The Washington herald., 1910-10-16

ington than is devoted to a change Of
cabinets OF one OF the great powers.
II is unwise. poor policy. 10 put any
one in a position he cannot MI. A mid
shipman mite is not put in command
Of a ship. He is trained, given exper-
fence, tried out In lesser billets before
he reaches the grade Of captain, but Miss
Young American is launched into society
often times fresh from the school room
and told 70 go and carve out her social
fortunes Admitting that the American
girl Is capable OF almost anything, she
is not capable OF doing this aid when
she finds out that in spite Of all of the
adulatlon, the flowers. the music, the
expensive favors she is only a callow
little girl after all. the awakening is
not always pleasant
So would do away with all this
splurging and nonsense and have a girls
entrance into society marked by dignity.
grace and refinement ] would have her
social life balanced just as her school life
was balanced. and | would counsel mod
Grafton II a person eats too much or
drinks too much be is a glutton. a gour-
mand. but what about the girl who drinks
too deep OF the pleasures that are offered
her?
A girl Is generally biase before the end
OF her first season, bored to death at the
end of her second. and If she is not mar
ried al the beginning of her third she
seeks new excitements and designations
to prevent her from dying outright from
ennui, and this happens because she goes
into society with such a rush and keeps
up such a mad pace.
Fancy a girl saying, as I heard one say
last winter; Il have a dinner and a little
dance for Monday; Tuesday there IS a
luncheon, nine teas, a dinner, a reception.
and cotlion on my list: Wednesday. a
luncheon again. then I am going to re-
eeive at one Of the Cabinet houses: din
ner. the theater, and a supper afterward;
Thursday, I have nothing 10 do-actualh
nothing, but the rest OF the week is as
full as the first OF II. only there is
Thursday. how in the world shall I get
through with Thursday
How would I change things. you ask
] would have a girl when she enters So
ciety go about with her mother. always
with her mother or some older and ex-
perienced woman. until she comes 10
know her parents friends and 10 make
the new friends her parents think wise
for her 10 make, and until she learns
| from contact with the world where she
belongs In II and what her attitude
should be
| l would have her accept only as many
| invitations as she can creditably accept
that IS. 7 would not have her 20 as a
guest TO peoples houses when she cannot
fulfill all OF the obligations that should
be expected Of guest
Il Is no compliment TO ones hostess
and should be no pleasure for ones self
| 10 attend r dinner when one Is so tired
so out OF sorts that one cannot contrib
I ute 70 the success and brightness Of that
dinner for the duty OF a guest IS as sa-
| cred as that o. a host ! would have hei
dance but not beyond her strength. and
would have her have the courage 10 re-
| fuse 70 dance without fear OF being called
wall flower. I would have nay little
debutante unselfsh IN all Of her pleas
ures, never greedy. II she is the hostess
I I would have her look 20 IL that all Of
I her guests are provided with partners be
[ fore she steps onto the door. and II she
| Is a guest 70 expect similar courtesy