Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1911-08-20
PLAIN TALKS
TO HUSBANDS
BY Barbara Boyd

That they do" said the Divorced
Woman. But don't know as it does
much good"
1T might, especially if you started
in early in the game, when their feel
ing for you was still at white heat.
There's temper, for instance" the
Candid Girl went on, I don't know of
any fault that's much worse in a nus
band"
"A man always says he can't help
his temper said the Divorced Woman.
Il know. But l would tell him it IS
because he really doesn't want to help
it; that he didn't fly into a rage and
exhibit his temper before We We're en-
gagged because he knew that if he did
| would have nothing to do with him.
He controlled it then beautifully as a
matter of policy because he wanted me
and he knew it wouldn't do to swear
and break things or I'd turn him down.
But now that he's got me, it doesn't
and he really doesn't want to control
it. It's the same in business. He does
MT fly into a rage with a man he wants
to put a deal through with. No matter
how much the man irritates him, ne
holds his temper. l should tell him
a few things like this, and show him
that it is altogether how much he
actually wants to hold his temper as
to whether he can or not; that there's
no can't about it if he wants to enough
Flying into a fit of rage and breaking
furniture and things is simply mat
ter of self-indulgence. And | would
furthermore tell him that if he didn't
quit | would. | never would let my
self be made miserable by a mans
foolish temper. And I'm quite sure
that if man found a woman was in
earnest about it, and he cared moth
ing for her, he would control his tenn
per.
"A man can be too good natured
said the Divorced Woman.
Yes, that's so, too, admitted the
Candid Girl. The man who is so good
Inatured he's an easy mark is exasper-
ating also; especially, if money for the
family is none too plentiful. He let's
all sorts of agents impose on him, be-
he can't turn them down"
Especially if they are pretty or wild
Ows," said the Divorced Woman.
Yes. and he filings money away On
tips in a way to make your heart ache
If l were pinching and scrimping to
, make ends meet, and had husband
like that l am sure l would have some
plain talks with him.
And | think | should also" went on
the Candid Girl, after a little pause, 10
the man who was commonplace and
, humdrum, simply because he was too
lazy to be interested in anything, the
, man who just eats and sleeps and reads
the newspapers at home, and never
wants to do anything or go anywhere,
though when he is down town among
his business friends he is gay enough "
81 knew man who worried his wife
almost to death because he wanted her
to be suffragist and to join clubs aad
. read papers and be up to date on every
thing"
It's pity how the wrong people
get hitched together, isn't it?" sighed
the Candid Girl.
The Divorced Woman assented pen
sively.
Then there's the husband who buys
everything for his wife he thinks she
needs, but never gives her any money.
He surely needs plain talking to, if ev-
er anybody did, for he is so self-satis
fed with his method.
Then there's the husband who set
ties all family matters. The wife and
the children shall go here or they shall
not go there no matter how much they
may plead to do some one certain
thing, if it doesn't suit his majesty It
isn't done. He is the head of the house
and he wants them to understand it.
Men are awfully nice" concluded
he Candid Girl, when they want to be.
But the trouble is, some of them, after
they get married, don't seem to want to
be- But | do think a little plain talk
ing early in the game, done quite
pleasantly and amiably, you know,
would be of some use"
The Divorced Woman looked as if
she could say lot, but she said moth
ing.