Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1910-07-26
SeIfishneSs-In Domestic Life

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IL Is a very common thing for young
people TO marry an ideal and when they
lind they have really married very
common clay Of the earth, earthly;
hen they proceed TO grow very unhap-
ny and dissatisfied with the husband or
wife and all their sun ourdings. They
expected TO be ported. caressed. hu-
nored and knelt to just as they were
N their counting days. Pretty young
women are usually quite vain and pref
" young men generally have their own
way before they conclude TO marry.
Mothers and sisters kotow to these
Foung tyrants and when they get tired
Df waiting on their brothers he con-
sludes 10 marry somebody who will do
he kotowfng. and more than all. belong
10 him
II we could Just examine into the rul-
ing motives which influence two silly
Toung persons to marry we would doubt
less be surprised that they ever did get
along together IN matrimony.
That's the reason they say mar
rage IS a lottery" You buy a pig IN
q poke. and sometimes il turns out to
be a nice shoat and occasionally II is a
scrub, not worth feeding.
Down at the bottom OF all misun-
derstandings in welded life there is
eonsummate seIfIshness IN greater or
less degree.
Sometimes the wife is too yielding.
sinks her individuality to her husbands
demands. does not stand u0 tor reasOna-
biz rest or diversion, until she breaks
down and goes 10 the cemetery or b1ck
20 her fathers house. When the, o
arc no children the disaster is not SO
great. but when children are made par
ties 10 a divorce suit or even a simple
uufttance then there Is a tragedy, most
likely, because a little childs mind is
easily worked upon and II IL is trained
In bitterness and hate IL will be warped
IN disposition and deprived OF Its
chance 20 be happy.
These things are not considered IN
the counting days OF most young peo-
pie They are selfish IN aim ami pur-
pose There is enough passion TO
blind their eyes 20 each others faults,
and then they put the best foot fore
most 20 hold on 20 what they have set
their hearts upon
The incest clothes are worn, the
incest attentions are shown. whe1
the young man goes 20 her home the
table is nicely set. and the house or
parlor is in apple pie order-everything
attractive
he sees the gala side OF life with her
In his bOyhoOd home. where blue Mon
days came along. house cleaning days.
the rush and hurry OF common domes-
ITCHY. and he sets IL down in his mind
that his girl will never annoy hint
with seedlings. and he will be waited
upon. like a king, when they get to-
gether.
She sees him dressed up ready 10 be
sffable and generous, and she imagines
she will get away from ali the an
noyances IN her girlhood home, her
crusty father, perhaps. and a great
many other things that she didn't en-
Joy.
So. when the young birds make a
nest leach deluded as 20 the moving
purpose in their separate minds). II is
dissatisfied with his meals, his laun-
sry. his expenses; etc. and the other
while doing her very best is awkward
and has TO learn, while she is doing a
very exhausting housekeeping stunt.
he is disappointed and she has to ad-
nit that John IS very unlike the lover
d their counting days.
Something is going to happen, and
that right early. If he has good
common sense he will never forget that
ne owes a duty TO the little woman who
gave everything she held dear into mis-
lifetime keeping, and no matter what
happens he is under a vow 10 love,
honor and protect her all the days or
his life. He will conscientiously pro-
coed to put his own whims and com
plants out OF sight and do his best
TO cheer her, and make her contented
with her lot
But will he do it7 There's the run.