Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1921-05-27
Facts Abo Ut the Wedding.

Facts AboH the WeooiiiS'
It has been an almost universal eN-
perience when there is wedding IN
tho family to learn, sooner or later,
that certain friends have failed 70 re-
ceive an invitation or announcement
and consequently felt hurt or aggfleV-
cd. This is bad enough when they arc
merely acuuaintances. but when theS
are old and valued friends it is most
distressing, for no matter What en-
plantations are made we always lear
that a doubt may remain in the mlnd
the slight was intended. After ALL
Uncle Sans mail department is pretty
reliable If we do our part Of the trans
action correctly.
So the wedding lists should be made
out correctly long in advance or the
date chosen, the addresses checked up
and many a family conference held 10
determine whether all who should be
are included. AS soon as the invita-
tions are ordered the engraVer Will de-
liver the envelopes, and this VIII give
more leisure to address them, for what
is done hastily at the eleventh houf IS
seldom done well. When all are ad-
dressed the envelopes should be
checked up and compared with the lists
by two persons to detect errors.
Every woman who has the shghesl
trace Of social instinct in her makeup
keeps her visiting list in order. BY that
we mean she is careful to note changes
of address, deaths, marriages and the
births Of her friends children. II she
has done this consistently and careiul!y
throughout her own married life she
will NOT he at a loss when making out
lists for the children's weddings. The
efficient and practical. way to keep THIS
list is TO use q card system, which
is more rapidly added to from time 10
time as the circlerof acqualntahces
grows.
These cards. arranged alphabetical
" should contain the surname ana
Christian name Of the husband written
in full, not initials only; the wife's
maiden name and the names OF each
adult member Of the family, and the
juniors (listed as. such), tho address,
day at home andatelephone number if
desired. When = death occurs the
name should beGcrossed out and the
date of death written above it. In case
Of marriage the name is crossed out
and listed anew, always being sure to
add the maiden name of the bride.
In selecting names for the wedding
lists the utmost tact and diplomacy
must be brought into play. 1t is usu-
allv impossible to include every one un-
loss there is to be q large church
wedding, and in determining VINO IS
and who is not to be left out thefc
must be many factors taken into con-
sideration. Friends true and tried, OF
long standing should be omitted under
no consideration, even if they seem not
10 fit into the brides particular SCI
OF all stupidities, snobbishness IS the
r,o.t contemptible and real people
have no part in it, But If, us Is frc-
uuently the case in our larger c'ties'
our friends are composed of number
of persons from Il number OF dliferehl
sets or cliques. it is wiser to incluoe
all or none of each set, rather thah
scattering from many.
IF the reception or breakfast Is 10 nc
small it is we'll to announce ahead oi
time that only relatives and few IN
innate friends are to be asked aho
then no ones feelings will be hurt. we
sare all of us more Or less chlldreh ant
don't like to think that we are lett ou
of the party, SO it is just us well t
have things clearly understood before