The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1916-12-28

they did have, and in the posses
sion of each other, and i'm trying
to help each other; yes, even they,
perhaps, longed for better things
and perhaps at one time or an
other thought that they would
have them, but they did not make
themselves and everybody around
them miserable by nursing their
grievance; and thereby attained
contentment, which is a great pro-
moter of prosperity.
Had Ruth" and her husband
started in the beginning, IA years
ago, and saved | per cent of all
they received, a small amount to
be sure, Ruth" would not have
written that letter. She would
have been a happy, helpful wife,
loving mother, and surrounded
by more and better friends than
she is today, and bet 10 to 1 that
they would be very comfortably
situated and he would have a bet
| ter salary than he has today.
| would like to ask Ruth" a
question, not that | ask her to
answer, but for her to answer con-
scientiously to herself: Isn't she
unknowningly keeping her hus-
band down?
know of such cases, yet the
parties would nSt admit it, and
perhaps Ruth" will not.
Influence Is a great power and
can be used, abused or neglected;
the chances are that if "Ruth's"
husband, poor fellow, we're to re-
ceive 100 per cent increase in sal
airy the first of next month, she
would have spent it all before he
collected his pay at the end of the
month, and probably contracted
for a portion of every month s
pay for several months to come,
and in remarkably short time the
same old complaint would work
its way into her brain and thence
into her heart.
We are all prone to believe that
We are entitled to a little better
conditions than We have, and make
the mistake of trying to make the
world believe they are better, in
stead of expanding the same effort
efficiently to make them better.
Finally, Ruth" does not. love
her husand.
lam BACHELOR, and am one
for the fear of getting into just
the foregoing mess. Yes! am
lonesome, but which is the lesser
of the two evils? w. C.
Dear Miss Grey: am very
much interested in some of the
letters you print and especially
Ruth's letter. She has all my SYM
pathy as | am practically in the
same boat. Have been married
about 16 years now and have
three girls and good, loving
husband. He works all the time
and we only live from hand to
mouth. I can't have what money
I need at times to buy things I
need.
I realize it takes a lot to dress
the girls, but / am not an extrava-
CANT woman and scrimp and save
in every possible way, but can
only make ends meet, nothing left
for me.
I am discouraged and tired Of
this kind of life. Have lost all
my love for my husband and at
times can hardly endure him at
all. Now Miss Grey, do you think
/ am treating myself or husband
right to live this way?
hate to leave him as he wor-
ships me and never would let me
have any of the children. love
my children, but am growing very
tired of living with a man / CAM
not love. I am OF a loving dis
position and could love the right
man IL only I could be free< 1t
seems to me life ID not worth
living If you can't have the one
you love. I would be glad to hear
from others that are suffering the
same heart aches as I am.
MRS. F. ].