The Washington times., 1928-01-14
Only High Courage
And Patience Will
Bring Success
, BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage.

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rs marriage losing its perna'
nent character? Are we ap-
preaching the theory of Bolshevik
Russia, which allows a marriage
60 be contracted for as short a
period as one hour?
These questions are suggested
BY recent statistics on marriage
and divorce. In 1870, for instance,
q divorce was granted one out OF
every 616 married couples IN
America. In 1925, one out OF every
ia couples were divorced. If di-
vorce continues to grow at. this
rate, alarnists argue, what will
happen TO marriage. children and
the hOne2
Various theories have been adj
Vaneed to account for the In
creasirg tendency of modern mar
rage to failure 1t seems there
ara proportionately more divorces
IN cities than among country
dweIlers Hence some authorities
claim that nervous irritabiiity
caused BIZ the rush, noise and jazz
: ~ "
creasingly difficult for couples to
get on with each other harmoni-
Ously This may be true. But is
It not also possible that the very
casual modern mental attitude
toward marriage and divorce is
also responsible?
II don't know whether Jim and
I win hit it off together" hear
Ii young bride-to-be remark over
the tea-table. "But guess we'll
get along for awhile. And we can
always get a divorce. First mar
riages are seldom successful any
way.
So this 1S-year-old fIapper in.
nisted, over the protests of her
parents. on marrying a man
about-toWn" who caught her
fancy.
Last fall she secured her Paris
divorce. But what she had not
feckOned on Ii the embittering.
soaring blight that has furnished
her very soul, as the result of
living even for q short time with
. spoiled, hard roue.
We have made the discovery of
late years that marriage was made
for man. not man for marriage.
And we are trying to make mar
rage in its outward forms 4 little
more flexible. the better to meet
individual needs.
For Instance. a well known
writer and an actress were wed
the other day. They agreed to
maintain seperate homes with no
obligations to each other.
But Is not home together.
with all the good old-fashioned
meaning Of home. with children
growing up by the home fireside.
the very meaning of marriage
Tor the vast majority of us?
Such marriage is not easy.
1t involves self-control. self
sacrifice and heavy responsible
ties, But it satisfies the deepest
lodgings of the human heart COR
companionship and unchanging
success of any important under.
taking. whether it be garden,
job, business partnership
or marriage il you go into it
looking for a soft snap with
ship. as much ease as possible.
Imagine any one trying to be
President of the United States
just a little bit, part OF the time.
In a nice easy way. without both
ering with serious problems. I'm
agine an aviator flying across the
ocean who undertook the adj
venture expecting it to be
s'Velvetv'
You will never realize the real
happiness or success marriage can
mean, il your idea il to be just
little bit conveniently married.
part-tine easy job-and to avoid
responsibilities and work. You will
in that way miss deep peace.
achievement, self-fulillment, grow
ing affection, unselfish joy-the
very heart and soul of marriage!
Some theorists will tell you that
II you marry with an agreement
TO the effect that there shall be
undisputed divorce at any moment
either party desires 1t. this will
Keep you and your mate always
on good behavior. But nothing
can keep human beings always on
good behavior. And lie you have
backbone, and your marriage
means anything to you. why
should you quit the moment
things begin to go wrong? Stick
To your post and hope and work
for better times
The great thing is TO choose
your mate wisely for suitability
as much as love, then. enter on
the beautiful. wonderful, difficult
adventure of marriage with the
resolve continue in unwavering
devotion, for better or worse,
forever;