The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-02
LOUe Needs
Trust to- Be
KebtAHUe
BY MARTHA LEE

When the foundation for happy
home IS laid the materials most
needed 70 make II substantial
structure are love, faith and stead
fsstness. When one Of these is miss
ing the structure IS not nearly SO
apt 70 stand the wear and tear OF
the elements.
OF the three. it seems that faith
IS the most essential for surely no
woman could love q man she could
not trust, any more than a husband
could love his wife if he could not
rely upon her fidelity. And there
could be no steadfastness in a home
where there was not mutual faith.
And unfortunately. faith is easier
70 lose than it is to obtain, especially
# It once has shown signs OF being
elusive. Il sometimes takes years
10 rebuild faith when il once is gone.
And it is a hard, bitter Job, because
fate seems 10 conspire plots whereby
the person rebuilding lost faith will
be put into as incorporating sit
uations as possible.
Hard to Regain rain
Add TO that the fact that nothing
makes a person look gutter than to
be explaining situations constantly
and you have a fair idea Of the task
10 be undertaken in circumstances
where husbands and wives have
had reason to lose faith.
Sometimes the case Of this lost
faith is a elimination Of a series
of petty lies. When things are IN
pleasant to tell, when white" lie
can be executed successfully. to save
the situation, it is such a tempta-
ton to use this means Of straighten-
Ing things out.
And it is often just that which
causes an insidious undermining OF
the faith of a husband for his wife.
A young wife who apparently has
used this means of smoothing out
some of the petty trials of her mar
ried life writes for advice.
Dear Miss Lee have a problem on
which I must have help. I am 10 years
old married. and have a s-month-old
bsby.
NY husband and I can not get along
without fussing. and 1t has been my
fault. 7 always have been afraid to tell
him the truth about things when lie
would do Just as we'll and save i'll feel
Ing and bad temper I have lied to him.
I realize now that I have done terribly
wrong. That living to him has caused
Infinitely more trouble for me.
really am very sorry, but how can 1
prove It to him? He says he never can
trust me again My heart is broken and
do love him so. Really Miss Lee, l
want to do the right thing Won't you
please suggest some way that l might win
back his trust and confidence ALTA
Tell him how much you want to
have things on the old basis. You
we're so very young to be married,
and, of course. since even old people
make mistakes in how they handle
affairs. it is not to be wondered at
that you have.
From now on, no matter how bad
the truth is. tell him point blank.
Ask him to give you trial. Let him
set the time limit There should be
nothing you could not tell him
StFalBQJ.
If it is concerning the household,
he has as much to say about 1t as
you do. DO as he wishes you to and
when questions arise tell him exactly
how things are. Why you start sub
shutting falsehood for truth, you are
certain to weave a web around your
self from which you can escape only
by breaking it.
The only way you ever will gain
his trust and confidence again is by
earning it.