New-York tribune., 1912-02-24
WHEN LOVE NEEDS AID
At Marriage, Says Leader Of
Rockefeller Class Discussion.
COMMON SENSE NECESSARY
Intellectual and Shapely Girls
Have Adherents and Perpetual
Leap Year Finds Friends.

The Young Mems Bible Class OF the
Fifth Avenue Baptist Church. more famil-
iarly known as the Rockefeller Bible Class,
since John d. Rockefeller, jr.. is one OF its
most active members, met last night at the
church for its second evening Of discussion
about marriage. A large part OF the even
ing was given over to a consideration OF
he kind of girl young man should choose
for a wife, Orrin G.. Cocks. the leader, CIV
ing 1t as his opinion that love is the great
est thing In the universe. but when It
comes TO marriage II ought TO be inter-
mixed with common sense" Mr.. Rookie
feller made one of the hundred or more
present.
Il am inclined to the somewhat old
fashioned view," Mr.. Cocks went on, that
| the girl 10 marry is one who takes an in
terest in the. things of the intellect, one
who won't go to sleep when you take her
10 high class play containing an idea,
who enjoys grand opera and the Philhar-
monte concerts"
on the matter of physique ne thought
straight shoulders and good hips" were
an indication Of health and strength, and
as such should appeal to the prospective
woman attract her man with something
higher than the charms OF SEX
a physician in the audience rather took
issue with him, suggesting certain modilica-
tons. He thought that a too serious young
man should choose a lighthearted girl, that
enc OF an abnormally Intellectual or artist tic
nature should lean toward the simple
matter-ot-fact representatives Of the oppo-
site sex. But no was particularly inslsteut
that the man should seek 10 perfect him
self physically in his choice. that IL he
lacked muscle he should select wife who
had muscle
The majority OF those present. including
Mr.. Rockefeller and Mr.. Cocks, recalled.
apparently. Mr.. Dooeys remark that he
could never love a woman who could lick
him, for they Joined In laugh that
drowned but did not down the physicians
argument. Another member interrupted
him a little later to ask IL he we're talking
from experience.
Il picked my wife out" he replied. "in
parlor gathering where | was giving a series
OF readings. studied her figure and
studied her face. ! have been twelve years
Widower and | have been looking every
where for another like her, but have been
unable to fill her place"
There was one man with red hair an
English accent and slight lisp who asked
il Mr.. Cocks did rot think II would be a
good plan for girls TO be allowed to propose
10 men.
My wife proposed to me-" said he, "since
| was too bashful. and | have always been
thankful she had the nerve"
Mr.. Cocks was not disincined toward
perpetual leap year and the sentiment also
found champion in the man who had
picked out his wife in parlor gathering
III man IS In love with girl and hasn't
got the nerve to propose to her" remarked
this eclectic, then he needs a girl with
nerve enough 10 propose 10 him"
He justified this view on the ground that
the female OF the species should possess
those qualities in which her mate was de-
hcient I'm order that the offspring OF the
union might strike better balance.
These sub-heads OF the general topic
formed tho programme for the evening
What things has tho prospective wife a
right 10 demand from the man? What
things should be told about the earlier nfe
Of the man? What is the attitude Of most
women toward marriage, the common life
and motherhood which follow? Is the love
the same TO her as 10 the man. What
kind Of girl should a sensible man seek
for his wife-physically. mentally. socially?
Why is II dangerous for engaged persons
10 see much OF each other? What are the
physical facts man should know about
womankind and nature to make marriage
happy and holy7 What are some OF the
physical facts Of parts and functions TO
be known after MARRIAGE
The discussion will be continued next Fri
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