Perth Amboy evening news., 1923-10-08
O DIX'S COLUMN
The Vital Questions That Are Asked
by Lovers in the Early Stages of
Engagement Would Be Different If
They Could See With Married Eyes

~, DID IL you NE ever u think nw nod different ,e tive would d, be the qussn9nnsirs that
u" The r% lovers eey e eaRdSa GO Concerns eaen sisel f Oenfie a wmh The state Of thu r..
reclons OF the party OF the ohef art Each asks ne ther: 49,.
wear Are RE you ya sI neyt ma 9oS you b lT me e En ally n unaiteranl bly, w VIII y.
o THa and nat fat as y oev do 6% w pseGrfF nm W gou gu a % y sine me a a IS w Seau whsn Am am
qhea aau 1T non it re n ng tro at gs,s that you you could net lot live S without me ans
me? WIN you swear never to marry again if I die?"
~, All NJ of u this is a aR as Of sSSsy f1uD ss@s and a. lies Every
sSaas ' moron. Knows %s1 that at n % human being 11s.s can ma p% a "a 5
too the s s soar so 9 Of his Nor Sp h Spn heart sar o0 0s 6 64Gstfn R T%b l ing s any
continue %%tn Sa in nS love vii with to 3h ss sam 'si nsafSS%dauassl p naa Ss ali h VIII
part T as"j @spssnq d o. sm Stfssm St ssnsa and 2a.s yn%hr the the p ss1. Of n, tn. 0ths
S@s Io"sSis. . We ' Saas ali IS sss s'% ? % 1asS3s couples WI who sS Ssss naais about Ut
s cont s%s IN n" the sf lasting hss quality ia t2S Of fe 1sF ne A' year. . nave Vs'"'e
%fssS %f for ' ssah t otsss VIII SiG sSfS o trusting ITO luck that their
.qss. 1 g 9R n ssss from s2 ms si S5n9as ss. " %ls g5ss9 that T s%s ss a y concerned ssas s.s
m ss1 NOR Pps.s sS3q 1T the ihsD sn"s OF 90 a the stomach '%a fh. Of static the - nan an s she was ], going = {
really # 'H a9 3r% SEsr lG ssen n s9' a, "s s%s Would "Sa ask se ed4 1 sS ps as4t about Of a d Tasshss he b:
,ss an : s: az s e :. found s% +? T. t ss'' { : i: ! 1 + s'G {: only : h { Es@ g e s ssl4 sss
D 1mls i t, he is s. q r. grumpy %SSi and md, EreaeS r. d 5ss5sS Who. as always a dark
asking MGR a TS%'1 Il q hs yG sad ever sa i loved 9 before it to s no G l he 9 al ss xasis he her w t5%s
never love again She would get his views o n the money question. m
and a just compensation for her labor a wife and mother. and house.
whether Saaai he held that a wife should work for ten hours a day for her
for the household expenses. ~ J" 'SSS" a." nm ~ every penny 'a''e'
bands .ot an ss TiT ssv %Gs5d to be .s %,sht fr glad 4 s1 te cash ae in sd tns4s 9 9s,
h hs a G n teem d@da ac as aty Of p What th syd did w hfst the 1 @o nenaes
nu N Nor Il. if s she 1 had it. to do Y e again. would a woman worry herself Il
going hn to treat hr while h was alive. and whether he thought a wife wa
a human doormat whose proper function was something Tor a la to
wipe his feet on. o whether he regarded a wife a a parlor ornament Il
be cherished, and priced, and admired.
wedding cake.
Nor If she had it to do yer again, would a woman make the ma
She would get right down to brass lacks and ask him how his owe va
along, She would ask him IL he "a going to be tender to her. il he az
going to be kind. II he a going to be sympathetic. If he was goingt to
do something actively to make her happy, or he W a going % be n .
tho men who zen to think that just being married to him is picnI
enough TO any woman, and that she should never expect a compliment. o
desire any show II appreciation. o want to go to any place of annsz
ment o look II RI busy man to show her any attention.
NJ ,,mt.
Men likewise, after marriage, would put a very different
QUESTIONABLE to girls from the one they asked them to fill
In before marriage. They wouldn't bother SO much with the
state o. a girls heart a s they would with her head, and
health, hr disposition. They wouldn't be sc anxioust to
Know whether a woman would promise to love them forever
Is they would be to know whether she would learn to keep
mouse and live within their income, and what she thought
about children, whether she ws cheerful and
sensical, or morbid and whny.
IL s a great pity that young people don't ask the really vital ouestio.
OF each other before marriage instead of propoundmg a lot OF silly semi
mental conundrums that nobody can answer for sure. 1t would saw tbpt
a lot of unhappness If they did.
Perhaps he reasons that second marriages ar 81 often successful Il
because WIDOWS widowess put the right QUESTIONABLE to ZACH othc1
0""e marriage conv,,.,. ~, :. n, DOROTHY DIX.