The St. Joseph observer. [volume] (St. Joseph, Mo.) 1906-1932, 1917-09-15
HOW IS 1T WITH your
"Are You AAsy to Get Along With"
Asks Beatrice Fairfax and
Then SHE Answers.


ity, and the relation of one person to
the other. and therefore her contrlbu-
tions are always eagerly awaited and
read with avfdity. One Of her latest
productions is so to the point and so
fitting and the theme so timely that
at the request or one of the authors
thousands of admirers, it Is herewith
reproduced. The author asks, care
you easy to get along with" and then
says:
For lasting popularity would
back the amiable, comfortable. like
able individual against the most fas-
lcinating charmer in the world.
"Brilliancy and wit and magnetism
attract. but they do not hold unless
back OF them lies a great deal of amia-
bllity. The exacting,' positive person
who demands great deal from his
friends and who won't play unless
he can be president has way of
losing friends almost as fast as he
makes them.
$50, too. has the supersensitive, I'M
Iagnative person who is always look-
ing for sights and who forces his
friends into constant state OF apollo
gizing and explaining that they never
meant to hurt his feelings.
"The man easy to get along with is
the sort who keeps his own word and
who makes allowances for other peo-
pie hen they fail to live up to their
promise. He knows what effort II takes
to remember and carry out the de-
tails Of promise and so he allows for
the circumstances and conditions
which may interfere with other peo-
pies performance even while he is
very punctllious about making his own
conform with his plans and given
work. And the same with the women.
"A lack of sense Of humor general
ly makes people rather difficult as
friends. They fail to share your
amusement and they lay stress on the
dignity and. Importance of situations
which ought to be taken with a GER
tain amlable, Indifference.
"A tendency TO suspicion is a very
hard thing TO get on with. know
an otherwise, charming young woman
who makes herself and her friends
miserable through her failure to trust
them. theoretically this lack OF faith
in other people fought to mean that
she herselflis not worthy of faith and
is judging other people by herself.
"But in thtsTparticular case the
woman CONCERNED is bitterly judging
all the world in terms of one frieni
who failed her cruelty once upon a
time. And she is making herself and
everybody around her miserable by
doubling everyone and by being al
ways ready to believe that she is 60
ing to meet with an utter lack of hon
esty or fair treatment.
Demanding love as a right is an
other particularly difficult phase for
friendship TO meet. When liking and
loyalty are honestly given they ought
to be cherished and appreciated be-
yond words. But to demand them or
to expect that they can be given in
return for the demand is absurd.
| "The person who whnes. You don't
care for me as much as you used to-
I'm not necessary to you any more.
I don't mean as much to you as you
mean to me- Is sure to bring about
the state against which the complaints
are registered. Either the whining
attitude actually rebuffs love or the
power OF suggestion destroys It or the
words themselves annoy and irritate.
ITO be easy to get on with means
to be exacting with yourself and not
with others. to take all sorts OF sit
uations with the utmost good nature,
to sympathize with other peoples iif-
fioulties and not to bore them with a
long recital OF your own, TO want the
best enough to refuse anything else
and to have enough sense OF your
own dignity to refuse to have liberties
taken with It. The sympathetic un-
Outstanding soul who Is never a para
site and who contributes a bright, in
teresting personality Is generally far
more loved, far more sought after In
any gathering than is the brittle ana
brilliant or the beautiful and self
satisfied individual.
I'm flying madly cross country after
an elusive will o. the wlsp or In tear
Ing up wild preeipices after some over
stimulating and oyerexacting big per-
sonality, there is nothing but weary
Ing struggle. That is only one degree
less difficult and unsatisfactory than
salloping downhil after a waster and
profligate. 32 ~
1T is in rths comfortable, broad
fields and the shady paths along the
rivulet and the easy ascents among
the foothills that the average man