Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1909-04-09

worse as time goes on. What may be
rather attractive petushnesS in pretty
| b2by IS pertness IN an older child. and
soon grows To unbearabie sauciness as
/ lie advances.
|, When the spoiled child reacbes his
ninth birthday and begins to mix with
! other children, he becomes mt once the
victim OF his infirmity. Unpopularity
and neglect follow, for no one wants to
be his friends.
The, spoiled child does not obey, is not
thoughtful of others; is pettish. selfish.
run OF conceit: is uncomfortable. nery-
temper
These faults. all preventable. have
grown from the tiny beginning. when
ms mother said to herself. He is so
him yet awhile
The world overlooks much in a little
chiid; for the world has kind heart
ahd loves to smile on youth. But there
| comes time wheE even the world is
| nara TO appease. From the worlds
point OF view spoiled child "a child
Vi or ~ years of agel is unattractive
anWeicome and menace to others
This is what the world thinks for
| puohc opinion does not mince matters
child p01'eu
The spoiled child is not wanted as Il
friend because the dullest parent knows
that ms influence is bad. He is not
wanted on visits or excursions, because
1t Is soon spread abroad thar he does
not mind. AT home his outbursts
are dreaded, and his unbridled tongue
reared. At school he is always com
planned OF, because he is 'touchy,"
suspicious and unmannerly. Now. I'M
derneath, there may be all the sweet
| virtues OF life hidden away, but-he is
a spoiled child
From the parents point of view. he
! is full of problems. They cannot I'M
derstand-for have they not done every
| thlng for him why he should so poorly
repay their efforts. They have spent all
thelr time planning for him and trying
to make him happy. He returns their
| efforts with sullenness and scowls. They
try to get nearer to him, but he reproach-
| es them, and continues on his own path.
| he is spoiled child Too late they ad-
init it. He began with so much in his
| favor. such promise. They neglected to
watch for the little faults-over-indulg
| ence and improvident love have done
! their part he is a spoiled child
| From the child'S point of view every
| one seems to him to be working against
him. Parents and teachers are alike in
| league to make him do what he doesn't
want to do" He feels that his parents
are disappointed and that his teachers
complain. In his loneliness he imagines
| himself ill-treated. If he is unlovely to
| the world, he is ten times more unlovely
| to himself His uncontrolled temper,
rising up in him at the slightest provo
cation, devaStates his peace His will
fulness, without curb, spends itself on
all around. He is a miserable mistake
he feels at odds with himself and with
the world but he does not know that it
is because he is a spoiled child.
hn lal
ways. Here are a few of them
BY being allowed his 'own way"
BY being constantly watched and over
looked
BY lack of discipline in little things.
By not being taught from his cradle to
obey.
BY being made the center of interest
in the family life.
BY being allowed a voice in plans rea-
tive to his life, future ana education
BY being given a disproportionate idea
of his own Importance.
By not being allowed to grow up in
Il healthy atmosphere of Indifference,
which is what the average child needs
These are troublesome lessons to teach.
but they must be learned if the child
is ever to take worthy place in the
world. To counteract in a child the ten
dency toward being spoiled, two virtues
should be emphasized i'll him-the virtues
of self-control and unselfishuess.
A little planning and a little thought
will reveal to the mother how best She
can direct her child so that these vir-
tues are stimulated. In proportion to
their growth will she see the undesirable
qualities disappear. Much love is need
ed in the training of a child, but much
wisdom also. 1t is easy to let the little
fault grow-so much easier than to be
on the lookout for it. to pluck it away
and plant a virtue in its stead.
One strange fact about the spoiled
child is that he is not happy. 1t is
hard for young parents to believe that
giving a child his own way does not in
the least make him happy.
Children who are brought up without
discipline are Wretched mentally and
temperamentally. There is nothing that
makes more surely for a child's peace
and happiness than to be brought up on
lines of strict discipline, of careful, low
ing forethought for his daily well-being
1t is innate in children to respect au-
thOrity. and they cling to the hand that
disciplices in love, with a loyalty Won
derful to behold. There is a look of
confidence and joy in the faces of chill
dren blessed with wise parents that we
never see where the father and mother
are over-indulgent and erratic in their
government
Children readily bend to authority and
Ia "hSiS lucS IcSl Iudl II ~ plduueu
for their own advance, and without such
a foundation the home lacks its main
stays and will crumble away at the first
breath of disaster
As the children of a nation are happier
when welded together by obedience to
good laws, founded for their protection,
so the children of family are happier
when compelled to live by certain nur-
sery laws, prayed over, established and
carried out in love by the highest au-
thority they know-their mothers word
-O...o~
The Real Harem.
Maj. Percy E. Henderson. who has
just returned from Turkey, has some in
teresting things to say about Turkish
harems and their inmates. According to
him, the former are not paradises Of
beautiful hours, while the latter are
anything but what have been heretofore
pictured. 1t was at Mostar that some
Turkish women returning from the
mosque paused to speak with some wOm-
en- acquaintance in his party.
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