The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-09-04
GIRLS WHO MAKE UNWESE
 CHOICE OF FRIENDS

'NThou truest friend man ever knew,
 Thy constancy I've tried;
 Where all were false, I found thee
 true,
 My counselor and guide"
 What girls and young women are there who do not take the best hour of evenings and occasionally slip away afternoons in quest of friends to chat and gossip with? At weekly gather ings, dance parties and bright enter tainments girls chum together, each of
 whom usually has some Imaginable new experience, of new flames admira-
 ton for her, or takes advice as to how some disappointing episode will turn out or can be bettered.
 From girlhood days to young wo- rnanhood's realm, bosom friends cling closely and some too intimately, claiming a control over confiding ones
 that amounts to fascination. w hat
 they do not find out from these un- wise confdants is not worth knowing, let alone keeping their secrets intact
 Girls are at times drawn to one an other in friendship; if they make good headway, being anxiousi to see more Of
 each other, the ways we'll as the go- ing, about of one often yield to the oth- CT in uncomfortable will power.
 On the start of their acquaintance they are far and apart from some oth-
 CT, only on speaking terms until the ice
 of reserve is melted. Then it does not take long for a flame of devotion to spring up and at some unlucky oppor- tunity they pour out all of the pent up l wrongs they fancy are theirs, feeling sure and relieved that the burden had been cast into 9 friends bosom which beats only with pure sympathy for
 their unhappy lot.
 Here comes the Aold, old saying: She told friend of hers all about so-and- so. That friend let her own friends into the odd secret. Each promised 1t should not be repeated, never to go farther. But overheard it in a run about fashion, put this and. that to- gether, and now I could boldly con-
 front her with the whole story in nutshell
 Girls whose hearts are most liable to err in this unwise choice of friends are to be found by the score everywhere and any place. They are mostly good dtspositioned girls, of affectionate na- lures, who are lonely and whose wish is to find just such resourceful friends who will drive dull care away; those who mone will put his arms about and
 do so many obliging things for It
 never enters the mind of the woman who casts her burden on the wrong friend whether it is wise or bound to 1 end in the bitterest feud between them
 some day.
 l It is only a brave woman whose
  irescuing her from the peril. The bosom friend who keeps sacredly all tabs on other peoples business is not worth this eye-opening about. She is a paste treasure whom many have found out
 It isn't the easiest thing in the world to find a number of best friends alike, all disappointing and abusing the pit iful trust imposed upon them in burst of confidence. The really good friends that the heart should go out to are not the pretentious, delightful appearing, brilliant, push-forward per sons who infer that it seems as if they had known you for lifetime, and who throw out fattering compliments whenever you meet Girls had better stay at home and prudently take plen- ty of time to consider wisely the ideals which they would raise when they would go out to seek those who have neither head nor heart for the unwrit- ten pathos of others. Making friends is well enough in it's place and when people are thrown together. Carefully they should pick their bosom friends if they regard having. peace and good
 will instead of getting into trouble in the future. Gladly turn to those you have met whom you can learn to love better, who improve on acquaintance, who look on the bright side with you instead of constantly presenting un- favorable predictions, if you would be happy.