Ashland tidings. [volume] (Ashland, Or.) 1876-1919, 1913-01-02
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Home Maker
Teach Child to Honor Its Parents.
EDITED BY
ALICE +. TALCOTT.

their parents sacrifices and services
without gratitude is certainly one of
the saddest things on earth, but it is
no particular puzzle and it is done
all the time. 1t is simply the relent-
less working out of one of the most
brutal and unlovely laws in human
nature, and that is that we treat
those about us just exactly as they
permit us to treat them; we give to
them just what they demand of us.
The inborn instinct in every breast
seems to be to trample upon the
meek and humble, and to kowtow
before the naughty and great. You
can see this illustrated in every fam
lily you know. The wife who makes
doormat of herself gets trodden
upon and kicked aside, whereas the
woman who sets herself up in her
home as a parlor ornament has her
husband burning incense before her.
Many a woman thinks that she
can win her husbands love by being
patient, and uncomplaining, and fru-
gal, and industrious. She cherishes
the belief that ne will appreciate all
, that she does for him and be CRATE
full to her. Never was there 4 more
mistaken idea. He never notices, or,
if he does, he thinks it is no more
than he deserves, and he has a con-
tempt for her because she hasn't got
enough spunk and independence to
, demand something for herself. The
, wives that men cherish are the wom-
en- that the men have to serve
Never the slave wives, who kiss the
feet of their lords and masters.
Precisely the same rule holds good
in the relationship between parents
, and children. If parents give the
best of everything to the children
the children will take it without
thanks. If the parents take the back
seats, the children will occupy the
front ones as a matter of course.
If a girl is permitted to sit in the
parlor and read novel, and keel
her hands white, while her mother
does all of the cooking and house
work, she will naturally come t
= look upon her mother as her servant
If boy sees his father so shabby
and shiny that he may have fort!
new suits of clothes to wear to col
lege, he will have no. compunction il
, making fun of the old mans clothes
and be ashamed to introduce him t
!. his swell acquaintances.
The parents have prostrated them
selves before thei rchildren, and thu
children walk over them. The par
ents have taught their children tina
they are not to De considered, anC
the children have learned the lesson
The parents have fostered selfish
ness in their children, and they real
as they have sowed.
It's the parents fault, not the chill
dren's. They have not taught thei
children to honor their fathers an,
mothers, and the children don't d
it.
We talk great deal about natura
affection, and ever7 father and moth
er pin their faith to the theory tha
their children will be dutiful and de
voted, simply because of the tie O
blood between them. AS a matte
of fact there is no natural affectio
except the affection that parent
have for their offspring. If childre
love and honor their parents, thi
sentiment has to be cultivated an
developed in them.
For this reason, if you have you
children's confidence you have t
win it by being comrades with ther
when they are young If you hav
their respect you have to tcayn ther
! to defer to your opinion and jude
ment. If they honor you, you hav
I to exact their respect. If yoI hav
their love, you have to win thei
! hearts by showing them a never-fail
ing tenderness and sympathy.
Otherwise you get nothing fror
your children. Spoiled children, VIII
have dominated their parents al
their lives, are not suddenly goin
to turn about and become deferen
tial when they are grown. The bo
who has been permitted to talk bacl
to his mother in his youth will ours
her when she crosses his will whel
he is man. The girl who has rul
( roughshod over her mother eve
since she was baby isn't going t.
consider mothers feelings at an
Z time during life.
And, conversely, the children VIII,
have been brought up to be obedi
{ ent and respectful to their parent
will not depart from this line of con
duct when they are old.
For my part l do not believe il
parents making too many sacrifice
for their children. l think the chill
dren should share in the sacrifices
land help bear the burdens. and tha