The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1917-04-30


@. / am young woman
in great trouble. came to
this country when 16 years
years old, earned enough
money to go back, went back,
had a little shop, and had
to leave when the war broke
out. Now haven't any
money, but can earn my own
living. When | left to go to
the old country l left a young
man in this country who
wanted to marry me but l
couldn't make up my mind.
Now he is begging me to
marry him and my friends
all say l am foolish not to
do it because he is well fixed.
The more l am with him the
more | dislike him. When he
Is away | think | will try
and marry him because | am
not well and / am afraid in
few years l will be thrown
out on charity. | am only
2S, but have had so much
sickness ] seem 40, but when
think of living the balance
OF my life with him, would
rather lie dead.
Will you please advise me?
] nave no relatives. Do you
think | could ever learn to
like hin after marriage when
1t makes me SILVER when he
touches me now? l, don't
like to disappoint him, when
he has lived in hopes for so
many years. ALL ALONE.
A. A woman who marries q
man simply because she feels that
she is obligated to him makes
the biggest mistake OF her life
If you feel as you do, you would
not only be working great
wrong to yourself, but would be
wrOnging man who has prObably
the pest intentions and an honor.
able love. You should not have
lot this condition go as long as
this, but the best thing now Is
tn have q quiet, decisive talk
Tell him that you can never care
for ldm In the way he desires
and If he ,s u gentleman he will
stoP out of your life. Break the
affair off short.
When there is not an absolute
dislike, 1t sometimes happens that
ieslfet and I We do grow afte,
marriage, but when you feel a.
you do, IL would be terrible
mistake and "a great injustice tc
use this man as q "meaI ticket
by marrying bin.
Q.-I have a brother whom
my mother idolizes. He is
%. He has never really had
to earn his own living. \
though he has earned money
for several years. He thinks
he is quite independent. He
doesn't know the first thing
about saving. He wants to
get married. Should he?
Sis.
Al should be sorry for his
wife II he does marry. I am sorry
for the boy, too, to think his
mother has not used better sense
In bringing him up. Any boy OF
23, no matter how well-to-do his
parents, should have learned well
the lesson Of how far a dollar
won't go. Learning how far Il
WILL go isn't sufficient.
Earning money is not all of the
lesson of financial independence
by any means. - Your brother will
have to take the responsibility OF
keeping himself, without the feel.
Ing that he can fall back on
mother If he runs short before
the end of the month. A few
good hard knocks are what he
needs. If the mother is wise
she'll see he gets them. At any
rate the father ought to awake
to the situation to see he
gets them. Then, perhaps, he
might think OF marrying. But for
the sake of the girl, don't let him
marry now.
Q.-Being that New York
city is such large place
could you tell me If there is
any place in town that has a
directory of that city?
BEsS.
A.-You will find directories OF
New York City at the reference
room of the public library.
o. am engaged. A few
days ago young man wrote
to me and asked II he might
call to see me. I gave him .
permission to write, but
didn't know till I got his let
ter that he was serious.
What should do. Should I
tell him l am engaged or
should just tell him I can
not go to the show with him,
as he requested.
GIRL READER.
A. There's mighty fine motto
for just folks to follow In this
world. And 1t fits I'm just az
nicely I'm your case as 1t does In
any other. IL sould like this
do unto others as you'd have