El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-01-30

Mothers CLUB OF BOSTON, mas
l. been handing out some good ad-
vice to young men about how to pick
out a wife. Among other things, she
tells the Boston swain that before he
pops the question to go and take a
good long squint at the girls mother
Tor as mother is, even so will daugh-
ter be when she attainS mothers age.
This is wise counsel that every young
, man would do well to heed, but what
! is sauce for the goose is also sauce for
the gander, and before a girl says
{ yes" to the youth who asks her to
trust her life and happiness 10 his
Keeping, 1t would pay her TO make q
pilgrimage TO his home and try to
get line upon his father.
Occasionally there is a reVersiOn from
type, instead OF a reyersion 10 type. 1
have known cases OF where girls, hOr-
rified at their mothers shrewish tenn
per and tongue, have controlled their
own with such an iron hand that they
became patterns OF patience and for
bearance, or where the daughters of a
SlOVenly mother were so disguised
with her laZiness and disorder that
they made Of themselves model house
wives.
Also I have heard a man whose
father was bOorish and selfish, say
I that when he was a child it used to
break his heart to hear his father speak
brutaIly to his mother and to notice
how her eyes would fill up with tears,
and she would vince as at a blow, and
that he made up his mind then that if
he ever married that he would be
tender and gentle to his wife.
These cases, however, are the ex-
captions and generally speaking, both
men and women carry into their own
homes the ideals OF married life, Whe-
Their high or low, to which they were
accustomed in their childhood and
youth. Therefore. just as a man can
safely count on girl making the kind
OF wife ner mother makes, so girl
may count on a man making the sort
of husband that his father is.
And this being true every girl who
values her own happiness should make
Il visit IN her prospective husbands
home before she finally commits her
self
If she finds that her sweethearts
father is still lover after a quarter
OF century or more Of matrimony;
If she sees that he treats his wife with
gentle courtesy and consideration; If
she observes that he brings his wife a
flower, or pulls out her chair for her
at the table, or that ne is interested
IN what she is doing, then II the girl
knows good thing when she sees it,
she viii grab up that mans son and
rush with him to the nearest preacher
before some other woman prize hunter
gets chance to get him away from
her.
Suppose father never speaks at the
table except to find fault with the
food; suppose he flies into RACES and
says insulting things to mis- wife and
disagreable ones to the children; sup
pose she hears him rowing over the
bills and asking his wife what she did
with that money he gave her last week;
suppose he sneers at women and shows
that he thinks they are mere slaves
invented for the amusement and ser
vice of man.
Suppose a girl gets this life size pOr-
trait of the father Of the man she is
considering marrying. what shall she
do?
LET her take the tin as tn the kind
of a husband the son would make and
break her engagement though she
were on the very steps of the altar
The man who has seen his mother in
suited all of mis- life will feel ne has
perfect right TO insult his own wife
He who has watched his mother bull
lied and browbeaten viii bully and
browbeat any woman in his power,
also. The son Of a tightwad viii be a
tightwad, and the man who has been
reared TO see his father make a door
mat OF his mother will also make one
of his wife when he gets her
OF course, there is an occasional eX-
cepiion to this rule. but like father
like son is a safe proposition in mat
rimony.