The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1919-02-27
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
By DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.
Present Day Husband MATERIAL.


So the soldier husband enters matri-
mony chastened by his experiences,
and with a due appreciation of the
comfort Of having somebody to sew
on his buttons. and darn his socks,
and give him omething to eat that
isn't stewed, and didn't come out of
tin can, Also the soldier will have
all the fighting he wants. and be
ready to sign any sort of a domestic
armistice that the wife draws up.
It should be a cheerful thought to
young women that if husbands are
worth having when they do get them,
and even the common, or garden
variety of modern young man will
make better husband than the para
gon of virtues of yesterday, did.
The thing that has made matrimony
ashes, cinders and dust to women has
been the stinginess and the tyranny of
the men to whom they were married,
and the fact that men did not think
that wives had any rights that a hus-
band is bound to respect.
Even men who we're generous in
paying bills have refused to give their
wives penny they tould spend as
they pleased. Even men who love
their wives have held them as little
more than bond slaves and exactad the
most men have thought that being
married to them was amusement
enough for any woman. without any
other diversion being thrown in.
The modern young man holds to
none of these fallacies. He has work
ed with women and has seen them
making as much money as he does, so
he will never dream of not giving his
wife her separate pocketbook. He has
met women everywhere on equal
terms, and he expects his wife to be
! his partner, his chum, and not
servant to him. He goes into matri
mony prepared to go fiftyAfifty With
his wife on the trials, the pleasures,
and the perquisites of-domestic life.
The man of the past thought that
on girl when he asked her to be his
wife, and SO saved her from the
miseries of purposeless. dependent
old maidenhood. The man OF today
knows that he is asking girl to
, sacrifice a lot when she gives up her
good job, Ter freedom. and her pay
envelope to come into the kitchen. and
| he shows his appreciation by the way
he treats her.
All of this makes the young man
| of today the best husband material
| that the world has ever produced, and
the young woman who marries him
| may look forward to the matrimonial
| journey being taken in a satin lined
| limousine over an asphalt boulevard
instead OF in the springless farm
/
] mother made the trip.
The In-Law Problem AGAIN..
| I have a letter from a young wife
who is making herself utterly 1niser-
able thru Jealousy Of her mother-in-
| law.
She complains that her husband and
| his mother have long talks together,
Also that when she and her husba nd
| have any little disagreement her
mother-in-law always takes her sons
part. Furthermore, she says that
| when she wants to go out of an eve
ming her mother-in-law says that her
| son is too tired to go, but that when
his sisters want to go. her mother
| in-law thinks that he is perfectly able
to take them. All of which makes
| life cinders, ashes and dust to the
| young wife.
! 1t is the old, old tragedy of the
| in-laws. The real human triangle is
made up of a man. his mother and
his wife That encloses more tears.
heart burnings and sufferinzs than
/ any other in the world. for there is
| no other jealousy SO torturing and SO
| incessant as that which the two
women who love a man best. and who
/ have almost equal claims upon him,
can feel of each other.
That such a jealousy Is futile and
groundless makes no difference to
either one. That they not only make
| themselves unhappy. but that they
/ torture the man over whom they
/ fight, likewise makes no difference
They would sacrifice anything else on
earth for him except the dear privilege
| of having each other. and torTnenting
! him with their complaints and sus-
| piciens of each other.
Why the in-iaw relationship should