The Washburn leader. [volume] (Washburn, McLean County, N.D.) 1890-1986, 1913-10-10
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On the Steamer.

On the Steamer.
There is just as surely an etiquette
for a steamship as for a drawing room.
and for the benefit of readers who con-
template q trip on the water some OF
the formalities on board ship will be
talked about.
After finding the location of your
room and receiving the room key from
the purser you should investigate your
baggage, and If any be missing the
cabin steward will direct you to the
official to whom complaints can be
made. 1t is wise to find out any little
'landmarks' that will help you In
locating your cabin, thus preventing
mistakes and facilitating journeys to
and from your room
The next thing to do is to secure
your seat at the dining table. You will
be given a check, generally, which will
place you in the dining room. This Is
given to the head steward on your
first meal, and unless changed you
should take the same seat at all sub
sequent meals.
Your deck chair is also important II
you intend to profit by a rest each day.
The deck steward for a stated fee
will seat you and mark your chair by a
card with your name written on it. 1t
is objectionable to use another per-
sons chair regularly. for nothing is so
embarrassing to the rightful occupant
as to find a chair filled and to be COM
PEELED to evict the mar or woman who
should have M of his own.
At table 1t is quite correct to speak
to the ones seated near you. A good
evening or "good morning" serves to
break the ice. It is also permissible
to speak to ones fellow passengers
after the first day. It is very CONVEX
lent to have some one introduce other
men and women. but there is an in
Formally on shipboard that bridges
many gaps. Above all. do not over
step the bounds of good breeding. Do
not bring on yourself the censure and
adverse criticism Of others.
Do not indulge in gossip. unkind crit
icism of others and be a nuisance by
complaining against the accommoda-
lions and service. This type of trav-
eler is never a favorite. and the pun
ishment falls on his own head by the
fight of others at his approach.
On the majority of lines it is not yet
the accepted thing for a woman to 60
to the smoking room with a man to
enjoy her after dinner coffee. The
German steamers have shown a de-
parture from this rule If the woman
be married. in a party or with an older
chaperon. .e
It is not obligatory to subscribe to
the sea concert. but nearly every n
does. Indeed. it is counted in with
your extra expenses" these days. II
talented you should be a gracious con-
tributor when asked.
Avoid Being Conspicuous at All Times.
The woman who resents a slight im-
pertinence offered likely by some par
tally intoxicated youth. thereby Civ
i ing her escort a bad half hour in his
endeavor to punish the guilty. is not
doing exactly the proper thing unless
indeed the impertinence has been too
pronounced to be overlooked. Better
try the method of neither seeing nor
hearing. The boy Dr. man is made to
understand that the offense cannot be
repeated. and very likely no n else
has known anything about it.
As an almost infallfble rule no wO-
man gets herself insulted unless she
gives cause either by dress. manner or
carriage. Men are very careful in
such matters. II women are careful
not to talk or laugh too loud. never to
drink liquors in public restaurants or
cafes. never by any chance to give a
side glance or In any way indicate
that they wish to he noticed. they may
20 from one extremity Of the earth to
the other in perfect safety unless un;
fortunate enough to ind themselves in
the company Of intoxicated and brutal
men. Even then, should there be any
present. properly reared, with good
mothers, sisters. sweethearts. to re-
member. any lack Of civility will sure
~ be punished and short shrfft given.
But IL q girl or woman makes LOUD
remarks, casts about Der for looks OF
admiration, tells Of experiences In
crowds, and SO on, she is to be blamed
should she be insulted by the boldly
expressed opinions Of men watching
her. This ia indeed the truest test OF
high breeding and good training to be
shown.
The Grooun's Wedding Expenses.
The groom has a few expenses to
meet. He should fee the clergyman
for ofnclating. The best man usually
attends to this. and the fee should not
lie Less than S.. In fashionable 90
ciety 325 is considered the minimum
fee.
The groom should also fee the sexton
Of the church. He pays for the BRIDES
bouquet, the bouquets Of the brides.
maids and the bout0nnieres OF the ush.
ers. He sends carriages for the uShers
ona nrnv1Nou q carrsa 0o fnp himself