Tulsa daily world. [volume] (Tulsa, Indian Territory [Okla.]) 1905-1919, 1911-04-08

lngs before going N % the services.
70 Is a tribute % the udaptahilliy 81
the American woman this transition
from the sober worker % q genera
ton ago 70 the glilterlng butterfly OF
the present Even the little GRID
who work IN the shops and factories
get The same ideas concerning court
hip and marriage You can hear
them discussing these important af-
fairs most my morning on the cars
II you 20 down when the sh9Ig.rls
are hlrrylng 10 work. This was over
heard on a Page car three mornings
ago.
"l saw B'anches new beau last
night and don't mink much Of
him"
What's tho matter with him?
think h@ Is grand booker
ron no looks on right. but ! hate
a cheap man Ike to see a man
spend something when he takes a
glrl out"
II rs quite likely that "Blanche'f
new beau" 10 getting about sixteen
per- IN that little yellow envelope Of
hts every Saturday afternoon. Very
likely he IS worth no more than that
He has 10 wear clothes, have some
sort of 81 .helter and must eat at
least once or twice a day II he were
20 take Blanche out every two or
three nights he would have a higher
reputation as O "spender' and would
very ll1cly be IN debt for hls clothes
Apparently none Of the nuffy young
things who work along IN the hope
~ some day getting married and hav-
Ing home of their own, ever atop
20 consider Just how far $40 or even
$50 "a week viii 90 toward keeping up
home.
A great grandmother was talking
of one and courtship az she knew
them " her far-off girlhood. She was
married Just sixty years ago last
autumn IN log cabin over In III
uOls
when Jlr' came courtiug me-"
and she smiled as she spoke, "he
used 20 bring wild flowers from the
side Of the stream as he came through
the woods Such a thing as bonbong
mad never been heard OF in our part
0f the world. II he happened TO
have cake OF maple sugar IN his
pocket we 1ibbled 1t that and never
missed the bon hons. The wild flow
crs never grew In dollhouse, bat they
hnd the dew on them.
II am afraid our courtship was
not very expensive one. ] under
stand that my granddaughter young
nun spends $50 a week that she may
ride in n taxIcab when going to and
from places OF amusement Things
were more simple and a little moro
wholesome when / was a girl and had
a lover"
The partner Of her Joys and sor-
rows through sixty years Of married
life Is sim living. 81 don't suppose
! spent SO altogether In my courtug
days said he, out we seem to be-
long 10 generation that was differ
cnt from this. Sul I think the
young folks with expensive tastes are
missing a great deal by woolng and
being woocd as they are. What my
graudsons are forced to spend in their
courtships would have set me up In
business In the times when peoples
tastes were simpler. ! am out Of the
current Of course and maybe / see
I nothing but the darker eide OF things.
but it seems to me that the modern
cOurtshIpa cost as much as whole
section Of land would have been
worth. These modern loyemakings
seem 10 be ca continual round of
thcaters operas, symphonies, dinners,
lunchcons, flowers and candles. We
did not pauperizc ourselves and go
In debt 10 money lenders before to-
save something to get started IN life
upon"
wild flow ers. woCd violets, rides
upon pillow to the meeting house, or
he occasional barbecue, walks down
dlmshadcd streets on quiet Sunday
afternoons. all these things are n
long, long way from the expensive
love makings that are going on all
around us. II takes a princcly income
nowadays to enter the lists of court
ship
The prevailing view Of courtship
among the younger men is n very pess-
imistlc one. AZ they are neither deaf,
dumb or blind, they are able TO un-
dcrstand the drift Of things. They
call on a young lady and are gracious
ly received In the course OF time
they extend an invitation to this
young lady end It Is graciously ac-
cepted. The trip to and from the
theotcr Is made by way Of street
ear line. There Is no little supper aft
crwards, Az the young man feels that
this would make too much OF a de-
mand upon his finances. The next
time he calls he is apt 10 listen to
the words rot at home" falling upon
hts mildly astonlshed ears, After n
tow experiences Of this sort he under
tluds, and either decides to forego
feminine company or give up his
hopes Of II bank account. He drifts
into hachelordom. with Its foiblcs /.
ana its weaknesses us Il matter OF |
course, There IL nothing else left
for him 10 do, as marriage without
finances is not to he thought or
Many OF the young women Of mar
riagcahlc age never give the matter n |
moments thought 1hcy find things |
M they nrc ana arc content with |