The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-04-29
Mother Is
Too Selfish
Sometimes
BY MARTHA LEE

Mother love the sure fire
theme for novelists. playwrights,
song writers and scenarists. long has
been good for hearty cheer and
huzzah from the dear public
Mainly because mother love so
often is unfaihngly unselfish noble.
fine and quite the most completely
beautiful emotion known to the hu-
man race.
But once IN a while up jumps a
mama whose mother love simply
will not follow the scenarists' style
of a elf-sacrificing female parent.
She Will not be a generous. bounti-
ful, big-hearted mama whose life
has been sacrificed to the comfort
and welfare of her children.
Instead OF laying aside all per-
Sonal hopes and plans. so that the
offspring may have a chance to rear
his head above the masses. through
education and social advantages,
such mothers rear the boy or girl
until he is old enough to wrap a
package, drive a truck, plug in a
phone call, and send him hiking off
on jobs to help keep the wolf from
the door.
Become Dependent
Such mothers become dependent
upon their children from the time
their youngsters can toddle. They
derive all their joy, sorrow, peace of
mind. anger. contact with the out
side world and what not from the
children.
The woman suffering from moth
er love such as the movies have put
into vogue is just as much a pain
as the selfish, heartless mother who
demands everything of her children.
But you can't beat this kind of
mother love for draining the lives Of
her children to the last drop.
Dear MISS Lei am 25 years old. I
have two brothers. one younger and one
older than myself NY father has been
dead since was u. Ny mother, Of course.
has had to make great sacrifices for us.
so We might finish school
have been working since 7 was 10. and
giving every cent of the money to my
mother, except what it took for me 20 buy
my clothes and pay my small expenses
downtown. Ny older brother has married
and my younger one is engaged.
When my Older brother married. 7
thought mother was going to die, she was
so heart broken. Now that my younger
brother has announced intentions of mar
rying. She is little more sensible about
It, but She still feels that they are doing
her an injustice. She seems to feel that
they are being ungrateful to her for the
years OF sacrifice she spent in educating
and rearing them.
Boy Loves Her
Now Miss Lee. here's the point. I TOO
am in love. and the boy loves me. too. We
want to get married / barely suggested
the possibility of marrying and mother
just about had a spasm. She said 1 was
all she had left. That sons we're migrate
fUl and thoughtless. but that she knew she
always could depend upon me to take care
OF her and be with her. Since that mere
mention. she has been rather ill., She has
felt too bad for me to leave her on the
nights have had dates. I know that I
should be appreciative of all she has done.
But is 1t right for her to deny me my life.
am in such a qaundry Should I come
right out and tell her 1 want to marry. or
should I wait until she is feeling all right
again. and bring her around to the idea
slowly?
DISTRESSED.
Your mother is playing 'poSSum.
She is working on your sympathy.
That's one of the oldest feminine
tricks known. She is making it i'm
possible for you to mention your fu-
ture without feeling like a lowdoWn,
heartlesS wretch. She means well.
all right. But she's on the wrong
track, absolutely.
You will have to have a talk with
her. She probably will rave and
rant. and maybe faint. if she is a
finished actress at stopping an I'M
pleasant conversation, but don't let
her slow you down or direct YOU
from your original intention. She
has got to be made to understand
that giving your entire life to her is
not good, either for you or for her.
You have your own life to lead. 1t
is not her intense love for YOU that
makes her want you TO remain. 1t
Is her SelflShneSS. She hates the
thought of being alone. But it would
be much better to be alone than to
live with a heart turned to stone
with bitterness.