The Durham recorder. [volume] (Durham, N.C.) 1879-19??, 1911-10-27

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She is, or should be. your equal.
Treat her as such, with respect, with
frankness. Tell her the truth that
one equal tells another" Man lie
through fear or through contempt.
The sort OF man who considers it
humorous TO lie to woman is stunt
ed spiritually. And the barroom
pastime Of comparing notes" about
their wives. in which certain type
of man INDUCES, is worse than a
crime--a bideous vulgarity.
"Forbear criticism, which is al
mosi always irritating and is genertl-
ly useless is the second injunction
lin the new hints to husbands
Serious vices sometimes cause
less trouble in hosehold that is
wrought by the habitual fault find
ling OF cantankerous man"
| 1t is doubtful if this rule could be
Improved upon. The line which
divides criticism from nagging is
very finely drawn, and there are few
men or women who don't cross IL
when they undertake the role OF
domestic reformer.
"Do what you. are asked to do.
Do II at once. without debating, even
il the thing in question may seem
unreasonable to you.
This Is going a little too far. A
certain docility in husbands may
make life easier. but even confirm
ed termagant must despise such a
fetch-aRd,carry specimen of man!
Besides she might tell him to blow
ont the gas. or to light the stove
with kerosene. Even husbands
must be allowed the free use of their
reasoning faculties and Of the in
stinct 81 self-preseryation.
Avoid argument II it chances
TO, be one OF your ifavorite forms Of
amusement, indulge 1t outside rather
shan at home"
So runs another maxim for the
married mana futile and mislead-
ing maxim, since no woman will ever
believe that a man refuses TO argue
with her for any other reason than
because her argument are unanswer-
liable. And IL would hardly pay TO
have your wife think you a clod.
"A mans wife should be the best
fellow IN the world 10 him." says the
husbands mentor. So she should,
but il should be good fellowship
OF the mind and spirit OF beer
and cigarettes.
| Try TO remember anniversaries
eyen II you have 10 make a note OF
them on yoRr business pad. Remem-
Der that the little things In life
ieount most with women. for their
lives are made UP OF tribes, aftei
all.
50 they are. Some women havt
as many a. ten '-trifes." though
large families may be no longer th'
rule in this vicinity. And eacf
tribe IS paid for with so muci
youth. 10 much beauty. 20 mucl
agony. And each tribe" must b
taught day after day. year after yea
the b e's Of life. With the mos
stupid and maddening reiterstion
II vas remarked long ago that
men had the bearing OF such 'trifies
there would be but one 20 family
Also II may be hazarded that fe'
children would learn 10 talk II me
had 70 occupy their adult intelIlgen
ces with such premier phrases a
/, Dog, See the dog Dog won't bit
; baby. See the dog, Nice dog. Bah
pet the dog etc. etc.
Il However. Il may Be well 10 remen
Der anniversaries. provided one ca
!, 90 IL without making a note on
business pad The heart shout
BE- the orsy tablet for such a pul
pose.
Very similar IN texture Is the fns
ruie. fos married men. Don't Tor
gei 10 tell her you love her. Ever
n wants 10 hear those words fror
The lips OK her husband
II 50 she does. II they seem a spof
ianeons nfierance. but few woine
are 80 stupid as not % be able I
recognize canned sentiment when
= offered them.
Il seems 70 me the best rule IL
choosing a vile Is the one most me
follow let her choose you. Then
yoa disappOiut her il Is a. much b.
fagl, - yOprs After you have bee
chosen the main hing Is 10 keep NJ
I c0nrinfed thar she got a bargain
The best way 10 DO that IL TO fas
the facts ~ life ~ they seem 20 h
once III While. 10 realize that WIN
does No seem 10 her humorous. nc
lnfdeI.iy
III a NsN York Judge Aala q yery via
thing The other day when be obser'
Cd thar the trouble with New Yor
! marriages Is thai too many marie
4 men are Iex-baehglgrs instead /,
: husbands And too many Of them !
back after marriage 70 take q Dos
graduate course and win new q.
gYees Perhaps the best rule of 4
+ q en- bodied IL the magistrates -.
s gestion
ii ~ husband not merely an ei
bachelor New York Evening worl
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