The Washington times., 1928-07-02
Famous Expert
On a Vital
Topic
By Beatrice Fairfax

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Three girls Of Is, IL and 1s-all
three great chums-decided among
themselves the other day that they
would each marry the first man
who proposed.
eve have horror of being old
maids" one of the girls explained
to me.
Modern girls, despite talk about
Independence and emancipation,
are as eager as ever girls were to
find q iifemate. This is natural.
Men and women were not intended
TO live alone.
Just the same, 1t is better far to
remain unmarried -even to be an
old maid, only unmarried women
are not called old maids any more,
hut lust bachelor girls-than to
marry man so unsuitable that
you cannot possibly be happy with
him, For this reason it Is very
silly to rush into an engagement
to the first man who proposes un-
less he is the right man for you.
1t is equally foolish to become en-
gagged because this is easier than
saying no, or because OF a passing
within. Once a girl becomes en-
gagged. however, she owes loyalty,
fair play and kindly sconsiderat ton
TO the man she has promised to
marry.
Dear Miss Fairfax" writes De-
spondent on the subject of engage
ments. This is my first letter to
you. I do so need your help.
i've been going with young
man for about four months. |
dearly love him and he loves me.
I'm engaged to another young
boy I'm going with all about it. He
also is engaged to a girl in his
fiance as well as the other young
man.
''The young man / love best says
he loves the other girl and loves
me--he does not know which he
loves better. How can win all
OF his love? How can I make him
decide he loves me best?
i simply can't go on like this,
knowing or thinking that he loves
the other girl. Shall act indiffer-
ent to him? Shall keep him won.
dering as to whether / love my
fiance?
I'm afraid that IL let him know
/ do not love the man I'm engaged
TO. he will lose interest. Please
help me. love him, and to give
him up would kin me-.
"DEsPoNDEaTT. &
In all your worry over your
dilemma, my dear. there is one
thought that apparently has not
in the least troubled you--your
obligation to your fiance You
have given him the pledge of your
love and your promise to wed.
Has it occurred to yon that 1t is
heartless, under the circumstances
to direct your every effort to
winning another man? You owe
at least fair play to the man to
whom you are engaged.
II you do not love him. why
did YOU become enga ged to him
merely because he was the fret
man who proposed to you? IL
you loved him when you promised
to be his wife. are you quite
certain you do not love him now?
Have you thought about the
girl who has entrusted her hap
piness to the keeping of the man
you are doing your best to take
away from her? In the long run
we reap what we SOW. You cam
not SOW cruelty and reap happy,
successful love for yourself.
Before you take another step
in this ENHANCEMENT into which
you are rushing headlong. stop
for a moment and consider where
you stand. Two engagements of
marriage conflict with your desire
to win the man who attracts you.
Even il you were free. he is not.
And since he admits he still loves
his fiancee. the chances are he
does not wish to be free.
realize I am not giving you
the advice you hopad for, my
dear. but I am telling you the
truth. The only straight" thing
for you to do is to give up all
thought of going about with the
other man.
Can you not manage to see
your fiance soon? Possibly vaca.
ton trip will bring you two to.
Eether again this summer. Give
yourself time to see whether, after
all, he is not the man you love.
The other attachment may have
been due merely to proximity
and fleeing infatuation.
Be very sure before entering on
or breaking an engagement. Re-
spect the obligations of betrothal
as they affect yourself and
others.
II you take your time and con-
slider well before becoming en-
gagged, then live up to the letter
and spirit OF your betrothal. you
will find that your engagement
will not conflict with your highest
happiness. but will lead to CON
tented and successful marriage.