The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1914-10-10
HINTS TO BRIDES.

Bright flowers shall bloom wherever
 we rove;
 A voice divine shall talk in each
 stream.
 The stars shall look like worlds of
 And this earth be all one beautifal In our eyes, since thou art mine love-
 It is half of the battle which makes for lifetime of welded happiness to begin alright from the time one turns rom the altar. Because a man has given a, woman the possession Of his name, his heart and all of his worldly goods, she should not imagine that his nature comes under her control, then and there.
 The newly made husband may adore her; have no thought save to make her happy, yet to even the most shallow natures there is an undercurrent against which the bride should be too wise as attempt to battle Every man has his likes and dislikes, his hopes and his fears, different ways of ind ing pleasures, is repel1ed and attracted according to his nature. It has taken him a lifetime to grow to that state in which the bride has found him She should not expect to overthrow at once the stubborn growth of years.
 The wisest brides will find traits in the new husband which she did not dream of when he was courting her. He may be a very good provtder for the home, but have the mistaken no- tion that it is not wisest or best to trouble a, wife's head with his business affairs-that it is an act of diplomacy to keep it from her if his business is hourishing lest she be tempted to be- come extravagant; to keep it from her by all means if he has reverses. Hence the bride is not wise who takes a stand that he must show up his books for inspection.
 If he refuses to talk this matter over with her, she should not pout and make his homecoming an annoying thought to him. You must not imag- inc, my dears, that the average hus- band will give up his evening paper to enjoy your society as he did in counting days. that his lips will wear 9 continual smile; his words always be honeyed; that he will hasten at your beck and call; be ever ready to take you to theatre and ball; lavish money on you for flowers and bonbons; keep you robbed in silks and faces. These lessons you will learn arc difficult ones but they will benefit you.
 The bride who has welded a young man who is making his own way in the world with difficulty should make up her mind that it is her bounden duty to buckle right down to hard work in the housekeeping world to help him save money and get up. His interest has now become hers. The right kind of a bride is wings to mans ambition. The wrong kind is like leaden balls chained to his feet. which hinder him from taking a. step forward
 Marriage either makes or mars the life of both husband and wife. It's sad thing for a young couple to begin welded life on too expensive a, scale and, perhaps. to have to come down; Thes bride who says, f'My friends wouldn't come to see me if we lived in a. cheap little hat,'' makes a. mistake in thinking that her so-called friends of this sort care for her. Those who really care for her would be glad to come and see her in a dove-cote of ,four-roomed flat as in a large. expen- sive home. Woe be unto her if the people who call upon her simply be- cause she has moved into a large house find out that only the lower floor of the place is furnished and the upstairs rooms are locked because they are bare. It is not the home bride wants to consider, but her hus- bands love, comfort, and happiness.