The Washington times., 1924-01-01
By Beatrice Fairfax.
Who Holds . Unique Position IL
tho Writing Weird % an Au-
tIlOrity on the Problems


is any hope that love will come to
make me happy writes Eileen J.
v. II an called pretty. entertain
ing and well dressed. get asked
around q lot. hut never Know
whether or not ] will have an es.
cort, though my dances are always
taken. / meet men, bat they don't
seek, me out except at large func-
tons.
II don't seem to make friends
though do make a hit now and
then. Is there some way could
change by brilliant, dashing per-
sonality so / would attract real
love? want to marry weII-so-
cialiy, financially and mentally
But I don't seem to have oppor-
tunity to make the satisfactory
marriage desire. Any sugges-
ton you make to lead me to hap
piness and marriage will be CRATE
fully acted upon"
wonder will it. / wonder il
Eileen and the hard-headed, am
bilious girls like her will be willing
to recognize the difference between
love and the marriage arrange
ments they want to make. For
love does not always come ''in
coach and four" 1t is not always
in the power Of a rich eligible to
give a woman the devotion she
Graves.
Sometimes the marriage which
would mean a social and financial
success offers security and posi-
ton and little else. The man who
Is rated a captain of industry
is sometimes not the captain of his
soul. He may have given so much
Of himself to building a fortune
that the financia! game is almost
his idol, and he has devoted so
much of himself to money-getting
that he has lost the power to love
simply and tenderly and sweetly.
When women are looking to
make what the world calls good
marriages" they may SO overlook
all the romance and love which
they crave.
Be honest with yourself. !, Do
you want a Observation-Disclosures
ner-husand--or a noneytmaking
machine to buy you limousines
and peals? Sometimes it is pos
sible to have both, but not by
looking for the good matrimonial
bargain. The sharp eye and
shrewd attitude do not soften
enough to call forth love in the
heart Of a man who is used to
driving shrewd bargains of his
own, but wants something differ
ent to crown his marriage.
This New Year will bring you
love II you make yourself so
loveable that you invite love.
What does this mean? Merely
that love begets love, that the
attitude Of gentle devotion and
affection reflects itself in your
face and bearing and that when
you have a heart ready to make
. home for love you are far more
likely to invite 1t than when
you are calculating your chances
Of making good match.
Sometimes the calculating
women manages to make what
society calls a brilliant match.
But there is seldom any happiness
in it and the arrangement doesn't
often last. The beautiful "song-
bird" who lLrd q wealthy man
from his devoted wife ten years
ago sought the way out Of her
"gilded cage" via the divorce
courts. Evidently all the luxury
she so calculatingIy worked to
win didn't bring her happiness OF
lasting satisfaction.
If you really want love, get
yourself into receptive attitude.
You can cultivate the equivalents
Of sympathy and understanding
but il these qualities are to be
real you must feel them. And
to feel the sympathy and under
standing which invite love you
must have tender. warm,
vibrant heart in which the quail
ties which call to the hearts of
fine men have deep roots.
The New Year will bring you
love IL you prepare yourself to
know it when you see it, to appre.
ciate it when you have it, and to
make II so welcome that IL will
want to stay with you. To call
out devotion you must want it,
and know how to appTecite it.
If you want love don't cultivate
"dashing personality" Instead,
prune away your calculating am
billions and give your heart a
chance to bloom. The fragrance
Of fine. sweet personality evokes
tenderness and devotion and love,