The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-10-17

After marriage that duty auto
Inatically goes to his wife. If there
is question of choosing between
the mother and wife In matters
either Of love or duty, the wife I'M
doubtedly should be given the
choice.
When a mothers love for her son
is SO great that it warps her view
point, begrudges everything he does
for his wife, and worse than either
of these, envies them the happiness
they are having to the point of try
ing to spoil that happiness, her love
is no longer a normal mothers
love.
Here is letter from a man who
has mother with mother-in-law
complex:
Dear Miss Lee-My mother is not bad
woman, but she is very selfish and I'M
reasonable. She would not miss church
for anything and for that reason thinks
she is good woman. Ten years ago my
father died. She is forty-eight now and
strong and well and nice looking. She
worked until five years ago. She had
spent all the money she earned on clothes,
so when she wanted to quit, bought a
small home. She only stayed with me
seven months. because we could not get
along She was too extravagant and /
could not afford to give her the things she
wanted I had bought the house, in her
name thinking she would feel more at
home if I did. had heard nothing but
how selfish was until when she left it
was a relief.
In the meantime I rented my home
furnished. This couple lived at my house
for two years. The woman worked. One
day she told me she was leaving her
husband would have to give the house up.
had respected and admired this woman
very much and after she left her husband
] asked her to marry me. The first thing
she said to me was Have you a mother
living and would you mistreat your wife
TO please your mother?' Then she told
me that that was the reason she had had
to work before, so her husband could
send his mother money. When !. told her
my mother was living she would have
nothing to DO with me for a long time.
She was so bitter against mothers-in law.
Finally she told rae she would marry me
If / would agree to adopt little girl
after we we're married two years, and
swear never to let my mother come be-
tween us.
I thought everything would work out all
right2 I was giving mother a sum of
money every week, but thought she need
not know that as was making enough
to not make any difference in the way
we lived.
The girl and were married. She had
some morey saved up and insisted on
buying some new furniture for the house
she thought was mine. Mothers comes to
see us often and insults and humiliates
and hurts my wife. Mother told her
about the money gave her and also
that the house was in her name. She is
threatening to come to I've with US. When
my wife spoke of adopting little girl,
that was the last straw. I can't stand
things any longer. Are we unreasonable
or is mother? G. G.
Try to get your house in your own
name, by all means. Your mother
is undoubtedly stepping over the
bounds in her demands. Continue
to give her the sum of money as
long as you can, but do not allow
her to spoil your home. Your first
duty is to your wife. Make her
happy. Do not turn against your
mother, but keep her apart from
your home and your home life. 1t
can and has been done.