El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-11-09
Many Blunder In Marrying
The First Deadly Mistake Of Mat
rimOny Is TO Marry On An In
sufficient Income.
- nv nOrofHw Dix

BY Dorothy DIX.
THE first deadly mistake Of matri-
mOny is:
To marry on an insufficient
income.
Matrimony has its commercial as
well as its sentimental side, and while
mere money alone win not make a
happy marriage, neither viii love
alone Tt takes food to supply the
heart throbs, and at the bottom Of
every successful marriage there must
be strong financial plank capable OF
supporting q comfortable home.
OF course, the lovers view Of life
is all circling wings and golden glory,
and poetry, and romance He feels,
while he is still counting girl, that
nothing else matters but the bliss Of
calling her his own He believes that
he can disdain such material things
as food and clothes. and houses, and
It is no trick at all TO persuade a girl
who has no worldly experience, into
accepting this point of view.
Lovers Have Sublime Faith.
So in a trance Of JOY. literally doped
with sentiment, they marry, with
sort of sublime faith that those who
put their trust in God viii be mirac-
ulously fed. as the prophet was by the
But Cupid isn't that sort Of bird.
BE IS no miracle worker he sup
plies no lOaves, nor lobster Newburgh.
nor even plain beefsteak and onions
Nor does he prevent clothes from
wearing out llOL coAlNAl inc A@LAN W.
lector's heart so that he furnishes an
apartment with moder. cOnveniences
free to the enamOred pair.
On the contrary, life goes on for
people who are in love Just as it does
for those who are out of love. Moth
ing stops the processes OF nature. We
get hungry, we get colo we crave the
same amusements. we have the same
tastes after marriage as we did be
fore. and the plain. hideous fact stareS
us in the face that when we have
-E~a1r- hos
stiles we are not happy, no matter
how much affection we have for some
other individual.
Not Romantic.
It isn't romantic-it even fills you
with a deep disgust for the weakness
Of human nature, but the truth re
mains that we have to be physically
comfortable, and have a mind at peace,
before we can even love.
No man who is hungry cares two
woman on earth. No woman who is
shivering with cold and is ragged and
shabby cares a clipped Canadian dime
whether g man loves her or nor
No married couple who are haraSsed
night and day by bill collectors, ana
who tremble every time there IS
sound Of the door for fear the land
lord is coming to throw them out into
the street are filled with any high
and lovely thoughts about each other
In such an hour the animal trlumphS
in US Our only concern IS TO pe Ied
and housed and warmed. And under
such circumstances IT IS pracucally !
fnivitabIe that husband and wife
should turn upon each other with bit
ter accusations and reproaches.
This is not to say that wealth and I
luxury are necessary to make mar ]
riage a success. Far from it. With I
united couples in the world are the /
poor young man and woman VINO 4
the world. But there is a wide diff 4
ference between something and moth /
ing, between marrying on settled /
income. however small, and marrying :
The First Rule.
The very first principle, the very
bed rock Of domestic happiness IS
that couple shall have enough money {
between them to support them in de-
cent comfort. One might almost 20
for them to have enough money to
approximately live in the way in which
they have been accustomed 10 1--we
Here and there are notable exceptions
to this rule, and we find men and
women who have the strength Of
character and greatness Of heart TO I
they have been used to for the sake
Of beloved one but these cases are
Few Are So UnseIfisb.
It takes more grace than the most
Of US possess to be able to make
daily sacrifice Of our tastes and hab-
its without becoming churlish and
regarding ourselves as martyrs.
Certainly, the man WHO has been
accustomed to dressing wei and hav-
ing plenty of money to spend on tri-
files, who has lived in a well appointed
bachelor apartment, and INDUCED him
self in theaters and cabs, and good
cigars, and who finds after his mar
rage that his salary VIII only permit
of a cheap two by four flat: who has
TO wear shabby clothes. after the ba-
bles begin coming, who can only know
OF the theaters by hearsay, and smoke
cheap tobacco, is seldom a shining