The Jeffersonian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1907-1917, 1913-07-10
WHEN DOES FRIENDSHIP
CEASE?

ing numD6r or divorces. we nave
had discussions from everyone
from the highest college professor
of the male persuasion, to the most
advanced of the woman army of
thinkers-and in many instances the
questioner has found him and her
self up against the stone wall of II
don't know"
There is very brilliant woman
writer, Dorothy Dix, whose viewpoint
is that of the normal woman; by this
it is meant that, though Miss, Dix
realizes the value and the dignity of
the woman of today in all the pro-
fessions she has chosen to enter, she
is able to discuss as some Of the less
brilliant of us prefer to have matters
scussed-logicaHy, calmly and in
common-sense strain; recently Miss
Dix took up the matter Of the enter
ing wedge in infelicity of marital re-
lations. She asked when it was that
a man and woman, supposedly happy
and supposedly having chosen each
other for better or worse simply be-
cause they believed they would be
able to be happy only if they did so
choose why it so often happened
that these people devoted the greater
part Of the years they were together
to making each other as miserable as
it was possible for human ingenuity
to devise.
IF we could only realize that hap
Ply marriages must be based on a
foundation of friendliness-tha is
the only word one can use, and good
old Joseph Worcester defines friend
as lone joined to another by .affec-
ton, or by mutual goodwill and es-
TEEN; a well-wisher" can you
imagine better foundation than
that for happy married life?
Zone joined to another by affec-
tom" and in the beginning, it seems
that great many are joined more
by selfishness There is little room
for choice, when it comes to placing
the blame for the first quarrel, or the
first misunderstanding it seems so
often that, with the laying aside of
the wedding garments, too many
people also lay aside all the little
nicieties which played so important
in the courtship days. Almost I'M
consciously, each resents this atti-
tude in the other, though too often
each is blind to the lapse of them
selves individually.
1t is tragic when the man learns
for the first time that the woman he
has chosen for life partner, has lit
tie to charm the eye when the dress
maker and the dealer in artificial
hair have been Left out.
1t is also a considerable jar to the
woman to find out that the man she
has been joined to by book and bell,
has some personal habits which re-
mind her strongly of the prodigal
son when he was hired out as farm
hand.
After the first tiff, it is the end of
all things Ifor the bride if the groom
goes off without kissing her good
BILE, and L, is also very close kin to
the end of the world for that same
groom the first time he comes home
tired out, and finds no superior
a meal so badly cooked that he can
not eat it.
These are all entering wedges, and
they are as evenly proportioned as it
is possible for things to be. With
the resentment comes ). ,lf-pity, then
the grievance, which is aired as Of
ten dis any one can be found to listen
co it, and the divorce court will soon
have another tragedy to pass on-if
the couple decide TO take that route.
If not, then there are countless years
of misery ahead, unless one or the
other has the saving grace of self
analysis which will enable them to
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