The Richmond palladium and sun-telegram. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1907-1939, 1913-08-09
ADVICE TO A YOUNG MAN
YOUNG man, who is ambi-
tious and who feels within
himself the ability to rise
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himself the dpilIIy W ilo@
- - in the world, is very much
in love with a pretty young girl who
has no aspirations beyond new
dress and going to Coney Island or
cheap theatre.
The young man is making enough
money for them to be married on and
live in fair comfort in their present
status in life, but he is not satisfied
with this.
He is anxious to get an education
and study profession. To this the
sweetheart objects. She isn't willing
to wait for the young man to make
his way through college. She doesn't
see any use in an education, anyhow
When the young man talks to her
about books it bores her to death, and
when he wants to take her to hear
good lecture or good music she offsets
lit with a proposal to take in a vaude-
vile show.
The young man wants to know
whether he should give up his books
or his girl, or if there is any way in
which he could interest his fiancee in
intellectual pursuits and kindle the
fires of ambition in her soul.
To answer the last question first,
would say no. The homely old proverb
.about the impossibility of making
silk purse out of sow's ear is still
gospel true. There is no way to make
IN clod aspire, and you can no more
change the tastes of woman who was
born without perception of the fined
things of life than you can change
the color of her eyes, or the height
Iof her stature.
1DORN THAT WAY.
The girl who does not perceive the
advantages of an education, or the
necessity for one, who yawns over
even a novel and who doesn't see why
anybody reads the daily paper, who
is absolutely and totally unintellectual
was simply born that way. There's
some lack in her mental equipment,
and nothing that her husband can do
is going to supply it. She was just
born that way, and that way she will
stay to her dying day, and it isn't her
fault. ,~~
Such a woman may be the best of
housekeepers, the most devoted of
wives, but she is no mental compan-
ion for an intelligent man. Many men
marry this kind of a girl because she
has pretty face, and then torture her
trying to make her clever-something
she can never be. This is cruelty I'M
just. He who marries girl who frank
1y admits that she doesn't like to read
and has no ambition should never
bother her with books, or reproach her
with her lack of progressiveness.
AS to which he should take when
a man is called upon to choose be-
tween his career and his sweetheart,
! should say take the career every
time, because an ambitious man soon
learns to hate any woman who is the
handicap that prevents him winning
in the race of life, When even those
that we love become burden upon us
that keep us from success-goodby
love! This is unromantic, but true.
Many an ambitious man finds out
after marriage that he has saddled
himself unknowingly with wife who
cannot and will not keep pace with
him, and who holds him back from
the achievements that he is capable of
making. Such man is the victim of
hard and bitter fate, but in honor
there is nothing left for him but to
bear with whatever fortitude he can
the misfortune that he has brought
upon himself.
A CHANCE.
But the man who finds out before
marriage that the girl he thinks him
self in love with is not his mental and
spiritual mate, that she cannot think
his thoughts, that she is not interest
ed in the pursuits that he is interest
ed In: that she does not wish to reach
the goal toward which his feet are set,
has still chance to save himself
from marriage that is bound to bring
misery both to himself and the wom-
an.
For what attracts him to her is only
the ephemeral charms Of her youth
and good looks, and when they are
gone, as they must be in few years,
nothing remains but the memory OF
the sacrifice he has made for her, and
the irksomeness of a tie that binds
him to wife with whom he has not
one thing in common.
In that day a man remembers what
he might have been and is not. He
sees other men, no better equipped
than himself, climbing up to the top of
the ladder while he sits at the bottom
with his dull, and commonplace wife.
And in that day he sees with fatal
clearness just how much of the earth,
earthly is the woman who is not ami
mated by anything except a desire for
the things that make for her physical
comfort
Matrimony can mean the closest
companionship that two human beings
ever attain. 1t can be literally two
souls with but a single thought, and