The Ordway new era., 1916-01-28
ARE eLopEmeNTs uNLuckY7

Now you are gone-and hour by hour
muse of things l long to share.
there's not a bud. q leaf, flower
But helps me miss you everywhere!
When q love match does not meet
the approval of the family. should .
girl take the marriage reins in her
own hands and elope rather than give
up the man she loves?" This is the
query / receive in letters from girls
in almost all parts Of the country.
When wedlock Is the most serious
problem OF life it cannot be entered
into without much careful considera.
ton. Many a girl meets a dashins
young fellow today. Without much
thought OF the future, he makes 70
mantle love to her by paying her
tiowery compliments. The girl i'm
agines that she reciprocates his affec.
tion forthwith. In an enthusiastic mo.
ment, after seeing her home. he makes
hasty proposal. Without ado. the
girl accepts him. They find the road
to matrimony not 80 easy as they had
expected. The father and mother of
the young man set up q vigorous pro
test when they find out what he has
done. 1t is followed by q storm OF
reproaches. How could you support
a wife?' exclaim his parents In ono
and the same breath. Couldn't she
come homer" he queries. Decidedly
MOI" answers his mother. There's no
home big enough for two families.
Wen get along somehow" responds
the young man anxiously. The angry
father will not discuss the case fur.
ther than to say: AS you make your
bed you'll have to lie in It." He slams
the door after him as he goes out.
The girls parents were equally dis
pleased when she informed them Of
her betrothal Engaged to a man
whom you have been acquainted with
SO short time!" gasps her mother.
And without our sanction?" supple.
ments her father sternly. adding
sharply: Il refuse to entertain such
an affair. The proposition as to wheth.
er you could marry or not should have
been put up to me. don't know who
or what this young fellow is. Ill put
a stop to 1t before it goes any fur.
ther." III you do we'll elope." sobs
the girl. Charlie said we would II
either his folks or mine raised any
objection" Her folks paid no atten.
tion to the covert threat. Soon after,
there were two very much surprised
families in town; for the intelligence
reached them that the young folks
have taken the reins into their own
hands and eloped.
Tying the marriage knot is the easi.
est part of it. But after that-what?
II both families prove unrelenting
they face ordeals which they are Ill
prepared to meet. Love under difiicul.
ties sounds very romantic, but in real
life it's decidedly unpleasant. A hall
bedroom and doing the cooking-if
there is anything to cook-do not feed
the flame of love. On the contrary, II
has withering effect upon It. The
young man who has been used to sit.
ting down to good table without the
worry OF providing for 1t, does not
prove a very jovial companion. II
does not take both Of them long ia
realize that their elopement was the
wrong thing.
Swift courtship and hasty marriages
are. more often than not, fatal to hap.
piness. Everything can be gained by
waiting. By seeing more Of the youns
man. the girls parents grow to like
him. They look forward with pleas.
ure to the time they shall give the
treasure of their hearts to his keep.
ing. Time also works favorably In re.
gard to the young mans folks, Takins
her constantly to call upon them. the
sweet, innocent young girl who ioyes
their son Is sure to win her way to
their affections. The father stands
ready to help the boy-to put him on
his feet. =
Elopers may be forgiven by both
sides. but 1t leaves q bitter sting n
the hearts Of those who should nave
consented. Happiness goes with par.
entail blessings. No couple can a0Iord
to elope and trust to luck after.
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