Norwich bulletin., 1911-06-03
THE MAN WHO TALKS

It is an accomplishment to know how to mind ones own business in this life; and we fear those who know how to do 1t are in the minority rath- CT than in the majority. We all know plenty of people who are annoyed if they are obliged to missd their own business. It is easy to get the habit of advising people who do not appre- ciate the wisdom one is anxious to inn. part; and it is easy also for one to overestimate the value of his concep- ton of things Real good people be- come bores because they n1isconceive the line of duty and venture to do things which are not agreeable to those addressed. There are so few who ever think of the opportune mo- ment,' or have the ability to recognize it. that endeavor is often most inop- perfume which means that it is out of order and quite likely unwelcome. Some people are so intent minding the business of others that they are real ly offended if they have to mind their own business. The only time in life to mind the other fellows business is when he thinks we are competent to do so and that he needs us,
 There is an old preverb which says "A dog that will fetch a bone will carry one;" or in other words, the gossip who will tell tales to you will carry them to others. This is why it is best when a friend comes to tell you mean thing some one has said about you that you should always think to speak charitably or kindly of the party reported to have made the cutting remarks. When we make fn- sinuative or abusive remarks because some one else has, we immediately
 fall to their level and meet their ex- pectations, for the o-between carries 8 bone which shows that we have been stung and are waspish. This is the point in life where the unexpected is the best thing to have delivered where a kind word may turn away wrath, and if it does not it makes the speaker of it appear superior. If mo- thing can be said in kindness, silence then is wisdom. We expect children to be resentful; but when we become men and women we are commanded to put away childish things. 1t be- come adults to say as good things as possible about everybody, and when | this cannot be honestly done if is more charitable and dignified to keep still. The individual ! have never been able to get used to is the person so strong in likes and dislikes that when | the name of a person disliked is men toned, some rude remark is made to show disgust a the very mention of the name If it was a virtue to be so sensitive to the vice sf another that one must at once become vipeTish, we should not mind such conduct: but since loving ones enemies is one of l the highest and best attachments ac- cordinE to Holy writ, there appears to be a f1endish spirit under the r-esentful- ness which is intended to injure an other on all occasions. Hate and all 1 the irritation which goes with it only | injures the hater, for the one hated 1 is not conscious of the disregard for h md ha | he was. Only the calm and self-con- 1 tained can become great or get all the | joy out of life there is in 1t for man. | It. is not mind -wracking thought that | disturbs an enemy. but well directed | action. The ability to utterly Ignore | such person is masterful.
 | l am of the opinion a wild doc | would be too much for an ordinary | dahlia patch, and that he would leave l would a china shop. One morning last week one of my neighbors heard q | noise outside and looking out saw a wild doe quietly browsing upon | grass in his backyard; and when dis | turbeG the doe leaped 8 f1ve-foot fence 1 and went into a neighboring grass lot l where he browsed for quite awhile. I Since wild deer have been seen in the | business streets of Hartford and otl1-
 CT Connecticut cities of recent years I it is not surprising to wake up early 1 in the morning and find them helping
 themselves to good fodder in the resi- dential parts of any city These 1 graceful animals are held in high es- | teen1 by both the hunters and the sem | tfmentalists; but the protection the | state has thrown around them has re- l suited in making them almost as tame | as domestic animals and it is not a | rare thing to meet them anywhere on country roads or to see them in the l pastures grazing quietly with the cat | tie A deer looks prettier in the fields i than in a choice flower garden, or in
 among the tender garden truck talk | ing a lunch.
 + 1t is out of the dark and supersti- | titious past that most of our queer mo- | tions come. It is not d. sane mind
 | which conceived and perpetuated the
 | idea that bright and beautiful day is | weather breeder; or that destiny is | fixed and censummated without regard
 | to the habits or purpose of the indi-
 | vidua1; or that siadness today fore | shadows sadness tomorrow: or that
 l Fate settles the affairs of men. not
 | God. It is strange that any one in this | age will take such things seriously :; | but many do because they are living
 | in the shadow of the past instead of
 i in the bright sunshine of the present. l The power of selection is mans; and
 l it is strange what he will take home 10
 | his heart when there are so many good
 | things to select from. Man too often
 l selects ideas which excite fear and | fear leads directly to despera ton. not | to peace of mind or to the adminis-
 | tration of justice. It is those who ap- | prehend trouble who worry most. Man | smiles, but he does not sing enough
 and too often his face is out of tune
 l with his heart.
 | The cut-Werns are numerous in the
 i dahtia patch, as they appear to be Tn
 | all gardens in the neighborheod. These 1 subterranean caterpillars are the
 | young of the grass moth of the tribe
 l of Asrostidae, and they have tarried
 l in the ground all winter and subsisted
 ! on the tender rootlets when the in
 tense cold did not make them lie
 | dormant On barren ground they are
 | found sleek and fat early in the
 1 spring and as soon aS anything is
 l planted they have a habit of gnaw-
 I ing off the stalk close to the ground
 in the night. They are children of the
 | night and have no fancy for the sun : | light which they enjoy 80 much in the
 1 mature winged form. They put the
 l farmers to finding means for prevent
 | ing their ravs ges. and they are at
 1 tracted to poisoned preferred green
 | food dropped in the field: er foiIed oy
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