The Hawaiian gazette., 1913-01-14

fan secure divorce 10 his wife nea
letis io sew a hHitun on bee fost, ~
iais io smile on tim every TINT fhc
cess Wm. nf serves bic dinner two
hni three quarter minutes latri and
whom q woman cnu secure n divorce
| irum her husband N ho leaves his cnilaf
and tie ON tlc table, or IS ten minutes
late iu gotiing home. Tho expression
cruel aud abusive treatment ~ a con
| fcricni cloak in divorce courts IN these
I M times ana is made 10 cover every
I 'ltur from weary look and q harm.
lu.- tovn to q blow with the hlt and
u nttack with club. For the saliva.
ton of the home aud The preservation
| of society IL is high time that our
| courts should deal severely with that
husband or wife who regards marriage
as "a mere convenience and harmless
experiment aud who darcs TO seek a
divorce ON frivolous prctcxts and false
promises.
Another method TO curtail this
Wholesale divorce craze is the educa
tional method. \ higher, a sancr, n
more comprehensive view of marriage
should he instilled into the minds Of
our American young men and women.
There are too many at the present timc
who regard marriage MS huge Joke,
a perpetual honeymoon, n blissful di-
version, a favorite amusement, n harm
less pastimc. trial excursion. Such
superficial and thoughtless conceptions
of marriage can only be displaced by
the educational method. Primarily this
duty rests upon the parents. Other
educational factors involved are the
religious and secular press, the higher
schools of learning, and the pulpit. All
these agencies should be employed TO
teach our youth that marriage is n
holy rite, n sacred institution, n life
long compact, serious step, voyage
over life's seas fraught with tremen-
dous possibilities, precious gift from
the hand of a loving God.
of our young people could only get
such an exalted view of marriage and
act accordingly, the divorce mill would
not have much grist to grind.
, "Another way to reduce wholesale
divorce is for married folks to cease
magnifying their differences and make
an honest attempt TO reconcile them.
Widening the Gulf
ga harsh or untind utterance is
! often the first step leading to the di
vorce court. A spiteful or ugly feeling
! is oftentimes nursed until the desire
for divorce begins to burn. A differ
, ence arises in domestic administration
: Instead of mutual concessions there are
, mutual determinations. The gulf grad
ually widens until the divorce decree
! hurls them apart forever.
, cone writer urges mutual MARTA
! restraint and forbearance in the fol
, lowing suggestive words, If sometimes
! through difference of opinion or differ
ence of disposition, you make up You
, mind that your marriage was a mis-
. take, patiently bear and forbear, re
q Numbering that life mt the longest j,
short, and that for those who have beer
= badly mated in this world, death viii
6 give quick and immediate bill of di
G vorcement written in letters of greer
n grass on quiet graves. And perhaps
q my brother, my sister-perhaps yol
:. may appreciate each other better ii
!. heaven than you have appreciated eael
. other on EARTH
:. "Will Carleton expresses thi
>. thought when he puts into the lip
of a repentant husband after a storm.
matrimonial voyage, the following sug
gestive words:
IS 'And when she dies / wish tina
& she would be laid by me, and lynn
:; together in silence, perhaps we vii
IL agree,
lie :" And if ever we meet in HEAVIER
$, | would not think it queer if we low
le' each other better because we quarrele
sc here
e "'Dvorce has been defined as IA fir
T. escape from a domestic hell and thos
/ that have sealed the ladder usually ear
he ry the sears through life Some d
e vorces are 'iustifable. For those VIII
"a are compelled to take such sad ste
~ l have naught but the kindest word
70 and most sympathetic feelings. Thi
re sermon is protest against the spiri
Il, of "free-love, against the frivoIou
y conceptions of marital life, against tn
W miserable preteXts resorted to in OrdC
q, TO secure enforcement, against the NJ
~ Christian ideal of the marriage reIi
i" tionship, against the brazen efrronter
IN with which many break the solem
a. marriage VOWS, against wholesale d
w vOrce, and against the undermining 9
lie society nv lax diyorca courts -