The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1914-06-28

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reliance Is almost indispensable in
land where fortunes are lost as well
as made with such speed and frequency.
guest should be punctual at all
meals and on all occasions. With re-
gard to breakfast a diversity of Gus
toms exists. the family assembling for
the meal at most houses. while many
people prefer to take IL in their own
rooms. n guest will endeavor to con-
form to the usage of the household
III the hostess proposes to have his
breakfast sent up, he may accept the
offer, unless he has reason to suppose
that this will be inconvenient. In the
evening he will be careful not to keep
his hosts up beyond the hour when they
ordinarily retire for the night.
For a week end visit a guest places
his time at the disposal OF his enter
tainers and does not usually make any
engagements elsewhere. Should II hap
pen. however. that he wishes especial,
to call on friends in the neighborhood
he should mention this soon after his
arrival, so that the trip may he ar
ranged for an hour that will not in
terfere with the plans of his host The
| agreeable guest falls in readily with
these. He tries to have a pleasant tim,
Il
of others. even II some OF them are
tedious people. He will enjoy talking
with the most interesting person pres
ent, hut will not try to monopoliZe the
| lion of the occasion. If an excursion
is proposed to see something he has
seen many times before, or to do a
thing he especially dlslikes. he will not
| say: "Oh. | know that place by heart"
or What a bore" but will make the
| best Of the situation. Should he have
| any "parlor tricks" such as the ability
to sing, recite, or tell fortunes. he will
he ready to display these at an oppor-
tune moment. a guest. however. should
follow rather than lead. 1t is the prov
ince Of the host to make the pro-
| gramme and arrangements. The visitor
must he careful not to behave as II he
| thought II was his party.
While, as we have said he will join
| In the amusements, he will not over
step the limits prescribed by good
breeding. 1t sometimes happens that
a group Of young people. carried away
by the contagion of high spirits. will
behave like boisterous school children
The manners of our day are much less
formal than those of an earlier genera
ton. but they impose of necessity a
and young men must remember that It
is always easy to relapse into the
barbarism from which mankind has
emerged by a slow and tedious process.
As the cultivated apple tree tends
always to return to the wild crab, so
does our civilization. II it is not vigil
lantly guarded, incline to revert to the
savagery of the primitive man. A
guest should never feel obliged to join
in anything which he considers wrong.
Thus IL 1t Is proposed to play cards
for money he should simply say, Cant
we arrange another table? I always
play for coffee beans" or make some
other half testing remark. In word,
while he quietly maintains his own
opinions he should avoid saying any
thing in criticism Of those who differ
with him.
If he thinks II wrong TO drink wine
or beer, or does not care to do 50. he
should place his open hand palm down
ward against the side of the glass when
! the servant offers TO fill this. Should
: II be filed by mistake the guest need
not feel compelled to drink the wine
Among we'll bred people his failure &c
do so would cause no comment. 1t Is
only very young and inexperienced oil
z that 1t Is necessary to behave like thu
e proverblal sheep blndly following tn
k leader. A girl who should undertake,
d to smoke a cigarette simply because
v those around her were doing so would
d clearly demonstrate not her goot
manners but her lack of backbone. II
the opinion of most people there !!
r nothing wicked in the use Of tobacco
But the great majority of Americans
consider II in bad taste for women 4
smoke, especially in public.
4 Doris should inquire in good season
,. about the trains and ascertain to which
4 one Il will be convenient to send her
=, She should never stay beyond the tim
@ for which she was originally invited
: unless under exceptional circumstances
v 4 week end visit is supposed to term
' nate on Monday morning or a bushes
man may find II necessary to leave oil
q Sunday evening.
a The out of town hostess does well (
q select her guests from those who EMO
: outdoor sports or who are fond Of tn
g country and its amusements. OF cours
4 such choice Is not always possible
r and in the heat of midsummer ever
y one likes to have breath of fires
e air and to escape from the noise an
IS dust OF the city streets. For hous
e party II Is best to ask persons or MOI
n or less congenial tastes, who Will there
d fore be likely to enjoy the same thing
a While the affair will be more successf'
n IL some OF the guests are already nc
& quainted with one another, an agreeabl
v stranger may add a pleasant variet.
is People who see one another CONSTANT
a in the city may find 1t tiresome to NEE
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