The evening world. [volume] (New York, N.Y.) 1887-1931, 1912-08-29

"laost married unhappinsss has
to start in little things" he told me
yesterday. 1.-THE most frequent
cause OF the misery that ends In
divorce 10 moral ineompstibiiity.
The average wife, arguing from the
difference Of the courtship days,
seeks to assert q moral control over
her husband.
Il don't mean In grave matters, where
there can be but one standard of con-
duct. but in countless little negligible
things. such as the number OF cigars
he smokes. his right to invite his
friends to a game Of pinochle In his
home: to offer them a glass OF beer. &C.
AVERAGE YOUNG MAN GETS A
SURPRISE.
"On the other hand the average young
man starts his domestic life with the
idea that his wifes mental companion
ship will be Of negative quality and
he soon discovers that It Is the mos,
positive thing he has ever encountered
Most men and women under the blind.
Ing impulse Of love take mates OF whose
| actions even before marriage they els.
approve. Then, when the glamour be-
gins to dwindle each starts In to reform
the other.
1.-THE church worker who has
married the sport wants him to
take the pledge ana give mp smok-
ing. The sobsy, stay-at-homs man
who has lursd the society butterfly
Into tho matrimonial net begins to
preach, to urge her 20 wear her
hair plain, to dress in dark oolors
ana to forswsar makeup. Each
knew before marriage OF the others
faults, but neither thought OF re-
form until long aftsrward.
Many disappointed wife exclaims II
bitterness: 4 might have know,
! married him" 1t 10 the favore,
} Iaculation of many embittered wives
who don't stop to think that in thi
statement they directly transfer tn
blame to their own shoulders.
ut may sound immoral to advise tina
men ana women should condone VIVA
! they feel to be wrong-what probabl!
Is wrong. Still. It Is tie only cours
: that will ever make for marital felicity
1t is the course followed in Amos
e every happy home.
5 Il recall but few cases OF MARTA
1 dissenslol between highly educated hus
4 bands ana w!ve':, or even where one o
, the pair was mentally superior. IN
;, explanation is that real intelligence
;. the twin sister of tolerance.
NO, long ago the alumnae associa
ton OF Smith College compiled stat ste
that IN this connection are highly sig
ni1oant. 1t was computed that onl
. one college-ored woman out OF fifty
J. seven Is divorced or divorces her hut
" band: while OF women not college bre
q one out OF ten or twelve is divorced.
.. would DO the last to admit that tn
% only intelligent women are products {
Is the higher education; and yet tn
ID facts seem to demonstrate that educs
tlon and Intelligence are potent barrier
r TO divorce.
"widows or widowsrs who re-
10 marry almost invariably set an
4. example OF marital felicity that
10 Divorces rarely reach the divorce
s. courts u second time. There are
l. two reasons: experience has taught
i them to select mates whose code
70 Of morals nearly approximatss their
"A their own; besides, they have
q learned that human nature 10 In
s. curaLly weak, ana do not attempt
10 draw the reins too tight"
or according 10 Magistrate Freschi.
en- tho good ship Matrlmony weathers t
eu irst Ave years OF married life It
I'd pretty certain to make a successful Il
n, voyage. so the moral OF his d!scour
AZ is "St!cl 10 the ship" Mortality
m greatest, we know, among infants und
lie Ave, so II you can coddle Cupid throu
NO that period Of stress he is almost su
an to be IA guest at your silver wedding.
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