Wausau pilot. [volume] (Wausau, Wis.) 1896-1940, 1915-10-12
oUTSTAYING HIS WELCOME,

Tell me, gentle traveller, thou
Who hast wandered far and wide,
Say, of all thine eyes have seen,
Which the fairest land has been?'
Lady, shall 1 tell thee where?
IT'S where those we love abide,
And that little sphere is best,
Which the loved ones foot hath pressed"
You could never make me yield to
the argument from the time the sun
rose until it set again that there was
scarcely young woman but had her
sweet, secret daydreams of the lover
coming to her some day. She would
be his chosen ideal from all the other
maids to be his bride.
1t is not foolish waste of time for
them to have such hallowed reveries,
but as natural to have their own
ideas of love and marriage as it is for
flowers to turn towards the sun, or
lilies to have the life-giving dewdrop
close to their warm, golden hearts. 1t
is the dear, impulsive young woman
whose heart beats quicker for an en-
dearing word spoken, who watches
eagerly and listens for a well-known
footstep. If that someone whose COM
ing is expected has not disappointed
her, visiting her summer and winter
time, the heart of the girl who be-
lieves he adOres her grows tender with
spark of romance.
He may not be up to the standard
of the one she has imagined as best
suited to her, yet she sets her hopes
high, candidly believes he knows a
great deal that will come out when he
is trained for vocation.
In fact, he has the making of man
in him when he has a wife to spur him
on, she declares. His chief inclina-
ton at present is being a good talker.
He never takes her to task as to
whether she listens, and is undoubted-
ly impressed as long as she does not
interrupt his string of anecdotes or
start up contrary discussions. She
persuades herself that this gift, which
he amuses her with, although she is a
bit tired of never hearing a word
about love and tenderness, is a trifie
better than if he rolled off witty say
ings or paid her compliments, to fill in
time and not wear out his welcome
1t may be the very ease he shows Of
how cOntented and at home he feels in
her company and the lack of interest
he displays, on the other hand, when
the tide of conversation drifts toward
Cupid's mating which gives her an
inkling that marriage with him would
be no hasty affair. He jests over it.
She ponders if it is best to keep on
waiting; ruefully she wishes she had
not led him to suppose when he first
put in an appearance at the house that
she would look for his coming and
welcome him, the oftener the better.
What folly the too-anxious young
woman finds in entertaining someone
during her best years just because
there's nobody else coming. Dame
Rumor starts a prediction-a we'd
ding must take place! She summons
courage to deny and to say falter-
ingly: Il cannot think of marrying
him. He is only a family visitor. l
am sorry everybody seems to think
we are to wed. 1t is not true! Will
you do me the favor of contradicting
when you hear it?''
Those who outstay their welcome,
with no intent of marriage, are to
blame for the girls lost opportunities.
Such men ought to placard themselves
as laggards in love so that all maidens
might understand their proclivities
and beware of their lengthy entertain
ments.