Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-05-29

to make a good marriage in her
early twenties than later on.
If, however, she has permitted
some man to monopolize her; if she
is always seen out in his company,
and he is always camped on her
parlor chairs, she cuts herself off
from whatever matrimonial luck
might be headed her way. Some 9th
err man, far more eligible, far more
attractive, far more congenial to
her, might come into her life, as
the fortune tellers say, but he is
scared away by the man who has
put his collar upon her.
And the man who is monopolizing
her may have no intentions what
ever of marrying her. He may not
be financially able to marry. He may
not be of the marrying sort. He may
not care rap about the girl beyond
finding her good company, and lik-
ing her mothers cooking, and being
proud to be seen out with a young
woman who dresses we'll and who is
a good locker.
There are many men like that,
They will use a girls home as a
free club and restaurant. They will
amuse themselves with her society,
and hang around her. until all her
freshness and beauty is gone, and
she becomes almost as much ldenti-
fled with him as if she had been
married to him, and then they will
| drift off to some newer, fresher
young creature.
Any girl lacks self-respect, and
good, hard, common sense who let's
any man monopolize her until after
they are definitely engagedA She
| never "keeps company with a man
until his ring is on her finger.
The keeping company" custom is
! also bad because it narrows down a
girls choice to the one article on
the bargain table instead of giving
her the run of the shop. Any young
woman - is idiotic to take the first
man who wishes himself on her,
without her ever having seen or
known any other specimens of the
masculine persuasion. When you are
married. you are married for very
long time. Especially a woman is,
and it makes scandals and trouble
for her to find out after she is tied
up with one man that he isn't at
all the style or color that she pre-
fers, and that she has lost her taste
| for him, and has seen some other
| man who just comes up to her ideal.
No women make good wives or
such happy and contented wives, as
do the women who have been bellies,
who have been admired and courted
by many men, and who, having given
| the once over to a large section of
the masculine sex, have selected the
one they really want, and of whom
they will never tire.
A final great objection to the
keeping custom is that
| it so often drifts into unloving and
undesired marriage. Propinquity,
public opinion, habit virtually force
young man and young woman in
to marrying. They really have no
attraction for each other, no es-
pecial affection; none of the fire and
thrill, and passion of romance that
| ought to be in every marriage, but
they have been going together for
so long that people expect them to
| get married and they do it, and are
miserable ever after.
"Friendship with all, entangling
alliances with none" is a good mot
to for girls when dealing with men,
until the man comes along with a
proposal on his lips, and wedding
ring in his pocket That is plenty of
time to begin keeping company
with him.
! mnnvright. 1921