Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-11-15
What About
Calling Cards?
There Is u Whole Series OF Usage
Covering the Correct Thing
So Far IS Calling Cards
Arc Concerned.
vYYHEN married woman calls
w alone on another married


cards OF her husbands and one of
her own--a card OF her husband
Tor both her hostess and her hos
tess's husband. and card Of her
own for her hostess.
The idea behind this practice is
simply that, because the men of
the FAMILY are usually too much
occupied with business they dele
gate their calling to their wives
or other feminine members of
their families. 1t would be rather
stupid TO leave men out of social
activities entirely and as unreason-
aoie TO expect them TO attend to
an the little calls of courtesy. So
IL Mr.. and Mrs. Jones have had
Mr. and Mrs. Smith as guests for
dinner, courtesy demands that the
Shliths pay party call on the
Joheses. This call would never
De paid If We waited for Mr.. Smith
10 ma time to pay il, so Mrs.
Smith pays the call,o leaving her
nusoands cards for Mr.. and Mrs.
Jones TO indicate his appreciation
.. 'neir hospitality. Also when
MRS. Smith determines to make
nrst calls on some agreeable neigh
nors she leaves her husbands
carus 10 indicate that her husband
also pays his respects. That card
stands for Call and must be re-
turned by a card of the newcom-
:. husband left when she returns
Mrs. Smiths call.
III every family consisted of +,
husband and wife there would he
no problems connected with this
card-ieaving custom. As IL is
such questions as this come up.
now many cards should be left
on widow and her grown
daughter? What about the woman
Nno Is separated from her hus-
pand! What about leaving cards
Tor a husband who is away ON n
prolonged absence? Should =
woman whose husband is some
Where In France leave his cards
When paying calls? When /,
mother @has grown-up son
should she leave cards for hin, ,
hen there are two married
ladies in the same househo1s
M"on a woman wishes to call .on
q, once, how many cards does she
leave them? ."
Never More Than Three.
In large families We might leays
very large pack OF cards We're
u not Tor the rule that bids us 10
ieaNe more than three of each sori
OF card. IL a married woman calls
on a widow and her grown
daughter she leaves two of her
own cards and one of her bus.
bands. For a married worsar
win grown daughter she would
leaNe two of her own-one fo,
each OF the women-and two o.
her husband 's-one for the mar
fled woman and the other for tn,
married woman's husband. 4
woman who is separated from he
husband has the same etiquette a
the wldow-that is. she neithe
leaves her husbands cards nor ar
other cards left Cor him. But tn
woman whose hLSband is ava.
leaves cards for him when maxim
the first formal calls of the season
Oi course this complicated car,
system is used only when maxim
first calls or first calls of the sea
son or when paying callA 0
courtesy for some hospita,it,
When a woman pays less forme
calls she leaves only hT ow
cards--one for each of ths wome
OF the house whom she wishes I
see. The woman with a grown so
leaves cards for him-one for th
hostess and one for the male hea
of the family-that is when he
known TO them and is included j
their invitations. A mother woul
never leave her sons card for III
young ladies Of family. nor doc
she leave her husbands card fc
any save the mistress of the hous
When calling on more than on
married woman in the same hous,
hold the caller send up sets
cards for each OF the ladies.
After An Invitation.
II Is always very convenient {
say that there is no exception
the rule that both men and wome
should pay call within ten da.
after dining at friends hous
or after the date for which Oh
was invited to dine. whether OIL
accepted or not. But in actu
practice many well-bred pefsor
do not pay these party calls. TIL,
may be forgiven for breaking tn
cardinal rule of etiquette if tn.
send cards. Sending cards is
very simple matter. They shou
be placed In a plain white eny
lope just "a little larger than Il
card. They should not be mark,
In any way nor should any no
be sent with them. III two mer
bers OF the same family attend,
the party together then the car
may be sent in the same envelor
II you are invited TO a receptit
or tea and do not attend VI
should send your personal car,
in the small card envelope, so tn
they will be received the day
the reception. If you do not fiji
that you are unable to attend u
I'll the day OF the affair, then sci
your cards at once SO that tn
will be received the day followil
the tea. Some persons wri
across the word Regrets" I'll
is not in good form, as the ca
should not be marked.
At Teas.
II you have been invited to