The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1913-11-28
MISTAKES IN THE !.
MARRIAGE GAME|
Dorothy Dix Says Not TO Marry
On An insufficient Income v.
Some Good Advice To
Lovers.
The first deadly mistake Of natri

| The first deadly mistake of natr
mony is:
| To marry on an insufficient in4ome
! Matrimony has its commerc Al a
well as its sentimental side, an
while mere money alone viii nc
make happy marriage, neithsr wi
love alone. 1t takes food to suppl,
the heart throbs, and at the bottom
Of every successful marriage ther
must be a strong financial planl
capable Of supporting a comfoltabl
home.
OF course, the lovers view Of lifI
is all circling wings and golden glory
and poetry and romance. He feels
while he is still courting a girl, tina
nothing else matters but the bliss o
calling her his own. He believe:
that he can diSdain such maleria
things as food and clothes and houses
and it is no trick at all to pers lade
a girl, who has no worldly exoeri-
ence, into accepting this PORT Of
view.
So in trance Of joy, literally
doped with sentiment, they marry,
with a sort Of sublime faith that those
who put their trust in Cupid Will be
miraculously fed, as the prophet was
by the ravens.
But Cupid isn't that sort Of a bird.
He Is no miracle worker. He sup
plies no loaves, nor lobster New
burgh, nor even plain beefsteak and
onions. Nor does he prevent clothes
from wearing out, nor soften the rent
collectors heart so that he furnishes
an apartment with modern conven-
fences free to the enamored pair.
On the contrary, life goes Oh fol
people who are in love just as il
does for those who are out of love
Nothing stops the process Of nature
I'VE get hungry, we get cold, we
crave the same amusements, We
have the same tastes after marriage
as we did before, and the plain, hid.
eous fact stares us in the face tina,
when we have not the money tC
supply these necessities we arc moi
happy, no matter how much affec-
ton we have for some other indi.
vidual.
1t isn't romantlc-it even fills you
with deep disgust for the weakness
of human nature, but the truth re-
mains that we have TO be phys cally
comfortable, and have mind al
peace, before we can even love. Nc
man who is hungry cares two pence
about the looks of the prettiest wo-
man on earth. No woman WHO is
Shivering with cold and is ragged
and shabby cares clipped CANADIAN
dime whether a man loves her ,oI
not. No married couple who are
harassed night and day by bill col
lectors, and who tremble every tim,
there is a sound at the door for fea
the landlord is coming to throw then
out into the street, are filled will
any high and lovely thoughts abou
each other.
| In such an hour the animal tri
umphS in us. Our only concern
Ito be fed and housed and warmed
| And under such circumstances it i
practically inevitable that husban
land wife should turn upon eacl
other with bitter accusations and re
Iproaches.
This is not to say that wealth an
luxury are necessary to make MAJ
riage a success. Far from it. With
out doubt the happiest and mos
united couples in the world are tn
poor young man and woman wh
marry and work up side by side i
the world. But there is a wide dii
ference between something and moth
ing, between marrying on a settle
Income, however small, and maj
Trying without any way to make
living at all.
The very first principle, the yer
bed rock Of domestic bapine
that couple shall have erqug
money between them to suppol