The Washington times., 1911-01-02

I DEAR JOhN-Wneu Iue
NH preacher pronounced the words
H that gave into your hands the
life and keeping of the little
white-robed girl at your side, there was
lump in your throat about the size of
Saratoga trunk, and down tn your
soul you swore an oath that whatever
else you did, or left undone, you were
going to be true to that trust, and tha-
She never would regret 1t.
You want 10 make her happy. but as
YOU get better acquainted with her aud
get a line on what a queer creature a
woman really is, you look upon the job
you have undertaken with awe ut your
own rashness, and wonder how you had
best set about it. ..-
Let me give you few tips, son, snd
1t may surprise you a little when say
that If you want to make your wife
happy, keep her busy and see to it that
sho has some useful work to do:
Mans Idea
Of Goodness.
Mans idea of being good 10 woman
is TO lap her in luxury and keep her In
perfect idleness. Dozens of men, whose
marriages have turned out disastrously
have said to me bitterly, What more
could my wife have asked7 I gave her
plenty Of money and she didn't have to
lift her hand to do a thing. I did every
thing on earth to make her happy, and
now IooR~how she has treated me-"
These men, in trying to do the best
by their wives, have done the worst.
Idleness in women is the parent OF eX-
traVaRance, discomfort, and general slde-
stepping. Give a woman no real work
to do, and she has got to fill In the time
with fashion, and gossip, and harplnS
upon her own emotions. The women
who have to do their own cooking anu
sewing are never the WOMEN VIM iN1i
of with affnities
your wife, make her share in your Work'
develop her into comrade ana 1rleno,
instead of a doll that does nothing out
be dressed up.
Then, don't stop your love-making 1ust
because you are married. Most men 90.
This is why there are so many disgrunt-
led wives in the world. Never forget that
while a man can take love for granted
8 woman requires to be continually as
sured of it, A man may work MS mn
gers to the bone for his wife, and yet II
he neglects to tell her that his devotion
is still at fever heat she will doubt his
affection for her.
Woman Marries
For Companionship.
Don't get so absorbed in business, son,
that you have no time for your home. A
woman marries for companionship. DO
you think she gets it, or that she Is
liable to be very thrilHngly interested in
a man who is too tired to go out with
her Of an evening, who is too busy to
ever take her anywhere, and who is so
absorbed in the stock reports at break
fast and of an evening that he only
grlInts when she speaks to him? There
are plenty of homes in which store
dummy, so far as conversation goes,
might be substituted for the husband,
and the wife would never find out the
difference. II men would give their
wives a little more of their society they
wouldn't need to have to work so hard
to pay the wife's bills. Many woman
unSles point lace above her heart to try to
NH Up the aching void left in 1t by
husband who has made of himself moth
ing but a money-making machine.
Be fair to your wife about money.
Give her a definite allowance Don't
make her come to you for every penny.
Ne man can have any idea of the hu-
initiation that a wife feels when her
husband forces her into the attitude of a