The citizen. [volume] (Berea, Ky.) 1899-1958, 1916-12-28

GOOD MANN Frs

there is apparently nothing in IL,
eases our iolts wonderfully - con-
duct is thrce-fourths of life
Matthew Arnold.
Etiquette originally meant the
ticket or tag tied to bag to indi-
cate its contents. II bag had this
ticket il was not examined. From
this the word passed to cards upon
which were printed certain rules to
be- observed by guests. These rules
were the ticket or etiquette.
4 fine manner more than compen-
safes for all the defects of nature.
The most fascinating person is al
ways the one Of most winning man
ners, and not the one with greatest
physical bcauty-"Pretty is as pretty
does" According 10 the Greek
ideal. beauty must be the expression
of attractive qualities within-such
as cheerfulness, benignity, content
ment, charity and love.
Beauty of life and character, as
an art. has no sharp angles. It's lines
seem continuous. so gently does
curve meet into curve. II is sharp
angles that keep many souls from
being beautiful that are almost so.
Many a man and woman might dou-
BILE their influence and success by n
kindly courtesy and fine manner.
A single grain Of musk will scent
room for years without seeming
10 lose any part Of its intrinsic
value: so do we ever radiate an in
fluence Of manner appreciate 10 all
about us and powerful for good or
evil, even though we may not be
conscious Of the difference.
The good-mannercd can do with
out riches, for they have passports
everywhere. All doors fly open 10
them, and they enter without price.
They can enjoy nearly everything
without the trouble of buying or
owning. They are as welcome in
every household as the sunshine;
for they carry light, JOY and sun
shine everywhere they go. They
disdain jealousy and envy, for they
bear goodwill 10 everyone. Bees
will not sting a man smeared with
honey"
Emerson has we'll said that life
is not so short but that there is al
ways time enough for courtesy. A
true woman is gentle, modest. cour-
teous, slow to take ofrense. and never
gives il. She is slow TO surmise
evil, and never thinks il. She sub
dues her feeling, reflnes her tastes,
controls her speech, and deems
every other as good as herself.
Some women almost work their
hands Oft and deny themselves many
Of the common comforts of life in
their earnest efforts TO succeed and
yet render success impossible by
their cross-grained unwOmanliness.
Bad manners often neutralize even
honest industry. and the greatest
energy while agreeable manners
win in spite Of other defects.
Many persons of real refinement
are thought 90 he stiff, proud, re-
served, and naughty. who are not,
but who are merely diffident and
shy. Generally shyness comes from
person thinking too much about
himself and wondering what other
people think about him.
Our manners, like our characters,
are always under inspection. Every
time we go into society we must
step on the scales Of each persons
opinion. and the loss or gain
from our last weight is carefully
noted.
But manners. while they are the
garb Of the gentleman or lady, do
not constitute or finally determine
the character. Mems politenes can
never be substitute for mora
excellence any more than the bark
can take the place Of the heart OF
the oak, Etiquette is but a substi-
tute for good manners, and is often
but their mere counterfeit.
Sincerity is the highest quality Of
good manners.
The following recipe is recon-
mended to those who wish 10 ac-
quire genuine good manners:
Of Unsellshness. three drachms;
Of Tincture Of Good Cheer, one
ounce;
or Essence Of HearCs-ease, three
drachms;
or Extract Of Rose OF sharon, four
ounces.
or the Oil of Charity. three
drachms, land no scruples);
or the Infusion Of Common Sense
and Tact ono ANNA.