The Rock Island Argus and daily union. (Rock Island, Ill.) 1920-1923, 1922-09-30

girl of 16 and live in another town.
l belong to a club there and have
been a member for almost two
years. We meet every month but
l don't care much to attend and
sometimes don't go. The club is
made up of boys and girls my age,
and also a few young married peo-
pie. They are quite nice to me, but
/ am shy girl and don't talk much
and never did feel in place when
l went to the meeting.
The girls all like me, but ! never
could gain the boys friendship and
their resentment to me makes me
feel more out Of place than ever.
| am not, greedy, but l want every
one to like me. The rest of the
girls are very popular with the boys
and after meetings are over they
| go out together to some ice cream
parlor. l wish l were not so shy,
Tor then l could be with them.
/ don't "chum" with anyone any
more and hardly ever go to parties
and other places as used to.
| When l think of the good times
used to have and think how dull
| the world is for me now, feel as
if there were nothing to live for
any more.
NV mother thinks l should keep
! going to the club meetings since
l have an important office, but she
! doesn't understand. l feel that
cannot stand it any longer. Don't
you think l should leave the club
when l cannot make friends?
BROKEN HEARTED.
Your whole trouble comes from
a shy and overly sensitive nature
You imagine sights when they are
not intended and in spite OF the
fact that you are so reserved your
self you expect people to go more
than half way to be friendly tc
you. Besides, you are passing
! through an extremely self-con
scious age. You are no longer the
child who played with boys ant
girls, never thinking whether the!
liked you or not; and you are no
the poised young woman you will
be in two or, three years.
/ Has it ever occurred to you tina
more than half of the people yOi
meet are hiding a nature as sensi
i tive as your own, or some grea
sorrow? If you fully realized thi
truth, you would go out of you
way to have some pleasant thin,
to say and you would try in you
small sympathetic way to lesser
the ache in the other person
heart
Very few young girls escape tn
suffering you are now experiencing
One girl of 10 wrote me that il
high school she was very popula
and happy, but when she entere'
college she was no longer able t
: make friends. She said that If an
other girl took her arm and walke
from one recitation hall to anothe
with her, she was SO deeply move
i with gratitude that tears came t
her eyes and she couldn't tall
That girl succeeded in hiding he
suffering but the people around he
thought she was cold and consid
cred herself better than others.
Don't give up club meetings jus
yet. The next time you go, fore
J yourself to speak to every membe
you can. boys as well as girls. Aft
/ er meeting when they all go to tn
. ice cream parlor, go along too.
l think you will find that there ar
l other girls who are not invited b
/, the boys, but they are not so sens
tive and so they go without bein
invited.
4 II you find your cannot be happ
at club after going two or thre
times more, drop out and build
1 new circle OF friends. Thoughtful
ness Of others and a deliberate el
fort to talk and be pleasant, wi