Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-07-23

He's neurologist of renown and he
lives not far from Rittenhousc Square,
and he thinks husbands and wives
should take separate vacations. and he
doesn't want his wife to know he
thinks so.
Which last is the perfectly good rea-
son his name will not appear in the
forthcoming interview.
"I have definite theory on this
matter" said he with smile, but
7 must ask that you do not use my
name am married man and this
is delicate subject
The pledge was given, and given also
to another interviewee, woman. who,
like the neurologist. you all have heard
Of She is the gracious wife of man
learned in the law. and she believes that
husbands and wives should take their
vacations together.
All this came about through the
raising Of question.
Each Has Own Ideas
Should a man give up long cherished
dreams of that shady trout stream. the
greasy old outing clothes and sizzling
bacon just because his wife wants to
go to the fashionable hotel at Seaside
by the seashore?
And. conversely. should a woman let
all her newest and choicest gowns stay
unopened in the trunk and forget all the
latest dance steps just because her hus-
band wants to hide away somewhere in
the North Woods?
Should they combine or separate?
That is the issue.
When this was put up to the nell
rologist he took his questioner into his
innermoSt office and shut the door.
1t was then that he admitted a def
mite theory, but also that he was mar
ried.
II most certainly believe" he said.
after the vow of secrecy had been
sworn. that husband and wife shouId
separate and go different ways ut yaca.
ton time. Primarily, they should do
this because no matter how unruff]ed
and happy their married existence. such
a change is for the best.
Did you ever stop to think? Here
are man and woman, Of entirely diff
ferent environment, perhaps of differ
ent races even their tastes at variance
necessarily on some matters They de-
eide to live together for the rest Of their
lives. and they make up their minds
to adapt themselves to the traits, gem
orally small, which they find unusual
in each other, and not to their own
mind
because they are fond of each other,
they gradually merge these small differ
ences, but because the senses of indi-
,idunls arc peculiarly their own and
remain so always, 1t is better II this
clash of temperaments, even though It
be, rs in happy marriages, apparently
invisible, be relieved by Il temporary
separation.
Both May Need Rest
"Vacation time Is the best time, and
the fact that the tastes Of man and
woman very often differ in their choice
of the best sort Of vacation, makes It
all the better to take this opportunity
TO go different ways.
"rheir nerves will be rested and
quieted, both because they are not
forcing themselves to enjoy things they
do not fancy, and because they are get
ting momentary relief from the grind
Ing influences of domestic routine. AS
a result when they return, they are
rested in body and mind, their nerves
are steady, and they are more in love
with each other than ever.
"Of course, realize that some
couples are so happily married that
they clash in few of their daily re'a-
tionships, but | venture to say that
in any case such change as l have
suggested is an excellent thing"
And now for the view of the wife of
the man learned in the law. She
laughed bit and hcsitatcd bit before
she answered the leading question.
II doubt the efficacy of separate
vacations for husband and wife," she
l., In al
Is inclined to be lot of eXaggeration
and rough it with old clothes,
corncob pipe, and his beard grown
long, with his wife's wish to take a
fling at some super fashionable resort
and stun the other guests with her
assortment of clothes. This has become
n more or less common cartoon and
comic paper humor.
II really do not think there is much
TO it. When all is said and done, l
imagine the husband and wife would be
miserable If separated. and if they are
at the showy place, | do not think
the man minds putting on high collar
now and then, despite his growls, and
IL they go to the woods, / would not
be surprised If the woman liked the
'roughng it. experience, and enjoyed
the tug of trout on her line.
"If they are congenially married
couple, they have probably grown to
like and share each others tastes, and
ii they have not been married long, why
they are even more eager to do that.
"And il it is case where one of the
two il dragged against his or her vii
to the vacation of the others picking,
II Is after all for good rather than
evil regarding the -msttaa4 &rpm the