Tensas gazette. [volume] (St. Joseph, La.) 1886-current, 1914-12-11

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Il Uplift Talks /
By oRIsoM SWEET MARpeN. S
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Copyright b. Mcclure Nswspapsr Syndicate
GETTING OVER YOUR SENSITIVE.
NESS.
know . bright, well-trained youne
lady. whose intimate friends. and even
her near relatives, have to be continu.
ally on the watch for fear Of wound.
Ing her. She broods over q joking re-
mark until she magnifies 1t into an in
suit. She makes herself miserable for
days over q fancied slight and ex.
hausts the patience of her friends by
asking them to explain what they
meant by certain expressions, looks or
gestures. People who are at first at
tracted by her many amiable quail
ties soon fall away from her because
OF the exactions imposed by her over.
sensitiveness.
Over-sensitiveness 10 really an ex-
aggerated form Of self-consciousness
1t Is far removed from conceit or self.
esteem. yet it causes ones own per-
sonality to overshadow everything
else. A sentative person feels that,
Whatever she does, wherever she goes
or whatever she says, she IL the center
OF conversation. She imagines that
people are criticixing her movements,
making fun at her expense or analyx-
ing her character. when they are
probably not thinking of her at all.
She does not realize that other people
are too busy and too much interested
IN themselves and in other things to
devote to her any of their time beyond
what Is absolutely necessary. When
she thinks they are making remarks
about her. putting sights upon her,
or trying to hold her up to the ridi-
cule Of others. they may not even be
of her presence.
thousands Of young women are
held back from undertaking what
they long to do, and are kept from
trying to make real their ife-dreams,
because they are afraid to jostle with
the world. They shrink from ex.
posing their sore and sensitive spots.
which smart from the slightest touch.
Their representatives. makes cow.
ards of them.
The great majority Of people. no
natter how rough in manner or bear.
ng. are kind-hearted, and would
much rather help than hinder fellow.
beings; besides, they have all they
IAN DO to attend to their own affairs,
md have no time to spend in min
ltely analyzing the nature and feel
ngs of those whom they meet in
he course Of their daily business. In
he busy world Of affairs It IL give
md take. touch and go. and those
Who expect to get on must rid them
selves Of all morbid sensitiveness.
they do not, they doom themselves
o unhappiness ami failure.
A college couTse IL Of inestimable
'alue to girl of over-refned sensi.
'ilities. oftentimes when girls enter
ollege. they are 30 touchy that their
ense OF honor 10 constantly being
lurt and their pride stung by the
unconscious thrusts Of classmates
nd companions. But after they have
cen In college q term, and have
cen rubbing up against other girls,
hey realize that It would be the
lost foolish thing in the world to
etray resentment. II one shows that
be Ii hurt. she knows she will Be un.
opular and will often be laughed
I. She 10 simply forced to drop the
'olish weakness. Girls who are NOR.
Idly sensitive on entering college,
item come out at the end Of their
'ur years course with their exces- ,
We irritability cured BY repeated !
oses Of common sense.
There are many, however, who must Il
through life without going through
,llege; and II these are troubled with I
they must be their own
callers. They must learn that real I
obility and courage and effectiveness {
q world-worker, a. well a. per
NAL happiness and success, are Inn \
'ssible to one who 10 crippled BY q !
nature. =
What shall do to get rid Of it?" .
girl asks. Think less Of yourself
I'd more Of others. Mingle freely G
Ith the people. Become interested b
things outside Of yourself. Do not '
God over what - said to you or y
lalyze every simple remark until you y
asnify it into something Of the 4
'eatest importance. Do not have n
oh q low and unjust estimate of 4
'ople a. to think they are bent on b
thing but hurting the feelings Of
hers. and deprecating and making
int of them on every possible occar
IN. A girl who appreciates herself
her true value. and who gives her q
ighborS credit for being at least a u
Cd as she IL, viii not be- the victim v
oversensitiveness. q
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