The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1918-07-11
She's Thankful
For LOtilln Cnre

Dear Miss Grey: | was greatly
I shocked by the letter from NJ. 81 NJ
who concludes with. = can never
I trust the people who lied TO me. say
I Ing they were my parents. and TAX
I inR the credit Of having a girl on
themselves. when all they were do
lng was using little money"
When she In older she Will under
stand tina; u takes more than n
little money" TO bring up a child. but
even 40. she ought to have heart
enough in her 20 appreciate their
giving her n good home. and caring
for her as they evidently have done
There has been much discussion
about whether u II best to tell chill
drcn whether they have been adopt
ell or not. Az an adopted child. ]
can say {; ~ best for them not to
finally. for there Is a certain odium
that attaches 10 being an adopted
child. that works a hardship on the
child when Il H. small
They APPEAR 90 be In a different
class from children living with their
own parents II always seemed 10
me that for people TO adopt child
and pass 81 OF for their own. was
the very acme OF humane and noble
impulse. and am very much sur
| princd that there should be 20 much
discussion or any objection 20 a.
People who bring up their own chill
! drcn have no choice in tho matter.
I but for people who arc free from the
Z cares OF a family. to decide delibcr
atsiy TO take the responsibility Of
bringing up children with all the AZ
/ tcndant risks OF lnEratitudr and Oft
/ cn,imcs disgrace I'm the future. 10
T ay nothing Of the trouble children
/ give when small. in the present. IL
a queer question 90 raise.
This young lady knows nothing Of
/ the "slinRr and arrows OF outrageous
Z fortune" that she has escaped by be
ing sheltered In a family who gave
her love and care. and she ought TO
give thanks increasingly for their
goodness. and rejoice that nj least
she has met her sister ~ well che
certainly would not have added to
her mothers comfort II someone Rad
not taken her. and while the mother
suffered in losing her children. u
should not be counted against the
good people who took care % her
children. for the mother would Ger.
talnly prefer. II she ever does fini
them. TO know that they have been
cared for. and she viii appreciate
the care II tho child does not
In regard TO the mother who
wishes 10 seek her child after 20
years. I doubt "a 90 the quality OF
mother love which could wait -
years for fulfillment II may be tho
child would turn away from such
love to the foster mother who had
given her the care and earned the
right 70 the child's love. but in any
case. II the child does not know that
she was adopted Il would be a
great blow 10 her TO find II out
In my own case. my parents died
when | was years old and | was
adopted by my aunt. whom 7 called
mother knew I was adopted. and
tho | was treated kindly. always
knew that was an adopted child.
but | am thankful that also real.
lied that my own lot was 80 much
better than my poor brothers and
sisters. that never ceased TO be
thankful TO them for the haven they
gave me. and when case comes
IN. | always urge giving credit 90
people who adopt children. and
would recommend that the child be
kept from the knowledge that they
are adopted until they come to years
OF discretion. which Is quite late with
some people. MRS. T. l.. S.