The Detroit times., 1915-10-05
What Makes a Gentleman
az n. ApolNoToN BRUCE,
Author of "The Riddle OF Personano'
Psychology and Parenthooo' GU"

r. xvord gentleman often is sadly inlsap
nlied Many people use IL as .ho - nsed
,ained only to the rich. by others ~ - ,rar,i
20 signify descent from some socially pro'i''
nent family. ,,,,,a,,isbed an
Now rich men and men of distineulsheu GU
o.strv raw be gentlemen. But they never a.
gentlemen simply because they posses'
or can boast Of long geneaiosy o- baa a
49, .ccount and never had an ancestor VINO
figured In the history Of his Gay. 49,
This "a important to remember, both Tor tne
sake of accuracy Of language ana Deeau ~
suygasts that ANYBODY can be gentelnan. as
: 1ss,,sr of fact EVERYBODY Is GEM LII
Nan WHO THINKS AND BEHAVES IN GER
TAIN WAYS. ,...a- .,ya
7 have a library book that my father gave
me many years ago. IL rs auaan' a. ,on~ sine
out of print But II gives the best accoun.
kno~r NJ the rules to be observed py all VINO
would become gentlemen And' piease ue =, -
mind nobody Is ever BORN eenuen'an. ~ "
always case of becoming one by observing tue
rules in question
"a Gentleman is recognized by his regard for
the rights and feelings Of others. even IN ma,
ters the most trivial. He respects tne Lnui'i ~
uality Of others, just as ne WISHES o'nei' ~
"In society he Is quiet easy, unobtrusive; put
ting ON no airs, nor limiting by word or manner
that he deems himself better. wiser or richef
m, nor looks down upon others because they
have not titles. honors or social position equai
70 his own.
"He never boasts OF his achievements. or
angIes for compliments by affecting 10 under
rate what he has done.
He prefers TO act. rather than to talk; to be
rather than to seem; and above all things, Is
distin guished for his deep insight and sympathy
his quick perception Of. and prompt attention
to, those little and apparently insignificant
things that may cause pleasure or pain TO
others.
"In diving his opinions, he does not dogma
tie; he listens patiently and respectfully TO
other men; and, IL compelled TO dissent from
their opinions, Acknowledges his fallibility and
asserts his own views In such a manner as 10
command the respect Of all who hear him.
"Frankness and cordiality mark all his inter
course with his fellows. and. however high his
station. the humbest man feels insiinctively
at ease in his presence"
The book from which these sentences were
| taken is called Getting On in the World: and
| IL was written by a Chicago man. DIR. william
| a gentleman was a profitable we'll a pleas
ant thing serving as an excellent foundation on
which TO build success.
Undoubtedly DR.. Mathews right ard ur
doubtedly every young man starting out 10 scci
his fortune would do well to mold his behavior
In accordance with these rules
Even II fate in the end Is unklnd TO him, and
he fails TO find the pot OF gold at the foot OF
the rainbow of his early dreams he will "a
least have travelled through life along smooth
er path than he would otherwise have followed.
And. WHAT COUNTS FOR STILL MCRE
IN THE SCHEME OF HUMAN EXISTENCE.
he will have done much 10 make life brighter
and happier for those he has met or passed In
Us journey from youth to age.