Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1914-11-05
Should Wives
Always
Confide
in Their
H u s b a n d s?
BY A YOUNG WIFE.

IF / marry, my husband won't be
bothered about domestic worries. nor will
he hear about household affairs that
have gone wrong"
Sometimes a girl makes a remark like
that. Well she isn't going to be very
happy in married life. that is all l can
say for 1 am quite certain that IL things
go wrong in the home it is a wife's duty
to tell her husband.
know that some women have the idea
firmly fixed in their heads that men hate
TO hear about domestic worries. Stuff
and nonsense. To hear about domestic
worries annoys no real man; he rather
appreciates being taken into full conf
dence and, IL he is a shrewd individual
at all, he may even be able TO suggest a
remedy IL things are not going so
smoothly as wife would like.
II is perfectly true that some couples
before marriage agree that the men shall
attend strictly to his own side and the
wife to hers. and that they shall in no
way interferr with each other-in word.
each agrees 60 act independently in his
and her own particular field. Believe
me, that lie a very bad Arrangement. and
it is not at all conductive toward peace
and happiness existing in the home. 1
think that where real affection exists
there will be complete candor and frank
ness. and not one item will be withheld
on either side.
Obviously. a husband has every right to
know what is taking place in the house
hold; it is a wife's duty, to keep him
posted upon all matters, except, of course,
in the case of man who very plainly
indicates that he will not tolerate being
primed up on the latest happenings In
the home during his absence at business.
Very. very few husbands are like that;
most husbands are delighted IL wives
take them into the fullest confidence and
relate all their grievances, worries and
Vexations And what is more calculated
to tighten burdens than confidlng all
about them to one you love and who
loves you in return?
Surely II must tighten wifes burden
to hear the sympathetic words of hus-
band; and may it not wonderfully aid her
II she sees that he is willing to lend
assistance in the solving of domestic
problems which have worried her dread
fully? Moreover. what is a wife to do
when In domestic troubles IL she does
not go TO her husband and tell him all
about It? Must she brood over the mat
ter alone and perhaps end up by max
Ing herself perfectly wretched and mis-
cradle. or go to an outsider and be
laughed at all over the neighborhood?
A husband and wife agree to share
troubles as well as Joys. so it is bu
right that. IL any matter connected witt
the home is tormenting a woman-anC
it is a common occurrence-she should &c
to the one who has promised to share
all with her-her husband
When big things annoy a woman she
always goes straight to her husband. but
it is not the big things which worry thu
life out Of one most. it is the little, nag
ging things which seem almost too trivia
to mention, and those are the very thingi
a woman should go to her HUSBAND
about.
1 certainly can counsel all young womeI
who may be thinking of getting married
to resolve that, granted they get huE
bands, these husbands will be told ALL
mark the word ALI" Nothing should b.
kept back concerning domestic affair
which have gone wrong. And. of course
this bit Of advice extends TO everything
Nothing should be hidden from a hus
band IL peace and happiness are desired
Moreover. two heads are better than one
and any day a husband may be able t
show his wife that she was little sill,
to be bothered about such and such
thing and may point the way out OF he
difficulty in a moment
Yes. 1t is right that a husband shout,
be told all about domestic trouble. Wha
would wife say If husband hid bus
mess troubles from her. and disaste
happened as result maybe? She woul,
declare that he ought to have confide,
in her
Well, there Is no saying how any do
mestic trouble might turn out in tn
end, so It is best TO be on the safe side
Let the husband be told and he will no
have any reason for grumbling and fret
ting later on about being kept In tn
dark when he might have solved tn
problem for, really, men are not tn
stupid creatures women believe them I
be- II is astonishing the grasp some me
have of domestic affairs.