The Richmond palladium and sun-telegram. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1907-1939, 1910-12-24
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ne Position OF the debutunte In
America is unique. In no other coun-
try is she given SO much pleasure and
prominence. In England and France
the young girl is negligible quantity.
Not so with US. She is parsonage
from the moment she makes her bow
TO society until the season entis and
she either successfully reaches the
goal OF matrimony or retires to take
her place in the unuumbered ranks of
the older girl.
Dinner dances. theater parties, lunch,
cons and afternoon teas lend their
brilIiance to enhance her glory. She
is heralded and discussed by every
newspaper in the country. She springs
from the comparative seclusion OF
school life into the full glare of the
social limelight. 1t takes steady
head to Keep ones poise under such a
fire of flattery. adulation and excite
ment. And unfortunately steady heads
are rare. So another type of debutante
has established herself and become the
fashion-a restless. noisy, self absorb
ed young creature with Indifferent
manners.
She filings herself recklessly into the
mad rush for pleasure. devQuring it at
whatever cost. She talks in Il vernac-
ular that is often unintelligible to cul-
tured people. She is lacking In dig
nifty and good taste.
This is "a sweeping arraignment, but
all of US have met this type often
enough to know that 1t bears the out
line Of truth and should point moral
to the girl who does not wish to begin
her social career under the banner Of
false standards. After all, though
brilliant. ones debutante days are
brief. 1t may be that their very bril-
lance and brevity are the spur that
explains the artificial excitement Of
the modern girl. Yet this manner Of
enjoying ones first winter is unwise.
1t brushes away with relentless
hands the charm and simplicity of
youth: it stiles dreams and ideals and
makes companions of cynicism and
hardness; it dulls the clearer. higher
vision of life and drags careless young
feet through the ugly marshes of ma
terialism.
1t throws upon life at the very out
set a highly colored artificial light that
robs young girl of a proper sense of
values and blinds her to the soft shad-
ows Of fine feeling. Such an attitude
Is as disastrous as it Is unattractive.
And the girl who has an eye for the
future, who wishes to garner for her
self during three short days OF debu-
tante Sunshine the charms that will
carry her safely through the years
when she no longe. holds first place.
will have none Of it.
To this girl is offered one fact whose
truth is proved. They can't possibly
be worth the price you are asked to
pay for them. Let them go without
regret Saner. better. sweeter things
will come to take their place. The
pleasure that sacrifices ones dignity,
the success that kills a secret ideal.
the good time that leaves the tiniest
spot on girls standard of conduct,
work harm and are never worth while
Gard Etiquctt. For Married Women.
"A LllTTleu WOIudu Calling leaves one
Of her own cards for each woman
member of the household and one each
OF her husbands, adding to that mum.
Der one more of the husbands, which
Is for the host. A woman does not
call upon man, SO she does not leave
one Of her own for her hostess hus-
band, but the husbands must be sent,
even though the two men may not be
acquainted. When a married woman
makes formal calls and does not leave
her husbands cards with her own 1t
may mean that she no longer lives
with him. A woman paying social Wis.,
its in this country during weeks that
her husband may be in Europe still
leaves his cards
The mans cards need not be left for
any son Of the household unless an &C.
Quaintance actually exists between the
two.
Fashion still DEGREES that a married
woman may use cards containing both
her own and her husbands name-in
ether words. the mfr and Mrs" While
these cost trifie more to order, the
fashion is really economical. for II
means that one card does duty for
two When these are used a single
cue Of the mans will be needed fol
the host.