Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1916-07-21
The Mans
Side of 1t
By BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

Recently great numbers of my girl
correspondents have written me let
tiers which could have been summed
up in these statements:
When John Doe finds at the end
of three or four weeks that I'm not
going to let him make love to me as a
sort of return for his attentions.
he loses interest in me and drops me.
Don't men like dignified, seif-respect-
ing girls any more? Is the only way
girl can have masculine friendship
and a social good time the way Of
least resistance?
So numerous were these letters, so
earnest their writers, that | began to
wonder if there were something in
the suggestion than men no longer
value fineness of character and dig
nifty in women, but prefer rather the
light facility and easy-going adapta-
bility that permits of promiscuous
love-making.
= AT last have found a man who,
with simple practically, faces the
thing, figures it out and distributes
the blame fairly and squarely-just
where it belongs.
Here is his viewpoint, and I ask
my girls to think it over carefully.
Men do like modesty and dignity
they still respect it--they still want
it in their sisters and wives as they
take it for granted in their mothers.
But because of a certain federation
which the world has always had TO-
ward lax standards of dignity for
men, they do amuse themselves by
making little light imitation-love
where they may.
What they want and even demand
is definite line of demarcation be-
tween the girl who is sweet and mod
est and the girl who is gay.
If the modest girl who wouldn't
dream of letting men kiss and caress
her were honest and simple in her
attitude from the very beginning,
she would retain the liking and ad-
miration of her men friends. Here
lies her blunder:
She sees the gay and worldly girl
being entertained lavishiy and hav-
ing good time. She wants her good
times, too, so she slavishly initiates
the appearance and manner of the
girl of whose conduct she is not 60
ing to be an imitator. She encour-
ages her men friends up to a point;
she coquettes and flirts and gives
them every reason to suppose that
she is rather the good fellow" type.
ASaid the man whose opinion seems
to me to sum up the case: mo man
likes to feel that he is being made .
fool Of When nice girl coquettes
and flirts and leads him on and then
suddenly quits he feels a cold fury
at her. He thinks she couldn't play
the game so we'll unless she had had
a little experience.
He imagines she is letting some
other fellow kiss her and make love
to her, and that she is just leading
him on in order to get good time
out. of it, but that she doesn't like
him we'll enough to let him hold her
hand.
why, have a lot Of wonderful
pals--girls | see great deal OF and
take out and whose society enjoy.
/ should never think Of trying to kiss
one of them. I'm not going to throw
over a fine friendship with worth
while girl and have her think me a
cad to boot.
"All girl has to do is to make
her standards perfectly clear. If she
dresses and acts like a giddy little
fool and then hauls you up short with
an indignant, How dare you! I'm not
that sort of girl fellow feels like
an idiot. No man wants a girl to
jolly him along and get all the enter.
tainment she can out of him on false
pretences.
"All girl has to do Is to set up .
standard and stick to it. II she Is GO
ing to be friend and pal she wants
to act like one all the way through.
If she's going to have little flirta-
ton or temporary affair OF the heart
she has to play that game honestly,
too
And there a very splendid, honest
man has stated the case simply and
as man sees it.
The point is, girl must stay In
her own class, know her own mind
and stand for what she is, fairly and
Then men will accept her
At her own true valuation--the one
she put on herself--and will not Of
END her by treating her az IL she
we're the consceneless little coQuette
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