The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-22
Tolerance Is
Foundation
0fHabbinesS
BY MARTHA LEE

The road to happiness! The pot
of gold at the end Of rainbow!
The blue Bird And various other
names by which peace and content
ment have been the theme of poems,
novels and column material such as
this since the beginning of time.
These are the grails for which
people have been searching since
Adam was cast out of the garden of
Eden. Each person has taken a diff
ferent route, and some of us have
realized that blessed of all human
emotions-peace-and some of us
have not.
All those who have found happi-
ness feel strong urge to guide the
rest of humanity over the same
route, that it, also, may know such
JOY. And those who have not found
it are sure the reason is because
they did not choose Road 81 instead
of Road % and they also must tell
the other poor misguided mortals
what's learned from choosing the
wrong road.
Do as They Please
And the consequence is that
everybody does just what they would
have done anyway. Follow their
own inclinations
But there are unfailing guides to
happiness. They are not signs and
wonders to be found along the road.
They are the result of a right atti-
tude about life. The earnings of
clean and right living. The bonus
for developing characteristics that
spread joy and happiness for all who
come within the radius Of that in
dividual.
A letter from woman who has
gone through tWenty-nine years of
married life happily, will, if it is not
guide, at least bring a sense of Joy
to those who read her experience
and how she has found such 10Y.
Dear Miss Lee-Mine is not a problem.
guess, after I read all the troubles other
people have, haven't any troubles at all.
I Just wanted to tell you about my hus-
band and myself
We have been married tyentv-nine
years. 1 am over so and he is over so.
But we are not old. Nor do we look old.
We have had our little differences and
sometimes it has been hard shedding, but
we've always pulled through together. And
we are as happy as two people can be.
| It's $3.50 Plan
| Our marriage has been a f1fty-ifty prop
osition. It's been ''give and take" all
along. We split two ways on everything
work, the care of the children, worry,
everything. In having our own ways,
which seems to be a matter of constant
quarreling to SO many couples, we have
done the same thing. When we clashed
about anything, We always compromised
He has given all he has in loyalty, in sup
port, both moral and financial, and in
turn, put in all my strength and ingenuity
to make our marriage a successful and
happy one.
We have four children, the oldest %
and the youngest Is. Two of our children
are married and we are pals with them
and their wives.
| Our children are the GROWING success
of any sacrifice we may have had to
make. We have made them understand
| from the very first that they must not be
selfish. that they must distinguish right
from wrong, and that above all. they must
| be tolerant of each others shortcomings
That these three premises must be firmly
established in their hearts and souls be-
| fore they could expect happiness.
Blessed 20 Years
| And they have been fine. We have had
their condolences and that has meant
everything.
I don't know how much farther along
the road stretches for us together. but as
look back, it has been blessed and
happy twenty-nine years. I am not saying
that every one can find happiness by fol-
| lowing our example. But I do urge tolerS
ance, unself1shness and a willingness to
give as we'll as take in this game of mar
riage.
Thank you, Mrs. K. G., and I am
sure the readers of the column will
want to thank you, too. 1t is soul
satisfying to read letter such as
yours. You are right. Happiness
can be built on tolerance, unself1sh-
ness and a realization of the fact
that it is twice as nice to give as it
is to take. .. ~