The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-05-28
MAY g, 1890
Girl GiUen
Gate Has
Hard Time
BY MARTHA LEE

The hardest role a young man IS
given to carry of with the swagger
generally associated with men, Is
the role of rejected sutton.
Even harder is the corresponding
role girls sometimes are forced 70
NAV. That of rejected sweetheart.
Somehow or other playing the re-
iected sweetheart is much haroer
than playing the cast oil sutton.
A boy is forced to take a neating
with his chin VI. It's part OF BENG
male child. He's been taught
tbat since he could scramble across
tbe eoor on all fours. And every
body helps him keep up the traol-
ton. 4,,.o-,,.
him down may be secretly heart
broken. but his training forblds MN
~ ever let any one know. And MS
tTiends If they mention the subject
at ali are very careful to turn 1t
into a streak of luck for him or a
But lust let girl who has gone
with a fellow SO long that everybody
speaks of them in the same oreatn,
whether they officially are engaged
or mott stop going with that fellow
and her whole world Of friends come
running to her with sympathegic
ohrases and condolences. Like some
bodv had died or something.
Girl Has Hard Time
A girl who has been "given the
gate has a pretty tough time from
then on. 1t works as handicap 10
her usually. It is taken for grant
ed that she lacks something tunda-
mental in her character or the boy
wouldn't have given her up. AND
the attitude of her friends doesht
help her get back her seltconhdehce
and poise. And those are two things
an attractive girl must have.
AS though the handicap OF oelng
a cast off girl isn't enough, very
often the girl who is left holding
the burlap sack" still loves the boy
who stood her up" Which COM
plicates things further. There is
more than injured pride to deal
with.
Dear Miss Lei was madly in love
with Young man to whom 1 was en-
gaFed for a year I said was but the
truth is. I still am in love with him.
But. Miss Lee. for some reason or
another about four months ago he broke
our engagement. He did not try to ex-
cuse himself Just told me that he was
no longer loved me as he should in order
to marry me- Since 1 still loved him,
thought it best for US both to discontinue
seeing each other. He agreed.
Now I hear he is to marry another girl.
I still love him so much, Miss Lee. 1 am
completely broken up about it, OF course
my friends are sympathetic about the
whole affair. which only makes it worse
for me.
I can not believe that our love is to
end this way. I can not believe he is to
marry another girl. 1 am so miserable
about it that I can not sleep nights. Is
there anything can do? M. w.
Still Loves Him
You probably still love this boy,
but your trouble right now is psych-
illogical more than anything else.
You have the feminine trait that
hopes in spite of all common sense,
that something will happen at the
last minute that this boy will not
marry the other girl, but come back
to you That's sort of perverted hope.
AS soon as the marriage is over,
your attitude will change. You will
accept the situation and go about
making your own life again. It's
pretty hard to see this when you are
young and in love, but time does
help a lot in such affairs. Very
often it exposes traits of charac-
ter and incidents that make the re-
jected sweetheart feel very fortunate
that she was rejected.
The only way you can help your
self land you are the only one who
can do anything about your own
frame of mind is to rebuild your
faith in yourself as an interesting,
desirable person. Your ego has suf-
fered as much as your heart in this
case