The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-11-06

we have no chance of improving
 ourselves.
 Of course, the perpetual fault-find- CT is suffering from case of exag- gerate ego, and it is an affliction that is common with both sexes. There are many men who knock everything their wives do, and probably just as many women who live with their little ham, mers in their hands. At the bottom of their trouble is the fixed conviction that they are the wisest people in the world and absolutely infallible, and that they know how to do everything better than anybody else.
 The only cure for this is to reduce the swelling in their heads,- and this is well-nigh impossible thing to do.
 Still, if I were man who had
 drawn one of these naggers in the
 matrimonial lottery, l should try
 three remedies on her. First, l
 would make a little memorandum
 of every time she found fault with
 me and put down the exact terms
 of criticism she used. Then would
 wait for the psychological moment
 
 peace with me, and I would pre-
 sent my little document to her.
 The chances are that she would be surprised and mortified, for the nag ger seldom realizes what she says. And I would follow up this by telling her how unhappy she made me, how she wounded me, and how she was killing my love for her. 1 would appeal to her affection for me and to her sense of fair play, and remind her that she also had weaknesses and flaws that l was too much of a gentleman to be con tinually throwing in her face. Fur I would impress on her that the only way that two imperfect, fal- tering creatures can get along together is by mutual forbearance.
 If this failed, I should try ridi-
 cule. I should enlist the aid of
 some of my best friends and get
 them started to making fun of her
 for the way she bossed me.
 Few women can stand being laughed at, and none of them wish to figure in the unattractive role of the henpeck ing woman who is such cirago that Ter husband is afraid of her.
 If that plan also went blah, I
 would deliver an ultimatum to the
 lady, and tell her that unless she
 could treat me with the same
 civility that she does a stranger,
 l would become a stanger to her
 and that I had listened to my last
 curtain lecture. Believe me, broth
 eff, a few women desire to give
 up A good husband and a good
 home, and the fear of losing them
 will silence the most eloquent
 tongue. Also the domestic bullies.
 like every other bully, are towards
 and you can always call their
 bluff.
 The Flaming of the Shrew' is still good reading for henpecked husbands and furnishes much food for thought.
 DOROTHY DIN.
 Dear Miss Dix-Can a girl who is cultured and refined be happy with a good man who lacks polish! l care a great deal for a young man who is anxious for me to marry him, but l am hesitating because of that question. He is good and kind and honest, but would his sometimes incorrect speech and his occasional social blunders get on my nerves if we were married? Of course, I cannot correct his mistakes now, but do you think he would resent it if I corrected them after marriage? Please tell me my chance for happi- ness in such case. M. l.. F
 Answer: I should say it de-
 pended altogether on how broad
 minded you are, NJ. l.. F., whether
 such marriage would be q success
 or g. failure.
 Undoubtedly every woman is super sensitive about the appearance that her husband makes in public. Also every woman yearns to be married to man of the world who knows how to wear his clothes and say just the right thing, and who can overawe head walters and hand a woman into a taxi without chucking her in as if she were a sack of potatoes. And every woman writhes when her husband mispronounces words and is short on grammar and steps on other women's feet and doesn't know which spoon to use.
 But, after all, these are not the i'm portant things. Kind hearts are more than fine manners and many man who makes love like q matinee hero ncalects and starves woman after he has got her.
 So, if you love a man who has
 not had advantage of education