The evening world., 1912-01-09
Marguerite MOOers Marshall.

Nearly twe thousand years ego
celebrated apostle put forth his
most celebrated decree, "Wivss,
bands" To this day the vows Of
the marriage service rsaA, u
promise TO love, homo. ana 0DNY."
Yst In how many modern ~
ria6es does the young wife SER
lously consider other submisston
or obedience b 10 hss dutyf
But It 10 for lack Of this very con-
sideration that her married life Is fire.
quently wrecked. according to DR..
Frank Oliver Hail Of the Church Of the
Divine Paternity. In his sermon Sun
day he said, Ordinarily In performing
a wedding service I omit the word
obey because the woman Of to-day
does not ike to promise to obey. But I
sometimes have thought I should put
that word back.
There must be not only a union OF
nearts In marriage but a union Of Wills.
Unless life Is TO be given over to an
endless series OF wrangles. there must
be one leader whose will Is to DO de-
ferred to by the rest. and because he
IL the head Of the household this q
should be the husband"
But It mas always seemed to me h a
tho ideal marriage should be. an equal
partnership" ! old DR.. Hall yesterday.
HUSBAND 10 NAru RALLY THE
HEAD OF THE FIRM.
1T 10 q partnership" he agreed. with
each partner in charge OF especial de-
partments. but both working together
for the common interest. However.
even In business. there y always q
leader among the members Of every
successfui frm. The articles Of part.
nership may not indicate this In black
and white. but II h enterprise II to
DO conducted as 1t should be the head
Of the firm' must exist, the man who
makes the ultimate decision In matters
Of the highest Importance. In marriage
the husband Will naturally be the head
OF the Arm.
~ believe that the greatest cause OF
divorce to-day lies IN the fact that mar
riage no longer means the welding to.
gether Of two Wills. but rather theiI
COHtlnudl CluSuihS oih WIN ~
longer obey their husbands. and there
are certainly occasions when this ODE
dience Is essential. II is nonsense 4
think that two people a live togethel
In the same house and spend the SAINT
income. much less bring up u family o
children, without one OF them sometimes
making submission to the other"
But why isn't It Just as fair for tn,
husband TO obey the wife as vice versa?
! inquired.
NOT NATURAL FOR THE WIFI
TO BE THE BOSS.
1T isn't natural" declared DR.. Hal
For one thing. the husband Is tn
economic head Of the household. II
contributes the money which takes car
OF his wife and family as well as OF hin
self. Then II It's a question OF his NOV
ing to q certain place for the good OF hi
business. surely the wife's duty IL I
obey his decision M pack the trunk
even n she's devoted to her presen
ne,ghborhood.
That Is just a sample Of some Of tn
crises Of married life In which the mos
ordinary common sense must admit tina
the husbands Will should be law.
"Of course" Or. Hall added Qu!ckl,
y" don't want my words construed
mean that the husband should b
tyrannical despot. crushing u all ind
viduality and s~pontaneity from the VI
fortunate woman whom he has married
The wise captain OF commander q
senior partner always takes couns'
with the neSt In authority md r.,
J quentiy follows h advice Of that pei
son."
WHEN MIND MAKES HER cor
troll THE SiTUATlON.
But suppose she IL the stronger pei
sonalityY" ! interrupted.
Or. Hall gave u very little smil,
Then. OF course. che controls the s!tl