Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1911-05-07
WE WOMEN--HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND

can take this statement as a point of
departure for our own consideration of
the matter
And right at the very first leap 7 de-
sire to go on record as declaring this
idea to be entirely erroneous.
If you grab the first man who appears
upon the horizon within convenient reach
and marry him with the idea in your
mind that your husband is gong to be
what you make him, and hence there Is
no Use being SO awfully particular to be-
gin with, you are almost certain to meet
with terrible disappointment.
Husbands, little dear. are not the paste
and easily molded propositions people
have been persuading you that they are.
BY the time a man is sufficiently ma
tured to be considered eligible ma
terial for thoughtful and highly intel
ligent wife to go to work upon he is apt
to be SO utterly and entirely nodded al
ready that time and eternity will not be
sufficient for the wife TO do more for him
than simply 10 warp him a trif1e.
She may, il is true, make him SO happy
that he forgets just what he was in the
first place. bu. you once remove the pres
sure or ease it up a little by the steady
weer OF the ordinary home life. and the
husband is going to drop back into what
he originally was.
Thus the matter of the man d woman
ought to marry becomes. as YOU look into
i. mora END more complicated and diff
calf to understand.
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The financial possibilities of a person
Offering himself for the position of hus-
band are highly regarded in certain quar-
tiers, and for many generations were what
the careful parent generally based his
estimate upon. But II is coming to be
understood by the more Intelligent mem
bers of the community that financial
power is only to be considered as bal
ancing other powers. as power of af-
lection, power of consideration for the
weaker. in a mans own family
and otherwise. power Of preserving d
high standard of honesty. With these
powers clearly and positively developed.
the power Of making large income is
a thing not undesirable in a husband but
alone and without these it is found to be
u distinctly dangerous attribute. seeregat-
ing Its possesSor from the LIE of the
FAMILY, Of the community and OF the
world at large and making Of him q
thing to be feared and dreaded by them
all.
But if on close inspection the candidate
appears to be hard working. incapable
OF DIST nSuishing the hue of any other
Womans eyes. willing to read the last
best seller and wise enough to laugh
. about it. capable Of yielding his own
naturally poor taste In matters Of uphol-
stefy, possessed of some innocent fad.
not SO hOmely as to raise the fear that
1t might become a hereditary privilege; ii
he objects to boarding and yet can be
induced to take meal away from home
without feeling that the props are being
snatched from under our decaying inSti-
tutions; If he is observation-disclosures,
even though he be member of the mu-
nlcipal government In one of our larger
cities. you may consider that he is a
skeletonized sample of the man you
might safely accept as a husband.
Yet II while approaching the altar on
fathers arm, Immediately before tine or
gan stops playing 1.-The Voice That
Breathed Ger Eden and drops softly
into Hearts and Flowers" you happen
all OF sudden to see him kick a cat.
dog or other animal. or lay harsh and
violent hands upon a little child. grasp
dear fathers arm firmly in both hands,
turn him carefully around and head him
for the church door on the dead run.
You Will by this means escape making
the mistake of your young life.
Copyright. 1911. by Charlotte c. RovettJ