El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1917-08-11

10 the gagement-Dur she Wou-4n
treat you that way
DO you accept Virginia's ruthless
breaking OF the engagement Win You
in favor Of one with Jack Laceyg you
encourage her I'm her cavalier aLLl-
tude toward her eugagemenrs with
women when opportunities 10 90 our
with men come along. You let VIZ
giuia feel that she is privileged 70
make and break engagements at VIII
to pick and choose and please her
self rather than to abide BY any
schedule which has been made and
which includes her. Your very wiz
inguess to break an engagement Tor
ual attitude toward keeping appoint
The Attitude Of Women.
A cavalier attitude toward engage
ments isl fear me-more character
istic OF women than Of men Even
rather fine women have a feeling
that they have a right TO pick out
the Invitations which most appeals 70
them and TO cancel any other which
inrerferes with IT,
young dramatist recently and we al
agreed that one Of the reasons We
liked Henrietta so much was because
she was completely dependable. one
Of the girls summed up Ike this;
IF she promised 10 meet you at a tea
room for lunch and the duke OF Ar
gyle came along and invited her to a
feast at his castle. she'd keep her
date with me she's . wonder,
never knew a girl so decent 70 others
even when there are men at stake.
But I don't know another girl Just
like Henrietta"
There are not very many. can
find excuses a-pleuty for this fail
ing-but ] wish 1t were not there TO
be excused
Men generally object to making en-
gagemen-s far ahead They say very
frankly, When evening comes along
7 may not feel one bit like going ice
skating I may want to stay and
feed logs TO the CRATE fire I hate TO
tie myself up so far ahead Let me
call you up some evening when I'm
Just in the mood and wen motor out
20 one OF those cute little places and
have dinner and a few dances"
And you say TO yourself: -HoW
selfish men are. They're terribly
SPOILED They always want to 10
what they en1oyl"
Men More Particular.
Perhaps II is because women have
generally TO make the best OF what
is offered them-because they are not
free TO choose their pleasures and
enjOymsnts and are dependent TO a
certain extent on others 70 orfer
them their social opportunities, that
they DO not feel bound down by the
lesser pleasures when the greater
ones are offered.
But there is no worse form OF sell
fishness generally prevalent among
women than their tendency 70 slip
out OF one engagement and into an
other, regardless OF who is being hurt
and disappointed and thorouEhlv dis
cOmforted By their detection A
sensitive girl IS likely to feel real
suffering as a result OF the treatment
which another girl metes out 20 her
when she serenely neglects 20 keep
IHHaHN Na.1r
friend high and dry.
Recently two girl friends OF mine
had a rather amusing experience out
OF which they brought renewed re-
spect and liking for each other. Irene
had invited Lillian 20 little dinner
party OF four on Saturday evening
On Friday evening Lillian was in
vited 10 spend q week end with a
group OF brilliant and charming peo-
pie at a fascinating country house
dinner party to which she was
pledged. She asked for a few hours
70 think 10 over. and finally decided
TO put the situation TO Irene
The Right Attitude
Il don't want 70 SPOIL your little
dinner and II you can't get another
girl who would absolutely fiji my
place, I'd really rather keep my en-
sagenenr with you than 90 off to q
house party and feel had deserted
you said Lillian
Irene's laugh was whole hearted
and fun OF real enjoyment
-Or course you must 90. Listen.
my dear I've been invited 10 be the
guest OF some people who are enter
tanning for the star and author OF the
new play At the Windham- They are
giving a wonderful dinner and box
party-5ut wasn't going to 60 and
spoil your Saturday evening You see.
they know the men I had invited to
meet you tomorrow night and they
were asking them. too. until I ex-
planned that those men were my din
ner guests. ! refused because I didn't
want you LETT out in the cold but
il only happened q few minutes ago.
and I know them wen enough 10
phone and explain. But 7 wouldn't
want you TO miss the house party,
anyway"
Each girl had done the absolutely
decent, square and honest thing by
the other Neither recognized that
what she had done was rather I'M
usual. but each knew that she had
received splendid treatment out OF
that incident those girls have cement
ed a friendship based on faith. 10y
ATTY and the knowledge that each has
a friend on whom she can depeud.
Either as an ideal or on the hon
esty is the best policy" basis, let NJ