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reason for not coming to see me,
and. though he did not care to
talk about 1t, gathered FROM
what he said that he had tired Of
me. / hate quarrels. and. be-
cause of my affection for him,
l let this go, feeling that 1t Is
rather easy 10 tire Of anyone
whom you see at least twice q
week. Do you think / was right?
Or should have become angry?
do you think It pays to let
q boy get away with mean say
ings or actions In order to avoid
q quarrel II you care enough
about him to let 1t go? Does this
cheaper q girl to the boys way
of thinking?
I'VE had good times together,
but he never cared to hear about
things I did or about my friends,
unless to ask what boy had gone
with to certain affair and then
be jealous Of him. II he loved
me-and he said he did--would he
necessarily have to- be interested
In my doings?
II became angry at him one
evening and so / haven't seen
him, for quite q while. AS l was
the one who would not make up
then, would II be my place to
speak to him If We should meet?
How can make up? How should
/ act IL we chance to meet?
shall appreciate your advice very
much.
I am glad that you enjoy read.
ing my column, Iris, and hope
you will, find my answers to your
questions helpful Some modern
young men have an amazing way
Of saying, II love you" without
meaning more than q passing
compliment.
Your friend likes you, but fail
to see that he has shown the
slightest evidence of loving ycu.
His jealousy of Others attentions
proves nothing except desire to
dominate.
He went about with you for
awhile, showing interest. liking
and a certain attraction. then he
stayed away. Again he renewed
the companionship, again he
drifted away and gave you to
infer when you questioned him,
that he. was tired of seeing you
SO often. He takes little IL any
interest in you or your friends.
Under the circumstances you
surely cannot for one moment
imagine he loves you.
Why should you resent this
fact? Why should you be angry
because he does not love you?
That Is not his falkland prob
ably not yours. 1t Is not any
evidence OF neanness on his part.
Al young man cannot fall in love
with every friend.
Merely take him nghtly--as1 q
friend and companion-not as a
sweetheart. Continue to go about
with others. Keep him for a
friend, OF course, as you do other
boys you know and like. But 10
not read into his actions and
words any significance that is not
there.
You will not cheaper yourself
by falling to take offense because
he frankly Is not in love with
you. You will, on the contrary,
by your good hun1or, show your
poise and common sense.
How can you make up with
your friend? In the easiest way
in the world! Just bow and
smile whenever you see him,
speak to him also II that seems
the natural. tactful thing to do
1t does not pay to ''iet boy
get away with mean sayings or
actions" A girl who has- self.
respect will show her annoyance
and displeasure over any indignity
of that sort. But be sure you
really have cause to be annoyed,
and are not merely suffering
from piqued vanity.
In this instance, 1t seems to me
you have done the sensible,
friendly thing, Iris. In assuming a
boy may tire of a girl If he sees
her too often. So remain friendly,
but do not permit the boy to see
you sufficiently often to tire OF
you again.
Have I answered all your ques.
tons? ] hope so. Common sense
and a kind heart will help you
solve these problems of friend.
ship as they arise, and will enable
you to distinguish between a boys
indispensable passing fancy and
deep, true, loyal affection, which
may one day, lead to love and
marriage.