The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-03-03
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Advice To The Lovelorn
Who Occupies a Unique Position in the Writing World as an Author
 ity on the Problems of Girls.
By BEATRICE FAIRI

The risks too great-for you.'' said the man grim1y.
 Id be willing to chance every thing" cried the girl.
 ''Wo ould you ''F he said. "Would you risk everything without a whtln- per hidden up your sleeve in case things didn't come right? Would you be willing to lose if you had to Or are you counting on success and baSinS your promise to be a sport on the belief that I can make some magic that will bring everything out right"
 They weren't discussing some great hazard or love. They weren't plan ming an elopement. They were talk organizing. The girl wanted to put put her earnings into it. And the man demurred. It wasn't that he doubted his abil- ity to swing the deal. It wasn't that he was planning fake company or thinking of ''salting' his stock. It was merely that the margin of safety in all big deals is necessarily some what less in size than the deal it. self.
 Women are notoriously bad losers I've been called a feminist so of ten that I get a definite satisfaction in confessing to this belief in one feminine weakness. All the men who write me reproachfully that I'm always on the woman's side will please note that I've announced right out in meeting that there's one bad fault of which we are guilty. But | please, won't the indignant women who see me thus accusing ''Us' of failing, restrain their wrath, remem bering how often I lean too strongly to a delight in our qualities Anyway-women have a reputation for being poor losers. Their con- servative, building instinct makes them long to see success and vince at the sight of failure.
 @It needn't have been that way"
 Tt was too much risk" "1f things l had been a little different" all this l is the view women instinctively take l of some of the wild risks men 1 take.
 iover-optimistic, gamblingchance. mas l culine point of view, or for the con
 servative, be-careful, feminine one l What I want to do is to make you
 is your way of looking at things.
 Are you gamb1er-calm, steady.
 prepared to laugh if you fai1-or d
 settled, conservative to whom defeat
 is a wild thing to be resented and
 fought against and agonized over? 1 What's the use of going contrary
 to your own nature? Whats the gain
 of forcing yourself to a viewpoint
 over which you can't help agoniZing?
 If you can take risks and calmly
 await their outcome, it may be worth l while taking a few chances for the
 sake of ultimate again--in the game
 make your arrangements and then go
 about the affairs of the day with
 serene feeling that one blunder or
 defeat is bad enough to agonize over. | why then you may leap ahead
 through a big chance or two. ! sBut if you are going to worry, and
 fdget and nag at everyone you know and weep desperately and go down | to the depths over a miscarriage of 1 your hopes, then is it worth while | to take any big risks?
 | Nothing venture, nothing have" is l a good enough saying for those who can venture calmly and not be de
 feated by a single blow. But unless
 you have serenity and an equable temperament, why plunge into a game you cannot be logical and con
 structive enough to play success l fully?