Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1910-02-09
Successful Workers Ignore
Others Faults and Adjust
Themselves to Conditions.

but one easily imposed upon. Fright
fully s~elf-conscious, she scarcely dared
raise her eyes from her work. She
made dreadful mistakes-mistakes that
caused the heads of the office to rage.
Everybody prophesied failure, and the
small girls career would, probably,
have ended disastrously II a kind
hearted older woman clerk had not Of
fered advice.
Force yourself every day she said.
ito do some unpleasant thing. You
must onque your shyness il you are
to be a success. Try to follow up the
morning greeting of the members of
the firm with some pleasant remark
You will find them responding in kind,
or, If they do not, try again. Persist
and persist until you can speak to
them naturally of the ~little1things that
you do not understand.
"Force yourself also to ask the ques-
tions thai make for accuracy. but don't
take this to mean that you arc to stop
TO find out about an address that
should be in your notebook, or how to
spell a word that can be hunted up in
the dictionary. There are, however.
technical words and phrases, and for
eign ones, that no clerk of ordinary
education and training can be expected
to know, and II is better TO admit your
ignorance at once, than be forced to
have a correction later
The girl is now making her way with
quiet womanliness, which is not marred
either by self-consciousness or by lack
of firmness.
SO many girls, however, mistake an
tagonism for frmness, that / am half
afraid to use the latter word for fear
l shall have Some one writing to me
of %insultr, injustices, heart-burnings
and asking a remedy for the faults of
others.
The successful girl, however, does
! not look to the faults of others. She
i studies herself, and how to adjust her
self to conditions. After a time you
will find hat your attitude will be re-
hected il those about you, | do not
believe that anyone car be persistent
" friendly without gaining friends. /
believe. absolutely, hat dignity and
sweetness and strength win respect.
And l believe that any girl will sue
ceed who unites self-control with pa
thence.
As I said before, the timid girl must
conquer her timidity, she must learn to
beard the lion of an employer in his
den and not mind his growing, not to
stand trembling on the threshold as
IL he were going to devour her.
But the antagonistic girl has an
equally hard task in controlling her de-
sire to work immediate reforms, to
| change things to suit her taste without
consulting the desires of others, to curb
| her inclination to critieise.
Men, as a rule, do not wish reforms
in their office methods. Or, rather, they
are not likely to see at once the adj
visibility of change. They object, too,
to dictation and oppose it with all the
force of their strong natures.
Adaptability is a very valuable trait.
Many ole lawyers prefer to dig among
their dusty. musty papers. They OBJ
ject to new systems. they stick to old
manners and methods. You can't teach
such old dogs new tricks, and 1t ism t
worth while to try.
To hold your own with such a man
you must constitute yourself a restful
personality. You must fall in with his
leisurely habits of mind. When he
pauses in his dictation 20 must not
hurry him-he is a gentleman Of the
old school, and will have nothing of
modern rush and worry.