Evening star., 1925-03-18
THIS AND THAT
BY CHARLES E. TR4CEWELL.

/ manners commonplace. He does not
spoil them by making them too COM
| mon. Not hei (Or sheD
| Yet that is the very thing the folks
at home would enjoy. Thousands or
! families throughout the broad lahd
| would weep tears of happiness TO ma
! themselves treated by some of their
| own folks as well-or even half as we'll
as those same folks treat mere &C
| quaintances.
Put this way, the thing seems alb
surd, does it not?
| Well. it is ridiculous. The person
who is subject to company mannerltls
! is nursing, in most cases, a bans-up
| case of the inferiority complex Such
an one would delight the psychoana-
! lylst, that strange creature of today,
| that mystery worker in the vague,
that pseudo scientist whom some say
/ is a fake and others hold on high as
the brightest luminary of modern
| thought.
Persons who have an "inferiority
complex" it may be stated, are those
men and women who have grown up
in the belief that they are inferior,
some way, to others.
The fear is hidden. The victims
never themselves realize what is
wrong with them. Maybe 1t is a
deep-seated belief that their birth Is
inferior to that of most of their as
| sociates.
Perhaps the victim is small, a
"runt" Maybe his mental capacity is
| lacking, and even he knows it.
So the first man takes great pains
to tell his friends about his faultless
family tree The second goes in" for
outdoor sports and the strenuous life.
The third never let's a chance go by
to impress his hearers with his cru
dition.
Every one knows such cases
Where three men are gathered to-
gether, at least one viii suffer from
this complaint, in some degree at
least There are million variations.
Most of the quick resentments you
meet in crowds result from some one
stepping on the "inferiority complex
of others It crops to light in the
strangest ways imaginable. And let
no man laugh at others, in this mat
ter until he has searched for the beam
in his own eye. Human beings are
| surprisingly alike.
Company manners then, are
usually an outcropping OF the So
called "inferiority complex
The man well bred, to whom educa-
ton and the good things of life come
as a matter of course. is usually free
from an "inferiority complex, ana so
Of company manners"
He has no different manners for
company" than he has for the folks
at home because he feels under no
secret and hidden compulsion to i'm
press the former.
He exists as he is, a. Emerson says
the rose does, and expects others to
take him for what he is. He would
not lift a hand to brush away any
false impression he might make.
He lives the best he can, and let's
others do likewise. Such a manor
such a woman-will never have any
other method of treatment for com
pany" than for his wife and his chill
dren and his mother.
He is common as an old shoe the
word common" being here used as
synonymous with UNIVERSAL not in
the deroEative sense.
As you see him in society, he is at
him as he will be in society.
He does not look for sights, and so
receives none. When those quick TO
resentment fear for his honor. he
scarcely realizes any one has be
smirched it.
He is the pleasantest man in the
world, and yet the hardest to handle.
because he has neither 'inferiority
complex" or its cousin. company
manners"
He is his own master.