Omaha daily bee., 1913-12-04

able one, or are
happy or miserable
Nothing on earth Is further from the /
truth than this Nowhere else does tho !
inevitable logic Of cause and effect work !
out 80 relentlessly as in the domestic re- |
lationship. Nowhere else do we 81 alb
solutely reap as we SOW as In the family
circle. and. given certain people and GER
tain conditions. II is just as demonstrablc
that a marriage will work out well or
badly as II is that two and two make
four.
The trouble with us is that we have
never vet elevated matrimony to the
dignity of a profession. for which We
have thought II worth while to prepare
That is why we fail in the most Inn
portant thing in life. No young man
would expect to make n bowling success
as a surgeon or a lawyer II he had never
even contemplated seriously medicine or
the law. yet poor deluded woman mar
rics him under the impression that she is
getting a first-class husband, and he
himself has no doubt OF his qualifica-
tions on that score.
young woman who wants TO he an
opera singer dcvotes years OF arduous
labor to fitting herself TO sing on The
stage, but she does not spend an hour
preparing herself to I'LL the role Of
wife and mother.
People seem to think that a knowledge
Of how to be good husbands and wives
comes by nature, as Dogberry thought
the knowledge OF how to read and write.
did. Both assumptions are equally false
II takes effort and perspiratlon. as well
as inspiration, TO succeed in any calling.
and especially the domestic calling.
Undoubtedly the matrimonial situation
would be enormously eased II men and
women would begin married life by a
thorough understanding Of just the e'e-
mentary things. II every woman knew
how to keep house and make a comfort
able home when she married instead OF
having to learn her trade on her hus-
band, and II every man could be brought
to realize before marriage just how much
money II costs to support family, a
young couple would start out with an In
finitely better chance for happiness than
they have where the wife gets hysterical
over her inability TO cook a meal that
isn't a menace to life itself, and where
the husband Is in a perpetual Crouch
when IL dawns on him that matrimony Is
conducted on cash basis, instead of the
The hope of the future is for intelligent
people TO regard marriage as a profession
that is worthy OF profound study, and in
which Il is as much a disgrace TO fail rs
IL is In the pracice OF any other profess
sion.
II is literally true that almost any mar
riage could be made happy, or at least
endurable, IL either husband or wife
sAaN A. aA,
would in trying to attain success In any
profession or business, and all this would
be TO use the same tactics that are used
in the practise OF business or professions
Take the matter OF the husbands and
wifes relationships. That is merely a
partnership. and all that any married
couple need to achieve ideal happiness
is Just to rise to the point where they
can treat each other as two men in bust
ness together do. Find a husband and
wife who work together with the same
interest in view. who are climbing up to-
gether. who share equally in the profits
Of their joint labor. who talk things over
together and have an equal voice In de-
Gliding things, yet who allow each other
in their individual capacity personal lib
erty and you have got a husband and
enough to draw money on at the bank
Furthermore, a man who has any in
telngence tries to get along with the Deo-
| pie with whom he deals. II he was al
| ways quarreling with his partner he
would know that the house was bound TO
come to disaster. He would be aware
] that II he did not exercise tact and
diplomacy toward his clients that IL was
I ~ lima no aba "a
sold him out. Women know these things,
too, and there is nobody who is more
long suffering. and patient, and filled
with forbearance than the business or
| professional woman who has TO cajole
| the men above her In order to hold down
/ her job
Suppose these men and women, who
are so plausible and suave in order 20
succeed In their business. should apply
an equal amount Of diplomacy at home;
suppose these men and women. who are
] so careful to sidestep the little peculiar
tiles Of their customers. would be as
nimble in sidestepping the little peculiar
/ tiles Of their husbands and wives.
| wouldn't they make mstrimony as great
a success as they do law. or medicine, or
the grocery business?
! Yea. verify. We quarrel with those
with whom we live because we do not
think II worth while to keep the peace.
We say brutal things TO them because
there is no money In our pocket for be-
ing polite. We wound them In their ten
der sensibilltles because they can't get
! away from US anyway. We make mar
riaKe a failure because we are too ignor-
ant and lazy and careless 10 make II a
I success.
And the shame is on our own heads II
ought 20 be just as much a reflection
| upon any mans or Woman's ability 20
be a bankrupt in domestic happiness ss
a bankrupt in business. And II will be
when We take marriage out Of tho
amateur class and put IL in the profess
sional.