The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1917-09-05
LAURA JEAN LlBBY'S DAILY TALKS ON
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) wAR-MARRIAGE A LOTTERY?

is wAR-MARRIAGE A LOTTERY?
"once, only, love, will burn the blood
red fire,
But once awakened, the wild desire,
Love plea5eth long. But what II love
should tire;
o, shall we love. dear love, or shall
we waltz"
Marriage is a great risk wherein
woman must use her Judgment. while
nine men out of ten fulfill more than
they promise at the altar, the tenth
man shirks his obligations. To SUCH
a man marriage is not q joke but
yoke which cannot be slipped on and
off at will When one hears of q
union where a man of this kind fig
ures can you wonder that it gives rise
to the doubt as to whether or no mar
riage is lottery? It would point out
that every marriage entered into is at
the woman's risk. 1t is she, rather
than the man, who can i'll AFFORD to
take a risk in wedlock on short ac-
quaintance. Friends of the young
people may CALI it a romance. though
in the book of destiny it is recorded
under the heading of Reckless Mar
riages.'
It is well enough to say what one
will do under this circumstance or
that. When one comes face to face
with difficulties one Is apt to do just
exactly the opposite from that which
was imagined. There is nothing in
the world that tenpts a woman so
yersistently as love.
Never before in history was there
known a time when there were SO
many whirlwind courrtships as there
are now. When a young woman is
suddenly confronted by a proposal Sof
marriage it is little wonder that the
step she should take in consequence
is confusing to her. Young girls are
told that putting off marriage leads
to a graver significance in woman,s
case than a mans She is told that
most girls should marry when the
chance is theirs. Opportunity may not
knock a second time at the door. Not
one girl in a thousand maps out her
life ahead even as to determining the
exact sort of man whom she shall
wed. The average girl of intelligence
believes she can draw her own con-
clusions as to whether she cares enough
for d sutton to live the rest Of her
days with HIM The girl who is intro
duced to a nice young man and after
a hasty proposal, to which she lends
a willing ear, accepts him, is casting
her chances for happiness in fate's
lottery box-taking her chances as to
whether she will draw a blank or a
prize. Too much cannot be said
against girls leaping into matrimony
with, young men who are comparative
strangers to them. Those whom girl
has known all of her life cannot give
themselves false airs. appearing to be
different from what they are. The
stranger can tell her all sorts Of fairy
tales. Girls are SO unsuspecting it
would not ocur to them to investigate.
Hearts of young girls are easily infiu-
enced. They often mistake infatua-
ton for the tenderer true passion.
Who can accurately advise, defining
just what causes love to come, though
there are plenty who advance sane
enough theories as to its reasons for
departure? Those who Contemplate
marriage with one whom they have
known by a short time should be
made to realize that there is wide
dividing line between infatuation and
real love. The one soon wears itself
out; the other lasts through long years
of devotion. It takes a mighty affec-
ton to cause a man to take on re-
sponnsi bflity to face rebuffs and strug-
giles. to do and dare everything for a
woman's sweet sake. When the tive
who have mated hastily find out thai
they have made grave mistake, eacf
hopes that the other will grow weary
and let him or her out of the frksom.
bondage without having to shoulde,
the blame. Then it is too lates For i
is rightly conceded that neither maj
mod wife should change opinions afte
marriage on this sacred question H,
who thinks he could break away from
the marriage tie without one linger
1 ing regret often finds that he ha
made the mistake Of his life Cold Ii
the heart of man who can utter IN
differently the last "god bye to on,
| whose form his arms have encirclet
i or whose lips he has reverently givel
1 the solemn marriage kiss. There is n,
step one can take more solemn thai
marriage. Quite as cold is the wo
man who can turn away blithely from
the man she has married without goot
and sufficient reason, suffering n
heart pang of regret. She is a woman
without tenderness; human flower
good to look at. perhaps, but devoi,
LOT sweetness. Those who wed eve]
fearing they made a mistake Shout,
put the best face they can on the is
lsue, making the best! of loves lottery
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