East Oregonian : E.O. (Pendleton, OR) 1888-current, 1914-06-17

for individual happiness and success
but also its chance for popularity,
With ones own child the case is
trifle different Nothing could De
very far wrong with your own child
and If there was you would love it all
the more because OF its misfortune,
Nevertheless the perfect baby idea
from a scientific, not merely an i'm,
aginary standpoint, is good thing to
have in your head and good goal
to strive for. Especially when there
is so much that can be accomplished
by human care and intelligence tow
ards infant welfare.
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In the following brief essay on the
self sacrificing person Frank Crane
says so many pointed
Art of self things his effort is worth
Sacrifice. repeating:
SSlI-SdCTlIlCe Is an art
Like the other arts it has its techni-
que.
There are those who have the gift
of it, as some have the natural bent
for music. These sacrifice themselves
gracefully.
Most of us fear TO be imposed upon.
The self-sacrificer does not mind. He
enjoys ministering TO your comfort;
of you take advantage of his dispositi-
on he seems to enjoy it still more.
All of us sacrifice ourselves a great
deal; in the intercourse with our fam
lily and our friends we are compelled
to; but for the most part we do it
awkwardly.
The man gives up his on desired
amusements for his wife's sake and
his children's; but he talks about it.
reminds you of it continually and
spoils It.
The woman devotes her time to her
household, denies herself hundred
liberties, but grows eloquent in her
self-pity; her beneficiaries secretly
pray that she be less noble and more
agreeable.
So deal of so called acts of self
sacrifice are convulsions of egotism
If you have not the natural instinct
You must all the more carefully study
the technique; the secret of which is
tc let your left hand not know what
your right hand doeth. The least self.
consciousness, the least self-advertise
ment, the least manifestation of ex-
pecting praise, is fly in the ointment
There are those who yield theil
seat to a lady in street car. or rise
and present their chair in a drawing
room, with an air that makes you un.
comfortable. There are persons whC
agree to your opinion in way that i.
half insult.
To pay the bill for party in ;
Restaurant. and to do it in such a wa!
as shall leave a pleasing impression
upon all, requires not little skill.
f-sacrifice must be made il
simplicity, with ease, concealing tn
cost. 1t must be with utter self-ef
facement.
II you cannot do that, IL you mus
wish for a return, for gratitude, 70
thanks. and to have your little vanit
stroked. then self-sacrifice is out o
your line. Do not meddle with an ar
for which you have no taste or ability
To sacrifice your beliefs, your in
horn tastes and the essentials of you
personality, even for one you love,
a mistake. II she does not love thos
very things about you, she does nc
J love you at all. only her own notion,
The finest favored self-sacrifice
a kind Of self-indulgence; the pleas
} rre you give to another appeals NOR
; to you than any pleasure for yourself
Thus the act Of sacrifice on you
part pleases me most when / see tha
; you most please yourself
To the virtuoso in self-conqhest. tn
giving of pleasure to others is keene
than getting pleasure for self.
Self-sacrifice is an art; but it is tn
most interesting and profitable of a
arts. and adds most to the joy of liy
ing-when it is we'll done.
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