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chicken, arises solemnly, and goes
about the table, and kisses Mother
with all the saucy, confident sffec-
ton Of real son!
In the very beginning OF his
married life Jim liked racing about
in the car Mary's fudge and sardine
strips were satisfying meal-once.
But now both he and Mary are
older, wiser; family ties n can more
to them, somehow, since limbo
came.
ASK A QUESTION.
Ethel never gets Mary back, for
Ethel Is destined for critical, witty,
old-maidhood. All she wants of her
friends now is to use them as tar
gets for the amusement Of her ac-
quaintances. But the REAL loves,
the real friendships of life come
back of her own accord, after the
first roaring, thrilling breakers OF
matrimony are safely weathered, and
it is surely an unnecessary risk to
jeopardize happiness with a hus-
band for the sake Of pleasing an ex-
acting friend.
The question, II you are still UNI
married, ought to be, Exactly what
do / ask from my married women
friends-and is it too much?"
And the question for every wife,
and especially every young wife, to
ask herself is: Am. I trying to
hold my old friends, now that / am
married, on the terms Of year ago?
And II / am, is it sensible? They
can't possibly know what my obi
cations and hopes and problems are
now. Wouldn't It be more intelli-
gent for ME to make the rules,
rather than they?"
an a few years." Mary ought to
say to herself, at will be EthePs
turn. Then she'll marry, and go
away, or take me up, or drop me,
EXACTLY as she pleases. l can't
begin to cry then and say, But
Ethel, 1 was loyal toSYOUv I won't
want to- don't want to NOW. jim
doesn't like her, she leases and
plaques him, and I don't like her as
1 did"
And this will all lead to her say
ing aloud:
Jim, II we have that dinner
let's not have Ethel7
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the same noble attitude toward life.
They take no nonsense from either
boys or girls. That IL one Of thu
best points about the fapper. A. a
rule, she takes care Of herself, man
ages her own battles, and II she alps
into a scrape, fights her way out.
Brave girls Of today do not faint
or run home to mamma with within.
pering accusations against wicked
boys. The brave women Of today
and tomorrow meet men on an equal
plane, set their wits TO work, keen
keen lookout for trouble and eth
er sidestep It or wrestle with II.
The days Of ancient chlvalry wers
never what they have since been
cracked up to be. But at the best
the chivalry that treated women as
silly little fragile idols was always
a thinly disguised insult to women.
1t is no wonder that many stout.
hearted wives would rather have
a husband who beat them than a
husband who was maddeningly gal
liant, with the accent on the first
syllable.
Any real man would rather have a
knockdown and drag-out argument
than one in which his adversary
treated him with patronage or ser
Witty. The good woman Of the fu-
ture Is going to deserve that mag
nificent epithet manly" in it, best
sense.
MUST LEARN 70 FIGHT.
Then II she has to call on q po-
liceman it will be becausce he Is Of
ficially needed. II he turns out
to be worse than the criminals he is
supposed to protect her from, she
will do what a man would try to do
IL a policeman unjustly attacked
him. She win do her utmost to
take the policeman's club away from
him and break It over his thick skull.
Now that hair Is bodied and hats
are caps, hatpins are no longer
carried as handy little stillettos, so
women will have to learn to use
their finger-nails, their fists, their
knees, toes and heels IN self de-
Tense.
They can easily find out that the
strongest man Is less afraid Of the
strongest man than Of an enfuriated
woman in a frenzy. II she is skill
full in the womanly art Of self-dc-
Tense she need not be afraid OF any
body--thus, policeman, enemy or
friend.
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The average man, therefore, con-
ducts his arguments in such a way
that he never quite comes to a
showdown; he eases his way out of
a crisis before 1t is reached.
WOMEN MUST LEARN.
This makes for a certain good
fellowship and comradeship among
men that women have not yet &C
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Mrs. Norris Says:

