Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1917-02-27
IN DOUBT ABOUT
WHICH TO CHOOSE
Loves Her Cultured Lover.
but Inferior One Attracts,
Too
BY DOROTHY DIX

she has two suitors One of the men
is intellectual, cultured, moral, up
right, all that a man could be. The
girl admires him very much indeed.
She enjoys his wise conversation
and calm attitude toward life, and
she knows that if she marries him
she will have a placid and safe
Journey across the matrimonial
sea, with no danger or encounter
ing storms and shipwreck.
The other suitor is in every way
inferior to the first. He is not
clever, nor we'll educated, nor
well-tc-do like he other man, nor
is 1t any privilege to listen to his
baseball and vaudeville the most
important topics in the world, and
you are making a collection of cur
lent slang.
In word, this young man is just
an ordinary young fellow, with u
fairly good job, and a tendency to
fall off the water wagon now and
Their and zig-sag from the straight
ana narrow path.
Struggles Sure With One,
Monotony With The Other
If the girl marries him she
knows we'll enough that life will
be struggle, and that matri-
mcny will be an adventurous trip
that is as likely to end in a di-
Norce court as anywhede else.
There is no comparison be-
tween the two men or the relative
advantages of the two marriages,
yet the girl hesitates between
them because - so strange a thing
is the human heart and so illogical
fr frNf rtNN.
suitor, and not the superior one,
who sets her pulses thrilling.
The good, sensible man appeals
10 her reason, the harum-s -scarum
one to her affections. So she asks
nae which she shall choose the
one that comes up to her ideal or
the one that fires her fancy.
BY way of answer, l can only
say that whichever way she
chooses she will regret it. The
only perfect marriages, the only
real true matings, are those in
satisfied. This rarely happens,
and til. is why there are SO few
happy marriages.
Cupid, Greedy Chap. Never
Satisfied With Half Rations
Cupid is a greedy little chap.
lie is never satisfied with half ra-
tions. No matter how good a
man or a woman may be, or how
perfectly he or she may DO his or
her duty as husband or wife.
everything is dust and ashes I'M
less, along with his or her good
conduct record, there goes that
strange something that quickens
the blood and makes the heart go
piI-a-pat.
What this mysterious attraction
OF a. certain man and woman for
each other consists of we do not
= Know. We only know that it ex-
lists. and that it is the strongest
can least be manufactured or cul-
tiNated. A man may be all that a
woman admires and attract her not
at ALL
that a man reveres and be abso-
the other hand, woman may ac-
tually despise n mans character
ard be irresistibly drawn to him,
and a man may know a woman for
a poor, weak, silly creature, and
yet not be able to resist her fatal
fascination for him.
Whether judgment or inclination
should rule in the selection of a
lite partner is a mooted question.
In America we marry by inclina-
ton, and in France they marry by
judgment, and we hold the divorce
record.
That, however, proves nothing
except that we Americans are an
impatient race and are more pro-
Gressive about trying to improve
bad conditions, even when they are
matrimonial conditions, than are
Europeans.
Certainly the woman who mar
rieG, a man just because he appeals
TO her brains, and will make a
good, safe husband, will never be
very happy. She may, if she is
Ihilost -.hical, be satisfied ana con-
plates her physical comforts and
engages in placid discussions on
Browning and Ibsen with her in
tellectual spouse.
But always her heart will be
R-hungering for the romance and
the golden glory she has missed.
She knows that friendship is not
love, any more than beer is cham
payne, and there will be many
ana many a time when she will
wonder if one wild thrill of love
is not worth a whole fat life of
commonplace comfort.
But if she takes the thrill and
let's the comfort go she stands
the chance of forever cursing her.
self for her folly in forsaking the
fleshpots for the sake of a kiss.
Because after all, thrills are the
GIRLS ana necIlC leNer OIL romance
for which matrimony is generally
a never-failing cure. They seldom
lest, and when they are gone so
often all is gone.
Those Who Marry For
Heads Sure of Bargains
The man and woman who mar
ry for their heads, and who pick
out the husband and wife of whom
their judgment approves, have, at
least, the consolation of good
bargain. The man has the kind OF
woman he wanted for the mother
of his children and at the head OF
his house.
The woman has her establish
ment, her position in society, her
shopping ticket. But it is the
tragedy of those who marry for
their hearts that when the thrill
is dead and the romance played
cut they have nothing but the
burden of matrimony left.
So it is that whichever way you
marry you wish you had done the
other thing. The safe way is not
TO marry until you find the man
o" woman who both fires your
fancy and comes up to your ideal
But il we waited for that pre-
cious Wv of us would ever reach
The altar.