Newark evening star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1916, 1910-10-15
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LITTLE PROBLEMS OF THE HOME.


%T@HE mother of a last seasons debmante was discussing with a init
mate friend her daughters lack Of social success
q" must admit" she said, chat Jean is lot 50 popular as I want
hr to be. with all the teas and mn cheons and affairs given for her last
a whole bevy of fesh debutantes coming n she will be simply in the back
ground. I don't know what % do 1 want her % make a hit socially. 1t
means SO much 10 Ter to marry we'll
A pure worldly-wise motherl Can yu see that pool little pud oemg
hsrassed and worried by her socially ambitious mother to 10 something by
which she will get into the front ranks of socetys favorhs?
She is probably a quet shy little thing, perhaps not pretty, I'M so most
naturally has migrated to the waHhower contingent But this does lot mean
she viii be a social failure, unless the mother so upbraids here or $ o mourns the
fact that h girl loses faith in herself and permits herself to sink out of
notice. = -,
There In nan roads to success in the social life. With one, popularity
takes the form of invitations everywhere. a dance carda always fun,a crow
and the only kind she thinks worth while But it is lot in all cases the
popularity that lasts or that brings to a girl the best that life las to offer
Another girl may lot are for this sort OF thing whatever, nr b popu-
hr In this way lei she will be a avort among musicians, arusts, writers,
social worker-whereyer thinkers ad workers gather. he may b. a brilliant
success in this world, though it is a quiet realm and one not mentioned in the
society columns of the papers.
Or she my ARE for outdoor life n 70 in for sports, mi pe liked every
where among people of kindred tastes. III
It is for this mother to broaden her outlook as to popularity. She shodd
daughter make her friends and associates there. From the quiet shy, col
ofess walnower, he will blossom out into al alert interested, animated
girl, VINO will gradually gather around Ter the cfrce in which she In stue
and happiest mpanionship
She is just IS likely to make a "good" marriage here as in the other
set; in fact, more likely to. She will find the congenial tastes and the I'M
radeMps that are the basis of a genuinely happy marriage, whereas, in the
empty.
Instead Of bewainng har daughters past lack Of success and perdstenuy
ms1sung she on in her effort to win social recognition this season., this
muCher would be wiser to red the Signs of the times and beat a dgnfhed
retreat II she feels that this season will Enthusiastically stamp her daughter
ang nr daughter seek those associates and amusements, or work, in which
she will be happy N successful. In her excursions, then, into the purely So
@ai seatm, she will com with the halo of success from her chosen field,
Cns ii itself will give her a standing M a recognition she would PROBABLY
nDwrrherwtse rain
stN m doubt a great dhappontm en- to a socially ambitious mother, who
fas Spent years preparing a daughter for social life to find this daughter
a cHMure On hsr hands But, al has been said, she should broaden her con
cgyaon of success, and perhaps she will find that her daughter will, after
alt Garry onone OF the real prizes.