The Washington times., 1929-02-28
"SELLING" CHARM
r. a m Gus Expert
On COurtship
Problems
BY Beatrice Fairfax

d
gNHE other evening happened
/ to catch a glimpse of a young
man and girl 1 knew, walking,
hand in hand, along a snow-banked
highway, under the brilliant winter
! moon and the exquisite beauty OF
the winter stars.
Those young folks were looking,
not UP at the stars, but out from
among the stars. For they were
in love. They could not have told
at the moment whether the air was
frosty or fragrant with June roses.
They were hoping and dreaming
together of the day when they
would light the fire at their own
hearth.
Not quite engaged-waiting to
make perfectly sure they are the
ones for each other. But l think
and the young mans mother
smiled as our car passed her son
and his "girf''--'I think she is
going to be Henry's wife"
Truly, courtship is as sweet, as
powerful for future good or i'll to.
day as it was when first young
man wooed a maid.
"Courtship is salesmanship," re-
marks a modern wit. For that
matter, do we not sell ourselves
in all We do-sell our personality.
charm, efficiency, good will--in
our work and social contacts?
This holds true during that
glamorous time when youna;
man is trying his best to persuade
a girl that she wishes to marry
him, or q f1apper is endeavoring
by less direct but equally success
full methods to impress a young
man with the fact that she is the
only girl in the world for him.
Modern girls and young men
have learned that even as there
is a fine art of living, which
brings happiness and success, 80
also. there is an art of courtship.
an art of keeping company" an
art of loving. which counts for
happy romance and hearts ease.
The tragic love of Juliet may
sound thrilling on the stage. But
hopeless love in real life is diff
ficult. battling, agonizing. Luck
lily 1t usually can be avoided by a
girl through discrimination in
choice of friends and sWeetheaTtS,
control of emotion in its early
stages and withholding avowal of
love until her love is wanted and
earned.
First.sigI1t attraction should be
put TO the test OF courtship. The
early stages of keeping company
are just an opportunity to meet
and talk things over, to learn to
know the young man better who
is attracted to you. and whom
You like we'll enough to en-
courage. Ii he happens also to
like another girl or half dozen
what of it? Though you may
care very much for him. you
have no claim on him. So control
the impulse to dictate.
If you are not sure he is worth
while and Trustworthy, regard
less Of the fascination he may
have for you, let an older mem.
ber of your family, or an older.
disinterested friend, learn his
standing and reputation in the
community.
Above all, beg of you. do not
promise to give up all other com
radeship for the sake Of any one
young man until you have be-
, come engaged to him. Encourage
friendship with all the suitable,
worthwhile young men you know,
even though they may seem for
the moment dull by comparison
with the one who is absorbing
your thoughts. You will not be
less interesting to any one Of
these because others also seek you
out. A little good-humored rivalry
stimulates a young mans interest.
And with a large circle of good
friends you and they have oppor.
tunity to choose wisely and hap
PLY when it comes to love and
marriage.
Many young girls worry be-
cause they are not allowed by
their parents to go about with
boys or receive young men Wis
itors frequently at home. In such
a. case just tell boys the truth,
simply and naturally.
'I'm awfully sorry" Betty ex.