The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-06-25
Famous Expert
Gives Timely
Advice
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage

Love and Marriage
'.There probably never was a
marriage that was satisfactory to
al unconcerned. wise philcso-
pher remarked the other day.
Someone criticises every match.
It may be there is too much diff
ference in ages TO suit that some
one. nnconcerned, or difference
in faiths, or the bridegroom lacks
money or the bride social stand
Ing.
1t il well to remember, however,
the important thing Is that the
two most concerned should be
happy and contented with each
other. is it not kind. as we'll as
wise for outsiders. including rela-
tives, to refrain from interfering
unless a marriage lacks every ele.
fnent OF success and safety?
Dear Miss Fairfax" writes
Repentant Brother. About six
months ago my sister fell in love
with a young man of another faith.
1t was against all our wishes that
she went with him, although he
does not resemble his nationality
ut all.
I'VE did a very unwise thing
we made her give him up. She
was very downhearted and Wouldn t
talk to any of us for two months.
She would not look at another
man, until recently, when she
started going with wonderful
chap.
The thing is this: Now /. am
engaged to a girl of another faith,
and sister Is having her revenge.
She vows that il ! marry the girl
Hne viii leave home and take up
some kind of work that viii wreck
her life.
What can we do? Shall we
try to bring about reconciliation
between her and her former sweet
heart? / can never give up my
fiancee. Now for the first time we
realize what 3 great wrong we
committed. Please advise us soon.
Fools rush in where angels fear
Z u. y
played the fool in coming between
your sister and her fiancee without
fully weighing all the facts of the
case.
Tolerance, democracy. live and
let i've are the clarion calls for
old and young. these days. The
modern home is q democracy, not
an absolute despotism.
Mothers should guide rather
than discipline their children, de-
clares Mrs. Evangeline Lindbergh.
One of the finest fathers in the
world said recently to me: Par
ents should not try to dictate to
children in the matter of marriage.
Thee should merely counsel, ana,
Of course stand by ready to help.
If the wisest modern parents re-
train from forcibIy ordering the
lives of their children. and neither
try to i've their lives for them,
nor hold them back from the
great. constructive experiences and
lessons of life, then certainly 1t Is
not for a brother, however good
his intentions, to play car over
his sisters destiny.
You did your sister a great
wrong. ] know you realize TINS
now. Have you apologized to her
frankly and unreservedly for the
mistaken stand you took? That
much you owe her and your own
self-respect.
Have you apologized to the man
she loves or did love? That also
YOU owe him. This retribution on
your part, practical proof of your
repentance, may lead to recon
Citation between the lovers, II
they still care
1t may be that the attachment
between them was fleeting and
could not last save as famed to a
flame by your opposition. In that
caAe lasting harm has not been
done. 1t NAV be your sister now
prefers her new friend.
She should remember that two
wrongs do not make one right.
Her revenge is as uncalled for, as
pefemptory and intolerant as your
former attitude | feel sure that
when she realizes you are doing
all you can to atone for the
trouble you have made she will
forgive you and withdraw her
opposition to your marriage. For
she is your sister and really,
truly wishes your happiness, am
sure.
I sincerely hope that your fam.
fly tangle of mistakes and misun
derstandings may be cleared away
by sensible, tolerant measures and
unselfish affection, and that both
your romance and that of your
sister will lead to lastingly happy