The Indianapolis times., 1929-12-23
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BY MARTHA LEE

Young man, you are going to be
married. You have, after due con-
sideration, hope, chosen the girl
who seems most likely to bring you
happiness and contentment for the
rest of your life.
You have chosen her, first. be-
cause you respect and admire her
That means that you believe her to
be passing fair. endowed with ply
sical attractiveness and a we'll
balanced mind. 1t means that after
a courtship of a length of time
enough for you to be fairly sure
OF yourself, you have found her 10
be companionable, good tempered,
loving and admirable.
You are going to see other girls,
lots OF them, who have more beau
tiful faces and figures. You are
going to meet one girl after another
whose mentality makes your wife's
look like those bulbs that are so
economical for use at a ball at night
(safe and cheap. You are going to
run on to plenty with lots more of
anything you admire in your wife.
And when you do, take them for
what they are worth-fashes in the
pan-and let it go at that. Imagine
them cooking your meals and wash
ing your dishes and darning your
hose. Imagine them getting along,
without complaint, on what you are
going to have to offer your wife.
She Feels Same Way
You are going to tug at the tied
down feeling that matrimony
sometimes gives men. You are
going to wish you we're free again,
TO do what you please with your
pay envelope, to step out and have
yourself a time, just once again.
When you do, think what she
might be wishing, with the dull
monotony of housework to be done,
the same, day in and day out; With
children to care for, and perhaps
little to do with.
You are going to have arguments
simply because men and women
are too petty and prideful and self
conferred to get along without them.
They are going to be over trif1ing
things. But their power for widen
ing breech between you and your
wife Is incredible.
When you have an argument, one
OF you must give in. One of you
rlust have the sense to shut up, so
that things that both of you will
wish you we're dead for saying will
not be said. Make it a rule never
to let the sun go down on a mis-
understanding. At least not a mis-
understanding still in the process
of fermentation.
There are so many beautiful
things to be cherished that can be
smashed beyond recognition by
such silly arguments. You have set
yourself up as a seeker after beauty
by marrying, because you knew
your love to be too beautiful to pass
by. At least, stand true to that
which you have already declared.
Many Temptations
You are going to have many
temptations. You are going to be
able to yield to those temptations
without your wife ever knowing
if you want to be SO cowardly.
Whenever you are thinking about
doing something you are not quite
sure you could tell her, ask your
self how you would feel if she had
such a thing to tell you about her
self when you got home.
Play her f1fty-ffty all the way.
She trusts you. She has placed the
rest of her life in your keeping. She
is bound down by the routine OF
housework, by the deadly monotony
of the conpanionship of other wives
who have as few interests as she
has. She depends upon you for her
contact with the outside world. Don't
deny it to her.
If you want to keep your wife your
sweetheart talk to her for an hour
every evening, just conversational
talk. like you would have before you
we're married. That has all the
kisses on the brow each night when
You come home and every morning
when you leave beaten a mile.