Great Falls tribune. [volume] (Great Falls, Mont.) 1921-current, 1922-10-08

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be so thoroughly absorbed as to make
their observance a matter of instinct
rather than of conscious obedience"
When LONELINESS %Eyaporates
When you speak of one as a charm
ing woman you imply all the virtues
of good She could not be
charming and be rude of act, nor vulger
of speech, nor inconsiderate of others.
No matter how a~stonishingly beauti-
full a girl may be, how perfect her
dress, let her say: MY Gawd!' or
Wouldn't that get your goatt' and
her loneliness e~vapOrates suddenly.
Let her be taken out to dinner and
indulge in loud laughter or betray no
knowledge Of the cOmmon niceties of
tanners at table, and the young man
may evaporate as suddenly.
Though one may have been deprived
of advantages at home, that is no ex-
cuse, since the eye may be trained to
observe, and good books on etiquette
are plentiful and no more expensive
than perhaps one item of cosmetics.
Diction Delightful to Hear
The correct use of English, too, is
available in quite inexpensive text
books. And a taste in words may be
cultivated by constantly reading books
of literary standing, drawn from the
public libraries, if one is not in a posi-
ton to buy them.
Quite recently ] talked to one of the
most beautiful girls in the world. I
would not hesitate to state. Her
| speech was delightful TO hear. She
told me she left school when she was
ii to go to work to support a whole
| family. and had cleaned her entire
education from that point out of books.
She sought the advice of one qualified
TO advise her on a curse of reading.
Last summer she spent her vacation
time studying diction. She is a shin
ing example of what may be done in
the way of self-improvement.
There are, to be sure, slang words,
apt and forceful, to exclude which
would make a conversation suited. 1t
is the coarse and p~rofane words which
blight ones fancy for the fair one.
The meditation of the voice and q
clear enunciation contribute a great
deal toward earning the descriptive
charming"
SIurring is DlsagreeabIe
mo one" says Mrs. Post" who
makes the least ~pretense of being q
person of education says: KEEP for kept;
genelmun or gempmun for gentleman,
or eye-talian."
Pronounce according to a standard
dictionary, and you are correct.
Slurring words effect q disagreeable
speech, such as ha pa SHINE for half
past nine; passis sugar for pass the
sugar; sen sumover for send some
over, and SO on, which slurring is
due entirely to unnecessary hurry.
Listen to cultivated people talk, and
get one of those small pronouncing
1 dir ~ N n W. nE gna . --~I L. -r~-A
mark and study words you use fire.
q%uently and m~ispronounce. When you
know them, then read any book at
random slowly aloud to yourself, care
fully ~prOnouncing each word. The con-
seriousness of this exercise may make
you stllted in conversation at first,
but by and bye the sense or impulse
to speak correctly will come.
What Not TO Be
Mrs. Post devotes a paragraph or
two to another of the necessary in
gradients in the formula of charm
namely, consideration of others.
The t~actless blunderer. the bore,
and the sharp tongued. often errone-
ously called brilliant witted. are cited
as excellent examples of what not
to be.
The t~actless one whose remarks
rue rOugnSlou over the feelings of
others is not due for a popular run
in any circle.
"A bore she says, as one who
talks about himself when you want to
talk about yourself" More ac-
curately described as one who is in
terested in what does not interest you
and insists that you share his enthusi-
asm. in spite of your disinclination.
"A sharp wit is apt to produce a
feeling of mistrust even while it stimu-
lates. Do not be too apparently clever
if vol would be popular. The cleverest
woman is she who, in talking to a
man, makes him seem clever. This was
Nine. Recamier's great charm.
Telling people disagreeable things
to their faces or behind their backs
is not a pleasant occupation.
Secret of Popularity
Don't pretend to know more than
you do. To say you have read a book.
and then seemingly TO understand
nothing of what you have read proves
you a half wit. Only the very small
mind hesitates to say: L don't know
. . Remember that the sympathetic
listener is the delight of delights. The
person who looks glad to see you, who
is seemingly eager for your news, or
enthralled with your conversation;
who locks at you with a kindling of
the face and gives you spontaneous
and undivided attention is the one to
whom the palm for the art of con
versation would undoubtedly be
awarded.
"A gift u more value than beauty