Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1917-10-06

want her to have single desire un-
Gratified.
81 believe, moreover, that any
man who marries without sufficient
income to maintain his wife on an
equal footing with the other women
of the set in which she moves is
doing an injustice both to himself
and to the girl he loves. And it is
this which prevents many other
young men from marrying.
Frankly, 1 have hard time to
keep myself as I'd like to. 1t seems
better to me to take my sweetheart
on an outing two or three times q
week and thereby enjoy her society
to limited extent, rather than
marry her and plunge us both into a
sea of poverty and discomfort. 1t ia
on behalf OF the many heartbroken
young girls who are in the same
plight as my sweetheart, that / have
written you.
"A LOVER IN VAIN"
So, there, you see. Both my cor
respondents have blessings in plenty.
The one. it is to be assumed, has
money and success; the other the
love of the woman to whom he has
given his heart. But because they
lack the one thing on which their
minds are set, they are miserable.
The first suggestion which comes
from the perusal of their letters is,
of course. that both are sadly in
need of that sterling old bit of adj
vice. Faint heart never won fair
lady"
Possibly, If the young man from
the Southwest would act upon it, If
he were to be less shyly business
like himself. he would find that the
adding machine had a very strong
prediction for moonshine, and
could click away just as romantically
--humanly and naturally, he puts il
as he might wish. He has simply
failed to operate the proper set OF
keys and levers.
Juliet herself would probably have
been curt and business-like If Romeo
had talked to her as If he were die
tating an order for hardware
AS for the Lover in Vain," he is
taint-heart He stands at the cross,
roads unable ia make up his minu
which path to take. He pleads that
it would be an injustice both to him
self and his sweetheart for them to
marry in his present circumstances
And | agree with him. AS q rule, II
is mistake to marry on an insur-
ficient income; but in marriage no
rule is infallible.
There are many men who have
married on nothing, and who give
TO that fact all the credit for their
later success. Either their new re-
sponsibilities gave n flip to their
energy, or else they needed the CO.
operation which the right kind OF
a wife alone can furnish.
But from this letter one does not
imagine that "A Lover in Vain is
of that type. Magnifying the OBJ
stacles in his path, he piously writes
of the injustice he would do the
girl by marrying her. Yet he Is
selfishly prepared to monopolize her
time and company, never giving a
thought to the injustice of keeping
her dangling on in such a question
able position.
If he regards the obstacles in his
path as insurmountable there is but
one course Tor him to follow-to re-
lease the girl and let worthier man
have a chance to step into his shoes
For there are men who if they were
madly in love with a girl would turn
the world upsidetown but what
they would have her and success
too.
All, Lover in Vain" where is
your waith in yourself? Where is
your faith in the future? You have
raised up a lot of bugaboos. And
bugaboos are all that stand between
us and the achievement of any hope
or aspiration, or ideal.