El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-03-17
Marrying To Reform Man
Is an Impossible TasIz-SureIy There
Is No Greater Goose Than q
Woman who Tries This.
By Dorothy Din

EY DEAR MARIAN; You write
M me that you are thinking Of
~ marrying Dick You cali him
Poor Dick" and you admit that he
has been nothing but a sorrow and
disgrace to his family and who lets
his poor old mother take in boarders
to support him
Oh. Marian, Marian, where is the
fool killer when a girl marries a man
to reform him? It can't be done, my
dear. Modern surgery has accom-
plished much, but il has never yet
SUCCEEDED in putting a backbone into a
creature as spineless as a Ilshllls
worm-in hOmely phrase, you can
make q silk purse out OF q SOW ear
When you marry you must take
man as he is-nOt marry MIN LoE
something you think you can make
Of him ~
50. before you march TO the altar
look carefully at the man with Wnom
vo1 are contemplating taxing InaL
fata1 tourney. for he will be precise
" the same individual betore ana
after taking. with the same tastes
the same character, the same uesi ..-
He viii not be metamorphoSeo INTO
a fairy prince. but just be the sans
old Tom, Dick or Harry.
Believe me, my dear, that there IS
no happiness for either party IN
such a marriage You cannot SUI
vert the order Of nature ana socLs lyy
with immunity. When the woman
has TO be the stalwart oak and the
man becomes the clinglng vine, the
spectacle is one at when the EeiS
gods laugh. No matter now Inucl d
V-Ornan loves a man to Degln Wlth'
,or how sorry she is for him, when
she sees him q plgmy among me
and realizes that he cannot 4lSl1
their battles nor run their race, she,
too. comes to share in the Worio
contempt Of him -
in which you find the wife trailhs
along after the husband or waking
hand in hand with him You viii
never find either peace or content
mont where the wife leads the way
and the husband holds on to her
petticoat like a tOddling child to It's
me men who run the banks and big
etores and manufactures the men
-, are leading lawyers and doctors
and editors and preachers; the men
who are elected TO high office were
not weaklings made by their wives.
They were strong men VINO caIFeu
out their own fortunes Iney 90 NO. ~
owe their rise to any woman IN
fIuence. They go there by their own
hustle and push -.
There's lust one job, my dear, that
every man has got 10 90 LII 4LA--
self. and that is to make MS own
character. A woman may scalop II
around the edges and embroider q
blue oforget-me-not in one corner, or
she may wear it into FRAGILE In a
spot or two, but that's Just about
IF man won't refrain from drink
ing too much because OF his own
seif-respect he won't do 1t for any
wife If he will not work and sup
port himself because he would rather
die than eat the bread of de-
tendance. he viii never toll to sup
port a family. If he has no sense
Of responsibility just of himself, no
woman can implant it in him any more
than she could graft on TO him voice
like CarusO's-
Finally, beloved. il you neglect all
of the balance Of my counsel, take
this one piece OF advice: Before you
marry a shiftless drunkard, who has
never sven made a living for him
self. go down into the most squalid
part Of the town. rent one miserable
room, and try taking in washing for
a week, to see how you like the
life Of q drunRard's wife-fOr that's
o just about the sort Of a lot in life
you're going to draw II you marry
one.