Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1928-02-18
Reply.

This Is SO sincere and typical letter
called OUT BY my suggestions on d.sci-
pine and training. tina: the reply ad-
dressed to one applies 20 many. making
allowance for slight differences in the
cases. II also gives ne chance 70 say
that letters often contain corHden.is!
matters which must be omitted or de-
tails changed III order 10 respect them.
Your case. madam. ike many an
other. presents points that are typical
and points tina. are special. The most
typical IS that mos, children. boys more
commonly than girls. respond %
group discipline better than 70 a direct
control by the pareil. or parents. Camp
and schools thus have q peculiar value
FOR them. Why Because " submit
ting IL school or camp rule the child
feels less ketIIlv the Welding 20 an
other, he or she IS sharing IL COM
mon discipline. not something inverted
and directed against hin. or her per-
Sollally That IS ere u! the reasons
why the oNiv child IS ap: 30 grow Up
spoiled or se,f-viileG.
What is not s., typical is tha. this
refractory behavior started only year
or SO ago. Ycu suggest that Tire FAC.
that father and mother are at Odds
about the matter this lack .. unity s
always bad though often unayosdao.el
may BE- IL pa-; responsible: for yo2-
Older daughter. who grew Up before
this difference vas - marked. escaped
This attitude o. rebellion. As rule,
children who ohStlrs:eiy oppose dis
eipAne show /: much earlier ana quite
constantly, and by The time they reach
~ ~ 49, a -
the rua6 ~ improvement,
As between control BY fear and ccy-
troll by kindness and understandings. ny
vote IS all FOR The latter. II The child
narrn; bond .. love can * saved. :.la.
Is The precious thing: and real respect
Is more apt - sr>w cut a. love, tnotssA
ihe show .! X may ee imposed by Scar
You are quite right III eNlxx.log ~
Sspect of child u that age. which GAN
harosy be expected % y yN,,ngSr child
\ respect az To age can es Cs>sN-
nlaaded or demanded. Il must ~ bait:
up OIL Natura. ttetsnS II is mart ~
larger bond. Some parents value
frank comK@nion$l,!p above reS,Nsrt
kut yoUr problem Is me Of the Hans.
constant and serious that arise. The
core Of the >is.atloH Is that certain
NpeS ~ sensitive ch!.6ysn rHars mega
U'cN ~ discipline They are Net vral~
" bad, II t<o often cgyN$$e6. thev Set
verse !; simply makes them ,i,.egt-
y feee,acNS and unhappy 70 -
"eo>Sed," as they rut Il. Yc., s,,.>.
somehow establish >o0r r;sAs u ;.e
authority. and IL takes endless iNatlenes
ami nne diplomacy ~ So II, Ncu can
ana perhaps In some caSs,S wa mast
use roUsher methods and t,.Sg override
the c0lidS Will, b.. you n,Sy sSay srx
COST
You mast ALSO consider that this
trait is 0n; al Ia the had. though ter
r'ely mENusen;ens and :rvna.ias Il
taxes almost - saint ei parent ~
coI@ With Il The director II \ SchsSN
Ter BOYS remarked IL me ct n e>,v Wn,
oeta'ed lake yo0r daughter, THAT
N'N'> onwslllnsneS> ~ Suelntt ~ GlSs!~
{ane has an element nj leadership aAss,t
Il; Vet he VIII he a eus.v and never a
seadeT unle>> he .sagu< u submit
repeat that sttr test " all dis
ciplme Is how u IS taken, THIS kind
NJ mental msdlSne NyWsS nct Accord
nts ~ What n IN Ii, bur how The ma
us'nt reacts, and that is alSo faeeSr In
All medicine MaA,ns u child submit
oot~asdN While remaining rree.tsystS
inside dteSnt help mach Xeu WILL alSc
notiCe that taere are SNMs rxfS,>sss.
often mist Kindly Disposed iiSe an aunt
W uncle ~ friend eg the family. Wn,
ernts out all she tetsll,,,uS traits "
shsld. and others WIN e!ns ,ut lne
g<sNl eneS
In war ea>e the au-yrar S>.,,N,;
seems 'ae e>>l NAY oUt tAe ratlSs j.
nid enough has saHwn thag she reacts
WELL to etsup d2Seqass,e and ,Sagspm-
ably would make a s,SNa adjustment
Rus consider thus also Is she W9,hns
ia So WIN she fesl that She Is eeius
sent away. OK that tsAls u eIle 81 The