The Detroit times. [volume] (Detroit, Mich.) 1903-1920, 1911-03-18
CYNTHIA GREY'S
CORRESPONDENCE

Dear Miss Grey am a young wife.
mother Of two children. love them
and my husband dearly, but he says
he does not love me, which nearly
breaks my heart. try TO do every
Thing to make him love me. but have
failed so far. He works every day and
gives me every cent. Do you think
he would do that II he did not care
for me? l can't stand IL TO live this
way without having my husband love
lie. | feel as though | can't live with
him In that way. IL seems wrong.
Do you think that there Is someone
else? Please advise me soon.-Heart-
sick wife.
Don't you think you are making a
mountain OF a mole hill, as so many,
many wives are doing?
In the irst place. why did this hus-
band OF your marry you IL he did not
love you, II you were not the one wo-
man to him?
And II you are doing all In your
power to make him happy you may
be sure he loves you now, more than
ever since you are the mother or his
babies.
You say he works hard and gives
you ali his earnings. Doesn't that
show that his family is his first
Thought?
Is he quarrelsome? Is he cruel?
docs ne drink? Does he gamble?
Does he stay out all night? Evidently
not, else you would have told me SO.
Well. what then! Perhaps he thinks
that he has given and Is giving sum-
lent proof OF MS devotion. without
spending his hours OF rest saying over
and over again Il love you
Many good and true men are like
that, you know, and they really love
their wives as much as the men who
are constantly protesting unbounded
affection. They are merely constitut-
ed differently, that's all.
II Is hard for some men to express
their deepest feelings, but when II
comes TO the pinch they usually prove
that they are capable OF strong and
. sincere affection.
The perfect man does not exist, you
know. Which would be your choice
. II you were in position to choose-the
man who works steadily and provides
well for his family, thereby proving
his devotion
Or the man who sometimes neglects
his family, CANDLES little, drinks
/ little, Is even now and then unkind,
yet who often gushingly says, II love
you dear" especially when he'd had
a drink or two too many?
You are a woman OF sentiment, /
know, and deep affections. Just go
on loving your husband and your
babies and doing all In your power
| TO make your little home the cheer
lest, happiest spot on earth.
When husband comes home from
work tired and little grouchy, may
be, don't greet him then OF all times
with a do you love me-" but see TO
/ II that he simply can't help loving
you.
just absolutely refuse to believe
that the man who comes TO the home
which shelters the women Of his
choice and their children;
Who comes home to a clean, cosy,
cheerful house, where he is greeted
by beaming faces-beaming because
he has come:
Who comes home TO table spread
with his favorite dishes daintily pre-
pared by loving bands;
Who comes home To countless acts
Of kindness and consideration which
he knows are prompted by devoted
heart
Who comes home to comrade.
congenial. unselfish, sympathetic, will
Ing to share all his sorrows and joys;
Who comes home to a woman who
generously says, II love you, dear"
and does not bother to ask him IL he
loves her. when he Is dead tired, and
when she ought to know II anyhow"
Y, | repeat absolutely refuse to be-
lieve that this man is not good hus-
band and does not love his wife. He
simply can't help II.