The daily Alaskan., 1918-04-02
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THE SPECTRE OF CONSTANT
 JEALOUSY.

woman, it is fair to assume that the spectre of constant jealousy dwells In that household. When a wife fears 10 look at the moon because she may be accused of admiring the man In It., the husband needs to be gently re- minded that he is taking a very rapid shortcut to killing the love he seems to hold so sacred. Love Is fed by con- fdence, trust, faith and serene restfui reliance. Morbid jealousy is poison of doubt, suspicion and injustice that dulls the love 1t does not deaden.
 Scientists tell us that every known poison Is, in small doses, stimulant; {; in larger doses It Is a narcotic; in still larger 1t kills. In mild form Jeal' ousy is Inseparable from real love. It Is the hearts guardianship of Its treas ure. II Is the hunger for the sacred ness of sole possession; the righteous demand to be first. absolute and su- preme. It Is the inStinctlve protest at even the thought of another sharing in those little tenderneSSes. graceful attentions. and words, looks and ex' presslons of love that should be con- centrated on one, not syndicated among many.
 This instructive jealousy, though reused in an instant, falls gently to sleep again with a smile of peace at the recognition of false alarm.
 Jealousy, in any instance, must be long 10 one of two classes. It Is either Justified by the facts or 1t is not; 1t is a right charge UT an unjust one If justified. the one who causes 1t may do so, in one or two instances, through thoughtleSsueSs or because of a less finely balanced appreciation of the de- mQndS and duties of love, for some na' lures are more wounded by look than others by a blow. Here few words of gentle protest may bring new course of action that Is absolutely ieaIousy-proof. If the offending acts become a continuous performance, then the offender Is unworthy of either the love or the jealousy. But If the con- stant jealousy be undeServed, the one thus continuously stormlng in jealous tempest is not worthy of the love and loyalty thus tradUCed and put to scOrn.
 Nothing wcakcus loyalty and con- srancy SD quickly as morbid jealousy; nothing inspires feeds, strengthens and almost guarantees loyalty and con- stancy Ike loving confidence, real com radeship and restfGl trust.
 Jealousy, even when justified, should not he permitted to run away with dis erection. The emotional pain t may be natura, ,D feel l. may not be wise to exprcss. There k a tendency to an emotional explosion that may wreck happiness. IL Is moment when one should heed the advice of the sign at railroad crossing: Stop, look and listen" The first suspicion in mar ried life may be more hazardous than the first real quarrel. It may develop an exaggerated estimate of the im- portance of what may have been mere ly q f5olishly iudiscrect word or ac- ton.
 The offender. conscious of innocence of real wrong even in thought may become angered and indignant at con demnutlon many sizes too large for the ofTense; ; u3clOgy for the minor thought lessuess may be withheld or if spoken Ignored in the presence of Ehe injustice of a weightier charge. Ths burden of infusticc becomes shifted to the one originally innocent. If the inadvertenee of a moment, now looming large, be but an error Of action, not of mind or of heart. it should instantly be for given and forgotten because explained and understood.
 If there bp real reason for Jealousy in rrine. wise action may cOnfne It to the tritle. Jealousy through It's own indiScreet expression may plant what if fears. Let the wounded one seek to find the cause that led to the action inspiring the jealousy. The wife, through plQue at being neglected, may receive innOccntly and unwiseiy the kind attention of another. The huS- band. brought to realization of the drifting possibilities Of his negligence, may by special marks of affection, re- turning to the old courtshlp methods, restore the old certainty of faith and allness. If wise, he will let the con- sciousness of his initial wrong keep him from revealing too plainly his pain. Angry protests and condemnation never cure; they merely put q premium on secrecy and deception. II does not re- move the disease, 1t merely drives It into the system.
 In every instance of jealousy the innocent one should meet it Ut the beginning, at it's earliest manifesta- tlon. This means recognition and a wise determination to remove the cause. but does not justify blame or in- dlguant strcums of condemnation flow ing hot and iuva-like from an emo tional Vesuvius.
 There is a false pride that says, If he is growing interested h another let him go. I will not compete for his af- RactiOr Or of she feels that waV