The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-01-22
Dorothy Dix Talks
HOW to Manage q Hushand-2..
By DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

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The first axiom in managing a hus-
band is: Feed him. The second is:
Wait until he is fed. and has smoked
his first cigar, or pipe. before you
| make a request of him. or tell him
anything unpleasant. Don't meet a
tired. hungry. erve-wracked man at
the front door of an evening with a
budget of bad news The poor fellow
has already had about all the disagree
able things to bear that he can stand
during the day, and to dump even one
single additional worry on him is the
straw that breaks the camers back.
and makes him roar out a surly mo"
to the most reasonable suggestion. and
say things that reduce you to tears.
An hour later when he is rested,
and soothed and comforted and the
world looks better to him, he will be
amenable to reason, happy to please
you. and you may push your affairs
/, with success. as the soothsayers put it.
But in managing a husband never for
get the importance of waiting and
watching for the psychological mo-
ment in which TO tackle him.
The third important point in man.
aging g. husband is to learn to drive
with a loose rein. Most wives make
the mistake of thinking that when a
man enters the holy estate of matri-
mony he Is committed to a penal in
stitution that forever shuts him out
any more personal Also
that they are their husbands lawfully
constituted jailers.
That Is why there are so many wan
dering husbands. Any man with a
spark of spirit in him would rebel at
having to punch a time clock, and
day and night. More than that, the
I forbidden fruit stuff is eternally al
| Turing. Hence the woman who wishes
to keep her husband bound, sets him
| free. and she who wishes his conf
dence asks no questions instead of
| putting him thru the third degree.
Any woman who has enough sense to
grant her husband a little freedom has
him SO grateful he will eat out Of her
hand.
I The fourth point in managing a
| husband is to learn to play his game
instead of expecting him to always
play yours Don't fill the house up
with your friends and your family. and
problem plays when he wants to go
to vaudeville shows. Don't be wet
blanket who is forever saying, I'VE
can't afford this" and I'VE can't af-
ford that" when hubby suggests some
| little treat. Don't let him go gadding
alone because you think you can't
leave the baby.
| Just remember that a man is bound
! to have amusement and companion
ship, and somebody to laugh with and
4 nave L eOoQ .IlIIl0 WILL, anu IL you
won't qualify for the job there are
plenty of others who will. Also that
while you are sitting at home holding
baby's hand, some good looking lady
| is probably holding husbands hand.
But the only way you can make your
| husband enjoy taking you out is by
adding to the gayety of the occasion.
No man drags along killjoy with him
willingly.
/ Finally. in managing husband re-
| member that the whole art is summed
up in studying your man and learning
how to jolly him along. Do things the
way he wants them done. Put things
in the light he prefers. Have an in
terest IN his interests. Laugh at his
| jokes. Listen to his stories. Show
him off before people. Praise his
achievements. Let him see you really
love and appreciate him. and admire
| him. Heaven knows it is little enough
! to do for the poor slave who tolls I'M
ceasingly to give you comfort and lux
uries.
But if you will do this he will kiss
your feet, and turn over to you his
kingdom. for husbands are humble
creatures who don't expect much con-
sideration from their wives.