The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1921-03-23
Dorothy Dix Tails
Have a Heart, GirIs.-2.
BIZ DOROTHY DIX
worla's Highest Paid wcmaa WFisss.

Don't do it, girls. Have a heart.
Try to remember how many calls
everybody has upon their pocketbooks.
and how i'll most people can afford to
make presents these days, You have
no idea how many good wishes and
blessings will be rained down upon the
head of the bride who has declined to
be showered with silk stockings, and
embroidered towels, and aluminium
ware.
OF course you may say that this is
your only chance to get even for the
many, many times that you have been
forced to contribute to other brides,
but somebody has always got to be
the leader of every reform movement,
and the distinction and gratitude you
will gain by being a pioneer in the no
present movement will more than COM
pensate you for the loss of few salt
spoons and imitation japanese vases.
Besides. the wedding presents are
not all gain. Always. most of the
things appear to have been selected
by your worst enemy in her most vim
dictive mood, and it preffteth a bride
nothing to have a lot of junk for which
she has no earthly use and no place
in her new home. Furthermore, they
all have to be returned.
But most of all, girls think OF
father, and have a heart He has
about all he can stagger under now.
Look how old, and worn, and tired he
is. Notice how quiet he is growing.
Are you willing, for the sake OF
trailing up church aisle in white lace
and chiffon and orange blossoms, to
add another crushing burden to those
he already bears? Are you willing to
have him work longer hours to pay
for the flowers that are withered in
an hour. and the music, and the fun
merry of your wedding reception? VIII
you enjoy wearing the foolish and ex-
travagant finery of your trousseau
when you remember that it has been
wrung out of his very life blood?
have known plenty of men who
were literally ruined by their daugh-
ters' weddings. They never got out of
debt. All OF the balance of their lives
they were slaves, toiling, harassed,
worn, trying to pay with years of labor
for a silly and selfish girls five min
ute's parade up a church aisle.
Don't let your marriage call down a
curse upon your fathers old head,
girls. You know what he can afford
to give you. Take it, and ask for no
more. Let your last days of girlhood
be filled with consideration. of your
parents, not Of gousing the last thing
out of them that YOU can get 81
Think of the men you are going to
marry. girls, and have a heart. man
is very helpless thing in the hands
of the woman he IS in love with and
is about to marry. He is afraid to OPP
fear she will think he is stingy; and
when she weeps. he becomes as pulp
under her tears.
Therefore, many a sensible young
chap is forced into a display wedding
against his inclination and better judg-
ment. He knows that the money he
has to spend for flowers, and taxis,
and presents to ushers and best man,
and new dress suit, and a foolish
wedding journey, should go into fur
nishing little home, but he hasn't
the nerve to stand up to the girIshe
is in love with. and fight her to a
finish and tell her that they will be
married according to the way they
have got to live. or not at all.
For the wedding day is the brides
day. She is the puissant one who de-
cides everything for the community.
for her family. and for her husband
te-be. Therefore j pray her to have
heart and be mercifu1 to them all.