The Monticellonian., 1917-11-30

and then he suddenly conscious that the fluttering whlrr had ceased and, opening the bars and peerlng III. find that the beautiful wings were stilled forever and that the butterfly was dead?
 There are men and women who thus Kill love earelessly; they may have great love secure, right in their hands, but there is a pressure of doubt, ty- ranny, distfust or compulsion and the life of that love may die Love grows strong with freedom. confidence and trust. Love that needs constant watch- ing is not worth watching. and no guarding through fear of it's honor will ever keep 1t from straying. It's strength must be in itself and in the inspiration that comes from reallza- tion, recognition and response.
 There are homes that dre over-gov- erned. They have as many laws, rules 'and regulations as an institution. They remind you of these closely printed charts for conduct tackled on the inner +'fiN VI NHtAH III lADltl lUOAl1s ANl AAtF1I homes you move about gingeriy for fear of stepping inadvertently on n don't" No individual is big enough, nor wise enough. nor great enough to dare to live the life of another, not with him. but for him. If he were all these his reverence for the individual rights of others would make it impos- sible for hlm te usurp their sacred privilege of freedom in living their own lives, fully, freely, frankly, at their best.
 This domestic tyranny rules in thou sands of homes. It means the wrong of two-the one who inhiefs 1t and the one who bears It. We hear much of the grace of patience and the beauty ef long suffering. They are virtues when 1t means self-sacrifice for the right. vices when for the wrong. Tol- erating injustice mcekIy without pro- test and mighty effort to overthrow it when no good cause Is served. no noble purpose promoted Is not moral bravery, It is sheer cowardice. It Is the fear of m unpleasant half-hour that may save years of suffering. The one who bears meekly is doing injus- tiee to herself or to himself and-to the other. It means weakening and wronging self and feeding the evil in anothcr's nature by inaction.
 The wife may say "he would flare up in an awful temper If I said words Let him flare. but let him understand thnt you will not be Il party to it. These home bosses are always bullies and bullies are always towards. They do not stand cut long against bold defiance that shows no feur. At the first manifestation of this variety of performance. let husband or wife state positively that no encores will he per mitted. At quiet, dlgnified session, with no shade of anger but just Il calm. cool ultimatum that while the innocent one Is willing to do the square thing in every relation, and to meet bravely whatever the tides of fate may bring and to suffer for the other, but never from the other.
 Like most evils it is easy to meet in the beginning md it is then it should he met in the right spirit for the good of both. single bold stand for the right is worth years of eowardly pa- tienee for the wrong.
 The greatest trials and sorrows are those that to not come from outside the home. but are absolutely created within. that are manufactured for one by the temper or wrong of the other. They are absolutely preventable and there should De kindly helpful spirit on the part of both to remove my wrong that separates them rather than to intensity the reign of the wrong by weak and meekly bearing. It Is not selfishness. but the reckless assertion of individuality but the consecrated wisdom that seeks to cure what it can not endure and to endure what 1t can not cure.
 Love and sweet conference smooths out so many of these problems. Let there be but one boss and that one the two. Let them unite In loving com radeship and fine cooperation, each do- Ing the best without thought of com petition or conquest and then even the wish of one become the will of both, In union and unity, with no tyranny but that of love. love of right. love of peace, love of justice and love of each other.