Evening star., 1927-09-21
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SUB ROSA
BIZ MIMI.
Mutual Interests.

There's a great deal of applesauce
written about this business of mutual
interests. Proper lovelorn advisers
will tell you to seek out a man whose
tastes and interests coincide with
yours, if you would be happy. :.
That sounds pretty good, and, or
course, every once in awhile we strike
a happy couple who have taken the
advice and been successful.
But unless one of you girls happens
to be the kind of dame who has an
overwhelming interest which absorbs
her entirely and which must he shared
by the man she loves, l shouldn't say
it was so important to have the boy
friend all keyed up about your favorite
indoor or outdoor sport.
Let me tell you why. You as
girl of 10 or 90 may be fearfully
hipped on books or art or the drama
or something else like that. And you
may think that your ruling passion
has to he taken into consideration
when you pick out man to marry.
You may figure that Romeo who
cares naught for that which seems to
you of vital Importance will be an un-
sympathetic and unsuccessful hus-
band.
If your hobby happens to be gen.
uine love with you-if you're going to
follow it to the end of your days
then, by all means, pass up the man
who has no sympathy with it. But
he sure. first. that you are really
wrapped up in this interest before you
give the air to some nice lad who
qualities in every way except for his
Indifference to your hobby.
You see, marriage creates many
changes. You have probably been told
hot hX
other we'll wishers. And one of the
chief changes it works is to erase from
ones mind the occupation or interest
which formerly seemed of greatest inn
portance. With the coming of house
hold problems and babies the old urge
for art or literature may take wings.
1t usually does.
I'm not saying that this is a good
thing, but I'm saying it's the usual
thing. Women do not retain their old
interest in culture, spelled with a
capital G. when they're tied down to
home and children.
Look around you at the ma jority Of
women you see. Listen to their talk.
What are the topics most often dis
cussed? Bridge. children, household.
finances, children again.
Women get wrapped up in the little
things Of life, and they forget all
about the day dreams they once had
of an artistic career shared by a SYM
pathetic, understanding husband.
They get down to taking care of a
house and worrying over baby and
they find they don't care hoot
whether the head of the house talks
radio or golf or the stock market.
Of course, every once in awhile we
have a case of an ideally mated
couple who see romance is built on
mutual hobby. Having a strong mu-
tual interest, they shut out all the or
dinary cares of life and pursue that
interest.
But they're the exceptions. The ma
jority of folks cherish a lot of illusions
about their intellectual and artistic
tastes. which they throw overheard
when they settle down to humdrum
married life.
Right now I know some girl is
thinking: That sounds too hard.
boiled. | know that / can never he
happy with a man who doesn't love
the same books / do and who doesn't
want to go to the theater or talk about
art or anything"
She means it right now as she says
it. but even she may find that mar
riage and responsibilities will rob
these matters of their Importance.
l knew girl once who threw over
boy because she was so awfully
afraid that his dislike Of nature,
spelled with a capital N-and all the
beauties of the outdoor world-would
make their union a flop
In time she was married. anyway,
to a man who was as crazy about
camping and the wildwoods as she
| herself was.
They live in New York now. because
they're so fond of the theater and the
shops and all the people that they
can't bear to bury themselves in the
green country for the whole year
round.
If you have real. absorbing IN
terest which is important enough to
keep all your life. then don't marry
man who is going to oppose that
interest