Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-10-18

EVIDENTLY number OF mothers
T. road of the woman from out Of
town who had told me Of some of our
,irls' bad manners, for I have had
Several letters since Saturday when the
account was published. The letters
have thanked me for the few words Of
warning to make the girls think. but
thcy have also called attention to an
other sad breach of good manners
among the young people. And this
fine it is not only the girls but the
Younger men who came in for criti-
cism.
IT'S this matter Of answering invita-
L tions and, after having answered
them. remembering them. ] have been
told one story after another of the
trials of the hostess who gives dinner
before a dance or the theatre or q the.
atrc party for certain number OF
Girls and men. When only a few are
asked IL makes a decided difference IL
they do not all attend and most EN-
bsrrassing things are often the result
Of this lack Of thought.
There was one dinner given last
year at which the hostess waited for
half nm hour after every one else had
arrived, and then finally called the
young mans home on the phone to find
he had forgotten about the invitation
he had answered and accepted, and had
gone away for week.
A MOTHER letter told me that invita-
"A tions had been issued by the writer
fen men invited only four answered the
invitation. Finally three days before
the dinner she telephoned to the homes
of the other six to find what their an
swer was. Two had accepted another
Invitation and had forgotten TO an
swer hers and regret, and four others
intended to 90 to her dinner, but
hadn't taken the trouble to let her
know.
Can you imagine the state of mind
Of hostess left till the last minute
10 know whether those invited are
coming or not. and at the last minute
obliged to ask some one to "ill in"
which is never a compliment? It's
pretty bad, you will admit.
One hostess heard of did a splendid
thing last year. She invited, among
others, young man her daughter knew
very well. He did not answer: inst
made mental. note Of the date and
time and took it for granted that they
would know he was coming. When he
arrived at the house and entered the
drawing room his hostess looked per
fectly blank at first, then, gathering her
wits together, she advanced and greeted
him. but said: "Why, this is a sur
prise" Surprise" said the young
man, did you not expect me?" WHY
mo- she answered. "You did not an
swer the invitation so | invited some
one else N your place" Need [ saw
that young man has not been guilty
of any social errors since that time?
1t was very awkward. and rather
than have 1t 60 any further Mrs. -
ordered another place arranged for him
ana made the young man stay. But
wager ne would not like to go through
ms embarrassment again.
The time to answer an inyitat;on is
the day you receive it. and the time 70
make note of the engagement on your
social calendar is the time Won answer
the invitation. II you have accepted,
make a note TO go to it: and if YOU
nave declined do not put it on the cal
ehdar' Then there will be no confusion
and we shall have little more system
as well as little more poltcness and
mere VIII be some pleasure in enter
tanning.
I'D you ever hear anything as poou.
- lar as the Foyer of the Academy of
Muse for entertainments this veor%
positively everything is being hold
there. You know the University Fy.
tension Society will conduct series of
eighteen lectures there this wear on
Monday mornings. and they have So.
cured DR.. Earle Raiguel to sneak I
henrd him last year at one of tho Emor.
Een"y Aid Sunday evening talks. and he
was quite delightful. Some Of ,bc
women who are interested are Mr.
Edward Bddle. Mrs. Edward XXX
Mrs. Norton Downs. Mrs. StonIov
rfIagG, Jr., Mrs. Joseph Lc'dy, NIrs
'eorgr, II. Lorimor. Mrs. Willis NIar.
,nn' Mrs. John Mason. Mrs, Cbnrls.
farnom and Mrs. Seymour Davis. ''
WEN in the youngsters Of the male
species desire that those Of ,ho
'pPoSlt" sex be gentle and feminine IN
'ohN ana manner rrnpS ,u, I