The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-01
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Modernism
BY MARTHA LEE

We of the present generation are
constantly pointing with pride to
the fact that we no longer are
bound with such foolish things as
sentiment and idealism and all those
other sticky things that were part
of the hustle and mutton sleeves
days.
Don't be silly. We have no more
put those characteristics away in
mothballS than we have the char
acteristics of breathing and eating.
Bustles have been known to come
back, in one form or another. And
sentimentalizing and idealizing are
the same. Maybe the idea doesn't
extend to the point of keeping sam
Piles of each dress, with note such
as my first ball gown or Il wore
this when 1 became engaged"
Maybe we no longer have flowers
pressed between the leaves of books.
1aybe men no longer get up to give
eeir seats to women on crowded
eet cars. But that doesn't mean
thing. Those things are pretty
CRITICAL after all. The real ideal
the real SentimentaliSm is still
re. Every man, or nearly every
n, still idealizeS his mother as the
ist ,wonderful woman in the
I'D. And that is idealizing, be-
cause every mother cannot be the
most wonderful woman in the world,
unless each home is world within
itself.
The fact remains that no r ctter
how hard-boiled we get, no matter
how hardened to sentiment and
idealism we think we are, it's all
''hooey." Under the skin we still
have a keen desire to have those
things we love most so nearly per-
feet that we can fool ourselves into
thinking they are.
All of which accounts Cor the I'M
happiness, the keen disappointment,
the disillusionmsnt of finding out
that the object of the hearts desire
is after all just human being
with the same frsilties, the same
weaknesses as everybody else. If we
really want to be honest and sincere
we would begin by admitting that
very obvious truth. That we are
pretty much prone to the same
weaknesses.
Dear Miss Lee-T have been madly in
love with a really beautiful girl for the
past year. We became engaged about six
months ago, although 1 have known her
and gone with her about two years alto
gether. She is the sort of person that
everyone likes. She is sincere and out
spoken almost TO the point of being rude
Ever since 1 have known was in love
with her I have strived about twice as
hard to get ahead so we could be mar
RED reasonably sure of having the things
Ne want and need.
She seemed willing to wait that we
might have something of a bank account
Then all Of q sudden one night she told
me that she wanted to break our en-
gsgement. I was completely stunned, be-
cause there had been no indication in
her actions toward me that she had
changed. When asked her about it. she
said she had met man while she was in
the east visiting relatives this summer
that had paid marked attention to her,
and had asked her to marry him. She
bad. Of course been pretty well fioored by
the proposal. as she knew he was aware
OF the engagement between us. He told
her not to answer but to think it over
he IS charming and very wealthy. And
she had thought It over, and 1t was the
gate for little Danny. / still love her
and I don't even blame her from
woman's viewpoint. I suppose it is a
womants duty to herself to prots- her
self with as many Of the woriu's goods
as possible. but can you explain to me
the mental quirks Of the feminine mind
that consider that fair? DANNY.
I think you were idealizing bit,
Danny, with that idealisnl that
makes mans vanity simply bloom.
Here you have a girl. She was 60
ing to be your wife. You naturally
looked upon her as the most won
derful girl in the world. not be-
cause YOU had had the good sense
to pick her. but becarse she had
had the good sense to let you
choose her. In other words, when
man is looking for the solution
to any problem he can always find
it IN his own vanity. because it is
usually there where the fundamen-
II reason Tor the difficulty lies
girl may have been beautiful.
he was not all these other
YOU have attributed to her.
eally cold and calculating
nary and selfish to the
Just resolve that wom-
ne combination of cir
ave become that way,
part, because of the
standard of values.
poverty are moth
One must have
pie floors and cars
aes. # love comes
d it doesn't. what's
say the women.