El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-10-13
Best to Bury the Sorrow
When Love Comes After Six Years
of Mourning For n Dead Hus-
band 1t Is Best to We'll
come 1t.
By Beatrice Fairfa1

y NE who has loved and lost-who
has tasted the joy Of married
- life and known the desolation OF
bereavement-writes me:
DO you think it wrong for a won-
an to wish to marry again? I loved
my husband dearly and mourned mis-
deatn, but now, after nearly seven
years, L feel the need of a mans pres
ence- But, unfortunately, I see few
men, and cannot make advances.
do not long for Wealth-only
enough TO get along comfortably. am
not unatCractive, and love home life,
but the loneliness Of trying to make q
nome for only one is appalling. Would
1t be wrong to my husband to marry
again?"
One cannot live with the dead. ana
the greatest of all authority says, Let
the dead bury their dead
one turns from grave inconsolable,
sure that the sting of bereavement will
always remain-that the sun will new
er shine again-that one has known
laughter and joy for the last time
But the days come and go, and each
one brings It's little quota OF fOrgetfuI-
ness New interests arise, hope springs
up again, tomorrow begins to look less
dreary, and very, very soon those who
mad wished they could stay in the
cemetery with the one who went be-
lore are realizing that life is dear and
for.
Men Get Away.
Men are more philosophical Saner
and healthier minded. They want to
loves to Inger. Before men expend
any emotion they want to be sure that
the expenditure will bring results;
that IT viii change things
resignation is nothing more than thu
discovery that the wall against which
one IS beating ones head is harder
tnan the head A man makes this dis
covery sooner than woman, and soon
her mead with duh. monotonous tom
days.
The futility of mourning is not the
only argument against its encourage
DnenL There is the further argument
mat every unattached person in time
becomes problem to his or to her
IeIaIVes- And this is in A measure
tIitio- no hlatIer what the financial con-
uluon OF the one left alone
Every home is for two primariIv
EVERY burden, every humiliation Every
JOY thaI comes to home was meant to
be divided by two. The sorrow is too
great TO bear, the humiliation too BIT
ter to endure. and the jov loses haIr
us flavor when experienced BY only
one When the children have grown
and have left the nest, one could not
ask greater boon of life than thar
me over again in mutual memories.
Inc woman who wrote this letter has
mourned her husband seven years. 4
col.teno mat IS six years too long. She
would have shown no dfsresDect 70
ms memory had she married again
long before this. and, on the contrary.
WouIo have paid him the compliment
OF having so thoroughly enjoyed her
experience as wife she was not afraid
to repeat it.
Has known Love.
she has known love, and learned
Jhat the price a woman must nav In
greater responsibilities and seIfsacri-
nee is not too great for value received.
Sne would pay the price again. and pay
seven years.
II is the natural woman's instinct to
want mate, and the woman who de-
MES II IS unnatural Either she is
SuppreSS1ng the cry of her heart or
there is something about her that is
abnormal.