The Fargo forum and daily republican. [volume] (Fargo, N.D.) 1894-1957, 1913-07-26
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hour and the train mentioned by her.
Mistakes are thus avoided. When the
day comes 1T may be a satisfaction+to
q hostess to receive a telegram stating
the time one expects to arrive. This is
an assurance that nothing has inter-
fered with the plan agreed upon. When
writing a regret in reply to the invita-
ton there should be no suggestion in
1t that one would be glad to come at
some future time. The note should
contain an appreciation OF the kind in
Vttation and sincere regret that 1t can
not be accepted on account of other
may be-. Promptness in keeping the
appointment Is important. Dilatori-
ness Is a serious blunder on the part
of an expected guest, who cannot
know how inconvenient this may be to
the plans OF a hostess. A~daptability
and. ~tactfulness are very necessary
qualifications. One must adapt ones
self Immediately to the ways of the
household. that the regular order of
things may not be disturbed. If UNI
certain about waking in the morning,
1t Is well to ask to be called. Pune
tual1ty at meals is essential. One
should always be at the disposal Of
those at whose house one is a guest.
II plans are suggested n accedes to
them ch~eerfully, and one is always
dressed in time to go out for drives,
walks, or for any other diversions. IT
is tedious and annoying for others to
be kept waiting by someone who is
never ready. Consideration is an evil
dence of good breeding. 1t is an obli-
cation not to make any plans or en-
gagements without consulting the host
ess In advance. 1t is a breach of ETH
quette for a girl to make a convenience
Of a friends house to receive a man
friend or acquaintance who Is not in
favor in her w home. If she has in
the neighborhood young men friends,
she. should not receive visits from them
without first asking her hostess if it
will be agreeable to her to have them
call. When her friends call she should
be careful to introduce them to her
hostess. A thoughtful person takes
the trouble to be agreeable to others
who may be staying in the house. One
should show special attention to older
persons, members of the family, or 9TH
ers who may not seem quite so inter
esting as youthful companions, but to
whom Difference is due. Weli-bred per-
sons do not discuss with other guests
the affairs or p~ecuHaritties of the FAM
iiy IRE; nor do they criticise one guest
ments should be used for the pleasure
OF the household. To know when to
eHace ones self Is a talent In itself,
A guest who is forever seeming to ex-
act or expect attention is tiresome.
Another point is to be careful in ones
room OF all the belongings and not to
leave ones own things in disorder.
Inc wise guest is never persuaded to
proiong a visit beyond the time orig
fnally stated. There is danger in
wearing out ones welcome. The pleas
ant impression a. during q stay
may be destroyed. When going away,
the custom is to give a fee to the maid
who has cared for ones room and to
any other servant who may have rem
oered some special personal service,
After a visit 1T is obligatory to write
a note to ones hostess soon after ones
return home, and to express in appre-
clatiVe words the pleasure one has had
from her kindness and hospitality.