The Washington herald., 1911-11-11
A MATTER OF EXPEDIENCY

indeed. Far otherwise. She expects to
occupy the pedestal herself, or, at the
worst, to stand on level with her hus-
band, and for them to strive equally to-
gether to make happy home.
She soon finds out, however, that In
marriage it is a condition and not
theory that Confronts her and that II
there is any adapting of the one to the
other to be done, she has to do il, and
If the home is to be happy she's got to
undertake the job
Otherwise, there will be discord and d.
vorce
Nobody will deny that is it hard and
unfair on women that the wife should
have TO do the propitiating and the pleas
ing, and that she should always have
to walk warily to keep off of her hus-
bands toes, while he feels at perfect
liberty to trample all over her little feel
ings with his number ten boots, and be
as gruff and impolite as he pleases.
1t would cheer a woman up Just as
much after long. hard, monotonous days
work cooking and sewing and baby tend
ing to have her husband come home with
bright and CHEEKY smile as II does him
to be met by a glad-eyed wife.
Only a man never considers that It is
up to him to be Little Sunshine unless
he happens to feel that way. Somebody
has got to do the optimistic stunt in a
household. or else It is so dreary that It
drives people to drink. Therefore, the
wife has to smile
1t would be just as soothing to a wo-
mans temper to have her husband al
ways rub her fur the right way, and to
conceal the things that annoy her from
her gaze, as II is to a mans temper for
his wife to sidetrack all of the subjects
that are like a red flag to a mad bull
to him. and to cover up all Of the fam
lily happenings that are sure to rile him
and get on his nerves.
Up TO the Wife.
Only a husband doesn't take the
trouble to be tactful and diplomatic
with his wife, and unless in house
somebody keeps the domestic machinery
fabricated you can hear its creakinR
and groaning for blocks around. The
bare facts in the case are that mas
much as a man won't get along with
his wife, she has to ga along with
him. Hence women hold down the per-
petual job of salve spreaders.
1t would be just as pleasant to a
woman for her husband to put on his
open-faced clothes of an evening and
devote himself to entertaining her and
talking about the fashions, and whether
hoops skirts are likely to come back
again or not, as IT is to a man for his
wife to marcelle her hair and put on
her prettiest frock and spend the even
ing trying to converse with him, on the
stock market or of the green grocery
trade, or whether the politicians are
really going otter the trust or are lust
trying to get bought up.
Only man isn't going to make the
exertion of dressing up just for his wife
or bore himself talking to her unless he
happens to feel like 1t, and somebody
in a house has got to tear of some
conversation to keep it from being like a
deaf and dumb asylum. In most homes
the husband sits up as silent as the
grave. Hence the wife's tongue has to
run like fiutter mill because she has
to talk for two.
No. "One Who Smiles, but Is Tired Of
Doing It, there is no reason why you
should smile any more than your hus-
band does. But you will find that N
you don't smile there'u be no smiles IN
your household. It isn't a question OF
duty for you to smile. It's all a matter
OF expediency. and in matrimony a wise
woman learns to take all Of the short
cuts to peace and happiness.