The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1912-03-09

sirOus OF overcoming. II, for example,
he has been struck dumb by some
compliment or some remark 20 which
he should have responded, he must
prepare the response just as II he had
to say It over again, and he must
then repeat It several times, trying to
speak slowly and without stammering.
During those first thirty or forty
days his efforts to classify the small
est events OF each, without allowing
his mind to deviate, will cause the
slow development in him of centers OF
energy of which he has not even a
suspicion, but which are in readiness
to enter the fight. It is for that rea-
son that, long though it may seem, his
FIRST part of the cure of timidity is in
dispensable. To suppress it or even
to shorten it would be wrong.
After this first exercise has made
the patient less slave to his moral
weakness, he will the more easily de-
eide to watch sover himself in future.
To that end he should seek repeti-
ton of those occasions on which his
weakness has manifested itself in his
past, in order that he may change
them into what they should have been
originally.
The Japanese philosopher tells how
the father of a timid Soung man once
came to him and begged him to cure
his son. The sage studied the case
and ascertained that the youth was
suffering from acute self-conscious-
ness; that, whenever he entered
room he felt every eye upon him, and
the attention of everyone present rivit-
ed on his words. '
So Yoritomo set out to overcome
this defect. He met the youth and
the father one day. ..yi
"You know my SOM" said the faith
er.
81 fear I do not" said Yoritomo.
What? No? Didn't you see him at
the reception yesterday" .~
The philosopher had indeed seen, the
youth at the reception, but again he
denied it.
81 didn't notice your son at ALL he
declared.
On later occasions he unblushingIy
denied having ever noticed the timid
young man. In this way he instilled
into the youth the idea that perhaps,
after all, he was not the object Of uni
versal attention that he had supposed.
Having achieved this initial victory,
Yoritomo took him in hand, gave him
other lessons, and eventually cured
him of his defect,
Another time a young girl was
brought to his notice who, try as she
would, could not help blushing when
ever she was the least bit embarrass-
ed. Little by little the habit Lecame
so painful to her that she began to
shun society, preferring not to be
made an object of ridicule by her I'M
fortunate propensity.
This acknowledgment of helpless
ness only served to make her worse.
Finally one day some member Of her
family happened to mention the name
of a young Daimio, or nobleman, who
resided in the vicinity, and the girl,
without any reason whatever, blushed
Some of those present Immediately
decided that she was in love with the
Daimio, gossiping tongues began to
wag, and the poor creature was so
overcome with shame and confusion
that her health was affected.
Yoritomo was called in, He took,
the girl aside and said the name of the
young Daimio to her over and over.
again. At each repetition she FLUSHED
-vividly at first but gradually less
and less. He repeated this treatment
day after day When her blush was
scarcely noticeable the wise man in,
formed her that she was entirely cur
ed. Though this was not quite the
truth, it encouraged her immensely.
Then Yaritomo made members of
the girls family pronounce the Dia-
MOS name in her presence. and tell
her that it caused no blush on her
cheek. Eventually she was able to
hear the name without showing any
sign Of embarrassment whatev r. ~.
Yoritomo concludes his remarks on
how to acquire aplomb with this sent
ence
.r,4(..lCb ayga f... yt,.
THE timid individual is often the
chrysalis of a beautiful BUTTERFLY,
which, through lack of sunlight and
care, perishes miserably in it's ugly
form, instead of charming US by its
grace and its brilliant colors,"