The Irish standard., 1913-02-01
MIXED MARRIAGES
Some Plain Facts Regarding Thsir
Causes Set Forth BY Promi.
mont Jesuit Priest.


Causes Set Forth BY Promi.
mont Jesuit Priest.
Rev. NJ. p. Bowling. s. j., former
president of Creighton university. and
now pastor Of st. Augustus Church.
Kansas City. has been giving plain
talks on mixed MARRIAGES to the young
people of that parish recently. From
a recent instruction re quote the fol-
lowing answers to important ques-
tons:
Why do Catholic sifls marry nom
Catholics?.-B Because, first, they keep
company with them and thus have
their. affections entangled before thew
are aware of it; second, they are mis-
led by material advantages, as better
homes. more comforts, less work,
more pleasure, costlier dress, attrac.
tive manners. But that is not all.
they do not think. go further back and
reflect that marriage is not necessary
but salvation Is. What does II profit
the loss Of his soulr Fourth, they
do not know what they are facing.
disappointment. torture Of soul, often
q life Of SIN, the practice of race sui
eide. and other practices against duty
and conscience. They lack the prop.
er ideal of marriage and motherhood.
the right idea Of thel" obligations and
responsibilities. They try to escape
advice that is impalatable; they will
learn by no experience but their own
they never speak to their suitors
about religion.
Why do Catholic girls not marry
Observation-Disclosures Catholic Young
men do not ask them. The Catholic
young men are often unable to offer
the requisite Inducements Of sobriety.
industry, responsibility anu ability to
support wife. Frequently they do
not keep pace with The girls in Gull
ture and aspirations; their tastes run
to pool, boxing, wrestling, gambling;
they do not develop intellectually,
Ask Catholic girls why they do not
marry Catholics and :ney will inquire,
Where are the desirable young men?
The answer Is. that some are gather
ing the fruits Of their sin in diseased
bodies and polluted minds. They do
not avoid marriage because they are
leading chaste lives. The social evil
makes sin too. easy and should be
stamped out, not regarded a necessary
evil. Marriage would be more COM
mon IL the social evil were not 40
prevalent.
Why do Catholic young men avoid
MISUNDERSTANDING no doubt, have GOOD
reasons to decline marriage but many
avoid 1t because they sre selfish. self-
controlled, cowardly. (2) They saw
they cannot afford to marry II their
parents reasoned as they do, they
would not be born. Let them
live frusally, cut out drink and
gambling. lead clean lives. Let them
save with q view to marriage. (s)
They claim that girls are too extrav-
agant and expect too much. Appar-
emily Catholics. who marry them.
do not think SO. Usually the girls
are more economical. reasonable and
self-sacrificing than the men. (4) The
men do not keep company with the
right kind Of girls, who knew how to
make themselves respected. (5) Par.
ents are too indulgent and do not in
culcate responsibility by obliging their
sons to help support the family. Tie
sons soon consider their way too lit
tie for pleasure. An appropriate cpl
taph over many young man would
be HE led selfish and sinful life:
was useless to parents. family, him
self. his country, his Church. his God;
shed no tears, for he shirked the du-
ties of a man and a Christian" It is
natural for young mea and women to
marry. If large number fail to do
so. something is wrong. (6) Catholic
young men must be blind to let others
carry of the rich prizes Ct refined,
educated, high-minded. virtuous, tall
e1ted good looking health1, uir1u .,,oh