The Ely miner. [volume] (Ely, Minn.) 1895-1986, 1915-01-15
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
BY oRIsoN SWEET MARDEN.
MAKING OF CONVERSATION A
FINE ART.
by Mcclure Newspaper Syndicate

Talk. talk. 1t does not matter
much what you say, but chatter away
lightly and gayly. Nothing embar-
rasses and bores the average man so
much as a girl who has to be enter
tanned"
Thus a noted society leader. who
he'd been very successful in the
launching of debutantes, was recently
advising one of her protegcs.
know of no other one accomplish
ment which will do so much to adj
vance a girl socially as to become
superb conversationalist. 1t is indi-
cative of intelligence, education. good
breeding and culture. 1t will make
girl popular in spite of plain features.
There is no other one quality which
will give girl such power over 9TH
ers, which will make her SO popular,
as to be able to fascinate people with
her conversation. The good CONVEX
sationalist is always the center of at
traction in any company.
A girl who can talk we'll, who has
the art of putting things in an at
tractive way, who can interest 9TH
ers Immediately by her gift of speech.
has a very .sreat advantage over one
who may know more than che but
who cannot express herself with ease
or graciousness.
There is no other one thing which
enables us to make SO good an i'm
preston, especially upon those who
10 not know us thoroughly, as the
ability to converse we'll. To be good
conversationalist, able to interest
people, to rivet their attention, to
draw them - you naturall.' by the
very superiority of your conversations
al ability, is - be the possessor of a
very great accomplishment, one which
is superior to all others. 1t not only
helps you to make a good impression
upon strangers; it also helps you to
make and keep friends. 1t opens
| doors and softens hearts. 1t makes
you interesting in all sorts of COM
pany. 1t helps you to get On in the
world. 1t helps you into the Sest so
ciety, even though you may be poor.
The way to learn to talk is to talk.
The temptation for young people who
are unaccustomed to society, and who
feel diffident, is to say nothing them
selves and listen to what others say
but good takers are always sought
after. Everybody wants to invite
Miss So-and-So to dinners or recep.
tions because se is such a good talk.
Cr. She entertains. She may have
many defects, but people enjoy her
society because she can talk we'll.
! Conversation, if used as an edu
Gator, is a tremendous power devel
oper; but talking without thinking
without an effort to express oneself
with clearness, conciseness or eff
cheney, mere chattering or gossip, the
average society small talk, will never
get hold of the best thing in a girl
1t lies too deep for such superficial
effort.
Nothing else will develop a girls
brain and character more than the
constant effort to talk we'll, intelli
| gently, Interestingly, upon all sorts Of
topics. There is a splendid discipline
in the constant effort to express ones
thoughts clearly. and in an interest
ing manner. We sometimes meet PEG
pie who are such superb conversers
that no one would ever dream thai
they have not had the advantages o.
the higher schools. Many a college
| graduate has been silenced and pu
to shame by people who have never
even been to a high school, but who
have cultivated the art of self-ex
preston
Now and then we meet a real ar
fist in conversation, and it is such 6
treat and delight that we wonder
why the majority of us should be sucf
bunglers in our expression, why We
should make such botch of the me
dunn of communication between hu
man beings, when it is capable of be
ing made the art of arts.
No matter how expert you may bs
in any other art or accomplishment
| you cannot use your experiences q!
ways and everywhere as you can tht
power to converse we'll