY-towing
parent
Lose Child's Respect
Parents who have gone along,
happy. fairly we'll content and
thinking themselves rather all right
as people 20 find themselves quite
disillusioned about things when the
children get old enough to tell
them Just what's wrong.
They correct their manners. their
English, their way of doing things;
criticise them and boss them
around. Some parents won't take
Il. and put their children in their
places. Others remodel their whole
lives after the ideas Of their whip
pcrsnapper offsprings.
Like a man who allows his wife
to boss him around, parent who
allows his child to tell him to part
his hair and drink his soup loses
the respect and admiration OF his
child.
Met Interesting Man
And when it comes to older chill
dren directing the destinies of their
parents, things have gone too far.
Dear Miss Lei am a widow. IS years
old. I have two children. a son and
daughter both IN their early 2os. They
are GOOD children have never cause me
any worry. They we're bright in school
and now both are through and arc self
supporting.
Ny husband died when the children were
lust babies and I vas Just Yong wom-
an. All these years I have devoted myself
20 the rearing Of nv children. as we'll as
providing for their support. I worked as
soon IS they we're Of school age. and con-
tlnued to work all these wears.
Several wears ago I met man whom
liked very much. He seemed to care some
Tor me too. In all these years I have not
gone out with men. because was too busy
with my work and my children.
This man has appealed 10 me more than
any other man since my husband died. He
has been lovely to me and to my children.
The children have dates and 20 out eve
ninss II would have been very lonely for
me with out his compsnionship.
Now he has asked me to marry him.
lie is a bachelor. 50 or more. He has
good steady position. not a wealthy man.
but abie TO take care OF me-
I have talked II over with my children
and thew will not even hear Of it. 1t is
not that they do not like him. but they
seem to object to having a stranger"
come between us. They say nothing viii
ever be the same n marry him. That
they can never fee the same to me. What
do YOU think should do? MI.
Your children are being selfish
and narrow minded. After all you
have given them they are showing
little appreciation to you in re-
turn. They will both be gone soon,
to their own homes with own mates.
Then you can sit by yourself, or go
on working until you are too old.
Your life will be lonely always if
you listen to them. You will not
90 into their homes to live when
they leave. which means that you
viii be alone or with some other
soul like yourself.
II you love the man and feel he
can make you happy, and you in
turn can make him a good wife, by
all means marry him. Your chill
dren will change their views later.
Give yourself and your future first
consideration in this case.