Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-08-03
DIVIDENDS ON LIFE
BY DOROTHY DIX
he Worlds Highest Paid Woman
Writer

NFTER all. life is just a sporting
4 proposition and we get out OF the
game just what we put into 1t
II we 20 al II with enthusiasm, ener-
~ and interest it pays hundred
per cent dividend, but If We 90 at II
niacky, listlessly, half-heartedly, II
bankrIpts us. Which explains why
some people are miserable failures.
In reality We all have pretty much
OF the same raw materials out OF
which to build our destiny. Most OF
us meet about the same kind OF PEG,
ple Most OF US get married. Most
Of as have children. Most OF us must
work for our daily bread, and whether
oiit or these conditions Of existence
We extract JOY or sorrow depends net
upon some inscrutabIe fate. but upon
ourselves.
Take friendship, for instance. we
are always hearing people complain
that they have no friends, that no one
cares for them, and that the world IS
selfish place where there is no such
thing as disinterested affection. Such
vail is an indictment OF the m
dividual who utters 1t and not OF the
balance of humanity. Such one Is
Refting out of the game just what ne
puts into It. -,
When people tell you that they have
no friends It is proof positive that
they are not friendly themselves.
When they tell you that no one cares
whether they live or die it is because
n ali their miserable, selfish, sell
centered lives they have never done
ANYTHING to bind another's heart to
them. They have never gone to q
man in financial trouble and offered
him enough money to tide him over
4 hard place. They have never sent
4 load OF coal to poor widow, or
naid her rent. They have never given
Z struggling boy or girl a hand up
TIE ladder, or taken a child to cir
e,,e. Why should anyone love them!
On the contrary you never see an
Individual who has been generous and
SYMPATHETIC and helpful. and who mas
7tff 40 opportunity pass to show his
a. her interest and affection III nus
o. her fellow creatures, VINO Iacks
Tor friends. The secret OF popularity
A no secret at all. It Is Just taxing
out Of the game what you put INTO IL.
n vou want to be loved you must
(rake yourself loyable. II you want
IS hind people to you, you can 90 II
with strings of kindly deeds. Tne
-nrenet that draws all other hearts
~ ~ consists in having great dig
human heart ourselves. ,.+s
whether we get happiness or misery
mt Of marriage depends also enureE
~ our own attitude towards It NO
ho8v but 4 fool expects marriage 70
- nothing but q romantic dream that
a one long thrift Of bliss. The sen.
rible recognize that no two people eau
I'VE together without having 70 H.
4 Thousand sacrifices and adjustments
a. each other, and that they are IN
cvitably deprived Of much OF the hp'
crfv that q single person enjoys.
There Is no husband who does nov
hsre hts times and seasons OF groucn'
80 There is no wife who. upon oc'
-ssicr does not act more like SHY
~rS hvsterical hen than pin-featn,
- .neel. There Is no marrleu
,.'.-,s fbat could not make marriage
-,sra or less Of success.
Th.v pet out Of Il what they put
80 - THE man who consciously de-
L. ~
7 ,,.- Il, build up q happy ana sue
cessf,,I home Of which he makes MN
ss r1 the inspiring head instead OF the me
s. -. mi despot; who Is interested
4 All the little details Of furnishing
!. ADJOINING his living place; VINO
1Sres his wife and makes Oh ner LIE
wost cherished companion, mus Sn.'
domesticity is a gilt-edgeo ins .asr.,nes
=. - : real help-mate to her hus-
s - who sees in cooking and wash
80 End ironing not sordid slavery
- NEIL, e things but high calling 70
-. - 80. ,sch,est career that any woman
I'm espouse, and who counts every cry
ssrrsfice sweet that she makes Tor tne
ssira az the man who is dearer tnan
her own comfort and luxury to ner.
3 No outside conditions can make mat