The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1915-02-25

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There is no faintest shadow of ir-
r. terence in calling matrimony a bust
ness, no slightest tinge of diSrespect
to its sweetness. its sacredness, its
sentiment, its poetry or its possibilities,
Marriage is the greatest business, for
it keeps busy most of the people. In
its perfection and in its ideal it means
two living at their highest and best as
individuals and in united harmony 1t
is consecrated duality in unity. 1t
means Il life partnership of two in the
pursuit of happiness This most i'm
portant business should be conducted
on business lines. There should be con
slant. concentrated effort to make it Il
ing. but wisely working
If men and women put into their
married life the same seriousness of
thought intensity of purpose, patience,
sacrifice and determination to make
it success that they devote to seek
ing to make Il business prosper, the
world would be transformed. Failures
would be few; divorce, the bankruptcy
of matrimony, would be rare, and the
two could command success by their
united determination to win it.
Success in marriage depends finally
and solely on the two themselves. 1t
is not what they have, but what they
are; not what comes TO them, but how
they meet it that counts. Sickness.
sorrow. trial. misfortune and poverty
may even make them nearer and dear
er to each other in truer union and
finer unity. What they suffer for each
other and with each other brings them
closer together What they suffer from
each other gradually forces them apart
Man does not expect to succeed i'll
business by merely starting it and
honoring it with the sunshine of his
presence. He realizes it is not an au-
tomato music machine where he has
mercy 10 pat on success record,
start the mechanism and then sit back
comfortably and delight his ears with
the music Of prosperity. If he wants
dividends of success he must pay the
assessments of effort. If we want real
lasting harmony and melody in mar
ried life we must make our own music.
1t means the collaboration of two, new
er the lonely contribution of one.
In business when problems arise a
man seeks to solve them. If inhar-
monies threaten to destroy his success
he seeks to remove them. If one meth
cd fails he tries another. He does not
let things drift or work themselves
out some way. He knows it is his
business to find out where things are
wrong and how he can right them.
He does not shut his eyes to troubles
and think he is curing them by Oh
securing them.
Men are often blind or resigned in
a cowardly way to unpleasant condi-
tons in the home partnership that
they would never surrender to in their
Office business. Tney often accept as
inevitable in their home life what they
could change if they only would. 1t is
unjust to both for the husband or wife
to accept any wrong condition, if any
amount of effort will set it right. When
all methods fail. bearing bravely may
be moral strength before they have
been even tested, bearing meekly is
sheer weakness.
There are people who fan themselves
into serene self satisfaction with the
thought that they are heroically ac
cepting the shadows and shadows of
married life, its preventable pain, sor
row and discord, when they are really
only too lazy mentally or inert morally
to take bold, firm stand to win the
freedom Of thought. harmony and
peace they desire. They are not con-
sidering matrimony as business they
must make succeed; they are degrad-
ing it to the gamble class. They have
the assumed airy Indifference Of q
man who has drawn a blank in a lot
terry and is trying hard to forget it.
When an excited customer enters a
business house with some grievance,
real or fancied. parades a schedule
9of wrongs and injustices as long as a
tariff bill and starts in on a high
keyed monologue of protest, exploding
epithets of denunciation and filing the
air with sparks of phrases sulphurous
with indignation, the wise man of
business remains cool and calm. He
realizes that by losing his temper he
may lose a customer, that it would be
unwise, it would not pay. He waits
patiently for comma of intermission.
a slight slackening in the cascading
torrent of speech.
He smiles apologies; he presses the
soft pedal of expression; he explains
defers, conciliates. He argues gently,