Americus times-recorder. [volume] (Americus, Ga.) 1891-current, 1910-06-11
LOVE PART OF THE
HOME MAKING INSTINCT
Boarding House Life is MOI
What Men Marry For.
~ Dolly Mad.son.)

AIlrf Iht money ihoou, IL may re
wise for some of the June rrides to
ask themselves, What did my husband
marry me for?"
The answer inspired by little tender
hearts would be, in most cases, Be
cause he loved me-" If pressed further
they admit that it was their preti-
ness. their gentleness, their wit, or
their int ec5 which attracted h m,
and which made him desire to marry
Few women seem to realize that,
greater than his worship of his bride,
greater than any compelling force Of
beauty or of brains, is a mans primal
inst net to make a home. He wants to
set up his household gods, to light
fire on his hearthstone, that he may
have a place of refuge from the
storm and stress of the world.
America has always been a country
of homes. That we are getting rapidly
away from the hearthstone ideal is
not only pity but a menace
Little June Brides may not think If
herself as contributng to the perm
auence of our civilization, when she
plans to make her own home happy,
but she is greater factor than she
knows. Every woman who makes a
success of her own married life is
contributing to the welfare and uplif,
of the nation Of course, Little june
BRIDE rather resents the idea that
she has to do anything to make her
husband contented She feels that
she reigns in his heart as queen, ami.
wherever she is, he must be happy
1t is this idea, however, that 50
often brings misery to young wives
Love is not merely the accepting of
worship from another. Love gives as
well as takes. There can be no per-
manence to a passion which demands
everything.
The sensible woman therefore, s
the one who knows that the answer to
the question, What did my husband
marry me for?" involves something
more than her own individual charms.
She knows that, n his eyes she is the
embodiment of an ideal which made
the woman he loved, one who provid-
ed for him a place of rest 1t will be
well, therefore, for Little June Bride
to see to it that the house of which
she is so proud shall be a mans home
as well as a WOman's. If she loves
flowers, and fancy-work, and the gilt
ter of gloss and silver, he loves his
newspapers. his dogs, his pipes. The
woman who relegates her husband to
a little den in a remote corner of the
house, who refuses to harbor his pets,
who complains of the litter of maya
zines and newspapers. is not the one
TO whom lie will turn for comfort. By
over-eXqulsiteness in her housekeep-
ing, she can build up a barrier be-
tween herself and her husband which
it will be hard to break down.
1t is easy enough to develop the
home habit in a man if he finds there
the things that make m comfortable
Otherwise, he may seek the club or
the companionship of men, who event.
ually draw him into outside interests.
1t is useless to say-''Am | then sim
ply to hold my husband by making
him comfortable?' You are rather, to
add the art of home-making to your
other charms. Does not your husband
make you comfortable by the income
that he earns by hard labor? Would
you love him just as we'll if he shelter
ed you less snugly, or failed to pro-
vide you with the little Injuries which
You crave?
Marriage is, as l said before a give
and take. Men marry for love, but
that love is also a worship of the
housekeeping ideal. and if l. tile June
Bride is 3 wise woman, she will try 10
make true, her husbands dream of
hearthstone happiness.