The gazette-times. [volume] (Heppner, Or.) 1912-1925, 1921-10-27
Is 1T SAFE TO MARRY
ONE WHOM YOU DON'T
TRUST OR RESPECT?
1t Is Possible to Love MadIy without
Respecting, But Such An Attraction
Offers a Poor Foundation for Happy
Marriage, Says Agnes Ayres.

Would you marry the most attrac-
tive, fascinating and sought after per-
son in your social circle, if you found
yourself under the spell of that fascin-
alton, yet felt no real respect for the
person who had charmed your
Agnes Ayres, film favorite, says EN-.
phatically that she wouldn't. Her at
| tention was called to the question by
| the plot of The Furnace" the big Will
liam D. Taylor picture, recently re-
leased by Realart, in which she had the
| leading role, that of a popular English
| actress who marries a wealthy Canao.
ian and is told by him on their we'd
ding night that he has no respect for
her, has married her only for fear that
she would involve him in distasteful
| breach of promise suit if he failed to do
| so, and that she is to be his wife in
| name only.
"Of course, for the purposes of the
| plot the mans attitude makes things
lots more complicated and interesting
But as l studied the play l could not
help thinking how terribly foolish any
| body would be to do such a thing in
real life as to marry without any foun-
dation of trust and utter confidence
All too often those we do trust fail US
and plunge us into the depths OF
wretched unhappiness. But surely no
sane person should consider marriage
without confidence to start with.
Il know many silly young girls think
they admire the very sophisticated type
of man, the man who has the reputa-
tion of being rathetr fast, rather dew
! il with the ladies' and that sort of
thing. Certainly the worldly type of
man with his easy manners, is often
more entertaining as a dance or dinner
partner than the serious chap who has
never tlirted in his life and can't for
the life of him think Of anything
| sprightly to say. But as life partner,
for better and for worse the slow but
reliable young man is rather to be
chosen than the fascinating beau who
exercises is many charms on every
woman he meets, and is bound to keep
his wife in a fever OF jealousy and sus-
picion, Disillusionment is so bitter,
argue some girls, that 1t is safer to
marry without trust than to have trust
| violated. But I can't agree.
Il think it is just as unwise and as
unsafe for q man TO marry fascinat-
ing woman who has turned his head
and won his heart but never quite sat
isfed his better Judgment that she Is
trustworthy and sincere Many men
do marry, Jealous anxiously watchful.
unable to give up the wSmen who have
enslaved them even though doubt
struggles with affection. It isn't safe
it isn't sensible and happiness cannot
be built on such a shaky foundation, l
feel certain.
That, OF course, is the teaching Of
The Furnace and II Is lesson that
society needs to take to heart. for too
many marriages are the result OF mad
impulse the swift Yielding 10 tasclna-
ton not the outErowth Of sincere un-
derstanding and a mutual confidence
that nothing can shake Certainly no
body, who sees the unhappluesa expsr-
fenced by both Folly and Anthony In
this drama would dare to take the risk
Z without respect and trust"
The Furnace comes to the Star the
atre In this city on Sunday, Oct 3O