The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1912-12-13
HOME AND HAPPINESS.


We are not angels. we are only men
and women aud we share the imperfec-
tons of manhood and womanhood. We
are not perfect apples; we are speckled
apples, all Of us, do not think accord
inglv love may render in care how deep
and sweet and tender home life, il cannot
but happen that in the close contact in
the every day openness and disclosure
of the home our bad points will come
out No family is made up of perfectly
straight sticks, but crooked ones; and
when they are piled together in the close
ness of home life the Crookedness will
appear. The man and woman married
the most utterly married along the whole
line of their natures must so find some
point where there is not complete con
tact There is disSimilarity of temper,
and there has been a diseimlarity OF ed
uCation. Before musicians Can pour
forth perfect harmony they must bring
their Instruments into tune. Before two
hearts can strike perfectly together they
must be keyed to the same note and
they cannot be altogether before mar
rage The exact real self does not APP
pear during the Courtship 1t is the
best robe of manners and sentiment and
sacrifices that appears then. After the
marriage, the self puts on its common
habits and appears Tor what it really is.
! Then each real self must adjust itself;
| then each must bear and torbear. Then
must any incompal lblity of temper be
met and mastered by mutual charity,
which sutlereth long aud is kind, and
which never failelh. Now it is just here
| in this Claseness and disclosure of the
| home that the heart publication of the
| Blessed Spirit is most needed. and with
! the sweetness Of enduring patience and
! love put under any miserable pride Of
self assertion and keep it there. Heav-
emily calmness tenderness and self sacri-
| fee must dwell in their heart of each
and then shall home be the counterpart
OF heaven.
No true wife can feel truly happy who
is not lovely as wife. She NAV have
every possible material comfort and may
move in the highest circles; she may have
the best and brightest friends about her
and may receive from her husband every
show OF outward affection, and still, lack.
ing the assurance that her husband loves
her, she must necessarily feel being a
woman and a good woman, that there is
something lacking, and she is being de
trauded and that her welded life in
which she wished to find completeness
and iov, is but a hollow moCkery after
all. For woman is so constituted by the
Almighty that she must love and must
receive love; and the marriage relation
was divnely instituted as a means at
once OF gratifying this natural craving
and for using ii for the noblest ends.
We must all have trials and veXations;
but if ones home is happy then the rest
is comparatively nothing. Happiness at
home and the love of the husband, his
advice, his kindness, and his support,
! his company make up for all.
The great American sin is profanity.
The use of profane language is not only
confined to the street loafer, the thug and
the sot; men who move in good society,
business men of standing and reputation,
young men and old men. and even bows
of tender years are addicted to this sim
! There is nothing more disgusting than
to hear man punctuate every sentence
with lurd oathS
| The little rll which has its quiet birth
/ far up in the mountain top, among the
msts and which MARBLES a song with It's
! first breath, running where it can and
leaping where It must, and which brings
with it everywhere music and Joy and in
| its sparkling in the sunshine, casts dia-
! mond flashes around it to gladden. and
beauty the meadow and offer refresh,
ments to the feeding 1ocks, is child OF
nature in its service of sacrifice and love.
There never was a greater humbug
uttered than the old adage, The hand
! that rocks the cradle rules the world !"
! True, it has a very soothing paliation to
! a mans troubled brain, aud he puts his
cigar in his mouth, puts on his hat and
! goes out to spend the evening with a
| club of the same grade OF social purity as
! himself, leaving his wife alone to the
~momentous task of teaching her young
sons that they must avoid the gatherings
of the wicked; that home is a safe place
for them; that cigarettes are a moral and
bodily poison; in short, that they must
respect their father, but not follow his
example.
A great deal OF good dies in people
for want of encouragement.
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