The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1917-01-08
QUERIES ANSWERED
BY THE CHAPERON
Replies to Various Problems
That Puzzle Readers
of The Times. =

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himself, and unthinkingly acts KIND
Of rudeiy.
For Instance. when he NETS me on
the street he never raises his hat.
while he certainly would to any othor
woman. Then. again. II In the movies
or at the theater, I should say any
thing with which ne doesn't agree, he
will tell me IN q loud whisper that
others can hsar-to shut up. Out
wardly take no notice ofthis, but II
hurts my feelings very much.
tried once to tell him about Il,
but he would not listen. love him
very much, and we get along very
nicely together. But as this rudensss
occurs very often II II making me
think he doesn't care for me % much
now. I often sit and think about
this, but can think of no way out.
.sENsITIyE.e
Because your husband forgets the
little niceties that all women love IL
absolutely no indication that he is
growing cold toward you. But ] am
glad you called yourself 'Sensitive,"
because that 10 exactly the word that
suits you. And for 4 wife to be sensi-
tive IL a calamity. More homes are
wrecked because Of II than almost any
other one thing
II seems to be such an inoffensive
little thing at the beginning but lit
soon develops into settled resentment,
and then before one realizes II really
happy couple become quarrelsome:
OF course your husband should be
more particular in these little things.
and would, no doubt. IL he really real
lied how much they meant TO you Few
=. liza ind hat vi
like him to take on his hat when he
meets you on the street, but do so
sweetly ana cheerfully. and not COM
plaInIngiy. Then be more particular
about considering his feelings in little
things. II we SOW love and cheerful
ness we reap the same things -. - .-.
And about talking at the theater.
Your husband IL right in that One
does annoy people around them by
whispering. Your husband means this
kindly even II he doesn't say II kindly.
He knows that others around you will
criticise you for this. and he wants
to save you from this criticism
Dear Chaperon: lam voting man.
seventeen years old, and am constd-
cred good looking by my boy friends.
am fond OF girl one year my
Junior. Please advise me along these
lines: / am out OF work, and, there
fore, not able to take her to any
amusements as would like to- Some
of my friends have asked her to go
with them, and as they are employed.
they can give her a better time than
can, but she has promised me che
would not go with any one but me.
Please tell me II you think / am
selfish In keeping the other boys
away. from her. EARL G.
. II. she really, loves you so much
that she does not want to- go any,
where with any one else. then you
are not selfish injecting her do what
really gives her the most happiness.
But this only applies II you two have
definitely made up your minds
young as you are-to marry each
other some day. You see, II she IL
not engaged to you, why should she
devote all her time to you and give
up whatever happiness with others
that might come to her, just to
please you. II ! were you, i would
try very hard to get a position right
away, and I would make up my mind
never to lose so sweet and unselfish
a love.
Dear Chaperon-I am a girl. twenty
years old, and have a friend who is
fifteen years my senior. have known
this friend since I was a little girl
and he always thought a lot of me,
and always said he would wait for
me to grow up. He left here shortly
after and was away for eight years
returning last spring, paying visit
here for the first time to his sister
vi Of
were delighted to meet again, and
talked of old days. He said he was
still waiting for me.
This friend was always a hero "a
me in childhood days, and when
saw him for the first time in eight
years 1 knew he was my hero still
I know / love him with all my heart
When he babe me good-by he kissed
me and said he was coming for me
some day and we both promised tC
write
received about eight letters from
him and answered them all, but he
never answered my last letter, which
] sent two months ago. l don't under
stand why he don't write. ] know he
does not like writing letters, but still
7 don't think he would stop for that
In his letters he spoke At himself
old. but he hHO"S L uOAi ms
acc. | know ! like him better thar
any boy friend of my own age.
would write him again bat I would
not like him to think I was running
after him.
There is no engagement between us
and he does not know l like him sc
we'll so I do-'t know what to do. II
Won will advise me l would be CRATE
fuI FOR your kindness.
ACHING HEART.
II is a sad and perplexing problem
that Won have to face, isn't IL? Bu'
n seems TO me that you should face
II lust as you have faced all the other
problems you have had In your life
breyely. Az long as there is no for
mai engagement between you, OF
course YOU have no reason for feeling
as YOU do. Howev-as you have
set your heart so tirIsiS upon one
who NAV. after all, be only a dream
Of childhood. why don't you decide
YOUR problem by writing once more
TO him and letting everything rest
upon that?
II he does not answer you then, my
dear. doesn't it seem to you to be
host not to think any more of him
but 70 turn your thoughts nearer 70