The herald., 1913-12-18
NOT REAL LOVE.


for any very young man or very young
woman to love sincerely Such a man
and such a woman may be in love with
each other, desperately and madly in love
with each other. but they do not love.
There is a great difference, you know.
In other words. young men and young
women are In love With love rather than
with each other.
Now. sentiments of this sort are all very
beautiful, lofty and ennoblng to the char
acter Ii is one OF the glorious things
about men and women that they are privi-
legged to feel such emotions. to enjoy such
experiences. No one would deny their
beneficent effect upon the soul. nor have
their sweet memories oblitersted from the
mind.
And yet, Notwithstanding, romantic. idyl-
lie love of this sort Is a most pernicious
thing when It becomes the basis Of
matrimonial union. 1t Is perniciouS De-
cause II is false, utterly false. like foofs
gold. 1t Is pernicious because with all
its iridescent beauty II has no more SUD-
stance than the rainbow and is Just as
quickly dissipated.
What both Lien and women have great
est need OF learning is the infinite num-
ber OF romantic love affairs CT which they
may be capable. and which they are
practically certain to experience II they
will but have faith In the future All
this talk abou: repetition taking the keen
edge off the enjoyment OF .ove affair Is
only so much nonsense. The superiority
Of first love is only another Of those
senseless superstitiCns which for some rea-
man or woman OF experience knows that
the oftener he or she has been In love
the greater the JOY has been. the more
genuine the emotion and the more endur-
ing its effect
For this reason. then. II for no 9th :.
1t is a somewhat foolish thing to marry
too early and thus cut oneself off from
the further indulgence OF this most beau
tiful experience In life. For you may de-
pend upon 1t. II you are wildly in love
yNe
will be still more SO at twenty-five with
another. and At thirty stin more so.
But. perhaps It Is not for personal
happiness you are marrying. Perhaps you
are ambitious OF social or financial sue
cess. or both And a great proportion of
marriages mind you. are based on Just
such motives II this Is your reason for
marrying Il behooves a woman to marry
as early as she can and a man not until
he has to. For there can be no denying
the fact that the beauty and freshness
and good health Of youth are assets o,
inestimable value to a woman ambitious
of accomplishing. from :he worlds poin;
Of view an advantageous marriage
Whereas for a man who Is ambitious for
worldly success. either financial or go
cial. wife Is invariably a handicap.
Eliminating the financial responsibility
OF a wife-and the wife OF an ambitious
! man must entail an expenditure adequate
with the position his ambition necessitates
under no circumstances belongs to the
married man. A man need not be per-
sonally attractive or mentally brilliant
nor need he have any money in order tc
become a social favorite. fair, common
school education. a veneer OF good man
ners. a little rudimentary knowledge o.
the proper thing In the way OF etiquette
and little plain horse sense will mai
the social success any man with ar
inclination that wa, and have made the
social success OF countless thousands
| penniless youths.