The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-10-22
Parent Can
Stunt Child
With Hatred
BY MARTHA LEE

one of the ineXplalnable mysteries
of human nature is how parents can
hate their own children. And yet,
il has been known to exist. great
many times for no apparent reason.
It is as though that child grated
on nerves of her mother or father
until the parent can not control
desire to harasS. embarraSs or
malign the offspring. Naturally,
such an attitude is detrimental to
happiness of any kind in the home.
Setting aside the fact that par
ent possibly can hate his own flesh
and blood. consider it from a psych-
illogical angle. Boys and girls, until
they have reached the age Of Is, are
highly nervous and sensitive. Their
minds and bodies are in the process
of formation. The slightest con-
tinued mental or spiritual wrangling
leaves an indeIlible imprint upon
that child's mind and body. 1t is
responsible for nervous disorders in
later lie. Inconsistencies an in
feriority complex, and warped at
titude.
Need Care, Sympathy
Children are like any other grow
ing thing. They need care, atten-
ton. sympathy, and understanding.
They, naturally. feel most keenly the
attitude of their parents toward
them. 1t is primarily their parents
they desire to please, and, when they
fail to do this. it is an unbearable
disappointment
Their little minds reason thus: IF
I can not please my mother and
father how can 1 ever please any one
on earth?"
Gear Miss Leo have seven childre0.
four urGer school age. / want you to tell
me what YOU think I should Go. My hus-
band is mean to the children. I hove one
girl in particular. whom he picks on
constantly. He knows he can bluff her and
dren viii tell their father the truth as
thav are afraid Of him. He was an only
child. His mother adopted little girl
but he was so mean to her they had to
give her up.
CbiIds Nerves shot
Is there anything a person can do with
better for me to leave him? Which would
ae best. to 20 on the way We are now. or
put the children in an orphans home?
If 7 could ind a nice Christian home for
he girl l could manage the others, but
this chiid's nerves ere shot ana some
thing will have to be done
BROKEN HEARTED MOTHER.
It is very important to know your
husbands financial status before you
take the step of leaving him, with
seven dependent children to support.
If he can afford to maintain a home
for you separately, by all means get
all your children from such an
atmosphere.
1t is bad for all of them to BE-
frightened into lying and sneaking
because they fear their own father.
There are more effective ways Of
lsShing children than beating them
with a razor strop. Those kind of
bruises can heal up and leave small
signs of ever having been. But
mental torture stays with child all
his life in one form or another.
You say your daughter is nerv-
Gus wreck now. Your other chill
dren probably are too young to be
affected by their fathers attitude
toward them. But theytoo in time.
will be affected the same as your
daughter.
He Is Breeding Trouble
If. for some reason. you can not
see your way clear to take them all
away, at least find a sympathetic
and wholesome place for your
daughter. Perhaps the humiliation
of having her taken away from her
own home because of his attitude
toward her will straighten him out
somewhat.
He is breeding trouble and I'M
happiness for himself, even if she IS
the only one he miStreats, because
when the other children are old
enough to understand they are go
ing to hate. him for his attitude to-
ward their sister.
And if you allow their little nerv-
Gus systems to be shattered and
their mental and spiritual growth to
be stunted. through fear of a man
they rightfully should love. you, too,
are going to regret it beyond meas
ure.
He has no right to their love and
companionship until he can treat
them as fellow human beings. even
if he ignores the(fact that they are
his ON1-,, feSb and blood