The Washington herald. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1906-1939, 1917-12-24
Nes and Views OF Women Readers Of The Her
LOVING HEARTS
man asks this question:
By DOROTHY DIX.
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer.

A man asks this question:
do you think It Is possible for q
man to love a woman with all his
heart and soul and at the same time
to be strongly attracted to another
woman when he is away from the
first one?''
The problem of how many women
man can love is one that has bro
ken the hearts OF women and bank
rupted the mathematics Of man, and
each sex, in trying to solve II. has
arrived at a different answer. Wom-
en- have never been able to figure out
how a man can love but one woman
at q time, while every time a man
sees a pretty new face he adds an
other to the census of his loves.
OF course in the case where a man
really does love a woman with all
his heart and soul. as my correspon-
dent says. there is only one girl in
the world for him and he is blind
to the fiutter of other skirts and in
sensible to the fascination Of other
women. though they charm ever 90
subtly.
But one man In a million ever
loves any woman with all his heart
and soul. The grand passion Is one
of the least common OF all human
experiences. The ability to be a great
lover is a talent as rare as a great
tenor voice, and the average man Is
no more capable OF loving profoundly.
with all his heart and soul. then he
Is capable Of singing like Caruso.
Men fall in love. or they think they
do. Something interiors to separate
them from their sweetrearts, and in
fu-n fnrDntfar
whether the girl they thought they
adored was named Julia or Isabelle.
or else they marry and their romance
wears out before their wedding clothes
| do.
It Is this come-easy. go-easy love
! that is the only heart throb that most
men ever know. and this brand of
affection comes wholesale. Every man
| carries an ineXhaustible stock OF IT
] on tap and is ready to bestow 1t on
| any attractive woman who comes his
way.
A great passion is a great obses-
sion and the woman who inspires II
must fill every need Of mans
nature. She must fill his eye with her
| beauty SO that he is blind to the good
! looks OF other women. She must fill
his need for companionship SO that
he does not have to turn to some
other woman for tenderness and COM
prehension. She must be all-in-all to
him. II she monopolizes him.
Perhaps it is because there are Just
a few women capable of inspiring
great love as there are few men
capable of feeling a great love. that
mems hearts have come TO be hotels
run on the European plan for tran
| sient feminine guests insteads of
homes for Just one woman.
Certainly one of the explanations
of why a man can really and truly
| love more than one woman at a
time is because he finds in different
women different qualities that he
seeks. Thus, for instance. it is pos
| sible for a man to be deeply and
sincerely attached to Mary. a demure.
domestic little wife, who reeks of the
/ kitchen and babies. and who adores
him with the faithful devotion Of a
| dog. He loves her for her fafth and
/ loyalty and for his knowledge that
| she is the one creature in the world
! that would stand by him to the death.
! He loves her because she is the very
| spirit Of home and family. He loves
her because OF the appeal her utter
dependence makes on his manhood.
But she is no companion 10 him.
She bores him to extinction with her
prattle. In the early days Of their
| marriage he gave up trying to tell
her stories even in words OF one
! syllable, SO she could understand
them. and diagraming jokes so she
would see the point. His soul went
lonely and hungry until he met
! Cynthia who is his soul mate just
as Mary is his body mate. H loves
Cynthia for her wit and wisdom. for
her quick response to his every mood.
for her ability to take his half-formed
! thought and juggle with it and find
new meanings in 1t and new endings
to 1t, for her understanding of the
, books and plays and pictures and
music he loves.
! And there's Ethel who is neither
| domestic as Mary is not intelligent as
! Cynthia is. but who has the face OF a
| flower and the figure OF a reed in
the wind. He is attracted to her just
because she is a thing of beauty and
1t is as enhancing to gaze upon hire
as it is upon any other masterpiece
| of nature.
That a man shall be eclectric in