The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-08-21

what does II all meang Iha1
marriage is no longer a respect
ed institution, wherein fidelity
is the keynote to all the hap
piness to be gained therefrom? That
men and women both are becoming
increasingly immoral? Or that they
are becoming more open with their
friendships with the opposite sex,
that it is merely friendship and
that, because there is nothing to
hide in the affair, they refuse to be
clandestine, and as a result get
themselves talked about. I don't
know. am waiting to be told.
It's Not Unusual
Whatever it is, it's more or less
widespread, if I am to judge by
my correspondence.
There are so many things that IL
can be attributed to, and like to
think that the one about being open
ard aboveboard with friendships is
the correct answer in most cases.
But some Of the letters indicate dis
satisfaction, a lack of companions
ship, a loneliness resulting there
! from, unwillingness to take up re-
| sponsibilitieS Of marriage ana an
utter disregard for the feelings of
the husband or wife, whichever the
case may be. But more than any
OF these, a selhshness that is mex
cusable.
Self Not Sole Factor
AS soon as you marry, YOU cease
to think of just yourself, and every
thing that you do must be thought
about from two angles. Your own
and that Of your husband. And
after there are children, there are
three angles to be considered.
In most cases, nowadays, the mar
riage was contracted with full con-
sent Of will on the part of the con-
tracing parties. If there are diff
flculties to be endured, unpleasant
ness and hardships, it is too bad
you are at least half respon sible for
the situation. Be a good enough
sport to stand by until they pass
over. Trials, in most cases merely
help you to find your true character.
to strengthen you, make you more
tolerant and understanding.
Don't give up at the first barrier
and say to yourself What's the
useP" There is plenty, if you lust be
sporting about it,
have a pathetic letter from a.
woman who is in such a predica-
ment, She says:
Dear Miss Lee: Why make the man the
ougaooo IN all cases when the expression
! a man never runs around with a mar
req woman for any good" is used? I say
| mat there are instances where YOU or
! whoever made that statement Is wrong.
Men as a rule are better sports all the
| way through than women. When a man
! finds he no longer loves a woman. she
| WINES, cries and generally makes herself
and everyone around her miserable. She
| housekeeper. but love is love. When one
loves one loves, and when love is dead it's
When a woman turns a man down the
| majority of them. even though they love
dearly. take II with ,their. heads up and
realize You can not love someone Just BE- Be-
| cause 1t Is your duty to do so.
who does pot o1s Ssr wl Gb0
no fault of his. He is kind. considerable
| and works for me. I simply don't love
| him and that's all there is to it. I do,
| however. love another man who IS married,
and has a child. Up until two years ago,
| We used to see each other occasionally
| and he always treated me with the utmost
| respect. know 1t was wrong, but I loved
! him and still do. He also loves me and
would get a divorce and marry me, but IT
would break my mothers heart. She is
| bitterly opposed to divorce. We have loved
one another now for 1--WE years. II it
| wasn't love it would have worn itself out
! by now. PATIENT.
Your case does not prove that
married men go with women other
than their wives for any good, my
dear. Surely it can be doing no
good, that the friendship has made
you unhappy, that you no longer
love your husband, that you suffer
terribly, as you said in your letter.
Why do you think Of your mother.
in the case of the divorce rather
than your child and your husband7
They should be your first considera-
ton, it seems to me. No one can
advise you what to do. You must
think that out for yourself. There
are too many complications.