The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1918-05-15
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BY CYNTHIA TREY

Dear Miss Grey: l wish ~
have my sons adenoids re'Iov-
ed. Is 1t safe to have it done
while the weather is yet unset
tied? l have heard that very
severe complications might Sc.
in IL he should catch cold.
MOTHER.
There Is little danger OF taking
cold I'm this operation IL ordinary
recautiOn is used. Follow the adj
vice Of your physician and all will
60 well.
Dear Miss Grey: have been
married two months and my
husband and l are both quick
tempered. Whenever we start
teasing one another it always
ends in a quarrel. Please ad-
wise me how we can get along
as / hate Quarreling and ii
feelings. n.
The solution to your problem is
so simple that l wonder you took
the time and trouble to write.
Stop teasing one another. Unless
done and accepted i'm the very
best Of good humOr, hurt feelings
for someone is sure to result. IL
is q safe rule never to indulge in
personal remarks unless they are
of q pleasant nature.
Dear Miss Grey: Almost
every morning my husband tells
me what a shiftless, worthless
life I am living. 1t has become
such bugbear to me that | an
driven to distraction. We have
two children and employ a maid
to help with the homework.
Besides directing my household
and caring for my children,
give considerable time to educa-
tional and Red Cross work.
do not consider that l am frit
tering my time away.
Before my marriage | held a
good position. | could do /.
again, but l do not like to leave
the children all day in the care
of another. My husband is a
selfish, grasping man, to whom
nothing appeals like employ
ment in business. He has good
qualities, which | magnify as
much as possible in order to
make life livable. / find my
happiness depends greatly on
his good opinion and at present
he is badly out Of patience with
me. Miss Grey, just want TO
ask you, is it my duty, in this
day of the worlds need, to de-
vote my time to money-getting
instead of lifting a little of hui
manity's burden?
WIFE AND MOTHER.
A wife whose husband is able to
provide for his family should not
do remunerative work, unless il in
no way interferes with her home
duties and it Is the work abo,c
all other which should give her
happiness. This is not the fact in
your case. You prefer the work
you are now engaged In and arc
entitled to make your choice. Be-
sides, If you take q business posi-
ton you keep out some girl who
needs IL.
Some women must do this out.
side work. Your problem is to
make your husband see that 1t is
necessary. Persuade him to at
tend some Of the mems patriotic
meetings. He might there absorb
more of the spirit Of the times, for
he would learn that men and
women Of large ability and possess
sions are giving their time I'M
selfishly to the worlds needs. He
would i'm time have . feeling of
pride that you have a part in such
work.
Keep on making your home an
attractive place. Please your hus-
band In every possible way. But
when your duty in this respect is
done your leisure time is your own
and you may occupy IL as you
think best.
Dear Miss Grey: I am going
to get a divorce from my hus- :
band as he has been too mean
to live with any more. After
I am divorced can I buy prop
erty In my name or is there any
certain time I must wait after
that? A WIFE.
After you obtain your divorce
decree you may enjoy the Same
property rights you did when you