The Richmond Virginian. (Richmond, Va.) 1910-1920, 1913-01-26

Selected by EDWIN MARKHAM.

Ralph Waldo Urine is out with
rich little book called THE Winning
of the Best" The following para
graphs will help to reinforce your
New Years resolutions:
From my own stumblings and
errors and failings. ] have come to
the place where my only question in
regard 10 another is. Which way is
he looking? Not, how much has he
groped and stumbled and fallen, the
same as myself; but is, his face now
turned in the right direction. and is
he genuinely endeavoring 10 keep 1t
there? If he is wise enough, when
he falls. to linger there only long
enough to get his lesson, and long
headed enough to learn 1t quickly
and go on, even his stumbling be-
comes an asset, and it Is mere mat
ter Of time before he reaches a very
certain destination The bright child
doesn't have to be burned contlnu-
ally. The wise man or woman learns
his or her lessons quickly and goes
on. Don't worry when you stumble
remember. q worm is about the
only thing that can't fall down. some
one has said most admirably
I'VE can all afford 10 he exceeding
~ charitable toward others. The fact
that every one of US has his failings,
and also the fact that every one of
us has stumbled and fallen. and at
times fallen fiat-give us a very broad
basis for that admirable and kingly
guality-charity. While each of u9
is In his present incomplete state we
should De very slow to judge another.
1t may uncover the hypocrite in us
more quickly than we may be aware:
and TO condemn another. If we will
consider it in this light for but a
very brief moment. richly and con-
summately asinine.
""ro speak wisely It has been
said. may not always be easy, but
not to speak i'll requires only silence
We. need more sympathy in our COM
mon life. II lis always a mark Of
wisdom. i expands the individual
life, also. into the other lives around
him.
at Is the man who has his mind
and heart centred on accomplishing
the thing that is in some way serving
or that is 20 serve his fellow men.
who may some day be elevated by
the silent vote 20 the position of great
ness. So. there is no such thing as
/ finding happiness by seeking for II
directly. 1t comes always through
the operation OF a great and univer-
sally established law-hy the SYM
pathy. the care the consideration we
render to others.
10y in another's success not only
indicates always the large type. but
it indicates that they in turn are
worthy of success themselves. And
If they are not always what we term
a success in some given field, or art,
or in acquiring wealth. they are a
success in the greatest of arts. the
Art of Living. They are also q sue
cess in that the JOY and happiness of
others enters into and becomes a por-
ton of their own lives. Half of the
heartaches of the world would be
banished. and half its burdens would
be lifted. if every life We're habitually
tuned to this deep hut simply ex-
pressed sentiment by Emily Dickin-
son:
They nigh. pot need n3S g. YET they
tn let my heart he tist fl sight.
A smile so small as mine might he
Precisely their necessity
'It is we'll that we work each for
his own individual good Any one,
! however. who stops there win find
that he can never reach his highest
individual good unless he takes also
an intcrest--and not merely a sem
timental, hut an active interest--in
+ the lives and III the welfare Of those
about him. Help thou thy brother 8
! boat across, and, 10! thine own has
reached the shore says the Hin
doc proverh, There must he the gen
eral as we'll as the individual good.
and only he who is aiding ii is realiz-
ing the best for himself
"One of the great laws of life is
givng--we term it service Service
for others is just as essential to our
real happiness and TO our highest
welfare as is the fact that we work
for our own individual welfare. No
man lives to himself alone. No man
can live to himself alone. The Order
Of the Universe has been written from
time immemoriaI against it. There
! IS no man who has ever found hap
piness my striving for ii directly. 1t
never has, and it never can, come
/ that way. why? Simply because the
very laws of the universe and against
( ii.
I 1T was Charles Kingsley who sang
so truly:
! " Friends. in this world of hurry
/ And work and sudden end
! If thought comes quick of doing
/ kindness to a friend,
/ Do ii that very instant.
-DnpL- pGt o3f=-=doa,s- wa!t. -,
] What's the use of doing a kindness
+ If yen do 1t a day too late? p"