The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-10-18

l Dear DOrOthy DlX. why CdHuot | women see that constant opposition of their husbands wishes will, in l time. make them stubborn and deter mined to have their own way, as no man likes to acknowledge that he Is not the head of his own household? Surely, men have a right to have | their way in domestic affairs half of the time at least. It seems to be the nature of women to want to rule l the roost. For my part, l regard the comic pictures about hen-pecking wives as real missionary work, for 1t they are to their husbands In little ways and how it results.
 Maybe you can laugh women out of doing things that you can't req son them out of doing. Anyway, if women only realized it, they can get more out of their husbands by being | liberal with them than they can by being close. and by agreeing with them Instead of arguing with them. I know g young couple where the husband has always been amiable. and pleasant to his wife, but he is beginning to rebel at her bossy ways and is getting ugly and surly, and would like to save them if can. But | how?
 AN OLD WIFE WHO KNOWS, 
 Answer: Sister. the reason that wives try to dictate to their hus- bands Is precisely the same reason that makes husbands try to manage | their wives-human vanity; love of | authority. The oonceit that makes each one of us think that we know exactly how to run the universe and that it is a pity that the Creator didn't have a chance to consult us and get a little good advice about how to do things when He made the world. A passion for tyranny that makes us rule anybody who will stand for it. Men and women are equally guilty of the ambition to dominate the home, and it is this struggle for supremacy, and of each to impress his or her will and taste and opinions and ways no ehttaiaaa that is at the bottom of their peren- nial family spat and that makes households 8 dark and bloody bat | tleground.
 The husband Is determined to treat | his wife like an idiot child. She must come to him for every penny she spends. She must buy the clothes | he likes. She can't join a club or go | to see her mother without asking his permission. And the woman rebels and hates him for the mean. grind
  | The wife Is bound and set that her husband shall obey her. She won't | let him smoke. He has to eat the things she considers good for his | stomach, no matter how he loathes them. He can't go out of an even ing. He has to accept her friends and let his own go. And the hus- band hates her for her nagging. bossy ways, and lies and deceives her.
 Believe mo. sister, the domestic millennium will have arrived when husbands and wives agree to go fifty fifty on the head-of-the-house proposition. and when each comedies to the other the right to have his or her own way half of the time.
 But you are right about the wom- an who wants to rule her husband doing 1t easier by the gumshoe method than the strong arm way. Sugar will always catch more flies than vinegar, and any man would be grateful for having the henpecking done in as Tainless way as possi- ble. DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Dorothy Dix: I am in love with a young man who thinks that marriage doesn't matter, and that two people who care for each other are united by their love. But I have been brought up with other Ideas, and I am troubled and afraid. Yet. if I don't give in to the wishes of my sweetheart in this matter. will lose him. What shall I do?
 BARBARA J.
 Answer: It is shameful proposi- tion that this man is making you. Barbara. He would kill any man who made such a one to his sister. and you will be lucky, indeed, If You lose. such craven. No man really loves a woman, no man with single shred of honor, asks 8 girl to do a thing that degrades her in her own eyes and puts her in discredlted position before the world.
 The "unwed wife" may be TO- mantle figure in novels but, believe me, my child, she is a poor forlorn pitlful creature in real life. She is an outcast in society. Her children are nameless. She has no claim cn the man who has dragged her into the gutter, and nine times out of ten he deserts her. after she has sacri- feed her youth and beauty and chance in life to him.
 For the man who means to do tho square thing by woman mar ries her to begin with. He has too much respect for the woman he wants for his wife even to propose any under -the-rose' romance to her. Marriage was devised for the pro- tection of women against just such yellow hearted men as the one who is asking you to throw away your