The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-10-10

Dear Dorothy DiX--Some men mako
 great success of life, but a large
 ma jority, no matter how hard they
 try, fail This is my case. l am a
 young man nearing my thirties. I
 have had a high school and business
 education, and six years experience
 in the business world.
 But I am unable to find position,
 although l have answered a large number of advertisements, and filled
 out application blanks with many
 business houses.
 One particular business man, who is interested in me, tells me that he
 doesn't see why I cannot get a situa- tion somewhere, as I have appear ance, am wonderful talker, have business acumen, etc. I, myself, am at a loss when I see younger men, with less education and experience, holding responsible positions, andre ceiying good salaries. ts&
 What is wrong? What is missing? :? | My guess is that in your particu- Jar case, MT. F. C.. NJ, you think too
 highly of yourself, and that you are lone of the many thousands of young men who would accept high sal aried, mahogany desk situation, but who are not out looking for an eight or ten hour job. You want to 'begin at the top. You maven tnS RettltfSN
 and energy to work your way up. Yet all of those inferior young men whom you behold filling responsible positions and getting good salaries and for whose success you. cannot ac- count, cut their business teeth on the very lowest runE of the ladder and have climbed up slowly, and with toll
 and sweat through many years of grneling labor.
 | Also you are going about finding a position the wrong way. As long as you go out to look for work with a I-hope I-won't-find-it look on your face, you won't find it.. Every em- ployer knows the difference between the man who will take a job if the Lpay, the work and the working hours and so on are to his taste. and the
 man who is so desperate for work and so determined to have it, he is ready to slug a job if he can't get it any
 other way. And the slugger gets it. Answering advertiseme ments and fill ing out ,questionnaires are merely flirting with work. You can't leave your visiting card on opportunity and trust her to call on you. You have got to batter down her door and wrest
 her gifts from her.
 If you have had six years experi-
 ence in business and no employer
 wants your services, it Is time to sit down and have heart-to-heart ses-
 sion with yourself and try to find out what is the matter with you. 
 There are plenty of jobs Lots of work. Employers are weeping for the privilege of paying high salaries to the men who can earn them. Most
 men fail for one of four reasons: They are lazy. and shirk their work.
 They are Incompetent, and trying to do something for which they are
 not fitted They have no interest in what they are doing and never try
 to do good work, and so do just as little as they can for the money they get They are quarrelsome, and hard to get along with.
 To which class do you belong? Find out. and correct your fault, and you
 will not be one of those who are permanently out of a job.
 Dear Miss DixAWill you please
 help me to solve question that Is making me most unhappy? It is the a ge-old problem of whether, when my
 fiance and myself are married we shall live with his family or not. In
 this case it is a matter of economy. My man is getting only a small sal : ary, but he is in business with his
 uncle, and some day will be a mem a Der of the firm. He has saved up some money, but he wishes to put l this in business instead of in a home, Eand he thinks I am not willing to CO [ operate with him because I am not
 willing to live with his mother for a year or two. so that he may do | this. I do want to help him. I also want my home. What shall I do :? OCTOBER BRIDE. It depends upon altogether on how much self-control, philosophy y and sense of humor you have, dear little bride-to- be. Also on whether you love the man better than you do yourself, or not. The terrible thing
 about most domestic quarrels is that