The Washington herald. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1906-1939, 1909-01-03

The calling cards for married woman
should have her name-if there are more
than one Of the same name in the family;
the ranking woman only is privileged 10
use the family name without the chris
tan name or initials-her address and
Ee- reception day In her drst season
daughters name appears upon her
mothers card, but she has as well visit
ing cards Of her own which should not.
however. bear the address. \ mans card
should read Mr.. SO-and-sO, and in
varia5ly have his address Bachelors
sometimes use only their club address on
their cards, p-eferring 10 have all mail
sent there The Official cards differ q
little from those used by private people.
Cabinet officers for instance. use simply
their titles. as the Secretary o. state:
army ana navy officers employ the prefix
Ar with their Official title underneath.
as Mr.. James P. Smith. lieutenant com
mander United States navy. The cards
OF the justices Of the Supreme Court
read. ~ Justice SO-and-s0. those o.
Senators, Senator So-anG-so. while Mem
bers use only the prefix Nj
In calling AZ a house where there are
mother and several daughters one card
Is sufficient. Tor II IS taken TO include ali
he members Of the household who are
in society Men, in leaving cards. should
leave card for the man Of the house 2
card Tor his wife, and II there are anv
other men whom he wishes 10 especially
honor, he leaves card for each OF them
II there are guests in the house. Of
course card should be left especially
Gays. when this is not necessary. Calls
made on reception DAYS on guests who era
staying at the house are not Of necessity
returned by the guests who NAV he ~
town Tor 50 short q time as 70 make g.
impossible Sore people insist on leav-
ing cards for every member Of The family
cards Ior every guest, and put in a few
Ior generous measure, lest soma ona
should be forgotten. The result IS there IS
perfect avalanche OF cards which
takes time 10 look over. and are al once
fsie5ated 10 the waste basket a waSref-I
ana Iooiish custom which should be dis
couTaeed. To leave so many cards ind
Gates haDhaZaTd way Of doing things
winch Is rot comoIizns ntary. It requires
only a little time and thought IN IN
IhiGgs properly, and the result Is u-eT7
worth the outlay. Moreover II fs halter
10 underdo than TO overdo. and when in
doubt much more sensible 10 leave one
card than to leave six.
lie former custom Of turning down +1,a
corners OF cards, or "cOrneriDg- az II
was called has almost gone ON in
America, but the turning down Of the
upper right hand corner. de1orinp thar q
Vlsit Is made IN person. and the t,JrnfDg
down OF the entire right hand side n
denote that all the family are included
Is sun adhered 70. Il is not good form
10 lncloSe cards sent by a footrnan in an
envelope, and when cards are SO sent II
Siioulo oe taken TO mean that the sender
Goes not desire the acquaintance Of the
person Who has called upon her. The
only exceptions to this ara whom a
woman Is IN deep mourning OF too III 10
90 IN person, bat il Is better taste 10 yza5f
until she IS able 10 leave the cards IN
person In Europe the names Of visitors
are always distinctly announced bv the
1ootman on their entrance into the room.
This has always been the custom Of Of
fetal houses in America and Is beroD,irc-
more and mora IN vogue with private pe3-
pie II Is an excellent custom and pre-
vents possible embarrassment. No cards
should be handed in on reception DAYS
except those left by callers.
man to return his dinner call prorptiv
by mail defeTTing a personal visit until
he his leisure for Il This course ! o,.ea
u criticism. but it is mach more prefer
able than absolute disregard Of an in
FortaI-t social duty. the ms Important
social duty we might say. for there IS no
seal custom more obligatory than the
prompt return Of a dinner call. nor cs7
too much stress be laid on tie necessity
Of prompt return Of a Est cal. for q
longer delay than week is an intfma-
ton that the new acquaintance. unless
one has an extraordinary excuse for the
remissness. such as absence from town.
sickness, or death in tie family. IS n0t
desired
On going away cards Of farewell should
bear the initials p. p c.. in the lower
left-hand corner. Such cards are not
necessary to be delivered in person. but
can be sent by servant OF post. A woman
should never keen q caller waiting IF