Indiana daily times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1914-1922, 1922-03-09
DECEIT CHIEF
DTVORCECAUSE,
ASSERTS JUDGE
Honesty Between Husband
and Wife Proposed as
Remedy.
LYING DOESN'T PAY

SAN FRANCISCO, Cal. March e.
fbbing, just plain lying-or
Whatever name one cares to give pre-
varication-is the chief cause for the
ever increasing number OF divorces to-
day.
At least such is the reason assigned for
the severing OF marital relations by
Judge Thomas f. Graham, for more than
twenty years on the Superior Court bench
here and who, despite his more than
Statewide reputation as the great
reconciler," has granted thousands OF
divorces.
And a proper. remedy for the present.
day divorce evil Judge Graham suggests
honesty between husband and wife re-
-arding every match Of mutual interest
to them.
DECEIT CAUSE
OF UNHAPPINESS.
Back Of the majority Of divorce suits
fled here-and it must be true of other
cities-is deceit by either the husband or
wife" said the jurist. 81 have run
across scores Of variations Of fibs, lies,
white lies, half truths and vicious de-
ceits. Wives. as well as husbands, are
guilty OF deceit, but in most cases where
q marriage is Of short duration 1t will
he found that the young husband is the
one chiefly TO blame.
often he makes the mistake of start
ing matrimony without making his bride
his full confidante. He earns, say $50
month. During the courtship he tells
her his income is more than that. The
automobile he courts her in is not paid
for. There are monthly payments that
must be met but the girl knows nothing
. OF them.
HINTS He HAS
BANK ACCOUNT.
He hints vaguely at & bank account.
They are married, and the deceit con.
tinues. The young bride. perhaps from
4 home where there has been little need
OF economy. unknowingly spends more
than her husband earns. Bills begin to
arrive. Still the husband does not con
feSs the real limit OF his salary, but
vainly tries to bluff It out, hoping against
hope for 4 change OF luck or a semi
expected raise in salary which never
comes.
"Quarrels over money and unpaid bills
begin TO mar the home life OF the young
couple. The outlook is dreary to the
young wife, who fears every ring Of the
docrbeu IS that OF a bill-co1Iector. The
husband begins 70 worry and IS short
tempered and cross. Things go wrong at
the office, and he takes it out in short,
spitefui words az home.
Divorce proceedings are filed, and
friends are amazed They seemed such
q happy couple all say.
As NE SAID
ONCE BEFORE.
But back OF it all is the deceit prac-
ticed by the husband during the court
ship and maintained through the short
married life.
There are cases also whore the wife
IS guilty OF deception. She Luys clothes
beyond her husbands means, charges
them and deceives her husband about
their cost. When she makes the pur-
ehases she expects to pay for them, but
how she is going TO get the money is
another question. She trusts to luck.
and usually the husband gets the bills.
and there Is a scene, tears ana bitter
words-then divorce.
"IntempeTance. OF course, is a major
factor in divorce cases. but investigation
shows that intemperance is the result,
not the cause. of married unhappiness,"
said Judge Graham.
And here the judge. who has sent many
couples reunited from his courtroom,
pointed out the remedy that might curb
the evil
COUPLES WHO
KISS ARE SAFE.
Husband an wife who trust each
other who harbOr no secrets from each
other. who kiss at parting and kiss at
the evening reunion never get into the
divorce courts.
1.-THE woman who loses at bridge and
tries to hide her losses from her hus-
band is making the gravest mistake.
THE husband who keeps his business
affairs to himself and deceives his wife
when things go wrong is counting mari
tai disaster.
IAN women like to be trusted, and
few Of them betray genuine full -hearted
confidence.
Deceit is the microbe of divorce. It
is the start Of all troubles that lead to
the divorce cOurs.
My advice to young couples just start
ing out on the uncertain voyage of matri-
mony Is TO be square with each other at
all times Then the ship will weather
every storm" he said.