The Bridgeport evening farmer., 1911-04-19
SOME GIRLS INCLINED
TO Be SUPERSENSITIVE

When girl who has spent Is or
10 years Of her life in the shelter of
her home and with loving parents
finds that she must strike out for her
self in the world and buckle down to
some employment to earn her living
she often feels hopeless discourage
ment after the first few weeks, writes
Elizabeth Mason.
Once she becomes interested in her
work and her companions, this dis
couragement wears away, and espec-
tally when she sees that she has made
good at her task.
And one of the most insistent draw
backs to the peace Of mind of such
a girl is her extreme sensitiveness.
This renders her most unhappy and
of each. idle word which falls.
In every office where the assistants
have worked together for several
years there is an air Of good fellow
ship, and great deal of "kidding'
goes on between the different mem
bers of the office force.
conner is included in their friendly
teasing, and If she be sensitive each
bit of innocent badinage carries a
sting, and if, on the other hand, the
office associates are kindly and cas-
ually Indifferent this also cares a
sting.
This trait is a constant torture to
herself and constant embarrass-
ment to her friends in the office and
out Of it as we'll, for always her mind
is open to the shadow of a slight, and,
although her associates may mean to
be kind and may want to put her at
ease, her sensitive feelings are always
susceptible to the slightest touch, and
no matter how friendly the touch she
generally CONSTITUTES it as the opposite.
While girl is still young many
things are forgiven her and thus the
sensitive girl may be coddled, but
is still apparent that she possesses
feelings which may be wounded at
the slightest touch, she finds the trait,
which in the girl might be forgiven.
causes her friends to shun her when
she has reached middle age.
A girl needs all the dignity and
po1se which she can muster when she
casts her lot in with others who are
treading the dusty road of self-sup-
port, and highly strung sensitive ma
ture is rarely a dignffed- one.
If the sensitive girl would but take
she is rapidly becoming morbid from
bordering over the fancied sights of
others, and realize that she is looking
at herself through the wrong end Of
the glass, she would soon find that a
sensitive nature is a highly unproft-
able one.
Why should we Imagine that people
are trying to hurt us? If they are
our friends it is the last thing thy
mean to do, and if they are not our
friends they should not possess the
power of hurting us.
And yet girls will persist in indulg-
ing their sensitiveness as though II
were a virtue, petting it and nursing
it and feeling it until it grows to
such huge proportions that it settles
like cloud over their lives and sue
ceeds in keeping off friends.
If the sensitive girl would only Gull
tivate the habit Of being casual she
would find it an immense help in sup
pressing this disagreeable tendency to
dissect the conversation of friends and
acquaintances, turning and twisting it
to find if there has been something
said which can hurt her feelings.
Often the girl who is sensitive
thinks that this indicates the super
iority of a fine nature, but this is only
a convenient fence to hide behind, for
as a rule, it indicates only a weak
and inefficient character, and, if al
lowed to develop, will in time sap the
strength Of even a forceful nature.