Atlanta Georgian. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1912-1939, 1913-06-30
Should Woman Tell Her Husband Everything?
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wonder what the husband must think
of the wife who tells him that which
she is not justified in imparting to
anyone
l know one man who. under such
conditions reminded his wife gently
my dear, ! hardly think you ought
to mention that matter, even to me.
1t was not meant for my ears, but
for yours only"
Such men may be rare but l
think that they are not as rare as
some persons fancy. OF course, the
wife was wounded, but it may have
taught her how an honorable man
regards a secret.
Another of the things that a
woman should not tell her husband
is the rude or presumptuous remark
made to her by another man. |
know that this assertion may call
forth some protests, but l believe
that many people viii agree with it.
Remember, l am not dealing with
the young girl to whom a man is
impertinent or insulting, nor Of the
lngsnue who may not know how to
take care Of herself But I am re-
ferring to the woman Of the world
the woman who knows men and
women, and who is certainly quite
able to resent any discourtesy or I'M
warrantable liberty of speech or
manner.
What is one to do" asked a
woman of forty, when a man tells
one vulgar stories and considers
them funny? Should not one com
plain to ones husband? 2"
The first vulgar story a man tells
a woman may be his fault; the sec
ond one is her fault That is a rule
that generally holds good. If a
woman shows a man that she is dis
pleased with the so-called funny
story he will not tell her another.
If he does, she is quite able to ex-
press her displeasure and to avoid
him in the future What good
would it do to complain to ones
husband? It would only make
bad matter worse and bring about
a quarrel-possibly one that might
lead to publiCity-between the two
men
The men that decent women meet
in decent society viii only go as far
as women will permit. The woman
who respects herself receives respect
| from the average man A young
girl may be annoyed by a mans at
tentiOns and not understand how to
dismiss him-perhaps Not so an
older woman. She, surely has
| enough sense and enough dignity to
| look after herself under ordinary
conditions. Therefore, | say that it
| is a sign of weakness and of a lack
| of consideration on the part of the
| wife if she tell her husband that a
man has not shown her the respect
| due a good woman. If such man
| be a frequent guest at her husbands
| home there may be a reason for her
! to suggest to her husband that his
guest is not quite a gentleman, but
| if the offender be a casual aCquaint-
anCe, why complain Of him? One
word from her will be enough to
show the man his place.
He Won t Forget 1t.
Another of the things that a
woman should not tell her husband
are the faults of the members Of
her family. She will forget them;
| he will not, but will remember them
| when she wishes them to be re
garded as bygones. Nor should she
| call her husbands attention to the
neglect or unkindness of members
| Of his own family If she can let
| him feel that she loves his mother
and is fond Of his sisters, so much
/ the better
| Surely there are reserves that are
as great virtues as are certain So
called truths that lead only to en-
bacTassmenL and unhappiness for all