The Washington times., 1923-03-09
sexes Be.
TRAINED FOR
MARRIAGE
Jane Burr, American Sociol-
ogist and Author, Gives
Public Free Advice.

LONDON, March 9.-Jane Burr,
famous American sociologist and
author, has been giving the British
public free advice on the subject
Of marriage. No one, she declares,
should rush blindfolded into mar
riage; 1t Is a job for which the
sexes should be trained.
"The lowest paid office job."
says Jane Burr, requires more
training than the Job OF marriage.
In fact. the amount OF money q
girl may marry seems to be in in.
verse ratio to her fitness for the
task In hand.
''It is quite correct to say, "The
amount OF money q girl may
may for men still control most
Of that important stuff, and they
ought to be told that their value
Is in exact ratio to the size Of their
wallets.
when you hear Of a young girl
making a good match 1t does not
mean that the man is tall and
straight and clean: that his char
acter Is noble: that they love one
another. On the contrary, it gen.
orally means that he is crippled in
mind and body. that she hates him.
and he desires her-that he has
made his purchase with very full
wallet.
"It is a mistake to say that a
woman has no training for mar,
riage. She has very distinct
training She IL taught from baby
hood to guard her technical virtue.
to dance, to play the piano a little
to sing a little, to look sweet-and
to catch rich husband.
A Waste Of Energy.
"It all seems such a waste of
energy for a. mother to protect her
daughters so caNefully, to keep
them healthy and clean, flawless in
manner, sweet, In mind. and then to
turn them over TO an absolutely
strange man whose only recon,
mendation is a bank account
1.-THE mother, having become
hardened to the process OF her own
tragedy, feels that every woman's
awakening is the same and that II
is better to open ones eyes to the
tune Of money than to the tune Of
poverty. There is sound judgment
In her conclusion. .Unhappiness
plus money Is certainly better than
unhappiness minus money. With
money one can at least get an
occasional change OF scene.
when you think about such
things in cold blood II gives you
the creeps. and in spite of such
creeps you repeat the farce with
your daughter.
"But I can't tell her the truth.
YOU say, What would the world
come to? She'll find out In time
And she does find out In time.
Usually the first thing she does
on awakening Is to throw in tn z.
ashpit the slender halt she used to
make her catch. She won't sing
she won't play the piano, she nei-
Their acts nor looks sweet
Perhaps at first she did try to
make him understand. Though she
did not marry for love. she was
taught that money would make her
happy. Money has certainly not
made her unhappy. In luxurious
age no one can be happy in poverty
no one can even be clean in
poverty.
Takes Definite Income.
''It takes q definite income to
purchase the little decencies of
life, but II you are happy on that
income you will not be twice as
happy with that income doubled.
In fact, 1t seems to work the other
way. Couples who have logged
along comfortably for years on a
small amount Of money grow ,irri-
table with the friction that accom-
panies the responsibility of a for
tune.
"Rich men are usually more pre-
occupied with the making of more
money, and when their wives weep
and want to talk things out they
grow angry. Tears upset them.
and, above all, they hate talking
things out.
"They all use the same words:
Haven't you the best clothes,
the best car, the best house in your
whole set? Don't take you out
every night? Aren't your pearls
the choicest that could be bought?
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