The Indianapolis times., 1929-07-05
Vices Told
TO Be Pals
OfHnSbandS
BY MARTHA LEE

Getting back to the wives who
are unhappy and miserable because
Of what they term their husbands
neglect" the preponderance Of mail
from women with this cry from the
wilderness Of loneliness can not be
put aside.
Every day letter, sometimes
more than one, comes from some
woman whose heart cries out for
the companionship Of the man she
has married.
Often times she has everything
else she needs to make her content
ed and happy. A nice home, healthy
children, not too much work and a
husband who is am ample provider.
And still she is not happy. Because
she has not the conpanionship she
Graves.
Wives Neglect Appearance
One of the best ways to solve this
problem, in general way, at least,
is to consider the problems of the
husbands who write in. They may
not be the husbands Of these women,
but they are husbands, with
problems that might very easily
be the same ones that keep men
from making companions of their
wives.
Taking the letters by and large,
the men complain mostly that their
wives no longer care much for their
appearance, which is fatal at
titude for any wife to take.
Another cry is that their wives
are not interested in their husbands
occupations, in the same diversions,
in the same recreations.
These may be the answers to the
lack of conpanionship between
husbands and wives.
One woman writes the following
letter.
Dear Miss Lee--I want to send my SYM
pathy to the woman who wrote the letter
about her unhappiness because her hus-
band was not longer her friend and COM
panon, because am in the same boat.
7 am left alone every night and all day
Sunday. I have to find my own pleasure
as best can as my husband never wants
to take me any place. He goes to stag
parties so he says (and have found out
that he is telling the truth) He gives
me handsome weekly allowance and
never asks me what do with it. He pays
all expenses without a word.
7 have a lovely home and two children,
but I would trade all the luxuries for
the friendship and companionship Of my
husband. If it were not for the children
I would leave, but they are so we'll pro-
videc for I stay.
My husband says he loves me and his
home. But inasmuch as I can go all
day as 7 please and he is shut UP in his
Office, he wants his evening to do as he
pleases He seems to think since I am
we'll provided for that is all that is neces-
sary. I will not go out nights alone and
vet the loneliness is almost too much for
me sometimes. What do you advise?
V. L.
You must not think just because
your husband is tied to you with
bonds Of matrimony that you are
necessarily all he needs in the way
of companionship.
Try to be interesting
Make yourself interesting and
worth being with and he will spend
his time with you.
Find out what he considers
amusement and diversion and in
terest yourself in these things. Ar
range for him to have his stag
parties in your own home. Show
him that you are not only a wife,
but a hostess for his friends and
companion worth spending his
leisure hours with.
It seems to me. the trouble with
the wives who complain about their
husbands not being companions to
them is that these same wives make
no effort to be connpanionable.
You easily should be able to
make yourself we'll read and in
terested in the things your husband
likes.