The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-18
Girls Notice
Manners of
BOyFriend
BY MARTHA LEE

Girls have a tendency to notice
every little thing about the boys
they go with. Some say it is be-
cause girls innately are more re-
fined, because they are more sensi-
! tive.
Others say it is because girls are
more superficial, more inclined to
judge things land people, by their
outward appearances. That artifl-
cial refinement is more important in
their lives than sterling worth and
real manhood.
Line up on either side. Your
knowledge of women probably will
prompt you to take one side or the
other.
Be that as it may, it is true that
girls, even as children, are the first
to become table manner" conscious.
They are the first to notice the
proper way to do things. They are
the first to become stricken with
sense of propriety.
Manners do mean a lot. A lasting
impression of person may be
gained by as small thing as the
way he conducts himself at dining
table or in a drawing room.
Put Chesterfield TO Shame
There are plenty Of crooks and
thugs prowling around with man
ners that would make Chesterfield
look like a social flop, but that
doesn't mean that every real he
man must advertise himself as such
by eating with his knife and drink
ing his coffee out of the saucer. He
does not have to display his virile
masculinity by whistling a tune on
his soup spoon.
Manners and nothing else are
worth nothing. But character, in
telligence and refinement simply in
clude manners within themselves.
A boy who is careless about the
way he eats and sits, who ridicules
other men and women for follow
ing certain we'll defined rules of ETH
quette, usually is fellow whose
mental and physical manners are as
lax
A girl, regardless of how poor her
surroundings may be, invariably Will
watch others until she is capable
of eating in public without embar-
rasSment. Maybe the truth OF the
matter is that she pays more atten-
ton to superficial things. But at
least it marks her as alert and at
tentive.
Dear Miss Lee-I am from a poor family.
We have always had to live as fruGally as
possible. I am one of nine children. and
there have always been little ones run
ming around the house.
I have a fairly good position, in fact
have been able to help my parents out
quit a little. so that our standard CT iiV-
ing is a little better than it used to be.
Also two of the other children are now
able to work and help.
Since 1 have been out in the business
world. I have learned lot of things
mother never had time to teach us, such
as proper table manners and proper clothes
for different occasions. I have learned
that all families do not live in the con-
fusion that exists at our home.
I 90 with a boy whose parents are IN
about the same financial circumstances as
mine. have gone with him number Of
wears He wants to marry me. III the
meantime I have gone with other boys and
I noticed particularly how careless he Is
about his manners. He never thinks to
walk on the outside.
He has rather bad table manners and
always takes a tooth pick when we leave
a restaurant He is a good boy but these
things get on my nerves so 1 do not be-
Heve can every marry him. r. j.
If these things annoy you now
they would drive you to distrac-
ton after marriage. You had best
forget about marrying the boy I'M
til you either can put yourself in
a different frame of mind or else
explain to him in way he will
understand, that such things as
manners and refinement have
definite place in this world if one
wishes to make a success OF
things. If you are tactful you
may be able to tell him in a way
that will help him understand
their Importance.