The Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1???-1928, 1909-07-20
DANCE ROUS
20 Marry Any Man In Hope OF Re.
forming Him.

1t long has been agreed that pas
sonate love and calm, clear-eyed
common sense are naught akin and
have little or no commerce one with
another Indeed, there is general
feeling that affection, in order to be
genuine, must be impulsve, nor ever
be so sel,-controlled as to take coun-
sci OF prudence. Men and women be-
ing in love do not hesitate to confess
their lack OF Wisdomn, and expect the
one fact fully to explain and equally
to excuse the other as being its nat
ulal result
To this lack of reason, which popu-
larry is conceded to be part and Parcel
Of love in general, is to be added the
prOyerbial blindness OF Cupid which
attacks both men and women, with
severest results in the ease Of women,
Nothing upon earth can equal wo-
mans love In blindness to faults, even
in vices, nor in the ability to see
virtues where none exist--in divesting
even sin and shame of responsiveness
and disgrace.
Once let a woman surrender her
whole heart 10 a man, however I'M
worthy, and she becomes not only
willing, but eager to follow the way
Of her heart She will believe nothing
to the discredit of her 10 er, and
friends. however intimate, who tell
her uncompimentary truths about
him incur not her gratitude, but her
displeasure perhaps her lasting en-
nifty. She prides herself upon her
loyalty to him on whom she has Law
ished the full treasure OF hers 1ffec-
ton, aud believes what he chooses to
tell her against the testimony Of all
others, says Helen Oldfeld in the
Chicago Tribune"
There is nothing short of mental
alteration which altogether can eX-
plain the indisputable fact that so
many good and otherwise sensible
women are willing to marry men who
absolutely have wallowed in pitch,
such as the scripture assures us none
and fatuously believing that the mir
acuIous influence Of love for them
selves viii wash the black sheep as
white or whittier than any other in the
flock.
Once in a great while the venture is
successful; usually though, too COM
polling is the power of long habit and
OF evil associations. Volumes have
been said and sung in praise of the
Transforming power of love, and that
love really does work miracles none
can deny. But IL is a lameutable fact
which every woman ought to be aware
of, that il is love, not marriage, which
is the transforming power; the man
who does not reform before marriage
for the sake Of his sweetheart, in or
der that he may be worthy of her,
is not to be depended upon to do so
for the sake of his wife
It Is by no means an easy task 10
reform one, man or woman. Most
people object to being found fault
with, and man, with regard to his
wife especially. prefers the attitude of
mind which says: with all thy faults
| love thee still" One usually can
find excuse for ones self and is apt
TO exact of those who profess to love
one that they shall do likewise "Wo-
manly sympathy" which in the mas
culine vocabulary is synonymous with
praise. is that which he demands
from his wife. Even when he knows
that he is culpable he cannot endure
being blamed; pity is what he con
sidcrs his due
It is plain to discern the masculine
mind in the question. In point of
feet. sad as is his fate. the mans wife,
ii he has a wife. is far more to be
pi,icd than he. He resigns himself 10
the slavery and finds some solace in
splf-pity. Moreover. he deeply and
bitterly resents the least suggestion
that he is TO blame Far from being
ruled by severe opinion" he will not
Submit to the least criticism. and woe
t. his wife should she dare 10 remon-
strate with him. Indeed, II almost
may be laid down as a rule that the
wife who wishes to preserve her hus-
bands affections must never hint that
he is indiscreet in his eating or drink
ing, or indeed in any other thing.