co much advice is usually given newly that they
~ generally hear q word Of 1t.
Very rarely when wedding, and family is begin
little history think the FRIENDS and the
FAMILY Of the couple the advice Yet times out Of
friends the family that make the trouble.
Schooday enjoyed for what they the fruit
work. thankful for
them while them without sigh other
frendships-snd others beyond them
And what is true OF old friends married life true Of family
that the family really natural claims The family has
be paenand wait Give the husband few ungrudng
MONTHS Mary know that the old love and the old
place waiting for her when she them.
She'll come And bring
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from attack by bigger or more num-
erous men.
He may not always escape dan
ger, or even death, but that is part
of the inealculable risk of life. As
a general rule. a man of no particu-
lar prowess, a man Of subnormal
strength. is as safe among strong
men as he is among weak. He sim
ply adjusts himself to his company,
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battle. She must keep out Of dark
alleys or go around them. She
must not let herself be carried into
lonely places by men she does not
know and has no right to trust.
Ordinarily the best defense a
woman has against an amorous at
tack Is a mood of indifference or
disgust for it. Nobody but drunk
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Zone Doubts the Honest Intentions of
a Woman Who Will Ride With
a Stranger"
By RUPERT HUGHES
a Stranger"

4 WOMAN recently testified 70
an experience of a harrow
ing sort that has been not uncom-
mon Of late, and doubtless occurred
often enough in the good old days.
She appealed to policeman to help
her start her balky automobile. He
got the engine to running. and then
stepped into the car alongside her
and insisted on driving her where
he wanted to 20.
When she protested, he paid her
no heed. When she pleaded to be
taken to her home, he drove to
lonely street and attacked her. She
fought him and screamed so loudly
that q man came to her rescue.
The policeman drew the pistol
he was armed with by the law for
the protection of the people, and
threatened to shoot the man who
proffered his aid.
Having driven off the rescuer, he
drove off the car. The rescuer was
brave enough to follow though dis
Greet enough to keep a distance.
The screams of the woman finally
drew a crowd and though the po-
liceman threatened to shoot any
body who interfered. the woman
managed to escape with her clothes
torn to shreds.
WHERE is SAFETY?
!. This adventure Frustrated her for
several days, and it might well. For
If a woman in a crowded city is not
safe from policemen, what safety is
there?
There have been several such out
rages recently. Policemen have at
tackled women and tried to fight off
other policemen, sometimes with ia
tai results to one or more of the
combatants.
In q western city il was found
that certain policemen were leading
very young girls astray.
The corruption Of policemen in
the matter of prohibition enforce
ment has become appalling. A po-
liceman told me that he himself and
every policeman he knew in a GER
tain town was in the liquor bust
ness and he believed that all the
policemen he did not know were
similarly engaged.
The number of officers paid TO
enforce the dry laws and convicted
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you that you are one of the most
painful problems of her married
life.
Don't ask her, with that frank,
sunny smile of yours that makes
Jim's moodiness so much darker:
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Honestly, doesn't Jim like me,
Mary? She can't answer you
honestly. She smiles uncomfort-
ably and says: oh, Ethel, of course
he doesp
Don't get up laughing, from
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en- Dedst or a mdnldc rs going 70 Try
to overpower a woman who Is hon.
estly averse to filtration or worse.
But the most gentle gentleman
may be driven into a rage by a wom-
an who flirts and leases and draws
man on, only to draw a line
abruptly and say, How dare you !"
That wakens the daredevil in the
average male.
Women know it and all too many
Of them love to play with fire and
kindle it, only to be surprised, ter
rified and indignant when the fire
goes on burning and increasing
by an opposition whose sincerity the
man has been led to distrust. If a
disaster results, the woman is really
to blame-if anybody is to blame in
this world where inherited instincts
play such havoc when opportunity
and the wrong within coincide.
ALL MEN GUARDS.
At heart every man is a police
man for every woman. He has the
male instincts Of Difference. SUBJ
missiveness, and protection that are
seen in the animals, no less than
among the human bipeds. But it is
all too easy for the female to turn
her male into q dangerous, fren-
zied demon eager to show his power
and wreak his superior strength on
the inferior animal that has reused
the brute in him.
Some Of these women who have
accused policemen Of attacking
them may have been amusing them
selves, forgetting that even a po-
liceman is human. and that If every
man has a bit of the policeman in
his soul, every policeman has also
a lot of humanity in his.
The poor male has his tragedies,
too. He Is often the weaker of
the two in the matter of self-con-
troll. Women, even at the most ten
der age, are apt to be imbued with
an experimental curiosity that leads
them to mimic passion they do not
really feel and can easily dismiss
when the encounter grows risky.
But male instinct is not the same.
The male has both the initiative
of curiosity and the headlong ruth
leesness of his nature. His emo
tons may be as lightly poised as
the snow on a mountainside; they
wait serene and white till Just the
right-or wrong-whisper starts
them and then they come down in
avalanche, destroying whatever
they encounter.
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ASK Yourself How You'd Like to
Have Mary Under Foot If You
Were Newly Wed"
By KATHLEEN NORRIS

