The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1920-06-17
Dorothy Dix Talks
We Only Reap What We Sow.
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

We Only Reap What We Sow.
We are called upon to listen to no
tale of woe SO often as that of the wife
who walls that her husband has grown
indifferent to her. that he has ceased
to care for her, or to enjoy her society
and that he is at home as little as
possible.
Nine times out of ten the woman
who tells you that she has lost her
husbands love is so unattractive that
only a man who was a miracle of
faithfulness could have retained any
sentiment for her. She has allowed
herself to become physically unallur-
ing She has ceased to comb her hair
and powder her nose, and her clothes
look as if they had been pitchforked
at her.
Worse still she has grown dull and
stupid as companion. She never
reads. She has never anything bright
and interesting to talk about. She
whines and complains, and when her
husband comes home it is to dreary,
i'll kept house. and to have to listen to
a peevish, fretful, discontinued wife
grouching because she has to worry
over children and servants. and can't
have everything. rich women have.
Why should such a woman ever
hope that her husband will find her
attractive? What is there about her
to intrigue any mans fancy? What is
there in a home that is the abode of all
the glooms to draw a tired man to it
after his hard days work?
Such a woman is too lazy, and shift
less, and selfish to take the trouble to
keep her domestic garden plowed, and
seeded, and worked, and it is her fault
when the heartsease are choked out
by the weeds.
. Because her husband loved her
once, she thinks he will love her al
ways, no matter how unkissable She
becomes. Which is a fatal error
Love is not a perennial that re-
news itself year after year. Rather
it is a one day flower that has to be
planted anew every morning in a
mans soul If a woman wants to keep
herself perpetually adorned with 1t. IL
wife wishes to reap constancy in her
husband she must sow the seeds OF
charm of agreea bility, of personal in
terest from which constancy grows.
This truth, that we cannot reap where
we have not sown, is one that parents
should impress with peculiar earnest
mess Just now upon their children. for
the young have grown impatient OF
the old, slow, plodding method of win
ming success, and are hunting for
some short cut to it. And there is
none
in the labor, or take the time to learn
how to do their work thoroly. They
demand big salaries that they cannot
earn, and they change from occupa-
ton to occupation. and position to
position, seeking the mythical job with
no work, short hours, and fat pay
envelope, which they never find.
They should be made to understand
that before they can command high
nav thew must be able to do good
work. Before they can hold RESPONSE
BILE positions they must be fitted to
fill the places of authority. Before
they can command they must have
submitted to authority themse4pes. In
a word, before they can reap the har-
vest of success they must have titled
the soil and sown the seed in sweat
of soul and body.
For that is the law of nature-we
cannot reap where We have not sown
and the law never changes.