Evening star., 1928-05-16
SUB ROSA
He Talks About Himself.
BY MIMI.

Pamela Is having grave doubts about
marriage-not marriage in general. but
her marriage in particular.
1t looks as If she were going to marry
Sydney and no mistake. They've been
heading in that direction for some time,
apparently, and up till now Pamelas
been perfectly satisfied with the whole
idea.
But she does lot OF thinking and 1t
has occurred TO her that she may be
making big mistake. She admits she's
apt to exaggerate trifies, but at the same
time her happiness is very important TO
her.
She read an article in the paper the
other day that explained why so many
people come to grief In the marital
state. She has learned that boredom.
sheer unadulterated boredom, lies ct the
foundation Of most divorces--and that
set her thinking.
Right away her gray matter began
to work. Did sydney ever bore her?
And like q fash came the answer: Did
he?-oh. boy, did he?"
Why he bores her exactly so per cent
Of the time he's with her Yes. she's
worked 1t out as closely as that. He
bores her frantically for hours on end
talking about himself, his work, his own
personal plans.
Sometimes she nearly goes wild
listening to his monologues about HIM
self, his family. his dog and his bank
account
Now. is that an indication that she'd
be wrecking her life IL she married him?
No. but IT'S fair indication that he'll
be wrecking his life II he marries her
unless she happens TO change very
suddenly.
Prom what I gather Of this unfor-
tunate business, Pamela Is bored TO
tears when sgd Is talking about some
thing that isn't vitality connected with
her.
You notice she doesn't say that
Sydney Is the sublime egotist who
talks Of literally nothing but himself.
He evidently listens respectfully TO what
she has TO say for at least so per cent
Of the time.
And when he does revert to personal
themes. he WAKES eloquent on the sub
ject Of his family, his dog and his bank
account. Well, what, for heavens sake,
could be more natural than that?
And why, in the name OF goo0ness.
should Pamela resent It? Why, indeed?
Doesn't she pour into his ears detail
after detail Of her life-stories OF her
former cnnQuests. her present tri-
umplls, her troubles at home, her per-
soral opinions Of all her friends, her
ideas about herself? I'll say she does,
II she's q perfectly normal girl.
And wouldn't she be furious II ne
listened inattentively. drumming on the
listened with his fingers, or humming, or
interrupting her every 5 minutes2 Oh
course she would.
Well, Why should she be any more
bored with what he has to tell?
Boys and girls always talk about
themselves. Every young person In the
world has q full-sized idea Of his or
her own importance In the scheme OF
things. And It Is no worse or more
boring for fair lady TO have to listen
| TO Mr.. Mans opinion OF himself than
for him TO lend attentive ears TO her
| life story.
Pamela needn't turn Sydney down
because he bores her. Shed be just
as much bored with any one who re-
fused 10 talk about her 100 per cent
Of the time.
II she expects to find happiness with
| any other human being she must learn
70 take an intelligent interest In SUBJ
| tects other than herself.
Otherwise she's doomed to seif-cen.
tered. self-satisfied, old maid-dom.
:, Mint viii be glad to answer any inantriss
directed 10 this paper, provided . stamped.
addressed envelope 10 inclosed.
fcouyTiRht, 1881