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The San Francisco call., 1910-10-02
Table .Etiquette

win you kindly answer the following
!. j. Should the. spoon remain in the cup
ss haS Sv the 5ae ef he sh 1t
q. Where should the knife and fork be
pscea How whsh Should 1nisese ahe fork se held,
the spoon or directly in the center?
:: Is : i pf2psf to take two sDoonfuls of
to : remove @,os, the the dishes should the dish Of
Should it: be removed to one side7
s. When passing plate for another help
ths s' disRs infa'0 Also AIS When using the spoon.
should they remain on the table or plate?
s. When a person asks Al, question, 1s as as
be can "Yes. sy You W,an can. or Yes, You may'9
TO- When one asks AL person iso rsOv to ss dansf
would COR should, loye Cor iike' MafECIa s9 fSC
/. The spoon should be left in the
dish upon which the drappe cup Is
3. They should remain on the plate.
thAir points touching the center aao tIo
handles resting on the edge of the piate.
fork is clasped in the left hand with
concave side Of the prongs downward.
The forefnger Is placed on the nandIe,
a short distance from the prongs, ,, 10 70
convey food to the mouth the FORK IS
held in the right hand In tho manner
Just described, except when small vege-
tables, such as peas, beans, etc.. are 10
be eaten It is then used spoonwise.
l. From the side of the spoon.
s. At the conclusion of the meal the
napkin should be placed unfolded on the
edge of the table. unless one is q guest
for two or more meals. A good plan Is
to follow the example Of the hostess.
6. There is no hard and fast rule re-
garding this, but one should use com.
mon sense and avoid overlooking ner
In such case 1t would be well 30
initiate the hostess.
s. The knife and fork should not be
laid down on the table after they nave
once been used. Place them sloe py
side on the plate when they are not In
.. In the hrst place. the question Is
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friends by forgetting herself. but how
long is she. able to retain them?
g. A saucy. answer is not commend
able. but an indignant reproof should be
given.
4. 1t would be better to have a MEM
Der OF the family take her home, al
though, If this is impossible. one could
hardly say 1t would be improper for
girl Of such an age to go home alone
when the distance is so short. ::
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Does Not Love Hin;
Mrs. Adams.

Dear Mrs Adams
have been going. with young man
proposal or marriage. but I find l. care
more. for a young man went with last
had quarreied with the former, but lately
shave received a very friendly letter from
him telling me ne will return at the end OF
this month. How can I straighten out
affairs satisfactorily? UNDECIDED.
If you do not love with all your heart
the man to whom you are engaged, it
would be better to break the engage
ment My advice to you is to think
twice before accepting another proposal,
so that another man will not have rea-
son to think you tickle.
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! Gives No Reason
| - -. :AdArna.

II EAR ArS. s4oAnA- -. :.
- am {, girl OF is and am engaged
- 20 a young man OF 22..l he has
stopped going with me-. and will not give
me his reason for doing So but says that
I know. Ee is not cross az me, but does
not call on me as he used to. 90 with
one OF his best friends when he is away
from home. and, that Is the only reason.
I can see why! he has treated me as ne
has Would. YOU ADVISE me to stop going
with this friend OF his or what can I do
20 get him to come back and be the same
toward me- - ANXIOUS
I presume that your hances friend
is one OF the: opposite sex, and in this
case cannot help saying that you
were in the wrong. if you. went with
the friend without the approval Of
your dance: The only way to restore
peace IS 10 have a. talk with your
lover. and try to: clear all ,misunder-
standing.
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very much embarrassed and. tell him 1t is
not right fol, married man to hirt, and
I see him flirting from my window, and
when I speak to him about it we have an
argument This worries me so much. am
not a bad-looking woman and make neat
appearance. keep my home clean and think
I: have a chance as well as he but have
CONSTANT READER.
First Of all, retain your pride and re-.
speet for yourself;t you cannot afford
to lose 1t. You would be justified in
refusing to go out with your husband
when he treats you with such indignity.
If sthere is a spark of loyalty in him,
appeal to 1T in a plain talk. 1t may be
that he is trying to arouse your Jeal-
ousy: Speak as little as possible about
his actions, but refuse to go out with
him until he can show you more re-
Spect
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Desires Light Hair

