The Washington times., 1929-12-18

''DEAR MISS FAIRFAX:
II am d young lady 23 years
Of age, working in an office
with 4 girl friend about my
age. We have two Of our
bosses in our office not yet
married, and who come in every
day to talk over the topics Of
the day.
I'VE got started on the mar
riage question and had quite
an argument. None Of US
Thought the same. So I am
writing to you as an authority.
these are some Of the things
we argued about:
'l-What should . woman
expect from her husbandS a
good home? Money to spend?
Should i man give his wife
everything in his power to
make her happy?
"2 Should q young woman
after she is married settle
down? or should she go on
working?
aSShould q young woman
before cons. deriflg marriage
with q young man look up ms
financial standing? Would this
be 8 sign Of gold-digging?
-. is it necessary Tor g
woman to be up at six with
her husband to get his break
fast? Can't she prepare tnings
for him the night before ana
let him get his Owng
IS. Should q man. II ne can
afford it, have maid Tor ms
wife or have D woman come
IN once 3 week to help her out
with the housework? What IS
the average wage that q young
couple could make out on 10
ciay, say in q city with q pop
uIation Of 500. 900?
II would very much appreci-
ate hearing from you. because
We are very anxious to have
some person who knows some
thing about this answer Our
questions. BETTY.
wen, Betty. that's quite = list
Of questions. From your men
tai attitude I suspect you are
not in love. For when g.
woman falls in love there re-
mains little tendency to con-
slider selfish claims, and her
attitude toward her husband IS
not so much that expressed IN
the slang aCsiInme,p as 1t is g
thoughful consideration Of
whether she win be able to be
good wife and give him 9
good home.
Il Is sensible for a young
man and young woman who
contemplate marriage to talk
over finances frankly and come
70 an understanding. But you
may be sure, Il they have
character and care for each
other, this heartrto-ieart talk
viii not take the form Of de-
niandS on either side but viii
mean eager, mutual adjust
ment to save IniSlnderSta Stallu.
ings later on.
The average man prefers to
have his wife remain at home
and give her first care TO his
home, and the average woman
prefers to do so. Marriage Isl
her career.
There are cases where 9
young woman has 3 great
talent for outside work and
little talent for cooking and
keeping house. If she wishes
to have q maid come In and
keep house while she earns
money and develops her talent,
this matter may be adjusted
satisfactorily.
There are cases also where
the family income Is SO limited
at the start that it Is ileCes,
sary for the wife To help out
by earning money. Why
should she not do so IL she
can without neglecting her
home? Nevertheless, despite
these compromises, today as
always, the husbands duty and
privilege is to support finan.
5 CialIy his wife and family and
the wife's is to care for the
home and children. Family
life Is founded on this prin-
ciple.
OF course 3 man worth mar.
rying wishes to give his wife
everything in his power tomake
her happy. And it IS equally
true that & worthwhile young
woman has one motive In all,
she does her husbands happi-
ness and welfare.
AS for getting breakfast, that
IS d wife's duty and privilege.
I know Of one husband who
Insists on getting his own break
fast so that his wife can COM
plete her beauty sleep, and ]
know many q wife whose 10y
and delight is TO see to it that
her husband has 8 good break
fast and starts to his work fit
and happy.
The amount of income neces
sary to begin married life de-
pends on the style of living to
which the couple are accus
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