The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-02-27
Feels
Entitled to
AIIOzCunCe
BY MARTHA LEE

Marriage is becoming more and
more of a business proposition. 1t
used to be that the husband plowed
the field and raised the wheat,
fattened the calf and killed him
for food. But not so in this day and
age. The wheat not only has been
sown and reaped, but baked into
bread before it ever reached the
household of Mr.. and Mrs.
The economic status has changed,
and household problems have be-
come different. The man still is the
head of the house Cor should be-.
He still earns the wherewithal to
provide the food and clothing. But
the wife has become a partner in the
firm. She must handle funds, at
tend to the spending of a large share
of the salary, and account for that
which she has spent. The answer,
in most cases is a household budget.
The silent partner of this firm of
Mr.. and Mrs. writes in:
Dear Miss Lee-My husband, for one
reason or another. will not fall into the
budget or allowance idea. 1t semes the
most sensible. the most economic plan to
me, but he fatty refuses to see where
there is any good in it.
AS a consequence, I must ask him for
every penny to be spent in the house
Groceries. meat, every household item. is
bought by my asking him each day for
money.
Until the time of my marriage, 1 was
IN inn T
I could afford. I resent the idea of ask
ing for every penny. You would think by
now he would realize I need certain sum
with which to run the house. But no.
Every day I must ask him for money to
run the house with, as though it were the
first day of our marriage. I have ex-
planned to him my ideas on the subject.
but he will not listen. What can I do
about it? NAN
It probably gives him great deal
of satisfaction to have you ask him
for money, Nan; sense of pride
and power; a sense of your de-
pendence upon him, that satisfies
the eternal vanity of man.
OF course, it is much wiser to run
your home upon a budget. The
fact that you have been a business
woman, financially independent,
makes the new state of affairs try
ing, But it can not do you or your
home any particular harm to in
dulge his masculine vanity that
much. You are. sensible enough to.
see that.
n
One of the greatest faults with
us moderns is that we do not want
to take up our crosses. We do
something, and the moment it shows
any signs of being the least bit bur-
densome, the least bit unromantic,
we want to run off, leave it far
behind.
In other words, the main idea
seems to be to shun responsibility.
1t just can't be done. It is a re-
sponsibility just to exist. And no
one is particularly eager to run
away. from existence.
Dear Miss Lee-I was married six years
ego to the man of my fathers choice
I did, however. love another man. I never
have let my husband know 7 did not love
him. Nor have I ever seen the man
loved since my marriage. But 1 can not
get him out Of my mind.
Recently my husband has been most
Indifferent to me. I miss the loss of
the affection he showed me very much.
When I make an effort to be affectionate
to him, he turns away, as though an
noyed. I am hungering for a little at
tention now. do not believe in divorce,
but this is becoming unbearable. What
can do about it?
VERY UNHAPPY.
You did pretty well to fool him
for six years into believing that you
loved him, when you did not. Now,
unless I am greatly mistaken, you
really do. You married him of your
own free will. It was not case of
life or death, whether you married
the man your father chose or the
one you loved.
You would better get busy and
chuck the memory of this man you
turned down. Settle yourself to
pleasing your own husband. Make
him happy and contented. Give
him real affection, not mere out
ward signs, that he undoubtedly
has detected were false. You have
your life mapped out before you.
Don't start making yourself a lot
of trouble by taking detOurS.