Iowa state bystander. [volume] (Des Moines, Iowa) 1894-1916, 1915-01-15
| Dr.. Marden's..
Upliif'l:t Talks
.sy oRIsoN SWEET MARpEN. !;
MAKING OF CONVERSATION 4
FINE ART. ,r.,T
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MAKING OF coNyERsAr'oN \
FINE ART. ,.,1-
"Talk. talk. II does not matter
much what you say. but chatter away
lightly and gayly. Nothing embar
raises ana bores the average man %
much % girl who has to be enter
tanned" . .afa. ,n.-
( Thus So noted society leader, who
hsd: beer very successful In the
launching Of debutantes. was recently
advising zone of her protegcs.
know Of no other one accomplish
ment which will do so much to ad'
vance afgirl socially as to become 9
superb, conyersatio nalist II II. ,indi.
cative Of intelligence, education. good
breeding and culture. twill make q
girl popular in spite Of plain features
There II no other one quality which
will give girl such power over 9th
ers, which will make her SO popular
as to- be- able to fascinate people with
her conversation. The good CONVEX
sationalist is always the center OF at
traction In any company
A girl who can talk we'll. wno has
the art of putting things in an at
tractive way. who can interest 9TH
-iers Immediately by her. gift Of speech
has a very 1reat advantage over one
who may know more than she but
who cannot express herself with ease
or graciousness.
There is no other one thing which
enables us to make so good an I'm
preston, especially upon those who
do not know US thoroughly, as the
ability to converse we'll. To be a good
conversationalist, able to interest
people, to rivet their attention, to
draw them to you naturall.' by the
very superiority of your conversation
al ability. is t, be the possessor OF a
very great accomplishment, one which
ii superior. to ell others. It not only
helps sou to make good impression
upon strangers: it also helps you to
make and keep friends. 1t opens
doors and softens hearts. 1t makes
you interesting, in all sorts Of COM
pany. It helps you to get on in the
world. It helps you into the best so
ciety, even though you may be poor
The way to learn to- talk Is to talk
The temptation for young people who
are 1unaccustomed to society. and who
teel difadents is to- say nothing them
selves and tAsten to what others. say ;
but good takers" are always sought
after. Everybody wants to invite
Miss So-and-So to dinners or recep
lions because SO, IL such q good talk
CT. She 5entertains.. She may have
many defects; but people, enjoy hsl
society because she can talk we'll. 2;
:, ConvsEaatiope Il used - an edu
GATOR, ia.as tremendous. power, deyel
oppr; but. talking !, without thinking
without IN fEort, TO express oneself
with cleafnesS,. :. conciseness sor. s3em
cheney, mere .chattering or gossip, the
.avS1xse rsoc,ieesy tsmsil stsif, TtiIshevss
get hold Ut the best thing in q girl
, It lies to deep for. such superficial
effort. s.,...s,... ,.s,,s:.,...;. : e:
~ Nothing else will develop q girls
brain and character more than the
constant effort to talk well, intelli
gently, Interestingly, upon all sorts Of
topics. There is splendid discipline
in the constant effort to express ones
thoughts clearly. and in an interest
ing manner. We sometimes meet peo
pie who are such superb conversere
that no one. would. ever dream that
they have not had the advantages Of
/; the higher schools. Many. I college
|, graduate has been s1lehced,. and phi,
to shame by people who have neve,
even been to a high school, but who
have cultivated the art Of self.ex'
preston. ~'-' '''
Now and then we meet a real ar
tist IN conversation, and it Is such q
treat and delight that we wonder
why the majority Of us should be such
bunglers IN, our. expression, why We
should make, such a botch Of the me
dunn Of communication between hu
man beings, when it is capable of be
ing made the art of arts. 49,. /
No matter how expert yon may be
in any other art or accomplishment,
you cannot use your expertness al
ways and everywhere as you can the
power to: converse we'll. .'::s 'a