The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-09-26

am Cap1DIc ! cntrcht tltiH no' w No"'
nit matrimonial hari-kari as such a
union is bound to be Not once in a
million times docs a marriage in whicl,
the woman is ten years older than the
man turn out successfully. Practically
always il ends in misery and regret TOR
both parties.
There are many discrepancies be
tween couple that time and effort may
adjust so that what seemed an insult
able marriage when II took place turns
out happily The poor and humble
man an aristocratic girl marnes may
make money and raise himself in the
world The ili,cra,c and uncouth girl
cultivated man takes to wife may
educate herself and acquire a society
manner. People OF different natlonali-
ties may learn 10 sprak the others
language and adopt the others habits
and customs
But insuitability in age between a
man and woman is difference that
time aggravates and that grows worse
and worse every year And this is
particularly true when the woman, IS
the older Because women age faSt ter
than men, and while affection may
nimbly skip across the bridge between
twenty and thirty and call it nothing
only duty can halloo acro" the chasm
that separates woman'S fifty from a
mans forty years.
k,Eoman is always older than a man
is atSfhc same age She is born Older
A girl baby cu,s her NIX teeth be
fore a boy baby cuts his. Also she cuts
her wisdom teeth sooner. She learns
to talk before he does, and she has
made up her mind whom she will marry
and wha, sort of a wedding she viii
have before boy has found out that
women, as sex, even exist. And she
keeps up this running start on age that
she has gotten in the cradle so that
she is an old woman while he is still
mere youth.
These are stern facts OF nature that
no rouge or straight fronts or diet
ing or massaglng or thinking young
thoughts, or milliners, or dressmakers
can change one ioia, and IT is wha,
makes every marriage OF mature
woman with boy a tragedy And
the gall and bitterness OF the tragedy
are chiefly the woman's, for il is easier
to bear being tired OF an old wife than
for the old wife TO know that her young
husband is wearied unto death of her
Thec are countless reasons why a
boy OF twenty should not marry 4
- 4.
that lad of that age is not fit l.
marry any woman Of any age ",
hasn't come TO himself He doesn't ever
know what he is going 10 be himself
still less can he guess what sort of a
wife he is going to need and want.
The woman that charms and thrills d
boy OF twenty bores him stiff when he
is twenty-five and is an insupportablc
aiiliction when he is thirty Mems
tastes change in women Just as much as
they do in food, and a man is no more
allurcd at middle age by the feminine
qualities that charmed him in his salad
days than his appetite is piQucd by th
lollypops on which he was wont ,c
feast as a school boy
Marriage is a mans sized job, son. |,
is not for babes and sucklngs. Wal,
until your SHOULDERS are strong enough
TO bear their load, and your character
and habits are formed. Then you will
be able to bring judgmen, and dscrr
tion and experience OF women to IN,
task OF selecting a wife who will reall,
suit you And she won't be ten year,
. older than you are You can gamble
on that You never see a man ql thrt,
marrying a woman OF forty unless sh,
has large and substantial bank ac
count
; Another reasop why boy should no
marry woman much Older than he il
4 because they miSS the only basis ol
which matr,mony can be made sue
cess, and that Is having the same poin
!. OF view, thinking the same thoughts, an,
liking to do the same things This i
| impossible when there is much dispar
ity IN aye.
| The boy husband wants the amuse
i mcnts, the frvolitieS the fun that he
i longs by righ, to him in the play tim
II OF lie, bu, the wife has arrived at Sohc
middle age when she is tired, and d,
II StcS to let out her corset strings, an
!, cut down the heels OF her shoes an
.c wash of the paint on her face, and
il comfortable She may force herself ,
drag around with her youthful spouS
II but there's no pep or ginger in h,
II forced pretense of pleasure, and she
:. misery to herself and a poor PLAY
lc fellow tpr Friend Husband
" Still another reason why the marral
OF hoy and mature woman is iat
x mistake is because It strikes at two
4 the most pronounced weaknesses in II
Y. masculine character. One OF these
,k the fear of rldicule Men have, far lc
moral courage and are much more col
ig ven,lonal than women, as is proven
lr the fact that every man dresses exact
n like his nelehbor, and would rather ia,
TO a bartagc fire than wear a hat with
hrim quarter OF an inch wider
. narrower than his fellows
= Now custom has dcctecd that II
| vile hould be younger than the hu
| baud, and has made the old wife oi Il
| Young husband figure oi fun Their
| fore, II an elderly bride possessed eve
| charm aud virtue under the sun II wou
| not keep her Young husband from hril
| ashamed OF her, nor prevent him writ
| ing under the torture oi having sor
ninny mistake her Tor his mother.
The other weakness such a maria