The Washington herald., 1920-03-12
::Excellent Advice ::
By DOROTHY DIX Y
Highest-Paid Woman Writer.
The Similarity of .
The Sexes.

she would like to help. and to whom
she would give money IL she were
an unmarried working woman, she
cannot do so without the humilia-
tion of asking her husband for 1t
and making him feel that his wife's
people are grating on him. For
he seldom realizes that the wife
Is entitled to a part of the family
income. not because she Is his wife.
but because she earns il by her
labor In the household.
Now. women cannot understand
why men cannot get their point of
view on this vital subject. They
cannot comprehend why a man who
is Just and fair about money to
everyone else cannot be just and
fair to his own wife. They can
not see how a man can love a wom-
u an. and yet force her 20 come like
a beggar to him for every cent.
The explanation is that men have
an idea that the two sexes do not
regard money in the same light.
4 man knows that he would rather
starve than be dependent upon even
the kindest and most generous Of
fathers or uncles. The reason that
a marriage between a poor man and
q rich woman almost always re-
suits In misery for both is that q
mans sense of dependence eats into
his very soul. The very foundation
stones Of his self-respect and happi-
ness are the possession of his own
individual pocketbook.
But he thinks women are differ
ent, and that q woman actually en-
joys ratt1fng a tin cup before map
like q blind beggar, and wheedling.
and cajoiing, or browbeating him
into giving her enough money to
buy sorue specific thing which she
mas to describe beforehand.
II men could only realize that
there Is no difference between the
sexes on the money question II
would 90 more to make marriage
O success than any other one thing,
for IL Is ignorance, not stinginess.
that makes husbands dole out car
fare to their wives instead of giving
them an individual bank account.
l. Another illustration of the alleged
difference between the sexes shows
why SO many women fail to give
their husbands the appreciation and
tenderness that are their due.
A woman knows that the love
that expresses itself in warm words
of endearment, that takes note OF
her sacrifices. that pays the tribute
of praise to her endeavors, is as
the very breath of life to her. She
knows that this, and this alone,
makes marriage worth while to her.
She knows that IL her husband sur
rounds her with this aura of ap-
lpreciation, that she Is repaid for all
of the hardships and sacrifices that
matrimony brings. and II he fails
in appreciation. that marriage Is.
cinders. ashes and dust In her teeth.
But she has been taught that men
are strong and self sufficient. and
prosaic. and unsentimental. and she
never realizes that her husband is
Just as heart hungry as she is, that
he longs and pines for few words
cf real affection, or little praise,
some sign that she knows and ap-
preciates the sacrifice that he is
making for her.
There are millions of tired, dis
heartened. discouraged. gloomy and
grouchy men to whom marriage Is
an utter failure, who could be made
Happy anc contented and cheerful,
and ma marriage q paradise re-
gained. " only their wives would
show them some of the tenderness
and love and appreciation they real
ly feel.
do as You would be done by fs
the golden rule Of matrimony as 1t
ID of life. For men and women all
have souls cut of OF the same pat
tern. and with the safie needs and
df eires