Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1915-08-03

earth are the least desirable as life
mates. Indeed. nature seems to take a
malicious dehaht in making the man
fascinating to women that no woman In
her right senses should think about
marrying.
The man. for instance. VINO has all the
social gracos at his fingers ends. 20
often can do nothing with his hands to
make q living. DTunkards and black
sheep have nearly always certain curi-
Gus boyishness about them that makes
an almost Irresistible appeal TO the ten
dernsss OF woman.
OFTEN the very fact that a youth IL
light-hearted. and gay. and irresponsible
invests him with q transcendent charm
just by contrast with those who are
earnest ana ser4ous-minded.
II IL easy enough for a girl to fan in
love with any of those. but heaven help
her II she marFies one OF theml For,
the poets 10 the contrary nevertheless.
love ISN'T enough I'm nafrimony. Not by
a long shot It takes money. and the
ability to get along In the world, and the
reliability, and strength OF purpose. and
endurance, and unless the man at the
head of the household has not these
qualities. that marriage is very apt to go
to smash.
1t doesn't matter to q woman that her
husband IL az handsome as Adonis II he
can't make a living. no man who can't
pay the bilIa looks good TO lbs wifO for
long. No woman Is long enAmored Of
Peter Pan n she maFries him Matrtn1ony
is q full-sised mans job. and she wants
somebody to lean ON, not . child to b
raised
No woman finds any abiding charm in
irrespOrsfbllisy when she's married 20 Il
and ascertains that tts other name 10 IN
competency. and that she has TO take
care Of her husband instead OF his TAX
ing care Of her.
Therefore. daughter when you 80 to
psok out q husband. remember that the
heart Is an unreliable guide ana one that
is mighty apt 70 lead YOU TO repentance.
Take counsel OF your head. but besr
in mind that just as the heart IL apt to
err in one direction. 80 the head is prone
TO err in the other. for II we cannot
live on sentiment alone. neither can we
exist on a steady diet of cold, hard facts.
Your head will tell you that when you
go to pick out a husband you should
give him the once over, and BEE II he Is
strong and healthy. and intelligent and
moral. ana ascertain the state of his
finances. II this Investigation IL salts
factory, then on with the wedding march.
Those who advocate this businese-lilKs
system Of picking out a husband con-
tend that such marriages turn out better
than those founded on love alone. They
say that romance Ia as fleeing as the
mists of dawn. anyway, and that IL is
bound to be dispersed by the coming OF
the long prOsaic day of domestic life.
When the sentimental illusion is gone,
the girl who has picked out q husband
by her heart alone has nothing left with
which TO comfort herself. but the girl
who has selected her husband with her
head his. as q. consolation prize. all the
luxuries and pleasures that being we'll
placed in the world gives.
To a degree this Is true, but the heart
is an unruly member. and there are not
very many women who are philosophical
enough to take his cold-blooded view of
the subject They may want Injuries, but
love Is a necessity TO them. and without
that the finest house IL an abomination
of desolation. and they starve though
their tables groan every day under the
feast spread upon them.
Cupid Is a revengeful little chap, and
he Furnishes mercilessly those who fiout
him in arranging their own marriages
Instead of leaving the job to him. When
a woman marries for her head instead
Of her heart. he doesn't good naturally
come around and shoot off an arrow
where II win do the most good 30 that
she will fall in love with the prosperous
and worthy man 70 whom she is united.
On the contrary. he tortures her 10 the
last day OF her life with vain regrets and
lonGings for the romance that she never
knew. >
The woman who marries a man Just be-
cause she loves him, without any refer
encs to what the man Il, or the place
he can make for himself in the sun. takes
q long shot at happiness. The woman
who marries a man just because he is a
good chance. also CANDLES with her
happiness. Between the two risks there
IL small choice.
The only safe play Is TO pick out hus-
band who appeals TO both your head and
your heart. one who IL man every
Inch Of him. and yet who can make your
heart 20 pit-a-pat.
Luckily. the combination IL not an inn
possible one. and any girl can find such
a mate II she'll just bide her time and
look carefully enough