Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-06-30
SUB ROSA
BY MIMI.
WHY We Can't Forget.

The same old cry: why can't l for
get him-and get over him." echoes
through my letters day by day.
whats the matter with me? Why
am / such a fool? Am l abnormal?
This man treats me abominably. He's
thrown me over half dozen times.
/ get TO the point where l think
rever want to see him again. And
then suddenly he calls me up, and
everything is over for me. / feel l
must see him, be with him again,
even If it is at the cost of my pride.
do you think I'll have to go
through life with this heartache?
Can't l get rid of his influence? Isn't
there anything to make me fall out
of love with him? Or do you know of
anything | could do to get him back?"
And there in that last question lies
the answer to every girls question:
"Why can't 1 forget him."
While there's life. there's hope
And while there's hope. there's reason
to worry and doubt and fear and
suffer.
This is one case in which hope Is a
darn bad thing. No girl is going to
forget a man or get rid of his influ-
ence as long as she has a spark of
hope that she may win his love per.
manently.
! And though my correspondents as.
sure me that they want above every
thing else to forget. | can read. be.
tween the lines. a faint expectation of
my advising them to try again. None
of them has really set her mind to for
getting in the right way.
IFS t1ocSible ~ foroef a1p,ocf anV.
thing--or at least to dim a memory
so that il no longer hurts.
Even the death of some dearly
loved one will cease to pain as times
goes on.
And if it's possible to grow used to
the absence of some one whom we've
loved deeply and who has passed on
surely it's not hopelessly out of the
question to forget some gay youth
who has treated us shamefully and
brought us little but unhappiness.
Let me tell you that the first point
to be won is to conquer that faint
hope that he may come back and
be really true.
Make up your mind that he's not
coming back--and that if he does
come back. it will be only for brief
while which will bring you torture.
With that idea firmly fixed in your
mind--it won't be so hard to tell him
mo" when the phone bell rings. and
he's at the other end of the wire, beg.
ging for a date.
Hold on to the fact firmly in your
MIND that he's gone-no matter how
many times he may appear to be stag
ing grand comeback, convince your
self that it's bunk. Don't weaken,
Don't let yourself hope for a second
that he means anything by a re.
newal of attentions.
Understand that there's absolutely
no life in an old love---so there's no
hope.
You know If you saw your wander
ing boy married to another woman
you'd have to forget him soon enough,
And it would be much easier for you.
Then you'd realize that he was lost to
you forever
Well, the thing for you to do Is to
keep constantly before you the knowl.
edge that he is lost to you forever
right now. You'll never get him back.
and knowing about him what YOU do,
you don't really want him back.
Once you allow yourself to realize
that he's irretrievably lost the for.
getting will be easier.
Don't say you can't forget-un:il
you've really tried to forget.
tCopyrisht 1927
Mimi will be glad to answer any inquiries
addressed envelope is inclosed Do you want
dressed envelope.