The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-05-08
'Be7cure of
Affair With
Ma1YiedMa11
BY MARTHA LEE

One of the saddest nd most dis
astrous things young girl can do
with her life is to become infatuated
with a married man. I have written
this, in one way or another, for
years. 1t is one of the most lasting
tragedies a girl can inflict, not only
upon herself, but upon all those
who love her.
Common horse sense tells a girl
that it is too dangerous business TO
be funny. In the first place, any
girl must realize that wife has
the advantage over her in every
way. A married mans eyes may
roam over fresh allotment Of
pulchritude, but rest assured his
heart is pretty safely entrenched at
the hearthstone where his children
play and his wife is.
The trouble with young girls is
that they actually feel a sense of
power, a shameful sort Of victory
over the fact that they have won
a man from those things which
have been near and dear to him
for number of years.
Victory Not Theirs
But they never do, the poor de-
luded things, and that's what makes
it so sad, so unfair, and so far
reaching in It's influence.
I have written so much about it.
that has been unconvlncing be-
side this story told in a letter I re-
ceis>d from young girl recently.
Dear Martina Lee: I have read num-
Der OF your articles on the position OF a
young girl IN relation TO married men.
You have a sound theory and you hit the
nail on the head most of the time. but If
these girls who are contemplating playing
around with married men are anything
like me. that advice will slip in one ear
and out the other.
When I was Is I was quite a cookbook
ing girl. Ny parents had lost about
everything We had and after a year IN
college I was forced to go to work. was
well liked around town, taken out quite a
bit, and engaged to q boy from nearby
town.
Starts Affair at Onice
One of the men who worked in the same
offices was exceptionally nice. I liked him
the moment I saw him. but of course
knee he was married, and my attraction
for him was more admiration for his
ability and so forth than anything else.
One night he took me home from work
when the weather was particularly miser-
able. We talked and he apparently en-
joyed conversation with me a much did
with him. But that was the beginning.
After a few more times like that, Just
rides home IN the evening, we fell mad
" in love with each other. I knew it was
folly, or thought I did for a while, but
he loved me so much and I know I did
him.
l broke my engagement and stopped
seeing anyone but him. Two years passed
and each day he talked about when re
would be together for always, when he
would get his divorce and We would marry.
You could not have asked for more
devoted lover. more sincere sounding
person. But this has broken up. as al
these clandestine things do, with only
sordidnesS for me. an still very young
and rather attrs ctiye, but everyone knows
about my affair with this man.
Mother Is Loyal
Ny mother is heart-broken. although
she is loyal TO me. She has been in
miserable health ever since she found out.
I am high and dry. on the shelf I have
killed my reputation and all chances for
marriage with anyone in the town where
live. because everyone knows about this.
And the awful part of it is, still love
HIM
I an not writing to you for advice. Miss
Lee want you to print this letter for
the benefit of any young girl who is con-
templating or is involved in an affair with
married man. Don't expect TO break
the home Of wife and rebuild your own
upon il. It can't be done.
DISILLUSIONED.
There is more in that letter than
I could give you in fifteen articles
on the same subject. There are
the heart breaking things that can
happen through an affair of this
sort. Take it for what it is worth,
which is plenty.