The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-06-07
Dorothy Dix Tails
Choosing a Wife,.
BIZ DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

&hOOoAAASs q WIN
Will you find happiness If you mar
~ some opinionated young person who
is firmly convinced that she is the
latest incarnation of Mrs Solomon,
and who considers that a wife's place
in the home is to rule the roost, and
tell her husband just where he gets
off-and stays off? 1 trow not.
You know plenty of men who wipe
their feet On the door mat before they
dare to enter their own domicile and
who jump every time their wives
speak to them. Can you see yourself
qualifying in the hen-pecked brigade,
and following meekly in wife's wake
Then why not pass by the snappy
girl who runs everybody and every
thing in her vicinity, and whose par
ents tremble before her, and espouse
the timid little maiden who believes
all men oraeles, and rule by divine
right, and who will be perfectly hap
py sitting at your feet gathering up
the pearls of wisdom that drop from
your lips. And you will be happy, too,
for one unquestioning admirer is as
much as any of us get in life.
Suppose you are a poor young fell
low with your fortune to make. To
achieve success means that you must
live plainly, and economic while you
are getting a start
Do you think that you will stay long
in love with a fashion plate girl, no
matter how stunning she looks, if she
wastes your money, and keeps you in
debt, and thwarts your ambitions
The argument over money is a two
edged sword that can cut the bond
between a husband and wife quicker
than anything else on earth.
But if you marry a girl who is will
ing to work and economic and put
every ounce of her own energy and
ambition in your career-who thinks
| it fun to build your fortune with you,
then you have got a wife for keeps,
for she is business partner as well.
You will be happy and contented with
such a woman for there is no stronger
tie between two people than to be
vitality interested in the same thing.
Nor do any husband and wife ever
bore each other when they can talk
over the state of the stock market or
grocery trade together.
Suppose you have dreams of being
! a, great lawyer, or a famous doctor,
or of filling some big political office.
| Then look beyond the girls pretty
face, and try to see what is IN her
head. The time will come when your
wifes brains will mean more than her
complexion to you, for you can camou-
fIage a complexion but there's no
known substitute for good. hard horse
sense.
Do you think it will help you on as
a lawyer to be tied to an ambitionless
woman who weeps and thinks her
self neglected every time you want to
study of an evening instead of holding
her hand? Will it increase your prac-
tice as doctor to have a Jealous
fool for wife who imagines you are
making love to your female patients
Will it help you to win elections to
have a tactless blunderer of a wife
who makes enemies where she should
make friends?
Rather not! So if you wish to be
happy and successful tho married,
choose the cleverest, and most ambi-
tious woman you konw. no matter if
to the peach who is content to dc
nothing but just hang on the tree.
1 am saying nothing against the
woman without ambition, or the nerv-
Gus woman. or the high tempered
woman, or the bossy woman. There
are men whom they would just suit
There are easy going men who don't
want a wife who is not contented TIC
stay put, just as they are. There are
men who delight in working them
selves to death SO that their wives
may be gorgeously dressed. There are
| shiftless men who need a high tenn
pered woman to prod them along
! There are even men who like to be
! hen-pecked. It's all a matter of taste
I'm only urging you, son, to find
! out in which class you belong before
| you marry, and to pick out the girl
accordingly.