The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1919-01-29
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.


MY dear" said an old woman to
bride, there is just one genuine. re-
liable. blown-int the glass. followthis
rule-and-you- cannot-faiI for retaining
husbands affection and making
ma trimony a grand sweet song, and it
is this-be pleasant to live with.
IAN the other dope on the subject
is bunk and buncome. and false
prophecies, generally. that fail you in
your hour of need.
Every few women have ever found
this out. AS a rule. wives pin their
faith to one of two theories. They
either go in for doing their duty as
wives, or keeping young and beautiful,
and as husband pacifiers neither of
these theories work.
mo man ever fell in love with a
woman for her virtues. or kept in
| love with her because she continued to
practice them. Furthermore, no
woman can do her full duty towards
her husband without making him
hate her. No other human being is so
irritating rs a paragon. and no woman
can take shorter cut to the divorce
court than to enter into matrimony
with the settled determination than TO
run her husband and her home on the
higher life schedule.
For a woman to expect to keep her
husband in love with her by keeping
young and beautiful and maintaining
the waist line of twenty is equally
hopeless 1t simply cannot be done.
Time, work and worry are bound 20
rob the cheek of its ro.es and the
hair of its gold. or jet and turn the
hgure into a feather bed or a skeleton.
No mater how frantically a woman
holds on to her youth. or how artfully
she seeks to camoufage its loss. there
Is bound to come the inevitable hour
when she has to face the fact that she
| is no longer a good locker, but a has
been.
Where is she then il her only hold
on her husband is a corset string? She
| is doomed for the scrap heap. for be-
ing married doesn't impair a mans
| eyesight, and he is bound TO see that
every young girl who crosses his path
is living picture that puts his wife
| into the chrome class.
But il is far otherwise with her il
| she has had sense enough to perceive
| that a man doesn't care whether a
| woman does her duty by him or not,
| SO long as she surrounds him with
| love and admiration. Nor does he
! care whether she is fat or thin old
/ or young, beautiful or homely, so long
as she is interesting and agreeable and
makes his home the pleasantest spot
| on earth to him
| TT isn't the cold cream Jar but the
warm heart and hearth that preserve
I q > iONe. II isn't the ami
| cured hands. but the glad hand that
| a man wants to hold, and IL women
| would only remember this and spend
! more time in reducing their nagging
and fault finding. and less in reduce
| ing their hips. we should hear less Of
men who had left their wives and
| strayed off after affinities
| SO IL you want TO be happy tho
{ married and keep your husband your
| aooring lover to the end Of the chapter
| make up your mind that you are going
to be person with whom it is pleas
ant to live
Resolve in the first place. that
you will be cheerful. Married life is
| not a flower bedecked pathway for
| any woman to tread. and you will find
| a million things over which you must
either laugh or cry Laugh IL Is the
! Drawer thing to do and somehow trou-
/ bles have way of disa ppearing before
laughter as they never do before tears.
Consider. IL you were a man who
was coming home tired and worn al
night from a hard days work. whether
you would rather return to a CHEEKY
| optimistic little wife who put the best
face possible on everything. or to a
weepy. Whitney. disgruntIed woman v no
| turned On the vaferworke every time
: anything went wrong and wet blanket
| ed every situation.
Then resolve to be rational and
] to take zane view of life. Just think