The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1919-01-11
HEART AND BEAUTY
PROBLEMS
BY MRS. ELIZABETH THOMPSON.

Dear Mrs. Thompson: 1 have been
married twelve years and have three
little children. I have had reason to
believe that my husband was true to
me and loved no one else, but now l
am beginning to doubt him.
When SO many of our men were
called away by the draft he was pro-
NOTED and in his new position he has
a stenographer under him. He and
the stenographer are in a room all by
themselves working. She is a very
pretty girl and one he could very
easily love except for her character.
We live out of town and my husband
has been picking up this girl and
taking her to work. He also drives
her home. Even when 1 am in town
and go home with him he takes her
along.
Now he has told me that he thinks
we should have her out to dinner
some night. L think this is going too
far. He must think 1 am blind IL
can't see what is going on right under
my nose.
What can 7 do to make him behave
himself? Shall 1 have a plain talk
with him? ANXIOUS WIFE.
You may be sure that if your hus-
band were not honorably interested in
the stenographer he would hide the
evidence of his interest from you and
the public.
1t is a common thing now for men
to drive office girls to and from work.
Every generous-hearted man does so
IL it is not an inconvenience.
Probably the stenographer is valu-
able help and he wants her to feel
contented in her position. AS a means
to promote friendly feeling he would
b H. to- III Il
where she can meet his wife and chill
dren.
You have absolutely no cause to be
jealous and should be glad that he
trusts in your hospitality and faith in
him. The firm would not place hin.
in the position he now holds il they
did not believe in his character.
Entertain the girl as he asks you to
and make up your mind to like her.
Absolutely never say anything against
her to your husband.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: How long do
you think girl should be engaged be-
fore she is married / went with a
boy year before he went to war and
for several months before we were
engaged. Now he has returned and
wants me to marry him soon. My
mother is anxious to have me wait
another year before doing so. He
he wants me not later than June. /
don't know what to do. / am twenty
four years old and think | am old
enough to marry when I want to. Ny
fiance is thirty now. He was saving
money before he went away. Now he
has a good position and there is no
reason why we should not sta TT out
together soon. What do you think /
ought to do2 DOUBTFUL
AS a rule / do not approve Of long
enga gements for a girl of your age.
who is old enough to know her mind.
/ should say that June would be a
good time to marry. If you wait
longer you will not feel the same
great interest in your plans. IL is
only natural that your mother should
be reluctant to give you up. In such
matter, however. it is necessary TO
consider the mans wishes as well as
your mothers.
Dear Mrs Thompson: A boy says
he loves me and / believe he does.
He goes with another girl / have
other boy friends and it makes him
angry. / have told him I like him
better than other boys. and il is true.
but while he goes with another. has
he any right TO care with whom
make friepds2 DIMPLES
He has not