Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1912-06-15
TO PULL OFF
A PERFECT
MARRIAGE
BOSTON IS The PLACE
LORgfCIIOW'S Grandson Will
Be Happy Man

Boston, June 14-There is to be a
perfect" wedding out in Cambridge
June Is, one of the most interesting
weddings Boston ever has known. It
is none other than that OF Edmund T.
Dana, grandson of the poet Longfel-
low. and Miss Jessie Holiday, the
pretty little English portrait painter
and suffragist.
There's to be no minister at this
wedding, no bridesmaids, nshers or
best man. The ceremony will be per-
formed by Edmund NJ. Parker a Bos-
ton lawyer and friend of the family,
out in the open air, under the historic
trees of the Dana estate.
ana, the son of Richard H. Dana.
like his fiancee is a socialist He is
Harvard, '09, man, assistant in the de-
partment of philosophy, and this
month receives a Phi. D. They first
met at the Fabian summer school in
North Wales. The engagement was
announced last fall and the plucky
little English girl, who surely has
the courage of her convictions, left her
home in England and came to Ameri-
ca. She is now the guest of the Danas
where the marriage will take place.
Il consider health one of the most
important thing in the ideal husband"
the pretty prospective bride declared
today by health1 don't mean alb
sence of disease-people have the most
miserable standards of health-they
call themselves in perfect health #
they are able to get up most of the
days of the year and walk round with
the aid of stimulants in the way of
food, drink, tobacco, etc, and if thew
are more or less free from headaches.
colds, bad tempers, fits of depression
and uncontrolled desires, | imply by
health" she continued, the absti-
nence from tobacco, alcohol and meat,
for these all interfere with nature
Should Have Great Aim.
Then l think man should have
some great aim in life besides earning
a livingstone mighty purpose, to
which all his thoughts point-relig-
ion or socialism, for instance Without
this man can have no heroism.
The ideal husband would believe in
woman suffrage. The wife's point of
view should be asked and taken into
consideration on politics, as in the
home.
If he is suffragist he will regard
his wife as an equal with himself
mind, | do not say the same" she
warned. "He will leave entirely in his
wifes control her supreme function Of
motherhood; there she is not equal,
but superior to him. but as he is su-
perior to her in his particular life
work, if he has one, all questions to
do with sex should be left to the wo-
man . pNItCl JtuShlClI.
Then the ideal husband should
have good life behind him. The
conventional double standard of moral
ity for men and women is vicious.
Women must demand more of
men. They must assert their fastid-
iousness. Hitherto women have been
stolen, bought or given away, but civ
ilization is beginning to realize that
woman must be given absolute free
dom to exercise her faculty of choice.
She can then set her value. Men will
become just as strong, honorable and
beautiful in their lives as she de-
mands.
Il think the ideal husband should
love his wife. This sounds like an alb
surd platitude, but by love | don't
mean the usual romantic idealization
OF a person which necessarily wears
out in time, | mean absolute sympa-
thy with a person. Complete under
standing of his character. his faults
and qualities, coupled with an intense
interest in helping its development
and watching its growth.
Grand Cooperation Imperative.
There should be a grand co-opera-
tlon between man and wife, each help
ing the other to evolve to the highest
powers of beauty and utility. For its
complete union there must be abso,
Lutte confidence and frankness. with
each other. All their fears, hopes.
joys, sorrows, aspirations. ambitions.
failures and faults should be shown
and shared continually, without pride
or reserve, that they may keep in
constant understanding and sympathv.
Then man, to be an ideal hus-
band should take a real interest in
children and help enthusiastically and
thoughtfully in their whole upbringing
and nurture. He should regard wo-
manhood and motherhood as sacred