Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-12-20
Solving the Problem of the Too
Long Engagement-Can a Wife
Ever Learn to Trust Again the
Husband Who Has Been I'm
faithful?--'The Girl Who
Doesn't Want to BE Called

Doesn't Want to BE Called
n Namp.
EAR DOROTHY DIX-I was
engaged to be married to
splendid young man, but, UNI
fortunately, circumstances arose
which made him the sole support
OF his father, mother and sister.
Our engagement dragged on for five
years until | finally became terribly
discouraged, and the only solution
to the problem seemed for me to
step out entirely and leave him to
his people. Now | realize what he
meant to me and that | had better
have continued the enga cement, no
matter how long [ have to wait.
L have been so heartbroken that
[ have been staying at home in the
evening in order to avoid the cues
tons of my friends. My family urge
me to get out and make new ac
quaintances and forget him, but I
find that my old friends are mar
ried, or keeping company, which
makes me feel like third party.
Then, where can a young girl go
except to the movies without an
escort?
l have q very GOOD position, but
of late | find myself star-Gazing and
drifting from my work to such an
extent that [ feel that L will have
to resign from my job. Do you
think it would be wise for me to
throw myself at the mercy of my
former fiance, and ask him to for
give me, telling him that [ realize
my mistake, or to try and forget
the past?
REGRETFUL.l
Answer: If you are still as much
in love with the young man as your
letter implies, the only thing for
you to do is to have a frank, heart
to-heart talk with him, and find out
If he still cares for you, and de
sires to re-eStablish the old relations.
Pride should never be permitted to
ruin a life, or to stand between peo-
pie who have a sincere affection for
each other.
But before you ask your ex-sweet-
heart to take you back, you should
have very frank and honest ses-
sion with yout own soul, and be
very sure that you love this man
we'll enough to make any sacrifice
for him. For, apparently, he has no
more to offer you now than he han
when you broke off with him. He
still has his family burden on his
back. Your wedding day will still
be an Unfortunately long time off,
and there is nothing that is filled
with more heartaches and anxiety;
nothing that is more nerve-wearing
to woman than one of these long
draWn-out engagements that may
end in wedding only when she is
an old woman, with all the fire, and
passion, and romance Of her youth
outliVed.
1t seems to me that you have al
lowed yourself to get into a very
morbid state of mind, and that what
you need is to brace up. Quit pity
ing yourself. Use little will power.
Quit star-gazing. Either make up
with the man or have enough back
bone to forget him. A woman like
yourself, who has a profession, can
always get work anywhere, and it
will do you a world of good to leave
the city in which you are living
for a while and go to some distant
place where you would have change
of environment and association.
Try one or the other of these
courses. Don't let yourself drift
into Il lackadaisical old maidenhood.
Dear Miss DiX-Do you think a
wife can ever learn to trust again a
husband who has been unfaithful
to her? My husband had an affair
with another woman. He has given
this other woman up, and is very
repentant I have forgiven him, but