The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-07-24
WHY MANY WHO COULD
 LOVE-ARE PARTED

:" .T@were best that happiness unknown
 Should ever thus remain,
 Than to grasp it but to find 1t flown.
 To ne'er return again.
 'Twere best that joys that love. can
 bring,
 Should e'er remain unborn;
 Than pluck the rose to feel the sting
 Of a cruel, hidden thorn
 cruel stigma upon mythical fate which it does not deserve. In reality it is the downright carelessness of the one or the. other which defeated Gu pid's sacred marriage bond. Many man tells as the reason why he has never welded. that in his earlier life he met and fell in love with a beauti- full girl, wrote her a letter asking her to be his wife which she took no mo- tice of. and from that hour their lives drifted apart His admiration, nay, his love for the girl, cannot be ques- toned, nor the fact that he proposed marriage to her by letter; but. through masculine carelessness, in nine eases out of ten. man is so agitated he Jots down the wrong address. prob ably sending it to some one of the dog en fair maidens who, in the past had been on his correspondence list, and, to make matters worse, had quite omitted the formadty of beginning the epistle with his own address or ending with his name. The dead letter office has lfttlel compassion for bun dering lovers or their ronances The girl in the case wonders why the yong man who seemed so smitten with her dIops off from calling with out even a word to inform her of the reason. She is aware, too. that he. turns abruptly aside rather than meet her.
 Womanly pride comes to her rescue She cared for him more than she had realized, but he will never know that by her manner It is not often that they ever find out what parted them. The years rush in between. Other low CTS crowd about her to press their suits; the man meets other fair wo- men. Each consoles him or herself that it was not to be, looking no fur ther for the cause.
 The f1uttering Of lovers heart should not impair he Judgment of a lover's cool head; he should see that his all-important rnissfve is properly addressed; also, that it bears his name in full, with address at the end of it, that he may know whether it reached the hands of his ladylove or wandered far afield. The persistent lover who Is terribly in earnest should not take his dismissal through silence, but should insist on a reply from the young wo- mans own lips, or by letter from her hanQ- Ai1rS are equally as careless, charging the cause of their single blessedness up to fate, when in reality the reason rested with themselves. Many girl forgets to address her let ter of acceptance,Htoo preoccupied with her happy thoughts to note that she has mailed a perfectly plain, un- addressed envelope. from which even the customary stamp was lacking. The clerks in the dead letter office have no means of locating Home, June 30th.' or knowing who Flo might be. and 1t becomes part of the great heap marked unable to be identif1ed,f to be destroyed And many hearts, loving and true, go lone and starved the whole way through.
 Letters are not the only cause of turning aside the course of true love
 Many a girl has murInured a mis- cn1evous No to a mans proposal of marriage, expecting to be coaxed into changing her mind. If he lets it go at that, she has many an hour of sorrow In rueing it.
 The reason why so many con genial couples who could love eacn other de- Votedly, but are parted by one .cfrcura- stance or another. should often be looked into closer in many case since 1t involves the future happiness of two lives. When young woman receives an offer of marriage by mail It certainly merits the courtesy of a reply The man who fails to receive reply should not rest content in taking silence for his answer It is due him to be told either yes'' or mo-