The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1918-04-08
Marriages Are More Successful
When Founded on Respect Than
When Romance Is Only Basis

that they are expecting the impossible
OF themselves.
II is no more in every man TO be a
Romeo or every woman 10 be a Juliet
than II Is In them TO be a Caruso or a
Sarah Bernhard. They are simply not
built that way, but II doesn't keep them
from making the most satisfactory hus-
bands and wives.
MarhAae Often Kills Love.
Those who insist on romantic love as
the only basis for marriage ignore the
fact that II is the shortest lived OF all
things on earth and the one thing that
marriage is inevitably bound to slay.
The very essence OF romance Is mystery
something vague and intangible about
which one speculaies and dreams
something that one only approaches In
ones moods OF exaltation.
The minute you domeStieate romance
il fades away like a dew drop in the
sun. No man can be romantic about
the woman he faces three times a day
across the dining table, and whom he
sees in negligees Of dress and temper
No woman can be romantic about
husband whom she beholds unshayen
and asleep with his mouth open. and
with whom she squabbles about the
bills and street car fare.
Passion Soon Burns Out
II does not take long for romance 10
fade. for the attraction OF the senses
to pail, for passion to burn itself out
and then unless married couple can
meet on the mutual ground Of respect
and admiration for each others sterling
qualities, their house OF happiness is
built on the Quicksands
In lis last analysis the success OF
every marriage depends upon friend
ship. That is the real satisfying. heart
warming sentiment that one can live
by and die by, that grows closer and
tenderer, and more unbreakable as the
years ago by, and that binds a man and
woman together with bands Of steel
that outlast all the flimsy ribbons OF
romance.
AND this friendship must be found.
"A ed on respect. The man must re-
speet his wifes intelligence, her char
acter, the goodness OF her heart, and
the purity OF her soul. He must respect
her for her devotion as wife. and her
tenderness as a mother. He must re-
spect her for her helpiulness, for her
wisdom, for all the qualities that go
TO make a noble woman
Must Be Mutual Respect.
= And the woman must respect the man
for his honor, and honesty, and integ'
rity; for his ability to hold his own in
The world; for his sympathy, and gen
erosiiy, and affection for her; for his
iirmness and love as a father
1t is only people who respect each
other like this, and have this sort Of a
friendship for each other, who find any
enduring happiness in marriage They
are not torn with jealousies OF each
other. They are not harasSed with
doubts. They are not bored with each
other because the minds OF intelligent
people Weld richer harvest every
year They do not fear age, because
they married for something less perish
able than a peaches and cream com
plexion, and willowy figure.
One Hour Of Passion.
Perhaps the temperamental people
who experience the story book brand Of
love do have one mad, bad, sad, glad
hour of passion that the ndh-tempera-
mental never know but II is only for
an hour, and when it is gone they have
nothing left.
But marriage Is not for an hour II
Is for a long, long time, that seems
longer II you marry the wrong one
and that is why the marriage that i:
based on respect and not on emotion
is the one best bet,