El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-07-29
The Curse Of Temper
The Worst Problems OF Life Are Not
the Big Ones, but the
Little Ones

TITLE real problems of life are not
the big problems. nor are its
tragedies the great sorrows OF
| existence The cOnundrUms that no.
| body can answer are offered by Just
| little everyday complications. and the
] things that break our hearts. and
I wreck homes, are not great sins, or
[ Affections. but small, miserable SCR
Z old worries and aggravaCiOns that
] blot out the sunshine and take all the
\ JOY out OF life for US.
As an example OF this I submit the
/ case of one Of my correspondents. She
Is good, conscientious woman. mar
! ned TO a good man, and they have
ever, the woman's mother has died
and she had to offer the shelter oF
/ her home to young sister. a beauti-
ful and talented girl Of 20, who has
the temper of a viragO-
The girl has nowhere else to go.
Tor although she is amply fitted bv
her abilities to support herself. she can
Keep no situation because Of her IN
controlled temper and tongue To have
to support her is a burden on her
sister, but the worst feature Of II is
that the girl has made a peaceful and
'happy home such storm center that it
IS WrecklnS it and the WOman's nus.
band is very naturally threatening TO
send the sister away
Fears the Worst.
the poor wife and sister is between
two fires. She fears the worst for
her sister II the girl, young and beau
uIUI and headSurOng, is deprived OF
all guardianship and restraint and
even of shelter. and at the same
time she feels the injustice of Sacrific-
ing her husband and her home to the
girls tantrums, and she asks what
she had best do under the eircum-
stances.
I side with the husband. think
that there is nothing else in the world
IN which the most of US show ourselves
so cOwardly as in the craven. meachfn'l
way in which we give into people with.
temperS and let them ride roughshOdi
over US. Before a redheaded temper.
and a venOmOus tongue we are all ar
rant towards, and that is why the pos
SCISSORS Of tempers don't try to con-
Among my acquaintance there is a
certain child who holds the worlds
championship for crying She shrieks
and shrieks until she maddens every
body about her. Not long ago CATCH
ing her for once in a smiling mood.
1 said, Mabel. why do you cry so
muchs She looked at me in round
eyed Amusement and calmly replied.
anything I want2'
That is the philosophy of the indi-
v1dualS with high Lempers It's the
easiest way to get what they want
for the person without a temper is no
more fitted to cope with the Individual
with temper than an infant in arms
to engage in a prize fight with Jack
Johnson.
So far as 7 know. no PSYCHOLOGISTS
has ever attempted TO explain the fear
we have of the tempers of those with
whom We must live
At any rate. the fact remains that
We all do stand in such shaking ollfv-
sring fear Of the high tempered that
We encourage them in giving fun reign
. their evil dispositions This makes
Is to a degree accessory before the
rhine We need more grit and hack
zone n dealing with them. and IT'S
iollars TO doughnuts that If the evil
empered knew that thew vrouId be
hucSed out of house and home unless
hey controlled themselves they would
urb their passions
Temper should be made the FT--+
ause for divorce.