The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-30
Rum Parties
Are Hazards
to Romance
BY MARTHA LEE

I wish it were possible to impress
young people who are contemplate
ing marriage, or those who just
have married with the Importance
of getting started on the right foot.
1t is not half so important for
them to have a specific amount OF
money in the bank as it is for them
to have certain definite ideas about
what they intend to make their life
together mean.
All the money in the world can
not buy back love and respect when
it once has gone the way of the
dodo, simply through mismanage-
ment.
Whether the prohibitionists like
it or not, there is such thing as
LIQUOR to be obtained, and there are
such things as parties to attend,
where the heavy exercise of the eve
ming is hosting a glass filled with
liquid, and I don't mean water.
Character Changed
The right and wrong about i'm
billing intoxicating liquors is mat
ter of personal opinion, like every
thing else. It's against the law, but
loads of people who would not de-
fy a sign on the park grass to keep
off, let alone ignore a traffic rule,
never hesitate to take little drink
of what commonly is m1snamed
"pre-war stuff" at the slightest
provocation.
But that's neither here nor there
in this argument.
The point is, there is liquor to be
obtained, and people who drink II.
Now. the bad feature of drinking is
that it causes a subtle change IN
our characters. Some of us be-
come more anliable. some become
ouarrelsome, some get pliable and
some belligerent. Some talk exactly
as they always do. Others resort 10
phrases most apt to be heard in
waterfront dives and the like.
Romance Is MARRIED
And that is very destructive to
Young romance. Parties are not the
breeding ground of happiness for
young people. Fun's fun, but there
are so many more important things
in life. so many more worthwhile
permanent things that simply must
be treasured above all things II
there is to be real happiness, under
standing and respect.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married a
little over a year and I am reaov TO call
it quits. I have done everything to save
the situation but with no cooperation
what can I do?
My husban dand I go around with
set of young marrieds and unmarrieds
who have good time. but they do quite
bit of partying. Not old fashioned party
ing. not too sophisticated but Just in be-
tween There is little drinking goes on
And although I am no prude my hus-
band happens to be the kind who gets
exceptionally obnoxious when he drinks.
1 have stood Just about all 1 can.
I have tried to go along on these parties
because I thought it was my duty to go
if that was what he wanted, but I have
lost so much respect Tor him that it has
spoiled our marriage. Am I doing wrong
in staying by his side? Is that encourage
ing him? Should I make the best of an
irksome bargain or leave?
TROUBLED WIFE.
No one can decide that but your
self. If you love each other enough,
it might help some to talk this all
over with your husband and make
him understand just how you feel
about it.
Marriage Threatened
Make him realize that you feel
your marriage is being jeopardized
by his actions That you have gone
along with him simply because you
wanted to be with him, but that
you can not approve in the face of
things.
Your handling of the situation
and his response to your plea that
he see his duty in the matter is all
that can decide the question for
you. 1t is a serious thing for re-
spect to be lost in marriage. Love
and respect have a way of going
hand in hand, and when one is gone
the other becomes a pretty weak
sister in trial as strenuous and ex-
acting as marriage.
Success of your marriage is so
much more important than the
f1eeting enjoyment you can get from
any evenings enjoyment, no matter
what form it takes. Since you feel
this so deeply yourself, surely you
can impress the Importance of a
change in your mode of living upon
your husband.