The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-12-04

Dear Dorothy Dix-I am a young girl and enjoy good time just as much as any other girl, but when l am out among others I am too self conscious. l never can think of any thing to say. My sweetheart never takes me among his friends because he says I am not a good mixer, and that l am like pouring oil on water. So am left much alone. I am over sensitive, and one harsh word brings tears.
 What shall do to overcome these faults? SENSITIVE. Answer; The only way to correct elf-consciousness Is just to quit sthinking about yourself. Self-con- sctousness is nothing but morbid vanity, the quintessence of egotism Your mind is occupied with yourself, how you look, what people are think ing of you, what impression you are going to make.
 Just keep saying to yourself, over and over again, Nobody Is looking at me; nobody is noticing what have on; nobody is expecting me to be witty or brilliant" And you will soon cease to be conscious of your self. Concentrate your attention on other people. Talk to people about themselves, and you will never fail to interest them.
 Ask mother about her children Tell girl how pretty she looks, or repeat to her some compliments you heard some one pay her. Start man off by inquiring about his golf, or his his hobby is, and all you have to dc will be to throw in an occasional ex- clamation of wonder or admiration to have him think you are perfect spellbinder.
 To be a good mixer you have only to be adaptable. Fall in with other peoples plans. Go with the crowd Do what they are doing. At least appear to enjoy what they are enjoy ing. If you go to dance, don't re- fuse to shake foot. If you are with people who like to sing. join. in the chorus. Eat whatever Is set before you without saying that you like some other kind of food. And culti- vate some parlor accomplishments Every girl in these days should take dancing lessons until she is an ex- pert dancer, and should learn how to heavens sake don't show that you are bored, even if you feel like yawning your head off.
 Cure yourself of sensitiveness as you would of some deadly disease Thin-skinned people go through 8 life of torment, imagining sl1ghts that are not intended, receiving wounds that hurt, and bleed none the less because they are imaginary Can your tears. No other woman Is so unpleasant as the one whose feel ings are always spread all over the place. and who is always weeping Men especially hate moist ladies, and so if you want to hold your sweet heart, learn to laugh instead of cry
 DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dix-I have been in love with a lady for number of years but cannot understand her. I have asked her to marry me on two oc- casions. Tho first time she refused peremptorily. The second time she refused, but compromised by saying that we would talk the matter ovel later.
 She only permits mo to call inter mittently, and then she has othel members of her family present SC that I never see her alone, but if neglect her for two or three week; receive a mild rebuke. She accept. my presents and attentions grace fully, and at times seems to care fol me, but is very reserved with me Do you think she loves me?
 DISCOURAGED. Answer: I should diagnose tht