The Washington times., 1928-05-21
Famous Author
Gives Advice
to Girls
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems 81
Love and Marriage


Lave and Marriage
very aubtie, delicate problem
81 friendship and love one which
many girl Is seeking to solve
presents itself III each Of the fol
lowing letters:
Dear Miss Fairfax:
have chtm who IS very,
very dear to me. Two years ago
she met d young man with whom.
she began keeping steady COM
pany She is Is. He is d year or
two her senior. She claims she
could never care for him that
he IS not her Ideal He has told
her he loves her and can never
love anyone else.
lis habits are not Of the best
ana he has very little education.
She Is wonderful girl-rhe
sweet pure type that many d man
il lookfng for. She has been
absolutely true to her friend and
would not even keep date with
another young man while she
VA going with him.
&ttte AyAtS Gt3O SIZE 9ut0 I'LL So
him for two weeks. She heard he.
was Keeping bad company and
actually saw him In this comp
knowing she had seen him ne
avoided her. He seemed to feel
guilty and did not even call her
IN
Should girl 60 out with 1
young man whose habits are not
of the best one who thinks little
Of promises. but who cares for
herr It may be friendship on her
part, but II certainly is not on his.
TROUBLED
And now comes the letter of
Anxious:
Dear Miss Fairfax:
About 4 year ago my mother
introduced me to b young man.
wo months later met him at
dance.
After that he came visiting
me quite often. Our families are
friends.
a while ago he went out
West. The week before he went
away he came to our house three
or four times. staying quite late,
talking il q friendly way to the
family.
He asked me to write. So /
answered his letter. Since last
September we have been CORES
spending regularly He sent me
very nice gift for Christmas.
Our letters are just friendly.
Bob, as shall call him. Is not
man who would fall for 3 flaD-
per. He doesn't like writing let
ters has not even written his
sister since he went away-yet
he writes me regularly.
ALI my family think Bob ii
taking me too seriously. Mother
says he's nice, but he ii looking
for wife. care for him only
as d friend.
He Is about thirty / am Sew
eYlfeen. DO YOU think I should
stop writing to him? think 1t
would BE kind Of hard to now.
don't you"
Dear Anxious and Dear Troubl-
81 IT u Just because girls ponder
these questions OF fairness and
kindness, trying to avoid hurting
another, that men love them SO.
For that Kindness is their mother
lAL6Et ia p EYCCtSSS NCAAASAAA
finding expression.
Perhaps your problems can best
be solved with the aid of Shake
speare's advice: To thine own
self be true. and it must fol-
low as the night the day, thou
canst not then be false to any
man. =
Al man who really wishes to
win q girl makes himself the kind
81 man who is worthy of her
first before demanding her un-
divided attention.
Last, we come to the question
asked In both letters: Ii it kind
to 20 with a man you believe Is
IN love with you when you merely
like him?
It may be fair enough to accept
his companionship occasionally.
But do not deceive him. Let him
know by your manner the tone OF
your letters, by all you say and
do. that you like him in a sisterly
way and as pal. but are not in
love. And go about also with
other young men. This Is fair to
him and yourself. il 1t not? and
does not encourage a man only to
hurt him later.