The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1928-08-13
N B ted Authority
On q Serious
Problem
Bv Beatrice Fairfax

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Now and then it happens that
when j write Il letter of advice to
d girl who has sought my counsel
regarding her love problem in the
course Of time hear from her
again, thanking me for the help
] gladly offered. Such letters are.
always welcome, for I feel per-
eonal interest in and affection for
every girl who writes this column,
even though may not be able,
due to the thousands OF letters I
receive, to express that regard To-
each girl personally. So it is with
pleasure that / print Miss Red
Heads second letter to this
column:
Dear Miss Fairfax
Three years ago wrote you,
asking your advice about going
around with married man.
was then Just sixteen years old.
took your advice, although
found it hard, because ii was
"a love. gave him up and went
about with boys I knew. and
had a nice time, although could
only think Of them. as friends.
Two years later, however, the
man 1 had been in love with got
MS divorce. Since then 81 have
been keeping steady company
with him. But also made dates
with other young men until we
became engaged. We are to be
married this fall.
Here is my new problem: He
mas daughter s years old. The
court has awarded him CUSTODY
Of his little girl. I'm crazy about
her. but ! think it IL cruel Is
take her away from her mother.
Lee says that IL the babys
mother had been fit to care for
her the child would not have
been given him. Is that true2
He got his divorce on the grounds
of fnfideIity while she was living
with him.
= love him and love the
baby Vivian. But should / be 50
cruel as to deprive Audrey or
VfVians love? Lee viii not lei
Audrey even see Vivian for five
minutes.
Please give me you views on
this subject, as 1T means much
TO my future happiness. We are
All well fixed financially, so there
r. no problem as to who could
give Vivian the best chance.
am eagerly awaiting your answer.
RED HEAD.
Dear Red Head. / am SO very
glad that your problem. which
seemed tragic at the time Won
wrote me three wears ago, has
been happily solved. You did the
right thing. and that IN the long
run Is the only way to insure self
respect, peace. JOY and success.
Now another problem looms be-
fore you that IS always true IN
the university Of life. As soon as
Ne learn one lesson the next pre-
sente itself In this way We grow
and progress.
After three years you and your
1iance know each other well and
have tested the sincerity and
lasting quality of your love for
each btg1er At 19 you are better
able TO Judge the character OF
The man who attracts you so
strongly. IT would seem that
youf marriage has every chance
or success
ks for the little girl, YOU are
not responsible. dear. for fhe fact
That she is deprived of her own.
mother. The court decided that
question, doubtless very wisely,
and for the hest OF reasons.
Your fiance is correct In his state.
fnent that the. court would have
awarded the child To its mother
had the mother been considered a
eIitable guardian for 1t. So n
loving and fn0thering little Vivv
YOU win not Be deprivinS her Of
her mothers love. That II denied
her, not by you, not by her
father, but by the law.
What YOU can do Is prove your
self such a loving, understanding,
wise foster mother that she viii
not miss toe much her own
mothers affection. You can love
her and be good 10 her. not only
for her fathers sake, but for her
own AZ well. Try to make her
very happy.
You are very young at 10 to
mother six-year-old girl. You
will need all your wisdom. pa.
thence and affection. You will. /
know. guard yourself. so that not
the least shadow OF jealousy Of
your husbands love for his little
daughter can mar the harmony
Of your Household. Instead. let
the love that you and he share in
common for his little daughter be
still another bond drawing all
three of YOU closer together and
sealing the happiness of your