The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1920-06-14

\ Temperumentdl Woman Likes
Perpetual Courtship Plan
Dear Miss Grey: l have
read with interest the letter
on the subject of "a way to
overcome the divorce evil"
Now l am a woman who has
had some experience, and in
many respects | think the
writer who suggested per-
petual courtship is quite
right, particularly if the in
terested parties have EACH
been self-supporting individ-
uals for any length of time
or have arrived at mature
years. know l should grow
weary if forced to sit face to
face 800 mornings Of the year
to a single person whose COM
pany l was obliged to have
T. rust upon me because of
custom and social laws. yet l
might have a wonderful re-
spect for that same individual.
and an immense human in
terest in him. if | saw less. of
him than is the case of estab-
lished customs.
Sco.~ ar, ya-,- --t,fnaY ana 7
have a very high pedestal for those
whom I admire. and yeti KNOW
that . very small personal habit or
incident might cause me 10 set aside
that admiration. | presume that men
are ~ likely to have the same sort
of feeling toward their life partners
~ fact, since have occupied both
~ and physicians offices. know
b. Untdy appearance. petty and
Irouchy conduct. little Marty jeal-
SRlsies would drive me TO distraction.
have been married twice. I
\ Aflored my first husband. who said 10
I0e. 10 years after we were divorced:
II cannot recall n single cross word
Or unsclfish act. and our home was
n always inviting and restful." Yet. in
. moment Of wandering he did the
thing for which could not take him
hack In my life. because lost all
Prospect for him for being 30 weak
Ny second husband was jealous Of
fme-because was an attractive wo-
man. doing things out Of the ordinary
\ IN the great business world. with
~fobs" always mine for the asking
and taking. He deserted me because
insisted on earning my living. since
he could not do so. for jealousy even
q my talents. and mental ability.
I believe In the separate home and
entirely separate interests and sup
port az the means OF developing
|strong and lasting friendships and
great and strong characters require
this Independence OF individuality to
exist. for we are like plants-the
stronger will overcome and weaken
the weakest. or. IL not-there IL sure
" state Of undeveloped individuality
put OF which the world can claim no
great advance. because Of the evils
Of commercial marriages and incom.
pafibility therefrom.
I think this fact is apparent when
he world witnesses a great man. for
then Nature has made possible the
attraction Of two persons, In which
one In submerged to give power TO
the greater. but the many never sur.
vtve this test OF merging OF interest.
because the economics OF this day
does not permit natural selection to
control marriage. as a rule.
! think a man Of individuality does
not wish TO be pinned down to ex.
planning where he goes. what he goes
for or WHY. Just as I would my
ecf. because follow instinct In work
VI In seeking happiness in that en-
ployment and recreation. and | would
not wish to be compelled to tell WHY
because II would take too much valu.
able time explaining why I liked 10
get up early TO watch the morning
glories come out" Or trail some
bird In the forest. or work like
Trojan In the garden, while I ex.
tracted some important idea out OF
my brain to assemble a speech for
someone.
Go to II. old boy-with your eman.
\cipation ideas--f applaud.
MODERN SAMANTHA.