Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1920-02-24

[ want advice about my sister.
She is sixteen years old, and thinks
she is in love with a boy of twenty
two. She does not see him very Oft
en-. Since he has been going with
her she does, not seem to care for
anything but him. She will not do
anything hardly, does not seem to
care for friends, and has even quit
school. She is a girl who could have
a grand time, and a wonderful lot
of friends, also be of some good to
the community, if she would try;
and quit thinking she is in love. SO
please tell me what you think would
be best to do? For l do not want he:
to marry so young. L think it is a
pity for girls to marry under eigh-
teen.
agree with you that your sis
ter is too young to marry, but do
not be too positive and violent
in your opposition to the boy as
it will only create a spirit of an
tagonism and probably precipi-
tate the very thing you are try
ing to avoid. Instead of always
trying to prevent her seeing him,
why not invite him often to the
house with other young people,
and ask always the jolliest and
pleaSantest young men in the
community. If she begins to en-
joy these little parties, it may
divert her mind. Also there
would be no harm in letting her
know just exactly what mar
riage means. Talk to her in a
friendly, frank way and make
her understand that marriage
means pain, unhappiness, work,
children, and that only the deep
est and most lasting love can
overcome the disadvantages to a
woman in marriage. She is too
young to marry but not too
young to know these things.
I am a boy with dark curly hair
and dark eyes, tall and slim and &c
years old. L have been married one
year and my wife left me one day
| and went back to her parents.
don't know any reason for her 1eav-
ing me unless one night at a dance
L danced with another girl three
times in succession. l love her still
| so please give me some advice as
| what to do.
1t is evident, as I am always
saying, that both of you were
too young to marry; but think
that it was rather foolish of her
to go back home just because you
| danced with another girl. How
ever, if that is her disposition,
and you love her, you will have
to try to avoid unpleasantness
by always making her feel that
she is the center of your interest
|
should be more than usually at
tentive to her, and make her feel
that you dance with the others
merely as a matter of courtesy.
! Three times in succession is
rather often to dance with anoth-
er girl. You should go to see
your wife, talk the situation over
! with her thoroughly and find out
if the real reason for her de-
parture was the dancing with
the other girl or some other
| more serious cause. Then per-
suade her to come back and both
of you act like grown-up persons
H. instead of children.
7 am girl 10 years old. 7 have
| been going with a young man .
| years old. I have been going will
him for two years. He has asked
me to kiss him several times an>
L would always refuse until abou
a month ago. He asked me to Prov
that I did love him by kissing him
so [ did. He has told me that h
| loved me better than he did anyon
else, but he has never proposed. Mus
I continue to kiss him? refuse,
to kiss him the last time he cam
as L think it is wrong to kiss unless
we are engaged. Now what must
tell him, why 1 do not kiss him any
| more. He is a very nice hoy am