Omaha daily bee., 1916-05-11
Ban ON
Poor Son Lam
q Mistake

Probably the most unpleasant quarter
OF an hour that y man ever spends IL
that In which he faces Il cold and unro-
mantic father and asks him for his
daughters hand IN marriage, OF course,
II there are cItonuhtlnR circumstances
IN the way on money or pogition-if he
can offer the girl n country place and
automobiles situation II robbed Of
much Of lts ierrors, and the parental
blessing f. n foregono conclusion
n, however, he 10 on lmpecunlous
youth with nothing to awe his wife but
the love ~ HE bcGrt and tho work of
hls hands, he would face gatling gun
With less trepdatlon than the old mans
stern inquiry Young man, can you
support my daughter In The style she
has boon accustomed 10 live7'
" course father IL doing M more
than his duty, ana Ia strictly within his
rights, when be tries 10 protect his
daughter from grinding poverty but
whom he goes further tran that and oh.
iocla 10 q worthy man simply because he
rant offer q glrl all the iuNuries to
witch she has been accustomed he II
going too far.
lie IL demanding that the young man
start In where he h leaving or II has
taken him many years ~ hard work 70
be- able 10 give his family tho luxury IN
which they now llyo, and II n absurd
10 expect any young man 10 haze
achieved that much success
N the young man has bank account
10 match the girls father. he n hound
10 have Inherited II, Ne hasn't had time
10 make II for himself Looking NJ tha
matter from business point ~ view
ma with reference 70 tho girls bread
and butter II IL . strange thing that Il
doesn't oftener strike fathers that The
young man who has successfully held
tho same place In an office or store
for four or i've yo0rA Hns saved w a
thousand or two dollars while "clerklhr
~ n thousand times better match
Tor auy girl than tho youth who never
earned dollar IN his life, who knows
nolthor how 10 make money nor 10 Have
H. md whose ono star performance ~
ifo consists IN having been born the son
NJ Nch man.
Only too often. however. the woii.to-do
man turns cold and uufriendly eye on
thu suitor for his daughter who tells him
tbst he hae nothing but good situation
with chance NJ doing better
Father sternly remarks that when ha
married he WAS able TO support his wifa
IN the style IN which she bad been ~
customed to live,
Ia forReta that he took his BRIDE 20
y cottage or humble flat while he exs
poets hia aon-in-lsw 10 install iia dnuR1e
ter In fine mansion. He ignores thg
fact that his wife IN their early days
I'D her own cooking and msde her ogn
frocks. while he demands That hs daugl.
ter's husband shall provide her with n
retlnus of servants and millinery from
Paris
~ course IN trying 70 keep his dauFh
Ter from marrying a poor man the father
truly nays that he has nothing but beT
happlpess Al heart lie believes that
she viii be perfectly miserable living
In lees style, with fewer clothes and
palmer surroundings than thoss 10 which
ahe IA accustomed
That depends on the girl.
n Fbe IL the Kind on a girl whose heart
h stuffed aith chiffons and whose soul
viii no 10 Paris when bhe dies, she VIII
never he lndscrcct enough 10 fail IN love
with man who isn't strictly eligible
from monetary point Of view. She r.
lust ~ incapable 'of loving n man without
, nose ~ one without big hank account
But the girl whose true heart beats
lust m faithfully and warmly under vel.
'et ~ II would under homeHpiin. whose
'Yes. unbllnded by wealth and fashion,
zee the man and not the position AMI who
= willing to exchange little NJ the
Inset Of society for the fine gold ~ an
loneat love, knows what she n about
when ahc pieks out her own particular
lack md refers him 10 papa,
And papa makes the mistake ~ hls life
when he refuses his blessing FOR no BET.
Ter reason thnn that tho Young man can
support The girl IN the st,le IN which she
l. accustomed 10 live.
There IL afro this other point NJ View
That n the girls father has raised her
with such luxurious tastes TINT abe can
not be happy on the income that mn
ordinarily successful man can offer her.
Z II nothing but common fairness for her
'ond ana foolish parent 10 provide her
9Th dowFg that will offset her demand
'or frlllf
That It one way around The diffioutg
ma certainly q Il quite a. Just as 10 *
'eet The Young man 10 be able 70 humef
he unreasonable extravaganza and
'a4efulnesa tn which tia daughters ni
10 many Rich parents are reared.
~ II Is. The average worthy Young man
ishts shy n The rich giri The idea Of
rcaklnr into family 10 which he is
'o' desired because he il poor is moi
Neiiher IA IL aiiurlnE 10 feel
nat hia wife ID looked upon as MARTYR
on having married him
y he modern father must adopt klndef
iuiude v be- doesn't want 10 No ieh
.Nh a lot Of old maid daughter. on hs