The evening world. [volume] (New York, N.Y.) 1887-1931, 1913-10-23
JpGEs FROM THE sToRiES O
MARRIED FOLK.

MARRIED FOLK.
ct have heard tho stories Of - many
husbands and wives" he told me.
rather YEARLY. when I talked WITH him
at his ONCE. No. q West One Hundred
and Twenty-second street "A physician
ia the modern confessor. lie knows
things that are hidden from all the
rest Of the world. And I'm putting the
ratio nigh whom say that out OF sv.
cry hundred marriages one 10 really AMI
truly happy.
ny AAppl.sss : DO not mean
sssiGnat1oa. Two married persons
VINO decide - put up Win sesA
other without . fuss. because d.
voros would mean scandal, afe 10
my idea Of ne Joy o. NE. say
that marriage 70 suoce0of0 only
when both hlsbaaa 90 wife kAsW
IN the ustsxmost depths Of their co.
seiousAsss tAss NE Apart woala ~
misery"
I thought Of the definition Of hsppi.
ness once heard . married woman
make-"the state whom nothing IL hurt
Ing me-" And I agreed with Dr.. Smith
that marriage ought to mean soms thing
besides a negative wsll-belnS.
The preachers deplore the number
Of divorces" he continued. my only
wonder Is that they arc 90 few. I
know scores OF couples who wouh b
In the divorce court tomorrow II thoy
could live comfortably. from a material
point of view. after separation. The
sacred tie which keeps Thorn together 10
tho fact that tho man could not give
his wife enough alimony TO enable hep
to shine as she desires Most OF the
persons with whom am thrown In
contact have a certain standard OF Nv.
Ing. hut are not Rich. In the New York
meaning OF the word.
Marital unrest Ia as generally
| prevalent among these persons. who
make up the great average mean OF
our democracy. as among the exorbi-
family rich or the wretched!y poor."
EIGHT REASONS FOR MARITAL
UNHAPPiNEss.
"Rut what is the reason for all this
unhappiness" I asked. why should
a man and a woman. who presumably
start out with q common fund OF al.
ection. go bankrupt instead Of adding
to their storer'
| AoeoSdiug to Og. Smith, there ere
eight distinct causes for ooaJueA
I woe. Here they axss !. 1noompeta.
bility. 2. Drifting tsadsAoaes. 4
| Too carly or too long engagements.
| Z. IGaorsnoe Of each others love.
8. Disrsgrxd Of personal hygtsAS
| Q, Yorgstlulneso Of hiSA iasals. =.
| SympatAy sought outside. .. Bel.
| nshusss.
| 'Incompatib!lity may manifest itself
physically. mentally or socially" he
explained. ANY pronounced lack OF
lagreement, or, rather, OF understanding.
as regards tastes or desires leads to
friction.
Then some husbands and Wives Just
drift apart. and each Is left lacking
companlonship when q boy and girl
become engaged at too early an age
or when the engagement stretches over
a long period of years. tho two are
apt 10 grow In different directions.
"A woman Is often ignorant Of the
quiet, strong ways in which mans
love manifests itself. She thinks be-
cause her husband doesn't pet her every
minute he has ceased to care for her
Or she IL neglected. OF tho little dainti
nesses she practiced during tho period
OF courtsh!p. and no man can retair
his love for proved eloven. Or tlSs
husband and wife forget tho spiritua
meanings of life and love. II on,
: forgets and tho other remembers. entel
the affinity. And when u married pcr
son seeks sympathy outside his or hel
home, the end of the marriage Is II
siEht.
Finally. there - the o!d-fashione'
failing OF sslfshness, ono PARTICULAR.
hard to combat because tho selfish per
son is tho last IN the world TO admi
his fault. He usually accuses ever,
! one around him of selfishne1s.
HE ADVOCATES A MATRlMc
!, NAL REFEREE.
! "But how" | asked, "can sorne O
these pitfalls be discovered until q ma.
and woman have actually lived 10
gethcr? | dont suppose you ahvocat
trial marriages, but, really, how els
, can the question Of compatibility b
, decided?"
I'VE should have . nsG4ae.iAl
sssssss," AsslaIsS ~. oaASA. -