The evening times. [volume] (Grand Forks, N.D.) 1906-1914, 1913-03-14
YOU AND.
YOUR WIFE
III-Selecting a Partner
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CBy Graham White.).
In; selecting a business partner the
wise man proccedsW.With due deliber-
able for such an afahsement is; no,
alone sufficient. and@he would no more
think OF basing his decision upon per-
sonal appearances than he would
dream Of buying n horse, or Il dog
without knowing anything about the
animal.
In the selection of a partner for the
domestic firm, however, the average
man displays much less discrimina
ton. The glance OF an eye, Il word
OF. 1attery, an expression Of sympathy
any appeal that may chance Ii
strike a responsive echo in the heart
will often make a. ordinarily wise
he has succeeded in : accommodating
Careful as he is in his choice of Il
business associate, he eeems to. be OBJ
livious OF the fact that a wife. if the
home firm is TO be run successfully,
must possess something more than
merely decorative qualities.
In cases where love has not utterly
o%bliterated good judgment. however,
there are a few general principles that
are so obviously true. that they ought
to appeal even to the most infatuated
lover. For example, the youth who
has his way to make-in the world. and
no assets except a good character and
a comparatively small salary. is seri-
ously handicapping himself by marry.
ing a maiden who, is unfamiliar With
any Of the household, arts. If a girl
position in life. she will give evidence
Of her intentions to become a real
heipmeet by learning how to use 4
needle and mastering; the mysteries OF
the kitchen, and any apparent unwill-
ingness to acquire such knowledge
argues i'll for the success of the matri-
monial venture. -
A well.developcd gtendency to ex.
travagance is. another danger signal
Of moderate means should take warn
ing. The lover who a afford to give
free rein to every fancy finds pleasure
in the. cXtravagant attentions which
he pays to. the idol of his affections,
but .for.tha young man who is working
for an ordinary salary. or who is try
ing to ave hts money that he MAY
such drains upon the purse are sui
cidal to both. 1t is the sentiment that
inspires a gift and not the IL it
costs that denotes its real value, and
the young woman who does not recog-
nize this fact is q good one for the
average young man to forget. En-
.travagant demands during the COURT
ship days presage hack Of economy,
II not actual w~astefulness, in matri.
mony-a factor that is conducive to
anything but happiness.
The mistakes which young men and
women too often make Is that Of try.
ing to start life at the same point
which their parents have reached
after many years Of experience. They
forget that the father and mother. In
their JOY at being able to begin the
marital Journey hand in hand, were
content with the ordinary comforts,
and they burden themselves with
financial responsibilities that raise
barriers to happiness which are din :
cult to. overcome. When affection IL
sincere. 1t is always tender and
thoughtful. with that mutual unset.
fshness that finds mo burdens too
heavy to bear 20 long as they are
borne for loves sweet sake. and those
who think more Of appearances than
they do Of tho welfare of the home
firm have made a sad nnistak Ike in going
into partnership.
OF all the plumbers that men make.
however. none Is SC serious as that of
selecting n wife because she is fair Of
FACE 1t is the aeSs,tItul girl about
whom MON a"tter N0e the proverbiai
80" """""' =" """"le hut when the
""'''" ~" ""","e \" select a wife
'oc''- 80 '"e w.nsomeness-th~
"ec' ~ -~""n"'T Qualities that NAV
reasonably I've depended upon to last
the years brings the business Of the
firm to an end. And. in this he makes
no mistake. D.
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