The Washington herald., 1917-12-03
WHEN LOVE TIRES
BY DOROTHY DIX.
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

turns into the most wearisome of
bores. Little tricks Of personality
that we once found enchanting get
on our nerves. Love Is dead. Selah.
We do not know why we fall in
love. We do not know why we
fall out Of love. The thing merely
happens and it is folly for the for
saken one to blame the one whose
temperature has dropped from fever
heat to below normal. 1t il no fault
of his or hers. We would all remain
forever raving in the delicious de-
lirium Of love IL we could.
Unfortunately this is impossible, and
while we may have recurrent attacks
Of love as long as we live, 1t Is never
from the same source of infection.
When we make up from our dream of
love the familiar old hand and voice
to which We are accustomed can
never wave US back into the hypnotic
trance again It takes new hand
and a new voice to put the spell upon
US.
This Is what makes SO futile the ef-
forts OF women to win back their
wandering husbands and sweethearts.
1t Is so absolutely impossible to re-
create the spell that first fired q
mans fancy. As well try to gather
at monday the mists Of dawn or fold
the shattered petals of q rose into a
bud again as for the woman Of whom
man has grown weary to try to
make herself again the elusive object
OF his desire she once was.
It simply can't be done. but while
no woman can resucitate a dead love,
Al
they would. Men are not wantonly
tickle. Men hate to hurt women, and
especially they hate to hurt the wo'
men they have once loved. They
would prefer to keep on worshipping
at the shrine on which they laid their
youthful hearts, and probably every
faithless man suffers as much as does
the woman he forsake.
II women appreciated this perhaps
there would be fewer of them shatter
their husbands >ideal of them by
their sordid seIfishness, their nag
ging and their littleness. Women are
never willing to take the blame, but
when love lies dead between a hus.
band and wife, it is Just as often hel
| hand that murdered it as his.
But to come back to the question
asked by the neglected women who
find that the men they love have
ceased to love them. which is-what
shall they do in the heart breaking
situation they confront.
My advice Is to face the question
fairly and squarely and realize that
there is no way in which q woman
can pique the interest Of a man whose
| interest in her has gone or inspire
love in him after his love for her Ii
| dead,
Therefore, let her waste no time ir
the hopeless undertaking, but let hel
make her life over from another an.
gle than the sentimental one. After
all love Is not the only thing in the
world. There are fifty-seven othel
varieties Of interests and pleasures.
When a wife realizes that she ha.
lost her husbands love she generally
proceeds to make an enemy of him by
her tears, recriminations and re
proaches. If'she has the courage ant
the, fortitude to make the best of .
bad bargain, she will deny herself
the pleasure of blaming him fol
what may have been only the process,
Of evolution in which he outgrew heI
and for which nature, not he, was re
sponsible, 'or lor something that wa.
probably as much her fault as his