The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1912-03-17
Concerning Relatives
and Such

IN recent Baltimore paper the
editor OF the Woman's Page discussed
win a great deal of charm and much
common sense tho oft mootcd qucs-
ton OF ones relatives. The entire
article was apropos of Lord Acheson's
, remark that lie did not marry his
=. lies family. meaning the Carriers of
maryland and Virginia, The very next
day tho following reply to the article
appeared in the columns OF the same
paper:
Dear Leonoro CaIvert.--Your ar
man marrying his wife's family Is
all wrong a man does not marry
his wife's family; neither does a girl
marry her husbands people.
The man or woman who thinks so
everlasting much of his or her rela-
tons should not think of marrying.
That Is one OF the reasons why there
Is SO much trouble between married
people. ] never did believe in reia-
tyes being on too friendly terms.
because they can't agree Gas rule);
II isn't human nature.
When / marry ! expect TO have my
husband understand beforehand that
neither my relatives nor his will be
allowed to bother US.
In our family. II we visit our rela-
tivcs once q year we think VIE arc
tivcs-mother and father. sisters and
brothers--at that. OF course. we SEQ
them oftennr. but as for visits TO
their house they are fcw and far
between, and the result is peace.
People In general. and married ones
In particular should have plenty Of
friends whom they visit and have
VISIT them frequently. but relatives
tnear or tar), they want TO keep at
distance. e 81. 1I.
Baltimore, March 5.
oh. what q creature ehe must be,
with soul no wider than her own
narrow eyes and her heart as hard as
h!nt! Dear i. ". NJ, did you never
play happy hours with your scorned
sisters and brothers that your heart
never longs TO laugh again over the
day that II wasn't your turn to ride
the bicycle. and the littlest brother
took the cake you had your eye on?
There seem no thoughts in her mind
beyond tho belief In herself and her
Infinite capacity to make and live her
own l!fe. NO relatives allowed TO
bother ne" What viii you do, you
who have gone into your own life and
pulled down tho blinds. In tho days
when sorrow shall darkcn your hard
eyes and the selfish soul be wrackcd
Win age7
Tha person. for lack OF a better
name. says she Is not one 20 think so
everlasting much Of her own people.
They must be well rid OF her. There
Will be no mothcre soft eyes to look
up from her little sons cradle with
The soft breethed prayer that he may
grow like n.r child. She lives her
lfe for her friends, one should say for
herself Nobody of her own blood to
stand at the door and ward of the
curious crowd OF so-callcd friends. 10
bat j..r a nd or r ia n r y
shadow has past before the trignt
sun of her happiness.
1t is very old saying that blood
is thicker than water and yet older.
that mo man lives 10 himself and no
man dies 10 himself What can she
know of the meaning OF tho word.
friend who visits ner own Family once
u year and Considers her duty we'll
over and the result peace. | cannot
describe the surge OF pity In my heart
for the days that are Obliged TO como
into that woman'a life when she VIII
so to her long home unmourncd and
uncontrolled By the hands of kin. Tho
great God does not allow us to shift
our responsibilities. and ten thousand
fold VIII her hardness return TO her,
h!ttarey than all the pain she has so
carelessly inflicted, indeed one might
say wilfully committed. One wonders
In lust what manner she Will Judge
OF the depth OF the affection OF
the man she has married unless shc
measures II by his little boy days"
ones family Is a part OF tho whole.
You DO not suddenly enter into new
life because you are married your
capacity for happiness, love and pain
remains the same.
Oh hard. unloving and uniovcly wo-
man, where is your heart, who has en-
FILTERED your soul. what issit YOU have
said? No relatives 10 bather YOU then
surely none 10 love and care for YOU
] wonder II she has known OF the
awful black night OF loneliness that Is
just beyond her sight and the gaunt
dark rocks of an unloved soul living
It's shut-in life.
L. NJ NJ. says tits all wrong" this
marrying 4 mans family or he yours.
I wonder who she is; wonder what
her station is in life. and what can
possibly be the matter with the sun
shine In her family that it should have
left a nature so dwarfed and mis-
shapen. Heaven pity her darkened
and selfish life!
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