The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1918-05-01
There Is No Prettler Picture,
Woman Writer Says, Than
Middle Aged Couple Who
Have Worked Out Own
Prosperity and Are Happy,
By DOROTHY DIX,
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman
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Writer.
have a letter from a girl who
says
How far have mothers a righ
tJ interfere in their daughters love at
loirs2 | Am engaged to young mai
who has every good quality excep
money. He is sober. moral and indus
trious, but my mother absolutely re
fuses her consent 10 our marriage, ant
say that if do marry this man tina
she will never forgive me or have any
thing to do with me again.
''Do you think that my mother L
wrong in her attitude II | am no
afraid OF poverty and hard work, VIII,
Should she be for me2 After all, II /
who will have 10 live with the mar
marry. not my mother, and II seem'
to me that il is more important that
should be pleased in the matter thar
she"
Girl Is Right
OF course the girl is right in this
Husbands and wives are as purely 4
matter OF taste as whether YOU like
Onions with YOUR becisteak or not an,
those who have to endure daily dlc' o
them for thirty or forty years SHOULD
certainly have the consolation OF pick.
ING out their particular flavor
Each OF us has the inaienable r,gh'
20 make our own matrimonial mistake
and II there could be some diSpaSNon'
ate and unprcIudlCcd commission ap-
pointed to inquire into when parents are
right. and when wrong, in opposing
their daughter choice OF a husband, a
great deal of trouble could be avoided
Parents Have Some Authority.
Undoubtedly there are timeS-aS in a
case when man IS known to he drunk
er or immoral, or even plain no-ac-
counl-when father and mother are
lust as much bound to try TO keep their
daughter from marrying the man she IS
in ioy. with as they would he to pre-
vent her committing suicide II she had
tendency thar way There are hun
drcds OF other cases, however, when the
opposition 10 a young man is merely
based on difference OF religious views,
family pride, or lack OF money, that
are utterly uniustified.
THE chief source OF opposition TO
l. most marriages where the course
OF Young love fails to run smooth, IS
poverty 1t is the impecunious sultor
who is oicncst persona non grata with
his sweetheart's family for father and
mother have the trick OF turning blind
eve on the shortcomings of a youth
with well lined pockets, and considering
that a man being able to give his wifi
an automobile and an establishment vii
cover a multitude OF wild oats, OF
bridge over a disparity OF thirty years
m age
Parents Dictum Doesn't Go Far.
OF course one may say that the par
entail dictum in matters OF the hear:
amounts to little, and that in these
times no one can keep a girl from mar
rying the man she wants 10, or make
her marry the one she doesn't want to
marry Parents can't lock girl up in
a turret chamber nowadays, and feed
her on bread and water until she j.,
willing to espousc the husband of their
choice
That is true, but there are moral
thumb,crcws that are just as agonizng-
~ effective as physical ones ever we're
and nobody but girls themselves know
how often they arc applied
To Marry Girl Rich.
Take, for instance the case of a girl
who belongs to a good family that is
poor, a family that has seen better
days" and that wrthes under its pres.
ent estate and that depends upon the
daughter to pull it back into prosperity
Such a girls people have made crueI
sacrifices to educate her She knows
all the pinchlug economies that her
every year at school has cost,
CHE recalls how often her mother.
~ old black dress has been made
over in order that she may have fresl
new ones. She knows the privation'
her father endureS so she may go into
good society and have her chance.
Nobody puts il into words, but she
krows as well as she knows anything
that she is expected to marry rich
and that only by doing so can she re-
pay her family for all the hardship,
that they have undergone for her sake
She knows that her father and mother
have depended on her marriage as their
one hope for salvation
Family's Fate. on Her.
She looks al her mothers tired
face, worn with care; she sees her
fathers bent shoulders, and the young
er sisters whose own futures will be
secured by her making a brilliant
match Sympathy, affection, graft
tude her duty to others are all urged
upon her. She knows that IL she goes
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