The Irish standard., 1915-06-05
THOSE WHO MARRY.

THOSE WHO MARRY.
Now that June is here with its we'd
ding bells, young bridal couples are
being deluged with good counsel and
miscellaneous gifts, both sometimes
better meant than chosen. A bride
may receive multitude Of dainty
knicknacks and fail to get the few
really practical things that she may
put to the best real use-though use
full things can and should be as pretty
as they can be made. Likewise, with
the counsel given by devoted friends
and relatives. 1t is possible that the
counsel may include beautiful senti-
ments of devotion to duty and yet
leave unuttered the most practical
and when put into effect, the most
beautiful of all-the cultivation of
mutual fellow being. Young people
setting out on the matrimonial way
often get such friendly advice as mot
to bother each other with small wor-
RES" ITO keep their little troubles
to themselves" and the new little wife
is often schooled in the adage that a
constant smile means happy home.
AS a matter of fact, living together
can be a very simple, easy affair If
pursued from its very outset, with the
utmost simplicity. The partners
should be towards each other exactly
what they would be If alone. The
most generous of heroic secrets is a
mistake. It may plant the first sprig
of strangerhood, which can be the
curse of married life. Self suppress
sion Of any kind means future re-
action. It leads the party for whom
the suppression was made into mis-
takes and these mistakes are some
times very painful. And to anyone,
married or not, who is reasonably
perplexed or grieved at anything,
there is often nothing more tantalizing
than to be greeted with masquerade
ing smile. Good cheer and encour-
agement is in fellow solution of diff
ficulties and not in an ignoring of
them. The reason that petty cares
may weigh on the spirit may really
show an active standard of living
above these petty things. A wo-
man that can bake good bread does
not like to be forced to eat inferior
bread, and If she is so forced. and
can't by circumstances bake it her.
self, it is a great deal better for her
husband to sympathize with and to fos-
ter her superior standard than to
snub her expressed sense of its VIC
lation. If he knows how to appreciate
a good cigar, she may act likewise at
his distaste of poor one. It is the
small things that make life either sue
cessful or the reverse. The technique
of the game is in its excellence of
team work and team work can not
grow excellent except upon the little
things happening every single mo-
ment. Home is place for sincere
living and not for fancy acting. But
that sincere living should have for
its foundation noble purpose and mu-
tual expectation of what is right.
When a married love is thus founded,
there is little fear Of its degenerating
and grievances may be confided, as
they ought to be, without whining or
querulousness. Expansiveness Of any
kind should always be met with ready
attention. People can be forced into
brooding over what could readily be
relieved by little prompt discus
sion. In aiming to be absolutely sim
cere in home life, it is presupposed that
each partner loves the other because
the other loves what is right. People
welded to this sentiment in each other
will instinctively refrain from shock
ing each others good taste or sense
of fair play, or expectation Of cour-
tesy or of promptness or of any other
of the elements of fellow dealing.
Thus each will grow into all the lit
tie personal attentions that enrich life
and these will really then express
love. growing from habits. into prin.
ciples and then life, becomes neither
frivolity nor burden but well
played game, yielding the satisfaction
Of one. A distinguished man was
once asked what he enjoyed most in
life and he answered that nothing gave
him more pleasure than seeing his
wife enter the room. He couldn't have
had that feeling II she hadn't had q
corresponding one and how eloquently
the small incident told Of the absolute
sincerity and fidelity of all their mu.
tual relations! G. II. K.