Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-02-22
DOROTHY DIX
DISCUSSES
LIFE
BY DOROTHY DIX
1t Is Up to the Bride to Show Her
Husband How to Treat Her

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MI who had celebrated her
golden wedding, in talk
ing to bride, "if you wish to be
happy though married, there are
two things to remember:
1.-The first is to get off on the right
foot.
1.-The second is to train up your
husband in the way you want him
to go.
Almost every man is very much in
love when he gets married. He fully
intends to be good husband, and
make his wife happy, and when he
fails to do this, as he so often does,
he sins oftener through ignorance
than through intention.
THE reason that widowers make
the best husbands is because they
have cut their wisdom teeth on the
eccentricities of the feminine tenn
permanent. The man who is essaying
matrimony for the first time has not
had this advantage. He has had no
experience in being husband. He
hasn't even had a good example set
him by his father in how to treat a
wife, and so he goes laundering
along, doing the things he should
not do, and leaving undone the
knows no better.
$50 it is up to every woman to
teach her husband now to be a good
husband, and, like all education, it
should begin in the cradle, so to
speak. Young husbands, like young
babies, are plastic, and easily mold
oil 70 ~, I'll fl, hut of
they get old they become set and
cannot be changed.
Therefore, during the honey
moon, while. your husband is still
Economically in love with you, and
marveling at his luck in getting you,
intrench yourself firmly in the posi-
ton you intend to hold in the fam
lily. Every bride starts out her mar
ried life on a pedestal. If she climbs
down and becomes a door mat it is
her own fault.
Never forget that every wife
writes her own price tag, and that
her husband takes her at her own
valuation. Whether you are a lit
tie queen in your own household, or
an unpaid drudge. depends entirely
upon yourself.
"If you demand respect from your
husband he will accord it to you. If
you demand consideration, he will
give it to you. If you insist upon a
fair divide of the family income, il
will be turned over to you without
question. If you are bound to have
good clothes and amusements, your
husband will hustle out and get them
for you.
"On the other hand, if you are a
meek and patient Griselda who will
let a man swear at you, nine times
out of ten he will do it. If you are
poor worm of the dust who will
stand being trodden upon, you will
be ground under the heel of tyrant.
If you let your husband monOpOlize
the pocketbook and dole out pennies
to you, he will ask you what you did
with that quarter he gave you week
before last. If you will stand for 60
ing shabby and staying at home
husband will leave you there while
he galliVants off with a Shower lady.
"Furthermore, a man will treat
his wife with a lack of consideration
that he would not dare show his
stenographer, who would give notice
and quit if she failed to receive the
courtesy due lady; he will work
his wife as he would work no slave
and pay her less than he would a
scrub-woman and yet consider that
he is a good husband because he is
giving her all that she demands OF
him. She asks nothing, and gets
nothing.
$50 begin by insisting quietly but
firmly upon your husband remember.
ing that you are lady, even if you
are his wife, and treating you as
such. That will not only give you
dignity in his eyes, but save in,
Vulnerable scenes and barrels of
tears, and make for the peace and
happiness of the home. And settle
the allowance question for good and
all before he is well enough &C
quainted with you to say no. There