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The Washington herald., 1909-11-07

rars to find women better educated and
better disciplined than the men who WOO
them, more's the pity, for perfect love
is impossible without intellectual SYM
patty and. too, a man should beware
lest the Minerva no chooses presumes to
wear the trousers and usurps his pero-
gatve. than which there can be no great
er disaster
4 foreigner. who passed some time IN
Washington last winter, commented on
the fact that young men so little fire.
quented the society Of their elders. and
no found much to regret and deplore in
this and. indeed, attributed some OF the
bumpuousness Of the American youth 10
this very fact with us" he said.
1T is quite different Our young men
frequent the homes and clubs OF their
elders, not only for the enjoyment they
get from ripper experience. but as thea
tiers OF good breeding. They do not feel,
as do so many of your American youths,
that they are able to teach their fathers
and grandfathers, and they are delighted
at the notice OF a dowager, most grateful
for the slightest interest she shows in
them and earnest in their endeavor to
profit by such interest, for there is a
no more accomplished teacher IN the
ways OF society than tia clever women
who have grown gray headed among
its pomps and vanities."
II was a great philosopher who said
Its a rare greatness TO make use OF
the wise, and far exceeds the barbarous
taste Of Tigrane who had q fancy fol
cautive rnOnarchg "a his servants II Is
novel kind OF supremacy, tho best that
1 life can offer. 10 have as servants by
skill those who by nature are our mas
ters"
l have already talked much and fire.
aUently Of the duty of young men 10 the
chapeTons Of society, but 20 no great
purpose, a would seem, If the complaints
that constantly reach my ears are vel
| founded Our gilded youths look upor
| chaperons as a necessary evil, TO be toll.
Grated. not propitiated. Some OF them en-
/ dure the chaperOn with better grace thar
| others, but they all-Or nearly all. fOl
| there must always be the exception L
prove the rule-wish that she did no
have 20 be. There are. OF course. some
: chaperons so absolutely charming anC
! lovely that every one IS at their feet
but those not so fortunate have a tire
some time Of IL, which the beaux OF IN,
young women in their charge could d,
much TO tighten II they would.
These Indifferent beaux, however. ar,
likely 10 meet their Oliver this winter
FOR a wealthy matron. who is about Il
bring out her daughter and has planne,
many handsome entertainments I'm he
honor, declared at woman's uncbeo,
the other day that If the young men 81
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society here did not show her the same
attention she had been accustomed 70
receive from the younger set in London
Paris. and elsewhere, she would cut them
all her visiting list you all won
der she said. why those OF US who
have travelled like the foreign men. 1
can tell you in a word: 1t is because they
are so scrupulOusly. so punctiliously po-
lite, not to pretty young girls. but TO all
women. and the older the woman the
more diferential l was so irritated at
ball | went TO last winter at the cava-
lier fashion in which the young men
treated men that I made up my mind I
would not present my daughter here. but
l am a good, loyal American. after all,
and so she makes her first bow TO So
ciety at the Capital, but the young men
must be polite and attentive TO mamma.
If they are not, / shall import young men
enough TO I'LL my draUing-room," and she
laughed merrlly at her own suggestion.
An old beau that knew IN my youth
and whom I remember as a marvellous
man. successful in almost everything &c
which he turned his hand, was wont &c
insist that every man would excel IN
Al O. NAAF 0NnAAAAtAaAb VI AAt0 AAAN
he were able TO discover his strongest
point and set himself TO assiduously cul-
tivating IL. Some, he would say, exec
in love-making. some In circus riding
Now, 1t Is sad to spoil a good circu!
rider by making a poor lover. and 81
vice versa. The experience OF a colleg,
chum Of mine goes 70 prove this declara
ton. for. try as he would. this lad coulC
never learn to dance. and because Of thi
inability his popularity naturally wa,
below par with tho fair sex. He was
sensible youth. however, and SO aban
doned the idea OF ever mastering his leg
and took to storytelling. Here he foun,
his forte. and became IN time such
wonderful reconteur that there was no
a girl In our little set who would no
give UP waltz for the pleasure Of lis
tening 20 his stories He had Schehera
zade beat to a FRAGILE, as Col. Roose
welt would say. and succeeded in making
dancing so unpopular that the under
graduates held a jonihcation meeting
| when he graduated. I could cite mum
/ berless other incidents 20 prove the WIS
dom OF his views, but this. II seems Q
me. IS convincing. and a word 10 tn
wise
! A failing have often noticed IN youn
man IS their proneness 10 ally themselve
| with the minority. Ii is the folly CD o
/ youth to be generous and impulsive. an
| the minority. let we whisper Il low. /
| generally right: but il is not world
wise 20 essay TO become a champion Unit
/ one has won HIS spurs. Think with IN
/ few, n you must. but speak with IN
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diplomatic questions. Mr.. jay spoke Ger
man as well as excellent French: he was
honest. truthful. and straightforward. and
possessed Of tact and courteous grace.
