The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1917-09-20
Dorothy Di1 Says
BY DOROTHY DIX
Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer
The Hypnotism of Love.

cause he advertised that he would ,
teach people how to hypnotic the OBJ |
jects of their affections. that they |
might win whomsoever they desired |
as mates or bring back any recreant
lover to the fold.
The government held that this was |
a fraudulent advertisement made |
with intent to deceive, and calculated |
to separate the lovelorn from their !
coin without giving them even a run |
for their money
Perhaps so. Perhaps no other hu- |
man being can teach man or woman
how to weave potent and compelling ,
spells about the desired one, but, as
a matter of fact, what is love except
hypnotism? Only the curious part of
it is that in love we do not hypnotic
the party of the other part. We are
victims of self hypnotism.
None of us falls in love with an
other for what the individual really
is. We are enamoured of what wei
imagine him or her to be.
Every youth and maiden who is in
love will deny this. Edwin will tell
you that he has made the most minute
study of Angelina's character, and
that the reason he thinks that she is
an angel is because he has seen her
wings-that he knows her to be a par
agon of virtue. a model of amiability,
a pattern of domesticity and alto
gether perfect
Angelina will assure you that it is
impossible that she could be deceived
! in Edwin because she knows from her
own observation that he is the wis
est, bravest, strongest. noblest, most
generous man in the world.
If you should tell Edwin. as we
who are Edwin's mothers and sisters
and female cousins sometimes are
rash enough to do, that Angelina is
an exceedingly commonplace young
woman, with a raspy temper and a
prediction for coming down to
breakfast in a slouchy wrapper and
curl papers, and that she is accus-
| toned to lie on lounge and eat
chocolate creams and read novels
while her mother does the house
work, he would not believe one word
of it and would set it down to ma
llicious envy and spite.
Nor could Angelina be induced to
give credit to the statement that her
Edwin's employer and fellow clerks
regard him as a mere ordinary youth
who is considera BILE of a bore, and
who will never rise above being a
floor walker in a dry goods store, and
that among themselves they laugh at
him for being a tin horn sport
| Now Edwin has not consciously
tried to deceive Angelina or to make
her think that he is something that
he is not He has not purposely
posed before her as a hero of ro-
nance and assumed qualities that he
did not possess in order to win her
| young affections.
Neither is Angelina deep, design
ing adventures who has affected
charms that do not belong to her by
right, to win Edwin's heart
The deception is from within, not
from without. The man and woman
/ fool themselves, not each other
| 1t is said that Cuvier, the great
naturalist could construct a whole
tanimal and tell you of it's life and
habits from a single piece of bone.
| but his skill was as nothing compared
| to that of a lover
Edwin sees that Angelina has a
pink and white complexion and
golden curl on her forehead and from
| them he builds up an ideal domestic
character possessing whatever femi-
nine graces and charms he most ad-
mires.
broad shoulders and a dropping NOUS
| tache and from these she knows that
! he will make sober, faithful, indus
| trious husband and father.
The value of this kind of scientific
reasoning in love is that just so long
as you believe it to be true it is just
as good as the truth. Just so long as
Edwin thinks. Angelina the most beau
! tiful woman in the world, she is so
far as he is concerned. a Venus no
matter if she has carroty hair and a
snub nose and a featherbed figure.
So long Angelina hangs with awe
| on every word that Edwin utters and
so long as she sees in him a romantic
| figure, an oracle and hero she can
/ go on worshipping him as the one
perfect man and congratulating her
self upon her luck in getting him
| There are in life certain fine pleas
ures that we can only enjoy thru our
imaginations and by becoming party
to sort of deception. Strip the il
lusions from these and the beauty and
the delight of them is gone. Analyze
it and the finest picture becomes a
daub of paint; the best play is moth
ing but men and women mounting
among canvas trees and houses; the
| gold of lily becomes mere insect
breeding pollen
Love is like this. Tear from it the
halo of romance; take self deception
away from it, and the thing that is
left is SO poor, so mean and tawdry.
so marred by faults and blemishes
that we wonder that it could have
attFa cted our fancy.
This is why married people should
never let themselves discuss the faults
and idfosyncrasies of their husbands
and wives with anyone, or even permit
themselves to indulge in the fascinat-
ing amusements of vivisecting the
characters and appearance of the part
nerS of their bosomS.
The minute Mr.. Smith begins to
| question in his own mind whether his
Maria's nose is really straight or a
little lop sided, and to wonder if her
| artlesS conversation is the naivete of
extreme youth or merely the lack of
| brains, that minute Mr. Smith begins
to come out from under the trance of
| love into which he has put himself,
! and his salvation lies in his making
| another pass or two before his eyes
! and sinking back again into a state of
! romantic dreams
And if this is true of men it is
| doubly true of women. A woman's
| happiness depends upon her reclt1ng
over and over the litany of her hus-
bands perfections as Hindus do the
| name of a god, until she becomes self
/ hynotized by the process Let a wo-
man once begin canvassing her hus-
bands weaknesses with her dearest
! friend and Cupid beats 1T. He can't
| stand the revelations.