El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-03-14
Don't Boast That You Are Married;
Wait Till You Prove It 4 Success
Brides Often Prone To Triumph Over Unmarried
Among Their Women Friends and Bore
Them With Details of No Interest.


THERE'S a little lesson I'm manners.
1 or perhaps it's a little lesson IN
wisdom, that wish all young married
women could be persuaded TO learn
Such young married women. I mean,
as find themselves intoxicated by
what they believe TO be the import
aEce Of the married state.
To be able to call oneself a matron
is. they innocently think. achievement
And they are willing 10 betray their
consciousness OF having achieved 20 a
universe Of oaIookers.
I'm sure you know the signs. They
are familiar TO all OF us.
A tendency TO refer to "my hus-
hand" in every sentence that they ut
ter is one Of them
A habit OF saying TO girls older than
themselves. oh. but you must let me
chaperon you on such and such an oc-
casion- You know can. now" is an
other sign
A belief, betrayed continually. that
there is a great gulf between mar
ried and unmarried women. and that
they now stand forever with the elect.
is still another
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wife for being in love, or even betray-
ing TO outsiders her conviction that
she is life partner to a god. and that
her existence is uninterrupted rap
ture- An idyllic marriages is q charm
ing thing to behold.
Compliment lIatronhood.
But the thing that I am lamenting
is quite different. Il Is that false sense
OF superiority, Of importance. in youth
a obi r11n
all girls 10 be on their guard against
Don't let this matter Of being mar
ried go 70 your head There is no
reason why your whole attitude and
manner should change because you
have formed a partnership with a
pleasant. but probably. after ALL not
very important young man. or because
you have undertaken the response
bilties Of housekeeping, IN which IL
may be that many OF your unmarried
friends could excel you.
il isn't anything. after all. that sets
you apart from the race Of women.
this getting married. It's the common
lot-a universal practice Moreover.
you are not merely following the eI-
ample Of countless Erandmothers. but
you are doing thing that is Of no
public moment It's your private con-
Germ. only.
As you have doubtless noticed. the
type OF young matron that I have in
mind not only prOclaims repeatedly
10 Whomever VIII listen. that she has
husband. but the deatails Of her
housekeeping are advertised I'm her
conversation, as though they had an
Importance that mere unmarried
housekeeping never acquired
And her struggles with shopkeepers.
landlords, dressmakers and servants.
IL she has any. are thrust upon the
worlds attention with an air that she
that ceremony for which she so COM
placently robed herself I'm white satin
There is no installing the siEnifi-
canoe OF her manner. II means not
only that she herself is aware Of haV-
ing triumphed. but that she is griev-
ously sorry for those who haven't
Pity for the @Old Maid"
No fate seems to be so deserving
OF pity. and yet, at the same time. so
contemplate. as that OF the spinster-
1t is as the old maid that she thinks
Of her-and she doesn't hesitate to use
the term The unmarried woman IS
for her the unpreferred. the unloved-
the unoccupied. the useless and neg
ligible. Nor does she hesitate to let
an unmarried girl know that she has
this view.
It doesn't make her popular. Of
course-among the unmarried. But
even II she knew this I think she
wouldn't greatly care The unmarried
have 70 her mind so little prestige that
their good opinion is scarcely worth
having, just as their companionship
is not worth counting.
She prefers that her social life shall
be spent among women Of her own
rauk-the high rank Of the matrOus.
She desires that these who are her
peers, should think well OF her. But
for the rest, II doesn't greatly matter.
For a year or so one listens 10 the
continued narrative in which husband
and housekeeping figure. Then a baby
comes and usurps the leading place ia
the mothers conversation. The bride
/ have been describing becomes the
mother who always talks about her
children Does IL seem to you that
this is so bad a habit that you would
never acquire it, I assure you that
IL is wiser 10 be on the safe side.
Don't begin by making your husband
ard your cook the staples OF your con-
versation, or you viii end by being a
garrulous mother as we'll
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