The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-10-15
Killing LOUe
BY Kindness
Is Tragedy
BY MARTHA LEE

It has been said, and 50 truly that
II hurts. that most men kill the
thing they love. Men, in this case,
mean all human beings, no doubt,
for women are as guilty as men
along this score.
Some kill with kindness, although
7 have a premonition that that way
got so much publicity because it was
50 unusual. We always have had a
fair for the unusual even in pre-
historic times
This wholesale slaughter Of love
does not seem to be confined to men
and women. Mothers think nothing,
apparently. Of causing irreparable
breaches between themselves and
the affection Of their children.
Brothers and sisters, in fact all hu-
man relationship. suffer from it at
one time or another.
Husbands kill the love of their
wives so many different ways.
Sometimes through discotTtesy. in
attention, indifference, selfshness.
It even can be through laziness,
shiftlessness, too weak a character,
a. hundred different ways.
ChiIdren's Love Killed
The same with a wife. There may
not be anything in the world so
important to her as keeping the
love of her husband, yet she may
kill it completely by unwarranted
fits Of jealousy, displays Of i'll tenn
per, by being slovenly and careless,
by whining, nagging, and thou
sand other traits peculiar to women
which have a way Of cropping out
after marriage.
Mothers kill the love Of their chill
dren by demanding too much OF
their livess So many mothers insist
upon living their own lives over
again in the lives of their children.
Their inquisitiveness drives the chill
dren to hide even the slightest thing
from them to save its being pulled
out to be viewed by the public eye.
Before the children are old enough
to have a philosophy that takes care
of their mothers attitudes all their
natural love and respect for her has
gone.
Fathers More Reasonable
Fathers do this less. Perhaps it
is because they usually are not as
close to their children as mothers
are. Perhaps it is because men,
through their contact with the ousl-
ness world day after day, have dis
covered it is a fatal error.
Dear Miss Lee-My mother is good
kind woman to the outside world. ana
suppose she would die if were to tell
her this. but really she has killed all the
love I ever had for her by her attitude
toward me.
Unfortunately am an only child. II
there had been more might not have had
the lavish attention I have had to suffer
through all these years
She has watched me. lowered over me.
protected me. in fact. smothered me un-
til 1 almost die.
She thinks she is goodness and kind
ness itself AS a matter Of fact she Is
cruel Her attitude toward me is more
dominating than anything ever have
encountered. She never asks me WnaI
think She simply tells me what to do.
10 saw how to act. where to 90 and all
the rest.
I have no more privacy than gold
FISH in a shop window She reads my
letters before I have chance to open
them She sits In the room with all my
callers. It's all supposed to be maternal
interest at it's best. but it's a pain in the
neck to me and I can tell any mother
who is interested that if she wants to
bring her children up so that they hard
ly can bear it until they are old enough.
and independent enough financially to
break away for good Just to act this
wav.
What can do? It is almost more than
I can bear ONLY CHILD.
Fails to Realize
You do not say how old you are.
Apparently you still are in school.