The Washington times., 1922-06-27
Business SIS
Ambition
Living
BY Beatrice Fairfax,
Who Occupies q Unique Position In
the WHITING World rs an Author
ity on Love and Romance.
SSTHE man I expect to marry
some day is making me

kS" HE man i expect 10 nhrry
some day is making me
u very unhappy writes c.
J. w. We've been friends for
two years. 1t isn't that he has
come right out and asked me to
be engaged. It's Just that he
doesn't go around with other girls
and acts as If he loved me and is
always talking Of our future. So
/ think l have a right to plan my
life with him in 1t. But he neglects
me SO that can't be happy. He
works three nights a week. He
goes to lodge one night.
"One evening he spends with a
crowd Of men friends. And he al
ways goes home for Sunday with
his mother in the country. And
that leaves two evenings for me
Wednesday and Saturday. II
have something important on for
one Of those evenings, he tries to
be nice about it. But l know he
is hurt. Only It never occurs to
him to substitute on of his busy
evenings for 1t. So sometimes I
see him only once a week. We've
talked things over but to no avail.
He seems to think his lodge and
his boy friends all important. But
nothing I want to do counts.
He says that If l cared to see
him Wednesday and Saturday, I'd
keep these evenings open-and IL
don't he isn't to blame. A little
coldness is growing between US.
And yet l feel can't live with
out him. I can't give in. But I
want to find a way to make him
treat me right"
Here's another letter which
tells practically the same story.
Rosa writes:
I'm secretly engaged to a man
of whom / think the world. But
I'm not happy because don't
think he's treating me right. He
always has excuses about seeing
his partner on business or hav-
ing to go out OF town on bust.
ness or having to take customers
to dinner. And often these things
come up at the last minute and
I find myself sitting at home
night after night crying my eyes
out"
Now while sympathize most
earnestly with the girl who finds
that having "A mans love doesn't
assure you Of his attention and
devotion all the time, I'm not
sure that either c. J. w. or Rosa
or any of the numerous other girls
who write me to the same effect
are doing much to improve their
situations.
AS long as there are such things
in the world as business and am
bition and the need Of making a
living, men are going to be off
about their affairs on numerous
occasions when their women folks
would like them to be dane
attendance.
Love and marriage are the seri-
Gus business, Of life. A man needr
the equipment of money and
bright future before he takes unto
himself a wife. A man doesn't
give up all desire to get ahead in
the world the minute he finds
the girl he wants to get ahead
for. And IL he did-who would
suffer more because OF his shift
, lessness" than his wife?
The woman whose love is big
and constructive must teach her
self to share a mans ambitions.
Shc aust urge him on ~ achieve
ment. She mustn't put the mo-
ment ahead Of the great future
of days and years.
II a man is SO absorbed in his
own viewpoint, however. that he
doesn't see his sweetheart as an
individual with lcngings and hopes
and desires Of her own-then he
Is selfish-but, perhaps, nothing
worse. And even a selfish man
can be educated by a girl who
has tact and love and patience
and understanding.