The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-24
Here's Case
of Jealousy
OUer Child
BY MARTHA LEE

| BY MARTHA LEE
Just how much of the worlds
trouble and heartache is caused by
jealousy would be hard to estimate,
but I would wager that at least
three-fourthS of it can be attributed
to that cause. Jealousy may be
| flattering to the vanity of the VIC
tim for about two hours, then it is
boring, then inexcusable and fin
ally despicable.
Folk are so constructed that love
and jealousy too often go hand in
hand. But jealousy, a consun. ng
Jealousy, will eat up love. 1t
destroys more love than it will ever
accompany. Tt is as much to be
ashamed of as an ugly disposition
and more necessary to get rid of
than a destructive germ.
The terrible part of jealousy is
the way it has of distorting every
thing to its own ends. Perfectly
natural actions will be construed as
being villainous by a jealous heart
ed person. A jealous mother can
wreck her sons or daughters home
and future by insinuating her ieal-
ousy into the life of the family. A
husband can destroy his happiness
by allowing his jealousy to miscon-
Strue every action of his wife.
Its sinister power does not stop
here. 1t may mean hardships and
tragedy for the children who are
involved in the cases. Some ieai-
ouSy has reason for being. When
there is reason, it can be brought
into the open and thraf'--' 49, and
sent on its way; or the cause for
the Jealousy can be cleared up. Any
number of things can be done about
1t in hand-to-h hand combat.
But when it has no foundation.
except the suspicious of a mind, it
is hard for either of the victims to
clear things up.
The following letter shows a tan
gle caused by jealousy:
Dear Miss Lee have a very attractive
daughter who is Is years old. NV hus-
band and I are having considerable trou-
BILE over her. My husband is her step
father, and it seems to me that he has
fallen in love with her. am SO miserable
about this. When I say anything about
it he flies all to pieces. He says am suf-
fering from jealousy, that there is no basis
upon which to found this jealousy. Yet he
always talks to her in low tone of voice
when 1 am in another part of the house
and when I come in he stops. I disap-
prove of him making love to my daughter.
And that is the main reason we have so
much trouble in the family.
Do you think I ought to leave him? My
husband is good provider. makes nice
living for us and stays in every night. But
this liking my daughter more then he does
me has me so worried I am willing to give
1t all up and take her away from here.
He ldolizes her and is good to her in
every respect, but he ignores me when she
is around. This. of course gets on my
nerves terribly, and he flies all to pieces
when I mention it.
L am unable to work as am frequently
i'll. and his actions have not helped me
any. I feel that I simply can not stand it
any longer. Please advise me how to
handle this Please be frank, no matter
who it hits. 1 do want to know what to
do about things. U. B. C.
LclAI 4AOb SCCs yOul 1COJC1S
that your husband is doing any
more than lavishing attention that
would have gone to his own chill
dren, had he had any, upon your
daughter. Surely you can not think
that he is infatuated with your
daughter. She is being treated as
his own child. Your actions in the
matter certainly do not help matters
around the house. He probably feels
restrained in being nice to her, be-
cause of your attitude toward the
whole thing. After all, she is your
daughter, and if you want to find
out whether your husband is in love
with her, you could talk with her
tactfully enough so as to find out
without offending her.
1t seems to me that it is more apt
to be your imagination, aggravated
by your state of health than any
thing else. It should take some
strong evidence for a mother to sus-
pect her daughter of an intrigue
with her step-father. Talk the thing
over with your husband, giving both
Of them the benefit of the doubt
and make an attempt to re-estab-
lish your home on it's former basis.
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