The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1921-01-18
Cynthia
Grey
Nodcrn Mother Sends
Adcice and Cheer TO
Mothers Who Lack Tact


ern mother and the modern girl
Yea II h modern mother and
sne 10 As different from the mothers
~ yesterday ae the modern girl il
different from the Eirl back In the
yeArA
when we rad such letters as the
me from -Sorrowfui Mother things
,unnem q hopeless tsnsle. yet the case
ssaily not as hopeless as Il APP
4 pears
We osden mother rarely considered
ne side Of the child. The autccracy
II the elders must b met without
question. Today most mothers have
the -arrcst OF thought" and have the
vision OF wiser training.
To bring the arrest OF thought to
tho younger ones. 10 help them TO
cultivate the right attitude toward
every ono. the family included. there
are the Boy Scouts Campfire GlriS
ste
There arr rnothcrr' magazines and
many books from out OF mother ex.
pcrienccs. Tho churches have the
cradle roll. with wonderful little
paper that helps mother to an undcr-
standing sympathy with all Of the
many ssdos of her child
One shtp driv~s east ard one drives v~st
with the s~lf-ssme winds that sls..
It's the set % the saiia
And not the gales.
Wh3ch tell MS the way they -
The parents must set the saifs cor
ssctfy. that the gales do not drive To
| disaster.
A mother can DO nothing without
- understanding sympathy. To talk.
u scoic. and preach. just lays the
NJ fat.
When my gfris. who sre women
ffbDw. and one IN the mother of four.
0sre II and Is. they came home from
orhool one day all excitement about
going to some place that evening.
The place was so Questionable that
! could not think OF letting them 80.
but I did not tell them 40. I simply
smiled and nodded az they talked
After dinner I told them had
been thinking ahput II all. and l
knew II was them should be crazy
[ - 60. and would be apt 20 make a
1uss II not allowed to. and that l
vas going to tell them what knew
end let them decide for themselves
Then. as simply AZ I could.
ohowed them what such arnusements
Wouid do TO ones best self. told
Mem n they decided not TO 20 would
lake them 10 . certain place II WAS
Shekr delight to 20. and we would call
or their two girl friends 20 70 also.
when the time came to get ready
- 20. asked for their decision.
md found they had dceided to follow
~ plan
when We rot 10 che cshsr gtrfA -
bound them in tears and the mother
ID great distress As suspected
lAt the trouble was. quickly gave
them the invitation. telling them
that my girls wanted to 20 elsewhere.
AonA had told them dd not blame
Them. knew I would feet " were
1hey, and I appreciated their giving
~ eesng with such good grace.
whWeAf one OF The fearful girls said.
y~Wel1. our mother doe~ not talk thai
vay t. Us. IL she did. y would not
Da1es N % mad She teiis us ~
sGuxht to be ashamed 10 want to GO
That mother was trying to do right
~ her girls. but her lack Of an un-
1crsfanding sympathy WAS surely
oetfing tho sails wrong
The next day one Of my g4rfs told
kRe abe was glad that I had not let
~ 70. for she had heard tia girls
whe did go talking. and she would
lave been ashamed to have been In
Inch q place. / asked her why she
Nd / would not let her 20. She
I'd. Il can see II was you. for you
Ne mo see that I did not want
Eos
tn young folks - chat ycu are
because you understand and
bpashIze. and always have n fine
sutufe, they win not hesitate TO
things over with you
I were -Sorrowful Mother.
ND first get an the rankle out Of
~ own heart I would think over
D ths sweet baby ways Of my 6augn-
- and get my heart all tender to
bard her.
I would give her = loving word Of
&Draise now and then. even IL l had
10 stretch q point to do it.
When she looked especially wen. i
would remark how well my daughter
Booked When she returned homo
Ats from an evening out no matter
bow much I disapprovcd. I would
lave no air OF disapproval about me,
but would say as brightly as could.
rOh. II In fine to BE- young. Did you
Aave a charming TINA. deary-
When I had gotten All the raukie
mt of my heart. I would write her a
sitter and find fault with no one bpt
hyseif-
would tel her whst q pr-rtou.
krt of my life she was, and that I
VI been thinking over the years
Knee she came TO me, and felt that
oDrne way had failed az mother
here seemed to be no fellowship be
op'csn u.s. while 7 had given her my
oeepest love. I had not won her love.
Nhiis I admired much that la fine
y her. / had won no admiration
rom her.
&~I ~ould ask her 70 write out her
II and show mo why I had lost
!, and maybe could grow into. an
lierstandlng sympathy with her
" feel happy in her joys.
a mother came to me once I'm great
spaIr over the engagement OF her
laughter TO the most impossible fsi-
~ She said she had talked and
Dided and ridiculed the fellow ali TO
II avail.
We advtsed her 10 stop talking
@Diding. rtdiculing, and ask her
Aushter 20 forgive her. Write her
Moving letter and tell her she had
nade a mistake I'm making things 70
hrd for her. but IL was her mother
we that made her over anxious TO
I've her child happy; TO tell her II
~ loved this man with her deepest
Ature and felt life would be void
Without him and no one else could
Ne his place, she would no longer