San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-11-14
Goodnight
Kisses
By Beatrice Fairfax.

Judging by letters l receive. some
girls don't altogether approve of mod.
ern men. ana vice versa, Mr.. Modern
Young Man could suggest improve.
ments in Miss 1925 Flapper.
Quintado in the following letter ar
ralgns modern young men. is her criti-
cism fair? Or is she just little too
severe?
Dear Miss Fairfax:
81 am woman Of twcnty-four
years, not especially attractive. rather
alone in many ways. | am not alto
gether an admircr of the modern man
although I'm willing TO admit he may
be an improvement on the man of the
past.
Il wish you would write an article
about the elementary education of
boys and why it is they don't grow up
to be gentlemen worthy of the name.
What | have especially in mind is
this: You and other writers of advice
to the young girl who is troubled by
problems of amour and conduct state
and | agree with you-that a friend
ly hand clasp is the proper way to
say goodnight.
Then why, IL it is not right to
kiss young man acquaintance good
night. do these internal young men
almost to man, ask for goodnight
kiss.
They surely must read the articles
of yourself and your fellow writers
and they surely must know that it is
not quite right for girl 10 permit
that kiss. They must know that girls
are subject to temptation. and that
this particular temptation may be very
difficult for girl to resist when she
feels the least spark of affection for
the man who asks the kiss.
Certainly, it is cruel to deliberately
tempt another to the point Of begging
her to yield. then to think i'll of her
for acquiescing. How about it?
"QUINTADO."
To compare the man of today with
the man of past centuries is difficult,
| Quintado. since none of us has direct,
| first-hand information regarding that
vanished type. Judging, however. by
the evidence of history. both modern
men and modern women. while far
from perfect, and possessing both the
weaknesses and virtues of this genera
ton have evolved. immeasurably slow
ly. from still more imperfect types,
which ruled the world in past ages.
and are slowly progressing toward
| higher models.
Now for the specific problem
which puzzles you-that of the good
night kiss. None disputes the fact
| that where there is deep and true af-
lection, proved love. kiss is an
| appropriate and natural means of bid
ding the loved one farewell.
But the kiss is sacred to love. AS
you state. friendly hand clasp is
the appropriate way TO say good
night when a man and woman are not
betrothed.
But why criticise young men so
severely for asking what many young
girls of today wish to be asked by
every man acquaintance There are
girls who feel sighted if man doesn't
ask to kiss them goodnight. This
vulgar fad of promiscious kissing is
so widespread, unfortunately. that a
man may feel he is remiss in up-to-
date sophisticatiOn unless he compli-
ments girl by requesting the kiss.
Another pOint-a girl who tries
her best to vamp man, encouraging
him to believe she is the type of girl
who is not especially fastidious in
her standards, can hardly complain
when he judges her by her own ac-
tons and attempts TO kiss her.
| know a girl who, meeting a man
at a dance, made every coquettish ef-
fort to impress and vamp him. He |
tried TO kiss her. She was insulted |
at his action. which she herself had |
invited by her own conduct.
The next time she happened to
see that man she apologized. She |
told him the fault was entirely hers |
in trying to vamp him and in lead
ing him on to kiss her, then resent
ing the kiss. Had she acted with |
dignity in the first place the incident
could not have occurred.
Il thought all girls nowadays want
ed to be kissed by every new acQuaint-
there are still gir.s with ideals" He
is the best friend that girl has today.
Most men are delighted to learn
that girl can be entertaining,
charming. vet retain womanly dignity
and reserve. Such girls are trust
worthy as friends, sweethearts and
wives.
We may like or dislike it Quin-
tado, but we cannot change the feet
that woman sets the standard for man.
A wornanly girl always has friends
and she is rarely insulted by the mod
ern man. OF course there is an oc-
casional man who is worthless and
and cannot treat q wo-
man other than insultingly. Drop
such a man from your list of friends.
Perhaps because of their capacity
Tor maternal love, women are just a
little nearer the spiritual than men.
Men look to fine women for guiding