The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-31
Here's Seeker
of Cure for
Man Shyness
BY MARTHA LEE

d. MANI nA LEX
In direrct contrast to the 1929
f1apper remember way back when
it was the 1928 flapper?) there is a
type of girl met very frequently
these days, who Is man shy. She is,
very often product of higher edu-
cation. Not that that has anything
to do with her being man shy. Some
Of the most successful male-snag-
gers have ever seen are the glow
ing fruit of one, two, three, some
times even four years at some uni
versity.
This type of girl, who scrutinizes
all men as if they we're inorons,
ready to put her in a gunny sack,
fling her over their shoulders and
take her away to some den, are very
often superior students. They are
perfectly capable of reading a pom
derous tome at one sitting and then
repeat it word for word three days
later. But all they know they have
learned from books, or from over
hearing conversations. They have
become incapable Of judging human
nature.
Then there is the type that snarls
and sneers every time man comes
within ear shot. They like nothing
better than to belittle a mans pride
and intelligence and self-esteen.
Which may be very enjoyable past
time, but it certainly does not make
for that popularity that must be
deserved"
These same girls cry out from the
wilderness, ''WIlat is the matter With
us? We have no men friends"
The writer of the following letter
fears men:
Dear Miss Lee-T am not writing you for
advice. I know we'll enough what the
trouble is. But what want is solution
to it. I want you to give me your candid
opinion about how can best ges rid OF the
fear 1 have of men.
1 am what would commonly be called an
enlightened female. I have degree from
reputable girls college and, being of
scientific turn Of mind. am pursuing my
career along those lines.
I am not what any one can call good
looking to be truthful about the thing. I
am rather sallow, have dull hair and a
wide, expressionless mouth. My one con-
ISOLATION is my eyes. They are very good.
But they are my sole claim to beauty.
never seem to get hung together right. My
clothes. no matter how long I study them
out, are not quite right. If I wear light
stockings. every one else is sure to have on
dark ones.
But the thing is this. I am scared to
death of men. I have always believed that
If had one man whom could trust,
whom I could talk to, as I have pictured
myself talking. I would be very happy.
But as soon as a boy looks like he is 60
ing to even be nice to ME, get scared to
death. AS result 1 get clustering and
scare him half out of his senses I'm sure
he must feel that in some inexplainabIe
way he has insulted me, for he retreats,
like beaten dog. never to return. Can
you suggest any way that can overcome
this trait? Why must I always suspect
Interior motives. even if they are suhcon-
scious? TEN0PE
You simply must treat BOYS with
the same attitude that you do girls.
Be unconscious of the fact that Vol,
are talking to boy. Exchange ideas
and converse with him the same as
you would a girl. Accept him as a
human being, not as some beast who
Is prowling about the world devour-
ing souls. And do stop being SO self
conscious. Forget that you think
about yourself as unattractive. Per-
haps your eyes are so good that none
ever think of your other features.
They may not be half as bad as your
unsuccessful social life has led you
to believe they are. Buck up, my
dear, and make yourself pleasing.