The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-10-03
MeddHng
NeUer Is
Justified
BY MARTHA LEE

to inform two Of her friends, whom
she is seeing made fools Of by q
boy, wants an answer to that ques-
ton.
A person never is justified in
meddling, under any circumstances.
Meddling absolutely does no good
and almost always is the end of
friendship and the establishment
Of finding that one does not thank
meddler for telling one unpleasant
things, however much one should
know them.
II folks are being made fools Of,
they don't want to be told about it
in so many words. They want to
find It out for themselves, confident
in the knowledge they are the only
ones who know about 1t. The
staunchest friendship hardly can
stand under the weight of such
ignoniny.
Need Not be Offensive
A clever person always can find
a way to show the light to a mis-
guided soul, without being offensive
about it.
The girl who wants advice on
whether she is justified in meddling
has a strong case.
Dear Miss Lee-How far is a person
JUSTIFIED in meddling2
I know a man $50 he terms himself
who IS engaged to two girls. Neither girl
knows Of the others existence. The one.
about 81. has been engaged to him for
several years, and the other is just about
nineteen and has known him only few
months.
He is handsome. talks we'll end has
made the younger girl think he will in
herit a lot Of money. AS a matter of
fact. the older girl has been helping him
pay some debts through 4 period OF un-
employment and IS doing without clothes
and almost the necessities Of life TO do so.
That is how great is her faith in him.
She is frar and Just has recovered from
q long fitness. The shock Of his unfaith-
fitness might start q greater trouble. The
younger girl is cute little fiapper with
lots Of pretty clothes whom he takes out
while the older girl sits home evenings
and makes plans for her future home. hav-
ing too great trust in him to wonder
Why he merely runs over to take walk
with her occasionally and meets her
downtown ct nights after ne sees the
other girl on the car. He gives her Just
enough attention that she is completely
fooled.
In Same Office
worthless cad and I hate to see a young
girl disillusioned. II IS none Of my af-
fair. OF course except that I work In
the same ONCE with the younger girl and
see him meet the older girl ten minutes
after he has taken the former to the car
I know the endless devotion and sacrifice
made by the Older girl and it seems a
crime that he gets by with It.
7 can't conceive OF a younger genera
ton that thinks it's smart to sponge off
some one else and the most despicable
thing OF all Is 10 take money from
woman who loves you so much she de-
prives herself OF things to make the
sacrifice. These love pirates should re-
ceive public humiliation. But who wants
TO step in and tell some woman the man
she loves is = yellow ungrateful pup.
man or woman who tri1es with the
affections Of another deserves all the
punishment that can be melted out to
them. There is enough misery in the
world without deliberately and maliciously
causing unhappiness.
A BYSTANDER
It is breaking to see a girl
wasting herself on a cheat like that,
but you are not the one to tell. The
older girl is not entitled to any
humiliation, if there is to be any.
The younger girl has more resili-
ency.
Should Give Him up
You must plot and scheme until
YOU have the younger girl see the
boy meeting his real fiance some
night. Let her see with her own
eyes, and then let her do the talk
ing, If there is any to be done. If
she has the spirit I think she has.
she will give him up. without any
great harm to her own heart and
feelings.
That is the only way you can do
the situation any good. and then
your glory will have to be obscured.
because any direct methods would
be ineffective and unappreciated.