The states-graphic. (Brownsville, Tenn.) 1???-1984, 1918-01-18
WHAT MAKES A
GIRL ATTRACTIVE?

AS "beauty is in the eye of the be-
holder" so also is charm. No human
being can write down a set of rules and
regulations whereby Mary shall ap-
pear lovely and gracious and desirable
to all the world, nor yet is it possible
to conceive of Jane who has nothing
of charm or loveableness or sweetness
for any in the world.
Human chemistry makes it absolute
lily imperative that some of the quail
ties which appeal to me in Mary shall
renal you Since we are all used to
the knowledge that oil and water won't
mixlit is simple enough to accept the
factI that the oily suavity Of one ma
tures and the steaming force Of anoth-
will not combine.
And so it goes through long list
of humanity's chemical combinations.
So, of course, there can hardly be such
thing as an irresistably charming
women who shall be equally charming
in the eyes of all men.
| That fact itself ought to cheer many
of the doleful correspondents who
write me such little pleas as the follow
ing:
"My chum and | are fairly nice
looking girls, who dress well and try
hard to be aimiable and pleasant, and
yet we are passed by for loud, ordinary
girls, who are flashy in dress and who
aren't dignifed or in any way worth
the while of the men who prefer them
to us. Doesn't the man Of today care
anything for refinement"
Of course the man of today cares
for refinement and dignity. But he
cares also for spontaneous friendliness
for good comradeship, for unselfish in
terest in what appeals to him, for SYM
pathyq and understanding of his ma
ture. And a loud and boysterous
, young woman who gives him these
thingsstotals up to, a combination that
appeals to the chemistry Of his nature
and combines with it when the sweet,
dignifed, but self-centered girl may
fail entirely to attract.
Extsrnals mean nothing to one soul
and everything to another. One man
passes by beauty and becomes enamor-
ed of little gray mouse Of woman,
simply because something in her calls
to something in him and combines with
or becomes the complement of his ma
ture.
But there is possible certain
amount of generalizing as to what
makes for charm in women. Sweet
ness of disposition, reliability, well
poised common sense, capability for
sane, loyal affection, quiet tact, unself-
ishness and sturdy willingness to
play fair, added to feminine sweet
ness have charm for most all men,
If to them are added cleverness, vi
vacity and beauty, one has, of course
visioned an almost irresistible crea-
ture!
But the point to remember is that
! while all women are potential mothers
men remain always in some essentials
boys. Men need to be understood
but never driven with unwelcome adj
, vice; they want to be sympathizec
! with but not interfered with; they
, crave woman's friendly interest, bu
, they don't want her ever to suppose
that she is controlling or regulating
or making over their lives.
There perhaps lies mans greatest
, boyishness-he loves to think he i:
. doing it all himself, but he wants vol
at his side to admire him and encour
age him the while he is doing it.
, Men want affection, but they dom
, want to be surfeited with it. They
, hate to be taken for granted or nag.
! ged at because they fail to come up t.
, expectations.
Some girls have a cynical little the
ory that the way to keep man:
affection is to keep him guessing
, about their own. Any man worth hav.
ing desires some response in frienc
! or sweetheart or wife-not mere ar.
, tificial response stimulated by himself
, but the natural chemical answer Of
, nature to nature, the unselfish affec.
tion that dares to give loyalty without
fear that it belittles itself in giving.
, Charm in woman is not an entirely
! elusive thing, nor yet is it quite SC
! tangible that it may be bought over
the counter Of life. But it springs
primarily from a richness of nature
that makes woman give out to life
! instead of merely drawing from it.
, Charm is sort of perfume that q
! sweet, fine, loving and loyable woman
exhales, To some it is the free gift Of
the gods. By1others it may be cultiva.
ted and cultivated most largely in the
very way in which most women fail t.
strive for it.
! Here is little opensecret, not by
wondering "How | may be lovable'
, shall you become lovable. not by think.
> ing in terms of yourself shall you be.
come desirable. But by looking OF
3 someone for whom you care and think
i ing What does he want of life? What