Pike County press. (Milford, Pa.) 1895-1925, 1910-05-13
OF Interest
to Women
80
The Etiquette Of caiIing-When
the Formal Visit Is Necessary
Leaving Of Cards for Men as
Well as women--oinner Call
ls important.

ls important.
s. Formal calls In the city during the
season are paid between 8 and $50
O'Clock IN the afternoon. The day at
home Is purely social occasion, and
calls of congratulatlon. OF apprecia-
tion for some hospitality, or merely
for the pleasure OF friendly inter
course are paid then II possible. 1t
is always more tonsiderate and com
plimentary, says Vogue, to observe.
friends day at home. IL she has is
sued cards appointing one. than to pay
her chance calls on other days.
Brides and strangers newly arrived
in a neighborhood never make but al
ways wait to receive first calls. Wom-
en- who have been invited to visit. or
during the summer season have been
entertained In a friends house in the
country, must be among the first, di-
rectly> their hostess returns to town,
to call upon her.
When there exists no previous In
debtedness. on either side and after a
summers holiday two women arrive
IN their homes on very nearly the
same date the younger calls upon the
elder frs'
Where the difference in their ages
Is very Slight the woman who returns
to town first makes the initial call, or
the unmarried one cal,s first on the
married woman.
Shopld member of society be in
arrears ior hospitality or an invitation
received by those who Issue their at
home first, the routine Of calling be-
gins without strict reference to courte-
sizes extended or received in the fore
going winter.
It Is not only ciyility but a social
necessity when one has served as
bridesmaid. maid o, ho9or, usher or
best man to call prcl the brides
mother shortly after the wedding. and
upon the bride directly after she re-
turns from her honeymoon. The guests
at hoiue wedding. wedding reception
or breakfast must call in due course
on the mother Of the bride. and later
on lho BRIDE.
L Is an obligation to call on ones
hostess after p d.nner, a dance. a mus
icaie or a luncheon For men rs well
As women The dinner cali is OF para
mount Importance. 1t is paid within a
fortnight after the dinner,
First calls in the season should be
returned very promptiy-on the next
reception day of the person who has
made the call II she has reception
day. and II she has noue, then at any
propit,ous time within a week or fort
night. After this polite exchange Of
civilities a longer period between Wis
It's may be allowed to lapse. Calls Of
coincidence and congratulation should
be made as soon as possible.
The majority Of calls between wom-
en- are exchanged on their appointed
days at home. and then the cards are
left by the caller on the tray in the
hall as she passes through on her way
to the drawing room. She puts into
the tray one of her own and two Of
her husbands. IL her hostess is mar
ried. If her hostess' unmarried daugh-
| ters receive with their mother, the
caller would leave one of her cards
when going out
A young lady paying a chance call
on a mother and daughters, or & host
ess and friend, and being told the
ladies are out, leaves two cards. A
call paid to a lady visiting in house,
whether the lady OF the house is q
| friend or stranger to the caller, re-
qaires two cards-one for the guest
and one for her hostess, and this is
still the rule whether the caller is a
man or woman.
A young man when calling for the
first time on an unmarried woman
asks for her mother. or .chaperon. as
well, and If they are not at home, he
should leave two cards. Subsequently
he need leave but one card.
There was time when a man sent
up his card when calling, but this has
gone out now for infomal calls. He
sends mis- name by the servant, leay-
ing card only If she on whom he is
calling is not at home. On reception
days he leaves cards on the tray.
We are IN transitional stage in
large cities as regards the European
custom OF leaving cards at the door
by the footmen without asking to see
the ladies of the house. This is an
entirely correct proceeding in large
society. where the demands on ones
time are great. and In any metropolis
It is a sign of provineialism to take
offense at the practice. 1t has been
done for years in London, and is quite
the custom in New York and Wash
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