Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1915-09-23
On Being Engaged
Neither Man Nor Girl Realizes S:E-
ishness They ShoW.
tBy Irene Wcston.D

/ The first JOY OF being engaged is
! perhaps difficult to describe. The mere
I fact opens Out vista of perfect happi-
ness just as il marks the great tide
! mark in human life. y girls realiza =
/ ton that she has been chosen by the
man she ndorcs and idcalizes is beyond
! words At first
The fact that she is absolutely es-
scntial TO that mans happiness is an
other wonder. Tonrue-tied by her
wonderful happiness and rendered
spccchlcss. she in the end becomes al
most garrulous about the beatihed
man whom she is about to marry.
I SO great is this constant flow OF his
PROJECTIONS that mere outsiders have
the misfortune TO feel unutterably'
bored
DO not get impatient and try to rea-
son with an engaged person, either
male or female. 1t is no use. The
All beings who are in love regard l!fe
through roseate glasses.
Zach Demand Attention.
The engaged couple have no idea
that they are selfish, far from IT, Per-
haps the girl is more selfish than the
man, who may be fairly reasonable.
She may he even selfish where her
lover is concerned, and demand all his
spare time.
She cannot bear TO he separated from
the object of her affections, and cannot
imagine for minute that lie would like
to devote some time TO his bachelor
friends
The business man. tied down to an
Office desk all day, with only a limited
timo for sport may wish to spend Il
few OF his spare hours enjoying him
self
! The engaged Girl may like to have
n fcw minutes TO herself, yet each de-
mands OF the other an undivided atten-
| ton.
There is much to be said on the
selfish side OF engaged life. The new
found happiness is so great that moth
I ing appears likely to interrupt it's
! steady flow.
This is where the mistake comes in.
/ In married life there must be a certain
| give and take, and the utterly selfish
man or woman who claims every
minute of his or her fance's time is
I not likely to make an unselnsh hus-
band wife. There are others who
must have certain claim upon the
lovers time, and these must be con-
/ siered.
Expect Much From Fiancen.
If, however, the future husband is
too selfish TO allow any other claim
| but his own, then he is hardly likely
, to make an unselfish husband, and will
! probably develop other traits which
| may not include the happiness Of his
| wife.
! Sometimes, but this is rare a man
may allow all his pursuits and pleas
urcs To come between himself and the
girl he is engaged TO. When such a
| state OF affairs exists. Il Girl is we'll rid
| OF a man who would probably make
anything but an indulgent husband
If the position is reversed, and the
girl is the one who persists in devoting
the whole OF her time TO amusement
and friends, then she would hardly
make good wife.
| Perhaps few girls realize how much
| they expect from the man they are
engaged to. They allow him to take
them TO places OF amusement. to bring
them expensive presents, and spend a
considerable amount of money on pure
| frivolity.
1t is done thoughtlcssly, perhaps
but very often n young fellow who is
not making very large income finds
that the demands OF his "ladye faire"
upon his pocket cannot be met except
at the cost OF much personal denial on
his part. y thoughtful girl should
recollect this.