Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1912-04-17
A Good Fighter in a Good Cause,

Dear Miss Doom:
1 am a young man of 10 and am deeply
In love with a young lady one year my
junior. Our friendship has been extend
ing for over a period of four years. Re-
Gently the young lady has acted very
strangely and has always worn a worried
expression on her face. / kept quiet for
a time until I made an appointment to
meet her at her home. She then request
ed me to meet her at her girl friend s
home. I at once detected hat there was
something wrong. We met there and
then I questioned her regarding her cold
ness and worried looks. She then told
me the truth.
Her parents and the rest of her family,
which is quite a large one, are continual
ly Fostering her to marry a man of
wealth, who is about So years old and
quite gray-haired. This annoyance has
been kept up for some time without my
knowing anything about II. She feared
to tell me because she thought that I
would stay way altogether If I heard of
1t. I am not of that kind, Miss Doom, and
am going to fight and fight pretty hard.
This trouble at home has made 1t unbear-
able for her. AS I understand 1t her par
ents and family are not against me per-
sonally, but just for the sake of riches
they are trying to ruin q young girls
happiness. I am sure and know POSI-
lively that the girl thinks a great deal
of me.
The problem that is bothering me now
Is this: l am young and am not capable,
Just yet, of supporting a wife, but still
t to lose her. I told her that IL I
were In better circumstances things would
go differently. l am sure that II she isn't
careful and the abuse still keeps up she
will be forced to marry this man.
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you your candid opinion and advice on
the above matter and hope to read same
through your valuable columns of the
evening Star. Thanking you in advance
I remain, an old reader, s. M.
Good for you, s.. NJ. Fight away, If
the girl is worth winning she is worth
battling for to the and.
cannot understand how any family
can desire to force a. girl into misery.
for that Is what a loveless marriage
always is. 1 wonder If her parents
realize that she loves you. To be sure
that they understand the case clearly
have a frank talk with them, telling
them the state of your feelings and
asking their permission to marry their
daughter as soon as your finances will
permit. Then avoid clandestine meet
ings, and whenever you call at the
house make 1t a point to spend some
time with the parents. This will create
a friendly feeling and In time I am
sure you will be welcomed into the
family circle.
Although as a rule 1 do not approve
of marriage at you age, still 1 cannot
help wishing that you were in a POSI-
ton to marry at ono as it must be
very unpleasant for your friend. II
she is wholly dependent upon her par
ents for support I would advise her
to seek some employment, not only
that she may be able to pay her liv-
ing expenses, but also that she may
have some definite aim with which to
occupy her mind.
If her parents are convinced that
she is determined not to marry this
other man they will probably soon
give up trying to persuade her to do
so. Although she must take a firm
stand h must do so with the re-
spect that is due older people, even
If, as sometimes happens, they are in
he wrong. You will both probably
have to suffer a great deal before you
can convince the family of your lin
certify. l am sure you will succeed in
doing so before very long, and every
thing will turn out as you desire and
deserve.
In the meantime improve every mo-
ment, so hat the happy day will not
be far off. L think you are the kind of
man that wins when the fight is a
good one. and SO / foresee victory for
you. This advice may not help you
very much, but with it go my very best
wishes for yourself and your friend.