Norwich bulletin., 1916-02-12
THE MAN WHO TALKS

THE MAN WHO TALKS
 If you are inclined to feel discour- aged just break up the habit of com- parfng your expectations with your attachments. Nine -tenths of the ex- pectations of life are illusions-things which can never be realized. We ex- pect people to in some way aid us when they can see no reason for do- ing so; and we expect people to man. fest thanks as we think they should instead of as they are inspired to; and we expect people to be polite to us when we are not especially polite to them. We set our hearts upon pro- fitting by a scheme which was design ed to fleece us, and when it proves a poor partnership for us we are dis, couraged. There are three things can hope for-good health, clear perception and a merry heart; and they are just as easy to cultivate as any of the bad habits which keep us despair. Cut out those expectations and find pleasure in the best you are getting now.
 It is of less importance to us where Paradise is located than how our mind Is cultivated. The mind that can hatch a bugaboo or start a fear every hour couldn't find happiness in Heaven. Misery and indigestion may be improved by the use of medicated tablets. but happiness cannot be pro- duced by artificial agents. Indwell- ing joy finds its place in the heart when the heart has been prepared for its habitation. Physical and spiritual happiness are states of feeling pro- duced by harmonious relation to the good and the true, by pure minded ness and acts prompted by charity and love. Pious whimpering doesn't ex- cite heavenly interest in any one pious action is the thing which makes the human mind an attractive place to the holy spirit, and its conjunction with the human soul produces the happiness which abides forever.
 A man who loses money but gains wisdom thereby is ahead of the game. There are compensations which come to us in reverse order. We cannot eat our cake and have it, but we get a lot of attention if it provokes our stomachs to protest, and perhaps have a doctor. A misstep gives us a fall which learns us to be more careful. Many a man has lost his fortune and discovered thereby that he was rid of slid down hiu has never realized the exhilirating pleasure of a second climb. Misfortune often proves to have been good fortune if we only get the right view point. The spirit of man was designed to rise above cir constance, and it cannot be held down. Look up, think up and fly up, and leave the other path to Lucifer. Adversity Is a test of ability and of friendship. You cant's make a silk purse from a sow's ear, but you can get a lot of power from hope.
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 These days there is much talk about honor. Did you ever think of the hon. or represented on calvary in compari- son with the honor which marks the warlords of today-the honor of love and the honor Of vengeance-the honor which brought peace to man. and the honor which resorts to the sword. The honor of war is compelling 5000, 900 Polanders and 7,00o,000 Hebrews to fratricidal action and destroying life and property. The Kaiser says the entente may starve his people, but he cannot surrender without honor! The honor of love says: He who resorts to the sword shall die by the sword The honor of vengeance declares: He who doesn't resort to the sword is an easy mark" What worthless thing the honor is which bushes at no crime knows no shame, promotes mur- der and plunder and mocks at mercy. Is not this the honor Gotten describes which feeds us with air, and often pulls down our houses to build our monument?"
 The only way to find out what there is in a person is to give him the op- portunity to gather self-reliance, and to develop his capacity. There is nothing which will destroy ones con- fidence in themselves more than the expressed lack of confidence of those how 1nryo a successful and perhaps brilliant career has been nipped in the bud by an unwholesome and discouraging at mosphere. It Is a good thing to be so conscious of what can be done that you have no time to think or discuss what can't be done. One-half the world gives too much attention to neg alive thought which has always been and always will be check to progress No enterprise looks our way to in- quire what we can't do, the whole in- terest is centered upon what we can do Do not have too many T cantS" hang ing to your speech if you desire. to make a good impression. What you can't do cuts no ice; what you can do may command a big salary.
 near phiiosoper says: 'Tf a man ever becomes. civilized it Is through the influence of some good woman" It is apparent that this writer doesn't take much stock in what is generally recognized as civilization. As we look at Europe today Christian civilization is such a thin veneering that the sav- age Is plainly seen through it. As We look at some men in moments of op- position or embarrassment the savage is seen to loom up. Victor Hugo rec ogntzed the value of woman as a civ l ilizer when he said: If you would civilize a man begin with his grand mother"-begtn on the feminine side of the house and you may accomplish the task in two generations. CiYili- zation seems to be a fabric of pre- | tence-something capable of giving a 1 superficial brilliancy to life. Civiliza- tion represents the top of the wave of life and barbarism the hollow just be- low-they are never far apart A good woman can hold in the charac- | ter of her mate through love the great principles which Christ added to the character of men from love.
 l Some men have too much faith in the dollar. It may be able to remove mountains, but it cannot hide the 1 blemishes in a mans character. It may buy legislator or an officer, but 1t cannot purchase reserved seat in