Bluefield evening leader. [volume] (Bluefield, W. Va.) 1906-1911, 1909-09-14
DANCE ROUS
To Marry Any Man In Hope OF As
forming Him.

Sihth6 Tim.
II long has been agreed that pas
2onate love and calm. clear-eyed
common sense are naught akin ane
have little or no commerce one With
another. Indeed, there is a general
feeling that affection, in order TO be
genuine. must be impulsiye, nor ever
De so self-controlled as 10 take coun-
sci OF prudence. Men aud women be.
Ing in love do not hesitate 10 confess
their lack Of wisdomn. and expect the
one fact fully TO explain and equally
TO excuse the other as being its nat
ural result.
To this lack OF reason, which popu
larly is conceded TO be part and parce'
OF love in general, Is TO be added the
proyerbial blindness OF Cupid which
attacks both men and women, with
seVerest results in the case Of women
Nothing upon earth can equal wo.
mans love In blindness TO faults. even
In vices, nor in the ability to Sc
virtues where none exist-in divestins
even sin and shame OF responsiveness
and disgrace.
Once let a woman surrender her
whole heart TO n man, however I'M
worthy, and she becomes not only
willing, but eager to follow the way
Of her heart She will believe nothing
80 the discredit OF her lover, and
friends, however intimate. who tell
her uncomplimentary truths about
him incur not her gratitude. but her
displeasure perhaps her lasting en-
nifty. She prides herself upon her
loyalty to him on whom she has Law
fshed the full treasure OF her lffec-
ton, and believes what he chooses to
tell her against the testimony OF all
others, says Helen Oldheld in the
Chicago Tribune"
There is nothing short of mental
alteration which altogether can ey-
plain the indisputable fact that SO
many good and otherwise sensible
women are willing TO marry men who
absolutely have wallowed in pitch,
such as the scripture assures us none
c2n touch and not be defled, fondly
End fatuously believing that the mir
aculous influence of love for them
selves will wash the black sheep as
white or whittier than any other in the
dock.
Once in a great while the venture Is
successful; usually though. too COM
pelling is the power of long habit and
Of evil associations. Volumes have
been said and sung in praise OF the
Transforming power of love, and that
love really does work miracles none
can deny. But it is a lamentable fact
Ehich every woman ought TO be aware
o. that 1t is love, not marriage, which
Is the Transforming power; the man
who does not reform before marriage
for the sake of his sweetheart in or
der that he may be worthy OF her,
Is not to be depended upon to do so
lfterward for the sake of his wife.
1t is by no means an easy task TO
reform one, man or woman. Most
people object to being found faul.
with, and a man, with regard to his
wife especially, prefers the attitude OF
mind which says: with all thy faults
! love thee still" One usually can
find excuse for ones self and Is apt
to exact OF those who profess to love
manly sympathy" which in the mas
:uline vocabulary is synonymous with
praise is that which he demands
rom his wife. Even when he knows
hat he is culpable he cannot endure
seing blamed; pity is what he con.
siders his due.
1t is plain to discern the masculine
mind in the question. In point OF
TACT, sad as is his fate, the mans wife.
If he has a wife, is far more to be
pitied than he. He resigns himself TO
The slavery and finds some solace in
self-pity. Moreover, he deeply and
bitterly resents the least suggestion
that he is to blame. Far from being
ruled by severe opinion" he will not
submit to the least criticism, and woe
10 bis wife should she dare TO remon-
strate with him. Indeed, # almost
may be laid down as a rule that the
wife who wishes to preserve her hus-
bands affections must never hint that
he is indiscreet in his eating or drink
ing, or indeed, in any other thing.