troussesu. "And you know she has
scadds Of money in her own NAME"
Mary says to Jim.
swell, what Of it," Jim asks
harshly. And that is the beginning
of this unkindness to Ethel.
He hates TO find her lettering
with Mary over the tea cups, when
he gets home at half past five. 1t
means that he wastes fifteen preci-
Gus minutes Of Mary's companion
ship in silly talk with Ethel. 1t
means that Mary doesn't want any
dinner. He hates to have her delay
Mary downtown until after dark.
"She was telling me about that
man in Cincinnati darling" Mary
explains later, spologetically. "She's
adorable. Of course, but time means
nothing TO her, She was reading me
his letters"
For it is noticeable that as
Mary's romance becomes definite,
and eliminates in wedding,
Etbels love affairs become also
more intense. Ethel can always cap
Mary's stories Of Jim's devotion
with tales Of her own adorers. Jim,
TO be sure. has captured the lovely
and popular Mary. and carried her
off. but Ethel loves to show him
what power she has left, what Mary
Will do 10 keep a casual appoint
ment at the hair dresser's with her,
what tears Mary will shed when
she, Ethel, is displeased.
A YEAR RUINED.
Mary must commence every din
ner list with Ethel's name.
oh. do we have TO have Ethel?'
Jim asks. His wife flushes dis
tressedly.
Jim. it isn't that want her
truly. But you CAN'T hurt her
feelings :"
And so the first six months Of
their married life. or sometimes the
first year. are ruined by Ethel. And
in the end they break with her
ANYWAY. Mary has realities to
deal with. the baby, the new house,
Jim's new position, the car, the
nurse. the problem Of top milk and
maps, and she can't be bothered with
Ethel any longer. She can't waste
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of collision with the bootleggers is
enormous. Whenever a law is
passed that is not backed by the al
most unanimous support of society,
such official connivances and COM
nIicities ALWAYS ahound-
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30 much advice is usually given
TO newly-married persons that they
generally never hear a word Of it.
Yes, Mama-of course, Dad"
they say absent-mindedly, thinking
all the time Of something else, and
perfectly sure that the mistakes
other husbands and wives have
made won't be THEIR mistakes,
and that THEY are launched upon
a sea of happiness that has no
storms and no rocks.
Very rarely, when there is a we'd
ding. and a new family is beginning
its little history, does anyone think
to give the FRIENDS and the
FAMILY Of the young couple the
good advice. Yet, nine times out
of ten, it is the friends and the fam
lily that makes the trouble, and SOW
those dangerous little seeds Of dis
appointment and impotence and in
compatibility that are the begin
ming Of the end in married life.
UNMARRIED FRIENDS.
And espeeially-especially, it Is
the unmarried women friends of the
wife. At the time when she is
trying to get adjusted to an entirely
new state of affairs, a new name, a
new house, a new husband, all the
strangeness Of being dizzily free and
yet bewilderingly bound; perhaps
meeting her husbands business asso-
ciates for the first time, directing
her first servant, flattered. excited,
wrapped in the JOY of first love-at
this very time she is harassed and
fretted BY the claims Of her dear old
chum Ethel
Ethel is two years older than
Mary, she is 25 and unmarried. In
deed, according to Ethel, it would
be q pretty fine. man that could
make her change her present free
and happy state for matrimony!
Ethel has been very jolly and sister
~ with Jim, while Jim and Mary
were engaged, but Mary has always
suspected that Ethel didn't quite do
Jim Justice in her thoughts. Not
thar IL msttered!
jim IS BOTHERED.
Ethel has been just a dear over
ne little apartment and the modest
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The cynical may wonder il she has
not really invited insult, and re-
ceived only what she asked for.
This does not relieve the man OF
blame. but it robs the woman of a
certain important respect.
MEN CIRCUMSPECT.
In any case it is becoming in
increasingly necessary for women to
learn to take care Of themselves in
all emergencies. Men go about to-
gether and a small weak man takes
the necessary precautions before he
drifts into a situation where he
may be called on to defend himself
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"Wise Women Who Are Good and Want
to Stay So Will Let Men Alone and !
Mind Their Business" T.

