Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1920-07-20
The
Marriage TrifIer
BY HAZEL DEYO BACHELOR
Copprfoht, 1880. bv Public Ledoer %.

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| grant. Udnts to 90 right on having
| her oDh Ddy about things, as she dd
| oefore sho tods married. She is IKE
most ot the girls IN her set, annious
| 10 hdDe a good fine at uny ones err
penSe, and IN thts case it is ot ReithJs
expense, for he toants q real homs
aud q tcDe tDho Is not a sociefv MN
pet. Through katherine Nowbsyy. hts
| prOdte secretary aud an encepttonat
| tpomdn, hetth meets some real peo-
pie. When barbara hears Of thts sSe
| entirely 'ntsunderstdnds, but al heast
| u UdkeS her up to soma entenf 1nd
| she redhses things about her ne that
| she mas not noticed before. In her
eaaarst,uo oaaa se,m,no a!ter friend pho may
TO 90 to school ,oith her. E,tse o BSrt. sea
'ett' ~ho earns her opn apinD.
"ELIsE. do you ever think about
marriage7" Barbara asked sb-
ruptly as she handed back her cup for
some more tea.
DO you mean personally or iust IN n
general wayT Elise asked calmly. She
was sitting with her back to the light
and Barbara could see her face only in
shadow. She thought suddenly that
Elise was not exactly the kind of woman
VINO would appeal to men. There are
women like that, women who are too
independent, who are not exactly lacking
IN femininity, but who hide under a
barrage Of keen >gibes. Most men are
fearful Of rioicule. and II they suspect
mat a woman is capable OF seeing them
as they are instead of as they appear
No No pe, tney rather fight shy of her.
Women of that kind are hiding some
thing, too. They lack the ability to make
small talk. to coquet gracefully, and
because they are nervous and not sure of
themselves. they take refuge in wit or
sarcasm, generally at the mans expense
returned quickly.
Elise considered for moment, stir
ring the sugar into her tea, and finally
she spoke. ITS a job, Of course, and
some women succeed at 1t while others
Barbara gasped.
laughed. "That's Me way / look KAT at
1t. You must remember that it's a
personal viewpoint. but look at it this
office. that's her Job. She has to be in
terested In her work. she has to look I
the Job In perspective rather than from
day to day; In short, she has to make
good In order to hold 1t down and draw
her salary. II wives would look upon
marriage in the same light there would
be less unhappiness in the world" She
stopped. Il sound as II I were leliver-
ing q lecture. don't II" she laughed.
oh. please go on; I'm interested. "
We'll. marriage is a job A woman
undertakes to make man happy and In.
cidentally herself. First of all, she
studies her man, She finds out what he
wants from life. she learns the things
that interest him and she gives them
to him. In return he takes care ofNher,
protects her, and supports her. OF
course. that isn't the only kind of mar
riage, but that's the most common kind a"
Don't you think it's bit selfish %
about the wife. isn't she considered at
all?"
"of course" Elise said, but remember
this. marriage isn't a mans job, it's
a woman's
20, Elise"
well, Barbara, you're a woman. and
woman of the world. you know It's
true. Take for instance these women
who lose their husbands to some other
woman. In nine cases out>of ten, they
have fallen down on the job at home
and yet they go whining around wanting
sympathy from their friends for some
thing that Is entirely their own fault
Isn't 1t true?"
yes; but Elise. 50 many women are
miserable in marriage because men
make them So men who are unworthy"
II know 1t. I'm not holding a brief
for. the men by any means. but do
think that clever woman II she is will
ing to take the trouble can work Won
ders with the marriage state. You, for
instance. Barbara. You have every
thing. youth, beauty. charm, everything
n man could want. You could be a nj.
oneer IL you would"
do you remember when you told me
that in SCHOOL," Barbara smiled family.
Elise nodded THAT was because /
was interested In you" she twinkled.
1T made me uncomfortable"
"Well, that wasn't bad either. I wish
you could meet Nancy. She's been out
Of town fo- several days now, but we
must plan n time soon for you two to
meet Nancy has had real trouble. II
half the married women had had to en-
counter what she has, they would have
something to worry about"
The conversation between the two girls
had been general In spite of the fact
that Elise had felt hesseriousness be-
hind Barbaras questions and answers.
She was clever; she had felt the other
day that Barbara was not happy, and
she wanted to help her If possible.
(TOmOrrow--The arrival NJ a,o,bo.