The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1912-11-12
HOW ONE SHOULD
TREAT HIS
WIFE
Pastor Smith Makes Some Few
Pertinent Suggestions
About It.
ARE NO IDEAL MARRIAGES
Husband Should Continue to BE
His Wife's Lover After
Wedding.
ARE NO IDEAL MARRIAGES

That 80 no state or condition in this
earthly life is absolutely ideal, was
the statement with which Rev. Robert
T.. Smith began the third of his ser
mons on the big issues of life, last
night, in the Methodist Episcopal
Church. He further remarked that
Good evidently did not intend that
it should be. The state or condition
called marriage can never reach the
ideal stage of perfection. The most
that may be said is that many mar
ried couples are living a beautiful |
life together life approximating the
ideal.
THE sad fact is that matrimonial /
trouble often begins before the strains
of the wedding march have scarcely |
died away. And every couple, idiots
2 excepted, find in due season that an
absolutely ideal married life is impos-
sible," continued the pastor. "But
every married couple should seek most
earnestly and most persistently to make
their married life as nearly ideal as
possible. And let me say very frankly
that the only reason why / preach this
sermon is that | indulge in the fond
hope that / may make a few kindly
suggestions which may lead some to
live more ideal married life.
4 "The theme for this hour is Illus.
I bands and Wives or How Man
Should Treat His Wife, Next Sun
I day evening | propose to reverse this
n order and discuss Wives and Hus-
bands, or How Woman Should Treat
Her Husband.
e "First of all, husband should form
e a true conception of the new respon-
S sibility which has devolved upon him.
| mo
J. ship without ever giving serious
d thought TO the great responsibility
h which rests upon them. The husband
d has taken his bride from pleasant
re home, where every need has been sup.
It piled from a faithful and devoted
e father, from a loving and tender
Is mother, from associations which have
become surprisingly sweet and precious
A. to her. The husband now has great
N task on his hands. He is TO take the
g, place of her father and mother and
g. the rest of the loved ones in the old
tie family circle. He is to supply her
1T needs. He is TO fight the battles of
j. life for her. lie is to be her main
is earthly support every day and hour.
In other words, he has assumed great
3. responsibility; he has undertaken a
;. great task. This task, if properly full.
l.
y, and heroism OF high order. Unless a
a. husband grasps the true Significance of
. ithis new responsibility he can never I'll
10 the place in his wife Is heart and life
70 lie ought to fill.
d, His Marriage Vows.
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nd -, ,,,,or n,"t,atls
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ng ~ -, Az ma o,,ary hour9 Vou
d. ,'Dansisod 20 Homer heri Are Won doino
ny /, or does vonr conduct dishonor her
re w., nromise5 Ia keen berl Ara vor
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,,,,,,r r.e,Vey ~ keen Ler ms well as she
- .,as LpTt before ,n,yrianeg you breath
"a intn har ears Il, courtshin davs man,
sueet nromises AZ snnnort of comfort
oe abolition God beara tbose nromise,
ya,, made her IN those nanny DAYS
40 Have you been true to those promises
"A husband should plan TO give hli
ne wife reasonable portion Of his time
er ] have no sympathy with thnt class Of
no women who insist thai their husband
90, shall spend all Of their time With then
W outside Of business or working hours
he Such demand Is as foolish as u y
I'd selfish, a couple who thus 1--we ar
~ shutting out the larger and the utliita
Iot rian ends OF lie ana are making greh
ngg mistake mistake, ..,oa man ,..,,a, -. !,