The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-26
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BY MARTHA LEE

About once a week, we must get
back to the question of divorce. Our
readers, some of them who contem-
plate airing their troubles in court,
insist that the question be gone over
again and, again, from all angles.
The point most Of them want
understood before they call upon
judge to straighten out their marital
tangles, is the assurance that the
divorce really will untangle the
mess, and not make it worse, as has
been suggested might occur.
When man and woman, who
have married, come to the point
where it is impossible for them to
continue on together the logical
thing would be for them to sepa-
rate, if necessary, definitely.
Divorce Easy Solution
When there is no one else to con-
slider, just the man and the woman,
who have found their marriage con-
tract irksome or boring or impos-
Sibly exacting, or have found the
other party of the contract is not
living up to the agreements of the
contract, a divorce easily is the
solution.
Of course there may be the
troublesome attachment they have
formed for each other. There may
be the memories of the nice things
about the marriage (Which in
cidentally are apt to outlive the I'M
pleasantnesses of IT'D to interfere
with complete happiness in separa-
ton.
But all those things are individual
in their power to do good or bad.
But when there are children to
consider the matter assumes pro-
portions that well may cause a man
and woman, who have been man and
wife, to pause before the contract
is broken.
Children Take Sides
Children are bound to be
pivotal point in the lives of their
parents. 1t must be of paramount
Importance to both the fathers and
mothers of the world that their
children shall believe them to be
fine people.
Invariably when the divorce is
granted and the question of "who
shall have the children" comes up,
the children will take sides against
the parent who has them by ruling
of the court and become, in reality,
sometimes staunch cohorts of the
parent who has been deprived of
their company.
So it turns out that the parent
who gets them by ruling of law
often loses them as surely as though
the order has been reversed.
Parents contemplating divorce
are not the same as men and
women thinking about the same
problem. In the case of parents
who go to court to be legally sepa-
rated, they are not Mr.. and Mrs.
So-and-So. They are Mother and
Father So-and-So. Their problems
are not hinged wholly upon their
likes and dislikes in the matter.
The answer must come only after
the good of the children is con-
sidered thoroughly.
It is a rare case where child is
better off deprived of it's father or
mother. It is rare home that
profits by the leaving of one or the
other parent.
Can Not Be Divided
Children can not be divided up
like property when "a man and his
wife decide to call it quits. They
have inalienable rights and among
those is the companionship OF both
parents and the atmosphere and
background of a happy home life.
Granting there is nothing worse
for child than living in an at
raosphere were there is continuous
quarreling and controversy, where
the air always is tense with unsaid
words, it also must be admitted that
among civilized, educated, unself1sh
men and women the reason for all
this could be eliminated if the same
care and time and patience would
be expended in solving the problem
that would be taken should the
same situation arise in business
agreement, between tWoN business
men who have signed contracts to
devote their lives to furthering the
interest of mutual business.