The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1918-08-31

Dear Miss Grey: In reply to
Anonymous" who says woman.
hood lost canno, b. rcgained BY
love" and the only way to Judge a
woman IL by her past" I would ask:
DO you really suppose you under
stand womcn's yagaries after allf
True. know thom-m1sducrad'
ing under mans name and pro.
lection and entertaining other men
In friend husbands absence. degrad.
ing his home and children. know
husbands with irrcproachabio wives
who chase a new skirt" whenever
IL suits their Oft changing fancy. !
know good wives who DO not let
their thoughts stray from their own
dooryarsis. whose past was. we will
say. no better than their hunbanda'.
And about as miserable. al any of
them are the good wives who make
their homes 80 uncomfortable with
their goodness that husband can't
call his soul his own. And the good
husband. who considers II his priv
lego TO boss his own house and whose
wife IL afraid 90 smile or aing. or
even speak 10 another man.
But. Anon" I have known tho
utterrnost depths OF dr.oiation and
humiliation. and WASH; the woman
TO rise above IL then. chose. when
capable of choosing. deliberately TO
travel wrong.
Then I met tho man who has been
my husband for rs years. lie knows
my past with its sadness and Its
badness. Yet. he deliberately chose
to ignore IL all. SO wo were mar.
ried. and arc now respected citizens
In this new country OF the west
Never. by word or look. has he
referred TO my other life. He socs
to IL that ! have every comfort
am sure OF his smiles and HIS pro-
tectinE love. OF his pride In having
his wife meet his friends. and know
he Is mine alone.
In return see he has good. clean.
nutritious meals. his pipe and slip
pers handy. his home respectable.
and | certainly would JUMP INTO
THE BAY a THOUSAND TIMES
QUICKER THAN TO DIScREDIT
HIS NAME OR BRING SORROW
To HIM
Of gold without him My past be.
longs TO me and my God. The
present and future. so far as am
concerned. TO my husband. and that
also In marriage.
II. as you say. II In n crime for
such as / TO aspire TO motherhood
and want TO appear decent" then
can ! only be thankful for the
chance to be such criminal. for
can't find room In my heart to want
10 see any person utterly con.
demned. But do know II mother.
hood and husband and home does
not make n combination that will
hold the heart OF man and woman
together unassailabie. IL never will
afterwards. and the quicker II IL
ended. the better for the little ones.
for there Is NEVER room for an
outsider in real marriage Hav.
ing once known the great JOY OF this
triple combination | could not fail
to try TO help others. to be more
charitable and to- do what I can that
tu' Wofin may "" uny OIL better
for my having been in IL.
Anonymous" / hope out OF your
troubles there may be some way by
which you can see that there is stlll
good somewhere in every human be-
ing. ANOTHER WIFE.
Dear Miss Grey: ! would say to
Anonymous" from the bottom of
my heart ! pity that poor. spineless
wife, and to beat It all. IL In evident
that she loves her husband. am
not n theorist. but with the prayer
and hope OF n greater understand
ing of heart, ! advise.
Anonymous" asks: Can any.
thing which IL useless be any good7"
I say YES. There was never a hu.
man being so bad but that there
was a spark OF good In his anatomy
somewhere. But those who judged
him by his badness didn't take the
trouble to seek out the good.
Anonymous" also states that he
and his wife had lived together
many years In peace and happiness
and that they have one child, which
the mother worshipa. That she had
never violated his trust until this
other man came into her life. That
he. himself. had caught the other
man trying 10 gain admittancc TO
his home. during his absence. and