The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-05-06

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BY MARTHA LEE.

An lnteLlgent, SenslDIe Hldu AdS
written such an interesting letter,
so filled with good ideas, 1 must
pass it on to my readers.
1t isn't problem letter. He
isn't asking any advice. He's just
putting out some good digestible
material for those men and women
who are contemplating marriage, or
who already have married and
found it a flop. He's idealistic, but
it's a nice practicable kind Of ideal
ism, that so easily could be applied
to everyday life.
Dear Miss Lee am q bachelor myself,
but I've read so much about husbands
and wives being disappointed in each
other. and finding their marriages irk-
some and the romance dead that would
ike TO tell you a little about how 3
Young bachelor looks on marriage. and
especially how he looks upon prospective
wives.
This may be a futile attempt. but I
have sort Of personal definition for love
To me, it's desire to possess the per-
son who represents in my own eyes all
good and all beauty. I suppose you will
smoker over this. because I am a bachelor
Marriage should, If it is managed prop
erly. include a constant interchange OF
admiration. confidence and (this is i'm
portant) applause. The man should be
able to gather self esteem from his wtfe's
love. and she in turn should receive the
same.
I do not believe a woman should subju-
Rats herself to her husbands every wish.
but / do THINK II IS very essential to the
happiness Of both that she attune her
life to his. I'm not old-fashioned about
women. I believe in them having minds
Of their own. heavens knows. for a wom-
an without one would be unbearable. But
I do not believe that a difference in opin-
ion between husband and wife ever should
be allowed to cause a quarrel
Now for prospective wives. I myself
am in the market for one, so I have
a pretty good idea of what at least one
man expects of his wife. All this talk
about smoking. drinking and all that does
not interest me. II a girl smokes, that's
her business. II she takes a cocktail.
that too is her own affair. II she takes
too many it shows lack of discretion
that I should not care to have a wife Of
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this talk about wild modern youth. Those
points are unessential except as they re-
feet another trait of character.
The girl I marry must be fine and hon
est. She must have respect for others
ideas. She must be tolerant with the
faults and idtosyncracies of others. "a
girl would have to be to marry bachelor
Of IS. I supposed She must have a sense
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conventional in the small details. BY
that I mean that it would be horrible to
be married TO a woman who never knew
that right thing to do. the proper thing
to say. nor what to wear. But it would
be even worse to be married to frau
who was a stickler for detail and made
her life. and her husbands miserable be-
cause they didn't have this or that. or
he had said thus and so. and she was
so embarrassed You know what I mean
She must know how to spend money.
when we have it. so that it will bring
us the best for its value. But more i'm
portant, she must know how to do with
out money. without being miserable, when
we haven't it. Which completely would
solve the trouble over the finances prob
lem.
She must know how to enjoy being
out with people. but she also must know
how to enjoy staying home. She need
not be a FoliieS beauty. as long as she
is chic. intelligent and interesting. But
she must be capable OF making the most
Of her opportunities.
A bachelors pipe dream? Nothing of
the sort. That's perfect description
of an ideal. wholesome American girl of
today. 1 know. because I've found one
Of these rare gems. and I'm changing
my bachelor quarters soon.
Isn't that a refreshing bit of
idealism? And hasn't Andy just
about put all the beauty and per-
manency of marriage in a nutshell.
You'll never find an erring huS-
band in a home where the wife is
putting out Gin the proper amounts
and at the right tines admiration,
confidence and applause.
There's 1880 romance for you. We
females don't sit in the arenas and
applaud our boy friends to victory
in the jousts any more. But We can
give them a big hand when they
turn a neat trick. It's just as sat
isfying to the old male ego. even
when the audience consists only Of
the victor and the lady whose colorS
he wore.