News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1914-03-25

no one Knows WHIT lie suffers, etc.
The wife may laughingly counsel hei
friend, in his presence, never to gel
married: you do not realize what II
means to devote your whole life tc
humoring man and giving up your
freedom forever
Neither means the words, each
Knows it is but numbering nonsense
but sometimes one phrase sticks In
memory when the time and atmos-
phere of the telling are forgotten and
it stings and it does not down with
argument and it starts a wondering, in
sistent. ranking doubt as to whether
he really meant it after all. and there
may be a sigh in her heart and sob
in her throat as the fear comes that
there may have been something in it
after all; it may have been Il truth he
sought to hide under the mask of Il
jest.
When the husband has the feeling,
percolating through his consciousness,
perhaps never quite formulated into
i words, that "our courtship and honey
moon were beautiful, of course, while
they lasted, but now we must realize
I that life is serious he may think that
| he is growing sensible. He is really Il
! bit mistaken: he is merely relapsing
into his selfshness.
His attitude somehow suggests
throwing away flowers of sentiment
from a vase because they have wilted
little, and with their novelty now
grown familiar have lost some of their
initial charm. 1t would be wiser to
make the vase ever blooming and red
client of sweetness by filing it with
fresh flowers of finer appreciation each
new day.
One of our great composers made the
hand organ the test of the popularity
of each of his new musical creations.
"Will it grind?' was his earnest and
wistful question. The love worth
while is the love that will grind, that
has in it such real music that all the
monotony and grind of married life
cannot kill its sweetness. its inspira-
ton, its melody and harmony.
There are husbands who think they
deserve a blue ribbon in the matrimo-
NAL race because they run quietly in
double harness, make no special dis
turbancp round the house, are loyal
and, as the phrase goes, are good pro-
viders." They say: 81 give her good
home; she has servants, plenty OF mon
ey and dress all the necessities and
many of the uEurieS What more does
she Want% I'm sad hours OF loneliness
and A=aft huH@er,~re ling fuzzy all
that she has. she knows that the
more" she Graves is tue man himself,
his real cOmpanionship his compIi-
mentS, his confidence, his tenderness,
his loving.
She wants to hear sometimes the
very words. 81 love you SO. dear" and
Il need you So or any of loves syn.
onyms that speak directly, not merely
inferentially, through acts. She wants
the phrases that sing themselves in
memory while the heart listens and is
glad. She wants to be told again that
she ''has the most beautiful hands in
all the world" she wants to have him
notice the flower in her hair, to praise
the fit OF her new gown, to have her
opinion occasionally count as an asset
in his thinking. not as Il liability to be
wiped out.
She wants him to be the one to tell
her that she is beautiful, for it means
more to her than what all the others
say-she wants the old counting at
mosphere back again. She wants. in a
word, recognition of her as a woman,
as the woman. not merely the duty
and respect paid as a wife.
The husband may remember when
fair hands pinned a pink in the lapel