Iowa County democrat. [volume] (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1877-1938, 1912-02-01
Coed
A Girls Manners.

There are many small and unseen
reefs upon which the girl seeking SO
cia success may come to grief, and
one ot the most dangerous Is that OF
broken social engagements
In the present day old Fashioned
courtesy and consideration seem to hd
asleep or else To have left society en-,
tirely. The modern hostess only too
frequently receives a telephone mes
sage from some guest at the last mo.
ment saying without the least com
junction, so sorry, but II is impoSSi,
bic"
As a rule, this sort OF thing is mex
cusahle, Ot course conditions may
arise under which nothing else can I've
done. but the girl who usually sends n
message of this kind Is of the selfish
type and rarely succeeds In attaining
popularity. She is thinking more of
her own caprice than OF her hostess
1t is not an easy matter to I'LL In at
dinner or luncheon or bridge No mat.
ter how we'll poised n hostess may be,
a disappointment OF this kind is upset
ting, and the selfish or thoughtlcss girl
who Is the occasion OF her embarrass.
ment Is apt to have black mark
against her name In that particular
hostess mind.
The trouble Is that the girl of today
is too careless In her acceptance OF IN
vitations. On the spur OF the moment
she accepts and then frequently de
Cides that the whole thing Is n bore
or something else comes up that she
would prefer doing. and she finally
ends by declining the invitation at the
last moment, thus arousing an antago
nism that cannot help hut handicap
her In her social career.
1t is simple matter to decline In
the first place, A decllnation Of this
sort hostess has no right to resent.
but once her list Is closed It is another
matter
Telephone 10 One Cause.
A young girl recently remarked that
she accepted every invitation which
came to her. then picked those she pre-
ferred. throwing over the others, This
sounds well. but sooner or later II will
result In appropriately, Neither cour.
tesy nor consideration justihes such a
course.
Naturally one has preferences. There
are certain things one would rather
do. A girl should make up her mind
what these things are and accept them
before everything else. but she should
not play fast and loose with invita-
tons she does not want
Let her decline them definitely the
moment they are presented to her and
she will find she makes fewer enc
mics. while at the same time she
pleases herself
One hears the impulsivc girl say,
"Oh that is all very well. but what
can one do in this day when people
call you on the telephone and fire In
vitations Mt you point blank and your
mind is as destitute Of excuses as an
empty birdcageT
The best advice for this situation is
to learn 10 think quickly and decline
definitely If It Is thing one does not
care to do. One can always have an
engagement to sit ut home and cult
/ vate ones mind.
Courtesy Always Pays.
The average girl will say that this
is a trivial subject, and II courtesy
and consideration are trivial then II
is, but It is the little things that SC
often get us disliked and land us IN
the lonely land.
The girl who accepts an invitation
as an evidence of good will and treats
It with perfect courtesy will hnd hel
social path smoother and her owl
/ pleasures less complicated.
The Rolling Stunt.