The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-08-11
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Poor Risk In
Life of Girl
BY MARTHA LEE

Pity the poor girl who is going
with G married man and believes he
is going TO divorce his wife and
marry her. It seldom, if ever, hap
pens There are exceptions, but only
to prove the rule.
Almost every married man is con-
scious of youth and attractiveness.
And if his wife is a nagger, unat-
tractive or disagreeable, the chances
are he is keeping his eye open for
someone who understands him."
do not mean to infer that most
married men are unfaithful to their
wives. I simply mean that they are
not immune to the attractiveness of
women other than their wives.
Girls Suffer Most
And the girls are usually the ones
who get the worst end of things,
even if the friendship has been a
harmless one. The men, thinking
themselves infatuated for a time,
promise all sorts of things. They say
they will divorce their wives and
marry this girl who understands
them so thoroughly. But they just
say those things. They seldom do
them.
There are too many things for
married man to lose in the process
Of the divorce. And besides, habit
is a strong thing, much easier to
make than it is to break.
Held by Wife Habit
And usually they have gotten the
wife habit by the time they start
philandering around. That leaves
the girl rather high and dry in the
matrimonial market. Because, in
spite Of everything, a single man
does not care particularly about
going around with a girl who is seen
with married men. No matter how
platonic the friendship, persons are
apt to believe things are bit ir-
regular under circumstances of this
kind
The girl, therefore, cuts herself
off from other points Of contact.
She causes herself no end of dis
agreeabel talk and certainly ruirs
her chances Of happiness.
I have a letter today from young
girl who is infatuated with a mar
ried man. Hers is the usual case
of promising everything and coming
through with nothing. She says:
Dear Miss Lee: have an old problem
which cannot solve by myself so / am
I am a young girl and have been going
with married man for long time. He
When speak of him getting a divorce
his same old answer is that he has been
thinking about 1t and that he is going
Of course, this subject is never mentioned
unless I bring It up -..,- .
and continue to so with him? Do YOU
think a man who would put things of
this long is sincere? DO you think, he
ever intends to do anything about II?
There you are-promises, talk, but
no action. I think, my dear, that
you had better break up with this
man. You are simply wasting your
life in waiting. Waiting is a good
thing, if there is something to look
forward to after the period of wait
ing is over. But can not see that
you have anything to look forward
to but loneliness and heart break.
And your resentment toward him
will grow as you see how he has
allowed you to believe in him, when
there was no faith or truth in his
statements.
1t is a very bad, a very hazardous
thing to go around with married
men. How would you feel if you
should marry him and he would
start a friendship with another
woman? If he is unfaithful to his
first wife, he will doubtless, be I'M
faithful to you.