South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1919-09-15

right 10 the very core Of my heart
They are so diferent-the letters
but most Of them are puzzled, or
unhappy. or desperate. or at least
complaining.
Here's a letter from a woman who
has suffered and grieved and hoped
and prayed and cried and despair
ed. and kept on fighting-and won.
It's wonderful letter! I'd like
to print it in syllables of gold upon
a tablet Of shining silver, and put
it up in the market place for every
unhappy. discouraged woman TO
read.
Also. would like TO lead every
foolish. impulsive girl to this letter
and make her read it-when she's
deciding 10 marry man to reform
him or 10 lead him to his better
self.
Here it is. Read it. and love. hon
or and respect the writer of it.
Dear Winifred Black
In last nights paper 1 read the
letter which was written 10 you by
a Girl Who Does Not Know What
to Do" Go slow, my dear, go slow.
l am only % years old. but with
in the last four years have lived
some other womans lifetime and
have lived the life you foresee for
her
At 10 / married a man of 81
just exactly the type your perplexed
letter friend wrote about.
Against tbs advice of mother fam
lily. friends and my better judg-
ment, 1 married him. l was young
vain. frivolous, overload of a good
time. but had one redeeming char
acteristic. l was loyal and true to
any one whom l loved
1 have suffered, yes-Oh. my
God. what have 7 suffered, to bring
myself and husband where we are
today,
Nights of Planning.
I have worked and been ashamed
been Inundated and degraded in
my friends eyes, and endless times
l have queried, lis il worth while -
But Something don't know what
-impelled me to forgive and for
get But in spite of the fact that
have had to do without good times
clothes. money and food. I now pos
sess what is much more worth
while. a calm, peaceful mind. and
respect for my husband. which
came very near losing.
1t has taken me many long and
sleepless nights 10 plan out my next
days line of tactics 10 use i'm con-
trolling my husband and my own
hasty temper Ii has been very
hard to give in when / knew I was
right and he became stubborn aft
er an argument. but my patience
was always rewarded
Now was it merely infatuaticn
or was it really love? I know not
/ His was the fourth offer Of mar.
I riage l had had. and the others al
were much more desirable from ev.
cry ones point of view, and al
could have given me splendid
! homes. money-even a maid-al
worth while to some women. but
1 chose him. 1 know that no mat
| ter what he has done / have for
given, not through love, al that
time-of tat i am perfectly sure
but because OF feeling whi,I
have always called faith. for lnt
OF more definite name. II is sc
strong that 1t has overcome anger
hunger humiliation and neglect.
1 have an extremely queer habit
OF not giving in TO a situation whicr
l know can be remedied. I would
| SIT up most Of the night looking VI
references for composition. or tC
/ get the answer TO an arithmetic puz.
| zle. and would have no peace o,
/ mind until I did get It and the sub
| ject had become clear 10 me, to my
own satisfaction So I would not al
low myself TO be frightened ant
| nervous over life. What II woulC
+ hand ne I would make turn on
for my good. and I am sure il did
The Wonderful Change.
But now, thank goodness, I car
say, Il am glad-yes, thankful
that I have been through the mil
I 'e-tNA NA@ANA SCA q rcLAANAt NAEdAAtA
healthier woman"
Ny husband spends his spar,
/ hours planning our future; for W,
! are now only on the second rung o.
! the ladder But with his ambition
and thoughtfulness now for hi
! home, his wife and 2Ik -year-oyC
baby girl. he will go higher.
He Is always ready nowadays witt
a kind and CHEEKY word. a quicl
smile, a helping hand and is con
| sideration personifed But let n,
| che imagine that we have becom,
old fOgies in thus changing for tn,
better Far from II. as we regu
! larly attend the theater and once
month an informal dance at hi
club.
What a change in four shor
! years. But I can thank heaven il fl
over. and not to be lightly under
taken again.
DO not allow your common sens,
to get the best Of you when some
thing else calls you to do what &
foolish. or seems 10 be. Poor read
er friend. I would like 10 hear from
her five years from now.
REHABILITATED