The Montgomery advertiser., 1909-09-19
sNUB GIvERs AND TAKERS


 The average woman, no matter wha her station in life, delights to give thorough snubbing to some person she considers rude or presuming, ant she seldom escapes one herself, ever | though her career. Is triumphant say The New York Tribune. A snub tha comes as a reprimand is only just ant right. but the snubs that meapspiriteC woman dole out right and left, re gardless of the feelings of others. ar, at times almost criminal because O. the pain they give.
 How delicateiy the snub that come, as asfeproof may be administered wa aptly Illustrated by an incident tha happened not long ago In one of tn, most fashionable clubs for, games 1T New York. A young and rather shy new member had been placed in a SCI with belle who, though she had play. ed this particular game for severa seasons. did not display as much skill as the newcomer. and was consequent ly defeated by the younger girl Botl walked to one of the nearby chaperons and the belle drawled out in an inso lent way. Tt is really no fun at this place now; so many people have join. ed that one has never seen before How do you account for the change? P
 The chaperon. with ready wit. admin. tstered the snub in four words. De butantes. my dear, debutantes," and then she took the little stranger bS the arm and led her off to the tea ta- ble to meet more courteous members The fact Is that many women of the best position cannot bear to be out classed in ahy pleasure that they take up, and when some one else shows greater proficiency in their favorite pastime malice is inspired. The cut. ting speeches they make act as bayn no doubt to their wounded pride.
 Then there are the women of unas |. sailed social position who eventually become imbued with the better thar thou" idea. When once started on this path they become indifferent to friend ship on an equal plane and the list oi those slaughtered by their snubs grows to appalling proportions.
 There Is one class of "snubbs' whose sins really should be cOndoned. She Is the woman who has only disappoint- ments at every turn after a reign oi peace and plenty, and gives snubs be cause she dreads. pity for pity at times Is an actual impertinence. and under some conditions If openly expressed becomes an insult The Impulse of the sensitive person Is to combat the first evidences of this undesired pity. and the most natural weapon is the ever. ready snub.
 The adept at snubs can so word her poisoned phrases that 1t may be a day or two before her victim realizes what has been said to her. for black look by no means accompany the deadliest thrusts. One only has to listen for a short time at a Lenten sewing class meeting to be nelinghtened as to what terms of endearment really point to for the neatest snubs are so lovingly hedged that they sound honey sweet and only the recipient knows the bit, terness of the dose unless the other sisters in charity have been similarly treated But in no circle does the one who snubs from pure hatefulness keeI friends. Slowly. but surely. she fluids her level. passing down the line of those she has known intimately until she has exhausted all. by her ill-Dat- tured speeches.
 Snubs are taken in different ways acording to the woman and her mood snub that one day appears heart breaking on another will seem a joke and then. too. there is always the toy of contemplating retaliation so an initiating that the mere thought of revenge brings smile of satisfaction So, for that reason alone. no notice can be taken of the insult Again there are business relations between the husbands. which mean that. like naughty children's fights. there will be