The Bottineau courant. (Bottineau, Bottineau County, N.D.) 1895-1929, 1914-01-02
WOMAN,S PAGE

10 all that IA necessary. 4 young man
usually prefers to have his own cards
| to announce his visit when he calls n
person.
When Nm invitation tn an 'at home"
Is received the only thing needed In to
drop ones card in the receiver always
tn he found either at the door or pre-
sented BY ~ man or maid for the pur-
pose. This signifies that one hns been
present ~ the hostess looks over her
cards afterward tn note who has heen
present.
II one rannOt attend a short note NJ
regrets. with card inclosed. ia mailed in
time to reach the house Of the hostess
on day and date Of reception. ~ e
the hour as POSSIBLE. Ones obligations
cease II these simple rules are fol-
lowed.
etiquette For tho Hostess. .
Among the laws Of social Usage call
ed etiquette perhaps nom IL oftener
broken or Mt least shaken than that
demanding romrOsure Of manner In
host and hostess where awkward or
inexperienced help must be depended
upon.
An already bewildered maid Ia not
rendered any the better by open repri-
mands. admonitions. orders or a series
Of frantic signals. She ia much more
likely to stumble. drop food and dishes
and possibly burst into tears II re-
proved before guests. making them un.
comfortable and agoniZing the hostess
If the fish is served and it's u is
forgotten. II there is u mistake in pour
ing wine Or filling the water goblets.
or. indeed. any such small mishaps.
matters are not mode any better by
repeated corrections. yelled sarcasm or
anything Of the sort. One Of the really
simple rules Of good breeding is follow
ed by the hostess who never apologies
for commissions or omissions Mt her
table. She may give orders to a nerv-
Gus maid In a very. very low. gentle
tone that will help to compose the
frightened. awkward girl. and she
makes the effort and Ia always sue
cessful to divert her guests and pays
no attention seemingly to anything that
goes wrong.
The obligation that good form i'm
poses upon guests in such cases is tn
assist the hostess in a quiet. consider.
ate way. If In the serving Of a dish
1t IL discovered that 1t has been badly
cooked or Is in any way wrong It Is
far better 10 allow it to be served. un-
less 1t would be really harmful. than
to send it back to the kitchen with a
stern message to Il possibly flustered.
incompetent cook. Then guests can
easily trife with It.. allowing that
curse to he as if it never was wrong
in any way. laughing and talking about
anything. everything that comes to
mind. This helps nut a worried host
ess and makes for the pleasure Of the
assembled company.
Apologies should never be offered if
a long. awkward wait intervenes he
tween courses. 1t becomes then the
duty of host and hostess to appear en-
tirely unronrerned and to keep the ball
Of conversation going as swiftly and
gayly as possible. This is the cOmpO-
sure Of manner that must he cultivated
If people wish to appear at ease. nc
matter what happens. Accidents are
always apt to occur. and to accept them
quietly is to show good breeding. which
is etiquette.
EnsIand's Lord ChanceIlors.
The lord chancellor under the early
English kings used to live in the
palace and had Il regular daily III
IOwance. his wages. AZ it appeared
from one of the records. being >
shillings. n simnel cake. two seasoned
simneIs. one sextary Of clear wine. one
sextary of household wine. one large
wax candle and forty small pieces Of
candle. In the time of Henry IL. tn.
modern treasury spirit appears to have
begun to walk abroad. for In the rec
Ords the allowance Of 3 shillings up.
pears as II subjected to n reduction
II he dined away from the palace and
was thereby forced to provide extras.
| Their indeed he got his : siillings. But
If he dined at home he was not allowed
more than 3 shillings and sixpence.-
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