The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1911-08-28

women that this is true OF them II they
would open their hearts But they are
trained to fidelity no matter what hap
pens They are trained in this method
Of feeling until after marriage they are
forced to play a role that is dist asteful %
them because of their dependence and
because Of their fear of the scandal that
follows an attempt to obtain freedom in
intellectual matters
"Mr. Sinclair. as | said. is an essentia
monogamist. but he is not fitted to the
role. | have known actors and actresses
who would like to play Shakespeare but
couldn't.
1T ought not to he made 80 difyioult
| believe. for women to assert their free
dom and it would not be so difficult were
men less selfish and egotisticai in these
matters. They look on women as their
property AT least nine out Of ten men do
They insist that woman be chaste before
they marry her.
-Temperamentallv MIR. Sinclair and I
then are utterly different. He has the
strict. ascetic. Hebraic temperament; |
have the artistic Greek temperament
In spite OF this we have ALWAYS been very
good friends as far as that ia concerned
| do not know but ! may say we are
good friends still: at least | feel friendly
enough toward him But we have found
atleast I have. that we have reached a
point where mere friendship is not sum
Gent
Mrs. Sinclair said that she and Mr..
Sinclair had been married eleven years
and that she found ont some of this in
compatibility the frat year they we're
married But" she added. we had 40
many intellectual interests in common
and--she paused and looked down
and lowered her voice Il loved Mr. Sim
clair in the beginning very much. also
had youthful ideals Of the eternal fidelity
Of maria ge"- raised her eyes again
and resumed her normal tone AT that
time. had had no experience, you see,
and did not know the comparative value
OF loves
But finally found that did not love
Mr.. Sinclair as woman should love on
with whom her entire life is identified
because marriage, to he successful. must
mean cooperation in every way. tempera-
mental cooperation more than any other.
Temperament means one reaction upon
life. II one Of the parties to marriage
reacts upon life in one way and the other
For the ten years. Wa will say. after
found that the reactions OF Mr.. Sinclair
and myself were so different we spent
our time each trying to make the other
react his wav. and succeeding only in
making both Of us unhappy in conse-
uuence Yet. though wa are so different
each Of MS. | believe" she spoke with
some pride each of us is All interesting
and important personality in his own
wPy-
As Ellen Key has said somewhere in
her Love and Marriage" Mrs. Sinclair
continued. the denouncers Of divorce
saw that il divorce made the dissolution
of marriage easy there would be a multi
.uia of people seeking divorces. but as a
matter of fact that is the last thing people
would do.
They instinctively recoil from break
ing tine marriage vows. II hurts them
more to break a marriage than TO continue
in unhappiness. 1t was only when l
found that a longer continuance meant
destruction to both Of us that l set about
trying to assert my freedom. a freedom
fel, | was entitled to.
In attempting to assert my freedom
have pursued several friendships with
other men as if | we're not married I
have permanently come out Of the dolls
house. bu, | trust that will not be lost
in wilderness that is somewhat unex-
plored and uncharted
My friendship with Harry Kemp |
have pursued more conspicuously than
my friendships with other men. This
was because Harry Kemp was friend Of
MIR. SinclairS and was resident Of Arden
| went about with him where and when
pleased. and in Arden where people knew
me. Before that did not want to bring
down scandal upon my head.
Harry Kemp and I are very congenial
Our tastes are similar and tempera-
mentally are much more alike than
are Mr.. Sinclair and myself. know it is
said that two people Of the same tenn
peraments do not get on so well together
as persons of opposite temperaments
That is true to n degree. II practical
person and an artists person are not too
much so-you understand me they bat
ance ea Oh other. But the rea requirement
il that they reac, toward life in a similar
wav.
This Mr.. Sinclair and do not do Az
an example. | want To decid" everyt hing
by intuition; he wants to 60 entirely by
logic While, aS ] have SAID he il a con
serva'ive by impulse and a radical by
choice. an ernotionallv and intellectually
radical | believe in individual develop.
mant and believe that the only way an
individual can develop il for him to evolve
his own ideal however h" can.
He may have to commit sins and go
through very unpleasant places to do it
He cannot depend on others experiences
for his knowledge for you can actually
learn thing only emotonally. After
you have learned it emotionally you can
store il up intellectually"
1.-TWO years ago wa decided, Mr.. Sim
clair and | that we were utterly unsuite ed
TO each other and that | should be free
to find some one else I had been Mortified
when | first found out that ! could be
interested in another man, And ] was
very unhappy TO know that could
1T took me years to feel that ] must
act upon impulses, that impulses were
my real self and not any preconceived
notions of constancy or the irretrieva bill
ity of marriage. and that one must act
upon these impulses. IL II had been