The Birmingham age-herald., 1920-10-24

must, and I know does, seem horrible.
 Yet it is the only way to secure
 happiness. The real Rock of Ages is !, truth-fact Matrimony has been fix
 ened to sea. It is. And the barks
 of low that have been wrecked upon l it because the two shippers fooled each other with compass readings. false ob- servations upon the weather and each others seamanship are wretchedly in- | numerable. Stick to facts and you are safe in any weather. Brutal honesty is the true science of navigation on the matrimonial sea
 ITO illustrate: come home after singing my role,in an opera. l know in my heart I haven't sung we'll If my husband has heard me that particular with something like this; Darling. you're nervous, and you're underesti-
 mating yourself. You were wonder 1 fuln
 q do not. I find at my metaphori- cal hearth charming gentleman who. after taking off my wraps, draws out chair for me and says: My dear, you sang very badly indeed tonight Am I sorry? Not at al. encour- age him to go on. The atmosphere is cleared of any doubt or possibility of misunderstanding He Is not chiding me, he is neither crude norscruel. Mind ia meeting mind; he is helping me and am grateful
 Tn the same way criticize his performances. watch his acting with the intentional eye of the analyst And after the theatre I tell him exactly what I think. Neither of us uses any ]. .conversational camouflage We call what we think a mistake--a mistake The result is that we believe in each
 other We know that each has the
 courage to tell the other the truth "The same method holds true Of all our lives. Of course no day that lstarts with a wife in hideous curl ra- lpers and so on at the breakfast table ! can be happy Such disharmonies Imust have their effect upon hus- Iband sooner or later. I know per lfectly we'll that my husband would te lbrutally frank at once to me about y lappearance if did such thing. And
 knowing this I quite naturally never
 appear that way. It is said of The
 lEmpress Josephine that she never sl- flowed Napolean to see her in an un>
 lgraceful attitude. She dad part of -he I|idea at any rate. It doesn't really nat
 lter that she couldn't keep Napoleon II after all; she might have lost him much
 lsooner'
 II Only house buildcd on honesty ,lin small things as we'll as great can fl stand; my husband won me by the I same direct methods. We met at a iuncneon. We met again at Los An Igeles. Shortly after that I gave a ] large party It was 2 beautiful moon flight night. MT. Tellegen was the -irs' |of my guests to arrive. Fortunately l, had dressed very early and could re- lceiye him During the evening l ,vas |aware that ha was constantly near r, e ilfs was an all-night party. My guest: stayed to (reakfast, Then they al Iweat home excert MT. Tealegen. was .i livery tirst and sleepy, but l hadn't ths ,,icourase to say to him Please g l ihome"
 .s We sat out on the veranda enti ! eleven o'clock. Then he said .'Na UT. Eally you're tired. will go home ana
 ailoweyo q tub and some sleep. Twin be back at three to take you fcl
 a Grive.'
 He came at and made me take thal
 drive. It Is an enchanting country
 lbut he drove me straight into the oi
 fields, The ugly. smaiy oil fiei F