The Birmingham age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1902-1950, 1923-05-21

dead when it is merely in a state of
coma. Then it may be revived.
women. in particular, are very apt to
make wrong diagnosis of their
sentimental symptoms, and believe
their complaint more fatal than it is
AS matter of fact there prob
ably isn't woman in the world who
has been married 10 or is years who
hasn't had a dozen panics in which
she thought her love for her hus-
band was dead because she no longer
palpitated at his coming and didn't
have the ghost of thrill when he
bestowed ham hand eggs kiss on her
of morning, and when she realized
that she was actually relieved and
glad to have him go off on little
trip and leave her alone to do as she
pleased for a few days.
According to the formula laid
down in the Six Best Sellers and the
movies, A woman in love is always in
state of trembling ecstasy. with
104 -degree temperature. And So
when wife finds out that she is as
stGlid and unmoved in her husbands
presence as the kitchen range, and
that her pulse is down to normal, she
begins to think that something is
wrong with her heart.
Middle aged women are peculiarly
ton because, as they see romance re-
ceding from them, they become NOR
bidly DESTROYS Of 1t. They are mad
to experience again the emotions of
their girlhoCd. They want to palpi-
tate and thrill at the touch of hand ;
to grow hot and cold at the sound
of footstep; to see man as god
ling; to dream of him at night and
think of him by day. And when they
cannot pump up these sensations
about their middle aged husbands,
they decide that they no longer love
them.
The remedy for this Is simply pa
tience-patience, even, when the
woman is fool enough to think that
some other man than her husband is
her soul mate, and to indulge in
belated filtration. She soon finds that
he, no more than her husband, can
inspire romantic love In her, and she
is glad enough to turn from 1t back
to the old tried-and-true affection
she has proved.
/ should give three pieces of advice
to the man whose wife says that she
has ceased to love him. The first is
are ten chances to one that it Is just
mood that will pass If given time.
God knows why, but all women like
to go on sentimental debauch now
and then in which they revel in tor
turing themselves by playing that
their hearts are broken and their
lives wrecked by fatal mistake in
marriage-that their husbands are
men who can never understand them,
and whom they have ceased to love.
1t ends up in jag of tears of self
pity, and that is all there is to it.
They return quite contented and
no ~ ha h,tcl ND
knew they cared for all the time.
My second piece of advice to the
man whose wife says she has ceased
to love him is to go away from her.
or better still. send her away from
The main reason that husbands and
wives grow tired of each other is be-
cause they see too much Of each
other. 1t takes distance to get the
right perspective on the virtues and
charms of our relatives. If we have
to live always within arms touch
of them, we not only behold all of
their defects, but every defect grows
into a fatal blemish.
wife can come to feel that she
actually hates her husband because
he always throws the paper On the
and she feels as if she would shrek
if she had to see him eat spaghetti
another time. But when he goes
away, even for month. she forgets
all of these faults, and remembers
only his good qualities. There is
no tonic for keeping love in robust
and healthy condition like judicious
absence.
Ny third piece of advice to the man
who wants to win back his wife Is to
reverse whatever attitude he has held
toward her.
If he has been cold and indifferent
to her. play the lover to her with fire
and passion. Surround her with the
attentions he paid her in her girl
hood. Send her flowers and books
and candy. Be Romeo to her Juliet.
IT, on the contrary, he has always
been her humble and adoring slave;
if he has sacrificed himself to her;
If he has let her run over him, wake
her up by neglecting her. Make her
Jealous. Let her think that she Is