The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-09-25

places TO be gone TO, IL makes
things rather bad. Where are your
points of contact with persons like
that? You can no more speak their
language than they could take down
letter in short hand. Some day
things may be SO that you can, but
what about the intervening time?
If a girl has been self-supporting,
has had career of some sort, has
all her life been busy and occupied,
it is pretty hard to find nine or ten
hours a day with nothing to do but
amuse herself, try to find something
to occupy those dragging hours.
There is probably not much house
work, and managing servants is
something that has not been gone
into very seriously. And what is
left
The companionship of the friends
Of the husband and his family,
Persons with whom the girl has
nothing in common, their pleasures
and amusementS, that she knows
nothing about-golf, horseback rid
ing, tennis. She has worked all her
life and has had no time to learn
these games; or if she has learned
them it is probably in a desultory
way.
And If, as I said before, she has
spirit and senSitiveness she is apt
to be miserably unhappy before she
becomes orientated. / have letter
from a girl today who has such a
problem to solve.
Dear Miss Lee-I am engaged to marry
A young man whose family is very
wealthy. They are socially prominent
and well established in the town where
we live. My family is very respectable
people, but all our lives we have been in
Door circumstances. I have been working
since I left school and although my work
could not in any sense be called career.
I like 1t immensely.
The young mans family seem fond OF
me. There are no objections there. But
in my own mind cannot picture our life
after we are married. The friends Of my
flsnce and his family are not my kind Of
people. They have all had everything
they want. gone every place they wanted
to go. lived lives Of ease and luxury.
have worked. have had no time to learn
to play, and am afraid now that will
not be able to be interested in the things
that will be expected Of me after I become
the bride of this young man. I will have
no house work to attend to. nothing to
occupy my time excepting the pleasures of
my fance's sisters and brothers. And
they are not pleasures to me, because I
cannot play golf or ride horse @ck. Would
it be better for me to break Gte engage
ment? MTGNON.
You seem wholesome and sensible
enough, Mignon, to be able to over
come this feeling you have about
your inability to At in with your
flance and his family. If you are
well hammered and have poise
enough, I am sure you will get on
Splendidly. Your f1ance must be-
lieve that you have or he would not
have asked you to marry him. You
have a double advantage in condi-
tions as they are. You have seen
life and had it make things very
hard for you. You can therefore
look on others with the sympathy
and understanding that your ex-
perienceS have given you. At the
same time, you are going to have
a chance now to play, to have life
and all its good things at your feet.
You seem to have enough pluck to
play the game with the other now.
If you love this boy, don't let fool
ish fears interfere with your hap
pinesS.