El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-09-05
IL - L. Loving Husband

, dealing with her is not so great as that
of the woman who has married but
terfly man. Because there are no bars
/ 10 keen him in. no limit set to his flight.
The whole variegated garden R pleas
ure is free TO him, and so one may Well
pity the woman who has the task be
fore her Of keeping him lowering
/ around the flowers that grow in his own
{ door yard
One of Two Ways Open to Her.
Such a wife has her work cut out for
/ her, and but one Of two courses is open
! to her. She can throw up her hands in
the very beginning. and say to herself
] that the game is not worth the candle,
and let him go his own way without
worrying about him, while she goes
! hers. Or she may shut her teeth and
trip the light fantastic toe, in step with
! him, down the long years.
But the thing she can't do is to
change him. She can't convert her gay,
painted, butterfly into an Industrious.
sober-minded dray horse that will
strain cOntentedly on the domestic col
lar.
Women have had to conform TO
mems ideals for so many thousands of
generations that they have acquired the
ability to practically make themselves
over TO suit the kinds of husbands they
marry. Men have not this adaptability-
A man cannot change himself, II he
would, to please a woman; and he
would not, If he could.
This makes it necessary for every
wife to deal with her husband on his
own platform, and to accept him as he
is; and this is particularly true of the
light-minded man. Therefore the wo-
man who marries gay and pleasure
loving man had as well recognize at the
start that he is bound to have amuse-
ment and lively people about him, and
he is going to do it, and that she merely
quarrels with fate and courts disaster
when she denies him the brightness and
laughter that he wants, and breaches
to him duty.
She turns herself, for him, into
school Mistress mentor, killjoy
and q reproach; and he will escape
from her at the first opportunity, and
fly TO those who take life as debo-
nairly as he does.
It is no use for a wife to represent
the solemn responsibilities Of matrimo-
ny to such a man, because the very
way TO make him break away from
matrimOny is to cause him to feel that
it is a yoke.
It is futile for the wife to reproach
him with her loneliness when he stays
away from her, because there is moth
ing of which he has such a horror as
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the more he would flee from her. :,
Nor can she hope to appeal 10 him
by her tears, because every instinct in
his nature drives him away from a
weeping and hysterical foman who
makes scenes.
The only weapon in the whole armo-
~ of the wife of the gay and pleasure
brightest, freest, gayest spot he can
find, and go with him in his search
for pleasure. She must hold him, if
she wants him. by keeping the lights
always burning at full tilt, the corks
always popping and the pianola al
ways going.
The kind of people that he associates
with may not be the sort that she ap-
proves or likes, but. at any rate. it is
better for him to see them in his own
house than elsewhere The amusements
he seeks may not appeal to her taste, |
but she can keep her hold on him as
long as she goes along with him, and |
she couldn't if he went alnoe. And, at !
the worst, wife is a chaperon who ]
can protect her husband to a large ex-
tent.
Probably there is no other woman in |
the world who has to work so hard |
and sacrifices herself so much as the !
wife Of the butterfly man. She never |
dares to be sick, because her husband |
only admires women who look fresh and
tit She has to pretend to a gaiety that |
she often does not feel. because he is |
bored by seriousness. She must always |
be ready to gad-to go to the theater, |
the baseball, the polo game-because he |
must be constantly diverted
She must be willing to get I'D i'm |
promptu meals, because he is always in |
viting unexpected company. Often she /
must give up her home and its sweet |
privacy to live in hotel. because he |
likes the glare and glitter of public life. /
she must automobile or sail or golf. or 1
pray tennis-no matter how weary-if I
he has passion for outdoor sports; or !
else he will find more congenial com
panion. and get kidnapped, for the pleas
ure loving man is never anything but a !
big baby, who must be taken care of.
To keep such a man amused is 2 hard !
and laborious life. for his wife but il IL
the price Of keeping him; and the wife's
problem is whether he is worth the
trouble or not