The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-06-10
Being Sorry
for Mistakes
Not Enough
BY MARTHA LEE

Being sorry for mistakes does not
rectify them. We have to check it
up against experience.
Majority of people, meeting
crisis, act impulsively without think
ing of the consequences. When the
act is done they have time to think
Wouldn't it be better to think
things CIT at the time of the
crisis? Usually at such times few
minutes ore way or the other make
little difference, and how much diff
ferent peoples lives would be for
those few minutes. So often it's
case of "out of the frying pan and
into the fire."
Tempers flare, harsh words are
spoken, and before one has a chance
to think clearly a break of some sort
is made. In this way marriages are
smashed. The husband walks out
and slams the door. The wife packs
up and goes home to mother. There
is no chance of an immediate recon-
Citation and the words rankle.
Difficult to Heal
It is much harder to patch up a
quarrel when the hurt has been
allowed to settle. It's like wound.
If infection is allowed to set in,
instead of soothing with a balm, it
is difficult to heal and may be fatal.
A reader has written about
separation. She left her husband
and now wants to return but he re-
fuses to accept her.
Why didn't she know she would
be sorry, before she left him? She
doesn't mention the circumstances
that brought it about, but says it
was her fault. In that case, do you
think the man is justified in re-
fusing to allow her to return, or do
you think that he is wrong in his
stand?
Separated for Year
Should man, or a woman be
permitted to act hastily in sit
uation of this sort, and at a rough
place in the marriage, pack up and
leave the ether to shoulder the
burden alone? Or should the guilty
one be given another chance to
prove his nettle?
Dear Miss Lee-I have been separated
from my husband for nearly year, For
the past six months I have been begging
him to take me back but he refuses. Now,
I am UP a stump.
I love my husband and he has his mind
set. He says he loves me. but will not
have me back. He says his reason is that
he wants tc teach me a lesson.
Miss Lee, it is every bit my fault that
we had trouble. I didn't have any sense
or wouldn't have left. 1 am eighteen
and have a baby boy year old.
1 am willing to sacrifice anything to
make things right and make our mar
riage a success. 1 can see things diff
ferently than I did year ago. I see my
mistakes and am sorry for them. Is
there any way I could convince him that
my intentions are right? What do you
think of a divorce? BILLIE JEAN.
You should be scolded for making
mess of your life, Billie Jean, but
it would not help matters any. It
will be a lesson, however, that the
next time you have trouble you will
think of something other than your
self.
Willing to Sacrifice
wouldn't consider a divorce I'M
less your husband demanded one.
Be a good girl, take care of your
baby, and in that way show your
husband, if he is interested, that you
would be willing to act differently.
If he loves you, and you can con-
vince him, not by your words but
by your actions, that you love him
and would be willing to try to make
things run as smoothly as possible
for him he may change his mind.
After all, a girl should be willing
to sacrifice her wishes occasionally
to those of her husband. She may
be the housewife, but he is the
bread-Winner.