The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1910-08-03
Fenninine Guiding Star.

The woman does not live who is not
fiattered by the idea that she Is good
angel to some man. 1t Is a part or the
feminine makeup to wish to be guild
ing star. Men know this, instinctively
and when they need an excuse they
word it something like this: Il know
I am not worth it, but you are the one
good thing in my life
Girls, especially young girls, with
slight knowledge of the world, are
strong in their own sense OF power.
They think that their wanting to make
q man good will make him good. Know
ing nothing of the awful grasp of evil
habits, they believe from the bottom
OF their little white souls that they can
bring him up to the heights. And that
iE how it happens that women marry
men to reform them.
A great problem faces the girl who
falls in love with a man who is weak.
Generally her love for him makes her
| underestimate his weakness She calls
his liking for the things that harm him
hy other names than the true ones. II
that he can stop if he will do 1t. She
is sure gambling will have no attrac-
ton for him when he can bask al
ways in the pleasure or her society,
and she contends that his hirtat1ons
regard for other girls will cease when
m arried.
Sometimes her faith in him is justi-
| fed Some meE lead reckless, care
free lives until they meet the one wo-
man to whom they give a great love
land that love transforms them. But
such cases are exceedingly rare. The
average man, in the first flush OF ador-
alton, males promises which he can
not keep. Bad habits are not easily
replaced by good ones, and the girl
| who engages herself to man whom
she knows to be dissipated should in
sist upon a long engagement Only in
such an engagement can her lover
prove himself worthy. 1t is easy enough
| Tor the Incorporate man to refrain TOT
| a few weeks or months from tipping,
but a year or longer will test his;
strength and prove his love.
| If all women were strong they might
/ bear up weak men on the wings OF their
| eymoon, is a practical proposition. The
| young wife faces problems that have
never before confronted her, and she
| needs a husband who will help her
| bear them and not add to them. The
| wives of weak husbands are always to
| be pitied. They never have their wo-
manly heritage of protection ana ten
| derness. They go through the world
with more weight than their slender
shoulders really ought to carry.
| No man who is the victim of his own
weaknesses should ask a girl to marry
| him. If his love for her is very great
| he may tell her of It, tell her that he
! wishes her for his wife, but that, as
| yet, he has no right to bind her to any
| vows If she loves him she can wait
| for him. and when he has proved HIM
| self a man, marry him. The brave
hearted girl will say at this point. Let
me help you" And that is her mista Ike.
| che may help, but not as his wife. II
misery is to come he must bear the
| burden of his own weakness, and not
| infiict it on woman and perhaps on
| her child.
| Love is a sacred thing. so sacred that
| TO two people should treat 1t as trivial.
| It should not demand of its object per-
| lection, but it must demand striving
| toward good. The young couple who
| " ish to marry must have ideals, If they
| are to have happiness. They must have
| strength, If they are to benefit their
| race. They must be temperate, If they
wish to hold the respect of the COM
rutlnity.-Kansas City Star.