El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-08-24
Dorothy Dix O. s! Som: Causes e. Of +

plans their little home that it is no Won
| der that he believes that he is getting
| a household angel
Is it any wonder when these two~peo-
pie get married, and an&drop the lovely
| macques that they have been holding up
other as they really are, that there
! should be trouble? I once heard a wO-
man say that she felt as II she were a
/ bigamist, because the man she was
j married 10 was so different from the
man that she thought she was marry
/ ing Without doubt, the majority OF
/ marriages might be annulIed on the
/ ground that a different bride or bride
/ grpom was substituted at the altar.
/ for the one that the man or woman
/ thought he or she was marrying
II marriage is a failure because men
and women deceive each other as to
| what they really are. Il is also failure
/ because men and women do not deal
honestly with each other in regard to
/ the conditions of matrimony 1t is as
You may say. a skin game in which
neitheS the principals nor the prospec-
tus is on the level
Hand-Fainted Dream.
When a man is counting a girl in
speaking Of their future life he deals
in gfittering generaIitfeS He may tell
her that he is poor and that they will
have tOlive in q. vine-wreat Their cottage
and the girl translates this TO mean
about a SIS a month suburban home.
full OF white enamelIed furniture and
rOse-Strewn chintzes-the real import
ed English kind. you know
He doesn't come down to brass tacks
as he should, and say: Look here,
MaGde. If you marry me You viii have
10 live in fOur-rOomed flat in Harlem.
and do your own cooking, and make
your own hats and dresses. and scrap
with the butcher. and inch and pinch
and scrinch. and have no amusement
except my society and 8 walk in the
park on Sundays Now. do you think
you love me enough to pass up every
thing else for the Joy of being at my
side?'
Nor does a girl give a man chance
TO Withdraw on the safe side of the altar
by telling him that she is one of the
Hght-minded. frivolous sort of women
that has got to have fine clothes, no
matter If she works her husband TO
death or drives him to stealing TO get
them, and that she is a charter mem
Der Of the race suicide club. and that
she means TO devote her life to bridge
instead OF babies
When the Showdown Comes.
Is it any wonder that, when a man
marr1es the woman who has led him to
oeileVe that she is one thing. and finds
out that she is another. he falls out OF
love with her? Is it any marvel that.
when the woman who thought she was
marrying man who was perfect low
err discovers that she is united TO
grinding tyrant, she ceases to care for
him? Is it surprising that matrimony
that must be lived under conditions
that they never bargain sbr is full OF
d1s1llusions 10 both men and women?
Nor need any one throw up his hands
IN horror when such people complain
TO the divorces court. The wonder is
that all of the Tlim-fIam couples do
not Squeal, and that so many duped.
deceived men and women are dead game
sports, who stand by their sorry bar
gains to the end.
One of the great remedies for the d.
vorce evil would be for men and women
who are thinking OF getting married TO
try 70 deal honestly by each other, and
by themselves, in the days Of courtship.