The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-04-22
WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS COLD AND DISTANT

Herbert is perfectly devoted when we are alone; he just seems cold In public because he Is reticent," the neglected wife lied bravely.
 It was one of those tragic cases where no one dare offer sympathy. She suffered the tortures of the damned and suffered alone.
 only a very obtuse person, prob ably a mere man, would have failed to see that Herbert was killing her with coldness. He was courteous all ways. frigidly polite. but as dead as old Tutankhamen.
 His crimes were not spread on any statute book. He was not a roue, Or a drunkard, nor did he "beat her up" He merely insulted her by indiffer- ence. In company his manners were polished. At home he did not trouble to speak to her. Yet never had she offended-eXcept in loving him too much! Perhaps a woman with bit of the devil might have "held' him: a wife who would have kept him guessing" But poor Elise had eyes for no other man. strove passionately to please him, and, in anticipating his every wish, she loved not wisely but too well
 Years before he had been captivated by her fragile beauty and it was matter of congratulation Cto hero when she captured the beau of the town. He was the spoiled darling Of wealthy parents and the adoring wife continued the spelling process.
 His coldness was not merely mega tive-the not giving affection and ap- preciation-but was tempered by fiendish cruelty. Her health was not robust but she bore eight children. every one of which died in infancy, 9nd she grieved continuously because she had not been able to give him an heir. As matter of fact. he was in different to babies and would have been irritated with their crying and illnesses. But he let her imagine that she had defrauded him out of the joys of fatherhood in order always to keep her in the wrong.
 Those persons who always assume that man turns from his wife be- cause she is not domestic had erred here, for Elise was a model house. keeper and studies his every wish. Needless to say, he never praised a dish or the beauty of the home. but preserved a glacial silence that was maddcninG. Itywas as if she hurled herself continuously against a stone wall.
 Literally was it maddening, for she went insane, Her mind gave way from breeding and her health became seriously impaired. Yet the world in it's stupid complacency would have said. How strange-a woman or wealth and culture with lovely nome ana ueNOlcu nuSDd1
 When the doctors had built up her constitution and restored her mind, they sent her back to the cause. He said not one word of sympathy, nor express ad one bit of tenderness.
 When the townspeople learned that this man was untrue to his wife, 1t was a public scandal. "How shock ing, Low cruel" they exclaimed. But so long had the wife lives ~A an at mosphere of frigidty that the ac- tions of her hus sband outside the home Some sort of woman had given him amusement and piqued him by coquetry. perhaps, but her charms and tender advances always had failed.
 Doubtless this Is an extreme case Brutality of the silent sort may not be a characteristic of the dominant male." Men are popularly supposed to err in the other direction-to be breezy and brusque. loud, vociferous and domineering. But more women die of coldness than is generally known. In the nature of things, such conditions are not so apparent as violent sins. "She starved for love-" Is not figure of speech. Hunger of the body is no more tragic than hun ger of the soul. It is a matter of especial bitterness to sec the man who once made love passionately. cool and become neglectful. Many wives of indifferent men carry the burden of hungry hearts.