The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-12-19
Men! Don
Let Women
Abuse You
BY MARTHA LEE

Oh MAN IN
One of the fatal mistakes any
young man makes in wooing any
girl Is TO treat her as he has heard
other chaps treat their girls. Every
girl Is an individual character, who
is won by attention, especially
suited TO her type. For instance:
Many man has aroused the in
terest Of an Indifferent woman by
paying her ardent court, by camp
: ing on her doorstep, so that every
time she turns around he is at her
heels. She finally surrenders, per-
haps because she becomes so &C
customed to his devotion she can
not do without 1t. More likely be-
cause she has given up hope of
ever shaking him any other way.
On the other hand, many man,
who stands a fair chance of win
ming the hand of the girl he loves,
drives her completely away from
the altar by pursuing her too close
~. Just as there are men who like
girls who are aggressive along the
path of love (Which Is rare eXcep-
tom so are there girls who like the
chase well enough to want to do a
little Of it themselves.
Like Indifferent Men
They like indifferent men. Men
who, when they are treated shah
billy, will assume a stand of indie
pendence and maintain it. Men
who. when they feel they have been
wronged. will close the door and
never open it again, until the girl
has repented properly.
And here is an iron clad rule. No
girl can love any man who does
not love his sense of pride and self
respect. No girl can love any man
she can make a sap of.
Dear Miss Lee-For several weeks. my
young lady friend and I have been argu-
ing. First her indifference for two weeks
had made me teel was not wanted. Then
one night she made remarks which hurt
= my feelings. so left abruptly.
The following Wednesday night, our reg
sIyar date night. she was not at home.
I'VE previously had arranged that should
Aee her on Thursday. That morning. she
SCALED to say that she had a cold and
you'd prefer TO postpone the engagement
The next Wednesday she made another ex-
cuse. was to see her the following Sun
cay which I did. The next Wednesday l
vas supposed to have a date with her
She sent word that she had to work and
that should come Sunday. However I
vent over Thursday night. She treated me
rudcly.
She is % and I am "a. have loved her
dearly for six months. although 1 have
aown her longer than that. The girl
Knows love her. but has said she docs
rot know her own mind. I am to blame
Nbr part of this. because have not been
"a cry well. and perhaps not as entertain
ng as might be.
Nv surmise is that there is a new face
On the horizon and that her anger Is due
to the fact that other plans were thwarted
when came over. ! realize that mistrust
is the cause Of much trouble.
A little sign, g little encouragement
from this girl would make me love her
even more / am not jealous now and
do not seem to care what happens. That
night she stood me up" seems TO have
killed all my faith in her womanhood. j
am wondering whether 1t is worth while.
Am I being used for fool, or does she
think because OF my love. she can treat
me like a child? JAMES.
Dear, dear, and so near Christ
mas too. Well. James, your mistake
was made when you took more than
one of those stand-ups from her,
call them what you may. No boy
with anv backbone would have.
Likes En- Strong Minded
If you were my boy friend, I
would have no respect for you If
I could pull the wool over your eyes.
But If / pulled the wool over your
eyes. and 1 knew you knew what /
was doing and still took 1t, 1 most
certainly would give you the run
around.
A girl wants fellow who will
stand on his own two feet and take
his part. She wants. a sweetheart
who will not be run over and hurt
land fooled without fighting back.
You have one chance of redeeming
yourself. Do not go to see her, ever
again. until she invites you herself.
Let her long for sight of you, for
your kindness and thoughtfulneSs.
If you do this, you really will have
made some Roadway.