El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1918-11-09
Keeping the Love of a Husband Now
Most a Matter of CompanionShip
It Has Been Live Topic With Women Throughout
the Ages, But Is Practiced Differently
Now Than in Former Ages.
, BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

MANY women would say that the
4f4 successful wife is the one who
has mastered the art Of keeping her
husbands love.
It's beyond question that from the
beginning OF time women have wanted
to be loved. and that they want It
now no less than they ever did.
But nothing that I can think OF has
more radically changed than the means
employed TO achieve this universal
desire
There have been long ages OF the
worlds history when women believed
that love was largely dependent on
magic. At such times professional
traffickers in love charms have flour
! ished greatly and hordes OF fortune
! tellers and their kind have lived-as
smaller number still do-at the ex-
/ pense Of the superstitious and the
I lovesick.
Wives and sweethearts thought then
that Few drops OF a liquid cOncoc-
ton called love philter. dropped IN
the loved ones drinking goblet, would
keep him thoroughly enamored. If II
didn't work, the only explanation was
that the right magic hadn't been en-
ployed.
At other times women have believed
that beauty was the only means Of
gaining OF Of holding a husbands
love.
OF late years wives eager to be
loved have had more practical coun-
sells They have been urgently ad-
Tised never 10 wear curl papers ex-
cept in the strictest privacy. Never TO
wear a wrapper to the breakfast table.
Always TO begin to smile when they
hear their husbands foot upon tho
stairs. And. above all. 10 study dill
gently the art OF cooking. and to see
that every meal represents a triumph
Of this art
Love and n Good Dinner.
A good deal OF excellent sense has
been conveyed with such advice as
this Beauty certainly won't win love
II it's defaced by curl papers, and the
most devotedly attached husband won't
feel like expressing his love for his
vile II she allows him TO go hungry
or, worse than hungry, tantalized,
tormenred. perhaps even enraged, by
the sight Of food that proves not to
be eatable.
But this isn't the whole story.
For my part, ! believe that there's
a modern way OF making oneself be-
loved that's a good deal more effica-
cious than all the old ways rolled into
one. And my belief is founded on a
paradox. I have a notion that the
woman is loved most who tries least
to gain love.
Can't Inspire Love.
A woman who does nothing all day
but wait for her husband TO come
home and who painstakingly thinks
up ways to make him admire her
after he gets there isn't very likely
to hold his love for a lifetime. Women
whose days work consists in cold
Dreaming their faces. waving their
hair and washing and ironing frippery
to put on in the evening defeat their
own object. They will never inspire
or retain ony love worth speaking of.
The truth IS that the woman who
holds her husbands love is not only
his wife but his comrade. He feels
safe with her, because he knows she
isn't straining every nerve to bewitch
him. So he is able to confide in her,
as every man longs 10 confide IN a
woman-and you know how tightly
bound ono is to the person one has
the habit of confiding in. He respects
her in a sense in which men haven't
always respected women. And be
finds her a better companion for play
or work than any man can be.
Modern Type Of Wife.
You know the kind OF woman I
mean. They are springing up every
where in these days OF votes FOR
women and jobs for women. and.
above all. OF common sense for women.
The kind Of girl that knows how to
do something well and does it and
gets paid for it. The kind that thor
oughly likes men. but is a trusty