The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1911-06-19
EVENING CHAT
By RUTH CAMERON.

am perpetuauy urged by CORES
pondents to write on matters of ETH
quette.
Now. I can't write on the fine points
and elaborate distinctions, because /
do not know them well enough. m
just a plain person. You'll have to go
to the etiquette bookssfor that,
But from what I have seen of the
manners of the younger generation, 1t
seems to me that a few reminders of
the dos and don'ts'' of everyday 70
ness-those things which every
body knows and yet which almost
everybody apparently forgets occasion
ally-would not come aniss-
I'll give the men their dose first, be-
cause [ honestly think-no feminine
prejudice, truly-that they need it
most.
A Few Etiquette ''Do's and Don'ts"
for the Masculine Sex.
Never smoke when on the street
with woman.
Never smoke when in a room with
women, no matter how well you know
them, without asking their permission.
When you are smoking, never talk
with your pipe between your teeth.
Always remove it before speaking.
! Always remove your hat in an ele-
vator where there are women Yes, 1
know that an elevator is not so very
different from a street car, and men
keep their hats on there, and know
that women's hats often annoy you
more than yours possibly can them. 1
I have been informed of these and all
the other arguments on the subject
before. But you see. 1 didn't establish
the custom. Convention did that and
she still favors it.
Never just touch your hat The true
gentleman always lifts it well off his
| head.
Never take a woman's arm in the
street. If you wish to assist her you
should offer her your arm, but that is
not customary except at night or if she
is aged or infirm.
When you are with aSwoman always
get off a car beforeeher. so that you
may help her off.
Never clean your nails or pick your
teeth in the presence OF your intimate
friends any more than you would in
public It is just as unpleasant Ito
them to have to see you as to the gem
eral public, and surely you owe them
as much consideration. (Will the peo-
pie who think that Warning is not
needed any way please watch and see
| how many really decent looking men
they see offending that way)
Always rise when woman enters
the room where you are calling and re-
main standing until she IS seated.
In the theatre if an usher helps you
find the seat. let the lady precede you.
| Otherwise you precede her.
Don't sit in a street car with your
feet stretched out in front of you
where people will be apt to stumble
over them. That is selfish and danger
GUS as we'll as i'll bred
At the table always remain standing
| behind your chair until ) our hostess is
seated. I think it is a charming bit Of
domestic ceremony when this custom
is carried oat in the home circle and
the father and children remain stand
inc until the mother 10 seated
There, I guess that's enough for one
day.
The ladies shall have their turn
later. Please excuse this reversal of
the conventional order of things
explained the reason for it above.
| By the way, here's a suggestion fol
the feminine contingent. If himself
offends in any of these particulars and
you don't quite like to speak about il
openly, why not clip this and mail II
to him.
A newspaper clipping to the wise is
sufficient.