The Washington herald., 1921-11-16
RULES
DIFFER WITH men,
SAYS DOROTHY DIX
n
Advises Newly WEEDS to
!, Make the Best of
{ Marriage Lottery.
By DOROTHY DIX.

= a much peeved.. little bride asks
me IL 1 will write an article on the
ExCEssIvE. SURPLUS. UNPLEAs-
liant. UNcALLED FOR. AND UN-
sDESIRABLE ADvICE-the adjec-
Dives and the capitals are hers
;,that is bestowed upon newly WEEDS
w She says that she is overwhelmed
innd dazed by the conflicting coun-
i,fel that .has been given her, and
hthat so Numerically opposed are
he various theories of how to be
tihappy though married that have
,npeen thrust upon her by different
iswell-meaning friends. that she would
mot know which prophet to follow.
sfven IL she were seeking advice on
1.-THE subject. which she isn't. Quite
,,the contrary.
~ She has been told, she says, that
N Is the duty of wife to be meek,
ahnd mild. and patient. and fore
,.bearing in her attitude towards
1her husband She has also been as
ssured that a wife writes her own
.,pricetag. and that she gets from
ther husband only what she makes
Dim give up. and that a foxy wife
siets her husband monopolize all the
meek. mild. patient business while
pedestal on which he installed her
AN the days of courtship
- One woman advises her that the
s~ay to help her husband get on is
10Y being thrifty, and Industrious,
sfnd economical. Another informs
ther that the rear recipe for making
"a husband hustle is for his wife to
zoe such a good spender that he
.has to get into high speed to keep
cup with her bills.
= One woman tells her that the way
.to keep a husbands affections Is
a,by making corns on her hands
,other tells her that If she desires
10 keep her husband interested in
shielding her hand. she must keep
st In a nice. squeezable condition.
a One woman tells her that she
.fnust use suavity, and tact, and
diplomacy in dealing with her hus-
band. Another Is all for a good
trough and tumble fight. and going
40 the mat over every topic on
(which a wife and husband happen
10 disagree
- One school of thought among
wives believes in making a pamper-
ed household pet of hubby. The
other visualizes him as the family
beast of burden. and a cash register.
And so IL goes. Each woman has
her own creed as to the best method
of dealing with her husband, and.
,curiously enough, though, there
are precious few. wives who make
such a shining success of the mat
ter that they have qualified as ex-
perts, and are entitled to speak
with authority upon IT. none hest
tates to lay down the law upon the
subject
one of the things that every wo-
man thinks she knows how to do is
how to manage her husband. and
} the fact that she has made disas-
trous bungle of her attempt at 1t
in her own case, doesn't shake her
. faith in her theory, or cause her 10
refrain from trying to pass 1t on 10
others.
perhaps this is natural enough.
Perhaps no one can see a couple OF
,ipexperienced young mariners set
ting forth to sail a dangerous sea
without desiring to shout some sort
of warning to them, even IL II IS
sonly to bid them beware of the par
,ticular rocks on which their own
ship of happiness was wrecked. m
deed. if most of the people who
thrust undesired advice upon new
Nv weds were honest, they would
begin their counsel by saying
,"Don't be as big a fool as i was,
because it is the tragedy of the
knowledge that we gain by expert
,ence that it generally comes too
late to do us any good.
But, as my little bride says. all
.the advice that. is given to bridal
couples is excessive. superfluous,
,undesired. and no good, anyway. be-
,cause no husband and wife since
,the first bridal excursion in the
.Garden of Eden have ever had just
1.-THE same matrimonial puzzle L"
iwork out, or have approached the
domestic problem from the same
:angle.
Every husband and every wife on
iearth have a thousand little eccentric
titles OF temper, and temperament.
land disposition that makes each a
separate riddle to solve, and each
lis put into an environment that
icalis for different treatment of the
,situation.
show wise as a general proposition.
into utter foolishness in the indi-
.vidual application of il. The way
ito manage one man or woman II
mot the way to manage another
IThe things that appeal to one hus-
band or wife leave another cold.
The tactics that cause one husband
Ito loosen up and be lavish will but
,ton up another's pocket.
There are men who have to be
.jollied and cajoled: other men
whose sense of justice must be ap-