Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1915-08-26
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Woman and Home
aWhy We Quarelled
All about the Husband Who Won't
Go 10 Church.
tBy virginia Terhnnc Wan dc wntcrJ

IL sounds wicked to say that religion
is one OF the matters about which my
husband and | have our bitterest quar-
rels Nevertheless this is true
Ny religion IS part OF my very
life. was brought up in religious
family. Herbert was not. He went
10 church when nc felt like 1T. and
he did not feel like II often. His
people were not connected with any
especial denomination All OF mine
were
one need not belong 10 any church
to be a christian. my husband often
reminds me know this Is true.
Knowing IL. | try not TO he unhappy
because Herbert is not church men,
Der. He is a good man. Yet his atti-
tude toward sacred matters is Very
trying TO me.
MY belief is rs strong ms YOURS"
ne said recently when regretted his
attitude, only we take our religion
in very different way"
This was apropos Of the fact that
he had not accompanied me TO church
Tor many sundays Each week 30
through the form OF asking Are YOU
coming with me. dcar?" and each time
he says, as II il were not always his
custom 10 reply. We'll. no. dear;
think I'll stay ut home to-day"
LAS you always DO" remarked
dryly the laat time he made this reply.
ence does that make? 1t doesn't hurt
any one. does it,"
1T might help YOU If YOU went TO
church. ] said.
work hard all the week. sunday is
my one day OF rest, Moreover, DR..
Blanks sermons bore me-"
Then let's 80 10 hear some other
preacher" proposed, hopefully. But
he declined.
utes later as ! started out alone. Bob
is our small son. AGED ten.
HE did not care to go with me-"
] eXpla ircd. lie says that IL YOU
don't go he does not see why he need
do So"
~ chip Of the old block" laughed
my husband. But I'll coax him to
go with YOU to-day"
He did. apd Rob sulked all the way
10 the sanctuary and back. The next
Sunday when spoke OF attending
morning service ] added
II shall not take Rob. He doesn't
like church. Dear" l added timidly.
you are setting him an example of
unbelief."
OF course. a quarrel ensued, In which
my husband made tho statement re
corded above. The discussion led no
where, but left me so shaken that 7.
myself. stayed AZ home. unhapp" and
wretched.
Yet what can I do? Herbert says
he believes In God, and that he prays
wants very badly NO, that think
il does much good" ne supplements
skeptically
Is it right for me a church member
TO allow my child TO he trained in such
conditions? II this kind OF thing con
1soues Bob viii consider religion a
,hing only for women and youna chill
dren. l can't bear that thought Be
sides this, II makes me "a bit ashamed
when my people ask me every sunday
where Herbert is, aud have 10 reply.
AZ home"
'He ought 10 attend services oftcner."
my father remarks regrc,fully
l know tina; he ought. but. II I in
sist, but confirm him In his obstinacy
and Discrimination. heard n clergy
man say once that nobody was ever
scolded into tho Kingdom OF Heaven.
And know that IL speak harshlv and
Try 10 drive Herbert where he will no;
b" led ] am not living the Christian
charity that ! try 10 live, and am but
defeating my own desire and p,!rposa
4et II Is hard 20 speak gently always
when my hear; IS so deeply con
cerned.
Don't you ever take time to ,h;rl,
Of God?' asked Herbert one dav NV
foiCe trembling With unhappiness.
Why, yes" he said. carclessly. "of
In other words accused. moved
TO indignation by his easy attitude q,
mind, you patrtaizc laim"
herbert shrugged his shoulders "A.
az events, he rcjosnGd coolly. my be-
LEI In Him does not have the effect on
me that your religion has on Won. II
does not make me say the cruel ,bircs
That You say. TO my way OF th!nkinr
!: man faith is between his Maker and
himself and If lis good for much r.
ought to make him tolerant OF other
peoples ideas"
knew that my wicked Impotence
justified this speech OF his ana fa,t
that had been false 10 my procession
Yet when my husbands mother was
very IL! ne came 10 me with the an
FuiSh"d reqUes, that ! pray for her re-
And a.'. yonr pastor to pray, too"
prayers"
TG me i seems mean and cowaraly to
neglect the Almighty when life IS
bright and smooth. ana then when Won
r'f in trouhl" 70 cry out for His holn
isut did not say that 10 my husband
lie was unhappy enough ALREADY Nor
Was we'll, II he had returned thanks
Tor her recovery. As he had reminded
ne. mat was matter that should be
between GOD and himself
hut knowing, 90 ! do how much re-
iFion hf!pS on" 70 meet temptation and
70 1--we the square. honest life. have
not right 10 expect my husband N nm.
hoio my beliefs 70 our child
nm not good Woman hut q had
not ny faith I would he worse ono
If am ever patient. Torriyinc, kind. I,
10 because Of my religion Am ,nrcn
scra BILE IN wishing my husband 20 snow
by MS NE and spcecn tho mower .,
eterna! things? ~ ne will not do thia