Omaha daily bee., 1921-08-23
Problems That Perplex
Answered by
BEATRICE FAIRFAX
The Course OF True Love.


Dear Miss Fairfax: l have been
engaged to girl for three years and
have always found her TO be ideal.
We got along beautifully until a
couple of days ago, when she con-
fessed that for the last two months
she has had a growing affection Tor
man in her office. She says she
does not love him, as he is not the
type of a man she would choose for
o husband
She is unhappy because she is not
giving me a square chance and tells
me to wait. We have planned to
make a stern fight to bring her to
her right senses, as she is positive
he does not care snap about her.
She tells me at times she hates
him and other times she feels happy
in his presence. J.P.
The girl has been perfectly honest
with you. The mere fact that she
can so coldly analyZe her feelings
tor the other man and can discuss
them with you shows they haven't
a deep hold on her imagination. Try
to find which of two courses works
with her She may be unconsciously
trying to rouse your jealousy and
to speed the day of your marriage.
Terhaps the first glow CT your ro-
nance is gone and this is her way
Of reviving it. If that is wrong, do
the sensible thing and help her get
this infatuation out of her system
by discussion and calm planning
with you.
Rising to Receive IntroductiOns.
A hostess invariably rises to ac-
cept an introduction to either man
or woman. A woman, while a guest
at a dance, dinner or afternoon tea,
does not rise when a man is pre-
sented to her; nor when she Is one
of a group to which a man is intro
duced, unless it is some one who Is
somewhat older than herself or a
person of distinction, or, unless she
is seated beside her hostess, who
naturally rises to greet newcomer.
In all other circumstances woman
rises to receive an introduction to
one Of her own sex. 1t is scarcely
necessary to say that a man always
stands when any introduction takes
place in which he has part, whether
the person to whom he is made
known is man or woman. old or
young.
1t is discreet and polite to give
attention when a stranger is pre-
sented. In order to catch the name;
but on failing in this, woman in
troduced to a person older than her
self has a right to ask, gently, "Will
you not tell me whom I have the
pleasure of meeting, for 1 did not
catch your name?" To person
nearer her own age she may say
with less formality, Mrs. Brown
called you Miss Jones, did she not?
The same rules apply as well to men.
A guest is not at liberty to refuse
recognition Of an Introduction made
by the host or hostess. though the
person presented should be an enc
my Of long standing. 1t must be
presumed that the hostess is ig-
norant of the true situation, and it
is. therefore. no injury to ones dig
nifty to bow politely as II meeting for
the first time total stranger; later,
any further exchange Of word can
be tactfully avoided.
In making men known to one
another. the distinctions are not so
finely drawn. A young man or a i.
bachelor is naturally presented to a |
much older gentleman, and a simple |
citizen to a senator. governor or |
judge. Where age and dignities and |
titles play no part, it is sufficient to
say. Mr.. Brown. Mr.. JONES'"