San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-11-24
How Quiet Girls
Win Love
By Beatrice Fairfax.

ct am very fond of the company OF
ladies'.
1 like their beauty, like their deli
| 's cacy,
I like their vivacity and 1 like theiI
silence"
DR.. johnson wrote these lines near
| " two hundred years ago. But beauty
and delieacy, vivacity and silence are
attributes that men still love IN WON
| en-.
Whether vivacity or silence is more
highly valued, might be hard TO decide
OF course, extreme talkatiyeness and
silence to the point of dumbness are
equally undesirable extremes.
A naturally lively girl who cal
chatter entertainingly yet knows the
value of silence and knows when TO
stop talking is very charming. Be
meath her vivacity lies the strength OF
an earnest nature.
Equally lovable is the naturally Sc
rious. demure girl who nevertheless
has cultivated n fund Of quiet humor,
understanding sympathy, still poise and
elf-consciousness. A girl who
chooses can become one Of these two
types.
Fred broke his engagement the other
day. A man of character usually
thinks long before he breaks troth
Mutual consent" was the reason Civ
en- out. But 1 happen to know the
real reason.
Eleanor talked me to death, " would
have been Fred's confession had be
voiced it. "At first / found her good
company when we went about togeth-
err. She seemed a peach of girl.
But naturally We saw each other
on many occasions after our engage
ment-I sought her companiOnship in
tired and quiet rs well as lively moods
Then her ceaseless, empty chatter got
on my nerves unbearably.
Perhaps I'm selfish. But / real
lied couldn't go through life with the
din Of perpetual talk in my ears.
There are times when a man wants
quiet. Ceaseless chatter never has
meaning or depth. It's usually on one
subject-I.
"She was too much wrapped up in
her own talk to note that l was be-
coming strained in my attitude.
Frankncss seemed best under the cir
cumstances rather than mutual I'M
happiness later on" r
On the ether hand. there are girls
who cannot talk. Usually they are
very young. Excessive bashfulness
generally wears off with added years
But these girls suffer agonies of self
consciousness during their baShful
years--aeOnies of loneliness.
Stupidity is not the cause of this
strained silence. Betty. for instance,
is lively enough at home with her
sister and brothers. She can Jolly along
with the best of them and has most
decided opinions Of her own. But
among acquaintances-csp boys
and young men-Betty is frankly
dumbell.
She's like a girl who goes with a
crowd TO the beach TO battle. then
lacks the courage TO stick even one toe
in the water. She stands miserable AMI
self-conscious. shiverins on the shore
while her companions. having plunged
into the water. are having an eXhilar-
ating frolic and swim.
You'll have to get up courage to
plunge into conversation if YOU wish
to be in the swim of good times with
girls and boys. You have couraGe-use
it. Keep your mind well supplied
with interesting topics of conversa-
tion through reading and observation.
Take an interest in what is going on.
There's not the least reason for the
quiet girl to become discouraged be-
cause she is not much Of n talker. She
may be at slight disadvantage when
il comes to quick popularity as ''the
life of the party But by cultivatinE
poise. fcarlesSness and companionabil-
ity. she'll bring out her own charm as
dependable. sympathetic girl whom
the average man admires and likes.
Note the wife o. tremendously
successful man of affairs and you're
likely to find she's a quiet, unassum-
ing woman. Perhaps you may wonder
how he came TO fall in love with such
a quiet little mouse. But it's usually
the case that this quiet little mouse
is really running the show"
We tire of noise and pretentious-
ness. We even tire of brilliancy as Il
regular diet. And we turn gratefully
to the restful personality. Power is
usually quiet. Poise can afford to be
still t-r+ $50 eaN -f
To quote wise Clara Morris, II wish
you the charm, the grace. the supreme
strength of the quiet. Dignity is not
rigidity. self-control is not apathy. A
little control of nerves and attention
to others will create a mental atmo~
sphere more precious than rubies."
Dare to be Yourself even though
that self be quiet and demure. Make
that self your best self and your quiet
ness the kind Of iuietness that is not
wrapped up in self but in a good
listener. sensible talker. SYM
pathetic companion and friend. I'm this
way you'll not lack for friendship or