El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1916-06-13
Beatrice Fairfax Writes on
Running Away From Yourself
1t Can't Be Done and When Attempted Ends OnIv in
Sorrow.
By BEATRICE FAIRFAx.

THERE are two ways OF facing
trouble-facing it and coming tc
conclusions with it, or running
away from it. The average person
who has sorrow. unhappiness or dis
appointment TO face. is very likely to
make a futile effort TO conquer trou-
bic, and if that proves vain to seek
diversion as a means Of forgetting.
Sorrow cannot be drowned It seems
u have more lives than the proverbiaI
cat The only way TO meet trouble
at all successfully Is to face It and
conquer tiff conquest is possible
and II II is not possible. to accept
it and arrange life on a practical ba-
sis, according TO your means and
deprivations.
Sorrow that is run away from has
way OF running after Sorrow that
IS drowned has a way Of proving that
Il still lives And trouble that is
slain by dissipation becomes at last
a haunting ghost
Running away from sorrow might
be practical possibility but for one
thing None OF US can run away from
himself
Myself have I ever with me-" said
= great philosopher And that IS as
as true a statement as IL is simple.
Facing Difficulties.
At some stage Of life's game every
one is forced TO turn and face his
difficulty, and when he does he finds
that it is no product OF circumstance
on the external world which is caus-
ing his suffering, but rather his own
nature
A girl friend OF mine went through
two miserably unhappy love affairs
When the first man with whom she
fanclsd herself in love Tilted her she
plunged into a round Of gayety in or
der to forget him But she did not
forget Diversion kept her busy and
gave her the semblance OF employ
ment, but deep within herself there
atty.
The Wrong Way.
She became reckless and plunged ]
into a second affair with man of 1
whom she knew far too little. And 1
he proved TO be married Then the i
girl sought forgetfulness in travel 4
She managed, it is true, TO conquer 4
her longing for the man who had i
deceived her, but she became fright
fully cynical and unhappy, and in her
heart grew grave doubt as TO her abil-
lty to attract the right sort OF man. /
She began TO think OF herself as fore
doomed 70 suffer unhappiness and dis J
appointment IN love
It had never occurred TO her TO turn /
braveiy and face the situation. And Z
then. for third time, love came into
her life, and for third time she met Z
with disloyaity- This time she went
10 work. Her one ability Law in de-
signing clever hats. At the end Of
two years she had a very smart shop
and a great deal OF respect for her
self as a young woman who could
make a place for herself in the world
Of work
Recently she said to me the words
that inspired this article: No matter
how far away I ran from the scene
of my suffering. the memory of II
came with me-for il was a part of
me When I stayed right there and I
laced the trouble. and determined TO /
conquer myself, I succeeded .Iood ]
lines and change Of scene didn't helm ]
ne at all Work did When I filled I
ny mind with thoughts that centered
IN effort and success IT Just hadn't !
my more room for bitterness OF doubt
" cynicism."
Trouble is not what happens to you
1t IS the effect that happening has