Sequachee Valley news. (Sequachee [Sequatchie], Tenn.) 1896-1952, 1910-10-13
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J UNCLE TOMS LETTER.

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intimated if girl expected to marry
she would have to make some advanc-
es toward the man of her choice.
l don't know, my lady, so much
about that. In fact. l am inclined to
think from my own personal expert
] ence that that kind of counsel Is very
i'll advised. If all young men were
saints it might do, but as they are not
and are in most cases too ready to take
advantage of girl, would advise
her to hold him at arms length. He
| will think more of her and love her
better.
l only speak from actual experience
in the beau line and was very popular
among the girls, suppose | am quail
fed to give girl some solid advice in
reference to winning young man.
No, my lady, if a young man sees
| girl be likes, he'll sooner or later
make all the advancements necessary.
All she's got to DO is to be patient and
wait, treat him kindly and respectful
" but never put herself in his way.
| If his notions are to make her his wife
he will plead his cause in due time,
and don't forget he is watching your
every move, even to the flash of your
eye.
Young men love modest girls better
than they do forward ones. | know
when / was young we used to dance
a great deal, and occasionally some of
the church girls would attend our frol-
les and | was ever on the alert to get
such girls to dance. When / succeed
ed then my confidence in them was
gone My advice to girls is to let no
man persuade them to violate their
obligations to their church.
Allow no familiarity, no difference
how well you msy care for him.
Keep your love entirely secret from
him and all others until the knot is
tied. regard a girls love in my old
days as a sacred thing, not to be made
plaything of by any man. used to
| not so regard it, I am sorry to say,
and did all could to get some to love
me, not that I loved them but for
devilish purposes Don't trust any
living man till you know he is yours.
It will not hurt him if he is in earn
est. If he is false, as many are, you
are safe.
am writing facts and not silly
stuff. You don't know the way of a
man. He'll love you and betray you,
and cast you off, all because you were
too quick to trust and confide in him.
Making advances by a girl is all out
of order. When she begins that, woe
be unto her.
A girl can't be too careful. | know
fast girl may preserve her honor,
but what of her modesty that makes
our women so charmingly sweet, and
then what has she gained2 Nothing,
and probably has lost noble man,
she might have called husband be-
cause of her fast, imrrudent ways.
Hear me, girls, | am talking to you
as father. | love our Southern girls
and would give my life to protect
them, and as such it gives me pain
when l hear of any of them falling by
the wayside. Don't put yourself on
the list Of husband hunter Let no
man know you have any other regard
for him except as a friend. Even
though you may have accepted him as
suitor, don't contide too much in
him. That in itself is sufficient.
Whenever he undertakes any familiar
tiles, know of truth be is false.
Hold him in check, is my advice. If
he loves you, he'll love you better. If
he don't, he'll soon have some excuse
and quit. know there is many a
slip between the cup and the lip. Not
every engagement is kept. | never
married the first ones l promised, |
lied-got my license for one and then
failed. 1t was mean. l know it.
Girls just can't be too particular, |
know they can't. Men must and will
have wives, and girls need not be un-
easy, for there are great many more
males than females. Not enough to go
around by a million or more. Girls
have big advantage, and why not
stand still and be patient2 Why make
haste? There is no sense in the head
long rush of our girls to enter matri
mony in their teens as they are do
ing. / kept two of my girls until they
were tweatyfour years old. They've
married men. One married at sixteen
and know 1 let her go too soon. l
was fool. She has six children al
ready. My my Only in her TWEEN
ties. Well, she has home Of her
own, but has seen so little of life
Wait, girls, wait Don't hurry, is my
motto. Anytime after twenty-five is
soon enough.
Well. Uncle Tom has said his say
plainly and with the best of motives,
and you can take it or let it alone.
My love to the News readers every
where. / like the pieces very much
and some are extra fine. Good food
for thought, which 1 relish very
much.
UNCLE TOM.
Tracy City, Tenn.