The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1909-08-06
DANCE RoUs
70 Marry Any Man In Hope Of Re-
forming Hin. 81

FORMING rifOs
II long has been agreed that pasL
Konate love and calm, clear-eyed
sommon sense are naugbt akin and
have little or no commerce one with
another. Indeed, there Is general
feeling that affection, in order to be
genuine, must be impulsive, nor ever
oc so self-controlled as to take coun-
vel of prudence. Men and women be-
ing In love do not hesitate to confess
their lack of wisdomn, and expect the
sne fact fully to explain and equally
10 excuse the other as being Its nat
aral result.
TO this lack OF reason, which popu-
larly is conceded to be part and parcel
If love in general, Is to be added the
pfoverblal blindness Of Cupid which
attacks both men and women, with
severest results In the case of women.
Nothing upon earth can equal wo-
mans love in blindness to faults, even
In vices, nor in the ability to see
virtues where none exist-in divestins
even sin and shame Of responsiveness
and disgrace.
Once let woman surrender her
whole heart TO a man, however un-
worthy and she becomes not only
willing, but eager to fo,.ow the way
of her heart. She will believe nothing
10 the discredit of her lover, and
friends, however intimate, who tell
ner, uncomplimentary truths about
aim incur not her gratitude, but her
iispleasure, perhaps her lasting en-
nifty. She prides herself upon her
loyalty to him on whom she has law
shed the full treasure OF her affec-
ion, and believes what he chooses TO
tell her against the testimony Of all
others, says Helen Oldfeld In the
Chicago Tribune"
There is nothing short OF mental
liberation which altogether can ex-
plain the indisputable fact that SO
many good and otherwise sensible
women are willing to marry men who
absolutely have wallowed in pitch,
,uch as the scripture assures us none
IAN touch and not be defiled, fondly
md fatuously believing that the mir
,culous influence of love for them
selves will wash the black sheep as
white or winter than any other in the
dock.
Once in q great while the venture Is
successful; usually though, too COM
pelling is the power Of long habit and
of evil associations. Volumes have
oeen said and sung in praise Of the
transforming power of love, and that
,ove really does work miracles none
ian deny. But 1t is lamentable fact
which every woman ought to be aware
u, that II is love, not marriage, which
9 tho Transforming power; the man
who does not reform before marriage
or the sake of his sweetheart. in or.
Ter that he may be worthy Of her,
not to be depended upon to do SO
,fterward for the sake of his wife.
1t is by no means an easy task to
'oform one. man or woman. Most
people object to being found fault
With, and a man, with regard to his
wife especially prefers the attitude Of
mind which says: with all thy faults
love thee still" One usually can
Ind excuse for ones self and is apt
% exact OF those who profess to love
,ne that they shall do likewise "Wo-
manly sympathy" which in the mas
.uline vocabulary is synonymous with
praise, is that which he demands
rom his wife. Even when he knows
hat he is culpable he cannot endure
being blamed; pity is what he con-
'iders his due.
II Is plain to discern the masculine
mind in the question. In point OF
'act, sad as Is his fate, the mans wife,
4 he has wife, is far more TO be
pitied than he. He resigns himself to
.he slavery and finds some solace In
self|pity. Moreover, he deeply and
bitterly resents the least suggestion
that he is TO blame. Far from being
ruled by severe opinion" he will not
submit TO the least criticism, and woe
% his wife should she dare to remon-
,trate with him. Indeed, II almost
may be laid down as a rule that the
wife who wishes to preserve her hus-
oand's affections must never hint that
he Is indiscreet In his eating or drink
lno n, ipdaad ;p apu otha. thin.