The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1914-03-07

There is no faintest shadow OF ir-
reverence in calling matrimony y bust
ness. no slightest tinge of disrespect
to its sweetness, its sacredness. its
sentiment, its poetry or its possibilities.
Marriage is the greatest business. for
it keeps busy most of the people. In
its perfection and in its ideal 1t means
two living at their highest and best as
individuals and in united harmony. It,
is coDsecrated duality In unity. II
means life partnership Of two In the
pursuit OF happiness. This most i'm.
portant business should be conducted
on business lines. There should be con-
slant, concentrated effort to make 1t
success. Success comes not from drift
ing. but wisely working.
If men and women put into their
married life the same seriousness of
thought, intensity of purpose. patience,
sacrifice and determination to make
IL a success that they devote to seek
Ing to make business prosper. the
world would be transformed. Failures
would be few: divorce, the bankruptcy
Of matrimony, would be rare. and the
two could command success by their
united determination to win IT,
Success In marriage depends finally
and solely on the two themselves. 1t
IS not what they have, but what they
are; not what comes to them, but how
| they meet 1t that counts. Sickness,
sdrrDw,s trlals misfortune and poverty
may even make them nearer and dear
er TO each other In truer union and.
finer unity, What they suffer for each
other and with epch other brings them
closer together. What they suffer from
each other gradually forces them apart.
Man does not expect to succeed In
business by merely starting it and
honorlng 1t with the sunshine of his
presence. He realizes ii Is not an au-
tomato music machine where he has
merely to put on success record,
start the mechanism and then sit back
comfortably and delight his ears with
the music Of prosperity. If he wants
dividends OF success he must pay the
assessments of effort. If we want real
lasting harmony and melody in mar
ried life we must make our own music.
II means the collaboration OF two, flev.
er the lonely contribution Of one.
In business when problems arise a
man seeks to solve them. IL inhar-
monies threaten to destroy his success
lie seeks TO remove them. II one meth.
cd fails he tries another He does not
let things drift or work themselves
out some way. He knows 1t is his
business TO find out where things are
wrong and, how he can right them,
He does not shut his eyes to troubles
and think he Is curing them by OBJ
securing them.
Men are often blind or resigned IN
a cowardlv way to unpleasant condi
tons in the home partnership that
they would never surrender TO In their
office business. They often accept us
inevitable In their home life what they
could change II they only would 1t il
unjust to both for the husband or wife
to accept any wrong condition, II any
amount Of effort will set it right When
all methods fail. bearing bravely may
be moral strength; before they have
been even tested, bearing meekiy is
sheer weakness.
There are people who fan themselves
into serene self satisfaction with the
thought that they are heroically ac-
ceptiny the shadows and shadows OF
married life, its preyentabe pain, sor
row and discord, when they are really
only too lazy mentally or inert morally
to take bold firm stand to win the
freedom Of thought. harmony and
peace they desire They are not con
siderng matrimony rs business they
must make succeed: they are deggad,
ing It to the gamble class. They have
the assumed airy indifference OF
man who has drawn blank in lot
terry and is trying hard to forget it,
When nm excited customer enters q
business house with some grievance.
real OF faucied, plradcS schedule
OF wrongs and injusilces as long as
tariff bill! and starts in on a hirh
keyed mopologue of protest, exploding
epithets of denunciation aud filing the
air with sparks OF phrases sulphurous
with Indignation, the wise man OF
business remains cool and calm. He
realizes that by losing bis temper he
may lose customer that 1t would be
unwise. it would not pay. He waits
patiently FOR a comma OF intermission.
slight slackeniug in the caseading
torren: OF speech.
He smiles apologies; he presses the
soft pedal of expression: he explains
dcfers, concillates. He argues gently
appeals to reason. to justice. to pride;
he seeks to create an atmosphere Of
cordially. He feels a pleasing glow
OF triumph in the consciousness That
he has met an unpleasant situatiea
wisely, calined the angry waters hyi
he oil Of bis lasS AID perhaps seassft