Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-05-10
BY DOROTHY DIX
Why Do Men Fall Out of Love as
Soon as They've Married the
Woman of Their Choice?--Is
an Eternal Feminine Ques-
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TXTHY does man who is madly
wv in love with woman before
marriage so often apparent
ly fall out Of love with her as soon
as he is married to her? Not all
men, of course, find matrimony a
perfect and complete love cure, but
the great majority of husbands are
SO carping and critical to their
wives, and so Indifferent to them,
that to see a man remain a lover
to the woman he narries is almost
as rare as beholding hens teeth
This is strange, because when a
couple get married the man is usual
ly more in love than the woman is.
She may be influenced in marrying
by many things besides love, by a
desire for a home, by her eagerness
to get away from tyrannical. parents,
by boredom with an ainless life. by
the fear of being an old maid, and
an ambition to have a settled place
in society.
But there is no reason for the man
to marry except love. Marriage to
him means added responsibilities,
personal sacrifices and a curtailment
of liberty. A bachelor is far more
popular in society than a married
man is, and the money it takes to
support a family in the most modest
style enables a single man to roll
in luxury.
One would say, then, that before
man undertook to be a woman's
meal ticket and shopping account,
that he would have to- be very GER
tain that he was desperately and un,
alterably in love with her for keeps.
This does not seem to be the case,
however, and we are continually
called upon to witness the curious
spectacle Of men who broke their
necks to get women, and who are
breaking their legs sprinting away
from them now that they have got
them.
And it's the why Of this-Why has
my husband lost interest in rne when
he used to be SO infatuated with me?
Why has he ceased to be crazy
about me?-that women ponder in
their hearts as they go about their
housework, and that they discuss
when they have heart-to-heartt con-
ferenceS about how to retain a huS-
bands affections.
For the women are honestly be.
wildered. Naturally, no wife expects
her husband to spend twenty or
thirty years sitting up and holding
her hand, and telling her what beau.
tiful eyes she has, and that there
is something wonderful and differ
ent about her that makes her the
only woman in the world for hild.
Nor does she expects busy man
to. telephone her two or three times
day to ask if his little birdie is
lonesome, and to tell her that he is
counting the hours until he can
come to her.
But she doesn't see why all of the
love making should have stopped
with a suddenness that has Jared
her wisdom teeth loose. She doesn't
see why, if her husband couldn't
be pried loose from her hand before
marriage, he doesn't feel like giving
lit q squeeze now and then after
marriage. It's the same old hand.
Above all, she can't understand, If
her husband found her society so
fascinating in the days of court
ship that he couldn't get enough of
it, why he doesn't want any of it
at. all now. She carries the same
conversational line now that she did
then.
And, for the life of her, she can't
understand why he picked her out
of all the women in the world for a
wife if he was going to tire of her
so easily; why he married her at
all if he didn't love her enough to
enjoy being with her.
OF course. it is conceded that mar
riage is disillusioning to a man, but