Indiana daily times. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1914-1922, 1920-02-07
GIRLS, HAVE CARE
HOW YOU MARRY
And It's Not Necessary That
You We'd, Woman Says.

NEW YORK. Feb. Marriage is
not essential to feminine happiness, but
Il woman intends to marry-or obtain
a divorce-she should give to the sub
ject the same careful study that prepa-
ration for a career as teacher, stenog
rapher or nurse would entail.
This is the firm belief of Miss Louise
Connolly, educational expert Of New.
ark, N J.. who recently has given sew
eral lectures in New York under the
serial title Of "Fireside Conferences Oh
Life, Love and Literature" Miss Con-
molly, although free from any matrimo~
NAL bonds, has become through pro-
longed study an authority on problems
and methods Of mating
Although regarding marriage as hardly
necessary, Miss Connolly bows to the
existence Of fact by asserting that "life
for most women is a man hunt" Some
women, she asserts, hunt instinctively-
as wolf stalks its prey. When the
instructive woman finds the man che
wants, Miss Connolly says, "she en-
veIopes him, digests him and marries
him and the male never knows how
it happened" OtheBwomen, not blessed
with the hunting instinct" must use
artifce to achieve matrimony, and to
these Miss Connolly gives advice.
KNOWS SHE CAN
PROVIDE FOR SELF.
"For the first time in the history Of
woman" says Miss Connolly, "she Is
able to play a part in the choosing of
ner mate. To-day she is on the road
10 economic independence. She knows
that If she does not marry she will be
able to provide for herself This Is bet
ter than a loveless marriage.
You might say this was a subject
7 tru ho
her brown eyes twinkling, "but I am not
so sure about that. They say nobody
loves a fat man. I don't know about
that, but do know that all the world
seems to tell their condolences to a stout
woman like myself I may not be so
awfulIy wise, but for years and years
people have been coming to me and
telling me these things. I've been teach
ing for more than thirty years and in
that time there has been an endless chain.
Mothers OF pupils would come to me and
tell nue. their troubles with their hus-t
bands and husbands would come and tell
me their troubles with their wives. Then
the pupils would come to me and l
would see the effect Of their parents
troubles on them. And sometimes the
grandchildren would come and 1 could
trace it all out clear down to them as
we'll"
HAS DEFINITE IDEAS
ON LOVE SUBJECT.
AS further proof Of her qualifications
Miss Connolly pointed to a stack of
books which she has studied. Among
them were "Love and Ethics by Ellen
Key: Robert Horizons "The Art OF Liv-
ing Together" Love and the Soul
Makers" by Mary Austin; Marriage and
nj -
toms Marriage as a Trade" and a host
of others,
Through her experience and her re-
search Miss Connolly has devolved quite
definite ideas about marriage, but she
admits that she has come to no positive
conclusion as to divorce.
IL must admit have always had very
strict ideas about these subjects" she
said land yet l know that it is easy
for the person who never wore tight
shoes to tell the person who has what
10 do"
For the young miss who wears
black court plaster beauty patch under
the left eye and just can't quite make
either that eye or it's mate behave when
prepossessing young men are in the Vi
cinity, Miss Connolly has considerable
sympathy.
she doesn't necessarily mean any
harm in flirting" she said, nor does
it mean she is trying to marry the young
man with whom she is trying to flrt.
All she wants is pleasant time and she
doesn't mean any harm by It,"
FEW KNOW MAN
THEY REALLY WANT.
Platonic friendship is a perfectly nat
,ural and possible thing, Miss Connolly
asserts
Miss Connolly said that some women
know instinctively when they see the
man they want to marry. Such women
are rare, however, she adds. Too much
novel reading has in part destroyed
womans natural instinct in regard 20
her mate. Some women really are in
capable Of telling which man they really
love, according to Miss Connolly.
Not emily the reading of too many
novels, but the drama has done much
to change the attitude of the woman of
today on love and marriage, Miss Con-
molly believes.
when a man proposes to her." she
said, 1.-The girl Is thinking all the time
of what would be her answer If they
were in play. She doesn't want to fall
down on her part. The scme is also true
of the man. Well, that's part Of the
price we pay for being so civilized,
suppose"
Miss Connolly has still one further