The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-22
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] Cheating
Husbands
BY MARTHA LEE

BY MARTHA LEE
Just exactly what should be q
woman's attitude toward the in
fidelity of her husband? On first
glance it would mean the, complete
and definite severance of the
marriage contract. On second glance
it might be something entirely diff
ferent. That is why it always pays
to take a second glance.
Infidelity is such beastly blow
to take, because it strikes unerrlng-
ly at a persons pride. 1t points out
without any frills or soft terms, that
somewhere along the line, the wife
or husband, whichever the case may
be, is failing miserably. That she is
insufficient. That is let-down feel
ing, if ever there was one.
I am sure you have heard women
say: ST would never live with an
unfaithful husband ten minutes II
I knew about it, There's the rub
That little if, that is half of life
But perhaps there is only one case
in hundred when the wife has
anything in the world to go on, ex-
cepting her faith in her husband or
her suspicious of him. 1t isn't very
often that woman has actual evil
dence as to the fidelity or inf1delity
of her husband.
That just makes me wonder, when
I read statistics that indicate that
a great percentage-over half-ot
the married men are cheating. ]
wonder just how many Of those
cases are nurtured in the minds
of jealous women, who have no
reason in the world to doubt their
husbands fidelity, but who are SO
tremendously suspicious that they
frame" that idea until it seems
reality.
OF course, there are cases where
cheating is going on, probably more
where the wife knows nothing about
it than we realize, but just the same
the thing has to be looked at clear
ly. The following letter is a case
in point:
Dear Miss Lee-I am 23-years-old an6
have been married over a year to a man
six years my senior. We have a deaf
little home, which we are buying on pay
ments and every one thinks we are SUI
premely happy.
Now Miss Lee, my trouble is this.
discovered accidentally. that he has been
seeing other women in the afternoon, when
I thought he was out looking after bust
ness. He admits it is true and that ii
has been going on internationally ever
since we were married. He said he die
not think I would ever find it out. He
says he is morally weak and knows he
should not do such things. He says t4-ere
is no one particularly that he cares for
I knew he had an affair with married
woman before he started going with me
but he told me it would never occur again
after we were married. He has always
treated me with the utmost respect.
Now Miss Lee, I have tried to make a
happy home for him and am always ready
to go and pal with him. I thought I was
succeeding SO nicely as we got along SC
well until I discovered this double life he
has been leading. At first he said he was
sorry and wanted me to forgive him and
give him another chance, which I am do
ing, but there are days since that / have
felt he has been cheating on me again,
What would you advise me to do? NV
parents are alone and will take me back
where I will have good home and many
advantages. This has all been such a
bitter disappointment to me. and my home
that INloved so well does not seem the
same to me. I am sorry to say that I can
no longer trust him. What do you adj
wise? w
I would advise you to stop think
ing about it and go right ahead
making him nice home, a good
companion and a loving wife. He
merely admitted seeing other won1-
en-. 1t is not quite the way to do
things but I see no reason why, if
you have gotten along so nicely.
you should give up in despair. ]
am not for this walking things off
the minute everything is not Just
perfectly jake. Stay in there, and
fight.
If he loved you enough to marry
you. he will love you enough to do
what you wish him to do, especially
If you show some spunk, some fight
and courage in your first serious
difficulty.
/ For heavens sake don't be talk
ing about it to him. Don't ever
mention it again, even to yourself,
unless you have absolute proof that
he is falling down on his PROPOSE
ton. 1t is human to doubt some
one who has done wrong once. But
just think what terrible time peo-
pie would have if we applied that
to our everyday life. You must have
faith in humanity, and especially in
your husband. 1t is the most heal
ing balm you could ever imagine.
and the most powerful influence
for good in a case like this.