The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-12-19

DeadIine in
Marriage
BY MARTHA LEE

OlAC Va VIC Wv lGpGdLeQ express
sions among married folk, both men
and women, is why, when l mar
ried her (him)-and now, so and
So" All Of which means "Why, how
things have changed. He certainly
isn't what he used to be-" 1 am
sorry to 60 on record as having to
say that this is more truth than
witticism.
1t stands to reason that with
matrimony come responsibility in
big way. And most of the changed
attitudes are the direct result of
these responsibilities. Now, the trou-
BILE breWs like a boiling cauldron
when one or the other of the couples
fails to change with the times, as it
were.
What if you went dancing and
theatering and calling every night
during your courtship? Is that any
reason why these things should not
be done on a large scale after mar
riage, when life has become real and
earnest and there is no longer hours
and hours of time to be frittered
away as best one can?
Marriage is just like everything
else, really there are times when
it is good to laugh and make jokes
and frolic and then there are times
when it is good to make up
budget, if you get what I mean.
Frolicking all the time, laugh
ing all the time, or budgeting Al.
the time would be deadly, just like
a sameness in anything is deadly
Il you are a clerk in a store, and
sell gloves all day, year after year.
you can consider that a samenes5,
q terrifying Sameness, or you cali
consider each day the first. There
are always new faces to look upon
and new hands to put gloves on,
and even new gloves to put on neT
hands. It's merely matter Of per-
sonal opinion. And anything thai
you want to make monotonous, you
can, and anything you want to
make interesting you can.
But the letter
Dear Miss Lee have had about one
month of happiness in two years OF mar
riage My husband wants hiss way in
everything. I have quarreled, cried and
pleaded for a little privilege, but he will
not allow me to do single thing. If 1
buy magazine, 90 to a movie or buy
bit of embroidery to work on, he Is
furious. He is even angry If I need
necessities such as shoes and he will not
buy them for me until am walking on the
ground. He says I do not need clothes,
because I have no business going any
place And yet he makes a good salary
and spends all he wants to for himself.
Before our marriage. we went out TO
parties and dances and shows great
deal. Now it would probably be the death
of ME if he should ever suggest going any
place and If l should. it would still prob
ably be the death of me, He has 1872
ideas about wife and 1880 ones about a
husband.
All this wouldn't be so bad if he did not
add insult to injury by accusing me OF
spending my free time with boys I knew
before our marriage. Why Miss Lee,
wouldn't let any of my old frieLds see me
in the shabby clothes I have to wear. ]
don't know what to do. Should l leave
him? / want to go to work, to buy things
for myself, but he will not allow it.
MAE.
He's probably quite young, Mae,
and has heard some place or other
that women in this day and age are
having too much freedom, too many
clothes and TOO good treatment. So
he has decided to treat his woman
Cbeing YOU'D just the way he has
it all figured out He believes this
the sure way to happiness-to keep
you meek and humble and humili-
ated He's got you "buffaloed.
Why not call his hand?
Let him understand his methods
and the reasons for them, but re-
fuse to be treated like chattel
any longer. The surest way to get
things Strengthened out would be-
to make him believe that all these
precautions he is taking to keep the
unity of the home sanctified are.
doing but that. But don't leave
him. He may need only shak-
ing up.