El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-03-04
Ordinary Man of Business Makes
Poor Showing as 4 Cave Denizen
Girls Vary With Their Temperament As To the Sort
of Wooing They Respond To and Attempt to Make
Love-Making Rules Must End In Failure.

Z corresuondent has fallen On love with.
he has found a girl who IS con-
genial mentally and who Is an enter
/ tanning companion and who seems to
that he IS OF marrlaseable age and
that he has a comfortable income he
suggests. politely and considerably,
that they establish a domestic part
nership. Perhaps he is Just a little
licht and casual and Incidental IN
making this suggestion OF his. because
he doesn't wish TO put himself in the
position OF being rebuffed-
Why Hasn't He Won Herf
But he doesn't expect the girl he
has chosen 20 be light. also That
she should decline 20 discuss the mat
ter fs something he isn't prepared for
He knows she likes him. ne believes
she has good reason to- What In the
world can be the matter with herr He
gives the matter good deal Of
thought
At last a suspicion comes 90 him
This girl friend Of his isn't Ike some
other girls he has known she has a
heart She has emotions There Is
something very real about her. IL she
promised TO love q man. she would
mean IT,
can It be that before she makes any
such promise. she expects 70 be made
love tor
To ten the truth. though. he be-
lleVes himself IN love; be shrinks from
love making. That IS, he'd ike very
much TO kiss her once or twice and
give her an engagement ring and cul-
tiVate sense OF possession IN regard
20 her.
But love making IN the grand style.
love making that demands phrases he
knows he could never think OF. cra-
matte and serious promises and eX-
Hsa . a
that high handed way OF beating down
q woman's more or less faint resist
ance that he rather flippantly refers
20 as cave man stuff well, frank
~. all that isn't In his line
It's too much 10 ask Of him. he
thinks. Isn't IL enough II you express
a wish 20 marry a girlE Oughtn'r
that 20 content herr Why need she
be COY and evasive2 why need she
hold out for something that he hasn't
CounterfeltInE Love.
Shall he confess that he hasn't IT.
Or shall he pretend that he has2 That
is. shall he fake" his love making2
or shall he withdraw from the situa-
ton altogether, and when the time
comes round console himself with a
different type Of girl2
Frankly, 10 Is a problem
One can't sOberly counsel q young
man OF the easy gong Unconditional
q pc 20 counterfeit the emotions o. a
cave man." whatever they may be.
In order 20 take the girl he wants 20
marry by storm Doubtless he wouldn't
succeed, anyway And deception IS a
very poor way Of proving ones self
lover.
The truth IS that there Isn't any
short cut 20 the heart Of a Ei-l who
wants TO be wooed before she Gives
her love. So I am afraid the Young
man who wishes everything settled
IN a business ike. five minute con-
versation, who thinks serious Wooing
is a matter Of too much time and
trouble and temperament VIII either
have 20 abandon the girl his eye IS
fixed on and choose a shalloWer type,
OF else he VIII have 10 wait until love
stIrs more profoundly IN himself
And when he does really love. We
all know that love making won't seem
the burden 10 him that &c does now. a
thing 10 Jest about and avoid II one
possibly can. All the suddenly aWak-
ened cave nan" VIII spring TO the
surface. And all he viii ask for VII
be the opportunity to pursue his swift
and determined wooing-
Perhaps this viii never happen Per
haps he will never know the deepest
meaning Of love IN that case. I hope
he may find some girl who viii not de-
mand more than he can give, and that
il their life together doesn't prove
highly Interesting 4 VIII a. least be
Tranquil