The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-11-14
BY DOROTHY DIX,
~ Worlds Highest Paid Woman
M Writer

ty@ Writer.
Here is a queer case in which my ad-
vice has been asked
A young man is in love with a pretty
girl who has many admirable qualities
Of character. but execrable manners.
She sprawls in uhcouth attitudes as she
sits. She eats like savage. She does
not understand the proper use OF
handkerchief, and she lacks all the little
refinemen,s and dantneSS that one
thinks of as being instructive with
women.
In spite Of all this the Young man Is
still fascinated with the girl and he
wants TO know il there is any way IN
which she may be taught the conven-
tional usages OF good society and to
conduct herself in a refined manner
OF course there is. The ono remedy
for a case like this is for the girl 10 be
taken away from her family and sent 10
some good school where they make
speciality OF polishing up rough dla-
monds. Or il the girl IS too old to
70 to school the same end could be at
tanned BY putting her in the care OF
some gentlewomah who would teach her
the bearing and manners of lady
Women Will.
! Women are initiative by nature. II
does not take them long to change
from being chambermaidS TO countesNeS,
or TO pick up an accent, or the latest
way OF doing things This makes 1t
possible for Cinderella TO be her own
fairy godmother and change herself
from the kitchen drudge to the behe OF
The ball in the twinkling OF an eye II
she makes up her mind 20 perform this
miracle. But the important thing is
that she desire to change and become
the princess.
Certainly it does not indicate that 4
girl has much power OF observation or
much ambition il she has permitted
hrself 10 grow up with clownish man
iefs in the midst OF modern city
where she is presented with continual
object lessons OF the way in which
people OF intelligence and refinement
dress ana conduct themselves.
Dut Why, Id Q world full Of pearls
4 girls, should young man pick
/ out this rough diamoud1 OF one
tAing be may be sure, and that Is II
her manners crate on his sensibility
/, before he 10 married to her, they
win - intoierabls when he has to
contamplate them every day.
II Il the little peeuliarities OF those
with whom we live that get upon our
nerves, 40 that the way that someone
always clears his throat before speaking
oe the noise that another makes az she
drinks his coffee, or the eternal oreak
Of another's shoes, or the perpetual Snif-
fling OF another becomes harder TO for
give than would the commission OF some
actual crime
The Contrast.
n she committed half the sins on the
calendar she would not be so loathsome
to Q scrupulousIy tubbed and scrubbed
neat man as is dirty and slovenly wife
nor Q mans spotted morals any nlore
repulsive to dainty woman than man
who dribbles soup and gravy over his
clothes Is he eats.
Therefore, II Is well for both men
and women 10 save themselves as much
domestic disillusionment as possible by
at least picking out as life companions
those who have been trained in the
smenities Of civilization. Thus do they
preserve themselves from having their
snsibilitis unduly lacrated and from pre-.
eipitsting a state Of civil warfare or
their firesides.
& For saRerisnee shows that the one
tAiHg hat ssithsr husband nor wife
talhsS kiAdly from the other Is erhi-
eisa u personsi peeuliarities. This
10 sadly cemprshsndsd, for both
Ausbaal end wife Hike to think that
saeh 10 N ideal 10 the other, that
sach exists surrounded by an au-
fors Of perfsctness 10 the other,
and this fond dslusion Is shattered
into smithereens the minute husband
begins to tell wife that she does
sot know how TO uss her fork
properly and that real ladies, such
a. he has been accustomed to, don't
perform certain rights Of their toi-
let In public, or when wife correces
husbands grammar OF tells him
that gentlemen don't do thus and So
Moreover, those who marry the rougl