The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1915-03-14

remain in her? Has She any purpose
now In life? Pleasure-and too often
dissipation,
with the conservation Of wealth
we have developed a great luxurious
class in America. II finds its most
blatant expression in New York. In
New York you find a vast class given
To fast living and extravaganza. Here
you find ome who have sold them
selves into a moneyed marriage en-
~deavoring to find pleasure, excitement.
thrills-to substitute for the essential
happiness of life a factious exhilara-
ton In dissipation.
Generally men are not to blame for
the marriage evil.
Women are more selfish than men.
Women put more value on none
nan men. Women rely more on ap-
pearances than men. Girls are brought
up by selfish mothers to be funda-
mentally selfish. They are taught to
q out for their own comfort and to
see they get that comfort. II you
doubt my statement mark how women
monopolize seats in a street car. How
they glare at a man who attempts to
move by them. How "A man will give
a woman q seat. while a woman will
not move aside when she occupie the
space of two seats.
GO to the theatre and observe
women blocking the doorways. frivo-
lously chattering and gossiping. And
they never bulge or step aside-which
is but n manifestation OF feminine
selfishness. Women's consideration OF
marriage is largely selfish.
"XVnnnp's oaIG-bpa.. A.. .-..llu.
ably due to the chivalry of Ameri-
can men. In this country nothing is
too good for a m No sacrifice
can be too great for a woman. A
woman must have the best. whatever
happens. Women must be sheltered.
protected. saved from all anxieties.
Women must not work.
Abroad women work in the fields.
Among primitive races women were
the hardest workers.
Men are essentially honest. A rich
man who marries a poor girl has
nothing TO gain. financially or socially.
Any dishonesty in such marriages is
with the women. I am advancing no
argument against a poor girl marry
ing a rich man-if she loves thai
man. Money does not count where
there IL real affection. But mark the
difference In the public regard Of a
man who marries a rich woman as
against the tacit acceptance Of a poor
girl who marries a rich man.
I'm the Southwest there are i'm
mensely wealthy families with big
landed interests. Often daughters in
herit these estates. They usually
marry poor cowboys and cattle men.
No one asks any questions there. But
in New York a man who marries a
rich woman. in the general opinion,
simply takes to himself "a bunch OF
coin. The sordid marrying OF women
for money has become an accepted
thing in the big cities.
"Loveless marriages are demoraliz-
ing to our social life. The home is
the bulwark OF society. OF a nations
integrity Women who marry for
money do not make n home. II they
become mothers. they make poor
mothers. Better. too often. IL they
brought no children into the world.
The children Of such unions develop
into the spendthrifts. idlers. libertines,
degenerates n parasites OF society.
Women who marry commercially
lack ideals. Motherhood must have
ideals. Women who marry for money
find marriage irksome. They supply
the Courts with scandals. Such a con
dition inevitably does not make for
permanency in the domestic relation.
This explains the increase Of divorces.
This is the only good thing in a bad
business. Divorce is the only way
out.
"All m should be self-support-
ing, and thus self-respecting. No
who receives more from a
man than she gives to him in return.
in love. service or inspiration. can be
self-respecting. The who sells
herself into marriage without love is
a cheat. She Is in every sense dis
honest. The rite OF marriage cannot
make her respectable. I
Evils must he eradicated at their
root. Mothers must begin right with
daughters. Instead Of rearing
girls in idleness, with the idea ulti-
of getting money by marriage.
they should rea them to be se1-
supporting. There IL no reason why
any girl should not work. There is no