El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1913-08-21
Letters From Lovers
Girls and Boys, Troubled With Con-
sciences, Ask Questions and
Are Answered.
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By beatrice FairfaT

acts Indifferent to me. Will you tell
me how can prove that he is really
in love with me, as I love him dear
1y?"
What would you say to a girl who
loves, and is loved and who meets
the messenger every girls longs for
with Skepticism and dOubt2
Wouldn't you, remembering the hap
piness that came to you through a love
you accepted, or the dreariness Of life
where love was rejected, urge her TO
have faith? 1 do.
This from a man: Il have been III
love with a girl of my age for some
time I stopped keeping company with
her some time ago, and lost her love-
Now 1 want to win il back again"
Would you dare, remembering the
sweetheart your stub bOrnness lost you,
advise him to hunt q new love?
want him to go to her humbIy and
sincerely and tell her he has discOv-
cred that he didn't know his own
heart; that he knows it now, and
knows that so long as he lives it will
long for her and beat true for her
if only she will forgive him and take
him back. Then 1 want him to act
like a man and be true to his word
A girl writes: I am in love with a
young man and he processes to love
me We have been keeping company
since last October, but trust me he
will not He always thinks I am with
other men when not with him. He
seems to think a great deal of me
when he is with me When there
are other girls present he likes to-
tease me by making lot OF them"
Certainly Not
Would you advise hel to marry a
man who gives every proof Of being
a jealous tyrant2 I wouldn't.
He reserves for himself the right
to flirt with other girls, enjoying him
self because it leases her. and ac-
cuses her Of spending every moment
when not in his company with other
men, I want her to love and to marry;
it is the only lasting happiness there
IS in life; but l don't want her to
marry a man who will make her life
miserable with his unjust suspicious
and reprOaches- There is peace in
spinsterhOOd; there would be nothing
but war with such man
Bill writes: I am a young man OF
% and in love with a girl OF IS. Every
time 1 call on her her mother SAYS
she is out Do you think this girl loves
Would you, with dreamy eyes. build
up a romance. Loving girl, stern
parent perhaps a dungeon in which
the girl is locked to Keep her from
her lOver2 I wouldn't.
If she loved him she would be in
some time Wnen he calls. No mother
was ever clever enough to send a
young man away from the door time
after time without a chance to see
the girl he loves unless she had the
girls consent am sorry for Bill.
but l am quite sure the girl doesn't
love him.
A very young girl sends the follow
ing I am in love with a young man
two and a half years my senior. Ny
parents say that 1 am too young to
keep company with him. I am II.
They tell me to wait two years What
shall I dor
Would you urge her to defy the
best friends she has in the WOrld2 I
wouldn't I want her to remember
hot
compared with the lifetime she Will
give to this man IL she marries him
She owes that much, and more, to
the two who have cared for her all
her life and who stand ready to con
t1nue that protection, if need be. till
the end Of their days.
An easily discouraged soul writes:
I am deeply infatuated with a girl 4
of my own age who is wealthy, and
L an not She is also receiving the
attention Of young man who is also
wealthy He has more time and money
to spend on her than / have and she
saws she can't decide which one she
likes the more. What shall I do2 I
do not want to waste her time and
mine It would be very hard for me
to give her up"
Would you. made skepticaI perhaps
by some bitter experience, advise him
to get out of the race telling him
that no man stands a show when his
empty hands are opposed to hands
thaU are filled with money! I wouldn't.
Love Independent.
1 insist that love Is independent OF
wealth, and that he stands as good q
chance as his WEALTHY rival The
other mans wealth viii never defeat
him If he loses it will be because OF
his own faint heart and his fear that
Dy continuing TO make love to the girl
he will waste her time and mine" I
have no patience with such a weak
willed persOni
Bessie also has troubles. She writes:
have been keeping company with a
young man for nearly two years, and
L love him very much He has never
come right out and asked me to marry
MIN, but some way or other we have
Just drifted into talking about it. and
We expect to be married in the fall
NOW, what don't understand is why
ne has never said anything about an
engagement ring He never goes with
oIher girls, nor wants me to so with
oJner young men, nor do I care TO.
he has given me some beautiful pres
ents. but never a ring"
-. Would you urge her to grow indig-
Happiness is not dependent on
oand for the girls finger. If it had
been, there would have been little hap
plness In the world some years ago,
when engagement rings were un-
known, and many a happy bride was
symbol
There are some men who never think.
Just dFifted into the engagement and
IN the same happy way will drift to
the altar. 1 am sure the thought of q
ring has not entered his head. am alsd
sure that if Bessie goes about it right
by suggesting instead OF by knock
ng he viii visit the jeweler before he
,alls again.
Don't you think that would be wiser
han to frighten love away with angry
I do.
B. S. L. writes me: ct am in love
With a girl and she is in love with
ne. We had been keeping steady com
1any but lately we got mad, and we do
not speak to each other. / would like
! reconciliation and so would she"
You are man. and stronger to bear
he burden. Take on your shoulders
he burden of the blame, persuading
Yourself that you offended and deserve
t. Tell her you alone are to blame.
)eE her forgiveness. and promise never .
% offend again. If you are not willing
o say I was wrong then you are
lot fitted to say I love you"
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