El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-10-18
Wages Of Jealousy, Misery
" hen Wives and NOthersfnlaW
Quarrel. the Man in the Case
Faces a Crisis.
- Nv DnrnfhN nix
- BY Dorothy Dix. -

each other. bitterness and hatred
in their hearts. cruel words upon
I. their lips. and then take heed of the
/ 1orIorn HELPLESS. pathetic figure of
man between them.
IL IS a picture to make the under
standing weep, and the pity of it is
that 1t is one that so many men have
I only to shut their eyes to see reprOd-
/ uced IN their own homes. for il is the
picture OF the Wrangling in-laWs that
turn so many homes that should be
happy into understudies OF DurgatOry.
IL IS the moment in which the long
drawn out quarrels between a mother
| lnIaW and a daughte-inlaW have come
70 a crisis, and the wife has told her
husband that he must chose between
her and his mother. and that one or
/ the other goes out of the door.
How Shall the Man Deeides
He loves his wife devOtedly. She is.
] the one woman in all the world he has
picked out to be his companion
him She has been good, and faith
1 ful, and loyal to him She is the
mother of his children and he is
1 bound to her by all the ties that can
unite man to woman. He is a
domestic man. fond of his home. find
ing his greatest interest in it A thou
sand voices bid him choose his wife.
II ne must decide between the two
There Is His Mother. Most Sacred In.
His Eyes.
BUT there IS his mOther-his old
mother-the being above all others
sacred in his eyes the one who went
uOWn into the valley of the shadow
10 bring him into life: the one who
Hursed MN through his helpless in
Iahcy; who has cherished him every
step through life, and whose sacrifices
Tor MIN have been uncOunted
an that he IS of good. all that he
ever hopes TO be. he owes to his
mother, and he never looks ar her
work knotted old hands without want
tIS 10 go down on his knees and kiss
Ihem IN gratitude And now his wife
IeH!ahds lhaL he shall repay that debit
py turning the old woman out Of his
How can he decide against his
notherE Wife against mOtherl These
ale me Two women in the world the
man loves best the ones to whom he
mas most tried 10 do his duty. ana
gStWeen them they are crucifyine, him.
Iney tear his very soul in twain
baI-;SI. slaly MS happiness and he is
It is tragic situation. professionally
uas4c because both women love the
( man tney torture They would do anv-
lI-IS else on earth for him excepr
9 9I-I- ohelr petty spite and jealousy ana
Ihey would make any sacrifice for
MN except give I'D the pleasure or
AaSSlng at each other. and so the
( poor man IS ground between the uDDer
and neither millstOnes of his wife ana
MS mother
one does not conflict with the other
, and. as a matter of fact a Tna1 is
tenoerer 10 his wife the more he loves
~ molner, and the more he aDpre-
cldtes ms mother the more he secs
Whal WlfehOOd and motherhood mean
70 MS own wife
b0th Have Reasons for Loving
Each Other.
~. ~ would seem that II a young wo-
man mad one spark of generosity in
isT nature, and if she really loved the
man she married. she would feel that os
~ women on earth, next to her own
mother, the closest 70 her was the
woman who had raised m for her
good husband. It would seen, that
she would appreciate all that the 0tba-
woman mad gone through TO bring IN
spIehdld man for her and that she
cOuIo not do enough for his mother /
II would seem that if a mother.
really loved her son she would desire
e 800 every thlng else his happiness
ana Inat If he had married a wife that
was good TO him. and tender. and az
tsCtlonaIes and helpful to him she
would De filled with gratitude toward
But is this the case? Far from, - WE,
= t-Ieu with surging Jealousy OF
molLIherlnlaw, because her husband
SSIILlL IoNes the mother who bore him
liner IS green eyed when she thinks
or daughter in law because her So,
PICKED her out for a wife And thew
nag eacn oJher, and harp on each
4au4lS. ana interfere with
each other. and hate each Other worse
than poison.
And both forget, in their feud. the
tIldn VINO loves them both. and who is
their haDless victim O -
Ihey Can Get Along HarmOniOusIy.
hut while this is true, it is also true
that any motherinlaw and daughter
NAV can get along harmoniOusIyri
II Jney want to do so. and try to
make friends of each other instead or
enemies and that they can sink their
GIIerences for the sake of the man
Jney love, If they love him unseIfishIv
FOR In her heart every wife knows
Ihat her husband cannot be happy il
she separates him from his mother,
ana every mother knows she is wreck
ing her sons life when she separates
MIN from his wife. or does ANYTHING
10 kill his love for his wife.
rms Is the lesson of this picture.
ladies' Study it well. Look with
seeing eyes the tragic figure of the
unfortunate man. forced to choose be-
tween wife and mother and never give