Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-11-21

, that the standard brand of oil with
which the wise virgin keeps her lamp
filled is the oil of suspicion. She
should be taught that while there are
many Sir Gallahads among men they
constitute. the small minority of the
masculine population, and the balance
will bear watching.
Gallahads
And above all. she should be taught
that there is no other, relationship In
the world so sozdid, so brutal, and in
which the woman is treated with such
utter Task of tenderness and consid'
Grafton as that which exists outside
of the pale of natrimony. Free love
is SO called because Cupid is free to
pack up and leave whenever the man
gets tired of the woman.
Nine-tenths of all the tragedies that
wreck the lives of girls would be pre-
vented if only they had 1t bred into
their very bones to look with suspic.
ion upon every man who makes love
to them, and if they would investigate
the sincerity of every mans profess
sion of affection as carefully as they
would the genuineness of silk dress
they were buying.
Take, for instance, the case of a
married man who deliberately goes to
work to win the heart of a young girl.
He knows that he cannot marry her.
He knows that he will doom her to
old maidenhood by keeping other men
away from her. He knows that her
love for him can only bring her suf.
fering and sorrow and that their as
sociation is inevitably bound to stain
her good name.
Yet there are tens of thousands Of
cases in which married men amuse
themselves with such affairs, utterly
the girls happiness in life. And there
is not case of this kind that could
not be prevented if the girl had been
taught love affairs with married men
are not wistfully and sadly romantic
They are just assinine, and a brand
of idiocy in which nobody but born
fool girl would indulge.
Then there is the secret marriage.
A multitude of other girls slip into
that Shiny pit through sheer ignor.
ance of what it means and of the kind
of man who is cad and coward
enough to even insult girl by pro-
posing it TO her.
There would be no more secret mar
riages IL every girl gave the man who
proposed it to her an icy stare and
said to him: 'I'm wise to you and
&c. H.;
in the secret marriage line for me,
for 1. know that it generally also
means the silent fade away about the
time that a wife needs a husband
most. Anyway, I'm not marrying any
man who is so ashamed to have me
for a wife that he is not willing to
come out and acknowledge her be.
fore his friends. Neither am l keen
on marrying any man who is so unde.
sirable that he isn't willing to let my
family investigate him and find out
just what sort of a man he is.
What's the idea in the secrecy
stuff, ANYWAY? II you are poor; / am
willing to wait until you earn more,
or ] will go to work and help to make
money. As for the old fairy story
about being disinherited by your fam
fly, that doesn't go in the little old
U. S. A., and, anyway, IL / don't look
good to you as being remembered in
a will there's nothing doing. - L
Secrecy and matririony don't ap.
peal to me in the same connection.
I've known of too many secret brides
who spent the balance of their lives
In trying to explain to an incredulous
world that their marriage certificates
we're genuine"
Finally, there is the pathetic host