El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-02-13
Don't Marry Too Soon
Young Folks Often Take Chances
and Are Unhappy; Better
TO Wait Awhile.
Soon
: BY Dorothy Di1

~ HE one subject on which a girl
and her parents viii never agree
\ is when is the love time of life.
In the girls opinion the psychological
moment arrives whenever some good
looking youth, with a winning way
with him, puts in an appearance on the
scene
On the other hand, the parents con-
tend that a maiden should not think Of
love and marriage funtil she has pre-
pared herself for the responsibilities
they entail, and that there is no hurry
about getting married, anyway, be-
cause when you are madried you are
generally married a very long time.
A father who IS arguing with mis-
daughter this eternal problem that
comes up between every girl and her
parents asks this question:
Don't you think that the average
girl of 10 or 20 is very apt to mistake
infatuatiOG for love, and that to be-
come engaged at that age would be
cheating herself Ou- Of the -happiest
years of her life2"
am no believer in early marriages.
I think that If no woman married be
lore she was p, and no man before he
we so it would materially reduce the
amount of domestic misery in the
world
Immature TASTE in Choosing.
There are enough risks in matrimony
anyway without taking any chances
on what you az going to be yourself.
and the kind Of a wife or a husband
YOU are going to want when you come
to maturity And that's what people
do who marry before their tastes have
ripened.
The girl that fired a mans fancy
when he was p or ., he wouldn't look
at second time when he is so. The
youth that set a girls pulse a-flutter
az 70 puts her to yaWning when she is
% There is no experience in life more
dlslllusioning than TO meet a lost love
after five years Of absence
Ninety-nine times out a hundred
when you see a cOnspicuously mis-
mated couple YOU viii find out that
they were married when they We're
very young, and one of the twain
has gone on growing and developing
while the other has stood stock still.
1 have also been interested in not
ing this other Iact-that in almost
every case Of marital infidelity the one
with the rowing fancy married while
ne or she was very young, and before.
he or she had seen anything of society,
or knew anything Of the faScinations
OF women or men. A man, for instance
marrles when he IS 20 or q the first
girl he has ever really noticed. he
knows nothing OF women's wiles, or
their tricks and their manners, and
IN the great majority of cases at
mlddleage he becomes an easy mark
for any adventures that happens
along.
A girl fancies herself in love with
the first man that makes love to her
and marries him. Few husbands con-
tinue lovemaking after marriage. and
when she finds out that marriage is
mostly prose, instead Of poetry, she is
very apt to go back and hunt up the
apple Of which she had only taken a
single bite, and which is now the for
hidden fruit of romance to her.
A girl, then. in my opinion has a
much better chance Of being happy
when married if she waits until she
is p or % years old before she weds.
Certainly, too, the girl who rushes
from the SchoolrOOm into matrimony
cuts herself out Of her playtime for
life No matter how well a woman
marries, nor how kind and good ner
husband is, marriage is no picnic 1t
is a state of serious responsibilities,
and grave duties and no married
woman can ever be carefree as a girl
is.
Those who favor early marriages
talk beautiful poetic nonsense about a
young couple growing up and develop
ing together. but this is foolish talk It
is an accident, a miracle, when it hap
pens