The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-07-09
Couples We'd
for Better
or Worse
BY MARTHA LEE.

II seen1s 10 ne that the sooner
husbands and wives resign them
selves 10 the fact that they simply
must play ffty-hfty game in this
state called mstrimony, the better
Of everyone concerned will be.
When they walk to the altar rail
they must leave the one-track mind
outside. Not Just checked, either, to
be picked up on the way out. You
see. before. the man could take his
weeks salary and do as he jolly
well pleased with it. IF he ran
short. no one suffered but himself.
But all that is changed as soon as
ne marries.
HIS salary no longer IS his own.
II becomes a community affair, be-
tween himself and his wife. If he
has been used to going about as
ne pleased. spending his evenings
where he plea sed and with whom,
it is Just too bad if he misses them.
Has His Obligations
But his time IS no longer his own.
strictly He has obligations that
must be fulfilled. And unless he
fulflls them. there can not be the
happiness and peace in his home
that there might be.
The same With the wife. When
she marries and SAYS she will take
the man for better or for worse,
that holds. Of course everyone
hopes it is going to De for better.
And fine If it is. But If it isn't, it
still is Just as binding. Just as much
of promise.
Now. when YOU think about It,
there is one Of the bases for a great
deal Of the divorce prevalent these
days. AS long as things go smooth
". they are like Two bugs in a rug.
A dove couldn't COO more effectively.
Feels She's Through
But let something go wrong. let
some Of that old worse show up
around the corner and the thing
blows I'D as though 2 stick Of dvns-
mite had been put under it. Here Is
? woman who feels the worse part
Of her bargain has been more than
fulfilled.
Dear Miss Lee: have been married
I'VE Years and havs struggled along
through great many financial hard
ships 7.ilh nv husband When re we're
married ne vas strong and healthy ana
ambitious He loved good time and
wanted rs both % have that verT thing
About tao years after ne we're married,
his health began 70 fail. t. mas i'm
possible for him 10 hold the position ne
had. because if Tas TOO combining. He
had 10 give I'D his work Tent to
work and for about SIX months supported
the tho nj Us.
Later. when he got stronger. he got an
outside lob. In spite Of the fact that he
qss. out of doors most Of the time, he did
not progress as rapidly the doctor
wished. He forbade him STAYING up nights
and put him on . rigid schedule. Finally
rs advised that Te move out to farm,
uhere nv husband could be out-of-doors
doing the kind of work that would build
him ~.
OF course 7 came too. But Miss Lee, 7
do not believe can stand H. much longer
The loneliness. the desolatiop. the hard
7ort the lack IF am kind Of social life
is lust about more than 7 can stand. Ny
husband IS better no7. hut he has learned
N love This life and does not want to 20
h,oE 10 town. an thinking Of leaving
It is almost more than 7 can bear
LONELY
NV dear. here Is one Of the tough
b,.eel-v for Won. no doubt. but you
took this man for better or Tor
worse. and it's Just too bad 1t had
to turn out this way. Surely you
can find enough to occupy yourself
and keep your mind interested and
busy.
Your husband no doubt realizes
that if he went back to town 1t
would be no time at all until he
would be miserable in health again.
I know it must be dreadfully lonely.
but surely. if you love your hus-
hand. you can sacrifice these few
town amusements so he may live
in health.
Play the Game
Whv not arrange to so into town
once every week or 50? Have par
ties out at your farm home for YOUR
friends in the city. And do get it
out Of your head that you simply
can not stand it. That diSsatlSfac-
ton must be very hard on your
husband.
Can't you be a sport and play the
game with him until he has recov-
cred fully o. until you learn to love
the farm as much as he? If YOU
we're smart, you can arrange 10 have
? little social life. at the same time
t1suriug your husbands health and