The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 18??-19??, 1909-02-09

nothing but married keep
not paid housekeepers, Win uellll:e
duties and a definite salary ana Specl-
God DAYS out, but women who are
expected to do al the work OF keep
ing a house and rearing q family, with
no reward except the satisfaction OF
sporting a wedding ring.
1t is not, however, the ana
nriyations which make the lot Of these
| women hard. It is the
through Of all their dreams. the SHAT
| tcring Of their ideals, that turns their
| ives into cinders, ashes and dust.
When q woman-a real woman ana
not a doll baby-marries a man. she
| Ices not shrink ava from the pain
that she must tread with him, no mat
ter how ard ard thorny it may be:
All that she asks is that they walk it
hand in hand together.
to argument his, in using her tact n
wit to circumvent the or
their position. If sickness comes she
never falters in her devotion. If trou-
bic knocks at their door. she inter
poses her BODY between it and her be
loved. Nothing affrights her. SO long
as love and tenderness dwell under
her roof and sit at her board.
Reality Not Like Her Dream.
What such a woman as that mar
rieS for is 4 maze. She has dreamed
Of a husband who will be comrade and
L l GA LII POI AAiN AAc-S
Of long talks they Will share together,
of ambitions they will work out to-
gether, of dreams they Will dream to-
gether; and words cannO paint her
desOlation of SOU when she finds out
that all that she is to her husband is
just q hOusekeeper-sOmebOdy to get
dinners and sweep floors and sew on
buttons.
1t is not that the woman objects
to performing these household duties.
ON tho contrary fhara iC no frJla "n-
man who does not delight in doing
little personal services for one she
loves, and who does not find a sacred
JOY in knowing that she makes her
family more comfortable than any
hired hands could do, a she
puts herself into her illustrations.
But a woman wants some recogni-
ton of these services more than hav-
ing her board and clothes given to
her, no matter if the board consists OF
a mansion on Fifth avenue. and the
clothes are Paris CONNECTIONS.
She wants love. She wants compan-
ionship. She wants to feel that She
is more in her life than an
oiler Of the domestic wheels.
Perhaps men are not SO Indifferent
as they appear. Perhaps husbands dc
care more for their wives than they
show, but it must be confessed that q
pitifully large number Of married wo-
men have to take their husbands af-
lection on rust They never get much
visible proof of 1t.
Instead of the. rapt c~ompanionshir
to which q woman looks orward
many q bride finds herself united tc
a man who is either grouchy, OF
grumpy, or silent as the tomb, a,
home. h spends her days in ser.
vice for him. with no reward exceD1
a kick when things go wrong.
Cares Only for His Own Comfort.
Halt the time when GO erafc cioly -,
complains that she is always ailing, OF
that if She wouldn't act like q foo
she would be well. What she doe.
matters not to him. except as it inter.
1ereS with hiSOwn comfort or pocket
lie shows her no love or sympathy
tie manifests no concern about hel
happiness. He takes no interest :.
the things that interest her. All tina
ne cares Tor in her. 50 far as sh,
cam see, is that she provide him witt
creature comforts.
She is not a wife in the sense .
the word that the woman understood
IT when she went with him to IN,
altar. She is nothing. but a marie.
housekeeDer.
Novels have been written about tn,
pIastlng OF a mans life when h
found out that the woman he love,
ana q married had married hin
just 10 get q home; but who sha)
paint the tragedy of a woman's bite
awakening when she finds out tina
the man she loved and trusted, an,
mas married, has married her lust t
get . hOme-makcr?
Her world is in ruins about her. an,
her heart faints within her as sh
looks forward to- long. lonely cor,
pan1onless years. Not for this-ot
never, never for this-did she tax
upon her shoulders the yoke of mat
rlmony that is heavier. even at It
pest Tor women than it is for. men.
Nothing else is such a proof of tn
high honor and principle of 49,
tina that there are SO many neglecte
wives, and SO few u%nfaithfu1 ones
When one thinks Of the almos
morbid craving women have for low
ana sympathy. and of the thousan.