The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1910-10-31
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She She Does Not Propose to Bind
Herself I Y. Jp lin My
Contract
N N LOVE LOVE: Just 81 THE SAME
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But Wants ANTS God Of Love Free
to Go g, Away When He #
SO Wills.
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married hat else viii i si,enrl abo,,l
gaged;t am not married. ~ n never v..,
WI oe engage ed. thoug sons
~ vas was The I, enigmatical Mary Gar.
why the men no. 60 owf, to Is tl &
ships fort he newspapers took Ii for
granted when they saw a plain roitl
1 .1 g. on the so-called wedding finger
gagged to be married. . ~ ~
mo. engagements are far stbe -, !.
lsoph1sticated. afraid.of-herself pirl5in
her teens, and I think It Is tho 'i,eipht
OF foolishness and an unbecomi1g HI.
e afnlsh me IN 81 a ehayior the part
She should know herself we'll ,seno,ie i i
either, to marry or to let tho affair.
rest there. 80 :
shall consider that am getting
INTO M, I, me 's, sere and yellow when am
fully-.-gloriously-foollsfly, il yo,l liz ;
lin love, but II should never he. ~
imbecile as to promise any man 4 i've.
especial y when am leaving that man
marry him. a sT g Il ~; 4" \ w -
Must Undcrstand Mary.
"Of course, if l58were rnar,.iad a {
him, all the Kings horses ana MI
the ilnpresariossi In the world would
not !, Keep R,se me apart from him for such
ens Rs rs Rst s II oYe =
third time. but just as Beautifully as
! was at any other time or with
any other man. But the man / should
I Ia !, IN Iove with. whom should tre-
man so capable Of understanding
Mary Garden that he would laugh with
me at such foolishness as befnr an.
gagged. : -
soa And mark ANY YOU an I, cynical,
am only sensible. want to retain
the Illusions and do not seek the
delustons: so. whenever the little god
Of Q! love knocks ct my heart. he is
welcomed, ut@not locked In with a
key which gives him no chance to
escape II he SO Wills. Love cannot
be captured and tabulated and la beied
he cannot be taken to church ana
maze mac TO repeat. the wedding ceremony.
ana say that 1t Is until death do us
part; Tor love is short-lived and dies
before the human experiencing 1t de-
parts this life. In nine cases out Of
ten. q & 81 - N - -
You see,,. continued Mis-, Garden
.tho trouble With m most A1I peo oh.oi Is
routine of life without any real emo.
uons; They marry and live in dull.
coloriess sort Of a way. and when any
different sort Of wayMif they .' aetu IA
do live and feel life vitally. force.
Inliy, with all the human call that
Cod has put into then,-then these
9 sd aa1. individuals: with their shriyel-
or new species, unknown to man
kind. 81, "'s-'
- must confess that the attitude
Is changing somewhat, even In little
one comes across man or woman
who has lived and is not afraid Of
life: who has loved and is not asllam-
ed e, Of that God-given emotion: who
has stnned,s II you will, and stands
out for his acts and that is healthy.
normal sign; an advance in the world
OF culture-of civilizat ton In its finest
sense. I A, :.
No binding for Her.
am often asked why / do not
marry. ! generally frivol with my M;
answer. depending on who asks the
question: but ! will say to you that
I I do not marry because will not
pr nind ~! myself Y to any contract Knowing
I g cannot keep to the letter:
d, nave too much regard for the
i INST ~, which makes ma rriage a
,yit binding contract t. 80 into. It
NY illS ma H. Cqfl s a crime
to go deliberately III the church. and
sacredly profess to be true to a man
ana TO love. honor and cherish and
Az !, y, me e. rest Of 1t to the end OF ones
Gays when there is no proba bility Of
ones doing 1t,
- believe marriage is simply a hui
man = a. !. contract to maintain the family:
rs. \ function is to reproduce ITS own
,lsi and any woman who nlarries
should marry with that knowled Sc
and ana SHOULD sacrifice other things 70
An artist for that very rea son
s 81 not ma rry, for no woman can
be be a great artist and Great mother.
MA. ! sLal , she puts into mot herhood is
!! g ger Ken out of her art. What She puts
iEto art is taken away from ma ter.
nifty, She should give up either her
c c,.i,. or domestic Shappiness-antl
chiidren.ta Many people do marry. but
not t wishing to sintoSpe ties. /
I, nel u Us IN every ms lance the
women Of the stage who llaYeslna ried
:, generally have lived on past reputa. 4
lions OF greatness ssss 81