El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-12-20

FEW days ago In this column
n 1 told a story of an old wom-
4 \ an who had spent her life
toihng, and shaving, and sacrificing
them and give them better advantages
than she had, and whose reward was
to be snubbed by her sons and daugh-
tiers, and to see that they were
ashamed of her
That young people should take their
parents sacrifices and services with
out gratitude is certainly one of the
saddest things on earth, but it is no
particular puzzle. 1t IS SlmSJy the re-
lentless working out of one of the
most brutal and unlOVely laws IN hu-
man nature. and that is that we treat
those about US just exactly as they
permit US to treat them; we give to
them Just what they demand OF US.
Unborn Instinct Is to Trample.
The Unborn instinct in every breast
seems to be to trampIe upon the meek
and humble, and 10 kOwtOw before the
naughty and great You can see this
illustrated IN every family you know
The wife who makes a dOormat OF
aside, whereas the woman who sets
herself up in her home as a parlOr or
nament has her husband burning in
cense before her.
Many a woman thinks that she can
win her husbands love by being pa
tient and accomplishing and frugal,
and industrious. She cherishes the be-
lief that he viii appreciate all that
she does for him and be grateful to
taken IDEA. He never notices, or. if
he does, he thinks it is no more than
he deserves, and he has a contempt for
her because she hasn't got enough
spunk and independence TO demand
something for herself The wives that
men cherish are the women that the
wives, who kiss the feet of their lords
Parents and Children.
Precisely the same rule holds good
n he Ia ions n he a. nd
children. If the parents give the best
of everything to the children, the chill
dren will take 1t without thanks If
the parents take the back seats, the
children will occupy the front ones as
a matter Of course
If a girl is permitted to sit in the
parlOr and read novel, and keep her
hands white, while her mother does all
of the cooking and homework, she will
naturally come to look upon her moth
er as her servant II a boy sees his
father go shabby and shiny that he
may have 40 new suits of clothes to
wear to college, he will have no com
junction in making fun of the old
mans clothes, and be ashamed TO in
trOduce him to his swell acquaintance
It's the parents fault, not the chill
dren's. They have not taught their
children to honor their fathers and
mothers, and the children don't do it.
Must Cultivate Child Love.
We talk a great deal about natural
affection. and every father and mother
pin their faith to the theory that their
children will be dutiful and devoted,
simply because of the tie of blood be-
tween them As a matter of fact there
is no natural affection except the at
lection that p3SentS have for their off
spring. If children love and honor
their parents, this sentiment has to be
cultivated and developed in them.
For this reason, II you have your
children's confidence you have to win
it by being comrades with them when
they are young. If you have their re-
spect you have to teach them to defer
to your opinion and judgment. If they
honor you, you have to exact their
respect. If you have their love YOU
have to win their hearts by showing
them a never-failing tenderness and
sympathy.
Otherwise you get nothing from your
children. Spoiled children, who have
dominated their parents all their lives.
are not suddenly going to turn about
and become deferential when they are
grown.