El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1911-08-05

elOrS-men past 30 years or age,
in the Uuited States who are not
married and the number Of them is
constantly increasing. Why do not
these young men marry? Will 1t be-
come so in the future that compare
lively few men will marry?
Independent careers are becoming
more and more impossible to the young
men in our land; women too are fill
ing positions which men should occupy
to make homes; the salaries of our
young mon even In good positions. are
low-good salaries running from s12
to s25 a week. How can man sup
port a wife an present day salary?
Marriage is being effeetually dis
couraged by the constantly and greatly
increasing cost of living, both in town
and country.
Parents without fortunes support
their daughters in luxury and girls
expect to be thus cared for after mar
rage. It costs more to sustain such
a girl than the average man can earn
and the time is coming when only
the exceptionally fortunate man can
marry.
Love Of Dress Preventive.
The inordinate passion for dress Is
terrific impeachment to marriage. The
love of refinement belongs to woman
Every woman should be solicitous to
have her belongings well chosen and
in good taste but 1t is of excessive
fashion as a foe to home making that
I write Benedict Arnold proposed to
sell MS country to get money to keep
up the extraya gance Of the home ward
robe.
How can the wife whose husband
L.
fashion and who shall condemn the
woman, for dressing her very best? II
young, she helps to add to her charms
by varying her attire, and when no
longer young she must adopt with
eagerness every kind Of attire which
will charm away that melancholy
specter, which thrown its shadow on
the looking glass Of old age.
Most Fascinating Women.
When men select women for wives
in quiet homes where domestic grace
prevail. the finery of the world will
sink into snsignificance The most
fascinating women are those who can
enrich the every day moments of life.
The time was when women of the very
best society became their husbands
friends and companions, considered
their interests identical and did not
hold them as so much fair game for
graft. They made their houses their
homes and not mere passage places for
vanity to go through.
Give US women content to be what
God and nature meant them to be; but
no, the ideal life set up by the girl
Of the period Is plenty of fun and
luxury. Dress dwarfs her intelligence.
while virtue gives up the ghost at her
nod Fed to order. she must be nursed
like a baby and kept from a hysteri-
cal fit by sugar plum.
What Man Suffers.
1T may be scandulous thing to say,
but the scandal of the fact is so much
greater than the scandal Of confessing
1t, that I will risk criticism for the
statement of the fact-the domestic
life of this country is in an appalling
condition. Many a man has given up
all ambition for study, for self denying
service of his fe1lowmen. stifled the
voce of his conscience when 1t de-
manded sacrifice and devoted himself
to the one object of gaining the
wherewtthal to keep sunshine In his
house by the unlimited indulgence of
fashion pampered womans fancies.
Look at our married men, racing for
riches, taking 10 minutes for lunch,
seldom off on vacation. and for
what? For vulgar display, great
houses-so many houses that they
have no homes-sumptuou furnishings,
costly equipages-these are the things
that seem to constitute for the mass
Of American women a perfect paradise
lin prospect only-for when the Eden
is gained the hot breath Of simeon
has withered the verdure and the flow
erts, dried up the fountain, slain the
singing birds a ndthere is little or
no domestic happiness or life.
Must Make Sacrifices.
Many a woman would be willing to
sacrifice for the sake OF becoming a
mans wife, but most men who do not
marry on the pretext of economy. could.
If they were willing to sacrifice some
of their luxurious habits, and were
content to begin life with simple, hon.
est, wholesome comfort, to be increas-
ed as life went on. But no, they must
start where their parents left off; they
must cut dash: they love their pleas
ure too much to sacrifice any portion
of it for domestic bliss.
The sentiment has become prevalent
that a man must make his fortune be-
fore he marries, that his wife must
in the pursuit of it, in which most OF
the pleasure truly consists This
IS very unfortunate; It fills the
county with bachelors who are
waiting to make their fortunes,
endangering virtue and promoting vice;
1T destroys the true economy and de-
sign OF the domestic institution, en-
courages inefficiency among women
who are expecting TO be taken up by
fortune and passively sustained with
out any concern on their part
Just as 1t is a mans duty to pro-
vide for his family, SO It Is the wo-
mans duty to adorn It with all the ex-
cellence and graces Of good taste and
either by her own industry, or the
well directed industry of those who
serve her. to fill 1t with healthfuI in
f1uences Of cleanliness, good order and
neatness, so that everything may min
lister 20 the comfort and enjoyment of
those she loves.
Housexeepers Extravagant.
The state of life into which it has
pleased God to call our daughters is
plainly. for the most part, that which
curtails the duties OF the housekeeper
and the home maker, and for those du-
ties the learning acquired in the