The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1915-05-27

mentS of lover
Splendid Present Is like attention.
Bribery. Tbo, NOV. Iotor
awaken to the realization that the only
way to get an absolutely guaranteed
insurance on matrimony is to keep on
paying premiums. Countless first class
marriage policies have lapsed just be,
cause of these imprudently suspended
payments.
These very men at their clubs often
go perilously close to the dead line of
boredom in telling you of the marvel
Gus qualities of their wives They run
the chromatic scale of enthusiasm while
you wonder in dreamy way whether
the angels in heaven were not modelled
after these women.
At home these husbands may keep
their alteration and appreciation wrap
ped round with seven folds of silence.
safeguarding their feeling as zealously
as though it were a Masonic secret
Were but a small instalment of this
told at home it might prove a joy. a
sweet source of new confidence, cour-
age and inspiration to the wife who is
heart hungry for Just such words.
1t is not fair to have all the sweet
roses before marriage and only their
memory and thorns afterward. A
splendid present to smooth over a mis-
understanding or to wipe out an I'M
pleasant memory is altogether Of an
other class. That is not love. il is
bribery; it is not tenderness. it is
policy; it is like the sacrifices the
heathens offer their gods to appease
their wrath.
One of the most common causes of
the decline of courtship after marriage
where it does occur. and there are
countless instances to prove that it
does not always decline, is the dis
illusion that often comes after mar
riage. When the rosy tints Of the
courtship days grow DINNER there is
a tendency for the real poetry to turn
into commonplace verse or even into
the baldest prose. This cause. If one
may be pardoned interpreting Cupid
in terms of commercialism. may be
called buying from sample"
In the days before marriage they
saw each other at their best: they were
on dress parade and unselfshly think
ing too much of each other to think
much of self. Under the inspiring
glow of mutual regard every latent
virtue blossomed into full flower, every
failing assumed a roseate hue under
some loving Interpretation, little sacri-
fees for each other were a joy and a
privilege Then a smile would exile a
doubt. careSs smother an argument,
a tender word throw a world of worry
into eclipse, and a mood of disagree
ment be but the preface to sweet rec
onciliation that made them nearer and
dearer.
Before marriage little inharmonies
became lost in the general effect as
moonlight softens and obscures dis
cords that the broad glare of sunlight
reveals, Marriage brings sunlight to
bear on all things. and often the goods
do not seem up to sample. Then must
come time of concession. adjustment
and acceptance of conditions with a
smiling determination to make the best
of each other. Then each must realize
that if they would be real married
sweethearts they must keep the court
ship atmosphere vital and pervading-
by the courtship methods. The love
that is worth working for and waiting
for is worth preserving
Courtship after marriage is kind of
matrimonial thermostat. 1t automat-
ically keeps the home atmosphere at
the proper temperature. When the
heat of fervid discussion threatens to
scorch the respect of the two for each
other and hot words of blame and
protest make even asbestos in the room
conscious of warmth. a smile a sweet
silence or a term of tender endearment
may suddenly Danish the heat like the
radiated influence of fountain or a
cool fragrant breeze from a garden at
twilight.
There is danger in the common habit
Of making light Of love in the home
of treating it with Il hippant. cheap
cynicism. 1t is hardly worth the
smiles it may elicit 1t is an insidi1uS
habit that grows from innocent breezy
banter to cutting sentences that leave
scars in memory. 1t often begins in
the springtide Of married life in fool
ish protest against being thought Senti-
mental. as sort of self protection
and in fear of manifesting affection in
public the two may swing to the other
extreme.
The husband may tell to his frieaas
assembled at his table. in whimsical
way that now he is done for. that he
can never dare go out at night, that