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The Whole Aim OF Marriage.

- HE inimitabe @. K Chesterton has said. THE whole aim OF mar
rage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompati-
I'll biHty becomes unQuestionable"
- We all know Chesterton. and we enjoy the clever thrust OF
this, and think Of our various acauaintanoss It hits, though It does not, Of
course, touch 10.
We would hats t. think that marriage generally was continued on
this basis And " . take comfort to ourselves that at any rate. we have
not yet arrived at that instant.
But that many do arrive at It IL without question And the fact that
they do not survive II, Is what keeps the divorce mill running
OF rourse. the question Of compatibility ought to be studied before
marriage. But IT seldom is 1t 10 taken for granted Two people and
delight in each others sodety. They like. or thsy think they do. the same
books and plays and music and pictures. II now and them there h a lttIs
rift, It Is quickly bridgsd over. And all goes smfingIy. The question Of
compatibility is ever searched deeply. down TO Foundation things.
Then some day. the two wake mp. and they and there Is nc compaH-
bf1ny. The wife wants to go ons way. the husband another. They dis.
cover that their common ukfngs are tho merest supernchHties. II ia this
awakening, this shock. that is disastrous to some. II sympathy dies out,
I quarreH slip In they are o the road to the divorce court or a most nn-
Sappy married existence.
But If they can night through ana survive ths. If they "a summoa
forbearance. II they ia ind o. good still left, they ian 80 forward,
condition than divorces o continual qnarreirng will bring them.
But some Will say why do this7 Why live a lief
There srs many reasons for doing It. And rightly lived. such =
HIS is OF a lie, II there are children. here is a reason quite sufficient
Children should not be brought up IN a home that 10 a battle-ground
between husband and wife. A divorce wouid probably be better than
this But II mutual forneawancs ruhs, tho children d grow up tn 3
calm. apparently happy atmosphere. And snss they an brought here
without ehohs. BONO things re ds thems
Then again. the lot Of the divorced man r woman is OF = particularly
harry ore. Although among the -Four Hundred, IL may be mors fasns
fonahis to be divorced thaa to be happily married. In tho averages Amsrt
cn community, che disorssd person d locked ut askanse, And the man
discovered. will not nd his future path quite a. bright and carsfrss Il
anticipated
bearanes and self control that taxes ths plaza OF ts rapsuroua emotion
OF the nrs chapter OF married life. there viii DO q steady urbuHdfns
OF sharaetev. When the twain hare foasht through and survived thai
Instant ~avn iaeemvaxsnany % aissavsFsa, asa the storm wasaa havs
SEabsfdad. there Will DO foane to be SONS fxsgmaEfs OF lore Left. The
two = hip aaa othsr yst. sesins nw vita ssssss ylsha, shsy mas
discover they ass mo.s necessary TO each other Eha hsfoYss necessary
that is to q beautiful davsiegHasnE OF character
And aas thoaaa y may dhagrss with ehestsrtea, sAas the whos
aim Of marriage Il 10 ashs thrsueA shs iH#saaa. 1t Ia In nost sass ssssss
soart 10 hare shachass kHsekad or.
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