The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-12-10
BY DOROTHY DIX.
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman
Writer,

a motto that should be illuminated
on the walls OF every house and
paStea on every womans mirror, where
she would see il thousand times a da,
lit would be tN slang phrase OF the
day--forget it,
The main trouble with womes is that
they have too good memories They
remember things too loug toomuch and
too often. The chiei obstacle that
stands in their way to happiness is that
they are carrying such excess baggage
OF rcCollectionS OF tn, past that they
are handicapped by it
memory's Door Always Open.
No matter what womans expert
cnccs IN the past have been, whether
good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, she
can never bear TO close the door upon
them. She is always turning them over
m her mind, dwelling upon them. talk
ing about them, living them over again
IN her imagination Ahtil she makes her.
self nothing but a perambulating back
number, and bore to everyone she
meets
This coddling of happy memories Of
the past gives us that almost unbear-
able aifliction, the womal who has seen
better, days, We all know her. Nou
hlwhot been two minutes in bier COM.
pany before e was begins to tell you
Of the almost regal Spltndor H. which
she was reared Of the palace her home
was of the. multitude OF servants; of
the perennial gale,y that went OH; of
what a belle she was, and how many
ranks Of suitorS- all rich and hand
sorne-were sighing at her feet; OF the
magnificenoe of her ttousseau; of what
grand wedding she had, and so on,
and on, un.il she comes to the place
where she begins to weep and says she
never expected to come to this, and
wants TO know II you won't help her
with the rent.
Has Dopev Effect.
OF course, II may seem a harmless
thing for those who in th@ present have
only bread and water to cat, to feast
upon the memories OF the cakes and ale
that they used TO have in the past, bot
in reality 1t is most demorallEing
thing to do. A woman Can make dope
dream OF her former grandeur that will
Just as much incppacitate her for deal
ing with present conditions Rs II she
wa drugeed with opium.
When you find a woman who lives in
the memories OF her golden past. you
will invariably find one who a slack
er, who is shiftless, lazy, untidy and in
efficient She is the kind oi woman
who, il she takes boarders, will expect
her "reminiscences OF her great uncle
who was a senator to atone for the fact
that her rooms are dirty and her meals
never on times or, If she takes in sew
ing, will expect her pedigree to make
UP for hooks and eyes never fitting and
skirts hanging 10 points around the bot
tom. All the energy she needs to use in
her business she exhauSts in remember
ing the past
Wise Woman Forgets.
II is a great blessing to. have been
wei born, to have had a childhood and
Youth full of" sunshine and happiness
and plenty, but when they are over, they
arc over. They are done, finished, past
beyond recall, and the wise woman is
she who puts them behind her, who for
gets them and lets other people forget
them, and who wastes no time in dream
ing OF halcyon days chat arc gone, but
who rolls up her cevcs and grapples
with today and wrlncS something out
OF II that Is better and more substantial
than a vague memory
II, however, the woman who s slosh'
ing over with happy memories Of the
past, the woman who has unhappy
memories is scourge from which the
boldest OF us flee She is an incarpate
wet blanket, human kill JOY tear
Jug whose contents arc being contin.
ualIy spilled over us
At her approach every smile pack'
up It's little kit bag and beats 1t fot
the tall timber. She has hardly taken
her seat before sHc commences t.s
Had OF her woes. She is a poor per.
secuted creature whom nobody loves
or wants about, and whom everybody
sightS. II she's poor she complains
that her employer doesn't appreciate
her and shows iayoritlsm to others il
the office II she's rich, the people
.hc does things for are not grateful
enough. If she has children she wor-
RES over them II she has a husband