Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-09-09

many of them wINIFREp
nurse heir HARPER COoLEl
grudge in silence,
and how many turn TO other loves?
II they do this, are they wholly to
blame, or is IL the wife's fault, for hav-
ing been too good mother, and too
poor a wife?
An Englishman was talking to mo
recently. He remarked quite casually,
as IL IL were n common experience,
my wife and l seldom see each other.
have been in America three years.
She stays in England Our children
took up all her time, anyway, and she
bad no attentions to give me, and SO.
did not suggest her coming to America
when my business brought me here"
They were on perfectly good terms :
It was not case of quarreling and
agreeing to separate. 1t simply was
that, after her children came, she was
content to be mother only.
"How lonely !" we exclaimed. "1s
not it a mistaken"
"Oh, il is very common in Eng
land" he replied. bitterly. "The men
who are in service in India try to take
their families at first. but the heat is
unpleasant, and the children must have
schooling, and so the wives drift back
to London, and the men stay out there
alone in the intense hot weather, and
amuse themselves as best they can.
Englishwomen are very cold, anyway.
and can get along without love and
marriage
Now we do not believe that this con-
dition is universal. for many of the
Englishwonen stick by their husbands
for years, in the tropical country. Nor
do We credit his statement that Anglo
Saxon women are so much colder
than their prototypes of other races.
Human nature is very similar under
white or brown or yellow extcriors, and
in all classes Of society Judy
O'Grady and the coloncl's lady are sis
ters under the skin" Women love and
marry everywhere.
Of course, races are not quito equally
warm blooded. and individuals differ
somewhat. Men, MS well as women.
may be divided into catcgorics as to
their temperaments. Some are ardent
and vivacious, lustful of life and love.
Others are cool and scholarly. and view
the mad pursuits of pleasure by some
of their brothers with amused tOler-
ance, and the bestial sensuaiity of
others with disgust. Not all men are
intensely fond of women.
Femininity has its varieties. and
some women are quite as dependent on
passion-the JOY of mating-as all men
are supposed to be. Motherhood. how =
ever is said to satisfy the love crav
ing so completely and fully that once
q mother. wife no longer Graves for
the affection of her husband as in the
pre- baby days. But this. too, is debat
able. While some women are naturally
passionately, violently maternal. other:
are almost devoid of the instinct; ant
all along the line between these tive
extremes are women who are devoted
mothers and take much JOY in caring
for their little ones, yet who are no
so absorbed in this feeling as to b'
oblivious to the stronger pleasures OF
connubial bliss. 1t would seem that O
normal woman should enjoy both form!
of love.
But: The great lovers Of the worlC
among women usually have been child
loss 1t may be regarded as selfish ol
reprehensible, but it is true. Th'
sirens, the Circes. the intOXiCatin!
creatures for whom men wrecked thei
lives and fortunes. lost battles AM
threw away kingdoms. almost Away
were women who kept themselves beau
tiful and entertaining, and did not us
time and strength III rearing children
who are natural fathers who are s.
domestic th3t they really would not b
especially fascinated by the "Lorelei
type of woman, even were they sub
tected TO her wilCS. But whether o
not all men like that kind. the fact Is
that Ihe famous "fasCinators' anon
femininity were not mothers.
This problem is not rare one
touching only the few hut rathC
common one in all countries and claSsC
Of society. While the wife is a brid,
or is lively companion. always read
to come and &C, to dress alluringy an
be a credit to the husband III public
end q playmate for him in hours
ease, he is not apt to seek companion
ship elsewhere. Indeed, n man wit
such a mate, who deliberately was III
fnithful to her. would be a pretty col
temptible creature.
But when the babies come. and Il
smother in woman prcdoninatCs, Il
Is all too apt TO be carried away Wi
the onrush of her maternal passiO
She nurses the infant. That requir
her attention every two hours. 81
bathes 1t and clothes it. and regulat
the temperature for it. Perhaps it
sick many months and she croons oy
it. and immures herself in the hOu
for its sake. To make it strong is Ii
lob. Teething may mean nights
pacing the floor, and much wearine
BY day.
What wonder that in those years t
rresence of the husband is merely
habit? He is around the home, a
she sees that there are meals for hi