The evening world., 1909-02-04


II will be a relief. therefore. to the ell
igtble women Of Judge Herrman's &C
quaintance to know that his declaration
Of independent bachelorhood was not
quite so sweeping.
Believes In Marriage.
II believe In marriage OF course con-
tinued Judge Herman, whose appear
ance and deliberate manner suggests
slightly the late ex-PresIdent Cleveland
Il believe In the combination Of mar
rage with common sense.
"A magistrate, OF course, sees only the
unhappy side Of the marriage relation
he continued.
But from the number Of cases Of non
support that come before me would be
justified in concluding almost that half
the men get married without any idea
that they will be compelled to support
their wives
II have a hard problem to solve when
wife and two or three hail starved
children stand before me asking support
from a man who tells me truthfully that
he can't get work"
But Is that ever true'" asked.
Certainly, In hundreds OF cases" re-
piled the Magistrate. When the man
married he was making 50 or so a week.
perhaps then after a while his boss lays
him OF. times are hard and he can't get
another Job.
What can he do' What cen do
with him? believe udge Foster was
right when he refused to send a hus-
band, who made only IS a week. to tall
for non support, Women should use a
little common sense when they choose
their husbands, and no man should get
married unless he knows he can support
not only a wife hut family.
IF young men and women took little
more time to think It over they might
stay married longer than they do these
days. or course, not all the domestic
troubles that come before me are about
money.
I'm other cases the mans most FIRE.
ouent complaint Is that he has too much
nother-in-law, or that he can't get his
meals on time. The wife complains
more often that the husband has grown
tired OF her
Almost always the causes Of quarrel
are trivial, and n magistrate can often
bring about reconciliation. I always
attempt It whenever It seems possible.
One Qucer Case.
Down in Essex Market the other day
had queer case Of man who COM
planned that his wife refused 10 be seen
on the street with him because she said
he was not well dressed The husband
was a well-groomed fellow, and the wife
denied that she had ever made such a
statement. But any pretext serves a
married couple when they want to quar-
rel. These cases all come under the gen.
eral head OF incompatibility.
We'll, don't you believe incompatible
fly should be a cause for divorce?" in
auired.
II do not" replied Magistrate Herr
man. The present New YORK State
divorce law is broad enough, In my
opinion. There's hardly man and wife
alive that haven't thought each other In
compatible at some time or other.
1T would be very bad thing II when
ever that idea struck either Of them he
or she could rush of and apply for d.
yorcS
las things are they have time to cool
off and patch things up. A few days re-
Election generally makes them realize
the frivolous nature OF their differences
and they forgive each other and start
all over again.
Perhaps every married couple thinks
of separating at some time. Men and
women look at life so differently that It
takes the strongest kind OF love to get
along.
Young people should realize this be-
fore marriage. They must think not
only OF their financial future. but OF
whether or not they are really mated
II they are they'll never need TO come TO
court with their differences. and II they
are not no court on earth can keep them
from quarreling. The three essentials of
happy marriage are mutual love,
money enough to live on, and common
sense, and the last Is about the most
important OF the three"
the bachelor Magistrate whose common
has kant him singlo IN IA ,,ra,