The Washington herald., 1921-11-28
ROAD TO WOMAN'S
HEART FOUND IN
SERIOUS ATTITUDE
Dorothy Dix Says That's
Why Preachers Make
Hit With Fair Sex.
By DOROTHY DIX.

because. 1t is alleged, the female
patient almost invariably falls in
love with the practitioner.
Naturally. OF course. Inevitably. |
For 1t there ever was anything that !
met long-felt want with women 1t
Is psychoanalysis because it gives
them an opportunity to talk end
lessly about their secret thoughts,
and to tear their emotions to tat
ters to somebody who will listen to
them. because he Is paid to listen.
The one sure road to woman's
heart has always been through TAX
ing seriously what she thinks she
thinks. That is why preachers have
always made such hit with the
fair sex. Other men have regarded
women as ornaments, as playthings,
as servants. and pitched their con-
-ersation on these planes but
cIergymen were bound to regard
them as REASONABLE and response
Bile human beings, and to talk to
them accordingly. and this serious
discourse has invariably proved
ee-times-winner.
Perhaps the reason that women
are so keen about their souls is
because they are more or less of
a luxury to them. The so-called
heather still deny women a soul.
and even among Christians women
were only accorded the. possession
of souls by a few votes after a
long and acrimonious debate on the
subject in a church council.
Be that as IL may the fact re-
mains that a woman's soul Is the
most interesting thing on earth to
q
vivisectlng 1t. and she will fall In
love with practically any man who
will assist her in the operation.
Men think that the thing that
woman likes to be praised for is
her beauty. and so when one wants
to capture a fair ones fancy he.
tells her that her eyes are like
violets drenched in dew. that her
hair is like the midnight or sun
shine. as the case may be, and that
her figure has the 1.-THE grace OF
a willow wand all OF which Is good
as far as II goes because any saga
that chants our charms is music In
our ears.
But this kind OF praise is mild
fT5 triple, pleasant to the taste
but with no kick to IL. for every
woman knows that every man says
the same thing to every female ne
wishes to please. Moreover. every
woman is accustomed to having her
looks praised. It's old STUFF. but
the flattery that has the. punch 10
It. that Is strong drink that goes
TO her head and sweeps her OF her
feet. is when a man talks TO her
shout her real self, and betrays an
interest in knowing what she real
" things and feels
There are very few men who ever
have intelligence enough to md
this out, but the few who do are
lady-kiIlers for fair. 1t doesn't
make any difference how old they
are. how fat, and bald-headed, and
bay-wfndowed they are, or now
IonC-hairtsl. and shabby, and unsuc-
cessful they are, thev have charm
TO conjure with that no woman can
resist. =,
A woman's good time in the world
depends pretty much upon the FAVOR
of men. As girl she must have
beaux and dancing partners. AS
woman she must marry. AS mid
dle-aged woman she must be the
sort that men like TO take in TO
dinner and find congenial to talk
10. 1t Is a very dull woman who
does
that she must adapt herself to men,
and not expect men to adapt them
selves TO her, unless she wants to be
a wallflower as a girl and to be-
come a bachelor maid.
AIso she discovers that IL her con-
versation is going to interest men
n must be exclusively about them
md that she must put the soft
MEDAL good and hard on her own
eco After they have handed her
a few compliments about her looks
the taIkfest must be concentrated
on their own hopes and aspirations
and experiences. They haven't the
faintest interest in hers, and don't
pretend to have.
And a woman's husband is equal
rv incurfous about what Is going
on in that never ceasing worpshop
,,,der her marcelled hair. It's odd.
uban YOU come to think of it, that
nan never tries to find out how
marriage, and motherhood have re-
oc+ad on the woman at his side, or
Investigates what spiritual changes
are taking place in her as the years
20 by.
have talked this subject over
with hundreds of married women
and they all say the same thing.
that their husbands are satisfied as
Tong as their houses are well man
ared and they are pleasant and
amiable. The husbands show no in
terest in their wives souls.
Practical and sensible women ac-
cent This as one of the disillusions
Of mstrimony Weak and tempera-
mental women make fools OF them
selves over their clergymen or doc
tors. or create scandals by running
of with some rascal who will talk
TO them about their emotions and in
whom they think they have found
soulmate.
All of whcih Is a pity, and makes
one wonder that men do not think
IL worth while to recognize that
woman cannot live by bread alone
She must have spiritual sustenance
as well as bodily.
Certainly husbands would ind the
game Of phsycoanalizing their
for IL would surprise many a man
10 nnd out TAT the woman who
ait, across the table from him 365
days a year really thinks and feels.
and in many a case would be
amazed to hnd out what her real
opinion of him Is.
Once upon a time / interviewed
bIgsmist who had ffty-seven
wives, each of whom he had robbed
Of her little fortune and deserted.
1 asked him what was the secret
Of his ability to win a woman's
heart. "Aw," he said. It's no trick.
/ Just talk to them about them