The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-01-28
Advice To The
 Lovelorn
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX An Authority on All Problems o1 Girls and Questions of Love
 and Romance.

The "vamp" isn't n strictly mod ern institution Dut the amount of publicity she gives and takes is Home-wrecking seems to be one of the accepted professions for ladies' who-iike luxury and-don't-c2re = how - they-come-by-it-
 Who's to blame for the vampire7
 Chiefly the wife, I should say. I don't mind the storm of protest and exclamation I may be calling down on my hcad-if only I -'selr' a few wives the fact that they haven't picked de luxe. cushioned. "cinch- job For the minus wives get out of the habit of folding their hands and sitting back as if they had accom- plished their destiny and had noth- ing more to fear hope or strive tor-that minute the lady vamp win be we'll advised if she folds her tent and fits otherwhere-
 Today's love story does not end::
 And so they were married and lived happy ever after"
 IL begins that way.
 No man can turn on his feelings as if they were controlled by a faucet There are things which com pei his emotions and things which repel them.- things which appeal to his common sense and command his respect and things which disgust him and arouse all his latent antag- onism- Men are boys grown up. they are fighters and hunters because of the half million years of savagery behind the human race as we know 1t today And they are incorrisible dreamers searching for romance | Women know this intuitively. But the woman who finds her man and marries him forgets the delicacy of l the munitions and the responses which won love, and considers her | story a simple one with the last 1 chapter foretold by the first. Which | it isn't. Because there are more than two individuals in the cast of l characters.
 While friend wife sits back in
 smooth, complacent laziness. express ed in dishabille of the mind or body. l along comes the '.vamp"-trim. neat. ! dressed up in the mental as well as
 the bodily newest and most attrac-
 tive Spring styles.
 Whats the use of saying that .
 man ought to be true to his vows
 and to the woman he once loved and
 swore to go on loving7 Love doesn't
 go by ethical rules. The finest man
 In the world can only fight to be true
 to himself as well as the wife he
 once hoped always to cherish He
 can only fight" say. He can't
 to lose if the wife nags. shows tenn
 per, looks slovenly and follows this up with mental slovenliness-
 | "Rfght'' and "swrong' are things
 we have developed with civilization They are ethical terms and stand for
 modern felings- Back of the few thousand years or ClNillzauOn the human race has known are half a
 million years of animalisrn and saw
 agery. It doesn't pay to forget the history of the race in dealing win III human factors
 III, Contest and fight are part of tN- H history of the human struggle tc II survive. And they're likely to go or | being part and parcel of our his Il tory Let's accept facts and adapt 7 ourselves to them. Let's not make , things too easy for folk who haven'' l a highly civilized property sense. and
 who are not ethical and moral crea' ' lures
 . . The lady vamp finds things made . too easy for her by the wife Ths ' way for good woman to fight 2 : bad" one is not with precept and : preaching, but by putting out o U commission the one thing on whtcf = the interruptions woman counts : and that's her charm If mar U marries a woman because he love :, her and she throws away his love Q, Y laziness. by slovenliness by failing t'
 grow-she needn't blame anothe
 woman when she loses him; she diS
 it herself.