Evening star., 1928-02-07
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This Is keen question. II is not a
matter limited TO department stores nor
salesclerks. II strikes deep into educa-
tion: How 10 avoid the habit Of depend
encv. In childhood IT'S natural, and
mothers apronstrings are always there
to cling 70. Some persons may have
general habit of dependency because
they have never been taught 10 do for
themselves. In the old days it was good
form for girls TO be clinging: they were
expected 70 and they followed the ira
cition.
But usually it is a special kind Of
habit. Probably these very girls are
pretty independent In insisting upon
controlling their own time and pleas
ures. Many people are notoriously lazy
with their minds. They won't do any
thinking that they don't have to. It's
30 much easier TO ask somebody who
knows than To find out for yourself.
This is a common complaint among
teachers II there IS bright boy or
gil IN the class, he or she Is constantly
asked questions by the clinging vines
The matter Is important because 1t ap-
plies so generally. It starts early: as
the twig Is bent, the trees inclined
These s1op-girl clinging vines should
Tore their habit Of dependency has come
70 interfere with their Jobs.
As for cure. ] know of no general
remedy, for there hasn't been as general
a recognition OF the disease as # de-
serves. But there are few hints in the
training of the young In sound mental
haoils Independence Is part Of keep
ing mentally 1T. II Is inevitable that
We GO lot o. learning by the question:
ai5o answer method It's rood method
J! nol p4sficd 700 far But the find
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cU'DFab IT is ~ make people ask their
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HSE yourself another" and find the
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'ai ''ai "r'FEF, 'she makes her own de-
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