Audubon Republican. [volume] (Audubon, Iowa) 1894-1925, 1910-12-29
THE M|TTEN CODE
Brief Rules For the Guidance of
Unfavored Suitors.
WHAT TO DO WHEN REJECTED
Always Try to Parry the Blow With q
Ready Reply, Because Staring In Re-.
proaehfuI Silence Gives the Lady q
Chance to Change Her Mind.

ft0aSUt0i SucUSC Wives tH0 Lazy u
Chance to Change Her Mind.
Incredible as it may seem. proposals
OF marriage are sometimes refused.
usually because the lady thinks she
knows better.
To comport ones self fittingly when
rejected is no easy matter The young
beginner is advised to give some
thought to his next move in the event
of his proposal being declined. To
stand staring in reproachful silence
displays a lack of savior faire and
incidentally gives the lady a chance to
change her mind.
The really nice young man when re-
jected inclines to gloom The average
young man takes up an attitude Of
sprightliness. To display relief when
rejected may not seem In the best
taste. but If girl has refused you
that is sufficient evidence that she has
no taste at all.
Let us consider the method of the
really nice young man. He hints at q
broken heart-a picturesque but i'm
probable happening. He asks if there
Is no hope. Always he speaks In ''low
tone" There is the authority of the
best fiction for this. Apparently he
never shouts his query from the door
steps as he is departing. He men,
tons suicide in a noncommital way
and eventually takes his leave with
one last fond. lingering look at her."
One can only hope he does not spoil
the dramatic value of his exit by trip
ping over the doormat.
So much for the really nice young
man. The average young man has a
variety of methods for keeping his end
up in the event Of being rejected. He
imparts an air Of levity to the proceed
lngs which must be distinctly irritating
when one is expecting time honored
references to fractured hearts and
blighted hopes.
Copying the average young man. you
may therefore when rejected laugh
heartily and then remark:
well. but, joking apart, isn't the
weather beautifully"
There is something about this formu-
la which prevents the waste Of any
emotion except annoyance.
Another gambit in taking refusals Is
to smile with satisfaction and say the
simple words:
II winT
While the damsel is puzzling out
what the words may mean you can ef-
feet your escape.
In the event of an emphatic refusal
you can always ask smilingly:
How did you guess was jollyingT
An effective way to prevent lady
promising to be a sister to you Is to
get there first by promising to be son
to her. and you can follow it up by
saying:
,"Oh, well. must be getting along.
I've got another call to make"
There is subtlety about this remark
which enables you to take your leave
quite easily.
Always try. however. to be ready to
say something at once. II after her
mo" you think you have been silent
overlong, assume puzzled look and
say:
LET me see-what were we talking
about%
Should the girl give reasons for re-
fusing you remark:
"Yes. that's just what Jane Jones
said last month when proposed to
her."
1t may happen that the lady answers
your proposal thus:
mo. Harold. can never be yours.
I am affianced to another"
The best thing to do to avoid ex-
posture Of your disappointment is to ex-
claim:
"Yes, I knew that when l asked
you
Another formula when rejected lies
In taking a list of names from your
pocket. consulting 1t and remarking:
you're Miss Susan Smith. aren't
your
Then you put a tick against the
name, sigh relievedly and take your
leave.
II you have come primed to say
"Thank you. Harriet; you have made
me the happiest man In all the world"
in answer to her acceptance there Is
no reason why you shouldn't say it in
reply to her refusal.
In the event of receiving a refusal
by letter pretend that you did not get
It. This has disquieting effect. Or
II you want to get even wait till she
questions you about 1t and then say
with every symptom of glad relief:
"Oh. that letter was from you. was
TIT couldn't quite make out the sig
nature, and ] thought II was from
some one else on a similar matter"
A sportive remark is permissible
sometimes when one is refused with
lofty contempt:
THAT'S all right. old girl. Truth Is
only asked you because ! was feeling
a bit sorry for you"
The main point is to be ready witted
enough to keep your hat and stick In
your hand. Do not leave the house
whistling. though. II prevents you
from exhibiting an amused smile when
she peeps at you from behind the
front room curtains.
With luck and practice you will be
able to take a refusal of marriage
quite well. Don't propose merely for
practice. however. Your luck may not
hold out-London Opinion.