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REFINEMENT IN EATING

ut DO not wish TO meet that man"
said q woman the other day; 'I
saw and heard him eat"
There IS food for thought IN
that remark. my friends. Perhaps in
no other daily act is there such an op-
portunity for the display Of refinement
or Of coarseness as in the process of
eating. Il is such a habitual occur
renee that many people do not give It
the proper consideration. and slowly
but surely form habits OF eating that
become second nature.
Let me emphasize the fact that your
table manners are true indices Of re-
hnenent- can fairly well Judge a
person IL I see him eat II is a reli-
able test.
Refinement IN eating does not depend
upon an intimate knowledge Of forks
and spoons or Of the various uses OF
glasses. This is the result OF a formal
training. and can be acquired in a very
short time. I have seen a man who
knew the details perfectly eat in a de-
testable manner. while another, who did
not know what an ice cream fork looked
Ike. displayed perfect refinement.
Putting the Idea in a nutshell, refine
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the base OF the head and allow tha
spine also to come under the cold
water influence. Any overheated con-
dition of the blood is thus remedied,
and the controlling nerve centers are
calmed. q
The last exercise is a brisk rubbing
of the back with coarse towel.
Every one of these exercises will
improve the circulation. With good
circulation a normal, healthy condition
of the body will appear, and as the
general health improves there will be
a corresponding decrease of this an
moving trouble. which is not SO hope
less as it at first appears.
A little tannic acid. grains to
ounces of bay rum, forms an excellent
local application. Another solution is
helpful if tea of white oak bark be
made. This latter is recommended by
an eminent skin specialist.
These are suggested as temporary re-
lief from the trouble: the treatment
prescribed will correct 1t, and If faith
fully carried out will eventually cure 1t.
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faithfully: With hands on the hips.
bend the trunk forward slowly, hold
ing the head erect. and then rise to
a standing position. There must be a
conservative repetition to give any
beneficial results. but do not overdo the
matter
The next exercise is the quick draw
ing up OF the knee at right angles to
the body. the leg extending downward.
Replace the foot and raise the other
leg in the same way. Repeat In quick
succession. This is almost as success
full as a brisk walk. with regard to its
influence upon the action of the heart,
for this is the organ that must be reused
TO its sense of duty.
Extend the arms sideward, fingers
straight, and move together till paraI-
lei; when separated again, inhale as
much fresh air as you can possibly
manage. filing every portion of your
lungs. Expanding the chest improves
the circulation.
With sponge. apply cold water at
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Cards of Thanks

Dear Mrs. Adams.
J. What language is best to use on cards
Of thanks to be sent to the wedding guests
after the wedding, and should this be en-
graved on card or notepaper size?
2 If AT Home cards are sent should
they be inclosed with the cards of thanks,
and what is the proper wording for these?
A READER.
l. 1t is better for the bride not to
wait until after the wedding to thank
her friends for gifts. She should by
personal note send her thanks for every
article as soon as possible after it ar
rives. A form something like the follow
ing should be used:
3 Grace avenue. January 5. 1910.
Dear Helen.
Your beautiful gift has arrived and my
husband and l wfgh to express our pleas
ure at your kind remembrance Many
thanks for your good wishes for my future;
L am sure that win prove as happy as I
could desire.
Again with sincerest thanks. believe me to
be, Sincerely YOURS
FLORENCE BLACK.
2 The AT Home" cards are sent either
with the wedding invitation or wedding
announcement. The following is the
form:
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Advice on Social Customs

