The Catholic bulletin. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1911-1995, 1920-11-13
HINTS TO YOUNG WOMEN.
EXCHANGE.

Every modest young woman, pos
plays part, almost always, when in
the society of young men. The fear
is that by some word, or look, or act,
she shall express such degree of
interest in a young man as shall lead
him to believe that she is after him.
Young women study the effect of their
language, they often shun civilities,
they put on an artificial and constrain-
ed style of behavior for fear that some
complacent fool will misconstrue them,
or some gentleman whom they wish to
please will deem them too forward,
and so become disguised. The result
is, that man rarely finds out either
the best or the worst points of his
Wife's character before he marries her.
Social intercourse is carried on under
kind of protest, which places every
young woman in position absolutely
false before the eyes of young men,
Many a woman owes a life of celibacy
and disappointment to the fact that
she never felt at liberty to act out
herself
With these statements, it is very
easy to understand the attractions
which young married woman has
for bachelor and to explain the phe-
nomenOn of young man falling in
love with woman older than him
self. In the first instance, a married
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she becomes perfectly natural and I'M
constrained, her circumstances allow
ing all the more graceful forms of
politeness-the cordial greeting, the
complimentary attentions, and the
free versation-Without the danger
of being misconstrued. In the altered
instance, the woman throws off her
constraint in the same manner, be-
cause she is in the society of one
whom she regards as, in reality, a boy.
She finds, very much to her surprise,
that she has won the boys heart; but
world. He had never had sight of
a woman's nature before. The girls
with whom he had associated had al
ways worn mask. The real hearts
behind it had thus far failed to ap-
prehend., There is a very general i'm
preston among the young men whose
affections are not engaged that the
best women are married, and that
those who are left do not amount to
much. They will think differently
some time or other.
Now, my idea is that this universal
up. 1t does injustice to all parties.
If there is, in society, any poor crea-
ture in the form of man whose
vanity is SO open to flattery that a
young woman cannot treat him with
natural, cordial politeness, without his
thinking that she would like to marry
him, and is trying to ensnare him,
let him think so, and trust to time
and circumstances for correction.
Such men are of too little account in
the world to pay for carrying deceit
full face, and despoiling the intercourse
of the young of it's sweetest charms.
If you like the society Of young men,
take no pains to conceal it, but treat
them with frank cordially. No true
gentleman among them will miscon-
strue you. 1t is not necessary for you
to tell them that you calculate to
live maiden life. They know you lie.
1t will not do to indicate to any man
of sense that you do not like the at
tentions and society of gentlemen,
for he knows better. He knows, at
least, that you ought to like them, and
that it you do not, there is something
wrong about you. Don't practice de-
ception of any kind. A man who is
frank and open-hearted with you, de-
serves to be met with frank and open
heart by you; and in ninety-nine cases
in every hundred, men will be honor
able and manly with you, If you will
lay aside suspicion and trust them