Los Angeles herald. [microfilm reel] (Los Angeles [Calif.]) 1900-1911, 1909-04-01
COURTESY THAT WOMEN
OWE THEIR H0STESSES

A FINE line is that drawn between
w consideration of a hostess ana
~. neglect of her. To be always UNI
der the foot of the woman in whose
house one may be staying is to render
a guest decidedly unpopular, and yet 10
keep away too much is rude.
The exact conduct of guest must
necessarily be regulated by conditions
An exacting hostess requires more time
than one whose life is well filled ana
who likes to have few moments 10
herself at intervals. No woman, says
the Seattle Times, whether hostess OF
guest. cares to be ignored, and to pre-
vent even the appearance of this is
matter about which visitor cannot be
too careful.
A. woman who visits many weeks
each year has laid down for herself
general line of conduct that works eX-
cellently, although sometimes 1t must
he varied, When she is in house
where there are plenty of servants she
does not go down to breakfast, thereby
relieving the hostess OF her presence at
the time when the head of the mousse
may have many things to attend TO- OF
else NAV not care to see a visitor. HaV-
inc taken this time to herself and Civ
en- her hostess a chance to be alone,
the guest materialiZes about 10 O'CLOCK
and hunts out the other in slttlng
room or other general meeting place.
If the hostess is not to be round, tneit
the friend concludes that she is busy,
and to with book or fancy work waits
until her hostess arrives. BY that time
il is taken for granted that household
arrangements have been made and that
the hostess time is free. The careful
guest watches to see If there are not
notes her friend wishes to write, and II
she thinks such is the case, she gives
the opportunity, either by going out or
the room or asking her friend to write
regardless of her presence.
BY the middle of the morning there
will probably be some social engage
ment for BOTH or else the two may sit
! together and talk until lunch time, ana
i'm the afternoon there will certainly be
engagements. To these the visitor must
conform, and if she has friends in the
same city who wish to entertain her
thew will be- expected to invite her
hostess at the same time There may
be conditions under which guest oc-
casionally can be asked without her
hostess. but when this happens the ut
most care must be taken to make up
in some way that the friend shall not
feel sighted.
When the same woman visits in al
house where the servants are Few, she
makes a point of getting up to break
fast except where she is urged not to
appear. There are some women who
prefer that their visitors should not
breakfast with the family, and instead
send trays to their rooms. This leaves
the hostess much freer as regards time
in the morning.
From the breakfast table the guest
saws that she has few notes to write,
or a book she intends looking at, or
any other excuse that appears to her to
be good, and leaves her to her own de-
vices, that the hostess may have time
to attend to her affairs.
In about an hour the friend goes to-
the living room, and from that time on
studies the habits of her hostess. al
though she may feel free to go to her
room for rest To spend all the after
noon alone. however, will hardly be
considered polite.