El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1918-04-13
New European Standards
Before American Girls
Can Have Happiness.

NEW YORK. April 1s.-While
IN much has been suggested as to
the reasons for the vicissitudes
OF the average international" mar
Rage. such suggestions. have Uniform
y come from the outside No hint as
TO the actual nature OF the handicap
to happiness IN such matches has
ever been given by the American
girls who have been. as wives, de-
cldedly on the inside
Lady Rosaliud Chetwynd presents
here for the first time the insiders
viewpoint upon why international
marriages 20 wrong. she Is the
daughter OF the late William Holt
Secor. a lawyer OF wealth and high
social position. and granddaughter OF
the Charles Secor who was the Ia
nous shipbuilder for the Union navy
during the civil war
Had All Elements OF Happiness.
Lady ChetWyud's romance seemed
TO have all the elements OF enduring
happiness. While she was visiting
London she became engaged TO Er.
and, spectiTely. lord mayor Of
London. Having met Guy Chetwynd
son OF Sir George ChetEynd, she
eloped with him The New York
beauty and heiress was then the
guest OF the Chetwynds. They were
married at MarylebOne church, which
had been The scene Of the marriage OF
the Duke and Duchess Of Aanches ter.
The groOms mother. the Marchioness
of Hastings. awaited the young pair
in Paris. Recalling her own runa way
match with the sportsman. the Mar
Quis OF Hastings. she welcomed the
bride and contributed as much as she
could to the happiness OF the honey
moon
The pair returned TO windsor. to
the home OF the Warehouses Of Hast
ings- where they had met. and re-
sumed their place in society Lady
Decies. who had been Miss Secors
chaperone. continued TO lend her So
Romance Ends in Seven Years.
Yet with so suspicious a beginning
the match ended in the divorce courts
Seven years after the runaway mar
fully applying FOR divorce. asserted
in court; Il found my position intol-
erable."
Lady Chetwynd IS now appearing in
a local theater. Her views on inter
national marriages are expressed as
follows;
1T is true found my marital posi-
ton 'intolerable because OF the diff
ferent ideals and habits Of life I'm my
own country and OF those in various
countries OF Europe.
No LonEer First
The first OF the surprising truths
she learns in her new environment is
that she is no longer first. as IN her
own country, but last She is in all
things last. The American woman
never quite adjusts herself to this
now. or rather this ancient. order.
But II she cherishes any fond hope
OF establishing herself as first in the
household she Is slowly but surely
disilusiOned- Subtly, through the at
m0sPhere. ii is conveyed TO her that
she is an inferior a subordinate.
more or less essential. but little rec
ognized.
Gradually she learns that her Amer
icanism is an offense.
-One Of the first concrete trritants
is that we are expected 20 live up TO
our husbands ancestors Not our
own. Our idolatry must be committed
with our mates progenitors as the
objects. The family portraits remind
us OF that new duty. The portraits
look down upon us stiffly. with Sc
we're, uncOmprOmising disapprOval
The personal opinion OF American
wives about the originals Of these
portraits is unanimous. They think
they are n lot Of hopeless frumps.
First ridicule. then annoyance, finally
q deep dislike.
Driven Into Mysteries.
The American woman is driven 20
the verge Of ysterics-sometime she
passes it-by the matter Of prece-
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is entertaining. we viii say, 80 per-
sons OF title. II she invites the wife
Of baronet TO go into the dining
room ahead Of the wife OF an earl
she has committed the social sin be-
yond redemption All her in-laws
look murderously at her. Her hus-
band hurls home truths at her in the
privacy Of their apartments.
"A bone Of contention in the Euro
pean- American household is the lack
10 - ri
American VIE is accustomed For
Instance. an American husband viii
shop with his wife. He doesn't like
it. He pretends 10 do il under pro-
test But he does not think 20 Nv
III gnified- After he starts on a shop
ping tour he really enjoys it,
But no European husband Of the
smart class would deign to go shop
ping with his wife. He would say TO
her. Certainly not 10 isn't done
SUFFICIENT answer TO any argument
he thinks. The European husband
would think ne was making himself
an object of ridicule by helping 10 do
the family shopping He Is interested
In the results He is even critical of
those results But he viii not pro
weeks she had converted these So
creatures into happy. joy
BUS children almost uncousciously-
one day. one Of the girls forgot 20
curl her hair. the next a ribbon was
discarded The others followed suit
and before the end Of the week.
boomers had succeeded the spic and
span dresses. and the conventional
<orments and adornments had been
-eIegated to other days. They beheld
q new life with saner views. and the
days we're not long enough for them
heard no more OF the lament. What
=hTsI we dor Laughter and song