The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-01-19
Love Expers on
Troublesome
Problem |
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and MARRIAGE

An Authority on the Problems ol
Love and MarriaRe
FEW weeks ago an article
appeared in this column on
the subject 81 long engagements.
which brings the following com
menE from w. P
Dear Miss Fairfax
ye lust read your article
about Betty and Jack telling
how long ngasements ARE too
likely Is end III broken hearts.
Betty Ill IL is at the begin
Ming Of long engagement, un-
less she decides to accept invita-
fiohs from other young men,
while I'm at the end of = long
engagement. If I were in Betty's
place would do entirely different
from what have done.
Il have kept steady company
with my friend for five years. !
have seen him each evening. He
works every night until $50. 50
we never 20 to entertainments.
He win not even allow me the
company Of other girls. claiming
that il 1 90 out with them they
win fIfrt with other men and
win forget about him.
II have stuck to him despite I'll
this. because he loved me, and he
still does. There is not a thing
he would not do for me except
marry me. He buys me pretty
things. is very polite. very con-
aiderate, always a gentleman, and
we've never had single word
Ont Of the way for five years.
But we're not actually engaged.
He says some dav he'll marry me
when he has enough money to
buy i house and lot and all the
other things that 60 with 1t. You
NAV wonder why he hasn't any
money saved after five years.
But his father died and he's TAX
ine care OF his mother and two
little sisters. He doesn't want to
leave them until everything II
All right with them. But. my
dear. viii that ever be when they
have no other incon1e9
II love him and don't care Tor
other men. I've gone with him
SO long that I'd hate to go out
with Others and perhaps break up
with him. whereas. II wait an
other year or two It may be that
we can marry. He says we are
engaged between ourselves. But
what does that mean?
nd be willing to live in one
room and eat on a soapsbox just
70 be really and truly married.
I'd take his mother and sisters in
with me and I'd be "a good daugh-
ter-in.law. I'm easy. to. get along
with. Or I'd live at their house.
But his mother doesn't see It that
way. She will live with. no one
else and no one else. may: live with
her-and thar s-ti1at. She's a Won
fIerful wofnan--such good moth
Or that guess he hates to
leave her.
II have wonderful parents, too.
They like my friend very much,
but they don't want him to take
M all my time. yet get me no
where. / am "a and he is 30.
s.I'm not one who would win in
4, beauty contest. But do the
best I can with what have. I
dress neatly. don't drink, smoke
or swear. My friends says he is
proud of me.
II feel better with this off my
chest. I thank you for the good
advice you have given so many
girls. w. r
You are a loyal. patient friend
and sweetheart. my dear, to have
waited so long for the man you
love.
l agree with your parents that
you owe something to yourself as
well as to him. / am not going to
suggest to you, even in a joking
way. that 1928 is leap year. 1928
girls are far too clever to deprive
& man of his privilege of taking
the initiative. But a time comes
IN the course of every courtship
when q definite understanding and
clear cut engagement should be
established, with marriage decided
on In a reasonable length Of time.