El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-09-09

with the mention of one thing
- that. so far as 1 know. has never
been mentioned in print-the danger
of exclusive friendships between man
and man and woman and woman
No two persons Of the same sex can
complement each other.
We should have many acquaintance,
or none.
When two men begin to tell each
other everything" they are hiking for
senility.
There must be a bit of well-defned
reserve.
In matter-solid steel, for instance
the molecules never touch. They never
surrender their individuality We are
all molecules of Divinity, and our per
soRlitv should not be abandoned BE
yourself; let no man be necessary 20
YOU. Your friend will think more OF
Won if Won keep him at a little dis
lance.
Friendship. like credit, is highest
where it is not used
can understand how a strong man
can have a great and abiding affection
for a thousand other men, and call
them all by name. and how he can
regard any one Of these men much
higher and. closer TO him than another
and preserve his mental balance 1 do
not know.
Let a man come close enough and
he'll clutch you like a drowning per-
son, and down you both go.
In a close and exclusive friendship
men partake of others weaknesses
In shops and factories it happens
| consta ntly that men will have their
chums. These men relate to each other
their troubles-they keep nothing back
they sympathize with each other;
they mutually cOndole-
They combine and stand by each
other Their friendship is exclusive,
and others see that it is. Jealousy
creeps in, suspicion awakens. hate
crouches around the corner, and these
men combine in mutual dislike for GER
tain things and persons They To-
ment each other, and their sympathy
adilutes sanity BY recognizing their
troubles men make them real Things
get out Of focus, and the sense of val
ues is lost BY thinking some one is
an enemy you evolve him into one
Soon others are involved and we
have a clique.
4 clique is friendship gone to seed.
A clique develops into a faction. and
| a faction into a fedd, and soon we
| have a mob, which is a blind, stupid,
| insane. crazy, ramping and roaring
| mass that has lost the rudder-
In mob there are no individuals
all are of one mind, and independent
! thought is gone.
4 feud IS founded on nOthing-it is
a mistake fool idea famed into
| flame by fool friend. And it may be-
come a mob.
Every man who has had anything to
do with communal life has noticed that
oSI
lus. and the clique has its rise always
| in the exclusive friendship of Two
persons of the same sex. who tell cash
| other all unkind things that are said
| of each other-"sO be on your guard.
Beware of the exclusive friendship.
Respect all men and try to find the
good in all
To associate only with the sociable.
| the witty, the wise. the brilliant is a
blunder Go among the plain. the stu
| pid the uneducated and exercise your
/ own wit and wisdom. You grow by
| giving-have no favOrites You hold
/ your friend as mucN by keeping away
from him as YOU a.. by following after
/ him.
Revere him? Yes but be natural,
! and let space intervene. Be a Divine
molecule.
Be yourself, and give your friend a
| chance to be himself. Thus do YOU
, benefit him. and in benefting him yod
benefit yourself
The finest friendships are between
| those who can do without each other.
OF course, there have been cases OF
exclusive friendship that are pointed
out to us as grand examples of afrec-
ton. but they are so rare and excep-
/ tfonal that they serve to emphasize the
fact that it is exceedingly unwise tc-
| men of ordinary power and intellect
1 70 exclude their fellow men, few
men. perhaps. who are big enough to
! have place in history, could play the
/ part Of David TO anOther's Jonathan
| and vet retain the good will Of all. bu;
| the most of us would engender bitter
ness and strife. But even Jonathan
! and David became foes
And this beautiful dream Of social
ism. where each shall work for the
| good Of all. will never come about
| until 81 percent of the adults shall
abandon all exclusive friendships. I'm
| til that day arrives you Will have
| cliuues. denOminations-which are
| cIfoues grown big-factiOns, feuds and
| occasional mObS.