Evening capital and Maryland gazette. (Annapolis, Md.) 1910-1922, 1918-10-17
MAKE A PAL
OF YOUR BOY
Make Home Pleasant and Attractive.
"PIain Talks To
Parents

In his tri-weekIy series of plain
Talks To Parents" published in the
Baltimore American, Roy c. Berry,
president of the Parents Association,
says:
More mothers turn grey over this
out-at-night problem than any other,
And there is some reason for their
anxiety.
One mother writes to me:
My nine year old boy is beginning
to want TO stay out at night. He
knows that do not want him TO, but
lately he has been promising to be in
the house by eight o'clock, and not
actually getting in till 10 or later
/ always sit up till he comes. Please
tell me how to manage him?"
One thing absolutely essential for
you TO do is 70 make Enthusiastically
clear 70 this boy that you simply will
not tolerate his being out till Ia
o'clock
The next time he is out late, go "a
bed whenever you get ready. II il
is your custom, say Good night" tC
him when he comes to bed. 1. will
be natural for you to use a tone thai
suggests you are worried or put
upon" but this likely would have ar
undesirable effect upon the boy. Say
Good night" in natural, friendly
way which suggests that you are
calm and have absolute control Of
yourself
Most parents in a similar case
make the mistake of Timing up" tn,
child Immediately after he reache.
the house. They invariably scold The
child and show that they are dis
gusted. On account of this fact, th'
child agrees with the parent or i
the parent shows a great deal of tenn
per the child and is not inclined to al
low the child to argue the child is an
tagonized and in most cases, he vii
disobey again, partly to convince tn,
parent that he used the wrong meth
3D. Children are easily disguised
with wrong methods.
But DO something the next morn
ing. To let the incident pass alto
gether simply would be foolish. Tn,
next morning soon after breakfast
when you and he both are in a gooC
mood, ask him in friendly manner
to come into the other room with you
Point out a chair for him to occup,
and you take one, pulling ii up within
about three feet of him. Consciousl!
keep yourself relaxed and maintain a!
natural an expression on your fac'
as possible. Now, in starting TO tall
to him, make every word count
TAKE YOUR TIME. Pronounce eacl
word slowly. Say something Xix,
this: This morning l have some
thing to tell you / want you to re
member it all of your life. We do al
We can to please you. We do the bes
we know how. We want to do ever
more in the future for you. / an
not going to scold you for anything
you did last night, but it must never
NEVER be repeated. So long as yol
remain in this house and we treat yot
like respectable son, it will be nee
essary for you to do what we ash
of you. We shall not ask what il
unreasonable, but after this you are
to be at home by half past eight. We
shall expect you in by that time every
evening. You are to remember this
We are going to treat you right anC
you are going to treat us the same
way. This will be much better way
to get along" Rise from your chail
and prepare to go to your work
Make it a point for few days Il
show favors to the son frequently anC
make him like you better than ever
before.
If second talk is necessary, do no
lose your temper, but be more firm
in letting him understand you vii
not tolerate further repetitions. You
husband should strongly cooperate
with you in using this method, espec
tally if you are obliged to deprive hin
of certain privileges which he woult