Evening capital news. (Boise, Idaho) 1901-1927, 1914-07-23
THE EVENING CHIT-CRAT

7Y reader friends have been con-
I'M tributing some interesting points
llE of view lately. Two of them
u Il have something to say to you
today on the most discussed in
stitution in the civilized world.
Il was interested in your article some
days ago in regard to a child being un-
grateful and stingy with money to-
wards one of its parents" writes one
woman TO you think that that often
happens? 1t seems to me that the dp-
posite is more frequently the case. |
have known of so many girls who were
brought up in foolish luxury, and not
taught TO do anything useful. When
they married their parents gave them
large wedding and a trousseau and
perhaps furnished their house. Then
the generosity stopped.
THE girl loved the man she married
and was ignorantly willing to try to do
her best to make ends meet-but her
best was pretty poor. No one can
learn to cook and sew in a week OF a
month, with all the good win in the
world. Sometimes the girl tried to
keep cheap, incompetent maid, and
sometimes she attempted the cooking
herself. Often she struggled braVely
for years, spending many hours doing
work she hated and was untitled for.
Her parents seemed TO think that their
duty was ended the moment the daugh-
ter was given to a husband to care for
often they, the parents, lived in real
luxury, but they apparently did not
realize the desires of the child they
had brought up in idleness or they de-
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to learn the value of money.
you know that in France a girl is
either taught to do something or she
has a certain dot settled on her at her
marriage so that she is able to livb in
something like the comfort she has
been accustomed to at home. We are
supposed to be a practical nation. but
on the subject of money and marriage
we have a lot to learn"
The black type is mine because
think that Is tremendously suggestive
sentence.
The other contributor has strong
ideas about the marriage service. Much
has been said about emitting the wore
obey, and l believe the legality of mar
riages solemnized without that wore
has been questioned. My letter frlent
would SdllSIy Lne advocate OF euud
rights in another way.
Instead of removing the word obey
from the marriage service" she writes
each should promise to obey the rea.
sonable requests of the other, for i
there is not obedience on both sides anC
both ars obstinate the house viii bi
divided against itself and a house di
vided against itself cannot stand,
when people with unselfish natures
fall in love their desire is to please t,
obey and serve each other, and II boil
disagree on any matter they generdusl!
take turns in yielding to each other
wishes as they believe in giving eael
other a square deal. They believe il
, the old-fashioned motto that marriage
halves ones rights and doubles pnel
duties.
Here is another error in the mar
riage ceremony that an enlightened
clergy ought to notice. Is 1t homes
and sensible to ask people about t.
, marry to promise to love and cherisl
each other. Love is not under human
control and comes and goes irrespective
of promises. Everybody knows THAT IL
treatment VIII eventually kin love
Where people seem to love the un or
thy they probably love an ideal of Wha
, the unworthy one once was. MOI tn
degenerate. . The question should be
DO you love. etc"