The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-08
But DiUO1rCe
Sometimes Is
OnIyAnS7Ce1'
BY MARTHA LEE.

It is 50 hard to give up nope that
everything is going to turn out
all right. especially in matri-
monial stew. II is 50 human to
expect the unexpected Sometimes
that word has to be changed from
unexpected to impossible
But there arc times when giving
up hope, throwing up the sponge,
chucking the whole business as i'm
possible and unworthy Of the con-
slant conflict is the best thing. l
hate seeing homes broken up. l
hate seeing husbands and wives
being divorced But there ARE
times. when there isn't any other
way out. It isn't half the sign of
crying quits that sticking out an
unbcarable situation would be.
It is almost unthinkable that two
people Who have loved each other
enough to marry will not love each
ether enough to try to be COM
petIble. but sad but true, they will
not and the result is a constant
turmoil that ruffles the nerves OF
any one coming within car-shot Of
the house.
Subject Too Involved
A woman who is facing Just such
a situation in her home writes for
a word Of advice concerning the
subject that she feels she is too in
volved to think clearly
Dear Martha Lee: I have tried 10
solve my own problem without seeking
help but I feel I am too close to 1t to
sec all sides Of it, I have been married
for nine years. have put up with aer-
ersl instances when my husband has not
been true to me. l haYc had to reconcile
myself to tho fact that nc drinks. These
things hurt me, as they would any wife,
bat I love him and so have. at least on
the surface overlooked them
Lately he has reformed. He doesn't
drink nor trilc on me, as far as I know.
He has a good job and VIC have lovely
home. but Miss Lee. since his rcforma-
ton. our home Us unbesrablc. He IS so
Erouchy and mean. He seems to blame
tho reform upon the fact that nc IS
married and tied down TO vic.
Tic tells mc nc wants 10 break UP the
home. that hc is tired Of supporting me
end my child (which Is child by a
FORMER marriage He says he IS getting
nothing out Of life The house is IN
constant turmoil. II is unbearaole,
Want Her TO Leave
He wants me to leave him. Even though
will not quarrel with him. nc ham
mers on that from the moment he en-
ters the house until he goes to sleep The
funny part OF it is I love him, silly ana
improbable as that seems. I Just can't
figure out whether to so or stay. Our
home is on 2 joint deed. He has offered
ne an alouan il l will just so.
Among the awful affects Of living in
such an atmosphere is the way it shows
ND on my child She is so nervous and
frightened and it has made her school
work about twice as hard for her Shall
1 leave, Miss Ice? --,-,r,zr,
You would better make bargain
with him so that you have some
security concerning your source OF
income and then leave. Staying on
there when he does not want you, is
running your lives. 1t would be much
better for you and your child If you
would leave him and establish your
own home, regardless of what lux
urieS you might have.
Things Now No Better
Things are not growing any bet
ter with you there. regardless OF
how hard you try to please him.
Once you are gone, he might realize
he misses YOU too much to allow
YOU to stay away. AS long as you
are there, his contempt for you will
grow daily.
It always takes more courage to
rcadjust ones life than to follow
the course of least resistance and
make the best of that sort Of Situa-
ton Where is your pride and self
respect, that you would allow your
child to sec this man treat you
with such Scorn?