San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-09-08
Listen, World!
Telling All
By Elsie Robinson

Lucille is all smoked up over Hus-
band Harry. They've only been MAJ
ried seven months and already
Dreadful Change has come over
Harry.
HE DOESN'T TELL HER
EVERYTHING!
This is particularly atrocious in
view of the fact that they made
Solemn Compact before they were
married to Tell Each Other Every
thing. All around them were mar
ried folks fibbing to each other, keep
ing things from each other, schemlns
and tricking, fooling each other con
tinually. A deplorable state OF al
fairs. A state of affairs that Lu
ellie and Harry would never allow to
arrive in THEIR liyes-never, never,
NEVER.
So they made an everlasting vow
to always tell each other every little,
tceny, weeny, bitty thing that hap
pened. Never. to keep anything back.
Never to have secret from each
other, no matter how slight.
And already Harry has broken that
vow. Time and again Lucille dlscov-
crs him holding out on her. Somr-
times it's unintentional. But some,
times he actually means to do it! And
lately, when she reminds him OF their
Compact, he either laughs or gets
pceyed. Says that was puppy love
nonsense"-that man can't possibly
talk over everything with his wife.
And that it's downright wrong to re-
veal his friends or his lodges secrets
to anyone, even the lady he's mar
ried to. 81
So Lucille feels sure that her heart
is broken. If he's like this after
seven months what will he be after
seven years? just like all those
other horrid, sneal;ing, fibbing, cheat
ing married men!
No, he won't Lucille. If he's a
decent man he'll stay decent. unless
you drive him to drink with your
naSging. He'll love you just rs
much. he'll be just as faithful. But
THERELL BE A THOUSAND
THINGS HE WON'T KNOW
ABOUT YOURS. Which is perfectly
right. -
Why should a husband tell his
wife everything he knows or thinks
he does? Why should wife afflict
her husband with such condolences:
No. I'm not advocating deceit or I'M
faithfuincss nor any other hcinous
domestic warfare. IN SIMPLY AID
YOCATING COMMON SENSE.
We're separate individuals before
we're married and we stay separate
individuals afterward, romantic tradi-
ton to the contrary. We acquire
common aim, but we still function
apart in infinite ways. And VIC
need those separate interests and OK
pericnces if we are TO stay healthy
minded.
WE MUST LIVE OUR OWN
, LIVES, NO MATTER HOW HAP
PLY WE ARE MARRIED.
We must live our own lives and We
must. pcrforce keep much of that per-
sonal knowledge to ourselves. This
isn't because VIC want to sneak from
each other. It's because the other
fellow wouldn't understand it all if
we did tell him. And much of what
he could understand. would bore him.
It's an unfair load to put OH any
ones loyalty and affection.
WE MUST DIGES'" OUR OWN
EXPERIENCE JUST eAS WE
MUST DIGEST OUR OWN FOOD.
Moreover. each one Of us has a
vital need for privacy. You not only
bore or worry the other fellow il
you tell him cverything-you wrong
yourself.
THERE SHOULD BE A SPACE
WITHIN YOUR SPIRIT, LIKE a
WALLED GARDEN. WHERE
YOU CAN WALK IN QUIETNESS,
ALONE AND BE RENEWED.
II you are denied that place, if
you throw the intimate places of your
spirit open to public pasturage, you
become as stale as trampled grass
and people value you accordingly.
So keep many of your experiences
and much of your mental functioning
to yourself. Don't try to explain
everything to your wife or husband.
Don't demand that they explain every
thing to you.
AROvE ALL DON'T TRY TO EN-
PLAIN EVERYTHING TO YOUR
SELF.
JUST GO OFF AND BE STILL
ONCE IN A WHILE AND GIVE
YOTIRSFIF REST