Five Mile Beach weekly journal., 1914-02-06

6dAC AAlN a ltttli9 tOt1llnlllla lIHOu
the genuine love. sympathy. comrade
ship and units Of purpose of a home
fanny. and il evel these qualities be
absent in the family there is a tie of
blood which has IA certain degree of
neutralizing power in every discord.
This homeless life in Il boarding
house is harder for the wife than for
the husband. rs Il long term of punish.
ment is harder tls.sn Il Short one. His
business duties. keeping him away from
the scene most vi the Tine, make his
realization OF ii perhaps less. yet he
may suffer vicafiously ia noting the
subtle changes In his wife. either in
her struggle against the environment
or in her surrender to it. In the false
perspective Of their living, sources OF
misunderstanding multiply. and the
loving adjustment of their views and
ideals may be disturbed as the needle
of a compass Is automatically detected
In certain regions.
Meals that In their own home might
be enjoyed In frank, genial, trusting
companionship and sympathy are now
taken under the fire of many eyes that
make the sweetness of instructive con-
ddence impossible. In the artificial at
mosphere of their living he may be
almost afraid to look across the table
for fear of being accused of flirting
with the new boarder from Kentucky.
who expects to be in town all sum-
mer.
II the husband does not talk he is
likely to be charged with being dis
agreeable and sulky. If he does talk
he may be accused of trying very hard
to be fascinating to some n for
whom he really does not care two
straws. Caught between the horns of
the dilemma. the husband thinks hard,
says under his breath something not
Tor publication and wishes-that he
had a home. The wife may suffer, toe.
the same mistranslation of her most
innocent actions.
The quiet social evenings with a few
friends have always to be considered
from the standpoint of some n else's
convenience. The lady on the third
floor back is sick and cannot bear the
noise of a piano. or walking on the
floor disturbs the rest of the nervous
old gentleman in the DON under
meath. or any of a dozen other on
siderations may emphasize the limita-
lions of boarding. Where two are
forced by circumstances to live for a
time in furnished rooms or in board
ing houses. 1t makes a special call on
their finest tact, patience and love to
neutralize the effect of many condi-
tons that they would never voluntarily
choose.
Hotels give more independence, but
more isolation; more freedom, but also
more loneliness. The unwelcome close
ness of contact of boarding houses is
exchanged for an equally unwelcome
aloofness and coldness. Hotels are
excellent institutions for travellers or
those desiring temporary quarters, but
they pail quickly on lovers of a home.
They have such an institutional at
mosphere as you walk two blocks after
leaving the elevator. through heavy.
red carpeted corridors. carrying a large
key attached to a brass numbered ar
rangement the size of a young plate.
and the only mark that d~ifferentiates
your rooms from the others as you
approach ii. is the number 1922.
1t would be hard to imagine a wall
motto "God Bless Our Home" hang.
ing in a hotel. 1t would seem irrever-
ence, with an undertone of sarcasm.
The elaborate array of dishes on the
menu may attract for a few days. but
you soon grow tired of the simplest
articles of food ~masquerading under
French aliases and you long for simple
meals and simpler surroundings. You
would like to see a boiled potato with
the courage to stand up boldly and de-
family, In spite of its humble origin.
and not trying to slip into your good
graces under the alibi of a foreign
title. You long for palmer food and
home cooking. for more genuine com
fort and less gilt and glitter and dec
Grafton, where you can be truly your
natural self. where you can even lean
your elbows on the table IL you feel
like it. 1t is just an honest heart hun
ger for a home.
Eating in restaurants has drivenmany
a good young man into matrimony.
Living in boarding houses and hotels
later has driven many Il man out of
matrimony. The vain display. the vul-
garity, the fictitious luxury. the con-
stantly enforced contrast between your
circumstances and those of others com
bine to create a restless. uncertain.
| Irritating living far from conducive to
happiness in marriage.
One vital note in the music of life
is the sense of possession. In mar
riage 1t transforms the lonely pronoun
"mine'' into the one of larger. sweeter
meaning. .ours,r and the alchemy Of
love makes mime" and thine" inter
changeable elements. 1t Is the impel-
ling spirit that makes homes, where
the sense of dual possession in unity