The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-09-17
BY MARTHA LEE

How much better 1t is to pick up
the broken threads of our lives, bury
the shame that every one feels at
having met defeat through his own
foolishness, and struggle on at least
trying to make amends rather than
to allow past mistakes drag every
thing good and worthy out of us.
Admire the man who, after having
seen the folly of what he has done,
says, Il was wrong. I see my mis-
takes and / want to atone for
them" Admire him, and at the
same time help him. He is at the
point when he admits self-defeat,
most ripe for skepticism, cynicism,
which two things boiled down mean
belief that his fellow beings do
not admire a man who admits de-
feat, rather that they glory in loud
and gleeful tones at his ill-luck.
have a letter today from a
man who needs help badly. In
many ways his case looks as though
he deserved no help, but it is never
too late to try to make up for the
wrongs we have done, and at least
this man has that hope. He says:
Dear Miss Lee-As have read so many
letters giving advice to others 1 wondered
was married to one Of the dearest
women that ever lived, but / took to
dabbling in spiritualism and listened to a
teachings Of the religion I followed And
now I have. found out that it was all a
am ashamed to go to my family and
confess the wrongs I have done to them.
I live with the woman who broke up my
that I was deceived BY she her. tOu"u Ou'
Ny wife. whom I deserted fourteen
gs bon asG has always To5keG and
all OF whom are now married. The
woman I live with has no children. but
1'haye change Of heart. I have found
my wife is now alone. She still is work
Miss Lee. am remorseful and want to
do7 My children have all turned me
That looks like an impossible
thing to ask your wife to forgive,
but some women could do it, and
perhaps your wife is one of those
rare creatures. You should have
something to offer her. See that
she will always be taken care of and
will never have to work again
for one thing.
If you are really sincere in your
wish to make amends for the wrongs
you have committed against your
wife and children, go to them, adj
NIT your sins and ask to be forgiven.
This is surely no time for clustering
pride.
Dear Miss Lee-1 always have been con-
dstss with 5Sys def 6a ev w a2e 1s
been taught where they stand with me
In fact II anything. my reputation has
been that was too strict to De very
one night a short time ago I went out
with boy in Our neighborhood We
we got to my door. he attempted to kiss kiss
me. I slapped his face and walked on
into the house, closing the door while he
4 few days later r. some me fellows IS that he
runs around with started to call Inc up
for dates; I had one with one Ct them
same result one By one about Si al his his
and almost without exception it was the
Finally one Of the boys who I had re-
you trying to do7 Make every one think
We all know about that night you went
out with G.. 1t seems to me it's pretty
late 20 be acting SO high hat"
Well Miss Lee. hardly knew what TO
make Of that, but finally got the whole
story from him. This boy had gone back
to the gang he ran with and told them
some wild story about me and the good
party / had given him, and sll the fell
lows believed lim.
/ dare now, without being insulted. The
funny part about it is they all believe
him instead of me, even though none of
them has ever had a chance from their
own personal experience TO say anything
wrong about me. What do you make Of
I would, in the first place, have
nothing more to do with any of
them. If you have not proven to
them that the thing the boy told
was untrue after having been out
with them, you never will prove it
to them. They are the type of boys
that are best left alone.
Make new acquaintance of
worthwhile people, my dear, not
poolroom hounds and gossip mon
gers.
Peggy: If you will send me your
name and address I will send you
a personal letter on the subject you
wrote about. 1t is very important.