Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-08-10
HOW MEN AND WOMEN LOVE
BY DOROTHY DIX
The Worlds highest Paid Woman
Writer.

-HE reason that men and women
are eternally fascinating to each
] other is because each sex Is a
perpetual riddle that the other is
trying TO guess without ever finding
the answer.
Men and women are only attractive
TO each other a. long as they are dill
ferent. Women hate and despite sissy
men with effeminate characteristics.
Men loathe mannish women who al
feet masculine ways and clothes. The
more unlike men and women are to
each other the more they are drawn
together.
This is why little Fluffy Ruffles.
with nothing on her mind heavier
than her golden locks, almost always
outmarries her big, strong, sensible
sister, and why refined and wealthy
and gentle little ladies 80 often pick
out husky brutes for husbands with
whom they have not thing on earth
ia common.
The reason that men and women
love each other and hate each other,
Why they marry each other and quar-
rel and get divorced, and why they
never understand each other, Is
because they are 30 different consti-
futionally and because they approach
everything from o different point OF
view and see everything from such q
different angle.
Take the matter Of love for instance.
The two sexes love differently. Wo-
mon loves concretely. She loves some
epecific man. Man loves woman as
4 sex. He loves an ideal which ne
attempts to fit, with imperfect sue
cess, upon some particular woman.
And especially man loves an ioeal.
II Is because man loves an loeaa
rather than the woman herseii thal
we have so many catastropnles ID
love. Man is In love with an loeai
who is always fair and young ana
beautifully gowned and calm and VINO
mectt her husband with . glad sweet
smile when he returns home at night.
Rooner or later he comes across
aon,e girl who serves as . fair under.
rindv Tor the lady OF his vision ana
rsrries her on that platform, put'
a.. life Il no conserver Of dreams.
n the process Of years and Vicissi.
lnfes az mntrimony the wife Grows TAI
ard forty. Calm cannot always pc re.
[einef n the face Of teething babies
80 over eweltering cook stoves. a
husband Is bound to see his VIE VII. III
crirnpers on her hair ana crImps -
her disposition. "a.
But the man Is still in love with his
ideal. who IL young and fair and beau
fifnIly eowned, and SO he either goes
nrt 10 hunt ND one who comes up 70
hir eDecifications or else secretly re-
rnr6e himself as domestic victim,
one az those who was handed goio
brick IN the matrimonial trade.
That Il. unless he is one OF the
euner ideaiists--one Of the dreamers
~ho never wake up and who never
really see their wives as they are.
hut always surrounded BY the nalo OF
romance Of their days OF courtsnip.
These are the men who always SPEAK
81 their wives as little girl, long
after they are grizzle headed ana nave
4 thirty.four inch belt measure.
Women often complain that their
fnehands never notice how they look
rnS fhat they have to call their Johns
effenfion to the fact that they have
On new gown or hat, or even that
fhev are looking pale and sick ana
T,,n down. Foolish creatures! They
little realize the luck they are playing
IN when they have non-opservant
husband. for he s not seeing MS ma
ria as she is, time marked and lie
damaged. but as she was when ne