New Britain herald., 1922-12-22
By MRS. W. L. GEORGE (This is ths first article Mrs. George has ever written).

George has ever wriffen).
 A IL husbands need managing.
 "A chiefly because they must
 alwrys b. led to think they srs having their own way. If you really want [ man to do something do not suggest to him that he would like 1t. Vanity plays quite as large part in mans character as II does fin womans. Therefore. to create tha. atmosphere of holy calm and peace, 1t is wise to let the man feel that he alone Is responsible for every thing pleasant that happens; to sug. gest that when the Ash doesn't ar- rive for dinner this wouldn't have happened If only he had given the order. 9t "
 My position was not quite that of the ordinary bride, az came to house that had been in running crder for, some years: not only had l to manage two little sons, but also servants who had their own routine of work. found I had more or less to adapt myself to the household and not the household to me. My husband had warned me before our marriage that the cook had been with him for six years. and that If we did not; get on together one Of us would have to leave. Before our marriage he had managed the house. hold himself In my opinion inef- f1ciently and expensively; but he was very pleased with himself; he therefore considered that it was up to, me to get on with the cook.
 It is astonishing how impractical men are in the house when one con- siders the method and precision with which they, manage. their businesses. For instance, it took me considerable time to convince my husband that it would be easier to convert one of the drawing room windows into a French. window than to erect steps up to a sash window, and another flight of steps down to roof garden Vt were building. did not say he was wrong. That would have been sa;al. merely bewailed the bad budding of English windows; led him to talk c1 windows in general; | led the conversation to French apariments. Then, in d burst of imagination he. not I. had the great
 ies l. was hc who suggested the French window wanted The chief ,i.ing in marriage is to convince the nae Jf is superiority. He will then not worry him "'' as to who really s,es he oid
 Mhea | is.. X thought was X J n 2 A f unuertaEing io look after husband.
 housastnJ tv-o little boys, but after srvc r,Ulths If marriage I sometimes wonder whe.ie :. have not under- taken the care f two lit,e hoys. one house and :. by The man who understands all aboI women is much akin 10 the men who don't. Like other men he requires ir1me. diate syn.pa-h1 with his pleasures and p!ins; ir.,eres in the letest thing whicn interests i'm; when he is de- pressed lie dercanas that I should tind for him o.n7r amuselnents. But he differs iron other men inas- mus.1 hat, whel he has had falr irnirgs and take about the things which interest him, he is willing to listen for a few 'inL'es to the things which interest de and which l con. sider 1t Is good for him to share in.
 Naturally. havinl been given the reputation cf knowing all about women. he thinks hat he knows all about me do l. to the smallest de- tail. Ie is corvinred that he can always read my thoughts. and at ono time we used to l " long arguments when I neekly tried to assert wha. was really 5ccu,yir my mind Now. for the ase leane. ssnerary tell him what l wonderful insight he has. and hen ee l.z satisfaction 10 persuade hsm to giv. in to me on some point 0 which he has pre- viously refrsel is consent.
 One very sub method he em- ploys w..:h tie 5 to insist that should make own decision about things connected with myself or the children. but he far too clever to take this line excrrting when he is quite sure tha 1; is' a decision on which [ shall neec hi advice. This has caused me many hours of dis t,ess, but have now discovered that it often suffices to d'aw him gently Into an argument aud thus get his orinion without definitely asking 'o- his advice If In this manner fail to get my own way, create about myself an atmosphere of deepest de. precision and gloom, until, being un- able to bear with this any longer, he at last relents,
 One pecularity of his. of which he ts totally unaware, but which in the youngest hoy is rapidly developing, is an obstinacy which takes the form of greeting any new suggestion with the words. "I won't" For instance, I told him that he needed new spring mattress for his bed: also, a few days later, ! suggested that his country suit was In rags and must he replaced Both suggestions.