Norwich bulletin., 1913-04-12
THE MAN WHO TALKS

tion Is better demonstrated than 1T . the garden. The plants and the pol len-bears, whether they be insects o1 , favering winds, must get together or . the law of nature cannot be fulfilled
 I he plants cannot fight down their
 cnenaies, the weeds; or the bugs; but they together with the aid of man do their best. Have you ever thought what a plant does for you depends
 upon what you do for the plant
 Plants are responsive to attentfon and this is the reason that two persons .l given the same plants in the same
 soil with the same amount Of fertilizer
 do not get the same results unless
 trey give the plants the same atten-
 ton. I hear you say they may not do as well If they get the same attention, which is true. fl the seeds CT tubers are not of equal quality. If the soil
 and the plants are equal fT~Svery way, they will resent neglect. Some plants need firmer soil than others. and some I need more water than the rainfall. 1 They must be served if you would have them serve you well.
 Love creates the perfect home-life; ] but sometimes I think fear can set up 1 an appearance almost as good In 1 this world of ours too many things
 are done because those doing them do 1 not dare to do any dffferent-they
 thread the discordant relations which negligence would give rise to. It is 1 surprising how savage people of united interests can be toward one an
 other. Many a woman with pretty
 face carries 8 marble heart, and many
 man with gentle manners doesn't
 restrain the savage within him at home. The dual life is too common.
 There are too many Dr. Jekylls and ] MT. Hydes in everyday hfe-the type is common. if the intensity is not. , edness in family life-doing things on l the sly to avert row is not healthy. Differences of opinions in small mat ! ters are too set Friction is too com
 mon. Those who know how to agree to disagree have won great fight. 1 Those who have to keep making con-
 sessions to keep the peace do not know what happiness is
 When we are spinning yarns in
 company we cannot always tell whether those present are laughing it is just as well that we should not
 know too much. If we really knew i when persons were laughing at us in stead of with us how much less we should enjoy life-espeeia1ly. story telling. Before telling story it is just well to be sure it is worth tell ing; and next we need be confident we tell it well, for what can be worse a story poorly told. Not one in ten of the stories told are worth repeat ing and not more than one, story-tel Ter in twenty commands the adrnira- tion of his listeners because of his
 masterful recitation. Everybody can
 not tell a story: and it is rather re-
 freshing to meet the person who knows
 Ee or she cannot tell story enter
 tainingly.s- It is quite an accomplish
 ment to know what you can't do, and
 be sure of it.
 One of the poorest excuses for doing
 1air iS ceryon Vxrn a
 mire or respect does it: and it is also
 one of the worst excuses for spending
 money for something we cannot afford
 to have. It is always better to lead
 than to follow; and there is nothing against leading in simplicity as against extravaganza. Habits of this kind make some people ridiculous; and
 they keep other people poor. Such people of course. lack initiative-they
 haven't the capacity to lead the way, SC they are always found following;
 and they do not display good judg- ment even at that. This having others-has no merit in it. The girl who told the photographer that she wanted her picture to look like Aunt Maria's was a person of this sort. We and to be mindful of our ability and needs; and capable of doing as we please in the affairs of life.
 There are women who can put on 8 hat that cost 75 cents and wear it as il it cost $20. exciting the interest of all friends and acquaintiness, and prompting some of them to talk of her extravagance I have long questioned whether being genius along these lines ever proved profitable to a wom- an. One of the most generously talk ed about women I ever knew could make dollar go further and do more han most women could five; and the gossip about how she wasted her hus- bands hard earnings was painful to listen to. It never does to judge by Judgement discredited. Money talks, i and shows the bad taste of those who dc not know how to spend it; and the l bad manners of those who would have ] obeisance made to it. Skill makes 1 a little money go a great ways; and i good taste makes fine combinations of l every sort What things cost is no | measure of their beauty or usefulness. l
 1t is a great loss for man to lose his self-respect; but he doesn't be- i come conscious that it is gone until l everyone else has lost respect for him: l and then he never confesses that he | has lost his self-respect. but permits his conduct to make 1t evident. The | fact that he has become cal1ous to a1l l the tender emotions. and cannot be i moved by a mothers tears, a Wffe's | appeals or childrens pleas leaves no l 6orTht he has become a concrete sAv- age. and he is called 8 wretch oftener 1 than he likes to be. It used to be 1 quite the thing to waste good deal i of pity upon fellows of this sort; but | those he annOys and drags down are i the ones who deserve the gentle word l and aets of kindness. The man who l becomes an enemy of himself in any | respect has stepped outside the pale l Of public regard. The price of man hood is good behavior, and it is not dear.
 A westerner comes forward with a | new conception of school merits He | would mark pupils upon their per sonal qualities instead of upon the 1 excellence of the recftatfons The schoolroom, he declares, is a charac- place, and that marks on studies do not help character For instance he says. John Jones takes