Norwich bulletin., 1916-04-29
THE MAN WHO TALKS

easy HUT 3Ou lO P1SdS0 SNO4 yDONy clS it is for everybody to please you!" With this thought in mind we ought to be able to keep our expectations within bounds, and to whimper less about the ways of others. We have to confess it is quite a task to please everybody-one no sane person under takes. There are persons who can see no sense in the sermon on the Mount" or anything that trends to- ward suitability. The best way to please a grouchy person is to let him alone, and the sure way to please pick-pocket or buncosteerer is to be an easy victim. The way to please pos1tivist is not to contradict anything he may say, and an egotist may be charmed by flaming his conceits. Quite please people if one could only con- ceive of them as needed and cater, cater, cater. The price to keep every body pleased is altogether too great. It is up to US to please ourselves as often as we can; and others when we can do so without displeasing our selves.
 What is tact? We'll, if a person comes to you for advice and you have sense enough to make it harmonize with his views you are very tactful, and have raised yourself in that per sons estimation. Tact consists Of holding your own sentiments or opln- | ions in abeyance and endorsing the other fellows. Tact is finely mani fested when you plead your own in competence to give advice to the seeker because of his recognized taste and wisdom. Do not for moment think people who are asking for your advice really want it. Advice is often nettling and usually irksome, while commendation is inspiring and com fCrting. Tact is studying the line of | least friction and adhering strictly | thereto. Tact is frank with the frank, and a dreamer with the dreamers. Tact is the little dodger who keeps | honest opinion out of sight. You can not miss tact if you are looking sharp for it, and strange to say it pays.
 ] When your dearest friend comes to | tell you things you do not care to hear l it is well to ask to be excused. If a sense of duty makes that friend
 persistent be tolerant and keep a | heavy pressure on the spirit of retalia- l tion. Be calm and he may think he Is 1 has said is true. If he has been moved for your good to perform a dis
 agreeable task just think of the good l will which prompted him and let it
 sink to the depths of your soul. When l our friends are worried about us it is 1 a good idea to take a census of our loose ends-to picture our perils to see how they look. They may look worse | to us than they do to them; and the friendship which hazards insult for our good is too precious to be held in low esteem. None of us like to see our i selves as others see us, or like to inn prove ourselves as others would have us. There is more of the mule in all
 Of US than we are willing to aclxnowl- edge, and less of the angel than we
 will admit. If we are not honest with | ourselves can we be honest with any one else?
 It is not valuable knowledge to
 know too much about your nerves. It is not only a waste of time, but per
 iious to think too much about them
 It is nervous people who make a run
 on the bank, hide their savings in mat
 tresseS and have them burned up, call
 out the fire department if a table cloth l catches on fire, or call the doctor be- 1 cause they do not know what to dc
 next. Perhaps you do not realize that
 people who are nervous are never ] nerv-y. Audacity is the pal of the
 nerv-y person and fear the constant
 attendant upon the nervous. What
 cannot we charge up to nerves: fret
 fulness, impatience, fussineSs and finnickinesS and all the wild imagery
 the mind in capable of. Nervousness
 needs no thought or nursing, but strong
 discipline. It is foe to Wrestle with
 not a friend to entertain. To think l C
 cog in your well-being and tC have a bug-house trend. Look out fol your I-ams; 1 am health; l am power; l am free: these are your salvation.
 Some people get so in the habit O looking for motives that they Sccont suspicious that every kind act ha! hidden beneath it some selfish hope or consideration. It seems to be be . yond their compreh tension that it i
 possible for any one to do good fol Goods sake. Do not think it is tn fault in other people which makes IL diStrust them, for it is the blemiSh il
 ourselves. The innocent do not sus
 pect any one; and the good are eas.
 marks for williams because they ar
 expecting honesty where it does no
 exist. Dishonesty is always alive [, the lure of the Sirens song, and if
 fits our selfshness we form strang
 copartnerships, and get into bad com 3 pany. Suspicion has always been 2 great motive-hunter and a pronounce l diSbelieVer in disinterestedness: Ther
 is no doubt there are people who ora,
 solely for what there is in their con ! ception of prayer for them. Self is tn : tyrant that knocks us around and trie | to hide our false pretences. In tn , light of truth we have all we can d.
 to keep ourselves above suspicion. 5 How do you suppose you would fec t if you could truthfully say: T hay s all the money I want" Perhaps yo
 never would be able to say it. It i
 not a natural feeling, for man natur
 ally wants all the money he can get. recall a successful man who made hi | limit $75,000. That seemed to be ] great amount to him when he set it a
 the height of his ambition. When h
 had acquired it he said: I've got t f make that s150,0O0" and he did. Ma = doesn't keep his promises to himse n any better than he keeps his promise
 to the Lord. No one has heard Joh l. D. Rockefeller say he has all tn
 money he wants; nor Carnegie eithe
 Andrew Carnegie's most famous ut e terance is: Its disgrace to di = rich;" but he is very likely to be dis V graced by keeping a few millions fc
 his heirs. There are a few men W
 know who say they have all they war e and they are living up to the sent if ment. But the habit of saving none - is not so easily broken up. Whe - habit has us in chains ii is not eas $ to gain our freedom.
 A mans talk should never be take = as evidence of his persistence or h = courage. If it could be so taken thel % would never have been a proverb tn; % actions speak louder than words M r. What-Fd-do has been a bluster'