The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-09-01

| Success, the lpark no mortal wit Or surest and can always hit; For, whatsoe'er we perpetrate, We do not VOW; we're steered by fate, Which in success oft disinherits,
 For spurious causes, noblest merits" Who has not heard of Micawber, that famous character of fiction, wno was always waiting for fate to turn
 up some good luck for him, always waiting?
 There are more Micawbers in this
 world than people inagine-supposed ly sensible men and women who de- voutly. believe if you are destined to
 have good luck it will come to you
 whether you put forth any effort or not. The years and disappointnents
 do not show them their errors of judg-
 ment-they still continue to believe in
 fate.
 It is comforting to have some kind
 of hope to pin ones faith to, but those
 with the ability to reason conditions
 out for themselves are firm in the
 opinion that people with but few ex- ceptfons, make their own fate, whether good or ill.,
 It takes determination for a girl who has no money to go forth to se- cure a position, but she would wait forever and a day for position to
 come in search of her. All 1ife's af-
 fairs work on the same general prin- eipIe.
 , There are young women who be-
 particular mans society, +rat he must surely be intended as the one to wed,
 no matter what his faults or fo11ies
 may be. Girls who are not bound down by fate notions," give the mat ter of marriage. dee- and serious thought. They will not encourage a 5would-be suftor whom they know to be a drunkard, profiigate work shirker, for they can look ahead and see what little chance of happiness they might expect.
 Fate makes on ones bed you make it yourself if you wiIfuly accept that which you know to be baneful Young girls should be encouraged to plan out their future. It Is mistake to persist in the belief this cannot be done. but it must be planned along
 useful lines. Too many Inothe bring up their daughters with the belief that
 the sole object of their existence-after their sixteenth or eighteenth birthday 1 lis catching a beau, and a little later on marrying him..
 More careful mothers direct their girls minds at a tender age from love and matrimony, teaehing them useful knowledge-if poor. how to become
 saving housekeepers and home-makers ] l-even before a marriageab1e young
 man comes a-wooing. The well-to-do mother teaches her daughter the subtle power of congen- l iality and to discard a dozen suitors
 until she meets a man who is worth her. love, and would wed her for her self alone. If the parents of rich girls believed in fate, adVenturers would have rich field. The parents of such girls listen to the story of the meet ing of the two young people, the at traction each has for the other and so forth, but instead of setting it down
 as fate that they should look, love and wed, they bring the young man to a
 practical view of the situation telling him when fate shows him the solu- tion of how he is to make as good a living for their daughter as they are
 now doing, they may listen to his pro posaL
 He may still continue 70 have an
 abiding faith in fate. but he realizes
 that hustling brings the fruition of his dreams much sooner