The Grangeville globe. [volume] (Grangeville, Idaho) 1907-1922, 1910-09-15
The M|TTEN CODE
Brief Rules For the Guidance of
Untavored SuitorS.
WHAT TO DO WHEN REJECTED

proaehful Silence Gives the Lady a
Chance to Change Her Mind.
Incredible as 1t may seem. proposals
of marriage are sometimes refused
usually because the lady thinks she
knows better
To comport ones self tittlngly when
rejected is no easy matter The young
beginner is advised to give some
thought to his next move In the event
of his proposal being declined To
stand staring in reproachful silence
displays a lack of savior faire and
incidentally gives the lady a chance to
change her mind
The really. nice young man when re-
jecied inclines 10 gloom. The average
young man takes up an attitude of
sprightliness. To display relief when
rejected may not seem In the best
taste, but II girl has refused you
that is sufficient evidence that she has
no taste AT all
Let us consider the method of the
really nice Young man He hints nj a
broken heart-a picturesque but i'm
probable happening. He asks If there
Is no hope Always he speaks in "low
tone There is the authority of the
best fiction for this. Apparently he
never shouts his query from the door
steps as he is departing He men.
tons suicide IN uoncommital way
and eventually takes his leave with
one last fond lingering look at her"
One can only hope he does not spoil
the dramatic value of his exit by trip
ping over the doormat
So much for the really nice young
man. The average young man has
variety of methods for keeping his end
up in the event of being rejected He
imparts an air of levity to the proceed
ings which must be distinctly irritarlng
when one Is expecting time honored
references. TO fractured hearts and
blighted hopes.
Copying the average young man. you
may therefore when rejected laugh
heartily and then remark:
well. but. joking apart isn't the
There is something about this formu-
la which prevents the waste of any
emotion except annoyance
Another gambit in taking refusals is
to smile with satisfaction and say the
simple words:
Il win"
While the damseI is puzzlng out
what the words may mean you can ef-
feet your escape
In the event of an emphatic refusal
you can always ask smilingly:
How did you guess was jollying"'
An effective way to prevent lady
promising to be sister TO you is to
get there first by promising to be a son
to her. and you can follow it up by
saying:
''Oh. well. | must be getting along
I've got another call to make"
There is a subtlety about this remark
which enables you to take your leave
quite easily.
Always try, however. to be ready to
say something at once II after her
mo" you think you have been silent
overlong. assume a puzzled look and
say
Let me see-what were we talking
about?"
Should the girl give reasons for re-
fusing you remark
Yes. that's just what Jane Jones
said last month when l proposed to
her."
1t may happen that the lady answers
your proposal thus:
mo. Harold. can never be yours.
! am atfianced to another"
The best thing to do to avoid ex-
posture of your disappointment is to ex-
claim:
Yes. l knew that when asked
you"
Another formula when rejected lies
in taking a list of names from your
pocket, consulting 1t and remarking:
You're Miss Susan Smith. aren't
your
Then you put a tick against the
name. sigh reievedly and take your
leave.
II YOU uuNe COME prlmeu TO say
THANK you. Harriet; you have made
me the happiest man In all the world"
in answer to her acceptance there is
no reason why you shouldn't say 1t In
reply to her refusal
In the event of receiving a refusal
by letter pretend that you did not get
1t. This has a disquieting effect Or
II you want to get even wait till she
questions you about 1t and then say
with every symptom of glad relief
oh. that letter was from you. was
II? ! couldn't quite make out the sig
nature, and ! thought it was from
some one else on a similar matter"
A sportive remark Is permissible
sometimes when one is refused with
lofty contempt:
'"That's all right. old girl. Truth is
| only asked you because | was feeling
n biz sorry for you"
The main point is TO be ready witfed
enough 10 keep your hat and stick in
your hand Do not leave the house
whistling. though Ii prevents you