The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1920-10-22
ADVICE TO THE
LOVELORN
By Beatrice Fairfax

"Roware of the desperate steps. The
darkest day ia
Live till tomorrow-will nave pass
away"
Have you ever stopped to THINK
how many girls are stirred 10 Jt ~
ousy by the beauty and luxury OF LIZ
butterflies of the moment! ana nav
Won ever stopped to think how LttIe
we know of the heartaches these
same butterflies feel in the mlost ~
their painted paradises? Inc llt ede
verse above is a good sentiment ior
ali who would play the game OF NE
successfully and well, and play II oe-
Gently and bravely to the 1lnlSh vo,,
"Geware of desperate steps. io9
geo there's no finality about any OF
the aches and pains and dlsappolnt.
ments of life. The "unendurapie 59n !
uncomfortable at all. It's just marc ~
bear. But in the bearing OF wR a
seems too much, there's cndhce 1oi
growth and development.
No athlete who's training for a
Marathon starts out by uaShlnS ~
his twenty-five miles. lie WORKS up
no if. Well the terrible trials OF NE
are perhaps a bit strenuous training
for learning to run a race put one
endured each makes the next dithcul-
ty easier to meet on a pass OF Tie
raining afforded by the last
The thing that seems beyond en-
durance and cruel and tortur1ns
comes at last TO be a comIortap l's
enough thing to live with. L olhS lSe'A Il
: To adjust themselves and their lives
to lameness, to blindness, to all forfns
of cruel physical disability. Brokeh
hearts have a way of mending. Some
times there aren't any scars
Nature repeats all her processes
in every stage of life and on every
plane of existence. The tree thae
ir riven by lightning doesn't Ole II
it's roots and trunk stand, even II 1t
is denuded of branches. The Living
tree renews itself. 1t puts fortn
branches again. 1t heals its sears. We
humans are like that, too. We can
survive surgery of the MIND ana
spirit as we'll as surgery OF the BODY.
only the weak give in to the mo-
uent of pain. Only the weak run
a&ay from living. Only the stupid
have so little imagination, SO little
gambling spirit that they refuse to
see things through to their logical
conclusions. The difficulty that's en-
/ dured. that's worked out of is likely
enough to be a stepping stone to vic
No one was ever so down and out
that he couldn't pick himself up
a gain and make good. No one who
lives is deprived of chance to make
! good-if only he has the will to
! fight. the spirit to strive.
At the moment when a situation
! seems uncomfortable, it has probably
! reached it's worst stage. And when
| you get down into the trough of the
! wave YOU can't get any lower, so you
| are on your way to the cresti
! But one of the queer upside-G down,
/ peryerted reasons why folk who think
! they're down and out must find some
where the courage to fight through
/ lies in a contemplation of the fact
/ that those who seem to have every
! thing haven't much, perhaps.
I You see we humans are prone to
| jealousy. We get furious at life be-
cause it seems to divide its prizes
so unfairly. But the things which ap-
pear to be prizes may not be rich
gifts; and the things which seem to
indicate poverty and hardship may
really spell the best. The sad little
creatures who for all their youth and
beauty and wealth and pleasure
found life too much for them, prove
that-don't they? You see, none of
us knows how much another of us
is enduring. None of us know how
much capacity for enduring another
is developing. None of US can read
the last chapter of any life's book
until we come to it.
o.. And the only way to insure the
happy ending is to build character,
strength. power of endurance, and a
willin gness to wait for tomorrow's
solution of the problem. Any of us
who will can see anything through to
a successful conclusion. One of our
present day most successful young.
authors had 1872 rejection slips before
he sold a story. He had to keen on
working and believing through 1872
failures.