I have very light hair. II Is a sort Of tan
and / would like ii very light MANY:
persons have told me to put peroxide on ii,
but ! thought It might hurt my hair.
VIII III A CONSTANT READER.
Peroxide will bleach your hair, but II
will give 1t a. straw color and every one
will recognize you as peroxide blonde
The constant application of the bleach
will make, the hair very dry. Let me.
ask you not to bleach It. The luster
and general condition *of. the hair are
affected. and the one who Is foolish re-
pentS too late. ~:
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ANSWERS
TO BEAUTY.
QUERIES

NWING to the great amount Of mall
4 received and the limited space
~ given this department.. 1t Is abb
solutely impossible to. answer letters In
the Sunday issue following their receipt !
The letters must be answered in turn.
and this ofttimes requires three or four
weeks. -. =. T.. -: r.
All correspondents who. desire an I'M:
mediate answer must inclose self
addressed stamped envelope for a reply:
This rule must also be complied with in.
regard to personal letters. g. -: 49,:
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In Love With Tzuo

Dear Mrs Adams.
/ have two very close young men
without being In the least Jealous OF his
other girl friends. but II the other goes
with another girl few times. 1 simply
hate her. I have fought against this
mad jealousy for years. but cannot
overcome It.. You may be able to tell
me what my own heart cannot. Which
of the men do / love the best? Which
love would last through life?
ERNESTINE.
If you love the one or the other truly,
there could be no doubt in your mind.
Let mo say. however, that the truesu
and happiest love is that which knows
no Jealousy.
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Aever Been Introduced

Dear Mrs.:Adams. :.
There IS a certain young man IN this
highly respected and comes from a
wealthy and respectable family, but he
IS 2. Jew. I have never been introduced
10 him. but am very anxious to become
acquainted without being rude or bold.
Would II be considered a breach Of eti-
ouette 70 go with 8 Jew? Do Jews ever
marry Christian girls2 J. C.
You cannot become acquainted with
the young man unless you have some
friends who can Introduce him. The
question OF religion should not make
any difference II q man IS good. re-
Hpectable and sincere.
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When Dining.

Dear Mrs Adams
!. When dining out with a young man
what would be suitable to order?.
is 1t proper to introduce the woman to
the man the. man to the woman?
g. What would be nice present to give
a young man? Suggest several things
which not costly. X. Y:Z.
1. One should always order what
one likes. provided 1t is on the bill Of
fare
Q. The man is introduced to the
woman.
8. Among suitable gifts for mon
are books. articles suitable for his den
or Office desk or a picture.
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Form of Invitation

D6dr Mrs Adam9.
VIII you please print in your columns
q form for me to use to- invite friends
to q housewarming? o. S. r.
This dorm may be used:
Dear Miss Blank.
My husband and would like to have
you spend next Thursday evening with
US TO celebrate the opening of our new
home. Hoping nothing will prevent you
from coming. believe me. etc"
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Grouth of Hair

Oedr Nf9- SyLle3-
I am bothered by a long hne growth 81
hair on arms neck; LIP and chest I have
further growth. Is there anything you can
suggest, not to remove the hairs, but 70
stop further growth? MARY =.
on. every persons body there Is a dna
growth or hair which is quite necessary,
according to the laws of nature. II Is
only in exceptional cases that the hairs
grow thicker and longer. / advise you
you may Induce a heavy growth.
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Wants Him to Come Back

Dear Mrs. Adams.
A friend of mine who has paid me good
deal Of attention for some time has stopped
coming TO see me or having anything 10
do with me- The last time we were to-
gethsr he said that ! said was tired Of
him but / did not. have tried every way
TO get him back: have invited him over TO
nv house, but he won't come. What shall
/ do TO win him back? am very anxious
that we be friends again. WORRIED.
From the bottom of my heart 1 wish
IT were within my power to restore
peace. For your self-respect ana your
culture happiness ask you not to coax
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CONGRATULATIONS

z IKE. many little things IN the
formal world of etiquette, con-
n ordinations are always being
offered, and. frequently in the
wrong way So my: talk today consists
OF a few. hints. on Just how to do this.
It Is such a little thing but gives SO
much pleasure to the recipient. There
is much TO. be. learned from the way a
person congratulates another. There is
much to be judged in e PERSONS char
acter from the, manner in which he
hesitates. rises quickly TO the occasion,
p OF remains ignoFantly silent when con-
gratuladons are. in, order. -. =.
Suppose. that you have played against
smother at tennis or golf. or have striven
for the same prize, and your opponent
wins. II is your place TO be the first TO
ofer congratulations Your speech
should be an expression OF your sincere
admiration for the better work. Surely
you. who have been judged good enough
% play against another for the same
prize, ought TO appreciate good playing.
and Il is right that you should say so.
am sorryzfo say that women are ac-
cused OF not being able to take defeat:
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Still in Mourning

