The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-01-10
Religion Too
often Thorn
to Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

BY MARTHA LEE
1t is a strange thing that insti-
tutions. organized to make life bet
ter and happier, frequently ara
turned into traps of disorder and
trouble.
Take marriage, for instance. The
sacrament OF marriage was or
gained to preserve the human
race in the most ideal way. 1t was
instituted to provide that a man and
a woman, who, having found they
loved each other, should find Sc
curity, safety and permanence in
that relationship, and the chill
dren of that union might be pro-
vided with a home and the home
life which IS a child's happiness.
And yet, that sacrament has been
turned into a veritable %quicksand
of trouble and unhappiness.
The same thing holds true of re-
ligion. Even before Christianity
when the pagan religions were hold
ing sway, unhappiness and sorrow
we're the result of a mixed" mar
riage.
Christianity should have done
away with all this. The fundamen-
tails, set down by Christ to guide
the world, if rightly followed, should
lead to peace and happiness. Those
premises are the basis Of all re-
ligions. And yet, when two people
of different creeds meet and love
and marry, very often that very
difference is the basis Of untold
sorrow and trouble.
Here is mute evidence of the re-
suit of a union of two persons OF
different faiths which has resulted
in unhappiness and trouble.
Dear Martha Lee-Of course there al
ways are two sides to a question, and
one or the other of them always is more
in the wrong than the other. But some
lines. 1t seems that it would be better fog
two people to go back to the old places
where they started before marriage. When
there are children. a husband and wife
should sacrifice a great deal before they
decide to discontinue.
Although I am a young man, I have
been married twice. I have a boy by my
first marriage. I have a good business
and always have been able to keep things
going.
The second time 7 married, I married
a woman of a religion different from my
own. AS she said she did Tot expect K
have any children we would never have
any trouble about religion. and so every
thing went along all right. I attended my
own church and she attended hers.
often went with her. and, when I did, 4
was impossible for me to attend mine.
| thought, since I went with her so nue.
| she could go to mine occasionally with
me. She told me she would before we were
married.
After We had been married about two
| months, I told her I was going to ms
| church again. and she few to pieces. Sht
said my church was nc church at all
| OF course. We had a terrible quarrel. anc
every time since. when I attend church
she makes some sighting remark. Sn'
said it was a sin for her. to go TO my
church. so naturally I stopped going witt
her. although I take her there and &c
after her.
When We have social gatherings at ny
church I will not take her. because my
friends will ask me why she does not come
to church with me. I do not want Il
answer these questions. so I avoid then
by not taking her. AS a result. she &C
cuses me of going there to see some otnel
woman. "
/ wish you could ask me any uues-
lions. from her point OF view. hat |ouIe
make me see things differently. All
can see now Is to separate. II persons
of different faiths marry. there should b
a Law that one or the other change sc
they both embrace the same beliefs. G.
No, you're wrong. But there shoulc
be a law against two narrow-mindee
bigots of different faiths marrying
You both are worshiping the same
| God, you. after the teachings o.
your family, and your wife, after tht
faith of her parents.
just because those ways happen tC
to be different, is no reason they
| should be the keynotes to %quarrellne
and dissension in your home.
You are acting like idiots. If youl
wife is satisfied with her own faith
why ask her to come to youl
| church? Worship your own ways
and the facts upon which YOU
Christianity is founded vii make il
possible for you to live in peace anc
harmony, if you really follow them
You both are going to church on
Sundays, and leaving your religion
at the door when you come out
for another week. In place of your
| religions, which teach you to be
kind, charitable, forgiving and To-
ing toward your fellow-men, you are
acting worse than heathens. You
have no right to say a word against
her beliefs, MOI she against yours
Because your wife is affiliated with
a different faith, that is no reason
to exclude her from your social life
Perhaps you both would be more
understanding if you would prac-
tice your faith instead of prating
about it.
! EkIIT r.