Omaha daily bee., 1915-11-17
The Bees Home Magazine paee
Should Wife Stand by a
Liar?

bic were she 70 say she intended to give
him another chance" than TO say she in.
tends to stand by him. There is nc
credit in standing by" and defending
crime.
1t would seem that some women never
show real affection for husband until
he becomes a criminal and breaks every
moral and divine law.
How can a woman really know whether
she loves a man or whether It is a mere
infatuauon Of the senses. or a habit of
association? some one asks. There are
women and women. and no one answer
will apply to this question for all
The mere infatuation depends upon the
mans physical presence usually or upon
some personal reminder Of him. His
magnetic influence sometimes leaves a
wake behind It for time. but pro-
tracted separation and silence break the
spell.
There is another infatuation of the
! imag nation, which takes strong hold Of
some women only when absent from the
man who has insp red It, Such women
revel in dreams Of happiness when away
from the lover; but once let him enter
their presence and they are cold I'M
responsive and concious OF a sense OF dis
appointment. They mentally criticise the
man. his appearances, his manners, his
words, and wonder how they could have
imagined him fascinating. Yet out of
his sight the spell returns again. 1t is
the passion OF the imagination only.
The affection of habit of association IL
very often mistaken for a great love and
frequently ends in marriage. Sometimes
1t results In real love, and again II does
not, yet the fact is not discovered by
either contractor during this life. They
jog along contentedly and suppose they
have experienced all life had to offer.
More frequently one finds that a mis-
take has been made, and runs forth to or
stumbles into a pitfan OF hopeless pas
sion.
There are women who can neither feel
nor inspire great love. They have ten
der feelings and loyal affections, and
they often make devoted nurses for their
families. but they do not love and are
not loved in the full meaning of that
word Such women form the great ma
jority OF the commonplace.
The woman who really loves a man
loves him absent or present. She loves
him with her Imagination and with her
senses. She knows his faults and may
tell him of them. but she will permit of
no one else to speak of them or to criti-
else him In his absence.
She could as easily tear her own heart
strings out as to allow one word of ridi-
Guile or censure to be passed upon him
without springing to his defense. like a
mother wolf in defense OF her young.
She will bear any trouble or burden for
his sake and love him the more, and her
love would live and thrive on sorrow. but
would not endure humiliation or injus-
tice, because then the very basis Of a
great love Of a great nature-respect--is
taken away,
1t is the woman who demands much Of
the man she loves and who gives as
much as she demands who inspires much.
The spaniel woman who ticks the hand
that strikes and the doormat woman who |
thinks to have a man wipe his muddy
feet upon her Is a proof of his devotion |
and her love, are fortunately going out |
of date.
They know nothing of love or Of being |
owed for love besides passion and loyalty |
must also contain dignity and self-re-
'pect. Only when It includes these quail |
les can It ennoble and elevate it's OBJ
ect. That Is what a great love always |
ioes.
Say not that any man has been the
object of a great love unless he has
crown worthier, kinder, nobler and
yrander in character. Some element Is
Missing from the woman's devotion II
he man degenerates.
To love fully you should stand upon
he heights.