The Washington herald., 1909-02-20
FROM WOMARS
POINT OF VIEW

a large gathering OF undeniably brainy
women recently decided that no husband
supports his wife. although s portion Of
them inclined. at first. 70 a support Of a
speaker who declared that woman is
mans horse and he drives her far TOO
far and that the payment for her labor
was rarely what It should be; In short,
ehat woman is a slave I wonder how
feminine lecturers manage TO make
living by talking tommyrot Ike that.
It is an undisputed fact that the ma
3ority Of married women are content
with their lot. Presumably they are well
treated We hear little from them be-
cause they go about their business and
talk Of irnpersonal matters. The exeep-
tions are so loud-vOiced as to give the
impression OF numbers and we jump
20 conclusions Undoubtedly there are
bad husbands and rnartyred wives. but
there Is a host Of women whose small.
unpleasant experiences are due TO them
selves and not TO husbands Money de-
pendence Is CALLING thing, but that
might be avoided by clear understand
ing before marriage or a display OF di-
plomacy after it,
an afraid I would think twice before
marrying & man who would not meet me
on fair ground in the money matter. He
might have every virtue IN the calendar.
but they would not outweigh that par
ticular. I have known Instances where
carelessness before marriage was rene
died by tact which convinced the men
that a household allowance saved them
both trouble and money. and out Of the
allowance the women were amply provid-
ed for when they spent il judiciously.
One fact lecturers often overlook IS the
struggle wives have sometimes had to
stretch a small income over a multitude
Of wants before the husbands appeared
upon the scene
I happen 10 know OF one case OF a dis
contented wife who has S 70 spend as
she plesses every week OF her life she
has a handsome home. a husband who
provides literally for maintaining. and
never rebels when things wear out and
have 10 be replaced. He takes her TO the
theater at least o>1e a week and treats
her 20 frequent restaurant dinners and
suppers and occasional outings. He
brings her flowers occasionally and candy.
fruit. and new books When she needs or
wants garments beyond her allowance he
takes pleasure in buying them. Most
women would think her a very fortunate
woman yet she feels aggrieved because
her allowance is small
Before marriage she was wage
Garner, working hard and finding some
difficulty in living fairly well and trying
TO save a bit An occasional ft Of Illness
made matters harder Her doctors bills
need not worry her now, for her husband
pays them. Dc you see any cause for
discomfort in the life OF this woman?
do not thoroughly agree with her hus-
bands view that he Is doing quite all
that can be expected. and that she is IN
grateful ! forgot 20 mention the fact
that her future is safeguarded By iuslIr-
snce. the deed Of a nice. little piece Of
property. and al the savings which have
been banked IN her name. I have been
told. more than once. that IS not an iso-
lated case, that the majority OF complain
ing wives have no good reason for 1nd-
Ing fault. I quite believe It when in
stances OF ingratitude are uncovered TN
Ger my very nose. BETTY BKADEEN.