The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1918-08-15
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid wcmaD Writer
A Fake Cure for JeaIousy.-2.


If a woman starts out on still
hunt for trouble she invariably finds
it. If she gets the idea into her head
that there is some Other Woman she
can see her in every skirt that crosses
her husbands pathway.
If her husband so much as glances
at another woman wife imagines that
she reads a dark understanding be-
tween them. II husband tries to make
himself entertaining to hrs dinner
party, wife fanciep him making i'm
passioned speeches to her while the
poor man is only discussing the
weather. If husband meets up with
an old girl friend of his boyhood and
asks her to lunch, wife believes they
are keeping a rendezvous and is ready
to set the police on them.
If husband shows the slightest at
tention to ahy of his female relatives,
wife cannot be convinced that it is
just family affection and not senti-
mental interest, while as for his fe-
male employees, you can't tell her that
the reasbn he took his stenosrapher
out to dinner was simply because he
had kept her working long past her
dinner hour and wanted to give her
some little treat as a reward for doing
extra labor, and that neither he nor
! the photographer entertained any feel
ing towards each other that two men
! in the same relationship would not
! have felt.
| 1t is pitifuI to think of the thou
sands of wives who torture themselves
unnecessarily about flirtations their
| husbands never indulge in, and who
/ agonize over the love Affairs their hus-
! bands never have, and who make of
not only their happiness, but that of
the unfortunate men to whom they
are married.
! For the jealous wife is just as
great an affliction to her husband as
! she is to herself
! All of us know men who have sim
ply withdrawn from society because
their wives jealousy has driven them
! out of it. If they were decently civil
. to another woman at party. or
danced with another woman or showed
| any plea sure in meeting any old
woman friend, they had to endure
such a storm of reproaches. tears and
/ suspicious when they got home that il
was not worth the price. And We all
know men have quit taking their
| their eyes fastened on the ground or
| on their plates, or else their wives ac-
| cused them of looking too hard at
! some other woman and trying to get
into a filtration with her, and rather
/ than be spied upon and falsely ac-
| cused they prefer to remain at home.
1t never seems to have occurred to
! these jealous wives that their jealousy
j is its own undoing, and that when they
| accuse their husbands of flirting with
| other women, they are putting the
| idea of filtration into THE mems heads.
| More than that, they are justifying
! the men in flirting, for any man with
1 the spirit of a mouse would certainly
| feel that as he had the name he might
as well have the game.
| Many woman's Jealousy of a
prettier woman has called her hus-
| bands attention to the other woman
! for the first time. Let alone, his be-
(. lief in himself as a settled married
( man who was done with making eyes
! at pretty girls, or sustaining other
than pIatonic relationship with the
fair sex, respect for his wife would
have Kept him in the fold of domestic
ity. But his wife's continual sugges-
ton that he was still fascinating and
| a devil of fellow among the women,
led him into philandering.
I The Jealous wife also ignores one
of the basic laws Of human nature.
and that is that we all thirst after
forbidden waters, and will risk our
necks climbing out of a ten story win
dow if we are locked in a room, where
as we wouldn't walk out if the door
was left wide open There is no way
to develop flirtaHousness In man &C
potent as for his wife's Jealousy tc