Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-08-19


is to refrain from paying the girl any
attention whatever, and to make her
thoroughly understand that you have
no intention of marrying her.
Don't worry about breaking her
Heart. Hearts are the most elastic
htings on earth, especially those of
the feminine brand
No one should marry without love.
Especially no man should marry
without being wildly, madly, pas
sioEately in love to start with be-
cause men S affections cool off soon
enough, anyway, and they should al
ways start in on matrimOny at fever
heat. Also the whole tendency of
matrimOny is 10 ALLEVIATE man from
his wife. His business, his s.mbi-
tons, a thousand outside interests
wean him away from her, and so he
is apt to find matrimony very dis
illusioning process unless he has got
ten the woman of his desires.
Also a man makes a very great
mistake in marrying a woman who
is his intellectual inferior because
she soon bores him, and home is
dull place if one has to spend ones
life narrowed down to the society OF
a woman whose whole conversational
gamut runs from the kitchen to the
nursery and back again. More than
that, dull wife is the hardest of
all women to get along with because
she is narrow and opinionated, and
can never be made to see any but
her own point of view:
1t is still more OF mistake tt
marry a woman who is your social
inferior because in this country wives
make the social position of the fam
| lily. 1t is the wife who either raises
her husband or drags him down in
society.
A safe matrimonial tip is to marry
a woman you will have to live up
to, rather than one you look down
on, and never to marry any woman
whom you do not believe to be the
only one.
Dear Dorothy Dix am a young
man twenty-five years old, and am
engaged to a girl of twenty-five.
| Whenever / call on my fiancee and
we stay at home her father and
mother bear us company. They al
ways sit in the next room but as the
two rooms are all open together it
is just as if we sat in one big group.
! we never have a minute to ourselves
or say a word that they do not over
| near, and when we go out they are
are always waiting for US on our re-
turn
They do not want us to get married
until next spring, but We get so dis
gusted with this treatment that we
teel like getting married the next
day. DO you think we should say
anything to them or will it only make
| them worse? IT. Y T.
Answer: I am sorry for you, J. V.
L., but L think you will have to get
married to get rid of papa and
mamma, for they think they are Co
ing their duty by their daughter hv
standing guard over her. The pity OF
1t is that they are probably as much
bored with you as you are with
them. Lots of parents have this
perpetual chaperonage complex, and
1t generally results in their having
some nice old maids left on their
hands.
have known mothers who boast
ed that they always help entertain
their daughters beaux. They fjdn't
nave enough sense to see hat pretty
soon there weren't any beaux to en-
terrain, because young men don't
put on their stepping-out clothes AMI
go out to hear an old lady babble
along about her trouble with serv-
ants, and what she did for Johnny's
sore throat.
And [ have known fathers who
always sat in the back parlor auG
read the newspaper whenever boys
called on Sally, and who snorted
| with disgust whenever some embar-
raised youth made a particularly
silly remark And very soon papa
didn't have to sit up at night, be-
cause there wasn't a boy WITHIN ea..-
shot.
These worthy and misguided nar-
ents say that they don't want boys
saying anything to their uau-n, 5rs
that they can't hear. nor did the
boys intend to say anything that
anybody might not have heard But
the presence of a third party listen
ing critically n the background
strikes any conversationalist dumb.
There can be no innocent skylatk-
ing and giggling under q parents
eye, and that is why the over chap
eroned girls have no bcau3 rs, for
love-making under fathers and
mothers eye, it is not to be thought
of. One of the reasons why there
are so few marriages in these days
is because the modern apartment IS
not adapted to counting.
In your own particular case
should write a brief but heartfelt
letter to my intended's parents.
would say. Remember the time you
were engaged and have a hearr.
! Beat it,
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