Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1916-12-23
OF INTEREST TO THE WOMEN
The Folly of Marrying

, greater stature and stronger muscle
than he did woman, he meant us to
| look up to our husbands and not down
upon them. That's the way we were
built. my dear, and the plans and spe-
cifioations upon which a woman's S
heart was originally constructed have
never been altered. The only happy
homes are those in which you find
the wife trailing along after the hus-
band or walking hand in hand with
him. You will never find either peace
or contentment where the wife leads
the way, and the husband holds on TO
her petticoat like toddling child to
mother.
But, you will say, you do not expect
Poor Dick to be always Poor Dick"
Look about you, child. You have
seen many women marry Shiftless,
drunken loafers. How many of them
have you seen succeed in making these
into prosperous and honored business
or professional men?
"A Woman Can Help or Hinder Her
Husband, but Che Can't Make Him
Not one. The men who run the
bands and big stores and manufactor-
les; the men who are leading lawyers
and doctors. and editors and preach
ers; the men who are elected to high
office were not weaklings made by
their wives. They were strong men
who carved out their own fortunes.
They do not owe their rise to any wo-
mans influence. They got there by
their own hustle and push.
There's just one job, my dear, that
every man has got to do for himself,
and that is to make his own charac-
ter. A woman may scallop 1t around
the edges and embroider blue forget
me-not in one corner, or she may wear
it into n fraZZle in spot or two, but
that's just about all she can do. It's
nc fav h tt,H, l,n
make her husband happy or miserable.
She can help him to success more
quickly or delay his getting there, but
she can't keep him down If he's good
man, and she can't make him rise if
he's poor one.
If man won't refrain from drink
ing too much because of his own self
respect he won't do it for any wife.
If he will not work and support him
self because he would rather die than
eat the bread of dependence he will
never toll to support a family, If he
has no sense of responsibility just of
himself. no woman can implant it in
him any more than she could graft
on to him voice like Caruso's.
Why Marry u Grade B Man When
There Are So Many Better Ones
at Hand?
OF course, you will say that there
have been men who We're idle, worth
less and dissipated in their youth who
braced up after marriage and became
decent men. Possibly. But these men
We're not of the Poor Dick" type.
They reformed for themselves, and not
for their wives. And, anyway, why
marry an inferior creature that, at
best you can only hope to make over
into a second-rate sort of a man when
there are so many perfectly good men
to be had for the catching?
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of the balance of my counsel, take this
one piece of advice: Before you mar
ry shiftless drunkard, who has never
even made living for himself, go
down into the most squalid part of the
town, rent one miserable room, and
try taking in washing for a week, to
see how you like the life of drunk
ards wife-for that's just about the
sort of a lot in life you're going to
draw if you marry one.