The Indianapolis times., 1927-12-30

would with any other trouble.
situation is, and that YOU want
this young man TO love you.
She viii understand that for a
girl it IS more important to have
husband than girl friend, be-
cause a girl friend Will not protect
you from the world shelter you in a
little home Of your own and give you
children to look after and adore.
She will understand that you want
to give her up for q little while. Per-
haps your fance thinks She has
more influence over you than she
really has and wants you to give her
up for this reason. After marriage
he NAV find out for sure that he
comes first last and always with you
In your heart and not object to your
having this friendship, too.
AS a general thing, Martha Lee
would not advise giving up your
friends. 1t is a wonderful thing TO
stick to ones friends, but woman
should not sacrifice herself to any
one when the question Of giving up
ones life's happiness is at stake. II
you love this young man you VIII be
willing to give up all others for him.
Dear Miss Lee MY husband left me
four years ago and ne had no reason TO
go, as ! loved him clearly ! don't ,siI kno% Nv
what to do as I can't get enough WORK 70
keep me and / have no place TO 90 ana
have no way to find him How can l ma
LONESOME WIDOW.
The Indianapolis free employment
agency, IN the Life Insurance Bldg
N. Pennsylvania St, may be able
to help you find work, Lonesome
Widow, and will not charge you
anything for getting the job.
You don't mention having any
children, so I suppose that your
problem is somewhat the same as
that of a man who is out of work.
Many men get discouraged when
they are unable to find jobs. Some
times they have a family to keep,
too You must just bear your dis
Couragement as well as you can, and
try harder and harder to find work.
When you get a job, or if you have
one by this time, be sure to give
so much satisfaction to your en-
ployer that he will hire you again,
or give you a recommendation AL
ways ask for a recommendation
when you leave, and ask, if possible,
for a personal recommendation to
some other place or friend who
might need YOU
Just think, you had a few years
vacation from the struggle of earn
ig a living in a world where that
is not the easiest thing to do. Some
women, who have never married,
have never been supported even
Shat long, and Of course men, at no
ztime i'll their existence have any
such luck as having any one take
care of them, even for a short time.
So, Lonesome Widow, even if
your husband has left you. turn
your face to the battle of life and
try to be brave. Waste no more
worries on yesterday. There is no
way that a deserting husband can
be traced for you. I cannot help
you find him. 1t takes courage to
live, when one is unemployed, yet
one must live. That is why I am
trying to give you courage, even
while I assure you you have my
sympathy. Lonesome Widow, you
will be sure to get little work and
live somehow. In the meantime
perhaps you can be so kind to every
one that you will have friends, and
these will take your mind off your
grief and speak words of comfort to
you.
Yes, Little Grey Eyese, it was per-
fectly proper for you and your
mother to give the young man a
Christmas present. This is the sea-
Ason of good will If he is the senSi-
BILE young man that you think he is,
Ahe would not miSinterpret q gift
krom your mother as being anything
se than a generous gesture. If you
ought that such gift from her
ght lead him into any thought
It he was about 70 be cap
ed and frighten him you might
,e asked your mother to refrain.
Christmas is Christmas and
is are gifts and all presents
ould be sent in that spirit of un-
lhshness which the season typifies.
Eo,. Moan York Vje;fO,.