The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-03-11
Men Want
Girls to BE
Themselves
BY MARTHA LEE.

of youth. has found that goodness
and virtue have brought her moth
ing but loneliness, according TO he,
story.
She. like a great many girls anc
Women who have not known I'M
usual popularity, seem to think tina
the cause of their dilemma lies il
the fact that they have stuck too
tenaciously to the conventions anC
believed too firmly that virtue is it.
own reward.
Popularity is WIDELY the result o.
a likeable personality, a good dis
position, an attractive appearance
and a love and understanding o,
humanity that makes of that per
son a good listener.
The rigidity with which the mora
standards are adhered TO has moth.
ing to do with it. There have beer
girls who gave away their kisses {
little more freely than other girl!
who have been followed around BY
crowds of boys for time. But then
popularity, because it was basec
upon such a fImsy and unstable
foundation, was a flash in the pan
Get Only Results
And if We analyze the whole
thing. l doubt very much if that
flash in the pan" type of popular
ity is based so much on the fact
that they were kiSsable as it is or
the fact that they were sympathetic
and sentimental. A girl would have
to be those things in order to bring
herself 70 the mental viewpoint thai
would allow her to be so common
And because the boys do not gel
the mental viewpoint, but only the
result of it, after awhile they con-
slider to merely cheap and common
Anyway. Francine, whose name
certainly bellies her nature as We
get it in this letter, has this to say
about being good:
Dear Miss Lee: I am 81 years old ant
I've come to the conclusion that the onl,
thanks girl gets for being good is t.
sit at home alone.
I have been working since I was i9
! was of the opinion that while I wa
in the office. I should be a human ma
chine. I never made an effort to attrac
the attention of men by wearing hashl
clothes at work. I attended to my owr
business. and did not indulge in CONVEX
Satton with those who came in for bust.
ness reasons.
Had Invitations
was rather attractive looking. anC
when I first went to work. ! had quite
a few invitations to attend parties viii
young men in the office. Also several O.
the girls used to ask me to go out or
dates with their friends. but from theil
conversations. I thought their idea o.
amusement might not be the same al
mine, so I didn't go. And of course they
stopped asking me. All these girls. whom
1 considered SO wild. have married righ
over my head. and 1 still am plugging
away at the office. Each new crop Seems
wilder than the last, but they have date
and beaux and good times.
always thought If 1 would be gooc
would recognize that fact and ask me Il
be his wife. But I guess those thing
don't count any more.
How do you know how those girls
act if you never have peen out with
them? They may talk flip and act
smarty, but that is no sign they
were any worse morally than yoI
are. It does not seem to me that
girl who never has had any temp
tation Of any kind can say she
either is moral or immoral. Since
she never has had a chance to be
otherwise. naturally she is moral
But surely you were not being good
then, because you wanted to be
good, but because you thought thai
eventually it would bring you the
most out of life. That is clearly
visible in your letter. And now that
you have not gotten the reward you
expected, you break down and con-
feSs that the thanks one get for be-
ing good is not worth it,
Not Because of Goodness
You are not unpopular and lonely
because you are SNUG and prudish
If a girl says anything that sounds
the least bit f1ippant, you immedi-
ately cast upon her a look that in
dicateS you believe her capable OF
any amount of depravity Naturally
she will resent such a look. and sc
will all the other boys and girls.
You are so repressed that it must
be awfully hard for people even tc
act natural i'll your presence. Il
isn't human to work in an Office
for eight years and never exchange
small talk with the other employees
Unless miss my guess you are
sour on life because you feel Vol
are superior to other girls, and We
they walk away with the prizes tim,
after time. Well, my dear Francine
men do not want human machine
Tor wives. They do not want wive
rwho are afraid to be natural an,
laugh and have a good time becaus
they think they will be goin,
against the conventions by so doing
And If you are SO afraid of lif
now, how do you ever expect
young man to secretly cherish tn
desire to lead him to the altar?