The Indianapolis times., 1929-04-25
Hubby
Rest From
the GuSh
BY MARTHA LEE

When women marry, ana dllOW
love, or the outward expressions Of
love, to be their entire life, they are
due for a big disappointment. Kisses
and hugs and such are merely the
icing on the cake of matrimony,
and a marriage made up Of all icing
and no cake would be not only sick
ening, but mighty unsubstantial.
So many letters come to my Of
flee from wives complaining that
their husbands no longer love them;
that they no longer spend hours
whispering sweet nothings in their
ears; that they have outgroWn the
habit of kissing them with machine
like regularity every morning and
night. Hooey, say I. That is no
sign they do not love them.
AS long as man comes home
every Saturday night and splits his
pay envelope with his wife, as long
as he sees that she is fed and
clothed and protected, as long as
he cares for her when she is i'll,
he loves her all right, all right even
if ne does not spend any time tell
iny her about it.
He Probably Loves You
The whole thing amounts to this:
Some people are very attectlonate,
have natures that effervesce with
expressions of love and devotion,
who feel an urgent need to tell the
object of their affections all about it.
And others just do things and
expect to be understood, Now If
YOU are one of those lucky women
whose husbands are silent, faith
full lovers, don't be sobbing around
that your husband does not love
you.
He probably loves you like who
tied the pup if he spends his eve
nings at home reading the paper or
playing the radio, or working late
at the Office so you can have the
things he always has wanted to
give you.
1 have a letter from a woman
whose husband is not demonStratiye
enough to suit her and she must
Just about drive him coo-coo talk
ing about it, from the sound OF her
letter.
Dear Martha Lee: Please give me some
advice. as I need it badly. 1 can not
tell my trouble to just any one, and
know that you can help me. Ny husband
and l have been having trouble lately We
have been married fifteen years and in
the last few months he has acted coldly
toward me.
If he kisses me at sIl, It is entirely
without warmth or feeling. I resent this
terribly and nave told him so. 1 finally
asked him what the trouble was and he
answered that women we're the least of
his thoughts, including me.
Worries Him 10 Death
love my husband and want to be
with him. We have a lovely home and
it is almost paid for. I beg him to try
to be happy before it becomes necessary
to break up our home I know I never
can be satisfied without him. I just worry
until I don't know what to do. Please
give me some advice.
I have heard that there is a dangerous
age for men He is about 10. Is that
what the trouble is. or is ne just tired
ANXIOUS.
You certainly do need advice. You
probably poster him to death asking
what is the trouble" and don't
YOU love me anymore" and ali that
sort of thing. AS long as he con-
tinues to pay on your home and
keep the cupboards filled, you may
->oc+ he InNPS Won
But if he isn't tired of you yet,
ne soon will be. That form of nag
ging is perfectly deadly to love. If
you really want to keep his love and
affection. if you want your home
to stand established, be sweet and
kind to him, but stop asking him
about it all the time. He'll come
around all right, without all that
oss-QueStioning.
All Ages Dangerous
AS for being at the dangerous
age. ask any mother with a son
what the dangerous age is, and she
will tell you from s to 80. Forty
isn't any worse than any other time.
Get it out of your head that just
because your husband doesn't sit
up all night telling you what a swell
wife you are and how much he
loves you. that he is tired of mar
riage and you. When he starts
that, maybe you can begin to worry.
And another thing! If women
are the least of his worries Gnclud-