Perrysburg journal. (Perrysburg, Wood Co., O. [Ohio]) 186?-1965, 1914-04-17
REMEMBER IT TAKES
TWO FOR A QUARREL
stLxTHAT shall l do?" writes little
wv stenographer. Shall tell

"\K7HAT shall do?" writes little
Wv stenographer. "Shall tell
my employer or shall l look out for
another position, for my life in this
office is made a burden simply be-
cause the other stenographers here
will insist on saying cutting little
things which rub me the wrong
way, and then, when 1 lose my tenn
per, there is always a quarrel"
OF course there is quarrel, be-
cause it is human nature to resent
catfish remarks, suppose. But how
much wiser it would be IL this little
girl would simply ignore the other
one and let the sharp words pass
over her head.
''It takes two to make a quarrel"
you know, and this Is always true. In
fact, most of these old sayings con-
tain great deal of condensed truth,
and If we would only take this one
into our lives and force ourselves to
acknowledge the wisdom of 1t every
time our temper is ruffied by the re-
mark Of another, how much happier
we would be and how much better the
work we would do.
At first 1t may seem far cry from
good work to bad temper, but every
time you go off into an outburst Of
rage 1t saps just that much of your
vitality and good health that always
helps the brain and consequently our
working powers.
But to get back to the real point
1t takes two to make a quarrel
Did you ever try quarreling with
yourself?
Improbable business, isn't it?
In fact, you can't quarrel with your
self, since, as the old proverb says, II
takes two, to make a quarrel
Some Of US, it seems to me, are SO
constituted that We would fight with
our shadows, if we could, and these
are the ones who will take any little
instance and turn it into something
over which sharp words may be ex-
changed and unhappiness for both is
always the result.
But when the other stenographer in
the office rubs you the wrong way
what is really the use of saying some
thing sharp in return? Often it is
much Drawer to seem not to hear her
or if you will smile pleasantly when
she makes some catfish little remark
well, it may not be wise for me to
tell you this, but it will make her
| furious. :.
But she will see the futility Of try
ing to pick a quarrel with you, and she
will eventually desist in trying to ruff
he your feelings.
But perhaps you have given provo
cation for the remarks of the othel
girl. Perhaps in your actions you de
something to hurt the other ones
feelings. Maybe it is done unthink
ingly; but, whether it be premeditat
ed or not, the result is all the same.
So often, you know, we act thought
lessly, and when these little actions
bring down storm on our heads, We
fail to see from the other fellows
point of view, but ask advice, telling
the story of our wrongs from our OWL
standpoint.
My advice to my correspondent Ii
to examine herself well first before
either complaining to her employer Of
giving up her position, and also t.
tuck away in cell of her brain-ant
cell, by the way, that she has ac
cess to it at any time of the day
the proverb, ut takes two to make {
quarrel"
When the other girl sees it is use
less to try to make you angry sh'
will soon tire of her endeavor and Civ,
it up as hopeless. But be very sure
before you judge her, that it is no
your fault also that there is friction
in the office life.