The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-08
About LOUe
for. Friends
Chosen Girl
By MARTHA LEE

Pity the poor young fellow who
is in love with his best friends girl
There is practically nothing he can
do but take the forget cure" It's
hard thing to take, but most ef-
fective in nine cases out of ten
That's the idea after all-results.
\ AS general rule, if fellows are
good buddies they have an admira-
ton for a few of the same things
and a lot of ideas in common. And
one of the most frequent of these
is the idea about girls. AS a conse-
quence, they often like the same
girls. And that is just too bad, es-
pecially when it narrowS down to
one.
It's pretty tough on both of them,
but most especially on the girl when
she must make choice. The whole
trouble is the fellow who lost out
usually idealaizes about the girl and
decides she is the only one in the
world like that, so he had just bet
ter settle himself back in a nice,
easy chair and become a bachelor.
And there we get back to this
living with ghost stuff. 1t just
isn't healthy. There really are
other swell" girls in the world,
maybe even "sweller" than his
buddy's sweetheart. The only thing
to do is play that old game of
/ swapping out of things.
A chap who shelves himself from
the rest of the world because his
first love affair, or imagined love
affair, goes on the rocks; a fellow
who puts himself absolutely out OF
circulation is giving himself pretty
bad deal.
Dear Miss Lee--I am 26 years old and
I'm sure you will think after reading this
letter that I am old enough to know
better.
have buddy who has been my best
friend ever since 1 can remember, We
have gone all through school together,
taken our vacations together, read the
same books and exchanged ideas ever
since we we're knee-high.
Our ideas about things have been
pretty much the same about most, just
differing enough on some small points to
make our friendship interesting with con-
troversies once in while.
We have gone with the same crowd for
years, and for years both of us have been
very fond of the same girl. She has been
our ideal. Recently we have both be-
come serious with her, and of course ]
was left holding the sack. She liked my
friend the best. For which do not blame
her. But feel as though evrything was
over for me. 1 have been around lot
and have met large number of girls and
she is the only one who ever interested
me.
Is there any answer to a problem like
that? I feel as though my sadness about
the whole thing shows SO plainly in my
face that am rather spelling things for
my other two friends. R.V
Of course, there is an aswer. You
have never looked up any other
girl as prospective wife, because
you have been too much wrapped
up in this one girl.
Get around with your friends and
begin looking the others over, not
to find where they fail in COMPARE
son to this other girl, who is as
much as dead to you now, but to
ind where they excel her.
You will not only be doing your
self a favor, but you will be max
ing a gracious gesture for your two
friends whom you seem to love so
dearly. It is terrible detriment
to complete happiness to feel that
you have snatched it out of the
hands OF your best friend, and as
long as you brood about it that
is the only way they can feel.