Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1920-08-25
To "DIstressed"

Dear Cynthia-Through you, few
words words to "Distreesed." am writing
versary of my marriage, 80 you can see
am no unsophtsticated grille who car-
not understand your psrplexins t7)
situation a..
You do not love your wife with the
deep. true. all-absorbing passion which
a husband should feel for his life part
Ter: and your finally found the true
mate for which your affections yearn.
1t ,t, Is u the old old story OF the eternal
ilar position to your. wife. give you a
viewpoint which, perhaps. your unsus-
pectins wife would also give were she
acquainted with your pred'cament?
You chose her out of all the women
you came in touch with, giving her the
privilege of bearing your name and your
children. She has been a good Wife. Al
least you are man enough to give her
Justice on this score. She has worked
for, and with you, doing the monotonous
round of home duties year In and out.
lovingly and we'll. In return you gave
her home. the clothes sne wears and
a band OF gold on her left hand. What
pathy and understanding your consid.
'eration of your cares and thoughtful
planning for your success and welfare
was she your pal" or was shepermit-
the four walls OF your home alone, and
had TO depend on her mere reading Of
outside events to keep In touch with
what was occurring In the big, interest
here and there, thinking and planning
little surprises that would show your
love and appreciation Of her soodnessf
Perhaps she does not meet you on the
level Of your higher intelligence. or
feed the unsatisfying longing Of your
sy aons ss sS. sSs sSy Is ESns 9n Sax
hand, and who knows what unsatisfied
lonstnEe and heartsick disappointment
are hid by ..Hat quickly srnothered sigh,
or what is tle real reason for that Tar
away look which sometimes creeps into
her eyes when she thinks no one Is no.
tclng her? OF course. your masculine
egotism will at once refute such posst-
bility. but II men could see into the
hearts of their wives. whom they con-
slider contented and satisfied by the
honor" of beng Mrs. So-and-So." |
think many or them would receive a
severe jolt in the region OF their colossal
conceit and egotism. A woman doesn't
her with double fetters to the man she
has sworn 10 love, honor and obey"
hut man who views himself as model
Of all the virtues might be surprised
to see the poor figure he cuts In the
eyes of his chosen spouse. She may
look at you with the clear eyes of conf
plete establishment, and while you are
writing and pratng OF your heartburn
etI anu Soul "ctTlntSS, "Onutt Nld'
fond hopes are buried deep, too deep
for mere putting them on paper to be
read by a curious public, in the depths
Of her being forever out of sight of all
but One. who looketh on the heart. while
man just sees the outward. apparently
| calm, indifferent exterior.
think you really enjoyed writins
those two letters, distressed" You
think too much about you: too little
about her. You feel thus and so, the
thrill has gone: the poetry has ended
and now the prose has begun. Cheer up
! Distressed" you have too much self
sympathy. Turn 4 little OF that COM
modify on poor Mrs. Distressed. You
/ ritate and inhame. Even the tiniest
pimple in the end may cause blood
| poisoning that will terminate disastrous,
| ~. So with you, the more you pry and
died and worms have eaten them. but
not for love" or lack OF u. either, In
terest yourself In something that viii re.
quire all the brain power you possess 10
IN the midst Of It and muse on wnal
| new sensations you are FEELING abou'
your shattered and disappointed life
It's all right to pray over the maurr
but don't make II too long, so you VII
be indulging In the luxury OF complet:
resume OF your condition There is a
time TO stop praying and go TO work
i ing. God helps those who help them
| selves.
Keep away from the lady OF youl
dreams II you had not been with hei
pretty constantly. how would you kno"
she has all the qualities you r,ost I'd
mire? One does not discover this In on
or two casual meetings. you know
Spend some of this time with your wife
Open your heart to her; try, with al
the manhood that Is in you. to kill thi
love which has taken hold of you. Other
have done 1t. and in cases where ther
has been every reason to turn from tn
wife to the sympathetic. understandin
soul mate" They always seem to b
handy when a man is feeling particu
{ larly blue" and In need of coddlin'
/ had no cause to blame your wife. fo
r say you never really loved her. 1t too
J you some time to find this out. How d
] YOU know YOU really care for this othC
woman then? You have known her
\ year. ] have known cases OF calf love
= to last as long and longer, and perhap
! II you lived one year with the one 20
Y endow with all the necessities cor
4 genial to your nature, you would glad
gard as drag and a hindrance to II
q accomplishment of your desires. ST.
I knows you better than you know you
d self, perhaps. and I would like to hes
- her side of the story Be n man. site
n by your wife. leave the other IA
charmer seriously alone, and the pea,
: and comfort Of knowing YOU have chose
the only honorable, manly course vi
II repay you in a clear conscience and
Z sense Of pleasing God and protecting Il
helpless ones dependent on you. "Grea
b er love hath no man than this, that
Law down his life for his friends"
Vou have to do is put aside your oW