The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1921-06-06
Dorothy Dix Talks
The PhiIanderer-2.

The Philanderer-2.
The woman who is married to a
philanderer, wastes her time in trying
to make him take serious view of
faithfulness into him. He can no
more keep from making love to a
pretty girl, or resist the appeal of a
romantic situation, than a drunkard
can resist the temptation of drink;
and, alas there is no Volstead act that
prohibits administering females from
parading the streets.
The wife's only comfort is that such
a man is no more true to these females
than he is to her, and that often in
spite of hundred light loves, she is
| the real love of his life.
| For men and women differ in this
when a woman is faithless to her hus-
band, her disloyalty goes to the very
bottom of her soul. She has ceased
entirely to care for him; but a mans
and even while he kisses other wom-
ems lips, and murmurs love talk in
their ears, he holds for his wife the
best that is in him, and gives her a
respect and affection that he never
i feels for any other woman.
AS to what the wife of philanderer
should do, that's another question,
and the answer depends on a number
| of things.
| It depends upon how much the wo-
man cares for the man. Sometimes a
| woman loves a man so well that she
| is happier with him, even when he
| makes her endure hours of jealousy
and agony, than she would be without
| him at all. Sometimes the man who
has his lapses from grace is SO 1ovable,
SO pleasant to live with, SO consider
ate and kind to his wife, that she can
afford to shut her eyes to his little
peccadillos.
| For the flirtatious man very often
does take as much trouble to charm
his wife as he does other women. He
| is the sort of man who is g. born lover.
He knows by instinct how to do, and
say, all of the little things that make
life worth living to women, and the
wife who has this sort of mate is wise
| if she recognizes that phiiandering is
not the worst fault that a husband
| may have.
! Goodness, surliness. stinginess
grouchiness, all of these are qualities
that are harder to endure in a hus-
| band than flirtatiousness. After all
it is better to be kissed by lips that
| kiss too many, than not to be kissed
at all, and to suspect that a duplicate
order of roses is going to some other
7 woman, than never to have your nus
band send you single flower.
| OF course, women are mOnopoliSts
who want all of their husbands love
and attention, and when they find that
1
ladies, their thoughts turn towards
the divorce court. But divorce ISM
often the cure-all for matrimonial ills
that women think it is going to be
So often it is jumping out of the fry
ing pan into the fire. So often it gives
a woman freedom, and brings on hel
poverty, and homelessness, and lone
illness, so that her last estate is worse
| than her first.
The modern woman does not want
to be told to be patient and sit tighI
| on her job as a wife. when husband
does not measure up to her standards
Nevertheless, it is good advice nine
times out of ten where the wandering
husband is concerned. For philander.
| ing husbands are like Mary'S little
lamb; let them alone and they will
come home. And in the meantime the
woman has her home, her income. and
her position in society, which are nc
mean consultations.