Bismarck daily tribune. [volume] (Bismarck, Dakota [N.D.]) 1881-1916, 1913-10-08
What CONSTITUTES A
MODERN GOOD Mother

! There Is no other warmth that quite
/ touches the spot with the little one
as that does. 1t Is privilege OIL.
motherhood that ] have taken when
felt SO inclined, with nary a guilty
conscience or thought OF the most
advanced theories on baby culture as
expounded by some unfeeling male or
by an unmarried, automatic, profess
sional nurse, who has never known
the pull on the heartstrings Of moth
erhood. If baby wants to cuddle
and rests better cuddling, let It cud.
die next to me. What is mother for
il you can't cuddle up to her? If a
baby rested better alone let it sleep
alone. Whenever it is possible to let
Il child do as it wants to do without
producing harmful effects | like to
give it that freedom to choose it's
own pleasure or it's own work. So
much of our happiness and content
ment in this world lies in being able
to do things in our own way. In get
ting the things we want at the time
we want them most. 1t is mothers
mission in life to help promote the
happiness of her children as often as
! she can. H...
With the variable tenperaments Of
human beings it is impossible to han
IDLE q human life as Noll5 would a block
of wood. Many established rules do
not work well with all children. Each
child Is little individual with char
acterstics that pertain to him; that
are born and bred in the blood-and
that must be treated individually, not
wholesale. 1t is the mothers part to
know her child first and then to act
as his guide and teacher and see that
the best is nourished and developed
and the worst discarded and destroy
ed. lFmn ia
I 1t is a theory Of mine that is a
child is properly born and then is
well guided and taught and trained,
there will be no occasion for punish
ment. 1t is the child that is.not guild
ed into wholesome conduct that is
known as the bad boy or girl. I do
not believe that any little child is
born bad. Children as rule do not
distinguish between good and bad I'M
til they are taught the difference.
Training the powers of observation
lis one of the important features in
moulding character in children. The
child who has learned to observe
closely is on the way to success.
Nature study trains the eyes and
the mind, and the child learns many
valuable lesson" from the flowers,
and birds, and bees, and insects with
in his own yard if he has learned to
watch them.
| | do not believe in too strict dis
cipline. There is nothing good ac-
compished in forcing child to do
something against it's will, and if that
is the only way you can control your
child there is a serious error in the
methods you use in guiding that child.
A child should be so trained in dis
cipline that he feels at liberty to do
as he pleases and chooses to do the
right thing, because it appeals to his
Judgment of good conduct and true
happiness for himself and others
A child's will should not be broken.
1t should DC guided into safe chan
nels. A strong will is a necessary
dSecI III lilc IONIS. "A WILL p'opSA'S
disciplined is seen in the man who
has mastered himself ana is strong
enough to regulate his own conduct
If called upon to follow soma rule Of
life In doing this he may be called
upon to meet strong opposition and
have to use strong will in fighting
the issue at stake. The man With a
broken will never has the courage to
face an issue Of any kind. He is dis
ciplined to follow the leader regard
less of consequences, and the leader
does his thinking for him. He is the
most dependent creature in the world.
The theory of keeping child's
mind and fingers pccnpied as a
means of developing character and
industry in a cliild was demonstrated
by Froebel and Pestalotzi and the
/ kindergarten movement spread rapid
ly all over the world until it has be-
come part of our public school sys-
TEN today. We are now as deeply in
terested in the new theories of Mad
anne MontesSOri, which may yet alter
the present school system of educat-
ing school children. ts'i
| To elucidate oneither one Of these
systems would take too much time
and no doubt special papers will be
prepared on these subjects in our
years work, as they are most import
ant features in child DEVELOPMENT.
| 1t requires much tact and patience
Ito teach child obedience of his own
free will. but children may be taught
to reason very early in life and they
see justice and injustice. very quick
". It is natural as life for some chill
dren of strong wills to say, 81 won't"
before they have a chance to think
the matter over. Some children hate
to be ordered to do anything. while
# YOU say. will you do this for
Alama?" they respond quickly to the
! request Often the child that says.
mo- quickest is the one that invari-
ably decides, upon quick second
thought. to do as told to do, while the
one who says, "all right is most dill
atory. Other children get up immedi-
ately and do as told to do. Some.
because they know they must do it;
others. because it never occurs to
them not to do as ordered, and then
there are children who ask if there is
anything they can do for you or who
see what is to be done and do it with
out. being asked to do it. 1t all de-
ponds upon the child and the moth.
er's method of training its mind and
heart.
Children love responsibility. They
like to think that YOU are depending