The Washington herald., 1920-08-13
Excellent Advice
By DOROTHY DIX
Copyright. 1870.
Wheeler Syndicate, Inc.

looks vanish, and that is a catas-
trophe that is bound to happen in
a short time. at best. AS well Hisyht
you seek to anchor an ocean liner
in storm with a gay silken threaa
as TO try to bind a man to a woman
with just beauty alone.
Women think that the tie that
binds Is made OF romantic love
They put their faith in paIpitations
and thrills. II a girl sees a man
through pink haze Of sentiment
that disguises him so effectuallv
that he looks like a little tin god
TO her; II she has chilIs and feyers
and hectic -hUshes at his approach;
II she wonders where mother keeps
the rough on rats every time she
suspicious that he has taken an
other girl TO the movies she is con
WINGED, beyond the shadow OF a
doubt. that she entertains a pas
sion for him that nothing can dim.
and that the years will only make
stronger.
Alas. no other dangerous maladv
is so easily cured as romantic love.
1t yields to simple home treatment,
self administered. in from thirty to
sixty days. Sometimes sooner. The
bride. who had expected to spend
; the balance Of her life listening to
her husband COnjugating the verb
to love, finds out that he mostly
discourses about bills, and the high
cost Of living. and how different his
mothers biscuits are from hers
Instead Of a barbered. and pow
oered and perfumcd lover she has
husband who is Unshaven and un-
Chnrn Nd
times. and noting these things ro-
mantle love flies out Of the window
and unless the tie that binds her to
the man she has chosen is stronger
than mcntality-unless it is
made up Of some quality more en-
during than looks and soft speeches.
why the woman packs her trunk
and goes back TO mother. or begins
TO look about for some other man
about whom she can cast the man
tie of her fancics.
Convention says that the tie that
binds man and a woman together
Is made up Of the law and the
church. Wrong again. You may
tie man and woman's bodies to-
gether and force them TO live under
the same roof, but no human agency
can fetter a soul or constrain it
Nor does the reading of a marriage
ceremony over a couple or the
mumbling of priest, make a man
and woman husband and wife in
the real sense of that relationship.
We all know husbands and wives
whose marriage bond clanks as they
move amongst US Is does the ball
and chain of ConviCts fettered to-
gether. We all know lonely men
and women who live out dreary
lives with wives and husbands who
sit across the table from them in
the flesh. but are millions or
leagues away from them in the
spirit.
The tie that binds is not even
duty. That holds outwardly with
many conscientious people, espe-
cially when there are children to be
considered, but it is a fetter that
cuts into the marrow of ones being
and that makes a tester that poi
sons the whole Of life. 1t is not
what we mean when we sing "Blest
Be the Tie That Binds" at a wed
ding.
The tie that binds, that hardens
and hardens as the years go by un-
I'll 1t becomes like a bond OF steel
that nothing can break is made up
of sympathy, and understanding
and appreciation. Age may come
and beauty go. romantic love may
perish, hardship, and sickness, and
anxiety, and poverty may be por-
tion of the man and woman who
have undertaken the journey OF life
together.
That is the tie that binds That
is the tie that every man and
woman should set their hands to
weaving on their wedding day.