The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1911-02-24
AN IDEAL HOME.

We hear great deal these times about
the ideal happy home, and men are not
scarce who expect all the requisites for a
| rappy home to come from one side of
| the house.
A woman may do her level best to
make life and home happy for her hus-
band and children, but if she is treated as
slave, and only given her board and
| clothing in payment for her services as
mother, wife, cook, laundress, nurse girl,
chambermaid, and seamstress, is it any
! wonder that little or no happiness exists
IN that home? If mother spoils her son
by pampering and waiting on him all the
years of his childhood and boyhood, and
making him think that a man should
always be waited on by woman of his
household, is it strange that he expects
wife to do the same, and that in all likli-
] hood, she either wears out III few years
| from such service or else becomes litter
or diSheartened. We are often told that
| in every true and ideal marriage both
| husband and wife must learn to bear and
| forbear. In every home where happi-
hess exists, there must be perfect trust,
confidence and love between husband
and wife. here are two kinds of sun
shine in the world, and both quite neces-
| sary--the one which is caused by the
suns shining out door, and the other by
| shining in our hearts. 1t is the loving
deeds, the CHEEKY hopeful words and the
| kindly thouehtfulness that each member
| of the family shows towards the others
that makes an ideal, happy home-a per-
feet heaven on earth
WHY DIVORCE IS SO COMMON TODAY.
This generation sees divorce more fire.
| quent, not because men and women are
more wicked, but because married life is
made more difficult by the excitement
and complexity and manifold strains OF
modern life, which render unhappy mar
riages more uncomfortable. A broad gap
opens between the hot present and the
dull quiet of other days, when the huS-
band passed his dav in a steady and con-
tinuous round of work, when no avenue
in life but marriage opened before most
women, and both men and women passed
lives from which excitement, worry and
the anxious rush of this day were absent.
Any candid man who will reconstruct the
life Of sixty and eighty years ago will be
convinced that, while that day had in il
much of secret wickedness-as court and
church less likely TO prevent two people
from leading quiet, uneventful and reas-
onably happy lives together.
Many now occupy back seats in the
world who may occupy the front seats III
the next.
If YOU are a twentieth century woman
you are incapable of being idle and un
ambitious. Unless you have a definite
aim in life you don't belong to this age
even if YOU were born some time during
the last hundred years. 1t is the fashion
to be earnest to have an active brain anC
a loving heart. To be in touch with the
times you must be connected with some
of the great reforms; 1t NAV be temper
ance or missionary work. You may have
a personal interest in one of the Stupen
dous charities of the day; it is possible
that womans suffrage is claiming you
attention. In any event you must b'
Interested in something besides fashlor
and other follies, for women are coming
to the front-nay, are already there
Their feet areno longer in slippery places
they are learning how to be generous anC
helpful to each other, for the leaders are
lending hand to their less fortunate
; sisters. They extend it TO all classes
: from the woman who putters with patel
/ work to the degraded devotee of Bacchus
/; x
r AS we meet and talk with the friend
we love, it will take no more time to te
them we appreciate them and that the
have helped us than to speak of man
things that will not be half SO welcome t
hear as these words.