Perth Amboy evening news., 1923-12-12
DOROTHY DIX'S LETTER BOX
Love Is Essential to Marriage Because
Only Love Can Bear the Disillusions, the
Sacrifices and the Daily Companionship
of the Same Person, Year After Year

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apparently love isn't essential to marriage to the greater number Of
human beings In the Orient where the man we sees. the woman to
wives are frankly bought s objects de luxe or kitchen conveniences love
GUS Nor 70 Hf IS love @ the he do@@aat factor in marriage in Continental Europe.
1 pr Tor 9oa Ign en agos soGE, o5 of 9 @r amo INN mporfanee than 4tbe e nma os
tbey ins 1G%fh IN a eaoh o p@er With ~ he mI love is is the garnish on the d domeoac
dish. Nice. and pretty and. without doubt. giving a added relish, but It
"s Truth Truth co N us IS to TO- admit that ali OF these peoples, who take their
F Pr 9a oor s'p perhaps because less is expected of marriage. there "a re-
5 aon than @@@ a@ons P 56ose S%9 believe lie s4 THAR thy will find i it al a 9 earPSiy PARADISE PP9
But love is essential in marlase to US Anslo.sqzons because
race we are neither sensual or avarieious, and because Gus
s ship in in the the home instead Of outside Of Of it. 9 -. e"'4''04
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kick in them, instead of being merely flat duty.
mnargisss t hen with t US is the most imp9rtspt thing in life.
and % DEATH a H% mer re- episode SoFT It is is an the "o n big % gamble "1 i@P PD Whioh
we risk onr all Of happiness Of peace, of well being. And we
n @sf ansas is . p aas 4 It s9 10Y lG iSsts s@st Of sT "9sfsnsass. to endure
h. I'll There as is is .Ssm, but ut, love owe that that makes axes n hug sHl his chains n rsssrs
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ct as s@E asff 's of the %a ss1s 5' pS SGi7i5ss for Ss ss t srt sas sss the daily
forced Tns ;o ss sssa5 1h. the %ss @osi sr %is si ssra as b sss, sS ms to ssa5 ss. 4 " y, ar, 4.
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nhn But a.% we never nssysr tire RE of IT, those love, We may know them for only
grocery "e F94 fr9d %p or What 9f fh " eh dah 1 sad to and 5he did, D fog ho1 aeo ~ith tns ttsssre Of
adventure. "D nv s' g" '"" ''s as "f"nns al a DOCK OF hih
endure the dFiIlusons of matrimony.
hero Before g tire @ @9%sS he sT IS yo %s%an aa /" marriage sasi1 s: h lsss, 1e is +. f Ss 3 dream Rss : ! :
bliss.
Real life shows the eject fc clay The angel turns into a woman in curl
papers n wrappers, with cold cream o her face, and with temner and
eS%ssa about ati his sG mon Sss' aHd % 5s5 5 4 ia so b wn iol lis dn sSd @ f1sfssr his , 5sod sa and
ne th1nEs nc ought to (. And marriage isn't dream. II is stern reality
that is treWn with more tacks than roses.
The revelation of the day after are unbearable 20 those who
do not love. They loathe and hate each other. They disgust
each other, and they fly from their home Is from a place of
torment. But love still wraps its rosy chiffon over the sor-
diness Of domestic life, so that the mn and woman who vs.
really care 20 each other, lever see each other as they r
The middle-aged mn who still thinks his wife beautiful: the middle.
aged woman h still begins every sentence with John says" These
alone have found marriage a success
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make the sacrifices demanded by marriage. 1t is so easy to
do things for those we love. 1t is so hard to do things for
those for whom we do not care.
Every marriage requires eternal sacrifice. There must be a continual
putting If another before ones self; giving up of ones personal incnna-
tons, desires n tastes for anothers. And this is q daily crucihxa
ton of soul and body unless one loves the other n SO much that one
prefers his or Ter happiness above ones own.
It is because e only find happiness in being with those
whom we love; because it is ony, love that makes, us bhnd to
the peculiaTities of u husbands n wives, n because it
is only loveth at enables any mn or woman to forgive IS u
faults and weaknesses, that love is essential in marriage.
DOROTHY DIX.
Copyrght. 1929. by Public Ledger Company