The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1912-12-06

they had have recourse 10 IIIarE1ttS . as the only means of support, puL now you men, by your splendid organ ization of industry, have brought the old hap-hazard labor of women out of support themselves. The difference is that their work, which used to be paid in kind, is now paid in money, and its independence gives them the power to dictate the terms of marriages under which they will live.
 The difficulty is that many shallow l1ndisciplined people give up their vows for reasons not tragic at all, even such as that the morning cakes are not fried brown enough that they don't like the same color of wall paper. Our civilization is the first to put the whole responsi bi1ity the two people alone, where primitive families prevented di- pie, often. deficient, marry as they see fit, have children and take care of tn em as they see fft The burden falls on on socisty and so society ?L,,! must n re. be done by the church because we have so many that no one dominates all people. Neither can we revive strong just and democratic enough to control individual marriage is the state, which must be recognized as the arbiteg- to lead wayward people who need to be strengthened to their duty. A pound of constructive social effort is worth a ton of prohibition.
 First. we should require that every
 
 Other ceremonies of church and home may be added to Solernnize the event, but our legalization should be what it was in the colonial days, when our Professionalism aWoke. No church should legalize a marriage. We should build halls of marriage, stately and beautiful in our public buildings, and we should Set apart our older justices of a high order to give dignity and honor to the ceremony. The n1arrage service should have words such as any person., of any fat11 profeSsed faith, could use with dignity and agree ment. Then we should prevent the marriage of the unfit, for there is no other cause so Viru1ent in producing disease and weak-mindedness as bur dens for society Three states are already trying this, and learning that by Checking the elements of deteriora,- tion we check the expense of charity laid on society and strengthen the family life.
 When these things are done we should increase the power of the state and prevent impetuous dtvorces,. en- forcing a period of probation and rfage is a discipline well as a joy. and that we have to marry the bad saso, as yell as 3z, the good trait: traits of the tablished such domestic relations courts juvenile courts for grown-up children. which are finding methods of small reasons: Finally we should ab- solutely prohibit all commercial traf- licking in divorce and make it i'm possible for any person to make mon- ey by separating married people The law should be enlisted on the side of family stability and rehabilitation should be under the care of the do- mestic relations courts during minor ity If there is anything worse than alvadlng the s children chile up between the children between both parents or ask | ing them to choose allegiance to one or the other when their nature calls | for both. There should be no more l sacrificing of children to the whins of 1 and this would be a self | acting check to prevent unnecessary l
 In the end we must depend on the | spiritual and educational elements for | control more than any others. In the | last 100 years many have lost their 1 spiritual bearings as the old standards | of right and wrong have been lost in | individual responsibility. Nowadays 1 believing that marriage, although holy, l Is not sacrament: and we must make | it sacrament of life. We must not | think lightly of it's requisites, a sound | mind in a sound body, with capacity l for usefulness and support, public | spirited service of the common veal 1 for men, and for wonen's thoughtful l ness on the relation of women ito the l 6an1ily and child life. which is passing | with the loss Of the old-fashioned l home training of a girl.
 
 Ida NJ. Tarbell was entitled ''The bus mess of being a woman" It is 1 foolish attitude to assume that there is any special business of being a wom- m, which ts the same as being a man, that of physical. mental and spiritual i control over environment. The time Ias past when women may be inemec- | i've. and the time has past when man mess demands the Sowing of wild 1ats'' achievement condOneS vice. In states where women vote they 1on't dare to put up for office a known vicious man. In such times of swift changes we must tie to something and he principle must be the development # stronger personalities. Women must make themselves worthy to be he custodian of the ideals of men md men must make thennSelves wor- ily of such women.
 Dr. Wm. SadIer. author of "The Cause and Cure of Colds,'' says that colds should be taken seri- ously, Especially when they 'thang on." Foley's Honey and Tar Com pound is a reliable household medi- | cine for coughs and colds, equally ef- fective for children and grown per sons Take it when you feel a cold l coming It will avert danger of serious results and cure quickly. No harmful drugs. F. B. Brill, Stratford Avenue and Sixth Street.-Adv. THE COUNTRY sCHooL-TEACHER
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