The Washington times., 1929-05-04

for money, but for love alon'
Nevertheless, money is an i'm.
portant and necessary factor Of
courtship and marriage. Love,
money and marriage are closely
interdependent. If you doubt this
ask the young man who wants to
marry the Dearest Girl and hasn't
money saved or steady salary.
Cupid. among other accomplish
ments, needs to be clever fioan-
cier!
II you read as many letters as
/ do from love-lorn young folks
and discontented husbands and
wives. you would realize that a
large proportion of love problems
center about, money.
Anne dislikes going about with
Bob because he can only afford to
take her to cheap places. Charles
loves Diane, but will not ask her
TO marry him because her parents
are rich and he is earning small
salary. Dick has given up all
thought of marriage; he cannot
afford the luxury of wife!
Emily has decided she will marry
for money IL she gets the chance,
because she loves the things
money buys. Fania's husband
doles out dimes to her. although
he is rich. F'loria is talented and
longs for a career, but her hus.
band is opposed to her earning
money with her music as a matter
Of masculine pride! Kay is weary
Of earning her own living and
carrying the two-fold burdens Of
her companionate marriage. She
longs to be supported and pro-
tected by an old-fashioned hus-
band. Jim cannot get anywhere,
and is worried to death because
his wife's extravaganza and ignor-
ance of money values keeps him
In debt.
What is the solution of this
problem of love versus money?
Shall financial difficulties be per-
mitted to throw blighting shadow
over love and loves self-realiza.
tion through marriage?
Financial adjustment to love
and marriage is purely personal
problem, a question each girl and
young man, each couple must
settle for themselves. Possibly,
however, a few suggestions may
not be amiss.
If money and the things money
buys, rank ahead Of everything
else in your thoughts and feelings,
you may as well be honest with
yourself, admit the fact and act
accordingly. But do not be sur
prised in that case because ro-
nance, love and happiness are
crowded out of your life.
Wealth of affection, apprecia-
fion of romance and beauty, spiri-
tual riches, these are what count.
Keep money in its proper place in
the scheme of things. If you give
1t sole power by imputing to it
sole Importance. 1t will rule you
as its miserable and abject slave.
Sensible girls are quite as well
pleased with an fce-cream soda
treat as with orchids, taxi, theater
and supper. when they know the
lce.cream soda is all the friend
can honestly afford to spend.
Many young men are held back
by false pride and lack of firm
ness from taking an honest stand
In the matter of expense.
A little courage, a little inde-
pendence and good sense, with pa
thence and optimism, usually solve
money problems that otherwise
might menace love. Couples like
the Calvin Coolidges prove how in.
dependent fine living is of ex-
travagant display. Choose the
plan of thrift that appeals to you
and your helpmate. then work it
out with courage and persistent
good humor.
A girl who tries to influence a
young man to spend more than he
ran afford is not his frierd. She
would not make him happy if he
married her.
Fresh air, friendship, sunlight,
blue skies, walks, true affection,
honesty. loyal love. common sense,
youthful gaiety and fun cannot
be bought or sold. They are free.
Face the financial situation hon.
estly with the man who wishes to
marry you. Discuss it freely and
ask for a definite weekly allow
Ance after marriage on which to
run the house, from which to save
For your own separate bank &C.
count.
Let common sense dictate how
little you and he can live on at
the start. Resolve to save. Then.
regardless of money you and the
Dearest Man can grow ever richer
In cultural life, happiness and
ove.