The Washington herald., 1921-11-25

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and a good dinner. and make every
thing pleasant and agreeable for
you. and do you consider that you
have done your part when you pay
the bills? Do you Crouch around
the house and dump. all your
nerves and temper on your defense
less family ohd make yourself
about as pleasant . .companiou as
a sore-headed bear would be?
Plenty of men do that. They con-
slider that m~king a happy home Is
the wife's duty and that they are
not expected to contribute even 81.
much as a pleasant word to the
process. They think that their
wives should study their moods
and learn TO be diplomatic and
handle them with gloves, and thew
never dream that II 10 as much
their business to get along win
their wives. and handle their feel
ings with kid gloves
| Yet 1t is. A woman 10 no more
married to a man than he Is TO her.
| She is no more responsible for the
sunshine in the home than he Is.
And it is just as much up to him
/ to deal with her on a diplomatic
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| so subtly that he never suspects
that she has his number and COM
bination at her finger tips.
II you are a wife are you =
| giver or a taker? In your heart
/ do you regard your husband as
nothing but a bond slave whose
mission in life Is to give you all
you want?
Do you deny him the comforts or
home and make him live in hotels
or boarding house? Do you feed
him out of paper bags and ruin his
| digestion by bad food? Does he
come home at night to house Of
strife. and reproaches, and recrfmi- =
nations because he doesn't make a
bigger salary than he does, and
can't give you all that rich women
have?
| Plenty of women are like that.
/ They do not feel that II is their duty
| - give anything to matrimony. They
/ take all that their husbands lavish
upon them and make no return.
They idle away their time while
their husbands work. They go to
cool places in summer and warm
places in winter while their hus-
bands toll the year round in sultry
summers and icy winters to supply
their needs.
Apparently 1t never occurs to
them that they have any duty TO-
wards their husbands, or are re-
success. or that the wife who does
not make her husband a comfort
able, peaceful home is a Stacker and
much on her. part OF the matrimonial
bargain as a man does who is too
lazy and trihing to support his fam
lily.
Are you a giver or a taker in love? /?
All of us crave affection and tender
ness. We not only want to be loved
but we want to be told that we are
loved. We hunger and thirst for
little endearments. for caresses. Yor
words of praise. for some tangible
evidence that those for whom we
care. care for us, and that they ap-
preciate what we do for them, and
that they admire US.
Yet there are men who from the
day they marry a woman until they
see her lying asleep In her coffin
never say a solitary word OF love
to her. never give her a kiss that
isn't a perfunctory peck OF duty
that Is an insult who never show
her that they regard her in any
other light than as cog In the
household machinery.
And there are women who trea,
their husbands the same way, yet
these men and women themselves
crave the very love and tenderness
they deny to their wives and hus-
bands. They want others to be
demonstrative to them. and lavish
upon them the affection and praise
they are too niggardly to bestow
on others.
They rarely get II. You can't
make a pet OF an icicle A cold
heart chills the enthusiasm of all
who come in contact with II and we
soon cease loving those who do not
give us love in return.
When all is said we have to play
the game OF life fairly. We cannot
win out by grating and trying to
get more than our share. We have
to go fifty-ffty with the world. and
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