Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-04-05
If You Are Wise You'll Arrange Your
Play Time According to Hubby's
Idea of Spending the Evening

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Idea of Spending the Evening
1t is a vivid illustration of the
contrariness of human nature that
all the men who like to run around
and amuse themselves of an evening
seem to have married Alice sit-by-
the-f1re, while all the women who
are natural born gadders appear to
have espoused husbands who can't
be pried away from their own hearth
stones with a crowbar.
Everywhere you go there Is
vail from the women:
II never get to go anywhere be-
cause my husband simply will not
go out of an evening, and 1 just
| adore going"
Or: 1.-THE first thing my husband
!! says when he comes in of an evening
is: "Well, what's on the cords for
tonight? Where are we going? What
are we going to do? And I'd give
anything to stay quietly at home
with my book
And a yelp from the men:
My wife wears me out dragging
me around to fool parties at night.
BY George, 1 envy the fellows who
can spend ar evening jim their own
easy chairs with their pipe ano
paper, and hit the hay at 10 o'clock"
Or: my wife simply won't pa.
with me. She never wants to go
anywhere. She won't trot around
with me, so 1 have to go by my
lonesome. Her idea of a hilarious
evening is sitting up listening to the
Riddles sleep. But me for the bright
| lights.''
| And there you are, and how to
reconcile the irreconcilable tastes of
the married is one of the great prob
| lens of family life. Of course it is
a case where an ounce of prevention
would have been better than many
pounds Of cure. If only the FOUNDERS
would marry the FOUNDERS, and the
| stay-putters espouse the stay-put-
tiers, it would save many domestic
arguments and tears and scraps.
They don't, however.
There is something in a gay young
| blade that makes an irresistible ap-
peal before marriage to a quiet,
| mousey little girl; and something in
her quiet, little homestaying ways
| that makes hit with him. There
is something in the JOY of life of the
| girl who dances holes in her stock.
ings, that vamps the man who is a
| staid old plodder, and there is some
thing in his steadfastness that ap-
peals to her mercurial temperament.
And so they get married and fight it
out.
Sometimes accidents will happen
| men and women are lucky enough,
or wise enough, to marry in their
own class and get fireside compan-
ions or running mates according to
their tastes. When that occurs we
| have those IDEAL couples who golf
happily together, or fox tr6t togeth-
er in the cabarets, or toast their
toes on the same radiator, or spend
their evenings in thrilling heart to-
heart talks about the grocery trade.
Unfortunately, such. congenial
couples are rare. Most husbands
and wives can agree enough on their
Workaday schedule, but when they
come to their amusement program
they hold Numerically opposite
views as to what constitutes a pleas
ant and agreeable evening.
1t is easy enough to understand
why the woman who has been shut
up in house all day and whose
work has been performing a series
OF monotonous tasks that call for
so little thought she almost did
them automatically should desire to
| have some excitement brought into
her existence. She longs for some
tEing to give new turn to her
thoughts, something to put pep into
her mush-a1ld-mi diet. So she
wants to put on her pretty frock and
go forth where there is laughter
and gaiety and music.
And it is equally easy to see
why her husband, who has been
working in a crowd all day and who
has had to grapple with a hundred
new thoughts and problems, wants
to spend his evening away from his
fellow men in peace and silence.
One should say that the solution
of the difficulty between this couple
would be for the wife to so arrange
her affairs that she could get her
amusement in the afternoons. Sure
ly there are enough hen luncheons
dances to give any woman all the
diversion she needs without en-.
croaching upon her husbands eve
nings at home.
Often, though, it is the husband
who wants to go and the wife who
wants to stay at home. Sometimes
these men are pleasure-mad; some
times they find that the best way
to relax from the strain under which
they work is by chasing around to,
theaters and restaurants and dances,
and, unlike women, they can not
take their amusements in the day
time when they are attending to
business, so it must be in the eve
ming.
Now, logically. there is no more
reason why a husband should not