The evening world., 1912-03-04
Sensible AdWce to Him
Who Is About to Choose
a Good, Sensible Wife
Mrs. A. NJ. Dodge Says
the Ideal Woman for a
Man to Marry Is One
Who Literally Lives Up
to That Old, Beautiful
Word Defin the
Wfe's Relation, "Help-
mate"
Marguerite MOOers MarshdH.
what kind II woman should .

what kind Of woman should Q
man marry
Mrs. Rheta Chiidc Dorr, the author.
made out an excellent case for the suf-
fragist the other day. But then Mrs.
Dorr Is a irm believer In votes for
women, so tho youthful benedict may
fancy that her testimony lacks some
thing Of judicial impartiaiity. Fol- III.
"other side" he may turn to the counsels
OF Mrs. Arthur M. Dodge. President OF
the National Anti-Suffrage Association.
The s~ufYragists." no Mrs. Dodge put
II to me yesterday. are always saying
that woman should look beyond the four
narrow walls Of home. Sui we main
tain that those same four walls stretch
TO the farthest horizons the Imagination
can reach. and we do not see what may
exist beyond.
More Is demanded OF the woman who
would be "a good wife to-day than has
ever been demanded before In the his
tory of the world. And unhappily there
are too many girls who are not fitted
In any adequate way to meet these
demands.
"Ths ideal wife, the woman Q
man ought TO marry, 10 tAs woman
who literally Lives mp 70 that OLD,
beautiful word declining ths wifsiy
reiatton-'hslpmase.' The modern
wife should be both Q help ana q
20 her HUSBAND. She 10 too
often . INSURANCE ana Q d~isoordsnt
personality.
When "A young mar decides TO marry
he should first of all AXE care to select
a girl who has been trained for the
duties OF wifehood and motherhood.
For example. this girl will have re-
oeivcd q real education In domestic
science. not merely In cookery, but In
the science Of food preparation. She
need not necessarily DO an adept IN
every one Of the little details Of domes-
tic drudgcry which the housewife of
the past had to perform. Modern i'm.
provomsnts have dpns away with much
OF that. But she must Thoroughly un.
derstand basic principles. She must
know the healthfui proportion and COM
bination Of the different food constitu.
ents. No longer preparing most of what
70 served on her table In her own
Kitchen h must clearly understand
now 10 Keel watch over many kitchens.
BONE OF THE THINGS SHE Musr
KNOW HOW TO DO.
she must have learned to overlook
the operations Of her butcher. her baker.
her milkman. her grocer. with the same
~unwaverins care which her grandnothsr
expended on the home production Of
saited meats and preserved fruits ana
the weekly baking.
"Also. no msn ought to marry =
woman who has not bssu trainsd
n ths Wise expenditure Of n
vsry often . 9ara who 10 the daugh-
YER OF wsii-to-do parents u w1llinr
70 marry . young man who cannot
suord 70 maintain her In the style
70 which she has been accustomed.
INT NO matter how much love On.
lists between the youns people, their
M Tor happiness are small Z
unless he Gisi hes lsarnsd the les
son OF keeping inside a. income,
however small IL 10.
Every girl. rich or poor. should be
given an allowance from which she must
supply her small Personal wants, and
which no provocation will induce her to
overstep. Then, when she 10 married,
and her husband makes her a household
allowance proportionate to his Income.
she will not plunge him into debt. Cen
orally this Is done through sheer isno-
rance and not from any wanton extrav-
agance on the part Of the young wife,"
And. aside from the cultivation of
the more prosaic virtues. ought not a
wife to try TO preserve her giriish charm
and personal daintiness?" suggested.
1T seems to me hat . woman's nat
ural self-respect should ans yer that
question In the Affirmative" Mrs. Dodge
said gravely. she should make such a
demand OF herself. even II her husband
did not enter into consideration. But
from the viewpoint OF preserving his
affection, the wife who lets herself grow
slack In dress and manner 10 doing an
exceedingly unwise thing. Anything
Will do to wear round home 10 a per-
nicious motto. And degeneration In
is as bad as degeneration In
dress.
WHEN A MAN Is NOT TO BE
BLAMED FOR WANDERING.
II a woman is necessarily nssging
and fretting her husband when he comes
home tired after a days work to win
her bread. ] can't say that / blame him
very much for seeking elsewhere the
comfort and companionship he should