The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-12-12
Most Men
Hate Being
GirI-Hunted
BY MARTHA LEE

Like the northwest mounted po-
lice of Canada, every girl is out to
get her man. And mounted police
methods may be employed. Any
thing goes. In other words, the
methods most effective are bounded
only by her own originality and her
sense of what Is right and wrong;
what is effective and what will be
ineffective.
The first law, in any case. is not
to act too anxious. No boy likes to
feel that a girl is out to trap him.
He does not want TO think he is be-
ing pursued. If there is any pur-
suing to be done, he wants to do it
himself, or think he does.
The second law is to have the ap-
pearance at least Of being sought
after by others No boy wants a
girl no other boy would have for
gift. He wants others to think
highly of the girl he goes with. He
likes the idea of having been the
chosen one out Of a group, even if
the group is no larger than two.
Must Be Refined
As TO the girl herself. He wants
her to be refined, sensible, courte-
Gus. thoughtful and self-reSpecting.
There's a lot of "blurb" about boy
wanting a girl who is witty, quick
with clever repartee, a good sport,
ultra-modern in her outlook upon
life and all that sort of thing, But
those are beside the point.
II girl possesses the first five
attributes, the other are additional
glory or detriment, according to the
boys way of thinking
And here's something else we
might as well talk about while we're
at it. When q girl gets around the
age of "a and Is she begins to sec
her chances for matrimOny Wane.
She gets dubious about her future
with the result that every boy she
goes with Immediately is the recipi-
ent of a concentrated attack OF
feminine wiles and ways, intending
to drag him altarWard. Which is
precisely what it does mott
The funny part Of it all is that
girls real matrimonial chances often
are just beginning at Is.
This girl seems to have employed
Nil the wrong methods in her at
tempt to get her man, and now she
wants to know how she can retract.
Dear Miss Lee. used TO date q young
nan who is Is That also is my age.
Nas afraid to let him know I was crazy
nbouhs him. I really was in love with
him from the first time I met him. He
was my prince charming
Liked Competition
learned that he liked lot of compe-
ttion. and although l could have had
lot of dates while I was dating him,
wouldn't. And I let him know he was
the only boy I was dating. Still We did
not go steady together. When ] frst
met him. he called me every night and
dated me twice a week. Then he wouldn't
call me again for a month or so. never
refused him a date.
Finally one night he told me I was
the dearest girl he had ever known. but
that he never intended to marry and
didn't want to take up too much of my
time. He finished up by saying he would
date me once in a while. He asked me TO
write him letter. Like a big sap. did.
and in it I told him I gave him the pref
erence over any one BY that letter ne
knew I was head over heels in love with
him
I had a few dates with him after that
One day I called him and invited him to
90 to a party with me, which he did.
Several days later I wrote him note
asking him to a bid dance. He called
back and accepted. Before he had called
me again of his own accord. 1 invited him
to another party. This time he had other
engagements. ! haven't heard from MIN
for two months He now is dating
sorority sister of mine. I love this girl
dearly. but it Just breaks my heart to
see them together.
Realizes Mistakes
Should I write him a note and tell him
7 realize what fool I have been tyou
see Miss Lee. I did allow him to kiss and
net me quite a Bit. Or should I try
to forget him entirely. II he should call
me would you refuse him date?
A FOOL.
WHY don't you admit to yourself
that you made q bad job OF the
whole thing, shut up about it and
profit by it? Surely there is moth
ing you can do about it now 1t
won't do any good to write a letter
admitting you have been a fool.
If the man has any idea that you
have common, ordinary horse sense,
he knows you realize that. The
srmost effective way you can show
him how you realize your mistake
is to be quiet about them.
1t is inconceivable that you even
would think of giving him a date,
especially the first one he asks for.
You said yourself you had been a
sap. See that that doesn't happen