The Washington herald., 1909-06-08
What Makes a Successful
Chaperon-Tact.

The perfect ehaperon IS born. not made,
I think. because 70 be al her best she
must be constantly on guard without the
appearance OF watching her charges, AID
tnag means q poise and seIf-controi and
an ability for seif-efacement thst the
average woman does not possess And
because OF this lack OF suficiency chap
erons are frequently maligned, either BY
parents o. young folk. For II she Is TOO
strict the latter are annoyed and II net
sufficiently so parents are dispIessed,
says a writer In the New York Telegram
Her chief duty lies n never permitting
her charges 10 make themselves ccnspicu-
Gus. Should they be an unmanageabis
set. she must so arrange as 70 be ever
with them, checking outside criticism by
the mere fact of her presence. IN point
OF fact. her being there may make no df-
ference II their actions. but Dame Grun-
dy VIII credit or discredit them with be-
ing much worse were she not present
She is a necessity and a help.
Should young women and men be 81
clined 70 talk tco loud n public places
and otherwise conduct themselves with
uumannerliness. the chaperon must make
the greatest effort 10 quiet them. & thing
she viii be the more willing 70 do when
l. IS remembered that she vii be blamed
FOR their vulgarity. That their actions do
reflect IN this way upon their chaper0n
should make young girls conslderate OF
her.
The most difficult problem that q chap
cron has 70 manage is wh2t 70 co when
men whom she considers undesirable talk
70 her charges. To give them the cut dI-
rect IS rude anc places her In a most IN
fortunate position
To show her displeasure quietly IS rot
/ apt 20 be effective, for girls are likely 70
champion those whom they deem down
trcdden and II the men have the least
charm of manner, or know how 20 make
themselves agreeable. 20 snub only makes
them more interesting 70 the average
young girl While no chaperon is so SHY
az 10 think that every man who meets
her charges wishes 70 marry her. The
older woman has. nevertheless. 10 uemem-
Der that he may be possible husband.
and IL IS imperative that the girl should
be guarded from undesirable associates.
! Probably the best way OF managing such
q situation IS for the chaperc1 70 be con-
stantly in the foreground without tha
/ appearance OF being so. not giving the
man any opportunity 20 develop the &C
I QUainrance beyond most formal lines
Her greatest tact les in 50 managing
7 her charges that she can retain the girl s
confidence. FOR as long as she has Il she
I viii know the situation Once let her lose
/ IL. and she works in the dark. not being
I certain what the day may bring forth
As 10 how much liberty a girl nay be
given BY her chaperon in sumner. one
( can only say & depends greatly upon the
/ girl srd her associates. II 1Eey are reii-
able, ard sne IS sensible. there IS no need
/ OF her having a protector al the time.
I for her own good sense = enough. GisIs
are always given more freedom n sum-
uaer than IN winter, and with a man
whom she has known intimately and IS
/ known 70 be a gentleman IN the fullest
/ sense OF the word there IS no reason why
she should not drive. sail. ard walk un-
4 chaperOned-