Essex County herald. [volume] (Guildhall, Vt.) 1873-1964, 1917-12-14


line wisdom, just to help out. They
criticize some book she has been read
ing as she tells him the story, or per.
haps she has read 1t aloud to him
after dinner, and though she may think
the hero a demigod and he calls him
pompous prig and they grow a bit
enthusiastic and finally laugh at each
others view, their management
really does not make the least differ
ence, you know, for this is just-com-
radeship.
With this spirit of comradeship there
is never any thought of settling the
question Of "who is boss?" for such
question never arises. When q prob
lem comes up before this home SUI
preme court, they have a quiet little
earnest session and If they do not see
the issue from the same point of view,
by concession and compromise the one
who has thought most deeply on the
subject, who feels it most intently or
who is most affected by it casts the
deciding vote.
Comradeship inspires tolerance and
throws little pecuharities into the
shadow; it ignores or obscures petty
failings as of no real consequences it
concentrates on the fine sterling quail
tiles and forgives and forgets the little
mortgages. Love oftimes is exacting;
in its intensity it may place undue i'm
pOrtance on trifie and be seriously
disturbed at q flaw or failing that
seems a scar on a noble character.
Comradeship helps love to more hui
man view, saner, wiser charity in
judging. A man says a friend of whom
he is genuinely fond, che is a bully
good fellow" and all the emphasis Of
his heart goes into the words and
atones for the phrasing; he knows his
friends failings but loyalty mlnifies
their Importance, the eyes are
trained not to see, the lips keep Sc
lence.
In his bachelor days the husband
may have had some friend tried and
true who was dear to him, whom he
trusted as one good man does another.
, |
prosperity threw glow Of radiance
across his pathway an Involuntary
smile frightened his face as he thought
how pleased his friend would be to
hear 1t, how unselfish would be his
sympathy, how hearty would be his
/ congratulations; he could bank on his
! friends happiness just as certainly
; and absolutely as If his own dear
mother were listening to the story and
eager for every word of detail.
If the hand Of sorrow pressed heav-
lily on his soul, and the night of doubt
and fear settled down on his life, and
the ship Of his great hope had sunk
when 1t was almost in port and he
. faced failure and defeat, he knew one
who would be unchanged, whom he
J could count on to the very end. And
when some problem affecting the well
= fare of either had to be solved it was
J the problem of both and they would
stay up half the night to settle it like
! q jury locked out until they came to a
| verdict and they put together their
t wisdom just as they had often pooled
their meager funds when the exigen-
, cies or need Of the one became the
!, privilege and glad opportunity Of the
) other.
7 When this instructive impulse to
5 confidence is carried into married life
1 and the heart and the lips and the out
< stretched arms turn to the wife as
/ naturally as the magnetic needle finds
r It's north, with the truest comradeshiI
2 made greater and finer by love, then
e married life has no real problems that
: the two, united and in unison, cannot
solve.
t Comradeship holds the specter o.
8 monotony at bay. With two ever
!, bringing their best sweetly to each 9th
r er, as little child carries to its moth
t err wayside flower it has plucked, just
d because it Is most natural to bring II
e to her, there is little fear that theil
: days will be long or that they will hun
t ger for change from each other wher
Y they are finding this change in each
other and with each other. Whatever
tends to lessen their comradeship anC
d to decrease their dependence on eacf
}, other is menace to their happiness
t One of the early temptations of mar
I, rled life is to live with the old folks
+ 1t all sounds so alluring when it Is
), proposed that "they can take the entire
: third floor which Is not really needed
: by the home company who are willing
t to donate it or sublet it to the young
d firm. The advantages are obvious, the
e disadvantages are more subtle, but Il
e is q hazardous experiment.
e The opening words of the worlds
8 greatest book are "In the beginning
s and they are the most important words
= of married life; they open its chapters
a Of greatest Joy and keenest sorrows
d All its problems are most easily mas
n tered Gin the beginning;" wrongs ant
o injustice that may throw the darl
e shadow of despair over the life Of one
and perhaps even finally separate for
e ever the two who have loved may, II
), a spirit of calmness, courage and wis
4 I, Ill lGtt, In II