The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-09
Love
AHairMay
KilIFaith
BY MARTHA LEE

One of the serious throwbacks
that may result from blasted love
affair is a deciacd inferiority COM
pick on the part of the boy or girl
who has been left holding the
burlap" when the affair has died
out on one side.
Usually a boy or girl who does
note the waning interest of the
other half of the duet fails to do
so because Of a love and interest
too deep to be shaken by the little
signs and wonders that most young
couples take to be exit cues.
And that is the reason, when the
break does come, it leaves the re-
manning half, the steadfast half,
with broken faith, not only in other
people, but in themselves.
The boy, contemplating breaking
up with a girl he has made believe
his love is undying, has a two-fold
guilt upon his head if he goes away
without explaining the reasons to
her.
Reviews Faults, Failings
In the first place, because she has
loved that boy so dearly, she will
hesitate long time before she ever
trusts another person. And that, if
you want to be cynical about things,
is blessing, but I believe it is more
harmful than anything else. 1t pulls
the foundation out from under life
itself, for the time being at least.
In the second place, the girl, be-
cause there has been no explana-
tions, will begin to review her faults
and failings, and they will enlarge
like an amoeba under a microscope,
until, like that harmless little one
celled animal, they have the appear
ance of frightful monsters that never
can be eradicated.
In her desperate effort to find the
reason she has failed, so will not
look to her laurels, but only to her
faults, and she will become ingrown
and suffer an interiority complex
that will be hard to be discarded.
Dear Miss Lee-What is the trouble
with me? I have Just lost the boy nag az
thought was to be Syva husband and 40
and never would have asked for more than
to be able to cook and work for him, and
now. he is gone. without word that
would give me clew as to the reason:
Since he has gone, l have thought
great deal about myself. I have weighed
my different qualities, because I am sure
has - caused me to fail SO miserably.
I am fairly good looking. not raving
beauty. but have. nice features. am fair;
/ I. kAI "a
home and a good substantial background
! know. how to dress la mode without
trying too hard.
that they are all mediocre and I have
wondered If that could be one OF the rea-
sons why I lost him. There is nothing
u have haven't even got any startling faults:
have fairly even disposition. Oh MIS-:
what is It about me t that he d d b
SO much I do not think I ever can trust
| or care for any one again.
pEsPoNDENT.
It is not you who are mediocre,
but your boy friend, who has had
the good grace to get out, but not
the courage to tell you why. Be-
lieve me when I tell you an even
disposition is no sign of mediocrity
1t is~one of the choicest blessings
Your former sweetheart could not
stand your superior qualities.
He may be putting himself
through a test, and you too. You
say you have just lost him. a girl
has more chance of retrieving a lost
sweetheart two weeks after falling
out than she has six months later
In the meantime, don't bury your
self alive. 1t is not necessary tc
love some other boy in order to have
a date with him, and it might rush
things along a bit if your lost boy
friend sees competition in the off
ing.