The Washington times., 1928-10-13

Nowadays all that is changed.
A woman is no longer regarded
as a thing. Even when it comes
to marriage, we realize that love
Is ours as long as we can hold
tho longer! And modern mar
riage is founded on love.
Certainly husband and wife
should live up to all the response
bilities they assume. But when
love goes, the spirit of the mar
raige is gone; only the empty
shell remains. How important,
then, that wife should from che
very first resolve to hold her hus-
bands love and interest!
Yes, my wife and / have been
married 10 years. We have two
children. And we still love eacn
otheri''
/ overheard a handsome young
married man making this conf
dence last summer on shipboard.
And / wondered what manner OF
woman the wife might be, who
obviously held the undivided deVo-
tien of this most attractive man.
Later, / met her. The two were
enjoying a well-earned vacation
trip together, leaving the children
for a fortnight with her mother.
She was quietly dressed. but
with exquisite taste and sense of
style. Doubtless most careful
thought and economy went into
the selection of her clothes rather
than a great deal of money
The most exquisite thing she
had, / noted during a moment
spent in their stateroom, was
negligee of cloth of gold tissue
and rich shades of black and
crimson silk, which brought out
perfectly her natural high color
and brunette prettiness. Her
daintiness and every detail or her
grooming were perfect. Then
realized that this wise young
woman, throughout 10 years OF
marriage. despite the cares OF
motherhood and housekeeping, has
taken time to remain lovely and
alluring in her husbands eyes.
reserying for hours spent alone
with him her most winning ways
and enchanting graces. Little
wonder she is still his sweetheart.
She is simple. unassuming, gay.
interesting "a woman any man
might be proud of. And when
saw these two quietly watching
the sunset from their steamer
chairs, her hand held in his. l
realized that their honeymoon or
last June was quite as sweet TO
them as the first one ten years
ago.
No man can force himself to go
on loving a woman. de may go
through the forms and expressions
of affection. But in his heart ne
wishes to be near only the woman
who is. in his eyes. attractive ana
lovable. If a magnet ceases 10
attract a needle, can the neeole
be blamed? See to it that your
attraction for your husband Is SO
strong that no other magnet can
draw him away from you.
How can this be done? HOW
can Won keep your husband IN
love with you? That is, indeed,
an aIl-important question for every
wife!
The first essential is to choose
vour man wisely, for there are
some men and women who are
too shallow to remain steadfast-
thew are born quitters! Study him.
know him, make sure he is re-
snonsfble and trustworthy-then.
If YOU love him. marry him! Your
romance will last as long as you
make it last.
You can hold your husband by
loving him deeply. Loyalty, trust
inglv- ioyously. That men prefer
a woman of whom they are not
sure may hold true in flirtations.
hut il certainly does not in mar
rage, Every man needs. more
than all else. to be absolutely sure
of the love of the One Woman,
whom he has wed. and of I'M
vavering affection at home.
1--WE been married three times"
commented a certain beautiful and
much divorced siren self-compla-
Gently in announcing her engage
ment to her fourth.
what a wonderful woman" the
thoughtless may exclaim, Ito at
tract and win four husbands
what a dismal failure as a
womanl" would be the more logi-
cal criticism. For she has not
been able to hold one husband"
A man needs to feel that he is
wanted, admired and loved by the
woman ne loves and marries. Do
not expect constant demonstra-
lions of affection from your hus.
band. he will tire of telling you
fifty times a day how much he
loves you. That is taken for
granted, else he would not have
married you.
without forcing your affection
nm him, or asking him anxiously,
tearfully, whether he still cares,
make yourself so sweet, so amus-
ing and entertaining, clever and
altogether desirable that he will
feel impelled to assure himself
that he still is the lucky man you
love.
Your duty and privilege is to
make your husband comfortable
and happy, and bring up wisely
fine family you and he found; to
live within his means; to control
YOUR vagrant fancies for other
men who may offer you flattery
and attention tempting because Of
novelty; to uproot from your ma
fIre distrust and jealousy, if only
because they are useless and
aeeing, bringing lines to your
face. to master household tasks
and drudgery cheerily, knowing
nothing is commonplace save a
commonplace attitude toward life.
Keep your sensitive feelings
locked away where an irritable