Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1912-10-30
MARRY IN Il
YOUR OWYSET,
SAYS GADSkI
BEST WAY TO Be HAPPY
Then Cultivate an Under
standing Of Each Other

Los Angeles, Cal, Oct. 29.-"Suc-
cessful marriages." unused Nine. Joh-
anna Gadski, leaving o. Or moment
the thumbing of a scroll of music and
reaching for an eclair from the tea
table. Then she continued:
MARI age contracted outside of
ones own class are never successful;
they are often disastrous, and always
harmful, especially to women.
Women should never be allowed to
marry outside of their own set, and
they should be made to marry young.
That's the American way of express
ing it, is it not?"
And madame of the golden voice and
cornflower eyes showed row of very
even white teeth and crinkled up the
corners of her blue eyes as she made
plain that she did not agree with Ger
trude Anterior, that all women
should marry at thirty and none be-
fore, and that every woman should
smoke if she so desired"
who is Mrs Atherton?" she asked.
rs it so bad that do not know?
beg your pardon, but | do not read
English, nor do | write it-but my
daughter, she does both. am very
ambitious for my daughter, who is
eighteen.
There are two things in this world
every woman should know. The first
is that she place a proper value upon
herself and the second is to know
motherhood. No woman can be truly
great without these two things.
But, to return to marriage and how
to make it a success. OF course, you
understand that | have only myself
and my own life to Judge from. No
person, in my opinion, can judge for
or about another person.
Il married when | was eighteen. SO
feel that | can speak from the view
point of a woman who knows much
about MARI age and great deal about
herself. / have been married all these
years and to the same man"
Here madam chuckled and then
continued seriously:
Women, | have found, If they are
honest, cannot be happy with a per-
son outside their own range of soci-
ETY.. Gentlewomen must marry gent e.
men and middle class men marry mid
die class women. Then there is no
chance of offending one another's
tastes. 1t is through mixed marriages
that we have so much unrest and so
many unhappy UNI ons in America.
"The chief thing in marriage, to my
mind, is understanding. 1t is the big,
vital thing, and if the woman has it
not she nor anyone else with whom
she is associated can know happiness.
"I believe that every woman-every
mother, | will say-should teach her
chi dren this and to value themselves.
No matter how busy l am nor how
little time l have to devote to things {
love outside of my work, it is a sacred
duty with me to teach my daughter
these things
But the road to understanding is a
long, rocky one, if one hac not the good
fortune to have either a parent or a
good friend to direct her.
Il gained understanding through
many years of sacrifice and much
hard work
For instance"-and madam patted
her tall, slender daughters hand
when l was twenty and my baby only
eighteen months old found that ii
was necessary for me to leave not
only her, but my husband, for once Il
year. i HIS W DIS FcIg udiu anu uiodp-
pointing. | wanted them both with
me. But during this absence | learn
ed very great truth; one which
wish every woman would learn. Ba-
bies do not need their mothers nearly
so much when they are one, two, three
or four as they do when they are six,
seven and eight, and their need grows
with their years.
Let me make myself clear. Haven't
you seen women, when their babies
were little, run home every minute to
look at them, and when they were ten
or fourteen stay away and leave them
fer hours and days at a time?
at is the proud boast of my life that
my daughter is never away from me.
We study together, work together and
! never let my understanding get so
far away from me that she cannot tell
me things without being afraid of a
scolding. And this same scheme of ac-
ton applies to men, and husbands
Darticularly,"