The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-01-23
LOUe Needed
for Success
in Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE.

Among the questions asked ire
quentlv in letters is the one con-
corning the ACCESSIBILITY Of marry
ing a person one admires, but does
not love.
Whenever that question is asked,
get a mental picture of the writer.
More often than not, such a per-
sons ideas about love. and just how
love manifests itself. are CLEANED
from steaning novels and impos-
sibly romantic movies.
Such a person. at an early age,
let us hope, gets a perverted idea
about the whole business. 1t is not
a question OF proving time and
again. by daring feats ard ardent
demonstrations that love is true
and lasting Times have changed
Love TO longer comes riding on
white steed. clad in silver armor
and scarlet plumes. Love is more
apt to come in an old model I
: Ford, clad in SIS suit and $3.50
hat. But he proves himself TO be
Just as sincere, by offering to share
two-by-four apartment and half
OF the pay check.
Made of Combinations
AS a matter of fact, love is
combination of 50 many things, ana
when it's the real and lasting KIND,
no one of these stands out about the
others. It is made up Of a fourth
tolerance, a fourth physical attrac-
ton. a fourth companiOnshlp ana
fourth mental attraction
Those girls who write TO say they
admire the men they arc going 10
marry. but do not love them are JUST
the women who later keep glgllos
in pin money. if they ever get TO
the point where they meet glgllos,
They are the women who make
patent leather matinee idoling
profitable profession for a good
looking men.
And many a pretty girl gets lot
of yaluables because she looks 70
mantle enough to be Scott heroine
Dear Martha Lee: I have been going
with q wonderful young man for ABOUT
three years He is in love with me ana
has proposed. but I have not accepted
az Yet. I admire him very much, Miss
Lee. but do not believe I love him He
Is not my ideal OF a man. and especially.
not my ideal of husband.
Has Fine Disposition
He has good stable qualities that make
him good business man. He Is kind and
loving and has a marvellous disposition
. but he is not good looking and is not
well yersed in the little niCe,ies and cour-
tesies which I admire III man.
DO YOU think 1 could be happy married
to this man. knowing that I do not love
him as I always have thought girl should
love the man she is going to marry?
J. r. C.
Generalizing on the subject of
MARRIAGE without love, the matter
is solved in the individual desire for
the sentiment the frosting, the
candy side of marriage. If a per-
sons mental attitude on marriage is
superior to those things, I should say
the marriage had great possibilities
for happiness.
Has Fine Qualities
In your particular case. it would
be horribly unhappy You are not
suited 70 JIllS IldIi. MtAIdlIyi TIC ID
superior to you. Spiritually, he is
superior to you. He has depths of
character that you can never reach.
Besides. he loves you as you say
you would like to love some man,
ana then some. You would make
him miserable, l should think.
Apparently, from the tone of your
letter. the only reason you would
marry him is because he is a pretty
good bet" and because you haven't
anyone else handy at the present
time stand by a while and your
candy man probably Will turn up.