Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-11-21
Woman's Life and Loue
Do You ParalySe Him With Love?
BY WINIFRED HARPER COOLEY

Hum W nh LOUe!
But had she followed his .counsel
they would have starved. Once she
asked n friend about the theory Of hav.
ing but 1nc head to family.
when 1t becomes question as TO
who is to hold the job. there Is no
longer any use for the decision. he
replied.
CHE had lived for him; she now
~ crucifcd herself Tor him. In her
lonely little Studin she labored indus
triously. and in time hcr real talents
forced themselves uron the big world
and she won fame and money. She
SHW by Tho papers that h" had begun
to create; nc had nj last bocn reused, /,
and was giving forth cNrellcnt stuff.
Why coIld not he have done this when
they wcrC so happy:
Still. shc waited Tor him 20 prove 70
himself hat hr wns big worker. and
then Core with rush to claim her, and
1--we the big. marvellous li:c IN which
10 nrvcrmorc would be an inholcnt
wcalilng. Bur he did not come. In
hCr gr 'at longing she undcrcHtimatCd
tho real JOY shn was feeling. and tho
delightful association Of Other and moro
&ppreriativc mcN. \. Ia. ~hc sought
/ i'm. only 70 find him fed
Hoy mother-hoart a'h"d and
y,drncd. for She folt that hr must no
IN trouble. It vas after several wears
that eh" ran across him in Paris,
r|diant and brilliant su'rC>S, living
uHd"r another name. lie did prt nrod
h"r. and had married = dainty. gush
ing, adoring little blonde. whose babies
I,u l. .1,.,, ,,r,l,t
for the sacrificing wife.
"Oh. Stanley. why cOuldn't vou and
! have don, like this? why couldn't t
you have succeeded with me. dear
What !, There in this womar that !
ha'"n't E't? Tell m'!"
n VARIOUS minor ruorG< tuot Is
4 universal cry among brilliant women.
who marvel tina mcp - often prefer
the mediocre and tame. The husband
explains in n rather amazing way "Shc
hasn't any brains. Just Iovc--it I eN-
plain m idea she docsn't understand
what ! mean. but when | am through
She believes in ne. worship her
for bringing out the best in me Some
times | wonder if she hasn' too much
sense to show she has any. I'm n
great man. I'm made. | sprang into
fame like colossal dream.
And then he tells his cx-wife that he
has watched her rise to celebrity
turtOusly. God. how | hate your am
bition-it kills every fiber Of energy
I've got, You understand TOO damn
well " did it all Just to spite YOU
YOU devil.
TIIERE il is; the old cruel sclfshness
L of the dominant male. He rccog
,uzPd her ability. her stCadfastness, hCr
industry. her ploddinG labor. He wrs
too proud to approve her genius. but
not too proud to let her slave to sup
port him. That spirit mas falsely been
called self RESPECT, and commcndablc
mastery. She had not rclnQuished the
sweet au1 the fine in fcmninity. She
wanted love. she wanted babies. she
created an artistic and tempting home
out Of tiny nook in poverty. Her
first glorious hope had been to make
her man great, and then 70 worship
him. But It failed.
We cannot believe this is typical ot
all modern striving. We know too
many actual. concrete examples Of ia
diartly happy married couples: each OF
whom has talent and develops il mutu
/ oily proud and helpful. But the book i,
fascinating. and stimulates intense in
Quiry into vital subject.