The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-12-16
Dorothy Dix's Letter Boz
Solvimg tue Problem ot tue Too-Long Emgage- naentCam c Wife Ever Learn to Trust Again the Husbond Who Has Been Umtaithtul?- Girl Who Doesnt Want to Be Called Van,p

t to Be CGLLed c VGn1p. 1 in love with the young man as your letter implies, the only thing for you to do is to have frank. heart to-heart talk with him, and find out if he still cares for you, and de- sires to re-establish the old rela- tions. Pride should never be per mitted to ruin life, or to stand
 between people who have sincere
 affection for each other. | But before you ask your ex-sweetheart to take you back, you should have a very frank and honest session with your own soul, and be very sure that you love this man we'll enough to make any sac rifice for him. For, apparently, he has no more to offer you now than he had when you broke off with him. He still has his family burden on his back. Your wedding day will still be an in- terminably long time off, and there is nothing that is filled with more heart aches and anxiety; nothing that is more nervewearing to woman than one of | these long-drawn-out engagements that may end in a wedding only when she is an old woman, with all the fire, and passion, and romance of her youth out lived.
 It seems to me that you have at- lowed yourself to get into very morbid state of mind, and that what
 you need is to brace up. Quit pity
 ing yourself. Use little will
 power. Quit star-gazing. Either make up with the man or have
 enough backbone to forget him. A
 woman like yourself, who has
 profession, can always get work
 anywhere, and it will do you a
 world of good to leave the city in
 which you are living for while and
 go to some distant place where you
 would have change of environment
 and association.
 Try one or the other of these courses. Don't let yourself drift into lackadaisi cal old maidenhood.
 DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dix-Do you think wife can ever learn to trust again hus- band who has been unfaithful to her! My husband had an affair with another woman. He has given this other woman up, and is very repentant. l have for given him, but ap very unhappy be- cause my trust in him has been shat tered. Do you think I can ever get back my faith in him?
 A READER.
 Answer-Not in it's entirety, my
 sorrowing sister. Something pre-
 cious and beautiful has gone out of
 your relationship with your husband
 that nothing he can do, nor that
 you can do, will ever bring back,
 any more than you could make
 whole again crystal vase that had
 been shattered. or restore it's fresh
 ness to the flower that has been
 dragged in the dust. I do not mean by this that your hus- band will not deserve your trust. A burnt child dreads the fire, and many a man and woman get such lesson from their wrongdoings that they are practi- cally temptation-proof the balance of their lives. But while we forgive the sinner, we do not forget. In the back of your memory there will always be a scar. But it is up to you whether you | will let this wound to your love heal, or whether you will keep it an open sore that will poison your whole life. You can do this by thinking about it contin- ually, by your suspicious of every wom- an your husband meets, by watching him.
 Don't do this. Wipe off the slate.
 Let your common sense teach you
 that a man who has slipped off the straight and narrow path once and gotten badly bruised is all the more apt to walk warly thereafter. Keep the faith thought in your mind all the time and you will be happy. And remember this-nOthing IS more sure to drive man into being untrue to his wife than the knowl- edge that she distruStS him.
 DOROTHY DIN. Dear Dorothy Dix-I am 21, full of pep, and extremely attractive as far as face and figure are concerned. But here is my problem: Instead of attracting the quiet, seri- minded men whom 1 admire the only attention I get is from the wild ones who believe in always having good time and never settling down. I may look like vamp, although l try not to, but at heart l am just an old-fashioned, homeloving girl, who wants a home of her own and two or .hree babies.
 I have tried to act demure, and all hat, but they take me for vamp, nev- 
 My looks are evidently against me, md I cant change them. What shall l I To? MISUNDERSTOOD. Answer-Tis sad story, mates. Evi- ! ently you are one of those unfortunates vho are afflisted with what old-fash- oned novelsts used to call "the fatal ] urSe of beauty" The late Anna Held ad the same trouble She had a song bout it, in which she deplored that she , ould not make her eyes behave.