The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1930-09-26
Convenience
Marriage Is
Dangerous
BY MARTHA LEE

The adVlsaDuity OF marriage With
out love always is topic sure tC
bring forth conversation in any
group. But when the question be-
comes a personal affair, it isn't 81
funny.
Plenty Of women, young and not
so young, are contemplating JUS
such a move. And there are a few
men in the same boat.
The very young women are mos
apt to be contemplating the steI
because they want financial secur-
ity. The more financial security
the better the match, usually.
Older women contemplate mar
riage without love usually because
they are lonely or afraid Of grow
ing old alone. They marry fol-
companionship more than anything
else.
Men marry without love because
they want homes. housekeepers
cooks and the like, without the
trouble of paying them weekly sal
aries and watching to see they are
economical.
Dangerous to Youth
Marriage without love is more
apt to be failure and a serious
mistake when younger women are
involved. They have not the phil
osophy, the perspective, the view
point that an older woman has 10
help her over the rough spots.
No matter what the ante, a young
girl expects romance and love and
mile a minute thrills with marriage.
And when all she gets is handful
of bills whether they are tens or
hundreds in denomination she feels
she has been cheated and Is very
apt to start out and do something
about it.
And even II all she expected to
get out of the match was a flock
of currency. she still wants her TO-
nance, and nine times out of ten,
gets It.
Finds His Ignorance
An older man may spend most
of his adult life studying the needs
of the young, but just let him get
a Young wife and he finds how woe
fully lacking his education has been.
It. isn't in the book for men to
go along for years remembering the
rosy haze youth casts upon every
thing, and mostly upon love.
Dear Miss Lee-I am in love with girl
a. am 4s. This girl never has had
very much. and although am not
wealthy man. what I can offer her LOOKS
like a million beside what she's had.
Now I could press this point. because
! can see she is impressed. But 1 do not
know whether she loves me. or whether
love is possible when there Is such a oil
ference in age. She has an affection Tor
me hut lust what sort It is ] do not
know. what do YOU think7 Do YOU
think happiness would result from such
q marriage. l.
If the girl does not love you and
is only impressed with your money,
the chances are you would not be
very happy. She might be, for a
while, but it would only last IS
long as the thrill of having new
clothes and a car and house would
last. If she does love you, really,
then your chances of happiness are
greater.
Under ordinary circumstances,
ma n Rage between persons as widely
separated by years as you and this
girl are. is very risky. 1t does not
make for happiness and rarely for
pern1anency.
If you would do justice to your
self and the girl, fail to make any
mention of the things you could do
for her after marriage. Do not COM
pare her present surroundings with
those she would have were she to
marry you. You would just be buy
ing her, without either of you adj
hitting that was what it was.