The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1922-04-23


Mrs Charles w. Townslcy, accord
inr 10 n Washington report. advo
Gates the death pcnnly for "lOv,
thieves who steal other women'l
husbands, and declares: "Wlvei
must unite for self-protcctlon."
wonder if such women could
possibly be persuaded that they los
their husbands before tho "vanps'
found them. Tho vamp Is but "A se'
pucncc, not n prelude, 90 such NJ
fairs. Love should show n wife this
but unfortunately, Ia her Satisfied
tako-for- granted state, she is blind
Marriage and re- sarriago, separa.
tions. divorces and all angles and
situations OF marital problems, arc
filling the papers Of the day; mis-,
guided romance runs rampant.
Largely, they are the accounts and
results of Hight o. loves, the Couse.
qucnccs or hasty. thoughtloss mar.
fiages OF boys and giris and men
and women who look upon the mnr-
tiage ceremony only as an irksome
but necessary means 20 their desire
of tho moment. something to be put
aside the instant the bonds grow
taut Many OF them are characters
who think nothing OF third or
reason or creed.
On tho other hand, watch the rec
ords and you viii see that among
those wo call people OF standing
there are two distinct periods when
marriage becomes burden and the
strictures are removed, nnd In these
cases "vamps" do not play prlnci-
pal part.
Tho greatest per cent of divorces
hre granted 60 couples married but
year, or two years, young things
who have earlier been fired with a
love for love and mlstook Il for n
love for Isabel or John. Rushing
hastily IN whore mature heads would
fear to tread. time later reveals TO
them their mistake" and. acting
Just as hastily again. they secure n
divorce, little trying TO weather the
gale; little needing that 1t was for
better or worse.
1f the first five years are passed
TRANQUILITY and no rocks appear.
there Is long period when the di-
vorce courts are given something re-
sembling n rest. but then comes tho
unexpected divorce or tho man OF 40
and above and the woman a few
years his Junior the next most dis
astrous age.
In my opinion this is n fixed time
when temptation appears. the zero
hour. as I have called Il before, Of
married life, and unless character
taHes firm hold and causes him
20 Withstand the blast, Il IL the hus-
band who seeks release, the husband
who requests that she got the d.
Vorce on any grounds she may
please.
In the beginning they start out
together for n life struggle. lIo is
ambitious and has no time or money
Tor bright lights or distractions out
side. His wife has knuckled down
at home with the children and the
house, and gives most OF her Thought
and labor to making both ends meet.
fifteen, 20 years go by. and he
"mergcs In hs prime. His long
years OF conflict with the business
world have developed him greatly.
the sprinkle OF gray over his temples
hdds 10 his appearance. he is alert.
wen fixed, one OF the men about
town. and he preens himself over
his success, looks about as one who
deserves a holiday. and feels a few
or the good things of life are his
due.
But the little wife does not paral-
labor that has been hers. have NOT
left her improved. She is worn.
weary, satisfied and drab, and soon
What she is pleased to call tho
Namp' has presented herself to tho
comfortable, long taxen -for-grantcd
husband, and found n "reluctant''
response. Then It IS that the heart =
broken little woman Is gently told
or the real love that has come
INTO his life. a settlement is ar
ranged, and the Judge does the rest
What bitterness and blame she
leels Is directed against the "other
her husband was lost before Tho
Samp got control.
Husbands are "lost" because thew
are taken too much for granted. held
700 matter-of-factly. Women grow
SO used 10 looking upon them ms
property that they forget they aro
not IN reality "a machine, a machine
that works back and forth I'm n
groove from home to office and Of
nee 10 home, with no relief from
monotony, no spice that makes the
groove worth enduring. 1t is that
S,oioflessness about marriage that
MUS n mans love. that worse than
pihtonic state that comes nftor IA
ana 2 years OF coniugal stagnatlon.
III her husband is an easy marx
Tor another woman, "A wife should
know long before a love thief even
suspects. Love should tell her. and
When she knows she should arouse
herSelt, bring forth once more her
FORMER charms and reclaim what she
mas permitted 10 stray. Love thieves
DO not steal husbands; love thieves
but hang around when they see hus-
oahds that are lost. because they
know they can easily be found"
some husbands go through life
wondering II their wives love thcm.
"hlIe others 80 through life wonder
ing II they love their wives
Both conditions could be clsarcd
II the wife came out OF that 'used :
to-you attitude. introduced some OF
the old piauancy. variety and in
trisue OF the past, and climaxed IL
by occnsionally confessing her love
ana devotion to- him, acknowledgin.
by words instead OF her treadn,iii
deeds that he Is all she has 10 iivs
for, and without him life would he
blank indeed Nv
Never again would he doub, ba,
love: and. strangely, never n,at,
would she doubt his. e"''
Man has his dangerous apa" n,
well as woman. At 40 ana N, "a
Graves happiness. Time IS fleet,ra
early life has been struxpls IL
deserves love. and Il Is now or neva,
TOO often he has not the power /