El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-02-08
Ideal Knight of Girls Dreams
Seldom Found In Everyday Life
Realization That the Real Fairy Prince May Be
Found In Unexpected Outward Form Will
Come With Years To the Dreamer.

ITS a wonderful thing TO look into
l the heart Of a sensitive young girl
And sometimes it is very helpful to
other girls to tell what one has found
there.
I believe there are countless girls
whose anxieties are similar to those
Of a young correspondent OF mine
whose letter I am going to quote. And
as many Of these as possible I should
like TO reach through my.reply to her.
Her perplexity comes from the con-
trast that exists between dream
youths, the knights Of her magma
ton. and the actual boys and young
men whom she encounters in this pro-
sale. everyday world.
7 am IS years old" she writes, and
what am telling you is my great Sc
cret have never told It to anybody
else. You see, I cannot bear TO nave
people laugh at me and think me
queer. The truth is. I don't like boys
in the least. I am bored and uncom-
Portable when am with them I don
like the way they look or act or think
or the things they want 70 tax ABOUT
I don't understand them, and know
there isn't one OF them who could IN
derstand ne.
7 DO see them often. and do go out
with them But. unlike an my glrl
friends, I have 2 miserable time
Dreams OF Ideal Youth.
sT would so much rather be with
girls. or stay at home and read or
lust dream. And sometimes dream
about boys-when I'm awake. mean
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and they're nicer IN every way IMAM
7 can tell you. II I could really know
such a boy. think should be very
please tell me whether am very
unnatural"
Ny dear child. you are not unnat-
ural IN the least I should like to con-
vince you Of that as thoroughly as
1t is always true that the majority
of girls are interested in boys and az
ease with them And it Is always
who have no impulse whatever to &C
cept the cOmpanionship Of boys-who
indeed greatly prefer not to-
Now the only unfortunate result OF
this is that II sometimes leads girls
10 distrust themselves. as II has you
They suffer from the suspicion that
they are strange" and they wonder
il they ought to make a heroic effort
to overcome their strangeness.
If a girl at IS feels i'll at ease with
boys, there is no reason why she
should force herself to see much Of
them It's not necessary to have pre-
cisely the same tastes, manners,
thoughts, emotions that other girls OF
Is haTe-though that's Just the mis-
take that many girls make And II is
certainly unnecessary to pretend 70 be
ever so many things one isn't. just IN
n-sHa - a-rH anns z
crowd"
And the reason you nee not worry
about being different" dear IS year
Olds, IS that you won't be different
very long. Youu doubtless be quite
sufficiently interested in youths by
ponement- For you, the gay. cheerful
unembarrassed boy and girl associa-
ton viii come later on. And it viii be
more interesting then So there's
to worry about.
Real Boys Disappointing.
Meanwhile. most girls Of your type
do. I think, have day dreams, Just as
you do And it's quite natural that
some OF these dreams should concern
themselves with beautiful, charming
youths. who represent your
deal OF what young manhood should /
You are at the most idealIstic period /
~ your life, you day-dreamy young 4
creatures. And you are OF the tenn
1erament that reaches after the ideal. /
So while your girl companions are 1
perfectly content to walk and talk I
md dance and laugh with actual ev-
srydav boys, perhaps a little crude, 4
perhaps a little conceited. certainly /
imperfect in one way or another
girls OF your type can tolerate moth
ng but an ideal.
Ideal youths don't. Of course, exist /
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difficulty in creating them through 1
FOUR own Imagination. There is no /
laru IN your doing this. so long as ]
you don't give Up too much time 20 II, /