The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-08-20

Is Useless in
LoUe Affair
BY MARTHA LEE.


smack Dempsey a good one on the
end of the nose with no provocation
as it is to NEEDLE in other peoples
love affairs, and yet everybody does
it. sometimes with the best Of in
tentions. But practice hasn't made
the little custom any safer and no
really effective method Of handling
such cases has been discovered.
Among the clumsiest and most
persistent offenders are mothers and
fathers. Their interference in love
affairs of their children always is
for the, good of all concerned
They always put in their 2 cents
worth ito save an impossible situa-
ton" But what they really end up
in doing is to muddle the whole
business hopelessly and ALLEVIATE
their own children because of their
lack of tact.
The only way any woman ever
discovered to her full satisfaction
that the man she loved was bum
and a cad and a no-good was by
finding it out for herself.
Conversation No Good
All the conversation in the world
will not convince her that she is
making a mistake as long as the
man has brains enough to whisper
sweet nothings in her ear and tell
her how every one is against them
and too selfish to let them find
their great love in marriage.
Opposition by outsiders usually
fans the flame of love to an I'M
natural intensity. Instead OF
dampening ardor, it increases it
faster and more furiously than it
ever would be increased under nor
NAL conditions.
Wise namas and papas, who have
real reason to object to suitors OF
their daughters, know this. They
never attempt to break up the
match by forbidding the boys pres
ence in the home. They do not try
to disillusion the. girl by telling her
tales about her swain's past, pres
ent or future.
Wise mamas and papaS arrange
situations so that the boy will show
himself up for what he really is.
Men and women, being what they
are from childhood, simply must
have a burn on their own fingers
before they Wilt believe the stove
is hot. They must look at the pic
lures themselves before they. will
believe there are such things as VIII
lains and bad men in the books
Keep It to Himself
Advice from brothers and sisters
is Just about as hopeless. A brother
who knows his sisters sweetheart is
not worth the powder that would
blow him up, might Just as well keep
his knowledge to himself and devise
means whereby the boy will be
shown for what he is worth.
Dear Miss Lee-My sister is in love with
a cad and intends to marry him. am
not merely preiudiced against the boy. He
really is worthless. He will make her I'M
happy. because he is not the type of boy
who could ever make a good husband to
any girl. much less my sister.
have tried to tell my sister just what
sort OF fellow he is. This boy has her
completely fooled. But instead of her TAX
ing the advice as she should. coming from
some one who really has her interests ct
heart.
am determined she shall not marry the
boy. as are my parents But every word
we say against him only seems to make
her more determined. What can we do?
BUD.
If you really know something
detrimental about the boy, some
real reason why your sister should
not marry him, it should be easy
for you to devise a means of show
ing him up in her eyes. The surest
way of disillusioning her would be
to make the situation such that he
would show himself up in his true
colors.
If you have your information
about him from hearsay, it would be
a good idea to investigate the whole
affair, and give him the benefit of
the doubt until you get the goods
on him. In the meantime, refrain
from mentioning his name to your
sister.
You are alternating her from you
to a place where you can not help
her when the occasion arises. If you
talk against him, she will not believe
you. Then when you have some
thing real to show her it will be like
the bow who cried "Wolf" too often.