Omaha daily bee., 1915-11-04
What Makes a Girl
Attractive?

everything to another one man passes
by beauty and becomes enamored Of
little gray mouse of a woman, simply be-
cause something in her calls to something
In him. and combines with or becomes
the complement OF his nature.
But there Is possible certain amount
OF generalizing as TO what makes for
charm in women Sweetness OF dispos-
tion, reliability well poised common
sense. capability for sane. loyal affec-
ton, quiet tact unselflshness and a
sturdy willingness to play fair. added to
feminine sweetness have charm for
most all mon. II to them are added clev-
crnoss, vivacity and beauty one has, OF
course isioned an almost irresistible
creature.
But the point to remember Is that while
all women are potential mothers, men re-
main always in some essentials boys
Men need TO he understood. but n,y,r
driven with unwelcome advice they want
to be sympathized with. but not inter-
fercd with; they crave woman's friendly
interest. but they don't want her ever TO
suppose that she Is controlling or regu-
lstng or making over their lives.
There perhaps lies mans greatest boy
ishness-he loves TO think he is doing II
all himself but he wants you at his
side to admire him and encourage him
the while he Is doing Il.
Men want affection. but they don't
want to be surfeited with II. They hate
to be taken for granted or naggcd at
because they fail TO come up to expec-
| tations.
Some girls have a cynical little theory
that the way TO keep mans affection
is TO keep him guessing about their
own. Any man worth having desires
some response In friend or sweetheart or
wife--not mere artificial response slim
ulated by himself, but the natural chem
lcal answer OF nature TO nature. the UNI
selfish affection that dares to give 10y
ally without fear that II belittles itself
| I'm giving.
Charm IN woman is not an entirely
elusive thing. nor yet Is It quite so
tangible that II may be bought over the
counter Of life. But It springs primarily
fAbm richness OF nature that makes
woman give out TO life instead OF merely
drawing in from IT,
Charm Is a sort of a perfume that a
sweet. fine, loving and lovable woman
| eNnuleb. ~ botne II IN Nilt lIee xiii VI
the gods BY others It may be cultivated
and cultivated most largely In the very
, way in which most women fail to strive
for Il.
Here In its little open secret; not by
/ wondering How 1 may be lovable p
shall you become lovable. not by think
ing In terms OF yourself shall you be-
& come desirable. But by looking on some
I one for whom you care and thinking
what does he want of life? What does
/ his nature need OF friendship and under
standing7" and then trying to fulfil the
|, understood wants of another nature
r shall you most easily cultivate charm,
Tho girl who conquers her selflshness
: and historical desire to become morbid
e and unhappy over trifles, who teaches
a herself not TO demand as n right the
a gifts Of admiration and love which have
- TO be won and deserved is in fair way
( TO be attractive. And to her attractive
Q ness she may add actual charm II she Is
$ sweet, amlable. equable, loyal. merrilS
a willing to play the game OF life. TO take
I what comes TO her and 20 offer 70 mer
= understanding and sympathy instead Of
demanding II from them.