The Democratic banner. (Mt. Vernon, Ohio) 1898-192?, 1912-01-19
Good
A Girl's Manners.

n GirIS Manners.
There are many small and unseen
reefs upCn which the girl seeking so.
ciul success may come to grief. and
one of the most dangerous Is that of
broken social engagements.
, In the present day old fashioned
courtesy and consideration seem to lie
asleep or else TO have left society en-
tirely. The modern hostess only too
frequently receives "A telephone mes
sage from some guest ut the last mo-
ment saying without the least com
junction. 80 sorry, but it is impOssi-
ble'
AS n rule. this sort of thing is mex
cusable. OF course conditions may
arise under which nothing else can lie
done. but the girl who usually sends
message of this kind IL of the selfish
type and rarely succeeds in attaining
popularity. She Is thinking more OF
her own caprice than of her hostess.
1t IL not IN easy matter to fill In OF
dinner or luncheon or bridge. No mat
ter how well poised u hostess may lie.
q disappointment Of this kind is upset
ting, and the selfish or thoughtleSs girl
who Is the occasion uf her embnrraSs-
ment is apt to have Il black mark
against her name in that particular
hostess mind.
The trouble Is that the girl of today
is too careless in her acceptance of in.
vitatlons. On the spur of the moment
she accepts and then frequently de-
cides that the whole thing is bore.
or something else comes up that she
would prefer doing. and she finally
ends by declining the invitation at the
last moment, thus urousing an antago.
nism that cannot help but handicap
her In her social career
1t Is a simple matter to decline In
the first place. A decllnation Of this
sort n hostess has no right to resent.
but once her list is closed 1t IL another
matter.
Telephone Is One Cause.
A young girl recently remarked that
she accepted every invitation which
came to her. then picked those she pre-
ferred. throwing over the others. This
sounds well, but sooner or later 1t will
result In unpopularity. Neither cour.
tesy nor consideration justifies such q
course.
Naturally one has preferences. There
are certain things one would rather
do. A girl should make up her mind
what these things are and accept them
before everything else. but she should
not play fast and loose with invita-
tions she does not want.
Let her decline them definitely the
moment they are presented to her and
she will find she makes fewer enc
mics, while Mt the same time she
pleases herself.
One hears the impulsive girl say,
"Oh. that Is all very well, but what
can one do in this day when people
call you on the telephone and fire in
vitations at you point blank and your
mind Is as destitute OF excuses as an
empty birdcage?"
The best advice for this situation Is
to learn to think quickly and decline
definitely II II is thing one does not
care to do. One can always have an
engagement to sit at home and cult
vate ones mind.
Courtesy Always Pays.
The average girl will say that this
Is trivial subject, and If courtesy
and consideration are trivial then 1t
is, but 1t is the little things that so
often get us disliked and land us in
the lonely land.
The girl who accepts an invitation
as an evidence of good will and treats
It with perfect courtesy will find her
social path smoother and her owI
pleasures less complicated.
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