The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-08-07
HEART AND BEAUTY
PROBLEMS
III MRS. ELIZABETH THOMPSON.

Dear Mrs Thompson: A young
man has asked me to go to a picnic
with him. Am 1 supposed to pro-
vide the lunch2 DOUBTFUL
Usually the girl provides the lunch
If I were you I would ask the young
man if he would like to have you take
the lunch. He probably expects you
to and the situation would be eTnbar-
RAISING if you did not
Dear Mrs Thompson: am eigh-
teen years old and engaged to be mar
ried soon to the best boy I know Il
love him but 1 am sure he loves me
better. There is another boy (but he
is not among the best as he is rather
rough) whom I once went with. He
still cares for me. but have not been
with him in some time. When he Is
around in crowd or near me I al
ways feel different and q little worried
afterward. why do 1 feel this way2
POLLY.
Ny dear girl, I cannot advise you
too strongly not to marry soon" You
do not love the young man you expect
to marry and. il you enter into love
less maria ge you will spoil the greater
part of your life. You are very young
and should be enjoying the freedom of
girlhood. Think what g. terrible thing
it would be to find the man you could
love with your whole soul after you
are married
You probably feel you cannot hurt
your fiance as you will have to by
breaking your engagement Remem-
Der that ne is only boy and that time
will heal the wound. 1t will be fairer
to him TO saw '''no'' now than to deny
him the great blessing of wife's love
1t might-be wise plan TO tell him
you are undecided. If that is the way
you feel. If. however, you are con-
and trying to force "a love which your
heart does not feel. the kindest thing
you can do is to break the engage
ment definitely and at once. Love
goes where it will and cannot be
forced.
Your regard for the other young
man does not mean love. He has a
magnetism which fascinates you
, Love means congeniality of tastes and
thought as well as the pleasure in hdv-
ing the loved one near.
"A Blonde: Do not hint that you
object to the other girl. He seems to
want you as a friend and mot a sweet
heart. If you are satisfied with such
! a relationship, accept 1t without COM
/ planning. If You want to be the sweet
heart and are not satisfied to be the
friend. drop him.
Dear Mrs Thompson: am a girl
! fifteen years of age am desperate
| ly in love with man of twenty-four.
He seems to care very much for me
He calls on me from two to three
times a week.
, He kissed me goodnight one night,
I really didn't want him to because
did not think it was right. but he
didn't ask for my consent. Do you
think I did right? Am I too younG
to be doing such things. My parents
are dead. YOURS TRULY
You are too young to have a sweet
heart. Many boys kiss girls without
asking. but girls could avoid the kisses
if they really wanted to. A girl knows
instinctively when a man is going to
kiss her. usually she has been encour-
aging him. thinking she would make
him stop the last minute.
Never forget that some day you will
marry and you will want to be as I'M
touched as possible for the man who
will be your husband. You owe the
man you marry a clean past, and IN
less he can offer you the same he is
cheating you.
The fact that your mother and IA
Their are dead makes 1t hard for you
sometimes. You can get help. how
ever, If you will ask yourself what
they would say if they were living.