The Monticellonian., 1917-10-26
THROWING oVERBoARD THE OLD
 FRIENDS.

In that famous journey of Jonah the prophet, from Joppu to TarShisb. near iy three thousand years ago. when the wind and the tempest rose, and the great waves washing over the little eraft threatened to snhnlerse t. they threw Jonah overheard that the light ened ship might ride easier in waters smoothed into peace and tranquility. h this twentieth century the old time friends of the husband are often sim- llarly east overheard from the ship of matrimony that its burden may be frightened and the waves Of home dis cord may be stiiled
 The direct primitive simplicity of the Jonah incident is rarely followed today. It Is usually accomplished by tact and tactics. by seeming innocent comments and criticisms. by delicate diplomacy. by placing the friend in an exposed position which mikes t seem that he merely fell overheard. Ii is the final result of gentle. gradual pushes instead of one bold. fearlf < tess f
 When q girl marries ss.e ffoes not feel that the curtain ms been rung down on the near sr and best in her old life. Her -irl friends dO not give her up for .ost and feel that she has passed 1feyer out of their love. sym pat v, regard and companionship. Her Ii has but broadened; they will visit her and she them as of old; they will take interest Tn her new world and she will retain IS best as she ean the threads of the old relationships.
 The husband usually is honestly glad that her days alone may be frightened little by these friends, tiE1t she is getting out of fife all the happiness that she can. Of course he Inns very little appreciation Of her old admir- CTS; her fervor of approval of their good points seems to be more seHti- mental than judicial; he cannot im- agine what she can possibly haFe ever seen in A. or |. or the others down the alphabet of her men friends Wild enthusiasm over them is hardly to be expected but for her woman friends. except when they camp around the house at Ill hours and make it impos- slble for him to have quiet talk alone with her, he is usually complaisanf1y tolerant if not cordially encouraging He does not always receive similar courtesy and consideration.
 When man marlies, even his truest. worthest and best friends, those who have been close to him. who have been his confidants. his chuns and his comrades, feel with sadness that it has now come to the parting of the ways. They hid him goodbye. in spirit if not in words. as though he were going to some island in the South seas and they might never see him ;tgain, 1t s not the natural drift ing apart that comes from his absorp- ton in his home with new duties and responsibilities that they fear: II is that they will be disqualified by his Ife-and that her secret influence
 \be turned against them. Of course
 not think she is just the one
 Eould have picked out for him.
 /man rarely does approve of his
 Aids wife as quite good enough for
 M, but they are willing to be mag. danimous. and let loyalty and charity /wipe away prejudice, and even believe that she IS the wonder her husband declares.
 If she be wise for her own sake and that of her husband. she will try to make them her friends. too. and guard carefully against their even be- ing washed overheard, much less be- Ing thrown ruthlessly into sea of forgetfulness. If they already happen to ne her friends as well, they usually will be admitted into the home on her ticket and have Il comfortable orches- tra chair, but often. when It Is other wise. the husband alone can issue hut pass entitliug the bearer to stand ing room only.
 There are some wives who show a strange jealousy in trifles. They have hunger for allness; they are not sat isfied with being merely supreme, md first and best and nost-they want to be "only." They are not content with being the sun of his life; they want to be tls sun and all the constellations. too. They want to corner his emo tional output and control the entire market. They often seem 10 consider his affection regard. esteem. liking and favor as his emotional cash and that if he spends the least bit of it elsewhere it Is taking just so much from them. Their constant fear of competition is poor tribute to their own powers.
 When man first tells his sweet heart or lis wife about his best friend. in his loyalty, generous pride and con fidence that he is speaking to weleom- ing ears, he may boom him uuduly. Soon he may become conscious in a vague way that the audience is bit cool and unenthusiastic, hls words dc not seem to carry over the footEghts and the applause is faint and perfume. tory. When ht tells of the time when they roomed together Ut college and pledged eternal friendship. it seems to her just q bit young and sentimental When his yoiee trembles little at the episode of the mining camp when his friend nursed him through the fever she says: Never mind, deur, now you won't need him, you have me to take care of you."
 The recital of story of his friends sense Of humor does not appeal 10 her It is weighed In the balance and found wanting. Every good point she dls- counts in quiet, Elusive way he feels but cannot combat. every virtue Is shown to have some falling wrapped