The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-23
This Destiny
Business Is
OOerrated
BY MARTHA LEE

A modern Joan of Arc who just
finished college in June and has
embarked upon a commonplace and
not very remunerativc career, has
been unfortunate enough to fall in
love and wants to know what to DO
about it.
The objections to this perfectly
normal state of affairs are clearly
stated in the letter They are.
First, the writer Of the letter has
an idea that having college ed
ucation obligates her in some
mysterious way to go out and set
The world on fire.
Second, she feels that marriage,
although all right in its place, is a
mark OF failure. 1t means to her
that the girl was not capable OF
carving her own little niche in the
world.
Third. she is obsessed with the
idea that love and romance and all
chance for future advancement and
happiness fly out the window as
coon as marriage is mentioned
seriously.
Feels She Has Destiny
Fourth. she feels she has des-
tin to fulfill. She is clerking In
department store, but somehow
she has the idea that she has
plans that will revolutionize the
working conditions of all those with
whom she comes in contact, once
she has the chance. And she sim
ply must not let these people down
who have been waiting generations
for her to champion their cause.
But, in spite of all these plans
and ambitions. she is in love ana
wants to get married, and what
shall she do?
Something must be radically
wrong with our system Of educa-
ton that it glorifies every other
career above the career of wife and.
mother.
A woman who can make a success
at being both is nearing genius. Be
ing a successful wife is no mean
Job. 1t takes a rot Of ingenuity
intelligence. education and prepare
ton. to say nothing of tact and
diplomacy, TO be a successful wife.
Success in Anything
A woman who has made a howl
ing success of marriage, in all prob
ability could step out and make
success of politics, a diplomatic
career, business or executive posi-
tons with very little coaching.
A college education is not lost mo-
ton because a girl chooses the
career of wife instead of private sec
rotary. Her education is just as
sorely needed in being a wife and
mother as it is in taking dictation,
writing a passable business letter,
running a tea shop or any of the
other things girls do when they
leave school.
Besides, genius is not grated
on to the mind of every college
student like the ideas from his
books. 1t is born there before he
ever saw a college and probably
would have manifested itself
whether he ever walked inside of
classroom or not. An assurance Of
success in the business world is not
passed out with every sheepskin.
Marriage is not mark of failure.
Sometimes it is, but that depends
upon the idea that motivated it
and the possibilities of the contract
ing party. 1t takes more elbow
grease for a girl to carve herself
niche in the world after she is a
wife than it ever would for her to
be a we'll paid working girl.
Depends on the Person
Whether love, romance and all
chances for future happiness and
success fly out the window after the
honeymoon has set depends entirely
upon the intelligence Of the man
and woman who are concerned. 1t
would be more disheartening to look
back upon having missed even a
chance at f1eeting happiness and
romance than to take chance at
being intelligent enough to keep it.
Destinies are all right in their
place. But so few people really
have them, outside the realm OF
homes and children.