The Washington herald., 1918-04-05

"Au other great emotions carry some
tang OF disappointment. But the love
you feel for your child is perfect"
Some responsibilities go with u,
though. don't they?"
Somehow they make the love great
er. And there is no satisfaction equal
TO what you feel in doing things for
your child 1 suppose mothers feel It
even more than fathers At any rate.
my wife often says that she doesn't
share the longing q woman sometimes
expresses to be a man She thinks
that a woman who reaches q complete
life il very much luckier than a man
can ever be. However, II seems 70 be
impossible for a man to stretch his
imagination to the point where he
would wish to be a woman"
Perhaps it is only unfashionable.
The masculine code forbids the enter
tanning OF any such wish. II a man
felt IL he would keep it a secret There
are young boys who say they would
like to be girls. The reason is. i sup
pose. that they associate a good deal
with girls and girls are more codded
and apparently have a better time"
''I sometimes wonder IL we don't eX-
aggerate the difference between the
two in their natures during the earlier
years. We want them to be different
and we treat them in different ways.
Toward boys We are often more or
less Spartan. Ny wife and !, though
we should like TO treat our boy just
as well as we treat our girl. hnd our
selves favoring the girl The result
isn't altogether good. in other families
we have seen il operating in very un-
fortunate ways. It makes the girls
selfish and exactlng and IL makes the
boys resentful and occasionally rebel
lious. 4 also causes ill-feeling be-
tween the children.
But wouldn't it be almost impos-
sible TO treat your boy and girl eX-
actly alike?'
1T wouldn't be IL We were able TO
emancipate ourselves from old-fash-
toned points OF view and ways. We
do as far as we can. For example.
We never tell our boy that he ought
TO do a thing because it is manly and
We never encourage our girl 10 do a
thing because it is the right thing
for a Eirl 10 do. We don't want TO
make them think OF those differences"
What kind OF standard do you hold
up to them?"
''I don't believe We hold UP any
standard in the way OF words. We do
Just as little preaching as possible
We try TO make home a good place
for them to develop in It's some job.
I assure you. We have to be very
careful OF our manners"
DO you think manners are 20
important"
Il am sometimes tempted 10 think
they are more important than any
thing else. II you have really good
manners they won't let you 30 very
far astray. They are always pull
ing you up. But. OF course. TO he
good manners they must have their
roots in pretty fine qualities. When
children are reared in circumstances
where good manners prevail all the
time they need ,very little teaching
in manners. They take on the man.
ners around them. II my wife and
were discourteous TO each other we
should know that we were teaching
discourtesy to the children. That
danger has made US both very care
full"
Little pitchers have big ears '"
Exactly And little children have
big eyes, as well 1t is hard for US
grown-ups to realize how intensely
interesting life is to children, how
they drink il in and how they try
to appraise It. A great many things
that We pass over because they are
old TO US they enjoy as novelties
and excitements. Every day they
are learning. And many Of The les
sons we grown-ups give them are
corrupting. Think, for example. OF
the lessons they receive in the in
dulgence Of anger. They see and
hear grown-ups using the evil power
that goes with anger and they find
that they have the same power and
they use IL, too. Ny wife and are
more concerned about anger thap
about anything else in our relation
with our children"
Then you don't punish the chill
dren?'
We have 70 punish them. We have
TO teach them the relation between