ment means eating a meal in quiet
dignity that is as far as possible re-
moved from the methods Of animals
There must be no audible testimony
Of ohe fact that you are eating. The
lips should he kept closed while chew
ing, and the mouth must never be
filled with food. sSmall portions of food
should be cut and prepared as you are
ready Do not prepare the entire meal
and then proceed to demolish the pile.
Liquids should be slipped, not hastily
gulped, and they should never be used
70 wash down mouthful of food. The
ordinary receptacles should always be
used; coffee, for instance. must be al
lowed to cool In the cup.
Do not scrape a plate until the last
vestige of food disappears The small
amount secured in this way will never
repay you for placing yourself out OF
the sphere Of refined human beings.
Convey small pieces of cake or bread
to the mouth. This can be easily done
by breaking the piece from the main
slice.
Do not do anything that will appear
distasteful to others at the table. Your
associates must be considered You
have no right to make it impossible
for others to eat in peace.
All of these little things show the
true gentlewoman. II you are training
children. remember this; If you wish to
be refined, observe these points
With refinement you may be welcomed
at any table where common sense will
prevent ordinary blunders, but without
this quality. all the kings horses can
never cover up the deficiencies.
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The Can. e and Cure

Dear Mrs. Symes.
1. Can YOU tell ME why my stomach
growls continually? / imagined It was be-
cause l was hungry. but l find that 1t will
happen a very short time after have
eaten a meal.
.. What causes brown spots. commonly
known liver spots. and what can / do
to drive them away from my face?
DISTRESSED.
/. Indigestion sometimes causes such
a disturbance in the stomach. Be very
Tight lacing, too, is often at the bottom
of such trouble.
e A disordered liver will cause the
brown spots to appear on the face, and
for this trouble the family physician
should prescribe.
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Has Met Another Girl

Dear Mrs. Adams.
l. When young man is engaged to a
young lady and he meets another whom he
learns TO like better than the one 10 whom
he is engaged. what should he do? Should
he go with both girls until he decides
which he likes the better or had he
better break the engagement?
2 When a young man likes a girl and
she likes him, and her mother does not
like them to go together, is il proper for
the young man to call his sweetheart
at her sisters home?
3. Is ii all right for a girl to kiss a
boy goodbye when they have acknowl-
edged their love for each other although
they are not engaged? OLD BACHELOR.
]. The best thing for such a fickIe-
minded man to do is to have a heart
to-heart talk with the girl to whom he
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15

n EANY women suffer from ex-
M cessive perspiration OF the
N1 hands, ermpits or neck. but
whether the af1liction be local
er general. the cause is the same
poor circulation. BY improving this.
a normal condition OF the skin will
be attained.
Now. certain amount OF perspira-
ton, both insensible and sensible,
must be excreted every day or a gen.
eral arrangement OF the system viii
result. Any unnatural condition
should be corrected before it be-
comes chronic.
These exercises may not seem at
first germane 10 the subject. but if
you keep clearly in mind the end
in view namely, the betterment OF
the condition OF circulation, you will
be able to realize the advantage OF
the home treatment
With comfortable clothing 70 in
sure a. easy movement OF all muscles,
follow these directions carefully and
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tween Is and 10 years of age. Do you
think him too young for me. as we are
greatly devoted to each other? Do you
think / should accept invitations to his
home? Are We too young to think about
being engaged? ELVA.
The difference in ages should have no
effect on your friendship. 1t would
hardly be proper for you to accept in
vitations to his home unless you were
engaged. I think you are both very
young to be engaged. but. after all. it
IS a question for you two to decide.
The sensible advice of your parents
ought to throw some light upon this
perplexing question.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
ANSWERS TO BEAUTY
QUERIES

WING to the great amount Of mail
received and the limited space
~ given this department, it IS alb
solutely impossible to answer letters
in the Sunday issue following their
receipt. The letters must be answered
in turn, and this ofttimes requires three
or. four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an i'm
mediate answer must inclose a self-ad-
dressed stamped envelope for reply.
This rule must also be complied with in
regard to personal letters.
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At Home
after
June first.
Five Cedar Street.
Without a Chaberon

