Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-03-22

down with a blanket-eXcuse that he
has thrown over all his mistakes in
dealing with his wife.
Nobody can understand a wom-
an" You never can tell which way
cat or a woman will jump" mot
even a prophet can foretell what a
woman will do" These are the
slogans that are handed down from
father to son, and because it is
easier to repeat a catch word than
it is to think out the truth for your
self. most men accept them as Cos.
pei, and make no effort to get really
acquainted with the women to whom
they are married.
If a woman has any brains what
ever, the first thing she does after
she. has Combed the rice out of her
hair, and packed away her bridal
veil, is to take to pieces the little
tin god she has acquired, and see
what makes the wheels go round.
She studies his moods and his lenses.
She fathoms his vanities and his
weaknesses. She makes careful note
of his strength and his virtues. She
records his tastes and his prefer
ences. She gets wise to his reaction
to every variety of situation.
When she gets through, she knows
| exactly how to work him, and she
can play upon him as upon a harp
with a thousand strings. She has
| the secret combination that will un-
lock his pocketbook, and she knows
the simple twist of the wrist that
will make him purr under her hand.
When a woman doesn't get along in
| reasonable peace with her husband
it is because the man is abnormal,
or because she is either too lazy to
| manage him, or because she loves
fight, as many women do, or else
/ because she is fool.
When a man gets married he
makes no such effort to get at the
psychology of the woman with
whom he is proposing to spend the
remainder of his life. He doesn't
study her moods, and try to find
out the secret springs that move
her. He just takes it for granted
that women are queer, and let's it
go at that.
He doesn't make the slightest eff.
fort to find out why she cries when
she is glad; why little foolish things
make her happy or sad; why she
sets such store by anniversaries or
why she is tickled to death when
he remembers to bring her home
25-cent bunch of violets, and scarce
ly says thank you when he puts
the title of their home in her name.
He just shrugs his shoulders and
says that women are queer and un-
accountable, and you never can I'M
derstand them.
Still less does he. take the trouble
to find out how to manage her,
though no other investment that he
could possibly make would pay as
big dividends in money, and peace,
and comfort, as would the few min
utes of time and study required to
find out the key to his wife's char
acter and disposition.
But he doesn't DO it, If there is
any understanding in the family TO
be done, he leaves the job to his
wife. If there is any adjusting of
the two personalities, he let's her ad-
just herself to him. If there's any
body to walk on eggs in the house
hold, she's got to turn the trick. He
takes refuge in the old superstition
that a man can't understand
woman, anyhow, or tell what Is
going to please her, so what's the
use of trying.
All Of which is utter nonsense,
and a camouflage for mems stupid
ity and unwillingness to make any
real effort to make their wives
happy.
AS matter of TACT, there is moth
ing mysterious about women. There
is nothing strange or occult. Moth
ing that boy baby couldn't under
stand. If he would give his mind to
it. On the contrary, women are sim
pie and Childlike and any man who
cannot wrap his wife around his
finger and make her dance to his
tune. certainly is lacking in what
our colored friends call "Probus-
ness"
Considering that a mans we'll
being depends upon his getting along
in peace and harmony with his wife,
it is passing strange that men have
never thought it worth while to
study women, and more especially
that they do not realize how advan-
tageous it would be TO them to know
just how to work the ladies to whom
they are united for life, and in
whose hands lies their prosperity,
and their daily peace and comfort.
This branch OF original research,
however, appears 10 appeal to but
few men. The majority of husbands
go laundering along through thirty
or forty years of wedlock without
ever finding out that they could have
jollied their Marys into doing any
thing, but that finding fault with
them made them stubborn as mules.
Or that their Jennies would rather
have had more of their companion
ship and less money, or that their
James died broken-h earted for lack
of a little love and tenderness.
Women are always complaining
that their husbands do not under
stand them. It is true. Most hus-
bands don't understand their wives,
and they don't make the slightest eff
fort to understand them, which is
one reason why there are so many
unhappy marriages.
Copyright. 1929