Evening journal., 1918-03-18
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Sheriff.
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REAL GOOD
BREEDING
BY LUCILLE DAUDET

IE@Wl I KIM this epoch OF iuunluudi-
H ism. rare is the person who
u strives TO give the impression OF
really good breeding. Il is a so
cial art, this one of good breeding, now
relegatod, as the saying goes, TO the
good old days" The chief aim and ann
bition of'thc truly modern man and wo-
man is be distinctly individual differ
cnt and IN most cases, regardless of
ways and means TO express oneself IS
the fad of the moment; and il really
isn't a bad idea, this one of individual
expression But, It's abuses arc So many
as TO obscurc the main issue
The obscuring abuses of a worthy cN-
preston of ones distinctncss may be
summed up in a definite, sometimes de-
liberatc disregard for the nicctics of the
social code. Unhawpcred individuality
20 the ultra modernist means absolute
freedom from social obligations and
purposcful ignorance of ctuqucL Pc
culiarly gifted individuals, exceptionally
handsome people. have so much to make
up for their lack of "hncsse' in other
things that people arc disposed TO over
look their "idiosymcrasies.'
But now word about good breeding,
what constitutes III Taste, fine scnsibil-
iues, "A nice discrimination, keen percep-
tion. heart, sincerity. all enter into what
is pleased to be called good breeding
10 IS something unmstakablc that may
be the heritage Of rich and poor alike; 4;
IL graccs the most sordid of common
places: where 1t Is real. it givcs the as
surance Of a high moral standard. Per
hdps YOU may not be so fortunate as TO
have had early opportunities we'll, no
matter II YOUR desires arc strong m the
right direction, and your hearts in the
right place, the polish is not insurmount-
ably difficult TO acquire. To come down
10 actualtics, take careful note of the
really wcll-brcd persons whom you
know You can not but appreciate their
rcstfulnoss, their quiet charm, their
ihoughtfulncss. their nobility Perhaps
the first thing 60 cultivate Is control of
oneself of ones feelings Try not 90
maintain a constant display of impa
thence, of petty grievances. of sham en-
thusiasm, of III temper; iu "A word. do
not infict your moods on people How
can you expect 10 control others, to
command their constant respect, 10 re-
tain their friendship. If you can not con
troll Yourself? IL is all very well for
LNNlHENn uNAM AiAN AANN NW AANNA NNNWAn
the layman can not have moods anC
friends, or even a livelihood, at th'
same time Il behooves the most of us
then, 70 cultivate control of our trouble
some selves
And not let as consider individuality
or rather the desire TO impress pcopl
with our particular individuality. Ii
nine cases out of ten, the desire arise
from failure 20 attract attention in an.
other way The girl who is inclined q
be boisterous, or who realizes her def
ciencics socially, suddenly awalSeus &
the belief that She is a type" Straight
way she expresses herself, and She sue
cecds IN becoming. through .consciou
emphasis of her de6cicncies-a carica
turc. SO vanity It is that is at the Dol
tom of the cult of individualism How
ever, there are so many people strivin
10 be distinctive that they are fast mere
ing into a class, leaving the wise an
really wcll-bred person quite the ccnt'
OF attraction.