Valdez daily prospector., 1915-11-22

it becomes evident that in all affairs, even of the heart, civilization requires
 that we consult not only our heart,
 but also our head. Needless to say
 that which call the love of inspira-
 tion is found most often If not en- tirely in impressionable youth. Such
 couples will always insist that they
 can succeed in this enterprise even
 though millions who have gone be-
 fore may have failed. All can say is this: If you can see no reason
 why you should not mate with the girl who swears that her love can never die, go ahead, but if you do
 see any reason, beware-for you will
 likely see dozen later on.
 with such love-" as the Valdez
 Drug Company's advertisement reads, "you want not the slightest shadow of doubt" for if that doubt appears
 "the devil appears also," and if you
 have not married, you will find it ex-
 ceedingly difficult to become recon
 ciled to the hard, cold fact that per feet love cannot exist in an imperfect
 world.
 Miss Vanity is ever ready to dis
 put Dan Cupid's right to rule the
 human heart. Therefore, in passing
 from the ideal to the average condi- tion in life, I warn you that the con- ditions in which you must live after marriage are of the utmost impor tance.
 God pity them both and pity us all, who vainly the dreams of youth re- call. I think we are justified in as- suming that, having passed the inn questionable period during which we were affected more or less according to our natures and social surround |ings. Parties contemplating matri- mony will be prompted not entirely by the primary cause. In other words they are not so imbued with the idea that children are essential in secur- ing that degree of happiness to which they now look forward.
 But, under no circumstances must a union be made where both the con- tracting parties are physically or mentally unfit, or even one party un- fit to any marked degree. Physical and mental fitness, then. is the first requirement, assuming of course that there may be offspring. Next, each should see their way clear to con- |tinuing in the social and business at mosphere to which they have been accustomed, providing that has been pleasant. As to face and figure, it seems natural to suppose each will be inclined to reject in the other, such features as do not tend toward off, setting those defects in themselves of
 which they may be conscious. As to productiveness, in this, marriage appears much the same as busi- ness partnership. Each should be strongest where the other is weak set. If one is inclined to neglect de- tails the other ought to be inclined to give them special attention. If one is good material unpublished, the other ought to be able to do the pol ishing. If one is dreamer the other ought not to be so pronounced, but
 in sympathy with, and check on the dreamer. It is assumed that they
 have little or no capital in which
 case either one might have part or all the money.
 presume, however, if the, man had the money, inasmuch as he must sub-
 init the proposition, it would relieve
 him of an embarrasssig situation.
 Each ought to give just what they
 have allowed the other to think they have to give.
 So far have not said word about what, no doubt. you think to be the all-important element, and all I am going to say is this: Where these |other conditions are fulfilled, you are liable to find 'love that will grow" I think we are justified at this
 point in taking into consideration the possibility of divorce. It is as stunned that both contracting parties have acted in good faith. That they have both developed before marriage
 certain degree of independence.
 perhaps throgh having earned their own living, and that because of this
 fact one of the chief reasons for mar
 ried people continuing to live togcth-
 CT is at a minimum. Believing tho,
 that to live properly unde. present
 conditions, those who can ought tc
 1aar1y, they have done sd, and lind
 such an existence for them failure,
 can see no reason why divorce
 would not be entirely proper, and in