The Washington herald., 1917-06-20


fever for the grand passion. and con.
tracing marriages from which they
suffered ever after. It has also fur.
nished blanket excuse under which
myriads of little. mean-souied indi-
yiduals have tried TO cover up soms
human character BY claiming they
were the result Of love. stiil othel
men and women have been 90 con.
fused by all of these mysterious theo.
ries about love that they have beer
at loss to diagnose their own symp.
toms and tell whether they are tr
love or not.
mysterious. It il one OF the mosi
practical and concrete things on earth
and there is no difficulty In know
ing whether one II in love or not
or whether one is loved. There II
one acid test that never fails to show
whether sentiment is pure gold o.
pinchbeck.
For this Is the real definition Of love:
Real love Is the feeling We enter.
tain towards another that makes u
prefer that other above ourselves
that makes us think Of that others
happiness before we think Of our own
that makes US find our own happiness
This Is the only real, genuine, blown
in-the-bottle brand Of love. AL other
are spurious counterfeits. =.
Real love Is unselnshness. II 4
sacrifice. It Is not seifishness. It Il
not poetry, nor romance, nor nne
when you hear q certain footsteT
approaching, nor an aching void ir
your breast when you are parted
from some particular man or woman
1t ts what you are willing 70 do fol
that man or woman. IL Is tne waS
you treat that particular man OF
woman when you are with MIN oi
her.
II your one thought is to make that
man or woman happy, II your ons
thought Is to advance his or her inter,
est and well being, and you couhl
every sacrifice sweet that you make
for him or her; then you love.
sess another, to monopolize him or heI
regardless of whether or not you are
blighting his or her life; II you permit
your jealousies to turn you into
jailer who makes q prisoner OF an
other; II you are bound to have your
own tyrannical way no matter wnG
suffers; then, indeed, you love, but II
is yourself you love. Not another
That other only exists 50 far as he OF
she ministers TO your own happiness
and comfort and pleasure you ar'
supremely selfish and suppemely ego,
tistical and no egotist can be q rea
lover.
1t is queer how many crimes ar,
committed in the name OF love, anC
how many people honestly think theI
love another when the only real pas
sion they will ever know or that they
are capable OF experiencing in thell
self centered hearts, Ia for Themselves
know a girl who is married 70
brilliant young lawyer. He Is amoi
tious and keen to get on In his pro
fession, and he has explained to hii
young wife that in order TO do THU
he must study at night at home. Bu
the minute he gets out book o.
paper and begins to work, she Begin
IT can't bear It." she walls. 'T wan
YOU to hold nv hand and tell me hov
much you love me. You are away al
day and do nothing but sit an'
think how much / love you, ana then
when you come home you get out tina
horrid old book and absorb yoursel
in it so much that you might just a.
well be down at your hateful ONCE.
The husband tries to explain to he
the necessity of his studying II he Il
to succeed and keep up with his com
petitors, but she cries out that sh'
doesn't care whether he succeeds o.
not. that all that she wants Is JUS
him. And when she thus tries TO de
n0erately WRECK ner uusUano SISo.
to crafty her silly vanity IN penn
battered, this poor little selfish Idol
thinks she is showing how much sh'
loves. -.
An older woman, demonstrating witt
this young wife said to her:
"Once my husband had a big onel
in a business way that necessitatec
his rojnK away to a place where h'
could not take me, and stay thre'
years. 1t meant everything TO him II
the way of advance: He left the de-
cision to me, and packed him VI
and sent him OF without ever LETTING
him see anything but q smile on my
face"
You don't love your husband like
love mine" said the young wife
NO" replied the older woman witt
scorn. 'I didn't love my husband like
you love yours. loved him enough tc
be willing to make q stepping stone