South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1922-06-25
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Curve Ahead
By Leila B. Rostiser

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married. The honeymoon over, the
matrimonial road which stretches be
fore them has some bumps which. II
not carefully driven over. will almost
certainly upset the domestic motor
even though g. be a Rolls-Royce
The first year Is full OF dangerous
curves and they are usually not
sighted until one is upon them. As
"A rule the first year either makes or
mars a marriage. for during this in
tsFval OF adjustment. errors may be
committed which Will cast a shadow
over every year that follows The
second year IS often happier than
the first. for people have to acquire
the habit OF the marriage state and
there are difficult lessons 20 be learn
ed IN the Apprenticeship.
A RreatH many seemingly we'll
mated couples throw happiness out
OF their grasp and create troubles
for the rest OF their lives because
they have not learned the dangerous
curves OF the road. and. as a con-
sequence. drive carelessly over them
Ahe fact Is modern newlyweds do
0Dbt even know that they have any
problems 20 solve and then when
things go amiss they take IL as a per-
sonal affront.
Avoid First Dispute.
There Is one simple direction II
faithfully followed might long pre-
serve the tranquility OF marriage. II
is-beware Of the first dispute The
early unions OF unfxed marriages
can endure better the storms and
tempests for they are nearly always
followed by the warm embraces of a
new intimacy. bat little disputes be-
tween man and wife destroy that
cordially which is the soul of mat
rimonial felicity.
There may be fanatlCism IN love
as well as in belief and where people
are very much IN love they are likely
10 be severely exacting. The love OF
the average man and woman IS
largely dashed with selfishness. A
supreme love can give and give and
there exists no dread Of not being
loved In return. But there are few
supreme loves and when they do
exist Il is mostly experienced by one
alone-the one giving. happy in be-
slowing the gift; the other. very
often accepting the worship lavished
casually.
Mutual Confidence Basis.
II Is generally believed that con-
jugal affection depends on mutual
confidence man quoting this SEN
timent added that he always told his
wife everything that happened
.hereupon his friend laughed and
Splied: my wife finds out twice
as much about me as I know myself
without the least trouble" Women
DO seem 20 have an uncanny ability
to probe into the sacred channels of
mems lives and thoughts How very
often a woman says Il think" when
she really means Il know"
believe, however, that the mod
ern woman is becoming more and
more sensible on this subject OF
wanting 10 know the why and where
fore of everything concerning her
husband. She Is beginning TO real
lie that when a man marries, he
isn't necessarily putting a mortgage
upon every thought desire. word
and action There are secrets in
trusted 20 the physician. the lawyer.
the clergyman the business man and
the legislator excluding those conf
dences between friend and friend.
which even 10 tell a wife would be a
most disgraceful betrayal OF honor.
A Jealous wife or husband IS con
sidered a proper subject for ridicule
and both ought TO conceal any trace
OF the feeling. Your suspicious may
be groundless and anyway jealousy
will never enforce an allegiance
which does not exist. Unless hus-
band and wife trust each other in
each and every circumstance the.
result will be much the same as II
they had not trusted at all.
The Financial DOGGY.
Finances play a large part in the
success or failure OF the marriage
relation A wife who puts con-
Aience into the management OF her
Vsband's money should not be
obliged TO account 70 him for the
exact manner IN which each dollar
IS spent An undue Interference on
his part will cause much domestic
irritation and may have an influence
on social morale No woman can
feel dignihed. free and happy with
out the control or a certain sum OF
money for the graces and charities
or life The hard-drawn line Of
simply paying the bills closes n
thousand avenues 20 gentle Joys and
pleasures IN ones daily life There
fore. I would advise young brides 10
strike when the iron IS hot 50 to
sneak BY asking their husbands for
an allowance Then the little IN
avoidable demands on a husbands
purse would be entirely eliminated
and the wife would learn the art OF
MANAGEMENT as far as her own re-
sources were concerned.
Nv sympathy goes 20 the husband
whose wife thinks that the living be-
yond ones income IS necessary TO
ascertain social position. No one can
disregard keeping up appearances
and nowhere is the attempt OF keep
ing a certain standard OF living more
praiseworthy than with those who
have 20 1--we upon a small income.
But the senseless competition which
consists IN entertaining lavishly be
cause ones friend or neighbor does
so has no tendency 20 true happi-
ness a young married couple
should acquire the right sort OF
friends and entertain them simply
and with freedom from affectation.
certain bank IN the city put out
not very long ago an attractive ad-
vertisement advising young married
people against the temptation or
starting out 70 be social Hons and
numerated the more worthy things
10 attain home. family. bank
account insurance and last but not
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