The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-06-27
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BY MARTHA LEE.


hurt him"-if that were so, why not
tell him?
There are some people who natur-
ally are born buffers, others try to
bluff just once in blue moon. and
every solitary time they get checked
up on and found out.
That is why no one but a natural
born buffer should try to bluff.
Now, I don't mean that bluffing
is hereditarv: that a person who
bluffs easily with seeming facility
was born a buffer because his father
bluffed his mother after they were
married.
No, my dear, blufing is just born
and bred in us. taking the phase lit
orally or fguratively.
Sorry She Bluffed" writes me in
hopes of an answer to her puzzle.
In Trouble Over Bluff
You see, Sorry" you have not
stopped at bluffing, you have car
ried the game little too far. Here's
her plaintive, humble letter.
Why, she is willing to do anything
to keep her sweetheart'S love, but
now she is living in mental terror
for fear he will find out that she is
no wealthy woman;
Ny dear Martha Lee:
am in jam. 1 have been going
with a young bachelor in this city for
several years. He is wealthy and he
thinks I am woman of means. I've
| bluffed, bluffed and blufed. At first
it was harmless, for I never thought ]
would care for him, and gradually I knew
that I cared. Now know that he is
dead set on marrying only a woman OF
! financial means. 1t isn't that he's a
fortune hunter. but that he merely be-
lieves that love can be found in persons
of his own financial strata. I am the
fortune hunter. Though I'd marry him
if he were a grocery clerk. If I tell him
of my deceit, I'll lose him-and where to
go from here is beyond my poor brain.
SORRY SHE BLUFFED.
My dear, you certainly must have
exercised tact and influence over
this man if he is as wealthy as you
believe.
You must be pretty good actress
if you have kept him for several
years all the while he is thinking
| you too. are q woman of means.
Are you sure that perhaps. he too
hasn't bluffed you little; he being
afraid that you we're more comfort
ably rich than he and fearing that
he might not be able to provide you
with the luxuries you have been used
to, and doubling whether he could
persuade you to marry him if you
thought he we're not man OF
means? Has this ever occurred to
you?
Try Telling the Facts
It's either to tell him the facts
and hope that his love for you will
overlook this deceiving fault, or else
keep on padding your life with "hos-
pital fibs," as I used to call untruths
when was q child.
Your life will be miserable if you
keep on pretending. It's fun to mag
inc and build castles in the air il
we know when to stop construction
You are shielding this man to me
now, when you write: 1T isn't true
that he is a fortune hunter, but
that he merely believes that love
can be found in persons of his Owl
financial strata"
True, a well-to-do woman who
marries a $25-a-Week man vii
struggle along if she loves him anC
will acclimate herself to hel
finances and environment, but I've
never heard of a man fairly we'll tc
do marrying a woman that isn't
so well to do and not being able tc
love her because she can't write
personal checks and he can.
No, my dear, you man must be
an awfully vain man. Why, depict
him being downright mercenary.
You are the one to, live with him
TO love him, to care for him for bet
ter or for worse.
But if you feel that you love thi;
man, that you would lay down youl
life for him, if you pass every test
mentally that you think is a re-
quisite of lasting love for your mate
then, you go to your darling, ano
don't tell all.
I don't believe that is necessary
Beat the "Fib" Game
If you start to tell him and hi
whispers that he doesn't care wha
? you've told him, he'll always love
you, for heavens sake, don't pursue
!, the subject.
Let it go to the bottom of the
pink sea with your other worrie!
and grievances.
But heed this bit of advice II
your married life. Don't even bluff
about the $50 dress and tell him that
you bought it on sale for $3.50, OF
that you bought three dozen oranges
because they were cheaper today
because, inevitably, you will bt
crossed up.
And there is nothing in this worlc
that men and women, too, loatht
and deSpise as they do liar.
If you feel, my dear, that you car
marry him with a clean conscience
after you have deceived him. anc
that you will not live in menta
agony for fear he'll find you out
don't mention the subject to him.
I think though that you should a
least attempt to tell him a bit o.
your bluflngs.
But use your own Judgment afteI