The Morning Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Okla.) 1919-1927, 1919-09-03
Reverse Ratio Rule
Good Guide for
Fault Finder
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NORA COLE SKINNER

How did you and your relatives
get along this summer?
Everybody is back from the
summer trip now--that is every
? body except our 400" bur the
most OF un. 'Just folks" arc back
Many OF us visited relatives. How
did you Ike yours want TO live
n"h' door 10 them the rest OF your
days2 or viii you continue @ take
It IN annual doses
Blood Is thicker than water.
pt'cu one has a certain friend that
Is liked better than any relative.
In fact. tt IL seldom that rela-
II a "chum' hut n IL comes 10 "A
show down. whore the two ere
piuei against each other, blood
usually wins Hood ought 30 win.
family relationship rs the back
bone of society
Hut Oh. some Of our relatives!
Aren't they awful
Their greatest fault is that they
won't live and lot live. They have
to tell YOU how your fourscors
and ten must bo spent They i'm
pose upon blood I've been told
since / was a child that pcrsonali-
ttcs was the lowest grade OF con-
yorsation. thc next grade Is 10
alk uf thlnss Pnl tho thiri and
highest grade Is To talk Of idcas
Sow naturally We cant talk OF
ideas n We haven't any to talk
about And. anyway, 1t gets to he
something Of a strain when IN the
company ~ outsiders. To Keep the
rurNersltiun lofty and wc sort ~
let down when our own kith
and kin come about There's no
use preaching against this TN ones
own family though there are
r just some things that It's a waste
of breath Ia talk about. but,ws
certainly can avoid It among our
friends II not, our friends wiz
avoid VI
II have one friend" woman
writes. who is dCarer 10 me than
all my other friends for one great
and shining reason she accepts
mo AS ! am and suggests neither
changes nor prOVemcnts She.
simply goes on her way, assuming
my liberty of thought and action
toward her and her own liberty
OF thought and action toward me.
Among galaxy OF sensitive friends.
prying frionds critical friends,
and highly optimistic friends. de-
voutiy thank heaven Tor her gIor-
ious impcrsonality
Now, although they aren't
highly intellectual. can't see tina,
personalities are so dreadful II It
were not for the TACT that they
are nearly always unkind They
ara uftnn Intended to be helpful,
but remarks like-"ph. my dear.
why did you get that shade ~
green with your complexion p" or,
"lve always liked that hat since
| first saw II last summer do not
leave the friend with "A rosy out
lookNon life. II comes from a hhhl'
of studying others, and most "closr
ups reveal something that isn't
ius' 10 ones taste. II almost hor-
dcrs on hunting FOR faults, and iis
rather "A sign Of lack ot good
breeding when person gives way
to Temarking on them,
saw a melodraWa AT a sum-
mer thcater in years gone hy
wherein tho william Missed Rt the
hero. Il intend to Kill you, then III
kin her. and then III kin myself
The hero, undauntod. fllckrd "A
speck or his coat and replied
SAY, friend, II YOU have no par
tlculnr reason for sticking 10 that
Formations would YOU ACcommp-
date me by starting AT the other
end Of your list"
Now II we'd apply that to find
ing fault, just always begin with
ourselves. we would hardly be able
to got any further-and one faze
OF the dreadful "personah,les"
wAuli fade away. Theaother fnzc
"a Rat of giving unasked advice.
but column is too short for such
a subject volume could he writ
ten on that and even then have
the last linc read "But what's tho
use'"