Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1922-01-07
She Played Fast and Loose

Dear Cynthia-About eight month:
ago met young man who immedi
ately, 1t seems, took a great liking tc
me. He invited me out several times
week and when had no other en-
vitations Ae that time had several
other interesting friends who called
on me frequently. For the past siS
months or so I dropped all others and
continued only with Henry, as call him
Henry proposed to me after the second
week of our acquaintance. but thought
that that was too quick and that we
could not know each other well enough
yet to consider marriage. and told
MIN so: But he always had that idea
IN mind and never failed to mention his
desire to become engaged every time
we were together
dropped all my other friends, as
Henry objected TO my going with others
and, secondly, because | liked him bet.
Oct me say here that some of the
others were serious In their intentions
lie Is young man who had very little
education, not because he had no oppor.
tunity, but because he did not care and
would not go to school His family is
well to do and mine Is in ordinary cir.
cumstances. was graduated from
high school in Buffalo. n. Y. last year.
My other friends were mostly college
friends, but seemed at that time to
prefer Henrys company to any others,
though was not proud to introduce him
to my acquaintances because of his very
little education.
| have a sister who Is married. but
unfortunately. is not happy. and believe
that looking at her married life and
be OF my future husband. though, as
repeat. l thought n great deal Of him),
kept me from accepting his proposal.
But did not refuse him. I simply
urged that there was time and no hurry
about Il all. He Is in position TO
marry and Is several years Older than I.
have Q younger sister who became
acquainted with Henry's sister and
were very good friends until my breaN
with Henry. six weeks ago. Henry had
talks. In fact, he improved as time
went on, was very liberal with candy
and flowers for me and showed in all
ways that he cared for me in the right
way.
Our break came about in this way:
As usual. he had spoken 70 me Of mar.
rlage the last time I saw him and did
not seem any more enraged than at
any other time and left after telling
me We would see a show on Saturday
evening. Well. he did not phone me
after that evening, as was his custom,
and did not come Saturday either.
knew that something was wrong, because
he had not called me up and therefore
decided not to be prepared to go to the
theatre II he should come. I waited,
but felt so furious that he disappointed
something he had never done), that !
went to the phone and called HIM
asked him whether he thought he was
doing as a gentleman; why he never
let me knoY that he did not expect to
keep the engagement So he answered
that he has been thinking things over
and decided that he ought to stay away
for several months TO see what turns
up" He apologized for not having
called me, and since then l have not
think could be the trouble? Surely he
hasn't forgotten me already. Do you
think he Ia Just stubborn and that he
is doing right by keeping to his prom.
ise? Or do you think II could be thisr
Ills sister sister gave hrods tea party several i
and were invited Do you think his
family objected to me and that Is why
he keeps away? But that would not
be true love on his part to allow himself
to be influenced by his famly's criti-
clsm q do not doubt his love). I as
sure you that they could not find fault
with me, as am we'll liked every place,
considered good.looking, we'll built ana
play any string instrument well. His
sister has not been friends with mine
since.
Cynthia, do you think ought 10
make any advance? really miss him
very much and have no other friends
who invite me out or call on me- as
they all knew | was keeping company.
What should I say IL they ask what
has become of my friend? Another
thing, besides not having heard a word
from him. he did not even send me n
card on Christmas / certainly expected
candy from him.
Please, Cynthia. answer my questions
and what you think of II all and what
Is best for me to do? hope / have not
written too much, but I thought you
ought to have all details in order to
better understand and advise. Thank.
ing you, l am.
MISS UNDERSTOOD.
1t is not difficult TO know what the
trouble Is The young man has shown
you every attention and repeatedly asked
you TO marry him and you have put
him off and played with his offer and
accepted his gifts and attentions, but
will not say yes or no. He Is quite
right to stay away and refuse to be
made a fool of. And his staying away
Will probably show you your heart bet.
ter, and you will know whether you
care or not and once you know, my
dear, be woman enough to say so. No
woman has right to play fast and loose
with a man as you acknowledge you
have. Wise reading together will help
the want Of knowledge. And II YOU
love him never think OF being ashamed
of him.