The Washington times., 1930-04-29
THETR FORGOTTEN YOUTH : B
Expert Gives
Advice to
Parents
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of
Love and Marriage

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From time to time girls write
me letters about the wisdom Of
leaving homes which they begin
to find intolerable. A flat, the
expenses of which are to be
shared by one or two more girls,
looms as q sort Of promised land.
Very often the old home
which seems so deadly, so de-
structive of happiness or oppor-
tunity lis q ,rootherless one. The
gentle soul. who understood"
and acted as a buffer state be-
tween all the contending ele-
, mentS has. passed and an older
sister, an aunt, or an in-law
preSides over the establishment
that represents anything but
neutral. territory.
Before me is a letter written
by a girl who says her mother
IS dead and two older sisters
make life a ''hell on earth for
her" They hang up the re-
ceiyer when poor little Cinder-
elias friends ring up the tele-
phone, they tell lies about her
to their father, and they snub
and insult her and her friends
without cause.
Naturally, Cinderella wants to
go away from a place where she
is made so diSmally unhappy,
she wants to go and live with a
girl friend who has that sane
tuary-a flat. But Cinderella
is engaged to be married and
expects to have a home of her
own within a very few months.
And as she has asked very
frankly for my advice, I'm 60
ing to tell her to try to put UP
with the disagreeable sisters till
that happy cay when she walks
proudly out on the arm Of her
husband.
Marriage is a pretty serious
buSineSs-though you mightnt
think so from the way people
hop in and out of the divorce
0Ourt. It looks better, in fact, it
Is better form for a girl to be
married from her parents
home, if either parent is living,
than from a girl friends flat.
In this important venture she
steps off on the right foot
when she marries from her own
home, and there can't be any
whispering as to why Mary
Smith or Emily Jones was mar
.ried from a girl friends apart
ment when she had a perfectly
good home of her own. She
doesn't wish. to herald it to a
gossipy world that her sisters
made tt too hot for her-there
are always inuuiring friends to
ask the reason WHY?
So. among the good wishes
] send to Cinderella is that OF
endurance, particularly, as she
will not have to endure long.
Again. girls, with both parents
living, write to say that they
cannot stand their homes. They
want to go away because they
are Iomesick at home. Their
parents do nothing to make life
pleasant; they aren't modern;
they don't approve Of latch
keys: they're grouchy and dis
courteous when young friends
appear.
Making due allowance for the
state of mind of young people
who feel themselves thwarted,
parents are implored to remem.
ber the time when they them
selves were young. To remem-
ber that youth is the time of
home-rnaking,. that if they bolt
the, door of opportunity, their
children will hold them reSpon-
sible when it's too late to rem
edy such mistakes.
Girls and boys would do
well to keep in mind the fact
that some day they too will
not be modern; that similar
faults to those which seem so
glaring in their parents may
seem just as hard to bear when
the third generation appears.
Time Is no respecter of per-
sons, as someone has said. We,
too, are the aflcientS.