El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1918-10-12

ElE you aLEalQ OF 4-AGa
II That IS are you afraid OF love.
marriage and motherhood? Or. II not
precisely that, are you afraid OF the
responsibilities and the often tire
some duties that these other great
privileges are pretty sure to eutail7
Are you very proud OF your indie
nendence and security and thrift, and
90 you value that weekly pay en-
velope OF yours almost more than
anything else in the world? And
somewhere in the hack OF your mind.
as black and heavy as an iron ball
and chain. IS there a dread OF becom-
ing a captive Of the kitchen and the
motive power for q baby carriage with
no evenings out Of Sundays off and no
pay envelope whatever
wish that 7 might personally
persuade every girl who supports her
self and is justly proud or doing 50
rnar there IS larger way OF looking
at life than the way 20 which she
may have accustomed herself I wish
I could make her see that the ability
that brings q market price Is an asset
that counts In marriage and not a
merely maidenly attribute that fades
out OF sight with the slipping on OF
the wedding ring
II a man loves you love him, don't lie
the thought Of your present pay en-
TelOpe Of that future dishDan prevent
you from marrying him. What would
become OF the homes and the children
Of the future II the strong, self sup
porting girls avoided marriage and II
became the refuge Of the weak in
caFableE
There are some general considera-
tons that all girls viii do well to re-
~ nnn III e ~
lives have reached a turning point,
that there IS a decision TO be made
Danger Of Cyuicism-
First don't let any Job come to
seem to you more important than 10
really is. You may have a remark
able talent for Bookkeeping as wen
as for order and system and neat
ness generally. 1t IS quite likely that
all your superiors in the office have
assured you OF this and that you have
come TO feel pretty certain that the
work OF the office couldn't get On
without you. This is a very pleasant
feeling. and there is something al
most Intoxicating about It too.
You know yourself how Il often
leads you TO work over time and some
times even 10 give up your Saturday
afternoons. Then IL may be that dur
ing your childhood you shared a
sordid family struggle with poverty
and that you got bitterly tired Of dis
order and overweight nerves and Of
there never being cutie enough OF
anything TO 90 around And the order
and Independence that you have
achieved are so precious that I know
you are often a little cynical about
mere sentiment
All this Is quite natural. And one
zdmires the girl who respects her
self and likes her FOB and excels IN #.
Only, don't let It lead you TO despise
love and lovers. Don't be afraid TO let
yourself love the man who has chosen
you and needs you Al the great
realities OF life are within your reach
Can Keep On Working.
Now you have all along taken Il
for granted, perhaps, that you couldn't
work after marriage But don't let
any old fashioned counselor, even your
1iance himself, persuade you that this
Is necessarily true A husbands dig
nifty isn't in the least impaired II the
wife chooses to contribute the con-
tents Of second pay envelope, to the
family purse II she has a talent
for bookkeeping and that dread Of
the dishpan I have referred to. why
not continue with the bookkeeping.
married or not2 Her salary will make /
II easily possible for her 10 pay some I
one else 10 do the homework that she I
3 obliged to leave undone. and the I
family sitting room at night viii be ]
Ear more cheerful and interesting
place than 81 she had forced herself !
TO do the work that to her is merely /,
hateful drudgery.
know scores Of homes where the /
husband and wife each start out for !
their days work with positive gay /
ETY. ike Two comrades, shoulder to i
shoulder and at night return with 7
more 20 tell each other than there
IS ever time for. Does it work2 OIL
course II does. Not only with the
wife, but with the husband In fact,
u IS especially educstive where the
husband Is concerned And you may