The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-27
Tired Hubby
Entitled to
Stay Home
BY MARTHA LEE

And then there is the woman
whose idea of married life consists
of going some place and doing some
thing or else having people in for
a party every night.
Her days are taken up with max
ing plans for the evenings enter
tainment. An evening at home is
lost motion for her. When she is
not dragging her husband off to
some affair or another she is keep
ing him busy after hours squeezing
oranges and lemons and making
other modern preparations for an
at home"
If her husband is a jolly sort
who needs constant stimulation to
keep him on his toes the arrange
ment is not SO bad. But the man
who works all day in an Office or
store, who is busy eight hours fight
ing the financial BATTLES necessary
to keep the home establishment 60
ing, is not very apt to want this
sort of thing for steady diet.
Quarrel May Result
He is more apt to want relaxa-
ton, peace, a chance to be dull and
stupid if he wants to be. He is
more apt to want to read than to
talk; to loll back in a chair instead
of playing the gay host or the life
of the party.
Going home, night after night to
the prospect Of going over to the
Jones' or having the Smiths in for
bridge is not the sort of relaxation
that keeps a husband happy and
contented man.
If he is belligerant type, quar-
rel is the outcome. If he is the long
suffering sort, eventually a barrier
is raised between the husband and
wife.
Stays Home ALI Day
The question one woman wants
to know land suspect her strong
ly of being the type who just can't
/
woman is called upon to adapt her
self to her husbands way of think
ing or whether she should use her
influence to adapt him to her ways.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married
several years to good man who is a
splendid provider. He has one fault that
| causes us constant trouble.
I am a person who likes company and
likes to go. I stay home all day taking
care of my home and getting meals for
my husband. I devote the whole day to
him and his interests. When evening
comes I am ready for a little excitement.
And he is a dead stick. He never wants
to 20 any place nor have any company.
He goes, simply because make plans for
us without consulting him. but it always
means quarrel and it partially Spoils my
good time.
He says he is tired when he comes home
at night. though don't see why he should
be. I do as much all day as he does.
He believes he should have certain
amount of sleep every night. and that 60
ing out interferes with his hours.
say 1 get sick and tired of staying
home all the time. 1 am alone all day
and when night comes I am ready TO go
out to see people and do things.
Is it up to me to adapt myself to mis-
way OF thinking? Must a wife always do
what her husband wants to. regardless of
what she wants? M. A.
In most families the problem is
worked out by compromising. The
husband gives in so much and the
wife so much. And the difficulty is
solved without much trouble.
Compromise Advisable
You require too much giving in
on the part Of your husband. And
when he won't give in Of his own
accord, you trick him into having to
go your way. That hardly is fair.
He may not be as robust as you
He may require more sleep, as he
says. You say he is a splendid pro-
WIDER. That means mentally or
physically he is very active.
Since you are such gregarious
soul, why not get some of your
'gadding" over with before the din
ner hour. Join couple of after
noon bridge clubs. Get in your
daily meal of seeing people before
your husband comes home at night.
And make compromise with him.
If he willingly will go with you once
of twice a week. that you willingly
will stay home the other nights. If
you stay home that often, you may
get acquainted with your husband
and find him to be quite as good
company as you go outside your
home to find.