The Indianapolis times., 1930-02-13
Night off,
Idea Is Not
Essential
RY MARTHA LEE

vacationing in wedlock long has
been a subject for discussion and
often has proven dangerous as an
experiment.
The plan, as worked in some
homes. calls for a special night for
husband and wife when they may
70 TO the theater alone, visit
friends, or do whatever they de-
ire 10 do outside Of companion
nip with their mate.
In many cases il has worked
beautifully. The results depend
largely on the temperaments Of the
couple involved.
Marriage seemingly has evolved
from a more or less settled state,
into a game. The idea Of the game
IS for each of the two players. by
a series Of tricks, to attempt 10 keep
the other interested in his or her
home.
The Turning Point
The gay nlneties we're the turn
ing point in marriage. Before that,
man and wife were content to sub
merge their lives IN the lives Of
each other and the children. Each
was satisfied to stay at home, happy
in the company Of the other or en-
tertaining infrequent callers.
Occasionally. they would return
calls. and less often would attend
the current play or cinema at the
opera house. don't suppose that
il ever occurred to our parents to
demand a might off, a week. Per-
haps It might have proved to be
an excellent arrangements; at any
rate, it just wasn't done and they
are none the worse for having
missed this opportunity.
There should be no necessity Of
a conscious effort to keep each
others love. Granted that there
ought to be an intuitive knowledge
that love not always is lasting in
the face of unpleasant conditions,
and a desire to do what is pleasing
70 the object Of ones devotion, one
shouldn't bank on making a man
more satisfied with his lot by giving
him more rope This course is
more often than not disastrous
rather tending to make him dis
satisfied.
Dear Martha Lee-My husband and I
are separated and are considering a
recouciIation. We each are eighteen,
and have darling baby boy. We have
been separated several times before.
Working Now
Ny husband loves dancing. and I don't
care for it. That is our greatest trouble,
foolish as it may sound He is very
stubborn, and likes to have his own way
about running around. He left three
months ago. but doesn't seem to be hav-
ing a good time without me and the
baby I love him. and don't care for any
one else.
He doesn't make much money. but I
am working now. and perhaps we could
get along. NV mother takes care Of the
baby when l em at work.
What is your idea about man and
wife each taking a certain night OF the
week .'od?" 1 have been considering
this plan seriously If he wants to go
to dance one night. and I somewhere
else. would # be fair?
My dear, the things that sound
the most foolish, usually are the
most serious. Your plan is not a
bad one, out it doesn't often get
the desired results.
Effort Is Needed
Can't YOU make an honest effort
to enjoy dancing? 1t isn't such a
hard task Most young girls love
it. The might oil" would not mend
matters in your case, for that is
where the trouble started before.
you said. Take am interest in the
things that your husband enjoys,
learn to like his friends, and half
of your troubles Will be over.
If you try to take an interest in
his friends, and he, in yours, there
is no reason why YOU shouldn't de-
velop into a very congenial couple.
1t would be a shame to separate
permanently. because Of your child.
Had you considered him at all?