The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1911-12-11
KIND OF MAN TO MARRY.
Rev. Robert Gordon Gives Som
Wholesome Sensible Advice.

Rev. Robert Gordon Gives Some
Wholesome Sensible Advice.
do not marry an invalid; do not
let an automobile and the prospects of
big house with servants turn your
head; do not marry a rake; do not
marry an idiot, but marry a lover. who
is abue to support a home" This
in substance is the advice given young
women at the First Baptist church
Sunday night by the Rev. Robert Cor
don, in speaking before a packed
house on 1.-The Kind of Man to
Marry"
1.-The diseased man who goes to the
marriage altar is thief, liar and a
coward asserted the speaker. He is
a liar because he has said he loves and
he doesn't. He is a thief, for he steals
the health of another. He is a craven
coward for he does his dastardiy work
under the disguise of friendship.
The ideal husband is first of all a
good animal: l mean he has good
health. It is not absolutely necessary
that we have the strength of the vii
lage blacksmith or the striking force
of a Samson or Sullivan. He may be
delicate but must not be unsound. The
time is coming when every legislature
in this country will have passed a law
compelling men to pass a medical ex-
animation proving fitness for marriage
"A man with tuberculosis has no
right to marry until absolutely cured.
And every young woman should know
that there are diseases, the result of
unclean living, more contagious and
fatal by far than tuberculosis and
which render the victim forever unfit
for marriage. Such a man if he have
any honor left, will. like the leper in
Bible times, take a position outside the
camp.
Don't marry a man who gets splin-
tiers in his fingers every time he
scratches his head. Heaven pity the
woman who finds herself tied to
brainless body. No young man can
give himself to the society life of the
alter and card parties and dances and
in the same lifetime acquire mental
culture.
Marry a lover; a true man who has
given you his heart and Who although
he may not say much about it, finds
stay married. I have no patience with
the theories of Ibsen. Shaw or Nor
dau. Their talk of the right to dis
solve marriage to seek soul mates and
affinities is abOminable rot. The real
man gives his heart and hand to his
chosen until death to them part.
q knew a young woman who took
in washing to assist her husband Sc
cure a college education. After a few
years at his profession he Informed
that a separation would be desirable.
In reality he had shrunk until 1t would
have been easy for him and all hes
learning to crawl through a needles
eye.
''The home is the pivot OF all In
our day new sciences have sprung up
. sociology, criminology, pedagog1F,
psychology. All of them put new
emphasis upon the old valuation Of
the family To save society we murt
save the home; and to save the HON lie
we must begin farther back than the
of a censor of divoro e
courts.
Marry a man who can support a
home. He need not possess a fortune.
Do not let an automobile and the
prospect of a big house and servants
turn your head. Remember the bitter
experience of the Goulds, Vanderbilts
and Fields Better far to have a for
tune in your husband than with your
husband If he has trade or pro-
fession and a mind to work the future
is secure, provided he be thrifty. 1t
is just as important to save as to earn
and the ideal young man has no
money to burn or blow in
The attendance at the church en-
phasized the value of using display
ads in the newspapers. Printers ink
and an attractive subject packed the
house until it was necessary for many
to stand.