Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1919-08-02
"Flehter" Answers "Miss
Insionificanc

Lear Cyntnla-l trust tnat my IN
itial contribution to your column is
acceptable and that it may help Miss
1nsignifcance.
Dear Friend: I answer your letter
because, though l am of the opposite
sex, we have had much in common.
1 graduated from high school five
years ago, big, ungainly scarecrow.
On the ball field, I held my own. But
in the classroom, the boys spoke to me
when they wanted the correct answer
to n question and the girls only when
there was no other fellow present. ~
ing an American born son of immi-
grants, my parents had neither social
standing nor money. However, / have
since learned that both are more often
handicaps than helps. !. then COM
pleted n business course and though /
was an efficient worker, my looks
were so much against me- that en-
ployer after employer refused to have
me in the office. But | never knew
when l was beaten and through Garry
ing on" finally obtained satisfactory
position. Five weeks ago, when l was
honorably discharged from the United
States army, my employer would not
even give me time to take off my
uniform. I had to return to work at
once and at a substantially increased
salary.
spent my evenings, not in pool
rooms nor parlors, but in going to col
lege. Had 7 not entered the service
/ would have graduated this June but
even putting aside all patriotic mo-
tives, have gained more than 1 have
lost through donning the uniform. ]
will graduate next year. Before l
left was one of the most popular men
at college. / was president of our
class and on every important com
mittee. Every man at school was glad
to be my friend.
Since the time that l could devote
to social activities was necessarily
limited, my girl chums are few. But
! met many girls, all kinds, while in
the service and though | have never
had time to learn to dance, / can truth =
fully say that never had to play
second fiddle to any one.
Why? Because I have developed n
pleasing personality. People admire
my aggressive persistency. I am no
longer the ugly duckling. "AIy face
expresses strong will power and char
actcr." Long ago / cultivated big
broad smile. Like you, | was too
frank in my criticism of others, hut l
soon learned to be a good listener md
stopped looking for flaws in my neigh
Dor. kept my head high and today
the boys and girls who would not even
think of inviting me to their parties
while we were at high school go out
of their way in order to greet me.
still have much to accomplish but / an
used to hard work and will attain my
goal.
I have reread your dignifed letter nnt
believe you will make good. TTelr
others whenever you can. Tou vii
meet with many a disappointment hu
good deeds react on the d0er. AhOv'
all, keep your health. Do not permi
any fellow to become too familiar. Th'
man who is worth having as HUSBAND
does not want giggling baby doll, MOI
flirt that permits every Tom, .Dic|
and Harry TO hug and kiss her. HI
wants clean. intelligent woman, on
who will understand him and cncour
age him. He wants woman who cal
cook and sew and play and smile, wh'
will make him proud of his home an'
Ills family. l believe you will develop
into such woman and just rs IN.
moneyed friends now call me lucky. so
in a few years, you will find that be
cause of the seeming obstacles whicl
you have had to overcome. You hav
developed an independence and a per
Sonalty which your less fortunat
clnssmates-those who were born wit