The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1929-03-16
Famous Author
On Problems
Of Love
BY Beatrice Fairfax

by BeaLflce rdIIaX
ctHoULD q woman permit . man
J ~ to make broad remarks to herr
This is In substance the question
asked by N. J.
Dear Miss Fairfax" the letter
runs.
"I have known q fellow for at
least q year and In the last few
months have gone out with him
several times.
There are times when he makes
rather broad statements, and on
each occasion ] have tried to act
innocent or change the subject. OF
course, he may or may not mean
anything by these remarks, and /
wonder just what occasions his lit
tie slips OF the tongue, IL slips they
are. 1t is either thar his opinion
of me is all wrong. or he is not the
gentleman / think and hope him,
to be.
''If this is the case, cannot un-
derstand it, because as long as
have known him he has not tried
to get familiar, nor has he acted
like most fellows that would not
call 1t an evening well spent il
they did not have a goodnight kiss
or do a little necking. ] would en-
joy reading and getting the opin-
ions of different fellows on the sub
ject and / will appreciate anything
you may suggest"
There is not room for discus
sion in regard to the point you
bring UP in your letter. Vulgar
language and indelicate conversa-
ton do not indicate that a per-
son is modern and sophisticated,
but merely that he is second-rate.
To listen to and tolerate vl.lar
jokes or broad remarks is to en-.
courage and endorse them.
Delicacy of mind is a trait a
man wishes to find in woman.
Only very depraved masculine
taste enjoys vulgarity or coarse.
ness in a woman.
So you did the right thing, my
dear, in rebuking the slip made
by your friend by changing the
subject. Should he persist III
making slips Of that sort, tell him
quite decidedly and firmly that
you do NOT tolerate those sort
of remarks. He will not he
likely to repeat his mistake ana
will think more of you because
b you have standards.
Respect Marriage Vows
There are so many young mar
ried women at this moment won
@1vN no ~
real harm in encouraging the de-
votion and attentions of other
men that it may be well to print
the following letter from Edna,
which furnishes food for thought:
Dear Miss Fairfax: 1t is an
old saying but q true one that
we reap what we sow.
Nine years ago was the
happiest young married woman
in the world. ! loved my hus-
band and my home and he loved
me. Today / would gladly well
come death. Who is. to blame?
1 None but myself and bad COM
pany.
Il thought I could keep my
and yet be happy. I was intro
y
He fell desperately in love with
me. I encouraged him and he
got so that he refused to re-
spect my husband and when /
tried to turn him down would
not stand for It, but went to my
husband and told him every
thing.
Nov my husband has divorced
sal to-
This man wants me and saws he
still loves me, but hate him and
am left alone. hope some
married woman who is tempted as
/ was will see this letter in your
column and hope your advice
will do her good"
It Is a trait of human nature
that what we have not seems
more desirable than what we have.
A woman in a discontinued mood
imagines that devotion of the man
not her own would be more de-
sirable, more thrilling than the
i love Of which she is sure. SO she
may decide to gamble with her
happiness. Inevitably she is a
loser. Because the moment she
has lost her husband through her
folly, he in turn becomes the
other man, the altogether desir-
able lost happiness.
How wonderful II We could APP
preciate and treasure and enjoy
from day to day, minute to min.
ute, happiness while it is ours:
Let your head, heart and con-
science cooperate in making a
low ~of the responsibility you un-
j dertake, the love to which you
pledge yourself at marriage.
1 am sorry you have had this
misfortune, my dear, but 1t has
brought you one rich gift.