Evening journal., 1919-09-10
Bentsyillo, lsalurday

My dear Dolly:
Your appeal is nsttering, but aw-
fully hard 70 respond to. What do !
know about marriage especially be-
tween the sort OF people you are wor-
rying over? We have simple, old-fash-
ioned ideas here in Benisyile. We love
and marry. We build our little home
and put into Il all we have OF love, ser
vice and hope for the future
When the family comes. we work a
little harder. and draw together a lit
Tie closer, sharing troubles as well as
joys, and making new plans.
In Benlsvlie. we don't nave such
frantic times deciding whether we are
in love or not or whether pity and
gratitude are enough to marry on" we
aren't so analytical, dear We feel
more than we think. Yet we don't go
wrong 70 very often.
You are right in saying these prob
lens are absolutely individual What
fits someone in Benisyille doesn't no
your kind OF people at all, Dolly. When
say your Kind Of people" mean peo-
pie n whom the life Of big cities has
dulled the taste for simple. plain, home
ly things
Don't be offended, dear II Is simply
that in big cities everything is pro-
fesSional. You have your professional
writer's musicians, painters cooks,
houseworkcrs. actors homes even, for
what are hotels but professional homes
These things spoil your interest in any
thing that isn't professional
There might be a perfectly lovely !
family for example, living in the very
next house 20 day-in your huge New
lOrk-NhO would entertain you OF an
evening in the incest sort Of way. But
Just as you wcro starting TO call on
them you would probably say. "Oh. no
let's go hear Carus0 sing instead"
See what ] mean. Dolly? Always the
professional against the simple
So thoroughly has this got into your
blood that you even think professional
y. You don't Just trust 10 the natural
things that lead to marriage You
lg0nlze and anlyze and argue and
weigh and fuss and fume and doubt
and fear Probably you've even read
ip on 70 to see what Anaiole France and
3ornsrd shaw and q. H. Chesterton and
Robert Louis Stevenson have said on the
subject of love and marriage III bet a
nome made cookie you havei
Lei Captain Wallis and Mrs kymbal +.
hink { out and feel 10 out by them /,
selves You have done an YOU can,
fear. and I'm proud OF your unselfsh
altitude toward Captain Wallis Can
iidly think you are wasting too much
regard on him lie Is dsshlng and hand
some and a hero and literary lion and
lil that. but I'd stack Randy Lewis
lp against him any day for true worth
and ability.
We went 10 q beautiful party the
other night Randy and !. 70 didn't
compare IN professional elegance. I'll
admit with the musicsies and things
that take place Saturday nlghts a. the
-lVersand Arms. We haven't any pro-
fessionsl dancers or actresses or noted
authors IN Bentsville. But we had lois
n music and dancing and delicious
'hlngs 10 eat. homemade. out OF real
'iuf0 and Bandy's new car Is a smooth
runner and mighty comfortable.
By the way, dear, Randy saws give
rou his love and tell you he's been
10 contract manager. what
'yer that IS. lie travels quite a bit. and
s terribly prosperous but he's the
.ame old democratic Randy lie has
yivcn me a wonderful electric perco-
aior 90 make pas coffee in.
Take my advice. Dolly put In the
est of your summer enjoying Yourself.
not irving 10 unlangle eNeryi'n.. rise's d
problems You've only weeks
more % land that husband
Always yours to count CO.
JOAN.