The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1922-06-14
Advice To The
LOvelOrn
BY Beatrice Fairfax.
Who Occupies a Unique Position In
the Writing World As An Author
ity On the Problems of Girls

Who Occupies Unique Position In
the Writing World As An Author
ity On the Problems of Girls
I'm twenty-eight,'' writes Aline.
And I've just had my first proposal.
I don't know whether to accept or
not. And this is why. I'm not at
tractive to men. I have a lot of
women friends and old folks and chill
dren like me. But I'm not pretty or
coquettish, and L take things ser1-
ously and haven't the taste or the
money to dress very snnartly. So
have been passed by by most of the
men I meet.
"And now there's a man of thirty
five, 11-educated, of fine charac-
ter and with a splendid income.
I don't know why he cares for me,
but he does Nothing is too much for
me. Can you see my trouble? 1t
may be that I'm flattered by the first
serious attentions I've ever had. 1t
may be that I dread being an old
maid and am thinking of any port
in a storm.
ct like this man and enjoy being
with him. But there's no thrill in
his touch and I don't have chills up
and down my spine when he speaks
to me. I'm always peaceful and con-
tented when he is around. But
have no experience by which to meas
ure my feelings. 1 don't want to
fail this man in any way-and maybe
it needs more romance to be a good
wife. I am proud of George, and
L wouldn't wish to marry him unless
I can give him 100 per cent. Now, as
I've diagnosed myself. do you think
it is fair to him to say, 'Yes?' And
do you think I'd be passing by my
chance for real romance?''
A fine letter from a fine woman
thisi 1 fancy that the man she mar
ries will not be cheated of anything
| that is beautiful and real. Moreover
I fancy that the man to whom she is
so eager to be fair has a real hold
on her heart But I dare not venture
| to advise any woman to marry while
! there is a doubt in her mind. So let
| US study what real love is
| Love-Eke religion-has to be
| taken a little on faith.
Most of our deepest and most beau
| tifu1 feelings exist because of some
| thing that we do not strive to analyze
and weigh and prove. So love has TO
trust somewhat to its own growth and
| power. 1t must have the simple con-
| fidence which makes childhood give
such loyal faith to its leaders and
| guides.
| Love isn't a matter of thrills and
| excitement. It is a matter of deep
and tender feelings, of congeniality.
of devotion and of the se1f1ess giving
| which passion does not know Pas
| sion takes. It demands: Loves gives
| With a background of admiration
and, congeniality, with tender and
| understanding and sympathy as part
| of a mans feeling for a woman-and
a woman's feeling for a. nan-Pm in
clined to think that the quiet peace
full love may have far more depth
than the turbulent thing of mad de-
sire and wild thrill
We are all hungry for romance
But we are likely to mistake madness
for romance may be as gen
tie and tender and quiet as the air OF
| Spring.
When a woman yearns to give a
man one hundred per cent. and longs
| to be fair with him. and finds peace
and contentment with him, and gives
him admiration and respect and
realizes that nothing is too good
for her-she stands on the borderland
of romance. Perhaps if she ventures
like a child, trusting and hoping fol
the glow to illuminate all the beauty
of her twilight heart-she will find
the one true romance for which we
all long.