The Washington times., 1928-12-01

There is another kind OF So
called love--the Cleopatra type
which is only a thirst Tor atten,
tinns. flattery, caresses from all
man. especially those who ouy
love with gifts. But this mixture
az vanity and selfishneSs mas
nothing to do with the wholesome
desire for loving mate. home
and children. which is inherent IN
every normal man and woman.
More than mere desire is needed
In realize this ambition. "A girl
who achieves happy, successful
marriage thinks hard, works hard,
understands men and women.
cuItiyAtes the tender loveliness OF
the understanding heart. No
wonder she is happy. despite the
ups and downs of life.
A letter from Peggy lies on my
desk.
"Of absolutely no Importance"
you may comment on reading it.
Yet this world is filled with silly,
warm hearted Peggys, who in
variably lose out when 1t comes
4 to romance, because they do not
us the intelligence and under,
standing they were born with.
Was too hot-headed?' ~ Peggy
writes II am very young and
very much in doubt. I've been.
going with a boy and love him.
Buf / heard he liked another girl
asked him and he said he liiled
her but not as Well as he liked
me. After that ] wouldn't speak
to him.
Where oh, where is your com.
mon sense, Peggy? Isn't it
natural that a boy should like
All likeable and attractive girls?
Doesn't every girl like likeable
boys2 Do you expect to change
htsfnan nature? All you will ac-
complIsn. will be the loss of that
boys friendship and admiration.
i am glad YOU are very young
Peggy. For there is time TO pun
yourself together. Next time
tell him how glad you are he
likes nice girls. including your
eelf--this with twinkle in your
eve. Then of course. III you
make yourself the daintiest. most
agreeable. incest girl he knows.
the chances are you will con
tinle to hold first place in his
affections.
Many a man has written me OF
failure with the woman be loved
which he could easily have
avoided by studying and learning
to understand her needs and hap.
pfness.
Mans ignorance OF womans
nature" writes Harriet Beecher
Stowe, sis a cause of a great
deal of unsuspected cruelty.
which he practices toward her"
Possibly, we of today, can
learn something from the older
civilization of Chinese girls. for
instance. realize early in life that
If they are to be happy as women.
they must become efficient eco
nomical home-makers and house
keepers and bring wisdom to
the tnMder relationship of mar.
riage.
A Chinese girl Is carefully
taught coquetrY that SHE Way
charm her husband. as web as
patience and the lure OF modesty.
And both men and women are
schooled In adaptabiiity and
taught to make qualification OF
pleasure wait on righteousness
and Consideration for others.
SAYS Sir Robert Hart. after so
the West marriage il like taking
a boiling kettle and setting it
aside TO cool. while China mar
riage Is like setting a kettle on
the stove and bring II to boil"
The wise girl, however. fash
ionably short her skirts may
he. sees toSA that her manners
are never short. She knows that
a dowdy appearance inartist,c
use OF makeup wrinkled stock.
ings, rundown heels, neglect OF
personal cleanliness, the habit CT
interrupting and countless other
details trifling in themselves may
repel the man she would like 10
interest.
II she is married she knows
how important it is to look
delectable. She realizes the power
of a soothing voice, 30 she con-
trolls her temper and cultivates
vivacious and gentle ways.
I know a couple who have
numerous difficulties to meet, yet
despite an occasional clash Of
temper they are really happy?
why? Because both cultivate and
appreciate the understanding
heart.
Mrs Jack chose her husband
from the three men who wished
to marry her, because he was not
only attractive to her. but ambitl.
Gus. kind and responsible.
II never manage Jack" Mrs.
Jack confided to me. II just
trust him. / made sure he was
Trustworthy before | married him.
Il make him comfortable, give
him food, home and surroundings
he likes. try to bring up the baby
beautifully. But, above all else,
let him alone"
AS woman, your business is
to love. Do you wish To make a
success of your business? Then
do not trust altogether to your
feelings. although deep feeling is
beautiful and worthwhile Let
your intelligence work with your
emotions and 50 cultivate the
understa nding heart, which will
bring joy. peace and success tc
you and the Dearest Man"