The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1917-12-26
DOROTHY DIX TALKS
By DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid wo,nan Writer.
Loving Hearts.

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The problem of how many women
a man can 1--we is one that has broken
the hearts of women and bankrupted
the mathematics of man. and each
sex, in trying to solve it, has arrived
at a different answer. Women have
never been able to figure out how
man can love but one woman at a
time, while every time a man sees
pretty new face he adds another to
the census o: his loves.
OF course in the case where man
really does love woman with all his
heart and soul, as my correspondent
says, there is only one girl in the
world for him and he is blind to the
flutter of other skirts and insensible
to the fascination of other women.
tho they charm Eever SO Subtly.
But not one man in a million ever
loves any woman with all his heart
and soul The grand passion is one
of the least common of all human
experiences. The ability to be a great
lover is a talent as rare as great
tenor voice, and the average man is no
more capable of loving profoundly,
with all his heart and soul, than he is
capable Of singing like Caruso.
Men fall in love, or they think they
do. Something interferes to separate
year or two they have forgotten
whether the girl they thought they
adored was named Julia or Isabelle,
or else they MARI. and their romance
wears out before their wedding
clothes do.
that is the only heart throb that most
men ever know, and this Lrand of
affection comes wholesale. Every man
carries an inexhaustible stock of it on
tap and il ready to bestow it on any
attractive woman who comes his way
great passion is a great obses-
sion and ne woman who inspires it
must fill every need of a mans ma
ture. She must fill his eye with her
Beauty so that he is blind to the good
looks of other women. She must fill
his need Cor companionship so that
he does not have to turn to some 9TH
er woman for tenderness and compre-
hension She must be all-in-all to
him, if sho monopolizes him.
Perhaps it is because there are as
rev women capable of inspiring a
great love as there are few men cap
able of feeling a great love, that men s
hearts have come to be hotels run on
the European plan for transient femi-
nine guests instead of homes for just
one women.
ofswhy man can really and truly love
smore than one woman at a time is
because he finds in different women
different qualities that he seeks. Thus,
for instance, it is possible for a man to
be deeply and sincerely attached to
Mary, demure, domestic little vie,
who reeks of the kitchen and babies.
and who adores him with the faithful
deyotion, of a dog. He loves her for
her faith and loyalty and for his
knowledge that she is the one Great
ure in the world that would stand by
~ I,
cause she is the very spirit of home
and family. He loves her because of
the appeal her utter dependence
makes on his manhood
But she is no companion to him.
She bores him to extinction with her
prattle. In the early days of their
marriage he gave up trying to tell her
stories even in words of one syllable.
so she could understand them, and
diagraming jokes so she would see the
point. His soul went lonely and hun
CRY until he met Cynthia, who is his
mate. He loves Cynthia for her wit
and wisdom, for her quick response
to his every mood, for her ability to
take his half formed thought and jug
gle with it and fined new meanings in
it and new endings to it. for her un-
Outstanding of the books and plays
and pictures and music he loves.
And there's Ethel who is neither
domestic as Mary is. not intelligent
as Cynthia is. but who has the face
of a flower and the figure of reed in
the wind. He is attracted to her just
because she is thing of beauty and
it is as enhancing to gaze upon her
as it is upon any other masterpiece of
nature.
That man shall be eclectic in his
love and lay bits of his heart on the
affairs of different divinities before
rlf an
trating his devotion on one seems hor-
rible to u.s. Yet that is exactly what
we do among our friends. We love
one friend For one quality. and anoth-
er for another quality that is perhaps
entirely opposite. and We seek these
different friends when we desire to
crafty our different moods; More
over. we are sincerely attached to
these different friends and neither one
could take the others place
an not trying to justify men IN
having many loves. l am only at
tempting to explain why they DO. ana
+he answer seems to be that IT takes
a ladv-love. made up of all feminine
charms and virtues to satisfy man
ideal: this being the cs Sc, one poor,
lone. faulty female can hardly expect
to be IT If all women were born
domestic and devoted, brilliant ana
hea utiful. one might suffice to hold a
tickle masculine fancy. OtnerWlse IL
job for bunch.
Women find it hard to realize that
a mans heart is built on the double
and triple expansion plan so that he
can love several women at the same
tiToa because they themselves. are
concentrationalists.
When a woman loves man he is
the whole universe to her. Other men
do not exist for her. She does not,
like a man. seek in other men the
charms and qualities he may not pos
sess She endows him with them out
of her imagination.
Therefore, the woman is torn with
jealousy when the man she loves is
attracted in even the smallest degree
to some other woman She can't I'M
dersta nd how he can love her and yet
admire other women. how he can love
her and like to be seen with Ethel