Omaha daily bee., 1919-02-27
Advice to the Lovelorn
Bring Your Troubles to the Daily Melting Pot That They
May Be Dissected, Strengthened and All Matters
Put to Rights
Their Home.
Bv BEATRICE FAIRFAX

My Dear Miss Fairfax: am
writing to ask your advice. Knowing
you have helped many others feel
confident you can help me also.
am a wife of 23a and mother of a
seven months old baby. have been
married two years and we have been
very happy, but recently my hus-
band and / decided to buy home
and it seems that we cannot agree
in our choice of a home. My hus-
band wants a choice location regard
less OF the condition of the house,
while / feel that as housewife / am
entitled to a home which will appeal
to me and one which ! can arrange
Hastily and make coy and homelike.
/ do not expect luxury as / know we
cannot afford 1t, but I want fairly
good house in a respectable location
and at a moderate price. l know
that my husband loves me, but /
cannot understand why he considers
the home problem so trivial and
wishes to get the value of the lot
only, while ! consider the home
problem the most important of all.
/ have been economizing in every
way so as to get little money set
aside to buy home and it makes
me feel very sad when / think that
after all my efforts / cannot have a
home to suit me and which my hus-
band will learn to appreciate. II
strongly persist in getting exactly
what I want / am afraid that my
husband will insist on saying am
extravagant, and IL ! don't l know
1 will never feel content and happy
to live in a dilapidated old house.
I cannot say that my husband is in
the habit of nagging constantly be-
cause he isn't and besides he is a
kind father and good husband and
/ love him. This is the very first
time we argued over anything, but
I feel that is serious enough to ask
advice about. My husband has sac
rificed very much also to get enough
money to buy home, although to
be perfectly frank might admit
that he can almost be considered
stingy but very honest. Can you
suggest a method by which we could
both come half way? / think we
can (without depriving ourselves of
necessities) afford home of about
$4,000, while my husband says that
this amount is out of the question.
When we take into consideration the
high cost of materials nowadays, /
think said sum is indeed very modest
and anything cheaper would be,
cheap in quality as well as price and
therefore not bargain. have tried
to compromise with him, but so far
it has proven useless. We have
found nothing to suit him while
we've been through several houses
which suit me perfectly in price as
we'll as otherwise. Will you please
answer in one of the evening edi-
tions of The Bee, as we receive the
evening edition only. Thanking you,
l am yours truly, G. p. r.
Your husband probably sees the
business side Of the home PROPOSE
ton. A good lot, in the right neigh
borhood. means increasing values,
while house, at best, decreases. If
you have the right kind of lot, in
a good neighborhood where you will
be glad to bring up your children,
the matter of a better house later is
comparatively simple matter.
am sure your husband loves you and
does not wish to be selfish. AS a
matter of fact he isn't, for what he
does in a financial way for himself
is also for you and the children.
When a man has only a limited
amount of money he cannot help
but wish to invest it wisely. You
will be glad later on.