The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1912-07-19
HEART and HOME PROBLEMS |
(By Mrs. Elizabeth Thompson.)


Dear Mrs. Thompson: L have
chance to marry one of two men.
They are. both comfortably enough off
to give me a nice home, but one is my
own age and the other is old enough to
be my father I rather like the older
man better, though I am very fond of
my other friend. We went to school
together am so undecided, and will
you please help me? Do you think /
have as good a chance of being happy
with the man who is so much older
than 1 am? 1 am twenty-three years
old. He is very good to me and never
disagrees with me, but sometimes my
young friend and just have to quarrel
a little. Please advise me and VIII
be very grateful. SOPHIE.
My dear girl. if your heart doesn't
tell you which one of these men is your
real mate how can I? Possibly you
really do not love either one. If that
is so don't marry either one. Better re-
main unmarried all your life than try
to live with a man who, in your heart
OF hearts. you know is not the other
half of your life. Sometimes girl can
marry a man as old as her father and
live very happily with him. But often
er she finds that he has reached the
time of life when he wants to settle
down, though she is still full of youth
and wants to actively enjoy life by
the time she is old enough to like the
quiet life he is so old that she must
wait upon him and take care of him
as If he were a child. A man of your
own age can be more of a companion
to you. If you and he have congenial
tastes you ought to get along we'll to-
gether all your life, growing old to-
gether and growing closer to each other
with the years. A young man, of
course, is apt to be quicker tempered
than the older one. but if both you and
he agree to bear and forbear" and 20 |
use the soft answer that turneth away |
wrath" also to avoid such topics as
you know will lead to quarreling, I
don't see why you can't cultivate peace |
between you. But think carefully |
whether or not you really love either of
these men. If you decide upon one of
them do. it with the determination 70
make him happy and never to regret
that you did not select the other sutton, |
no matter how things turn out. Re |
solve that you will never refer to the |
other man in your husbands hearing If
you wish to keep a reasonable amount |
of happiness in your married life.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: met a couple |
of sisters at a friends house, and they |
are very nice girls. I would like to |
call on them, but do you think they |
would laugh at me, as I am only II |
and not large for my age. They are
older than I am. I would like to have
Cnem 1Or Ir1enQS.
LAWRENCE.
My dear boy, just go and call on |
them. If they are nice girls they will |
like you for what you are, and a boy |
is always better for the friendship of |
good girls.
Tell them about your ambitions and |
your hobbies and get acquainted with |
their father and mother too. They will |
make you welcome. I am sure. OF |
course girls usually like boys or men a |
little older than themselves. and some- |
times you will find them preferring the |
escort of others. But If you have their |
friendship what do you care? 1 am /
taking 1t for granted that you do not |
wish to court these girls, and are wait /
ing until you are older and know your |
own mind better before trying to do |
anything as serious as that.
Dear Mrs. Thompson: Is buttermilk |
good for the complexion? How shall |
I use it? NJ G.
Buttermilk is very good for the COM
p1exion. Take it both inside and out |
That is: Drink all you want and battle |
your face with it once or twice day.
1t whitens and clears the skin.