The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-10-10

financial power to make them hap
same time, that very act OF kindne
certainly is, is apt to bring those sa
discomfort later in life.
If boy, with a good education,
with health and talent is allowed
to "live off his parents" indefinitely,
1t is bound, in time. to kill his am
bition to ever make anything Of
himself. 1t is bound to affect his
outlook on life and the responsible
tiles of life.
One of the first and most I'M
portant lessons to learn is that each
and every one of us has definite
work to perform on this earth and
I don't mean finding things to
amuSe us constantly.
1t seems strange to me, that a
fe ner, who has had to struggle
through poverty and hardships,
make sacrifices and live through
lean years in order to attain finan-
cial independence, should consider
lit part of his paternal duty to see
that his son has nothing but ease
and luxury: that the parent who
has seen his own character built
I'D under the battles he has fought
with life, should surround his son
with shock abSorbers so that ne
might not have to become &C
ouainted with hardship and poverty,
not even enough to know the value
of a dollar.
The wrong he is doing that child
of his does not, unfortunately, END
in the home. 1t stretches out INTO
his everyday life, and all those who
come in contact with him are also
affected by his attitude, If not oil
rectly, at least indirectly.
Some day that boy will want to
MARRY. What has there been in
his life to prepare him for the hard
shins. the struggles of married life?
What has there been to make MIN
tolerant of others, thoughtful OF
others. responsible for others?
It is a wise mother who thinks
twice about her daughter becoming
serious with a boy Of this sort,
even though it may not be the boys
own fault. =,
have a letter from a girl VINO
IS in love with a young man OF TINS
+vpe. a thoroughly fine boy, ez-
cepting that he has never known
the responsibilities of life, has never
felt the sting of necessity.
Dear Miss Lee-I am very mucn IN loVe
with Young man whose home Is several
hundred miles from here. but the polnC Is,
I'VE known him for almost year anu
although he does not Work. ne traVels
all the time. his parents furnishing MN
the necessary funds. He has Travelled lor
the past FIVE years and says ne cannon
stand to stay in one place very long; thaV
he has not been home for more tnan
two or three weeks at time IN thls
period of five years.
MY parents, learning this. did not app
nrove. They believe there is something
wrong that he hasn't been home ana tnat
ne doesn't have enough ambition to make
his own living at his age. and be in
dependent of his fathers financial as
sistance. The longer think about that,
the more convinced am that 1t is true.
But isn't it really his parents fault for
doing this for him. even though they are
wealthy which have heard.
He doesn't stay in Indianapolis very long
at time, but when he is here. he is very
attentive and insists that I do not have
dates with anyone else. I wouldn't any
way, because can't see anyone else but
him. IE his letters, no matter how far
away he is. he always writes me and
makes some sort of mention regarding
the dates he thinks I have. When he
doesn't write me for week or ten days,
he will send special delivery. What do
you make of this? I would like to
know If anyone else, besides myself thinks
am right in loving him and sure do.
PUZZLED.
You did not mention how old he
is, Puzzled, but imagine he is still
in his early twenties. 1t is a pity
for the boy that his parents have
spoiled him by making him not only
a rover, but lazy one at that He's
just a sort of glorified tramp the
way things are now. If you love
him and you believe he loves you,
can't you make him see what d
useless life he is leading, how little
good he is doing for any one, and
most especially himself, the way
things are now?
I do not blame your parents, for
not wanting you to become serious
with the boy. He would not make
a very satisfactory husband for you
as things are now. Give him your
friendship and your help, and try
to make him see what a parasite
he is, for even though his parents
have all the money in the world,
that would hardly justify his &C
lions.