The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1909-07-26
DANGEROUS
TO Marry Any Man in Hope Of Re-
forming Him.

II long has been agreed that pas
sionate Rove and calm, clear eyed
common sense are nausht akin and
nave little or no commerce one with
another. Indeed, there is a general
feeling that affection, in order to be
| genuine, must be impulsiye, nor ever
be so self-controlled as to take coun-
sci OF prudence. Men and women be-
ing In love do not hesitate to confess
their lack OF wisdomn, and expect the
one fact fully to explain and equally
: 10 excuse the other as being its nat
ural result.
To this lack of reason, which popu-
larly is conceded 10 be part and parcel
OF love in general, is 10 be added The
proverbial blindness Of Cupid which
attacks both men and women. with
seyerest results in the case of women.
Nothing upon earth can equal a wo-
mans love in blindness 10 faults, even
in vices, nog in the ability to see
virtues where none eXist--in diyestinS
even sin and shame OF responsiveness
and disgrace.
once let woman surrender her
whole heart to man, however I'M
worthy, ANA she becomes not only
willing, but eager to follow the way
Of her heart. She will believe nothing
10 the discredit of her lover. and
friends, however intimate. who tell
her uncomplimentary truths about
Lim incur nor her gratitude, but her
displeasure, perhaps her lasting en-
nifty. She prideS herself upon her
loyalty to him ON whom she has Law
isLed the full treasure Of her flee
ton, and believes what he chooses to
tell her against the testimony OF all
others, says Helen OIdfeld in the
Chicago Tribune
There is nothing short of mental
alteration which altogether can eX-
plain the indisputable fact that 50
many good and otherwise sensible
women are willing 70 marry men who
absolutely have wallowed in pitch,
such as the scripture assures US none
can touch and not be dedled fondly
and fatuOusly believing that The mir
aculous influence Of love for them
selves will wash the black sheep a.
white or whittier than any other in the
flock.
Once in a great while the venture is
successful: usually though. too COM
Delling is the power Of long habit and
Df evil associations Volumes have
been said and sung in praise Of the
power of love, and that
love really does work miracles none
AN deny But it is a lamentable fact |
which every woman ought TO be aware |
1f, that it IS love. not marriage, which |
S the transforming power; the man
who does not reform before marriage !
for the sake OF his sweetheart, i'm or |
Ter that he may be worthy Of her, !
IS not to be depended upon to do SO !
lfterWard for the sake Of his wife.
II is by no means an easy task 10 |
reform one, man or woman Most |
Ieople object TO being found fault |
with, and a man. with regard to his |
wife especially prefers the attitude OF |
nind which says: with all thy faults !
love thee still" One usually can
md excuse for ones SELF and Is apt |
o exact Of those who profess to love
me THAI they shall DO likewise "Wo-
manly sympathy which In the mas
,uline vocabulary is Synonymous with
raise. is that which he demands
rom his wife. Even when he knows
hat he is culpable he cannot endure
1eing blamed, pity is what he con-
,iders his due.
IL is plain 10 discern the masculine
mind in the question. In point OF
act, sad as Is his Tate. the mans wife.
+ be has a wife, IS far more TO be
1ijied than be. He resigns himself TO
ne slavery and finds some solace in
.elf-nity Moreover. he deeply and
Utterly resents the least suggestion
hat he is TO blame Far from being
ruled by severe opinion he will not
Ubmi, 10 the least criticism. and woe
% his wife should she dare 10 remoH-
trate with him Indeed. it almost
nay be laid down as a rule that the
wife who wishes to preserve her hus-
lands affections must never hint hat
'e is indiscreet In his eating or drink
ag. or indeed, in any other thing.