Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1930-03-30

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Because @ soHaaR sgas a spoiled darling
sVhen she ssus o EstIe girl, IL is no sUOn-
der that she failed 10 her marital duties.
EErT'HIS 'in-law' antagOnism is not entirely
without cause. when q woman realizes
that she ID tied 10 . tyFant, who believes that
he must subdue his wife because Of his sup
posed masculine superiority, she senses that
his upbringing has been faulty.
mo wonder she does not feel excessive hive
for the mother she considers responsible. And,
to aggrayate the situation the mether-in-law
usually sympathizes with her son.
ION the other hand observe the man who
is happily married, having had the g0od for
tune TO marry woman who understands the
importance of cooperation, and who, while
not subordinating her win to his, does not try
to gain the upper hand
He is almost certain to be on quite cordial
terms with his mother-in-law. He somehow
divines he is thus benef1ting by the older
wonlan's wisdom. Naturally he is grateful
to her, and shows it by treating her with
affection.
But there are ways by which a person
can avoid the pitfan Of uniting himself to one
unsuited for the matrimonial state.
SIT does not require the insight Of psycl1ol-
ogist to know that the unsoeial person viii
not make good mate. The man or woman who
has not learned in the years before marriage to
be a good companion, associate, friend, is not
likely to develop into extremely desirable
husband or wife. The solitary the recluse, the
selfish, Self-centered type of man or won1an
may well be avoided
Adults who are much pampered in their.
family circles, or ones who are extremely ego
tistieaI or who have tyrannical nature, wiz
not prove prizes IN the marriage draw.
representative people. those who are vain
and stubborn and unyielding, pretty certain
not to develop into enviable mates
When girl is looking over the matrimonial
possibilities in her immediate set, it is wen for
her to focus her attention the socially adj
justed youth. The young man who draws to
himself many friends must have desirable
character qualities. The fact that he can get
along with many different people means that
he has learned the secret Of comradeship.
1T is the same with o woman. The girl wha
out and liked BY both men and women, has also
learned the secret Of getting along anieably
with others.
S|Co it is that . young man who has been
well liked before marriage who has made
many friends, and who is held in esteem by
others, cannot change overnight after mar
riage. It Is ineonceivahle that the man whn
knows how to deal with men and women be-
fore marriage should not understand the one
girl he happens to love above all Others
Jealousy is the cause of much domestic tr0u-e,
BILE. But the gTeen-eyed monster does not loom
up without first having east its shadow Excess
siVe jealousy usually masks feeling of infer1-
GRITTY. This sense of inferiority reveals ITSELF
before just as well as after marriage If a girl
has jealous strain, it is going to show up be-
fore she marries. She will be suspicious OF
every other girl who crosses the path of her
affianced. She will reveal her jealousy in many
ways.
There are those who delude themselves into
thinking that jealousy is the mark of a great
and passionate love.
"But the little storms of jealousy before mar
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