The Salt Lake herald-Republican. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1909-1918, 1910-04-03
Love, Pride and
Jeal0usy--and
Good Counsel
BY BEATRICE FAIRFAX.

T KNOW a girl and a man who have
been engaged for the last year.
Though there is no doubt as to their
love for each other, at present they are
not on speaking terms. They have quar-
relied.
1T was all over the merest trifle" said
the girl to me. Il danced three times
with Bob = at the Smiths dance and
Jack has been too silly about it. We
have quarreled and Pm sure l don't know
when or how Wen make up. I'm not go
ing to be the first to say I'm sorry
Weren't you a wee bit to blame7' /
asked.
Yes, of course ! was. but I'm not go
ing to lower my pride by being the first
one to make up
"Oh, my dear. my DEAR 1 said, don't
YOU know that there should be no such
thing as that false kind of pride where
love is concerned"
But surely" with wide-eyed look of
surprise. you wouldn't have the girl take
the first step"
but surely I would, if it's the girls
fault, and 1 think you were the cause OF
the quarrel
She did not look very ready to be con-
WINGED, though 1 knew that in the depths
of her naughty little heart she knew her
self to be in the wrong and was dying to
forget and forgive.
/ said to her just as 1 say 10 every
other engaged girl: IF you become en-
gagged to a man who is inclined to be
Jealous, you must regard his feelings or
give him up"
Why He Is Jealous.
The man does not want to be foolish. he
is as mlserably unhappy as any one can
wish, but he loves the girl so well him
| self that he thinks every other man finds
her equally desirable. He hates the
| thought of another mans arm being
around her in the dance, and it's rather
| natural that he should. It's unreasonable
| IN some ways, of course, but man in
love is apt to be unreasonable.
| You know girls are also unreasona BILE.
You wouldn't like it if the man who loved
you felt Indifferent regarding other men s
attentions. 1t would not be very flatter-
/ ing If he looked on with complacency
| while other men ran after you.
| 1t is contemplate to try to arouse a
mans Jealousy merely that your vanity
| shall be gratified.
For that sole reason you arouse one of
! his strongest passions, the passion that
| sometimes drives man to murder.
Often man pays with his life the pen-
atty of his Jealous passion. And all the
while the real culpTit is some foolish girl
who thought it fun to make him Jea lOuS.
If you love a man well enough to prom
| Use to become his wife, you surely love
him well enough to leave other men alone.
Delay Causes Bitterness.
have no patience with the pride that
fOrbids a person to say, I'm sorry"
especially when that person is to blame.
Isn't your love greater than your pride
If it is not. it is not real love. Remember,
that the longer the quarrel lasts the hard
er it is to make up, and there is always
the ugly scar to remind you that love has
been wounded.
l know that my little friend is going to
be woman and acknowledge that she
| was to blame and / know she is going to
| be more careful in the future not to
| arouse the jealousy Of the man she loves.
Everyone knows the horrible pain of
| jealousy, you cannot live and love and not
/ feel it at some time.
| Knowing its fortunes, be merciful as to
| now you inflict the pain. on others. Love
| has no sense of humor so l do not take
! kindly to teasing.
! If you are to blame in a quarrel be
ready to take the first step toward recon
| Citation. And even if you are not to
| blame be ready to go half way.
! Put your pride away, and remember
| only your love and that ito be wroth with
one We love doth work like ma dness in
| the BRAIN