El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-11-23
Women Can't Change
Husbands Habits
But They Should Not Be DiscOnso-
late Over NeEIect-Wives Should
Face the Truth and Seek
Their own Amusements.''
By Dorothy DiN.-

IN the course of a year I get thou
sands Of letters from unhappy wives
\ complaining that their husbands neg
| Iect them, or that their husbands v i'll
never take them to any place OF
amusement, that their husbands are
niggardIy and stingy to them
In novels a husband sometimes is led
/ by his wife's gentleness and angelic
patience to turn over new leaf, and
from having been a concentration Of
cussedness become a paragon OF do
nestle virtues but If any such meta
mOrphOSis ever TOOK Llace IN real me
can only say that 1 have never been
privileged to behold It.
As a general working proposition a
wife may take il that what her nus
band is he is going to be to the end Of
the CHAPTER only more so as the years
go by. If he is kind, and tender, and
considerate he will be tenderer, and
kinder, and more conslderate as they
90 down the hill together, because big
souls grow with age. If man is
mean, and selfish, and stingy, and ty-
rannical, he viii grow meaner, and
more selfish, and Stlngy, and more ty-
rannical as he grows old because little
souls narrow, and warp. and grow
bitter with age.
If a man neglects his wife he does
so because he is tired OF her, and she
bores him. If he doesn't want 10 take
her out with him to any place Of
amusement it is because he has a bet
ter time without her. If he is penur-
iOus with her il is because he wants
to save his money for himself. These
are blunt and brutal facts, but they
are facts. Furthermore, there IS not
one blessed thing that a woman can
do to alter them.
The only remedy for the situation is
to face it fairly and squarely and Tor
women TO go TO work to make over
their own lives, which can be done, IN
stead of trying TO make over their
husbands, which cannot be done.
For instance, why should woman
rend the air with her walls because
her husband never wants to take her
out to any place Of amusement with
him2 Why doesn't she just accept the
truth that he doesn't enjoy her society
and get UP and hunt up some amuse-
ment on her own account
II he won't take her to a restaurant
to dinner and she yearns for the
shaded lights, the gorgeOusly dressed
women, the artificial palms and the
music of cafe life, she can find a per
feet substitute by going to tea at any
of the smart hotels. 1t isn't question
now of a woman being taken It's
question of her going"
Exactly the same thing may be said
to the woman whose husband IS
stingy to her. The woman who IS
married to a man who refuses to give
neE the money she ueeus Is AocA4sA "
waste her strength ana energy IN
whining or trying to wheedle dollars
out of him. She had far better face
the fact that if she is to have any
money to do with as she pleases she
win have TO earn it herself. and go to
work.
The trouble with women is that
they so seldom have the courage to
admit the truth to themselves about
their marriages when they have made
matrimonial mistakes
It is, Of course, hard on a woman
when she isn't privileged to sit down
at the head of the feast Of domestic
bliss, but she can make very tasty
dish of the crumbs of happiness that
fall from the table II she has the wit
and the determination to do It
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