Omaha daily bee., 1921-06-26
Bad Grammar Is
Danger to Bliss
In Married Life
Woman Who Conducts Glass
In How to Keep Husband
Says Careless Speech
Antagonizes.
Bv MARJORIE REX.

your Spcech. married Woiheh' ~
would be permanent wives. 49,,
Grammar is the best friend OF the
woman who wishes to retain ne1
husbands love, according 70 MISS
Aubrey Eaton, OF the .mtas '.,hnse
branch Of the Y. w. c. A., whose
classe, on how to get ana keep !.
s".hsnd have brought great happi-
a.s. to her students. It is said.
Man Is certain to be alienated oy 0
w % .xn,.ss;on. as, Gee, amt them
w.fTl., qrandr or Il amt never
drank such swell coffee" when .ney
come from the rosy lips OF his care
's "poor grammar" Miss Eaton says,
.r. s.,scd more domestic inielici-
re. than all the burnt soup and hafd-
boiled eggs in the world" e.,
% Rut there i. ! deeper reason TO tor
unhappiness brought about oy Ms
,.n;nr TO such perversions OF Eng
G.h The one who commits the
.s.n.oressions against correct
sn.ech engenders in the mind OF 'ne
sptse. spe .omething which causes MARI
tai dissatisfaction.
Mr.. Van de Waters Views.
Mrs. Virginia Terhune Van ae
w. famous author, who has writ
..n many novels and stories treating
,of marital problems, told me tooaS
of her convictions on this suo)ec.
"Th;s touches upon one OF my y
hohh;e, !" she said earnestly. !
hav. = frm belief that the secret OF
= Great deal Of disillusionment IN
marriage is the fact that one OF sne
parties to the contract IS asna"eu -
's ssueh secret shame kills love.
"For instance, suppose know
.or,. Woman who has very pre-.
ssntsble husband. She is proud OF
bin, and wishes to present HIM 70
@ nun a. Il. meet, me. and in his speech
nav either double negative OF per.
hans make coarse remark; ne has
thereby wounded the sensibilit'es ..
The wife who wished him 10 "'aNe
a good impression. - - hear
.noied English at the breaktas.
.ahie provided he were an educated
,nsr he would constantly have
feeling Of shamge tor ms o'"'a ''
in marrying beneath MN; - d,. re-
"'Poor grammar with all que rs. ie.
,pect to the lady who useo .ne
,hrase does not exist. There Is no
such thing as poor grammar or 0Au
grammar is the Standardization
- ~ science of correct use OF
language. .d,.,ted
r,an yn!ess caught when very yoenE
would marry a woman VINO express
"a herself poorly. Such speech o.,
tends the ear and the sense OF soou
M.u Often Make Wives Ashamed.
"rhere L another point: Although
many iii-bred women offend men
% ;";,h mistake, in English, many edu-
s.,.A men offend their wives win
.ianu slang and coarse stories sprinkled m
az lnew a very charming woman
who in a fit of pique. married man
far beneath her. He has little SCH
control and, when excited or angry
ianse. into the vernacuhr, win
Which he is familiar.
"Bclieying as do that secret
shame of ones life partner causes
most of our marital infelicity, al
ways urge women to keep them.
selves up. There is time IN you'n
when it is very interesting to dress
to give attention to the accessories
of ones toilette.
"Later on in life. when good looks
often vanish, then it is an absolute
necessity to look we'll. The ofhce
worker, any woman in BUSINESS
realizes this. 49,
at IS the business woman's duty
to keep up. What does man think
after working all day with women
in his Office who are as we'll and
aopropriately dressed as they are
able. when he goes home to woman
who no longer takes any interest IN
her own appearance He loves his
wife and wishes to be proud of her.
but she won't let him, and it hurts
him by her own indifference. She
has let go." =.
"What qualities do men like in
womcn?" Mrs. Van de Water was
asked.
Masculine Class Abhored by Men.
"The truly masculine, virile man
likes femininity," she declared. She
may be a militant suffragists. an ad-
vanced feminist, and yet be the most
feminine of women. She must have
the feminine appeal. | never knew
any man who admired the masculine
. type OF woman, who affects collars.
mannish hats and suits that resemble
his own. =,
~ never had a daughter" Mrs.
Van de Water said. MY children
were boys. But l know what !
would like in a daughter, the quali-
ties would tell any girl to culti-
vate.
II should wish her to be like my
own daughter-in-law. the girl my son
married. She would possess self-re-
lance, an almost masculine grasp OF
a subject, and at the same time be
capable of the depths of emotion:
she should be gentle in speech and
vet possess strength. She must never
forget herself or let her speech be-
come harsh.
"My ideal modern girl will dress
modestiy. That does not mean that
il is necessary to avoid fashionable
attire. only the extremes of style.
| don't decry the short skirts. unless
they are immodestly short; that ap-
plies to the decollette gown also"
New Hampshire to Mark
3OOth Year After Founding
Manchester, N. H.. June 25.--