The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1920-07-06

Dear Miss Grey: l have had much
Amusement from "Uncle Toms" pro
test. and his rapid-fire conclusions.
He thinks I'm a minister. Oh. Tom.
] could no more oil pulpit than
could the Pacific. The paper In
which his letter was printed was the
one happened to miss. SO not hav.
ing rad IL. I could no, misquote
Ny defense Of the unbroken unity OF
the Family was an answer to Ger.
tain women who claimed that sepa-
ration was necessary so that man
! and wife could pursue an individual
career unhampered. II Uncle Tom"
takes q square look at this situation
he viii see that the only reason for
the marriage license Is to put face
on their visits. I hold. with many
more. that mating for any other pur-
pose than establishing family Is
iexniixed prostitution.
Nov I admire Uncle Toms" aim.
but cannot endorse his methods. one
Of your correspondents tersely and
stmthfuliy wrote Marriage is a
game and must be played according
70 the rules" Our professor has for.
srotten that the relationship OF sweet.
sarts ends at the altar and an en-.
10y new status is established. gov
ned By altogether different rules
: mo difference being between court
ship and p2rcn;hood- And wise is
the couple who know tho rules.
When a man or wife begins 20 be
bored with the other. IL Is evident
- IT s.rr arsag NJ
needs strangiing.
Temperamentai people are usually
eelfsshiy abnormal or subnorrnaL
I.evel-headed people secure harmony
By unselfishness and tact. Uncle
Tom. informs us that he Is a bach
eior. which accounts for many things
In his protest
1t win be noticed that he has no,
once taken into account the girls
wishes In the matter. Suppose the
lady Of his choice objected To his ar
ranxcments7 What them Suppose
he compelled her to live In separa.
ton and she refused To be a mother
under such circumstance think
his assurance OF the sanctity OF wife.
home, and babies would get rough
Jolt. ! don't know what his financial
caliber Is. but IL he Is a working man
a. I am, his bubble would DO pune
tured.
In his protest Uncle Tom" 70,
real reckless in his statements. He
says ''thc vast ma joriiy OF homes are
commonplace" They are. and that's
why they are the strength Of the ma.
sion- Also he says "the great ma.
Sorify OF married people face the di-
vorce court" This needs no com
npent as IL Is untrue. Wrecks there
are and he presumably condemns the
established order OF marriage on that
ground. Would he dcnounce navi-
cation because OF the wrecks that
lie on the bottom? The majority Of
wrecks, maritime or matrimonial.
can be traced to approximately the
same cause. The greatest secret lies
In good seamanship. vigilance and
observance OF the rules.
IL would be interesting TO know
how many OF "Uncle Toms" girl
friends would accept him on the
Asrns Of his ideal Ill venture not
one. unless she just wanted a meal
ticket. then any old terms would DO.
ANY compromise is makeshift. and
,acks permanency and equity. Some
claim that irresponsible celibacy Is
sdeal. others, that the ztabilizing
moral influence of a unitsd family
rnder one home roof is ideal. But
Toms creed would establish a situa-
tion that lis neither the one or the
ether: an arrangement that would
automatically kill the best posslbiii-
ties Of both ideals. Home Is where
father and mother are. Where
would yours be. Uncle Tom study
the matrimonial chart There are
many rocks to be avoided. one Of
which you are headed for. Ask the
~,n what she thinks OF It, and my
word for IT she will set you right
For n girl who is sound In heart
mind. and limb Is the graDdest little
sve-opener in captivity. hope you
r.t me like that, Uncle Tom"