Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1930-02-23


The busy writer. whose wife, Inez Haynes Irwin.
is also popular author put aside his work
long enough TO discuss the ever-interesting
subject Of man and woman In love, and to
answer the question:
Are men more afectionate than women"
Mr.. Irwin said:
CT THINK it is quite true that women live
more in their affections than do men,
but this does not mean that men are not so
anectonate as women. She spends the days
at home with her children and has compare
lively few outside interests. am now refer
ring to the wife and mother who has q house
hold to look after. It is only natural that
she should live largely In her emotions. She
spends much Of her time thinking about her
husband, looking forward to the hour of his
return at night
Then, having spent a more or less lonely
day, devoid Of adult companionShip or contact
she welcomes her mate on his return with
kisses and caresses. She has mentally re-
hearsed these love scenes through the long
hours of her day.
He, on the other hand, has been out struR-
Cling in the business world making a living
for her and the children. He Is tired His
mind still cltngS to pressing business matters.
All day he has had stimulating contacts with
Office or workshop associates. While he Is
glad to be at home, he has not looked forward
to this evening hour Of reunion with the same
anticipatory eagerness that his wife has.
IF his wife believes that his lack OF an
emotional OutburSt is due to coldness toward
her, she is mistaken. OF course, I am now
referring TO the average man, not to the ex-
ceptional one, who, perhaps may have a frigid
nature. On the other hand, matter how
anectionate woman may be- II she happens
to have profession Of her own or q career,
and does not spend her days in home making,
she will not expect or demand lavish displays
affection he hae
absorbing outside interests and thus does not
spend as much time concentrating on her hus-
band-how she shall greet him at night and
now ne win reciprocate. Nor viii she be grieved
and worried II his welcome home kiss proves
to be a hurried peck on the cheek
Hers Is comprehensive understanding for
she knows that making a living Is a battle
that somewhat depletes the energies Besides.
her thoughts, too, are still back in her ONCE
or studio. and she is not disposed to be over
critical or Overanxious regarding her husbands
conduct. Her interests are not narrowed down
to the emotional reactions between herself and
her husband. She doesn't waste time and
thought attempting to analyze them nor does
she brood over trivialities, torturng herself
as to whether his evening salute has had
sufficient ardor or not
When said that woman, even in love- is
more practical than man, I meant that no
matter how much woman chances to be in
love, she Is surprisingly and eternally practical
In love with man, yet she never deludes
herself regarding his shortcomings. She loves
him despite his faults Though she is deeply
In love- she never forgets for a moment that
her beloved is, perchance, poor unattractive
or just little stupid.
On the contrary. a in love with q
woman sees her only as a romantic figure. He
tdealizeS his sweetheart and gazes at her
through rosy mist. He sees her as one with
out flaws The most ordinary woman, Of
mediocre mind and negligible personality be-
comes for him an IDEAL wonderful creature
Of unique perfection. He endows her with
qualities she does not possess
She may be vixen, yet he calls her sweet
natured. She may he an ugly duckling to all
the world, but to him she is a beauty She
may be lazy, greedy and selfish but he thinks
That she Is little angel What Is more he
goes through life believing her to be the charm
ing figure he has created her in his imagina-
ton. For man, besides being romantic has
nVely imagination That is why man is more