The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-04-15
Be Sincere
and Enjoy
the Change
BY MARTHA LEE


Among the common or garden
variety of sins in this modern age
is the sin of insincerity. 1t has
flourished like some foul weed and
grown to the proportions OF a huge
Frankenstein machine.
Most of this rapid growth is due
to constant contact. Everywhere
one goes, one must come constantly
in contact with people. 1t is polite
to be civil. 1t is part of the pro-
gress of the world, to say nothing
of business and social popularity to
be friendly and pleasant to those
who must be met
AS a consequence, because 1t Is
impossible truly to like everyone one
must meet, a social deception has
grown out of this that spreads it
self through all phases Of our lives.
Easy to Evade Issue
When Mrs. Jones calls, it is so
simple just to send down word that
YOU are not at home. So much cas-
Ter than going to listen to her chat
ter endlessly about things that are
of no interest in the world to you.
When you are invited to an affair
that is not particularly keen" it
is so much easier and certainly bet
ter social form to plead another en-
gagement than to say you cannot
stand the parties your would-be hos
tess throws.
And so it goes. through all the
different walks of life, these little So
cial lies and receptions that steal
away iRsincerity.
OF course one would not be very
popular soul who would tell the
truth about all things. But the idea
is, by telling a falsehood, by being
falsely sincere in your sorrow at be-
ing unable to accommodate, the Or
iginal cause of that insincerity is not
done away with.
Here's an Example
Take the writer of this letter for
example:
persistent t'S pe5ts S This is O not only the
record of my own experience but OF those
81 anT 10 Of h. my to pe am Rbo ny
terest me not the least. | am forced to
lie about engagements and Sc forth be-
cause they could not stand to hear the
their company for several hours.
| always am having to hear some one
est me and at the same time pretend that
it does. Fam SICK of being insincere.
I want to t9art out telling the truth.
people tell n.e the truth about myself than
to plead former engagements. sick head
aches. and all the other stereotyped social
But my husband says I dare not for
business reasons. Just because 1t is the
thing to be gregsriouS, 1 must be, whether
all the bum jokes and enter into the spirit
of fun on a party whether it is my idea
Of fun, or not. am sick of it. want to
''''' S'''7 ''' ''''' MRS. VICTIM.
You must be living in an intellect
ual desert and going around with
the inmates to be bored SO COM
pletely with everyone. My
dear, where is your sense of humor?
Can't you get a tremendous kick out
of just watching and studying other
human beings.
Try Being Frank
1t is true that this insincerity III
social life has grown to tremendous
size. And it has reached a pretty
place, when it has become neces-
sary to shield the other fellows
feeling at the price of your own
soul.
Why not start doing away with
the gush and be frank about peo-
pie? You seem to be more annoyed
than anything else. You do not dis
like people actively. They Just
bother you. Why not start looking
at them as human beings, instead
of things to entertain you. Why
not give them a break? Instead OF
leading them on, with untrue ex-
cuses, why not say that you do not
feel particularly like being with peo-
pie that day. You'd be surprised
how many Of them will be glad. Be-
cause they, too, will feel free to tell
you the same thing the next time
they do not feel like company"