South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1915-05-24
What One Should Know
Before Marrying
BY Loucille Crane

If it were possible to know" the
woman before marriage many a heart
break would be saved. Like the
prOverbial bull in a china shop is a
man when he enters a woman's life.
If it were not for the love which
acts as an infallible stickrast the new
menage would be in pieces before the
end Of the first fortnight. OF course
when we know that it is out of the
question 10 know them in the limited
time that is usually given TO engage
ments, but the amusing part is that
he doesn't try. He would not think
of taking charge OF a motor car be-
fore he had learned to drive. but any
and devery day he lightly undertakes
the management Of a machine Infinite
~ more complicated.
There are some things he can know,
and some he can't; but In his sublime
CON placency he ignores them all. He
thinks he knows! The first few weeks
OF married life are spent in recovering
from this delusiOn. The only draw
back 10 knowledge before marriage
is the possibility of no marriage. Man
is good at taking risks, but he is par
ne had the choice OF knowing and not
knOwing-he would probably take the
latter-the uncertainty is the spice of
the thing to him.
With women it is different 1t is
agony on her part not TO know, and II
she thinks somebody else knows more
than she doeS-one may be sorry for
somebody. If a man is wise he will
paint for her as visibly as he can each
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knowledge of details his future happi-
ness depends. Even the shady scenes
are best related. A woman will for
give more before marriage than she
will after Before his love is Q novel
ty, his confidence a trust which she
Is proud to have even though ii pains
her; afterwards she feels she has been
trapped, her confidence is shaken, sus-
piciOn is aroused, and she is never
sure when the next revelation Will
come.
a man wants to treat a woman ex-
actly as he would not treat a man.
Let. him not do to her what he would
have her do TO him is a very safe
uide for him. Women should clOthe
! erself in a certain amount Of mys-
iary. Only SO can she hope 10 keep
her husbands interest. once let him
know that he has got all there is to
get and he will be off on another
quest; he wants more worlds to con-
quer."
Now that is one OF the things to
know before marriage, for a woman
is very apt to empty herself out to
the man in the first days Of cOurtship.
Let her prOlong the process, let him
do the findings out, he will be long
enough about it; and meanwhile she
has him on a little bit Of string. This
follow all Through. a secret may al
most remain q secret until after mar
riage. BY that time he has gained
a pride of property-she is his Wife
her strongest plea 10 clemency Had
he known before marriage As it
is the knot is tied, and it takes a very
great deal TO make him break II. For
all that woman things so much of the
sacred relationship it is generally she
who dissolves it.
Now If a man takes a good deal
of risk with his marriage, woman
takes an equal amount on trust. She
thinks because she loves him he must
be all she imagineS him~tO be. She
builds an imaginary being, and then
blames him that he bears no likeness
10 1t. For her future peace of mind
IL is necessary for her to know with
whom she has 10 deal. There Is hope
for her and for him if she takes him
with open arms