Dear Mrs. Adams.
l am invited 20 a reception 10 meet q
bride. 1 am in mourning and would like to
know IL it would be proper for me to wear
my hat, veil and black gloves. The re-
ception 10 held In the afternoon and am
going in carriage. g. NJ. 8.
If you are still wearing the mourning
veil do not think It proper for you to
attend the reception
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Boiling CIoth

Oedr MrB. Symeg-
A short time ago you published a recipe
Tor fnger-nail polish, which consisted OF
talcum powder. pumlce stone and carmine.
You said that after il was mixed Il should
be stfted through boiling cloth. As II IS
impossible to get boiling cloth here. should
tute? LUEII,A.s
Cheesecloth Is a good substitute.
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neck It should be rounded at the top,
not pointed, and should end IN a soft
ruche or edging of lace: Though high,
1T must not be tight as tight collars
and harsh lines emphasize a double
chin and give an appearance OF age
rather than OF youth.
=: The same principle applies to the
wrists. and arms. If you wear short
sleeves, wear broad bracelets where
the wrist wrinkles first. begin to
show; and whenever possible wear long,
pointed sleeves, reaching to as near the
kpuckles as fashion will allow
These are known sometimes as Bern
hardt sleeves and every one who knows
how this grandmother OF a married.
grandson manages to look as young as
that gTandson's wife will take a hint
from her methods and initiate her.
Massage is Of benefit here also, os
course. though perhaps not so much so
as at the neck, since the wrist wrinkles
are lifelong, being present to some de-
gree even in youth: Palmists know
them as the bracelets OF Venus" and
many an elderly woman thinks that
Venus has been a bit unkind In her
gifts. when one considers her own age
and the sympathy she should have for
others similarly afflicted!
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Her rAnswer

Dear Mrs. Adams,
Il have been calling on a girl for one
year. asked her II she loved; me, and
she answered no" She is still asking.
me 70 call ON her. Would you advise me
TO ask, her; again. and If she answers the
same as before to stop calling on her2
H. 3.
It may be that the girl is anxious
TO retain your friendship; but does. not
care to consider you as a lover Your
earnestness and reason for asking for
her love should determine whether or
not you should ask her again. -:
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Anxions to Remove MoIes

Dear MIS-. SVmeS. .
I have a number Of very small moles on
my face Can you tell me how I may re-
move them? D. II. 2.
l never recommend a remedy for re-.
moving moleS. 1t is always better TO
consult a specialist, who will be able
TO tell you whether or not 1t Ia adviS-
able to have them taken away,
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For a Wedding Present

Dear MIS-. Adams.
kindly advise me IL It Is customary for
one to give silverware a wedding pres
ent. Would II be proper TO have the gift
engraved? II so. please suggest what
NAV be put on the article. z. r. s..
Silver is always an appropriate gift
TO bride, and it is quite proper to
have the brides maiden initials en-
RraYed ON the gift.
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Maid of Honor's Costume

Dear Mrs Adams. -.
What should maid OF honor wear when
the bride wears her travelling suit
Is Il correct for bride thus dressed 20
have q church wedding with attendants.
etc.? BLANCHE NJ.
The maid Of honor should wear a sim
ply made one-piece dress. Anything too
elaborate should be avoided.
Yes.
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Withoat a Chaperon

Dear Mrs. Adams
Is It proper for young man to take three
+. girls who are II years old TO theater
unehaperoned7 F.. H. B..
II the parents approve, there Is no
necessity for chaperon.
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Anxious to Correspond

Dear Mrs. Adams.
know a boy who is going away soon.
AS he and good friends. I"would like
to correspond with him.. Would it be
proper for me to ask him to write, or Is 1t
his place to ask for the permission?
BEATRICE.
think 1t would be much better to al
low him to ask for the permission.
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Drinkin 2. Water

