Arizona republican. [volume] (Phoenix, Ariz.) 1890-1930, 1911-11-05
HELP OTHERS and be HAPPY
For Those Who Are Suffering From
Unrequitted Love There is a Con-
tent Making Other Lives Less JOY
Iess-The Solace of Art and Liter
ature and Music.

| There is no hunger like the hun
| ger for love, so imperative in its de-
| mand and sometimes so difficult to
satisfy Many come to the banquet
| OF life with this hunger and' have
the cold comfort of seeing others
feed, for themselves they are sent
empty away.
II may be said that to love is bet
| ter than to be loved, and this is
| true, just as it is more blessed to
| give than to receive. But the love
| that is content with loving without
| return must be of a very noble quail
fly; il must be purged from all
| faint of self, must be utterly pure
and Observation-Disclosures is almost
as much as to say that il must be
| super-human. There is love, certain
~. that will take far less than it
gives; that will thrive on very lit
tie while it gives very much; and
such love will indeed be blest in its
giving. in the joy of its surrender,
the sense of its own most tender
sacrifice There is also sometimes
the happy delusion by which per-
sons imagine themselves to be more
cared for than they really are, de-
fusion to which all are liabl end
which gives so much pleasure that
we need not seek too critically to
dissipate it.
But there are those who labor
under no such mistake. who cannot
delude themselves into fancying that
they are beloved; they have none of
the ignorances that may be blissful.
but have to face truth in its bare
realty. They know that they are
rot loved. they know that they hun
ger constantly for an affection that
they never win. Ii is very hard to
live cheerfully and usefully. con-
frOnted by this pitiless fact; it is
vrey difficult not to become bitter
and narrow and hopeless.
There are Of course. cases that may
be called abnormal. in which nature
prevents the possibility of being
loved. There are deformities and
disfigurements from which all be-
holders involuntarily shrink: there
are persons of hdeOus aspect, shape
or ailment, whose hearts are yet like
those of their more fortunate fellow
beings, craving and hungering.
These are the rare exceptions, to be
left to such spiritual comfort as they
may possibly find; we can think of
them only with the utmost sorrow
and tenderness. But there are many
whose cases are not so extreme as
this, who yet fail to gain the love for
which they hunger
1t must not for moment be said
that all love is physical, and that
only the beautiful can hope to win
it; this would be a falsity and base
Islander on human nature. Beauty
arouses the passion that is often mis-
taken for love, at times it arouses
love itself; but there may be the ten
derest love without the attraction of
great personal charm. Still, there
are those whose personality is frank
ly ENJOYABLE, while their hearts are
craving
Secretly and dumbly they pass
through life hungering for love. The
dumbness, the secrecy. cause the
pain. If they can find some outlet.
some mode of utterance. they will be
happier; and it is here that the value
of art, music and literature may
come in. For these things are al
ways. or should be always, a means
of utterance; in some sense we utter
ourselves even in reading a beautiful
book. where another is voicing our
deepest feelings: or in hearing music,
where again another is speaking for