The Redwood gazette. [volume] (Redwood Falls, Minn.) 1873-1940, 1912-03-12
SHUN COQUETTE
IN WIFE PICKING
Mrs. Mary Austin. Dramatist.
Tells What Kind of a
Woman to Wed
COURTSHlP TISSUE OF LIES
Intellectual Sympathy Essen
tial-Long Acquaintance
Is Important
C0URTSHIP TISSUE OF LIES

1 w Hat w Ol1lOil OllOdId q man AAA0A y
The two hundred young men who
make up the famous Biblo class in
New York are discussing this ques-
ton. But it may be noted that
they have asked no woman to con-
tribute to their debate.
At least the women should be
heard on the topic concerning them.
Mrs. Mary Austin. the dramatist,
who is shortly to bring out book
on Marriage" has been asked:
What kind of woman should a
man marry?
The Kind Not To Marry
Il find it almost easier to speak
of the woman he should not marry"
says Mrs. Austin, because this
type is given unwholesome FREEDOM
inence in modern life and literature.
| refer 10 the coquette.
The reign of the coquette is a
relic of barbaious ages, when a
man had to indulge in the most
desperate and primitive struggles
to secure wife. He usually
knocked her father and mother
down with club and dragged her
off by the hair of her head to his
cave. Now we have changed all
that.
Stop Trying to Win Man
eve must get away from cur
present ideal Of an artificial and
highly stimulating courtship. Our
girls must stop trying to win men.
Love that is won by coquetry, that
does not come naturally as the re-
suit of serene and sustained COM
radeship. never lasts.
Beauty Helps Some
''In choosing a wife man should
look for real values, she explained.
Beauty is good thing, and every
woman ought to be as beautiful as
possible. But she should not be
judged or rejected on the merits of
her face alone.
Men must get over that if they
: wish to marry happily. One thing
essential in wife is truth. Often
a courtship is only tissue of lies.
do not mean simply that a girl
tells falsehoods. | mean that she
pretends to he many things which
. she is not; that she deliberately as
sumes virtues and charms which
she does not possess and which her
husband is bound to find out that
. she lacks after their marriage.
Intellectual Sympathy
Another real value man
should look for in a woman he de-
cides to marry is intellectual sym-
pathy. Another is charity. An
other is efficiency, the ability to
play the part of wife and mother
without failing through long years
together.
Furthermore, only woman who
has had some preparation for mar
riage should become wife. | think
that the education of all boys and
girls should contain lessons prepar-
ing them for the duties and re-
sponsibilities of married life.
Should Know Sex Hygiene
They should be taught sex n.y.
giene, and the growing boy, as we'll
as the girl, should be instructed in
the "are of children. | have been
much impressed by the beautiful
fatherly attitude of the men in a
colony of scientists / know. They
had studied all about the right sort
of milk for their children and other
questions of child hygiene, and they
were as interested as the mothers
and as skilful.
"A man ought not to marry any
woman whom he has not known
well for a considerable period OF
time. That is the one reason why
marriages between people who have
worked together in the same office
are so apt to turn out well. They
have become really acquainted with
one another. not simply with one
= another's best clothes.
Jumps at First Chance
''One reason for the existence OF
the coquette is that the girl knows
only few men and, supremacy de
sirous of becoming married, makes
every effort to take the first chance
Al 4 Il.