The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1910-04-17
Not capable Of
FRIENDSHIP Woman
Only KnoqOs Love

GnutH III Lue WAY vi ieNSiODIGll hNG
progress, are compelled TO admit their
tnreriority to men. In their Inequality
TO feel the sincerity and depth Of real
and genuine friendship.
Many instances Of mans devotion
1or other men have illuminated the
pages OF the worlds history from the
DAYS Of Orcstcs and Pylades, Damon
and Pytnias down to the present. Men
have died for men, have suffered i'm
srisonment. the loss of property and
of worldly honorg. and have paid their
debts lightly and gladly. Men have
stood shoulder TO shoulder on the field
OF battle have heartened each other
on the long and weary march. In the
progress OF history and civilization the
loyalty and united strength Of men
have won In the struggle against
tyranny and oppression. AS pioneers
In the discovery OF new lands, as hui
manitarians and philanthropists. men
have labofed together. always together
and INCREASINGLY for the attainment
OF what they have conceived TO be the
tettcrment of their race.
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those they love. But. except ir so far
a. kinship and family ties bind them
to members or their sex. the love OF
women IS bestowed upon men. mot
upon women. Isolated examples OF
women In all ages and positions, from
the queen on her throne to the peasant
girl OF Domremy, going from her ma
tive hills TO lead the armies of France,
have lifted the standards of woman
hood and advanced their cause, But
such women have been the exception,
not the rule There is among women
no universal sense OF comradeship, no
publication of purpose impelling them
to stand for each other, 10 condoac
each others weaknesses and TO up
hold whatever is real and true and sin
cere in tho members of their sex.
Women ms Judges.
j, woman blunders. her sharpest
critics and her harshest judges are
10 be found among other women. IL
she defcs conventionality the first to
draw the line against her and to
promptly put her In a class by her
self are oftenest the snperlatively good
feminine continSen ready 10 pass by
on tho other side with a i-am-holier-
;han-you attitude and expression.
a womans idea OF friendship toward
another woman is a curious phase OF
feeling. She may refer to this woman
az her closest Intimate. one 10
whom she is bound by every tie of as
sociation and acquaintance in one
breath. and then make her the subject
OF some singing comment the next.
in short, the tic that binds" between
women does not preclude clear-stghtcd
analysis OF character between the TWO,
or include that loyalty which forbids
discussion. through full-hearted and
unchanging acceptance OF personality
as an unchallenged whole.
Trust and confidence are not quail
ties characterizng tile attitude az
mind borne toward each other by wo-
men A woman has TO demonstrate
her ability TO take and 10 hold o posi-
ton beyond cayil before she is rcck-
oncd in any way entitled to be looked
upon as a success by femininity. When
hhe has run the gauntlet with which
candidate TO womanly favor Is
initiated, the woman begins to Won
der IL the game is worth the candle"
LenIent Toward Men.
In proportion as women are severe
Judges of their fellows. they are
lenient as regards men. toward whom
their devotion and faithfulness is al
together unquestioned They cannot
feel friendship for women, but they
can feel love for men. The sacrifice
laid on the altar OF patriotism and
friendship by the noblest man cannot
go beyond that which is laid daily a:
the feet OF many men by wives. daugh-
tiers and sweethearts. Instead of being
critical. women go TO the opposite
extreme with men They endow them
with imaginary virtues and look at
them not as they really are, but as
they would have them to be. Especially
is this the case with young women
who aresnaturally inclined to idealisnl.
Dlsallusion brings unhappiness, and
st often comes
"a Juster Balance.
Before the millennium arrives a
auster balance will BIO struck. Pos
sibly even. friendship between men
and women may be possible, something
ahat hitherto has been considered i'm
possible. Certainly the present bust
ness and professional work of Women
bringing them into closest relations
and into a different life together from
anything that the sex has previously
known, is having its good effect In
teaching them the value of one wo-
man being the friend OF another. Col
lege life, with its broadening influ-
ences and it's class comradeshtp, has
had much to do with developing wo.
manly sex appreciation and loyalty
When these are full grown the millen-
mum will be much nearer than It now
Is. VIRGINIA MISSIONER,
a Code for Guidance.
Erman j, Ridgway. in the May
Delneator, has formulated a code con-
corning a mans duties that ought tc
Interest other women. She says:
have made a code for my own
guidance which may interest you.
hold that a mans. first duty is to be 6
good husband, which implies, of course
that he ohght to marry, and then make
his wife believe II he can. that sh,
has been the most fortunate OF wo
men.
1t isn't easy. but my, how 1t pays.
He must be lovcf, husband, son, ant
even father by turns. and occasionall,
Just nobody--he must get clear off tn,
earth: but when he comes back
A mans second duty is to be a goo,
Father. which implies, of course, tina
he ought to have children. adopted. i
necessary. He ought to be to then
the standard by which all other mel
are measured and found wanting, be
cause he Is their daddy and they low
him.