El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-02-21
Women Who Neglect Their Talents
When Married Make Great Mistake
She VIII Need All the Interests She Can Lay Hold of
In Her Married Life, and Should Endeavor To Be
An Active Personality; A Husband Looks For
Something More Than Mere Beauty and Charm.

3 isolation with the man they are 10
marry. Friends are cast into the SCRAP
i heap along with interests and accom-
plishments
I'm giving ID my really close. init
mate friends" a young bride declared
I TO me the other day. I think after a
girl is married she doesn't need any
friends but her husband"
Making Yourself UninterestinE-
Now what does this really mean2
Does il mean that a girl really ex-
poets TO give u or Il hours a day TO
cooking and sock darning, that this
wonderful new life Of love and prom
Use is TO be merely an interrupted
round or drucgery-
she would deny anything OF the
sort.
Or does she have an underlined be-
lief that she is making herself more
attractive. more desirable, by oblit-
Grating her own mind and personality
as far as possible and becoming a sort
OF hlottinE paper 10 the expression
OF her husbands ideas and interests
Or does she think its part OF the
pomp and state OF being married TO
parade the fact that n woman who is
equipped with a husband has only
domestic accomplishments and only
"Wifely" notions?
Not many men nowadays marry
with an expert domestic servant. And
hope there aren't many women who
are willing TO be married for that
purpose alone.
Sensible men and women marry
because they love each other. because
they expect to help each other. and
because they hope TO be the parents
OF beautiful, healthy children
And isn't il perfectly plain that a
woman can't possibly become a cana
bic wife and mother just by making
herself undressing
in fact. just the contrary IS true.
u you who read this are at that
delicate and perilous moment OF be-
ginning your married life. that mo-
ment when il is so easy to make grave
mistakes and so hard to repair them
let me urge you not to give up
anything that viii make life richer
and wider and more significant
Try to Enlarge Your Life.
You VIII need all the interests YOU
can lay hold Of Don't Imagine that
marriage can be made successful by
continual love making alone. Don't
subject your husband TO the strain
OF making him think for two Be an
Independent personality.
II your object in marriage Is 10
keep your husbands love. you'll have
TO lind some other way OF doing this
than by merely being pretty and
cute II You know anything about
music OF books or business or ont
doors hold fast 10 IT, You can make
10 your contribution TO married life
! on can make your married compan-
ionship matter OF healty give-and- I
ase- II the marriage conducted on I
mat principle that are the successful 4
And as FOR giving up your friends
merely in order TO concentrate on vorr 4
husband, assure you that you should 4
nave Just the opposite aim It has
soil Fumes pitfully. sometimes trag-
icaily happened that husbands who 1
are the objects OF too steady con-
.enlratlon became just a little bored. !
and this is thing 10 avoid. Il nos
sible.
Instead OF stripping your life OF
friends. you should try 70 make vour
7ew home a center Of friendship.
Make u gathering place that viii
ave real ard precious meaning. not
'nly 70 you two who love each other
'ut 70 your whole circle. And let the
arele grow all the time.
eighteen year old bdires don't often
ace the fact OF marriage as a whole
ney are even sometimes so child like
-lu snoFL sighted that they fail TO
axe motherhood into account.
Equipment for Motherhood.
They are so occupied with heinz
made love to that they don't think
cry much about that glorious privi-
eye ahead Of them. Their Impractical
llan- IN fact, is 10 shut themselves
-p IN very new little home and be
made love 10 for a lifetime
hlt even II this plan would work
which Il doesn't, what moor n-s-s-
ation Tor motherhood 1t implies.
A mother who has given IN friends
7 1srests. talents, occupations. ideals
2 me mistaken belief that this fS =
I lIes DUTY naturally viii have nofb-