The Washington herald., 1909-06-26
OFINTERESTTO WOMEN
FROM WOMAN'S
POINT OF VIEW


Now and then we are called upon to
read some woman's opinion on the most
successful method OF retaining a mans
love. and forthwith every wife who has a
grievance begins to change her tactics,
and all the others who are contemplating
wifehood store up the advice Of a stran-
ser who. perhaps, has never married at
ALL and rely upon II 10 carry them safely
through life 1t is my belief that nobody
knows what are the means Of keeping
men 10 their vows. Sometimes the lack
OF temptation makes them the best OF
husbands for years. and the worst after
they sueeumb to It. They are vanquished
on the spot. and no amount Of tact on the
part OF the wife could have averted the
catastrophe.
The wife who always considers the
comfort and happiness OF her husband
has nothing with which 10 reproach her
self when misfortune appears She could
not have avoided her fate had she been
as handsome as Venus or as stylish as a
French fashion plate. That is what I
was told by a woman who thought she
had good cause TO know She was a
handsome. clever. talented girl when she
was Wooed and married by a man who
had enjoyed the best money could buy
and enjoyed it all his life. She had the
misfortune OF meeting him before her af-
fections had been frittered on girlish
heart affairs, and the love she gave him
was deep and unselhsh. He was enor-
Of ha- @e h.a-
too, in a way. but he was selfish 70 his
hearts core-and too well-bred 10 show II.
suppose there are ways Of learning
the waning Of affection. even when there Is
little outward change. and this woman
learned that she was not holding her hus-
band, even though he was the only in
eentive she had 10 put forth her best ef-
forts. They went abroad because he was
tired Of his American home. and in Paris
they settled down TO housekeeping. Then
she made a discovery which she thought
might mend matters. The man had a
strong liking for French cooking. and the
kind prov 'ded by a famous chef Of that
city. She paid a fabulous price 10 the
FTerchman for thorough instruction in
his art, and was rewarded by return OF
her husbands interest in her. Il was
only temporary, however, for he tired OF
French dishes, as he tired OF everything
else IN life. and found new foods as he
found new faces. He had no fault 20 fnd
with her. but he ceased 70 care for her.
and finally divorced her on the ground of
incOmpatibility OF temper or some other
excuse quite as silly.
There are reasons where some women
are preferred 70 others. Everybody can
understand the turning from a uagging
10 a sunny-faced woman or understand
the attraction OF careful dressing. ANY
man in his senses expects some interest
to be taken IN his welfare. expects adec-
ton. loyalty. and devotion. The ma aJority
are satisfied with all that. but the few are
looking for 'sOul-mates. for beauty, Wit
or unusual charm. and no power on earth
can hold them after they begin 20 chafe
ar conditions as they find them day after
day. The woman who draws such a man
as a partner is 70 be pitied. for she has
much ahead OF her in the line OF suffer
ing. But II she can ind a grain OF com
fort in the knowledge that nothing could
have averted Il. let her accept II as
gospel truth, as Il surely IS.
BETTY BRADEEN.