The Washington times., 1926-03-16
Start w is ely On
the Road to
Happiness
By Beatrice Fairfax

who Occupies q Unique Position
in the Writing World IS an
Authority on the Problems
of Love and Marriage.
E6TT's absurd" declared Effie,
the other day. ito talk
about choosing a husband.
"a woman doesn't choose.
She's either chosen or not chosen:
cat best, a woman's choice of
4 husband consists in deciding be-
tween several men who may
choose her as a wife"
lyon seem to have chosen the
man YOU wanted / smiled. Eff.
fie has been happily married for
several years to a young man
whom she met while they We're
fellow students at the university.
II didn't choose WILL" replied
Effie. HE chose me-that's
very different. But I happened
10 care for him. He's the man i
would have chosen. I'm lucky.
Is Il true, as my friend claims.
that a woman is powerless when
It comes to choosing her nus
hand?
suppose that q girl has many
euitors, but not one Of them hap
pens to be the man who interests
her. Suppose this man OF her
heart is Indifferent. Must she. re-
main a spinster or else wed man
she doesn't love?
Custom. convention and natures
law decree that a woman shall
not pursue and WOO man. Even
though she may try to defy this
law. she's not likely to success.
Man is so fashioned that he likes
10 fancy himself the hunter when
IL comes to love and marriage.
The woman who pursues a man
with her devotion usually Kills
any interest he might have IN her,
even though he may complacently
Rccept her attentions.
There's q better way than this
Of choosing a husband. Win his
interest and devotion by your
charm of character, appearance.
and personality. Charm Is WON
ans weapon. With it she can
usually captivate whom she viii.
Since charm gives women the
power of attraction which draws
10 them the love that means
happiness, surely girls should be
taught charm from the kinder
earten. Make yourself attrac.
tive" Ia a veritable eleventh com.
nandment for women.
Fortunately, in most cases love
Il mutual and 30 spontaneous that
when man and girl become en-
9aged they may be said to have
chosen each other.
ConcedIng that In the vast ma.
sority az cases g womaA indirectly
chooses her husband through her
power OF her attractive. charm.
what sort Of life partner should
she select? What qualities should
4 girl ioNk for in the man she Is
70 wed?
If she Is sensible. she win
make sure, before she pledges
her heart and life to him, that q
man is dependable healthy,
thrifty, ambitious and unselnshy
Kind; that he Is within a few
years OF her own age; that he
and she are congeniaP whom 1t
comes to the small interests OF
life, which means 50 much, such
as standards of manner, taste IN
dress and social diversions.
The world IL filled with fine,
upright, unassuming, dependable
young men. But too often girls
overlook them and have eyes only
for some fashionable sheik whose
sole qualifications for making a
wife happy are good looks and an
entertaining manner.
Many girl chooses q husband
as gaily and thoughtlessly as she
would accept an invitation to q
dance or picnic. She follows the
within OF the moment without
the slightest realization that in
finite misery or happiness, sue.
cess or failure, for herself, her
husband and possibly for chill
dren yet unborn, hang on her
choice.
You talk over your business In
vestments. your social and edu-
cational plans with those who are
qualified to give good advice.
You think things over from every
angle before making your deci-
sion. Why not think long and
well when II comes to that In
1initely more important subject
your marriage? Profit by the
experienced judgment OF your
parents. Find what other men
think Of the man who interests
you.
Take time-there's plenty of
time. Your infatuation may die
as quickly as 1t was born, or, on