Missouri Valley times. [volume] (Missouri Valley, Iowa) 1874-1931, 1917-01-25

so mucn to the phySlcaI develop
ment, both for the child period it
self as we'll as for the Foundation
of healthy later life. Order,
train the child to put away his
garments and playthings, let him
have some sense of responsible
ity. Table manners, everyone has
seen so many examples of both
Fthe wrong and the right kind of
|Nable manners, that it does not
require a Solomon to point out
(which kind to teach ones child.
lbut example is the best teacher.
This latter fact is the keynote of
Training for cleanliness. while
1everyone knows that boys and
dirt have a strong affinity, it is
ljust as true that boys and hero
worship go together. The infer
|ence is plain. Courtesy, where
lis the old-fashioned courtesy and
reverence for old age and things
holy? The courtesy of child to
parent and of parents to child?
Mr.. Joy pleaded with his audience
for better training in this respect.
The second division of habit.
the intellectual habits, was just
magnificent. In this respect, Mr.
Joy said that in these busy days,
the table seemed to be the gath
ering place for the family, and
therefore must perforce he The
place for the forming of intelIcc-
tual habits. He showed the value
lof discussion, i'm which the child
may have part, and where the
lchlld may come in contact with
wise people, of whom he may
learn the things never found in
books, and which mark him as the
lchild of well-bred home. The
value of good books, good music,
|good art in pictures, theaters or
whatnot was contrasted with the
slop that can be found only too
easily by the uncarcd for child.
But regard to spiritual habits.
the parent was urged to train the
lchild to religious habits, so that
when his religious life was awak-
ened he would have some means
Iof expressing himself. Relig-
ion," Mr.. JOY said, goes i'm
waves" therefore do NOT train
the child to religion, but train
him to meet the wave when it
lcomes.
"Wednesday evening in his ad-
1dress on 'The BOY Proalem, As
We Face It, Mr.. Joy showed
himself master. His prelimin-
ary picture, in which he COM
parcd the hoy to a piano, was a
magnificent setting for his inter
lpretation of the adolescent boy.
He discussed the physical and
mental growth of the boy during
the age of puberty, or from 4 n to
18 and he drew a wonderfully
clever and accurate picture OF The
boy at this time. He pleaded
with parents and teachers to un-
lderstand the boy, with his hard,
sand -papery exterior, covering a
silken loving disposition, scnsi-
tive to every contact, longing to
he understood, and yet acting as
though he We're against every
thing good. Mr.. Joy called this
the boys storm and stress pc
riod, not bad, but simply immoral
and investigating. He urged the
necessity of giving the boy re-
sponsibility, of giving. over to
them gradually, and wisely, au-
thority, of not holding the ado
lescent boy as a mere child, of
giving him something to do, of
1 the value OF exercise. athletics, of
lgiving them an allowance and
teaching them to save and spend
wisely, and above all, to wait un-
Til the boy finds himself and
comes into his own. No one who
heard Mr.. joys lecture Wedncs-
day evening, can help but synpa-
thiZe with the adolescent boy.
4. The lecture last evening by Mr..
Joy on the subject, "Thc King
ship of Control" was a wonder
Iful treatment Of the fundamentals
|of successful life. The speaker
|gave illustrations and reasons
|Mhy the loosing OF control was a
5|sign of weakness, weakness
that always is fatal. The great
lest man in the world is tllle one
lwhO can control himself. The
|greatesl victories a man can win
lis the one of self mastery.
| Mr.. joys lecture to the High
school boys Thursday afternoon
was the best our city has over
heard. Mr.. Joy presented to them
the things they should know in a
clean, concise Way--yes, very
Scientific.
The impression made upon
those young high school boys will
never leave them. Mr.. Joy has
done world of good to them.