The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-04-29
Good Sense
Jared Into
Weak Wife
BY MARTHA LEE

There mustn't be anything much
more disgusting to man than a
40-year-Old wife who must be
babied seriously at least twenty-four
hours a day. That's my idea OF a
hard life.
Child specialists have been cry
ing against babying babies for the
last twenty-five years. They say,
When they cry let 'em." They
contend it is wrong to pick than up
and rock them and walk the floor
with them.
Now If it's bad for babies to be
babied, what can the result be
when a man rocks and walks the
floor (figuratively speaking) with
his wife for twenty-five or thirty
years of married life? You know.
There's one in every block, a whin-
ing, shifting, dissatisfied, unhappy
creature, who simply dies if she is
rebuffed, with a husband who does
the work Of two mules to make his
home even iyable.
SentimentaliSm Is Dead
This is the day and age when
SentimentaliSm and all it implies is
out, cold There can be reverence
and all the lovely qualities of the
good old days without there being
that gooey, sticky stuff that passed
for chivalry and gentility thirty
years ago.
Women have learned to stand on
their own feet. They can be just
as gentle, just as dependent acting,
but they simply must have steel in
their souls. They must be prepared
to take their knocks Witohut sWoon-
ing. Which remins me that faint
ing is as obsolete as a corset.
However. here is a woman who
has whined and cried herself out of
a good home and a pretty swell hus-
band, if you ask me.
Dear Martha Lee do not know
whether I can make this very coherent
letter, because do not know myself
exactly what the trouble IS. I have been
married about six years. to one of the
finest men on earth was an only child
and, I admit, quite babied By my folks.
was married when ] was 81. OF
course 7 never had to make a decision
for myself in my life excepting when
chose my husband, and as a consequence
I guess it was pretty hard on my husband
just had to call him at his place of
business every time something would come
up that I had to decide
Now He Is Gone
He told me that I would have to learn
to do those things for myself and then
I thought he didn't love me, didn't want
to be bothered with me.
He was indulgent enough but every once
in a while be got rather fed up" as he
would say. with the fact that 7 would
not grow up. I admit I did not try to
change. 7 rather enjoyed being a cling
ing vine and besides that's what I was
raised to be-
And now he has gone. I don't know
why. We djd not have any special
trouble, no special fight or anything But
he's gone What can I do about it. Miss
Lee? I want him back so much.
LONELY.
You would better get yourself a
job and work for about six or eight
months. You would better put your
self through some rigid training
that will make you Womanly and
dependable and less doll like Your
husband is a sensible, busy man, and
simply left instead Of going insane
on account of your foohshness. You
probably wore him out. leaning on
him constantly.
Must Prove Worthy
Your husband never will take you
back, if he is smart, until you
definitely prove that you are a
woman and not a child, incapable Of .
caring for yourself under any
Nowadays men are |
used to seeing women step right up I
and say what they want, without /
whining and sobbing around about /
it and seeing all their friends and /
relatives what they would do about .
it.
Get yourself some good sense. .
You are making an effort, just by
admitting that it might have been I
your fault. Tell your husband that /.
you are going to prove to him that
you are worthy to be married. That ,
YOU have character and horse sense.
Then will come happy days.