Evening star., 1926-11-16
SUB ROSA
BY MIMI.
BY MIMI.
Engaged, But Not Happy.


The old fairy stories used to run.
80 they were bethrothed; and there
was no maiden in the land more
blissfully happy than Elaine, whose
heart and hand were promised to
young Michael"
And the idea has come down
through the ages that the engaged
girl is the most blissfully happy crea-
ture on the face of the earth.
So that when a maiden surveys the
cleaning solitaire on her left mana
she tells herself solemnly, Now there
is no reason in the world why l
shouldn't be wild with joy. Every
body says that I'm in the happlest
state possible to a young girl.
Thereafter she sighs. and wonders
what in time is the matter with her.
She realizes dimly that shes not
really-that a thousand doubts and
fears are torturing her mind. What
can the matter be?
She doesn't like to ask people about
it. She feels sure that they Will
shake their heads despairingly ana
tell her she can't possibly he In love
with her fiance or no shadow OF tfou-
BILE would darken the bright sunshine
of her engaged days.
Gradually she becomes frightened
as she perceives herself to be an alb
normal, melancholy creature VINO IS
missing all the pleasure and JOY
which should rightfully come to tire
about to wed girl.
I.have even known girls to get the
idea that they really did not love their
men-have known them to break OFT
q hVGtorlc6l
fear that they have made a great
mistake.
All because of this delightful old
legend that the betrothed damsel is
and should he the most contented
creature in the world.
Let 1t be said right now to com
fort all the troubled and weary
maidens who cry themselves to
sleep over the problems. of engaged
life: the modern engaged girl seldom
fnds her engagement the most JOY
full time of her life.
More letters come to me from per-
fectly sensible girls about to wed the
, men they love, telling me OF their
worries and perplex1tles, than from
any other readers.
Figure it out yourself. Any sensi-
BILE girl. about to take step that
changes the whole course OF her life,
stops to think about 1t rather care
fully.
And very likely she starts to worry.
What could be more natural? It's
only the infatuated maidens who are
burning with a great love who never
pause to consider the future.
The wise, anxious to do right young
person wants to think everything
over. She studies her fance from
every angle-and, Of course, hnds out
lot of things about him she hadn I
noticed before.
This worries her Her own appre-
hension worries her. She let's hersef1
sink into moods of depression.
1t isn't sign of an unhealthy, dls-
satisfied mind, necessarily. It's the
sign of an eager, careful mind, anX-
ious to thing the things over. from
every point Of view before making
the momentous decision.
Once the engaged girl has safely
got herself married to the man she
really loves. she will find then the
peace and contentment and JOY Whlch
are commonly supposed to come be-
fore the welded state.
It's the doubt and fear and anxiety
about the future which cause the
great unrest in the mind of the
bride t o -be-not any lack OF feeling
on her part for her future husband.
So. If any of you are about to be
married, and wondering. why you're
not shrieking with JOY, don't get
downhearted over 1t. Think It out
carefully. and marry your. man If you
| love him.
Mimi will he glad to answer any In
ouiries directed to this paper. provided
stamped addressed envelope is inciosed.
(Copyright. 1926D