Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1919-02-25

her with propriety. Perhaps they
are not. She wishes she knew.
The next step is that he asks her
to dinner and the theatre.
Shall She Dine with Him:
| And this is rather too much for
her. Though she dislikes being con-
sidered a prude, she thinks she
oughtn't to do this. And she tells
him so. So he takes some trouble to
convince her that there's no ground
whatever for her scruple and that
he is offering her the most innocent
pleasure in the world.
He doesn't always succeed in con-
Vincing her. But he usually sue
ceeds in persuading her to go, which
is different matter
But why shouldn't she go? some
one will ask. Why shouldn't a young
girl who drudges all day accept
whatever distraction is offered her
when work hours are over?
Thats easily answered.
In the first place. employers have
habit of being married. 1t is true
that married employers who invite
sirl stenographers out to dinner
usually explain that their wives are
out OF town or hopeless invalids or
something of the sort. But does
THIS lessen the injury to the girls
reputation that repeated dinners and
theatres in his company will bring
about2
But even if he isn't married,
there's only one chance in a thou
SAND that he has any other purpose
than a dangerous Irritation. And
the outcome of this will be that the
unsophisticated girl. fattered. fas-
clnated, dazzled, will find herself
seriously in love with a man who
mas no intention of marrying her
you see. it's playing with fire-that
game as old as the world.
10 all girls who hold positions
unoer men employers, I have to
oner bit of prosaic advice. l beg
them TO keep their heads.
ImpersOnaI Role Safest
DO your best from the beginning
10 De lmpersonal. as I suggested. If
you are SO highly attractive and
your employer so susceptible that
TINS won't work-if he insists on
talking to you as though you were
pretty woman and not a piece of
Office furniture-try not to take his
advances seriously. You may be sure
ne is not serious in making them.
Try to be older and wiser than
you are. Don't let it all fiuster Won.
You have your own life to lead as
Well as your own living to make
You can't afford to let yourself be
even the least bit emotionaily up
set by man who means nothing.
Being cool--headed is an excellent
policy. 1t will do a great deal for
you. It Will discourage office f1irta-
ton to great extent, But it won't
do everything.
A girl may be perfectly discreet
In her conduct ana yet find herself
irrestibly influenced by the delight
fully personal conversation of the
good looking man at the large desk
in the inner office.
The day even comes when she
knows she's in love with him.
What shall I do?" she asks me
in dismay and fear.
There's only one thing to do
whether you're in love with your
married employer, or your EMPLOYER
persistently tries to f1irt with YOU.
You must give up your position.
1 wish girls had more courage
about taking this step. I know il
isn't always easy to find a new iob
But week or so out of work is
nothing compared to a serious emo
tional ENHANCEMENT that may lessen
your working capacity for a long
time.
Drop the whole thing. Get out of
the office atmosphere. It's the only
way. Try to be a big, strong, free
woman, and don't let the course of
your life be turned aside by a man
who's merely using you as a pastime,