Manchester Democrat. [volume] (Manchester, Iowa) 1875-1930, 1911-05-17

offer herself sacrifice for either son
or daughter, but this is impossible.
Each must live for himself alone, and
children should be taught early in life
that character counts for more than
wealth or position. II wealthy par
ents find their son in love with
working girl there should be no OBJ
lection raised because OF social In.
equality. Today we are living in an
age when every one works in one way
or another. No one who really amounts
to anything Is idle. If we do not take
up manual labor we are working with
our brains or using our talents to the
best possible advantage along some
other line.
ut is perfectly proper for parents
to offer suggestions along matrimo-
NAL lines, but they should go no fur
ther. A suggestion should be SUM-
cient for the properly reared son or
daughter who realizes that the one de-
sire Of the parents hearts is to see
their child happy, SO If the moral char.
acter of the young person chosen as
the life partner Is unimpeachable, all
interference on the part of parents is
wrong"
Wrong Ideas Of Present Generation.
Mrs. Thomas B. Hoops said: There
is pne great trouble with matrimony
today. The young people want to be-
gin where their parents leave OF.
When we were young we were willing
to live on small income at first and
gradually rise to more exalted es-
tate. but 1t Is not SO with the girls of
today. They must have the best of
everything In the beginning. Parents
are too extravagant with their girls
they allow them too much spending
money and they are permitted to
dress too luxuriantly. A man natural
ly thinks he cannot ask the girl he
loves to become his wife unless he
has enough wealth to give her every
luxury to which she has been accus-
toned.
Fortunately, American girls are
sensible and are more Independent
than the girls Of any other race. SO
when they find themselves in love
with an obscure young man of small
means they rarely hesitate to accept
him when he does get up the courage
to propose II It were not for Ameri-
can money. there would be no foreign
marriages and we could keep our
American girls in America, where
they belong. We are all agreed, l
think, that the foreigner cares only
for the wealth of our girls who sell
themselves for the title and become
expatriated.
"The money is made here in Amer
lea and yet parents allow their daugh-
tors to marry these titled foreigners
and carry away their riches to the
foreign shores. There Is no love or
coIrtship in this sort Of thing. II
does not enter Into the question at all.
It simply is bargain, and In such
cases parents should most certainly
interfere and not allow their daugh.
tiers to be bought and sold as they
are. The wealthy marriage is not al
ways the happy one. and parents
should be absolutely sure, before Civ.
ing their consent to daughters mar.
riage, that she truly is in love with
her sutton, and equally sure that 1t Is
the girl and not the dollars he is
after.
American Men Best Husbands.
THE American man makes the best
husband in the world. Nowhere in
the universe are there as true men
as our American boys, reared by good
American mothers and sensible Amer
lean fathers. Then we should see to
It that American girls marry Amer
lean men II we value their happiness"
Regarding foreign marriage and
courtship. Mrs. Frederick K. Bowes
one Of Chicago's well-known club
women, declares the American girl Is
self-sacrificing, and whenever she
marries foreigner she goes to reside
in the lands across the sea In the
capacity of missionary. at is moth
ing more or less than missionary work
these girls Of ours undertake when
they leave their own country and sail
away to live in England, Russia,
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