The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-10-15


Dear Miss Lee-I am 20 and married to
man "a We have been married four
months and I find he can't even cut
himself a piece of bread without fussing
about it and he simply must have every
thing Just so, or he is miserable. If
try any new recipes or try to fix old
dishes up differently he won't eat them.
He wants the same old thing day in and
Cay out. What fun is there for me in
keeping house? He growIs if something
doesn't taste just so and his mother told
me he was hard to please. and she was
glad when he got married so she wouldn't
have to worry with him.
Still was so in love with him I thought
he would change. He said he would never
treat me that way. I have his meals
ready to sit down to when he comes in
and II the food is too hot he raves, vet
| never know when he will be home. I
have had no experience at ALL one might
say. In cooking, but how can get any
where If he will only eat certain things
fixed certain ways?
We never go anywhere through the
week executing to his mothers house, and
he is always tired. though he was never
tired when we went together. He doesn't
make ever me at all. He says people
don't do that after they are married.
can't go to shows and don't know any+
one in this neighborhood. and am
lonesome. He won't help me dc the dishes
or anything like that, and have to wait
on him like he was a 2-year-old kid.
When he gets angry with me he says
nobody else would have had me but him.
and that all the men I ever went with
were no good. I am not a prize beauty
but am attractive enough that men adj
m1re me. I only knew him three months
oefore we were married and I guess I
didn't give him enough competition. I
have often read about the vanity of men.
but never knew 1t was true. NV man
sure loves himself and has he got pride?
He needs waking up. I think I can do
1t by walking out one of these days and
let him miss someone to do things for
him. I've threatened to do this, but he
says he won't change, even if I do; that
he never intends to get crazy about any
woman.
was married before, when I was quite
young and my other husband made over
me constantly and did everything to try
t omake me happy. My present husband
doesn't even make a good companion. He
won't talk and when he does say anything.
~ is 10 DIdS dDOuI WIleIG ue Deen ana
what he has. He won't allow me to have
my own IDEAS on any subject and 1t
doesn't do any good anyway, because he's
always right and you might as well say
so right off the bat and save your breath.
tell you, Miss Lee. it's men like him that
drive women to step out. And in spite of
all the grabbing have done in this letter,
I love him dearly. I just want to wake
him up though. Should stick around
until he gets some sense or shall ! leave
With your sense of humor, Polly
anna. your fire and spirit, all OF
which have been displayed in your
letter I would say you were per-
fectly capable of putting the young
benedict in his place every once in
while and quite decisively. I know
there things must be boring to you
ana it certainly does stir up ones
self esteem to have anyone say you
couldn't have gotten anyone else
anyway, like he was the big hearted
Charlie and took you off everybody's
else hands, but then he seems to be
a pretty good sort after all. He
gives you comfortable security, a
nice stable character to have
around. He is serious and takes life
and marriage as something far diff
ferent than do most young hus-
bands. I'm a little afraid he is
taking it more like a bad case of
smallpox rather than nice amusing
interesting game of cross word
puzzle.
Stay with him. He's really nice
and you can make the best of a few
unpleasantnesses, 1 can tell by your
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