Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-08-11
SUB ROSA
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BY MIMI.
ny MINI.
Pity Is Unhealthful,

/ Mother love is the greatest thing in
! the world-and sometimes the most
dangerous,
| The fond mother suffers with her
child thrills with his triumphs and
bewaiIs his misfortuues. She tnds
excuses for his every weakness She
is the one person in the world who
will always sympathize with him, no
matter how often he may fail III what
! he has set out 10 do.
/ And. Of course. her sympathy and
love will help him if he's any kind of
a man at all. But if he is weak, those
qualities of hers which should he So
helpful VIII turn him into a crv-haby"
Mothers aren't alone in their capa-
city for pity and sympathy, Soft
! hearted, sentimental young girls IN
! love have the habit Of motherinG and
| pitying their sweethearts.
a sensitive girl with the maternal
/ instinct too fully developed will weep
! over the misfortunes of some lad who
| ought to be spanked severely for his
! failures.
Men are made into moliNcoddles
/ often by the too-readN pity Of their
i wives or sWeethearts.
| John rings Kitty up and in a shame
! faced fashion tells her that he has
| been asked to leave his position This
! is the fourth Job he has tried to hold
/ down in less than three months. His
Concelt and coCksureness have cost
| HIM all four positions.
! But kittys voice is tremulous With
| pity as il floats over the wire. John
dear, I'm SO sorry for your sake. You
poor kid, what did they do to YOU"
Honestly. that Office makes me sick,
j.
| And with those dreadful headaches
YOU get svery day how can YOU he
expected to get in on time every NOR.
ming. Business men have no hearts.
Please come over right away
John hangs up the receiver relieved,
and restored TO CocSsureness. Kitty
understands everything. he reflects
It is terrible the way whole office
will pick on fellow when he's sick
and tired with headaches every day
and everything. He had forgotten
about the headaches himself until
Kitty reminded him, but remembering
them. his self pity and resentment
grow.
So by the time he reaches Kittv's
house he has worked himself up into
mood for good cry. And his silly
little girl friend is all set to hold his
hand. pat him on the shoulder and tell
him what dirty deal he is getting
from the world.
That kind of love and sympathy is
never going to help any man. It IS
going to ruin him.
A girl who nollNcoddles and moth
ers a man to death needn't expect
him to develop a backbone of his
own.
A man who Is on the road to failure
will always turn gratefully to the per.
son who finds a plausible reason for
his every misstep. After a while he'll
come to rely on that person to excuse
him for all his failures. o
A too-loving sweetheart will often
do more to convince a man that he is
down trodden and misused than any
amount of hard knocks in the world
It's up to every girl in love TO make
her man stand on his own feet. fight
nesses and try to correct them.
She mustn't cover up his errors, fail
ures and misdeeds with loving. ex-
cuses.
She mustn't take sides with him
against the world when he's probably
in the wrong.
He must find real support in her
courage and strength and the right
kind of sympathy.
But he nistnt find so much sup
port that he thinks it unnecessary to
try to stand up by himself any longer
tCopvrirht. 1920