The herald., 1916-06-15
The Education of
Marriage
BY ELlNOR MARSH

II ANNNS 40 "lA " NAAA AANSASt oIN
man can't do it as the birds do, by
getting together a few Straws and 9th
er such material. He must have mon
ey to pay for his dOmicile.
Young persons-very young persons
don't look upon matrimOny with the
misgivingS of their elders. Jim'S idea
or a home was a comfortable house
with a very nice wife in it. or at least
a suit Of rooms. He was to own the
house and the wife and the furniture.
The wife was TO be there to minister
to his wants and comforts.
Jennie Owens was the daughter Of
a widow. Jennie was twenty years
old. She was a high school graduate
and aimed partly to support herself
and her mother, who had n little in
come, by ste~nOgraphy and typewrit-
Ing. But jim Hawks came along,
talked very sweetly to her and In time
induced her TO marry him. Both want
ed a home; both wanted to fulfill the
destiny nature intended for them.
This was all very well, but neither
had been educated to matrimony.
Jim had his ~preconceived notions of
what his wife should be 10 him and
she mad her preconceived notions Of
what he should he to her. AS soon as
the honeymoon ended these
ed notions began to clash. Jim's habit
or saving money did not grow less with
Two 10 provide for. He kept control of
the cash and pinched his wife for
small expenditures. He had not been
used to considering the requirements
or any n except himself and needed
practice TO become used TO CONSIDERING
those OF another. lie was not exactly
what his wife expected TO find him
ana she thought that I'm certain re-
sPects she might make him over. She
remained in their three rooms all dov
and when evening came needed n
change OF scene. to say nothing of
recreation. Jim worked hard all dav
and when evening came desired to
rest. Besides, going out required some
expenditure, If only car fare. And
when it was necessary to spend money
ne was used TO spending 1t on himself
AheSe things caused scraps, and the
scraps gradually grew to he duarrels
Jennie usually had the right of tho
question, but did not know how TO rso
IL so as to impress her husband that
he was i'll the wrong. While ba was
wrong In trying to dominate her she
acted uneducatedly.
One evening Jennie desired Jim 70 90
with her to an evening party given bv
one OF her friends. Jim wouldn't 90
She SAID she would go alone and asked
MIN TO come to bring her home. ITa
maze no reply. She went. and since
did not come for her she remained
at her friends all night. She shouId
nave gone home early the next dav
Dut instead spent the day and the night
WIN her mother. On returning tho
next day she found her home deserted
Here was a break between two nor.
who, II they could have been nre
pared for their parts. might have GOT
this early married period. have
aduail become used to each other
inu settled down into a happy married
lie. what a contrast between this
intagonism and the mutual depend.
nee or ten or twenty years lateri
Jennie made an efrort for q reoo,
lnation. but since she did not accom-
ANY 1t by a confession that she. and
ne only, was in the wrong Jim paid
attention to her pleadings. Then
Ter mother advised her to let him
II he ever came to realIze that
70 was giving up that which was pleas. !
ne and e%nnobling for his p~reconceiyed
Iolions or what a wife should be 70 [
I'M ne would very likely conquer his
rlue n return to her. II not she
ould do no more than she had dono
nj the matter must adiust ftseIf or
emaln unadjusted without anv fur.
ner action on her part. u
for awhile Jim persuaded himself
nat he had acted the part of a strong +,
IN asserting himself and In re-
to live with a woman who nc /
9 expressed 1t, would take the bit
her teeth and u away with every.
ing But he had been very happy
'r awhile In his home with his wife $
is mother had taken his part In his
lsagreements with his wife. and no II
ent to live with her. But he had
'acned an age when a man crav O
y " rooftree and hearthstone. and II
was mo- satisfied. He met with an
cldent In his work, and, though his
other cared for him tenderly. he 4,
ned Tor his wife. Between her and
IN was a deathly silence. Jennie did =.
It try to win him back to her. He
as a man Of strong will and must 90
3 W way. Besides, no reunion II
uld last unless he became satisfied
at MS wife had rights as well as
one day Jennie heard a click at the -
re and, looking out through n win.
W. saw her husband coming. With
a'pfAe eyes and a smile she went TO ~,
eet ham. !"
'Jende." he said, "I treated Won =,
uta'Iy. Will you forgive meY" =,
1t wss all my fault" she replied. ~
'Ious aave to stand a lot IL Won %
os<k to me. I've a bad temper" ~
tSS to correct my faults" w
mere were quarrels after that be- "
cen them, but Jim made a rule that
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