The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-06-16

There's just one thing a man can
 have Tn all this world of woe and strife,- That makes the business not too bad, And that one things an easy wife. During courtship ninety nine lovers out of a hundred put their best foot forward, striving to make the best possible impression upon the girl whom they intend to wed. They de- vote their evenings to her, making 1t their aim to promote her pleasures, whether it be to take her to some place of amusement, go out for stroll, call on friends or remain in doors.
 During these hours of companion ship, he does his best to entertain her. He would reproach himself if the con- versation Jagged, rebuking himself If there chanced to be a dull moment, alarmed lest she was wearying of his l society and might be contemplating the advisability of dismissing him. What lover was ever known to equip himself with an evening paper, en- sconce himself comforta ply sin an easy chair and proceed to aequaint himself with the days doings to the utter. neg 1ect of the sweetheart and leaving her to amuse herself as best she could, or sigh and nope the longs hours of the evening away?
 1 Yet, after marriage all attempts to please cease and the girl who has | welded the man who has deliberately | settled down into an uncongenia1 hus- band begins to feel dissatisfied with I her lot. It is quite true that mar riage alters affairs. and the average | husband has graduated from devoted all the evening Iovenaking, but it would be far wiser if he were to make her believe, at least, that she was necessary part of his happy evening.
 It is alarming for wife to discover that a two-cent newspaper has usurped her place in her husbands interest. It is absolutely necessary for men to read to keep abreast of the times, but he should read aloud the items which he finds especially interesting to him, and
 converse with her about them, provid- ing she has cared enough about the subjects to listen. The lover who was a hypocrite drops his role of attempt ing to please all too soon after mar riage.
 During their sweet days he was wont | to ask her where she would like to have him take her on such and such an
 evening. After marriage such a man is apt to emphaticaIly declare that he does not intend to go out of the house,
 no matter what is going on. He is in different as to whether she has set her
 mind on attending gsome particular function or not. WhAther she gives in cheerfulIy to his decision or pouts he doesn't care rap. Tn the face of such
 treatment, loneliness steals into the
 heart of many a worthy wife. When that thought comes to her it does not
 take long to open the door of her heart to the warning spirit of discontent- lave and that still greater foe, to peace 1.-the conjecture that she has been
 nismated-that there is no real love
 between them.
 | Many a husband has learned at a
 bitter cost that lovemaking, but of a
 more subtle nature, is more necessary
 to the wife than it was to the sweet heart, He should study her happiness
 and be pleased to devote two or three
 of his evenings to her exclusively in stead of following his own pursuits
 Almost any man can find a nice girl
 to wed him, but there's a decided
 knack in keeping a wife attracted
 The man who does not see the neces-
 sity of 1ovemaking after marriage
 should never wed. Women are the
 first to realize the truth of the words:
 ITO love and not be loved is time
 Iost.''