The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1918-11-12
HEART AND BEAUTY
PROBLEMS
BY MRS. ELIZABETH THOMPSON.

In reply to J. NJ. H: You should
consult with a good physician before
you decide to accept the position out
of town.
1 should say that your wife Is in
need of strong discipline to bring her
out of her present condition. Prob
ably you have always done all the
sacrificing and she is so used to it that
she would not be willing to move
away even for your good. u
Do not make all the sacrifices. If
you take this step do soS fearlessly
and do not let her tears or hysteria
weaken you.
Probably her condition is mental
rather than physical. She imagines a
great deal of her suffering.
If you can, take her to a nerve
specialist in some large city, and have
him diagnose the case.
| Dear Mrs. thompson: I am a
young bride OF two months. Before
l was married my husband was very
| thoughtless and ;nconsiderate. He
| could not resist going with certain
girls, buc I forgave him.
| We live with his people, and every
night since we were married he has
left me and gone uptown. Do you
think he still goes with girls even
| tho he g married? He still thinks a
great deal of the one girl he used to
go with before he met me. 1 believe.
Do you think he just married me for
spite? WORRIED.
| 1 have no way to judge why your
| husband married you Or whether he is
| faithful now. You should insist upon
| living in a home by yourselves. I'm
! less you can make a home for him,
you and he will grow apart. He GER
| tainly should not go away every eve
ming and leave you.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: We are not
sisters, but We board and room at the
same place.
We have a great number of boy
friends. two Of which come to see us
almost every night. Sometimes two
come to see one of US the same night
1t has caused some trouble and the
boys we like best are angry and have
said they would not come back. There
are many girls here who are anxious
to go with these boys and we want to
win them back for ourselves.
They have never said they cared for
US, but from all appearances they do.
Please advise us what to do.
| GEORGIA AND GERALDINE.
1t is not good form to make two en-
| gagements for the same evening. The
boys had reason to resent such treat
ment- Tell them you will not let it
happen again. If they are not willing
other time profit by this mistake.
Dear Mrs Thompson: am very
much in love with a young man two
years my senior. I have known him
for two months. We are engaged and
my mother thinks it is a very good
match We are both under age, but
our love holds us together. My mother
has arranged for us to be married in
two years, but we want to be married
right away as my beloved is Is and
may be called.
i Don't you think that il mother
cared enough for him 1t would be all
right to marry now? I am 16.
4 A SINCERE LOVER.
You are merely a child and can
know nothing about friendships with
various men. Your mother is wise in
putting off your marriage, but think
she would have shown greater wisdom
IL she had objected to the engagement
i At the age of 16 you may have very
definite ideas. but your tastes are not
settled. In five years you will grow
from the people and things which
mean most to you now.
I Do not be afraid to wait. Surely you
do not want marriage without deep
; and lasting love. Give yourselves the
test. If, at the end of few years,
| you find that you still have congenial
tastes. your love will be all the greater
!. for waiting,