The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1914-07-17
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MARRYING THE OTHER GIRL

s~We fling ourselves in wild despair
 Midst scattered broken treasures. All is wrecked which promised once We stab ourselves with sorrows s two edged knife,
 And yet-a little patience strengthens
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 There Is generally a reason when q man calls of and on upon a lady, gives her every reason to believe he is in love with her. yet fights shy of the topic--rn atriraony. Nat11rally a woman believes that she must not take the initiative in so delicate q matter Despite the advanced ideas Of the new woman Of 1914, there's many a timid maid who still believes that proposing marriage Is a mans pr1vi- lege. sN
 deared him to her. She waits gladly and rnodestly for him to declare him self. If his manner has changed a little from the ardor Of the earlier days of their courtship, if he comes less frequently and vefy often disap- points her altogether, she ascrfbes it to his close attention to business.
 Where women love deeply they are tr1stful even in the face Of circl1rn- stances which should put them on their guard that sorhething is anaiss. She may see him with another girl on divers occasions; or the friends who are interested in her welfare may give hint to aler that he has another string to his bow. Yet, if she taxes him with it and he poohpoohe the assertion despite che evidence strong as Holy Writ, she will bl1nd1y be- neve him The girl with a. lover, no matter whether he be constant or tickle. has her sweet and tender day. dreams Her hopes wreathe anound the object of her affections Her. whole liee nnerEes into the expecta- tion of becoming his wife. A little coidness or petplancy on hisfp part does not awaken alarm within her. He may go 50 far as to deliberately pick a quarrel with her She forsaves him. thinking he may have business wor- ires she knows not of. Though he stretched her patience to the limit by remaining away, writing her that he has come to the conclusion that he is not good enough for her-that she de- serves some one who could sive her better times and brighter expecta- tions, she still clings to him, assuring him by her actions if not bv words that she is sa1t1shed with him At such a crisis no blow could be more cruel to a human heart than to pick Up the morning paper and without prepara atoT'y wa rning read in it's coI- unn the announcement of his mar riage to another girl Only those who have loved and lost know the bitter pain IT the man had been honest with her. telling her the truth when he found he was becoming fond of the other girl, she would have given him up willingly The man who dsa- dulges in a dofb1e love afrair. know ing that soon or late one of his loves must suffer the despair of blighted affection is as cruel as the sports man who deliberately stays the dnno- cent lawn who comes fearlessly to his hand trustingly to feed therefrona. The man who has a long drawn out love affair with one girl and enters into a heart affair with another. end- Ing by marrying the newer one, can never be quite free from the sting of eonscience. There's a trite and true verse whkcn all men inclined to be dcakle should heed:
 1f IS well to be merry and wise:
 It IS best to be honest and true.
 Always be on with the old love,
 Berore you are on with the new. 2