The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-11-09

have laughed and Joked about
things they saw and said, suddenly,
with the coming of love, become
very sensitive about remarks. I'M
.nediately they find in them some
personal allusion and that would
spoil the best joke ever made.
You can see how impossible it
would be to have a sense of humor,
for instance, when you were kissing
your fiancee. For all over the world,
at that same moment other boys
are kissing their fiancees, their tenn
perature is the same, the girls heads
are in exactly the same place on the
boys shoulders, they are looking at
each other in the same adoring
manner and are saying exactly the
same things to each other. But it
certainly would spoil the picture
for the boy or girl to think of that
at just that time and burst out
laughing.
And that is exactly what happens
in marriage. One or the other of the
two has a sense of humor, or has re-
covered it, and life is again very gay,
very amusing, very laughable. The
other one, on the other hand, has
continued to see love and life
through very serious eyes, and
everytime the husband finds some
thing amusing about it all, immedi-
ately takes it to be a personal
thrust and there are hurt, quivering
lips, followed by a torrent of indig-
nant tears.
A baff1ed man tries to explain
awkwardly that "he didn't mean
anything by it, and only makes the
situation worse by trying to explain
and finally there is a disguised
chucking of the whole business. And
if the wife couldn't get the first joke,
you may rest assured she will not
get the point of letting the whole
thing drop and let life take its dash
ing course. I could carry the thing
right through to a divorce court.
My heavens, homes have been
broken over too great sense of
humor, or, which is far worse, none
at all.
Dear Miss Lee-My husband and I have
been married nine months. I had known
him about a year and a half before our
marriage. We used to have the best times
together. I had always heard that love
was not enough, that one must also have
interests in common, and we surely did.
We used to have wonderful times together,
just talking and laughing and exchanging
ideas. We didn't have much money, so
we seldom went to shows. But we seemed
to have great time just the same.
He was so sweet and loving, so thought
full of me. He still is, but he seems to
be taking everything so hippantly now.
He thinks everything is good joke and
I am beginning to think he feels the same
about me. can not stand to be laughed
at. When anything goes wonrg. instead
of being sweet and sympathetic about 1T,
like he would have been before our mar
riage, he thinks it is funny. Good joke
on us or something What is he trying to
DO laugh me out of this corporation?
You seem intelligent enough from
your letter, Janet, to see what he
is trying to do. He is trying to
make married life a lot of fun and
YOU Just won't see it that way. Why
take everything seriously? And
most especially personally? If the
biscuits are a failure, he might
easily throw them at the china in
stead of laughing about them. And
if they are failure, why not laugh
with him? He is not laughing at
you but at the biscuits, because they
should look so nice and fluffy and
appetizing. And they aren't any Of
these. He would have a perfect
right to be angry with you for that.
What if he we're as inexperienced
in his job as you are with your
wifehood? Why, he couldn't even
buy you flour and butter and bak-'
ing powder to bake even the fall
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