Fitzgerald leader enterprise and press. (Fitzgerald, Ben Hill County, Ga.) 1921-1964, 1925-10-22
In Confidence
SOMETHING EVERY
GIRL SHOULD KNOW
Dear Miss Flo


~ n,;te old enough to know my
>vn r;nd-but don't. Not IN TINS
aeon married this month-but ios'
;,,stance. at any rate. 1 was to nave
NV nerve, and postponed the wedoihe
indefinitely. because | am not sure
that ought to get married' neie
is no doubt in my mind that l NV
the man. but there's big doeo' m
mind AZ to whether or not i couio
make our marriage happ yone'
am a horn idealist, and when l
,ook around at the married couples
know, | simply cannot see no" u
ever endure matrimony. ! am an eA-
tromely sensitiv eperson, and Ia ne
var forgive my husband If ne spoke
70 me the way l hear some husoahus
,peaking to their wives. think nc 70
INST about perfect now, and when 1
discover after marriage that ne iS'
after all, only human. and that ne mas
;ust as many faults as l have, am
afraid my love will not endure. how
san n be- sure that~I will be able to
overcome my sensitiveness after mar
rage? | sincerely want to. Please
nelp me: ,....-4 d. 1900 Dohia'
" Well. Doris, you have one thing IN
your favor-your really want to ov-
arcome your exaggerate dideaiisn.
And if you really want to, you can.
know Of nothing in the world that
will do it more quickly than married
life. ..-.,~
You speak of your married frlends
DO you think they ever expected to
he able to laugh at their husbands
nconsiderate manner of speaking!
Not on your life--they probably had
Just the same illusions you now have
but when they found that they had to
get, over it-they did, Of course,
,oile people are a great deal more
sensitive than others, and it is harder
FOR them to overlook their husbands
sauIts Some of them develop into
tearful, whining wives, always burst
ing into tears at Unexpected moments
md making their Northumberland
their children's--lives miserable by
constantly reminding them that she
mas sensitive feelings, and should be
.raofdJ xyav.xy traptIv
In the majority of cases, though,
the woman develops into a sympa-
thetic, understanding wife, and learns
TO overlook her husbands shortcom-
iags just as her husband learns to
overlook the faults he discovers in his
wife-the woman he thought so alb
solutely perfect-without one fault.
As matter of fact, the man always
has more illusions about the woman
ne is going to marry than the girl
has about the man, Few,swomen, be-
tiege that the man she is going to
marry is perfect.
Idealism is fine thing. Without it
life wouldn't be worth a great deal.
However, exaggerated idealism does
not make for happy marriage. In
stead, it makes marriage an extreme
IL precarious adventure. Small, in
consequential Incidents, which nor
nal persons regard as trivial, are
.nsgnified by idealists to huge pro-
eortions, and tn eidealist is unhappy
accordingly.
+ Unfortunately for the present day
. ;e4ess,, poets and novelists have setl
aatimpessible ideaIistic and romantic
.t.udard for measuring love. AAcord
sag to them, a man in love is affected
with chiils and thrilIs-he trembles at
he sound of her approaching foot
iteps-he is ready to kill himself at
The mere thought Of being parted
from his beloved pne--he is, loud and
aoisy in his protestations of love.
Now, no really sane, well-balanced
man ever experiences all of, these
..ymptoms. They are ridiculous and
40 one but an idealist would expect
i. There may be few signs of wild,
passionate love before marriage, but
after marriage it quiets down, quite
FINALLY, like a STILL. deep river. NOV
'pg, silently along $50 silently that
ooe might think that love- is dead.
gut it isn't. 1t is a. new love---a love
lat is quiet and patient-a love that
toes not labor as ardently to please
the eye of love with loyeliness--but
love that contrives little home com
forts and attentions to please dear
ese and reward his WEAKNESS.
One thing it is well for a sensitive
eirl to remember always is that wild
tesnonstrations Of love cannot be,
torced. Lose is a thing of moods-not
jfilaws. .Alrecogpition of the big prin
clpIe of give and take--a spirit of OPP
ari1uindedness in accepting difference
of opinion in all matters great and
small. and a big generousness in for
getting words hastily spoken these
make up the lasting capital in marri-
age that insure happiness.
CARD OF THANKS
WoNs ,r;eh IN %t,airsEr fho v,nauv lind