The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1922-09-13
AEARTAND HOME PR0BL EMS
Written for The Suite journal
By ELIZABETH THOMPSON

Dear Mrs. Thompson: 1 am a
woman forty-five years old and have
a husband and a daughter living My
husband was always as kind and good
as any man could be, but 1 was too
blind to realize the blessing 1 had and
SO in return for his goodness to me I
was always nagging and scolding him.
! thought he had not the good man
ners that my friends husbands had
and 4 didn't like the way he looked
| in his clothes.
In return for the home he furnished
me let him get up every morning and
get his own breakfast, and half the
time when he came home in the even
ing there was no dinner ready and
he either had to go out and eat or
cook a meal for himself and our
daughter.
Two years ago our daughter went
out of town to school and / missed
her so much that after two months I
gained my husbands consent to so to
the college town and board. I didn't
intend to stay so long when I went,
! but didn't go home until our summer
vacation.
That summer I noticed a change in
my husband. He seemed happier, but
he didn't pay any attention to me.
Now I know the reason for his happi-
ness-he had found another woman
and had fallen in love with her. I
didn't discover this fact before this
summer vacation. Last year I went
| back to school with my daughter again
and was away all winter. When we
got home my husband was scarcely
ever in the house. I thought it was
strange because he always used to
be there SO much. Now he has told
me he loves another woman and he
would like to have me get a divorce.
He says he is no longer going to live
with me even if I refuse to get one.
But he has promised TO allow me as
much money as I have been accus-
toned to live on
What would you advise me to do ?
My daughter is very bitter against him
and says l should do as 1 please and
she won't care. MRS. G. K. D.
do not believe that one party IN
marriage should wilfully hold the
other to the agreement when the other
asks for freedom. The best and most
unselfish thing you can do is to COM
ply with your husbands wish. You
admit that you have not done your
part to bring happiness into your mar
ried life and SO you cannot blame your
husband in the least for the thing he
has done.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: I am sin
gle man 'twenty-one years-old ana
have been keeping company with a
SlTl IOE three years. we were " De
married in a short time and the day
was set. She returned my ring and
said she didn't want anything more to
do with me. Another girl is the cause
Of it all. She has told untrue stories.
1 am heart-broken and in despair.
loved this girl. and all my friends
are expecting our marriage, which is
already announced. This will cause
embarrassment and worry. What
shall 1 do?
HEART BROKEN CHARLEY.
Write the girl a letter, telling her
the truth and saying that you love her
and want her for your wife. Ask her
to reconsider her decision. Do not try
to throw the blame on the other girl
because it will only weaken your own
case. Be honest and if you are to
blame, admit it and ask her forgive
ness. BY no means mention the fact
that you are ashamed to have your
friends know that the wedding is
called off, because she will think your
pride is greater than your love.