frequented by thugs Is just as safe
for a lone woman as for q lone
man provided the woman conducts
herself as the man conducts him.
self. A man in a tough district
does not faunt his jewelry nor
start conversation with strangers.
If he must, he puts himself in an
attitude to repel attack or run
from 1t.
When q woman Is insulted or
roughly handled it will usually be
found that she has made herself
conspicuous, Haunted her jewelry
or her beauty or shown by her very
timidity that she is thinking Of her
sex and her peril.
This is not always the case, but
it is generally so. and women know
it az well as men. Women have
far less patience than men have
with women who suffer from male
attack. There must be a reason for
this.
Women know that even the lit
TEST girls are sometimes precocious
imps Of viciousness. The poor little
imps may not be altogether to blame
for not being born saints. But they
can be blood curdlingly evil.
POLICE ARE CYNICS.
When you read Of a girl who al
1eges that she has been bound and
gagged by some male fiend, or even
a number Of male fiends, It is well
to examine the knots and make sure
that she has not bound and gagged
herself.
The police are very cynical IN
these cases, for experience has sad
dened and wised them up.
Women have been gaggins and
binding themselves for centuries
and blaming men for their helpless
ness and for the damage that some-
times results. The time Is done
and gone for that sort of thing.
In the future the woman who
walls that she has been attacked by
a brute Of a man will be as littlt
admired or sympathized with, as the
boy who comes running home COM
planning that come other boy has at
tackled him.
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A ROMAN QUERY.

It has never been otherwise and
it can never be otherwise. Makers
of laws. however, usually forget to
take it into account, or they loftily
defy the probabilities.
As long ago as ancient Rome a
wise cynic asked the question, who
will guard the guards?" Who will
police the police?
If a woman calls for help and
simply advertises TO a fiend in uni
form that she is helpless, she is in
deed in a CHASTITY plight.
Nobody could be further than i
from wishing to criticise the police
as a whole. Nobody has greater ad-
miration for the sublimities of cour-
age. they almost invariably display,
the hardships they endure. the an
noyances they accept with monu-
mental patience.
! have never seen the justifica-
ton for the constant accusation
that they are rude and unwilling to
help strangers or the unfortunate.
have seen a policeman stand and
endure vile abuse and even blows
from a drunken fool, without strik-
ing back, and pleading all the while
with the besotted wretch to 60 on
home to his family.
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Keep Away From That Bride Girl Frend Advises Mrs. Norr

bis fireside chair, at 8 o'clock, and
say alphabetically: oh, Jim, you've
come to take this girl for a ride,
and here / am! / know you want
to scalp me-! because that actually
is what he wants to do, and his
look makes Mary want to cry.
Just ask yourself how much
you'd like to have Mary continually
telephoning, continually underfoot,
continually running in and out, If
YOU were enjoying all the furry
and novelty of the first few months
of married life, and do unto Mary
as you would have Mary do unto
YOU"
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WORD TO WISE.

Wise women who arc good and
want to stay so will recognize this
great fact Of human nature and
not tamper with 1t. They win
let the men alone and mind their
own business.
A dark, squalid street, or slums
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BRAVE DON'T FAINT.

