The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-07-30
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Because Man
Is WeaRHng
BY MARTHA LEE

Il Is such a shame, when parents
are the dearest and most interested
friends that young men and women
have. that they should be so many
times the source Of stirring up strife
in their children's married life.
PsychologicalIy. I suppose, it is be-
cause mothers and fathers never
want to see their children grow
old enough TO have homes and
wives or husbands. and families. AS
I have said so many times.
mothers grown son still is her little
boy in knee pants and Lord Faun-
tlerOy collars.
And her daughter is still a little
girl. who must be told just what
to 90 and how TO act. Another fac
tor is the Jealous love Of a mother
and father more often a mother
for her children. No girl is good
enough for her boy and no man Is
strong and brave and prosperous
enough to be her daughters nus
band.
Three Roads to Trouble.
And when the sons and daughters
do break the shackles and marry
it usually means. if the mother IS
very wise. a sitting OF these feel
ings until she has learned sincerely
to love her son OF daughter-ln-laW.
II she is not wise, the result may
be one of three things. She es-
FRANCES her own son or daughter
from her; she causes trouble and
dlssension in her child's home by
making that child dissatisfied; or
she indirectly breaks up that home
completely.
If mothers and fathers only could
learn to accept the marriage OF
their children as a permanent thing,
something that they should do
everything in the world to help
make successful things would be
so much smoother.
The mothers and fathers do not
intend to cause trouble for their
own children. They do it without
aforethought most Of the time. But
that does not make it less deadly.
Girl Tells of Grief.
A girl whose mother-in-laW never
learned to accept her has written
me about her troubles.
Dear Martha Lee: I don't know how you
can help me but perhaps one little word
If it happens TO be the right word, might
give me courage to carry on.
Three years ago I married the man I
loved and still love At first my parents !
SIS well as his objected. but after a talk
my parents gave in and took my husband
to their hearts ike an own son.
Not so with my husbands people All !
my efforts to gain their friendship failed. |
They insulted me and ordered me out Of /
their home. I gave it ND and never went |
hack after that. For two years I was |
heppy. despite their attitude, for I had |
my husband and he stood me. But gradu- |
ally he changed and I could see that he
vss drifting away.
7 did everything I could to hold him,
with no success He left me alone nights
ind would get very angry when 7 asked
HIM where he had been. I tried being
unconcerned and he stayed out later and
went out oftener. one night I asked him |
to stay home with ne ana he quarreled /
with me and left He wasn't gone long !
before I was notified he had sued for /.
divorce.
The Last straw.
The last blow came when 7 found he /
vas going with a girl he had met through /
his folks. She works at the same place /
I did before 7 was married and I have !
the pleasure of hearing how she tells |
others about her nice boy friend, whom /
she is so sorry for because he has had so /
many troubles. among them an ogre for /
a wife. I an heart-broken. Miss Lee. It /
is horrible to stand by and see everything |
I held sacred trampled on, and be unable |
to prevent IL.
Forget the husband. Dolores. He |
was an awful dim bulb. You should |
be thanking your stars you got rid /
Of him so painlessly A man who |
will be influenced against his own
wife by his parents is a poor excuse |
of a husband. and any girl would /
be better of with none than one
of his kind.
Get yourself a Job and start all !
over again. The pleasure you will |
get from having something to DO |
eight. hours a day, something to |
take your mind of your own trou- !
bles, will be blessing. If anyone |
comes begging it should be him. |
But never, never you