The Washington times., 1926-03-12
the BOyish What? EUery Girls Guessing
Beatrice Fairfax
Tells NewlyWeds
They Should Be
Tolerant
By Beatrice Fairfax
Who Occupies : Unique Position
An the Writing World rs an
Authority on the Problems

Authority on the Problems
Of Love and Marriage.
a s long as the institution OF
n marriage continues to exist
the subject OF mother-in-law is
likely to come up for discussion
from time to time, either as 8
time-worn joke or serious PROD
lem.
why Is It that the thought OF
mother brings q thrill to every
heart. while the idea of mother
an.law Is considered q Joke. II not
q menace ito domestic peopleI
Doesn't every mother worthy or
the name hope and pray TOR the
success OF her child's MARRIAGE
So Why should she. be. looked on
as hostile to the interests Of her
child's marriage partner?
Perhaps Il Is q weakness OF
many mothers that they consider
no man quite good enough Tor
daughter. and no woman 1uiH
worthy OF being sons wiSe. OF
course, this attitude. Expressed
tnSirectiy. n words and DEEDS
doesn't count Tor domestic bliss
A the household OF either SON
Or daughter who mAfrieg.
Clear Cut Success
Winifred.s mother can't be ac-
eused OF being narrow or Old-fash-
toned. Left widow ten years
ago. with her daughter to sup
port. she went into business and
made 8 cIeaf.cut success. She and
WInIfred always have been pals
and confidants.
When Winifred became en-
gagged to Alfred, her mother was
delighted, for Alfred IL an up
an-comingp young man OF good
family and upright. character.
Winifred and Alfred gladly ac-
cepted her mothers invitation to
share her home for q few years
until they saved money for their
own bungalow. While the couple
were on their honeymoon her
mother refurnished Winlfred's
room charmingly for the two. She
has done everything In her power
TO make both happy and a. home
In her house.
Yet, in spite OF all her efforts,
Winifred and Alfred quarrel In.
cessantIy.
Try So Hard
II try so hard, sighed Wini-
fred,s mother to be a confidante,
..tO keep peace In the family.
When my daughter Is In the
wrong In an argument, as she
very often e. / point out her
mistake and take sides with her
husband against her.
but It's no use. Even though
I agree with him In everything.
Alfred treats me as though he
suspected me OF secretly causing
all his troubles with WInifred.
What in the world shall ! do.
I'm road-minded-ful as mod
ern as my sonIn-law and daugh-
ter. Yet I seem to be completely
out Of touch with them and the
situation
When q man and woman marry.
IL their marriage Il to succeed,
there must be unity OF spirit be-
tween them. And no outside in.
f1uence, not even that of a mo-
Their. should make a third at their
cOunseis 50 far as matters per-
tanning to their marriage and
household and family life are
concerned. To offer advice, to
try to sway either against the
other Is to rush In where ANGELS
fear to tread"
Live By Yourselves
/ would suggest to every young
couple about TO wed: Live by
yourselves from the very first
II this Is possible without actual
unkindness. Keep at a prudent
distance from relatives. especial.
~ mothers and uaotherS.tn.law.
Keep your Quarrels and recoucf1.
IA&1ons 70 yourselves. Work out
your own problems.
Listen to the sage advice and