The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-09-01
Home Happiness
Is Based Upon
Team Work
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of
Love and Marriage

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II am Of very jealous nature,
writes d correspondent, and have
tried several ways OF overcoming
It, but / cannot. Will you please
tell me how / can overcome my
jealousy It is making me mis-.
orabIe "
will Eladly help you. my. friend
II 1t lies In my power TO do So.
feel that thousands Of men and
women. like yourself, long to re
free from the pangs caused BY
the green-eyed monster.
You have taken the first step
Al coming TO the conclusion that.
jealousy is altogether undesirable.
1t IL not easy to aid q person who
is jealous and proud Of 1t, claim
ing jealousy proves love. There
Is also another type still more
impossible-the jeafous person
who declares proudly: II have not
any jealousy in my nature. do
not know what 1t means to be
jeaious.''
"A man or woman who earnestly
wishes to overcome jealousy can
do SO with the help OF determine
ton and good sense Since others.
have conquered jealousy you also
can do it, and in Kidding yourself
Of this torturing defect you will
enlarge your love and learn the
meaning OF real happiness.
Jealousy results from mis-
taken idea Of what love is. Gain
the correct understanding OF love
and try to live up to that under
standing, then jealousy wifi van
ish from your nature like the
mist before sunlight.
Many women and men think
love, when ii is reciprocated,
gives them prOprietorship or
ownership of the loved one.
No other man will dare look
at you now" declares Mr.. Young
Man triumphantly.
Why" asks Miss Girl who has
lust become engaged0to him. with
strange feeling that she has
been forever tagged and stamped
with an owners mark.
Because you are mine!' boasts
Mr.. Young Man.
Woe to Miss Engaged IL she
goes on with this marriage to q
domineering man. She will have
to lie to him for the sake Of
peace. even when she knows she
"a quite guiltIess. A friendly
smile from another man.
thoughtIess, casual remark, as
mans name discovered In her adj
dress boOk-these and similar
frifles viii be distorted until they
seem cause for tempests OF out.
ragged ownership, vanity and
jealousy all in the name OF
love. Not even marriage gives
such rights over the soul Of an
other!
This possessive type Of so-caIled
love naturally fosters jealousy
Real love Is quite differsnt-in
fact. the exact opposite. Love Is
lust a desire to serve the beloved,
~ promote his or her happiness
and welfare. Any love falling
sl1ort Of this Ii only egotisnl, self
love, self-indulgence, love OF own
ership.
Love does not demand anything;
40 how can 1t be jealous? This
high standard is romance. and,
strange though 1t may seem, Il
nearly always proves SUCCESSFUL
because we get through giving.
This real love, which Kills Jeal-
ousy and leads to successful mar
riage. includes trust. Choose
life partner your common sense
assures you Is Trustworthy, tnen
trust him. You will haYe~to trust
him, anyway. for you ana ne can.
not be together every instant 20,
why not train yourself TO trust
him whole heartedly.
Jealousy is an ugly tralt. AZ -
suspicious, unhappy, hateful sees
with distorted vision. IL it did any
good, jealousy might be worm
cuItivating. but 1t Is useless ana
worthless.
You NAV know Of some jealous
woman who keeps her husband
toeing the mark. But only
spineless spouse can be controlled
that way. and only his actions,
not his thoughts or desires, can
be checked by fear Of his wife's
jealousy.
You never can gain or hold love
hy jealousy. Instead. when love
SENS to be slipping, find what Is
wrong with yourself thatsyou are
losing your attractiveness. and
make yourself more agreeable and
interesting.
Absence OF jealousy increases
100 per cent your chances of win
ming love. and enables you, even
Ktyou do lose the thing on which
YOU have set your heart. to save
your own sweetness and strength.
Overcome jealousy by filling
your mind and heart with I'M
selfish love and trust. which gives.
demanding nothing. In this way
jealousy will be crowded out OF
war thoughts and you will win
serenity. peace. happiness and
success through your romance and
marriage.