The Washington times., 1928-07-14
Happy Marriage
Encounters
Drudgery
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems
81 Love and Marriage

AN AutuOFAEy 0M GA
OF Love and Marriage
should 4 husband and wife be
willing slaves?
Eyes, if their marriage is to
be happy and successful, insists
4 certain prominent divorce judge.
ssMoney-it's nothing" insists
the Judge, "as far as happy mar
riarA IL concerned. I like q
young girl better If she has no
money. That is what / tell young
men. If her people are good and
she is willing to start on little
and be a siaye--yes, said
EIAVE--to her home, they viii
get ahead and be Immensely
happy.
when I say a woman should
Be q slave" he adds, II mean
that she should serve the pur-
poses Of the home. Even IL she
has wealth, she should direct
each bit of its organization.
The judge then goes on 70
explain that his remarks apply
as much to q husband - to
wife and tells of divorce granted
because the husband refused to
take his turn walking the floor
in the middle of the night with
his angrily-yeIling offspring.
Do you agree that there cannot
be lasting happiness In marriage
unless both partners are prepared
60 be willing slaves to their home!
Slavery" according to one die
tionary definition. Is extremely
hard or laborious toil-drudgery.
How many modern girls would
look forward willingly to married
years Of extremely hard, laborious
toll and drudgery, for loves ealKe5
How many are willing to endure
nnonotony, IL need be- poverty
whatever experiences lie ahead
while their marriage Is working
tts way to success?
'sI,m tired of work, yawns
Betty, with one eye or the clock,
one on her typewriter. What 9
anap It would be to get married..
If Betty marries, you may be
sure she win sleep mornings while
hubby gets his own breakfast ana
makes his early train. When he
returns she win spread before him
4 delicatessen dinner--anything
nhe can throw together after the
bridge club or the last closeup OF
her movie hero! And she viii
pity herself because her husband
q grouchy, her home depressing!
Betty has an idea that happi-
ness consists in q soft snap -
In laziness and luxury, flattery
and self-indulgence. Yet those
who seek happiness along that
trail never find 1t, because II IL
not there. What fun do slackers
get out of life? It is the worker,
recognizing that job is hard, go
ing al 1t with upturned sleeves, adj
venturel And this truth applies
20 Tinarriagei
"The first marriage IL almost
always unsuccessful, 30 why not
get It over with"
This philosophy led one g1rl l
knew into marriage. It was her
wedding gift to her husband!
Needless to say, the marriage was
not success.
The fiery flame of heart to
heart, the electric thrill of love is
sweet. But love includes also self
sacrifice, self-denial. daily deeds
performed with cheerfuiness FOR
the sake Of q loved one!
TO remain happily married IS
m art. success In this as In
every art. calls for drudgery, in
finite patience. self-control-and
infinite yearning to succeed.
when two people are married
and have children there can never
really be a divorce-you just cant
ignore the fact that a marriage
exists. ;.
That is the way Alice reasoned
things out several years ago when
Jim was slipping away from her
and ugly rumors reached her OF
his affairs. She studied the sit
nation. Wherein had she failed?
she separated from her husband
because she could not counte-
nance, for the sake of herself or
her children. the life he was lead
Ing.
Finally. mutual love for the chill
dren brought the two together
again and led to better under
standing and finer friendship.
my first honeymoon lasted only
three days" Alice laughed the
other day. 1--WE went to Niagara
Falls. / dragged Jim there. He
said he wouldn't go, but ne did,
But our second honeymoon has
been delightful. We are still very
happy"
Patience. tact. forgiveness. per-
0istence. tolerance brought tri'
umph to this marriage.
Then there !s the true story
OF the girl who put up with the
laughter and razzing OF all her
friends at college because her
beau was a waiter working mis-
way through school.
She waited for him until her