The citizen. (Honesdale, Pa.) 1908-1914, 1910-04-13

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Formal calls in the city during the
season are paid between and $40
o'clock in the afternoon. The day at
home 10 . purely social occasion, and
calls OF congratulation, OF apprssia-
ton for some hospitality. or merely
for the pleasure OF friendly inter
course are paid then II possible. n
r. always more conslderate and com
plimentary, says Vogue to observe
q friends day at home, IL she has ss-
sued cards appointing one, than to pay
her chance csBG on other days.
Brides and strangers newly arrived
In neighborhood never make but al
ways wait to receive first calls. Wom-
en- who have been invited to visit. or
during the summer season have been
entertained in a friends house in the
country, must be among the first, di-
rectly their hostess returns to town,
to call upon her.
When there exists no previous in
debtedness on either side and after a
summers holiday two women arrive
In their homes on very nearly the
same date the younger calls upon the
elder first.
Where the difference in their ages
is very slight the woman who returns
to town nrst makes the initial call, or
the unmarried one calls first on the
married woman.
Should a member OF society be in
arrears for hospitality or an invitation
received by those who issue their at
home first. the routine Of calling be-
gins without strict reference to courte-
sizes extended or received in the fore
going winter.
1t is not only q eivility but a social
necessity when one has served as a
bridesmaid, maid OF honor, usher or
best man to call upon the brides
mother shortly after the wedding. and
upon the bride directly after she re-
turns from her honeymoon. The guests
at home wedding wedding reception
or breakfast must call in due course
on the mother of the bride. and later
on the bride.
1t is an obligation to call on ones
hostess after dinner, dance, mus
icale or a luncheon. For men as well
as women the dinner call is OF para
mount Importance. 1t is paid within
fortnight after the dinner.
First calls in the season should be
returned very promptly-on the next
reception day of the person who has
made the call. il she has a reception
day and If she has none, then at any
propitious time within a week or fort
night. After this polite exchange of
civilities longer period between Wis
it's may be allowed to lapse. Calls Of
coincidence and congratulation should
be made as soon as possible.
The majority OF calls between wom-
en- are exchanged on their appointed
days at home, and then the cards are
left by the caller on the tray in the
hall as she passes through on her way
to the drawing room, She puts into
the tray one OF her own and two of
her husbands, II her hostess is mar
ried. II her hostess unmarried daugh-
ters receive with their mother, the
caller would leave one of her cards
when going out
A young lady paying a chance call
on a mother and daughters, or host
ess and friend and being told the
ladies are out leaves two cards. A
call paid to lady visiting in a house,
whether the lady OF the house is a
friend or stranger to the caller, re-
quires two cards-one for the guest
and one for her hostess, and this is
still the rule whether the caller is a
man or woman.
young man when calling for the
first time on an unmarried woman
asks for her mother, or chaperon, as
well. and il they are not at home, he
should leave two cards. Subsequently
he need leave but one card.
There was time when a man sent
up his card when calling, but this has
gone out now for infomal calls. He
sends his name by the servant. leav-
ing a card only il she on whom he is
calling is not at home. On reception
days he leaves cards on the tray.
We are in a transitional stage In
large cities as regards the European
custom of leaving cards at the door
by the footman without asking to see
the ladies of the house. This is an
entirely correct proceeding in a large
society, where the demands on ones
time are great, and in any metropolis
it is sign of provincialism 10 take
offense at the practice. 1t has been
done for years in London, and is quite
the custom in New York and Wash.
ington.