Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1911-08-18
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I heard young woman say that she
vas going to set her cap" for John
Smith. because he is so good to his
mother. Another one quickly said that
she Is afraid OF a man who is too good
to his mother. IL she should have to live
IN the house with her. because he might
be 50 drapped up in her that his wife
migt be the one TO suffer.
Then followed arguments and facts
70 prove both sides One girl said that
her sister married "just as good man
Is ever walked the EARTH but that his
mother had made her life miserable She
did not live in the same house, but
the son dutifully went TO see her every
day. II was natural for him TO talk
over plans with her and when he got
home his mind had been unconsciously
Influenced BY ner opinions. She did not
love her daughter-in-law and the poor
girl never expected to have plan made
that she could count on
often at the breakfast table the two
would say something about going TO
some friends after tea, or for a ride
that afternoon, and more than half the
tine he would come TO dinner and say:
! got 20 thinking about such and such
q thing, suppose we try that for
change instead OF the plans we had this
morning" :.
she knew as well as anything that he
vas honest in thanking that 1t was his
own idea. but she also knew that his
mother had dropped the suggestion
Unhappy That family expressed il
Finally after a year OF patience she had
& plain talk with him He was rea-
sonable man, and when she asked him
20 promise not to talk over their plans
wssh his mother ne did IL just 10 humor
her Then she called his attention 10
the fact that when he talked over what
had been done she always had something
% say about how much better some 9TH
- way would have been
These things in themselves were triv-
ii. but did you ever stop 10 Jhink about
the importance Of the apparently triv-
- things OF life7 1 heard q woman
say that a certain aunt VINO lived with
her was her sore thumb" She did not
suffer very much but II was always I'M
comfortable and disfigurec her hano.
she would dress for church or q recep-
ton or to go calling and her aunt would
b sure 20 call attention TO something
she considered unbecoming or out or
harmony. knew q girl whose mother
Vas just as much -kill-Joy-" 1t is all
very well to express an opinion when 1t
i in seaosn. but If you know a girl has
dress she enjoys. and IL is not making
her q laughing stock. let IL alone. Att
q she wears IL out tell her candidly
what you think OF IL. II you fear rep
clifton
boarded in the house with two
mothers. each with a grown daughter.
One was her daughters real companion.
and the good times they had together
made Il a pleasure to see them The
other loved her daughter quite as much
but the poor girl was simply a slave
she didn't dare make an engagement
without talking il over with her moth
er Hold the phone. let me speak TO
mother" was sure to be her reply. Then
half the time her mother would have
plans and be too selfish to break them.
NO. you can't do it have you forgor.
ten that I want you to go to that place
with me-
Finally a young man who boarded in
khe same house got ahead of the mother
enough 10 get Lesley TO promise to mar
r. him. Then came the tug OF war.
Some Of US were in the secret. and
must confess that sometimes my heart
ached for both sides. The lover was gen.
flenezs itself and gave way almost al
ways- Once he said 70 me, Lesley has
saver had q moment that. she could alb
noIuteiy cali her own Her mother
our wedding plans. even 10 select the
places for our three weeks vacation:
bit we are really going TO Berlin for
year oh" I said. isn't that deceiv-
Ing her too much -
~Well. IL she knew II she would nag
the girl so much that the wedding would
b postponed until my return Don't
think am selfish. II Is probably the
only time that we can have a year IN
Europe. at least the only time until I
make a fortune Won't Lesley be hap
pier over there with me, and only hear
Ing pleasant things said about her
mother than here. nagged out Of her
life and missing so many thingsT'
had nothing more TO say The moth
er was healthy woman, had friends
and q pleasant boarding place and was
n no way dependent on her daughter,
except. or course. for love and cooper
alton she would have been mortified II
her daughter had decided not to merry.
for she thought that q girls first object.
% Why not let them be happy in their