The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-11-11
ON SECOND THOUGHT
BY JAY e. HOUSE.
(rrea Philadeiphia Public Lsdger.)
Adelaide writes the column.

AuelaiUG WHITES IDe O0luD1D.
think 1 need not tell any woman
OF feeling or refinement how 1 deplore
the fact that I am constantly being
paraded in my husbands writings. 1t
isn't only in Philadelphia; he has al
ways done it. 1t used to humiliate me
nearly to death. Many times / have
cried my eyes out because of some
foolish speech he has put into my
mouth. That was particularly true in
the earlier years OF our married life.
We lived then in the old home town
everybody knew us. 1 just couldn't
get over the thought that he was
shaming me before my friends and
neighbors. In later years 1 have come
not to mind it SO much. altho it has
been very trying in Philadelphia. ]
mean by that 1 no longer cry my eyes
out when he mentions me. / have
never become reconciled to it, and /
still think it in very bad taste. But
what can I do?
When I protest he only laughs and
says: You are good stuff. Any wo-
man is good stuff properly handled
And you know 1 am not rich; l have
to earn a living in some way" And
the next morning. perhaps, I pick up
the paper and read something that
humiliates me to the dust. But, as ]
have said. what can one do? One
can't leave ones husband because she
is what he regards as good stuff"
1 don't think he means to be un-
kind. 1 don't think he is conscious
of the fact that he is unkind. He has
the unconventional mind. / DOM
think he can help it. From the pro-
fessional standpoint I am to him "good
stuff" and he is wholly unconscious OF
| the fact that he may hurt me-
I should have been forewarned.
had an unpleasant experience in his
utter unresponsiveness to the conven-
tons very early in our acquaintance
We had an engagement to go driving
| one October afternoon. 1t was il
the days before every laundress owned
an automobile. I had a roadster OF
which I was rather proud and l had
| invited my husband to go for drive
What was my amazement, just before
| the hour of our engagement, to see
him drive past the house with a visit
| ing girl. He explained afterward thai
his dog had strayed away and that he
| had located it ten miles down the
country. He didn't think l would care
| to drive ten miles into the country after
| dog. so he had provided his owr
! conveyance, picked up the visiting CIR
| to keep her from being lonesome. and
| his mind wholly on the wretched dog
had driven out after it. That was, fol-
| him, a typical explanation. l accepted
| it. He can make any sort of explana-
| ton and 999 persons out of every
! 1000 will accept it.
To most women the details of theii
wooing are sacred. Mine was so com
monplaee there is no reason why
shouldn't talk of it. I was visiting IL
a town in the middle west. My hus
band stopped off to see me on his way
| to New York. All he said was, 90
am going to New York tomorrow
night. I'd like to have you go along
We could be married at 3 O'Clock to.
morrow afternoon and have plenty Of
| firr7n n catch fraf in - Nnod1aoc r.
say, 1 agreed to go to New York or
! the late afternoon train. AS he tells
the story, it was his waistcoat tc
which I objected. 1t was really his
morning coat. We had agreed to be
married quite secretly because he
for the ceremony in the most atrocious
morning coat I have ever seen. 1t was
a checkerboard pattern running in
browns and yellows. 1 told him quite
frankly I would not marry a man in
T.! such a coat, and he had to change
| 1t delayed the CEREMONY somewhat, but
| we made the train. 1t was, with one
exception, the one victory of my mar
/ ried life. He had an idea before he
was married that there was something
! distinguishing about wearing a flow
| ing scarf with his tuxedo. Well, he
! hasn't worn a flowing scarf with his
| tuxedo since we were married.
! Before we started on our wedding
trip 1 had never heard of a worlds
series. Shortly after we started
| learned we were going to one. Later
we were to take a really lovely honey
moon journey, which we did, but we
| had to see the worlds series first. We
| got into the hotel in New York early
| in the evening. I noticed my hus-
band bought all of the afternoon
papers before we went up to our room
! Once there sat for an hour a neglect
4 I. l. Il. =
newspaper after newspaper. 1 learned
afterwards he was reading about the
worlds series, the first game of which
had been played that day.
When we returned from our trip we
went to hotel until a somewhat
hastily improvised home should be
ready for us. For the first week there
was the usual round of dinners and
parties and we were pretty busy, but
shall never forget the first evening he
tried to spend alone with me. He tried
hard. I will say that for him. But