Eagle River review. [volume] (Eagle River, Wis.) 1890-1927, 1925-06-18
SOMETHING EVERY GIRL SHOULD
KNOW

SOME HING EVERY GILL S7OOLO
KNOW
Dear Miss Flo:
| am not young grim fact, | am
quite old enough to know my own
mind but don't Not in this in
stance, at any rate. | was to have
been married this month-but | lost
my nerve, and postponed the wedding
indefinitely, because | am not sure
that ought to get married. There is
no doubt in my mind that | love the
man, but there is a big doubt in my
mind as to whether or not | could
make our marriage happy one.
| am a born idealist, and when |
look around at the married couples /
know, | simply cannot see how I'd
ever endure matrimOny.; | am an ex
tremely sensitive person, and I'd new
er forgive my husband if he spoke to
me the way | hear some husbands
speaking to their wives. | think he is
just about perfect now, and when J
discover after marriage that he is,
after all, only human, and that he has
Just as many faults as | have, | am
afraid my love will not endure. How
can | be sure that | will be able to
overcome my sensitiveness after mar
riage? / sincerely want to. Please help
me. Doris
Well, Doris you have one thing in
your favor-you really want to over
come your exaggerated idealism. And
if you really want to, you can know
Of nothing in the world that will do
it more quickly than married life.
You speak of your married friends.
Do you think that they ever expected
to be able to laugh at their husband $
inconsiderate manner of speaking :?
Not on your life they probably had
just the same illusions you now have,
but when they found that they had to
get over it, they did. OF course,
some people are a, great deal more
sensitive than Others and it is harder
for them to overlook their husbands
faults. Some Of them develop into
fearful, whining wives, always burst
ing into tears at unexpected moments
and making their husband s and
their childfen's lives miserable by
constantly reminding them that she
has sensitive feelings, and should be
treated very gently.
In the majority of cases, though the
woman develops into a sympathetic,
understanding wife, and learns to over
look her husbands shortcomings just
as her husband learns to overlook the
faults he discovers in his wife-the
woman he thought SO absolutely per-
without one fault. AS matter
of fact, the man always has more IL
lusions about the woman he is going
to marry than the girl has about the
man. Few women believe that the
man she is going to marry is perfect.
Idealism is alfine thing. Without it.
life wouldn't be worth a great deal.
However, exaggerated idealism does
not make for happy marriage. In
stead, it makes marriage an extremely
precarious adventure. Small, incense,
quential incidents, which normal per-
sons regard asrtrivial, are magnified
by idealists to huge proportions, and
the idealist is unhappy accordingly.
Unfortunately for the present day
lovers poets and novelists have set
an impossible idealistic and romantic
standard for measuring love Accord
ing to them, man in love is affected
with chills and thrills-he trembles
at the sound of her approaching foot
steps-he, is ready to kill himself at
the mere thought of being parted from
his beloved one-he is loud and noisy
in his protestations of love. Now, no
really sane, well-balanced man ever
experiences all of these symptoms
They are ridiculous, and no one but
an idealist would expect it. There
may be a few signs of wild, passionate
love before marriage, but after mar
riage it quiets down, quite normally,
like a still, deep river, moving silently
along-so silently that one might
think that love is dead But it isn't.
I'll is a new love-a love that is quiet
and patient-a love that does not
labor as ardently to please the eye of
love with loneliness but a love that
contrives little home comforts and at
tentions to please dear one and re-
ward his WEAKNESS.
One thing it is well for a sensitive