The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-11-10
Famous Author
| Gives Advice
to Lovers
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of Love
and Marriage
LIE All love love letters!

w When a volume of these
tender messages of the heart find
their way into print now and
then as part of the memoirs
Of famous writer. every word
IL eagerly appreciated by the
public.
Elizabeth Barrett Brownings'
''Sonnets from the Portuguese
win always be loved. not merely
for their poetic value, but be-
cause the author was Economically
IN love all her life with her his-
hand, the poet. TO whom she adj
dressed them. and he adored her
Just as tenderly.
Few love letters find their way
into print. They are so precious,
30 sacred to the writer and the
loved one who receives them, that
the instinct is to guard them
from curious eyes.
AT this moment 1t is safe to
state, thousands of fervent mes
sages are being penned by as
many lovers, expressing the hopes
and fears and alteration of their
-
ing their way by boat and train
and airplane from heart 10 heart.
Most of these messages will be re-
ceived with delight and kept as
fragrant. ribbon-tied souvenirs. to
be read and re-read.
Have YOU. yourself. never pored
over a letter from your best be-
loved. eagerly. delightedly. read
each word many times. trying to
find meanings between the lines,
slipping it close to your heart for
another reading at the first oppor.
tunity? If not, you have missed
one of the joys of youth and love.
Unfortunately not all love let
tiers reach a happy haven. Some
are unwanted or unappreciated.
some are ridiculed. ignored, read
aloud to derisive acquaintance,
lightly tossed aside or destroyed.
recent best seller depicts
graphically the tricks by means of
which blond flapper persuaded
rich sutton to propose in black
and white. so that she could save
the letter for future evidence
against him in law suit for
breach of promise or heart balm.
Such love is easily consoled by
cash.
Fools write what wise men
fear TO telephone" declares a
cynical philosopher.
las long as folks is folks they
will be folksey." explains a dear
old character of a New England
novel. 1t is "foiksey" To write
love letters. and the chances are
they will always be written. al
ways be eagerly priced by those
who love and are loved.
Since this is true. and love let
tiers mean so much veal or woe
to writer and recipient, is it not
worth while to use your mead
as well as heart in writing them.
to make them sincere. restrained
when restraint is suitable, tactful.
kind? Is il not wise. before send
ing the letter, TO ask yourself
whether it is right or wise to
send it at all?
Write your pages and pages of
burning devotion if you must for
being in love and longing to ex-
press love are one and the same
emotion. But keep your letter
twenty-four hours before sending
It, then ask yourself:
Have / the ri"ht to tell this
man DI my lONe.
Would lie ashamed If this
letter were printed SO that all the
world could read it,
rs it letter that will make
the recipient happier and better?
Is is depressing"
Be careful not to take an i'm
pulsive love-letter too seriously,
for it may be the result of a
moOn-lit mood. within or caprice.
Should YOU receive a loVe-letter
from man who is pledged TO
another woman. or q letter con
taininG impudent or insulting
suggestions in the guise of love
and many girls have had this ex-
peFience--do not hesitate to
ignore it or better still. mail il
back TO the sender without COM
ment.
What am I going to do?'' Bill
asked me the other day. II have
been going about in a friendly
way with certain girl. BY that
/ mean ! have escorted her home
from dances and parties when we
cnanced TO meet.
A few months ago went
away on a long trip and / am
still away from home / have
scenes and experiences of the
journey My letters have not
contained one word Of love. In
fact. although ! like this girl
very much. she is not the type
care 10 marry.
she replies to my letters az If
were a beau-almoSt az though
we were engaged She tells me
how much she loves me and hints
at plans for our future. do not
wish to hurt her feelings and I
enjoy her companionshfp as
friend. but l have no intention
of marrying her.
Ny suggestion to Bill and others
In his plight, is. keep away from
girls who express unsought love in
letters. Ignore their letters or
reply in brief. impersonal notes.
A girl who sends love miss YES to
n man who has acted merely as
a friend and has not asked for
her love, will not he too much
hurt by snubbing and GOODNESS.
Soon she Will transfer her eff