The evening world., 1910-12-14

"6ot NUcW GdSU StVcT.
80 very much OF married unhappiness
Is simply the result of misundcrstand-
Ing. And when people fail to under
stand each other It's simply because
they don know each other To know
all is to forgive all-oi. maybe, to
realize hat there isn't any necessity
for forgiveness"
But how can a man and woman live
In the same house together without
knowing each other-at least. when the
house Is the size OF an ordinary New
York a~partment?'
why. they do know each other in
a certain way" she explained. III you
walk past the Singer Building every
morning for a month or a year. you
have a certain amount Of knowledge OF
1t. But you could hardly draw a map
of the inside OF 1t.
"a man knows what's on his
wifs's head much oftsnsr than he
knows what's inside 1t. A woman
knows the size OF her husband's
shirts; she frequently dossnT know
the warmth Of the heart beating
under them.
18th. only way really to know q person
Is to be with him. Moods and lenses
'tbmes'-go together in life just as they
do In grammar. Every instant two
people are together some new phase OF
each is revealed to the other"
And you think 1t wise for married
people to reveal themselves completely.
each to eacn?" N,ueried.
Why else are they married." re-
turned Mrs. Mulliner. do you know
what marriage is? Simply the most
beautiful. most sacred chumship in all
the world"
i've heard II compared to a perfectly
cooked dinner repeated every day I
suggested. And don't you think one
appreciates such dinners, all the better
for an occasional day of. to sup on spa
ghetti round the corner"
But Mrs. Mulliner wouldn't admit 1t,
and chose a nice feminine metaphor to
confute me.
The women who can afford to wor-
imported gowns all the time" she re-
piled. would find no pleasure in Ion
ming a r~eady-made costume. even for
a single hour. With perfection one
stops.
Shouldn't Want Holiday.
Either married people care very much
for each other, in which case neither
would want to take a holiday from the
mutual compan!onship, or they fancy
they do not love, ana then they have
only the one thing to do. to stay to-
gether every available mi IN a de.
termined effort to discover the lovable
qualities that exist In everybody
But don't you believe eve the most
loving couple might bore each otEer
occasionally"
THE feeling OF. boredom between or.
binary chums, such as one makes in
college, Is reduced to a minimum. Be.
tween husband and wife 1t Is non-exis-
tent-or should be-" ever this optimistic
woman had the wisdom to add.
Besides" she continued. the natural
course of modern life Keeps married peo-
Pile apart SO much. Once upon a time
The husband worked In the garden and
the wife hardly ten steps away in the
kitchen. Now the husband goes ten
miles or so to his city office and the
wife remains at home or perhaps goes
to an Office In the opposite direction.
For far more than half of their waking
hours the two are necessarily separated.
1t seems to me that they ought to be
able to endure each others presence
the rest of the time"
But" ! stu ventured. cant You
imagine either having some individual
taste In which the other did not share
and
Each viii share the others tastes IL
they are worthy ones she retorted in
flexlbly, A | said. It's merely
a matter of mutual unders,' ding.
Love-. love me. love my fondness
for photography or my Partially
to bridge whist. One of the de-
lights OF marriage 10 that It doubles
ones interests. No sensible young maj
or woman permits his faculty of enjoy
ment to become static. And, surely the
more one loves a person the more In
t~crcsted one becomes in everything that
person fnds worth while. No one can
possibly he SO appreciatlve Of a hus-
bands pursuits as his wife. because no
one loves him 80 much, n vice versa.
I'm fact" Mrs. Mulliner concluded,
with a confident little laugh. the really
great objection to this plan OF holidays
for husbands. and conversely. | sup
pose. for wives, Is simply that neither
one would take them. For. after all,
the great majority OF American mar
riages are happy. which Is only another
way OF saying that the great majority
of husbands and wives take THAR days