The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-12
THE INDIANAPOLIS TIMES
PhiIande1-
Shaky Risk
in Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

This sounds like a, pretty wild
statement, but ninety-nine times
out of a hundred a married man
does not mean a third of the things
he tells girl who is not his wife.
We will leave the veracity of his
statements to his wife unSullied in
this article. They do not deal with
the question under discussion.
When, in a week moment, a
married man promises marriage to
a single girl you can bet he has
his tongue in his cheek. his fingers
crossed and is saying in a loud
mental voice, Kings X"
A man who viii ignor the mar
rage VOWS enough to make serious
business of getting in good with a
single girl is a bad bet at best. How
any girl can delude herself to the
point of thinking she will make him
any different, even if he should come
through and get a divorce SO that he
could marry her. is beyond me.
Even if he does marry her, what
assurance has she that he won't do
the same thing over with another
girl? A woman's pride in herself
might permit her to think that she
is the one and only, but after all, If
she is good sort at all, her better
Judgment, that invaluable thing
called horse sense, will tell her
bluntly that she is making an
awfully Shaky gamble.
A girl owes it to herself and to
her future children to make sure OF
comfortable security, as nearly as
one can make sure of such things.
I am not talking about the security
of bank account, or a good pusl-
ness, but the much more important
security of happiness in the nome,
unity and stability
I have the following letter from a
girl who is just about to let herself
in for a lot of grief. via the divorce
alimony- matrimony route:
Dear Miss Lee-I am "a years old ana
have been self-supporting for number
of years. am not exactly pretty, but
considered attractive looking.
For the paststwo years have been go
ing with a married man. He is now 20.
happen to know that he and his wife
are mismated. They do not quarrel, but
Just do not like each other.
After had gone with him six months,
he spoke of marriage to me. I love him
dearly and believe that he loves me, but
time has gone on, and he still is with
his wife. He tells me that she is making
10 ~ he
wants to be just as horrid about it all
as she can.
1t is not that am terribly anxious to
be married, but I have cut myself of
from all the other boys ! used to go with
They will not take me out because I go
with a married man. We have not tried
to hide the fact that we like each other,
that we have dates. We have gone to
shows and appeared in public a number
of times.
But am getting rather leary about
it all. I can not understand why, II he
loves me and wants to marry me, there
is not at least some move to start divorce
proceedings, especially when he tells me
he does not care for his wife, nor she for
him. What do you make of it all?
JANE.
MINK you nave been pretty
much of a sap, Jane. A year and a
half is long time to hang on TO
such slim hopes. Your actions.
which you have considered bravery
have been stupid. Because by ap-
pearing in public with this man.
You have branded yourself all of
the things that other women call
a girl who is even remotely
responsible for breaking I'D a home.
Wives have these methods of deal
ing with argirl who will go with a
married man, for their own self
protection, just as all conventions
and rules of morality are in order
for the protection of women and
the home. When you will not use
these for your own protection. but
Will also flaunt them before the ewes
OF other women who must use them
you are cutting yourself off from
the society of both men and women
Give this chap the air. before Won
hear it said that he has left Won
shelved. 1t looks pretty hopeless to
me. "