Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-11-04

-r,HE third deadly mistake of matrimony is, lHGz
TO MARRY OUT OF YOUR CLASS
This is true whether you marry above or bs1o
yourself whether have undergo the torture Of
alizng that being dragged down by your hns
agony of being hosted his level Thsrs IL
no peace nor happiness in either process,
II you would be happy though married don't mar
out of your own class either financially, socially intel
lectually morally.
Of but this is only unimportant when advan
age of money is with the man poor girl marry
rich without endangering their chances domestic
bliss since custom makes man the purse bearer and
woman the recipient of his generosity but man
marries rich woman at his peril
Marry In your own social class Men the MI.
take of marrying their order oftener than
do because there is tradition husband
lifts the wife to his social level That may trus
abroad, where the wife OF duke becomes duchess
though he took her from the Sums but is true In
this country. where women make society and where
mans social position is determined mainly by his
ANOTHER ILLUSION.
illusion obtains among that they can a..
elop their wives and girl be changed into any
man who OF cultured and refined people and
whose mother and sisters gentlewomen often mar
a girl beneath him In the social
has had little education whose family is horia
whose associations have been common and vulgar
He believes that marriage will change into tn.
likeness of his mother sister but stronger
than marriage grows older she grows more III,
her people. You cannot change blood breeding
The Flanders remains the Flanders to the
Of the chapter She never becomes thoroughbred and
the whose is for thoroughbreds will him
self and her. long they live demanding her
the impossible expecting in her the qualities that he
right to expect
! As for the woman who marries of her
cial class God pity him and her both for there
ing earth that gets much a woman's nerves
husband of whom she is ashamed and assuredly
there nothing decorating mans vanity
than wife who stands in the attitude to him
mistress and mistress of department and who con.
tnuay correcting him and telling him what he do
and mustn't do.
THE REAL CAUSE.
| Nine-tenths of the tragedies of matrimonv ara III.
direct results of people not marrying own intel
women whose heads are stuffed with sawdust To
girls blinded by romance, marry men with no more in
telligence than talor's dummy men who are mere
big Drained, great-souled sympa-
thy find that they tied life to those vita
mon, and who do not understand them It ia as il
vitality alive bound hand a corpse
religious If you place great stress the
the conventions. marry OF the same Tx
and whose conduct squares with the Ten Command
ments Don't marry a poor weak sinner believing that
you forgive his-or her-fault, and that you will
reform him her.
You may forgive but will never forget and always
the blackness of the wrong that has been done and
that cannot be ignored viii shadow your happiness
often q marrios a wi past oDcs
donally does however but 1t never Turns ou
we'll No matter how straight the wife he nus
band always Suspicious her. in times Of domestic
that she most wishes forgotten. 1t is a
une enerous thing to do but very human.
The who has his wild fare better IRA.
the when he marries. So his wife for men
and women sinners not Judged by stand
people recalling her husbands past than It h,
for husband to know that gossip Is busy vifss
Christian wife who is lifting him to the higher
life could unfold tale of suffering that wouldn't give
the early martyrs anything him
had well face the truth as last that han
piness in matrmony Is to be found only in congen,
atty and like best and get along comfortably
with those who are born to the same things that
were who have about the amount of money, this
same education who are used 10 the conventions
and who have the tastes in literature and pie that
we have.