Five Mile Beach weekly journal., 1915-10-08
SOCIAL CHARM
IN The HOSTESS
Tact, Graciousness and Much Skill
Are All Required In Order to
Help the Right People Meet
Each Other and Keep the
Wrong Ones Apart.

- q feeling of self consciousness
when making or receiving an
introduction than at any other
time in their social careers. They
stammer and flush and altogether mix
up what is really a very simple process.
but which, under the stress of embar-
rassment, becomes for them a perfect
bugbear. There are only a few main
points to be remembered about making
an introduction or receiving one, and
after that the introducer and intro
ducees may give their personalities
full swing and thus bring into the in
PRODUCTION an individuality that makes
the presentation memorable.
In the first place, don't bring people
together who should never meet if
there is no occasion or necessity for
their meeting. Promiscuous introduc-
tons are d thing to be avoided like hot
cakes in hot weather; they are foolish
and won't mix. There is no necessity
when you stop for an exchange of
formalities on the street or In a shop to
introduce your companions in a whole
sale manner If the conversation
promises to be long drawn out OF at
all general then introductions are in
order; otherwise they are just a
stretching of a point of etiquette. 1t is
very nice to have your friends know
each other; but, again, it is often far
better that they should not become ac-
quainted with each other. Their mu
tual friendship with you is not always
sufficient to balance natural antipa-
thies in each other. One girl showed
exceptional wisdom in keeping from
meeting two very dear friends whom
she loved so dearly that she would not
run the risk of their possible dislike
for each other.
"What shall I say when am intro
duced to a young manY' asks Miss
Sixteen. In the first place, Miss Six
teen, you are not introduced to a young
man. Rather he is presented to you by
some one who either first asks your
permission or knows that you will not
object to meeting the stranger. The
proper order of Introduction is a man
to a woman every time, mentioning the
WOlu4u > udllC nIoI, Us Miss DlON1
let me present Mr.. Black" or Miss
Brown, | do not think you are ac-
quainted with Mr.. Black" or simply,
Miss Brown, Mr.. Black" A younger
woman is always presented to an older
woman, and a younger man to an older
man if there is much disparity of age.
In introducing one person to a party
of people try to do it as gracefully as
possible. mentioning the newcomers
name first, as Miss Brown, let me pre-
sent Mr.. Black; Miss White, Mrs.
Green" etc. 1t is an awkward and
embarrassing situation to make the
rounds of a party with a newcomer
and to introduce him to each in turn.
One thing to remember in making an
Introduction is to get the names dis
tinctly. If you are not sure of a name
don't humble it, but rather ask the
person himself to repeat it. A man
gains a very enyiable reputation for
cordially who can approach some one
dimly remembered and, with out
stretched hand, say frankly, How do
you do? My names Black; l forget
your name"
But what shall l say when a young
man is presented to me and says he is
glad to know me?' repeats Miss Six
teen. You can be very formal and
merely smile and nod the head in rec
ignition of the introduction, or if you
are at all inclined to cordially of man
ner, you may extend your hand and
either repeat his name or say, as many
girls nowadays do, How do you do,
Mr.. Black?" A woman never says, I'M
less welcoming a strange guest to her
home, 81 am pleased to meet you" or
glad to know you" to a man, and,
for that matter, many men nowadays
do not indulge in this formality, rath-
err repeating the Woman's name with a
bow. a woman never rises when a
man is presented to her unless, of
course, she is hostess, but she should
rise to receive an introduction to al
older woman who is presented to a
group and usually when another wom-
an is presented to her. 1t is a point
to be remembered to get as distinctly
as possible the name of the person pre-
scented to you, even asking him to
repeat it, if necessary, rather than gar
bic it afterward in the ensuing CONVEX
Sation.
After all, there is really very little
to discomfort one in making or receiv-
ing introductions if one just keeps per-
feetly cool and acts as If meeting
Stra nperS were thp chief hnsinesS in
life, which it really is, in a way.