The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1928-11-08
Some AdUiCe
on Holding
THAT Man
BY MARTHA LEE

Today we have a little lesson or
zone Way To Try to Hold Your
Husband" since that seems to be
the most burning question in this
weeks mail. Of course, you may
have tried this one before and found
it wanting, but that doesn't prove
anything, because each case is an
individual case and the same rem
edy won't always work.
This can apply to single girls, old
and young wives and in fact to any
one who takes this business of being
attractive seriously. First for the
wives. If you are past forty, don't
for heavens sake affect the clothes.
manners and hair dress of q. 16-year
old flapper. Nothing is more idiotic,
more pitiful. A woman has dignity
and a different sort of beauty with
middle age She can ruin 1t and
make herself utterly ridiculous by
trying to look and act sixteen.
Every one admires youth, of
course, but there is nothing like
knowing ones age and acting. &C
cordingly. This barking back to an
other age, or feverishly copying the
youthful mode is bad business. The
mature woman who does it is fool
ing no one but herself, and she's
giving herself bad break to boot.
Nothing can make woman look
older and more faded than dyed
head, badly placed rouge and a
mouth made into a Cupid's bow with
brilliant lip stick. Then put flap
per gown on and hat placed well
on the back of the head and you
have a perfect example of grounds
for divorce"
I can not beg ardently enough for
discretion and good sense in this
matter of getting ones self togeth-
er. In spite of opinion to the con-
trary, appearance is a great deal.
When man walks down the street
with his wife. naturally he wants
her to be admired. And in a rig
ging, similar to the one I have
described, nothing can result but a
flock of curb outlaws.
1 have a letter today, a pathetic
letter too, from a woman who seems
to be on the wrong path. She says:
Dear Miss Lei am woman OF 40
and have been married twelve years. Ny
husband and have been quite happy dur
ing our married life. but sense the fact
that am losing his interest and ad-
mlration. He has been fairly success
full in a business way and We have things
nice now.
He seems to be taking a great deal
of interest in other women lately. He
notices them, especially young women. and
remarks about them. I am young look
ing for my age, because I have always
prided myself on keeping up my appear
ance. I dress youthful and certainly don't
look 40.
Ny problem is not serious. But I want
to do something about It before It be-
comes so. There is an undereurrent that
I feel and am disturbed by. Even TO
myself hate to admit this. but he seems
to be rather contempsuous OF me. What
do you make of it? PUZZLED.
L think you had better begin to
dress according to your years. If
your husband is, as you say, fairly
successful, you probably go out a
good bit. And your husband surely
cannot appreciate the fact that,
from the back, he cannot tell you
from the daughters Of his friends.
Short skirts. flying bobs, flaming
cheeks, all these things are not
compatible with 40. They must
not be INDUCED in, excepting in the
privacy of ones own boudoir, if they
must be INDUCED in.
Look and act your age. Dress
simply and dignifled. Stand before
your mirror in one of the outfits you
have that you feel makes you look
youngest. Now try to see yourself
out of the eyes of your husband,
your husbands business acquaint-
ances and their wives. And then
decide what you are going to do
about it.
Trying to be what you are not
usually stirS up vast amount OF
irritation in a man and amusement
in women who know differently,
And the juniors: what q jolly laugh
they get out of seeing older women
trying to ape them.