The Washington times., 1929-06-01

Lear MISS Fa1fId4, Sne WHITES.
"Will you please help me solve
aome problems which have been
worrying me?
II have been married a year
TO one of the most wonderful
of husbands. He loves me bet
ter than life and puts me first
in most everything. But here is
what worries me, and am afraid
1t will lead to a separation unless
you will help me. My husband is
terribly jealous of me and at
times / feel sure he Is suspicious.
But l am so true to him and it
troubles me so much for him to
doubt me.
L have told my husband all
my past, and he has told me his,
which is a hundred times worse
than mine. But because / made
one big mistake in life, l have
to suffer so much.
Then too, my husband refuses
to let TMe use rouge or wear
light hose with black shoes, and
he | wants me to wear long
dresses. Do you think he is
acting right?
He says, "A lady will not use
rouge or wear light hose with
black shoes
Il have given up almost
everything for my husband. l
very seldom go anywhere unless
he is with me, and he Is the
same way. We are, together so
much and love each other so,
and everybody thinks we are so
happy.
"Now please don't misunder.
stand me and think l am too
hard on my husband, for l love
him and want to do the right
thing. Please do help me for l
surely need help"
l will gladly help you, my dear,
II l can
You have married a jealous
man-that is his one weakness!
You are not likely to change him.
You really have not the ethical
right to try to make him over to
suit yourself. But one thing you
can do-adapt yourself to him
and to the circumstances of your
may
be difficult, but surely ii Is worth
your while if it will prevent the
wrecking of a marriage so ideal
save for this. one drawback
OF course you will need to be
very careful not to give him cause
for suspicion. But your letter is
clear on that point-he has no
real cause for jealousy. The un-
fortunate mistake of your past is
forgiven and forgotten by him, in
theory, but it may aggravate his
fear of losing a love that means
everything in the world to him.
Moreover, he feels a responsibility
for you, for you have been en-
trusted through marriage to his
care. He wishes to be very proud
of you and so he demands more
from you than he would from
other good women.
How can you better the situa-
ton? sBv not taking it too seri-
ously. Fortunately, you love each
other and have each other. Guilt
vate a sense of humor when it
comes to putting up with your
husbands idiosyncracy.
Compromise on the subjects of
dress and grooming on which he
takes such an extreme stand.
Dress with reserve and good taste.
avoiding startling fashions. On
the other hand, you do not wish
of 1 course, to be conspicuous
among other women by wearing
your skirts to your ankles when
every one else is keeping to the
hemline just below the knees.
Avoid marked contrasts between
your hosiery and shoes since that
will. please him. There are shades
that are fashionable. but conserva-
tive. Use rouge discreetly il at
all. For the rest, my dear. tease
him a. bit when he demands a
great deal or acts suspicious.
Study him. humor h:m. keep
him happy and good-humored by
means of just a little flattery, a
little joking on the subjecl of
suspicion. And be sure always
to keep yourself, like Caesars
wife. quite above suspicion.
"The most wonderful of hus.
bands"-who loves you and whom
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