The Birmingham age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1902-1950, 1923-12-10
Dorothy Dir's Letter Boz

Dear Miss Dix: I am Is years old
and / am thinking about getting
married. The young man to whom'I
am engaged is splendid fellow, and
am very fond of him, but every
now and then | just long to go about
and play around with the other boys
and girls that / used to. and to go to
the shows and dances, and have good
times with the bunch. l don't do 1t,
because it would make my fiance
so angry that L would lose him. and
| don't want to do that. But what
keeps me from being perfectly sat
isfied with him? What keeps me
wanting to go with the old gay
crowd instead of just wanting to be
with one? What makes me SO
ehangeable?
ANXIOUS TO KNOW.
because you have not yet had your
fill of the playtime of life. Your
feet still ache to dance. You still
crave amusements. lights crowds,
laughter. the joy of living.
The gang spirits belongs to youth.
No young person wants to do any
thing by himself or to go alone. The
young must go in crowds, they must
do what the crowd does. 1t is only
age that makes us seek solitude.
Believe me, my dear. you are too
young to marry because marriage
means that a man and woman give
mn all the balance of the world for
each other, and make a little world
for themselves. To be happy they
must be sufficient to themselves, ana
able to give each other what they
need of compani9nship.
- You cannot do this when your are
rs You still want the gang. You
sill want to flirt with the boys, and
have all the innocent skylarking
that belongs to your girlhood. Yous
want to be free and untrammeled as
the other girls are. ..,,
If you marry while you are SUN
lust a girl in heart and spirit, you
will find yourself wantlns ~ 40 ~ RAJ ~
the things thatyour friends 40 craV,
ing all the pleasures of girlhood ana ana
when YOU cannot have them, you VIII
be very bored, and miserable.
That is why there is such an enor-
mons percentage of divorces among
couples who marry young. me poS
husband and the girl wire cannot eIT
dure the restrictions OF ma i'no IVA
Thev want all the pleasures ana
privileges, and freedom of boynoou
and girlhood, and when they take
them, trouble ensues.
Don't marry until you have had
vour fling, Don't marry until you
are fed up on flirtations, ana an
that YOU ask is the love OF one goou
man. Don't marry uiAtii
tired of dancing and gadding apout'
and are ready to settle down
Girlhood doesn't last long, at best.
Don't be in a hurry to give up yours
It is the happiest time OF "oih-
ans life. eu;ond
Dear Miss Dix: A very dear 1rlena
of mine is engaged to a fine young
man whom she loves very dearly
The young man is of good standing,
and weu-to-do, and would certalnly
make her an excellent huspaho. Due
not long ago question arose VIZ
regard to the couples future oSel
which the mother, and her lntehoeu
son-;n-law disagreed, and the result
was very serious quarrel between
them. Since then there has peen no
neace in the home for the siri. ~
mother insists upon her preahlhs tne
engagement, saying that the youns
NAN will never treat her right, since
;,suited her mother, and that she
must have nothing further to DO with
him. o.bar and
hates to marry man her mother
does not like, yet she loVes nei
sweetheart too much TO give I'm ~,
Tbe question is, shall the girl give
tho man up, and make him and her-
self miserable for the rest OF their
Ives to satisfy her mothers grudge,
or shall she stick by him for better
~ worse as she promised, and trust
that the two she loves WIZ In. m TnND up
" Answer: who is to marry the man,
the girl or the mother? II II IS tne
civ, she surely has the right OF
Choice. and it is her taste and heart
that are to be suited. not her mothers.
If 4 mother opposes her her daughters ln,s tiers
marriage to- a man Tor any soou
reason: if the mother can prove to
the girl that the man is immoral, or
a drunkard. or that he is brutal-tem-
pered, or that he cannot make nv
ing. then her daughter should listen
to the maternal counsel which is
hacked up by her own common sense.
But a girl is foolish who let's her
mother keep her from marring the
man she loves for any frivoluos
reason.
| know mother who once broke
off most desirable match for her
daughter because she did not like the