Pine Bluff daily graphic., 1920-04-13
FAIR EXCHANGE OF
 SOCIAL COURTESY
 MUTUALLY BENEFITS
Extent to Which Practice is
 Used or Abus-

Invite your employees to visit you at your home, take meal with you and you "get 'em every time" t. quote slangily from one business mans remarks.
 This principle is being tried out at some of the coal mines with marked success. When the employees are per mitted to own little stock in the company there is still greater satis- faction and amicable cooperation. Typical Toadying
 This is only putting to everyday practical test what our learned wri-
 ters are attempting to expound in their highbrow essays in some of our seems that the Basis of Peace" will never be a reality until we conside, the human and social side of em- iployment.,
 How far can one go in this direc- tion without "toadying" on the part of the employe? The subject came up the other night when a chief clerk was heard to say Ruth didn't think she could go at first. it was raining co. but I said to her, Now Ruth theee folks have invited us to dinner fwe've been asked to help decide about what social worker we're going to have here), it's the best chance ever had in my life to get on, make some money, and you must go.' Oi course I don believe in toadying tc rich folks but" And one could sec how Ruth" would enjoy telling about the furnishings, the food, and the gra- ciousness of the host and hostess of the "big house"-only, of course, she would talk of it as though she were q regular visitor! Women are like this! More so than men.
 When Tact Is Essential.
 Then we begin to wonder just what constitutes "toadying" Is there any use for us to laugh in our sleeve at the chief clerks wife when we, every one of us, today in some way all the time? It may not be for a dinner, ol to see the inside of house, but we do it just the same. Think how you connived and schemed to get cards to a certain reception. Really, now was it because you were so fond of "art," or because only connoisseurs ! were to be asked and you wished to be among the elect?
 It is not because you are hungry for the food Mrs. Hinderbilt provides that you groom yourself, reduce, dress but because "the smart people" pay obeisance to her-you must do all the things that the set do so you will be eligible for the dinner invitation. How often we go through visible mental and physical rains" simply because we must keep up. Keep up with what ?-well, toadying to what seems more desirable perhaps than our natural way of living.
 Yet we must use tact often and for perfectly plausible reasons. Here is an instance: A certain young doctor and his wife had as their guest (and a probable partner later very eligible young man. A rich and charming (though rather elderly widow made herself particularly agreeable ,invit- ing invitations from them. She was all three knew it. The young wife was heard to say:
 "I know perfectly we'll that Mrs. Bream is being nice to us on account of Dr. Rolfe She addresses most of her cOnVerSatlon to nm. ana S0me- times I get furious. However, we know she has the entree to everything desirable here, it is well for us to be seen out with her, it will help Jacks practice and so I allow my ire and make myself just as gracious as pos sible-and, really, Mrs. Bream is very attractive and pleasant to be with,
 The rather unusual sequel to this is that even though the eligible doc tor decided to locate elsewhere the charming widow had become fond of the young couple and continued her social advances and the two women became fast friends and the friend ship was profitable all around. A friend of the young wife said:
 "Mrs. Bream is young looking for her age. She likes to go with you, a