Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-07-12
Advice to a
Young Man
By DOROTHY DIX.

n 1OIN0 man. WHO Is dLnulllDus
II and who feels within himself
n the ability to rise in the world.
is very much in love with pretty young
girl who has no aspirations beyond a
new dress and going to Coney Island or
a cheap theater
The young man is making enough
money for them to be married on and
live in fair comfort in their present
status in life but he is not satisfied with
/ this
He is anxious to get an education and
study a profession. To this the sweet
heart objects. She isn't willing for the
young man to make his way through col
| Iege She doesn't see any use in an edu-
cation, any how. When the young man
talks to her about books it bores her to
death. and when he wants to take her
to hear a good lecture or good music she
offsets it with a proposal to take in a
vaudeville show
The young man wants to know wheth-
er he should give up his books or his
girl, or If there is any way in which he
could interest his fiancee in intellectual
pursuits and kindle the fires of ambition
in her soul
To answer the last question first, 1
would say. no. The homely old proverb
about the impossibility of making q silk
purse out Of a sow's ear is still gospel
true. There is no way TO make a clod
aspire and you can no more change
the tastes of a woman who was born
without a perception OF the finer things
Of life than you can change the color Of
her eyes, or the height Of her stature.
Born That Way.
The girl who does not perceive the
advantage Of an education, or the neces-
sity for one. who yawns over even a
novel and who doesn't see why anybody
reads the daily paper, who is absolutely
and totally unintellectual was simply
born that way There's some lack in
her mental equipment, and nothing that
her husband can do is going to supply
IT. She was just born that way. and
that way she will stay to her dying day,
and it isn't her fault.
Such a woman may be the best of
hOusekeepers, the most devoted of wives,
but she is no mental companion for an
intelligent man Many men marry this
kind of a girl because she has a pretty
face. and then torture her trying to
make her cIever-something she can
never be. This is cruelty unjust. He
VINO illarIles sir' VINO l'ahNiy auiiillS
ambition should never bother her with
books, or reproach her with her lack of
progressiveness.
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Many an ambitious man finds out
after marriage that re has saddled him
self unknowingly with wife who can
not and will not keep pace with him,
and who holds him back from the
achievements that he is capable Of max
ing Such a man is the victim of hard
and bitter fate, hut in honor there is
nothing left for him but to bear with
whatever fortitude he can the misfor-
tune that he has brought upon himself.
A Chance
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For what attracts him to her is only
the ephemeral charms Of her youth and
good looks, and when they are gone
as they must be IN few years, moth
ing remains but the memory Of the sac
rltce he has made for her, and the
irksomeness Of tie that plnds him to a
wife with whom he has not one thing
il common.
In hat day man remembers what
he might have been and is not. He sees