The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-08-14
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BY MARTHA LEE

The question of whether what's
sauce for the gander is good for the
goose has been argued and mulled
over ever since Adam happened to
run across Lilith that day in the
Garden of Eden.
We call it the question of double
and single standards now. But it's
the same difference.
Women still are contemplating
the ACCESSIBILITY of going out and
doing likewise, when they discover
their husbands have found ladies
other than themselves much more
congenial as companions.
But the fact of the matter is a
standard is that which is deemed
most advisable by the people in
general, and cheating is not the
best thing for the ma ority of peo-
pie, whether they be men or women.
Therefore, it is not question of
whether a woman should do as her
husband does, but that she should
help him to see, for the good of
himself, herself, and their children,
that he should do as she does.
Must Keep Respect.
The foundation of marital happi-
ness lies in congenial, well-ordered
home. 1t is necessary not only to
the individuals who have con-
tracted the agreement, but to the
community at large. And most
especially is it necessary for the
children of that home.
If a man and woman have loved
each other enough to marry and
have q family, surely they must re-
tain a spark of respect and rever-
ence for the children that have
been brought into the world through
that marriage.
Many times hurt pride and a
heart hunger almost too keen to be
bearable lead men and women to
do things that will be capable of in
the lives of those they
most love.
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married
fifteen years. My husband and 1 have
three children. the oldest, boy, II. Our
married life has not been particularly
happy. We have quarreIed a great deal,
principally because we are both quick
tempered and hot-headed.
Takes Man as Confident.
For the last year 1 have had absolutely
no companionship from my husband.
have known for a number of years that he
was not particularly true to me, but in
this last year he has been quite brazen
about 1t.
Several months ago I happened to see
an old friend of mine, a boy who had
been attentive to me when I was a young
girl. And because I had not seen him
for long time, and because it seemed so
good to have some one actually glad to
see me, I invited him to our home for
dinner. My husband was not there, as
usual. I poured out the whole story to
this man.
Since then we have been seeing each
other frequently. He says he still loves
me as he did before, and wants me to
divorce my husband and marry him. 1
know my husband does not love me. But
I can't decide what to do. My husband
does not know about this.
UNDECIDED.
Perhaps If your husband knew
that you still were attractive to
another, he might change his tune.
I take it he never has asked you
for divorce, so apparently he does
not want to be free. Since he has
brought you no happiness, you have
no reason to feel concerned about
telling him of this affair. 1 would,
and ask him what he suggests you
do. about it.
Consider the Children.
But there is this to consider. The
man who is asking you to leave your
husband will take the responsibility
of raising and educating three chill
dren of another man. Your chill
dren are going to be constant re-
minders of their father.
You are going to resent any adj
verse criticism this other man might
give to the children of the man who
now is your husband, especially
since you admit yourself to be hot
headed and quick-tempered.
Is it fair to place your children in
such position at the most formative
years of their lives? You have many
things more important than your
own happiness to consider in taking