The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1916-05-15

Without our hopes, without our fears, Without the home that plighted love
 endears,
 Without the smile from p1ighted beau Oh, what were man? A world without
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 Who is it that can lure the most cynical woTnan-hating bachelor into the matrimonial moose whether he will or no? The fair young widow. Who can make the most determined wid- over change his mind about never marrying again? The sympathetic widow. Who can make the aged man who has dodged wedlocl in all it's forms take on a new lease of life and a yearning for 8 home and heart mate? The determined widow. Spin sters, even younger and prettier wo- men than herself. look upon the widow and her achievements with awe and wonder why she. proves such a mag net to men, landing them with little or no difficulty at the altar.
 The solution of the whole situation IS that widows as sweethearts are a pronounced success. Why? Well, they understand all the delicate phases and limitations of 1ovemaking. The single woman imagfnes fervent caresses lead to an avowal of love and a marriage proposal. The widow knows that there is no way of losing a lover more quickly than to permit familiarity from the man who has not offered her his heart and hand. That the aver age man believes the peach ready to drop into his hand is not worth con- sidering. Mari1ike, he craves the peach on the topmost bough just tan talizing out of his reach-so delicious ly near, yet so far.
 First of all, the widow knows she must imbue her would-be lover with respect which rings true; so much so that he would fear that he might of he would not be averse to exchanging a goodnight kiss Her secret of pow CT, then, begins with respect. If a man has single woman for sweet heart and he is to take her to a ball or some other gala function and ter rfble storm comes up that girl is dressed and waiting for him to take her. A young widow might be gowned for just such arl affair, but she would be more apt to say, q am so sorry you braved this terrible storm to take me. I wouldn't mind spending the evening here at home if you would be more coTnfortable.'' He gladly ac- cepts, having visions of q happy counting evening perhaps
 She knows she never looked more charming than in her ball gown. She is wearing it solely for him, content to have an audience of just one to ad- n1ire it. She does not talk about the ball or anything that might give him one regretfu1 thought She is witty and sympathetic by turns. She gives him no learned discourse, but encour- ages him to do the talking on the sub- jects he knows most about and enjoys the best. If he shows a disposition to be too over 1ove-1ike, her tact and dip- lomacy can be depended upon.
 She invites him to partake of a lcas- serole luncheon which he may help her to prepare, screamed oysters, and po- tato balls, salad sandwiches and cof- fee that would tempt the appetite of an epfeure. A man cannot make vio- lent love and dine at one and the same time, and no matter how des- perateIy in love he may be he is more than apt to give his stomach prefer ence.
 The result is that he passes a de- ightful evening and cannot forget the luncheon and the fair vision of wo- manhood who poured the coffee It is 2 home picture that clings to him. Over the next little luncheon he is more apt to ask her tS pour coffee for him the rest of her life.
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