The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1916-06-13

l s'Oh, when he comes again. 1 In the old glad way,
 l I will smile and take his hand, 1 What were there to say? | I will droop my eyes and smile, 1 For my soul would be
 1 Like the peace of summer moons l Beside the sea-
 It would make the world laugh were 1 it to hear or read all that I do about
 courtships-good, fair and indifferent l from anxious women who whisper 1 thme heart secrets to me. I often
 wonder how it is that some lovers are
 able to win the objects of their hearts
 desire, they stumble through courtship so clumsily.
 | find that not one young woman out l of a, hundred really admires the hold
 wooer. -Lovemaking, above every | thing else, should be done with the greatest delicacy, adroftness and rev. erence. The young man who calls a. score or more times without the slight est kind of a, hint to the girl who is spending her evenings entertaining him that he is interested in her-a notch farther than friendsfhip-should
 not expect that the flame of hope which he has probably lighted in her breast is to burn continuously without fuel.
 There is the man who hints much upon short acquaintance, but never gets farther than limiting. They there fore lapse into being an old story. It has been aptly said of him that he is paying attentions without intentions.
 There is another kind of man who is a puzzle to the cleverest of women he who delights to have the dearie of his choice all to himself after blurting out a few words in which he has popped the question, but never after
 wards referring to the subject, content to be in her presence, holding her hands, but speaking never a word to break the awkward silence. l The world would scarcely believe
 that fully a third of all lovers carry
 on their courtship in this manner.
 Some one has somewhere said that 1 flowers have need of worlds, but
 from all I learn from letters, or hear
 about, the speeches. cou9tship is not
 popular with womankind. They want
 to hear something about the wedding
 day=-when they may expect it roll
 around, what the plans are for the l future, where they are to live, if his
 folks are reconciled to the thought of
 losing a. son, even though they thereby
 gain a daughter, and so on. l The silent, speeches. lover keeps his
 sweetheart continually wondering if l he is still as much in love with her as 1 he thought he was or if he can be re-
 gretting their betrotha1 and is taking this means of causing her to weary of 1 the bonds and suggest severing them,
 ready to jump at the proposition, or
 if anything has transpired to have changed his plans or prospects. Hs is enibma, a riddle she would give
 much to solve. Sitting by the hour in
 utter silence, holding hands, will in
 time get upon the nerves of the most Iphlegmatfc of women.
 1 Such lovers are the kind who do not
 think it amiss to carry on this man.
 ner of so-ca3led courtship year in and year out until the girls realtives ol 1 friends consider it high time to cause him to speak out and tell what he in
 tends to do.
 I Spirited women are more apt than 1 not to weary of such a companion Il becomes a hard proposition to them tc wonder If it would be best to stand that sort of companionship for life o1 whc her or no some other man might prove more congenial. Speeches. lov. CTS mean well, no doubt. but they Ishould not be surprised if a more agreeable man cuts them out