The Salt Lake herald-Republican. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1909-1918, 1910-05-22
Common Ideas Marriage-By Ella Wheeler Wilcox

minded, and wholesome, and kind
in your nature?
Do you try to make these people feel
that you are kindly disposed toward
them; that you have their best inter-
ests at heart; that you admire what
ever is admirable in them, and that
you sympathize with their dearest aims
and ambitions, even if you disapprove
of some things they do?
Only by such an attitude Of mind
can you ever hope to render the stu
alton less insupPortable, or 20 influ-
ence them to be what you desire.
SHINING Against Yourself.
If you are nagging, sarcastic, con-
temptuouS, irritable, cold, sullen or in
different to those who annoy you, then
you are making a, bad matter worse,
and you are wasting beautiful lie,
and valuable mental forces, in a mean
and ignoble manner.
You are SHINING against yourself
even more than these people are sin
ming against you.
If the individual who disappoints
you is your wife or your husband, are
you doing all in your power to better
the condition?
Remernbe it is the most vitality i'm
por1ant matter in your life. in two
lives, and if there are children, in their
lives also.
The man who marries woman he
loves, and who loves him, and who
fails to keep her loving'and happy. is
either vicious or weak man.
The woman who fails to keep her
husband happy and in love with her IS
either vicious or a weak woman
Somewhere there is a weak point
You should have a quiet talk with
yourself, and find out where you failed,
and, if it is not too late, try to mend
the broken link in loves chain. or put
in new link.
If you are running about to your
neighbors for consolation. talking
about your domestic disappointmeDts.
you are assuredly weak, and you are
not meeting this great problem with
the strength and pride demanded ay
the situation.
An Imperative Obligation.
The Invisible Helpers who stand
very near soul in trouble should be
the only Intermediates between hus-
band and wife. Go alone into your
room; sit very quietly and ask these
Divine Friends to come to your aid.
they are messengers of God. and will
give you light and understanding when
you are at the limit of your own
strength
Unless you have asked such guild
ance and felt your whole being go
forth in the demand for light Won
have not done all you could or should
TO better the situation.
Are you doing what you can and all
you should for those nearest you. in a
financial way?
Are you taking care not to overdo
for others?
Ii Is your first obligation, before vor,
give 10 public charities or foreign mis-
slons, or make display in the world
TO see that you have no relatives who
are IN need or liable to become public
charges If every man and woman
attended to this duty, there would he
no need Of almhouses or homes for.
paupers
But 1t IS just as imperative an obIi-
cation that you do not make manners
by supporting people who are able to
work, and who lose all moral fibre and
all strength of character by having
you pay their bills and assume their
obligations. A rich man is often the
worst enemy of his own children. when
ne allows them to grow I'D without
seIf-rei1ance or a sense of resnopsi-
! bility.
How are you meeting all these prob
lens of life?
Are you doing the best you can?
On you who mourn about Today's
dark sOrroWs
| What part have you in bringing bright
TOmOrrows?