El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1911-10-10

Sarded as manly men, and
both in comfoI tabIe-oue in affluent
circumstances have left their homes
with, or in search of, their affinities.
Both families belong to the edu-
Gated classes, and both women were
mothers.
In each case The husband has taken
the matter with seeming philosophy,
confessing the right Of the wife to
seek her happiness in her own way.
This attitude Cf the modern man in
such situations Is not as picturesque
as that o. the dueling and blood spill
ing cavalier OF CIden times. but it is
more sensible.
There is nothing gained when a
man or woman wanders from the fold
OF matrimOny into the pastures where
atInltes browse, in adding murder or
suicide to the tragedy.
Love once dead is not restored by
the gun, the sword or the poisonous
draft
Nothing is gained by killing the
1aithless wife or husband or the affin-
1ty cor ones self
View the Matter as We VIII, These
Things Are Terrible Tragedies.
Revenge Is frequently obtained by
allowing the people who break all laws
20 possess each other to live TO be
sorry they succeeded.
There have been innumerable cases
Of this kind in America
one man has just taken his fourth
affinity after putting away his wife
and three other affinities in his search
for the real soul mate. His wife, who
consented to the separation and di-
v0rce SO soon as she found she was 4
not desired by her husband as com /
paniun longer, lives quietly abroad, I
and is no doubt much better off with 2
her freedom and life than If she had I
IN
on CT the electric chair.
Yet view the matter as we viii, 1
these things are terrible tragedies.
81 hen a man and woman choose each i
other as life companions there is usu-
ally love in the heart OF one or both.
And there is an ideal of happiness I
formed in both minds.
The destruction of this ideal and \
the establishment Of the one who ]
loves, is ufe's greatest misfortune.
Perhaps no. one ever wrote more
powerfully and beautifully on this sub
ject than Dorothy Dix in description
given in a little story Of a wife weep
ing over the cssket Of a husband who /
had brought her life nothing but sor-
row
The wife's mother asked her why
she shed tears at the loss Of this
ta1thless and cruel man.
Why Did Not Each Yield a Point and
Cultivate Others fastest
She answered that she was weeping
for her early dream, for her lost ideal
for her happy trust, for her faith
which had died q slow death, for her
wrecked happiness and not for the
man who had died.
1t would seem since marriage is so
serious step, and the breaking Of
marriage bonds so serious move, that
educated and sensible men and women
might go about the repairing Of the
first fractured link with as much care
and skill and anxiety as they use in
mending a punctured tire Of motor
car or the supplying new batteries
in an electric light plant
The latest wife to seek happiness
with an affinity seems TO have no
complaint TO make Of her husband
other than that they did not care for
the same kind Of amusement
So she sought the society of youth,
whose tastes were similar.
And she forgot her husband, her
children and her vow to take the man
she married for better and for worse,
and has gone forth to find entertain
ment with her lover
When this husband and wife first
discovered their tastes divergings why
did not each yield point and culti-
vate the others ideals Of diversion
and amusement
II the wife had taken UP outdoor
sports sufficiently to give her hus-
band the feeling that she enjoyed his
society, If the husband had shown his
wife enough regard to accompany her
at times to the festivities dear to her
have been averted.
Marriage Should be Studied as
Science, ROT Treated as
an Episode.
When men and women set forth on
any business enterprise that necessi-
-ates sacrifice Of time, strength and
money 70 bring u 10 successful IS
sue they do not throw it aside at the
first obstacle
Why should they neglect the bust
ness Of marriage by not being willing
when they meet hinderances in the
path to happiness
Marriage is the most important
business of the world
1t should be studied as a science