The Bon Homme County independent. [volume] (Tabor, S.D.) 1904-1913, 1912-11-14

ing to be said against him, but she
does not like the idea Of a girl going
with a young mar with whom she q
broken up before. I don't like to dis
please mother. What should I do?
HELEN.
II that is your mothers only reason,
follow you own heart and good sense.
II you expect to marry, YOU are going
to like some IN man better than all
the others. some day, and mother might
as well like him. too.
Dear Mrs. Thompson-(1) MY chum
and are both engaged. b wears her
engagement ring on her. right hand and
wear mine on the left. Which liz
right2a (2) One of us has brown hair,
the other dark brown. Whit color
of wedding dresses should we need?
. , - .r CHUMS.
u) Left hand is right. (2) white
for both. B." ..ra ..- -H.... T. j,
Dear Mrs. Thompson--I am past 40,
single and not altogether satisfied with
my present surroundings In life. !
feel that I would be much happier
married. I'm good-natured, To- bad
temper or habits. and I've always been
afraid to marry for fear I would not
make a popular husband. At the same
AAAAS = SNAA y NNAoA " 6ON DReAA9g ~
getting the wrong girl. I know also
that there are any number Of good,
sweet-tempered women that ] could
get IL / knew where they are. But ]
am somewhat bashful and have ar en-
barrassed feeling about me when I am
talking in company Of the fair sex.
a. How can / overcome that feeling?
Cd How can I make UP my mind to
marry? CD Do you think 1t Is safe for
me to get a correspondent from a mat
rimoniap paper? @E "'' "
AN ANXIOUS FELLOW.
"a Forget all about yourself and
think OF the person to whom you are
talking. CD 1t seems to me you have
about made up your mind already.
60 Haven't you any married friends?
Ask to be made acquainted with their
families. Some of their. women folk
will see to- 1t that you meet eligible
girls or widows. Also, YOU might join
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Dear Mrs. Thompson-I am divorced
and four years ago married a widower
with a daughter 1s years old. I have
been very kind to her, q l am only 26
years old myself. Her father does not
care what she does. She likes fast
company and sits in cafes until mid
night, ! People where I live think 1t
awful and / am heartbroken., I have
IA little girl 8 years old and my STEP
daughter tells my little one everything
that goes I am a good woman and
q saving one. Please tell me what
II the father will not guard his
daughter better I don't know what you
can do. Try ard have q talk with the
girl. Tell her you know young girls
must have a good time, as you're still
young yourself and know how It feels,
but ask her. IL she couldn't have Just
as good a time by knowing nice people
and inviting them to visit her at home.
Offer to help her furnish refreshments
and ask what entertainment she would
suggest. II she feels that you have a
Sympathetic understanding she may
wish to do differently.
AS for your W little girl--keep her
by you as closely as possible and fill
her mind with clean, good thoughts, so
that there won't be room for n other
kind. .'-' ..... ... .. :
a church, get interested in its. various
societies, and incidentally meet a lot
of nice women. ~ '.~ht. Hvr.
II you look for a c~ongenial. sensible
woman near your own age, you're not
apt to get "stung," Those who are
stung usually get just what they are
looking for at the time, and then com
plain forever afterward. & =" ~t
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Dear Mrs. Thompson: My husband and
I lived for two years in the west, but !
got homesick to see my mother n we
came home. We went to housekeeping,
furnishing a neat little house, with the
intention OF making our home here for
good. But my husband has never been
contented here and Is continually talking
OF going west again,
/ can't bear to part with my furniture.
For two years we lived In the most in
convenient furnished housekeeping rooms,
so / appreciate my home now !" SO
much, ! hate to give II up. I think a
great e a of my mother and hate to leave
her. though I like the west real well.
Please advise me. My husband Is out Of
work a great deal, % Of his own accord,
which makes him more discontinued than
ever. . Unsettled Wife.
II your husband does better In the west
than where you now are living, 1t Is your
duty to make him "A home there. You
can have your furniture shipped. wherever
you go. When you get homesick for your
mother, pay her a visit. '
Dear Mrs. Thompson-vI am a girl Of
%. ID Should a young man ask the
lady's parents after engagement or wait
till they are to be married and then
ask for her hand? (2) Ought q girls
conscience tell her whether she loves
him enough to marry him. Will she
doubt her love at times2 (3) How long
ought a couple to keep company before
they are engaged? (4) Ought an en-
gagged couple to be separated for two
years. BLOSSOM.
Cd He should ask her parents Inn
mediately after he has aked the girl.
CD I think every girl doubts her love
at times, even IL in her heart she Is
certain of 1t. .(3) Not a minute longer
than II takes him to find out he loves
the girl. He should then ask her to
marry him. "a Not IL 1t can be helped.
The engagement period should be used
to get better acquainted with each
other. ..-.e y.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: 1t has al
ways been my custom to offer my seat
to q lady In a street car. The other
day / did the same and the young
lady said, Il don't want yeur seat"
It hurt my feelings. IL I am kind
enough, to ofer my seat should she
not accept tt7 Shall ] continue to
offer my seat to o. lady. or tnotR I
think I viii do the former. What do
you think2 SAD ALEXANDER
I think you are q gentleman and
that you will continue to act as a
gentleman should even II some women
do not know how to act like a lady.
III .E..E# - Z
Dear Mrs, Thompson-O When keeping
company with a young man, Is II proper
TO visit at his home as q guest OF his
sistersf () Is # proper for an aunt to
butt in" when 9 girl 1f II goes with q