The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 18??-19??, 1909-02-02
why Should
Not Marry My
Husband Again"
Especial Correspondence.)

To The Editor: Not long
since one OF the current maya
zines printed q column with this
heading: Why 1 would not marry my
husband again. and l doubt not that
many a poor. heart-sicl1 woman fail
ing to realize that close companion
ship she a SO joyously looked for
ward to on her marriage morn. read
it with interest, seeking some word
of encouragement. some light on this
mighty problem of life. But alas. it
was written only for men and what
man win "a a wonaaB's point of
view-and how few men III read such
stuff Yet God made man and wo-
mar to live together-to be one flesh,
and the marriage VOW so lightly.
spoken for better or .worSe-to love.
to CHERISH often SgoWs meaningless
with the spoken words.
Good nen-hundredS Of them
think duty done il they are true in
their morals, if they provide the
necessities of life. Could she honor
him, if love of her and not high pfin-
ciples We're the cause only OF his
purity? Gould she trust him, il only
the fleeing sentiments of the human
stood between him and immortality?
Is it jealousy when her heart cries
out for the 0 n sympathy prom
ised at the altar before God and man?
IS it jealousy and lack of faith in
him that causes her heart to ache
when she sees the loving smile, the
tender caress, the thoughtful sympa-
thv ever given to others-it may be
a sister. child or friend. but never to
her. Never to her who have given
her love, her life. her good hooks and
health in drudgery for HIM. She, who
has toiled to raise and educat her
chi1dren-WhO has risen early and re-
tired late to keep the wheels of the
home machinery running pleasantly
and smoothly, needs sympathy and
love. money ana lnNlripS cannot nav
for these things. Women never grow
too old to love. to want appreciation
from others. and sad indeed is it
when h must needs go outside of
her husbands heart and life to find
it.
We sc often hear it said "Men mar
ry their ideals,' and I pity from the
bottom Of my hear the young man.
who on the Threshold o. life sud
denly awakens from his roseate dream
and finds that his beautiful lido. is
only a woman after all-exact1ng it
may be, neglectful of his interests.
qaeru1ous perhaps when ickness and
trouble surround her. but be she a
true woman-always loving and long
ing for love.
Young man. is 1t hopeless? Sup
pose instead of yielding to your i'm
patience. lou remember that VOW t.
love and cherish. that you listen pa
tiently to her trouble and with loving
> y IL away.
sunnose You make her your
ion instead Of your drudge. hat you
take her. as YOU partner in reality as
we'll as in name, a sharer In every
pleasure, interest and ambition.
Will she not grow as you grow
may h not develop into something
approaching the do. that was shat
tered on III wedding journey? Is it
not worth while? This American Wc-
man. young. loving and trusting may
be nodded into something worth haV-
ing-if her possibilities are no.
snuhhcd. her ambitions killed. in youth
by lack of appreciation. the crowdinS
of drudgeries. the withdrawing and
the heart-acheS.
This business of hon1e-making, the
rearing and training of children. the
managing Of servants. the expenditure
Of household funds. require quite as
much brains. az deep thought and
more ~sleepless nights by far than Is
required by man 4 bread-winner..
And this work should be a~pprectat-
ed and honored. for it is 3norecfation
and 1ove that make drud@ery light,
drives away the adO and caN
forth the best possibilities IN woman
G n IEICH,s