The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1909-05-14

will go to Rossville to make their
home the last of the month.
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The Lambda Alpha Lambda high
school gave a party Thursday after
noon for Miss Anna Sim at the
home of Mr.. and Mrs. J. F. Mitchell
Miss Sim will leave when the school
term is over for Valley Center to join
''Why isn't your sister here?" the
oldest Witherspoon girl was asked at
a party. I'VE drew straws," she re-
piled, land 1 got the long straw and
| the dress, and she the short straw and
went to bed
Society functions, usually described
as gay and festive are not necessarily
so much fun. Perhaps, to those on the
smart set seems a brilliant, happy
carefree occasion, but there is another
side of the story. A girl who does not
often go to dances, not because she
isn't asked, out because she doesn't
care for them, attended one recently
and said next day: Il don't understand
why the girls in that set are SO crazy
about dancing. Most of them are
treated shamefully at the parties. Last
night they were sitting out half the
time: There were no extra men and
when some of the chaps wanted to go
out and smoke the girls, who only
smoke in the privacy of their boudo1rs
and the presence of a kodak, could only
sit around and try to look as If they
really hadn't noticed they were sitting
out One man took a girl to the party
and danced with her only once. She
sat in the dressing room three or four
dances. Even some of the popular
young married women had dances I'M
engaged. You can't tell me they had
a good time. Why do they go? Be
cause the other girls do and they re-
gard a girl who is not popular in the
limited, silly, fashionable set as a
failure. Many a girl is asked second
or third choice and at the eleventh
hour. She knows it is no compliment
and that even after she has favored
man by going with him (aIthough she
doesn't do it to favor him, but be-
cause she fears to have it suspected
she was not invited) he will probably
neglect her all evening. Some of the
men last night were so regardless Of
good breeding and the conventional
etiquette they are supposed to hold
sacred that they didn't take the last
dance with their own partners. This,
of course, made disagreeable complca-
tons and bitter feelings. Until girl
| is hardened by many seasons in the
social whirl she goes home from nan
the parties too sick with disappoint-
ment and humiliation to sleep. Dances
are for the lovers who are still in the
preliminary stages and for those who
are carrying on clandeStlne analrS and
can see each other in no other way.
The rest of the company, and it is the
majority is bored more than half the
time. They go from habit and because
they have so few resources within
themselves that they seek society
where restless activity takes the place
of real interest. If it were not for the
eternal husband hunt there would be
few dances. The people who dance for
the love of it, under the artificial cir
lcumstauces of society, are not enough
to keep up the pastime. The proof of
this is that after girl and man
become engaged they begin by going
home early from the parties, and finally
drop out altogether. until they have
been married few years, tire of one
another. and are looking for a new
interest, when, If they aren't capable
dancing The very youthful sets, the
high school and college crowd, genu-
Iinely enjoy their parties. Dancing is
still a novelty to them, they are not
tired of one another, and 1t is only
necessary to look into their bright.
young faces to see that they are really
| happy at their diversions. The moth
ers of the girls. have pressed their
| frocks. cleaned their gloves and shoes,
aad laid out their trinkets for them,
RACES 1t is indeed a case of Father
and Mother do all the work and We
have all the fun The mothers wait
or the daughters for few years, sew
for them, and get them ready for par
ties with pride and pleasure. but after
while when nothing comes of the ten
tative love affairs of which they have
both hoped SO much. and the only re-
suit of her dancing is to make Daugh-
ter i'll and tired and cross next day.
Mother loses interest and does for
Daughter grudgingly, If at all.