The Salt Lake herald-Republican. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1909-1918, 1910-05-22

Copyright, 1910, by the New York
Evening Journal Publishing Coz
Happiness in married life is to be
gained just as enduring happiness I'M
any phase of existence on earth is to
be found by the use of the. old-fash-
toned virtues of unselfisfness. consid-
GRAFTON for others, politeness and
kindness, all based on love and
capped by common sense.
Like the old recipe for cooking the
hare, which begins, First catch your
hare a happy marriage for a woman
begins with, First select a man." not
an ideal-made seraph, not an ossified
brain, not mere animal, but a nan,
capable of loving and approaching
woman's love-
OF course, he will be more or less
selfish. That IS the way parents rear
their sons to be. 1t is your task to
bear with this selfishness at first Until
you can tactfully teach him how beau
tiful is thOughtfulness for others, and
in very sweet but very dignified way
show him that you expect the same
treatment you give.
In the meantime you must recOllect
that you are a faulty woman-and
probably spoiled by your parents if
you are an American woman-and you
must not assume a superior air over
your husband when you find out his
faults, merely because they are unlike
your own.
Mutual Improvement Society.
Whenever he does or says anything
which annOys or pains you, say TO
yourself: 4 must avoid ever saying or
doing that in my treatment of him
Then some day, when he tells you
of a fault you possess, put your arm
about his shoulders and say: Let US
enter into a mutual improvement So
ciety. 1 want to be everything you
admire-you want to be everything 1
admire.
Il will try and do my part. and you
must do yours. We are business asso-
ciates for life, in Gods Great Syndi-
cate of LOve-let US work together for
a perfectly happy marriage
If your husband has whims. harm
less whimS, such as wanting his meals
at certain hours promptly, or wanting
you to be, ready on time when you are
going out, make every effort to crafty
him.
Be willing TO sacrifice yourself to
some extent TO do this, but if YOU do
as he wishes eight times without al.y
word of approval from him and fail
twice, and he is irritable in conse-
quence, remind him gently of his lack
of reasOnableness, and tell him that
you need encouragement for your good
deeds as well as reproofs for your
shortcomings. Then persist in your
efforts to please him.
Believe in your husband and expect
him to be everything your heart de-
sires. Say to yourself every day that
he loves you; that he is good, LOYAL.
kind, worthy and successful. Praise
him; SympathiZe with his business life
his aims, pleasure and occupations.
Be his friend and comrade as well
as his sweetheart and homekeeper.
Remember that a woman makes the
atmosphere of the home.
Must Make Allowances
] have seen a cheerful, optimistic
woman, who saw a humorous side to
every trouble in life. utterly transform
a gloomy and fretful natured man INTO
a jolly and gOod-humored being.
If man is certain he will find
cheer, peace, mirthfulness, order. SYM
pathy and love at home, he is certain
to set his sail for that port with the
same anticipation with which the mar
iner seeks his own harbor after a
stormy voyage.
Of course, we must make allowances
for the occasional lawless and drunk
en- mariner who sends his ship on the
rocks and the worthless husband who
does not appreciate life's best gifts.
There are men who no woman on