Honolulu star-bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1912-2010, 1917-12-28
FORGET II.
: - BY DOROTHY DIX.
The Worries Highest Paid Woman

= - BY DOROTHY DIX.
The Worries Highest Paid Woman
Writer. .
sFI could choose motto for my sex
IA motto that should be illuminat
ed on the walls Of every house and
pasted on every woman's mirror
where she would see il a thousand
times q day--it would be tho slang
phrase OF the lay, FORGET 1T.
The main trouble with women II
shat they have too good memories
They remember things too long, toe
much ami too often. The chief obsta'
Gle that stands in their way TO nappi.
tess is that they are carrying suen
excess baggage OF recollections OF tne
past that they are handicapped by II.
No matter what q wornan's expert
cnces in the past have been, whether
good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant,
sic can never bear TO close the door
upon them. She is always turning
them over IN her mind, dwelling upon
Them, talking aboct them, living them
over again in her imagination until
abe makes herself nothing but per-
ambulating back number, and q bore
TO everyone she meets.
This coddling OF happy memories
Of the past gives Us that almost I'M
bearable affliction. the woman VINO
has seen better days. We all Know
her. You have been two minutes IN
her company before she begins to tell
YOU OF the almost regal splendor IN
which she was resred; Of the palace
her home was; OF the multitude OF
servants; Of the perennial gaiety that
went on: or what q belle she was, ana
how many ranks of suitoTsan rich
and handsome-were signing at her
feet: Of the inagnlficence OF ner
trousseau; of what grand wedding
che had, and 70 on, and on, and on,
and on. until she comes to the place
where she begins TO weep aa1 says
she never expected to come 70 TINS,
and wants to know IL you won't help
her with the rent.
OF course II may seem Q harmless
hing for those who N the present
have only bread and water to eat. 10
feast upon the memories Of the cakes
and ale that they used to have in the
rast. but In reality It IL most DEM
oralizsne thing to do A woman can
make 8 dope dream Of her former
grandeur that will just as much In
capacitate her for dealing with pres
ent conditions as II she was drugged
with opium.
When you find woman who lives
IN the memories Of her golden past
you viii invariably find one who e
Stacker, who IL shiftless, lazy, untidy
and inefficient. She 10 the kind Of Q
woman who, II she takes b0arders,
VIII EXPECT her "reminiscences OF her
great uncle wlo was senator TO
atone Tor the fact that her rooms are
dirty and her meals never on time;
or. IL abe takes IN sewing, viii ex-5
pect her pedigree to make up for
hooks and eyes never fitting and
skirts hanging in points around the
bottom. All the energy she needs TO
use IN her business she exhausts IN
remembering the past.
It IL q great blessing to have been
well born, to lave had q childhood
and youth full of sunshine and happi-
ness and plenty. but when they are
ever, they are over. They are done.
finished. past beyond recall. and the
wise Woman il she who puts them be-
hind her. who forgets them and lets
other people forget them. and who
wastes no time IN dreaming Of halcyon
dayk that are gone. but who rolls up
her sleevesg and srapples with today
and Wrines something out Of It that
Is better and more substantial than
\ vague memory.
II. however, the woman who 10
6loshing over with happy memories of
The past Is pest, the woman who
has unhappy memories Is . scourge'
nom which the boldest Of us nee.
She Is an incarnate wet blanket. q
human KIN JOY, tear jug whose con-
tents are being continually spilled
ever us.
At her approach every smile packs
10 its little kit bar and beats II for
The tail timber. She has hardly
taken her seat before she commences
the Had Of her woes. she is poor.
prosecuted creature whom nobody
loves or wants about and whom every.
body sights. II she's poor she COM
plains that Ter employer doesn't ap-l
precta.s aer snd shows fsvoFitisra To-
others 10 tho Office. II she's rich the
people she does things Tor are not
grateful enough. II she has children
shc worries over them. n she has a.
husband he fails 60 .coms up 70 her
ideals II some one she loves has