The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1911-06-10


which has become an established fash
ion, would be robbed of much of its
: discomfort.
Not at a Hotel.
If one is visiting a large country
house or a big establishment in the
city where numerous servants are
kept, it is not so essential for a girl
to study the art of being perfect
guest, for such places are run after
the manner of hotels, and the arrival
and departure o. guests and their
constant demands are provided for
But even here a girl who has tact and
consideration will be more welcome
than one who uses hostess and house
as she would hotel and it's proprietor.
But where the art of being a perfect
guest becomes a necessity is in the
average home where only one or two
servants are kept. Here, ones arrival
or departure at uncomfort" BILE hours,
and ones conduct during the visit
may seriously incommode the house
hold, and make what was intended to
be an enjoyable visit an ordeal for the
hostess. No woman of heart is com
Portable when there are mutterings
beneath the stairs and she realizes
that her servants consider themselves
imposed upon.
Girls should remember this and
strive to make as few demands upon
other peoples servants as possible.
A young girl unaccustomed to the SER
vices of a personal maid in her own
home visited a friend who was for
tunate enough to afford this luxury.
She made so many demands upon the
friends maid, ringing for her at all
hours and even asking her to mas
sage her scalp and tonic her hair, that |
the maid gave notice. Conduct of this
kind is not only inconsiderate, but in /
wretched taste.
The girl who is most often asked to
visit is the girl who adapts herself
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tons of the house she is visiting. No
girl of tact will make of herself an
intrusive guest. If her hostess keeps
only one maid she will quietly offer
to help in any of the little household
tasks, but she will not embarrass her
hostess by forcing this. Many women
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selves, and it is rather upsetting to
have a guest who will not permit you
this privilege.
Don't Absorb Hostess.
An important thing that every girl ]
should learn about visiting is that a
hostess should be allowed hours to
herself. Nothing is more annoying
than a guest who is always in ones
pocket No matter how agreeable she
may be, there are times when it is a T
relief to have her stop in her room.
The most trying type of guest to a
quiet household is the pleasure-mad
one. The girl who is Unsuitable where d
going is concerned, who must have T
on for every minute of the O
day, who wears an aggrieved air if she n
has to spend quiet evening at home. f
One is apt to bid this sort of guest s
soodby with glad heart. g
But perhaps the most narrowing i
guest is the one who gets on ones c
husbands nerves. Every woman has h,
some friend to whom she is attached, Fl
yet who is uncongenial with her hus- 1
band, and when she pays one a visit
al ones energies are exhausted keep. h
ng the two apart. g
She invariably monopolizes his fav- II
1rite chair, reads his newspaper be- ii
ore he does and chooses the topic for p,
that he detests. She dia- h
1olically, but innocently selects a II
rain for departure which will necessi-
ate his getting up a ha'f hour earlier, -
II staying up an hour later to see her n
'ff, and she usually possesses manner q
SINS which drive him to frenzy or re- =,
luce him to sulky silence. If one must /,
invite this type of guest it is kinder
md more pleasant to ask her while
mes husband is away.
There are many little ways in which
girl may make of herself perfect II