The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-01-11
Dorothy Dir's Letter Boz
The Young Wife Whose Husband Objects To Amuement-The Youth Who Doesn't Like To Talk-The Troubled Wife Who Is Suspicious Of Her Husband Without Reason

Congeniality is the only tic that binds. Tho people we really love are not those with whom we either fight or argue and with whom ws are in perpetual discord. It s ais those whose step matches ours in the dance, who thrill to the same plays, read the same books. vote the sams ticket and canter along on the same hobbies that we do of whom we never tire and of whose society we never get enough. DOROTHY DIX. Dear Dorothy Dix: I recently be- came acquainted with girl whom I liked very much and desire as a friend, as she seems to like me. Now what I want to know Is this: Is 1t necessary while we are together which I hope will be quite often. e we see each other riding homo on the car from work every evening and later at homo in the evening" to keep up a steady conversation? I am no great talker. and find 1t diff ficult always to think of something to say. Besides. there Is nothing that like better than a person who can be silent with me and enjoy me just the same. But this girl seems to get embarrassed when I don't talk. and imagines that she is boring me. What Is your opinion? D. R.
 Answer: I think people who talk all of the time are the greatest bores on earth, and that there Is nothing so wearing as having to make con- versation. Really congenial people the people we enjoy most-are those xuift NIyhn Si- lence. Why don't you tell your friend your views on this subject? If she is your real soul mate. she will un- derstand it. If she doesn't under stand 1t, there would never be any real bond between you. and the
 DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Dorothy Dix-My husband Is honest, kind and considerate. He works steadily and divides his wages with me. But am suspicious of him, and keep him from going out to places of amusement without me, and I watch him constantly.
 A friend tells me that am Q moan, ungrateful woman, not worthy of good husband. and that people like I am should not be permitted to mar ry. Please tell me what to do.
 TROUBLED WIFE.
 Answer: I certainly agree with your friend that your husband must rue his wedding day and feel that in marriage he acquired not a wife, but jafler.
 The thing for you to do Is to sit down and have a heart-to-heart ses- sion with yourself. Face the mean, ignoble thing in yourself that makes you attribute to your husband qual- ities that he does not possess. You say he is good, and kind, and honest; yet in your thoughts you suspect him of being mean, and disloyal. and traitorous.
 Do you think it makes 8 man love you for the poor opinion you have of him? Don't you know that in his soul he resents your unjust &C., cusations? And what sort of esteem who has not love enough to under stand. nor faith enough to trust, nor generosity enough to be just?
 You say you watch him. Do you think that does any good? Don't you know that every system of espionage breaks dowrf somewhere and that the man who wants to de- ceive his wife can do 1t? She cannot possibly have her eye upon him every minute of the day and night. Every man who Is faithful to his wife is faithful because he wants to be-, not because she keeps him true by watch ing him. And don't you know that even the humblest-souled person on earth resents nothing else 50 much as being spied upon?
 You say you never let your hus- band go out anywhere without you. In other words, you take away eveSy vestige of personal liberty from him. That Is the quickest way in the world to kill husbands love and drive him away from home.
 If you want to retain your hus- bands affections. Troubled Wife, you will have to change your tactics. No man loves jailer. even if she is his wife. Any man will try to climb through the transom if you lock the door on him. and the surest way to make husband Justify your sus- picions is to have them. If man IS going to get the blame, he feels that he had as we'll have the fun of fho -NtI oA