The midland journal. (Rising Sun, Md.) 1885-1947, 1921-02-11
Chats With the
Woman in the Home

the practices of their elders contradic-
tory to this training If children were
always addressed courteously and
smilingly, never admonished irritably,
never sneered at or snubbed, they
would probably be much more aimable
themselves.
Therefore it behooves parents to
keep watch on themselves as we'll as
their offspring. For children are
such imitators that they. unconscious
ly mirror their surroundings. You
may train your children all you please
just how to behave when in company,
but If they see different practice at
home they will unwittingly give way
many tale of discord and unhappi-
ness at home by their bad manners
and mannerisms, if not by so many
words.
Although it is taken for granted by
some persons that two sets of man.
ners are allowable, such a daily code
is disastrous for no one can have two
sets of manners and help being self
consciousn and affected. 1t is all very
we'll to teach child to say please
and thank you and the like; but it is
pure waste of time if the thing is not
put into practice at home.
If the father is in such hurry that
he can't say a civil word at the table
and that he bolts his food and shoves
the dishes from him as he finishes,
it is not surprising that the children
do the same, for it must be remem-
bered that to them the father is all
good, and, therefore, what he does is
done only to be emulated. If the
adults reach across the table and
never think to pass the things which
gather at their elbows, it is to be ex-
pected that the youngsters stand up
in their chairs and grab.
There is more time and opportunity
at the table for direction of manners,
therefore that it is the place to teach
and practice, for if a child has "a good
knowledge of the proper things at the
table he will have an excellent foun-
dalton for the proper thing at all
times. Any child knows that the thing
to be is gentleman or lady and if
he is told that gentlemen do 1T such
a way he will be only too glad to do
it so.
AS the fundamental principle of
good manners is kindness and con-
sideration for the feelings of others,
this fact should be explained and inn
pressed upon the child. If the mother
would instruct her young son, who is
taking dancing lessons, not 30 be in
a hurry to select his partner from
among his favorite little girl friends,
but to wait and sometimes choose one
who is overlooked, she. would impress
a lesson of chivalry upon him, Sci
fishness is usually at the root of i'm
polite acts, and when meanness over
rules. the impulses of the heart there
there is ready-made snob only want
ing occasion to manifest the strong
bias Of his character. This proves
that it is the spirit of the child which
needs watching.
It is not at all necessary to SUPPRESS
and curtain the liberty and happiness
Of children in order to teach them
the proper thing to do do and say.
There will be sufficient outside infiu-
ence at work to prevent their becom-
ing prigs.
When you are lamenting the man.
ners and customs of the coming gene
ration, bear in mind the retort to the
man who was saying that the children
of today were not like those in his
childhood. You must remember also
that they have different parents.
The pride of most cooks Is their
mayonnaise. The more oil they can
make the egg take up" the prouder
they are. II is an art, Of course, to
make egg take up a pint Of oil, but
you will find that the mayonnaise that
eys.i-s-ssss ca. ss-:= -s over Is that that has
plenty Of eggs. The more egg. and not
as you thought. the more oil, the
richer the dressing. A pint of oil
should be mixed with four eggs. That
sounds extravagant. but the result is
worth the expense And IL you are
making chicken salad, you should al
low at least half-pint OF oil to each
chicken
Another little trick to know about is
that Of adding peanut butter to fudge
when you make 1t. II you like the
flavor Of the butter, put in quite a
little, but II you are not so keen about
fha Aavor add lust A tablespoonful