The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-12-06
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 Dear DMfdthv Dix: I am a middle aS al@rflagi woman with husband \ lovel notwithstanding the way h> i hare always worked hard, ana made masNy < sacrifice to help my huseARd suaesed n life, and un- til recarty he ha seen devoted to me. Btu new he ia ineiined to find fault with everything ' dc. Re is cold and diatart ID Ae, never says anything nice ko nc ns ser yf ses me any presents ary niare H. f changed man, and l do nt aacw whether he has ceased earlnt gaf .5S entirely or not.
 Of course, there is won sa tn ar case. He is infatuated with woH as1 from whom he gets love ' sEs and on whom he is wasting his>s aeB. do not know what to do. ] haNs to break up the home, ana yet my heart is breaking over this change and it seems almost irnpoSfsjble to stand the strain much ion6er
 HEARTBJsoKEN
 Answer: I believe thai n 9 case such as yours that pat snEe ard for giveness are better rsrfady for the situation than divorce \ young woman, whose husband h,3s been un- faithful to her, can wiph off the slate. and make a fresf start md rebuild her life agaiis 9Nit at middle age 1t is too late. A woman who has loved her husb8hd for many years can no more really separate herself from him ta9u Fne can cut herself in two, and sgAl go on living He is part of her very existence, ana she is happier near hiIl, even when her soul Is torn with Jealousy, than she is entirely away from him.
 There is no excuse for & middle aged man who has. beeN g good faithful husband suddepdy turning into n Lothario, bnt it is very com mon thing for men to do and you have plenty of company, is that IS any comfort tc yol. Brok enhearted Wife. Around 59 is the dangerous age for men when even the sadatist Of them often start to SOW wildcat crop and when ethey fall easy victims to any, vamp who ecqes along, Why they do this hea asesi only knows. Per haps it is a last fiareup of romance before they settle down to old age Perhaps it s sort of reaction against the long years of Jogtrot matrimony and a desire to see if they are siin iady killers. Perhaps it is because by that lime man has usually made his fortune, and the gold diggeps go after him.
 Anyway. many middle-aged men break trefr faithful old wives hearts. al q mako fools of themselves by indul sins n g little flirtatious fling of v-aI8h they soon tire. because it does not take faein long to ascer- tain that they ha, gotten too oiu for such escapades; that they are at heart too moral to enjoy the double q them in bought kisses; and that, after all. there is no woman Tor whom they really care except the old wife at home with whom they nave all memories in common, whose ar knows just what they like to eas' and what to do for their rheumatism. fection is true and tried, and who
 So. if the old wife has enough patience, and philosophy, and humor' to let her husband have his llttle spree he will come back to her d chastened man, and be better anu a tendsrer husband to the end or the chapter. Nor should this be so hard for the woman to do, because no wife can live with a husband for ~ or 30 years without finding out that every man is a small boy who mas to be spanked. and kissed, ana forsiVeh every now and then. ,.,
 Dear Dorothy Dix: l have slri friend who, as far as l know, hasn done any serious wrong, but they say that she has taken part in a dis- graceful incident. I understand tnat She wasn't at fault in this case, and IS irving to liN it down. l reel sorry for her because I do not believe Tn turning your back upon a friend Tn trouble. But find that people who know this girls past are inclined to judEe me by her.
 Would you advise me to leave her alone, or to stand by her Tn spite or public opinion?
 Answer: If you are convinced that the girl is innocent, and that she IS really trying to do right stand by her. There is often crisis in which woman is either pushed down into he pit. or lifted up into safety by Just one outstretched hand. The fact that vou believe in tue girl will make other people believe in her, and pub lie opinion, which blows first one way and then another, will yeer to her side in time.
 But it is true thatg we are judged by the con. pany we keep. Especially girls are. and unless this young wom- an shows enthusiastically that she has broken with her old associates, and that she is determined to walk warily, you will lot be justified in