The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-02-12

lease teil me Just eAactly WHat you | think. GRACE NJ.
 Answer: I think you are wise little woman, Grace, and that you have read the moral of many screen lesson aright. In the human triangle the Best Friend is villain who deliberately starts in to steal away husband or wife, because he or she covets his or her neighbours possessions. Sometimes Best Friend breaks up home as ruth lessly as Il spoiled child breaks up a toy just to gratify his or her vanity by inveigling silly wife or an easily flattered man into compromising love affair.
 And Best Friend has admirable op- portunity for these nefarious designs. The intimacy of the home gives every advantage of meeting spot. This cloak of friendship permits familiarities and caresses. that would he resented from any stranger. The knowledge of the faults of husbands and wives gives the he-vamp or the she-vamp chance to separate husbands and wives and per suade them that they are misunder- stood and not appreciated. and have mistaken their real soulmates. Sometimes Best Friend is not villain. but victim, and without in- tending it he or she falls in love with the husband or wife of the friend whom he or she would rather die than betray.
 Propinguity does its deadly work after people are married just as much as it did before. and it is never safe to give an attractive stranger the run of the home. Moreover, any man and woman who believes that their powers of fascination are such that their wives and husbands are never in danger from any outsider are simply fooled by their own vanity.
 There are times of discontent, times when men and women get bored. when they are disgruntled, when they are angry and hurt. when they are ready to turn to the nearest good looking and attractive woman or man for interest, amusement, or to have their egotism salved, and then is when Best Friend gets in his or her work.
 It is every husbands and wife's business to protect their own from danger. DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dix: am engaged to be married to a young man who is self made. He is we'll educated, refined and holds very responsible position, but he comes of very plain people. His parents have made money, and are well-to-do, but they have not the re- motest idea of the ordinary uses of polite society, and they are utterly il- literate. I am far from being snob. but l can hardly bear the thought of their being my relatives.
 My fiance insists on a large we'd ding, which I also desire, but I don t feel as though I want his family at my wedding to humilate me. Neither do 1 want to hurt his feelings. What shall I do? E. NJ.
 Answer: I should think. under the circumstances, that the only thing to do would be to put your foolish pride in your pocket and have the courage to face the music, and accept your fiances family as they are. Certainly you would have contempt for your sweetheart if he were so ashamed of his mother and father that he would not ask them to his own wedding and he would be bound to think you very small-souled woman to be snob- bish enough to ignore them.
 After all, they are to be your people and their blood will run in your chil- dren's veins. Your children will inherit from them, and there must be some- thing fine on the strain if they pro- duced a man like the one you are going to marry.
 Don't be ashamed of your husbands people. Some of these plain, uneducated men and women are the salt of the earth, and have homely wisdom that has more real intelligence in it than all the learning the colleges teach.
 DOROTHY DIX.