The Southern herald., 1915-02-05
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
BY oRIsoN SWEET MARDEN.
MAKING OF CONVERSATION A
FINE ART.
Copyright By Mcclure Newspaper Syndicate

Talk, talk. 1t does not matter
much what you say, but chatter away
lightly and gayly. Nothing embar-
rasses and bores the average man SO
much as a girl who has to be enter
tanned"
Thus a noted society leader. who
had been very successful in the
launching Of debutantes, was recently
advising one of her protegcs.
know of no other one accomplish
ment which will do so much to ad-
vance a girl socially as to become
superb conversationalist. 1t is indi-
cative of intelligence, education, good
breeding and culture. It will make
girl popular in spite Of plain features
There is no other one quality which
will give a girl such power over 9TH
ers, which will make her so popular,
as to be able to fascinate people with
her conversation. The good conver-
sationalist is always the center OF at
traction In any company.
A girl who can talk well, who has
the art Of putting things In an at
tractive way, who can interest 9TH
ers Immediately by her gift Of speech
has very great advantage over one
who may know more than she but
who cannot express herself with ease
or graciousness.
There is no other one thing which
enables US to make so good an I'M
preston, especially upon those who
do not know US thoroughly, as the
ability to converse well. To be good
conversationalist, able to interest
people, to rivet their attention, to
draw them to you naturally by the
very superiority of your conversations
al ability, is - be the possessor OF a
very great accomplishment, one which
is superior to all others. 1t not only
helps you to make good impression
upon strangers; it also helps you to
make and keep friends. 1t opens
doors and softens hearts. 1t makes
you interesting in all sorts Of com
pany. 1t helps you to get on In the
world. 1t helps you into the best So
ciety, even though you may be poor
The way to learn to talk is to talk.
The temptation for young people who
are unaccustomed to society, and who
feel difident, Is to say nothing them
selves and listen to what others say;
but good takers are always sought
after. Everybody wants to invite
Miss So-and-So to dinners or recep-
tions because Sc Is such good talk
or. She entertains. She may have
many defects, but people enjoy her
society because she can talk well.
Conversation, If used as an edu'
Gator, is tremendous power devel
,oper; but talking without thinking
without an effort to express oneself
with clearness, conciseness or eff
cheney, mere chattering or gossip, the
average society small talk, will never
get hold of the best thing in girl
1t lies too deep for such superficial
effort.
Nothing else will develop a girrt
brain and character more than the
, constant effort to talk well, intelli
, gently, interestingly, upon all sorts o
! topics. There is splendid discipline
/. in the constant effort to express onei
, thoughts clearly, and in an interest
a ing manner. We sometimes meet pee
pie who are such superb converser
! that no one would ever dream tha
4 they have not had the advantages
the higher schools. Many cOlleg
[ graduate has been silenced and pu
/. to shame by people who have neve
s even been to a high school, but VIII
o have cultivated the art of self-ez
l. preston
O Now and then we meet a real 81
y tist in conversation, and 1t is such
y treat and delight that we wonde
!. why the majority Of us should be sue
bunglers In our expression, why "
q should make such bOtch of the mi
VI dium Of communication between hi
t man beings, when 1t is capable Of b.
d ing made the art of arts.
a. No matter how expert you may b
Is in any other art or Accomplishment
If you cannot use your expertness a
ways and everywhere as you can ii
II power to converse well. r..s