The Birmingham age-herald., 1923-10-25

, who like an old-fashioned girl. Plen- | ty of them, my child. Just wait pa | tiently and one of them will come along. And when he does he will be worth million of the jellybeans and cake eaters who play around with the baby dolls. And never forget | that there is something more pre- 1 cious to a woman than even love, and 1 that's her own self-respect. Don't sell that for a mess of pottage. Don't 1 part with that for the sake of a few dates.
 Dear Miss Dix: My wife, who is working and making a good salary, insists she is right in not spending a cent on the house or helping me to save. She blows it all in on good | clothes and gets angry if l do not give her more. She neglects our home and, in fact, will hardly clean it. If husband is willing to do more than his share of the house. work, why shouldn't the wife do her part in, at least, helping him to save money? Do you think am wrong in refusing to give her more money when she looks at financial problems in this light? ONE OF MANY.
 Answer: I think the wife in this case is not playing the game fairly. Marriage should always be a part nership in which husband and wife E1s They should share alike in the pleas ures and profits and the pains and penalties of domestic life. No man has right to monopolize all the family income and make his wife a pensioner upon him. No woman has a right to be a pampered parasite and live in idleness while her husband works.
 In a case where the wife devotes all of her time and energy to making a man a comfortable home she should be given as generous an allowance, outside of the housekeeping money, as her husband can afford for her own use, and the money should be absolutely hers to spend as she pleases, with no questions asked.
 But in a case such as the one my correspondent cites, in which the woman earns money outside of the home and where the husband helps with the housework, she certainly should not expect any money from her husband, and she should feel that it was her duty to chip in her con- tribution to the family savings bank. If she expects her husband to sup port her and thus leave her free to spend all of her earnings on extrava- gant finery, she is not giving him a square deal and ne is quite right not to submit to such an imposition.
 And the poor creature is to be pitied who is so blinded by her love of fine " that she cannot see that the only really happy couples are those who are so united that there is no mine" nor thine" and that every prosper ous home is built by a man and wom- an working and saving together.
 DOROTHY DIX.
 
 Dear Miss Dix: I am engaged to be married to young man of ideal habits. He has a good position, but has saved up only enough money for a honeymoon. Would you advise our being married soon and for us to live with my parents, who are anxious to have us do so, or for us to wait two or three years, until my fiance saves up enough money to set up home of our own? HARTHA T.
 Answer: see no objection to a girl going to live with her own parents after she is married, if they desire to help her in that way. Such ar engagements are generally very sat isfactory. It's only when a girl goes to live with her husbands parents that the situation is fraught with danger. DOROTHY DIX.