South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1922-07-23


And haven't you met men and wo-
men who suggest infinite posslbili-
ties; whose outward grace compells
a desire TO know them better? And
how many. many times they have
disappointed you because OF their
limitations2 Then again, you meet
others, possessing no distinguished
feature OF personality but whose in
ward grace and kindness reveals it.
self as one comes TO know them bet
ter. The charm of such men and
women grow as acquaintance deep
ems; no horizon restricts it's bounds.
Buried worth may lie dormant for
a time beneath a naughty and re-
pellant exterior with the very young.
Youth has an ugly egotlsm all it's
own but when people have lived, in
the real meaning OF the word, at all,
the grain Of worth however small It
may be, comes TO the surface II II
exists: for true worth and unselfish-
ness is intermingled Where one is,
so is the other and neither counter
ance a thoughtless word or manner
which would wound another.
While there is an extreme shyness
which frequently afflicts well-mean-
ing people it is easily recognized
from the unapproachable trait or
characteristic. However. nothing
more pleases the distant man or wo-
man than to hear themselves spoken
Of as hard TO get acquainted with
For some reason or other, this
phrase distinguishes tnem in their
own eyes.
The inaccessible person will tell
you after you have become a mem
Der of his or her choice and select
small circle, that they 40 not wish
to waste their affa bility on people
they may never meet a second time.
In a werd they wish 10 know
whether the acquaintanceship will
prove desirable before meeting peo-
ple halfway. With them. human
kindness, s a matter OF bargain and
sale. But who is the loser-they or
the people they snub?
Between the unapprOachabIe per
son and the one who radiates friend
illness through their very glance
there is a multitude who belle
their real charm and worth by ap-
parent indifference. They would, II
chance let them. proye what they
really are at heart. Such people.
perfectly capable of enjoying the
friendliness of others, miss much IN
life because OF their seeming cold
ness to their fellow-creatures
Wake I'D. folks-you're missing
half the Joy Of life if you remain
cooped up in your shell. Just because
we may not meet the fellow traveller
on the tourney more than once 10
ought not miss the pleasure and OPP
portunity Of leaving a pleasant IN
stead OF a painful impression.
Every day we live. offers the priv
ilege Of serving others-just casually
narhaps but nevertheless II IS ser
vice Can't we do Il IN a way which
makes them think we are glad 10
render a favor I know IL IS very
trite 10 say that people are made
happy by small kindnesses oUt any
one who has ever given consideration
to anything before himself knows
that life is made up OF small hurts
and little joys and that the only
way 20 confer happiness IS 20 De
careful in the small matters as we
go along.
You need not confide your Utmost
thoughts 20 a casual acquaintance
but YOU can avoid hurting him by
your excess OF dignity and chilly
manner. One can be friendly with
ont being Intimate. One can express
a spirit of fraternity through num-
berless avenues OF expression which
do not necessarily mean speech.
II YOU have the pleasure ana
honor OF knowing very many OF the
worlds great men and women, you
VIII never find them "unapproach-
able" Real greatness never express (
es itself in that way I cannot think .
OF By position so exalted IN this
small world that jUstliies any human .