The Meridian times. (Meridian, Idaho) 1909-1938, 1917-12-07

fulIy to hold back the ebbing tide of
her love for him aid love had gone and
carried respect with It, and she, grown
hard and bitter nd rebellious, had
| lost the best Of tfe and so had he.
Sometimes fife may unwiseIy seek
| to keep the low loyalty and constancy
Of her husband by holding him with a
| ,Jght rein, byrestrictions and limita
lions that fresed and chafed, by petty /
exar+ions ana tyrannies to keep him
close by her Ode. Have you ever held |
a butterfly III the prison of your PALM
with the sill atty parted, arched fingers |
as bars, ana fearing it might escape, |
press nadvrtently little too tightly /
and then ie suddenly conscious that |
the futuring whirr had ceased |
and, opening the bars and peering in,
find that the beautiful wings were
st.lled fBrever and that the butterfly
was detd?
Thee are men and women who thus
kill Lore carelessly; they may have a
great love secure, right in their hands,
but here is a pressure of doubt, "
ranng, distrust Or compulsion and the
life bf that love may die. Love grows
strong with freedom, confidence and
trust, Love that needs constant watch
ing is not worth watching, and no
guarding through fear of it's honor will
ever keep it from straying. Its
strength must be in itself and in the
inspiration that comes from realiZa-
ton, recognition and response.
There are homes that are over-gov-
erned. They have as many laws, rules
and regulations as an institution. They
remind you of these closely printed
charts for conduct tackled on the inner
side of Goors in hotel rooms. In these
homes you move about gingerly for
fear Of stepping inadvertently on a
"don't" No individual is big enough,
nor wise Rnoug.l, nor great enough to
dare to live the life of another, not
with him, iaut for him. If he We're all
these his reverence for the individual
rights of otaers would make it imYos-
sible for him to usurp their sacred
privilege of freedom in living their own
, lives, fully, freely, frankly. at their
. best.
! This domestic tyranny rules in thou
: sands of homes. 1t means the wrong
+ of two-the one who infiicts it and the
: one who bears it. We hear much OF
: the grace of patience and the beauty
, of long suffering. They are virtues
+ when it means self-sacrifice for the
: right, vices when for the wrong. Tol
, Grating injustice meekly without pro
4 test and mighty effort to overthrow
i it when no good cause is served, NJ
t noble purpose promoted is not mora
Y bravery, it is sheer cowardice. 1t i:
V the fear of an unpleasant half-houl
: that may save years of suffering. Tit
n one who bears meezly is doing injus
Y tice to herself or to himself and-t
: the other. 1t means weakening an
o wronging self and feeding the evil i
q anether's nature by inaction.
d The wife may say she would flare u
# in an awful temper if said a word
o Let him flare, but let him understan
? that you will not be a party to
These home bosses are always bulli'
N and DULLES are always towards. The
y do not stand out long against a DO
a. defiance that shows no fear. AT Il
q first manifestation of this variety
= performance, let husband or wife sta
. positively that no encores will be pc
n mitted. At quiet, dignified sessio
: with no shade of anger but just
J calm, cool ultimatum that while til
) innocent one is willing to do the squaI
# thing in every relation, and to NEE
, bravely whatever the tides of fate ma
a bring and to suffer for the other, bu
q never from the other.
q Like most evils it is easy to meet
e the beginning and it is then it shoul
IS be met in the right spirit for the goo
of both. A single bold stand for I'll
= right is worth years of cowardly pi
, tience for the wrong.
= The greatest trials and sorrows al
y those that do not come from outsid
I. the home, but are absolutely create
a within, that are manufactured for on
% by the temper or wrong of the othe
y, They are absolutely preventable an
ID there should be a kindly helpful spir
~ on the part of both to remove an
20 wrong that separates them rather tina
o to intensity the reign of the wrong b
ID weak and meekly bearing. 1t is NJ
70 selfishness, but the reckless assertio
IN of individuality, but the consecrate
= wisdom that seeks to cure what it cal
" not endure and to endure what it cal
10 not cure.
a. Love and sweet conference smooth
d out so many of these problems. L,
there be but one boss and that one
-. the two. Let them unite in loving con
"A radeship and fine cooperation, each d
- ing the best without thought of cor
10 petition or conquest and then even II
- wish Of one become the will of bot
N In union and unity, with no tyranI
"A but that of love, love of right, love
70 peace, love of justice and love of eaC
a. other.