Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1909-01-15

words that should be said TO make one
easy In polite company.
so many persons are ignorant as 10
what should be said or, done when they
20 into cultivated and refined society. IL
is this instruction 1 need and what ask
YOU for. H
while can see what others, do, can
not hear what they say.
Naturally. there must be emoarrass-
ment. and ask you TO tell me rev
things II you please.
FIRST. when I must speak TO young
ladies thar know By sight and name
only. L feel 1 am due them some expla-
nation or apology. Now what should 1
say?
Second. when anyone tells me they
are happy. TO make my aoquaintance'
what would be proper for me to say?
'iThlrd. when writing 10 young lady
stranger. how should ] address her; also
elderly ladies2 49,
Fourth, when I am introduced to
young lady is it always necessary
should express myself as pleased at meet
ing herr =.
laugh at my dense ignorance, because II
Is because / trust you so much that /
have been bold enough to write this let
ter 20 you.
Many things, common to other people,
are a novelty 10 me-
1T have enjoyed reading your letters so
much and wish you could write oftener
than you do.
I am only an ignorant boy. but L! am
so anxious to know and learn.
Il shan be gratefully to you for any
reply you make TO this letter. Most re-
spectfully, X. x
Reply: I do not give the full name or
address. because it might be emparrass-
ing to this young man. I feel intense SYM
pathy for those who are deprived Of any
OF their tiye isenss. Nobody, however, can
understand the severity Of such loss,
unless they have been losers themselves
With DEAFNESS there Is "a natural drift
TO loss OF speech. especially in children,
and II hinders grown people very much
when II Is caused by sickness or accident
and they cannot hear their own voice
1 am not a standard authority on man.
ners, but there are a few general. rules
that 1 can. present to this earnest in
quirer. and / viii premise my words by
telling him to secure, If possible, some
friend who can explain his deafness to
strangers when he is in such company.
The greatest thing in the world, says
Drummond. Is love. The. next greatest
I 4
namely, self-respect. So long as one Is
honest, true and self-respecting there
need be no diffidence in speaking when
spoken 10. IL It should be the president
who is present and introduced TO you.
Nobody can. err who is modest in de-
meanor and quiet in department, and the
most agreeable way. as see 1t. is to act
noturally as circumstances direct and say
you are pleased II you feel pleasure and
say nothing IL you are not pleased or in
doubt.
In being introduced to young ladies
show yourself agreeable. OF course; and
do not see that IL Is necessary to express
your pleasure, unless you feel it. Perfume
tory words have no value, and the young
man who Is deaf will not be expected to
say such things. or to attempt to pass
compliments without hearing what has
been said previously by persons who can
hear well. He can write 10 ladies. old
or young. In simple style. with words OF
respect and dignity. and never forget
that old proverb, Familiarity breeds con-
tempt"
With his deafness. there are limits 70
his understanding Of matters and things
are beyond his control. but right-minded
persons win make due allowances, and
he is well rid of the other sort, IL they
are not pleased with his manners and dc
not sympathize with his inhrmity.