The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-06
Trust Very
Necessary
in WedIOck
BY MARTHA LEE

Trust is a heaven-sent gift that Is
not to be treated lightly. 1t i the
basis of friendship. love and mar
riage. 1t is the staff that assists
human beings over the rough haz-
ards that are part of everyday lie.
Once DOUBT is introduced, trust is
not easily won back. 1t can't be,
because it is a spontaneous thing.
And spontaneous things are killed
most easily.
Subjecting trust to test, playing
with it for a mere whin, and pcssing
fancy is foolish thing to do. Moth
ing can take its place. There is
no substitute for it. And once 1t is
shattered, something beautiful is
gone from friendship, love or mar
riage.
Men whose wives trust them COM
pletely. whose hearts never doubt
that their husbands love them COM
plely, often are disilluSioned for the
rest of their lives by foolish, in
discreet acts on the parts of their
husbands.
NOT so HARD 10 lake
Doubling wives do not feel the
blow so severely, when they dis
cover their husbands have eyes for
the young and pretty stenographers
in the Office. They simply shrug
and raise pair of we'll plucked
eyebrows when their husbands pick
out a cute, unattached young thing
at party and spend the evening in
earnest conversation with her.
But the wives who believe them
selves loved as they love, take an
awful fall when they find their hus-
bands do not respond to, them alone.
It's pitiable thing, when something
as splendid as faith and trust is lost
for an evenings amusement.
The same thing holds true be-
tween sweethearts and friends. The
finest thing in their relationships
is their mutual faith and trust in
each other. Once that is violated,
something happens. The fineness
is gone.
Something to Cherish
No man would ask a girl TO marry
him whom he did not crust. That
unspoken understanding that she is
person to be relied upon, whose
integrity is unquestioped is some
thing to be cherished above all else.
Once the seed Of doubt is sowed,
there can not be the same feeling
Dear Martha Lee-I am engaged to
a fine young man. 1 have gone with
him two years and stepped out on him
for about a year and then lied to him
about having dates. Later he found out
had lied
The result has been disastrous. He
doubts me. although he always has found
me to be entirely respectable The fact
that I have lied to him makes him doubt
me about everything now. He always has
been completely truthful to me-
I have asked him not to question me
further about these other dates, since he
feels am lying anyway and that time
will tell the truth. l have asked him
not to come back until he is ready to be-
lieve me.
I love him so much ttat life would be
nothing without him. but what can I do
to win him back on the old basis?
can not bear TO Jhlnk CT MIN mlSVruSt-
ing me this way. FRECKLES.
Your life with him under the con-
ditions which now exist would be
impossible. The process of building
up the faith in you he has lost, is a
long, hard one. You simly are GO
ing to have to sacrifice everything
to bring back situation that was
entirely spontaneous to begin with,
but which now must be built up by
artificial care and attention. If
you really love the boy, you will not
mind. If you don't love him you
will get tired and give up. And that,
too, will be just as well, that you
find out your true feelings in the
matter.