Arizona republican., 1921-01-11
THROUGH A WOMAWS EYES
BY JEAN NEWTON
When tho Right One Comes AIons

When the Right One Comes Along A young man nplains that he has TO success in finding a wife. The rris he has liked. he says. do not take him Just because ! cannot make fool Of myself doing tho Sir Walter ltalelgh stunt and making myself eoormat for them to step on.'
 Re goes on to ask why in this day of equal rights and marital partner ships courting is still expected Co be back in the days of the crinoline.
 Way" he says. should a 1921 na4iel who can serve a ball fast as Eny man and can figure out to a nice degree just what she will demand of hushand-why should she expect calf eyes and silly love notes and all the other fool things that fellows used to co before they married, but never did after7 Why shouldn't a girl who has sense enough Co demand a partnership be willing to approach the big partner ship in sensible way2 Once a fell low shows her by hanging around that he is willing to take @ bet on her as a good investment for life and she feels tho same way about him, what is the matter with a plain invitation to share his bread and butter and bake his cake9 Way do they want flowers and
 
 Actions speak louder than words and when sensible fellow is willing 10 promise to paddle her canoe for iifs doesn't it show what he thinks of her.
 It does young man. And perhaps the girls Co whom you have made the proposition have deprived themselves of an excellent husband But there IS an Important factor that you have aFf saIT tons.
 You seem to forget that there is one thing that does not change with the fashions, that is the same in a 1920 model as meath the ruffled bodice of your great grandmother crinoiine. It is a woman's heart.
 Marriage is a partnership; and a sensible girl considers it with as much seriousness as you do But 1921 1921 or 1861. she wants. always has wanted and always win want to be courted and he won. She wants the romance that is Inc bread and meat of youth She wants you to be the fairy prince who win come along and make her the princess of her dreams.
 Sharing your bread and butter and baking your cake. young man, is not ir itself the most thrilling thing in the world. It is love. the real thing plus
 
 romance that make it worth while foi a girl to give up her carefree exist rncc and assume the burdens of mar ried life on a bread-and- butter and baking your cake basis.
 It Is love. with the wild, dreamy extravagant sugar coating that car make nectar and ambrosia out of your bread and water. and a fascinating game out of hot oven and baking your cake.
 And don't you say it doesn't last "things that they never do after mar riage." Perhaps you are not fortunate enough to remember your old mothers pale cheeks flushing and the tired lines smoothing out a bit when your daddy would say There's the most beautiful girl in the world to mel"
 It is this. the real thing and iti sugar coating. that would make a goo, bargain out of your offering of brea' and butter: and without it many sen sibie girls would decline a seemingl much better one.
 True. there may be unfortunate in stances where there is more suga coating than substance. And it is a the more pity that such apparent worthy material as yours should b wasted.
 But think 1t will not be waste, young man. For fl women have nc changed really. neither have men. Un derneath all your cold, hard practical ity you are a lover of the chase. YoI too. want to idealize, pursue and con ouer.s
 As a woman delights fin surrende you would glory as her victor. To may be sensible and all that; you ma even be unusual when the time come us to think about her as a partner. bi you. too. want the -colored glasse you want your princess as much ( she wants her prince, you want tower above and shield her and yo want to tell her so--when it happens when the right one comes alongl
 Then you will forget about the bal ter and the bargain. You won't pi it Co her. Here I am; take me leave me" You'll do the Sir Walt Raleigh stunt and a few that you wi rondly imagine are entirely original wen to writing poetry!
 You won't forget all the other thin, there are about this partnership th