The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1912-10-17
ONE WOMAN TO ANOTHER
What Makes Divorces-Women Often
 to Blame-Are Too Exacting.

If you could see my mail some days, 1 dear little sister mine. you would 1 think that there were not a single 1 contented married woman in the whole l world.
 One fusses about this-another fuss 1 eS about the other
 This little lady regrets that she mar ried man whose sole ambition is ap- gives her a peck quoted absolutely 1 instead of the erstwhi1e long and lin gering kiss of the real honeymoon days.
 l Another bemoans the fact that her husband doesn't earn enough to give 1 her the luxuries she craves in prefer ence to the ardent caresses and com pliments that he daily bestows upon 1 her.
 The statistics of 1911 show 91, 600 di- vorces. Isn't this enough to make our 1 mothers and grandmothers rise from their graves. They would denounce 1 marriage as no longer an institution that means ''tilI death us do part, for better, for worse, for richer, for poor er'' but just simply something that can be put on and off like gown i which this season is in fashion and next year is not.
 I am not putting men on a pedestal really do not think any of them be- long in the niche of fame. But must admit, from observation and per- sonal experience, that the women are largely to blame for the break in the marital relations
 
 pect too much While any woman is quite right in asserting her rights when a man is obviously untrue, ac- cording to the VOWS he made before the Altar of God, she can condoTne much, which is merely the fault of a mans though ughtfessness-
 I fully believe that many couples who have been married over the twen- ty year mark, and claim that they never had sharp word or fabr1catDRs. They have forgotten those little scraps xr6i inf TT19 fa a T1nnI2aS- ant.
 am not posing as reformer. But do say if you can ,. get 7,,rs over 1tht,e the hating each other, the divorce statis- tics will be lowered.
 After the romance of courtship. the moon, you wake up to the fact that you have married a man, not a Knight of Queen Ezisabeth's Court It isl catered to, and who having caught the car' is going to sit down and en- joy the trip in a calm and unroman- tic fashion.
 The man who discovers after a year or two of marriage that his wife Is not robust in health, and Is subject to moods and unable to look after his house, is real angel if he doesn't get mad at times. But he would be l the antithesis of angel if he left her he will be sick and she will have to administer hot water bags and Red Cross plasters.
 wouldn't he think her anything but look after him?
 In summing up, marriage really is a case of entertaining two bears-Bear and Forbear. If these little Ted dys''-not of the Bull Moose type-get a good grip husband and wife there will be a chance of reducing the statistics on divorce referred to pre- vfously. PARAGRAPH POINTS ON
 PADS AND FASHIONS.
 There is a novelty bag made of black taffeta, trimmed with old-fash- toned quillings of our grandmother's day. These bags are mounted on jeweled frames and are carried Cor deliere style. der straps These extensions are gen. orally of the same material the gir- dle and are a contrast over lace or tulle. These straps are effectively 1 trimmed with buttons
 The woman who wishes to combine l beauty with utility will use serge. Blue 1 and brown are the favorite colors; l gray and green are good. A dress of | serge trimmed with black satin and | lace can be very smart. The most striking novelties in veil ings- are the various chenile-dotted | tuxedo veils. The clever grouping of plicated floral and scroll patterns with very effective results
 Collars and cuffs of bright-cofored cloth or velvet are seen on some of Of beige color had a collar of tur- velvet or the collar of a striped suit was of channels cloth.-Boston Post
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