Omaha daily bee., 1922-05-17
Problems That Perplex
Answered by
BEATRICE FAIRFAX
RELIGION and Love.


Dear Miss Fairfax: I am to be
married to a man of different re-
ligion and therefore would inquire
whether 7 should stand by my re-
ligion Gin the case of probable chill
dren) and bring them up in my re-
liRion. or should they be brought up
in his religion? We have disputed
about this. Now, Miss Fairfax, don't
think a man is considered a man
when he interferes with such a
minor subject. Do you? I love this
man dearly, but there Is this draw
back.
Enlighten me, do. Miss Fairfax.
regarding above; also please give
your opinion as to whether you really
think this man loves me when such
a trifle causes continual disputes.
HANDICAPPED"
Religious beliefs are not minor
questions. Our creeds and doctrines
are part Of us But a fine faith
ought to recognize the Righteousness
OF all honest high-minded belief.
Unless a man can live and let live
and unless the man and woman can
reach q basis Of mutual respect and
understanding - they haven't much
chance Of happiness together. The
mooted question is not trifling-but
a grave issue. 1t can be met only
when the two concerned have toler-
ance and understanding. II faith
means everything to the man, and
lis q trifle to the girl, that in itself
lis a stumbling block. A serious.
generous discussion may bring the
two closer, but unless they can un-
Aderstand what Is in each others
shearts-what is the use Of their So
called love?
N Is She Trifling?
Dear Miss Fairfax: May I also
beg for some advice? I was going
with a girl 80 years old, and / am 40.
II met her at dance and fell in love
with her two days later. She told
Tme she loved me also, a month ago.
But I found she was in the habit Of
lying about herself. But I still loved
sher Just the same. I gave her some
money to get present for her
self. But I had 81 in change coming
back to me. I never got it, and she
sneyer said anything about it to me.
/ Ii she dishonest?
She does not show her love for
me like I do for her, only when she
wants to go to a show or dance, and
she don't wait for me to ask her; she
Just says II want to CO." We were
engaged to marry. but she broke it
off lately and still wants to be en-
gagged to me.
/ gave her the engagement ring.
II have caught her lying to me lately.
What do you think Is the trouble
with her now? But she told me
they were all lies and not to believe
! them, But I know they are the
truth, as have investigated same
for some time just to find the truth.
know now for sure she Is telling
lies to me. But she wants to go with
me just the same. She wants me
to get her this and that.
Don't you think she is fooling with
,me? don't believe she loves me.
do you? HEARTBROKEN.
From the meager Information you
have given me l would say the
woman is not sincere: that she goes
with you merely for the good times
YOU afford her, and for the presents
you get her. and the change which
she keeps. II you love her sincerely,
in spite Of all this, there is still a
chance for your happiness. Patience
and kindness may soften her to deal
more fairly with you. I am guess
ing that she has had experiences
which have embittered her until.now
she has no scruples- about taking
what she wants when she can get it.
Be kind to her. but don't be simple
minded about it.
A Reader: l think you did not do
wrong to write your boy friend. but
/ would not write him again without
receiving . reply.