The Washburn leader. [volume] (Washburn, McLean County, N.D.) 1890-1986, 1916-01-14
KNOW HOW TO PLEASE
QUALITY THAT MAKES FOR Pop.
uLARITY IN SOCIETY.
Fortunate Are Those Who Have tire
Happy Habit Of Doing instIne.
lively the Right Thing at
the Right Tims.

They were talking about personality
and the conversation somehow drifted,
not un%naturally, since there were no
men present, to personality in the
sterner sex and how 1t manifested
Itself in different ways and under diff
ferent circumstances.
One man was delightful to have az
4 guest at a party. He made himself
agreeable to all and somehow man.
aged to lift the burden of an entertain
ment completely of the shoulders of a
hostess. As o as he entered he in
troduced a pleasurable sense of festiv-
ity that communicated itself to other
guests. Another man did not shine
especially at parties, perhaps, but he
was ideal for a solitude Of two. He
always made any woman he was call
ing upon feel that to find her at home
aad alone gave him complete satisfac-
ton. "
And then n woman casually re
marked that the most difficult social
role for a man to fill successfully was
that Of escort. Not as escort to a. con-
cert or lecture or the theater, but to
a social entertainment such as a re-
ception or dance.
II know one man." she said, ''who is
wholly delightful as an escort, and the
other day l endeavored to analyze just
wherein the charm lay. I once heard
it said of him, by another man, that
he was a man who always did and
said the right thing at the right time.
and this seems to be true of him in
the capacity of escort. He always
seems to do the obviously correct thing
%instinctively.
II have eve stepped outside my
door with him." she went on, without
experiencing a complete sense of
guardianship until my return. 1t is
not that his actions indicate any spe-
cial consciousness of what be is doing.
On the contrary, he is e%ngagingly nat
ural and free from any assumption of
directing things-but while with him
n woman whom he is escortinS enjoys
a pleasant sense Of being his first o
sideration. He never for an instant
allows her to experience that feeling
Of being unattended under which /
have seen many women and girls suf-
fer and have occasionally suffered my
self. 4
II have known the most well-mean-
ing men to completely neglect some
girl whom they were escorting when
they met some personal friends with
whom she was perhaps unacquainted.
If the man whom I have in mind meets
his own friends he Immediately intro
duces them, and IL he occasionally
drifts away he drifts back again with
out any apparent reason except doing
what he wants to do. Some very nice
men can be exceedingly leaden amid
a large gathering Of people who are
comparatively strangers to them. They
do not seem to have the social instinct
that makes them responsive to stran-
gers, and this is q virtue which a good
escort either has or affects to possess.
There are few things more discomfort
ing to a woman than to take a man
anywhere and not feel he has enjoyed
himself quite as much as she has.
"Indeed, the same qualities that
make the born hostess seem to be es-
sential to make the instructive escort,
and these are gracious personality plus
social NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. Sun.