Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1916-11-25
ADVlCE FOR
YOUR GIRLS
Instruct Them Care
! fully While They
! Are Young.
BY MRS. McCUNE.
EgTa F there be any one whose power
III M Is In beauty, in purity. In good
HsM ness, 1t is woman"
nv NIDc McCINE

IA W III III Deduly, III purify III soou-
M ness, 1t Is woman"
II is every woman's desire
70 be loved and even in her most In
discreet moments, could you get TO the
Iheart oi the matter, you would discov-
or that she is only seeking admiration
and affection. This Is more trans
lparent with the growing girl, because
she has not yet learned to hide her
feelings, and In consequence does
many rash things.
This Ia the reason why she fiirts. ex-
changes pictures and iewelry. and al
lows famlliarities with boys Of whom
che knows very little,
The parent Is either too weak mind
cd or Ignorant to influence her daugh-
ter In tho right direction. or she goes
to the other extreme and forbids all In
ltercourse with boys
The first course permits the Girl to
take any liberties with her home and
its hospltallties. and, having no respect
for her mothers judgment and pos
sessing none herself, she welcomes
|anybody she happens to meet.
1 The second course is even more
blnmable. A normal girl seeks inter-
course with boys. and will get II
/ whether her parents approve or not.
I Rhe will meet them at other girls
houses, or even worse. on the streets.
and. having no power of discrimina
ton. results are often disastrous.
| It Is the mothers duty to see that
her daughter meets the right men.
Hven II this side of her nature deyol-
, ops early. due, perhaps, to environment
or companions, she would do better to
allow the boys than to refuse her
daughter their companionship. She
eau and should discriminate, however,
and so exercise stronger influence
than otherwise on the girls life.
There comes time when the prin-
4 ciple OF life should be explained by the
mother to her daughter She herself
knows best when this time arrives, and
never should she shirk what is per-
haps her highest duty Many who call
themselves mother" shrink from tEis
salving their consclences with the
thought that It Is unwomanly TO speak
of such a subject thereby forcing the
child to learn from outside sources
The mother Ia the girls nearest and
dearest friend. and she alone can pre-
sent this knowledge in delicate way.
| far better than can doubtful book, or
| girl friend. II there were less retl-
cence about such matters between
mothers and daughters, there would be
less freedom between boys aud girls
aud more properly placed modesty
IL is the mother who can best ex-
| plain to her daughter why kissing, Ia
itself perfectly proper, Is better re-
fused to u man until the ideal Is found,
aud an engagement exists. II the
mother be an up-to-date woman in 9TH
or respects. her daughter will respect
her opinion in this matter. also.
Every girl has an ideal woman She
may be the heroine OF book, crea-
ture OF her mind, or real woman: no
matter, she must be beautiful. But
does she analy2e her further demand
ing for her beauty OF speed and action
graciousness Of manner. straightness
of mind and desire?
1t is q good plan to spend shcrt
tine each day in thought. Every girl
OF growing age indulses In dreams. -
40 she can spare little time 10 pie
ture the Attributes of her ideal woman.
She should make II plan to model
herself daily upon her ideal. and she
will find herself improving, but even
then she will have work to do, for her
Ideal has not been standing still. but
advancing as she progresses.
Girls, can you imagine your ideal
flirting on street corners. exchanging
pictures or rings with men whom she
has met perhaps once. kissing boys
who place no value ON what should be
a precious privilege? Can you imagine
her losing her womanly dignity TO
chase after" boy who is already
tired OF her foollshness?
Or do you picture her attracting
through sheer force OF character as
well as personality2 Don't you want
her TO refuse overtures OF affection
from Tom. Dick and Harry. and keen
her heart In reserve for the one man
who is worthy of both her respect and
love? ! am sure that you do. And as
surely as you want your ideal 10 be-
have in this manner. so YOU will act
yourself