South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1915-06-25
- EIIa WhccIcr WIcox.

lives almost WuollN IN ner dIItCuohS.
Real life proves her TO be many
sided and variable in her ideas Of
how men should express their love
for her.
Every woman needs love as every
plant needs light and heat: yet there
are plants which thrive better in
shaded hooks than in the broad sun
light and there are other plants
which bloom their brightest in the.
artificial warmth Of the dollhouse.
There Is large percentage Of
highly cultivated, mentally emotional
women. who live in the tme glnauOn
so far as sentiment Is concerned, and
who find little but discomfort and dis
appointment IN the realm OF the real.
They are excellent friends and de-
voted mothers, but they neither give
nor receive happiness as sweethearts
or wives. They shrink from demon
strative love, which seems coarse and
COMMON 90 them through comparison
with the ideal They enjoy a sweet
hearts letters better than his society.
and they are more devoted nurses to
a husband in sickness than cOmpan-
ions TO him IN health.
They are faithful 10 every duty.
but they are forever dreaming OF
more spiritual and romantic love than
they have known and "a veil Of sad
ness and disappointment hangs be
tween them and happiness.
There is another order OF women
10 whom admiration is far more graft
fying than love. The tiattery OF ad-
mirers gives her more lasting delight
than the sincere love of one undemon-
strative heart The most earnest eX-
pressions Of affection would not af-
ford her happiness unless other peo-
pie heard them and recognized them
as attributes 10 her powers of fascina
ton. She finds more pleasure in a
ballroom with q score Of men paying
her empty cOmplim than in her
home listening 20 the conversation or
the man who loves her
There are women who demand
combination Of both valet and maid
I'm the attentions Of an admirer and
there are other women 20 whom this
manner Of expressing devotion is
odious.
One Kind of Devotion.
"You should see jules husband,
said jules friend to Annie one day
in my hearing HE does not allow
Julie 10 do "a single thing for her
self He looks after the servants.
does all the marketing. takes care of
jules gloves-even hangs up her hat
and wrap when she comes in from
walk. l think such devotion just
lovelyi"
q am sure I should not want a man
10 show his devotion 10 me in that
sort OF fashion, retorted Annie Il
should feel as though 7 had married
nv butler and. forgetting myself
would be talking to him about wages
and his day off, My ideal Of a hus-
band would be terribly lowered were
IL Of oil ~ u on n
wait upon me generally"
"T don't understand you" said
jules friend.
"wen. then, to be more explicit"
continued annie. 81 could not love
man unless / felt like serving him.
Every attractive woman finds scores
OF men who are ready to play page
and courtier to her in home and bait
room-all that is very we'll. But it
is rarely that she finds among these
one whom she respects and loves
enough to wish to serve. I could not
he happy with a man unless l felt
this sort Of love for him.
II should never wish TO feel like
serving any man, replied jules
friend.
Then you would never wish to love
according 20 my idea" responded
Annie. "It is all a matter of temper
ament-mOst women desire rather To
be loved than to lOve-but 1 should
not respect a man enough TO be
happy in his love unless he were able
to create in me as great love as he
gave. and he could not do this If he
acted as a valet towards me- He
must be my king. not my servant"
There are more jules and Armies
in the world. perhaps. because there
are more pages than kings among
men.
Another Type of Woman.
There is another type of woman
who gauges "a mans love toward her
by ne amount of money he expepds
on Ger. Gold blinds her eyes TO his
meal and mental deficiencies. and she
fiaunts her jewels and fine dresses in
the eyes of less splendidly attired
wives, seemingly content with her lot.
In her husbands presence she
speaks Of his extravaganza where she
is concerned. and reproaches him for
IL with smiling approval i'm face and
voice. She seems utterly Indifferent
TO. or unconscious of the fact that a
lavish expenditure of money does not
always indicate an equal outgo of af-
lection.
More prudent and loyal husbands
she designates as miSerS, and frankly
confesses that she could not live with
q man who did not consider her COM
fort and pleasure before all other
things
Ii is not infrequently the case that
the bank officer who is short in his
accounts possesses "A wife of this
kind
Analogous 10 her is the woman who
measures a mans affections for her
by the selfshness and incivility he
exhibits toward all others.
My husband used fairly 10 snub
people 20 get them out of the house
so that ne could have me all TO him
self, a professedly religious woman
said with great gusto. His relatives
we're furious because OF his absorbing
love for Te and his consequent in
difference t. them" and she laughed
with delight at the recollection of
how very unhappy this man had
made every one but herself.
There are women whom too much
love renders eXacting and incapable
or set-sacrince. as too much broad
sunlight depriveS some flowers of their
perfume
Just think said a woman-One
who had been a petted daughter and
A worshipped wife-"Just think. my