The Fargo forum and daily republican. [volume] (Fargo, N.D.) 1894-1957, 1910-10-22

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money to advancing humanity in gem
eral, too often forget to sweep around
their own doorsteps-so eager are they
for the wider field of action.
| Just take a day off and size your
self up as you wish to appear to those
most intimately associated with you,
and then be honest with that inner
self and try to see how wou really APP
peared during the past week in your
toffice and in your home. Go over each
detail OF the day and see how much
your domestic self and your office self
compare with yourself in the business
and social world
Il would never know you were the
same man that you are in your home"
said an unusually frank woman to
man in his office once. He was one of
those men who hate society and whose
wife was social favorite He had
admired her social charms Perhaps
he had even married her for them, but
as soon as she belonged to him he
wanted to retire from the world. The
old instinct Of the cave man still sur
wives In many of our contemporaries.
and he was one of those in whom the
home is the place for women" idea
was firmly rooted. So he was sullen
and taciturn when in the society of
her friends. In his own world of bus
ineEs he was affable and courteous
He had not played fair to her. They
lived widely divergent lives and today
are as lonely and miserable as two old
people can well be and live.
Search your life and heart-man or
woman. See what you really are. Have
the courage to see and laugh at your
own mistakes-and resolve not to re-
peat them. Be keen enough. and hon
est enough, to realize that your pose
is absurd and come out into the clear
light of self conviction of the mistakes
you have made. A man is not wholly
irredeemable who can laugh at his own
mistakes--and never repeat them.
Women are not exempt from the kind
OF blindness which has a keen vision
for the faults of others and a blind
side which they turn toward their own
acts. They are quick to see and criti-
else even those they love the most, and
keener and quicker still to find faults
in those who are merely part OF their
social world. Be honest in your self
analysis. Make no more excuses for
yourself and your petulant acts than
you would for another. See how you
looked to husband or children and be
ashamed OF iii hunor you have dis
played. Be honest-that is the most
difficult part OF your trial by jury" of
one. 1t is so difficult not to forgive
your own mistakes while bearing down
hard on those Of others.
Be as pleasant TO your husband as
you would IL he were still the young
lover whose admiration you longed to
win Don't you know that you are
going to have to live with him through
long years and that You will have many
miserable day If you do not keep the
respect and love which he has given
you as a wooer? Have you done all
you could to make him happy while
retaining your own self-respect? 1t is
not well to make a slave or a syco.
lphant of yourself, but 1t is wise to be
fair in the game. Just as you expect
fairness.
| Honestly, after you have turned your
little RACES and sharp speeches over in
your mind, were you not rather ridicu-
llous? Did you not look like a common
street scold or an oyerbearing bully ?
DO you like the view OF yourself from
the real point Of view that counts with
those who live with you? Think it
over and see IL you would not like to
place another picture over the one inn
lpressed on the mental sensitive plates
of those who live with you? 1t Is not
Itoo late today. but tomorrow may find
lit q bad day for taking pictures. The
sun does not always shine just right.
| This Is your hour.