The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-12-05
THE INDIANAPOLIS TIMES
Wife Urged
to Stick to
-Ailing Mate
BY MARTHA LEE.


1t is written that once a woman
has pledged herself to a man before
the altar of God COR a justice of the
peace, she is bound to him for
richer. for poorer, in sickness and
in health. till death do them part.
According to that,-there is no
excuse for a woman ever petition
ing the law to release her from her
pledge. But what Of the man who
perpetually is unfaithful? OF the
man who constantly is cruel? OF
the man who refuses absolutely TO
assume any of the obligations that
matrimony entails?
The problem of marriage is a
serious thing. Since the divorce
laws have become so elastic, the
contract of marriage has been taken
rather lightly by certain group
of people. The problem of separa-
ton and divorce are even more
serious. And yet some husbands and
wives run to a lawyer at the first
sign OF reverse.
Stick Through Suffering
Then there are those who hang
on. stand by their contracts through
unbelievable suffering and mistreat-
ment.
have letter from woman who
has been faithful to her contract,
not only through sorrow and trouble,
but through all sorts Of ignominlouS
treatment. She wants to know
whether she is justified in breaking
that contract now.
Dear Miss Lee: For nine years, have
suffered the discomforts of roomlng
house. because my husband was too selfish
To provide us with a home. He always
said no woman was worth house ana
a lot of furniture OF course, / would
want nice furniture. but not fine. Most
of nv husbands earnings have gone 10
his mother and to pay for cars. He has
had five new cars in nine years we
could almost have paid for a nome
So bod started one in the beginning as
I wanted him to.
He always has cursed me at the sAsHU-
est provocation. Either the nreao Is ou'
too thick or the meat is cooked zoo hI"0ii
or perhaps not enough. I am giving SAas'
these little daily examples JUST 10 0lo"
Won how he always has discreolteo me.
do and say nothing. because
did would be sure to get slap OF d
black eve. He seldom strikes me. nut ne
curses me constantly. The coffee is 700
strong or not strong enough, or perhaps
not hot enough.
Nothing is ever just right. He always
is asking me why I can't cook like MS
mother and sisters.
Cooked Before Marriage
BEFORE nv marriage I worked as cook
for a wealthy family for almost Two
wears Surely would have to know some
thing about cooking to hold a Job that
long.
I saved that money toward what l sup
posed was to be home after we were
married. Three months after our wed
ding we started housekeeping on what
had saved. I couldn't buy everything
we needed. and he would not help any
so I bought what I could
When the baby came. had to mortgage
nv furniture to pay the doctor bill, al
though he was earning $40 week. The
child died when it was months old. The
furniture was gone and I had to borrow
money for our sons burial. Then I had
to 90 back to work and pay the money
back.
Six months ago met a widower. He
had a lovely home and little boy. He
asked me to marry him before he knew
Twas married. When I told him. he
said he still wanted me as his wife, and
if 1 would divorce my husband, he would
marry me- He is so kind and considerate.
My husband makes fun of me because /
have not had much education This other
man never laughs when make mistakes.
He tried to help me to learn.
Pleaded Illness
A week ago, I told my husband I was
going to leave him, that there was no
use going on. He told me I was selfish
if I did. because he has been to the doc
tors and that he had tuberculosis. He
said he needed me now and was sorry he
did not do more for me when he could.
went to the doctor and he said my
husband did have tuberculosis, and that
he told him six months ago not to drink
OF SMOKE. ne has DS6Il uUlllR DUIIl dill
along, and still is My husband does not
know about this other man. He wants me
to go to California with him, work and
support hi mfor year, and he thinks
he will be in good condition again.
told him I would think it over if he would
transfer half of his insurance, which is
made out to his mother. over to me. He
became very angry and called me gold
digger. Miss Lee, what should I do?
want to do what is right. but my life
has been so miserable.
Your husband has been terribly
cruel and unfair. He has shirked
his duty to, you and to his mar
riage contract. He has failed you
utterly. But, do you think that
justi1es you failing him, regardless
of what he has done?
Do you think you could spend q
happy moment knowing that he
was i'll and in need of you? I will
admit as a human being he deserves
no consideration. But he is not just
human being, my dear.
He is your husband. An awfully
poor excuse of one. but when you
married him you vowed to stick
! through any kind of adVerSeS. Stand