El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-01-31

cruel And it viii hurt And being
l only nineteen. she won't be entirely
sure that people aren't right.
! And she is afraid Of family press
ure. Families are pretty formidable
things when they're all agreed upon
some one point that a single unruly
member dissents from. They have a
way Of making II extremely IN
I pleasant for the unruly member
And the publicity OF a broken en-
/ gagement, especially an engage
ment with q good. steady young
man who had been a lover since
childhood, is something that most
families would be pretty certain to op-
And finally she is afraid. as she
says. OF breaking his heart"
OF course she is reluctant to
cause the pain that a complete rup-
ture with her faithful sweetheart
Z IS certain TO bring him. II isn't easy
l by any means to watch an innocent
person suffer and to know one IS
solely responsible. This is no doubt
the hardest part of all
But while admitting the reality Of
] the difficulties that are in her
way / want to encourage this young
/ girl in what is beyond any doubt her
duty to herself and to her sweetheart.
To marry a man whom she not only
doesn't love, but Is wholly Indifferent
to would be- as she puts IL. a great
/ wrong Nothing justifies marriage
: but love And this does not sound
/ like case where there is any chance
Of a tardy love developing
So what is there for her 70 do but
be sincere and coura geous and tell
he lover the truthe
/ Her family viii readjust itself.
I What friends and neighbors may
have 20 say IS really beside the point.
And the lover himself. however pro-
D g 3
die OF a broken heart The hearts OF
I normal wholesome. steady going
young men aren't nearly as brittle
( as that Ultimate recovery is pretty
certain
wish that all lovers would realize
z how simple the matter really is.
There's only one reason that Justifies
I two people in marrying. namely. that
they love each other so much that
they cannot be happy apart
The Only Reason For Marriage.
Don't marry a man because You
have known him all your life. or be-
cause your family think well Of him
or because he has been kind to you.
or because you think he is in love
with you Don't marry to be accom-
modating- Marry because you've
learned what love Is and because you
have substantial reason for believing
that the man you're in love with IS
worthy OF love.
It's the matter Of all others that
your own heart and your own con-
science must decide. But because
you must decide Il alone; you must on
that account be all the more careful
not TO decide II hastily. II YOU
mustn't marry just to be polite or ODE
dent, you must also certainly not
marry from willfulness or perversity
Don't elope at seventeen with the
youth who made love TO you 50 charm
ingly last week, even though he
seems TO you at present the divinest
creature on earth. Wait and con-
slider. Be very careful not only that
you love. but that you love wisely.
And under those conditions, ] think
constancy viii take care Of itself.
II you make Up your mind next to
become engaged to a man because he
wants you to so much. or because
other people want you TO, you are not
likely 10 find yourself in that condi-
ton where anxious onlookers will
threaten you with the club OF con-
stancy.
But II you have made the mistake
which 50 many women make-Of drift
ing into a listless compact or love with
a man they are half Indifferent TO.
merely because at the moment there's
no other man in sight-have the cOur-
age 10 repair your mistake before it
is too late.
Constancy to = man you don't
love Is a meaningless virtue.
Acknowledge your mistake, accept
all the blame for IL. and reserve the
treasure Of your heart for the man
whom Won Will some day really love.