The Detroit times., 1912-10-24
Cynthia Grey's Cores
pondence

Dear Cynthia Grey-My husband
Ia very good TO me and anectionate.
But sometimes he just tries to hurt
me. lie says l imagine everything.
But | don't think | do. When pretty
women or girls visit Us In our house,
he always takes sides with them In
everything aud looks at thom In a
way that nearly kills me. try to
hide my feelings but generally / cry
when they are gone, and sometimes
before. always tell my husband
what he does and how feel about It.
Then he says "Oh you Just imagine
things" This has lasted several
years. can't stand II much longer.
What shall / do?-Humiliated
Any dear friend, IL Is indeed SAD
that any woman should spend yalh'
able energy in watching for look on
her husbands face. imagined or real,
which could only bring torture to her
heart. Take into consideration his
kindness and affection which you say
yourself, has been uniform through
all these years when you thought him
interested In others.
Take time TO remember that all men
admire pretty women, and that all
men, and women too, naturally look
at pretty women or girls simply be-
cause they are pretty.
For your own good. you must
realize that continually discussing
this matter with your husband can
not do any good, and may lead him
to manifest an interest, which he does
not naturally have, merely because
he detests to be suspected.
Above all things give up the cry
ing, at least when he is around. You
ask what you shall do. am prescrib-
ing a difficult treatment. think u
will work. Change. your attitude
Make yourself as attractive as you
may. Don't weep any more color out
OF your eyes, nor grey hairs into your
head. Show q little independence. In
terest yourself In other things. Don't
! let yourself think continually about
the matter. The chances are your
imagination Is playing trick on you.
Bring common sense and your pride
TO the rescue.
Dear Miss Grey: Nearly two years
ago / met q most charming gentleman.
upwards OF thirty. who has shown me
IcOnSlIeraDle attention. but AL MS at
tentions were given with reserve that
| led me to believe he was married.
| accidentally learned that - had been
| Tilted on the eve of marriage and that
he had vowed 20 remain a bachelor. We
have talked matters over and he says
he doesn't feel that we can be more
than friends. He does not want me TO
throw away my young life on him.
realize that his friendship Is dangerous
10 me because wc are naturally adapted
20 each other and might learn to love
him. what shall l do?--Amella-
Alt seems 70 me that II he has
determi ed not TO marry, he should not
have singled you out among the girls
and paid such consistent attention TO
you. II was natural for you TO suppose
he was particularly interested In you.
II you are wise you will not give your
time 10 him exclusively You Will ac-
cept the invitations OF other gentlemen
and simply treat him as one OF YOUR
ordinary friends. Otherwise other men
acquaIntances will think that he has
"the right OF way" as IL were. and
though they might wish to show you
attentions they will refrain, perhaps,
on that account. There Is another point
which may be worth considering, IL
you really like him. The chances are
10 to 1. might say. that II you take
this suggested course AMI show an In
terest I'm others, he will wake up to the
fact that being a bachelor Is not the
real aim OF man after all