The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-12-07

t"Give a man a pipe he can SMOKE
Give a man a book he can read
And a home is bright with calm de-
light,
Tho the room be poor indeed.
Give a man a girl he can love,
AS I, oh, my love, love thee,
And his heart is great with the pulse
At home, on land or on sea-
When YOU ask a mother of moderate
means why she allows her daughter to
have so many little. home affairs and
dress in the height of fashion, if she
is candid she will tell you it is her
DUTY as a mother to push her daugh-
ter. She wants her to be brought In
contact with a class of nice young girls
and men.
The root of it all is the hope that
the girl will be seen to advantage and
marry well. She braves her husnano
censure and grumb1ing, believing that
men do not understand the importance,
of such matters. She does not seem to
realize that she is launching the girl
on a tide of extravaganza. The friend
ship of young folks is delightful, but,
if it is dearly paid for, there is little
or no sweetness or comfort in it. IN
viting a dozen or so of young folks to
her home for cards one evening, dam
cling and games another, may be very
pleasant for the girl, it might do very
well for once or twice in a season, but
if it is kept up every week or so IN
the year.. the head of the householdi
has a right to complain, father ar
CUES.
1t costs money for refreshments.
Young people have voracious, appe-
tites. When they find one family will
ling to stand such expenses they do
not hesitate to come right along with
no thought of returning the good
time. The young men have these
pleasures which they do not have to
pay for and the young hostess learns
all IN good time that she is pay ng the
piper for the other girls to get beaux.
They take the other girls home, while
she has to say good night to the
while crowd in bunch. Many a
young man who had been her guest
might have been pleased to take her
home had he met her at some other
gathering.
The young men on their way home
are the first to decry the extrava-
gance of the girls who give too many,
affairs.
Young girls cannot be blamed for
showing their mates good times. It is
the duty of their parents to explain to.
them kindly that when giving affairs
assumes extravagance they are .hav-
ing pleasure at the expense of the
family, cutting off their needs and
rainy day. Father is obliged to bor-
row from Peter to nay Paul; dodge
his landlord; starve{ the butcher and
the bakers a while, wears shabby
clothes and keep a worried heart in
his bosom.
The girl who has the constant en-
tertaiIing bee in her bonnet is usually
the last. in her set to marry.
When she does marry, she is apt to
keep up the same extravaganza she
formed in her girlhood days If the
husband has d pocketfuI of money it
is sad enough. But when he must
work hard for his dollars, as her IA
Their did, such extravaganza is a ba- to
his married happiness. Extravaganza
is plant which grows like weed. The
woman who INDUCES in it soon finds
that the people whom she spends her
money for are the first to turn their
backs upon her if her husband is hailed
to a bankruptcy court.
Fathers and husbands should come
to a kindly but firm understanding
with their women folks, refusing to.
indulge them in whirns which have
no backbone. The careful wife and
daughter lay the foundation for fu-
ture prosperity. The, man is happy
who has no stack if bills come to him
which he has not the wherewith to-
meet