Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1917-11-15

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The a that advice Is usually OF
little value IL that II IL not based on
a perfect knowledge Of the lnfinity Of
detail that makes up q condition. Per-
feet advice should ut the situation rs
a glove fits the hand: most advice
does not get much nearer than a box
ing glove In the matter Of fitting.
That the family Interference may
arise from genuine interest does not
excuse 1t nor even explain 1t: where
love is greatest II should be most ten
der and most considerable. There are
times when some tiny fame Of misun-
Outstanding arises between husband
and wife that q breath of kindly In.
depreciation might blow into nothing.
ness. but, talked over by the family
and canvassed and debated and in
tensifed. grows into a conflagration.
Under the gossip, often ~unthlnking
Of Its evil influence. a tiny molchill Of
difficulty may become an almost impas.
sable Rocky Mountain range. OIL IL
a good thing to pour or troubled wa.
tiers but It is poor to put out q Ore.
A difficulty that originally concerned
only q duet now has been made to af.
feet the whole family choir. 1t is cas-
Ter for two people to reach loving har.
mOny than to distribute 1t among a
dozen.
Sometimes the interference of fam
lilies becomes even nor active and
aggressive than this, and because Of q
fancied grievance OIL q genuine oppO.
sitiOn 1t actually comes between hus-
band and wife and by harsh criticism
or condemnation seeks to incite strife
and discord between them. Here In
slant loyalty Of the n to the other
should assert itself and refuse to listen
to the voice. In an instructive spirit
digniicd protest against the recital
Of what If unessential should never
be spoken, and II Of serious Import
should be heard only In the presence
Of the one thus charged with what
he or she should have the opportunity
of denying or disproving instantly, be.
fore the weeds of suspicion have time
to root themselves in the heart Of
the other.
In many homes, there Is some one
In the family, on either side. whose
visits bring a trail of sadness, sorrow,
protest, bitter opposition, an unneces-
sary and unwarrantable intrusion Of
a d%iscordant element tending to worry,
i~rritate and perhaps even to bring into
inharmony husband and wife. In this
delicate situation 1t often seems a prob
lem how best to act. The health and
happiness Of the home must be consld.
cred as Of first and greatest impor.
lance. If 1t be but a trivial inconven-
fence or jar to the domestic serenity,
the wisdom Of tolerance for u time
should be manifested.
II 1t be Of more serious menace, i'm
possible to master by patient bearing,
the privilege of hospitality should not
be strained beyond the bearing point
There Is q moment when sacrifice
, ceases to be a virtue and degenerates
, into cowardice, vice. There may be an
Injustice to oneself and to one neal
and dear that this unwelcome guest
, hood outrages. 1t Is not true hospital
: ity to mask the hearts continued pro
, test under a smile, to submit unneces
:. sarily to an atmosphere that saps ones
mental and moral vitality, that dull.
! energy, deadens ones finer sensibility
a and kills the Joy of life, leaving ont
worried, weak, worn and weary, unable
!, to meet as one should the questions Of
! everyday living.
!, If we constantly suffer injustice tina
we can remove, we are slaves to tn
n individuality Of another and towards
q to our own. The ranking Irritation
a of the unjust bearing, If continued. vii
permeate our whole nature, like al
= emotional poison. We should therefor,
g net calmly, wisely, with kindness ant
. dignity, and frankly recognize condl
tons and with perfect fairness talk
the gentlest action that will remed,
them. Better a short, decisive battl
fought to a finish than a constant sc
rles of petty ~squabbles and sklrmishes
We cannot be just to others II we ar
Il unjust to ourselves. If one lives eve
r under the scepter Of the decision Q
others, 1t is not free life-it Is SLAYER,
One cannot keep emotion CONSTANT
corked up; some time that cork wi
come out-perhaps inopportunel!
True love, true companionship, tru
living, can reign In the home only a
there Is in the home an atmosphere {
Is liberty, Of individual freedom In II
highest sense.
10 II there be interference from GU
Of side forces. whether they be from ii
!" family or others, that tends to bligl
the Joy. rest. peace and calm Of II
ID home, that threatens to bring In eve
N the thin edge Of the wedge Of dIscor
between husband and wife-that Int
~ ference should be silenced foreve
If. The home should be q sanctuary
Ks refuge, not a battle ground Of discort
bs 1t should be a place where the ang
n. of love ever swings the censer
~ peace, and calm, and happiness.
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