The Washington herald., 1917-11-03
Be Impersonal in
Your Friendships

Some girls never seem to have the
happy times that fall to the lot of
other girls they know. and often those
who appear to be overlooked by for
tune wonder why it is that girls who
are not half so really worth while, to
all appearances, seem to ccme in for
4 greater share of pleasure than do
those who think they deserve the good
things Of life.
But it is true as truth itself that
the %jrl who is always looking for fail
ure is sure to find it in her pathway,
while tine maid who is sure of herself
is very apt to miss many of the
small frctS that mar the happiness of
so monY Young girls just starting out
in the world.
Failure or Successf
it is NOT always The prettiest eirl. or
even the jolliest. who is the most pop
ular. 1t is often the quiet. unpre-
tcntious cirl who really makes the
greatest number OF friends. And when
one stops to think about it. the reason
for this may easily be seen.
If the quiet girl is courteous, consid-
crate Of others, friendly, and has the
love of small pleasures in her heart.
, then somehow there is sure to radiate
from her Il certain atmosphere which
draws others to her.
You cannot expect TO be happy If
you are always on the outlook for un-
happiness. And you cannot expect
people to care for you IL you are con-
tinually reminding them that you do
not care for them.
If fer just enc week you would make
up your mind to see how much happi-
ness you could find in your way. and
mark down each bit of pleasure, you
would find that the sum Of your bless
ings is very large indeed.
a woman noted for her great charm
was once asked how it was that she
was able to draw so many people of SO
many different kinds to her in the
bonds of friendship, and her reply was
this:
Il do not know, for 1 never really
endeavoTed to make Il friend in my
life. But I have always tried to be
friendly to other people"
That was the secret of her success.
1t is better to be friendly than to
make friends. In other words, it is
better to be worthy of friendship than
merely to search for friendships.
If some day you should make up
your mind to look on the world in a
friendly way. and to try to be good
friend to others instead of trying to
See how many friendships you can
make for your own self you might he
surprised to find that you are drawing
people to YOU that You never before
seemed to attract in any way.
1t is n wonderful thing to have a
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wonderful thing to be a good friend.
And there is nothing i'll the world
which will SO enrich life as the friend
ship of those who are worthy
But one of the mistakes that girls
SC often make is to rush into friend
ship in 4 most reckless way. without
really taking time TO realize that a
| friendship is very wonderful thing,
cherished always.
Be friendly to those about you in an
impersonal way. Then you will find.
if there is really something conscnial
between you, that it will grow, until
at last il may become a bond which
will draw you together and may bless
your life with wonderful relation
ship.
A very gifted woman, and one who
has made 4 great success of her life.
said once that she thought people
liked her because she was never too
casual with them.
| Yet this woman is extremely friend
! ly in her manner to everyone, but she
| is never familiar with any one With
even those who are nearest and dear
| est to her she always maintains a GER
tain degree of formality and never
| fails in the small courtasies of life.
| 1t may seem to the girl who wishes
! to be popular that this is a very poor
! rule to follow. but it is true that the
! ing the most OF the trifles OF every
day, of getting the best out OF every
| hour.
i No girl can possibly be unfailingly
! polite to others and not receive a GER
tain degree of consideration in return.
1t has been said that one could never
make any really great social mistake
II ones root of good manners lay in
consideration for others.
And this is true. No one is really
courteous and friendly 20 others I'M
less they are so at heart. ARD If they
! are kindly at heart they must inevita-
bly, win many of them and must en-
rich their own lives very much while
endeavoring to brighten the daily life
of those about them.
Make up your mind today to be
happy. Be friendly. Be considerate
OF others. And you will find that your
life will be richer for your resolve.