The Hartford republican., 1921-11-04

heads over the latest dance steps and
know the real meaning of the word
home"
Thst's one of precisely thirty-nine
letters from men which came to me
after I'd published a plea from a girl
who wanted to know il she was doom
ed to sit at home unloved and un-
sought forever because she isn't mod
ern doesn't paint and powder and
play the game" after the fashion of
so many of today's daughters.
"where are the men who like old
fashioned girls?" she asked.
And thirty-nine youths from va
rious parts Of the country wrote in
telling me where these men are and
registering their admiration for a girl
of the simple. home-loying type. That
seems to answer her question bet
ter than any assurance of mine can
do. Yet want to quote again what
said to her and what is borne out
by the testimony of all these eager
youths who long to know just such a
girl.
Don't be discouraged. my dear"
I told her. There are plenty of men
who are looking for a simple, home
loving girl and who will appreciate
you when they come to know you.
Don't change your standards. for
your character is part OF you and it
would be like cutting off your right
arm to lower your belief in all that
is fine and swce;."
Many a girl might read tina, and
say:
"Oh. she's a woman. She can't
know how the men feel. And she's
fashioned and priggish. It's all
right to preach. but a girl wants to
be popular. to be sought after, to
have good time. The men like the
painted dolls and take them out. SO
what's the use of clinging to the
ideas that have gone out of stype?"
But the testimony of the thirty
nine men counts for something, does
1t not?
OF course there are plenty of men
who like pep and 'jazz" and all
the thoughtless. careless gayety so
many girls affect today But are they
marrying menu Could they sup
port wife if they had one? And
would the dancing society man be
good to wife if he could support
her?
1t isn't the number of invitations
a girl gets to q cabaret that make
for her future happiness 1t isn't
the dance partners she can be sure
of or the motor trips she goes on that
do anything to insure girls future
lgainst loneliness or to assure her
of a home and the Joy that comes of
a real love-partr trership.
One stable, sturdy. high-principle6
admirer is worth all the casual invi-
tations in the world. But youth likes
gayety and light and color, and the
girl who hears other girls telling
about their good times and their in
vitati0ns is likely to forgt that most
of those good tins don't lead any
where-beyond tired feeling the
next morning.
As long as the world lasts human
nature will crave real companion
ship and understanding. The girl
who longs to be invited about and
shown a good time" has a bigger
desire behind her wish to be popular.
She keeps hoping that while she's
fitting around she'll meet the right
man and get her chance at marrying
and making a home. But the man
who wants to marry and make a
home. and make himself and woman
happy, isn't dancing his EVENING"
away.
He knows better than to wear him
self out in the pursuit of pleasure so
he won't be fit for the pursuit of sue
3ess. He's plodding ahead, to the
goal of his ambitions, and he's look
ng for the sweet, simple. home-lov-
ng girl to share his nest o. dreams.
Maybe the old-fashioned girl does
not have a gay present, ut she has a
future.