San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-09-04
Learn Art of
Forgetting
By Beatrice Fairfax.

"Don't tell me to forget, pro-
tested Eleanor, when her mother
found her weeping over q erumpled
note dated several yeas before.
II couldn't forget il wanted to"
Eleanor continued. "And ! don't want
to forget. never want to. I mean
to remember forever And she sur
rendered herself to the luxury of a
good cry over the letter which brought
back her experience of disappointed
and disillusioned love.
SO many girls hug tatters of mem
cries of falthlesS, crushed love TO their
hearts, shutting out every new JOY
life tries TO offer. They want to re-
member the heart-break-they refuse
TO forget.
Memory is marvellous faculty,
which enables US to avail ourselves
of past impressions and experiences
But what if these experiences and
impressions are painful, useless, sor-
| did or bitter? Then memory instead
of a blessing becomes a curse.
| Excellent courses of study are being
offered in the art of cultivating mem
| DRY. When will classes be offered in
| tno S1uohS AihPVitanS an u AoiseST
ting.
Remember they say this admoni- |.
ton addressed to oneself by oneself /
acts as a stimulus to memory.
| Forget itn we need this admonis
| ton just as often to aid us in elim- |
mating the memory of sad and USE
less experiences. How many foolish !
hours we spend in crying over spilled
milk, brooding over useles regrets.
Women are generally the worst of-f
tenders when it comes to sentimental
Self-indulgence in remembering"
Says the great dramatist, Men
have died from time to time and,
worms have eaten them-but not for
love"
When a man does indulge in sem,
timental memories, however, when he ,
permits his past to dominate his pres-i
ent, results are apt to be disastrous
for all concerned. &
There's the futile tragedy Of Henry
Zuegler, who was torn between the,
memory of his beloved dead wife and
love for a newfound mate. Love at.
first sight had resulted from his in-j
PRODUCTION to an attractive young VOL
man. At a party given in honor Of
their betrothal he failed to appear.s
He was found dead in his gas-filled.
room. Near by were a photograph
of the dead wife and a note to his
fiance.
Marie, dear" the note read, IT
love you dearly, but my dead wife
more. i am going to her now"
This man was driven to suicide be-
cause he failed to train himself in
the normal and blessed faculty of for
getting.
The incident is not representative,
however, for the average man is well
able to shake off useless grief, remem-
boring in a wholesome way the sweet
ness Of loves memories, but not their
heart-breaking grief. "a
| Let the dead past bury its dead.
Live in the vital present with high
hope and courage, pressing on for the
prize of love and joy today.
What would be thought Of sales
man who, failing to make an impor-
tant sale on which his heart was sets \
grieved and brooded and pitied him<s
self and refused to try to make more
sales.
According to our new modern stands
ards the girl is just as silly and uni
deserving of success who continues to5
brood and grieve over disappointed
love, refusing to forget, refusing too
try to win a new and better love.
In love, as in salesmanship, the
modern progressive slogan is, BE al
good forgetter-be a go-getteri" I
Scientists, nowadays, tell US there g
literally no such thing as a brokeni
heart. "a broken brain" better Del
scribes long continued brooding and
Tief. 4
Half the people who think they suf<j
fer because they can't forget are make
ing themselves wretched because opi
their mental pettiness and littlenesssi
We can, if We will, rise above cir
cumstances and misfortunes.
Don't allow yourself to be swamped
with self-pity because love has proveds
a failure. Develop your soul into pa
thence and courage. >
This is a silly, sad, sentimental
old world if we make it so. But howl
gay, good humored, filled with friend-i
ship and love it can be If we remembenl
all that's worth while and eliminates;
mental rubbish by the fine art of for
getting. 4
Weeping is a futile waste Of time.
It's bad for your eyes. So cheer upt3
Try to be sensible even though thel
man you think you love is lost to you'd
How do you know what happiness oh
love may be waiting round the cor-i
ner? So stop weeping-smile-givs
love a chance. "a
Be a good fighter! Be go-getter!
The glad courage you employ TO shaksj
off the memory of your grief will en<S
able you to attract and hold love that
worth while and leads TO successful