The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-08-29

and then the perspective is ter
rible. An incident occurs. 1t
is, in the eyes of everyone else
innocent enough, but in the
ewes of the lover it is gross intl-
deity. 1t is a breach of promise
and a break in faith. 1t warrants
a cross examination, a process OF
third degree that is disastrous.
Because nine times out OF ten, the
nersecuted one will become angry
and be willing to let his questloner
believe the worst, rather than go
through hours of answering ques-
lions that are being fired at him
with unbelievable rapidity and an
syering them only to have his an
swers doubted.
Then there is the suspicious
sweetheart who doubts the truth
even more than a lie, who would, in
fact, rather have a lie and some
peace of mind than he would the
truth and any small amount OF
anguish that knowledge will give
him. These are usually the type
who pick up the slightest glance
and turn it into an abduction. And
by the time you listen to them for
an hour or so you are willing to
agree that it was, just to turn OH
the record.
There are times when circum-
stances look suspicious. But If you
cannot trust the man or woman you
love, better not to love them at all.
And if you are suspicious to fault
you deserve deception; not only de-
serve it, but ardently court it.
Why not be honest with eacn
other2 If you are not before mar
riage, you will surely never be after
ward. And if you are then, for the
first time, it will hurt dreadfully.
I have letter from a girl who
plyed her sweetheart in just such a
way when she discovered him with
letter from another girl in his
possession. Then, when she piled
him with questions, what did he
do? If he was telling the truth, she
caused him so much embarrassment
that he probably looked like he was
lying. If he didn't tell the truth,
and she knows it, that's another
thing,
Here is her letter:
Dear Miss Lee: I read your column
every night and IKE your advice w Won }n
Tor eight months / have had no other
dates, And And. I IL love him dearly and he
have only had one occasion to doubt
him. He had picture. OF another glrl
her. It Started Dearest and talked as
though they had met often ana gone 10
'nff s asked him about 1T and he said he
had never been to a show with her that l
ha had never even made date WIN neL
He tod me she asked 5 t mn her 70 qE he Knew
good girl when he saw one ana went
VIZ am half way in between believing and
doubting / see him three or four times
week He said he. thought someone
who knew both e US h @ou hsr se @ris He
has Meyer given me an engagement ring
DO you think he is sincere? n,,,prrs
In a case like that Dimples, you
can believe exactly what you wish
to believe. One is as apt to be true
as the other. His explanation is as
apt to be honest as your doubts
about the story. But, it's up to you
If YOU do believe it, or take him
back making him think you do
never refer to the incident again
There is nothing so unpalatahle as
a hashed over quarrel.
AS for the ring, that doesn't NEAR
a thing as far as affection goes
Perhaps he cannot afford to give
you the sort of ring he would like
to. An engagement ring is just g
proclamation that you can carry
around with you so that others may
know Of your happiness. But il
you know it yourself, your happl-
ness will make you easily recog'
nizable as one of the chosen people
without having to flash a ring
They are nice and all that, bu
hardly a necessity. Do you gauge
a man by the size diamond he car
place on the third finger of YOU
left hand. If you do, give this boy
the gate. You have a chance to d.
it gracefully.