The Washington times., 1929-03-09
Famous AuthOr
On Problems
Of Love


/ 81 them write TO ask advice.
Although the column IS dedi.
cated to the heart interests Of
girls, yet after all, whatever
srnooths the path OF love and
aids happy romance, aids both
girls and boys. So / am sure you
girls will agree 1t ID only fair to
devote this space in the paper
occasionally to friendship and love
problems OF young men.
Every normal young man is
engaged on a quest, whether or
q not he realizes the fact. Every
young man Is searching for that
wonderful golden girl who will be
his comrade and helpmate
throughout the years. This ap.
plies even to those enthusiastic
young bachelors who choose not
to marry. For when the cone
firmed bachelor meets The Girl.
his stern resolve not to wed
Usually melts into thin air.
There is an idea abroad that
oil modern young men are spoiled.
Some OF them are spoiled, thanks
70 girls who do all the pursuing.
But worthwhile young men--and
these are in the majOrity--turn
to nice girls in the effort to win
their friendship and affection,
Quite as naturally al the youth of
other generations, and young
folks, despite economic difficulties,
still plan to marry with all the
eager hope and faith Of young
love.
Modern marriage, II only be.
cause of economic problems, is
tremendous undertaking for a boy
Of 20 or 81. Five years later he
is better suited to the task. But
even before 20 the average youth
begins to go about with girls and
enjoy their society. Consciously
or subconsciously. he enters on
the quest of his golden girl.
This is as 1t should be. It is
not good for man or woman to
live alone. The experience of the
ages repeats itself every time
youth and maid decide that for
them complete satisfaction and
happiness will mean a life part
i1ership and the founding Of a
home and family. Men and won.
erl cannot live complete lives with.
out love. Marriage is the most i'm
GNGIIL lAASs
The right wife Is an inestimAble
aid to any man. Wise is the
young man who forms friendships
i and seeks companionship among
the kind of girls he would wish
to marry. In that way he Is not
likely to drift into misalliance,
but will, in all probability. form q
union of intelligence as well as
Affection really happy mar
riage.
How to find this golden girl is
the question! In a generation OF
bobbed, short-skirted flappers, all
pretty and in appearance and
manner pretty much alike, how
is a young man to know which
girl is at heart his kind of girl.
When Bill and Betty meet
there are always six persons
present, as any philosopher will
agree: There, is Betty as Bill
thinks she is, Betty as she her.
self thinks she Is and the real
Betty. Also present are Bill as
Betty imagines him, Bill as he
knows himself and the actual
Bill. 1t Is not easy for all these
personalities to understand each
other. Possibly that is why mar.
riage is called a gamble! Bill, let
Us say, drifts along, fascinated
by Betty's amusing Zine" or her
soulful blue eyes and blond curls.
Betty seems an angel to him.
But when he marries her he dis.
covers his angel has nagging
tongue and there is sordfd self
seeking back of the soulful eyes!
on the other hand. Betty may be
astounded to discover that Bill
has a fiery temper and a sulky
disposition and cannot or will not
entertain her as he, did before
they married. All is not gold that
klitters. The golden girl some.
times turns out brass!
Had Bill cultivated the friend
ship Of any number Of girls
danced with them, played bridge
taken them to the movies, pic.
Yiicked with them, hiked with
them, studied them in their
homes, chatted with their parents,
he might have learned to under
stand girls better and choose q
wife because he and she liked the
same. things and shared the same
tastes and aspirations.
A fine $3.50 friendship with SO
girls of all descriptions, girls tall
and short, blonde, brunette. red
haired, girls studious and frivo.
lous, athletic and coquettish Is
good for any young man. Learn
to know girls as pals and COM
rades without pretending to be
other than a good friend. To
take up all girls time for
years, arouse her hopes and then
eisappoint her in the end is
second-rate, to say the least. A
year or even less of close com
panionship should enable girl
end young man to get to know
each other well as friends. If
sou fall In love with friend you
are fortunate indeed. II q girl
does not measure up as friend,
IN not the kind of girl you wish
60 marry, let her go despite the
elamor and heartache and wait
until you find your treasure.
A girl never changes after mar
riage; do not count on reforming
her. Miracles do not happen in
marriage. II you wish a domestic
girl, choose girl you know likes
to cook and keep house. Do not
expect a butterfly to settle down
and cease fluttering. II a gold.
digger, q gold.digger she will re-
main. II you have brains, pick