The Washington times., 1928-07-09
Puppy Love Is
s m e t m e S
Real Love
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage


Love and Marriage
Like many another phrase not
found in the average dictionary,
puppy love has a worldful OF
meaning. 1t suggests the ardent,
well.intentioned love of early
youth, which makes up III
intensity and enthusiasm what it
may lack in judgment and wis
dom.
1t has been said that it takes a
wise man tc know ne is fool.
Possibly young man VINO
recognizes his own symptoms as
those of puppy love may be said
TO be so wise as to be nearly past
the puppy-love stage. Certainly
my correspondent, in the follow
ing letter, does well to question
whether a friendship and affec-
ton that has outlasted three
years is not more than puppy
love:
Dear Miss Fairfax" he writes.
81 am a young man of twenty
three. | am in love with a girl
five years my junior. At first |.
thought mine was puppy love.
But now I recognize 1t as the real
thing.
when we first became friends,
we did not live far from each
ether, so we were nearly always
together. Then we had a little
misunderstanding and l was told
not to call again.
She did not speak TO me for
quite a while. Then she would
smile when we met. Finally we
were beginning to be friends
again.
Then. wnen our friendship was
ripening fast, she moved away.
She invited me to go to see her,
as did her parents. But l have
never gone. although have
wanted To very much.
II am popular with girls and go
about with many of them. But
none seems to take the thought of
this one girl from my mind |
see her folks and she sees mine,
set we never meet.
II have promised her brothers
will go to see them. But ]
feel as though she still holds my
cruelty against me. Yes, l feel
cruel because she has written to
me and / hive never answered.
What shall / do? Even though
1t is nearly three years since we
met. shall / go to her? Her par
ents are strict. but I know / am
welcome at their home.
Please print my letter. ] wart
her to know thfou Oh your column
how feel. will follow your ad-
vice eagerly, as l love her more
each day.
Also, will you please print this
in your column for the benefit Of
young women who look down on
old-fashioned girls: An old-fash-
Toned girl can be loved. And
sometimes an olf-fashioned girl is
mighty hard to get out of your
heart after she had gotten into
It,"
It thank you and wish you all
success in your column. You do
not know, really, now helpful you
are. / am sure you are going to
help me and / am going to watch
eagerly for your reply
"BROKENHEARTED LOVER.
1 thank you, my friend. for the
kind things you say about my
column. / am happy N the hope
that / may be helpful 10 the fine
young women and men of today.
/ am inclined to believe, from
your letter, that sweet old-fash-
Toned, new-fashioned girl has slip
ped into your helrt and is going
to remain there. Are you not
grateful that you have found such
q girl and have the chance to win
her love?
Why do you fight such an af-
lection? Why do you not spend
your time and thought and devote
your efforts to winning and hold
in this girls friendship and at
lection?
A friendship that has outlived
quarrels and sepa~s zion, as we'll
as neighborly comradship for more
than three years, can hardly he
classified as puppy love.
My only criticism is that you do
not cultivate 1t more actively and
enthusiastically.
You are welcome 1T your friends
home. Why do you not visit there,
since you love her? she has writ
ten you. Why have you not an
swered her letters? While you are
neglecting her friendship. there
are other young men who are
doing their best to win her.
AS it is, in three years time she
may have drifted away from you.
But do not neglect longer the ep-
portunitv to win lasting happiness
and good for yourself and her. An
affection may sta"t as sentimental
puppy love, yet grow into deep
and fine emotion. Test puppy love
by the sure test OF the years. Let
1t grow into friendship. then, If 1t
will, into unselfiah, nnc hanging
devotion. For loge-mntual. loyal,
unselfish. considerate affection
between a man and & woman, lead
ing as it naturally does TO last
ingly happy marriage, is the great
est human good and the greatest
happiness life can bring to any
man or. woman. wiz and treas
IRE this love and the girl--love
of whom is leading yod onward
and upward.