El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-11-27
Two Unhappy Marriages
What's the TrOubIe:-Were the Men
Both at Fault in This Cases
-By VVInifred Black.
AR MISS BLACK:

-by N4ni1reu Bl2ck.
~ EAR MISS BLACK:
/ married when was but six
- teen. because 1 needed a home,
and the man said that / could have
any thing / wanted end go any place
pleased-aud that 7 should never re
gret it and / believed MIN, ana on.
4 did want so much TO be loved anu
appreciated.
This man, who was twice my age,
treated me with the greatest lndl1-
ference. He seldom spoke TO me a1Ier
the first year, except TO give some
order or to curse me-
Maybe 1 did wrong, but l LETT hlm
when 1 was twenty three; left with
three babies 10 support, and having
specialized in no line, 1 found II very
hard.
When was twenty five a man over
forty asked me to become his VIE
He had a $4,000 farm, owned q mouse
in town, which he said he would mod
ernie, and some money in the bank,
and was in a small business He told
me OF the nice home We should have
and what he would do for the children
I've been married over two years
now. This is the third winter, and i
am still wearing my old green coat
that was getting shabby two winters
ago.
When I am getting q meal he says
I have too much fire, don't know
coal costs money! The first thing he
does Wbe--ne steps in the house at
night is to turn down the lamp and
look in the stove to see how much
of a fire there is, and then begin a
lecture on economy.
I wonder why a wife is expected to
be a professional beggar, and why it
would not be just as honorable beg
we must-to just take our little tin
cup and 80 down on the corner and
beg.
What an unlucky little person you
are to be sure Twice married and
both times a failure, / wonder If it
can be in any way your tault-1uSt
the least little bit in the world? You
say so much about the mans property.
his prospects, what he is able to do
and all that, and so little about the
man himself Can IL be that you
marry just for what you can get ana
not at all for what you can glve2
Were you in love with either Of
these men when you married them?
Were you ever afraid something
would happen that he would cease to
love you, or did you do all your worry
ing about what he might or might not
give you?
What did you plan to offer him in
return for all these thiHgs-hOuse and
home, and clothes, and food, shelter
and protection in a thousand ways
just your services as housekeeper2
bargain Of it to begin with and be
done with II? Why do you call any
such contract as that a MARRIAGE
Don't you suppose it possible that
the man found you wanting in some
way? You haven't had what you eX-
pected when you married him. has he
had what he expected and what he had
a right to expect?
Perhaps it isn't your faUlt at all;
perhaps this sort Of man marries you
because he sees that you are Obedient,
long suffering, easily duped, and not
hard to manage. If that's the case
I'd show him that he was mistaken,
and I'd show him now.
why should women be beggars2''
They should not be and they won't be
If they are real women.
Are you doing wrong to learn
business so as to be self supporting?
You are not, you are doing right, eX-
actly right, keep on doing it, and let
men go out of your life for good.
You've had enough Of the kind you
seem to select
Take care of yourself and your chill
dren and be happy, and free-and for
get that you ever were any other way.