San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1926-01-22
Work as
to Love
By Beatrice Fairfax.

Men must work and women must
weep" reads a Victorian poen-an-
other proof that men had the best
Of it in those days. For who wouldn't
rather work than shed tears? Today
both men and women work and tears
are out of style.
Work has long been recognized as
wonderful means Of keeping healthy
and happy as well as useful. But there
is another truth that's not so gener-
ally ecognized-work is the very best
balm for broken hearts.
Phyllis proved this fact. Phyllis
was secretary for an advertising firm.
John, like several others, fell captive
to her charm. And Phyllis loved John
with all the intensity of her nature.
Their two-year engagement was near
ing an end. Phyllis had refused to
marry and leave her widowed mother
until her two brothers finished high
school, and found positions, thus lift
ing the burden Of responsibility from
her own shoulders. The two boys
finally graduated and got Jobs
About this time, John began to show
lack of interest in the engagement.
He broke dates, making lame excuses,
neglected to write Phyllis while on his
vacation, showed indifference IN a
thousand small ways.
Il faf-
tated to break the engagement. While
she was debating with herself, one
evening the paper announced Johns
elopement with his employers daugh-
ter. -
Phyllis was Frustrated. She was i'll
for several weeks.
"If only could forget" she sobbed.
But the more try to forget, the more
/ remember"
Travel and change Of scene were
out OF the question because Of the
Strengthened condition of the family
finances. She even thought for an in
slant of killing herself. But luckily,
she possessed too healthy a mind to
harbor such a thought.
In sheer desperation, Phyllis finally
| threw herself into her work as a means
of forgetting her tragedy. She lived
| for work. Her youth seemed dead. She
tramped for hours when her office
hours were over and walked back and
forth to work in all kinds OF
weather.
To keep her evenings occupied, Phyl-
| lis took up course of advertisement
copy writing through the university ex-
tension. Her one hope was to crowd
her mind with problems of work so
that she should find no time to think
of herself-to fall into her bed at
night too weary to lie awake and brood.
| Phyllis was not unusually brilliant.
But her ceaseless hard work in time
showed results. She was promoted at
the office. She was asked to write
advertising copy. Before long she
built up a reputation as a successful
young advertising woman.
This all meant more money as well
as recognition. She was able to pro-
vide comfort and luxuries for her
mother, to take interesting vacation
trips. TO go now and then TO the the
alter and opera, to buy. a few OF the
books and pictures she loved.
Not until several years passed, how
ever, did Phyllis awaken one morn
ing to a realization that she could
think of the past without pain and
look forward happily to the future.
Ten years Of systematic study and
hard work passed-years of tremend-
Gus growth in charm for Phyllis
through her work and study.
Today she is happily married to a
finer. higher type Of man than she
could have attracted or appreciated at
eighteen. She and her husband and
children enjoy all the advantages that
wealth and culture can add TO life.
To lose the love Of the man to
whom YOU are betrother cannot but
be a cruel and heart-breaking expert
ence. But very often such catas-
trophe is a blessing in disguise.
No one enjoys suffering. We
choose the moments joy. But life
has a way of forcing us onward. Fate
challenges US to become our finest
selves. regardless Of the suffering in
volved.
A tickle lover is well lost. To lose
him before your marriage is far
greater blessing than to marry him,
only to be disillusioned and deserted.
"Sweet are the uses of adversely"
II broken heart impels you to work
and study harder than ever before
in order to forget, you will find your
work the best possible heart balm as
well as a wonderful school Of charac-
ter and charm, preparing you for the
real romance of your life.
Have you lost the love OF the man
who now means the whole world to
you? Keep up your courage. Throw
yourself into your work in order to
forget. The time will come when you
will be grateful for having been saved
lby fate from q mistaken marriage.