El Paso herald. (El Paso, Tex.) 1901-1931, 1910-11-25
TIL wlo,Io. yXT.l GIVES WIVES SOME
Lid w 11SOA ADVICE.

courtesy when he fingered with anyone
else, even his own daughter. for an
hour.
Poor Way to Hold Love.
This is a poor way to keep a man
in love with you Only a weak man
would submit TO it. The man 1 refer
to was not a weak man in any sense,
save that he longed for a peaceful
home He submitted to his wife's ty-
ranny in great degree merely to
keep peace. and he finally died insane.
1t was small wonder. Constant as
ISOLATION with a man or woman who
is a petty tyrant wears the brain far
more than a great sorrow or tragedy.
The wife who makes herself so
adorably sweet and charming that a
man prefers her society TO that of any
other person never needs to demand
his attention
1t is far more flattering to know
that a man seeks you because nowhere
else can he receive such a welcome,
such thoughtfulness for his comfort.
such pleasing attentions or hear such
an agreeable conversation, than to
glory in the thought that you have
forced him TO obey you by making
painful scene.
The sort of woman who is always
working herself to death for the physi-
cal comforts of her husband and chill
dren, and then ruins the mental at
mosphere of the home by her moods
and her arbitrary rules, is. in my es
timation, far worse than the indolent
ard neglectful mother who lets others
bear the burdens, but keeps placid and
good natured-
I have seen a home spoiled by
fine hcusekeeper and a careful econo,
r-H 10 he
to dread for every member Of the fam
lily.
If any one CHANGED to be 10 minutes
late, it led to lecture upon the care
and toll which had been bestowed upon
the preparation of the repaSt and the
necessity of its being partaken Of
while fresh and hot, and the incon-
venience it caused others-herself or
the domestics-to have members of the
family late, and so on and so on, for
ever. like Tennyson's brook, until
starvation would have been rapture
compared to listening
The Better Way.
How much kinder it would have been
to clear away the dinner and to tell
the tardy boy that he would have to
take what he could find on his re-
turn. as the hour for dinner was over.
Told this with a smile the boy would
have been more content with a sand
witch and a cup of water than with a
full course dinner served with a TRADE
of scolding.
II you are a woman of this kind, let
me beg of you TO realize that it is not
what you do for your own dear ones
which makes a home. but it is how you
do it, and what Your tone and your
eyes express 10 them far more than
what your hands perform.
And let me tell you another thing
You have no right to spoil the lives
of those about you by your whlms,
your narrow Judgments your arbitrary
rules. or your self-centered notions
and the thousand intangible and indie
scribable ways which women like yOT
have at their command for renderin.;
everybody miserable.
What you need is a good strong
master. man who will say to you,
Madam. 1 married a woman / respect
ed. believing her to be possessed of gCo1
sense and a desire to make me happy
You are fOrfeiting my respect, YOU ara
showing very little good sense. and
you are rendering me miserable.
shall be obliged to take up my quar-
tiers at the club unless you can control
yourself and change your system Of
tactics"
II will be we'll for you if your chill
dren make an open revolt against your
petty tyranny and get away from Your
control.
To Yield Is Useless.
or children to yield to the home ty-