The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-08
Child Needs
United Love
of Parents
By MARTHA LEE

One of the first things that
parents in all fairness owe their
children is the chance Of sturdy
character in later years, brought
about by proper environment during
infancy and childhood.
Heredity is important, yet not
any more so than environment. The
child's whole foundation is built up
on reactions formed in his infancy.
Impulses created as a result Of
training will carry through to his
later years, and reflect on his early
days.
This environment need not be
luxurious and indulget to be proper.
It should be formed by the. parents
correct attitude. The parents them
selves, through their teaching,
conscious and unconscious, de-
termine to great extent their
child's character. Instinctively, the
little ones take them for models.
Nature Is Dwarfted
Parents owe their children love
and understanding. No child de-
serves to be brought into the world
and be shown the cold shoulder. In
fants receive impressions by some
process of thought transmission, and
lack of sympathy seems to dwarf
their natures in later life.
A child deserves the care and
attention Of both mother and
father. There are things that a
child derives from each parent that
can not be substituted by the other.
There are things that child gets
from the unity of his parents that
he can not get singly.
Mother" and father" each have
a different meaning for the child,
and in order that his babyhood and
youth may be well balanced, there
should be no separation between the
parents that possibly can be avoided.
Separated Two Years
A father writes to ask whether
or not he should take back his wife,
from whom he and his child are
separated.
Dear Martha Lee-I wonder if you can
help me make UP my mind?
MY wife and have been separated for
two Fears. We have a child three years
old. whom have had since we parted.
She left me because I would not leave
my parents and make a home for her.
She was a terrible housekeeper. was un-
tidy. and at times neglectfui with our
baby. didn't think she deserved a home,
although I loved her and till do. I wanted
to teach her lesson. She was only II.
The last six months she has changed.
She works every day. and keeps her
apartment neat. She has made herself
over and has been begging me to take
her back. Until now have ignored her.
But now she is so wonderful 1 worship
her. She is willing to sacrifice everything
to be with baby and me. but don't want
to have the same thing over. want
home of ours to be happy one.
Do you think she is serious or may be
pretending? Shall I take her back and
start all over again? JOE.
Take Her Back, Joe
Joe, I don't see how you have held
off so long.
In the first place, your wife was
SO very young, you shouldn't have
expected too much of her. And she
really lad no incentive to keep an
others home clean, did she? After
all, it wasn't her own place.
You should have tried living
alone, as she asked, before separat-
ing.
Since she has changed so pro-
nouncedly, you certainly should take
her back. Even if you didn't love
her, you should consider the welfare
of your child. who most certainly
should have a mothers care during
these important formative years.