The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1927-08-13
Physical Appea
Only Minor Part
OF Real Charm
BY Beatrice Fairfax
An Authority on the Problems Of
Love and Marriage.

= write letter saying 1 nave
sex appeal"
One Of the prettiestof our NOV,
Ing picture actresses, aged 1s,
made this remark while rehears-
Ing her first grown-up role. Need
less to say. she has her full share
o. the much.discussed quality,
Every wholesome, attractive girl,
whether or not she realizes the
fact, has sex appeal.
But now and then / receive an
earnest, worried letter from some
young girl asking how she can
acquire this mysterious attribute.
And her letter generally con
cIudes:
uJust what Is sex appealg
What Is sex appeal? Your die
tionary is not likely to tell you,
for the phrase Is comparatively
new, although the quality Is old
as Mother Eve and Father Adam.
For one thing, sex appeal is 9
nrizh chestnut among outWorn
Jokes. Few take it seriously The
sex appeal joke Is too uninterest-
Ing to even bring smile. and be-
longs in the same class with sheik,
inother.in.law and prohibition
jests.
sex appeal is merely the natu-
raj interest and attraction men
women have for each other. In
some persons this interest is more
pronounced than IN others.
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whom / shall call Mae. When
Mae won the local beauty contest
her home town became far too
small for her., She decided that
Broadway was clamortng for her
beauty and appeal.
joe iisapproved Of the beauty
contest and the Broadway plan.
He had been Macs sweetheart
aince school days. He was clear
eyed. athletic type Of young man,
with an old-fashioned idea Of rev.
arancing women. He wanted to
marry Mae as soon a. he received
his first raise in salary at the
bank.
But Mae, conscious OF her power
10 attract admiration and atten.
lions. refused Joe and decided in
favor Of Broadway and stage
farna. She found her pathway
was not strewn with flowers.
There were countless pretty girls
on the stage. She was obliged to
obtain backing and publicity by
dubious means.
IN time abe tired Of ell the
tawdry yulgarity Of her work as
show girl. After all she loved
Joe, and longed tor peace and se-
curity a. his wife.
Joe came to New York finally
for the express purpose Of . sur
prise visit to Mae and q plea to
her to marry him and go back
home. But when he saw her
nude poses in a salacious revue,
horror and repulsion destroyed
his love and he went back home
alone.
AS the result Of years Of con.
eideration Of love. problems, I
have come to the conclusion that
deliberate sex appeal does not
| appeal seriously to the type Of
man who makes a good husband.
Nor does 1t bring permanent sue.
cess and happiness to q woman.
Some persons make the mistake
of thinking that charm and seq
appeal are one and the same
thing. The two qualities are
widely different. You can cult.
yate charm by building up char.
acter, sweet and gracious man-
ners and unselfish consideration
for others. You can't cultivate
sex appeal.
Sex appeal is purely physical.
Charm may include physical love-
illness. but it is also OF the mind
and spirit. For this reason.
charm grows with the years and
the charming girl usually becomes
a still more charming woman.
whereas, sex appeal very seldom
outlives youth.
"A girl cannot do better than
cultivate the graces that make up
charm. Did you ever stop to
consider the color Of your speak
ing voice? Some voices have
deep. rich harmonies bf tone
color. Others are shrill and gar
ish. The girl who gives careful
heed to the color Of her costumes,
may well take pains also, to
make her voice one of clear, at
tractive color. You will be long
and pleasantly remembered be-
cause Of sweet, weII-modulated
speaking voice.
Al man / know first met his
wife In France, while he was sta
toned there on naval duty. He
told me OF their meeting one.
afternoon while this charming
wife busied herself with tea for
the threeaof us on the veranda Of
their country home.
What first attracted ME about
Marguerite" he said, was her
innocence as shown by her voice.
I knew. she was innocent by the
look In her eyes and by every
thing she said. After all these
years, innocence Is still my wife's
greatest attraction for me-
Innocence Is not necessarily
ignorance. but ID rather, clean sin,
certify and freedom from wrong.
When all is said and done, Is it
not true that for the average man.
Innocence and decency are real sex
appeal-the attraction that lasts
and Is worth while? These quail.
flies together with the charm 81
youth, health and lovable charac.
ter should win for you the life.
long. devoted love of the One Man.