Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1916-02-25
jealousy,
Form ofImSGnity,
Can Be Cured
ny ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
Copyright. 1a6. Star Company.

Copyright. 1915, Star Company.
Can you suggest a method whereby one
can be cured OF that species Of insanity
called jealousy"
Every man or woman who has welded
the pen has discoursed upon this theme
until Il is threadbare.
Yet all themes are old. but there are
ever new audiences. as these letters of
inquiry prove.
Jealousy is the offspring Of selfishness
and passion. 1t is no way related to love-
Whenever man or woman lover is jeal-
Gus, the feeling springs. not from love-
hut from either the selfishness or the ami
NAL passions in the heart
When speak of jealousy mean that
unreasoning emotion which a look, a
word. common courtesy shown by
another to a third party produces.
Many people refer to the natural feel
ing of wounded love and dignity which
disloyalty or neglect from q dear one
produces as jealousy.
- II is not even remotely related TO that
ignoble sentiment.
II a man never pays his wife a COM
pliment. If he neglects her and finds
fault with her upon every occasion, but
is free in the flattery and praises of
other women, IL is not jealousy" which
embitters her mind. It is slighted affec-
ton and hurt pride.
Jealousy is just what my correspondent
calls it, a species of insanity resulting
from an overwhelming self-love.
1 have seen scores of men who did not
love their wives at all, yet who were
monsters OF jealousy II any other man
showed them attention.
It was the dog-in-the-manEer impulse
They did not care for the hay, but moth
ing else must touch it,
Women who nag their husbands to the
verge of despair, who neglect them, and
who are as incapable of love as an icfcle
of warmth, often display violent jealousy.
We have all seen these statements
so fully and frequently proved that 1t
seems the height of absurdity to call
jealousy an offspring Of love Yes, love,
can and does often exist in an undisci-
plined heart. where selfishness and pas
sion and their ill-begotten child, jealousy,
also are allowed TO dwell.
Only now and then do we encounter
" great soul. which has mastered the
Joaser qualities, and learned that perfect
love means perfect trust, and that the
highest expression Of love is in desiring
its object to be appreciated and admired
by others ..
To every jealous man or woman-jeal-
Gus by nature and by lack OF self-gov-
ernment-I would advise a half hour
every day taken alone for meditation
and analysis.
Say to yourself: This is a disease of
my mind. It is sure death to the hap
piness and peace of the one love. 1t
is death to the feelings of respect and
love in that heart for me. married,
meaning to be happy and to render an
other happy. This conduct OF mine is
unreasonable and undignified. I am max
ing myself ridiculous. Nothing Is 90
unbecoming and unattractive as jealousy,
How can expect to be loved when i
appear to such disadvantage? am In
sulting the partner Of my choice by
these doubts and suspicious. and L am
making q fool and a bore of myself"
Then take yourself in hand and drive
out the demon OF jealousy the moment
it appears at the door of your mind
Compel yourself to treat some imaginary
rival with utmost courtesy-find some-
thing to- praise in him or her-and sur
prise your wife or husband by paying
the third party compliment. while you
endeavor to be as agreeable as possible
yourself.
It Ia in excellent rule to establish to
try to excel your supposed rival in that
one raspect-of being agreeable. Once
you make that your object. you will
find Il impossible to display jealousy. as
jealousy is intensely disagreeable in all
Ms phases.
Having conquered any expression of
jealousy you have fought two-thirds OF
he BATTLE, for jealousy is conceited
monster and will not stay where ne
cannot display himself
Tell yourself twenty times a day that
YOU are. too sensible and have too much
self-esteem and too much goou sense
and unselfishness to be jealous.
Try to realize home is the only place
on earth to find happiness. and II you
do not do your utmost TO make your
home a happy one. you are sinning
against the, Holy Ghost. which is love,
and no place can be happy where jeal-
ousy dwells. =. @~