The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-04-15
LOUe Needed
ifMa1Yiage
Is to Last
BY MARTHA E

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bedraggled affair for a woman. For
a man it is almost always fatally
degrading.
Economic conditions are such
that more women marry men they
do not love than men take unto
themselves wives vino have failed
TO stir the eternal flame.
Men usually have the advantage
Of looking the field over pretty care
fully before they make a choice.
-i7ev Go not have to sit back and
wait TO be sought out, ike women
must.
Besides. If the truth must out,
men are more idealistic as a whole
about marriage than women. a man
chooses his wife because she ft into
the scheme Of things pretty well,
and because he has found her love-
~, agreeable and cOmpaulOnabIe.
Reacts Upon Life
A woman in choosing a husband
must take into consideration his
financial standing and his ability as
a Wage-earner. Not only r these
important to her, but they are IN
portant also because of the children
they may have.
When a woman marrleS a man she
does not love, leaving him to believe
she does, she is perpetrating a de-
ception that IS going to react upon
her entire life. And upon the life
of her deluded husband and her
children.
Marriage is tough enough with
out the added burden Of dragging
an empty untitled heart through life.
There are occasions in marriage
when the only thing in the world
that saves the situation from utter
ruin is the fact that here is love
beWeen the maj and woman who
have made the contract.
Very often women marry men
they do not love for the sake of
financial independence, because they
are tired of earning their own liV-
ing. because they want a home of
their own, and they can not man
age these ambitions on their own
hook.
Feel Out of Things
And also, very often women marry
simply because they feel they are
getting to an age where proposals
will be few and far between; if at
all. Or because all their friends are
married, and they feel too out Of
things not being married themselves.
A girl who marries for any reason
at all excepting that she loves the
man who is to be her husband is
a cheat. because she is allowing him
to believe something that is not
true, and never can be. She is a
robber, because she is taking a man
out of circulation" whom she has no
right to possess. She is a defrauder.
because she is giving him a check
on an account she does not own.
Marian, who is % writes:
Dear Miss Lee-I am twenty-nine years
old. self supporting, after a fashion. rather
nice looking and dress Ia~shionably. I
have been going with a man for over a
wear now who is in love with me. I like
him awfully. but 7 do not love him. He
has been nv sole beau during this time,
and because he takes me out, is COM
panionable and awfully good company, l
have led him on q little. now he wants
10 marry me.
As YOU see by my age. 7 am approach
ing the time in life when a woman should
marry and settle down. It wOAl6 be nice
10 have my OWL home. and = husband to
lake care Of me like my friends have. /
have accepted his proposal. but I'm a
little shaky about the whole affair. Do
YOU think I can learn to love him after
we are married.
or course he thinks I love him. and
sometimes I feel terrible because he IS SO
good and dear. What do YOU think nv
chances for happiness viii be?
MARIAN.
Tired If Fighting Alone
II you were younger Marian. I
would say you didn't know o Ii
W mind. Since you are nearly
thirty you can not have that x
cuse, although it is possible. I
think it would be aWfully Caddish
of you to marry this man under
the conditions you state. You are
JuSt tired of fighting by yourself.
and uroNt q foor,r-o+o nL.4 =.