El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-08-22

TF you happen to be one Of those girls
who write TO me under the signature
Of Heartbroken." Despondent" or
'Despairing' make up your mind that
{ you are extremely unlikely to find
happiness II you write yourself down
In these unhappy terms.
Thoughts are things as wise men
have known them from the beginning.
and If you admit that you are Heart
broken" Dependent" or Despair
| ing and tag yourself with these Ia
bells, you are deliberately playing a
losing game-and writing your own
! death warrant.
Do not let your feelings run away
| with you" II you indulge in this sort
more control over your destiny than a
lear has over its whirling in a hurri-
cane.
If you are at the beck and call Of
every feeling OF JOY, grief. love. fear,
hate, you become emotionally intOXi-
Gated; nothing appears to you at its
race value. In this state Of mind one
IS utterly unfit 10 cope with life Or
binary people and occurrences appear
in the exaggerated forms they pre-
is real
The emotions get the whip hand and
they scourge their victim from pillar
to post He is "maadly" in love with
this one or that. an enemy seeks to
destroy his good name Or.hlS complete
understanding with a friend. the
world is against him. and very natu-
rally he Is "heartbroken." Respondent
and despairing.
Many young people pass the entire
period Of adolescence in these states
OF exaltation or despairing unreality
and they fan in love, run the entire
gamut OF emotional sensation. rec over.
then repeat the operation with the
next young man or woman fate hap
pens to throw them.
Fail TO Succeed.
It is needless TO say such people
are too much at the mercy OF their
feelings ever TO. make success Of life
They never stick to anything or any
one long enough to succeed Some
grand opera emotion-love. despair,
hate, fear. jealousy, suspicion-is al
ways driving them along: they never
stop long enough TO take deep root
How does Il come about. why is ev-
cry day life full OF these stars whose
glitter spells the tranquility Of domes-
tic life? I was discussing this subject
the other dav with a brilliant physi-
cian-a specialist in diseases OF the
mind-who is doing notable work
among the shellshock victims OF the
war
His theory is that such people have
a certain amount Of histronic or ar
tistic ability and that they continu-
apt to be excessive novel readers.
theatergoers, or movie fans" and
they fit their lives to stage, book or
screen. rather than reverse the pro-
cess ard fit stage, book or screen to
real life
They think in terms Of art and fire.
uuently in the third person she
dragged her weary form a few paees.
then crumpled up on a park bench"
this physician once heard a healthy
audibly- And as he had Just seen her
say good-by TO young mon. walk
few steps and sit on a park bench
he Joined her and began to talk about
her ease"
She displayed no reluctance in tax |
Ing to him-he was ell part OF the /
play" the play that. like classics OF !
the Chinese stage. goes on for years |
and years
She did not really care" about the l
young man from whom she had just /
parted. though she had delrded her /
self into thinking she was mad" I
about him. aand she was ~heartbrok ]
her and had defined her invitation /
to spend the evening in her company. J
The physician asked her innumer- F.,
able questions about the young man, D.
uut1AlOIS AuAElNtQ 70 eAlCk rEE Ecal
feelings in regard to him She con- T
fessed he was "stinry. that he was /
poorly educated" that she hated '-his 4
habit OF breathing through the I
mouth" Love was not blind. in fact. 7
there was no love present to lose his .
eyesight She was in the mood 10 rlay- I
act and she took this rather sorry 4
specimen for her leading man"
With such subjects the curtain new
CT comes down: they get up in the
morning and begin 20 think OF them I
selves in the terms of a book OF play I
and they keep Il IN till night
Now this Rift, II II IS big enough. 4
and accompan ID bv logged industry. I
may be turned to profitable account. Il
II may come forth in the shape Of nov
els, short stories. plays or movies. and !
YOU NAV have the pleasure OF banking 4
checks of your own making and be-
coming happy and prosperous auth
or. But n YOU are rainE 10 allow vour 4
life energies 10 become inextricahiy 4
in its meshes-you VIII Il
have no more chance than fly in a 4
SPIDERS web. n
You may cast yourself for a star 4
part, but you will be ant to find your
self amcnG the lowliest and most II
Wretched Of life's suuers
He Your Own Manager. III
II you have a dramatic temnera- N
reawF -~srTT al 9TH oh