The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-07-16

/ do not say that times do not
change, that the fact that cur
granmother wore trailing
skirts and wasp waists is any
reason why we should go and do
likewise. But such, things are super
ficial.
They are extrinsic. They are ma
terial changes that are brought
about for one reason or another.
We do not wear wasp waists because,
we have learned that wasp waists
are dangerous to health. We do not
wear trailing skirts, because we have
found that skirts, dragging over the
streets, are germ collectors and that
germs are dangerous to health.
Soul Is Involved
But marriage. That is something
else again. 1t is instrinsic. 1t is a
matter of the SOUL Marriage has
been an institution for hundreds of
years. 1t has its bad features, of
course. Any human institution has.
But remedies for it have been tried
and tested and thought out since
time began. Thousands upon thou
sands of them have been eX-
perimented with. But none have
been accepted.
And none of them will be accept
ed until the remedy is better than
the disease. And none has been
found.
It is difficult enough to hold
man through marriage, but without
marriage it would be an utter I'M
possibility. In men and women both
there is a desire for variety. With
out the bond of matrimony the re-
straint of responsibility is lacking.
1t makes the temptation even more
hazardous than it would be under
the ordinary rules of monagamy.
All of the laws concerning mar
riage have been made to protect
women. Why a woman should want
to be unconventional q use the
word in lieu of better and more
comprehensive tern) cannot see.
She gains absolutely nothing. 1t
has been proved time and again
is being further proved every day.
Selft- Protection First
Read any metropolitan paper if
you wish to be convinced. 1t is one
of the first laws of human beings
to protect themselves. Defying con-
ventions and time honored customs
that were made only to protect them
is surely going against human ma
ture tremendously.
I have letter from a girl, who
ignored convention. She has
travelled reckless and hazardous
path. Now, for the first time in her
life, she is in love. The man she
loves has been the only person who
has helped her in any way to realize
the mistakes of her past life.
Like any other girl, when she
meets the one person, she would
like to be married. But the mans
object in being kind to her was a
friendly one. He wanted to help
her, because he liked her. And he
is going to marry some one else.
So you see, if attempts at being
unconventional are made and they
turn out to be temporary, the out
come is tragic.
Keep to the Middle of The road,
not extreme right or left That is
the safe path-the middle of the
road. If you must be individual, if
you must be different, express that
individuality in something that will
not shadow the rest of your life.
Buddy-If the girl calls you fire.
quently and talks with you, she
must be interested in you. Perhaps
she is afraid that you are asking
her for dates because you feel that
you must. If she wishes to recipro-
cate your gift, I see no reason why
you should take the attitude that
you do From your letter, haven't
the slightest inkling why she should
not trust you. Write me more
about it.