Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1913-03-21
YOU AND
YOUR WIFE
(By Graham Hood.)

tried to reform man by marrying him
have discovered to their sorrow. YET,
despite the constantly increasing list
of failures to warn them of the danger.
Gus shoals ahead, they still persist in
making the experiment and usually
with the same result.
While there is no power on earth
that can exert a stronger moral in :
1uence than love, the failure that SO
many women have experienced in theit
attempts to rescue a wicked or a weak
man by loving him may be explained
by the fact that they have bestowed
the affection, instead of exacting it.
A man or woman may be reformed
by love. This can seldom be accom-
! pllshed when it is others who display
the affection. Through love a woman
may inspire desire for self-improve,
ment that will help a man to accom-
plish the result which she desires. but
in this her love plays a secondary part.
His reformation must start within his
own heart
1t is a sublime spirit of unselfishness
that inspires a woman in her endeavor
to win man back to right living
through the power of love. If she stud
led her experiment calmly, however
she could predict it's probable success
or failure even during the courtship
days. If the lover displays nothing
more than a partial improvement nc
the time when love is on it's best be-
havior, it is highly improbable that he
will respond more fully to the influence
OF the rendered passions when the
marital knot has been tied and the
honeymoon has commenced to wane.
No matter how earnestly he may prom
Use amendment, relapse into the old
faults is more than likely to occur be-
fore many months have passed for a
man will do a great many things after
he is married that he would not dare
J to do when single false step might
cost him all which he hopes to obtain.
The safest way for woman to treat
a man who is in need of reform is by
insisting that the reformation shall be
accomplished before matrimony, and
not afterward. If the mans love for
her is strong and true it will give him
the inspiration which he needs to en-
able him to succeed. The mere fact
that he knows he is loved by cool
woman will not accomplish this result.
He must feel so deep an affection for
her that it becomes his chief desire to
live up to her ideals-to make her
know that he is worthy of the love
which she gives him.
In this fact We find the explanation
of the few cases in which love has as
serted it's power as a redeemiL g
force. There are instances recorded
where men who have fallen low in the
worlds estimation have been lifted -
a high moral plane by the force which
love has exerted over their lives. If
we study such examples, however, we
are certain to find that the man who
was reformed through the inspira
ton which affection impaired was not
the passive recipient of the love o,
aonther person.
There is no more pathetic chapter 10
the history of human experience than
that which tells the story of wo-
mans sacrifices for man who is I'M
worthy of such a wealth of affection
The world cannot understand the sin
certify of the heart that is willing to
give up anything but love itself and
when the time comes, as it too often
comes, that the unselfish affection il
repaid with pitiless selishness, the
world, which cannot see beneath the
surface of things, has little SYM
pathy for the victim.
In one respect the world is right
The experiences of countless sufferers
teach us that it is impossible to re-
deem another person by loving him