Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1913-07-01
CUPID'S INSIDIOUS WAYS
Most Women i'm Love With Love Rather
Than With Man.
london News and LEADER

1t is unfortunate that in the present
unequally divided state of the sexes in
England woman has, as a rule, so cir
cumScribed range of choice that IL
would be almost true to say, except in
the case of heiresses, that the man a
woman likes is the man who asks her
to marry him. This is distressing
state of affairs. 1t makes men cock
sure"
Now, cocksureness would be to me
personally an odious quality in a man.
yet | have known women to whom it
was the GROWING attraction. | know
many women to whom modesty, or
lack of assurance, in a man is the one
objectionable thing. Here We have, at
the outset, a total divergence of opin-
ion.
Perhaps the difficulty lies in the fact
that, as | said to begin with, we do not
know exactly what we mean. Let us
see if we can define little more clear
ly
There is mysterious thing called
sex attraction which acts very power
fully in the interests of nature be-
tween tn young of both sexes. In the
early stages of manhood and woman
hood the CHIEF and paramount reason
for loving is that the object shall be OF
the opposite sex. A very young girl
loves a man because he is man, and
she hopes he may turn out to be the
man. She is in love with love, not
with the individual, except that he
stands for the moment as the embodi-
ment of strong natural force at work
within her. At this stage, then, I
stands to reason that the more mascu-
line young man is, the better his
physique, the more attractive his coun-
tenance, the more likely it is that a
girl should love him. Just as a man
will frequently fall in love- as We
have it, with girl who has just the
charms of youth-fine complexion,
soft eyes, plenty of hair, a feminine
shape.
There is nothing wrong in this form
of attraction. 1t is strictly natural
and normal. But it has astonishingly
little to do with love. You see a ripe
apple or peach upon a tree, half
blown rose upon bush; you gather il
and delight in its juicy sweetness or
its fragrant perfume. 1t has natural
attraction. This, however, is not love.
Love" said Elizabeth Barrett
Browning, lis a virture for heroes-as
white as the snow on high hills, and
immortal"
Here is something that lies above
many of US, curiously out of reach, sur
prisingly rare in this world OF ours.
and making its appearance in the most
unlikely places.
The thing which interests me as the
result of personal observation-the
thing l tried to hint at in my short re-
ply to the question, What kind of a
man does a woman like best?" is this;
The quality of sex attractiveness may
be, and often is, accompanied by COM
plata in inability IN love
would go further and say that as a
rule the more strongly sex is develop
ed the less you will find of the quail
tiles of self-denial, affection, tenderness
the qualities that the true lover must
possess.
Take, as the first example that &C.
ours to me, the character in Vanity
Fair" There you have IL Amelia,
more beautiful that Becky, yet fails to
hold her husband, because she is all
affection all giving, and her attraction
for him was merely that Of youth and
sex. Poor old Rawdom Crawley, stup-
i'd and vicious, is yet almost redeemed
by the strength OF his love for a per-
fectly heartless woman.
So long as we use the expression
falling in love-" so long shall we wall
thing very differs Arm tn
w.InI that the &