The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-02
Pick Mates
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BY MARTHA LEE

Young men and women contem-
plating nlatrimony constantly are
seeking rules by which to choose
husband or wife. Which is, OF
course, fruitless search. There
are no more certain rules by which
the possibilities of a girl or boy as
wife or husband can be determined
than there are scales on a COW.
Having no rules, we must judge
what their reactions to certain cir
cumstances would be by their re-
actions to similar circumstances in
the unmarried state.
For instance, a boys attitude to-
ward his mother is almost an I'M
failing indication of his attitude to-
ward other women, especially his
future wife. If he Is courteous, kind,
considerate, gentle, patient and gal
liant there Is no reason for doubling
that his attitude toward his wife
would be the same.
If he is sharp, impairment, I'M
mannerly, and given to discourte-
ousy with his mother, chances are
he will be the same toward his wife
in no time at all.
Lacking in Real Principle
A girl disrespectful to her mother
will be found lacking in real prin-
ciple toward other people with whom
she has constant dealing. The at
titude of boys and girls toward their
parents is a pretty safe indication
by which to choose mate.
Another sure-flre bet is their at
titudes toward any responsibilities
that come their way before matri-
mony. If they shirk the minor re-
sponsibilities that come to them as
sons and daughters, you may rest
assured their attitudes toward their
husbands and wives will be no diff
ferent.
A young girl, contemplating mar
rage, but not quite sure Of her
choice has written a letter in which
her doubts are all too well founded.
Dear Miss Lee--I am % years old and
very much In love with a boy. We are
thinking of getting married, but there
are q few characteristics I have seen him
display that have caused doubt as to the
possible success of our marriage.
He always Is sweet and considerate OF
me, but have been in his home and
seen the disrespect with which he treats
his mother and father.
He Does Not Reciprocate
He is better educated than they, as I
am better educated than my parents, but
would not think of telling them they
didn't know what they were talking about
when they say something that I think
sounds a bit foolish. Well. he does that
for one thing. It is as though he was
ashamed of them for being so stupid and
was trying to silence them.
Another thing, they were forced to
sacrifice 6 great deal to send him to COL
lege. Since he has been out he has
gotten a good position. But I happen to
know he never has helped them, financially
| III any way I1S lldo QSCu l1Lo col Ai4AA6o
to buy a car and dress himself well; to
join clubs and take lovely vacations. This
worries me, too. I can not help but love
him for his treatment to me, but it sets
me wondering when I think over these
things. What do you think, Miss Lee?
WORRIED.
I think he would be very bad
bet as husband, my dear. AS
have said so many times, there are
no sure rules to guide boys and
girls in choosing their mates, but
surely if anything is hand writing
on the wall, it is the attitude Of
that prospective mate toward his
parents.
I think this boy you love is I'M
utterably selfish, and although he
loves you, you too, would feel the
pain of that selfishneSs more times
than you can guess.
Never marry a man so completely
wrapped up in himself he can not
be touched by sense Of duty. You
will be digging yourself a charming
little crypt in which to die a little
every day.