Perth Amboy evening news., 1911-08-01
The Evening Chit Chat
By RUTH CAMERON

N/OU are angry. Hurt" you call it. AS a matter Of fact that way
Y of expressing it is merely a graceful fashion of implying that the
q blame of your dtsgrunued state of mind belongs to someone else.
= And in the absence of the friend who has angered, or rather hurt
= GU, you are going over in your mind your side Of the case.
y You mentally rehearse what you would like to say to her:
81 had a headache when l got up and yet 1 worked hard III day
YOU justify yourself And then everything went wrong. There walk
ed way down to the dressmakers in the broilng u and she disappointed
me, and then just as was trying to get a little nap. MAJ oma %
the church called to ask If wouldn't give something fol the next supper
and to cap the climax. that meat for dinner "a bad and L TO walk
way down to the market for more and the man as rude to ne SO
when she called m e up, was just as tired and nervous a could b and
my head was simply splitting And to have Ter IA that she thought l
ought to do something moreo IN that committee. was just the last straw
When you think of what I've done already: And now The thinks ought
to "a I'm sorry spoke III as l did. Goodness, l think It's she that
ought to be sorry And thought she was fond of me. If she know all
I've been through with today and all I've done N that old committee l
guess she'd feel ashamed of the way she spoke
Such is your natural train Of thought
From it you emerge mor hurt than ever and more determined
not tic sal you are sorry. but instead 10 extort such an admission from
W. know. you see for I've travelled o the same train.
But listen, my frined. From the same station from which that train
departs another one goes Ggt at the s same nRDagn6ca Very few people
LAAetTan- of though hat Leads into n land OF 1he~etAe7-s1de
OF ne question. mo
That is, instead of trying to marshal all the conditions that make
vu excusable, this time you are to try to marshal IL the condl1on h
make your friend excusable.
You ae to say to yourself, she Is really much more tired, than 1
n. She works under a terrible strain all the time in that hurried,
noisy, hot office. Besides, this is Just the last Week before 9r V ae{nqn
md she Is at the end of her rope. Ana then se haS lac nat ahIety
about her mother the last few months suppose, too, the craftsmanship
pr that committee wa altogether too much TO her to ave &c 90, nj
besides she didn't really know how much had done. 1t Was easy TO
zee rom what she said that som one had deceived her or made a mis-
lake. So I suppose she thought she was being perfectly reasonable and
when snapped out so, she felt that was UNJUST n men she oldh
know how tired I was and that I had a headache and anyway she may
have had a terrible hard day herself So suppose me al some reason
Altogether, your grievance has a very different aspe~ when you
smerge from this train of thought, hasn't 1t?
And yet the facts haven't changed a bi-ony your way OF looking
Aethem and for them.
Yes, it certainly requires more courage and altrutsm and more of a
tense of justice and fairness. than the average person has to climb into
~' But surely you are glad of al opportunity to prove that you have
III that?
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