Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1915-08-13
Nursing Grievances
BY BkATRICE FAmFAx.

"A grievance viii grow in any kind of
weather. provided Il is fed upon lmag-
nation"
Most OF W pride ourselves on being
sensitive; a few OF us are willing to ac-
knowledge that we are quarrelsome. And
yet the stop from being proud and easily
offpnded-to being exacting and disagree
able about II does not require seven.
league boots,
1 ond'b.dlghity Is never lowered by being
willing TO take for granted the idea that
other people are fairly kind, loath 10 hurt
feelings and fairly square on honest in
their attitude.
Tho nursing OF grievances Is one Of
the failh,gs 10 which women arc particu-
larry prone. The woman who denies en-
phAticaiiy that she Il pugnaclous per-
son who looks for trouble will tell you
with splendid affectation of superior
fine feeling that che il $50 sensitive"
over-sensitlveness means selfish self
lov6. Very f6W Of Us are sensitive about
some ore eltes feelings. however care
fully We guard our own.
All too oftsn we sacrifice friendships
70 our own, 'bensitive'' inability to un-
dersiand The little rift within the lutte
OF iovdi' IA frequently broken by sensi-
tive Willingness to make a grievance out
az a trifis
.Aii 81 Us Know that II you are looking
Tor tfoytiA Il win be easy TO find IT, Few
Of US resosnike that having found wee
trouble wa are very likely to null over
and bsef II ,hhtii We have maEnified II
10 FART pheplurable proportions.
l 6t1ne knew girl who was sincerely
IN 1--we With h man who loved her. Bust
iisha ioalled him out OF town. ana NJ
made IAN engagement with her TO meet
him AZ ri o'clock on the day OF his return
| The Girl waited from 70 2. was met by
no anxious lover. and departed In high
dndReUh. Tho man arriving on a delayed
western train, put IN his appearance AT
2;S0. This little incident served to break
an engagement
Tie man was aggrieved because the
girl had not given him the benefit OF the
doubt, and waited. He nursed this grlev-
hnce brvoded over It, and added mag
lped situations TO II until he had trans
n uted hts sweetheart into an exacting
s,ikrfcious woman who wouldn't give him
the benefit OF the doubt. and consequently
didn't love him.
ZIG ANHAsA fE ~ ~ ttHNt''N ~---RH =.
volta hsve been for the man 10 get off
at aonie vay 4station and send her a
telegram thought how he might have
teisnhOned from the station at the mo-
ineilt OF hla Arrival She decided that he
was a selfish brute who didn't under
stand women and who would probably
make her miserable through utter lack
OF constellation And out OF her imas-
inktlon she evolved q man who was nat
urally ineonsiderate OF her. sinceNe didn't
really love her.
out Of practically any set OF elrcuIl-
stanceh an equally sad NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS.
may be evolved by any one. who instead
Of b6arihs and forbearing proceeds to
take one Tiadyfed attitude Of one who
IL called On to endure 20 much.
Grievances generally are little weeds
which might very advantageously be
rooted up end left TO perish But with
little cultivation on the part OF im-
agination, little watering OF tears. and
little fertilization from abused feelings.
they sprout into fine crops OF misery.
What we viii do with our grievances
Il a matter for " 20 decide. / suggest
roofing them al up and flinging them
aside. There ought 10 be no room for
them In the garden OF any fine soul