The Washington times., 1929-01-28
Jazz Cravings
Must Be Kept
In Control
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of Love
and Marriage

An AutnOrtky on ffODtenhs Ol Love
and Marriage
To certain youthful type, espe-
cially those who have experienced
little suffering, there Is fascina.
tion In the thought Of peril. In
sports, work, play. love, these
extremists delight in lowering at
the danger line. They play reck
lessly with fire because they do
not as yet realize what 1t means
to be burned. What Is the re.
suit?
One day luck deserts Bill while
In his favorite sport of racing
past indignant, terrified motor
lists with hia sports car, missing
them by a fraction of an inch
He miscalcuIates. Then, crash
bang! Unless the end comes
quickly, Bill has long weeks In
the hospital in which to ponder
over his folly
81 know when to stop" smiles
Violet as she quaffs her bootleg
flooch. But one day the catastro.
phe with which she is flirting
overtakes her Then she pays the
cost, in mortal illness. possir.S
blindness and death--for her de
fiance Of law, health and life.
There are those who are only
happy when swimming beyond
the danger line. I have known
young women of model chat acter
who took an interest only III men
who were black sheep too m
principled to be safe companions.
There are times when a great
principle or a generous, heroic
deed Is at stake Then it is fine
to defy danger. But to seek dan
ger Of disgrace, dishonor, catas-
trophe and death merely for the
sake of jazz excitement and lack
Of anything better to do, is to
take the shortcut to a life Of
suffering or an ignoble grave.
Girls who take silly, needless
chances and lose are not eager to
reveal their names or identity
But from a sheaf Of letters on
my desk I shall select one in
stance:
You are a good, clean Kid,
Brown Eyes, and you stay that
waya'
These words OF affectionate
coInniendation from the young
man she loves, and who loves her,
are to Brown Eyes. as she ex
presses it, like a Iagger pierced
through bay f1eart.
Why? Her letter explains. On
q vacation few years ago in q
braggadocio mood, she flirted with
q couple Of men 'rlicked up At
the beach. There were ioyrides
and synthetic liquor, which Brown
Eyes only drank TO be sophistis
Gated and reckless. Then came
dinner at an obscure roadhouse,
drinks afterwari, oblivion! And
when she recovered consciousness,
Brown Eyes wished with all her
desperate, despairing young heart
she had never been born.
And now Brown Eyes is in love.
II am the sorriest girl that ever
lived, she writes. .'I just can
not tell him about my miserable
self. He has no use for my kind.
If only I knew what 20 do with
rnyself.''
When he asks you to be his
wife. IL you accept him, Brown
Eyes. 1t IS right you should lell
him the sordid truth about the
thing that happened To- you, pro.
vided Ne wishes to know. You
are going straight. You are prov.
Ing By your life and character the
sincerity of your remorse. II, his
love for you Is deep and true
enough ne will forgive and forget
that episode Of your past for the
sake of the girl you are now.
But how easily you could have
saved both yourself and the man
who loves and trusts YOU from n
agony Of mental suffering and res
gret, just by safeguarding your
honor and refusing to place your
self at the mercy Of comparative
strangers and bootleg hooch.
You did not realize the extent
sOf the danger, i know, you did
not stop to think! You had taken
chances before and come through
1nseathed 1t Is not prudish, old
fashioned or stupid to refuse to
take needless chances,
You cannot be too careful about
the man with whom you trust
yourself beyond easy hearing Of
others who are dependable. An
unbalanced emotional nature may
cause Il man to suddenly become
as dangerous as the most hard
ened criminal. 1t is always wise
and safe to 60 about in crowds
of young folks VIII olesale crowds
Or else well chaperoned.
Ignorance is in itself peril.
Every girl should know the basic
facts OF life, which are beautiful
when rightly viewed. Understand
your own nature in order to learn
self-restraint and protect yourself
from harm.
The bravest adventurers take
every precaution for safety. There
is nothing heroic In foolhardiness,
Safeguard your health, honor
and love. Refuse fads and follies
that may endanger life or what lis
perhaps more precious. Then you
win have every chance to expert.
ence the real thrills, your own
home, your own husband and lit,
tie ones when the time comes.
knowing that you are worthy OF
their adoring love and trust,