The Washington times., 1927-08-22
Popularity Does
Not Require Loss
of Your Ideals
WHAT a bugaboo loneliness
w can be at times!

Dread of it brings q shudder TO
many a girl, who is haunted by
fear of being left out of her
s'crowd," or worse still, finding
herself without hoy friends.
Many of these lonely girls are
pretty and attractive. But, for
some reason. they do not quite fit
In with the young people about
them. They are q little differ
Ont."
Not long ago I printed letter
signed Lonesome, The writer
was certain that she was lonesome
only because she refused TO pet
and drink and do other things she
felt were not quite straight. l"
Now comes a reply to this letter,
which l shall print for the bene-
fit of lonely, discouraged girls who
feel they would be successful--no
longer lonely-if they would but
lower their standards. and ideals.
DEAR MISS FAIRFAX:
''Will you please print in your
column this message to Lone
some? / thank you.
My Dear Miss Lonesome: l
was once in your position. My
one and only desire was to have
my fling at being popular.
Well, must say my wish was
granted and is still being granted.
] have become just one of those
popular flappers - in fact, too
popular-whu smoke and use cos
metics and drink little, once in
while. / always go out with
fast and wild bunch. l am never
chaperoned in any way! do as l
please and go where l please and
that Is that!
But listen, Lonesome, / would
change places with you any day
In the week. oh. yes, when it
comes to getting sheiks, never
have any trouble, for am
baby with big blue eyes. 1 weigh
. 40 pounds and am five feet four
inches tall. But the men l at
tract are not the kind who settle
down. They are always looking
for something new.
Dearie, when your man comes
along. he will be a man. For
real man will always choose an
Old.fashioned girl as his wife,
and will leave out the flappers.
So please take my. advice, Lone.
some, and continue to be an old.
fashioned girl. Remember, you
are not the only one who gets
lonesome. l am getting very
tired of being a 1927 flapper.
Yours in lonesomeness."
A FLIP.FLAPPER.'
There are two ways to combat
the DOGGY of loneliness and I'M
popularity. "Flapper," who wrote
the frank and friendly letter l
have just quoted, chose one way.
She compromised with her own
ideals to the extent of associating
with a wild bunch" and drinking
with them. She now receives any
amount of attention-of kind.
But is she satisfied? No: be-
cause the attention she receives is
not the sort Of devotion and
friendship she wants. Looking
q little ahead, she realizes she is
losing out. The men who date
her are not the kind of men who
make good husbands, nor is she
the type of girl worthwhile, de-
pendable men are most likely to
choose as loved life-partner and
helpmate.
"Flapper" is now even more
lonely than before she began her
"flapperish" career. For to be
lonely in the midst of a crowd is
the worst kind of loneliness. And
she realizes she has lost her best
chance of winning The Man.
Thank you, "Flapper," for your
frank letter. Not every girl is as
honest with herself as you are.
would suggest a better way out
than the path you chose-a course
that will not mean regrets and
loss Of self-respect.
Accept solitude IL it comes your
way and make the best of it.. BY
this do not for one instant
mean that sensible girl should
not do her full share of enter
tanning, and should not make
herself as attractive and lovable
as possible.
But cease to hate loneliness.
Evenings at home won't hurt
you. Solitude has been the max.
Ing of great souls, from David
to Colonel Lindbergh.
We need more solitude than we
manage to find time for--most of
us-in order to keep sane, well
balanced, wholesome mentally
and physically.
rake up courses Of study in
home-making, singing, a foreign
language or playing the harp,
those long, lonely evenings.
Learn to dance we'll. Read,
write. think. Give time to the
cultivation of your own health.
ful beauty. Take time to think
out ways of being helpful to
others.
Learn to be good company for
yourself, then you will love, not
dread. solitude. And the moment
you become self.reliant, poised,
CHEEKY. fine company for your
own self. one with the entire
world in friendly good will, 9th.
ers will begin to seek you out
both men and women. You
viii then be a someone. not 4
melody. You will be magnet
for friendship and love.
Many a charming, loved woman,
wonderful wife and mother, has
learned the secret of her sue
cess by Transforming loneliness
to happy solitude in some OF the
ways / have suggested.
Al "Flapper" points out wisely,
when The Man comes he will
be looking for your kind Of
q giri--a girl who has not com.
promised with honor to hanish
loneliness-as his trusted and
adored wife.