The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1921-03-16
Dorothy Dix Talks
The Love Came.
~ DOROTHY DxX
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The Love Game-2.
Also. he could be reckoned as a
gilt edged asset in the way of>presents.
and theater tickets, and rides, and as
an ever-present help in time of trouble
about getting to and from places,
when no other cavalier was available.
And for this small gain. innumerable
women have robbed men of their peace
and happiness, and their faith in the
whole feminine sex.
OF course. the woman may say that
she told the man that she didn't love
him and wouldn't marry him, but
while her lips said me- her eyes said
yes" and she framed her refusal in
and in this way she kept the man
hanging on, spending his time and
| money upon her, and wasting the
treasure of his affection upon her until
she was ready to marry someone else.
There is no more despicable thing,
no crueller thing, than for men and
women to play with the hearts of those
who love them. yet in common fairness
to these philanderers we must admit
that sometimes the harm they do is
unintentional.
Love is a thing over which we have
no control. We cannot make our
selves love, any more than we can
make ourselves cease from loving.
Nor can we heat UP a lukewarm af-
lection into a burning, sizzling passion.
And this is equally true of men and
| women.
we change. God knows how and
why, but suddenly we realize that a
feetstep that thrilled US thrills us no
more, that the little ways Of an indi-
vidual allure US no more, that we are
| bored to tears at the presence of one
| of whose society we had thought we
could never weary.
We have fallen out of love as mex
/ plicably as we fell in love, and we
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man or woman We loved has not been
changed. 1t is we who have changed
| and we can no more go back to that
other self that loved, and admired,
and was satisfied, than we can go back
| into the cradle again.
| A false sense of honor, and a mis-
guided pity and tenderness, have made
| thousands of men and women go on
and marry the women and men that
| they had outgrown, and ceased to
love-. because they felt that in such
| cases the fault was theirs. and that
| they should be the sacrifice. So men
with death in their hearts, come back
| and lead to the altar the girls they goi
| engaged to before they went forth to
see their fortunes in the wide world
and women make bleak marriages
1 with the patient suitors who have beer
/ counting them fer years and years, and
whom they have not the courage tc
refuse at last.
| Never was there a more mistaken
ideal of beauty Never a ~eru~ llel
kindness. No human being can do an
other a greater wrong than to marry
him or her fer pity. 1t is only in fic-
| ton that a Sentimental Tommy car
eamouf1age his feelings. and hide his
WEAKNESS well enough to deceive the
wife or husband of his or her bosom
into thinking that SKINNED milk af-
| lection is the cream of devotion.
I So man or woman is justified il
| reniging in the love game when ever
! they find out they have ceased to hold
trumps. 1t is better to be called q
gutter than to be an unloving hus-
band or wife. But it's a great game
this game of hearts, if you don't
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