The Washington times., 1927-12-07
"A PROBLEM
OF YOUNG
LOVE
| BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority ON the Problems Of
Love and Marriage

Love and Marriage
DART of the allurement of in
= fatuation is the belief that
II will last. 1t seems incredible
that such rosy enchantment can
ever fade into the light of COM
mon day." Yet letters reach me
in every mail, asking in sub.
stance: why did his love
I changer" or, How could she
tire of me when we were so
happy as sweethearts"
Perfect love knows "neither
change nor shadow of changing"
But human love is seldom if ever
quite perfect. For that reason, it
is wise to test love by time and
absence as well as companionship,
Gbefore undertaking love and
honor" funtil death do us part"
Dear Miss Fairfax writes
Undecided, When was 16 and
J about to go away to school be.
came engaged to a young man
with whom l had fallen deeply in
love.
Later 1 changed schools and
met another man. We are class
mates, and have been sweet
hearts now for almost two years.
have been more in his com.
tipany than in that of my fiance,
whom / have Lot seen for nearly
four years. But he still writes,
and he wishes to marry me next
summer. The other young man
} also proposed recently and is
waiting for his answer.
feel sometimes that I love
him more than / dO my fiance.
Please help me-"
Henry" presents another angle
OF changeable love-the hurt be-
wilderment of the man who feels
his sweetheart is drifting from
him.
q Dear Miss Fairfax" he writes.
II have been associating with a
girl who is good and respectable
oh, to make it short, the best
little girl there is. in my estima-
/ tion. I have known many, but
not one who appeals as she does.
Although she is of a different
religion, l offered to give up my
religion when proposed to her.
For a time things looked very
promising. Then I went away to
another city to work. 1 sent
i her birthday letter and gift.
Whenever could l went to the
Jcity where she lives to see her.
Her letters hegan to grow
more infrequent. / wrote to ask
her why. She claimed she wrote
and the letter was lost in the
J mail.
Finally she wrote that on ac.
count of the difference in our
religions she thought it best we
should be just good friends. l
know that is only an excuse, be-
cause she had told me religion
made no difference.
please tell me why she
changed Just when everything
seemed all right and we were
going to be happily married.
There seems to be no hope"
am sorry you are so dlsap-
pointed Henry. And I am sorry.
Aalso. for that other fiance, whom
Undecided" will hurt by break
ing her engagement.
For that is what is likely to
happen. Undecided" became en-.
o gagged at sixteen. Nearly four years
have PASSED without her seeing
her fiance. She is interested
now in another man. It is not
likely she will go on with the
marriage under the circumstan.
ces.
A broken engagement is un-
fortunate. But loveless mar
riage would be infinitely worse
Rfor all concerned. 1t is a great
mistake for very young girls to
become engaged. because young
girls-and very young men also
are changeable. with new ideas
4 and fresh viewpoints about what
Is worthwhile each succeeding
year. 1t is mistake for young
people to become engaged. until
they can see their way plainly to
getting married. within a reason
able time-say year or six
months.
After all. friendships and court
ships of young people are condi-
Ational and experimental. They
are an opportunity of becoming
better acquainted.