Albuquerque morning journal. [volume] (Albuquerque, N.M.) 1903-1926, 1910-11-13

If the oiild is father TO the man
or mother to the woman-then his
place In the home must be Il very inn
p%ortant me, The home stands in the
same relation TO him as the s%eulptor's
shop to the piece of rough marble.
There are great possibilities in the
marble and also great possibilities In
the child. He mas "a character to
build. We often wonder why II isn't
natural for q child 10 be truthful,
honest, pure, clean and Wen manner
ed instead Of very unnatural, thereby
demanding a great amount Of train
ing and teaching. But after all, what
is life Tor any OF us, but character
building2 It begins at the cradle and
ends at the grave, ana we often find
the last disciplinlng as hard as the
first. Some think the first thing q
do In training a child is 10 break his
will. a sculptor would DO no more
foolish thing were he TO strike his
piece Of marble, breaking il into frag-
ments. The child was born with a
will, he has a right to II and he needs
II. The viii should be directed, not
broken. We wan the child to be
plastic and yielding, but why expect
him to have no ideas or tastes al his
own. He has his own individuality
Snd we want him to keep II. The
parents aim should be not to make
his child an exact copy OF himself,
lut to help him make the most and
best OF himself with his own indi-
vidual temperament, disposition a11
VIII power. he wiscst and kind -.
way g. control a. chiid who has ~
rived at the age Of reasoning m
What for himself. is to show him that
all is done for his own interest, that
Il concerns him inueh more than the
parent whether ne is sick or Wen, edu
Gated or ignorant, atfable or gruff,
law-abtding or disobedient. The
thought that parents are thinking.
working and often sacrificing for him
yes, ever Furnishing for his sake, soft
ems the obstinate spirit and moliifies
the rchCllioua feeling that he is being
bossed and m%istrcated simply TO al
his parents their own way. "Why
did your father lick YOU, Johnny? '
said a playmate, "Oh, just because he
is biggcr'n ] am answered Johnny,
being the only reason he could
understand II is natural for a child
To be careless n needless lie means
no harm BY il. IL IS not best for him
la be 100 thoughtful; anxiety and
WORRY would follow and such feelings
are detrimental TO physical develop
neDt- We want happy. joyous chilli
irne. careless of the great porpleNtios
81 lifc.
10 Doe sure the fault of hsodioss
ness leaves devastation In its tracks
IN the wa Of torn garments, married ,
furniture. broken china. tramplcd
Tower beds, and numerous other ]
offences. there must De- some disci- i
pine IN the matter. but let us not {
too much stress on these minor 1
.ransErcssions. if We DO. how shall }
meet the greater nav such rs iy I
ng, deceit, disobcdleucc ana dis [
aspect TO parents. and those iu au /
hority. Tie wise hunter does not I
waste buckshot on sparrows and We
save % big ammunition Tor
'iR sins and thea bring patience ana q
'harity into the conflict aud very lit )
lo big stick" Parents often long {
or expressions OF gratitude and ap- a
recitation from their children, but
time viii come when the boy q
rown 10 manhood viii look back into L
wears gone hy and viii feel CRATE 8
10 the dea mother who was pa 81
euf with his r%udencss and temper. Z
leading him into reutleg moods. L
for the sympathy which
omfogtcd when he was fl or hurt u
r disappointed, grateful TO the y
lther who helped him Owe hard
laccs and cheercd him Co greater ef- "a
1rt when hope was nearly gone. n
Wc often say of children and their e.
"oh. they soon forget Not "
and the retrospect OF every child o
dds either sadness cor happiness 20 a
Is mature years. casting its shadow "
f remembered injury or neglect. or Ia
'addcEiug life by the remembrance d.
Z a happy childhood. To "a a rr
Ria and have its love and respect d,
hen Il g. grown. is what every good
desires. Love Is not 10 be
,mmandcd or demanded. 10 must
inspired. Children do not love r.
simply because they are such. ~