El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1911-01-14

TNVIRONMENT is frequently mis-
y. taken for constancy. Many wo-
- man lives 40 years true to some
early memory which 40 days, of close
association with the right man would
have demolished 1t is circumstances
rather than any Inherent difference in
nature that causes woman to seem
more constant to the past than man.
Ingratitude on the part Of my friend
wounds me scarcely more than to de-
tect in him a hasty desire to repay me
for some material favor have bestow-
ed out of pure affection Sutch spirit
turns friendship into mere money ex-
change. and renders kindness matter
Of bargain and sale.
However ne may disguise the fact, II
Is the self conferred man who is hyper
sensitive about mourning friendly obli-
cations. The really broad and noble
nature accepts them in the spirit In
which they are given. confident that
he can pay the debt, not to his friends.
but to humanity. as the true friend
would wish.
There is something vitality wrong
with the blood Of man who reveals
the same unhealed wound year after
year, for IT is the impulse of health
full nature to heal wounds. So is there
something radically wrong in the
makeup of the person who shows you
the same cankering sorrow year after
year, for it is also the wish and pur-
should outgrow our early griefs- He
who does not, has a right to our pity,
but not to our admiration
would rather be faithful to my
future than to my past if it became
matter of choice
Man Not Satisfied.
Man is not satisfied with the same
IL t,or,
he used 200 years ago. and why should
he be blamed for progressing also in
the matter of creeds? Just as the
torchlight has given way TO electricity.
so must dogma give way to a broader
spirituality.
A man once rebuked me for not be-
ing orthodox. THE faith of my child
hood, learned at my mothers knee, is
good enough for me-" he said. But
the expanding soul cannot be blamed
for finding the faith of its childhood
insufficient any more than the full
grown man can be blamed for aban-
doning the crib and the nursing bottle
of his infancy. It is only by outgrow
ing the ideas of our ancestors that the
world advances.
The wife who devotes herself to
covering up and condoning the sins of
a VIGOROUSLY bad husband sets a poor
example for other and better men.
The woman who clings to the mem
DRY of an unfaithful man is not con-
slant; she is merely stubborn.
It is impossible for an absolutely
passionless woman to be either just or
generous in her judgments Of human
ity at large. 1t is a strange fact that
she needs an admixture of the baser
physical element to broaden her spir-
ituaI vision and quicken her sympa- |
thies.
Some people make such an ado about
their virtue we almost wish they would |
lose 1t.
Whatever we intensely desire must
come to u.s. 1t is only question of !
the force and constancy of our desire. /
Marriage Difficult to Cure.
Marriage is like the opium habit: |
once contracted, difficult to cure. That |
is why widows and widowers are so I
prone to wed again. and again, even
after the most disastrous experiences.
The most difficult of arts is that of |
companionship to a loved one who is
III Devotion alone is not enough. You
must possess the tact and self control |
to show thoughtfulness without solicit
tude, attention without anxiety. You
must exhibit sympathy but hide all
worry Only one man in a hundred can
fill the trying position, and only one
woman in 10.
There are people who would like to
get corner on all the sympathy in
the world. They are never happy I'M
less everybody they meet is feeling
sorry for them.
: Men have broader views; they get
outside themselves far more than
women do They dwell less in their
oVAp emotions and are. consequently
MORE interesting companions.
when we cease to feel the neglect
Of onS we love, we begin not to love.
MANY "a man congratulates himself up
IN the \fact that his wife is becoming
more Sensible" when she is really be-
coming indifferent.
7 think the most cruel judgments in
he WORLD come from the women who
-esent never having been tempted
All fpeauty is a record of truth and
1armohy in past incarnation. If it
livorcAs those qualities in this life, it
must Expect deformity and discord in
he mel
Men boast of their infidelities, wom-
"a condeal them.
No 1oul ever transgressed a divine
aw wit bout injuring some innocent