South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1921-05-25
Winifred Black
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Has wife the right 20 stay out
until all hours OF the night and then
refuse TO tell her husband where
she has been?
That's what a certain man who
| brought suit for divorce the other
day wants 10 know.
I wonder what the Judge will re-
ply
What 90 you think about Il?
What would you do If you had
wife who came home at four
o'clock IN the morning. and told you
TO hold your breath and think about
something else when you asked her
where she'd been?
What would you DO II you had
husband who did the same thing?
What's the use Of trying 10 live
with a man or a woman who thinks
so little Of the happiness of the
other partner TO the contract that
such thing as this could happen?
Is IL worse for a woman TO act
like this than for a man?
II you wear fur coat In a snow
storm, no one stares at you, but II
you were 10 put the fur coat on and
go down town in July, you would
very likely cause a great deal OF ex-
element.
What IS unusual is always a little
difficult"
THE REVERSE.
Nine husbands out of ten do stay
out late without their wives once in
a while, and perhaps two out or
that nine don't tell their wives just
exactly where they've been every
minute OF the time. And no wife
ever lives who didn't resent and re-
sent bitterly the idea that her hus-
band was deceiving her or refusing
TO tell her what she thinks she
ought 10 know.
But she's used 10 the idea. She's
seen other women suffer under the
system, and she wouldn't consider
herself a marked example Of abused
womanhood If she submitted with
out open revolt. 10 such treatment
When John stays out till four in
the morning, and the neighbors
know It, Toms wife next door feels
sorry for Mary. but she doesn't de-
HDlot ItI DIS a AOOl anu a NbWoA "
If Mary stayed out till four in the
morning, Kate's husband, next door,
would tell all the fellows at the club
what a fool and what a spiritless
nobody John was, and, after all,
that does comphcate matters
doesn't It?
John would have Mary 10 fight on
one side, and the whole feeling of
the community to fight on the other.
And that does sometimes alter the
case.
AS a matter OF fact. though, the
whole thing lies deeper than this.
A woman who cares so. little for her
husband that she would subject him
10 ridicule and humiliation and then
laugh in his face isn't worth think
ing about for another minute.
When either a man or a woman
begins TO be utterly Indifferent 10
the happiness of either a wife or a
husband-then do the marriage
bonds begin to creak under the
strain.
LOVE is UNDERSTANDING.
If had a husband who liked tea
for breakfast, I'd give him tea-nOt
because I liked 1T or because I
thought he ought 10 like 1t. but be-
cause I would want TO please E'm.
And when things got 10 the pass
that I cared so little for him that
didn't give a straw whether what
I did pleased him or displeased him,
then I would expect him to begin
to wonder why he was paying my
bills. and what on earth there was
about me TO keep a man tied down
10 me, and my vagaries. and my
selfish whims, for the rest OF his
life.
Love is generous, kind, long-suf
ering. Love is gentle and sympa-
thetic. Love is understanding.
There's no love in a household
where a woman tries to see just how
far she can go without driving her
husband 10 divorce.
I think, If I were that Judge, I
would give the husband a decree.
and It wouldn't take me very long
10 make up my mind 70 do II either.