The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1922-06-01
Advice To The
 LOVelOrn
Who Occupies Unique Position in the Writing World as an Author
 ity on the Problems of Girls.
By Beatrice Fairfax.

I've broken by engagement" writes Maud, because the man to whom I was ready to give my heart and soul wouldn't give me fair share of his time. I don't see how we could have been contented in such a marriage as ours was bound to be. Frank would break any appointment with me if something that was inn portant to his work came along. He hurt me over and over-and left me to be lonely and to feel neglected be- cause he cared more for his work than for me- So wasn't I right to put such a man and his love out Of my life.?"
 I'm worried about my fance," writes Agnes. "He is not strong or determined. He has no sense of di- rection. He wtu always neglect an opportunity in order to be with me. ed me at first But now I wonder f we will ever get anywhere in the world. Sometimes I think I'm bad influence in Dicks life because I don't inspire him with ambition.
 He would rather sit and make love to me than make some effort to get on with his work. I tell him we have all life ahead for holding hands and that our chance to get on ana nave a 11HC OSpCAlOS OIi having a little common sense. He laughs and says I have no sentiment. But I knot I hurt him. And I can see that with our differing ideals we won't get on very well together in our marriage
 Thrills and emotion to the contrary, notwithsta nding, there is far more to be said for Agnes's almost cold-blood- ed viewpoint than for Maud's senti- mental one.
 Life is something beside romance. It has greater urges than that to make love.
 Our whole existence has an eco homie basis. We all have to deal with ''the butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker"
 A worth while man longs to save his wife from poverty and even from the minor worries of life. He wants his sweetheart to have as much com fort as he can bring to her lot. He longs to have his children we'll dress ed, well fed and we'll placed. And bends that of those who love him.
 When a girl is in love she is likely to live in a world of fancy. She is happy in her lovers arms. She re- joices in dreams of a future that is somehow, magica11y, to be bright and successful. But she forgetS that wishing won't make her life a thing of riches and beauty. She ignores the fact that work alone will bring the rewards for which she longs.
 The wise woman realizes that many clements go to make up life. She doesn't demand that her sweetheart be nothing but a lover. She wants him to be a man among men-even "a good provider'' And a man must fight for his place in the world. He must make the most of each oppor- tunity that comes. A mans love is the bigger and stronger for his real ization that love cannot be all of life. and that work supports love and earns the reward of love.
 But the man who is so selfishly bent on his career that he cannot see a loving woman's points of view and try to help hen realize her dreams, even while he is realizing his reality, isn't the sort to make a. devoted husband. Between Agnes's view of what a man should be and Maud's cry against what her man is. lies the real man, who doesn't neg 1ect his work for his love and never hurts his love for his work.