Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1919-04-13
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX

Stalling yourselves in that fiat you
have been planning so absorbedly
tor a year or so.
In any case you two young lovers
Nave been able to be together, and
alone for : the first time in your
lives, and you haven't missed the
rest of the world a bit
You have continually reminded
each other of your happiness, and
you have asked each other, rather
too often, perhaps, "Shall we ever
be as happy again"
That is to say, you have distrusted
your happiness even at its height;
you've had more than a fear, you've
had almost a dark certainty, that it
couldn't possibly last.
It's been very wonderful, this
honeymoon. 1t would really have
been joy without faw-if you could
only have believed in it. But all your
life you've heard the world say that
homogeneous don't last, that the
beautifully bright fame of love
yields shortly to the ashes of dull
ness and indifference and that all
the rest of life amounts to not much
more than hard daily struggle with
practical facts and conditions.
It's no wonder you've believed
this, the repetition has been so con-
slant. It's no wonder that you've be-
lieved that every pair of lovers in
the world must succumb to the SUI
perstition that love can last but a
month.
A Dark View Of Life.
A brief honeymoon of bliss-then
a long lifetime of logged endurance.
It's a dreamy program. isn't it? And
when you recall the extent to which
most of us have secretly believed in
it you wonder that love has kept its
good name and that anybody has
been willing to marry.
1t is time, | think, that we looked
into the honeymoon superstition.
1t is time that lovers learned how
to prolong their love, instead of
sacrificing it to a DOGGY of pessim-
ism
Why shouldn't honeymoon happi-
ness last?
We have to admit that there are
cases where it can't. But these are
mostly cases where the lovers are
of the greatness of love.
Gases where man regards wife
as a possession. and having secured
her, Immediately begins to be dicta-
torial, and perhaps little brutal, so
that.love becomes crippled forever.
Or cases where woman is selfish
and spoiled and eXacting, so that
love grows changed ;nG tongue-tied.
Or cases where some unpleasant
personal habit, like greediness or
makes love ashamed of
itself.
But, after all, it's not of these
cases that we are speaking.
Truly loving and worthy
lovers should be able to keep their
love alive. even though every cynlc
in the world shall tell them that mar
rage is the end of love. /
And you who have been married
4 month, have you begun to guess
how it may be done? |
How Keep Love Alive.
Let me give you a suggestion or
TWO. For one thing, don't let too
great a difference in interests arise !!
between you and your husband. |
Love don't live without companion
ship. I'll admit that. And companion
ship demands that as many of your
interests as possible be shared.
By this | mean: Don't be domestic
% the exclusion of everything else.
Does this horrify you? Have you
been taught that a-Woman can't be
TOO domestic, that the more time |
she spends in cooking for her man,
nsewing and in cleaning for him,
the better wife she is?
And yet you must have noticed
that women who do spend all their
time and strength in domestic ener-
gy, aren't often objects of romantic
love to their husbands, and have
themselv, usually lost-sight of what
ove is.
| don't mean that if you assume
the responsibility of a household |
you oughtn't to do the job well. Dis
orderly houses and bad meals are a
iisgrace always, from the point of
view of airy sane person. But if you
want to keep your love alive, don't
ct your housework consume you
Utterly. Resist that calamity.
And be sure that you reserve free
mercy to help your husband escape
he danger, which naturally is that
f being consumed by business.
Persuade him to go to the country
With you on Sundays. 1t will be the
icest thing you both can do, even
it involves sacrifice. 1t will keep
ou young and fresh, and make you
to each other-and keep
owe alive.
Do you get the idea? Don't with
raw into a world of saucepans and
tooms whence you can only signal
0 husband, who for his part, ber
ONES more and more tightly locked
p in world of bookkeeping or
alesmanship. 1t isn't necessary.
md the result will be unhappy. 1t
viii mean that Sunday you will find
hat you two, who were once each
theirs universe, will find that you
ant talk to each other interestedly |
or five minutes. And the HONEYMOON
viii indeed seem very far behind.
Will parenthood Do Tt3
Some young wife will ask me why
is necessary for married lovers to
make a point of reading books to-
ether and taking walks together
1hen sooner or later they will
hare the most absorbing interest
hat it is possible to have, which is
abies. !
1t is true that babies are the most
wonderful bond conceivable. Yet