The Birmingham age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1902-1950, 1924-04-19

gossamer thing. 1t is the. serious
sober later loves that are built on
| realities instead of dreams that last.
No mature woman can any more go
back and recapture her girlish emotions
than she can regain her girlish figure.
Something intangible has gone that can
never be replaced. She does not look
at men with the same eyes. She has
not the same illusions about them. She
does not expect the same things of
them.
The debutante can see a Prince
Charming in any good-looking youth.
She can believe that any glib talker
never loved before, that she alone can
save his soul, and that he. will die of
a broken heart unless she marries him.
The very young girl will marry, really
believing that she will be perfectly
happy and never have another care or
anxiety and that her husband will spend
the balance of his life holding her hand
and telling her how much he loves her
and how wonderful she is.
The mature woman, who has seen
much of life and men, Is ,disillu-
stoned. She knows men for what
they are, mixture of tenderness
and cruelty; of goodness and bad
ness; of faith and faith. When
she loves, she loves wisely, and her
love founded on respect and con-
geniality and thousand things that
do not enter into the young girls
scheme of things, endures. The only
love that can really be trusted to
the last is this quiet, discerning sec
Ond love.
OF course, you should not tell this
man you are going to marry about your
former love affair. 1t is dishonorabie
to the first man. What happened then
was something sacred betwee-. you and
him and a stranger has no right to
know of it, nor would it add to the
happiness of the second man to be told
of dead and past episode that might
rankle in his mind and keep him always
wondering if you cared for him as you
did your first sweetheart. .....
DOROTHY DIX.
Dear Miss Dix-AIy daughter is just
Hat the foolish age. She is typical
flapper, smokes, drinks, paints, powders
and all the rest of it. / have talked and
talked to her, but it is of no use. / am
an oId-fashioned mother. My daugh-
ter's chum is just 16, but her mother is
'up-to-date. They have parties at her
house, on an average of three nights a
week. where they can smoke, drink,
dance
/ have talked to. the mother of my
daughters chum and asked her how she
can tolerate such actions beneath her
own roof. She says she does not take
it seriously" Girls will be girls; if
they can't smoke at home they will do
it on the sly, and she had much rather
her daughter would smoke at home. Do
you think it right to sanction wrong
doing just because it is unavoidable?
Do you think should say, MARY,
know you will smoke, drink. etc, so
have your friends here, and will fur
nish the refreshments" and thereby be
the up-to-date mother? am willing
to do anything, or trysanything to save
my girl from these good times that
are sure to lead her to her downfall,
but my conscience says no.
My husband is dead and my only
other child married. have nobody to
turn to. Please help me if you can.
HARASSED MOTHER.
Answer would gladly give my
life, Harassed Mother, for the wis
dom to tell you what to do with
your silly little girl, who, as the
Bible dramatically puts it, has set
her feet ON hell" Because your
problem is the biggest problem in
the world tndaY. How To save nnr