Omaha daily bee., 1914-09-24
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

rs II possible for young man who is
not so very handsome, but who holds a
good position and has a splendid future
before him to be loved by a pretty young
girl. | have fine position and am ca
pable of providing a good home for wife
and family, but I am not good looking
and have no confidence in myself I feel
that girls do not care for me, and
have about abandoned hope of ever win
ming the love of a woman. Is there hope
for a man who is not attractive" writes
'Hackensack"
What a splendid husband is going to
waste in this remarkably modest young
man!
Is there hope that he can win the love
of some charming young girl? Plenty of
it in spite of what he considers his
handicap of not being a Phoebus Apollo
in 1914 Fifth avenue tailored clothes.
Plenty of it-even if he were blind on halt
or MANNED, or even a weakling who
could not support wife when once he
had won her, instead of being a capable
chap who is well able to support a wife
and home For any handicap may be
overcome in the love race.
There are various ways to win a
woman Let us consider a few of the
accredited and successful methods
There is the world-od method of the
caveman He looked about for the lady
who most pleased his fancy and, knock
ing her senseless with one weu-directed
blow, dragged her off to his cave. On
waking from her swoon the lady promptly
became an adoring wife. So the story
goes. I question whether alteration and
subjection can go hand in hand.
Now, in spite of all modern novelists
and playwrights may say, methods akin
to those of the caveman do not appeal to
the woman of today. She is highly
organized nervous systematic first need
OF her nature is sympathy and under
standing and the best way TO win her
interest is to give her both.
sympathy and understanding! These are
two qualities that cannot fail to make an
impression on the heart of any woman.
They will give her a comfortable feeling
at first Of being of sufficient Importance
to a man 10 be worth his studying and
attempting to please and then they will
come to be too important to go without.
OF an the gifts that man can give a
woman, there are none that will awake
interest and affection as will these quail
tiles, ,-l .a..
tention that Will arrest any womans
fancy. 1t rs not the man who sends
girl American Beauties because he likes
them who wins her real affection. The
man who appeals 10 girls heart is the
chap who brings her bunch of lilacs
because he remembers that she once ex-
pressed delight in tho delicate fragrance
of those old-fashioned blooms The ruth
less individual who enforces his own will
and thinks that because he enjoys a
given pleasure the girl to whom he is
supposed to be giving a good time must
be thrilled by il too, is not the man to
win her real love The selfish man who
takes a girl to the movies when she
wants to go to tango and takes her a.
tangoing when her one longing is to see
a good motion picture is not the man
who really wins a lasting regard.
The way to win a woman is to study
her desires and preferences, to put your
self in sympathy with her ideas and am
billions and to have a tender regard for
her feelings. Be gentle and kind without
being weakly subservient TO passing
whims and fancies.
. There is nothing more attractive to the
feminine heart than the thought of power
held in check. sympathy understanding
and tenderness must never take on the
guise of weakness. They must appear
TO be the wonderful gift of a strong ma
turc TO the one being I'm all the world II
particularly desires to honor.
The man who is not handsome may
make himself attractive to the feminine
eye by means of neat dressing and care
fuI grooming. II he is thoughtful and
polite in his manners, that will make NJ
for a vast deal OF mere beauty 4 girl
is delighted to be seen i'm public with any
man who knows how to conduct himself
so that walters and ushers and conduc
tors join in respecting him, while othel
women envy her the polite escort WhC
knows how to take such good care o.
her
study the particular girl you want t.
win. Meet tile needs of her nature. Give
strength and sympathy for her weak
ness, yielding generosity for her stroni
characteristics, consideration of what
she wants, rather than merely of VIVA
you want and you must impress your
self on her mind as a dependable frienC
on whom she can rely. Reliance grow
easily to dependence and dependence
grows in turn to habit. II is a very won
derful and satisfying thing for CIR
10 feel that there is some man on who's
interest she can count. 1t makes her verl
lappy to know that some one care
enough for her to really want TO serv'
her and make her happy.
Devotion becomes almost necessary e
a woman once she has known its protect
ng care.
Love begets love" II YOU fec! 70
some girl a tender and Overwhelming
love. your own feeling must klndle in nc
some return feeling
Have faith in yourself Cultivate III