El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-12-29
Dorothy Dir
\ EAR JOHNS MOTHER:

N EAR JOHNS MOTHER:
Every woman who is the mother
of son goes through two Geth-
semanes-once when she brings a man
child into the world, aud again when
she gives MIN to another woman
When your son was married, you
sat in the flower bedecked church
blinking back ycIr tears, with the
desolation of death in your heart. II
seemed to you that you could not have
greater sense of loss If the burial
service, instead of the marriage serv-
Ice, was being said above your boy. for
you knew that after marriage no
mothers son is her son. He is the hus-
band of his wife, and the other woman
always stands between them
Every woman knows that it is best
1or man TO marry. that it is best in
every way for him to have home, and
WlIe, and children of his own, and yet
II mothers had the say-so, nine hun
dred and ninety-nine men out of a
thousand would be old bachelors.
This is a selfish view TO take of the
subject, and where your boy is con-
cerned, you should be capable of rising
above selfiShness Believe me- that
never again in your life will you have
such an opportunity of sacrificing YOUR
self for his good as you do when your
son marrieS
The Greater Need.
Just try to realize that his marriage
is crisis in your sons life where he
needs his mothers love. and help. and
patience. and tenderness, and wisdom
lJust as much as he did when he was
little boy clinging TO her skirts. or a
lad Just starting out into the world
that was full Of temptations and pitfalls
Tor his inexperienced feet. You guided
MIN teen safely along the way. Guide
MIN now, for man never wants his
mother more than he does when he is
married.
Begin by making a friend of Johns
Vile This isn't always as easy as il
sounds. Brides are touchy things. and
they are filled with a dark and deadly
suspicion OF their mothersinlaw. and
you are more than likely TO get plenty
of rebuffs.
Don't let them call you. or drive YOU
back on yourself. Don't notice little
tempers and airs. Take just as much
pains In propitiating your daughterin-
law as you would tie presidents wife.
WOO her as aSsiduously, as a lover does
his mistress, and in time you will
surely win her. You are older. more
experienced, wiser than she and the
advances should come from you.
True Task of Love.
Just try to keep in mind that your
son can never be happy in his mar
r1age If you and his wife are not good
friends, and no effort that you can
make to attach her to yourself will
seem hard. Moreover, it is your only
salvation, for in the struggle between a
mans Wife and his mother. he is bound
to side with his wife or else wreck
his home The only way in which Won
can keep your son is to add your
daughterinlaw to the family. and make
her one of your own people.
Don't live with your son after he is
married if there is any possible way
to prevent it. There is an old saving
that the largest house ever built was
not big enough to hold two women.
This is an unchanging truth. No two
women, unless they are pin-feathered
angels, can live together in the close
intimacy of everyday life without get
ting on each others nerves
They are bound to have little WAYS !
that CRATE on each other, views that |
conflict, habits that jar, and before |