The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-10-24

WE HEAR a great deal aboSl
w marriage being a failure and
w the frequency Of divorces,
said the Woman Philosopher, "but
when you SIT down calmly and contem
plate the miracle that has to be
wrought IN human nature before any
Two pcoplc Dan adjust themselves 10
each Other 50 that they can live togeth
cr IN comparative harmony, the wonder
&, that any marriage is success and
that divorce isn't universal
"Thc reason Why nearly all mar
rage, are the marriages ol the young
is because IT is only the Young and
ignorant who have ioolhardy courage
ln believe that a man and woman with
different strains OF blood in their veins,
who have been brought mp IN a differ
cnt environment, who have been bred
10 different habits, customs and ways
Of looking al things, who have differ
cni tastes and different standards can
have q magic forUula pronounced by
preacher over them in a church and be
really made one and go home and live
IN peace ever after
Those OF rs who arc older know bet
| ter, and that's why very lew people over
| forty years old have the courage to
try the matrimonial experiment. We
know that It is as hard for the leopard
10 change his spots as II is Tor us 10
get away from our family ideals or
! alter the custom that We have followed
all our lives OF course most Of us do
manage to achieve the transformation
10 some extent, at least but no one can
deny that il is an unpleasant process,
! full oi pickering Misunderstanding
and hurt feelings on both sides.
Particularly on the brides part
Most women salt down the first two
or three years OF their marriage IN
brine and never think OF them without
a Rulp in their throats
For YOU see that attraction oi op-
pusitcS that draws man and a woman
together in the first place and makes
them want TO marry each other works
the opposite way as soon as they are
married and makes them antagunzc
each other at every turn.
The cold, hard stern man. for in
stance has a istal fascination for the
warm hearted, loving woman TO whom
affection is the very breath OF life
! She marcs him, and dies OF starvation
for the tenderness it Is not in his ma
ture to give. Or the cultivated schol
arly man is irrcSistibly drawn TO the
little doll baby girl who has nothing on
her mind except the latest thing IN hats
He marries her, and spends the balance
OF his life OH a mental desert island
perishing for intellectual companion.
ship
"Or the girl who is nothoing but n
animated fashion plate and who care
ior nothing hut the gaicty ot rcstau
rants, theatres and parties, marrIcs
man whose heart and soul and life ar
bound up in some uplit work Or tn
man whose dream of domestic bliss i
suburban home with a pcramhulatO
on the front porch and a hot Dime
awaiting the q IS, deliberately picks Oh
professional woman for wife. wh'
IS more unalterably welded to her owi
latch kev and pocketbook than she eve
viii be to any man, and to whom al
babies are bratS
"Old Dame Nature, who is the mos
conscientious matchmaker on earth, an,
whose activities are carried on for tht
good Of the race and not the happlnc'
NJ the individuals concerned, precip
lateS lucklcSS couples into such incon
gruouS marriages every dav You wouI.
say every one OF them was bound 4
end in divorce But they don't Some
how they rub along. though the attri
ton give, them the worn and weary as
pcct that makes married people gen
orally look about ten years Older thai
their bachelor friends, male and female
and even when there is no great IN
surmourtahle obstacle, like a dfierenc
in brain or moral outlook, between
husband and wife there are thousand
OF little differences that have 10
smooihcd out and Nst make the fir,
few wears OF married life hard toa
to travel Now, in my own case,
married one of the dearest, most Low
! able. most generous men the good Go
ever made, hut The first ten years OF ou
married life was full oi friction b,
tween us and with his family. bccau'
he and ! had been reared IN such di
iercnt home atmosphcres and had sue
different points OF view,
MY people were prlm and puritani
with rigid codes oi conduct Each it
dyldual child OF us had ITS own roor
ITS own belongings its own prlvAc
and We would no more have thoug
oi using each others things or in,ru,
lng ON each other than we would ha,
ln'rudcd on stranger We we
taught retlccncc about our own affair
and that to talk lbou, our plans vi
TO indulge In a Sor, OF weak garrull
"My husband ON the contrary. can
OF q harp, ro-mcky family, demon,tr
lively ailccuonalc 10 each Other. al
where everything was held almoS,
common. and nobody had or wanted
have any privacy Everything N
everybody did was talked over cNhau
lively before and after /, was done. AT
wa, thc subject Of unlimited free a
vice I
You cannot imagine how all Of IN
gryci ON my every feasibility
seemed 10 me the very uu,nlc,scncr
the ,ulgauw ot family lic aluo
died of silent fury ihc ur,t time Il