The Washington herald., 1912-10-20
Do NotIe more Home Resp ponsib ibjIity
to Make The Most Of Yourself:
By c. s. MADD0 0cKS


buelnan e bsla6 fafAse. IL basa-
noosse bslng = via TIE buslnso of
bslng . mo<hsR. tAass are bssinespss
ve3ch in or prsssat day civ1iisatioa
are eftsa badly managed. A. a'reBult svssy
other business to which ths Individual %.
votes himself suf9s some q mueA iosa
To b successful IN husinss We must sub
NIT to discipiins. bsnd ourselves IN esrtain
directions. and not 90 h others. 10 b suo-
cessful in the bosinss of Me ws must DO
the same thing. Lie Wtu disciptins -
whether OF no. Ths question 4. shah W
try to thwart hs-which ~ never oaa1o-
shall We try 10 WORK In. hafnouy with hDr
dictates-vork haxmnnjously and intsin-
gently with her.
People are oftsn vsry impatisnt of the
oblisations Of Me They cannot o. WI not
realise that there are many laws - which
all human bsine0 are - subject - physical
things are subject to the law Of grav1tation.
They may know that NApolson lost battle
because he ate his dinner too huxTssdly.
They may know that n Il has bssn dsdnitsly
proved that . man. psrhaps in dymg ma
chine. has lost his nerve becAnss Of indigss-
ton, yse thsy viii boast Of dsfytnS al such
laws - those Of digestion. and dslight to
tell q incsdenEs- -oGtsa Quits wonderfN
chance oocusrsnos-whers such resistance
resulted satisfactorily.
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Oblivious of Small Effects.
Such people are 30 oblivious TO anything but
present, immediate effecta and 20 regardless
Of such small effects ~ that produced by
the dropping OF water which wears away the
stone In the end. that they VIII not 80 the
advantage Of looking more than an inch be-
fore their noses. especially When such gass
involves effort or some Tiny sacrifice Of the
present The greater good does not appeal to
them. especially II there must be immediate
denial and restraint.
In the business Of being part Of family
self-denial and restraint must b practicsd.
II IL an unfortunate family where the chill
dren are brought mp without being trained In
these virtues They suffer . great wrong.
for these are virtues which they must have
for the most successful commerce with the
world, unless they are % placed a. to b.
wonderfully exempt from it, rsquirsmsnts.
They ire being wronged. because to b hap
.piest they must snter into relationships which
once entered cannot be departed from with
out great loss to the business Of living and
personal faiture In some or many Of the mat
ters Of life. 'ss
We have to put up with the weather. and
life u not an beer and slkittlss. It has its
clouds and tempests - well a. the most
beautiful Of sunshine and warmth. A man
has to put up with rainy days and hot days
and windy days. but often he absolutely re-
fuses to put up with . homo IN which there
IL not perpetual sunshine
Ideas of Happiness Vary.
There IL . bit Of doggersl rhyme to the
effect that /" Isn't the day most terribly long
when all goes right and nothing goes wrong;
and isn't the time most awfully nat when
there's nothing at al to grumbIs at?' Ths
people who try hardest to escape the days
when things 90 wrong. and places whsrs
everything 10 right. cannot succeed. and II
they did they would not b happy. They
have entirely pervefse ideas ~ to what really
after all constitutes the greatest happiness.
The people Of the city where no one ever died
got terribly bored. and those who try to
escape from an discomfort are likely to b
the people who suffer most, and most often,
from frightful boredom.
There are men who win put up-beeauss
they have to. perhaps-with all sorts Of trib-
ulations that are incidental to their business
life. but the moment such tribulations enter
their homo their patience ceases
Tho children in the home have their re-
sponsibilities. the husband usually has the
great responsibility Of maintaining the home
which fact he sometimes considsrs Of sum-
cient importance to release him from all
other duties-and there 10 the responsibility
of the wife and mother. It IL . little strange
that most writer's upon "The Happy Fam
lily" lay upon her almost the entire obliga-
ton Of being pleasant and cheerful. Of max
ing the homo q bright and cheery place.
They do not take into account the fact that
she has often less to animate her. less to
arouse her enthusiasm and brighten her in
terest in things. than the one who goes out.
meets many people. and learns many thinsA
Overlook Unconeenialities.
There are sometimes uncongenialties In the
homo that 1t IL hard to put up with. especially
In our day, when men do not aspire to saint
hood through the enduring Of tribulations.
but . good philosopher. disciplined person.
can overlook these and even turn them to &C.
count. A sense Of humor viii keep Q man
irom talring too seriously things which can
not be remedied but may easily be endured Il
there b the Will
Men and women who isolate themselves
from the home, unless for exceptional rsa-
sons. stand convicted before the world Of
being undisciplined In temper. unable 10
ldapt themselves to others and to 1--we and
work harmoniously with them. A few msn
md women may havs work to do which COM
pels such isolation. but the millions must &C.
sept for better or worse-and whether It b ,
,etter or worse depends much upon them
the responsibilities OF home life and fulnll
hem honorably. chserfully. and nobly.
The father OF the family often claims sx.
.mption from disturbance or 1t may Be the
brother o. sister In the family to whom all
i've especial consideration. while those de-
handing such attention grow thoughtisss,
'sadsh. and inoonsidsrats. Many Q mother
Nn+oe f,.n,,, &,a ~