The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-29
LoUe, Once
Lost, Rarely
Comes Back
BY MARTHA LEE

There is nothing quite as hope
less as ,garmed-over fried eggs, I'M
less it is warmed-over love affairs.
On thinking it over, I am of the
opinion that warmed-over eggs
would be much preferable.
1t is almost an irnpossibility to
re-heat the ardor, the spontaniety
the freshness of love that has, for
one reason or another, ceased to be
love. Love is primarily feeling
over which folk have little control.
1t comes, and makes itself known.
It goes, and there is vacancy
where it once has been. But one
can not go out and drag it back,
fighting and kicking, and expect it
to be the thing that it was when it
came of its own accord.
The most delightful thing about
love is the lack of effort on the
part of those who have it, to keep
it. Usually when drastic meas
ures are brought in to keep it in
its corner, it gets high-handed and
walks out.
A period of time passes. The need
for something to fill the emptiness
left by that love, grows. Instead
Of accepting something else almost
equally desirable, conpanionship
for instance, there is a concentrated
drive to bring back love.
1t is better TO become resigned to
the fact that love will not be pur-
sued, which sums up that old saying
about che also serves who only
stands and waits"
This letter is from a woman who
lost love:
Dear Miss Lee-I am rs years old. two
years ago was one of the happiest girls
alive. was engaged to marry one OF
the most wonderful boys in the world
We were to have been married two years
ago this summer. I was very much In
love, and had been under the impression
that ne was also.
had my hope chest filled with linens
for our home. I had practically COM
pleted buying my trousseau. All the plans
ell thesa things were cone. Through ar
action on the part of my dance, which
considered a sign of tendency toward
unfaithfulness. broke the engagement
I did not want to, but my mother influ-
enced me into believing that would be
best. I have never been convinced thai
this action was unforgiveable.
Because I refused to take his word If
the face of circumstances, he said it would
be best as it turned out, because there
were too many times, too many circum'
stances in married life when faith in eact
other was an absolute essential, which
believe. But the point is. I believe he lost
all his love for me, during those few min.
utes that we exchanged the words thai
ended in our broken engagement.
Now I realize that I was wrong; that M
matter what the circumstances were,
was entirely in the wrong not to believe
him. I want him back. What can I dc
about it? MARY JANE. =
Go out and find yourself another
man, I guess, Mary Jane. It would
be almost impossible, under the Cir
clinlstances, to marry this boy. Botf
of you would think of the plans you
had made, the ardor of your love fol
each other in those first days Of
your engagement Then lie would
remember, with bitterness, I an
afraid, of your lack of faith in him
That would rankle like an oper
sore.
Of course, it is your move. Yol
should see him, explain to him thu
circumstances at the time you broke
up and ask him forgiveness. But i
this unwomanly gesture of yours
two years ago, has killed his love
for you, do not hope to successfully
rekindle it. Resign yourself to the
result of your own mistake anc
promise yourself never again to fai
so nliserably.