Norwich bulletin., 1910-05-28
THE MAN WHO TALKS

\ THE MAN WHO TALKS | | It is a masterly accomplishment to | know how to disagree with a partner | or friend without being provoked to | quarrel There is really no need of | quarreling over differences of opinion, and there is little danger of it when | one has become confirmed in the truth i that every person has a right to his own opinion and should be respected | in it. A mans wife or child is not obliged to believe as he does; they cannot, even though they were in clined to. A rational view of life leads to tolerant spirit If not more than two persons can agree upon the incl dents of an affair that they all wit messed, and if persons of a single fam ily disagree naturally in tastes, poli- tics and religion. why should anyone think a partner or children to be Ob- ligated to see things in harmony. Agreeing to disa gree is real achieve ment and it tells for harmony and peace.
 The older l grow the more deeply I am impressed that everything that looks like responsibility is not respec- table. Respectab ability is such a pre- cious thing it is not surprising that it is counterfeited for nature coun- terfeits as well as man. All who have studied botany know that over against many useful plants are false pIants-they look like the true plants but lack some fine quality which makes their false Dretence apparent. Wherever the white slave traffic has been disclosed the sleuths always tell the public how surprised they are to find so many men of responsibility connected with it. This is a misnomer, for no man of reSpectability could for a moment tolerate with patience a thought of it. These are men who counterfeit responsibility for what there is in it for them They have no respect for the rights of the de- fenceless and none for themselves "On the sly was never respectable at any thing This is why our regular ex- hibit of responsibility is not anywhere near as grand as it seems on the face to be.
 other day: T should like to go if there are going to be nice people therel" Although I had heard that expression a thousand times it never struck me just the same before; for it seemed as meaningless anything I ever heard said. What is a nice per son, anyway? Ordinarily speaking, it is a person whose appearance and tastes harmonize with ours whether they are good indifferent or simply atrociouS. Nice people are not always pious or moral people, for they might not be nice to people of other quail IleS, or HACK Ol qIdHIY- put these DeO- pile like to meet nice people, too folks who are high flyers or high jinks-ers like themselves. And some people think sectarians and partisans of their type are nice; and on the other hand, those who are neither sec tarian nor partisan look for nice peo- pie of their caste. The world is full of nice people; but nicety is of as many mixtures and blends as Ameri- can whiskey and it would puzzle Philadelphia lawyer to define the ex- pression.
 Among the bird notes in May, like that of the golden robin best for his "chee-Wink queree-queroi" has a ringing sound about it which is char acteristic of other bird in the musical As a richly plumaged bird he is not approached except by the scarlet tanager a shy bird that it is a delight to see fit across a woodland path. Of course the goIdffnch and the bobolink and the grosbeak are all birds of fine feathers. as well as the ] hunlmirlg birds, but the robin in his agile flight looks like a bunch of sun light-a glitter of gold leaf-I am not sure that he does not knov that he is a dandy and an artist. He makes a nest as deftly as a tailor-bird, and knows how to make fast his cables as well as an expert mariner. His purse-like nest dances in the wild winds of summer with seldom a mis- hap to it or to his young He courts peril in the tops of the elms and faces every gale with a gleefuI song
 This old habit of sizing up people of taking the measure of all strangers -is older than the Egyptian pyramids and has served the human race a greater purpose. We all do 1t; but most of us are botches at it now. l can imagine, however, a day and a time when men were sharp and shrewd at it and did less injustice by this in tuitive practice than they do today. It must be admitted that the women are a little shrewder at it in this age than tine men are. This is what we call the first impression of a person and it is difficult to overcome. We all know that a first appearance Is not always best appearance, and that judgment based upon it may lead to injustice. It was doubtless begun as a safeguard and it has not wholly lost dts purpOse-it is a safeguard still; in this world are always looking as- kance at people who are better than they
 Some men marry and then conduct themselves as if they thought their ness in just looking at them, and con vince themselves that it is an honor to be permitted to go out and get trusted on their account. Perhaps you have known men who when they give their
 wives money to buy som ething for the house acted as if it was a loan. The man who has money-day for his wife hOnOrs himSelf-but the man who car ries her on his credit just huTniliates her and seldom seems to realize it. To be a partner and never have a chance to more than look at the profits ic in