The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1920-10-01
ADVICE TO THE LOVELORN
By Beatrice Fairfax

Bess is mighty pretty g1rl, con f1ded young Donald. "And I used to bothered with her any more. She's too big a baby. Honestly, she hasn't a mind of her own. She can't do a thing without stopping to think how her mother Is going to feel about 1t first It spells everything"
 What does it spoil?" I asked with an elaborate air of innnocense. .nh, everything" -, replied young Hsona1d waving his hand largely ing because her mother has a fit on account of her not knowing how to swim. She hasn't learned to- smoke like the rest of the girls in her set because her mother doesn't approve. hours before anyone else wants to go home because her mother hates to have her out after one o'clock at the latest Honestly, she's a fool about the old lady"
 "Are you sure she isn't just a con siderate, thoughtful girl with a deep respect for the opinions and feel ings of an older woman who hap Der Iove?" l asked.
 fNonsense!" said young Donald with the engaging smile that robs his words of all rudeness. "Bess ought to have a few opinions of her own She has a right to her own life. Why should she let herself be held back from everything she wants to do by an old lady who's
 And I did. Like this:
 "If Bess had something vital in her nature demanding expression and her mother were trying to in terfere with that, I'd be inclined to fight for the right of each individual to find itself and express itself. If the girl longed to write and her mother insisted that a woman s to stand up for the gift she had in her to use and needed to use in order to be true to herself.
 If Bess were deeply in love wrth some fine young fellow and her mother wanted to marry her girl off to an unwelcome suitor with money, I'd hate to have the girl sacrifices herself. <. In other words, if anything big and vital were at stake, I'd feel strongly that the new generation must have it's chance, that youth must be served and that the individual has a right to her turn.
 ''A1l love must learn to bear and rorbear- Without consideration and courtesy, love cannot live. Each of us must sacrifice something of our own personality in order to live side by side happily with other per sonaHties. In demanding elbow room for our own lives and living. we have also to recognize that other rolks also need 'elbow room"
 No one can insist on expressing his personality to the exclusion of everybody else's rights of self-ex- precision. That's true for all friend ship as well as for all love-
 Now. in the case of a girl and her mother, all this becomes doubly and Irlply and thousand times true Even allowing for the modern con seriousness that parents owe more to children than children to parents even recognizing that the world eraulon, not back to the old there must still be a generosity on the part or youth, with life ahead of it. to age with so much behind. Youth mas the privilege of profiting by the experience of age. Age has an obli- Eauon to give youth the benefit of It's knowledge.
 wants her to keep out of danger she isn't equipped to meet, and avoid habits she can gain nothing bv Iorming, the girl can we'll afford to listen. She needn't stop to figure if ala out for herself. She can pretty much feel that mothers advice is safe to follow. ~ sest that Bess does well to listen to mother. And love and chiva.Iry and me feelings say that the girl who respects her mothers wishes. and cares more about pleasing mother than about catering to some heed less, pleaSure-nad youth is a rnettv good sort It would be fine thing 1T Nhere were more of her. It might De well if the Donalds of this world knew her better-studied her and the mother who commands so much or love and respect"