The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 18??-19??, 1914-12-29
BE WISE BY REJNG E1ADgISP
baltimore Sun:

Don't o hate q man OF woman
who can't be coaxed? Personals the
writer Is convinced that the original
divorce germ, the root Of the term
"incompatibility of temper" Is Just
plain refusal of one party or the other
to be coaXed.
About the mo1nentous things OF life
one reasons. or argues or invokes the
assistance Of law, but in the little
everyday issues one depends upon
All to gain a point. A man who
cannot be cajoled into doing what he
does not want to do because he has
taken a stand and means TO stick to
It, may be a grand man to stand By a
gun in battle, but he is everlasting
hard 10 live with. A woman who
simply won't slip on her hat and go
Il with ner husband to see his
mother just because she has said
In the beginning she did not feel like
going, and who remains steadfast in
that decision. no matter how much
her husband urges-wen, she Is lay
Ing up for herself more trouble than
she knowS.
There is no uch blow to personal
vanity as failure to succeed when we
waive all question of the reasonable
ness of what we ask or the ex-
pediency of what we beg. and just
come down TO the child's attitude Of
coaxing, in the hope that, just be-
cause We want something SO very.
very much somebody else will let
us nav our will. When we are refused
after making this personal plea, the
hurt to our feelings is wholly out Of
proportion to the insignificance Of the
| request refused.
The refusing person may congratu-
late himself hat he has established
| a reputation for firmness: hat those
most closely associated with him have
! been taught and Dow fully understand
that when he says a thing he means
it-but he has lost infinitely more
than he has gained.
To be sure, after a few such humi-
liating experiences the coaxing wife or
the enthusiastic husband urges her
or his claims 10 more. Their faith
in their W powers of persuasion
has been too completely shattered.
They no longer coax nor plead AS
Petruchio said of Katharine, with
kiss on kiss" u h real reason OF
this is that all impulse to caress has
departed from them. The wife lets
the husband follow his own will
while she walks apart in what con-
Germs her inner life. The husband
does not solicit his Nife's companion
ship either to mothers" or else
where. He would rather 20 alone.
And when, seeing MIN don hat and
coat. the wife asks where ne is going
she receives the mountaineering an
swer, Just going out for a little
while" Ice has formed over those
domestic relations.
The process Of freezing Is a silent
one. yet once touched with frost the
leaf falls to the ground. People who
take inconseduential stands and re
fuse to be moved-stands not q
cerned with great principles OF vita
issues-cut themselves off from mucf
Joy. a f~rost-nipped vine still cling!
to the support selected when roung
tender, thrilling with life. it chos,
the object about which it desired Z
Irvine. but there is no Hanger beaut,
in it, neithe Of leaf no
fragrance OF flower. Presently tn,
gardener ears the shiveled thing
away. even as divorce DEGREES sundel
associations that are dead 10 all thu
lends life happiness.
> Hence be wise by sometimes beil;
foolish. Avoid being too Tigidly Gil
; trenched in your fortress Of Il sal,
l no and I meant it" Have rathe
; me finer insight that sees in coaxin:
I an appeal 10 love and loves iadul
: eence-not an attempt 10 oFer-1l
s Judgment or master viii
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