The Richmond palladium and sun-telegram. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1907-1939, 1920-07-29

/ am young girl II and went with
a young man p years old. I thought
the world and all of him. He came to
see me for two months, and then he
stopped coming to see me. He was
awful good looking and good singer.
fell in love with him when first laid
eyes on him and still love him until
this day. l can't get him off my mind.
| can't eat, sleep, or go with any other
boy but what will think and think Of
him. Most any girl would be foolish
over him. 1t has been a year since
went with him but l still think of him.
am a very NICE young girl and am
awful quiet and don't talk very much
but still / am not bashful. Do you
think the young man stopped me be-
cause l was quiet and don't talk as
much as some girls do? What shall
I do to be jolly and a good entertain
CT? What can I do to forget this fellow
and love some one else?
Thank You.
Your problem Is very interesting
one to me and / sympathize with you
to the fullest extent. Two points in
your letter stand out in my mind as
| think over your letter. The first
point is that you have not gone with
this young man for over a year and
yet you cherish his memory in your
mind so much that it threatens to
undermine your health. The second
point is that you ask me how you shall
forget him. believe, dear young girl,
that if your love for him could not be
forgotten you would not ask me how to
forget him. That is what I am going
10 advise you to do. Evidently he
does not care for you or he would
rot have stopped coming to see you.
At your age, II, you ought not allow
the thoughts of boy to be so much
in your mind. Bend all your energies
toward securing the very best educa-
ton possible in order that you may
acquire all the poise and mental bal
ance required of a cultured refined
woman. A girl of II should not allow
an attraction for a boy to ruin her life.
Cultivate friendships with both men
and women and your associations will
give you that charm Of manner that
will enable you to feel at home in any
society. Then there will be plenty Of
time to think Of falling in love.
No One-Thousands Of good mothers
are as you,-torn between the sense of
duty and the desire to obtain relief
from injustices. At times there seems
no reason on earth why one should
suffer intolerable treatment from an
other. But in your case five innocent
children are dependent upon a moth
er's love. That is a great deal. I say
these things to remind you first, that
whatever you eventually do, it must
be with the happiness and future well
fare Of those, whom you say you are
proud Of, continually in mind. In this
day there is no reason why anyone
should be but the plaything of a
brute. No one need carry the cross
OF repeated human wrong. No one
because of her self sacrifice has to go
to the grave or worse. with the hold
of leech upon her. At once make it
understood where YOU stand. Cry out
against further tolerance of your I'M
necessary burdens, and let your per
secutor recognize your independence.
If you should choose to break away,
your children could be provided for
during the day at the Day Nursery
While you worked. The cost would be
q nominal one and would probably be
determined by your circumstances
Organized charities such as the Social
Service bureau look after the needs Of
those in desperate straits. | shall be
Glad to hear from you again if you
feel the need OF additional advice or
information