The Washington times., 1928-11-16
n o t e d Authority
Gives Advice
to Girls
Ry Reatrice Fairfax

StT A donne mobile" declares
II the dashing and unprincipled
Duke Of Mantua in Nerdi's opera,
''Rigoletto."
woman is ficlsler' or Woman
q changeabler tee words may be
translated. Surely many a young
man echoes this sentiment when
he finds himself utterly unable
to figure out why the old girl
he loves acts as sire does act and
says what she says.
My correspondent who signs the
following letter Eve" like other
daughters of Eve, occasionally
says no when she means yes, ana
acts coldlys toward her sweetheart
when her heart is warm with al
lection for him But how is ne
TO know it!
Dear Miss Fairfax:
'My boy friend and / quit !
going together several months ago,
because / didn't believe an excuse
he gave me. Later, found out
1t was true so I apologized to him.
ttHe asked to take me places
many times after that. but al
ways refused him. Now when we
meet he acts. very friendly-in
fact. he acts as though he would
like to go with me. but is afraid
/ would refuse him again. OL
all my boy friends. think like
him best.
rs there any way could show
him that I still care and would
like to go with him again? act
friendly toward him always.
Would it be proper to ask him to
come and see me? I shall look
forward to your reply. EVE
Dear Eve, ] am afraid that in.
this case, you, like your primitive
namesake. are to blame for the
s.peck of trouble you are in.
You. yourself, made the mistake.
You refuse to believe the honest
exclamation your friend gave.
Then you found he was right
had told YOU the truth-and YOU
had to apologize. Cor it shows your
nride does not altogether run
awav with your affection and
sense of fairness and Justice.
But after the apology, when YOU
ana he made. up and began all
over again. whv did you refuse
his Invitations? Those invitations
and attempts to pay you some
attention, showed frlendiy'
amiable spirit and generous DIS
nosition. But you always re-
fused him. That Is mot SO
good" Eve!
The average young man, tfeate1
IN that high handed way. wecid
he likely to drop the girl ana
seek companionship among friends
less frigid. How is he to know
that Won like him best or all
vour 'sboy friends? He is not
nnind.reader. Eve. Would he not
be justified in concluding that al
though YOU do condescend To
sneak to- him. you do not care
TO go on with the ff1endsnlp'
since vou refused his invitations
and overturesi
And now. although he "acts as
though he would like" to go with
you again. he hesitates. No won.
der,
You ask. Eve, whether 1t
would be proper to. ask your
friend to come to see you. Rather,
Is it not your duty to- do so? :
There is only one way TO win
and hold friends. That one way
is TO ne ROOd Lf1enu. Ine only
way to win and hold love is TO
love and be lovable Others can
not tell what we are thinking
and dreaming and hoping. They
Judge us by what we say and
do.
While it is undignified and ,fu-
tile to run after the young man
whom you "like best of all, your
boy-friends on the other hand,
coldness amounting to rudeness,
caprice and peevishness are equally
foolish. A wholesome fifty-fifty
con1radeship with sympathetic,
responsive II companionabiIty, IS
the golden medium OF friendly ar
fection of a girl for man.
l hope, my dear Eve. that like
true daughter of that other
Eve. you will let affection and
honesty win over false pride and
fickleness. and will show your
friend. by accepting his invita-
tions. asking him to your horne.
and gracious consideration. hat
you value his friendship and
would love to go on being
friends.