Evening star., 1927-03-22

from somewhere in the far regions Of
the dear old English-looking rectory
on Twenty ninth street. DR.. Rays
3-year-old daughter, 1t proved to be,
| on her way for her morning airing.
mot bit too young" said her dad.
ITO have her lessons In life-and she
gets them every day. painlessly. No
one but the parents themselves can
give these lessons as they should be
given. Every function of the body,
every sign of curiosity, every puzzled
question gives a chance for lesson.
"If these are taken advantage of.
by the time the child is ready to face
the big decisions of life, and especially
those to do with attraction, love and
marriage, he will be able to do so
rightly, wisely and happily. But mar
riage can never be made safe until
we begin teaching our children In ba-
byhood what it's all about and show
ing them its seriousness as well as its
JoyouSneSS."
You cannot shock DIR. Ray by talk
ing Of sex as the chief basis of hui
man attraction. or by suggesting that
curiosity Is as often the reason for
girls marrying as dependence is. or
an unhappy home. We even mention
ed Karin Michaelis, the Danish biol
ogist, who proposes as the latest YER
sion of trial marriage a short mating
period" to be followed by the perna.
nent relationship.
"SeX is tremendously important he
readily agrees. 80 important, in fact,
that many are carried away by that
alone, not realizing that it is only a
factor in the life of those who marry.
The real necessity in marriage is con-
geniality, fondness, respect and all the
FfyI Atre,
term, spiritual qualities
Physical qualities and spiritual
qualities. however, are closely related.
They are the two elements necessary
TO a successful mating, just as man
and woman are the two elements
which make a useful world. They diff
Ter as the right hand differs from the
le1t But neither Is superior to the
other and both are equally needed.
don't say sex should be disre-
garded. 1t should not be and 1t can
NOT be. But If you teach your child
from the very start the truth about 1t.
the good and beautiful and natural
part it plays in life, that child will
grow up without abnormal curiosity or
exaggerated carnal appetites.
Marriage then will be stabilized. 1t
VIII be entered in q deeper, holier
spirit. as we'll as $3.50 spirit. Wom-
en- will expect and be given complete
equality-have freedom to develop
their gifts, earn If they wish to, come
and go in security and mutual trust,
have their own money and live indi-
Vldual lives as well as lives Of oneness,
lnseparable from their chosen mates.
II believe in homogeneous marriage,
but believe it should be prepared for
far earlier in life than we prepare for
1t now. / believe all sincere thinking
men and women believe in monoga-
nous marriage. 1t is the logical re.
suit Of our being above the animals.
They live in the present only. We
live in the past and future as well.
Our actions today are the result of all
that has gone in the past. And we
work today only for the future If we
had not the future to work for. to per-
feet ourselves for, life would have no
meaning.
when we marry. the step should be
the result of past learning and of fu-
ture building. The permanence and
holiness Of marriage are what make it
right
AS we stepped out into the sunshiny
garden of the Little Church, DIR. Ray
gave us a story to take along in our
mind and think about.
A man and woman came to him to
be married. They had not believed