The Garland City globe. (Garland, Utah) 191?-1925, 1917-11-17

ing family interference.
AS the days go on critical appro-
prlation from the family committee on
interference may grow hnrder and
harder to bear. It Is depressing TO live
under the microscope OF criticism, like
an impnled insect. There Is often con-
domination where, II the fall facts were
known, there would he only praise.
There Is altogether too much judging
in the world too much idle intrusive
censorship of the acts Of others. 1t Ia
uncomfortable to hear constantly tina:
"you ought to do this" or "you should
certainly do that" II Is so easy to
solve the -conundruuS of another's
life.
The reason that advice Is usually or
little value Is that IL Is not based on
n perfect knowledge OK the lnfnity Of
detail that makes up condition. Per-
feet advice should flt the situation MS
glove fits the hand; most advice
does not get much nearer than a box
Ing glove In the matter Of fitting.
That the family interference may
arise from genuine interest does not
excuse II nor even explain It; where
love Is greatest It should be most ten
der and most considerate. There are
times when some tiny flame of mlsun-
Outstanding arises between husband
and wife that a breath of kindly In.
depreciation mlgbr blow into nothing
ness, but, talked over by the family
and cnnvussed and debated and In.
tenslfed, grows into conhagrntlon.
Under the gossip, often unthinlSlng
Of It's evil influence, tiny molehlll OF
difficulty may become an almost impas-
sable Rocky Mountain range. OIL Is
good thing to oour on troubled wa
tcrs but It is poor to put out a fire.
A difficulty that originally concerned
only duet now has been made TO af-
feet the whole family choir. II is cas-
Ter for two people TO reach loving har.
mony than TO distribute II among u
dozen.
Sometimes the interference of fam.
lilies becomes even more active and
aggressive than this, and because of q
fancied grievance or4~genulne oppo.
sltlon II actually co%xs between hus.
band and wife and by harsh criticism
or condemnation seeks to inclte strife
and dlscord between them. Here In
slant loyalty of the one TO the other
should assert itself and refuse TO listen
TO the voice. In an instructive spirit
of protection there should be q calm,
dlgnified protest against the recital
Of what IL unessentlal should lever
be spoken, and II OF serious import
should be heard only In the presence
OF the one thus charged with what
he or she should have the opportunity
OF denying or dlsprovlng instantly. be-
fore the weeds Of suspicion have time
to root themselves In the heart Of
the other.
In many homes, there Is some one
In the family, on either side, whose
visits bring n trail of sadness, sorrow,
protest, bitter opposition, an unneces-
sary and unwarrantable intrusion Of
q dlscordnnt element tending TO worry,
lrrltate and perhaps even 10 bring into
lnharmony husband and wife. In this
delicate situation II often seems a prob.
lem how best TO act. The health and
happiness of the home must be consld-
cred as of first and greatest impor-
lance. II IL be but a trivial lnconven-
lence or Jar TO the domestic serenity.
the wisdom OF tolerance for a time
should be manifested.
II II be of more serious menace, I'm.
possible 10 master by patient bearing.
the privilege OF hospitality should not
be strained beyond the bearing point.
There Is moment when sacrifice
ceases TO be a virtue and degeneratcs
into cowardlce, vice. There may be an
injustice to oneself and TO one near
and dear that this unwelcome guest
hood outrnges. 1t is not true hospital
lty TO mask the hearts continued pro-
test under a smile, TO submit unneces-
sarlly 10 an atmosphere that saps ones
mental and moral vitality, that dulls
energy, deadens ones finer senslblllty,
and kills the Joy of life, leaving one
worried, weak, worn and weary, unable
to meet as one should the questions of
everyday living.
If we constantly suffer injustice that
we can remove, we are slaves 10 the
individuality of another and towards
to our own. The ranking irritation
of the unjust bearing, If continued, will
permeate our whole nature, like an
emotional poison. We should therefore
act calmly, wisely, with kindness and
dignity, and frankly recognize cOndl-
lions and with perfect fairness take
the gentlest action that will remedy
them. Better short, decisive battle
fought to finish than a constant Sc
ries of petty squabbles and skirmishes.
We cannot be just to others If we are
unjust TO ourselves. If one lives ever
under the scepter of the decision of
others, II is not free llfe--it is slavery.
One cannot keep emotion constantly
corked up; some time that cork viii
come out-perhaps inOpportrnely.
True love, true companionship, true
living, can reign in the home only us
there'ls In the home an atmosphere of
lihartv nf indiyidual fraa1om In ITO