The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1911-11-18
EVENING CHAT
BY RUTH CAMERON.

o you know Just what you mean2
1t seems to me that one Of the chief
reasons why so many people are dissat-
isfied with what they get out OF ne -
that so few people know just what they
want.
deciding what they want in every dlrec-
ton far less effort time and money
would be spent with disproportionate re-
tn n than now Is.
When you buy a gown or hat for in
stance, IL you would sit down first and
figure to yourself exactly on what coca
sions and under what considerations you
will be likely to wear that gown or hat
the most and then buy in accordance
with that, how much more hkely you
would be to get an article which woulu
give you full Satisfaction.
l know girl who spends a great deal
of money on her clothes and yet is al
ways complaining that she has not INC
right thing to wear to this or that place
Tndoubtedlv, the reason for this state or
affairs is that she does not make up het
mind just what she wants before sne
buys. She sees something attractive 9r
something that IS a bargain and buys IL
without thinking whether 1t viii fiji tho
niche in her sartorial needs or not.
Another girl or my acquaittacts ~ ~
spending much money on her vacation
every year and not being satlsfied wiz
the result. said TO herself one spIlnS.
The trouble is that I just 90 to places
that my friends recommend without con
sideriny whether I viii find just what /
want or not This time I am going 10
decide Just what I want and try TO get j..
What I want is a quiet place where %
where I will meet interesting. Intelligent
people want place where horses arc
cheap enough 50 that I can have SOM
riding and driving. 7 would Ike "a place
where 7 can swim and would enjoy ten
mis- or golf. 7 must have good. uourishinf
food a cool room and comfortable bed.
I am in a position to pay well and if 7
hunt don't see why I shouldn't find all
She did. and enjoyed the most pleas
ant and profitable vacation she had ever
had.
All because she found out just what she
wanted and went after it.
How few people realize Just what the .
want before they choose 2 vocation.
They take UP with this or that profes-
sion or occupation. because IL is the mo
convenient or because they like some
whether IT viii give them as nearly as
possible the kind OF life they want
It seems to me we should ask ourselves
do I like 10 deal with peonle or with
books and figures best2" do like the
Indoor life or do 7 want an occupation
that VIII tafe me out n DOORS and
hundred similar questions before we
Put how few peonle do any such thing
Their choice IS mostly governed hv civ
cumstarces. convention or chance and
thew think the resulting dissatisfaction
with life IS inevitable and foreordaincd
Riit Il isn't
or course one cannot always get fusf
what one wants even n ono knows what
Fut surely one has greater chance NJ
Soing so than n one sought ono knew not
what.
We would think = man foolish r. no
went hunting without deciding what kird
IF ~anoe he wanted 70 hunt. and hence
without tal5ing the proper ammunition
wouldn't we
Wbv then shorlf we go aetinninr forN
hanniness v-ithout irvine 70 decide inst
what hanniuess means 10 rs and tairirg
the nroper ammunition TO bring 81 DOWN.