Evening star., 1927-09-22
SUB ROSA
by MIMI.
Diligent Daisy.

She was called the diligent daisy
because she worked hard and long at
the business of making men like her.
She found 1t very hard. but she kept
right at the game fong after other
girls would have given up in despair.
At least six books in her library
were devoted to the subject Of charm
personality, sex appeal, or what have
you?
Daisy read these all the time She
studied rules of personality. She had a
whole series of things a popular girl
will not do. And still she didn't get
anywhere with it all.
When she met man at q dance
she did all the correct things. She
urged him to talk about himself. She
looked wistful and disappointed when
somebody else cut her partner out,
she handed him the proper line when
he cut in again, but that was the
end Of the affair. Somehow even the
men on whom she worked the most
perfect methods never came to see
her or evinced any desire to take
her anywhere.
The trouble was not that her meth
DDS were necessarily wrong, but you
can't make friends by rule. Nor can
you attract men with certain set
rules.
You may go through all the mo-
tions of being popular girl, say
all the proper things, show the right
interest. and yet fail because your
personality hasn't emanated that
spark of true, warm friendliness
which is needed to strike up a real
attraction.
Daisy is so busy remembering all
the things she must and must not
do that she hasn't time to laugh
naturally and enjoy herself
She has grim work to do. Men
must be made. If she doesn't at
tract one or two the dance Is a
fzzle, and she might just as we'll
not have gone. That's the way she
feels about it.
SO that as she moves around the
ballroom she is nervously alert,
watchful, cautious-the very antithe-
sis of what any girl should be at
a good dance.
She doesn't give the impression of
enjoying herself. She seems to be
working too hard, and thinking too
fast, really to enjoy anything.
The really popular damsel of the
ball is romping about, her eyes
sparkling, her laugh ringing free and
happy, her friendliness simply bub-
bling over to include everybody in
the room. She attracts people right
and left. I'm not saying that with
all the friendliness and sparkle there
doesn't go bit of level-headed
thinking as to how to make people
like her. But she achieves her great
est effect with the happiness that is
part of her.
Daisy's worried. eager expression
doesn't attract suitors. Her anxiety
makes her very serious, and she
gives half the boys the impression
that she's much too preoccupied to
be interested in them.
This, in spite of the fact that she
follows excellent rules.
What she has forgotten, though,
Is that the best rule on earth won't
help you if you're not really inter-
ested and friendly.
You must be right there with the
warm human interest if you're going
to make a dent with your fellow
beings, be they men or women.
The more interested you grow in
other people, the fewer rules you'll
need to follow in order to make them
love you.
Unselfshness and a real joie de
vivre will often thrust girl into
belledom where whole book of
rules fails.
Mimi will be glad to answer any in
quiries directed to this. paper. provided
stamped. addressed envelope is inclosed.