Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1919-07-12

Please Tell Me
What to DO
Happy" Encourages "Doughboy"
BY CYNTHIA


Dear Cyntha.-Your comment, and
the letter from Experience" rather
pleased me. The thoughts expressed
were words of encouragement, which
I appreciated, and more strongly con E
vinced me that mine was, indeed, the
right attitude.
But today I want to forget Self
and reach out to "a Disappointed
Doughboy."
disappointed Doughboy." am
wondering If I need your sympathy as
much as you need mine? I did not
stop at reading your letter just as you
as well.
II was good Of you to express the
wish to hear from me, and yet I AM
at loss to know just what you would
like most to ahave me talk" about.
Your desire to meet me, or lone like
me-" is appreciated. I'll frankly admit
that you have aroused my curiosity to
the utmost.
Perhaps, IL give you some idea what
kind of a girl I am, you won't find it
quite so difficult to meet lone like me"
as you seem to think.
I am just natural girl, twenty one
years old. While I do not throw up
my hands in horror at the girl who uses
! ''camouaagc." that sort of thing does
not appeal to me, so | don't even pow
der my nose. Actually. Modpstly
| speaking, ! am not pretty; nor would
I have you think of me as some "homely
prude." 7 have weakness for pretty
| clothes-as every real girl has. To just
be natural and make an attractive ap-
pearance interests me more. have a
keen sense of humor and invariably see
the brighter side, realizing life is serious
and regarding it ms such. My DISPOSE
tion is happy one and. all told. am a
happy girl, full of good, honest fun, and
thankful for many real friends.
My recent experience has sobered me
somewhat, disappointed Doughboy,"
and I am inclined to be more cautious,
though not distrustful. The boy who
is so shameless in his treatment of
good girl is bound to suffer some day Cor
vice versa.) That thought gives me no
satisfaction however. Because | have
suffered. | do not want another to share
the same fate. II is so much better
to have these unpleasant experiences
before, than it would be to have married
and then find the one you had accepted
as a life partner to be unworthy. It'll
would then mean n lifetime of un-
happiness for both-and an uncongenial
atmosphere is not the one in which to
rear children. Marriage involves no end
nf e.
into the future before taking that step
which will decide either untold happi-
ness or fatal discontentment. I do not
hold one unkind thought toward the
'man' who led me to believe in him |
in whom I placed my trust who proved |
himself unworthy. Instead, / am de-
voutly thankful that / had not already
married him. Could there have been /
contentment and companionship be-
tween two whose ideas were as far apart
as the poles? Each must be unselfish,
for there can be no JOY where one shows
no consideration for the other. Each .
must do his or her share. toward max |
ing the union a happy one.
It's hard to love and find the true
love not reciprocated. but if some
thoughtless girl had disappointed you,
please don't let the disappointment EN-
bitter you. After all, what is disap-
pointment? We may awake some day
to find ours turning into real bless
ings. Be glad that you are free to
choose a girl worthy Of your love, and
you will find her. Don't cherish I'M
kind thoughts, nor yet allow yourself
to dwell upon fond recollections. En-
joy life and be happy and when you I
meet the girl who is meant for you,
you will know her and be better able to
love her with your whole heart.
HAPPY.