The Birmingham age-herald., 1924-12-23

Listen to your mother, Blue Girl. She is telling you what any wise woman who loves you will tell you. And you will tell the boy this-that you are going to play around with him and all the other boys, and that you are going to school and study hard, and make something of your self, and that if he wants you he has got to speed up and make man of himself and get out of the piker class. DOROTHY DIX.
 
 Dear Miss Dix-I am IS years of age, and am engaged to be married, but am afraid to take the fatal step, as 1 hear so much of divorce and marital un- happiness that 1t makes me hesitate to take the risk. I know that marriage is largely a matter of chance and that few are happy.
 The man whom I am going to marry will make an excellent husband, l be- lieve. He is 25, hardworking, home loving and devoted to me, but he has his faults, and has caused me many a heartache, not because of any bad habits. but by little things he says to me. Yes terday evening, for instance, he said that I am not as neat as some girls, that my hair was never combed. This is not true, as I take much pains with my hair, but it is bobbed and cannot help it's being blown about.
 Do you think this man loves me as he professes to? How should I deal with him on such occasions!
 Answer-If you have found a hard-working, home-loving, moral young man, don't be afraid to mar " him because other marriages have gone upon the rocks.
 A marriage with that kind of man isn't gamble. It is a dead-sure thing, if/you are willing to do your part. As for the danger, is there anything in life that is worth having that hasn't some element of risk in it?
 Whether a marriage turns out well. or badly, is not a matter of luck. It is matter of pluck. It is matter of good, hard horse sense; of two people starting out with the grim determination that they are going to make a success of it. If
  are going to make the best of it, instead of the worst of it. that you are going to laugh over hardships. instead of whine over them, and that you are going to put as much energy and ambition into the ca reer of wife as you would into being a grand opera singer. why. there won't be any chance about the
 
 Now as to the young mans criticism of you, why not take that in good spirit, and act upon it. instead ot get ting mad about it? Be honest with yourself. Perhaps you are not AS neat as you might be, and certainly there is no excuse for blowy, blowsy hair in these days when you can get good reliable hairnet for 25 cents or less. As to how to deal with mans crlti' cisms, here's n tip that will be money in your pocket if you will only play 1t.
 Never argue the matter. Never defend yourself. Just say. If do anything that you object to, am awfully sorry, and I will try to please you," and you knock the wind out of the mans sails. He is so tickled that he never notices wheth- CT you take his advice or not.
 DOROTHY DIX.
 
 Dear Dorothy DixAI have met young man that thought Fate had SC lected for me. but after a short while heard nothing else from him. have found his name in the telephone book and have been tempted to call him uT just to hear his voice again. Perhaps he still does think of me, but thinks that