Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1919-07-20
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DEVOTION IN MARRIAGE
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Beatrice Fairfax Contrasts Old IdC.,
and New About Matri-
mony.
WEALTH is NOT HAPPINESS
Poor May Be Satisfied With Them
selves II Love l. Rcal-Crgcs
Girls Not to BE Afraid Of Plain
Living.
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

The other day mother with two
grown daughters told me something of
the family history
My, Older daus;n;er seems content
cd she said cautiously. she has
tiny house IN the suburbs and four
children. Her husband makes very
little money, but for some reason they
don't seem to mind. They say. they
have happy times together and sup
pose they &C; used to doing without
things.
went on. With evident satisfaction,
married well Her husband is an au
tomobile manufacturer. and lie can give
her anything she wants She hasn';
any children. bur She has every con-
ceivable luxury. No. she hasn't ever
told me she is happy, bu, OF course
she must be"
Ever SO many young girls. / And;
even in this cmancipated day. still
cherish the ancient notion OF marry
ing well" that this mother expressed
And who can blame them. when their
mothers so carefully inculcatc IL, when
It's a part OF the very air they breathe
from their earliest infancy:
Means Marrying Money.
We all know, of course. wha, il
marry a man with money. And that
is, of course, rather shocking. when
It's stated plainly.
daughter merely because she has hap
pened TO atirac; a rich man, no matter
what that rich, man may De? Why
should mother apologize for a
daughter whose husband is poor. even
though through him the girl has found
love and contentmeni?
the idea o, marrying wel' came into
vogue. There was q day. and Your
grandmother can remember II, when
there was no question Of a girls sup
supported by somebody. And espe-
cially IL there were several Of her this
had way OF eNhaustins the parental
purse.
.-They formed the habit OF looking 3:
about for young men who could sup
seemed ,he best service they could
render heir onsprins-this marrying
euarantee com?o9tsbe wmG so@a
income.
Feathering One. Nest
This system rather foil TO pieces. Of
course. as soon as girls learned how to
support themselves, and to control
their own lives. Sensible girls no lon
ger married because they wanted "a
home Of their own or because a young
mans prospects" were such and such,
but because they fell in love and de-
sired the happiness of a life -comrade.
But even though times have so radi-
cally changed. even though women are
immcasurably frecr than they used TO
ne, there are SUN parents VINO repeat
the outworn formula. and who subtly
and indirectly. or perhaps even openly.
encourage a girl TO make a mcrcenary
choice They teach her that If she is
once "wcll-esta blished" she can COM
mand worldly respect. she can achieve
social power. she can not only have"
everything, but get" anywhere.
I am afraid that some of the girls
who write to me have heard this sor,
OF teaching.
SO I should like to convince then,
tina; it's extremely old fashioned en-
tirely out-of-datc, the most barbarous
sort of survival
a girl who falls in love with nor
NAL. wholesome young man who loves
ficicnt extent ''marrics WE'LL If she
becomes his wife.
Truly, don't know what else she
need consider.
Money Doesn't Connt.
If a married pair achieve happi-
ness, the possession of money will
scarcely affect their contcntmcnt. one
way or the other. And If they are not
happy, everybody knows that money
vwon't make them SO. Money. then.
I. ought to be tho last thing considered
rather than the first, in choosing one 5
life-partner.
Do you really enjoy being with the
young man who wants to marry you?
Can YOU have a thoroughly good time
together even though YOU should never
so 10 q play or Il restaurant, a party!
DO you both Ike outdoor walks and do
you laugh AT the same things. and do
YOU like some. at least, of the same
books?
If you do. N1.u are. pretty safe in
marrying. even thauEh he hasn't had
raise" for a wear and Won know Won