The Cairo bulletin., 1914-04-20

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and swamp 1t. They say that absence
makes the heart grow fonder," but 1t
is not always fonder of the one 'ett
behind. Brief separations may DO
loves tonlcs. but long ones are often
loves narcotics.
When one member Of the home firm
voluntarily takes long solitaire vaca'
tion and the other stays ut home III
loneliness, Cupid, though blind, sees
trouble ahead. With two who love
each other the temporary separation
may be the thin edge of the wedge or
permanent growing apart
These unnecessary solo vacations
force each into new environment in
which the other has no part They
lessen the sweetness of mutual depend
ence They break the continuity or
loving conference and constant comb
dence. They make it easier for each
to face lifes problems alone instead or
hand in hand with the other They
add In many ways to the compleXity
OF home life. often creating restless
vague sense of doubt. 1t is not always
easy to piece again the broken threads
into the old fabric of absolute unity,
trust and dependence Some note Of
discord creeps into the music of life
for them both, aud neither may DO
quite able to silence 1t,
The danger of these summer yaca-
lions apart is not when they are taken
reluctantly and regretfully because OF
the pressure of compelling conditions,
when business calls the husband away
on some necessary trip. when the wife
takes the little ones out for a visit b
the old folks. when either is i'll and Is
forced to go away and circumstances
forbid both going, when a sickly child
requires change OF air, breath of pine
woods or the invigorating tonic OF the
sea. The very inevitahility OF vaca
ton. accepted under protest, may MOI
lessen for an instant the constant heart
hunger of eaen for the other 1t may
really intensity it.
BHt the regular exodus of the wife
because she has a restless desire (,
geJ away somewhere. because she ha'
friends who insist on her accompany
ing them or she fears the neighbor'
will think she cannot afford 10 g
away or her selfish desire for persona
pleasure throws into the shadows al
Thought of the loneliness and othel
hardship it may entail on her husband
These are the forms of voluntary sep
arntion for weeks and months that ar,
dangerous. Sometimes they even prov
short cut from matrimonF to ali
mony. OF the twenty-seven eNplana
tons by which she may fualy secur
his consent twenty-five are mercl
weak excuses, and the other two ar
shaky reasons that would not even bav
deceived herself for moment in til
FIRST year or two of their married lie
These separations are always hare
est for the one who is left. He Ia til
city, still attending to his mnuotonou
round of daily business and duties
goes home at night to lonely hous
eats where he can and walks throug
empty rooms until they grow unbear.
bic In their grim isolation If he rea
ly cares deeply for her be picture
her walking on the beach in her dali
ty new dress with the parasol
match, sitting on the wide reranda
summer hotel in the evening i'll Il
midst of merry group, laughing al
testing Mt tries. or. in imaginatio
sees her rowing across the silver
waters of n moonlit lake with a (
party of friends.
There In a feeling of restless reb
lion that now lie forms no part of |
Irving. In his honest heart he may
to make himself believe that he is g
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