The Jasper news. [volume] (Jasper, Missouri) 1898-1924, 1917-11-01

that he might make in his manners and
disposition. She does not tell him who
has been there all afternoon but he
knows 1t as absolutely from the traces
left in her conversation, as the hunter
reads the passing Of bear from tracks
In the snow.
| She may later tell him of a change
to be made In one of the rooms and
she unwlsely names the member of her
family who made the motion; or he to
sustain position may repeat some
criticism his mother made. They are
planting seeds Of discord In each 9TH
er's minds, unconsciously stimulating
| prejudice and opposition and intensity
ing family interference.
AS the days 60 on critical appro-
priation from the family committee on
interference may grow harder and
harder to bear. 1t Is depressing to live
under the microscope of criticism, like
an impaled insect. There Is often con-
demnation where, If the full facts were
known, there would be only praise.
There Is altogether too much judging
in the world, too much Idle intrusive
censorship Of the acts Of others. 1t Is
uncomfortable to hear constantly that
you ought to do this" or "you should
certainly do that" 1t Is so easy to
solve the conundrums of another's
life.
The reason that advice Is usually of
little value Is that 1t Is not based On
n perfect knowledge of the inf1nity Of
detuil that makes up condition. Per-
feet advice should fit the situation as
a glove fits the hand; most advice
does not get much nearer than box
Ing glove in the matter Of fitting.
| That the family Interference may
arise from genuine interest does not
excuse 1t nor even explain it; where
| love Is greatest It should be most ten
der and most considerable. There are
times when some tiny flame of misun-
derstanding arises between husband
and wife that breath of kindly in
depreciation might blow into nothing
ness, but, talked over by the family
and canvassed and debated and in
tensified, grows into conlagration.
Under the gossip, often unthinking
of Its evil influence, tiny molehill of
difficulty may become an almost impus-
sable Rocky Mountain range. OIL Is
good thing to pour on troubled wa
tiers but 1t is poor to put out fire.
A difficulty that originally concerned
only duet now has been made to af
feet the whole family choir. 1t Is cas-
Ter for two people to reach loving har-
mony than to distribute 1t among q
dozen.
In many homes, there Is some one
in the family, on either side, whose
visits bring trail Of sadness, sorrow,
protest, bitter opposition, an unneces-
sary and unwarrantable intrusion of
n dlscordant element tending to worry,
irritate and perhaps even to bring into
inharmony husband and wife. In this
delicate situation 1t often seems prob
lem how best to act. The health and
happiness of the home must be consid.
cred as of first and greatest impor.
lance. If 1t be but trivial inconven-
fence or jar to the domestic serenity,
the wisdom of tolerance for time
should be manifested.
If 1t be of more serious menace i'm
possible to master by patient bearing,
the privilege Of hospitality should not
be strained beyond the bearing point
There Is moment when sacrifice
ceases to be virtue and degenerates
into cowardice, vice. There may be an
injustice to oneself and to one near
and dear that this unwelcome guest
hood outrages. It Is not true hospital
lty to mask the hearts continued pro-
test under a smile, to submit unneces-
sarily to an atmosphere that saps ones
mental and moral vitality, that dulls
energy, dendens ones finer sensibility,
and kills the Joy Of life, leaving one
worried, weak, worn and weary, unable
to meet as one should the questions of
everyday living.
If we constantly suffer injustice that
we can remove, we are slaves to the
individuality of another and towards
to our own. The ranking irritation
of the unjust bearing, II continued, will
permeate our whole nature, like an
emotional poison. We should therefore
act calmly, wisely, with kindness and
dignity, and frankly recognize condi.
tons and with perfect fairness take
the gentlest action that will remedy
them. Better a short, decisive battle
fought to finish than constant Sc.
ries Of petty squabbles and skirmishes.
We cannot be just to others If we are
unjust to ourselves. If one lives ever
: under the scepter Of the decision OF
others. it is not free life-it is slavery
| Ono cannot keen emotion constontiu