Kingsbury County independent. (DeSmet, Kingsbury County, S.D.) 1894-1929, 1909-07-16
THE TENDER PASSION
COLDLY ANALYzED
How a Woman Falls in Love
The Real Thing and the
False.
From New York Weekly.

we are told hat I'm the spring a
young mans fancy lightly turns to
thoughts OF love-" But what about
the women? When the poet omitted to
mention their little peculiarities in that
direction, did he intend TO convey that
in the spring time their fancies lightly
turned away from thoughts of love?
That Is hardly to be imagined, for ii
is Well known that In the springtime,
when the flowers are gayest and the
skies are most beautifully blue, the
extraordinary facility with which some
women fall in love puts the lightning
in tho shade.
All women have passing fancies. es-
pecially In the springtime: but, for
tunately, most of them understand that
such fancies are only ephemeral, and,
II d~isregarded, pass away like the gusts
or the breeze. A great many, how
ever, are not so wise. They seize upon
this passing fancy and interpret it to
mean everlasting love at first sight.
This kind of thing can only be cured
by drastic experience and repeated
doses of practical common sense. Re
fore such a woman becomes really
sensible, however, she runs a great
risk OF making herself very unhappy.
The common mistake of thinking one
self in love when one is not, has blight
ed the lives of many.
~ VI lie yOunS HtdH WIZ
knew that he loved, but he didn't
know whom" is n which is frequent
ly taken by girls under 25. The truth
OF the matter Is that they are in love
with some ideal of their own-a sort OF
god In human shape-and the moment
they meet any young man who con-
forms in some n particular to this
ideal their hearts run away from
them, and they imagine that he Ia the
one. Very quickly the invest him with
all the attributes of the ideal, that ideal
being reflected onto him from the back
or their own eyes. In less than TWEEN
ty-four hours this ordinery young man
Is placed upo a pedestal. The young
solemnly assures herself that
life without him Is a bleak, barren
wilderness. When he goes, all other
objects fade into the light OF common
day. When he enters the room, her
bushes the fact that he Is
the embodiment Of what she been
looking for in everything and every
body. Just as there is an abyss In a
grain OF sand, so the height and depth
and breadth OF all that is is concen-
trated for her in that wretched fellow.
Now comes the crux. II may be by a
mere chance that she has lighted upon
the right man, though 1t was not the
intuition of this that attracted her to-
ward him. She did not know that he
resembled her ideal In more than one
single point. Lucky for her IL he is thu
right Then, In later years, when
the real tests OF love are brought to
bear upon the two, she may find out
the true nature OF their attachment.
chances to n he is one OF the million
wrong men; that tile single point that
struck her fancy was a mere inherited
likeness to some great and good an
cestor OF his, away up In the family
tree--a trait which, however. ne might
have don his level best to suppress,
as IL was not Tn accordance with MS
! general character.
IL that is the case. then comes the
trouble. The poor girl, deluded by the
glamour OF spring, regards him per-
haps the whole summer long as the one
who 1lls the world for her. Then
one h autumn OF retrospect. She
calmly considers his character. and the
real hold ii has upon her. Maybe her
relatives say that the engagement was
- mistake. pointing u many things
which the glamour OF spring had hid
den from her eyes. Later, in the hard,
uncompromising winter. she realizes
that she has changed.
Under these conditions some girls
would jilt the fellow. and always look
!, down upon themselves afterward: in
other cases they would carry the thing
through-and be sorry for themselves
to the end OF the chapter. In any case,
the result Is more or less disastrous;
consequently, II is sound advice to girls
70 bid them beware OF the passing
fancy.
But the woman who has Formulated
no distinct ideal to worship--how does
she fall In lover She may belong 10 the
class which readily grows fond Of one
Of the upposite sex simply through