The Bridgeport evening farmer. [volume] (Bridgeport, Conn.) 1866-1917, 1917-06-23
HAMpER1NG MARRIED LIFE.

Good night! NO love! the IIllshe -
i'll
which sewers those it should unite;
Let us remain together still
Then it will be good night
Just as soon as young folk marry,
he or she should start in to paddle
their own canoe. The bride who falls
back on her mothers judgment to run
her home is foohng time. as is also the
young husband, who asks for daddys
advice as to how to cure his young
wife's extravaganza, or how to tie her
to her new home when he cannot De
there with her. If the girls mother
deciied not to advise, and the young
mans daddy equally as unw1l ling, the
couple would have to learn by expert
ence, which Is the best teacher.
The more relatives try to help them
out, the more it hampers their married
life. If the brides elderly aunt comes
to visit her, the young wife tells her,
with tears, that George gees out very
often of an evening, refusing to tell
where he's been Aunt shouldn't put
her finger in the married pie. by n
sifuating that he may be untrue to
her. A suggestion of this kind, is like
a flame, against kindling. It soon Gre
ates fire that, smouldering for a
time, bursts out at length, in a pretty
hot conflagration. Aunt would display
much more common sense by saying
ttNo doubt the poor fellow wants to
stretch his legs on ten mile walk. He
doesn't suppose you'll have any fool
notion that he's not whers he oughtfto
be, or in the company of any one with
whom he should not be-"
A brides young woman friends can
do their bit and more by offering their
well meant suggestions cautiously TO
her about nagging 9, husband. It's al
awys single girls who have the most
advanced ideas. They haven't seen
those theories worked out The young
woman who works along these lines of
the notions of her friends, finds pretty
big clouds looming up to dim the sun
shine of married. happiness. Well
meaning sisters can aggravate the case
to- They, can say things to her, that
she would probably resent from other
people. If they find she is wearing the
same pair Of shoes, six months after
the honeymoon, they exclaim commits
eratingly: Dear me, Kate, hasn'
George bought yon a new pair of shoes
yet? 1t isn't a good idea to start in.
showing him you can do without pref
ty shoes, a new hat, and things" They
tip her off to the presumption that, if
he isn't spending his cash on her, he's
putting clothes on his own back. smok-
ing cigars, or making himself good
fellow at places serving mems lunches
only ~
If hubby comes in with a, box of new
collars, or perhaps a new hat the wife
feels in duty bound to resent it, an
point to her esloes, or her hat. Brides
dx,,k tab ~
things II bad samaritans did not make
suggestions to them. If a bride COM
plains to her mother. that she can't
get along with those who Live flight
above her flat. or below, instead Of
taking up the cuidgel with her daugh-
ter, she should tell her firmly that she
will have to fight her own battles.
That will be the better for her. The
young wife who has no one to encour-
age her In pickering with the neigh
bors,. or families under the same roof,
will learn by her wit how to get along
with people, that people are not enough
interested in her to give her her own
way. She will have to do alot of bear
ing and forbearing as she joys along
the uneven road of matrimony.
The young wife who has no one to
tutor her make virtue Of necessity,
one she is brought, in contact with.
AL the little things that hamper mar
rietd life, are wedges which cause cou-
pies to get further apart. There's a
knack in getting along with men: the
good, the bad, and the Indifferent kind
The husband tied down to his wife's
apron strings is never the man who
dares grasp at opportunities. think
quickly for himself, and act upon OPP
portunities. II he is hampered by the
thought that he must consult his wife
on every move, or else there'lEibe row
he's not apt to get for out of the ru-
he was in at the time he took unto
himself help-mate that has proved
to be a hindransee. The question as &c
how to get along happily when mar
I ried should be studied carefully, by
women who attach themselves to hus-
hands. There's no couple was ever
united at the altar that did not FIND
little riffs in Loves lutte to hamper
them now and then. But they shodll6
be laughed off. and considered mole.
hills and not allowed to become noun.
tains.