The Richmond Virginian. (Richmond, Va.) 1910-1920, 1911-01-03
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Why Wen do not Understand Women.
y wamans life is a com plicated mat
ter, that is, ing housekeeping woman's
llfe
sac Is supposed to make a business
of housekeeping. and yet II she be-
comes tremendously absorbed In II she
is a bore.
A man can go into his business heart
ana soul and the more he Is Interested
in 1t. the more people admire him for
II and say what good business man
he is.
But If a woman goes into the bust
ness OF housekeeping heart and soul
she must carefully put screen be-
tween this fact and her friends and
family. she must be good house
her zeal in her work out of sight, In
the face OF the world she must be a
good campanton, well dressed Wo-
man, clever hostess rather than a
/ II a man is putting big deal
through ne Wall be excused II he Is
absorbed in It. He can talk about it
enthusiastically to his friends. They
are all interested in the outcome,
But let a housekeeper give big
dinner, for instance, She must appear
as If the dinner Is the last thought tn
roast penetrating from the kitchen may
cause heart failure. she must appear
outward.y composed. Her mind may
be feVerishly trying 70 solve the conun =
drum; What is happening to the cof-
fee2" but she must crack a joke or
make smart repartees She may be
trying bit 81 cfatrVoyance as to what
st,s salad Viii i've HE, bat she mustn't
fan at the same time to tell Mrs Blank
what stunning gown She has on. She
must act as II she had a trained chef
IN the Kitchen, when all the time she
knows Katy hasn't been in this country
two weeks, and instead of serving the
soup is liable to stick her head in the
door and ask: "Wnl yez be hayin' a
bit OF BROTH
That is the reason there isn't a bar
gain scramble among women for
hpusekerping. IT'S Hard work; It's Sc,
shoulder as II It were of no account.
You can scrub and sweep and dust
day in and day out, hut YOU are TO say
bake and brew. but you must ignore
the fact and forget 1t. II you are
anxious about these things. il You show
your anxiety you are duil companion.
You may be Tuning inwardly at the
cooks dilatoriness in announcing dim
uer. you may be consumed with anx-
iety as to whether your entertainment
Of friend is successful but there
mustn't he n kink in your countenance
to SHOW ii nor thin place in your
smile
\ housekeeper thus has TO lead a
sort OF double life to train herself
into playing a part. A man can be
frankly business man. But woman
can't be frankly housekeeper- The
tive woman In her has to be hidden
under the charming wife and delightful
hostess.
Its no joke to be two or three kinds
Of people all at once. Men think wo-
men hard to understand. But It's be-
cause they do not take in the comhlna-
tion that is being worked under their
very eyes TO understand woman
find out how many kinds of women she
is trying TO personate. make study OF
each kind. figure out what the com
posit VIII belts well to know this
for general use-and then at the par
ticular time you are trying to under
stard some particular woman. see
which woman in her is uppermast, and
then do your Sherlock Holmes act
along this line.
This may sound somewhat compli-
Gated TO a mans straightforward mind,
but a woman knows it's the only way
10 work oAt a comprehension of her
complicated self And she is compii-
Gated not because she wants to be hut
simply because circumstances compel
her TO be
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