The producers news. [volume] (Plentywood, Mont.) 1918-1937, 1928-01-20
MARRIAGE is A CONDITION
Dear Miss Flo:

Dear Miss FlO:-
| have been married only a year
and am still very much in love with
my husband, but | don't believe he
cares for me any longer. Before we
were married he was the most won
derful sweetheart in the world. And
now he has changed completely! Why
he never tells me he loves mo-Or
that he thinks | am pretty-Or that
look nice. He never brings me can
dy or flowers or suggests taking me
to a place of amusement, unless | ask
him to. And That the point want
him to do those things without being
asked. When | tell him he !lOesn't
love me he laughs and tells me I'm
silly. How can | make him more at
tentive? D. ID.
The biggest disappointment-the
greatest disillusion of life-according
to new brides-comes in the first year
of marriage-the year of readjust-
ments. When she sees that lovely
thing romance with HIM
slowly slipping away, and her marri-
age becoming dull, uninteresting and
prosaic-she feels that her world is
slipping from under her feet. And
because she was led to believe, from
the ardOr with which her huband
woOed her that he would be an etern-
al lover and would spend most of his
time telling her how lovely and beau
tiful and wonderful she is, and how
much he adOres her she feels abused
and that she has been inveigled into
matrimOny under false pretenses.
And my advice to every bride
when she reaches that stage in mar
ried life, is to repeat to herself man,
times day, Marriage is a condition
not theory"
1t is a cold hard, unimaginative as
sertiOn land it brushes away with on
gesture of common sense all the ros
cOlOred dreams and romances an
fairy tales of courtship, and leave
the bride facing the reality of MARI
; age as it is.
Millions of women are making ther
selves miserable because their hus
bands never make love to them-neV
er pay them a compliment
give any sign that they still love an
want them, above all things, to b
happy. If women would only abanC
don their theories about what matr
! mOny should be, how husbands shout
: act, and accept the truth that ve1
! few men are sentimentalists, the
- would save themselves a lot of nee,
7 less suffering, tears, broken heart
: nervous prostration, and put the d
. vOrce courts out of business.
For few men are sentimentalist
and most of them feel like fools whe
= they are love making seriously
c they get the ordeal over with
= quickly as possible. When he ma
n ries woman he considers that he HI
II given all the proof necessary of h
"a devotion. Otherwise, why should
re undertake to be her shopping al
ID board ticket.
S And having married her-he e
D. poets her to realize that he isn't goil
a. to talk about it all the time!
~ If you are wise, you will hand
your husband with tact and diplom
H. cy, rather than by arguing and qua
u reling with him over his his seemil
y Indifference. For any attention Y
d may get with tears and quarrels a
Ill Mysteries is not worth while. Try
take your husband as he is-goC
kind and generous. Try to be hap
" with him even though he is a dur
u lover. For his demonstrations
"a love are in the form of kindnesses a
checks. Though you may be starv
emotionally, you are sure of the me
substantial things of life.
And remember that it is the WON
who can forget how she would like
to be, and deals with it as it is, W
makes a success of marriage.