Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1921-02-25
THE ART OF FRIENDSHIP.

A girl writes me that she is lonely, that
ehe desires friends of her own age and sex,
and she asks how she can make other girls
like her.
Alas. my child, that is question that
no one can answer specifically. here Is
no follow his-rule-and-vou-cant t-tali rect
pe for making what Emmy Lou called
intimate friend, as there is Tor ii'ahlrk
snice cake. All that one can do IS 10 oiier
YOU n few general observations on the
gentle art of making friends.
Of course. the very essence of the sub
iect Is comprised in the old axiom which
sa,.s that to have friends We must show
ourselves friendly. There IS something
IN our very desire 10 be liked, that draws
people towards us. IL is some warm human
quality that makes us akin TO all with
whom We come III cor tact.
80 # YOU want girl friends. YOU must
show Yourself friendly TO other girls. lou
must 10 little kindly thirgs for them. You
must show them that you enjoy them,
and you must meet them moro than half
uav None Of us have such superior
charms that we can afford 20 stard aloof
and wait for other people TO seek us out.
10 is Just rs much our business to make
overtures u strangers, as it is theirs TO
court us.
II YOU want girl friends you must be
sympathetic You must be willing to enter
into the Joys and SORROWS OF those about
Won. and to rejoice with those who rejoice
and weep with those who weep. You
must be will Z 10 help the green young
girl who IL Just starting IN the store or
Office in which Won work and who IS scared
e. death. or 70 say friendly little word
chat makes strange girl feel az home ~
The social set IN which you move. Just
a hand held out at such moment has
gwen many q girl friend for life.
And YOU must he able 10 listen without
wearinees while other girls tell you, over
and over again, for the mlllionth time. the
story Of their trobules at home, or about
tle row they had with their beaux
Heaven knows why friendship should bc
n .ear jug. but it is. The price VIC pay
FOR our friends Ms long rs we live is being
q receptacle for their hard luck stories
II YOU would have girl friends, you must
BE- willing 10 play the game. Friendship
means team work, and sacrificing Your
own individual desire 10 the will Of the
many No girl who insists on bossinP the
bunch ever has any friends. and the girl
no ~ always ready 70 take her doll rags
and go home II the others wont play her
WAY. is very soon permitted 10 go home
and s,sv at home hy herself
III YOU Rhilt 10 D' ltHtlti Will HiTlS. DC
easy 20 get along with. The sensitive girl
who Is always getting her feelings hurt
and who has To hC handled With kid
gloves is too much trouble 10 bother with
81 is the hgh-tempered girl who is for
ever taking offCnse and getting angry.
aud making n scene. or going into gloomy
crouch. and who has q be continually +
propitIated 70 keep her III good hunor I.
So is the squcamish girl who is perpetual /
wet blanket on every party because She I
Is always being shocked, or she is afraid I
Of something or she can have everywhere
exactly the same amount of physical com +
fort that she has at home.
The girl whom other girls like. is the girl +
who Is always good naturcd. and full of .
fun, and who always makes tho bcsf
Of every situation and Of everybody. She
is as comfortable as an old shoe. as cheer
Ing as the sunshine and everybody likes 10
have her around because she fits in evcrv-
where and rube everybody's fur the right .
way.
II YOU want girl friends. YOU must DENY
yourself The pleasure Of Dragging. No T.
other girl Is so unpopular as tho one who Il
j. always boastipC or her family. her
money, her education. her looks her
hCaux You know the kind or Girl ! mean.
the one who tells YOU within five minutes
after YOU have met her. that she has
g llege education. or that Signor Craft
told her that she had q grand opera voice
and should SO on the stage but that her
father just wont give his consent t. her