News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1914-03-25

vi NV Ci
Splendid Present Is like attention.
bribery They may later
awaken to the realization that the only
way to get an absolutely guaranteed
insurance on matrimony is to keep on
paying premiums. Countless first class
marriage policies have lapsed just be-
cause of these imprudently suspended
payments.
These very men at their clubs often
go perilously close to the dead line Of
boredom in telling you of the marvel
GUS qualities of their wives. They run
the chromatic scale of enthusiasm while
you wonder in a dreamy way whether
the angels in heaven were not modelled
after these women.
At home these husbands may keep
their alteration and appreciation wrap
ped round with seven folds of silence
safeguarding their feeling as zealouSly
as though it were a Masonic secret
We're but Il small nstallmPnt Of this
told al home it might prove a JOY, Il
sweet source of new confidence, Cpur-
age anu Ills IlilttNNlI 20 me NJ : VI .-D rs
heart hungry for jgst such words.
1t is not fair to have all the sweet
roses before marriage and only theft
memory and thorns afterward. 4
splendid present to smooth over mis-
understa nding or to wipe out an I'M
pleasant memory is altogether Of an
other class. That is not love, it is
bribery; it is not tenderness. it is
policy: it is like the sacrifices the
heathens offer their gods to appease
their wrath.
One of the most common causes of
the decline of courtship after marriage
where it does occur and there are
countless instances to prove that it
does not always decline. is the dis
Illusion that often comes after mar
riage. When the rosy tints of the
courtship days grow DINNER there is
a tendency for the real poetry to turn
into commonplace verse or even into
the baldest prose. This cause. if one
may be pardoned interpreting Cupid
in terms of commerciaism, may be
called buying from sample"
In the days before marriage they
saw each other at their best: they were
on dress parade and unSelfshly think
ing too much of each other to think
much of self. Under the inspiring
glow of mutual regard every latent
virtue btOssomed into full flower. every
failing assumed roseate hue under
some loving Interpretation. little Sacri-
fees for each other Were Joy and q
privilege Then a smile would exile
doubt, a caress smother an argument.
a tender word throw world of worry
into eclipse, and mood of disagree
ment be but the preface to sweet rec
onciliation that made them nearer and
dearer.
Before marriage little inharmonies
became lost in the general effect as
moonlight softens and obscures dis
cords that the broad glare of sunlight
reveals. Marriage brings sunlight to
bear on all things. and often the goods
do not seem up to sample. Then must
come a time of concession. adjustment
and acceptance of conditions with a
smiling determination to make the best
of each other Then each must realize
that If they would be real married
sweethearts they must keep the court
ship atmosphere vital and pervading-
by the courtship methods. The love
that is worth working for and waiting
for is worth preserving.
Courtship after marriage is a kind OF
matrimonial thermOstat. 1t automat-
ically keeps the home atmosphere at
the proper temperature When the
heat of a fervid discussion threatens to
scorch the respect of the two for each
other and hot words of blame and
protest make even asbestos in the room
conscious of warmthe Ca smile. a sweet
silence or term of tender endearment
may suddenly Danish the heat like the
radiated influence of a fountain or
cool fragrant breeze from a garden at
twilight.
There is danger in the common habit
of making light of love in the home.
of treating it with a flippant. cheap
cynicfSm. 1t is hardly worth the
smiles it may elicit. 1t is an insidious
habit that grows from innocent breezy
banter to cutting sentences that leave
scars in memory. 1t often begins in
fha surfngtide of married life in fool
fh protest against being thought senti-
rrental. as n sort Of self protection.
d i'm fear of manifesting affection in
: 'i,lir the two may swing to the other
e. me.
TIE husband may tell to his friends
nbled at bis table in a whimsical
W. that now he is "doue for. that lie
cau never dare so out at night, that