El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-07-13

and cheer and peace and harmony with
loved ones unless our loved ones help
us. The sensitive, weeping, hystericaI
and unreasonable woman wants to re-
member these facts
But the man who lives with such
nature does not want TO aggravate it
by thOughtIeSs and incOnsiderate &C
tons, or wound it by neglect and in
difference He wants TO use love and
kindness and patience and do his best
TO develop the reasoning powers at the
same time
Make Her Understand.
Approach such a woman first through
her sentimental nature-make her I'M
derstand that she is ENJOYABLE, and
that her moods spoil her attraction
for men Then reason with her
A young girl was handsomely sup
ported by her uncle Speaking of his
kindness, a married friend said to her
one day: II hope you tell him often
how you appreciate what ne is doing
for you. II you give him little caress
and a word OF thanks every day or
two, he will feel the investment is pay
ing good dividends
But I am not demOnStrat1ve, and
1 cannot act a part the girl replied
Il cannot act affectionately unless the
mood IS on me- I inherit that peculiar
ity and cannot change my nature
The girls reasoning was all wrong
She really did appreciate what her
uncle was doing for her, and her habit
of Observation-Disclosures was not nat
ural, but the result OF her early en-
vironment She had been reared by
parents who commanded obedience, and
regarded duty as the governing law,
and who left the affectional side OF
the girls nature repressed and stunted-
No spontaneous expressions Of love
were ever INDUCED in by the members
| of her family, and she imagined her
| misfortune 10 be her inheritance But.
even if such an inheritance is given
a woman, the first effort Of her life
should be TO overcome it..
Men like Appreciation
There is not man on earth who
does not like and appreciate a spOn-
taneous word and act OF affection now
and then from the mother. sister.
| daughter. wife or other associate who
| is receiving his care and support No
matter If he acts embarrassed and III
/ at ease, or makes tactless Jest OF II
| or seems a little gruff and says, What
are YOU after now with all this taffy2
yet in the secret heart Of him he is
pleased and gratified-
Men have very soft hearts at the core
| They are frequently crusted over with
/ a tough outside. and many. man
makes it the work of g lifetime TO con-
vince the world that ne Is colo ana OPP
/ posed TO all sentiment, when the fact
| is he is quite the opposite.
/ The early Puritsnieal training of our
country was a disaster TO the race.
The repression of natural, -affectiOnal
| impulses, the cold and austere depOrt-
nent of members of the family toward
/ one another have served to fill insane
asylHms and destroy the home life OF
thousands of the descendants Of those
rigidly moral old ancestors Of ours. 1t is
a terrible misfortune for any young boy
/ or girl to be reared in such an atmoS
1 Dhere If it has been your lot, do not
Nina CINE it is your nature If it is your
/ nature, go TO work and change IL
Speak the words Of gratitude and af
! lection you feel, and force your stiff
ened heart to timber up enough TO be-
stow a tender little caresS upon the
/ persons nearest to you. Learn the cal
| fsthenics of lOve-and practice them. II
viii make you a better man OF woman
and do more for your home life than
/ cold, lOveless duty and dollars can ever
do.