Albuquerque morning journal. [volume] (Albuquerque, N.M.) 1903-1926, 1919-03-18

1t IS the harmless custom of all
celebrants of golden weddings to pro-
claim that in fifty years of married
life they have never spoken a cross
word to each other. No one believes
this fortunately. otherwise, one
would have to feel sorry for them.
For to be becalmed permanently in
the matrimonial doldrums seems the
worst of possible fates.
SO long as a man and woman can
fild something to quarrel about we
may hope for their future. 1t is when
one or the other decides that further
controversy is useless, and contemptu-
Gus acquiescence the only course, that
the funeral of love takes place.
Il nave not had row with Oliver
IN five MONTHS married woman
said to me last week. I'VE used to
fight furiously but | noticed | was
always exhausted and weeping when
we got through. and that five minutes
after | had told him | would take the
baby and go back to mother and
father, Oliver would be rast easleep
Sc | made up my mind that whenever
he began to scold | would begin to
count. That's what I do now"
Il should think you would teach
that maid of yours not to throw my
slippers so far under the bed that
| have to break my back getting
them, he begins, Zone. two, three,
four, five, six I say under my breath
She does it Just to be Vicious con-
tinues Oliver. Seven, eight, nine,
ten / whisper 20 myself. You are
afraid to speak to her. oliver ex-
claims. No wonder she takes add
vantage of you in every way 'Elev-
en- twelve, thirteen / keep on
counting"
Doesn't it make him angry not to
be answered." | inquired.
ooh. yes; but he runs down after a
while; and think of all the energy
and horsepower I've saved. Some
times, instead of counting, | say
poetry to myself. or even prayers.
OF course he realizes do It, and now
he seldom begins a quarrel because
he knows / won't answer him. Oliver
always comes home in a mood to criti-
else and pounce on the least little
thing he doesn't Ike. and I never can
tell what it IS going to be---sometimes
its the temperature of the soup
sometimes that the front door mat
was crooked when he came in; one
day his grievance was that I had ac-
scepted an invitation without consult
ing him, another that I had refused
one. | used to try to reason with him
to show him how unjust and petty it
all was, Then he would get mad and
say | had called him petty I would
remind him of every mean thing he
had ever done--thngs he had told
me about in confidential mood. He
would answer with criticisms of my
family That would bring out my, in
nermost thoughts on the subject of his
Aunt Sarah or his brother Bill. Final
ly | would say / couldn't stand it any
longer and he would answer 20 one
wanted me to stand It. I'll take the
baby and 60 home tomorrow, | would
declare. why not now?' oliver would
ask. Shall | call taxi for you?' In
the end ! would cry and he would say
he was sorry and we would make up.
But I'm thirty-five. When | cry now
my face shows the effects for days
SO don't quarrel any more; count"
Not a bad idea for any one who
has the self-control to carry it out
Still, human beings get to know each
other best through differences. In
fact no woman can be sure that a
man is altogether the right sort until
she has quarreled with him
To quarrel with a person is to adj
nit his equality. is TO bring him near
er than he could Get in any other
way, 1t is a mistake, therefore. to
quarrel with an enemy and perfectly
admissible to have . riotous differ
ence with a friend If a husband
falls into the first category he should
never be quarreled, with but should
be treated with the cool, amiable Sc
renity the wise woman presents to
every one to whom she is indifferent.
But if he is a friend why not quar-
rel with him when the occasion is
a good one and you both feel dis
posed to warfare. Certain rules
should be observed. however. in such
domestic battles. All men go to con-
fesson to their wives, but a wise wife
looks upon any weakness or peccadillo