Omaha daily bee., 1910-02-04
Why the Widows Win Out.

"samivel," said the elder Weller,
in the course of one of his numerous
h~ortative ~discourses, directed to his
aspiring son, "Samivel, beware of vid-
ders." When this expression of warn
ing is quoted, 1t must be borne in
mind that the elder Weller was a
waggoner and drover, expert in the
ways of horses and neat cattle, but
none so wise but that he fell captive to
a widows wiles. 1t may have been out
of the depth of his experience that his
observation was produced; under it's
stigma the widow has rested for many
her side and says she. is.better fitted
to be a wife because she has had ex-
p~erience and knows a thing or two
which she did not know before her
first matrimonial venture.
Replying to a question as to whether
a woman is happier when she marries
the second time, former Judge A.. j..
Dittenhoffer of New York says:
4 htS ulueIhNdllu men D6tNSA 4ASS nave
developed beyond the sentimental stage
and know that life is not all love and
Kisses. They understand the need of a
home. They do not expect a husband to
be content with a smile when the house
is untidy and the dinner spoiled. AS a
general rule the woman who marries a
second time is more apt to make the home
happy, because she is more settled and
domestic. She is more prudent. She is
likely to think more of her household
duties than her finery. She has proflted
by her earlier mistakes and she is more
willing to compromise the little difficulties
with her second husband than her first.
A study of the records OF the divorce
courts will show that when a woman
marries the second time there is less dan
ger Of trouble in the home.
This triumph of experience over
hope is supported also by Rev. Charles
H. Eaton, pastor of a New York Bap-
fist church and friend Of John d.
Rockefeller. He Declares:
The reason why second marriages so
often are happier for womSEis that mar
riages today are based more and more
upon money instead Of upon congenialIty
and cooperation. Young girls read the
fashion notes until their only idea of mar
riage is to find a rich husband who will
pay their millinery and dressmaking bills.
After they have been. married a little
while they discover their mistake and II
they have an opportunity To marry again
they exercise more care in the selection
of their mates. Then, too, a woman who
has failed to make a success of her first
marriage-and marriage Is not a success
unless both husband and wife are happy
puts forth extra efforts TO make her sec
ond union a success,
All of which must be very encourag,
ing for the widows, to whom no one
will begrudge a second trial. But q
maid must be a wife before she car
be a widow, and the young chaps viii,
probably go right along, doing as they
have always done, taking chances
/, with the dearest girl in the world. re
CARELESS whether she knows enough
/, about cooking to boil the water with
out burning 1t. When Strephon meets
|, up with Chloe, or Daphne, or Phyllis
he has no thought of establishing {
training school for wives, and even /
he be mistaken now and again In hi
2 choice, he will likely be guided by thu
heart rather than the head in natter
= matrimonial. It never was thu
widows fault, but her misfortune
hat she has had to add to her othe
b charms the advantage of experience