Every evening, Wilmington daily commercial., 1920-06-21

thou shalt find iavor in their sight ana
pcradventure they shall come TO even love
thee
Third:
Thou shalt purger thy soul Of jealousy
lar bttercr than gall, yea, bitterer than
yall and aloes is the cup that the green
eyed mother prepareth Tor her lip.
Fourth: :,
Thou shalt not tell thy son wife, nor
thv daughters husband of their faults, Tor
athcr would they take n serpent to Their
hosoms than n mothcr-in-law who tltrncth
. search light upon their shortcomings
Fifth:
Thou shalt hold thy tongue from utter
Inr advice to thy in-laws, though II
,hoke thee to do so, and preserve thy
fingers from meddhng III their PIES.
sixth:
ln-law's ice chest, nor thy son-m-ia"
aabits.
Thou shalt remember that the Jolly. IS
mlehtier than the hammer when dealing
with thy in-laws.
Thou shalt brace up thy son and daugh-
tor to do their duty in the holy estate, m
stead of regarding them as martyr he
cause they have discovered that, verify,
marriage is no picnlc.
Ninth:
Thou shalt smite upon the cymbals and
sing songs of JOY because thy children love
their husbands and wives better than they
do thee. for this proveth that they have
found pcsce and Happiness IN matrimony
and that the divorce court Is aiar OIL
Tenth
Thou shalt treat thy daughter-in-law,
and tby son-in-law as thou wouldst have
some other woman treat thy son and
daughter when they become her m-laws
Arc these hard savings. Q woman who is
qualifying for the most difficult role on
carthf believe nc. they are only good
sense. and good feeling, but they contain
the whole Of the law and the prophet on
how 10 get along with the stranger who is
about to come into your family, and on
whom SO much Of Your future happiness
mIst depend
For in the conflict between mothers and
in-laws. it. Is the mother who, in the end,
loses out. She loses If her child sides against
her. and Is aIenated from her And she
douhlv loses out if she makes dlscord
between husband and wife. and break Ks up
home, and SO wrecks her SON. or
daughter life
II Is. therefore. Of the utmost impor-
tance to every mother with marred
children. to preserve what diplomats call
the entente cOrdiale with her ln-laWs
and the only way this can possibly he done
r by avoiding the disastrous experiment
of ever trying to live together.
1t is so much easier 10 admire people
whose every weakness Is not continually
thrust ur,on our notice! There Is SO much
less friction when our little ways and
peculIarities do not come IN hourly con-
fict with some one elses little ways and
peculiarities! So many people are 50 de-
hghtfl for an hour and such bores Il we
have day Of their society
This applies TO all humanity, but II
goes double for in-laws whose liking Tor
each other almost invariably depends
upon how little they see OF each other
Henc wise is the mother who keeps her
own home. or goes to live in boarding
house, or the Asylum for Lone Females,
when her children marry, rather than he-
come that bone Of contention, mother
in-law on the hearth stone,
Another long step towards getting
along with in-laws could be taken by
mothers if thev would refrain from being
Jealous of the man their daughter marries,
and the girl their son n1arues. il Is strange
that SO many mothers indulge IN this silly
form of jealousy, because every woman
knows from her own experience that the
1--we one gives ones mate, and the love
one gives ones parents are two entirely
different passions that bear no more reia-
tion to one another than milk docs to
champagne.
Indeed, so far from marriage taking
children's love from their mothers, II
helehtens il. for II IS only after men and
women axe upon themselves the serious
business Of life that they realize what
mothers love, and sacrifice and unseltlsh-
ness really means and they appreciate
her at her true worth.
Yet In spite of this knowledge, 1t IS
mother jealousy that makes women
eternallv find fault, and nag their ln-laws
until thev make enemies of those whom
they should have made friends.
Finally member, O mother-ln-law,
10 treat your in-laws as you would have
some other women treat your children.
When your daughter marrles, You pray
her mother-ln-law won't live with her;
that her mother-in-law viii be cordial and
affectionate and take her to her heart IN
stead OF keeping her at arms length, that
her mother-In-iaw won't go shopping
around the garbage can, measuring the
depth Of the potato paTIngs; that her
mother-in-law wont think a young girl
should have no pretty clothes or good
times, but Just be content TO be domestic
drudge.
And YOU pray your sons mother-in-
law will not settle herself upon him, and
that she won't think all a man is good for is
TO make money for an extravagant wife to
epend. and that she won't nag and fret