The Alaska citizen., 1914-10-05

quette OF cards and calls. and trusts
the following article may cover all
information desired II il does not.
later information will be published
on request to the editor OF this de
partmenD
Custom regulates the matter of
cards and calls Social visiting has
an established code and the rules
should be understood which regulate
visiting cards and their use.
These bits of pasteboard are re-
CURED to do duty on many occa-
sions. For centuries they have been
the accredited representatives OF
their owners. They are the means
Of discharging social obligations, and
the endless interchange Of cards BE-
tween friends and acquaintance may
be truly said to keep society united.
Without these useful little bits Of
pasteboard social debts could not be
paid Cards are very often remind
ers TO acquaintance of our very eX-
istence as we'll as a step toward re-
newns friendship or enlarging a
circle OF friends.
Cards are often expressions OF
kindliness. sympathy. coincidence or
.congratulation. In fact. there are
few things more important than the
etiquette Of cards and calls.
Card leaving is necessary after
having received invitations to a
wedding breakfast. dinner lunch
con card party or theatre party.
The reason is that invitations OF this
sort are personal They are not in
vitations of a general nature to gen,
eral affairs. but are an especial
mark OF courtesy or compliment.
Church weddings. teas or large re-
ceptions may be classified as gen
eral affairs A church. for instance,
is supposed to be ample enough to
hold very large number of per-
sons and general acQuaintances bid
den to wedding. They may be
present or not. as they please.
The proper acknowledgment Of
the invitation is to send cards on or
in whose name the invitation was
issued and to the newly married
pair II in doubt as to what may
be the new address Of the bride,
cards are sent to the home OF her
parents. These obvious points are
explained herein because they are
frequently a problem to the mex
perienced The same rule applies
to sending cards in acknowledgment
OF marriage announcements
On the occasion Of a tea a hostess
sends cards to her general list OF
friends Thus she notifies them that
she will be at home on a certain aft
ernoon. They are not obliged to go.
II they go, they leave cards so that
the hostess may be reminded Of
their presence and may give them
credit for coming. II they cannot
go. cards are sent on the day OF the
tea. and duty has been fulfilled It
is not expected that a call should
be made afterward.
II lady has a day for being at
home, her friends should try to call
at that time
A card is reminder Of ones call
and address. and it is left whether
may be laid down on the hall table
when entering or leaving a house
or may be laid down unobtrusively
on any convenient table.
Women attend to the duties Of
card-leaving men being considered
exempt from making calls when
they have wives or mothers to leave
their cards, but of course a young
man must call on his hostess after
a dinner invitation. 1t is to be re-
GREETED that some young men are
not sufficiently punctilious in max
ing prompt Acknowledgement of courte-
sizes and Inequalities.
The general rule to remember is
that a married woman leaves her
husbands cards with her own when
making a formal call, whether it be
the first call of the season or a call
rs an Indebtedness after an invita-
ton. She leaves one of her cards
for each lady in a family and one
each of her husbands cards for each
lady and one for the man of the
household. II she has son she
may leave two of his cards. II the
lady on whom she is calling is at
home she places the cards Of her
husband and son on the hall table
and sends her own card by the
servant In future calls during the
year it is not required that she
should leave her husbands cards,
unless, as has been stated, in ac-
knowledgment of invitations. Her
son assumes his own obligations in
future
The old custom has been revived
of having a card "Mr. and Mrs"
This simplifies matters generally. as
a woman leaves one of these cards