The Idaho recorder. [volume] (Salmon City, Idaho) 1886-1927, 1914-12-03

! know bright, well.traiped voppv
Aoy' whose intimate friends, and sven
aer near relatives. have to be continu-
Ally on the watch for fear Of wound.
ing her. She broods over a Joking re-
marx until che magnifies it into an In
suit one makes herself miserable for
lays over a fancied slight and ex.
aausts the patience of her friends by
ASKING them to explain what they
meant by certain expressions. looks or
gestures People who are at first at.
.racted by her many amiable quali
!les soon fall away from her because
d the exactions imposed by her over
sensitiveness.
Over-sensitiveness is really an ex.
asgerated form of self-consciousness
II Is far removed from conceit or self
esteem yet it causes ones own per.
'onality to overshadow everything
Else A sensitive person feels that
Whatever she does, wherever she goes
'r Whatever she says, she is the center
IL conversation. She imagines that
people are criticizing her movements.
making fun at her expense or analyz-
ing her character, when they are
PROBABLY not thinking of her at all.
ohe does not realize that other people
are too busy and too much interested
IN themselves and in other things to
leVote to her any of their time beyond
what is absolutely necessary. When
she thinks they are making remarks
about her, putting sights upon her,
Or trying to hold her up to the ridi-
Guile OF others, they may not even be
conscious of her presence.
Thousands Of young women are
held back from undertaking what
they long to do, and are kept from
trying to make real their life-dreams.
because they are afraid to jostle with
the world. They shrink from ex-
posing their sore and sensitive spots.
which smart from the slightest touch.
Their supersensitiveness makes cow
ards Of them.
The great majority Of people, no
matter how rough in manner or bear.
Ing. are kind-hearted, and would
much rather help than hinder fellow,
beings; besides, they have all they
can do to attend to their own affairs
and have no time to spend in min.
utely analyzing the nature and feel
ings Of those whom they meet in
/ tho ooVroo ~ thar doiIHy hystra.a t.
the busy world Of affairs it is give
and take, touch and go, and thosG
who expect to get on must rid them
selves Of all morbid sensitiVeness
II they do not. they doom themselves
to unhappiness and failure.
A college course is Of inestimablC
value to a girl of over-refned sensi
bilities. Oftentimes when girls eRtel
college, they are so touchy that theil
sense of honor is constantly being
hurt and their pride stung by thu
unconscious thrusts Of classmates
and companions. But after they haV'
been in college a term, and have
been rubbing up against other girls
they realize that it would be thu
most foolish thing in the world u
betray resentment. If one shows tina
she is hurt, she knows she will be un
popular and will often be laughe'
at. She is simply forced to drop thu
foolish weakness. Girls who are NOR
bidly sensitive on entering college
| often come out at the end Of thei
four years course with their exces
siye irritability cured by repeate'
doses Of common sense.
There are many, however, who mus
90 through life without going through
college; and If these are troubled witt
constituencies, they must be their owl
healers. They must learn that rea
inability and courage and effectiveness
"a a world.worker, as well as pei
sonal happiness and success, are I'm
noasible to one who is crippled by
representative nature.
What shall do to get rid OF III
= girl asks. Think less OF yourself
and more OF others. Mingle freei
with the people. Become interests
in things outside of yourself. Do no
brood over what is said to you o
analyze every simple remark until 20
magnify 1t Into seMsthing OF IN
[ ~rsatest importance. Do not nav
such q low and unjust estimate
neopIe as to think they are bent o
nothing but hurting the feelings Q
others. and deprecating and maxim
urht OF them on every possible occi
lion A girl who appreciates hersel
A. her true value, and who gives he
Deigbbors credit for being at least a
GOOD as she Is. will not be the Vietir
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