South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1920-06-10
Winifred Black Writes About:
Seeing What You Look For

Are all married men unfaithful to
their wives?
What a question: Yet il is one
that l hear repeated day in nd day
out. and scarcely a mail arrives
the same thing.
Today there's a letter that is par
ticularly pathetic. II is from a good
woman who loves her husband and
wants TO believe in him. but she
says what can she do, all the books
telling stories Of unfaithful hus-
hands. all the plays starring YAM
pires" and all the news in all the
papers about soul mates and ali
mony clubs and divorces.
Then there are the cartoons and
the funny pictures-they drive her
almost crazy. she says. with their
chickens" and men telling fibS to
their wives.
And then. listen 10 the songs-ali
about If you were only somewhere
else. and 1 was somewhere. too" and
Il love my wife, but Oh, you kid"
Well, sister, | don't blame you
very much: but. after all. you're
wrong, absolutely wrong.
The newspapers don't print a
while, telling what good wife
Mary Smith, is to job. Smith. or
how faithful Herbert Brown is to
Dolly Brown
But If Mary ran away with
chauffeur. or II Herbert fell in love
with a chorus girl. or II the Smiths
and the Browns lived next door 70
each other and decided 10 exchange
wives-there would be a good deal
in the paper about II, wouldn't
there?
\ Waiter Explains.
Why not?
II isn't the ordinary thing we
want TO hear and see and speak of
1t is the unusual that interests US
Every time you read about di-
vorce in any one town, you should
remember that for this one divorce
there are thousands Of happy mar
riages right in the same place.
Plays and pictures and cartoons
are almost all made IN big cities
And there won't be any riot-not
natural. feverish, unwhOlesome ex-
istence.
IL you're going 20 write a play
with people that you know as the
characters in IL. you'll have 10 keep
out OF cafes and cabarets, unless you
want 70 have your play reek of
cheap face powder and jazz music
I know a waiter in a very smart
cafe. / asked him the other day
what he thought about the prevail
ence Of unhappy marriages
He smiled and shrugged his
shoulders
DO you ask me about these peo-
pie l see here In this expensive res
taurant2 ?" he said. ''Ah, then,
must tell you "a sad tale. That man
over there brings his stenographer
10 dine. and telephones his wife
that he's detained down town on
business. That woman at the next
table has two children and Il de-
voted husband The man she. Is
lunchinC with is a professional dan
Ger. She bought the diamond he
wears in his scarf. Those two girls
In the corner belong 10 good fam
lilies; they have come here 20 meet
two married men. husbands OF their
own friends. So I should answer
you, IL told you just a part OF the
truth But listen:
Il have a home wife and
daughter. Ny son is at college. I
live for my family. Then there's
Gean. the chef He makes $4,000
a year. He has a little country
place and lives a dream OF retiring
10 H. with the wife he adores. I
know A hundred men. at least. who
work like beavers, denying them
selves in a dozen different ways
Just 10 bring up a little family and
take good care OF them. You see
what you look for. madam, and. be-