Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1917-10-11

love. honor and loyalty mike doubt
seem sacrilege. There are friends VI
the mind. friends Of the heart and
friends of the soul. II Is with the last
only that We have assurance and Ger
tainty that open ears will ever be as.
sOciated with closed lips, that any
message committed to them Is stored
In the holy Of HOLES of memory. where
speech can v reach 1t to reveal II.
In life, usually, the only absolute.
Uncomfortable insurance Of a secret is
to tell It to no one II one does not
want n fact known II Is wise not IL
tell any part Of IL. Partial condolences
are dangerous. because in time the sep.
Of the listener may be carefully put
together, like the irregular sections Of
q dissected map. Sometimes Il word. a
suggestion. nm inadvertent phrase.
meaningless in itself, vitalizes I'M
noted tribes of old memories. which
suddenly combine and stand out, vivid
and luminous In Il moment as Il ON
plete revelation. such as the speaker
never intended to give. There are
sometimes ordinations that are life
revelations In n word. autobiogrnphic
confessions In an unguarded phrase.
Sometimes In the desire for sympa-
thy or advice, m Is tempted to tell u
home problem impersonally. o. rather
In the third person, us the life-expe-
rience of some dear friend, with a
hazardous confidence In the safety of
the abb but the turning Of a phrase,
Il sudden tension Of emotion, Il fever
ish note Of protest or plea may tend
to puncture the frail bubble of decep-
ton. The vicnrious sympathy may be
forthcoming, but it hardly pays for the
risk. The advice under such circum-
stances is %valueless, because 1t Is not
based on the absolute knowledge Of
every detail requisite for true judg.
ment and counsel really beneficial to
the Il asking advice and help In
some individual crisis.
Circumstances, personality and char
acter are SO in~terrelated that 1t is diff
ficult, impossible, Indeed, for n hu.
man being to give an opinion on the
merits Of a question affecting two 9TH
ers when he knows really little about
them. Such advice might we'll be not
only worthless. but harmful. Far bet.
ter is II to deny even this indulgence
10 oneself-f0r, after all, 1t Is only An
indulgence.
There Is unwisdOrn In talking too
freely even Of happiness In married
life outside the home walls. 1t may
give a new touch Of pain to one strug
Cling with q serious heart problem and
unable to see u way out. 1t may be 9
tax on the courtesy and patience d
those who cannot be expected to fee
II deep personal interest In the
Wanted joys Of another. Often IN TIT
swift current Of speech one may SPEAK
of some little domestic episode thai
should be held too sacred for the eari
Of others. What may be sweet ant
dear, In the words and acts Of either
may seem but silly sentimentalit.
translated by unsympathetic mind'
and repeated with variations by wan
tonly wagging tongues.
Should there be any drop In tn
value Of the home stock and M N
longer tells OF the pearls Of happiness
the very silence will be construed as
confession and may bring a trail .
humiliation or criticism. and gossip. /
may entail Tying and hypocrisy to sus
tain the old record. ..
True happiness rarely boasts; 1t IA
dates. If it really exists the iittl,
world that cares ut all, the few Wit
have real heart interest In the two, vii
reach 1t In the eyes more truly thai
from the lips. more In the voice thai
In the words. 1t will glow and per
wade un atmosphere Of sweetness
trust. peace and comradeship, mani
Testing itself In a hundred little way
that tell the story without words as
rose reveals its presence through II
perfume, the sun the light an,
warmth 1t radiates. True Happiness
need not advertise; 1t has merely t
exist to make itself felt.
When the home problems assum
the acute phase when confidence some
where seems compelling, then let hus
band and wife confide more closely II
each other, realizing that their prob
lem must first be tried by this council
Of two, II 1t Is really to be solved a
all. In the sweet, honest, full. fran
interchange Of views, seeking, not tn
blame Of either, but the happiness o
both letting no personal pettiness o
false sense Of m0mentary triumph
eclipse the lO0ked-f0r justice, and feel
Ing that, for the time, the great strue
Cling, busy world outside Is too micro
scoplcally small to be worthy Of
thought, when weighed in the balanc
/ Of their united happiness-thelr happl
ness In union and unity-then, In sue
q spirit, and only In such q one, grea
things become possible.
/. It Is this spirit of the inality Of th
two, love recognizing no higher cour
Of appeal In the world around then
| that holds the ideal Of married life q
high that It would seem the desecrat
Ing hand of an outsider touching tn
ark Of the covenant Of their love evel
| to think Of talking these matters owe
outside the sacred walls Of home.
Suggestions for Camp.
One Of the camp conveniences tina
you fellows will find 1t well worth tal
:, inU tima IN IL n dresser. Whe