Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-11-04
No. 3 of Miss Dix's Series:
SEVEN MISTAKES OF
MATRIMONY
By DOROTHY DIX.
>r9HE third deadly mistake of matrimony is:
TO MARRY OUT OF YOUR CLASS

TO MARRY OUT OF YOUR CLASS
This is true whether you marry above or below
Yourself whether have undergo the torture OF
aaing that being dragged down by your nus
band or wife. forced to humiliation and
no peace nor happiness in either process
If you would be happy though married. don't marry
OUT OF your own class either financially socially
the least important in equality m the ns+t.r
OF money but this is only unimportant advant-
age or money Is with the poor girl may marry
rich man without endangering their chances domestic
bliss, since custom makes the purse bearer and
woman the recipient of his generosity. but poor
marrieS rich his peril
Marry in your social class Men make the mis-
take of marrying out of their oftener than
women DO because there is tradition that the husband
ufts the wife to his social Level That may be true
rhis country where wom.n make societ nd o ba ue N
mans social position is determined mainly by
ANOTHER ILLUSION.
The illusion also obtains among men that they can de-
seiop their wives and girl be changed into any
thing that her husband peases Misled by this theory
man who comes of cultured and refined people
whose mother and sisters gentlewomen often mar
RES glTi FAR beneath him In the social scale who
has had little education whose family oria
He believes that marriage VIII change her into the
likeness Of his mother and sister but nature is
her own people You cannot change blood breeding
Of the chapter. She becomes thoroughbred and
the whose taste is for thooughbreds will
self and her too long they live demanding
the impossible expecting in her the qualities that
no right expect
As for the woman who marries man out OF her
cal class. God pity him and her both, moth
ing else on earth that gets much
husband of whom she is ashamed. assurediy
tn ere be nothing decorating to a mans vanity
than wife who stands in the attitude him school
mistress and mistress of department. and who
inualy correcting him telling him car do
and mustn't do.
THE REAL CAUSE.
Nne-tenths of the tragedies OF matrimonv are tbs
direct results of people marrying their own inel-
women whose heads stuffed with sawdust Immatur.
girls, blinded by romance marry men with no more in
teIhgence than taiiors dummy, or men who
noney-mating machines Then these women
who Drained great-souled broad of svmna
thy find out that they tied for life those with
whom they have not thought aspiration in com
and who do understand them II Ia as n
vitality alive bound and foot To a cornSs
Finally. marry your moral class II va, o..
religious II place great the moralities
and even the conventions, marry the same iIk
and whose conduct squares with the Ten Command
you can forgive his--or her--faut and that you viii
reform him her
You forgive, but you will forget and AWAY,
the blackneSs of the that has been done and
that cannot be ignored viii shadow your happiness
Not often a man marrtes woman with a past Occa-
sionay he does however. never turns oIt
band Is always suspicious of her, in
stress by word or look he throws her the thing
that she most wishes forgotten. 1t cowardIy and
ung enerous thing to do, but human
The who has his wild fares bettar than
the woman when he marries. SO does his wife for mcp
ana women sinners are not Judged by the stand
ard. and it is less notifying for to. know that
people recalling her husbands lurid
for husband to know that gossip busy with his ufsx
but all the doubtless the wit a nobla
Christian wife, who is Hitting him o the higher
life suffering that wouIdn,t siva
the early martyrs anything him.
We had well face the truth as last that han
pness in matrimony ia to be found only in congerr
with those who are born to the same things that we
who have about the amount OF money. the
same education who are used to the conventions
aud who have the same tastes in literature
have.