The Salt Lake tribune. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1890-current, 1913-01-12
On Second Marriages.
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.

GCOaIE time ago you wrote an
~ article on second marriages In
which occurred The following scnten-
ccE:
Only one woman IN five hundred
who y widowed IN her prime Is left
with n memory Of such ideals OF love
that remarriage is impossible. And
only ono man In five thousand
Does this mean that YOU consider
there arc many hundreds more ideal
husbands than wives? II would seem
so.-Curious Reader"
No; IL means ,ha. every woman
possesses nlue hundred timeB the
qualities which mako consiancy 10
n memory possible. With the very
best conditions, and a perfect ideal.
only one man In five thousand Is 80
constituted that he could find con-
tentment in living widowed life, and
solaclng mis- lonely heart with MEM
ories Of a happy companionship IN
the past.
But there are many women WHO
are 50 constituted. They possess
extreme sentiment. great ina asina-
tlon. much spirituality They are
not strongly sexcd. their vitality IS
usually below normal.
A ND THEY live IN the mental and
IA spiritual realms, finding hap
piness in plcasant Friendships. IN the
cornpanionship Of their children. or
relatives. aud In social and chari-
table occupa tions.
While there are many such vo-
men widowed. IL 10 only one husband
IN five hundred who leaves mem
o-ies with wife after he passes or
which make an impossible barrier
10 a second marriage.
As z woman lecturer once said.
There is ofttimes groat compla-
cency behind the widows veil, be-
cause she has come into freedom
out OF slavery, into the right 10
handle and use money which she
has helped earn. after having been
a hcggar at her husbands 3 door for
long period: and ofttimeb her tears
shed over his casket arc tears Of
pity for SELF. for the lost Illusions
OF her honeymoon
We have all seen the faded, spirit
less, nlddie-ssed wife bloom out
into the beauty OF maturity. after
dropping Widows weeds. And With
her weeds, dropping a decade Of
years.
NND CANNOT help hoping tn.
" husband, in his home beyond the
earth plane. Is with essing this trans
formation. and realizing that II was
ne own utter lack OF sympathy. OF
!iberality, Of conslderate care, and @,
loving companionship which made the
wife fade before her time. And that
he Is seeing the bloom return 10
her cheek, and the light TO her eye.
and the admiration o. other men
offered at her shrine.
No man likes TO see his vile fade
and lose her attractions.
Yet few men who note such changes
IN the fresh. fair sirl they have mar
Rod stop 20 ask the reason there
Wit, few exceptions the reason
could be traced To the husband. Now
and then life shows us the sorry
type OF woman who loses all her
pride and se!t-reSpect and pretty
legally married, and viii, these things
loses. OF course. ner complexion and
figure aud other attractions. She
simply settles into the conplacency
or MlduIC aSe, ana Is SntlStjeC TO Dc
we'll housed, we'll fed, and to have her
bills paid, and 10 affiX Mrs. to her
name.
CHE takes her husbands love and
W loyalty az a ma tier of course. and
is the last one 10 know when he be-
comes dlsillusloned and dlsloyaL
Fortunately such women are e1cep-
tions, and the unattractlve, Gfeless.
uninteresting wife IL, as rule. the
handiwork OF the thoushtless, selfish.
inconslderatc husband the man who
has ceased to be the lover. or the
comrsde, or even the best friend, or
his wife.
The man who finds ell MS pleasures
outside his home, expects his wife 10
bc satisfied with her children and her
church and her homo duties.
Take Il careful look ut YOUR wife
good sir, and sec how she is OPP
pearlng after n few years OF married
partnership with you
Arc Sou preparing he- for COM
placcrcy un6 ar her widows vellT
And will she look ten years young
ar when she puts OH second mourn
:aE and begins to SO about and enjoy
lie than she does now as your neg
lecteJ wife,