Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-02-26

of the ever ma ~
ready match N "a
maker Also we
h ave reached g s
the stage where
even at private ..e.reSA
dances one is
not asked with as
out the other. 3%=$s8
Now, our in
tentions q r -:
honorable but zz>>sssssz
remote. Should
we continue our innocent friendship
or risk gossip by leaving the city!
TWO BACHELORS.
If you wish to remain single, |
should say that flight was your only
| safety The truth of the old adage
that "absence of body is better than
presence Of mind" is never so forci-
blv illustrated as in love affairs,
and the man who does not mean to
name the wedding day takes his
freedom in his hands every time he
steps out with a girl whom he has
found entirely congenial and who
has become a habit with him.
Also public opinion is, next to
propinquity, the great matchmaker
We are insidiously compelled to DO
the thing that everybody expects
us to do; the thing that there will
be a great powwow about II we
don't do. This occult force becomes
almost a matrimonial mandate to
man. 1t impels many poor chap
into the holy estate before he IS
ready for it, and marries many a
one off to a girl whom he likes as
a pal, but whom he doesn't desire
as a wife.
Tom and Sally have been friends
for so long, and he has been gong
to see her for so many years, ana
everybody has been so certain they
would get married, that finally they
do get married just because gossip
has united them and they haven't
the nerve to face the composite MIS-.
Grundy and tell her that she dldn'
know what she was talking about
The fact is, dear bachelors, that
twoslne. is a very dangerous game
to play if you are fighting shy OIL
matrimony. 1t leads you into
blind alley that is mighty apt to
end at the altar, because you are
dependent on the woman you haVs
found to be a kindred SOUL you &C
uuire more interests in common, ana
lust because you are always togeth-
er YOU get segre gated and cut Off
from the society of other young
women who might prove a counter
attraction. There's safety in mum
! bers, in love as well as war.
But why, if you have found the
one woman, do you defer marriage
to some remote future? Love is ike
a cake. 1t has most flavor to 1t
when it comes hot off the grlddAe.
Left to cool through u long engage
ment, it is apt to be flabby and tasto-
less when you sit down to the nup'
tial banquet. 1t is only youth that
knows the romance and the glamour
and the circling wings of love, ana
then is the time to marry.
if, however, you are unalterably
opposed to marriage at present, lily.
Do it also for the sake of the girls.
1t isn't fair to monopOlize them on
the off chance that some day you
might think moro kindly tow ard
matrimony.
Dear Dorothy Dix: For five years
I have been going with a man who
is expecting me to say yes TO d
question that l am dreadilg to hear.
l like him very much, but | sud
denly realize that l do not love him
enough to live with him the rest of
NV life. One thing that l object to
about him is that he has never had
to think for himself. He is an only
fich in
though he has big heart about
most thin gs. His mother waits OH
him. and thinks for him. and l can
sea that he will expect ME to fill her
place and that would not be agree
able to me. [ want q husband VINO
will 60 $3.50 with me.
But the main thing is that / do
not love him.> I don't know whether
I am brave enough to express my
own thoughts when the moment OF
the great decision comes, or II VIII
have so much respect for his feel
ings that [ will sacrifice my own lite
for his happiness.
HEART FULL OF SNMPAIH1
Don't marry any man, my dear
unless YOU love him with all your
heart and soul, and unless YOU feel
that life with him under any sort OF
conditions is better than any exist
ence away from him. Marriage to a
woman means eternal sacrifice oil
her own tastes and inclinations. 1t
means hard work without pay en-
valope, it means sickness and suffer-
ing. and being tied down at home
with babies. And nothing on earth
pays for it and makes it worth
whilc, except a great and overwhelm-
I ing love for man.
Liking is not loving. any more
than SKINNED milk is cream. 1t is
a poor. weak, pale. flabby sentiment
( hat does not stand the strain OF
daily domestic life. And so, no mat
ter how much you like man, no
matter how much you esteem him,
no matter now much ycU admire
and respect him. no matter what
admirable qualities he has, don't
marry him. Wait for the man with
whom you viii some day fall in
! love.
And don't marry a man because
you are sorry for him, and be-
cause you think that you can make
him happy Instead, you will make
/ him miserable. No woman is a.
! great enough actress to keep up the
/ pretense OF caring for the man for
whom she does not care. Lies are
never convincing. You can't cam
outage real affection, and sooner