The Mt. Sterling advocate., 1921-06-30
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cluue unlS quailty among tneSe Wh1cf
are considered as beahtifiers, but
you have no idea what an effect OF
beauty is produced on the average
person, particularly on men, by an
even gracious disposition.
1t is of course not possible to
show an even unruffled front to the
world at all times unless one ap-
pears to be in polite accord with the
people one is with and this gift is
part of the game of diplomacy
which is a most valuable asset. No
woman can afford to be without it
and most men are better off for the
cultivation of it.
To be diplomatic does not mean
necessarily to be weak minded. The
diplomatic woman may have just as
decided opinions as her outspoken
sister. She simply waits for the
right time to express her views and
she does not continually contradict
every one, or the minute a statement
is made take the very opposite view.
''No, l won't employ her!" GER
tain prominent business man re-
marked to his general manager. "She
may be a wonder, and as clever as
you say, but l hear she is hard to
get along with, = makes enemies
wherever she goes because she prides
herself on speaking exactly what is
on her mind. 1 don't want any one
man or woman who can't use tact
and diplomacy in this plant. We
want people who make friends, not
enemies"
The woman who lacks this preci-
Gus quality is the one who starts out
with 'Do you want me to tell you
something for your good7"
Now hardly anyone wants to he
told something either for good or
otherwise-and certainly not unso-
licited.
If you go around telling people
the truth you may enjoy the opera
ton intensely, but that is all you will
enjoy, for your friends will be nigh
ty few and will become fewer if you
persist in your very ungracious
habit.
GLOW do you like my dress9"
asks you and you don't think
it is suitable to her at all.
If you are foolish you tell her ex-
actly what is in your mind, namely,
that it is entirely too young for her
and that she is fool to wear a skit-
tish color which is unbecoming to
her. If you are wise you leave it out
Of the question, whether it is suited
to her or not, and you find some
thing pleasant to say about the
lress:
"What a darling modelw or some
hing hike that. After all she has not
asked you whether you thought the
dress becoming or not, and it is
pretty dress only it is not for her.
You leave the unpleasant part Of the
proposition out-which is the acme
Of diplomacy.
The woman with a calm unruffled
manner and smooth way with her
S always in demand. Just digest
that fact and make up your mind
it is worth while being
otherwise, no matter how clever you
are. Of course if you do not care
about succeeding socially and hav-
ng people like you, that is a differ
ent matter-but I presume you do.
The greatest fault that a woman
can commit in the way of lack of
diplomacy is to show jealousy. That
S the cheapest fault of all, the most
Fatal to success and to love. To show
jealousy of another girl is to show
afraid Of her and to be
afraid of her is to admit her
strength. Men make fun Of jealous
and laugh at them with keen
delight. They like to encourage this
state of mind and have absolutely no
respect for any girl who shows it.
If you are persuaded that you are
being sighted in favor Of any one
Else, the diplomatic thing to do is to
gnore the situation utterly and
either dismiss the whole thing from
your mind or else exert yourself to
be extra sweet and interesting with
out showing any trace of catfish
ness.
There is always a great deal Of
jealousy around the studios, but the
girls who show it are the very ones
who get on least well. The most pop
nlar women arc fhosa who oonnbina