Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-06-30
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wonder what the husband must think
| of the wife who tells him that which
she is not justified in imparting to
anyone.
l know one man who, under such
conditions, reminded his wife gently,
MY dear, l hardly think you ought
to mention that matter, even to me.
1t was not meant for my ears, but
for yours only"
Such men may be rare, but I
think that they are not as rare as
some persons fancy. OF course the
wife was wounded, but 1t may have
taught her how an honorable man
regards a secret.
Another of the things that a
woman should not tell her husband
is the rude or presumptuous remark
made to her by another man. l
know that this assertion may call
forth some protests, but | believe
that many people will agree with it.
Remember, l am not dealing with
the young girl to whom a man is
impertinent or insulting, nor of the
ingenue who may not know how to
take care of herself. But | am re-
ferring to the woman of the world
the woman who knows men and
women, and who is certainly quite
able to resent any discourtesy or un-
warrantable liberty of speech or
manner.
What is one to do" asked a
woman of forty, when a man tells
one vulgar stories and considers
them funny? Should not one COM
plain to ones husband ?"
The first vulgar story a man tells
woman may be his fault; the sec
ond one is her fault. That is a rule
that generally holds good. If a
woman shows a man that she is dis
| pleased with the SO-Called funny
story he will not tell her another
If he does, she is quite able to ex-
| press her displeasure and to avoid
| him in the future. What good
would it do to complain to ones
husband? 1t would only make a
/ bad matter worse and bring about
| a quarrel-possibly one that might
/ lead to pubiCity-between the two
men.
| The men that decent women meet
| in decent society will only go as far
as women will permit The woman
who respects herself receives respect
| from the average man A young
girl may be annoyed by a mans at
tentions and not understand how to
dismiss him-perhaps. Not so an
| older woman. She, surely, has
| enough sense and enough dignity to
! look after herself under ordinary
| conditions. Therefore, | say that it
| is a sign of weakness and of a lack
of consideration on the part of the
wife if she tell her husband that a
man has not shown her the respect
| due a good woman. If such a man
| be a frequent guest at her husbands
! home there may be a reason for her
to suggest to her husband that his
guest is not quite a gentleman, but
| if the offender be a casual aCquaint-
anCe why complain Of him? One
/ word from her will be enough to
show the man his place.
He Won't Forget It.
Another of the things that a
woman should not tell her husband
are the faults of the members of
her family She will forget them;
/ he will not, but will remember them
when she wishes them to be re-
garded as bygones. Nor should she
call her husbands attention to the
neglect or unkindness of members
Of his own family If she can let
him feel that she loves his mother
and is fond of his sisters, so much
the better.
Surely there are reserves that are
as great virtues as are certain So
called truths that lead only to en-
barrassment and unhappiness for all,