The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-04-11
PZaybOy
a Chance to
Make Good
By MARTHA LEE

! A mother and a father who pet
/ and pamper a child are paving a
sure road to unhappinesS and mis-
cry. not only for that child, but for
/ themselves, and all those who come
in contact with him. 1t is better
/ for a child to be ill-treated than to
be tOo-well treated
For all the insulation, all the pad
ding, all the protecting parent can
/ give his child can not and will not
protect him from the Bullets of the
outside world. He must meet them.
When a young man or young
woman has grown from babyhoOd
with everything for the asking, it is
pretty hard to find suddenly that
! life is not organized that way, that
/ there are laws OF compensation that
will be dealt with, despite Satan
/ himself.
And the result is a bitterness. a
morbidnesS, and sometimes a cruel
I ty that makes that person a thorn
in the side Of all obliged to asso-
Ciate with him
1t is unWise and infinitely unfair
for any parent to allow his child to
grow up soft. No matter how much
wealth, how much position there
may be attached to the family
name, every child should be taught
the fundamental principle of tax
ing his responsibilities in life
| gamely. as-he eventually must learn
to do. and sometimes to his SORROW.
a young girl who married a
"sOfty" writes me this letter:
Dear Miss Lee: I am % years old and
have been married nearly a year Ny
parents were quite wealthy and as a
consequence, I had a great many of the
good things in life While I was younger
, travel education and most of the things
that are connected with wealth. How
ever. 1 have been taught the value of
money and the seriousness and respou-
sibility of life.
My husband Is three years older than
7. He too, came from wealthy family.
He had a great deal more than I in both
freedom and luxury. And his idea of
life, I have found, since We have been
married, is so different from mine that it
is causing us a great deal Of unhappiness.
He grumbles and sulks if things do not
go precisely as he wants them to. He
is a ''play-boy" from the word 20. He
has no sense of responsibility. either to
his job or his married life. And when
1 try to talk to him about this he be-
comes angry and asks me if I do not
have everything I need.
You see he can not sec anything but
clothes and cars and money. l would
much rather be poor and live simply for
each other. Miss Lee, ! want to settle
down and have family and take my
marriage seriously.
But what can I do? My husband can
not see doing anything but play His
IDEA of life is to make Whoopee. get rested
up, and start all over again making
whoopie. I am SO unhappy and discon-
tented. haze to think that the years
stretch ahead for me- all like this pas.
one. with as little aim or reason.
There are two things you can do.
Educate him to your sense Of re-
sponSibilities in life and marriage
or uneducate yourself. Or leave him.
which would be utterly foolish, since
: you both love each other.
You are both young. You are
clever. 1t would be an easy matter
for you subtly to insinuatc your
ideas into his mind, SO that he
would begin to see things different
ly.
Give the kid a chance. He prob
ably never was taught that life was
anything more than great big
! playground for bis own particular
amusement.