The Birmingham age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1902-1950, 1924-11-04


Also point out that each head of
department does his work best when
who turns out good and efficient job
Of housekeeping has much leisure for
anything else.
Also I would firmly impress on
the ladys mind that partnerships
are often dissolved if either one of
the contracting parties fails to
give satisfaction. AS for your wife
running you through her extrava-
gance, that is sheer weakness on
your part. Give her a fair allow
ance and force her to live within it.
The law protects a mans pocket
book if he has the courage to invoke
its aid. DOROTHY DIN.
Dear Miss Dix-My wife does not
get along with my mother, and conse-
quently we do not get along as we'll as
we should. / go to see my mother alone
about once a month and my wife makes
no verbal objection, but there is al
ways trouble on the holidays. My wife
thinks that / should spend them all
with her, while my mother thinks that,
at least, should spend one occasionally
with her.
My wife accuses me of being dis
loyal to her because l talk things over
with my mother. Is there any disloy-
atty in this? A. NJ.
Answer: 1t is a curious thing
that in the mother-in-law and
daughter-in-law squabble it never
seems to occur to either one of the
women who love the man over
whom they are fighting that>he is
the real victim in the case. They
would do anything to make him
happy, except to try to get along
together. They would make any
sacrifice for him, except that of
controlling their tempers and their
tongues.
1t is one of the saddest things in
the world, for no good, kind, loving man
can be put in Il harder case than that
of the one who has to decide between
his mother and his wife.
When the women force him into this
situation, however, the best he can do
is to make as fair divide as he can
between them. Certainly he should be
free to go to see his mother on half of
his holidays, inasmuch as his wife has
the other half of the holidays and the
balance of his time as we'll. Moreover,
his wife should be good enough a sport
to let him go cheerfully instead of max
ing him feel like criminal.
1t is no more disloyal for him to
discuss his wife with his mother
than it is for him to discuss his
mother with his wife, but the wise
plan would be to refuse to permit
either woman to speak to him
about the other one.
DOROTHY DIX.
Dear Miss Dix-If you had a sweet
heart to whom you had been engaged
for three years and who wanted to
marry you, but refused to give you an
engagement ring when he could very
well afford it, wouldn't you feel hurt
with him, especially as all your girl
friends had their rings?
A DEVOTED READER.
Answer: 1t would make me feel
more than hurt, little girl. 1t
would make me feel full of deep,
dark suspicious. 1t would make me
wonder if the reason he didn't give
me ring was because he was
tightwad, and l am here to tell
you, my child, that one of the
worst husbands in the world is the
stingy husband.
The man who is too parsimonlous to
give his sweetheart an engagement ring
will begrudge his wife the very food she
eats and the clothes that cover her,
and she will have to chloroform him to
get the price of new hat out of him.
And then I'd wonder if the rea-
son he didn't give me an engage
ment ring was because he had no
sentiment i'll him, no romance.
Why, to a man of sentiment the
whole world of dreams lies in the
small circle of an engagement ring,
and if he doesn't want to put that
on a girls finger, as a visible
token that she is his, his very soul
is stuffed with sawdust! And
matrimony with that kind of hus-
band is going to be a mighty dust