Arizona republican., 1910-09-25

There was nothing feigned about my Chinese husband. As my union l with James Carson had meant misery | and bitterness, 90 my union with Liu 3 Kanllhi meant on the whole happi- ness, health and development Yet } the former, according to American ideas, had been an educated and broadminded man. the other just an
 ordinary Chinaman.
 But the ordinary Chinaman I want
 to show you was the sort of man
 whom children. birds. animals and
 some women love. My little girl lOv-
 ed him better than she loved me
 "Once tho baby got hold of a set
 rat trap and was holding it in such 2
 way that the slightest move would
 have released the spring and plunged the cruel teeth into her arm. Kanghi's | eyes and mine saw her at the same moment 1 stood transfixcd with hor TOT. Kanghi went quietly up to the child and took from her the trap | Then he asked for me to release his hand from the teeth. I almost faint ] ed when I saw it.
 It was the only way, he said.
 
 was keen business man. this Liu Kanghi. and I imagine that he was. I did not, however, discuss his busi- ness with him. He never seemed to have any desire to talk over the sales and figures with me. and I'm sure I had not. All I was interested in were the pretty things and the women who would come in and jest with him. He | could jest too.
 Of course the women did not know that I was his wife. once a woman in rich clothes gave him her card and asked him to call upon her. He hand ! ed me the card after she left l tore it up. He took these things as mat ter of course and was not affected by them. They are part of Chinatown l life he explained.
 He was q member of the Reform club, a Chinese social club and the 1 Chinese Board of Trade. He liked to 1 discuss business affairs and Chinese and American politics with his coun ! trymen and occasionally enjoyed an | evening away from me; but l never needed to worry about him. | He had his littlenesses as well as | thought he knew better about what was good for my health and other things purely personal than l did my self, and if my ideas opposed or did not tally with his he would very wig orously denounce what he called the foolishness of women If he admired certain dress he would have me wear it on every occasion possible and did not seem to be able to under stand that it was not always fit
 Wear the dress with the silver lines he said authoritatively to me one day
 ''I was attired for going out, but not as he wished to see me. l answer ed that the dress with the silver lines | was not suitable for a long and dusty 1 drive on an open car.
 Never mind" said he. whether it | is suitable or not l wish you to l wear it
 "'AIl right I said, I will wear it, but I will stay at home. I stayed at home and so did he.
 Sometimes he talked of returning | to China The thought filled me with | horror I heard the wives of Chinese
  ernoon the cousin of Liu Kanghi. l with whom had once lived, came to see me and showed me a letter which she had received from a little Chinese girl who had been born and brought up in America until the age of ten
 The last paragraph in the letter read: Emma and I are very sad and wish we were back in America Kanghis cousin explained that the father of the little girls. having m sons. had taken to himself another wife, and the new wife lived with the little girls and their mother.
 That was before my little boy was born. That evening l told Kanghi that he need never expect me to ac- company him to China.
 "'Very we'll said he soothingly. We will neither of us go'
 You sec I began. sobbing hys- terically, I look upon you as belong ing to me
 He wouldn't let me say anymore. After a while he said: Tn China. it is true, a man may and occasionally 2 custom is custom not only because sons are denied to the first wife but because the first wife is selected by parents and guardians before man is hardly a man. If a Chinese man marries for love his life is a filled cup and he wants no secondary wife, not even for the sake of a son. Take, for example. me. your great husband
 'I sometimes commented upon his boyish ways and appearance. which was the reason why when he was in high spirits he would call himself my great husband He was not boyish always. I have sen him when shoul dering the troubles of kinfoIk tue quarrels of his clan and other respon acting and looking like a man of twice his years.
 But for all these strangs marriage customs of my husbands people I looked upon them as far more moral :. in their lives than the majority of Americans. I expressed myself thus to Liu Kanghi. and he replied: The . American people think higher If only more of them lived up to what they thought the Chinese would not be so confused in trying to follow , their leadership
 If ever a man rejoiced over the ,