The Kadoka press and Kadoka reporter. [volume] (Kadoka, S.D.) 1910-1923, 1912-04-12

things for him just for the reason
that she loves him, and is interested
in him and his well-being. He loves
his home more if there is some i'm
press of her personality upon 1t. He
likes best the meal she prepares for
him. or course, he says very little
perhaps nothing-of all this, being
man.
A gentleman stops ct friends
house and finds 1t In confusion. He
does not bee anything to apologize
for--''never thinks of such matters"
Everything is right. cold supper. cold
room, crying Enthusiastically
comfortabler" Good homes, where
his wife has been taking care of the
children or attending the sick, and
working her life almost out. Then he
does not see why things can't be kept
In order; there never were such cross
children betore!" No apologies &C.
cepted at homel Oh why not look at
the sunny side at home as well as
abroad, and try pleasant words instead
of surley onesl Why not be agreeable
at home? Why not use freely that
golden coin of courtesy?
Meddlesome persons who are con-
tinually prying into other peoples
affairs and carrying tales between
friends and acquaintsnces create
great deal of mischief and are best
contented when they can spread
scandal. 1t seems more natural for
them to speak i'll of a person than to
utter words of praise. and their habit
Of gossiping becomes go fixed that
they can talk scandals almost uncon-
sciousiy. 1t Is just as easy to say
good word for friends and acquaint-
ances, even IL not wholly deserved,
as it is to speak ~, of them, and the
e'T9 y % -, ..munitv is always
beneficial in q general way. Scandal
gathers as 1t travels by word or mouth
and can never be recalled when once
in circulation. Try speaking well of
everyone and see what change it
will make in your own happiness as
In the welfare of others.
ksesiss Hssss Fer Ones 0wa cs~fsst.
- He was wise who wrote: ssHalf the
sting of poverty or OF small means is
gone when one keeps house for ones
own comfort, and not for the COM
ment of ones own neighbors." Deny
it as we will, few of US have the moral
force to set up standard of our own
incomes and our own particular home
environments, We commit the folly
Of regulating our expenses by the in
come of some one else. II the Browns
across the street hang up expensive
lace curtains, we are discontented
until lace curtains have gone up to
our windows, no matter how much
smaller our income may be than that
of the Browns. II the Smiths put
down velvet carpet our neat and
pretty ingram becomes AN eye sore to
Us. We are extremely mindful of
what our neighbors will think about
many things that should not concern
them In the least. We have no stan
dard of our own. Our dress and even
our tables must be regulated by the
standard of others. We have not the
courage nor the independence to be
Indifferent to the comment of our
neighbors. This form of mortal cow
ardice Is causing many families to live
beyond their incomes. They can face
debt, and forfeit their self-respect
easier than they can face the unfav-
orable comment of their friends and
neighbors. The extent to which this
imitation of others is carried would
be ludicrous, but it did not bring SO
much unhappiness in its train. 1t is
frequently the direct cause of discord
and discomfort and debt that have
driven happiness from the family
hearthstone. Let us have q standard
of our own, based upon our own needs,
and let US cheerfully and bravely ad-
here to this standard, needless of that
dreadful bugbear: What will the
neighbors say?"