Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1922-05-17

~.uvE. cOO,rv love days, and con =
gratulate aac h
other on not having married at that
umD.
nR-YOU may meet under the most
" romantic and disquieting circum-
stances. Each may have developed n
greater beauty. because of nature. and a
finer mind. and deeper character. Time
may have softened the violent tempers,
and you may bitterly regret the hasty
quarrel. and the letter that brought
him back his ring. Each may be tied
to an uncongenial mate, or one may
be widowed
''When we were twenty ono. yOu
sigh. Then. Us there such an age
MS twenty -one." Your boy and girl
look with scorn on = the handsome,
white haired lawyer. They think Of
you both as "old folks" and such q
thing as romance between you would
make them yell with dcrision.
~ Yet appreciation comes only after ex-
perience, suffering. long list of fail
ures, and many acquaintances. with
whom one compares the ONE. who
really was unusually fine and steadfast.
"Of all sad words of tongue or pen,
the saddest are, 1t might have been. -
A WOMAN I know had loved madly
IA brilliant college boy. when he was
. nineteen and she seventeen. Their uni
versity work was equally remarkable.
They WED with one another in clever
achievements. Yet they found tim" 10
wander in tropical gardens by moon
light and dream of domestic delights TO
come. All, that first love nothing ever
quite resembles It, its maddening bliss.
There were heartrending misunder-
standings. False friends separated
them. Many years afterward he mar
rted girl 10 whom she had introduced
him. He was comfortably happy. AM
bition carried him TO the heights. He
became SO famous that | cannot tell you
the position he now holds, it is CO.
lossal.
She. too. was fairly happy in the jog
trot of ordinary mating, and she devel-
Oped her talents and had her share Of
professional success.
Twenty years afterward he found her
across a continent. He was amazed a.
the youthful beauty she had retained
He was a handsome. but puritanicaI
man. He judged people severely, and
Included himself in the harsh iudg-
ments. But the old spell enshrouded
them. The jasmine and the magnolas
and the tropical moonlight Of that lost
time and that far cline" ovcrpowered
his senses. He struggled with his old
severe ideals. conquered. and AZ las,
went his way. The woman was gently
touched, but hers was the larger world,
despite his fame.
A GAIN they met. when she had suf-
"A fered terrible misfortunes. and was
/, IN the depths of despair. But st,ll she
\ snmiled, and felt almost contempt. He
'yWas 10 pompOus and so self satisfied
a end 70 much the Great Man. accustomed
4 ~ being bowed down before.
And 10 1t goes. The years dcvelop us
\ N strange ways. and the young man
\ who admires girl for pink checks and
haxen hair may find her brainless and
stupid, or harsh and shrill as n woman
Of forty. Or the girl who is fascinated
by the boys football achievements NAV
md him In mature age rather heavy.
unattractivc squire.
9VHE moral would seem to be: Avoid
early marriages. If we select our
Nc partner when he or she Is fairly
mature and shows tendencies toward
certain lines of conduct. we can guess
~ the outcome. But II we jump into
long time contract with a childish.
immature creature we cannot conceive
NJ lust what the future will make of
him or her. You may say that mar
p(nee Is lottery anyway, but surely
Ne need not be- absolutely blind. We
't,lN ilse some wisdom in observing tend
A)lrlos and guess little at results.
1'hnt cxtSrIepces. have YOU had in
|S>o1<jng 4gnf1 your childhood sweet
M ~ expsrtcncS bitter and
kn3oN1 " deiEhfut! M