Baxter Springs news. [volume] (Baxter Springs, Kan.) 1882-1919, 1915-01-14
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
BY oRIsoN SWEET MARpEN.
SHOULD NOT BE A DRUDGE OR A
DOLL.

pay us to get" said Vice.Presiden
Marshall in a recent address. "Fo
instance. 1t doesn't pay q man to &c
SO much money that he becomes
ashamed of his old-fashioned wifi
and no longer wants to trot in her 30
ciety."
Not long ago q man who abandoned
his wife and who tried in every way
to provoke her to get divorce from
him so he could marry young ant
attractive girl, plainly told her thai
she was not good.looking or stylish
enough for him, that now that he hat
money he wanted a wife who could
show off in society.
This poor woman had made all sorts
Of sacrifices in their early days Of
struggle with poverty. For years she
had worked and deprived herself Of
necessities to help her husband get
start in the world, and to care fol-
and bring up his children without q
nurse or maid. She made a drudge
Of herself, but when he had become
prosperous he had no use for the
worn-out wife. with her burned-out
beauty and her wrinkles, which had
paid the price Of large part Of his
prosperity; he wanted to cast her
aside for young, fresh and attrac-
tive wife.
In the trial the wife said: II
worked from seven in the morning I'M
I'll eleven o'clock at night. But now
that am no longer needed in the busi-
ness, he has heaped upon me insults
untold. He has neglected and failed
TO properly provide for me.
He repeatedly told me that was
not fashionable enough for him." the
wife concluded. HE liked dressy
women. He took me to one place and
pointed out Miss X. and said he had
spent $500 winning and dining her"
The world will never know the tor
lures, thousand times worse than
death itself, endured by wives Of
prosperous husbands, who so often
prefer suffering to scandal and en-.
dure a living death rather than ex-
pose their husbands, who have been
fascinated by younger and more at.
tractive women.
One Of the most pathetic spectGcles
in American life is that of the faded,
outgrown wife standing helpless, in
the shadow of her husbands pros.
perity and power, having sacrificed
her youth, beauty and ambition
nearly everything that the feminine
mind holds dear-to enable an indif.
ferent. selfish, british husband to get
a start in the world.
1t does not matter that the wife
sacrificed her own opportunity for a
career, that she gave up her most
cherished ambition in order to make q
ladder for her selfish husband to as
cend by. When he has once gotten
to the top, like willy, diplomatic
politician. he often kicks the ladder
down. He wants to make a show in
the world; he thinks only of himself.
His poor, faded. WORKOUT wife, stand.
ing in his shadow, is not attractive
enough for him now that he has got
ten up in the world.
The selfish husband thinks that he
should have clear track for his am
bition, and that his wife should be
content, even grateful, to be allowed
n trk L.,
every possible way in what he con.
siders the grand life work of both of
them-to make him the biggest man
possible. II does not even occur to
him that she could have an ambition
yelling up within her heart, a long
ing to answer the call which runs in
her own blood. and a yearning to ex-
press it in some vocation as well
as he.
do not believe that the Creator
has limited one-hals of the human race
to one occupation, while |
the other half has the choice Of a
thousand.
But" many Of our men readers
will say, lis there any grander pro-
fession in the world than that of home |
Can anything be more slim.
ulating. more elevating than home |
making and the rearing Of children? |
How can such n vocation be narrow.
ing. monotonous?"
OF course It is grand. There IL
grander in the universe than
the work OF a true wife, a noble
mother. But II would require the con-
OF a Hercules, an infinitely
greater patience than that OF q Job.
10 endure such work with almost no
change or outside variety, year In and
year out. as multitudes of wives and
do.
The average man does not appre-
ciate how almost devoid Of incentives
10 observation-disclosures. to many-sided.
ness, to liberal growth, the home life
Of many women is.
The business man and the profes.
sional man are really in a perpetual
school, a great, practical university
He is continually coming in contact
with new people. new things, being
nodded by a vast number OF forces
which never touch the wife In the