Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1910-10-17
Thinks Of Her Family Before Giving
Any Thought to Self.
ERE THE REVERSE IS THE RULE
In Japan Love is Not a Sensible Rea-
son for Marriage.
'ARENTs PICK THE HUSBAND
Children Are Lacked Upon as Bless
ings and the Home without Them
ia Indeed An Unfortu-
nate One.

NEW YORK. oct 16.-(Special Tele-
gram. 1.-THE japanese wife thinks first Of
her duty toward her family; the American
wcca1L OF her duty toward herself Is
Madame YenlSio Ozakis version of the
east is east and the west is west"
Nine Ozah Is wife Of the mayor of
Toxic and is now here with her husband.
First OF all. the japanese woman is
nearly always a wife" she continued.
Before she Is married she is not a woman,
but girl The unmarried woman is de-
cldedly the exception. 1 understand the
case Is different in America. With us all
the young girls are looked after by their
mothers and fathers. They are all care
fully provided with husbands"
I'VE don't think people ough TO marry
unless they are In love" was suggested.
Nine Czaki frowned a bit. This love
It is a very transient thing she said,
rather impauenuy 'Tis not a sensible
reason for marriage. 1t Is much better
for the wise parents to pick out good men
for their daughters. II you adopt that
method here you would not have so many
divorces
Jap wife is different.
Then, again. the japanese wife differs
from the American. We have a much
smaller numDer of divorces. That is be-
cause the wife is not all the time think
ing Of herself and what Is due to her. She
thinks OF the happiness Of her family and
she tries to make 1t happy instead Of
imagining wrongs or nursing them at
least II the women Of the west would
sacrifice herself more, II she would strive
toward the ideal of family happiness in
stead of Individual happiness, then your
divorces would be reduced.
ar qhOnId hp
impossible. however. Now. one wrong in
our system is the fact that the laws are
not equal for men and women. Either can
get a divorce for cruelty or unfaithful-
ness or desertion. ~
sBut the Biiiagliceis tlrat by our law the
children always belong to the father and,
no matter how bad he Is, the wife cannot
take them away from him when she leaves
him
80 the wives will suffer almost any
thing rather than ask for separation
Children Are blessing.
And as for the children, we have them
in nearly every home; we consider them
blessings and that the house without them
is, indeed, unfortmate l am told that
many Of your women do not feel like that.
I'VE do not have women clubs, but we
have societies. We have great patriotic
society for women. and society for the
study OF sanitation and health, and so
oety for the promotion of education In
ali these we try TO do real work, to justify
the existence of our assemblies. You have
some clubs with similar aims But you
have many others that seem to me rather
foolish, from what l have been told about
them They seem TO be Just talk. A
woman's organization should not exist un-
less II can accomplish something.
There is no mixed society with us, for
our unmarried girls. Their place is in the
hGme. Sometimes, of course, they meet the
friends Of their brothers. but there is no
mngling OF a formal nature between boys
and girls. Our girls are taught separately
in their schools and have their tennis
games and dances to themselves.
Women Not la Politics.
Have we any suffragettes? No, our
women have done nothing with that move
ment We have many women workers for
better education, but not for politics. As
for myself. 1 think unmarried women who
own property should have the right to
vote but / do not think they should hold
office or appear on the public platforms
do not think IT would be womanly.
There is one other big difference be-
tween our women's lives and -yours-as we
grow older, we are held in more and more
respect mere II seems just the uNleE way
You talk Of your mOther-in-law joke
with us she is often tragedy She car
divorce her sons wife, no matter how
much he himself loves the girl. The
mother-in-law is supposed to live In the
house with them and she has but to say
that she does not consider the girl good
for the family-that makes a divorce. Now
things are somewhat better and many
girls are refusing TO marry, unless they
and their husbands can live alone. Tha
is as Il should be. Nevertheless. con
slider our reverence for the aged woman
beautiful thing"