The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-04-20

Who shaIlSsay where love begins,
 How its subtle way 1t wtns2
 Gods, who love the race they frame, Cannot tell whence springs the flame, Man may reason long and well,
 But can never break the spell.
 One of the grayest mistakes the pa rent of a girl can make is to lead the maid to believe that marriage is the greatest event which can take place in her life; that attracting young man to marry is her chief duty. Some pa rents mention love 1n connection with it, others ignore the tender sentiment altogether, or the moral standard a map should measure up to in order to make a desirable Husband.
 From the time girl has her dresses leng thened to her ankles she is told what to do or what not to do or say or wear lest she may mar her chances of winning a beau Can it be wondered that such girls grow up secretly love fed, in other words, with but one idea uppernost in their minds, the hope and expectancy of getting married.
 Very young girls always associate love with wedIock. There would be no marriage without it if they could have their way. They scern the intinaation that they should put forth any, en- deavors to attract the opposite sex and wait patiently for Cupid to send a Prince Charming their way And life slips quickly and silently away as they dream their rosy dreams and see them slowly fade If love does not come their way such girls become disap- pointed women by the time they have reached five and twenty. Who is to blame for this state of affairs? Not the young women (for they have but cIung to the ideas that were nculcated into their minds), but the parents who should have brought up their girls to realize that each life has it's duties whic must engross it Up to, and be- yond marriage. Two hearts intended by Higher Power to mate cannot. be brought together by human ingenuity if it clashes with His plan. Such fem mine hearts should interest themselves with other matters than hoping, watch ing and waiting until their hour of love dawns, be it soon or late.
 Young girls should be told that it is seldom or never the first man who for them. Many may come and go across the checkered paths of their lives while yet true love tarries. Busy lives are well content that it should bide its time. They have not worn their hearts out by useless longing.
 If every girl had an occupation she would not have so much useless time to speculate over how. to catch beau Or attract a marriageable man. which is the query in Hundreds of letters from women which come to me, ac- companied by the aggrieved declara- .tion that no mater how persistently they endeavor to coax the little god love won't come their way. It is gem orally the women who are not on the lokout for the guest with the little arrows and bow hidden behind his back who find him knocking at their door. He delights to miss those who sit with idle, folded hands awaiting his coming. He does not think them de- serving of the wonderful offering he has come to bestow.
 It has been said. and with much truth, +Love is of mans life a thing apart.,' This should also be the case with women Instead of being the pivot of wonaan's existence, it should be the greatest of many great achieve ments in her life. Love is not all there is in life to make it worth while.