The Indianapolis times., 1930-06-18
Wiz,es Can
Be Big Help
in Business
BY MARTHA LEE.


in the successful business career of
her husband? Is the part she plays
important to his venture, or is she
merely a liability?
Successful and unsuccessful hus-
bands ask themselves and others
those questions. The successful
ones doubt the influence their wives
have had in making them success
full or praise her for what she has
done, depending largely on the men.
The unsuccessful ones often find it
very easy to place their failures at
the doors of wives who never have
tried to help them along.
Wives do have a lot to do with
making their husbands successful.
Too many wives are stingy with the
praise and open handed with the
ridicule. Nothing could make them
break down and say their husbands
were clever and smart and good
business men but a million dollars
in cold cash in their hands.
They get more fun seeing him
wriggle by telling him about the
smart business deal Mr.. Jones pulled
last week than they do out of see
ing their own mates made happy by
little word Of praise when he tells
some small stunt he pulled him
self.
That sort Of thing kills mans
ambition and desire to get ahead.
Meals Play Big Part
An unhappy home life, a nagging
wife, a poorly managed house do
not fire man with ambition. They
do not send him to his job of wrest-
ing a livelihood in his best form.
Even such things as well balanced
and cooked meals can have a lot
to do with a mans success.
The prize drag on mans sue
cess is a wife who can't keep up
with his stride. Too often an i'm
portant job carries with it social
obligations that must be carried
through in good form. And wife
who can not meet the test has
enough influence very often to pre-
vent her husband from getting the
job he has worked for.
Dear Miss Lee: This is strange story
to tell, and you will probably think me
disloyal to feel the way do. but must
have help. if there is any to get.
When I married I was quite young and
awfully poor. But was ambitious. The
business I was in had plenty of oppor-
tunities for young fellow to get ahead
if he applied himself. And I did. I
had natural aptitude for the business.
and had been working from the bottom
rung of the ladder since I was kid
My wife was fine. She helped me save
and scrimp in the lean years. and all
the time I was gathering new knowledge
and meeting new people she was at home
taking care Of the youngsters.
Children Only Interest
In few years had gone pretty far,
and we had lots of things that we had
considered luxuries in the old. days 7
wanted my wife to read good books. go
to lectures and entertainments that would
help her mentally. but she was to wrapped
up in the children.
Anyway, here's the story. kept going
ahead I got more important position.
Several times it was necessary for us to
entertain and the affairs always were
horrible fops. because she didn't know
how to do things. and resented my sug
gestions that made it seem as though I
knew more than she did. She said I
might in business, but she would run her
own home. 1t was almost as bad when
we went out. She couldn't keep up a
conversation with other wives. because
she knew nothing but the children and
her home.
She has begun to feel as though I no
tice the difference between herself and
other mems wives (which I do). and as
a consequence. it has made it almost i'm
possible for me to help her as much as
can.
In Line for Job
This may sound silly. but I know am
in line for big job that I will not get
unless things are different. Is there any
way I can impress her with the import
ance of her learning these things with
out hurting her feelings?
Some times it is easier for a
woman to stand shoulder to shoul-
der With man IN failure IMAM IN
success. Your wife was SO fine when
you were poor. She was such a
help. It was through her unself1sh-
ness and good management that you
got your start in the first place.
Your wife resents your success.
She resents the way you have grown
away from her. If you can make
her realize how much she is respon-
sible for your success, you can kindle
pride in her heart that will make
her want to keep up with you. You
see, the way things are now, she
feels unnecessary in both your life
and success. Get her to ask you to
help her. She will if you give her
enough praise for how much she