Vilas County news. [volume] (Eagle River, Vilas County, Wis.) 1896-1927, 1917-11-07
THE SPECTRE OF CONSTANT
JEALOUSY
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(CopyrightI

When a man IS afraid to remark at
the breakfast table, even mildly and
casually, that, from what he has heard.
Cleopatra must have been a beautiful
woman, it is fair to assume that the
spectre of constant jealousy dwells in
that household. When a wife fears
to look at the moon because she NAV
be accused of admiring the man in it.
the husband needs to be gently re-
minded that he is taking a very rapid
shortcut to killing the love he seems
to hold so sacred. Love is fed by con-
fidence, trust, faith and serene restful
reliance. Morbid jealousy is a poison
or doubt, suspicion and injustice that
duils the love it does not deaden.
Scientists tell us that every known
poison is, in small doses, stimulant;
In larger doses it is a narcotic; in still
larger it kills. In a mild form jeal-
Ousy is inseparable from real love- 1t
is the hearts guardianship of it's treas
ure. 1t is the hunger for the sacred
ness of sole possession; the righteous
demand to be first, absolute and SUI
preme. 1t is the instructive protest at
even the thought of another sharing
in those little tendernesses, graceful
attentions, and words, looks and ex-
pressions of love that should be con-
centrated on one, not syndicated
among many.
This instructive jealousy, though
reused in an instant, falls gently to
sleep again with smile of peace at
the recognition of a false alarm.
Jealousy, in any instance, must be-
long to one of two classes. 1t is either
justified by the facts or it is not; it
is a right charge or an unjust one.
If justified, the one who causes it may
do so, in one or two instances, through
thoughtlessness or because of less
finely balanced appreciation of the de-
mands and duties of love, for some ma
lures are more wounded by look than
others by blow. Here few words
of gentle protest may bring a new
course of action that is absolutely
iealousy-proof. If the offending acts
become a continuous performance, then
the offender is unworthy of either the
love or the jealousy. But if the con-
slant jealousy be undeserved, the one
thus continuously storming in Jealous
tempest is not worthy of the love and
loyalty thus traduced and put to scorn.
Nothing weakens loyalty and con-
stancy so quickly as morbid jealousy;
nothing inspires, feeds, strengthens and
almost guarantees loyalty and con-
stancy like loving confidence, real COM
radeship and restful trust.
Jealousy, even when justified, should
not be permitted to run away with dis
erection. The emotional pain it may be
natural to feel it may not be wise to
express. There is tendency to an
emotional explosion that may wreck
happiness. 1t is a moment when one
should heed the advice of the sign at
railroad crossing: "Stop, look and
listen" The first suspicion in mar
lied life may be more hazardous than
the first real quarrel. 1t may develop
an exaggerated estimate of the I'M
portance of what may have been mere
" a foolishly indiscreet word or &C.
ton.
The offender, conscious of innocence
of real wrong even in thought may
become angered and indignant at con-
(lemnation many sizes too large for the
offense; apology for the minor thought
Iessness may be withheld or if spoken,
ignored in the presence of the injustice
of a weightier charge. The burden OF
Injustice becomes shifted to the one
originally innocent. If the inadvertence
of q moment, now looming large, be
but an error of action, not OF NINA
or of heart, it should instantly be for
given and forgotten because explained
and understood.
IF there be real reason for Jealousy
in q trife, wise action may conf1ne IL
to the trif1e. Jealousy through its own
indiscreet expression may plant what
If fears. Let the wounded one seek
to find the cause that led to the action
inspiring the jealousy. The wife'
through pique at being neglected, may
receive innocently and unwlsely the
kind attention of another. The nus
hand. brought to realization OF the
drifting possibilities of his negligence
NAV by special marks of affection, re-
turning to the old courtship methoos,
restore the old certainty of faith ana
allness. If wise, he will let the con-
seriousness of his initial wrong keep
him from revealing too plainly his pain.
Angry protests and condemnation never
cure: they merely put premium on
secrecy and deception. 1t does not re-
move the disease, it merely drives IL
into the system.
In every instance of Jealousy the
innocent one should meet it at the
beginning, at its earliest manifesta-
ton. This means recognition ana