The Washington herald., 1909-05-09

turc that may be submitted. Such
questions should be addressed 10 The
Aroiter, care The Washington Herald
Official society VIII not separate until
the adjournment OF Congress, but the
exodus in other circles has already be-
gun. and inquiries are constantly received
as to the conduct 10 be observed at the
summer resorts and country houses for.
as ons correspondent puts 1t. the fashions
in this regard are constantly changing.
and what was dirigeur last season may
not be acceptable this year. These cor
respondents lose sight OF the fact that
when ali is told style is Of little conse-
quence. and It Is only true poiiteness that
counts. A few hints and suggestions.
however. may not come amiss.
Following the English custom. II has
become more and more the custom for
those who do extensive entertaining at
their summer homes In the mountains
and on the seashOre 10 state exactly the
time they expect theil guests TO arrive
and the length Of time they wish them to
stay. IN invitation, for instance, Is
couched somewhat in these terms:
Dear Mrs Smith Win you come TO
rs early in July for a weeks stay, ar
Tiving on the afternoon train Of WedneS-
day. the 9Th, which reaches our station
at about $50 o'clock The machine will
meet you On the following Tuesday
you can take either the morning or even
ing train, as you prefer. Do not trouble
70 bring your golf clubs. unless you are
particularly welded 70 them. for We have
q number Of extra sets. and they are
always q nuisance 10 tug about the cOun-
1ry I expect the KS and the Cs while
you are here. and am looking forward
10 a glorious tine during your stay.
Cordially yours,
SUSAN JONES"
Not 10 reply Immediately to such an
invitation is the very greatest breach Of
etiquette. for a person who entertains
constantly IS anxious 10 provide for the
entertainment and comfort OF her guests.
and Il any Of those first invited 10 the
house party cant come, she is anxious
70 III I'D her list IN sending a reply. the
words OF the invitation should be re-
peated, as:
Dear Susan; How good Of you to want
me this summer I take your invitation
as a sign that I cid not wear ny welcome
out last year. I shall be able 10 go 10
you on the 6th, though TO do so I must
cut my visit with the Exes little short
However, I 90 not want TO miss a mo-
ment at Three Oaks and am thinking
or those golf sticks with the keenest
anticipation. Expect ne July 6. al $50
o'clock. and make no provision for Es-
telle. because I an practieing economy
this summer and am going 10 do without
g maid Cordially yours.
"REBECCA SMITH"
One should arrive for a visit as fresh
as possible IN fact. there Is no excuse
for any one TO appear mussed and crushed
and fatigued unless they go far from
the beaten tracks Of travel or IN an auto
mobile, for one can i've almost as luXu-
riOus OF board a railroad train as al a
fashionable CaravansaTy in New York;
so q guest should present a happy and
smiling face 10 her hostess when she
greets her. and she should retain that
smiling face through the whole visit, for
10 one wants a grumpy visitor about the
house where every one is expected 10
contribute 10 the general pleasure and
enjoyment A successful visitor IS born,
not made. Il is a delight 10 have some
people under Cne's roof a bore 10 have
others. although the former may seem TO
make no effort and the latter may strive
her utmost TO be popular To be a sue
ceSSfUl guest one must have UneTring
tact. abundance Of good nature. an absO-
lure lack OF egOtiSn. and genial pleas
Ire in the pleasure OF others Too much
must not be expected Of the hostess. and
her plans should be iRterfered with as
little as possible, for the hostess Of to-
Cay makes very few plans for her guests.
and. as in England the whole house
party never meet except before luncheon
and sometimes not until dinner When
she bids her guests goodnight the host
sss asks:
Wei. what are you all going TO DO
tO-mOrr0W2"
And then recOunts what Il IS possible /
for visitors 10 do She says. for Instance:
I an told there is very good shooting |
dOWn on the marshes. sam Rae, there. !
ssys he Is going out for some deep-sea
fishing, but there IS a run-abOut and the /
big car al any ones disposal who wants
them. and also horses in the stable That
favOrite mount Of yours. Chotilde. has
not been exercised much this summer.
Why don't you take the captain there in
tow and gallop into town and bring US
hack the news As for myself. I am for
golf, il I can get any one TO go over
the course with ne. In fact. I am for
golf every morning from now on until
lcse the extra fifteen pounds have taken (
or since last year
This is an exact repetition Of a CONVEX
satiOn the ATbiter heard AZ a house party
il South Carolina Easter week. and il is
just about what most well-trained and
wealthy hostesses say TO their guests be-
fore retiring. and she sleeps easier, know
ing that her guests are provided for
IN the morning the guests rise when
they choose. Some Of them get up before
sunrise and take a smack of OF the side
table. laid in the dining-room over night.
and go OF fishing Others have their
breakfast served in their rooms. again. /
some viii meet in the dining-room and
talk over their plans for the day, and
there they are as Ike as not to be visited
by the host or hostess. who are not as
Indifferent as they may seem. and. while !
treating the entertainment Of their guests !
nOnChaianJly. they take care that no one
IS overlooked. and that every. one is pro
Vlded with means for amusement As
rule, all those staying in the house meet
al the hearty breakfast between p and ! /
o'clock. OF luncheon, however Il may be /
termed, and the afternoon IS devoted 10 /
reading. writing, strolling through the 4
grounds, where coy hooks invite 10 fiirta-
ton billiards. the inevitable bridge. 4
poker, even; but the crowd gathers again i
Tor tea az O'Clock, but the name OF that 1
meal has a wide significance. and IN
clUdes at this time Of the year scotch and
soda, mint juleps, horses neck. and
shandygah. for those who have been
exercising and have a thirst TO Quench.
By some this function is regarded as the
most enjoyable one OF the whole day, be-
cause Of the lack Of ceremony. the pre-
vailing 5OnhOmie, and the sailies Of Wit
that the recounting OF the days doings
provoke II Is so enjoyable, in fact. that
Il IS often continued until the time 10 1