Lincoln County leader. [volume] (Toledo, Lincoln County, Or.) 1893-1987, 1910-02-04
Rules Of Guidance Far Less Strin-
gent than They Were a Cen
GRAFTON Ago.
oUR Etiquette IS cHLEeNe
Dining With Young Men, Shopping
and Attending B1eheIors' Enter
tainnsnts Unehapsronsd-

WITH possible dissent from few
conservatives # seems TO be under
stood that young American women
moving In good society have now more
freedom IN their association with the
other seI than did their mothers. and
one of these mothers In commenting
on the set Of rules drawn up by edues~
tors for the young women Of Japan
governing their relations with the
male ser remarked that they were not
unlike the rules governing the conduct
under similar circumstances Of any
well brought up American girl, says
q writer in the New York Sun.
1T may have been that way once"
said her friend. ~Present-day rules
are far less prohibitory. Take for In
stance that cautioning against com
municating directly with a man and
advising Don't open yourselves let
ters which you have received from
stranger remember quite well when
in any wellregulated New York fam
ily young daughter was expected TO
a
man to her mother or chaperon at
once, and II was quite correct for
mothers to open their young daugh-
tsrs' letters.
Wouldn't Open Daughters Letters.
Were TO open my daughters let
ters she would be simply furious,
admit, and I should consider It a great
bore to be Obliged to read all the notes
she gets from young men," said the
woman who had first spoken. AT
Newport last summer occasionally
would find my daughter absent on a
motor or a yachting party with inti-
mate friends or of to play tennis or
look at ball game without saying as
much as by your leave and in every
case II was all right. Naturally there
were young men in the party or young
men Joined the party. but Invariably
married women chaperons we're IN
cluded, 80 saw no particular reason
why should have been consulted.
IAN introduction to young man at
an entertainment in a private house II
considered a guaranty that he Is O
proper person to know. Calling there
fore some morning thereafter on 9
young woman and asking her to &c
to the tennis courts or golf links fol
game, the young woman, II sht
pleases, consents without consultin,
q chaperon.
There has been noticeable relaxing
in recent years. It is said. Of the onc'
stringent rule against two young per
sons OF opposite sex driving togethe
without a chaperon--a rule which a
one time applied even to engaged cou
pies. The actions Of popular younl
daughter OF q certain exceedingly ga.
and popular matron Of Newport AM
other resorts had something to d.
with II. The girl, in her dubutant
year and months before her engage
ment to one Of the wealthiest youni
men in the country was announced
really shocked some Of her mother
friends by flying past in the youni
mans dogcart or runabout, the tw'
laughing like children and evidentl.
enjoying themselves hugely.
Bachelors Entertainments.
"a generation ago there was no nee'
for rules relating TO visiting bachelo
quarters, for the reason that few bach
elors then entertained in quarter
equipped with tea table and other stu
.dIo appurtenances. whereas now bach
~elors entertainments are consldere'
among the plsssantest In the summe
program. It goes without saying tina
these affairs are always chaperoned
even II the chaperons are more apt {
he very young than very old matron'
In this respect some Of us mothers se
room for imDrovement"