The Mena weekly star., 1921-06-30
BAD GRAMMAR IS
 DIVORCE CAUSE
Careless Manner of Speaking Shames and Antagonizes the More Parleu- lar of Life Partners, Says
 Women Experts.

xyrfttau for International News Service
 By IMAGERY REX.
 New York, June 22.-Cultivate your speech. married women, if you would be permanent wives.
 Grammar is the best friend of the woman who wishes to retain her hus- bands love, according to Miss Aubrey Eaton. of the Chicago branch of the Y. W. C. A., whose classes on how to get and keep husband have brought great happiness to her students, it IS said.
 Man is certain to be alienated by sueh exuressions as, Gee, aint them watfles grand,n or ~ aint never drank such swell coffee," when they come from the rosy lips of his careless spouse.
 Poor grammar" Miss Eaton says, sshas caused more domestic intelicltles than all the burnt soup and hard boiled eggs in the world
 But there is d deeper reason for un- happiness brought about by listening to such perversions of English. The one who commits the transgressions against correct speech engenders inI fhe mind of the other something which causes marital dissatisfaction.
 Mrs. Virginia Terhune Van De Wa ter. famous author, who has written many novels and stories treating. ot marital problems, told me today of her convictions on this subject.
 This touches upon one of my hob hias T she said earnestly. "I have 8 firm belief that the secret of great deal of disillusionment in marriage IS the fact that one of the parties to the contract is ashamed of the other.
 ''Such secret shame kills love.
 For instance, suppose l know some woman who has very presentable husband. She is proud of him and wishes to present him to me. He meets me. and in his speech may either double a negative or perhaps makes a coarse remark. He has there by wounded the sensibilities of the wife who wished him to make good impression,
 q think if a man had to hear man. gled English at the breakfast table, provided he were an educated man, he would constantly have feeling of shame for his blind folly in marrying beneath him.
 "'Poor grammar with all due re- spect to the lady who used the phrase, does not exist. There is no such thing as poor grammar or bad grammar
 Grammar is the standardization and the science of correct use of lan- guage.
 But I do not think an educated man unless caught when very young, would marry woman who expressed herself poorly Such speech offends the ear and the sense of good taste.
 "There is another point: Altho many ill-bred women offend men with mistakes in English, many educated men offend their wives with slang and coarse stories sprinkled in conversa- tion.
 q knew a very charming woman who, in fit of pique, married q mar far beneath her. He has little self control and, when excited or angry lapses into the vernacular. with whicl he is familiar.
 Relieving as 1 do that secret shame of one's life partner causes most of our marital infelicity, l always urge women to keep themselves up. There is a time in youth when it is very in- teresting to dress, to give attention to the accessories of ones toilette
 Later on in life, when good looks often vanish, then it Is an absolute necessity to look well. The office worker, any woman in business, real izes this.
 1t is the business woman's duty to keep up. What does a man think, af- ter working all day with women in his office who are as we'll and appropriate ly dressed as they are able, when he goes home to a woman who no longer takes an interest in her own appear anceg He loves his wife and wishes to be proud of her, but she won't let him, and it hurts him by her own inditfer- ence. She has "let go"
 What qualities do men like in womenS {" Mrs. Van De Water was asked.
 "The truly masculine, virile men likes feminitv." she declared. "She may be a militant suffragist, and ad- vanced feminist, and vet be the most feminine of women. She must have the feminine appeal"
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