Douglas daily dispatch., 1928-03-17


of kissing and being kissed if it had
not happened The average unclaimed
female Of 80 has repressed herself SO
long that it would be difficult to relax
and get much fun out of spooning or
petting, if you will, unless she had a
good deal of previous experience. Very
lew II any spinsters of 80 have had,
else they would not be spinsters.
l am glad that the flapper has the
initiative and get-up that she has 1t
is not as easy for the men to hand
them Zine" as it was the girls of the
last generation She is able to give and
take and her experience with boys and
men makes her a better Judge Of real
men. do not mean to infer that
girls should pet with every man they
meet, not that there is anything wrong
with kissing but there is a good deal
wrong with too many men. If they
were as clean and decent as the aver
age flapper that would be another
story. The wrong attitude is given to
boys by OFNGS who give their sons
the impression that it is alright for
them to go as far as they like if they
can get away with it, but the ''nices
girls do not pet.
If the OFMS would take as much
time and patience training their boys
to be as sweet and nice as they expect
the girls to be there would be very
little sex laXness. 1t is very rarely
that the girl takes the initiative.
You are told that men always have
respect for mice girls but 1 can truth
fully say that I have never gone with
any man more than twice that he did
not attempt to kiss me and many times
the old truSty hatpin had to be
brandished to prevent it, That usually
ended the swain's visits.
In retrospecting now it seems to me
that the only girls I know who are
! spinSterS are those like myself who
spent their time waiting for Mr. Right
to come along-they are still waiting.
Those who spooned and flirted and
were not so prudish are all married
and trying to find reasons why Mary
and Betty and Rose "who are such nice
girls and would have made good wives
and mothers are still unmarried
A young brother of mine once Of
fered another mice girl' and myself
some advice. He said, "you two would
make good wives but you don't go
where the men are and keep after
them. The frivolous James who do not
know beans are carrying off the prizes.
The men will not come hunting you
up"
My ten years experience in the busi-
ness world have shown me that, alasI
that is all too true. I have seerI widows
go after fine men and take them away
from sweet young things with no ex-
! perience. Men seem to be Sheep-like
and follow the crowd.
Anytime you hear a male say that
he would not marry girl that has
been kissed and fondled by other men
| just take it from me that he is one of
the type who has to get his face
slapped frequently for trying to take
advantage of girls. A great deal Is
said about "men kissing and telling"
men don't, cads do, and then what of
it? Whenever you hear man MAX
ing disparaging remarks about a girl
find out whether that girl has slapped
his face or turned him down. Is it
any worse for girl to pet than boy?
If it is harmful practice can only
one party to the offense be be-
Smirched?
My suggestion is that instead of
amount of time and energy be spent
telling the flapper's brother how to
behave himself. The petting would
have no serious results if the hoy
friend" was as clean and sweet men.
tally and physically as the flapper.
The girls who get into trouble are
usually those who do not spoon pro-
miscuously but the sweet young things
| F1I
some cad who processes to love them.
There are two types of girls who get
Seduced, one the type whose parents
are lax and exercise no supervision
whatever over their children and the
J girls who have too much supervision
and chaperonage- and are brought up
with the idea all natural impulses are
wrong and must be suppressed; that
the origin of life is something to be
ashamed of, that one standard of
morals is correct for the female and
another standard for the male.
! In conclusion I. take off my hat to
! the flapper for her wholesomenesS. She
knows that a nice, healthy body is
something to be proud Of, that ankles
and neckS are healthier exposed to the
fresh air than covered up. She has
developed not only her body but her
mind and now meets the boys on their
own grounds She doesn't need hat
pin to protect her Wnen she goes
walking or riding with the young
swain He knows enough about her
athletic ability to keep his place, and
any way is beginning to regard her i'll
! the light of a pal instead of female.
/ Again say all power to the sweet
young flapper with her sane, whole
some ideas.
ANTIQUE.
ATTENTTON TORETEV