The San Francisco call., 1913-10-24
Who Should Love the
Most, Man or Wife?
BY Dorothy Dix

IVY HIGH should love most-the husband o the wife?
W OF course, the this question is
w neither. Both husband and wife should bring to the
holy bit of which they
pie. The ideal marriage in which and woman
alike love- and loved to the of their
desre in which they give with lavishness that knows
stint and receive with generosity bounds
Unfortunately, however this dream Of perfect mutual
love rarely materaizs actual fe and it is only too
true that with the great majority of married couples the
loving is pretty one sided affair One kisses-and the
other permits himself herself be kissed,
French cynic aptly puts it.
family wife breaking the aabaster.
of burning the incense of her devo-
on at the feet of who is Indifferent that he
scarcely kind glance in her direction
as one might toss bone to hungry dog
In other homes great souled man lavishing
splendid a heartess and selfish We
him toing like slave deck her in fine clothes
life soft and for her. We him guard
ing with his life enveopng her with divine ten
standing between her and the hardshps
o life-and all this wonderful love
with word of thanks
appreciation.
Since this is the and few married couples
equally fond which better for the love the
most the woman? think that if there must be any
parties in marriage it is better for all concerned for
the the
OF it is that in love it is blessed to
give than to receive 1t is only thrills that fill
US with ecsaoy only cur own heart throbs that send
the blood coursing madly through our veins
with pleasant sensation of grated vanity and of the
of a desired object.
eide between the woman he loves and the who
loves him. he is wise If he takes the latter.
The chief for this is that loveat least
his romantic loveis fame that burns itself out
while a slow and steady
long life does A mans love. matter how ardent
and passionate in the woong days settles down
a good useful friendship partnership of
feeling toward his wife that six months after
rage It's all one to hm whether ne married the Juhet
of the balcony or Mary Jane of the kitchen.
attention. vital things are
business and getting on in the world and not the state
pT me IN not n their
emotions dwell them, and if a mans wife is
agreeable and pleasant makes good home he's
just of happy with if she
been the original maiden of his dreams Generally, he's
good deal happier than he would be if he married
to woman who kept him always on the anxious seat
Inasmuch practically every spends her
seeking love is paradoxca that she is happier
such is the 1t is a misfortune for
have been loved but it is her
The argument in favor of giving the
the is always satisfied
tented whereas the woman who is forced to take the
she get rather than the one she prefers is always
dissatisfied and restless matter what paragon he
The woman who loves is invariably a good wife be-
she only finds her greatest pleasure in minis
trying please him. She is forever her good
behavior because she is forever wooing him.
No is a husband spoiler the
who knows that she loves her husband better
rmony well to the altar the girl
him down rather than the he has
Nor need the
unequal
occupied with her affections that
int o an the really
doesn't matter what get in matrimony if it's what
fires your fancy. It's merely matter of taste
either the husband the wife shall love the
is good family that ii shall
No make happy and comfortable home That
with the woman II woman does not love her
Makes home that is full of and
spats complaining repining of restlessness and
Unconsciousy she teaches children
disrespec father lack of affection him.
the other hand. the woman who is passonatey de-
voted makes that is full of rest
peace, and her children to reverence and
respect their father.
determines extent the quality,
the children she bears that love chill
proverbialy handsomer and talented than
the that born of
Undoubtedly If either should love the more it is
the pity of it all is that all love should
that for the golden coin of
hearts should often get back base metal