Harrisburg telegraph. [volume] (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, 1916-10-17
OF INTEREST TO THE WOMEN
MAKING MOUNTAINS

hold that IL married couple can
motor will not-get along in peace
together they had much better sepa-
rate and go their separate ways, but
before a woman leaves good hus-
band and a good home for such n
| trivial cause as a mans staying out an
hour or two later than she wants him
to, she will do we'll to sit down and
have a long, quiet think.
The woman in this particular case
has child Let her reflect, before
she deprives the child of a father, of
all that will mean to the little girl.
The loss of a fathers love, the loss of
a fathers influence. are not to be
measured.
No matter what a mother does for
a child, she can never make up to 1t
and no matter how woman herself
may suffer, she is not justified in de-
priving her child of it's father unless
the father is actually vicious.
Also, this woman is proposing to de-
| liberately take away from the child
her pride of name and ancestry, since
any child must surely reason that her
father must have been an unworthy
and dishonorable man. If its mother
| had to leave him. And in addition
the mother Is planning to deprive the
child of the advantages that the
money the father earns could have
given it, since even the courts require
man to pay only a small proportion
of his income in alimony.
There is no disputing the fact that
the children in Il divorce are the real
sufferers. and have a heavy handicap
laid upon them.
| AS for the woman herself, she will
find out that divorce, more than any
thing else in the world, illustrates the
/ !, F,t Nf Ia,, ott nf
the frying pan into the fire. To the
wife smarting under the sense of her
own wrongs, and burning with jeal-
| ousies, the divorce decree seems the
! open door into peace and freedom, but
when she passes through it she finds
that her last estate is worse than her
| first.
She finds out that the very people
who have egged her on to get di-
Vorce don't want to be bothered with
her after she has got it. Her own
family may have sympathized ever so
deeply with her troubles, but they
don't want her to come back home
and live with them, and she ascertains
with bitterness and sorrow that a wo-
man with a husband and a home has
a position in society that Il divorcee
uncertain of her alimony. hasn't got.
No state in life is a bed of roses
Certainly that of many married wo-
men is plentifully supplied with
thorns, but divorce isn't the way tc
extract them. No other woman is sc
crucified by spikes as the foolish wife
who for some whim of hurt pride, OIL
outraged dignity, or silly jealousy, di-
vorces her husband, and finds herself
without home or friends, forced out
into the world to earn a living.
She couldn't put up with her hus-
bands faults, but she's got to put ur
with the faults of her employers. And
you may be very sure that If they had
it to do over again, nine-tenths of the
women who have rushed so blithely
into the divorce court would shut their
eyes to the shortcomings in their hus-
bands they couldn't forgive before.
They're found out the bitter truth
that it's better to bear the ills you
have than to fly to those you know
not of. And that a husband who is
kind, and makes a good living, and
gives his wife a good home is to be
preferred, even though he does not
come up to ones ideal of perfection, tc
a decree absolute.