The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1909-04-11
Col. John sneed's Conversations on
Domestic Problems
THE FRIENDS THAT STICK.

they were when you were young. Avo
must make q show nowadays II you re
going to stay in society As VIII says /
if we don't trail along with the process
sion we'll get left at the post I'm not /
sure that that's exactly the way he put /
il, but / know he meant that If we did /
not do as our friends do we wouldn't /
have any friends"
"Uh huh" grunted the colonel. II /
a sort of an up-to-date version OF the /
golden rule-spluTge for Others II you /
want others to splurge for YOU I've got
no particular quarrel with that, II you
can AFFORD it. 1t helps TO make business
good But L don't think you can afford
il Moreover. il don't make friends an
il DON'T keep friends. Moreover, again,
there amt a bit of difference between
the world now and when | was boy,
or when julius Caesar was boy, Tor
that matter. It's always been that way,
an / reckon il always viii be that way.
It's been a continuous procession from
Adams time down, an there's always
been a lot o. people fallin' over one an
other tryin' 10 keep the head OF II IN
sight.
But there's a whole lot more, a great
many more. now as well as then. who
don't care a continental rap about keep
in up with the procession most Of 'em
don't even know that there IS process
sion. an if they did they wouldn't take
the trouble TO go to the window to see
IL pass by, much less trail on behind the
band wagon. For, honestly now honey,
what's the use2 Does the procession
ever get anywhere or do anything Not
on your life. 1t just prances around in
a circle an blows its horn. II puts on
a LOT o. style to be sure, an it looks
mighty gay, 18th its ribbons an its
feathers dyin'. but the people that's on
the outside watchin' it get more enter
tainment out of it than the ones takin'
part in it.
Bat what else are we to do. papa? -
interrupted his daughter. You don't
want US to stay at home all the time
and wear our old clothes, do your"
NO, stree, little girl, an you know
! don't. I want you TO wear Just as
pretty dresses as you can afford an
have all the fun that's comm TO YOU,
but don't do things you've got no bust
ness TO do just because other people do
them, an don't imagine that you'll lose
any friends if the procession gets away
from you. Maybe some o the people
YOU call your friends would get some
thing the matter with their eyes when
YOU came along the street if YOU didn't
put on as much style as they did, but
that kind O. cattle amt the stuff that
finer or sweeter in the world than
good friend, an the man or the woman
that hasn't got real friends is mighty
unfortunate, but you can't get 'em an
YOU can't keep 'em by maxim a show.
as YOU call il. Just try II by your own
standard, for instance. Take the wO-
men that you like the best Why do
YOU like them Is il because they wear
fine clothes, or live in big houses. or
To- T.a~
No, YOU bet il amt. It's because there's
something within them that's better
than any show they could make if they
had millions. An don't you suppose
the same women love you for the same
reason? Don't you suppose it's your
character and not your dress that draws
them to yOu2 I'm mighty sure il is. an
I'm also mighty sure that they'd keep
on lovin' you, no matter whether you
had your gowns made In Paris or by
the little dressmaker around the corner.
If they didn't, why, they wouldn't be
friends. That's all there is to that.
They'd Just be make-believes, an if you
lost EN- YOU wouldn't lose anything
worth grievin' about.
What I'm tryin' to get into your
pretty little noggiu'-an', by the way,
honey. I like that new way of fixin'
your hair, it's mighty beCOmin'. But
as ! was about to remark, the point I'm
tryin to get you to see is that fine
feathers don't make fine friends. an
you'll make a mighty big mistake if
you think the only friends worth havin
are the ones that wear the gayest raj
ment. You win find good, true friends,
no doubt, in swell garb, but it amt the
clothes that makes them so. For real
friendship has nothing to do with
dress or position in life. 1t springs
from qualities Of the mind or the heart,
which don't cost a red cent, an which
millions can't buy.
You can't have too many friends
my dear, but you've got to depend upon
something besides appearances to get
'em and 10 keep EN-. The friends that
stick are the ones that love you for
what you are. not for what you wear,
and you'll find material for friends of
that kind among the high and the low,
the rich and the poor. Some Of the best
friends I've got don't know where the
next dollars to come from, an some o.
the others don't know what to do with
their money; but they're all in the same
boat in the matter of friendship. and
any one of EN- would go through fire
an water for me. I know, because I've
tried them. But you can't make friends
without dOin' something or bein' some
thing worthy Of friendship, an you
can't keep friends unless you give as
much as you take-not in money, under
stand, but in friendly words an friend
~ deeds. in a little sympathy or A little
help when it's needed, and particularly
when it's badly needed. One friend
that sticks. no matter what comes
whether you lead the procession or are
trampled under its feet. is worth more
than a thousand Of those that pat you
the hack when Won re in he -frr-
an forget you're on earth when trouble
comes. When you've got friends YOU
can count on. no matter what happens
YOU ought to hang on to 'em with q
death grip, for there's nothing more
precious on earth except a good wife
or a good husband and children; bat
YOU needn't be afraid Of Iosin' EN- bN
failin' TO keep Up appearances. The
real ones, little girl, amt lost i'm that
way