Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1912-01-07


are always lasting and the classes there likely to
remain apart. Around Monmouth Beach and up by
Seabrght there hopeful spots; but the Rumson
Road is hard to travel, and the other hand, Long
Branch is as much of the question Asbury Park.
Your sons,I use the plural for convenience you
have any, are your trump cards They should be en-
tered early smart preparatory schools for universities
Harvard is first choice with Yale more scholastic but
less snobbsh as second; Princeton, with certain
wealthy substantial element as third English unver-
sites are misleading especially your home to be in
this country. Then there is big jump. Columbia IS
preferred to Others for the that the can be
made that you wish to have your sons live at home.
long that of the Union Club; but you must get the
lads in somewhere
Impress upon them to make friends only with those
BOYS who will be useful to them afterward Demand the
of their chums and find out their position from
the Social Register and other volumes OF useful lnora-
ton. At the time, do not let them toady to
Others but quietly rival them in expenditures if they
rich gently patronze them If they among the
"aristocratic poor Keep them always supplied with
college pranks; but they grow older keep sufficient
vigilance them lest they fall into the hands OF
college widows matrmonally inclined. At vacation
time encourage them to bring their chums home with
them, or entertain them. If in town you can give
dance large party to the Hlppodrome, the circus,
the football game the current buresue, and have It all
excelently well done. DO not spare any expense.
"Father'-f the young hopeful heir OF some financial
parsonage with position eligible business friend
is the board with him on Wall Street or he sees
him on Change-rnust get his ear and tell HIM what
fine fellow his boy and how he and your great
chums If you have country place. give house parties
and surround yourselves at all times with evidence
of prosperity. such garages of motorcars, special
trains if needful, yachts equpages, and other tTes
Tuxedo would again be most useful at this stage,
pecialy you have cottage there for the Winter
sports promote friendships OF value Young men like
your sons-well groomed, well behaved and up to the
general requirements, bit slangy and trlfe
rough for the moment from devotion to athetlcs-are
looked with exceeding favor by Mamas who have
daughters for future matrimonial launching. 1t is
through college friendships that the best matches have
been made. The market is not too well stocked with
eligible parts Mascunes of the new regime are always
welcome The boys will often, without effort gain in
year foothod that it might take dozen more for
the elders reach, and then only after hard climbing
AS to your girls, 1t is another question: Unless they
are very attractive with fortunes the work not
so easy You will undoubtedly put them in fashionable
schools; but that does not always avail much. You
will caution them their school friendships, and will
teach them suffer snubs with serenity They must be
quick and able to grasp opportunity They have to
look forward to the all important day of their debut,
and if you have for them, they must be surrounded
with schoolmates of the best selection So much de-
ponds this! They should also join smart dancing
class, meeting at place like Sherry the Plaza.
They should be well gowned and have every evidence of
luxury; but all this with studied simplicity. And
during this period they should constantly eliminate,
year by year. their undesirable friends. Perhaps,
before making their debuts year months abroad
would be good investment.
You have reached the chrysalis stage. The plot
is Matching. A mistake, and YOU lost \ wrong
signal from within and there hope for you.
You must keep your head and when YOU are snubbed
by whose position you consider better than your
own remember the advice of Townsend Martin-and he
knows-and snub someone else little lower down than
yourself Put to practice in this regard the golden rule
of the Sunshine societies and "Pass it on" The very
fact that you in position to snub proof
that you are advancing
You have now town house, country home, sea-
side cottage motors, horses at the opera m you
get into the parterre CIRCLE yacht perhaps, and
other things. You acquire first class housekeeper
who has been only with the best people, and better
yet, unattached, well born, well known, but i'm