The evening world., 1920-12-20

her in that 1 have found one marriage
which l should describe as thor
Oughly happy" but so far as an outS
slider may Judge, / have seen no oth-
ers which satisfy my ideals"
when you are married." began
Miss Burr, "and everybody knows it.
and you live in the same house or
nat you are nothing to other people
except Mr.. Jones's wife or Mrs.
Jones's husband. The men a mar
ried woman meets do not consider
her a person in herself, but merely
an appendage TO a husband; the
women a husband meets think of him
as an appendage to wife.
Il don't mean" Miss Burr added. a
mOmentary frown of distaste puCker-
ing her smooth forehead, that l be-
leve in promiscuouS love making.
On the contrary. / believe in absolute
faithfulness between a man ard
woman, so long as their relation
lasts. But why should the love -rela-
tion imply an absolute severance of
all other associations and friend
ships? Why shouldn't a husband or
wife have friends of tine opposite
sex, eat lunch with them, play about
with them? Sometimes II seems to
me marriage is just an arrangement
invented to send people out into SO
clety in pairs-as the animals went
into the Ark!
yet if you are married cOuven-
tionally and try TO keep up your
friendships and entertain your
friends at home, what happens? 1t
Is almost a law that a woman loathes
on sight the men her husband nkes
best and that he asks, after meeting
on J' her Chums, What on earth do
Ruu see in that woman? That's one
reason l don't want a husband to
live in the same establishment with
me. Even an apartment above mine,
in the same house, is too close. When
entertain guests, either they near
him walking around overhead or he
comes down with a scowl on his face
and infinite boredom in his heart,
~ don't want to know when my
husband entertains oompanyi don't
want him to know when ! entertainl
They asked me in London il !
thought he would be too near If he
lived as far away as the garage, and
I said yes!"
asked.
Il should say about two blocks, "
smiled Miss Burr, Wherein she
proves herself more lenient than Nina
WILCOX Putnam who told me Just af-
ter her marriage to II. J. SandeTson
that she and her husband would con-
tinue to iRhabit separate towns
Then / personally would not marry
again" Miss Burr continued because
/ don't want the responsibility of any
mans socks. l don't mean that / OBJ
ieCt to the mere act of daTning socks:
/ edit the socks Of at least fifteen
bachelor friends of mine. But it q the
responsibility Of socks that ] don't
want-and all the other attendant re-
spOnsiblltiCs; seeing hut a mans
meals are on time, hiring servants,
firing them If they're no good and
getting others, picking up his laun-
dry, presiding at his dinner parties,
keeping house for him"
"Oh you know II you're married,
you're continually bsing served with
this family stuff" sho declared. "A
man gets a crouch at his office. He
doesn't work it off on his boss, be-
cause his boss wouldn't stand for H.
but he comes home and works il off
on his wife. Or a woman wants 10
have a quarrel with her cook and
doesn't dare. So since cooks are
scareer than husbands, she has a
quarrel with her husband.
"Posple who do not live with each
other treat each other 80 much more
cCurtcously. And as manners. arr
about all the standards left for many