The San Francisco call., 1913-10-03

w we mean every one OF my
sex
And it is not to our discredit The
Lord implanted in every girls heart
longing for love that is not satisfied
in the love of father. mother. brother.
sister or friend. 1t is longing that
grows with her years. showing first
in her smiling overtures as a baby TO
some boy and never ending till ii finds
satisfaction in the love of a husband
and child.
She may grow old and gray in spin
sterhood; she may Judge mans love
by the unhappy experience of some
sister and decry it; she may despise
=. the dependence that comes with love
!. and:.denye.ft. but to the end of her
days, though her tongue may soon and
-her:ears. refuse to hear, there remains
: At the bottom of her heart a longing
for Il that is never stilled. And no
woman. is normal until she has known
#
we are: all fishers of men. To deny
ii: is 10 deny the plan of Nature. The
only difference is in outward nantes
tations of this great inward desire.
Some of us stand for life looking wist-
fully at the water waiting for the fish
to jump out at our feet, and others
secure poles early, change the bait to
suit the game and fish assiduously.
We all want love We have always
been told that it is most maidenly to
wait tin it comes to us voluntarily.
But fish so rarelyrjump out of the
water, and the years come and go,
each one taking with it some charm
that should. BY all rules of the game.
= have served as hait. and we find our
:. 9zeIt-rzs :sisi -arened with a lifetime of
loneliness and heart hunger.
1t is fair. then, considering how
/. much love means and the desolation
: ef:.Hfe without it, to suggest to nice
little girls, with their hearts beating
fast with alternate hope and despair.
how they may use a little bait mod
.estly and. effectively
+ -. ALL ARE VAIN
II. The finest man in the world is a
vain, weak creature. and it is always
..tTie| finest. man in the world who is
:. .blindest about the opposite sex. and
needs guide to reach the altar. It
p. was. never necessary 10 make an effort
TO win the admiration of a worthless
:. man. Very. often he makes lovemaking
: :. his business, and consequently never
has a business that will support
wife aud child.
-: A nice little girl named Mary. who
wants TO win "a husband and con-
. fesses TO this most normal and most
.womanly desire. writes me:
.... 7 ain a. young girl of %. and meet
a. lot of..njce young men and go out
a great. deal with them. have host
of girl friends, and while in their
company I can converse with ease on
= almost. any topic. but just as soon as
i am alone in a gentleman's company
it seems, 1 have nothing to talk about
:: which is a very awkward position.
J. Please advise me what topics are
mostly to be discussed and whether
talking about business is a boring
one : I. must add that I am not up to
:: the mark on books, and consequently
can hot talk about them"
-. Thank heaven you can't. There is
a big. score in your favor to start
with. for the girl who says pendantly
10 a man. Have you read Maeter-
" iincks .'PelIeas and Melisande?' or
=. 'As Byron's says: You remember that
: Quotation, I am sure, ETC." and looks
with a surprised superiority when he
.confesses he never reads more than
!: his. newspapers and the baseball
scores on the billboards, is doomed to
stay on the bank forever
Business. If he is worth while he
dotes on it, and is an enthusiast on
anything that pertains to it. Don't
be afraid of results if you show an
interest in the most vital interest he
has And a better topic, the best OF
.alB is to engage him in conversation
about himself. 1t is honey on his
tongue and music in his ears and if
you can hang entranced on his ac-
:breathless with delight over his ia
vorite way of cooking fish, you have
him. on your line and coming slowly
. aud surely out of the water
ONE WAY
Be a good listener. The man who
was won by being talked to death is
too weak to be ranked as a man. Let
him do the talking. Believe me.
Mary dear, the best of them like ap-
probation of the words of wisdom
that are always dropping from their
lips, and turn oftenest, stay longest
and think most of the girl who lis
tens TO their most commonplace talk
as if she were hearing the music Of
the angels.
We are all fishers of men, Mary.
But remember always that it is wise
10 consider the good and bad points
Of the fish before casting In line.
Take care that your longing doesn't
magnify into a whale a fish that is
only minnow.