The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1916-05-16
MARRYING TO
 PLEASE OTHERS

Never rail at the world. It is just as l we make it: l. | the seed, .-t | And as. for ill luck, why, it's just as i we take it.
 The heart that's in earnest no bars can impede.
 lam always sorry for a girl when l
 hear her mother remark, with tightly
 compressed lips, q shall see to it that my Marjorie marries suitably or she will remain sfngle.''
 NIs/it any wonder that the daughter of such. a woman begins to have a | dread of matrimony at an early age She looks upon it as a sort or sale ana the securing of 8 bargain. The amo1- tious mother considers no man suit able unless he has wealth Age, tenn perament, appearance, Ronor ana health are of minor importance; gold plates all his defects.
 But what cares youth for wealth when weighed against warm young love-the glance of the eye that makes the heart beat eagerly and the clasp of the hand whose magnetism sends the blood bounding through the veins, arousing the slumbering soul? God
 meant every heart to give love spon-
 taneously, answering when the true
 heart mate calls.
 It is the duty of parents to watch
 carefully, patiently, the progress of a dearly loved daughters love affair, but it is not their duty to urge her to
 accept. the hand of a man whom they know it will be impossible to give her heart to, If she weds such man be- cause of being unable to withstand their influence and urging, who is to
 blame if she finds marriage a failure
 and life hardly worth enduring? --s& %,r1 %I@S- ErNr- 7aTO
 be brought into the close contact of marriage with a man for whom she
 can scarcely summon respect. The natural affection born within her must either starve for want of feeding or fasten upon >herself-if she is too good
 woman to harbor friendships which would shadow her good name and self
 respect.
 She who centers her affections upon
 herself degenerates into the cold, theartlessJ woman, caring only for her
 own pleasures and social triunphs and, to be known as the most beauti-
 full of her sex, the most elegantly gowned and bejeweIed. It takes love
 to bring out all that is best in wo-
 mans nature.
 If the same woman had been per naitted to marry the one young who had appealed to her heart, she would
 have wed a young clerk who had his fortune to make. It would have been the delight of her life to have accepted poverty with him and kept by his side, cheering and encouraging him as he struggled with the world. They would have had to sit down to many a scan ty meal prepared fFugally by her own hands, but love would sweeten the
 coarsest viands and make toll for the one beloved a dear privilege
 Those who guide the lives of young girls should think long and earnestly
 ere they turn from their door a suitor for her hand and heart-simply be-
 caues, he has no fortune. If he is hon
 orable and has a good character, is
 ambitious to work and rise in the world, he is a fortune in himself. Very
 few young American men have ready
 made fortunes, but they have brains
 and the will power to accumulate it. and that makes husbands to be proud
 of. It is a blessing to a girl to save
 her from marrying a drunkard, lib
 ertine, gambler or one who would not
 work if earnest persuasion would ac- complish it, for her love it but a de-
 fusion, marriage x opening her. eyes
 more quickly than anything else to the gravity of the mistake she made. A girl has a say-so about being born into this world, no voice whatever in the matter. but she should have her
 say-sos concerning her marriage, for
 that is the next important step in her career If she marries solely to please others, more often than not she. has a J7rsr- ISzT, I,.a-