The Washington herald., 1921-01-12
Dorothy's Di1's Advice
MARRYING FoR MONEY.
CcopyT,sht, 1921. By the Wheeler
Syndicate. Ine.l

money7p asks a young girl
Certainly not Parents do no
more than their duty when they
try to prevent girl from marrying
a man who is brutal and vicious. ]
but between breaking of an un-
suitable match. and making one
that appears suitable to a third
party. there is a vast difference |
For we can sometimes save a per-
son from certain misery. but none
OF us are wise enough to know
just what will make another happy
Real marriages are made in
Heaven. They are not manufactur-
ed by nervy meddIers here below.
one OF the most curious things
in the world is that fathers and
mothers, who are horrihed when
they hear of parents selling their
daughters in heather countries, and
who shrink with disgust from the
women of the street, themselves
hawk their own girls around the
marriage mart, and bring every
pressure to bear on their daughters
to induce them to sell themselves
to the highest bidder.
Everywhere you will see whole
families put on practically starva-
ton diet so that a pretty girl may
be decked out in faery to show of
her good points, and dragged about
from summer resort to winter re-
sort in the hope that she will get
a good match. Everywhere you will
see anxious-eyed mothers throwing
their girls at the heads OF rich
men. Everywhere you will see
women, not only willing, but glad.
to have their innocent young daugh-
tiers marry men old enough TO be
their fathers, men with IeporoGs
past lives, IL only they have a suf-
ficiently big bank account
And the mothers Justify them
selves by saying that romantic love
lasts but for a little while, at best:
that after FIVE years all husbands
look alike to a woman, and then
the only thing that counts is an
establishment, and money.
Most of the mothers who are so
mad for their daughters TO marry
money, have themselves known the
stress and strain Of poverty. They
have been through the bitter strug-I
gle to keep up appearances and
make one dollar do the work of
hve. They have known the wear
ing anxiety of wondering how the
bills are to be paid. Their very
souls have been scared with envy
of those who rode in limousines
while they walked to save carfare,
and they want to save their girls
from the hardships they have been
through.
So are they not wholly selfish in
urging a mercenary marriage on
their daughters. There is even
piteous in their sordid-
ness, but nevertheless they are
wrong, and the bargain they would
make for their girls is a bad bar
gain. from every point Of view.
To begin with, money is a poor
thing to marry for, because 1t is
the easiest thing in the world to
get If a man lacks good looks,
IL he lacks youth, II he lacks in
and the quality OF being
IL he lacks personal
charm and attrsctiveness, there is
no way under Heaven by which he
can obtain these qualities.
II girl marries a man who Is
ugly, or stupid, or old and fat, or
is repulsive to her, he will be what
he is to the end of the chapter. But
il she marries a poor man who is
energetic and industrious, he can
go out and get the money.
Also, money is a thing OF which
one easily gets enough. II does not
take millions to make one COM
Portable and after that money loses
its purchasing power SO far as buy
ing happiness is concerned. The
woman whose husband makes
enough to give her a pretty little
home and a reasonable amount OF
luxuries, has all that money will
do for her in promoting her felicity.
No sensible person will contend
that the people who are multi-mil-
lionaires and who live in palaces,
Wanted on by hordes of servants
and who rush from place to place
trying vainIy to find some new SEN
to tickle their jaded pal
ates, are the happiest. people. Wit
ness the number of divorces among
them. Observe the disgrace their
children bring upon them. Look at
their tired, weary blase faces as
you see them in public and none
are so poor as to envy them.
The girl who seals her youth and
her chance of love for money finds
that the old myth of Midas and his
gold is true. Very soon just the pos
of mere money pals upon
her. She who has nothing except
what. money buys, wants nothing
that she can purchase. The ftnery
she once longed for becomes rags,
her jewels are just little hard peb-
bles. Her check book is mockery
for there is no bank Of happiness
IN which just dollars and cents are
legal tender.
A girl commits a great folly when
she marries for money, because
there Is this queer thing about mon
ey-it is more fun to make money
than it IS to spend it. Ask any mid
dle-aged couple who started poor,
perhaps in just a couple of rooms
over a store, and who have worked
up together until they are now nv-
ing in a mansion on Easy Street
with everything that money can
buy, and they will invariably tell
you that their happiest days were
their young days when they were
to get their feet on the
first rung of the ladder Of success.
They were the days of adven-
ture, of hopes and plannings, of
in a battle they were
shoulder to shoulder, and
life had a zest and a flavor that
not all the gold in the world would
buy for them now. The great Am
erican romance is the struggle of
a young man and a woman who
love each other and who dare pow
erty together and fight together
put of II and the woman wfo mis-