The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-04-21

- love thee with 9 love seem to lose,
 With my lost saints I love thee with
 the breath,
 Smiles, tears, of all my life and If God
 I shall but love thee better after
 death.''
 The lessons of love are quickly ac- ing the courtship which precedes their marriage. Others struggle with it's problem all their lives, but do not seem able to master its intricate prin- cipIes
 If all men were alike common rule for loves guidance would apply to one and all As each lord of creation is totally different in many respects from his fellow-men, a different guide must followed in the winning and holding of his affection. It is generally the girl who has rushed hastily into we'd lock who finds she has made a. mess of it by being too impatient at least to learn the A, B, Cs concerning it. The first rudiments. are self taught and consist of discovering whether two natures are congenial and the one heart of vital necessity to the other.
 If a girl falls headlong into love at the first few meetings with a young man, marrying him while the glamor of acquain tahceship. is new, she has only herself to blame for the greater part of the misfortune which may come of it.
 Marriage brings out mans virtues and unearths his gravest faults. If he is a beauty lover and his wife's fair ness of face fades with the qufckness of the summer rose her greatest ap- peal to him goes with it. If her merry ringing laugh made the warm blood leap in his veins in those early meet fngs and Laughter gave place to signs aftef wed1oek, she has lost 8 valuable hold on his heart. If he wooed the maiden amid green trees and flower ing gardens, associating her with such and after marriage she turns into a household drudge, hair unkempt, slip shdd in dress, .eternaIly acrubbing floors or parboiing her face over the hot cook stove, her floors may be scrupulously clean.s her home neat as wax and her dinners faultless, the TO- mantle husband would turn his back upon her and her 1sol1sehold virtues, his longing eyes following the CO., Quettish wife of neighbor whisking by in lace 8fri1Ied petticoats, French heeIed shoes and red smiling mouth, who made her boast that she couldn' t do houseWork and wouldn't if she could.
 1 It isn't the home that attracts the husband; it's the woman in it. It should be considered by every wife a duty to keep up her charms and never disenchant the man who has welded her by allowing him to behold her looking her worst He should never be permitted to realize that she could look frowsy, coarse or old, smelling Nof cabbage and garlic, instead of the bunch of fragrant wood violets she wore when first they met It is quite true that woman must wear the garb suited to the 3worksthey are obliged to perform, but they would save the day in many instances by doff1ng the old duds hurried1y as the hour of his homecoming approaches and slipping into a becoming frock which will be dainty and pleasing to his eye.
 The pretty, dainty, sweet-tem9ered highly esential to play the Icoquette they have been married, holds the sceptre in her own hand of ruling and holding her husbands affection. It is the woman who makes herself not only un1ovely but distastefuI in his eyes who sows the seed of dissatisfaction in his heart, a cross word instead of a pleasant one every time he enters the house, continual nagging. explain most pitifully why some really true and good women and themselves deserted wives. Loves greatest lesson is how to hold a husbands love after you have become a wife.