Indiana daily times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1914-1922, 1921-06-25
MARITAL LIFE is
HURT BY GRAMMAR
OF THE CARELESS
Use of Slang ShGn,es and An
tdgOnizes the More
Particular.

NEW YORK, June 25.-Cultivate your
speech, married women, If you would be
permanent wives.
Grammar is the best friend Of the
woman who wishes to retain her hus-
bands love, according to Miss Aubrey
| Eaton, of the Chicago branch of the
Y. NJ. c. A., whose classes on how to
get and keep q husband have brough
great happiness to her students, it
| said.
! Man is certain to be alienated by such
expressions as, Gee, amt them waffles
grand" or II amt never drank such
| swell coffee" when they come from the
rosy lips of his careless spouse.
! Poor grammar" Miss Eaton says
has caused more domestic infelicities
than all the burnt soup and hard boiled
eggs in the world"
| But there is a deeper reason for I'M
happiness brought about by listening to
such perversions of English. The one
who commits the transgressions against
correct speech engenders in the mind
of the other something which causes mar
ital dissatisfaction
Mrs. Virginia Terhune Van De Water,
famous author who has written many
novels and stories treating of marital
problems, told me today Of her convic-
lions on this subject
This touches upon one of my hob
bles," she said earnestly I have a firm
belief that the secret of a great deal of
establishment in marriage is the fact
that one of the parties to the contract is
ashamed Of the other
Such secret shame kills love
For instance, suppose I know some
woman who has very presentable hus-
land She is proud of him and wishes
70 present him to me. He meets me, and
In his speech may either double a mega
tive or perhaps make a coarse remark. He
mas thereby wounded the sensibilities of
the wife who wished him 70 make a good
impression.
Il think If a man had to hear man.
gled English at the breakfast table, pro-
vided he were an educated man, he
would constantly have a feeling of shame
Tor his blind folly in marrying beneath
him.
Poor grammar with all due respect
to the lady who used the phrase does
not exist. There is no such thing as
poor grammar or bad grammar
Grammar is the Standardization and
the science Of correct use of language
But do not think an educated man
unless caught when very young, would
marry woman who expressed herself
poorly. Such speech offends the ear and
the sense Of good taste.
MEN OFTEN MAKE
WIVES ASHAMED.
There is another point Although
many iu-bred women offend men with
mistakes in English, many educated men
oHend their wives with slang and coarse
stories sprinkled in conversation.
I knew a very charming woman who,
In fit Of pique. married o man far be-
meath her He has little self-c0ntrol and
when excited or angry. lapses into the
vernacular. with which he is familiar.
Believing as I do that secret shame
Of ones life partner causes most Of our
marital infeicity. l always urge women
TO keep themselves up. There is a time
In youth when it is very interesting to
dress, to give attention to the aces
series Of ones toilette
Later on in life, when good looks often
vanish, then it is an absolute necessity
to look well. The office worker, any
women in business, realizes this.
1t Is the business womans duty to
keep up. What does a man think, after
working all day with women in his Of
hce who are as well and appropriately
dressed as they are able, when he goes
home to 4 woman who no longer takes
any interest in her own appearance He
loves his wife and wishes to be proud
Of her. but she won't let him, and it hurts
him by her own Indifference. She has
let GO"
What qualities do men like in wom-
en?" Mrs. Van De Water was asked.
The truly masculine, virile man likes
6emininity," she declared. "She may be
militant sufragist. an advanced femin-
ist and yet be the most feminine of
women. She must have the feminine ap-
peal. l never knew any man who ad-
mired the masculine type of woman. who
affects collars mannish hats and suits
that resemble his own.
Il never had a daughter" Mrs. Van
De Water said. MY children were boys
but l know what l would like in a
daughter, the qualities / would tell any
girl to cultivate.
II should wish her to be like my own
daughter in law, the girl my son mar
ried. She would possess self reliance, an
almost masculine grasp of a subject, and
at the same time be capable of the depths
Of emotion; she should be gentle in
speech and yet possess strength. She
must never forget herself or let her
speech become harsh
MY ideal modern girl will dress mod
estly. That does not mean that it is
necessary to avoid fashionable attire, only
the extremes of style. I don't decry the
short skirts, unless they are immodestly
short; that applies to the decoIlette gown
also"