Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1918-04-20

Are Discussed
BY MRS. WILSON WOODROW

young girl married short time.
My husbands business keeps him
from early in the morning until
late in the evening. During his
absence he does not allow me to
so anywhere. not even with my own
family. l have tried having several
heart-to- heart talks WITH him on the
subject. But when tr! this he gets
into such a rage and clrses so that
I am ashamed to face the neighbors
the next day. My health is affected
by the lack of fresh air md 1 am be-
coming very delicate. My husband
is a good provider, and have fash
ionable clothes.
He stays out when he wants to.
having a good time; bit 1 can do
nothing, not even the least little
things, without consulting him. Still
he says he loves me ana would not
lose me for anything.
rs this happiness? No friends,
no change. no fresh air, no money.
Only a home, nice clo1hes and Il
Jealous man. Do you think this is
love? Or does any one? / am not
complaining. only l would like some
one else's point of view.
CONSTANT READER."
Since you have asked me for my
opinion, / hasten TO give it to you.
Your husbands views are quite out
of date. They do not belang to this
day and age. He apparently wants
a slave, and not wife wao is COM
panion and comrade. YoU may take
it for granted that a person who is
not willing to permit another the
freedom he takes for himself. is him.
self enslaved. That is quite obvious
in your husbands case. He is the
slave OF his own benightec jealousy.
My dear girl, you are young, and
considering the circumstances un-
der which you live, il is no wonder
that you are unhappy. If YOUR state /
ment of the case is correct. your
husband has no thought or care for
YOU or your own best interests.
Suppose after five or ten years of
This kind of life he forces you to
live, he should die? What would
happen TO you?
You would be about as we'll fitted
to cope with life of the word as an
ancient Chinese lady with her Jiny,
useless crippled feet. Among the
NdpdblSs Stll-IGAAdllN mOilAttif VI ~
day. you would be like a plant that
has been kept in a dark cellar and
suddenly set out in a bed OF hardy
garden flowers.
The sort of life you are now liv-
ing is inevitably going to stunt your
intellect and your initiative, your
heart and your soul. You viii grad
tally lose the power to think and act
for yourself.
Are you content to be a woman or
leash? rs this happiness?" Never.
1t is degradation. rs this .ove?"
Never! 1t is the desecration o. love.
II am not complaining" NJ! dear
girl, do not take that humble sub
missive attitude. Complain at the
top of your voice. What if the reigh-
bors do hear your husband cuEing? .
1t is he who should be Inundated,
not you. !
You are not a toy dog. Yot areI
a woman with your inalienable rights
TO life. liberty and the pursuit of 1ap-
piness. A home and good clothes
are very nice things indeed; but there
are some things better-self-resIe
the knowledge that one can stant on
ones own feet and has the eqTip-
ment to earn ones own living and
choose ones own friends and is corr
victim of another's tyrannical whins
and impulses. ~
If you keep on in the same rut
YOU are in now, you will become
more and more afraid of life. Tht
is a calamitous state of mind. I'll
People are constantly repressing
their real desires and hopes, becaus
they are afraid of taking the neX
step. But the victor's crown is never
awarded to the timid and over-cau-i
tious. 1t goes to the bold and posi-
tive natures, to the people who know
what they want, and go out deter
mined to get it fairly and honestly
no matter what the obstacles in the /
way may be.
Why do you not say something of /
this kind to your husband:
II don't care how you curse and !
rave. nor whether the neighbors hear /
you or not. That is nothing to me- |
i have something to say TO you, and /
you might as we'll listen like a rea- |!
sonable being and not like a mad !,
man, for l am going to say it.
Like any other normal woman, |
want love and a home But l re-
fuse TO continue to accept them on |
the only terms you offer. Therefore. |
until you are willing to grant these |
blessings on decent, reasonable, sane |