Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1917-10-18

iersensiti'eness he puts fictitious vel.
ues on points where she Is deficient
and his tolerance fades into positive
neglect. He may then devote his
whole Time Ia finer minds. fairer faces
and freer morals. How far they may
drift apart. no one can tell.
1t may be that II is the wife Woo
advances mentally, and he who Is tho
lagsard. The increased prosperity
may mean close confinement for him
Ia the drudgery Of business. The so-
ciety of u few old friends. surviyals of
the time when he was poor AMI strug-
CLING, may be all he cares for. L.itera-
lure may not appeal 10 him. His daily
paper supplies all his needs. The ac-
t~iyitles Of the world Of modern science,
thought and culture have for him no
real interest. His wife. left free TO
the rounding out Of her mind and life,
may develop u taste for reading, for
companionship that Is mentally worth
having, for original thinking, for the
charm of true conversation, for the
discussion of subjects Of real impcr-
lance. She may gather around her Il
circle Of friends who feed her mental
hunger and stimulate her thinking. lie
feels vaguely ont of place with these
new friends of hers. like a poor rela-
ton at Il Christmas dinner.
She has found her way into the land
of the intellectual and has established
a residence there, while he. in his
loneliness and isolation, is camping ON
Its frontiers. He feels somewhat Il
stranger In his own house ut social
gatherings of her friends. lie may
chafe under the feeling that he Is on
the wrong side Of the p%roscenium
arch that he Is not one Of the per-
formers, but merely a spectator. He
longs 10 cut out all "this heavy intel
lectual business" and go off quietly.
with a friend or two and just sit, and
talk. and smoke.
This growing apart mentally may
assume any of Il hundred phases. Hus'
band and wife may be subjected to
any class of differing environments
that change their mental standpoint
and their moral sympathy. New ideas
and new ideals may sweep old land.
marks of mutual understanding far ont
to sea. 1t Is a sad %outgrowing Of a
union Of love and companionship, a
growing unsatisfiedness where speech
that meets no sympathetic response
lapses into silence. When sympathy
and recognition of ones ideals are
found only outside the home walls,
when the instructive impulse to tell of
Il success or u failure turns to some
one else, when ears grow hungry for
outside praise, there Is serious danger
to the happiness of married life.
1t is so easy to keep together if both
realize the vital Importance to all that
Is sweetest In life in keeping in step
in true comradeshlp. Talking over
the affairs of their individual lives
and their life in common, the hopes
the longings, the doubts, the joys ant
the problems, gives each the basis OF
knowledge from which most truly tt
understand and advise each other
Reading the same books, discussing thu
same current events, hearing the sam
music, seeing the same plays, criticiz
ing the same pictures, having deares
friends in common, agreeing on tn
same spiritual and ethical attitude ia
wards life, and sharing in thought
and plans will do much towards max
ing a growing apart mentally an I'm
possibility.
This keeping in step does not mea1
the sacrifice of the stronger to tn
weaker, but the stronger ever, through
love, raising the weaker to highe
planes Of thinking and living. 1t
not necessary that they should eve
agree as to the value of each other
pursuits or views, but that both shoul'
!, know them, understand them and re
!, spect them and be lovingly tolernn
where they are not united in their sci
, timent or desires. They should civ
, ever their best to each other.
When the husband Is a clever, d.
! lightful companion at some II else
dinner-table, but a sad, still-life stud
, in silence at his own, he Is not givih
his best at home. He Is retaining hi
best for the export trade and reser'
ing none for home consumption. Whe
Q the wife has charity, consideration an
sympathy for the cares of others GU
side the home, and only sharpness an
: sarcasm for those inside, the TIM
table Of that home requires lnstnr
revision or there will be n crashin
r disaster to their train Of Happiness
8 Sources Of discord multiply like Au
tralian rabbits when the growing apal
intensifes. 1t Is the sacred duty
both to prevent II ut the very beg'1
$ ming, to determine that they will pc
nit no thoughtlessness. no drifting,
false sense Of duty to family or to Il
s world, to separate them from eat
other.
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