Norwich bulletin., 1921-08-06
HINTs oN CH1Lp TRA1NrNG

Dear Corner Sisters: Just a word how l came to choose my penname. as about every one has told why they chose their When I came into this world I was booked by the name of Phebe. Some birds also claim this name so I thought l would choose a name with bird in it, and made poor job of 1t and have thought of changing It. but do not like 10 make our patient editor any needless work, 30 1t stands Cady; That's the idea exactly There are troubles in singla fife as we'll as in married life. Kindness and the Golden Rule are needed which ever we choose I can't say anything about any only the one have as I don't know what they will or won't do but as for myself am per- fectly contented the way I chose If he is treated like Cady suggests all goes well which Is the right way. One great blessing of married life is the privilege of bringing up a family. What would we mothers do without our children. It is a great responsibility and brings cares but many joys also. May I say a word of my own experience with them? In correcting a child I have found it pays to explain why they must mind their par ents and do or not do certain things If necessary to punish them do not if in anger, for that is revenge, is it not?
 
 CT, and this I have found by experience to tell them in calm way the reason for the punishment. If necessary to punish at all, will make a deeper impression on the child. when if struck in anger with no quiet talk stirs tNe anger within the child and does more. hcrm than good. A child has re4soni and understands more than we would think, ~I have seen moth CTS call their child, r5en chase after them and drag .thAsr home by main force which they cannot do after a cer- tain age. I began with one of my It, tie ones one. day when she was cutie small and called her to come to me. Sbe vas-over at. the next house. She went the other way as fast as she could go. I caught her. took her home and quietly told her why I had called her and explained the reason sue must come when her parents called her and got a little switch (not .a sclub) and although not using the switch very hard have never had to after wien she could hear my voice. Another time she was tretting and seemed troubled over some thing The neiehbbr who was in at that time, said, why don't you give her a slap and send her out. I was very busy just then, but ! stopped ny wark and listened to what was troubling her and soon had 1t all AxSd up and she ran out to play happy and eontsated. This neigh bor punished her child and slapped he, every few minutes fer every trife ana the cbild had hearI trouble and a break down at the age of two years. The doc tor told her she must not strike her, ol scold her in the least, and was very em phatic about it. I know there are exccn rions but many young mothers mak, that mistake Anostef mother has { whip in her hand most of the time an, the youngsters watch their mother an, when she Isn't looking do what she tell them not to. It seems te me better t teach them Co mind from respect rsthe than from force. The switch was use. Jsst two or three times in all their younl ezgB to show I meantft and nc more D not say, Watt until get hold of you. w e1nresSions rke-that then forget il q ehnd thinks that-sis all that we vii care to threaten. When they grow u they will not be looking to See If q ecop is coming but respecf { policeman an realize he is tbeirs frerd. think par ents should never beaobo bney to liste to a ehfld's troubles Nnd show we are in tarested in their affairs. From a tin child up no matter how tfihing ttei hurts or disappointments -eur sympath will never spoil them If treated wit our ksspect tsey viii do the same by u Ia later years. When they start out life if they know father or mother car If they do right or wrong it viii be
 Ereat help. I am not an ideal Taothe and we can set no fixed rule hut believ our best is not too, good in shaping Httl ives st~
 This is vacation time and makes Iii yhink of young person who went for
 visit and tried to have a good tim, Several things came pp and she was dii appointed. The next year she decided { give the folks she was visiting a zoo lime if she could She fosgst aH abes kerSSH and aAe vas SO busy helping a