El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-04-03
Love Is Complete UnSelfiShneSS
And Shows Mankind At It's Best
Most Of Us Have To Struggle Through Life With the
Dazzling Flame Unhghted and Are Better
Off Without It's Great Demands.

. they need home. need taking care of
girls who marry compromise candl-
dates because the years are speeding
] by and suitors are growing fewer
do any Of these know what love Isl
For none Of those whom I have
mentioned have I a word Of reprcach.
Love isn't 10 be had for the asking
I They'll all spend their lives doubtless
comfortably, even happily, in as near
an approach TO love as nature is
likely to vouchsafe them. BY no
means are all Compartments capable
Of love. in the true sense We may
as well admit that most OF MS have
10 grope and stumble through life
with the dazzling, ardent flame OF
love unlighted.
Pm not even sure that this Is 70 be
lamented. Real love is probably more
than most OF us could manage 20 live
NJ 10. And dare say were even bet
ter off with the warm friendship, or
the tender but temperate affection
that most Of us have in its stead
Only lets know where we stand
Why believe ourselves IN love when
were not2
which leads. OF course. to the ques-
ton How are we TO distinguish be-
tween the real and the counterfeit
How may one know whether he is
really I'm loTe2
It's q long story. and 7 can give but
a brief answer. But here are some
Of the essential points
Love is complete uuselfishness. II
sou find that you desire the welfare
of your beloved more than anything
else in life, and that you would sac
rifice your own advantage to il IN
every possible way-why, that sounds
as though you were in love.
Love is a thing of superlatives- II
you are I'm love. you long excessive
lv TO be something infinitely finer,
are. so as TO be worthy Of your be-
loved. You believe that YOU are SUI
premely happy merely in thinking Of
her. til you discover there's a keeuer
bliss in persuadinE her 10 smile on
you DO you recognize any Of these
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II Love Ruled the Norlds
II the world were Inhabited only
by lovers. what a wonderful place ir
would be- How fun Of generosity
and sweetness and kindness. OF every
form OF maEnaulmity- Nobody would
ever be seIfseeking or cruel or re-
Eengeful OF hase-if only all the
world might be in love AT once
Love IS human nature az its best,
mankind at its most gOdlike- But
doa't understand me as meaning by
this that the true lover is necessar-
lily happy or comfortable. It's mostly
likely that he isn't And that's why
many Of US are doubtless more con-
tented without knowing love
You see. il can'C be taken for grant
ed that love is reciprocated. or that
lovers won't be separated, or that in
any case it VIII be possible for them
to marry. Misery and torment are
simply lying IN wait for the lover.
You may be sure that II takes a big,
sane. firmly poised nature 10 with
stand all the cyclones and whirlpOols
and upheavels Of one sort and an
other that are brought about by love.
Then love suffers such a sad dis
advantage by being always confined
to such q tiny minority There are
so few 10 understand the exalted LAM
guaee that Il speaks. so few who can
perceive the uaEnificence o. It's ges-
lures Love IS. after all rather a
lonely thing IN a world that as
whole is not aware 0f love and that
is not conducted by lovers.
Realizing these drawbacks Of love,
do YOU pity the lover or GO you envy
him2 Do you hope that you may
some day feel its unmistakable flame
within you, q are you willing to
spend your days in lukewarm, COM