Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1921-08-18

should the older woman, and use every
art and vile she is mistress of to gain her af
lection. To love and be loved is the great
longing of every heart, and none of us, not
even mother-in-lawS, are proof against those
who show they like US and want us to like
them. Fire melts ice every time.
The daughter-n-law should show some graf
tude towards her mother-in-laW for the gift she
has made her. 1t takes the pains of hell, and
twenty-five or thirty years of ceaseleSS toll,
and sacrifices and care to bring boy into the
world and fit him to make some girl a good
husband and for her to take him without one
word of thanks, or appreciation to the mother
who has bestowed upon her The greatest boon
one woman can beStoW on another is pref
ty base thing to do, when you come to think
about it. SO a few heartfelt words of graf
itude would be very sure of making hit with
mother-in-laW, provided It didn't strike her
dead with surprise.
Daughter-in-law can also acquire merit in
mothers eyes by going to her for advice. The
SubteSt flattery in the world is that implied
by asking anotherS opinion on your purchases,
your ideas, your conduct, for it implies you
have come to sit at The feet of incarnate wis
dom. Mother-in-lawS are peculiarly subject to
this line of attack and any daughter-in-law can
| make herself persona g:ata by asking her huS-
bands mother to help her pick out her furni-
ture and teach ner how to cook.
Half of the trouble between mother-in-lawS
and daughter-in-lawS arises from the bride rush
ing to her mother with all of her prob
lens, and taxing her advice instead of counsel
ing with her husbands mother. For mother
in-law doesn't forget that it is her sons money
that is paying the bills, and that if any out
slider has right to say how it is spent, she is
the one
The young who wants to win her
mother-n-laWs favor does we'll to put the Sof;
pedal on the love-making and refrain from
Haunting her conquest in The older woman's
! face. Of course, mother wants her son to be
devoted to the woman he has married, but hui
man nature is human nature, and it takes Z
heroic woman to enjoy seeing the son that she
worshipS beStowing a tenderness upon his wife
he never showed her, and meekly submitting tc
| be ordered about in a way she would not have
| dared to even attempt with him.
And above ALL don't let your husband sing
your praises to his mother, end tell her wha
wonderful manager you are, and that he never
tasted such cooking. Many man makes tina
blunder in trying 10 make his mother like hi:
wife. No mother ever lived who didn't cher
iSh the fond illusion that her son thinks he1
the paragon of her sex. and that he goes
through life hIngering for things like mother
used to make. Never dispe this illusion
Rather push it along, so that your mother-in
| law shall pity her son and cease to be jealou:
| of you.
But love mother-in-law, and let her see you
do. Be interested in her, and cordial to her
| In that is all the law and the prophets of how
| to win mothe.~in-laW. No heart reSiStS love
| long.
| Copyright, 1921, by The Wheeler Syndicate
Inc)
Dorothy Dix articles appear in this paper
| Monday, "wednesday and Friday.