Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-01-01


woman he generally has lost his
taste for domesticity
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I do not think that the facts in
the case will bear out the gentle
mans contention. Women are to
blame for many things, but not for
the decline and fall off, as Mr.. Wegg
would say, of wedding bells. The
female Barl1is is always willing. It
is men who are the matrimonial
pikers, not women. Women have
ever been willing to risk all for love.
1t is men who have gotten cold feet
when it came to taking the plunge
into the holy estate when it was
a case of shutting your eyes to fu-
ture consequences and taking the
fatal leap.
The theory that all men are anx-
ious to marry early and take upon
themselves the burden of a family,
and that it is only women who lack
the courage to sacrifice themselves,
is utterly and entirely false
You have only to look about you
and observe the reckless marriages
that girls make to see that women
still consult their hearts instead of
their heads when they decide the
most important event of their lives.
Girls who have been raised in the
lap OF luxury marry men who can
not even guarantee them the max
ings of the traditional bread and
cheese and kisses of the menu of
romance. Girls who have made good
in business or professions, and who
are getting fine salaries doing six
or eight hours work day in a ma
hogany and plate glass office, give
up their easy jobs to slave over cook
stoves and Washtubs for nothing in
two by four flat for the sake of
the men they love.
No. When you see the kind of
men women marry, it doesn't look
as though they were not willing to
take a chance on matrimony, or that
they have refused any sutton who
did not rank in the millionaire class,
or that they were willing to waste
their youth waiting for the men they
they tied up with them.
AS for girls not being willing to
marry poor but ambitious men and
work up with them. That also is
tommyrot. Ninety-nine girls out of
hundred are just simply dying to
do that very thing. But the cold
truth is that the men don't give them
the opportunity to do it.
For the ambitious man, the real
go-getter, the man who has set him
self a definite goal to reach, sub
scribes heart and soul to Kipling's
dictum that "he travels fastest who
travels alone"
He has no idea whatever of handi-
Gaping himself with wife and chill
dren at the beginning of the race.
They are luXuries he looks forward
to having after he has attained sue
cess.
He sidesteps love just as carefully
as he would the bubonic plague or
the flu germ, and he has no more
desire to marry early than he has
to commit suicide.
The men who make early mar
riages in these ard-boiled times are
the amiable, affectionate, easy-going
chaps, without any ambition or any
especial desire to get anywhere. Just
the jog-along sort.
The ambitious man doesn't marry
young because he knows that no
boy can make enough money to sup
port a family and save Up anything
to srub-stake opportunity when it
knocks at his door.
He has seen too many young
chaps of promise have their hopes,
their energy, their enthusiasm bur
led under mountain of bills that
We're the bare necessities to keep
his family going.
The man Of ambition does not
marry early because he wants to
keep himself free to go where oppor-
tunity beckons
The married man can not risk his
meal ticket. He can not jeopardize
a steady job for the chance of a, bet
ter one. He can not go off on long
trips for his firm, nor to foreign
countries, without the burden of
dragging along his wife and chill
dren.
The ambitious man does not marry
early becaIse the unattached man
has many chances of making val
liable social connections which the
married man has not.
The bachelor is welcomed in cir
Giles where, very often, his wife
would not be received. Further