The Birmingham age-herald., 1916-01-23

in the habit of asking myself how much
 I may be to blame personally when I am
 tried by the faults or peculiarities of oth-
 CTS. l took my friends case under serl-
 ous consideration and before long ar rived at the conclusion that she didn't do anything 10 others she would not be will
 ing to have done to herself. l watched her when she was with other members of her family or with visitors, and noticed than when they fused with her back hair or rectifed her dress she seemed genu- finely grateful and much pleased. I even went so far as to experiment with her myself when I saw room for improvement in her collar or her neck gear and she thanked me with cordality which made me ashamed of my glum reception of sim liar offices on her part
 So I think that we have to bring the principle, Put yourself in her place." to bear in such circumstances as this. It is principle which works the whole way through social intercourse, and if We could live by it more it would simplyfy life for us in many ways.
 For instance I hear members of the same family speak to one another in a way I cannot understand. It wounds me when 1 have harsh words flung al me: I love gentleness of speech and manner. For a long time 1 held that if persons loved one another they would not speak brusquely or snappshly. But have had to dismiss that theory because it has been disproved by instances which have come my way.
 For example, I know mother and daughter who are devoted to each other. Either one would make any sacrifices for the other and they have done this often enough to show plainly their mutual de- votion Yet it would cut me to the heart to have one of my daughters speak to me in the way I have heard this daughter address her mother. Still, when put my self in the place of the daughter I can understand that all her life she has been accustomed to just that sort of sharp, quick speech, that neither she nor her mother means anything by it, and that it does not in the least interfere with her love and duty.
 The fact that don't like that kind of thing myself has nothing to do with the situation. It is just as it is in the case of the woman who fusses with my hair and dress. She wouldn't object to that sort of treatment herself, and so she never thinks that I might not like it.
 Into other lines, too, I strive to bring that sort of tolerance. So many little tricks people have which vex me and which they would not mind at all if I did them. Habits they follow at the table; certain ways of eating and drinking; the fashion in which they fidget when they are reading or talking and which get ter rbly on my nerves at times would not bother them at all if they observed the same things in me.
 Years ago I used to go to church with couple of worthy people whose demeanor in the sanctuary was great trial to me. The man assumed that position in the pew which I have heard described as sitting on the back of his neck.'' In other words, he slid down in the seat until he was resting on the small of his back, with his knees braced against the back of the pew in front. As soon as the ser mon began he adjusted himself in this way and remained thus until the close of the discourse.
 His wife was of a more nervous habit During the sermon she sat with her knees