Arizona republican., 1914-04-16
-----fl----------~- ROMANCE AND MATRiMOkY"
By John Horace Lockwood

6y JOnn hoFdCS LOCKWOOD
 The mystery about marriage is TO- nance. sometimes called love. Love and romance are not the same, though the terms are often used interchang ably, and though it happens now and then that these two experiences coin eide.
 Love is the more real and more cas- lily accounted for. Romance refers properly to something that is not sup posed to be explained; il is idealism suddenly developed into seemingly un- Icontrollable force. It Is apart from reason, has nothing to do with com mon sense, and knows no master. IL is romance. not love, with which we have to deal in this article, and the one are so closely interworen with the indications Of the other that it is impossible to entirely separate them. Romance usually ends where mar !riage begins, while pure, unadulterated love will stand the acid test of mari !tal realities, whether romance accom- panies it or not. Romance with love may endure for a lifetime and grow continually brighter and sweeter as l tke years roll on. says The Mother s Magazine for March. Romance with out love may turn sour over night. We may plan and have every reason 1 tc expect the most satisfactory lrar- riage imaginable for our son or 1 daughter. and then romance slips II. 1 and upsets everything.
 | Your daughters intellectual ideals
 may be so polished that they will be
 q shining ideal for the entire neigh borhood, and, some fine morning you will find that she has eloped with the Icoachman.
 Your son may be q post graduate with the highest honors; he may even have taken the best theological course you can give him with tn.
 full Intention of going into the min
 istry. when like a bolt ont of a cleal married q chorus girl.
 Do not imagine. beg of you. tha ,because the romano bee is forever
 buzzing around and sometimes cause.
 young folks to do strange things, tha t is useless to inclucate the highes
 ideals in the minds of your sons O. daughters. We are too prone to jude, of life and duty by those incident which stand out most clearly in on minds. whereas the reason why the!
 stand out SO clearly is that they ar,
 unusual. extreme. and we should add very unlikely to occur again within
 our immediate experience.
 ]! When I think of the way parent
 violate the faith of their chldrel , with lies and deception of every de l scrlption I cannot wonder that low
 and romance cut ID some cnriou ,1 capers and that the world is out c joint az regards this subject. II For let 1t be known. cry it iron the housetops: This love and faitl of the little child is the same low l and faith of the youth and of th , men and women; it is the love nn, faith, treat it how you may. that zoe from the cradle to the grave. r Do not deceive yourselves with tn idea that by and by your boy or gir , VIII take on new love and a ney faith and that these are forces wit which you have nothing to co.
 The childish love may grow m
 change so that it takes in other
 than yourself and it may find 1t
 fruition in that one great love c , one man for one woman. or of on woman for one man. or It may eve
 escape that which we call romano
 and expand until it includes all hu manity.
 On the other hand, it may shrivt ID and die because you killed th faith that went with it.