The Ogden standard. [volume] (Ogden City, Utah) 1902-1910, 1910-03-23
LITTLE PROBLEMS OF
LOVE AND MARRIAGE
BY BARBARA BOYD.


arouseS sympathy. though there Is
no sound reason why the man should
rulo the woman any more than the
woman the man, stlll when man is
picked at, bosse0. nngged and gener.
ally made to obey his wifes behests,
his condition awakcns more pity than
when the shoe Is on the other foot.
His friends lament and advise. They
lure him away from home and give
him n good time and In every way
possible try TO recompense him for
the miserable plight into which he
has fallen.
There Is little help. however. for
the man who has become submis-
sive. henpecked husband This Is a
thing that needs to be nipped in the
bud A man wants to take IL at Its
very inception and handle It In q de-
cisiye manner. II one drifts or tries
10 sidestep it. it will gradually fas-
ton itself upon him until he is help,
less in It's grasp.
II is usually the forceful, capable
woman who henpecks her husband.
especially if he be IudecisIve or weak
1t begins gradually. She will stand
-
or that ne hasn't the facts correct in
something he is telling She viii as
sert her side positively, She viii
not bulge an inch from the ground
she has taken. and for the sake OF
peace. especially before others. he
Will give In or drop the subject,
though he may know she is wrong
1t may be all right to give UP the
argument then as Il !s not pleasant
to disagree in public But in the
privacy OF the home. he should talk
it out with her. not In a Quarrelsome
or argumentative manner. but frank
ly and kindly. He should show her
that 1t Is not well-bred or consider
ate to be so positive and domineerns
and he should poiat out that it is
certainly a lack Of courtesy and re-
spect TO him TO treat him In this man
ner II they are Just married. If she
has the least regard for him in the
world. If she Is woman with any
feeling for the rights OF others. she
will see his point and admit the JUS
tico of 1t,
This is the time, right at the begin
ming. TO take the matter In hand,
Often a woman does not realize how
dictatorlal and positive she is, nor
in what an unpleasant position She
is putting her husband She will
be only too anxious to remedy It.
when 1t Is brought to her attention.
But even II this Is her nature, n man
had better flght 1t out at the very
start and make stand for his
rights. Once he becomes hen
pecked husband there is no escape
for him He can't run away from il.
for the tongueslashing only awaits
him when he returns
II is a most unwise thing for a wo-
man to do, too. for 1t breaks the spirit
of a man. and no woman admires 4
husband of this sort IF a woman dis
covers that in certain things she Is
more capable thnn her husband. let
her quietly and toctfully manage. But
do not let her do 1t in such a way
that she tears his self-respect 10 tat
ters and makes him an object OF pity
and sympathy with all who know
them
The time was when woman knew
so little OF business. and was, in addi-
ton, supposed to have a mind so inca
plae OF grasping its details. that a
man rarely thought OF talking over
business matters with her Such
things were supposed to be outside
her realm
But this condition Is changed Wom-
en- have shown today that they are
quite capable of mastering business.
Indeed. in some lines they are prov
ing better than men. So that this OBJ.
lection is largely removed.
But this does not decide the ques.
ton. however, whether II Is wise for
a man to consult his wife about his
business affairs For this Is an indi-
vidual matter. and the rule that ap-
plies generally viii not always hold
good In the individual case.
Despite the fact that there Is host
Of successful women in almost all
lines of business. there is still tho
woman who knows almost nothing
about business and is incapable of
grasping its details or absolutely in.
different to them. The man who Is