The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-04-27
Man, Wife And "Other Woman"
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX. Who Occupies a Unique Position in the Writing World as an Authority
 on the Problems of Girls.


 the Writing World as an Authority on the Problems of Girls.
 The woman who takes a mans vowed it is nothing less than a thief and a prowling murdering thief,
 who kills joy and the love of life. The man who is married to one woman and strives to win another, | is an enemy to society and decency. | He ranks about on a par with the | poor, ignorant beasts who are some | times tarred and featnsred and even | lynched in hot-temepered comTnuni- | ties''
 I'm quoting myself. And I'm won | dering how I managed to write so | moderately as merely to call the | feminine Hove pirate a thief when
 she so often proves a murderer of | her "sou1-rnate.''
 | "Sou1-maten That's the outstand- l ing "reductiso ad absurdam" word of | the world. T. attributes to the soul | lat@d to man the animal and have 1 nothing to do with man the human who has learned to walk upright and look at the stars.
 About once a week one of our big cities furnishes a front page special of some love triangle which has writ ten it's concluding chapasr in suicide CT murder. or both.
 Don't them en and women who furnish the material for these sordid tragedies ever read the papers? Don't they ever figure out that most his tory and human experience has way of repeating its'zaf? Do they really fancy that their case is gong to be the one exception to the rule that has worked so many thousands of times?
 They Ask Little.
 Y-ste rdays mail brought me seven rr-JN Trra know what I would do if I were in love with glorious man who had wife and one or two or even three children, and who was bitterly un- happy at home and asked nothing but the love of his wonder-girl.
 Of course. it was always the .swonder-girr' who wrote the letter And she wanted me to tell her to ls- nore law and decency and facts and history and loyalty and human1ts and to go right ahead and steal her man and her happiness
 Also the "wonder-girP' wanted my absolute assurance that it would work She longed to be told that happiness comes through wrongdoing and the ignoring of the laws society and civilization have been working out through the ages.
 But that isn't what I have to say to the extra woman in the marriage duet.
 My first advice to her is to go to a gymnasium and take a drastic course of exercising. Maybe n restore sanity. If it doesn't a nerve | specialist might be called in. Or an AIeniSt.
 There's also the practical sugges- ton of packing and removing her | too susceptible self a few hundred | miles from temptation. It's as re- | as it's true that busy peo- 1 pie don't dwell on the things they | with in the round of a well-filled | life. So in addition to change of | scene I suggest that the potential love-thief get herself a good hard | steady demand of her mental and | physical powers.
 In all my life I've never heard of | one love-triangle that was resolved | Some one always pays. | It may be the children. It's more | likely to be a quickly collected debt | with a ghastly corpse somewhere in the foreground.
 The man who has no sense of ob- | 1igation to wife and children isn't | going to develop one for some light 1 o'-love. Habit holds us all When | the average erring husband has tired | of his "wonder-girr' he goes on to ''wonder-girr' or back to the wife. who is now the ''something new" for which his jaded appetite longs.
 Can't Be Cured Easily
 Of course, the faithless husband promises endless fidelity to the girl he is trying to win. But. then, he promised that to his wife when he was trying to win her. And having contracted the habit of promising f. delity and practising infidelity, he isn't going to be curzd by the girl who shows that her moral standards are as shaky as his own.
 Love has to have a basis of re- spect and honesty. Otherwise it crunb1es when desire is satisfied.
 The mystery of the unknown at | tracts the bored husband to his '-wonder-gir1." The satiety of the 1 known sends him back home again ] or on to more new worlds to con- | quer. And then the ''wonder-girf' | has a fine set of choices-the street, | the river, or even the murder of her | faitfless lover. She isn't of the stuff 1 that conHss back and makes good. She