El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-05-14

THE other day a cultured woman
OF rather sentimental tendencies,
asked me what L thought was
...e greatest art in the world
Inc art OIL letting DINER people
alone, L answered, and then salO,
and It's the least understood
she stared ana Inen smlled, as IL She
thought i ln.6uuGu TO be funny, but L
was never more deadly IN earnest III
my life. nave suffered, you nave
suffered, the WCUie world mas Sroaned
ftuaer a marLNrQOm at the hands %
those who would not let US aIOne, Ddt
I WuO insisted on regulating Our ives &C
cOruinE 10 their own nOtUnss ana WIN
/ out the slightest regard Tor any preJ4-
oIcss We mlsnu nave IN the opposite IL
an Ioath 10 confess it, but these
! well meaning prosecutors are generally
women Men are so busy Trying ~
make both ENDS meet IN tnclr own
| business they nave scanL leisure 70
NEEDLE in the aIIalrs OF Ihelr nelSh-
bOrs.
\, Oman's Inherent Desire TO Reform.
Ii AIRS. A. 5 Culiuren wear flannel sne
can no more help worrying over the 3.
children having on cotton tn1n she can
neID breathing. Every woman IN heE
heart believes that sne is the only hu-
man being VINO possesses the real Sc
cret OF economy, the true religion, anu
an iD1aIlIDle gltt Tor managing anu
BeinE SO PERFECTLY convinced OF me
correctness OF ner point OF view, II
seems 10 ner actually criminal 10 let
YOU alone ana permit you TO do your
own way instead OF hers
No woman escapes the fascination
of the idea entirely, and the very
first thing gIrI thinks OF a4Ler sEe
gets engaged IS what a perfectly de-
ugh-fuI time size is going TO have re-
forming her husband just as soon as
Iseu SETON suffer From 1t.
Men seldom suffer from TINS peculiar
mania When a man 1lrst la1S IN love
win girl he LlInNs that every Jhlng
"a naw
by the time he SeLs over IL ana gets q
second view OF ner, he is too wise 10
undertake the JOB o. improving ner- He
has found out that there IS noIhlhS
mutual in a woman S idea OF reform,
and that she most empnatlcaly objects
TO the process being tried on ners anu
Women seldom learn that. and so
we are continually treated TO the
spectacle of wives who have an unsuc-
cessfuI war against their husbands
smoking for 20 years and who are sull
hammering away at the same reform
insteap of letting him smoke IN peace
There isn't much doubt tnat the great
domestic problem is gong 70 De s9lNed
when women make up their minds TO
let their husbands alone little more
10 take them as they are faults and
virtues included and 1ndlsSOlubiy
mixed
The virtue Of letting alone is equal
" applicable 20 children What mod
ern children suffer from is altogether
too much attention Our theory or do
ing the best We can for our children is
always to be doing something We new
er think that the very highest best :
if one may use the phTase-ls to let
them alone, and let them find out for
themselves what they are and what
they want to be. Il is a piece Of mon
strous vanity, anyway, 10 want ones
children to be just like ones self
The Passion 10 Reform
The art of letting alone never seems
so admirable and so unattainable as
when we deplore its absence in our as
sOciates. Nothing else is so fatal bar
rier TO friendship. 1t is not possible 10
be on terms of any sort OF intimacy
with one woman in 100 without her
trying TO more or less supervise your
entire affairs.
1t sounds ike a joke, but it's the
sober truth that q woman has to reach
the very highest pinnacle of unselfisb-
ness and generosity before she IS will
ing to let others do their own way, anst
be happy after their own taste, instead
of hers, but how charming and delight
full how perfect and Incompatible she
is in every relation of life when she
does master the art Of letting others
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