The Washington herald., 1912-03-18
DON'T MARRY A
CONCEITED MAN
he Will Take the Best Of. Every
thing for Himself.
ny DOROTHY DIX.

A correspondent writes:
IT have just read your article on the
Winning Attitude! am interested in
the subject for personal reasons, and
should like to know how a woman
should act toward an egotist that Is
clearly waiting for her to get into the
kneelIng position before he deigns to
ask her to marry him?"
What should q girl do under such cir
cumstances? My advice TO her is to get
up OF OF her knees and simply beat II
away from a man who is 50 egotistical
that even when he's In love he is think
ing more about himself than he is about
woman.
There may be, and doubtless are. many
worse men than the self-conceited man,
makes such an insufferable husband In
preference, marry the gambler, the
drunkard. the loafer-anybody-rath
than the man AFFLICTED with what the
alienists call the exaggerated ego"
The cheerful sinner will. at least, have
moments when he will consider you;
when he win be in sack cloth and ashes
before you; when he will be human and
companionable, and anxious to please
you, but the man with an incurable case
OF swell head never thinks OF anybody
else except himself, never admires any
body but himself. never loves anybody
but himself, never talks OF anybody but
himself. for he thinks he's really the
only important person in the world.
Ever Notice Thems
And he's tiresome, goodness gracious
say, did you ever notice that these pomp-
Gus gentlemen, that swell out their chests
SO their shirt studs won't hold, and who
commence every sentence with a capital.
T." have all of them been married two
or three times or more? Well. what allied
their wives was that they were bored
to death. OF course the doctors may
have given a certificate that they died
from pneumonia, or typhoid, or some
thing like that but what really killed
the ladies was thai big 'T," that eternal
'I' Of hubbys. No feminine constitution
could stand II.
Therefore. my dear girl. as you value
Your life. to say nothing OF your peace
Of mind and happiness, pass up the con-
ceited man who can't even come down
on OF his pedestal long enough to court
girl properly, but wants her to do all
Of the love making.
Take IL from me. my dear, that be-
fore marriage a man should be in the
dust before woman's feet, beating
his head on the ground and crying out
Unworthy! Unworthy for after mar
riage the humblest suItor becomes up
pish enough as a husband, and secretly
thinks that he conferred such a favor
on his wife by keeping her from being
an old maid that she never can repay
him even with a lifetime's devotion
Hence I repeat my advice: Whatever
you do, whatever kind OF q husband you
pick out. don't marry a conceited man.
In the first place the egotist is incarnats
selflshness. He will take the best of
everything for himself. He will have
three new suits and fur-lined overcoat, |
while you will make over your year be-
fore last dress. and shiver around in a
thin Jacket He will go to the theater,
and begrude you the money for a NOV
ing picture show. He viii eat a s. lunch |
downtown and expect you TO have hash |
for yourself and your children. He will |
turn over and sleep the sleep of the Just. |
while you walk the baby with the collie |
through the Silly hours OF the night.
You may work your fingers to the bone |
for him, you may make yourself a reg
ular miser pinching and economizing to
help him along. you may offer up your
self as a burnt sacrifice on the kitchen |
stove cooking things that he likes and
you will never get a bit OF thanks or
appreciation. The most that he will do
will be TO pat himself on the hack for
his good Judgment in having picked out
SASA dh tAAA-4GhA dOihtSllC SldNC-
Worse Than Smallpox.
Don't marry a conceited man, because |
to have an oracle in the family is worse
than having 4 perpetual case OF small |
pox. Observe the wife OF the egoust, |
my dear. She is of mature age. She is
intelligent-very likely a college gradu-
ate. She reads and thinks, and possibly |
has ten times as much sense and knowl- |
edge as her husband. But she is as much |
as IL she were a feeble-minded
child OF ten. She can't Join a club nor buy |
a dress. nor even express an opinion until |
after she has asked husband and the |
oracle has spoken.
OF course, the conceited man is easily |
worked. He is putty in the hands of any
woman who Is EXPERT in spreading the |
salye, but think how tired you can get |
of always having to fatter a man into
doing the things that he should do! Con- |
slider the contempt you would come to |
have for a man whose vanity was so |
enormous and so ridiculous that he could |
be managed through i'll Believe me,
waiting hot air at a man is an occupa- |
ton that gets on a sensible woman's |
nerves in a mighty short time
Don't marry an egotist Just remem- |
ber that the bigger a mans head is the |
smaller his heart, and that self-love |
crowds out every other emotion. The |
conceited man never has a real passion |
for any other human being but himself. |
Leave him to II.