The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-19
Truth Firm
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BY MARTHA LEE

Love Is the strangest malady
known to man. There are severe
cases, there are light cases, but
there never has been found re-
liable cure.
II may Strike you suddenly; you
may succumb, and you may rally.
it may creep upon you unawares,
and It is this form that nearly al
ways proves fatal.
Faith is necessary for love. Dis
trust between lovers brings unhap-
piness and results in ultimate part
ing.
Truth is an important factor be-
tween engaged couples--between
boys and girls or men and women
whose friendship has not reached
the point of a formal engagement
20 marry.
White lies cause only annoyance,
but regular out-and-out lies are I'M
forgiveable. If there are things that
ones sweetheart should not know,
hey are better left unsaid; but
there should be an understanding
tetween both parties of such nature
hal lies would be unnecessary.
Friendship Major Element
friendship is a third element,
closely related to love, without
which marriage is impossible. There
has to be more than a physical at
traction to make marriage a success.
Husband and wife must be pals, as
we'll as lovers, to share the hard
knocks that are bound to come.
There must be something in the
family Golfers. too, to engineer
successful marriage. The tale OF be-
ing able to live on love in a fairy
story only, and is discarded with
Santa Claus and the Easter bunny.
A Young couple has a hard enough
time becoming adjusted to the new
order of things. without being bur-
dened with petty money problems
They really are petty, although at
the time they loom as large as the
Rockies. Young people should start
their new estate with a bank &C
count. however tiny, and with a
firm intention to save little each
week. Then If setbacks come along
they are prepared TO meet them
brayelv with no reproacheS from
either party.
Dear Miss Lee-Ten me something. /
have nv own ideas and l want to see II
am right I am 20 years old. and engaged
IN nov of 90 That IS thought l was
Here's the problem: have been gong
steady with him for nine months. AT first
I did not love him. but now 1 do DO you
think It takes a person that long to md
out whether she loves another or notf
He is wonderful to me and I can trust
him. He has college education ana
above all he is truthful. ! could not ask
for more.
can not understand him. He talks IN
such Indifferent ways lately. But. think
it is because he is not always thinking OF
himself. He is too conslderate-
Now. what must I do? Keep on going
this wav? 1 love him and he knows it.
Since he has quit talking Of US getting
married. I do not know what to think.
Do YOU think he has changed his mind?
Perhaps 1t is because he is not working at
present and he told me once that mo man
had q right to talk to q girl about marry
ing her. when he was not able financially
agree. but at least he could ease my
mind.
He tells me Just to wait and see how
things turn out. What does he mean?
Is he right? Does he love me? ELSIE.
II the boy in question talks indif-
ferently, it may be because he can
not afford marriage, and does not
want TO tie you down.
Waiting Good Idea
Many men feel they have no right
to demand all girls time when
marriage is out of the question, as
it decidedly is if he is not working
I would wait, as he suggests, and
see how things turn out. If you love
him, help him to economic a little.
If he loves you, he will get a job,
save his money. and when he IS able,
ask you to be his wife.
However. if he is not sincere. and
does not contemplate marriage, I
would forget him. for nothing you
can do will make him love you. Why
waste your time on the impossible?