The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1917-11-02

| WHICH u iudu Is uITdlu TO reIudrk dl
the breakfast table, even mildly and
casually, that, from what he has heard
Cleopatra must have been beautiful
woman, 1t is fair to assume that the
spectre of constant jealousy dwells In
that household. When a wife fears
to look at the moon because she may
be accused of admiring the man in it.
the husband needs, to be gently re
minded that he is taking q very rapid
shortcut to killing the love he seems
to hold so sacred. Love is fed by con.
fidence, trust, faith and serene restful
reliance. Morbid jealousy is a poison
of doubt, suspicion and injustice that
dulls the love it does not deaden.
Scientists tell us that every known
poison is, in small doses, a stimulant
in larger doses it is narcotic; in still
larger it kills. In mild form jeal-
ousy is inseparable from real love. 1t
is the hearts guardianship of it's treas
ure. 1t is the hunger for the sacred
ness of sole possession; the righteous
demand to be first, absolute and SUI
| preme. 1t is the instructive protest at
even the thought of another sharing
in those little tendernesses, graceful
| attentions, and words, looks and ex-
pressiOns of love that should be con-
centrated on one, not Syndicated
| among many.
This instructive jealousy, though
| reused in an instant, falls gently to
| c1n ruif of a
the recognition of false alarm.
Jealousy, in any instance. must be.
long to one of two classes. 1t is either
| justified by the facts or it is not; ii
| Is right charge or an unjust one
If justified, the one who causes it may
do so, in one or two instances, through
thoughtlessness or because of a less
| finely balanced appreciation of the de.
| mandS and duties of love, for some ma
lures are more wounded by look than
others by blow. Here few words
of gentle protest may bring new
course of action that is absolutely
| jealousy-proOf. If the offending acts
become continuous performance, then
| the offender is unworthy of either the
! love or the jealousy. But If the con-
slant jealousy be undeserved, the one
thus continuously storming in jealous
tempest is not worthy of the love and
loyalty thus traduced and put to scorn
Nothing weakens loyalty and con-
stancy so quickly as morbid jealousy
nothing inspires, feeds, strengthens and
al, ivy
stancy like loving confidence, real com
radeship and restful trust.
Jealousy, even when justified. should
not be permitted to run away with dis.
erection. The emotional pain it may be
natural TO feel it may not be wise to
express. There is tendency to an
emotional explosion that may wreck
happiness. 1t is moment when one
should heed the advice of the sign at a
railroad crossing: stop, look and
listen" The first suspicion in mar.
ried life may be more hazardous than
the first real quarrel. 1t may develop
an exaggerated estimate of the i'm.
pOrtance of what may have been mere.
ly foolishly indiscreet word or &C.
ton.
The offender, conscious of innocence
of real wrong even in thought may
become angered and indignant at con.
demnatiOn many sizes too large for the
offeSse; apology for the minor thought.
lessness may be withheld or if spoken
ignored in the presence of the injustice
of weightier charge. The burden OF
injustice becomes shifted to the one
originally innocent. If the inadvertence
of moment, now looming large, be
but an error of action, not of mind
or of heart, it should instantly be for.
given and forgotten because explained
and understood.
If there be real reason for jealousy
in a trifie, wise action may confine il
to the trifle. Jealousy through it's own
indiscreet expression may plant what
it fears. Let the wounded one seek
to find the cause that led to the action
inspiring the jealousy. The wife
through pique at being neglected, may
receive innocently and unwisely the
kind attention Of another. The hus
band, brought to realization Of the
drifting possibilities of his negligence
may by special marks of affection, re.
turning to the old courtship methods
restore the old certainty of faith and
allness. If wise, he Will let the con.
seriousness of his initial wrong keep
him from revealing too plainly his pain
Angry protests and condemnation never
cure; they merely put a premium on
secrecy and deception. 1t does not re.
move the disease, 1t merely drives il
into the system.
In every instance OF jealousy the
innocent one should meet it at the
beginning, at it's earliest manifesto.
ton. This means recognition and q
wise determination to remove the
cause, but does not justify blame or in.
dignant streams of condemnation flow.
ing hot and lava-like from an emo.
tional Vesuvius.
There is false pride that says, "It
he is growing interested in another lei
him go. / will not compete for his af.
fection," or, IF she feels that way
let her have her way" Love; happi.
ness and trust are treasures too sacred
for us to permit them to slip out OF
our lives and leave us lone and dreary
on the mere technically of the petty
pride of a moment. This philosophy
Of resignation may be proper when II
becomes inevitable, but never before
We would not let health, money, posi-
ton, reputation or property thus drift
away without using every effort to re
tain it; why does false pride sometimes
make us so reckless with what means
most to us?