Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1910-07-12
FEMININE GUIDING STAR.
Mans Complete Reform is Brought
About Through Marriage-Some-
times.

The woman does not live who is not
fiattered by the idea that she is a good
angel to some man. 1t is part Of the
feminine makeup to wish to BE a
guiding star Men know this. in
stinctively. and when they need an ex-
cuse, they word it something like this:
Il know | am not worth it. but you
are the one good thing in my life
Girls. especially young girls. with a
slight knowledge of the world. are
strong in their own sense o. power.
They think that their wanting to make
a man good will make him good.
Knowing nothing of the awful grasp
of evil habits. they believe from the
bottom of their little white sous that
they can bring him up to the heights.
And that is how it happens that wo
men marry men to reform them.
great problem faces the girl who
falls in love with man who is weak
Generally her love for him makes her
| underestimate his weakness, She
calls his liking for the things tt.at
harm him by other names than the
true ones. If he drinks, she tries TO
convince herself that he can stop if he
will do it, She is sure gambling viii
have no attraction for him when lie
can bask always in the pleasure OF her
society, and she contends that his
! fiirtatious regard for other girls viii
cease when married.
Sometimes her faith in him is justi-
! fed. Some men lead reckless, care
| free lives until they meet the one wo-
man to whom they give great love,
and that love transforms them. But
such cases are exceedingly rare. The
average man, in the first flush Ct
alteration, makes promises which he
cannot keep. Bad habits are not eHs-
| lily replaced by good ones. and the .,'i,
who engages herself to man whom
she knows to lie dissipated should in
! sist upon long engagement. Only
in such an engagement can her lover
prove himself worthy. 1t is easy
enough for the Incorporate man to re-
frain for few weeks or months from
| tipping. but year or longer will test
his strength and prove his love.
If all women were strong they
might bear up weak men on the wings
Of their strength. but marriage. after
the honeymoon, is a practical PROPOSE
| ton. The young wife faces problems
that have never before confronted her.
| and she needs husband who will help
her bear them and not add to them
The wives of weak husband are al
ways to- me pitied. They never have
their womanly heritage of protection
and tenderness. They go through tic
world with more weight than their
slender shoulders really ought to car
| ry.
No man who is the victim of his
| own weaknesses should ask a girl to
marry him. If his love for her is very
great he may tell her of it. tell her
| that he wishes her for his wife, but
| that, as yet. he has no right to bind
her to any vows. If she loves him she
can wait for him, and when he has
| proved himself man. marry him. The
| brave-hearted girl will say at this
point. Let me help you."And that is
| her mistake. She may help. but not
is his wife. II misery is to come he
must bear the burden of his own
weakness. and not inf1ict it on wo-
man and perhaps on her child.
| Love is a sacred thing, so sacred that
no two people should treat it as trivial,
1t should not demand of it's object
perfection, but it must demand a
istriving toward good. The young
couple who wish to marry must have
ideals, if they are to have happiness.
They must have strength, if they are
to benefit their race. They must be
temperate, if they wish to hold the
respect of the ommunity.-Kansas
| City Star.