The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-09-05
E amOus Expert
Gives Advice
to Girls
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems 81
4 Love and Marriage


Anne has another crush. This
time she has what she calls an
awful crush,n on the painfully
nhy young man who teaches
senior English at high school. Or
course, the young professor does
not dream that the impressionab bic
Anne address him, or N his
bushes would be still more pain
full. He would blush for Anne's
silly sentimentalify.
Last month, Anne had a crush
o. new movie sheik, who plays
aeistocratic Williams with much
manner. The week before her
alteration was directed toward a
famous movie actress whom she
has never seen save on the silver
screen. Before that. Harry was
the object OF her crush. because
he dances divinely. Goodness
knows whom Anne Will have a
terrible crush" on next week.
Anness brushes are nothing but
Wildly enlotionaI moods, I'm which
she feels she must idolize someone
--it does not matter much whom.
Usually she selects man TO set
up as an idol in her heart. Then
Anne is certain she II In love-
until the wave Of emotion ebbs
away and another idol appears on
the scene.
The urge to hero-worshiI, to
nolize someone iS@ often charac-
teristic or young folks. But hero
worship is at hest dangerous.
Human idols always tOppia from
L. - ~
appointment and disiilasion to
their adorers.
il yOu must be Il hero-worshjper
choose I man on woman who
stands for your own highest IDEALS
then look IN TO him or her Just
to the extent that they continue
to live tD to highest standards.
In other words, worship the stand
ard and ideals, not the person.
Then Won will be safe.
The girl who always has 4
sentimental crush on SOME one
n usually Joke To her asquaint-
kncan--a rather cheap Joke.
Anne has another. crush ig
d remark always good for
derisive laughter.
ANY man or woman much IN
the public eye. for instance Lind
bergh- has been nauseated by
ontbnrsts Of silly. sicklY ssnti-
mentality on the part Of girls
with 3 crush" attempting to ex-
prsea syrupy sentimentalltY. There
n little 81 the mental nOthing
or the spiritual lii these ILL
regulated 0utbursts of emotion.
Usually crush II little moro
than crude sensuality disguised as
rpTnance.
Are you drifting into the fool
iah mood which finds expression
IN crushes2 Then hope Tor
your own sake, my dear. that
yVu will pull yourself together,
use the good common sense you
were born with and laugh off
your own stiffness.
Stop and think. How much do
you really know about the object
az your wild but shallow adOra-
ton? For all you know, he may
nave an ugly temper At home, be
cruel to animals. sioyeniy In his
habits. The chances are he is
married. At any rate, you may
~ sure he laughs sarcastically
at the many girls who have q
crush on him.
The chances are one hundred
70 one. he would be . most nm
suitable friend, comrade, sweet
bead for you.
why waste your time on
brushes, day-dreamIng over an
impossible and unsuitable hero,
Instead OF cuitivating the pleas
INT, cOngenial friends you have,
who understand YOU Ar well as
Nntl do them. These are the
friends, approved alike by youi
head and heart, who will wear
well ~ the years pass. And one
OF them, or someone you meet
tlIrough one OF them, II more
than likely to prove the dear, dc
pendable. lovabIe partner OF
your joys and sorrows through
successful romance and marriage.
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