The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-07
Wife Weary
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BY MARTHA LEE

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over their luncheon coffee. Several
of them were married. Several Of
them were single. They were ex-
changing ideas about love and
matrimony and what husbands
should be TO make their wives happy.
One woman, oldest and wisest Of
the group, was talking. Her work
had brought her in contact with a
great number of people and in close
contact with rather intimate details
of their lives.
The man who makes the best
husband is the one who always will
be polite. One of the most glazing
faults have 10 find with men is the
fact that they are apt to lose their
manners after they have been mar
ried for year or so. And that ap
plies to women, too.
There are certain little courtesies
that are overlooked so easily when
husband and wife become careless
in their attitude toward each other
And those things hurt.
SoaoC
IF you will notice carefully, it is
usually the little things that cause
big wars. 1t is the little hurts, piled
over a period of years, that finally
bring couples to the divorce court"
Now when you hear women say
Ing that their husbands are so diff
ferent since they have married than
they were when they were single,
you usually will find they are re-
ferring to some apparently trifling
incident that has grown to be al
most an obsession.
A woman who has found her hus-
band lacking in the common cour-
tesies that men usually show to
women is being driven from him be-
cause Of that. She has written her
woes in the following letter:
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married for
i've years and am beginning to find mar
ried life unbearable. Ny husband is a
good man. He does not leave me alone.
He is not interested in other women. He
IS good provider- But he is frightful
boor.
3GADLE We NElC HhEIlcu- / DdQ no Ted-
son to complain about his manners He
always was courteous and considerate.
But in the last few years he has become
so careless that he has become unbear-
able TO me.
He never thinks. for instance, of allow
ing me to precede him out Of a door. un-
less, Of course, I am there first to open it.
He never helps me into car or across a
ha u, fba
evening. and is unshayen and a trihe
grimy with the days work. he does not
consider it necessary to shave and wash
before he sits down opposite me at the
dinner table. His table manners have be-
come careless. In fact, his whole attitude
is one Of "if you don't like it, lump it."
Now. Miss Lee, I suppose this will seem
like nothing at all beside some of the
troubles people write in to you. but it is
real to me. I am not of particularly
sensitive nature. but I do like to see hus-
bands and wives treat each other at least
with the courtesies they would other hu-
man beings and it surely is not very ap-
petizing TO see a pair of dirty hands
reaching for a slice Of bread.
1t is not particularly lattering to have
your husband walk down the street with
utter dfsconcern as to whether you get
across the street or not. have limited
In a Joking way about these things. 1t
seemed too trivial to him even to pay any
attention to- But Just the same I am
serious about it. It has become an obses-
sion with me. What can I do?
MRS. BooR.
It probably wouldn't have much
effect TO give him some of his own
medicine, because he probably would
not notice it, but you might try that.
He really seems like a fine husband
outside of his habit of being bliss
fully ignorant that there is such a
thing as a code of manners to use
around his own family.
You might also tell him about
Mrs. Brown, whose husband is so
careless she can no longer bear the
sight of him. You might relate in
cidents of Mr.. Browns careless at
titude that are just the things, your
husband did that evening that par
ticularly annoyed you.
Or again you might learn to
tolerate his idioSycrasieS. And you
always might be sure you are being
a shining example for him to follow.