The Washington times., 1928-12-29
Happy Home Life
and Welded
Bliss
By Beatrice Fairfax

But the question may Well ne
asked whether after all, modern
marriage is in many instances,
. tie that binds?
A few days ago, a well-known
woman instituted divorce pro-
seeding against her husband on
the first, anniversary of their
wedding. obviously in their
case the tie between them was
too flinsy and fragile to endure
the wear and tear of everyday
life. Another case in point is that
of prominent midd1e-aged actor
who married a young girl in her
teens. remarking that he would
be satisfied If he could get two
years of happiness out OF the
marriage. Unions of this sort
NAV be interesting and perhaps
tragic experiments. but they are
not entitled to the name OF mar
riage because they lack perna-
nence from their very nature and
the motives that prompted them.
Happy home life and companions
ship, and the formation of perma-
nent family ties is the motive
back of normal marriage. Back of
1T there must be more than q
Wflim, more than a desire for
passing pleasure.
For better or for worse" in
sick and in health" run the
phrases of the marriage service.
So much of a woman's joy and
welfare depends on her marriage
that 1t may be we'll worth your
while. dear girls, when you find
yourselves attracted by a man
who is seriously interested in you.
to ask yourselves: Why does
this man, attract me? Is the tie
between US one of congenial suita-
bility, respect, and affection? Is 1t
binding enough to make success
Of our marriage? Or is 1t mere
fascination-physic attraction
that draws me to him?"
II you find it hard to answer
al these questions, wait. There
II no hurry about getting married.
And while you wait, study him.
Naturally. he viii be on his best
behavior with you, because he
wishes to make favorable Inn
preston. But how, does he treat
his mother, his sister, when he is
off guard? Is he good,humored to
those who serve him? Is he al
ways kind to animals and chill
drep?
Is 1t his money that attracts
you? Well. you will probably get
money through marrying him,
just as a mouse gets the cheese in
q trap.
If you are in doubt about the
nature of his attraction for you,
try to get away from him for a
while. You may became inter-
ested in someone else shortly
and wonder what you ever saw
in the man who once seemed
no absorbing.
1t Is hard to think clearly and
make wise decisions while under
the sway of emotion--to size up
o man whose very presence
thrills YOU and stirs your pulse.
But uncontrolled emotionalism
spells failure. A warm heart
and cool head. "hard.boiled"
head and 'soft-boiled heart" as it
were. are the combination needed
for success in romance.
My secrets of successful love?"
laughed my friend Estelle in re-
ply to a question. why every
woman knows them, they are
open secrets.
never lose my temper at the
same time my husband does.
Each of us gets cross once in
while, but when we both are
wrought up / count ten-then
change the subject.
Il never stress my imperfec-
tions. For instance? ] do not
remind him that my nose is ugly.
IL | were older than my husband
] would not bewail the fact con.
etantly, as a friend of mine does.
Her husband. as result, has
begun to think of her as aged.
AS a girl Is foolish who as.
sures her adnirer that she is
lonely and forgotten except for
him. Let him, instead, believe
she could replace him easily
Then he will be happy and proud
TO think she chose him above all
others. Cleverness as well as
feeling is needed in every art.
including the art Of keeping q
man in love-"
Having chosen the right hus.
band, and married him, keep the
tie that binds you and him to-
gether flexible and strong. Mend
any little rift that nmight later
on sever the bond.
Some couples begin playing tug
o'-war with their marriage tie
fren the very day of the wedding.
IL is pretty hard to figure out
why Jack and Sally, who really
care for each other, pun at opDo.
site ends. always trying to get the
better OF each other. In this daily
pickering and tussle, love Is the
loser.
Sally has her way Of doing
things and Jack has his. II Jack
wants TO stay at home, SallNvotes
for the theatre. Jack likes dane.
ing Sally is bor-sd to death at a
dance--prefers bridge Jack de-
tests onions. but Sally will not
cook a steak without them.
Neither will give in one inch on
any preference or prejudice. How
long will it be before this lie
snaps!
The chances are they would be
more unhappy if they separated.
Someone has beautifully de-
ecribed unity as spiritual co.opera-
tion. Try cooperating with the
dearest man TO make your mar.
riage success. Pull together.
Try "1ust little love, a little
m1SS' instead of suspicion and nag.
efng and complaining. Then you
and he should be able TO keep the
tie that binds you together a true
lovers knot. clear of tangles. d
gracious. joyous bond that will
hold you together freely and
happily throughout the years.