The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1919-01-30
HEART AND BEAUTY
PROBLEMS
By MRS. ELIZABETH THOMPSON

Dear Mrs. Thompson: I have been
married for years and my life has been
happy with one exception. L used
to earn my own money and was free
Since 1 have been married 1 have had
to ask my husband for every cent L
have had, and he would not give it
to me without finding out just ex-
actly how much l needed If l hap
pened to have change left from some
purchase which did not cost what
expected he would ask for it.
Now l am having more trouble
than ever because things cost so much.
He judges by the way things cost
when we were first married and if
ask for money for shoes he gives me
the amount that 1 had before prices
went up. He also gives me a dollar
every day to spend on the table. At
night he asks if there is any change.
Sometimes there is, as there are only
the two of us to cook for.
Do you think he should have that
change? 1 think that L should be en-
titled to some amount to spend any
way L want to. 1 haven't bought my
self soda or candy in three years.
What shall 1 do?
UNHAPPY WIFE.
Keep an account book of exactly
what you spend. In one part list the
amount you spend on the table, and
in another that which you spend on
your clothes. After a month or two
show your husband what you have
done and say that you must have an
allowance to cover your expenses so
that you will not have to ask for every
penny you have. You are certainly
entitled to this and should have a
just share of what he is earning.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: I am sixteen
years of age and have known a boy
a a c 7 haU
gone to school with him for several
years and then we were separated by
changing schools and have not been
friends for the last three years.
He is Il very polite and mannerly
boy and my parents like him on that
account. 1 know he liked me because
he happened to speak about me to
other boys in my brothers presence
He has asked me to go to his folks
house and other places, but 1 didn't
care to go on account of being so
young. He brought boxes of candy to
my house, and called so my parents
could see that there wasn't anything
wrong about him.
He doesn't go with any girls and
don't go with any boys. because |
don't care for any except him.
Will you kindly tell me how tn win
him back again? DOUBTFUL
1t is not your place to renew the
acquaintance. He IS aware that you
are available and since he does not
choose to look you up, there is moth
ing you can do. Forget him as much
as possible and enjoy the people with
whom you associate. In cIinging to
the past you are letting many pleasant
and valuable Friendships slip by unno-
ticed.
Dear Mrs Thompson: / was en-
gagged to 2 soldier who has been across
a long time Since / met another SOL
der. who begged me to marry him,
and 1 promised to do so. Since then l
realized that I love the one / was first
engaged to. Both are soon to return
Should 1 tell the last one. after his re-
turn. that I no longer love him. or
write him overseas? COLUMBIA.
Write to the man now and tell him
that you find you do not love him.
Under the circumstances it will be
well to disentangle the affair as soon
as possible
Dear Mrs. Thompson: I have been
keeping company with a young man
for about seven years and altho he
seems to think a great deal of me he
has never asked me not to go with
any one else. and we are not engaged.
He has never gone with other girls in
all this time to my knowledge
think a great deal of this young
man and do not care to hurt his feel
fngs. but 1 do not think he is fair in
not telling me his intentions.
DOUBTFUL
The man is fair since he is willing
you should have other men friends
your. privilege to give him up entirely.