Evening star., 1927-11-12
SUB ROSA
EY MIMI.
When He Was So Unhappy.


mail ard read the opening lines of a
letter: II am so much in love with
Donald. and he is with me. / met him
when he was SO unhappy chill
premonition Of disaster settles down
upon me.
| Thu rest of the letter is concerned
| usually with the happy maiden'S in
quiries as to how to hold his love. and
whether she should he jealous of that
other woman who made him so I'M
! happy.
/ OF course. lots of these pleasant,
| babbling little girls turn out all right
with the men whose broken hearts
:hey mended.
/ But, oh DEAR there are dozens Of
/ them who write to me again within
a very few months: What can the
matter be? He is changing. He
doesn't want to see me so often? Can
anything he the matter? What do
YOU suggest
J Then the chill premonition takes
| form and / know what it was | was
| drcadinc when ] received the first joy
Gus message Of confidence.
! / always have the suspicion in the
back of my cynical mind "If she met
/ him when he was SO unhappy that he
;, Just yearned for sympathy-how does
she know she isn't just d balm to hurt
pride?" r
| It's bitter fact that when men
| have been thrown over, 'one Of the
only things to comfort and cheer them
| iip is the proffered love of a new flame.
! If 81 heartbroken Romeo can date
UP with a pretty girl who shows in
stantly that she thinks he's the grand
est thing life has to offer, he'll get
right over being heartbroken in less
time than it takes to tell.
| And not always because he falls in
love with the new tmademoiselle
4 Sometimes he simply needs remedy
| for hurt pride to put him on his feet
| again.
| Sometimes he needs the feeling of
| being loved to soothe his wounded
heart.
| In either case the heart balm lady
| is out of luck il she allows herself to
| fall in love with the brokenhearted
| boy.
| She's only substitute for the real
/ thing--only q comforting, but tempo
rary refuge.
| AS soon rs Mr.. Man has regained
all his self-respect and balance of mind
he is likely to look around for real
love to take the PLACE of his old.
To the girl who has helped him
| through the bitterest part of his de.
| feat he viii tender his deepest graft
| tude. She will always be his, and
that's all she will be.
| If he doesn't look around for a new
| love he maybe often does-return
| for Il fresh try at the cold hearted lady
who gave him the air.
That, of course, is one of the worst
| things the lady who loves him has to
live through. She comforts him, she
bucks him up, she gives him new
lease on life--and once more restored
he trots back promptly to the naughty
siren who started all the trouble.
That's what every one of you has
| to look out for when you take it into
your head to fall. in love with a Tilted
beau.
Now don't get me wrong. Lots of
men marry the girls who mend their
broken hearts and live to a ripe old
age, happy and contented.
But just as many, caught on the
rebound. bounce away again as soon
as they can get free.
1t will pay you to be little careful
about falling in love with man who's
Stiii suffering from an unhappy love
affair.
Beware Of him if he too promptly
falls in love with you. What he's
feeling may not be the rosy emotion
1t appears-but simply a sensation of
relieved gratitude that there's some
one in the world who does love him.
If he goes on loving You for long
time, you can begin to have sense
OF security about the future. Then
and only then YOU may begin to make
plans for the ceremony. Until then
don't rave too much about the beauty
of this new-found love of yours-tlon't
count too much on it.
Watch and wait, until he's we'll past
the suffering stage-and is loving you
for yourself. and not for the comfort
you bring him. making him forget his
cruel defeat.
II met him when he was UNHAPPY"
is the opening line for good heart
rending sob story five cases out of ten.
tCopyrIght, 1927