The log cabin Democrat., 1916-02-04

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 When love match does not meet the approval of the family, should a girl take the marriage reins in her own hands and elope rather than give up the man she loves?" This is the query l receive in letters from girls in almost all parts of the country
 When wedlock is the most serious problem of life it cannot be entered into without much careful considera- tion. Many girl meets a dashing young fellow today. Without much thought of the future, he makes TO- mantle love to her by paying her fowery compliments. The girl i'm agines that she reciprocates his affec- tfon forthwith. In an enthusiastic mo- ment, after seeing her home, he makes hasty proposal Without ado, the girl accepts him. They find the road to matrimony not so easy as they had expected. The father and mother of the young man set up vigorous pro- test when they find out what he has done. It is followed by a storm of reproaches. How could you support wife?' exclaim his parents in one and the same breath. Couldn't she come home?' he queries. Decidedly no!' answers his mother. There's no home big enough for two families" 'Well get along somehow" responds the young man anxiously. The angry father will not discuss the case fur ther than to say: As you make your bed you'll have to lie in it." He slams the door after him as he goes out.
 The girls parents were equally dis pleased when she informed them of her betrothal Engaged to a man whom you have been acquainted with so short a time" gasps her mother And without our sanction?" supple ments her father sternly, adding sharply: T refuse to entertain such an affair. The proposition as to wheth- CT you could marry or not should have been put up to me. 1 don't know who or what this young fellow is. I'll put a stop to it before it goes any fur ther." If you do we'll elope,' sobs the girl Charlie said we would if either his folks or mine raised any objection" Her folks paid no atten- tion to the covert threat. Soon after, there were two very much surprised families in town; for the intelligence reached them that the young folks have taken the reins into their own hands and eloped.
 Tying the marriage knot is the easi- est part of it. But after that-what? If both families prove unrelenting, they face ordeals which they are i'll prepared to meet. Lcve under difficult ties sounds very romantic, but in real life it's decidedly unpleasant. A hall bedroom and doing the cooking-if there is anything to cook-do not feed the flame of love. On the contrary, it has whitening effect upon it. The young man who has been used to sit ting down to good table without the worry of providing for it, does not prove a very jovial companion. It does not take both of them long to l CetiIAc IllsiI Ilttl SlOptulGut WdS luc wrong thing.
 Swift courtship and hasty marriages are, more often than not, fatal to hap piness. Everything can be gained by waiting. By seeing more of the young man, the girls parents grow to like him. They look forward with pleas ure to the time they shall give the treasure of their hearts to his keep ing. Time also works favorably in re- gard to the young mans folks. Taking her constantly to call upon them, the sweet, innocent young girl who loves their son is sure to win her way to their affections. The father stands ready to help the boy-tO put him on his feet.
 Elopers may be forgiven by both sides, but it leaves a bitter sting in the hearts of those who should have Happiness goes with par ental blessings. No couple can afford to elope and trust to luck after.