Evening star., 1927-10-12
SUB ROSA
nv MIMI.
Best Kind Of Friend.
ny MIMI.

| Have YOU ever grown to be rather
fond of a girl friend--perhaps known
her for just few months and founo
her congenial, pleasant and friendly!
Then have you found yourselt
ra Their busy with all sorts OF Things
so that YOU honestly don't fnd Tune
to call her up?
And have you been troubled ana
sorry when, meeting her somewhere
she's looked hurt and bit piqueo De-
cause YOU haven't done your part
toward the friendship?
Have YOU then made mental note
to keep in touch with her reguiarly
to avoid hurting her furtner-aiu
have YOU slipped after White, WIN
the result that she is little more
distant each time you meet heff
or course. you have. Every girl
has. And the net result OF the Who're
thing is that what started out 10 oe
a beautiful friendship either fades
irto nothingness or becomes d con-
slant irksome duty to you.
The fault is not yours as you may
| imagine. It's the other girls TINS
I time. 49,
The other gal is one of those tire.
some people who don't know what II
| means to be the best kind of friend
The other girl is one of those tire
| thing, whose egotiSm demands thdl
she be in your thoughts very often,
| il you're going to be her friend at all.
That kind doesn't make much of a
friend. She may have the best inten'
tions in the world, but if she's going
to be on the alert for any signs OF
| neglect, she'll he a flop as pal.
A real pal doesn't need constant
reminders of your affection. She ac-
cepts the fact that you're fond OF her
and she's fond of you-and believes
| it whether you call her up every day
or not.
If you go away for a short time,
and find yourself in the middle of
round of social activities, you don't
have to be haunted with the thought
that IL you don't write to her she's
going to be off you for life.
You have the comforting knowledge
that she's always there If you want
her, and you're on hand to help her
il need be-
OF course, to establish this kind of
pleasant relationship, you must be
pretty good yourself.
No use expecting the other fellow
to be reasonable about things, IL you're
going to be terribly. terribly hurt
every time she forgets to call you up
or invite you to lunch.
No, a real, comfortable friendship
is based on understanding-und
standing that each member loves the
other, but doesn't have time to show
| it every five minutes.
The instant one friend starts crab
bing because of lack of attention,
| troubles on the way.
The minute you feel that you must
do certain things every day in order
Ito keep in" with some friend. you're
going to get pretty fed up with that
friend.
Lots of nice young damsels ruin
their own friendship by demanding
too much.
They don't mean to- They want to
do things right, but they can't help
feeling that So and So ought to call
them up more often, or ought to
write little note or ought to make
more earnest attempts to see them.
What you must remember is that
every human being is busy. And each
one of us thinks she's the busiest per-
son in the world. And each one of us
finds 1t pretty hard to find time each
day for social calls and notes and
telephone conversations.
When it's humanity possible we'll
call up the friends we love-we'll go
to see them, We'll talk to them for
hours.
But when we're busy and rushed,
we don't want to feel that we must
placate any one with letters and calls.
If you value your best friendship,
don't demand too much of it.
Realize that perfect understanding
doesn't call for constant demonstra-
tions of affection--and make yourself
the best kind of friend to have.
Mimi will be glad to answer any inquiries
directed to this paper provided a stamped
addressed envelope is inclosed.
tCopyright. 1927