The north Mississippi herald., 1915-03-05
Water Valley. Miss. March 2, 1915

Will you please allow me space in
your very valuable paper for few
words to my countrymen in regard tC
an ideal home? l mean by ideal q
standard Of perfection not something
unreal. By home l mean dwelling
place for family. Home is a place,
where love is generated, it is the
first and simplest form of government.
/ do not mean by home a house.
As we'll call church building a
church. A tent may be home,
while mansion may be simply place
to stay. There is no word in the
English language so full of meaning,
1t has been the burden Of songs, in.
spiration for poets, and models for
artists. still no poet, artist, or COM
poser has ever been able to reproduce
q home. There must be back of il
all that touch of holy love; without
1t home would be barren waste.
The home should be the happies,
place on earth. Why do we hear OF
20 many divorces, SO many of unhap-
py marriages; why do we hear par
ents advising their children t. get q
start in life first? Why do we see
parents advising their young to stay
single? Have they made a mistake ?
If so, why not tell the next genera
tion wherein the mistake lies, instead
Of advising them to shun marriage and
the establishment of home. /. say
the mistake was because they joined
without love. Marriage is God given
union. but the relationship is lived
out here on earth. For in heaven
there is neither marriage. nor Civ
ing in marriage" Since the tie
holds only on earth. let US seek the
laws that govern happy union: A
home if you please, where there is
true happiness; home in which the
Savior of men is welcome; a home
where the word of God is as interest
ing as fiction; where prayer is daily
visitor. say such a home is i'm
possible where there is no real love
in the beginning. Marriage before
maturity. either mental or pysical.
is failure. Let your wife Or your
husband be regarded as q chum. not
as an armament or supporter. Know
the difference between real love and
passion. Real love. an emotion that
has within it confidence, respect, and
honor is flame that nothing. not
even death, can quench.
There are some things that need
be guarded against. Do not expect
perfection in man or woman but with
them. No, until you can see the
difference in infatuation and love.
Wait until you prize love as one Of
the dearest things in life. When
you know there is not mere sentiment
or delusion about 1t. We know who
We love, our mother, there ia no de.
lusion there. Wait until you are as
sure Of your love for companion.
Marriage without love is union, not
unity. When that deeper sense Of
love attracts them, and gives them
that every growing attraction, not
simply sex-attraction, but that de-
sire to share each others burdens and
sorrows through life; that love that
distinguishes man from the beasts
then it is that marriage is not a
failure. If every law of earth was
displaced and diverse was free there
would still be no divorce. Give US
a pair of souls united like that, and
the longer they live together the hap
pier they will be. These are the
marriages that will keep. Marriages
like these may be reviewed by parents
with pride. A home established
upon love like this. slaps blow to
the divorce courts and stretches q
banner over each patch Of vice. A home
like this will kill the social clubs,
that. are killing the present day homes.
What beautiful and tender associa-
tiops may bs linked With home like