San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-10-05
Be Natural to
Be Charming
By Beatrice Fairfax.

How we love to be with people who
arc frankly, unaffectedly themselves!
The girl who isn't trying to seem
richer, more aristocratic, more i'm
portant, popular or sophisticated than
she really is-in short, the girl Who
isn't trying to impress anyone,
usually succeeds in charming every
one.
Such girl may be vivacious or
quiet, extremely popular with a large
circle or content with a few faithful
friends. But she's sure to have
friends and she's sure to be loved.
Louise is pretty, chic and attrac-
tive. But she falls short Of charm
to the extent that she tries to pretend
to just a little higher social position
and more wealth than she has.
Il must have a fur coat-all the
girls are wearing them," insisted
Louise last winter. I'm ashamed TO
be seen without n fur coat"
So the rest of the family scrimpcd
and economical in order that Louise
might have the expensive fur coat
she needed in order to be dressed like
the richest girls ut the school far
away from home, where she was fin
ishing her education.
A fur coat is extremely uncomfort-
able most of the winter in the mild
climate where Louise's school is To-
Gated. But since fur coats, regard
less of weather and climate, are Il
fashionable fad, Louise's happiness
demanded that her strong. scrviccable
cloth coat be discarded in favor OF
the expensive garment that rivallcd
the wardrobe of the richest girl"
Bob, who is in his senior year at
college, had n crush on Louise. He
asked her to college proms and foot
ball games and invited her Aunt
Ethel who lived nearby, to go along
when chaperonc was in order.
Bob's family had wealth and social
position. But Louise made every eff
fort to seem just little richer and
more 'swank' than Bob's sister and
mother.
She mentioned the name of the
richest man of the state rs n family
friend one day when she and Bob
with Aunt Ethel were speeding along
to a football game.
Your father doesn't know him pcr-
sonauy, M DEAR" insisted blunt Aunt
Ethel. Hes president of the railroad
of which your father is an cmploye
that's ALL"
Don't be dumb. Aunt Ethel" re-
proved Louise with whitening lool;
at her aunt. HE and Dad are great
friends and often play golf together -
Aunt Ethel remained silent. al
,hough she realized that this was only
another of Louisc's fabrications in
order to make an impression on Bob.
As a matter of fact. Bob looks
forward to beginning at the foot of
the ladder in business next season
after graduating. His parents don
believe in supporting their sons after
college. And Bob intended to make
his own way. as his did before him.
: He liked Louise tremendously. But
gradually as he began to realize hci
Expensive tastes and social ambitions
he made up his mind that it wouldn't
do TO let himself thing of her too SO.
riOusly. He must either marry a girl
willing TO live simply and economic
or not marry at all for number
of years until his business success was
an assured fact.
So he stopped calling on Louise and
invitations ceased. Louise was brok.
cn-hcartcd, for Bob meant more to
her than any other boy she knew
l She never realized that her own silly
prctcntious extravagances, such as tn,
taxi habit, more expensive clothes thar
c she could afford and her desire t.
! seem something she was not discourag
G ed Bob in his attentions to her.
Don't initiate another girl whom
4 you admire. She's fascinating be.
n cause she's herself. BE your self.
as the slang phrase goes. and you
I personality will have freshness an,
: poise which imitation never brings
t You will be different"
e The modern fad is to pretend to de-
spiSe sentiment and romance and t.
) nose as "hard-boiled." Yet every on
: is at heart sentimental. Human af
fcctions are all that make life rich
vivid and colorful and keep us travel
ing upward. So why be so insincer
. and dishonest with yourself and other
as to pretend to dcspise sentiment AM
I romance and the simple expression o
honest human affection. even if the,
6 are contemptuously termed "mid-Vic
{ torian."
S Don't be afraid to listen to the bes
in your own nature and to live accord
ing TO the dictates of your lest self
/. | ndoing so unaffectedly and simpl.
n you will attract the kind of friendship
4 that will help and not hold you back
!. and should win the serious love of ;
5 man who can appreciate true woman
lhood.