The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-04-18
InfdeHty
Again Comes
i'm for Slap
BY MARTHA LEE

This is going TO be another lee
ture concerning the unfaithfulness
of husbands. The last time wrote
about this subject, heaps of burn
ing Goals came tumbling down upon
my wooden head Incensed wives,
with husbands who trifed, wrote
in because 1 upbraided the wives
who, after taking their husbands
back TO the hearth and home, con-
tinued TO remind them that they
had strayed from the path Of mon
ogomy.
I regret to say that l can not
change my views on this. The adj
vice in question was not the right
ness or Wrongness in the actions Of
the husbands
AS ] have said a hundred times
in my articles, I am old-fashioned
about marriage. I think it is a
sacrament, sacred pact between
two human beings who love, honor
and respect each other, to the seclu-
sion of all others. 1t is bargain
that should be kept on pain of
death, contract that can not be
broken without a serious cause. and
then only after all other means of
patching up the misunderstanding
have been exhausted.
RESPONSIBILITIES Are Many
want that understood. I do not
approve, condone, nor Countenance
tWo-timing.
But once the tWo-timing is done
and found out and forgiven, be-
lieve it also should be forgotten, for
the peace and happiness and pros
perity of all concerned. 1t is the
following letter that forces me again
to air my views about this:
Dear Miss Lee: ! am in my late TWEEN
ties and have been married for I'VE years.
love my husband very much, so much
in fact that I have continued to work
that we might have {, few Injuries and
some of the nice things that do help
marriage along.
Some time ago 7 discovered that my
husband was playing around bit with
a girl about my age. whom I had COZ
sidered to be my friend. 1 said nothing
for quite a while. but I was go utterly
miserable that my attitude changed i'm
mediateIy toward him.
Of course they did not know ! knew
about them, or that I even had an mixing
concerning the whole affair. I almost
hated them both for being so deceitfUl.
And I never can describe the feeling l
had that they should think me so stupid.
Tells Her Husband
Well. finally had to let my husband
know I knew about it. I couldn't keep
it within myself any longer. He asked
me what / intended to do. and / told him
it was not question OF what I intended
to do. but what he was going to DO: that
is continue to see her and all that.
He said he still loved me as much as
ever. but that this girl held some strange
fascination that he could not explain.
Finally. he said he would not see her any
more.
But now. every time he leaves the house
am Jealous and suspicious. I do not
believe him nor trust him. And he
knows this and says he feels guilty about
things, even though he no longer sees
her. We have decided to ask you what
We can 90 to straighten this out The
strain is getting to be more than We can
bear.
Don't you see that you have
placed false values on the things Of
the world and let slip from you the
most precious thing there is? These
luxuries and so forth that you speak
of are nothing beside your happi-
ness and peace of mind, and his
need for a home and wife and chill
dren.
Quit Your Job
In the first place, give your job
the air. Start being home maker
instead of a provider. Since you
both are sensible enough to talk
this thing out, you must be sensible
enough to see that as long as there
is distrust, and the knowledge Of
that distrust, your home can have
no stability.
If you love your husband enough
to forgive him, prove it by also for
getting about the affair.