Bisbee daily review., 1911-08-19

orer herself . sacrifice for e.ther son or daughter. but this is impossible Each must live for himself alone, and children should be taught early in life that character counts for more than wealth or position. If wealthy par ents find their son in love with working girl there should be no ob- jectlcn raised because of social in- equality. Today we are living in an age when every one works in one way or another. No one who really amounts to anything Is Idle. If we do not take up manual labor we are working with our brains or using our talents to the best possible advantage along some other line.
 Tt is perfectly proper for parents to offer suggestions along matrimo- nial lines, but they should go no fur ther. A suggestion should be sufi- cient for the properly reared son or daughter who realizes that the one de- sire of the parents hearts is to see their child happy, so If the moral char acter of the young person chosen as the life partner Is unimpeaehable, all interference on the part of parents Is wrong"
 Wrong ideas of Preoent Generation.
 Mrs. Thomas B. Hoops said: There is one great trouble with matrimony today. The young people want to be- gin where their parents leave Of. When we were young we were willing to live on a small income at first and gradually rise to more exalted es- tate, but 1t Is not so with the girls of today They must have the best of everything in the beginning. Parents are too extravagaat with their girls they allow them too much spending money and they are permitted to dress too luxuriantly. A man natural ly thinks he cannot ask the girl he loves 10 become his wife unless he has enough wealth to give her every luxury to which she has been aceus- toned.
 Fortunately. American girls are sensible and are more independent than the girls of any other race, so when they find themselves in love
 
 means they rarely hesitate to accept bim when he does get up the courage. to propose. If it were not for Ameri- can money. there would be no foreign marriages and we could keep our American girls in America, where they belong. We are all agreed, I think. that the foreigner cares only for the wealth of our girls who sell i. themselves for the title and become expatriated.
 "The money is made here in Amer ica and yet parents allow their daugh- ! ters to marry these titled foreigners [ and carry away their riches to the ! foreign shores. There is no love or f courtship in this sort of thing. It ! does not enter into the question at all. ' It simply Is a bargain, and in such l cases parents should most certainly ! interfere and not allow their daugh- ters 10 be bought and sold as they are. The wealthy marriage is not all sA= happy happy enc cd fss :e:: t should be absolutely sure, before giv- ing their consent to a daughters mar rfage, that she truly is in love with 
 her suitor, and equally sure that 1t is
 the girl and not the dollars be is after.
 American Hen Best Husbsnds.
 "The American man makes tho best husband in the world. Nowhere in 4 the universe are there as true men as our American boys, reared by good American mothers and sensible Amer ican fathers. Then we should see to 1t that American girls marry Amer ican men If we value their happiness" { Regarding foreign marriage and courtship, Mrs. Frederick K Bowes. one of Chicago's well-kRown club women, declares the American girl is seIf-sacriffting, and whenever she marries a foreigner she goes to reside In the lands across the sea In the
 capacity of a missionary. Tt Is noth- ing more or less than missionary work
 these girls of ours undertake when they leave their own country and sail away to live in England, Russia.