South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1917-01-21
BY John strange Winter.

who combine 10 live with other girls
ought TO remember, and which 1
have never as yet seen clearly set
down in black AMI white. II is
that their FIRST duty should be 10
preserve as far as possible the in
dividuality of each. Take away our
individuality and life is no longer
worth living. In prisons individual
itv is stamped out as far as possible.
and as a scheme Of life it cannot
be said that a prison ranks high or
is desirable
IL is the great drawback 10 ex
istence in wOrkhouse or in any
large institution. Children brought
up by the line and rule Of a great
establishment do not do so we'll as
children individually reared. and
perhaps that is why many orphan
ages are now boarding their chill
dren out in small groups or families
under suitable mothers.
have seen in dozens of domestic
magazines advice to young wives as
to how they shall behave TO their
tired husbands. Husbands in such
articles are always tired and worn
out. They always have pin-pricky.
worrying, fatiguing and annoying
cares in their offices, and they al
ways require 10 he made much Of
and petted and INDUCED and cared
for and made to forget their daily
vexations when they come home TO
wife in the evening.
But if four girls. or two, each
earning her own living. set out TO
keep house together. they must not
forget there is no wife at home TO
coddle them and MAKE much of
them. to be a little human doormat,
a sort of flesh and blood buffer be-
tween the sensitive breadWinner and
the outer world. No, the girls who
are going to keep house together
are all breadwinners; all nave wor-
ries in their offices or wherever they
are earning their living; all will
come home more or less tired and
more or less needing to be comfort
ed and coddled. Wei. who is going
to do it?
There is only one solution to this
question. which is that the first rule
of the household must he, bear and
fOrbear. Indeed. in such a house
hold as this / would write up large
over the entrance not those fate
full words, Abandon hope all We
who enter here" but a later, a sim
liar and a better inscription. Bear
We one anOther's burdens" For if
hard worked girls are going TO keep
house together that is one of the
first lessons that they must learn
to bear one another's burdens.
One should not be considered
more than other, excepting under
special circumstances. For in
stance. a sick one should always
come first. 1 know a very wise
woman who thinks that favoritism
Of parents toward their children is
one Of the greatest wrongs and sins
of life.
I never have a favorite among
my children" she said one, ex-
cepting when one is i'll. and then
that is the favorite."
It is a wise rule. and certainly in
her house there is no sign among
her children Of any feeling as TO
mothers favoritism.
So should it be in our girls house
hold. II one of the party is laid up
with a racking headache the others
should. after giving her all suitable
remedies, go out or at least keep
quiet.
There should be regular rules for
performing any small duties which
may devolve on any of the four. and
they should be, as far as possible,
taken turn and turn about. Yet if
one girl has a taste for housekeep-
ing, and actually likes house shop
ping. there is no reason why she
should not always do it if she is
willing
AS in ordinary family life. polite
ness and courtesy are never out of
place. We cannot all of us be al
ways cheerful or always witty and
agreeable; we cannot always shine,
and I do not know that il would not
be very tiresome if we could. But
we can always keep ourselves stock
ed with the blessed small change of
life which sweetens the path of
mortal existence so surely and so
delightfully."-. You know the old
saw. Politeness costs little and buys
much Wei. politeness. seasoned
with kindness. is the best havoring
+1,a+ aor, 10 criyar 70 life
A man very much in love with a
girl. who was sitting by the fire
reading while she was looking out
OF the window. said 10 her: "Win
YOU pull down the blind % She
pulled the blind down. and he went
on reading. Jack" she said quiet
Is. you did not say thank you -
The man looked up in surprise.
why. my dearest" ne said, we
are surely much too intimate 10 re-
quire that sort OF thing" Wei.
1 don't know" she said thoughtful
ly. If a servant had been in the