Western Kansas world. [volume] (WaKeeney, Kan.) 1885-current, 1917-10-25

or not realizing, may, to his chagrin.
insist on her rights. Usually she bold
ly takes the plunge into the social
waters, confident that she will. some
how, get back to shore.
She may live, in his presence, in an
atmosphere of patronizing tolerance,
fearing at every word that she may
stumble into some pitfall of mispro-
nunciation or an inadvertent phrase,
or, growing self-assured and reckless,
she puts on a full head of steam in
the presence of position requiring
tact and just crashes through it like
an engineer running his train over
burning bridge. His bearing may reach
it's melting point; in his acquired su-
persensitiveness he puts fictitious val
ues on points where she is deficient
and his tolerance fades into positive
neglect. He may then devote his
whole time to finer minds, fairer faces
and freer morals. How far they may
drift apart, no one can tell.
1t may be that it is the wife who
advances mentally, and he who is the
laggard. The increased prosperity
may mean close confinement for him
to the drudgery of business. The so
ciety of a few old friends, survivals Of
the time when he was poor and strug-
Cling, may be all he cares for. Litera-
ture may not appeal to him. His daily
paper supplies all his needs The &C,
tivities of the world of modern science,
thought and culture have for him no
real interest. His wife, left free to
the rounding out of her mind and life,
may develop a taste for reading, for
companionship that is mentally worth
having, for original thinking, for the
charm of true conversation, for the
discussion of subjects of real impor-
lance. She may gather around her
circle of friends who feed her mental
hunger and stimulate her thinking. He
feels vaguely out of place with these
new friends of hers, like a poor rela-
ton at Christmas dinner.
She has found her way into the land
of the intellectual and has established
residence there, while he, in his
loneliness and isolation, is camping on
its frontiers. He feels somewhat a
stranger in his own house at social
gatherings of her friends. He may
chafe under the feeling that he is on
the wrong side of the proscenium
arch; that he is not one of the per-
formers, but merely a spectator. He
lectual business and go off quietly
with friend or two and just sit, and
| talk, and smoke.
| This growing apart mentally may
assume any of II hundred phases. Hus-
band and wife may be subjected to
| any class of differing environments
| that change their mental standpoint
and their moral sympathy. New ideas
| and new ideals may sweep old land
marks of mutual understanding far out
| to sea. 1t is a sad outgrowing of a
union of love and companionship, a
| growing unsatisfiedness where speech
| that meets no sympathetic response
| lapses into silence. When sympathy
| and recognition of ones ideals are
| found only outside the home walls.
when the instructive impulse to tell OF
a success or a failure turns to some
one else, when ears grow hungry for
| outside praise, there is serious danger
| to the happiness of married life.
| 1t is so easy to keep together if both
realize the vital Importance to all that
| is sweetest in life in keeping in step.
in true comradeship. Talking over
the affairs of their individual lives
and their life in common, the hopes,
the longings, the doubts, the joys and
the problems, gives each the basis of
knowledge from which most truly to
understand and advise each other
Reading the same books, discussing the
same current events, hearing the same
music, seeing the same plays, criticiz-
ing the same pictures, having dearest
friends in common, agreeing on the
same spiritual and ethical attitude to-
wards life, and sharing in thoughts
and plans will do much towards max
ing a growing apart mentally an i'm
possibility.
This keeping in step does not mean
the sacrifice of the stronger to the
weaker, but the stronger ever, through
love- raising the weaker to higher
planes of thinking and living. 1t Is
not necessary that they should ever
agree as to the value of each Others
pursuits or views, but that both shoul6
know them, understand them and re
spect them and be lovingly tolerant
where they are not united in their sen
timent or desires. They should give
| ever their best to each other.
When the husband is a clever, de
lightful companion at some one else:
dinner-table, but a sad, Still-life study
in silence at his own, he is not giving
his best at home. He is retaining hi:
best for the export trade and reserv
ing none for home consumption. Wher
the wife has charity, consideration ant
sympathy for the cares of others out