Carroll County democrat. (Huntingdon, Tenn.) 188?-1971, 1917-10-26

esteem to reach truer OASIS u uhVeA
standing and harmony, they would ac-
complish wonders and would reaitze
that the larger part of their suffering
Il cruelty wrong because -preyentahle.
Advertising it to the world publishes
of course, the competition, but does
not bring a solution They should
some time stand reyerently for while
before one of those modern engines
that consume their own smoke, ana
then heed the moral Of this sermon ID
mechanism.
Condolences on vital home matters
are dangerous in proportion to their
Importance; they imply so much that
they should be entrusted, If at all, only
nerhaps to one or two, whose tested
love. honor and loyalty make doubt
seem sacrilcge. There are friends OF
the mind, friends Of the heart ana
friends of the soul. 1t is with the last
only that we have assurance ana GER
tafnty that open ears viii ever be as
sociated with closed lips, that any
message committed to them is stored
in the holy of holes Of memory, where
speech can never reach it to reveal IT,
In life, usually, the only absolute,
incontestable insurance Of q secret IL
to tell it to no one. If one does not
want a fact known it is wise not 10
fell any part of it. Partial condolences
: are dangerous, because In time the sep
: ora+o niacas retained In the. memory
of the listener may be carefully put
together. ike the irregular sections o.
d dissected map. Sometimes worus >
suggestion. an inadyertent phrase,
meanIngless In itself, vitalizes un-
notea tribes of old memories, Whlen
: suddenly combine and stand out Viva
and luminous In a moment as a com
plete revelation, such as the speaker
never intended to give. There are
! sometimes EXPLANATIONS that are life
revelations In word, autobiogDapnle
! confessions In an unguarded phrase
: Sometimes in the desire for sympa-
! thy or advice, one is tempted 70 tell .
= home problem impersonally, or rather
y IN the third person, as the life-expe-
II rience Of some dear friend, with
u hazardous confidence in the safety OF
y the alibi; but the turning OF a phrase
g ! Sudden tension of emotion, a fever
y. ish note Of protest or plea may tehu
" 10 puncture the frail bubble OF decep-
= tlon. The vicarious sympathy may Pc
r- forthcoming, but it hardly pays for the
~ risk The advice under such clrcnn-
u stances is yalueless, because it is not
- based on the absolute knowledge %
every detail requisite for true 1uug-
De ment and counsel really beneficial 20
~ the one asking advice and help III
ns some individual crisis.
ny Circumstances, personality and char
~ acter are so interrelated that II Is az
IA ficult impossible, indeed, for one nu
wy man being to give an opinion on tht
We merits Of a question affecting two oth
lus ers when he knows really little aDou
in- them. Such advice might well be no
.es only worthless, but harmful. Far bet
est ter is it to deny even this indulgence
"a oneself-for, after all, 1t is only o.
M indulgence.
7lls There Is unWisdom in talking TO
lue freely even of happiness In marrie'
q life outside the home walls. II ma
ieu give q new touch Of pain to one stfue
ust pIing with a serious heart problem an
So unable to see a way out. It may pc
W tax on the courtesy and patience 2
1ne those who cannot be expected TO re-
! deem personal interest III "a
= Wanted joys Of another. often IN "
Ia swift current of speech one may spea
az some little domestic episode th'
ton- should be held too sacred for the eal
- Of others. What may be SWEEP ~
.nat daar IN the words and acts OF eithf
Due may seem but silly sentimental
we translated by unsympathetlc mln'
, ~ and repeated with variations Dy wa
-, tonly wagging tongues.
~. should there be any drop III 9
'l"s volue of the home stock and one
49, longer tells Of the pearls OF happlne'
49, the very silence will be construed as
81 confession and may bring o tran
humiliation or criticism and gossip.
= may entail lying and hypocrisy 70 y
!, our tain the old record.
True happiness rarely boasts; Y
! "a dates. If 1t really exists the NJ
ond world that cares at all, the few y
ough nave real ne',, AAss ,,,oro t,,,lv III
'rmno from the lips, more in the voice y
! ~ in the words. 1t will glow ana =
A. wade an atmosphere OF sWeetnt
4a III trust, peace and comradeship, ms
We testing itself in hundred little W
~ that tell the story without verbs .
ond rose reveals its presence through
u M ~ nerfuine, the sun. the light
- III warmth 1t radiates. True happin
= need not advertise; it has merely
'.nost exist to make itself felt.
annot When the home problems asst
= we the acute phase when confidence 90
! our where seems compelling, then let
hand and wife conide more closet.
- each other, realizing that their p
: az ~ lem must first be tried BY this cou
z ~ Of two, IL it is really to be solye'
!, .tont all In the sweet, honest, I'll, II
,-a ~ interchange of views, seeking NOT