The Jeffersonian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1907-1917, 1913-07-10

the minds eye, than any other word
in the dictionary.
The man who becomes hail-fellow-
Well-met, at the expense of his fami-
ly, is so encrusted with selfishness
as to make it impossible to reach
the feeling which might lie beneath
the crust; the woman who makes her
fads and her ailments the sole topic
of her existence is in the same class.
This does not only apply to husbands
and wives, but to sons and daugh-
ters
This stripe of woman develops an
abnormal sense of her "Rights,' and
she always spells it, mentally with
a capital R. 1t matters little wheth-
er the husband is limited as to OBJ
portunity for granting those rights"
and those same usually revolve
around money and all it means; their
selfshness and narrowness becomes
so painful, the wonder is the man is
able to tolerate as long as he does
With this class of woman belongs
the man who also loudly harps on
his rights nine times out Of
ten this means his right to spend his
money with the eye first focused on
what he wants, individually.
The pity of it is, this sort of a
man never marries t same sort Of
woman, and vice versa, which results
in four people being wretched, in
stead of two, which would come
about if like always took to like"
If l were a man in search of the
Only Woman, I would interview her
mother and her little brother; l
would find out if she was a friend of
the family in the sense Mr. Worces-
ter defines the word; I would learn
whether she played fair in the mat
ter of household joys, sorrows and
cares; | would know whether she
regarded marriage as means for
making a man as happy and a home
as comfortable as her mother had
done, or if she regarded it as an I'M
limited opportunity for "doing as
she pleased, with no one to bother"
And if I were a woman, looking
for the man [ intended to change my
name for, l would interview his
washwoman, to learn how he was in
the matter Of clean lnen and I
would also like to have a confidential
chat or two with some of his near
elatives-barring his mother; a
mother never would tell the truth
about her son, once in a thousand
years, and this is directly traceable
to Eve, who told the first tarrididdle
which all women regard as strictly
legitimate, when it means making
virtues of a sons vices. There is
much else l would want to find out
about the man, and some Of it would
not look we'll in print.
With the enormous risk each party
to marriage runs in the matter of
choice it is to be deplored that SO
few marriages start out on the basis
of friendship-rather than the arti-
fetal attitude each has held toward
the other.
1t is amazing to note the change
of tone. manner and speech men in
so many cases adopt, when speaking
to the Wife-or to another woman;
and sometimes I wonder there are
not more good baseball pitchers
among women, the opportunity for
practising being SO frequently given.
We have tired zdiscussing the
standard of morals for men, as COM
pared to that for women; if l we're
a woman with a husband, | believe
| would ignore moral lapses if | had
to suffer nothing in the attitude Of
friendliness from my husband
would be able to overlook a good
deal, if had sympathy, consideration
and affection in the broad, deep
sense.
But the trouble is, the entering