The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1920-10-11
ADVICE TO THE
 LOVELORN
By Beatrice Fairfax

The old tale of the good fairy who comes along and endows some lucky mortal with a ring that can grant i three wishes is a popular cue. Like most fairy tales, 1t has basis in fact.
 All of us dream of some beneficent power that can-if it chooses-endow l us with our pet desire-come-true. Most of us don't dream who the good
 What lonely girl p1odding home after a long day of routine doesn't fancy some wonderful thing that may be waiting for her around some i corner on the homeward route? Per l haps it will be a note from a hand some neighbor telling how he has ! tried in vain to secure an introduction | and won't she please waive formal1ty and call this getting acquainted? 1 Maybe it's an invitation for a week 1 end in the country with some wealthy | customer who's fallen victim to her 1 method of measuring ribbon. It may 1 heard of wealthy uncle. Anything f may be around the corner! Any wish may be about to come true. Men, I think, are little less prone | than women to believe in the mir | acle-fairy. They know life goes jog | ging along at about the same gait most of the time. They know that the world doesn't move by fits and starts but on measured orbit. And
 
 | come true nagical1y.
 lI But how many are there in the 1 world who KNOW that their pet wish | will come true-if, IF ONLY THEY l How many are there who dream that the good fairys' name is Work? With all the faith and sincerity in
 my soul, believe in this:
 You get what you want-if you really want it.
 Almost that is my Credo. I believe that the truth of it's underlies all of life. Really to desire is to work for the consummation of that desire. Truly to want is to make that want fulfill itself But the people who wish-dont always want.
 Wishing is easy. Anyone can sit down and romance about what it would be dandy to have.
 T wish folks liked me-" whines Mabel. "Id love to be popular
 But does she want to be loved want it so terrifcally that she will work for it. Folks won't love Mabel they did. They'll love her because l she has earned their affection. And , to earn it she must sacrifice herself her inclinations. and her leisure. She must graciously. unselfshly and sweetly make herself at once neces- sary and agreeable.
 , 1T wish I had a better job," whim' pers John.> 'I'd love a chance to get 1 on III the WOrlQ. But what does he do when he's asked to work through his luncE hour or to stay overtime an houl some night? Does it ever occur to him to study the business in whicE = he's engaged? Is he trying to give i anything? If John wants to succeed he must study his job. the job higher up, the business into which they fit the people with whom he works and 1 the market where he's trying to sell his product.
 I don't question that many g champion ball player would like to | stay up late night after night fox, trotting. Maybe some do. And ther after they've demonstrated to fame that they'd rather have a lot of fur | dancing than keep fine and fit, they go to pieces physically and cease be, ing champions.
 The world (is full of folks wht would want something, and want i 1 earnestly if acquiring it didn't involve | the sacrifices of some lesser - bu | c1aming-want. A good figure ma, entail sacrificing sweets-which Mis-: Plump and Roly Poly also desires Bright eyes may be dependent on go ing to bed early nights. cutting ou the good times which Miss Sweet ant Twenty so much enjoys.
 Getting what you want is ques ton of values. Do today and tn f1eeting pleasure of the moment coun | or is the goal worth effort and sacri
 flee?
 Wishing is believing in fairies | Wanting is working to create you own magic.