The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1909-03-12
Pursuit Of Pleasures and
Hunt for Rich Wife Handi-
caps TO Marriage.
ONE FOND DREAM OF
THE BACHELOR GIRL
Story of Lame Woman Who Is
Starving IN the Midst
of Plenty.

would preface my lament by ie-
marking that I am considered 10y the
world at large as q very fortunate
young woman. I avn nearly thirty years
u age; I am we'll born, well bred, well
educated, rather clever. not bad look
ing; ! possess sufficient income TO keep
The of At A safe distance from the
threshold. In addition 10 that, ] hold
r position in the business world which
brings me in salary on which many
a man supports :. wife and family
me - 'uncomfortably L have a host or
attractive friends; there are a dozen
homes in which l may find myself
welcome guest any night ] live well,
in suite furnished with my own books.
treasures and pictures. What do
Lave to complain of Because 1 want
60 get married.
Had More Attention.
AS a matter of fact I have had more
attention from men than most Of the
women 1 know. For one thing. my work
las constantly thrown me in contact
with men. unlike the work of teacher,
who Of necessity spends her time in a
Contin uslly feTuinizeG atmosphere I
have had seven offers Of marriage, most
or which were too ridiculous to Dc en-
terained seriously Some of the offers
we're from boys, others were from old
men, the rest were job lot OF worth
less incompetents who l had reason 10
think regarded ny paltry income as no
deTiment in the choice of a wife
Where are all the desirable men of
fiction? l do not mean great catches:
i mean what mi ght be considered
ordinarily we'll educated men estab-
Ished IN business or profession,
end able and willing 20 support the
wife OF their choice in the style to
winch their own sisters have been
accustomed. The species seems TO be
becoming as extinct as the dodo.
Finds Handbags
When man arrives at the success
ful stage In his career which would
warrant his asking a girl, like my
self. for instance, TO marry him, he
finds that his own comforts and
pleasures pretty wen use up his in
come. To marry, therefore, would
entail sacrifice, and TO welcome sacri-
fee one must he under the spell of
romance. But romance is such a silly
thing that the average cool headed.
successful business man or profess
Eional man scons at il.
On every side I see refined. lovely
women of my acquaintance settling
Gown 20 resi- gned bachelor eirlhood
planning their lives independentiv of
me male sex. They have their clubs
their teas and amusements. and have
a pretty good time: but l know. a.
they 90 in their heart Of carts. that
this is not the life OF their dreams.
for 1t is not meant for woman to live
alone.
Yet. the papers 10 chronicle notices Of
marriages. Yes, OF course. Our civil
ization is rapidly coming to the same
state Of affairs as exists in EuroDc.
where the girl who expects TO marry
must provide the home. the money, the
social position; IN fact. everything but
the man, who graciously-so far-prO-
rest.
Sacrifice of Women.
on every hand one sees women who
have deliberately sacrificed themselves
tS suitors who are obviously unworthy.
II order that they may satisfy their
natural instincts for home. children.
and a hus6and-be he never so humble.
u man possesses an iota OF attrac-
ton he goes TO the girl who mas more
10 offer In these days IL is a case Of
Queen Cophetua and the begsar man.
many young matrons have given up en-
PERTAINING entirely. except for the mar
llec set because they can find no men 10
EIace their dinners and dances Their
husbands seem 70 have severed all as
'iSss-oIS WIN ttlelr own sex on their
Wtooing day The debutantes tell me
that the functions given for them arc
-enliyened only by the presence of vapId
youths who take themselves so seriously
lnst they are ridiculous, and ante
olluvlans whor were paving the same
compliments when the preceding gen
GRAFTON was young.
Man of Dreams.
] should like 10 meet man Or So
whom q reasonable Young pou1ar, y,7ie,I,r
iutelligently learn 70 love honor am
"tey-should he give her the chance
without sacrificing every ideal Of he,
s1rhood. Am ! unrea soma Die in this
J WISH sore one would tell me alIite
iTpersonaliy. for IL isn't the sort ~
tnlns / can ask my friends. with MANY
@ tnem the question comes too close 10
home.