The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1922-04-30

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not return It you
yorr Cole Skinner arc dishonest: AZ
you accept hos
tlialitics and do not repay them YOU
III arc not worth while. 1t you Violate
moral law you are unclean; IL YOU
ignore accepted standards you are
lost.
Some time ago a thoughtful man
made the statement that nothing
that Is lost is consciously lost.
The little boy loses his knife, his
mother asks where" and he saws
II don't know" The little girl
h1s her arithmetic. her teacher
iRs 'Where?" and she saws 81
aoht know" A man loses his hon
or. his senso of right and wrong. and
Ultimately, m remorsc. he asks him
self whore he was lo.t. and the an
wcr ia II don't know" A woman
compromises herself, is disgraccd,
Norhod. and in her anguish asks
herself "Where?" and the answer
Is VI don't know"
Nobody that is lost is consciously
lost. They do not start out to vio-
late the moral code, but they drift,
and they cannot tell where the
break came.
Anu IL tue bredh IL tnadc, In the
finish, yes, the woman pays. not
only the woman, but the man. the
boy the girl; anybody that takes ON
the obligation.
The break that leads TO a marital
tragedy is so small and comes so
gradually that it is almost invisible.
i comes when husband and wife
drift towards separate interests, and
u inyhe end find that the spice of life
l.et In something the other cannot
share
II has come TO be the popular
custom among the ultra fashionable
| Tor every man to pair off I'm his
amusements with some woman other
than his wife, and every wife with
some man other than her husband:
Tor a woman to be as intimate with
her friends husband as with her
friend; and n man to be as chummy
with his partners wife as with his
partner. They golf that way. they
motor that way. they even go to the
theater that way. 1t is decidedly
1aeky' not to do that way.
1t Is a higher standard, some
would have it. an asserting TO the
world that the group of which they
are part think no evil, see no evil,
90 no evil; an honor system in
vogue that states every mans a
een'leman aud every woman above
nspicion.
II may not be attributed to this
only, but one thing we do know, we
Know that once in n great while the
world Is shocked by husband kill
ilg his best friend" and day after
G sees some wife creep off to an
ensr city or to a judge her husband
M'mmends, and ask for n divorce.
Amost recent cry OF the woman
ps has been heard near at home.
creeping statements are ever ef-
Ieeuve, and IL is "A temptation here
70 proclaim that the woman pays"
because she always "owes," but
mat would not be true. She is
nearly always the one who owes,
out at that. she did not intend to
90 so far. she drifted and does not
Know where she was lost"
no man of position, with friends,
nmly and reputation to consider,
insults a woman unless he by some
means has been lead to believe that
woman will receive his attentions
nvorably. Enjoying the little thrill
mat comes in finding herself ad-
mred, her company sought, and her
om charms attractive to IN attrac-
we man, woman is led on and on,
Hostly Just reveling in the admira.
aon and needing not the breakers
shead' until, she finds either her
neart Is on the shoals. or his, and
men they all pay"
:. EVERY woman wants admiration.
would shock some husbands to be
eonironted with n calendar showing
INV long since they bestowed any.
beautiful woman has been used
70 II In the past, and IL is refresh
.ng' delightfully."- stimulating, to find
mat the husband of her best friend
ulhks she's pretty. that the widower
asr husband seems glad to pal her
olI on approves of her hair. her
syes her dancing. And she gener-
siy Is beautiful; such tragedies sell
NVIn come To any other kind.
come women prefer mems COM
Sany and Will frankly tell you so.
aou can't blame them. Largely,
men are broader, discuss more In
rSsesting Subjects. have more un-
sa Suai experiences. They. in turn,
aNnire her mentality, think she's
sood listener. and a good sport.
Ane hiking as rule is mutual.
Dut every woman knows the
nute admiration grows personal,
.oes beyond the safety line, beyond
ae hamor zone. That IL where she
aImost' always to blame. for 1t
hpen this personal interest is
@ ~ou sed that the friendship should
,ase, or be carefully censored, and
ahe does not stop or censor 1t
s, h, that first "obligation" is as
samed for which she may be called
on 70 pay"
husbands of q sort are brutal.
one OF this type takes his wife to
le club dance. She loves to dance.
ts,, ~, ne is lazy, or he likes to play
ssuuards, or pool, or have a little
same OF hearts" at a dime a point,
au SO he dances the first fox-trot,
wy Whatever "friend" comes for
,nd thereafter he hands her over
nm with delight and makes a
afathon for the clubrooms with
~ MS cigar, and his cronles. Than
m the injured one when the
kahsIe' appears, he is justified
me killing, he is n hero IL he
axes her back"
~ Is a foolish risk; IL Is childish,
'Ha 1t Is inane.
there is a certain amount Of
eevhVention that every one should
oooserVe. II may be old fogy, but
ssJhventlons are the experience and
SaSeom of the ages that aave come
sh soNh In concrete form to us. We
,sn 10 no better than conform TO
,s ,.vh' The way of the transgressor
nard, but II a woman or a man
ss better time diaregarding con-
NJ. ,l...uons, and in spite OF danger in
ths upon playing on the brink OF