The Delta independent., 1914-03-13
Romance and Matrimony

nance. sometimes called love. Love
and romance are not the same, al
though the terms are often used in
terchangeably, and though 1t happens
now and then that these two exper-
fences coincide.
Love is the more real and the more
easily accounted for. Romance re-
fers properly to something that is not
supposed to be explained; it is ideal
ly uncomfortable force. 1t is apart
from reason, has nothing to do with
common sense and knows no master.
| 1t is romance. not love, with which
we have to deal in this article, and
( yet the preliminary manifestations
of the one are so closely interviewer
with the indications of the other that
! it is impossible to entirely separate
them.
Romance usually ends where mar
riage begins, while pure. unadulter-
ated love will stand the acid test of
marital realities. whether romance
accompanies it or not. Romance with
love may endure for a lifetime and
grow continually brighter and sweeter
as the years roll on, says John Horace
Lockwood, in The Mothers Maga-
zine.
Romance without love 'may sour
over night. We may plan and have
every reason to expect the most sat
isfactory marriage imaginable for oar
son or daughter and then romance
slips in and upsets everything.
Your daughters intellectual ideals
may be so polished that they will be
shining example for the entire
neighborhood, and some fine morn
ing you will find that she has eloped
with the coachmtn-
Your son may be post graduate.
even have the best theological course
you can give him, with the full inten-
tlon of going into the ministry,
when like a bolt out OF a clear sky
you receive word that he has married
chorus girl.
Do not imagine. / beg Of you. that
because the romance bee is forever
young folks to do strange things. that
budding around and sometimes causes
it is useless to inculcate the highest
ideals in the minds OF your sons and
daughters We are too prone TO
Judge OF life and duty by those incl
dents which stand out most clearly in
our minds, whereas, the reason why
they stand out SO clearly is that they
are unusual. extreme. and we should
add. very unlikely to occur again /
within our immediate Experience.
When | think OF the way parents
violate the faith of their children
with lies and deception OF every de- l
scription. | can not wonder that love
and romance cut up some curious
capers and that the world is out OF
Joint as regards this subject.
For let 1t be known. cry IL from the |
housetops: This love and faith OF
the little child is the same love and I
faith OF the youth and OF the men and /
women. 1t is the love and faith. /
treat II how you may, that goes from
the cradle to the grave.
Do not deceive yourselves with the |
idea that by and by your boy or girl |
viii take on new love and new I
faith and that these are forces with 1
which you have nothing to do.
The childish love may grow and I
change so that it takes in others than
and 1t may find its fruition /
in that one great love OF one man for /
one woman. or of one woman for one
man. or 1t may even escape that
which we call romance and eNpend
until II includes all humanity.
on the other hand, II may shriyel
up and die because you killed the
faith that went with 1t.