El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1918-12-28
BEATRICF FAIRFAy


A GRIEVANCE may be as disastrous
n as z sorroT-
So. before you give up all your
tine 70 breeding over that unhappy
home life Of yours. make sure it's
some actual grief or hardship that's
affecting you. not merely = grievance
that would disappear Il you found an
other way OF looking at things
It's really very easy to become the
victim Of a grievance. And very hard
20 shake oneself free again And
though In deeply sympathetic with
her. I'm afrad Mrs. K. who has
written ne highly interesting letter.
does. after ali. belong In the class OF
women with q grievance
Proclaiming what she calls her
Huredicament." she writes:
I married for love; We are com
fartabiy situated I have nice apart
menr Of six rooms, q dear little boy
OF years. and my husband is
thoughtful and grants every whin1. so
one would think there is nothing left
70 be desired"
But she explains that her husbands
professional work keeps him away
from home both day and evening,
with the exception OF brief dinner
period. so that she must spend every
evening alone
I have found It quite impossible
% cultivate any Friendships. for 1
cannot entertain alone. and we could
no trsturn our visits And cannot
leave the little lad alone evenings
50, one by one, my friends have
FaIrIr Good Education
q received q fairly good education,
musicaIly and otherwise, but now I
seem 70 have developed into sort
Of dumb stay at home
Ny husband suggested NY taking
some young woman who would be-
willing 70 stay IN and sacrifice a few
evenings. 4 little encouragement to
break the monotony would Be heaven
iy~
I do not deny that it IS hard to be
deprived Of the companionship Of a
mpathetic husband And to spend
every evening OF ones life alone is
q pretty f0rlorn program. But can
not feel that this really fortunate
young woman who has 2 devoted hus-
hand q beautiful child and who
knows nothing Of poverty, has suffi-
GENTLY considered such remedies as
may exist FOR her loneliness
The obvious remedy that OF taking
an outsider into the home. the hus-l
band himself has suggested And for
would seem that nothing could bel
more easily arranged than the intro 1
ductIon OF one or more homeless out
siders. as boarders. OF rOomerss into
ones home.
or cooperative living with another
family could be attempted Loneli-
ness Tould vanish in q. rush with the
OF either Of these devices.
And they are not the only ones
LET LIE Come In
A lonely woman confined It home
car reach ont and draw part OF the
outside world across her own TIRES
hold
Doubtless her husbands having no
leisure does debar her from conven-
-ionzl social life But there are other
ways Of living and OF enjoyment
Are there 10 guests outside a con-
rsnrz0nsI social circle whom she can
invite % her home at niEhtl-yOungl
nel and women strangers 70 the city.
TO whom she would have much TO
sire2
are there 10 groups Of boys and
girls. perhaps foreign born ones, who
would be glad TO come to her on reg
-iar evenings for instruction IN
music. OF for reading or for study
zad practice in English2
Making Self Of Use.
Il isn't so hard for an educated Z
with extra time At her dis
1osa1. to make herself OF use in the
world and 10 consume every precious
minute = that time that she now
finds such a burden
The trouble is that she isn't really
boxing about for a wise use 10 make
u her time for = practical remedy
Tor her loneliness
she is busy lsmenting that she
cannot spend that time IN the one
way that she wants 70. which is, nat
grailE. in compsniolship with her
husband
As IL is nobody's fault that this de-
sire continues to be bafflsd, there Is,
however. no use in lamentinE. Lamen-!
alton is Improbable in itself, and II
doubtless also imposes an extra bur
len On the already overworked hus-I
laud-
But this lonely wife perversely cou-l
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