The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-08-01

lhcy marry each other and quarrel and
get divorced. and why they never
never understand each other. is be
cause they are so different constitu-
tionally and because they approach
everything from different point OF
view and see everything from such a
different angle,
Take the matter Of love, for in
stance, The two sexes love differently.
Woman loves Concretely. She loves
some specific man. Man loves woman
as a sex. lie loves an ideal which he
attempts to FIT, with irhpcrfec, success,
upon some particular woman. And
especially mar loves an IDEAL.
II is because man loves an ideal
rather than the woman herself that
we have so many catastrophes in love.
Man is in love with an ideal who is
always fair and young and beautifully
gowned and calm and who meets her
husband with a glad, sweet smile when
he returns home at night.
Sooner or later he come, across some
girl who serves as fair understudy
for the lady of his vision and marries
her on that platform, but, alas, life
is no conquerer OF dreams.
In the process OF years and viccissi-
tudes OF matrimony the wife grows fat
and forty Calm eannot always be re-
tanned in the face OF tecthing babies
and over swcltcring cook stoves. A
husband is bound 10 see his wife with
crimpers on her hair and crimps in
her disposition.
But the man Is still in love with his
ideal, who is young and fair and calm
and beautifully gowncd. and so he
either goes out to hunt up one who
comes up to his specifications or else
secretly regards himself as domestic
victim, one OF those who was handed
a gold brick in the matrimonial trade.
That is, unless he Is one Of the
super idealists-one OF the drcamers
who never wake up and who never
really see their wives as they are, but
always surrounded by the halo OF ro-
nance OF their days of court,hip. These
are the men who always speak OF their
wives as little girl" long after they
are grille headed and have a thirty
iour-inch belt measure.
Women often complain that their
husbands never notice how they look
and that they have TO call their Johns
attention to the fact that they have on
a new gown or hat, or ever that they
are looking pale and sick and run down
Foolish creatures They little realize
the luck they are playing in when they
have a non-obScrvan, husband, for he
is not seeing his Maria as she is. time
marked ard HE damaged bu, as she
was when he led her, a bcau,eous bride,
TO the altar.
On the other hand women are almost
h~ru,ally clear sighted in their view OF
men, No woman has any illusions in
regard to her husband She sees all
OF his faults and defects with a clear
ness that would appall him did he
even suspect it
She doesn't still see the waving lock,
on his head that she used to love I,
run her fingers through. after he get,
bald headed. She doesn't see him Eth,
and slim, after he acquires a iigur,
with a bay window effect. She doeSn'
hear the light step OF his youth aitel
his feet have begun to drag with rheu
matiSm.
She sees him exactly as he is. stou
and commonplace, and growing old, bu
It doesn't make a particle OF difference
tu her, Such as he rs, he is hers, aut
she can love him with jus, as fierce ,
passion Of devotion as II he were IN,
most gallant and handsome and roman
tic hero that ever graced a six hes
seller Or drew down a million dolla.
salary IN the movies.
Women love a man for the man him
self, for the heart, the soul, the ln,elli
gencc in him, and not for some fame,
picture of what the perfect man may b,
that exists IN their i%maginstions. Tina
is why a man may be fat, or bald. o
crippled, or physically unsttrac,iyc an,
yet be a tayorite IN feminine Socict,
and loved by women, II he is ,ntelli
gent, agreeable and sympathetic
hut a, woman who was frankly bal,
headed, or crippled would line a bal
room wall until she became mummifeu
II she waited Tor some man to ask he
TO dance, ot she would die OF old az
N a SpinStet'S retreat waiting for som
man to ask her to marry him. no mat
ter what gifts OF soul and mind sh
might possess.
such a woman wouldn't come IN I
a mans ideal ot a dream girl, and he.
be too much ohSesScd hy hi, vision I
ever see the real one.
Inc different attitude that men an
women take toward love is responsible
Tor much domestic misery A man trust
love A woman never does. A ma