The Richmond Virginian. (Richmond, Va.) 1910-1920, 1912-09-16

What Should a Wife Do?

tell you what I think woman who
years ago. when discovered my hus-
band was unfsithful. did as you
think a woman should do, as in
fer from what you say. left him.
because my eself-respect, my hon
or" would not allow me to condone
such an offense.
But / have never seen a happy day
since, and | realize now that no mat
ter what he did l would be happier
with him than can ever be. The real
true love Oh ~ real true woman Is not
easily uprooted. L ARROW. Tor / We
trteu eigut years, and II Is u hopeless
task
1 am leading a very easy life, and
get on IN the world all rlgnl, but
would gladly go back TO my husband
IL could and live in hut and SCRUB
tor him. which all sounds very IN
dignified and not high-minded at all.
and will not look we'll in print. but
1t Is the truth just the same, and
all truenearted women yin agree with
me In their hearts, IL not openly.
A REAL WOMAN.
There's letter for you, and true
every syllable OF It. or there is no
truth In nature. and no folly in the
world.
So yea want him back, do you.
poor, lonely, miserable little sister,
What for?
Would you trust him again, love
him again. believe In him again
Would yeu ever have one moment of
peace as long as you lived? Can you
forgive and forget too?
Well. then, you never should have
left the man at all. There are some
women like you. many OF them. They
have no lives OF their own at all, no
separate existence: they are as be-
reft without some one to cling TO
as vine IL without something to hold
II up while il climbs.
Good women, too and loyable--not,
perhaps, women to set the world afire
..++-rIns people 10 do as4yt great good. In
the world. or any great bad, either
just everyday, loving, unreaaoning,
unthinking. sweet little souls. who
need an ideal. living one to idealizs.
Such women should never allow any
momentary anger or temporary pride
to come between tSsem ana whal
seems to them happiness.
AAANS . LAE Eoat VI WnAiAh w no 0uE
to cling TO her husband no matter
what he does. He may beat her, lie to
her. laugh at her. neglect her. leave
| her to misery While ne rovel from
!, one joy to another--never mtnd. she
| loves him just the same, she can't
help 1t, and she shouldn't try. And
whisper. that's the very sort Of wo-
| man who usually has to forgive
seventy times seven because she can
and will.
What would do In your case. poor,
little. lonely. wistfui woman / would
crawl on my knees to the man who
had wronged me and 1 would beg him
to take me back and wrong me again,
/ If tt made me any happier TO do It.
Why nota 1t is happiness We seek
in this world after all, and il that's
your idea of happiness. why take IL
! in heavens name and smile, and keep
on smiling.
All women are not like you, some
| cannot love q man who has betrayed
them. They are not to blame for this
sort OF character: ii Is born In them.
In PHYS name, then, hunt up this
| man you love 50 dearly. entreat him
to forgive you for not forgiving him.
tell him of your tear-wet pillow, your
days of lonely misery. he may take
Ffty "a Soap aho iIahhe Son EiS vile
again.
But whisper. be careful before you
| find him to learn whether or not he
has found some woman who would
take the top OF HIS head off ff he
even looked at you again. If he has
found such q woman no may be dead
in love with her~-and that would be
| unpleasant for you. wouldn't IT.
Men are SO perverse. I know q
| man who deceived a perfectly good
| wife for years. and after she died
ne married termagant who wouldn't
let him speak TO another woman. and
he wonders how he ever lived with
| that first kind. loving. forgiving crea-
| ture. ....,e,..aA.a-
| or course he ought not to be that
way; he ought to love the one who
loved him 80 utterly, but somehow he
didn't. / wonder IL that very quality
of weak acquiescence was what alien
ated him from her.
Tell us gentlemen. lay your hand
on your hearts now. and speak the
| honest truth. do yon really love the
woman who win forgive you no mat
| ter what you do or have most Of
you sneaking fondne~s ror the wo-
man who has strength ana depth Of
character enough to demand the besf
that's In you--Hnd to be satisfied with
| nothing less?
Med icsl~ to know; we women we
really would; do answer and tell US.