The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-03-27
Dorothy Dix Talks
BIZ DOROTHY DIX
worlds Highest Paid Weman writer.
The Indifferent Sweetheart

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have a letter from a young woman
who asks me what she shall do with
an indiffernt sweetheart.
The best and simplest way to deal
with such one is to break off all dip
lomatic relations with him, and look
about for a new Romeo, who puts
more pep and ginger into his wooing.
Indifference is a disease that man is
all too apt to develop after marriage,
anyway, and to deliberately marry a
man who is already afflicted with a
chronic case of it before marriage
seems like going out of ones way to
court disaster.
Perhaps, however, the indifferent
sweetheart may have other qualities
about him that atone for his lack of
ardor, and that makes it seem worth
while to the woman to try to speed
him up ittle-which sometimes can
be done, and som etimes can't, for
the way OF a man with a maid belongs
to the category of mysteries that hu-
man ingenuity cannot fathom.
Generally speaking, when a man
treats a woman he is fond of with
! indifference it is the woman's fault.
1t is because she has made q door
mat with welcome on it of herself,
and there is nothing in a door-mat to
raise a thrill in mans breast, or
pique his interest.
1t is a part of the eternal difference
between the sexes That a HAL Wallis "
always be chasing the woman he loves.
while the woman always wants to
stand still and be caught. Men value
most highly the thing that they have
MT got. Women gloat over the thipg
they possess. A man wants another
mans job, another mans house, and
despises his own. The mere fact that
a Job or a houseis her own glorifies
it to a woman.
This temperamental difference be-
tween man and woman is especially
marked IN the way in which they re-
gard each other. The mere fact that
a woman is beyond his reach. that she
does not love him and flouts him, is
her greatest attraction to a man, and
makes him determined to win her.
1t is no uncommon thing for a man
to marry a woman who tells him
frankly that she does not love him,
and is marrying him merely for sup
port, whereas a man rarely marries
the woman who has dumbly worshiped
him and prayed God for ten years to
send him to her for a husband, and
whom he knows he could marry any
minute he says the word
On the other hand patient devotion
nearly always captures q woman
heart, and, if her husband only loves
her enough it camouflages every other
fault and defect in her eyes.
1t is because the woman wants the
man who wants her and considers that
the best bait with which she can go
a-fishing is to bangle her heart before
him, and because a man desires most
the woman who doesn't desire him.
and is most allured by some tid-bit
whose flavor he has not tasted. that
women handle the problem of the in
different man so badly.
OF course this is no new view OF the
subject. From time immemorial wo-
men have been told that no man
cilases a street car after he has caught
II, and that if they throw themselves
at mems heads the men will duck. but
IL they run away from men the men
will follow, if they have any interest
in them at all.
fCoDyrieht, 1910, By the Wheeler Syndicate
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