New-York tribune., 1909-01-03
VISITING GOWN.
MODERN MARRIAGE
Gloomy Ticsc Taken By Hrs. Brady
an Book ON "HOzc to Bear 1t.

Modern Marriage and How 10 Bear 1t" by
Maud Churton Braby CMitchaN kenneriey. New
York; starts with a somewhat gloomy view OF the
relations of the sexes, and does not Teach NM
verv definite conclusion. Marriage Is discussed
everywhere in this year Of grace, says the open
IT, c,,s-+a- land very few people to have
a good word to say for It. The most superhcial
observer mast have noticed that there is oelhS
gradually built up in the community growing
dread of the conjugal bond. especially among
men: and a condition Of discomfort and unrest
among married people, particularly women W nat
is the matter with this generation that Wediock
has come 70 assume so distastefuI an aspect 10
their evee2 on evary side one hears It viiied and
its very necessity called in question FROM ue
pulpit the clergy endeavor L" Uphold the sahCuIE 80
OF the institution. and increasingly eNhort the1r
CONGREGATIONS 10 respect II abide by its laws
But the divorce court make ominous read
ing; every family solicitor viii tell you MS per
sonaI experience goes to prove that happy unions
are considerably OF The decrease and some or the
greatest thinkers Of or day join in a chorus OF
condemnation against iatter-d2y marriage
The exclamation offered for this condition IS that
81 Tolsrnz-: The relations between the sexes are
searching for a new form; the old one IS IaIlhs
10 pieces" The sexes are dissatisfied with each
orber Woman mas ''strlyed very far from man
ideal and consequently man hesitttes 10 marry
her. AS for women. they are in the main as
anxious TO marry ever Marriage brings niue
peuGence and q certain social Importance pu'
what can they do If the men won't marry the'h'
in England. REeTe lillS bOph as "'-e'0-''
there are not enough for tleIII 10 marry
Even If every man over twenty-five were mar
ried there would still be an enormous NUMBER OF
women left Eusbandess This is really very serious
and is condition that gives rise 10 many e'AS'
To make u for il far possible every man
of sound health and in receipt Of sufficient income
ought to marry Il it is merely not good lot man
10 be alone then il Is very bad, indeed for women!
Every should have man companion
man to live with-if only take the tickets carry
tho hays and get up IN the night 10 what that
noise is Since society at present constituted
does not countenance men and women living TO-
gether for companionship then clearly every
woman ought TO have husband!
There are spinsters who protest against this view
of the situation but Mrs. Brady thinks 1t no won
der that the Taadhouses are fun OF single women
The main cause of unhappiness in marriage Mrs.
Fraby finds TO be inequality Of temperament
and this she says IS frequently the fault OF our
absIrd conventions, which make ii so difficult for
single young ana women really 10 get 70
know each other. Things have improved during
+ba Iaet decade or two but even If man
shows a decided preference for a glrls company
bis name IS AT once coupled with hers in a man
ner which can but alarm youth devoid Of matrl-
monial intentions
means the least. 1t sounds farClcal. says the
writer, but I am perfectly serious Food the Or
derjns and cooking of it and the subsequent paying
for It is one the great tragedies oT wltes eA-
istence Time the great healer, merclfuIy deauellS
fb.
or so can face the daily burden Of food ordering
will, something like Indifference But to woman
who has not reached the fatal landmark apuy de-
scribed as same age a. everybody eIse lii41
FIVE il is the greatest cross. while many prloe
has had her early married life totally ruined by the
t,~i5 ana eyer recurring necessity Of finding food
>or her mariner Men make fun OF women because
,be,r dinner when alone. so often CONSISTS OF an
.es and tea but women have such a constitutional
botred or food ordering-inherted. no doubt. from
q long line of suffering female ancestry-tHat the
majority of them would gladly i've on tea ana
head and butter for the rest Of their lives sooner
than face the necessity OF daily medltatlhs On
-nenu For this reason l believe vegetarian nus
reds are particuiarly desirable. since the whole
..,r,. ~ food reform is simplicity. Those who
70 IN for it acquire entirely fresh set OF ideas
on the Importance OF food, ana become a0i's p@-
tb.,,csuv easily pleased know woman whose
husband 4. q vegetarian. and she declared inst tne
too6 question 30 disturbing factor IN most homes'
hsd never caused her a single tear, or froWn or an
anvrv word or an added wrinkle She assured me
,bst her husband would cheerfuly breakfast on a.
banana. lunch off lettuce. dine on GATE anu sup
IrlOY