El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1918-11-16
NELL BRINKLEY

husband is among those men During
ny two years OF married life I have
never heard one tender word He
never pays me any compliments, never
makes a sign that he sees OF ap-
preciates the things I do for him.
or the sacrifices make He never
tries 10 make himself attractive in
nv eyes He seems TO think that be-
cause I once loved him. I an doomed
TO 90 on loving him. no matter how
he treats me or how unloTing he be-
'sIy husband forgot that = woman
Graves sentiment. that romance was
the very breath Of ny life He also
forgot that was satisfied With pow
erty. only 20 have the man 1 loved
He does not realize that he is 20 blame
for my unhappilsss- He blames me
You see. it isn't a deliberately cruel
man who has caused all this suffer
ing. He knows that the responsive
girl he once made love to was IN love
when they married So he IS ignorant
enough TO suppose himself equipped
for the rest OF his days with an end
iessly self sacrificing wife whose mo-
tive power is neglected and station
airy emotion
II Tou're in Love. Listen.
Love isn't stationary It's always
hanging back OF rushing ahead
And II won't endure neglect For
n YOU don't pay attention 70 II. you'l
find some day II has vanished alto
gether.
It's like some sweetly blooming
garden plant that must be wesdsd
and watered and summed and kept
from frost and wind.
Almost all women seem 70 know
this instinctiveIy- I suspect that VEN
en- are born with more knowledge CT
love than men acquire IN q lifetime
It's just a part OF their heritage
Not many women make the mis-
take OF supposinS that because their
newly married husbands are in love
with them, that is the end Of the
matter. They know that to keep on
being loved indefinitely. they must
continue lovable. So they try to
be sympathetic and eompznionable.
They try to keep the love relationship
unharm ed
And II they know how to give love
gracefully and generously. they
naturally expect that Il viii also be
given them in return. So when they
their husbands have forgotten al
about love. they are first greatly as
tonished- Then they are deeply
wounded Then something deadly hap
pens to the love inside themselves
And 1t isn't likely that a marriage
from which the very life has gone. can
ever again seem other THAI a mean
ingless and empty thing
\ PrOhaeu1 Tor " Ives.
So here is a question for most Tor-
en- and all wives How much shall
they demand Of a sex that hasn't de-
velOped the art OF loving as they
themselves have7 How shall they
meet this discouraging blindness and
passiveness on the part OF men?
Wives should try. I believe. not
10 be too easily wounded And II they
are convinced that there is a sleepy
dog like love hidden away inside their
husbands. I think they ought to coax
it out and teach Il to express itself
Men are teachable creatures in many
ways we must admit. They have even
learned things that women haven't
Why can't they. with patient. skiiful
teachers. learn something Of the art OF
loving2
But where It's a matter OF = dead
love. women are likely to indulge In
considerably too long = period OF
mourning and lamentation- It's mere
squsndered energy. wasted life. to do
this For human affection. turn to
your children. II you are lucky
enough TO have any. For every day
interest. find some work outside your
home. that won't be full Of personal
reminders
II not a happy woman. the next
best thing TO look upon Is a cour-
ageous woman