Omaha daily bee., 1915-10-20

under her end Of it. 80 49, |
Sometimes you see VN N
q husband who
thinks he has a right to be a little tin |
god in his house. while his wife should ]
be contented to be an adoring slave.
Sometimes It IL the wife who feels
that she is entitled to all the domestic
sweets. while her husband Ia left only
the bitter; but seldom do you see a man
and woman working together and split
ting 'fifty-fifty'' in domestic life. And
when you do see this. you behold an in
spring spectacle of connubiai bliss.
There are women who look upon matri,
mony as graft. and at husbands as easy
things that they work for their indi-
vidual profit. These are the ladies that
We see respondent In the latest creations
from Paris, while their hubands wear
coats that are shiny at the seams and
hats OF last years vintage. These are the
ladies who roll about In llmousines while
their husbands hang ON to trape in the
street cara, and who go to Bar Harbor in
summer and Palm Beach in the winter,
while their husbands toll on through
heat and cold with never a vacation in
their hard-worked lives.
These wonderland their name Is Mrs
Legton-do not make an even divide of
matrimony They are grafters who grab
everything desirable that is In sight
They shunt the whole family burden on
to their husbands poor shoulders instead
OF bearing their share.
You often hear a woman hypocritically
bemoaning the fact that her husband will
wear hand-me-down clothes, or that he
won't ever go off on trips with her, or
that he doesn't keep up with the new
books and new plays. when the truth is
that she works the poor fellow so hard
to pay for her finery and luxuries that
she doesn't leave him any time or
strength or money for himself. He'd like
to be well dressed and to amuse himself
IL she'd only split "fifty-fifty'' with him.
instead of LEAVING him only a jtney out
of dollar.
1t is not always the woman, however.
who Is the family monopolist. quite as
often 1t is the man who holds to the
cheerful theory that the husband, being
the lead of the house, is entitled to all
the prerogatives thereof.
These are the men who think that
when they marry they have conferred
such an inestimable favor on a woman
that she should never expect anything
more to be done for her. They are strong
for the contention that woman's place is
in the home. and that she should ask no
Iivelier amusement than taking care of
the children and meeting her husband
with glad. sweet smile.
These are the men who look about
twenty years younger than their wives,
and who are turned out by the best
tailors. while their wives make their own
ciothes-and look 1t.
These are the men who always have
plenty Of money to belong to fashion
able clubs. and 20 play golf, and to open
wine in restaurants for chorus girls. but
who dole out car fare to their wives by
the nickel, and raise ructIons over the
siso Of the bills on the first Of the month,
and begrudge the baby certified milk.
Now. no really happy home was ever
founded on selfishness, and no egotist
was ever a successful home builder. No
man ever loved woman we'll enough TO
enjoy being worked by her. No woman
was ever self-abnegating enough to enjoy
being offered up as daily sacrifice to
her husband, Patient GriEeIda Is a my
thical character. She never existed IN
real life.
The only way that any real happiness
IN married life is ever achieved is for
the husband and wife TO make an equal
divide OF everything. and this is Just as
. much true Of work. and cares, and re-
spOnsibilities, as It Is Of joys and pleas
ures. No woman ever feels herself a real
wife 70 her husband until he let's her in
on the ground floor Of his struggles and
hts ambitions. No woman ever feels
that she Is q real heipmeet TO her hus-
band until she has acutually helped
through some crisis.
anottRh for a real woman IN bf
a show window by which her husband
advertises his prosperity by hanging fine
clothes and jewelry upon her. She
wants 70 be something more TO him-to
enter his real life-and II men only under
stood this, and talked to their wives
about their business, and their hopes and
plans, fewer men would have TO complain
OF womans extravaganza.
Women would be satisfied with very
little II they knew that their husbands
were giving them a square deal. It's the
suspicion that they are being cheated OF
their share Of the profits OF the domestic
partnership that makes the silent part
ner % often throw the firm into bank
ruptcy.
And the woman who realizes that it's
up TO her to give her husband fair run
for his money. that her part IL TO make
a comfortable home, to be thrifty and
cheerful and eontented. has grappled her
husband to her with hooks Of Steel She
can laugh at sirens and snap her fingers
, At aga for she has built her house OF
happiness upon the eternal rocks.
To make matrimony a success, forget
not the sixth commandment, which says;
Thou shalt split thy pleasures and thy
shekels ''fifty-fivs" with the partner OF
thy bosom.