Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1921-06-10
WOn1Qn'S Life and Love
Ho,U Do You Behave in Business?
BY wINIFRED HARPER COOLEY

outside. The girl has everything to
lose and nothing to gain but tran
sient dinner or entertainment. IL Is
unjust. but true, that in most cases
jealousy and unkindness will be her
portion, very soon.
The great majority of men and wom-
en- who work side by side are we'll
behaved and impersonal, not because
they are unnatural or reduced to mere
human machines, but because univer-
| sally il is frOwned on, the indiscriminate
| mixture of business and society. IL
won't work. Novels and plays are
founded on sensational mix ups OF busi-
ness and emotional experiences, but we
suspect these are not so common as the
writer's would have us believe. n drama
of few years ago, called Help Want.
cd," pictured an employer who picked
his prospective stenographers solely for
their beauty and innocence, and one OF
the QuestiOrs he asked before engaging
them, was: Are you willing to stay
here evenings and work.
1t is pretty certain that this is bunk.
There are, of course, rotters in all walks
of life, but middle aged men In the
furious rush of big business enterprises
are not planning flirtations while in
scrting employment want ads in the
papcrs -- whatever their occasional
iapses under strong and unusual temp.
tatiOns may be.
novel called "Thc Grain of Dust"
portrnys n wealthy bachelor employer
of dozens of girl Stenographcrs CATCH
ing sight of one in passing through n
room. in which they sat in rows mt
desks lie sought her out, showered at
tpntionS on her tried to be Il bencfactor
TO her parents and finally, driven to
desperation bordering on insanity by
her Indifference, begged, cntreated and
commanded her to marry him. IN"
obscssion was SO strors that he nearly
lost his reason, yet the mOnomania left
him the day after his wedding, and he
saw her for what she was-a very
ordinary. pale, decent little person,
without charm or magnetism She was
as tiny grain of dust that is OF no
Importance in itself, but can stop the
important mechanism of watch, II II
clogs it. (Ie was the important
mechanism ,
Such prcsPntments OF lite are 1alse
and ridiculous. People fall in love ana
marry from close association ana un-
usuni attractions. not from casual busl-
ness contact. 1t does happen once in
n while that girl in the business world
is thrown for long time in close con
tact with her employer and marries
him, but such cases are rare.
In every office arc few Sllly httic
flapp,rs. who are so vibrating with
thcmyelvcs that every one is conscious
of them. Usually, they are objects OF
pity or dctestaton. but fcY men may
"jolly" them. for mere amusement. IL
is the sweet. dignified girl who ATTRACTS
permanent admiration and regard. 10
not think that because you are quietly
and efficiently carrying on your ap'
pointed task your light is hidden under
a bushel. If you are pretty and we'll
dressed and dozen little graces are
yours by nature. they are being OBJ
served even while you are bending over
n ledger. If your behavior is simple
and natural. it does not prevent your
being desirable to masculine eyes. And
If some of your eQuals-mcn who work
side by side with yOu-makc advances
in Il courteous way. suggesting social
engagements in the evening, they Will
not be- apt to offend you and miSun;
derstand YOU, if you have maintained
this behavior. as they might very nat
urally do, were you gay, and pos
sosScd of a come -hither' expression
1t is not necessary to be prude or q
porcupinc; but one should have buSi-
ness bearing.