Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1910-02-15
WHAT MAKES POPULARITY
Character, Kindness, Tact Are Among
Most Important Factors.

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Character, Kindness, Tact Are Among
| Most Important Factors.
There Is now and then man who
poses as caring nothing for the opinion
Of the rest of mankind, and as alike In
different to their esteem and good will
or their condemnation and dislike.
Poses" is used advisedly, for no nor
NAL man ever took such an attitude
genuinely, and the assumption of 1t
can usually be accounted for by de-
sire to gain notoriety and be talked
about as singular person, different
! from, and superior to, the mass. 1t is,
Of course, possible, and II Is not infre-
quent occurrence, for man to find
his opinion and convictions in sharp
In which he is. In such case II he Is a
man Of courage and conscience, while
he would prefer to be In accord with
his neighbors, he must. II need be.
be true to himself first, no matter what
degree Of popularity has been. his or to
what extent his standing to his colois
may forfeit It.
One self-approving hour whole years
outweigh,
OF stupid stares and Of loud huzzars.
While this is true, there IL popu-
larity which is legitimate and desir-
able, and which Is entirely proper for
man to seek and cultivate. To some
men 1t comes without effort; In fact.
seems to be one of the gifts they were
born to. For others 1t appears to be
VI ottainable, no matter how much
they may strive for It. There are
few men who are exceptionally attrac-
tive and likeable, by temperament and
disposition, carrying with them every
where an atmosphere Of kindliness and
good humor, always unselfish and OBJ
liging. and endowed with such graces
and charm that everyone likes and
praises The most popular man In
his class" 'the royal good fellow" on
everybody's lips. is born. not made.
Nevertheless, q man without extraor-
! binary gifts. II he but possesses tact.
which cannot be acquired, may, by pa.
fience and judicious care and effort,
make himself universally popular. he
must, In the first place, Of course. have
the solid basis Of character worthy OF
esteem II ne wishes to become general
ly liked for other qualities. Then he
must proceed by always, under all cir
cumstances, showing the true kind
ness-which springs from good
heart. It is, perhaps. the most I'M
portant thing Of all. the one quality
which, were 1t universal, would trans
form the earth.
The man who never forgets to be
kind whenever there Is. opportunity has
laid the cornerstone Of a satisfying
popularity. Kindness In Its broad
sense implies fairness also. II you are
kind to person you must of necessi-
| ty. II called on to judge him or to de-
eide between his interests and those Of
another or your own. be fair to him.
There IL nothing man feels sooner or
more keeuiy thar q lack OF fairness IN
the treatment he receives. The demand
for 1t springs from the same universal
instinct that claims justice. which Is
fairness. The very children understand
It, and are quick to condemn anything
In their work or games that 'is not
fair" Kindness also carries with IL
unvarying courtesy and politeness.
even to those who are churlish and
rude. Nothing goes further in dis
arming dislike and transmitting .indif-
ference into liking. When you are
host treat all your guests, no matter
what differences may exist between
them, with equal attention and cor
sideration, and let your intercourse
with them be conversation, and not
talking all on one side.
Kindness also in Its full sense Is
not confined to demeanor. but includes
generosity. A man to be popular must
not only be ready, but must have the
disposition to share what Is good
and desirable with his friends and
companions, and to bestow OF his
abundance upon the needy. 1t IL bet
ter to help as many as you can, even
II 1t be but little, rather than to do
great deal for few. 1t Is important
to remember, too, that even kindness
must be exercised with tact or 1t may
defeat its own object. A tactful man
can refuse q request and make friend
where blundering, blunt untactful
one will ALLEVIATE a friend In granting
favor. Tact Is the indispensable So
cial lubricant without which, no mat
ter how we'll adjusted the machine may
be, there will be friction and unpleas-
ant creaking.
These are the main points which a
man should keep in view who desires
popularity. There are few minor
ones. Dress as well as your income
admits, but always without ostenta-
ton or display, and always with scru-
pulous neatness and cleanliness.
Never put on any airs, and never try
to initiate the style or manners Of any
one else. Be perfectly natural and un-
affected. Some very good people bring
themselves into ridicule by little man
nerisms and affectations which they
have somehow come to think are agree
able or desirable to distinguish them.
There cannot be greater mistake. In
short, IL you want to be popular, and
It Is a laudable desire, be always kind
and always a lady or gentleman. II
you are always kind in genial, tact
full way and always lady or GENTLE
man you will be popular, whether you
want to or not.-Cincinnati Inquirer.
Franklin's Motion For Prayers.
have lived for long time (eighty-