The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-07-22
WHY GIRLS DISLIKE
 HOME RULING

"I believe we were made to be gay,
 And all of youth not given to love Is vainly squandered away,
 And strewn through lifes labors Like gold in the desert sands
 Are loves sweet kisses, and signs,
 and vows
 And the clasp of clinging hands ' The gayer, more of free lance man has been in his single days, fiirt- ing and breaking the hearts of suscep- tible women, riding away, laughing at them-the more strict c is apt to be with his own household when he has become staid elderly married man and the father of grown daughters. If the girls are of jolly temperament, fond of heart. and also of the society of the opposite sex, he has his own reasons for setting his foot down against young men lettering in his parlor after the hour when he should have taken his leave. Papa knows that many a man pays attention to q girl, without having serious intentions. He does not intend to have broken hearted girls in his family who are signing for man who does not care if he can prevent such a catastrophe. He believes in occupying the back par dor and sitting sxwhere he can have an eye on that part of the front parlor which gives full view of the sofa-and
 
 make love but not think of prefacing it with the offer of his heart and hand Papa is also at hand at the front door when young man brings his daugh- ter home from theatre or dance, to see that there is no kissing goodnight, or fond embraces.
 He sees to it too that there are no moonlight strol1s, no lone boat rides tindulged in, no joy escapades. The young man who sees his daughter home from church soon becomes wise to the fact that there is a 5portly old gentleman skulking behind the trees, keeping a certain distance but within earshot behind them. While it is well to let girls know tha+ there is strict head to the home. there is sue thing as being too strict. A girl should be made to fell that she can be trusted to care for herself with modesty and decorun, under all circumstances and all places. Young men who are wolves in sheep's clothing eanont be avoided, now and then, by the best of girls, but, once realizing that he has little or no regard for innocence and virtue, a girl should never voluntarily place herself in his charge second time. It must be said that the majority of young men are honest of heart and sound of principle, with reverence for sweet is the, common lot of all mankind to search for a heart, and when the right one is found, to earnestly WOO and win her; but how can a bashful young man make overtures to a maid with the uncomfortable knowledge that there is watchful papa. keeping tabs lon him behind the porch pillars or trees2 Such a contretemp takes all the ardor out of love-making and court ship
 Where one daughter may submit humbly to the home ruling, and papa's arbitrary methods another might re- bel, surreptitiously leaving home to make her own way in the world and carve out her own happiness Even in homes ruled the strictest, daughters should not be made to feel that they are prisoners. requiring a watchful eye old enough to go out to gatherings of young people or invite callers. or even have beau
 With the coming of the first sweet heart upon the domestic horizon. pa rents should have one heart to heart talk With the girl The mother. from | her side of life, embracing falling in love, courtrship and the result, the marriage preposel. The father should explain life from a mans point of view, a young mans liking for a girl what his calls may lead up to, an of fer of marriage or not, according to how his courship has been eondu cted lTf the girl is too easily wen, she for [ feits his anxiety; ernbre eiag and kissing forfeit his respect and to aI- low him. so sacred a privilege, u11- f.less 5hetrothed. means in nine cases out of ten. the breaking up of hes love dream, hopes and expectations, laltogether.
 It $ the manner in which parents explain matters to a young girl which causes her resentment or gratitude for the enlightenment