The Sentinel=record., 1914-04-12

over night, or a few days, and so is | excusably unprepared The welcome guest. on an extended visit, has her own cosmetics, perfumes, shoe polish stationery. postage stamps, sewing , articles. etc. not depending on the hostess nor borrowing from the other guests.
 The welcome guest Ooes not feel It her duty to use all of the house marked stationery and postage stamps the hostess has thoughtfully placed in the desk.
 The welcome guest does not wipe off her shoes or greasy articles with the towels of the hostess. whether they be monogramed or not.
 The welcome guest does not give orders to those employed about the place. 4 servant expects his orders to come through the master or mis- tress. and resents any assumed au- thorty on the guests part.
 Whatever else the welcome guest may do, she is always prompt for meals and always present for the family breakfast, if it is served. Tar diness at meals is extremely annoy ing to the hostess and to the serv- ants. It delays and interrupts the smooth workings of the household ma chinery.
 The welcome guest is not the one who talks loud, awakening the entire household when she comes in late at night from some party. That is the time to remember the suggestive verse, Her voice was ever soft, gen. tie and Iow-an excellent thing il a woman'
 She never leaves the hall lights burning all night.
 The welcome guest may be ever so lively and jolly but she is not loud 9 in dress nor las she boisterous man ners She knows gentlity is bespo- ken in that certain quiet dignity which bespeaks elegance and refine ment. She does not embarrass her refined hostess by being too familiar with the gentlemen guests or in try ing to monopolize their attention from other lady guests
 She never strews her books, wraps papers, etc, about and continually leaves them in the parlor or on the piazza or lawn, marring their neat. ness.
 She never invites any one to re- main to a meal without consulting the wishes of the hostess.
 She does not talk about her rela- tives' perfectly trained children when the hostess has one or more incor- rigibles in her family. J She does not talk of how success (ful other people are in the very things wherein she knows the host or host ess has failed to succeed-a.ong business lines
 She lends a helping hand in various ways
 Perhaps there are servants to do the actual work of the place if the home is that of wealthy people, but there are various ways even then where one can help.
 Once when a guest il a home of that kind, it was my pleasure to go every morning to the flower garden in the hostess stead, gather lovely roses and arrange them for the dining table, library parlor, etc.
 Another guest sat at the piano play , ing for the assembled guests who often sang while the hostess was free to go and come, joining us or slip ping out to supervise some house hold detail.
 It was helpful to the hostess also when we sometimes entertained her child and his friends with stories or games. Many a rainy day indoors was made pleasant for all in that way and many a night the boy dropped off to sleep to dream of Uncle Re mus and Brar Rabbit" which was be- ing told until drowsy eyelids dropped.
 If visiting a friend who is without servants, the welcome guest is quick to assist about washing dishes, tidies her own room, and helps il various ways, making her visit joy and a blessing to that household
 If there are servants, she remem- bers them, if able, before her depafi- ure with gifts, either of money or some suitable souvenir.
 She leaves behind no unpaid bills of laundry, telephone or express charges. She returns all calls possible paid her by her hostess lady friends; also, pays her party calls, If suddenly called away or the weather, or some accident, prevents her returning the calls, she mails before departing, her visiting card to each one to whom she owes the courtesy of a call Should she be pressed for time, she may arrange with her hostess to at tend to this matter for her.
 She never stays a day longer than the time she was invited for, though she may leave a day sooner.
 She never complains about the weather remembering that the hosts were not responsible for the weather which may, or may not, have been for her various social en- 
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