The Washington times., 1914-07-13
Advice to-
Girls
Dear Annie Laurie.

Dear Annie Laurie:
/ am a girl of almost eighteen.
read the letter in today's paper. and
7 perhaps ]. too. have made a mistake.
/ am engaged to a young man,
twenty-five, and am to be married
this fall. ! fancied / was too young.
but as he is a bachelor with no one
to help him in any way. living in a
strange place, l took pity on him.
He has been keeping company with
4 me for about two years, and / have
found no fault Of any account in
him. And he says the same Of me.
Do you think IL would be wiser and
better for us both to wait couple
of years under the circumstances?
My father and mother consent.
| Now please tell me what you think
about it BLUE EYES.
VYI HY. you funny little girl
!" you. whatever is the mat.
w, ter with you?
You have a sweetheart you
love truly. and he loves you the same
What in the world do you want to &c
around hunting for some excuse to be
miserable for?
He's a bachelor. alone in a strange
place; he needs you and you need ham,
and your father and mother consent.
What more do you want. in the name OF
love and all loves puzzles?
Do sou want him to take to drink SO
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him?" Must he rob a bank to get you
to be his wife-on the day he is SEN
tenced TO the penitentiary-like the
heroine of your favorite book?
What on earth do you want. Blue
Eyes. and why do you want it? You've
found a pearl in the road-a pearl of
great price. Don't throw 1t into the
grass just to have the fun of hunting
for II again. You might not find 1t this
time.
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man be thankful for it, and give him
your love and make him happy-and
whisper. Blue Eyes. a few less love
stories just now-and little more sew
ing on the pretty things yor've going
to wear at your wedding.
You ask your mother IL that isn't a
good prescription.
E. A. T.-Don't allow him the privil-
eyes of a fiance unless he is exactly
that. I can't reiterate that advice too
often. A man has no right to put a
girl in such an anomalous position. and.
IT, he cares for her unselfishly enough
to be anxious for her welfare. he won't
do II. Make him realize that you are
still to be won. little girl. and he will
be the more anxious to do the winning.
AS for the ring. that Is only the out
ward and visible sign. II things are
settled between you, II you care for
each other and are ready to marry each
other Wlen II DtCOIlles pOsSlDlc.
YOU can afford to wait for the ring un-
til il will not cripple him to buy 1t.
One of the happiest women l know, a
partner in one OF the most successful
marriages. told me that she never had
an engagement ring till ten years after
she was married.
DanieL-You have gotten yourself
mixed up in a very silly affair and
now you want some one to help you
OF. which is the way of men. Ger
tainly after you have carried things
so far, don't think II would be very
honorable to back down with no more
ado but, even more certainly, 10
man or woman with any pretense to
common sense would marry some one
whom they had never met hut once
and that most casually. 1t seems to
me that the best way out Of a bad
job is to see as much as possible Of
the little girl in question and IL you
find you care for her and she cares
for you. marry her. II not, you had
better find IL out before you do any
thing rash and so had she.
Like tides on a crescent sea-beach,
When the moon is new an dthin.
Into our hearts high warnings
Come rolling and rushing in
Come from the mystic ocean,
Whose rim no foot has trod-
Some of US call them longing,
And others call them-God.
William Hubert Carruth.
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