The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1916-04-20

Rage out the written troubles of the brain;
 And, with some sweet oblivious anti
 dote,
 Cleanse the bosom of that ranking
 Which weighs upon the heart?''
 1t is not always . successful under taking-waking mans sleeping heart. The woman who undertakes it who follows after who will capture the coveted citadel with scarcely an effort.
 A woman observes this apparently lonely bachelor GOT widower and, feel ing sorry for the empty life he is lead ing, concludes the best way to help him to happiness is to make every ef- fort to aid him to wed. She further more resolves there is no one more eminently fitted to secure his lifelong happiness than herself.
 She lays plans for her siege as care fully as any general facing an expect ed battle could. She knows how the most careless of men revere the church-going woman and respect her zeal in the cause. Therefore he is not unduly surprised when she stops him on the street, instead of passing him custom for~years, inviting him to the oyster supper. at her church and mak- ing him promise he will come. It is difficult to get old bachelor or a seasoned~widower out of his beat ened path. Only a very determined, persistent woman could accomplish it. Such men are. however, sticklers con- Icerning. their given word. It is their bond; they are sure to abide by it. 1 The oyster supper is but the forerun- ner to an invitation to her home. Calling on the gentler sex is far and from ha cd but, again, not knowing how to re- fuse and get away with it. he calls. 1 The home is, so pleasant and the lady so genial he is induced to wander thither again and again. It is a gen. uine surprise to him that any woman could find his society agreeable, be pleased to entertain him. He begins to consider himself a person of much | more importance than he imagined. He is sure other women must be ad- miring him quite much and per haps secretly signing for him. He commences to look around When this happens. he usually finds some slip. of a girl who is alert in looking about for a tfgood match for herself. She doesn't fancy him at zal1 but well-he has money and every girl is not lucky enough to find youth, love and. wealth in the possession of the
 man she could care for
 The elder woman who blazed the trail. awakening his liking for wo- mems society, sits by her lonely fire side cogitating 0ver why he comes no more. When she meets him out in company with the pretty young girl his staying away is no longer a CO., | nundrun to her. She guesses it i11- lstantly-she has warmed his heart for some one else. It is always the pi- loneer in everything who clears the track, making the road easy for those who come after.
 The moral of this little chat is that no woman should try to force her way to mans heart. If she does, she is more than likely to- have her trouble 1 for her pains. If a man has no in clination to make himself agreeable, to WOO and wed, let him alone. He prob ably has his own very good reasons for, not wishing either to mingle in the society of maria geable women or +l give them encouragement to con sfder him as a marrying man. ! Once in a while there is really and truly a bachelor or widower~ who is fancy fire, but they are as scarce as four-Ieaved cIovers and as hard to
 find. If a man is obstinate about keep ing his promise to call, do not lament over it. Your guardian angel may be doing you very good service in keep ing him away, !