El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-06-18
Drop Him, Forget He Exists
The Girl With a Married Sweetheart;
Tears and sorrow the Price
She Is Bound to Pay.
By Dorothy DIX
By Dorothy DIX ---


"A is very much in love with a
4 \ married man, who tells her that
he is devoted to her. but that he does
not intend to divorce MS wife in order
to marry her She says that she has
lost all interest IN her young cOmpan-
ions and is very unhappy, and she
doesn't know what to do and that she
viii take my advice as TO whether to
give her married sweetheart UP or not
/ am afraid that it is too good to Be
true that this poor, silly child VIII be
guided by ms counsel In this matter
but in case it should be possible that
anv word of mine cOUl0 influence ner
or any other girl in such dilemma,
/ urge her with all the earneStness that
can possibly command 20 Dreah with
the man before another hour rolls over
her head.
Time and again I have written on this
subject. trying to make girls realize
not only now wrong, out how foolish
they were to waste thcer youth, their
sweetness, their chance IN lie IN love
affairs with married men Again and
again have / pointed cut 10 them what
a sOrry bargain ii is when girl gives
all and gets nothing in return
i ask this girl who writes me 70 sit
down and to calmly figure out her case
One one side Of the page let ner write
down Morality, "A Clear Conscience, A
Good Name, Self Respect, The Respect
of Friends and NeighbOrs, Duty to
ones Family. husband, Home Ch1ldrei.-
These are things that she fpr1elts II she
continues her affair with the married
man
She may not think much OF Morality,
but gnawinE Conscience is a bad com
paniOu TO have with you night ana day.
and what about self Respect, and the
Respect Of ones Circle OF Acquaintance.
and the black modification Of knowing
that one has brought dishonOr on ones
name2
DO you believe that the love Of any
man on earth ever pays girl for
knowing that her family is ashamed
of her. or that any dagger could pierce
a soul with such an agony as seeing
other women draw their skirts away
from YOU And 90 you think that any
worthy young man. the sort of a young
man YOU would like to marry, would
care to marry a girl, whose name had
been banded about as the former
sweetheart Of some married MANI
Morality, A Clear Conscience A Good
Name. Self Respect. The Respect Of
Friends and NeighbOrs. Duty to Ones
Family, Husband, Home, Children
these are pretty good things for WON
an to have. little sister. You throw
them over the windmill If you continue
your love affair with married man.
What are you going to write on the
other side of the ledger2
Not our Affair.
Perhaps the man is tired OF his wife
your affair. You don't have to steal
and XIII because there are degener1Ies
that do Be sure Of this. little g1rl-nO
woman ever built any secure happiness
on another WOmans misery.
Then write down waiting Years and
years Of hopeless, aimleSS waiting for q
man who has no right TO love you
man " HON you have no right to love-
one who can give you only stolen min
utes OF his society, who cannot be seen
out with you, OF visit you without
shame to You both Anything attract
i've in that prospect little sister,
Then write Fear. Fear Of desertiOn-
The hideOus fear that gnaWs at the
heart Of the woman who has given eT-
erythinE IA a man and has no way BY
which She8can bind him to her side
The wife has the bond that the law and
society has forged, that holds her hus-
band TO her He cannot break this tie
with impUuity. but between the married
man and MS unmarried love there IS
nothing but his tickle fancy.
No other woman knows such tOFtur-
ing jealousy, no other woman knows
realizes that nothing but her beauty
and her youth and her charm holds her
married sweetheart. and that some day
these must go, and that then he VIII
turn to a fresher and fa1rer face
The Other Side.
Morality. a Clear Conscience, A Good
Name Self Respect The Respect OF
Friends and NeighbOrs, Duty to Ones
Family. Husband, Home, Children, on
the one side On the other, SCANDAL, a
Guilty Conscience, Waiting, Fear, No
Home nor Husband nor Children OF
ones own, no settled place IN society
TO be looked at askance instead OF being
welcome among the people one would
like TO know. How does the account
balance. little sister, Don't you rnlnk
that You viii have TO pay pretty nlSn
price for your romance with a married
And look at the man squarely. Don't
you think that any man, who would WIN
the heart OF a young girl when ne kneW
that he couldn't marry her, is about the
most COnsummate cad that ever came
down the pike