Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1919-09-05

ShOul L go with girls ABOUT my age
who go with married men? How
long should / wear my dresses? How
should [ fix my hair? Please tell
me how to treat a girl when | do not
want to go with her? Should L re-
ceive company in a town where my
sister lost her reputation? Please ad-
wise me.
ANSWERED. your sister has
been so unfortunate as to merit
the loss Of her reputation you
are under d handica pthat re-
quireS that you shall be doubly
careful of your conduct always.
make a practice of going out
with married men. I would just
always quietly but firmly refuse
to go anywhere with a girl with
whom [ did not want to go.
Finally she will stop asking you
to go. I would not go with the
boys very much if I were you
Just now. I would seriously set
to work to improve myself, study
and strengthen your mind and
character and act so that no one
can have the slightest excuse for
criticising you. You may think
that you are giving up some
pleasures, but in the long run
you will be glad if you will take
my advice. Please do.
a man when 1 was is. He seemed
to love me dearly, but now he doesn'
seem to love me as he should. what
can I do to make him love me bet
ter? I love him better than [ do
my own self.
SAD HEARTED.
Answer think, perhaps, you
expect too much, as most girls
do Your husband probably loves
oh, ho RI
year ago, but you must not ex-
pect him to be always as demon
strative in his affection as he
was at first. Too many kisses
and careSSeS become WearlSome
in time, and love is not depend
ent upon the mere outward forms
of affection. Be less demonStra-
tive yourself, and realize that
love is a part of life-not the
whole of life. Unselfish love
does not criticise; neither does
it demand more than the other
person is willing to give. 1t is
the only kind that brings happi-
ness. If you really love him,
think about the things you can
do to make him happy, instead of
what you think he does not do
for you.
I'm coming to you for advice. L
surely think I'm in trouble and hope
you will tell me what to do. I'm a
married woman and have several
children and am very unhappy, for
[ feel that some one has come be-
tween my husband and myself. My
home is broken up. My husband
denies there is any thing between
him and this other woman. Of course
he would not own up to it, but there
are so many things that show me
1 am right. When they are around
me they act as strangers, but when
they think Pm out of sight they
will watch one another. and some
one told me recently they would
smile at each other. There is so
much [ could write you, but space
forbids. Now, what do you think of
this woman 1 tell you Of? She is
married woman, too. What would
you advise me to do. I've thought
of a separation, but still live on with
my children. Do you think l could
live in the same house with my
husband, but live separated from
him? [ can't bear to be separated
would be on my side, don't you? L
know l could have this woman look
ed on in shame, but as l have chill
dren and she has children, L would
not like to go that far, though L
feel that such ought to be put to the
and L want you to advise me through
The Semi-Weekly Journel what to
do. I'm sure if 1 was accused of
such and wasn't guilty I'd try to
clear up things, but if I was guilty,
guess I'd do like she does, I'd have
nothing to say about it. Do you
think she is guilty? Isn't it plain?
UNHAPPY WIFE.
ANSWER: Sometimes a wife
can make herself very unhappy
by imagining things that do not
exist, and frequently the result
is that she brings to pass the
very thing that she breads. If
you look for things to confirm
your jealousy you can always
find proof. A man naturally
would be uneasy and afraid to
show even the usual civilities to
woman with whom his wife
constantly accuses him of be-
ing in love. There is no harm
in smiles. If 1 were you I would
join in the smiling, and quit
troubling myself about it. For
awhile be friendly and amiable
to both your husband and the
other woman, and try to put
aside your feelings toward both.
that your husband is unfaithful
to you, leave him and take your
children; but | would be very
certain of my facts. No, you
could not live in the same house
with him and refuse to be his
wife. The law gives the father
the custody Of the children, but
if you have legal proof of bad
character, the court would award
them to you, / am sure. There
is no use destroying the other
Woman's reputation willfully and
maliciously, 1t just shows
petty, spirit on your part, and