Perth Amboy evening news., 1912-06-19

were discussing certain decision taken by a very mtmat
IA Il think he is foolish" said the matrono of the family.
E9 But it's fine of him" asserted tn twentyyearod daughter
sisters bad temper"
Thus opinions differed.
The man. it seems. had a mlddleaged sister whom he had been support
ing for a number of years But tho time had come when he as thinking
longngly o. a home OF his own So he and a married brother had agreed
that the sister was to live with the married one, the single brother contrib
utng the necessary funds for her other needs. The married brother felt he
could give her a home, but n 10 more The single brother, lot having SO many
claims upon him, was supposed to be better able to supply cash. That hs
wished 10 get married himself as not yet known to the others.
1t was thought that this arrangement would amcaby settle family IT.
fairs But when the plan wa presented to the sister. she few into a rage,
refused to live with her brother, and insisted upon keeping her W home.
So the single brother nce more put his W desires behind him, and decided
to maintain her in her accustomed comfort.
And the question his friends were discussing vas Was h . right in this
sacrifice, or as It unnecessarily Was he exMing to a unnecessary de
gree his high regard for womankind, and the chtyaIrous care he believed
should give woman, especially those of his own famly?'
Those Of his friends who knew the situation thought h o was. III he
.,mnJa M wav In which e had said. "f my sister can't be happy with my
brother will g. N supporting her; VIII not ask hr TO We uhapphV'
had seemed quite heroic to the girl of twenty
But this is not a case for herons, it Is ne for Justice md which
way does the balance fa1f
II the married brother or his wife would AVE actually made the woman
unhappy. then perhaps 1t would nave cen right Tor the single brother to
her vas wretchednessL But this was lot the case. She simply wanted to
continue her W pleasant. Independent manner of living without having
to conform her ways to, those Of others. In other words, she vas selfish, and
abe used her bad temper to uphold her selhshness
Plainly stated, these were the actual facts. And 1t Id seem as II the
single brother were encouraging her selhshness n bad temper to yield to
her demands. There va n reason at all why she houldn support herself
though it Is ct easy for a middle-aged woman, unaccustomed o earning
world Tor a few years, earn her living, and live as best she couId' she would
be- in every way. a finer woman than she was then She would have a bigger
view of life. She would be more sympathetic, She would really get more
out Of life than she does now sitting at Ease III a she'eFed nome somebody
else provides 1t is often the case that unselhshness fosters sehshness; and
this brother by sacrificing too much. is strengthening undesirable traits In
his sisters character.
There should be n o end to or love for those near and dear to u.s..
But sometimes. We need to look very keeny TO sec Just what the truest
love ia, and how 1t best expresses itself It would be the tuest love to put
up t. his sister tut what her conduct means, ID then ask her to control
her temper, % willingly give up OF her ease M Independence so
that tho burden might be Ightened for him. And If h saw his I'D OF tha
se and acosdsd to his wishes, she would become a Amer and more Iovabs
woman. And that Is what love should help those loved to do@'o develop
the best not the worst in them.