The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1912-10-15

'pfnysd "a follows. % Lord. I most
earnssily pmy that Thou will direct IN
ths choice Of wifcs hat. y Lord, let
'n is ~asah-lci " be sarah Why
not max. such q momentous matter
subject 81 pfaycri Surely " any mat
ter IL worth praying over this H.
Again. true. noble man ehould
always choose revcrent woman. II
IL sad thing FOR a man 60 lack rev.
ercnce, but IL IL even sadder In The
case OF woman. There Is certainly
something abnormal about women
who lacks reverence. a we'll balanced
womanhood without reverence Is rs un.
thinkahle as an effect without cause.
"woman owes her present exalted
position in the civilized world TO the
influence Of Christianity. A woman
who-has no respect and reverence for
the institution which exalted her is not
TT 10 be the wife of any good man.
A woman without reverence lacks sym.
patty. tenderness and sweetness. A
wife remarked to a friend: I was per
suaded by my husband to go and hear
an infdel lecture once, but going home
said TO him: My dear husband, l
would not go again, though my declina
ton should result in our enforcement
forever. and this wife was right.
Choose woman who reveres the
Christian religion, who reveres her
mothers God, who reveres the church,
who reveres all sacred things of life.
"Many men make the great mistake
of being influenced almost wholly in
their choice by pretty face aud
pleasing personality. There is an old
maxim which says, Beauty is only
skin deep. Truer words were never
spoken. OF course it is not necessary
to choose an ugly looking woman in
order to insure happy welded life.
f'In fact the more natural beauty
woman has the better if she is not
conscious of it and if it is only har.
moniously blended with other queenly
qualities.
/ Like to Like.
"Again the good man will choose
good woman, woman of sterling char.
acter. Strange, even bad man wants
a good wife. An unclean man wants
a clean wife. A man of shady char
acter wants n woman with trans
parent character. Such a man has no
right to seek such a wife. He should
60 to brothel or house of i'll repute for
his wife and thus get one of his kind.
He has no right to demand in a woman
what he cannot give himself But a
good man has the perfect right to ask
that the woman of his choice should be
absolutely pure. The chief glory of
the life of Frances Willard is found
in her beautiful spotless character. The
chief glory of any good woman IS life
is found in her character.
"There is no such thing as a happy
contented married life in the absence
!, of character. This must be the great
foundation stone upon which the ideal
home is built.
"The wise man will choose a woman
of practical tendencies. Here sent-
mental love, courtship, gush, endearing
epithets, lovers visions, holding hands,
ETC., will never afford a foundation for
a happy and successful married life.
After marriage the couple face some of
the real things; cooking, sewing, clean
ing, washing, ironing and a thousand
other practical things must be faced.
Many girls before marriage know moth
, ing about the routine, life of a home.
Piano playing, reading, card parties,
SoSidl nave
daily life. But after marriage they
: awake to the stern realization that they
| know nothing about the home. Many
man after marriage has been heart
broken to find that he has a mere
society doll or butterfly on his hands.
y But he should have found this out be-
J fore marriage.
Study EN- Carefully.
"Josh Billings has well said: DO not
marry a beauty.
/ cit is a man s solemn duty to study
woman carefully before proposing to
her. Strange, is it not, that the aver.
age man will examine a horse, or a
house, or parcel of real estate very
carefully before buying, and then turn
around and tie himself up to woman
for life without studying her carefully
from every standpoint. 1t is well for
reckless man to remember that woman
who might be well adapted for some
other man may not be adapted to HIM
! at all
a man should be careful to dis.
tinguish between a mere passing fancy
for woman and his, mature conclusion
as to what he would really like in a
wife.
Finally never marry a woman
, without having a real love for her,
marriage for mere convenience OF
money, or for mere social prestige. or
for any other unworthy motive, is an
abnominatIon INTO the Lord and curse
to the parties concerned. True love
abides when money is swept away.
When social prestige is blasted. When
all else fails. Truly Paul spoke well
when he said, Now abideth faith,
hope, love, but the greatest of these
: is love.'''
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