The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-24
WJeShouM
Understand
HerHnSband
BY MARTHA LEE

The wisest women in the world
are those women who know their
own husbands. The cleverest women
are those who have studied their
husbands likes and dislikes and
know as thoroughly as one human
can know Of another, how to make
them happy and contented.
About the worst slam any hus-
band can take at his wife is to wish,
aloud or silently. that he were a
bachelor again. IL means that she
has failed completely to understand
the things it takes to make him
satisfied. 1t means that she has put
the reins on MIN so tight that all
he can think about is how grand it
was to be free. To be irresponsible.
To have to answer to no one.
Ninety per cent of women make
marriage their careers. At least,
they marry instead of going out and
earning their own living.
That means that 80 per cent of
the women intend to devote about
three-fourthS of their lives to one
certain man. That for about thirty
five or forty years (if they live to be
ODD they will be cooking, sewing,
bearing children, keeping house for
the men who arc to be their huS-
bands. In return, these men are
going to earn the money, provide
the wherewithal that these things
may be accomplished.
We Need to Study
Taking marriage as a life work, 1t
seems rather important that we
make the most of it. That since
our happiness or unhappinesS is all
tied up in one spot, it would stand
us in stead to know just how to go
about accomplishing the most good.
Here is a woman whose letter
should be a treat to many of you
wives. She doesn't have everything
her own way, you can read that be-
tween the lines, but she's making
quite a go Of her marriage:
Dear Miss Lee-Just finished reading the
letter discouraged" wrote, and for the
hundredth time the question hobbs up in
my mind: do men put pleasure ahead
Of saving and comfort more often than
women do?'' CIR is 1T just another phase
of their everlasting egotistical opinion that
whatever comeup. they will be masters
and come through all right?
In my own case. there have been times
-
cided was necessary, would have bought a
days supply Of groceries. But could you
talk him out of it2 Several times have
tried. and have not accepted the Sug-
gestion only TO find that he has gone in
quest of the pleasure by himself. That
made me decide If he could afford pleas
ure so could I, and not for minute do
1 sit home and let hin, get all the kick
out of life. always go too. He has
his men friends. ana his nights off with
them, but when he asks me to go any
place I'm ready and not locking like some
thing that's being prosecuted, either.
Sure Of His Share
How many women would like to have
a husband who is perfectly willing to come
in with his pay envelope and dump its
contents into their laps, confident that he
will get his share, without any unpleasant
ness? That's our arrangement. What5
left, after expenses are taken care Of, is
saved. If he is hard put for funds and
must have a little extra, give it to him,
because when he has anything he always
remembers and divides with me. He is
generous, and likes to do things in big
open way, and since ] discovered this trait,
things have been better all around.
have found it pays to build the home
atmosphere with an eye on my husbands
nature. Life hasu t been just as 1
planned, but we have managed to avoid
lot Of quarrels and misunderstanding
that we're cropping up when I tried to
make things go all my way. discovered
shortly after our marriage that my hus-
band shys like balky mule at cross
questioning. But patience, silence always
will open his heart and he'll tell ALL" A
woman who exerts herself to know and
understand her husband will find the re-
wards pay big dividends in happiness.
VERY MUCH ALIVE.
Here's some splendid advice for
you who are having your ups and
downs with marriage. After all, if
you love man enough to marry
him, you surely love him enough to
try to make him as happy as pos
sible. And just trying to please him
will make him purr like kitten.
Your reward will be personal hap
pinesS, which is, after all, the most
ary of lis can expect of life,