The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-08-02
LYNNE THE LIFE
 dF YOUR CHILDREN

What doubtless is wonderful mother writes of the problem to which she is now put regarding her daughter.
 It seems she has brought up her two children, a boy and a girl of twehty and eighteen. respectively. such a way as to call forth the admiration of all her friends and neighbors.
 Her daughter has fallen in love with a young man who is the chief sup port of a sick father and mother. This mother realizes that if her daughter marries this young man she will have hard time of it, and she does not know what to do. This mother is actually living the life of her daughter for all the years to come and is grieving sorely over it. Of course, it is the province of every mother to protect her child from suf- sfering and it is highly important that eG1c eroumst, gast ,kcea. aa.0 not marry uAO't 'A' All tBis mother can do however, is to Urge waiting. The tide may | turn and the young man may have change &pf fortune. While it is hard on him, he should not take on another burden to add to that which he has already. It would seem to me that
 
 realize is that if he wants her to take up a life of poverty in the present straightened circumstances he doesn't loHa her sufficiently, else he would ant to save her from it.
 So that if the mother can persuade
 CT girl in this way, to wait, we'll and
 pod, but failing in this, it is all folly
 \r the mother to go through any
 re agony; better school herself by
 ting her daughter take up her own
 ials.
 After all, this mother, in order to Yrear these children as well as she has, Event through considerable hardship.
 le cannot hope to have her child
 eApe without any, and many a
 ~ CT would save herself years of &truAgle and sorrows if she would iearn' one thing-that she cannot live both her own life and her children s lives as well; that the day comes when they must assume the responsibilities of life just as she did when she was young.
 know of another woman who has actually reared three families when each of her children left the paternal roof to be married and had children of their own.
 She has been with them all on every occasion when there were any trials to bear Therefore, she has lived
  that she was intended to live. It did hot help matters any for her to be suffering while her children's child ,ren were going through their grow ,ing pains.
 s Cn short, if we would only stop to reflect, we would lind that too many people go through troubles that they would be saved if they were not ap- prized of them. For example, if a young married woman did not always send for her mother when the baby was teething or had some similar ail- ment, the mother would not be too close to this ailment, and therefore she would not suffer.
 L~<It is only when real help is needed lsnd cannot be done without that chill dI en tshould demand that their par ehts bear with them. It Is up to these sdlf-same parents to teach their chil- dren that they must have backbone enough to stand their own trials and not forever be calling on them or any other people at the slightest sign if distress.
 < Most of the time too many people suffer needlessly the pains that be- long to others.