The Washington herald., 1909-07-17
OF INTEREST TO WOMEN.
FROM WOMAN'S
POINT OF VIEW

The best definition I ever heard Of tenn
perance was moderation in all things.
We usually regard a temperate man as
one who avoids alcoholic drinks. although
he may be thoroughly intemperate in the
matter OF amusement he may use bad
language TO excess. or gamble immoder-
ately. or smoke necessarily. yet he thinks
he is entitled 20 the term temperate,
just because he Is temperate in one in
stance Ask the women who have 10 live
with such a man II drinking In mOdera-
/ ton is the worst fault a man can have.
Ask them IL abstinence from that partic-
ular vice is an honest excuse for mean
: ness in other directions. You see, I hap
pen to know the wife OF one or two OF
this class OF men,
! A matron who has seen deal OF life re-
Gently told me that she would prefer un-
/ faithfulness with good-nature 70 fidelity
Iand a bad temper, which was particularly
within the four walls OF home. She stout
! Is maintains that there IS no surer de-
stroyer OF domestic peace and happiness
than a man or woman who has q nasty
disposition. that displays OF temper, petty
nagging, and spiteful speech We're veri-
/ table grinders which found their way
surely TO the nerve centers- I fancy she
could have Endorsements from every part
Of the world II she wanted them
It would seem as II we ought TO be able
to bear the days burdens without losing
our serenity. After all. we are only called
upon 10 bear them in installments. and
/ there Is always the chance OF brightness
/ Just ahead. Nothing lasts forever and life
holds precious moments Of sweetness for
everybody II We viii lock for them There
is much 10 laugh at. much 10 amuse,
when We have not allowed ourselves 10
harden There should be a deal Of happi-
ness IN the cOmpaniOnship OF those we
love and those who love us. and why we
should allow It 70 be dimmed by Immature
IS quite incOmprehensible. We need stole
ism, the kind that allows small troubles
70 slip OF our shoulders as does water
from ducks back.
Patience IS not a modern virtue II
may be because OF the way in which we
are rushed through life. but am inclined
10 believe that Il is more 10 be attributed
TO training Long apprenticeship at any
thing is not usual in these days and quick
methods are extremely popular. Then
again We are allowed 10 grow Up with the
belief that anything viii do for home.
that Il Is the place for disearding good
clothing and best manners. so the family
is allowed TO see US at ouI worst. have
always maintained that II was poor policy
10 share ones toilet secrets even with
husband. and It is not one whit wiser 10
display the ugliness OF ones character
either at home or abroad. II Is quite as
bad taste and worse judgment 20 reserve
the best OF ones possessions and ones
character for strangers as TO pinch the
family comfort 10 make a company dis
play.
What a charming man your brother
S." gushed a young woman on whom the
man in question had been showering Do
lite attentions. ~Oh. yes answered the
sister with a peculiar intonation. which
escaped her companion. but was not lost
upon an observer who knew that he al
lowed both sister and mother to wait
upon him from morning till night: more
than that. he demanded such service as
his right in payment for the money he
supplied for their comfort. He never
dreamed Of Offering them the smallest at I
tenJiOn. fsve IN the presence Of outsiders, I
and thet had fallen into the habit OF ac-
cepting conditions without trying 10 i'm
prove them. Everything points 70 a mar
riage between the man and the woman
who thinks him charming. and more than
likely nobody IS going 10 enIighten her
regarding his home manners Is that
right! BETTY BRADEEN.