The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-11-29
Husband Is
PpnaiSed
fo1" Wrongs
BY MARTHA LEE

The woman who can sympathize
with another'S problems, and cheer
fully pear her own. thankful that
they are no worse than they are, is
10 be admired and congratulated. II
IS easy to moan over our own diff
culties but Il Is no little thing to
make light of them.
Three Times Wife" has writ
ten, suggesting that her story might
help others who have 1inlilar prob
lens to face. Her letter Is as fol-
lows:
Dear Martha Lee-Your advice. as given
IN Tile Times from day to day. is mighty
good reading. ! look forward each day to
that part OF my evening paper. Many OF
the questions are trivial affairs. but Of
course they are big to the individual. You
always give reasonable and thorough
answers.
have no problem Of my own, that 1
am writing you. but after reading the
letter from Unhappy Woman" in q re-
cent edition. I couldn't refrain from writ
5ng TO tell you Of something that has
coms into my life. II she could read my
letter it might help her to bear her
burden
7 have been married three times: from
The FIRST, a man my own age. I am di-
vorced: the second. man twenty years
older. died after nine years Of great hap
piness; I nov am living with the third
one. and 1t is of him and his past I want
10 tell you
He is almost twice as old as I. and we
are the best of pals. although he Is IN
poor health. due to an accident.
lie was married the first time Wnen
well over IS His Wife-Rose. We VIII call
her-was the sweetest. most lovable sort.
I never knew her. but every one tells me
this. They lived together twenty ODD
years. He was good to her in most ways,
vet at that time he was the type OF man
that could not meet up with woman
without trying to have an affair with her.
and he usually could finish what ne
started.
OF course Rose learned Of these affairs.
He tells me she never was cross with
him. but there came a time when she
could stand It no longer, she left and
ever tuaHy divorced him. He was sorry
when 1t was too late. but soon married the
"iane" who caused the separation.
Has No Children
He had no children by the first wife,
nor has he ever had a child by any mar
Tiage.
This second marriage was one quarrel
and separation after another, and after
about six yers OF it he divorced the Jane.
He always had been sorry for the way he
had treated Rose. but when friends had
tried to tell him. he would tell them to
mind their own business.
Some five or six years after his second
divorce, we were married. The next year
he received word of Roses death from
her family. / could see be was touched
greatly by It. and told him to go to them.
He went. and on his return, told me all
Ghe particulars Of her death, which we're
very sad.
When he told me OF her suffering, he
cried like a baby. and I cried, too. He
selt that she had suffered so through him
that It was unfair for her to have suffered
more. and he should have been the one
20 bear It.
Now that he is In poor health, and suf-
fers constant pain. he> gets blue and con
science-stricken." He thinks he is getting
paid for the suffering he has caused
others and to me he is most pitiful He
has told me every bad thing he has done
In his life We talk things over together
snd It relieves his mind. Let me say ne
Is kindness itself to me. and We love each
other sincerely.
His second wife. whom had never
known. called to see him recently. and
Eas glad to see her. although doubt that
IL she dreamed he had told me all the de-
tails of their life together she would have
held her head so high.
And now, in closing, I want to say to
'Urhappy Woman" if she can stand to
uey with her husband and keep her
children and home together, maybe her
husband finally will come to his senses
tealize her great worth, and see that this
bther Jane that has come into his life
Is only after the good times he shows her
and the money he spends on her. and he
SAl come back TO his home, wife and
Ahillren before 1t is too late. and he be-
bones a conscience-stricken old man.
1 have been thinking I would write my
Mes experience for a magazine. as this
/ have told here is only small part. II
ever do and it is published, 1 will write
Sou again so you can get copy. How's
hst7 THREE TIMES A WIFE