Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1911-08-14
THE HONEYMOON.
Preliminary Hints on How to Sue
cessfully Venture Upon Matrmony'

honeymoon should be approached
with much careful consideration as
= speculation on the Stock Exchange.
An unlucky speculation may be counter
balanced later by a lucky one, but Il
married honeymoon may be the cause OF
lifelong unhappiness.
\ few preliminaries are worth eonsid-
Grafton For instance, il is mistake
FOR. The man to reduce himself to men |
tai aud physical wreck during the pre- |
yious fortnight in order to get his bust !
ness into such order as will permit OF |
his going away If business matters
are so pressing as to demand this sac
ritice il we're better to await more
ausuicjous moment before entering into
matrimony. l heard of a case of this
sort, where the bridegroom fell asleep
in the carriage going away. This. as
the bride afterwards told me, cast
gloom over the whole period of the
honeymoon and it was for many week
before the fault was forgiven and for
gotten.
After the ceremony. if you hold re-
ception let it be a short one. If your
frienus like to sit round and bore each
other for three hours by the clock let
them do it alone, but see to it that you
have no part in the proceedings. The
decay of the old wedding breakfast
custom brings small regret. 1t gave
too many opportunities for ones friends
To make idiots of themselves One of
them was sure to propose Absent
friends" This was the signal for an
outburst of uncontrolled sobbng from
most of the ladies' present and for the
bride and bridegroom's mothers to col
lapse upon each others shoulders. 1t
takes great deal of self-control for
bride to bear up against scene like
that
As regards going away. of course
the manner of this must be left to the
choice of the couple concerned. Some
folk like 10 see their relations rushing
about a crowded station with bouquets
in their hands.
Remember, if you do have a crowd a t
the station. it will be impossible to es-
cape those attentions which will pro-
claim you as newly wed to all and sun
dry until you arrive at your destination.
\ very important matter is the choice
of place at which to spend the honey
moon. The accepted idea is that
countryside in which to do their honey
incoming. Someone lends them coun-
try house, or they take a cottage in the
country for the purpose. This is a
great mistake. The country cottage
has been responsible for the wreck o.
many a gallant honeymoon.
A woman is always interpretive, and
in the country she will certainly begin
to think of her soul and mother. 1t is
inevitable that Il little of loves glamor
Will fade away during the honeymoon,
but If it is replaced by mutual regard
no harm is done. But mutual regard Is
thought little of by woman who is in
tent upon being adored every minute of
the day. If you can find place which
combines beautiful romantic scenery in
the daytime with plenty of amusements
in the evening, all the better. The idea
should be to make each so delighted
with the others company as to be en-
tirely oblivious of the fact that an ir-
revocabe compact has been entered ill.,
to- | remember a certain admiral
who insisted upon calling his wife by
her maiden name Miss X in order to
preserve the illusion that neither of
them were bound.
Even if you have hit upon place
which combines the attractions of the
country with those of the town, and
have been able to hustle through fairly
successful, don't insist upon your hus-
bands presence every minute of the
day Encourage him to go for "a game
of golf for an afternoon or so, whilst
you, or your part, attend concert, or
settle down to a novel. The prodiga
return will be one of the most delight
! full experiences of the holiday. Also,
make friends with your fellow guests
in the hotel. There is no earthly rea-
son why newly married people should
| isolate themselves as completely as if
they were suffering from smallpox
Finally. don't honeymoon long enough
to make it appear to drag, and don't
fling money about in such a manner as
/ To necessitate strict economy for the
following two years.
These few hints may make it easier
to weather the gales and storms of the
honeymoon voyage; but it is the second
voyage which often decides the fate of
the vessel only after the honeymoon
is over will you begin to realize what
long, neutrality-suspicious. perilous-
yet delightful voyage is before YOU
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