Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-08-25
DOROTHY DIX DISCUSSES LIFE
TALKS ON HEART AND HOME

know how to take care of it, and
I've seen many a girl who started
off on her honeymoon on private
yacht walking in her old age to save
carfare.
while [ would not pick out rich
husband for my daughter, neither
would l select one who was AFFECT
lily poor, because while it is true you
cannot buy happiness with money.
| it is equally true that you must have
money in order to be happy. You
can't think about the state of your
heart when your stomach is crying
for food.
you must have a certain amount
| of comfort and freedom from anxiety
in which to invite your soul, and no
couple is likely to love long when
| they have brought upon each other
the misery of a marriage that makes
| life a horrible struggle with the bill
collector and a daily crucifiXion OF
very taste and habit
II would not choose for my daueh-
ter a husband who could not support
her in reasonable comfort, but /
would rather she married d man who
was making $4,000 a year by his own
efforts than one who had an income
of $4,000 a year that he had in
herited | would choose for her an
energetic young chap. who had
proved that he had the ability in him
to climb, and with whom she could
share the most precious experience
that ever comes to any woman, that
of helping along the man she loves.
81 would choose for my daughters
husband Il man about thirty years
of age-no boy. because boys have
not come to themselves and do not
know the kind of a wife they really
want and need. Also, boys are ty-
rannical and hard to get along with,
for life has not disciplined them nor
taught them tact or patience.
"Nor would I choose an old man
who has become so set in his habits
and ways that he cannot adapt him.
self to the give and take of matri-
mony. Likewise, he is out of SYM
pathy with youth. He has had his
fling. He is tired of dancing and
theaters and parties, and when he
gets married he wants to stay put,
and he forgets that a young wife is
aching for all the pleasures of which
he is weary.
But the man of thirty is still
young enough TO enjoy things, young
enough TO get a girls viewpoint and
enter into her hopes and plans, yet
he is old enough to be willing to set
tie down to the business of life.
I'D choose for my daughters hus-
band the man who was generous but
no spendthrift, because between a
man who has a Yale lock on his
purse and one who has holes in his
tpockets there is small choice.
I'D pick out for her husband a
man who was educated and interest
ed in a wide variety of things be-
sides his own particular shop, be-
cause after the billing and cooling OF
courtship is over there are going to
be forty or fifty years in which a
woman's happiness is going to de-
pend on whether her husband bores
her to tears, or whether he hands
out a spellbinding line of converse
ton. -
above all. I'd pick out for my
daughters husband a man who was
good -natured and cheerful >and kind
ly, for in the long pull of matri-
mony it's a mans disposition that
counts. and a wife can forgive every
other sin to the husband who is a
little ray of sunshine around the
house. and on whose tenderness and
understanding she can always
count