Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-08-12
SUB ROSA
BY MIMI.
Kindly Think It Over.

Dick writes for advice on the sub
ject of how to treat his tickle lady.
Not tickle, eXactly-just undecided.
He has been going with her for
three or four years, and when the
whole thing started. she thought she
loved him.
Now, however, she is not so sure.
She admits that she likes him more
than any other man she has ever
known. She is positive that they're
ideally matched in tastes, opinions
and ideals. There is nothing she can
find fault with in his attitude-only
she doesn't love him just the right
way. Laura--for our heroine is no
other-urges her faithful old steady
to stick around in case she should
happen to change her mind.
She feels that if he hangs around
long enough she may find out the
true state of her feelings for him.
So far, however, the hanging around
has produced no results.
Dick is growing respondent about
his chances of success. Always he
goes to her house with the hope that
she has changed since he last saw
her. Always he meets the same
friendly, Unconditional young maiden,
cool, aloof, remote as the stars, etc.
He knows it isn't his fault. He
has done nothing to make her angry.
He has done everything to make
her love him.
When she Is tired and cross he
listens patiently to her sharp criti-
cisms, her constant nagging, her ir-
ritable reproaches.
When she is unfriendly and silent
he puts up with long fits of sulks
He has never asked her for any more
love than she is willing to give him
Yet somehow she doesn't appreciate
all this. She accepts it calmly and
bids him wait a while longer.
1t seems to me it is time for the
worm to turn. Laura Is either a
victim of her own inability ever to
decide question of Importance or she
is a selfish little cat who ought to be
spanked.
No girl has a right to ask her
man to go on waiting for her in
definitely Every month he waits
binds him more closely to her-and
keeps his mind more definitely off
other girls.
A man whose infatuation for a
girl is allowed to go on for years
will sometimes never marry any one
else, once he has been Tilted by his
great love.
1t is objectionable for any girl to
ask a man to give years Of his life
to her, so that she may look around
very carefully before deciding to
marry him.
Then there is the matter of Dicks
attitude. He is too easy. How can
the girl treat him like anything but
well worn doormat IL he puts up
with all her moods and tempers? She
will get into the habit of thinking
of him as a man of no personality,
no strength of character.
He must assert himself occasionally
If he is TO remind her that he is a
real person and not her obedient
servant.
The best thing he can do under
the circumstances is to give her a
brief space of time for thinking. Let
him drop out of the picture for a
| few weeks and see what happens.
lie must force her to some kind
| Of decision, though, pretty quickly,
| if ne doesn't want to spend another
| miserable year waiting and hoping,
| only to be turned down at the end
| of that time.
Laura must either overcome her
| incapacity for decision or she must
| cease her selfish demand that any
man should wait indefinitely for his
answer.
| Mimi will be glad TO answer any inquiries
I directed to this paper provided stamped,
! addressed envelope is Enclosed.
| tCopyrght. 1927