Albuquerque morning journal. [volume] (Albuquerque, N.M.) 1903-1926, 1922-08-09
BY MRS. w. L. GEORGE
(This is the first article Mrs.
George has ever written).

NNN'AH5 SAtSlA oWh way - ySN
really want man to do something
do not suggest TO him that he would
like 1t. Vanity plays quite as large
apart in mans character as it does
in womans. Therefore, to create that
atmosphere Of holy calm and peace,
1t is wise to let the man feel that
he alone is responsible for every
thing pleasant that happens; to sug-
gest that when the fish doesn't ar
rive for dinner this wouldn't have
happened If only he had given tho
order.
My position was not quite that Of
the ordinary bride, as l came to a
house that had been in running
order for soma years; not only had
1 to manage two little sons but also
servants who had their own routine
Of work. found had more or less
to adapt myself to the household
and not the household to me. My
husband had warned me before our
marriage that the cook had been
with him for six years, and that If
we did not get on together one of us
would have to leave. Before our
marriage he had managed the house.
hold himself, in my opinion inef-
ficiently and extensively; but he
was very pleased with himself; he
therefore considered that it was up
to me to get on with the cook.
1t Is astonishing how Impractical
men are in the house when one con-
siders the method and precision with
which they manage their businesses.
For instance, it took me considerable
time to convince my husband that it
would be easier to- convert one Of
the drawing room windows into
French window than to erect steps
up to a sash window. and another
night OF steps down to a roof garden
we were building. l did not say he
was wrong. That would have been
fatal. merely bewailed the bad
building of English windows; I led
him to talk Of windows in general;
1 led the conversation to French
apartments! Then, In a burst of
imagination he, not I, had the great
idea. 1t was he who suggested the
French window wanted, The chief
thing in marriage is to convince the
male Of his superiority. He will then
not worry himself as to who really
gives the orders.
When I married I thought I was
undertaking to look after husband,
house and two little boys, but after
five months of marriage I sometimes
wonder whether 7 have not under
taken the care Of two little boys, one
house and Il >. by. THE man who
understands all about women" Is
much akin to the men who don't.
Like other men he requires imme-
date sympathy with his pleasures
and pains; irteres in the latest thing
which interests MIN; when he is de-
pressed he demands that l should
find for him other amusements. But
he differs from other men mas
much that, when he has had fair
innings and talkeC about the things
which interest him, he is willing to
listen for few llnutes to the things
which interest ne, and which / con.
slider it Is good for him to share in.
- Naturally, having been given tho
reputation of knowing all about
women, he thinks that he knows all
about me dom to the smallest de.
Ntail, He is convinced that he can
always read my thoughts, and at one
time we used to hav. long arguments
when l ineekly tried to assert what
was really occupyin. my mind. Now,
for the sake cf peace, I generally
tell him what a wonderful insight he
has, and then Sc his satisfaction to
persuade him to give in to me ON
some point 20 which he has pre-.
viously refused his consent.
z One very subtlo method he em-
ploys with me 80 to insist that I
should make = own decision about
things connected with myself or the
children, but he Is far too clever to
Oh chic Iina ovpnpttnur uyI he L.
quite sure tina. it is a decision on
which | shall need his advice. This
has caused me many hours Of dis
tress, but have now discovered that
It often suffices to draw him gently
into an argument and thus get his
opinion without definitely asking for
his advice. If in this manner I fail
to get my own way, l create about
myself an atmosphere Of deepest de-
preston and gloom. until. being I'M
able to bear with this any longer, he
at last relents.
One popularity Of his. Of which he
is totally unaware, but which in tho
youngest boy is rapidly developing,
is an obstinacy which takes the form
of greeting any new suggestion with
the words: II won't" For instance,
I told him that he needed a new
spring mattress for his bed also, a
few days later, suggested that his
country suit was In rags and must
be replaced. Both suggestions.
though obviously sensible, were
greeted without any hesitation by:
II won't"
We argued the matter at some
length, and was told that II new
mattress appeared he would throw
It out of the window, After an ex-
hausting half hour gave way. Then