The Washington times., 1924-10-01
TEMPERAMENTS IN MARRIAGE
Beatrice Fairfax Discusses the Question Of the Urgent
Necessity for GiVe-and- Take Between Opposing
Natures iii Husband and Wife.

place to ut ourselves for better
service 10 our community and
country all' selfish thought must
give way to thought for others.
This home should include chill.
dren II possible.
THE little woman who found
her pleasure at home was i rare
treasure which I'm afraid was
not appreciated. I've no doubt
with q natural craving for moth.
erhood satisfied ana ! quiet de-
votion consisting Of thoughtful.
ness Or her wishes. the quiet, nm
selfish woman would have made
q very pleasant companion for an
unselfish, pubiic,spirited man
a postscript to this letter adds.
1.-THE subject Of shipwrecked's
letter is one that has been much
discussed and thought about in
fiction and real life. It surely il
vital subject and has been to
me because i've experienced il
and therefore venture to send
you my conviction"
Here we have q message from
a shy woman who has found hap.
piness in her MARRIAGE mar.
riage one infers from her letter
though it Is not actually stated
Ito q man Of different temper
ment from her own.
This correspondent believes
that had the quiet woman whom
Shipwrecked married met with
unfailing patience and gentleness
and had children arrived to bless
their home, all might have been
wen, and there might indeed
have been happy ending Is the
story.
The rarestp most precious flow
ers are often those that do not
blossom unless soil and sunshine.
deWs and protection from rough
blasts are favorable. A delicate
rose requires gentle. patient cub
tfvation-mucl1 more than does
the sunflower. dandelion or even
the hardy nasturtium. Yet when
it does blossom, the rose is
queen Of all 1owers.' Z
So q shy nature requires pa
thence, tact, unfailtng, considerable
love to bring forth ali its sun
afraid" loneliness.
Possibly Shipwrecked was too
young and too irnpulsive to real
lie that with unfaiiing patience
and tenderness he might win
rare treasure-the .unreserved
trust and love of his quiet wife.
The strong. fearless, aggressive
public-spirited man, provided he
has gentleness and tenderness
with his strength may find rest
and Joy with the shy. delicate
little woman whom he weds
provided that their love for each
other really is love.
! The brilliant woman. poised and
genial. has in countless instances
proved the best Of helpmates to
a silent man Of action.
So the self.confident Young
man who is wise win not overlook
the shy little girl who might ef-
face herself we're she not sought
out. She may prove for him the
one woman in thousands who will
make him wise, happy wife.
perfect mother and home-maIxer.
And the brilliant girl who
laughs at the shy youth that ad.
nlires her only proves herself
silly. He's doubtless the stronger
and sweeter for his inarticulate
sensitiyeness. and, given the in
SEPARATION Of requited love, may
vet make his mark as Q leader
OF men and be her sure and kind
protection from the storms OF lie.
Shy and brilliant. quiet and az.
gressive, irnpulsive and demure--
these qualities may wei unite In
happy marriages provided shyness
meets with tender, patient under
standing, and brilliant fearless
ness receives the loving apprecia.
ton that Is its due.
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