The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-07-08
JeaIOuSyLS
Sure Poison
to Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

Jealousy is running the love
and happiness Of my husband and
myself. He is the only man in the
world for me. end I think he feels
the same toward me. But his ieal-
ousy. which I know is unwarranted
is spelling everything beautiful be-
tween US"
That is Mrs. j. introduction 70
her marital difficulty, which you
must admit is a serious one.
From there on IN her letter she
relates incidents which slowly are
killing her love and respect for her
husband. He is jealous If she speaks
10 old acquaintance on the street.
He Immediately. according to her
letter. suspects ell sorts Of things.
He accuses her Of flirting if she
so much as gives a passing glance to
a man on the street. AS a conse-
Quence, she IS 50 uncomfortable and
self conscious that she is growing
into an entirely different person
than she was when she was single.
I never have gwen him a cause
70 doubt me. Mrs. j says. i have
no desire to be with any other man.
No one else ever has mattered 70 me.
I am not a girl vino has been en-
gagged, first to this fellow and then
to that one. I've Always had plenty
of men friends. but few beaux. He
knows this. And the men friends I
have had still are my friends. 1
have never seen any of them, except
in passing on the street. yet ne is
so suspicious of me, that my life is
one continuous explanation of where
I've been and what I've done; who
I've seen and what I said II is
horrible"
Treat II as Disease
Jealousy IS a disease. It should
be treated as such. A person so
afflicted suffers far more than the
object Of that Jealousy. 1t is an ad-
mittance, a blatant admittance, of
inferiority.
A man or woman may act till the
COWS come nome as though self
confidence we're their middle names,
but where there is jealousy there is
a marked inferiority complex.
No normally self confident man or
woman could work into a rage over
a passing stranger That man or
woman who displays acute jealousy
over the glance a beloved one gives
TO man or woman passing by in
the street is subC1nsciously weigh
ing his or her own attractiveneSS,
his or her own merit against a total
stranger, about whom he or she
knows nothing. and fnding his or
her own abilities sadly lacking.
Mrs. is husband has. according
to her letter. gone far enough to
cause unwarantei quarrels with
her after they return home, over
Just such a chance occurrence as
passing an old friend on the street
and speaking to MIN. And she is,
in her own words. fed up"
Self RidicdIe Serious
Nothing kills love quicker than
ridicule, and self-rioicule is the most
serious sort. A husband or wife who
constantly is accusing where there
are no grounds for accusation,
doubling where there is no reason
to doubt, mlsIrusting where there is
no cause for mistrusting. is making
himself or herself ridiculous. They
are Haunting their feeling or inferi-
ority in the faces of those who love
them because of their superiority.
Eventually. it Will work in a vi
cious circle. They Will convince the
one who loves them that they really
are inferior, that .hey really do not
have a chance, even against a
strange person who walks by on the
street. And in time the one who
loves them will be convinced of his
own inferiority in being fooled into
believing such a dub ever could have
been superior Il any way.
Jealousy can nog be cured by an
outsider" The only person who
can conquer the disease is the per-
son afflicted. And he never can do
it until he is convinced it is a disease
to be ashamed Of Something that
really superior people do not toler-
ate