Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1916-10-21
WHY SOME GIRLS
LACK ADMIRERS
Young Woman Who Seems
OveranXious to Please
Repels Men
BY Dorothy Dix

l get hundreds of letters from girls
asking me what they can do to make
themselves admired by men.
! No one in the world is wise enough
specifically to answer this question,
and give any guaranteed rules for
attracting the capricious masculine
fancy, which, like the wind, bloweth
where it listeth; and no one can tell
when, or why, or where IL listeth.
Why some girls attract the admira-
tion of men and others are passed
over; why some women are born to
be bellies, and others are foredoomed
to be wallftowers, is one of the femt-
nine mysteries that have puzzled ev-
cry generation of women from
Mother Eve down. But no woman
has ever found out the answer to
the riddle.
Some say that beauty is the mag
net that draws men. But this is not
invariably the case, for pretty girls
are often left disconsolate, while
homely girls have men flocking after
them.
Money will occasionally buy a hus-
band, but it will not buy girl beaux
If she has no other attractions than
wealth.
Social position will not give her
popularity, nor will fine clothes make
her sought after, for we have all
seen society girls sitting about at
Summer resorts, solitary and alone,
on trunkfuls of Paris clothes, while
the girl who was mere nobody, with
only few shabby frocks, had to di-
vide her admirers up in squads and
run them on schedule time.
Now /, no more than any other
recipe for winning the admiration of
men. But can tell her why great
many girls are not admired.
In the first place, the girl who de-
sires to be admired by men generally
falls between two stools. She is
overanxious, or else she is too inap-
proachable and coy. She either runs
after men too much or runs from
them too fast, and both plans are
fatal.
A girl should never forget that,
In theory at least, man is the pur-
suer and woman the pursued This
is not always true, but the girls sue
cess depends on keeping up the de-
fusion and making the man think
that he is chasing her down. Moth
ing disgusts q man more than for
woman to throw herself at his head.
1t gives him the feeling of being
taken in and over-reached. and so.
no matter how much a girl desires
mans attentions. she should go
warily and stealthily about seeking
them. Many a girl has broken off a
promising love affair by calling up
man over the telephone during bust
ness hours and by her insistence on
his coming to see her.
a man likes to feel that he is a
free agent in such matters, and that
he can come or not as he pleases,
and nothing makes girl more un-
popular than to get the reputation
of being grabber who never lets a
man go once she gets her clutches
upon him.
On the other hand, a girl makes
blunder If she affects to disparage
masculine society and to undervalue
masculine attentions. Romances are
full OF misleading accounts of proud
and scornful beauties who had lovers
signing at their feet, who were as
humbly grateful for every kind word
from the nifty lady as hungry dog
is for a bone.
This state of affairs does not OBJ
tain in real life. and the diffident
damsel who thinks she renders her
self irresistible by adopting
naughty demeanor and giving every
man who approaches her the frozen
face makes the mistake of her life.
There are too many fences down in
other directions for men to break
their necks scaling turrets after mac
cessible maidens.