Newark evening star and Newark advertiser., 1912-04-22
Afflicted with a Hasty Temper.

Dedf MISS DOOn.
1 am " constant reader of your Star
and, therefore, would like some advice.
am young married woman, % years of
age. l was married three years this
month. Now, dear Miss Doom, 1 am very
unhappy and it's my own fault. 1 have a
very bad temper, which / try very hard
to control, but in vain. This causes many
quarrels between my husband and me.
know my husband loves me dearly and
I love him and we would be very happy
only for that one thing. | wish you could
tell me what | can do. Can you also tell
me what l can do for my eyes? When
go out they water so and they are always
tired. l will be thankful for your kind
advice MRS. M L H.
knowing your fault and admitting 1t
Is a big step toward overcoming it, so
don't be discouraged. The third ami
versary of your wedding is very fit
ting time to turn over new leaf In
the book of matrimony. You know
the old rule that says great deal of
unhappiness would be saved if every
one when angry would count ten be-
fore speaking. Now, ten counts may
not take up sufficient time to chase
the angry words from your tongue, so
let us start out with twenty-five
Every time you feel inclined to say
sharp word close your lips tightly
and mentally count twenty-five be-
fore you permit yourself to utter a
sound. l venture to predict that by the
time you reach fifteen the fact that
you, a married woman, were about to
lose your temper will strike you as SO
ridiculous that a smile of amusement
will take the place of the ugly scowl
that dicf1PnraC xr0tt
have controlled yourself say about ten
times it will become habit with you
and you will begin to do 1t just as
naturally as you breathe.
The psychologists tell us that the
action precedes the feeling, that Is, if
we smile and laugh when things seem
gloomy a feeling of happiness will
brighten the dark spots. In the same
way the sharp words, the scowl. the
angry gesture are the forerunners of
anger. If We can check them and sub
stitute a SMILE a bright look, the feel
ing which makes ourselves and others
so unhappy will give way to one of
good nature.
1 suppose nature has tried to COM
pensate you for your hasty temper by
giving you great big, generous heart
that rs filled with a sympathy for those
in trouble and a desire to help all
about you. Have you ever stopped to
think how loveable your character
would be if you could add to the big
heartedness sweet temper? l know
you have or you would never have
written to me. Make up your mind that
you are going to overcome this defect,
that your will is stronger than your
temper and that your. love for your
husband and his for you are going to
drive out that ugly little beast that
makes you both so unhappy. I have
faith that before you celebrate another
wedding anniversary you will forget
that you ever had temper and I know
that the fourth year is going to be hap
pier than the three preceding Years
rolled into one.
And now for the eyes. An immedi-
ate visit to the occulist is the remedy
I would advise The eye is too delicate
and too important an organ for you to
refuse to heed the first warning that
all is not well.
Boracic acid is good to rest tired
eyes. To two-thirds of teacup of dis
titled water add teaspoonful of
boracic acid. When the acid is thor
oughly dissolved bathe the eyes With
it, using an eye-cup.
A good treatment for weak eyes is to
immerse the forehead and nostrils in
a basin of cold water. breathe through
the mouth, open the eyes under water
and wink them occasionally. Keep the
eyes unmoved minute or two, rest
them few minutes and immerse them
again. Avoid reading when you are
lying down or when the light is poor