The Cairo bulletin., 1914-03-05

tainment of 4 common aim and Il sin
gle IDEAL. These. after al, are only
questions Of taste and or Judgment
Often more subtle and vital are those
problems tlsat relate to temperament.
Sometimes word of impaticncc
may bring its echoing reply in the
same spirit TO the lips of the other,
but a seconds firmness, Just Il mo-
mentary self control, an instaat's
translation cf the thought into another
key Of sweetness and sympathy, and
the desecrating discord has been passed
in safety. Sometimes, too, silence OF
gentle reproof may be oil of coinpro-
mise on the troubled waters.
Most of the surrenders in married
life are in trides where 1t really makes
10 difference which surrenders. The
great questions, the large. problems,
usually unfold all their phases under
the sunshine Of conference and the
issue is the dual wisdom in n single
verdict which II upanmous. If tie
matter be vital and the jury of two
cannot agree on verdict, then it
seems part OF wisdom of compromise
for the one who is the ADLER Judge of
what is proper and fitting in the snc
cial instance to decide the momentous
question with the force of a final vote
There are occasionally topics of con
versation upon which the two cannot
~ l., fp
feels the rightness or wrongness of
certain subject with an intensity that
seems to brook no opposition. 1t may
be as far outside of the field of logic
as the most distant star is beyond the
solar systen1-then what is the use of
trying to put now life into a dead issue
by discussion?
When the signs thin ice" are con-
splcuous, 1t really might seem like
prudence to confine the conversational
skating nearer to the shore line. Argu-
ment in general is dangerous, and often
graceful dropping of the subject is
a kindly admission that there may be
| two sides to the question.
Do you not think we often expect too
much of those who are dear to US and
| that this very exaggeration may often
| render us unjust? The optimistic eff
| fort to make the best of things, to look
as closely as possible on the sunny
side Of life and its problems. to keep
| away from needless worry and useless
regret will do much toward lubricat-
| ing the wheels of the domestic regime.
| 1t is a talent worthy Of cultivation in
the home-the special ability not to see
certain little inharmonies that may ad-
| just themselves if they are unnoted.
| The spirit of compromise does not de-
mand continuous performance in the
way of self surrender and self sacri
| fee. 1t does not require ceasing to be
q voice and becoming an echo 1t does
not imply or justify any loss of indl-
viduaity. 1t means simply the instinc-
tive recognition of the best way out
of difficulty, the quickest tackinS to
avoid collision, the kindly view OF
tolerance in the presence of the weak
ness and errors of another
There are men who take no more
genuine interest in their home beyond
paying the bills than If they were
merely occasional guests. They seem
to regard home as n mere dormitory
and dining room. They often wonder
in vague way why their marriage is
not successful If it were u success
it would be miracle.
There are wives who spend most OF
their days outside the home walls.
deyoting their golden hours Of possi'
biljty to dress, visits. theatcgs. gossip,
idleness, frivolity and amusement.
The house that they might convert into
shrine of love and peGce and happi-
ness is delegated TO the care of scry-
!, ants. Their children are practically or
phnned under the iIustccship Of
nurses. These women arc losing the
realities of life in chasing shadows
They are mere dodgers In their own
homes, They are too much interested
in the side lines of life to srend o4r.
nest thought on making the real Gnsi'
ness. marriage, a success, They Grc
: often the encs who. in bursts of fcmi'
nine confidence. hemoan the failure oi
their married life and display theil
robes Of martyrdom
Nature meant husband and wife t.
supplement- each other. to he stronger
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