Norwich bulletin., 1910-04-30
THE MAN WHO TALKS

How curiousIy the plans of men I work I have a bachelor friend who never expected to spend a1is days in , co1dly practical, but he was. He made | up his mind early in life that he would , never have a wife until he could af- ford to maintain one. so, as he 1 requirement. of a competence His
 plans worked well until he was able 1 to take a partner. and then he looked l at his pile of stocks and bonds and de- cided that he did not need any one to 1 help him spend even the income Of 1t. He was welded to his pile of gold and could not divorce himself. If he had
 been blessed with wife who had
 helped him save it aN would have been
 well; but he never had thought of a
 helpmeet-only of the fashion plate Of
 the parlor who exemplifies style
 Tho reason men do not know them
 selves better is either because they
 haven't time to get acquainted, or do
 nnateIy. It is profitable for man to sit down and size himself up, if it not real pleasant When a man gets into
 the mood to try to see himself as oth- CTS see him. and goes at it in earnest, the result is always a. heavy blow to his vanity. Man really prefers to lose l himself in his little vfces-to indulge
 in pipe-drearns. There is no life more real or earnest than a life of self f-ex- animation and correction-the hardest battle to fight il the fight with self 1 You haven't tried it! Only few men 1 have, and those who have and kept it 1 up have no time to annoy or cr1dcise others.
 It is never safe to judge woman's 1 intellect by the number of rings she
 wears or the size of her bonnet, any more than it is a mans by the cut of his Jib. or the curl of his n1oustache 1 Superfcialities never read deep, how
 There is where taste dweils-not where | wisdom resides. Vulgarity often sits 1 in Tastes place and tries to be it
 ence between good taste and vulgarity any better than they do the difference between notoriety and fame. We hu- | mans get considerably mixed in these 1 matters, not because it Is difficult to
 distinguish, but because we yield more
 to the glare of things than is their due. 1 The person who always has a care l may be set down as sagacious.
 It would be well for city high bucks if they knew more about agriculture.
 Some classes appear to think that | sowing wild oats is sane and safe practice for young nlen-yea, neces- 1 sary settler for youth, as salt fish skin
 is a. good settler in the coffee pot; but
 the folly of mixing old rye with the
 oats cat is apparent & enough to all S szcept
 
 together would make a mess of the | field, and it makes mess of life 1 Burning the candle at both ends is not more wasteful of light than mixing | wild oats with rye is of life. The man 1 who is a good mixer is said to win he wouldn't if he mixed like that. Old l rye is too old a prohigrate for youth I to play with. He is older than Me
 thuselah and is still imposing funeral expenses on others.
 I Some folks like to touch others. on 1 their sore spots. and such people are | full of trouble because they find an. | unnatural joy in irritating others. 1 They would be offended if one should venture to say that they were cruel, that they lack the finer qualities which
 make companionable man or woman. l Some married partners begin this
 habit for fun and 1t usually ends in 1 sorrow. Because they think 1t fool | ish for the taunted party to be angry 1 is poor excuse for distressing others. | It may be even more foolish to con- l elude that it does sensitive people be gentle, and gentleness always man l ifests the keenest consideration for others
 readers of this column that there are | too many people who spend half their time in telling what they are going to do. and the othsr half in explaining
 
 i wonders. just as do you and I, why man doesn't make more progress in this world. Men are too shy about 1 making footprints for themselves, and follow in the other fellows. A great 1 many men who think that they are leaders never have made any footsteps of their own-custom has made it | easier for them to just accept the ready-nade footprints-the concreted tracks of the past. The world is cry ing for men who can carry a hatchet in their belt and rifle over their shoulder and blaze new trails toward not only larger liberty but the New Jerusalem. There were giants in these days says the Good Book. We need them now!
 We do not know as much about the underdogs in life as we ought to; and when the dark side is shown to us, and We feel the guilt of having been living too much to self we wake up just enough to ask ourselves: "Am I my brothers keeper?" Then we fall to sleep again because we subscribe to the motto, Every man for himself and the devil take the hindermosai" What have we to do with people in want. or with boys who are assuming responsi- bilities of men while in their teens and undertaking to master circum- stances and achieve an ambition with insufficient nourishment, taking knocks like men and sorrows like saints-in SlIence- 1T we nAQ more 10 do with them we should recognize their pluck and heroism and make life easier for them, and the more honorable to our selves I hope everybody does not feel as cheap as I do when I realize could easily have been of service to the unfortunate and have not been-
 1t is a great achievement for any woman to get her daughter married, and married we'll, and it is something no woman ever allows herself to get caught at--an achievement for which she asks no praise, since she may ever after rest in satisfaction. A great ma jority of girls, however, manage their own matrimonial ventures and they do quite we'll Along these lines anx- ious mothers often venture to advise their girls, and a good adviser was the one who said: Daughter, let the man do the courting; never run after a man, but make him feel that you are worth coming after. If you make | yourself attractive and he really wants l you, nothing will keep him away. If you appear as prize to him you may 1 trust him to be the prize winner" This is a pretty good guide. Sailing |