The Salt Lake herald-Republican. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1909-1918, 1910-05-22
Business Girls
and "Unhappily
Married" Men
BY ELLA wHEELER wI1cox.

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Copyright, 1910, by the New York
Evening Journal Publishing Co.
IF you are a self-Supporting young
woman and possessed of a pleas
ing personality, il Is quote posi-
bic you have found yourself ere this
elected TO an office you have not
sought-that of confidant and sympa-
thetic adviser for your ''unhappily
married" employer.
If it is not your employer, perhaps
IL is acting in a business capacity of
some kind.
If you know little of the world. and
if il is q patron of the house where
you are, you possess a good share OF
feminine vanity and conceit, you are
likely to make the mistake of think
ink your position unique, and that it
is due to your peculiarly magnetic
nature that you have been made the
confidant of a strong man.
But the very first thing you want
to realize Is that no strong man ever
seeks a confidant for his domestic
troubles.
it is a certain sign of a weak quail
ity in the mans character when he
goes about whining over his domestic
infelicity to other women
The next thing you need to learn is
that scores of men with good wives,
and men who know their wives are
good, and who would not exchange
them if put to the test for you or any
other woman. are yet base and self
induIgent enough to take this method
of arousing sympathy in some young
girls heart in order 10 obtain her
friendship and her confidence
1t Is Born in Woman to Comfort.
1t is born in woman. this impulse TO
comfort and show sympathy for the
lonely and unhappy ones OF eartn; an
men know this to be so, and use 1t to
their own ends.
BEFORE Won show too great a pity
III fr7or TE
learn both sides of the story.
And even if you learn that his story
is true and that he has drawn plank
in LIES marriage lottery, you sh9 quo
look at the matter from large, Just
standpoint. and realize that were ne
quite manly and noble and worth Wnlle
he would not be talking TO you about
domestic infelicities. It would be SAD
and tragic for him to discuss them
And you will find that you are not
the only one TO whom he talks
run away with you and causing you TO
go out to lunch and dinner with MIN.
in order to more fully show how very
much you are his friend, suppose you
try to put his feet back on the path
that leads to his own door.
Give Him This Advice.
Urge him to begin over; to start
anew wooing his wife as he first wooed
her. and to attempt rebuilding MS oId
Eden. Tell him you think II would
unusual than to follow the very COM
mOnplace pathway of pursuit of young
er women. Get rid, at once, OF any
idea you may hold that the position
Of confidential friend and sympathetic
adviser to an unhappily married man IS
unique or unusual
If you were to inquire OF twenty self
supporting young women of your i'm
mediate circle, and were they to an
swer YOU frankly. seventeen of them
would tell you of having occupied
similar position at one time or an
other. There is no need for you to
anger or antagOnize the men who want
you to sympathize with them.
Laugh Them Out of 1t.
| It will be easier and just as effective
! if you laugh them out of their serious
attempts
A sense of humor Will help you
greatly in this matter. Lacking this.
you can give them to understand, IN a
pleasant manner. that you are busy
young woman, out in the world to
make living, and that every moment
YOU are working for a salary you feel
should be given to business
But Whatever your method, make up
your mind to avoid the none too satts-
factory, safe OF agreeable office OF
! Sympathetic friend" Of the disap-
pointed Benedict
II has proven more than once to be
an fnsurmountable obstacle to the POSI-
ton of loved and respected wife later
| in life