The Oakley herald. [volume] (Oakley, Idaho) 1908-1961, 1915-12-31

COM RADESHlP.

Friendship does not, and cannot,
exist without a community of inter
est.
We select our friends, our real
friends, because they think as we do,
like the things which we like, and
are interested In what interests US.
Likes do not repel, and unlkes do
not attract, in every case by any
manner of means, Notwithstanding the
old and somewhat accepted adage to
that effect,
Friends may differ in detail, but
never are fundamentally apart in
either thought or action. They are
comrades. They love to be together,
to work toge her, to play together.
| Neither tires of the other. They have
a common interest and occupy a mu-
tual ground
Ninety per cent Of unhappy and I'm.
profitable marriages are due to the
fact that they are born of sentiment
and the imitation of love, instead of
being founded upon comradeship.
Sentiment Is not safe. 1t has led
more people astray and been respon-
sible for more trouble, than any other
one element in the composition OF
human affairs.
1t is difficult for one to know wheth-
er or not a certain person is suitable
for him to marry, II he depends upon
sentimental feeling or allows blind
love to guide him. IT, on the other
hand, both parties are good comrades
liking the same things, having 9
strong mutual interest; and, II they
are contented when together, irrespec
tive Of the affectionate side OF court
ship, 1t is pretty rafe for them Il
marry, even though they may not have
what is commonly called love for eacf
other.
In order that I may not be mis-
understood, let me say that love, II i
is pure, is an absolutely safe guide
to follow; but, as comparatively few
OF US can separate love from danger
GUS sentiment, we are not likely t
know whether we ere under the In
fiuence of the genuine article.
1t is, therefore, safer to Deepen,
upon that which is surer namely. com
radeship, for II genuine, 1t will bree
and develop love; but sentiment,
J not based wholly on true love, doe
not necessarily carry comradeship O
give or bold community of interest.
} No man should marry woman III
less he feels perfectly happy with he
before marriage under all condition
and circumstances; unless he love
, her at play, 1T work, at home, an
away; unless he is completely COZ
tented when in her company, with n
desire to be away from her or to hav
any interest which he does not war
her to share with HIM.
II he can be happier at his clul
among his man friends, than he woul
be indoors or out of doors with hi
Intended wife, there is something tn
matter with him, or with her, or wit
, both of them.
do not mean to say that a No.,
should be unhappy or dscontentt
when temporarily away from h
: f1ancee or his wife; but, unless befol
: marriage he is happier and more co
0 tented with tie woman than withol
l. ner, and he is willing to make her
partner in everything, there Is 'ackir
that comradeship. that community
interest, which is sure to kill all tt
love there may be between them, ar
:, result in disaster.
II men would select their mates {
they choose their intimate friends, ar
use the same judgment in so dom
!, and II women would do likewise, ii
percentage OF unhappy marriage
would be reduced to the minimum.