The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-02-11
Men Dislike
Girls Who
Chase Them
BY MARTHA LEE.

What's the use Of admonlShlng
and advising when people. being
what they are, never will learn any
thing except from experience?
So many times, I have letters
from girls. asking what it takes to
make them popular, sought after,
attractive and personable enough TO
get a beau"
In the same mail, I will get a
letter from a boy in which is con-
tanned at least the foundation OF
the answer those girls are seeking.
I will print it, and back they will
come, begging to know what it is
the real boys of today expect from
a girl.
Qualities Same
What they want, girls, is the very
same thing your own fathers re-
quired of your mothers when they
we're looking for wives. These quail
ties may be called by different
name, but they are the same.
For instance, when your father,
in peg-topped trousers and bowler
hat was coming on Sunday night to
cali on your mother, with the in
tention of discovering whether she
had the qualities he required from
the girl he was to marry, he sought
to find in her a pleasant, even
temper. Boys still admire this
quality.
Your father looked for a certain
reserved shyness, an ability to take
her part when the occasion arose.
Nowadays We call it independence,
but it's the same thing.
Seek AgreeablenesS
He wanted her to be agreeable,
with limitations. We call that be-
ing a good scout. The limitations
were barriers which refused to allow
anything said or done that would
be out of keeping with her ideas of
decency and morality. And our
ideas of decency and morality are
fundamentally the same.
He looked for her to show him, in
an indirect and subtle way, that
his attentions were not unWanted.
Here's an example of what boy
wants of a girl, and what he dis
likes about "his" girl.
| Dear Miss Lee: go with an attrac-
tive girl. whom / like very much, but
she is just about running my friendship
for her by being too dictatorial and noSey.
If you get what I mean.
Girl Jealous
to her just like her, and have dates
| with her. She is very jealous Of me.
Why she should be don't know. because
she has other dates. too. She always
is wanting to know why I don't call her
up and what I've done the night before.
When tell her I have been some place
with some one else, she gets very dis
agreeable and sarcastic, until It makes
me feel like I have been mistreating her.
What worries me is that. II she had
not been so persistent. think I could
have fallen in love with her. She has
certain qualities that admire very much.
She is honest and frank and when she
is once your friend. it's a real friend
| ship Another thing I don't like about
her is the fact that she checks up on
me, and then tries to catch me in fibs.
I can not describe to you how this trait
| in her character affects me.
Even if I never will love her myself,
7 should like to talk to her some time,
so that she could eliminate these traits
from her character.
| Wants to Help
You see. with the exception Of one or
! two other boys. who take her out occa-
| sionally, there are few people who like
her because these faults are too glaring
| for them to see the real side Of her. Is
there anything I could do to help her
| bring out the fine things about her?
JACK.
Read this letter over carefully,
you girls who want to know what it
is boys want in a girl. They want
a few of the things this girl has,
and q lot of things she hasn't got.
They don't want to be chased.
They don't want a girl who checks
up on them, and then acts injured
when they tell the truth. I'm not
going to give advice. I'm going to
| let you exercise the old brain cells,
and drag the lesson from this letter
| In Need of Friend: Your letter
will be answered as you have re-
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