Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1911-05-24

came her way, h worked hard in high
school, while you danced and sang and
failed in your examinations and were
sent to boarding school, because you
couldn't qualify for college. and when
you finished you danced some more,
and shut your eyes to the fact that
some day you might have TO earn your
living; and now the time has come
when you must pay the piper.
But little Mary went soberly to busl-
ness college and learned ste%nography,
and became the secretary of a man who
was interested in city charities. And
after a time sober little Mary became
interested, also, and one day when her
employer was making out a list of
groceries to be sent to a needy family,
little Mary suggested some changes.
cut out the butter" she said, land
give them molasses; the children will
like it much better, and 1t Is cheaper"
And when he saw that little Mary
had such a practical mind, he said, IN
f-ture you shall make out the lists"
and so, step by step, she came to be
indispensable. The very humiliation
h a h had suffered at the hands of
her school friends made her sympa-
thize with other little girls whose moth
ers were w-asherwomen and whose pig
tails were tied with shoestrings. The
sorrows and burdens of her own hard
handed mother made her tender of
other poor mothers.
Thus she gave herself, heart and
soul, to the work witch needed her
and one day she wrote a book about
1t, and then fame came to her. and
recognition.
But when o complained of your
lack OF opportunity you had forgot
ten little Mary. You were thinking of
Adele, whose father was rich and who
Is a great singer and famous.
But Adele, too, made her sacrifices.
While you were dancing she was
studying. She gave up youthful gaiety
to achieve her object.
Perhaps 1t has not been Incidence.
however, which has kept you back. 1t
may have been, rather, a lack of
recognition of that which was with
In you.
Many women go through the world
a1mlessly. leading colorless lives be-
cause they have not found their place.
l know a who has all the pos
sibilities of leadership, who let one
chance after another slip by her. She
tied herself to a monotonous routine,
when, If she had worked, she might
hav swayed others by the power of
her personality.
Another oma is keeping a board
ing-house, whose social qualities, If
used in the right direction, might have
brought her success in a paying bust
ness, but she failed to connect her tai
ents with the occupation. Lack of
business discernment was her trouble,
combined with lack of initiation. OPP
p~ortunity knocked once at that wo-
mans door. The head Of a big bust
ness house said to her: I'VE need a
m to receive our feminine Gus
toners; some one with social tact and
discretion; I believe you can I'LL the
bill. We will start o at 81, 200 a year
with a raise in the near future"
ooh, I couldn't" she gasped; 81 have
never had anything to do with bust
ness; oh, / couldn't"
Yet another woman, a little. red
haired stenographer of 10, was asked,
In a sudden emergency. to take tenn
porarily the place of the society edi-
tor of a leading daily.
Did she refuse? Not a bit. She said,
bravely: "I'n try"-and she did try,
and was found to be capable of filling
the permanent place. Her salary to-
day is $1,000 a ear. and she is just 81.
She was equal to her opportunity and
so success came.