The Daily Ardmoreite. [volume] (Ardmore, Okla.) 1893-current, 1910-07-22
WHAT SOME WOMEN MARRY FOR
The Concensus Of Opinion is That
They Choose For Protection.


Having decided that men marry
for a home it is somewhat inter
esting to get the feminine point of
view, and ask what women marry
for.
\ canvass among my women
friends resulted in some vagueness.
For love, of course" was the ster-
eotyped response.
yes. but what feeling was back
of the love-" was my demand, and
then / began to get the truth.
Edwin was strong said the
young bride; 81 felt as If nothing
could harm me when he was near"
q was lonely" the widow marry
ing for a second time confessed
"and women need to lean on some
one"
II wanted to be taken care Of
the bachelor girl confded who had
at last succumbed
The desire for masculine protec-
tion is as old as the mans yearn-
ing for a home. In the primitive
days the man fought for his wife
and children, he guarded them from
wild beasts, from other tribes. from
storm and from starvation. If the
women built the fire, it was he who
furnished the food to cook. If she
cared for the children, 1t was he who
kept danger from them and who
gave his own life rather than allow
harm to touch them.
Men often complain that women
admire brute force, and it may
seem at times that this is true. but
think the explanation OF it may
be found in the fact that women
admire strength and abhor weakness
in the other sex. The man who
can take care of woman and
upon whom she can lean for guild
ance, as well as for protection. is
the one to whom she clngs. and to
whom she gives her abiding affec-
ton. Most women hate to hear a
man say Il am afraid" Even If he
Is afraid it is better, If he cares to
retain the respect of the girl he
loves, to bluff 1t out and to have
the appearance of courage even
though he may not possess 1t.
A pretty little maid told me the
other day her reason for not marry.
ing n man whom everyone consid-
cred good match. He didn't come
up to the mark in manliness as I
understand it. He was afraid of so
many things that | felt there must
be n womanish streak in him. He
didn't like cats and he didn't like
dogs, and while he wouldn't con-
TESS it, had the feeling that is
was because he thought he might be
bitten or scratched One day we
took a walk through the woods: a
slender little snake crossed our path
and he pulled me away from It. and
we ran together.
The men that ! have known. my
father and my brothers. were the
kind that would have killed that
snake; or If they had considered It
harmless they would have watched
it glide away without any expires.
sion of fear. | know he may be
gentle and kind, but could not
look up to a man who didn't pos.
sess courage"
\ woman wants n man to have
coolness in crowd, to face a storm
with laugh, to fight fire. or to
hunt a burglar with equanimitv.
She likes to feel that when her
own particular man is in the house
that the mere fact of his presence
insures safety. She does not want
him TO shiver and shake about any
thing. That is her province. and.
whether her estimate is Just or un.
Just it is feminine and final
or course, no woman sanctions
foolhardiness; she doesn't want her
husband to be a Don Quixote fight
ing windmiils, but She does want
him TO be a man of valor. who shall
stand between her and the hard
and dangerous things of life.