The Washington herald., 1917-11-30
Nev and NeWs of Interest the Women
A sIDELIGHT ON DIVORCE
By DOROTHY DIX.
The worlds Highest Paid Woman writer.

of them People Win barrels of
money get no enjoyment out of spend
ing It Nothing bores Ike q perpetual
round OF pleasure. We pray for rain
after q long succession Of sunshiny
days. And II people could only be
married half Of the time instead Of all
OF It. or IL every husband and wife
had enough intelligence 10 20 OF by
themselves for q long vacation and
give separation q chance to do It's
healing work, there would be very few
divorces.
When we are very close to people
their faults rub US raw. But when
we get away from them we get q
clearer perspective and we see that
we made mountains out Of molehiIls,
and that II another did wrong, We
showed neither tact, nor patience, nor
wisdom In the way In which we dealt
with q difficult situation
The other day I met an unhappy
woman who said to me:
Two years ago I divorced my hus-
Band because OF an affair he had with
another woman. I was mad with
jealousy and 1 felt that / could never
forgive him; I hated him. and all I
wanted to do was to take my children
and get as far from him as possible.
thought that divorce would somehow
be a cure for the agony that was
eating my heart out and that once
1 was free from my husband would
be happy.
But have been utterly miserable.
Except for this one big sin against
me. my husband was all that any
woman could ask. He was good and
kind and generous to me and the chill
dren. We had a pretty home. q set
tied place in society. and I could de-
vote myself to taking care Of my
children
my divorce changed all OF that. I
have no home. 1 have had to 90 "a
work to help support my children and
they lack many things they need that
their father could have given them.
People pity me as a divorcee and ]
can see that even my family and my
friends who Urged me on to get a
divorce and not to stand being flouted
by my husband, consider me q burden
on them.
Believe me, IL / were confronted
with the same problem today there
would be no divorce for me. / would
stick by my home and my place in
society and I'd shut my eyes to my
husbands philandering until he got
tired and came back home repentant,
as men always do. IL you give them
time enough. l should try TO size
| the situation up fairly and take the
lesser evil, instead OF jumping into
the greater one, for after all q huri
heart and wounded vanity are not az
hard to bear as the loneliness and
desolation OF the divorced woman who
has no real niche in the world be-
| cause she is neither maid. wife mol
| widow.
do you know what divorce is?''
went on the woman. 1T is a shock
that brings people to their senses and
makes them realize how much they
care for each other. II made me
know that 1 could never be happy
without my husband. It cured his
infatuation for the woman. When ht
/ was free to marry her he didn't want
, to do II. Now he wants me to come
back to him. to try the experiment
over again, but my family and friends
advise me against It and say that Il
he was faithless once he will be faith
less again. but I need him and the
children need him. What shall I do?'
marry hIH' Sdlu- lou DOlH
found out that there IL one thing
worse than matrimony, and that's
divorce. And the next time when you
begin to quarrel take q good long trip
Temporary separation is the only sure
antidote for the divorce evil
Copyright. 1917. b. the Wheeler Syndicate. Inc
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