Bismarck daily tribune. [volume] (Bismarck, Dakota [N.D.]) 1881-1916, 1910-09-11
THE MITTEN. CODE
Brief Rules For the Guidance Of
unfavored Suit0rs.
WHAT TO DO WHEN REJECTED

proachfuI Silence Gives the Lady .
Chance to Change hsr Mind.
Incredible as 1t may seem. proposals
of marriage are sometimes refused,
usually because the lady thinks she
knows better.
To comport ones self fittingly when
rejected Is no easy matter. The young
beginner Is advised to give some
thought to his uext move In the event
Of his proposal being declined. To
stand staring In reproachful silence
displays a lack Of savior faire and
incidentally gives the lady a chance to
change her mind.
The really nice young man when 70
jected inclines to gloom. The average
young man takes up an attitude Of
sprightliness. TO display relief when
rejected may not seem In the best
taste. but II girl has refused you
that ia sufficient evidence that she has
no taste at all.
Let US consider the method Of tho
really nice young man. He hints at a
broken heart-a picturesque but i'm.
probable happening. He asks II there
ia no hope. Always he speaks In low
tone" There Is the authority Of the
best fiction for this. Apparently he
never shouts his query from the door.
steps Us he Is departing. He men,
tons suicide In a noncommital way
and eventually takes his leave with
one last fond. lingering look at her,"
One can only hope he does not spoil
the dramatic value Of his exit by trip.
ping over the doormat.
So much for the really nice young
man. The average young man has
variety Of methods for keeping bis end
up In the event of being rejected He
imparts an air of levity to the proceed
ings which must be distinctly irritating
when one Is expecting time honored
references to fractured hearts and
blighled hopes.
Copying the average young man, you
may therefore when rejected laugh
heartily and then remark:
well. but. joking apart. isn't the
weather beautiful?"
There is something about this formu-
la which prevents the waste of any
emotion except annoyance.
Another gambit In taking refusals Ia
to smile with satisfaction and say the
simple words:
Il win!"
While the damsel is puzzling out
what the words may mean you can ef-
feet your escape.
In the event of an emphatic refusal
you can always ask smilingly:
''How did you guess was jollying"
An effective way to prevent lady
promising to be a sister to you Is to
get there first by promising to be son
to her. and you eau follow 1t up by
saying:
"Oh, well. l must be getting along.
I've got another call to make"
There Is a subtlety about this remark
which enables you to take your leave
quite easily.
Always try. however. to be ready to
say something ut once. II after her
mo" you think you have been silent
overIong, assume puzzled look and
say:
LET me see-what were we talking
about?"
Should the girl give reasons for re-
f,sinp Won remark.
Yes, that's just what Jane Jones
said last month when proposed to
her."
1t may happen that the lady answers
your proposal thus:
mo. Harold. can never be yours.
l am atfianced to another"
The best thing to do to avoid ex.
posture OF your disappointment Is to ex-
claim:
Yes. 1 knew that when asked
you
Another formula when rejected lies
in taking list of names from your
pocket. consulting 1t and remarking:
you're Miss Susan Smith. aren't
you?"
Then you put a tick against the
name. sigh relievedly and take your
leave.
Ii you have come primed to say
THANK you. Harriet; you have made
me the happiest man in all the world"
in answer to her acceptance there is
no reason why you shouldn't say 1t in
reply to Der refusal.
In the event of receiving refusal
by letter pretend that you did not get
1t. This has disquieting effect. Or
II you want to get even wait till she
questions you about it and then say
with every symptom of glad relief:
"Oh. that letter was from you. was
It? couldn't quite make out the sig
nature. and thought it was from
some one else on similar matter"
A sportive remark Is permissible
sometimes when one IL refused With
lofty contempt:
THAT'S all right. old girl. Truth ia
] only asked you because was feeling
q Dir sorry for you
The main DOint IL to be ready W1tteo