South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1916-04-03
Tea Table Talks
TT - WORTH WAITING FOR.
By May De WItt Talmage


We three had a most interesting
discussion last night; the Pessimist,
the Materialist. the Idsalist.
Which do you think brings the
greatest happiness, marriage
founded on love OF one on congenial-
ity and companionship? asked the
Materialist.
why. love means all that" eS-
claimed the Idealist
NO, love does not mean all that
answered the Materialist. I'VE have
all known OF people who have mar
ried because they thought they were
m ily in love, and then after mar
riage, everything was discovered 10
be absolutely tame and uninteresting.
What do you call iove?"
you and and all OF us have our
own conception Of the word" said
the Idealist. The real thing is as
rare as the most precious jewel. Love
and its meaning is not only made Of
the stuff that dreams are made Of.
but its integral value is the same 10
every one. 1t is something every
one hopes TO have. II is something
that comes 10 all in a greater or less
Gegree before life's journey is over"
But how is one 10 differentiate
between the false love and the real
thing? ." asked the Pessimist. THAT
very intensity and mad impetuosity
and perseverance Of imitation love
give the semblance Of being the
greatest kind Of love. A girl. woman
a. D,
a Frankenstein, an image created
entirely in their own brain. They
Undue il with all their ideals and
wishes and Inspirations. The mortal
20 whom they attach all these vir-
tues is often the very antithesis Of
what they are imagining They love
not what is. but what they imagine
could be. False love is a theme that
runs through all our literature and
plays today.
To the unsophisticated it should
not be an unknown quality and il is
something that should be recognized
and reckOned with. There is such a
semblance between real love and
/ passion and it hardly seems pOssibl
that their roads lead as far apart
as the two poles. The false one is
selfish, egOtistical; like fire it burns
itself out. il is dwarfing and in the
end humiliating.
That's the reason I say if one is
not sure that one has the real thing
companionship and cOngeniality
without love are better to start mat
rimony with rather than vice versa, -
! said the Materialist. Love often
colors life with a roseate hue that
gives a false glamour When that is
gone and life has subsidized to nor
NAL state, there remains a feeling OF
| lassitude, disillusiOnment which if
not combined with the bracing tonic
of companionship and congentiality
Will make a rift within the lutte that
/ by and by makes the music mute
"COmpanionship and congeniality
are pretty good mates for team
work. They don't seem TO demand
as much as love. Those four little
| letters hold so much of ache and
pain if what they bespeak is not
/ absolutely sterling. COmpanionshiT
and congeniality sounds so sane and
healthy. 1t suggests a straight sun
| shinny road ahead. No alluring. but
/ confusing shadows. No mystical by
roads that tempt either one to steI
aside. Just jolly good times together
with no misunderstanding doubts OF
! fears
! Neither of you know what yoJ
are talking about" said the Ideal
list. Love encompasses everything
1t is like spring. the awakening oil
I all that is beautiful, the budding OF
fruit and flower, the perpetual ot
ideals and wishes, the fulfllment OF
life 1t is the greatest thing in the
world. It is not an eXpressible state
one has IL, that is all. Ii cannot b'
modified or completed without beins
nuilifed. 1t is a silent word, but i
| contains all. Ii is worth waiting for
1t is worth dying for rather thar
miss the real thing"