News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1914-06-03

There is no faintest shadow of ir
reverence in calling matrimony a bust
ness, no slightest tinge of disrespec
sentiment, its poetry or its possibilities
Marriage is the greatest business, fol
it keeps busy most of the people. Ir
its perfection and in it's ideal it means
two living at their highest and best as
individuals and in united harmony. II
means a life partnership of two in the
pursuit of happiness. This most i'm.
portant business should be conducted
on business lines. There should be con-
| slant, concentrated effort to make it q
| success. Success comes not from drift
ing but wisely working.
| If men and women put into their
| married life the same seriousness of
thought, intensity of purpose, patience,
sacrifice and determination to make
it success that they devote to seek
ing to make a business prosper, the
world would be transformed. Failures
would be few; divorce, the bankruptcy
of matrimony, would be rare, and the
two could command success by their
united determination to win it.
Success in marriage depends finally
| and solely on the two themselves. 1t
| is not what they have, but what they
are; not what comes to them, but how
they meet it that counts. Sickness,
| sorrow. trial. misfortune and poverty
may even make them nearer and dear
er to each other in truer union and
finer unity. What they suffer for each
other and with each other brings them
closer together. What they suffer from
each other gradually forces them apart.
Man does not expect to succeed in
business by merely starting it and
honoring it with the sunshine of his
presence, He realizes it is not an au-
tomato music machine where he has
merely to put on a success record,
start the mechanism and then sit back
comfortably and delight his ears with
the music of prosperity. If he wants
dividends of success he must pay the
assessments of effort. If we want real
lasting harmony and melody in mar
ried life we must make our own music
1t means the collaboration of two, new
err the lonely contribution of one.
In business when problems arise a
man seeks to solve them. If inhar-
monies threaten to destroy his success
he seeks to remove them. If one meth
cd fails he tries another, He does not
let things drift or work themselves
out some way. He knows it is his
business to find out where things are
wrong and how he can right them.
He does not shut his eyes to troubles
and think he is curing them by OBJ
securing them.
Men are often blind or resigned in
a cowardly way to unpleasant condi-
tons in the home partnership that
they would never surrender to in their
Office business. They often accept as
inevitable in their home life what they !
could change If they only would 1t is !
unjust to both for the husband or wife !
to accept any wrong condition. if any !
amount of effort will set it right When |
uii LhClhOus OtdAllS DIdNtly
be moral strength; before they have
been even tested, bearing meekly is
sheer weakness.
There are people who fan themselves
into serene self satisfaction with the
thought that they are heroieally ac-
cepting the shadows and shadows of
married life, its preventable pain. sor-
row and discord, when they are really
only too lazy mentally or inert morally
to take a bold, firm stand to win the
freedom Of thought. harmony and
peace they desire. They are not con-
sidering matrimony as a business they
must make succeed; they are degrad-
ing it to the gamble class They have
the assumed airy indifference Of a
man who has drawn a blank in lot
terry and is trying hard to forget it.
When an excited customer enters a
business house with some grievance,
real or fancied. parades a schedule
Of wrongs and injustices as long as
tariff bill and starts in on a high
keyed monologue of protest. exploding
spithets of denunciation and filling the
lir with sparks OF phrases sulphurous
with Indignation. the wise man of
business remains cool and calm. He
realizes that by losing his temper he
nay lose customer. that it would be
lnwise. II would not pay He waits
for comma Of intermission.
! slight slackening In the cascading
orient of speech.
He smiles apologies: be presses the
soft pedal OF expression: he explains.