The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1918-05-01
Love, After All, Is Best Basis
For Happy Marriages, and Not
Wealth, Dorothy Dix Thinks

man OF her heart she will be adding
another sorrow to burdens that are
already crushing, an. so, unless she
has the moral urage OF a hero, and
backbone like a telephone post, she
gives in and marries the man her
mother wants her TO instead OF the one
she wants 10 marry herself.
Nor can one always blame the
mother over much. She is trying to
save her daughter from the lie Of
toll and hardship and anxiety that she
has had herself, and that so often
makes the middle aged wife OF a poor
man utterly diSillusioned. and con
WINGED that money is the only factor
IN matrimony that IS worth consider
ing
Rich Not Always Happy.
But one could better understand
mothers desire for her daughter to
marry rich II the rich were invaria
bly, happy or her wish for her daugh
ter to make a brilliant marriage 1t
billiant marriages always stayed bril-
liant But they don't.
DlCHES have way OF taking wings
IN to themselves, and We have
all seen girls whose uuptials were
celebrated with splendCr beilt-
ting royalty returning home heart
broken and miserable to take in sew
ing 10 support themselves. Indeed.
looking at II as a simply business
proposition, and with reference 10
girls future. It is strange that Il
doesn't oitcucr occur to parent, that
the mar who has held the same pos,
ton in store or office for years I'm
succession, and who has saved up a
thousand dollars or two, is a bctlcr
chance than the gilded youth who
never did a days work IN his life, Of
earned a dollar, and whose one star
performance consisted IN being born
a rich mans son.
Love Always as SweeteninG.
Parents are justified in trying lo'
save their daughters from grlndnE
poverty. but beyond that they have no
right 10 object to the Suitor who can
offer a girl an honest heart, a clean
bill of health, and willingness e.
work for her He may have little else
to give her They may have to begin
housekeeping IN a thrcc-rCom cottage
or a bandbox flat They may have
many years OF toll and struggle, and
scrimping before them, but they will
have love to Swcetcn it and happmcs5
to giId it.
The most beautiful romance in Amer !
ica, and the one that offsets the hide |
BUSINESS of our divorce courts, is the |
life story OF the middle aged, prosperous |
couple who have begun poor and worked !
up together They have saved together !
the money for the husband to go into |
business for himself; they have econo-
mized to buy their first home they have
had every plan and hope, and ambition
and triumph together, and they have
grown into a oneness that those who
have always been rich and prosperous
never know
It is the very flower OF our hard
working commercial life, and the glrl
who marries a rich old man in order TO
have the pleasure OF spending his
money, instead OF a poor young man IN
order to have the fun OF helping him
make his money, makes the mistake ot
her life.
Fortune Changes Rapidly, Too
Besides fortunes change so rapidly in |
this country that the difference between
marrying a man who has inherited a
fortune, and marrying a poor hard
working man who is making his for
tune, is almost a choice between whether !