Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1912-05-10

have written. II is to try to follow
l ones conviction as to what is the best
/ thing for one to do Affection promps
many a girl TO stay at home when
her common sense teaches her that she
and her entire family would be bene-
/ fitted by her work in some other
| sphere. Then there are "mother-hens"
whose ducklings must leave home or
suffer. To all such 1 commend Miss
Tarbell's message:
The most important and interesting
thing in the world for you is to work
/ out your own individual life. You
must build il from the place where
you stand and with the material in your
hands. Nobody else ever stood in your
particular place or ever will stand in
one identical; nobody ever has or can
possess the same amterials. You alone
can fuse the elements. Hold your
place. do not try to shiftinto the place
that another occupies. Keep your eye
on what you have TO work with, not
on what somebody else has. The ulti-
mate result. the originality flavor, dis
| tinction usefulness of your life depends
| on the care, the reverence and the
intelligence with which You work UP
and out from where and with what you
/ have"
Wealth and high social position has
obligations that people in moderate cir
cumstances never dream of. The
mother in such a home may not cook
a meal. set a table or make up a bed
but she is trained TO know when things
are done right and she knows the value
OF things. The fine art of home MAX
ing, the small sweet courtesies of life
are too often neglected by the newly
rich and the family Of Climbers" In
the south when plantations consisted
OF hundreds of acres and there were
no hospitals the mistress. or her oldest
daughters. saw to the sick and the
afflicted within her realm; now that
new order has appeared what more
natural than for the girl who would
have been her mothers helper or SUBJ
/ stitute in such cases to enter a hos
pital for the work she does not find
at home fortunately many OF the
hospital graduates eventually marry
and the family is benefited by the
training. Contact with the world has
homes become just that much better
next generation.
There is one class that should ex-
cite ones sympathy, those girls in
homes that are sufficiently well-to-do
to resent their daughters going to
work, yet have nothing to employ
their energies. They are the ones
that suffer. They may have an in
come, doled out or freely given, but
unless they are generous and spend a
portion OF time and money for the
good causes that should appeal to all
Of US, there is absolutely nothing to
do but chase the bubble Of pleasure.
Desperation drives some of them into
the world, but the majority are the
bridge fiends." the mass that sup
port moving picture shows or mat
inees.
The genus tyrant thrives in homes
of every rank and station, and the I'M
married daughter is looked upon as IN
der the tyrants authority, as long as
she lives under the parental roof. This
drives her into the world IL she has
a proper conception CT her own worth,
or destroys her will power and makes
a drudge of her.
The really poor families teach girls
from infancy that they must one day
help Tighten the burden of poverty, and
IL Is generally a pleasure to them to
feel that they are helping some one.
AS rule the survival of the fittest here
means that the homemakers meet their
mates in life's busy market place and
retire from the storm and stress; those
whose lifework is really along business
lines move up and up; those who are
I strikers get a bare living and gradually
become derelicts or dependents on the
more fortunate. Some never marry yet
| help TO form homes and are helpers for
their less fortunate sister-workers.
There has been no mistake made by
those who went into the world even
for a short time, IL in that time they
absorbed any business training. The
/ science that teaches a woman to mix
/ her brains with everything she does is
one that every woman as we'll as man
should know. Agricultural schools began
/ by teaching the boys. Miss Berry has
added a girls department TO her equip
ment. Carnegie School for Women in
/ Pittsburg, Pa, Miss Kittridge's House
/ hold Centers in New York. and many
others you know of are graduating young
women for scientific managers, trained
/ household workers and not few are
/ talking the courses so as to become heads
Of caferias, restaurants and homes that
/ are under the management of the Young
/ Wamen's Christian association, the Wom-
/ ans Christian Temperance union and the
1 various churches that now sustain their
/ share of Industrial responsibility.
/ Many OF the women who were driven
/ from home because of other reasons than
poverty now see that a mothers province
I Is not so much TO order her daughters
/ life as 10 gradually fit her for the line
I OF work she really will succeed in.
4 One thing every girl must learn is
/ that there is no royal road to success.
/ You may hear one say that So-and-So
never had any trouble with her work.
That is mistake. There never was any
work well done that did not have long
hours Of preparation, there may be super
/ ficial success, but not one in a hundred
\ OF that sort really becomes a fixed star
/ in the business world; they are the
] meteors. Work is worthy of long hours,
j aching shoulders and throbbing brain or
\ IL is not worth anything.
j Faithfully yours,
i LIZZIE o. THOMAS.
/ A YorTNc MANS .rrDrTA TTuN