South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1922-04-30
Petty jealousy
By Leila B. Rostiser


USBA NIs-before you hand
IL this paper 20 your wife with
4 i The remark. Here is an ar
t..e you need 10 read. my dear" IL
would 5e weE for you 90 peruse the
following two para graphs which are
written Tor your benefit alone
Many a woman is accused OF be
ing jealous when she is only defend
ing self-respect NO matter how
loyal a husband may be. a wife
Will exhibit resentment which IS
sometimes mistaken for jealousy
when husband thoughtlessly
ohends her dignity fla forgetting the
courtesy which IS always her duo.
In this day when IL IS so evident that
men choose first and regret after
ward Dol the matter OF rnatrimOny a
wise husband who desires a secure
and contented wife VIII remind her
every now and then that she still IS
tho choice Of his heart.
DO not accuse OF Jealousy the
woman who has expended youth.
beauty. personality or whatever
quality she may have possessed that
attracted you 10 her. II she express
irritabllity when you OverdO your
self in attention 20 other women in
public places. or when you fail to
give her tbe consideration that the
role or w1fehood may always prop
erly demand When a woman ceases
20 feel the neglect OF one she loves
she begins not 20 love. Many a man
congratulates himself on the fact
that his wife IS becoming a sensible
and obhging creature when really
she IS becoming quite Indifferent.
The woman who serenely accepts
her husbands bestowal Of attentions
on other women without comment.
has found her vital interest in the
personality OF some one else.
Now for my beloved women read
e-s,
jealousy IS the poisonous weed in
the garden OF love and the jealous
wife must cultivate common sense
81 she successfully combats the evil
that exists IN her garden. Probably
the best solution of the problem is
careful consideration OF facts
When you are assailed with foolish
suspicious. remind yourself that
your husband selected YOU Of all wo-
men 20 become his wife Remem-
Der too. that YOU have his love and
daily companionship. You appeal
TO his intellect and in close associa-
ton YOU may II you choose make
him consider you fondly but you
cannot expect him 10 eliminate
every other interest which amuses
or claims him. You show no evil
dence of real affection If you be-
come Jealous Of that which occupies
his attention or amuses him. You
simply show q narrow mindedness,
rooted iu self-love. You have the
liberty conveyed by marriage OF
making an important or unimport-
ant sphere in your husbands life,
once confident OF your own worth,
you viii, never doubt your true place
On his affections.
Women fail to take into consid-
Grafton how little sentiment rs i'm
hued in the heart Of men. After
marriage q man likes to be loved
practically and places high value on
mis- comfort. his peace of mind, an
orderly home and a we'll cooked
dinner Every time a woman allows
unreasona BILE jealousy 70 deprive
him OF his peace of mind which he
cherishcs She makes it more pos
.sible for him 60 contrast a sulleu.
reproachful wife with the smiling,
agreeable women he meets else
where
Become comradc 10 your hus-
band and as such make HIM feel
that hc may voice his confidence
freely % YOU and that YOU under
stand him fully IF he expresses ad-
mirauou of other women-even Law
Ish admiration - brace yourself up
So need DE and agree with him re-
eardlesS even though his taste be
under your head and show him that
you can be polite even gracious to
the women whom he admires. You
viii be 8stonished on close acquaint-
once how perfectly harmless are
these women YOU have labeled as
dangerous rivals.
Very likely you Yourself with good
grace express your admiration OF
this or t1Trrr--7- friend. You sure
IS want 10 5SccoTd the same liberty
yoU take 90 YOU not? Why then.
object when YOUR husband avails
himself or the same privilege