The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-09-14

Dear MISS .DiX-1 am SO years Olu, and I want to marry and make some fine, energetic man a happy home. All the men l happen to know are frivolous young chaps with no idea of getting on in the world or saving anything. They are well satisfied if they break even when payday rolls around. Many of them, if their in- comes were three times what they now get, would just spend that much more. Not two of them could fur nish a tiny home without going into debt
 I do not want to marry this kind of an irresponsible man, and believe I would be happier with some one settled in the forties than with onc. of these youngsters. If you have the address of good, industrious, thrifty man who wants an economi- cal, home-loving little wife, will you send 1t to me? J, J, B,
 Answer-This column is not matrimonial agency, and under no circumstances will letters be for warded or addresses given. So that's that. But If J. J. B. cannot find the sensible sort of husband she wants in her own baliwick my advice to her is to move to some other com munity. .4 There are plenty of middle-aged men who are eager and anxious to marry a quiet, home-loving woman, W ho is saver instead of a spender. a if only the woman had a way to get at them.
 Unfortunately sometimes a woman gets pocketed in circle of the wrong sort of men, and sometimes she is overlooked just because the I men about her age are so famfliart with her charms and virtues that they have ceased to notice them. In such cases, if woman Is wise,s she betakes herself to fresh fields and assures greener. The remedy for spinsterhood is to find fresh mar ket. DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dix-Is it possible for 6 widow who loved her husband with a great love, and who has four chil- dren to remind her constantly of him, to marry again and make success of it? Her mother-in-law feels bitterly toward her for even considering a second marriage, and the widow loved her husband so in- tently that it hurts her to cause pain to his relatives. Yet she is deeply attached to the second man, and he to her, and she feels that they would be very happy together, and she knows that she will be very lonely without him.
 Does woman in any way dis honor the memory of her first hus- band whom she deeply, truly loved, by marrying again? WIDOW.
 Answer-Certainly not. If it Is anything, it is a compliment to the memory of the first husband for woman to wish to marry again, as it indicates that her life with No. l was pleasant and agreeable ex- perience. It is not likely that those who have gone hence concern them selves with the doings of those left behind, but surely in heaven hearts are purged of all jealousies, and if a dead husband can look down upon his poor, helpless, bereaved wife, he must be glad to know that she has the protection and affection of some good man.
 The only possible argument against a widow marrying is the danger of giving a cruel stepfather to her children. But if she is certain she Is not doing that, and that the man she is placing over her children will be good and kind to them, there Is no reason why she shouldn't take second husband.
 After all, she has her own life to consider and lonely old age to provide against for it does not take long for children to grow up and leave the nome nest. men SHe VIII have nothing if she has sacrificed herself for them. She will even be a burden upon them, and in far worse case than if she had home of her own. Old people need com panionship more than the young do, and they are wise if they can secure it for themselves by second mar riage.
 As for a woman giving up the man she is fond of and who would give her a good home because of her n-law's morbid objection. that's nonsense. They've no right to bury her in her husbands grave. DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dix: What do you think of the chances of happiness of a couple where husband and wife both work? I am in love with girl who has really better job than have, but while my position does not pay much for the present, it