The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-10-21
Popularity
May Become
Boomerang
BY MARTHA LEE

Popularity proves a two-edged
sword sometimes, like a lot of other
things the world fights for.
Like money. popularity is so
handy TO have. 1t insures a con-
tinuous good time, if that is what
one wants out of life. 1t means
constant attention, invitations,
hours filled with going places, see
ing people and doing things.
For a girl it can mean added OPP
portunity for marriage.
just about every girls dream OF
heaven is to have the boys lined up
Tor a block to her house, trying to
get a date with her. A few girls re-
alize the ambition.
Vanity Is Flattered
All of which is very flattering to
young girls vanity. There is a
sense of security in knowing you
are desired; that your companions
ship is in demand.
But popularity can be Just as
tragic as 1t can be pleasant. Often
it causes a girl to delay so long in
making a choice that by the time
she had made up her mind it would
be a good idea to settle down and
get married all her suitors have
given up in despair and married
some other girl.
The too-popular girl, with dozens
OF chances Tor making a brilliant
match, very often let's the flattery
and novelty OF so much masculine
attention go to her head so thor
ouhgly that suddenly she finds her.
self shelved with finality no I'm
popular, unSought-after girl ever
experienced.
Appears Frivolous
And then there is the danger that
the popular girl, just by her pop
ularity, will appear frivolous and
unstable in the eyes of young men
who are the most likely to make
good husbands.
Dear Miss Lee-I hope you will under
stand this letter without thinking rae a
shallow Dragging type of girl. I am g.
Since I was Is ] have been quite popular
Eith boys. My trouble never was in not
having any dates, it was more apt to be
having too many. 1 just happened to hit
il of rather well with boys and they have
sought my company ever since
have had proposals of marriage, but
J never really have been in love. About
q wear ago l met a marvellous boy, a
college chum of one of my friends
fell for him Immediately. Since then
have seen him quite a bit in the crowd
] run around with. Although he seems
10 like me and likes to talk to me he
never asks me out. One time 1 asked
him why he never came over and he said,
What do you want with me hanging
around your doorstep, when it's so clut-
tered up with men already?"
He is polite to me. but 1 sense the fact
that he considers me shallow and vain
He las limited that 1 am entirely incap-
able of deep affection of any sort. AS
a matter of fact if 1 thought it would
60 any good I'd never have another date
until he asked me for one. What can !
do TO show this boy I am not the type
Of girl he thinks? M
You may be in love. Then again
it may be that feeling of frustra-
tAOAA "a having AlCt q 4ild4C dJ 4doJ
who is not crawling after you on
his hands and knees begging a
crumb Of attention.
SubtIety Is Required
You may win out. He may ask
you for dates, even to marry him.
And you might find that all your
interest in him pivoted around your
desire to make him realize you were
quite the most attractive girl he
ever saw.
You might do as you have sug-
gested, give up all other dates until