Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1924-08-05

Answer do, inded, l.. w. can
think of no other one fault that IS
such an efficacious first aid to UNI
popularity a the fatal habit of tell
ing every woman you meet Just
what you think. of her. That is some
thing that human vanity cannot
stand.
We are covered with little prick.
les of egotism that require to be
handled with velvet gloves, and when
an individual refuses to do this ana
tramps roughshod over our self-loVe,
why, we have as little to do as pos
sible with her or him.
The people whom we like, whose
society we enjoy and whom we
choose for our friends are the suaVe,
the diplomatic, those with fnesse'
those who say pleasant and gracious
things to us, who put the loud pedal
on our virtues and the soft pedal on
our faults, at least when we are
face to face with them. The people
whom we avoid, and with whom we
associate only under compulsion, are
the uncouth, the conversational blum
derers, the brutally frank, who tell
us the things that we would rather
die than admit even to ourselves.
Plain-spoken people always ac-
count plain speaking unto them
selves for righteousness and accuse
those who are not guilty of it as
being hypocrites, but this is very
lopsided way to look at the subject.
IF YOU are asked your opinion of
,lo1y
an hoSest answer; but when you are
not asked what you think or thlng,
it is no part of your duty to Volun-
teer criticism.
Yet the plain spoken woman can
never see your new hat without tell
ing you that it is ten years too young
for you, or your ring without saying
that there is flaw in the diamond,
or YOUR cherished only child without
telling you that it looks tubercular
or has adenoids.
All of these things may be true,
| but why remind you of them? Why
| say the thing that hurs tyour feel
| ings and that takes the pleasure
and pride out of your possessions?
| You will have to cure yourself OF
|
if you want to be popular with your
| own sex, L. W., for there is this pc
| culiarity about the plaln-spoken
woman: She never feels called upon
| to say nice things to people or call
attention to their virtues. She never
rubs the fur the right way. She al.
| ways claws.
Dear Dorothy DIX am a young
man of twenty-four, but L am not
| popular with the girls. ] dance nice
! Iy, have pleasant manners, try to be
| agreeable and am about average
good looking. [ asked an older man
| why / didn't make a hit with the
| girls, and he said it was because
| didn't have a dominant expression
about the eyes and mouth, He said
my eyes looked too kind. Do you
think he is right? A. NJ. H.
Answer: Nonsense. Women like
men with kindly eyes. No woman
wants to be scowled at and domi
mated, and any chap who tried glar
ing at a flapper would be more
likely to get a hit in the eye than
make a hit with his eyes.
AS for a mans expression cutting
any ice with his popularity, that's
too silly to discuss, The only diff
| ference in expression that a girl ever
notices is whether a man looks wide
awake and intelligent, or like q
fatuous fool. So my advice to you
is to quit studying your reflection
in the mirror and turn your atten
ton to your characteristics &c seek
the cause of your unpopulartty with
girls.
Ask yourself these questions: