El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1914-12-12
Dorothy Dix Writes on
Tie Sort of Man
to Marry
The Advantages of utting
Up a Front in the Contest
With the World.
BY DOROTHY DIX.
YOUNG woman writes me a let
ter in which she says:

4 YOUNG woman writes me a let
"A ter in which she says:
Il am engaged to be married
to a young man, who, think, puts too
much value on appearances. He goes
to cheap places to dine and cooks his
own breakfast in his room, but he
patronizes an expensive tailor. He de-
MES himself the pleasure of smoking
because he cannot afford fine cigars,
and he will not be seen smoking a
cheap one. He only takes me to the
theater once a month, because he will
not sit in any but the best seats. What
do you think of this kind Of a man?
What sort of a husband do you think
he will maker"
Judging from the tone of my cores
pondents letter, imagine that she
does not approve of the system upon
which her sweetheart has elected to
play the game Of life Yet II is
shrewd and worldly wise one, and one
that nine times out of ten is a winner.
This young man is putting up bluff
at prosperity, and fortune is whlmsl-
cal jade that smiles sweetest upon
those who WOO her bOldest.
One Of the problems that every poor
person who desires to get along in the
world has to face is whether II is bet
ter to be comfortable or smart and
Observation-Disclosures, in other WORDS
it Is better to spend your money for
square meal or good clothes, whether II
is better to live in a big, warm room
and wear hand-me-doWns or to aDlde
in a hall bedroom and adorn yourself
in tailor-mades.
So Goes the Varied World.
Different men decide this question in
different ways, and according 10 lheH
fg fhafr fate in life
It is the desire for something better
than Won have, and the determination
to have it, even if it is only better
house and better clothes, that forces
people onward and upward. Content
ment is not progress. 1t IS stagnation.
A great many worthy individuals
consider it a sort of hypocrisy for
man to spend his money in putting up
"a 'front.' instead of making himself
comfortable, but this is a narrow and
mistaken view to take of the matter.
The man has simply had the sagaclty
to realize that his appetite is a private
I matter between himself and his stom-
ach, but that his appearance is mat
| ter between himself and the public, ana
in deferring to the public instead of to
his own inclinatiOns he takes long
shot at winning out.
You Must Look the Part.
For there is no denying the truth
of the old proverb that nothing sue
ceeQS ike success, ana II you WISH ~
be successful you must look the part
To appear poor and needy and shabby
| and down at the heels is its own hoodoo
! of bad luck. 1t makes everybody sus-
picious of your ability to do things.
Why, asks memorable logic, should
this man or woman look like hu-
man ragbaE unless he or she is either
/ lazy or utterly incompetent? Surely II
| this man was industrious and clever
! he could make enough money to dress
well. Certainly If this woman had any
/ talents she would receive sufficient pay
| to buy her some good clothes.
| We unconsciOusly gage mems ana
| women's ability by the way they are
| dressed, and if their clothes are smart
/ and up to date, we jump to the con-
[ clusion that they are the sort of alert
| wide awake people whose services are
/ worth good money. If a shabby man
| and well dressed man apply for the
] same job, it is invariably the better
| dressed one who gets it.
A woman with a $50 hat and n SlOO
! tailor-made and her hair done IN the
| latest style can sell a busy man, who
/ never reads anything but the newspa-
/ pers, THE Lives of the Presidents in 81
| Volumes whereas the shabby sister in
! last years birds nest can never get
! in telephouing distance of his office
! boy.
Ii Beyond Argument.
! Considering the way the world is
| built, the wisdom of piaching on your
stomach to spread on your back. and