El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-05-15
The Popularity Of Men
Just What Are the Qualities That
Make Men Popular Are Never
Exactly Decided.
Ella WHaaFnw ENffHenE-
BY Ella Wheeler WilleO

10y ElA4 - AGGAGE aFA-------
list what are the qualities which
make men popular with women
and women with men2
This query Outlines puzzles wise
heads to answer.
Some Of the ugliest men physically
have been great LOtharlOsi and women
without marked beauty have been
heart winners.
Men with no decided talents; men OF
no social prOWess, men WitOut money
men with shadowy records, have all
succeeded with women where Otner
ana seemingly more attractive and
certainly more desirable men nave
failed.
A bigamist who was under engage
ment Of marriage to 80 girls, when ne
married two of them, says his sue
cess resulted from always talking 70
women about themselves"
That is the secret of most friend
ships and all love affairs. and the e1-
PLANTATION Of most divorces lies in the
fact that the man or woman ceases to
talk about the virtues and charms OF
the other.
Plain Women Fascinate Men
That is why beautiful women seldom
make men happy, and why PLAIN
women frequently fascinate and hold
1t is not a peculiarly feminine trait,
this love Of hearing oneself analyZed
and made the leading topic OF discus
siOn-it is merely human
Men claim to be above it, but IN truth
they are delighted to be the absorbing
subjects of conversation when a woman
is the cOnverser. Any girl, however
devoid of physical charm, If she pos
sesses refinement and tact, can win the
man she admires If she understands
the art Of keeping him entertained
about himself and gives him to under
stand in a subtle manner that his char
acteristics his aims, his desires and
interests are matters OF continual OBJ
servatiOn and study to her The WO-
man who undertakes such a course on
action must be modest. however, and
in no way thrust herself upon the
mans notice She must not be bold OF
self assertive for these are repuislVe
qualities to a man
tunities and be patient A man, on
the contrary, can make his opportuui-
ties to see a woman and when ne
uses holiness and self-assertiOn in his
suit she is all the better pleased so
long as he continues to occupy her
time by talking about her. with only
occasional references TO himself and
other people
Therefore. it is not difficult 20 IN
derstand how, while an earnest WO-
man might be slow in succeeding IN
her wish to win and hold the regard OF
one man, a busy trifling man might ac-
cumulate 80 fiancees with ease and ce-
lerity-
Yet on the other hand, woman has
more latitude than man for CONVEX
sation of this kind A man is perfectly
wiling a woman should discuss his
faults and delights in having ner
anaIyZe his sins and weaknesses lDe-
fore marriage). with occasional lau-
dations Of his virtues while woman
limits him to the recOunting o. her
charming qualities and to anxious
solicftude for her welfare
The only fault she allows him to re-
fer 10 is her ability TO break hearts,
or her cruelty to men who adore her'
or her delicate physical organization
Most lovers talk Of the charms OF Iheir
sWeethearts during cOurtsh1ps rev
husbands make the virtues OF their
wives a topic OF conversation in the
family circle-hence the divorce court
is busy.
Few lovers are so tactless as to de-
vote many minutes TO lauding the Tir-
tues or charms OF other women 10
their sWeethearts.
Many Men Accuse wives Unju4fly-
But many husbands enjoy this topic
OF conversation, and accuse their
wives Of jealousy II they seem unin-
terested.
The successful bigamist surely would
know better than to pursue such 2
course: so while better men nave been
losing their wives and sweethearts he
has been winning an emoarrassIne
OF riches
The way to win a woman lies
through praise OF her
The way to lose q woman lies
through praise OF other Women--Cop4
right. 1918. by American Journal E,A-
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