Newark post., 1919-11-12
.MIDDLE-ACED WOM-
EN- DIVIDED INTO
TWO CLASSES
One Has Set Aside Look
Other Retains Vital
Interest

Make a little STUDY OF "olIieh WIN
are middle-aged or past the meridian.
Observe them as you come in contact
with them. Become interested in the
pictures you see of them in the papers
and magazines. If you do this with
wide-awake mind you will find that
they will fall into two classes-one
with a faded, set-aside look, the other
with an appearance that radiates
charm, finish, magnetism.
Which class do you want to belong
to through the span of life that STREET
ches over so much of life? Surely to
the latter. Then, if you do not belong
to it try right off to see what are the
characteristics that go to make up its
fascinating quality-and straightway
set about beginning to cultivate them.
No one who has a splendidly firm
grip upon life ever looks faded or set
aside. Life, if lived deeply, is always
so intensely interesting, full of oppor
tunity, profound in significance, thrill
ing-how can anyone with strong,
constant grip upon it fail to be ami
mated by its zest? This zest keeps
eyes bright and manner enthusiastic.
Have you lost your hold upon life
simply because youth with its natural
power to keep in tune with life, has
deserted you? This quality of keep
| ing in tune, natural to youth because
of youths buoyancy and vigor, can be
maintained through all the older years
only then it must become matter
of character. So start in to develop
your character along this line. 1t is
not the life itself that sets you aside
after that special charm of first youth
has departed from it; it is your own
point of vie wof life. You are your
own enemy. Make yourself see that
you have right to happiness-that
the beauty of life is just as deeply
meant for you now as it was for you
/ in halcyon days.
Cultivate the vivifying quality of
interest! Do not let it be an affected,
make believe interest-but a real one.
! Throw yourself heart and soul into
some work that appeals to you. Do
| your routine duties in the spirit of
their Importance to prevent their be-
coming a humdrum burden. Keep
yourself in touch with what is going
on in the world. Follow what women
are dong in it. This is a wonderful
age in the development of women
You cannot keep abreast with their
activities and not be ashamed Of your
sighs and tendency to be forlorn and
discouraged. That sort of thing is al
out of date.
The capacity for enjoyment never
dies in US, though in our morbid per.
versity Of mental vision We insist II
ourselves that it has left US.
Stop short in the laziness OF spirit
and body that makes US not want tt
make the effort necessary to get at &
good time. A pleasure, if recognized
for its value in stimulating spirits
health and courage, surely is worth
great effort to obtain.
Interest in life means also interest
in people. Stop the habits Of minc
that make you shrink from meeting
people - sef-pity, self absorption
brooding over troubles, etc. Nee
people graciously half way, with mint
open in interest in what they are do
ing and in what they have to say u
you, and be your age what it may il
the older years, you will be met hal
way as graciously by people. Try i
and see if you be incredulous.
Keep in touch with children an,
young people, but not as one barret
, from their estates. Be really interest
ed in them and they will with lovin,
eagerness let down the gates for yo,
to enter. They need you and you nee
them. Older people who keep thei
interest in young ones who do not per
nit their charm to become dimmed be
cause of the weight of years hav
, wonderful fascination for young pee
pie.
Garry yourself well. Cultivate sure
ness. Life demands of you tha
charming authoritativeness that tn
s older women, you surely admit, wh
are in the more attractive class hav,
! 1t is an authority born of knowledg,
\ experience; it is a charming authorit
f because these women's instinct fo
q charm will not permit it to deteriorat
r into brusqueness or forbidding sever
. ity.