The evening world., 1912-03-11
MONEY RIGHTLY HANDLED WILL
GIVE you POSITION,

~ Ms COuIpllatlOn OF the mem OerS or
the national social trust.
MONEY RIGHTLY HANDLED WILL
GIVE YOU POSITION.
But here, is hope for the self-made
master of millions. Money" says
Mr. Nichols. lis at least as important
o. social qualification as good blood.
Money. rightly handled. can secure for
It's possessor a position In the most
exclusive set in America.
THAT set comprises the persons who
have made of social living a fine art.
And surely they work hard enough
Tor outsiders not to grudge them their
positions. As Mrs. John X. Drexcl
said to me one day. attempting to
describe the sire nuous round of her
lie and the lives of her friends, we
fall In the traces!'"
And since people who are In work
80 hard. they expect people who want
TO get in to WORK hardcr?" 1 sug-
gfrtel.
THAT IL a concise statement OF the
case approved the oracle. But after
all there Is a certain democracy
about IL.
1--WE have the self.rpads society
msn trst ~ we hav tho self.
"Soo bSuP SuuuuIoctuI0x, ma in.
deed the two may DO one n the
saue person.
Take the hypothetical case OK the
Weste-ner whom you have suggested o
me. Mr.. Nichols continued. He has
made his money. several millions. for
he must have an income OF at leas.
100000 a year. and he Is about to bring
his family TO New York. The first ques-
tion is. where shall he live?
sYnf hin, ahA..a III At,-s IL. o.,A
to avoid the upper west side. For some
reason there is a social prejudice against
this neighborhood. Let him secure u
house In what Is known as millionaire's
row. upper Fifth avenue. or In the
streets directly of It. The Social Regls-
to shows that the social centre Is be-
tween Sixty-first n S!xty-second
: streets-exactly where I am living" Mr..
Nichols noted. with pardonable pride.
But II a whole house IL not available,
an excellent location for a new family
10 n Of the large apartments In the
Sixties on Park There was a
time when al apartment house meant \
tenement house. Perhaps every one
Doesn't know II. but Mrs. william Aston
i3rst spoke a good word for the apart
msnt.
However. when the house or apart
ment Is chosen. another immensely I'M
UtAUB 10 no sftA aA'h wv
oration. That should be put In the
hands Of the best people, n the newly
rich family should not try to exercise
any voice In the arrangements. The
right people will not call II the house
Is not right I heard a friend once
speaking Of an acquaintance OF hers
who had not yet arrived TIC like to
take Mrs. Herman oelrichs to call on
her. said my friend. but Mrs. Oelr!chs
would only be amused. Tha. Mrs. -
actually has a chaise Tongue In the
very middle Of her prrlor""
(For the benefit of the ~unknow'ng.
Mr.. Nichols explains that a "cha!se
Tongue" is a couch-like piece OF furni-
ture only suitable for a lady's boudoir.)
"After the house Is in good shape"
he went on, "thc family should ma
some New York woman OF excellent So
ci&l position but no money wh1 for n
consideration will act as soc!a. mont
tor. Care should be taken to select n
LADY who has not acquired a reputation
AZ a promoter of ineligibles. n then
ali her directions must be obeyed VITA
the greatest eTactItude.
"Evsu II their clothes are in per-
feet taste from the artistic point
OF Wow they must not be too OBJ
viously expensive and beautiful.
when comparisons are drawn bo-
tween the dress Of q socially cmi-
nsnt woman and Of . parvenu not
20 the advantage OF tho former, the
pervsnu has mado an enemy.
~ remember a woman OF this sort
who was taken to the Patrlarchs' Ball.
T'hrorgh the trenChery Of a dressmaker
she had obtained an exact duplicate OF
4 costume belonging to Mrs. Harry
Payne Whitney, and the two women
apbeared. dressed exactly alike. Natu-
r,,lG Mrs. whitney was anything In.
pleased, or disposed to further the pro-
stSts o. the social climber.
'Just az the Western family must not
dftM too deliberately at first, It must
also not entertain too ostentatlously.
Small dinners and receptions and dances
aree desirable. But the music should
be OF tho best. One of the surest ways
to attract nice people is to offer them a
real musical treat.
DON'T PUBLISH THE NAMES OF
"' YOUR GUESTS.
"Aiso, great care must % taken a,
hrst not to give the names OF tie guests
tolthe newspapers. Many of them will
resolve not to return. The family
siyDud secure a certain amount OF news
paper notice. a paragraph now and
then announcing a trip abroad o. a re-
tufn to town. 80 that their names will
TrAQvpA unfamiliar. But too 1re9usnl
Aer~- stSw"ss 1+h..os5TisN ~
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