The Washington times., 1919-10-21


w pears that every woman in
4. washIngton wants to be charmins
. TO ,sonre particular man. over anu
over again they ask:
What shall / do to make him
think I'm wonderful?
What can / talk about to hold
HIS attention?
How shall I act to attract HIM
What shall read?
Where can study?
I In the first place / wish that my
rfrls would not think OF love as the
ke-au and end-all OF existence. In
these glorious days when more and
more doors OF opportunity are
opening to girls and women. 1 wish
women would yearn to organize
their plan Of life more after fash
Ion of men,
with a man, work, in capital let
ters. comes first. Always second
{ ary come his affairs Of heart. Sim
1 gle or married. he puts most OF his
dine and energy into figuring out
how he can further his ambitions
IN hfs own particular line of work.
He has the facile knack Of forget
ding women while he's at work. At
the end of the day, undoubtedly he
looks forward to seeing some par
ucular woman In the morning his
whole concentration is on "the
office"
The letters Of girls and women re-
veal that even during business
hours they are fretting and fuming
over last nights disappointing en-
gagement with some man and wor-
rying whether tonight's meeting
viii be more propitious.
Men Do Not Admire
Pursuing Woman
And. curiousIy enough. this men
tai attitude is probably the last
way 20 win attention from men. I'll
venture to say that a woman is
never more unattractive to a man
than when she Is living, thinking,
Breathing his name and her affec-
ton for him. Equally so a woman
is never more aIluring to a man
than when she is going about her
own affairs. apparently wholly OBJ
uvious to men and mems attentions.
Who was the wise old French
cynie who said: The unfsithful-
ness OF the women / love does not
concern me one-half as much as the
gaithfulness of the women who love
me-"
Many a girl asks herself: why
Is it that John and Jimmy, for
whom 1 don't care a rap, pursue
me with their attentions, and Dick.
for whom I'd lie down and die. just
doesn't pay the least attention, to
me-
The answer is that men always
did ana always will want what
thes can't get and turn away in
boredom from anything that In
served up to them on a platter.
That's why courting days are plus
and married life Is minus With most
men the contest won. the game Sc
cured Is like yesterdays news
dead. cold. stale.
know q very clever girl who has
never married. although she has
had countless proposals. Her ex-
nianation r.: They proposed be-
them II ! had, / wouldn't have
dust"
Perhaps she's a bit cynical. Per-
haps she's right At any rate. she
has sweet memories of those men
and every one of them Is her friend
for life Those that are single are
still proposing. Those that have
married. some one else would hunt
her up the moment they became a
widower She has all the charm
of the conquest that has never been
made. She knew better than to
Top weakly into the arms of the
first or even the second or third
man, who declared himself
Scared Away By
Rushing Tactics
Il firmly believe that more girls
scare men away by rushing things
than in any other way. A young
man pays them some attention. ap-
pears To be interested, takes them
oht a bit. Immediately the air be-
comes permeated with the sound
81 wedding bells and the odor of
orange blossoms. They let the man
hear the rattle of future chains He
ducks in the nick OF time
No man ever intends to marry
not downright deliberate intention.
Ask any married man. He'll tell
YOU 10 was all over before he real
lied what IL was all about Men
are like gamey birds. You've got
% snare them when they're not
looking or they ny anyway up
into the blue.
That's the reason women who
proclaim they are welded to their