The New York herald., 1922-12-17
Father Uses Power of Example
To Teach Lazy Son Hard We

know a father well along in yeas
who started with little in life but WHO
by patient, persistent effort won his
way up to a position Of affiuence. For
long period of his life he had been
obliged to rise very early in the Morn
ing In order to go to his work, and
was obliged to remain at his task uu
til late In the afternoon. A few years
ago he was promoted to an adminis-
trative position where the RESPONSE
bilities were heavy but where the
hours were very much shorter. He
foundiit unnecessarysto go to the Of
flee before 10 o'clock in the morning.
and there was no reason why he
should remain there after 4 o'clock in
the afternoon. The opportunity had
come for a little relaxation. He, felt
that he had. the right to enjoy n little
release from the long strenuous life
he had led. Just at this time his only
son was asked to withdraw from COL
lege because OF failures In his studies.
His father was Informed that the
failures were due to lack OF applica-
ton and that his son had apparently
never learned how to work. The boy
was called homo and put to work in
manufacturing concern which called
for a long day. The boy was obliged
to rise very early in the morning and
was unable to reach home until time
for dinner. In order that the lesson
might be effectively taught. the sensi-
BILE father Immediately gave up his
own opportunity for relaxation and
enjoyment, rose at the same hour as
his son, left the house with him for
his own work and returned with him
to the house in. the evening for no
other reason than to show the boy
that his father was not asking him to
do anything heshimself was not capa-
BILE OF doing or willing TO do.
Other parents are in constant fear
lest their sons. may weaken under the
heavy burdens OF college life. Not
long ago a mother asked II she might
engage a room in one OF our dorfni
tories near by the suite occupied by
her son. Il informed her that no
women were allowed in the, dorrni-
tories. but she said that IL was abso-
lutely necessary for her to be near her
son during his college course. asked
for an explanation and she said that
her boy had never been allowed TO do
any work. not even to wait upon him
self. that he had always been under
private tutors and would never be
able to find his. way through college
without his mother to guide him. or
course told her that that could not
be allowed. also told her that unless
she went back TO her home and left
the boy TO us very little could be done
toward his education. The mother re-.
luctantly withdrew and we began the
task OF reconstruction.
One would think that the boy who is
fortunate enough to have father and
mother to guide him during the
years while he Is preparing for college
would be in pretty safe hands, and OF
course this is true in the great ma
jorityvof cases. yet many parents will
frankly confess that they have found
great difficulty in shaping the lives OF
their children during this period This
sometimes happens when both parerv-
are college graduates who should
know, IT. any one knows. how to direct
those who are to follow In their foot
steps .tf .r
Some parents are SO little acquainted
with the propermethods of dealing with
their children that In many cases they
unknowingly deprive them Of the In
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