Omaha daily bee., 1915-09-07
How to Keep
Your True Love
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

Every day dozens of letters come to
me asking for same infallible test where
by some uncertain youth or girl may
make sure of the love of his or her be-
loved. Symptoms and actions are related
to me galore and what she means by
this or what he intends by that" are
marshalled before my critical Judgment.
But so long as human nature IL human
nature and change is one of It's strongest
characteristics, no one can sit at an Of
flee desk and assue John of Marys love
or guarantee to Mary that John is faith
full and devoted.
The best way TO be sure Of any ones
love is to wait until he is so sure Of It
that he tells you perforce.
Convention prevents a woman from de-
claring her affection. but her preference
must show itself and she sacrifices all
the Joys for the supreme one Of being
with her beloved and trying TO make
him happy,
The illusian of youth often makes us
mistake fancy or infatuation for real
love. The great danger of life lies not
in knowing whether or not your beloved
loves you, but In being sure whether or
not you really love your beloved!
There is nothing in all the world TO
which make haste slowly il so directly
applicable as to love affairs. II only
youth would stop to weigh and analyse
the attraction it feels for other youth
instead OF yielding to the supreme urge
OF emotion that has no real basis!
But John knows subconsciously that
Mary's eyes are blue and tender and
Marys mouth is sweet and red. And
so John pours out TO Mary a, conglomera-
ton of his dreams and aspirations and
desires and ambitions.
And Mary knows that John is tall and
strong and handsome. and so she listens
with her heart in her eyes. And, fancy
ing that they understand one another
and are madly in love. they plunge int
an engagement or into matrimony itself.
Poor joint Poor Mary! They knew
no single true test for true love.
The most efficient test for love that
know is two-fold. Ask yourself not "Can
I 1--we with this man or woman" but
''Can I face life without him?" The in
dividual with whom you want TO share
your dreams may be very dear 20 you,
but more honestly dear is the one into
whose dreams you want to fit yourself.
Not in a willingness weakly TO SUBJ
merge yourself. but In a supreme desire
for cooperation and understanding lies
/ the honesty OF a big love. The lover
whose life you complete and who com
pletes yours-mentally and spiritually as
we'll as emotionally-iF your true love.
! The one YOU would defend against the
world is your true love.
/ But the final great test OF love Is this:
| Does your love mean 10 you hfe's great
immortality? Do you want II TO bring 10
you as a result OF the perfect partnership
OF your two lives little children who shall
be like the one for whom you carer Are
you willing 10 send down to posterity the
traits and characteristics OF your be-
loved3 Do they seem 70 you fine enough
ana splendid enough 20 go on down
through the generations as a result OF
your win to immOrtalLSe them ana your
lover
Children mean immortality and the
great crown OF your love. Marriage
without them is selfish. II marriage
means 70 you the shirking Of hfe's great
est responsibility-if Il brings 70 you no
longing for little baby faces. you do not
know true love.
Infatuation may be for the day. Fancy
may be for emotional outlet. and even
affection may yeam but for the comfort
OF home and refuge from Loneliness. but
love Is so sure OF itself and OF its per
manent admiration and alteration that Il
| longs for Immortality