Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-08-03
DIVIDENDS ON LIFE
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RsFTER all. life is just a sporting
~ proposition and we get out OF the
- game just what we put into 1t.
III we go at it with enthusiasm, ener-
CIV and interest ii pays a hundred
per cent dividend, but II We go at 1t
slacky. Iistlessly. half-heartedly, 1t
bankrupts US Which explains why
some people are miserable failures.
In reality we all have pretty much
OF the same raw materials out OF
which to build our destiny. Most OF
us meet about the same kind OF PEG,
pie. Most OF us get married. Most
Ems have children Most Of us must
work for our daily bread, and whether
ont OF these conditions OF existence
we extract JOY or sorrow depends not
upon some inscrutable fate, but upon
ourselves.
Take friendship, for instance. We
are always hearing people complain
that they have no friends, that no one
cares for them, and that the world IS
selfish place where there is no such
thing as disinterested affection. Such
vail is an indictment Of the in
divfdual who utters 1t and not OF the
balance of humanity. Such a one Is
getting out of the game just what he
puts into 1t.
When people tell you that they have
no friends 1t Is proof positive that
they are not friendly themselves.
When they tell you that no one cares
Whether they live or die, It is because
a all their miserable, selfish, self
centered lives they have never done
onvthing to bind another's heart to
them. They have never gone to
man in, financial trouble and offered
hIm enough money 70 tide him over
hard place. They have never sent
load Of coal to poor widow, or
MID her rent. They have never given
= struggling boy or girl q hand up
The ladder. or taken child to cir
cur. why should anyone love them!
On the contrary you never see an
individual who has been generous and
0vmpafhetic and helpful, and who has
Ioa no opportunity pass to show MS
81 her interest and affection IN his
tr her fellow creatures, who lacks
fSr friends. The secret OF popularity
a no secret at all. IL 10 Just taking
0ff Of the game what you put into II.
n YOU want to be loved you must
make yourself lovable. II you want
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nm sfrinEs Of kindly deeds. The
.rIHenet that draws ell other hearts
q us consists In having Great ois
human heart ourselves. a-
whether we get happiness or misery
ont Of marriage depends also entirely
a. our own attitude towards It NO
fc,Iy but q fool expects marriage 10
- nothing but q romantic dream that
"a one long thrill Of bliss. The SEN
rIhIe recognize that no two people can
i've toRether without having TO make
I thousand sacrifices and adjustments
- each other, and that they are IN
cxitabIy deprived Of much OF the I'D
Srfv that q single person enjoys.
fhere a no husband who does not
80 hts times and seasons OF crouch
- There Is no wife who upon oc'
Ion does not act more like q silly
~SS hvsterical hen than q pinfeatn,
- snrei There h no married
1@,.oIe that could not make marriage
1S1fe or less of q success.
nov ret out of Il what they put
-, n The man who consciously oe
-7<~nines TO build up happy ana sue
--sSf,,l home OF which he makes MN
80 re inspiring head instead OF the
.,S<'.nnicaI despot; who is interested
q an the lite details OF furnishing
- Adjoining his living place; VINO
,-vss his wife and makes Of her MS
- cherished companion. finds tnas
-, ,ssticity "A q gilt-edged investment
q Soes the woman who determines
- - 8 real help-mate to her nus
~. Who sees in cooking and WASH
- end ironing not sordid slavery
- i,tfle things but q high calling 70
- nobleet career that any woman
-. eepouse, and who counts every
e--r,fice sweet that she makes for the
@,i-e AZ the man who IL dearer tnan
- own comfort and luxury TO her.
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