The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-05-06
Mother or
Wife? That's
Man s Test
BY MARTHA LEE

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received concerning the mother-in-
law. daughter in-law son-in-law
question has worked out that the
mother-in-law was first in battle
and last to gut Of course that
is not true. The sons and daughters
are just as often to blame as not
only just haven't gotten the let
tiers that tell that side of the story
If there is any one in the world
you can count on always to do at
least the thing she thinks is best
it is your mother. Mind you, I am
not saying it always is best, because
she sees things from a different
viewpoint than most people.
But you can bank on it that her
interests are sincere, regardless of
how incongrous the idea is with
what would be best
He's Still Her Baby
OF course, besides love, a mother
has the emotions of jealousy and
protectiveness linked in her mind
some way. Her child may tower
three feet above her head. He may
be strong as an OK and even have
gray streaks through his hair, but
he still is her baby. Her child who
needs watching, so that he will not
do anything foolish.
That is why mothers sometimes
get too meddlesome, sometimes to
their sorrow But give them a
break. They are right fair por-
ton of the time. Here is a boy
who wishes he had listened to his
mother.
Dear Miss Lee: I married before |
could make a home for my wife, much
against my mothers wishes. I do not
make good salary and the result is
that I must make my home with my
mother.
Now my wife takes everything my
mother offers, without thought of thanks,
and when I receive my pay check. she
seems to feel it should be all for us,
without including my mother in anything.
Finally. after a quarrel about this. she
left me.
My mother has put herself in debt so
that we might have a home. and this
even after I went against her wishes and
got married. Mother went to my wife
and asked her to come back to her home
and stay until I could get Strengthened
out financially.
Two Homes Too Much
can not afford to keep two homes on
the salary 1 make. and I have to help
finance the home my mother lives in.
Of course, in the meantime, my wife's
mother has had several things to say
about it all that has not helped me along
any toward getting Strengthened cut with
my wife.
MY mother has had lots Of troubles
and disappointments in life. besides i'll
ness. 7 have added to all this by going
against her wishes when married. And
now things have worked out so badly
for us all. Where does my duty lie?
Is it right for me to leave my mother,
and have her lose her home because of
that? She must have my help to Keep
it. Is my wife doing right to leave me?
I know she loves me. ..
Well my dear boy, that is quite
a mess. If it were not for the abb
solute necessity of your helping your
mother in a financial way, most
certainly would tell you to take your
wife and leave the families far be-
hind, where they no longer could
stir up rows along the border.
Give Your Wife a Test
At the time, and the circum-
stances what they are, I should
advise you to have a long talk with
your wife. If it is quarreling be-
tween your wife and mother, make
your mother see how utterly miser-
able it is for you under these cir
You must reconcile your wife to
the idea of standing by you during
these hard days. That is what will
prove if she really loves you and
you her.
You have duty toward your
of course, but you also have
one toward your wife. And duty
is to make her stand by until you
can straighten things out bit. 1