El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1914-04-18

BOY who says he is IS years old
n and getting S12 week salary
= n writes me that he is desperately
in love with a girl Of II. and that they
want to marry And he wants to
know what I think Of it
What do I think Of it? Son, when
there. are so many easy and convenient
WAYS Of committing suicide such as
taking rough on rats, and getting in
front Of a trolley car, why do you
choose such a horrible, ana lingering,
and tOrturing way Of DISCRIMINATING
yourself as an early marriage! just
take it from me that if you get mar
ried at IS you will never regret IL but
once. and that viii be every day that
you live.
A boy that marries before he has
come to mans estate before ne knows
what kind of a man ne IS gong 10 pc,
and what kind of needs and desires no
is going to have as man. commits
a crime against himself and against
the girl he marrles for winch there is
no forgiveness here or hereafter lie
EOredOOms them both to failure ana
misery, and anybody who has got lit
tile enough sense to even contemplate
doing such thing should be locked up
by the state in nice padded cell until
he RECEIVERS his sanity.
Matrimony is a mans sized trouble
with which no child has the strength
y
I'D before you tackle It.
And listen TO these words Of wisdom
from a judge who has had much eX-
perience in arbitrating the difficulties
between married couples he says;
What a Judge Says:
81 find that IL is youthful marriages
more than anything else that III my
court Very young couples seldom
have enough money 70 HFe upon ana
quarrels begin when the young nus
band finds that it is difficult TO sup
port his little family. Blows and black
eyes follow.
Financial matters, however, are not
the only cause of disa greement between
couples who marry at tender ages.
There are dissenSiOns among rich
young couples as well as poor ones. II
thing else. They are not old enough
nor wise enough to have patience with
each others faults"
I wish that these words Of warning
might be printed in letters a foot high
upon every signbOard in the country.
Marriage is risky enough, Heaven
knows, at the best. when people are
old enough and mature enough to know
what they are doing, but for the young
and callow 1t means inevitable disaster.
There are many reasons why the
early marriage is preOrda1ned TO Iall-
IRE The first and most practical is
that matrimonY. like any other venture,
has TO be adequately financed to be n
success. No boy is able to earn enough
TO support family in decent comfort
and when hunger and cold begin to
pinch. and the bill collector to hammer
on the door. love packs up its grip and
beats it away from that abode
The Second Reason.
The second reason why early mar
riases are failures is that the boy hus-
band and the girl wife have not had
their fling. They still crave the pleas
ures and amusements that belong to
their years, and when instead of dane
ing and frOlicking they have to walk
concky babies, and toll to exhaustion
10 take care Of q family, they are dead
sure TO turn upon each other with
hatred and recriminatiOn.
The third objection to early mar
rlages is that youth is unreasonable
IN its demands, 1t is utterly selfish and
tyrannical, and overbearing and both
husband and wife demand too much OF
each other. Hence Quarrels and jeal-
ousy, and divorce. Age teaches patience
ana forbearance, and to deal diplomat
1cally with situations that youth treats
with brutal and fatal directness.
The fourth reason why early mar
riages are almost sure to bring mis-
cry instead of happiness to those who
contract them Is that no boys or girls
character is formed. At is and % our
tastes are no more the same than II we
We're different persons, and the man or
woman we fancied ourselves in love