The news scimitar. (Memphis, Tenn.) 1907-1926, 1920-03-17

This les only WNAt was I'D te4't
vfsaeted international marriages aEe
,.rv saIlofn IA success even In those
,asrs In whici ~, bride mas uhtsl
v4h which tu UtuU' % her husustlu
fur her being inherent rom tae Npiiit-
ut lis own iscr, UnC the hAsbana Ses'i
gfl, his wiz. 70 cot Duct as q toHPelT.t
tira fur leaving home and trlehas sn9
family IN the long ~ 81 so-ess.iiss
brilliant marriages winch AHlsrlstt l'
rirIs have made with foreign hobiemen
there has scarcely been one instance OF
" u Iog'' much less chance Of success
then had these marriages between
puor men aud poor girls who nave
neither money nor position 70 sia IlttL
LOT Nothing but blindness OF love
could have made anyone o tIs .ro Ib1s
they could be happy Ana the uo li y,
with the blindness OF love rs that ~ "
ALWAYS q temporary complaint tlihe
Invariably cures H.. -,
The only chance that an international
marriage has Of being happy Is when
tho man settles down TO live in the
Womaus country, for men can De trans
planted much more easily than women
can Women are as hard TO move -
! a eat The love OF place rs iulbedued
| ia their very souls. Also family Tres
are much stronger with them than with
men. aud so one can have only pity
| for these moor, homesick brides whose
| love for their Sammies was not strong
| enough to enable them TO, endure an
| allen country, and an alien people,
| whose customs and ways were strange
| 10 them. and whose language they oid
| not speak
! Aa matter Of fact marriages be-
| tween people Of different races and din-
ferent religions very seldom turn ovt
| we'll Nor is this strange No mat
| ter how uu h a man and woman realiy
| love each other the process OF ADJUST
! ing themselves to each other Is ar
ficult one. even when they have =
| common background. and pretty much
the same point Of view.
This is infinitely complicated when
they thrust In difference in racial
temperament, different habits and Gus.
toms Numerically opposite way OF
| looking at things. a different God and
| different theology.
How could you expect an austeres
purtanlcal New Englander 10 get
| along in peace with a volatile Latin
| with quicksilver in her Neinsg what
, eongeniallty would there be between an
exotic Russian and plain, practical
| American business man. How could
you transplant Partisan elegance to a
| little wid-Mest village aud really give
her a heart interest in the sowing cir
Gle ana the missionary meetinE2
) And the answer Is, YOU can't ~ vs.
one Of the Representatives,, and so the
! | man who marTies out OF his own coun
try, and out OF his own circle and his
own religion, does wen to adopt bus
I ! wife's az once. u u the only thing
that saves the situation,
He ia the wise man, however who
seeks a wife among his own people and
| of his own faith. She viii be whole
4 | some bread and butter to him while
| the strange woman viii always. he
4 caviare, and while caviare Is mosi
alluring appetizer we soon acquire In
II digestion II We attempt TO make 8
\ ueal upon n. Also q steady Diet of I
souu pals upon our appetites and w
lose our relish for It,
Nothing ia life is crueiier than III
law Of attraction OF oppostes tina
draws men and women irresistibly an
fatally toward those who are their Ill
rect opposite in every respect ard wit
whom they will be- miserable II the
| mate This 8 natures way at Pre-
serving the general average Of the spe
cies ard 70 Keep humanity from segre
eating into groups Of giants and pig
mics Of angels and devils. OF super
ntellectuals and fools,
II Il this which makes the it'll
wov AN make eyes at the prize fighter
ang the college professor marry tn
baby doll, and the Sunday schoe
teacher wed the black sheep, but Will
il Is undoubtedly good for posterity,
Is also indlsputably hard on the In
diyidual.
For The very quality OF oppositenes
that draws man and woman togethe
before marriage. makes them fly apar
after marriage. They never understan
each other because they have no meet
ing ground Of mutual temptation an
weaknesses. To the seif-controlle
man for instance, the emotional won
an who flies into tempers, aud repent
and weeps Is d repulsive weaklinI
About the only thing they have In com
mon Is the perpetual wonder of VIII
ethey ever married each other.
The happy marriages are those
which people marry the same kind {
folks as they are, those who have hec
reared IN the same environment. VIII
have had the same education. who HAY
the same friends and are used to II
same kind Of cooking. and pie an
politics. and the same brand of +,
hgion Squeedunk is just as fascina
or London, or Paris n you have alwa,
lived there, but it's little flat to
brought 10 II as a bride II you ha'
spent your life on Broadway. or Il
Rue de la Paix or In Belgravia
\ new suit from a mail order hou
may make you a leader in fashion ia
as much as the latest import fro
Paris II is just as thrilling to he
your husband build up a green groce
trade AS II Is to pull the wires th
make him an ambassador. II all a
| Ponds on what you are used to. b
YOU cannot pass from diplomatic CT
eles and French models to the gre,
grocery and the hand me- down witho
jar that is apt to shatter the fami
circle,
No better advice was ever given
the man about to marry than Lon
fellow offered when he said: Like I
starlight, like the moonlight Is 4
handsomest Of strangers, like the II
upon the hearthstone is neighbol
| humelV daughter ["