The Kansas City sun. (Kansas City, Mo.) 1908-1924, 1915-01-09
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
BY oRIsoN SWEET MARoEN.
Copyright by Mcclure Newspaper Syndicate
SHOULD NOT BE A DRUDGE OR A
DOLL.

llsIdlCe, II uOeSnI pay q man 10 get
SO much money that he becomes
ashamed of his old-fashioned wife
and no longer wants to trot in her So
ciety."
Not long ago a man who abandoned
his wife and who tried in every way
to provoke her to get a divorce from
him so he could marry a young and
attractive girl, plainly told her that
she was not good-looking or stylish
enough for him, that nov that he had
money he wanted a wife who could
show off in society.
This poor oma had made all sorts
OF sacrifices in their early days of
struggle with poverty. For years she
had worked and deprived herself Of
necessities to help her husband get a
start in the world, and to care for
and bring up his children without a
nurse or maid. She made a drudge
of herself, but when he had become
prosperous he had no use for the
WORKOUT wife, with her burned-out
beauty and her wrinkles, which had
paid the price of a large part of his
prosperity; he wanted to cast her
aside for a young, fresh and attrac-
tive wife.
In the trial the wife said: 81
worked from seven in the morning I'M
til eleven o'clock at night. But now
that | am no longer needed in the bust
ness, he has heaped upon me insults
untold. He has neglected and failed
to properly provide for me.
"He repeatedly told me that I vas
not fashionable enough for him." the
wife concluded. He liked dressy
women. He took me to one place and
pointed out a Miss X. and said he had
spent $500 wining and dining her"
The world will never know the tor
lures, a thousand times worse than
death itself, endured by wives of
prosperous husbands, who so often
prefer suffering to scandal and en-
dure a living death rather than ex-
pose their husbands, who have been
fascinated by younger and more at
tractive women.
One of the most pathetic spectacles
; in American life is that of the faded,
outgrown wife standing helpless, in
the shadow of her husbands pros.
perity and power, having sacrificed
her youth, beauty and ambition
nearly everything that the feminine
. mind holds dear-to enable an indif
: %ferent, selfish, british husband to gel
, a start in the world.
: 1t does not matter that the wife
, sacrificed her own opportunity for {
:. career, that she gave up her mos
cherished ambition in order to make
ladder for her selfish husband to as
cend by. When he has once gottel
/ to the top, like a willy, diplomat,
politician, he often kicks the ladde,
down. He wants to make a show ii
j the world; he thinks only of himself
His poor, faded, WORKOUT wife, stand
Z ing in his shadow, is not attractive
enough for him now that he has got
ten up in the world.
The selfish husband thinks that h
should have a clear track for his am
bition, and that his wife should b
content, even grateful, to be alloweI
to tag on behind and assist him il
every possible way in what he cor
siders the grand life work of both O
them-to make him the biggest maj
possible. 1t does not even occur t
him that she could have an ambition
yelling up within her heart, a long
ing to answer the call which runs Il
her own blood, and a yearning to e1
press it in some vocation as wei
as he.
l do not believe that the Create
d has limited one-half of the human rae
ir practically to II occupation, Will
TT the other half has the choice of
d thousand.
But" many of our men reader
will say, lis there any grander prt
is fession in the world than that of HON
e. making? Can anything be more stin
k ulating, more ~elevating than HON
r. making and the rearing of children
i'd How can such a vocation be marrow
I'd ing, monotonous?"
OF course 1t is grand. There
Of nothing grander in the universe tina
the work of a true wife, a mob
mother, But it would require the CO
stitution of a Hercules, an ininitel
greater patience than that of a Jor
to endure such work with almost I
" change or outside variety, year in an
year out, as multitudes of wives an
mothers do.
IL The average man does not Apr
ie ciate how almost devoid of incentive
is to observation-disclosures, to many-side
De ness, to liberal growth, the home Ii
le of many m is.
OF The business man and the profe
W sional man are really in a perpetu
~ school, a great, practical u~niversit
lg He is continually coming in conta
with new people, new things, beiI
nodded by a vast number of fore,
a. which never touch the wife in Il
quiet home.
is. / believe in marriage, but
or no believe in that marriage viii,
n, paralyzes self.development, strangl
ambition, and d~iscourages evoluti,
and self-growth, which takes avn
re the life purpose. Nor is it necesa,
Id that the wife should work like a sla,
or. in order to grow. There is a certa
class of men who go to the 9th
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- Bad Practice DIsenuranad