Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1914-09-19
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

1t is extravagant to buy anything for
which you have no actual use. 1t is eX-
.travagant to buy something merely be-
cause il is cheap; II is eXtravasant to
waste your money in any way whatever!
And what applies to money applies with
even greater force to your youth and ca
pacity for action or feelings.
So the extravaganza of which ! am
going to tell you today is the sad extrav-
agance OF wasting your affections on I'M
worthy or Indifferent people
Dozens of unhappy girls and boys write
to me daily that the one for whom they
care has deserted them for someone else,
and they beg me to tell them how to win
back the lost love. In almost every case
these pathetically unhappy little letters
are signed "Heartbroken."
Now in the first place, ! am no witch
to brew love charm. And II l were, no
love philtre will be potent to bring back
a fancy that has tired and wandered on
to new affections.
lent the girl who wastes her emotions
on X. and broods over him and keeps
thinking how she longs for him after he
has put all thought Of her from his life,
foolish? And isn't she cruel If, when Y.
cares for her honestly and devotedly she
still deliberately wastes herself on her
false dream and denies herself and
truer friend all chance of happiness?
Love does not grow at will, and love
does not go by favor. Because 1t would
be wise to love one, and is woefully fool
ish to love another, does not mean that
any of Ewes daughters Will do the one
or refrain from doing the other. Nor can
a man make his emotions fit case where
he would be sensible to cultivate the
habit OF caring.
But here is a simple and homely fact.
suppose you have a toothache-isnt II
worse If you keep thinking Of it and IN
sist on pressing your tongue to the place
to see Just how bad the pain is? Ana
when you are occupied with something
that claims your attention, doesn't the
toothache fade from your consciousness
nlong with the chance to thing about 1t!
Now, suppose you have in your heart
a black spot-an ache o. unfultilled loT-
ing The more you examine II the more
YOU keep your attention focused on IT,
the more that little black spot grows ia
overshadow your heart, and the more the
pain of 1t hurts your sensitive conscious
ness
The reason men generally get over IN
happy love affairs with more case than
women is because men are for the most
part too busy to brood.
Breeding is part Of the extravaganza
waste of life.
II there is one path in life that yo'
can't travel don't stand at the gate thaI
shuts you from It and wildly shake tho
bars. That is a terrible bit Of eNtrava
gance with your time and energy. II yol
are forbidden one path, hunt yourself an
other. Perhaps at first you won't car,
for the scenery, and it may seem rougl
going. But after a while you will come
TO feel a little proprietary interest in IN,
hath YOU have elected and you will sc
absorbed in studying where you are goin:
to arrive.
Most OF the "heartbroken" people VIII
are grieving over the detection OF recre
ant lovers will get over their sorrow II
the course Of time. Wounds have a wa
OF healing. Nature insists on this. Blu
a wound with which one interferes a
nature tries to cover II over leaves IA
uglier scar than one that Is permitted Z
heal under soothing influences.
In a year or so a sweetheart who ha
gone will also be one who has been for
gotten. In the meantime, isn't It foolish
and Wantonly eXtravagant to send afte
him thoughts and regrets and emotions
Use your energy in doing real things
'-'U are sad. Do your work with sue