Fitzgerald leader enterprise and press. (Fitzgerald, Ben Hill County, Ga.) 1921-1964, 1926-01-28
IN CONFIDENCE
MARRIACEA GAMBLER. ALL
HUSBANDS ALlk

Dear Miss Flo:
Would you mind telling me just
what is your idea of marriage? l
consider it a give and take PROPOSE
tion-a gamble-where there is just
as much chance of happiness, ii You
really love the man, as there is for
unhappiness. However, according to
a married friend Of mine, I'm all
wrong. This woman, who has been
married only five years, tells Se that
all husbands look alike after you have
been married for few wears
all romance disappears. II this is the
case, isn't it wise for a girl to marry
the man with the most money? Then
when romance goes she at least has
the consolation of things money can
huv. I'm very much in love with
splendid young man, who is so poor
that we could not possibly marry for
some time. I'd willingly garry him
now and continue working until We
cot started, but he won't listen to
me. On the other hand, | know a
man whom / respect and admire
greatly, who could give me every
thing 1 want. My heart tells me to
wait for the man / love-ny head
tells me that marriage is a business.
proposition, and that l should marry
the man with the money. Can you
advise nea-Pauline.
Your friends philosophy about
marriage might be all right If mar
rage were only business PROPOSE
ton. In that case, woman would
be quite justified in selling herself to
the highest bidder But unfortunate.
Nv marriage isn't commercial deal,
and no woman makes such a bad
bargain as the woman who marrles
for money.
Even if your friends assertion that
all husbands look alike after few
wears were true--and if love only did
| las ia few years-if it only lasted one
year-or one day, those who know IT
who know the joy of loving and
| being loved-who have even glimpsed
the glory of the paradise it can make
has something that. the sordid soul
who married for money never has.
But your friends assertion is not
| right, We hear of the unhappy mar
riage. but little is said of the happy
| ones.
/ Of course, no sensible person can
| look around and see the number Of
divorces and unhappy marriages with
out being made fearful and without
asking oneself what chance of happl-
ness there is when so many others
have failed. But hope springs eternal
| in the human breast, and each of US
| believes that he or she will realize,
the old fairy tale-"and they were
married and lived happily ever after"
But. as you say. marriage is give
and take proposition-and at times
it seems almost impossible, even with
a man whom you love. No man and
woman ever lived together without
some difficulties. 1t is so sweet to
forgive the little faults and pecul-
iarities of the man you love, and so
hard to put up with the ways of the
man you can barely tolerate. 1t is
so sweet to do. things fer the man
! you love-and so exasperating to
have to work for the man for whom
!. you care nothing.
i Of course. the woman without any
backbone-the woman who cannot
take few hard knocks-iS not the
wife for poor nan-nor is she the
wife for any man. She would be mis-
erable-and make the man just as
miserable as she.
Any young woman, with a good
body and a good mind should be
ashamed of herself for even think
ing of marrying a man just to be
supported. She certainly should have
enough independence and courage to
roll up her sleeves and go to work
and make an honest living for herself
until she is ready to marry the man
she loves-whether he is poor or rich.
Marriage is gamble-but there
is certainly more chance for happi-
ness than for unhappiness when two
people love each other, so don't let a
disillusioned woman spoil your
chances of happiness.
r. If you can make the man you love
a. realize that it is unfair to ,askgyou to
r wait for him" when YOU 'Sfe willing
Il t0-continue' working-y problem
is solved. Otherwise, if you love him
wait for him, and put all thoughts
of the other man with money out OF
your head. You would never be hap.
py with him if you didn't love any.
, body else, but when you admit loving
poorer man it is unfair to the other
man to even encourage him.