The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1922-03-19

SAN FRANCISCO-Dcceit. fibbiuF.
/ lust plain lyinE-ur whatever name
/ one caroH to give prcvRricatiOn--is
/ the chief cause for tho cycr-iuCreHh-
| ing number of divorces today.
At least such Is tho reason az
| signed for the scvoring OF marital
relations by Judge Thomas T.. Ora
| ham, for more than 20 years on tho
superior court bench hero ana who.
| despite his more than statewide rep
| utatlon az tho great rccOncilcr.'
| has granted thousands OF divorces.
And as n proper remedy Tor tho
prosont-day divorce evil Judge
| Graham suggests honesty between
husband and wifo regarding every
matter OF mutual interest 10 them.
Back OF tho majority Of divorce
suits filed here--and II must be true
of other Cltics--is deceit by either
tho husband or tho wife" said the
juTist. 81 have run across scores Of
variations OF fibs. lies. white Hes,
half-truths ana vicious dccelts.
Wives. as wen ~ husbands. arc gull
ty OF deceit. but In most cases whore
n marriage In OF short duration, II
will be found that the young hus-
band Is the one chiefly 20 blame.
auto Not Paid For"
"Ofton he makes the mistake Of
starting matrimony without making
his bride his fun Confidantc. lie
earns, say $50 a month, During the
courtship he tells her his income is
moro than that. Tho automobile no
courts her I'm IL not paid for. There
are monthly payments that must De
met. but the girl knows nothing of
them.
"IIo hints vaguely at n bank ac-
count. They arc married. aud tho
deceit continues. The young bride,
perhaps from n homo whore
there has been little need
OF economy unknowingly spends
more than her husband earns.
Bills begin TO arrive. SIN the hus-
band does not confess tho real limit
Of his salary but vainly tries to bluff
u out hoping against hope for a
change Of luck or IA semi-cxpoCtcd
raise iu salary which never comes.
"Quarrcls over money and unpaid
bills begin 20 mar the home life OF
the young couple. Tho outlook is
dreary 20 the young wife. who fears
ovory ring Of the doorbCll is that of
bin collector. Tho husband begins
10 worry ana is short tempered and
cross. Things go wrong at the office,
ana no takes It out IN short spitcful
words al home.
"Fricnds Are Amazed"
"Dlv0rcc proceedings arc fOnd,
and friends are amazed. They
soomcd such ii happy couple all
say
but back Of It all Is the decoit
praCtIccd by the husband during the
courtship and maintained through
tho short married life,
"Thore aro cases also whore the
wifo ~ guilty Of deception, she
buys clothes beyond her husband IS
means, charges them and dccoivo9
her husband about their cost. when
she makes the purchases she expects
10 pay for them. but how she is po-
Ing 90 got tho money i7 another
question She trusts TO luck, and
usually the husband gets tho bills.
and thore i8 "a scene, tears and bitter
/ wOrds-thcn divorce,
"Intcmporance, of course, Is a
major fnotOr in divorce cases, but
| lnyrstIgatlou shows that intompcr-
anco Is the result not the cause, ot
| marriage unhapplucSs' said Judge
| Graham.
And here the Judge who has sent
many couples reunited from his
courtroom, pointed out the remedy
/ that might curb the evil.
Couples Who Kiss"
Husband and wife who trust each
other, who harbOr no secrets from
| each other, who kiss al parting and
/ kiss at the evening reunion never get
| into the divorce courts.
The woman who loses at bridge
J and tries to hide her losses from her