Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1912-09-07
Remembrance for Friends
Birthday
Dear Miss Doom

Dear Miss Doom:
I met a young man last year two
weeks before Christmas and nave peeh
going with him ever since. For Ohris'-
mas he gave me two beautlful poohe
and a box of nice candy, and l nave
been receiving candy from him every
week since. My birthday came INC
later part of January. He sent hie q
beautiful bouquet of flowers. lie tens
me he loves me and / return my ~
for his. but he tells me he would never
asl any girl to marry him unless ne
could Civ her a home as gooo OF oe
fer than she has. l have a good nome
and don't have to work, only heip
at home. His work has been very
poor from the time | met MIN until
July. when he started to get ousH'
He always gave me good times. On ae-
count of his work he said he couidh I
give me any better presents, but l
think they were very nice under the
circumstances of not being old frlenus,
Now, his birthday is next week anu +.
would like to give him sometnins' pue
do not know what to give him. DO
vo,, think II would be improper to
give him a pair of gold buttons? rms
is the reason l am writing to you
F" VIOLA.
7 think the Gifts with which your
L lhAAA fAS
friend has remembered you are very
sppropriate He has shown excel
,ent taste in their selection, and you
could not do better than to follow
MS example. If / were you | would
reserve the gold cuff links>for your
first gift to him after your Engage
ment. They generally last a long
time and are one of the few mi
that a man can keep indefinitely. He
generally prizes them very hlgnly
and they will be doubly valuable TO
him if they mark an occasion such
as | have mentioned.
IT is always a hard problem to Sc
lect a gift for a man. II he is or a
literary turn of mind the matter is
easy, as he can never have too many
books. If his tastes do not run IN
this direction a plain leather wallet,
q leather covered memorandum or
address book, a desk set, a fountain
pen or a picture will be appro-
pirate. If he is fond of smoking a
humidor, a tobacco pouch. an ash
tray or a match box, not too ex-
p~ensive. will be appreciated.
Although I do not believe In mar
riage unless there is money enough
to live comfortably and to put aside
a little every week to provide against
the doctors bills, still I do not think
a girl should be deferred from
marrying by the fact that the young
man cannot supply a home equal to
that she is leaving. She must re-
member that her fathers income is
the result of years of work, while
her husband is just starting out In
life. If he is earning enough to sup
ply their needs and save a little for
a rainy day and has the qualities
which make for success she should
not demand Injuries. If o Will
talk to your father about 1t | think
ne will tell you hat in the days be-
fore you came into the home there
was some planning and saving to
make your. stay free from the little
wants.
Mother. too, will admit that she en-
loved being a partner in the building
of the family fortune and that she
is proud today to know that she did
her share in arranging matters SO
that you are not forced to go out OF
the home into the business world.
Don't permit yourself to be Joined
to poverty with your eyes open, but
or the other hand, remember thai
Young men must start at the foot OF
the ladder and not on the rung or
which YOU father is now standipg