The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-04-29
Keeping Up To Date
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This is a busy world. We haven't time to stop and peer into the hearts of the folks around us. But we try to delight those hearts without hay ing much knowledge concerning the best way of going about it. As a result most of us trent giving or get ting what we want
 Demanding what we think it's smart to demand and supplying what we fancy is desired, most of us go stumbling around on all the paths that do not lead to happiness. Isn't
 Here's a little letter which tells a story. Its writer signs herself Car men," and says in part:
 Recently I've been doing a lot of thinking and I've concluded that I'm Cn the wrong track. I'm what is known as an 'old-fashioned girl I dress simpy and don't use any first aids to beauty in the line of makeup and plucked eyebrows. And I've an idea I'm wrong.
 'tTve been going about with young chap for some time. But I've just walked up to the fact that when his club gives a dance or he gets notion to go to a theatre I'm not the girl he takes along For me walks in the country, evening calls and maybe :. movie now and then
 '-I get most of his time. There's no complaint about that. But when he is going to do something in the society line he takes along a showier girl. I don't know that I blame him. I want you to tell me if you don't think I'd fare better if I bought a box of rouge and a 'snappy' Spring suit %
 Carmen has brought out two phases of man nature we might as well deal with before we get around tc her "snappy" suit and her box of rouge.
  conservative about the important things of life and given to the ut most easy-going freedom about the trifles.
 Most worthwhile men pick a wife for her stable qualities. But for temporary companionship relax ation." as they sometimes call it they're likely enough to choose a girl they would never introduce to sister or mother or invite to join the home circle for life.
 Reflectors of Character
 The fine, stable, trustworthy, re- liable citizen admires character and. yet is capable of becoming entan- E1ed by the tawdriest of fiufiness. But he doesn't stay entangled. Nine ty-nine times out of hundred a fine man marries a fine woman. Ninety nine times out of a hundred lounge lizard" chooses a fitting partner.
 But even your sturdy, reliable citi- zen has the show-off instinct which psychology calls ''exhibitionism." And when his club gives a dance or he is going to stroll down the aisle of a theatre or into a smart hotel he likes to have his mates see him accom- panied by some one wno is attractive even to the casual eye of the observer.
 A girl of splendid character wear ing her hair in an unbecominS bun" and dressed in unbeconling fashion isn't going to advertise herself well to his mates So he takes the stun ming girl who's attractive on sight.
 We might as we'll get facts. All of us like to be seen with prosper ous, well dressed. interesting look ing folks, who suggest that we have access to the best of society. And that's why most of us struggle so hard to keep up appearances. We want to be our own best letter of intro duction.
 A cheaply conspicuous suit and a box of rouge don't make for charm A clean, outdoor complexion and a well-cut garment do a lot to offset charm It may take half an hour longer to select becoming hat than it does to grab up the first one that catches your eye or falls within your price. But since we are all selling personality, We may as well dress it attra actively.
 Mercy Human Nature
 There's nothing to complain about in the fact that a man takes to his club. dance the girl who's going to make an instantaneous appeal to the folks who meet her just for the mo- ment- Why shouldn't he? He wants to create a favorable impression on folks who have to get their photo graphs of a personality on a snap shot basis
 Simple clothes. chosen with taste are far more charming than sleazy conspicuous ones- But no girl has anything to gain by reacting from the zL< If nd he fon rfxyid hat