Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-07-13

career, and had an interesting. creative
existence in the business or professional
world.
But no. She was tied and set apnrt.
tagged and labeled and shelved In n
sense, she was already regarded Ms his
property, and no other man cast upon
her an ndmiring eye. lie was su-
prcme y selfish, and just little sub
normal, or elac he could not lave
Gr'tted into emotionIcss, exprcssicnlcss
hachelorhood. when there was close Mt
iahd woman whom he presumably
loved and desired.
she wds not the lone thing" nor
was she the 'otncr'-tnat Is. a wife.
it she had been married, even if iso-
inted ana leading the same sort Of
ihoIoIoh"us life, at least she would
nave known something of connubial
love and probably of motherhood, She
would have had an established stnIus
III h"r community. and doubtless have
taken up the local activities of set
ed-doWn married wOmcn."
Such arrant sclfishness in n moIe 10
cruel beyond expression. II il srh,Ia
IT is of nature that cannot commani
sympathy from friends. The situntinn
Is so delicate that even the girls fnmilv
ii"SltateS to console her. Sometimes n q
ionS engagement is the result of nov
'r'N ana dependent relatives. Either
the man or woman has an old or in
NaIid mother or number of brothers
ana sisters who must be- cducutcd
such tragedies &rc hard to bear, Th"v
are not like occasional sorrows thnt
come INTO the lives of most persons
tltey are Just long, dun enduranccs, for
w. nmnh iiere seems, to be 10 comfort.
i>F the time that the obstacles all boye
b'cn removed, an apathctic middle are
sometimes has been rcucnru, and tHo
i'lSt IluSh Dt love and Courtship have
passed away forever.
FROM no standpoint arc very long
engagements desirable. If connie iS
sure that marriage is really desirable
morning Is to be gained by merely
marking time.
Modern economic problems often
postpone the wedding date.
In old days the boy went into bus;-
1'css with his father ut the aonorol
store or took n neighboring farm tbe
father paying for the adjoining acres
ana the bridal pair settled down with.
cut the need of waiting years to amass
capital or delaying many Years until
inc boy finished college and then
'H'N' ~ VI ltN StnCOl,
Fairly marriages and short cnpoyc-
mcnts were quite possible. Todov
however, conSCicntiOus man usuoIiv
heSitntcs to leap into the rcsponeibili'
ties OF marriage incurring the comfort.
h"i" support or n wifi" and noSSihla
chlldren, until he has assured himself
that ne M" pretty good earning ca
rAritN. Even owning home is some
times goal insisted upon before the
knot is tied. '''
Now. super conscientious couples run
many risks by waiting. Tncv risl; oc'
'lIcht ana death and growing indiffcr-
rnr". ! knew II girl in IIowoii who
lad had lonely life rs trarhor IN IN
4 strange land. Her mother wos donI
and she was unusually arfcctionotr md
d"mrsti". 1t was a long time before
sh" found Il lover. but when shn JjL
become engaged the coupIc dccidcI
thcN wohld not marry Till they owned
home. l urged them not to nlncn
80 mitch Importance on mere prOpcrty.
Their income was sufficient TO marry
on, and 80, why should they have n
long, weary wait? But they did most.
pone thc wedding for two vcars I,
was beautiful outdoor rrrpmony
among ~" t"nuirli 4, ~,., .r,l w.
spent their honeymoon travelling on
horseback. But alas. in three duys the
Ia lh'-Iop'n 4" I!rn 81 "Nu uIn.,..,.i,..
and in ten days he was dead.
Those two years might have bccn
happy indeed, and the memory ioy
for life
As % Indifference, You may we'll de.
clare that If couples ar" going TO grow
weary Of each other they nlght ny
well find out "while there is ypt limo -
That. Of course, is true of any fnndn-
mental bad quality in character bnt
sometimes n long, tedious engagement
with the couple in different cities pcr.
hapS, tends to eStr0ngc them and grad
ually ALLEVIATE their affections, wh"rres
If they wore living together, enioyinc
al the comr0dcship and love of mnrrIci
life, they would not drift apart.
Too brief courtshps and rushing
into the married state after whirI"
wind gust Of emotion has carried u
pair off their feet, are az bad as too
long an engagement, Nearly all clone.
mcnts turn out badly just because thcy
were so hurried and mthinking. Onr
would not buy house or enter ipto
some big business scheme for life with No
thought or careful analyzing, Mi.
urally, common sense must operate in
choosing life mate. 4 sufficiently lnnC
and intimate acquaintance to learn ono
another thoroughly is hong enough for
the duration of any engagement.