Omaha daily bee., 1914-10-16
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAA.

,'T am a woman Of 80 years and have
been receiving attentions from q man for
the last ten years. He was the main sup
port OF his aged mother and sister and
did not feel as though l would like to be
the case OF family breakup, but he
always said that IL anything happened to
his mother he would make me his wife
His mother died in December. and when
1 approached the subject he was very
angry and said his sister had made him
promise he would never marry unless she
went with him. She is an old maid. near
80 years old. and I do not care for her
l am considered pretty. Now. do you
think he just wants my company to show
his men friends he can have a pretty COM
panion or do you suppose he really cares
for me?' writes Lila.
What I really suppose is this: The
woman who sits for ten years waiting
for the death of mans mother or sis
ter TO free him from obligations so that
he can marry her is cultlvating a very
morbid attitude toward the attainment OF
happiness. A man who has not the
energy and initiative to work vigorously
enough 70 be able to support a wife lin
addition to taking care of his other bur
dens) in the course OF ten years has not
the heart or brain or spirit to care Cor
her with anything that can be classed as
true love-
A girl who sits meckly waiting for ten
years for her liege lord and master-man
to make good so that he may assume the
burden OF supporting her is likely to be
rewarded for her patience with a vast in
difference when time puts him in a posi-
tion 10 marry her.
/ disapprove heartily OF the spirit that
counts It's emotional realization in terms
Of some ones death. disapprove
equally heartily of the spirit that permits
woman to waste ten years of her life
and youth in waiting. And I dsapprove
also Of the spirit that after waiting ten
years for its happiness she will not take
# on the terms offered.
When man has been loyal 20 a
mother and sister for ten years. do YOU
expect him to turn that aging sister out
m the streets that a wife, who has not
taught herself TO lo-e the family of the
man for whom she cares. may have the
happiness she wants?
situation like this is wrong from start
to finish, and quote as an example of
III the man you love has obligations
that make 1t honestly impossible for YOU
to marry, the best thing to do is to try
70 put the thought of marriage out OF
your life.
III man loves woman and can't for
her sake hustle sufficiently so that he
can support three women instead of two
there is lack of real fervor in his affec-
ton.
1T woman cares for a man enough to
wait rmeekly, for him during ten long
years, and then declines to take her hap
piness IL II includes having another
woman who is dependent on him live in
her home, she is selfish and cold and
calculating in her love.
This is enc Of the many phases Of the
folly Of waiting long years for man to
make good ana marry you.
Emotions have n way Of spending
themselves and getting outworn unless
they are of real sterling quality. The
woman who waits is likely 10 lose her
youthful charm and the novelty that
fascinates and in the end have to make
way for a-younger sweetheart. She may
become peeyish ana exactlng through
long years cf~unfulfilled love She comes
70 he more Of habit than a feeling
she sits drearily about lcoking at her
unrealized dreams and finds at last that
all the glow Of feeling has gone from
those once lovely dreams. And she comes
q know that the man who selfishly asked