The San Francisco call., 1910-01-09
Social Life Of San Francisco Seen by intelligent Educated
Woman Who Served for Years Many Of Our Best FamEes

above more troubles every day Of her
life than you do in year.
With a handsome home. plenty OF
money. automobiles and servants and
trips wherever she chooses. beauti<a1
herself and always faultlessly gowned.
people call her a darling Of the gods"
because she has everything heart could
wish and always seems so happy.
But know that I would be the most
wretched creature In the world. on the
verge Of suicide. and so would you, II
we had TO contend with the conditions
of her life. Can you imagine any
thing more wearing on a high spirited,
life loving woman. still young and full
Of human interests. than sour. irri-
table, nervous invalid for a husband
who gives his peevishness and bad tenn
per free rein. with never a thought
of anybody else in the world, and who
gets his sole diversion from picking at
his wife? He is not bad enough or TO
be in bed, but too bad of to be in
business. so he is around the house all
day long, finding fault with everything
and everybody especially his wife. He
complains of the way she talks ana
the way she does her hair. After
caller has left he criticises everything
she said and the way she said IL. He
calls her affected and insincere, until
he exhausts his Imagination. Then he
finds fault with the weather, with the
way the milkmsn slams the gate, with
the way the clock ticks at night, with
the lights In the neighboring houses.
and sends her around the neighbor-
hood upon these dtsagreeable errands
in regard to their habits OF life that
disturb him. He finds fault with her
friends who come TO the house. and
with them for not coming when things
get too quiet, and il the fancy strikes
him. whatever her engagements for
the day may be. she has TO stay by his
side and bear this sort of thing from
early morning till late at night. When
she goes out she has TO be at home on
the minute he sets for her and IL she
happens 70 be five minutes late his
feelings are hurt. and he sulks in ST.
lence for days at time, not deigning
to speak to her.
The worst of il is that 7 think she
really loves this man. or else. feeling
her obligation to him. she win not ad-
nit it to herself III she does not. Day
in and day out / have watched her with
him. never losing her temper. always
trying TO be bright and cheerful. di-
verting his mind from himself by every
means in her power, and not once. that
/ have ever discovered. getting diScOur-
aged and giving up the fight. 1T is
my opinion that she realizes that if
she once goes to pieces she knows she
will never get this tight rein on her
self she has row. so she goes on putting
down her own feelings and keeping
sunny and bright There are often great
troubles that. like boulders in nfe's
pathway. may be surmOunted or gone
around. but il is these little constant
nagging troubles one must walk over
with bleeding footsteps nd smile at
the same time
have been better. woman myself
for my contact with this noble soul.
and when have seen her the gayest,
bri ghteSt creature in the room. the cen-
ter of everything. sparkling and bril-
liant and giving every one around her
a good time. ] have looked beneath the
diamond sunbUrst and ropes of pearls
TO the big, true, generous heart that
enables her TO put herself aside and
live for the happiness of others