Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1910-05-13

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disposition. In that way she viii be
doing practical work toward broaden
iES Womankind. Let her be brave and
! courageous in her treatment of other
women. and prove by her actions that
she has the courage of her convictions.
Tor that is the quality most needed by
woman today.-Ella Wheeler Wilcox in
Exchange.
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The Recipient Grateful.
What pity there is no school for train.
ing girls how to receive a gift There
Is an art i'll being a graceful recipient
ana lew there be who possess it.
Have you never given a present that
YOU heartily wished back before the
StrnSs are cut on the wrapper? If not,
you nave never met the girl who looks
WHen you hand her gift as if you were
doing her an insult
Gratitude may be intense but the re-
Gip!eht has not learned to look her part.
IerAapS shyness, or lack of ease is to
nldihe, but results are as unpleasant as
though the girl really were furious that
you dared to give her Il present
Equally trying IS the girl who takes
SiftS as matter of course. Her thank
you 5 80 perfunctOry and she shows
Such palpable lack of interest as to the
contents OF the parcel, that again you
WISH your money back in your purse
orse yet is she who is gushing until
she sees what you have given her. then
lets her countenance and her voice both
snow her disappointment. 1t is an en-
harrasslng moment all round and this
time you actually begrudge that gift
There is the girl who appears grateful
b"'h before and after viewing, but the
next minute dIspoSes Of your gift 50
cafeieSSIy that you realize that her
gratitude is from the lips only
Or that other girl whose banners are
oetler than her memory. You think, at
last have | made < hit so gracIously
ana gratefully is your present received.
In the course of an hour you have the
pleasure of hearing her declare your gift
rather It's type-the ole thing she can
not stand.
OF course, it is unconscious and the
E!ri when she realizes her break is
hOpelesSly embarrassed. but once more
you wish you hadn't been so generous.
And the other girl who regulates her
thanks on the value basis. She takes on
a marked increase Of gratitude so soon
as she can spot the Sterling. or can by
Il Surreptitious lick taste pure gold
Who of us has not been half thanked
for some novelty that girl does not
know is the latest wrinkle" 1t is not
until some more sophisticated friend
raves over the new possession that
decent amount of gratitude can be sum
mOned.
Then if the girl is not especially clever
she shows her hand by gushing that
makes you long to slap her for the
covert insult to your good taste and
knowledge of fashion.
Worse than to be half Il anked is to
be over thanked. There are girls who
fairly slather thanks. They rave I'M
meanlngly and increasingly until you
know they cannot possibly mean it. If
you cannot doubt their sincerity, so
wearing is the gratitude and such bad
form that you secretly determine not to
bring down such an avalanche again.
The recipient graceful does not over
do, She is cordial not ELUSIVE; is CRATE
ful for the thought rather than the gift;
can conceal disappointment even in the
face of atrOciOus taste; above all, does
not act as if she were comforting Il
favor on the giver by accepting her
presents.
Some girls err in this respect by think
ing it shows an Independent spirit to
hold back when a gift is made or a IA
yor is offered. They say, Il cannot pos
silly accept such tlfing! Oh l couldn't
let you spend all that on me-
What such girls need is for the giver to
some time take them at their word and
withdraw the gift. Their boosted indie
peudence would suffer n sudden collapse
and their manners would improve.
The girl who must be most careful to
he a graceful recipient is she who has
wealthy friends. The poor and proud
spirit can be overdone to the point Of
actual brutality. While a nice girl can
not afford to sponge she should not re-
fuse TO her friends what is often their
greatest pleasure-the making of pres
ents that girl could not afford to buy
1t is sometimes hard for the receiver.
truth must admit. Favors are not al
ways as tactfully offered as they are
well meant but unless the donor is in
sufferably patronizing the spirit not the
manner of the giving should be taken
into account.
There are times when one is excusable
for not being Il graceful receiver If
there is any hint Of a purpose in the Civ
ing; if the slightest faint of graft is suS-
pected; if by receiving girl places her
self under ill-advised obligations, she
should refunse to be a recipient at ALL
Helen Bruce Wallace.
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The Uncounted Housewife
The advance census schedules to be
filled out by householders contains the
following paragraph among its instruc-
tons as to the way questions shall be
answered;
The occupation, if any, followed by a
woman or child, applies to women and