San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1925-12-05
Regaining Lost
Affection

The following letter explains itself
"Dear Miss Fairfax:
"The writer, being a constant read.
er of your marvellous articles, wishes
you would favor her by telling how a
woman may regain the affection of a
man who seems to have lost interest in
her. When he sees her his eyes say
that he still cares. But. alas. except
when he is with her, he seemingly
never gives her a thought.
II know exactly what you will say.
You will tell me to forget all about
him. But this is mpossible-right
now. anyway. However, whatever you
say will be noted with great interest
and much appreciation. ID. NJ"
No. d. NJ. Tn not going TO advise
you to forget. Why shouldn't you
make every dignified effort you can to
gain or regain the interest of a man
whose friendship seems 10 you worth
while. But to tell a woman how to
regain lost interest and affection is
rather large order. And this is espe-
cially true in your case, d. NJ, be-
cause you give SO few Of the circum.
stances.
How did you lose your friends in.
terest? Was the fault yours? How
deeply interested was he? Were you
and he betrothed? Did you quarrel
or drift apart?
You see knowing so little of the cir
cumstances can offer only most gen
eral suggestions.
It's always easier to win than to
hold mans interest and affection.
Popular girls sometimes have beaus
by the dozens only to lose them the
following season. On the other hand, ,
quiet. unimportant looking girl may
arouse intense devotion aud love OF
one or two fine men and hold their de-
vction for years.
In the race ofs the hare and the
tortoise, you'll remember, the tortoise
won because he attended strictly to
business, whereas the hare went TO
sleep on his job.
A foolish girl Is sometimes so flat
tered by the buzzing attentions of
many men that she makes no special
effort TO please any Of them. She
has prettiness aud surface charm so
she holds mans interest until he
learns how little of real interest there
is in her character and individuality.
Then he naturally becomes bored and
drifts away.
A quiet. clever girl studies TO please
the men friends who really interest
her because she respects and admires
them. She tries to make herself enter
tanning and agreeable and to be q
true friend. And she usually wins out.
can't judge from your letter, ID.
NJ. whether your own lack of effort is
responsible for losing your friend. nor
can tell whether he's gone beyond
recall.
The fact that his eyes seem to ex-
press interest means little. Eyes often
express contradictory messages.
IL you wish very much to interest
him, study him, then try to make your
self the sort of companion be most
enjoys. Is he an excellent dancer?
Learn to dance so well that he will
adore dancing with you.
Does he like TO talk? Learn to be
n wonderful listener. Is he shy and ST.
lent? You'll have to make him feel
at ease BY talking for yourself and for
him on interesting, up-to-date topics.
Play the games, take up the sports
that are his hobby. Ask him to call.
See that he is comfortable and well
entertained when he comes.
All this means effort. SO before YOU
decide on any such course of action be
sure that his friendship and affection
are worth the price they will cost.
Make sure also that he has not
pledged all his interest and love to
another woman.
You may make every effort to win
his interest that you can make with.
out being obvious and undignified and
still fail. for if his feeling for you is
quite dead. Of course, it can't be re-
vived. But you will have tried your
best TO win what was worth every bit
Of effort it cost. And at least if you
lose you will have lost in sports.
manlike way. Moreover. your study OF
the art Of being agreeable and charm
ing will have brought many bright
new interests into your life, made you
more versatile and more interesting to
yourself and others.
Remember, no matter how interest
ing man may be, there are many
other men in the world just as inter
esting. just as worth while. So let him
go if he remains indifferent-you'll
have to, any way--and comfort your
self with the friendship of men truly
congenial, who appreciate you.