The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1910-08-12
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Some people are like candles-they are
| always flaring up and get put out SC
easily.
When sick man is able to grumble,
growl and wrangle he is able to get up
and do his own chores at least.
The home circle may be-ought to be
the most charming and delightful place
on earth, the center of the purest affec-
tions and most desirable associates, as
well as the most attractive and exalted
beauties to be found this side of paradise.
If we look only for crooked trees in the
timber, we will find plenty of them; but
we will pass by many straight, beautiful
trees and never notice them. So, too, if
we look only for blemisheS in the char
acter of others, we will find them; but we
may not notice the many good qualities
that they may possess.
Young man. if you expect to attain sue
cess, you must work. Success does not
crown the efforts of boy who runs away
from school and shirks his lessons. Sue
cess does not crown the efforts of youth
who stands around the street corners
smoking cigarettes and expectorating on
the sidewalks. Success does not crown
the effort of man who stands around
the corners of the street talking about his
nelghbors and whiting out financial
policy. Success is the legitimate result
OF labor and application to business.
1t is always best to wait for the evi-
dence before passing judgment. When
you hear reports detrimental to young
ladies or gentlemen, don't be hasty in
forming conclusions. 1t is better to be
charitable when any one is in trouble.
Today it is some one elSe's boy or girl;
tomorrow it may be yours. Trouble
comes to US all, and we should be willing
to extend the same charity we should
expect from others. Gossip distorts and
magnifies occurrences that have no foun-
dation in fact and injustice is often done
innocent parties.
A constant endeavor should be made
to render every home cheerful. In every
heart there should reign innocent joy.
There is often discomfort and reStlesSness
in homes. not for the want of virtue and
prayers, but because the home lacks sum
shine Each member has his part in
making or marring the happiness of home,
yet we do not think any one can add to
or take from its happiness as the mother.
Where the mother is kind, patient and
cheerful all the inmates OF that home are
apt to be conteuted and happy.
No talents, no circumstances, no oppor-
tunties, will make two-egged creature
a man. without energy. The bright boys,
the geniuseS, who take first prizes at
school, very often fall to the rear when
they are exposed to the long and weary
competition of real life. They lack en-
durance or they fail in that energy of
purpose which no native 'smartness"
will replace 1t stands to reason that
what may be very brilliant and expert in
a boy is far different when measured by
the standard Of manhood. He who is
content with the trivial triumphs of school
days will have poor chance in the rough
and tumble of life, while energy and in
vincible determination will carry through
the worst of ounces on to success.
Children should be trained to behave
at home as you would have them behave
abroad 1t is the home life which they
act out when away. In the actions of
children strangers can read history of
home life. Something is wrong in those
homes where the little courtesies ofspeech
are ignored in the everyday home life.
Scolding is never allowed; reproof and
criticism from parents must have their
time and place but should never intrude
SO far upon the social life of the family as
to render the home uncomfortable;
serious word in private will generally cure
a fault more easily than many public criti-
cisms. So teach the children to be high
minded, cheerful and loving, and, above
all things, to cultivate sweet disposition
THE LIFE OF THE HOME.
Homes must be attractive to be happy
homes. This does not necessarily imply
expenditure of money. 1t is cause for
sincere gratitude that the hut of the peas
ant can be made bright and CHEEKY as
well as the home of the king. There is
such a thing, where there is an abund-
ance of wealth, as OVERRIDING ornamental
ton and making it heavy and uninviting.
We have been in parlors that were ruined
by too lavish display of wealth. That
is not the way to make home bright.
The first step in that direction is for the
husband and wife to be bright and light
hearted themselves. 1t has been said
more than million times that if the wife
desires to keep her husband, she must
always be cheerful, good-humored, and
smiling, and that her home must be in
good order, never forgetting to have his
supper well cooked and hot. In other
words. every time this is said, the state
ment seems to be intended to be made,
that the happiness of the husband de-
pends wholly upon the wife. She must
amuse the husband. and between anus
ing him and the children the poor woman
will often have her hands full for if she
has a husband that expects to be thus
entertained. she will likely find him the
most petulant child in the circle, and will
often wish that she had strength and
authority enough to spank and put him
to bed. 1t is the duty of the wife to do
her part toward making the home pleas
ant and cheerful, and it is the duty Of the
husband to do just as much as the wife
does. He has no excuse for not doing it.
No plea of WEAKNESS is sufficient. The
wife is weary, too; perhaps more so than
he is. It is his duty to meet her smiles
with smiles, and her efforts to make the
home one of contentment and cheer, with
equal effort. His home is no place for
him to play the drone. His particular