The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-10
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BY MARTHA LEE

Whirlwind courtships and speedy
marriages are bad business for a
number of reasons, one Of the
primary ones being that the short
acquaintanceship does not give the
girl and boy time really to find out
what kind of folks they are marry
ing.
Fundamentally, a woman, IN order
to be a good wife, must have certain
qualities. She must have a good
disposition, a sense of humor, well
defined idea of fidelity and loyalty
A man, in order to be a good
husband, must have ambition, an
ability to earn living wage, a good
disposition and an understanding of
the necessity to share what he has
and makes with his family.
Bunk" say the young ones in
love. mo matter how long you
know them you never really know
them until you marry them any
way"
Characters Indicated
True. But just the same there
are certain signs and wonders that
crop out during an acquaintance
ship in spite of everything. And
they are definite indications OF
character. They are infallible signs
of what to expect in the future.
And a short courtsnip does not
rive opportunity for finding these
things out.
Usually a girl who marries a boy
she has known short time lives to
regret the day she took such a step
She discovers to her amazement
that life is not what she thought
nor marriage for that matter. And
most important of all, her husband
might be another person entirely
from the boy she fell head over
heels in love with.
She married in haste and is re-
GREETING the whole thing at leisure,
with one eye fixed on the divorce
court as a way out of the mess. She
is older. but no wiser than she was
when she leaped without looking,
into the matrimonial sea.
Met Another Boy
1t is so much cagier to give a
good look first. It is so much smart
er and safer to give the boy thor
ough once over. 1t would save
money, time, hearts and homes.
Dear Miss Lee-I am in ouandary.
q hOU *
with whom I am madly in love. I was
going steady with another boy at the
time I met this boy but since have spent
most of my time wtihSthe new friend.
He is in love with me too. and wants
me to run off with him and get married.
Everyone. including my family. has
thought all along was engaged to the
first bov.
I want to marry the boy. but there are
several things that make me hesitate.
have known him only three weeks.
do not know anything about him. except
ing that he is the dearest person ever
have known. He told me the last time
saw him that if I had not made up my
mind in a week he would leave here and
never come back. I love him so much.
and want to marry him. B. w.
Seldom Succeed
Let him go away. If he really is
in love with you, if he really wants
you to be his wife, he will be back
year from now asking you the
same question. He will admire you
for being sensible about the whole
thing, if he is the right sort OF
fellow.
Statistics are against the hasty
marriages and whirlwind courtships
3. w. They almost never turn out
right. 1t is difficult enough to ad-
just yourselves to each other after
several years Of friendship. But
perfect strangers, as you are
hardly can be expected to make a
go of it.
If the thing is supposed to be, it
will, even though you postpone ii
indefinitely. And if it does not, you
will not have the expense and
torture of dragging yourself through
the divorce court.