South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1916-01-12
No Secret About
Marital Bliss
BY Ada Patterson.

There's no secret about happiness
in marriage" said a famous man on
the occasion Of the golden anniver-
sary of his wedding. Yet by his
next words he proved that there is
a secret, a double secret, of such
happiness and he gave it,
My wife has always let me alone
on occasions and have let her alone
Then when she saw l needed help
she ask me what she could do for
me and did it, When she was not
exactly pleased with anything I ask
ed her what / could do TO help her.
That's all"
All OF the secret OF happiness in
consumption Although opium is
ers and philosophers and poets and
playwrights. all the married and I'M
married. are striving after and Of
which some are ready to abandon
the search in despair. There are
many persons in marriage, and some
out Of it, who are convinced that
happiness cannot be found in that
state. only resignation.
! Here comes the man who ends
their doubts. Happiness in consid-
Grafton, the two kinds. passive and
active. In the welded state con-
sists in judicious letting alone and in
/ discreet offers Of assistance.
Think that over. IL reminds me
[ of what a great editor said to me
about newspaper work 1t has but
T two arts. how TO make a big thing
e
a big one.
: The woman who knows when TO
use a paddock Of silence is the mis-
tress of practically any matrimonial
/ situation For i'll timed words are
oil on the flames Of discord. They
| are the fat in the fire. They are
! salt in wounds. They are din to
tired nerves, heavy hand upon a
hurt
The man who knows that TO ask
a tired woman, why did you do
/ this?" is to make her want to hurl
! dishes at him doesn't say it, He
waits until she is rested. smiling. un-
! hurried, at peace with the world.
They are great physicians in the
! family circle who know the healing
! of quiet.
There are times when to say: Can I
! help YOU" is to offer an affront. But
there are other times when il says
Peace, be still" to whirling winds
of the soul. especially if there be
children in the household.
There are men-should we call
them sO?-whO think il unmanly.
beneath their lordly dignity. TO help
/ to take care of the children. Such
men would deny themselves parent
hood. 1t is a strange Iopsided world
that permits women TO literally slave
themselves to death. in taking care
OF children, and always allows men
10 look upon the little ones as more
/ disturbers of their rest, creatures
that raise row while a man is
trying to read his newspaper"
1 know a band president and
treasurer Of one of the richest and
most pOpulous counties of the east
whom 1 have seen pushing the per-
ambulater in his home block while
the nurse took the older children
into the shop. l have seen him
spreading apple butter on chick
slices of buttered bread while his
wife was at a church social and the
housemaid was on an errand. to APP
, pease their after school pangs OF
hunger. He is one OF the best bust
ness men and most intelligent and
prominent citizens in his part OF the
state. I should be sorry for any
poor whipper snapper who deserved
punishment at his hands They are
big and strong enough TO crush vet
tender enough to wipe away tears
Of a child
Heaven bless the men who are
manly enough 10 offer their help "a
women. And heaven equally bless
the woman who makes tender offers
OF her sympathetic help to the man
her man, when he needs il.
\ POOR PLACE