Atlanta tri-weekly journal. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1920-19??, 1920-04-08
MARY MEREDITH'S ADVICE
TO LONELY GIRLS AT HOME

see others are coming to you
for help. l have decided to do like
wise. I am a lonely girl, aged thfr-
teen. My father and mother both
are dead. / work to make my own
living. l have been going with a
lawyer, aged thirty. 1 love him
dearly. I think he loves me. Before
my father and mother died they both
begged me not to ever marry him. I
don't know what their reason was
for not wanting me to go with him.
l don't think [ could live without
him. There has been some reports
about us, but it wasn't so. We both
There is another man here, aged
twenty-SiX. l love him as much as
do the other, but he has two chill
dren. He comes to see me very often,
but being a widower with two chill
dren, 1 am afraid I would not treat
them as I should. I am afraid
would hurt his feelings. if I ever
scolded them. The oldest child Of his
is ten years old. Would it be proper
for me to give his children confec-
lions when he is around? I work in
a drug store and I am able to do
so. If I don't marry one or the other
soon 1 will never marry. Do you
think it would be proper for them
to kiss me? Should I return a dia-
mond ring if don't marry. the law
yer? Hoping that you will advise
me right. '"TOTSY."
You certainly are young to
have such love affairs. By the
time you are twenty you will
have had so much experience I
am afraid you will become quite
hardesled.. I can't see how you
can love two men at the same
time. When one really and truly
loves there is only room in the
heart for one sweetheart.
I hate to think of you mar
rying so young, but if your. par
ents are dead and there is no
one to look after you, then I
suppose marriage is the safest
thing for you. Conduct yourself
in a manner so there will not
character. Don't let men become
familiar with you. You are very
young to be so wise.
I am young girl of twenty-five
years. Have been teaching public
school five years. My father is dead
and my mother hasn't very good
health. 1 have four sisters, one of
whom is married. L am asking your
advice about this I have been go
ing with a young man of twenty-five
years. He seems to like me and has
asked me to marry him, yet he is very
Indifferent sometimes. ! have also
minister who is yet in school, but
will finish soon. This young man
has very good qualities. The first
man mentioned is a laborer, yet
he works regular and has saved
some money. Now, do you think
should marry, and if should, which
one of these men do you advise me
to choose? A conscientious teacher $
work is very axacting, though ]
like it, but I am not very strong and
do not feel as though L could hold
up to it as a life work. Please ad-
wise me. 'BROWNlE.
He has asked you to mar
ry him. The laborer has,
and I am of the opinion you care
for him more than you do the
preacher. Don't marry a man
unless you can love him, because
marriage is not all sunshine, and
women become very unhappy I'M
less they love the man they take
for better or worse"
Perhaps the Indifference the
young man displays is partially
your fault. You see it's this
way: A mans interest is aroused
when he isn't as sure of the girl
he loves. 1t hurts his vanity ana
makes him want to win her.
Don't let him know how much
you care. Act ind1fferentiy as
he does.
School teaching is a fine voca-
ton if one is suited for 1t. II
Won are dissatisfied and think
YOU would be happier married,
don't see any reason for your not
doing so.