Evening journal., 1918-03-22
AT. HOME

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also very well-intentioned old
- lady who was so soliciious
about her guests comfort that
The minute they set foot upon her
threshold she iOst no time In assur
ing them that they were perfectly
welcome and scarcely were they
seated I'm her parlor when she was
admOnishing them TO make them
selves al home" One Of sufficient
breadth TO appreciate the spirit rather
than the words which IL inspired real
ly would feel AT home" but another
inclined TO be at all conscious Of him
self would be instantly. on pins and
needles.
The power Of suggestion in all
things, but particularly in putting
people at their case cannot be overf
estimated. This business of putting
people at their ease" is really not a
business at all, but the most elusive
or arts. You see. a. is the tender
handclasp, the ready smile. the bright
eye which constitutes welcome so
warm that the assurance Of. II in so
inany words is superhuous SO much
TOT making your guest al home with
out his knowledge you are making
special efforts In that direction.
another opportunity for you TO help
make someone forget his sbortcom-
ines. 10 help him have a good time.
hes open to YOU at. every single social
gathering at which you are present
lhis' does not imply that you make. A
moor manager of yourself. going about
mere and there seeking out the Wall
uoWers and the doorway lQungers. but
" Is suggestion that. YOU helm a mar
ucularly backward partner 10 over
, come his torturing shyness. M is a
terrible feeling, this one Of being left
out Of things, of.beingta perfect little
nobody, Of not knowing what 10 tam
about. being afraid Of your life 10
start out doing H. And lust here is a
Tor someone TO be called charming or
entertaining, or. interesting: in fact.
an oifhe nice things that one at some
ume or other just bankers. TO be cal
LED. Invariably Il Is the social rescuer
cnance for someone Ito. be Called
charming or entertaining. or interest.
ing In fact all of the riice things that
one at some time or other j~st bankers
TO be called. Invariably il Is the
social rescuer who merits one or all
Of the coveted epithets. II is the man
who puts himself out 10 give not.
o-graceful wallhower a dance. thai
is a JOY forever TO his hostess; il &:
he of whom che girls whisper. "in-
teresting." "oh, just grand" "fascina.
tion." Now what red-blooded' mar
doesn't lake an uncomfortable delight
in being thus spoken Of by the ladies'
Aside from the knowledge that yoi
are helping to make someone happy
that you arc being OF invaluable ser
vice 10 your hostess. that you are
yourself a most desirable hostess
when you put Yourself out just'a bit
there is the additional and satisfying
freedom from self-restrsint. in thu
form of tongue-tiedness, and embar
rassments OF all sorts. PreferrinI
your neighbor's pleasure before you
own Is. as 7 have many times ,advisel
: the very surest cure for self-con
sciousness. But like a great man
q more things II cam be ovefdone. b
b. making the purpose too self-evideni
/ To assure most people that they ar
! perfectly welcome" IS 10. instantl
b put them on their guard. OF al least I
81 SOW doubts concerning your sincerity
Not everyone possesses naturally m