South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1921-06-24
BAD GRAMMAR IS
CAUSE FOR WOES
S>M MARITAL LIFE
Miss Aubrey Eaton Says,
Gee" and "Aint" Causes
Domestic Infelicities.

NEW YORK. June 23.--C1ltlvate
your speech. married women. II you
would be permanent wives
Grammar Is the best friend OF the
woman who wishes 10 retain her
husbands love. according TO Miss
Aubrey Eaton. OF the Chicago
branch OF the Y. w. c. A. whose
:. classes on how TO get and keep a
Husband have brought great happi-
ness 20 her students. 70 Is said.
Man Is certain TO be alienated by
hch expressiO ns as. Gee. amt them
~waffies grand" or II amt never
drank such swell coffee" when they
come from the hosy lips Of his care
less spouse.
Poor grammar" Miss Eaton says.
has caused more domestic intellect
ties than ali the burnt soup and
hard boiled eggs in the world"
But there Is a deeper reason for
unhappiness brought about by listen
ing 20 such perversiOns OF English.
The one Who commits the transgree-
siOns against correct speech engen-
ders In the mind Of the other some
thing which causes marital dissat-
isfactiOn.
Mrs. Van De Waters Views.
Mrs Virginia Terhune Van De
Water famous author. who has writ
ten many novels and stories treating
OF marital problems told me today
OF her convictions on This subject
This touches upon one OF my
hobbies" che said earnestly.
have a firm belief that the secret Of
]. a great deal OF disbursement IN
marriage IS the fact that one OF the
parties 70 the contract IS ashamed
OF the other.
Such secret shame kills love.
For instance suppose I know
some woman who has a very pre-
sentable husband. She is proud OF
him and wishes to present him TO
me. He meets me. and in his speech
may either double a negative or
perhaps make a coarse remark. He
has thereby wounded the sensibilities
, OF the wife who wished him to make
a good impression.
Il think II a man had 10 hear
mangled English at the breakfast
table. provided he were an educated
man, he would constantly have a
feeling OF shame for his blind folly
in marrying beneath him.
Poor grammar. with all due re-
sDect to the lady who used the
phrase, does not exist. There is no
such thing as poor grammar or
bad grammar
Grammar is the Standardization
and the science Of correct use Of
language.
But 1 do not think an educated
man. unless caught when very young.
would marry a woman who express
ed herself poorly. Such person Of
tends the ear and the sense of good
taste.
Make Wives Ashamed
There Is another point: Although
many ill-bred women offend men
with mistakes in English. many ed
ucated men offend their wives with
slang and coarse stories sprinkled in
conversation.
Il know a very charming woman
who, in a 1T OF pique. married a man
far beneath her. He has very little
self-contrOl and. when excited or an
CRY. lapses into the vernacular, with
which he Is familiar
Believing as ! do that secret
shame Cf ones life partner causes
most of our marital infeucity. I al
ways urge women 10 keep themselves
up. There is a time in youth when
10 Is very interesting to dress. 10
give attention 10 the accessories of
ones toilette.
Later on IN lie. when good looks
often vanish. then it is an absolute
necessity 20 look we'll The Office
worker. any women In business.
realizes this.
1T is the business woman's duty
10 keep up What does a man think
after working all day with women
in his Office. who are as well and ap-
propriately dressed as they are able.
when he goes home TO a woman who
no longer takes any interest I'm her
appearance He loves his wife and
wishes 10 be proud of her. but she
won't le- him. and it hurts him by
her own indifference. She has let
GO
What qualities DO men like in wo-
mcne" Mrs Van De Water was ask
"a.
'"fhe truly masculine. virile man
likes femininity." she declared. she
may be a militant suffraEist an ad-