The Washington times., 1922-09-17
rARRIAGE means a good deal

qhe woman has none. 1t is safe TO
siIr that for Q young woman her
most important step in life is mar.
~ arc To a young woman the most
his ortant person In the world Is
~" man she Is going to marry, for
r : going. to be part OF her life.
sn q very considerable part.
~. rpose you: could choose your
@ y father or mother. How care.
ft,rou would be to select the best
possiblel Your husband will be
as much In your life as your
father or mother has been. Yet
some girls take up with a ran
without Knowing anything more
about him than he shows when on
exhibition. '.'r.''
Every man who courts a girl Is
on exhibition. He, 10 at his best.
II you take your estimate of him
= from his own words. you will be-
heve you have the finest man that
ever lived. It 10 easy for a man
TO be nice to q girl II he is at.
traetsd to her. He can hardly
help 1t.
FINDING OUT TOO LATE.
Some men who are angels In love
are brutes In marriage. After tho
spell Of Ioyemaking Is over. the
man returns to normal. It is his
normal self that you will have in
marriage. Try therefore to know
swhat kind Of normal man he Is
who courts you. For the sake Of
little vanity or brief enjoyment
do not give yourself to a man
whom you do not know well.
Why are there so many un-
satisfactory marriages nowadays?
II is because the man does not
know the girl and the girl does
not know the man. They think
they do. But II is harder to know
q man or woman than to know
anything else in this world. Yet
young people will often fancy that
they know each other after very
short association. They forget that
there is more camouflage in court.
ship than in anything else except
war. Indeed we may leave out
war and put the other first.
A man presents his best. ana
only his best. to the girl he courts.
OF course, that Is right-for him.
But she should realize that he will
not always be at his best, and that
she should discount a good deal II
she wants to know what he is
normally.
How often have I heard mar.
ried women say, 20, II only had
known him I never would have
married himr' Perhaps he says the
same Of her. At all events 1t brings
home the point I wish to make. A
young woman should be more care
full about the man she keeps
company with than about any
other tnlng IN iie.
FIRST PLAUSIBLE MAN.
And yet see how many fine
sirls rush to the first plausible
man who holds out q hand to them
Often, too, It happens that q girl,
after she has found that the man
4. undesirable, will continue with
him. She fears talk. What will
peop,e say? Her vanity or pride Sr
weakness makes her give her hand
n not her heart, in marriage. And
then she wonders that her married.
life Is a nightmare.
The time to consider the man Is
before you have decided to let him
keep constant company with you.
Do not allow a man to be your
constant admirer until you know
who and what he is. Do not let
him spend money on you unless
YOU know all about him.
In Catholic countries. where q
marriage is always q careful pro-
cedure, there are few unhappy
unions. But in this country ana
in these times, wherein one
scarcely knows anybody. and
where there In 20 much mingling
NJ the sexes and 80 little Of home
life and neighborly acquaintances.
n In different ana dangerous.
A girl frequently starts to keep
constant company with q man
ot whom she knows little or moth
ing. What IL the resultr Very
often q broken life.
TAKEN AT FACE VALUE.
Girls, do not take q man at
his face value. Have him see you
at your home, and you see him
at his home. before you allow him
20 70 out with you regularly. And
when you keep company with
him, ask the opinion Of your par
ents about him.
I know that this will be useless
advice to some girls. They con.
slider that in this matter they are
the sole and capable Judges. Very
well. They will not be the first to