Eagle River review. [volume] (Eagle River, Wis.) 1890-1927, 1915-01-15
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
By oRlsoN SWEET MARDEN.
MAKING OF CONVERSATION a
FINE ART.
Copyright by Mcclure Newspaper Syndicate


Talk, talk. 1t does not matter
much what you say, but chatter away
lightly and gayly. Nothing embar-
rasses and bores the average man so
much as a girl who has to be enter
tanned"
Thus noted society leader, who
nGd been very successful in the
launching OF debutantes, was recently
advising one of her proteges.
! know of no other one accomplish
ment which will do so much to adj
vance a girl socially as to become a
superb conversationalist. It is indi-
cative of intelligence. education, good
breeding and culture. It will make
girl popular in spite of plain features.
There is no other one quality which
will give girl such power over 9TH
ers, which will make her so popular,
as to be able to fascinate people with
her conversation. The good CONVEX
sationalist is always the center of at
traction in any company.
A gin who can talk well, who has
the art of putting things in an at
tractive way, who can interest 9TH
ers Immediately by her gift Of speech,
has q very great advantage over one
wIeU may know more than she but
who cannot express herself with ease
or graciousness.
There is no other one thing which
enables us to make so good an i'm
preston, especially upon those who
do not know us thoroughly, as the
ability to converse well. To be good
tonversationalist, able to interest
people, to rivet their attention, to
draw them to you naturally by the
very superiority of your conversations
al ability, is t. be the possessor Of a
very great accomplishment, one which
is superior to all others. It not only
helps you to make good impression
upon strangers; it also helps you to
make and keep friends. 1t opens
doors and softens carts. It makes
you interesting in d sorts of COM
pany. 1t helps you to get on in the
world. It helps you into the best so
ciety, even though you may be poor.
The way to learn to talk is to talk.
The temptation for young people who
are unaccustomed to society, and who
feel dif1dent, is to say nothing them
selves and listen to what others say;
but good takers are always sought
after. Everybody wants to invite
Miss So-and-So to dinners or recep-
tons because Sc is such good talk
or. She entertains. She may have
many defects. but people enjoy her
society because she can talk well.
Conversation, if used as an edu-
Gator, is tremendous power devel-
oper; but talking without thinking,
without an effort to express oneself
with clearness, conciseness or eff
cheney, mere chattering or gossip, the
average society small talk, will never
get hold of the best thing in girl.
1t lies too deep for such superficial
effort.
Nothing else will develop a girls
brain and character more than the
constant effort to talk well, intelli-
gently, Interestingly, upon all sorts Of
topics. There is a splendid discipline
in the constant effort to express ones
thoughts clearly, and in an interest
ing manner We sometimes meet peo-
pie who are such superb conversers
that no one would ever dream that
they have not had the advantages of
the higher schools. Many college
graduate has been silenced and put
to shame by people who have never
even been to a high school, but who
have cultivated the art Of self-ex-
preston.
Now and then we meet a real ar
fist in conversation, and it is such a
treat and delight that we wonder
why the majority Of us should be such
bunglers in our expression, why we
should make such a botch of the me-
dunn of communication between hui
man beings, when it is capable of be-
ing made the art of arts.
No matter how expert you may be
in any other art or accomplishment
YOU cannot use your experiences al
ways and everywhere as you can the
mower to converse WE'LL