The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-01-16

fail to be a good cook and house. keeper should be cause for divorce for a husband.
 So get busy with your cook book and your budget, so that your end of the domestic partnership may be as well run as your husbands. Re- member that a husbands manners and his morals depend largely on how he is fed. Many a wife who complains of how grouchy and ill- natured her John is, brought the ills of which she complains on her own head by her overdone bread and un- derdone meat. Likewise bear in mind that 8 woman can throw more out of the back door with teaspoon than a man can throw into the front door with scoop, and that your thrifti- ness will largely determine whether in your old age you will reside on the sunny side of Easy street or be on your way to the poorhouse.
 Don't ask help on your job. As- sume your share of domestic respon- abilities. Solve your problems with out worrying your husband about them. He doesn't try to make you do his work In addition to your own. Why should you vex him with your difficulties?
 Tt is an outrage for an able-bodied woman to ask a busy man to stop by the dry goods store and match a piece of elephant breath chiffon, or take back to the milHner a hat she has decided she doesn't like, or bring home a beefsteak. He has got a mil lion other things that ought to be more important to attend to, and his mind should be left free for his own business.
 When you first get married insist upon your husband giving you a definite allowance for running the house and your own personal needs. and let that end the money question as far as he Is concerned. It is up to you to spend 1t wisely and well, and as you see fit, without bothering him. or his bothering you. by audit ing your accounts. All that matters to him ire the results.
 "Makk your home jolly, cheerful place. Try to remember always that men crave joy. even as women enjoy tears. The first thing man does when he comes in 8 room Is to pull up the shades and let in all the sun shine. That action is symbolic. Take a tip fromAit.
 
 yourself. Never tell your husband about the little things that vex and worry you unless you absolutely need help and advice from him. If the children have been naughty if the cook has been unreasonable, if the house maid has broken your pet vase. if the butcher has tried to over charge you or your new dress doesn't fit, your husband cannot help 1t. Why, then. deluge him with a sea of woes? He has had about all the trouble he can stand in his own busi- ness all day, and to have even an- other aggravation added Is like the proverbial straw that breaks the camers back.
 Anyway, what's the good in re- counting disagreeable things? You have met them as best you could at the time.
 When you have children, do not. as so many mothers do, hold their father over the little ones as an averaging fury. Don't say, I'll tell your father when he comes home to- night or You will see what your father will do to you when I tell him how naughty you have been.' It is cruel to the father who wants to enjoy his children, not to sit as a judge over them, and it does an ir- reparable injury to the child, who grows up not thinking of his father as a confident or friend, but as the Judgment bar.
 Be jolly, cheerful, self-reliant wife, and make man comfortable. So shall you make marriage a suc- cess" said the woman, who had cele- brated her firtieth anniversary, and was still beloved.
 Copyright, 1922. by Public Ledger
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