The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1915-01-28

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oPrln9''hne' i'll for both. put
forth their first tender buds of prom
Use and prophecy.
Dual living means the harmoni2inS
Of two lives in unity. 1t requires con
scious ccnsecr9ted effort toward attain
ment. IN this period of becoming used
to each other, of learning, experiment.
are inevitable. This Springtime should
be taken seriously. but rot too serious
~. Little inharmomics are dangerous.
not in themselves. bus in the bitter
memories they may leave.
These married people who tel YOU
ten or fifteen years after the wedding
that there never has been one cross
word spoken between them. never
moment Of even irritation. never a sin
gle shadowing cloud of disagreement
have been mcrcifully endowed with
talent for forgetting, they handle truth
with Il certain shyness. or one of them
is the silent. overawed victim Of the
others personality.
Have you ever heard an old sea cap
tain boast that in all his experience he
had never seen a aqually sea, never a
dull, heavy. storm laden sky. never
heard the tempest Shrek through the
rigging and threaten to tear away the
masts? His pride is in his skill. not in
his luck. The matrimonial sea never
remains absolutely serene and calm.
with 70 ruftling waves. for years at a
time The vital point is that the
storms have all been weathered in
safety and the love and trust. puri-
fled 10y time, remain undaunted.
In the days of cOurtship two may
feel that they thoroughly understand
each other. and that no matter how
many marriages may fail their hap
piness together is absolutely assured.
Yet courtship is only the kindergarten
class of matrimony. CourtShip is the
preliminary canter. not the real race.
1t is the matrimonial shopping: mar
riage is the acceptance of The mreurn-
able delivered goods. ComtShip is the
joyous. sunshine launching of the craft
of hope; marriage is the long cruise
across uncharted seas.
Happiness in married life means the
happiness of two, made by two; neither
can do all. No individual can sing
duet. They should feel glad to bear
anything and everything that fate may
bring them for each other. but not
from each other, With union toward
opposing conditions and unity between
themselves they can command happi-
ness. Their attitude is of supreme i'm
portance; everything else is secondary.
1t is not what comes 10 Them but the
spirit in which they meet it. that really
counts.
In love. loyalty, comradeShip and
mutual dependence. even trial, sorrow,
sickness and poy erty. may bring them
only nearer and dearer, soul serene
and heart glad that they still have each
other. This condition never comes
through drifting, by letting things take
their course, by just hoping that some
how it will all turn out right. Merely
wishing it and wanting it will neither
create nor keep this harmony; they
must will to make it. determine. by
living individually at their best. to
unite in the finest unity. The response
hility rests on both: the failure may be
due to either.
There will come time III this spring
tide when they awaken to the con
sciouSness of unpleasant traits in each
other. The wife may find that what
she deemed his fine firmness of char
acter is simple. unadulterated OBJ
stinacy. His reverence for money in
small denominations is not the pru-
dence and wise economy she once be
lieved it, but chronic tender heart
edness that makes it hard for him to
say goodby to dollar.
He. too. may suddenly find himself
conscious of unnoted imperfections in
her and they loom large before him.
There are, at times, Il sharpness and a
shrillness in the upper register of her
speaking voice that almost suggest
irritabiity. She would never win a
gold medal as housekeeper and one
has to be fercely hungry to enjoy her
cooking. Her conversational charm
seems to have become rather common
place when subjected to the test is
continuous performance. Herd into
not always vigorously but seem to
orthodoxy. and she danmaculateness
worry much about the house
of her attire archie catalogue of pro-
The itemelation vary; their impor-
gressi~pendS largely on the spirit Of
tannteriretation. They are bit dis |
it is true, but they are not |
FATAL. We all are human and have
faults. failings and foibles. We bave