The Bennington evening banner. (Bennington, Vt.) 19??-1961, 1914-02-06
MABEL'S CH|TCHAT
The Self Satisfied Woman and
Her Long Suffering Public.
TOO MUCH EGO BAD DISEASE.

Dear Elsa have just been talking
| to one of the most self satisfied wo-
men it has ever been my misfortune
to meet This visitor Of mine is so
perfectly delighted with everything
she does and says and has and is so
sure of herself that one feels like Civ
ing her good shake TO get some Of
the smugncss out of her system.
Always to feel contentcd with one
self must indeed he II pleasant sensa.
ton for the person concerned. but IL
surely IS an allirtion for the rest Of
lunhind
Now Grn don't m'suuderStlud me
a lulp u ,le conclusion that CON
Ter all s,lf assnred People TO bp suf-
Fin; rro'A au enlargement of the
.~niur. Dut you W. a,iI.t that this
exaggerated cooiplacrnry Is a very
common form of the diseased ego.
Not long ago read sa;newherc that
education would broaden Il narrow
mind. but there was no remedy for a
swelled head Certainly some rhiloso-
pher said that 1t sounds like one of
pudd'nhead Wilson's sage remarks.
but possibly read il on the calendar
you sent me Christmas How do
love the calendar that doles out wis
dom by the day. Just enough for one to
digest we'll.
To come back to my text. the man
who makes himself heard. whether one
wants to listen 70 h.m or noi. may be
bore but none the less one admires in
an irritated way his very persistence
and his ability 10 gain ones attention.
But ave women don't feel the same toll
erance for one of orr own sex who
butts in on every occasion. in ana
out OF season. We dub her just plain
rude or merry" and very often both
epithets are used
But | do think Il certain amount of
worldly assurance the best asset in
this life. 1t makes Il person more
agreeable, more sought after and more
appreciated. ANY one who can act well
his part in the give aud take or social
affairs is bound to be more popular
than the shy self effacins person The
beautiful howerlike. modest type born
to blush unseen" where is she nova
days: Surely she's not in evidence in
this most rushing of all rushing CEN
turtles.
Bur, talking OF people, | saw Il rem,
person Yesterday. Alfred Noyes. the
English poet. Ny ideas of the physical
Appearance of n bard were all knocked
in the head by this short haired. mus
cular. wholesome outdoors looking
young man who was rs genuine and
true in his outlook upon life as IN al,-
pearance. And this is one of the resl-
sons why his verse and personality
are so popular in this country among
young persons. especially men.
Margaret u. : son, Il senior at Yale
told me when be WAS home for the hoi-
idays that Alfred Noyes and his
poetry" was the theme for the prize
essay in English this year nt the uni.
versity.
He-Alfred Moves. | mean-reads eX-
quisltely. AMI rs ! heard him talk
about "Tcnnyson' he had fine OPP
portunity in the verse Of this great
master TO exercise his talent. After he
had rccitcd Crossing the Bar there
was hardly dry eye in the room. Bnt
must stop making such noise about
Alfred. otherwise you'll think me
bore
Speaking of voices. Row seldom; one
hears the sweet low affair of fiction.
The other day several women and
myself were talking about Il certain
Jlebutante who despite her lack OF
good looks was carrying all before her
in the sOcial world.
What like about her" said II Glau
who joined us. lis her voice. 1t ~.
minds me of the purrimg of cat"
His smile WAS correct. The girls
voice was very low pitched and came
from the back of her throat in a soft.
husky sound. and its fascination was
undenable
am going to be very learned aud
tell YOU what Rochefoucauld says
about the voice: There Is more elo-
qucnce IN the tones OF the voice than
in the choice of words" And do
think he proclaims real truth.
\ delightful story of speaking voice
was told to me recently. voice that
could not he bought for gold. II hr-.
longed 10 a harlworking little servant.
Il chambermaid i'm great house. whose
speaking voice was 80 wonderfully
sweet rs To provoke comment by all
who heard her talk.
Her mistress particularly admired
its quality and one day sent for the
sirl TO come and speak to the teacher
who WAS giving her daughter e'ocuiion
lessons.
There she said Il want you t.
teach my daughter 10 speak like that"
ALAS. madam" the teacher responded
sadly that Is impossible. No man
can teach that Those are neither
chest nor throat notes. They conn.,
from the heart
Now. ] am firing you. Elsa. dear. in
the most heartless manner with this
'waddle. so goodhy. ma cherie. DE
votedly. MABEL.
New York.
In Dilemma.
what are you CRYING To-. Bcbliie.~