San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1926-01-09
Playing Safe
With Love
BY Beatrice Fairfax.

EhLNt. AtSh'
How familiar the slogan is to al
of us. Doubtless il has prevented
many an accident and misadyenturC
by reminding careless people. In this
age of curious new dangers. but for
the motto, Safety fint.' few would
survive.
But docs this motto always apply
Does it apply in problems Of love
and marriage?
Lots Of folks think so. But some
of them are spinsters and bachelors
who find consolation for their color
less and lonely existence in the
thought, We'll. had / taken chance
and married, l might be worse off. :
Nothing ventured. nothing won, "
goes the ancient proverb. "Thc
greater the gain the greater the
risk" might almost seem equally
automatic. To win the deepest, the
richest, the finest experiences life
has to give her daughters, we must
be willing to pay the price if need be
in suffering and hardship, self-sac-
rifice, even danger of death.
Love, marriage and motherhood are
a woman's birthrisht. Yet to expert
cnce these blessings and really live
her life she must take risks. Play
ing absolutely safe is sometimes only
another name for selfishness and
cowardiness and leads to the monot
onous lie of human oyster.
To make a lottery Of love, wild
gamble of marriage is, of course, 6
foolish extreme. Iris, for instance
married a man the other day, who
is known to be a bounder. He has
broken one woman's heart. His very
face proclaims cruelty and dissipatcd
years. Such a marriage hasn't q
gambling chance. Iris knows in hcr
heart that she'll pay dear for heI
infatuation in broken health and dis
illusionment. In a love affair with
married man there isn't chance
to win.
One of the happiest marriages
know is that of Madge and George.
Yet they took chances when they
married. George, as the result OF his
war experience was far from strong
Both Madgc and George were poor.
Madge left her own family ant
country and made her home will
George in q foreign land, with in
laws" whom she had never seen. But
she knew George was fundamentally
strong. mentally and physically, thai
he was kind aud man of honor. And
she loved him. Love isn't worth much
if it's not worth facing difficulties and
| problems TO win and TO hold. The
very essence of romance involves bat
Ting against odds.
If our ancestors had played safe
where would America be today
Pioneer romances were lived annie
hard labor and famine and perils Of
Indians and wild beasts. Yet how
gloriously those hardy pioneers LIVED
and loved! And what heritage they
left us
Your sweetheart may prove faith
| less. You may cease TO love your hus-
band or lose his love. Motherhood
may bring you sorrow, ingratitude
even death. You're sure to meet with
some establishment through mar
riage, because men and women are not
the angels they seem in the first sweet
dream of romance. Is the risk too
great to be worth while?
Every girl longs for love and happy
marriage. wifehood and motherhood
Take the reasonable risk that every
| thing worthwhile in human life Ill,
wolves. Live your life, fearlessly and
wisely. Enjoy your romance.
You can minimize risks by practical
measures such as fitting yourself to
be an efficient. practical housekeeper
cook and homemaker. and studying
thrift and money values. You can de-
velop and retain your health and IN
dividual charm. You can encourage III
yourself such qualities as tolerance
"wifely patience" humor, respect FOL
the rights and privacy of others, good
| temper.
Above all you can listen to the urg-
ings of your judgment as well as your
heart in choosing your life-mate
Choose husband who, whether he be
tall or short, homely or handsome, has
proved himself dependable. thrifty, am
bilious. kindly. interesting and funda
mentally healthy.
When you marry, determine &c
make your marriage a success. Is'
common sense. Play fair. Follow
the golden rule. Such a marriage
though it involves taking chances, Is
n golden investment in lasting. salts
fying happiness and success.