El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-01-08
Flattery Wins the Bride
Man. II He Told the Truth to His
Sweetheart, Would Be Rejected
at Once.
By Dorothy Dix


1T is one of the tragedies of marriage
that both men and women marry to
\ get their vanity tickIed, and that
natrimony so often stops the hand
that spreads the salve and pulls the
punkah. The man has married DelleV-
ing that he was getting queen that
men would forever fight over and, he
hold, when he has her ne finds ne IS
perfectly welcome to her Also, ne
thought that he had found the one in
teIligent creature in the world who ap-
preciated how big, and strong, ana
wonderful, and superior to all other
men he was, and he aScertainS that he
has a wife who has no hesitation IN
reminding him of his weaknesses and
calling attention to his faults.
The woman has married believing
that she will spend the balance Of her
life in listening TO a paean of praises
of her own charm, and after the we'd
ding day her husband doesn't even no
tice how she looks. nor what she has
on, nor speak of her housekeeping eX-
cept when the bread is burned
Hence the failure of matrimony and
the prevalence of divorce
That many man marrieS because II
tickles his self esteem TO carry off some
particular maiden whom other men are
pursuing, goes without saying. Often
there is no real affinity between him
and her.
1t is a prOVerb of the bOudOir that no
girl ever has Just one beau. She has
many or none, for men are like sheep
in this respect. They all want to go
where other men go. Every man IS
ca ger to dance with the girl over whose
ball program other men are fighting,
but no man, save a martyr. will dance
with the lone maiden who papers the
wall.
Undoubtedly the reason why many
men grow tired of their wives is be
cause this flip to their vanity is re-
moved with marriage
They have captured the prize, and
since after marriage nobody else ap-
pears to want TO dispute their owner
ship in it. it becomes cheap and worth
less in their eyes. Many neglected
wife would find her husband turned
into lover again if she were about
to be snatched away from him. 1t IS
the knowledge that she is his for
keeps and that he can't lose her that
makes him Indifferent to her
Women marry Just as much Tor van
ity as men do. Most girls do accept
the first man that proposes TO them,
and every girl is tempted to. no mat
ter how unsuitable he IS, or how nome
", or dull or. uncOuth he may be, or
how little she may ever nave thought
Of him before, just because such a Sor-
geOuS surging wave OF gratitled vanity
goes over her at the realization that
she has been able to inspire sentiment
in a mans heart 1t is her initial eX-
perience Of the success Of being an at
tractiVe woman.
Her vanity is always a harp with a
thousand strings upon which man
can play as long as she lives.
No Lover Dares fell Truth
Mans strongest appeal in courtship
is likewise made not to a woman
heart, but to her bump of self-esteem-
a man wins a girl by telling her that
she is the most beautiful creature on
earth. that she is an angel, that she IS
a combination Of every grace and viz
tue.
If a lover should dare to tell the
truth and say to his sweetheart. sally
Ann, YOU are as hOmely as a mud fence.
your nose is too short and your mouth
too wide and your eyes too small, and
your figure stumpy and fat, and you
will never set the river afire with your
wit. but even so. love you and want
YOU to marry me-" why Sally Ann
would shout a mo" at him that u ould
sound as if it came out of a megaphone.
And she wouldn't marry him If he was
the finest chap in the land