The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-01-11
Religion Too
Often Thorn
to Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

It is a strange thing that inSti-
tutionS. organized TO make lie pet
ter and happier. frequently are
turned into traps OF disorder ana
trouble.
Take marriage, for instance. The
sacrament of marriage was or
ganized to preserve the human
race in the most ideal way. II was
instituted to provide that man ana
a woman. who. having found they
loved each other. should find Sc
ourity. safety and permanence IN
that relationship, and the chn-
dren of that union might be pro-
vided with a home and the nome
life which is a child's happiness.
And yet, that sacrament has been
turned into a veritable quicksand
of trouble and unhappineSS.
The same thing holds true OF re-
ligion. Even before Christianity.
when the pagan religions were hold
ing sway, unhappiness and sorrow
we're the result of mixed" mar
riage
Christianity should have done
away with all this. The fundamen-
tails, set down by Christ to guide
the world, if rightly followed, should
lead to peace and happiness. IhoSe
premises are the basis OF all re-
ligions. And yet. when two people
of different creeds meet and love
and marry, very often that very
difference is the basis of untold
sorrow and trouble.
Here is mute evidence of the re-
suit of a union of two persons OF
different faiths which has resulted
in unhappiness and trouble.
Dear Martha Lee-Of course there al
ways are two sides to question. ana
one or the other of them always is more
In the wrong than the other. But some
times. it seems that 1t would be better Tor
two people to 20 back to the old places,
where they started before marriage When
there are children, husband and wife
should sacrifice a great deal before theV
decide to discontinue.
Although I am a Young man. have
been married twice. 7 have boy by my
first marriage. ! have good business
and always have been able to keep things
going.
The second time I married. I married
a woman of a religion different from my
own. AS she said she did not expect to
have any children We would never have
any trouble about religion. and so every
thing went along all right. I attended my
own church and she attended hers.
often went with her. and, when I did. 1t
was impossible for me to attend mine.
thought. since 1 went with her so much.
she could go to mine occasionally with
me. She told me she would before we we're
married.
After We had been married about two
months. I told her I was going to NY
church again. and she Aew to pieces She
said my church was no church at all.
OF course. We had terrible quarrel. and
every time since when I attend church
she makes some sighting remark. She
said it was sin for her to go to my
church. so naturally I stopped going with
her. although I take her there and go
after her.
When we have social gatherings at my
church I will not take her. because nv
friends will ask me why she does not come
to church with me. l 90 not want to
answer these questions. so avoid them
by not taking her. AS q result she &C
cuses me of going there to see some other
woman.
I wish you could ask me any aues-
lions, from her point of view. that would
make me see things differently. All
can see now is to separate. II persons
of different faiths marry. there should be
a law that one or the other change so
they both embrace the same beliefs. G.
No, you're wrong But there should
be a. law against two narrow minded
bigotS of different faiths marrying.
You both are worshiping the same
God, you, after the teachings OF
your family, and your wife, after the
faith of her parents.
Just because those ways happen to
to be different is no reason they
should be the keynotes to quarreling
and dissension in your home.
You are acting like idiots. If your
wife is satisfied with her own faith,
why ask her to come to your
church? Worship your own ways,
and the facts upon which your
Christianity is founded viii make it
possible for you to live in peace and
harmony, if you really follow them.
You both are going to church on
Sundays, and leaving your religion
at the door when you come out,
for another week. In place of your
religions, which teach. you to be
kind, charitable, forgiving and low
ing toward your fellow men, you are
acting worse than heathens. You
have no right to say word against
her beliefs, nor she against yours.
Because your wife is affiliated with
different faith, that is no reason
to exclude her from your social life.
Perhaps you both would be more
understanding if you would prac-
tice your faith instead of prating