El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-12-03
Senseless Married People
They Do Fool Things For n Little
Pleasure; Don't Use Com
mon Sense.
Nv Dorothy Dix.
By Dorothy Dix.

NE of the reasons that mar
riage is so often a failure is be-
~ cause people bring less intelli-
gence to bear on solving its prob
lens than they do TO any other ques-
ton on earth. A man gives a hun
bred times as much reason and judg-
ment TO doing the simplest daily
tasks by which he makes his living
a he does to trying to make his mar
times more tact and diplomacy in get
ting along peaceably with his boss
than he does to smoothing down his
wife's fur the right way
woman uses up a thousandtold
more gray matter in trying to find out
what colOrs she can wear than she
does in trying to understand her hus-
band. and she is a billion times more
concerned about how to retain her
figure than she is about how to keep
her husbands affections.
Practically all of the tragedies Of
married life that break hearts and
wreck homes and cover names with
the slime of scandal, people bring on
themselves because they did not use
the brains of a rabbit in conducting
their matrimonial affairs, and II
most people who applied to the divorce
courts TO sunder their matrimonial
bonds received the sentence they de-
served. they would be committed to an
asylum for the feeble minded.
They are to blame for the catas-
trOphe and could have prevented 1t
had they shown ordinary human in
wives Must Have Attention.
Here's a case in point The other
day a young woman came to me with
her tale Of woe. She isn't 80 yet,
but she married when she was mere
child, and has three beautiful babies
that she loves Her husband is
good, honest, hardwOrking fellow, who
tolls from early morn till night to
support his little family IN comfort
When he gets home he is dead, dog
tired ard ef-er he has had his dinner
he goes to sleep.
Inc woman IS a good wife and a
good mother. but she wants some
gaieties that she missed as a girl
through her early marriage.
Her husband won't take her about
He is sound asleep, and the inevitable
other man has put in his appear
ance. He takes the wife to theaters
and restaurants, and she's fallen in
love with him-Or thinks she has
and she looks with disdainful eyes
down upon her poor. hard working,
dray horse of a husband.
She isn't using the common sense OF
a gnat in deciding her fate and that
OF her husband and children.
She is acting like a hopeless idiot.
and yet she has got plenty of intel
Hsence and sound enough judgment
about other matters.
No woman can dive to be 80 years
Old without knowing something about
life.
Married Women With Affinities.
She knows that when a married
woman begins to have .afffnities she is
playing with fire; she knows that the
woman who receives secret atten-
tons from men and goes 10 places
with them unknown to her husband
IS taking the first step on the road to
perdition- She knows that sooner or
later her husband viii find her out
and that the consequences viii be dis
grace for her, and she win be turned
out Of house and home and her chill
dren taken away from her and that
she Is putting upon them the stigma
of their mothers shame.
Such being the case. consider the
folly of the woman who risks so much
for the pleasure of a few restaurant
dinners, a few violets, a few trips to
the theater, a few compliments, q lit
tie love making that she must know
in her heart TO be spurious. for no
man who really loved a woman would
seek to drag her down by making her
an unfaithful wife and mother.
There are certain fundamental
needs OF every man and woman. They
must have some pleasures, they must
have some admiration, there must be
a few kisses and bOn-bOns, and when
husbands and wives deny these to
each other, some other man or woman
steps in and supplies the necessity.
1t needs only a little common sense
to make the wheels Of matrimOny go
round smoothly.