The Washington times., 1929-07-24
lis It Wise for a Girl to Marry
Hoping That Lore viii
Come Later On?

get along very well. Things are
not pleasant at home because my
parents don't like some os the
company so with, but want ms
to keep company with middle.
aged gentleman.
~ have gone with q number
OF young men. One ] like. but /
don't know whether love HIM.
He says he wants to marry me
but he hasn't q good position and
we would both have to work.
Should we be married? Do you
think we would be happy that
way?
aged man / have been going with?
He has always been a gentleman
and is perfectly wonderful to me.
He has met my parents and they
like him very much and he has
told them his intentions, which ]
think is very honorable. have
S.4ed to see whether he really
loves me and have been mean to
him at times and run away from
him. But he always is nice to
me, and I know that he loves me.
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I am not sure. What shall do?
HE has been wonderful to me
and / am sure could have every
thing, as he Is rich and travels
much. He IL well-educated, though
I am not. But he says travel is
a wonderful education and that /
would learn much that way.
"He wants to marry me right
away. I have known and gone
with him nearly a year, and he
still wants me, ] think, though
have been mean to him of late
and / think he may cease to care
for me.
do you think a girl should
take a chance of learning to love
an older man who Is wealthy? Do
you think could learn to love
him? I am sure he would be won.
derful to me-"
Deep, intense affection gives
happiness to marriage. To wed
hoping love may follow is taking
too desperate q chance. playing
fast and loose with your own hap
piness ana that Of the man you
marry. When you really fall in
love you will know it. Does this
answer your question as to
whether you shall marry the young
man you like but are not sure you
love-the young man who cannot
support wife?
The question then narrows down
to whether you can be happy IL
y6u marry q FKnidd ddle-aged man"
whom your parents approve and
whom, your letter shows, you ad-
fnire and like and respect very
much, although you are not yet
actually In love with him.
You do not mention his age. /
cOnclude, however, that there Is a
difference Of 20 years or more.
That is considerable difference. i
doubt whether you and he could
find each other companionable for
long under the circumstances.
Can you imagine yourself con-
tentedly breakfasting and dining
with him day after day for a
lifetime? If not, you would be
wretched married to him. Don't
misunderstood me. There have
been happy marriages between
May and November. If there is
enough love it can bridge the gulf
Of the years. But you are not
sure you love him; so wait. You
need not make up your mind to-
day or tomorrow. Do not permit
yourself to be rushed into this
marriage.
When you have the chance. ex-
plain the truth to this older man,
OF whom you are, suspect, more
fond than you realize. Ask for
six months in which to decide
definitely. Stop being mean to
him-that never pays! Go about
with him when you can. II you
learn to love him within that
tin1e-and you may-well and
good! But do not marry him in
hope that love win come after
ward. You are entitled to love.
Do not marry until you like and
love the man who asks you to
be his wife. That is only fair
to him-and to you!