El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1911-11-09

OF long ago I wrote little ar
M ticle for this column in which I
expressed the opinion that love
and appreciation were the great and
only solvents for all the domestic mis-
cry about us.
L said that I thought that all that
was needed to streak the drab ana
drear matrimonial horizon with gold
and purple was just for husbands and
wives to have some sign made to them
that all their sacrifices and labor were
not in vain.
I said that I was convinced that the
dlsgrunLed and disillusiOned men that
we saw all about US would find JOY and
not WEAKNESS in their daily toll to
support their families If only their
wives and children would hurl a few
bouquets at father and husband while
he was still alive, instead Of waiting
to lay all of their flowers on his grave.
1t said that II was one thing to bend
every energy TO keep a wife soft and
warm, who told q man every day of his
life that he was the finest and most ad-
mirable husband on earth, and she
thought herself the lucktest woman
in the world to have got him, and it
was quite another pair of sleeves for @
man TO slave himself to death for
wife who took all of his work and WOr-
~ and sacrifices for granted, and with
never thank YOU, and who Wh1ned
and complained because he didn't make
clothes and the Jewels and the aut0mc-
biles that richer women had.
] said that / believed that most Of G9e
morbid, unhappy, dissatisfied wives that
we knew would find home making the
most interesting and thrilling OcCupa-
ton in the world instead Of the dreari-
est and dullest business eXtant, if only
their husbands had the human intelli-
gence to realize how disheartening Il
is to labor for boss who always bats
you when you make a mistake and new
er praises you. for triumph.
The Reason why.
7 said that women found marriage
failure because their husbands did not
think il worth while to pay them COM
pliments, or to tell them that they
loved them, or that they ever perceived
that their wives were bearing burdens
cheerfuly under which a hero might
have tainted and fallen
said that TT was one thing for a
woman to slave and work is hours
day, for her to wear shabby clothes,
and live in a cheap little home, for a
man who told her every day how it
hurt him that he could not give her
every pretty jewel he saw, and dress
her like a princess, and save her dear
hands from any labor, and il was anOth-
er thing to be Door and shabby. and
hardWOrl1ed for the sake of a man who
grunted and grumbled every time he
was asked for q penny, and who never
noticed that his wife was offering I'D
her youth and beauty as sacrifice be-
fore him.
In a word, my contention was that it
isn't the hardships Of married life that
men and women resent. 1t is the fact
that husbands and wives do not appre-
Ciate the sacrifices that are made for
them, and that it is only lOve-lOve
that expresses itself in words and deeds
that robs these sacrifices of their
bitterness and makes them worth
while.
1t is always pleasant to have our the
cries confirmed by actual experience,
and so I am going to quote a part of
letter that I have just received, bearing
upon this article TO which I have re-
ferred-
The letter is from a poor woman who
works in a muslin underwear factory,
where she runs Q power machine for so
long hours week for the wage OF SIS.
Married a Teamster.
She fell in love with a splendid young
fellow, a teamSter who gets SO a
week, and they got married Having
lot of common sense the girl did not
give up her place at the factory when
she married, but continued to work
and the two of them are boarding in
comfortable place, and saving every
cent possible Of their combined earn
ings to start q little home, as they did
not want to begin housekeeping over
Whelmed with debt to the instalment
husband has been able to give her moth
ing but love, and who still has TO slave
over her sewing machine. writes me
this:
we have been married over a year