South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1922-01-15
- CHARD wIGHTMANs lines of

vi love = vast ocean
For which your soul near died"
- CHARD WIGHTMAN'S lines Of
beauty hold more than one deep.
a underlying truth, but without
doubt the major conception of the
poets fancy lies In expressing love as
a gift desired by all but found by
few. Pages and pages Of prose and
volumes OF poetry have been written
upon the trinity OF love-mental.
spiritual and physical. yet people go
on needlessly and Will DO so until the
end OF time marrying through one
factor rather than the necessary
three which alone constitute success
IN the affairs Of the heart.
Imitation loves like imitation
pearls flourish these days every
where and both are fashioned as
lustrous and as beautiful as the gen
uine II takes an expert to detect
the sham pearl necklace with It's
platinum and diamond-studded clasp
and IL takes a cleYer man OF woman
TO distinguish the vital love among
the many loves OF sense and mood
which color life with carmine, pearl
and rose. Many men and women.
too, never experience the reality Of
love because they themselves are
not capable OF real love or failed TO
recognize deep affection when II
touched them IN the passing. Con-
Bequently their lives are but a series
OF love-afairs. none OF which pos
sess the virtue OF endurance.
Men are the victims. usually, OF
imitation love. There are exceptions,
of course. but most men undoubted-
~ marry because they sincerely be-
lieve they are in love and that the
woman is necessary 10 their future
happiness. Women, on the contrary,
are not so candid. They have been
schoOled for centuries in the art of
pleasing, for II was through that art
they secured what they desired OF
men. Sometimes that art has sunk
into the lower level of pure deceit
In either case the woman has always
held the trump card in the marriage
game. For years and years. mar
rage was wOman's most profitable
business. Her sole aim was 70
marry some man. Sometimes she
married for love but more often for
the purpose Of getting married Her
success I'm life depended entirely
upon getting married and not upon
the success Of her marriage Men,
as a class. have been guilty Of many
grave misdemeanors against society
but as a whole they have never bar
tered themselves I'm a slave market
If a man loved poor girl and rich
wife was offered him. he usually
chose the former. You can't say
that much for the modern woman,
for nine times out Of 10. she prefers
wealth and position 20 love.
Men who live scientifically I'm all
other matters of life, seek to remain
IN a state of inflamed distortion of
half truths and half-Hes regarding
the central passion Of their lives.
Men love mystery and that is why
they prefer 10 remain blind. There
fore, women. OF necessity. have been
the principal liars I'm the farce OF
imitation love where men have only
been confused marrying in the heat
OF desire. 20 repent at leisure or
seeking the divorce court with its
alimony attachments.
Even young women today are
rarely young IL stands to reason
that they could not be so. for TO
youth the world is always a para
disc of illusions. A clever young
woman soon finds the profitable
shams Of the world and is able 10
assume them. gaining rapid wisdom
as FAR as her own future IS con-
cerned. 4 girl at rs years is already
looking for her Prince Charming.
while the hoy of the same age is
devouly adoring some football star.
True. he likes 20 play around with
girls but he isn't thinking seriously
about them. certain amount OF
concentration IS needed TO make any
success In the world and the young
woman who has no interest in life
except her own beloved self is clever
imitator because the center OF her
existence IS herself and what she
particularly wants.
10 doesn't take long for a mother
20 know whether the gi-f her son IS
going TO marry loves him or what
ne represents. either IN position or
wealth which some day viii be his
She can detect subtle sham, but the
son cannot. az least not until after
the marriage Why7 Simply be-
cause a mans instructive conscious
ness registers appreciation OF a wOm-
an through exterior values rather
than interior He IS perfectly un-
aware that her sphere OF thought is
concentrated wholly upon herself
and her needs. and though II may
seem large. IL has DO real existence,
since II IS but the outsr world re-
fleoted IN one drop OF not Over-cleaT
water which constitutes her brain.
There IS another class or women
whose pretentions are less cleverly
sustained You Will and her chiefly
among the half-educated. new-rich,
desperately trying 20 attain a higher
level n the social ladder and which
Is usually the highest point visible
upon her horizon. The husband OF
such a woman often finds himself
only a stepping stone for her ambi-
tons In the coveted direction which