The Ogden standard. [volume] (Ogden City, Utah) 1902-1910, 1910-03-14

| These are the sort OF things II
would seem one ought to reveal, The
trifling love affairs. the scrapes at
school and such escapadcs as fgurc In
one way or another in nearly every
ones life one can tell OF not, as each
deems best They usually are told
for the fun there is In the telling.
But 1t doesn't seem right 10 permit
the person one marries TO be ignorant
| OF serious matters that may affect the
happiness OF the married life,
Some women there are whose ma
| ture 1t Is when they love to give their
| all to the loved one. Their one thought
| day and night IS for his comfort His
every wish must be gratlned. his
every whim humored. Sclf-Sacrince
for his pleasure becomes a joy The
thought Of self rarely enters into their
plans. If they do have special per
sonal desires which clash with his,
they Immediately yield.
II is doubtful If this policy is n
wise one, The comfort and happiness
of her husband should. of course, be
wife's first consideration. But some
times she can give too much and
ness in the long run.
To fetch and carry for him because
he Is tired from his days work: to
run her feet off TO walt on him. is
simply training him TO be lazy and
selfish. There may be times of extra
stress when she should do everything
within her power to relieve him of
the necessary little home duties But
to do 1t continually when he is just as
able 10 perform them as she Will In
time cause him TO develop an absolute
Indifference 10 them and callousnesS
to the fact that she IS performing
tasks which rlghtfully are his.
The best man in the world can be
spoiled In this way. He Will protest
at first But there's not one man in
a hundred who Will not gradually sub
NIT If his wife insists and in the
course of a few years lazIly accept all
her attentions.
The wife who always Yields all her
pleasures to her husbands wishes,
who gives up without O murmur the
little outing or social affair she wants
simply because he doesn't care to go.
will find in time her wishes In such
matters are not considered at all 1t
is human nature. The best OF men
may struggle against 1t for a while,
but one Is rare who doesn't succumb
IN time.
A wife can become n slave 10 a
man and be q monument of selfish
ness through her humoring him too
much. It is really her fault. She has
dlgged the pit into which she has
fallen, OF course, she had no idea OF
such a catastrophe She started the
bad business with the best of inten~
tions. But the thoroughly unselfsh.
self-doDying person usually creates a
selfish one.
When there Is no good reason why
q wite's desires should not have as
much consideration as the husbands.
be should yield to her wishes and do
as much for her comfort as she does
for him. II operates the other way
quite as proliGcally, too. The wife
who is always humored and petted |
Will develop into selfish, soIled wom-
an, though, as a rule, man is not |
so given TO unsel6shness and self |
lbnegatlon as a woman A woman is |
more apt to spoil husband than the |
husband is tho wife And II Is so in
sidious. # Is done from the hearts |
'incerest promptings OF love at first. |
that II needs TO be most carefully |
guarded against The woman who |
has a nature Of this selfsacrlficlng
'ort should watch herself that she
doesn't let II lead her gradually and
into spelling a good -us-
bands.