The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-20
Deception
AIyuys Ends
i'm Disaster
BY MARTHA LEE

Inc results of deception always
are disastrous. It is one of the siIrest
ways to XIII friendship. Deception
between husband and wife will kill
the strongest love that ever Was
born.
Deception always is coupled with
lying and all the ugly little traits
Of humanity that make for unhap-
piness.
II married couples only could re-
member that two wrongs never can
make a right; that even though
lie would save the skin temporarily
deception even in its smallest form.
breeds distrust in the heart of the
person deceived, marital life would
see fewer failures and happier
unions.
There are husbands who give their
wives such ridiculously unfair deals
that it would seem only tusti-
fable that the wives should retail
ate. But no right can come of re-
paying wrong with another wrong.
Net Spreads Rapidly
If a little white lie" could end
right there it might not be 50 bad.
But lies have habit of wanting a
81 congregation of themselves and once
one Is told, it takes a flock more
TO make the original seem convinc-
ing.
Deception is the same way. Make
one decletful move and the net that
one move spreads with unbelievable
rapidity is harder to escape from
than the worst beating the original
statement of the truth could have
brought.
Dear Miss Lee: I am in terrible trouble.
Ny husband always was close with me
about money matters. One day / was up
town and had some things charged.
small amount really, but more than I ever
have for my own personal use. When
came home 1 told him and he few into a
rage. He wouldn't give me the money 10
pay the bill. II was the first time in ten
years Of married life did anything with
out his consent.
had to pay that bill. 50 one day he
sent me uptown to pay another bill and
took some Of the money to pay that small
personal debt of mine. OF course. 1 kept
getting farther and farther behind on the
payment Of the bill had neglected until
I couldn't get caught up.
He Buys Everything
Of course my husband found out I had
used the money to pay my own bill. He
paid the other bill, but 1 never will hear
the end of it. That was six months ago
and he has not given me cent of money
49, ~ z-. ~
self, even the food.
If ask him for money he asks me to
tell him what want and he will buy it.
II want to mail a letter, he buys the
stamp. We. have three children and have
never had any trouble except over money.
He says he loves me, but he never will
trust me with money again. I told him I
would go away where he never could find
me and he said If did he would have
me arrested for child neglect.
It is killing me to live on this way. I
take good care of the children, keep. the
house clean and do the washing and all
'''' WI" --''' ''-' MRS. W.
Your husband was unfair in the
first place. You have job, for
which you should be paid sum, no
matter how small. Every wife should
have an allowance of her own, aside
from the house fund. In that your
husband was "gypping" you, just as
he would consider himself cheated
If he worked all week without re-
ceiving pay.
But your gesture of freedom did
not square things. 1t only compli-
Gated matters. You are foolish to
think of leaving your home and
children because of this. If he buys
you everything you need, take your
punishment for a while.
Must Win Confidence
You have the task of winning
back his confidence. If things be-
come too unbearable, you can find
some little things to do to earn a
few dollars a week yourself That
will be yours, with no questions
asked as to what you do with it.
You can see that If you should
leave your children will be the ones
to suffer for the fact that you re-
belled against your husbands way Of
handling his finances?
You will, in time, re-establish
yourself with your husband. Yours
is a heart breaking trial, but after
all, it's at least partially your fault