The Guthrie daily leader. [volume] (Guthrie, Okla.) 1893-1996, 1910-11-12
The MAN, THE GIRL
AND FIFTEEN A WEEK

young man. or at least he thinks it
isn't.
Girls care only for money" was
the disconsolate remark of an i'm
pecunious bank clerk who was giving
mis- confidence.
'You think they care for nothing
elseg" he was asked.
well. why Is IL" Indignantly, that
they are always Dragging to me
about the other fellow, what he gives
them and what he does for them?"
He spoke the truth. Many girls
make the mistake OF thinking tnat
they increase their value in the eyes
OF one yonng man by talking of the
benefits bestowed upon them by an
other. II they knew the sensitiyeness
OF the average poor young man they
would ,efrain. Nothing hurts hhe
boy who adores girl more than to
have her compare his poverty with
the affluence OF another.
Indeed, girls cut themselves on
from simple pleasures when they
seem to care only for expensive ones
The poor young man hesitates to sub
stitute the good times that are with
in the limit OF his expenditure for
those which involve greater sums OF
money He hears 2 girl tell of the
expensive menu provided by her
richer friend for an after tleater sup
per. He knows that. from Blue
Points to coffee and Camembert, 9th
er men have ordered correctly, and
while he may understand the art as
well as they, his poverty. forbids IT,
so he goes alone and often girl
stays home because Of her foolish
pride in seeming to appear popular
with rich men has placed her beyond
the reach OF the poor one
The way men feel about this
question was expressed BY the bank
clerk when he said TO take a girl
to good theater and TO get her
something TO eat afterward means TO
spend the best part OF $40 bill.
get only SIS week, have to pay
my board ard provide clothes and IN
cidentals. 1t is rank extravaganza
to slend $40 often on amusement.
pin my own expense down and try
to substitute outings that do not cost
much
II am perfectly willing to bestow
everything on the girl care for. but
] cannot make II seem rigat, and
do not believe IL Is right. for a young
man just starting out TO squander his
money If marry | must have a
little bank account. To spend all OF
my money now simply means that
shall not be able to marry for many
years TO come"
That Is where the mistake on the
part of girls becomes more serious
Men feel that they are too poor 10
marry. hence there are more old
maids than when women were willing
To share the poverty which made pos
sible marriage where love lived in
a cottage.
The cottage idea would perhaps
not be practical today, bslt-in its place
We have the cozy apartment which
can be made at home. II the woman
IN II will only think of herself as a
homekeeper,
OF course. IL Is the man who makes
a mistake. He would often find that
q girl appreciated what be had 10
ofYer If she could be sure that with
II he gave her a deferential deyo-
tion. g1uu
Last winter 2 boy friend. who wa
living on an allowance from his faith
er while he finished college, was adj
vised TO let the girl whom he liked
above all others have an opportunity
to enjoy the things he could give her
Don't buy the most expensive seats
at the theater." was the suggestion:
just tell her frankly that you'd love
TO give her the bes1, but 1t isn't right
Tor you to take away from your fam
lis any more than they can afford 10
give. Garry her a small box of can
~ instead OF big one, and buy her
d little bunch of Yiolets, or send her
a few roses, and you'll discover that
she viii appreciate your thought OF
her. even II your presents have littis
intrinsic value"
II Is all a matter of good sense and
OF good feeling. The girl who Ikea
a poor young man should not EN-
barrass MIN with accounts of 1er
richer friends. and. on the other hand,
the man in the case should conquer
oversensitiyeness and give the girl
credit for liking him In spite of his
lack OF worldly goods.