El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-04-30

~ HAT we do spoil them cannot be
denied. The most optimistic OF
US must admit IT, Perhaps the
only persons who viii not agree TO that
statement are the parents Of over-in-
dulged children.
When one looks for the reason for
this r-indulgence one thinks at first
that great love on the part OF the
mother accounts for Il. II so. her love.
which may be great IN quantity. is Tar
from perfect in quality. The colt that
when full grown. IS 20 be used 10 drag
a heavy wagon. is not left TO run the
fields and do as he likes until the day
that he is put into the shafts and
hltched 20 the cumbersome vehicle. He
is trained gradually 20 the harness
then TO pulling a light buggy or sulky
and as his strength increases. he be
comes used 10 the greater demand put
upon a. Otherwise. his initial effort
as a draught horse would result in gem
eral harm-to himself the cquipage
and harness and. possibly. 20 the indis-
Greet driver
Our children should be gradually
trained for the work OF life, They
must. sooner or later submit their
Wills 10 the rule and direction OF some
one above them. IL IS nothing snort
or cruelty 90 turn our young people
loose in the world without uIllllll6
them ga self control and proper SUD-
mission 20 authority.
the wrong direction says one tnotneI.
SO she does not train her az an but
the small daughter trains the motheE'
she Trains the Mother.
Yes. she dOes-ridiculous as the
statement may sound. The parent
feels uncomfortable whenever she j.
out a little later than usual IN the
afternoon. for the child at home IS so
nervous when Mama does not return
at the customary time that the nurse
cannot quiet her and she Weeps
stormily until the sound or the par
ents voice proves that the recalcitrant
senior has returned and is on duty
Then the repentant mother gathers the
Walling vOungster In her arms ana
Apologies for being out late.
But 4 love her so dearly mat i am
willing to sacrifice my own pleasure
and my social life to the dear little
creature" she pleads. when her friends
demonstrate with her
But she does not love the child
enough TO take the pains TO teach her
unselfishness and self control The
mother is guilty OF a self abnegation
that is actually sinful and her child
atty OF this sin OF the parent
We deceive ourselves and call things
by pretty names because we do not
look our motives squarely in the face.
The mother who spoils her child IS
lacking i'm courage. or Is too lazy TO
dfscfuIIne her Years ago i heard a
woman saw. my natural inertia tempts
me to over-indulge my children. IL is
a nuisance TO have TO stop what I am
doing and enforce an order. or ad-
minister a deserved punishment
have to be very strict with myself and
call upon al my love for my little
ones to get up the energy 10 train
them properly"
She was honest enough TO recognize
her weakness and thus overcome N
That II Is "a weakness is proved by the
fact that fhe most unSelfish mothers
fthev fatter themselves that they ara
uuselfishl often have the most selfish
sons and daughters. and the mothers
who have demanded most In the vrav
OF duty and obedience have been ths
best loved. children are keen critics.
and have a clear sense OF Justice. and
they do not love less the mother who
Furnishes when she promises 90 do SO.
who reproves outbursts OF temper or
disobedieuce. 10 she is also the mother
who commands good behavior and re-
members Co give the deserved COM
meudauon OF good conduct
Children Her Masters.
II am $50 tired OF children sIghrd
one YOUNG girl Her married sister