Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-03-09
WHAT QUALITY DO MEN
ADMIRE MOST IN WOMANI

ADMIRE MOSI In "o'
We were discussing little woman VINO
had not only made three hrilliant MARI,
ages, each time getting an adorlfsg nuso,'uu
whoworshipped her to the day OF MS death
but who had been surrounded py ehroAe
Of admiring men all OF her lie.
'She must wear q rabbits foot around
her neck or have some other secret con-
lure" said woman, "or so tar rs | can
sec. there is nothing especially attractive
about her. She is nice enough, pleasant
enough. but not more so than the general
mhl-nIn of femipinity Yet she has married
three men, each one of whom was a catch,
and all of her life she has had waiting
list camping on her parlor chairs, and
cutting into her dances"
Heaven knows, she is no beauty,
said another woman.
Not particle of style. She never did
know how to dress. Always looks like a
package that mother tied up, commented
q third.
mo wit nor vivacity," said fourth,
small beer gossip about her persona
acquaintance and her husband, and chill
dren. aid house, comprises her conven-
tional range"
She's Just an ordinary woman, Just
commonplace, so far as other women can
perceive Yet she appears to hypnotize
every man she meets, and what every
woman would like to know Is, what Is the
secret of her charm for mem
she possesses the quality that men
admire most IN a woman. said an old
bachelor who had been listening to the
conversation, "and that is womarimess.
Thet IS the magic that draws the hearts
OF mcI, - a woman as irreSlstlbiy as tue
nagt.t draws the needle That Is the lure
Al oil ~
that the vamp can cast about man
Bcautv9 OF course. men admire beauty.
OF course pretty face catches man
fancy OF course a man likes to be seen
out with a peach who makes other men
rubber and envy him his luck.
But did YOU ever notice how few beau
ties make really good matches? Cant YOU
recall a dozer old maids who are rcputed
20 have been great bellies in their youth,
and haven YOU heard yourmotherwonder
der why these women. who were once
90 much admired, never married?
The explanation is that mans admira-
tion of feminine beauty is personal. They
like 70 look AZ beautiful woman as they
like 70 look at some masterpiece Of art, but
they don't covet il for themselves hey
ARE perfectly willing for some other man
u hang the living picture on his own walls
II YOU viii observe, YOU will see that while
beauty insures girl good time. il doesn
guarantee her wedding ring
As for stvle and smartness, they cut no
figure IN q man 8 estimation OF a woman. \
msn likes To know that the woman he goes
out with Is well-dressed he likes her 70
have on something that Is soft and pretty,
and hght-colored: but beyond that he
knows. nor cares nothing for the details
oi her toilette Nowoman makes winning
ming with q man by looking like o daily
hint from Paris. He gets cold feet when ne
thinks of the price tag.
Cleverness7 The majority Of men still
like feminine brains best when they are
scrambled. Only a small minority Of men
are big enough, and Intelligent enough
themselves TO like women who are as vel
educated a. they are, and who have as
much sense As they have. The average
mans vanity demands adulatlon from
woman. u requires a woman 10 look up
% him and defer 20 him. and that Is why
clever women never let men find out how
clover they are. Very few women are the
fools they seem 20 be.
As for wit, a woman commits haFrl karrl
with a man when she says brilliant and
sarcastic things or shows that she is good
81 repartee Men have an insane fear OF
ridicule, and they are always afraid that
such 8 woman is being funny st their
expense. have never known woman
who laughed much who was popular with
men. Men have morbid dread that the
woman who laughs. Will laugh at them.
No. II is not the snowy qualities IN
women that attract men. 1t Is womanll-
ness, that subtle something that dif1eren-
tiates the sexes, and that makes their
attraction for each other.
| don't know that one can just dehne
what womanllness IS. IL gentleness,
for one thing You cannot imagine the
uomsrly woman being rough. and rude
snd coarse You carnot think OF her
dressing in vulgar clothes, or making an
imitation man OF herself, or swearing, or
telling off-color stones.
The very essence OF her is delcacv and
refinement, and every man VINO comes
near her, discovers In his bosom unknown
symptoms Of chivalry, and he wants to
take care Of her and help her have known
business women who were able TO carry
this quality Of womanllness into their
business. and il was worth fortune as an
aAset necause IL made every man give
them hand up.
And another thing womanlness at
tracts men because IT has IN II the quality
OF tenderness OF motherliness. Men never
get over being boys. They are kids at
heart when they are eighty, and what
man wants IN woman Is not ludge,
but coniessor He wants TO go'to some
woman who viii condone his faults. and
weep over them, and forget them, and
love him in spite OF them.
Men spend their days with other men.
When they want 70 discuss big topics
they talk about them TO men who are
experts along these lines. When they
come home at night, or seek woman 5
society they want a change. They like
h be petted and cajoled and made much
OF. and fed upon fiub-dubby babble about
trihes That Is why the womanly woman,
who bores other women stiff, never seems
90 get on the nerves OF men.
Perhaps when you come down 70 brass
taoke, it's mans egotism that makes him
prefer the uomanly woman to her more
brilliant sisters, but however that may be,
The woman who is gentle, and tender, and
tueet. is the one who wins out with men,
and who can marry as often as she likes.