The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1910-03-13
REPLYING TO INVITATIONS.
one NushsssIy ssyu ThaI the same Fer"'
Neesi Net Ne Z sesl.


The ques' ion a. ca whether invitations
given IN the third person should be ae-
ccpt-d la the third or first person often
COMES i.efore I'm, the prevailing idea being
that u ~ imperative that q note II ac-
! Cep;anC. should he written IN the same
( Kramer - il the invitation. This i'm
pTsssiu;.. according 20 the Queen. an au-
thority on Ihlsiish forEns. Is mistaken.
Invitations are lsausd.- il says. IN
the third person To all large gathering
afternoon OF evening. to garden party
"r evening party. to wedding or dance
and also to dinner parties when they are
formal: but what s necessary a. regards
inviting hundreds 81 guests falls To b@
:" when IL applies to units and merely
amounts To one note 90 acceptance IA
each ear
Having accounted Tor the reason the
third psrson IL invariably employed 10y
givsrs Of invitations. II should be said
thai u the slightest frieDdahip exists be-
tween the giver and the receiver VI an
Invitation the third person should not
he Employed by the latter In either o note
~ acceptance ar refusal it would appear
cold and unfri~ndly and over formal.
-Between slight acquaintance it IL al
iOgeu her different and they write short
notes Ina the third person a. a matter Of
course Any one who has q large ac-
ptIaintAnce In town makes uss of printed
car,is nf Acceptance ar refusal to invita-
tiurra tn dinners. receptions. weddings. &C.
Ia gh- officiAl world this h iTnpSrative-a
iorrguns conclusion a. u wero-and also
with those members OI aocisty whOee
acauaintances are numbered by many
hundreds
with those who have recourse to notes
and they are the large majority In daily
life the substance % the note " the
point To 10 considered. !, must % neces-
SHY he . brief one aud merely embodv
the rsply apa1 from other subjects 81
interest Betwe-n eight acquaintance
the usual form ~ acceptance runs thus:
Mr. and Mrs. 4 have much pleasure IN
accepting Mr. and Mrs. BIS invitation to
he present az their daughters wedding
on Tuesday. p ebruary Twenty-flrst' or
Mr. and Mrs have much pleasure IN
accepting Mr. aad MrS. B.. invitation Co
bs present a, the marriage Of their daugh-
Ter Fva with Mr.. Edward c. on Monday.
February Twenty -first'
The further particulars meltioned in
tho hour and the reception. are not re-
CURED to ~ repeA, ed in the acceptance.
Notes Of refusal. also written In the
third person. are slightly leas bFter. ~
the reason for the refusal II Dnaaibbe u
gwen. The plea Of q previous engagement
10 now .rliom advanced. and the actual
cause uf refusal 10 frankly stated. which
generally amounts 90 absence from home
uT tndiNgSoaition, a. afternoon engagement
N.anH - g
thres in numbsT. aud notes Of refusal
-Mr and Mrs. A. very much regret
they win nat BE- abs@ o, accept Mr.. and
Mr.. BE- nyitAfion 60 hs present Al the
Mr. Edward e. on Tuesday. February -.
a. they are eavinG town In q few days
and will be absent some little time
~. MIR and Mrs. 4. ara sorry to SAy they
unable ~ Ncuspt Mr.. and Mrs. v =
of their dAII ghtsT Eva with Mr. Edward Z.
"a Tuesday. February Il. on account
81 Mrs = r~Cent Illness. from which
she 10 hut slowly recovering
Notes written in the hrSt person ara
no Iss- concise. and usually run a. fol.
lows Is-ar Mr. r. My husband And
have much pleasure in accepting youv
Mud invitation TO be prvsent at the mar
rlagp 81 yOur daughter on tuesday
February a. Thn~e On more intimate
terms s'Sn-ue, Auu -, 81.
'~rhihk 'h- Inttn. ,k " - 80 Z
g'si OF thr MY" ~ ~oO""@ w WV
g".k eAaIhpis -, ,..,.A, -. ,-r;,,sr
hn," W ,.' G.rr you
a. lSiI,'N -. "a t,,.,,a'icn 20
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znNI "a ~, ~, - 80 80 -, n a. We
"" r"sH noe s..'., 49, ,h., ,-esIr'.
-. =. at,,,,,,,n, ~ m health
y. ,i-..,!-.. -, ,,,i.hs ~. thus writ
w s,. 1,'Ls e.. ~. ,r,,,,a,ion haa
-, ,,r....s.'S a., howsyer AFRAID
4 .b,n ~, H., ,v.,i snn,,Sh 10 acreut IN.
Nti''i' - w. 81 = ,,.,s al at,ack ~ IN.
s,,,,,,', "a I La,.s ~, I,aao mart ~ the
t',',,... 49, Get Nv L1,shsnd hopea to ~
,,r.ser, ana .. me TO accept for hum
49,. -, .,n,,sr.ly
~. - ac,,.,tancs aud r.fus,l II
5,nne, i-,.ita,iona are also subject Ia the
s.,ns variations that }. ~ say between
sIi,h, acnuaintancss the third p~r.on il
."s,,ioys.d and hr,w..n friends the frs,
1900 On ths.s.. occasions "A pr~yious
IN On g.,n..nt las 10 H.. plead.ci. a. II il q .
f,s,,,,.,,,t har 10 acCeptanSe The notes
in H.. thirJ ,er1on as. by.yitv itself. '
For .xamp.e. ths received form l.: MIR