The Washington times., 1928-07-30
Don Give Your
Love Away
CIleaply
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems q
Love and Marriage

Are modern young men spoiled?
Any number Of girls claim that
men are no longer the eager, pro-
tective admirers and sweethearts
they used to be. These girls
claim in letters to this column,
that modern young men are tyral-
nicaI, demand necking from every
girl as their right, break dates,
according to their own sweet Will.
expect to be run after and turn
away from marriage because they
do not wish to be tied down 70
responsibilities.
Needless to say, this criticism
does not hold true oE all modern
men. You know, and ! know. men
who are gentlemen in the best
sense Of the word honorable
sweethearts and friends. depend.
abIs llfe-partners But il men
are spoiled, who spoils them?
AT y risk Of making myself
unpopular. | am going to put the
responsibility straight up to you
girls. Ii Is you who hold ii your
hands. the power and responsible
ity to make men what you win.
Innate In every man Is his
overwhelming desire To please
women and to win the most de-
sfrable Of all women as life
mate.
Other things being equal, the
more desirable and the harder to
win 8 woman is, the greater the
Joy and satisfaction In holding
her love. Because this is true,
girls hold in their hands all the
winning cards IN the game OF
love.
Opposition only fans lovers
aIdor. The best way to help
Cupid Is TO make pursuit and
conquest OF The Girl interesting
but difficult
/ know pretty girl who was
attracted to an interesting young
she could When they first met
80
mas was approaching, 50 she
embroidered most expensive
silk dressing for her I'D
nirer.
This expensive gift. strange to
say. did not kindIe deeper in
terest. So she invited him to
cozy, tempting little dinners
which she prepared herself in
her kitchenette in the apartment
she shared with another girl. He
enjoyed her dinners and cock
tails and in return spent pleas
ant evenings OF petting with her
now and then at her urgent invi-
tation.
But strange to say, when the
path OF love was made so easy
and inviting for him, this young
man lost ali enthusiasm for the
gir4 who was obviously scrazy"
about him. This summer he has
become engaged to girl back
home, whom he has known since
childhood, but who would not
even look at him until he gave up
certain wild ways and proved hin-
self In earnest In his determine
ton to make the best Of himself.
III is very easy indeed for a girl
to be mistakenly kind to a man,
too obliging, too willing to go
more than half way in courtship,
too willing to loan him money,
make him gifts. and after mar
riage to pay her own way.
You doubtless know from ex-4
perience how flat and MniInterest-
ing q game Of tennis becomes liz
IL can be won without effort The
thrill comes from a difficult con.
test calling forth all your skill and
ending finally in victory.
II you make yourself the kind
of a girl a man really wants to
win as his sweetheart. fiancee
and wife. he will make himself
the kind Of a man you demand in
order to win your favor and love.
The girl who gratefully accepts
dates at 10 minutes notice, who
can be picked up by a stranger as
an acquaintance without an intro
duction. who reaches the stage of
courtship after 10 minutes CONVEX
eation, gives her kisses In return
for an ice-cream soda, eagerly
proposes marriage, herself, need
not be surprised If men accept all
she has TO offer placidIy and
laziiy, then forget her and go on
their way.
know intensely miserable
homes where the wife works out.
side the home and pays her own
way. There is no incentive for a
husband in such case to put
forth every effort to make his
marriage a success. Love and
marriage are made so easy by
some modern women that they
are boring.
The best way TO aid Cupid in
his efforts to bring you happy
romance and lastingly-snccessful
marriage Is not to make love
and marriage too easy for a man,
But to set your standard high
and make yourself enchantingly
lovable. charming and good--the
kind Of girl who is hard to win
and easy to love.