Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1916-01-11
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Two Kinds
of
Consideration
BY ADA PATTERSON.

There's no secret about hapuicnss in
marriage" said n famous man on the
occasion OF the golden anniversary of his
wedding. Yet by his next words he
q. proved that there is a secret, a double
secret, of such happiness and he gave IL.
My wife has always let me alone on
occasions and have let her alone. Then
when she saw needed help che asked
me what she could do for me and did it.
When she was not exactly pleased with
anything / asked her what I could do to
help her. That's all"
-s n of the secret of happiness in mar
riage! All of what all the writer's and
philosophers and poets and playwrights,
all the married and unmarried, are striv
ing after and Of which some are ready to
abandon the search I'm despair. There
are many persons in marriage, and some
out of it, who are convinced that happi-
ness cannot be found in that state, only
resignation
Hero comes the man who ends their
doubts Happiness in consideration, the
two kinds, passive and active. In the
welded state consists in iudicious letting
alone and IN discreet offers of assist
ance
Think that over. Ie reminds me Of what
great editor said to me about newspaper
work. 1t has but two arts. how to make
a big thing Of a little thing and sttle
thing OF a big one.
The woman who knows when to use
paddock of silence is the mistress of prac-
tically any matrimonial situation. For
i'll timed words are oil on the flames Of
discord They arc the fat in the fire.
They are salt in wounds They are din
n a
hurt.
The man who knows that to ask a tired
woman, why did you do this?" is to
make her want to hurl dishes st him
doesn't say &. lie waits until she is
L"Ztd, smiling. unhurried. at peace with
~ world. They are great physicians in
Fthc family circle who know the healing
Of quiet.
There are times when to say: Can !
help you Is to offer an affront. But there
are other times when it says, Peace, be
STILL to whirling winds of the SOUL es-
pecially IL there be children in the house
hold.
There are men-should we call them so?
who think it unmanly, beneath their
lordly dignity. to help take care OF the
children. Such men should deny them
selves parenthood. It Is a strange lop-
sided world that permits women TO lit
orally slave themselves to death, in TAX
ing care of children. and allows men to
look upon the little ones as mere dis
turbers of their rest, creatures that
raise a row while a man is trying to read
his newspaper"
l know a bank president and treasurer
of one of the richest and most populous
counties of the east, whom I have seen
pushing the perambulator In his home
block while the nurse took the older chill
dren to shop. have seen him spreading
apple butter on thick slices of buttered
bread while his wife was at a church so
cial and the housemaid was on an errand
TO appease their after school pangs OF
hunger. He is one OF the best business
men and most intelligent and prominent
citizens in his part of the state. I should
be sorry for any poor whipper snapper
who deserved punishment at his hands.
They are big and strong enough to crush
yet tender enough to wipe away tears of
a child.
Heaven bless the men who are manly
enough to offer their help to women.
md heaven equally bless the woman who
tnStes tender offers of her sympathetic
help to the man, her man, when -
needs IT.