The Washington herald., 1911-08-09
By JULIA CHANDLER MANI.

A Washington mother told me the other
day that she had no help in her never
ending work because II she hired a SER
want she could not afford to give her
grown daughter half the clothes or trips
which she can afford If she does all of
her own cooking, and minds three little
children. Two Of them are babies, and
the third little more than a baby.
woman is hired to do the washing
and ironing, but all the care of big
house, three square meals a day, the up
bringing of little human stairsteps. and
sewing for the whole family is shouldered
by this mother because she wants to
give her grown daughter frills of lace
and expensive trips.
The girl Is taught to do nothing that
will harden her soft white hands, or
tire her before a party. and is clothed
out. Of all proportion to the rest-of the
family
In other words, she is turned willfully
out of her own mothers hands into
butterfly existence in the hope that she
will marry wealth.
Four Million Bachelors.
1t is because there are sosmany young
girls like this one that the United States
has to-day over 100000 unmarried men
who are more than thirty years of age.
And every year the number increases.
The average young mans salary is
small, and the conditions in our country
have become such that individual ca
reers for the average man is fast be-
coming an imposSbility.
Mothers begin early to instill in theif
daughters an inordinate passion for dress.
Parents who are in barely moderate
financial circumstances support their
daughters in luxury, and these young
women expect to be cared for in just the
same way by the young men who marry
them.
Home Training Impediment.
1t costs more to sustain such a girl than
the average young man can afford, so
her mothers hard work and sacrifice
but results in tremendous impediment
to the marriage of her daughter
Col. Edward H. r. Green. the son OF
Mrs Hetty Green. has just declared his
intention of going West in search of a
wife. because he says New York women
do not know the meaning of marriage.
Ill marry woman and not clothes |
horse"
He is right in his assertion that the
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from her sister of the East
Domestic help is scarce and high
throughout the West and Middle West
and mothers who have the work of their !
own homes do not shoulder it all in |
order that their daughters may be given |
purple and fine linen. They teach their |
girls domestic science-to cook. to keep
a house in order-and to do il without |
fuster and exhaustion !
Respects Domestic Work.
The Western girls grows into woman
hood with deep respect for her mother:
a full appreciation of her mothers work;
a perfect willingness and expectation to
lend her own strength to the turning of
life's wheel. and the man who marries
her gets a woman and not a clothes
horse, as Col Green puts 1t.
l believe that every mother owes ii to
her daughter TO teach her the valuation
OF her health, her charm of womanIy
beauty. her duty of education, but edu-
cation should include for every woman
domestic graces that make finery sink
into insignificance
A picture in a recent magaz zine shows
a beautiful young woman in the en-
gineer's box of locomotive, and the en-
gine speeds swiftly on. She is exhtl-
arated with the mad race and is un-
mindful of her young husband who bends
under the load of dollars which he
shovels in to keep the thing going. Great
drops of sweat roll from his face. and
he has no time to look either to the right
or the left-just time to shovel in the
dollars required to produce the speed
which the fair engineer demands
Afraid of tho Job.
It is because young men are afraid of
the speed-mad engineers which the
mothers Of to-day make of their daugh-
tiers that they will not volunteer them
selves for the job of firemen on the en-
gine of marriage
Through each generation we are the
result of environment. of home influence
No sane human being expects a prac-