Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-12-17

AIOST intelligent people have come
N to see that divorce is not an IN
mixed evil, but a necessary evil.
1t is often the surgeons knife that
cuts away the cankering sore in life
in order to save II, but just as surg
cry is not always an infallible cure for
diseases. so divorce is not a never
failing remedy for domestic misery.
Sometimes divorce means jumping
out of the frying pan into the fire, as
the homely old phrase goes, and a
man and woman who have been mis-
cradle together in matrimony find
themselves still more wretched after
they had parted.
After all. perhaps one gets attached
TO ones sparring partner and feels
lost when deprived Of the enemy with
whom one has fought for years.
This is particularly the case with
women, who are the compliments in
more than three-fourths Of the divorce
actions and who find out in the ma
jority Of cases that their DEGREES alb
solute are boomerangs that annihilate
them and that even a very Indifferent
husband may be better than no hus.
band at all.
without doubt men have the same
experience, for there IS no denying
that with all its faults, its drawbacks,
even its martyrdom, matrimony does
unfit people for the celibate life, and
the man who has grown accustomed
to the comforts and discomforts Of a
home finds himself like a fish out of
water when he is cast forth upon the
cold comfort OF boarding houses, ho-
tells or clubs.
He may have rebelled against hay.
Ing to punch the domestic time clock;
he may have writhed unde- the tyran.
ny Of wife who Kept tab on his going
out and coming In, and who told him
what he should eat and what he
should wear, and what he shouldn't
hmoke or drink; he may. have be.
Erudged the money that went to pay
FOR shoes and groceries, and milk for
the baby, instead of for pleasure; his
eyes may have. wearied at the sight
of q fat old wife and turned longingiy
towards sylph-like chickens, but that
70 while he Is still bound hand and
foot In the holy estate. -..
Let the law strike HIS shackles from
him and he soon finds that matri-
mony has done its deadly work. He II
q tanned and domesticated creature
who has learned to eat out OF wife q
hand. and he Is lost without Il,
There Is no thrill In staying out at
night when nobody cares whether
you stay or not. What's the use OF
making money when man has no
one OF his own totspend It on? Better
even is the nagging Of an honest,
faithful, Eat old wife than the jollying
OF the painted lips of the sirens who
work q man for all he Is worth and
from whom he soon turns In disgust
Thus It happens that thousands OF
married couples who thought they
could not live with each other find
that they cannot live without each
other, and It is pity that there Is
not some half way station in the d.
'vorce proceedings where the law
could offer husband and wife a
chance to take back all the charges
they have made against each other,
and kiss and make Il up.
The thing that is the matter with
matrilnony after all IL monotony. We
try to run It as continuous perform.
ance, with never q let up or q break |
IN Il with the same face across the
table at every meal, listening to the
same line Of conversation three hun.
dred and sixty days q year, rasped by |
the same faults, weaknesses, peculiar
tiles, habits. and 1t gets upon our
nerves It's eating the thirty quails In |
thirty days that no appetite can stom. |
ech.
No wonder marriage Is q failure. So |
would anything else be II we get too
much of it. We loathe music, litera-
ture and art when we get an over.
dose Of them. People with barrels OF |
money set no enjoyment out Of spend.
ing It. Nothing bores like q perpe.
tual round OF pleasure. We pray for
rain after long succession Of sun.
shiny days. And II people could only