The Washington times., 1916-01-19
Loyalty and Friendship
Between Man and Wife
Opposes New Greed
Letter of Correspondent Wnifred Black Brings Com
ment on Marriage and OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES Would
Want Husband to Be Merely Escort.
BY w1NIFRED BLACK.

~ EAR Winifred Black: Your COM
ments about the sacrificing"
little girl who permitted her
husband to return and nurse
his first wife are interesting. but, on
the other hand, is there not something
to, be said for the husband OF forty as
we'll as FOR the wife of forty?
Most women of forty, regardless OF
what conditions or conventions brought
1t about. are nervous and restless.
know man, n k!nd-hearted, gen.
erous. lovable. affectlonate. but very
human man. He is just forty When
] admonished him about filtration he
had the grace to feel sorry and
ashamed, but his plea was that for the
past five years he has been starved"
Tie cares for his wife che is always try
ing to renew their honeymoon days;
tries to take her for long jaunts into
the country in his car. just he and she
and the baby. and tries in every way
possible to awaken within her a desire
for him. But she just uses MN as an
escort. or course in all other matters
she Is a dutiful wife. His meals are
darning done; anything that "a hired
housekeeper can do she does, but the
poor chap Graves affection.
Now can you blame this man? When
] heard his story / sympathized with
him and thought that woman who no
longer Graves the society of man, who
has no love left within her. wrongs her
husband by keeping him tied to her
apron string. merely as an escort and
for the next thirty years or more that
which Is part of him? And it is just
IS wrong for him TO seek secret liasons
elsewhere, which he has been doing.
Wouldn't the more honorable course
since she cannot any longer be a wife,
provided he provides for her and the
baby, he is free to go and find legiti-
mate affection where he can?
The "Creed" Stated.
Think of how many young women
there are in the large cities who crave
for the affection of husband, for the
warm embrace of child. who have
never been loved due either to the
scarcity of men or lack OF opportunity
mostly the former. Is 1t fair for the
woman who has lived the best part of
her life to prevent another woman from
living her Iife by insisting upon the
law" to keep at her side and to starve
In every way the man for whom she no
longer has any desire except as an es-
CoTt Sincerely. r. r.
OW lnatS the sort or letter tnaL
makes me mad-not vexed or
sorry or puzzled-just plain old
fashioned American MAID,
What If most women of forty are
nervous and restless?
So are most men OF forty, aren't they?
Men and women are so much alike.
Why are people always trying to make
out that they are absolutely different.
Some women are nervous and restless
at twenty, and so are some men. And
some women are good-naturcd ii forty,
and so are some men. Let's stop gCn-
eralizing and get down to plain faC,S.
Whom are you in love with, r. r.. and
whose husband are you trying to take
away from her?
You ask me for my opinion. Perhaps
you can get il from that question.
Is there nothing in marriage to you
but emotionalism?
Are we. after all. no better than mere
women with minds and hearts and
something that we like to think is a
soul?
Free to go? Yes. If he wants to go;
yes, il he has neither manhood nor the
decency nor the self-control to want to
stay with the woman who has given
him the best of her life even II she isn't
as pretty as she was when he married
her; yes, evan If she's nervous and rest
less once in a while.
Would 1t Work?
Free to go? What man Of any honor
or any loyalty would want, to go and
leave his own child to be brought up
somehow. anyhow-hit or miss-for no
woman whose heart Is broken and
whose life is wrecked can be the right