The Washington times., 1929-05-06

About month ago my parents
told me would have to go around
with fellow they picked out for
me. But the whole thing is this:
The parents of the boy have liked
me very well for a long time and
asked my parents if he could go
around with me.
"The fellow is we'll educated. is
"a and is studying to be profes-
Eor. He is well-mannered and
clean and of good report; that's
why my parents promised he could
go around with me until was at
least 10 years old. am just is.
"At first l refused. But my
parents said they would take me
out of school and partly disown
me. When I said they didn't love
me or they would never make me-
go around with him, they. said it
when / marry / will be happy
Afterward and never be poor.
Now, he may be of good
parents, but he is very homely
and 1 think much too old. He
doesn't like jazz, dancing, theaters,
parties or good times. l am just
the opposite and really dislike him.
] am forced into this and keep
thinking of it all the time, so that
It has even affected my school
work,
II have never before gone out
with fellow and only month
ago my mother was firm in say
ing l couldn't have a fellow un"
til was Is. 1 wish it were
true now.
II am a modern girl. We are
well-to-do, so 1 wouldn't marry
for money. My parents believe
love is not necessarily important
in marriage, and that a good
home and happy future are bet
ter than love with working
man. l place love first of all!
"I myself, think 1 am too
young to have all-of-a-sudden to
think of problem like>this. In
stead of being tied to this one
man dislike. I'd rather have
plenty of good friends and culti-
vate ones I like to go around
with. and also choose the man
want to marry.
What shall I do? He thinks
don't know our parents plans
and I let him think so. Shall I
break it up now? How should
I do it without arousing my par
ents' anger? ! don't think they
would ever force me into marry
ing. If you will help me, l will
certainly appreciate it and owe
my happiness to YOU"
Mary dear, at first thought, your
problem seems pretty serious and
don't wonder it worried you.
But on careful consideration, is it
so awful after all?
You are a minor-so you can
not afford to absolutely defy your
parents authority and wishes.
Besides, know you would not
wish to do that, for you love
them and they love. you.
So let lis consider affectionate
compromise: You explain that
your parents will not force you to
marry against your will. 1 am
sure they would not, for after all
1t is your happiness they are con-
sidering., They merely ask you to
go about with a young man they
approve until you are 10.
The alternative they suggested
to you is not going about with
any young man until you are
18. The friend they have chosen
is fond, of you. Consider him a
friend, even though you may not
be crazy about him. You will in
that way have him for an. escort
on many occasions when other
wise you might have to stay at
home. You will doubtless go to
theaters and parties with him now
and then.
Try to like instead of disliking
him, but tell him frankly you
intend to marry for love later
on, when you are 19 or over.
Many things may happen be-
tween now and the time you are
10. In going about more. you
will meet other young men and