El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-11-16
Tells How to Propose
The Only Important Thing is That
Man Who Proposes is Sincere
and Not TriflinE.
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By Beatrice FaIrfa1
ny a most mereiful dispensation o.

ny a most merciful dispensatiOn Of
the little God of Love, who keeps
- all our hearts from going prema-
turely into cold storage, there are no
prescribed methods for proposing mar
rage.
1t is not a problem whose solution
depends on q knowledge Of weights and
measures 'Will you marry mer' Is not
a question that requires deep lore to
PROFOUND.
A man loves woman. He cannot tell
when love began. so softly did its mes
senger take possession OF his heart. lie
only knows that he loves, and, it seems
to him, dazed by the great miracle, that
his love had no beginning. be Is as
sure that 1t has always existed as he
is that it viii know no end.
He wants to take possession OF the
woman he loves, and he finds neither
moonlight, nor rustic bower, nor shady
dell. nor a boat, nor a seat that holds
only two, necessary to put his emotions
and desires into words. A proposal IS
independent of environment. A man
may propose marriage IN a crowded
street in the glare Of the midnOOn sun,
and the music OF his words Is as sweet,
and the lOvelight in her eyes Is as warm,
as # he had set the stage with all the
romantic scenery demanded by fiction
The Important Thing.
The time, the scenery, the language
he uses, If alone with her or IN
crOwd-nOne of this Is important. The
important thing Is that he means what
he says and the saving IS not a habit.
The man who proposes easily and
gracefully: who is glib at this most
holy OF declarations, has told too many
women he loves them, to be trusted. It
Is a situation when manner means more
than words. 1t Is not necessary that
he say much. But, oh. may a merciful
heaven protect the girl If he doesn't
mean the little he saysi
It Is neither elOquence, nor fervOr,
nor grace of speech or manner that
matters. All that matters IS Sin
certify. Just one little word. Sincerity
Not a sincerity he thinks he feels, but
one that he knows he feels, and that he
knows he VIII feel so long as life lasts.
If there are those who must hav a
prescribed form, making love matter
so light it admits of rehearsal, let them
read what the immortal Pickwick ad
vised his friend Aagnus.
After telling Magnus he must COM
mend her wOrthiness, deplOre his own IN
wOrthiness, and expatiate on the
warmth of his love, he advised him to
"You should then" continued Mr..
Piclcwick. come to the plain and sim
pie question, viii you have me?' I
think I am justified in assuming that,
upon this, she would turn her head.
"You think that may be taken for
granted" said Mr.. Magnus, because, If
she did not do that at the right place,
1t would be embarrassing"
NJ p5cL-mirI-ss 5vica
Il think she would" said Mr.. Pick
wick Upon this, sir, I should squeeze
her hand, and I Think think Mr. Mag
nus-that after 1 had done that, sup
posing there was no refusal, / should
gently draw away the handkerchief that
my slight knowledge of human nature
leads me to suppose she would be ap-
plying to her eyes at the moment. and
steal a respectful kiss. I think I should
kiss her, Mr.. Magnus, and at this par
ticular point, I am decidedly of opin-