The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-05-30

It's all well and good tor women 10
have all the higher culture in books
that she can get She will need IT all
in her business. hut knowledge OF the
calculus isn't in II IN i'm
portance with the knowledge OF how TO
manage the different pecullaritieS ot
ones family, and an ability to read tho ,
stars is poor thing when compared
with an ability to read the moods and
lenses at sight OF the people with whom
one has to live
should begin inStructng girl babies
in the cradle-iSr you can't begin too
carly-n the gentle art OF getting what
they want by smiling for It instead OF ,
howlng for it. Then should teach |
them how to walk around the angles IN
life instead OF humping into them, and
when they got into the kindergarten
class should impress upon their tender
memories the folly OF beating and hrulS
ing themselves knocking up against a
stone wall, that they can never hammer
down, when they might Just as well
climb gracefully over It.
! should follow this up with classes
on How to do Things Without Giving
OicuSe" and "Onc Hundred Different
WAYS oi Getting There Without Tread
ing on Other Peoples Toes" and no
girl would 60 out OF my school with
blue ribboned diploma until she had
learned to say "No" without making
you feel as IT she had thrown a brick
at you and how to talk without putting
her foot in her mouth, As an lrlshman
might observe
\ man who has not tact is poor
blundcring bull in the worlds china
| shop, but a woman without tact IS a
mistake in creation. All of us know
and dread her. for she is the person
referred TO in the Bible where it says,
when would do good, evil is ever
present with me"
/ She does harm where She meant the
best She hurts where she wishes 10
,oothc She makes enemies where she
desires friends, and with the best in
tcnton IN the world she can do more
harm I'M minute than malice can in
Ntll III year.
She IS foredoomcd 10 bundcr In.
yite her TO come to sec you, and she
picks out the time 10 arrive, unan-
|uounced. when the cook has lett, and
the children are down with the mcasle'
and your husband has a crouch Ask
her to dinner and she manages TO Of
tcnd half the guests and throw a wet
blanket over the gaicty OF the occa-
| sion.
She j., the kind of friend who with
out wishing to offend YOU, tells YOU tina;
YOU carry your age well, and that no
body would know that you were As
unles, they had grown up with you as
She did She remarks how clever YOU
we're to put the table over the worn
spot m the carpet, and IN the same
breath that she praises your new dla-
mond ring, says that she always did
I think that small inexpensive stones
were in better taste than costly ones.
II there is a sore place IN your heart
she touches it with unerring aim, and
m any company YOU may het dollars
TO doughnutS that she will haul in
every forbidden topic, and discuss priS.
on reform with the mother OF a black
sheep, and the inlQulty OF divorce with
a woman Just back from Reno. She is
always and everywhere. a social blum
derbuS that is liable to go off at any
minute, and that is Just AS likely TO an
nlh,late friends as foes.
Now YOU can't prevent the woman
without tact from being born. She i,
ono Of natures blundcrs. but the prov
nce Q civilization is to correct the
hlundcfS OF nature and that is VIII,
every girl should he given a thorough
course IN diplomacy before she IS turned
loose on the world to Soothe IT, or ir.
fitate II.
Just think what the possession oi tao,
means for the woman herself. II IS Nh,
philosophers stone that enables her ,c
make friends, hold her husband, al
lection, manage her household. keer
her servants, and run her little world
without friction or trouble.
No woman ever Vet ruled by force
Every woman may rule hy the use of
a little diplomacy and there is moth.
ing the world more pi,iul than ,o sec
the havoc so many make oi their de-
me,tlc affairs Just because they re-.
fuse To recognize this palpahle tact
Women never seem tn have found
out hut the greatest field OF diplu
macy IN the universe is the home. ant
| u IS traglOal IN observe how great :,
| the demand, and how Inadequate IN,
| domestic supply OF course. when vo,
come right down 10 the facts. there /,
no more reason why a woman shouli
exercise tact m irving to yet alon.
with her husband than there /, VIII,
he should not he a diploma, IN deal
ing with her pecyllari,ie'
Hut facts cut No ice IN the iamil
circle There II I, the condition am
not the theory that we confront. an
every married woman knows that
there IS any adjusting. and smoothing
and adapting ui one person to annthe
u m the holy estate, I, IS the wife win
has 10 do IT.
MANY women are either too self,
NJ too stupid to Do th, Thu, ~
are treated TO the speclarles ol ian,
| lies IN which there is continual fr,r
| ,,on and where the daily spa, is a
much matter Of course as IN, dali
dinner Unless a man i, an actua
| brute and lew American husband, AZ
that there is no possible excuse 10
such a state of affairs An, woman
i p,t fool t,,ust isayp ,, ,..... - .