Bluefield evening leader. [volume] (Bluefield, W. Va.) 1906-1911, 1910-08-24
THE MITTEN CODE
Brief Rules For the Guidance of
Unfar0red SuitorS.
WHAT TO DO WHEN REJECTED

incredible as IL may seem, proposals
OF marriage are sometimes refused.
usually because the lady thinks she
knows better.
To comport ones self fittingly when
rejected Is no easy matter. The young
beginner is advised to give some
thought TO his next move in the event
OF his proposal being declined. To
stand staring in reproachful silence
displays n lack of savior faire and
incidentally gives the lady n chance to
change her mind.
The really nice young man when re-
iectcd inclines to gloom. The average
young man takes up an attitude of
sprightliness. To display relief when
rejected may not seem in the best
taste, but If girl has refused you
that Is sufficient evidence that she has
no taste at all.
Let us consider the method of the
really nice young man. He hints at n
broken heart-a picturesque but i'm
probable happening He asks If there
Is no hope. Always he speaks in 'low
tone" There Is the authority of the
best fiction for this. Apparently he
never shouts his query from the door
steps MS he is departing. He men
lions suicide in n noncommital way
and eventually takes his leave with
one last fond, lingering look at her"
One can only hope he does not spoil
the dramatic value of his exit by trip
ping over the doormat.
So much for the really nice young
man. The average young man has a
variety of methods for keeping his end
up in the event of being rejected. He
imparts an mir of levity to the proceed
ings which must be distinctly irritating
when one is expecting time honored
references to fractured hearts and
blighted hopes.
copying the average young man, you
may therefore when rejected laugh
heartily and then remark:
We'll. but. joking apart, isn't the
weather beautiful
. There is something about this formu-
In which prevents the. waste of any
einotlOn except annoyance.
Another gambit in taking refusals is
to smile with satisfaction and say the
simple words: b. h~F
IL VIM
While the damsel is puzzling out
what the words may mean you can eff
feet your escape.
In the event Of an emphatic refusal
you can always ask smillngIy:
How did you guess was jollying?"
An effective way to prevent a lady
promising TO be sister to you is to
get there first by promising to be a son
to her, and you can follow it up by
saying:
"Oh, well. 1 must be getting along.
I've got another call to make"
There is subtlety about this remark
which enables YOU to take your leave
quite easily
Always try. however. to be ready to
say something at once If after her
NO you think you have been silent
oTerlong, assume n puzzled look and
say:
Let me see-what were we talking
abput?"
Should the girl give reasons for re-
fus'ng you remark:
Yes, that's just what Jane Jones
said last month when / proposed TO
her.
1t may happen that the lady answers
your proposal thus:
mo. Harold, can never be yours.
am affianced to another"
The best thing to do to avoid ex-
posure of your disappointment is TO ex-
claim:
"Yes. / knew that when asked
you"
Another formula when rejected lies
in taking list Of names from your
pocket. consulting it and remarking.
You're Miss Susan Smith. aren't
your
Then you put tick against the
name. sigh rclievedly and take your
leave
If you hare come primed TO say
'Ihenk you. Harriet; you have made
me the ba9piest man in all the world"
IN answer TO her acceptance there IS
no reason why you shouldn't say # in
reply to her refusal
in the event Of receiving refusal
by letter pretend that you did not pct
It, This has a disquicHng effect. or
lt you want TO get even wait till she
questions YOU about it and then say
with every symptom Of glad relief.
oh. that letter was from YOU. was
u: ] couldn't quite make out TIE sig
nature and thought It was from
some one else on similar matter."
spOriive remark Is permissible
sometime when one is refused with
lofty contempt.
That's aIl right. old girl. Truth is
J only asked you because was feeling
ii' sorry fOr you"
The main point is 90 be- ready wlttcd
enough 90 keep your hat and stick m
your band. DO not leave the house
wl.st.ing though 70 prevents tou
from aSAibitirg au amused smile when
she peeps az YOU from behind tho
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