Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1926-07-15
THIS AND THAT
..BY CHARLES b. TRAcERELL.

You never make an enemy except
whore you never had u friend. II
Yet how many 81 us proceed upon
the opposite theory We lament the
loss OF q friend we really never had;
we sorrow over the departure Of q
comrade who was never q comrade ex.
oept In name; we grieve over giving
offense To one who wax only too glad
to receive 1t.
IL any one n so easily turned
against YOU as To be offended when
he hears you pronounce some judg-
ment In regard to him. he is not a
friend, and scarcely ever will be, uTi,
less his soul be touched by some por:
tion of the divine spark as the result
lsof your frankness.
Let the comrade so who leaves At
the first difference. You can get along
very well without him. He IL no
schilmn Of yours, although you and
the world may have looked upon him
in that light.
You Weye mfstaken---and such mis-
takes are often accepted with Ill
grace, as all our mistakes are. The
thing may be entirely our own fault,
ar II NAV IL the other fellows, but
the mistake hurts our pride. and we
must resent something.
why should you graeve over giving
offense, when the person 80 easily
offended went around with an IN
visible chip upon his shoulder
Perhaps you did the best posslDie
thing when you brought to the sur
face the hidden ill-wiil and rancor
that tiiscoiored the soul sof your So.
called friend" 1t Is best for him.
and certainly for you, for maybe It
will teach him needed lesson, while
you will most certainly benefit, as
will be seen hereafter.
AMA
Let your fine friend 60. whose
delicacy would shame that Of the most
tender maiden, Surely he should pc
swathed in cotton, and protected from
the evil winds OF comment. Il ne - 60
easily offended as all that.
The truth, be il bitter or otherwise.
forces you to the realization that the
very best possible thing 10 20 put
him to the test, force the truth out
OF him, find out once ana for all
whether he ID q real friend or not.
1t ID much better for man TO have
IL few true friends that are not
atouchy'' than 1t Ii for him to be the
proud possessor OF many loud talking
but poorly acting warm friends.
The joke Of this latter situation is
often placed in high relief at funer-
ais, when the ofiiciating minister
speaks in high-iiown praise of the
virtues and friends of the departed,
when every one present knows that
the fellow had few virtues and no
true friends. )
In everyday life this. false situation
IL not 40 readily seen. The activities
OF the t!ay make II impossible for one
to get true perspective. Desires
and ambitions conspire to make q
man willing TO accept one for q
friend 80 long as the person can pos
sibiy further his ambitions.
There Is no mora comicai sight in
the business world than a group Of
associates saying kindly things about
the man who can help them all on
the high road of success. Butter
wouldn't melt In their mouth as the
homely saying has 1t.
Bill Jones Ii the grandest fellow
alive, IL you take 1t from each and
every one OF them. You couldn't in
duce q man present to say even an
approach to 4 word Of discredit to
the glorious Jones. Tor. fear some
other would immediately go to Jones
ana tell him Of Il, as some one present