Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-09-15
SUB ROSA
BY MIMI.
BY MIMI.

| Be q Sport. ~
Have you ever thought how few
girls are sports about marriage?
They may be wonders on the tennis
| grounds, or the golf course, or the
hunting fields, but they're cowardly
and unfair in the bigger game of mar
riage.
Especially today do I notice this
when every girl I meet prides herself
on her ability to lose gamely and to
| win graciously.
| It isn't sportsmanlike to walk into
| a thing with your eyes wide open and
then to blame somebody else when
you find your Venture Is a flop.
Now, you know. 5 out of 10 girls
are marrying-well, not exactly for
money. but for pleasure and comfort
| and security.
Lots Of these girls are awfully fond
of the men they marry. but they're
not in love, not deeply, thrillingly in
love, so that the adjustments neces'
sary to every marriage are made cas-.
lily and lovingly.
| These girls marry nice men whom
they like and respect awfully. and
they admit to their friends that
| they're not in love with their future
husbands, but they think everything
will come out all right just the same.
| A girl Of character, given a reason
| ably nice husband. can make a sue
cessful marriage out of one of these
rather tepid love affairs.
If she plays the game, she can
| make her husband happy and keep
| herself contented. ~
Betty married Leo just about a year
| ago. Leo had a lot of money and was
so nice all the girls liked him. Betty
| knew she didn't love him. but because
she was fond of him she didn't think
| 1t would matter.
She would have all the material
| things she wanted. and she'd have a
husband she really liked and re-
| spected.
That was a year ago. Now Betty
droops about with wistful sigh, COM
| planning that there's no romance in
ture Of living is gone.
She's so bored she can't bear to go
on living She simply weeps when
she hears Of a happy love affair. She
Is wholly melancholy and respondent
and thorough bad sport.
It's shameful Of her to bewail a
fate which she picked out for herself;
it's unfair to Leo. He, poor lad, en-
tered the bargain with all the best
intentions in the world. He was in
love with Betty and he had played
fair.
What earthly right has she to COM
plain Of him because he doesn't fur
nish the colorful romance her heart
desires?
She knew he wouldn't when she
| married him. She knew that in TAX
ing him for her husband she was CIV
ing up all the joys of true love in
| exchange for peace and security and
comfort.
She's getting exactly what she ex-
pected, and yet she dares to parade
her sorrows before all her friends.
Such an action Is cowardly and indie
cent. It's taking advantage of Leo's
kindness to her. It's showing up
their marriage as a joke for all friends
and neighbors to laugh at.
The girl who won't stick UP for a
husband who is decent and kind and
thoughtful isn't worth looking at.
That's one Of the principles Of mar
riage-to stick up for each other
against the world, not to belittle each
other to whomever will listen.
If you've swallowed a bitter pill
prescribed by yourself, be sport
about it.
Don't indulge in self-pity over what
you could have avoided IL you hadn't
thought you knew it all.
Take your medicine and don't
blame an innocent man because
you're unhappy over your own bad
Copyright. 1927