The Washington times., 1920-09-13

than ii is TO be plker ana altaio W
make the venture. l have littie re-
spect for person who treats the
matter of marriage lightly. and
believe every person should DO all
that is within his own power to
make one marriage suffice, but
have equally small admiration Tor
one who fears to try.
DEVELOPMENT OF CHARACTER.
1t is up TO the man or woman who
is married to make hi nedlock sue
cess. We might ask. is business a
success? Many businesses go 10 the
wall, but the man who hits the line
hard and keeps everlastingiy at IL
makes a success. 1t is the same way
with marriage. There must De de-
velopment of character. development
of interests. The man who thinks
his courting days are over when the
ceremony is performed, and the
woman who thinks her winning re-
cipes can be put aside after those
solemn words are spoken. is liable to
have a sad awakening. The mate IN
either case is liable to contrast his
or her conduct against those he or
she sees outside their own little
circle and this has a Disappointing
effect on either person. such indll-
ference will not only alienatc married
persons, but il will separate friends.
Married life must either advance or
retrograde. Robert G.. lngersoll salo
TO men: Treat your wife like
splendid flower and she will NIL your
life with happiness and sunshlnc'
And the same thing applies TO women
in the treatment of their husbands
Cnselfishness, moderation, consider
alton and a sincere effort practiced
rrfo
tract will crown 1t with success. just
as one has success keeping his
friends, his Job or his business afoat,
The thing that will put marriage
on the shoals is the idea nthe part
of one or both persons that he Is
not getting the full JOY of life, that
he deserves better things, that teei-
ing of pity for ones self. This Is
pure selfishness. probably the great
est destroyer of happiness.
Sure, marriage Is success
Those who are married should DO
glad they are, and IL their love -
not going we'll, they should set
about to rehabilitate il. Those VINO
are not married, but have reached
that age or passed Il, should let no
rcason stand in the way. Under
modern custom, II is only in mar
riage and the offspring that follo"s
that makes life everlasting. There
is a school OF thought called tree
love, but II cannot be substituted
now-maybe later, but not now, Tor
the institution of marriage. IL Is
the duty OF every man and woman
to find his own happiness, and when
found, the marriage ceremony IL
not difficult. The only hindranoes
arise when one finds himself in love
with one who is already married.
I believe divorce should be MADE
easy, but | would retain the insti-
tuition of marriage and let divorce
follow only when two persons 1nd
their happiness does not lie In pc
ing together, but apart, or WIN
others.
I do not believe that one person
should have tho right TO hoId
another as his companion, by iron
clad contract, unless IT IL voluntary
on the part of both. Neither DO
believe that a married person, IN
order to free himself from mate
he doesn't longer desire to live win,
should find IL necessary to chargo
that companion with a serious OF
fense in order to obtain a divorce
II Is only love in marriage that
counts, tho desire or two persons
10 be together. And u either or
both desire TO he apart, mat
should he tho grounds for either
temporary or permanent separation.
80 legal bond can be stronger
than the bond OF love.