Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1923-03-08
DOROTHY DIX
DISCUSSES
LIFE
BY DOROTHY DIX
Try the Coue System on Your Wor.
rying Husband or Wife, as the
Case May Be


~ tons court advised a dis
gruntled wife to apply the
Coue treatment to her marital woes,
and to repeat continually: Every
day in every way my husband is
better and better"
According to the report of the case,
this particular woman declined to try
the remedy, and insisted on divorce,
but there is no doubt that the advice
was that of a second Daniel come
to- Judgment and that nine times
out Of ten domestic discord would
flee before the magic formula.
For love Is illusion and those we
love are to us just exactly what we
think they are. The fairy prince
and princess exist only in our
fancies; and as long as we can keep
our imagination running in high
speed, they are the embodiment of
every charm and grace. 1t is only
when time or circumstances throw
in the clutch, and we get down to
low that we see them as mere, ordi-
nary, commonplace individuals,
without a royal ray Of beauty or
fascination with which to bless them
selves.
Doubtless the mystery that the
Sphinx broods over in her desert
solitude is why men and women fall
in love with the particular individ-
uals they do fall in love with. The
real thrill at every wedding is Won
dering what made them do it, and
under the congratulations you may
hear a murmur of: What in the
world made her pick HIM for a hus-
band?' and: f"For heavens sake,
whatever made him fancy HER, with
all the millions of girls there are
hanging around to choose from?"
Nobody knows. To the general
public Tom Smith is an ordinary
fellow with the usual assortment of
features, and the general compile
ment Of members, and only fair
to middling amount OF gray mat
ter in his head. He is just a blum
dering, heavy chap who is in the
grocery trade, and who looks at the
baseball score and the comic strip
in the newspapers before he reads
the headlines of world news, and his
conversation mostly rams to what he
said to the boss and the boss said to
him, and what he heard over the
radio. and the best make of auto
mobiles.
Yet when Susie Perkins falls in
love with Tom Smith he becomes the
hero of her girlish dreams, and she
sees in him the beauty and grace of
a movie hero, and the virtues of all
the saints and martyrs. More. he
becomes q Spellbinder, and she could
listen forever to his tales of his daily
doings, and Of how he had pale green
warts on his hands when he was a
little boy.
Nor does Tom Smith see Susie
Perkins as others see her. Susie
takes no blue ribbons in a beauty
show with her acquaintance as
judges. They cover the situation
by saying that she is good girl,
which generally means that she has
a bad complexion, and stringy hair,
and lon g teeth and does not possess
those winning ways that lure the
opposite sex.
But Tom Smith finds Susie's sort
of looks the chrome he desires to
hang upon his parlor wall, and he
believes that Cleopatra had nothing
on her in destinations because she
has Vamped him.
Thus we see daily proof that love
is matter of hypnotism, but 1t is
self-hypnosis. No man has the abil-
ity to make a magic pass over a
woman and cause her to see him
other than he is. No woman can
conjure a man into beholding her as
she wishes him to see her. We must
lay our spells upon ourselves We
must gaze into the crystal until we
get the vision we seek.
No complaint is oftener made by
husbands and wives than that they
were disappointed in the ones they
married and that their James and
Johns are so changed.
This is not true. John and Jane
are the same, with the same faults
and foibles, the same bodies, the
same minds. 1t is only that the man
and woman who married Jane and
John have come out of their trance
and are seeing John and Jane as
they really are for the first time.
This is why the Coue slogan be-
comes q, panacea for domestic\ ills.
The awakening man or woman has
only to put themselves back asleep
again by repeating over and over day
by day. in every way my husband
or wife Is getting better and better,
to return once more to the beauti-
full dope dream in which every man
is sure he has married the best wife
in the world, and every woman
knows that she has a paragon of a
husband.
There is also a very practical angle
to the subject. We unConsciously
magnify everything we think about
We can eXalt a virtue to the skies,
or enlarge a small fault into an un-
forgiveable sin, and, therefore, wise
are the married people who keep
the spotlight centered on each 9TH
er's good qualities and turn a blind
eye on each others shortcomings.
A man may be tedious compan-
ion, but good money maker. Let
your mind, then, dwell on the COM
forts of limousines and Paris clothes
instead of how weary you are in
family tete-a-tete. On the other
hand, a man may be the most fasci-
mating of companions, yet lack all
sense of how to get along in the
world. Reflect, then, on how much
better dinner of herbs is, seasoned
with the salt of wit than a stalled
OK with bore.
If you have A 1ohaely wife who Is
good cook, rejoice in her dinners
without looking at her. Concentrate
I1-ifo e
her nagging, her good nature instead
of her lack Of thrift. Think of the
things she does instead of the things
she has left undone and all will be
we'll with you, and matrimony will
be better and better every day.