New-York tribune., 1910-05-22
SELFISH BACHELORS
Personal Ease and the Reign Of
Bad Manners. or

T,{-,-a- had rAan announced the party
,-ss gathered in the drawing roon-au bu1
ona man That one man. however, was a
rich and important bachelor, and he vas
sssfenAd 70 take down a rich and icpor-
+an+ debutante. so they waited AT last ths
hostess gave up hope, and the dinner oe-
zan and ended without the presence or TIE
rich bachelor. The next day the young
natron who gave the dinner went 70 ner
dearest friend. seethtng with rage
'.Tuess why Mr. Blank didn't put IN an
appearance last evening" she said "a
was having a poker party in his own
rooms, I received his excuses lr'lS mo-
fr1g. He had several Invitations by 'phons
the 4av he had mine. he said, and IN de-
cffring the others he thought he decIned
mine. II was an oversight, and so for1Hs
Tdd vou ever hear anything 50 oarefaceas
II vas inst selfish preference for tn5
comfort Of his own rooms that mace AiiH
ignora nv bid Of course ought aor u
have fallen into the slack modern way q
iDviting by 'phone-it made II easier 1or
hin, 70 forget my bfd-but the 'phone IS
ro convenient. have great r1lnd never
aex that man 10 my home asaln-oH-S
e1irthle bachelors are so scarce
.sArd all equally selfish" supplemented
.ba other woman, who had been II IA
world longer and knew its ways ms
.-,,+b is ric+ unmarried men are 700 CON-
Portable nowadays. with their Lu4I14o-1
rooms. their well trained men serV4--lS
and their clubs You have 20 orsr tI'
pampered creatures something un0sua4 =
the way Of entertainment II you Ws'i' ~
secure them" ,,,-x
/ But I offered Mr.. Blank that lovely 'l-SS
Midas for dinner partner
Yes. she's lovely, but just an N->lo-i-i1 -H1,<
debutante.- said the wise one "Ar- sans
/ is a man OF affairs. and 7 dare say thlnAS
his intellect above an evenings endl.sA
with a girl. OF course he behaved oad-y
to YOU but you'll md many nan NA'
I him in society these days.
/ Such is. the not uncommon plant Dinner > >,
and balls can't be given without men an
| the angling process grows more u-l-.~- =
every wear. II 6 man is i1teres[ed II
particular girl and the invitation IS oal'0~
with that girls presence the trick Is eaStf
: OF course. That is why women VINO sH's-
tain adore an engaged man. But ensaseI
men are scarce: the same sel1shneSS ma
keeps bachelors from going out keeps '@-lS.-. @
from Offering themselves and their fortunes
/ to a girl -,
/ I'm tempted said an i-are hostess
/ lately. Ito try TO organize 'OS
/ against men: the creatures are SO dlS@sis
able about making an effort 70 90 aHy.tla aH;y.liss
/ that doesn't exactly suit tAeiI LIJ LIaJS tSs
! But I'm afraid my boycott Would SIiS--s ,,sT a.
fate of the meat boycott Men, AhS ..|-Sr ..S
/ are too neCeSsary-and like The peer oH..Sar
/ they know it, The worst or II Is - -
men who by all the laws OF heEeu'ty, ey,,ssr
/ tradition ought to be CAeSt6r1e-uS @SS
/ 10 be behaving the worst. ,,t,of
/ II used 10 believe in the addSS less
will tell" remarked a Neneraole HsSSIIsn
! of former days. That adase hdS ,t;,Ss
into the abyss along with the otIs. s.,-ssr
/ The other day young John knlcKsT SyC,- 5j~s-
/ deliberately sighted my daEgAlel ; u-'i Eis
invitation to 80 on coaCnlnS t-ts,s bsis
/ apologies arrived when the dinner w. -,,,s71l-
/ over II his grandfather. whom - soral
/ Der as the perfection Of courtesy al, Az Va
honor. could know Of his SranoSo" -
haviOr he would turn In ms SrANS, ssb
! Even Southern courtesy Is az ~ --ss .
In nv dav a Southern srrttettaH " y" ,ns
[ gentleman indeed Now-weu. PLY NV
Old coloneIs who are still alive. no" -Ssr-.
! must grieve over the decadence II --'
nerS. g., a. go
/ ''In China every lad at school = SSbrss
Quired to study book con1aIIIsS rad
/ thousand rules OF etiquette Had tt,trSs
| a son 7 would have taught him t"1 'LaTd
to regard his lightest word as rs - a
I and to put the feelings or o..e..N ~ hs
par at least with his own conltet'ss conlt :. sreas
dIsregarded these two points Wren ''
up I'd dislnhertt him,