The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1921-08-06
The Constant Flatterer
BY NORA COLE SKINNER


II possibly seems strange doctrine
in this day when benevolent people
are reaching TO us to pass the good
word on, slap our comradc on the
back, cheer another with BIT ~
praise, but, actually, the most bore
some person under the sun Is The
constant flatterer.
Il have friend" an acguain-
tauCc told me, "who really does like
my family, but. honestly, she praises
and compliments us so much for cy-
cry little thing, when | know there
Is nothing to what we've done, that
it gets embarrassing, and I would
fool better IL the praises came less
often. | might think she meant il
then She grows indignant when
mention such n thing to hor. and
says she does mean Il. But she sees
plenty Of faults in other people and
I know she Is not blind ~ ours
II is right 10 show appreciation
when something worth while ap-
pears and appreciation Is dg", but
people who constantly fll't'r' Who
compliment you on your looks when
you're robcd in bungalow-aprona and
houdoir cap. who 20 into e"-'asies
over n last sum mcr's dress and who
insist that the salad is the best they
over put in their mouth when YOU
know you made one of your periodic
failures on the mnyOnnaiSc-thC$e
pcople positively insult your mental
ity.
Once, tho little negro house maid
at a quality" rooming house was
given n lecture:
"Rosa." said tho landlady, Mrs.
Parker complains that you don't hnlf
clean her room, that YOU give twiEc
4. ID
room as you do TO hers"
Rosa looked sullen n minute, thef
replied:
well, Nrs. Thompson Is algaH
giviu' me presents, but Mrs. Parker
don't never give me nothin' but pre''
ty words"
That Joke was greatly enjcyca BY
the other roOmcrs, for Mrs Parker
was Just sickcning with her nat
tery-flattcry passed out 50 CON
stantlv and so indlscrlminatoY thA
II had no weight whatever, any
Rosa analysis of her was so treN
"uothin' but pretty words
A woman brought her hnsnana
around for an evening of cards Inv
husband thought himself quito 4
/ Roau Brummcll, and as partner o,
the hostess raved over hor. every
play. the miserable hands 'a'i doW'
~ dummy" her looks-could m
dcrstand why his wife had Kept MN
away before this, and knew n" W"
going to be n card -fiend In ihe NJ
ture-while his wife gigglod anu
heamcd with pride in her proprietor,
ship Of so clever and fascl'i''ut
husband. Naturally, the olnr,
couple was disguised, ana j. va
only after many meetings that 'hyn
found the man really had H'a
sterling qualities and, except for l"'
fault was quite n llkeahle f,How
Many people flatter with 'h' yer!
best intention. II has come ~ .s
religion with them, and th'F pu,
posey tell friend "som"'hlnE 3.
about herself" every timo th'Y 4
her. thinking that the way 20 ma
tho world brighter and the day mo
cheerful. .,,,,,sS
II these peorle could hut reass,
that they spoil the effect ~ VII, WIZ
thev nro irving TO do hv oN'r'..n.,r
f. and that mono ~ their h'pn,
messages 90 homo hccauS" ,.sr
al put down alike ms com '' an
tho Ilps OF chronic fati..'
insinccrc nuisance! .S,,s
There must he reason
nraise. sincerity behind comp .tr,
| then spoken words OF appr' l,r YIN.
are not flattery at all--n,. t,c
ping honey" but stimula'ln-