The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-09-12
. YOUNG girl asks ;

~ How an | acquire charm and
become an interesting converse
tionalH2"
Alas, my child YOU are propounding
a rlddle tha, 40 one has ever yet been
wise enough 10 answer No one knows
lust exactly IN what charm consists. or
what are the strange, mysterious and
magnetic qualities tina, draw all hearts
to some one particular individual and
that makes every eve brighten and
every heart leap with JOY at his OF her
coming
Some peope are born with this great
gift They are the darIlngs OF the
gods and the cath IS theirs, and the
iulneH thereof Love and friendship,
place and prcicrmcnt invitations and
treats all the things that less fortunate
people toll and mol for, are thrown
AZ a tribute at their feet, for charm Is
more potent SPELL TO conjure with
than either beauty or brains
But LET not the girl TO whom nature
has been cruel Ncpmolhcr who has
withheld this magical cndoYment from
her. mourn as one without hope For
while 10 he headlincr among charmcr'
one must have undoubtedly been born
a charmer, still il is possible for any
girl who has intelligence and dcterml-
nation TO und"rstIdy the oharmcr and
give such a lifeli imitation of her
that few will ever know that her faSci-
nation is hand made instead OF being
the Spontancou, thing
! SO far as charm can he defined II
consists in making other people feel
good, putting them into pleasant glow
LOT satisfaction with themselves and the
universe To do this it is necessary
TO make oi pnc'S SELF. il one would
please neutral background which
brings ont the high lights OF the per
fec'ion' Of other people
| No conccitcd person no bumptiouS
orc no one enlmored OF his or her own
opinion, and determined to ram it down
the throats OF others, was ever a charm
er You have 20 put the soft-pcda'
down good and hard on your own ego
to qualify in the iascinator class
! The first qualify of the charmcr. then
rs unselfishnesS-to be willing 10 LET
someone else have the center Of tn,
stage and monopolre the spotlight II
YOU can make people feel that YOU ap.
prcclate them that you have the dis.
cernng eve that perccivcS how good
looking and intelligent and generally
admirable they are, they will never b,
able to get enough OF your society
There are more people in the worlc
starving for appreciation than there ar,
starving for bread, and as long as yo,
iced them OIL this they will cat out o
your hand
Study the people with whom YOU com
in contact Find on, what is the on
little thing tha, each one thinks that h
or she does he,t-the secret little n,
vanity that every man and woman aliv
nosscSscS--and play upon this as upon
harp with thousand strings, and yo
shall never lack for auditors who civ
you the glad hand
The second quality Of the charmer |
sympathy Re all things TO all men an,
women Weep with those who weer
and rejoice with those who rejoice. An,
do this not hypoori,ically but sinccrcl,
Keep your own heart so in touch will
the great throbbins heart Of humanit
that YOU are interested in evcrv,hin,
that happens TO your fellow creatures
and you really share in their happines
and sorrows,
Sympathy Is the most powerful mag
net IN the world We are all drawn /
the individual ~ whom We inStinctivel
turn with the ale oi our misfortune n
NE story of 1ur success The avetag
man aud woman are not strong enoug
to be self sufficient They mus, hay
p an auditor somebody to whom the
must hleat out their woes or boast {
their victories.
This is why there is no other charm
4 er who charms So universally as 81
n who makes OF herself a tear ius in
a which the wecpS ot the unhappy ma
- pour Themselves without stint. who C,
o. listen with glowing and maryelng ey
{ while Seli-made men tell her how IN,
{ did IT, and dotng mammaS sing II
C sagas OF their wonderful offspring
Y The third quality Of the charmcr COZ
Z 'iSt' in keeping OF the era" OF 9th
peoples little prejudics and feeling
- | The born charmer possesses a six