Arizona sentinel and Yuma weekly examiner., 1913-08-14
MAN AND WIFE SHOULD DECIDE
 DIFFERENCES

DIFFERENCES
 No human being is capable if giv ing safe and sane councel to a mar ried man or a married woman respect ing differences. It is matter which should be decided between the two.
 When any third person intervenes a judge of the court is the proper party.
 The most intimate friends of family are not capable of saying where the fault lies in the major ity of cases.
 Even when a wife seems to be indifferent to her family and to her husband and even when hus band seems to be unappreciatiVe of his home, there may be causes for either offense undreamed of by those who believe themselves to be close friends.
 There are men who seem to the world at large the most perfect spec linens of domestic nobility, honor and probity, yet who are impossible as companions and life comrades of wom- en of refinement and sensitive feeling and there are women who pass in the worlds eyes as engels of goodness who are possessed of unpleasan. traits enough to drive any normal man to drink or to insanity if he compelled to live with them.
 The real Acharacter, the real dis position of any human being is nevei known or understood until we have spent a year at least in steady as sociation under the same roof.
 The following letter reveals moth ing of the writer's character.
 It reveals nothing of the wife, nature.
 Therefore it is impossible to give any opinion of value regarding the case. Even were it possible the writer of this does not wish to ad wise of course individuals save in the general way of character building which is the real work of the race. The correspondent says:
 'I am a married man with two children and earning a good sal ary, but seperated for some years owing to not being able to get along in harmony. Recently my wife cal  ed upon me and implored that I com init infidelity in order that she may secure a divorce from me, as she haf an opportunity to marry. I agreed to do so if she would compromise by giving me one of the children, bu: she absolutely refuses, offering a an excuse that she is too deeply attached to them. I maintain i she loves this other man she would sacrifice one of the children or both of them to me, as I have g good home and nice surroundings Although l do not say she has not the same advantages, still I feel ! could rear them up better under my influence and meet the future better than under this other man.
 My wife is twenty-six years old and, as that is comparatively young I do not want to destroy her happi ness. If I am in the wrong I would willingly sacrifice my side of the is sue and grant her a divorce, but be fore I do I would like to hear youl opinion.
 All that can be said in reply ii this: The children should be placel under the care of people who arc best fitted by character and mora worth and good behavior to bring them up.
 Blood ties have nothing to do witt the matter.
 Paternal or maternal love, as tha word is generally used. has little t do with the moral aspect of tn case.
 Women who gossip, who are dis orderly, who are weak-willed, and wh allow their children to see all thes traits daily have no right to bring u their children, no matter how the love them.
 Fathers who are living immora lives, who are associating with roug cidents were put on record by tn