I would like 10 know il tho drinking OF
water adds weight. What do you advise
as the best way to reduce weight7 &
Drinking wa ter with meals will In
crease the flesh. It is necessary. how
ever, that a certain quantity be taken
into the system between the meals. The
best way to reduce the weight ts. to ex-
arcise and diet.
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Ordering Dinner

when a man. and woman dine at the
hotel, which one. orders the dinner?
HARRY NJ. C. .
The. gentleman gives the order. after.
having consulted the lady. :;
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SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL PROBLEMS

tions to you. Act the same as. usual
when in his presence and Join in the
conversations which he and your sis
ter hold, or listen attentively to: what
they. have to say.
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Massage Cream for the Bust

Mix as you would any cream OF the sort.
Rub on gently at night =:
2. The application OF witch hazel will.
nelp the scars to heal and disappear.
] have found that persons who are both
cred with such scars are IN the habit
Of picking or pfnching the pimples. This
only scars the skin. but is likely to cause
blood poisoning. AS soon as a pimple
appears bathe 1t with hot water. 1t will
nardfy be necessary to use any other
remedy. for the plmple win soon go.
away without leaving any mark what
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the young man to return. You surely
would not want: him to come back to
advice may seem cold and unfeeling.
but it is not so. "A few months hence
you will see my reason. Devote Your
mind occupied with reading and work.
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II Flirting Husband

Dear Mrs Adams
I am a young woman and have a husband
who seems to fiirt with every girl he sees.
even when 7 am In his company. feal
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Pinples
To Enlarge the Bust I.

Dear Mrs. Synes = =, . :. =
ean, you suggest a remedy 10 enlarge
4 What can DO to get rid OF scars left
from pimplesE I have had pinples. and
almost every one has left . little red scar -
They are very: disfguring and powder and
cream. win not hide them. - r.:
MISS IGNORANCE.
L To develop your bust make use OF
fhA foi10u5nC raCfnas 80.
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Hffenfiue to Sister NON

TO UNDECIDED-It may be that
the young man has extended the In
Tftaton 70 your sister because you
have declined all his former invita-
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Apply the Cream 20 the face with
soft cloth or the tips Of the fingers. It
Is excellent for sofrening and whitening
the skin.
= 1t is always better to have cream
made by a druggist. who has all the
necessary equipment.
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" That was the wrong word to use,
however. Age: is not. an .affiiction: (ex-
cept possibly to those who must still
earn. their: living in a world that seems
made. for the. young). but 1T is often
advisable to make Its ravages seem less
for persons so situated that these few
hints have been given on rejuvenating
the neck and the arms:
For these two, as I: have said, are
the first places and the principal places
object TO its coming these are the places:
you must hrst attack. A woman may
be very young-lookfng even with gray.
hair and a wrinkled brow: but once
she allows that crueT line back. of the
ears. that fatal droop at the wrists,
she is doomed. and must bestir herself
to avert disaster.
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Sending Cards

Dear MIS-. Adams
l.. Would 1t be improper for boy to send
cards, when on a vacation. TO a school girl
friend TO whom he has never written before7
.. If a boy should meet a girl in the city
several times in the afternoon, should he
raise his hat each time?
g. Is 1t improper to whistle in the presence
OF women? JACK
i. No.
2. Yes.
8. It is improper because it betrays q
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Cucumber Cream
5 which vo,, refer.

Dear Mrs. Symes.
VIII you please publish a recipe for Gu
cumber cream and how to apply it. and Il
&c Is. good for the face2 Do.you think
could make It myself? LOUISE. I.
This is the recipe to which you refer:
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The Proper Form !.

. Dear Mrs. Adams
Please tell mo how to begin O letter 70 Q
young man who has called me about
six or seven times and taken ne to several
!: formal? What ending shall use?
:: The form OF the ealutation and the
closing OF the letter depend upon your
intimacy with the young man. MY
dear Mr. Blank or Dear Mr.. BLANK
are proper for friendly letters. Dear
Jack" Is proper in familiar letters.
Yours cordially or Yours sincerely
rs a proper form for the closing OF O
friendly letter.
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Bathing and Exercising 2

