The Bridgeport evening farmer. [volume] (Bridgeport, Conn.) 1866-1917, 1916-04-03
WHICH is THE LONELIER.
THE WIDOW OR THE
SPINSTER?

For some this earth is a paradise
+ And they live in a long, sweet
dream,
While others live from day to day
Pulling forever against the stream
The Independent bachelor girl is
more apt to deny than not that she
has lonely moments, while, on the con-
trary, widow never let's up impress
ing you with her loneliness, real or
imaginary.
The spinster who is any age between
so and over has seen enough of life to
realize what she is missing in not hav-
ing a husband, home and children of
her own She looks about among her
married women friends and studies
their conditions. If they have a pain
in their little finger, hubby calls up
half a dozen times a day from his Of
flee to inquire if the pain has subsid-
ed or if he hadn't better call a doctor
Her children are as solicitous. One
holds her hand, another smooths her
forehead, while the others are endeav-
oring to- charm the pain away.
The bachelor girl, alone in her small
rented room, may have pains in her
whole body and there is no one to
know OF care. She feels keenly the
lack of solicitude and sympathy.
The chi1dleSS widow, who has been
petted ana adored by her good man
who has gone before her, may in time
become resigned to her situation. But
the lack of some one to love her and
some one whom she can love fills her
soul with a yearning want which will
not be satisfied. A pleasant evening
among her congenia1 friends will sat
isfy the bachelor girls heart The
I widow comes home from such an en-
itertainment to cry, over her present
existence. The bachelor girl gets her
solitary meal and eats it with relish.
tcrTV - s.
] thought. The widow. through sheer
sentiment, sets her table for two. Her
lips culver and her eyes fill with tears
as she looks upon the vacant chair op-
posite.
She concludes she must see it occu-
pied once more if she is to dispeI her
loneliness. Such thought never oc-
| ours to the bachelor girl Sentiment
i with her is lost in the labyrinth of
duty, as she elbows her way through
the hard business world to vie with
others, to earn her daily bread. She
lays by what she can, which is not
mich, having the advantage over the
widow in this respect. She is not
/ sought out by the money sharks, who
| make love to her in one breath and
coax loans from her to make invest
ments in stock market a moment later
! The business girl y just smart
enough to look into sharpers' schemes
and judge for herself what Dis best to
ldo The widow, used to depending on
what a man has told her, believes I'M
plicitly the lips that purr a love story
in her ear. calling her grille declar-
| ing even though she sent him from her
| he must see her again.
| He makes it his business to make a
beggar5 of her. The business girl still
holds her position while the penniless
widow, shorn of her good sense as
well as gold, depends upon her cousin
who turns a cold shoulder on her at
time most needed Money sharks
make a widows loneliness tell The
business girl learns to depend upon
herself She looks facts squarely in
the face.
The average widow is unsuspicious
regarding matrimony. The bachelor
maid is armed with doubts. The wild
owss standard excuse is that she was
too lonely in single blessedness. The
| bachelor girl cannot feel the want of
what she has never had-a husband
and his love.