The Washington times., 1914-05-30
Dear Miss Laurie:

|, Dear Miss Laurie:
As you are giving 50 many young
girls advice. and I hope they follow II.
would like you to give me some, for
| which thank you in advance.
I am a young girl. eighteen years old.
and am considered right good looking.
but i have never had a beau. Don't
you think 1t Is time that should get
ore? I cannot understand the reason,
| but. to tell the truth, the young men
do not take a fancy to me. I know
I am awfully self-conscious, and BASH
full. but think II a young man likes
a young girl. that would not make any
difference. Do you think flirting on the
street is nicer Well. have made up
my mind that I would not 60 with q
fellow unless I had an Introduction to
him. I do not think flirting shows
ones training: 1 wonder II I am too
have told your Can you help me to
Don't you think I have lots Of un-
necessary trouble? II you can help
me out. will try and follow your ad-
vice. LONESOME.
Pcor little Lonesome" you do have
hard time, don't you? And how 8
Anniu Laurie to help you get q beau2
Self-consciousness and bashfulness GER
ta,rIy don't make any difference when
a nan likes a girl, but the point s.they
may keep him from beginning to like
her. How is a man to know what a
sweet companionable person a girl can
b., II she Is too shy to open her mouth?
And extreme self-con5ciousnesG always
makes a person appear silly. Fight
against those two faults, remember that
there is a difference between being de-
muI ely quiet. sweetly shy, which in
ycrng girl is very attractive. and being
stoltdly bashful. which is just plain
stupid and uintelligent. Be yourself.
say what comes into your head to say.
II II be worth saying. be friendly and
gracious to the people you meet, and
doa't think about yo Irsclf all the time
o. about other people In relation to
And. little girl. don't worry too much
about not having "a beau" That will
come all in good time and, meanwhile.
portant in the world. The girls Of
eighteen who are having beaux and
thinking themselves very much in love
are pust going through attacks of
puppy love-" which dim the beauty
o. the real thing when IL does come.
AS for flirting In the street. I can't
tell you how vulgar and unladylike that
is, in my opinion. esides, II Is utterly
silly and useless, II carried no further
than a nod and smile in passing, and
How does a girl know what sort OF a
man she is picking up or letting pick
her up? He might, of course, be de-
cent sort OF a chap, for even the best
of men will fiirt with girl who en-
courages them; but on the other hand
she might get tangled up with the worst
sort of a reprobate, who would ge: her
in all sorts of trouble. And no man.
decent or otherwise. will have much
opinion Of the girl who picks him up.
or course, a girl who Is in business is
often thrown with men to whom she Is
not formally introduced, but whom she
sees often and learns to know quite
we'll. Naturally. don't mean that she
should stand on ceremony with them
and demand an introduction: but what
am scoring, and feel that I can't
score too heavily. is the practice OF de-
liberately flirting with men who are
quite strange and about whom a girl
knows absolutely nothing. Better be
beauless all your life. my dear-though
I don't think you need fear anything
like that-than SO lower yourself.