El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-11-14
Hold Fast to the Jolly
1t Preserves Family Peace For Hus-
bands and Wives TO Praise
Each Other Often.

liz Dnrofhrni

O IS IS. deadly mistake Of "-'''"'''
To cut out the jolly because
you are married.
During cOurtship nattery is an all
to success. After marriage it is a
necessity It takes salve, applied with
a liberal hand, to grease up the do
nestle machinery so that it does not
creak and Sroan as il moves
II takes the husband to strip the last
rag OF vanity from a woman and
make her see herself faded and old
and without charm It takes a wife
10 puncture the bubble of her hus-
bands self esteem and make HIM real
re what an ordinary, commonplace,
driveling bore he is Who but a hus-
band would ever dare to tell a woman
that she IS fat and looks more than
her 30 years. Who but a wife would
knock the wind out of a mans story
by yawning in his face, and telliuSN
him that she had heard 1t 40 times be-
fOre2
No Wonder.
No wonder that married couples are
so often disillusiOned of each other.
vOrces! The amazing thing is that any
affection ever survives the brutal can
dor Of matrimOny-
As a matter Of fact the naked truth
mas no place in the family circle We
can possibly survive knowing what
our casual acquaintance and neigh
bOrS think of our little peculiarities.
/ but we cannot bear to know rEat the
eyes in which we most Uesfre to shine
see all of our weaknesses with meT-
CHESS clearness- No matter how old
she gets, a woman wants 10 believe
that she is still young and beautiful
TO her husband, and a man desires 10
feel that he is as much hero OF
romance to his wife as in the days he
cOUrted her This is what makes the
criticisms Of each other in which the
nTre Hns1rn
ishly cruel and barbarOUs. Every word
stabs right to a vital spot
How Different
man who takes strange woman
down TO dinner hangs absorbed on her
every word. he listens TO her opinions
with respect. and pays ser deft com
pllments- He wouldn't cream of such
a thing Of telling her that she had on
dress that was so much TOO young
for her that il made her look foolish,
or that she didn't understand what she
was talking about. or that she missed
the point of her Joke in telling it.
ct he doesn't hesitate to say such
things to his wife. or 10 make her
feel that he regards her as a fit sub
1ect for home for incurable imbe-
Giles
Women the same.
Nor are women any more careful OF
their husbands feelings. and many a
man gets the jolt of his life when the
adOring and admiring little creature
VINO has been sitting at his feet burn
ing incense before marriage rises Up
after the wedding day and proceeds to
correct his grammar, and his manners,
and edit his opinions. and show him
what poor, miserable sinner he is
her opinion
Probably nothing else explains why
marriage is so often a failure as does
the exit Of the jolly, and the entrance
of the criticisms as soon as the we'd
ding ceremony is over
The Reason Why.
Yes, marriage is failure because
we cut out the jolly 1t is so easy 70
do things for those who appreciate
them and who applaud our efforts and
tell US that we are the greatest ever
and it is so hard TO do things for those
who never even give US a pat on the
head and say, Good dOgSie," but who 4
intimate that We might have done a
great deal better if we had only been
intelligent like Mr.. Smith or Mr.. Jones
And how we love the society OF those
who feed Us on sweet praise. whose
flattery. subtle and discriminating
makes US know that while a duh and
senseless world may not appreciate
how talented and what remarkable
creatures we are. there is one with the
mind and soul to understand Us. And
how we lOathe thOSe-nOW soon va
can get enough of their sOciety-whO
point out to US all of our mistakes,
who harp upon our bIUnders and who
turn a searchhght on all our faults
and frailties,
The reason that men consider their
families a burden is because their
wives fail to reward them with praise
The reason that women are diSSatis-
fled. and complain of the mOnOtOny OF
domestic life, is because their nus
bands never pay them a compliment.
The reason that the average home
is a battle-ground is because husbands
and wives hand each other biting crit
icisms instead of soft soap. The reason
that so many married men run OH
after other women is because a man is
bound to have some woman to jolly
him along, and il his wife won't ne
hunts up a woman who viii. The reason
that married women seek afflnitles IS
because the wOman'S vanity is starv-
ing. and since her husband won't feed
il she turns to the man who VIII
1t is the jolly that makes the wheel
of matrimOny go around, and those
who cut out the lubricant invite dis
aster-
CThis il one of the regular features
of The Fl p1Sp Herafd.e