The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1926-08-09
They May Bring
Either Joy or
Pain
BY Beatrice Fairfax


An Authority on The Problems
OF Love ana Marriage
r Owe letters bring eestatic Joy
~ to many 4 heart. Yet are
they not also capable OF
causing needless pain when they
are kept. long after the senti.
fnent inspiring them is dead. Just
for the rnemory's sake2
Perhaps more than one H.
Ance feels, like my correspondent,
Jeanette, that q package Of faded
love letters with a photograph or
two OF q pretty girl, stands be-
tween her and complete hap
piness.0
.Dear Miss Fairfax" writes
Jeanette, 81 would greats APP
preciate your solving a problem
for ue-one which is making me
very unhappy, though try not
20 let It affect me, because It
really is such q little thing
AZ am to be married this SUM
fner to q man whom love very
dearly. He ID devoted TO me. ]
am twenty-three. He il twenty.
eight.
IT was engaged once before to
man Thought loved. I
may have really loved hin--I
don't know. Now It is all for
gotten and never think Of him.
There were also several other
sweethearts during five or six
years, Of whom / was fond
Naturally, there were letters and
Photographic from these former
friends.
ssWhen ! became engaged and
was very, very sure Of my love-
/ destroyed the old love letters
and some of the photographs.
AMPLY because / did not want 60
cause n1isundertsandinEs or zeal.
ously.
.My fiance boards at my home,
and 90 Il like one Of the family.
He Il the only one In the world
that care for and put all the
old flames behind me when I
destroyed these letters.
Now this is my problem:
don't know whether It IS Jealousy
- I hope not. Ny fiance has
Among his personal effects. many
photographs and letters from me.
which he cheFiahes. But with
them he keeps old love letters
and photographs OF former sweet
hearts. What I feel when I see
these, il not Jealousy, but q sort
Of hurt. It makes nae feel-al.'
though I know he loves only me
that he does not think enough
Of these secret thoughts OF my
heart-my letters-because he
keeps them with dead letters
perhaps it Is hard for you to
understand. But do so hope you
can advise and help me. I have
sever in my life been Jealous or
envious, and I think I can truth.
fully say that / have not an
enemy in the world.
I'VE. have both had big prob.
lens to meet since our engage
ment--financial and otherwise
and these I have always faced
braVely. But this thing IL never
out of my mind.
at feel that I shall never be
completely happy Until he has
disposed of the letters and photos
graphs. Why should he keep
them. They should mean moth.
ing to him now.
az have never spoken t. my
fiance about this, bat my heart
has been torn and l Rave hal to
fight back tears when. in show
ing me photographs taken during
the last two years, he also
showed me these other thifgs.
He does not seem to think any.
thing Of showing them to nae.
please tell me what TO do.
I want my love to be clear and
pure-just as If there had never
been any other sweethear:s or
any other kisses for either Of
US.
az know that IL Il ask him to
dispose of the things. be will do
so-but IL is so hard.
"A reply in your Intel esting
column would be deeply appre-
ciated. I believe that in answer
ing my question. you will a1Ewer
the question OF hundreds Of other
girls.
JEANETTE"
There are persons who can't