El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-11-25

rant The more they yield, the more
intolerant and domineering she will
become. 1t is absolutely useless, also,
to argue with her. She is not amend
able to reason. The only thing to do
is to take a quiet, determined stand
and maintain it; and if she continues
TO nag and scold and irritate, to get
away from her influence for there is
no tie Of blood or duty which gives
one person the right to ruin the nap
Diness of another
And yet everywhere, all about us,
beautiful homes are TO be found which
are mere pauper houses. so far as hap
pinesS is concerned because of some
one member of the family who is
petty tyrant; nagger. and a peaca
destroyer
Sometimes it is the husband and
father, but no man. unless il be an
invalid, has the power TO. make or mar
the home as every wife and mother
has.
1t is the presiding mentality-the
person who is constantly in the house
who makes its spiritual atmosphere.
Thoughts are like doors. and they fill
the space We occupy with their emana-
tons
woman has the opportunity to so
dominate a home with her sweet, rest
full, kind, cheerful thoughts that she
crochety man during the few hours he
is in the house
One Of the most peaceful houses I
ever entered was made so by the sun
ny hearted wife of a cross grained
husband. The mothers view of life
was reflected by the children. and in
spite of an unamiable host, guests
found the house full of rest and
cheer.
Where the wife and mother possesses
the respondent or tyrannica1 nature.
however. there is small chance for a
husband or children to make the home
anything but a place to sleep. Only
when one is locked in the arms Of Nor
pheus is peace to be found under the
roof Of such q woman
Usually Models, Too.
And yet these women are almost al
ways devoted church gOers and usual
ly regarded by their neighbors as de-
voted wives and mothers who are sac
rificing their best interests for the
sake OF an unappreciative family.
1t is only those who dwell under the
roof with them, day after day. who
realize the enorm:1y of their crimes.
for It is one of the worst crimes Of
the calendar to destroy the happiness
of a home.
There is nothing in life for any man
discordant home Wealth. honor and
fame are OF no use to one who goes
back to his own roof with dread.
The petty minded woman tyrant in
variably saves all her worries and
cares and bodily aches to talk about
upon the return of husband and chill
dren. in order that they may appre-
ciate how much she suffers for their
sakes in her effort to keep the home
together
She does not realize that a little
dust and disorder in the home corld
be borne better than so much mental
disorder. as her conversation fndf-
Gates Not that either is necessary
there is no earthly reason why a wo-
man cannot perform all the duties
which love prompts and life requires
and retain a cheerful and agreeable
department at the same time.
But, If one of the two must be neg
lected, let it always be the physical
duty. Somebody else can be found
who will do that for you. no one else
can be agreeable and cheerful for you.
And remember this: You are not
good wife or a good mother or a good
Christian, though, If you work vour
hands to the bone for your husband
ard children and deny yourself COM
forts for their sake. If you are COM
planning. scolding and making scenes
over the daily annOyances which occur
in every household.
Unless You are amiable. cheerful op-
timistic and agreeable in your family.
You are bad wife, a bad mother and
a bad citizen
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