The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-12-03
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Child Rests
ON Parents
BY MARTHA LEE


ing to the realization that if there
is any turning of the trend of the
modern generation it must, like
charity. begin at home. In some
cases I think it would be charity
to do something about some of the
ways of modernity.
You can study any of the cases
of delinquency and trace the cause
of it back to the parental hearth.
Sometimes, sadly enough. the par
ents have unwittingly been reSpon-
sible for the results, but, knowingly
or unknowingly, the blame is there,
just the same.
Each child is an individual case
for the parent, and each child must
be studied and guided in the way
best suited to his temperament.
You know the word temperament
is vastly misunderstood by most
persons. According to tradition, only
opera singers and very wealthy old
damsels are allowed to have it. 1t
is, due to the misuse Of the word,
something that folk say about other
folk they do not like.
AS a matter of fact, everybody has
it and not only that, but has right
to have it. 1t isn't anything to hide
away, like halitosis and dandruff. 1t
is Just as much part of individual
ity as the color of persons eyes
or hair.
Before this is completely misun-
derstood, let me say that by tenn
permanent 1 do not mean suddenly
grabbing hold of a fiat iron or a
set of dishes and letting loose with
a swift left to the chandelier. That's
the sort of press-agented tempera-
ment that has made it ieprous
word.
The temperament I mean is I'M
conscious on the part of the in
dividual. For example, there may be
two boys in the family. One may
be guided and lead along the path
of goodness by bullying The other
may resent that and nothing but
an appeal to his honor will make
any Roadway. That is temperament.
Every mother and father should
take these things into consideration.
A good, sound minded, upright child
is one of the greatest joys in the
world, and when a parent can look
at that child and realize that he has
been moulded by understanding and
sympathy and kindness, the JOY is
two-fold.
1 have a letter today from a
woman who has this happiness at
her finger tips if she can only find
the right way.
Dear Miss Lee-I have son seven
what you would call old-fashioned. I can
not get used to the modern ways OF doing
things. have not even become reconciled
My son is, OF course modern, in his
thoughts and his way of doing things
| have felt for some time that we were
| becoming almost strangers to each other,
but lately 1T has been to apparent to mis-
take.
never brings his friends to our home, seems
| restless and annoyed with the company
Of his father and myself and has, lately
| become reSentful il we reprimand him
about going out so much.
! I do not want this to continue 1 want
| to be his friend and counsellor at this
| time when l am sure he needs me. Could
| you suggest anything? A MOTHER.
You have probably shown at GER
tain times your contempt for these
moderns, their ways and their
thoughts. 1t has been ngrained
into your son that you disapprove
and as a result he has decided not
to offend you with their company.
Because he is young and vital and
full of the JOY of living, he wants
to be with boys and girls of his
own age, who think and talk and
do things the way he does.
You can change all this, and
have his confidence if you will
change your attitude about things
that are his life at the present time.
Influence him into bringing his
friends to your home. Give him
the sympathy and understanding
that may mean so much to both of
you in the future.