The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-06-19
Is No
LONGER
TOLLS Wife
Nv MARTHA LEE.

When woman n1arrleS she an
ticipates a life in which her hus-
band will join her in everything she
does, and expects to do the same
with her husband. The only thing
they shall do separately, according
to her plan, is their work. All their
hours of pastime are to be spent
| together, she thinks.
And when this does not work out,
it is a bitter disappointment to the
girl who has been the constant COM
panior Of her husband while he
was her f1ance.
She has her circle of friends, per-
haps But they have their free
hours occupied with their husbands
or homes or families, if they are
married, and with their own circle
of friends if they are single. All
Of which leaves her pretty much
out in the cold in case friend hus-
band spends his free hours out with
the boys or down at his lodge.
Works Both Ways.
And it is unfair, no matter how
you look at it. A night or two a
week is excusable, but no man would
relish long the idea of his wife
going out to bridge club five or
six times with an evening at a
show with the girls thrown in for
good measure.
He wouldn't fancy seeing his wife
just long enough for her to eat
her dinner and run.
Companionship and true palship
between husband and wife is one
Of the most precious things that
marriage can offer. It should be
cultivated as tenderly as a lovely
plant. have letter from a young
wife who has been soreIy disap-
pointed since her marriage because
her husband has not made a COM
panion Of her.
Dear Miss Lee-What do you think Of a
husband like this? He hardly over takes
me anywhere. Once in a while during
the week we go out, but on Sunday I
always have to stay nome while he goes
out, I don't know where. Before we
we're married. could not move unless he
was by my side Now it's like pulling teeth
to get him to give me an evening week.
Thinks of Leaving.
have a baby boy months old. whom
I love with all my heart. My mother-in-
law. who has been wonderful to me-
takes care of the baby. work. We live
outside of the city limits. Many a night
I stay at home while my husband and his
/
Sometimes I think I cannot stand it.
I have started to leave him several times
but 7 don't because of my mother-in law
1t would break her heart If 7 took the
baby away. and I could net leave with
out him. I have married sister who
will care for my baby and me. She has
two children of her own.
The strange part of it is that my hus-
band says he loves me and that I just
don't understand him, But I can't be-
Heve if he really loves me he would leave
me constantly. the way he does.
LONELY WIFE.
MY dear, I can not see how you
would better conditions by leaving
your husband. OF course it is
thoughtless and unkind of him tC
leave you night after night, but he
must be kind to you in other ways
You have a home for your child
and it would have to be something
much more serious than you have
written that would convince me
you we're justified in depriving your
son of his father. Your sister has
two children of her own to care
for. Your child naturally would
have to be neglected a great deal
more than he is now.
wouldn't Help Matters.
You would not improve your
chances for going out, because if
you lived with your sister she would
expect you to stay home evenings
in return for the care she gives
your child all day.
All the way around, it looks like
a pretty foolish move to me. You
might talk with your husband and
tell him how lonely it is for you
every night, after working all day,
to spend the evenings alone.
Perhaps he will come to an agree
ment with you about how many
nights week you shall be together.
And do not pout and quarrel with
him about it. You will only drive
him farther away.