The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1914-08-31
Cynthia Grey's
LETTERS


o.-Although | have never had
the pleasure Of meeting you, I feel
that you are a dear friend, 30 often
have ! been benefited by your good
advice TO others. II seems 20 me, N
people really do as you tell them
In your answers, they would come
20 no bad end.
4 arm 4 woman Of 30, have been
married 10 years, and find myself
sort OF drifting. When 90 Into
anything II 10 always a wholerheart
ed affair with me, and 80 II was
that ! went 90 the marriage altar.
II was, Indeed. the happlest day Of
my life. However. found out very
soon that my prince Charming"
did not respond: he soon grew cold
and very settled; ! could not walk,
cit or stand 20 please him; every.
thing did was all wrong. often.
times he did not even speak 20 me
for days at time. | began 20
think. In my aIrllsh way. that per
haps ! wasn't quite az I should be.
took special pains 20 dress and
look my very beat, but he did not
seem 10 take notice OF me. Natural.
". ! grew thinner and pale, for .
was 90 unhappy.
so life wore on for three yeart,
when a lovely child came 10 bless
our home. had thought perhaps
things would be different then.
Again ! was mistaken. but was.
oh, 80 busy caring for my babe
had some one 90 love now and time
passed 80 quickly.
One day ! simply guilt worrying.
took my baby with me and went
on long Journey into the woods.
where We were quite alone and
carefree for the whole day. found
many things Of Interest about me
that ! had not noticed before, and
baby was such a comfort 20 me. 4
began 20 be quite happy In my own
little way. The result was that 4
gained In weight ard looked better
than had for years. I seemed TO
have come 90 the end Of the rope.
a. II ~ere--n,y cup OF bitterness
was full. Several years passed this
way. I always did my duty az q
housewife and homekeeper. made
things az pleasant az I could about
the house and always treated my
husband with respect. In spite OF
many hesrt-breaklno remarks he
used 20 make 20 me. never lost
my temper. although II was indeed
trying az times.
Now ! find that he sees his mis-
take: he declares his love 20 me
every day. really bsliese he has
learned 10 love me. for surely ne
did not love me at first. He 10 as
kind and good az any one can be:
but. sissi my heart 10 heavy. I
was deceived In the beginning and
II seems 10 me that never will
care for him as did In that sweet.
pure. trusting way. certainly DO
no, believe In digging up the past.
However. 10 has left such an Imprint
upon my life that II affects the
present, and therefore mention II.
arm afraid 70 90 into this "lcve
life" again for II may not be real.
No. am quite sure ! cannot love
him a. ! did, for the confidence 10
lacking.
N you have an answer for me tina;
you think Will help ma out. please
print u - soon az my turn comes.
HELEN.
A-Cynthia Grey does not flat
Tor herself with the thought that
she can say anything that Will be
Of real help TO you; but your let
ter IN fine answer 20 the myriads
OF young. broken.hearted wives
waiiIng that now. since they are
married. their husbands no longer
love them.
Your experience has made you
look at life through stronger lenses
and ia the best proof on earth that
good looks alone cannot hold a
mans love. There must he some
hidden flower that viii bloom on
and on after the rose OF youth has
faded
II is barely possible that you can
love now as you did ten years ago.
That was n girls love; this should
be q woman's love. Don't try TO
reklndle the old flame Don't Try
to keep a dying flame lighted. but
guard the new love that springs
from the old.
when you find yourself drifting.
catch on to some new interest, cul.
tlvate IL until Il Is strong enough
20 hold you.
n you will stop long enough TO
compare yourself now with the girl
OF ten years ago. believe you need
not hesitate TO enter that blessed
Kingdom OF love-" nor doubt that
your husbands love Is lasting and
sincere. He put you 10 n severe
test: you stood II. and now you are
prepared TO reap the seed you have
so carefully sown. Yours viii be
harvest OF everlasting happiness,
am sure.
OIL am a girl Of 10 and In love
with boy OF 10. He does not
seem TO care for me In the way !
would like to have him. He Is good
80 r.r aiUave Wind and atte ntive.