El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1917-12-15
Why Don't the Men Propose?
How Can They Be Made to Do So?
Important Problem, It Is, Needing a Solution for
Really Every Woman Wants to Marry, AL
though She May Deny It.

mystery. The whole thing reduces
] itself TO these terms; Arthur likes
/ his freedom. He doesn't want TO as
! sumo responsibilities. He dOesn
! particularly approve Of the marriages
] he sees all around him. He'd rather
/ wait q few years longer So
when he was simply attracted to Ma
Z rion, rather fond OF her, he went
| ahead with the friendship and en-
jOyed Il in carefree fashion. Then 70
! began to mean q great deal to him
] IA very great deal and he decided
/ that he was thinking too much about
Marion
Arthur cares too much to Be lust
Z friends" He cares too little to want to
bind himself TO Marion for life. The
world is full OF distractions. fun Of
amusing temporary relations.
So Arthur goes out OF Marion's life
because he wants to avoid response
bility. definite ties, because be does
not wish the appeal she makes to
him TO become so great that she viii
eLer be necessary 20 him and he can
not go away He enjoys philandering-
He doesn't want responsibilities.
Marion is unhappy for causes woven
Of many strands. Men like to
philauder and as long as there are
women to philander with, they viii
continue to amuse themselves where
they are free to play without sny
obligations OF settling down TO a
long trip in double harness because
they have been trOttiuE along side
Human Nature Unstable.
Human nature IS unstable. Lie IS
flux- Change and unrest are part
OF the worlds portion So men quite
without meaning TO be cruel or brutal
or caddisb, 20 off and leave the girls
who have expected to work out the
attraction they two feel for each
other to its logical conclusion. And
women who have let themselves be-
Involved IN
ficient evidence find themselves left
to grin and bear It or-not grin and
bear it.
The way out2 First OF all, a lit
tie more chivalry among women
definite standard OF conduct from
which decent women viii not de-
part The girl who let's any man who
appeals 10 her a bit make light and
easy love to her IS probably stealing
another girls husband and losing her
own real chances Of marriage
Men must be taught that stability
and loyalty and real devotion are re-
CURED Of them IL they are 10 be given
happy emotional experience and
privileges And women must not
day-dream themselves into rose hung
cottages with men who may only be
philandering a bit and who would
run miles II they dreamed that they
were walking themselves into serious
situation.
q little friendly understanding. a lit
tie recognition that IL IS hard TO
make yourself necessary to any one
and g precious and beautiful privilege
TO be able TO do 70. Will help girls
along on the pathway TO the goal Of
happy marriage And II they don't
get there. life has other things 20
0ffer-Other big. fine interests.
Why don't the men propOse2 Be
cause in q world full OF eXtravagance
Hr rgH HHn q iva
for gayety, they have come sadly 70
question whether the word wife ever
includes the simple old title. help
mate"
Why don't the men proposee Be
cause they want TO avoid RESPONSE
they viii not take on
the obligations OF marriage until their
own deep desire cOmpels them, and
because the world IS traEicallv fun
Of women who make Il possible for
them 70 get weak, cheap substitute
for the big emotions OF life