El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1919-01-11
GirIInLove Should Talk Over Her
Emotions and Consult With Mother
Parents Part Is To Establish Channel of Sympathy
Between Her Child and Herself and Be Always
Ready To Sympathize With Problems OF Life.

z1es 10 somebody who can help. II
will tell everything in its heart II u
knows IT can trust you and believes 10
your sympathy
begin as early as possible 10 establish
a channel OF sympathy between her
self and her child. Let IL feel that
there's somebody who is always ready
TO listen. who always cares, and who
won't scold or be unkind. whatever
has happened
This viii take patience and self con-
troll but isn't IL worth whileI And
I isn't il up to" you, anyway. II you
are going TO be any sort OF a credit
able parent2 You see, there are a
great many things that you'll never
know about your child unless he tells
Won himself But YOU can't force him
to confide in you. Therefore, II you
want to be his best friend, and the
! person he'll turn TO. it's you who must
I take the lead.
Parents are sometimes resentful
when boys and girls Of perhaps II and
I u. having discovered the need Of an
older friend to confide in, have found
{ this confidant outside their homes.
Sometimes a child chooses a sympa-
{ thetic teacher for this purpose And
I in a week the teacher knows the child
better than its mother does Most
mothers are Jealous OF an outside in
[ timacy of this sort But they must
: see that it's their own fault II they
don't supply the child's need for 4
I wise best friend
Z It's important. OF course. 10 have
4 the confidence of a young child But
/ a really intelligent mother knows that
] it's even more lmpOr ,ant 10 have Ia :
J sympathetic relation with boys and
Z girls in their teens
! The First Life Problem
! When your boy and girl tackle their
a. I'D
! selves fac ng their first real problem,
I either they viii lovingly come to you
4 with the whole story. counting or
+ your advice and support, or they viii
miserably keep it to themselves. and
you will find yourself outside their
! lives. a stranger
And it mu be a bitter thing for
/ a mother to be a stranger TO her chill
dren at the very time when they most
need her.
It's a pitiful story. that of the tor
tured. puzzled mother and the suffer
ing daughter with the sealed lips. II
must be that they both long TO talk
freely TO each other Blu there's that
/ closed door of habit between them
that neither Of them can unlock Il
may be that a few words would SUI
flee to answer those unasked ques-
tons. and bring back serenity to that
! household But the words can't be
spoken. and the mother and daughter
are forced 10 go on leading their SUI
ferlug. lonely. alien lives
OF all thrilling condolences that e
boy or girl can make. what can be
I more significant than the first love
experience Perhaps nothing IN life
will ever seem so real and wonderful
again Perhaps they viii never be SO
keenly. buoyantly happy It's almost
imperative that they tell this radiant
story to somebody. chapter after chap
ter Of il. Wouldn't you like TO be the
person that they'll tell IL to-
Or perhaps its's another kind OF a
J love-story. with a sudden ending,
and a troubled heart. and tears
. wouldn't you wish even more. TO be
: the kind OF mother from whom a
/ child didn't keep that story secret!
. / II You hope to make a success OF
t motherhood. try to be your child's
= best friend.