El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-02-19

~ fore he is able to provide for a
wife?
Suppose a girl Of -. who has not
| finished school. receives an offer Of
marriage from a worthy young man Of
/ "A whom she thinks she loves. but
who has not the means OF establishing
! a home or supporting a wife. what
| advice would you give her?
| I am asked to answer these two ques-
! tons Personally. L am strongly OF
the opinion that the game Of love
should be played according to the same
ethics that rule in other gambling
games, and that man should either
For his own sake, no less than that
| OF the girl, the man who has no way
I of supporting a wife should keep out
Of matrimonial entanglements, both
present and future He has no more
right to assume the obligations Of love
making, without being able TO make
good for them, than he has to buy an
automobile without having the money
to pay for 1t In either case he IS
getting. goods under false pretenseS
The long engagement is one OF the
most blghung and wearing of all hu-
man experiences, and 1t nearly always
turns out badly. It is a drag on a
mans ambitions, a fetter to his liberty,
a continual expense that he generally
i'can't afford
Rubs Off Glamour OF Welded Bliss.
If he and the girl live in the same
community they rub the romance off
of their love by jar and fret, and jeal-
Ousies, and misunderstanding be-
cause they are in an unnatural rela-
thOrtty Of husband or wife over the
others actions, without having the
jurisdiction that matrimOny gives.
If the man lives in a different city
from his betrOthed and sees her only
Occasi Onally, absence almost invariably
does its deadly work and Stays love,
and he goes about dragging the letters
Of long engagement dread1ng the
daV when he must marry woman OF
whom he is already tired.
For the girl the long engagement IS
even more disastrous. Her position is
almost fntOlerable, because she has no
official place in society. She is neither
privileges of none Of these estates and
the drawbacks Of them all She spends
her time waiting, watching, hoping for
q happiness that is always just with
out her reach
Before asking a girl to marry him
the man who lacks the price of a we'd
ding ring should bear in mind that so
far as a woman is concerned her youth
is her capital, not only sentimentally
but financially.
The 10 years between 20 and 80 prac-
tically constitute a girls opportunity
for making a good match Her time
is short, and she must make hay while
the sun Of her beauty shines. There
fore, If a woman is to have husband
and home of her own. she must secure
them while she is young.
This puts it I'D to a mans honor not
to selfishly bind a woman to his own
fortunes unless he has some assured
way Of repaying her for the sacrifices
he asks Of her and the risks he forces
her to take.
Danish Honor to SOOthe Pain OF Wife.
1t is, Of course, a nice point Of honor
that a man may not be heroic enough
to practice, but it's certainly the chfv-
alrOus thing for the man who isn't
ready to ask woman to name the
wedding daV to keep away from senti-
ment and sentimental talk until he can
As for a girl of 10 engaging herself
to a man who has not the means Of
establishing home or supporting a
wife. she is a silly goose to do it She
should say to such a young man eff 7
am worth having, I am worth WORKING
for Prove your love by the way YOU
hustle, and when YOU have cot enOiIeb
money to furnish a nice little flat and
insure US bread and butter come hack
and ask me again"
The real test of love is what we arc
willing to do for another. and no man
can give a better proof Of his devotion
than the way in which he rolls IN his
sleeves ana SANS into his job for her
It's great pity that girls are taught
that love is the only thing to be con-
sidered in marriage.
His success Eases Vyffe,s Life.
1t isn't A mans ability to support
a family and to get along in the world
has Just as much TO do with his wife's
happiness as Ihe state of his affections.
There isn't much love talk going on i'm
a house Wnere the ever present cOnun-
drum IS now 10 pay the bills
For these ana a million other reasons
that every girls father Will point out
to her, II she will listen to him. the
wise maiden viii wait until youth has
shown that he has the ability to stand
on his own feet and play the game off
Of his own bat before she ties her life
to him.