The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1927-07-02
Insincerity Is Its
Distinguishing
Characteristic
By Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems of
Love and Marriage

WHAT is Irritation?
w Many a girl who has
fIirted more than once and ad-
mits It. might find It hard to
explain just what filtration Is.
st saw you flirting with that
ecod.looking young man. friend
may remark laughingly to you.
Yet, IL you and the acquaintance
referred to were. having a thor
OughIy enjoyable chat, was II a
Irritation?
Insincerity il the distinguish.
Tag characteristic of a Irritation,
according to the dictionary, which
explains that a Filtration IL
lnsincers love-making."
In former generations. it was
quite a triumph for a belle" If
she could capture the hearts of
many men by her flirtations and
boast Of a long list Of proposals
of marriage.
But one OF the best traits of
the younger generation of today
II frankness. honesty. There is
more Of camaraderie, less Of flirta.
ton in the relationships between
young men and girls than in
former days. And this honesty
between men and women prom.
tses well for the happiness and
success Of marriage.
Anne and Dick were pals for
several years before they decided
to be married. Anne is so pretty
and charming that she received
q. great deal Of attention. But it
meant little t her except as light,
frank, social interplay. For Anne
remember well the fiance of her
early girlhood who died Just be.
fore their wedding-day.
But Dick and Anne liked the
same people, enjoyed the same
books, shared similar tastes and
q sense of humor. Dick was in
love with Anne, frankly, and as
willing to wait and bide his time.
Finally, Anne realized that their
pleasant friendship, on her side
8AOV lldu SLO"h " US
friendship and that she could give
Dick sincere love as well.
No wonder their marriage has
been successful with foundation
of understanding, honest friend.
ship!
No wonder Dick is inspired to
his best work! This summer the
two are in Europe on a second
honeymoon as the result of the
success of Dicks new novel.
A girl who habitually flirts will
keep right on flirting, the chances
are after she marries. For we
are ruled by the habits we make.
Whatever the motive for a fir
tation, however. harmless it may
appear, 1t is as safe and wise to
flirt as to toss smoulderinG ciga-
rette stubs into a tank of gaso-
line.
The modern male flirt, who
makes love to just any girl be-
cause he likes her flattery and her
petting. then proceeds to forget
her and make equally insincere
pretensions of love to another girl,
is, unfortunately, a common type.
But fortunately. ne is a type that
any girl with good sense can be
on guard against and refuse to
take seriously.
Even promiscuous petting or
necking is free from this faint
of insincere loVe-making, for. as a
rule. necking does not even make
q pretense to love and is just a
crude, obvious case Of self.indul-
gence.
The real reason a fine girl does
not flirt Is because the heartleSs.
ness involved. as we'll as the in.
sincerity of filtration, are a
degradation of her own ideal of
herself.
Coouetry should not be confused
with flirting. Coquetry. that in
stinct to make herself pleasing
and attractive to men. is born in
every girl
NY three-year-old niece rolls her
big blue eyes. with their fringed
eiIken lashes. at her Daddy and
smiles at his irresistibly as she
informs him confidentiaIly. Baby
likes rice pudding" She hardly
knows she has eyes, vet she seems
to realize instinctively that using
her eyes artfully will win her a
second helping of dessert,
To handle q fan effectively, to
use her eyes beautifully, to drese
exquisitely in order to please
men. is part Of the feminine in.
stinct. And surely this imper.
sonal, captivating charm adds
grace to the fine art of living
and appeals to the chivalry Of
men. Coquetry Is harmless when
used with discretion, but it is a
highly dangerous weapon of
charm and should be used only
wisely.
That applying the Golden Rule
to practical affairs Of business is
a growing modern tendency is
proved by the growth of such or.
CARNATIONS as the Rotary clubs.
Applying the Golden Rule to
friendship and loves does away
once and for all with the heart
less insincerity of the Irritation,
Sincerity Is the heart and soul
OF love. II you are honest in
your friendships and affections,
you with avoid the pitfalls of the
Irritation and will stand every
chance Of winning the lasting
JOY and inexpressibls peace Of
successful marriage to the man
you love.
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