The Washington herald., 1912-06-09
Enlarge Your Sympathies if You
Would Make Most Of Yourself.
By C. S. MADDOCKS.

society, a man OF unnatural GReeticnS-Cn-
synpathetie-has no sense Of his own dis
position towards others. and OF the mutual
dispositions OF others towards himself, says;
What enjoyment and rest Is there for one
who Is not conscious OF the msritsd aRection
or love, but, on the contrary. OF the III via
and hatred Of every human SoulG What
ground must this afford for horror and de-
spaiF? What foundation OF fear. and con-
tinual apprehension frpm mankind and from
superior poUers3 How thorough and deep
must be that mslaneholy which has nothing
soft or pleasing from the side OF friendship
to divert IT. Wherever such a creature turns
himself. whichever way he casts his eye.
everything around must appear ghostly and
horrid; every thing hostile, as Il were. bent
against q private and single being. who II
thus divided from evsrythinE and at defiance
and war with the rest Of nature"
There were perhaps never in the history
Of the world more associations OF men bound
together by strong ties OF interest than to-
day, but interest alone viii not keep them
from endless turmoil. Sympathy, united
with interest brought them together, and
there must exist q sympathy that is Of the
heart-but not something mawkish, unWhois-
some. q sentimentality-rather than one de-
CATION have similar lighting bumps, to keep
them In any true unity.
The great freemR sonries Of the world are
founded on similar SympathIeS A man Of
sympathetic understanding Of the world Il At
home. in any company. MAKES friends with
people OF any class. high or low, no matter
what their exaItation Of rank or their con-
dftion OF Beryitude. yet this does not hinder
him from being choice IN his intimate as
Soclstes But It will keep him from snob-
bish prejudIcsS. 4 Bnob is one who has
prs5udices entirely prejudicIaI to any large
or sympathetic oOnjoinIng with the world,
and. unfortunately, he Is frequently IN =
position 70 make his prEjudices highly OBJ
noEiouE, and possibly influential
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UnproHressiye Man Torment.
The unprogresstye man. hide bound by an
cestral custom, is quite as much q torment
to the generous world. Mr.. Wallace Irwin, at
the opening OF one Of his stories, thus de
scrIbes the prejudices Of . native OF what
has been for centuries one Of the most hide
bound OF nations:
Being from the Land OF PreconceIved No
tons, All Lee Bung's mind was a sort Of
picture puzzle OF fool prejudIces which he
managed by dint OF native common sense
10 SO wen LOkGuuGE as 10 kINe many IN
genIous and satisfactory effects. Bung me as
ured the things Of life by the law Of his sacred
grandfather; and gather from Bung's awe
some accounts Of the old man that he was the
narroEest and eruEtIest imbecile OF his
time"
A man Of narrow pretudices believes that
an the world must do a. he does. think as
he does. 60 up and down a. he does Unfor-
tunately, there are Just such men today.
They have never heard Of the altruistio
spirit, and they would hardly understand a
definition Of It In his " Thoughts on the
Conduct Of the UNDERSTANDING" Basil Mon
tague says: OF prejudice II has been truly
said that II has the singular ability OF ac-
commodating itself to all the possible vsrie-
ties OF the human mind. Let the mind
be as empty as the walls OF an empty and
forsaken tenement gloomy es q dungeon,
or ornamented with the richest abilities Of
thinking; let It be hot, cold dark or light.
lonely or inhabited. still prejudice. II undis-
turbsd, will NIL It with cobwebs. and live like
the spider where there seems nothing to live
on"
There are men like the old Quaker who
said. " All the world Is queer. except me and
thee, and thou art 4 little queer" He had
expressed the height OF isolation In the indi-
vidual. Isolated Sscts OF men or isolated
individuals may live but they half live. Self
satisfaction alone supports q man who asks
blessings for me and my wife, my, son
John and his wife, US four and no more
But no man or no family can live thus iso-
lated IN sympathieS. There is bound to
come a time when they want sympathy they
have never earned
A man sometimes wants social place after
he has earned money enough, by very un-
altruistic methods, TO maintain II. but he will
scarcely find the social doors he would most
like TO enter open TO him OF keen inteIn-
gence, he may want intellectual sympathy,
but himself unsympathetic, he win approach
what is supposed 70 be a most unsympa-
thetic fraternity, Greek meeting Greek. The
intellectual class are, unfortunately, hardly
noted for a love Of wide boundaries. Sympa-
thetlc associations outside the caste are not
common.
Must Be Friendly to Get Friends.
The man who wants friends must prove
himself friendly. The man who wants SYM
pathy must be sympathetic It Is with SYM
pathy as with people 1t would perhaps suit
your convenience or mine II you and could
say to them: Come, have time for you
now. or so, I have no time for you at pres
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If your greater interest seems to require
that you live unto yourself. live unto yourself
you Will, but you viii have to sacrifice some
Of the things you would much like to have
You cannot have your cake and eat It, too
No matter what you want to do you must
consider others, selhshly or unselhshly,
or unsympathetically. This
article is too short and the definite facts are
too many and complex to show all the rea-
sons why this Is so, but the chief one Is that
81 the world do move" as It never otherwise
would have moved from the isolatIons OF
into the union Of kingdoms: from
into united states closely and sym
pathstically knit; into great societies OF sin
gle personal aim and purpose: into Hague
and great cosmopolitan fellowshIps.
It is no longer necessary or polite to con-
Bider that q stranger mus, because of that
,act. be an enemy. The man who persists in
thinking any one not OF his class or clan a
natural foe has much to DO in adjusting him
self to truly modern conditions.
Sympathy IS divining rod for its fortunate