Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1917-11-15
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WILLIAMS GEORGE JORDAN
WHEN the FAMILY INTERPRETERS
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WHEN THE FAMILY INTERPRETERS.
Many q good matrimonial ship. with
its sunlit cargo Of happiness and hope,
has been wrecked on the rocks Of fam.
lily Interference. II 1t were customary
to erect tOmbstOnes to the memory
Of dead loves the cause OF the death
Of marital happiness In thousands Of
homes might be given In the chisellcd
epitaph: "Died From an Overdose Of
the Interference Of Relatives! !"
II there be one place In the world
where the Justice Of "home rule"
should be unquestioned. that place 10
tho home. Marriage makes the cou.
pie q new firm, an independent partner
ship, not a branch house under the
management Of a parent company.
II WINS interference and bad advice
that spoiled the first marriage, started
the first quarrel. and broke up the first
home In the world In those early days
long, long ago when Eden was the only
spot on earth that had even q name.
This was the first lesson to man and
now after sixty centuries some people
have not learned 1t yet. Husband and
wife must work out their own problems
In their Own way.
The problems of two must be solved
by two. They need only kindness.
sympathy, q reserve Of help In emer.
gencies and a free open field all the
time. There Is no justification for gos-
sip. criticism, complaint, condemnation
and incendlary meddling by members
Of the family. These things should be
put on the list Of unnecessary ldxuries
In the home and gently. firmly, definite
ly cut of.
We may sometimes be privileged to
help others to live their lives; 1t is or.
rogant assumption for US to attempt to
live their lives for them. We are told
that we should not bury u talents,
but there Is one talent-that Of spe'
cial aptness for impertinent manage
ment Of the affairs of others--that we
should carefully wrap in a napkin and
on some dark night, quietly bury for
eve
It is in the first years Of married
life that foreign interference Is mos
trying and dangerous and 1t is this yer!
time when 1t is most conspicuous ant
dominant. No need for the family Il
remind the wife that the husband II
not eighteen karat, that he will neve,
make a fortune, that they fear great!
and then let their fear expand into
long catalogue Of detail that fade
away into the dim perspective Of tn,
unspoken. After the goods are bOugh
and sent home and cannot be returned
what Is the use of discouraging tn
purchaser?
The wife may think she has the fir
est little home IN the world; every
thing seems beautiful to her and sh
has eve pride in the array of cookin
utensils, dazzling and new in aluminium
and tin, and the dishes ranged care
fully on the pantry shelves. She ofte
stands ut the door and smiles us sh
looks into get the general effect
a glance. When the family makes
tour OF inspection, her indiscreet si'
ter may say, "Oh, what a mite Of
kitchen. You can only wash the sma
dishes like cups and saucers in a littl
box like this" 1t had never SCENE
small to her, none Of the Don SCENE
small; they held so much love an
hope and happiness that the size dl
not count; but now her heart sink
and the Joy note seems gone and
cloud comes yer 1t all and she begir
to compare her home with that Of son
friend and 1t suffers. She thinks
all the other deficiencies pointed o.
by the visiting inspectors. She tri'
to be brave so she will be smillr
when he comes home but 1t Is hard
keep back the tears.
When her husbands sister tells h,
in confidence, "just to put you on yo'
guard SO you will know how to hand
him." what q temper he has, 1t com
to her as a surprise and a grief. for
does not seem possible he could ev
speak a cross word. When she heal
still In confidence. about the girl
was so much In love with two yea
ago and was going to marry" she fee
twinges Of vague jealousy and 81
wants to be alone. +
He too may suffer from the ear
stages Of family interference II I
mother begins her maternal vivis'
ton of his wife. She doubts II 8
will prove a good ho%usekeeper, but "
course we have to hope for the bes
Soon the family may begin a en-
paign Of education on how she shot
manage him. She hears with irrltati
the. words: "You surely won't let h
smoke in the parlor! You know y
can never get the odor u of the c.
tains and that cartridge paper drin
in smoke like plotting paper absOi
Ink" II she weakly assents they
crease the dose; II she rebels. Ii
think she Is overconfldent and setti
her right becomes more than q pie
ure-it II a duty. "Never permit h
TO be five minutes late at dinner. j