The Washington times., 1928-11-17
Famous Author
Gives Advice
to Girls
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on Problems Of
Love and Marriage

Have you ever heard this re-
mark made by a youthful seoffer:
! have many times.
Usually. the skeptic has not yet
experienced the tender passion
possibly, has become so accus;
toned to q shoddy counterfeit
called necking as to be incapable
OF detectIng that delicately sensi-
tive. subtle, unselfishly powerful
emotion, real love.
But after all. imagination is
far from being mere make be-
lieve''-it- is a real and powerful
X constructive force. And so, quite
aside from scoffing, may it not
be true that love is largely imagi-
native in its appeal and Influence,
and in many ways so akin to
imagination as 70 pe in part. the
same emotion!
OF course, mere physical attrac-
ton has nothing to do with
Imagination, but neither is 1t love.
For t'love." says the dictionary,
sis a strong, complex emotion
causing one to appreciate and
delight in. and please or promote
the welfare of the beloved.
Imagination, according to the
same authority, lis the picturing
power of the nlind-the consrruc-
tive, creative faculty-a mental
image. Imagination is deep. es-
sential. spiritual Imagination
goes to the heart OF things. is
earnest. serious. and seeks always
and everywhere for essential truth.
Imagination transforms and ex-
aIts-is romantic. .
If you substitute the word love
for ina gination in this definition,
you will see how many qualities
love and imagination have in com
mon 1t Is because ii Is mental
and spiritual. quite aside from its
quality of physical attraction,
that love is SO powerful in its
influence and outlasts the years.
Does he love me2" is a ques-
ton almost Invariably asked by
my correspondents after setting
forth the heart problem, unless
the writer chances to be young
man. In that case the inquiry is:
'eDo you think she loves me??"
Yes, love. like imagina ton. seeks
the essential truth.
Also, love calls forth picturing
and constructive powers. which
are imagination. When young
man falls in love with a young
woman, he pictures her in his
imagination as head of his home.
his ideal, his love life-partner,
mother of his children. lie Is in
spired TO constructive work in
order TO insure her welfare and
happiness as his wife
A girl in love pictures her be-
loved as strong, wise, able TO care
Tor and protect her always. She
Is inspired to welcome hard work
as a wife, IL it shall make her :
man comfortable and give him an
ideal home. So. you see, love and
imagination, are closely allied.
The lunatic, the poet and the
lover" writes Shakespeare. "are
of the imagination all compact
Since imagination is an essential
part of love, the more you appeal
to and cultivate wholesome i'm.
Agination, the more successful you
should be in love.
Leave something to the inagi-
tionp'
This sage advice is never for.
gotten by the clever girl. A GER
tain young woman so universally
admired and loved that she is
called the ''Sweethe2rt of Amer.
ica you guess whom I
mean--wears demure and simple
frocks reaching well below her
knees. Modesty is the keynote Of
her costume and manner. Is not
that one secret Of her enchant.
Ing and lasting charm? She has
reserve and mystery. She appeals
to the imagination.
The one-piece bathing suit. rid.
ing breeches, .full.tights for the
professional acrobat are modest
when they are suited to the pur-
pose for which they are worn.
But wanton display of charms and
beauty merely for the sake Of con.
spicuous display defeats its own
+, end, because it bores and disil.
lusions.
A girl who pursues a man and
tries 10 force her attentions and
affections on his notice, is not
often the girl who wins him.
Why2 Because she does not APP
peal to his Imagination or leave
him any chance for wonder, lnys.
terry. She tells her love before il
ls i.sked; offers it before ii Is
sought.
lima agination gives you power to
put yourself in the place Of the
man you loye--at least 10 some
oegree--and so aids in keeping
your love and interest fresh, stim-
ulating, tender, wise.
This is a cold day" muses. my
happily married friend. Betty.
Bill may be chilled and tired
when he gets home from work.
So I'll have his favorite hot
broth for him tonight"
Then, when Bill arrives. obvi.
ously more tagged than usual by
trying day-"Bill does look
tired" muses. Betty TO herself.
There will be time to talk over
the household bills tomorrow.
I'll no. even suggest a movie TO.
night or bridge with the Joneses.
He will probably appreciate
quiet evening, with his pipe and
newspaper and an early bedtime"
Il always wear pretty house
dresFes and try to look my very
incest when Bill and /. are home
q, one together" Betty confided
" me. Because / imagine in
:b@t way Bill carries pleasant
pio-dFe of me in his memory and
thaiks of me as prettiest of all
WI en- we are most alone. though.
of course. ] try also To make him
proud of me when we are with
. crowd