Dear MIS-. SyneS.
Kindly tell me when should battle and
exercise during the summer and. In fact.
all the time. For 1 am awav from home
between 6.45 A. NJ. and p. NJ. during
which time I am closed up in Office
NY face breaks out in large red pimpleS.
They are very noticeable because they
come and go within a week and are not
seen aEain for three or four weeks. Can
anything be done to stop them? E. K. B..
Morning Is always the best time for
bathing and exercising, but II 1t Is not
convenient for you to perform these
functions at this time, you should not
neglect them in the evening.
= Your physician will be able to give
you medicine for your blood which will
prevent the pimples from appearing.
Apply the cream for which ! give the
recipe:
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wrong. Can expresses ability, and may
Is used when one wishes to ask perrnis-
sion. therefore May 90 with your II
correct. The reply should be. Yes,
you may; :.
!. 10. Il should like to CO." Is the cor
rect form.
The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1910-01-07
MUSICAL CLUB
WILL GIVE CONCERT

A story of victory over self viii
be told In songs at the Ladies' Mu.
steal club concert Monday after
noon at the Y NJ G, A hall The
program follows;
Tho rejected one tells his story
~ he departs In the storm, liken'
Ing his hopes to the last leaf on
the tree, which he names for hts
love
tal Good Night
thl Frozen Tears.
(cl Last Hope
MIR John Miliigan
lilo compares hls own state OF
mind to stormy morning, and re
proaches his lost love by Nkunins
her to frozen river.
tal stormy Morning
thl Frozen River
Mrs II A Rohh
lie becomes desperate With
thoughts ~ hallucinatlon, self pity
and suicide
tai Illusion
tbl Solitude.
(e) VIII o the WiHp.
MIR Frederick Graham.
In calmee mood he dreama OF
spring and old familiar objects,
lal Spring Dreams.
(bl Linden Tree.
Mrs Romayne Jansen.
Realizing his selfiahneaa, he sees
and resigns himself 90 a better
way
The Guide Post
Mrs. Robh. Mrs Jansen.
MIR Miiligan. Mr. Graham
lie percelves an object Lesson
organ Grinder.
Mrs Robb.
Victory and freedom.
Courage.
Mrs. Robb. Mrs Jansen.
Mr.. Miillgan. Mr Graham.
Quartcttes arranged from sehu'
bert's songs 81 the same name BY
Mary Carr Moore. Miss Ethel Ayef
viii be the accompanied,
The Seattle star. [volume] (Seattle, Wash.) 1899-1947, 1910-01-07

We are not the marrying Kind on
the Pacific coast. Il seems. d Gu
pld Is working about five hours
day. according 10 the statistic
sAarps.
Il Is not quite SO bad In Washing
ton AZ Z, Is In California Down In
California they positively hate TO
Iaarry. Il seems,
The government love report
hides itself In the covers OF a cen.
sus bulletin There are more mar
riages to the square mile IN Texas,
Oklahoma. Arkansas. Mississippi
and Florida than in any other
states. Also. more marriages per
I eco OF population
There are more than $50 mar.
rsages overy year In Oklahoma for
sa9h 10000 adult married popula,
tion. or. IN other words. bachelor
or an old maid who moves 20 Okla.
homa Is taking one chance Ia TWEEN.
~ that they will remain unmarried.
FOR many this might be a 3ng
chance. bat It's a better oppoFtnn.
NY. the figures show. than any
ether part OF the country offers.
two extremes OF the marriage
sAeestion. according 10 Prof Hiil
uere left entirely ont Of the Off
elal report They were Hawaii and
Alaska The HRwailans are known
20 Ers married on the slightest prov.
ocation. Divorces. too. are more
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frequent than im the United States
proper because the Japanese. who
outnumber the whites IN Hawaii.
are lneonstant husbands.
The reverse is true In Alaska.
There are plenty OF men there and
mighty few women
Outside the south" SAYS Prof
tan. the highest marriage rates
prevail In the Middle West
While figures from most states
show increases in marriages for
the last 20 years. Utah Ia an excep-
ton. THE may be due 10 tho fact
that the Mormon church has aboi,
ished polygamy,
Preachers, rural justices. judges
and others who tie the knot have
made at least SIS. 6e4, 0es In fees In
the last two decades. These figures
compare faVorably with the Income
OF the sugar trust. and liant II
dreadful, Mabeif
This sum IL figured on the basis
OF s. for each marriage.
Ia times OF panie there are few
marriages, while Ia times OF pros
pcrlty there are more Thus In
1908 the number % marriages IN
the United States was less than the
preceding two years. when the high
tide OF prosperity had been reached
just how the states % the union
show up in the little matter 81 love
and marriage IL shown Ia the &C
companying map