The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-11-02

that ol our husbands and wives. II Is
something We can never escape Tor
day or an hour II is always with Us.
1t Is like the dropping OF the water thai
wears away the hardest granite
As 10 which has the greater inllu
ence over the other, husband or wife,
that depends upon which OF the couple
has the stronger will and the more De
termination to rule the roost Also it is
generally the one who is OF the more
ignohlc nature
Nothing on earth is more pathetic, or
more unfortunate for humanity than
that the family circle is also Invariably
dominated by the most unworthy mem
Der OF the household
II is the man who is bully or the
woman who is a ShrcN\ who keeps the
family coweting before him or her be
cause recent people shrink with horror
from the scenes that crossing these do
mestic autocrltS bring on. II is the
ruthleSSly selfish one who always gets
the best OF everything II is the man
who curses and swears, or the woman
who goes into mysteries when things SO
wrong, to whom we all sacrifice our
selves 10 save the peace At home We
arc all ruled by the tyranny OF the
weak. 81.
1t is seldom that a strong man has
the power to make over a weak WON
an, Or that good woman can lit bad
man up to her level OF the higher life
But it is fatally easy for the weak and
evil wife and husband to pull down the
good and strong
Generally speaking, wives have Tar
more influence over their husbands than
husbands have over their wives Per
haps the reason OF this is because
woman concentrates her whole mind on
trying to make a husband what Shc
wants him to be, while a wife is never
the whole interest of life to man. She
is sort OF an annex. and he is very
apt 10 take her I. she is, with graft
tude aand relief il she is what he wants
her to be and a philos sophcal shrug It
| she isn't
No man studies his wife's character
and modes of thought or really tries TO
! find out her limitations, or what she
might be developed into, as a woman
does with her husband The woman has
TO do thi, in order TO know how to
manage" her husband to get out OF
him the things she wants and to make
him do the things that she wants TO
do Therefore, he misses the oppor'
tunities to influence her that he might
have Il he had troubled to study her
phsychology, whereas even the studipcst
OF women knows how TO play on her
husband as upon a harp with thou
sand strings
You will often notice man radically
changed in a few years after he is mar
ried. II he marries woman who IS
above him socially and who has had
advantages OF education that he never
had you will be amazed to, see him
blossom forth into almost Beau
Brummel. perfectly turned out as TO
dress, and with brilliant social accom-
tplishments.
On the other hand. man who mar
ries beneath himself socially does no.,
in this country a, least. seem often able
70 change his Cinderella into a fine
lady Unless the girl is very clever
and ambitious of herself she stays
provincial in appearance and manners
to the end Of the chapter
OF course one reason that women in
flucnce men more than men do womeu
IS because in America women make the
social running The people who come
to the house are the wife's friends. all
of a mans environment outside OF his
business is OF his wiies making and
of course he is influenced by the people
she knows and what they do and think
All of which goes to show we are not
self-made We arc made by those VIC
marry