The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1922-01-03
ADVICE TO THE
 LOVELORN
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

Every day someone writes me to
 ask an old question which folks have
 been trying to answer ever since the
 world began. It is:
 How shall know my true love?"
 The other day a mans letter came into my hands. Simply, honestly and
 withou a bit of selfconsciousness this fine and sturdy man writes to his younger brother when the boy brings him the world old question. And m privileged to offer you here, word for word as it was written, splendid mans viewpoint about the thing he has tried and tested. Here is the let ter. I am sure it cannot fail to help all of you who read.
 Now as to THE GIRL. At best the whole deal is only a gamble, Kid. have had half a dozen of THE GIRLS and everyone of them was the last until the next one. I was waiting for the thrill, that all-gone feeling,
 that can't-Sleep-e -eat-oT-do anything for-thinking-of-he sensation.
 'I never got to 1t. old topper. never found one who could keep me awake or keep me from my three day. Sweetheart knows it, so it is no secret that when we decided to get married we neither of us was really in love with the other; we just de- cided to take chance, to hit. or miss in the game. Our case turned out each other and are still falling. That is why l say you never can tell until you try, until after you are married.
 You can be sure of a great many things, however, beforehand. The one big point which you mention is that the girl has a lot of good, com- mon, horse sense. She cannot go far wrong with that for a starter. I know that is one of your strong points also, and it gives your case an edge on most of them. Most young couples see nothing but the moon and the flowers ahead of them. They think of them mistake infatuation for real love. After the honeymoon, when they settle down to the everyday rou- tine of life, they get the real test of their love. Then it takes just good, common sense instead of holding hands to get them by. You have to use your noodle all the time.
 For instance, I go home tired and Sweetheart mentions some place she wants to go that evening. Right away, I figure, Now she has been home all day working just as hard as l have uptown and she needs to get out We go and my being tired is not thought of.
 The whole scheme of married life is a e-andtake proposition and you have to use your common sense to know when you should give and when you should take.
 "A lot of them laugh at me be- cause I help Sweetheart with the dishes and in other ways. I let them laugh, for no one can live your life for you, and If we find we are happy in doing for each other in those little things we go ahead and do them and the world doesn't count. We do the things we want to do in the way We want to do them without regard | for what our friends or the public | -hink about it. The answer is that 1 we get along better and are happier | han any other couple of our ac- Iuaintance.
 We have never let the honeymoon | end, have never settled down to the | nonotony' of married life. but have | 1ept up our interests in the numerous | title ways which count for so much. |
 We have a partnership. I tell | Sweetheart all about my business and | isten to her tales of her duties around | he house and the things she works | at. She pays all the bills for the | house.
 We have a joint bank account on | needs something she knows whether | pr not we can afford it, so if she | gets it I never kick. for she has fig | lred it out Now that is confidence. | One of the greatest essentials O. your | married life.
 There are a hundred pointers I | might give you, Kid, but whats the lse? Just use your head, think | .wice before speaking once. be frank | md open in everything and be a part | nershi instead of either ones try ng to 'be the boss and you will come I loser to making a success of the | sreatest game in the world than most | If them do."