The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-07-18
DON'T
Haze Your
O7l41 Home
# You We'd
BY MARTHA LEE

In this day and age. when the
llxiIries OF our parents have become
our necessities. and the salaries OF
thosea lust starting out in the busl-
ness world have not increased SUI
fcientlv 20 meet the needs, the
problems Of getting married has m
creased twofOld.
When our fathers and mothers
married. the original cost OF mar
riace meant being able to ouy OF
rent 2 home. put in furniture, SIM
ME and Inexpensive furniture at
hat. and being able TO meet me
butcher and baker and candlestlcK
makers bills weekly
None of this running 10 moves
and taking Weekend jaunts and
buving a radio and a car are Dig
holes in the pay check. Tney we're
content with visiting the neighoors'
taxing walk ard occasionally nav
ing In group of their friends TO
pop corn or play finch
No Bridge Then
Bridge was unheard Of. Clubs
we're not for them. And so
thew lived in comparative ease
on about half what the young TEL
lows make today
But. as the older people are 50
fond If saving. times have changed.
a Young couple Of today must nave
their fun. They must see at least
movie a week. And 1t is next 10
efagnation to be unable to take
little trip once in q while.
a car has become almost a neces-
sitv And so few people can play
music instrument any more thaV
life without a victrola or raolo ID
scarcely worth living.
The wives 60 out more. Inal
means more clothes. Due to clothes
consciousness. men must be wen
dressed at work. More sultS Iol
+rem. And so on down the hst.
It's Usually Fatal
A result. when these young
,eo1le decide to marry, and the sal
arv will not stretch to meet all the
,,eads The result is a decision to
move in on one or the other 5 par
nnts which, in nine cases out OIL
ten. is fatal.
Dsar Miss Lee Here's my problem
love a girl devotedly. and Of course a.
il alvavs is. I can't marry her. or al ie's'
7 can't marry her and give her eveIy'hlIs
rant 10 give her ! make small 'ai
,rv and although my work has eooo
future n look forward TO. can't progress
much for perhaps another year.
have gone With this girl three years
ho,b steadv and otherwise. She loves
~. TOO and the more Nc see Of each
other. the more our affection grows. II
Gems as though We simply we're meant
for each other and no one else.
CT. and I both realized We we're fall
nc tor deeplv in love and We tried hav-
no other dates. but could not continue.
because We simply did not enjoy ourselves
with any one else.
we are Young She IS "a and I am u.
she has been working for two years anu
makes fair salary. enough to keep ner-
soIf dresses nicely and has a few little
iuxuries she wants.
Here's the proposition. She IS VIKING
~ marry me and live with her parents
snd continue working for wear. BY that
time I Will have advanced in my WORK
and We have q little place OF our own
Her folks seem very fond Of me
Would YOU advise me to 90 ahead ana
marry her. or ask her to wait another
vear7 I know It isn't fair to ask her 10
wait. We believe We can make Things
meet somehow and be very happy. What
would you do in case like this?
UNDECIDED.
NV dear. such bravery! You are
both so young to take step Ike
this without even the necessary
security. I'm sure her parents are
lovely people and fond of YOU and
an that. but would it be quite lair,
either to them or to yourselves, to
start out that way?
Imposition on Them
You see. even though YOU paid to-
ward expenses. there would be that
feeling Of imposition. And 1t is so
much better to start out by your
selves. Adjusting your dispositions
and characteristics, one to suit the
other. is difficult enough if YOU
haven't an audience. But It really
is foolish for YOU to take the chance
of dissension and quarreling that
might result (and does so Often)
from living with the older folks.
Wait a year. 1t will pass so quick
". Perhaps by that time you will
be able TO provide your sweetheart
with a little place of her own. And
10 matter how small. that is every
girls right when she marrieS. You
Should give yourselves every break
in the matrimonial struggle to ind
happiness