El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1915-05-22
WTIFE Must Stand First
w In Husbands Heart
Easy For Average Man To Make Average Woman Happy After
Marriage By Displaying Little Tact and Showing Her
Attention Which Is Her Due.
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.

-NLESS a woman is utterly devoid
Of reason and good sense. it is
~ the simplest Of matters for the
man she loves to make her happy
after marriage.
A little tact, little selfdenial. a
little patience, much consideration.
many small attentions and unfailing
kindness will keep the average woman
as happy as her days are long.
But IN spite Of the simplicity Of the
undertaking, the world IS filled with
domestic failures; and the discontinued
and disappointed wives seem to out
number the satisfied ones.
Most men begin married life with
more real love in their hearts than
most women bestOw upon their hus-
bands; yet, after a few years Of dOmes-
tic life it is the woman who gives, and
the man who seems TO fall in bestOW-
ing the proofs Of affection which are
SO necessary to the happiness Of most
women.
Wishes to Be First Always.
The leading desire Of a woman's
heart is to feel always, and under al
circumstances, that she is first in her
husbands thoughts. The next desire
is 10 feel that he likes to be with her;
that he enjoys her society, and that he
comes to her jOyfully. and goes from
her regretfully, even as in the days Of
cOurtship.
II Is just IN these Two maLLerS EnaL
50 many men fall.
Most decent men give their wives
dutiful attentions. They provide for
their wants, and are anxious to have
them entertained; but too frequently
they are satisfied TO provide amuse-
ment and entertainment which does
not necessitate their personal partici-
patton.
a woman who had received an ex-
pensive New Year gift was -leverthe-
less, made unhappy by having her
husband sit in an abSentminded man
ner through the dinner hour with
friends, and to hear him ask to be ex-
cused as soon as decency allowed, and
TO see him hurry away to watch the
Old year out and the new year in his
Her unhappiness over this incident
seemed unreasonable to him; yet had
he given her that hour OF his undivid-
ed attention and shown pleasure in
having her at his side as the New
Year came in, he could have finished
the night with his club and left no
soaring memory on the heart OF the
woman he had chosen from all the
world TO be his companion.
1t required only a little selfdeuial
and a little tact to make this one wife
happy.
Unless a woman is obsessed by the
demon Of jealousy, which makes her
incapable Of sane reasoning and good
judgment, she does not object to hav-
ing her husband show other women
gracious attention. She is. indeed, proud
OF him when other women admire him
ana lind his society agreeable.
But IN order for any woman to take
TINS view OF life the man must be ten
der and tactful enough to make his
VIE feel always that she stands
first in his heart
de must look in her eyes when she
IS talking 10 him; not past her TO
gaze at some other; he must see ler
when she enters a room. and come TO
meet her he must not forget her pres
snce and sit or stand with his back 10
ner while he entertains some otner
I" oman and he must be as ready ana
luick TO praise his wife as ne is 10
1raise others.
Making Her Jealous.
Hhen a man springs quickly to the