The evening world., 1911-07-25

ou'sy WuTTbuycS.
Mrs. Thomas J. Vivian, president ana
founder Of the National Society Of the
Daughters OF California and one Of
New York's best known clubwomen. Is
responsible for these interesting asser-
lions. Yesterday I showed Mrs. Vivian
a recently published article on the age
limit in matrimony. The man OF nifty
Ia o OLD to marry the writer asserted.
with Oslerian decision. HE does great
injustice to his children and to the wo-
man whom he calls his wife. His re-
Taxed powers are unable to extend the
proper sympathy and encouragement to
youthful minds; he IL in%tolerant Of
change and novelty n incapable Of
tender solicitude.
GENERALLY MARRiEs A WOMAN
HALF HIS AGE.
HE generally marries a woman abou
one-half his age. whose interest in him
Is moro financial than otherwise. When
she he. reached her prime. At forty.
he 10 approaching senility.
He becomes an object Of patronage,
pity and perhaps neglect from the
family which he a founded"
WHIT unHntlkdteu nOlseIlses en-
claimed Mrs. Vivian. as h finished
the last paragraph of this doleful
prophecy. II am absolutely positive
that It was written by a very young
person. Nobody who really kne W any,
thing about life or human nature would
perpetrate such solecisms.
"Ths trouble with the American
marriage 10 not that Il 10 delayed
too long, but that It 10 rushsd n
too quickly.
Statistics tell us that one out Of
every twelve OF our marriages n d in
divorce. I believe that percentage
would be at least halved. II there were
a national law absolutely f%orbidding
marriage until both Of the contracting
parties have passed the age Of thirty.
people poke fun at the exactions and
p%eculiarities Of old bachelors n old
maids. There is only one person in the
world harder to get along with than
the girl OF twenty and that II the young
man OF twenty-five. Carlyle has an
exquisite passage in sartor Resartus.
describing this youths s~elfishness. anec-
tation and unutterable conceit. Tho
great author declares that the world
would be so much happier II the young
man could be hidden under a barrel.
with proper mental and physical susten-
ance, and left there to gain age and
wisdom. Certainly the world and his
wife would be infinitely happier II he
were surrounded by the barriers OF en-
forced ~celibacy."
But don't you think the older un-
married man Is apt to become set In his
ways. and therefore rather difficult as
a husband" l asked.
MAN MORE TOLERANT At SO
THAN EVER BEFORE.
That's another common mistake"
Mrs. Vivian replied earnestly.
1.-THE average man of nifty 10
more tolerant than ever before in
his life. He has knocked against
ths world so long that his angles
are all curves.
HE has seen so many ways or doing
things that he no longer insists his way
is the only way. The young man who
marries thinks. II he does mo- say 1t.
that he will mold his wife. The man
OF middle age only asks that she should
not try to mold him.
Il think that the marriage that
stands the greatest chance OF happiness
Is the one between the woman Of th!r-
ty-ive or thirty-eight and the Ia OF
fifty. Such a man usually possesses
economic independence. An important
factor in any happy marriage. Person
ally, / don't consider hat any one has
the moral or social right to marry un
less he is able to support a family.
Then at the ages | have mentioned
both people nave sense as we'll as senti-
ment. The IN knows something
about the handling of money. and has
ideas for the proper treatment OF chill
dren and for the management of the
household. She has developed men
tally. IL there Is any possibility of suct
development in her. The mans vislor
Of domestic comfort is not a rosy i'm
possibility. but the yearning OF a weary
traveller for a quiet inn. Each Is Will
ing to make compromises. to bear anc
forbear. and each, with the secret con
viction OF advancing years, feels that
life Is too short TO waste in dissensIor
and ~unhappiness."
And what about the children"
asked, This article says that the mar
of fifty Is "A failure as Il father"
HAS THE DISTILLED WISDOM or
YEARS.
"Why should he be?' counter quer!eC
Mrs. Vivian. He has gcntleness, self
control. tolerance. experience. all tn
distilled wisdom of the years thal