Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1916-12-09


- dured7 Do your surroundings
seem duh and disagreeableI
Are the people that you meet unat-
Hactlve and unfriendly? Or do you
enjoy every moment Of life. the hours
OF work "a well as play2 Is there
lsomething agreeable always happen
ling TO you and do friends spring up
like mushrooms wherever you gof
: The flrst class almost boasts that
III docs not belong to the. type which
is born with aluclIy temperament. WHO
draw people by the force of their SUI
tperior natural attractions. They do
mot seem to think that they can ever
lbs different. but that they must al
ways remain In the ranks OF the less
'fsv0red.
II is true that many people are born
with happy hearts and sweet dlspo-
sitions. On the other hand, there are
many who have never enjoyed good
health. and have had besides q hard
road to travel; yet they always have
Htannch friends to call upon. Why is
this? Ralph Waldo Emerson has per-
haps expressed most cieverly the les
5on. He says, 1--WE 1nd In life exactly
WHAT VIC put III IL.
It seems a pretty stltf truth, but
look about you and see II 1t is not
lrue. There is the woman in your
block who seems to be entirely with
ont friends. Occasionally some gos-
sip will visit her; but she as surely
comes out again with some tidbit
about her hostess There Is no real
friendship there, no give and take of
useful ideas. no mutual upiift, yet the
woman has everything that would
lead you to suppose that she could
have many friends.
Then there is that poor invalid. At
first glance 1t seems as II the people
ia your town were especially charita-
BILE. because they never neglect her.
Every time you have been there--and
you are frequent visItor--you find
iothers there before you. You think
hard for moment and you realize
that II is not all lnsefishness that
brings about your visits 1t is be-
cause she gives you something that
you can get no. other place. She fair
lly radiates cheer and an indefnable
lc0mfort, and you go away humbled,
with knowledge that you can never
Esiye her enough jellies and desserts
TO equal the spiritual gifts she has
showered upon you.
This is why the appreciatlve wife
has an affectlonate husband 1t is the
reason why children are willing to
TRY tasks that are hard or uncengen-
lfali because the helping hand of
lpralse and encouragement IL there. A
word of encouragement will go more
than twice as far as Encouragement.
But you will gay, that though you
were agreeable 70 an acquaintance
the other day, she cid not reciprocate
1T may have been because of some
trouble worrying her, or else she may
mot have felt very well. This may not
absolutely excuse her; but it explains
We are finite ourselves and we can
not expect others to be infinite. We
have moods so have they. In mo
nents OF sorrow or physical pain, we
also are apt to make a bad impress
sion. So, then, we cannot expect more
OF others than Of ourselves. AND
kindness Is never wasted. for after
ward the recipient Of our attentions
Will think OF us as gracious, and bt
AtAttlul. tHdt' We ulu not seem 10 no
tlce her lmpoliteness.
Friendship Is huge game OF civ,
and take. Do not think that you MAJ
find fault with your friends at every
turn, picking out their defects anC
dwelling upon their imperfections
unless you are willing to be constant
" censured In return.
A good plan to which many people
hold Is the setting aside every day o
some time, no matter how small. Il
which they can 80 over the past day
and mediate upon their actions, ant
the rights and wrongs. At such
time one will see most clearly jus
where she failed friend. or hur
some one perhaps even more dear.
Life may be compared to mirror
as a glass viii catch the suns rays
SO our cheerful dispositions will b.
received by the world with open arms
and not only be credited to us, bu
seat out again in all directlous; 70
joy, like sorrow, always doubles
triples and continues to multiply un
I'll II seems to lll at least one cor
ner Of the globe, though who may sa
how far II really spreads? Whle
would you prefer to send forth. ray