The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1912-11-19
THE RIGHT WAY TO
TREAT A HUSBAND
In Sermon by Rev. Mr.. Smith,
He Indicates How a Wife
Should Behave.
SMILE AND LOOK PRETTY
Don't Hit Him With a Club,
Even If He Deserves It;
Be Cheerful.
SMILE AND LOOK PRETTY
(From Monday Advertiser)

Rev Robert E. Smith, whose recent
sermons on "Courtship" and "Mar-
riage.' have excited more than the
usual interest in the large congrega-
lions which gather every Sunday even
ing, in the First Methodist Church,
took as his subject last night, "'How
Wife Should Treat Husband. He
said:
81 presume some of you good women
will not like some of the things | ex-
pect to say in the next thirty minutes.
You probably liked all ] said last Sun
day evening when l was making it
somewhat uncomfortable for the men.
The men received their message kindly.
trust you wives will give this mes
sage a kind reception. But l hereby
serve notice that am going to be very
plain in dealing with you. l have
tried to be exceedingly plain, but SYM
pathetic in all these messages. You
will not agree with me in all my con-
cmsions, but | will have the satisfac-
ton at least that | have expressed my
convictions.
"I hope every wife here receives
such generous treatment from her hus-
band that in her heart of hearts she
| believes she has the very best man in
the world But permit me to reverse
this declaration and say that L hope
every husband here receives such gen
erous treatment from his wife that in
his heart of hearts he believes he has
the very best woman in the world.
| hope that both husbands and wives
here have no jars in their homes, un'
less it be merely pickle or jam jars
| sincerely trust you have no fighting
in your homes, unless it is fighting to
gether every influence which would un
dermine the home. | indulge the hope
that you never make faces at eacf
other, unless your faces involve tvs
things-smiles and goo-goo eyes. i
is perfectly harmless, yet positively de
lightful, to make such faces. Try il
more often in your homes and see fol
yourself.
eff every married woman adopted
the simple suggestions which / will
make in this sermon there wound b.
more happier and contented home
J than there are now.
=. Inhuman Perfection.
"My first suggestion is, do not ex
pect perfection on the part of you
husband. Before marriage you prob
ably thought he was well nigh perfect
He always smiled, he always did tn
nice things, he was always good ma
tured, he always spoke kindly. Blu
since marriage you have found that h
really knows how to frown, that some
times he is not as nice as you thin
he ought to be, that his good natur
seems to fail at critical moments, tina
his voice may be harsh as well a
sweet. Such a revelation is not YER
pleasant. You find, in other words
that you have married an impe7fec
man and not an ideal hero or pei
feet angel. But such discover.
should not greatly disturb the wifi,
There are many women who go thrOug
; life demanding perfection on the par
of their husbands instead of studyin
their imperfections and trying to adap
themselves wisely to them.
/ "That husband of yours is human
very human. He has his failings, in
| projections, shortcomings and weak
ness. There is an old adage whic
says, you have to live with peopl
in order to know them. Married lif
: reveals the imperfeetions of both tn
husband and wife. congratulate
} you that you are living with huma
! rather than an angel or perfee
saint. take it that life in this pres
} ent world and in this environment
: far more interesting because we al
! are humans. Don't expect that has
band of yours to reach perfection i
the life that now is. If you do yo
! will be disappointed throughout you
, married life.
. "What ! have already said natural
suggests the next thought Let me o.
press it tersely as follows, Do not ma
him. / have chosen this word mag
] with great care. IL means 10 annoy, b
, petty, faultGnding, TO irritate by pei
. sistently fretting, 10 constantly Temn
/ YOUR husband Of his past mistakes, fai
: iugs, shortcomings. Tho root meanin
p OF the word Is 10 nibhlo, 10 peck, I
pnaw' Many w0mas has nibhle,
! neeked and Rnawed her husband mt
l.. IL Loo Ill