The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1911-10-23
EVENING CHAT
BY RUTH CAMERON.

Sometimes I wonder how anyone ever
dares to get married.
And that sometimes is after reading, IN,
the magazines and newspapers some OF
the articles about the impossibility OF be
ing happy though married.
Why 1 am not married" WHY my
+slfe left me, why / wouldn't marry
my husband if / had my life to live over
aga n" why ! beat my husband with
the frying pan every morning" How TO
Keep up appearance even If you hate
your husband"-I quote from memory. 30
these may not be entirely exact but
assure you theyare very similar to tie
titles of the magazine articles with when
we are constantly bombarded.
And every time a newspaper writer
runs out of other material she takes a
long breath and proceeds to warn her
readers OF some snag in the matrimonial
river that even the most s1illful pilot has
a bare chance of avoiding. l know you
see. for do it myself.
And the trouble with most Of these
warnings and prophecies is that they arc
true But one of the greatest lessons
that life gradually teaches MS is that no
one truth is the whole truth. and that
one thing may be true and that another
almost opposite may also be true.
And that applies to the question OF
matrimony as well as to any other
Of course there is no doubt at all that
marriage Is not the rosy mountain top
existence which courtship paints it.
But what of that? was ever any pleas
ure. any undertaking, the spOtlessl1y per-
feet thing anticipation painted it,? And
yet would one wish on that account 10
have hung back from all pleasures and
~--%N-AAs,el.
To be sure. one must bring infinite
tolerance and forbearance to the mar
rage relation in order to make it a
But what of that? Is there any family
relation-brother and sister, father and
son, mother and dauehter-but requires
tolerance and fOrbea-ance to make #
happy? And yet one would not wish on
hermit.
Do you know haven't a doubt that the
woman who tells us IN the magazine
band If she had her life to live over again
would probably go back to him if she
had a third life after the second,
Now. perhaps you think I'm overestf
mating the effect of all this magazine
and newspaper talk.
more than one girl say. why, 7 positive
Il am afraid to get married. You read
pie being unhappy"
They forget. you see. that INC reason
one reads so much more about unhappiIv
married people thar the other Kind is
that everyday happiness makes tame
reading. and thar newspaper readers
piece about Mr.. and Mrs. so-and-So who
are trying to see who can divorce the
other first. they should find a list of PEG
pie who are happy though married in
their morning paper.
Cheer up. young folks Much Of life
that seems complex when you talk too
much about it grows simpler when you
come to living it,
Cultivate foTbearance and tolerance. get
of its own troubles and a disposition not
to expect too much, and ] have not 2
doubt but that some day you and the
other half of YOU may stand on the crest
of the hill singing that sweet old fioks'
love song
John Anderson, my 10. John
We clamb the hill thegither.
And monte a cantie day. John.
We've had wi ane anither.
Now maun totter down. John
But hand in hand we'll 90.
And sleep thegither at the foot.
John Anderson. my jor'