Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1921-03-10
DOROTHY. DIX TALKS
What Quality Do Men Ad-
nire Most in Woman?
BY DOROTHY DIX
Copyright, 1920, by the Wheeler Syndi-
cate. Inc.

We were discussing little woman who
had not only made three marriages, each
time getting adoring husband who wor-
SHIPPED her to the day of his death, but who
had been surrounded by throng of admir-
ing men all of her life.
'She must wear a rabbits foot around
her neck or have some other secret CON
jure," said a. woman, "for, so far as l can
see, there is nothing especially attractive
about her. She is nice enough, pleasant
enough, but not more so than the genera
mill-run of femininity. Yet she has married
three men, each one of whom was a catch
and all of her life she has had waiting lis i
camping on her parlor chairs, and cutting
into her Dances"
Heaven knows she is no beauty" said
another woman.
mot particle of style. She never did
know how to dress. Always looks like
package that mother tied up" commented
third.
''No wit nor vivacity said fourth, "smal
beer gossip about her personal acquaintances
and her husband, and children, and house
comprises her conversational range"
She's just an ordinary woman, just com
monplace, so far as other women can per
ceive. Yet she appears to hypnotic every
man she meets, and what every woman
would like to know is, what is the secret O
her charm for men?
| "She possesses the quality that men ad
mire most in a woman said an old bachelo 4
who had been listening to the conversation
land that is womanliness. That is the magi&
that draws the hearts of men to a woman
as irreSiStibly as the magnet draws the nee
die. That is the lure that is more poten
than all the spells that the vamp can cas-
| about man"
Beauty? OF course, men admire beauty
Of course a pretty face catches G. mans fancy
OF course man likes to be seen out with !
peach who makes other men rubber and env
him his luck.
| But did you ever notice how few beautieI 4
make really good matches? Can't you re
call dozen old maids who are reputed t
have been great bellies in their youth, an
haven't you heard your mother wonder VIII /
these women, who were once so much adj
mired, never married?
| The explanation is, that mems admiration
of feminine beauty is personal. They like II
look at beautiful woman, as they like Il
| look at some masterpiece of art, but the {
don't covet it for themselves. They are per
| fectly willing for some other man to han
the living picture on his own walls. II 70 !
will observe, you will see that while beaut !
insures a girl a good time, it doesn't guar
| antee her a wedding ring. '
! AS for style and smartness, they cut nd
| figure in mans estimation of a woman.
man likes to know that the woman he goe
|
on something that is soft and pretty. an Il
| light-colored; but beyond that, he knows
nor cares nothing for the details of her tot
lette. No woman makes a winning with I
man by looking like daily hint from Paris
He gets cold feet when he thinks of the pric !
tag.
Cleverness? The majority of men still lik |
feminine brains best when they are scramS
bled. Only small minority of men are bi !
enough and intelligent enough, themselves. II
! like women who are as well educated as the I
are, and who have as much sense as the |
| have. The average mans vanity demanda
adulation from woman. 1t requires woman
to look up to him and defer to him, and tina
is why clever women never let men find GU
how clever they are. Very few women ar !
the fools they seem to be-
AS for wit, woman commits hari-karH
with man when she says brilliant and sar
castle things, or shows that she is good al
repartee. Men have an insane fear of ridi
Guile, and they are always afraid that such {
woman is being funny at their expense.
have never known a woman who laughed
much who was popular with men, Men hav}
a morbid dread that the woman who laughs
will laugh at them.
No. 1t is not the snowy qualities in womel
that attract men. 1t is womanliness, tina I
suble something that differentietes the sexes
and that makes their attraction for eac
| other.
| don't know that one can just define VIVA e
womanliness u.s. It's gentleness, for one thing
You cannot imagine the womanly woma
| being rough and rude, and coarse. You can
not think of her dressing in vulgar clothes
or making an imitation man of herself,
swearing, or telling off-color stories.
The very essence of her is delicacy ant
refinement, and every man who comes nea
her, discovers in his bosom unknown symp
toms Of chivalry, and he wants to take car
of her and help her. I have Known business
women who were able to carry this quality
of womanliness into their business, and
was worth a fortune as an asset, because
made every man give them a hand up
For another thing, womanliness attracts
men because it has in it the quality OF ten
derness, of motherliness. Men never ge /
over being boys. They kids at hear
when they are eighty, and what man wants
in woman is not judge, but confessor
He wants to go to some woman who VIII
condone his faults, and weep over them, and
forget them, and love him in spite of them
Men spend their days with other men ]
When they want to discuss big topics, they
talk about them to men who are experts
along these lines. When they come home a
night, or seek woman's society, they want
change They like to be petted, and cajoled
and made much of, and fed upon fub-dubbyH
babble about trif1es. That is why the wom-
anly woman, who bores other women stiff,
never seems to get on the nerves of men.
Perhaps when you come down to brass
tacks, it's mans egotism that makes him
prefer the womanly woman 20 her more bril- +
liant sisters, but however that may be, the
woman who is gentle, and tender, and sweet. +
is the one who wins out with men, and who
can marry as often as she likes