Five Mile Beach weekly journal., 1914-01-16

Springtime. i'll for both. put
forth their first tender buds of prom
Use and prophecy.
Dual living means the harmonizing
of two lives in unity. 1t requires con-
scious consecrated effort toward attain
ment. In this period of becoming used
to each other, Of learning, experiment.
compromise and adjustment mistakes
are inevitable. This springtime should
be taken seriously, but not too serious
ly. Little inharmonies are dangerous.
not in themselves, but in the bitter
memories they may leave.
Those married people who tell you
ten or fifteen years after the wedding
that there never has been N cross
word spoken between them, never a
moment of even Irritation, never a sim
gle shadowing cloud of disagreement,
belong to one Of three classes: They
have been mercifully endowed with a
talent for forgetting, they handle truth
with a certain shyness, or n of them
is the silent, overawed victim of the
others personality.
Have you ever heard an old sea cap
tain boast that in all his experience he
had never seen a squally sea. a
dull, heavy, storm laden sky. never
heard the tempest shrek through the
rigging and threaten to tear away the
masts? His pride is in his skill, not in
his luck. The matrimonial sea never
remains absolutely serene and calm,
with no rufling waves, for years at a
time. The vital point is that the
storms have all been weathered in
safety and the love and trust, puri-
fed by time. remain undaunted.
In the days Of courtship two may
feel that they thoroughly understand
each other, and that no matter how
many marriages may fail their hap
piness together is absolutely assured.
Yet courtship is only the kindergarten
class of matrimony. Courtship is the
preliminary canter, not the real a
1t is- the matrimonial shopping; mar
rage is the acceptance of the unreturn-
able delivered goods. Courtship is the
joyous, sunshine launching of the craft
of hope; marriage is the long cruise
across uncharted seas.
Happiness in married life means the
happiness of two, made by two; neither
duet. They should feel glad to bear
anything and everything that fate may
bring them for each other, but not
from each other. With union toward
opposing conditions and unity between
| themselves they can command happi-
ness. Their attitude is of supreme i'm
p%ortance; everything else is secondary.
1t is not what comes to them, but the
spirit in which they meet it, that really
counts.
In love. loyalty, ~comradeship and
mutual dependence, even trial, sorrow,
sickness and poverty. may bring them
only nearer and dearer. soul serene
and heart glad that they still have each
other. This condition never comes
through drifting, by letting things take
their course, by just hoping that some
how it will all turn out right. Merely
wishing 1t and wanting it will neither
create nor keep this harmony; they
must will to make it. determine, by
living individually at their best. to
unite in the finest unity. The responsi
bility rests on both; the failure Ix1X be
due to either.
There will come a time in this Spring-
tide when they awaken to che con-
sciousness of unpleasant traits in each
other. The wife may find That what
~. 5oo-ool If~ ano Groapocy ne nhnr
acter is simple. unadultfrated OBJ
stinacy. His reverence for money In
small denominations is not the pru-
dence and wise economy she once be
lieved it. but a chronic tender heart
edness that makes it hard for him to
say goodby to a dollar.
He, too. may suddenly find himself
conscious of unnoted imperfections In
her and they loom large before him
There are, at times, a sharpness and
shrillness in the upper register of hel
speaking voice that almost suggest
irritability. She would e win Q
gold medal as a housckeeper and one
has to be iercely hungry to enjoy hel
cooking. Her conversational charm
seems to have become rather common
place when subjected to the test Of
continuous performance. Her hair II
not always vigorously brushed int
orthodoxy, and she does not seem tt
worry much about r. immaculatenes'
of her attire around the house.
The items In the catalogue of pro
gressive revelation vary; their impor
lance depends largely on the spirit 0
the Interpretation. They are a bit dis
ilusioning, it is true. but they are no
fatalS We all are human and hav'