Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-10-26
DO YOU LIVE UP TO YOUR
BLUE CHINA? SOME FOLKS DO
Dorothy Wife Who Above R She IaDd the Woman Who
Her Who Make World
We n
Copyright 1921 by the wheeler syndicate, Inc

Copyright 1921 by the Wheeler Syndicate. In
man whom death had robbed OF the
husband with whom she had lived In
almost idyliic happineFs for nearly
Atty years.
You were such q wonderful wife II
him. said TO her. only few wee s
before he died he said to me that you
were one OF Gods own noblewomen
ard how blessed he had been In ha y
Ing you for n life companion"
"Ah," she replied. John always
thought tho best OF me, and so had
10 give him the best that waB In me.
II would have amazed him so TO find
out that I could be petty, and mean,
and little thnt I had 70 be big. IL
would have horrifed him so TO see me
give way 10 my temper, and act Ike
shrew. that / learned to control my
self
why, / even learned how to cook.
and keep a budget. and be thrifty and
economical because he married me
under the delusion that l would be a
good manager, and know how to rur
my end of the partnership as well ~
he ran his.
"He always made me feel that hs
expected great things Of me-that
would always do the right thing II
every situation; that / would have
courage, and wisdom, and patience
ard tried not TO disappoint him, w
all make an effort to live up to oui
blue china, you know"
l. -. tho fyrQf Of
and SO / gave him the best u-at wa
In me-
j wonder IL that Is not the rea
secret OF how TO make marriage
lsuccess? / wonder IL husbans an
wives, who only look for the gold i
each other. don't find the preciou
metal instead Of dross? / wonder II !
every human being there Is not bot
an angel and devil. and IL the on
does not come forth that we SUN
= mon.
II Certain It is that most husbands an
: wives seem TO believe the worst ,
: each other. and TO call forth what
most disagreeable in each others ma
!. lures. The average married couple lis
I In a state of perpetual pickering oys
!. trifies. Apparently neither one ev'
expects the other one to do the rigl
!, thing under any circumstances ar
they spend their time criticising eac
. other, and dwelling on each other
shortcomings.
10 Compliments in the family circ
/ would cause the recipient to fall de;
II with surprise. Secretly the husbar
i may still admire his wife. but
IN would die before he would tell her s
L. At the bottom OF her soul won;
d may think her husband a giant amor
,u other men, but wild horses could n
it drag the admission from her. Ea
te feels it 10 be the sacred duty of
husband or wife to be an expert hai
mer wielder. and not salve spread
ID. The man has listened TO his wife !
-. cite the htany of his faults until
ne feels that she regards him as a po
ry miserable, make-shift of q man w
t. will never make success Of life, a
who In stingy and tyrannical, to DO
- The woman has had her husband
III her so often that she is a fool, and
Il bad manager, and wasteful and I
Ii travagant, and that she muddles
Il story when she tries to tell IL. and
the outlook OF hen. that she thin
- that he regards her as a failure as
woman, and doesn't expect any m'
Of her than he would of half-wit.
p And this induces in the man q
hs the woman what's the-use attitl
towards matrimony, which is the m
demoralizing thing that could hapT
ne 10 il. The man says what's the use
~ my trying to be q good husband, Z
an good provider for my family, WI
- all the thanks l get at home is or
M cism because / don't do better. I
woman says what's the use OF my
nying myself things that l want
- order to save and of my cooking a
-. sewing 10 make comfortable no
'e when all the reward that | get is
a. knock from my husband.
te So both slump. and both are We
~ apt to come to justify the evil expect
! tions OF the other. One might as W
- be killed for a sheep as a lamb and
"a one is going to be blamed. anyway, o
- !. might as well have the game as I
= name.
The jealous and suspicious wi
~ ~ who is always watching her husba
- and keeping tab on him, and W