The Washington times., 1928-10-20
They Are Often
the Result
of Pride
By Beatrice Fairfax


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Why is it that two who are IN
love, take positive pleasure in say
ing cruel, cutting things to hurt
each other.
At have been going about with
q young man for a year, Pony
wrote me the other day. HE has
told me that he loves me and we
have talked about the future TO-
gether."
Then Polly goes on TO explain
that her father is not in favor OF
her friend because of his foreign
nationality. There are many
happy marriages between Amer
leans and foreign-born citizens
Doubtless, Polly's father might
have been won over in time with
the aid Of patience and proof that
the young man is worthy OF
Polly.
But Polly referred to the mat
ter in what was perhaps tact
less manner in explaining to her
friend This caused a quick
flareup. One word led to another
and in less time than it takes to
write these lines a quarrel was on.
Polly's friend is ''touchy' about
his nationality He announced
Ioftily that hereafter he and she
had best regard each other merely
as friends-that some day-thls,
very casually-he might call her
But he hasn't called up VET,
walls Polly. Il love him and l
can't forget him. Won't you please
tell me what TO do
What are you to do. Polly, dear!
What you and that young man
really should do. is use the soed
common sense you were. born
with. What. Let silly quarrel
tear down the structure or Ilne
friendship and affection you ana
he have built up this last year?
OF course it may be that your
father. is right in his opposition to
the Young man as friend Or
sweetheart for you. Your letter
is 4 bit vague on that point. Is
his nationality the. only objection
your father has to him? Is he IN :
every ether way a suitable trlenu.
one YOU would be proud to IN
troduce to your friends and rela-
tiyes? Are you old enough To
think seriously of love?
If YOUR fathers objections are
decided and vigorous. and you are
a very young girl, let the friend-
snip go for the present. PONY
that is best. Making friends Is
serious matter, which affects
girls entire future in many ways.
s very young girl should be.
ruided by the advice OF her
parents in such cases.
Rut on the other hand, If your
father merely disapproves mildly
vour making friends of foreign
horn Young man. and you know
vour friend is suitable for you
aud of fine character and con.
GENIAL tastes and viewpoints and
If Won are 10 or 90 or older, ana
Won and he are genuinely roma
of each other. then my first Word
- n advice TO YOU still holds: Use
vorr common sense and refuse to
ioea friend over a silly tiff.
WHY do young people who love
each other allow themselves TO
become so supersensitlve that
slight unintended hurt, leads to
tiff and both refuse to speak or
recognize each other?
Why should not lovers use
GOOD "horse sense" like other
folks and forget the incident
instead. a young man and girl
who really care for each other
often behave toward each other
like imbeciles.
A girl in such a case Is al
disadvantage, for in making adj
vances toward a reconciliation. she
NAV feel that she will seem to
force herself on the attention or
the young man. Still il she is in
the wrong, it is only sensible and
vonanly for a girl to admit she
was mistaken and is sorry and
ask that the friendship go on as
before. Then she will at least
have done her part. But a young
man under such circumstances,
should be especially careful to
prove he is a gentleman by taking
the initiative as a gentleman
should and generously opening the
way to an adjustment.
Too often, an incident which
others would hardly notice is per-
united by young lovers to fer
ment. The sense of hurt soon
iwears off and is succeeded by
false pride. Both are sorry in
their hearts. But the actions of
both belle their real feelings. and
1.-THE course of both lives may be
changed. A romance that should
have ended happily is blighted.
In such circumstances. neither
should hesitate to make advances
toward reconciliation and neither
should hesitate to meet any ad-
Vance-even the smallest.
And so, Polly, dear, j hope that
Il you and your friend love each
other and are suitable in charac-
ter and tastes and the things
that really count. you and he will
"make up" and will agree to wait
for a year or more while he proves
to your father by his life. charac.
ter and loyalty that he not only
loves you but can care for you
and make you happy as his
sweetheart and wifa