El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1914-09-18
Dorothy Dix Writes on
:: Woman Against Woman ::
Why the Sex Treats Its Sisters with COntumey Though
1t Loves Them at Heart.
BY DOROTHY DTK

. hard time Of it This IS not because the
I woman employer is any more dlIIlcuiL
/ to get along with. or any more OF a
] slave driver than a man is, but because
I women resent being bossed oy olner
/ Thev are accustomed to yielding
/ obedience to men They are used TO hav-
ing men criticize them, and 70 taxing
meekly mems reprOOts, but when 10
comes to having sister woman call
| them down. and hold them up 10 their
work they simply can't stand for it.
II q woman and a man 20 into
restaurant where the serving is done
/ By Mattresses, il is at once amusing
and aggravating to see the difference
in rhe way they are treated Two or
three Mattresses will rush forward to
serve the man. they viii flurter about
his chair seeing that he has every at
teution possible to give MIN, and If
there are any special tidoits that II is
in their power TO give him, he viii get
them
But the woman patron viii be left
T. settle herself as best she can. and
wait the pleasure OF some naughty
damsel 70 cOndescend 10 serve her, and
when her food is brought her IL will
be banged down on the table in any old
way
that men tipped and women didn't, but
the woman who goes to restaurants
nowadays no more withhOlds her
gratcity than does the man, and so
the explanation Of this phenomenon
goes back TO woman's inherited habit
OF serving man. and feeling IL an honor
to minister 10 him
Mere Man to the Fore.
Shop girls do exactly the same way.
When man ventures into store the
clerks vie with each other for the
privilege Of waiting on him. and show
endless patience in hunting up anything
he may wish, while they let women Gus
toners stand and wait That Is why
many women drag their poor. protest
ing husbands shopping with them They
know that husband viii get an amount
OF attention that nobody but a million
airess. with a charge account ever re
ceives from a salesWOman-
And. curiously enough, this woman
against woman feeling finds its most
pronounced expression in the family
where the mother never treats her
daughters as she does her sons OF
course mothers viii deny this; but it
is true, nevertheless. Every woman
IS anxious 10 get her daughters mar
ried and off her hands. but IL IS the
bitterness Of death to her for her sons
to marry. At every wedding you will
see the brides mother Wreathed in
smiles and the bridegrOOm's mother in
tears
Where both sons and daughters go
out 10 work the mother expects the
girls TO turn in their wages toward the
family support and she accepts their B
earnings without gratitude but II her
son contributes anything TO the family Z
eXchequer she can never sufficiently .
praise his generosity. She afso expects ,
the girls, after their days work is over. [
to help at home with the homework. ]
but the warmest seat by the fire. the I
easiest chair. the choicest food. Is re- 7
served for her darling boy when be !
comes home from his labor.
The queer part OF this woman against J
woman antagonism is that IL has no ]
base in fact Woman is always and in I
variably woman's best friend II IS TO :
2 sister that every woman must turn in {
her hour OF need.
II is the women who get I'd the petit
ton that saves the murderess from the z
chair: tt is women who have got shorter {
hours and decent working conditions for
the woman toiler: f. is her daughters
and not her sons who take in the poor I
old mother and make a home for her in I
her last days 1t is only women who I
help other women without expecting I
any return
Queer. isn't It. this antagonism OF I
women 70 their own sex. It's a su- I
perstition, an inherited fear. but there I
are signs that show that the sex is
gradually beginning 10 outgr0w IT