Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1920-03-16

she would like to help, and to whom
! she. would give money if she were
an unmarried working woman, she
cannot do so without the humiliation
of asking her husband for it and
making him feel that his Wife's peo-
pie are grating on him. For he
seldom realizes that the wife is en-
titled to a part of the family in
come, not because she is his wife,
but because she earns it by her
labor in the household.
Now, women cannot understand
why men cannot get their point of
view on this vital subject. They
cannot comprehend why man who
is just and fair about money to
everyone else, cannot be just and
fair to his own wife. They cannot
see how a man can love a woman,
and yet force her to come like a
beggar to him for every cent.
The explanation is that men have
an idea that the two sexes do not
regard money in the same light. A
man knows that he would rather
starve than be dependent upon even
the kindest ard most generous Of
fathers Or uncles. The reason that
marriage between poor man and
rich woman almost always results
in misery for both is that a mans
sense of dependence eats into his
very soul. The very foundation
stones of his self-respect ard happi-
ness are the possession of his own
individual pocketbook.
But he thinks women are different,
and that a woman actually enjoys
- 1onf Ito
blind beggar, and wheedlirg, ca
joling or browbeating him into CIV
ing her enough money to buy some
specific thing which she has to de-
scribe beforehand.
If men could only realize that
there is no difference between the
would do more to make marriage a
success than any other one thing, for
it is ignorance, not stinginess, that
makes husbands dole out carfare to
their wives instead of giving them
an individual bank account.
Another illustration of the alleged
difference between the sexes shows
why so many women fail to give
their husbands the appreciation and
tenderness that are their due.
A woman knows that the love that
expresses itself ir, warm words of
endearment, that takes note of her
sacrifices, that pays the tribute of
praise to her endeavors, is as the
very breath of life to her. She
knows that this, and this alone,
makes marriage worthwhile to her.
She knows that if her husband sur
rounds her with this aura o. appre-
citation that she is repaid for all the
hardships and sacrifices that matri-
mony inevitably brings, and if she
fails ir, appreciation that marriage
is cinders, ashes and dust in her
teeth.
But she has been taught that men
are strong and self-sufficient, and
prosaic, and unsentimental, and she
never realizes that her husband is
just as heart hungry as she, that he
longs and pines for a few words of
real affection, or little praise, some
sign that she knows and appreciates
| the sacrifices that he is making for
| her.
There are millions of tired dis
heartened, discoura ged, gloomy and
grouchy men to whom marriage Is
an utter failure, who could be made
| happy, and contented, ard cheerful,
and find marriage a paradise regain
ed if only their wives would show
| them some of the tenderness and
love and appreciation they really
| feel.
DO as you would be done by" is
| the golden rule of matrimony as 1t
is of life. For men ard women all
have souls cut off Of the same pat
tern, and with the same needs and
| desires.
Copyright, 1920, by the Wheeler
| Syndicate, Inc.)