Omaha daily bee., 1915-09-07

gins "jollying" her. So he wants to know
what to do about IL.
The answer to that question is dead
easy, Mr.. Husband. Supply the wife with
all the admiration she Graves. instead of
leaving other men to do it. And make
the home brand of flattery so strong and
full OF ginger and snap that any COM
pliments she may receive. on the outside
will seem as weak and tasteless as del
icatessen dishes do by the side of the
goodies that mother cooks.
There are men and women with natures
so intricate and cranky that their wives
and husbands are not to be blamed for
never finding the keys to them and be-
ing able to manage them. But a man or
a woman whose predominant charac-
teristic is the love of admiration is so
simple that there is no excuse for their
wives and husbands not being able to
work them.
The wife who let's some slick-tonsued
woman take her husband away from her
by means Of flattsry gets exactly what
she deserves She had the first innings.
She had the inside track. She knew that
her husband simply purred under any
hand that rubbed the fur the right way
with him. and that he beamed and gurgled
with delight when anyone told him how
big and brave and handsome he was, and
yet, knowing this, she felt It her wifely
duty to continually remind him of his
faults instead OF expatiating on his vir-
tues, and so left the other woman a
chance to get in her deadly work.
Equally the man who has wife who
loves admiration. and who is so dense
nd afI nd -linnad hat a
fuses to even pay her a compliment, is
himself to blame IL she packs her trunk
and hikes off to Reno with some more
appreciative man. or IL she becomes one
of those near-faithful wives who are the
ruination of the happiness OF any hours-
women who remain outwardly respect
able but who indulge in cheap flirtations.
OF course, men VINO crave admiration
and appreciation, even II it is only lip
service, can always go out into the world
and find it-or buy il, The average mar
rled woman is not circumstanced so she
can do this. She has 10 depend upon what
she can get from her husband. and this
is generally nil.
/ know OF nothing else in the world
that Is at once so tragic and so pathetic
as the gnawing hunger for some word
OF praise. some token of gratitude, some
sign that their husbands even think OF
them otherwise than as domestic con-
venience, that most wives suffer, and
which their husbands are either too dull
to perceive or too re fish to make the
effort to appease. For it is literally the
truth that after the honeymoon wanes
nine women out OF ten never get a COM
\ pllnaent out OF their husbands until IL Is
carved on their tombstone.
The lack Of adnsration and apprecis-
ton is the main ming that makes mar
riaEe a failure 10 most women. It isn't
poverty. Let a man tell his wife that in
his eyes she grows more beautiful every
day and she will wear a tlO\ suit and
feel like queen In 1t. 1t isn't hard
work. Let a man still show an interest
in holding his wife's hand and cell con-
slider II a privilege 10 work IL TO the bone
for him. II isn't the monotony of domes-
tic life. Let a man compliment his wife's
cooking and she'll think housework the
most thrilling occupation on earth. IL
isn't anything that a man does, or leaves
undone. except handing out few com
pliments that makes marriage heaven or
the other place TO a woman.
Nor Is this quite as foolish as II sounds.
A woman's home is her world. Her hus-
band is her audience. and it's a dreary
thing 10 so on year after year doing
your level best, giving yourself body and
soul. without ever getting one ripple Of
applause. or even knowing whether your
efforts are even perceived or not
No actor can play his best 70 a cold
house. No clerk gives his best service 20
an employer who never commends. Even
a horse will pull his load better for a
word OF encouragement or praise
But most married women have to live
their married lives without getting a
single glad hand from their husbands,
and IT'S pltifnl 20 hear them beg for a
word Of praise. I've heard OF a woman
say as she tried 10 corkserew a eompi-
nent out OF her husband. How do