The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-07-27
SAYS MARRIAGE i, ASPARTNERSHIP IS MOST HAPPY
Famous Lawyer Tells How
 Domestic Jars Are s Avoided

QOA 11dLLAcg atNVAhCy ut 7 law, has for thirty-three years heen | student of the human family and has | seen the gamut of human emotions | mirrored on the archives of the courts. He has been a married man for twenty | six years. It has been his privilege to | have settled out of court more family | squabbles than he has appeared in as | attorney of record. For, like Lincoln, | he is a lawyer who believes that it is | far better to restore happiness to a | home than to exploit the unfortunate | and ofttimes easily mended fractures which in the hands of unscrpulous legal advisers widens into breach that even time cannot heal.
 Mir. Battle in his office at 37 Wall street, gave his secrets of maintaining | q happy married life in the following l language:
 In most marriages the parties have not yet learned to know each other. A | young man and a young woman meet, are mutually attracted, fall in love with each other and are married. Such is, fortunately, the course of the usual American marriage. The marriage of convenience, which is actuated by ma- terial motives, although not unknown among us, is the rare exception.
 elf we take, therefore, the typical American marriage to be of character as have outlined, the first thing that the young people have to learn is to know each other. It it is true that the proper study of mankind is man, then its most important phase for hus- band is the study of a wife and for a wife the study of hers husband. Each should strive to ascertain as nearly as possible the character of the other. Ordinarily, each will find in the other much to praise and some things which are not so worthy of praise. We, all of us. have our good pointsNand our weak points. If each member of the mar riage partnership will study and cap preciate the good points of the other and make allowance for the less for tunate characteristics it will go far toward smoothing the path of matri- mony.
 Love And Respect
 "In the ideal marriage, there should be, of course, mutual love and respect. In every marriage, each will find in the other much to love and respect if 1t | is looked for. I should say, therefore, that the primary requisites for happy | marriage are mutual affection and sym pathy. Of course, l know that being human every uuBUauu uHO CNCAy has the failings and weaknesses which, accentuated by the strain of everyday life. try the temper, bring about mis- understandings, and sometimes the fam iIy far appears. It is at such times that each should try to remember the good points of the other and give due consideration to the fallibility of human nature under the strain of &fe. In or der that each party may understand the other it is, of course, necessary that each of them be sympathetic and ln- terested in the pursuits O. the other. If the wife maintains an intelligent in- terest in the business affairs of her husband, in his amuseInents ana c0m- uanionships when he is away from her, and if he, on the other hand, shows a sympathetic interest in her domestic affairs, in her friends, and in her puf- suits. then the hours which they spend together will be necessarily far more nleasant than if the interests of each did not include those of the other. In other words, to put it more plainly, if the wife talks with her husband about his affairs, at the office, his golf game, his fronting and his other pursuits, and if he, on the other hand, is interested in her domestic duties and shows par ticular interest in her social happiness, both of them will enjoy a perfect mar riage.
 "It is usual to speak of marriage as A partnership, but in many instances this relationship is forgotten. The wife shouId maintain a home which should he a place of recreation and stimulas for the husband to carry on his busi- ness. The wife who does this carries1 her share of the burden and IS en- titled to a full share in the partner shin, She is entitled to know his af- fairs, and to have him dispose of the property so that her services shall be recognized both in his mind as well as in his heart.
 Happiest Marriages
 "It has been said that the happiest nation is the one which has no history. And so the happiest marEiage does not intrude itself into the pages of the newspapers nor in any other way into public notice. The unhappy marriage, on the other hand, too often projects itself into the divorce court, where it causes scandal and attracts an unduef proportion of public attention The vast majority of marriages are happy. Men marry and live peaceably and hap pily, bringing up their families and handing down to coming generations the best traditions.
 ''There is no happiness like that which comes from a fortunate mar riage, Those so blessed should thank God on their knees every night.
 .sTO young people the message should he given that true happiness is to be found in marriage in which each seeks to help the other, in which each shows due consideration for the other and in which each strives to love and care for the other until death comes to part them in this life" |
 "What do you think of the flapperP' I asked Mir. Battle.
 He stopped his pacing of the floor and looked at me with queer expres- sion on his face. Then he smiled and said:
 ''I think a whole lot of her. There's nothing wrong with the flapper. In fact there's nothing new about her type. The bobbed-haired girl was known in ancient Egypt and she is no better and no worse than the generation of the past"
 UPTON A FRUGAL YOUTH