The Washington herald. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1906-1939, 1910-07-03
FROM WOMAN'S
POINT OF VIEW.

What do you think Of a woman who
ays that it is old-fashloned to bring up
hildren to add Sir and Madam" or
he contraction of the latter when an
wering their elders? Can fashion dis
ard courtesy and make youth the equal
II old age? Are children to be allowed
o think themselves of more importance
han adults, than their parents and
Is not courtesy univer-
sal and everlasting? Or is 1t thing be-
onging to an age of which TO be ashamed,
ike the barbaric age?
There is nothing in the world more be-
quilting than a properly behaved child
[ know several of that kind. and every
body loves them. have seen several
hundred others. slapped IN public by
rritated mothers. who did not realize
that they were to blame for the condition
which angered them or dragged through
shops and streets by patient but weak
mothers, who did not seem TO mind the
howis which accom- panied the dragging
process. I have seen badly behaved
children in street and railway cars, and
even in homes where the key OF refine
ment was struck in all other ways.
The mother of seven told me that rear
ing children was not as difficult as was
imagined. She brought five II manhood
and womanhood without punishment Of
any kind, and ! have yet TO meet the per-
son who says any but nice things OF
them In childhood / know what they
are now, and right here I declare that
their affection and Difference toward
their parents are beautiful believe
that a command from either would have
as much weight to-day as II did IN child
hood / know that a mere wish is relig-
iously carried out
The most independent child I ever saw
was girl who ruled the household She
married. at sixtee1, a man who had not
even a prospect Of keeping her from
want. and did q in defiance of parents
She has passed a miserable three years
because she cannot rule the man as she
did father and mother l shall never for
get the discomfort OF meals where she
was allowed 10 be served first and APP
propriate the choicest Of everything to
break ia upon the most serious CONVEX
sation and interrupt games by trying
her hand at them.
On more than one occasion young men
have Deen hailed into court for leaving
a parent to distress. Take my word for
it. the blame belonged back in childhood,
when sons were permitted to acquire
false ideas Of Independence. Children
who learn 10 love and respect parents
never desert them in times of need. There
is deep affection and tue admiration be-
tween some parents and children-i know
a few cases whore the death or an inva-
lid mother is long rCrrred by sons ano
daughters. ] also know cases where
death has brought relief TO young people
l do not agree with those who are be
waillng the lack Of the home instinct in
young women for l ind an eyer-increas
ing desire TO make tiny home out OF
one or two rooms. or more when a com
panion can be found 10 share it. I know
OF young men who are banded together
in a family with a motherly hOUsekeepel
10 care for their home. and Of young To
men whose meager incomes keep then
well when housekeeping expenses are di
vlded.
But men and women must be phable
If they are to dwell in harmony. Thel
must live their own lives and accord tn
same privilege TO their companions on
disagreeable member distresses a house
I hold and peace-l0ving persons are no
going to live IN such an atmosphere, Z
say nothing Of helping 20 support H. $
/ cooperative making Is not as eN
! tensiye as it should be.
| For years I have known Of a nous
occupied by eight young men who's
! salaries are Of the modest variety. Fac
/ has a bedroom TO himself and there
the large room common to old-fashione
/ hosses. The neighborhood is good, III
street is quiet and within easy walkin
distance of the business district. Their
/ is an elderly housekeeper who runs IN
/ place on an allowance which pays 70
/ laundry work, scrubbing and cleaning
and two meals a day. Rent, fuel. ligh
| and renovation are paid from the fun
/ 10 which each contributes each week, an
4 this very comfortable living costs eac
man less than the meager board TO whic
/ ne was previously accustomed.
/
/ Two newspaper women used TO occup
a four-room suite which was kept clea
and orderly by a woman who came j
each forenoon When they chose TO ga
| at home at night they did their ow
/ marketing and cooking and left III
! dishes 10 be washed up by the caretake
| the next day Breakfast they always al
/ at home, and those dishes were ais
left in the kitchen They had occasion;
! guests and went out as they pleased, nc
always together. and the price for sue
( comfort was less than either would haV
paid for the usual fare in boardin
houses.
Now we are beginning TO hear Of hote
where small-salaried women can hay
little homes by themselves or larger ont
with companions. They can cook the
I meals or buy them. do their own laundr
work and have the conveniences Of higl
priced places, such as heat, hot wat'
and reception rooms. We need multi
tude of such homes for the feminT
workers who are not contemplate
matrimony. We need many others f
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