The Washington times., 1928-07-28
No Happiness In
Heaven Made
Marriages
By Beatrice Fairfax

lnade in heaven" asks a CORE,
apondent. Then she proceeds 70
answer her own question by add.
ing: /" do rot see how they can
Be made in heaven. For NIL things
that are made in heaven are per-
feel. If all marriages were made
IN heaven there would be nc d.
N0rces.
There used To be theory that
all marriages were heavsn-made.
Some couples still act on that
theory They rush headlong into
flaRtrimony, following the lure of
attraction, without stopping to
reason and wait for joy and bliss.
which they feel sure will descend
on them from the sky, as i were.
But as rule under these cir
cuTnstanres, joy and bliss are con
spicn0lls by their absence from
the union after the first three
weeks. or even days. Of the honey
moon
There Is another and purslv ma
ferfal view Of matrimony. Sheri-
dan satirfcally expresses his view
when he says: It's hest that mar
riage should begin with a little
antipathy. =
Marriages with love left out are
quite the rule in most countries
OF the world. Unions are arranged
by the parents and young folks
become engaged to each other be-
fore they meet. All worldly CON
alterations OF social standing and
finance are carefully arranged for
but sentiment is entirely left out
Of the question. The theory is
that when healthy, well-bal-
anced young man and young
woman who Is equally healthy. well
balanced and likahle, marry each
other. and the marriage is suit
able and well planned, love is sure
10 follow. provided both live up
to the obligations OF the contract.
As matter of fact. love very
often does follow in the case of
these marriages of convenience
and suitability. not because mar
riages are made in heaven. but
because the marriage in question
proves one of sound common
sense and works out pleasantly.
Neither partner expects too much.
Both expect to do their part.
JUST between these two ex-
fremes-tlle marriage OF conven-
fence and the marriage Of infatua-
ton comes golden mean. the
marriage OF affection and friend
ship. suitability and love. This
marriage will not be perfect
nothing human isl but it will
have every reasonable chance Of
So 1frSne
two partners. themselves They
ran make Of their marriage
heaven or hell.
When Jack and June fell in
love they were positive that life
together would mean heavenly
happiness for both. June was
eager to give up the Injuries of
her home, and begin at the foo.
81 the ladder as 4 poor mans
wife for Jacks sake. She had to
wait about six months. however.
while her parents investigated
officer whom she met in Paris
". M. C. "A. hut there in 1915.
Having learned that Jacks rsc.
ord was excellent so FAR ~
health. character and service
were concerned, June's parents
withdrew their objections and a
small family wedding was held
IN the pleasant suburban Lon
don home Of the English girl.
shortly before the armistice.
Over ten years have passed
since then.
ple:s'
These comments always fol-
low when strangers meet June
and Jack or visit at their hnrne.
Theirs Is marriage that seems
m have. indeed. been made in
heaven.
Yet there have been moments
when June was ready TO flv 10
the divorce courts.
Then, on the other hand there
were moments OF heavenly ioy
and understanding between Jack
and June. Finally came the dax
when Jack. winning a welI.earned
promotion mt the office. celebrated
BIZ presenting brand-new car 10
June. Shortly before this the two.
with the aid of the Building and
Loan, bought a small house and
Garden in q lovely suburb.
Little wonder these two are
happily married. Their marriage
Is made In heaven. not because the
Two attend church and teach in
Sunday school. although they do.
but because they cultivate har-
nony and entertaining comrade-
ship and adjust themselves SEN
eis,lv to each other. Jack. Jr., and
circumstances in general and
have preseryeda touch of beauty
and romance despite all The mo.
nofonous grind and everyday
regime Of married life.
Oh there are a thousand ways
~ making a marriage hell and a
.nousand ways of making 1t
seaven, and II is up TO you. having
zeIected tlne right man, to do your
narf To make your marriage. de-
srite its difficulties and doubts
nd discouragements heaven,made
- little foretaste Of Paradise on
ale side Of the stars,