The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1912-03-01

a good thing to judge the girl herself
1 by her actions in her home, her treat
ment of her parents, Of her brothers
and sisters, especially the younger and
| smaller ones In other words, I do
believe it's good to judge a girl, so to
| speak, before breakfast, while she is
! still her natural self. without evening
| frills on. But you can scarcely pick
a wife wisely by picking your moth
| er-in-law!''
And the married men present all
concurred. e
| Referring to the wages a man ought
] to have on entering the hymeneal
| gate, Orrin G. Cocks, Secretary of the
Laity for Social Service, who is CO.
operating with Rockefeller in his al
| truistic plan of encouraging matrl-
mony said:
Il should say, that it would be very
dangerous for a man of our class, of
the middle class, to marry on an in
come of -ess than $1,000 or $1,000
year. Here in New York it is far
better to marry with health in the
early twenties, however, than to wait
till the money comes. Many articles
and slowly. To put off marr'agd
from time to time results in those
subtle selfish influences that keep one
from marrying at al. Nothing so we'll
| unites and blends man and woman as
mutual sacrifices, mutual thought and
| mutual planning
II have many friends on the east
side who marry on 50 a week. Many
| men in New York, on the other hand
fear that they cannot support a girl
in their own class, and are afraid to
ask her to deny herself the comforts
she is used to They might think
otherwise if they could have frank
talks with girls just so situated and
see how will ing they are to make just
such sacrifices
HE was opposed" he added, ''to late
marriages in that men are by that time
set in their ways, and often inclined
I to regard business, social or club life,
Of primary Importance, while women
after 2S years, he said, are less in
clined to domesticity. Mr.. Cocks then
spoke of the need of knowing ones
prospective wife thoroughly, instead
of just falling in love with the young
and attractive. 1t was hard, he said
to avoid this in New York, since
men and women meet mostly here at
theatres, parties and evening calls
where their true selves are necessarily
more or less submerged.
''Since a girls character is bound to
be nodded in greatest measure by her
mother he continued, cant you pick
your wife better by looking straight
at her mother rather than at the girl
.herse,f?''
This is where Mr.. Rockefeller took
exception to the mother-in-law. The
meetings are to be continued weekly
for an indefinite period.
Harry Kemp, the tramp poet from
Kansas, whose soulful eyes and poetic
rapturings won the heart Of Mrs. Up
ton Sinclair, wife of the novelist, is
having a hard time Of it getting rid
of his waresA incidentally his friends
say he is discovering the wisdom be-
hind the trite saying Of that ancient
philosopher VINO said that when
poverty comes in the window, love
takes 1t on the run for the door,"
| With no steady income to square ac-
counts with the butcher. the baker
and the milkman, Mrs Sinclair, who
once accused Sinclair of not eating
den, Del, to make life agreeable, has
found her blissful dream of soul mat
ing an empty bauble and has gone
back to the shelter of her parents
home Meanwhile Kemp, who has
burned the midnight oil grinding out
| the muse, says there is an unfair pre-
| judice existing against him in the
magazine and publishing houses here,
which prevents him from disposing
of any of the good stuff. Wherever
he presents it, the editor finds some
excuse for turning him down, though
A
| than any he has heretofore turned out.
| Explanations being in order he has
been politely told in a number Of the
offices that his intervention in the do
/ nestle affairs of the Sinclairs-call 1T
by whatever name he chOOses-haS
made him unpopular with readers and
hence impaired the value of his work,
| much as the troubles of Oscar Wilde
injured his reputation as a popular
writer and the tangle of Broughton
Brandenburg, who was accused OF
4 forging the name of Grover Cleveland
to a Reputation of Organism prior to
the last election, caused that author
to lose caste with publishers: One
editor, disposed to be friendly to the
Kansas poet, advised him that his on
ly recourse was to send his WRITINGS
to the magazines under a nom de
plume, but this Kemp who arrived"
in the poetic field some years ago has
| indignant y refused to do. AS even
soul love has to be fed on something
more substantial than sornets to the
twinkling stars, Mrs Sinclair, unable
to stand the gnawing demands of ma
| ture and the menu of unfulfilled hopes
provided for her by Kemp, concluded
starvation as the affinity of poet
may be sentimentally e or1ous but as
practical proposition has little to COM
mend it. The couple had been living
until recently in a bungalow on the
outskirts Of the city, where they were
able to practice the most rigid econ
omy. But with no money to supply
/ the sma lest necessities of life, even
this was intolerable to the woman. who
is said to now realize that her esca-
pade with Kemp, to whom she is mar
ried only in Heaven and not on earth,
was all a silly mistake of a succep-
tible woman of a nervous ternrera-
ment. Sinclair who is now in Germany,
| whittier he took his young son to be
educated has been communicated with
] by some Of the friends of the couple,
but it is said he vii not listen to over
lures for the withdrawal of his di-
vorce action, now pending in the
courts here.
In the next week or two there is go
ing to be the biggest kind of light
between John Armstrong Chanler and
his brothers William AstOr Chanler,
for the restoration to the former of the
100000 estate belonging to him, now
trusteed here on the ground that he
is insane. Chanler, who is great
! grandson of the original John jacob
Astor, is the former husband of Anne
lie RiveS, the authoreSS, now the Prin-
cess Troubetzlloy of Russia. Many
years ago his family had him ad-
judged insane and committed to the
Rloomingda'e asylum, from which he
contrfved to effect his escape on
Thanksgiving day, 1900. Though he
has been legally declared sane in Vir-
ginia where he is now residing, his es-
ltate here is still trusteed for him as If
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