Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1927-12-17
SUB ROSA
By MIMI.
Disillusionment.

cts awful for me to feel like this,
Mimi, but | can't help it. / can't con-
troll my feelings. I just don't feel the
same way about Roy as l used to. L
love him in a way-yes, but all the
glamour seems to be gone. know
he isn't any better than lots of other
men. | don't think he's the most
wonderful man in the world. I've nst
gone dead, that's all. And although
there isn't anybody in the world /
want to marry, and there isn't any one
| care for, still I'm worried about TINS
new attitude of mine toward Roy. 1t
convinces me l don't love him any
more"
Thus Evelyn on the subject of the
eternal boy friend She's been going
with him seven years. Laugh that Off,
if you can.
She's known him since they were in
high school together, and she's waited
a long time for him to have enough
money to marry her.
OF course all this time she's been
going with other boys-but for the
last two years she and Roy have been
definitely engaged. Now, right on the
eve Of the wedding day, she's getting
cold feet.
needles whenever she sees him. She's
happy to be with him, but there's no
big, thrilling kick out of the whole
thing.
And the worst thing in the world Is
the realization that he isn't the great
est man this old planets ever known,
She no longer feels that he's great
at all. She feels that he's just a nice,
dear boy who loves her. Isn't it
awful?
Well. all that's happening to her is
what happens to most young gals
after they've been married a while.
They usually come to with a start,
and discover that the husband is not
the greatest creation of the universe.
1t doesn't upset them awfully. Grad
ually they get used to the idea.
That moment is called disillusion-
ment, but it isn't as bitter as it
sounds.
After this slight disillusionment has
been met and passed over, there still
remains a very tender. true love on
which to build up happiness.
Granted that the glamour has gone.
Evelyn still loves Roy. She still finds
him an ideal companion. She's simply
known him so long. been with him so
long. that the bright sparkles have
gone out Of the picture.
She isn't bored with him. She
doesn't dislike him. She's merely
found that he's an ordinary human
being, and the knowledge worries her.
Having placed him on a pedestal
and worshiped for a considera BILE
number of years, it is rather upset
ting to get used to thinking of him
inst
But once she gets over that shock
she'll be all right. There's no need
for her to break the engagement and
her own heart.
Girls are always doing things like
that. Lots of them back out Of a
wedding after long engagement, and
never realize why they're doing it,
until it's too late to mend matters
Long engagements sometimes re-
move all the glamour and rosy colored
romance which accompany young
peoples love affairs, ordinarily.
But they don't always remove the
real true love which is the best basis
for any kind of relationship. Often
they strengthen that to make it a
finer, stronger foundation for mar
riage.
Evelyn's case doesn't worry me.
IL normal natural one. I've
known dozens of girls like her be
fore. And l know that if she will
stick to Roy, and marry him just as
she'd planned. all will be we'll
She won't have that slight, super.
fetal establishment ahead of her.
From now on she can just go about
adjusting herself to the new state of
things, and she won't waste as much
time weeping over the disappearance
of the rosy mist, as most young
wives do.
(Copyright. 1927