The Washington times., 1928-08-20
Love Authority
on a Vital
Topic
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of
and Marriage


.'If I live through this-if this
agony stops-I shall be happy ana
grateful all the rest of my lie,
even though may scrub floors Tor
q living"
This was the promise made to
herself by a girl 1 know when she
was very Ill. indeed. in great pam.
She had been spending an Au.
gust vacation in her childhood
hone-a sleepy, charming old
farmhouse on the bank of a. crys.
tal.clear river. She had devoted
the afternoon to visits to several
of her old friends who were now
newlyweIs. Each bride had
brought forth her best from her
larder to offer proudly to her guest.
To refuse would be disloyalty
or doubt OF a brides culinary skill,
SO my friend sampled each delicacy
enthusiastically. Little wonder
that the heat of an August day
and the excitement of looking up
pals of little girl days, combined
with nlarvelous seyen-layer cakes,
home made drinks, Ice cream,
candy and various dalntles
wrought havoc that evening.
OF course. she did get well, and
enjoyed a jolly vacation. Many
time since then, when she mas
found herself ready to despair
over some discouraging problem
or disappointment, her memory
has flashed back to that promise
made to herself, to be cheerful and
thankful Just for health and life
and freedom from pain. The
thought helps her relax, get q bet
ter perspective on her trouble,
whatever it may happen to be, and
find the sensible. successful way
out.
Young people are inclined to
be tense and strained in all
they think and do. They lack
perspective in looking at their
griefs and problems. An unhappy
love affair, failure to find a pub.
Usher for q first novel or poem,
lack OF promotion at school or
college seems to them a tragic
calamity, Eobbing life of all pos
eibility of joy and success, and
has actually driven more than
one young person TO suicide.
Yet had the heart-broken girl
a.. youth summoned common
sense and backbone to carry on,
refusing TO be downes1. that very
disaster of love or ambition
might have taught w0Hdrous les
sons OF sympathy, poise, under
standing, mellow philosophy, IN
snired a gay sense of humpr.
And in time such growth OF char
acter and charm usually leads
id an Infinitely more satisfying
love affair, to triumphant sue
cess.
some of the best plays and
novels ever written went begging
from -onie publisher er producer
to another for several years. lt
is said of Grover Cleveland tnal
for one year after he hung our
his single as a lawyer he had
not one client. But he persisted
with calm determination and re-
111sed to admit he was beaten.
Eventually success is inevltapie
Tor one with this temperament.
Do not take yourself, your
troubles. your problems, your
work. YOUR love, too solemnly.
Do not permit yourself to be
unset by the i'll temper or irrita-
bility Of others. Just relax. A
long walk. sound nights sleep,
good laugh will give you a
sounder outlook on life. Things
are far more hopeful than they
seem to you when you are tense.
And just round the corner. sue.
cess may be awaiting you. Wait,
carry on and see.
What il you are poor? Nearly
all worthwhile folks have been
poverty stricken at some time.
They won out and you can win.
Live sensibly. wholesomely,
then you viii find courage TO
meet your problems good humor.
eddy.
Said a famous and distinguished
Woman. lit is not the cards fate
deals out to you that count but
what YOU make OF the cards YOU
hold in your hands"
Begin today to relax. suppose