The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-03-24
Dorothy Dix Talks
Making the Best of Things
By DOROTHY DIX
worlds Highest Paid Woman writ,

ZHuhIBR TIC 1Dt5l OI IHln&S@2,
And look at the women who never
indulge themselves in any pleasure
as they go along thru life, because
they are saving up every penny to
splurge on when they get DID," con-
tinued-the woman. They would like
/ to take little trips, but they deny them
| selves, SO that some time in the future
they may have grand travels. They
would enjoy going to the theater, but
they won't spend the price of a ticket
SO that at some indefinite season they
may go to the grand opera. They
won't even indulge themselves in a
decent meal at good restaurant be-
cause later on they expect to feast at
! the Ritz.
But the time never comes for them
TO cash in on their self-denial and
have the grand splurge for which they
| have been saving up. When the hour
arrives that they are to be happy in,
when they are to travel, and go to the
opera, and stop at swell hotels, they
find that they are too old and rheu-
matte to go about. and too deaf and
blind to see and hear. and too dyspep-
tic to eat anything but mush and milk
The only pleasures we are sure of,
are those that we get as we go along,
and we only get these by not loolin g
gift horse too closely in the mouth,
VI DSlHs 100 CRITICAL as TO WneLnoF they
are eighteen karat gold, or only gold
plated.
"And this same principle of making
the most of now and here applies to
people even more than it does to the
conditions of life. To be happy we
must learn to take the best that peo-
pie can give US, and let the balance go.
IF you have a friend. for instance
| who is und erstanding and sympathetic
and cheerful and bright companion
enjoy those qualities in her. Love her
for them, and do not worry because
she has poor judgment, and is always
running off after some new fad.
Or If you have a friend who IS
sound. and sensible, and practical and
dependable. rest your soul upon her as
upon the Rock of Ages. and do not
have your pleasure in her marred by
the fact that she never sees a Joke
and has about as much subtlety to her
as pick-aX.
And learning to make the best of
things will do more to make matri-
mony a grand sweet song than any
thing else in the world. Everything is
in the point of view. So why should
not a man say to himself, 1t is true
my Eliza Ann would never take prize
al a beauty show. nor Is she scintillat-
ing wit. or calculated to make a splash
in society, but she is the best cook
who ever put a hand to a gas range,
she is a marvel of economy, and her
oeVotlon is Such That she would die for
me any day of the week, Therefore
shall fatten on her good cooking, her
thrift will make me rich. and I shall
live happily in the peace of a man who
has the kind of a wife that he cannot
lose
And why. instead of fretting about
having missed her soul mate, cannot a
woman say to herself: L know that
my James is commonplace, and bald,
and fat and that the only things that
really raise a thrill in his breast are
planked steak and a ten point raise
in stocks, but he is certainly one grand
little money maker, and I will content
myself knowing that a limousine and
bank account are better than being
really understood
And. believe me-" said the old wo-
man, this is the sum and substance
of all happiness for when We learn to
like what we have. We always have
what we like