The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1911-11-20
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Yesterday we had the long pro,m ,.is,,s
symposiun OF nay letter-friends opinions
on the kind of woman man hkes pest 81
and the opinions expressed We're 80 ~
teresting that i had TO let them SPIN wv
Here is a description OF an IDEAL OK
womanhood that sends me TO my oteeen,
son to hunt up his description OF the los-.i
married Hfe-"for the faults OF married
people continually spur up each OF theul,
hour by hour. 70 do better, 20 meet alie
between the failures. there VIII come
glimpses of kind virtues 20 cheer ana en-
courage ,.,,
be thoroughly domesticated, intensely
fond of children and allied 10 the ieat
home life; musical. Interested In the best
literature, very anectionate and reaoy
to forgive: neat In dress and very eN9rL
as TO boots and gloves; unseifish, oroaaly
religious, with charity towards other
. creeds: fond Of and willing TO entertain
4 genial society. with a knife ana tork az
was ready for strangers unaWareh.
She must be a true hfeH partner w.
would tell me OF my weaknesses and fall-
ures and help me daily with her woman
intuition and prayers TO overcome ny
many faults; who would make our lives
happier bolier and better for our unity
"A married woman" yesterday declared
that men did not like a girl VINO helo .l nei
self cheaply and declared that men Wouio
bear her out. Here is one who does.
my ideal woman must be neat plain
sincere cordial. geenrous, large hearted,
with a kind, pleasing personality. She
must ba one who converses on what she
has seen. not what she has heard or read
one whose life and character rs unques-
toned one who has Travelled ana Win
sufficient voca bulary to express hefseiL
inteIligently: an independent girl ana nor
a flrt or jollier, and last but not least
good plain cook who would try to please
/ think the next man ought TO get the
exceedingly reasonable order that ne puts
in, filled. Don't your
Much depends on a mans nature -
to what kind OF a girl he likes haSe
observed that intellectual men usually al
mire girls who possess good SOLD common
sense, but not Overburdened with Know
edge: girls who can appreciate serious
conversation and still not be serious
enough to lack the sense OF humof. fuI-
thermore, a sympathetic girl always ep-
peals to a man. especially II her sympathy
leans towards himself Not too muen
spirit but some. Some self-conuol anu
not too eternally sweet; just httie So
pricious-that Keeps him on the alert. AIS.
one who can keep her spirit sweet and
avoid all menner Of petty anger. Ihat lF
an ideal girl and an observant man can
asked especially for leaves from per-
sonal experience. Here is a rather SAD
ONE
''Iyp to twenty-five or thirty years Of
age the vivscious and the chic dresser
attracts a man. although not always win
out his having some feeling Of fear Men
of this age ignore or are unconscious OF
the good and enduring qualities wnlch
which produce the opposite effect
After that age, especially II they have
been married. a man looks Tor ana likes
the woman who is not entirely selfish,
who desires to see him happy, whose
ideas are to help him and not simply 10
have him produce substance Tor her 70
deyour. Then men want a perceptive
mind and a woman loyal and not wholly
self-sympathetc As this Is a leaf from
my experience you viii pardon me Tor not
signing my whole name.
Here is an infinitely sadder and yet at
the same time Infinitely happier exper-
fence.
Judging by my experience. like what
I had-a woman who was gentle, affec-
tionate mot effusive), considerable OF
everybody, respected during thirteen
years Of married life and revered now
eight years after her death She was "a
woman that everybody, relatives ac-
Quaintances and servants, loved Tor her
onsiderateness towards others, woman
whom all children held out their arms
to with smiles on their faces, woman
who lesed every child she saw in spite OF
having seven of her own. woman who
went through the terrible ordeais OF
motherhood with a smile on her face and
without a whimper-a woman who was
smile, no matter how trying her day
had been-a woman for whom my first
love turned into a holy love such as ono
generally gives ones mother"
1 trust my own sex hav noticed that
beauty has not once been mentioned as
a necessary quality. that sweet temper
is generally demanded and that health.
love of children, and dOmesticity are at
premium.