The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1920-06-14
Oh-Fashioned Way Best,
Thinks This Wife

Oid-Fdshioned Way Best,
Thinks This Wife
Dear Miss Grey: l have
been greatly amused by the
knowing remarks and sug-
gestions in your column re-
garding marriage and divorce,
particularly from those who
are either contemplating mar
rage or declare they never in
tend to even consider it for
themselves. II reminds me of
the positive ideas once had,
and especially of my kid sis
ter" who so strenuously de-
clared that no man would ever
induce her ito chase his dirty
socks up and down the wash
board" Now that she has
found her mate. there is some
thing amusing. instead Of dis
tasteful. about his dear. dirty
socks. She regards them
much as the devoted mother
regards little Johnnie's dirty
face.
The person who indorsed the per
petuai courtship method. which Il
supposed 10 result from living In sep
arate homes. MS a solution for happy
marriages, 10 as impractical as he IL
inexperienced. Such a plan may be
all right for two professional people.
who marry for companionship only.
and each can earn an income indie
pendent OF the other. No solution ir
practical that does not apply 20 the
well know that the average man Is
groaning under tho burden OF keep.
Ing ono home together.
The perpetual courtship part Of II
Ii certainly a fine ideal. but why can
that not be maintained by the hus-
band and wife who are together
every day. know Of many happy
couples whose counting days did not
cease with marriage.
The first words my husband had a
chance to say TO me alone after the
marriage ceremony were these: My
sweetheart.wifc. That's what you nrc
always going to be-" And he has
lived up to that promise in every
way. His attention TO the little
courtesics which make a woman so
happy has never grown lax.
II is safe 10 say that the man who
comes home and shouts. why in
thunder isn't dinner ready and the
house cIcan7- wouldn't necessarily be
transformed into an angelic person
by having an apartment OF his own
and visiting his wife Mt specified
times. Neither would the woman
whom hubby finds comptaccntiy read
ing book in the midst OF un,idlnoss
be 20 vastly different IL he came
home only three times week in
stead OF seven.
When I spend an afternoon away
from home on business or pleasure.
and return too late 20 have dinner
on the table when my lord and
master arrivers. he doesn't boiler for
his dinner The first thing. His frs,
words will be: did you have a good
time. DEAR" when he notices dinner
isn't ready. ne takes II upon himself
! to do the many little things he can
do to help. At the table he secs
tfat am served first. and insists
that the choicest parts OF the food
are for me. all OF which consider
unusual on the part OF a big. hungry
man. He doesn't put on my rubbers
and hold my coat for me only when
others are likely 10 see. but is
equally attentive when we are alone
Could any woman help but love a
man like that. enjoy having nice
dinner ready for him and "A happy
welcome for his bomecoming7 when
hear his step on the porch. q little
thrill goes thru me. Just as IL did In
the days when he came ACQUIRING. :"
cannot imagine the time I would
rather be alone than with my hus-
band. and he feels the same. Separa.
ton FOR us lis like being denied food
We are not superior. faultless NOR.
tails. but just ordinary human beings
Whose one big hope has been to prove
that marriage IL not n failure.
This idea Of separate homes does
not take into consideration the needs
OF the children In the home Further.
more, II is pretty safe TO say that the
majority Of men and women OF today
would be into mischief during those
free evenings" spent In proving
their independence, even tho married
And even If they behaved themselves.
Clara would spend many hours won.
dcring what Charlie Is doing to
night" and Charlie would be under
the expense of hiring "a squad OF de.
tectives TO keep tab on Clara's old
admirers.
No. you can't beat the good, old.
fashioned way when 1t comes 10
establishing and maintaining the
home. The great need IL not n new
plan. but more genuine people 10
carry on the old plan. Too mary
marriages OF today are based on the
method Of the young man who told
me his main reason for getting mar.
ried was TO have n home---a place
he could call his own, and someone
waiting there for him. Then he
proudly confessed that his fiancee was
"a regular little jazz-hound." but he
expected 10 tame her. Really. MISS
Grey, do you think he WIN
A HAPPY, COURTED WIFE.