Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-07-04
AT WHAT AGE SHOULD A MAN
MARRY?
ey DOROTHY DIX

BY DOROTHY DIX
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman
Writer
n YOUNG woman writes me letter
A in which she asks me at what age
- a man il likely to make the best
husband.
This 10 a question that is impossible
TO answer by the calendar. 1t depends
upon the individual man. Some men
are easiest demonstrated II caught
while young and tender. Others can
never be tanned until age and rheuma'
tism make them feel that they would
like TO eat out Of a good, kind, moth
erly wife's hand. And there are other
men who can never he thoroughly
householder at any age.
Generally speaking. however, pru-
dent woman who desires to be happy,
though mGrried, viii avoid the two
extremes OF agc in selecting her hus'
band. and VIII say no" to both young
Romeo and totte:iIg Grandpa when
they come a-wooihg
OF course there Is no denying that
there IS something peculiarly appeal
Ing and alluring in boys loVemHkinG.
He Is so impassIoned. so deadly IL
earnest, SO convinced that love is tie
only thing in he Worlc, ana that no
human being in the whole history
Of humanity ever experienced the
same emotions that are surglng
through his soul that ii is no wonder
If a foolish girl is swept off or her
feet, by 1t, and lets him persuade her to
make the fatal journey to the altar
with him.
Alas. it is the undoing Of both o'
them. Cold statistics show that most
Of the marriages that end in divorces
began in calf love romance and were
entered into by boys and girls who
were too young TO know their own
minds of what they really desire in
life partner. Common observation
bears out the danger Of early mar
riages, especially the marriages OF
boys.
IL is q sinister and significant fact
that In almost every scandal in which
a married man and a woman figure
you will find out that the man mar
ried when he was mere lad. Alsf
when you see faded, washed out
neglected woman sitting alone at
home while her goodlooking and fasci'
mating husband roams around in soci
ETY.. and is pitied by all who know him
for being tied to dowdy wife whom
he has outgrown. you will ascertain,
II You investigate, that he picked her
out when he was an uniformed boy and
Il spending his maturity repenttng
his salad days tastes.
There are no such unfaithful hus
bands as those who qualified In the
husband class too young.
The truth is that nothing equals the
ease with which boy can fall In love,
except the facility with which he can
fall out OF love. Youthful passion in
masculine breast Is fierce flame that
burns itself out so completely X
doesn't even leave cinder ON the
hearts hearth to remember the girl
by.
The kind Of girl boy adores in
the early twentities bores him In the
late thirties. This is the case whether
he IS married to her or not. That is
Why woman is nothing short OF an
imbecile to trust her fate to a man
before his tastes are formed; before
he has seen enough Of women to know
what he is doing when he selects one
for keeps, and especially before he
has tasted enough OF romance to have
had his I'm OF Il, and to be willing to
settle down to q daily diet Of the do
nestle brew.
Another reason why girl is taking |
long shot ct happiness II she marries
q very young man Il because boy Is
almost invariably selfish, undisciplin-
cd. and egotistical. He lacks the
patience to bear with another's faults |
and weaknesses; the wisdom to steer
the matrimonial ship into q safe port,
and when he finds out that marriage
doesn't mean billing and cooling, but
bill and bad cooking, and heavy re-
sponsihilities, why, he's mighty apt
70 turn sprly and grouchy and blame |
his wife for the, hardships he has
brought down on his own head.
He's just too young and weak to
bear the load he has shouldered, for
matrimony IS grown mans job, not
. boys. l.
But e a young boy makes q selfish !