Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-12-23

the world. But
He comes to my home four or five
times a week. After supper he sits
in the easiest chair and smokes and
talks over his business affairs with
me. He takes me to the movies and
to dinner on an average of every two
months and for ride once a week.
| am not complaining about this. l
earn a good salary and can take my
self about. What troubles me is
that he does not wish me to go any
place with other men. | get a few
scattering invitations at intervals. I
know he would feel himself aggriev-
ed if l should accept them, but I do
want to go somewhere once in a
While with a male escort. / don't
want always to be paying for my
own tickets and soaring up an old
lady for an escort. The point on
which l want your common sense
brought to bear is this: Would you
go out with these other men and say
nothing to him about it or would you
tell him you were going? He really
has no right to object, he has no
moral claim on me. But / would feel
rather sneaky not to mention to him
that L went places with other men,
Would yous come right out and say
that you were accustomed to going
about and that you felt he had no
right to object to other men taking
you places if he did not want to? Or
would you. just be quietly independ-
ent and go, and say nothing? Mp.
Answer:
Certainly you should be independ-
ent enough to go out with any man
you choose without offering the
slightest explanation or excuse to
this other man who has no authority
over you or claim upon you. 1t is
bad enough for wife to have to fur
nish an alibi to her husband, and
why any unmarried woman lets a
stranger interfere with her goings
and comings is past my comprehen-
sion. Why, the one thing that recon
Giles woman to spinsterhood is the
freedom it gives her, and for her vol.
UNFAIRLY to relinquish this and let A
man boss her who doesn't even pay
her bills, makes her indeed fall be-
tween the stools.
If you will calmly analyze your
friends attitude toward you, you
will see that it is one of such COM
plete selfishness that you will not
feel called upon to make any particu-
lar sacrifices for him. He makes of
your house a free club where he
spends four or five evenings a week,
where he is fed without cost, sits in
the easiest chair, and enjoys all the
comforts and luXuries of a home that
somebody else supports.
lie talks to you about himself and
his own affairs, and he gets from
you the patient listening, the sym.
pathy and understanding that he
would get from a wife, yet he has
none of the responsibility toward
you that he would have toward a
wife. He doesn't have to provide
for you. He doesn't have to stand
FOR your moods and lenses.
You haven't any right to scold
him, or to interfere with his plans,
or to call him to time for what he
does. And all he does for you is to
take YOU to the movies and to din
ner occasionally. Yet he thinks
ana you seem to think-that he has
some sort of an intangible right to
control your movements.
Don't you see how idiotic it is for
you to make yourself a voluntary
save to such a man? Wake up. and
pave enough spunk to stand >un for
your own right to do as Won y case. .
N man who considers that he is
privileged to monopoliZe q woman
and keep away all other men snol1Id
say 1t with a wedding ring. Tie man
whose attentions are without inten-
ions is a curse to any woman. and
the sooner she gets rid of him the
better.
Dear Dorothy DIX am a vOung
girl 10 years old. l have been going
with young man for two months,
ana We are devoted to each other.
But here is my trouble. NV par
ents will not allow me to keen com.
pany with any young man. [ am not
permitted to look at one, nor to have
one come to the house. so I have TO
ne 10 my parents and meet bows on
the Sly: l just hate to lie to nv ia
ther and mother, and to do sneaI<v
Things, so please tell me what 70 do
10 make my folks understand But
they are very strict, and if thev
knew about my love affair I would
die or fright, yet / can't get alOng
without my present friends. and I
want TO have beaux and good times
Ike other girls. I would he Satisfied
II my parents would only let nv
friends come to the house. but they
"oh 40 thls. BLUE EYES.