Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-11-16
KISSING
Ry DOROTHY Dix
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman
Writer

GET a. great many letters iron
young girls who want TO know
] what they shall do about the kiss
ing proposition They say that 1t !;
practically case of no KISS. no beau
for the young men who take then
about demand good night kiss, as
pay for their courtesies, and If they
refuse it is, indeed. GOOD NIGHT
in the slang phrase. for they never
see these osculatory youths again
Now the innate modesty and de
licacy of these girls rovolts at yield
ing their lips to men to whom they are
not even engaged, to men who do not
even pretend to be in love with them.
It. violates their sense of what is pro.
per, but, at the same time, they do
not want to be regarded as prudeS
and puritans Still less do they desire
to be wall flswers left ort of all the
fun and. parties, and numbered with
those forlorn damsels who never
have any intention from men.
So the girl is torn between her in
stinctive sense of what is right and
the knowledge of expediency, and she
wants to know what she shall do and
how she shall answer the external
argument of mar when he is trying
to persuade woman into doing the
thing that he knows she should not do.
To kiss, or not to kiss. that's the
question that troubles her.
There can be but one answer TO
give a girl to this problem. 1t is no,
no, no! A mans lips should be kept
inviolate, and the first mans kiss
that is pressed upon them should be
the kiss of love from the man she ex-#
poets to marry. For a girl to give
her lips to every Tom, Dick and
Harry who takes her to a moving
picture show or escorts her home
from dance is something unthink-
able. It is as much a dissertation as
. she trailed a white rose bud
through a sewer.
1t is a pity that girls can never be
made to realize that the most alluT-
ing and attractive thing about them
is the aura of innocence and unsoSI
phistication that surrounds them. 1t
is the whiteness, the uHtrodden snow
ness of their souls that is their chief
est charm, and they never make SO
fatal a mistake as when they throw
this away.
If girls were only wise enough to
realize how fascinating aloofness is,
and what an appeal unsulled purity
makes to the masculine imagination. |
they would keep every man at arms
length at lest until he bad come out
and popped the question. They
should not think for a minute of put
ting up with cheap familiarities from
men that rob them of their freshness
and make them little shop worn bits
OF humanity that have been paved
over like the goods on bargain
table. Girls should never forget that |
it is only the shy and shrinking violet
that is mans favorite flower, not the |
brazen sun flower.
My girl correspondent says that |
she does not know how to answer "a I
man when he begs her to kiss him
and tells her that there is no harm |
in it, and that his argument makes |
her feel foolish because she seems /
to be making a great ado over a very
little matter. There is one answer
that every girl can make to q mans
request for a kiss.
She can ak him If he would like
his sister to kiss any man good night
who happened to call upon her. She
can ask him what he. would advise
his sister to do If his sister were in
Ter place. And she can ask him if he
would like to think that the girl that I
ne is going to marry some day had
kissed hundred men who were
mere casual acquaintance.
Such questions will make any de-
cent man writhe. A man Will tell
bis own sister quickly enough what
he thinks on the subject, and his
own lips would grow cold and stiff
On his sweetheart's IL he remember.