The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-01
Affection
Necessary in
Happiness
BY MARTHA LEE

When a wife is very young and
even more sentimental than she Is
young, it is pretty hard to have to
bear with a husband who is about
as affectionate as nettled humble
bee and about as demonstrative as
the Sphinx.
If all affectionate, demonstrative
women could marry -affectionate,
demonstrative men, quite a few
homes would be saved from the
wreck of divorce and unhappiness.
But things don't happen that way.
Men who fairly reek with senti-
ment marry girls who are too bust
ness like and cold blooded ever to
give it a second thought.
Girls whose life embers are kept
glowing by the most romantic
dreams of love and kisses all through
married life marry men whose idea
of real affection is an occasional
peck on the cheek.
Result Is Disastrous
When this sort of a union is con-
summated, the result usually is dis
astrous for one or the other. II
a mans wife fails to give him the
affection he wants, he will soon go
some place else to get it.
A wife, whose husband falls short
in the affections display depart
ment will NOPE around, feel abused
and finally quit. She can stand him
failing to make his way in the nm
ancial world. She can stand poverty
and disgrace, but she can't stand
not having affection.
When a woman narries, she does
not expect to have all the little signs
of affection and words of love lett
in heap on the altar steps. she
looks forward to them increasing IN
tenderness after the ceremony.
A man does not expect his bride
to relinquish all tenderness with her
maiden name.
It's an old cry, but so many women
write in about it that it must pc
a serious problem and a deterrent
to real happiness.
81 have been married five years,
writes one woman, land my husband
seems to have forgotten completely
there are such things as kisses and
kind words. He is a good man, pro-
vides for me and our two children,
but that's the end of it.
81 have an affectionate nature. I
like to have him affectionate In re-
turn. Instead of his ardor, increaS-
ing since we we're married, it has
cooled. He never tells me any more
that he loves me, or shows me by
little affectionate pats that he does.
] am terribly unhappy because OF
this"
Sweet Teeth Ache
The point is, when we want
chocolate candy, when our sweet
teeth fairly ache for chocolate
candy, it's pretty tough to have to
eat boiled cabbage and let it go at
that. Boiled cabbage is nouriShing
but after all it isn't candy.
( Of course, cabbage has it's good
points. A lot more of them than
candy has. A husband who has
good stable qualities, whose pay
envelope finds it's way each week
into the lap of his wife, whose habits
do not include drinking, gambling
and carousing surely is superior as
husband material to husband who
is romance itself when it comes to
hugs and kisses, but awfully short
on all the other things.
Candy has its place in the diet.
Occasionally it is nice thing. But
after all life could be sustained
without it. Undemonstrative men
and women are apt to love more
deeply than those men and women
who spend the greater share of their
time whispering sweet nothihgs and
pursuing pretty lips.
A wife or husband who Graves a
demonstrative mate and hasn't one
would do we'll to study the subtle
little demonstrations that are I'M
failing signs of love and devotion.