The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-05-01
This Wife
SOLUed Her
O7U11 Puzzle
BY MARTHA LEE

Once in a while I get letter from
some man or woman who has writ
ten me after the advice has been
handed out. Sometimes it is to
thank me for helping out so much,
and then life really is worth llv-
ing. That's my happiness, helping
other people to the best Of my
ability.
And then, every once in while,
7 get 2 letter telling me how aW-
fully wrong 7 am, that the sugges~
tions I offered we're all wet that
they feel it is not such hot advice
and l hear about that, too Some
times it is not from the party OF
the first part, j. e.. the writer OF
the letter. Sometimes it is a rank
outsider who looks in from the out
side. And I am awfully grateful
for those letters, too. because, after
all when one Wrestles with the
problems of the world, day after
day. one does become rather stale,
I suppose.
Nip on Ear Helps
I have been accused in these let
tiers Of assuming an unfair attitude
toward women in some cases. l do
not mean to do that. AS a matter
of fact, I champion women at every
opportunity.
But there are times when a little
nip on the ear does so much better
than a lot of synlpat1. Women
are funny. If you arouse heir Wom-
anly instincts, their sense Of sports
manship, they handle things just
about twice as we'll as they other
wise would. And my main object
in life is to help them.
I have letter from a woman
today who decries my column and
all such. on the grounds that no
one can help some one else solve his
COR herr problems.
Dear Martha Lee: I don't suppose you
never have gotten a letter like the one
YOU are going to read now. 1 suppose you
usually get these dear Martha Lee, what
shall I do. letters. but this is going to
be a dear Martha Lee, think YOU should
do. I think your column is the bunk.
No fooling.'
This is my point. No one can help
someone else solve his problems. Every
man is his own savior quoting you, SO
how do YOU get this stuff Of telling people
what they should do about things?
Takes Right Course
I'm Just going to give you little life
story to prove my point. [ was having
some trouble with my husband. I went
home, as most young wives do when they
have their first difficulties. The trouble
was not Just quarrel It was the usual
infdelity Of course I got the advice
never to go back to him My parents,
all my friends. everyone said that should
not Not only that, but tina I never
should see him again.
had a little girl, and although I was
lust about crushed about it all, I de-
cided. for her sake, to see him and at
least give him chance to explain He
did. I went back to him, and We have
been supremely happy ever since. I
never have had cause to doubt him since,
and everything has been lust fine.
Now nv point is this: If 7 had listened
to everyone. instead of following the die
tstes of my own heart, where would I
be- That is why I say this advice stuff
is all the bunk. ,ppz, ,,,7rr
MY dear, if all people were as SEN
sible there would be no cause for
the column. Of course. should not
say sensible. either, because some
times trouble simply enfoldS us like
a huge cloud, until we can not see
our way out.
Won't Solve All Riddles
And that is not so much a lack
of sensibility as it is combination
of circumstances
I do not give my advice with the
idea of swearing it will prove the
open sesame to all trouble. I give
it to help those who need help, to
advise those who can not see their
way, how to find at least ray of
hope and light through all the
lJlaCkneSS,
I never say This is the infallible
way" merely offer it as a Sugges-
ton as to what might help matters
along. I had hoped that might be
understood. After all, 7 am not a
Solomon.