The Detroit times. [volume] (Detroit, Mich.) 1903-1920, 1917-11-12
The One You Can Talk To
~ OR. FRANK CRANE
Copyright 1915. BY Frank Cranel
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Is lntle one YOU can talk TO .
If SO, YOU are fortunate. For one of
the most important discoveries a man on
woman makes. ON the little trip from the
cradle to the grave, is the intelligent
likable, appreciative, stimulative compan-
ION i'm talk
II IS well TO study and think, is well
20 vision and plan, IT is well 10 be energet-
ic in the market, and anon TO retreat into
silence and take counsel with your own
heart, bat best of AN it is TO find a friend
with whom you can talk things over.
President Eliot spoke of the hve-foot
shelf of books into which the quintes-
sence of literature might be compressed.
But tive friends are better who represent
the gist Of humanity, and mean more
cultural value and more fun.
What JOY comparable to pouring out
the dregs of your heart, shaking the fluff
and debris from the hidden corners OF
your mind. and turning your soul inside
out like "a trousers pocket in the presence
of one who understands
Ii is JOY of the confessional plus.
1t is OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES
Ii is love-plus.
II is self-knowledge plus.
You can love n woman, and yet not be
able TO talk 70 her; you can admire a
genius, appreciate q friend, esteem rel
alive, revere saint, and yet have no
freedom Of talk with them
have seen "a man and woman living IN
marriage contentediy enough for twenty
years. and yet entirely unable to talk
freely together
Wei for you If you have one or two
with whom you can experience the gift
Of communion
To talk satisfactorily you must find
that one who can measure with his com
prehension and sympathy all your moods,
yagaries. doubts, convictions, antipa-
thieS. enthusiasts, heats and irgdities,
sins and sanctites.
He may not hatter YOU, approve Of all
YOU say. nor agree with your entire list
of opinions but he is interested in them.
He does not argue, nor fence and
thrust with YOU. He takes you, ~as he
takes nature. the trees. flowers and
storms, as he finds you. He attends more
to what you are than to what you ought
to be-
He has no convictions to which he
wants to win you. He seeks your aid in
no selfish plans of his. He does not Judge
you. condemn, nor praise you.
He just listens, and talks back
When you are with him you enjoy n
revel in frankness, debauch of self-ex-
preston.
With him YOU discover yourself. AS
you talk you find ont what You really
think yourself With him YOU hardly
know what you believe With him as
guide you explore yourself finding
strange things.
You don't remember so much what he
said as what he led you on TO say
By his stimulus YOU forge your creed,
you round OIL your opinion, YOU uncover
your tastes your mind takes form. you
are born again.
For remaining ever within yourself
you become lost IN clouds of speculation,
in the dim fogs Of your own inexplicabe
nature, in the uncertainties Of your own
decisions; you swamp yourself i'm tho
quaqmire Of morbidity or wander into
seIf-depreclation or feyered egotisms.
But talking 20 him you open the door,
the cleansing wind blows thur, doubts are
scattered, the sunshine enters and rub
bsh is disclosed or beautiful treasures.
The man. or woman, you can talk TO Is
the gift Of gifts, your other self, your
true priest Of God.