The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1912-11-19

aud water, diup lv drop falls upon n
.t.ru.rr spot of his body. II is said
to be terrible punishment and the
luor victim Is ottent ures driven crazy
by this drop.by.drop process.
This ~ q hitting type of the pro
uss through which many unwisc wives
have put their husbands. The nagging
process has driven many man to the
saloon, the gambling den, the brothel,
the hnrlot, anywhere to get away from
her naggng. Such woman was aptly
described by Solomon thousands of
gears ago when he wrote. THE eontcn-
tions Of n wife are continual drop
ping.
Danger o. Gossip.
"In continuing this same thought /
would add, don Z tell others about your
husbands failings. Most men are SEN
sitive on this point. They know they
have their failings. Many men are en-.
gagged in n noble battle to overcome
their failings. But if husband finds
that his wife has advertised his fail
ings, it Anglers him and do not wonder
at il. These things are too sacred to
be published, too delicate to be told to
dear friends and neighbors, too pathetic
| to be peddled as gossip. A manly man
resents such action, on his wife Is part
and l do not blame him. The outside
world will discover enough weaknesses
i'll your husband without your reveal
ing them.
al make only one exception to what
i have Just been saying. There are
eases where wife can no longer en-
dure neglect, the abuse and brutality
of heartlcss and faithless husband.
Then, in leaving her husband she must
justify her action by briefly stating the
cause. But, until that sad day arrives,
she should show herself heroine and
| let the secrets of the home be regarded
as a sacred trust.
"Again, | urge you to encourage that
husband of yours in his respondent
moods. He needs encouragement, sym
pathy and love every day of his life.
He is the breadwinner of the home. He
goes forth in the early morning to his
toll and knows no rest until he reaches
the sweet haven of home at the close
of day. And it makes no difference
whether he be in professional, CONNER
cial, artistic or mechanical life. He
has temptations TO resist, difficulties to
overcome, trials to conquer, problems to
solve, Universities to face. If he comes
home sometimes in an irritable mood
cannot blame him.
Some Ways of Wives.
"Thc only wonder sometimes is that
he has any nerves or patience left. II
is just at this point that the true wife
has the most golden opportunities OF
her married life. When she discovers
that her husband is depressed she will
not say, why dldn t you leave YOU
cares and troubles in the office, tn,
store or the shopl You should no
come home in such mood as this. L
were man l would be ashamed t.
betray such weakness
''This is the way the unwise wife pro
ceeds. But the true, loving, wise wifi,
will proceed in vastly different man
, ner. She will throw her arms abou
him, look tenderly into his eyes an,
say, John, want you to cheer u
: for my sake, for the sake of our dar
ling children, whom God has given t.
us, and for your own sake. know
ybu have many veXations, cares an
trials. / have admired your heroisr
S in meeting these hard things. l Low
: you dearly and sympathize with yo
3 deeply. / will stand by you and
n am sure all will come right. Now
e John, ! have great faith in you an
e believe you will win out. God bles
= you and give you strength for you
n daily need.
s "Now, let me ask, what true ma
l could resist such treatment as this9 !
s he does not tell her, he will say to him
/ self Thank God for such true
>. noble, heroic wife. i surely made II
q mistake when / married her. She
y Jewell And John will go to his tas
l. the next morning with new light i
e his eyes and n new hope in his heart.
h "Tom Moore was wont to declaT
=, that having experienced the emptines
4 of applause and popularity, he found
= his home something better than tn
y world could give or take away.
n Economy VS.. Stinginess.
"Again | urge the wife to be 8
a economical as possible in running I'll
II home. Please note that / have NJ
~ said, BE stingy as possible. There
- vast difference between these tvs
conceptions. Some married couples al
so stingy in running the home thu
they don't get any real enjoyment OF
K of life. On the other hand, many
If man has been driven to despair, despe
b. alton and Generalization by reason {
t. the senseless extravaganza of his wifi
le it is nothing less than criminal for
a. wife to plunge her husband in debt /
# her carelessness and Indifference in IL
10 management of the home. The vii
e. should plan carefully to live with
i, the limits of her husband 3 salary. 81
"a should show her husband that she
A. profoundly interested in every phai
- of his temporal life.
- 81 feel that / must utter a seriOl
. word of warning before leaving tn
%, point. 1t sometimes happens that
~ newly-married couple reasons somewhi
as follows, we will be very careful
y our personal and home expenses. "
e. will save every dollar we can, unit
"a we can get our home paid for and g
~ ahead somewhat; we will refrain fro
y supporting the church and other goo
pt causes. When we have our house q
paid for and find we are living on Eai
n, Street then we will support the hhur'
n and other good causes.