The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-04-10
High Cost Is
BugabO0 of
Matrin1Onv
BY MARTHA LEE

The standard of living has be-
come changed so markedly in the
last fifteen years that matrimony is
an increasingly difficult problem for
young folks to cope with. What
used to pass on a silver platter for
luxuries have become necessities.
The high cost of mere existence
makes thinking young men and
women ponder long and hard be-
fore they sign on the dotted line.
1t no longer is a question of find
ing the girl. That little query has
grown to finding the dough to keep
the home after the girl has been
found. And that isn't because girls
are more extravagant these days,
for on a whole, they are more than
willing to earn their share Of the
family wages.
1t is just because existence is more
costly,P and the means for earning
that existence have not increased
proportionately to our changing liv-
ing conditions.
Step Doubly Perilous
For the ordinary young man and
woman, the marriage step has be-
come twice as dangerous. The ordin-
airy hazards have been added to by
the trials of making the pay en-
velope meet the demands of modern
life 1t is a problem that only each
individual can meet.
Here is a young man who can not
make up his mind just what would
be the fair thing to do. He is think
ing way ahead, past the honey
moon.
Dear Miss Lee: What are We young
people who have desires for homes and
wives to do, when We can not see our
way clear as far as the money PROPOSE
ton goes?
We have the same need for marriage,
the same desire for wife and home that
our parents have. but we can not afford
to, with the present conflict between sal
aries and expenses.
Would it be right for a boy like myself.
VINO has nothing but my love for my
girl, steady job. poorly enough paid,
ana a sincere ambition to get ahead, to
ask that girl to marry me? To share
the hazards of a marriage with insecure
financial backing? To go from a COM
Portable home into small apartment
such as I would have to offer?
Eager to Marry
I want to get married. I am in love
and have found the girl in all the world
who I want to be my wife. She loves
me, too, and I believe she wants to marry
me. But how long could our love stand
up under the strain of stretching the
pay envelope to meet our everyday ex-
penses, not counting the extra expenses
that come up?
make more now than my father did
when he WIS married, but everything
is so changed. Expenses are greater and
demands are equally great. Not that
think my sweetheart would be unreaSon-
able, but the standards of living have
changed so much
What is the right answer to this? ]
would want my children to have a fair
chance in the world, to have the educa-
ton and the advantages that other chill
dren have. would want my wife to have
nice things. too. Is it right for man
to bank on his future in q case like
this, or should he wait until his future
is secure? POOR BOY.
One of the first things we have to
learn in life is that We can not have
everything, that all of life is mat
ter of making a choice.
You and your sweetheart are no
exceptions to the rule. If you would
rather run the risks of losing each
others love. over a period of years,
in which you are going to build up
this fortune, then that is the choice
you should make. If, however, you
rather would marry your girl, and
fight whatever battles you have to-
gether, do that.