The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-03-27
Don t Dig up
Mistakes of
Dead Past
BY MARTHA LEE

Let the past bury its dead, say L
And so say all those who actually
are seeking peace Of mind, content
ment, and whatever measure OF
happiness there is to be found on
this earth.
A terrifying amount Of unlappi~
ness and distress is caused either
by an individual allowing his whole
life to be overstadowed by a wrong
he has done in the past, or by refus-
ing to let the wrong Of another die
a natural death and be duly buried.
The price of sin is often heavier
than human imagination can con-
iure up, but part of the penalty OF
it is learning a lesson. And he who
will not learn is lost.
A child puts his hand on a hot
stove. He is burned. It hurts like
who tied the pup for a good long
time. But does he run UP and put
his hand back on the stove again?
Not that child.
Then IT'S Far Worse
Nevertheless, he does not spend
the rest of his life staring blankly
at his finger that hurt SO sorely.
It's bad enough to sit around and
allow your life to be ruined by a
past misdeed, but when someone
else digs up the remains and flaunts
them in your face, it is infinitely
worse.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married ten
years and have two children. a boy and
q girl 4. My husband is a splendid pro-
wider, good to me and the children and a
pretty steady sort Of fellow.
About two years ago I discovered that
he was paying attention to another girl
a girl who worked in the same office with
him. I was furious and went to my par
ents' home Immediately. supposedly on q
visit, but secretly intending to leave him
forever.
After / had been gone two weeks. he
came to see me. Up to that time had
not told him why I had left. but after I
was gone. wrote to tell him never would
be back. When he came he asked me why
I had gone and I told what I had found
out about him and this girl.
He admitted everything, and swore If /
came back he would never see her again,
or any other woman, for that matter. I
came, for the sake of the children and be-
cause I really loved him.
But I cannot forget about this affair. 1t
L H.
provocation say something about 1t to
him. at first he acted hurt when would
mention it, but now he becomes very angry
and leaves the room. It is overshadowing
our love and happiness and yet can not
help IL. Is there any thing I can do
about this? MRS. K.
Yes, there is something you can
do about it. Bite your tongue out
before you ever mention it again.
Your husband has been a brick to
be forced to sniff the dead and de-
caying remains of his mistake all
this time, simply because you will
not allow it to stay buried, where it
belongs.
This Is Not Love
You say you came back to your
husband because you loved him. It
is not love that prompts you to be
bitter, unforgiving and unforgetting.
That is jealousy and several other
feminine traits that are among the
reason why there are so many
bachelors in the world.
You say you went back to your
husband because of your children.
Is it going to make the lives of
your children happy and peaceful
to live in an atmosphere that is be-
coming more charged with hatred
and dissension day by day? Well,
hardly.
Do one of two things, the only
decent things you can do. Either
leave your husband or stop talking
about this past affair. I am not
condoning your husband for the
situation. But that is not the ques-
ton. You are the one concerned
now. And my dear, buckle yourself
together and never refer to this
thing again.
Dumb Dora--Under the conditions OF
your marriage it would be advisable for
you to wear wedding outfit of a pastel
shade. Very pale pink would be prefer
able. Any book Of etiouet viii advise you
or the other points.