The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-03-07
Advice To The Lovelorn
Who Occupies a Unique Position in the Writing World as an Author ity on the Problems of Girls.
By BEATRICE FAIRFAl

Of all the e0travagant, expensive and high-priced things in the world, nothing ranks higher than love This isn't written cynicaIly with pearls and opera tickets in view. It refers to the fact that love demands the greatest thing in all the world-the supreme gift of fitting one personally to the needs of another.
 The reason why there is so much failure in love is that so few are will ling to sacrifice self, or even wahims and foibfes, desires and notions for the sake of suiting one nature to an other.
 A great love demands little but re- quires much. It is not selfish enough nor yet cruel enough to impose the ! unweacome on another nature. l Lucie came to me a few days ago | in a spasn of pity for herself. She ! happy that she couldn't go on. Robert says he loves me,' she 1 sighed. '+But he doesn't make the doesn't care how feel about things or what I want in life All he thinks about is getting on in the world and | making money
 l s'F>or whom?" ventured. l Lucie withered me with a look and continued:
 l '''He wants to move to a little town 1 upstate where won't know a soul He wants to cut me off from every thing I care about and every one love. He thinks I ought to be ready 1 to pick up and go with him anywhere | he thinks his old business requires It's too much.''
 "You mean you don't love hin?' asked.
 ''of course I lowe him-madsy. But 1t isn't making me happy. Roberts S love seems to be threatening every thing I Eke-every comfort-every habit He wants to take me away from all care about"
 l 3od of
 as if were in league with Robert. l My dear" I said sadly, for I had an idea it wasn't going to do a bit o1 good. Don't you love Robert enough call them to yourSef-but a few
 changes in your mode of living: Don't you want the liferyou two naigh1 build together more than, you do tht sition' here?"
 s'The world well lost for Hove,'
 :sThe world found through it,''
 suggested
 s:Do you think s1m going to chang
 my whole mode of Iving-for Rob
 ert?' she demanded.
 For Robert-arid yourself, said You see, my dear, love isn't 8. bar
 gain to be picked up at the notio1
 counter or among the, shghtly-uset
 but not-damaged-much basenfen
 wares. Love is a big. beautiful, flow
 ing thing. The most precious ant
 beautiful thing in the world Ant
 you don't get the most vaiuable-th'
 most priceless of things-free.'' l "How mercenary!' pouted the sgir in tone that suggested she'd like t. ] be convinced.
 ''Naiercenary!" cried. 'Nothins ! very mercenary about the sacrifice
 a mother makes for her child or tha
 it may come into the world. Nothins
 calculating. Just love and na,tur working out for the good of the rae
 if you like. But very exauisit thing from the point of view of tn
 idea1ists. SdTl however you interpre ,, it, nothing can be more costly tha the chiId-and yet nothing is nor beautiful than the immortality brings.
 'Love isn't to be had for the ask [ ing. It fas to be earned and de l served and bought with sacrifice
 That's one of 1ife's dfvire compensa tions- If you won't suffer and sacri flee for love-you can't have love- r But Lucie only stared at me wit T hard eyes and repeated that Rober , didn't deserve the sacrifices I scene | to think she ought to make for hi sake.