El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-11-25

ITO YOU. madam, the wife and
mother, l address myself You
- may have no need Of my Ie-
marks; they may not apply to YOU III
they do you will know it, whether YOU
confess il or not But / am quite GER
tain you will be able to think Of some
one or more of your acquaintances IL
whom they will apply
The type of woman l am writing
about today exists everywhere She IS
in the ultra-fashionable circles, she is
to be found over the washtubs in the
tenements, and she prevails largely IN
the space between the two extremes.
In the country, where women do their
own work have found her numerous
". and in villages and towns where
she keeps one or several domesticsr
she also exists.
1t makes no difference whether she
is rich or poor, fortunate or unfortu-
nate. When woman has allowed
herself to become a petty tyrant in
disposition, she will find cause and
occasion to exercise her peculiar al
ents to make everybody about her mis-
cradle. no matter what her surround
ings. OF course, selfishness is ut the
root of it. Yet perhaps you are wo-
man who keeps your family mis- cradle
mentally, yet you tell me. that You are
unselfish.
You do the work of a domestic TO
save your husband the expense because
he is not prosperous in money matters
and you do all the sewing for the coll
dren. and you deny yourself comforts
for the sake of the family. in order
that the husband and children may
enjoy luxuries. perhaps
The Effect Spoiled.
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enjoy those luxuries when you tell
them 20 times a week how you have
saved and shaved for their sakes? Why
have YOU not the good sense TO see that
they would be happier il YOU took life
easy and smiled at them and let them
work and save for you? They would
rather a thousand times do this. AMI
see a happy, cheerful face about IN"
home, and hear loving words and hope
full talk, than to see the deSpa1rlnS
face you carry about, and to hear your
never-ending tale of toll and sacrifice
You pretend to be a Christian. l pre-
sumo. but the woman who is always
describing her own good actions, and
who makes everybody about her utter
" wretched by her constant references
to her sacrifices for their sake, Is no
Christian Christ will be ashamed TO
own her when she gets out Of her
body.
You say you want your family to
appreciate what you are doing. and YOU
are obliged to remind your husband
and children OF your unselfish laborS
and economies or they would take
them as Q matter of course after
while. Let me answer you. madam,
that nobody ever appreciated favor
of which he was reminded every day in
the week by the doer and to talk
about your favors to others is as bad
or worse than forgetting others favors
bestowed on you.
discontinue your labors for your
family for a while if you think the
members do not appreciate you. Lie
down and read. and be cheerful AMI
amiable and affectionate, and see how
quickly husband and children Will
spring to your aid
This is a far better way of getting
attention than by demanding 1t.
Must Be First.
The woman tyrant has an idea that
she must always be first in everything
In the consideration of each member
of her household. l have known her
sat for an hour with their daughter
and a girl friend who had just re-
turned from boarding school. while the
mother was writing letters in another
room.
She was accustomed 10 having her
husband come at once to her side when
he returned from business. and she
considered it a slight and a lack o.