Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1920-10-10
VARS AFTERMATH WILL
REGENERATE WOMANHO0D
Henry Bordeaux Tells of Letters
Received From Couples Con-
filling Their Distress.
HUSBANDS TRY TO Do,nNEER
French Writer Enumcratcs Many
Methods of Reconciliation, Saying
Patience Is Necessary on Both
Sides to Have Matrimonial Peace.
ny HENRY BORDEAUX.


PARIS, Oct. 81 wrote an article
ahou, shipwrcckcd homes In one OF
the large Paris papers, and since then
have been flooded with letters from
men and women. describing the fail
ure of their married life since the
war. Innumerable couples have con-
iided to me their distress. Until the
war. they were happy. Now misun-
derstandinEs and discussions make
the home unbearable
Women complain that before the
war their husbands were considerable.
temperate and amenablc. Since the
war returned heroes" seem 20 feel
tina. the world in general, and their
wives in particular. owe them tribute.
Thcy are ap; to be domincc.ins and
curt. The !eas; opposition provokes
scenes. Many former sober men now
drink 10 excess. Others use vulgar
language. The war. in short. has
made men hard 10 get on with.
Women More Independent.
Men, on the o;he: hand, have also
question. But OF the hundreds OF let
ters l have received from men, ell.
without exception. object 20 the hahi;
Of independence acquired by women
since the war.
Before ! wen; to the front my
wife never took Il decision. was
always consulted. Now my opinion
Is never asked. might just as well
'pStNASN. NIINtS S!It
While We were away IL was nat
ural that women should take our
places in factories and business and
nave the upper hand IN the home.
Now that We are back women should
20 back into their places. But they
won't
They won; because they realize.
perhaps, that their place is not one
single spot They have learned, since
fhe war, that their place is wherever
there is something to be done that
they can do. And having had TO
manage the house alone for five
years, they naturally resent domi-
neeriaC husba nds.
Snippy Maids Alter War.
Whereas gil was delighted. be-
iore the war. !: YOU paid any a,ten-
ton 10 her, she Turns up her nose at
!ou now, because she works. calls
YOU any more"
can understand how this changed
attitude on The par; of our French
girls dsconeeris our French men who
We're Used 10 being admired and
nheyec by their womankind. Blu,
cannot blame the women.
On the contrary. Considering the
losses o: the war. how many women
must remain husUandlcss! How is Il
Firi 10 know IN advance, whether
sensible thing Tor her to DO IS 10 be
prepared FOR the worst, and to take
u
X, after having taken w work
that interests her, and capable OF
earning her own living. she hcsitates
10 10 E.vs up her liberty when she is
him 10 be. who can blame her?
~ present conditions are more or
less chaotic. ] grant
great deal OF patience Is ncces-
S"rF on both sides. Men must ,ry 10
Understand the psycho!og!caI trans.
to:htat!on which women have under
gone, ana women must Try 10 make
at.o"ances ] think we are passing
through an experimental stat w.hfrs
Will inevitably Settle down to a d de-"
ny" social status as soon as suttici.r,,
time mas passed
More Happiness, Coming.
Nh!!c woman's Independence may
sinna 70 De break WIN past :radl.
h a,,, mink 1t Will work out for
ness in the future. Human , ,,Snp,
uocs not change. essentially. thr0uet:
out the centuries. Women tod,v .,a
.o!horrow are and will be ius. NJ
Innd OF home as women in tho NJ,
t."!s thc!r standards Will diner H,G
a, tha ne question OF adaptation
~, me present time men NAV ma
.hht women are selfish. I'm, ~!
thc! mistake for SclGShnc.s is mr..
H uhS uCc'sSiu! attempt To rXrr.e,,
. ., which has been tcn,
"n IN women for So man yr.re
VIII hnd herself and viii return -
Hnd then. being independent sb.
man she loves 81. lnarri.s Shr III
ueinand greater !r,Nai worth, create,
pnS S'sa! integrity. Character viii an
{Ii 20 her more than wealth And