The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1915-01-06


 feel it when I sorrow most;
 lis better to have loved and lost
 Than never to have loved at all''
 BveTy one thinks the single man must have happy life of it. They argue that he must be contented or he would change his state of single bIes- sedness. The scale of their pity is tipped in favor of the bachelor. They like to consider that he is bastfu1 In the case of a widower, they know that he has entered into 1natrfmony once, and therefore he knows how to win wonan's heart. If he remains single it is because he will not put any one in the dear departed's s place.
 The truth is that the bachelor is not deserving of such sympathy. He will go through the world until he finds one who appeals to him. The older he gets the younger he wants the girls to be with whom he shall fall in love.
 The widower's home has been so different that it is with much difficulty he can submit himself to the change. He has been used to have a presid- ing heIpIneet, a loving face close to clasping his own when he needed some one to cling to, one nearer and dearer yet than all others when he was in need of some one to confide in. Befeft Of his treasure, he has no heart to make himself agreeable to those who have little interest in him for hdmself alone The years that have gone before have donesticated him, He appreciates the comfort of his own l hearth
 He tries to make himself believe that he is happy in the conpanion- | ship of his brave sons and sweet daughters They love him dearly, but it is heavens plan that they shall WOO and be loved, turning their hearts braveIy to other loves. The sons wed and the girls marry. When the last bird has huttered away from the home nest he begins to realize fully, and l for the first time. that he is dSsper- ate1y lonely. His horseHeeper may be very good, but she has her own Inter est elsewhere. Servants ccEae and go. Where can he look for a dependable home staff.
 He realizes that he does not grow l younger and more active with the expect only a hreside companion in a. wife. The world and his wife are shocked when he weds again. But they would not be if they studied the conditions Of dis lonely life and real ized that the only path that showed a bright star to light his way was that which led to matrimony. A man who has once loved. tenderIy and weli, is never happy away from a faithful Woman's gentle influence. Neither the bachelor nor the Wid- oNwer should be influenced into living a lonely life. Happiness in this world is brief. Each day should be meas ured by its joys, not by it's griefs. There is no hearth so lonely but that a woTnans presence can brighten it. There's no heart so dusty and unten- able with the cobwebs of years about l it habitabIe again. Life can be happy or adjusted as a man wills it.
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 Two Sets of Relatives
 Meath One Roof Dear Miss Libbey:
 Your heart topics column has prov en of much interest to me. I am a young woman, married two years.
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