The Washington times., 1927-10-15
KEEP YOUR HEAD
Consult Mind and
Heart Before You
Choose Mate
By Beatrice Fairfax
0T'M through with men,!

i II don't believe there's q
good man in the worldr
These and similar candid state.
ments of opinion occur in letters
receive when Sally or Betty
or June or Marie writes in bitter
vein about love and marriage and
men. In the same days mail l
am likely to come across a bit of
pessimistic philosophy on the
= subject of girls in a letter from
"Bashful Man" or Bachelor Of
Twenty-Five"
| Judging by my experience with
this column of advice to girls,
five years is likely to find bitter
Betty, pessimistic Sally, hopeless
Sue and heart-broken June, each
delightedly in love with one of
those maddening young men,
) either engaged or married to him
while "Bashful Man" will be
proudly marching down the
church aisle with his blushing
bride and bachelor-a bachelor
no longer-will be supporting a
wife and pushing the baby's per.
ambulator Saturday afternoon,
blissfully content with his lot in
life.
There is a certain tendency to
antagonism between the sexes,
which must be reckoned with.
This is caused possibly-at least
in PARTLY lack of understanding.
II Is hard for young men and
young women to understand each
other and the motives back of Ger.
tain illogical actions, which make
the perpetual masculine end eter-
nal feminine a puzzle to each
other. What we can't understand,
we sometimes fear and dislike,
even while we are attracted by
its romance.
II can't understand why treat
Frank so bodily" Kay confided.
Il love him, yet tease him. and
break dates with him. and some
times just to make him jealous.
I make a great fuss over other
boys. could be much nicer to,
him.
Kay at II, doesn't understand
herself or her own conflicting
emotions. So it is little wonder
that Frank fails to understand
her. Some day when she is es-
pecially capricious, he will sud-
denly decide she cares nothing for
him and will go away-perhapS
marry a girl he doesn't care for,
Just to, forget or to spite Kay.
On the other hand 1 know a
young man who is breaking the
heart of the girl who loves him,
and whom he loves with "ever-
lasting love-" he tells me. They
had a quarrel three years ago.
She told him not to come to see
her again.
Later, she wrote, apologizing for
!. her hasty words. But his pride
will not permit him to reply to
her letter or to go to her and tell
her of his love as he longs to do.
Team work between heart and
head is both kind and a protec-
ton to love, avoiding tragic mis-
understandings.
know of men who are not con.
tent until they can arouse infatua-
ton in any woman who Is both
attractive and indifferent. The
moment love is aroused in
woman by his alluring wooing, a
man Of this type loses all interest
in her and withdraws as grace
fully as he can. For the Don
Juans loathe responsibility, and
want only the thrill of pursuit
and conquest.
Also, there are countless women
who encourage a man to seriously
love them for the SAX of gifts or
money or possibly because they
enjoy flattering attentions and
, feel that proposals of marriage
! are a proof OF popularity and
Charm.
The girl or man who plunges
headlong into love without con.
/, sulting his intelligence, is always
human vampires.
Girls who refuse, laugh-and
tell-when a man does them the
honor Of proposing marriage, are
one of the reasons why men have
grown very cautious about pro-
posing marriage. AS a matter of
self.protection a man Is likely to
/, talk much of love. little of mar.
/ riage until he Is sure that the
/. girl appreciates and reciprocates
y his love.
Most girls try to study a man
], whom they regard as a possible
life partner. But before they de-
eide whether he fills all sensible
!, requirements as to character and
/, suitability they are likely to fall
In love with him. Even though
I you lose your neart, hang onto
L your head. And let yc.l head
/ make your final decisions.
. Even disappointed love may In
\ time make you more sympathetic,
1 understanding, lovable, free from
4 the bitterness Of sex-antagonism.
I able to listen to and obey both
your heart and head in solving
problems Of romance. Then you
1 will be able to attract and win
love that IL real, love that is
wise and deeply satisfying and
j leads to q marriage of lasting