Iowa state bystander. [volume] (Des Moines, Iowa) 1894-1916, 1912-11-29

back home without more ado. and that
4 husbands presence at his own nre
side should be compulsory for the
nrst twelve months.
THE first year is the trial year OF
marriage" was the Justices ,conclu'
sion. land II couple weather that
there Is good chance for the perma-
hence Of marriage. 1t Is the period OF
adjustment to each others faults and
habits, and impatient natures rebel
against the adjustment That Is the
reason there are so many divorces
growing out Of the difficulties In the
FIRST year. am tired Of these first'
year cases. and shall always order
them to stand each other for full
twelve months"
Mrs. Hatton, twice welded and the
mother OF three children. woman OF
social position ir Chicago and well
known In New York. has the wisdom
drawn from the we'll OF experience.
The first year Of married life
should be, and generally is. the hap
piest," she said. 1T has the charm
of early romance. 1t is an afterglow
OF the courtship. Many couples who
are blisstully happy then get on bad
Iy afterward. for when the first flush
of romance has faded IT takes we'll
grounded character to make mar.
rage a success. The Connecticut
Judge didn't go back far enough. 1t
takes three generations to make a
good wife. A girls mother and grand
mother and great grandmother should
have been trained for happy and eff
cient wifehood.
First and last in all the arts Of
housewifery, no man will be content
unless his home is we'll kept. But
even II girls mother Is incompetent,
the girl need not despair The poorest
can learn household arts In one Of the
public training schools.
"A girl should have a good educa.
ton, 80 that she can start on CON-
panionable basis with her husband IN
their married life. And after that she
should continue her education. by
keeping herself informed about cur
rent events.
THE reason I spoke Of the three
generations required to produce q
good wife is not one of snobbery. But
the good wife y considerable, and
three generations Of consideration
make the exercise of that grace easy.
It is a dreadful thing to be familiar
with a member Of ones own family"
Mrs. Hatton's expressive dark eyes
laughed. my mother and have al.
ways been formally polite to each
other. She insisted upon it, and I've
grown to like it.
"The three generations are more or
less necessary for another quality In
happy wifehood. That Is the preserva.
ton Of affections. Some of our girls
are overeducated. They are educated
until all trace Of natural feeling is
trained out of them. Too high educa.
lion or too much Of 1t has snapped the
home ties for them. A girl goes to
the ordinary girls school, then to a
finishing school. then to college, and
she isn't through until she is twenty.
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too late. She should leave at twenty
to give her time to learn the other
things she needs to know
Summing up the training of a girl
Tor happy wifehood should say she
ought to know and be many things
A woman. especially wife, is like an
actress Of many parts. She should be
versatile, and versatility can be train.
ed as we'll as born. One form OF
versatility is tact. and loving. tact.
full wife of a worthy husband has no
reason to fear what his honor OF Con.
necticut calls the trial year of mar
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