The Washington times., 1920-10-25
Beatrice Fairfax
GIVES
Advice.
A DIFFERENT NATIONALITY.

DEAR MISS FAIRFAX:
have been going about with a young man
for a year My mother objects on account Of
different nationality.
She consented to have him call only because
II was improper for me to meet him outside
and when he called she ignored him.
made him unde stand before he called just
how my mother felt, but he thought he could
make her change her mind.
He now realizes he has failed and has
given up. as he said he realizes he is not wei
come at my home.
Would it be improper for me to meet him
outside Of my home? A. II.
Your mothers actions seem unfair. But are
you doing her full justice? Is her prejudice
simply based on A question OF nationality II
it is you ought to tell her quietly and regret
fully that you must judge for yourself and that
you can't yield to a viewpoint which you feel
unworthy of her. Don't lie or deceive your
mother but If she isn't taking a just view. then
act loyalty to a worthy (mind you worthy
man dictates.
MARRY FOR LOVE:
DEAR MISS FAIRFAX:
l am eighteen and in love with man seven
years my senior, but my people want me to
marry an old friend of the family whom | do
not love If do not marry this man am
afraid it will break my mothers heart and
my family will not have any more 10 90
with me. 81.
the man l love is a good man in every re-
spect and would make a good husband;
p,rrv tho man Won love. You have your own
life to live And il you care deeply for one man,
YOU would be degrading yourself to marry an
other Be sure that your lover is hne. worthy
fellow worth fighting for. And then convince
your people that you know your own mind. Once
they believe in you they'll propaply ADJUST
themselves to the fact that they cant do your
marrying for you.
DEAR MISS BAREFACTS:
Will YOU not help me with the problem
that is puzzling me? Two young men are
layishing attentions upon me- ana can not
decide which sutton to accept
James c. Democrat is nice young man and
I really think am in love with him; BUT ne
hasn't much money and do not think he will
be a good provider. Furthermore, ne otteh
reminds me, by the way he talks of another
Young mana Mr.. Wilson-to whom was
once engaged. l do not want to renew that
experience. Mr. Wilson didn't realize that
charity begins at home, and I'm AFRAID James
doesn't. either. -,
Warren H. is the other young man. lie ~
one of those very attractive men. who are
all for you at the moment Ike him very
much but don't you agree with me that girl
ought never to trust man who makes too
many PROMISES Warren says he can support
me in the style to which | was accustomed
before the Now, everything Is so hbh
I do not think he can, without going into
debt and 1 brought UP to have horror
of debt He Is very popular, but do not APP
prove of some of his bachelor pals and fear
he will be unwilling to give them up. Please
advise me CONSTANCE VOTER.
T. S.-Whenever / listen to one, / decide
to accept the other. Can this be true love?
&. V.
DEAR MISS VOTER:
do not think you quite know which young
man you are In love with. In that case
would base my decision on the merits of the
why not write James c. friendly note
telling him that you do not wish. to BIO
minded of your former hance and asking him
never to consider charitable activities with
out regard for your welfare?
should also advise you to be frank with
Warren II. Mention the friends you consider
Objectionable. Tell him. very tactfully, that
you insist on a definite avowal and few
plain statements OF proof that he can keep
his promises.
If neither OF your sutors accede to your
demands, give them up You will be happier
without them, and Mr.. Right is to come
along II you wait patiently.
With best wishes,
BEATRICE BApEFACTS