Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-06-22


it was all the same. What every
woman knows would have been whis-
pered among the sex. as an axiom.
1T is to cajolc him and soothe him and
feed him, and then, get what we
want" 80 they would have said.
There Is one big thing to be said for
the system: 1t worked.
All the vampS of history, tie super
feminine. frlin" women who changed
the map of the world. who caused wars
or stopped battles, who spent an en-
pire's fortunes on their own jewels and
perfumes the C."Opatras and Du
Barrys and Madame de Pompadours-
played upon tho weaknesses and pas
sions of men by dattcring them.
The underlying philosophy is that one
who is content is amiable and willing
to return favors. The slave currics
favor with his master. The woman who
was dependent for luXuries and COM
forts, and actual life, upon the hus-
band or lover, was compelled TO learn
the arts of the slave. She aspired to
be the faVorite S.ave-the queen of the
harem
With the new conception of woman
as equal has COmr the responsibility of
earning our livelihood in some way be-
sides giving CarCSscS. Flattery is un-
necessary TO the woman with the pay
envelope, If we like man, we arc
not averse to granting him just praise,
but we do not have to extol him to the
stars, when We know him for a Chump.
II tact and kindness suggest rompli-
menting those we love. and if affection
cxaggerates their virtues and charms
well and good. Every one hourishcs
through appreciation and praise. But
we are doing this not to gain mate
rial delights for ourselves, but because
of honest admiration and regard.
This should apply 10 husband or
lover or father or brother or friend. Ex-
press love and admiration in warmcst
terms, of cOurse-but oh, do not cajOlr
him, because of fear and craft and
greed.
The old idea prevails almost univer-
sally, however. One is amazed to hear
wives of high standing and mentality.
admit little arts and tricks. and assume
that the one and only way of keeping
on the good side of the better three
quarters is to Cajole him.
Highly educated prominent women
sometimes say, Sprv.clY as if it Wrr"
the universal condition. Il do hope
Herbert will let me 90 there. Or, III
only John would permit me to buy
that" This is the attitude and Ian
guagc of servant TO master, or Of a
minor child to its parents. 1t is in
conceivable in business partnership,
where two partners, having mutual in
terests, consult together over certain
actions.
The oldest joke in the world doubt
less is the mother in law one. II IS 4
wonder that it has not been INTRODUCED
into anecdotes Of the Garden of Eden
Next to that is the one, with variations
Of the wife teasing her husband fol
money. In mixed social gatherings it
all countries, and in all classes Uf 50,
ciety, it is almost universal \ maI
amiaby or disagreeably relates some in
cident, where she tcased for money, O
diamond, or Il motor, or dress or hat
and finally CajOlcd him into giving it
= To have come across handsomely is
mark Of generosity and marital weak
ness that the other husbands are sup
posed to understand.
Is not it degrading? When will W.
stop laughing at this cheap joke, an,
assuming that women must use the So:
appeal 10 increase their wardrobe or sc
expensive gifts, or even to persuad
friend husband that the children nect
dancing lessons
Human nature is the same as it wa
in Rome, Egypt or Athens thousands o
years ago, and | know that man
women will object to the criticism o