Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1915-04-08
Safe Basis for Matrimony

rootstep Of the one for whom We have
boon waiting gives US heart faflurr, en-
sends hot and Sold chills chasinH down
ovl spines.
BY the time We are As we have slowed
down ornottonally as well as physically
We no longer desire to hop and skiI
around and BE forever. doing somethins
as We did when we wore 20 Experience
has taught uA 10 take eood And evil foi
tune without bcing either pulled up o.
cast down Wei have learned not to OK
pect too much OF other people, and thcr'
are for .us, no more little tin gods or
godcsses, but lost men and women. VIII,
arc human and faulty Just as We are. and
for whom we mqst make allowances as
! they must for US
Therefore. 1t Is that the man az 8 who
Ia holding his finger ON the pulse q his
affections. and who thinks that he isn't
in fove BECAUSE At doesn't jump 10 seve-
heat "a aatnahdhg the Impossible ,of bin
self. At middle life our temperature Is
always nofmai, hut that ,doesh' prevent
uss from experienelng a, beautiful and
soui-satIsfyins affection. or entering into
marriage that Il TAR nkelier. y bring
happiness than any youthful narrifeR Is.
| ID lssiSkowise absurd for a man to COM
pare alr othci women with the memory
oCihls first love. and 20 find, them want
ing because they have not all tho charms
and graces with which his lnRginetion
has come 10 Invest that dream madden.
The only two faultiess creatures Jon
earth arc the man and the woman we
didn't marry, aud. believe me- none offns
ever gets such shock as when chaaco
throws across our pathway after The
lapse OF time tho hero or the heroine OF
the hnghted romance OF our youth,
what man has not sah In his soul,
lis this fat. frowsy. stupid woman. vita
seven children the ethereal T.eohore from
whom / was cruelly parted, and whose
image have carried imprinted on my
heart all OF these, years. N s.f.
What woman has not confided to her.
pillow her chasrin when she recognized
some hay-windowcd. bald-headed. con-
eelted ass of a man. whose wife was.
taking in boarders TO support him. as the
hero OF her girlish dreamsg'
Times change and our tastes ehange
with them. and thSte Is no cure. for an
cid love like taking sQuint at i from
Tour present point OF view. Hence, any
one who spends his life grieving over an
old love Is doing nothing more nor less
than manufacturing trouble where none
exiets 49,, I,
AS a matter Of fact. Il is doubtful -
there Is any other basis upon which itsis
safer 10 marry than that OF respect. tFiiSs
ability and congeniaitg OF taste. TheSt
things last long after the mists OF ".
nance have been put 70 flikht by t,r
bright light OF the werk-s-day word an
the fire OF passion has burned down N
ashes. No woman can keep up the pos
lof, being an angel in the stress Of cookinR
and sewing, and bearing and rearing
children. No man can preserve the ~
} sion that he Il demikod in the lie s5
white lIEht that beats about the fsnshf
circle.
But when all the attributes with whlcE
each mas invested the other In the day
/ OK courtEhip are shorn from them. ca
man and woman who can stili respeA
each other who are stiil mutually heipfA
land who are rehi comrades. have got t,c
: rock upon which to found home seaintt
which the storm shall beat In vain. ThtJf
safety and happiness are assured
In America we do not put enough stress
on common sense In marriage and II &
significant that we lead the world in a..
number OF our divorces. while 10 thv
, countries I'm which tho marriage 81 res
son prevails divorce is rare