Albuquerque morning journal. [volume] (Albuquerque, N.M.) 1903-1926, 1919-07-23

Flattered.
why do some women find its easy
to marry three and four husbands,
while others never receive a proposal q?
You know that beauty has little to do
with 1t, young woman said to me
the other day
| do know that beauty has little to
do with it, that brains count for moth
ing at all and that domestic accom-
plishments, which in theory all men
praise, are in reality of slight value
in their eyes when they seek a wife.
But the answer is very simple, new
ertheless The woman who finds il
easiest to get a husband is she who
wants most to be married and conse-
quently makes the greatest effort to
please men.
She may be beautiful or homely,
wise or otherwise. but she must know
how to be agreeable. With many
women this is an instinct, with others
an art. Nearly all unmarried women
practice it in some measure. Wives
who retain the love of their husbands
are those who keep on being charm
ing and appreciative after the life
mortgage has been foreclosed.
Some day / hope to be able to pub
lish interesting statistics on the num-
Der of men who become husbands
just because some little woman is
shrewd enough to detect in them a
resemblance to Napoleon Bonaparte.
To any girl who has hooked her
fish but is experiencing difficulty in
getting him in the matrimonial boat,
| offer this poignant piece of advice
try telling him he looks like Napolean.
Even if he is six feet tall, has sandy
hair, freckles and a Pekinese nose,
go ahead He will like the compari-
son all the better.
| have interviewed hundreds of
men in my lifetime and today the
first thing | do upon entering tn
office of scientist. doctor, captain of
finance or even of a distinguished
clergyman is to look for portrait of
Bonaparte. Sometimes to be sure !
am disappointed. There Is no por-
trait-on u bust. At any rate, if the
flow of ideas is slow or an eXagger-
ated sense of discretion prevents the
| subject from talking Interestingly
have only to eXclaim: What an in
teresting study of Napoleon. OF
course every one must speak of the
resemblance to tap the springs of elo-
quence and cause ideas to flow like
maple trees in March.
Men exist, of course. who are more
flattered to hear that they look like
Jack Dempsey than like Napoleon
But every mans hero is easy to dis
cover and once detected you have
| only to keep on chattering about the
resemblance to win his heart
Flattery oils the wheels of the mat
I nd tai ,1... u4..1-
self-respecting to flatter a fiance, but
many wives are willing to leave the
job of soothing a husbands vanity
to another woman And in little
while we hear them discourse bitterly
upon the Inconsistency of man.
But mans inconsistency, which his
vanity causes him to eXaggerate, is
quite often the result of a starving
ego. Any woman can amuse any
man if she knows how to flatter him
intelligently. And If a husband fares
forth from home in the morning UNI
flattered he is as certain to seek value
for his famished vanity as a hungry
man is to search for food.
And why should they not be flat
tered, the good, steady. honorable
plodders between office and home
and savings bank? l sometimes Won
der how long the institution of mar
riage would have lasted If the burden
of its financial maintenance had been
put upon women, and how many of
us would have married at all had the
ceremony placed upon us the obliga-
tons men accept without second
thought.
How lightly they sentence them
selves to lifetime of cheap clothes
and fifteen cent lunches! How cher
fully they submit to the inevitable