The Washington times., 1929-11-09
MARRIAGE
She Urges Common
Sense in Choosing
q Life Mate
Ry Beatrice Fairfax

n" LeII1genCe. InlS IS an cFs
when young people reason
And marriage, like every othe.
human institution, Is going tt
benefit by the exercise OF reason.
Some will tell you love is blind
Jinreasoning emotion. Electricit!
Is q blind force, but 1t must b.
harnesSed before it is of practica
use. Uncontrolled electricity vii
not drive your car or airplane
Neither viii uncontrolled emotion
lead you to q happy romance. Or
the other hand emotion without
intelligence to guide it is the mair
cause Of heartbreaks.
"I always loved her!" q mur-
derer cried the other day, when
he was convicted Of killing his
wife. Doubtless, his feelings
for the wild, irresponsible young
woman he married was intense
fascination and an urge to pos
Sess her. Both he and she fol-
lowed emotion, not intelligence,
In their dumb, mad marriage.
When you marry. the success
Of your marriage depends, not
on love alone, not on intelli-
gence alone, but on a practi-
cal blending of both qualities in
working out order and harmony,
success and progress.
Look about you-note mar
riages that are successful. You
wilr1ind both husband and wife
devoting themselves to each
other, home and the community
with intelligent, unselfish hard
work and finding their joy in SO
doing g-real joy, tender joy
and peace.
Intelligent marriage is prac-
tical.
MY problem is to coax Fred
20 eat fresh vegetables, con-
fided one successful young wife.
"He is not disposed to like them
and I know he needs them. I
feel that his entire success in
business depends on his keeping
his health and energy at their
highest level.
$50 I nave made an art Of
cooking spinach and cabbage
and carrots in ways that appeal
to him and make salads that
would tempt any human being.
I encourage him to play golf,
too, because that keeps him in
the open air, and he needs
plenty OF fresh air and exercise
to balance long hours at his
desk"
Little wonder Fred is sue
cessful and looked UP toa
leader in the community. He
has inspiration for his work in
this practical affection at home.
And because he, himself, is
also intelligent, he and his
wife cooperate in all things.
They play together, work to-
gether, travel together, make
the best of opportunities to-
gether. And the home circle,
including Fred, r., and Ellen
I'd, naturally reflect the. affec-
tionate good huInor and alert
Intelligence Of the heads Of the
family.
Wives nowadays are freed
from much of the drudgery of
cooking and houseWork, thanks
to the inventions Of this me-
chanical age of ours. But If
time and energy saved in this
way are not spent in making
happier, healthier, better hui
man beings, the leisure. gained
is q curse.
Make it your aim to marry,
girls, and to marry intelligently
and well. If you devote your
tact and cleverneSs, your char
acter, charm and sweetness to
this end, you will in all proba-
bility win a good husband. A
career may be second best,
but IL you choose a career, and
I'm doing so sacrifice your
chances for happy marriage,
home and children, you will
never be satisfied. The girl who
fails to marry successfully is
either I unfortunate or very
dumb. Do not wait for the per
feet man, he does not exist.
Content yourself with a hus-
band who is kindly, good and
intelligent.
Having married, proceed to
make a joyous, satisfying sue
cess Of marriage, home and
family. You can do this If
you will.
AS a modern sage has ex-
pressed 1t, "a woman's good
thoughts and a mans good
thoughts, united together, are
great power. A new kind Of
power Is born of complete part
nership between a man and q
woman"
You modern girls who love
power and success, you will
exert your greatest power for
good your own good, and the
good of those who come after
you-through affectionate,
practical, intelligent marriage
the kind Of marriage that
stands for loving service.