The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-09-22

Dear Miss Dix: I am a girl 23 years old. My mother wants me to marry man who is rich. but for whom I care nothing. There's noth- l ing objectionable about the man. He l is a gentleman, with all that implies. 1 He is simply not the hero of my girlish dreams, so to speak. My | mother says that to refuse to marry good catch on that account Is akin 1 to imbecility and that six months after marriage all husbands are alike, while an establishment is all ways an establishment, What do you say? MABEL x. l Answer: I think that nothing jus tifies marriage except love. ana notn5 | ing but love enables any one to stand 1t. The woman who sells herself for | meal ticket, even though that l ticket includes automobiles and cakes | and ale, has no right to draw her skirts away from any woman of the | streets They are sisters under the l skin As for sacrificing ones hope of romance for a prosperous bread and-butter marriage, is there any price that will pay us for our dreams?
 Suppose romance doesn't last. Sup pose one does cease to palpitate at l the sound of a voice or the echo of a footstep. One has had ones thrill. | One has seen the circling wings and | the glory ineffable. One has loved and may pity those who have never wandered even for moment in Ar cady.
 Then comes the practical side of marriage without love, which Is tor ment, with no mitigation, especially | for woman.
 No two people can live together in | the closeness of matrimony without friction. and without getting on eac2 others nerves, and it is love, and only love, that enables them to en- | dure that. For it is so easy to tor- give those we love, so easy to over look their faults, so easy to make eX- cuses for their shortcomings, and It is so hard to forgive those whom we dislike: so hard not to be irritated at their peculiarties. Heaven knows $ the love between husbands and wives fjzzles out soon enough, and the romance fades quickly enough, so both men and women should enter the holy estate with a full head Of steam on.
 So say, Mabel. don't marry until you are in love and are, at least under a temporary delusion that you have found the hero of your girllsh | dreams. A woman needs lOt oI lONe and romance In the wife business
 DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Dorothy Dix: Will you please write something about girls who are late and always keep you waiting? My girl Is everything that is charm . ing except that she is always about 4O minutes behind time. We get to A play in the middle of perform ance We arrive at a dinner when tbe hostess has murder in her eye. We never see the beginning of any thing, and we always start off every where with me as sore as boil be- cause I have been kicking my heels half an hour past the time we should have started. Slovenly, 1 call 1t, and inefficient, and I am doing a lot of thinking about what sort Of a wife a chronically behind-hand girl will make. JANE
 Answer: You do well to think long and seriously, Jake. before you marry a girl who Is never on time; and 1T you will take my advice you will be 4 so late a f the wedding that you won [ get there at all, for, stripped down to the bone, procrastination is not an amiable eccentricity. It is noth- ing but ase-hardened selfishness and an utter and entire disregard or other peoples rights and comfort and pleasure.
 A whole row of people have to rise m at A theatre to let in late couple, thereby losing the thread of the plot and putting out the actors on the stage A dinner that has cost much |