New Britain herald., 1927-01-03
Bible Class Speaker Crit
cizes Women Whose Mo-
tives Are Based on
Selfishness and Laziness.

poured DrOalSlde lnlO wives VINO,
| through selfishness or laziness,
neglect their home duties and their
husbands, He aimed his shells
particularly at the wife who is only
a gold digger" the ''nagger" and
the girl who is pretty but mas no
other qualifications to maintain the
affections of her husband and keep
| up her home.
In part, Prof. Vaughan said:
! "A woman who has always used
| others for her own ends makes q
miserable failure as wife. Pctted,
| spoiled, numored and pampered, she
expects her husband to continue this
folly, which he refuses to do, if he
is man Of good sense and strong
character. While he will not quarrel
with her. he will refuse to continue
to help her to bring her own ruin
and the ruin of the family. The best
| way to cure selfishness is to make
sure that it does not work An utter
| ly selfish person is affected only by
what hurts or helps himself. When
a selfish act becomes a boomerang
TO fly back and hit the one RESPONSE
BILE for it, 1t will no longer be IN
| dulged.
But marrying either a man or
woman with the expectation that
| reformation will follow marriage is
likely 10 be disappointing. Under
taking the neglected task of parents
| is usually unappreciated and futile.
Why take over too heavy a mortgage
on disposition or character in the
first place? When a man marries an
unselfish woman. however, it is easy
for even thoughtful and good hus-
band unconsciously to take advan-
tage of her personal sacrifices.
There is no reason why woman
should surrender any more than a
man. In the long run it doesn't pay
10 take advantage, for reaction is
likely to follow. The family should
be democracy, not an autocracy.
No member should dominate. Some
times the baby is the innocent ty-
rant, and everybody foolishly bows
to his demands. Sometimes an in
valid in the home dominates the life
Of the group, or it may be a silly,
flapper daughter or conceited,
selfish, willful son, or perhaps an
overworlled father who has develop
ed into bear. Every personality in
the family should be respected and
developed. All should grow and ex-
pand. Each should cultivate a SYM
pathetic interest in the affairs of the
others. Ones own life Is enriched by
the contribution made by the inter-
cstS of those having a different out
look on life. Where may one expect
to be appreciated and encouraged. if
not in the home? Unhappiness fire.
quently results when man fails TO
recognize the rights of wife to her
own personality. She should not be
expected to shine merely by his re-
Elected light She is not to live only
by his paternal patronage. She is CO.
equal and a comrade. There should
be more of the Straightforward
frank, open eye-to-eyc attitude that
men have toward each other and
women toward each other.
The Housekeepcr, the Cook
while a good mother should
teach household arts to her daugh-
ter, 1t is not absolutely necessary
that a young woman know these
when she marries. With modern
helps, cooking can be very quickly
learned. Housekeeping is often EN-
phasized to the exclusion of more
important elements. 1t is much more
important that a woman be frugal
and thrifty,-that she have habits
of economy and industry. If she
lacks these they are less likely to be |
acquired in later life, and are often
taught by careful mothers with gen.
eral instruction In housekeeping. A
girl acquires the valuable habit of CO.
operation as she works with her
mother in early childhood She /
learns to bear her share of life's
burdens, and is uncomfortable and |
unless she makes her con- /
tribution, Ability to cook is desirable, |
but it is not the vital thing. What is |
imperative is psych osical attitude, ,
rather than mere information or (
technique.
The wife who doesn't enjoy /
housework, is not to be condemned ,
on that account unless her attitude /
is due to laziness. but she must not
pyn6ct ha,, Ir,ci,1r1 to
extra burden merely 10 crafty her /
taste. If the wife can earn enough (
to hire substitute. without neglect |
ing other duties as wife or a
mother, there is no good reason why |
she should not do it. But she has no
right to live in laziness. A balanced
woman would probably be better .
com rade wife if she had more Of the .
broadening influences of business or
professional life in her daily expert
cnce. But idleness in women. like
idleness in men, leads to evil Many
a woman, in a modern city apart
ment, with heat, janitor service,
and cooked foods in q near
by delicdteSsea store, with no chill
dren, with her husband away all day
returning at night TO take her TO
restaurant for dinner this type of
woman, for her own souls welfare
should give herself to church work
or TO community service. She should
refuse to be ! parasite, consuming
more than she produces.
Calls Calder n "Gold Digger"
There is a type OF woman, who
seems to love every place and every
body but her own home and the
members Of her own family. Mar
riaGe is a sort of meal ticket. She is
Il gold digger who lives without
work, and often without love. Ere
this anti-social weakness
has Il sex basis. It furnishes an out
let for pent-up energies. It may
have Its origin in early childhood,
and be due to false teaching and ex-
ample. A wife has no right to ey