The Kansas City sun. (Kansas City, Mo.) 1908-1924, 1914-11-21
DR.. Marden's
Uplift Talks
BY oRIsoN SWEET mARosN.
GETTING OVER YOUR SENSITIVE.
NESS.
Copyright By Mcclure Newspaper syndicate

l know a bright, well-trained young
lady, whose intimate friends, and even
her nea relatives, have to be continu-
ally on the watch for fear of wound
ing her. She broods over a joking re-
mark until she magnihes 1t into an in
suit. She makes herself miserable for
days over a fancied slight and ex-
hausts the patience Of her friends by
asking them to explain what they
meal by certain expressions, looks or
gestures. People who are at first at
tracted by her many amiable quail
ties soon fall away from her because
of the exactlons imposed by her over
sensitiveness.
Over-sensltiyeness is really an ex-
aggerated form of self-consciousness
1t is far removed from conceit or self.
esteem, yet it cause ones own per-
sonality to overshadow everything
else. A sensitive person feels that,
whatever she does, wherever she goes
Or whatever she says, she is the center
OF conversation. She imagines that
people are criticlzing her movements,
making fun at her expense or analyz-
ing her character. when they are
probably not thinking of her at all.
she does not realize that other people
are too busy and too much interested
In themselves and In other things to
devote to her any of their time beyond
what is absolutely necessary. When
she thinks they are making remarks
about her, putting sights upon her,
or trying to hold her up to the ridi-
cule of others, they may not even be
conscious of her presence.
Thousands of young women are
held back from undertaking what
they long to do, and are kept from
trying to make real their life-dreams,
because they are afraid to jostle with
the world. They shrink from ex-
posing their sore and sensitive spots,
which smart from the slightest touch.
Their supersensitiVeness makes COW.
ards of them.
The great majority Of people. no
matter how rough in manner or bear
ing, are k~ind-hearted, and would
much rather help than hinder fellow
beings; besides. they have all they
can do to attend to their own affairs,
and have no time to spend in min
utely analyzing the nature and feel
ings of those whom they meet in
the course of their daily business. In
The busy world of affairs it is give
and take, touch and go, and those
who expect to get on must rid them
selves of all morbid s~ensitlveness.
If they do not, they doom themselves
to u~nhappiness and failure.
A college course is of inestimable
value to a girl of over-refined sensi-
bilities. Oftentimes when girls enter
college, they are so touchy that their
sense of honor is constantly being
hurt and their pride stung by the
unconscious thrusts of classmates
and companions. But after they have
been in college a term, and have
been rubbing up against other girls,
they realize that It would be the
most foolish thing In the world to
betray resentment. II n shows that
she is hurt, she knows she will be IN
popular and VIII often be laughed
at. She is simply forced to drop the
foolish weakness. Girls who are NOR.
bidly sensitive on entering college,
often come out at the end of their
four years course with their exces-
'sive irritability cured by repeated
doses of common sense.
There are many, however, who must
so through life without going through
college; and if these are troubled with
sensitiveness, they must be their own
healers. They must learn that real
nobility and courage and effectiveness
as a world-worker, as well as per
sonal happiness and success, are i'm
possible to one who Is crippled by a
representative nature,
What shall l do to get rid of it?'
a girl asks. Think less of yoursel
and more of others. Mingle freely
with the people. Become interested
in things outside of yourself. Do no
brood over what is said to you Oh
analyze every simple remark until yol
magnify It into something of thu
greatest Importance. Do not have
such a low and unjust estimate o
people as to think they are bent OF
nothing but hurting the feelings o
others, and deprecating and making
light of them on every possible occa
sion. A girl who appreciates hersel
at her true value, and who gives hel
neighbors credit for being at least a!
good as she is, will not be the victim
of oversensitiveness.