The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-11-02


 you say, There is lot of peace and rest in having a husband that other women are not trying to get away from you" Undoubtedly this IS true: but isn't the same principle equally applicable the other way about? Wouldn't man have the same com fort in marrying a woman who is. as you might say, handicapped by age, weight and lack of complexion, and who is no object of temptation to other men? HANS. Answer: Undoubtedly. But the trouble with poor weak humanity IS that none of US wants the thing that nobody else wants, and the more other people desire thing the more we crave it. We let our neighbors write our price tags for us. And this is true even in husbands and wives.
 Women. who are more astute In matters of love than men are, often realize what a blessing it is to have nice, fat, bald-headed, bay-wln- dowed husband who is permanently out of the Lothario class, but no man ever sits down and thanks his gods that he is married to- a wife so old and homely that he doesn't have to keep an eye upon her.
 Men are like sheep about women. They always follow their leader Thus it is that a girl always has many beaux or no beaux at all, anG at a party she either has her dances cut into mince meat or else she pa- pers the wall. Apparently, no man has the courage to risk his own taste and iudgneht about a womans at- fractions. He has to have them backed up by those of his fellowmen.
 Perhaps the reason that widows can marry all around young girls whu nai ic 1ehp mere fact that one man has shown that he considered her suitable for g. wife enhances her value in all other rrasculine eyes.
 Of course, generally speaking, a wonan who is lacking in pulchritude a preferred matrimonial risk, be- cause she realizes that she has to make good as a wife. She has to be meek, and mild, and pleasant. and agreeable, and good housekeeper to offset her lack of charms. Also her husband can go his way untroubled hy jealousy on her account, for alas: the wives whom other men steal from their husbands are not the patient Griseldas nor the good cooks, bu; the peachy young creatures who are out vamping on their own account.
 Surely there is rest and comfort for the soul in a homely old wife WnO Is Sate from templdllOns' put ]. have yet to meet the husband who properly appreciated his blessing.
 DOROTHY DIX.
 Dear Miss Dorothy Dix: I am a reader of your column and am writ ing to ask your advice about tickle girl. What do you think of a girl who likes a young man very much until he likes her, then doesn't care a thing for him? Now, don't get me wrong; I am no man-hater. I like men. But I have never been in love with any man, although am 19 years old. PICKLE FLO:
 Answer: Why. I would say, Flo that you are too young to know what love is, anyway, and that you are iusing using a girls privilege of shopping around among the men, looking them over, sizing up what they are worth, whether they are genuine or saoddy and generally get ting their number before you make your decision and take your pick ol them. And so far you haven't tound anything that you particularly care for. Nothing that ravishes your fancy -and makes you sfeel that you must have it CT else fife is not worth hVing. What you call fickleness is just choosing, and it is fine quality for a young girl to have, because It
 
 cicious choice of a husband than # she took the first man who offered himself. Don't mind being called tickle Don't be afraid to change your mind about man, up to the very steps of the altar. If he ceases to appeal to you, let him go. It. IS lot less messy to break an en- gagement than to getNa divorce.
 As for your only being interested in men until they are interested in you, that is, partly the spirit Of the chase, partly the human reaction that makes the most desirable peach the one that is highest on the tree and most out of our reach and partly because the right man has never come along. When. he does, you won't fall out of love with him because he mas fallen in love with you.
 On the contrary, the more he ls interested in you the more you Will be interested in him, and you won't tire of his society, but will want more of it. For real love is the cure for fickleness.
 Dear Miss Dix: am a young man 24 years old and earning a good salary. Last year I met a young girl in whom I am greatly interested and would like to marry, but she is rather illiterate. I tried to have her overcome this by going to night school. but she could not learn, al- though her teachers said she tried very hard. I have been told that there is a taint in her blood which may account for this mental defect.
 Am I taking any chance in marry ing such girl? What is your advice in the matter?
 sporting chance, Robert, of any hap