The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1911-12-12

whole, that each has mis- counterpart
somewhere. and that the two must
sometime meet and blend into a di-
vine unity? Poets ever have so
dreamed upon this subject Of eternal
marriage nothing dogmatic need be
said because there are no exact data.
Here and there a marriage of two
| persons ideally fitted to each other
/ does occur to give unique and beau
! tiful support to the inference that
poets with this clear vision may, after
| all, be Gods prophets. But for most
men and women marriage has its fric-
tions, and mutual adjustment is pain
full and we'll as pleasureable. Because
| 1t is hard it is rewarding, and in pro
portion to victory gained in learning
to pull together, the values contrib
uted to society are all the more inesti-
mable. The great social household,
humanity, is the macroCosm of home.
1t has its inter-racial frictions, its in
ternational incompatibilities of tenn
per, its unreasonable, boorish, brag-
CART, bullying, criminal, yea, some
times insane. drunken and diseased
members, yet all belong to the one
great human family, divorce in which
is impossible, and we are in process
of learning to live together. The in
dividual home wherein father, mother
and children each with antagonistic
personalities master this lesson of
living together is a sine qua non for
united humanity. Oneness in the
home is but the corollary Of onencss
between husband and wife. And this
growing unity of two very diverse
natures with enough in common to
lead them to marry, that is to make
true love possible, and with sufficient
divergent individuality to wrench
them violently apart unless religious
principle by irresistible appeal to the
will of each of them to love and live
together overcome the forces tending
to separate them, is so frequent a
phenomenon is modern life and so
beautiful a reality that it forever sig
nalizes marriage as the creator Of
one of mankinds most precious
goods. If you are honestly married
and find yourself Minated, don't di-
vorce if you can help It; that is so
often a towards trick Stick to it
and evolve a unity which will be all
the greater for the character of both
husband and wife and of mightier
moment to the welfare of society be-
cause of its appeal to the godlike in
YOU to come to the front. The posi-
bility of such communion of two d.
verse personalities makes marriage
unique. Ideal marriage is the most
difficult of all mutual human attain
ments and to that degree the sacred
est, for Misunderstanding the most
dynamic and for the development of
Gods kingdom on earth, which means
the evolution of the perfect world
state the fullest of promise.
This naturally leads to the fifth
function of marriage, namely the de-
velopment of personal character in
husband and wife which it fosters and
by which it fits them to render to
society the largest service. The
danger of the wrecked home and the
bliss of the ideal home are involved
in the response to the possibility OF
moral growth which marriage offers
man and woman If it were only for
it's contributions in this regard to the
veal of society, the institution would
have deserved all the fostering care
that the untold ages of history nave
lavished upon it. Tennyson's I'M
dying lines in The Princess breathe
the spirit of it all
Yet in the long years liker must they
grow:
The man be more of woman, she of
man:
He gain in sweetness and in moral
height
Nor lose the wrestling thews that
throw the world;
She mental breadth, nor fail in child
ward care,
Nor lose the childlike in the laI ger
mind;
rill at the last she set herself to man
Like perfect music unto noble words:
And so these Twain, upon the skirts
of Time,
Sit side by side, full summed in all
their powers,
Dispensing harvest sowing the lobe,
Self-reverent each and reverencing
each,
Distinct in Municipalities,
But like each other even as those who
love.
Just here some of you say But you
have not SDOken a word about haDDi-