The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-20
Horse Sense
Is Needed to
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BY MARTHA LEE.

Men love women, and women
love love" and there is the difference
that causes, if not all, at least a
great share of the natural hazards
of married life.
It all revolves around the fact
that men become accustomed to
the routine of marriage more quick
~ than women. 1t does not mean
that they love their wives less than
the wives love them, but that they
do not cling to the mad magenta
moments" quite as avidly.
They are willing to accept the
fact that marriage, like life, may
flow along smoothly enough under
careful guidance. They are, for the
most part, more sane about their
handling of the marital craft during
storm and strife. They are, in a
phrase, better balanced as regards
matters of love.
Wives Want Thrills
And somehow great many young
wives resent this. They want the
wild breathless thrill of the days of
their betrothal to be never ending.
These young matrons seem un-
willing to admit that the earning
of their daily bread and board is on
a par with the Importance of being
loved. They are heart broken when
their husbands come home at night
too tired to spend the rest OF the
evening whispering sweet nothings
in their shell-like ears, as they used
to do in the days of their court
ship.
A wife who weeps and walls about
these trivial matters continuously is
storing up a heap of trouble for
herself. 1t is the beginning OF
type of nagging that can kill the
strongest love ever born in human
breast.
Horse Sense Needed
After all, no matter how much in
love a woman may be, horse sense
is the better part Of yalor in case
such as this. A young woman who
is under the impression she is los
ing her husband of 2, year is making
a mountain out of molehlll, and
1 don't mean the old proyerb.
Dear Miss Lee: 1 am % years old and
have been married year, I am very
much in love with my husband, and he
was with me when We first were married,
but things seem to have changed lately
When We were engaged. he spent all
the time he was not working with me-
He was so sweet and loving. He said such
charming things about me. He would
notice every little thing I did and re-
mark upon my frocks. You know, the
sort of thing women love; to have the
man they love interested entirely in them.
Things Have Changed
But things are different now. He is
always too tired when he comes home at
night to go out. He talks about his bust
ness during the dinner hour and after
dinner the reads the paper and listens to
the radio. He is perfectly content to sit
for an hour without saying anything.
am very unhappy about it all. do
not think he loves me as much as he did
when we were married and am worried
about it. He does not even seem as az
fectionate toward me as he was. Do you
think he is losing his love for me?
When I mention it to him. he calls me
silly.
You are on the verge of becoming
small time nagger, Unhappy.
Your husband is, as far as can
gather, a happy husband and a good
one. If he were losing his love for
you, he wouldn't be sitting home
reading and listening to the radio
evening after evening as you say
he does.
Silence Is Golden
Don't you know that some of
these golden siiences, that last for
hour after hour, are signs of deep
peace and contentment?
Your husband has told you
hundred times how lovely you are
and what beautiful eyes you have.
Because he does not repeat these
things is no sign he no longer thinks
them.
He expects you to know that he
loves you and cherishes you because
he is providing for you to the best
of his ability, because he spends all
his hours, when he is not working,
in your company.
Do not bring him to the point
where he will be uncomfortable
when he is silent. Be a sensible
girl. More marriages are happy be-