When he died the Evening Post said OF
him that he was probably the gentlest
and most courteous knight who ever put
lance in rest. No foe or cause WAS bad
enough TO make him lose his temper; no
man with so winning an exterior prob
ably ever took part in so many combats.
He remained through them all every inch
a gentleman, simple, kindly, courteous,
hoping all things, believing all things,
and forgiving everybody. and bore with
accomplishing fortitude the long period
OF suffering which closed an inustrious
career"
New York" said Edward L. Pierce OF
Massachusetts. has in ell periods OF his
tory given great names to the country
Schuylers. Van Burens, Stuyvesants. and
Chntons-b0t what young man bearing any
OF these names made such a choice as
Jay's?"
After her husbands death Mrs. Jay
spent the greater part Of each year al
Bedford House, but latterly she had re-
manned. winter and summer, in this city
OF her FIVE children. one married Gen
Won Schwenitz. for many years German
Ambassador 70 Austria and Russia. Her
only son Is Col. William Jay. The other
daughters married Henry Grafton Chap.
man, of Boston; Edmund Randolph 10 p
inson and William Il Schiefelin, Of this
city
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NOTE-The Arbiter will be glad to
answer any question Of a social na-
ture that may be submitted. Such
question should be addressed to The
Arbiter, care The Washington II Laid
A young man about town makes a
pathetic complaint TO The Arbiter that
all tho advice and suggestions given IN
this column are for women. DO you
think the men Of society quite perfect. or
so imperfect. that you feel it is not worth
your while to waste ink upon them?'' he
asks.
Then he goes on to say: Il can assure
that much the same medicine you some
times deal out 20 the young women would
suit their brothers and beaux, I do not.
perhaps. aim at tho stars myself, but I
do try to make myself an acceptable
member Of society, and I cannot say that
FOR some OF the men know. When you
have the time and inclination, give US
ell good. sensible talk on what not
20 do
Ny correspondent is in error. I have
no intention 20 ignore the young men in
society; indeed. have not done so, as a
review OF The Washington Herald files
will disclose, but it is some time since
! have addressed myself directly to the
glded youths OF society. not from lack
OF interest. but because other subjects
have pressed. and, then, am not sure
OF having discriminating and appreciative
readers, for this is an age Of scofing,
and the average young man Of tho day
feels that no one. not even Beelzebub
himself-and perhaps he Is right in this
oan teach him anything, so The Arblter
will not attempt 10 teach, merely to point
out weaknesses and suggest remedies.
More is required OF men to-day both in
and outside Of society than ever before
in the history OF the world. An average
person must possess more knowledge
than did the savants and philosophers
OF earlier periods 10 play even a mod
est part in society, not only because
standards have changed but because
women at the present time are gener-
ally educated as well, II not better, than
their brothers and sweethearts, and Il
IS odd and unusual for a woman to re-
spect, much less love. man beneath
her in intellectual accomplishment. It
behooves a man, therefore. 10 cultivate
his mind as we'll as his manners II he
would win the woman Of his choice.
have in mind the love affair OF a
young man and young woman that came
near having a disastrous ending, sim
ply because the man had neglected 10
make the most Of his opportunities.
They were both college graduates. The
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woman an alumna of Bryn Mawr; the
man an alumnus of Princeton The
Bryn Mawr girl had been an earnest stu
dent Her mind was as clear as a whistle
and as logical as that Of Judge and
she was one Of the best poised women ]
ever met. The man had gone through
college sloyenly. Just made g." as he
said. speaking OF his degree, and he
was quite content TO have Just made
it, for he had no love Of study for
study's sake, and as he had inherited
large fortune and was not forced 70 make
his living. what was the use? Well,
these two met. fell in love. became en-
gagged. much to the JOY OF the families
Of each. and the wedding day was set.
