The evening world. [volume] (New York, N.Y.) 1887-1931, 1915-07-24

almost altogether on pnysicai "''i"o
Yesterday I took the question OF
the proper ago for marriage 10 the
woman who in all New York is most
expert in offering hrst aid to Cupid
She Ii Miss Rose McQuade. proba-
ton officer at Manhattan's Domestic
Relations Court since It's inception
several years ago. In her ofhce In
the old Yorkville courthouse at No.
ISL East Fifty-seventh Street. she
works daily at putting together again
marriages that have broken down.
She, II any one. should know the mat
rimonial dangerous age--likewise, the
safe and sane one.
"ipstsad Of advising young
people TO marry earlier, We should
make laws 30 keep them from
marrying 40 early as they do" she
ssssrtsd. "Ths couples who bring
their troubles 10 this court are
mostly young, many OF them
more boys and girls. Tho BIG un-
derlyinp cause OF much matri-
noniaI unhsppinsss 10 the extreme
youth OF husband and wife. In
the great majority Of cases q girl
Of eighteen and q boy Of twenty
ono are altogether too young to
assume marital responsibilities.
HAVE HAD NO CHANCE TO HAVE
THEIR FLING.
~Of course don't think that mar
rage should be deferred until both
the man and the woman are 30 old
and so set In their ways that neither
u willing to give in at all to the
other" she added quickly. But. judg-
ing from my experience in this court.
the greatest danger lies in the op-
posite direction. It's the boy Of nine
teen or twenty ana the girl OF SIX
teen or seventeen who como In here
and complain about each other.
They seem to have no sense OF
their responsibilities. He walks on
and refuses to take care Of her. or live
with her because he doesn't like her
ways. She goes out with other men,
Or she doesn't take care OF the
money. Or she doesn't treat the kid
right--his mother says So
Then I ask her about 1t. I did go
to the movies one night with q boy
I know she says. I didn't think II
was any harm. And I guess got
nslbt to have a little money for my
self His mother hasn't no business
telling me how shall take care Of my
baby
The root of the whole trouble is
that they're too young TO be married
She's had no chance to have her fling
or he either. II they weren't married
shed have a perfect right to go to
the movies with any boy Of her ac-
quaintance. and he wouldn't be up to
his ears in debt
"Considsr the carly marriage
from the financial point Of view.
Ten or twelve dollars a week 10
good salary for . young man Of
t~srty-o one. 10 can get along on
| Il we'll enough. But how far does
| II 90 toward taking care Of wife
and ehild-maybs ohiIdrsn7 And
. girl Of eighteen can't make Il 90
a. far a. would . woman Of
twenty five"
Doesn't 1t ever occur to the CIR
that she might go on working aftei
marrta8e?" l asked.
WORK FOR MARRIED WOMEN
| NOT ALWAYS DESIRABLE.
Sometimes she tries that" salt
Miss McQuade. almost Immediately
however. she begins to have children
Then she doesn't want to leave then
and people don't want to hire her
Also It's sometimes a bad thing TO
her to take a job. since 1t may iniiu
ence her husband to give up his work
yet the young girl who has had
pay envelope of her own misses
when she marries a man earning
small wages. l had such a case re
Gently. Before her marriage the CIR
had made 50 a week. and her mothe
allowed her to spend all of 1t on he
clothes. Her husband earned $40
week. He gave her all the money
but he took 81 Of 1t back during tn
week for his carfare and lunches. II
soon found that she was spending
week on herself. That left Sc 70
rent and food. and the table SUI
Tered.
HE told her she had no right l.
spend the money on herself, and sh
said she ought to be allowed as niue
as he took for himself. She had t
buy clothes. sne declared. 1t got S
that toward the end of every wee
there was no food in the house TO
dinner She went to her mothers
but when he came home he had I
go dlnnerlcss to bed, Then he ap
pealed TO us.
There were no children. so toll
this girl TO get Job. She is ninetee
and her husband twenty. II they ha