The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1917-09-15
LOSING MARRYING CHANGES.

"I can but own my life is vain,
 A desert void of peace.
 T missed the goal most others gain, missed the measure of the s1raln
 That i1l!s love yearning in the pra1n
 And bids life's discontentmeht
 cease"
 Have you ever tried to figure out why SD many excellent women "ho would have made adorable WlVes' ie- main spinsters? In almost every case +bera,s a reason. The one which tow CTS head and shoulders above all oth- CTS is that they were prevented rom coming in contact with young, mar riageaibIe men in the budding time O. early. wonaanhood. If a 1aHily oh children is left motherless. the fatner has no connpunction in installing tao eldest girl as head of the household.
 ..She is a regular little mother 10 her brothers and sisters, he teiis ms friends proudly, and the girl 1eefs am nlv repaid for her added duties and responsibilities, by the praise or her father, friends and neighbors. 10 thrust such heavy burden or care' on young shoulders, is grave matter. Where a father is poor, depenuang on his daily labor to support large lam lily, he is only too thankful to nave daughter of fifteen or so, to look after the young blood.
 The responsibility of mothering ht- tie brothers and sisters soon takes the merriment out of the 1ivetiest girl nature The routine of houseWork leaves no place for sentiment to take root. A crowd of hearty youngsters to mend and cook for absorbs her time and thoughts. Brothers and sisters get the notion in their heads that she is obliged to do all this for them. Ev- cry day of a boys life, he needs not only much looking after but he has a knack of juggling at the heart-strings of those who are fondly caring for him. He often gets into Iitched bat ties with other boys of the neighbors and comes home to frighten sister with bloody nose and torn clothes.
 The oldest girl cannot spend a dol lar for herself. It takes every cent that she can rake and scrape to keep shoes on the boys feet and shirts on their backs. The evenings which the tired little housekeeper should have for herself in recreation, must be spent on mending torn caps and fresh rents in stockings, to say nothing of cutting the boys hair and seeing that they get enough to eat and don't play hockey from school 1 Even after the boys are old enough to go to work, sisters cares do not cease. There Is just as much mend ing to do, with sponging, cleaning, pressing clothes and dry-cleaning necktfes. They can't give in much of their wages for board, nor afford to give anything to their elder sister It costs so much to clothe them, and then too. they muct keep something for spending money.
 Boys will be boys. They go to ball games, CT want game of pool, with once in while an evening at the the Iatre,. or movies. So swiftly falls the fcot of time that the girl of sixteen has soon developed into a woman. of thirty As father grows older. his ca- pacity for work Iessens. Daughter can't always depend upon a certain amount from the boys. If they don't hold it 5ack for one thing, it is for an- |other.
 When the boys commence to go about with the girls and announce one by one their intention of getting mar + ried, it begins to dawn upon sister that she spent her whole life in beins useful to them and that there will be no future reward attached to it. for her. She could not p.ead or caJole l