Essex County herald. [volume] (Guildhall, Vt.) 1873-1964, 1917-12-14
Little Problems
@cTarried Life
By
WILLIAM GEORGE JORDAN
coMRADESHIP IN MARRIED LIFE
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who start in married life with good
capital of love feel that they have an
absolute guarantee Of harmony and
happiness that will endure through
all their years, but If they depend sole
ly on love they may find they are ex-
hausting their capital instead Of living
on the interest and may soon become
too fine, delicate and emotional to
stand the constant hard usage of daily
life. Like gold, it is better and strong
er when alleged; love should be made
sturdy and lasting, reinforced,
strengthened and intensified in it's
power to resist wear. 1t is only when
alleged, or blended, with comradeship
and trust that it is at its best.
The truest, sweetest and happiest
marriages are those of two who just
are welded sweethearts and good
chums. With this duality of condition
and trust that keeps their atmosphere
pure, clear, bracing and wholesome, all
sources of discord are neutraliZed all
joys are doubled by sharing, all sOr~
rows lightened by mutual sympathy,
comfort and inspiration, and all prob
lens solved in the sweet sacredness Of
conference, with the united wisdom Of
both ever at the command Of either,
needing no outside referee.
Success in married life does not re-
quire heroic spectacular qualities pos
sible only to a few chosen ones, the
elect of the earth it needs only loving
comradeship and confidence, a little
self-control, courage, kindness, unset
fishness, cheerfulness and just daily
patience along the way. 1t does not
require wealth, for often the poor are
the happiest and most contented. 1t
does not demand intellectual powers
and fine education, for two aged lovers,
hardly able to read, may sit together
In the sunshine by a cottage door at
eventide, finding all their world II
each others eyes, telling their beads
Of sweet memories of past joys and of
sorrows outlived, and as her thin worn
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benediction of calm peace and conse'
| Grated love that makes mere intellec
tual wisdom seem worthless by con
trast.
There are some who tell us the quail
tiles necessary in husband and wife
The long inventory sounds like an I'M
abridged dictionary Of all the virtues
and one can imagine the saints blush
ing with shame at the sudden realiza
ton of how far short they are Of this
perfection. 1t seems like a test ex
animation for a front seat in paradise
and few of us would get more than 6
nine per cent rating on an hones
marking.
Let us be thankful that two who are
just human and with all their faults
foibles and failings can have happiness
If they determine to have it and pay
the price in thought and effort. 1t Il
not a gamble; it is a certainty if boil
determine to do their best and worl
In union and unity. 1t does not NEAR
life unclOuded by trial, sorrow, O
suffering but home filed with love
and peace, rest and refuge where
no real discord can long throw dark
ening shadows.
Comradeship is one Of the stronges
ties of married life. Comradeship Il
friendship in negligee suit it is free
near, trustful, comfortable, familiar
and intimate. 1t has a basic respec
that makes Formally out of place, ant
pretense and pose seem treason; thu
two are their natural selves, sponta
neOus and unrestrained except by tina
respect for each others individualit.
that makes each careful not to woun(
or offend the other.
Comradeship between husband an
wife is the finest type of friendship
for pulsing through it is the constan
current of love, tenderness, sympathy
nearness, dearness and closer com
munion of interests, that ever vitalizes
intensifies and freshens. COmrade
ship gives to each finer, truer under
VA tliC otlltl Ilidl NOlllCoi NV
from the mere observation of acts ant
Of moods, but from glimpses into tn
depths of each others thought, tn
revealings Of standards and ideals, tn
unconscious confession Of hopes, fear
end longings and restless ambition
that are hidden forces struggling to
wards expression like the root of
plant seeking to penetrate the soil AM
reach the light. These come only Il
easy conversation where there Is n
thought of talking for effect, no sens
of being on dress parade.
When the two are real comrades tn
wife is interested in the hobbies
games, business, friends and polite
of the husband. She may not see wha
fun he can have knocking a little bal
over the landscape and then pollin
round big field to find 1t, but If gol
gives him any real pleasure she !
glad, and is interested, and wants t
understand. Politics may seem to he
Just something we pay officeholders t
manage, but if he sees anything in
she Is pleased to give him chance I
let her in on the puzzle.
Her talk about her friends, he
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