The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1922-01-22
Man Cannot
Women
nv NORA COLE SKINNER

40 woman rellsnes snatlng the
.,i,c, of her affections. And few
romer win agree that the object
-, dispense his affections share and
,ssre aliko or even retain a partial
,,ro for one while adoring another.
70 nut Il frankly II not brutally.
- v.lfe believes her husband can
"a. her while at the same time n
4 iisrantly and illicitly enjoys an az
sif with another woman.
ADD vet very high minded
.hysirfen told me he believed Il was
,oss.bla and very superior social
ser,lro worker told me she believed
h happened repeatedly
The discussion came up. In n very
tangent sort OF way. The clever
headline OF a feature story read:
.srbonas jefferson Loved Two
vnuon at once" Naturally I read
3, probably every woman who saw
,bat paper did 1.-the same, but as was
An bs expected. It was found tina.
Tbomaa jefferson only thought he
ioyed TWO women at once--and ulti-
natoy one OF them triumphed and
retained his heart 10 the end.
Jefferson while attending william
and Mary college fell passionately in
~ with the fascinating Belinda
4 p1p but Mistress Page threw him
ovtr and Harried another, whereat
,he fuurd president swore he would
be true To her memory, and straight
way became n woman hater OF the
staurchest kind.
But jefferson reckoned without
kpowlodgo of the beautiful girlish
A
nor fathcr's home, the Forest, near
Williamsburg, he was often a week.
end gues. Accomplished on the
,plnlt. she played the accompani-
ments to his violin, while in the~se-
durtive atmosphere of soft music
and cougenial conversation they
mourncd thoir lost loves in unison.
ANY one with hah an eye or half r
heart knows how soon Belinda was
forgot with the triumphant APP
proach and terrific onslaught OF a
new love god.
II was only the heading that
brought on the discussion and led
ia serious thought regarding the
ladiess OF some men for the mar
rIlgo vow and the paradox OF those
vM hold fast 10 their wives while
nerslstentiy untrue and abhorrently
} faithless TO the sacredness OF marital
life.
The doctor said he had man after
man come TO him professionally who
IN the course OF time acknowledged
that they loved two women at once,
that they loved the woman with
whom they illicitly associated, yet
because Of their love for wife and
children would not have their double
life revealed for all the money In
the world.
This doctor believed the men
spoke the truth; that they actually
loved both women.
The social service worker, dealing
with humanity OF n great city, thA
derellct and the vagrant the owl
and the good. the unworthy and the
unfortunate. said she had helped
many "A man whom she honestly be-
\ leyed loved his wife while at the
ame time loving another woman.
who confessed that he did not want
10 relinduish the sordid attachment,
yet could not bear to have his wife
pass out Of his life.
These people know more whereo;
they sneak and vet, ask any woman
Of refinement. any woman OF cut
mre. Just any true wife, in fact, and
though the doctor with all his
theories and study says Yes" and
the social service worker with all
her experience and knowledge OF
heartaches saws YES" she, from
out no depths save that OF a loving
faithful heart. cries--"No, no, II
can't be DONE
The unfaithful husband thinks H.
loves his wife. He but loves the
things his wife stands fore
spectablity. position in the recog-
nlzed social andhs business world
H children, a home, regular meals, and
attention % the material sense; he
does not love the woman herself.
He may have touch OF sympathy
for his wife that at times arouseS
something akin 10 affection, thin
streak OF honor may survive that in
duced spasmudic moments of re
morse and tenderness, but these
emotions arc not love. Love come:
In n6 half measure. no diluted So
htlons. no degrees of weight. Love
II an giving and all acccptinA anc
Ahen this perfection is reached tht
hart ls too occupied for outside
reciprocity.
As some believe in the case OF q
Christian life. there can also be q
back-sliding and n reclamation In
4 the conjugal realm. In trylne
times, when care. children, persona
neglect and resultant aggravatinf
temper have wrought havoc Will
wife and home atmosphere, In mo
nients OF masculine rebellion
y dependency. weakness and tempta
Il, uon, love flies out the window ent
Y another usurps the throne.
But love for wife has, In truth
flown with the coming OF success
sor, thev do not reign together, ant
only with the destruction OF th'
allen affection can he with re
pentant and contrite heart agair
love that which is his own.
4 Can man love and not keep faiti
a fih the object Of his love? Die
4 %nedict Arnold love the American
4 oolonics' Did Brutas love Caesar
a o'd Judas love Christ?
Il Love inspires loyalty. trust, keep
Il ING and faith
II An, yes he may slip and he re
Il .uumed; love died and was restore,
4 asiln but persistent falthlessnos
answers It's own query--love is ex