The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-12-11
Old LOUe
Memories
Bring Woe
BY MARTHA LEE

Inc SHADOWS Oh Ola loves SGlll
pursue us. There's tough propo-
sition to battle, if you ask me.
Those folk who Will allow the idea
of some old flame to keep their
feelings toward the rest of man
kind luke-warm, give me a distinct
pain in the thyroid region.
And the difficulty of it all is that
there isn't anything anyone can do
about it, with the exception of the
individual who is suffering from this
special type of "poSt-mortem."
For my own part, I cannot get
the mental workings of the mind of
a person who will allow the skeleton
of an old affair to rattle ominously
between himself and the rest of the
world. This idea of hugging a ghost
(and sometimes it isn't even a
ghost, just a Statue) is foolish.
Of course, there are cases where
there is one big love of a life
time. And there are innumerable
cases where that love dies out be-
fore its heyday. And sometimes it's
pretty hard to take. But then, life
must go on and work must be done
and heartbreaks heal.
One can be terribly cut up over
something of this sort, but the
sporting thing to do is buck up and
carry on. The idea is to create a
philosophy that will carry you over
the bad places. Not this Polly
anna sort of philosophy, that makes
one grin foolishly when a leg is
broken or say well, it was all for
the BEST" when the house burns.
But one that will let you "emote, 3"
if you must "emote." One that for
gives you if you storm and rave at
misfortune, if you must, but that
sets you back on your feet after
it's all over, ready for the next
battle; one that makes you put a
check on the experience, file it
away and drag it out, only in the
privacy of ones own boudoir.
I have the following letter today
from man who is hiding a ghost
in his heart:
Dear Miss Lee:
I have been going steady with very
charming young lady for the past year.
She is attractive. intelligent, has a mar
Vicious disposition and Just an all-round
splendid type Of girl. We are both
twenty-six, I know that she expects to
marry me. as I have taken up so much
Of her time, and rather cut her out of
q far OfI all
one thinks of her as my girl now.
I like her very much. Miss Lee. I ap-
preciate the fact that she would make me
a wonderful wife. but when was twenty
two I was madly in love with a girl; en-
gagged to her. in fact. Shortly before the
marriage. she for no reason at all. or at
least she never bothered to give me one.
broke things Off. And it Just about broke
me up. AS far as womanliness, she
couldn't hold a candle to this girl. but I
loved her far more and still do. She is
not married. but is living in another city.
I do not write to her. but do hear of her
through mutual friends. What am I to
90 about it? Every time 1 get just about
ready to propose. the picture of this other
girl comes between us and I can't make
the grade. I would certainly appreciate
any suggestions you might have to offer.
F.
Hop a night flier for the town,
F., and give your former love the
once-over. You have no idea what
time will do. You are thinking of
this girl as she was when you knew
her. BY now you have both changed
great deal. You are older, your
ideas are baSicly more sound and
you will judge her from an entirely
different point of view.
The only way to clear up the
smoke of. an old love affair is to
go right after it. Maybe it can be
rebuilt. Maybe it will be put out.
But there is nothing more annoying
than smudge.