The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-07-19

It is an amazing thing that any
 one in this day and generation
 should ignore his table manners,
 for nothing in the world so surely
 marks a mans breeding as the way
 he eats. Yet, every day you see
 clever, self-made young chaps who
 have had the brains and energy to
 forge ahead in their business, who
 still feed like pigs. They realize
 the importance of dress and appear
 ance. They are barbered up to the
 minute, and have copied the clothes
 of fashionable men about town. ! But they have never thought 1t
 worth while to initiate the table
 manners of gentlefolks.
 Yet to be able to eat like gen
 tleman lis one of the important
 factors in their success. Last year banker told me that he had been watching for several years the career of most promising young man in his employ. The young chap was handsome and well dressed, he had energy and initiative he was faithful, trustworthy, and so when the bank was going to open a new branch he was slated for manager. On the day when the glad news was to be impart- ed the banker took the young chap out for lunch. It was their first social encounter, and the first spoonful of soup wrecked the young mans career. We wouldn't send man out to repre- sent us with the table manners of a savage" said the banker regrettuliy.
 I thought that the banker should
 have told the young man why he
 didn't get the place and give him
 chance to correct his faults, instead
 of letting them be perpetual ham,
 dicap to him, and that is why l am
 advising you to give your sweet
 heart the opportunity to save him self. DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Dorothy Dix: Some time ago you wrote an article on Marrying for Money" I quite agreed with you then, and was ready to condemn any man or woman who would do such thing. Now I find myself engaged to a man I do not love. He is rich, loves me, and will give me everything money can buy. I am a mlddle-aged woman, and have always worked for my living. The man I am engaged to knows what my sentiments are toward him, but he says he will teach me to love him, and that everything will tlrn out all right. Would it be safe to marry the man to whom am engaged, and am 1 not justified in marrying for money?
 PUZZLED. Answer:
 It depends on the price you set on yourself, on what you care for most in the world, and very much on the kind of man you are marrying.
 In deciding this question, your
 age is most important factor. Under no circumstances should a young girl marry for money, be- cause youth must have romance and illusions and fire and passion. And the girl who does not love her husband is almost certain to find some man whom she does love. When a young woman marries for
 money she sells her soul.
 But with a midUle-aged woman the matter is different. Life has long ago dissipated her romance and wrecked her illusions. Roman tic love is done for, for her. She
 can neither feel it, nor inspire it. but she is capable Of a fine and splendid affection for a man, glOrified friendship that is more comfortable than any romantic love can be, and there is no reason why financial consideration should not enter into the forming of this friendship.
 Such a woman would not actually marry man for his money, though it would be great attrac- tiOn to a woman who had always been poor and worked hard for her living. A man who has made fortune is generally personally likable and prac- tically always interesting, because it takes a man of intelligence, of energy, a man who has Self-cOntrol a man of