Evening star., 1927-08-16
SUB ROSA
By MIMI.
II Want Your Advice" "

The phrase II want your advice"
when taken too literally, has ruined
several thousand friendships in this
country alone.
Ot course It's terribly unreasonable
! If tho girl who asks for advice To grow
Indignant WHOM it's handed to her
but women are like that, aud there's
no us" tu=siuG about At.
The type of dnmsol who usually asks
/ for advice is the @clfcou rcious. shy
I little violet who hasn't had much fun
IND wants to know what's wrong with
/ her. Wen call her Vi.
And til" pal she asks help from is
| Peggy. Nj .i@ht. Peggy agrees to
/ help her rrlhor timid little friend She
| begins on Wis wardrobe, iustructinG
! tn" other girl what's wrong with her
Clothes Vi listens mecklE, takes ii all
! in and tries 70 do hotter.
She is grateful for al til" little
! tips Peggy hands her about how to
/ behave at n d1nco. $ho eagerly aC-
copts counsel on what's wrong with
her d1ucir"
This ll~5S usually for about week
| At tho end Of tnat time it very often
| happens that ri improves. She i'm.
| proves just anou@h to got little bit
| of tho attention she Graves
She thanks Peggy profuecly and as
surcs her that she still wants criti-
cisms OF course she doesn't need
as much n before, bat any advice her
kind friend gives her will be apprc-
ciatcd.
Here Is whore tho fricndiy adviser
ana mentor should beware.
She should cease giving tips again
Till they're actually and specifically
itcd for. II she continues to help
! little Vi. the lattor is going to astoniSh
her some day by turning around with
! a sharp: con, for hearcn's sake
/ Peggy. don't keep telling me what
ought tn do. ! guess | know pretty
well. You don't nave to tell me any
! thing. You're not So good, you know. >"
| Girls in Pcsgy's position always
make the mistake Of taking requests
| for advice too seriously.
Very often q girl wants advice and
| help from n chum. But she wants it
! for 4 short time. She rescnts it if it
| comes too often.
She Wearias Of hcing told wherein
| she is wrong all the time and she
| turns against the very friend from
! whom she has asked assistance.
Never give advice wholesale. no
| matter now llutn 1t Is asked 1Of. II
! a real friend wants You to help her
| out with Il problem. OF course you
must do your best for her.
| But if she asks: Dot. I want YOU
| To take me in hand and always re
! mind me when I'm doing things
wrong" you refuse il you know youi'
| business. Just say: "Whv. | couldn't
| possibly act as a general guide and
| mentor TO you, but Ill be glad TO tell
| YOU what think is right, whenever
| you ask me-
And rs long as YOU give your frank
| opinion, only When it's specifically
| asked for, you're safe.
! It's just as important to romem-
| Der this in the case Of boys as of girls
| y boy may think he wants to be con
| Stantly reminded of his errors and
| shortcomings. He may think he
| Graves solfimDroVcment so much that
| he'll gladly ho1r one hundred crit
| icisms per second. But he doesn't
In fact, il his girl friend makes the
! big mistake of taking his request too
! literally. sha'il start a war of the ayes.
| It's a wise girl VINO knows when to
! give advice. and when to withhold it.
| tCQpvrirht 1927
| Mimi will be glad to answer any in
| onlTlcs directed 10 this paper. provided a
stamped. addressed envelope IS inclosedJ