The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1918-06-28
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.
To Camouflage Unattractiveness.-2.

To Camouflage Unattractiveness.-2
Therefore, let the girl who has no
talents not lament over her lack, but
rather rejoice thereat, for it leaves
and applaud the performances of 9TH
ers, and there is no one whom we so
love, cherish and admire as the indi-
vidual who admires us and gives us
glad hand.
1 should advise the girl who wants
to be admired, yet who fears that she
has no especial natural charm to learn
how to dress, to cultivate an appre-
citation Of music. books. and art so
that she may be properly enthusiastic
about things that other people do,
then to learn how to dance well. to
play a good game of cards, and to go
in for athletics of various kinds as
like being Sa1ly-on-the-spot, able and
ready to take an expert hand in any
thing that comes along.
The girl whom it is a delight to
dance with never lacks for partners
at a. ball, no matter whether she is
to. The girl who plays cards well
enough to make every game exciting
is never forgotten when bridge parties
are made UP. The girl who can put
pep and zip into any kind of sports
because she is there with the goods is
always in demand for house parties.
It's the lackadaisical girl who fox
trots like an elephant, and trumps her
partners ace, and doesn't know how
to do things, from whom eligible men
and hostesses pray to be delivered.
Then I should advise the girl who
is seeking the elusive things we call
charm to devote earnest and heart
felt study in acquiring the art of be-
ing good listener. Most people Of
fer you an insult by the way they
listen. instead of making 1t an ire
sistible compliment. They interrupt
you in the midst of the story of your
life to ask you if you saw that cute
little deg across the street, and when
you pause to take breath they jump
right in with some irrelevant remark
that shows they haven't heard a word
that you have said.
Any girl who will learn to listen
with an expression of absorbed inter-
est on her face, and who will learn
how to murmur at every pause in the
that has in it what actors call convic-
ton and sincerity. will have people
ranged up seven deep waiting for a
chance to tell her things.
Finally, I would advise girl who
desires to make herself attractive to
cultivate an intelligent interest in
other people. This is the open sesame
to every heart in the world. This is
the charm that survives beauty and
youth, and is more potent than genius
itself.
For none Of us, in truth, have more
than amid and lukewarm interest
in other people, but we have an
eternal, never tagging, never salts
fled interest in ourselves and our own
affairs. We may admire beauty in
others, but the thing that brings a
thrill to our breasts is to see the
look of admiration Of our own pull
chritude in another's eyes. We may
like to hear of the achievements that
have brought honor and fame to
another, but the thing that we car
talk about by the yard is the summer
tour we took in our own automobile
or the time we made a thousand dol
lars on Wall street, or the state of the
grocery trade.
Never talk about yourself, your
family or belongings, but talk to other
people about their triumphs, posses
sions, their husbands and children
| That is one bi sign board on the road
| to popularity. Follow that and You
cannot miss the way.
| These rules for becoming a charmel
| are guaranteed to work. Try them
girls.