Dear Mrs. Adams.
l. Am a young girl 10 years of age and
go with a boy who lives out of town He
comes TO see me at 2.30 on Sunday after
noon and leaves at in the evening Now
what I want to know is this: Is ii proper
for me to meet him and to accompany him
to the station upon leaving?
Would it be proper for me to go to an
out-of-town dance and stay at the hotel
without a chaperon? NJ A. S.
l. 1t is all right for you to go to the
station to meet the young man, but when
accompanying him to the station in the
evening you should have some one else
go along with you so that you will not
have to return alone.
2 1t would be most improper to go
without chaperon
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Solutions to Social Problems

guests. why not get a book on games
from the library? This will give you
large held from which to choose. The
chrysanthemum, which is the floWer for
the month, should be used for decora-
uon. and TO lessen the expense, those
nade OF paper may be bought For re-
wiches. ice cream. cake. nuts and
candies. When sending out your invi-
tatlons specify the hours, so that your
Irlenos will know how long they will be
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Refusing to Play

i. At some OF the parties I attend. kissing
games are PLAYED Is it rude FL for I'm me ,I6 70
girls are some of my best friends.
II am II years old have not gone
with boys yet. but am I old enough now,
II nv parents consent? c. w. r.
1. You may refuse if you wish: and it
would probably give you a more COM
Portable feeling if you should suggest
some other game.
2. You are of an age when 1t would bQ
all right for you to receive calls from
young men, but let me beg of you not
to grow too anxious for their company.
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Il Remedy for PimpIes

Dear Mrs. Synes
What can do TO get rid OF pimDlesy
have tried lots Of things for them, but
TO no avail FLORA H.
There is nothing like hot water as a
remedy for pimples. Apply it to the
pimples with soft CLOTH and then pat
dry with soft towel Above all things,
do not pick them The less the fingers
touch them the sooner they will disap-
pear Picking them causes irritation
and makes them quite painful
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For Perspiring Feet.
What to Abbly

Dear Mrs. Synes.
1 have blackheads and squeeze them. and
then they leave little holes in the skin.
Can you tell me il there is anything to do
for such case? E. NJ. H.
After removing the blackheads from
your skin use the lotion for which am
giving the recipe:
1eAiS dCiO. OIdlIl
Distilled witch hazel. 4 ounces
Apply with piece of old linen or bit
OF absorbent cotton.
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Aheady Had an Enga cement

Dear Mrs. Adams.
Please give me your advice regarding
the following: A young lady has an en-
gagement to 60 out for dinner. Her escort
calls for her and they decide not to go until
later in the evening In the means time, two
Young men call very unexpectedly Would
it be proper for the couple to keep their
engagement and excuse themselves?
BLUE EYES.
In this case it would be perfectly
proper for the young lady to explain
to the men callers her engagement.
and ask them to call again at some
more convenient time
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Under Obligations

LtdI MIS-. adams.
I Is II proper to invite a girl friend and
ner mother to the tseater? / am a bow
- years Of age and the girl 16 l am in
ceoted 10 her. and as there are no dances
IN signt at present l would welcome any
suggestions
2 Last fall friend asked me to a dance
and haven't repaid it yet This spring
another friend asked me TO her dance
Which one should I repay first?
c. L. H.
]. It would be very nice for you to
invite the young girl and her mother to
the theater TO show your appreciation
OF their Kindness.
9 To be courteous and to retain your
friends, You had better clear yourself
from all obligations to the girl who ex-
tended the first Invitation.
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will soon drive it away. Your skin is in
a dry condition. and the application Of
castor oil on the scalp will give it the
oil that is lacking. IL possible, have
some one apply the oil so that the scalp
will receive the proper massage. Brush
ing the hair will also help To relieve
the itching sensation Of the neck and
lace, massage the skin with olive oil.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Disease of the Scalp

Dear MIS- SymeS.
am IN great distress over a scalp disease
that have / have been told that it is
the mango Ny scalp will be scaly, and
when wash 1t 1t looks very clean. but in
about two days it will be scaly again and
itches very much. This itch seems to oe
getting down on my neck and face 1 have
applied ointments faithfully for q year,
but 1t does not seem to do good.
READER
do not think you have the mango.
for this disease causes the hair to fall
out. You probably have a bad case OF
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Brother DisEkes Him

Dear Mrs. Adams.
] have 3 friend calling on me OCCASIONALLY WON
ny brother doesn't seem 70 like What gan
] do 10 make my brother like hius MARIE
We cannot all care for the same per-
son, but il may be that IN time your
brother viii grow TO like your friend.
Find out what his objections TO the
young man are. and then If they are
reasonable try to have them remedied.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
To Remove Freckles

