Norwich bulletin., 1921-07-02
MOUNTAIN VIEW,
WHY SHOULD I MARRYq


 every side am beset by the question | Why don't you marry?'' Why should I 1 marry? IsCrant that marriage is an ideal existence for those who can discover in this panoramic life of ours the real af- finity, but what is one to do if this is not possible3
 My sister. who married at the tender age of IS, scarcely in long dresses, exer- eises a superiority over me regarding her knowledge of men and their ways which appeals strongly to my sense of the hu- nIerous,
 She does not stop to consider that while she has spent most of her time studying one man, I have spent nearly lS years studying the varied qualities of dozeps of men, whom have known inti- mately both in business and social life,
 It is Amusing to hear some of nay friends expatfate upon the ease with which woman can learn the delicate. lesson of love.
 What opportunity has she had for studying man as composite and ab- stract being in the circle whose utmost boundary does not compass more than Some two dozen {; and the male members of these families are always on dress parade, as it were. when she reviews them. They think she is charming, and tell her so quite often; they eat of her
 
 ities as a housewife and hostess. She does not see them, as I do, gr1dbbing away daily for the wherewithal of their existence. often with ruffied temper and careless speech |; not always conscious, apparently. that the fellow work CT near them is a woman, therefore of somewhat finer calibre and worthy of some slight consideration. She has not been through frequently, as l have been. the nerve l twanging experience of endeavoring to smooth into something like sane order 1 the disturbed feelings of man who has lost big deal involving much time and money; or. on the other hand stimulating an air of smiles and sunshine to disperse threatening thunder clouds; her tact is usually exercised in far narrower sphere. She does not realize that in 3 constant contact with men of all classes and natures, and a careful studying ei their characteristics. one is apt to deduet from the resume the most prominent
 traits, and these I find are selfshnes,
 and vanity.
 Having deduced these traits as genera ti failings, one is apt to apply them indi
 vidually in greater or less degree, ant
 the result is not always fattering to tn,
 other sex, and while one is bound t recognize many fine and noble qualitie
 which everhaiance these in large meas
 uFe, the propensity remains to weigh an,
 consider with much deliberation. } On the other hand, she cannot knoy the magnificent scope and peseibilitie 1 for development which lie within reac . of the unmarried woman. Unhampere l and unbound by domestic responsibility she is free to devote heF-tiFae to the cul : tiyation of many ennobling friendship among men. The married woman is lik a child. She has to ask for her none. l, What is more hgmiliating, after you hay earned your money, to have 10 ask for i T then have your husband ask what do yo want it for? Why is it his business afte you have helped earn it by attending | !, your household duties, looking after hi 2 children and hinsen. waiting on him, dt ing his mendins. and when you stop an < think a hundred and one things that | he. were unmarried would cost him a SUI 2 of money.
 l have 8 friend who even tried to ( 2 her washing, thinking she could get [ 2 cents 3. week. No, her thushand thougl ' that was 50 foolish" and yet he did n, . give her even that without asking. { Men belong to lodges. Doesn't thi ' cost? Do they think of making a pre- 2 ent to .their wives equal to what it cos them to have good time. while leayiI
 their wives home to take care of bab | v You have also to take care of him lt sickness.
 B To my mind. the one and se.erer " factor in married life is a love so de and rich that its influence will bind t two lives in close unity, What belon lU to him, belongs to his wife, rememberil Y his promise at the altar -(with my cart .e ly good thee endowJ. and let her sha S is the good things with him.
 can think of so many of my girl a
 boy friends who have married. Wine
 the man has been good. and the wonn
 true to the teachings and ideals of weIaanly instinct, love will develop afi T marriage 50 that he is willing to keep ] CT promise, and the result will be happy. 'u But how deplorahly often have I f Ae lowed them for a few years to ind { D. blackeaed ashes of a deseer2ted hol e life strewing the freiess hearthstone An simply because the woman would ha g. money of her own, and would so out a ps earn it, and neglect her household ( 'le ties 1 think men make a great mists ar not to allow their wives money. keepi IS them down, running them to the narr ld sidetracking of living. Men who dp l ne give their wives a portion of their Wal lls -or salary-are Ret keeping their m h. riaee VOW.
 eF It is not necessary to be an "old mai relic of the past; one may live to be al ne to every advantage held out to- the s ne gle woman (and there are manyl. keel se interested in all that raises life above ne level Of ordinary existence; sheer en happy in it's brighter. sunnier side, ie- living life so free, so broad, so r ed in the development of every wolna
 principle that she can reach without m of 8 husband to the broad channel It; usefulness.
 ali With all these toys at my door. 2 up they lie at the door of every woman V .Rt will open to them. with the memory O