Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1928-08-31
SUB ROSA
BY MIMI.
Is It Love =?

Shirley boasts that she's the most
hopelessly-in-l love girl in the world.
No one not even the great lovers OF
all times. has experienced such emotion
as she now feels She's rather pleased
about IL. really.
But her mother is not pleased about
It. Her employer isn't pleased about 1t.
None of her friends can be said to be
overioyed over the way she's behaving.
Her poor mother worries, you see. be-
cause Shirley doesn't eat. she doesn't
sleep: she turns bright yellow when the
telephone rings she simply lives for
fuses and fumes. Shirley pays no at
tention to anything around the house,
She goes about with her head In the
clouds. dreaming of him.
In the office her work has fallen off
In all directions. She really hasn't
time or energy to give to ordinary
mundane affairs She makes bad mis-
takes. forgets important messages and
wanders through the Office like
haunted spirit
With her friends she is not much
better. She can't lend an car To the
trivial happenings of their everyday
lives. She can't work up any enthusi-
assn over their petty triumphs and
ridiculous pleasures. She has drawn
herself away from them-wrapped her.
self in web OF her happy imseinings
and given up the world for him.
And this. boys and girls. has been
going on for almost year 1t threatens
to so on for so long as she and Weyman
remain in semi-engaged state. In
fact. at the rate it's going, this mood
may last we'll into her married life
Ifasr tt,s q
love- Now. we call this sort of thing
an obsession and we beg the victim to
try to rid herself of 1t at once
Love-the true. deep emotion that
influences life for the better--does not
destroy our thinking powers. does not
win us away from our friends It en-
larges our perceptions, hroadens our
horizon. makes us more eager TO help
others and to make them happy.
This dreamy absorption is not love
1t is dangerous malady, which will
ruin Shirley's own chances OF happi-
ness unless she cures 1t.
To be obsessed by the thought of one
man is dangerous thing To plan
ones whole life to include only one
interest is fatal.
How long do you suppose Shirley can
hold her man If she makes him her
sole interest, ner absorbing hobby her
one passion? Not for very long She
will weary him with her unceasing con-
centration on him and his affairs.
How long do you suppose she will find
him sufficiently attractive to interest
her wholly? Not very long. Every girl
in the world needs occupation and
friendships and amusements beyond the
business of loving one man.
Yet her little obsession is cutting her
on from friends and work and SYM
pathy. She Is reaping ridicule and
contempt from those who watch her.
Every one synpathizes with girl in
love, But girl obsessed by love is
different matter. There's something
unhealthy and unnatural in Shirleys
singleness Of purpose these days. She
must snap out OF IL.
Love helps us TO understand others
and to work more in sympathy with
them.
II love isn't doing that for you there's
something wrong with the way you love.
fCopyrtght. 1921
Mimi will be glad to answer any INQUIRIES
oirecteo TO this paper provided q stamped,
sef"addressed envelope Is incosed