Daily Arizona silver belt., 1909-07-25
OF HOSTESS AND GUEST

n1TTIES OF HOSTESS AND SOhoi |, vould be very difficult to say
 .h;ob is the more difiicult-to be a od ouest, or to be good hostess.
 Duripg the course of the summer al- H ,s, everyone has some friend or rel N i,.o to entertain for a longer or short ,r noriod; and some will entertain sew \ eral
 1 Same of us will humbly receive and t drtifuIlv entertain the kind of relative ,,bo will make us think with the per & rorter of proverbs, "The Lord gave us mir relatives; thank the Lord we can choose our friends.
 Fortunately, however, most of the o,ests will not be of this class but friends whom we have invited to our homes because we loved them and wished to make them happy and to be happy with them. Now how shall we entertain them'
 Entertaining is one of the finer arts and requires study. It is not the amount of money that can be expended that marks the successful hostess, but tbe amount of pleasure she can give to her guests.
 One of the mistakes most commonly made bv hostesses is that of planning for every moment of the guest s time Have you never visited at such place If SO, you will remember what a feel inc of relief came over you when the visit was over, and how your first thoughts were of some nice quiet cor per where you could rest and think. Unless a guest is an absolute stranger in the vicinity she will want some time
 to call upon and receive her friends. And even if she has no friends there
 she will want some time to herself for
 writing letters, doing the little things
 necessary to keep her wardrobe in order
 or merely for quiet rest. This is es-
 pecially true if her visit is to cover
 period of several weeks or longer
 If you and yoUr guests are old friends you will want to have some time for nice old. fashioned "visits,' when you can talk over the old times and mutual friends. Also she will probably enjoy meeting your new friends, and if you can introduce her to one truly cOngen- ial soul, add one real friend to her list, you will have done more for her than by taking her on innumerable sight seeing trips or to countless places of amusement.
 But most important of all is this one thing. The guest should never be made to feel that her presence is the cause of added trouble or labor or radical changes in the routine of the house hOd You say that is absurd-no hos tess would be guilty of any such thing, l but it is true nevertheless that many a guest has had her visit spoiled in just that way, especially in the home where there are no servants.
 The ideal hostess is the one who can make every arrangement for her guests pleasure and comfort, and vet make i: appear as if the routine of her daily | life were not in the least changed.
 Last, but not least, if guest has ! been invited for stated time the hos l tess should never insist upon her pro longing her stay. This does not mean | that she might not be invited to do so, but if she declines, then remember to ! speed the parting guest, for while cor dially urging her to prolong her stay IS hospitality, insisting upon it to an uncomfortable degree is positive rude ness.
 What about the guestl If she knows how to be good guest she will make | herself agreeable at all times. She | will take pleasure in whatever enter | talnment the hostess has provided for her, She will not expect to be enter. tanned every minute of the time, but | will tactfully leave her hostess some tune to attend to necessary household | affairs and to rest peacefully if she ! wishes. She will not demand speclal | dlSheS to be prepared for her nor any other sort of extra service And she | Will never, never, outstay her wei | come
 The ideal guest is she who has boen | so charming that her hostess shall not I say - It seems good to be alone again, -