French Broad hustler and Western Carolina Democrat. [volume] (Hendersonville, N.C.) 1915-1916, 1916-02-03
CHOOSING 4 HUSBAND
Here Comes the Farmer Gfrrs Time of
Testing in Perhaps the Most I'M
pOrtant Even of Her Whole Life.

This is a great question, a question
which must some day be asked by
every farmer girl-4How shall / be
sure I am giving my heart into the
best possible keeping?" So much de-
ponds upon how that question is al
sWered. Because it is not a matter OF
"a few days; it is for life, last as long
as it may; and if a mistake should be
made SO that the law is called to undo
what the law has done, life cannot be
the same it was before. The scars
will last through all time. Something
viii have hurt the heart so that il
never can reach the happiness II
might otherwise have reached. How,
sure that she is doing the best possible
heart o?'
That time will surely come. Every
girl knows it will. She is waiting for
it to some, and somewhere there is a
young man who will come with the
question on his lips. For that is Gods
way. The heart needs and must have
a mate. Somewhere a new home
must be built. In Gods time a new
home must be set up; so that in look
ing forward to this day neither the.
young man nor the young woman is
making mistake. And to make the
right decision. so that the right anS
sWer may be given, the heart of the.
! girl must always be going out in right
Zines her mind must be thinking along
proper channels, her life must be. de-
Ve!oplng after the best possible plan,
SO that when the critical time comes
it may not surprise her into doing
what will bring regret and pain
through her life.
First, then, dear farmer girl friend
OF mine, set up in your mind a high
Iideal for the young man who will ona
day come to you asking you to give
him the best, the choicest, the most
lovely and precious thing you have to
giye-your hearts best love. Nov
this does not mean that you shall al
ways be thinking, some day a hand
some, rich. grand young fellow will
ask me to be his Wife!" That may be
SO but do not set your heart upon it,
so that when the right one comes he
nay not be the very handsomest man
iii all the world, but rich in good
works and grand in the beauty of his
character. No one ever was made
A"pPJ simply Ny "OI4CGs II LAKES
something more than that to bring
peace and joy to the soul.
Think, rather, "By-and-by he will
Gene to me-my souls mate! His
hands may be hard, he may not be yery
well posted in the ways of society,
perhaps the home to which he will
take me will not be very grand: but
stall know that with him 1 shall be
happy. I "a give him my souls best
~fearlessly and he will keep the treas
ure safe!"
TO do this you will every day be
living so that when he does come you
viii know him and he will know YOU
and neither of you will ever feel tina.
you ought to have done anything else
but to pledge yourselves each to the
other.
So get ready now; every day build
something into yoE life that will fit
you for the day that is coming. 1t is
right that you should learn how to do
al the little things that need to be
done in the home. day by day. Make
IL, then, the joy of your life to study
at the feet of your best earthly friend
Mother. Ask her to show you every
thing she noWs so we'll how to dc
about cooking a'd sewing and caring
for a home. Be glad to learn the sim
p!est things. The day will come when
you will be proud that you had :
mother so true and so devoted to your
best good.
And keep the door of your heart
open to Mother. She is worthy of 1t.
She loves you as nobody ever will
llove you. She longs that you shall be
and do the very best you can in life.
Never grow away from mother. Tell
heH all the little secrets OF your heart.
Let her tell you the things she knows
you will need to, know in the days to
come And be true and frank and
open with father and the boys, too.
Live near to them. Give them a place
i'll your girlhood life that no other men
ever can have.
And learn all the world about you
has to teach. Birds, flowers, trees
and grasses-these are all worthy OF
tplace in the education the farm has to
give you. Books and music and 4
knowledge of the world you can get
anywhere and at any time, but the
country and all it can give you must
be learned day by day now as you
pass along.
And give something of your time to
the work of the out-of-doors. Know
how men do their work. It will not
harm you to do some of the things
men must do, within the bounds of
your strength. No one knows what
the future may hold in its grasp for
you.
And through all keep CHEEKY. The
girl the world loves is the girl whose
heart is always bright and full OF
goodness. This means that under all
and through all your life there shall
be something deeper, something
grander than is wrapped up in the
everyday work of the farm. Drink
deep at the fountain of this, richer
blessiRg-the blessing which makes
| al, who bend the knee af ifa brink