Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1922-05-25
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One Must Learn Not to >Ac-
cept First Defeat-Not
ing So Dead as Dead
Love
BY SOPHIE IRENE LOEB
(Copyright, 1927

NEW, YORK,-A young woman
died in a hospital few days ago
and her diary diseloses that she end
ed her life grieVing - misplaced
love. In, this diary she terms herself
"a nervous wreck, a heart-broken
disguised girl with only death as my
greatest hope" ~ ut <
gAlle.' in her arfalgnInent OF the
man who dipped har. she said: "fdoW.
could you be SO cruel. so heartless?
Yor have bluffed me, but you cannot
bluff God, for your punishment will
not be from one Who will have to
answer to land Or :aw." Her last
entries were: II have made dread
full mistake l want to go back
home. God is good--slow but sure.
Faith, hope are a wonderful conso-
lation. A man is only man, just
as a woman is only-a woman"
If only this girl could have rea-
soned and reflected on her own
words, she might have averted the
tragedy and lived to bel very happy.
How much suffering could be
saved if people could only face the
fact that there is nothing so dead
as dead love.
If only we could understand that
the Lord did not make a new mold
for every man or woNan he created,
bat that many men and many wom-
en- are very much alike; and that
N this wide, wide world there is GER
| tainly more than one person that
one could love again.
and the thing to do is to cut the
old love off as with knife and reach
out to that some other one in the
universe who could readily fill the
place of the lost love.
OF course, this girl who died be-
| cause Of her love is beyond help. But
there are hundreds of young women
| today, yet, thousands, who are driv-
en- to the depths Of despair because
some one man has failed them and
| they think there is no one like him
anywhere. What folly!
In common parlance, "There is as
! good fish in the seas as there was
| ever caught"
| OF course, there is always a ter
rible heartache and miserable disap-
pointment which is difficult to over
come. But it can be done as surely
as the sun shines if only the wound
| ed one would refuse to accept the
defeat and use her will power to
reject from her heart and mind the
one who has caused her the anguish.
| What really happens is this: The
suffering soul looks back and hugs
close to her the tender moments, the
gracious acts. the kindly deeds, the
look Of love, the SOFT sweet words
all, all that have come from the
one who has now defiled the love
that was theirs. -,
She is ever hopeful that these
signs, this love will come back again.
She refuses to accept the real issue
that it is gone and should not come
back. = ..... a,as -~.s
Her pride is wounded, her hopes
are broken. And worst of all, she is
miserably lonely. Such a person
grasps at a straw, magnifies the
| good deeds and minimizes his short
comings, and then cries to herself,
with all his faults, love him STILL
And in most cases he does not de-
serve any such noble allegiance,
There is but one course open, and
it is the true one for such person
Puc it behind you-all of it, as
1 quickly as possible. Go out in the
world among your friends and smile
keep on smiling, no matter how you
feel. -.-.-
Pretty soon others will be drawn
to you by your smile, even though
il be sad one. There are SO many
men, in the world, men who MAY
give you the same sweet words. th@
same joyous messages, the same at
tention, the affection, the same Low
ing interest in you. They may show
their love in a little different way