El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-06-16
FIatter Your HOmefOIks
Praise Goes Further Than ScOIding
and Gets Results Where
the Other Fails.
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. BY Dorothy Dix
oNsIDERING - -

~ ONSIDERING that vanity is the
,LBsIsAIun pUB 1UsUImoId lsOW
- human attribute, and that we
are all brother and sister to the don
key who can be caiOled along any
where but cannot be driven q step.
isn't 1t queer that we have never
found out how much more e111cacl0uS
a weapon praise IS than blame2
Of course. we should put in our
best effort, and time, and thought IN
correcting our faults and strengthen
ing our week performances As
matter OF fact we do just the OppO-
site. It's our virtues that We magnify,
and the things that We d well. and
that we strive to do better and better
It's the people who give US the glad
hand that influence US, not those who
use q club on US.
Poor JENNY,
For instance:
children TO be courteous ana to have
good manners In order 10 achieve
this the average mother is just one
incarnate don IT, It's Johnnie, don't
come in the room with your hat on
Johnnie. don't sit stil in your chair
while a woman stands; Johnnie, don't
do this Johnnie. don't do that and
Johnnie gets his back up
I know one mother with two boys
who. observing the futility of blaming
children for their bad manners, de-
cided to try what pralsInE them Tor
their good manners would do She
would remark where her Johnnie
could hear il upon his exquisite
courtesy TO women, and thereupOn
Johnnie would break his neck TO open
doors, and pick up handEerch1e1S.
Another equally sagaciOus m6Uher
had boy with no especial aptitude
for learning, and an aTOWed d1staste
for reading. In vain was he scolded
Tor his bad marks at school his
to praise Tommy for his knowledge
Of history, and to casually refer 10 &c
before guests 1t was up. TO Tommy
TO make good, and to sustain ms repu-
tatiOn, and he began TO study history
with such vehement determination
that he is getting a good education,
and viii probably be an authority on
history, sure enough, some day.
A Bad Temper.
I knew a little girl who had ter
rifle temper. Her mother tried IN
every way TO teach her TO control it
Finally one day her mother said 70
her, You have brilliant mind and
wonderfully strong VIII I wonder
that any one with your intelligence
and your determination Of character
should be dominated by weakness
That appealed TO Sally's vanity, and
just to show that she was stronger
than her temper she conquered it
1t is the wise husband who praises
his Wife's handiwOrk as he eats, who
there's some encouragement to
woman to make a burnt Offering OF
herself If she is going to receive the
proper appreciation for it. But no
body wants to be an unsung martyr
The Secret.
Who is the woman who pares- and
scrimps, and economies, and chases
the town for bargains, and makes
over her old clothes and retrims her
hats2 Is il the wife whose husband
is always beraUng her for her eN-
travagance2 Not much. She feels that
inasmuch as she is going to be blamed
anyway, she had as well have good
clothes by way of consolation The
woman who SqueeZes a nickel until
the buffalo on IL hOwls with pain IS
the one whose husband is always
boasting that she is such a financler
that If she had her due she would be
secretary of the treasury.
The moral OF all of which is that
praise is the lever BY which each Of
us can move our little world And
the more fools we, that we haven't
sense enough to use it Oftener-