The evening world. [volume] (New York, N.Y.) 1887-1931, 1921-04-28

= pSychologist and pSyChoanaly
ever the country
And fear is the foremost quality
which will kin home peace and hap
piness," Mrs. Chambers told me as
we sat in the Hotel Woodstock Mrs.
,ChanSberSs message Of the psychology
of success does not apply just TO bust
hess life but reaches into the
Psychology of a happy home life.
~ Fear IS a creative force" declares
Mrs. Chambers, land the husband or
ewife who allows fear to develop in
bhis or ner soul is headed for matri-
honial jolt and perhaps a complete
thpset,"
Then If the husband fears he will
Esfail in business he is apt to bring
nfailure upon himself by his own
Thoughts, and If the wife fears hcr
sIhusband will be unfaithful to her
skhe may bring such a situation about
ny her own fear thought?" l asked
" Exactly replied Mrs. Chambers.
N'Fear is just,like little seed planted
nm the earth, which is watered and
atended every day and grows to be a
sbig, sturdy plant. Fear starts in the
theart or in the sub conscience, and
sdaily it grows and rallies with fear
Thoughts. And wherever fear is, hap
Epiness and brilliant future, either
Mn the business world or in the home
aife becomes impossible.
y -fMany married couples are afraid
Ito make venture in the business
sworld 80 they stay where they are
and are unhappy about it. Others
sare Jealous and cannot enjoy the
1society Of people their own age. They
Nhre afraid to trust each other.
d Then there is the woman who is
tafraid OF the responsibility Of chill
Idren,' continued Mrs Chambers.
a"'Such a wife makes life very unhappy
and greatly hampers the future of
Cher child. She fears something ter
trible Will happen, she is afraid the
tchild will not be normal, fears finan-
tcial conditions, sickness and death
1Rnd in many cases makes life much
harder than 1t need be"
y But, after all, these fears are but
Phatural and human. How can people
iearn to put such thoughts aside?"
II asked.
A. by being courageous and not al
glowing themselves to worry or fret
over the little things OF life" replied
Mrs. Chambers, whose own calm foa-
stures are not just those of an opti-
.mist but show the power Of concen-
1ration ana dwelling on the REAL
fthings of life, not the things which
MIGHT happen.
1T is the little things which worry
the average married couples most"
paid Mrs. Chambers. The little moth
angs which make them quarrel and
make home life most intolerable.
When the mortgage falls due hus-
band and wife worry and fret to-
gether until they find a way out.
~They plan, they scheme, they rent out
fooms, they work it out and do not
quarrel over it either. When the
Youngest daughter comes down with
pneumonia they get her trained
nurses and give her the best of care
and the whole family pulls together,
but it's the way the husband spills
the salt over the tablecloth or the
fact that WHEY belongs TO a club and
has a late dinner every Wednesday
that makes all the trouble in the
family.
IVORY over the minute flaws in
OlntI > tlldIdCltT CAUSES lluNu
unrest and spoils the psychology OF
success in home life" continued Mrs.
chambers. Mary is going to find
some one thing that John does which
will displeaSe her, Just as John finds
that what wife Mary does often an
noys him immensely. But, after all,
the question is: Is that Important
Why pick out the flaws and worry
over them when each has SO many
splendid qualities to admire?
my advice TO these restless hus-
bands and wives, who worry because
the man or woman they married does
mot exactly fit upon the pedestal they
placed them on before marriage, is to
Concentrate upon the best qualities
hhey see. Keep speaking Of those
and spend your time developing what
ds fine in them rather than harpinG
upon some minute quality"
"Or otherwise the minute quality
will develop and perhaps become
larger than the better qualities"
suggested.
'"That is Just what will happen"
, declared Mrs Chambers, 'The sub
conscious mind frets and worries over
the little faults and before long there
IS an emotional outburst, friend hus-
hand tells friend wife what he thinks
III those smaller, disagreeable quail
ties, and the seed is started. From
shat moment that side Of their nature
begins to grow.
Successful business people DO moi
harp upon the unpleasant little things
Which happen in an Office concluded
Mrs. Chambers. THE DIG Things are
considered and the unpleasant ones
discarded. And that is the way ar
fairs should run in happy house
hold"
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