The Washington times., 1927-10-31
It's Lies Prize
Gift Even When
Unrequited
By Beatrice Fairfax


w with what he feels is sever
lasting love-" and the woman has
become betrothed to another, pos.
gibly through misunderstanding,
what il best to do? My CORE
spondent in the following letter
presents this serious problem:
"Dear Miss Fairfax:
"Sonle Of your readers may call
this love Of mine foolish. But to
me it means everything.
IT am a young man, cookbook.
ing. good-natured. have an
education In five languages. I
am a writer--a poet-but not in
English. am about to finish a
book In my native tongue.
Just ten years ago / fell in
love with q, girl Of my own ma
tionality.
81 took her three times to the
theater. One play We saw, / re-
member, was 'Chu Chin Chow in
China And we enjoyed it very
much-I, especially! But when
I called her UP the fourth time
she refused to accept my invita-
ton and gave some excuse I did
not like.
II became very angry. Since
then I have not spoken to her.
But / loved her just the same al.
though ! did not make another
attempt.
Two years passed. Her family
moved away. A certain rumor
about me reached them. This was
a lie, but I could not find out the
author Of the lie.
II became engaged to girl
of wealthy and prominent fam.
lily. J. was to receive $4,000 four
weeks before our marriage.
didn't need the money and don't
need it today.
''I began to realize that money
could not make me happy. and
four weeks before our wedding
day I dropped the entire matter.
"My first love was always on
INV mind.
To-day I I'M IN business for
myself as a broker. although my
name Is not listed in the books.
/ am doing very well and making
money. "a
Last week my sisters met the
young woman / love. She told
them she Is engaged and showed
them her ring. She expects to
be married next January.
Twill you please publish this
letter, with your comments and
advice. She reads your column.
If she reads this letter hope
she may change her mind. My
love for her is everlasting.
N &C. B.-POET."
OF course, you were foolish
you realize that, do You not, C.
B.?
You allowed your chance of
happiness to slip out of your
grasp because your silly pride
took offense when your friend
refused your invitation.
She may have had a good
reason for refusing. Why, since
you love her, did you not give
her the benefit Of the doubt and
continue to prove yourself a de.
voted friend?
At best, it was only your self
love, your vanity, that was stung
by her refusal. She had shown
appreciation Of your friendship
by accepting three previous in
vitations Of yours. It is in this
way, over seeming trifles, that
love tragedies SO often occur.
If by any chance she loved you,
and loves you still, it may not be
too late to make an effort to
clear away the misunderstanding.
Make the attempt for the sake
of her happiness as we'll as your
own. If she Is planning a love.
less marriage-as so many girls
do without realizing the gravity
of the mistake-there can be no
wrong in her breaking such an
engagement before it is too late.
Can you not manage. to see
your former friend for a moment
and talk this matter over with
her?
You owe her an apology for
abruptly breaking off the friend.
ship. If she is happy in. her
present betrothal, and loves the
man she Is to marry, YOU can
wish them both we'll, and efface
yourself from the situation by
accepting your disappointment
with good grace. But you will
at least be more content, know.
ing you made the effort to clear
away the misunderstanding be-
tween you two.
Since you are a poet. I know
you understand that love, even
unrequited. il life's greatest good.
To love with ''love everlasting is
. blessed privilege, granted to
noble souls. Illuminating all of
life with peace and joy and