The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-11-05
Martial Sea
AbOundS in
PettySt1ite
BY MARTHA LEE.

In reviewine the past for causes
for estrangements, misunderstand-
ings. ouarreIs and dissention, 1t
almost always is astounding to find
the incident that started all the
trouble was insignificant when
placed beside the ultimate result.
Husbands and wives go along over
the big barriers, the real troubles
as though nothing in the world
ever could make any difference in
their love, and then, al Of sud-
den, some tiny remark, made
thoughtlessly by one or the other,
will send the marriage on the rocks
with the force of a furious storm.
In the history of quarrels, real
causes drop into insignificaMe COM
pared with the bitterness Recorded
over little affronts to personal
vanity.
Anything Starts Scrap
A curt, blunt, tactless remark can
do more towards breaking up a
happy home than the breaking OF
all ten of the commandments of
marriage. The difference in opinion
over a movie, a bridge hand, a new
friend, a good place to go during
vacation, any of those can make
wives and husbands make a bee
line for the divorce court quicker
than all the real causes a single
man can think Of.
When people are married there
seems to be nothing too trivial to
make their super sensitive souls
writhe.
Dear Miss Lee-My Husband and l. after
five years OF married life. are still quar-
reling over little things. We have gone
over a great many hardships, sorrows and
troubles without whimper out of either
Of us.
But Just let us have the slightest diff
ference of opinion, the slightest difference
in tastes about things and the result often
is severe enough to make me want to be
the first customer in some lawyers office
the next morning. And the same with
my husband
Can't Remember Quarrel
It seems so silly for two people who
really love each other to allow such inSig-
nificant things make such a difference
to us. Why, We have a quarrel and do
not speak for several days. and then by
the time we have come to our senses
enough to talk it over. often we can not
remember what it was we quarreled about.
Can you tell us some way that we can
overcome this ruinous habit?
MRS H. B.
The world would be a great place
to live in if people didn't insist upon
quarreling over silly things, make
curt remarks and eXaggerate hurts
in the heat of silly arguments. But
husbands and wives, who love each
other dearly, still insist upon con-
tinuing to quarrel over trivial
things. The wife gets mad because
her husbands personal convictions
make light of her superior judg-
ment, and. vice versa.
In quarrel, conceit, pride, petit
ness are all one. If we have enough
of those qualities to matter, we can
work up bad case of injured feel
ings over anything. including which
sac OF Ctle street Is pre16rdDle Tor
a Sunday afternoon walk.
Laugh it Over
1t is strange thing, but married
people vault over real troubles with
the agility of an athlete, simply be-
cause they recognize the big ones
and put forth special efforts to
make the grade. And then some
little insignificant thing will come
along that does not warrant SEN
sible person even stumbling over
and down goes the whole works as
though it had been an insurmount-
able mountain to be crossed.
Why don't you have a good talk
some night when you both are il
pleasant moods. Review some of
the outstanding Of your quarrels. If
you have any sense of humor, you
will both probably get lot of
laughs out of the evenings talk.
That's about the best cure.