Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-10-28
DOROTHY DIX DISCUSSES LIFE
TALKS ON HEART AND HOME

each other the right of a night off
once q week.
Dear Dorothy Dix-Do either men
or women appreciate intelligence, in
dustry and modesty in the OPPOSITE
sex, or do they prefer flippancy, for
wardness and flapperism generally?
[ am an example of the former
class, and for that reason SEGA life
of bachelorhood ahead of me, al
though I am not old, nor cold, nor
ugly, nor ignorant. / just cannot
make myself a silly, fawning crea-
ture with no other aim than to chase
butterflies. A. A.
Answer: I think, A. A., that both
men and women really appreciate
intelligence, industry and modesty,
and certainly these are the qualities
that they expect their wives and
husbands to possess.
But the trouble is they are lured
by flippa1lcy and flapperism. Their
eyes are shared by the outside gilt
ter, and they never stop to inquire
whether what they are getting in
marriage is pinchbeck or solid gold.
All of us know men who possess
every good quality, whom girls pass
up for Varnished-haired youths
whose brains are all in their heels,
instead of their heads. And we all
know highly educated, domestic
women, tender, loving and sympa-
thet1c, who would make the most
wonderful wives in the world if they
had a chance, but who never even
have beau to bless themselves
with.
And every day we see little fool.
ish monons of girls carrying off the
matrimonial prizes.
Yet for all of this, it isn't that we
prefer the flippant to the serious
1t is only that somehow foolishness
seems more enticing than wisdom,
and perhaps the remedy for this is
for the stiff backed to unbend a lit
tie and learn how to jazz and for the
hlghbroWs to comb down a few curls
over their bumps of intelligence.
THE craven flower upon the sword
makes not the blade less strong"
and even virtue is all the better for
being Wreathed with the charms of
suavity and social graces.
Dear Miss Dix am sixteen and
am to be married very soon to a man
nearly ten years odler than I am.
Mother and father both love him as
a son, but 1 only love him as I would
a big brother.
Now here is the point of my letter:
DO we not find, and keep happiness
In bringing happiness to others
VIII not l, in seeing how wonderful.
ly full l make the life Of the man I
marry, find contentment and peace?
AS [ grow older will not I learn to
love him?
Answer: A woman who marries a
man she does not love may possibly
rail- In love with him after marriage
but there's not one chance in a hun.
dred that she will. The disillusions
of matrimony, the conflict of wills
and clashing personalities, the re.
stralnts and sacrifices demanded bv
marriage all tend 70 make a woman
or a man fall out of love instead of
falling into it.
When a girl of sixteen marries
without being in love, the odds are
that when she falls in love it will
! be with some man other than her
| uuSDdnQ.
The idea Of finding happiness In
making your husband happy is high
talutlng nonsense. You cannot play
part and pretend an affection you
cannot feel
NOR can any normal young cir
satisfy herself with pale self-abnega
ton. eShe wants something red
FLOODED and vital, the joy of life fol-
herself, love, romance, passion. an6
these you do not get out of Twin
for others.
Believe me, my child, you do the
man you are going to marry without
love great injustice and you wrecl,
your own life. Don't do il.
DOROTHY DIX.
Copyright, 1924