The Fairmont West Virginian. (Fairmont, W. Va.) 1904-1914, 1912-01-24
WHx a WOMAN SHOULD NEVER
MARRY a MAN WHO FAs.
clNATEs HER.

IsiFs ady iiis tlie Har1.
I'll is Just as useless as Il Is inpus
sible 10 specify .Enal: particular kind
OF man a woman should marry. Tor
every Individual Is q law unto him
self IN this respect, and is never
guided by generalities," said Miss El-
sic Ferguson, starring in Charles F.
INiidlinger's comedy, The First Lady
IN The Land" at the Gaiety Theater.
In her play, Miss Ferguson, as Dolly
Todd is made by the author to give
her life Id the direction her reason
dictates, rather than to the man her
lnpulslye nature leans toward. Il.
but LIDO feed. personally con-
tinued Miss Ferguson, that for the
Jake OF her own happiness and peace
of mind, i woman should never give
Iher heart and her life into the keep
Eng OF the man who fascinates her.
The greaterloye should be, at first at
least, from the man. Then Il the husi
bands love continues, or grows and
increases, there is bound to be great
er happiness for both in the end.
\ "In other words, q woman should
mot bind herself irrevocably to a fas-
cinating man, for the simple reason
that she becomes so wholly dependent
upon that mans affection and deyo-
ton that her life will be empty, bar
rem and lonely should 1t be cut on
from association with the fascinating
| personality. To use an old simple
one should not pour all their wine
into a goblet until they make certain
he goblet is solid and intact
zone might argue that you have a
few years happiness, at least, II you
| put your faith in man who fasci-
mates you, Oh, yes, a few years. but
does such happiness, be It ever so
sweet, atone for the years and years
Of misery that are likely to follow
should your fasclnator tire Of his
choice, or grow weary of his chains
of matrlmony which seemed golden
and pleasant to bear at first?
rs short period Of bliss to be
compared with ever-increasing con-
ltentment and ever-growing love-a
love that grows stronger, surer and
more certain each succeeding year,
eliminating in a perfect unity, firm
understanding and delightful COM
partnership? None OF US can remake
our temperament, and none of US
can mould our own natures. They
are born in us. But when the greater
| love is with the man, he being the
stronger OF the union, there is a len
iency, on his part, to the shortcom'
ings OF the woman, an indulgence In
her whims and wishes, until the
woman's love grows so strong she
beholds the way and adopts the means
to adapt herself to the nature of the
man who showers his love upon her.
Then comes that perfect union, that
wonderful comprehension and com,
panionship OF love. that knows not
1.-THE need for the divorce courts, wo.
mans suffrage, fads, or anything else
outside otdomesticity.
"If human nature was different than
1t is, 1t might be the only course to
follow, to marry the man who fasci-
mates YOU; that is, for the woman.
But whensa man Yields such tre-
mendous power and influence over 9
woman as to fascinate her and com.
mand her undivided admiration, love
and devotion, then the woman not
only lives in constant dread Of losing
this mans love, but she eventually
stares this loss square in the face.
Then comes the awful aching void OF
which spoke. In the very nature
of a man such as l mention, a man
who is a genius, or %ho has such
a strong, magnetic nature as to elicit
this fascination, he is changeable. in
few years he will weary of'the con.
quest he has made over one heart and
life, and will dampen in his ardor, II
he does not become actually careless
in the pursuit OF another conquest.
"There are many who blame Dolly
in the keeping of the staid, old James
Madison, when her deeper and strong
er feelings were for the fiery, dashing
Aaron Burr, who fairly dazzled her
with his fascinating nature. But
Dolly's philosophy at the right time
probably saved her a life OF bitter
loneliness and unhappiness, the pay
ment for perhaps a few years or only
a few months OF supreme Joy with the
man who fascinated her to the extent
that it was bliss to merely sit in his
presence,
'If mans nature is so magnetic
so fascinating to woman that he
fairly scintlllates happiness from his
eyes for her, his touch alone sends the
blood tingling through her veins-ll
a man is so fascinating that life seems
dull and hardly worth while in his
absence, and a woman is only happy
in his presence and association
hardly think the woman would ever
be happy, at least not for long, with
such a man.
mot taking into consideration the
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