The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-04-29
BY EMILY POST Author Of "EtiQuetv

Author Of "Etiquet"
 Topic: How can parents put over the etiquet idea to youngsters who resent restraint?
 There is scarcely child born into the world who has not an innate sense of Justice. There are few chill dren, who will not take deserved none who will not resent, and in time become warped by, an unjust one
 The entirely plastic period of child's life ends at seven. It is im- possible for parents to let their chill dren grow up any old way and then expect to influence them by talking rather than by example when they are grown. It can't be done.
 Reasoning Beings.
 Children are reasoning beings (some thing which many mothers and fathers seem to over-look) also they are initiative as looking glasses. It is waste of breath to scold your child for something which you, your self do-unless you have valid req son why. But your explanations ' must really have reason why" or the modern child will find a reason of it's own "why not"
 If you think about it, there is perfectly logical reason why some clergymen's children turn out badly. Because only super-saint can live his daily life on the exalted plane of his sermons. The children hear ing their father preach the perfect ness of human goodness, and then seeing the slightest deviation from that ideal of goodness at home, soon comes to listen to the preaching with deaf ears.
 It is the living example of a par ents own behavior that breaches the only real sermo.. to the heart and mind of a child. And the saying that every great man has had good mother is merely another way of put ting the same axiom. That the situa- tion is al the moment difficult is un deniable, but children-little ones are exactly the same material that they have always been and if the parents of young girls, who are "out of hand honestly scar h their mem- ories. they may awake to the fact that they did not bother about keep ing them in hand" when little. Not Unsympathetic.
 Tn hand" does not mean in strict and unsympathetic control; it means treating them as reasoning beings: it means indefinite love and unflag. ging patience; 1t means no small de- gree of wisdom to develop qualities of honor. proper pride and self re. Spect. But when cn1lQ mas bee0 equipped with these weapons of de- fense he Cor, she) is apt to be pretty safe-even today. IL is natural for child to love it's mother and father, it wants to look Up to them and be proud of them. md it responds al- most invariably to at quality which many parents utterly neglect: Companionable fri :dship.
 Many. many parents mink that when they have provided food and shelter-when they have said don't Johnny" and stop that Mary" and T forbid ,ou to do ths,' and T order you to do that" that they have nothing to reproach themselves with when in later years Johnny and Mary are uncomfortable -tra=gers.
 To be an example, and a com panion to modern girl or boy is no easy task. The more modern and talented the enid, the greater the task
 A teacher can't teach a class that knows more than she does--every one knows that. Yet parents who let their children out distance them in every branch of modern thought and accomplishment, wonder why they have no influence"