The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-05
Marriage Is
Dud Without
TieofLOUe
BY MARTHA LEE

The ultra mOQefIlS nave MT upon
theory that is supposed to solve
the problems Of unhappy mar
riages.
The idea is to have men and
uomen stop this silly business Of
marrying for love. There are two
new reasons offered as much better
and safer excuses for marriage. One
is for friendship and the other is
for money.
Their idea is that the head is
more trustworthy thar. the heart.
That when love becomes acute
enough to make a man or girl
think of orange blossoms and we'd
ding marches it Immediately should
be analyzed, dissected and put to
few tests, where, they claim, it
will fall down completely and there
will be no marriage. The point is,
they say, that the mental and spir-
itual attractions all will outweigh
and outlast this physical attrac-
ion we have dressed up with the
word "love."
If marriage is to be reduced to a
recipe which will assure its success,
as a cake is baked or a meal pre-
pared, it is time some one put in
2 cents worth to help the modernS
along.
Friendships Important
A marriage without love would be
as flat as biscuits without baking
powder, or bread without yeast.
Friendship, mental attraction, spir-
itual compatibility all are very i'm
portant, 1 grant. But in order to
make the thing a go at all, there
must be love, too.
Getting to the money point. 1t
is a fine thing to have money. Money
can buy beautiful things that are a
delight to the eye and the mind.
Money can make it possible for
couple to change their background
occasionally and relieve the mo-
notony that accompanies any mar
riage. But it will not buy the ten
derness, affection, thoughtfulness
that go to make marriage new
joy every day.
There was a time when folks put
too much stress upon love. When
mental fitness and spiritual COM
panionship were not considered at
all. These necessities had their
day when marriage began to take
on the aspects of something that
Just didn't happen, but something
that should be studied and thought
over before it could be- a success.
Marriage to BE Career
Now, people are going to the other
extreme. Love is a lot Of hooey,
they think. Something polite, we'll
bred, well-educated people can get
along very nicely without, partic-
ularly when there are money and
friendship to be had instead. Oh,
yeah, say I.
Dear Miss Lee:
I am Just 20 and through school. I am
going into business for short time but
will not be backward about saying my real
career is going to be marriage.
Now just as some girls study Up on
which career will make them most success
full I am studying up on which marriage
will be most successful for me.
On looking around find the marriages
that are most successful and happy are
those where the husband and wife are
not in love- but merely friends. I find
also that marriages with substantial bank
accounts in the offing are apt to success.
| -r.s -.
if I'm to Judge by what I see. This
| struggling to pay the bills and worrying
about where the next months rent is COM
ing from SIS not conducive to peace and
happiness. I find.
Met Older Man
What do you think on the subject?
I have met an older man with plenty of
money. He wants to marry me. am
not in love with him but like him.
JANE.
Unless have you all wrong you
are one of those girls who start
out at 20 on the pleasant and easy
career of collecting alimony until
the right fellow comes along.
doubt very much whether you
have the set Of standards to figure
out just where love does fit into
this marriage picture. Experience
may teach you that it is head and
shoulders with friendship and
money. Marriage without it would
be uncomfortable. All the money in
the world wouldn't stifie your in
stinctive desire for romance.