Dear Mrs. SynleS.
move freckles? ANXIOUS.
If your freckles are light ones, you
can get rid Of them by bathing the skin
IN water to which the juice of a lemon
has been added. If they are Of long
standing. use the recipe for obstinate
freckles which often appears In these
columns.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Birthday Party

DLaT MS. ADAMS.
I an a boy OF Is and would like 70 have
q birthday party. How many should in
vie and what amusements should I have?
What decorations and eatables would you
adviser How can I give the guests a hint
20 60 home at u O'Clock? At all parties
no one likes TO be the first to go. My birth
day is IN November. RALPH 3.
You must determine the number OF
guests TO invite by your list OF friends
ana the money you wish to spend for
the occasion. As you viii have plenty
OF time 10 plan amusement for your
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most improper.
To Let Him Knos,

Dear Mrs. Adams.
1. What shall l do to let Young man
know my parents do not wish him to come
into the house after we have been to the
theater?
2. Would II be wrong to buy him pretty
silk handkerchief? He is always giving me
candies. flowers and the like
3. He insists upon my getting married in
year. but am only is and he is IS
Shall ! continue going with him and make
him y wait ait. two years % Or = shall | GO against
exactly love him yet. My parents seem
to like him.
LITTLE BLUEEYED BLONDY
l. If you do not invite the young man
into the house he will surely understand
that he Is not to go inside.
2. 1t Is quite unnecessary and not
good form.
8. You are entirely too young to be
married. You had better follow your
fathers advice. l strongly advise
against marriages that have no love for
the underlying reason, for a goodly sup
ply of this is necessary to make for
happiness in the married state.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Shiny Skin

Dear Mrs SyInes
NY e,s ISce Is 9,ten quLlts shiny ana l Vlsn Ls
trouble. z 1884
Probably you use too much soap on
your face. This will cause 1t 10 shine.
After washing and drying your face
apply lotion made Of
ROSeWater 4 ounces
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Il Large Nose

Dear Mrs. Symes.
VIII you .please tell me what will reduce
a large nose? ] am very anxious to make
mine smaller. b. j. r.
Your nose will have to remain prac-
tically the same size, for nothing can
be done 10 reduce the bony structure.
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What 1t Means

Dear Mrs. Adams.
VIII you please tell me what p. s. V. p.
means? A GIRL
These letters indicate that a prompt
response is desired
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Il Harmless Rouge

Dear MIS- SYmeS.
Will YOU please publish a recipe for q
rouge which Is positively harmless to tho
skin? How should the skin be treated to
keen II in the best condition. F H. z.
Here is the recipe for a rouge which
is perfectly harmless:
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What TO Say

Dear Hrs. Adams.
What should 8 girl say when she is told
she did well after reciting IN publicZ
SCHOOLGIRL
It Is suhicient TO say Thank you" or
"You are very kind TO tell me So
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Letters on Envelobe

Dear MIS-. ADAMS,
Every time receive letter from a cer-
tain. young lady,. notice on the lower
left-hand corner of the envelope the letters
IS A. G." They are not her initials. VIII
you kindly tell me what is the meaning of
said letters? TOBALIN.
They are an abbreviation of the words,
Saint Anthony guide" a prayer that
the letter may safely reach its destina-
tion.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Waafs Friends

Dear Mrs. Adams.
have no girl or boy friends and always
go about with my parents. am IL years
OLD ana always try TO act as ladylike as
possible. How can / win their friend
snips LONESOME ONE.
If your parents are willing, why not
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To Improve the Hair

Dear Mr9. SyTnaS.
Please inform me what is good to make
the hair thick and also keep II from getting
so oily. VALENTINE.
The following recipe is for splendid
tonic for hair which is the least bit oily:
Quinine Hair Tonic.
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invite boys and girls of your acquaint-
ance to your home to spend the even
quainted with you and you with them,
and a friendship will soon be started
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Abont to Propose

