The New York herald., 1922-06-18
By MRS. w. L. GEORGE
(This is the first article Mrs.
George has ever written).

always be led to think they
are having their own way. If you
really want a man to do something
do not suggest to him that he would
like it. Vanity plays quite as large
part in mans character as it does
in woman's. Therefore, to create that
atmosphere of holy calm and peace,
It Is wise to let the man feel that
he alone is responsible for every
thing pleasant that happens; to sug-
gest that when the fish doesn't ar
rive for dinner this wouldn't have
happened if only he had given the
order.
My position was not quite that of
the ordinary bride. as I came to a
house that had been in running
order for some. years; not only had
to manage two little sons, but also
servants who had their own routine
Of work. found had more or less
to adapt myself to the household
and not the household to me. My
husband had warned me before our
marriage that the cook had been
with him for six years. and that if
We did not get on together one Of us
would have to leave. Before our
marriage he had managed the house.
hold himself, in my opinion inef-
ficiently and extensively; but he
was very pleased with himself: he
therefore considered that it was up
to me to get on with the cook.
1t is astonishing how impractical
men are in the house when one con-
siders the method and precision with
which they manage their businesses.
For instance, it took me considerable
time to convince my husband that it
would be easier to convert one of
the drawing room windows into a
French window than to erect steps
up to a sash window. and another
hight of steps down to a roof garden
we were building. / did not saw he
was wrong. That would have been
fatal. l merely bewailed the bad
building of English windows; 1 led
him to talk OF windows in general:
I led the conversation to French
apartments, Then. in a burst of
imagination he. not l. had the great
idea 1t was he who suggested the
French window l wanted. The chief
thing in marriage is to convince the
male of his superiority. He will then
not worry himself as to who really
gives the orders.
When l married I thought 1 was
undertaking to look after a husband.
4 house and two little boys, but after
five months of marriage | sometimes
wonder whether 1 have not under
taken the care If two little boys, one
mouse and - by THE man who
understands all about women" ia
much akin TO the men who don't.
Like other men he requires imme-
date sympathy with his pleasures
and pains: irteres in the latest thing
which interests nim: when he is de-
pressed he demands that | should
find for him other amusements. But
he differs from other men mas
much that. when he has had a fair
innings and talked. about the things
which interest him. he is willing to
listen for a few minutes to the things
which interest ne. and which 1 con-
slider it is good for him to share in.
Naturally. having been given the
reputation of knowing all about
women, he thinks that he knows all
about me DON to the smallest de-
tail He is convinced that he can
always read my thoughts, and at one
time we used to hav> long arguments
when 1 neekly tried to assert what
was really occupyin. my mind Now,
for the sake f peace, 1 generally
tell him what 4 wonderful insight he
has. and then Sc his satisfaction to
persuade him to give in to me on
some point % which he has pre-
viously refused his consent.
One very SUBJ. method he en-
ploys with me IS to insist that [
should make own dacision ohopt