The Washington times., 1929-05-18

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Coon school friends will part,
perhaps for . few weeks or
months, possibly forever. New
romance suddenly buds, estab-
lished friendships blossom into
love affairs; for romance is in the
air on the campus Of high school,
colleges, universities-yes, even at
grammar schools and girls select
boarding schools, where 1t is
studied most intently, although
not on the curriculum!
Youth adoreS romance. And
why not? Is not romance "the
unusual, the adventurous, the
mysterious, emotional and beau
tiful," according to the diction-
ary?
mo one knows-no one who Is
not young can possibly know
how hungry l am for romance"
Bob, a high school boy, wrote
me the other day. Then he ex-
planned how in his search for
halls and picked up acquaintances
there.
AS 1 write, a sheaf Of letters
lies on my desk.
docs a girl love at 17?" asks
Val. "Or is it infatuation? The
boy / love comes from a poor
family. He left school last win
ter to earn money and help his
parents. He lives on a shabby
street. I live in a huge house
and come from a select family.
Ny parents say must drop him
forever.
I'VE are Of different religions.
Does than make a great differ
ence? Ny parents are always do
ing things for your own good as
they say! think it's lot of
rot!'
These love problems are vitality
important to Bob, Cherie. Val and
Brown Eyes, far more so than
romance problem of later years.
For on the decisions they make
now depend the prosperity and
success, possibly the health and
happiness, of the years to come.
What is the solution to these
problems Of Cherie, Bob, Brown
Eyes, Val and countless other
young folks?
Will defiance Of convention
help? On the contrary, conven-
tions survive because there is ex.
cellent reason for them. They
represent the experience Of many
generations, which proves that to
act in a certain orderly, self
restrained manner counts for hap"
piness and success and prevents
suffering in the long run.
Bob is not likely/to gain any
thing through the shoddy romance
of picked-up acQuaintances OF
street and dance hall. Wait.
Select fine friendships; earn love
before asking it; make yourself
worthy OF the best. All this re-
quires self-restraint and patience,
but insures against tarnished
standards, crushing disillusion,
bitterness, shattered health.
AS for Val, few years Of de.
ferred marriage will prove to her
satisfaction, also, whether the
poor bow she loves at II will be
the man she loves at 81. She will
then be in q better position to
question her parents Judgment
in the matter. And she will have
her education. If her sweetheart
a. .congenial he will wait for her
and will keep up his own studies
at night, in order not to be out
stripped by her!
Brown Eyes may well interest
herself in new faces-college
friends and classmate pals-since
q friendship that could wane so
quickly in her case was not, for
that very reason, an attachment
on which to lean; u
sound like cold comfort to girls
and boys aglow with the enthu-
siastic ardor Of love. But the
onlv alternative to patience. self
restraint and good sense in love
and marriage plans is to rush in
blindly--a way fools have-and
suffer and fail!
Look ahead. Prepare to attract
interesting, worthwhile affection.
And remember that in gloriously
euccessful marriage and mother.
!. hood q girl finds real self-expres'
sion.
Mussolini wrote the other day:
'~Youth is a divine gift. but its
nrecocity and dissipation of ener-
ries need to be corrected by the
Instructed maturity Of its elders. !"
You are rightly looking for hap
piness and success. If you will
balance your impulsive ardor and
energy with patience and self-re-
straint--the secret of all success
and win consider the advice Of
those who are Older and have your
interest at heart. your schoolday
romance should radiate the sun.
shine of:wholesome happiness now
and throughout all the years to
come!