The Washington herald., 1920-07-28
By DOROTHY DIX
Copyright. 1890.
Wheeler Syndicate. Inc.
Excellent Advice

is tragic for both sexes II is tragic
for women because men utterly fsu
10 understand their motives. and
their reasons for wanting 10 do the
things they are trying to do, and
I IL coubly tragic f-r men be zuse
I II drives them into making such
fatal blunders.
For instance. men, stiIl true to the
ancient masculine theory that feui-
nine brains are only paIatable when
they are scrambled. night shy Of the
clever girl who is well informed.
capable and independent
The modern man, like grandpa is
still true TO the theory that the
ideal wife Is the clinEinE vine. So
he goes bunting patheticalIy arounI
Tor some soft dish-raEgy maiden.
without an idea in her head. and
with no desire to do anything but
sit at his feet and ask him what
he thinks she thinks
In these days OF Intelligent. alert
well-educated women this species Is
becoming so rare that the poor. dear
man is driven into marrying IN
idiot and then he wonders that
domesticity is so dull. and why he
can find no Compsnionship at home
II men could only get over their
hereditary fear Of intelligence In
women, and IL they would pick out
the smartest women they can find
for wives il would do more than
any one thing TO take the curse
out Of mstrimony.
he Tool among women is becom-
ing rare. So is the woman who en-
joys a parasite. The crying need
OF the day ~ for d new man who
will realize this, and who will be
/ willing to accept his wife on his
own plane and deal frankly and
/ honestly with her as he would with
! another man. What the modern
woman desires is a husband whom
she will not have to wheedIe. or ca
jole, or work, but who will regard
her as his partner. having certain
rights OF her own. and equally en-
titled to share with him in all the
perquisites OF life as she shares in
its pains.
| Another need is for a new man
who is big enough and brave
enough to break the bonds OF Gus
tom and convention that tie 4 worn-
ans hands after she is married and
force her into menial labor. no
matter how qualified she is to DO
the brain work that is paid so
much better
A man feels himself disgraced,
and that IL advertiscs him as q
failure, II his wife goes On with
her business or profession after she
is married. The woman may love
her work and be miserable without
1t. She may need the money IL
will bring in. II may sicken her
very soul to leave congenial. high
ly -prii professional employment TO
become a kitchen drudge.
No matter. Because there is
moss-grown theory that the proper
thing is for a man TO keep his
wife in supposed idleness the wom-
an has TO do all her labor in the
privacy OF home TO save her hus-
bands false pride
other times. other conditions
financial, social. Women have &C
cepted these theories. Women have
adjusted themselves to ths new
conditions. Women recognize that
IL people are TO marry while they
are young enough to really love,
the wives must add to the family
eXcheQuer.
They are willing to do their part
They want to keep on with the cc-
equations for which they have fit
ted themselves They recognize
the economic waste Of a fifty-dol-
,lar-s-weck office woman becoming
4 Ien-1ollar cook, bu. the men ili
i'ling 70 the fossilized theTTy that
the married woman must not work
out Of her home-cvcn II the the
ory deprives her OF ever having a
husband and a home a. all.
II is because women are forward
Hooking and men are backward
Hooking in their relations TO each
other that there are 80 many
iclashes between the sexes and so
much friction between husbands
and wives; and the question is, will
men change to meet the new stu
lation7
VIII a man develop who will see
in woman a human being like him
self. loving freedom and independ-
ence. claiming the same rights In
marriage that he has? That Is the
lonly hope OF matrimony. For the
world goes on. Women will never
turn back. and men must catch step
with them for this forward march
II thsy are 20 go together.
Boy. page the new man!