El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1912-03-11

TT MAY not be the biggest letter In
size. but it is mentioned oftener
= than any other All Of US ike to
! speak it The most silent Of US viii IN
bend and chat freely If some one in
| PRODUCES into the conversation that
notwithstanding topic-ourselves.
l A woman who was universally pOpu-
/ lar was asked by a friend how she
made mere acquaintance like her, with
! so little apparent effort on her part
! to please. The popular woman replied
/ frankly
L encourage people to talk about
! themselves. Ones self Is the subject Of
which one never tires. When / meet a
/ person who seems utterly impossible
/ to me, I make an opportunity to say
/ to him; Now what do you think Of So
and-so2 and straightway his tongue IS
I lOosed and all have TO do is to listen
Verify she was wise in her genera
ton, but how often she must have been
I bored
We all remember the definition Of q
bore as "a man who talks so much
about himself and his affairs that he
allows YOU no time to talk about your
self and your affairs And II man
talking Of his business and his own
special interests is a bore to a woman
lust think how a woman whose CONVEX
sation is limited to her own sphere or
work must bore man
More Life Interest.
For denv IT as we may, there are
more things of interest TO a woman In
the life of the average man than there
are OF interest to man in the life OF
the average woman we are oIlen eol-
fled and enlightened ny hearing our
husbands and brothers and their friends
discussing politics, civic reform or the
stock market. We feel tnaI we can
learn about those things from them ana
would be glad to know mpre about
them, for they are Of concern 10 US Wo-
men. But what man is interested IN
hearing Of the trivial rounos the COiH-
mon task" OF homework OF now tne
maid forgot to put on her white apron
when she went to the front door, or
how she ate all the huge cnocoldte CAKE
that was left from sunday nlBnt sup
per, which should have lasted 1oI AZ
least two more meals2 So long as the
maid has dinner ready when ne gets
home and IT is a good one, and there
is something for him to eat lhal ne
lies as well as he did the chocolate csAe
Of delectable memory, what does me
man care about the Go HIM trivial De
tails that preceded the satisfactory re-
sults2 They are not a part ana paIcei
Of his life as he sees it.. And such pc
Ing the case, he is bored Dy nearing
OF them.
To avoid being bores we must learn
to get away from the personal side OF
things. Men claim that few women can
DO this, and we hear often on men
lips the story of the husband who re-
marked to his wife that women made
personal matter Of every question in
troduced, at which statement his wife
protested with, oh no, John; all wO-
men don't I don't do -"
The husband was satisfied: she had
proved the truth Of his contention.
Yes. one does get tired. Of the rs.
Don't you know how hard it is to get
some persons to talk of abstract sub
fects2 Discussion Of such is delightful
when personalities are avoided and gen
eralitfes dealt with But in a group Of
a half dozen people it is difficult TO
carry on any line Of argument without
hearing some one begin sentence with,
We'll, I know in my own case, that"
etc It is fatal to freedom Of discussion
OF course, the I IN every ones life is
the all essential. most important letter
This is as true as that self-preserva-
ton is the first law Of nature. But we