The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1921-10-06
Dorothy Dix Tails
BY DoROTHR DIX
Worries Highest Paid Woman Writer.
How To Be Happy Tho Afarried-1.

How To Be Happy Tho Married--1.
A young man who is about to enter
into the holy estate asks me if 1 will
give him a few tips about how to get
along with the beauteous young erea-
ure with whom he is entering INTO a
life partnership, and who, ne suddenly
realizes is the strangest person on
earth to him
Well. son, if you want to be Mppy
tho married you have got to begin by
picking out the right sort of wife, and
by the right sort of wife I mean a
woman who has good, hard, horse
sense and a sense of humor Brains
and funny bone, on both sides of the
house, are the two essentials to a
happy home.
It's only fools, and the deadly seri-
GUS who are hopeless. People who
have intelligence enough to see
straight, and good humor enough to
laugh over difficulties instead of howl
ing over them, can be counted on to
make the best of every situation Even
matrimony. It's the narrow minded
and the morbid who make marriage a
failure.
I also hope that you have had in
telligence enough to select the kind of
wife you desire, instead of having
picked out something that you don't
want, with the idea of making her
over according to your ideals. 1t can't
be done, son, and the home of incur
able imbeciles yawn for the foolhardy
who try the experiment
If you want a thrifty and domestic
,, wife, don't marry a fashion plate and a
society butterfly. If you want in in
telligent companion don't marry silly
little girl who hasn't an idea above
the puffs over her ears.
If you want a home keeping wife,
don't marry girl whose idea of
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perpetual jazz band braying, and peo-
pie who are dancing around among
the tables.
Reforming is doubtless a fascinating
diversion, if we may judge by the
| number of people who engage in it,
but it must always be a narrowing eX-
perience for the one who is being re-
formed. Certainly no woman's vanity
can stand the ordeal of finding out
that her husband doesn't admire her,
or approve of her, and that he wants
to change her into the similitude of
some woman he didn't marry.
Matrimony has enough disillusions
in it, at best, even when we think we
have married the one individual who
is all our fondest fancy painted. What
it must be where either husband or
wife is trying to cut the other over to
his or her notion, one trembles to
think. Some rough house, III say.
Having picked out an intelligent
woman. and one who comes up to your
ideal, begin by making her your part
ner in reality, as well as in theory.
Let her in on the ground floor OF your
life. Tell her the truth about what
| you make, and share with her fifty
fifty in your anxieties. your struggles,
| your pleasures and perquisites.
When a man has a fool wife it is
his own fault. because he picked her
out and married her. When he has a
doll wife he has only himself to blame,
| because he never developed her. He
never gave her a chance to be any
thing else but a dressed UP toy. When
a man has selfish wife who ruins
him by her extravaganza it is likewise
his fault because he has never taught
her to think of anything but herself.