The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-15
HeckHng
Vices Take
Wrong Tack
BY MARTHA LEE

What time will do! 1t used to De
that nagging and jealousy were &C
cepted as part of the proof OF true
love But not so any more. Which
NAV or may not be due to the TACT
that people are coming to realize
that real love, is tolerant ana
patient.
A Jealous sweetheart used to be an
accented thing. When a girl fell
in love. she knew that her one ana
only would fash fire from his eyes
II he saw some other man looking
ar her as though she were an az
tractive person.
A man expected his sweetheart TO
become very angry and show 1t, II
he Maid the slightest attention 10
anv other female. He probably
would have been disappointed II she
hadn't. because every one was do
ing it. .,,;.,,
usually took the form OF naggnS'
wives and sweethearts were sup
,,osed to prick their best beloveos
NTH the proverbial pitchfork INTO
models of perfection. Nagging was
inst mart of the tragedy of being
married.
Better to Be Congenial
But people have come to the con-
cI,,eion that it is much more pleas
ant to be congenial and accept eaCn
others faults, just as they do otner
people's shortcomings.
IT'S bad enough to have a Wlle
who nags, but when you nave
sweetheart who has started out Ilt-I
wav something should really De
done about 1t.
0.or Miss Iae-I am engaged to a sirl
= love IN the extent that 1 am fully aware
~ all her good qualities. But sneS got
~or,s had ones that have got me down.
O.. e neach when it comes to crlslS'
- che ran do soma Of the most fool
ish things. so,,r
We have known each other Tor rour
Years and I can't see why man shouiu
snend all his days ESPECIALLY after that
LENGTHY courtship) assuring the girl oil MS
heart that he still loves her. and tnat II
4. goes out with the gang several nights
4bst he Is not out being vamped by some
other girl.
7 made one marriage that was con-
tinuous series of nagging ana ooh IN
tend to make another of the same klno-
wish you would write some kind oil lot
rcuIs for people to get along. And why
can't girl see that nagging man ana
checking up on everything he does, ooesn
endear her particularly?
when actions of this sort finally lead
man to seek some other girl, the nrst
girl feels terribly mistreated. But 1t realiy
is her own fault. 1 admit 1 have plenty
of faults. but why do some of the most
1ovabIe girls, sensible in other ways, feel
IL necessary to nag a man ana assume
guardianship over his every movement?
Nv girl is no worse tEan lots of others,
nxceut that I am interested enough IN
her that I want her to see that she Is
making me unhappy and herself, too. for
no reason. could stand many other
faults easier than this continuously being
nsgged and wept over. JUST MAN
The formula for two people get
ting along has yet to be found. A
man gets along with his business
friends and enemies, as far as that
goes. He sways minds and makes
decisions all day long, and goes
homes at night to take an awful
bawling out for not wiping his shoes
on the door mat before he enters
his own home.
Becoming Wise to Error
7 should say that husbands and
wives should do unto each other as
they do unto casual acquaintance.
Have the same degree of respect for
their views and treat them with the
same politenesS.
The fact that men and women are
becoming more and more aware of
the error of the old theory that
jealousy and nagging were signs of
true love might be one of the rea-
sons why the divorce rate has grown.
1 should say that any smart girl
who sees a man fading into the
background because Of her nagging
would wise up and change her tao
tics. If she doesn't change them be-
fore marriage, you may rest assured
she will not after the contract has