The Lakeland evening telegram. (Lakeland, Fla.) 1911-1922, 1913-01-18
7LI3i2,s.IN.cY N GIRLS
BY BARBARA BOYD.

"
innate friends, for mother and aunt
and grandmother to Insist on a girls
being ladylike and retiring and mod
est and all that. But If she does, she
gets left"
What's the trouble. Phoebe!"
chorused the group.
NO particular trouble" blithely re-
turned Phoebe. But was Just think.
ing such advice is out of date. II
girl takes 1t nowadays. it'll make her
wallfower and eventually an old
maid. or. suppose l should say. bach
elor girl"
Something has gone wrong" said
one Of the girls sagely.
Did you know Sue Dickinson Is
married again." asked Phoebe.
MOI" calculated the others. who
to-"
Kenneth Leaverett."
You don't mean it,"
Yes. do. And that's what set me
to thinking upon oldtime advice. In
spite OF everything her parents said.
she ran away, you remember, and mar.
ried Ned Willoughby. Then she quar-
relied with him and finally got a
divorce And now in less than a year
she is married again And here are
all of us. quiet, ladylike, well-bred
girls hanging yet on the parental
stem.
Huh" said one Indignantly. Il
wouldn't want to marry either Ned
Willoughby or Kenneth Leaverett."
That mny be, replied Phoebe.
Rut even if YOU had, YOU wouldn't
have had the chance You're not for
ward enough. | don't want to get into
personalities. she said hastily as she
alW CLEAN IN the other girls eye.
I'm just drawing deductions. AS
you hnOW. ! was invited to a house
party last week, out at Nhitney's per
foctly superb home. And who do you
think was the most popular girl there.
quiet. well-hred little me or charming
Nice Markham? Not bit of it. II
was "a loud. gi"gling individual who
'alkcd constantly, laughed constantly.
rayed JOKES on the men, kept herself
in every way possible in the center
of the stage The men simply flOcked
around her They hoyered over her like
bees over flower And the rest OF
u, sat of in well bred and ladylike
Quiet and talked to each other"
That sort of thing doesn't last"
observed one
She had good time while It did
last, though. And that's more than
the rest of us did"
Il wouldn't caro- for the attentions
of men like that" said another.
"Oh. they were good enough. as men
GO replied Phoebe. You have to
take them as they are. You cant
make them to order"
IT seems to me. them" said Q
fourth, that the men are to blame
for all the forwardness and tlippancy
in girls. and the way they dress and
all the other things they do that they
shouldn't. 1t would be sort Of CON,
Portable to blame the men for 1t all
wouldn't it,"
They won't care quoth Phoebe
They'll go right on showering az
their attentions on the girl with the
most false hair and the biggest hats
and the highest skirts and the
readiest laugh, whether there Is any
thing to laugh at or not
Let them" interrupted another
There's something more to lift
than merely pleasing the men. II
prefer refinement and good breeding
and good taste or think they arr
right and their Opposites wrong, ! an
not going to throw them over merel,
to win masculine favor. think w
ought to get down to the bedrock fac
of what Is right and worth while. no
merely to whether our conduct viii
win fieeting popular favor We wan
those things in our character that ar,
going to give US lasting satisfaction
And. believe me. none of US her,
would find lasting satisfaction in tn,
regard Of men who like vulgarity II
dress and manner. And. believe me
too, the incest men don't And evel
II they seem to for a little while. II 4
either out Of idle curiosity, or to pu
In time, or a mere passing fancy
I'll stick to the advices Of mothers an,
aunts and grandmothers. They hav
been observing human nature a mucl
longer time than We have, and the
know how II wears"
Well" said Phoebe. ~ suppose til
girl with high standards Of conduc
10 Of more value to society than Ii
girl without them. And I suppose
10 worth while to BE- Of some vain
somewhere
And Id rather have my cal
!. respect" said another. than the atsea
!. ton OF . dozen men for doing som,
!, thing that I thought beneath me-