Manchester Democrat. [volume] (Manchester, Iowa) 1875-1930, 1910-07-27

known physician tries to explain the
mental condition which leads to the
mad step into eternity.
( IF ever man or woman takes ac-
count of stock, physical, mental and
spiritual. it is Just before marriage. +
am not speaking now of midnight mar
riages following suppers and motor
trips, but just the plain garden variety
Of marriage. which is still for better
or worse while both still live.
However lightly marriage is treat
ed today, however safe cynical people
may feel with divorce as an ameliora-
tive agency, there must come an hour
when, man or woman. the individual
checks up accounts with self and
Maker.
In that hour each must realize that
in the marriage relation practically
nothing can be hidden. The past.
whatever 1t has been, will surely
stand forth revealed. Clothing, medi-
cal attention, will power. all these may
have helped to hide traces of disease
lurking In the system, disease inherit
ed or acquired. But the cloak will fall
after marriage and the truth is known.
This discovery may represent merely
establishment for the other party or
1t may mean actual injustice or In
jury. And with that awful realization
comes the sudden thought that there
is just one way out-death!
Realization that they have only
the dregs of misspent life to offer
the woman who stands for belated
but real. fine love-, is maddening to
men who have squandered their man.
hood and dissipated their energies
And instead Of rising to meet the
crisis, instead of possessing the man.
hood to admit the truth and release
the woman, they turn towards and
carry their secret to the grave.
l Cause Of Women's Suicides.
ION the part of women, think sui
eide Is generally due to an exaggera-
ted emotionalism, often the result of
trying material preparations for the
wedding ceremony. recall the case
OF school teacher who wanted to
have snowy trousseau. She secured
night work, and did tutoring for
months before her marriage, then
broke down nervously. She tried to
throw herself out of the window few
nights before the ceremony, and we
had to place her under the influence
Of sedatives to save her life for the
man she sincerely loved. Left with
out care and attention she would I'M
doubtedly have added her suicide to
the list Of wedding eve tragedies, for
no reason except nervous break.
down.
This is why many physicians insist
that daughters Of their wealthy pa
tients take the rest cure just before
marriage. Something must be done to
balance the nervous strain OF prepare
ton.
4 "one of my patients, successful
business man, told me that he nearly
broke his engagement on his wedding
eve. though he is the happiest OF hus
bands today. His fiancee was worn to
nervous exhaustion by foolishly elab
crate preparation for the great day
While they were going for their II
1 cense she developed a tendency tc
quarrel and nag. which struck terror
to, the mans heart. Was his married
life to be one long wrangle? Better
a broken engagement or suicide.
Fortunately he had the will mower
to face the situation calmly, but direct
ly after their marriage he brought hi.
wife to me for treatment. Her nerve.
!, were in shocking condition. / pre
scribed absolute rest and quiet, ant
she has developed charming wife.
Nov. let such condition stand be
tween couple who do not understand
their own emotionalism or the physica
strain which causes the nervous con
ditions. and YOU get-suicide, simpl,
through fear of unhappiness. which Il
vaguely indefinable. but hideous. com
bined with touch of physical reyul
sion which generally precedes tn,
wedding day
ceroner's Opinions.
! Coroner James E. Winterbottom o
, New York says: Il SHOULD say tina
Ill health lies behind the case Of tn,
average male suicide. With women 1
!. may be an exaggerated emotionalisn
, A man falls in love. The wedding da,
/ is set. He discovers that he has al
/ incurable disease. tuberculosis o
i something Of that sort He realize
that 1t would be wrong to impart tn
/. faint to the woman he loves, the chi
, dren she hopes to bear. Or perhap
he realizes that his Ill health will pre-
vent his supporting a family. Unit
!, the last moment he hopes agains
hope. He is plunged into despair q
the thought of telling her. He is tor
by his desire to marry the woman h
loves and his fear OF making her III
!, happy. Death offers to his mind tn
one avenue of escape. &
Highly strung women, especially /
about to marry intensely materia
!, men, are apt to yield to neuroti
thoughts. They picture themselves a
|. unequal to the burdens of wifehoo
and motherhood. They see themselye
in sort of bondage which is in
: aginitive, not real. They imagine the
!, are not loved in return. The nervou
Intensity grows until 1t becomes
mania and suicide follows. That typ
. Of woman would commit suicide whe
forced to face any crisis"
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