The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1921-02-13
Mr.. Vonahm Answers.

| n'N' Dccl contemplating such a move Tor many
have had worlds Of fun reading your heated
| arguments som" 80 entirely OF the subject at
| hand nS to be absolutely laughable. others 30
sarcastic fas the from Rlxby of the SUNDAY
'dlI"h) hS 10 MAXI feel that surely a
woman possessing any degree Of feminine char
uct'rlFlcts and really educated and refined,
! would write IN that tunc. Az 10 some who were
or me subrct a woman puts forth tho argu-
m'nt that men would make fine telephone
'PT"toIE' MY dear woman, mon don't want
huth posiiions, don't worry Just benr in mind
INC argument under discussion has been. Mar
I''u WPn"n who are working when there is no
hoc'TSnty Of it, not girls and young ladies' who
mus, earn a livelihood. widows or such. but
wh'9 they are holding down posi lions simpIy
because their husbands cannot afford To doll
tInm up' tas they toll me). as they should Ike
" be, or. secondly, because they dotcst house
family.
Women N tho above three classes. pray tell
me IN n" name of all that is good and true, why
u'hh you lcarc your husbands for other women
VINO would DC ovorjOyCd 10 make them q real
nome why didn't YOU make clean breast of
" before you married them and tell them you
hn'" you couldn't stand the monotony OF house
work thht You would never consent 10 be "A
mother. Were you fair and square, have A
sister who wrote only last week saying she
would give the world for a husband, family and
nome such az have. have known and know
any number Of such women. who can say WHY
men persist ip passing up such women for a
coquottish smie-and live a iifc-tiu.o OF regret
Ism q his getting start much ovcrworkcd?
DOW III due respect 20 the wife Of a returned
soldier, who has "a truly good intention. OFTEN
these starts extend over a period OF many years
IN fact tho getting "A start" never terminates
In most cases We have an example of this in
our own family. The wife insisted on helping
get a start as she had very good stcno-
graphic position, and when IL finally ended after
len years of married lifo. her husband was taken
from her she was still In downtown Office.
enough Ia bury him
She hab since walled. "oh why didn't make
a nome Tor him as he begged mo to do? lie
coHld have kept u.s. and have family comfort
able on his salary, ana | am sure We could
ma" saved much more in the end. We paid
Insh tcnts-always ate at restaurants (both had
stomach trouble), went 10 n show almost every
night alter dinner paid cxorbtant laundry
m'ls' had TO hire all sewing and mcndng done.
Don't forget. have observed for wears that
woman cannot hold down two iobs---nne at
home and one at the office. have never seen
II successfully done. The nearest successes to
II nave o"en nervous and physical wrecks after
TWO years And how many sew or patch, wash
or iron at night as some claim? woman with
any sort OF position, II she really puts in her
time working. Is 40 tired when she comes home
AZ h'gM that even monding IL much neglected
and drudgery when It is accomplished Profit
by tho case l cite, for you are cheating Yourself
AS well as others
May | say in defense of my husband. who ,
has hcen the target Of much slanderous assault !
simply because "the shoe seemed to lit a great
number OF married women" he IS an ideal
husband. have heard him say many times
no believes that women have as great IL not
greater mentality than men--and ne certainly
treats ms wife In accordance with his state
ment lie Is most devoted to his home and chill
dren, and he never goes from home unless nc
dheS MS WHe along, ana We attend tho theatcr
or some place OF amusemnet at least twice a
week. Other evenings stay home and read
pay me piano sing. play the victrola or dance,
or ronp with the Riddles or Just entertain our
selves with each others companionshp. A
woman can make home the most interesting
place in the world to her husband with a little
effort. My husband helps mo with my house
work when lie is at home and does his share
IN taking care OF our babies day night. Hc
wipes dishes beautifully and he Is not "A sissy !
either. but real man. lie is good atured |
nnndsome talented, a sportsman, has uni !
VeIsity education and is Just ideal all around
true rcd blooded American.
And for those whoy say OF myself. Poor girl, |
shG don't know any better" let me say, | have |
coIiege decree have taught music and elocu-
lion before was married. have won many lite !
raIS prizes and have done much china painting, |
ana believe | am fully capable OF holding my |
own in the business world IL | cared TO- and |
did not think and feel l had FAR greater |
callinR--that OF making out Edgar A. Guests |
sort OF American home Yet do ali my own !
housework, wash iron. cook sew. mend and |
aIrS tor our Two ll,te girls have all modern
Is filled to the utmost. belong to no club or |
societies. and certainly never to see my |
is my little world and treasure II as Jewels ! !
nave mop but II is real pleasure to get down !
on my hands and knees and scrub with brush |
my white tilo bathroom. | consider a good
home manager the highest art
Don't think married well to do man, |
financially. Five years ago when we were mar
rted, my husband making a very small |
salnry. IN iact' when we came to Tulsa two years
vanccd sctadily by hard work but | managed
and saved and made every dollar he earned try
to do the work Of ten. Saving was my earning
power and | considered that | made very |
good salary. Besides | would not trus. my little |
ones welfare to the best housekeepcr money
could buy, unless II we're absolutely necessary
Please understand though, that my heart goes |
out 10 women who arc widows and have to work.
ana women whose husbands are so shtftIess
their families needs don't worry them a particle
or women with disabled husbands or such. In
Suoh cases give a woman credit who goes to tho
tront as the bread winner. Such women. both
my husband and commend, but We do bitterly
dccIy the woman who works away from her
home unnecessarily or for any of my aforesaid
reasons. consider hc- no better than tho
woman OF the strects-cNcept that she is with
IN tho law bcchus" she is married. Can she
give any reason for her marriage? Surely cvc~v
man who marries wants a homo or else ne
would Keep a bachelor apartment and come
and 60 at will and not be bothcod with an ca |
pcnsiNc home wife and family.
Last evening my husband brought home the
Nictota record, The Love Nest" PLAYED by
Fritz krclsler. We played il a dozen times he.
for" ccasng my husband finally saving
Doesn't that lust sound like our home sweet
hoart'' lts truly love nest and We are sweet.
hearts still
MRS, c. c. BoNAIIM.