San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-10-24
'sSettling
Down"
BY Beatrice Fairfax.

Its characteristic Of modern life
and a healthy characteristic-that
girls wish TO enjoy living as they 90
along. They are not enthusiastic
about marrying and settling down"
If marriage is to mean drudgery and
sacrifice Of gaicty and fun.
There has recently been n discus
sion in this column regarding the old
fashioned girl, the flapper and their
respective chances of marriage.
Many young men have written in
that they like going around with flap
pclS just for a good time. Bat when
1t comes to marriage they look about
for an old-faShioncd girl Of high prin-
ciples rs hclpmatc.
But the old-fashioned girls, il seems
are ncw-fashioned in that they OBJ
iect to missing good times and atten-
/ tons from men until it comes to a
question of marriage. then being ex-
ncctcd to we'd and settle down to the
hard work Of homcmaking and moth
crhood
Troubled" the tone OF hc< let
ter reveals. is a young woman of
quiet sweetness who married without
having had the fun and social gayety
that girls love and which she COM
plains 60 mostly to the lively flap
per.
1T is true" writes Troubled"
that "a man can and usually does
enjoy himself to his hearts content
with gay flappcrs. then settles down
to quiet. dull life and expects the
girl he marries. who has never had
much fun. to do the same. | have
had this experience in my own life,
so | know.
Troubled" then goes on 10 explain
that this doesn't seem fair to her
and that with her three children past
babyhood she finds herself longing for
the gaycty she missed in her youth.
rs this wrong?" she asks.
OF course it's not wrong. "Trou-
blcd." to want good times and happi-
ness. If you didn't feel as you do
you would be less than human.
I'm sorry you missed the irrespon-
Sible fun thar YOU should have had
as n girl. That's one reason | advise
against too early marriages. Girls and
boys should have whole hearted, whole
some social lifc-plcnty Of it-before
taking up the hard work that newt
ably goes with marriage.
II girl finds herself unpopular
she should cultivate social charm and
try to overcome the handicap that
prevents full enjoyment of youth.
Interest yourself in others. be nat
ural and simple and sincere, culti-
vate every social grace and charm.
Don't blame men or other girls for
your own lack of success or you'll
rcpcl every friend you have. Envy
and bitterness puts any girl in the
lemon class instead of the peach class.
Don't settle down TO being an un-
sought, unpopular girl. Make yourself
what you wish to be.
\ man is likely to seek in marriage
a girl who is trustworthy as a wife
and hclpmatc and whom he loves and
rcpccts. whether she be the flapper
type or the more quiet, shy girl.
When you marry, the man you love.
go right on having good times and
fun, making due allowance for the
fact that you and your husband have
greater duties and responsibilities.
Once or twice each week get out and
enjoy your favoritc recreation to-
gcther. whether it be dancing, golf,
bridge, driving or any other form of
wholesome recreation. Get some one
to come and stay with the babies.
Even though you can't tempt your
husband ont of the humdrum routine
Of home. still you need good times. so
60 to your woman's club, or dancing
class alone or with women friends.
But don't settle down into a rut.
You can't afford to settle down
to humdrum draudgery either before
or after marriage. For happiness is
youth. And as long as you enjoy
your work and your play and find con-
genial social recreation yin will re-
main young and charming and attract
and hold the interest and love of The
Man.