The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-05-28
Rash Plunge
SCaused by
Loneliness
BY MARTHA LEE

The woman who has let youth
slip by, too busy making career for
herself, but more often than not
just too busy ekeing out an exis-
tence for herself and those Deepen
dent upon her suddenly, finds her
self with loneliness for a companion.
All her friends have married and
have homes and children. They
have little or no time to devote T.
helping her pass the hours between
working and bedtime. Her "depen-
dents if they have been younger
brothers and sisters, have grown up
and have the thousand interests and
eXcitements of youth.
Her parents, if they have been
the reason she had no time for ro-
nance, are gone probably. And
there is, high and dry, with no one
to care much, one way or the other.
May Take Rash Step.
And that is a very dangerous
sign. It is a sign that, in despera-
ton, she is apt to do something
rashly that she otherwise never
would think of doing. For instance,
marry the wrong man. The letter
I am going to print today is from
a woman who did just that very
thing.
Dear Miss Gee-1 am one Of those
women r-ho let youth slip by me without
doing much about it. When I was quite
young I was left an orphan. with q
Younger sister and brother to care for,
and of course l buried myself so deeply
in the business of making living that 7
had no time for romance.
Between the work of earning living
for the three of US, and seeing that they
we're properly washed. clothed. darned,
and fed, didn't have much time to be
star gazing. But I wish I had taken
time out long enough to look into the
future.
Of course tbs youngsters grew up and
became interested in other things. Their
evenings we're spent away from home,
and consequently away from me. IN the
meantime had grown considerably older
All my old friends we're married and had
their interests that we're SO similar to
mine and yet so different, because they
were caring for their own children, with
the help and love Of a husband.
Married Wrong Man.
In the meantime, I got on very well
in the business world. But suddenly I
awoke to the realization one day that
life was passing me by in a bigger hurry
than I had thought. All 7 could see
we're those bleak, lonely years stretching
ahead of me.
And 50. when escape from that, in the
form OF q man, came along, I got mar
ried without thinking Of all the things
always had wanted in 2 husband.
NV husband is good and kind and con-
siderate But we are hopelessly mis-
mated intellectually. We have scarcely
taste in common And I find that there
are things much worse than loneliness.
OF course I will stick it out. But it is
horrible finally to have someone to talk
to and then discover he does not speak
YOUR language. let alone understand it.
UNHAPPY.
One can we'll imagine this is the
warning Of one woman to another
to spare herself the misery Of max
ing a mistake such as this woman
has made. When people are young
they can overlook many things, in
Guiding mental and social discrep-
encies.
But just get a set of fixed ideas
in your head, decide definitely how
things should be done and said, and
middle aged love does not overlook.
A woman who is planning on mar
rage. after that mental fexibility
that is part of youth, is gone, neces-
sarily must seek her martial happi-
ness in congeniality of tastes and
opinions.