The Washington herald., 1912-03-14
A LITTLE PURSUIT
is GOOD FOR A MAN
He Values Most the Girl Who Makes
Him Climb.
: By DOROTHY DIX.

A. young man, with e kind and SYM
pathetic heart, and who is a rooter for
nsstrimony, writes me a letter in which
he hands out a piece Of leap year advice
Cn how t. win a husband. He says:
Girls Just show man that you are
II iovo with him and he will ask you TO
marry him. I would never think of such
thing as popping the question to a girl
until she had given me to understand
that che would say Yes / wouldn't put
myself in the position to be mortified
by her turning me down, and 1 think
that most men feel as do on the sub
3ect."
Oh, shucks. This may be a good tip
on q few men, but II is not one to be
played across the entire matrimonial
board. It will win out with some men,
and lose out with many more. 1t all de-
Dends on the amount Of vanity the man
possesses.
Undoubtedly there are men OF colossal
egotism that find no woman so attractive
ns the one who sits at their feet and
burns incense before them. Such a man
Sc hattered and pleased by having
woman display all the symptoms of heart
failure every time he comes about. He
likes 10 have her run after him. He en-
joys having her call him upon the phone
and entreat him to come to see her. He
writes him six seventeen page letters
and he Is filed with delight when he
Eees her throwing fits OF jealousy when
10 turns the light Of his countenance on
some other woman.
He Never Proposes, Unless
Naturally this type of the human bull
frog never proposes TO q woman unless
she first indicates that she's down on her
knees waiting for him to condescend to
throw the handkerchief. and that she
will spend the balance Of her life return
ing thanks 10 heaven for her luck In
getting him.
Possibly the woman who goes fishing
for a man OF colossal conceit does well
10 bait her hook with q ready-made ac-
ceptance. But he's as easy 10 ensnare
as German carp IN a pond. Any woman
with as much intelligence as God vouch-
sated an Rngleworm can catch this type
Of man. II he is slow in coming to the
point. or wriggles on the hook OF an en-
ERgement, and tries TO get out OF II,
all that she's got TO do is to make him
think that she will break her heart II
she loses him, and that does the busi-
ness. He is SO sorry for any woman who
is weeping over missing such a good
thing as himself that he hasn't the nerve
TO deprive her Of It.
To the great majority OF men, how
enchanting ana disIllusioninE as a woman
who is too willing, and II I were giving
advice on this subject, should say that
the best way to catch q man Is to run
from him instead OF after him.
For q girl to play coy arouses the nor
NAL mans sporting blood, and lures him
OH to the chase. Many a woman has
, first attracted a mans attention by fout-
ing him And this Is perfectly natural
-phe1omenon Of human nature. There Is
thrill, and anxiety, and effort, and ad-
venture, and romance IN stormtng the
citadel Of a proud maiden's heart, and
breaking down its fortresses and taking
itE owner captive, and Il makes the man
who does II feel like laurel crowned vic
tor, but what's the excitement about
wooing q girl who hands you out a title
deed 10 her affections the first time you
call?
The mere fact that men prefer to shoot
birds on the wing to knocking over barn
yard fowls in the chicken run ought TO
put every girl wise to the folly Of being
too fond. Generally speaking, the girl
who throws herself at q mans head
never hits him, for men are the artful
dodgers.
Do Not BE Too Cold.
But while It IL disastrous to her chances
for q girl to wear her heart upon her
sleeve, It IL equally bad policy or her TO
pose 4s Proud Lady Disdain. In old-fash-
toned novels the heroines are always rep
resented as naughty creatures who hand
ed out the ice pitcher to every man who
came along, and were simply insulting
IN their remarks to the opposite sex, yet
who always had rows OF suitors signing
and clamoring for their hands.
These high and mighty tactics wouldn't
work in these days, when there are not
enough husbands to 60 around. and men
are not particularly bent on matrimony.
anyway. The too-difficult woman would
be left as much to her own devices as the
too-anxious one, and 'spinster' would be
carved on botE OF their tombs.
All OF which leads to saying that in
her attitude toward men and lovemaking