The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1909-08-02

" Marry Any Man In Hope Of He-
forming Him.

forming Him.
II long has been agreed that pas
stonste love and calm, clear-eyed
,emmon sense are nausat akin and
have little or no commerce one with
another. Indeed, there Is a general
feeling that affection, in order to be
genuine, must be impulsive, nor ever
be so self-controlled as to take coun-
sci OF prudence. Men and women be-
Ing in love do not hesitate to confess
heir lack Of wisdornn, and expect the
one fact fully to explain and equally
TO excuse the other as being Its nat
lral result.
To this lack of reason, which popu-
larly Is conceded to be part and parcel
Of love In general, is to be added the
Iproverbial blindness OF Cupid which
attacks both men and women, with
severest results in the case OF women.
Nothing upon earth can equal wo-
Eman's love in blindness to faults. even
In vices. nor in the ability to see
Virtues where none exist--in divesting
even sin and shame OF responsiveness
'snd disgrace.
| Once let a woman surrender her
whole heart to man, however un-
worthy, and she becomes not only
willing, but eager to follow the way
Of her heart. She win believe nothing
10 the discredit of her lover, and
Friends, however intimate, who tell
der uncorhplimentary truths about
aim incur not her gratitude. but her
iispleasure. perhaps her lasting en-
lnity. She prides herself upon her
loyalty to him on whom she has law
shed the full treasure OF her 1ffec-
lion, and believes what he chooses to
ell her against the testimony OF all
>thers, says Helen Oldfeld in the
Chicago Tribune"
There is nothing short of mental
Liberation which altogether can ex-
plain the indisputable fact that SO
many good and otherwise sensible
women are willing to marry men who
absolutely have wallowed in pitch
such as the scripture assures us none
;an touch and not be defiled, fondly
md fatuously believing that the mir
iculous influence of love for them
selves will wash the black sheep as
white or whittier than any other In the
dock.
Once in great while the venture 1!
successful; usually though, too com
| i, - hah M
,f evil associations. Volumes have
|oeen said and sung In praise Of the
transforming power of love, and thai
love really does work miracles non'
IAN deny. But It Is lamentable fac
which every woman ought to be awar,
,f, that It is love, not marriage, whicl
8 tho Transforming power; the mar
who does not reform before marriage
,or the sake Of his sweetheart, in or
Ter that he may be worthy of her
not to be depended upon to do 8,
,fterward for the sake Of his wife.
1t is by no means an easy task I,
'cform one, man or woman. Mos
people object to being found faul
with, and man, with regard to hi
wife especially, prefers the attitude o
mind which says: with all thy fault
Z love thee still" One usually cal
Ind excuse for ones self and Is ap
% exact OF those who profess to Low
)ne that they shall do likewise "Wo
manly sympathy" which in the mas
.ullne vocabulary Is synonymous wit
I praise, Is that which he demand
rom his wife. Even when he know
hat he Is culpable he cannot endur
being blamed; pity is what he con
'iders his due.
1t Is plain to discern the masculin
mind in the question. In point o
: act, sad as is his fate. the mans wift
he has wife, Is far more to b
pitied than he. He resigns himself [
. he slavery and finds some solace !
,elf-pity. Moreover, he deeply an
bitterly resents the least suggestlo
hat he Is to, blame. Far from bein
ruled by severe opinion" he will nc
submit to the least criticism, and wo
% his wife should she dare to remor
,trate with him. Indeed, 1t almos
! may be laid down as a rule that III
wife who wishes to preserve her hui
. 5and's affections must never hint tha
|, he is indiscreet In his eating or drinl
Ting, or indeed In any other thing
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