The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1913-11-30
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I'm my day" began II woman who :.
ono OF tho leaders of tho very exc,u-
slvo old nocicty set In Richmond in
my day, 1t way considered bad form to
put II. s. V. J.. on an invitation of any
hind."
The discussion centred about n fash +
'onable wedding of the fall when the
mother of tho bride and tho caterer
and host OF other Interested persona |
had fairly torn their hair over not
showing whether 10 prepare for n
round dozen or 200 guests. There wero
others that might havo been invited to
MI the places or thoae who were not
able to DO present but thcy neither
indicated their intention Of remaining
at homo nor expressed appreciation ana /
acceptance of the Invitation extended: I
hcnco tho dilemma OF tho hostess and /
the despair Of those making salad ho.
low stairs
"Evcrybody knows tina, you shouldn't !
really have II. S. V. y put on any sort
II engraved invitation" remarked the
daughter OF the house. but unless You
actually butt people in the face Win
neccssity for replying they will not
do tt"
WHY. never think Of replying to
wedding cards nud invi,ationa to big
functions unless avn going" said tho
young man who came often
And that about expressed The attI.
tuds OF the modern man when hidden
to feast Men ana women alike seem
% feel that their hostess is going to
prepare for a great crowd at any rate.
and so they either ignore tho invita-
tons altogether or else rush up 10 tho
Givcr or the party at some eleventh
hour. presumably at some ono else's
affair and accept aNusivcIy
We all do It. We all havo done II,
and one supposes We all Will continue
10 DO SO 10 the clla Of time but II is
ireadful!y disconccrting 10 the wo,nan
VINO has been so Kind az 10 ask you to
her homo or her ball OF hey club Sow
when ono is Il debutantc one waits
until IT nice man has t.lephoncd. that
hc, desires your presence ia HIS taNi
TO attend SUCH and such gala event,
after which. and only atterward does
tlls bud hasten 10 assure her hosts OF
her happiness and pleasure o! hcin:
entertained on such and such EVENING.
y d"butante just out. with All the
anxiety and cares Of IN. world uron
her fair young shoulders, may possibly
but hardly. be pardoncd for waiting
until tho caterer has taken his de-
parture. order In hand. BEFORE She sends
an acceptance. but all The pret,y faces
I'm the world viii not make up for the
failure Of the ices 70 20 around. Who
ever YOU are, to whatever form OF func-
ton hidden. reply ~ some sort is
expected and with reason
BLACK stock gentlemen OF an older
school have heen known To wax
cholcric over IN" mere appearance II
the -FOUR small and mild letters en-
graNcd IN ono corner OF wedding cards.
etiquette books have consumed pages
and indeed, Who'll. chapters. on tho
subject. but the world wags on and
there VIII ever h- thosc who ,cpl.
with good manners. whether invited to
do 80 or not, and the remainder VIII
ignore the careful lettering OF al
French phrase and 40 10 the party. or
not, they choose custom Is a GU
nous thing. and The way OF the trans
gressor thereirom hard ono Per
haps II n bad form TO remind your
guest that he or she IS expected TO
answer II. but again discretion may he
tho better part OF valor should the
guest need 10 b- nudgcd concerning
TIC proper thing 10 do. I'm Your day
ana mine you viii say TO a coming
generation. ana tho who'll lot Of them
will continue the pursuance OF their
own sweet VIII AS always.