South Bend news-times. (South Bend, Ind.) 1913-1938, 1913-09-25
INDIGESTION MARS
GIRLS CHARACTER
Lucille VardOn Points Out the
Truth of Saying "He Who
HeSitateS is Lost"
BY LUCILLE VARDON.

in your choice, to waver from one
point to another in making a de-
cision, and, having made a decision,
TO wish you could reverse it? Fur
Their, do you know what this means
for you in the final counting up of
the value your life has brought you.
Why, il means restless, unhappineSs,
dissatisfaction with every memory
which is yours, an eternal craving for
the days which can never come again,
in order that the fancied wrong may
be righted, that the supposed fool
ishness may be turned into wisdom.
There is a greater depth of truth
than one is inclined 70 believe at first
sight in the old saying, He who hest
tates is lost" once let the poison Of
hesitation set TO work in your mind,
and you have done with clean, clear,
sharp-cut decision.
a Life story.
Let me tell you a little of life
story which has come under my own
observation, and which may make my
meaning clearer for you.
/ first knew Josephine W when
she was a girl Of IA or Is. She had
a charming if somewhat weak person
ality, and as l saw a good deal of
her at THIS time I got to know her
mind very well, and to realize which
were weak patches which self-knowi-
And so l pointed out TO her as plain
ly as I could the trouble which she
was laying up for herself by her In
decision and hesitation over every lit
tie point which depended on her for
settlement i said t cher much what
l have said to you, and begged of her
to strengthen her mind by the ex-
ercise of strong, deliberate will
power.
] thought I had done some good,
and in small things the girl did seem
to be making some effort to be master
of her decisions and to come streight
to the point, instead Of reaching 1t by
way of much useless and wearying
dilly ?dallying.
And then there came up a matter
for immediate settlement a matter
which the motherless girl had TO help
her father to decide-and the whole
pitiful display was gone through
again.
Decided to Go 30 School.
After much discussion, Josephine
decided, With my help. that she would
prefer year at a school abroad to
! the same time spent with an aunt,
while her father attended to affairs
which required him TO travel far and
wide The father was told and ar
rangements were put in train.
And then the thought that perhaps
the aunt would be hurt became insist
emit and Josephine thought it would
! perhaps be better to go to her On
| the other hand her father has begun
| making arrangements with the
| French school, and ii would perhaps
veX him to have the arrangements al
tered. But he would, perhaps really
prefer her to stay with auntie. and
| so on, and so on, until any solid rea-
! son which might once have formed
| the basis of her original decision be-
| came lost in the mists of doubt and
| hesitancy. And there we were at the
/ starting point again, with nothing
! gained, much time lost, and a general
uncomfortable feeling that no ar
rangement which might now be made
! would be really satisfactory so thor
| oughly had all the issues been mixed
and muddled.
OF viii say, perhaps, that this was
not very important matter. and that
a little time lost in its settlement was
neither here nor here
l can agree with you on that def
mite point but | was, al the time,
very sOrrowful I'm contemplation of
the effect all this hesitation would
have on the girls life. And my fears
were justified
1 suppose YOU will admit that her
marriage is a question about which
every woman should make up her
mind thoroughly if ever she does
! Well. it was over her marriage that
Josephine made the eliminating mud
/ die of her life
| was away from her at the time,
but l had SO often VIII essed her in
! effectual attempts to settle small
things for herself, that l felt 1 could
| almost prophesy about her muddled
methods. and l was right. When l re-
turned home some weeks later it was
| to be met by a fearful Josephine and
| TO be informed that she was engaged,
| but engaged to the wrong man, she
verify believed.
She Didn't Know Her Heart.
What could I do? - would have
given anything to help, but the final
| decision was surely one which should
have come straight from the heart Of