The San Francisco call., 1913-12-06
How
10 Propose
BY LILLIAN LAUFERTY

rfmony may be considered from
two angles-His and Hers Man
and woman look at proposal from
vastly different viewpoints He wants
the girl and has to say so or give
very positive signs to that effect in
order to obtain his wish and wife.
The girl wants the proposal She
may intend to refuse the proposer.
even at the risk of throwing away
her only chance and remaining a
spinster. But if she never marries.
she wants to be sure it is from choice.
not from necessity, that she is re-
naming an unplucked peach on the
parental stem.
Proposals may also be looked at
from the angles of vision of Before
and After marriage.
Until the proposal is an accepted
fact (and the lover accepted or re-
jected) it is understood that the man
must make it, After he is married,
man always seems to understand-or
to want you to understandable it
was his wife who did the proposing.
DULY GRATEFUL
But since the percentage of mar
riages does not seem to increase
greatly in leap year, we may safely
suppose that however much assistance
woman gives man in getting to the
point, when he does arrive she sits
back and prepares to be duly CRATE
full for what she is about to receive.
proposal is enshrined in woman s
memory forever. If it comes from the
wrong man, it gives her an oppor-
tunity to boast of her chances If it
comes from the right man it sets the
seal of an engagement on what she
had been fearing might turn out to
be only filtration or a friendship
after all Not all the froth of aimless
living, not all the suds of the wash
tub can ever dampen the luster of
that grand moment.
proposal is any or all of these
things. formal offer of marriage,
moonlight sonata, a drifting from
paths of friendship to meadows of
love, lightning flash of knowledge,
a joke to stimulate a dull conversa-
tion, a magnificent condescension of
the King to the Beggar Maid, an
offer of business partnership, or
And the "Or's" have it. Ora
proposal may be a combination of
confidence, sincerity. generosity and
tenderness-an offer that breathes of
understanding love, of a happy part
nership in the business OF life It'll
death do US part"
A proposal is composed of a man
and woman, an environment, a feel
ing and an expression of that feeling.
First we choose combination of
right man for right woman. We
choose two people who have been and
always will be friends When the
first romantic rapture fades, as ro-
mantle raptures have a way of doing
since they are colors fast to fly
we want a fine, big, sane ackground
of interests and tastes in common.
We choose two healthy young people
who are comrades, who can be part
ners. who enjoy the delight of inves-
tigating as well as of understanding
one another, and who feel the call of
the heart for one another.
For environment, the woods when
spring is budding gently to life, the
majesty of the summer sea, the glory
of autumns blaze, the singing sleet
of February day-the burning mys-
terry of CRATE fire. The ideal envi-
ronment always has in 1t some of
vastness of nature who is calling.
A Seventh avenue bus or a teeming
city street has in it an element of
bigness. But unforgivable is the man
who degrades his love by dragging it
into a restless cabaret environment
or expresses it over a glass of beer.
THE RIGHT MOMENT
But neither environment nor ex-
preston count If the feeling is fine
and big. Confidence, sincerity, gen.
erosity. tenderness-these are the
underlying. the Interchangeable roots of
loves joy. The proposal that is
based upon them must fit the ideal
and satisfy the heart.
Confidence of the man that he will
love the woman forever that he is
fit to protect and cherish her, Con-
ffdence of the woman that she un-
derstands the sacred meaning of the
word wifei With this confidence, be
sure that you will know how to pro-
pose If you have also the sincerity to
carry out all that love asks. gem
erosity to give to one another and
to life and a great loving tenderness.
Tenderness will make life's joys
greater together and life's burdens
lighter for the sharing.
How to propose? Take the right
man. the right woman. the vast out
of doors and a feeling that is made
of confidence, sincerity, generosity
and tenderness, A proposal is bound
to result. Perhaps eye will speak to
eye and spirit will leap out to spirit.
But in the end, when he says the
sacred words, II love you, dear; shall
we found a new home together" she
will say Yes"
Friendship will grow to love. A
divine inspiration will make the day
sacred. And for that happy woman
How to Propose win forever after
be just the way He did it!