The Washington herald., 1909-03-28
HOW TO BE HAPPY
THOUGH MARRIED

There was published some years ago an
English book by "a graduate OF the Uni
versity Of Matrimony," with the alarm
ingly suggestive title How To Be Happy
Though Married" a title not original with
the author.
An old English preacher named Shelton
first used It as a title for a sermon. The
rather startling theme inculcates the i'm
portant and frequently forgotten truth
that domestic happiness does not come
as matter Of course. but like everything
else worth having. has 70 be worked for.
says DR.. Madison c. Peters in the New
York World
When married let love rule. Love is
never stubborn. II never stands up and
Quarrels for its rights. Love viii make
each blame self and not the other when
anything goes wrong. Il transforms blem-
ishes into imaginary virtues.
I know its hardly in ones power to
keep at times from looking sour," bit
avoid as much as possible all disputes.
There is no truth in the jingle;
And family jars. look We but DER the rim.
Are filed with honey 70 tAe brim-
wife forces good humor out Of its chan
mel and lnsidiously, though insensibly, un-
dermines affection. and at last destroys
that cordiality which is the soul OF matri-
monial harmony.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you nave made fool OF yourself. No
body IS always consistent. The man or
woman who never MADE a mistake IS a
myth.
The most dangerous Internal machine
IN a home is the last word
Talmage says: If you must get mad,
don't both get mad ar the same time.
Take turn about
Once In a while let your husband have
the last word-it will please him and be
no loss 10 you.
| Incivility is nowhere so objectionable
as toward your best loved.
Carry over into the welded life the re-
hnement Of manner that characterized
( your wOoing days. Don't imagine that
/ because you have now won each other
you need no longer be ahectIonate.
Spend as much time after marriage
making cages as you did spreading nets
[ before marriage and you VIII keep the
other dear charmer away.
! Never speak 10 any one outside OF one
another's faults. not even 70 your min
/ lister or your doctOr-they have troubles
! enough OF their own Any woman with
ordinary eyes can see things in her hus-
band she does not like Never whisper
/ 70 others your husbands or wife's short
! comings.
1 Avoid me65Iers, Some wretched gossip
will come TO you about the time you have
| set up your new home. and tell you how
/ she manages her husband. Tell her 70
mind her own business. and never return
the call.
/ There are some people so busy mindine
/ other peoples business that I would not
/ be a bit surprised on the resurrection day
( TO see some OF these everlasting snoops
getting out Of the wrong grave,
/ Pay attention 20 little things Estrange-
ments are rarely the work Of one day OF
caused by one offense. They are growths
It s. the little riff within the luto
That by and by VIII make the music mute.
The sunbeam is composed OF millions OF
minute rays So the home life must be
/ constituted Of little tendernesses. kind
I looks. sweet laughter, gentle words, low
! ing counsels. and soon II win be found
that kindness will spring up on every
side, displacing incompatibility OF temper
and irreconcilability OF spirit and want Of
mutual knowledge. even as we have seer
sweet vlOlets and primrOses dispelling the
depressing gloom Of the gray sea rocks
Make home everything Men running
day by day against the lightning-f footed
twentieth century, harassed by its cares
and perplexed by It's inquietudes. YEAR,
/ for the repose Of home. where the mind
/ can be at rest, the hearts turmoil become
quiet, and the spirits bask IN the peace
fuI delights Of domestic love.
Busy men become weary OF the dul
prose OF life and thirst for poetry Happy
IS the man who can find that poetry al
home