The news scimitar. (Memphis, Tenn.) 1907-1926, 1920-02-25

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can break off the match for the
unsuitable sutton.
q course the only reliable method {
prtt emitting an undesirable marriage is 10
toltstali Cupid, and prevent young peo-
pie from falling in love with the wrong
parties. rs case where an ounce OF
prevention is worth pound of cure
and II parents foresight was only as
good as their hindsight in sentimental
matters, they could save themselves and
their children many heartaches
Quarantine your house as rigidly
against beautiful girls and fascinating
young men that you do not wish your
sons and daughters to marry as you
would against smallpox. Keep your young
people as far as possible from asSociat-
ing with those whom you would not
welcome as sons and daughters in law.
Follow these rules and you are reason
ably safe from having to interfere in
your childrens love affairs.
But there are times when all rules
fail, and all precautions are in vain.
and when fathers and mothers are
forced to nip some youthful fancy III
the bud to save their children from the
folly of wTecking their lives by making
disastrous marriages.
The great difficulty about doing this
is that when boys and girls are in love.
or think they are in love they are tenn
reason. They can not be argued with
because they have lost all judgment ana
all perspective on life. They may adj
init that the argument you advance
against their marrying the individuals
they want to marry would be cogent in
ether cases, but they are convinced that
their own cases are exceptions.
Their Angles.
John wild agree that for an educated,
cultivated gentleman to marry trowsy,
ilhterate woman is to court misfortune,
but he is sure that in his case mar
rlage will Immediately turn coarsely
pretty servant CIR into an accomplished
woman Of the world. Mary may agree
that for any otl .er girl to marry
urunkard and roue with a hectic
past is sure to end in disaster, but she
is certain her marriage to such a one
will bring her nothing but domestic
bliss.
A still further difficulty Is that love
thrives on difficulties, and there is no
Surer way to make a match than to
- oppose it, and in their anxiety and their
panic at the danger that threatens their
beloved child, parents are nearly al
ways betrayed into the fatal step of
asserting their authority and forbidding
the bans, which precipitate the calamity
they dread g.s
II, therefore, you wish to break off
that puts the youngsters backs up and
makes them determined to assert their
independence, and show that they are
not children to be dictated to. Neither
be guilty of continually harping upon
the undesired sweetheart's shortcom-
ings. This makes the lover rush to the
defense of the one of whom he is enarn-
ored, and not only marshal his or her
every charm and good quality, but
manufacture additional ones to justify
his choice. ID
There are, however, many ways of
choking cat except upon butter You
will recall that the willy old Major PEN
dennis, when called upon to break off
the match between his nephew and a
fascinating, but blowsy actress, muir
INJURED as he read over her letters:
"Ah, yes, lovely creature, lovely crea-
ture Adores you'll see she spells
affection with one f. Lovely crea-
ture, lovely creature"
But that one ''f'' did for Arthur what
all his mothers tears and entreaties
anA PRAYERS had not been able to do.
The Mothers Scheme.
"A certain mother whose young son
imagined himself in love with a very
common girl was aghast when the boy
announced his choice of a wife. She
did not bat an eye, however, when he
delivered the blow that dashed all of
her hopes for him to the ground.
whatever is for your happiness is
for mine" she said. Bring Villa
bella to stay with US at once JOY
ously the boy brought Wilabella, but
prudent mother had filled the house
with the most beautiful and charming
girls of her acquaintance, and when
the boy saw WillabelIa against his
background instead of her own, the
scales fell from his eyes and he was
disenchanted
He perceived what no argument could
have convinced him of-that he would
be eternally ashamed of her that they
had nothing in common, that she did
not belong to his world. she did not
even know how to hold her fork or eat
soup. Still less how to dress or talk
like a gentlewoman. And Willabella
was as bored as the boy and glad
enough to return to her own kind
Another mother who has saved sew
eral of her children from making fool
ish marriages, claims that there is nc
other such cure for love sickness as
others society. Especially in hot
weather. She AYERS that three days
Of uninterrupted talking will break up
any match.
Still another mother, whose daughter
was fascinated by an undesirable suitor
brought her batteries to bear upon the
man instead Of the girl
ut is such comfort to me to think
of Maud marrying man who will
cherish her as I'm sure you will,
mother confided in him. for Maud isn't
at all strong and couldn't possibly at
tend ; much to the housekeeping, or
worry over the prices of things as so
many men expect their wives to do
and it would be quite out of the ques-
ton for her to do such a thing as cook
"In fact. she doesn't know the first
thing about any homework, or sewing
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