The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-11-13

hardships that are to be gone
through, the same as she shares his
hardShips.
But there is one thing neither Of
them need put up with and that is
dishonesty. A man or woman who
will be dishonest about money mat
tiers will most assuredly be dishon-
est about personal affairs. Any love
or respect must have as its founda-
ton truth and faith and belief in
that person. Those are three requi-
sites to love. And when those
things do not exist, believe me, love.
does not exist.
Suspicion is usually brought
about. in personal affairs especially,
through jealousy. There are IN
Vulnerable cases where wife Is re-
earded with suspicion by her hus-
band for no reason, but merely be-
cause his jealous mind has na1scon-
strued perfectly legitimate and
innocent incident.
And many husbands and wives,
because they do love each other so
much, close their eyes blindly to
things that are too plainly before
them to be mistaken. And 1t Is a
matter of conjecture which Is the
right way. One person will say it is
better to be too suspicious than not
suspicious enough. That the tel.
low who closes his eyes is a sap OF
the first water. @
1 have a letter from woman To-
day who was one to blind herself To
things, but now, due to a gross and
unmistakable mark Of dishonesty,
has decided to make the break:
Dear Miss Lee-I have been married
twenty-four years and have daughter
"a. NV father was quite wealthy man
and my brother and I inherited all his
money following his death. He had set
aside an amount Of money for my daugh-
ter. sufficient to send her through col
lege, to go to her when she was through
high school. Most of his wealth was in
property, but I had nice income OF
money every month.
NV husband has never been much OF a
success in the business world. / set him
up in a business of his own once, and
after investing a large sum OF money In
it. 1t failed. In the meantime, he has
worked here and there. not making very
much at anything. We have never gotten
along very well. and in justice to the
other fellow, it may have been because I
expected too much. But after our daugh-
ter came, I decided would make the best
of things.
After my fathers death, we had, Of
course, a great deal more money than
my husband had ever seen in his life.
did not like scenes and positively desptse
Wrangling, so I was a bit too liberal with
the income. In the meantime, by the
time our daughter had graduated from
high school, our ready money was gone
and there remained only the property.
Taxes had gone up so much that 1t was
impossible to realize much from that. My
daughter, realizing the financial situation
land the marital one also) offered to
loan her money left by her grand
father for college, to us for q few years.
She was young, she said, and could walt
for her schooling. In the meantime, she
took a position, and has been working
ever since. She had saved several hun
dred dollars toward her schooling, be-
sides buying her own clothes.
Things had been going from bad to
worse, as regards my relations with my
husband. Finally one day we discovered
my husband had forged a check that
dissipated the entire amount of money
my daughter had savedl That was the
last straw. She turned against him Bit
terly for the first time, and needless to
say, hate him thoroughly. We have
never had divorce in our family, but I
feel that it would be far worse to continue
on through life with a man who would
rob his own daughter. What would you
advise? MISERABLE.
Leave him, of course. 1 do not
often advise that, but the man has
through twenty-four years proved
himself a no-account and now he
has proved himself a crook. You
have not stated what the money was
taken for or whether he had shown
any remorse or given any explain
alton for his act. There can she
nothing to excuse the fact that he
took the money from his daughter,
who has been SO unself1sh, but at
least there may be an explanation.
Don't allow the father of your
daughter to sink into the level of a
crook. See if you cannot do some
thing to help him straighten out
before he leaves. Perhaps, with a
promise of giving him chance to
make good, not only because of the
money but for the principle of the
thing, he might become something
for both of you to be proud of.