The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1916-11-28
Cynthia Grey's
LETTERS

o. Rave noticed Geverai times
In your column that you hive Sc
verely criticised the female ser
for taking the responsibility OF
making an Advancement toward an
acquaintance with a man
Now why should not the woman
make known her desire in this In.
stance as we'll ss the nan7 Of
course you can only say custom
has made u that way. ard that
man wouldn't respee, womsn for
IL. I say, "sosh with the custom
a woman has lust 20 much right
IN this matter as tie MIN.
am a slnsl: man and would
much rather marry woman who
did the proposing than TO do It
myself would feel sure she
wanted me. n proposed, she
might take me. thinking u her
only and last chance. know OF
many GOOD. respectabis men who
think as ! do, too.
Now why not advocate a change
In this eUs,om7 II 10 right TO give
the woman a chance 20 propose
and let customs 90 10 the winds.
There would. IN my opinion, be
more hsppy marriages II the WON.
an had an equal right with the
man In such matters There are
msny old customs in vogue which
will have 10 90. Let this 90. too.
AN OLD BACHELOR.
A.-You have more accurate
memoranda OF my thoughts than
have I. II you can recall single
instance when | ever severely crit
icised a woman who proposed mar
riage. A woman who Is sure that
IT Is right for her to propose mar
riage will not ash my opinion or
that OF any one else What
have done. IL 20 advise women
who were not sure whether II wsK
right for Them To take this forward
step. 10 abide by the convention
You mus realize that a woman IN
my position. who must sdyise PEG.
pie OF all clHsges and ages. must
weigh every word well before
printing II lest IL do more harm
than good.
NY Dear Miss Grey: &C. N. P.'s"
letter interested me very much.
The gray hairs have rested on my
brow for many years. and during
these years the study OF sex prob.
lens, and the rights OF children
has occupied many Of my hours.
&C. N. r." did an injury both TO
wife and children when. during
the years in which his children
were born. he allowed himself TO
be under the influene. OF liquor
and rough companions.
Both affected. in a detrimental
manner. his body and mind, and
OF course this effect will be trans
r,itted TO his children. Then. his
neglect affected his wife. and her
grief and diminishing love would
also affect the children both be-
fore and after birth. In this man.
ner. &c. N. p" laid the foundation
Of his present trouble. and he
should receive his bitter reward
like a true man.
He should remain with his wife,
keep shame and disgrace from his
children by keeping his mouth
shut: forgot that he 10 not the IA.
Their OF tn. coming child. and DO
the best he can TO love and care
for H.
/ Ne would not hesitate 10 sdoot
some other mans child, or marry
widow with child to care for.
The real problem In this matter
! 10. how can he act so that the
greatest amount OF good can come
out OF all these rnistakes7 He
must remember that N he had
done right In the first place, his
wife would not have made her
mistake. Forget selfish feelings
and remember that sex influence
10 the strongest infIu.nce In life:
that the craving for sympathetic
sex compsnionshlp 10 stronger
even than an Unborn craving for
liquor.
Let &C. N. p" stand by the ship
and prevent the wreck OF his chill.
dren's liv.s IS we'll as his wife's.
With his experiences. he ought 70
be able TO guide. direct and Give
good advice TO them all, the un.
born included. and. with a tender,
compelling love. be a boon com.
panlon to all and thus expiate his
mistakes, which were sins.