South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1920-06-24

Here's a letter with good ideas in
it. Read 1t and see if you don't
agree with me.
Dear Winifred Black:
read your column in the paper
about the husband who has a car
and is always taking his friends out
riding. while his wife stays at home
and works and is ashamed ! think
they are both very foolish Maybe
husband" viii find out before it is
too late that they aren't real friends
he is chasing around with. and when
he's spent all his money and IS
down and out, his wife will be the
only one who'll stand by him. l hope
he'll find this out and see himself
as others see him, before he has
killed his wife's love and respect for
him. Doesn't ne know that these
people he is chasing around with
are trying 20 get all they can out Of
him, and then laugh at him behind
his baCk2
went through just what his
wife went through. and l know
whereof l speak There was a time
when my husband was out joy-rid-
ing and chasing around with other
men and women. all hours OF the
night. He never thought that /
was as young as he and liked good
times and would enjoy these out
ings as much as he. So I stayed at
home and cried my heart out and
suffered
1 felt that I had nothing 10 live
for, although l have two lovely little
children, a boy and a girl and l
certainly dressed myself to look the
part.
Wasn't 1 foolish? A very dear
friend Of mine awakened me. She
fixed me up nicely, Curled my hair
and made me look acknowledgements
every woman can look attractive if
she'll only take a little time and
care for herself each day. l quit
my worrying.
What good does il do 70 worry?
You only make yourself look years
older and make wrinkles in your
face that youll never be able 20 get
out. and worrying doesn't help mat
ters. Maybe you're worrying about
money matterS-well, just hold your
mind aloof from all these. Send the
collectors TO your husbands office
or place OF business. He is the one
that should worry instead of you.
Make Yourself Attractive.
Just get out join a nice club or
something on that order. where YOU
! can have good times and laugh and
| forget your troubles. Get a nice
girl friend-a single girl, or a mar
ried woman-who is in the same
| boat you are in. Go TO picture
| shows together. 70 parties or dances
with others, and laugh in a carefree
way; look bright and happy, and
soon you'll feel that way.
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good clothes as he has-and more.
| too. because YOU are trying TO do
what's right, and he isn't Get nice
| things and clothes that are becom-
/ ing TO you, that match your eyes.
hair. and complexion. Show him
I that YOU can look as prett- as the
other women. and have just as
charming ways.
When ne comes home-if he does
meet him at the door and greet
! him as though there was nothing in
the world the matter. Put your
arms a bout his neck and kiss him.
| Have your meals always ready and
I look pretty and neat Never nag
at him or ask him where he has
been or where he is going Act as
though you don't care.
Tell him about your club Ct what
you saw at the show. Tell him
| abut some cute saying or something
cute or clever that the children did.
/ Tell him how his friends and rela-
! tives are-if he cares for them. Just
don't say an unpleasant thing TO
him Sing and be happy. and make
l a fuss over him; but don't make
| yourself a slave or a servant for him.
Include Him Sometimes.
| Suggest 20 your husband that
we" go 10 the theater. or some
I certain show you'd like 20 80 TO. or
/ call on some dear friends A wife
can arrange her work Systematically
so she won't be drudging al day.
Start early in the morning al your
work with a viii, and when YOU get
/ f. done, improve your mind with
| something. and rest II necessary.
| Don't talk 20 outsiders about your
husband or family troubles. II they
| tell you anything about him. just
| act as II YOU knew all about Il and
/ didn't care 20 let Il bother you.
Don't be ashamed for husband but