Ellsworth American. [volume] (Ellsworth, Me.) 1855-current, 1915-01-27
THE ART
OF LOVE
A Lecture on How to Secure
= Husband
By F. A Mitchell

Mrs. Matilda ssobbins. a widow of
fifty, who had buried four husbands.
announced that she would give private
lectures in the parlor Of her home to
young ladies on how TO get husbands.
A lecture would he given every Friday
afternoon ut 8 O'Clock.
On the first afternoon numerous
audience were gathered in the lectar-
ers parior.
Mrs Robbins spoke as follows:
Young ladies'. you have doubtless de
rived your ideas as TO woman's part
in courtship from novels. and that is
the reason why you are not married.
The heroine Of novel is usually so
modest that she doesn't dare say her
souls her own There's more accom-.
plished in this world in other fields be-
sides matrimony by assurance than
modesty and more accomplished by
management than by assurance.
The best way to teach Is by example
Therefore | shall put this lecture in
the form of story. But it's a real
story, not an invention. The heroine
didn't sit round and look pretty. She
was up and doing. That's what we
must all be In this word If we want to
get on. Do you suppose young fell
low who wants a position whereby to
start fortune sits round and waits
for it? No; he goes out and hunts for
it. And wnen he gets it does he mod
estly wait for somebody to tell him
to do things? Not If he wants to sue
coed. He does everything without be-
ing told and before it's wanted. That's
the part of young fellow starting out
to fix himself in the word. and you
young ladies' should act on the same
principle.
Now for my story Of the way one
young lady secured a husband
Her name was Jones. Sarah Jones.
just plain Sarah Jones, not Maltravers
or Montmorency. like the heroines of
novels. or Gwendoin or Jaquelin for
first name. A girl doesn't need high
sounding name TO get husband: she
needs something that I'm going to tell
you about Sarah Jones the day she
was eighteen sat down and did job
of thinking. She wasn't long about it.
for she was an acting girl. and when
she had got her thinking done she act
ed at once on her decision. That de-
cision was that her place was in a
home as wife and the mother of
children
Sallie Jones didn't go at things blind
ly; she thought them out beforehand.
She knew that she couldn't get mar
ried IL restricted TO the society Of girls.
So she Joined a dancing class She
couldn't afford it. but she had to at
ford 1t. and whatever has to be done
is done If the party to do 1t Is Of the
right stuff. She had her eye fixed on
that dancing class. and she joined
without knowing where the money to
pay her way was to come from. There
were twenty young men members and
twenty FIVE girls.
Miss Jones realized that there Is
safety in numbers but for the man she
was after. not for her. She didn't 60
fooling about among the twenty men,
She picked out steady young fellow
and made up her mind to land him.
His name was Abel Rogers. Nothing
romantic about his name either
Rogers didn't have anything except
what he was getting together himself,
but he was frugal and hard worker.
The first thing Sallie did was to let
Abel Rogers understand that she liked
him. She didn't pout when he danced
with some other girl more than with
her or look troubled II he didn't dance
with her at all. She smiled on him
when he came back after lack OF
attention just as pleasantly as IL he
hadn't neglected her.
This sort of work has been called
angling. and so it Is. A skillful fisher
man if a fish doesn't bite right of
wouldn't think of trying to jerk the
hook into its gills. and when 1t does
bite he doesn't try to haul it out Of the
water all at once. Some fish can be
caught that way. but gamy fish needs
to be allowed to play itself out. So it
Is with man. First get him on the
hook. then play him.
We like those who like us. and Abel
Rogers. being aware that Sallie liked
him. was disposed to like her. There
was nothing deceitful about this III
Sallie. She really liked him or sha
wouldn't have tried to catch him
There is a difference in a girl showing
man that she likes him and showing
him she wants him. Siowing II would
end uncertainty. and uncertainty is the
line by which she must pull him in
after getting the hook in his gills
Abel knew nothing about SaIlie's feel
ings for him except that she liked him
She might have liked several Other
men and owed one other.
Ii wasn't long before SaIlie found ar
opportunity to favor Abel above Other
men. He came one evening to the
dancing glass after an absence. having
NO partners engaged. Sallie turned
down several names on her engage