Staunton spectator and vindicator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1896-1916, 1911-03-31
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TO HER MOTHER
Is Difficult for Aso
man to Adjust Herself
to Circumstances.

VT7HEN girl enters the business
wv world she Is bound to brini
back to the home an indie.
pendence of spirit which is likely t.
hurt the mother.
Often the mother fails to recognize
that the little girl she knew hal
grown into a woman like herself, who
has her own thoughts and opinions
and that while they are yet mother
and daughter they are also two grown
women, each with her own personal
ity.
This is hard sometimes for the
mother to understand, and the daugh-
ter's attitude may be resented.
The independence which naturally
comes Of constant contact with the
world is brought into the home, and
the advice that the mother offers Is
sometimes questioned by her daugh-
ter.
From longer experience the older
woman thinks her advice and admon-
ition should be respected by the
younger daughter whose life has en-
braced only half as many years as
hers.
The daughter, with the confidence
that comes from knocking against
thinks she knows the ways of the
world from the beginning to the end
of the alphabet. She thinks her moths
er .old-fashionedstn her view Of men
and things, andis more likely than
not to resent the unwittingly super
ior attitude of the mother.
Naturally the mother thinks the
daughter lacking in Difference, and
clkshings ensue. which too often end
inseomplete discord.
Il is at this time that the mother
must bring all her love and diplomacy
to bear. She must realize that she
knew the child's nature, but that the
girl who now confronts her is nc
longer that child, but woman like
herself, with her own tastes and char
| acter.
Then she must endeavor to know
her daughters nature. its possibilities
and limitations, and to tactfully Use
her influence where it will be of best
advantage.
Greatest freedom has evolved from
| the timid girl of a by-gone day an
intelligent, strong girl with mind
to crap whatever comes in its path
Whether it be good or otherwise must
| be determined by her, and here it If
| that the greater experience of the
mother will come to the rescue
The girl fresh from outside influ-
ences, full of somewhat arrogant
confidence in her own powers, while
she 1oves and respects her parent, is
more likely than not to resent any
undue pressure which may be brought
! to bear to force her to conform te
her mothers views.
Any sensible woman will admit thai
the problems she must deal with are
not the problems Of her mother o.
grandmother, for the girl Of today Ii
no more Hike the girl of yesterday
| lAdu lie uUTd VI lie lTlSiQ ZOue
like that of the torrid.
| She must be studied from differ.
emit viewpoint and dealt with accord
ingly.
There are two things mothers of such
daughters should cultivate quie
dignity which will force the girls re
spect, and sympathy which will gel
hold on the girls heart.
The old, old legend of the mother
at the washtub and the daughter Al
the piano is the mental attitude II
many homes. But the sympathy and
love Of the mother can smooth ovel
many bumps, even that of; the sorrow
of child's depreciation.
In many ways the woman daughter
is much like the child daughter which
the mother knew so well, and if ths
mother will but draw deeply from hel
store of common sense and forbear
ance no clashes of wills will mar thu
peace and happiness of the home.