El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-07-30
To Make a Hit With Women
Some OF the Things to Do and Some
to Omit II n Man Would Be Pop
uIar With Fair Sex.
By Dorothy Dh
LOYELORN youth writes me I

A LOYELORN youth writes me a
"A pathetic letter saying that he
4 \ IS persona non grata with the
fair sex. that girls do not care for his
society, and the ungrateful minxes turn
their backs upon him and talk to other
men in the very instant they are de-
I vouring the candy he brought them.
and are wearing the violets on which
he squandered his good money. This
state of affairs greatly distresses him,
and he wants to know why he isn't
popular, and how he may become a
winner with women.
Let US see If we can help him.
Women differ from men in this re-
spect, that looks DO not count 1t does
not matter whether man Is hand
some or not. Indeed, very few women
care for beauty in the opposite sex
1t is a poaching on their own pre-
serves chat they resent. Also 1t re-
quires them to become flatterers in
stead of the flatteTed. for the vanity Of
! the vainest woman that ever lived IS
as water unto wine compared to the
vanity of a man who is a living pic
ture, and who knows lt-and expects
to be told of 1t.
most without exception the men who
were the great heart smaShers OF his
tory We're not only plain OF lace D9t
some OF them grOteSquely hldeous- 80
no man need despair on account of ms
lack of pulchritude when he wants to
! take a hand at the game OF hearts.
He Should Shave.
But while mere regularity OF tea-
ture in a man counts for little IN at
tracing woman's fancy, man shouId
pay much attention to his clothes and
his grooming. Nothing on earth. but
the grace Of God. keeps q woman IN
love with a man with a two days
sfubble Of dirty beard on his face.
Married women stand this because they
can't help themselves, but no girl
looks as if he needed TO be run through
the laundry, hanging about ner: AL
the knocking about the word dude
comes from masculine lips. No woman
Joins in that chorus on the contrary,
she feels that the man who comes into
her presence il-clOthed. dirty, neg
spect for her but indicates that he
lacks judgment, industry and progress
iveness- For that is exactly what be-
ing addressed now means.
Man Should Know.
Another thing that women like, and
1t is an attraction that any man can
acquire, is a certain SAVIOR ta1re that
makes him equal to any situation A
woman likes a man TO know now 10
offer her a chair, to help her on with
her wraps, to order little dinner
And she hates, with unspeakable loath-
ing, the fellow who is always making
scenes in public who gets IN rows
take about the seats, or the street car
conductor about the change, or who
sits I'D ike a craven luldE6 VI MIdln
every time anybody drops in while he
"Chump." says the girl to herself.
che hasn't got enough sense 10 know
only the ignorant have TO fight to get
their rights"
Women like generous men, but even
girls nave contempt for men who
spend more than they can afford. 1t
is not the youths who waste all their
substance on bonbOns. and theater
tickets, and viOlets, who are the most
popular with the fair sex. Every girl
has what she calls her candy beau,
but she seldom marries him. The best
way to touch a girls heart is not by
upsetting her digestion
a woman would rather have a pres
ent that costs 5 cents if it represented
some especial taste OF fancy of hers
than one that cost $50 if it was some
thing that had no personal signifi-
canoe.
Don't Be a Clam.
In conversation, cultivate a happy
medium Be neither a continuous mon
clog performer, nor yet a clam. Be-
fore you take the floor and devote
hours to eXpatiating on how YOU can
keep books. or play ping pong. or take
snapshots, be sure the girl is really in
terested in you.
For pity sake, though, help out with
the conversation. From the time
girl is old enough to understand any
END In life is to entertain man. and
everywhere YOU go you can see her
cOnsc1enttously at work trying to do it.
1t isn't a fair division of labor. and if
man wants to see true gratitude. let