The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-05-14

young woman can nave no worse
enemy than the man who Il a social
dead heat, who takes up her time and
monopolilcs her society, who lets her
waste her youth and freshness and
beauty upon him when he has no intcn-
ton whatever OF asking her to marry
him.
lie knows that nj. attentions are
without intention He knows that he
i' keeping away other men who would
like TO marry hcr lie knows that hc
IS in all probability booming her 10 a
spnSterhood In which she viii have
to earn her own bread and butter in
stead OF having a good husband 10 pro
vide her witt, cake and ale. but. he
cause the gifl is attractive or amusing
or Il ilattcrs his vanity to be seen about
with the ptctticSt dcbuiautc OF the year.
this monumental cgotiSt sacrifices her
whole future to HI, own selfish pleas
urc.
Sometime, such a man will even de-
liberatcly set himself TO win the girls
heart He talk. sentiment 10 her by
thc yard. He bcguilcs her along ap
the ilowcry paths OF romance 10 the
very brink Of thc proposing point. bot he
never goes over that Al the very edge
II IT he stops short and backs away 70
safety And after awhile he fits away,
Ike gay butterfly, TO some other bud
IN the rosebud garden Of girls
Sometimes a trliler like this has done
the girl an irrcparahle harm because he
has filled her heart 50 full uf him il
never has room III II for another man
Always he has hurt the girl 20 thi, ex-
tent that he has brushed some Il the
freshness from the flower OF her faith
in man He has lett her cynical. dis
ilusioned bitter
Now, i'll Judging OF a mans sentiments
to her young and inexperienced girl
IL absolutely helpless She has no way
of even guessing what his intentions
are. She has no scale Of values by which
TO measure the worth OF his courtesie,,
no acid test to apply TO what he tells
her, so as 10 ascertain what is truth
and what lies.
She is even credulous enough TO Dc
celvc herself into believing that mere
compliments indicate love, and that a
man would not hang about her, and be
eager to take her 10 places, and furious
II she danced with another man. unless
he meant to ask her to marry him.
Worldllngs know, as the girl does not
that what a man does for a woman or
what he says TO her, means nothing or
everything, as the case may be. OF
themselves they have no value as all in
dex TO his intentions.
A man may visit a girl seven times a
week. He may take her about 70 the
alter and restaurants and cabarr,s and
spend money like water upon her be
4 cause he enjoys her society because he
is lonesome, because she attracts aticn-
ton in public places and he likes TO see
people stare at her. because he wants
10 make some other man Jealous. be
cause OF thousand reasons that have
10 earthly connection with u wedding
/ ring and that never lead 10 the altar.
But the girl can only keep guessing
what these things mean She doesn't
know whether III accepting the mans
attentions, she Is following blind trail
that leads to the no mans land OF old
maldenhood, or paying lead that ends
In a church wedding. She doesn't know
whether to encourage the man or show
him the door That is why il is such
kindly and honorable act for young
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means business or whether he is just
amusing himself.
In olden times the prudent father.
when he observed that a Young msO had
developed the habit OF hanging around
his pretty daughter, took the youth
aside and asked him what were his
| intentions.
! That must have been a highly emhar-
/ RAISING moment Tor all concerned. The
modern method ot the young man who
voluntarily offers this valuable inior
nation to the girl herself is a better
way.
II is playing the game fairly with
the gid II is giving her show ior
her white alley Ii is putting her
wise TO just how matters stand, telling
her Just what she has TO hope, luSt
wha, TO figure OH It's up TO her then
TO decide what she wants TO do.
The modern man is the only man in
the whole history Of the world who has
ever been really thralrouS to women
and the finest, whi,eSt flower OF thu,
chivalry i' shown IN his even being
willing to play the game OF hearts fairly
with a woman, and to play with his