The West Virginian. [volume] (Fairmont, W. Va.) 1914-1974, 1915-02-26
voice are peculiarly stiIl and steady
but she has a mobile mouth and q
charming one.sided smile.

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but she has mobile mouth and a
charming one.sided smile.
Axis of the World.
This isn't light question-that
question that you've asked me-" she
continued, after one OF the rather
tense pauses with which her CONVEX.
Bation is punctured. "ln an hours
talk can touch the merest edge OF
Il. The axis Of the world is what
we're discussing. Moreover. the con.
ditlons OF love are today in process
OF change. You ask me what It Is;
what do you think It is yourself?"
ITO me the finest and most splen.
did conception OF love is In one line
Of Brownings," replied. ".Nor soul
helps flesh more. now. than flesh
helps SOUL think the people who
call love purely spiritual are as silly
as the people who call 1t pure physi.
cal and no sillier."
That's sane and strong" she ap.
proved. There's no use in trying to
send minaret soaring into the air
when you have no base for it. We
have number OF idealis:s today who
In their loving try to lift themselves
up by their boot-straps.
1.-THE great love embraces every
part Of the nature, spiritual, mental,
and physical. 1t is the rarest love.
Most loves are on the surface, Just
as most lives are on the surface. The
supreme, historical passion must be
so deep that It will sacrifice even It.
self for the beloved. It must be com.
pounded OF both giving and receiving,
for 1t soon exhausts itself.
Must be Two.slded.
ITO be perfect it must be mutual
and equal. for a one.sided thing never
can be perfect.
"Yet to love Is always better than
to be loved. To love Is ecstacy, how
ever much suffering 1t costs-and
sometimes It costs great deal. To
be loved, unless one loves in return. is
merely a bore. One OF the most
pathetic loves l know, and one com.
imoner than most people dream, Is
that OF age for youth, the pitiful at.
tempt to enjoy youth once more, II
but yicariously. Such love is often
unrequited. That doesn't matter"
| L remember four lines from Tho
Book Of Loves"
"Who dares to love unloved the cord
In whose close coils the fettered spirit
lies:
The jealous gods blush and evade his
glance.
And Joy and pain are equally his
prize"
do you agree with those who put
the love Of youth highe.it in tho
scale? "aI'asked. ,
Youths Love is Glamour.
f"The, love OF youth Is glamour"
Mrs. Barker smiled. TITS beautiful.
but so is glamour beautiful. It's ex.
quisite as rosebud and as perishabie.
The young girl, for example, dreams
Of an ideal-a beautiful, strong, rich
fairy prince, who will love her tire.
mendously. think that a girl gener.
ally wants to marry rich NAHUM.
til she meets poor man who makes
her change her mind. Even when she
thinks herself in love 1t Is an ideal
that she Is loving, an ideal that may
or may not bear any relation to the
identity hiding behind It."
"And when girl is past the
glamorous stage without marrying,
what happens to herr" asked.
"She Is likely to accept substi.
tute. She Is lonely, and she wants to
belong to some one. That feeling Is.
self isn't love. but 1t may develop
into quiet, peaceful affection.
Then there Is the love Of habit and
custom. That seems to make many
pefsons happy. and It therefore de.
serves respect. But those who want
something more, must beware Of re-
garding love as static and settled
ever. It is not a chase; that idea must
have been conceived originally by the
people who never caught anything. 1t
Is growth, and 1t must develop or
decline. believe that much OF the
unhappiness OF the American woman
Is due to her conviction that II she
goes to the altar with man she need
do nothing else to retain, through
eternity, his entire devotion.
Love Needs Leisure.
More than one American woman
has complained to me that her hus.
band does not love her enough" ad.
ded Mrs. Barker, dryly. II reply,
When does he have timer II some
women In this country didn't make
such pack.horses OF their husbands,
they would have more love in their
lives"
In 1.-THE Book of Love" it is writ.
ten:
'she must lay off the binding yell Of
self
To be the strong, true. comrade soul
Of you"
And Mrs. Barker believes that ego
tism is the great foe Of love.
"The reason why We have so few
great lovers Is because we have so
many cyclists, persons who think
only Of themselves even in their CIV
Ing" she said. "one proof Of loves
egotism ID that It ends when the lover
can no longer see any reflection Of
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