Arizona republican., 1910-06-27
THE MASCULINE VIEWPOINT.
Breadth the Chief Factor in Woman's
 Ability to Create Happiness.

Half of the unhappiness of the
 world is caused by the feminine point
 of view. Every day I talk with wo- men who feel themselves unhappy be-
 cause they can not make their lovers, or their husbands, or their fathers, or their brothers understand. In finan- cial. social, business, yes. even in | spiritual matters. there is a failure to comprehend that is maddening to the average woman.
 Just like a man. is an expression that we hear constantly from femi- nine lips. If, however, we turn our ears to listen, we as often hear the | expression of masculine disapproba- l ton Just like woman" and so the | eternal war goes on, waged bitterly i in some cases. in others tolerantly. [ but always with a complete lack of understanding.
 The question that the average wom- an has before her, as a rule, is. how to adjust herself to the masculine point of view. Men, as a rule, lack adaptability, and the task of recon cling the differing natures falls upon the woman.
 I believe that the best way to create harmony is to recognize the difference between the feminine and masculine nature and to work out the problem of life on that basis. A wom- an said to me the other day, My husbands tastes and mine are so very different He likes heavy books and l like light ones. We made upR our minds when, we married, that we would grow together if possible. So on alternate nights we read heavy and light literature. I listen and am somewhat bored, when he reads aloud from his scientific books, and he yawns over my novel But we are together and that is half the battle.''
 It sounded all right, but I am per fectly sure that for the man, and ulti mately. for the woman. those evenings are going to bring a sense of deadly dullness It would be better, it seems to me- not to try to force two widely differing mentalities into one line of thought. It would seem wiser that the wife should read her novel, and the husband study. side by side, each happily contented because occupied with the thing that pleases best. A simple outline told chattily of the | novel, when the evenings reading was l over, or little Illuminating discussion | of the scentific lwork, might bring | more response than the detailed drag l ged-out monotony of a whole work read aloud.
 It is always a mistake to try to | make other people like ourselves. Your best 7 woman friend is often your | friend because she amuses and inter- ests you by her surprising differences. | Because a woman is married to man | is no reason why he should adopt her | prejudices, her tastes in literature, art. | music or the sciences Neither should | she feel that she must follow in his | footsteps If he likes to fish and to bunt, she need not be dragged through | interminable marshes on hot days. be- | set with mosquitoes and lured to in 1, digestion by cold lunches. She should. | rather, give him God speed" at part | ing, have a hot supper ready for him | when he returns and listen wide eyed | to his tale of adventures. She will | thus have variety in her life, and | congeniahty is not sameness. It is, | rather, the ability to be vitally inter | ested in the things that interest | others, even if we do not understand | or enjoy as they do. For example, a | woman may know nothing. technically, | of law, but she may be in touch with | her husbands ambitions. in his sue cess, in his clients. She may know | nothing of medicine, but she can take | her husbands profession on the human | side and enjoy his accounts of his patients and the incidents of his busy ] day She may know nothing of busi-
 
 ly to the recital of daily happenings | in the confidential hour after dinner | which is so dear to the cOngenial hus- band and wife.
 Just as a man does not understand | knitting but likes to see his wife's fin