The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-04
Doubtful
Actions Must
Be AU0ided
BY MARTHA LEE.

One of the reasons we must be so
careful what We do and how we
act these days, when freedom of
thought and action is supposed to
be as intangible as the wind, is be-
cause of what other people will
think.
That isn't adhering to foolish con-
vention. 1t isn't being a stickler for
rules and regulations. 1t merely is
using common sense. A good rule
to follow when one is going to do
something he doubts the ACCESSIBILITY
of is not to do it. Where there is
doubt there is a chance of that
action being misinterpreted.
You've heard the expression
more sinned against than SHINING"
That usually is applied to person
who constantly is putting himself
or herself in position to be doubt
ed, to be gosSiped and to be talked
about.
A young wife unwittingly has
placed herself in a false light in the
eyes of her husband and has writ
ten me a heart little let
ter.
Dear Miss Lee. Possibly you can give
Of my problems. I met my husband only
two months before we were married and
in another year We had a baby. All of
mother and stepfather. Ny husband
never would listen to me and always was
co7d ana ln1,,I ugna.t dt9Tt ,a.,, s,a
never could have my friends or folks
visit me without his mother insulting
them. She would try all day long to
could tell my husband when he came home
to, ourselves. but he refused. Finally. 1
got so disguised I would not tell him
where L was or what I was doing during
wrong. Two weeks ago / left him. al,
though / love him more than I can tell
you. But was. SO miserable and nervous
and his family I had to go.
I came to my mothers home and have
grieved so much. I a mnearly sick. The
and Just before he left he told me he
was going to leave town and wouldn't
be back for long time: Then without
back, but he paid no attention. I wanted
to talk to him before he left.
He Took Mistaken Attitude
I knew where he would be. after IL
o'clock so called a girl friend of mine
go there. with me. She couldn't. but told
me her husband would take me. Just as
out, gave one look and walked away was as
fast as he. could go. We went home and
shortly after. my husband came to the
ready, the next day. that he " was sc eom ming
TO take her away as I was not fit to
Miss Lee. if I had wanted to go out
with another man, would not have gone
With the husband of my dearest friend
Nor would I have gone someplace I knew
positively my own husband would be.
l wrote him a letter begging him to let
me keep the baby and said I had prayed
there might be. a way for us to be happy
together. He laughed at me and said
didn't know how to. pray. am heart
broken. but do want to do what is right.
Do, you suppose we could ever make it
up? I am 18 years old.
JEAN.
I believe your story, my dear, that
you were with your friends hus-
band in order to get a chance to
see your own husband, but of course
he will not, because he is angry, and
looking for a chance to blame you
for his own failure in making your
marriage a go.
Better OFF without Him
He has been cruel and unreason-
able and his own conscience hurts
him because he, as an older man,
failed to make q success of the
union. And so he took the first
chance he had to tack the blame
upon you.
Keep your baby and do the best
you can until he shows signs of
improvement. You are better off
without him than with him at the
present time. But don't be so silly
and thoughtless next time, Jean.