Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1922-07-13
MARY Young" Is Part of
Advice of Noted JuriSt,
Love at First Sight Is
Secuted
BY MARGUERITE MARSHALL

bI N1ARU L EIHIE MARSHALL
NEW YORK.-"Love at first sight
is the worst possible basis for mar
riage.
Men are responsible for 65 per
cent Of the unhappy marriages;
women for 35 per cent.
"The most common cause for mat
rimonial unhappiness is neglect
When neglect begins at home, the
vamp gets a chance abroad.
Just a little hug, a little kiss
does wonders in keeping home
happy.
"The slogan for in-1aws ought to
be, Hands-and tongues-offp
THE secret of matrimonial happi-
ness is fifty-tiftv relationship, with
the wife boss at home, the husband
boss outside"
Attention, June brides and bride
groomS, to these bits of matrimonial
wisdom! They come from a real di-
Vorce-court Solomon-Judge Joseph
SABBATH, of Chicago, who, in the last
two years has adjudicated the causes
of no less than $500 warning cou-
pies in the divorce section of the
Windy City's court Of chancery.
What is even more to the point
he has succeeded in reconciling $50
Of these couples that have come be-
fore him, and in most Of the cases
the reconciliations have taken"
But the strain of being a buffer
for so many domestic combatan
wore on the judge and a fortnight
ago he asked Chief Justice Sullivan
to relieve him from his assignment
as divorce Judge" Now he is in
New York, at the Hotel Astor, with
the wife, whom he married in 1883
and on Saturday both will sail to
Europe on a new honeymoon after
thirty-four years of happy married
life, blessed with both children and
grandchildren.
An Expert
Since the judge may be taken as a
real expert, both on matrimony that
succeeds and on that kind that fails
I asked him to discuss both sorts
when I saw him at the Astor.
And the first thing l found out
is that he is neither pessimist nor
cynic on the subject of the divine
institution. His motto seems to be
''Take care Of the marriages, and the.
divorces will take care of them.
selves"
"Of course, believe in marriage"
he began, settling his brown, twink
ling-eyed self comfortably in his
chair. II believe in youthful mar
riage, too, and 1 don't belive in re-
curing parental consent"
But you must understand that
speech of the judges is not to be
taken as an Endorsement of the Ro-
meo-and-Juliet stuff, love at first
sight and at sweet sixteen-or even
fourteen, the age most learned COM
mentators ascribe to Juliet.
Boys and girls should not marry
when they are too young to do so
without the permission of their
fathers and mothers" he went on.
Eighteen for the girl and twenty,
one for the boy seems to me the
right and proper age. If, after
reaching that age, either hasn't
enough gumption to marry without
asking father, he or she is too weak.
fibred to be a successful husband o."
wife.
Although 1 think people should
marry young, 1 also am firmly OF
the opinion that they should not
marry until they know each other
very well indeed. Love at first sight
is the worst possible basis for mar
ried life. When a man meets a girl
at dance and marries her two days
later, when a girl marries a man she
hardly knows on a dare; they are
simply counting trouble in their mar
ried life. Before marrying, a young
couple should know each other S