The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1917-10-12

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Importance; they imply so much that
they should be entrusted, If at oil, only
perhaps to one or tive, whose tested
love, honor and loyalty make dc13t
seem, sacrilege. There are friends of
the mind, friends of the heart and
| friends of the soul. 1t is with the last
only that we have assurance and cer-
tainty that open ears will ever be as
ISOLATED with closed lips, that any
message committed to them is stored
in the holy. of hOlies of memory, where
| speech can never reach it to reveal 1t.
In life, usually, the only absolute,
incontestable insurance of secret is
| to tell it to no one. If one does not
want a fact known it is wise not to
tell any part of iI. Partial condolences
| are dangerous, because in time the sep
arate pieces retained In the memory
| of the listener may be carefully put
| together, like the irregular sections of
a disSected map. Sometimes a word, a
| suggestion, an 'inadvertent phrase,
meaningless In itself, vitalizes I'M
noted trifles of. old memories, which
suddenly combine and stand out, vivid
| and luminous in a moment as a COM
plete revelation, such as the speaker
never intended to give. There are
sometimes ordinations that are life
revelations in Il word, autobiographic
| confessions in an unguarded phrase.
Sometimes in the desire for sympa-
| thy or advice, one is tempted to tell a
home problem impersOnally, or rather
| In the third person. as the life-expe-
rience of some dear friend, with a
| hazardous confidence in the safety of
| the alibi; but the turning of q phrase.
sudden tension of emotion, fever
ish note of protest or plea may tend
to puncture the frail bubble of decep-
| ton. The vicarious sympathy may be
forthcoming, but it hardly pays for the
risk. The advice under such circum-
| stances is valueless, because it Is not
| based on the absolute knowledge of
every detail requisite for true judg-
ment and counsel really beneficial to
| the one asking advice and help In
some individual crisis.
Circumstances, personality and char
acter are so interrelated that 1T is diff
! ficult, impossible, indeed, for one hui
| man being to give an opinion on the
merits of question affecting two 9TH
ers when he knows really little about
them. Such advice might well be not
only worthless, but harmful. Far bet
! ter is il to deny even this indulgence
| TO oneself-fOr, after all. 1t is only an
indulgence.
There is unwisdom in talking too
| freely even of happiness in married
| life outside the home walls. 1t may
| give new touch of pain to one strug-
| Cling with serious heart problem and
| unable to see way out. 1t may be a
| tax on the courtesy and patience of
! those who cannot be expected to feel
| deep personal interest in the
| Wanted joys of another. Often In the
swift current of speech one may speak
of some little domestic episode that
should be held too sacred for the ears
of others. What may be sweet and
| dear. in the words and acts of either,
| may seem but silly sentimentality
| translated by unsympathetic minds
and repeated with variations by wan
| tonly wagging tongues.
Should there be any drop in the
| value of the home stock and one NO
longer tells of the pearls of happiness,
| the very silence will be construed as a
confession and may bring trail Of
humiliation or criticism and gossip. 1t
may entail lying and hypocrisy to sus-
| tain the old record.
True happiness rarely boasts; it ra-
dates. If it really exists the little
world that cares at all, the few who
| have real heart interest in the two, viii
| reach it in the eyes more truly than
| from the lips, more in the voice than
| in the words. 1t will glow and per-
wade an atmosphere Of sweetness,
trust, peace and comradeship, mani
| Testing itself in a hundred little ways
that tell the story without words as a
| rose reveals its presence through its
| perfume, the sun the light and
warmth it radiates. True happiness
need not advertise; it has merely to
| exist to make itself felt.
When the home problems assume
| the acute phase when confidence some
where seems compelling, then let hus-
band and wife cOnfide more closely In
| each other, realizing that their prob
| lem must first be tried BY this council
| Of two, if it is really to be solved at
all. In the sweet, honest, full, frank
| interchange of views, seeking not the
| blame of either, but the happiness of
, both; letting no personal pettiness or
| false sense of mOmentary triumph
eclipse the looked-for justice, and feel
| ing that, for the time, the great strug-
Cling, busy world outside is too micro
scopically small to be worthy of a
thought, when weighed in the balance
| of their united happinesS-their happi-
ness in union and unity-then, In such
| a spirit, and only in such one, great
| things become possible.
1t is this spirit of the finality of the
| two, love recognizing no higher court
of appeal in the world around them,
| that holds the ideal of married life so
| high that it would seem the desecrat-
| ing hand of an outsider touching the
ark of the covenant of their love even
| to think of talking these matters over
| outside the sacred walls of home.
Suggestions for Camp.
One of the camp cOnveniences that
you fellows will find it well worth TAX
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