The Bridgeport times and evening farmer., 1920-10-09
ADVICE TO THE LOVELORN
By Beatrice Fairfax

Clara and Grace have just come back from a months vacaton. And Clara and Grace have been to see me and to report their troubles
 Says Clara:
 "Pd have had a perfectly wonder full summer if mother hadn't insisted Of course, some of the trails were too steep for her and so I couldn't go on the climbing trips. And some of the canoe trips had such long carries that she couldn't make them. so I had to give them up. l missed lot of fun because mother insisted on chaperon- ing me wherever I went.''
 Says Grace:
 There were lots of dandy men at our hotel for week-ends, but I didn't get acquainted with any of them. Mother wouldn't trust me out of her sight. She tagged along wherever I went'-
 At that point I interrupted. Clara were at widely different spots. They are different in temperament; sepa- rated by all sorts of racial and social barriers and five years apart in age. Still 1S-year-old Clara and 23-year- old Grace were using the same exas- perated, unfilia1 description of moth CTS activities.''
 ''She tagged along wherever I went.'
 Whenever I hear that I wonder if mother doesn't remember her own annoyance back in the days when daughter was a little girl and always wanted to be in the room when the grown-ups catled. Doesn't mother the fact that she couldn't go to a place without having her little girl tag along? Yes-"tag.''
 No getting away from 1.-the younger and the older generation do better socially when they aren't forced to mingle whether or no they like it. Boys will be boys, and girls girls and grown-ups grown-ups
 The tennis which Ronald finds an a1l-absorbing topic may seem stpuid to James as compared with marbles Yet Ronald is Is and James only six years younger. They aren't sepa- rated by a generation-merely by a handful of years.
 Apart from the fact that Daughter isn't quite herself wheen she has to play up the older generation which she respects and to which we hope she's well bred enough to pay tribute there's another fact: None of us like to be doubted.
 Spy upon a child in school and it may try to get ahead of you by cheat ing. Trust it and it lives up to the 'honor system
 There's no evading the fact that all Of us like to be put on our honor. Trust begetS faith.
 No girl wants to have it even re- [ AitohSiS odSSSSltu llldt SnG behaves when under surveillance and riots about when she isn't watched. No girl wants to feel that she could he drawn to other young folks who aren't basically decent and trustwor- thy.
 The mother who properly chaper- ones her girls does it in two ways and those was aren't so evident to the casual observer that he can't help seeing the wheels go round. The real cha perone" mother teaches her girl to chaperone herself. She gives her daughter a fine standard of dignity and conduct.
 She helps her girl estimate human nature and respond to the finest of It's attributes. And she teaches the younger generation to so trust the older that it will come to it with doubts and fears and invite discussion of what it doesn't understand Real chaperonage can take place serve the young people with whom her girl is associating. Now and then she must join them. By making her self one of them, she gets a chance to find out pretty much what they're like. If she trusts daughter and daughter trusts her, there is likely to be enough good will and good faith between them so that she'll be lis tened to if she says: Clara. I would be much hanpier if you didn't go on that canoeing trip | the Ticer girls are arranging I've seen things don't like in their set I don't want a girl like Madge to come | to mean much to you. Won't you give up an association that I dislike be- ] cause"-
 Then mother states her reasons