But as the time for her marriage APP
preached, the bride became more and
dissatisfied with the general attitude and
mental processes Of her fance. He had
a great fortune TO control, and he was
content 10 leave II, long after the trust
had expired. in the hands OF the men
whom his father had appointed; his
wealth, position. and supposed training
entitled him to play a great role IN the
world. yet he had no ambition to at
tempt such a part He was Just a good
natured. happy-g o-Iucky fellow. who was
bored by responsibility and refused to
be tempted by ambition.
The woman loved him. else It would
have been easy sailing, but she finally
decided that TO marry him as he was
would make for the unhappiness OF both.
She told him this and gave him good.
logical reasons for her decision.
I refuse" she said Ito be the wife
OF a man who allows others to do his
work in the world for him. I DO not
want 70 marry either n lay figure or a
lacl1ey but q man who does a mans
work and assumes a mans responsible
ties. When you are ready 20 attempt
this. 10 undertake the work. and assume
the responsibilities and to tit mind you.
TO properly hit and equip yourself for
your high service 1 viii marry you, but
not before"
No prayers. no pleadings. no arguments
moved her, but what did move her was
her finances proposition 10 take the law
course NJ Harvard, and q post graduate
course in political economy. do that,
she said go 10 Harvard and work for
one year, and II at the end Of that time
you are IN love with the work and want
10 keep on Will marry you. and we Will
work together. for the present problems
OF society are so great and so many,
that it requires all the wise and good
men and women in the world working
as a unit to solve them"
This IS. of course, an extraordinary in
cident. 1t is rare TO find a young woman
with such lofty standards. but It is not
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ADVICE TO THE GLDED YOUTHS OF SOCIETY F." TIE snh

OF china. The shops offer an embarrass-
ment OF riches to chose from, both in
French and English china. out you can
get better effects in the latter for the
price YOU name. Almost every famous
make is reproduced now In cheap china
so well as to be hardly dlstinguishable
from the original The blue Canton. the
onion pattern. the Copenhagen ware, and
the Indian tree are all perfectly initiated.
both in shape and design. and you would
not 20 amlss in selecting any one OF
these. Yes. bare tables with as hand
some doilies as one can afford are still
in fashion for breakfast and luncheons,
even formal luncheons. No, II IS not
necessary to have dessert every day. or
at all. but a dinner never seems appro-
priately finished unless fruit or some
sweet Is served.
4. Qussdon-Do you believe in giving children en-
allowance Tor spending money! This Is question
about which u8 husband and invariably olssh.
believe IN allowing the children a regular sum %
spend. and he thinks IL best 70 give them money
when they want Or asa for IT, A MOTHER
Answer-Make your children a regular
allowance by all means. This practice
IS by far the best way Of forming inde-
pendencs Of character. making a child
self-relIant. and giving him an idea OF
values But in giving a child an allow
ance adhere strictly 70 the sum agreed
upon. Do not be persuaded TO give more
because he has been careless IN spend
ing, for the mistakes he may make are
part. a valuable part, OF the education
tha outlay Of bfc allowance nfveu him
Question: met Young man tho othsr night
az an ice-cream party and we we're togrther an tho
evening. and then he walked home With ne, bot
he DID not ask If he could call upoa me. and ! did
not ask him % call although I want very much %
Sc him again. for be IS engineer ard the girl
who save the party says he is a very nice Young
ran. What would Jon d. about Invite him a
note OF ask him 20 come By the store where I an
MISS sALL1E-.
Answer would advise you 20 wait
until you meet the attractive engineer
again at another ice cream party or
some other function. when you could ask
him 70 call I would not write him.
nor would I advise you 10 ask him or
any OF your friends 10 call at your place
| OF business. Such visits would interfere
with your work and impair your useful
/ ness.
| s. Quostiou-Caa yo1 tell ne - velvet IS 70 be
WON this season and Il It IS really true that snail
4 hats are coming in' DEBUTANTE
( Answer-A friend who is just from
/ Paris tells me that velvets and co-du-
roy are much IN vogue, and that small
hats are coming in, although they have
not yet superseded the big ones.
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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS.


