The Ward County independent. [volume] (Minot, Ward County, N.D.) 1902-1965, 1913-09-18

SAlu, HcI pIlnClpleS are all rlRnC.
Are you that kind of complacent
mother? Do you dare, because you
have built your daughters boat
Alright, do you dare thereafter let it
drift? Let me tell you what one of
Helen's SILLY doings" was-a fool
ishness" that hurt her mother cruelty.
was glad that it did, for thereafter
she guarded her daughter, and be-
came, in time, real mother. She
needed the lesson more than the dau-
ghter did, for the daughters indis-
erection was the direct result of her
mothers blind confidence.
In this small town was local ball
team, belonging to one of the minor
leagues. In the summer but little else
was to be had in the way of amuse-
ment, and the ball games became very
popular-young girls attending in
large parties. In girlish fashion, each
chose her player So far no harm.
When the pitcher was hurt, his room
at the hotel was a mass of flowers,
sent by these admiring girls. When
the team was at home, there was a
steady promenade of these infatuated
girls before the broad veranda where
some of the players were sure to be.
This wasn't enough for Helen. She
sent q note to the captain of the team,
telling him how much she admired
him, that she was sure she had read
q glance of his Alright, and that he ad-
mired her in turn, ETC., and finished
by asking him to meet her that night
at stated place in the upper end Of
town. Now that ball team was made
of men working hard to earn a living,
and they were decent men. The cap
tain was married man-his wife and
two babies were with him. He read
of that girl, they decided on this
the note to his wife, and, for the sake
course: He took the letter to her
father, prominent business man. The
father kept the appointment, and the
girl and her mother learned a very
been allowed to go that far?
There is another mistake that moth
ers make, and it is far more common
than we think. This is the neglect to
talk frankly with girl so that she
may fully understand the wrong she
does her own self when she allows lib
critics on the part of her boy friends.
Every mother likes to see her
daughter sought after and popular
likes her daughters home to be the
gathering place of happy lot of
young people, But does she know
what they do? Does she know what
they talk about? There is not one
boy in ten that won't spoon if you give
him a chance. That is truism. So
is this: he despises in his heart every
girl that permits him to. Oh! if girls
but knew this! Do you know, girls,
that you can not set too high stan
dard for yourself in this? Do you
know that since God made this beauti-
full world of ours where the love Of a
man for woman is one of its sweet
est things, do you know that two rules
have held from the beginning? A boy
wants a girl pure. The more you
make him respect you, the more he
esteems. you. Girls. do you think
your kisses are worth much to any
boy? Do you know something else
so common as to be universally true,
that boy will tell of the liberties you
permit him? Don't you believe it?
Why should he not tell? You are not
person greatly to be respected if
you permit such liberties. And when
one boy secures these favors, his faith
in you is gone. If he gets them, he
argues that others do too.
Boys talk over their girls friends
constantly. just remember that,
girls, and you are discussed very
frankly. A boy would be cad who
said: "Jane or Anne let me kiss her."
He does not have to say that. A shrug
of the shoulders when some other boy
praises you, or, ooh, she's easy, boys,
easy" Mothers, why don't you tell
your daughters this
When the popular girl has numer-
Gus boy callers, how long does her
mother permit them to stay? And
where is the mother while they are
calling? Any mother who permits
boy callers night after night is harm
ing her daughter. Any mother who
does not lend her presence, if not ac-
tually in the room, yet within hearing
distance, is withdrawing from her
daughter the safeguard of a loving
chaperonage. A mother does not wish
to listen. Her presence in the next
room or across the hall leaves perfect
freedom for decent companionship
and it precludes anything else.
l recall the attitude of one mother
toward this early-leaving law. Her
daughter was no longer in her teens,
but the mothers rules were inflexible.
Ten-thirty or not at all, and all pro-
tests were in vain. This mother al
ways met her daughters callers, well
coming them, and spending some time
with them; then she retired to the IL
brary across the hall.
One night an exceptionally fine man
called whom the daughter admired
deeply. As the 1880 limit approach
ed she grew very nj soa as
the mother came in graciously: "Dr.
S my daughter and are going
to say goodnight now. It is my rule
that anything which has not been said
by ten thirty can be postponed until
the next night. He rose in anger and
amaze. The daughter turned shame
facedly to- her mother. CDR. -
will never call apain after this.