The Birmingham age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1902-1950, 1919-11-10

One should be courteous because it is
right to be so. 1t is also said that in
proportion to cost, there is nothing
that yields such good returns as cour-
tesy. One can never tell who can
help or harm, if not from a higher
motive, it is essential to cultivate the
good will of everyone, whether in
high or low station. Even animals
are responsive to kind treatment, and
people are more so.
very valuable thing is to remem-
Der names and faces. Because names
are misunderstood, owing to the con-
fusion which often attends introduce
lions, it is important to make sure
of a persons name before leaving
MIN. People appreciate being remem-
bered, because they are so often for
gotten; and it can be depended upon,
that the capacity to do we'll what
most people do badly is sure to gain
recognition. In these days of close
competition, the young person or the
new institution that would gain a
foothold. must be able to do some
things. at least, little better than
others are doing them.
To remember a persons occupation is
almost equivalent to knowing his name;
and it is more easily recalled, for while
names are numbered by thousands, &C.
equations are limited to hundreds. In
this connection, it is said that one
who has a thousand acquaintances,
knows much larger number of peo-
pie than the average man. If ones
circle of acquaintances numbers less
than 1000 people. it is evident that
by use of care, the great majority of
them can be remembered.
1t is rarely, if ever, advisable to tell
ones business. People do not care
to hear of your successes, and to tell
them of your failures lowers you in
their estimation. 1t is extremely I'M
wise to disparage ones self in any
way; on the other hand it is unpar
donable to boast of anything one has,
whether of natural gifts, or of things
that have been acquired. 1t is said
that there are three things you do not
need to say you possess, namely,
money brains and religion This is on
the principle that If you have any
one of these gifts. the fact will be dis
covered without our publishing it.
Carolyn Prescott says: TT was the
French Due de la Rochefoucauld who
said: To get on in the world we must
by all means take care to seem to be
getting on Pretty good advice to
those who are trying to get there, look
prosperous. even though you are not
And If you cannot look as prosperous
as you think you ought, look as pros
porous as yon can. Whether you are
man or woman, it pays to look the part.
There seems to be some relationship
between misfortune and appearances.
The man who is successful looks it;
the man who is all in really looks
as though he were in that very condi-
ton, from the hang of his loose,
slouchy, wrinkled coat to the fringed
hem of his trousers. There seems to
be some psychological relationship be-
tween his clothing and himself"
INTOXICATING DRINKS
Attention has often been called to
the cavalier and the puritan types of
people Both have good traits, but
the division between them is plainly
marked About rs years ago. Henry
watterson delivered lecture in which
he stated that one of the underlying
causes of the civil war, was the con-
flict which in other countries had ex-
listed between these types of people.
The cavalier has good social qualities,
and is often inclined to conviviality,
arguing that one should enjoy all the
good things of life, but indulge in them
moderately.
with the utmost Difference to the
opinions of others, the writer believes
that there are some indulgences too
hazar dous to engage in, even in a tenn
perate way, and this is especially true
of indulgence in intoxicating bever-
ages 1t is hard enough to succeed,
without weakening ones chances by
forming a dangerous ha bit. The law
of averages is strongly against drink
ing at all, because, where one person
can do so in moderation, a hundred
cannot.
BUSINESS RELATIONS
Unfriendly rivalry in a business or
social way are especially to be avoid
ed The talents which people pos
sess are usually born in them. and
there is no reason to be envious of
what providence has given another.
While the good will of everyone is to
be desired and cultivated, some make
grave mistake by endeavoring to
form friendships only with the wealthy
or influential. People of moderate
means are often of more help than those
who occupy high stations.
The practice of saying nothing about
a person. except 1t he something good,
is most desirable. Sometim the view
point of people is so different that
they cannot associate tremendously
and under such circumstances, it is
advisable to avoid friction by sever
ing relations. Personal alterations
should, as far as possible, be avoided.
and it Is usually possible to avoid
them But il man must fight, it is
better to do SO in self-defense, and in