The evening world., 1912-06-12

~ and the open
season" tor
s hearts. but also
NV, -. -. because Of Mrs.
OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES Kathleen Norris's
-! declaration In
Tho Evening World yesterday that II
10 possible to marry and save money
in Now York City on $50 . month.
Mrs. Norris believes In Marriage -
I am sure she feels to-day no rsmorss
for having given . gentle push to the
young men standing with reluctant
feet where the heart and oheckbook
meet'Aths perilous brink Of matri-
mony.
PUTS HEART IN THE TiMip
YOUNG MAN.
IF a girl IL convinced that the young
fellow she loves IL hardworking and
industrious she should marry him. no
matter how small his income may be.
I would say that to my own daughter
II I had one. And would undertake
to live on $50 q month in New York.
and save money!"
With these words Mrs. Norris stinened
the backbone Of the hesitant and the
timid. And now Mrs. Woodalien Chap
man, who. like Mrs. Norris. Il young.
q writer and . happy wife ana mother.
offers her opinions and suggestions.
which she gave yesterday At my request
Mrs. Chapman has served ~ an ofiicer
Of the New York Mothers Club. 10 the
author OF several books. and was for
some years editor OF . magAsins de-
voted to tho interests Of the American
mother.
KIND OF A GIRL A MAN 10
LUCKY TO GET.
Il am afraid that could NOT live IN
New York on $50 MONTH" Mrs. Chap.
man said smilinsly. but have nc
doubt there are many women who can
and a young man 10 lucky who finds
ono Of them. The hrst year We were in
New York we got along very happily on
what Is considered here . tiny income.
There Is Just one principle which makes
II possible TO live on q very small in.
come. and though II sounds simple and
piatitudinous few persons apply II to
their own lives:
''whsn You can't AFFORD . thing
DO without Il.
II have never been very good at &C.
counts, SO I can't quote figures as to
what our actual expenses were. but
assure you any couple will be able ia
manage who have the strength Of mind
to limit themselves TO what they can
afford and to waste no money on q
foolish pride OF appearances.
II live way uptown and on tho tor
floor Of q non-elevator apartment, where
get plenty OF air and sunlight. II my
friends think I live too far from Broad
way or from the ground to come to see
me. then don't miss them.
''Ths Arst thing for young
couple 60 decide 10 TO spend what
money they have for real values
for themselves, not the opinion Of
thsdr ns1ghboFs.
'Tf a girl has what the New England,
ers call faculty. that Is II she know,
II she can make her own and the
babies clothes and trim her own hats
then she will be able to manage on q
very small income. But she must have
a natural taste for and interest in econ.
omy. A naturally extravagant person
cannot change his or her nature and q
girl accustomed to lavish expenditure
| and luxurious surroundings has seldom
the talent for economy necessary to the
poor mans wife.
Mrs. Chapman paused.
IF SHE HAS THE ABILITY TO
EARN MONEY CHE SHOULD DO IT,
She may have other talents. OF
course. She may be able TO write OF
paint or sing, and believe that II she
has ability In any direction which will
bring her money Of her own SITTER mar
riage, she should continue to exercise
Il. at any rate until the babies come
Sometimes Q woman can make money
more successfully than she can save It.
ut - possible for . wife to
make too many SACRIFICES. 70 be
too economical, you know. a wife
should make SACRIFICES whom IL 10
her turn, but not al the time.
women can be too plant and 20
deprive men Of the pleasures Of
unsslhshnsss.
THE wife who IL too saving may
convince her husband that he need
never make any more money. that they
can always get along on his present
income. This kills his ambition. She
should save In every way she can. but
not by spiritual starvation. She mus,
not heap the table OF the body and
skimp the table Of the soul. It IL q
matter Of spiritual necessity for q
woman to 60 occasionally TO q good
concert or a good play. Young people
in making up the budget OF their lives
together must allow a certain regular
sum for amusement and recreation-th<
food OF the soul-and they should de-