The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-08-25
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BY MARTHA LEE

The onslaught continues. Letters
still pour into the office, in which
men and women, and probably chill
dren, too, state their ideas on this
problem of tWo-tinling husbands
and wives.
If thought it was a popular sub
ject, at least had no conception
of how many and varied the opin-
ions on the subject might be. AS
far as have been able to figure
out, everyone has very definite
idea as to how to accept a condition
Of that kind, the causes and results
and effects and oh, just an infinite
number of things.
Maybe It's a Man
Among the best letters I have
gotten, for argumentative prospects
is the letter printed below. Here is
a man or woman Il believe it is
from a MANI with what is common
ly termed advanced ideas on the
subject.
My. Dear Miss Lee; Folks in general
certainly seem to be sitting up. and taking
and husbands aas IN N my H estimaton those
conditions are not any worse today than
they were fifty years ago, only the younger
about it. as were their predecessors.
notice there are still few women
2olq1 tasalored enough to try to put out
If married woman keeps company for
any length of time with a man you may
rest assured their relations are not merely
platonic. II SO. why have such friendship
at allP Why not remain casual acquaint-
1 can excuse two persons who admit they
are Sin love" and make no attempt to
conceal that love or cover over their con-
They deserve credit instead of criticism
Love is love and is not to be denied. once
Suppose a man and woman are securely
'shackled' to other partners. if they
actually realize they love each other. does
the fact that they. are welded in the. eyes
of the law, interfere with the purity of
their love for each otherP Absolutely not:
Eliminating the, more common class. it
is safe to assert that the persons who are
guilty of adultery today are those who
live together as man and wife. are, in
tically despise one another. That is
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for. and helping each. other in every pos
sible way: see mothers holding home
dren.. because they have the friendship
and love of a man to lean upon, many
times not their husbands. We're it not
for that friendship, which know to be
secret, homes would be broken. children
separated and in an orphanage and there
would be more divorce on the court rec
I can mention another specific case
where a young man has a tyrant OF wife
sweetheart. They entertain no thoughts
Of marriage, in fairness to his wife and
for each other and because of it, they are
strong enough to continue. being "dutltul
to their. partners, even though they al
/ know Of any number of such cases,
where through such love real good is &C
as they please, without being talked about.
I do not say that platonic love is alto
gether, impossible. but do say it is highly
but when see such love untarnished by
auarrels and Selfshness, I admire it for
Of a healthy child. such love is good to
look upon because it arises from desire,
not compulsion. Who are these marriage
There's one thing that it would not hurt
a great many social censors to remember,
and that is Thou shalt not 1R 1MSqgSS, D.
Well, my dear doctor, you have
stated your opinions on the subject
without fencing at least. But you
contradict yourself. I do not see,
from your viewpoint on what con-
stitutes present day adultery, how
you have eliminated it by having
the man who hates his wife con-
tinue to live with her and at the
same time take another sweetheart.
There are just two cases instead
of one, that's all. Nothing has been
solved and nothing has been elm
mated.
AS far as this perfect love you
speak of, are not the quarrels and
hardships caused by the everyday
things that husbands and wives
must face? The sweetheart has an
edge. She does not have to let her
lover see her in bad mood after
she has spent the day wiping the
noses of four little boys with bad
colds and picking up the mans
dirty clothes and darning his socks
and cooking boiled cabbage because
he likes it and baking pies. She
sees him only few hours day,
and those hours she may prepare
for all day long, having none of
these annoying trivialities to worry
about.
Living for Others
Besides, the home is the founda-
ton of civilization df that is what
we have) and no civilized people
live for themselves alone. They live
for each other. 1t seems. to me all
the unhappiness in the world is
brought about by people who live
only to crafty their own desires. If
a man married a woman, he loved
her for something, some quality
that is still there, if he would only
look for it. And if he can't find it,
why not be sporting about a mis-
take? Why make everyone miser-
able because he made mistake?
Your argument is we'll stated, but it