Carroll County democrat. (Huntingdon, Tenn.) 188?-1971, 1917-10-26
TALKING HOME MATTERS OUT
SIDE.
WILLIAM GEORGE JORDAN


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seem continually flying flag OF dis
tress from the ship Of matrimonyT
They give monologues on the slightest
and often on the very
slightest acquaintance, on the ever
new subject Of their home troubles.
They seem to be a private press assoc
citation for syndicating news OF domes-
tic cares, worries and miseries. They
keep their memories of home discord
all labeled, classified and dated ana
seem to take collectors delight In
parading them. 1t is a false adyer-
Using instinct that publishes the weak
ness of the matrimonial firm.
If the sky of the home is overcast
and the sun Of love is temporarily
darkened by doubt or misunderstand-
ing. it is not wise to bring In the neigh
bors to witness the eclipse. II there
is a little sand in the sugar Of home
happiness, it really seems better TO
concentrate on the sweetness that re-
mains than to carry around samples
of the grit In envelopes OF conversa-
tional confidence.
In the business world, when a firm
has to pass through a period OF sun
less days and stress and storm when
they are long on hope and short on
prosperity; when the partners enthu-
aiastically agree with each others pol
icy: when the present looks grim ana
the future grimmer, they guard their
confidences carefully; they fear their
troubles may be known outside; they
realize that they are facing q problem
that must be solved from within, not
exploited from without. They feel an
esnrit de corps that makes 1t seem
dIsloyaIty to talk matters over outside
the breastworks. And in married life
love. loyalty, dignity, basic mutual
respect should make this guarding OF
the sanctity Of the home even greater
J Talking home matters outside is adver-
] Using the insolvency of harmony. It
| weakens the credit and reputation OF
: the home firm, and often causes unjust
3 ratings in the Bradstreet OF society.
D A temporary trouble, that may pc
merely weeks cloud In the home II
e self, may be recorded as Damaging
!. tornado" if given intensity OF life Dy
r being idly talked of outside the family
8 walls. Gossip is a natural weed II
: the garden Of conversation; 1t grows
So freely and spontaneously that WI
It need never plant with our own hand'
Il the seed of needless criticism, com
n mpnt and condemnation of ourselves
% and of those who should be neares
], and dearest to us.
d There are times In the home Wnel
IT some grievance, real or fancied, swell
our feeling to a dangerous high-td
u of emotion; pique or pride may aud
" new pang to suffering, and, carrie
~ along by the torrent, we feel we mus
is fell II to some one. 1t hardly matter
" what ears hear the story, so that Y
e. NAV have our hearts filled with ID
consoling music Of sweet sympathy.
r.. NAV be natural hunger, but II
,u none the less dangerous. Its very n
n ture may make it unjust.
- In the intensity of feeling we CO
lt centrate in our complaint on the q
CHI max. the word, phrase or act Tn
seems the essence Of our hurt. -
we rarely tell the true story truly; '
,at unknowingly suppress part, slur oV
vet In innocent ightness our part Oh "
ng an incendiary word that added nc
10 Are. an unkind silence, perhaps tn
&C. made us equally guilty. This is 7
mo element that makes the telling unJt
me- and intensifies its disloyalty; we eag'
" drink In the sympathy, feel u
,ha ment's balm Of righteousness IN hei
'o,t ing the other condemned; ana
ora rsnolly intensifies and exaggerates z
sense Of hurt.
But when our wiser judgment
firms and night dawns into day, 9
ves the bright sunlight pours In throu
xer the windows, we see things IN m
"a normal perspective. Our high-strt
pra emotions Of the night before seem
8 a justified, foolish, with the garlsh
cad order and confusion Of banquet ia
rue still standing the morning after.
YER would give SO much to buy BACK
can confidence Of the night before,
18th would pay good premium just 70
sss- able to lock our secret again IN
mr. silence of the unspoken. But ina
call one thing that all our most carr
rity prayers and sincere repentance can
,eet bring to pass. What we have tolu'
,ble have told, and it has gone from
gon keeping.
Me This Is the cyclonic confession,
d a derstandable, and even forgivaDle,
nen, haps as cloudburst; but there
Dect mean drizzle Of complaint, cons
rise fog 81 petty charges, that Is on'
ONE the worst phases of talking home
II ters outside. When husband 40
the the martyr pOso and talks freely Q
the things he has to put up Wit
home, inter posing sample home
versations and incidents, one Ions
by take him into corner, remove
Iited .Deatl March in Saul cylinder
are the photograph Of his convers'
ma and nut In 'Home Sweet ~
and one. When wife feels that
ease one must be interested in ner sto
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