The evening world., 1911-10-18

bachelor women, shop gir1s, or VOL
I'm mon the symptoms OF up
preaching bachslorhood manifest
themselves In . desire to cultivate
b Acquaintance OF wealthy girls,
with q view to . sordid marriage
for money; loss Of . mans conn-
dsnos In womsn's ability to cook
properly, keep his home tidy ana
to DO satisfied with the slim hon.
orarium that 10 his.
"A man ceases to be eligible and be-
zones an old bachelor at ~forty-hve. A
woman passes definitely out OF the
ranks Of the m~arriageable at thirty-five.
LACK OF TRAINING OF BOYS
RESPONSIBLE FOR IT.
But don't imagine l blame the women
for the increasing number of celi5ates
In New York. It's the training. or
rather the lack of training. Of our young
that Is responsible. Courtesy. con-
sideratlon for n appreciation OF
women Is not taught to the young boy
by his mother as 1t should be. Very
often the mother can't help It. She's
earning a living.
But the first thing the boy thinks
OF as soon as he leaves school is to 90
to work. "Get a Job Is the w~atchword
of his earliest youth. Get a Job and
keep 1t at all cost to honor or honesty
even.
"New York, like all great cities,
10 merciless, and the mal product
- .rat .tA~, a. 49, a. ~ AAH
selfish and n,erosnary, particularly
n he liyss to be forty years old
without getting married. .~
think OF the enormous number of
young men In this town who plan de-
liberately to marry for money.
THE lack OF right training at
home Is proved by the development OF
such sordid and selfish ideas In our
young men. To marry for money or live
in material ease In ore OF The bachelor
apartments that take the place OF wives
to so many New Workers. Is the for
mula OF quick success for thousands.
II is said. of course. that young women
as we'll as young men shirk the re-
sponsib!ities OF marriage. That Is true
Of a small class which prefers the
drudgery OF a Job downtown. the pretty
clothes and small ~luxurieS their salaries
buy for them. to a real hon and life
with some young chap whom they might
help to greater success than either
could ever win alone.
THEY FAIL TO LOOK AHEAD
TO AGE OF FORTY.FivE.
such girls don't look ahead. Now.
when they are young and charming
they hnd plenty Of nien willing to take
them about to dinners and theatres.
But /. as a physician. see the end or
all the good times. l see them at forty
or forty-fve. gray-haired and III. yet
afraid even to take time for their illness
for fear some younger women will push
them out OF their Jobs. Men don care
for gray hair In their offices; they want
young. pretty faces, and the young
women. strong and efficient. too, push
their elders to the wall. Some OF the
greet bitterly that they have never mar
ried. Often their lives have hssn de-
voted to caring for aged parents or
young brothers and sisters. They are
noble. self-sacriicing souls. and their
their fear of the future. Is a
tragic thing to contemplate.
"Thsy speak Of suoh women -
competing with men, ~ taking
their Jobs away; but II 10 useless
to tell women to-day to 60 back
to their homes. where are the
honest Nearly svsry ola bschs-
Tor can . home that should
~ A.A A $500. -xvN ~
because OF his coldness and self
ishness."
SHOULDN'T STAY At HOME AND
WAIT, THOUGH.
you don't think a girl should refrain
from getting a Job and stay at home
" aiting for a husband. do your"
MOST certainly not.
"Ths girl who stays At home
hasn't a. good . chance Of mar
rage - tho girl who works. To-
day very often girl gets . Job
and Q husband ct b same time.
Naturally, its the more enter
prtstng who are downtown, and,
whether deliberately or not, they
take .heir piok Of the eligible
young men during once hours.
mo. the fault Isn't with the girls.
uptown or downtown. 1t lies In the self
ishness, the lack OF courtesy. the lack
of appreciation Of a certain type OF
young man. I don't say all young men.
The man ! mean Is the cold. calculating
fortune hunter. And only the poor girls
Of New York know how numerous he II,
Yet even he Is not altogether to be
blamed, His matcrialistic ideals show
that he did not have the right sort OF
And he mother he did have
was probably the product OF conditions
she could not remedy"
Nevertheless. old bachelors, when you