The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-11-16

Deax Miss Dix: Can young girl hope for happiness if she marries wldower, or would she be happier if she married a young man of her own age? I have two offers of mar riage, and am much perplexed about the situation. What would you advise me to do? TROUBLE.
 Answer: Marry the one you love the best and who is most congenial to you. Nothing else really counts in marriage but that.
 But so far as widowers are con- cerned, they are a preferred matri- monial risk, and other things being equal, make better husbands than men who have never been married.
 ou see, young man thinks that he knows all about women, and how to manage them, and he is set on being the head of the house, and be- ing obeyed. He has figured out on paper just how much money 1t will take to live on. He thinks that a woman can do her own homework, and always keep her hands in / a nice, squeezable condition, and wear pretty clothes, and meet him with glad, sweet smile, and that she will spend her time telling him how grateful she is to him for having married her, and giving her a nice, easy job where she doesn't have any thing to do but cook, and clean the house. and sew, and patch, and darn, etc.
 And so, when tho wife doesn't come up to the specifications of tho young mans fancy, he gets grouchy and grumpy, and there are family scraps. and he knocks because the bills are big, and tells her she looks sloppy, and there Is generally a pretty stormy time while the two are getting adjusted to each other But the widower has been through is house -broke He has found out that 1t takes n6oney to run house. and he doesn't have & fit when the bills como in. He has lost his am bition to be family boss, and like Kipling's hero. he has learned been married to, and has found out that the way to get along with one Is to jolly her. and not try to drive her.
 You will often hear people say how much better man treats his is just because his matrimonial ex- perience has made him wise. and given him patience, and sympathy and understanding of women. Or course if a widower has chill dren, that complicates the situa-
 
 mon and tho patience of Job to deal with stepchildren. and no young woman should undertake such a re- sponsibility. But the childless widower makes the best of husbands, and lucky Is tho woman who is in-' vited to step into No. Is ell-broken. shoes. DOROTHY DIX. Dear Dorothy Dix: I am SO un- happy. My husband Is so cold and hard to me. He never shows me any affection, or tells me that he loves oyer him he pushes me away. I like to be petted. am only 21 years old. and am pretty.
 know young man who is very kind to me, and adnfees me very much, and I have been thinking of going with him. If do not get any love and tenderness at home. have not right to get 1t elsewhere?
 LONESOME WIFE.
 Answer: No, Lonesome Wife. you can't feed your starving heart on stolen love without having to pay tand doesn't make fuss over you, you can't listen to other mems love- making without bringing tragedy Into your life. Because your husband neglects you, you can't play around with other men without sn.irching your good name. It is hard to be young and pretty, and to crave. love, and tenderness. and admiration, and to be married to dolt who never notices what you have on. or how you look, or makes you a nice speech, or shows you any affection, and 1t is a great tempta- tion to have ones fling with the men who are always willing to give good looking married woman a good time. But it doesn't pay. It is better to be | lonesome than 1t is to be the heroine of scandal.
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