The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1911-11-25
HESITATION RI e
BY LUCILLE DAUDET.

USED to believe that the man who
hesitates is not really in love. but
/ have had reason in later years
to modify my opinion. and now am
inclined to argue that the lover is
wise who questions himself before
the final decision. SO many ardent
boys plunge into matrimony without
a thought OF consequences that 1t
shows no lack of deep affection for
a man to examine himself as to the
quality Of his feeling before he offers
himself to a woman.
But I'm this case the tragedy lies
in the fact that a boy friend lost his
grip on himself and wooed the girl
before he was quite sure he wanted
to win her No man has a right to
make a girl think that she is the one
woman i'm the world for him or to
talk OF love. of marriage and of
future together until he has made up
his mind.
In this case. however, there is a
problem to be solved because the boy
has wooed, the girl cares for him and
he must now decide what to do. I
asked the troubled boy what made
him think that he did not love the
girl. and he replied that she did not
seem as fascinating as at first.
did you ever stop 10 think" l
asked, that perhaps the reason she
does not interest you is because she
may feel the difference in you?
/ Probably If she cares for you IL de-
! presses her and makes her feel self
conscious, to know that she is fail
ing to please. She does not let her.
self out freely and gayly as she did
when you were in an attitude of en-
/ thusiastic admiration. You must
think of this. too, that perhaps the
! fault does not lie with her lack of
charm, but with your lack OF con-
/ stancy Some men are not constant
! by nature. No woman, however, at
| tractlve holds them long; but such
men are not the best ones, nor are
their lives lived out in loves fulfill
ment."
could see that he was a bit Of
Tended. 81 don't think ] lack stabili-
ty," he said, "but If l could only be
sure"
"As a test you might ask yourself
whether, IL she should tell you that
she did not want you to come any
moro TO see her. that she loved some
one else-woud it hurt?"
81 confess | shouldn't like It," he
| admitted; lin fact, 1t would upset
me dreadfully."
nodded. Think a long time,
dear boy, before you put away from
you a girl who is sweet and true and
good and who loves you. Such women
are rare finds in this day OF Stiffness
and hightiness and shallowness.
know one man who. because he hest
tated, let a woman go out OF his life
whom he needed and who needed
! him. She understood and cared for
| him in a way that was rare and Won
| derful other women admired him
for eXternals; they liked him for HIS
wealth and for the things he could do
for them, but she knew the best that
was in him, the work that he could
10 and the help that she could be TO
him but he let her go. and now that
lu can not have her his days are
/ passed in loneliness and disappoint-
nput"
IL is a big subject, and one hard
| to settle in a few paragraphs. There
is much hanging on the decision OF
the boy Peggy trusted him, and his
! inability to come up 70 her expecta-
tions may mean tragedy. Peggy is
! young. and her future belief in men
may depend upon the way the 10y
acts in this case.