Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1926-07-28
SUB ROSA
Weakness Is Not Lovable.

Annette has been thrown over by
the same boy just four times, and yet
the other evening when the phone
rang, and his voice came over the
wire begging her to forgive and let
him take her out just once more, she
was radient with joy.
You shouldn't be angry with me,
she told her older friend, Janet, who
stood close by, listening, her lips
delightful Affirmative. II can't help
being this way about Tony. I'm sim
ply madly in love with him. Even
though he treats me horribly I'm
happy to be with him. Why should
you sneer at me? You just haven't
any sympathy or understanding. You
don't know what 1t means to be in
love the way / am"
But Janet wasn't taking any such
talk. You're going TO lose every
friend you have II you continue to
sacrifice your pride and self.respect
for the sake of this Tony person"
she told the excited Annette.
Other people understand and sym
pathize," Annette told her vehement
ly. Love Is like that. I just can't
help it. Pride doesn't matter. Moth
ing matters. as long as can see him
again. You shouldn't stop being my
friend just because I'm so hopelessly
in love-"
What about this? Was Annette
right? Was her friend too hard on
her. too unheedful of the beautiful
love Annette was lavishing on the
worthless Tony?
So many girls complain Of the hard,
unyielding attitude of their friends
and family--of their scorn and con.
tempt at continual forgiveness on the
girls, part. Who's right?
Well, let's take an exaggerated case.
II you knew that your best friend,
Estelle, was drinking herself to death
that she'd tried desperately to give UP
alcohol but had found 1t utterly i'm
posSible-would you encourage her
her when you found she'd returned
to the habit?
Would you pat her on the shoulder
and tell her to go ahead-that you
understood her feeling-that her love
for alcohol was a justification for
her actions?
You would not. You'd bully her
and nag at her, and openly despise
her. till her very pride forced her to
give up the stuff, so that she would
mt be the object Of every ones scorn
Well Tony is bad influence on An
nette. He's utterly no goed-utterly
indispensable, the kind of man who
will only bring her trouble and shame,
even II she finally marries him.
Time after time he's treated her
abominably. Time after time she's
given him up, sworn never to see
him again-and always her weakness
has caused her to take him back.
Is 1t any wonder her friends rave
and tear their hair? It is any wonder
they're losing all their interest In her.
The spectacle Of such pitiable weak
ness as hers isn't pretty. It's rather
disgusting.
People have got beyond the stage
where they forgive her because she's
young and in love. They have q
definite feeling Of aversion to her now
because of the weakness which she
only half-heartedly tries to overcome.
. If any one Of you is actually sacrt-
ffcing all pride and self respect in the
effort to hold some worthless boy,
you must expect to lose the worth.
while friends you have.
Your weakness isn't lovablo--it's
unpleasant.
fCopyriEht 1921
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