The Fargo forum and daily republican. [volume] (Fargo, N.D.) 1894-1957, 1910-07-21

ing friends with the whole merry crew,
There was, however, a ruefuI tone to
her remarks which conveyed a sense
of being imposed upon by her small
friends.
1t Is most annoying to invite a guest
for a certain time and have that guest
force further invitation, and accept
the hospitality thus wrested from a
hostess who has no option
l knew a woman who had a most
amusing experience with this kind of
a guest. She had been in severe finan-
cial traits as all her friends knew.
The whole family had been forced to
exercise a rigorous self denial, but
there came a time when certain friends
simply had to be entertained They
knew of the reverses which the host
ess had endured, but had no idea of
how closely she was forced to trim
her sails. So they came to luncheon
as invited and stayed to dinner on a
forced invitation. A severe. rain and
wind storm came up and they stayed
all night and to breakfast the next
morning. The poor hostess had ar
ranged a charming luncheon which she
had planned would serve the family
for dinner and allow her to have
very plain evening meal. Breakfast
would be made of the hashed cold
meat from the luncheon, and bread
and butter, and on the whole the
luncheon would be so economically ad-
ministered that the inroad on the
months expenses would not be very
great.
AS the guests forced themselvesupon
her. however, she had to send out for
extra supplies for two meals besides
going to a great deal of trouble The
family really were compelled to ADOPT
rather severe course of dieting in
the efforts to harmonic the months
expenditure with the recipes, and the
whole atmosphere was tangled and out
y tune, owing to a lack of thought and
understanding of the demands of cour-
tesy. .,...-.... ...
When you are invited for a meal go
to that meal, but don't stay for Sec
ond that is not included in the invita-
ton. OF course this as a matter of
expense applies to households that
must be run economically. Usually in
the ordinary home a guest is not of
great moment. 1t is wise If possible
TO set before the ordinary guest who is
family intimate the same fare that
Is given to the family. But even when
1t is not a question of expense the
question of courtesy still remains.
Go home when your visit is ended
The next time you are asked it will be
Tor the longer time if you have really
been SO pleasant that you are wanted.
1t is better to go while you are still
valued as visitor, than to wear the
welcome thin.
Mothers should impress upon chill
1ren the wisdom of this course and
make them responsible. They should
lot be allowed to use the telephone to
tease for permission to stay longer.
Sometimes they may miss a great deal
Of pleasure by not being granted this
permission, but as a rule, strictly ad-
hered to, they will be more welcome
than the guest that almost has to be
invited to go home.
1t is not good for children to stay in
house till sent home, but with some
small visitors 1t is the only course.
have heard mothers ask that their
children be sent home when they stay
too long. but that seems to me to ex-
Is better far to teach the child to come
home at a certain time.
Hospitality which is abused ceases
to be offered. If you wish to be popu-
lar visitor you must know when to
take your leave and take 1t at that
time.