The Holbrook news., 1910-02-18
Rules of Guidance Far Less Strin- gent than They Were a Gen.
 eration Ago.
OUR ETIQUETTE IS CHANGING
Dining with Young Men, Shopping and Attending Bachelors Enter
 tainments Unchaperoned.

With possible dissent from a few conservatives 1t seems to be under. stood that young American women moving in good society have now more freedom in their association with the other sex than did their mothers. and one of these mothers in commenting on the set of rules drawn up by educa- tors for the young women of Japan governing their relations with the male sex remarked that they were not unlike the rules governing the conduct under similar circumstances of any well brought up American girl, says a writer In the New York Sun.
 "It may have been that way once," said her friend. "Present-day rules are far less prohibitory. Take for in stance that cautioning against com municatfng directly with a man and advising Don't open yourselves let ters which you have received from a stranger I remember quite we'll when in any weHregulated New York fam fly young daughter was expected to show a letter received from young man to her mother or chaperon at once, and 1t was quite correct for mothers to open their young daugh- ters' letters.
 wouIdn't Open Daughters Letters.
 Were I to open my daughters let ters she would be simply furious. I admit, and should consider 1t a great bore to be obliged to read all the notes she gets from young men," said the woman who had first spoken. At Newport last summer occasionally I would find my daughter absent on a motor or yachting party with inti- mate friends or of to play tennis or look at ball game without saying as much as by your leave and in every case 1t was all right. Naturally there were young men in the party or young men joined the party, but invariably married women chaperons were in- cluded. so saw no particular reason why should have been consulted.
 "An introduction to a young man at an entertainment in a private house Is considered a guaranty that he Is a proper person to know. Calling there fore some morning thereafter on a young woman and asking her to go to the tennis courts or golf links for a game, the young woman, if she pleases. consents without consulting a chaperon-
 There has been noticeable relaxing in recent years, 1t Is said. of the once stringent rule against two young per sons of opposite sex driving together without a chaperon-a rule which at one time applied even to engaged cou- ples. The actions of popular young daughter of a certain exceedingly gay and popular matron of Newport and other resorts had something to do with it. The girl. in her dubutante year and months before her engage ment to one of the wealthiest young men in the country was announced really shocked some of her mothers friends by flying past in the young mans dogcart or runabout, the two laughing like children and evidently enjoying themselves hugely.
 BacheIor's Entertainments.
 "A generation ago there was no need for rules relating to visiting bachelor quarters. for the reason that few bach elors then entertained in quarters equipped with tea table and other stu dio appurtenances. whereas now bach elors' entertainments are considered among the pleasantest in the summer program. It goes without saying that these affairs are always chaperoned. even If the chaperons are more apt to be very young than very old matrons. In this respect some of us mothers see room for improvement"