The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1929-01-15
Life TangIe
of Woman
Thrice Wed
By MARTHA LEE

Life has q way OF becoming SO
involved that a good strong, closely
woven fish net thrown over per-
sen could not possibly be more en-
tangling or confusing. There just
isn't any way out, to all appear
ances. The more you struggle the
more involved things become.
1t all starts so simply. You are
fed and grow and start walking and
talking and tearing holes in your
stockings. You go to bed at 6 and
life is sleeller than an ice
berg. The toughest spots are math-
enatics Gf you are not mathemat-
ically mindeD or Latin if you are
not a linguisD. But it's all SO sim
pie, SO unhampered.
And then all of sudden, before
you can say knife" there is we'll
of circumstances that involve you
no end. When it started you can
not say, How it grew to such ire
mendous proportions, you can not
ever know. All you can know is,
there it is, and what are you going
to do about it?
You struggle around bit, try to
break through, try to untangle it,
and succeed in only becoming more
enmeshed than ever. There it is,
binding your every movement,
shadowing you, embracing you, al
ways with you-the mesh of cir
cumstances that you can not for
the life of you understand.
Here is web to untangle:
Dear Miss Lee--I have problem that is
SO involved can not make it out.
series of events in my life have made an
impossible situation of the whole thing.
But, perhaps, it is all too close to me for
me to get very good perspective of 1t
That is why am writing.
In 1928 married a man I had been go
ing with for quite some time. I was IT,
too young to marry. of course. but who
thinks of those things when one is IT?
Two years later I was granted a divorce
on the grounds of infidelity.
Seven months after received my d.
vorce, I married the second time. Five
days after the ceremony the police ar
rested my second husband on charges of
bigamy. An annulment was the result OF
the second venture. 1 remained single until
1928 when I married again, this time
man 43, an eX-soldier. AS we were liV-
ing on his pension and his health was
very bad, I went to work much against
his wishes. In fact, he told me if did.
should not come back. took him at
his word, and as we lived on an isalnd,
went to nearby town to seek work. be-
came ill, and as he would not take me
back, went to his aunts home in the town
to recover. His cousin, young man "a,
lived at the house where 1 was staying.
After I recovered, my husbands cousin
took me to two dances. My husband was
at both with another girl. He became
very angry and sued his cousin Tor
$40, 900. With few of his friends to swear
to lies. he got 500.
Mother came after me and we returned
home My husbands cousin followed us
here He got work and bought lot and
is building home. When I asked him
why, he said, "As soon as you get your
divorce, 1 want to ask you to marry me"
OF course, I will never go back to my
husband, but my life is SO confused now.
hate to think of involving anyone else
in it. I am working, long hours, toor but
1 do nothing but worry about the whole
mess. feel sorry for my husband. as ne
is not well. 1 have been doing what l
thought was the best thing. but 1t always
turns out TO be wrong. I no longer have
confidence in my own judgment. What
do you think I should do9 JANE
First of all, you should sit down,
right now, and start to unravel this
net of circumstances that has fallen
over you. You can't break through.
Storming around only makes the
net more involved. The only way
to do is untangle the whole thing.
BY all means, don't add any more
to it until you have the past all un-
rayeled.
You say you have always done
what you thought was best. There
must be an immense feeling Of sat-
isfaction in that, even though it did
turn out wrong. But it should have
taught you to be circumspect-to
never, under any pressure of Cir
cumstances, act impulsively.
Put away the idea of marriage
until these other things are all
washed up. It is only fair to the
man who wants you to be his wife.
OF course, it will take tremendous
amount of bravery to jump into the
matrimonial blaze again, after the
way things turned out, but if you
will, I don't see what's to be done
about it. But this time, make things
go. Start out with that idea. -Four
is quite a number of husbands.