The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1919-02-15
HEART AND BEAUTY
PROBLEMS
BY afRs. ELIZABETH THOMPSON.

Dear Mrs. Thompson: / have been
going with a certain young man for
about q year and we attend a great
many dances together There is am
other young man who goes to the
same dances and is almost constantly
there on the game nights. L know him
well and do not like him in the least,
in fact, / hate him. He always makes
it a point to ask my friend to trade
dance and l can't bear to dance with
him.
Do you think it is my friends place
t~refuse him, or should 1? And how
should 1 DO it? He is a nice young
man morally, but 1 can't bear him.
, PERPLEXED.
1t is your escorts place to make an
excuse SO that the dance Will not be
exchanged.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: When visit
ing away from home and girl friend
invites me to go to the movies with
her and her friend, should I~sit be-
tween them during the picture? l
once did and the young man was so
quiet I feared L had made a blunder.
1t seemed there was nothing else to
do, as she went in first.
After the movie we went to the
drug store and went into a booth for
cream. We sat on one side and he
on. the other. Was that correct?
ANXIOUS.
1t is better not to sit between a
couple who arr interes.N in each
/ other. You might have suggested
that he go in second, THUS sitting be-
tween you.
Amy arrangement was all right in
! the GrGS store.
! Dear Mrs. Thompson: I am mar
ried woman and have two big girls.
work hard in factory and buy every
! thing for the house. My husband is
awfuEy mean to me. He doesn't want
! mt want me to go any place or talk
J to ANYONE He does hardly anything
1 except sit around and dream of Some
I thing When l talk to him he doesn' t
make an answer. J. e is cruel to me
I at times; he curses me and often
strikes me. He comes home angry
at times and doesn't know what he
is angry at.
/ l really don't know what to do. I
sometimes think I am a big fool for
. living with such man. 1 am heart
broken nearly all the time.
) ID. E. F.
: You are TOO patient with your hus-
/ band. He should either do his part
! to keep up expenses and make the
home happy, or leave. Since you earn
/ the money anyway you would be hap
! pier to live alone with your children.
J n
teach him lesson and show him that
/ he would have to Go his part to keep
; you. 1 would rot advise you to toler-
ate a man who brings you only un-
! happiness.
/ Dear Mrs. Thompson: Something
1 cannot understand has happened to
me twice now. FUSED to know a boy
who studied to be a lawyer. We did
not go together and. had no thought
or desire to go with him. Several
times, however, 1 had opportunities
! of mentioning him to people w'.o
wanted law work done and they went
to him for his services. ] thought
this would be little help to him in
; establishing a reputation.
Later a girl frienl of mine told
me that he said 1 was not worth vast
i ing time on She told me this be-
. cause 1 told her about getting an
other client for the boy. j can see
that he might have thought Il was
more interested than really was.
Now the same sort of thing has
happened again. Where l work there
| is a widow about fifteen years older
than I am She invited me to bring
my lunch to her room and have din
ner with her and the others who eat
: in there. / went in three days ard
so cordial. When 1 left she was
! laughing and teasing me about one
of the men who shows an interess in
me.
The fourth day when 1 went in to
lunch she did not look UP or speak.
]. thought she was tired and was not
/ in a mood to talk. I said just a few
things which received very cool an
swer and then 1 kept still. too. After