The Hawaiian gazette., 1912-12-10

bought by the Russians.
in love with dummy in show win.
dow. Some young men foolishly imagine /
that marriage is all lottery, anyway, |
and that any sweet and nice girl will |
do.
I" Any sweet and nice girl will not
do. There is girl, however, who is
well suited to your temperament, your
views and your tastes-it is your priv
ilege and your duty to find her.
"Again, the young man should do all
the wooing. Let me emphasize the
word all. 1t is in order for the young
woman to respond to the wooing, but
OF to woo. Nothing disgusts sensible
man so quickly and so thoroughly as to
have woman attempt to WOO him. The
deplorable fact is that many women do
this very thing. Many good woman
has lost good man by making the mis-
take of wooing him.
"The average man is very sensitive
on this point. He likes to storm the
fort of a woman s heart and capture it
If the woman removes all barriers,
opens all gates, withdraws. her guns,
makes not the slightest pretense at re-
sistance, he comes to the conclusion
that she is not worth capturing.
! Depends Sometimes on Bait.
"fWhen a man goes fishing in the
matrimonial sea, my sage counsel to
young ladies is to go slow in swallow.
ing the bait. Nibble at it, play gently
with it, admire it, tease it, taste it
but do not swallow it until the psychic
logical moment comes. The sensible
man has little use for a woman who is
q dead easy woman to catch. He is
irresistably drawn to the woman who
seems hard to catch.
"Again, DO not be in hurry to get
married. Some happy marriages result
from early unions, but there are more
unhappy ones. lack OF mental, physi-
cal, social and spiritual preparation for
marriage is always deplorable. Such a
lack often leads to matrimonial disas-
ter within few years.
"Some fellows imagine that if they
do not get married quickly they run
the risk of losing their sweetheart. If
she should prove so tickle, young man
ought to be thankful to have some
other fellow marry her. Besides, it is
well to remember that there are just as
good fish in the matt Imonial sea as
those that have already been caught.
Many young fellows refuse to believe
, this, but it is true nevertheless. There
/ is much sound sense in the well-known
maxim, Marry in haste and repent at
leisure
"Again, to young men I would say
do not court too long without propos-
ing. If You keep steady company with
young woman for long time she has
n perfect right to take you seriously
and to expect proposal. While she
keeps steady company with you she
fOrfeits the attentions of other men. II
i. you have studied her carefully and have
come to the conclusion that she is the
one for you-then propose. Do not be
afraid, because in all probability she
will be glad to accept. In fact, many
of the dear creatures find it very tan
l talizing because you do not propose.
MY next word of counsel is to have
g practical as well as sentimental ends il
9 view during courtship days If girl7i
G accomplishing consist chiefly in max
0 ing stunning toilets, reading the lates
novtls, chewing bonbons, playing thu
piano, speaking in affected tones ant
avoiding the domestic part of the home
t then beware of her. Turn her over t,
}. some fellow who deserves to be fam
+ ished for life more than you do, Will
: yOn seek a girl who has a loving anC
t sympathetic heart, plenty of sount
e sense and an ambition to make tn
most of herself.
= Two Good female Points.
/ "Someone has tersely remarked, q
o good English education and the know
e edge of domestic economy will adj
G more to young man 3 happiness thai
d all the foreign languages or polite &C
d compliments that il 10 possible 70
any one young lady TO be mistress Of. ,
Y "Again, l urge you to be perfect
e frank and honest in dealing with eae
4 other. Do not hide things from eac
}. other which ought TO be known. Reyes
a your true selves 10 each other.
q at is positively wicked to deceiv
rs each other. have known young me
10 60 TO church simply TO make favor
able impression upon some girl. TheI
after the wedding he ignored TIA
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q 90 gamble and drink on the quiet an
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