The Bottineau courant. (Bottineau, Bottineau County, N.D.) 1895-1929, 1913-11-14
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what do you do" said q woman the
other day. when somebody greets you
cordially and you haven't the least
idea who II Isl"
.vvhy. l usually try to be - diplo-
matte a. possible and discover who It
10 / am talking to before l give myself
sway" replied the social mentor. mo
body IL 80 humble minded that be
likes to be forgotten. Every q OF %
resents the fact, even IL It Is only nm
consciously" I
Eyes. but after you have felt around
% cautiously as possible and still fal
to get a clew, then what do you do3'
well IL l can't get w q tag 70
hang a shred Of memory on ! think the
best thing Is to be frank or at least
partially frank. for socially absolute
frankness degenerates sometimes Into
brutality. So l usually say something
ike this: 4 can't quite recall your
name. although ! know It should be
very familiar to me- And then. Of
course. l get the desired information
II think we should train our minds
to remember both faces and names
when we are young" said an advising
friend. ut seems to me the woman
who is always forgetting names and
faces is in a way guilty Of a breach OF
good manners. The faculty Of remem-
bering people often makes all the diff
ference between success and failure In
holding friends"
II agree with you absolutely" re
Piled the questioner. How often do
We hear people say: oh. never a
remember faces: it's no 9 for me to
Try. l am. always offending somebody
by cutting him dead because my mem
DRY Is 90 bad l didn't know him from
Adam And yet these same women.
for It is usually a woman you hear
talking in this way, do not seem to
realize that this sort Of memory. the
lack Of which they are deploring. can
be and should be cultivated. ! used to
be a great offender In this respect once
upon q time. when all. at once began
to realize that / was making myself
unpopular by my h~eedlessness. 90
took measures to correct it"
How did you 80 about it7 have
often longed to cultivate . better 90
cial memory. but l didn't know quite
what to do"
II decided that the chief reason that
makes most Of % forget people we
have met Is indifference. We do not
pay sufficient attention to what we are
doing. Nowadays whenever l meet
anybody I study his features, and 10
the course Of my conversation wi9h
him l try. II l can do 20 without mali
ing It conspicuous or sounding in any
way queer, to repeat his name several
times. and usually when l have done
this both face and name will return to
my memory the next time we meet.
Mourning Etiquette.
The most frivolous and conspicuous
people are often seen clothed In deep
est habiliments Of woe. while those
who really mourn may wear anything
they please. 40 the sorrow IL within
Themselves. and its outward and visi-
BILE manifestation 10 only to defend.
them from unpleasant approaches.
The ''fashion" of mourning garments
has changed within the last decade so
greatly that one no longer sees heavy
wells 10 the hem Of the gown nor the
broad strings lied In a big bow with
the ruche Of the widows bonnet Only
sometimes q sad faced woman whose
heart r with those gone before shows
plainly that she - really Fin mourn
Ing" and the garments Of black are
not for effect, but to prevent the ap-
preach Of frivoi1ty when she IL forced
abroad.
Etiquette demands that this appear
ance should b treated with respect.
even by the thoughtless and Hight mind.
ed. who have no reverence Tor any.
thing upon. above or beneath the earth.
Yet those who mourn IN this way
should try to remember that there are
other people In the world and If they
cannot control grief should remain at
home. There ars enough sorrow and
suffering abroad without the feelings
81 those who ! free a. tar % hu-
MANS ri be free Of trouble to have
sadness forced upon them
For i husband . widow wearS Grape
4 year; the second year al black with.
cut draper after that anything she
pleases: for 4 mother, al black for q
yeaEs Wifh Grape for ~ m0pthA and