The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-03-15
once More
the Cry Is,
BE Yourself
BY MARTHA LEE

Today we are going to talk a
little bit about personality. A little
bit is right, too, because personality
Is so Elusive, so much a thing OF
the spirit, that it is impossible to
talk in concrete terms about it. You
can say this and that MIGHT be
true, but to voice definitely set of
rules. on How to have a winning
+. personality is as absurd as it is i'm
possible. 1t is more individual than
a flock of fingerprints.
e just why one person can act
cocky, talk cocky and look cocky and
get away with it is something to
think about. Why one girl with a
voice like a stork can get behind
the footlights and knock the audi
ence out in the aisles, and some
other girl, with lovely cultivated
voice, leaves her audience cold and
uninterested, is unansWerable.
Why one girl can wear freak
clothes without looking freakish and
another is a complete flop in the
most stylish and expensive garbs is
something to think about. If you've
got 1T, there you are, and if you
haven't, where are you? And if you
haven't, can't something be done
about it? These are the sums and
substances. of most of the sobs in
the what shall I do about this
thing letters.
Just Be Yourself
No matter how many times it is
F. hammered Into their wooden heads.
people will not believe they are
much more attractive acting natur-
ally than they ever could be giving
very silly and very bad limitations
of some one they have seen in the
midst of being popular.
2 A girl who is naturally quiet and
dignified initiating girl friend she
has seen "hey heying" successfully,
is about as popular as a polecat at
garden party. And the same goes
for a boy. Again I pray in loud
and plaintive voice, "BE YOUR
SELF"
Here is a little girl who just can't
believe she ever will get very far
in this world unless she changes her.
self drastically, to fit in with her
ether friends.
Dear Miss Lee-My question is not any,.
thing very heart-breaking. In fact, be-
side the other troubles you write about,
it must seem like utter nonsense. But
it is important to me.
atty? am rather self-conscious and I
guess that is the fundamental reason why
I can not make my personality seem like
anything more than very dull, drab
sort Of thing.
I am considered rather pretty, but I
lack personality. I am not Dragging about
my looks, but I have noticed some of
my friends, less attractive looking than
turning down dates right and left, be-
cause they are SO popular. That's not
SO with me. guess just haven't got IT.
RUTH.
You are hiding your personality
under bushel basket or some
equally obscure place, and trying to
put IN a substitute. The main rea-
son you are not popular is because
YOU are not being yourself. And
your friends sense that fact.
Get Some Confidence
81 Get yourself a little seIf-confi-
dence.> Stop being content with be-
ing pretty and try to let yourself be
i nobody else but" for change. 1t
isn't absolutely necessary to act like
everyone else to be popular. In
fact, being different is more of an
asset than you ever may realize.
These flaming youth and fancy
chorines are terribly monotonous. A
quiet girl is aWfully refreshing. And
you are naturally quiet. In the
meantime, get yourself little opin-
ion. Until you do, no one else will.