The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1914-01-25

vest of good or
~Pr'ns''me' Ill for both. nut
forth their first tender buds of prom
Use and prophecy.
Dual living means the harmonizine
OF two lives in unity. 1t requires con.
scious consecrated effort toward attain.
ment. IN this period of becoming used
to each other, of learning. experiment
compromise and adjustment mistakes
are inevitable. This springtime should
be taken seriously. but not too serious.
| ~. Little inharmonies are dangerous,
not In themselves, but in the bitter
memories they may leave
Those married people who tell YOU
ten or fifteen years after the wedding
that there never has been one cross
word spoken between them, never a
moment of even irritation, never a sin.
gle shadowing cloud Of disagreement,
belong to one of three classes: They
have been mercifully endowed with n
talent for forgetting, they handle truth
with certain shyness. or one of them
| is the silent. overawed victim Of the
others personality.
Have you ever heard an old sea can.
tain boast that in all his experience he
had never seen squally sea, never a
dull. heavy. storm laden sky. never
heard the tempest shrek through the
| rigging and threaten to tear away the
masts? His pride is in his skils not in
his luck. The matrimonial sea never
remains absolutely serene and calm,
with no rufiing waves, for years at a
| time The vital point is that the
storms have all been weathered in
safety and the love and trust. puri-
fed by time. remain undaunted.
In the days Of courtship two may
feel that they thoroughly understand
each other, and that no matter how
many marriages may fail their hap
piness together is absolutely assured.
Yet courtship is only the kindergarten
class Of matrimony. Courtship is the
preliminary canter, not the real race
1t is the matrimonial shopping; mar
rage is the acceptance of the unreturn.
able delivered goods. Courtshp is the
| joyous, sunshine launching of the craft
of hope; marriage is the long cruise
across uncharted seas.
Happiness in married life means the
happiness of two. made by two; neither
can do all. No individual can sing a
duet. They should feel glad to bear
anything and everything that fate may
bring them for each other, but not
from each other With union toward
opposing conditions and unity between
themselves they can command happi-
| ness. Their attitude is Of supreme i'm
portance; everything else is secondary.
1t is not what comes to them. but the
spirit in which they meet it, that really
counts
In love, loyalty, comradeship and
mutual dependence, even trial. sorrow,
sickness and poverty. may bring them
and heart glad that they still have each
other. This condition never comes
through drifting, by letting things take
their course. by just hoping that some
how it will all turn out right, Merely
wishing it and wanting 1t will neither
create nor keep this harmony: they
must will to make 1t, determine, by
living individually at their best, to
unite in the finest unity. The response
bility rests on BOTH the failure may be
due to either.
There will come time In this sprins
tide when they awaken TO the con
sciousness of unpleasant traits in each
other. The wife may find that what
she deemed his fine frmness of char
acter is simple, unaduterated OBJ
stinacy. His reverence for money in
small denominations Is not the pru-
dence and wise economy she once be-
lieved it. but a chronic tender heart.
cdness that makes it hard for him to
say goodby to a dollar,
He. too. may suddenly find himself
conscious of unnoted imperfections In
her and they loom large before him.
There arc, at times. a sharpness and a
sbrillness in the upper register OF her
speaking voice that almost suggest
irritability. She would never win a
gold medal as a housekeeper and one
has to be flercely hungry to enjoy her
cooking Her conversational charm
seems to have become rather common
place when subjected TO the test Of
continuous performance Her hair Is
not always vigorously brushed into
orthodoxy. and she does not seem to
worry much about the immaculateness
Of her attire around the house.
The items In the catalogue Of pro-
gressIve revelation vary: their impor-
| lance depends largely on the spirit Of
| the Interpretation. They are bit dis.
! iilusioning. II Is true, but they are not
! fatal. We all are human and have
faults. faillngs and foibles, We have
no right to expect perfection unless We
/ can give Il IN return Perfect people
too. would be awfuly tiresome to live
| WITH tlIcir stained glass view of things
would seem constant sermon without
| intprmiSsinn. continuous moral smut
! Of superiority to our sa!t respect.