The Oklahoma City times. [volume] (Oklahoma City, Okla.) 1908-1984, 1917-06-20
Dorothy Dix Says
WHAT is LOVE?
BY Dorothy Dix
The Worlds Highest Paid Woman Writer

mlttcd in the name ot love. and how
many people honestly think they love
another when the only real passion they
viii ever know or that they arc capable
ot experiencing m their Sclt-ccntercd
hearts, is for themselves
| know a girl who Is married tn a
brilliant Young lawyer He is am
bilious and keen 10 get on IN his pro-
isSion, and he has explained To- m,
young Rcrs that IN order tn do this
he must study AT night At home But
the minute he gets ont a book or paper
and begins 10 work, she begins 10 weep.
u can't bear II" she walls Il want
YOU to hold my hand and tell me how
much you love me You are away all
day and ! do nothing but ST and think
how much | love you, and then when
you come home you get out that horrld
old book and absorb yourself IN II So
much that YOU Nigh, Just as well be
down al your hateful Office
! he husband tries to explain to her
the necessity OF his studying ii he IS
To succeed and keen up with his com
| pctltors, but she cries out that she
doesn't care whether he SgccecdS or
not that all she wants is lust him And
when she thus tries to deliberately
wreck her husbands career 10 grallly
her silly vanity IN being ilattcrcd. this
| poor little selfish idiot thinks she Is
showing how much She loves
| An Older woman demonstrating with
tins Young wife said to her.
Once my husband had a big offer
Pm business way that ncCcSSi,ated his
| gong away 20 a place where he could
not take me. and stay three years II
meant everything to him in the way ot
advance He lett the decision to me.
and ! packed him up and sent him Oft
without ever letting HIM see anything
yut a smile on my face"
You don't love Your husband like
love mine" said the Young wife.
NO" replied the older woman with
/ duct Scorn, u didn't love my husband
like YOU love yours loved him enough
10 hr willing to make stepping stone
oui ot my bare heart ior him 10 climb
mp on, 1t he needed it."
Mother love IS supposed to be the
purc,t and most un,clil>h love IN the
world, but how often do YOU see a
mother sacrificing her children ~ the
pleasure she finds IN their society
She may know tha, il i, for their good
| to leave her hut she will not let them
SO.
Not one Of us hut who could point
,o q dozen old maids, ckc,ng out a bare
existence Al sewing or teaching or
keeping hnardctS living the harrS, and
mos, iulnrn oi lives, who are the vic
t'nN oi selfish mothers who would moi
let them marry when they were Young
because their husband, would hay,
, taken them away
And every village has II, un,un.
martyr OF man, clcrking At a ,tarya
ton wage, whose mother shd, the doc
OF opportunity in his face when he va,
a boy and She wcpt and begged hin
not To take the offer he had tu do I'M
, thing hc was horn to do. IN a wide
field, iar from home And these moth
crs rulhlc,slv sacrificed their chldrc,
on the altar oi their own sclii,hnc,, il
the name oi love
7. The lu.llw question which /, m
cause vt more real misery and d1mcS
tie unhappncSS than ANYTHING else or
, earth, is nothing more nor less than IN
result oi self love 4 mans mother I,
sure that she adorcS her SON His wifi
, IS certain that she worShipS her ms
hand Vet n the misguided man tfic
, io put the two 10 living together the
4 tight like cats and make his lie AN
1 hctrahlc because neither mother mo-
A., wife loves him enough to sacrifice he
own little ways and opinion, rnouu
io get along with the other wpma
m order tu make him happy and nj
home peaceful
| jealousy is often excused ON m
ground that it +, inspired nv low,
Nomc even gn farther aud say thcr
can be mo- love without icalouSy Tha
| IS true a, regards self love. hu, rca
love knows nn icalouN because " re-
l'lycs IN the admiration that the on
| u loves cNviteS. It ttiumphS IN his "a
her ttiumphS, and II i, made happy h
whatever gives pleasure to rs believe,
/ Real love has IN It no room for MI,
trust ~ suspicion II could not dnul
ITS idol and still worship and il
above the pcttineS and gteediness ,hi
would seek to monnpni,c every thoupl
and interest vt the one " loves n
NOT true love bu, self love that max,
man turn green eyed II his wi
y shows frank pleasure I'M the ,oriet,