The Washington herald., 1910-04-08
OF INTEREST TO WOMEN.
TRAINING OF THE HUSBAND.

Social Amenities and Questions OF
Dress for the Man Of the House.
From the Kansas City Times.
When man is married his trouble
begins as far as social duties are con-
cerned.
| If he has been too busy before 10 al
tend to all the small observations Of pO-
lite society, he can by no means ignore
them now, for with his wedding ring he
has pledged himself a member OF the
very exacting fraternity of convention.
His speech must be more careful-tied, as
you might say. with little knots OF blue
ribbon; he must live differently dress
quite differently. unless he has been
something Of a dandy before. All of
which means, if he is not adaptable to
the new conditions. it is up to the pretty
young wife to train him in the way he
should go.
The social duties Of the young mar
ried pair begin naturally at home, where
the wedding guests. and especially ali
friends who have sent gifts, must be
entertained through calls, dinners,
luncheons, and so on. And here the ques-
ton Of fitting clothes comes in tremen-
dously, IN which subject. If it is abso-
/ lutely dark to the husband, the wife
may very well have a useful say.
Let my wife fool with my clothes?'
grunts the Easter bridegroom. well,
guess notr'
He is quite right II she is a lady OF
bad tastes; but if he has worse taste
that is to say. none at all regarding
what you must wear and when as the
man tailor's catalogue puts 1.-THE gen.
tie blond-haired wife, who. perhaps. has
paid great attention to mems dress. may,
on some important occasion, keep him
| from making a goose OF himself.
| What does society say Gin her IN
written chapter) on the subject Of men?
Man, saith society. must bs clean first.
polished every day like new pin, prop
erly dressed next, and good next. There
is the thing In nutshell
The married man may have the tenn
per Of bear at home. but he must know
when to wear his tuxedo coat and when
TO don his elawhammer and his knowl-
edge of all the details that go with these
garments must be without a flaw II he
/ wishes 10 be recognized as a person Of
/ taste He must take his morning tub
/ as regularly as he takes the waking
breath, and spend some Of his surplus
cash in having his business clothes
pressed and his shoes blackened. When
/ the caller comes he must not be an IN
| shaver sight in any sort Of old coat and
bedroom slippers, but a glistening well
/ set up dear that a woman would be
proud Of
The young wife, then. should coach
herself on the etiquette side OF mascu-
line dress, so as TO be able to tell her
lord. who may be ignorant on the sub
/ ject. that il Is correct 10 make a special
toilet every night, even II it is only TO
the point Of changing his suit Also, 1t
goes without saying that the bathroom
must be clear for the gentleman's even
/ ing ablutons, and IL would be well for
/ the wife 60 be dressed herself at the
time Of his homecoming, and see that
/ the various articles necessary to his
toilet are ready TO his hand. The book
OF etiquette says nothing OF collar but
/ tons, but l must tell you that a good
deal Of the peace OF married life is hung
around their shanks So why tempt the
storm. when whole dozen Of the little
conveniences may be bought at the 10
| cent store for a diner
| The dress in which a young husband
! receives guests IN his own home in the
evening would consist Of a tuxedo din
ner coat, the trousers that go with Il
a black or ColOred waistcoat a tie to
match this black patent leather pumps
and black stockings. For an informal
dinner in his own house he would dress
in the same way, Tut If the function
is dinner party. with women's evening
dress understood, he must wear his
elawhammer get-up with pure white
linen, white plque or silk waistcoat.
and white lawn tie So gotten up, he
would dine IN other homes. especially
during the honeymoon period. for then
a lot Of primping Is due the young wife.
If there is wine at table and he is
asked 10 give a toast he proposes the
names Of the host and hostess; and IL
there is a clever man il the company.
whom he meets for the Arst time. he
must not enter into any moves toward
a further acquaintance without sug-
costing first to the host that he would
like 10 know him better. Assuming
that we can pick all the people we
want out Of other peoples homes Is a
rock upon which friendship has split
many a time. and It is a break that
polite society never permits.
Upon leaving the house, the husband
shakes hands first with the hostess, next
with the host, and bows tremendously
to such other guests as may be only
acquaintance. His wife then leaves the
room first, and he quickly follows and
opens the door for her IL the host re-
mains with his other guests.
At home and abroad there IS one very
bad break in taste that the young wife
must forever look out for It is not
permissible to open I'D any talk which
will place the new husband in a ridicu-
lous light, even if the thing is only fun.
Marriage is a digniied state. and the
man is the first to feel this and the first
to resent any belittling of his thoughts
and ways. II he has been brought up
properly, he knows that he must leave
the little fooIishnesses OF his intimate
life alone when there is company. and
by speaking OF his wife as Mrs. So-and-
So. and showing her invariable courtesy