Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1916-07-08
Just What to Do
When Man S Love
is Growing Gold

1t is not until man realizes that
he is tired of girl, and never real
ly was in love with her, that he also
realizes how foolishly he has acted.
1t amazes him to find that he has
gone so far as to be considered the
| fiancee of the maid, whose whole at
tention has been given him for long
time--for many of these affairs re-
suit in an understanding that is the
equivalent of a proposal.
Then, not knowing how to get out
of the tangle in which he has become
entangled, he falls back upon the
unmanly. t.s.
Then, not knowing how to get out
of the tangle in which he has become
enmeshed, he falls back upon the un-
manly method of neglecting the girl
he has hitherto courted and fattered.
True, this is little more foolish than
the former recklessHess OF his con-
duct, but it causes good deal of suf-
fering to woman who has loved in
nocently and too well, and is de-
serving OF better treatment. ~
Having got no real reason to give
for his coldness, except the bold
statement that he has made a mis-
take, he shirks the issue He knows
that if he tells the truth he has to
account for many statements that
seem to prove the contrary.
A mans methods are often coward
ly in dealing with the woman for
whom he has ceased to care. He
tries to force her to break with him
by giving her ample grounds for conf
plant, but woman is usually too
generous and too loving to take adj
vantage of his devices. Her cry is:
why are you so changedl"
She cannot understand why, the
lover who has left her with fond
good-by can go away and put her
out Of his mind. She writes him
frank open letters, the pleading, I'M
ploring ones, begging all the time
that he will tell her what she has
done to vex him. He cannot tell her
without putting all the blame on him
self, without showing that he has not
acted manly part But even if he
could and is not disposed to, his con-
duct should show her that his love
is dying. The signs are unmistak-
able.
Is there a woman who, being thus
treated, does not know the truth. at
the beginning? She does, but sM>
will not admit it. Yet all the time,
from the moment when the first
doubt arose in her mind, she has
known it.
There is only one thing to do
when mans love is dead and that
is to let him go. To win back his
love" is next to an impossibility. 1t
lis pathetic sight to see two people,
one madly in love with the other, and
the other unable to. reciprocate. And,
yet "try to forget" is the only advice
that can be offered.
A man shows it plainly enough
when he has ceased to love. APP
pointments cease to be sacred, he
cannot summon up courage to write
letters, he is moody and silent, and
shows in his manner all that his tom
que refuses to say.
1t he can get an excuse to 60 or
somewhere away from his fiancee, he
endeayors to bring her to an under
standing of his views by preserving
a strict silence.
Should she not see things as he
wishes her to, she may Be angry
with him, and he will see this pre-
text TO bring about rupture between
them.
ANYTHING to save him from confess
ing that he has not acted well. Usual.
" the disappointments of women are
the outcome of mans infatuation and
false promises.
Were woman not so honest and
so blind in her love, she would sect
through many of the protestatiofs
of affection made by man, and know