New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1910-05-29
Cbaf Is They Do So Too
Frequently, Says Daniel
O'Reilly.

1.-The beginning of married life" said the
Rev. DR.. c. l.. Thompson, who has started
many couples upon their honeymoons, rs
a serious business, and ought to be seri-
ously conducted. Usually the principal
thought of a young couple, upon setting
out for their honeymoon, is TO have good
time. There ought, however, to be some
measure of consideration to the future;
not only in regard to its pleasures, but IN
respect to It's responsibilities. There must
be a recognition of the fact that nobody Is
perfect. and there must sometimes be con-
cessions. and often surrender, to each
other. Much of the sweetness of life comes
not from having ones own way, but from
considering the ways of others. Sometimes
more genuine enjoyment is derived from a
sense of having yielded ones will and
opinions than from the sense of having
stubbornly maintained them"
"A potent cause of divorce. said Daniel
O'Reiley lawyer who has had to super
intend the setting of many a honeymoon,
Lies in the elaborate wedding and foolishly
started honeymoon. Young people who be-
gin life together in this manner expect the
pace to be kept up: it cannot be kept up
They become dissatisfied, then. they dis
agree. and divorce follows.
Young people should start life sensibly
and economically. If they have no picture
of wedding display and costly honeymoon
trips in their minds they would not expect
a life of so much luxury and ease. and
would be more contented with their lot. l
think elaborate weddings should be cut out.
A couple ought to marry and go to house
keeping. They should enter upon natural
existence and go on about the business OF
hai ives he, 70 ae,i,, L.
ing some plan to guide their lives and then
keep TO the plan. and not live beyond their
means,
1T is mostly silly and notorietyloving
people who seek divorce. You will find
that they generally want to go upon the
stage. The stage does not hold out induce
ments. as 1t formerly did. to Divorces, and
this fact will. / think, tend to lessen the
number of divorces among aspirants for
stage honors.
"A fruitful cause of sad examinations to
honeymoons is to be found In the way in
which husbands and wives take long trips
away from each other; spend their vaca-
tons apart. and journey to Europe for long
absences. quite independent of each other.
/ do not believe In such separations. |
have known such independent trips both
on business and pleasure. to cause the
divorce of couples hitherto perfectly de-
voted to each other. Such separations lead
TO an arrangement that often exists for
ever
"A husband appreciates wife more IL
she enters into his pleasures and shows a
disposition to sympathize with them. be-
lieye I'm the old-fashioned marriage when
couples shared one another's lives and did
not take their pleasures separately A wife
should have some control over her hus-
bands travelling tendencies. and consider
1t a neglect IL husband lets his wife go
on alone. 1t leaves her open to lot of
temptation that she would not meet IL he
were with her ali the time. A great many
divorces have been caused by men going
abroad without their wives and finding
some attractive woman there, and by wom-
en- going to Europe for long visit and
returning to hear gossip about their hus-