The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-12-20

| married, but my fiance is not going to give me ring, because he thinks it is foolish. I also like to dress prettily, but he objects to that, and says that it is not proper to wear fine | clothes and use cosmetics. One time we had slight quarrel and he struck me. Do you think he will make a good husband, and make me happy?
 UNCERTAIN.
 Answer: Why. you poor foolish child. cant you see that your guar dian angel is working overtime trying to save you from the misery that would be your portion if you marry this man?
 By his actions, he has shown you that he is stingy and brutal, and if he displays those qualities before marriage you may be very sure that he will be ten times more of | tightwad, and a bully, and 8 brute after marriage.
 | The man who will not buy his sweetheart an engagement ring who thinks engagement rings silly has no sentiment or romance in his makeup, and matrimony Is a mighty bleak and arid desert for a woman If she has to live with a husband who never wreathes any of the flowers of fancy about it, who never celebrates an anniversary or shows her any tender, lover-lilze attentions or gives her, any little useless gift just be- cause 1t marks a happy milestone in their Journey together.
 | Nor is there any husband who is a meaner husband than the stingy hus- band. Never marry man who has Q Yale lock on his pocketbook, for If you do you will find yourself slave who Is even begrudged her food and clothes. When a man says he doesn't | like to see woman with pretty clothes, on and looking her best, 1t is | because he Is miser who begrudges the price.
 As for marrying a man who has struck you before marriage, you will deserve to be beaten if you become his wife. You've had a touch of his fist and know him for the brute he Is, and if you have one grain of sense in your head. you will not put your self in his power.
 Before marriage many men and women show their real quality and | give their sweethearts a good chance to fortell the sort of husbands and wives they will make. A tip to the wise should be sufficient. DOROTHY DIX | Dear Miss Dix-I am a working girl who makes a reasonable salary. 1 A woman, and she has not a stingy l bone in her body. but she requires me to turn over my pay envelope to her, and account to her for every cent I spend. This gets upon my nerves, having to ask her to give me back some of the money I have earned, and then being asked what I did with every penny of It. And must have something to show for every cent.
 Is this rishtf What would you do? WAITING.
 Answer: should agree with my mother upon what was fair board, and l would pay her that; and I would keep my own pay envelope and spend or save my money as choose.
 No mother dreams of taking her sons salary away from him. She comedies tho boy tho right to the money he earns. but many mothers consider that everything their daugh- ters make belongs to them. This is most unfair. and the girls are foolish to submit to such injustice. The minute girl becomes self-sup- porting she becomes automatically in- dependent' and everybody. male or female, has a right to the money he or she earns by his or her own labor. The real badge of freedom is the dollar mark and the only personal liberty is comprised in the money in your hand.
 Of course the mother who takes her daughters pay envelope away rom her excuses her autocratic pro- cceedings by saying that girls are foolish and waste their money, and that she has had more experience in handling money, and can spend it wiser than they can.
 But, as the French say, her excuse accuses her. For, to begin with. the girl who has got enough sense to hold down a good job that makes real money is no fool and may be trusted with the dollars she has earned so hardly.
 In the second place, how is . irl ever going to learn how to spend money moro thriftily if she is never allowed to spend it at all?
 People acquire money sense by ex- perience, and if girl wastes her money on making silly purchase one time, 1t will teach her not to do it second time.
 And thirdly, for the moneys hers She made it and she has a right to do as she likes with it. You can't get beyond that point.
 And last of all, If there Is anything on earth that does rasp a woman's nerves and make her hate the person who puts the question to her, 1t is what she did with that quarter that was given to her last week! Dear Mss Dix; I admit that five