The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1910-08-25
THE MIT7EN C0DE
Brief Rules For the Guidance Of
Unfavored Suitors.
WHAT TO DO WHEN REJECTED
Always Try to Parry the Blow With a
Ready Reply, Because Staring In Re.
prosohfuI Silence Gives the Lady a
Chance to Change Her Mind.

usually because the lady thinks she
knows better.
To comport ones self fittingly when
rejected is no easy matter. The young
beginner is advised to give some
thought to his next move In the event
of his proposal being declined. To
stand staring in reproachful silence
displays lack of savior faire and
incidentally gives the lady chance to
change her mind.
The really nice young man when re-
jected inclines to gloom. The average
young man takes up an attitude of
sprightliness. To display relief when
rejected may not seem in the best
taste. but II girl has refused you
that Is sufficient evidence that she has
no taste at all.
Let us consider the method OF the
really nice young man. He hints at n
broken heart--a picturesque but i'm
probable happening. He asks IL there
is no hope. Always he speaks I'm ''low
tone" There Is the authority of the
best fiction for this. Apparently he
never shouts his query from the door
steps as he Is departing. He men,
tons suicide In noncommital way
and eventually takes his leave with
one last fond, lingering look at her.
one can only hope he does not spoil
the dramatic value of his exit by trip
ping over the doormat.
So much for the really nice young
man. The average young man has q
variety of methods for keeping his end
up In the event of being rejected. He
imparts an air of levity to the proceed
ings which must be distinctly Irritating
when one is expecting time honored
references TO fractured hearts and
bllghted hopes.
Copying the average young man. you
may therefore when rejected laugh
heartily and then remark:
"Well, but, joking apart, isn't the
weather beautlful?"
There is something about this formu.
In which prevents the waste of any
emotion except annoyance.
Another gambit in taking refusals is
TO smile with satisfaction and say the
simple words
II winw
While the damsel is puzzing ont
what the words may mean you can ef-
feet your escape.
In the event of an emphatic refusal
you can always ask smillngly:
How did you guess l was jollying?"
An effective way TO prevent a lady
promising TO be sister to you Is TO
get there first by promising to be son
TO her, and you can follow 1t up by
saying:
"Oh, well, / must be getting along.
I've got another call to make"
There Is subtlety about this remark
which enables you to take your leave
quite easily.
say something at once. If after her
mo" you think you have been silent
overlong, assume n puzzled look and
say;
LET me see-what were we talking
aboutT
Should the girl give reasons for re.
fusing you Ymark:
Yes, that's just what Jane Jones
said last month when ] proposed to
her"
1t may happen that the lady answers
your proposal thus;
"No. Harold. | can never be yours.
I am afiianced to another"
The best thing TO do to avoid ex-
| posurc of your disappointment Is TO cx-
| claim:
"Yes, knew that when asked
you"
Another formula when rejected lies
| In taking list of names from your
pocket. consulting It and remarking:
You're Miss Susan Smith, aren't
you?'
| Then you put q tick against the
name. sigh relievedly and take your
leave.
If you have come primed to say
"Thank you. Harriet; you have made
me the happiest man In all the world" /"
in answer to her acceptance there is
no reason why you shouldn't say IL in
reply to her refusa'
In the event of receiving refusal
by letter pretend that you did not get
It, This has n dlsQuieting effect. Or
if you want TO get even wait till she
questions you about it and then say
with every symptom of glad relief:
"Oh, that letter was from you, was
III couldn't quite make out the sig
nature. and ! thought 1t was from
some one else on Il similar matter"
A sportive remark Is permissible
sometimes when one is refused with
lofty contempt;
"fhat's all right. old girl Truth Is
only asked you because l was feeling
bit sorry for you"
The main point is TO be ready witted
enough to keep yoyr hat and stick In
your hand. DO not leave the house
whistling. though. II prevents you
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