Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1915-11-06
by DOROTHY DIX


This Is the Tenth Commandment OF
Matrimony:
Thou shalt remember that matrimony
is thy job and " thou faiiest therein.
the shame thereof Ia on thine own head.
The reason that so many marriages are
failures Is because we hold to the simple
theory that whether a wedding turns out
we'll or Ill Is solely a matter OF luck.
Also. we pin our faith to the cheerful
belief that undertaking the responsible;
lily for another persons happiness and
we'll being, setting up new household,
Ind running a family Is so simple n Job
that any csllow girl and boy can pull Il
off successfully.
II every bride and groom would only
face this rock-bottom fact az the be-
ginning OF their married life, and In
stead Of saying, Il hope We are going
TO be happy" say. Il know we are going
to be happy. because we are both de-
termined TO make our marriage a
success" they would wipe Reno off the
map and do away with divorce
For II is piuful truth that II the
average man and woman gave as much
thought and intelligence toward making
marriage a success as they do toward
making any business they are engaged
In success no marriage would be a
failure. and II any man or woman took a
hundrcdth part OF the trouble to try TO
please wife or husband as he or she
does to please an employer, there would
be no more talk of affinities or Rliena-
ton OF the affections.
And the same tactics that make bust
ness success would make a home a
success, When a man goes into business
he doesn't expect his store or office 10
| flourish and prosper just of itself. lie
doesn't expect his partner TO do all the
work and let him share In more than
half of the perquisites. He doesn't ex-
| pect his partner to be perfect.
| lie knows that to make a business so
| both partners must work together in har-
mony; that they must overlook each
! others faults and make allowances for
mistakes; that they must make n fair
divide of the profits. lie knows that II
takes planning and thought and study T.
| make business successful, and that q
man must use tact and diplomacy and
self-control In dealing with his asso'
ciates.
Women are just as guilty in this re
| gard as men. IT, when n woman go
married, she recognized that she had de
liberately chosen domestlcity as hei
career, and that 1t was just as mucl
| triumph to success In II as II IL to be
grand opera star. and just as much I
shame to fail in II as II Is TO be hisse'
off the stage, why, we should have nom
/ but happy homes.
| Wen a woman undertakes to make
living outside of the home she soon find
out that she has to be efficient an
painstaking, and punctuRl; that she ha
to control her temper, and get rid OF he
nerves, and that she has to lock he
precious little feelings up in a safety dc
| post box and leave them behind he
when she goes out to battle with tn
world. She also ascertains that she mus
/ forget how to weep, and not answer bacI
when a tired and irritable man speaks I
, her GROSSLY. and says harsh things abou
her work.
Suppose n woman applied the sam
, methods In dealing with her husban
that she uses In dealing with her EN-
ployer. Suppose she was a crackerJac
cook instead of a crackerJack bookkeepel
Suppose she was as accurate about he
household expenditures as she was in he
cash account at the store. Suppose sh