El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1920-10-02
How About Getting
The Man You Like?


/ DERHAPs you've seen the nan you
y could Ike And he doesn't know
you are on earth What are you
20 do about 1T
Don't smile in sad triumph. as Il
you'd set me q hopeless task. For
you haven't Not at all.
Suppose you are a blur In the back
I ground u no way set Off from the
I other background blurs OF femininity.
] 4nat isn't the handicapping thing you
/ imagine Instead II gives you a GER
/ sit back without his catching you at
l 70 please
There you ask ne to halt You re-
mind ne that we're talking about the
man whose love you want 20 win. not
about the man you want 70 please.
] But there's the point-they're the one
and the same thing.
Aen are spoiled or Belf-ceutered or
ael1lsn OF honest--or what you may
choose 70 call TIN such degree that
what gives them pleasure pleases
theml that's not q fine bull nor yet
a great bon mot IT'S merely the
truLn- 4r means that men are true
70 their own personalities and lndi-
Tldualltles- They don't pose as some
thing they ought 70 be. but calmly
are what they are And whatever
produces comfort and happiness and
an air OF wen being meets with their
honest approval and gratitude.
way should you expect a hasically
honest creature Ike Donald 10 like
you Tor the number OF TANGO stems
WY shouldn't you realize that be
VIII Ike you for your interest
lteigned or read In tennis since he
aoores tennis, and talking about It
Is the next best thing TO serving g
zippy BAN on a fine clay court?
II Donald attracts you. why isn't
u worth while 20 study him and
IND out something about the tastes
and pre1udlces, the hopes and ambi-
tionss which total up into a sum that
IS the man you lover
Nan IS an unconscious eEotist. We
don't have 20 ike IT. But we do have
e accept Il Also. he Is little boy
grown up. That we do Ike. but we
don't always take &c into reckoning
Also, man has a primitive honesty
such as woman has not had e chance
% cultivate In a world which has
oeen 60 slow n according her rights
and 50 ready to give her privileges
I IN return for smiles and favor.
Why Not Fight for lit
now IN daaling with an eEotistical
small boy possessed OF Erown-up de-
slreg and who doesn't often stand off
I and take good look az himself, it's
I wen 20 be a bit Of a diplomat, a great
/ deal OF mother and 20 spoEses8 a
store o. feminine lure 70 round out
The first step IN any acquaintance
I "a the introduction. A girls letter
Z OF Introduction to a man Is her au-
pearance- That she must make just
as delightful as possible Beauty is
a pleasure % the eye OF any beholder,
ana the self-respect girl Erooms
neEse-L as wen as ever she can and
makes the best Of herself in point OF
aaintiness and attraction She does
nat an the time She makes herself
sweet and dainty as instinctiveIy as
she bathes ia the morning
But FTlth the coming OF love. there's
q special accent on every good point
Don't toss your head and say yoa
wouldn't so bemean yourself I've
seen girls get mighty "Enifcv" at the
thought that they should take special
pains 70 win mere man. The idea Is
repugnant TO their pride. they say
Not az all They know that love IT.
SEX % at stake and they're afraid
10 enter the game unless they have a
written guarantee Of winning.
Anything IN the world is worth
striving for. II the prize Is worthy
IN ITSELF the effort is justified re-
sara4ess or whether the result is 70
be victory or defeat
me minute women are as honest
with themselves as men are, they're
going 20 be twice as happy. There's
no blinking the fact that we want
love that we crave it, that we need
u since that Is so, why not fight
But Marian stubbornly shakes her
head and says she doesn't think
there's any use making a fool OF her
self, for IL a man wants her he'll say
50. !t's the mans place TO Do the
Now, I'm not a BIT sure that e IS
mans place 20 do the courting But
wen let that stand just now and con-
slider ourselves fortunate 81 we per
suade Marian that man may need a
little encouragem or instruction
~ order to be trained to attend TO
his fob-courtlnE.
Life Is just smooth enough running
as Ear as men are concerned 20 find
most OF them contented with things
as they are and not anxious TO upset
that well enough" which seems so
amiable when "let alone"
So men folk have 20 be jolted out
OF ruts on all sorts OF scores. They
eat at the same place and order the
same thing and patroniEe the same
tailor without stopping to consider
how much better they might do 81
they'd bestir themselves and look
about a bit. Men are slaves OF rou-
tine and they have 20 be tolted
out Of IT, So when they're used TO
being single it's not altogether easy
TO make them perceive the advan-
tages Of being married. But why IL IS