The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1917-09-08

Once on a time when life was new, I thought that all the tales l heard were true, | And I believed whatever songs were sung"
 These have been trying times for the youth and his sweetheart who have had a falling out over mere trlne and have not spoken as they passed each other by though both hearts
 throbbed with regret Both had de- termined to make up but stuooorn- ness held back the one and pride dominated the will of the other. But with the war draft came a revulsion
 of feeling In both hearts. To the man came the consciousness that it might mean going out. of her life-perhaps for years, perhaps forever-and he would need the memory of her hand clasps and her kiss to buoy him up
 under other skies.
 | A woman never knows how dear
 man is to her until she sees his name among the list of those called to fight for his country. All in a moment love lconquers pride and anger. While she | is considering how to, let him know how anxious she is about him. a letter
 comes from him asking her to let by lgones be by-gones; telling her that he l will call that evening unless he hears from her that she has some previous engagement It does not take man and a girl who love long to make up. He means eevry word he utters when he tells her that the fortnight during which they passed each other without speaking was the hardest he had ever lived through Although the girl does not like to admit it her heart echoes that self-same sentiment. Both real lfze the truth of the words: ITO be
 wroth with one we love doth act like
 madness on the .brain.n
 What are lovers quarre1s but use less trials which add to the misery of two hearts and bring no beneficial eff feet? It royes to both that there's another side to love which they had not thought could exist, and to be happy together they must be careful to avoid disputes which are so apt to Head into downright quarrels.
 Are lovers who picker and spar quite as.s fond of each other as, those who do not know what it is to dis |agree? Disagreements are dangerous. It is not every couple who is fortu- nate enough to come together again and pick up the broken 1oye-chords. splicing 1t so carefully together that
 there will be no trace Of the break.
 One girl wrote to me recently: 1T
 love to quarrel with my lover for the
 making up is so sweet That might
 work all right once or twice. Again
 that second quarrel might be tho last
 straw which would break the cameTs
 back. More than one man has made
 up his mind that a quarrelsome sweet
 heart might not make good wife.
 -
 himself out eve nwith the most sweet
 natured girl If he is fond of sduab-
 bling he probably will gain the ill.,
 will of her parents. They have trav-
 eled the road of domestic life and
 know what it forewarns. They don't
 make it any too pleasant for him
 when he calls again. It is best to
 avoid a lovers quarrel. If two 11asty
 young people have become entangled
 in one, it is wisest and best not to let the grass grow under their feet in
 making up. The longer they are apart
 the more time they have to reflect.
 That gives the annoyance a chance to take root. There is such a thing as the breach becoming so wide that each finds it impossible to cross it. The Iself-imposed parting of such al couple 1 is told feelingly in the lines:
 "Glitters the dew and shines the river, l Sparkles the tear in the lilies bell. Two are walking apart forever;
 And wave their hands m a mute farewell" When man and a woman who have loved face the experience that
 they can pass each other as strangers the truth is forced upon them that they could live their Hves9if need be without each other. Even though they may be at variance it is best to
 recognize each other in meeting One
 little kindly word can turn the tide of anger.