Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-09-30
Man Born Singly.

tween man ana his GOd-and such
things marriage can not give or take
away.
Man Born Singly.
Yet such are the distorted views
held by some persons that they be-
lieve that when a woman marries a
man shs must know all that he
knows, and do only that of which he
approves. Some women have a no
ton that unless a husband loves that
which the wife loves and approves
of that of which she approves, mar
riage can not be a success And, as
man was not born in pairs, but sin
gly, such a merging Of self in the
person Of another is contrary to ma
ture and can hardly be according to
any law of the Creator.
Il could not be happy If l felt that
my wife kept any emotion or opinion
from me-" said fatuous bridegroom.
Il want to feel that we are absolute
ly one"
His speech reminded me of a re-
mark made by a celebrated clergy
man to young man who was talking
to him of matters of faith and re-
ligion.
You see DR., Blank" said the
young skeptiC, q simply will not be-
lieve anything that l can not under
stand and grasp perfectly with my
intellect"
Then, sir" retorted the divine,
your belief will be the most meager
and restricted Of that of any man of
my acquaintance"
Surely, if one were capable of tell
ing Of every opinion and emotion, one
must have few to tell!
The Tight Rein.
And, after all, why must the wife
give an account of herself to the man
she loves? Why thus burden him.
bore him and stultify herself? And.
on the other hand, why must a man
I share all that he knows with his
wife? If marriage is a partnership
such ideas are "A mistake. They saw
or Of proprietorship, not Of partner
ship.
Il show all my letters to John"
says one woman, with self-righteous
pride.
John ought to be ashamed to read
| them." retOrted her brother. They
were not meant for him"
Another wife says that she could
not forgive her husband if he went
out to luncheon with a friend and did
not tell her" How little faith she
must have in the man Of her choice.
| Is there such harm in eating with a
| friend that one must confess it? If
! the husband wishes to speak Of the
| fact, or if he mentions it as a mat
| ter Of course-well and good. But
| if he is trying to put through a deal
! with his luncheon companion, and
| prefers not to talk Of II until the mat
| ter is settled, or indeed ever. why
need he go to the trouble Of saying
! Il met John Smith downtown to-day
| a | hone n do iDa
| with him, l asked him to lunch with
me-?
! Could a sane woman resent retl-
cCnce on a subject of this kind?
| What kept your husband in town
Tonight" a friend asked one wife
Business" was the reply.
! Business in the evening"" asked
! the other, surprised. What kind OF
| business could he be doing after
| dark? Surely his office is closed at
night"
Il don't know" laughed the happy
| and trustful wife. 1T Is his business
not mine and I take it for granted
| he is quite capable Of running 1t
| alone. He was before he married
me-"
Possibility of Joy.
When there is such confidence as
|
/ know we all say things against matri-
mony, and there is so much that
| may be said in truth that one who
| calls attention to defects in the hope
| that they may be corrected is, per
/ haps, doing humanity service. If 1t
J were not that the state is capable
! Of something as near perfection as is
/ POSSIBLE in this life, it would not be
! worth reforming To those who en-
! ter marriage loving each other. with
/ trust and confidence that are above
/ suspicion and jealousy, and with the
/ recognition Of the fact that each
party to the contract is a human
| being with a right TO his and her in
| dividuality, there is possibility of II
| peace and joy that all the cynics in
| the world can not destroy.
! Why may not John KEEP his friends
| secrets TO himself, and why should
/ Mary read her chum's letters to john
/ Why must the husband account for
/ every one OF his waking hours and
why must the wife bore the husband
| by relating to min each triiie that has
| come into her day since he went to
/ the office this morning. Moreover
may not John like ragtime though
Mary loves Wagner, and still be de-
voted TO Mary? And may not Mary
enjoy bridge while John despises 1t,
and yet be a faithful, dutiful wife to
John?
Why not regard matrimony in the
right perspective and appreciate that
| the confidence that is demanded is
not worth having, and that a hus-
band or wife is, after all, a partner,
not a proprietor?
Cruel.
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