El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-03-15

" HE tiny rift in the lutte, the poet
tells us, will NIKE the music
mute. And the seemingly tiny
rift in the peace Of married life will
change the harmony Of home into
Jangling discOrd- Then beware OF the
seemingly breaksi
The small things in marriage and
hOme-making are what wear me out,
exclaimed a housewife. I can stand
something that is big enough to lay
hold on, but the tr1les get on my
nerves"
She voiced a common experience
one that is so universal that the heart
. aches in thinking OF It. Somehow
, when the big crises come most peo-
pie bring TO bear upon them all their
strength Of character and win Out,1
or die-and that IS the end Of the
great trouble But with the trlfles. es-
peclally in marriage, one finds that
the last straw breaks the back OF
forgive q wrong OF Wnlch ner nus
band repented would find herself out
Of temper with him if he forgot to
wipe his feet before he came into
the house from the muddy street.
W ere he III, she could DO ali xmas
Of things for him, but she is irritated
beyond belief when he leaves his cl-
gar ashes and "old soldiers In the
drawing room for her 10 throw away.
The noise that he makes when he sips
his soup, his way of putting the wet
ends of his mOustache in his mouth
after taking liquids, eXasperate her TO
the verge OF madness At least she
thinks they do when she lets herself
consider them.
That is where the mistake comes, in
letting ones self consider them. And
that is where women make their fatal
error. Their life, their training in
the little duties Of the home, which
are quite important after all. had
taught them to notice details, to place
great significance upon them. And the
woman. whose duty II is TO see that
every bit of silver is properly pol
ished who must be careful TO notice
whether or not the rungs OF the chairs
are busted who IS responsible for the
unrepaired rips in the family ward
robe. and must plan for the use Of
every particle OF tO0d N the CUPBOARD, .
can not fail TO place too much stress I
on small matters. 1t requires ne +
role effort on her part 10 get away +
from the tyranny OF trifles. But Il /
she would be a happy wife she must
do IL.
When the husband drinks his coffee
with a sound that Is neither pleasant
nor appeuzing, she cannot help near
ing IL, but she can help speaking or IL
then and there That is where her
wisdom should manifest ltself-ln
waiting for the right time TO speak OF
things. For the right time viii come
the time when the man Is not tired, or
=
Then she may suggest tactfully ana
gently that there Is a little haDlt thal
be has acquired. and that she 1eeIs u
only fair TO mention II 70 nlni' as SIG
would want him TO mention to her any
trick Of manner OF when
she was unconscious, but when an
moved him. Then she may tell him Of
the Isagreeable habit he has FORMED
He may take il kindly he may iaush
and say IL IS her imagination or ne
NAV even be vexed and resent IL But
she will have done her best ana, ID
anv case. the man viii probably re-
the suggesuon sne mas mage
and break himself or the haplt IN
question. If only to prove 20 bis wife
that he hasn't got it. If ne does not
then let the wife pay no more alteh-
ton to IL. After an she IS hot re-
sponsibIe for his bad manners, al
sOul-she feels that
we women need to look at things in
their right perspective / nave SAID Ihls
so often that I fear my readers VIII
think that I am q bit touched on
that subject. Perhaps / am At an
events. / feel and believe that much OF
our happiness or misery depends upon
BUR seeing things in their proper pro-
Began with a Trifie.
A Young wife told me Of quarrel
with her husband that ended IN oltlel
ness and misery for both. Ano II 4lI
began with such a lutte thing, she
confessed. Don't laugh at me when 1
ell YOU that what started IL all was
because Ned 1Toui1 smoke IN the pam
Dom every norni9g when he went iE
or his bath. I dislike the smell OF
smoke before breakfast I told him so,
md for several DAYS ne stopped, then
started again. lighting his cigar IN
here each morning.
And what did you do2" I asked
Il spoke Of il, and he remem bered
or just one day, and then smoked
gain I'm there. You see he had done
{ ever since he took his first cigar
n his college days for his mother
I'D not mind it, But I hate it,"
And them ] Queried interested
and then when I smoke to him mOra