The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1910-06-30
By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX

lar among them. and you will invariably
hear some word regarding her execu-
tive ability, some phrase Of approval for
her self-rellance and a note Of admira-
tion for her independence.
Independence does not mean reckless
ness or wilfuness.
Self-reliance does not mean deafness
TO counsel, and executive ability does not
mean that a woman should plan a ca
reer outside her home.
Not any Of these things pleases the
lords OF creation, but they like a woman
who can carry her portion of the worlds
worries and cares and responsibilities
and carry them with ease and grace and
with no air Of having performed
miracles.
Once she has made her plans and pre-
pared her work In any direction a man
likes woman to tell him about 1t and
ask his suggestions, and II she alters
some detail to please him he 10 I'M
mensely gratihed.
Wants Her to Think for Herself.
II she abandons the whole thing At
his request, for good reasons, he Is
pleased
But he likes to know she can think for
herself. and that she does not forever de-
pend upon him for IDEAS.
Men In love are delighted to be told
that they are never absent from tho
thoughts of their sweethearts, but tho
husband finds this consciousness a trins
wearing.
AS bad as the clinging vine is the wom-
an who makes her devotion too incessant.
The wife who never thinks OF anything
or anybody but her husband 1s apt to
persecute him with her attentions at in
opportune times.
She Is never tactful never conscious
that he wants to be let alone occa-
slonaly, never capable Of making herself
and her affection a novelty to him.
And this Is fatal error on the part
&, of any woman.
l have known an attractive young
woman to lose two admirers who would
have been candidates for her hand had
she not oppressed them with her atten-
tions.
Each man in his turn made Iovelike
advances to her. and in both Instances
she gave her heart too readily. or.
rather. she gave them to understand
hex surrender too speedily.
A Wife's Fatal Mistake,
She wrote two letters to one OF theirs.
she planned Interviews. and she re-
buked or scolded II they failed to meet
her half way.
know a wife who made the same
fatal error.
Every hour in the day she asserted
in some manner her complete devotion.
she had no plans. no hopes, no arnbi-
tions. no purposes, no pleasures that were
not laid before her husband. and he was
expected to devote every spare moment to
her.
She surprised" him frequently at his
office, at lunch hour, expecting him to be
delighted with her COMPANY, She met
him at the corner of IN. street when he
came home trile late, ara Gle went a
piece'I with him, as the children say. in
the morning,
In fact, she nearly drove the poor man
into retreat for the Insane with her de-
votion
1t is my belief that no human being can
love too deeply.
An all-absorbing love giorines the
universe and ennobles the character OF
the one who loves. and can transform
the life and nature Of the one so loved.
But It Is most unwise to al,oays display
that love in its fulness.
Don't Let Love Become Common
A woman should never make herself
common TO her husband.
She should never visit him at his
business office SO frequently that her
coming Is not novelty. and she should
not lean upon him SO persistently that
her weight becomes burden, 3,
IL one OF the marble Venuses turned
into flesh and blood and pursued man
from morning to night, and from niEht
till morning, he would soon beg her to
go back 10 her pedestal,
II Minerva came to life ana appealed
to a man to think for her breaths Tor
her. plan for her, he would be iAttsrsd
for the period Of week. perhaps q
month; after that he would grow very
weary OF her society and tell her he was
Unexpectedly called away on o matter of
business SIX '7'iS-'
Love much, but cultivate tact ana dis.
erection In showing that love, Do ~
hide IL under cold or ndiferSnt ~
teriqI but DO not display II on a blAxonSl
shield. so that the object OF your affeotidS
can rever be surprised by a new and ans
sARss'sa sEoys wsi ensAs snS q IL n, nj, III Y,s
sornetinnes have the satisfaction uE, ,qiivS
tioning you to hear Your absw ora, INST IA
OF telling him all before he aaks,