El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-05-03

Acknowledges that it is not what his
/ mother has actually said or done that
/ has hurt her. but what she has left un-
I done. she hardly ever asks me 10
I accompany you Wnen YOU go 10 see
her, she reminds him. If she sheds
/ a few tears when She says il the effect
/ is much more fetching. Il know that
Z she QOeSu care Tor me and that she
! resents your love for me-" she means
I And the poor man, harried and dis
7 tressed, viii suffer less II he believes
I his wife's complaints than if he con-
tinues TO be his mothers intimate con-
fidante.
The result is only what might have
been expected. The husband goes less
often to see his mother. and when he
does so insists that his wife accom-
pany him, and the mother, noticing the
change In his manner and remembering
what her boy was before his marriage,
lays the fault at the door Of her daugh-
terlulaW. and saws. He was Z devoted
son until he was married. Then zeal
ousy on the mothers part asserts itself
and she suffers intensely. What Won
der that she finds il impossible 10 love
the woman who is. she feels. the cause
Of her loss of her boy2 As feeling is
infectious. the mental attitude OF the
motherinlav affects the daughterinlaw,
and vice versa.
Tt is all a sad. bad condition OF at
fairs, so piJiful as to be almost tragic
The son has his wife and his new
nome; the daughterinlaW has the hus-
oahd VINO, muses. the mother, is lOvable P
enough and good enough 10 satisfy q nv q
woman, while she. the boys mother is
leIt In her home, without him, with the
sad conviction that as years pass his
WiIe VIII lead him more surely from
ner who bore him.
She is Not Perfect.
acknowledge that the mOtherin-
law IS not perfect, and that there are
lnes when she is very exasperating
piece of humanity. Nevertheless I Law
most of the blame for the existing CON
olllon OF affairs at the door of the I
young wife Can she not be generous /
can she not be forSiving, cannot she |
look forward to the time when a.
too. may have to see a son sol 80
INA happiness in another woman a
woman whom she may Ions 10 bave
L l,1 ner as a daughter might? Why
may she not behave to her busha1J's |
mother as she would want her 800 l
VIE TO behave to her
VI suppose she has no children Of
Hef own, yet surely she must bsTo
some PITY for old age She cOr115 -
her husbands mother fo1d o - maze axe Z
she would try to do so. The eIdar1,-
oman may be suspicious. she MAJ - !
DtI censorlous, but il must be a ,e~,-
3 ~; pllleF neart that gentle con-
sioeratlon cannot melt believe 46a+
IN vast majority Of the cases Of ~
happiness between mems y1-f,-ss -,
iI4lOlhers the weight OF the resDo1si-
ot-l-'y lot the misery may be laid mon
me wife She has all to gafr 80
little TO lose. The mother who Ic So
Eef son loses one Of the chief lows CF
II / would know what kind of .
WlIe a man has, L observe how he
treats his mother" safd a sape ne NJ
dent Of human nature
IS, II a man who has been a yood
son before marriage neglects his 1ofL
er, the fault is usually with the Wiz /
she may not be able to love her nootf- /
erinlaw, but she can. at Least iDsIe+ 1
that her husband shall show mis- mofbt /
er the same love that he showed re-
before ne married. If she was worthy l
she is none the less worthy Of fr ~ 1
cause he has taken unto himself a 4
wife. d