The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-01-28
-T1ome Ideal If Man And Wife
 Are One
By SOPHIE 11ENE LOEB

A young woman was telling about the remark of her little son. He was asking his mothers permission to do something and she suggested that he talk to his father about it; whereupon he answered very sweetly and innocent ": But, mother, always think of you and father as one" And ,this sums up the story of this particular family who for years have had real happiness.
 This child had been confronted for so long with harmony and agreement and love that he could not see any difference in the attitude of his father and mother. They appeared to him as one person. He knew pretty much that they would be in accord on cer- tam things, and therefore reasoned i. that if he spoke to one it would be as good as if he talked to both.
 That is one instance in which man and wife are really one in spirit, in interest and pleasure. It is rare thing. The old idea that when people marry they are one has been torn to tatters
 The fact is that each is a human
  aspirations, his habits, his tastes and his interests. And when one does not recognize this in the other, there is a clash that calls forth even more than two people-the good, bad, indifferent and other personalities.
 Strange to say that the couple who { thoroughly understand that two peo- : pie are two people-they become para doxically as if they are one more readily than those who refuse to real ire this important element in the mat ter of marriage.
 This is true in the particular case mentioned. These young people have respect for each others opinions, and they try to adjust them as between themselves so that their little boy, without knowing this big thing he has said, says it because it appears to him to be true.
 In other words, he has lived in the atmosphere that has created this i'm pression. And any yOungSter who will have this method of living bred in the bone, as it were, is bound to re- fleet it in his own life when he grows up.
 I know of a grown woman whose father and mother, during her child hood. quarreled endlessly because of another woman whom her father knew. in his young manhood. When his wife died he married his other woman and this second wife did her best to be kind to the child; but be- cause of the quarrels of her mother and father, the child had learned to hate the woman so bitterly that that < feeling continued all her life.
 Husband and wife who are forever at cross purposes before their children and who are rarely of the same mind on anything, soon create in their off, spring feeling that their parents are indeed my much apart and little respect is engendered for their parents because of the natural bleief that when one says mo" the other will likely say ''yes."
 Little do the husband and wife realize how quickly and strongly a child gains his impressions during his growing years; and how he retains them almost unconsciously when he becomes an adult. When people act almost in unison on things concern ing the little one he naturally gets the feeling that al's right with his world
 That is one good reason why all squabbles and controversies should be avoided before children. It has never done any good and has certainly done great deal of harm.
 The parents who can have a child feel that they are one are blessed indeed in many ways.