Omaha daily bee., 1913-10-01
Fishers
of Men
by BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

We are all fishers of men. and by we
I mean every one Of. my sex. ..t4
And It is not to our discredit. The
Lord implanted in every girls heart a
longing ior love that Is not satisfied in
the love Of father, mother. brother. sister 1
or friend. II is a longing that grows with
her years. showing first in her smiling
overNures as baby to some boy and
never ending till II finds satisfaction in (
the love OF husband and child.
She may srow old and gray in spinster-
hood; she may judge, mans love by the
unhappy experience of some sister and
decry Il; she may despise the dependence
that comes with love and deny Il. bot TO
the end OF her days, though her tongue
may sooff and her ears refuse to hear. !
there remains at the bottom OF her heart !
a longing for IL that ls never stilled. And !
no woman Is normal until she has known
Il,
We are all fishers OF men. To deny it
is to deny the plan OF nature. The only
difference is in outward manifestations
OF this great inward desire. Some Of us
stand for life looking wistfnlly at the
water waiting for the fish TO jump out
at our feet. and others secure poles early.
change the bate to suit the game. and
fish assiduously,
We all want love. We have always
been told that II Is most mRidenly to
wait TIL II comes to us voluntarily. But
fish so rarely Jump out of the water. and
the years come and go, each one taking
with IL some charm that should by all
rules of the game have served as bait,
and we find ourselves threatened with a.
lifetime of loneliness and heart hunger.
II Is fair then. considering how much
love means. and the desolatIon. OF life
without Il, to suggest to nice little girls.
with their hearts beating fast with alter !
nate hope and despair, how they may USE
little bait modestiy and effectively.
Tho finest man In the world IL vaien.
weak creature, and IL Is always the finest
man In the world who is blindest about
the opposite sex and needs guide tol
reach the altar II was never necessary
20 make an effort to win the admirAtonl
Of n worthless man. Very often he nakesl
! love-making his business. and conse-l
auently never has business that will
support wife and child.
A nice little girl named Mary. who
wants to win a husband and confassesl
70 this most normal and most womaniyi
desire, writes me;
II am young girl OF twenty-five. and
meet lot OF nice young men and go
out great deal with them. have a.
host OF girl friends. and while in. their
company can converse with ease on hl-
most any topic. but just as soon as II
am alone In a gentleman's company itI
seems have nothing to talk about. which
Is very awkward position. Please advise
me what topics are mostly to be dis-I
cussed and whether talking about husi-l
nesa-is,a boring one. .ynust add that 2
am not up TO the mark on books. and cons
sequently cannot talk about them"
Thank heaven you can't There is q bis
score In your favor 10 start with, for the
girl who says pedantiy to a man, Have
You read Maeterlinck's 'Pelleas and Melt
sander" or AS Byron says; You res
member that quotation, l amfsure,' etc, =
and looks with a surprised superiority
when he confesses he never reads more
than his newspapers and the base ball
scores on the bill boards. Is tioomd to
stay on the bank forever. ~
Business. II he is worth while, he dotes
on II, and is an enthusiast ons-anythins
that pertains TO Il. Don't be afraid OF
results OF you show an interest IN thu
most vital interest he has, And a better
topic, the best of all is to engage him in
conversation about himself. IL is honey
on his tongue and music IN, his ears. and
II you can hang entranced on his account
of his first skates, and grow breathiess
with delight over his fayOrite way of
cooking fish, you have him on your linz
and coming slowly and surely out OF the
water. tAs
! Re good listener. The man who was
won by being talked to death Is too weak
90 be ranked as a man. Let him do the
talking Believe me Mary dear tha hast
OF them like appreciation OF tho words of
wisdom that are always dropping from
their lips and turn oftenest, stay longest.
and think most Of the girl who listens
TO the'r most commonplace talk as n she
were hearing the music Of the angels.
We are ali fishers OF men. Mary. But
remember always that n is wise 10
consider the good and bad points OF the
fish before casting in line. Take care
that your longing doesn't magnify into Z
whale a fish that is only a minnow.