The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-03-19
There's Really No Mystery About the Women Men Marry

with thousand strings. She has the secret combination that will un- lock his pocketbook, and she knows the simple twist of the wrist that will make him purr under her hand. When woman doesn't get along in reasonable peace with her husband it is. because the man is abnormal, or because she is either too lazy to manage him, or because she loves a fight, as many women do, or else because she is a fool.
 When man gets married he makes no such effort to get at the psychology of the woman with whom he is proposing to spend the remain der of his life. He doesn't study her moods, and try to find out the secret springs that move her. He just takes it for granted that women are queer and lets it go at that.
 He doesn't make the slightest ef- fort to find out why she cries when she is glad; why little foolish things make her happy or sad; why she sets such store by anniversaries or why she is tickled to death when he re- members to bring her home 25-cent bunch of Violets and scarcely says thank you when he puts the title of their home in her name. He just shrugs his shoulders and says that women are queer and unaccountable, and you never can understand them
 Still less does he take the trouble to find out how to manage her, though no other investment that he could possibly make would pay as big dividends in money, and peace, and comfort, as would the few min utes of time and study required to find out the key to his wife's char. acter and disposition.
 But he doesn't do it. If there is any understanding in the family to be done, he leaves the job to his wife. If there Is any adjusting of the two personalities, he lets her ad just herself to him. If there's any. body to walk on eggs in the house hold. she's got to turn the trick. He takes refuge in the old superstition that man can't understand a wom- an. anyhow. or tell what is going to please her. so what's the use of try ing?
 All of which Is utter nonsense, and camouflage for mems stupidity and unwillingness to make any real ef- fort to make their wives happy
 As matter of fact, there is noth-
 
 is nothing strange or occult. Noth- ing that a boy baby couldn't under stand, if he would give his mind to it. On the contrary, women are sim pie and childlike and any man who cannot wrap his wife around his fin- ser. and make her dance to his tune certainly is lacking in what our col ored friends call "probusness."
 Considering that mans we'll being depends upon his getting along in peace and harmony with his wife it is passing strange that men have never thought 1t worth while to study women, and more especially that they do not realize how advan- tageous it would be to them to know just how to work the ladies to whom they are united for life, and in whose hands lies their prosperity. and their daily peace and comfort.
 This branch of original research, however appears to appeal to but few men. The majority of husbands go blundering along through 30 or 40 years of wedlock without ever finding out that they could have jol- lied their Marys into doing anything, but that finding fault with them made them stubborn. as mules. Or that their Jennies would rather have had more of their companionship and less money, or that their James died broken hearted for lack of a little love and tenderness.
 Women are always complaining that their husbands do not under stand them. It is true. Most hus- bands don't understand their wives and they don't make tho slightest effort to understand them, which is one reason why there arc so many unhappy marriages.
 Copyright, 1923, by Public Ledger Co