The Washington herald., 1915-10-10

NhcoScu " lHS NOuHS NOHdQ, OS-
manded the return of the picture, which
return DR.. Cowles refused to make
And through the odium of publicity
and stinging criticism, Mrs. Cowles was
Joyfully, almost antagonistcally loyal
She visited Washington several times,
urging that the trial be hurried, and
she sat with her husband every day in
the courtroom. All these things, and the
destruction of the social standing which
she coveted. the wife endured. But 1t
came about finally that her faith in him
was destroyed. And then her love died.
The loved changes with the loving:
IL. after the quarter of century has
gone, the boy whom the woman mar
ried when she was girl fails to hold
her affection, is 1t not better that they
be set apart than go on living in love
lessness? For what RIGHTEOUSNESS Is 20
demoralizfng as marriage without love?
II love ceases. marriage should end.
The rub then is upon the mother il
there are children. She should have
the children. of course And to make
1t possible for her to care for them
properly, she should have been trained
in the beginning, to professional or
business career, the same as the father
Of the children was trained.
NC iCsull the HODle OI
girls to careers will be absolute equality
between the man and the woman That
outcome will be the development Of an
altogether different attitude toward
women by men. II the wife is indie
pendent. both before and after her mar
riage, she will not look for favors and
special privileges.
The cause Of most divorces IS that
men and women are not looked upon as
rights she will receive fewer privileges.
Then it will be the man, and not the
woman. who is emancipated-
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Mrs. Cowles named Miss Allie Arntz. Q
beautiful German nurse employed in the
sanitarium. as correspondent in her suit
for divorce. Because Of the two little
girls the suit was bitterly contested. The
mother won the decree and custody OF
the children six months Of the year. The
father is to have them the remainder of
the time.
After the trial, Mrs CowIes retired to
a farm at West Midway outside Of Bos-
ton. where the little girls could romp
with MOLLY" their pet pony. and Rex"
the collie, and where she could collect
the ends Of existence. Her views on
marriage and divorce were the result Of
endless thought on what she had once
believed. what her life had been. and
the result of her hopes striving. and nm
happiness. That she will never again
marry she states with emphasis. She
says that she does not expect to attain
happiness until she is absolutely inde-
pendent: and that all Of her life will
be consetrated to her two little girls
to making them independent Of any
human being so that they may he happy.
OniDO fn frr IN 0ivo than, n
education and a good home training"
she said. IF I can have them under
my care long enough I shall not worry
about them going out into the world to
fight their own battles.
''It has always occurred to me that
girls do not have any chance in this
world because Of the conventions I say.
bother the conventions. We all know
that it is the custom for a father-and
sometimes a mother-to plan In detail
the career Of their son. In directing his
play even from babyhood they try to
bring out what is in him. and thereby
get some idea as to the bent OF his mind
With the girl it is different. Nobody
cares about shaping her life properly
But there is going to be an awakening.
There is going to be q new woman and
that new woman's greatest need will bs
a new man. Men and women are going
10 Ut loohtu upon cuudIS OOn I
mean in politics especially. but in. every
walk of life.
"Of course all through nv divorce
case have maintained that I. as mother,
should have my two little girls I think
any mother should fight for her children
and I cannot imagine one who wouldn't
1T is especially gratifying to have
learned that my opinion seems to bs
shared generally among public officials
in Boston I have been doing some so
eial work Of Iate, and during one Of my
Investigations I had occasion to 20 to
the Associated Charities to inquire the
whereabouts Of . family had only
the mans name, and when found that
the mother and father had separated I
had great difficulty in Locating the chill
dren because found the officials kent
only the name a the mother, taking q
for granted that m 4 ease Of thst sort
the children would be with her and not
the father I found upon further In
vestiGation that this system is In general
practice
Il don't think any rules can be set
for happy marriages / think it is The
case OF the individual I don't believe
In the trial marriage that seems to be
meeting with some success in some parts
of the country. for think that we have
a good substitute In the trial engage
ment. I am not opposed to eugenics. of
eourse,t but think that It is Of far greater
Importance to mate properly the minds
Of husband and wife. Therefore do
not believe in short engagements n
takes q long time for q young man and
woman properly to understand soch
other. They may fan IN love IN . week
but they cannot tell whether that lovo
will be lasting. All can say b that
II both Sthe man and the woman aro
independent and vii spp1 . htt3s a
vhaf wsi used to cafl hofss saoss q
svsryday lpraoticA thsy voat hsvs A1aA