El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-01-10
Women Hl-Taught On Love
Woes Come to the Race, Says DOrO-
thy Dix, Because Girls Don't
Know Their Minds.
- BY Dorothy DIX -
GIRL Of 26. who has reaehe

A GIRL OF 26. who has reached
"A the age when woman begins
I \ to feel as if she would like to
settle down and have a husband and
q nome OF her own, is in dilemma
she has sutton who comes up to ned
ideal, but doesn't fire her fancy He
Is eSerything of which her head ap-
proves, but he doesn't give her palpi-
tatiOn Of the heart every time she
catches glimpse Of him
50 the young woman is undecided
whether she should marry him or not,
and she wants to know If affection
can be cultivated, and If liking and re-
spect for a man ever turn into love.
OF course, Cupid is a tricksy imp,
and there is no accounting for his
vagarles- Nor can anybody prophesy
what he viii do Certainly we do not
always love the good and noble, whom
we should love and We are often
drawn irresistibly toward those who
are unworthy Of our affection.
SO much may be conceded to the
general cOntrariness Of human nature,
but it has always seemed to me that
there IS no subject about which women
are so ri taught as love, and that not
a Few Of the woes Of the feminine sex
may be laid at the doors of those false
prophets who preach a fallaciOus doc
trine about it.
Every girl, for instance, is taught
that some day she viii find her fairy
prince
Fairy Prince Myth.
It's too ldiot1c to be true, but every
girl believes in the fairy prince lust
as unquestiOningly at % as she be-
H ne ed, IN Santa Claus at 5, and this
cnIdllke Ialth ends only too often in
one OF two things It causes her to be
an Old maid, or else to make a disas-
trOus marriage
II the girl is Of a fanciful turn Of
mind she goes about with her fairy
prince halo, fitting it on every man
she meets, and she's just as apt to
slip II around the head Of the first
good looking scOundreI she meets as
anybody else.
ANY number Of good men. men who
could have given her an honest af-
1ecuon and the comforts of life, have
asked her to marry them, but they
olun Z come on milk white steeds- They
everyday language instead of quoting
poetry; they wore tweed instead of
coats OF mail or satin and lace ruf-
res, ana so she didn't recognize any
one Of them as her fairy prince.
Girls are also taught that when the
right man comes along they will pal
plate and thrill. and have cold rigOrs,
and that they will not be able to eat
or sleep for thinking of the adorcd
one
Doesn't Recognize Love.
Many a girl refuses to marry the
man with whom she would spend a
happy and cOntented life because
when she searches her system for
these indications OF love she doesn't
find them, and she is afraid to marry
without them
Shes very fond of John and thinks
him the finest fellow she knows. but
her heart is a healthy organ that
doesn't skip a beat when she sees him
turn the corner. She enjoys John
society, but she has very good ap-
petite whether he's around to see her
eat or not, and she knows perfectly
well that II John should die she would
never even think Of taking a dose OF
poison. Therefore, she concludes that
she isn't in love with John.
It's g pity that women cant realize
that we love according to our natures
and general temperament The neu-
rOtic woman, who goes off at a tan
gent about everything, loves crafty
and jealousy. The placid woman
loves calmly. The tickle woman loves
lightly and Internationally. The VIC
lent woman loves violently, and the
sensible, well poised woman loves
even as she is made
How foolish, then, for the level
headed, self-cOntrolled. woman to ex-
pect to be swept off her feet into some
maelstrom OF passion that viii tranc-
form her into another creaturei In
judging Of whether she loves or not
she must first take her own nature into
consideration