St. Johns review. (Saint Johns, Or.) 1904-current, 1917-09-07
Department in Public

MOJuGIS HlCCbillB OiSNhS W.
7. U. Subject Department
in Public, and Why Girls Do
Not Like Housework:" :"
The following quotation from
Ruskin seemed to be appropri-
ate. He is giving advice to young
women and says, First, be sure
of one thing, that however
much you may know and what
ever advantage you may pos
sess and however good you
may be, you have not been
singled out by the God who
made you, from all the other
girls in the world, to be espec-
tally informed and qualified.
The second thing which you
may be sure of is, that however
good you may be, you have
faults; that however dull you
may be, you can find out what
some of them are; that however
slight they may be, you had bet
ter make some, not too painful,
but patient effort to get rid
of them" For instance, can
we not learn a little more. self
restraint when others are talk
ing. so that we may cure what
is really a national habit. that
of interrupting. Watch any
group and see how rare is a
good listener; how rare is that
supreme of all courtesies to
let another talk without inter.
rupting. Most of us are utter.
~ unconscious Of the manner in
which we refuse to allow an
other to talk and finish what
is being said without Interrupt
tion. And yet there is not a
more beautiful form Of courtesy
that permits another to speak
and finish before we begin. And
by the same token is there Moth
ing more inconsiderate. more dis
tinctly rude. than TO break into
another's talk and take from
another the opportunity which
is his or hers. Next TO what
we wear. we show our inmost
selves more truly by our behav-
ior in conversation than in any
other contact in life. II is the
man or woman of fine instinct.
of a regard for the nicely Of
an occasion. who permits an.
other TO finish what he has
started to say, who exercises
that self control that stamps the
person of gentle birth and does
not interrupt.
A regard for appearances is,
and should be. a leading con.
sideration when ordering our
conduct in public. II is not
enough that we know ourselves
To be above reproach; we must
take care that the stranger
who observes us gets no inn
preston TO the contrary.
Friends who know her irresis
tibly mirthful disposition, may
excuse the girl who laughs
boisterously on the street car
but she will not be able to ex.
plain To- the severe looking
stranger opposite that she did
not do this 20 attract atten.
tion. Conduct in public should
be characterized by reserve.
Greetings between acQuain.
tances should be quiet and con.
ventional. Remember TO al
ways be kind. Selfshness is
vulgar. and an unfailing habit
To consider other peoples conf
fort is mark of gentle breeding.
A lady should say THANK YOU"
10 a gentleman who gives up a
seat TO her on street ear or
other public conveyance, where,
having paid for seat, he has
q right TO it, and his voluntary
REIMBURSEMENT of il is a matter
OF personal courtesy on his part. !
Let all bear in mind that is is
impossible To be a lady, or a |
gentleman without gentle man
ners.
The best cOmrade for girl
is her mother. One of the most |
pitlable things in life is that so
many young people do not ap-
preciate their mothers at their
full until they have left them.
If their fresh minds could only
believe that experience really |
brings mothers more up TO date
than they can possibly be and
could realize what a real help
and what a vital part their
mothers might play in their
lives. IF a girl behaves her
self as she should no liberties
will be taken" | cannot help
that il is the mothers
who have kept up this
old tradition. | believe most
mothers who are careful of
their daughters, teach them
that they can have pretty much
the kind of behavior they want
from a man, but il is not one
mother out of ten, | am sure,
who instills into her sons from ,
.he beginning that he can have ,
he kind of behavior he wants
from a girl and sees to it with
all her soul that he wants only .
he best. Respect for women! !
Every woman has had it harped
IN that she should behave so as
o command il. but how does il
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