San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1926-01-21
Winning Him
Back
By Beatrice Fairfax

OF all battling heart problems, the
triangle is hardest to solve. especially
when you're so tangled in the triangle
that you can't get clear perspective.
At such a time you feel. to quote my
correspondent Brown Eyes" that you
need advice more than you ever did,
in your life.
Dear Miss Fairfax writes Brown
Eyes:
when I started reading your inter-
esting column. was about sixteen.
Now I'm nearly twenty-three.
Il am considered attractive. have
nice clothes, fairly good home and all
the freedom / desire. With all this
freedom, I'm straight.
when / was twenty, met a young
man of my own age j.. as l shall
call him, was devoted. We got along
wonderfully together. We were to
have announced our engagement at
Christmas and to have been married in
the spring. 1 was so happy thought
my path was strewn with roses.
Then his firm transferred him to a
town within committing distance. As
soon as he started working there l no.
ticed that he seemed different. He
acted cold and bored.
He called up twice last week to
break dates, saying he was too ill to
come over. ] knew he had bad cold,
so / believed him.
Sunday night he came over and
was arcastic-unusual for him. |
wasn't in the mood to be meddled with.
So ] asked him to tell me if he was
tired of me instead of just acting that
way. which hurt me more.
He said he wasn't tired of me. but
that everything bothered him lately.
One word led TO another and before |
knew it | asked for my ring. which he
was wearing. | got it back without
the least trouble.
I've often asked for my ring in
fit of temper. But other times he
wouldn't return it and refused to go
home until everything was straight
ened out.
"Thc following day I decided I'd
been too hasty so / wrote him letter
of apology and invited him over that
night. To my surprise he didn't come.
"The next day I asked his best pal
what was troubling j. He told me
that J. met n girl in the town where
he's employed and is crazy about her.
He says j. doesn't care for me any
longer.
Il couldn't believe this at first.
But as / look back at things he's
said and done, j sec it's true.
I'm heart-brokcn. What will my
parents say? Everyone knew how
dcvoted VIC were.
do you think this new love affair
Of his is just infatuation? How could
he be crazy about her in such a short
time?
NV life is ruined. my head is in
whirl. ! don't know which way
to turn.
His friend says ]. will come back
TO me. Will he?
IF he should, shall I take him
back?
Il know he won't come back. I've |
heard she's so pretty. And she has
money. III go insane over this If
something doesn't happen soon-l
know l will need advice more |
than ] ever did.
BROWN EYES"
When an engaged man becomes a
/ hit dazzled by a girl who is not his
fiancee. that natural human trait,
love of novelty and change, may add
10 her momentary lure for him.
A man in such a dilemma rarely
understands himself. He is for the
moment fascinated by one woman. yet
sincerely loves another. This SEEM
ling contradiction is often quite true.
He's worried and unhappy. As re-
suit, he's likely to be moody, nervous
and irritable.
n in such n crisis the fiancee can
keep her head. her temper and her
tactful amiability, she has every
chance Of winning out. For the new
attachment may prove ever so evancs-
cent while the old is tried and true.
His fiancee should be her most en-
|chanting at such time to successfully
compete with the ncwfound friend.
That temper of yours. dear Brown
Ewes, revealed you at your worst just
/ when you should have been your most
Ina tient. clever and captivating. Pick
ling at n man when he's moody. ir-
irritable and little uncertain OF him
self is MS wise and safe as playing
with INT.
Each time in the past when you
demanded your ring lin a fit of tenn
|Icr." you risked rousing his temper
land causing n permanent break. The
bother times he controlled himself. ,
l'rhis time he didn't.
To offer him his freedom might have
|bccn wise, had you done so with sweet
Ircasonableness and without emotion.
Whether he's just hurt and angry
with you, or is in love with the other ,
+. ftfl-orlv ftrnn will fnl1 .