The Washington times., 1909-03-13
HAPPILY MATEDLIFE
A REASONABLE WISH
Woman Wanting to Wed
Should Be Less
EXacting.
MAN OF ROMANCE
IS USUALLY MET
Fear of Girl Having Selfish Mo
tives Seldom Deters
Proposal.

Referring to an unsigned article in
The Evening Times OF Friday, in which
J the writer declared that she wanted 70
get married. but could not md her man
of romance, the following communica-
ton has been received:
To the Editor of The Times:
Surely no one is unreasonable in wish
ing for that which has mary times
been attained happily mated life If
the object be nlatrirrony. II would seem
necessary, in starting out. that the pre-
requisites be trimmed down TO those
only Which are reasonable.
The tendency may be. as has been
portrayed by the anonymous young
lady in granting that conclusion, how
ever, X should not he forgotten that
conditions are continuously changing,
which in their wake bring altered So
clai relations. SO You win grant that
nowadays worldly wealth is given
more and more consideration. sterling
worth and potential qualities which u
timately bring success and renown be-
ing In the same measure pushed to the
background.
High Aspirations.
In this Gay young LADIES want TO Join
hands. in their march down the high.
way OF life, only with those young men
who are able TO start with them where
their fathers. who have been gradually
attaining TO their present respective
positions, have left off At this pro-
gressive ratio, man Of millions would,
10 them. soon be comparatively poor
But, nevertheless. such is The position
taken by mans sister, who has grown
up during that period Of her fathers
life when he is about arriving, through
years of effort, at the pinnacle of his
success In this wise, he is doubtless
4ble 10 provide her with many more
advantages. economically and socially,
than her mother had AT her age
Indeed, many mothers, even in Wash
ington, can attest TO the fact that their
early careers in this respect were not
quite as rosy as might be supposed.
Some say they denied themselves much
IN order to adjust themselves to the
circumstances Of the man whose offer
OF marriage was accepted in preference
vious perchance regal surroundings.
The Near-Ideal.
But the young ladies of good family.
fine education, social gifts, and other
varied accomplishments which go TO
make up the heartbeat in society. in the
great majority of cases meet with men
of their preconcsfved type ere their
lives have extended much beyond a
score Of rears.
That there are some to whom this
such, however, is an exception 1t NAV
be that by reason Of those same pecu-
liar circumstances which so often direct
our fortunes through life she has failed
10 come In contact with just those men
with whom she would have been at
tracted.
Some girls, too, having literary tastes,
or other talents, and the opportunity TO
further them, soon become absorbed
tnereln 10 such an extent as TO make
tnem passive toward men upon whom
they would otherwise look with favor.
CTiboer1sh youths and old men Of
changed views regarding nnatrimonv
nave long furnished amusement by their
erratlc ways, but they are never taken
seriously and require no further COM
ment.
y Out of Current.
Rarely does a man, when he has
reached period Of success in his ca
reer and IS inclined TO marry. deter
from asking the hand Of girl because
% selfish motives. Rather is II due IN
inc fact that those whom he would
nave asked in earlier years are then
married. And through years Of anpIf-
canon 10 his LIES work, he NAV be on /
tirelY out OF the social current Hav- !
Ing then no friends from among whom
ne would be apt TO marry. he fs con- I
tidered a confirmed bachelor. His NEXT
statuS is place on the Dasse list-nnaI, /
maps not self-chOsen
were ttls sort Of men kent In mind 4
slohg with those young. viriIe and COM /
.tnon-sehse klnd whose ambition is their /
GlTouet ana who are bound 10 achieve I
success Tar above the drawina-roor,
products, teas might take on a different
ar assuming the festive character Of I
u.ueh tunes when all men were co1r-
uers and more were debonair