The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1921-10-01

flowing tide of her talk. This is a cardinal rule.
 Whatever else you may try to check in your wife never check her valves aand outlets for her tempera- ment.
 Be patient and tender with her. Don't say sharp and cutting things. Consider the sensitive character of a woman's disposition. Honor her in every way
 Bear yourself with the manliness which will never cause a woman pain
 Most women have a passion for f1nery in some form or other. Give her what you can, even if it costs you some sacrifice. And let her feel it is from you. and that you have not given her what has cost you nothing.
 If anything goes wrong in married life usually put the blame on the man. He is the stronger and he should overcome himself and protect the wife of his heart, lending her a strong arm on which to lean.
 Some AdmonitionS for Women
 And to the women this advice:
 Keep your home in good order. Man appreciates a. beautiful home more than woman does. because he is in less.
 Let the sun stream through your windows upon rooms tasteful1y ar ranged and bearing from kitchen to attic the traces of true wifely devo. ton to the house..
 Keep a good table. Let it be inn possible for any invidious distinctions to be drawn between meals out and meals at home. The dinner may be simple, but let it be good, hot and daintily served.
 Let a wife remember always to be neat and smart even when she is quite alone with her husband. A man likes to see his wife we'll turned out, and it is her business to be pleasing in his eyes.
 Let her consult his taste rather than that of her nodiste. Do not get into the habit of con- tradicting all your husbands cherish ed views from mere perversity, but study to gratify, within reasonable limits, his whims and fancies. Be frank and abOveboard in every thing.
 Do not keep him waiting while you change your dress.
 Never preach, never nag, never scold in public, and never cry on pur
 Have spoken only of the trivial little things? Believe me. it is these things thatt count for more in mar riage than the big things. When marriage ends in tragedy it is more often than not due to small bickerings and misunderstandings.
 Arnold Bennett Springs Surprise So much for a man who has spent a life time in observing and guiding humanity. Now for the views of an other of his countrymen, Arnold Ben nett, novelist and esSayist.
 MT Bennett believes much of the trouble in marriage, the naisunder- standings, the little inequalities, are due to too many love matches He would abolish to some extent the mar riage based entirely upon love. He says:
 '.At which expression of opinion many readers will be angry, and some very angry. What! Abolish love in narriagei What! Adopt the heart less continental system of the deliber- ately lifetime in observing and guid- ing unarranged marriage. the mar riage of convenience! We'll, nobody wants to abolish love in marriage and nobody could. But we must under stand what we meant when we say love-
 s"The majority of love matches are matches of passion which too ire quently no practical consideration has been allowed to restrain.
 ."The passion may settle down into a. solid and enduring calm affection,