l. Questiou-I5 Il proper. socially OF legally for
woman to uss her deceased husbands Christian
Daac in signing herself-that Is Airs John Doc Or
Mrs. MARY Doe. Kindly answer this in the Sunday
edition Of The Washington Herald. Yours truly.
WARREN PARSONS.
White Plains y. J.. Oct 2. 100
Answer-It IS not legal for woman to
use her deceased husbands name; not
legal, indeed. TO use il when he is alive.
The law requires that she shall sign
her own Christian name as Mary Doe.
Socially, It Is the custom for a woman
10 use her husbands name during the
husbands lifetime but a widow. either
by death or divorce, should assume her
own Christian name. The widows, how
ever, OF distinguished men often retain
their husbands name. Mrs. Grant. for
Instance. always used her husband S
name. Ulysses. and the widows OF Gen.
John A Logan and Gen. Philip Sheridan
are known by the names Of their dis
tinguished husbands. This custom IS un-
usual and confusing and should not be
encouraged
? Ques;iou-Win you Kindly give ne menu fc
a simple dinner which shall include az least one
game coursel With many Acknowledgements for pas,
ava 80 49, 49, GENE.
Answer
Canape u CaTtlrU
EscallCped Oysters. with Coleslaw
Boiled Mutton with Capcr Sauce
/ Potato Cfotuettes Green Peas Currant JELLY
Roman Punch
Roast Quail. with GRAINED Celery
RoUnino salad
/ Cream Cheese Crackers Barbecue Cunant
Ncsscrode Pudding
Cyfee.
3. Quest3oD-I an about going 20 h0UsekeeTiu
/ and am undecided about my china Would yCu Ju
| separate plates for tho different courses or wou
/ you buy complete 80 o. cainaf Ard can go
/ mention some make and design that you think COIL
/ be bought set = H. ] mean-fcr s. or so? Wi
YOU inform me II bare tables used by nice peopl
for lunch and dinnerl Is % necessary % have des
/ scTt every dayi NEW HOUSEkEEPER
/ Answer-I would buy a complete Sc
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to define, this same adaptability. but It
supposes the capacity in one TO put him
self in immediate accord with whatever
circle in which he may be The posses
scr Of il must have fine instincts and
keen sympathies and be able 10 lose
sight Of himself entirely IN his interest
IN others. He must, too. be Indifferent 10
his own personal comfort. or so wrap
ped up in other things as not to consider
1t. Nearly all great men have been
adaptable. Lincoln was pre-eminently so.
He knew the common people and he
knew the great; he found greatness in
The common, commences IN the great;
Re WAS at home with every one and he
served each and all with equal under
standing
Connecticut western news., 1909-04-01
PRESIDENT OPPOSES
 TAX ON NECESSITIES
Tells Leaders He FaVOrs Free
 Tea, Coffee and Lumber.

Washington, March 31. - President Taft declared that he was against a tax on the breakfast table, on clothes or on any other of the necessities of life. if it could be avoided.
 The statement was made to house and senate leaders, who, worried by demands of interests in their constitu- encies and by the repeated published demands of Mir. Taft-fOr real revision downward. went to the White House to consult him about it. On hearing his statement they protested that if the taxes proposed on necessities of life were not allowed to stand the tar if bill would not bring in the revenue necessary tO meet the requirements of the government.
 The presidents reply was that in that case the revenue could be raised from other sources.
 The president is in favor of free lum- Der, free tea and free coffee, and these he means to fight for. The other meth Ods that MT. Taft will suggest to con gress for raising money outside the tariff on imports include a tax on in heritances, a tariff on dividends of certain great corporations, some form of stamp tax and q tax on individual incomes.
