The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-09-06
Summer Resort Love Full Of
 Danger
By SOPHIE IRENE LOEB

M E AReader" presents the following
 problem to me:
 Can proposal after one week of Friendship be sincere?
 He goes on to tell how the young woman to whom he was about to be- come engaged went up to the country and met summer bOarder and fell in love with him and had his proposal. And she is now considering which of the two she will take.
 He asks, "Is the comparison justi- fled, and is one week of constant com panionship equivalent to many months of friendship" And again, "Is a pro- posal after one week of friendship to be considered sincere"
 Of course, the world is full of mar riages that came after less than seven days acquaintance, and love at first sight is somewhat of a common dis ease, and whether it is justified or not it is being done all the time, and not the young man nor you nor l can stop it.
 What this young man seeks is ad- vice to the love-shorn. Just the same, his pain is poignant. If l were in his position I would put the matter squarely up to the young woman, give her plen- ty of time to think it over, and then make the best of it-let her go, if nee essary.
 If his love is really fine she will soon realize the truth of it. If not, he is much better off without her.
 Of course, this does not help him bear his misery at this moment, but later on, as general proposition, he will be very glad if he has taken such a stand.
 In one case out of thousands, the love at first sight and the nasty mar riages work out. Any young woman IS very foolish to trust her lift to any man after such short acquaintance. This is not mere prudish advice, but sound common sense. .,,
 If young man loves you he will be willing to wait until you are dead sure of it; if he isn't the young woman had best forget him.
 As to summer resort acqualntances, they are another story. A lovely moon, a beautiful night, constant compah- ionship when people are out to play- these are entirely different things rom meetings during the very-day grind ana under conditions that test the strength of making of man.
 I have known many cases among my friends where the summer trlend- shin could not weather the first win ter's blast. They did not bear the test-and it is only reasonable that when people are at summerlng places tbev are there for pleasure and are Tn antirelv different mood and tempera- ment, generally, than they are at nome:
 They don't show the real stuff or xvbich they are made under such CIT. c,,mstances. Sometimes their state or mind might be termed rather "hectIS. @ They see life through another lens' Ahe world is not the same. ,,,,
 know one young woman who spehes considerable time each summer WlIh her motber- at vacation resorts but very rarely retains a friendship afterwaru' Tn one particular instance when she 1yos very much interested she sad
 .He appeared so different when we rot hack to the city. While he was Sorv attractive and delightful com nan;on in his white flannels Tn ca. noa on our return to town ne Just 5;S1,+ seem the same. He was Ike strange man. +o ,,betb- CT an acquaintance will rlpen lhlo So 4h, thing deeper is to see the person III 'Ne winter time and on all occasions
 And this young man who writes must have patience. Give Father lime chance. He works wonders.