The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1920-08-02
OLD RESIDENT
DEPLORES LACK
OF CORDIALITY
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Dear Miss Grey: Altho the infiu.
ence OF civilization has improved TO
oorne extent our American social
manners. we ARE still lacking In that
enlture that education and n desire
1pr sclf-tmprovement should bring.
Gu people today dress better. and
~ more attention TO personal ap-
peAnnces than at any time before:
bat I DO not believe that h enough.
think . inner. kindlfer feeling
should BE- cultivated toward tho
stranger In our midst. especially In
small towns where the social side h
. great factor. We need to broaden
cut to cultivate an open heart and
genital disposition toward newcorn.
en-. In order 10 secure the hes, sue
q - socially. for good society means
more than mere dress and accom-
pttshmeut- Points Of etiquet are. Of
cQurse. essential but what we need
y ut Of all Is To dig up the ancient
Golden Rule and give u good air
Ing Only thru application OF ii can
- hops 70 attain the highest In so
efAl culturs-
- entertain . kindly spirts toward
iGexAngsrs--a very fsnc art. indeed
and above all. TO be natural: this is
The quality that charms most. for II
means freedom from affecfasion-
Manners assumed for the occasion
are easily penetrated. while the per.
fectiy natural acts of a really well
bred person come from tho inner.
most essence OF his character. IL Is
that beauty>s ginning thru tina; never
nils TO pIe33e. Conversational Do
Mtenena, therefore. Is not at all like
that used every day. until eventual
n. habits OF kindliness and grace are
naturally formed. for mere 'conven.
<1ionaiity lacks the ease so necessary
- good breeding.
4 And n Ne wish to become well
nged We must OF necessity seek the
society Of such people Where TO
3rd the proper models In somewhat
u . probe mtoday. For instance.
~ have for years been living In a
growing. entcrprfsing town. and
eventually the social function where
the best people Of town may be met.
has been evolved We've been quest
ers after just this sort of chance and
feel eIafed that at last we shall be
able TO find the night social pattern.
where interesting people met on a
common ground.
Every person living feels irrrshsti-
bly, drawn toward better influences.
and few there are who ar not sus-
kRpubie TO fine manners.
Having attended the different 70
cal affairs Of our town from year 10
year. We feel ourselves 10 be in n po-
sitton TO Judge what is right socially.
But alas, altho we have a good
standing In the community and are
IN fact part of II, we find ourselves
~ absolute strangers at this new SO
ciai function. people we have known
for years practically ignoring our
presence and no seeming way to
meet the strangers because the good
oId-fashioned introductions seem sad
" out Of date.
We look at a gathering Of well
dressed. equally well-ed.cated resi-.
lcnts Of our town and wonder II
they arc only narrow. or IL II is
thoughflessness that makes them 80
self -centered. II IN true that we are
not members OF their especial fra.
ternal order. but We were invited to
attend and make the affair n finan.
ciai success. and naturally we are
sensitive about being excluded In the
entertainment. dancing being the
feature.
One evening. for instance, a young
lady came WITH her brother TO an AZ.
fair Of this sort given by a fraternai
order. Very sweet and attractive
CHE was. too: hut the people were all
strangers To her. Her thoughtlesB
BROTHER deposited her In the ball
DOM. then left her and sought his
ewn clique. Sbs counted five allur.
ing dances, whereat, deeply cha.
erincd. shs got mp and went homo.
having been ignored by everyone
during that time. / suppose the av-
erzge person would blame the broth.
q. but this girl was an invited guest
and there should have been someone
- have welcomed Deg Into ths cir
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