El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1920-10-18
Can A Mother Over Do The
Business OF Being ChaperOn?

I CLARA and Grace have just come
II back from q months vacation.
And Clara and Grace have been
Z 20 see me and 70 report their trou-
hles.
says Clara:
I'D have had a perfectly wonder
tul summer II mother hadn't insisted
on tagging along wherever I went
OF course, some OF the trails were too
steep for her and 50 couldn't 20 on
( the climbing trips. And some OF the
canoe trips had such long carries
that she couldn't make them. so ]
mad 20 give them up. 7 missed a lot
Of fun because mother insisted on
chaperoning me wherever I went"
Says Grace
There were lots OF dandy men al
cur hotel for week-ends. but I didn't
get acquainted with any Of them
Mother wouldn't trust me ous OF her
sight She tagged along wherever I
At that point I interrupted Clara
and Grace have never met. They
were at widely different spots.
They are different in temperament:
separated by all sorts Of racial and
social barriers and five years apart
IN age still 1a-year-Old Cara and
23-year-old Grace were using the
same exasperated. unfilial descrip-
ton Of mothers activities"
she tagged along wherever 7
went"
Whenever I hear that I wonder If
mother doesn't remember her own
annoyance back in the days when
daughter was a little girl and always
wanted to be in the room when the
grownups called Doesn't mother re-
call how she sometimes chafed over
the fact that she couldn't 60 20 a
place without having her little girl
tag along. Yes-"tag"
NO getting away from 1.-THE
younger and the older generation do
better socially when they aren't
forced to minEle whether or not they
like it. Boys viii be boys, and girls
girls and grownups gr0wnups.
The tennis which Ronald finds an
all absorbing topic may seem stupid
to James as compared with marbles.
Yet Ronald is IS and James only six
years younger. They aren't separat-
ed by a generatiOn-merely by a
handful OF years.
Apart from the fact that daughter
isn't quite herself when she has 20
she respects and 20 which we hope
she's well bred enough 20 pay trib-
another fact. None OF US
like 20 be doubted
Spy upon a child IN school and it
may try TO get ahead Of you by
sAAaaHAAA-EH U.s. ~ anu II AANEA ~ ~
the honor system"
There's no evading the fact that all
o. US like 70 be put on our honor.
Trust beEets faith
No girl wants to have Il even re-
motely suggested that she behaves
when under surveillance and riots
about when she isn't watched No
girl wants to feel that she could be
drawn 70 other young folks who
aren't basically decent and trust
worthy,
The mother who properly chape-
rones her girls does Il IN two ways
and those ways aren't SO evident
to the casual observer that he can't
help seeing the wheels 90 round.
The real -chaperone" mother teaches
her girl TO chaperone herself She
gives her daughter a fine standard
Of dignity and conduct
She helps her girl estimate human
nature and respond to the finest Of
its attributes. And she teaches the
younger generation 70 so trust the
older that Il will come TO il with
doubts and fears and invite discus
sion Of what Il doesn't understand
Real chaperonage can take place
behind the scenes. Mother can OBJ
serve the young people with whom
her girl IS associating. Now and