News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1914-07-15

win her enthusiasm to some new plan
of his or some new dream Of ambi-
ton, she had only half heard. her in
terest was slight, her sympathy uneX-
pressed. Her thought wandered as she
waited for a pause and sidetracked his
confidence with the latest instance of
the marvellous intellectually of the
baby. She may not realize that the
child that began as real reason for
dropping familiar customs and sweet
habits is now but an excuse.
If their past life together were not
always roses and sunshine they may
have made up their little misunder-
standings, smoothed over difficulties
and let new love and kindness take out
the pain of a memory. But now the
child may become a refuge to the
mother Concentrating upon it all her
love, she bears stolidly codness that
otherwise she would seek to remove,
sits in the shadow of her dignity when
but a word would bring peace and
sweetness, while the husband, playing
| his poor counter role, draws more
closely around him his robes of sack
cloth and ashes And they both think
! things about each other not edited for
publication. and they just become Suk-
! lily reticent and selfish with speech,
and they will not talk.
| When the child begins to escape from
| babyhood and the mother begins her
| siege of morning talks on the necessity
of moving away from the city so they
| can get good country air for the child,
though he may murmur something
about there "being cases on record
where children We're actually brought
up in the city and lived through it."
he may finally capitulate. But there
is Il resentment that cannot be stifed
that his comfort and ease might have
at least standing room on the floor of
discussion. He hates the suburbs. He
does not relish an hours railroad ride
night and morning, but at last, finding
opposition wearying, he succumbs.
When the children come these prob
lens have to be met and worked out
by both. Neither can do all The
husband must make allowances"
manifest new tenderness, watchful-
ness, consideration. thoughtfulness,
fOrbearance and self denial. He
should not fake himself and his griev-
ances too seriously
He must take broader views and
throw away the microscope with
which he is studying the wounds Of
neglect inflicted on his vanity. If he
wishes the home life to move along
as it did of old. despite the temporary
shadow the light of the new joy may
cast, he should do more than his share
toward keeping up all the traditions
of the old sentiments.
He should, so far as he possibly !
can, relieve the mother of the mere |
drudgery and added care of her new |
responsibilities. so that the close lines |
of the old comradeship may never be |
broken. A rose or some trifling gift |
that means nothing but the thought I
it messages may bring instinctively |
the smile, the glad look. the love light !
in the eyes, which he so misses, and in
the rewinning he may find new hap
piness that will never come to his
sulky demanding as right
To the wife may come the need of
care to prevent the child even tenn
porariy eclipsing the husband. AS
her mind CLOVIS under the inspiring
dreams of the childs future and in
fancy twenty years panorama of its
growth and progress unfolls before
her. she must watch that she does not
lose that close. telepathic kinship of
mind and heart with her husband, so
much mere easily lost than regained.
1t merely requires wise sense Of
values, seeing life and it's relations i'll
true perspective. little sterling COM
mon sense united with love-then the
coming of the children will mean only
new joy and truer companionship to
both.
In the true spirit of acceptance of
changed conditions they will waken to
the completeness and conservation of
the larger life with the children. the
new inspiration, the new. sweeter de-
pendence on each other, the new,
broader vision of united usefulness,
anu Iuey Will De uedlCl anu HedIel W |
each other because the children are
dearer to them, and the rooms echoing
with the laughter and romping of the
little ones will seem to them filled only
with music.
When two friends start out for a
long walk together they seem instinc-
lively to adjust their steps so that they
walk side by side within touching dis
lance of each other. If one gradually '
quickens his pace until he is yards i
ahead of the other and in his self alb S
sorption increasingly widens the dis
lance between them they cease to be '
two walking together and become two
walking alone. Marriage is a lifelong
walk together of two who have select
ed each other from all the world. 1t is r
of thought. ideals, aims,
needs and sentiments that tends to
keep them in step. 1t does not mean
a sacrifice of individuality. nor does it /;
demand unanimity of opinion. but
there should ever be progressive har- !;
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