El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-03-14
Don't Marry Too Early
Open Letter to the Young Man OF 20
Who Thinks 1t Is Time TO
Get Married.
-By Dorothy Di1
-By Dorothy Di1

M years old. You earn a salary
Of $50 a week. and you think OF
getting married, and want TO know
what I think about it
Ny boy, I think that any man, rich
or poor, who marries before ne is
twenty-five years old is a fit subject
for a lunacy commission to sit upon.
When a poor young man, who has his
way to make in the world, even con-
siders getting married before he IS
friend-as the law puts it-shoUld
lock him up in a padded cell until he
RECEIVERS from his suicidal mania
OF course you will say that there
have been cases when men married
young and when they were poor, and
that they later on becaume rich and
prominent citizens Yes. Miracles do
happen occasionally. What you have
90 TO figure on is not the occasional
exception. but the great majority; and
If you viii contemplate that for awhile
you will see that there is not one
chance in ten thousand for the man
who burdens himself with family in
his boyhoOd to ever win the prize in
the race Of life He is too heavily
handicapped to even run
Doubtless you are very much IN love
with some little pink-and-w white maid
en-, and you are firmly convinced that
Boys First Love Purest Emotion
will not beIittle calf love The
first love Of a boy, when he IS full OF
high ideals and romance and enthu-
siasm. is the best and purest emotion
he ever knows, and the pity Of It is
that it cannot last. But it never does,
my boy 1t is as fleeing as the dew
on the rose in the early morning
This is a brutal truth, but II is
truth Love flies out Of the window
when the bill collector begins ham
ruerinE on the door. Romance IS az
best, only a bit Of pink chiffon, and II
wears to rags and tatters when you
have to use il for washing pots ana
scrubfing floors
To make marriage a-success. it must
be properly financed, as much so as
any other business partnership; and 70
marry before you have the means 10
do this, son, is to invite certain as
aster When the day comes that
woman represents to you the eternaI
sacrifices that you have to make LOT
her, that hour you will nate her- %
lust file your notion Of getting mar
ried away with your plan to have q
steam yacht and racing car and an
the good clothes you want. " ait until
you can afford them. for wife IS JUST
as much a luxury as are automobllss
and yachts and things. And one TO
which you are not entitled until yoa
have the price
To put the proposition at its baldest'
it costs more than twice as mucn 10
support two people than II does one
and when Won add to this the expense
OF babies YOU can see that the poor
vOung man never has any chance 10
save a part of his salry- And success
in business depends on what you've goc
on deposit in the bank when oppor-
tunity knocks at your door.
Then If you are married you are nou
free to 90 where fortune beckOns-
You have got your wife and kids TO
think Of Many a man is tied down
to a Door job all his life because his
wife wouldn't leave her sewing so
ciety to go with him to the distant
city where he could have become rich.
Likewise there is this very unsenu-
mental point to be borne in mind, and
that is that as long as a man is sin
gle he is an object OF interest to every
body. and they are willing to push
him along, but the minute he gets mar
ried he becomes nothing but the hus-
band Of his wife who must shift for
himself
Wife VIII Merely Mean Debt.
Don't marry when a wife will merely
mean a load of debt And above all
don't marry until you've got your
feet so firmly planted on the ladder
that YOU can climb anyhow even with
the added weight Of a wife.
Wait until you are good and ready
before Won marry. Don't let any girl
bluff you into marrying her by weep
ing over YOU. Don't let NAMES or Sa-
dies parents unload their daughter on
you to support because they don't want
to do IL themselves Take your time
about getting married