The Washington herald., 1919-02-24

A woman is in love with a certain
man and desires him for her mate.
She knows that she is fit to make
just the sort of a wife he needs. and
that they would be happy together IL
they married. But the man is not in
love with her and has never consid-
cred her from q sentimental point of
view. and she desires to know how
she can turn his thoughts in her di-
rection and win h = affections.
In spite of Eernard Shaw's conten-
tion that man is the pursued and
woman the pursuer and that women
always do the counting. and Thack-
eray's assertion that any woman,
without an actual hump on her back,
can marry any man she chooses. the
task OF the woman who starts forth on
a husband nunt is not an easy one.
In courtship men have all the ad-
vantage, because man can use di-
rect methods of attack in his woOnS.
whereas q woman has to do hers un-
der cover and camouflage every move.
Also the boldcr, the more energetic
and the more persistent a man is in
his courtship the better pleased the
woman IL, while man must be court
ed so adroitly, so stealthtly and so
subtlv that he never knows that he Is
being wooed at all.
In spite of all of these drawbacks.
however, the trick is done every day,
and a woman does well and wisely II
she has set her affections on some
particular he, not to let him escape
without having made at least n fight
for her happiness.
For it IS just as true that faint
heart ne'er won a good man as it Is
that faint heart ne'er won fair lady.
Moreover, the majority of men are
purblind in love, and all that many a
one needs to make him perceive that
some especial woman is his predes-
tined and foreordalned mate is just
to have her call his attention to her.
self.
Therefore, the woman who goes
a-wooing should bear in mind three
things: The first Is, she should heed
the poet's admonition: "Be bold. be
bold. be not too bold" Which means
in prose that she should go after a
man, but she should put on her gum
shoes when she does II. She must take
steps to keep him reminded that she
is still alive or else he will forget her,
but she must not throw herself at
his head, for II she does he will dodge
her. She must continually cross his
pathway. vet must never let him sus-
pect that she Is camping on his trail.
Clever women keep their memory
green IN mans mind by means OF
cards and little notes which pique a
mans interest without rousing his
suspicious. but no woman with a grain
OF sense in her head ever inVeigles q
man into q correspondence until she
has him safely hooked and landed
him. Men hate to write letters and
they are afraid OF them. They have
seen too many casual letters turn into
bombs in breach of promise suits. But
note, or a jolly little card on his
birthday or a holiday, simply shows
that a woman is thinking about a
man and sets him to guessing what
she Is thinking about him, and that
rouses his curiosity and curiosity in
man leads to the altar.
Perhaps woman's best bait when
she becomes a fisher of men is al
ways food. She can always ask a
man to dinner. and no woman ever
shows to such advantage as against
the background of her own home and
at the head Of her own table. Any
man whose thoughts are not turned
to matrimony by a comfy room, with
pink shaded lights and a perfectly
cooked meal. and a woman knitting
in low chair, is hopelessly addicted
to celibacy.
II the man in question happens to
be a widower the dinner play almost
invariably wins out. No matter how
recent his bereavement he can be en-
ticed to a quiet dinner. where his
homesick soul will be directed toward
eventual consolation.
The second point that the woman
who goes a-wooing should bear in
mind is that while she should let the
man know, in some subtle way, tha,
she regards him as fascinating and