The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-01-27
Dorothy Dix Talks
The Men Propose-1.
BY DOROTHY DIX
-orid's Highest Paid Woman Writs


A woman, who claims to know.
says that this is the way in which
various types of men pop the ques-
ton:
i The very young man offers you his
hand and heart as IL he were proffer-
ing you q. cup of cold poison. He is
white faced and dry mouthed. and
tense and tragic and when he ewears
that he will commit suicide II you re-
fuse him he means 1t, for It ID only
when one is very young that one be-
lieves that love is the be-ail and end
all of life,
You never remember very distinctly
| what he says. It's something about
his never having loved before, and
that he will never love again, and you
are the only woman In the world. and
of course you will have to walt a
while until he gets to making az much
as $40 8. week. But two can live as
cheaply as one, and so on and then
you kiss him If you are going to say
| mo" because you are SO sorry for
him. and he kisses you il you say
| yes" and ten years later he is
wondering what was the name OF that
girl he made such a fool OF himself
| over at the Smithson's party, and you
wonder what's become of that nice
boy that you spooned with that sum-
mer at the beach.
| We may laugh at calf love all we
will, but the woman who has had a
| boys first proposal has had an ala
baster casket broken at her feet, and
it's a pity she's generally too young
to know just how precious its myrrh
and frankicense are.
The man who is a f1irt proposes
/ like school of correspondence course
love making. He has to have a stage
setting for a background and cracked
r1afv Tav.1
seizes the psychological moment when
you are sitting out under the palms at
| a dance and the orchestra is sobbing
Hawaiian love plant, and then he
reaches over and takes your hand, and
begins by telling you that your eyes
something strange about you. some
thing unfathomable and different
from any other woman.
Then he quotes poetry-passfonate
sizzling Swinburne stuff-and assures
you that life will be cinders. ashes
and dust without you, and says some
thing that sounds like a proposal at
IL midnight. but that does not bear
the scrutiny of the cold gray morning
after. For the flirt loves and rides
away and no woman in her senses re-
CARDS him seriously.
The truly good young man, and the
one with mission in life proposes like
Sunday school tract. He wastes no
time in love making and sometimes
| even has the nerve to tell a woman
that his heart is given to his work.
and that he merely desires a COM
panion to assist him in uplifting the
world and look after his physicaI
comfort, for even sair g have a predi-
lection for good cooking. Occasionally
he tops off the proposal as If he were
serving CLAIMS on ice. nv saying that
before he spoke he had besouEht
Divine guidance on the subject in
order that he might not be influenced
by his personal preferences.
I The blunt man sand bags you with
his proposal. He is liable to make il
on street car or at a restaurant, and
he always chooses the glazing middle
of the day. Say" he breaks in, over
the roast beef and mashed potatoes
I'm not sentimental. or romantic and
| think all this talk about love is dope
land bunk.
Now, like You. You are no great
beauty, but I'm not strong for looiss.
and you are healthy and have good
common sense and I think we would
hit II off about right. What do you
say? Is it a bargain %
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