The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-12
Trouble in Married Life

different religious beliefs IalI IN love
and marry. And, too many times,
this is the source of constant trou-
bic between them, sometimes not
through any fault Of their own.
Many times it is the result Of con-
slant nagging from the "in-laws" on
one side or the other.
AS I say, a mans religion may be
his whole life: he may believe what
he believes to the last ditch, but that
Is no reason for him to lose re-
spect for other mems beliefs. That
man is right, as far as he knows how
to be right, and no other man is
privileged to ridicule his manner OF
worship.
A wife who is being made miser-
able through constant argument on
the religious question has written
about her troubles.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married five
years and on the whole our marriage has
been a hppy one. Ny husband is OF
different faith than mine. 7 do not even
mean Of 2 different faith. because he has
no church. but at least he believes diff
ferently from me.
Goes Own Way
never have tried to foist my religion
on him. 7 have gone my way, following
nv faith as I best know how. Now his
relatives did not approve Of the match in
the first place, and every time we were
around with them, they made sighting
remarks about the customs Of my church.
One can not help but become angry with
that, but I always managed to hold a
civil tongue in my head, even though I
would be seething inside.
knew 1t was because they did not
understand my faith, and, after once try
ing to explain a certain custom, I gave
It up until they should become more
oueu-mlnded, rather than cause any dis
sention in my own home. OF course my
husband loved ne, but he was not in COM
plete sympathy with my religion.
Lately. every once in a while, he has
taken it upon himself to start such an
argument. I will not argue with him. II
he is willing to sit down and listen to
me explain that which he does not IN
derstand. 7 am ready to do so, but as
soon as 7 start. it is sure to lead to
quarrel.
!
It results in a bitterness that lasts sew
,ral DAVIS. I would not mind so much if
he had a religion of his own that ne
believed in as sincerely as I do in mine,
hut he hasn't. He is Just opposed to mine,
and does not leave me in peace. I am
so unhappy about it. because I love him
and can not understand why it should
be an issue. MRS. II. h'
You are right. my dear. Your
husband has no right to make you
unhappy because he does not be-
lieve as you do. No more than you
have a right to make him miserable
because he does not believe as you
do.
Respects His Stand
But the thing is, you haven't. You
have respected his disbelief, and he
has not been manly enough to re-
procate. There is only one thing to
do. Tell him you refuse to argue
with him unless he is willing TO
listen to you and try to understand
that you can not bear his intoler-
ance.
Surely if he loves you he will, II
you explain things to him properly,
learn to respect your belief. AS for
his family, I should chuck the whole
flock. Be civil and kindly when they
come to your home, but since they
are so impolite. so utterly lacking in
the first requisites of hospitality
avoid going into their homes when
ever it is possible
Two people with ordinary intelli-
gence should have the good man
ners to keep their religious beliefs
from being soiled by household
battles.