Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-10-19
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, that rankle like fostering thorns in
ones memory.
IF the no argument rule prevailed
! in every household 1t would STANCE
the family spat at its birth and assure
that atmosphere Of peace and har'
mony in the home which is the only
air in which Cupid can breathe. OF
course no man and woman are going
to think clike on every subject under
the sun. That is Impossible, but they
need not argue over the points on
which they differ
Let the man concede to his wife her
perfect right to think as she pleases
about subject Let the woman grant
her husband the privilege of his opin-
ion. Let them even state them once,
and then IL they disagree, drop the
matter and turn to more harmonious
topics for discussion. Put the soft
pedal on the argument and you have
at least laid the foundations for
happy home.
The second rule for how TO be hap
py though married is to CUT OUT
THE BOSS STUFF, This goes both
ways, for both husband and wife.
Modern conditions and modern
thoughts have rendered the old idea
that there had to be a head of the
house, who was sort of flatsized.'
grinding.tyrant as extinct as the
Dodo. Marriage had ceased to be an
autocracy. II has become demo-
cracy. a. = ".
Because a man. has married a.
woman gives him no right over her,
every act, to dole out pennies to her
instead of giving her a. fair share of
their mutual income; no right to i'm.
pose a species of domestic slavery on
her. Because a woman has married a
man gives her no right to henpeck him
to death with petty tyrannies, to tell
him what he shall eat and drink. and
when he shall come home, and where
he shall smoke. and a thousand res
traints upon him that irk him to mad
ness. c-5-s l. - ''f' e
are wise enough to give each other the
widest possible degree. Of personal
liberty you will find couple that has
made the most success of matrimony.
The querulous, complaining wives are
the ones beating impotently against
the doors OF homes that have been
made jaifs by their husbands. The ex-
tfayagant women are the women try.
ing to get even with husbands whom
they, believe to be holding out on them.
The husbands who lie, to their
wives about having to work at night
when they are out with the boys are
the men married to women who make |
them punch the clock. The husbands |
and wives generally who jump over
the bars are those who are bossed at
home to such an extent that they are
willing to risk anything to get away
from their keepers for a little while |
and have breath of freedom.
THE third rule5for how to be happy
though married is to determine to |
MAKE GOOD ON THE JOB. The |
elementary part Of this is work. No
marriage istsuccessful unless the man
can furnish the money to support it in |
comfort. No home can be successful !
unless the woman rsees To 1t that the /
home is clean and orderly, and the |
table well spread with properly pre-
pared food. 4 -,
Then comes the spiritual part. No
Is successful ifathe' husband |
grouches and giooms at home and says :
things to his wife that he would not !,
dare to say; to any other woman on
earth who had an able-bodied brother.
No marriage Is successful II the wife |
makes fof her home place of tears
and nerves, and peeyishpess. and |
whining, and complaints, and nag.
ging. g,I.s Il. 80. 5,,..-..,. - >.
To make good job of marriage a !
man and woman must consciouly and |
determihedly give to 1t their best and |
brightest. They must put more self /
restraint on themselves. in dealing |
with each other than they would IL |
they were dealing with their best Gus /
toner, or their most .cantankerous
boss, and they must study each others !
whims and peculiarities and deal with |
these more tactfully than they Would |
II they were diplomats arranging an |
international dispute. = ~ X |
Finally a young couple who wishes !
to be happy though married should |
mike I'm their minds at the very bs,v;r. I