The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1915-02-14

every one should go about-that is
the hosts and hostesscs of the win
ter-wth a certain Careworn express
sion and a decidedly absent minded
manner. Upon this stock taking de-
ponds among other things the deci-
sion a. 20 the trip West or south
this year the European trip is dis
unCtlv unfashiorab.e--or whether Il
Will be best to stay on at home and
Try what New York itself can furnish
in the way Of amuscments.
Social stock taking begins first Of
all with the calculation whether IL
has paid To entertain this person or
that person whether the money and
time aGd energy expended on enter
tanning peopla simply because they
will entertain or did entertain in re-
turn was good investment. Often
this requires careful figuring.
one point that every hostess OF
this winter seems to agree upon is
that the entertaining OF the average
young man has proved about the poor
est Investment possible. For soma
unknown reason the boorishness OF
the average dancing man-that Is, of
the younger set-has attained a pitch
NJ Snpbbshuess, to use a kindly
phrase that is almost insufferable. and
this among men whose parents have
certainly given them every advantage
Of school and home training.
Apparently there is dearth OF
eligible young men, otherwise there
could he no reason for the attention
they pay not the slightest heed to any
social convention. such as calling af-
ter an entertainment or making them
selves IN the least agreeable at either
dinner or dance. II was said that one
Of the reasons why the cotillon was
given up was that the men would not
ask the girls to dance. that they pre-
ferred 10 dance stag" as they call II,
meaning that they stood in solid
phalanX at the door of the ballroom
and danced only as they chose and
with whom they chose saying that
10 iake a partner Cor thc evening
was an awful bore because it meant
that one had 10 give up so much Of
ones time.
The hostess Of the present day who
attempts to introduce the young men
to the girls at a dance Is politely but
firmly told You will have to excuse
me; ! really don't care to meet any
more girls" At dance last week
one young man who is considered eX-
rremely eligible said when asked by
his hostess to be presented to a young
slrl: "Oh, excuse me; ! really haven't
had good chance to see what she
a. al f,V
a fellow 20 know a lot of girls who
areur attractive" This is absolutely
@ trur statement Of the occurrence, and
here are many others Of the same
KIND
T. accept an invitation for dance
and a. the last moment not to go Is
nothing. 1t IS a rule Of the young men
TO accept all invitations and then To
look in at the dance for few min
utes, or to stay away II anything bet
Ter turns up, without any regard to
The fact that they are causing TO be
vacant places that otherwise would
nave been filled by other men, leav-
ing the hostess with lot more girls
than men, which Is never quite the
thing at a dance.
The supper provided is never re-
garded as sufficient, however liberal ii
may be as regards wine and cigars,
and the signal TO leave the supper
room IS not considered at all obliga-
tory by the young men, who If they
pay their partners the compliment OF
taking them back into the ballroom
return with the swiftness of homing
pigeons to the banquet hall, whore
they rcmd n for the rest of the eve
nlng, II the entertainment is given
IN a public place as are most Of the
large entertainments, and the supper
IS not 10 their taste then It is quite
the correct thing in their view to
20 down 10 the public restaurant and
order whatever is desired.
That the hostesses of New York
should put up with this sort OF man
ners, or lack OF manners, seems ex-
Taordinary, but in order to have the
number OF men required they consider
apparently that there is nothing to do
but 10 accept the situation and bide
ones time. But it does seem strange
mat the parents OF these same young
fellows do not take the matter in hand
and insist upon better behavior.
II does not seem credible that the
men themselves should fail to realize
Inc mistake they are making, and it
can %" questioned If any other city
IN IN" world would stand for such
lh'np The girls take It all as mat
Yer of course. Their maids always
war 90 The dressing room, so that II
no partner is forthcoming for suppec
q. me dance a girl can go home with
'ui feeling herself in the least con-
70 Dc. whom for girl to be left in
WIS manner without partner marked
nor AS an utter failure.
IN coutradlstinction there are, Of
nurse, many girls who have a good
''.'"lng Of suiturs but II must be
'."''ss"d that these same su tOrS re-
N.I' an enormous amount of enter
''..as M" way Of dinners, theatre
r'...'- and so forth ia order to mako
"'m at all dependable and they do
""' hesitate 10 say that L another
INVITATION comes that is better it will
- accepted
inns part If the stock taking Is
not 'n..Ncnlng work. but there arc
'.h'r Inventories that hold elements
' pleasure. The winter, take Il all
." "" ''S uccu Tar Eayer than Was
N'''''d and although the entertain
"- a"s nccn principally for the de-
.l'1ni'a it has been very charming
"-NI Of entertaining Now that the
'''u'anles are debutantes no longer