The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1922-05-30
HEART and HOME PROBLEMS
Written for The State Journal
By ELIZABETH THOMPSON

Dear Mrs. Thompson: am a mar
rfed man and have been married over
year. I married a woman between
twenty and twenty-five who find has
served a term in the state sreforma-
tory, q term in the workhouse and
also a term in the penitentiary. She
had been divorced twice before mar
ried her and had one child which
try to treat as if it were my own.
My mother and have tried to lift
her up to our standing, but we have
failed. We are only dragging our
selves down to her standing, which is
all well to do people, but refuse to
associate with since they cannot
lift her up, but now have turned down
my mother since they cannot lift up
with her in spite of what the others
think.
Is it right for my mother to lower
herself to associate with my wife and
her relatives?
1t seems to be impossible to lift. her
up. My mother and I knew nothing
about her until after I married her.
was blindly led off. I have since
learned that all her brothers and sis
tiers have been to some kind of pun
ishment house.
Should move away from this town
where nobody knows anything about
her character and see if she will lead
a different life then? It is breaking
broken mine.
Ny advice to all boys is to look
before they leap.
BROKEN HEARTED C.
God bless your motheri Her love
and loyalty to you in your trouble
shows the bigness of her soul and the
strength of her character. She is
willing to resist the opinion of her
friends and neighbors and take
stand which she knows to be right,
aItho it means that she is ostra cised
from the society of'those she loves.
Yes, I would advise you to move
away and give your wife chance to
start life with a clean slate. Do not
reformed and almost always they re-
bel. Try to understand her and to
make her SO happy with normal and
wholesome activities that she will not
be interested in wrong doing. Doubt
less you have discovered that in spite
of your wife's bad qualities she has
much that is lovableF and big in her
nature, and probably you have won
dered how anyone with so much good
ness can do so much that is bad She
is simply an unbalanced child of ma
ture. Love her for that which is good
and forgive her for the bad just as
long as you can.
Happiness and appreciation of your
kindness to her will go further to
make her reform than all the advice
and requests for reform that you could
give her, Do not talk about goodness;
set the example.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: I am a girl
of Is. am considered beautiful and
have black eyes and auburn hair. I
am in love with a boy IS years old
who lives out of town. He was crazy
over me when visited in his town.
Once I went to another town and
met another boy. The first boy be-
came jealous. He got angry and is
now going with another girl. At first
we took things seriously as there was
mutual feeling between US.
Should I drop him altogether, or
continue to write to him?
BLACK EYED BEAUTY.
Regard the boy as a friend and con-
tinue to write to him. He would be
very foolish to think of marriage at
the early age of IS. and since there is
so. much time ahead of him before he
takes that step, you can only expect
that he will go with other girls as well
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