The Daily Missoulian. [volume] (Missoula, Mont.) 1904-1961, 1917-09-27
az SOPHIE IRENE LOEB.

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Copyright, 1917. by the Press Pub. Co.
(Thc New York Evening WORLDLY
Wife and mother writes to me as
follows:
l am a young woman of twenty
eight years. have been married ten
years and am the mother of three
children (girls) aged seven years. four
years and nine months.
Since my marriage I have done all
of my own work (laundry included),
made most Of my children's clothes,
also my own. spend very little on my
self and children and am economical
in every sense of the word. and have
the care Of our house. which is a
large. six-roOm one.
MY husband Is a sober man and q
good worker; while VIC are not
wealthy. he has a good job and a
small bank account (all our savings
are in his name). He owns two cars
and yet will not allow me to hire a
woman to assist me at 50 week.
when l tried to talk the matter
over with him latter I had finally
plucked up enough courage to do sol
he flew into a rage and told me ! was
trying to ruin him.
"He seems so disinterested In every
thing concerning our home. His busi-
ness keeps him out great deal at
night, but as he works on his own
time it seems that he could spare US
just little bit Of 1t.
II am getting accustomed to the
neglect, but it hurts to see our little
girls SO neglected by their father. who
never has any time for them. I tr,
to make excuses for him to them. but
when they are a little older they viii
begin to understand, and don't wan
them not to love him.
Nov, he thinks he Is a model hus
band. Perhaps he is: but if that Ii
the kind of man that makes a mode
husband l admit am in the wrong
do not think a man should be per
feet. but / do think husband shoult
have little consideration for the wo
man he marries.
Il am not looking for any bouquets
but am trying to state matters to yol
as they are. My husbands employe
Is boarding at our house. paying m
Sc per week board, which is all l have
after paying for my eldest daughter
music lessons. buying fruit, veee
tables, butter and milk for the house
Before my marriage l worked i
an office and was independent. had
good homo and a mother to whom
could so now with my children an
stay; but 7 do not know what to dt
as l am loath to break up my home
But it seems to me there should b
some way to make him see he
wrong.
Now. Miss Loeb. | should like you
candid opinion and also your advice
My candid opinion" is that th1
husband needs n lesson-a lesson tina
he would never forget. Even in tn
enlightened, civilized" age there al
men still at large who regard wive
not az partners but as parasites-dt
pendent on husbands for livlih"o
even after they marry women til;
have had lucrative livlihoods.
Because of this dependency me
lose all perspective. They fail to 81
a wife's rights. They fail to see tn;
her work is as important and value b
as earning money.
In fact, money couldn't buy the
services. Such husbands have an el
larged ego which needs IN opcratiO
They think because they are "steat
workers." good providers" sober a.
Industrious" that they can e
away" with their mean disposition
and their neglectful attitude iowa
their families.
They believe that in n crisis sCcie
will weigh these earning qualities n
shut it's eyes to the rest. Not SO. =
husband. The world Is getting bett
regardless Of your contribution
make IL worse.
People will no longer tolerate I
tyrant in the civilized home Of tod
Also the employer Is awakening to
value of the husband who m:lkcs
happy home. He knows he will be
asset to his business.
Let your wife perform the operat'
You need. which Is to get lit
backbone and leave you to your o
resources to reflect ON the situate