Norwich bulletin., 1922-07-08

one he demolished them, until strip ped and naked, the tale sounded so meager, that it seemed as if l had told a delfberate lie. Fred concluded with a superior smile and q grave You really ought to be more ac- curate in your statements, Ethel was sniry clean through. kept quiet unlsss we were alone, and then I literally flew at Fred. told him he had no business to correct my state lnents, that I was grown person and quite capable ef assuming full responsibility for what I said, and that he should in the future kindly mind his own affairs.
 To all Of which he, responded quietly, Ethel; ! would have done that to any of the boys who made such mis- statements You surely expect me to treat you, as would any friend, don't you?''
 said several things So that we were again involved in warfare oI words, that resulted in a fit of hys- terics for me, and a fit of sIlks for Fred. We hardly spoke for two days. | did not dare breathe word to my father for 1 knew would get repft- nland. was so nliserably unhappy could hardly bear to look at Fred. But this time, what wisdom possess ed, superior or not, came to the rescue and sat down and looked the situa- tion squarely in the face. The real question was whether we were going to let life run us, or take life in our own hands and run it and master it as we went along. When got where I thought I could boss the job went to Fred. HFred,'' I said, We will have to StOD ailaTrelings
 Yes" he said very soberly, We can't afford the luxury of many morep
 We can't afford any" I said de- cisively.
 How are we gcin to manage it?' he replied
 We just won't quarrel" I said. And we didn't,
 That is all there is to it. We dis agreed many times butt we stopped quarreling then and there forever. It was the hardest work ever did and l guess it was just as hard for Fred. Never air your trubdes, always speak well of your husband and if the husband objects violently to an act his wife does not consider herself wise to attempt, let her refuse to un- derstand it and keep her reason to herself. After all it is her decision II she wants to please her husband Keeping Uneas marital troubles to l oneis self has rarely any i'll, effects and frequently adds, as in my own case, quite little to one's reputation Certainly no one minds being a model ef any kind. I can hear some sister ask
 But how. actually. do you avoid quarrel lng?| Well, we were bound not to quar- rel because we had agreed not to. Then We would stop and smile knowingly and drop the subject, or someties we would say We evidently can't agree; let's find compromises" So we hunted for one and never failed to find it.
 It seems a comparatively simple mat, ter, this process Of adjustment, partic. ularly when it is practically accomplish. ed, but it is the means of wreckine SC many matrimonial enterprises that one wants to raise signal of warning, and having safely passed the crisis would say to all those in stormy seas:
 "Subdue your emotion and use youi brains. Divorce, 1t seems to me, make: you a subject of public talk and whc cares anything about it 1; as ieng as yor love him and want to stay married, a. long as you stilf love each other, yot must find way to peaee.H have beer thinking about this letter about thre, months.
 FATHER TIME.