The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-29
Foundation
of L0Ue Is
FRIENDSHIP
RY MARTHA LEE

A boy has written me asking
whether it is possible for him to
make girl who likes him very
much, love him. This boy is ask
ing the question for a hundred boys
and girls who would like to know
the answer.
1t so happens in the course Of
things that we often love those who
love us not. This does not neces-
sarily mean that those we love do
not love us at all. 1t means, more
often than not, that they love US
in different way.
Love is a friendship. Love is
companionship. Love is desire. Love
as something different to each of
us. And love is not reciprocal until
each has realization of 1t on the
same plane. That is why we say
we love some one who does not
return the emotion.
Since friendship is love, then love
can come out of friendship. Since
tolerance is kin to love, it is possible
to find love in tolerance.
Must Discover Flaw
Each case is individually depend
ent upon the two characters. If a
boy wants to make a girl love him,
or help a girl realize she loves him,
he must first discover what it is
he lacks in his attitude toward her
that she most wants to see.
The boy seeking to find that an
swer to his problem writes:
Dear Miss Lee--I am deeply in love
with girl who looks upon me as her
best friend. She never has. I am sure,
thought of me as a future husband. but
whenever she has a problem to solve.
need of helping hand. she come to me.
might be her older brother from, the
way she treats me. And I love her more
than any girl have ever known.
Is It possible for me to teach this
girl to love me as I love her? Is 1t pos
sible for me to change her attitude to-
ward me, so that she will not see me as
a brother. good friend?
Girl Is Romantic
She has talked to me Of love. Her
conception of what love will mean to her
and all that. She is very romantic and
idealistic She has dreams of Prince
Charming, handsome, wealthy and thrill-
ing. I certainly do not At this descrip-
ton in any sense of the word. l am
mediocre looking and have very little
worldly wealth. But how love her!
I have never let her know my rss:
feeling toward her, because I am afraid
it will spoil our friendship. Is there any
I,o- Foof
friendship? CYRANO.
This girl has been allowed to be
too dependent upon you. You have
been there when she needed help
and comfort. She has come to rely
upon you as she would upon her
own brother. Some time, when she
needs you, don't be there. She will
realize then, what you have meant
to her. If you let this happen often,
She will also realize how dependent
she is upon you.
Don't Endanger Friendship
She is too sure of you, for another
thing When she has nothing else
to do, she knows that you will be
there to entertain her for an eve
ming. Some evening, when you
know she is going to be expecting
you, just don't show up. If I read
her right, she will not be angry
She will be curious about why you
didn't come and hurt because you
did not.
1t is not necessary for you to
endanger your friendship by let
ting her know how you feel toward
her. In fact, I would not let her
know, if were you. would rather
make her realize how she feels to-
ward you. 1t is highly probable
that she is in love with you and
does not know it.