The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-05-23
PhOnyLOUe,
Real Love-?
HSPuzSIe
BY MARTHA LEE.

If young folk only could be made
to realize how beautiful and inSpir-
ing a real, deep, lasting love can
be, and how quickly a pseudo-love
can tear down all the qualities that
have been built over period OF
years, there would be fewer (if any
hasty marriages and consequently
less divorces
But it is pretty hard to tell the
synthetic from the real stuff. They
have so many of the same earmarks
and the only test that has proved
anywhere near right is time.
In this age, when far too young
men and women go to the altar with
a peep over their shoulders at the
gate for out, marked divorce" it is
especially dangerous.
They Won't Heed
1t is a pretty difficult thing for
mother to tell little Janice that
Tommy is a very nice boy, but you
do not think he will be quite as fine
husband as he is playmate.
Young people resent interference
and dictation, and most parents,
when they try to put over point
such as this, simply can not refrain
from being both dictatorial and
"nosey." And that is practically
fatal
Parents have one duty which they
neglect most shamefully when their
boys and girls are becoming young
men and women And that duty is
the practice of one of the cardinal
virtues-tact.
1t is their duty, before the chill
dren are old enough to get entan-
Cling alliances, to tell them tactfully
how their choice in husband or wife
either can make or break their lives.
Tell Them in Time
The time to do that is not after
the daughter of the household has
fallen in love with some hopeless
doddering idiot of a boy. but be-
fore, when there are no personal
prejudices that might be tossed back
into the teeth. Read on:
Dear Miss Lee; am 20 years old and
in love with two boys. The one BOY
is lovely, from fine family. comfortably
wealthy and we'll educated. The Other is
a carefree sort of chap, not much sense
of responsibility. but a most fascinating
fellow
said ! vas in love with both. But that
is wrong I really am only in love, the
Il Jecc oI1y
for a husband.
You can just imagine my folks actions
about the whole thing They treat the
first boy like a rich relative just about
ready to go west and the other chap as
though he we're some sort of scourge.
Well, that does not go over so big with me.
can not describe how differently
feel about these two boys. 7 like the first
one very much. but more like I would my
brother. AS I said, my feeling toward
the other boy is what I believe to be love.
What shall 1 do about it?
Nothing, right now. You are too
young and TOO undecided about
yourself and life in general, The
ones who should do something are
your parents. They do not realize
it, but they are driving you to the
arms of the boy they do not want
you to marry.
Go at 1t Wrong Way
It is q parents duty to show his
child, before the case arises in per
son. how love and marriage can |
be q marvellous or a terrible thing |
They realize this other boy is not |
good husband" material. but they !
are not going about things very well. |
You are old enough, fortunately, |
to figure things out for yourself.
You can see that he is irresponsible, |
and f1y-by-night; interesting as a
but an aWfully poor in
vestment as a husband and the |
father of your children.
And you know it is no trite |
phrase that you can not reform q
man after marriage. If there is any |
reforming to be done, it must come |
from the heart of the individual |
not through threats and |
extracted promises. Sit tight, my
dear. and watch life from the door
way for a while.