El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-09-06

Ella Wheeler Wilcox, a heart ex-
pert, If there is one. has recently
/ made he Stating aecI4-'.-.or that
men love better than women, and that,
| in fact. a woman is not capable OF a
| profound affection.
1 beg to take issue with my dfstin-
guished friend on this point. I be-
lieve that 1t is woman whose love Is
exhaustless as the seas. as undying as
the fixed stars of heaven, Snd thal III
comparison mans love is like a sum
mer zephyr that can be started by q
fan that kisses a cheek for a moment,
and then vanishes IN sigh.
This great truth has been put into
AN immortal phrase by Byron, who. de-
Mans love is Of mans life a thing
apart.
It's woman's whole existence"
And this opinion has been backed up
by all the poets from time immemoriaI.
who have sung the fickleness of man,
and the constancy of woman.
What are the proofs of love?
Loyalty and NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS.
-self-sac rifice. These are the acid
tests that we must apply to affection
TO find out whether 1T is pinchbeck or
pure gold. Words are nothing. Any
body can mouth aflS of devotion
that are nothing but empty air. 1t is
deeds that count, and if you measure
love by what it is willing to bear and
suffer for an adOred object by its pa
thence and its humility, by/its divine
forgiveness, and by the miracle by
which 1t glorifes some commonplace
object into the semblance of a god,
then, who can deny that woman's
power of loving, is infinitely greater
than mans?
Whether, at the time Of maria ge.
the bridegroom is more romantically
in love with the bride than She is with
him does not matter. It is vouchsafed
to the shallowest hearted of us to at
least glimpse the grande passion. The
thing that counts is the endurance Of
love, its ability to survive the illusions
of matrimony and bloom like a green
oasis in the arid desert of household
bills. and petty economies. of sickness.
and nerves. and crying babies. and q
Finding out that the party of the other
part is not an angel. or a mantic
hero, but a very ordinary and human
man or woman.
Woman's love is strong enOue-b 70 do
this Mans love seldom is
The statistics of the divorce court
are unanswerable on this point. Wo-
men obtain more than three-fourths
OF the divorces, and most Of these di-
vorces are granted because of unfaith-
fulness on the husbands part. In view
of this state Of affairs. and the fact
THAI men comparatively seldom charge
their wives with unfaithfuIness. does
1t not look as if wOman's love was
stronger than mans?
Nor is this all. One of the most pa
thatic things in the world IS the spec
r4RtO lit
women starving themselves half to
death and msrtyrizing themselves with
rooliSh clothes. and by affecting
sprightliness AMI youthfulness in or
der to try TO keep their middle aged
husbands in love with them Retain
ing husbands love- is the technical /
phrase they use. but you never see a /
fat bald headed man of so putting
himself TO any trouble or inconvenience |
to try to look young and gay to retain |
his wife's love
What Woman Does for Love.
This shows that women recognize
that a mans love is a fleeing and /
4phemeral thing that has to be cosser-
led and cared for. and handled tenderly
II one would keep it. whereas, men
know that wifes love is like a house
cat that You can't drive away. no
matter how you starve It and beat it
LOOK also at what woman will do !
-or love. She will get up and follow a
nan to the ends of the earth; she will
-orsake home. and friends and kim
ired; she will endure poverty and
want and hardships, and ask nothing
n return but just a little affection
ust the right to love. but do you know
my man who would be willing to do
hese things for a woman? Don't all
answer at once. please No. 1 don't
either.
Every day you see women who love
men we'll enough to offer I'D their
whole lives as sacrifice just on the
'are chance that they may be able to +
lelp some worthless drunkard. or roue.
IT gambler reform, but you don't OBJ ,
erve any large number Of men whose
evotfon to weak and unfortunate wo-
nen prompt them to marry these wo-