The Washington times., 1910-11-11
TOO MUCH FANCY
IN MARRIAGE LOT
Young People Should Be
Slow TO Choose a
Helpmeet.
By DOROTHY DIX
Confined from Yesterday

(COnunued from Yesterday
THE trouble IS that we have thrown
glamour about matrImony that
makes young people who have
never tried il think OF the holy
estate as one IN which people are lifted
abOye the ordinary needs Of life. and
when they find that this isn't true, and
that after marriage they are just as
hungry. and just ~ much interested IN
pleasures and amusements as they we're
before. why, Il IS apt 70 give those VINO
have rushed in unDrs -ared a jolt from
which they never recover.
II marriage were always painted as a
stern realty, a cold, hard business
proposition. requiring both capital and
should have fewer weddings. but they
would be happier ones
Another great aid 20 matrimonial fe-
licitv would be for men and women 20
Jry to marry real men and women in
stead OF the sketches their fancies have
painted
tt Is the custom for the disiIiusioned
nan, when he finds out that the Mary
Jane he has Eot is no more Hka the
Mary Jane he thought he led TO the
altar than q chrome is like an ivory
miniature, 10 beat on hts breast and cry
out. I have been duped. taken in. sold
out, gOld-brickedr'
L he has, It = a case Of self-hypnosis.
Poor Mary Jane never consciously. posed
as an angel without wings She never
pretended TO be an ethereal creature who
could live on dew, and whose thoughts
were so set on the higher Lhings that
she failed 10 perceive The imported hats
and handmade shirt waists in the shop
window.
The fault with the man was in not
rubbing the mists OF sentiment cut OF
hrs eyes. and taking a good long sQuiut
At Mary Jane and perceiving that she
was q very human woman, with q good,
healthy appetite. a quick temper. and a
ready tongue, with the usual feminine
weaknesses and Inconsistencies, and
subj Eect TO the usual feminine desire for
clothes. But withal, with a great, big.
loving heart dnc q loyalty and help
fulness that more than cOUnCerbalanced
her fOiblss-
Women make the same unis+ak4. and
make iI more gorgeCusly than men, be
cause woman has an especial talent
for idealiZinE- No woman ever sees
the man she marries as he is before
she Inarrles him. She won't look at
possible little tin god she has creareF
out OF her tancies- Then when the
tine comes that she discovers that her
cooling has not only feet OF clav but
less OF mud, she throws ITS all the way
20 Reno.
How many tears and how much all
nOny could be saved II. on the sal Ga side
OF tne al-zr, woman would come down
10 brass tack5 and Just realize that the
pam honest. Industrious. hard-hea. led
business man she Vas uar-vfur- v--s
never going 70 be romantic or use h n
Ialutin language, and didn't hav, 4
tnr1ll about his person yet he wac WI
Ing 70 work his fingers 70 the bones 10
make her comfortable, and would think
tnat she was the most beautiful human
being that ever lived 70 his diving 6av
Ha1 OF the matrimonial r1fServ IN
the world Is the disastrous result ~
people being guided by their magma
tons instead Of their heads. It's ha-7
enough, heaven knows. TO live up to the
best that IS in US, but Il IS fmDoSsfbIe
70 I've Up 70 the Ideal that another has
created FOR Us