Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1921-02-20

Once. long time ago. somebody
wrot. that manners ar" "a pleasant
decctt--a conspiracy TO rob rxistcnc"
OF much Of it's crudity. Because Of
| them the elusive element u arm
linScrs in The world and gcnti.r
aturcs are encouraged in their ro-
ust growth. /, must have been a
";te time ago. indeed. ancient Of
\d"Ns. that the sage IL Iited words o.
?ra'Sc Tor such Il goodiy Subject
Nowadays you hear people common;
~ III surprise on the fact tina, such
I.'rs"n has beautiful manners
,no chapcron of many Balls Lean
cd over a, the last ball before Len,
tni Stoke to her co:npin.or N
;nis.ry ''Tha; is tie nicrst young
man who just came up AMI spoke
10 Us. So well raised He actually
came up especially to shake hands
"ith all the chapcrons and make
himself agreeable TO so.ec Of us. quite
as IL he enjoyed himself"
The lady in black lace nodded
Srarciy. Tile is "a mic. young man"
she said. when he is invited 70 dine
at your house he dances with the
girls at the ball later. and he calls
politely some time attcrward to show
YOU that nc hasn't taken your nut
ton and pudding as something his
JUS, due, but Il little courtesy on your
part. which he in turn appreciates.
II !sn't the men alone. have received
at several dances this winter and
many OF the girls and men hardly
passed down the receiving line
when they came. much less TO tell
their hSstS goodnight. II seems to
me revival in the art OF manners
would not go amiss."
/, isn't that you would have the
world return TO it. 'bo~ing and
scrnping." it's Towering compliments
and cNtravagant praise Of lady's
eyebrows. hut 10, OF efficient; people
|.oi the present day seem 10 have dis
car'!ed manners as 20 much unncccs-
sary implements The same article
on manners goes on to SAY: Why
Use when lady enters the room?
Why appear Interested when others
talk? Why ask to he remembered
-ro people YOU have hithert" forgot
ten? Why thank anyone for givlna
YOU what YOU have paid for There
b, not much reason OF lo.ic behind
il All II is merely that with the
nuer natures there Is an instructive
,ourtcsy that expresses itself in man
uers just as IN many others there
is AN distinctive lack Of courtesy
which hnds expression In boorish-
ness"
Manners are no, useless. som"
present day "p!nion TO the contrar:
!; is something subtle and fine which
prevents YOU from giving th0ughtl"ss
hurt 10 others. II makes you remain
slicnt "hcn chopin il being played
OF course you remember the en-
rhantinE story 81 the old bishop.
who. being pushed aside quite ruth
css.y with "a number OF others who
mad been waiting patiently in line
Tor entrance at some particular place.
was told by the i!l-manncrcd strans-
.r II am Bismarck" That" said the
prclaic. explains, but does NOT cN-
use your behavior"
Elevation IN the world IN any way
= never an excuse Tor lack Of cou!-
rcsy on: man says OF his owa sex
hat he excuses every sort of lack in
The prcsen,-day world, bu, that tn.
lack OF chivalry in the manners ri
y" mon toward the girls IS simply
mcxcL snblc Maybe 1t is the girls
lauit. aiattcrs seem To need mcndins
~ both directions Good coInrtdc-
si,ip i well enough and anc. The
mid Victorian attitude OF the gem
tlcmen toward the female Of the
species is far from standard that
one would desire or initiate. II
;eresting as the wax and feather
flowers that went with the age. hut
wc need TO borrow little Of the
Victorian value OF the courtesy TO
others. For instance il will make
YOU feel that you should not go late
20 concert and disturb both the
audiences AMI the artists by your un-
timely and bciated appearance. 1t
will keep you in your seat at your
club until the lecturer Is quite done
with his speech so that you wiz no,
disconcert either the speaker or his
hearers by stumbling out of the hall
and diStractine attention. Ii is so
much better TO stay al home If you
feel unable TO stay through the whole
Lecture. There is really nothing YOU
can class with the rudeness Of the
woman, or man either. who thus dis
turbs Il program.
And so you could on and on There
arc so many sorts and conditions OF
manners and lack Of them But i, i.
only something else that goes back
10 the homes and nursery hearth
stones again. In honor prcsarrjn.
one another" one precious mother al
ways said. when you had your hands
On the prcttiest picture book. and
your small sisters hands were tug
einG at the other half II ended
with both looking at il together with
IN" most unaccountably amiabie fec,-
ing existing between the two Of Won
Manners arc.quitc simple They com.
from IN" goodness OF your h.ar,
.They smooth out the rough places in
LIE and MAKE the old world more
'ab';ahlc for all the men and women
i' BRENT WITT.
Jonrs-rinSir,.
l. Garland Tinslcy announces Inc
approaching marriage OF his sisfrr
Miss clair Tinslcy. daughter of thc
late Mr.. and Mrs. James q. rins1nr
OF 'Picruenocque,' TO a Scddon
Jones, Jr., son Of the late MIR. ana
Mrs. y: Seddon Jones. The wcddinp
VIII cake nlacc-very quietly Saturday
morning, February &c, at the home ~
the bride. Only the two families vii ~
witness the ceremony.
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