The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1917-05-19
Dorothy Die Says
BY DOROTHY DIX
worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer
The Folly of Jealousy.

Women are more jealous Indn men
for two reasons. One is because they
have more reason to be jealous. The
other is that they are not so much &C
customed to taking things on trust as
men are.
Men have more vanity than women
and put higher estimation upon their
ability to charm. Wherefore, if
man once wins woman's love. it new
err occurs to him that he could by any
possibility lose it, whereas a woman
lives in continual dread and apprehen-
sion of losing a mans affection, no
matter how devoted he may be to her.
Also a woman is not only intrinsi-
cally more trustworthy in love than
man, but all the powers of society and
convention are allied to keep her that
way. A woman has far less tempta-
ton to be untrue to a man than he has
to her.
Younger and fairer women, gay
company, absorption of business. pro-
fessional or political ambition all tend
to wean man away from wife and
home while the very conditions of do
mesticity draw the woman closer and
closer to her husband.
This explains why the blood in wo-
men runs pea green in color instead of
red, and why the average married wo-
man takes on an access of jealousy
with every pound of flesh until. about
the time that she acquires her third
chin and begins to restore her hair to
its natural color, she constitutes her
self into a female Sherlock Holmes
with her husband as the object of her
sleuthing.
Of course, she has perfect conf
dence in her husband, but she keeps
one eye on his stenographer, and goes
thru his pockets to see If he has any
letters in feminine handwriting, and
she takes to inviting only homely wo-
men to the house.
Now the pathos of doubling love is
the futility of it. When all is said and
done, the faith of those we love must
be taken on faith. The cleverest man
on earth is not so clever bnt the
she will, nor is any woman so ever
lastingly on the watch tower but
her husband has ample opportunity to
sidestep if he so desires. No woman
can keep perpetual tab on a man and
find out where he goes, what he does
whom he meets, any more than man
can upon woman. Yet we are con-
tinually confronted by the spectacle of
jealous husbands and wives who are
i trying to watch each other.
Their efforts amount to nothing.
| Their suspicious are merely boomer
angs that fly back and annihilate
them. If your wife is true to you, if
! your husband is faithful to you, if
your sweetheart is loyal to you, it is
free will offering, and not the result
| OF your detective ABILITY.
Justice is always painted blindfold-
| ed. Love should be pictured as blind
folded and gagged.
| There are those who hold that jeal-
| ouSy is a proof of love, and that there
can be no true love without jealousy.
| There are even people who go a step
| further and feel fattered by a mani
festation of jealousy. In reality, jeal-
ousy is an insult, or else a sign of
| grovelling humility
| Jealousy is born of suspicion. No
man is jealous of his sweetheart or
his wife unless he believes her capa-
BILE of committing the thing of which
he accuses her. If it makes him furi-
| Gus for another man to talk to her, or
| dance with her, or take a stroll with
| her. he proclaims his distrust in her.
| If he had perfect confidence in her
love and loyalty, he would glory in
the admiration that she excited, know
ing that nothing on earth could sway
her from her fealty to him.
When q woman looks with suspi-
| cion upon every other woman who
| comes near the man she loves, her
| jealousy is only the outward express
sion of the fact that she has no faith
| in his honor and truth. She believes
him a weakling capable of yielding to
the first temptation that comes his
| way.
IN a way, jealousy is also pitiful, be-
cause jealous people pay themselves
the poor flattery of tacitly admitting
that they doubt their ability to hold
what they have won The Jealous
woman shows that she thinks that
other women are better looking, more
agreeable, more charming and attrac-
tive than she is. The Jealous man
proclaims his belief that he considers
other men more interesting, more
magnetic and to have qualities that
appeal to the feminine heart that he
does not possess.
/ This phase of jealousy is peculiarly
pathetic in married people. because ii
is a confession that the jealous one
realizes that he, or she, has done moth
ing to bind the other one tc him or
her. The middle aged wife who is
suspicious of every pretty girl her nus
band employs in his office, and who
is frantic with rage if he shows any at