The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1918-06-26
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.
How To Choose a Husband.-2.

Don't marry a man just because you
love him. The most important thing
is whether he loves you. woman
who loves her husband better than he
does her is a doormat on which he
treads If he loves her better than
she does him, she is the goddess
whom he worships. and he spends his
life trying to please her.
A too adoring wife wearies man
with her affection, but no. women ever
had enough love given her to satisfy
her. and the more devotion a man
lavishes upon her, the stronger the
claim he establishes on her heart.
After marriage a thousand things
draw a woman to her husband, but a
million things estrange him from her.
Any good woman who marries a man
who is kind to her will love him
enough. Therefore, it is a wise girl
who marries the man who loves her
rather than the man she loves when
she can't both love and be loved.
Don't marry a man because he is
brilliant. No genius is satisfied to
scintillate on his own hearthstone, and
his wife's heart must needs be torn
with jealousy. Besides, the very quel-
tiles that make his achievements pos
sible-the highly strung nervous or
ganization.- the senstiyeness to i'm
preston. the very vagaries of the ar
tlstic temperam ent-make him try
| ing person to live with. No woman
should marry such a man unless she
| is willing to Use her own happiness as
fuel to feed the fires of his genius
Don't choose man who follows a
| public career unless you are willing
, to be just the fringe on the outside
of his life instead of the whole fab
| rio. man picks out his life work
/ long before he picks out his wife; he
prepares himself for it by years of
study and work; it is the thing by
which he rises or falls in life, and a
| woman has no right to interfere
| with it.
Yet we continually see women who
| marry doctors and who break up their
husbands pre- ctice by their jealousy of
his female patients, or women who
marry actors and who writhe over
every love scene On the stage between
| their husband and his leading lady,
and the air is full of the lamentations
of the wives of popular clergymen and
| politicians that their husbands belong
| to the public instead of to them, q
| Success is always bought at a high
price, and the wife of the successful
man must pay her share, so II you
want a husband who will sit across
the radiator from you every evening
and who will never cost you a Jealous
pang, marry some commonplace fell
low that no other woman wants.
Don't choose a foreigner for a hus-
band unless you are willing to adopt
| his national point of view on women
A petted, coddled, admired, spoiled
American girl who marries a man
| who has been brought up to believe
that woman's only use in the world
is to bake bread and have babies
hasn't got the ghost of a show at hap.
piness. Neither has the husband.
In choosing a husband, pick out q
man who is honely rather than hand.
some. so shall your own beauty be ad
| mired. Choose one who will rur
after you rather than one you have
chased down, so shall he be constant
Select one who will burn incense be
fore You rather than expect you t.
burn it before him, so shall you al
ways be worshipped. Pick out on,
who is prosperous rather than rich, 81
shall you have love to comfort you i
fortune fails. Choose one who is in
telligent rather than brilliant, SO shall
you have commonplace comfort il
your home.
Above all, never marry a man VIII,
has not sympathy aid tenderness
There come times in every woman.
life of sorrow and sickness racke,
nerves and rended heart, and if sh
cannot then fall hack upon a hus
bands tenderness that is as all en-
folding as the tenderness of God, sh.
. is poor indeed. If a man has that, al
else may be forgiven. If he lacks il
all other virtues are as nothing.