The Washington times., 1928-10-06

Youthful loveis tragedy as well
as joy; agony as well as bliss!
Who has not suffered from I'M
happy lover Sometimes the ex-'
periencea is shallow and short
lived. but often it las. saddening
days that should be happiest.
1 do not wish to be pessimistic5
but it is better to face facts and
admit that a large proportion Of
young men and women are UNI
happy in their search for romance
and a life-mate. There are some
who go from the cradle to the
grave without really being loved.
My statement that most young
people experience unhappy love
may seem. an exaggeratlon. But
ask yourself, dear Anne or Alice.
Betty or Jean, whether you were
not miserably in love before you
were II? Or at least, did you not
fancy yourself in love? And that
is quite as serious, for the time
being.
Is it not true that his face
haunted YOU. his voice thrilled
YOU the fascinating dream of him
came between you and your work,
your studies. your good times?
The companionship of other boys
meant nothing to you; life was
empty and Dire. Y because you
could not win him. And he dld
not even know You caIedl
Or. il he cared. parents inter-
fered = you were too young I'M
suited to fach 9other-he was as
yet mableSto support wife-you
and he were separated. Any one
OF these circumstances may have
cri7sFnd the tender little romance.
Possibly you and he married.
Then came disiiIusionment be-
cause both were toe irresponsible
TO make success of the partner
ship. Ese-- happy marriage mas
moments Of failure. And cares
and re sponsibilities of married
love always brings worries and
self-denial.
Is love worth while. yoll may
ask. since it includes so mucn
I'M 1as n ness. Slra,Y. the suffer
ing of hopeless love is utterly
wasted. What good can it bring!
Nv answer Is: Even unrequited
love is worth while and precious.
beca use love. in itself. Is the great
motive power and inspiration OF
this old world Of ours.
Disappointed lovers = Snake
speare and George Washington
and Abraham Lincoln and count
less others-with youthful misery
in their hearts laid the foundation
of their future greatness and
served mankind with genius that
lowered through hurt love.
/ shall not mention names OF
the living to do SO would ne
unkind! But / am thinking OF
distinguished aviatrix. also Of
great actress and A world famptis
opera singer. all of whom Were
gpurred on to their success by
hopeless love, To forget the
pain of a broken heart we work
ceaseiessly and struggle tn
greater heights.
One of these women have
mentioned mas married. The new
utterly charming self that emerged
after her agony of love attracted
a romance wiser. more under
standing and enduring. And she
fx happy with her comrade nus
band. The other two find ina
personal but thrilling Joy in their
work and success.
Love. even though unrequited
never leaves yo9 where il, fin@s
Won. II IL be real loRe-and i.V
that ] mean unselfish in its mo-
tive--it will leave YOU finer more
interesting and charming.
In other days a girl who was
disappointed in love had dark
thoughts or going into decline
and Inspiring an epitaph on her
tombstone like that of Ben Bolts
Alice! The modern girl feels Just
as deeply. but she turns Ter
thoughts into more wholesome
channels. She throws herself into
the work OF her political club or
pet charity when she is diSap-
pointed in love. or takes up living
or opens A tea room
The wretchedness of crush.-!
love forces q girl 10 look outside
herself for her interests and gives
her tender sympathies. under
standing OF all suffering every
where-enabies her to seek ami
find little joys and humorous re-
lief. in everyday happenings,