The Washington times., 1928-12-07
Famous Expert
on a Serious
Subject
BY Beatrice Fairfax

Are you going 10 marry lol
love?
Or do you hope marriage will
bring you an abundance of dol
lars and cents, even though ro-
nance may be entirely lacking?
IL you. are a typical modern
girl you probably intend to marry
for love and love alone. Possibly
you may have exclaimed, toward
the end of some particularly hard
day at the office or shop, wnen
in a bored mood: "Oh. don't / wish
some rich man would marry me
and take me out of all this! |
shall marry the first man with
money who asks me!
But such remark expresses
need of a vacation rather than
any real intention or desire to
marry for money. There are
women. of course, with ''crepe-de
chine souls who scheme and plot
to wed for money at any cost.
But the vast majority of modern
young folks realize that money
alone does not bring happiness or
success, and intend to marry for
love.
Under these circumstances it
may be interesting to ask your
self: Can romance exist indepen-
dent of finances? Does not love
necessarily lean on money? We
have way of facing facts hon.
estly these days; so, let US con-
slider this problem.
II Jack is in love with Jill, he
wishes to look his best when he
goes to see her. He may wish to
carry her a token of his regard
flowers or a box of candy. Or his
impulse may be to invite her to
theater, a dance, a movie. All this
costs money, even leaving out of
consideration such luxuries as
taxis, football games or a con-
venient little motor car.
Jill on her part wishes to look
her very prettiest to please Jack.
And it costs a girl. money to
dress smartly apd keep daintfly
groomed. So, you see, money
inevitably enters into the situation
where romance is concerned.
Love generally finds a way, it is
true. Because Jack and Jill are
in love they are much happier
riding on top of the bus on fine
Sunday afternoons, eating ice
cream at the corner connection
cry store, attending neighbor-
hood movie and dancing at Jill's
home to the radio, because they
are together, than either could be
without the other at the most
expensive revue, supper club or
fuIl-dress affair. Still, even ice
cream sodas and bus rides re-
uuire cash and courtship natural
ally tends toward marriage, so
again the financial factor is not
to be ignored!
For Jill to share expenses would
help not one whit, for Jacks
feeling toward Jill is protective
love. He wants to pay her way.
And that sense of protective af-
lection from the young man she
loves thrills Jill. Human nature
Is not easily made over. Despite
theories, and despite the economic
independence of woman, every
worthwhile man insists on ASSUME
ing protective responsibilities for
the support Of the woman he mar
ries. Until he can do so, he does
not marry. BY this, | do not
mean that a substantial bank &C.
count is absolutely essential. But
there should be dependable earn
ing capacity.
Much hope for the future and
thirty dollars weekly salary are
the amount of Dicks capital in
this, his first year out of college
plus, of course, health and a
background of family. A college
education. good sense and some
skill at housekeeping and home
making, thanks to a sensible
mother, will be contributed by
Florence when she and Dick wed.
But that event will not take place
until Dick gets a promotion. For,
although Florence will gladly
forego luxuries she is used to,
such as motors, maids and trip
abroad, still both agree that thirty
dollars leaves too small a margin
of safety even for housekeeping
in a band-box.
Waiting a year or two will not
hurt their romance, but will test
their love. And love that cannot
stand this test is not very sound
foundation for marriage
In these days, many wives like
to earn money through their bust
ness skill and pay for clever
specialities to manage the house
work. Nearly every life. unless
there are small children at home.
has some time to devote to con-
structive, money-making. This
plan of outside, remunerative work
often solves the financial problem,
banking the DOGGY Of poverty.
Money may be a blessing or a
curse. IT it is regarded as an OPP
portunity for helping others and
does not prevent simple unas-
Stunning home life, it is an In.
mitigated blessing. Some of our
richest homes are ideally happy.
not just because they are rich.
but because wise and understand.
ing love abides in them. Family
life in a cottage may be brutal,
ehiftless, poverty stricken, due to
self-indulgence and bad manage
Knent.
Love IL the great happifier of
life and marriage. Nothing should
Be given Importance above I'M
selfish love-neither money nor
ambition. amusement nor travel.
But love leans on money.
Inspire the man who loves and
needs you to work and earn and
save, and when the time comes
that you and he can marry, re-
solve to content yourself with the
scale of living he can afford.
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