El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-03-22
Marrying To Be Married
It's Dangerous; Do Not Marry Unless
There Is Love in the Mnteh5
Ruin Must Follow.
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EY Dear Agnes
MI And so you are contemplate
~ ing marrying TOm!-pO5r,
faithful Tom. that you have laughed
at, and gibed at. who has fetched and
carried for you. and traiIed at your
heel as humbly as any dog ever since
you were a little girl in pinafores and
with your hair in pigtaiIsl
What has happened to Tom to sud
denly metamOrphOse him from the
butt OF your jests into your hero Of
romance? What miracle has ac-
CURED to change your regard for him
from bare tolerance into consuming
love- An hour of his society used to
bore you to extinction
You viii not be honest enough 10
answer my question, but I know what
you would say If you told the truth.
You would say that nothing has
changed in Tom No emotional mir
acle has occurred in yourself that has
altered your point of view in regard
70 him Tom is just the same good
kind. faithful commonplace, uninter-
eSlnB fellow that he always has been.
and he is Just as tiresome When you
have entertained him for a couple OF
hours YOU feel as If somebody lad
been taking care Of somebody's little
boy on the nurses afternoon out, and
you are mentally and physically ex-
hausted with the effort.
Still, you are thinking of accept
ing his S98th proposal and marrying
mimi WhyZ Be frank with yourself,
II not with me It is because you are
80 years old and are in a panic over
the fear Of being an old maid.
In Blue Funk.
You are in a blue funk my dear.
and you are ready to marry anybody.
as a drowning man grabs at a straw.
you've lost your head for the moment
and are capable Of committing an in
sane folly that you viii spend ths
balance Of your life in ruin.
On. that moment comes to every
unmarried wOman-the moment in
which she suddenly realizes that all
or her girl companions are married
and settled. with husbands and homes
OF their own. and that she alone IS
left hanging on the parental bough,
an unapprOpriated blessing
Unless a woman has fitted herself
Tor some absorbing occupation the
prospect ahead Of her is a dreary one.
No lot in life is so barren of interest
that OF the old maid who lives in
her 1atherS house, and who is thus
forced to remain in perpetual tutelage
until her head is white.
1 don't blame any woman from
taking heroic measures to dodge a fate
like that. but don't take the matri-
mOntal route around the difficulty. ny
dear.
Examples OF the Foolish Virgins.
It IS the time when the educated
woman uarries the iIliterate yOkel;
when the dainty and refined woman
marrles the vulgar and common bore.
when the prime spinster unites her
SELF with the WidOWeF with seven
small children; when the woman who
has refused him a thousand times
suddenly SAYS y es" to the persistent
sutton who has logged her steps for
years.
Don't follow the example OF these
foolish virgins, my dear. Believe
me, matrlmOny isn't q makeshift. or
q substitute or a consolation prize.
It's either heaven or hell, and the
woman who goes into il for any other
reason on earth. save and except that
she loves a man so well that she
can't exist without him. always makes
a sorry bargain.
Don't deceive yourself into thinking
Lhar you viii learn to love Tom after
you are married to him. Just because
he is so good and kind You won't
gu can't acquire a taste for q man
ike you can for caviar OF olives
You're either born with a sweet tooth,
so far as he is concerned, or you're
not, and that ends IT,
No One Knows Why.
NOBODY knows why they don't
love, any more than they do why they
DO love And they're just as helpless
to manufacture one sentiment as the
other
Also being an honest woman. don't
you think that IL Is playing ii pretty
low on good man TO marry him
lust to save yourself from being an
Did maid2
Don't marry just to be married. my
lear Inat IS the most disastrous
business in which any woman ever en-
cages The lot OF the old maid in
these days is one to be envied rather
nan Stunned It opens Up a thou
sand avenues Of interest, whereas m ar
iage without love has but one certain
that is misery.