San Antonio light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1911-1993, 1923-02-04
The Unpopular Woman
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
"AMERIcAs MOST POPULAR FOR WOMEN"
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wants to get married. i
This particular generality admits OF
no debate. Some admit it, some deny
ii, most unmarried women qualify IT,
half laughing and half indignant.
Yes, but, of course, ! don't want 10
marry any one! But If it was the rlght
sort Of man, and l loved him, and We
had friends and taste in common, then
] certainly would marry "
Which is, after all, only as # on;
said, IF he wasn't born blind, ana
wasn't going TO grow UP and break my
heart of course, I'd like son = Dr.
IF the roof didn't leak, and the glue
factory wasn't going TO build next door,
of course I'd like TO own a house.
The proof that the girl WIG boasts
that she is fastidous and not in hurry
to marry any one is merely fighting for
time, lies in the fact that presently
nice, small. eye-glassed clerk, whose in
come is eighteen hundred a year, is
paving attention to her and she Instant
1y forgets all her former qualifications.
Her husband had to be tall rich:
dark, a professional man, and fond oil
home and books, did he?
Yes, but this man is short, poor, fair;
and a clerk, and so socially Inclined
that he is chairman of the winter CO.
tillions.
But IL is all forgotten-they are mar
ried, and have perhaps as good cnancc
at happiness as most of us.
A Pathetic Type Of Girl.
There is something extremely pa
fbetje about a certain sort of young
: or sometimes not so young-woman.
The type that longs to be popular with
/ men. that longs for the legitimate JOY
of flirting and falling in love, and that
is somehow forbidden the natural right
of womanhood.
We all know this sort of girl. Every
sronn has one or more than one. They
write me letters, hundreds Of them, say,
ing that they want to be popular ana
admired, but somehow they don't quite
know how it is managed.
/ have in mind, as l write, Two such
Sirls-giFls l know well. Ihey are
typical of their class.
One is the plain sister OF Two ~, "a
4remely pretty and vivacious girls: inc
fpther is an only child, really handsome
herself, well TO do, and now aged ABOUT
fwenty-seyen. IT,
s The nlain sister is a school teacher
IF a somewhat solitary type, jealous
and reserved and sensitive. She sees
hor tyvo Younger sisters, surrounded py
,nsn and She resents it. They are viva
tie;ons lively, witty, fluffy-headed little
chatter-boxes. and she alternates De-
sveen A whitening contempt for them
and their ways and sour and palnIu
imitation of them.
1Tb;s Imitation OF the garrulous and
smusing girl by her less spontaneous
sister Is always a mistake. AND surrey
bitterness and contempt are always i
waste Of time, too. h,,nd
What this girl ought to 90 Is puilu
herself a life, independently OF her SIS
tiers. -. L-,sbsd and
.,h;ning and her pretty figure displayed
~. one of the simple gowns and the
Irb;ta cuffs and collars she really loves;
she would make q charming background
for them. =. - he al
lent Let her be the big sister that Is
aIvavs reading, always pleasantly dD-
Sorhed in her own books and concerts
and plans.
Development Of Charm.
cho Il unnonular not because her
sisters are pretty and nice-but because
she isn't !,
Let her develop her own CHARM ~
her own perfectly personal way, AM
GRADUALLY the men who like books an(
Concerts who like companionshlp AM
Conversation rather than jazz ana rush
will grayitate toward her. ,..-.-
such a girl ought to join languag,
.Ssss or take I'D some work apart lroL
tbs drudgery of her actual days worA
Titerature or history, algebra, sstrono
m nursing or library work WIZ DEln
her into contact with persons VINO sh AZ
her tastes and who can appreciate he
good points. ~ +bo -icb ol
maid. was studying her az cios To I"s a.
toses she speaks three language
Jsss an instrument, golfs, rides play
,s,,n;s and bridge and chatters-wII
sar1thing else in the world-aoot
pnodern plays and books; 5 oroi
Xnd all men loathe her and a'o'
her when they can. A., uorseI,
Tha Girl Who Is Never Herself.
,rha reason, / decided, is that she
ns for moment herself. IN
,nah Is loud, her words are carele'
5 ;rcessapt, she effects boredom, d
.@scts surprise, affects one emotlG2h a ~
another that she does not leel' ~
6sars her asserting loudly: ,.uu;o,
aOf course, I'm a regular proLessio =,
al old maid! Man "ahOSu W -,
FLORIDA last year-eyeryone era
Lieut. him said Nix l sald u
friends wouldn't have any one TO KID
q got married: t;,ost ~,
IN This city the other day why
~ouldn't get married-loyely fell0w y
said Il Ike you. Like you a lot! Is
- onrosite you every morning LOT I
eft III nv lifeT 1t can't be did
GMamas crazy at me. There's in
Ahe lust thinks the world otTout
car't see it that way. guess I'm Ju
nicky-apd- choosy-thats 1t. L don't
nw Urls can take the men they
never will understand 1t.
II always tell men that If there s a
sorbearing to be done when l get mi
ried-my husband will do 1t
wornan's a fool IL she doesn't just.
hersfoot down in the very beginnin
owe never been married, but III
that when / said thing was going
he a certain way, it'd be that way
SsMore fool you,' l say to my
fer-sitting home there taking care
babies. with a little runt Of husba
like Billy Davis"
A Type That Men Fear.
This would be tragic enough II
meant it. But it is even more ira
since she does not. She has not
eliohtest sense of truth telling in