The Washington herald., 1909-05-02
By The Arbiter,

which are piqusnt at first. but al Of
which bring notoriety rather than reouts-
/ ton Avoid them as yeu would a pesf
Il does not pay 20 be bizarre or queer IN
this world until you have earned your
crown Of laureis. When that Is accom-
plished. you can set the style. You can
AFFECT low collars, loose ties. queer col
ored clothes. and all that. and excite only
admiration, but while YOU are winning
your spurs, stick to the convczI,onaI IN
dress and manner. no matter how much
you may scoTn taenn or how sensele IS K
may seem
You may profess as much indifference
as you list 20 society. but remember that
society makes and Unmakes man I don't
mean BY society the little fashionable set
20 which your birth and wealth gives
you admittance. but the great congrega-
ton or the men who form cities and coun-
tries Therefore. until you can dominate
society refrain from provoking il. Whis-
uer's white lock was. and Is, much talked
about. but / knew him in Paris As 4
student, and though he was then a dear.
unique creature, he was from the stand
point OF the Latin quarter conventional.
and that was the society that he had AZ
that moment to please. II was not until
ne became great that he allowed his &c
Centricities 10 become conspicuous. I don't
want 10 call the bUmptiOusness OF youth
oy hard names. but I do want YOU 20
remernbcr that at your age II is better 70
follow than 10 lead: TO listen and learn.
rather than TO express ones SELF. Silence
is always golden al twenty-one. and SO
IS conformity.
y want you, too, dear lad. 10 gain a
reputation for graciousness. 1t Is the
easiest and surest way to favor. It costs
nothing and counts for everything. A
sUllen man IS an sbOmination To en-
counter such makes a sUnshiny dag black
with clouds A gracious manner con
verts tyrant into a benignant ruler.
while a surly exterior makes OF the kind
eSt-hearted king hated despot. To win
universal admiration is much: 10 win
universal love IS more Win good opinion
and it is easy 10 win good viii. Some
one wiser than any OF Us has said that
Courtesy IS the polite witchery of great
personages.
Fresh from college. with fully formed
opinions on every subject, some Of them
extremely advanced opinions. no DOUBT
there VIII be a great temptation for you
10 give voice 10 ali that IS in that seeth-
ms bEdln or yours. but hesitate To dis
sent from the opinion Of the many is
TO WOO UnDOpUiaTiry 50 in public speak
in familiar diSCOUSe. speak so rnat the
people VIII understand, strive 10 enter
tain. uot 20 instruct them. Truth is for
the few. IL is. too strong a medicine for
the multitude, and II you cannct joia
IN the popular majority then he silent.
I could give you thousands OF mottoes.
but the one / set down here is one that
all American youths could adopt should
ADOPT for speed in everything seems 20
be our national vice. and speed We viii
have no matter Wnat the cost ia our
railroads. motor ears. money getting.
eating even All We do We do as rapid
ly IS We can with the result that most
American men al sixty are nervous
wrecks because of the tension at which
they have lived. out I am forgetting the
motto II IS 'Festina lente' trust the
suggestions viii not irritate you. FOR.