El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1916-03-18
Grace Darling S Talks to Girls
No 3-The Way to Find Friends in the World
BY GRACE DARLING.
(Copyright 1915. international News
Servicc.)


GREAT many girls complain
n that they have no friends and
L ~ feel that they are most unjust
ly treated because they are not pOpu-
lar in their social sets
If these girls would ask themselves
the question: why SHOULD people
like me-" instead Of: why DON'T peo-
pie like me-" they would get some in
formation that would be of untold help
fulness to them.
Why SHOULD people like US unless
we are friendly, agreeable, CHEEKY
companionable2 There is no reason
that they should, and, as n matter of
fact, they don't
[ have never known girl who was
lonely. and friendless, and left out of
everything. who hadn't herself entire
" To blame sometimes it's because
she is a natural born cat, one of those
spiteful. spitty creatures who TO save
their lives can't help clawins you on
your tender spots.
The kind of girl, you know, who viii
take all Of the pleasure out OF your
new ring by saying What pretty
those cheap little chip diamonds make
ND. isn't it," Or who will congratu-
late an engaged girl by telling her
that she's glad Tom has found some
body who was willing 10 marry
him at last. as he has been refused
by every other girl in the set.
Why should a girl who goes through
life using her tongue like stiletto,
stabbing everybody with whom she
comes in contact expect to be liked
and for people to want to have her
abOute
just plain selfish.
Sometimes the unpopular girl is Just
plain selfish. She seizes the best Of
everything for herself She monopolizes
all of the men that she can, and when
she meets a new man. she would die
before she would introduce him to an
other girl.
Now society is run on the give-and-
take plan. and just because the self
ism girl believes that she can always
take and never give, she overreaches
herself: and in the end Miss Piggy Is
shelved.
Sometimes the reason that girl
has no friends is because she is q spoil
sport She never wants to do wha.
other people want TO do. If the others
want to dance. she wants to skate.
If the others want to play tennis, she
wants to go padding
or she is one Of the finnicky kind
Of girls that has to have everything
exactly right before she can enjoy IT.
She can't eat unless she can have
certain kind Of food cooked in par
wards on a. car. or walk in the sun,
or sit in drauEht and she has to be
fused with so much that she simply
isn't worth the trouble.
She's a wet blanket on any jolly
little party, and after an experience
or two in trying to please her, and
listening to her complaints. everybody
decides that the best place for her is
her own home So they leave her
there.
The real reason. however, that most
friendless girls don't have friends is
because they haven't the friendly spirit
themselves. They want other people
to make all the advances. They expect
other people 20 go out of their way to
hunt them up, and show them atten-
ton. and to pry them out Of their I
shells Of reserve.
What conceit, What arrogance. /
What peculiar worth and charm has /
any one got that makes it worth busy /
peoples time and trouble 70 seek girl /
out, and make friends with her in spite /
Of herself2
There are too many agreeable and 4
friendly people who are ready TO meet [
rs half way and make themselves pleas J
ant for US to bother with the cranky