The Washington herald., 1921-08-03
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herself that she Is one OF the worn
en- who have no attractions for
men, but once We face bitter
fact, the worst is over. And after
she has quit shuddering from the
cold douche to her vanity. she Is
happier than she has ever been.
for she has recovered her self-re-
spect. She knows that she is no long
er the unwanted hanger-on; she
is no longer the Crovelling slave
waiting for some two-by-four mas
culine thing to throw her the hand
kerchief which she picks up with
tears of gratitude at being noticed
at all.
When a girls good sense tells her
that she is no siren. she does we'll
to make up her mind to espouse a
career instead of wasting her time
trying to marry a man. Nor mead
for only a gilt-edged husband is
better than a good job.
No one disputes that the ideal ,ot
OF woman in life is to have a kind.
tender. and generous husband. who
makes enough money to support a
comfortable home, and enable his
wife to dress well, and take life
easy. but the ideal marriage is so
seldom realized in actual life that
no girl need feel that she has
missed her chance of happiness in
losing matrimony.
Her easy hours in Office or store,
her comfortable salary. her freedom,
her good clothes and amusements
make a mighty good consolation
prize for the single woman. Many
a shabby, overworked drudge of a
wife would gladly trade her we'd
ding ring for a bachelor girls pay
envelop and latchkey.
In olden times II was a stigma
upon a woman not to attract men
and not TO marry, because marriage
was the only profession by which
woman could support herself, and
only married women had any social
position. So for a woman not to be
able to charm men, or be desirable
to men. marked her as a failure.
We have changed all that. Mat
trimony is a luxury. not a necessity
to women nowadays, and whether a
woman charms men or repells them
Is a matter OF small moment. The
world is as free to a girl as her
brother. She can make money. Sh.
can travel. She can have her own
home. She can have all the in
terests and pleasures and peruuis-
ties Of life, with or without a hus-
band.
II girls could only realize this
and instead of mourning over their
lack of charm, and lying awake
nights trying to think up some
scheme to hypnotize men into no.
ticing them, 10 they would devote
their efforts toward making an In
dividual life for themselves, they
would save themselves so much mis-
cry and so many tears.
And they would do the one thing
that would come nearest to arous-
ing mans interest in them. for
nothing piques mans curiosity
about a woman so much as to find
that she isn't curious about him.
He wonders why she isn't after him,
and II he could make her care II
he tried.
Also. the girl who isn't attrsc-
five to men often develops into the
woman who is. but she attains
charm through filling her heart and
mind with other things than man
hunting.
So. I saw to the girls who ask
me how they may charm men to
keep from them all idea of being
vamps.- Let hem fiji Ep their lives
with interesting work. Let Their
sct some ~on, befn-o them to ar.
rive ct. and they will find SO much
to enjoy that they will not care
whether they have any men {. round
or not And n"rhans a husband alsc
shall he added unto them "Foi
those that has, gits.'