Five Mile Beach weekly journal., 1914-01-30

The wife may l%anghihgly eounsel her
friend, in his presence. never to get
married: you do not realize what 1t
means TO devote .raur whole life to
humoring a man and giving up your
freedom %foregSr'
Neither meanS the words; each
knows it is but bluhbefing nonsense.
but sometimes one phrase sticks in
memory when the time md atmos-
phere of the tpIlilIg. are forgotten and
1t stings and it dues not down with
argument and it starts Il Wondering. In
sistent. ranking doutt az 10 whether
he really meant It after all. aud there
may be Il sigh In her heart and a sob
in her throat as the fear eonIes that
there may have been something in it
after all: it may have been Il truth he
sought to hide under the mask Of "A
jest.
When the husband has the feeling,
percolating through his consciousness.
perhaps never quite formulated into
words, that s'our courtship aud honey
moon We're beautiful, Of course, while
they lasted, but now we must realize
that life is serious" he may think that
he is growing sensible. He is really a
bit mistaken: he is merely relapsing
into his selishness.
His attitude somehow suggests
throwing away flowers of sentiment
from a vase because they have wilted
a little, and with their novelty now
u~ouvn foriIior have locf nm Of THAR
initial charm. It would be wiser TO
make the vase ever blooming and red
client of sweetness by filing it with
fresh flowers of finer appreciation each
new day.
One of our great composers made the
hand organ the test of the popularity
of each of his new musical creations.
Twill it grind?' was his earnest and
wistful question. The love worth
while is the love that will grind. that
has in 1t such real music that all the
monotOny and grind of married life
cannot kill its sweetness. its inspira-
ton. its melody and harmony.
There are husbands who think they
deserve a blue ribbon in the matrimo-
NAL race because they run quietly in
double harness, make no special dis
turbance round the house. are loyal
and. as the phrase goes, are good pro-
viders.' They say: 81 give her a good
home; she has servants, plenty of mon
ey and dress. all the necessities and
many Of the luxuries. What more does
she want?' In sad hours of loneliness
and heart hunger, realizing fully all
that she has, she knows that the
more she Graves is the man himself,
his real companionship, his compli-
ments. his confidence, his tenderness.
his loving.
She wants to heal sometimes the
very words. 81 love you so, dear" and
81 need you So" or any of loves syn
onyms that speak directly, not merely
~inferentially. through acts. She wants
the phrases that sing themselves In
memory while the heart listens and Is
glad. She wants to be told again that
she 'has the most beautiful hands in
all the world" she wants to have him
notice the flower In her hair. to praise
the fit of her new gown. to have her
opinion occasionally count as an asset
in his thinking. not as a liability to be
wiped out.
She wants him to be the one to tell
her that she is beautiful, for 1t means
more to her than what all the others
say-she wants the old counting at
mosphere back again. She wants. in a
word, recognition of her as a woman.
as the woman. not merely the duty
and respect paid as a wife.
The husband may remember when
fair hands pinned a pink in the lapel