Omaha daily bee., 1914-11-06
Losing Your Girl
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

1T is easy enough to be pleasant when
life flows on like song-but the man
worth while Is the man who can smile
when everything goes dead wrong"
Up 20 four years ago was possessed
Of happy. optimistic nature" writes l..
a. ", II was living with my parents in
a fine home, being greatly indulged,
care-froe and with no responsibilities. I
then came TO New York to fill position
to which had been called. l have been
compelled 10 suffer hardships and hu-
mutations which have been almost un-
bearabie. and which have caused my
whole life and nature to change, Sick
ness resulted in loss of position. and
have had to he contented with pegging
along In ineffective places at a minor
salary, while I am confident that with
an even chance could qualify for posi-
tions of greater prestige than heretofore
held My friends take other peoples sor-
rows as a matter of course. No reading
that do cheers me. Dark clouds seem
/ to hover over me II is only for the sake
OF my aged parents that I have not given
up hope. feel down and out at "a
/ years OF age"
! When the boy who lives at home and
Is greatly indulged oare-free and with
no responsibilities comes TO New York
! or any great city. he has two battles 20
/ fight. ono is for place IN the maeistrom
/ OF city life. The other is to force him
self TO keep his grit and go on fighting
! Being happy and keeping your grip
are one and the same thing. l.. A. II.
| It is easy enough to be cheerful when
you are at home being petted and in
j a ~ N-1 fA- H.
fight of life.
Tho point is not whether you are plug
I ging along in places where you cannot
] make your ability tell. The point is not
! that if chance were good enough to throw
something worth while your way you
could prove your effectiveness, The
real point that Is going TO decide whether
you are to bc n success or a failure Is
just this: Are you capable OF taking joy
In your work whatever It Is? Are YOU
/ strong enough TO hope on In the face OF
1 disappointment after disappointment? p
Arc you sufficiently imaginative andi
keen to find opportunity NJ what TO an--
other man might seem ordinary routine
work?
At "a years Of age no man goes down
and out" unless he deliberately loosens
| his grip on the steering wheel OF hts
| own life. No failure in youth or middle
llfe-no loss OF opportunityTno pegsins
along at second rate work is in any way
final. Anything may be coming your
\ way today or tomorrow All you need
to do Is 20 be ready when It does come.
Now, don't think that a. platitude. AL
most every man who fails is directly re-
| sponslble for HIS Nvn failure.
Whether you succeed or fall in life is
largely a matter OF how long you can
manage TO keep your grip-and your
head. II you can think sanely and assure
yourself that. no series Of rnisfoptnnes
is an ironcIad. unbreakable thing that
cannot at any moment be switched off
into series Of successes, OF course. no
failure can daunt you. Now since all
things In life are temporary. why not
regard the days unhappiness this way;
This Is for today only; tomorrow I may
be on the crest OF wave of success" /
will keep firm grip on the steering
wheel OF my own life. and In the end
will master my fate because I have not
lost my grip and let temporary misfor-
tune master life and steer me to destruc-
ton and despair,