El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1915-02-20

them and being able to manage them.
But a man or a woman whose predOm-
mat characteristic is the love Of ad-
miratiOn is so simple that there is no
excuse for their wives and husbands
not being able to work them
Easy to Give FlatttFy Other Graves.
The wife who lets some slick tOngue6
woman take her husband away from
her by means Of flattery gets exactly
what she deserves. She had the first
innings. She had the inside track. She
knew that her husband simply purred
under any hand that rubbed the fdF-
the right way with him, and that he
, beamed and gurgled with delight when
any one told him how big and brave
and handsome he was, and yet, know
ing this, she felt it her Wifely duty 70
continually remind him Of his faults
instead OF eXpati2t1ng on his virtues
and so left the other woman a chance
to get in her deadly work.
Equally the man who has a wife who
loves admiration, and who is so dense
and stingy and tight Tipped thathe re-
fuses to even pay her a compliment, is
himself to blame if she packs her trunk
and hikes off to Reno with some more
appreciatiVe man, or If she becomes one
of those near faithful wives who are
the ruination Of the happiness Of any
home-WOmen who remain OutWardly
respectable, but who indulge in cheap
flirtatiOns.
OF course. men who crave admira-
lip service, can always go out into the
world and find it--Or buy 1t. The
average married woman is not circHm-
stanced so she can do this She has &c
depend upon what she can get from her
husband, and this is generally nil,
I know of nothing else in the world
that is at once so tragic and so pa
thetic as the gnaWing hunger for some
word of praise, come token Of graft
tude, some sign that their husbands
If Thorn 0fhorVVfEn than
a domestic convenience, that most
wives suffer, and which their husbands
are either too dull to perceive or too
selfish to make the effort to appease-
For it is literally the truth that after
the honeymoon wanes nine women out
of ten never get a compliment out OF
their husbands until it is carved on
their tombstone.
Lack of Appreciation Makes Failure.
The lack of admiration and appre-
citation is the main thing that makes
marriage a failure to most women IL
isn't poverty. Let a man tell his vile
that in his eyes she grows more beau
tiful every day and she viii wear a ten
dollar suit and feel like a queen IN
it. 1t isn't hard work Let a man
still show an interest in holding his
wife's hand and she'll consider it a
privilege to work it to the bone fer
him. 1t isn't the monOtony Of dOmes-
tic life. Let a man compliment his
Wife'S cooking and she'll think house
work the most thrilling occupation on
earth 1t isn't anything that a man
does or leaves undone, except handing
out a few compliments that makes
marriage Heaven or the other place to
a woman.
Nor is this quite as foolish as it
sounds. wOman's home is her world.
Her husband is her audience. and it's
dreary thing to go on year after
year doing your level best giving your
self body and soul without ever get
ting one ripple of applause, or ever
knowing whether your efforts are even
perceived or not
No actor can play his best to a cold
house No clerk gives his best service
TO an employer who never cOmmends.
Even a horse will pull his load better
for word of encouragement or praise.
But most married women have to
live their married lives without getting
~'0~''a El9" hand from their husbands
and it's pitiful to hear them beg for
e word of praise. I've heard of a
say. as she tried to cOrkscrew
a compliment out OF her husband. chow
10 I lOok2' And. without glancinE up
from his paper, he would reply, oh .
well enough" Or she would say. "how
10 you like this dressr' And he would
answer that of all the dai'a fool fash
ons he ever saw. it was the limit.
The strange thing about this with
holding OF a little flattery from their
wives is that men. for the most part.
10 admire their wives. Their own
,Eotism makes them think that the
women they picked out are the head
iners of their sex but they would die
ather than tell them So
To know that her husband stin
bought that she was pretty, to know
hat he thought her a second edition
L Solomon. to know that he blessed
er in his heart for all her years Of
0ynlty and devotion. would make the
verage woman supremely happy, and
ay her for every sacrifice she has ever
lade But her husband viii never say
to hs~