The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1917-08-01
WHEN MAID, WIFE
AND WIDOW ARE IN LOVE

AND WIDOW ARE IN LOVE
Loves a fire that needs renewal
OF fresh beauty for its fuel;
Loves wing mouths when Gagged and
captured;
Only free he scars enraptured."
1t is the natural superstition of every
family, that daughters, when they
grow to suitable age, are destined
to marry It is therefore inculcated
rage is the clearing house, OF all their
future interest. Can you wonder that
they picture welded life as all roses
without thorn?
AS young girls are not experienced
in feature-studies, they cannot tell
whether the young men whom they
meet, would make good or poor hus-
bands from the shape Of their noses,
the curl of their lips, or the brisk gait
with which they walk down the street.
Young girls are apt to live In a fool's
paradise, when a young man comes
calling regularly upon her. She be-
lieves all he says, looks forward to
the future with conference.-the at
tribute of youth-and faith. They are
overfed, In the beginning with the
luxury of love, with no thought that
in after time they may starve for the
want of 1T. Bvery man invariably
puts his best foot forward, in wooing
and winning a young girl. She is a
prize. A man knows it. He is not
over sure that some one else may not
enter into the field, and prckh. to be
his waterloo. It is this uncertainty
which spurs lover on, and gives zest
to courtship. After marriage, the girl
whom so many admired settles down
into a contented wife If the husband
does his part to make it so. The gen
eral run OF married women will put
UP with any amount of hardships,
providing they have husband sleak
enough to hand out a good dose of
hattery continuously, to recompense
them for the lack of comforts he is
not providing for them.
1t has been said, that when poverty
comes in at the door, love flies out of
the window. That is quite true, when
the husband ceases to be a love-
maker, Married women, too, can in
habit fools paradise. If man
comes in from his cool walk on a sui
try summer evening and finds his wife
toiling, hot and tired over the kitchen
fire. or washing the dishes, he is not
a. diplomat. if he notices her angry
salute of: What kept you out so
later" or Ibid you bring home some
money!" $50
I. Clever is he is he replies: ..wf1at-
ever have in this world is always
yours. MY heart aches to see you
toiling hard. for love of me, and our
homer ThereIl be brighter days
ahead, Martha. I'll be, happy man
when 4 see you in your silks, with
plenty of help doing the cooking for
you"
Down deep in his heart he knows
there Is not the remotest possibility
of such a state Of prosperity. But
Martha is, soothed and works on hap
PLY, because her husband knows HON
to trim the love-lamp in her heart
and keep 1t burning.
Now we come to the heart of a
widow. She knows all that the young
girl does not know; all that the eyes
blinded by love, has not seen, and
profits by her knowledge She looks
over a prospective lover with a care
full eye. She does not trouble herself
with the query: How long will he
love me, If we wed?" But she con.
cludes. he looks big, healthy and
strong. He will be able to carr
money for me, for many a long year
With her, marriage is a, pracrica1-af-
fair; question of business If lib.
|era1 part of love is thrown IN, wei
and good. She gets all that the other.
have missed out Of married. life, be
cause while the iron of her admirer's
affection is hot, she draws him int,
making a marriage settlement upor
her. The widow knows tina, oppor
tunity is everything.
h Opportunity! What a world O.
meaning is folded down in that on.
word, especially when it applies t
Discriminating A widow knows. afte
a man has called awhile, he will eithe
propose or begin to back slide. If hi
interest is waning. she will waste nj
time on him. She knows what to ex
pect, when he begins to make ex
cuses to remain away. She has n,
hesitancy in giving the iback-slider /:
vigorous push, consoling herself will
the thought, that there's other fisl
lin the sea- It is not what a maj
says that sways the heart of a widow
1t is what he does for her, that es
tabhshes his good faith Somehow
men love these exacting women tn
best. She realizes her own value, an,
makes sure that the man too, will un
derstand it. Widows love-making i
the acme of wisdom. She is neithe
too coy, nor yet too bold. When sh
does marry, she is generally able t
! Hold the heart she has won agains
all comers; even keeping up her at
fractions. Some men are all hear.
Others wisely combine head and hear,
She knows that a man may weary O
having too much love lavished O
him. She does it out with the utmos
care. When a widow bestows he
heart second time, it is done wit
Judgment, but her affection is we
worth while to the man lucky enoug
to win her.
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