Five Mile Beach weekly journal., 1914-03-06

erS Tor IL, pfepar-
Drifting to Sea. ers for 1t.
There is no faintest shadow of IT.
reverence in calling matrimony a bust
ness, no slightest tinge of d~isrespect
to its sweetness, its ~sacredness, its
sentiment, its poetry or its possibilities.
Marriage is tie greatest business, for
1t keeps busy most of the people. In
its perfection and in its ideal it means
two living at their highest and best as
individuals and in united harmony. 1t
is consecrated duality in unity. 1t
means a life partnership of two In the
pursuit of happiness. This most inn
portant business should be conducted
on business lines. There should be con-
slant, concentrated effort to make 1t a
success. Success comes not from drift
ing, but wisely working.
If men and women put into their
married life the same seriousness of
thought, intensity of purpose, patience,
sacrifice and determination to make
1t a success that they devote to seek
ing to make u business prosper, the
world would be transformed. Failures
would be few; divorce, the bankruptcy
of matrimony. would be rare. and the
two could command success by their
united determination to win it.
Success in marriage depends finally
and solely on the two themselves. II
is not what they have. but what they
are; not what comes to them, but how
they meet it that counts. Sickness.
sorrow. trial, misfortune and poverty
may even make them nearer and dear.
er to each other in truer union and
finer unity. What they suffer for each
other and with each other brings them
closer together. What they suffer from
each other gradually forces them apart.
Man does not expect to succeed in
business by merely starting it and
hOnoring it with the sunshine of his
presence. He realizes 1t is not an III.
tomato music machine where he hae
merely to put on a success record,
start the mechanism and then sit back
comfortably and delight his ears with
the music of prosperity. If he wants
dividends of success he must pay the
assessments Of effort. If we want real
lasting harmony and melody in mar
ried life we must make our own music.
1t means the collaboration of two. new
err the lonely contribution of one.
In business when problems arise a
man seeks to solve them. If inhar.
monies threaten to destroy his success
he seeks to remove them. If one meth
cd fails he tries another. He does not
let things drift or work themselves
out some way. He knows it is his
business to find out where things are
wrong and how he IA right them.
He does not shut his eyes to troubles
and think he is curing them by OBJ,
securing them.
Men are often blind or resigned in
a cowardly way to unpleasant condi-
lions in the home partnership that
they would never surrender to in their
Office business. They often accept as
inevitable in their home life what they
could change if they only would. 1t is
unjust to both for the husband or wife
to accept any wrong condition. If any
amount of effort will set it right. When
all methods fail, bearing bravely may
be moral strength; before they have
been even tested, bearing meekly is
sheer weakness.
There are people who fan themselves
into serene self satisfaction with the
thought that they are heroically &C
cepting the shadows and shadows of
married life. its p%reventable pain. sor-
row and discord, when they are really
only too lazy mentally or inert morally
to take a bold, firm stand to win the
freedom of thought. harmony and
peace they desire. They are not con
sidering matrimony as a business they
must make succeed; they are degrad.
ing it to the gamble class. They have
the assumed airy indifference of a
man who has drawn a blank in a lot.
terry and is trying hard to forget 1t.
When an excited customer enters a
business house with some grievance.
real or fancied, parades a schedule
of wrongs and injustices as long as a
tariff bill and starts in on a high
keyed monologue of protest. exploding
epithets of d~enunciation and filling the
air with sparks Of phrases %sulphurous
with indignation, the wise man of
business remains COO and calm. lie
realizes that by losing his temper h
may lose a customer. that it would b.
unwise, it would not pay. He visit
patiently for a comma of intermiSsion
a sligts slackening in the ~cascadine
torrent of speech.
He smiles apologies; he presses tbs
soft pedal of expression: he explairs