The bee., 1912-11-22
HALF LOVE ONLY
HINDERS AMBITION

"Does love help or hinder an am
bilious man?'
Jeanette asked me that question aft
er telling me that Jimmie had come
home in rather depressed state of
mind, because Tom Jenkins had con-
fded to him that since his marriage
to Daisy he had been unable to pursue
the ambition of his life--to become a
successful stock broker.
1t seems Daisy is jealous of Toms
business. She complains whenever
business takes him away from her for
an evening or keeps him downtown
late, and rather than have a scene
when he reaches home, Tom tells pros
pective customers that it is impossi-
BILE for him to see them after o'clock,
or to call upon them in the evening.
So deer little Jeanette is worried for
fear Jimmie will think his love for
him hindrance to his ambition.
Jeanette, DEAR" said, you have
no cause to worry, even IL Jimmie is
grumpy. 1t depends largely upon the
love and the lover whether love will
be help or hindrance In life.
Just because some grouchy old
codger has said that love slays ambi-
ton is no reason to believe it, and
close observation shows 1t to be pret-
ty poor ambition that ever suffers ex-
tinction."
But Cousin Daisy wants Tom to
take a position in a bank, where he
will have regular hours, and she can
always look for him to be home short
ly after 3 In the afternoon. Couldn't
he be ambitious In bank as well as
selling stocks and bonds?"
Surely he may, my DEAR" an
swered. Love may transform the
goal aspired to- It may even change
a mans aims; but the man who is
truly ambitious to make a name for
himself, Hike Jimmie. will assuredly
be more ambitious, not less, because
his successes will bring happiness to
you, whom he loves. as wellNas to him.
self"
Then why should Tom not be salts
fed to do as Daisy wishes?"
"The fault, my dear jeanette, lies
with Daisy, not with Toms love or
her love. 1t is always 80 when the
so-called love hampers rather than
helps a man to rise in the world. It |
is not love- dear child, but selfish |
ness pure and simple. Selfishness and |
Jealousy can wreck any mans am
bitions II allowed to interfere with |
them"
do you think Daisy is selfish and |
Jealous Of Toms ambition? Isn't 1t |
because she loves him so dearly that |
makes her want him with her every |
minute he can be there?"
Jeanette. you love Jimmie, do you
not?"
why. Of course. cousin, +"
That's what / thought. Well,
would you put your own social pleas
ures before Jimmie's work."
NO."
Would you be angry If he were de-
tanned little late at the Office, es-
pecially II you had planned an early
dinner so you could go out In the
EVENING""
TNno-no. should be sure Jim
mie would get home as early as he i
possibly could under such circum-
stances"
Are you interested in your hus-
bands business?"
"Of course I am-you know that.
He always talks things over with me
when he has any interesting news or
problems to decide"
Very we'll, then. That Is as It
should be. You need have no fear.
and neither need Jimmie, that your
love will ever hinder him In his ad-
vancement. It is only the self-cen-
tered. foolish, selfish woman who
will In any way interfere with her
husbands ambition. Hers Is not
love-, but rather selfish greed for all
her husbands time and all Of his mon-
ey, too, forgetting that to make the
money necessary to satisfy her wants
he must spend many hours outside
those prescribed by banking houses as
business hours
Remember, my dear child. that If
Daisy loved Tom more truly his de-
sires and ambitions would become so
wholly hers that she would naturally
be help to him.
1T is only the half lovers and the
self-lovers that ever hinder a hus-
bands ambitions. Now run along
home and tell Jimmie what have said
to you and see If he doesn't agree with
me-"