Omaha daily bee., 1913-12-02

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would like TO see her son or brother
marry. She's the very tyre of young
woman 20 make a good wife. but for
some reason that nobody can explain she
doesn't attract men at all. She never
has a beau. She is never invited TO go 20
any place Of amusement by a man. and
she's left looking wistfully after the other
young people when they go troopins Off
without her to have a good time.
Naturally. this distresses the girl very
much She's young, and she Graves the
enjoyment that belongs to her time OF
life and she wants TO know n there's
anything that she can do TO take herself
out of the wall-flower class, and get into
the bunch, so to speak.
or course nobody can really tell what II
is that attracts man to a maid. In its
q sence II is that Elusive something that
we call personal magnetism, and that is
the gift OF the gods.
We have all seen girls who were homely
and commonplace TO the last degree, who
had neither converse ton nor wit, and
yet men fiocked about them as bees
about a honey pot. We have seen other
girls beautiful. attractive, Intelligent, and
adorned like Solomon in all his glory.
that no man ever gave. a second thought
to. and the explanation Of the phenome-
non lay In the fact that one girl had that
mysterious attracting power for men. the
come-hither look in her eyes chat draws
men on, while the other had II not.
Personal magnetism IL the result OF
nature. not Of cultivation, and yet a girl
can do much to make herself attractive
to men. for after all, men are simple
c. eatures and easily pleased.
Any girl with ordinary intelligence can
learn enough about the things men care
for 90 talk interestingly; she can acquire
The art of listening with an expression Of
absorbed interest while man talks TO
her. and unless she is an utter fool she
can lead n man to talk about himself
So vast Is human vanity that every man
OF woman we meet within five minutes
gives us a tip on his OF her peculiar
weakness. and we have only 10 follow
that lead In order to make ourselves
agreeable to that particular Individual.
Most OF the girls that | have known
who never had a beau had only them
sAlves to blame. They were girls that
terrified men by either being so self-con-
scious and shy that a man had to do all
Of the entertaining himself. or else they
were girls who were so monopolistic that
they made a man feel as II he had been
kidnapped and was in danger Of being
dragged to the altar by his captor.
However, In a case like that OF my
little girl friend who wants to have a
good time and who is left out OF ali of
the frolics of the girls and boys about
her. the difficulty Is sauarely up TO her
mother. There isn't much that the girl
can do herself to help the situation. but
her mother can do everything.
! What this girls needs. and the only
thing she needs. is opportunity. and that
her mother can give her. II her mother
will get busy giving the girl a series NJ
little IaIties. she will force the other II
to invite her daughter to their parties.
and the young men 10 pay attention.
The o'her toys and girls can't so gEn =,
off and leave Mabel sitting at the window
watching them II they have just been en-
| tertained at MabeFs house. or are ex-
/ pecting to be entertained there.
Many a girls social success rests on
a basis OF her mothers cakes and sand
wiches. II nothing for nothing is the ruis
OF the world. II Is equally true that
something for something always goes. and
we can always get what we want II We
pass the legal tender over the counter.
Mothers can make or mar their daugh.
ter's popularity In society, and II is wei
for them to remember that you can make
people fight for any kind Of package o.
tea II you will give an attractive enough
chrome with II. Therefore. IT behoovei
those parents with daughters who arr
not run after to get busy batting thel
traps.
II girl lacks attraction II Il all thu
more the mothers duty to make her homl
I so delightful and so hospitable that yOunI
people will like 20 come to It. People viii
always go where there are good things I,
eat and a bright. CHEEKY atmosphere, hnt
against such a background even a dul
and homely girl shines with a borrowed
radiance. Also the people that you en-
tertain are bound in common decency 4
make some return. and so the girl whS
could not go anywhere on her own initia
tive bowls merrily along the gay socia
way through the momentum her mothe
has given her.
Youth is not only the pleasure time o.
life with girl. II is the season of he
opportunity, OF her chance 10 marry ant
settle herself well in life. and II is jus
as much parents business 10 help thei
daughters secure good husbands as Il q
10 help their sons get into business. 4
grouchy father and an indole1t mothe
have queered many a girls chances II
life.
My little friends mother could max
her a belle and give her a Joyous yountl
n she would. So could almost any othe
girls mother. and the pity OF II Is tina
the mothers are too selfish and stupid L
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