Omaha daily bee., 1910-07-31
FASHION IN WEDDING NOTES
The way 20 DO Necessary Thi"e'
that carry the stamp OF
TndiviSuaIity.


An aunt Of one OF tho seasons brides
asked the girls mother n she could not
help write some Of the out-of-town notes.
II you wish to stand in with Nora
was the reply, you would better not let
her hear that suggestion She thinks II
is an insult not to write your own thanks
for a gift"
That girl received more than go pref
ents and was not strong, yet the notes she
wrote were 80 happy and individual that
the person who sent her a gift never was
tempted to regret H.
The least one can do when she has been
remembered at the time Of her wedding Is
10 send cordial note OF appreciation. To
do anything else is bad taste and may
cause the bride 70 be sadly misjudged
Note writing. u undertaken systematically,
Is not the bugsear most brides think II H.
Keep up with presents as they come in
checking of In your glft book each note as
Il is written. DO this every day until two
days before the wedding; then carry the
gift book with you on the honeymoon and
work Off the rest Of the notes In spare mo
ments
DO not write these sfter-the-weddins
notes on hotel paper II you do not wish 10
be criticised for lack Of social knowledge.
II you have no paper stamped with your
new monogram use plain irish linen OF fine
heavy quality.
Never nd your visiting card with a word
of thanks written across it in reply for
wedding sift. The giyer has right TO feel
resentful
| Almost as bad is &c to have another write
! your notes for you. 1t Is impossible for an
other to understand the degree Of in
timacy you may have with the sender.
and you may send off formal note be-
ginning Dear Miss Blank TO a girl whom
YOU have called by her first name all your
life
At one wedding reception the bride said
IN thank YOU IN person. for know you
will not mind" When her friend reached
home she found awaiting her a gushing
note OF thanks palpsbly the work Of an
outsider.
And the friend has been laughing about
it as a good joke ever since.
Besides being rude, few girls OF intelli->
gence dare trust another to write Their
notes without careful supervision which
takes almost as much time as writing.
Though the writer is gifted, 1t is impossible
to give the touch to each note that makes
! II personal and anything but perfunctory.
A siIl need not be a brilliant writer TO
send out pleasing wedding notes. What IL
needed is sincere gratitude gracefully but
not gushlngly expressed, Overpraise Is "a
most as annoying as Indifference.
Never he guilty Of a set form; your
| friends are sure TO compare notes and
laugh over ready-letter writer effects. Aim
| TO give the individual touch, TO introduce
the few words that make the sender realize
that she is really being thanked, not n job
| lot of givers.
1t is customary TO include your fiance In
! thanking for wedding present; though
! the gift comes to the girl, 1t lie actually for
| both and should be so acknowledged.
| II is also the custom to tell your friends
! YOU will be glad to have them come in and
see your presents. This is particularly
| necessary when there Is TO be no reception
and you are to live out OF town. Set hours
may be mentioned II you do not wish to be
bothered with a run of visitors,
Many brides write notes to their own
friends and work substitute for the
friends Of their husband. This is a greater
mistake since strangers have ofen no other
way TO judge the bride than by her note OF
thanks.