The news scimitar. (Memphis, Tenn.) 1907-1926, 1920-03-12

To a certain extent this is true. Tol
the end of time men will be men. anu
women will be women. and women WIN
still be specializing about why men DC
certain things and hold certain opin-
ions. and men will be wondering "a
the strange way in which a woman y
mind works In its wonders to perforn4
But, as matter of fact this Differ
enee between the sexes Is mostly q
matter of tradition and superstition,
and not nearly SO great as we nave
been led to suppose. After all we are
human beings first, and then male or
female afterward, and If we laid mof9
stress on this common humanity anu
less, on sex peculiarities, It Wousul
smooth out great many Of the diff
culties that are sources of perpetual
friction between men and women, ana
make greatly for peace and harmony
As an illustration of this, take the
matter of money, which is bone OF
contention In the majority, of house
holds, If women could voice their Dit
terest complaint against matrlmony ~
would be that the wife is an economic
slave who is required to work for her
board and clothes without ever re-
ceiying a penny as the reward OF her
labor.
Often she is given The most lavish
sums. She has jewels and fine clothes
and automobiles bestowed upon her Il
her husband is rich, but the fly in tins
ointment Is that these things are given
They are looked upon as gratuities foE
which she should be properly grateful
to her husband.
A wife is never supposed 20 earn z
penny by her work, no matter II she
cooks, and washes, and sews, ana
cleans, and sick nurses for her family,
and performs the services OF half p
dozen high priced experts. Even the
census rates the woman who works
outside of her home as a laborer. while
the housewife is put down as follow
ing no gainful occupation.
The average wife ne yer has any
money that she can spend as she
pleases, and without giving an accounE
to her husband. If she has poor ana
unfortunate relatives whom she woulq
like to help, and to whom she would
give money II she were an unmarried
working woman, she cannot do, 50
without the humiliation of asking her
husband fer it and making him feel
that his wife's people are grating on
him. For he seldom realizes that the
wife is entitled to a part OF the tamilS
| income, not because she is his 'wifel
| but because she earns it by her LABOR
| in the household.
Now, women cannot understand why
men cannot get their point OF view on
| this vital subject. They comprehend
why man who Is Just and fair about
|
and fair to his own wife. They cannon
see how a man can love woman, and
yet force her to come like beggar to
| him for every cent.
| The explanation is that men have
an idea that the two sexes do not re-
gard money. in the same light. A mar
| knows that he would rather starve than
| be dependent upon even the kindest
and most generous of fathers or un'
| cles. The reason that marriage be
/ tween poor man and rich woman
almost always results in misery foI
both is that mans sense OF lndepends
ence eats into his very soul. The very
| foundation stones of his self-respeci
and happiness are the possession OF M
own individual pocketbook.
But he thinks women are different
and that woman actually enjoys rat
Ting a tin cup before g man like
blind beggar, and wheedling, and ca.
her enough money to buy some spe'
cific thing which she has to describs
| beforehand.
II men could only realize that there
! is no difference between the sexes OF
the money question 1t would do more te
other one thing for it is ignorance, no
stinginess, that makes husbands dole
out carfare to their wives instead q
| giving them an individual bank ao
count.
Another illustration Of the allege'
difference between sexes shows why n
many women fail to give their husband'
the appreciation and tenderness tha
are their due,
A woman knows that the love tina
expresses itself in warm words OF en-
dearment, that takes note of her sac
rifices, that pays the tribute of prais
to her endeavors, is as the very breatl
of life to her. She knows that thls
and this alone, makes marriage WorV
while to her. She knows that II ne
husband surrounds her with this aur!
of appreciation, that she is repaid 70
all of the hardships and sacrifices tina
matrimony inevitably brings, and If n
fails in appreciation that marriage y
! cinders, ashes and dust in her teeth. 81
But she has been taught that me-
are strong. and self-sufficient, an
prosaic, and unsentimental, and sn
never realizes that her husband is JUN
as heart hungry as she is, that
longs and pines for few words OF req
| affection, or little praise, some sig
that she knows and appreciates en-
! sacrifices that he is making for herr.
There are millions of tired, disheart
ened, discouraged, gloomy and grouchs
men to whom marriage is an. utter fan
ure, who could be made happy an
contented, and cheerful, and find mar
riage a paradise regained If only thsil
tenderness and love and appreciatiQl
they really feel. III
"Do as YOU would be done by is IN
golden rule Of matrimony as II IS
life. For men and women all nav
souls cut off Of the same pattern, am
with the same needs and desires.
Copyright, 1920, by the Wheeler syn