The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-09-16
Girl in Case
Bitter Pill
for MOther
BY MARTHA LEE.

From the age-old struggle of
mother and son come heartaches
galore. In asserting his independ-
ence. having come to manhood, the
boy unwittingly hurts his mother,
and she in turn, not understanding
the extent of his pride in his new
position, widens the breach between
them in her effort to retain or re-
gain her dominance over him.
The "girl in the case" is the most
bitter pill mother must swallow. She
must stand by and see her baby
seeking a new source of love and
comfort, and see the faith and trust
that formerly was wholly hers
shared with another.
II is a hard fight, 10 be able to
disregard these changed conditions,
but it is a battle that must be
fought, and won. Realization must
come to each mother that her son
is a man, with a mans rights and
privileges, and when this is learned,
the friction between mother, son
and sweetheart will be lessened to
great degree.
Dear Miss Lee: You have helped others
IN their problems and wonder II you
can help me?
have son % years old. of course,
old enough to take care OF himself. but
am worried over him. Ever since he
was II he has been going with girl.
This girl has spoiled him. He makes a
large salary each week and she has to
take half of it.
Makes Big Salary
She keeps him out till the wee hours
Of the morning at times. He must buy
her clothing for her. let her take his
car all to herself once in a while. She
hates me as the boys mother, and hates
his father and two sisters.
This girl keeps my son at her home
half OF the time. If he wishes to take
us for a ride. she objects. but he will
take US anyway. and after a while she
will complain OF a hedaache and we go
back home.
MY husband works hard to support the
family. MY son works one week to make
the money my husband makes IN three
weeks. This girl is not his wife and al
though rumors have gone around that she
is. ne denies it.
Please give me your advice. Don't tell
me to talk to him about it. as it does
no good. We've tried it many times.
Looking forward to your advice.
DESPAIRnJG MOTHER.
OF course your son could not take
MP girls time for ten years and
not spend some money on her. That
is only to be expected. You might
ask him, however, to contribute to
the support of the family, or buy
some little things for the house, and
am sure he would be glad to cur
tail his expenses somewhat.
AS for the girl keeping your son
out late, if it is only an occasional
occurrence, I wouldn't worry; young
people start to parties and dances
so late now, that it practically i'm
possible to get home early. These
things are minor details.
If it gives her pleasure to use his
car once in a while, surely there is
no harm in it as long as she doesn't
monopolize it. She should not be
selfish about it, though. and should
insist on his taking you and his
father for drives now and then.
I can't believe this girl hates you
She may think that you dislike her,
end resenting it, avoids you. Young
girls generally are Super-SenSitive
around their sweethearts' family.
1 would suggest you invite the
young lady to your home often, and
when you learn to know her. per-
haps you might change your opinion
of her, and grow to love her as an
other daughter.