The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1911-03-25
Gifts In COurtship
Days and Delayed
Wedding Bells

,,1 VERY often the girl herself Is to
. blame for the postponement OF
marriage although she never thinks OF
IL Ia that way. Just consider Here Is
girl who delights Ia little trips On
summer days who enjoys an evening
ei at the play or in the concert hall. She
th ID devoted to small presents, bat on
her birthday and about Christmas time
she expects to get something out Of
the ordinary. Flowers are joy 10 her.
T. cab rides pleasure street ear rides u
horror. and forth.
Now. that girl. let us say. is engaged
s'' She is looking forward To- marriage
nay. more. she is eagerly waiting ON
that day when the services OF u clergy
man win be required
What about the young man? Well
he. too, is eager for matrimouy but he
is perhaps sensible fellow and does
not think il would be right to marry
without respectable nest egg. Where
iNf IA that nest egg 10 come from if the
sirl uses up every penny of the hard
cash that might be laid by against the
2 coming OF a marriage daN?
In short every expensive present
lr1 girl receives from her lover every
costly trip he takes h"r on. eVc"g pie
mic party attended. every scat occu-
pied at a theatcr. means the further
postponement pf marriage Nhs won't
---- girls think? can mau save money and
M spend lt at the same tiuc' Sur.I. oue
iit. cannot eat ones cake and have 70 hu-
.. POSSIBLE
..4 Does a girl really love the man whom
she allows co lavish gitu. ou hef or
mas she but consented to become en-
-- gagged FOR the things she Wculd re-
eeive?
.rt The fact is that sensible girl should
m see to II that her lover does not s4uau-
: , Ger money on her During the court
Fl, ~ ing period 1t is the giri's duty Jo make
..... man save. No. no, ste Uust mot tell
Il. "a. MIN to save. bus she can by SELF denial
make him 60 50.
IL ls very nice no doubt 10 80 On
trips and 70 have pretty presents
snowsrsd on one, but II they delay
"a, marriage isn't * rather absurd
The truth may be told-youns men
.,. estesI having 70 sive girls sirts Real
=. ~ tnty don't want 70 do anythihs u
the Kind They feel compelled 10 90 II,
bot they kick-they do th.-. Most
manly fellows want t. lay money aside
20 that they may .he sooner be able to
tsad the maids they love the altar
Now, the srgumeLt may be advanc-
ed WAY dong young men Just tell girls
frankly enEt Sney would rather not
spend money on .hem? All very well,
'l'' but young fellows have the idea that
'----'- girls look the man who does not
siVe presents as d stingy creature, and.
believe me. no man wants gin 10
Z" think OF him as stingy. The bulk OF
'+'-~' men would rather have marriage post
ponsd indefinitely than have that sort
8 slf' OF idea get into a girls head.
-Ioa r4 There iL THIS too-the giving of
ltt presents. ana SO forth has nothir to
do with love. Because a man showers
'ls things on a girl Il In no way indicates
~ tsat he srdently loves her The real
fret is that the poorer the present the
deeper the affection. as a rule. Like
Snis the man who gives a handsome
rEaSent wants something In return for
2 it--yerhaps more kisses-but he who
rayes q small gift looks for no reward.
~ ne sG'-u II as present without any
an4s-tst va his mind OF a return.
. II a isFLn is not encouraged to save
mgny curing the courting season. II
he tss oeen allowed 70 be lavish as
..al l~Vcc ho win also be lavish as a hus-
band. rot with this difference-that he
. VIII tar only be lavish toward MIN
e.lf