Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-06-06
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BY MIMI.


Every day hundreds of sweethearts
have hundreds of quarrels and most
of them are made up before nightfall.
But dozens of them never get made
up at all-not always because the
quarrel was founded on such serious
principles that it couldn't he patched
up easily-but often simply because
the two young idiots involved are
afraid to make up.
Harry says: Nov. IL I go and tell
that girl that I'm sorry, she won't
have any respect for me. She'll think
I'm just the ordinary doormat type of
man. I'd rather have her stay mad
with me and respect me at least"
And the girl is thinking: "Of course,
it won't do to let him know I'm sorry.
He'll think I'm just a wishy Vastly
sort of girl. with no spine and no
character. 1t would be terribly nice TO
tell him I'm not angry any more, but
he'd think I wasn't strong enough to
stick to my principles"
Each Of the cheerful saps is still
convinced that justice lay on his or
her side of the argument. Neither of
them will make up, because each feels
that in doing SO, an admission Of being
in the wrong is implied. And they'll
hang on for weeks, both of them
afraid to end the trouble, holding fast
10 their conviction of their own right
ness.
Well, here's a cure for that situa-
ton, little lady who knows she's In
the right and doesn't dare back down
md call the fight ended
Just start thinking about the whole
thing from his point of view. l don't
mean to consider his argument from
YOUR own standpoint. Try really hard
10 stand in his shoes for a minute,
and figure out the thing as he sees it.
You may not agree with his attitude.
or his way of reasoning, but once you
start looking matters over from his
viewpoint, you'll get a new feeling
abut the whole thing.
You'll appreciate why he thinks
he's exactly right, and it won't hurt
Il bit to tell him that you're sorry you
quarreled, and you'd like to make up.
Vera and Jack had fearful row
the other night over Jacks treatment
of her family. Vera went to bed hurt
and angry. The next day she was
still hurt, but she wanted to make up,
anyway. Only she didn't dare. If she
made the first move, Jack would
think she'd been wrong in accusing
him of rudeneSS to her people. She
just had to keep silent.
AS a matter of fact, II she had
started to reason things out, looking
from his angle, she wouldn't have felt
the slightest necessity for keeping
silent.
She might have realized that Jack
came home from work, tired and
worn. to find Vera's family scattered
all over the house, boisterously happy
in their greetings.
She might have understood that, in
spite of their loud, good humor, they
made Jack very much the outsider in
his own home.
oh, she might have thought UP any
number of excuses for Jack in her
own mind, IL she'd set herself to work
on 1t. And having got his point of
view-his reason for acting as he did
she'd find it the easiest thing in the
world to make up.
Try my little cure when you're
hanging on the fence, longing to go
over and play in your boy-friend' S
back yard, but afraid to make up.
Mimi will he glad to answer any inquiries
directed to this paper, provided stamped
addressed envelope is inclosed