The Washington times., 1918-10-17
Why Is Married Life Dull?
1t Is Dull, Too Often The Fault Is With the Man
Usually.

One of our lady readers-presumably married lady
has asked discuss married life, and asks the question
"Why is married life dull?"
She doesn't say els married life du1?" She a6drma
positively that it is du-and it is rather hard to dsre
gard or wriggle out of her arguments.
There are only too many people in the United States
unfortunately rolling in their minds the very question
which this reader has asked.
Perhaps of these people VIII write letters to The
Washington Times and tell what they think is the matter
with married life and what MAKES IT DULL.
Needless to say there exceptions to the dulness
Of which the majority complain.
Radiant thousands Of young married people are so
happy that the suggestion of duness will make them
indignant And many very OLD couples too, after years
of married happiness wonder that any married people find
life dull and tiresome and calling for variety
The conventional honeymoon undoubtedly is often a
dismal and foolish institution.
The young couple set of by themselves travelling IN
railroad trains stopping at strange hotels most diohc
Of al, going ON an ocean ship to become seasck.
Young people that just married the young wife
epeciay-ought to be at home with the people they
accustomed to and with ordinary amusements to keep them
interested and to keep them from thinking too much about
each other and getting tired of each other.
If man a woman suddenly acquired possession Of
very large mnce pie very agreeable to look at that per-
wouldn't think Of going of MINCE PIE honey
for several weeks with nothing earth but mnce
pe TO YET Is exactly WnaG young people
do when they get married and there doubt that there
ought to be modification of that particular fooshnesS
This newspaper thinks that the dulness of married life
is chiefly due to MEN-just about NINETY-NNE PER
CENT of it is MANS fault.
In the first place. when get tired-as they do with
their days work-they selfish and dull And they make
the home atmosphere dull day after day.
In the second place, SELFISH, they want to
be amused and the moment they find married life lacks
oF -
i-or, not tired at least Indifferent and callous They
haven't enough imagination to keep themselves busy with
the study Of the human being confded to them They
haven't enough unseshness to make real happiness for
themselves in trying to make another person happy
There wise Frenchman who said rather good
thing about the of Inconsistency in At his bust
ness Of making proverbs he great he said
ga realization Of the falseness of pleasures that ARE
PRESENT and ignorance of the vanity of ABSENT
PLEASURES cause infdelity."
That is fairly good description Of what ails great
many men, That which they actually HAVE rather
worthless to them And their ignorance of real life makes
them think that something else would be better To begin
with they go to excess in all things and safety follows on
fooishness.
In the second place. all actual pleasure in life depends
upon THE POWER OF IMAGINATION. A beautiful
stream to one is simply much water in which he
may possibly catch so many fish.
To another and a man with poetry in his
composition 1t Is neVerend1ng source Of delight its cool
ness, beauty, and purity afford him infinite pleasure
If there in the world with imagination,
mental activity and UNSELFIsHNESS, ESPECIALLY,
there would be very much less dulness in married life
We don't believe that there is than woman in al
thousand with whom married life need necessarily be dull
On the other hand-we make the accusation sorrov-
fully against the menabout nine hundred men out Of
thousand would certainly make life very dull and selfish
institution the superior quality Of the women did not
rescue many Of them from their natural dullness.
Of this the dissatisfied married man may be sure He
wouldn't be happier anywhere else than where he s He
might and probably would be very much UNHAPPIER-I
for Of the character that would help to take him
out Of his family would probably also help to make him
pretty miserable when she began to trad Of hin,