The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-31
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LOUe Affair
BY MARTHA LEE

This madness called love is a
funny business. 1t can not be han
died like other emotions. It can not
even be approached in straight
forward manner most of the time.
Like frightened doe, it gets scared
and takes to its heels if one is too
abrupt about the whole business.
Now subterfuge, usually connected
with femininity, is one fthe things
men despise about love. And the
ones who have dabbled in it since
they were in knee trousers know how
absolutely necessary it is to use all
the little tricks of subterfuge.
When boys fall in love, they like
to have the girls they love know
about it. Some girls want to know.
Others rather would be kept in
suspense about it. 1t adds spice to
the affair. Once they are sure the
BOYS are in love with them, they. lose
all interest. The love they might
have learned to feel for the boy is
gone. It's turned into something
entirely different.
Study Her Type
A bow who is in love with girl
would do we'll to study her type be-
fore he commits himself. She may
be the kind that would love with
unfaltering devotion some boy who
kept her guessing as to just what
his real feelings are.
She may be the type who cares
most for boys who take absolutely
nothing from the girls they go with.
She may fall like a ton of brick for
a boy who lays down the law and
stands by it. She may like to be
told Just how she can treat him to
keep him taking her out.
There are a few cases where reel
procal love may be expressed i'm
mediately without danger to either.
But there are plenty OF boys who
like a girl immensely until she starts
being pos sessive about him, or trail
ing him around or expecting too
much of his time and attentions.
Writes Love Problems
Jerry" writes about his love
problems:
Dear Miss Lee-I have gone steadily with
a girl for more than year and am mad
ly in love with her.
> short time ago / had date with her.
She told me, out of clear sky, for no
apparent reason, that that was our last
date. I think 1t was because she was
bored with me.
When 1 tried to follow up and get her
back, she absolutely refused. l. stopped
irving To see her. resolved never to
60 with her again. had been weak
enough to obey her slightest impulse, thus
losing her respect.
Since that time the girl has made sew
eral approaches, which means she wants
to renew our friendship. We exchange
occasional letters.
stop Luncheon Dates
Should bring the situation to a show
down and demand that we either resume
our having dates or else stop writing and
the few luncheon dates we have? 1t Is
slow torture to be in the presence OF some
one YOU love and try to act Indifferent
hoping all the time she will drop mint
which means she wants to have dates with
you again.
am fairly successful in business. l
am not good looking and perhaps bit
too serious minded. I want. to go with
her again and try to win her love, but
don't want to be made fool of second
time. xr,xv
Give her the go-by as quickly as
possible. You are foolish to let her
make you so miserable. She is hard
ly worth it, at her present rating.
Stop. writing aimless letters and
luncheons. It's her move next and
let her make it of her own accord,
without any coaching from you.
Only Way of Knowing
If the girl cares anything at all
about you, that is the only way you
will ever have of knowing If she
doesn't it would be better to find it
out now.
She is the sort of girl who likes to
be kept in suspense. She likes to
wonder about just whether or not
you care for her. s..
Let her have what she wants. If
she likes you at all sincerely, she
will make move when you refuse
to answer her notes or take her to
luncheon any more.