The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1914-01-25

indN irtt inbl tue l'hs StNh' S"''"''''
of the race comes from eating bread
three days old and may nnwisely seek
10 force him 10 discipleship. bccause
she knows IL is good for him" He
may prefer shorter life sooihed with
fresh bread rather than Il longer ex-
istence on the new terms.
Let her revel in her petrihed. passe
nutriment TO her hearts content. but
she is giving postgraduate courses in
hypocrisy and protest when she makes
meals at home an ordeal as he silently
munches the dry crusts of her theory.
He suffers il as temporary trial. feel
ing confident that the reign of stale
ness will be brief. and lets his imaGina-
ton run riot in the thought of the
redhot mullins and all the other quar-
antined delicacies he will order down
town for lunch Just TO square himself
somehow with his self respect.
If he cannot he brought to accept
lbsen rs an inspired apostle of Opt
miSm and the joys of living on the
higher levels. If lhsen really seems to
him to he nearly as cheerful as ride
in tunnel on a dark night with the
car lights extinguiShed and he does
not want to invest In her enthusiasm
for her new found literary god as the
dramatic genius OF the ages. LET them
sweetly and smilingly agree to differ
il argument develops fervor. He may
later forsake his well thumhed Shake
speare should the higher illumination
come TO him and food his soul with
light
II her adoption of some new philnSo
ply Of living brings to her caImhess.
rest. peace and the solution OF lie
problems. making her more kind gen
tie charitable. loving and unsc'fish,
and seems constant inspiration. 1t is
unwlSe to seek to capture his CONVEX
sion hy an unrclenting assault OF nrgu
ment. protest. discussion and appeal
He has right to his option Of non
acccptancc us fully and freely as her
choice OF acceptance. If her living
| does not yindcate the rightucSS and
dnaIity of her belief, If her life does
not convince her arguments will only
irritate. but never convert.
Respect for each Others individuality
touches in some way the heart Of every
problem of married life, This respect
is based on justice, and justice wrongs
no rights. but rights every wrong. 1t
is the Golden Rule raised from mere
! theory to the dignity OF living real
ty. In the home it mems freedom,
right. sympathy, tolerance. harmony
and peace Determining that neither
shall suffer from the other, they are
strengthened to suffer for and with
each other whatever trials life may
bring
This respect has two vital phases:
We must rot only respect the in
dividuality Of the other, but must de-
mand that our own he equally respect
ed. While never invading the rights
Of others we should with equal firm
ness resent the invasion of our own
This implies no petty captiousness in
trifcs no SuperSensitiveness OF an in
famed egotiSm. no disregard Of the
privilege Of making little compromises
and CONCESSIONS the JOY of sacrifices
! and surrpndprS that bring new hap
| piness to love Neither has the right to
make the other the victim OF his or
| her temper scltiShness. cruelty, tyran-
| ny, mcanneSS or injustice, and either Is
/ wrong to submit
| IN rcciNnC u hon ~
mcekly suffer what we have no right
10 suffer 1t is not a virtue of noble
bearing: It is the vice OF coWardicc. We
are Sapping the very citadel of our
own strength: we are weakening Our
selves for the battle of life. starving
! our very soul.
There asc grim tragedies of which
The Nnf'i may know nothing in do
| nestle life where the wife lives trem
| binglv in the shadow of n husbands
fierce temper or his wild. uncontrolled.
! senSeess jealousy, Smiling, bright.
| gay. witty he seems the very life of
! the social company gathered round his
| table. But there may come to her.
| seemingly only table length but
| really whole world apart from him.
! a quick gasp and trpmor, with pain
| in her heart as though II hand of steel
| were suddenly gripping it with dead
enins pressure when she secs for Il sec
| Ond certain look on his face that no
| eyes but her own noted, none might
even understand had they seen
We hear much of the nobility and
| the moral grandeur nf hearing and for
| bearing. hut there are fines when bear
! ing becomes II weakness. Il cowardce
crime against self respect Peace at
| any price is not peace it Is SmOthered
| war. Things are never settled until
they ere settled right. The wife'S time
! for mrctiu" such temper was ut the be-
ginning uf her married life, at its first
! manifestation. In its faintcSt phases
before it had fattcued and grown
! tymnnous through nonrcsistancc. In
! the hreinnin. she was 1T the maximum
of her power tu cope With the wrong:
the evil was at its minimum; the man
himself was more pliahlt and more
easily led and controlled
In the beginning should she have
met he Issue. taking u firm. final IN
altcrahe stand, using every weapon in
the armory Of her wisdom Then