The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-10-29

Bad temper can wreck more
homes than any other one factor
that contributes to married I'M
happiness. 1t can grow just like
any other bad habit. Watch
young child exert show of temper
IN order to get what he wants. If
he does get it, through temper, he
will try the trick again and again
until it has grown upon him. 1t
is the same with grown persons,
who are mostly only little chill
dren at heart, anyway.
A woman may find that a stamp
of heel and sharp scream and
a storm of tears, interspersed with
a few well-selected gestures will
get her just about anything. What
is the consequences? She goes
tanning around every time things
are not just right and poor huS-
band spends most of his time play
ing pacif1st.
Or else
A perfectly sensible and normal
person can ruin all chances of
getting anywhere in life by just a
couple of examples of this gentle
art of raving. No one wants a
person around who is apt to break
up the office furniture every time
book salesman happens to slip
past the office boy, or tear the
telephone off the wall every time
he gets a wrong number. And as
for marrying one, that's asking
too much.
Here is a letter from a woman
who unwittingly married a man
with a temper like Satan. I would
like my readers to think this
womans problem over seriously.
Dear Miss Lee-Some where 1 have
read that a good woman is one who,
having given her love to a man, will
stand by him, be he saint or sinner.
have always tried to be a good wife and
mother, but I can hardly stand it any
more. My husband has fits of temper
to such an extent that he destroys what
ever he can get his hands. on. I am
afraid he has also destroyed my love
for him.
In the five years we have been mar
ried I've tried everything know of to
cure him. but he gets worse instead Of
better. We have little girl and even
she knows all isn't as it should be.
When the baby was born I had to make
a trip Of miles by myself to hospital
and 1t was three days before my husband
got over his temper what the temper
was about I have never found out)
enough to come to see me and the baby,
After the baby came he seemed to be
doing better. Our friends knew nothing
of my unhappiness. Later we moved into
a nicer location next door to same close
friends. Due to terrible fit of temper I
became very i'll ana as a result lost our
second baby. boy. My husband was
very bitter about it, but seemed again to
have changed for the better. I have not
been well since that time and his fits of
temper seem to affect me more than they
used to. He is back again to his old
bahit.
Every time something goes wrong 1t
means a rage. Every one likes him when
he is in good humor. He is good worker
and provider. I have a lovely home and
a small car that he is very generous
with. He is dear when things go right,
but I don't feel that those things COM
pensate for the hours and days of misery
and i'll health he causes me when he is
angry.
If I leave 1t would be for always for
he would never take me back. Sometimes
have thought of leaving him to see if
he would realize how that trait of
temper is running his life. I have no
mother nor any folks to turn to.
It is hard to have to stand the pitiful
chances of my friends and the scornful
looks Of those who feel have no back
bone to stand for his actions. Could you
and your readers, after considering all.
advise me Of any way I can help him get
over this hateful trait?
WONDERING SUE.
AS I said, I have always be-
lieved temper to be a matter of
disciplining ones own self.
have no suggestions to offer ex-
cepting to shame him into con-
trolling his ugly temper. 1t seems
to me after the experience he had
losing his son indirectly through
fit of temper, he would want
more than ever to cure himself as
a means of compensation for the
terrible result. If any of my read
ers have any suggestions, please
send them.