Boys Of proper mettle avoid en-
counters with stronger boys, or, IL
they cannot escape them, take their
punishment, put up the best defence
they can and take a pride in not
whining.
A great many girls are coming to
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time lunching with Ethel, and lis
tening TO lonk tales of imaginary
lovers. even if Ethel DOES pay the
bill magnificently. and buy tie con-
cert seats afterward.
Ethers little sneers, her uplifted
eyebrows when she heard that the
baby was coming, her half-laughing,
hslf-contemptuous, "All right, if
YOU like it, Maryp her hints as
to how SHE would manage Jim in
his exacting or depressed moods,
have gone quite far enough.
The friendship was a high school
friendship, delightful for the days
Of straw-rides and movies and first
dances and first beaus. But 1t
couldn't survive; Mary's friends now
are going TO be real women, women
who are peace-makers, not trouble
makers, women whose lives have pro-
crossed step beyond the lunch and
matinee and love-letter stage.
ETHEL DOESN'T KNOW.
The pity is that the Ethels never
see it. II ONLY they would sim
plify and help the situation by a
generous attitude from the begin
ming. If ONLY they would try to
make life easier, not harder, for the
new wife.
But they never do. Their feeling
is compounded Of hurt, self-love,
Jealousy Of that new title Of Mary's,
that gold ring on her hand, desire to
revenge their own sense Of loss upon
the triumphant young husband, and
q good deal Of idle mischief.
So my advice is one-fifth to Mary,
and four-fifths to Ethel. To Mary
! would say: IF your dear old
friend is simple and sweet in her
relationship TO your marriage, if she
comes to your house when she is
invited and ONLY then, and un.
derstands that you don't belong to
her tany more, if she is willing 10
recognize the fact that EVERY
THING is changed, and has to be-
gin again on new footing, then By
all means cling 10 her. But if she
doesn't, drop her NOW. You'll have
10 anyway, sooner or later, and the
quicker you do il, the more heart
pangs you'll spare yourself"
KEEP AWAY!
And to Ethel: Keep OUT.
They don't want you now, Mary
and Jim. They've gone 10 a new
country for a little while, and
you haven't a ticket. Your egotism,
your selfishness may make you
think you are still an important
part Of Mary's scheme, but mo-
unenffs reflecffou ought m show
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ETHEL TAGS ALONG.

One Ethel I knew, a tall, lean,
mysteriously smiling girl who was
9 afterward shut up in a comfortable
institution for the mentally unfit,
actually surprised her dearest girl
friend md the friends husband by
preceding them to the seaside hotel
where they went for their honey
moon
She was there when they got
there, serenely confident that it
would give them both pleasure to
witness this proof Of her devotion;
they were not rich, and she had
taken her big car, and engaged a
private launch and luxurious bath
houses at the beach. But her
thoughtfulness didn't contribute
much to their happiness, and with
in a few months the young wife
found that she simply had to drop
Ethel, and one more girlhood friend
ship went on the rocks.
Schoolday friendships ought to
be enjoyed for what they are, the
fruit of propinquity, and of COM
mon interests and work. Be thank
full for them while they last, and
drop them without a sigh, and go
on to other friendships--and others
beyond them.
AN OLD FRIEND.
A woman called on me this year
whose last meeting with me had
been in the year 1890, when we were
both 0 years old. She had not iden-
titled me by my married name until
this Summer, and then she came
300 miles to see me. She wanted
the children Of the two families to
be friends, she wanted us to come
and stay with her, she wanted to
give me n luncheon, and finally,
as / declined and declined, she
showed me my old handwriting in
her autograph album, thirty-fiye
years ago:
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OUTRAGEs ARE RARE.

The cases where a policeman at
tacks a woman instead of defending
her are so rare that they strike one
with a peculiar horror. 1t is al
most inconceivable that any man
should assault frightened woman;
but that a sworn and paid defender
should debase his uniform is a kind
of sacrilege.
Yet even this Is a thing to be
faced-and women in their new lib
critics. in their universal habit OF
going about without male attend
ans, must be prepared to protect
themselves from all-comers.
Hardly a day passes when one
does not hear Of a woman complain
ing that she has been assaulted by
some automobiles whose invitation
to take a ride she had accepted in
good faith. One always doubts the
honest intentions of a woman who
is so rash as to seat herself beside
a stranger in a machine capable of
dashing off madly in any direction.
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JIM is BOTHERED

Ethel has been just a dear over
ne little apartment and the modest
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