The Madison daily leader. [volume] (Madison, S.D.) 1890-current, 1914-08-10
MARRIAGE DECREASE
PROBATE JUDGES DECLARE KAN.
SANS ARE AFRAID TO GET
MARRIED.

Topeka, Kan, Aug. 10.-Sugges-
lions for nerve remedies for the
young women and young men OF
Kansas that will bring the young men
up TO the proposing point and the
young women to accepting are want
ed by the Kansas probate judges.
That the young people of the state
lack the nerve to break into married
life is a fact that is much deplored
by the Judges, who see a falling off
in the heroic stuff of the older gem
erations and the breaking down of
the families of the state.
The probate judges of Kansas have
been in their annual meeting at Abb
lene and discussed plans for prohibit
ing hurry-up weddings and requiring
the publication of bans sixty TO nine
ty days ahead OF the wedding and
other matters of interest to the work
of these courts. During the discus
sion several of the judges offered the
figures of their Offices showing an
increased population over one, five
and ten years ago, but only slight in
creases and sometimes decreases, in
the number of weddings during the
same period.
Young folks of this age seem to
be afraid to get married" said ID. A.
McCandless, probate judge of Sedg-
wick county. why should this fair
state, with so many beautiful daugh-
tiers and so many manly men have so
few marriages?
Il have asked many a young man
who came into my court on other
business why he didn't get married.
The almost invariable reply was, j
can't afford it,
"'Of course they can't afford it.
They haven't the nerve to tackle it.
They can't afford it because they
mean they must have a motor car
and every other luxury that their old
er friends and relatives have and en-
ioy. That's the whole trouble. There
is too much luxury demanded by both
the young men and the young women
The trouble with the young peo-
pie now is that they haven't the
nerve to get down to the hard facts
of life and work. They want to get
married and have an cas- time.
They haven't the courage to face
years of hard work with a brave little
bride like their parents and grand
parents had. The young fellows are
having too good a time and not learn
ing soon enough that life is a real
mans job.
The girls are as much to blame as
the young fellows, too. They do not
want to get married until the bread
Is nicely buttered. Years ago young
folks did not even have the bread on
hand. They just made the attempt
and succeeded better than they do
now"
The Judge was inclined to blame
the fathers and mothers of the young
folks for the failure to assume the
marriage vows by the young people.
The parents had been more or less
successful in their work, had aeeumu-
lated considerable property and were
able to live unusually comfortably,
not to say luxuriously, providing
nice homes, motor cars, summer
| camps and homes and frequent trips
10 visit friends and relatives TO both
the girls and boys. Unconseiously
the parents were educating their chill
dren TO think that they should start
at about the same place that the par
ents are now, when the children real
ly should start at the bottom anG
work upward and the luXuries anu
comforts would come with hard WORK
and success.
Other probate judges discussed the
same propositions and some of them
were disposed to blame the parents
with rearing a race of snobs rather
than hard workers. The children
were taken to school in motor car!
| or allowed to ride to and from school
! i'm street cars in the cities or had
horses and buggies and motor cars In
the country. They became used &c
these things In school and think that
a continuation of their happiness de.
ponds upon having these luxurieS
during the early part of their mar
ried life.