Albuquerque evening herald. [volume] (Albuquerque, New Mexico) 1911-1914, 1912-03-16
TO BLAME
FOR FAILURE OF
MARRIAGES
DR.. Mendel SLIDER in First Of
Series Of Twelve Sermons,
Tells Why MatrimOny often
Ends in Unhappiness.


Marriage" the hrst OF a series OF
twelve sermons on allied subjects,
was delivered 20 q large and appre-
olative congregation by gabbi Mendei
SLIDER, In Temple Albert last sven
ing. Dr. siiber went az once into the
most vital parts OF the subject and
told in a logical way why 30 many
marriages end IN failure; why unhap-
piness results even before the honey
moon n over. The sermon was
splendid effort. Or. silber Will de-
liver eleven other sermons. one az the
service on each Friday night for the
next eleven weeks.
DR.. Silber spoke In part az follows
There seems to be a growing tend
onCy In modern times 20 regard the
most sacred OF social instltutionH--
marriages. a failure; and judging
from the crowded divorce courts. the
secret regrets, the open differences
and the widespread unhappiness
which often begins az soon a. the
honeymoon ends. the tendency might
appear justlaable. whore. then. does
the fault lie? Who is 70 blame Cor
the abnormal conditlon2 How can
the evil be remediedY
To the student OF sociology there
can be no doubt. that the fault lies
with both the Individual and society.
Hasty marriages. which are due TO
the failure OF children 20 make con-
hdants % their parents and the fall
ure OF parents to be discreet and rea-
sOnable towards their children. are 20
great extent responsible for the
present state OF affairs. The lack OF
sincerity and seriousness " another
factor In the failure OF marriage. The
individual II today not trained 20 re.
gard marriage as the meeting OF two
souls In the bond OF common affec-
ton. People are not accustomed to
look upon marriage as a relation
which should assuage every grief, in
crease every Joy. defeat every doubt
and conquer every opposition. Young
people. and older people too. are often
prone TO forget that marriage means
a binding OF hearts as well az a join
ing Of hands; that there can be no
greater blessing on earth than a life
OF worthy eompanionship. which be-
comes an inspiration. leading us to
God and a Cody life. an influence,
weaving around US the golden chain
OF virtue on which are 4ntwined the
sweet-scented roses OF love.
But more than the individual Ia
society to blame for the frequent
failure OF modern marriages. Social
standards and social requirements are
at the very root OF the evil. Society
lays 50 much stress upon the acquisl.
ton and possession OF wealth, that
wealth has come 10 be regarded "A
the basis of matrlmony. DO not mis-
understand me. There u no sin In
the possession OF money There Il
no crime in striving for e. There Il
no disgrace in toiling to obtain thai
which, In the present state OF socia
organization, forms the medium oi
exchange. II must be clear even Il
the most preiudiced that for much oil
that, which we regard as the floweI
Of civilization. we are indebted 70 the
power OF accommodating this means o.
exchange. We cannot visit any citl
or walk on any street without per
oeiving the advantage and benefit o.
wealth 90 the general community
Far, therefore. from being a sin anC
1 n NAANN ~ - a N0NAAAfA nANAHAAh MlNA
those who possess Il truly own Il an,
do permit Il TO own them. Their
Is no moral offense In working for I
competency for the means OF provld
ing for old age and Successors. Tn
! sin Is In the love OF money TO the ex
ClusloE OF higher things. The Grim
r. in the idoIlzation and worship o
money. The Offense II in ostimatln
peoples worth by their financial rat
ing. The evil lies In the miserabl
: | means that are sometimes employee
to gain wealth 10 tho breaking 81 hu
man and divine laws IN It's service. Il
the contempt Of human suffering IN
flicted 20 obtain Il. Yet. Il cannot b
denied that society largely preache
this vile and mean gospel OF IN
Golden Calf and holds out standard
which forces men 20 abdicate liberty
honor. sentiment, and religion, 20 RI
nounoe all that IL sacred and holy 4
heaven and on earth. When, there
fore. this spirit enters into 40 sacre
matter az matPlmony, marriage be
comes. not eonaeSrated, but desc
Grated.
Another force and factor IN IN
, failure OF modern marriages 10 IN
! spirit OF selhshness upon which on
social standards, conventions an
, customs are based. Upon the sea q
! matrimony many a good ship has be
come wreck because It's keel wa
/ laid In seinshness, because ever
I spar, every board was made and TAI
! In g spirit OF thOughtlessnesa and IN
Z consideTateness because It's radde
! was built OF insympathetlc careless
! ness and lts helm guided by cold ego
tism.
10 this be 40, what Is tho remed
for the existing evil? Simply cor
= rection OF the individual training an
change Of our social standards. IN
. young should be trained 20 place con
fidenca In their parents and the Oh
( should aeoustom themselves 20 b
companions 10 their children. tn
standard Of wealth; the spirit OF sell
lshness changed 90 the spirit OF SYN
pathy. Men and women must lear
70 look for the basis OF matrimon
not IN outward things but In inwar
things. II we are TO have happ
homes and happy hearts, marriage
10 be- bassQ not upon infatuatiol