El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-01-22
Why A Man Loves A Girl
He Doesn't Know AID Can't Tell, and
m AIfenist Couldn't Find
Out the Reason.
= By Dorothy Dix
WOMAN who is a social worker

IA in Boston has been giving
L y young people some good advice
about marrying. She thinks that a
great deal of matrimonial misery might
be avoided if all young couples con
templating matrimOny had to go before
a commission and answer certain IN
0uiries not only as to the state of their
finances but their minds. Among other
Esart searching questions thaI sne
would ask a young man Is 'h u.s. Oh{ =,
It's probably Just as well that the
depend on a man speaking right up and
answering that cOnundrum promptly
and to the satisfaction of the Grand
InuuiSitOr for If 1t did there would be
no more wedding bells
No living man knows why he falls IN
love with the one girl instead OF an
other or why one maiden seIs ms
pulses thrilling while another leaves
him as cold as ice.
No. No man can give a reason for
the faith that is in him concerning the
woman he loves. He just loves her;
that is the answer. She's just the one
woman for him, and that's all there
is to it. and logic has got nothing to
do with the situation.
of course, to the Grand InquisitOr it
seems that a man should be able to
give some intelligent reason for the
most important step Of mis- life, and
that when he is asked, Why do you
love this woman" ne should be able
to reply, for instance:
Il love her for her beauty" That
would be a good answer that would
carry conviction with it. But, alas, not
one man in million could truthfully
make It. The average man doesn't fall
in love with beauty. He doesn't even
think that the woman he loves is par
ticularly pretty. He knows a dozen
others that outclass ner In the living
picture line, and her looks cut no fig
ure in his affection ror her.
Not Because of Brains.
Or a man might say: 4 love this
women because she is so intelligent"
That would be a lovely high brOwed
justification of his sentiments, but it is
doubtful If any man ever really fell
in love with a wOman's brains. When
he loves such one II is generally in
spite OF them, and not because Of them.
Or man might say: Il love her be-
cause she is so good" That would
truly be an excellent reason for love
But did ever the knowledge that a
woman was an angel on earth set a
single mans pulses a-flutter? A man
may respect, admire. reverence good
ness IN woman, but 1t has never yet
lit the fire of passion in his heart
or a man might say; I 10y this
woman because she is so domestic, be-
cause she will be such a helpmate to
me, and make the sort of mother
want my children to have" That's a
fine and dandy reason to be able to
give for ones affection. But Cupid
boy, and no man ever fell in love with
a woman because of what she could do
for him. True. he sometimes marries
for that reason, but when he does ne
marries for his stomach and not his
heart.
HIS Many seasons.
In all good faith, if man had to
answer the question, why do you
think you love this wOman2' and he
answered truly, he would say some
thing that would never get by the
matrimonial censor. He would say: II
love her for that little dimpIe at the
corner of her mouth" Or, 7 love her
for the way her hair curls around the
nape of her white mex" Or u love
her for the cunning look in her eyes
when say something that startles
Or he would say. 'I love her because
her eyes mist over with comprehen-
sion and sympathy at a tender passage
IN book, or a pathetic scene in a
play Or, 4 love her because she is
little and weak, and clings to me like
a trusting child" Or, I love her be-
cause she always sees the points in nv
stories, and laughs at my jokes, and
IS the only woman I ever met that
had intelligence enough 70 appreciate
me"
Or, when the man was asked. why
90 you love this woman" he might
simply throw up his hands and reply:
search me- But I do"
And that's as good a reason as any