The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-10-16
Success i'm
CaYgerCan
Break Heart
BY MARTHA LEE

1t has been said that a person can
be and do anything he wants to as
long as he chooses his goal and
strive unerringly for it. Which is
all very fine and beautiful.
But here's the catch. How many
people know what they want sure
enough to hew away, day in and
day out, year and year out? Not
very many, you can bet. We all
are accustomed to taking compro-
misses when the path to the goal
gets a little too tough.
Take women for instance. They
start out in life as young girls. The
question they must decide is whether
they want homes, husbands and
families or careers. Lots of them
think it is careers. Many of them
try to compromise by having both a
career and a husband. And then
there are some who are just honest,
and admit they would rather cook
and bake and scrub and mend socks
for some man.
A great many girls take to a bust
ness career because they think they
will have the opportunity to meet
men-scores of men, with brains,
charm, handsome appearance and
(of course this is just incidenD
money.
All Have Drawbacks
But it's a strange thing. Almost
without exception it is impossible
to find, even in the great business
world, a man who possesses all these
attributes. If he has charm, he is
poor. If he has money, he is SO
engrossed in keeping it and adding
to it that he forgets all the little
things that girls love SO much. And
there you are.
And because the poor ones are
charming, but liabilities for all that.
when it comes to investing in them
as husbands, the girls continue to
work and dress nice and say they
are having a swell time of it.
But, down in their hearts, they
long to be weak and feminine and
lean on some strong man. To have
a home Of their own, if it is only
a room. That's the real dream of
every feminine heart.
Dear Miss Lee-I am Is years old and
have been going for four years with a boy
my senior by two years. I love him dear
" and he loves me. but we can't get
married because he does not make enough
money. have splendid position. and
can buy myself lovely clothes and have
lust about anything want Everyone says
l should be very happy, but I'm not.
This bov wanted to marry me about
three years ago. while was still at the
bottom of the ladder of my Career and
decided against it because I wanted to
anything in the world II haG married
him, then. Because now have become
accustomed to having my own money. buy
ing anything I chose and being. in gen
eral. financially independent. Now. be-
cause have gotte along so well, he will
not marry me. until he is as successful in
his line. What is the answer? JANE.
No matter how successful you are
in business, you are a failure in your
own vocation because you ignored
your vocation, which was being a
wife, to eater to your avocation.
Career Is Flop"
You have tried a career, and now
that it has proved a flop" as far
as you are concerned, you are ready
to try what you really wanted all
the time-marriage.
Your sweetheart can not be
blamed for feeling the way he does
about it at all. You started out &c
beat him on hissown field, business,
and did. He can not, for the good
of his own soul, marry you, now
that you have proved yourself more
capable in the business world than
he.
If you really want to marry him
and be happy and have him happy
you will have to wait until he has
accomplished as much as you did
And if you want that time to be
soon, don't continue winning honors
on him. Give him a chance to catch
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