The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1918-04-11

capture her imagination. Therefore.
it was with unbounded curiosity that I
asked him to reveal to me the secret
by which he had won SO many female
hearts.
oh" he said CONTEMPORARY. Its
just dead easy to make a woman fall
do is just talk her blind about her.
SELF
It was putting the matter brutaliy.
but it was the opinion of expert,
and there is undoubtedly much truth
in the contention. Women do like to
be talked to about themselves. 1t is
the one subject of which they never
weary, and no matter how stumbling
the tongue that whispers peahs of
admiration in their ears, to them it is
tipped with the wisdom of a Solomon
and the eloquence of a Demosthenes.
When girls are very young they like
gross flattery about their eyes, their
hair, their lips. their looks generally.
and they adore being told that they
are the living image of Mary Pickford
or Lillian Russell.
When they are older. ard their
tastes are little more subtle they pre-
; fer to be made to feel that Il man is
analyzing their thoughts, their emo
tons and their intuitions. It is this
! time that woman falls for the asser-
ton that there is something mysteri-
Gus and inscrutable about her
But indeed, it is a safe play at any
and the grave. to tell a woman that
she is not like other women and that
her being Scorer different somehow
was what first attracted the mans at
Iention to her.
Bear this in mind. however-always
praise homely woman for ner eyes,
Eer teeth, her smile, or her figure and
not for her cleverness and reverse this
rule and praise the pretty woman for
her wit and her cleverness Heaven
/ a "a a lNx-Q
more flattered to be thought the things
she isn't than the things she is
As n matter of fact women are not
half as keen on compliments to their
looks as men suppose. They have
I worked hard to-adorn themselves.
They have got on their war paint and
they expect TO be praised for it. More
than that, they know that it is the con-
ventional thing that every man says
| to every woman and that to saw How
radiantly beautiful you are tonight"
really means no more than saying. so
! charmed to see you and SO while
they might possibly resent the omis-
! sion of tribute to their appearance
they take it lightly when it is paid
| The compliment that really goes to
a woman's head and flatters her out
| OF her senses, is for a man to make
| her feel that she has wonderful divina-
! ton, deep insight into things, and a
/ strange and occult intuition of the
! understood and when a man can make
enc believe that he hangs on her ut
terances as If she were a sibyI, it's all
ever with her. She's his for the ask
ing.
Doctors and preachers are the only
men who ever pay women the COM
| pliment of being interested in their
souls instead of their looks, and that is
why doctor or a preacher has only to
whistle to woman to have her get
up and follow.
Yet in trying to win a gi-1s heart
i be devoted, but not siavish Make her
| feel that while your life's happiness
will be wrecked if you don't get her,
you still will have strength enough to
| exist without her. Women are still
primitive creatures, and they love a
man who asserts a certain mastery
over them. Also there is something
in the feminine Temperance that
Prompts them to kick the man who
1 grovels at their feet.
THis does not mean that a man
| shall attempt to- dictate to a girl what
she shall do, or with whom she shall
go. This is as fatal as trying to put
a bride on spirited colt before it
is gentled. but the woman who feels
that a stronger will and a stronger
hanC than hers is guiding her destiny
is half won.
! a good deal is to be said in favor
of the constant. faithful devotion that
SURROUNDS woman with
evidence of care and tenderness, but
this system of winning a woman's
heart is most effective when played
| within strict limitations.
! It's all very well to be the patient
standby that a girl can reply upon to
keep her continually supplied with
candy and flowers and to escort her
to places where no one else asks her.
and to take the flag ends of dances
and all that kind of thing After
laar rt-.rr ,-t
tentionS. however, the wise sutton will
suddenly withdraw himself and cease
to ie Johnnie-on-the-spo 1t is the
only way in which he can make the
girl realize that he has become neces-
sary to her happiness, and that she
has grown dependent upon him
great many men think that they
can buy into a woman's heart by
lavishing gifts upon her. This is a
mistake. Women like men who are
generous, but they are afraid of
spenders. and they have a contempt
for the men who let themselves be
worked. Therefore, be liberal with
treats and presents to your lady love,
but be not too lavish, and remember
that a woman would rather have a
singl. flower that matched her gown
and that showed that you remember
ed her taste than bushel of hot
hous; roses bought hit-or-miss. and
that expressed no personal within or
mood OF hers.
Above all. the man who wishes to
win a woman's heart should never
/. display jealousy The lover who goes
grouching around every time the wo-
man he fancies speaks to another
nan looks like fool and acts like
, a boor, and fills the woman's mind
with apprehensions of what married
! life would be with a husband doing
the Othello act in the background
Jealousy is a confession of weakness
AN admission that a man cannot
hold his ~-n with other men, and it
fills the woman with contempt A
successful lover makes girl feel that
he an trust her. and still more, that
he trusts himself to win what he
wants. and to hold it against the
| world.