The Indianapolis times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1922-1965, 1922-10-10

AGbAsS 'NhN HAhARS 1N4A~
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For centuries, marriages were "ar-
ranged and brides and bridegrooms
had little to say about their choice.
Parents came to agreements, dow
ries were fixed and the wedding date
was set sometimes before the prospec-
tive bride and groom has met.
Occasionally a rebel daughter or son
refused to wed the choice of his par
ents. But such unorthodox proceed
ings were few.
Sometimes these fixed" marriages
were very happy; sometimes the bride
and groom made a p~retense of being
happy, and again even the pretense
was lacking.
Today all that is changed. The
right to love has been established.
Still. occasionally we find a fixed"
marriage, wen in America, and with
it we usually find unhappiness.
Dear Miss Lei am a girl IS years old
800 NFE va ~ a AAAd4
eight years my senior. My parents forced
this marriage upon me.
We have a wonderful home and he gives
me everything thai money can buy. but /
nave none of tho affection and companion
ship that l so desire. He tolls me to go out
and enjoy myself. but how can I. when he
will not accompany me any place?
Because OF my husbands neglect. ] have
been thrown with his best friend many
times and am sure that / care much more
for him than for my husband. although he
cannot give me the things I have always
This friend is nearer my age and I am
sure he cares for me. but we never for a
moment have forgotten that 1 am married.
have tried 10 overcome my husbands
coldness. but my efforts have all been In
vain. What shall / doY Shall / continue
this borcsome existence with my husband. Or
do as my heart dictates?-JEAN b.
Answer-It is a dangerous thing to
advise divorce through a column Ike
this. because I might then be- accused
In other cases, However, in this in.
stance, it seems the only solution. IN
less you have exaggerated your griev-
ances.
But you should not rush out Of one
marriage and into another. You still
are very young. BE sure you really
are In love before you marry again.
And give your husband a warning Of
what YOU intend to do. He may not
realize you really are unhappy.
Answer TO DOUBTFUL-Don't mar
~ either tho man who could give you
everything" or the man who is
handsome and kind" You don't love
either Of them. Perhaps YOU viii lat
er. Then you will not have TO ask
some one else whom you should
marry.
Answer TO FAITH. When n per.
son says ne is glad he met you. you
should indicate that you also have en-.
joyed meeting him.
2. 1t Is proper to extend sympathy
to members Of n family in which a
death has occurred. However, &c some
~ the people do not care 10 meet Wis
itors Mt that time, you can sead q
note Of sympathy.
3. 1t is correct 70 tell people you
appreciate their sympathy.
4. Wealth and beauty 90 not rulo
love. The fact that you ara a fac
tory girl and the mar is n business
man with a good position would not
necessarily mean that he did no. love
you.
However. you say that he has ''just
about quit gambling" and that he
drinks when he gets a chance. as
they all do" The fact that your
friends a you ought TO scold him
indicates the gambling and drinking
are more serious than yoI Seem 10
think. Unless I am mistaken IN com
ing to this conclusion, I ,hiat YOU
had better stop going with .he man.
DO not feel ashamed to take any
man to see your relatives. JUST be-
cause they are poor. No man IS worth
while who thinks less Of a girl be
cause she has little money.