The Yale expositor. (Yale, St. Clair County, Mich.) 1894-current, 1917-12-06

always rather shifted at women's clubs,
but when she joins one, and is sched-
uled to write a paper he is pleased to
talk 1t over and dig up some gems Of
material from the mine of his mascu-
line wisdom, just to help out. They
criticize some book she has been read
ing as she tells him the story, or per-
haps she has read ii aloud to him
after dinner, and though she may think
the hero a demigod and he calls him
pompous prig and they grow a bit
enthusiastic and finally laugh at each
others view, their nOn-agreement
really does not make the least differ
ence, you know, for this is just-com-
radeship.
With this spirit of comradeship there
is never any thought of settling the
question of 'who is boss?" for such q
question never arises. When a prob
lem comes up before this home SUI
preme court, they have a quiet little
earnest session and If they do not see
the issue from the same point Of view,
by concession and compromise the one
who has thought most deeply on the
subject, who feels 1t most intently or
who is most affected by 1t casts the
deciding vote.
Comradeship inspires tolerance and
throws little pecuharities into the
shadow; it ignores or obscures petty
| failings as Of no real consequence; it
concentrates on the fine sterling quail
! tiles and fOrgives and forgets the little
mortgages. Love oftimes Is eXaCting;
in its intensity it may place undue inn
! portance on a trifle and be seriously
disturbed at a flaw or failing that
seems a scar on a noble character.
Comradeship helps love to a more hui
man view, saner, wiser charity in
judging. A man says a friend of whom
he is genuinely fond, che is a bully
good fellow" and all the emphasis Of
his heart goes into the words and
atones for the phrasing; he knows his
friends failings but loyalty minifies
their Importance, the eyes are
trained not to see, the lips keep ST.
lence.
In his bachelor days the husband
may have had some friend tried and
true who was dear to him, whom he
trusted as one good man does another.
If the golden light of some success or
prosperity threw a glow Of radiance
across his pathway an involuntary
smile frightened his face as he thought
how pleased his friend would be to
hear 1t, how unselfsh would be his
sympathy, how hearty would be his
congratulations he could bank on his
friends happiness just as certainly
and absolutely as If his own dear
mother were listening to the story and
eager for every word of detail.
If the hand of sorrow pressed heav-
lily on his soul, and the night of doubt
and fear settled down on his life, and
the ship of his great hope had sunk
when it was almost in port, and he
faced failure and defeat, he knew one
who would be unchanged, whom he
could count on to the very end. And
when some problem affecting the well
fare of either had to be solved it was
the problem of both and they would
stay up half the night TO settle it like
Jury locked out until they came to a
verdict and they put together their
wisdom just as they had often pooled
their meager funds when the exigen-
cies or need of the one became the
privilege and glad opportunity Of the
other.
When this instructive impulse to
confidence is carried into married life
and the heart and the lips and the out
stretched arms turn TO the wife as
naturally as the magnetic needle finds
its north, with the truest comradeship
made greater and finer by love, then
married life has no real problems that
the two, united and in unison, cannot
solve.
Comradeship holds the specter of
monotony at bay. With two ever
bringing their best sweetly to each 9TH
er, as little child carries to it's moth
er wayside flower 1t has plucked, just
because ii is most natural to bring 1t
to her, there is little fear that their
days will be long or that they will hum
ger for change from each other when
they are finding this change In each
other and with each other. Whatever
tends to lessen their comradeship and
to decrease their dependence on each
other Is a menace to their happiness.
One of the early temptations of mar
ried life is to live with the old folks.
1t all sounds so alluring when IL is
proposed that "they can take the entire
third floor which is not really needed"
by the home company who are willing
to donate 1t or sublet it to the young
firm. The advantages are obvious, the
disadvantages are more subtle, but 1t
is a hazardous experiment.
The opening words of the worlds
greatest book are 'In the beginning"
and they are the most important words
of married life; they open its chapters
of greatest Joy and keenest sorrows.
All its problems are most easily mas
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