The Topeka state journal., 1922-10-24
Dorothy Dix 7oks
Time the Adjusrer-2.
BY DOROTHY DIx
worsd's Highest Paid Woman Writes,

Death robs US of those who were
the very core of our hearts. 1t seems
impossible that we should go on living
without them. At first every minute
of every day stabs US with a fresh
sense of loss. There is no place to
which we can fly from our desolation;
no way in which we can throttle the
memories that torture us. There is
no help for us but in Time, the one
anodyn for sorrow.
It breatheS upon US and slowly
slowly the pain is eased. We grow
accustomed to the loneliness; the
sharp edges of loss are dulled; and
even memory is blurred until those
that wepe once the most vital things in
existence become to us like the dim
shapes of angels seen in our dreams.
And Time is the great and infallible
adjuster of our problems. How often
we borrow trouble worrying over the
future. What shall we do if this or
that difficulty occurs? How shall we
manage if some catastrophe we fear
overtakes us?
Foolish and vain speculations with
which we fill sleepless nights! The
things we most dreao seldom happen
to US, and If they do, Time gives us
small choice in the manner of dealing
with them. We settle them as best
we may at the moment, and If we are
patient Time rectifies our mistakes.
1t is true that Time does not give
US all we want in life, but it does the
next best thing. 1t dullS the sharp
edge of desire, and rcconciles US to
| our failures. Millions of us have to
thank Heaven that We missed getting
| the thing we once broke our heads
| in longing for. Looking down the
| long term of years. we see how worth
| less are the tinsel crowns men STRIVE
| for, and are content to have no part
| in the Scra mble for empty hOnors, or
| fortunes that bear with them the Mi
| daS curse. For Time is the only
| school in which we may learn philo-
| sophie content. 1t is only those who
have seen much who desire little.
| Nobody thinks of trying Time as
cure for domestic woes, yet Time
would do more than anything else to
| stop the divorce evil, if given a chance
/ to get in its fine and subtitle work of
! harmonizing discordant married
couple.
For we are so constituted that we
! can adjust ourselves to almost any
| conditions We grow so used to any
| surroundings that we scarcely notice
them. The noises that keep US awake
in new place we scarcely hear the
second night. We yearn to like the
dishes that we found unpalatable at
first. Prisoners have become so at
| tached to their cells they wept at be-
ing freed, and taken from them.
So in matrimony, men and women
| can fit themselves to each others
peculiarities until they become SO ac-
| customed to them that they don't even
see them. They can endure each
| others eccentricities until they cease
| to notice them. They can endure their
| disappointment in each other until
| they forget it ever existed. and make
| habit forge a bond between them that
is even more binding than love.
But if>Time is the consoler and the
adjuster, it is also the acid test of
| things, and. only the worth while sur
wives. 1t is the house built from
squares of solid stone that stands. The
flimsy shanty goes 1t is the great pic
lures. the great statues, the furniture
made by craftsmen, that grow more
valuable with age. THE shoddy work
| of shoddy men is thrown on the dust
| heap
And it is the genuine qualities in
people that Time makes finer and bet
ter The woman who has only
pretty face loses dove when her beauty
fades. The woman of heart and soul
is loved better as the years go by
The man who has surface briIliance
may win preferment by trickery, but
he is soon unnasked and forgotten 1t
is the man of sterling principle and up
| right character whom Time crowns
| with imperishable laurels>
/ 1t is one of life's little ironies that
there is nothing in life that Time will
not iron out If we give Time time
enough