Connecticut western news., 1909-04-01
FALLS VILLAGE

The p,og~ am of the exercises held at the Barrack school Friday, March 26, taught by Miss Augusta Spauldlng Of Canaan Valley, was as follows: Essay, "Life of Longfellow,"
 Ruby Gray Song "The Dearest Spot on Earth"
 School Recitation, Suppose, Edna Bierce Recitation, "Psalm of Life,"
 William Bisrce Recitation, "Only," Lena Fonitti Song. "A Fairy Voyage"
 William Bierce, Edna Bierce Recitation, "The World is Round"
 Catherine Jasmin Essay, Life of Whittier,
 Jennie Duval Recitation, School Days"
 Willie Braman Song, "The Wanderer," Edna Bierce, Ruby Gray, Jennie Duval Recitation, "The Sandpiper"
 Jennie Duval Re citation, ''The Lost Doll,"
 Margaret Butler Song, Star of Peace," School Recitation, Spring" Alphonse Duval Recitation, "The Builders" School Song, Come Away" School Dwight E. Dean and sister, Mrs Emma Kellogg. visited their brother, Lee P. Dean, in New York over Sunday Rev. H. B. Chown is attending con- ference at Ossining, N. Y. Mrs. ChOwn and Miss Sherwood are spending the week in New Jersey.
 Lee Wickwire is moving from the "Ruiger" house into the Olin building. MT. and Mrs. F. M. Olin are visiting their son, Dr. F. H. Olin, at Southbridge, Mass.
 Mrs. R. H. Beeman, of Jersey City, is visiting her father, E. H. Wilcox. Mrs. Edith B. Ward and son, Preston, are spending some little time i'll Bridge port.
 Miss Minnie Jacobi is spending her Easter vacation with her sister, Mrs. c. R. Morris, ill Bridgeport. H. H. Hayden of the Grammar school IS at his home in North Adams for his Easter vacation.
 Miss Sherburne of the Hunt school is visiting friends i'll Waterbury and Hart ford.
 Harold Northrop has returned to his home in Mlddletown after few weeks visit with his uncle, Edward Ward. George Burkett, of Michigan City, Ind, formerly an engineer on the Housa- tonic railroad, is visiting his old home. w. A. Burkett, of Danbury, and son, Louis, of South Norwalk, were also guests over Sunday at the same place. Harry Frink has been visiting friends i'll Bridgeport for a few days. Mrs. George I. Ayres is visiting in Salisbury.
 Mrs. Charles Andrus and son, of Shef- field, are visiting at Edward Wards. Mrs. Oscar Sabin is visiting in New Britain.
Connecticut western news., 1909-04-01
CANAAN VALLEY

Wm. BunnelI died at his home in New Hartford Saturday afternoon, after a short illness with pneumonia. He was native of this place and had spent nearly his whole life here, removing to New Hartford about eight years ago. He was a son of the late Ira Bunnell and leaves besides 8 mother, a wife and two sons, Wm. Jr.. of Waterbury and Leon, of New Hartford ,and Mrs. Edna Weaver of Waterbury, also two sisters, Mrs. Chas. Cowles, of Pleasant Valley, and Mrs. Ward Brinton, of East Canaan. The funeral was held at his late home in New Hartford on Tuesday afternoon.
 Mr. and Mrs Royal Frink have both been seriously i'll but are better now.
 E. J. Donalds has purchased hand some span of black colts, three years old. We think MT. Donalds don't intend to take anybody's dust hereafter as they are said to be speedy.
 Edward Winters has moved from John Spaulding's to c. G. Thompson's s tenement house and will work the com ing year for MT. Donalds.
 Miss Millie Sardam spent several days last week with Mrs. Grace Mcintyre.
 Miss Mabel Donalds returned to her school in Wadsworth district after 8 two weeks vacation, Monday.
Connecticut western news., 1909-04-01
SHARON VALLEY
Mrs. T. Duffy is sick with pneum,

Mrs. J. Duffy is sick with pneumonia.
 MT. and Mrs c. Brown and Master Ralph took dinner with E. Scott Sun day.
 MT. and Mrs. P. Liner and daughter are to move to their new home in Water bury this week.
 MT. and Mrs. P. Bathwick moved to the "Town House" Tuesday. They are the new caretakers for the coming year.
 c. Brown is making repairs on his house by shingling, painting and 8 new piazza.
 F. Kahouski has moved into his home purchased of w. Caesar.
 Mrs. Phenix Franks spent few days with her daughter in Dover.
 Mrs. A. Lamb and Mrs. F. Bristol visited at Coleman Station on Saturday.
 MT. and Mrs. c. Bartram, of North East Centre were visiting at A. Middle brooks on Sunday.
 D. Templeton, of New Haven, is visit ing at A. Middlebrook'
 William Adams is to move into Chas. Browns house.
 J. Tompkins is going to move to Caul- klnstOWn.