The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-01-21
Happiness Is
Not Limited
to Wealthy
BY MARTHA LEE

Too much publicity about unfor-
tunate marriages and too little talk
about happy marriages has made
Mary and John a trifle suspicious
about the ACCESSIBILITY of placing
their future happiness in the hands
of some man or woman.
You know the old saying, mo
news is good news" For some I'M
expIaiuabIe reason, the sorrows and
trihulations. the gossip and dirt
about cur felloW-mcn is much more
diverting, much more exciting than
the happy, simple things that occur.
Don't ask me why. I can not
understand the motive that prompts
us to read aVidly all the murders,
suicides, divorces and scanda,S
about our friends and neighbors
with more relish than we would ever
read the nice things that happen
TO them
Can See 1t Every Day
It's Just something that has hap
pened to us. Something that has
caused us to undervalue the real
things in life, and overvalue the
shams. You can see it every day,
everywhere you look.
Dear Martha Lee: This is not love
problem. I am "a years old and have
been married four years. 7 have two
lovely little girls. one and the other IA
months. I am expecting another in about
six months.
Here is my trouble. Miss Lee. dread
| to tell my mother about the new baby.
| She made such a fuss last time ana !
don't believe l could stand 1t again. Al
| though we do not have everything we
would like to have. there is nothing we
really want for. I make all my own
| and the children's clothes, even my nus
bands shirts and underwear, but to hear
mother talk. you would think she hao
to clothe US. We are poor, Miss Lee, but
we are not destitute, nor even dependent
upon anyone. She does give the children
little dresses at Christmas time and on
| their birthdays. My sister also gives me
her old dresses to make over.
Gets the Blame
| Every time ny mother comes over she
makes me feel badly because she talks so
about our home. MY husband and I are
not very tidy and the girls toys usually
are scattered around.
But our home is small, and I allow
them the freedom of the whole place, in
stead Of coping them in one room. When
go over to mothers house she can't
sit still for running after the babies to
| keep them from putting their fingers
| on anything. When they do get mische"
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mother says it is my fault for not teach
ing them differently.
| Really Miss Lee. my husband and
are quite happy. considering how little
we have to do with. But mother takes
the punch out of it all by making me
| so unhappy. I am more unhappy be-
cause she is dissatisfied than I ever could
be because I don't have things. Do you
think she will change when some of my
| brothers and sisters marry?
| A READER.
suppose every mother has it in
her heart to want her children to be
blessed with happiness and the
worlds goods And because it seems
SO much easier to be happy when
their IS plenty of money, she gets
the idea that is the most important
part Of all.
You are happy, the way things
are. Don't tell her about the COM
ing event. 1t is your own secret
and your own affair. She has no
right to dictate to you. Then if she
asks you why you haven't told her,
you have a good chance to explain
to her exactly how you feel about
the situation.