The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-15
No Test Can
Really Tell
True Love
BY MARTHA LEE

A girl who wants to know how you
can tell when boy,really loves you,
and a boy who wants some tests
that will prove absolutely he loves a
girl have complicated life for today.
If could make up a set OF rules
that never would fail in either OF
those cases, heav en- knows where
Rockefeller would rank in the list
of the worlds wealthiest people.
Theoretically it is simple enough
problem. When boy loves you, he
does thus and SO. When you love
a girl you are attacked by unnlis-
taxable signs. But practically, it Is
not easy at all. 1t is even less sure to
be right, and in the last analysis
turns out to be just great big
chance that S, ,ouid be taken only
after lot Of serious thinking.
You could apply all the rules you
could think of and never know what
kind of a husband man would
make until you had married him. A
man could put a girl through all the
tests he ever has read or heard
about and never find out whether
the girl would make a successful
wife until ne had taken the walk
down the long aisle to the tune Of
Lohengrin's famous march.
Only Common Sense
All we mortals nave to trust to is
our common sense. Not other peo-
pies experiences, advice or admoni-
lions. Just our own ability to judge
human nature. And our ability to
cope with it, after we have judged.
The girl writes:
Dear Miss Lee-What answer is there to
case like this? MY boy friend tells me
he loves me, but he only comes to see me
about once a month. His only excuse is
that he is very busy. He never calls nor
writes during the interval between calls
I would have given him up long ago. but
love him and do not want too. Now,
Miss Lee. does this boy really love me?
How can make sure? ov,zz,vn
He certainly doesn't act as though
he did. Most young men in love
spend more time seeing the objects
of their affections than they do on
their Jobs or anything else. The only
way a girl has Of knowing whether
a boy loves ner is the way he treats
her. He loves to do things to please
her. he is very apt to sacrifice quite
few things in order to make her
happy. And if it is impossible to be
with her frequently, he usually man
ages to make the reason for his alb.
sence sincere enough to have it be-
lieved.
If YOU did get this boy finally,
what would you do with him? HIS
actions tend to prove he does not
love you. You would be married to
a man who would be handing you
excuses constantly for not being
with you. At best 1t would be a
miserable victory.
The boy writes:
have gone with quite number of
girls and have thought myself in love
several times. am 25 and old enough
to make up my own mind, but the problem
| is this.
Gone Out of His Life
These other girls. with whom thought
I was sincerely in love have gone out OF
my life and I scarcely ever think of them
think I am in love again. But how can
I be sure? This girl is no better looking,
no sweeter than those others. If I am
really in love would like to get married.
Is there any sure way Of knowing?
True love may be hard to recog-
nize in another person, but when
you've "got" it yourself it isn't so
hard to identify. And you haven't
got it. If you were really in love
you would not Judge her by the
standards Of others. You would
Judge others by her standards. You
would see that she was not the most
beautiful girl in the world, but no
other girl would be so lovely in your
eyes.
Better have another look around.
You might find some one whom you
really could class as superior" to all
your other loves.