The Birmingham age-herald., 1915-09-05

their husbands? How much un-
 derstandng of the boy in a mans
 nature?
 A while ago a well known woman writ CT uttered herself on this subject to the effect that most men always remain boys at heart. She instanced this as one of the reasons for failure of comprehen- sion between husbands and wives, de- clarlng that whatever their respective ages. the wife is always older. always more grown. up, than the husband, who retains indefinitely the nature of the boy.
 am inclined to think that she may be right. and that perhaps failure to grasp this fact is at the bottom of the troubles that too frequently arise between mar ried people.
 The threadbare saying that Hove is Of mans life thing apart; tis woman's whole existence." applies to marriage as well as to love, and the woman's way of viewing matrimony often differs radi- cally from a mans idea of 1t. To her it means settling down; a complete change from the sort of life she has led before. To the man. In many circumstances, it means a change of dwelling places and an addition of responsibility in the way of increased expenses, but it does not imply a severance from his former mode of living. He still meets his men asso- ciates in business; still pursues the kind of work he did before; still holds his in- terest in sports. His wife and home are adjuncts chiefly.
 With the woman it is another matter Taken from the life of her girlhood which may either have been free of care or which possibly included self support with no other incumbrances she Is made the head of home the manager of her husbands finances, the housekeeper maid of all work, and. in time, mother and nurse. The girl friends with whom she was intimate see her occa sionally, but their occupations and amusements have remained unchanged, while hers have altered essentially Her very out look on life is other than what it was in the days of her singlehood No wonder she grows up quickly and attains ma turity in a short period.
 am not quarreling with this state of affairs-merely referring to it as a fact. The only point concerning it with which l have any fault to find is the wife's in- ability, in many cases, to recognize that her husband either by nature or condi- tons, holds different standard from her own. and a standard which she should ac- cept if she wishes to make him happy and, Incidentally, herself A man is not woman in trousers, and the difference between the sexes is something far deep CT than physical or even mental variance Look at the matter of his games and relaxations. for instance. l have known a number of women who awed me by their Knowledge of the nice points of baseball, but have yet to meet a married woman of any age who felt the keen interest in sports of any kind which would lead her to stand to watch the records as men of all years will gather to scan the baseball reports. They do 1t not only when con- tests of international importance are holding the attention of the country but also when games of comparatively little value are under way.
 Consider also the question of outdoor recreations of another nature. The man who has loved fishing as a boy continues to cherish 1t as a man and will take him. self off as eagerly with his rod and line at 50 as he did at 15.
 Only few months ago I was talking with a rather distinguished physician WnO WAS pieSSlllS HIS op iiai h tiOsC.
 Where do you go on your vacation doctor?" asked.
 His face kindled at once
 II have Just heard of a stream up in Canada where they tell me there Is some really remarkable fishing" he said. friend of mine tried it last year and told me 1t was wonderful in this day to find place where there was such fine sport. I shall make bee line for 1t the very day my holiday begins, and I am looking for ward to 1t with the keenest enjoyment"
 This interested me especially, because he was the third man in week who had made an answer something like this to my query as to how he would spend his vacation. One was an overworked busi- ness man; the other was a tired lawyer and all three had repeated in effect if not in exact words the phrase of Simon Pe- ter: go a-fishng." I instance these three. but they are only the most re-