The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-09-26
! That Is Part Of
Youth, Ayers
Expert
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An authority on problems Of love

and marriage
IF love were all, how much
= simpler marriage would be-!
How much easier It would be for
"Bewildered" to make the deci'
sion on which hangs her happiness
and that OF the man she loves!
NRut there are questions Of suit
ability and practical wisdom which
cannot be ignored in any marriage
II it Is to have a fighting chance
Tor success.
''Bewlldered," II am q constant
reader OF your column and have
always found that your articles
contain valuable information. !
have difficult problem and Will
be very thankful IL you VIII h:.l
me.
II am % years Of age. I have
been keeping company for thes
past three years. intend to marry
the last part OF next month. nay
fiance is "a and Is all could ex-
pect in the man want to marry.
Ellis earning capacity is $S0
o week, while mine Is, So. ] ~
tend 10 continue working for
about two years after ana maj.
ried. Everything was arranged.
but q difficult problem has Just
arisen.
my fsance Is now living with
his sister, who has been married
Tor several years and has one
child She Is compelled 70 leave
her husband because ~pf his
cruelty and n0nssuppoTt. She
has nowhere to- got except ITO my
fiance. Do you advise my nnanr.
taking this responsibility? she
could OF course, goL to business,
but she does not enjoy very
good health and therefore,
might have the responsibility OF
her and the baby on my hands,
II. win so much appreciate It
II you win help me do the right
thing and Il win abide by your
decision, whatever II Is. because
I know it win spell my happi-
ness"
Dear BewiIdered--You are mot
the only girl in love who is be-
wildered by financial problems
that loom large, clopdipg her mar
rage prospects Your outlook IS
not without hope. You are tax.
ing chancAs--almQat q gagnhlirR
chance-it is true, when you
marry depending on 90 small y
salary as your irrespective bus
Lands. with partly-dependenL
sIster.in-law as well as yourself,
10 be supported. For with the
best of intentions, unless all the
luck goes your way. YOU cannot
be sure you. will both be able 10
work continuously even for two
what If one Of you is thrown
out Of work! How will the four,
Including the sisters child, sub
sist on $32 or even $3b weekly!
Do YOU think you could manage
under those circumstances!
Much depends on the health OF
ali three OF you wage-earners. Is
the sister eager to work lard ond
do her share? Is there reason
abe prospect that her health VIII
improVe?s
Are your positions fairly. per-
manent? Do you or your rianc~'
or both. carry insurance to cover
accidents and illness?
Suppose the sisters health
should fail? Could you and your
husband with your pooled $61
weekly carry Ter along financially
for awhile and still save?
do not wish to discourage
YOU. dear. by citing all the mis-
fnrh ha
II is only common sense to figure
on just how much adversely your
marriage could stand. That is not
pessimism-it is foresight.
So much depends on the char.
acter OF yourself. your fiance and
his sister. If you are all eager
to do yonr share. ready to put
your shoulders to the wheel,
thrifty, courageous and good-hu-
mored and if your love and your
fiance's is strong and steady
enough to stand this heavy bur-
den without being crushed, my
suggestion is take the CHARGE
and marry. Accept the happiness
love offers. IL you feel that t
will mean happiness despite all
hardship.
Taking chance is part Of
youth and love. The important
thing Ia to take only q reasonable
chance. IL the sister Is eager TO
support herself and there Is good
hope that she will soon he able
Pc, to do so: II you ara your fiance
have health. ambition and eager
ness to help each other ana your
marriage I do not see why even
though you do start with the
handicap of financial stringencY.
your marriage should not succeed
gloriously