The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1919-07-25

Dear Miss Grey: I've never been
in the penitentiary. nor, III wager.
have 30 per cent of those who. like
myself. are trying to arrive at a so
luton OF this mans difficulty. After
all Is said and done, he will have
to make his decision himself. and
here's hoping IL may be as wise as
the one he made when he was re-
leased from his punishment and
made his way UPWARD instead OF
allowing his Encouragement to drag
him down.
Just one woman's viewpoint may
help and so. II It were my question
to decide-supposing | were en-
gagged TO be married 90 this man
would be to make a clean breast OF
IL all. lie sincerely loves her and
has shown that he wishes to start
his married life fair and square. How
could he do so II he were continually
shielding and hiding something? He
would always have to endure the
thought that he was not what che
thought, and her thoughtless re
marks-that we all make-would cut
him TO the quick until 1t would grow
intolerable.
But. even suppose he were able
TO carry this burden for years with
out suspicion her part and then,
eventually, II should come out?
II | were that woman. / should
find II hard to forgive him. TO re
alize that after years of loving and
trustfulness that he had not only
committed the crime, but had de
ceived me day by day deliberately
would break my heart and shake my
faith in him thereafter. II wouldn't
be the crime so much: we can al
ways find IL in our heart to forgive
II the desire is great. A poet has
once said: To err is human, to for
give--divine." But to know that de
ception had been wilfully planned
and carried out. and to feel that he
had considered me unworthy OF his
love TO the extent that / couldn
be trusted with his secret, would be
the browning touch of sorrow.
Suppose, on the other hand, tbs
girl WASN'T big enough TO forgive
this man, even when she knew his
fine record within the last few years
and should turn from him in con
tempt. Would that be worse thar
having TO endure the pain SHOULD
she suddenly die before their wed
ding? No, because IL he knew she
was of such small caliber. then ht
wouldn't want her for his wife.
Far. far better for her to be ap
prised OF the true situation anc
make the choice herself, than TO hav,
a skeleton bobbing up in years Il
come. II she Is big in heart ans
soul and see II in its true light. sh'
viii be glad and proud to MARI,
him. What n perfect understand
ing would be between these two. ever
tho the subject Is never reopenet
again. and how surely she can hell
him by her silent sympathy and un
Outstanding, and her constant watcf
that no thoughtless words of other.
wound him.
I. personally. think this man Il
worthy OF any woman's love, anS
never yet has anyone been fount
willing 10 east the fire stone,' anc
I'm hoping that time will show hin
the right thing to do.
JOHNS WIFE.
Dear Miss Grey: In answer to the
two letters Of inquiry. / think
have found sensible solution, anc
one that, in our case. has worked
beautifully.
had heard of young wives who
had married the man they thought
was above reproach; but as soon as
the knot was made firm, made g
confident of friend wife, and robbed
her of almost all the romance, love
and confidence she had in mankind
and hubby in particular.
That's n cruel way TO treat q
young wife, so I said, I'm not per
feet myself, / don't care for your
past; / love you for what you are
now, and what l have confidence III
Chat you win be TO me in the future
But II we have any condolences tc
make. let's make them now, or for
ever hold our peace"
Ava he sof1. sfNNe1i hold on,