The Big Sandy news. [volume] (Louisa, Ky.) 1885-1929, 1912-11-15
HOME Circle COLUMN.
oOLUliN DEDICATED TO TIRED
MOTHERS AS THEY JOIN
THE HOME CIRCLE AT
EVENING TIDE.
Training children.

lem is no nearer a solution now
than 1t has been since its inception,
1t is one of those perplexing ques-
lions that furnish interminable argu
ment. The mind of every parent
seems to be invested with his or her
peculiar individual theory as to how
the seeds of morality. industry and
intelligence should be sown during
the days of adolescence that they
may produce their legitimate results
at maturity. Years and experience.
which should afford us the oppor-
tunity of comparing our powers of
perception with those of others. fail
to correct the inconsistent expecta-
tions which arise from a want OF
capacity and discriminative observa-
ton to set the right value upon the
responsible task of"character mould
ing 1t often happens that the wis
dom we gain in this respect comes
too late, and the object which we
sought may be absolutely unattain-
able. 10y q
Many parents begin at the wrong
end. The exercise of severe in
fluence is productive of no good re-
suit and in their efforts to implant
in the young mind the fearful con-
sequences of association with an I'M
moral and vicious world they un-
consciously drift into extremes. The
safeguards of admonition are regard
ed as too simple. too impotent, and
oral advice is not infrequently en-
phasized by physical argument. A
rigid surveillance is kept over their
actions; everything they attempt is
met with severe restrictive policy.
The panorama of every day life is
kept from their gaze and study;
they are kept aloof from everything
that has semblance of worldly
pleasure, at which the young ma
ture finally rebels, and the influence
of this dangerous restraining power
is sure to assert itself. The life OF
a child becomes monotonous under
this course of treatment. 1t longs
for liberty of thought and action
and like a bird released from its
prison cages, when 1t gets beyond
the Threshold of home 1t finds IT.
self apparently in new world--a
world of deceit, temptation and Sc
ductive influences in nine
cases out of ten it falls an easy vic
tim.
Still another method presents it.
self. Some parents say: "Oh, let my
child SOW his wild oats, 1t will set
tie down after a while" But this
view of the case frequently recoils
with sorrow and disgrace upon the
parents. Left to follow the dictates
of their own minds. with no re-
straining hand to check them, they
are suddenly caught up in the net
of temptation and lost beyond re-
demption. Youth, however. is not
without its guide, II it will take
warning from example. This is we'll;
but you must have someone to teach
it, to watch over 1t, and to impress
it with the necessity of cultivating
those virtues that give character
and honor to manhood and woman
hood. The foundation must be firm
upon which to rear the superstruc-
and it depends entirely upon
the wisdom of the parent what kind
of material shall constitute this
foundation.
A writer on this subject once per-
tinently said: Every man wants
tire sorts of education: one to fit
him for his own particular trade or
calling is professional educa-
ton; two, to teach him duty as a
man and citizen--this is moral an
political education; three, to fit
him for his higher relations, as
Gods creature, designed for immor-
tality-this is religious education"
And it strikes the writer very for
chilly that this combination of vir-
tues is a pretty stable foundation
upon which to build up the char
acter Of youth. There is evidently
too must restraining power in the
one case and indifference and a.
patty in the other.
The following his been handed to
us as a prize definition of good
husband: The bread of life for the
moral heart of woman is made of
the flour OF respect, moistened with
the water of confidence, raised with
the leaven of gracious temper,
sweetened with the sugar of love, |
seasoned with salt Of common sense, |
shortened with mirth and the whole
made palatable by the free use of
the potatoes of forgiveness.
800
One meets few unworried people. |
Most faces bear lines of care. Men
and women go anxious to their
n.