The Washington herald., 1918-06-12

She gloats over his anxiety and dis
appointment when she breaks an en-
gagement with him. for some trivial
cause. and she delights in thinking
how easily she can pull him back to
her whenever she is ready. He is,
for the time being merely a monkey
on a stick that she makes jump for
her amusement.
But before she knows II the woman
who enjoys making a man jealous goes
too far. He gets tired of being made
a spectacle OF. and when she tries to
whistle him back he will not come.
His faith has been shaken, his trust
abused, his most sacred feelings out
ragged and he declines to be martyred
any longer.
The unmarried woman who tries 10
make nlr sweetheart jealous plays with
a firebrand, but the married woman
who tries to make her husband Jealous
starts a conflagration that she cannot
put out, and that almost invariably
burns her home down to ashes. For
the married mans honor. and name,
as well as his heart are in his wifG's
hands, and when she tosses these
about as a jester does his balls. she is
literally playing with destiny itself.
Back of her husbands love, and
overshadowing it, is his pride. and it is
doubtful il any mans affection Is
great enough to make him ever for
give his wife's having made him ridic-
ulous. Of her having made him the
mock and jest of his friends. as the
flouted husband always is. For we
pity the woman whose husband is
faithless to her. and amuses himself
with other women, but We jeer at the
man whose wife has affairs with other
men.
Somehow. the man who cannot keep
his own appears to us in the light of
a weakling. and this adds the final
touch of fiendishness to the act of the
wife who diverts herself by making her
husband jealous.
Every now and then some mis-
guided prophet arises who tells
women that the way to keep their
husbands love alive is by always
keeping them guessing, and that a
wife should never let her husband
feel sure OF her. Never was there
more fatal counsel given. Exactly
the reverse of this is true. The
wife who keeps her husband guess
ing about her. who keeps him sus-
picious of her. distrusting her has
laid the ak to the very root of his
affection for her.
For the thing that binds a man
to a woman with ropes of steel,
the charm that holds him still when
beauty and youth have fled. is just
the knowledge that there is one
love that is faithful unto death,
and that will never fail him. and
there is one whose affection is
strong enough to endure poverty
sickness and disgrace with him.
and that will stand by him though
all others fall away. that there is
one breast that he can turn to and
lay his weary head upon it, no mat
ter if misfortune drives him from
all other shelter, and the woman
who shakes her husbands faith in
that love and who makes of her
self a light-of-love by rousing her
husbands jealousy has thrown
away the strongest weapon in her
armory.
1t is often said that there can be
no true love without jealousy, but
the reverse of this Is true, and
there is no real love that is tainted
by jealousy. Perfect love casts Out
all suspicion of the beloved one
and the man who is Jealous of hi.
wife or the woman who is jealou,
of her husband, tacitly accuses eacf
other of the crime that is the death
Of love.
Jealousy has no part in love. j
is the black shadow Of our owl
suspicion. Every man and woman
who really love face the great ul
timatum of the heart-trust me al
i in all-or not at all.
Dorothy Dix's articles appear reg
ularly in this paper every Monday
"Wednesday and Friday.
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