The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-25
Family Life
Often Very
Complicated
BY MARTHA LEE

Family life IN Eden must nave
been a pretty quiet, happy affair.
with lust Adam and Eve. and then
later, after Eden had been left be-
hind. a few little tots. there we're
not SO many to quarrel over.
But family life in America has
stretched itself into a maze OF
threads that defy untangling. This
should not De so. Our families are
meant to be among our greatest
blessings. They often turn out TO
be our sorriest curses.
Relatives to the left and right.
back Of us and IN front OF us in
volve us in number Of situations
that would be much better If they
never came up a. all.
This especially happens when one
Of the sons or daughters OF one Of
these deliberately strung together
families. decide n marry.
Sometimes it's the mothers and
fathers who are jealous OF the al
lection centered in the new relative
who has been grated on TO the fam
lily tree. And Their again 1t may be
the new twiz who objects to the
many branches.
Whichever way it is. it's all wrong,
and not what it was meant TO be,
at all.
Twig Usually Dies
Very frequently such quarrels are
precfpitated because Of the fact that
the Young and rightful member OF
the family brings the transplanted
tvie right INTO the home field TO
thrive. The supervision usually Is
so close that instead of thriving, said
twig curls up and dies Of over at
tention.
What Young husbands and wives
Ito say nothing of their mothers and
fathers) fail 20 take into considera-
ton is this:
Like the Door. families always will
be with us. They have their de-
cided advantages. If there happens
TO be misunderstanding that is I'M
fortunate. But The reason usually
is 10 be found in the fact that the
trouble maker fails to grasp the fact
that the love for family and the love
for a husband and wife are two
separate and distinct things. They
cen not be compared. They can not
possibly overlap.
The love a man gives his mother
could not possibly interfere In any
way with the love he has to beStoW
upon his wife. The love his wife
receives is not stolen from the sup
ply he has set aside for his mother.
They spring from different sources.
Works Toward Destruction
A mother who is jealous of the
love her SOD gives his wife is a
silly. thoughJlesS. selfish woman.
The wife who beg judges her mother
in-Iaw the few attentions her huS-
band can give his mother. is work
ing toward destruction Of everything
she thinks she wants to cherish.
A mans reSpect for other women.
his kindness. lis unselfishneSs best
can be gagged by his attitude to-
ward his own mother. If he Is
thoughtless nf her, If he neglectS to
perform even the slightest filial
duties. a prospective wife may rest
assured it will not be long until she
will be treated tie same.
If she b, Srudges these little nice
ties so bitterly that she takes steps
TO forbid them. she is making
\ mess of sour soup for herself.
\ Love is killed most easily by the
person who lnstigates it. In order
TO truly love another human being,
one must respect and admire that
person as :air. honest. sincere, open
minded.
If it happens to be mother from
whom a son must accept prejudice
and narrow mindedneSs. it is not so
bad. He does not have to live with
her. But such a display from
wife is very apt 20 end disaStrouSly
especially for the wife.