The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-10-13
Loneliness
often Toll
of DiUorce
BY MARTHA LEE

One of the tragedies of divorce
between men and women who have
been married number Of years,
and who have gotten on in years
themselves, is that it leaves them
pretty much at loose ends.
The first year Of marriage pro-
verbally is the hardest. Each sue
ceeding year is supposed to make
the struggle easier.
AS a matter of fact the first years
of married life are too hectic to be
absolutely dangerous. There is the
struggle of readjuStment, the aim
of both man and wife to make the
marriage a success, the desire to
get ahead together.
Regardless of misunderstanding
and hardships, there is in early
marriage (unless one or the other
of the contracting parties, or both
are unusually Self-centered) the
mutual desire to make the grade.
So many times married couples
will struggle past insurmountable
barriers for years to gain what in
their opinion or station in life, is
success. They will bear real priva-
ton together.
They Give 1t All Up
And then, perhaps after years OF
this, when success of their dreams
is within their grasp, they will give
it all up.
They suddenly have an over
whelming desire to be free, to live
their own lives, to break the shack
les that have bound them together
through so much.
And after divorce is granted or
the separation consummated, they
are very apt to find themselves dis
illusioned about all this freedom
business. They are very apt to dis
cover that the habit of being to-
gether is stronger than their desire
to be free.
Dear Miss Lee-I am man So My
wife left me year ago. We have five
children. Four are with their mother.
The other is married. have plenty of
faults, and have seen them more clearly
since L have been left alone.
Recently I met a young woman of Is.
We have had many pleasant times to-
gether. I have showered her with gifts
and she has accepted them all. All during
this time have been separated from my
wife, but not divorced.
A few days ago this girl told me I was
too old for her, that the only thing there
could ever be between us was friendship.
had no intentions Of suggesting love or
marriage until I was free. Perhaps my
attentions led her to believe differently.
Some of my friends tell me I should
spend my efforts trying to win my wife
back instead of going around with young
women. What would you suggest. Shall
try to win my wife back or go on seek
ing younger woman to pal around with?
My wife has sued for divorce. Shall I try
to win her back or let her continued
A SEEKER FOR THE TRUTH.
You have not said what caused
the trouble between your wife and
yourself, but the inference in your
letter is that you were pretty much
at fault.
Chasing Will o Wisp
You are chasing false happiness
that will lead you nowhere. Your
real happiness lies in doing right
by your wife and children. Your
mania for young women pals" is
exaggerated in your own mind. Per-
haps you know the reason.
But you have daughters almost
as old as the girls you want to run
around with, and yet if an older
man were to start taking your
daughters around, I wonder just
how you would feel about it?
Why not get the whole thing
Strengthened out by making things
up with your wife? She used to be
25 and pretty good pal herself.