The Washington times., 1926-05-01
Beatrice Fairfax
Gives Ideas On
the Question
BY Beatrice Fairfax
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6eCHALL I marry a foreigner
~ This question is asked
in hundreds of letters I receive.
Can a marriage between an
American and foreigner prove
entirely successful and lastingly
happy? is question that puzzles
my correspondents.
According to statistics pub
lished in Paris, of 5000 marriages
contracted between American
soldiers and French girls shortly
after the armistice, 1000 have
ended disastrously. The War De-
partment at Washington discour-
aged these marriages at the time
because of the difference in Gus
toms between France and Ameri-
ca. Moreover, they claimed, mis-
representation, intentional or un-
intentional. is likely to occur
when two persons marry who can
not fully understand each others
language.
American girls usually find for
eign men interesting and fasci-
mating. Foreigners possess the
lure of mystery and romance.
Also. they often possess fine and
cultured manners and a gift
carefully cultivated-of making
love charmingly.
Perhaps that's why Marjory-
I shall cali her Marjory-found
AIphonse, the wealthy, cultivated
foreign banker, whom she met
while she was visiting in New
York, so irresistible.
At first, her marriage to Al
phonse seemed to Marjory the
realization of all her dreams OF
romance. Her husband was de-
votion itself. Orchids arrived
from him each day. The two went
everywhere. And everywhere they
went. her charming, witty hus-
band was looked up to and adj
mired.
But gradually his attitude to-
ward his wife changed. Night
after night he went out alone.
Persistent rumors reached Mar
Tory of an affairs with a chorus
gfrl. Timidly, she questioned
him.
IT honored you with my name,
he informed her. smilingly. For
the rest, my life Is my own.
Please don't Interfere.
Finally. one day. she managed
TO borrow money from a friend in
New York, hastily packed bag
and with her baby escaped from
her husbands house.
No other nation accords its
women the freedom enjoyed by
American women. If you marry
q foreigner the chances are you
will be expected to sacrifice this
freedom and unquestfongly obey
your husband.
Many marriages between Amer.
leans and foreigners have proved
delightfully."- happy.
Americans are internationally
famous as Thoughtful. generous
D,
not always polished in manner
and adept at love-making. So it
often happens that foreign wife.
when she becomes accustomed to
the American manner of living,
feels she is the luckiest woman
and has the best husband in the
world.
Many Anglo-American marriages
are happy. English and Amer
lean customs and ideals are sim
liar and we share in many
instances the same ancestors or
a. couple of centuries ago.
Are you willing to bring up
your children according to his
alien tradition? Can you stand
being looked down on by his
family because you are an Amer
lean. even as some OF your
friends may condescend a bit to
him because he is foreign.
Can you bear giving up your
religion? Could you ever &C.
eept the philosophy. held in many
lands, that a husband has the
right to discipline his wife. even
to the extent Of striking her"
Could you live peaceably with
husband who believes that faith
fulness must not be expected of
husbands?
Take time to decide these dues-
tions. Don't permit yourself to
he swept off your feet by fas-
cinated infatuation. Advise with
your parents and wise friends.
II, finally. you decide that your
love is strong enough and wise
enough to surmount all obstacles,
by all means wed your foreigner.
For though they are fraught
with danger and difficulty and
should be carefully considered.
yet marriages between Americans
and foreigners often prove entire
~ successful. resulting in In
creased culture, broadened inter-
ests, beautiful, healthy children.
and love that is happy and true.