Arizona republican., 1911-09-14
lake Hans Family PlIs for constipation.

when the members of it congregate
about the table.
The amount of genuine culture n
family has probably shows more dis
tinctly at table than in any other one
place If il were necessary 10 sum
up the members Of a family at a
glance, nowhere would it be possible to
find them with more accuracy and less
affectation than gathered unconsci-
ously about the table.
Why. then, is not more thought
taken about the conversation and gen.
eral family tone at meal time? There
are two kinds OF form necessary to
establish around the home table:
There is the outer form, having to do
with the serving Of the meal, impor-
tant I'm that it dignifies it; and there
Is the inner form, or attitude Of each
member of the family, his personal
contribution to the success OF the meal,
his conversation. cheerfulness and gift
Of wit. 1t is this attitude that the
parents should make every effort to
influence and to do so, they must be-
gin with their children almost from
the nursery.
1t is never too early TO impress upon
the child that he has n duty toward
the other members of the family. and
place which can be filled by no one
else In the mind of the normal lit
tie child there is a curious distortion
OF his position in and toward the world
He feels that he is the center and piv-
ct of the universe-he sees himself the
reason and hinge of the family life
Instead how much better for him If he
Is shown from the first that he IS one
OF many that he has 4 distinct place
in the family life, and a well defined
duty toward those older than himself
Nowhere IS il more necessary for
these facts to be impressed uDOn him
than in their relation toward the daily
meals. Too often the little child is
despot. autocrat and oppressor thrice
daily; and when the family is gath
cred around the dinner table, takes
that opportunity of showing his worst
faults.
The two characteristics most RAPPORT
ant for the family to cultivate at
meals, are cheerfulness and CONVERSE
ton. They are both necessary. BY
cheerfulness is meant light, pleasant,
happy talk Do not bring your troub-
les to the table. Interesting stories.
anecdotes, Incidents about the people
you have met, things happening in the
corner Of the world where you work
bring these home. and talk about them
&c nd
glowing 10 those who love you and be
lieve in you, as it is to yourself. To
be cheerful is not to be artificial
neither is it forcing insincerity upon
your friends. Cheerfulness is a form
Of unselfishness. a difficult noble form
which is too seldom given the appre-
citation it deserves.
Young parents whose children are
growing up beside them, still in the
dangerous initiative stage Of their de-
velopment, should demand from their
children prompt attendance. good man
ners. low voices and respect To all
those others who sit at table with
them. The parents should give an eX-
ample in the matter of conversation.
The parents must themselves be the
first to talk cheerfully, happily and
contentedly; avoiding unpleasant sub
| jects until some other time, controlling
the spirit of faultfinding and bringing
each child into the conversation. 1t is
for the parents to exhale warmth and
magnetism and draw out by sympathy
/ the minds of their children and their
guests-From the Indianapolis News.