Omaha daily bee., 1914-08-13

comfortable home. This being the case,
why should q woman be criticised in
stead OF commended for trying to secure
this happy lot in life to her daughter?
Every mature woman knows how mar
riages are made. She Is perfectly aware
that the beautiful theory that matches
are manufactured in heaven, and that a
strange fate sends affinities across, the
world to seek each other, is all tomyrot
Matrimony is matter Of opportunity and
propinquty.
The most beautiful and attractive girl
in the world can be so shelved by her
mothers tactlessness and stupidity that
she will be more cut off from the chance
to get married than II, she had hump
back and cross eyes. On the other hand
a really homely and unattractive giri can
be discreetly doomed into belledom. while
it may be laid down az a general proposi-
ton that any two ordinary young people
OF opposite sexes will fall in love with
each other II they are thrown enough to-
gether.
Or they will have what our Christian
Science friends call a claim that they are
in love with each other, which will last
until after the wedding day. Worse luck
These facts are truisms with which
every mother In the world Is Perfectly
familiar, yet observe the idotic way In
which mothers act. A woman will let
a young man of sissipated habits, or
one who is so shiftess that he could
not support cat, or a handsome rela-
tive, fairly live in her house. thrown into
intimate daily association with her daugh-
ter, and then. when the two come TO her
some fine day aand blushinsly ask for
her blessing. she has fits of horror and
surprise all over the placs.
What. let Mabel marry tina. drunken
Tom smith! What, let Susie be dragged
down to poverty by that triflIng, lazy
Zen smithers. What. let her darling
Mamie marry Billy VINO is Almost like
her brotherl'
II will break her neart 20 even think
of such a thing. ana she'll never con-
sent. Never in the world. But she does,
for what IS mother when a hot-headed
girl thinks she is in love. and 50 the
poor woman has to suffer ell OF the
agony that tears a mothers heart when
she watches the long lrswn out agony
Of her child's unfortunate marriage. And
the mother deserves everything she gets
for she has been false TO her trust She
should have protected her daughter from
falling in love with the wrong man. She
should have managed better.
No woman should ever let any man get
on a visiting footing n .eT house that
she would not be willing 10 see her
daughter marry II 1t came to that. on
the contrary, Just as much as she should
protect her daughter against the wrong
man, she should give her chance at
the right man.
1t is the bounden duty Of every mother
with daughters 10 make her home one OF
the places where men Ike TO go. She
should tole eligible young men into heI
parlols by means OF a charming hospi-
tality She should Jake the trouble &c
make herself agreeable and attractive
and the sort OF a possible mother-ln-law
that a man can think Of without getting
cold feet. She should not, Of course, OBJ
viously run after marriaseabls youths
but she should extend them such a glad
hand when they drop in that they will
De sure to come again.
In a word, without throwing her daugh
ters at young mems heads, she should
put them in the attitude Of receiving the
blessing OF a proposal from men who
would make desirable husbands. And she
should give the girls q chance. Chaper
oning a girl is highly desirable ever
necessary. but il should be done so wsrilS
as never to he perceptible
There are households in which grit
matrimonial prospects are frost-eitten BY
the entire family always sitting around
helping to entertain her besuN. This Il
a fatal play. You may take 1t for grantee