San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-08-06
Character and
Love
BY Beatrice Fairfax.

A discussion which has gone on re-
Gently in this column, regarding the
kind of girl men like best and the
kind of man girls prefer has brought
out many interesting letters.
The general trend of these letters
goes to prove that men seek a girl OF
high character and honor as sweet
heart and wife but that many men
like to play about with swift, night,
life flappers" before settling down
and marrying.
Nevertheless increasing numbers OF
young men, my correspondence indl-
Gates, consider playing about" with
its drinking, petting and general DIS
sipation, a needless, worthless waste
of years, health and vitality. And so
they are seeking early in life a sen
siblc. congenial wife.
It's equally interesting to note the
increasing number of girls who refuse
to marry men who have wasted health
and years playing about" They
marry in preference, young man
with clear record and the health,
strength and character that go with q
clear record.
May it not be that from the turbu-
lent confused, postwar years there Is
emerging q new type Of young man
and new type of young woman, VINO
combine modern progressive ideas, IN
dependence and opcn-mindcdness Win
old.fashioncd ideals of honor applied
practically to today's problems?
Here are two letters which pre-
sent a radiant picture Of this new-old
type OF girl.
Dear Miss Fairfax" writes B. b.,
II am almost IS and pal with boys
and girls Of that age and over. My
friends seem to like my company and
the boys think highly of me, since
they say / am "onc of n hundred"
because / do not indulge in petting
For that reason, they respect me and
always come back to me when they
tire of the other kind OF girls.
"Some of my girl friends tell me
I am missing lots of fun and that ]
should get as much out of life as
possible, meaning / should join their
petting parties. They tease me, and
the question has been brought up more
than once whether young girls should
indulge in petting. So / am present
ing it to you for advice.
"In my estimation the petting one
gets nowadays is insincere and doesn I
mean a thing. Candidly, when | tell
boys / don't want to be fondled and
I'm not a play boy they laugh and
call me 'oldfashioned and old maid
But what strikes me is that the
boys who know me tell me to re.
main as l am. It's the girls who
try TO get me to change.
personally, l don't think I'm too
good. But l hone I'm q lady. Ger
tainly ! try to be.
Il will greatly appreciate your ad-
vice. B. B."
You don't ned my advice i. Il.
You are enjoying friendship, love and
without sacrifice of ideals,
Congratulations What one girl has
done many girls can do.
Here's a letter from "Vivian,"
which strikes key note equally happy
and sure:
Dear Miss Fairfax:
"Please may have few words to
say to your great audience?
"First, let me say. nm just n
girl. / would not choose TO be given
either of the two titles, old fashioned
"God creates each of us n tiny atom
Of humanity, to be loved and cared
Tor through childhood, influenced BY
wiser minds through girlhood and so
at last to blossom into womnnhod,
yirtuOus, sane and physically fit, with
Il certain strong desire TO attract
mate, claim his love, make a home
of our very own and become a mother.
Perhaps it is true that the majority
of girls today nre flappers. Those
girls started out to have a little ad-
venture and excitement and got 80
caught in the whirl Of life that they
cannot come back. Yes, there are
many of this type and assurcdly will
be so long as men admire them, pet
them, smoke and drink with them.
For man is created with a dominant
influence over women so we are what
men make us to some extent.
MANY Of the men who have writ.
ten you have stated that they wish
to play around with flappers, but
when it comes time to marry and set.
tie down they begin hunting around
for nice little home girl. But God
pity the girl who is so blinded as to
accept that kind of husband For
there are still real men,"
If anything will bring back your
flapper friends who are drifting with
the tide Vivian, it will be the faith,
love and loyalty OF girls like you.
And II anything will put marriage on
a higher basis it is the refusal Of
loyable, charming girls like you 10
marry n man after he has wasted
health and youth in dissipation, play
ing around" ~