El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-04-08
Success In Marriage
The Successful Money Maker Is
Nearly Always a Failure
as a Husband.
-Rr Dorothy Din -

A NAN writes;
"A DO you think 7 have made
success or a failure of life2
am a poor man. who works hard for
small salary have never been able
10 make much money or to give my
family the Iuxuries of life. Sometimes
they have not even had the comforts.
Bu- my home. although il has always
been shabby, has been filled with peace
and love and happiness.
Peace and Love Is Home.
Il had a wife whom I adOTed and
who 1 am sure never regretted marry
ing me. although from her wedding
day 70 the day of her death her lot
was the hard one of a poor mans
After her mothers death my Oldest
daughter. then only Is, took her
mothers place, and has filled lit
splendldly ever since. growing into q
noble and capable Womanhood. NV
other children-there are five of them
are fine little chaps, healthy, hardy
and Intelligent, and when they see
their cid dad coming they swarm over
him with yclls of delight for he's thes-
best Tal, and the one who helps them
In their work and play.
"But I'm not one Of the men who
know how to make money, or get on
in the world. I began life humbIy. and
Oth.c people who have been more sue
ceSSful than I-sOme OF them old
friends who began on the same level
as myself in my boyhOod-I wonder
if / am not a failure Then 1 look
at my children and think that I have
got a right to score something to my
account. after all What do you say
Am 1 a failure or a success?
How ION Rate Success
It all depends upon how you rate
success If YOU think that the dollar
mark is the high-water mark of hu-
man achievement, then you are fail
ure-
A man is a failure who cannot make
a living for himself and those depend
ent upon him. But this living does
not include diamond tiaras and linn
cuisines and imported gowns It means
just ordinary food and clothes and
lodging enough to insure a decent
independence. Beyond that the max
ing of money is no criterion Of -he
real success of a life
That consists in doing SOmethlng TCr
your fellow creatures, not in doing
something to them. and the real fail
ures are those who. at the end OF
their lives. have nothing to show but
a little pile of metal and a little bunch
Of printed paper both worthless 81
the judgment bar
Of course. the success that proclalms
itself by the hOnking Of automOoile
horns and the rustic Of silks is of the
sDectac1lar kind that catches the pub
lie eve. but the man who IS successIuI
as a money maker has the narrOWcst
success in the world because he IS
nearly always a failure at everything
Failure ~ Neighbors.
He's a failure as neiShoor because
he has taken advantage OF ms superior
shrevvdness TO those about him The
richest man in the community Is al
yvsvs the most hated man. He's 1aiI-
11re as a friend because he has ALWAYS
thought first Of himself and because
he distrusts everybody, bei1eVeii;S
seeking as he is 1t is the penalty OF
wealth that il is friendless and lonely
The very successful money maker IS
nearly always a failure as husband
It takes all OF his time ana thouslt
and interest to accumulate a fortune
and he has no leisure in which 10 De
sympathetic and tender to his wife
Divorce Among the Rich
Divorce is far more common among
the rich than it IS among the poor
and there are probably no Other WON
an as 4 class. who are more unhappy
than the poor rich women VINO are
married to our great hnanclerS,
No other woman enVleS a milllou-
airess. her relationship to her husband
There have been too many cases o.
where a man celebrates his success as
q moneymaker by trading OH ms oIo
wife for a fresh one to match ms ne"
drawing room furniture
The men who are the most successful
financially are the greatest failures as
fathers -.
The man who has given his fam
fIv nothing but money is failure 9s
a husband and a father Inc man
who has made his wife so happy tnaI
her heart sang for JOY all her. days,
and whose children love and cling 70
him and make of him their best Irlend'
is a success. no matter II they nave
only had bread and butter to eat, IN
sfesd of cake and ale. Such man
citizen