The Washington times., 1929-01-12
Famous Author
Gives Advice
to Lovers
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems of Love
and Marriage

An authority on FFOUlehAS VI OONO
and Marriage
CHARTERED dreams of love!
~ What worlds of misery those
four short words suggest-misery
familiar to most of us! For VINO
has not been unhappily IN love at
some time?.
For many youths, life is Just
one unsuccessful love affair after
another! And nearly every girl
goes through the stage of being
SublfTnely but hopelessly in love.
There are those who accept un'
reouited love with rather pleas
antly melancholy.
peggy won't love me, BOD
complained, when springtlme
turned his thoughts to sentiment.
81 can't see, why. with the whole
world in love, Peggy just won't
love me-
Unreauited love was a more
serious matter to the 19-year'old
who eloped with a girl of Is the
other day, and when begsed by
his bride of a day for hun.
bred dollars with which to annul
the marriage, killed himself to
free her. In his case. hopeless
love was an obsessing emotion he
could not or would not fight.
When a young woman finds
herself overwhelmed by extrava'
CANT and intense affection for a
man who obviously does not re-
turn her feeling for him, what
can she do? What is the wise
way out of her unhappiness?
Here's a sentence from Harriet
Beecher Stowe which may throw
light on the subject:
When you get into a tight
place and everything goes against
you, till it seems as though you
couldn't hold on a minute longer
never give up then. for that's just
the place and time the tide II
turn"
Don't give up. That's the i'm
Dortant point to remember! Don't
let any experience in life master
YOU. BE the captain of your
soul. Even though it may seem
that fate is licking you, carry on
We learn more from our failures
than from success. Like a post
age stamp you may become in:
finitely better and more usetul
after you are licked by life.
Nothing else is half so important
Aas to keep going.
Had the young bridegroom VINO
killed himself lived on, who
knows but he might have won
back the lost love. Or if his
broken dream could, be mended,
at least through his suffering he
could have grown spiritually
and mentally, learning sympathy
and understanding. Thus he
might have grown to be a finer,
more useful man, more capable
of attracting love that endures.
because of his unhappy expert
ence.
Saints" writes noted play
wright. "are only sinners who
kept on trying" Is it not also
true that happy, successful wives
and husbands are in many in
stances depressed, discouraged
lovers who kept on trying de-
spite difficulties.
It does happen, however, now
and then, that natures are too
antagonistic to be capable or
mutual love. And infatuation,
from It's very nature, is seldom
mutual.
Anne, let us say, is deeply in
love with Arthur. At least, she
mistakes for love her longing to
make him share all her own ex-
travagant, romantic feelings.
Ordinarily, Anne is an agreeable
interesting companion. But her
imagination has enveloped Ar
thur in such a glamour that his
very faults seem charming to her,
while the mention of his name
makes her heart beat faster. She
thinks about him continually.
As a result. she has lost her
mental sense of perspective as
we'll as her sence of humor.
When she is with Arthur she is
in such an obviously sentimental
mood that he feels both amused
and embarrassed over his easy
conquest. Anne adoring dumb
expression would initself betray
her secret to him.