The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1910-03-17
EVENING CHAT
By RUTH CAMERON.
Do most men like forward girls?

Do most men like forward girls?
How I wish that all the poor, fool
ish young girls in the world who snow
by their forward ways that they ans
wer that in the affirmative. could lis
ten to me and believe me when I tell
them that they are thousand times
wrong.
A day or two ago I received a letter
from someone who seemed to be a
school boy, or perhaps young man
Just out of school.
He did not say much about himself,
but from the handwriting and from
the way the letter was written / am
pretty sure he was nice average,
honest and yet not at all priggish,
young chap. Just the kind I'm sure
that all my young girls hope will come
to them some day and ask them to
share a little white cottage with him.
And what do you suppose he want
ed?
Just that I should try to make
young girls realize that most young
men-however they may pretend to
feel-as matter of fact are simply
Disguised by forward girls.
BY forward don't mean-and I
don't think he neant-actually bad.
He just meant the kind of girl who
runs after all the boys in school, who
makes eyes at boys on the street cor
ner, who fiirts desperately on the
sleigh ride, who invents obvious pre-
lenses to call up her boy friends on
the telephone and even calls up boys
she doesn't know and talks to them;
meanings, and who is even not
ashamed of picking up a man on
the car or street. a
Dear girls, you are losing something
besides your self respect when you do
this sort of thing. You are also TAX
ing the surest way to lose % that for
which you are so ardently seeking
the admiration and love of the other
SEX
For the men you firt with, or call
up on the telephone or permit to "pick
you, up or in any way run after,
though they pretend to admire you,
in nine cases out of ten they really
despise you.
You may say that being a woman I
don't know what I'm talking about.
Then listen to this sentence from my
boys letter.
''I have a brother in the high school
and I think there is not day goes
by but some girl calls him up. He
doesn't like it, but he listens to them
and 'jollies' them, which seems to
please them very much
How far from pleased the girls
at the other end of the line would feel
if they knew what this boy probably
said of them after he hung up the
receiver.
Caddish of him?
I don't think So BY their conduct
they had absolved him from respect
ing them.
I don't believe most women realize
how much men-not just good men,
but all men-respect and admire and
fall in love with goodness in a woman.
Whatever they are themselves, they
want their women folk to be good.
I once asked a rather dissipated
man of the world what was the quail
ity he wanted most in a wife, and he
answered instantly. Goodness
Dear girls, sometimes I know it
seems to you that the bold, forward
girl is liked and admired and courted
while the seIf-respecting girl is left
alone to wend her weary way towards
old maidenhood.
But don't believe it! For it isn't so.
Men enjoy flirting with the for
ward girl to be sure, but it's the nice
girl they ask to make the little white
cottage q Heaven for two.
l believe that this boys feelings are
a fair sample of the attitude of his
sex. and that it not only is right to
be self-respecting, but it also pays"