The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1915-05-17
Cynthia Crey's
LETTERS

Dear Miss Grey: I am interest.
In your answer, and would like 10
have . little cay In the matter my.
self.
The privilege she allowed the
first man 10 FAR more common than
unthlnkino people dream o. r. s.
v. p, In yielding 70 nature. need
not think she 10 any different than
most others In similar clrcunn'
stances. I think. Miss Grey. you do
the average man an Injustice when
you cay this man was estrsordi-
nary In HE loyalty, and The -Four
Brosder.MInded" are really very
nsrrovv-r,inded Instead. when they
cay he was not decent. He 10 prob
ably quite . normal, natural man.
and, TO me, there 10 nothing inde.
cent In nature.
There have been changes In the
laws governing the sexual relations
between man and woman, and the
present marriage system 10 stlil a
long way from being a perfect one.
For centuries woman has been
thru her economic dependency
the slave OF man. When all man.
kind gain their economic freedom.
that 10, each and all OF us own and
control our own means OF life, and
science teaches Us birth control.
girls like r. 8. v. p. will be no
more blamed than the world In
general now blames the man, nor
half 40 much. may shock 1.-THE
-Four erosder-M lnded" ~ ~ we'll
a. others when I say. God did not
fix one code Of morals for man. and
another for woman. nor In fact any
code; but. all our laws, moral and
otherwise, are the result OF rnatsrl-
81 economic facts, and will change
when our economic relations
change. Until the time that woman
can cay ~ viii or ~ will not have
. child" there Will be a double
standard Of r,orsIs--after that
TRUTh-sEEkER.
A.-you dare 10 peer far into the
realms OF a future dim with the
mist OF uncertainty and predict n
definite outcome from the growth
OF civilization. do not go so far.
but know there will be one stand.
ard OF morals for men and women
only when women gain equal power
in all things with men the wide
world over. And the women must
make over the two standards into
one. The double standard WAS ere
Ated when man ruled the world.
and he will never change II OF his
own accord; II suits him too well.
do the average man an injus-
tice. according to your Views. be
cause you see things thru a mans
eycs. not only advise girls and
women, but ! urge them To abide
By the marriage laws. at least 30
long as the present standard OF
morals exist. They are made for
her protection. and. behind them.
she IL secure from ridlcule and con.
tempt.
a. have . friend who left her
husband for the best Of reasons. He
cosssd her 20 come back by prom
Islnq never 70 see the other woman
again. Now. I know he has not kept
his word. but the wife does not
know u. isnt II my duty to tell
hsri She 10 too good . woman TO
be imposed upon by such . worth
less man. HER FRIEND.
A.-She may not think him so
worthless as he seems TO YOU. She
may not care TO know about his de-
ceptIon. She may prefer TO stay
with him in ignorance. rather than
to learn wisdom and be free. There
are women OF that mind. many of
them. who. for economic reasons.
do not care to be wholly enlightened
as to their husbands conduct.
Were you to tell her. pride might
drive her away again, yet she might
not care 10 20.
II is far better 10 keep out OF trou-
BILE which really concerns only the
husband and wife.
This Ia not looking at the matter
IN an ideal way. but II II treating
II in the human way most commonly
understood and followed.
Women who have left their hus-
bands once and returned 10 them
are not apt TO be in haste to leave
n second time