El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1915-04-24
Dorothy Dix Writes on
To Tell Of Love or Not
Shall Man Who Loves and Is Loved, But Who Cannot
Marry Make II IS Love Known?
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GHAL-L a man who loves a woman.
and who has reason to believe that
the woman returns his affection
but whom he cannot marry. tell her Of
his love, or nOt2
Is speech or silence best and kindest
under such conditions
This is the question that a man asks
me IN a letter written so simply. so
sincerely and with such feeling that 7
reproduce 1t here Just as IL reached me
He writes
With a dear. sweet mother at home.
and a poor crippled brother. too. l. rs
Ine only one TO provide rOr them. de-
cldec long ago never TO marry While
the little home had always been kept
in a fairly comfortable way. still I felt
sure that to bring another into ii would
only add hardShlps to all concerned
Before 7 would drag a woman down
and make her companion to the heavy
burdens Of my position I would remain
alone and apart. IL neeu De. never
thought that some day ] might be the
victim between two fires
Meets the Girl.
But about two years ago became
acquainted with a delightful. pretty
little girl Having been denied the
pleasure Of a Woman's cOmpanionshin
torher than my mothers), I thought
and felt that needed this girls friend
ship AS we became further acquainted.
and after ] had explained my position.
and made 1t plain that ] could never
friendship. We often discussed the
word friendship in relation to man and
woman. and both fully understood that
we were TO be merely friends. and moth
the Impossible, without realizing the
dangers ahead
ION numerous occasions I was in
vited 20 the girls home. I looked ror-
ward to these meetings with great
pleasure. 7 liked the long walks and
talks we often had together. I found
pleasure in our discussions I enjoyed
advising her about the little things she
always wanted TO know. I liked to hefp
smooth out her little tales OF woe. In
fact there was pleasure and charm IN
just being near her.
Love Asserts Itself.
"She met with an accicen- one cav.
and was slightly injured I went 20
the house that night to see her, and
looking down on the pale, still face,
suddenly realized that the feeling Of
friendship had faded, and "a new ree1-
ing mad been born Had I only had
the strength then 10 go away. perhaps
/ alone would have been the one 10
suffer But instead Of being a man.
and going away like man, L remained.
thinking she would never know
After that ] made my visits to her
far between. I honestly meant that
by no act of mine should she ever know
the new feeling in which / held her.
But God made her a woman and gave
her woman's ability TO see
Not very long aGo. after quite n
lengthy absence I went 10 see her AGAIN.
Noticing that she was not feeling we'll
] commented upon the fact. she an
swered my question with q question.
wanting to know why ] had been stay
Ing away so much lately. I tried to
turn the conversation away from the
personal back 10 the common She
looked NJ me And I'm the one brief
second that I held her eyes I saw
understood. knew-the whispered
words she didn't need TO speak had
to struggle hard with myself to push
her gently away Il dou-J know even
now how I ever sfccee dedl. 7 went
over TO the window to look out into
the night As 7 stood there she came
over 10 me- and putting her arms
around my neck Kissed me and then
fled into an inner room.
Without waiting for her TO return
I sneaked away from the house like
a coward and a cad. knowing what I
had done 7 met her few nights
afterward. and I lied 20 her. telling her
that I didn't love her. and that she
should forget me. I'm not O Washing
ton. but it is the thought that I lied