The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-11-24

loft fond memory brings the hsht
 Of other days around me;
 The smiles, the tears Of boyhooo
 The words of love then spoken; The eyes that, shone, now dimmed ana
 gone,
 The childish hearts now broken"
 All the world pities the lonely widow in her helplessness if she IS making a brave fight with the world to keep her brood of little ones under her mother wing. Few are there who hoid she should not wed aga1n-lay her tired hands in strong, brave, Wiling ones who are anxious to carry her burdens for her the rest of hfe's jour ney.
 The widow, however, must choose a. second mate with infinitely more care than when she was a maid, espec1al.y if she has children whose happiness IS involved. There are men who have natural fondness for little ones and would soon grow to love the lads and Iassies as though they were their own. There are other men less kindly dls- posed. The latter are the kind prone to jealousy, begrudging every aHec- donate work or embrace given to the children, who have every right to- a place in the mothers heart.
 If the right kind of a man enters the sacred sanctity of the widows home as it's new lord and master, all is we'll If the wrong kind of a husband hangs up his hat and begins forthwith to rule the house like a martinet, peace. takes wing.
 The newly made 'fe feels in duty bound to be loyal to her lately ac- quired spouse, but he can go step too far if he begins te find fault with the children she loves. Little folk have faults, but their naughtiness is Af1 hearts are impressionable, won by 8 smile or turned by a frown, The step-- father who gathers them in his arms, or trots them on his knee, can win all the love they can lavish. If his hand falls heavily on them in anger. he makes foes not only of the children, but their mother as we'll No mother can stand unfee1ingly by and see a stranger chastise the darl1ngs of her heart. {.
 The young man has little patience, with the young brood. A widower habits, lives, likes and dislikes of youngsters, having studied them at close range in his own home, in other years has little difficulty ingratiating himself, by kindness, into their good graces.
 Where love and peace abide, the 1it-- tie family soon becomes closely united. If they play at cross purposes. the widow may. be said to have jumped from the frying pan into the fire. The widow should have a frank talk with the man who asks her to lay aside her weeds, along these lines By we'd ding a man whom she knows to be. antagonistic to her babies she IS in- viting trouble, and she will get aplenty of it.
 Of course. even after exercising. or dinary good Judgment, she may make. 9 mess of it because there are men who keep their real intentions to them selves in regard to the favor in which they hold the offspring of husband No. l. She has every reason believe they win prove loving and kind where as they turn out to be just the re- verse.
 No matter how much a second hus-. band may love her, if he is cruel and unjust to her children she would bet-. ter remain a widow and look for fu- ture reward in the love and fidelity of her children, which will rarely fail her in old age-her real time of need. :