The Tacoma times. [volume] (Tacoma, Wash.) 1903-1949, 1914-01-08

My reply mailed several days ago
was returned to me today with
the postal inscription mo such
address" written upon 1t.
Dear Miss Grey: Please
advise me. l love young
man and he loves me: but
my folks want me to finish
my high school education
before having a steady beau.
/ am just is, and they do
everything they can to keep
us from going together.
Don't you think | am old
enough to know when | love
anybody, and that / will not
see anyone afterwards that l
will love better? And don't
you think a girl ought to
marry for love instead Of
money?
This young man has not
very good education and
works for his living. He has
no estate or anything except
what he works for. He is
common laborer, very nice,
we'll thought of. What Is
your advice in regard to
marrying him? ANON.
A man without an estate,
and possessing only what he
works for is the kind of man I
would prefer for my daughter,
had I one. Each In the great
scheme of life is entitled to "Only
what he works for" But many
other things must be considered,
too. Disposition. and q willing
ness to consider the rights of 9TH
ers is o great factor In marriage.
I have always thought would
rather marry q poor man and
help him make the money, than
one who has aleady made it.
/ think your parents objection
hinges on the fact that you are
very young and have not finished
your education. II the young
man has not n fairly good educa-
ton he should be trying to get 1t
by reading, or night study.
OF course, IL is by far better to
marry for love than for money;
but foolish love that places the
loved one on q pedestal and wOr-
ships him will live to see the idol
fall down, simply because we are
all human at the present stage Of
our development.
fAu vvxAnffwSO
man you may love better, no one
can tell that; but you are going
through (and will for some years)
the rapidly changing period, and
should be willing to wait for
some time before marrying. II
your love Is the right sort 1t will
prove itself-if not, you will have
lost nothing by waiting. To my
mind one should be well prepared
to become life-partner and
aren't.
Dear Miss Grey: Is It right
for a school girl to spend
every spare moment reading
novels. Please answer, giving
full particulars, IL this is
wrong, and to what extent?
What do you think is re-
quired Of woman to retain
a husbands love when she Is
positively sure he loves her?
INQUIRING.
A sensible girl would not
think of filling her system every
spare moment with pastry or fiz
drinks. No more should she fill
her mind with novel reading.
IL a woman knows she possesses
her husbands love, the only way
to held 1t is to do away with fear
she feels that she may lose 1t
some day.
Dear Miss Grey: AS your
advice was good the other
time / asked IL, I come again
with rather a difficult ques-
ton.
My father drinks very
hard, and 1t Is SO hard for
us to get along. My mother
ana L nave done everything
we can, but he says he can't
stop. Can you tell me Just a
little way to stop 1t. ! will
be so happy IL you can help
me.
A GIRL IN WANT.
Al might tell you TO have
your mother forbid the liquor
man to sell him drink. and she
might have the liquor man ar
rested IL he did; but that wouldn't
ntop It. You and your mother can
help; but your father must STOP
It himself. He must have o deep
and sincere wish to stop, and he
must make up his mind that even
4 he slips back once In awhile he
must make another effort, and