The Indianapolis times., 1930-06-11
Girl Can Be
Happy
Minus Dates
BY MARTHA LEE


propaganda. you probably have the
idea that the aim of every girl be-
tween the ages of 16 and 81 is to
have dates to burn and beaux to
give away. And that Eden to them
would be a place where boys were
so numerous they could have new
one three times a day, if they
wanted to.
AS matter of fact about three
fourths of the youngsters would be
tickled pink over date week, and
one nice boy to be their good friend.
Usually by the time a girl is 81
she has found that one friend. She
finds him in high school, college or
out in the business world.
But a lot of girls have ne. They
have never either had the chance
to meet boys, through the contact
school and business life offers them,
or having had the contact they were
too self-conscious and shy to grasp
the opportunity.
Problem for Mothers
If the mothers of popular daugh-
terS have their troubles, the mothers
of unpopular girls have them too.
There is nothing worse than to
watch charming young girl, eager
for romance and love, simply wilt
on the vine from inattention. Such
girl usually becomes ingrown and
self conscious. She gets complex
that there must be something wrong
with her. And a mother who has
to fight that attitude in girl, has
a job on her hands.
Very often a girl who does not
take" with boys her own age is
superior to them. She isn't f1ippant
and frivolous enough to interest
them in the first place.
I am not one Of those who hold
that a girl, in order to be popular
must pass out kisses and caresses
with a free hand. Girls who gain
popularity on so f1imsy a platform,
usually find themselves high and dry
about the time other girls are
settling down to a nice romance
that will end in a trip down the
aisle.
Must Have Something
But girls these days must have
something to offer that can be spon-
taneous enough to attract boys. Be-
cause most girls are pretty good
looking, now that marching and
makeup are as much a part of every
day life as eating three meals day.
Girls take care Of their figures
these days. They are more inter
ested in having good compilations
and clear eyes than they are in
satisfying that sweet tooth. So
taking all in all, a girl can't depend
too much on her beauty now.
1t is important for young girl to
develop herself along the lines of
her own character. Too many girls
who are not popular take as their
pattern some girl who is, and try
to recut their whole characters over
that pattern. The greatest charm
any girl can possess simply is to be
herself.
And the years when she is sitting
home, waiting for Prince Charming
to put in his appearance can be
used in bettering herself. She has
the time to read and study that the
popular girl never has.
1t does seem the most necessary
thing in the world to be going to
the dances and parties that other
young girls are attending. 1t does
seem paramount when one is young
to have lot of beaux calling up and
HANGING around.
A mother who has daughter who
broods over her unpopUlarity wrote
in to find cut what she could dc
about the girl. She said that heI
daughters unhaprinef5 was greater
than any personal unhappinesS she
had ever known.
There isn't much mother can
do, except fill her daughters life
with as many interesting things as
she can. And to give her every
opportunity she can afford to meet
girls and boys of her own age. II
she lacks self confidence, it would
be a splendid idea to tell her once
in a while what fine girl she was
1t would be good for mother with
such a daughter to study he1
daughters type and dress her as
well as she can afford.
But the most important thing o1
all no mother can do. And that i;
to change her daughters menta,
attitude. When girl feels g
failure, she usually acts like one
| And no girl is a. failure Sir1111v he-