El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1915-03-22


would not marry until he had an
income OF $4,000 year and a big
nesteEg to tide him over the possible
loss Of some important clients patron
age This eZtravagant viewpoint IS
fairly Characteristic Of our times Com
ing from the lawyer 10 the man in mer-
camille life, and so on down 70 the day
worker. the standard OF the income
upon which one may safely marry grad
ually decreases. But modern standards
OF what a young couple can start out
on are vastly different from those Of
our parents day
Girls are trained 10 demand luxury
as an integral part Of their life Men
have accustomed themselves TO think
OF women as lilies OF the field who
toll not. but who. by the elegance Of
their raiment, suggest the prosperity
Of the man who is paying for 1T.
No wonder modern marriages are so
frequently failures. Marriages that are
based on love may go on the rocks But
when love is denied and the heart is
starved that a certain standard Of az
fluence may be reached, the resulting
marriage is bound TO go on the rocks
It is neither sentiment nor sentimen-
tality, but cold fact that human beings
crave love and affection.
And the Heart Changes.
BY the time the young lawyer has
reached the $4,000 standard he sets
himself: when the business man ac-
quires the $4,000 he insists on, OF by
the time the clerk has risen to the
$500 he thinks necessary. one Of two
things have happened Either the heart,
denied its natural heritage OF love.
marriage and q home. satisfies Itself on
unworthy emotions. or emotion denied
atrophies and the once warm and low
ing nature settles into mold OF cold
The girl who doesn't love man
enough TO live with him I'm a small
flat and do her own work. even though
she is used to a mansion and three
maids TO wait on her. does not know
the meaning of for better. for worse"
The woman who is not sufficiently in
terested in her husbands life work 20
help him do it by sharing his life's bur
dens has no real, lasting love for him
For richer, Tor poorer means some
thing a milliOEaire's riches may van
ish over night. and then the woman he
only knew how To win 10y rich gifts and
luxury is all too likely to turn from
the aridness or a life which never knew
love and is now denied the golden rain
that made It a land Of milk and honey.
Loves Offering.
II the modern man wants to have
fair offering TO bring his wife. let him
bring her love. high ideals. clean liv-
ing and sympa hy-that viii make her
feel rich indeed But all the cold dol
lars in the world viii not buy her deep
feeling and lasting emotion suck as
are needed to be the foundation OF love
and marriage.
Men seem to encourage women to
become well dressed mauikins and
then turn from them after few years
of matrimOny have proven that
tailors model may be all external
glitter with no deep. satisfying feel
ings with which TO respond to or 10
kindle love
Men dare not offer to the wei
dressed woman their demand has Gre
ated a life in which she must bc
dowdy and do without luxury for
them Women are afraid TO marry
poor men. and then by dressing badly
to be forced to throw awa- the line
% beauty with which they caught
their fish.
All on False Premise.
The whole system is based on false
and mercenary standards Luxury.
elegance and show have come to take
the place Of heart. home and happi-
ness The poor young man who could
win love with his fresh. young emo
tOns and euthusiasms is afraid 90 ask
for II, so he waits to marry until he
can buy il. But what would once
have been a free gift TO his lovabls
young manhood turns out TO be a very
poor purchase when his outworu and
cynical older years buy il.
Men spend their youth in grub5inc
FOR gold and they expend the youus
love and enthusiasm that ought to be-
long to one woman in all the world on
score of trifling emotions when
longer capable OF it. They buy. and
are disappointed i'm the beautiful cold
creature who is the finished product
Of their own mercenary social system.
So they turn around and buy them
selves more sham-the cleverly sim