The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-02-06
Boys AdUice
in Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

There is nothing like good per-
spective to get a clear, full view
Of anything. Sometimes when the
object or the situation eve in this
column are usually talking about
situations, too is too close, only one
side is clearly visible. Only the out
standing features Of the thing are
seen. In order to see the thing as
a whole, it is best to stand OH a
bit
When a husband and wife have
looked at their lives and their rela-
lions at close quarters for a num-
Der of years, they are apt to become
near sighted. Then when the dif11-
culties, those discussions that start
over some inconsequential thing,
come, they are not adjusted to see
ing them.
Instead of standing off and CIV
ing the whole thing a good once
over, they look at the whole and
decide all is wrong, or they refuse to
recognize there is anything and go
their placid ways, fermenting in the
whole situation an impossible pol
son, the poison that unwiSe Silences
can ferment.
So it happens that very often
some one who is standing off, look
ing at marriage with no personal
knowledge of what is the best thing
to do under this or, that circum-
stance, can give some very good ad-
vice to those who are in the situa-
tions, merely because they are see
ing it through impersonal eyes, and
especially from a good perspective.
Every once in while get letters
from young girls containing first
class information on "How Hus-
band Should Treat His Wife" And
once in a great while a letter from
man on the same subject. Here is
one of them:
Dear Miss Lee-Although I am boy OF
only 10. and marriage is farthest from my
mind. at the present time, have. through
watching my parents. my married friends
and married relatives formed an idea
about how to be happy though married,
and most especially how to make your wife
happy. 1 have come to the conclusion,
after watching my folks. that it is the
little things that count. the little at
teptions that don't cost man thing
except little thought for somebody else
once in a while. besides himself
First, when man comes home in the
evening from work, he shouldn't just speak
to his wife as if she we're the maid or
poor relative. He should take her in his
arms and kiss her. tell her how glad he
is to be back home. That seems b me
to be the one thing in the whole bus IS
that can keep woman happy, under It
any conditions. A little attention,
words of praise. Something to let E
know that she is important in the SCI e
of things.
When she gets new dress or Somf ing
new for the home, don't criticise Tell
her how pretty it is first and then say
what might improve it little, in case it
doesn't quite suit Notice little things,
like when she dresses her hair differently.
She will simply beam under the influence
of little notice.
Last, but not least, no matter how tired
a man may be after work, ask her if she
would like to go any place. If the hus
band is considerate of his wife's feelings.
she will be correspondingly considerate of
his, and nine times out of ten will inquire
whether he feels like going out. A movie.
card party, just once in a while, with
out her having to suggest it, will go an
infinite way toward keeping her amused
and interested. Be fair about the money
problem. She is working for her husband,
and deserves the salary any employee
would receive. And after she has been
paid" a husband has no right to quiz
her as to what she has done with that
more than his employer would dare ask
him.
Do you think that hits at the essentials,
Miss Lee? WIN
Win, you are a wise boy, and if
you can stick to those ideas, and
make them workable after you are
married things should go very we'll
for you. This is what I mean by
getting good perspective. I take
it you have found these things out
by studying the causes for unhap-
piness among those married couples
you know. See and profit.