Richmond times-dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1914-current, 1914-11-16
CAN BE NO ideal HOME
WITH. DOUBLE STANDARD
Rev. T. Clagett Skinner Delivers
Special Sermon to
.t Young Men.
HosfE-MAKING DREAM HEALTHY
Minister Scores Tendency to Mako
Light OF Marriage, and Urges Par
ents to Make Happy Homes for
Their Children. So


Their Children.
There can be no ideal home until the
world ,abandons the double standard,
said Rev. T. Clagett Skinner. ID. D.,
pastor OF Second Baptist Church. dur
ing the course Of sermon to young
men last night. DIR. Skinner took as
his subject Getting Married" this be-
ing the fourth and final talk Of a series
OF four on The Life Worth While"
In spite OF the rain, n large congrega-
tion OF men was present TO hear the
sermon.
The dream OF home-making. the min
lister said. is healthy. manly. normal.
and has always been potent factor, In
the annals OF man. 1t has sweetened
labor. inspired enthusiasm. safeguard
ed against wrongdoing. braced men
against temptations and steelcd them
to deeds OF daring cndeavor. The pic
ture or home making. he declared. has
been the guiding star. OF multitudesg OF
men.
FEW MORE ELEvATING DESIRES
THAN IDEALS OF HOME
What normal man has not found his
sou! all agiow with this dream OF do
nestle felicity? There are few more
elevatinR desires than this reaching
after the Ideals OF the home. Yet. how
often such matters arc relcgated to
the realm OF the sickly sentimental or
TO tho limbo OF poetic effusion. Men
often think such matters are purely
affairs OF chance. and that this is
sphere In which intelligence plays no
part. We are told the matrimonial In
stinct Is very like the measles or
humps. which is liable to break oft
any time. and must usually run Its
course. But one thing is certain, what
ever may be said about homes In pnr-
ticulnr. tho home AZ an institution is
not an accident. The homo has come
to he because the long course OF time
has shown It best fitted to accomplish
certain desirable ends. The home is
social organization for the purpose OF
perpetuating purity. complemcnting
fragmcntariness OF mankind, propa-
eating, sheitering and nurturinE the
young in their preparation and train
ing for social service"
SCORES TENDENCY
MAKE; LIGHT OF MARRIAGE
DIR. skinner scored the present ten
dcncy to make light of marriage and
the home. He showed how there were
colleges to teach agriculture and
professions. but no institution where
there Is q course in the ethics of mar
riaEe or the fine art OF home ma king.
There should be reformation. he
said. when such sacred subjects are
treated In a jocular vein. He then
marriage
$50. young man." he said. ut is
neither morbid nor unmanly for you
TO look forward to marriage and
home making. The Scriptures sane
ton marriage for the happiness II
brings. What happiness IS compare
BILE to the happiness of the home?"
The change In the man after mar
riase. when he forgets tho many lit
tie acts OF courtship, were shown By
DR.. Skinner.
"It is wonderful how boxes of candy
and bouquets Of flowers shrink after
the marriage ceremony. In my obser-
walton, married women are as fond
Of lowers and CONNECTIONS as the Gin
gle ones. and in most cases have
better right to them"
MUST CREATE HAPPY
ATMOSPHERIC IN THE HOME
Men with homes of their own were
told to create happy atmosphere.
They were advised to make 1t unnec-
essary for the children to leave the
home to have hearty laugh or a
hotly contested game. Children, he
said. reared In an unhappy, quarrel.
some. discordnnt home. are sent out
into the world Handicapped.
The good father" he continued,
lives in the life of the boy, after the
father has crossed the threshold Of
the cemetery, and: the good mother
daughter has children OF her own
Let us think for moment of some
OF the controlling principles in tho
home making. The home begins when
two hearts are pliEhted in, mutual af-
lection. Gorgeous array and costly ap-
pointments In palatjal houses. do not
make home. These things sometimes
brighten home and sometimes mali a
purSatory. There Is a. good deal OF
talk about love in cottage. but when
there Is nothing In the, cottage but
love. II Is Impossible to have j happy
home. There arc people quite con-
Eenially mated who are quite niser-
able because the income Is altogether
inadequate to meet the demands Of the
home. But affection lis the essential
element in the home 1870 -~.|'
MUST GET, AWAY FROM
DOUBLE STANDARD
..jf the home is going to be joyful
and ideal men and women. you must
take purity into 1t. We hear men talk
Ing nowadays about eugencs. the sell
ence which relates to the well birth OF
the race. The word means we'll born
We used to speak OF mans being
well-born IL he had gentle parents,
but this word means that the child
has a right to be we'll born physically
"ont of every ten married women
there because of the impurity. and IN
cleanliness OF their husbands Think
OF the meanness Of men. who will al
low the pure to suffer for the impure
and the clean to be tortured on ac-
count" OF the unclean.,-.. We shall never
have the ideal home until We abandon
the double standard. Tho home must
know unselfsh service. Paul said, Illus
bands love your wives even as Christ
loved the church.. How did Christ love
the" church? He gave. Himself for It,.
Your love should be practical, full of
expression and tender recognition. Mrs,
Carlyle said the only, way she knew
that her husband was pleased was
when he did not find fault. In after
years. when Mr. Carlyle passed by tho
cemetery where his wife Was buried,
he remarked: oh. that ] had her back
for Ave minutes that I might tell her
that did a,tnre n NJ 20 no iH- "