Omaha daily bee., 1920-02-15
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

Perhaps you've seen the man you
could like. And he doesn't know
YOU are on earth. What are you to
do about it?
Don't smile in sad triumph as if
you'd set me hopeless task, For
you haven't. Not at all.
Suppose you are a blur i'll the
background i'll no way set Oft from
the other background blurs OF FEM
ininity. That isn't the handicapping
thing you imagine. Instead it gives
you a certain advantage, for it per-
mits YOU to sit back without his
catching you at it while you study
the man you want to please
There you ask me 70 halt. You re-
mind me that we're talking about
the man whose love you want to
win, not about the man you want
to please. But there's the point
they're the one and the same thing:
Men are spoiled or self-centered
or selfish or honest-or what you
may choose to call tin such de-
gree that what gives them pleasure
plcases them! That's not fine bull
nor yet great bon mot. It's merely
the truth. 1t means that men are
true to their own personalities aud
individualities. They don't pose as
something they ought to be, but
calmly arc what they are. And
whatever produces comfort and hap
pinesS and an air OF we'll being meets
with their honest approval and graf
itudc.
Why should you expect a basic
ally honest creature like Donald to
like you for the number of tango
steps you know when he hates to
dance? Why shouldn't you realize
that he will like you for your inter-
est Geigned or reaD in tennis since
he adores tennis, and talking about
it is the next best thing to serving
a zippy ball on fine clay court!
II Donald attracts you, why isn't
it worth while to study him and
find out something about the tastes
and prejudices, the hopes and ambl-
tions, which total up into sum that
is the man you love!
Man is an unconscious egotist.
We don't have to like it. But we
do have to accept it. Also, he is a
little boy grown up. That we do
like, but we don't always take 1t
into reckoning. Also. han has a
primitive honesty such as woman
has not had a chance to cultivate
in a world which has been so slow
in according her rights and so
ready to give her privileges in re-
turn for smiles and favor.
Why Not Fight for 1t?
Now. in dealing with an egotiStlcal
small boy possessed OF grown-up
desires and who doesn't often stand
off and take a good look at himself,
it's we'll to be a bit OF diplomat,
great deal of mother and to pos
sess a store of feminine lure to
round out. the measure.
The first step in any acquaintance
is the introduction. A girls letter
OF introduction to man is her ap-
pearance. That she must make Just
as delightful as possible. Beauty. IS
pleasure to the eye of any be-
holder, and the selt-respecting girl
srooms herself as we'll as ever she
can and makes the best of herself
in point of daintiness and attraction,
She does that all the time: She
makes herself sweet and dainty as
instinctivesy as she bathes in the
morning. >,
But with the coming of love, there's
a special accent on every good point.
Don't toss your head and say you
wouldn't so demean yourself. I've
seen girls get mighty 'snifty" at the
thought that they should take SPECIAL
pains to win mere man. The idea is
repugnant to their pride they say.
Not at all. They know that love It.
self is at stake and they're afraid
TO enter the game unless they have a
written guarantee of winning.
Anything in the world IS worth