The Jasper news. [volume] (Jasper, Missouri) 1898-1924, 1917-11-08

ter, temperament or disposition Of Ell.
Their that should be silenced and con.
quered In the best interests of both.
Even disloyalty may be only the eli
max-form that heart hunger, neglect,
loneliness, jealousy, vanity gone to
seed, revolt from an atmosphere OF
nagging, monotony, unsatisfied longing
for sympathy, injustice, idleness, long
suffering or dozen other phases may
finally assume. Any of these may fur.
nish the soil in which it finds root and
sustenance. Sometimes it is the fault
of one; sometimes husband and wife
both are to blame. The "innocent" one
is often unknowingly, and perhaps even
recklessly, an accessory before the fact.
The way to prevent the ebbtide OF
love Is to determine at the very start
of married life that there will be no
ebb-tide. Sometimes husband and wife,
really loving each other as of old, wan
der blunderlngly apart through petit.
ness, pique, false pride or misunder.
standing. Often with hands out
stretched in the darkness, just hunger
when q motion, Il smile, q term of en-
deurment, n love light in the eyes OF
either, would bring them conquered
and submissive In each others arms.
yet recklessly indiscreet word, IL
mean taunt, psychic moment of pos
sibility passed by unheeded, or 81.
lence that seems cruel, may drive them
CIT ha ST. Of
fine sentiment and heart emotion
should sweep them out of themselves;
sometimes it backs water and engulfs
them.
1t really seems that some people do
not want happiness or they would not
dodge it so successfully, and begrudge
the tritles 1t takes to secure 1t. People
who would be shocked ut the bare
thought of actually destroying two
dollar bill often toss idly aside the
happiness of two for the mcreSt tritie.
Life Is too short and love too great to
sacrifice one hour through pettineSS.
What matters 1t whose the fault or
whose the forgiveness? 1t is very
poor brand of personal dignity that
dares to throw its desecrating shadow
between them and the JOY of recon-
Citation and new bonds of love.
When the realization of the waning
of love comes, the two should seek to
forget for a moment the differences,
the saddening changes, the cemetery of
dead memories. and buried emotions,
and try TO get back somehow to some
common ground of unity and under
standing. They should seek to gather
| together the trifles of sacred things
not yet lost. In the thought of these
there may be vitalizing flame of the
gray of the ashes that will burn away
the dross of discord and misunder-
standing.
Argument itself rarely counts; this
Is but an intellectual appeal; what is
needed Is an emotional inspiration. We
should recognize conditions fully for
our own guidance in action, but 1t is
not wise to make evident our pain by
pleas and protests. Cruel words meant
to sting can be neutralized to n de-
gree by showing no sign of being effect
ed by them. There Is yellow streak
of cruelty in love grown cold; 1t likes
the cringing that shows It's power
Studied neglect and cool indifference
are rarely continued If they are re
ceived with an innocent absorption OIL
preoccupution they cannot penetrate
There is really little fun shooting Will
these blank cartridges. An uneXpect
ed kindness, note of tenderness II
speech or act, the regenerating infu
ence of he sweet sentiment and grace
full attention of the earlier days o
loving, may melt mood of opposition
that any argument would solldlfy a
, heat sets clay.
Trying to get back to the fork o.
the road where parting came may II
: illuminate life and show the insidiou
. element that keeps apart two WIFI
, should love each other. In the car
of garden there is IL twofOld duty
the elimination of the weeds and tn
, planting of the flowers. In the HON
, life the dual duty is specially vital
, when dlscord reigns there should b
ut least the negative virtue of avoid
ing subjects of inhnrmOny, of cuttini
off those things that intensity differ
ences, of stopping the fire of verba
4 grapeshot that stings like needles. l
, is time for antidotes, and If you car
] not possibly give an antidote, in mere
: give pOultice-not blister. 1t
g the hour when two people should wor
3 overtime making allowances for enc
I other, and pack their sense of woun(