News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1914-02-18

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oPrin9r'me' i'll for both. pu
forth their first tender buds of prom
Use and prophecy.
Dual living means the harmonizin!
of two lives in unity. 1t requires con
scious consecrated effort toward attain
| ment. IN this period of becoming uSeC
to each other, of learning. experim ent
compromise and adjustment mistake,
are inevitable. This springtime should
be taken seriously. but not too serious
| ly. Little inharmonies are dangerous
not in themselves, but in the bittel
memories they may leave.
Those married people who tell you
ten or fifteen years after the wedding
that there never has been one cross
word spoken between them, never Il
| moment of even irritation, never a sin
gle shadowing cloud of disagreement
belong to one of three classes: They
! have been mercifully endowed with o
talent for forgetting, they handle truth
with certain shyneSS. or one of them
is the silent, overawed victim of the
others personality.
Have you ever heard an old sea cap.
tain boast that in all his experience ne
had never seen a squally sea. never Il
dull. heavy storm laden sky. never
heard the tempest shrek through the
rigging and threaten to tear away the
masts? His pride is in his skill, not in
hic otp;,
remains absolutely serene and calm,
with no ruffling waves. for years at a
time The vital point is that the
storms have all been weathered in
safety and the love and trust. puri-
fed by time. remain undaunted.
In the days of courtship two may
feel that they thoroughly understand
each other, and that no matter how
many marriages may fail their hap
piness together is absolutely assured.
Yet courtship is only the kindergarten
class of matrimony. Courtship is the
preliminary canter. not the real race.
1t is the matrimonial shopping; mar
riage is the acceptance of the unreturn-
able delivered goods. Courtship is the
joyous. sunshine launching of the craft
Of hope; marriage is the long cruise
across uncharted seas
Happiness in married life means the
happiness of two, made by two; neither
can do all. No individual can sing a
duet. They should feel glad to bear
anything and everything that fate may
bring them for each other, but not
from each other. With union toward
opposing conditions and unity between
themselves they can command happi-
ness. Their attitude is of supreme i'm
pOitance; everything else is secondary.
1t is not what comes to them, but the
spirit in which they meet it. that really
counts.
In love. loyalty, comradeShip and
mutual dependence. even trial, sorrow,
and poverty. may bring them
only nearer and dearer, soul serene
and heart glad that they still have each
other. This condition never comes
drifting, by letting things take
their course, by just hoping that some
how it will all turn out right. Merely
it and wanting it will neither
create nor keep this harmony; they
must will to make it, determine, by
living individually at their best. to
unite in the finest unity. The RESPONSE
bility rests on both: the failure may be
due to either.
There will come time in this spring
tide when they awaken to the con-
sciousness of unpleasant traits in each
other. The wife may find that what
she deemed his fine firmness of char
lcter is simple. unadulterated OBJ
,tinacy. His reverence for money in
small denominations is not the pru-
1ence and wise economy she once be-
ieved it. but a chronic tender heart
pdness that makes it hard for him to
say goodby to a dollar.
He. too. may suddenly find himself |
of unnoted imperfections in |
her and they loom large before him. |
There are, at times. sharpness and a |
,hrillness in the upper register OF her !
speaking voice that almost suggest |
She would never win |
gold medal as a housekeeper and one
mas to be fiercely hungry to enjoy her
cooking. Her conversational charm |
seems to have become rather common
place when subjected to the test OF
continuous performance. Her hair is
hot always vigorously brushed into
orthodoxy. and she does not seem to
worry much about the immaculateness
If her attire around the house.
The items i'm the catalogue of pro
,resSive revelation vary: their impor-
ance depends largely on the spirit Of
he Interpretation. They are a bit dis
llusioning. it is true. but they are not
atai. We all are human and have
aults. failings and foibles. We have