Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-03-02
TRAINING MEN FOR MATRlMs

\ college professor SAY 'i''s 49,
he trained for marriage
Good idea fan .
The reason that marriage is SO often
fo,I,ra 10 hecarse the men and women VINO
undertake the greatest work IN the worlu'
that of making a home and rearing
family come 10 their Jobs ~ raw aInateurs
instead of highly specialized professionals
rTb;s ;s ubv second marriages are more
e,onoraIrv bappv than first marriages,
and why widows and wldowers, even II
tbey are of the grass variety, are pre-
ferrcd matrimonial risk.
Undoubtedly, men should be tralneu
for matrimony; and if were directing the
course of study, / should begin with
kindergarten study OF bills. Whlie
hov's mind was young and receptive, l
should familiarize him with grocery
bills. and butchers bills. and green RrocerS
hills. and doctors bills, and rent bills,
ard millinery and dressmaking bills.
ard shoe bills, anci every other kind oi
hin and Ill to which matrlmonv Is hcf
Then when he got married it would not
come to him with such n horrible shock OF
disilldsionment that there Is great;
and almost prohibitive price tag pinned
n family life. and that q man has to PAY,
for the privilege of having home and
wife and children. It's mean, curei'
,Inderhardcd trick TO let an unsophlstlcat-
ed youth hIurdcr into matrlmony Win
out having the least idea OF its cost
He has been fed up on the he that two
can live as cheaply as one, and he mas Z
general idea that there is some speclal
Providence that looks after Rewlyweds
and feeds and clothes them "a the ravens
did Elijah. and that, anyway, people VINO
ar,, yprv much III love don't need much
food He gets married on this platform,
and when he ascertains that what was
enough and plenty for one, isn't third
enough for two, and that he has practical
" sold himself into slavery 70 landlords,
and grocers. and drygoods store propnetoTs
4 is no wonder that he so often rebels ana
suurs OF matrimony.
Then | would train q boy for mat1-
uonv 10y having him make an elemental
study of justice. ! should teach hlm that
marriage Is a partnership III winch man
and woman pool all that they have Of
heart, and BRAIN, and energy and that
they are entitled TO share equally ID the
measures and profits Of the venture.
would teach him that the woman who
docs her duty as a vIfc and mother, and
home-maker who bears children and
rears them; who hagglcs with tradesmen
over bills: and who cooks, and sews. and
lnends and labors about fourteen hours
a dav to keep her family comfortable
IS not supported bv her husband, and
IaS no cause tp execute flip fops ot graft
tu.I, every time h. gives her dollar hiii.
She earns aii ~hn gets And more And
her husband haud not moro think ot
dulirc n1.t rlcArl~ 70 her, or requiring her
Z, crt aa aecnrt Of what she spends on
lcrsrf rlan hc would think Of holding
ont ou lis business partner and asking
him what hp VS. going 70 40 with MS
part ii the firms earnings.
I should also teach my hoy to be Just
enough to recognize that a wife has right
70 her own personal opinion, her religious
and POLITICAL faith. and II ! rational
amount of amusement. and that because a
women happened 70 be married t. him
was no reason why she should be the
echo of III hts opinions, and desire t.
spend all Of her time admirlng him.
Then | should further tram he boy for
matrimony by having him make 2 pro
found study OF feminine psychology. Men
have never thought il worth while q
stuiv women, vet there Is no other sub
ject that would better repay the effort
For any man can work any woman if
he only takes the trouble to find ont how
t. do IT,
The trained husband would know that
with women. and that YOU can easily
caiola a woman along the road that YOU
canrct drive her into. He would he ahle
n aualvze his wifes tears and know when
he wept for grief, and when she wept
Tor revenue only. and 50 know when I.
rat her on the back and say, There
there. and when u tell her not e be 4
fool
Above all. he would be wise T. the fact
that If E man wants his wife = pinch every
rIckel Urtil the buffalo hoWlS with agony
ne must praise her Tor thrift instead ..
.a-nhaste her for her extravaganza. Ii he
wants lis wife t. be q cook wholS cracker
lack, he must boast Of her achievement
With tho gas range instead Of CrUnblt
7ver her failures i he wishes freedom I
come and go as he pleases, instead 81
having T. punch the time clock he must
proclaim aloud 10 his friends about how
hberal-minded she i, instead Of maxim
a sneak when her back Is turned Ard i
he doesn't want u buy her new hats
and gowns. he must refrain from critlcisirl
her taste.
Then INV student Of Eatrimonv should
acquire nifty line Of conversation. suit
able Tor home consumption. Tho reasoT
that most women get married Is Il get {
con. pa1 ion; and when they hnd out tina
they a,e ;,rIted to dummy with about a
little entertaining talk as wax figure II
store window, they are naturally dlsgrunt
led.
Nothing would DO more to make mar
riage cheerful and pleasant than for mei
TO be trained u collect news and dis
se1ninate 1t II a pleasing and iuterestlnl
fashion IL the family circle Whenever yoi
find man who IS Jolly and gossipy at
home. and who takes the troubles I
scintillate IS much at his own table Is b
does at other people 5. you viii find hon,
IN which marriage is success.
Finally. ] should teach q boy t. 3
tender with women. To be sorry for then
TO be gentle with them. for there com
times to every woman when marriage is.
failure TO her unless she car throw hersel
upon the tenderness Of her husband a
she can upon the mercy Of God
The professor is right. Men should b
trained for matrirnorr but # the uer,
40 man would escape Every womm ~oll
be after hlm.
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