The Cairo bulletin., 1914-02-02

Splendid Present 10 like attention
' They may later
| awaken to the realization that the only
way TO get an absolutely guaranteed
Insurance on matrimony is to keep on
! paying premiums. Countless first class
marriage policies have lapsed Just be-
cause of these imprudently suspended
payments.
These very men at their clubs often
/ go perilously close to the dead line OF
boredom in telling you OF the marvel.
Gus qualities Of their wives. They run
| the chromatic scale Of enthusiasm while
you wonder in dreamy way whether
the angels In heaven were not modelled
| after these women.
At home these husbands may keep
their alteration and appreciation wrap.
ped round with seven folds of silence.
safeguarding their feeling as zealOusly
as though 1t were q Masonic secret
Were but a small lnstallment of this
told at home 1t might prove a joy. a
sweet source OF new confidence, cour.
age and inspiration to the wife who is
heart hungry for just such words.
1t Is not fair to have all the sweet
roses before marriage and only their
memory and thorns afterward. A
splendid present to smooth over a mis-
understanding or to wipe out an un.
pleasant memory is altogether of an
other class. That Is not love, Il Ia
bribery; 1t Is not tenderness. 1t Ia
policy; it is like the sacrifices the
heathens offer their gods to appease
their wrath.
One of the most common causes Of
the decline of courtship after marriage
where 1t does occur. and there are
| countless instances to prove that II
does not always decline. is the dis
Illusion that often comes after mar.
riage. When the rosy tlnts OF the
courtship days grow DINNER there is
a tendency for the real poetry to turn
into commonplace verse or even into
| the baldest prose. This cause. IL one
may be pardoned interpreting Cupid
In terms Of commercialism. may be
called buying from sample"
In the days before marriage they
| saw each other at their best; they were
on dress parade and unsefshly think.
| ing too much OF each other to think
much of self. Under the inspiring
glow of mutual regard every latent
virtue blossomed into full flower. every
failing assumed roseate hue under
some loving Interpretation, little sacri-
fees for each other were n joy and a
privilege Then a smile would exile
doubt. a caress smother an argument.
| a tender word throw a world Of worry
into eclipse. and mood of disagree
ment be but the preface to sweet rec
| onciliaton that made them nearer and
dearer
Before marriage little inharmonies
became lost in the general effect as
, moonlight softens and obscures dis
cords that the broad glare Of sunlight
reveals, Marriage brings sunlight to
| bear on all things. and often the goods
| do not seem up to sample. Then must
| come II time Of concession. adjustment
| and acceptance of conditions with q
smiling determination to make the best
| Of each other Then each must realize
| that If they would be real married
sweethearts they must keep the court
ship atmosphere vital and pervading-
| BY the courtshlp methods. The love
| that Is worth working for and waiting
for Is worth preserving.
Courtship after marriage is a kind of
matrimonial thermostat. 1t automat
ically keeps the home atmosphere at
the proper temperature. When the
heat Of fervid discussion threatens to
scorch the respect OF the two for each
other and hot words Of blame and
protest make even asbestos in the room
conscious Of warmth. smile. sweet
silence or q term of tender endearment
may suddenly Danish the heat like the
radiated influence OF a fountain or a
cool fragrant breeze from a garden at
twilight
| There is danger in the common habit
OF making light Of love In the home,
Of treating 1t with a fippant, cheap
cynicism. 1t Is hardly worth the
smiles 1t may elicit. 1t is an insidious
| habit that grows from innocent breezy
banter to cutting sentences that leave
scars In memory. 1t often begins In
the springtide OF married life In fool
ish protest against being thought senti-
mental as a sort of self protection.
and In fear Of manifestlng affection In
public the two may swing to the other
| extreme.
The husband may tell to his friends
assembled at his table. in a whimsical
way. that now he is 'done for that he
| can never dare go out at night. that
20 one knows what he suffers, etc"
The wife may laughingly counsel her
| friend. in his presence. never to get
| married; YOU do not realize what 1t
means to devote your whole life to
bumorlng u man and giving up your
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