The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-08-18
Mothers of
the Married
Haze POzOe1'

about mothers-in-law! No wonder
three-fourths of the current jokes
are quips about them. Only it isn't
so comic and it isn't such joking
matter if you have one of those
who are food for the jokesters.
There isn't anything in the world
that can destroy peace and happi-
ness and tranquility of home
quicker and more thoroughly than
a meddling mother-in-law. And the
reason is that in spite Of every
thing, a mother still Yields power
over her own son and daughter, no
matter how married they are.
The love of mother through the
years when she watches over her
child is not supplanted by wife.
It shouldn't be. 1t shouldn't have
to be. AS in everything else, there is
a definite niche for both Of these
loves and one should not in any way
interfere with the other. And when
it does, it's just too bad for the
daughter or son-in-law. For an un-
friendly nother's-in-law wrath
knows no bounds.
When Love Leaves
I would venture there is more
dissatisfaction caused by the other
of either the husband or the wife
interfering with the home ard mar
ried life of her child than from any
other cause. Because she is the
mother of the one or the other, her
opinion is respected and needed,
and once she plants the seeds Of
dissatisfaction, distrust, or any of
the infinite variety of poisonous
weeds that she can grow in the
hearts of the one against the other,
love goes flying out the window.
No matter how much a mother
in-law objects to the way the STU
alton in her son or daughters house
is being handled, she has absolutely
no right to interfere. She has no
more right to voice decision in
that home than she would have
in the home of a stranger. Her
jurisdiction over her child went
into other hands the day that child
chose a life mate. If she has any
duty in the matter at all, it is to
help them towards understanding
and satisfaction.
have a letter today from a poor
woman who has ore Of the female
Shylocks for a mother in-law. Here
is her letter:
Dear Miss Lee-r have had so much I'M
ha her Af tI,av- i,, IN4T,
Ny husband and had thought 9ti' Of going COINS;
away this fall over thousand miles from
place, now that She has f found out it, we s4 are
planning to leave.
cannot have children of my own and
my ambition is to he e home and adopt
The 0n same thing iSTs W hot say so
ago his mother told me that She would
home unless she could Share, It. eD' -.
but no wife could bear that the way
things are. would wash dishes in a
restaurant before I would ever live with
don't believe my husband Will ever
try to provide me with a home until she
over thirty years old and want a home
+ would be willing, to work and help, get
it up with her after him. all the. time.
ana i've Jle resi- OF HE IN hopes IN
a rooming house or divorce him and get
my hor' for myself. l can easily do it,
LOVER OF HOME.
My dear. did you ever think how
empty yourhome would be without
your husband? You have planned
all these things with him, not with
out. They do mean a great deal
But if he is good to you, do not
:. leave him for so trivial a reason.
Can you not talk to him and tell
him how much you want these
things; how much they will mean to
both of you later on? Tell him how
impossible things are with your
mother-in-la in the home. If he
can not see it by hearing about it,
give hef a chance to prove it to him
She will soon enough, and in a con-
vincing way, if you ust give her q
chance. Catch her off her guard
sometimes, in front OF him. Shell
spoil things, without you losing any,
thingby it.