El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-05-27
The Quarreling Family
Father and Mother Who Live To-
Eether and Only Speak to Guar
rel Set bad Examples.
By Beatrice Fairfa2 --

80 EY father and mother have
NE not spoken kind word to
each other In II years, on
account Of some trouble he made by
seeing another woman He lives in
the front of the house and she lives
in the rear, and they hold no COM
u2uulcatlOn except when they want to
argue or quarrel have several
brothers and sisters, and they are al
ways quarrellng with each other
Naturally they would be with. such
an example / never go home in the
day, and only at nights when the
house is dark and every one in ii is
asleep 1t is the only way I can in
sure peace for myself There is no
such thing as love in our home, and
I can't remember when there ever
This extract is from the letter Of
love with a girl of %; they have kept
company for eight months and are TO
be married in the early fall. He viii
not be in position to support her for
a few years, and she viii be compelled
TO retain her position downtown This
she is willing to do, but he wants to
know II under the circumstances ne
viii be justified in marrying her.
Ordinarily, I should say no. But
this girl understands what a he'll his
home has been and loves him enough
to long to use her hands and brain
to make him new one He can
never develop in the home of his
parents. If there is any manhood in
( him il cannot grow under such con-
: dltions. and the sooner he is trans
planted the better for him and for the
girl who loves him.
He owes no duty or gratitude or
I love to his parents. He is injuring
himself every. day he remains in such
a home, ana is Of no benefit TO them
I would urge him to leave, though
marriage were not the alternative.
How much more emphatically I urge
, lou
Means Hard Work.
He may have to work hard; there
viii be many hardships and priva-
love each other, little else counts.
. With love and peace he viii have
chance to grow morally and spiritually
and mentally. The best in him viii be
developed. and he viii be more Of a
man at 25 in such an environment
than he would be at 40 if he remained
at home.
When a father and mother discover
they no longer love each other, a dis
cOvery that is made tragically often,
their first thought should be Of how
this discovery VIII affect the lives Of
their children.
If they are brave enough, strong
enough, and broad enough TO go on
living together in outward peace,
making the happiness of their chill
dren a greater consideration than
their own. the children will grow up
loving and respecting them, never
suspectinE that the two they love do
not love each other.
1t is a fearful price to pay, but the
rewards are commensurate
An Alternative.
IT, on the other hand, the parents
find such conditions intolerable, di-
vorce is the next alternative Better
an open rupture than to live under
the same roof and Wrangle and quar-
rel Better a breaking up Of the home
than the farcical semblance of one
A divorce is decent, dignified and
respectable compared with living like
Kilkenny cats Children may love
their parents though they are not liv-
ing together as man and wife They
may respect them and undoubtedly do.
but there can be no respect for them
when they bicker and Wrangle and
dispute and quarrel losing In their
uncontrolled hatred for each other
every mark of decency.
This young man cannot respect his
mother or father Unless he leaves
home he viii learn to have no respect
for any one else and viii lose all he
has for himself
He has a chance to make an ideal
home of his own. May he take il
speedily, and may there remain with
him only sufficient impress OF the hell
he is leaving 10 save him from intro
ducing any element of it in the heaven
that lies before HIM