The Washington times., 1927-09-17
WHY MARRY? = By B
Is
An Everlasting
Source Of Joy
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage.

An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage.
ttToGETHERp
There is charm in the
very world
A certain amount Of solitude is
good for everyone. But we dread
loneliness, which is a feeling Of
being left out, unloved. A large
proportion OF marriages are doubt.
less inspired by horror, of loneli-
ness.
1t Is q perfectly normal In
stinct to wish to have someone
who cares, with whom to talk
things over, to share joys and
sorrows, someone to work for.
someone to pl- with. someone
to take one out OF self and brood.
ing over self, someone to love.
Solitary confinement, it is said.
viii in time make an idiot or a
beast Of the average human be-
Ing. Nature insists on somebody
else.
ITS not that 1 need anyone to
planned the other day, in giving
his reasons for marrying again
after the loss of u loved wife.
can look after myself. But
Its companionship I long for.
No one knows how long for
the companionship If someone
who understands and cares just
. little."
What inspires the modern girl
to wish for happy marriage just
az tensely as did her Victorian
grandmother? Need of a protec.
tori Hardly. Modern girls are
well able to look after themselves.
Does she marry to be supported?
Not In these days OF independent
women wage-earners.
Girls are not forced to marry
Tor the sake of kisses and
caresses, since peters are 80
plentiful. What the modern girl
wants of marriage is, primarily,
congenial, affectionate compan-
ionship; the knowledge that there
is someone in the world who is
her loyal friend and life partner,
someone to plan with, be happy
with, grow old with or, better
still, stay young with. 1t is the
together" thought that lures
modern men and women inton mar
rage and founding q home.
Those who have been In some
way spoiled by life have d ten.
denGy to draw away, mentally,
from their fellows. Fear or
hatred, indifference or q sense
of superiority may be the motive
for this pulling away.
No one understands me, . lonely
girls write. 81 am different
There Is dissatisfied criticism of
others in this point of view, rather
than an unselfish reaching out for
companionship. This critical
thought would condemn the ross
for its thorns. 1T repeIs others
and leads to appropriately and de-
feat.
I know a girl who Is much
alone. But Is she lonely? Far
from 1t. Each day brings a love-
letter from the man she Ii to
wed-tte man she respects and
loves with all her heart. She is
happy every moment because, al.
though the two are separated for
the time, their thoughts are to.
gether IN mutual desire to make
each other happy.
Everyone wonders why Sally Is
40 popular and loved. The reason
Il simple. Sally is not the hand.
soonest girl in the neighbour
nor the best dressed. But she is
immensely interested in all the
girls and young men she knows.
She gives little parties for them
IN her mothers apartment, when
all 70 out into the kitchenette
and make up impromptu spreads.
She doesn,tS just pretend to like
folks she really likes them and
throws herself whole-h eartedly
into the good times and welfare
Of her crowd. They feel this
genuine affection and are at
tracted as BY the warmth Of sun.
shine, No wonder there is always
b group Of young men at every
party clamoring for dance with
sally. No wonder the finest young
man Of all Ii saving every penny
for the cottage he hopes he may
buy for Sally when he wins that
Yes for which he longs.
The together" thought reaches
It's height OF happiness and good
through love, marriage and home.
When babies come the thought
deepens and broadens, until fin.
ally home reaches out Its arms
IN good win and service toward
the entire community and world.
There Is serious together
problem. Living happily In mar
rage Is not easy. There Is d price
to be paid. You have to make q
bargain. The price Of happy MGR
riage 10 concessions.
After all. ii the price of success.
filI marriage too great? Kindness
II not 4 strain for a lady or gem
tleman. There is keen pleasure
II making b loved one very happy.