The Washington herald., 1920-11-14

by unsuccessful marriages l do not mean
marriages which end in tragic crises, but
marriages which go flat as so many do.
In the first place, husbands do not de-
mand enough of their wives. They expect,
to be sure, that their wives keep themselves
looking as pretty as possible, that they
give them the usual relations OF wifehood,
and that they keep their homes fairly COM
Portable. Husbands do not, as rule, de-
mand what is far more important-that their
wives give them mental companionship. Here
in America-and il is just as true in England
"a man can announce failure in business
to his wife's utter surprise. Men do not
take their wives into their business conf
dence; they fail to demand that their wives
ideals be sympathetic with their own.
Husbands forget that courtship should
not end, but only begin, with marriage" he
continued. THE wife 0endeavors to main
tain the courtship attitude-one of the pri-
mary essentials of happy married life
after the ceremony. He lets romance die
out. The wife makes an effort TO appear
attractive in her husbands eyes. Her hus-
band does not try to make himself men
tally or physically attractive in her eyes
after marriage. The husband does not try
10 entertain his wife or course he takes
her to the theater occasionally, or to the
motion picture theater, but that is not what
! mean. He makes no effort to entertain
seeks another woman's companionship-if
she fails to amuse him..
"Ot course, you understand, | am a per-
feet husband" Mr.. George laughed. He
exchanged an understanding glance with his
wife, and l felt that ii he were not a per-
feet husband he was, At least very salts
factory one.
ITO show you what mean Mr.. George
explained, 81 take my own case, which |
have told you is exemplary. As go through
the mail in the morning and find letters
which might interest or amuse my wife |
lay them aside. | do not show them to her
at that time, when she is occupied with her
household duties, but wait until evening
when she has nothing TO do and bring them
out Tor her entertainment.
The husband who works at the Office all
day should bring home TO his wife some
bit OF news, some amusing incident for her
entertainment"
Mr.. George considers a sense of humor
very dangerous in marriage and thinks it
were better that it did not exist at all.
There can only be greatness. through de-
velopment in the marriage relations where
the humorous attitude is absent, he believes.
And above all, my advice to married peo-
pie is to be little subtle. The courtship
attitude which has been defined as a sue
cession of lies, is nevertheless a succession
OF very sincere lies, and should be kept up"
Probably it is Mr.. Georges championship
of women that has won for him the name
of being England's leading feminist. But,
although he belives in equality for women
in all walks of life, his attitude is hardly
that of the feminist, who is for the ad-
vancement of women above all.
"Feminism will not do the women of this
country as much good as it will their sis
ters in Europe" he said. Il would warn
against women of this country arraying
themselves against men; the sexes must go
forward together"
The attainment of the ballot by Amer
lean women is not the gaining of much
sought end; it is the gaining of a mechan-
ism for other ends. 1t does not mark their
emancipation. American women were eman-
cipated long before they had the vote Their
enfranchisement is recognition of their.
equality with men rather than an actual
gaining of that equality"
He refuses to see any woman problem"