The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-04-21
Men Resent
Pursuit BY
Lady LOUeS
BY MARTHA LEE

A young man mas prougHI SIT
uation to notice that needs reckon
ing with. It may be the correct
answer to the difficulty many a girl
finds in keeping her sweetheart a
sweetheart.
1t is pretty well recognized by
right thinking females that nothing
will chase love away like running
after it. Once in rare while a girl
runs into boy who is too bashtul
to do anything but stand and stare
in dumb amazement. And all he
needs is to have the girl take him
by the hand and lead him to the
altar in order to be happy ever
after. But those cases are as scarce
as jobs for the jobless.
So the girls do not pursue the
boys. They Go not ask them for
dates. But cnce the boy upon whom
they have set their hearts shows
any signs of being aware they are
on earth, it is too bad.
Send Him Gifts
They start sending him gifts at
the slightest provocation. They
write him letters (if he is away
that necessitates him answering
more frequently than he cares to.
They unconsciously do every thing
possible to make him become in
debted to them. And figuring that
the indebtedness will weigh too
heavily upon his conscience to ever
allow him to air her, she contin-
ues to heap favorS upon him, Sc
curing her position more firmly, so
she thinks.
Have you ever heard of a man
liking his creditors? He may like
them as long as he can keep the
books even, as long as he can pay
back without the embarrassment OF
having to ask such favors as extern
sion of time. But a man actually
dislikes a creditor to whom he not
only owes money, but also graft
tude for special personal favors.
This is terribly humiliating. And it
isn't human nature to like a person
who humiliateS you in your own
eyes.
Dear Miss Lee have been going with
girl about six months. Now I like this
girl very much, but am not in love with
her. In the first place I couldn't think
of falling in love right now. I'm still in
college and have to make some sort OF
start in the business world before I could
marry.
This girls folks have quite bit OF
money. Now do not have much money
to spend on dates. like to go out with
her occasionally. to movie or something
like that. But she is always asking me
to go to this OF that party someone is
giving. She says she would rather go
with me. And I can hardly refuse such
invitations Then too she sends me little
gifts, at the slightest provocation. OF
course I appreciate them. but it makes me
feel awful that can do so little in re-
turn. Also she writes to me lot. Now
sometimes I'm too busy to answer right
away. she Immediately will send me
another letter, asking why haven't writ
| ten.
I feel so indebted to this GIRL actually
am beginning to hate to see her. How
can make her see my viewpoint without
hurting her feelings. JIM.
You are in the clutches OF one of
those determined girls who will get
married or else. She doesn't realize
the psychology back Of all she is
doing, but it is here, just the same.
She means well. She has plenty,
and sees no reason why she should
not give you a little present if she
feels like it. Also, she probably
likes you so much, she wants you
to share all her fun and good times.
That is why she does these things.
1t would probably amaze her to hear
how you feel about it.
However, you are beginning TO
dislike her for the things she has
intended to cause you to like her
more. 1t is only fair that you ex-
plain to her just how you feel
about things. She does not under
stand, and if the strain becomes SO
great that you stop seeing her, she
is going to think you are an I'M
grateful cad, unless you explain to
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