The Lancaster news. [volume] (Lancaster, S.C.) 1905-current, 1913-11-21
Is The Love Of Woman Changing :?

The Pictorial Review for Novem-
ber carries most interesting story,
or rather article-for 1t purports to
be a real experience of a real woman
and not fiction-called, when Wo-
men Love Like Men" 1t is the story
OF a woman and man who loved each
other, but the woman breaks the en-
gagement because she feels that mar
riage alone will not content and sat
isfy her, that she will want to con-
tinue her work In the world after
marriage as much as before, at least
until the problems of maternity
arise in the course of time to engage
her time and attention at home. The
man, like the average natural man,
wishes her to give up her work after
other words, he has the old, time
honored theory expressed in poetic
language by Byron long ago that
"Mans love is Of mans life a thing
epart-'tis woman's whole existence.
That quotation has been an inspir-
alton and solace to mankind for
many years-it is doubtless pleasant
to the majority of men to go off to
their work for the day, where they
mix with the world of men and have
thousand and one interests to en-
ploy their minds, to think that the
little wife left at home is spending
her "whole existence" in adoring and
loving him! But, as the writer of
this all too illuminative article points
out, the wife has as much to dis
tract her thoughtS-in dress and do
mestic problems, her card parties,
her sewing circles, her literary clubs
and so forth, as the man has and
really devotes as little time to "lov-
ing" him and thinking of him while
he is away as he does in the busy
marts of trade. But she is safely "at
home" and he hugs the delusion to
his soul that she Is thinking Of moth
ing but him!
All Of this old idea is a thing Of
the past, however, and love is no
more a woman's whole existence, If
she is sensible, normal woman with
any brain of her own, than 1t is
mans, and there is no reason why
It should be the whole existence of
either sex. Love is the biggest thing
that comes into the life Of either man
or woman and should bring the great
est happiness and be the means of
the highest development in both
but it is not the only thing in life,
and it makes for happiness much
more in the lives of those couples
who. recognize this sane fact than 1t
does in those who start out by de-
manding every thought and feeling
OF the other one. Sooner or later
one tires of this extreme devotion,
and deception begins.
Every idea and notion about wo-
man has had to be altered and mOdi-
fed in the past ten years, for her po-
sition and condition in life has so
changed. As Bruyere says. woman
has followed the spinning wheel out
into the world" and her life is no
longer in the confines of four walls,
nor does any woman Of intelligence
spend her time putting up preserves
and embroidering samplers" The
great majority of women work-they
are often doctors, lawyers, preachers,
merchant princes and heads of bust
ness firms just as men are. They
even own AMI run baseball clubs
nowadays! And even those women
who do not have to work, or do not
wish to go out of their homes to
work, no longer are content to do
nothing. They are joining clubs, do
ing wonderful works along the lines
of civic improvements; they are
studying the conditions OF less for
tunate women and children, and
seeking to better them: they are put
ting forth mighty efforts for the up
lift of humanity along all lines; they