The Cairo bulletin., 1914-03-23
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child that began As real reason for
dropping familiar customs and sweet
, habits Is now but an excuse
IL their past life together Fy're not
always roses and sunshine they may
have made up their little misrndcT-
standings, smoothcd over difficulties
, and let new love and kindness take ont
the pain of memory But now the
child may become q refuge to the
mother. Concentrating upon it all her
love, she bears stolidly GOODNESS that
otherwise she would seek "a remove.
sits in the shadow Of her dignity when
but word would bring peace aus
sweetness, while the husband. playin.
his poor counter role, draws more
closely around him his robes of sack
cloth and ashes And they both think
things about each other not edited for
publication. and they Just become sulk-
lily reticent and selfish with speech,
and they will not talk.
When the child begins 20 escape from
babyhood and the mother begins her
siege Of morning talks on Inc necessity
of moving away from the city 80 they
can get good country mir for the child,
though he may murmur something
about there being eases on record
where children were actually brought
mp in the city and lived through II"
he may finally capituIatc. But there
10 Snv,t, hut h.a 81 nI
that his comfort and ease might have
a least standing room on the iloor cf
discussion. He hates the suburbs. He
does not relish an hours railroad rile
night and morning. but at last, finding
opposition wearyinG. he succumbs.
When the children come these prob
lens have TO be met ana worked out
by both. Neither can DO all The
husband must make allowances"
manifest new tenderness. watchful-
ness, consideration. thoughtfuncss.
forbearance and self denial. lie
should not take himself and his grley
ances too seriously.
He must take broader views and
throw away the microscope with
which he is studying the wounds ~
neglect inflicted on his vanity. If lie
wishes the home life to move along
as it did OF old, despite the temporary
shadow the light OF the new joy may
cast. he should do more than his share
toward keeping mp all the traditions
OF the old sentiments
He should, so far rs he possibly
can. relieve the mother OF the mere
drudscry ana added care Of her new
responsibilities. so that the close lines
OF the old comiadeshp may never he
broken 4 rose or some triiling gilt
that means nothin" but the thought
it messages may bring instinctiycly
the smile, the glad look. the love light
in the eyes, which he 50 misses. AMI in
the rcwinninc he may find new nat"
pncss that will never come to his
suIky demanding as a right
To the wife may come the need az
care to prevent the child oven TEN
porarily eclipsin@ the husband. rs
her mind Clows under the inspiring
dreams Of the chld'S future and In
fancy n twenty years panorama of its
Growth and progress uurulls before
her. she must watch that She does NOT
lose that close. telcpathic kinShip Of
mind and heart with her husband. :"
much more easily lost than rc-aincd
! II merely requires q wise SENSE oJ
| values. seeing life and its relations IN
| truc perspective y little sterling com
| mon sense united with loves then thr
| coming of the children Will mean only
new joy aul trucr comranianshlp to
| both
I'm the true spirit of acceptance of
changed conditions they viii wakcn to
! the completeness and conservation OF
the larger life with the children, the
new inspirations the new, svvuter de
ueudcncc on each other, the new,
| broader vision of united usefulness,
| and they will be lca"er and nearer to
each other because the children arc
deaTcr to them. and the rooms CchoinT
| With the laughter and rumping OF the
Ilittle ones will seem to them filed only
! with music.
When two friends start ont for a
long walk together they seem instinc-
lively 10 adjust their steps 50 that they
walk side 10y side within touching dis
lance of each other II one gradually
uuicEcuS his pare until hr is yards
ahead 81 tn" other aui IN his self ali
sorptiou increasingly wideu> the dis
laucc hctwccN Ihcm they ceas" tn i''
two walking together AID become I've
walking alouc Marriage i Il liIeiun;
walk to-rl her Of two who have STREET
"a cae h other from ull the world. II l.
community Of Thought. ideals aims
reeds aud sentiments ihHt tends T.
keep thrm in step II does ltoi mra'
n sacrifice Of Individuality, nor does i
demand uuarinity uf opinion, hu
there Should ever llr progressive bar
uouy uu essentials apd progressive
sympathy on nnursScu,ia|S
II is 50 caSl ga keep together II bolt
realize the vital Importance ~ alD tln
is sweetest jn Irr in k'tHin- tn Step
In true cnuradcship, Talking over tm
affairs or thrir individual livrs an'
) their life In common. the hopes Tia
lonSiugs. tho doubts. the ioyS aud th
. problems. gives each the basis "
, knowledge rrom which m"~t trut,