The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-03-18
DorothyNDix Talks
BIZ DOROTHY DIX
worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

Marry in Your Own Class.-1S
According to the Paris newspapers
there is IL continuous migration home
ward of the French women who mar
RED American army officers and SOL
diers. Most of these disillusioned war
brides are said to be returning not
because of personal difference with
their husbands, but because of their
inability to adapt themselves to the
American mode of living, and Ameri-
can customs and habits.
This is only what was to have been
expected. International marriages are
very seldom a success even In those
cases in which, the bride has millions
with which to atone to her husband
for her being different from the wom-
en- of his own race, and the husband
can give his wife a coronet as a COM
| pensation for leaving home, and
friends, and family. In the long list
| of so-called brilliant marriages which
i American girls have made with for
eign noblemen there has scarcely been
! one instance of happy marriage.
How much less chance of success
! then had these marriages between
poor men, and poor girls. who have
neither money nor position to gid
their lot! Nothing but blindness of
love could have made anyone believe
! that they could be happy. And the
trouble with the blindness OF love is
that it IS always a temporary COM
plant. Time invariably cures it.
The only chance that an interna-
tional marriage has of being happy is
when the man settles down to live in
the woman's country, for men can be
transplanted much more easily than
women can. Women are as hard TO
move as a cat. The love of place is
| imbedded in their very souls Also
family ties are much stronger with
them than with men, and so one. can
have only pity for these poor, home
sick brides whose love for their Sam
mics was not strong enough to enable
them to endure an allen country, and
an alien people, whose customs and
ways were strange to them, and whose
language they did not speak.
| AS a matter of fact marriage be-
tween people of different races and
different religions very seldom turns
out well. Nor is this strange. No
matter how much a man anG woman
really love each other, the process OF
adjusting themselves to- each other is
difficult one, even when they nave
a common background, and pretty
much the same point of view.
This is infinitely complicated when
Ithey thrust in difference in racial tenn
/ permanent. different habits. and Gus
toms, a diametrical1y opposite way OF
looking at things, a different God, and
a different theology.
| How could you expect Jew and Gen
tile. Protestant and Catholic to har-
monte? How could you expect an
austere, puritanical New Engiander to
get along in peace with a volatile
Latin with quick silver in her veins!
! What congeniality would there be be-
tween an exotic Russian and a plain
| practical American business man
| How could you transplant a Partisan
elegante to a little midwest village
land really give her a heart interest in
the sewing circle and the missionary
meeting.
| And the answer is. you can't 1t is
| one of the impossibilities. and so the
man who marries out of his own coun-
I try, and out of his own circle, and
his own religion, does we'll to adopt
| his wife's at once. 1t is the only thing
that saves the situation. 'l