The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-02-14
Dorothy Dix Says
Lack Self Is at the Bottom of All Domestic Misery
and Divorce Possession of 1t Turns Any Marriage
into Success
By Dorothy Dix
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer

vcrsation that are Just as good tor A |
Shindy as a nickel is for a ginger cake
There is no profit in family arguments
tha, have been thraShcd cut million
tunes with no result except to leave
both husband and wife hurt and angry
with each other
Nothing is ever gained by beating
yourself up against a stone wall. vet
there are millions and millions Of wives
who keep their homes in a ierment atd
themselves spiritually bruised and sore
from perpetual tights that they wage
with their husbands over things that
might Just aS we'll be avoided II only
they had enough self control TO stick
~ sane and safe course OF converse
ton and to keep from stirring up the
animals
The significant thing, however, about
this club OF young women studying
self control as frs, aid to matrmon-
ial peace and happiness is that they are
all business girls That shows what
have always contended, that there is no
other preparation ior girl for domes-
tic life equal to that OF having been
out in the world and earned her owr
living and seen what real life is like.
Not in thousand years would il
ever have occurred to little GLADYS
Maude Debutante to study self control
as means OF making herself a good
wife She would never have thought
even OF the necessity OF controlling her
sell. She wouldn't have known OF the
miracles OF success that self control
can achieve, or the disasters that the
lack OF self control can precipitatc
upon weakling who is the slave OF
every gust OF passion Self control
wouldn't even be on Gladys Maude' 5
matrimonial program Or ii it was. she
would expect her husband to be the ex
poncnt Of it Not she.
II took business girl to realize the
value OF self control and the import
ance that IT plays in real life, and 20,
her knowledge from actual experience
IN dealing with men as they are when
they have laid aside their parlur man
ncrs and are wrestling with the siren
u'NN llNNlNllN VI lllN NOl ktudN MOflU.
and that's the kind OF man tha, a WON
an has to live with through all the long
years ot matrimouy
The business girl found out that the
first thing she had TO learn in order tc
hold her position was self control. She
found out that the girl who goes into
Mysteries every time a tired and har
assed employer speaks snapp,ly TO her
or the glrl who makes tart reply
when some fault is found with her
work, OF the girl who has to argue
about everything, is of no use in q
business house,
She learns that the girl who get,
along IN business is the girl who turn.
on her tear ducts IN the privacy OF her
own chamber at home the girl who
learns tn COO like dove when she l.
feeling like punching somebody's head
the girl who learns how to aocep, eyei
unjust blame with mccknesS and who
disarmS bruSQueneSs with smiling cour
teSy
Her experience with men in husi
ness has taught the working girl that 4
mans growl is nearly always wots,
than his bite, and that IL is only wher
YOU prod him still further when he'
IN an III temper that he hurts YOU Pa
him on the head, even when he's al hi,
uglieSt. and nine,y-nine times out of
hundred he'll lick your hand in gta,
ilude
Experience has also ,augh, the bu'i
me" girl to have pity and sympath
for men. She knows under what a ter
rifle strain the average business ina
works. She knows the WEAKNESS an
, the anxiety he endutes She know
, what /, is to have nerves strained I
the breaking point, so tina, one feel
,ha, one could not endure another un
pleasant ,hing-,ha, 10 be reminded d
fault, to be complained to, to be bady