The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1920-07-24

m0nC ana e8PoIleI1Ce endD1eS ulIl eo direct them; and on the other hand, revolve seriously on the conse- quences which would inevitably re- suit from an indisposition to this measure or from an idle habit of hap kering after unprofitable amuse- ments at your time of life, before you have acquired that Knowledge which would be found beneficial in every situation.
 ''I say before, because 1t is not my wish that, having gone through the essentials, you should be deprived of any rational amusement afterward."
 One of the most interesting of the letters, in that it gives the great Washington's opinions on love and even "vamps,'' is one written to Nelly Custis at 16, on the occasion of her first ball. Nelly, it seems, had writ ten an account of the ball to her aug ust father-in-1aw in which she had said, though she had met many men, she had determined never to give herself a moments uneasineas about any of them."
 Quoting this sentiment from letter. Washington sagely comments:
 A Lecture on Love.
 "A hint here; men and women feel the same inclinations to each other now that they always have done and which they will continue to do until there is a new order of things, and you, as others have done, may find, perhaps, that the passions of your sex are easier raised than a1Iayed.
 -''De not. therefore, boast too soon or too strongly of your insensibility to. Or resistance of, its powers. In the composition of the human frame, there is good deal of inflammable matter, however dormant it may lie for a time, when the torch is put to it, that which is within you may burst into a blaze; for which reason, as have entered upon the chapter of ad- vices, I will read you a lecture drawn from this text.c
 'Iove is said to be an involuntary passion and it is therefore contended that it cannot be resisted. This is true in part only, for like all things else. when nourished and plentifully supplied with aiment, it is rapid in | its progress; but let these be with drawn and it may be stffled in it's birth or much stinted in it's growth. "F'or example, a woman all beau- tiful and accomplished will, while her heart and hand are undisputed of turn the heads and set the circle 1 in which she moves on fire. Let her marry and what is the consequence :? The madness ceases and all is quiet again. Hence it follows that love may and therefore ought to be under the | guidance of reason, for, although we | cannot avoid first impressions we 1 may assured1y place them under | guard.
 "When the fire is beginning to kin i d1e and your heart is growing warm, | propound these questions to. it: Who 1 is this invader? Have I a competent l knowledge of him 2? Is he a man of | good chara cter-a man of sense? For, | be assured, a sensible woman can
 never be happy with a fool. What
 has been his walk of life? Is he a gambler, a spendthrift, Or drunk ard?
 "Is his fortune sufficient to main tain me in the manner I have been | accustomed to live, and is he one to l whom my friends can have no reas- | onable objections? If these interroga-
 tions can be satisfactorily answered ! there will remain but one more to be 1 asked, that, however, an important 1 one. Have I sufficient ground to con-
 clude that his affections are engaged 1 by me?
 without this the heart of 6ensi-
 bi1fty will struggle against a passion
 that is not reciprocal deicacy, ! custom, Or call it by what epithet you | will, having precluded all advances
 upon your part. The declaration,
 without the most indirect invitation
 of yours, must proceed from the I man, to render it permanent and valuable, and nothing short of good sense and an easy unaffected cons duct can draw the line between pru-
 dery and coquetry.
 "It would be no great departure
 from truth to say that it rarely hap
 pens otherwise than that a thorough
 paced coquette dies in celibacy, as .
 punishment for her attempts to nis
 lead others, by encouraging looks
 words or actions, given for no other purpose than to draw men on te make overtures that they may be re
 ted.''-Kansas City Star.
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