The Rock Island Argus and daily union. (Rock Island, Ill.) 1920-1923, 1922-06-19


would not advise you to adopt
custom which seems wrong to Won
There are ways of making your
selves beautiful which are mora
conservative than bobbed hair and
short dresses. I would suggest
that you study fashion books and
see if you can't improve the color OF
your garments and the method OF
combing your hair. Also stav
away from dances unless you are
escorted to them.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: have
been married two years and would
get along all right if 1t were not for
NV husbands sister. She writes
only to him either ignoring OF in
sulting me in every one of her let
tiers and | dare not say anything
about it or my husband gets raw
ing and tells me to leave or he win
leave me.
have written her two letters
since l have been married. The
first she answered. but wrote in
sultfngly the next time.
She is a middle aged woman and
it seems to me she could let Young
people alone, but 1 know she is
trying to part us and l believe she
will do ii.
| am becoming so nervous over
her letters that after each one of
them l have a week Of misery for
sometimes my husband will 20
days without so much as looking
my way.
He wants to go there on a visit
and insists that l go along. He
upholds her to her face against
me the same as he does in letters.
You see what a time I have with
both of them. 1t is nothing for
her to tell me to shut up If she
feels like it.
Please tell me if 1 ought to go,
and do you suppose my husband
will ever be any different or just
selfish all his life? | will be ner-
vous wreck if things don't get
better.
We haven't any children.
HELEN s.
You have taken unwise tactics
y
know that his love and loyalty to
his sister are very strong, YOU
should absolutely refrain from say
ing anything that would put him
in defense of her. To keep silent
when she insults you would not
compromise you, because the sting
of her words would only react on
her. If you sealed your lips tight !
ly and made no comment, your hus-
band would be far more apt to con-
slider the words of his sister I'M
fair.
Do not let another person poison
your life. Remain sweet in spite
of the bitterness that comes YOUR
way. If you force harsh and re-
sentful thoughts from your mind
and think love and happiness, YOU
will be in a better state of mind to |
keep your husbands love and TO L
live tremendously with him.
At present I would not adviss
you to visit the sister. Until y0a
have gained control of your nerves
and thoughts, you would go all t0f
pieces because of her unkind treat
ment. 1t would be far better TO
take a definite stand and to refuse Y
absolutely to go at present
Never again say anything re-
garding your sister in-law's let.
tiers. Even if your husband trieSf
to drag you out on the subject
seal your lips tightly and make no :
comment unless it can be kind
1t is foolish to think that azztheF
woman can separate your hzsb.tnd
from you by her meanness, unless
you are unreasonable, too. Be Bk
bigger soul than your sisteT-in-
law, but to be bigger you will have.A
to forget malice and not judge lief. Z
Dear Mrs. Thompson: PLEASE
tell me where a book case IS sup B
posed to be? l have it in the den h
and people say it belongs to the
living room. UNDECIDED. d
1t seems TO me a den would be !
very good place for a BOOB case
In many homes where there are a 4
lot of books, instead of calling the +
room a den it is called
library Usually a living room is
so full of life that il is more
pleasant to have the books in a
more quiet place so that the per
son reading will not be disturbed 4
by the conversation of others