The Washington herald., 1920-06-28
Excellent Advice 3, s,'!: SSSSszs. :S:ss M i.:

, People are always telling womer
that they Should try turning
smiling face upon their husbands
and be entertaining and bright and
chatty md wear pretty gowns ane
so on.
AS d matter of fact, no woman
alone and unaided can make a
happy home any more than she
could move a glacier. She might
grin like a Cheshire cat and mon.
ologue along until her tongue wore
/ out and be as beautiful as a hour
and look like fashion plate and
, she wouldn't raise the domestic
temperature of the home one de-
gree, or diffuse one ray of sun
/ shine or joy if the husband was
sitting up glum and grouchy, or II
he was stamping around the house
finding fault with everything.
/ 1t takes two people laughing to-
gether to register mirth. II takes
two people to carry on an agreeable
/ conversation. 1t takes two people
4 giving the hest that is in them OF
kindness, and tenderness and con-
/ sideration and reniality 10 make q
/ happy home. No woman living car
pull off the stunt alone and nc
man need expect to marry such .
| miracle performer.
One of the reasons that women
! lose interest in domestic life, and
/ get slack about their cooking anc
the way they keep their houses, i:
! because so few husbands dc team
work. They never notice what the
wife does. They never praise heI
| management. They gobble down
| dirnar h. koe
ing without so much as saying the
sauce was worthy of a chef. or the
salad such a work Of art IL should
have been eaten on ones knees
| No wonder the woman gets dis.
! courag ged.
If the husband would only dc
team work and show some interes;
in his home: il he would discuss
the best way of meeting the H. c.
of l.. with her instead of growing
over the bills: if he would display
some real interest in rugs and
thrill over wall paper instead OF
saying, "Oh. set what you want
| don't know or care" il would put
new pep into his wife and he woulc
reap rich results in better dinner:
and a better managed home, for
women dote on talking things over
and a husband whom she coult
make a real companion Of would
fill any wife's cup with bliss.
The place where team work IN
families is most needed. however
and where the lack OF il is mos
disastrous is in rearing children
i 1t takes both father and mother
standing shoulder to shoulder to dc
that properly-and-alas, in how
few households do you find this de.
sirable condition of affairs.
Sometimes there is practicall,
no father. only a man who pays
the bills. Father is too much en-.
crossed with business to get ac-
Quainted with his children, or Re
try to guide them. or to decide any.
thing about their fates. He leaves
that to their mother. and no mat
ter how fine a woman she is, she
is incapable of being both mother
and father to them. Children need
mans experience of the world, 9
mans outlook. a mans irmness. q
mans protection in the develop
ment of their characters. and in
starting them in life-otherwist
God wouldn't have bothered tc
make fathers-and II they miss thi.
they start handicapped. as is prov.
. ows' children go wrong and amount
, to nothing.
Sometimes a man tries to do hit
duty by his children and is balkee
by a weak silly mother who can.
, 'not bear to see her darlings dis.
, lciplined Father tries TO curb =
( boys extravaganza mother scrimr.
l the housekeeping allowance to give
him money. Father tries to protect
; a foolish girl from a bad man
r Mother secretly connives at theiI
: meetings because the girl weeps
= Father tries to teach the childret
obedience. and respect for author
= ity and some sense of duty. Moth
er pities them when they are de-
r MED anything and connives at theiI
r ldisobedience and sides with them
v against their father, whom she un'
: consciously teaches them is ty'
/, rant and brute.
= What is the result?-the hood
o lums, the wayward sons and daugh'
0 ters. the lazy, undisciplined. un'
e controlled youth of the day who
e bring their parents heads in sor
row to the grave.
n Whenever a father and mothe
I disagree as to the wisdom of som
n particular course with their chill
dren, they should do so in private
e They should present a united from
j. tc the youngsters. There should D
& no appeal from Caesar TO another
o II is only by this kind of team
e work that family discipline can b
: enforced, and children successfull'
reared