Can YOU tell me whether it is better for
a young man about to propose to young
lady to speak first to her or to her father?
ANXIOUS YOUTH.
In this day and generation, the young
lady is usually consulted first, and then
the fathers consent is asked.
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She His Senior

/ am a young girl, 20 years Of age, ana
receive the company OF q young man be-
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Bloom of Roses

Dissolve the dye in alcohol add this solu-
ton to the fats previously melted. and in
corporate the whole together. continuing the
stirring until the mixture has cooled.
To keep the skin in good condition it
should be cleansed free from all rouge
and powder before retiring and mas
saged with good cold cream.
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Is engaged, and ask her to release him
from his promise. 1t would not be fair
to either girl to put them on probation,
as it were.
2. No: it would be better for the
young man to try to win the mothers
favor.
The San Francisco call., 1910-05-15
Quinine Hair Tonic

NIX. then further add: Glycerine 2
ounce: essence rOyale OF essence musk,
or minimS Agitate until solution
complete. Apply to the roots every day.
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Hon, ia 4cf

TYO PRIMROSE: DO not let your
actions show that you remem-
- Der the incident It viii be less
embarrassing for you both.
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Powder

Sift the zinc. dissolying Il in just enough
of the rosewater 10 cover IL: then add tho
glycerine: next. the remainder OF the rose
water.
Shake well and apply with a soft sponrs
OF an antiseptfc gauze. The face must b
well wiped or before the liquid dries. % u
VIII be streaked.
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To Remove the Odor

Dear Mrs. Symes.
Can you tell me how I can get rid OF a
bad odor coming from my feet? JIM H.
Your feet undoubtedly perspire a
great deal. In such a case, II is Deces-
sary for one so afflicted to change his
shoes and stockings every day. The
following recipe will also prove helpful:
For Perspiring Feet.
Salicyiic acid id......................2 20 scruples
Boric acid. d........................... l dram
Talcum powder. I ounce
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Face Bleach

Dear Mrs. SVme9-
Will YOU give a recipe for face bleach
that won't harm the skim Ny face ia
smooth. but Is much darker than my
hands E e K
This is the recipe for a harmless
bleach for the skin:
For Whitening the Skin-A Liquid
Barton County democrat. [volume] (Great Bend, Kan.) 1885-1915, 1910-12-02

of celebrating Mrs. Scheufler's BIRTH
day. When the noisy bunch began
pouring through the doors Mrs.
ScheufIer became so shocked that it
took several hours for her to over.
come the event but the visitors just
took possession Of every spare inch
in the house. Games were selected
as time killers in which every one did
full justice. After the games were
disposed Of a very fancy lunch was
served, consisting of cake, very hot
coffe, water and many other goodies
Finally Mrs. Schenfler overcame the
shock and proved herself the best
entertainer of the season. We are
all awaiting the return Of next Nov
ember.
Barton County democrat. [volume] (Great Bend, Kan.) 1885-1915, 1910-12-02
Obituary

One Of the largest attended fun
erals was that Of Miss Katie Koehl-
er who died Thursday morning al
eleven o'clock in Medford Okla.
where she went with her mother fol
the benefit of her health. She
seemed to be improving rapidly
when suddenly she took a sinking
spell and died without gaining cons
ciousnesS. Thus death came sud.
denly without warning to her sisters
and brothers.
About two months ago she had a
stroke Of paralysis, coming upon her
suddenly while washing dishes one
evening. This effected her right
side and her speech and she suffered
greatly during her illness. And al
though her affection was very severe
death was not expected and her fri
ends we're shocked to hear Of it.
Katie Koehler was born in Illinois
May 4, 1873, and when she was a
few years of age came to Kansas
with her parents locating on the farm
four miles north of town which has
been her home up till her death.
Size was for several years in the
millinery business in our city with
her sister Marie. And, through her
social and business life has made
many warm, loving friends. She was
a girl of sweet disposition loving and
kind and has always proven a warm
friend to her friends. She was de-
vout member Of the Catholic faith