The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-12-21
ARE ELOPEMENTs UNI
 LUCKY?

..SJovv vo,, are zone-and hour by hour
 muse of things I long to share. There's not a bud, a leaf, flower
 But helps me miss you everywhere. s.Nbeu a love match does not meet the approval of the family, should a girl take the ma riage reins in her own hands and elope rather than give up the man she loves? This Is the query I receive in letters from girls An a;most all parts of the country.
 When wedlock is the most serious probIarn of fife it cannot be entered into without much careful considera- ton Many a girl meets a dashlng young fellow today. Without rnucn thought of the future, he makes TO
 mantle love to her by paying her howery compliments The girl imas- ines that she srecipFocates his anec- ton forthwith In an enthusiastic mo- ment, after seeing her home. he makes a nasty proposal. Without ado tne girl accepts hin- They find the road to snatrimony not so easy as they had expected The father and mother or the young man set up vigorous pro test when they find out what he mas done It is followed by a storm d oL reproaches ..How could you support a wife?', excIaim his parents in one ana the same breath. Couldn't she come home 2s he queries. Decidedly 1lotss answers his mother There's no home big enough for two families. ssWe'd get along somehow. responds the young man anxiously. The angry father will not disquss he case far ther than to say As you make your bed you1 have to lie in it. He slams the door after him as he goes out
 The girls parents were equally dis pleased when she informed them of her betrothaL Engaged to a man whom you have been acquainted with so short a timeI''. gasps her mother And without our sanction!" supple ments her father, sternly, adding sharply: '.I refuse to countenance such an afrair The proposition as to whether you could marry or not shor q have been DC tup to me. don't know who or what this young fellow is I'll put a stop to it before it goes any fur xher', eff you do we'll elope, sobs the girl Charlie said we would If either his folks or mine raised any ob- lection Her folks paid no attention to the covert threat. Soon after there were two very much surprised farni- lies in town; for the inteligence have taken the areins into their own hands and eloped-
 Tying the marriage knot is the easi- est part of it. But after that-what? If both families prove unreIenting, they face ordeals which they are i'll
 
 fies sounds very romantic, but in real fife it's decidedly unpleasant. A hall bed room and doing the cookinS-if there is anything to cook-do not feed the flame of love. On the contrary, 1t has whitening effect upon it. The. young man who <ha5 been used toesft- 7 ting dcsVnstcaa Ia good table without the- worry of providing for it. does not prove a very jovial companion. It does not take both of them long to realize that their e1opement was the wrong thing.
 Swift courtships and hasty mar riakes are, more often than not, fatal to happiness. Everything can be gained by waiting By. seeing more of the young man, the girls parents grow to like him. They look forward with pleasure to the time they shall give fhe treasure of their hearts to his Keeping. Time also works favorably ill regard to the young mans folks Taking her constantly to call upon them, the sweet innocent young girl who lives their son is sure to win her way to their affection. The father stands ready to help the boy-to put hsFneon his feet.
 F1opers may be forgiven by both sides. but 1t leaves a bitter sting in the hearts of those who should have consented Happinkss goes with pa rental blessings. No couple can afford to el0pe and trust to luck after.