South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1922-05-11
THE TROUBLE WITH MARRIAGE?

That personality who has built for herself a repu-
taton being EXPERT for the lovelorn has dis
closed the results of her years of close contact
with the unhappy
Beatrice Fairfax has been a which has ap-
pealed 10 the girls, women and men as the place
where they might and get some sort of advice
for their individual problems. She has answered
countless questions and So when she presents in
the current issue of The Cosmopolitan Magazine
the results Of her experience she is worth listening
even If you do agree
Most of the letters she gets from unhappy
wives double the number from unhappy husbands.
You are entitled to a guess as to whether there
be more UNHAPPY wives than husbands whether
men are less prone to the confession of their plight
The letters she gets from men are generally from
those over S5 years of age. Does this mark the
end of illusion the beginning of judgment
real values life?
She says that there is something wrong with mar
and gives this her final conclusion:
Marriage is a partnership-or a failure.
Unless partners subject identically the same
rules and the privileges. the firm breaks down
through animostes. Jealousies and misunderstand-
ings.
Love is the interpreter OF marriage. But love
stand the STRAIN and effort of keeping up com
munication between two changing beings who do
not to understand each others constantly modi-
fed and growing speech.
Marriage partners must learn to work together.
to speak the same language. allow for the fact
that each is an individual and give to the
other freedom to do his own part of the job
Life doesn't distribute any rrizes which haven't
teen earned. The world isn't Offering us a free
ride the stars is making US pay our way.
AS FAR as mere economics Is concerned We are
fairly we'll convinced that starve.
But when II comes to Oye-the vital food stuff
for heart and body-we go right
back TO our fairy tale days and expect beneficent
elves administer that for US.
Marriage is the best working hypothesis we have
for stabilizing love and nsuring homes and COM
Ianionshp in world loneliness and for insuring
the continuance of our race
But most OF come of the ease md comfort
of heated. electric lighted cushioned shelter
ed existence without the fairness or the courage to
face life stripped of push buttons and automatic
service"
Life deals with fact Life isn't fairy tale thing
Of marrying and living happily ever after on the
sheer momentum OF love.
Life and love and marriage are in the domain
Of reality. They have a twenty-four hour day
basis.
The husband cannot shirk the responsibility ~
wage earning any more than the woman can evade
the necessity of home making and child bearing.
For II either fails penalty is that marriage fails
something of a sermon. coming from this source
There is nothing wrong with marriage There is
something wrong with the or the woman who
views its responsibilities lightly
II is not marriage but married PEOPLE who are
wrong and who md the bonds OF love and affection
turned 10 clanking chains
And OF course. II Nigh: be we'll to remember that
while Beatrice has received some few hundred tons
Of letters from several hundreds of thousands Of
those who try 10 make themselves believe they are
unhappy there are so millions OF married
people in this country who have not yet turned TO
her or any other expert for advice
The unhappy are the exception-and they write
The happy are the normal for they are right
In Moscow they have milk famine Where's the
COW in Moscow?
Wouldn't it be funny if everybody believed every.
BODY