The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1927-07-30
Have the MOderns.
Given It q New
Definition?
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage.

Can 1t be that the kiss Is
changed in meaning these days?
IL 1t likely the time viii come
when the kiss as caress Of affec-
ton win be as unknown among US
rs it is now among native tribes
Of New Zealand and various other
regions Of the earth2
Certainly the following letter
from Bachelor" expresses a mod.
ern view, quite foreign to the old
fashioned, accepted idea Of q kiss
o. 3 syTnboIaof affection and love.
Dear Miss Fairfax:
If asked girl, to kiss me
and she refused, / would lose all
desire to kiss her again. The way
i figure Is expressed in the fol.
lowing phrase: Once refused, al
ways refused.
From what / have read, and
from what fellows and girls have
told me. have come to the con-
clusion that all girls are willing
to go out with men and let men
treat them and pay them comph.
ments. But when girl is asked
for a kiss, why everything IS diff
ferent.
According to the papers
man thinks more of a girl who
refuses to kiss him. But don't.
I respect the girl who returns my
kisses q great deal more than |
do the girl who refuses to kiss
me. You may conclude from this
that my friendship for girls ! go
out with is. not true. But l can
safely say that there is not a
girl who can put a single mark
against me.
ST do not think much of girl
who let's man kiss her, but does
not return the kiss. There is
no pleasure in a kiss Of this ma
ture. / wonder whether you viii
,Nrint this letter, which conflicts
! It'll the ideas Of so many who
"A BACHELOR"
Nqr letter Is entitled to q
hearing, Mr.. Bachelor. because it
sincerely expresses the attitude
OF many thousands of young men
on the subject of the kiss.
Make me immortal with
kiss" her lover begged Helen OF
Troy, according to the dramatist.
There is a thrill in kiss, with
depths and heights of ecstatic
love back Of it. The world might
wen be lost for such a kiss.
sTYou owe me your kisses, for l
have spent so cents on you," de-
mands the modern sheik. And
modern Helen may have to climb
out Of her escorts car and walk
home unless she pays her debt
promptly and enthusiastically, re-
gardless of her personal feelings.
There is neither friendship nor
love, neither beauty nor lnsplra'
tion in this type of modern kiss,
but only the most sordid, tawdry
form OF self-indulgence, a selfish,
material pleasure.
Try to look ahead, Mr.. Bache-
Tor, to the time when you may
have a daughter of your own,
growing into womanhood. I won.
der whether you will lay down for
her the code you demand OF girls
today.
will you assure your daughter
that IL she hopes to hold the re-
epect and liking of men she must
cheerfully give her lips to every
man she knows and who does her
the honor Of asking a kiss regard
less Of whether she likes, loves
or shrinks from him? Will you
instruct her always to kiss en-
Enthusiastically the man who spends
srSa 1nIln affAns
tions to her or even deyotes
few moments Of his time as her
escort? Will you care to have
your daughter mauled by every
acquaintance?
All the girls who eagerly kiss
you in payment for your atten.
lions, Mr.. Bachelor, kiss also Tom,
Dick and Harry with equal enthu-
siasnl. That is the spirit of the
prorniscuous kiss. Will you choose
such a. girl as head Of your home,
as your heIpmate. the mother OF
your children? Will you care to.
have your wife generous with
her kisses to all corners?
DO girls really want this pro
nniscuous petting? Do young men
actually want them to have it
the girls they love and marry?
Perhaps the custom fits well with
the hip.flask and the noisy, thrill
chasing spirit that turns girls at 4
party into public property, as It
were.
It Is hard to take a stand that
may mean social ostracism. Yet
/ advise every girl with the in.
stinctive desire Of good girl
10 give her love and kisses to just
one mantle man she lovesto
Be independent. unyielding in her
refusal OF kisses to the casual
frieud. the chance escort, to any
and every new acquaintance who
claims a, kiss as payment due for
attentions so much for so much.
DO not compromise with the ideals
that give meaning and value to