The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1914-02-17

pride coming between. is an antisepfie
process of treating the hurt before It
paralyzes emotion. 1t removes the pol
son from a memory.
Through this pride. too. we often pre-
vent wounds Of unkindness anu lack or
thought from healing al all Through
our intense consciousness OF them. re-
yivIng and renewing the memories In
all their original vividness. we exag-
cerate ana intensity the hurt. We
carry a wounded emotion in sling.
as though 1t were \ broken arm. ana
thus make forgiving diticult and for
getting impossible.
This pride that comes so often from
our superSenSitiveneSs is the slow pet
rifying of the better side of our ma
lures. she may justify herself by say
ing. "If did not love him 80 much J
would not feel the hart" If she loved
more. if she loved enough. she womb
realize how small matter is this pain
that nhSorlls her compared with N,
greatness or her Possession. TIE Soou
qualities she is overlooking. Then
would she forgive and-forget.
Her pride is really injured more than
her love. This pride kills real SYM
patty, for sympathy seeks 10 see
subject from the others viewpoint
lovingly TO interpret il as it may seem
To the other rs we'll rs to oneself.
Then through this clear, double knowl-
edge the wisdom of the wisest course
may come, but false pride stolidly ana
stubbornly sees everything only from
its own point of vision.
All misunderstanding between hus-
band and wife should be met i'll the
very beginning and never allowed
merely to work themselves out. 1t is
n cowardly recklessness, the don't
care" spirit of false pride, that urges
or permits this easy going philosophy.
Were Ore 10 he discovered in the
home. if ii were onir the tiniest flame.
beginning its devastation of curtains
and furniture. WE would not say, let
it burn itself ont" Our instant. in
stinctive action would be to stifie it. to
kill it at amy cost But too often do
we let the fire of diScord and of mis-
understanding feed on our finest emo
tions. burn away love, confidence.
sweetness. truth. trust sympathy all
that is dearest to us-while we stand
hy. bllndy nursing our pride, our petty
sense Of dignity.
We stand III the center of the stage
of our self esteem. We will not be the
first TO speak. we will not be the FIRST
to sue for peace. the first to make up.
We dare to permit this pride to wreck
our happiness as though any honest
pride could be too much to pay to Sc
cure it or to preserve it. 1t is always
the larger nature that is first to sur
render Pride that be@gars the happi-
ness OF two is dearly bought by the
petty satisfaction OF not being the first
to bring the JOY of reconciliation to the
hearts Of both, who need each other.
Pride, too. has subtle way of pnt-
ting confidence into a cod storage that
often kills it. Mutual Interchange OF
condolences between husband and wife
should be fresh spontaneous and ever
living, Some people bind confidence
with bandageH Of eG0tism and conceit
and adu.te@ted vanity till it can ne
more move nor breathe than mummy
Of the time of Rameses could escape
from its spired wrappers. This means
death, not life.
i Sometimes the husband, putting on
his full armor of pride. says TO him
self There is n subject that il she
had the proper regard for me she
would speak of it to me" ard she
drawing closer to her the perlumet
mantle of her dignity. says If he
/ were Interested in me at all he would
surely ask" When in this foolish con
tlict Of usGes there is danger thai
/ Cupid # he d. his duty will drag como
dence away OF into the silence ans
/ wait titl ucp come to their sense,
/ again Two negatives may make NJ
affirmative, put two silences do no.
make speech. When pride gets int,
this delicate condition. where 1t is con
stantty fearing a draft. it should BE-
/ taken seriousIy in hand and gently bu
/ Gruly chloroformed into oblivion.
Way. over in the garden of Eden
where IGe lrst married couple resided
in d Da2Htifui place where they LIVED
! absolutely rent free and they had nl
| ueiahbay@ g criticise them and they
wego makiIs name for themselves
and WnHiHs Immortality in literature
as the nl,t tenants, the pride OF boil
led f. disaster. And pride has bocl
coming between love and happiness il
this world Qf ours ever since that day
| There are little riffs in the lutte o
happiuess IN married life that, unnotet
or uncoyreatod WIDEN With the month,
ana years until he music of love
Sweetness, tenderness ana romrade
/ ship becomes mute So little nigh
have saved tue situation in the begin
ming. There are trihing differences anC
discordS that n few moments of listen
ing, few moments Of kindly wisdom
conference and explanation. might Sc
right. But foolish pride may deter ant
4 heart is wounded; unrest, vague mis-
/ understanding, chatting protest ant
blighting suspicion dethrone conf
dence, and said growing apart ma.
darken the years,
When a business firm is passin!
deep financial waters. when there mr.
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