Arizona state miner., 1927-02-26
In Confidence
IN THE ABSENCE OF OVER
TOWERING LOVE

D0dr MISS RIO.
The question which I find so diff
cult to answer for myself is whetner
l shall marry a man for whom have
only casual affection, or remain an
old maid. l shall soon be thirty. l
have an excellent position and l love
my work. l enjoy the money l earn,
and the luxuries it brings me, as only
woman can whose family has always
been poor and whose girlhood was
devoid of all the gayety and happiness
a girl Graves.
| can truthfully say that I have no
desire to marry. When l see other
women shabby, oyerworked, with cry
ing babies and grouchy husbands, |
feel that marriage has no charms for
me, but am afraid the day will come,
as it seems to come for ali those other
women who do not marry-when l will
find myself a lonely old woman, and
/ wish | had married and hau children.
c.. M.
1t does seem rather unfair, doesn't
1t, that a woman has to choose be-
tween marriage and her career? When
a man ma les he merely acquires a
home and wife and children in ad-
ditiOn to the other pleasures and in
terests of his rk, but woman US
ually has to sacrifice one or the other.
only the exceptional woman as yet
can manage both witnout breaking or
falling down on one job or the other.
AS a matter of fact, there are women
who have no need of marriage-who
do not desire it, but who virtually
force themselves into it because Of
their fear of being an old maid or of
old age loneliness.
But some of the lonenest women
in the world today are married women
with children
the unmarried woman of today is
really happy creature She is no
longer an "old maid.,' Sne is a
bachelor girl, and her life is often
SO full and interesting and useful that
she is utterly happy and contented
in her own way
very spry, interesting old lady of
81 recently claimed lat her principal
reason for not marrying was her in
tense horror of parting with her
freedom, and of having ner in, duaIly
and gifts killed by husbands and chill
dren and circumstances. She is con-
vinced that for her at least the only
life was single life, and she has abso-
lutely no regrets for not having mar
ried
All OF this, Of course, Aseems i'm
possible to the wife and mother who
has reasoned herself into state of
superiority and has only pity for the
unmarried woman. She expresses on
every possible occasion her belief that
there is no work and no honor that
can recompense for the tragedy of
not having a child. This view is lit
tie short of insulting to the many
great women who have done levery-
thing and had everything but a child,
and who made life worth living for
other women's children and found
recompenses in full for themselves.
Were you in love, there is no ques-
tlon as to which you should choose.
You would decide in favor of marriage,
and tiny two-by-four house would
look better to you than the finest Job
in the world. To be sure, there would
be many times when you would find
marriage most trying, but having for
your very own the man you loved
would be sufficient compensation for
any hardship.
But as you are not in love, in my
opinion it is toss-up as to which will
prove the most satisfactory-sing
blessedness with a career, or marriage.
There is considerable charm in both
lots, and whether you decide on mar
riage or a career, there will be times
when you Will regret with all your
hea.. the decision you made, because
it is --uman, nature to believe that
everybody's lot is easier than your
own.