The Ogden standard. [volume] (Ogden City, Utah) 1902-1910, 1909-08-21

she yields TO the ehilds cxaotions. for the
sake OF peace. or from indifference or
sheer laziness. she need not be surprised
to md the child developing obstinacy
and temper. A safe rule is never 10 al
low a child to do once without protest
what is undesirable for him to continue
to do always.
Establish Coed Habits
Habits OF right action may be cstab~
lished before he is conscious that these
arc OF permanent value Ii he is taught
that he is not 10 touch 4 valued orna-
ment or book, he learns to obey when his
mothers quiet, gentle, firm voice says
No He looks IN her eyes and trusts
her. II he is allowed TO DC destructive,
he assumes that he has that privilege.
In his childhood he must learn habits
OF modcsty, cleanliness. generous habits
in sharing his toys with others, Or
dc!ly habits in putting away his toys. in
stead OF leaving them for his mother to
gather up; considcratc habits IN not
being noisy when his mother has head
ache,
If he i, not taught coed habits be-
fore he is seven or eight years old, the
loss is almost irrctricvablc A child
forms or breaks habits very readily. II
IS we'll to find unde. what conditions he
will break a bad habit, either by having
It suppressed directly, or by building up
a good habit IN its place.
1aporsoao, OF Surroundings
A child is very susceptible to the in
auence OF his surroundings. veD, sensl-
tive TO the looks, voices, manners Of his
parents. He sees whether there is love
and respect IN their relationship, con-
sistercy OF conduct or the reverse He
detects quickly the difference between
Justice and injustice in their treatment
Of him
Dissension between parents is dan
gcrous to the child's proper develop
mcnt Of character II parents have
moods, sometimes scolding him, then
layishing caresses, they cannot expect to
lead him toward a happy. reasonable,
obedicDt boyhood. Inconsistency creates
distrust and lack OF respect He imi-
tatcs those he is with and takes his
temper from his environment. An at
mospherc OF peace in the home promotes
a cheerful disposition.
Better to Lead than to Force
Obedience should be required only
with a view to the welfare of the child
Parents should demand only what is
reasonable, but demand it invariably
Discipline aims at personal assistance
The intention must be to direct not to
manage" to lead, not to force A
child should grow into boyhood feeling
that when told to do anything by his
parents it is not a stern command given
by stronger persons. but a kindly rule
for his own good A boy who obeys
simply because he fears punishment, has
slavish habit OF mind and is not gain
ing moral strength
Parents are wise who do not resort to
physical force in punishment The mind,
not the body, is to be influenced. Some
restraint, or task or the deprivation OF a
pleasure, may be punishment. Le-
nicncy may be an injustice when IT means
that boys character may be weakened
II he is excused for wrong-doing.
A wrong act should be corrected at the
proper moment. not punished later Wis
dom, patience, and calm strength from
within the soul are needed by parents
in correcting a child
The Child is an individual
Any theory of training will fail which
does not recognize the individuality and
personality OF each child. The guidance
for one may not be best for another. A
boys temperament tastes, abilities and
peculiaritics arc not only inherited from
his parents, but from lines of his ances-
tors in two families.
Constant discoveries of characteristics
may be made, and the knowledge util-
izcd in helping him Although it is ad
visablc always to try to find the hidden
good 10 develop, it is necessary to watch
carefully for tendencies which may re
veal faults to correct. or weaknesses 10
he overcome before they result i'll fixed
habits
1t is not difficult to guide tie impulsivc.
enthusiastic, imaginative boy, but the dull
and phlcgrnatc boy needs suggestion, the
nlorosc or obstinate one needs sympathy.
A boy with a quick temper needs loving
guidance He must be helped 20 look
within his heart, to learn to control the
angry thoughts or feelings that lead to a
quarrel
A boy with strong will needs
tender, subtle direction He may be