Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1913-10-02


coming more and more into vogue
in this country, and that is business
friendship, the friendship that means.
in some way. greater pecuniary gain.
1t is a sort of diplomatic friendship,
with no real sincerity in it, and is
dangerous because of the selfish, sor-
did, greedy motive back of II. 1t is
impossible for the man who looks at
everything through selfish glasses to
be a real friend to anybody.
Never trust people who trade on
friendship, who use it as their great
est asset; people who see capital in
your friendship because they can use
you to their advantage. If you ex-
pect to make friends with large
souled, noble characters you must
cultivate large-heartedness, gene
rosity and tolerance. One reason why
| so many people have so few friends
is that they have so little to give,
and they expect SO much.
I am acquainted with a young man
who is always complaining that he
has no friends and who says that in
his loneliness he sometimes contem-
plates suicide; but no one who knows
| him wonders at his isolation, for he
possesses qualities which everybody
detests.s He is close-fisted, mean,
stingy in money matters. is always
criticizing others, is pessimistic, lacks
charity and magnanimity, Is full OF
prejudice, is utterly selfish and
greedy, is always questioning people
motives when they do a generous act,
| and yet he wonders why he does no.
| have friends.
| cultivate the qualities which you al
mire in others. Strong friendships
rest upon a social, generous, hearty
nature, happy temperament, oe-
sire to scatter joy and gladness, 10 pc
! helnful to everybody with whom one
| comes in contact, are wonderful Aus
to friendship. -
/ Won will be amazed to see now
Quickly friends will flock about you
as soon as you begin to cultivate at
tractive and lovaple quailties.
II would be interesting and helpful
If we could analyze the lives OF sue
cessfuI people. and those who nave
been highly honored by their feilo"
men. and find out the secret OF theli
7 have tried to make this analysis
in the case of one man. whose career
have for a long time carefully
studied. and 1 believe that at leas
% ner cent. of his success is due te
F, his remarkable ability TO mak'
friends. He has cultivated the trleno'
ship faculty most assiduously iron
boyhood, and he fastens people tI
him so solidly and enthusiastlcal.
that they would do almost anything
/ to please him. He seems to have
peculiar faculty of enlisting their IN
| terest. their hearty, enthusiastic sup
port in everything he does, so tina
they are always trying to advance nj
interests.
When this man began his career tn
friendships formed in school ana col
lege were of immense value in help
ing him to positions which not onl
opened up unusual opportunities, pu
added very largely to his reputatlo
as well. In other words, his naturs
ability has been multipliea man
times by the help of his hosts
friends.
Many a man endures hardships an
suffers privations and criticism in tn
hope of winning at last for the SAX
of his friends, of those who love an
believe in him, and who see in hir
what others do not, when, If he ha
only himself to consider, he woul
give up with little effort.
The faith of friends is perpetus
stimulus. How it nerves and encoui
ages us to do our best, when we fe'
that scores of friends really belieV
in us when others misunderstand an
denounce us!
Life is to be fortified by man
friendships" said Sydney Smith.
Just think of what it means
have enthusiastic friends alway