The Pensacola journal. (Pensacola, Fla.) 1898-1985, 1910-05-15


| age failed them. They did not care
speak plainly.
OF course, when | speak of the
thirg5 we have given up when we
marry I do not intend to convey the
idea that there are no compensa-
tions, but / some how wonder il they
| really DO compensate
We listened breathlessly, for the
! same thought had come to us.
1T may seem like treason tor ne
to say what is in nay mind, but sine"
our meeting last week / have thought
| of little else.
/ have seen myself as>I was when
| a maiden and what | am now. Il was
not difficult to TO. compared my
tphCt0srap bs taken when | was Il
young woman, with the face in the
mirror and wondered what had
! wrought the change. Not time, for
| ain bat 10 aud should he in the
prime of life, ana then / thought OF
! the Sleepless nights full Of care and
| anxious thought on account Of my
been i'll, you know OF course she
fastened to add, my children are
worth Il great deal more than my
youthful beauty, but one cannot keep
| regTeful thoughts away always, and
| then one feels it more when ones
husband praises the beauty and viva
city of a young girl and perhaps adds
| you used to be a good locker and
have some life and ambition" eve
all thought OF how neglected she had
been at the picnic last year while
her husband had paid attention to a
young lady cousfn.) Il think that II
our husbands were not sure that we
would always love them, and be their
j devoted Slaves that they might be 4
little different sometime.
May | give my opinton?" (This
from a member who was an old
maid). You will perhaps think 1t
peculiar that I, an unmarried woman,
want to give my opinion, but l see
things from the outside and to some
extent can be an impartial Judge.
1t is as you say, romance seems to
die at the altar and then life becomes
a mere round of duties, the same
routine day after day for the wife
The husband must work to support
the wife and the ever increasing
family, He comes home to the same
faces every day and it grows monot
onous to him; he knows that she, his
wife, will be there, that is what he
married her for, she is doing nothing
but her duty and deserves no praise
no compliments for a well cooked
meal, a daintily set table AS for
candy, that is too small matter for
his great masculine mind to consid-
| er.
l say it without boasting that |
am an old maid from choice, not
from necessity, and when we looked
| at her fresh complexion, bright yes
and hair, shining, without a silver
thread, her fine form fashionably at
tired, We believed her. Now | will
tell you why I have never married. !
have never felt that | would gain by
the exchange.
A man asking me to marry him of
fers me q home, I have good home
now, better than any man of my &C
quaintance has been able to offer me.
They give me the privilege of doing
their house work, broiling their steak
and darning their socks in exchange
for my leisure. my books and my
two months vacation each year. They
offer me themselves exclusively in
| exchange for all other Intelligent,
kind gentlemen friends, for we'll l
know that all people and more par
ticularly my would be husband would
deny me the pleasure of even con-
versing with them, after marriage.
And now. pardon me for such plain
speaking, but if there is one thing
more than another that | abhor 1t is
to be considered mercy a means of
adding to the census report.
+ What can a man give in exchange
for life, liberty and happiness
When you marry YOU do not know
but that you will give up your life
I uh ri "a taIr q
= it as d matter of course.
You have the liberty of doing as
your lord and master says, and he
does not hesitate to reprove you il
you do not please him.
As for happiness, YOU do not seem
to be enveloped in it to any great
extent.
If I were telling husbands how to
retain the love of their life partner
/ would say, treat her as though you
still loved her; give her kind words;
for her should be your sweetest
smiles. If you meet hzT away from
home don't say What YOU doing
here?" but tip your hat and greet her
graciously, though I am afraid that
| she would be so ast0nished that she
might be frightened. Surprise her
! at least once a week with a present
of some kind, something dainty and
pretty, and not some household nee
! esSity.
1t is the everlasting sameuess that
kills romance, so sec to it that your
wife has Il change Of scene and OF
faces occasionally, and remember
that no one person can fill the life of
a woman-a woman of any sense.
But what's the use? Men are so
blind, so egOtiatical that they have
no doubt but that the woman they
married is entirely satisfied with
them and never> think that she can
have a regret for what she has lost
in the exchange
1t is WIKI some fear that We send
in this report, for it is much palmer
than we expected, and We are being
watched and 1t might make some
trouble fer rs if our husbands knew
We belonged 10 The / : of c. w,
but We have successfully evaded
| every question and ne. al the usual
place.
The next discussion will be on the
| duty Of the father to his children.
. Scribe Of the Silent Sisters.