The Birmingham age-herald., 1909-05-30

or three happily marfleu uau8nlerS Who ranks high as matchmaker because none of her daughters was pretty or had much money.
 "'This was Illustrated so convincing ly, she continued in the marriage of the daughter of O near friend that 1t prevented me from making a similar mistaken when my daughters arrived at marriageable age.
 " A man rated as millionaire and past his salad days a good bit and marked attention to my friends daugh- ter from the day she was introduced to society. This daughter, by the way, was a beauty and a high strung orea- ture with capricious temper. The man was noted for a quarrelsome disposition and high temper.
 " Did the girls mother oppose the match? Not a bit of 1t. By a process of reasoning more or less common she thought that marriage would sweeten the mans temper and calm her daugh- ter's imperiousness. The two married and few years later were divorced af- ter a more than unusually tempestuous experience.
 Tn my daughters first season she came very near marrying boy whom l had known since he and she were in pinafores. There was nothing against the youth as
 
 an aimless, impractical disposition almost a duplicate of that of the girl to whom he was paying attention. He was always at my daughters elbow and yet he never seemed to be making love to her. That he intended to ask her to be his wife l was certain but when was not so certain.
 T determined to break it up if l could without hurting the feelings of either I invited the daughter of western friend fO 1ricif 611aY ofr rI x3rtfh Ot of go in her and plenty of good looks Before I introduced her to the young man I took care to let the girl know that he was fine fellow and worth $5O0,O0O She did the rest, my daughter in her aim less way looking on without a protest.
 Neither did the young man protest The western girl woke him up, put life into him. At first at my request he showed her attention; afterward he kept this up without being asked. The two are now married and ideally happy.
 "On the other hand, a boy with lots of enterprise, who, as soon as the way was clear. began to court my daughter, is making her immensely happy. l hatter myself that my matchmaking saved two persons at least from an unsatisfactory marriage.
 q know a matchmaker who has, am sure, prevented at least two marriages which might I think, have beer ideally happy. One of these was between her niece and an Englishman, a manly fel- low, evidently well fitted to make the girl he fanced a good husband. Her aunt was as pleased with him as her niece was. She determined to help matters along, the Englishman, to her American ideas, being little slow and needing her help.
 This is where she made her mistake. An Englishman never needs any assist once whatever with his love affairs. When he sees the girl he fancies he goes straight ahead in his own fashion, which may not be tornado-like but is sure to get there unless he is opposed That he seldom goes counting tentatively Is my ex- perience of him, and I ought to know, as I have an English son-in-law and two English nephews-in-la
 "The American man, on the other hand, often does go counting tentatively, and if he finds the girls mother is taking mis too seriously, he sometimes quits in sef-defense.
 maker I am speaking of took such pains to make opportunities for the English man to see the girl that he had to sub init to some good-natured raillery, my son-in-law told me- from friends who said the aunt was throwing her niece into his arms. That settled 1t. Raillery i'll connection with the girl he Is thinking
 
 Englishman He planned a little journey which gave him an excuse tc leave the place at short notice, and that romance was nipped in the bud.
 The second romance she nipped con cerned her elder daughter and a rising young civil engineer of slightly lower social position than her own. Had she given herself chance to find out some thing about the mans high culture she would gladly have welcomed him as son-in-law As it was, she did every thing in her power to keep him and her ui- suspecting daughter from meeting un- til he gave up the game
 "Afterward, when he married one of her daughterss most intimate friends, she admitted her mistake. Social equality Is an important thing to consider, but match-makers make too much of 1t some times.
 Tn America the true art of marrying off of one's daughter well is to give her @ husband who is a worker, not an idler; man in earnest about achieving some- thing besides enjoying himself. The idlers of this country don't make good hus- bands. There are dozens of illustrations of this
 Had I 10 unmArried daughters should try my best to prevent a man without a business or profession, who took no part in the worlds real work, from marrying any one of them. The adage about Satan and idle hands is as true row as 1t ever was"