The Garland City globe. (Garland, Utah) 191?-1925, 1917-10-25

fearing mt every word that she may
stumble into some pltfall of mispro
nunciation or an inadvertent phrase
or, growing sclf-assured and reckless
she puts on full head of steam In
the presence of position requiring
tact and just crashes through ii like
an engineer running his train over n
burning bridge. His bearing may reach
its melting point; in his acquired su.
pcrscnsitiycncss he puts fictitious val
ues on points where she is deficient
and his tolerance fades into positive
neglect. lie may then devote his
whole time to finer minds, fairer faces
and freer morals. How far they may
drift apart, no one can tell.
It may be that 1t IL the wife who
advances mentally and he who is tho
laggard. The increased prosperity
may mean close confinement for him
TO the drudgcry of business. The So
cicty of few old friends, survivals OF
the time when he was poor and strug-
Cling, may be all he cares for. Lltera-
ture may not appeal to him. His daily
paper supplies all his needs. The ac-
tivities of the world of modern science.
thought and culture have for him no
real interest. His wife, left free TO
the rounding out of her mind and life,
may develop n tuste for reading, for
companionship That is mentally worth
having, for original thinking, for the
charm Of true conversation, for the
discussion of subjects of real impor-
lance. She may gather around her
circle of friends who feed her mental
hunger and stimulate her thinking. lie
feels vaguely out OF place with these
new friends Of hers, like poor rela-
ton at Christmas dinner.
She has found her way into the land
Of the intellectual and has established
u residence there, while he, In his
loneliness and isolation, Is camping on
It's frontiers. He feels somewhat
stranger In his own house ut social
gatherings of her friends. lie may
chufc under the feeling that he Is on
the wrong side of the prosccnlum
arch; that he ia not one of the per.
formers, but merely spectator. lie
longs TO cut out all this heavy intel
lcctual business" and go on quietly
with a friend or two and just sit, and
talk, and smoke.
This growing apart mentally may
assume any OF II hundred phases. Hus.
band and wife may be subjected to
any class of differing environments
that change their mental standpoint
ana their moral sympathy. New ideas
and new ideals may sweep old land
marks OF mutual understanding far out
TO sea. II Is n sad outLrowlng of n
union OF love and compnnlonship, n
growing unsntlsfedness where speech
that meets no sympathetic response
lupscs into silence. When sympathy
aud recognition OF Cne's ideals are
found only outside the home walls.
when the instructive impulse TO tell Of
u success or n failure turns 10 some
one else, when ears grow hungry for
outside praise, there Is serious danger
to the happiness of married life.
II is so easy TO keep together II both
realize the vital Importance to all that
Is sweetest In life In keeping In step,
In true comrndcshlp. Talking over
the affairs OF their individual lives
and their life In common, the hopes,
the lOngings, the doubts, the joys and
the problems, gives each the basis OF
from which most truly 10
and advise each other.
Reading the same books, discussing the
same current events, hearing the same
music, seeing the same plays, critlclz-
Ing the same pictures, having dearest
friends I'm common, agreeing ON the
same spiritual and ethical attitude to-
wards life, and sharing In thoughts
and plans will do much towards max
ing Il growing apart mentally an I'M
This keeping in step does not mean
the sacrifice of the stronger TO the
wcukcr, but the stronger ever, through
love, raising the weaker TO higher
planes of thinking and living. II Is
not necessary that they should even
agree as to the value of each others
pursuits or views, but that both should
know them, understand them and re-
spcct them and be lovingly tolerant
where they are not united in their sen
timent or desires. They should give
ever their best TO each other.
When the husband is clever, de
llghtful companion at some one else's
but sad, stlll-life study !
in silence at his own, nc Is not giving |
his best at home. He Is retaining his |
best for the export trade and reserv'
ing none for home consumption. When
the wife has charity, consideration and
for the cares of others out
side the home, and only sharpness aud
sarcasm for those inside, the time
table of that home requires instant
revision or there will be crashing
disaster to their train of happiness
Sources of discord multiply like Aus
trallan rabbits when the growing apart
1t is the sacred duty OF
both to prevent II at the very begin
ming, to determine that they will per-
init no thOughtlessness, no drifting, no
false sense of duty to family or to the |
world, to separate them from each
other.