The Daily Missoulian. [volume] (Missoula, Mont.) 1904-1961, 1918-02-07
Help Your
Girl to
Confide iinYou
By DR.. LENA K. SADLER.

with the approach OF puberty,
" say from the twelfth to the
fourteenth year, there is a nor
NAL, natural parting of the ways
for the boys and the girls OF the
family; the girls becoming more con-
fidential and "chummy" with mother.
while the boys are inclined toward
spending more time with father. And
1t is the Unborn right of these boys
and girls to receive special attention
and instruction at this particular time
from both mother and father.
Now. only that mother who has
carelessly brushed the daughter aside
with her questions only that mother
who has allowed herself to become
shocked at the early struggles and
experiences Of her little girl is going
to be deprived OF the condolences Of
this period, of all periods In her girls
life
MY mother readers who themselves
were thoughtlessly brushed aside by
their mothers know exactly what 7
mean when I refer to that awful gulf
which. as the years passed by, grew
wider and mayhap was only bridged
when the daughter herself became a
mother and she, for the first time.
realized maternal responsibilities and
the manifold opportunities for mis-
takes
In my manv conferences with moth
ers and srown-up daughters I have
been forced to conclude that there
are far greater number of young
women who are on mnfriendly conf1d-
ing terms and who indulge estranged
relations with their mothers than
there are those whose mothers are
their chief confldants.
And most confidently believe that
most of the estrangement and the
beginning of the formation Of the
gulf between them began away back
in early childhood. when--one day
the little grille came to mother with
a question or a story and the we'll
meaning but nevertheless thoughtless
mother either punished the child or
became so shocked over the obscene
language which Of itself meant moth
ing to the questioning child that on
tho plastic subconscious mind was
indelibly written the fact that mother
must never be approached on such
matters.
IN" 81 tHe Sex UIN, Ine Sex
thoughts. the sex dreams, the trifling
love affairs were all locked UP as far
as mother Is concerned Maybe a
neighbor or girl friend has the kew
to the door of this secret closet of the
mind, but It is certain that the moth
err Is not In possession of the master
key. Whoever Is In possession of tho
master key Is going to tell the grow
ing up girl three things.
or all people. mother Is the rightful
owner, and she only can do justice
to the mind of tho girl who is part
and parcel of her very self
OF first and of great concern Is the
lesson of the Secrets of Woman
hood" which comprises the story of
the wonderful powerful secretion of
the sex gland-of its miraculous.
transforming influence, which changes
the lean. lank. awkward, self-con-
scious. ungainly ugly duckling" of
a girl into a sweet, graceful, bloom
Ing maiden possessing poise and re-
pose, and who Is the quintescence of
perfection and beauty. and bloom of
health, and radiant womanhood.
The second chapter of the story to
be given this budding young woman
of the physiological phenomenon
which comes to every young woman
and which so wonderfully changes
the little girl tvery unlike boy hith-
erto in her play etc.) into the radi-
antly beautiful young woman.
OF great import is the hygienic and
sanitary instruction, and with eau
ton and candor should the informant
" int
duct. Of recreation, exposure, cleanu-
ness, social obligation. etc, which
shall demand and control the young
woman during the period.
The last chapter of the puberty
book closes with candid, sympa-
thetic talk concerning her associa-
tons with young men. In her high
school social affairs. as we'll as those
of the church and club, let ii be thor
oughly impressed upon her mind that
her body is to be held in sacred re-
serve.
Instruct her that young men will
hold her in high esteem If she does
not allow familiarities. 1T Is a FAR
greater compliment for them to cali
her a "pfude" or Il "touch-ma-nnt"
than to be popular for the passing
moment, tossed about, much Rugged
and much-caressed toy that no one
In particular cares for tomorrow.
DR.. Sadler's Answers.
\" HAT should baby be able to do
w at 8 months?-Mrs. b. p.
lie should lee able to sit alone, play with
kimpl = objects, grasp for objects and laugh
aloud.
:. = =
" ILL YOU please give directions
w for making the old fashioned
''tlour BALI Mrs. B. l.. G.
One pound OF -four. tied in a cheesecloth
Is tossed into kettle containing 4 sailop
Of boiling water, which should continue TO
loil six hours. Remove ball from cheese.
cloth and allow to dry In warm oven QUITE.
peel Ia removed and the inner hard ball 4.
grated on q clean crater and put In clean
,antsirer. This -four has helped rerhans
moro than any vther form OF starch 10 save
sick babies over = months old.