The Challis messenger. (Challis, Idaho) 1912-current, 1923-11-21
Dear Miss Brooks:

II wrote to you once before and re-
ceived very satisfactory answers Now
as read you corner each week, I do
not find any of the girls having the
same trouble that I do wonder why
l have gone with different boys in the
last two years. Most of them were
several years older than l. and 1 find
it hard to keep your advice not to go
with boy steady, because when I go
with boy one night he usually wants
me to go again. 1 hate to refuse and
so 1t is every time there is anything
to attend wouldn't mind If it would
stop there, but as soon as we get quito
well acquainted they want me to pay
more attention to them than to others.
Now, don't think I'm popular because
L never have chummed with the girls
who can go with one boy tonight and
some one else tomorrow. Nor never
felt that this was exactly proper
mean 1 never felt that wanted to go
with just anyone that wished to pick
me up. Besides I could not do this
and still go with some who I really
feel are gentlemen. They don't object
to me having friends but insist upon
them being the kind that know how to
treat a girl. There does not seem to
be very many of this kind of boys at
least they don't want to take one girl
and then another, and 1 don't feel that
would gain anything by giving up
these friends for another class. Do
you? And how can I keep this class
of boys from wanting to be more than
Just real good friends? Thanking you
for the helpful advice I am sure to
receive. 1 am
MCKEE, Ore.
1t Is most regrettable, Mickie, that
you have gained the erroneous impress
sion you seem to have gained from
reading my advice to other girls
do not know your age, but you will
notice that my advice along these lines
has been mainly to the very young
girl; the one who insists upon going
out with boys when as young as fifteen.
and even younger 1t is not wise for
girls this age to check all boys from
her list of friends or beaus, except one:
but rather when other boys appear
whose society she enjoys, add him to
her list of good friends and pals. In
this way she can surround herself with
number of congenial friends, who
feel free to call on her. or invite her
to a dance, party or show. If in the
months or years to come there develops
feeling stronger than mere friend
ship for one of these, or any one else, |
1t is then time enough to dwindle down |
to one steady" Boys should have the |
same privilege, and I do not understand |
your distinction of class of boys" in |
this respect. 1 most certainly admire |
your class OF friends, and would as |
suredly not advise you to consider any |
young men who do not know how to |
treat girl in a gentlemanly manner. |
put why he need be less a gentleman |
simply because he spends one evening
this week with you, and one next week |
with your girl friend. cannot see.
Young girls and boys are too prone to |
look upon everyone who shows them
the slightest attention, as a possible
lover or sweetheart, husband or wife.
The association together of young bows
and girls In companionable manner
Is youths most enjoyable time, because
1t Is the most carefree period, SO let
1t be time of good times" an asso-
citation of friendly pals, reserving the
sweetheart and lover, husband and wife
thought for more mature years. 1 do
not know how you can keep those boys
from wanting to be more than good
friends, but II you do not wish them to
be more than this you can frankly tell
them 80. which Is the best course, ]
believe. And now have 1 been helpful
In clearing these questions up for youf
hope SO. and will be giad to hear from
you again.