Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-03-21
HAVE A HEART. CHRIST

dinrs and buying their trousseaux.
In innumcrable homes the floors are
knee-dcep in filmy fluttery lingerie, ana
mother is growing haggard trying to de,
eide whom TO invite to the church, ana
whom TO the house: and father rs lying
awake at night trying to figure out how
he is ever going to pay the bills; and hosts
Of hclplcss friends and acqhaintances are
groaning aloud III their misery ana say
ing: mabel Smith wedding cards came
today, and we've got TO send her present,
and there goes my new hat And necoeu
IL so badlyp
And everybody except the hride-eiec,
hates the whole miserable business ana
thinks that IL is no wonder that marriage
is so often a failure when It If entered INTO
with such an amount of tom-foolery
Now getting married is lot more
solemn and serious thing than dying IS
and whv people send out invitations 10
their friends and ecquaintances 10 come
and see them married. any more than theS
ask them to come and watch them die, no
body knows. II would seem that any
decent soul would wish 20 be as Inuch
alone as possible at its most cruclai ana
terrible moment !.
Few women feel this way about 1t,
however. Most of them desire all the iuss
and feathers. and noise, and huilahaioo
they can get. and to embark upon the holy
estate with a grand splurgc
From the time girl baby begins 20
think. she commences to plan her Wedding
and before she is out of pig-tals she mas
decided on whether she will have n church
wedding with flower-girl and ring
bearer, or be married under tioral ach
in the back parlor at home.
Therefore il is wrecking the dreams o.
her life when YOU ask her 70 cut out all OF
the doo-dabs, and, when she binds the man
10 whom she gives her heafSsor keeps, Iust
10 step around 10 the pafson with MN;
there have the knot tied with neatness ana
dispatch. and without anE oi tne "oIh;
and worry. ard nervous trostratIon' ana
debt. and graft that a accompanies inc
usual marriage
Nevertheless, | do appeal TO girls -
behalf Of humanity for sine and sensloie
weddings, and not TO sad1ihce their own
families their own futurcsV and everybody
thcv know to the qualification OF theif
vanity -
| appeal 10 them to cut out the hoid-up
Of showers and wedding presents because
YOU are going to be married Is no reason
for levving blackmall upon your TRENDS,
VET that il precisely what a wedding m
vitation does The big, square, white
card Is Just rs much a demand to stand
and deliver, as q pistol pointed al our
breasts. and most OF us entertain ABOUT US
cordial an opinion OF the one as the other
Don't do il, girls. Have heart. iry
to remember how many calls eVerybouS
has upon their pookcthooks, and now III
most people can afford 70 make presents
these davs. You have no idea how many
rnod wishes and blessings will be ralned
down ,Ipon the head Of the bride who has
declined 70 be showered with silk stock
inrs. and embroidered towels, and aiu-
minum ware.
Of course YOU NAV say that tins IS your
only chance to get even for the many,
many times that YOU have been forced 20
/ contribute to other brides, but somebody
has ALWAYS got to Ire the leader OF every
/ reform movement, and the distinction and
! gratitude YOU will gain by beng pioneer
4 In the no-present movement Will more Lhan
compensate YOU for the loss OF few salt
/ SPOONS. and imitation Japanese vases.
/ Besides the wedding presents are not
al, gain Always, most Of the things ap-
near 10 have been selected by your worst
/ enemy In her most vIndlotlve MOOD, ana
/ it profteth q bride nothing 70 have lot
/ Of Junk for which she has no earthly use
/ and no place In her new home. Further
more. they all have TO be returned.
But most of all, girls, think OF father,
/ and have a heart He has about an ne
/ can stagger under now. Look how old, and
worn. and tired he is. Notice how quiet
/ he Is growing.
/ Are YOU willing, for the sake Of trailing
( up a church aisle white lace and chiffon
I and orange blossoms, 10 add another
! crushing burden to those he already bears
+ Are you willing TO have hum WORK longer
/ hours to pay for the flowers that art
/ withered ! n an hour, and the music, and
the fummery Of your welding recePVioh
/ viii YOU enjoy wearing the foolish and
| extrayagant fnery Of your trousseauz
when YOU remember that 1t has beer
wrung out of his very life blood!
! have known plenty OF men who were
/ literally ruined by their daughter wed
/ dlngs. They never got out OF DEBT
/ All of the balance of their lives they were
/ slaves toiiing, harassed, worn, trying tc
/ pay with wears of labor for SILLY ano
/ selfish girls FIVE minutes parade up
4 church aisle
/ Don't let your marriage call down
/ curse upon your fathers old head, girls
/ You know what he can afford 70 give you
! Take it. and ask for no more. Let your
! last days Of girlhood be filled with consid
1 Grafton Of your parents, not OF gougine
/ tlc last thing out of them that you car
| get
| Think Of the men you are going 70 marry
| girls. and have heart A man is a very
I helpless thing in the hands of the woman
1 he is in love with and is about TO marry
He is afraid 10 oppose anything she wants
| to do for fear she will think he is stngy
and when she weeps, he becomes as pulp
1 under her tears.
Therefore, many sensible young chap
is forced into display wedding against
| his inclinations and better judgment. He
/ knows that the money he has to spenc
4 for flowers, and taxis, and presents tC
/ ushers and best man, and new dress suit
| and foolish wedding journey, should g
/ into furnishing a little home, but he hasn
| the nerve to stand up TO the girl he is IL
/ love with, and fight her 70 a finish and tel
\ her that they will be married accordin,
to the way they have got to live, or not
at all.
For the wedding day is the brides day
She is the puissant one who decides every
/ thing for the community, for her family
! and for her husband-tO-be. Therefore
prav her to have heart and be mercifu
/ to them all
w. &. II. l.. Institute.
The Spring Institute of the New
I g,.-,I. County q II n will he hPl,