The Birmingham age-herald., 1914-09-27
EXPERTS ADVICE ON
 LOVERS QUARRELS
By MYRTLE RIVER


 I know it is very. very difficult mat ter to try to convince lovers that there are such little things in their lives as quarrels. My pen hesitates moment auarrels are not numbered amongst the happiest of things to talk about, but we must face them, nevertheless. so will you lend your ear for a moment?
 I remember once hearing the late Pro- lessor BlacSie say that "courting dis agreements are the secret of matrimonial happiness" I think the genial profes- sor was not far wrong. Whether or not he spoke from experience l cannot say. but one thing is certain, that g. life of model happiness was passed through by the great Scotchman and the woman who was his devoted wife. N&3e
 Why should quarrels arise? think I know why. Lovers are prone to expect too much of one another They let their love-however. true and sincere it may be blind their eyes to each others faults and whein a little difference occurs, which in reality Is only a very small mat ter after all, it becomes tremendously colossal, a mountain is made out of a molehill. and the result is-well, words. Or if not words. they will walk alongside oi oift dilOtHtI dIQ never Spedk TOT ~ minutes, yes, and sometimes an hour.
 hemember, lovers, that you are always watching and expecting too much of one another. You do not weigh the troubles of life in an evenly balanced scale. You girls sometimes forget that your lover has had his troubles in the city during the day, and when you meet him at night IS not, well, shall say, in the best of humors?-and is inclined to be 'short" even with YOu. whom he a6oraa
 And you, young men. do not always re- member that the girl of your heart has also her little upsets, annoyances in the home. and even when she meets you she IS troubled and possibly cross. must repeat again weight your troubles thoughtfully, try to think that you are both worried at times, and meet each other apply. and give out your heart s sympathy.
 I'm just remembering case which I think probably is a typical one. young fellow calls on his sweetheart, he is anxious to have her all to himself and is positively miserable because she does not leave the other members of her family and shut herself up in a room with him, where they can say soft nothings. Now he planes the girl: 1t leads to a quarrel. This Is mistake, for young man should feel proud of the fact that his intended" while thinking of him and icRln8 Hlms must at the same time give a thought to home ties.
 Does it not reveal that in the days to come your life will have as great if not greater love for the new home as she has had for the old. I think so.
 Quarrels, after all, are frequently bless ings in disguise. The happiest moments in the lives of lovers are those when they gave in that very peculiar process of making 1t up." Making it up! It is one of Cupid's sweetest hours The art ful Cupid only pierces you with his quar- relsom dart in order that he may after ward apply to your heart the balm of perfect happiness, which brings you to one mind again. I do not care how great the quarrel may be- if you really love one another. the grand finale of a quarrel is worth all the waiting for it.
 And quarrels are useful Why should all your likes and dislikess be sprung upon you after you are married. Endeavor to get slight taste of them before and you will be better enabled to meet them when you have settled down. Quarrels always were and always will be: hence I advise both young men and young women tp recognize them as part and parcel of life, and try to remedy them as pleas antly as possible.