The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1912-10-25
ONE WOMAN TO ANOTHER
Women Who Go to Extrenes-Too Much Neatness Almost As Bad as SloVenIiness-The Danger
 of Too Many Caresses.

I have often wondered wherein it is that so many women fail in every re- lation of life, particularly in the mar 1tal relation, and have concluded that the great trouble is we carry our no t1ons to such great extremes
 This may seem fault on the rlgnt side, if the over-indulgence pertains to neatness, to cheerfulness, or to any other attribute tending to make Ire happier or more comfortable.
 But if we are specific, and just Wo- man to woman analyze this overdo1ng, we find many things that react like boomerangs, and instead of mak- ing life happy make it quite the re- verse
 While affection is unquestionably a relation of man and wife, too many honeyed caresses clog. Too many words Of sugary endearment grow. know, Hubby is running away from the enfolding arms, the superabund- ant kisses. The adoring looks that thrust upon him, lose all their signih- canoe and charm.
 I believe many a wife loses out by not using moderat tion in her endear- ments.
 Then again if she is properly sane in this particular. she may rush to eX- tremes in her flousewifely instinct, anu make her home anything but a Heaven on Earth by her proneness to fuss1- ness. Excessive neatness is almost as bad as excessive disorder In fact many instances IL CAldAA6 OsSAA greater discomfort to the husband.
 A nan naturally likes a clean, well kept home. He does not want a sit on. He does not like floors so pol ihsed that you can't step on them, put must jump from one rug 10 anotnsr like safety spots Nor doss he Tnsn tat smoking must be tabooed.
 When a man can't set a glass down on a table cover without calling forth " can't let a few ashes fall on the noor or perchance lay cigar butt on the mante1 piece without creating a ais turbance in which the nefghbors are not specially interested, but in which they must perforce take part as ns- teners, then the fine art of housekeep- ing develops into a mania which errs on the side of extreme neatness. The wife who overdoes her devotion to her children is another one Wnose extravagant idea of her sense of duty | is slowly but surely driving her hus- band away from her.
 No husband or father would care to see. his wife negiectfui or n1l tnelr +pa+ 1n+ she is carrying maternal devotion tri1e too far, when she refuses to go anywhere with him, pleading she can as he appears in the home. warns him to silence by finger on lip and menac- ing brow.
 turb the sleeping infant is about all the conversation some men are priv iIeged to enjoy with their wives after the first baby arrives.
 It is little wonder that a feeling or jealous resentment creeps in. The woman finds later her mistake, when her husband seeks pleasure elsewhere, and the child fer whom she has sac riaced her husbands companfonship proves but rarely appreciative> Of her slavish devotion.
 All of these conditions, like every thing else handled in moderation would rebound to the happiness of the home relations, As I have describ- ed them, they are 8 menace to any real comfort for the husband, and that should exist in married life.
 Even religious zeal, beautiful Qual- ity in woman, can upset a home com pleteIy if meetings and affairs of church and Sunday school take her away from home, and while she is speaking on Temperance at a conven- I-tion, or emotiona11y and conyincingly seek Salvation, her home is accumu- lating dust and her husband cooking his own meals. I am not particularly champion of men, but I can see our faults, siS- ters mine. Seeking for the milk in the cocoanut of marital discord, find that it is curdled by extrayagance- agement but in such instances as I have mentioned, and many others l which probably you have in mind. COUSIN PHE1BE. WANTED FOR THEFT
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