Evening public ledger. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1914-1942, 1915-03-01

The engaged girl Is occasionally rather
unreasonable In the demands she makes
on her iance's time and attention. Very
frequently, however. the shoe is on the
other foot, and IL Is the man who Is un-
reasonable in his attitude toward the
lady OF his choice.
How some girls can permit their
nances to treat them the way they do is
really surprisIngi Their. 1o~ng-suffering is
pathetic-more than that. 1t is humihat-
Ing. For the engaged girl certainly has
q right to expec certain things from the
man whom she has honored with her
promise to love, marry and make happy.
What some women find in some men TO
admire Is the greatest and most I'M
fathomable mystery. But, since these
strange infatuations do exist and always
will exist as long as the sun and moon
and stars endure, 1t behooves the en-
gagged girl to keep her man up to the
mark and to definitely refuse to tolerate
certain lapses to which the average male
ie prone.
I get SO many pathetic letters from
girls who are being badly treated by
their iances that a few words on this
subject would perhaps be advisable.
PLEASE tell me what-I should do to
try and make my fance keep his APP
NANA AANn SthAN
little wall from a maide all forlorn.
Whenever he arranges to come to my
home he either turns up n couple of
hours late or he telephones at the very
last minute that something has detained
him. The breaking OF these engagements
wastes SO much of my time and upsets
me so much that 1 am getting more and
more worried about 1t all. Do you think
he really cares for me?''
The question isn't at all q hard one to
answer. The man who treats the girl
whom he processes to love in this way has
entirely mistaken his feeling for her. 1t
isn't worthy of the name of love. He
isn't worthy of the name of man, either.
For he is not only lowering her in her
own eyes and in those of her friends, but
at the same time he is lowering himself.
II am dreadfully unhappy about the
way my fance treats me-" wrote another
girl recently. 'He always says that he
cares for me, but his actions certainly
don't show IL. Sometimes a whole fort
night will pass without his calling at the
house, and he always puts his men
friends before me.
IF I want him to take me to a dance
or a theatre he will make some excuse
about having an engagement to play
cards with his men friends, or he will say
that he has some work that he must do
at home or some excuse of that sort. At
first I didn't mind so much, but these ex-
cuses have become so regular now that I
am greatly worried. And 1t isn't that
he doesn't care for dances or for the the
atre. He always manages to go to them
without me. And he only comes to see
me when he feels so disposed, which !
isn't more than once in ten days.
The girl who stands this sort of treat
ment is worse han a fool. She deserves
a good shaking. Obviously the mar has
grown tired of the engagement, or per-
haps he Is incapable of love. He is GER
tainly selfish.
Another young woman who Is finding
the course of true Low never did
run smooth complains that her fance
treats her with less courtesy than he
would ever his own brothers and sisters.
when he comes to see me he reads a
book all the time she says. and when