The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-11-11


 And hearts that would forever be Go lone and starved the whole way
 through
 I am nonp1ussed at the avalanche of letters which has poured in upon me this past week, making the query, in widows more fascinating to men than one ingenious way or another, Are their single sisters? If so, why soE What is their secret of power over male hearts?'' etc.
 These correspondents have placed a. rather hard conundruIn before me to solve, but I'll do my best to try to un- ravel the mystery. The woman Who has gone through the experience or happy courtship and marriage mas gone from her A. B. C.s to graduation in her knowledge of mems hearts and the general principle of making her self agreeable to the opposite sex. She knows men are of the world worldly, they admire saints, but at a great distance. Therefore the widow who is not averse to trying matrimony sec ond time is not a prude but rather jolly companion, who has it down to a science just how far to encourage sen timent, always adroitly turning mans thoughts to matrimony, never to frivolity.
 No matter how sad the widows heart may be, she trains her lips to wear a smile, she knows a man en- joys a hearty laugh with a woman, but will flee from tale of woe. She is past mistress in the delicate art of. the right kind of courtship; the kind that awakens what is 1oblest, truest and best in mans nature
 First, she simply impresses the man she would win with her modesty, gen tleness, sympathy and earnestness. Her intuition tells her the kind of man whose heart is impossible and those who are free 1ances, and ever will be. The widows cleverness is evidenced by the fact that she will not encourage the calls of the man who would enjoy the warmth and CO., ziness of her parlor the long winter through, but parry all attempts to dis cover his attitude regarding mar riage. The widow s wise enough to slassify friends in the category to 1 hopes nor time upon them. When the friends calls for 8 pleasant evening, | she treats him cordially, generally in viting some single woman acduaint-, ance to enjoy his society also, provid- l ing she knows beforehand that he is looming.
 1 If her admirer talks seriously, she
 gives, him a fair chance to propose. She is so dignified, so womanly, un- derstanding so thoroughly 9 mans nOOuS, CIl00F1ng when ne lOA0Iy
 and dispirited, catching his happy spirit when he is gay; knowing how
 to soothe when he restless and ca jole when he is stubborn-that her witchery grows upon him. By degrees i he becomes dependent upon her for happiness.
 Many a single woman lets man take his own time to discover this State of his heart The widows creed l is waste as little time as possible. Gen erosity is a part of her nature. l If a. man does not seem to admire I her, and she thinks he would make a l good husband or a woman whom he Ecould admire, she is generous enough
 to introduce him to her women 1 friends
 1 Single women are every whit as at l tractive to men as widows are. Tue
 rock ahead of many single women is in encouraging as a lover, men who have not the remotest idea of ever l taking unto themselves wife. When such g. mans ardor begins to cool, and he absents himself on the evenings he twas wont to call-making all sorts of excuses to remain away, they ascri be 1t to business worry-anything every l thing but the right cause. A widow would surTnise he had found a new sweetheart and erase him from her heart slate without ado. Every wo- l man, be she maid or widow has the same kind of loving heart in her bosom. The single woman grieves lover a broken love dream. The widow lallows no man to break her neatly nnended heart.