The Richmond palladium and sun-telegram. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1907-1939, 1920-07-12
Heart Problens

Dear Mrs. Thompson: I have lived
TWO years on a farm where a woman
has hard work all the time. I have
three children and my health is very
poor My work IS drag and when
] do work in the garden for an hour
or two it takes all my strength and
leaves me so weak that l am afraid
there are times When my interest
in my children is not as strong IS
mother would have It. love them
above ever hing else in the world.
Ny husband is very irritable and
takes no interest in the home affairs.
He comes in swearing about this or
that until 1t almost takes all the
heart out OF me.
I have thought of going back to
the east to my parents for while
to sec II he would appreciate his
family more when he knows what It
is to be away from home. want to
keep my little ones together and yet
/ feel that can't go on this way
much longer.
What would you advise me to do?
NITA
would advise you to go to the
home Of your parents for a visit and
q rest. The trip would give you new
life and a clearer idea Of how to han
die matters on the farm when you
return.
Probably you have worked so hard
that your husband has learned to
think that nothing is too much for
you to do. He lets you take care
Of the home and children and do gar
dening as well. You make a great
mistake in doing more than your
strength will allow. Your efforts are
not appreciated. II you said you could
not do things and let them slide long
enough he would see that you had
to get some one to help you.
AS a rule, the reason why a person
does not accomplish her purpose Is
because she does not stick to it long
enough and simply waits for results.
Probably you would decide not to
work the garden. but the fast grow
ing weeds would get the better Of
you and you would pull them up 50
that the crops would not be spoiled.
1t would be much better, however, to
let the crops spoil and to teach your
husband some responsibility for them.
Yes, go home and rest. While you
are away your husband will have a
chance to see how badly things go at
home when the mistress is away.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: I read your
advice to others. I would like your
advice. I am a married woman. My
husband and just can't agree. 1t
seems the more I do to help him and
make him happy the worse he treats
me. He is so quick tempered, that
when he gets mad he breaks up all
kinds Of dishes and anything that he
gets his hands on. It takes so much
of his money to buy things he breaks.
And he Is so cruel to me. He just
gets mad and doesn't care.
We haven't saved anything and he
gets so much pay. He spends until
there Is nothing left to get much of
anything.
l would like to know what to do. I
love him and would hate to lose him.
But he treats me so cruelty that l
will have to do something. Would you
leave him and get a divorce? l have
tried so many times to stick to him
but I can't stand 1t much longer.
LONELY WIFE.
Dear Lonely Wife: Your dilemma is
a very serious one indeed. There Is
no excuse of course, for your Eus-
bands uncomfortable temper. l take
1t that he must be good to you at
times when he can control his temper,
because you say YOU SUN Ao'o AlhA'
You should tell him frankly that his
temper is running your life. If you
tell your husband that you and the
baby will have to leave him If he does
not control his temper. he may come
TO his senses. If after you have
warned him, he does not make any
effort to control himself, you will be
justified in leaving him. If you have
some place to go to, if your parents
are living and want you to come to
them, it might be well for you to
leave him for a while, telling him just
why you are leaving. and that you will
not come back until he learns to con.
troll his temper. If he loves you and
the baby, your absence will bring him
a sharp realization Of his faults. You
owe 1t to your baby to avoid di-
tvorCe as long as there is a chance
OF your husband reforming.