The Richmond palladium and sun-telegram. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1907-1939, 1913-09-02
BY DOROTHY DIX.

IN recent divorce case young
and pretty woman testified that
1 her husband was no companion
n to her, that even when at hotels
and summer resorts she would sit up
lonely and lorlorn, with nobody TO
speak TO, while he spent his time
perusng the financial news and study
ing the stock reports.
AS result of her neglected APP
pearance. a good looking young man
undertook to console her, and among
other things he said to her, You are
too pretty woman to have a man
read a newspaper in your face"
The lady was bored and felt her
self i'll used, she lOnged for cheerful
society and somebody amusing with
whom to converse. Therefore she ac-
cepted the sympathy thus offered her,
with the natural result that ensues
when a handsome bachelor plays the
Good Samaritan to a married woman.
Without discussing the merit of this
particular divorce case, that one little
phrase. You are too good looking a
woman to have a man read a news
paper in your face" contains a SER
mon that every married man and
woman might listen to with enlighten-
ment and apply to themselves with
profit.
For the gist if it is this-that if
you don't make love to your husband
or wife, some other woman or man
will.
If you want to keep your own, you
must look after it.
THE DELUSION.
When you leave the door unattached
you invite thieves to come in and
steal
1t is part of the vanity of human
nature that none of us can ever i'm
agine such an improbable thing hap
pening as for anybody who has once
loved US, to cease loving us. In our
own eyes. we are always so transcend
entally beautiful. and wise, and fas-
cinating that it is impossible to break
away from our hypnotic spell, no mat
ter what we do, Hence we take lib
critics with love, in the placid assur-
ance that nothing can kill it.
A man marries a girl, and he reads
the paper in her face, and responds
to her efforts to carry on a converse
ton by grunts, yet it never crosses
his mind that he is the dullest and
most stupid companion in the world
and that she must be bored to a fraz-
Zle.
Not one man in a thousand ever de-
Hberately tries to make himself enter
tai nj To h 10 hot he
doesn't have to, and he never rea-
Lies that after standing about SO
much of it, she will get up some fine
day and go out and hunt up a man
to talk to who is interesting and
sympathetic.
Or, perhaps, as is often the case, a
man is frankly brutal TO his wife. He
insults her every day of his life He
mumiliates her by doing out money
to her. he cuts her 10 the quick by
sneering at her opinions, he ridicules
her until she shrinks and flinches un
der his cruel tongue just as much as
she would from bodily blows if he
beat her
{. THE EXCEPTION.
Such man and millions like him
on admiring and adoring them. nc
matter what hapens, They think il
isn't worth while to be tender and
Iconsidcrate, or even polite to a mere
wife.
Most women do stand neglect and
i'll treatment with whatever patience
heaven sent them. but now and Their
one with more spirit and less en-
durance than the rest forsakes this
death-in-life existence. or some WON
an. who could not live without love
accepts from some other man the af
lection that her husband ceases tc
y give her.
d It is the custom. in such instances
TO look upon the husband as sadly
Ii misused man, but practically the fault
l. is always his. 1t is the husband
5 hand that generally opens the door
II for the affinity, His wife never quit
II loving him until he had made him
: self ENJOYABLE. She never wearied OF
?, him until he lost interest in her
u There would~.be mighty few women
who would ever look outside their
/. own home for somebody 10 entertain
them. somebody TO sympathize with
them. somebody to sh~x them tender
, ness. if they had anybody at home to
- pay them any attention.
;. Precisely the same thing may be
said OF women. II is almost invariably
J. the wife who prepares the way fol
!, the other woman II is the nagging
wife who sends her husband away
d from home TO find peace. It is the
Il morbid wife who does nothing but fret
and complain and weep who drives a
man away to seek cheerful compan