The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-10-24

Are Nagged
byIn-La1CS
BY MARTHA LEE.

Alterations between newly mar
ried couples frequently are brought
on by too close association with
"in-laws" These inter-family quar-
rels seem to be the bane of the
young husbands or wife's exist
ence.
1t is a steep climb uphill, this
adjustment business of the bride
and groom, and little encourage
ment is to be found from the aver
age run of parents of the opposite
party. Taking sides" is a common
complaint, as is unnecessary and
severe criticism.
One can bsame either the par
ents or the young folk. The par
ents, having gone through the same
adjustment, thinks that their advice
should be welcome, and delight in
offering suggestions on any and
every occasion. The desire to live
and learn" prompts the young
people to refuse this advice, or else
ignore it, which seems to be a fore
runner of future fights.
Comic Strips Blamed
Comic strips are to blame a great
deal for much of the trouble. There
is lot to the idea of the power
of suggestion" and once the idea
that trouble may arise if one is not
on the alert occurs, the Imagination
is stimulated easily.
Mothers almost universally find
it hard to realize that the children
that she has reared do grow to
manhood, and womenhood, and do
mature sufficiently to lead well or
dered lives without her assistance.
able though it may be. Fathers
good business sense that has en-
abled his family to weather so MANY
storms, does not seem to remind
him that he learned by experience;
he wants to continue to be the di-
rector Of his sons affairs.
No Home Big Enough
It nearly always is a mistake for
parents to continue to allow their
children to live with them after
they are married. No home is big
enough for two families. Daugh-
tiers disagree with the mother-in
law methods, having been accus-
toned to her own mothers way of
doing things. Sons assume a toler-
ant attitude toward father-in-law
ideas that should be maddenning
to a man of any caliber.
Summing up everything, how
much better it is for each family
to go its own way.
Dear Miss Lee-Several months ago. I
left my husband. because didn't want to
live with his people. 1t. wasn't that
they were mean to me, but I Just didn't
| like that way of living.
Realizes Mistake
Now realize I was silly. My hus-
band tells me that 1 can come back.
but my folks tell me that it would be for
the worse, and if my husband cared for
me. instead of asking me to go there,
he would provide a home Just for the
two of us.
I think if his people are nice enough
to help us get a start, it is pretty nice,
| don't your
Should ignore the talk of people and
listen to my husbandP
In the first place, Adele, it was
mistake to marry a man who had
not. yet got a start. - If you felt
that you could not live with his
family and did not want to try to
get along with them, why did you
do it?
Then, if you are old enough to
marry, you ought to be old enough
to know your own mind. Why
should others influence your life?
If you love your husband, go back
to him, by all means, and make the
best of things; as long as you start
ed out the way you did, you may as
well stick to your bargain. Close
your ears to all arguments against
your decision. 1t is your life, and
you may as well make it as happy
| as you can.