Norwich bulletin., 1922-09-02
MANNING IN sooIErY.

Dear Social Corner Sisters: This ques- tion was asked: How should one train for society?, I know of a woman after years of humble living was waited unex- cectedly to Newport on the wings of sud- den wealth, and there succeeded in "mak- ing good" She is said to have done so with the aid of a trainer-a social trainer, of course.
 This trainer, when asked what was the first thing he taught the invader. said : ITO be quiet" She was a loud taker. which, he said, was the height of vu1- garity. She had a habit of calling her servants her children when she wanted to speak. She was Of an energetic, bustling disposition. The first thing she had to learn was to make no more noise than was absolutely necessary. Then, he said, I engaged an elocution teacher for her. You wouldn't believe the impr it made in her voice. In two weeks that rasping tone was eliminated. I consider a screech an offense to humanity, and I taught her if she was in a hotel train or in any public place to maintain the golden silence which should be the ideal of every traveller.
 Never quote the price of articles you buy Never talk so outsiders will know your business.
 In commenting on the above ctrcnm- stances would say that the above is very good" but I can point out the facts that women can have free elocution lessons by taking some thought and trou- ble about it. When we go to church CT to lecture, to a club meeting or po- litical meeting (which women frequent now). we can listen attentive1y to the men and women who speak well and try to learn from them what qualities to cultivate, while from the poor speaker we shall learn to be on the lookout for the same fault in ourselves and try to overcome or at least modify them.
 It is far more important for the aver age woman that she should talk well than that she should sing well People are not forced to listen to your singing, but your friends, your family. your fellow citizens have to hear you talk. And we can avoid making unnecessary noise. I would say Be as nearly noiseless in your house as you can be- so your neighbors will bless you. and your landlord will refrain from raising your rent. Never use big words unless you fully understand, their mean. | ing-for you might adjust them to the 1 wrong sentence. I know of a party whose education was somewhat in arrears. She used large words but did not always get them in the right place She was a scream for her friends to listen to. I dc not belong to society, neither do care tc enter therein, but I have been a business woman long enough to learn how to ap. preciate the charm of lovable women | You asked me if would tell you what called the charm of a lovab.e woman. ] Very lovahle Is the woman who ha. cultivated disposition angelic enough tt see the good and not the vile side oi human nature. who can be severe witt her own failings and excuse the faults o i others
 We are told that she is a dull, unin. | teresting creature; and if we take trou i ble to look into the matter she does no laugh at her neighbours pet weakness she does not enjoy hitting out right ant l left at the world at large and is alway i ready with a plea for unseen reason which if they should be revealed, woult go long way toward modifying harsl 1 judgment.
 My lovable woman may not be witty she may be a little prosy, but she it is t whom we go for sympathy when we ar in trouble, and confide with a feelinl that our secret will not be torn to shred as soon as our back is turned.
 Did you ever hear What May gave f
 her famiiy?" She gave an hour of pa tient care to her little baby sister v-h was cutting teeth She gave a strin
 and crooked pin to her 3 year ol brother who wanted to play fishing. sh
 gave Ellen. the maid, a precious hour t
 go and visit her sick baby at home. fo
 Ellen was a widow, and left her child a its grandmother's while she worked f
 get bread for both.
 This was not all May gave. Sh
 dressed herself so neatly. and looked s
 bright and kind and obliging. that sh
 gave her mother a thrill of pleasur
 whenever she caught sight of the youn
 pleasant face She wrote letter to he
 father, who was absent on business; sh , gave patient attention to a long story b her grandmother and when it was ende
 made the old lady happy by a good-nigf
 kiss. Thus. she had given valuable pre-
 ents to six people in one day, and yet st
 had not a cent in the world.
 So you see we can be useful. Usefu
 ness of any man or woman lies principa
 ly in the willingness back of the hands
 do as well as you possibly can whatev, comes your way As rule 1t will 1
 found the most useless persons in Il
 world are those who are waiting f, something to turn up and by the san
 sign 1t is fact the most useful persol
 are those who have taken up che fir
 thing that came to hand and done fl } best they could with it. These peop !, usually find something to their liking { the long run, too. If Gilis be denied ther 2 they have the good sense to learn to lil ] what comes
 ? co-BAR.