Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1909-03-19
A Helpful Letter

Dear Miss Thomas-I read your page regu-
larry and am interested in it and love TO
read all the good letters and do read most ali
that are on our page; but 1 must say that
/ am often made sad TO read OF so many or
the contributors 10 this page in such straits
as Muriel is. And as she asked for ADVICE
feel like l want TO beg her never to marry
a man that she does not really and truly love.
no matter who he is or how good chance he
would be. In the first place, she would ne
miserable, like the one that wrote 10 this
rage last year and said that she married
to a good man that lqyed her and treated
her we'll but for the reason that she loved
another she 50 miserable she exposed her
unhappiness TO the public.
In the second place 1t would be taking I'M
due advantage OF that good man TO go up TO
the altar and make a vow before man ana
God 10 love him 50 long as life should last
when you knew that you did not love him to
start out on the sea Of married cursedness,
for that is what it would certainly be with
out true love. Then, never million times
never, marry a drunkard, matter how well
you may think that you love him. IL Will
be much better in the long run for you TO love
him apart from him for the sake OF that
love and ask the Lord. Blended knees.
TO help and comfort and guide you into the
right way. and give you strictly sober hus-
band or none at all. / am In my fhty-fourth
year and / never yet have seen woman
reform a drinker by marrying him. but have
seen many try II and make complete failure
after they had made many and as strong
promises as such men are capable OF making.
Some Of them that 1 knew were handsome and
smart enough TO deceive the very elect II II
were possible. and no doubt but they We're
honest in believing when they promised TO
quit that they would. but l think that the
habit has such a hold them that nothing
short Of the High Power can cure their morbi.
thirst for drink. SO don't marry either OF
the two men, Is my earnest decision, IL you
don't want to be miserable make others
miserable. You would better be an old maid
than a brute's wife or a grass widow with
a parcel Of little innocent children to suffer
for clothes and food and shelter and grow
up II. perchance, they should not die and
go 20 rest while they are small, and follow
the example of a dfunken father and he
drunken sons 10 wiring the last drop OF blood
from a poor mothers heart. oh, well,
some may say. such and such would not be
so bad" But what I say unto you all,
watch and pray lest ye enter into temptation.
As nice and good and smart young men as
live today and are dram drinkers no
better than many were at their age and stage
in life that now in drunkards' graves.
My plan 20 put the dramseller out OF bust
ness is for all true women not to associate
with any men that drink habitually. Whether
they are drunlSards now or not. they will
be some day ~ they don't stop before they
cannot. That would do more good than all
the legislation TO stop IL. Let man that has
a mite Of manhood In him know that he is
beneath the respect OF good women and he
viii put on his studying cap.
Well Rosalind wants suggestions how 70
TO the best advantage. One would have 10
know how her yard is situated to tell her
ANYTHING definite, but I would suggest that
II her land Is well drained she must have IL
in good shape. spaded up and fertilized well.
would make beds Of earth up above the
level with the surface somewhat, to plant
the seed In. She can have them long OF
any shape to FIT I'm her yard space to best
advantage. or fust staight Ike cotton rows.
Will do To plant the tall sorts the farthest
behind and the next tallest next. and so on
down 20 the smallest ones in front shows
them off the best. Seed should be sown in
fine dry soil and covered three or four times
as deep as their size and kept moist, not toe
wet. until they come up.
The smaller the seed the shallower they
should be planted. and larger ones must be
planted deeper. according 20 their size.
too. have a new yard and hope TO get IL In
shape to grow some pretty flowers this year.
the Lord permitting I had many killed In
the late freezo that thought were safe. but
I have a goOdly number left. ] am dropping
of from some Of the tenderest kinds that are
80 easy TO kill. and taking to more hardy
ones such as peOnias and clematic hyacinths.
tulips and roses. I lost my tube roses; they
the benefit OF an inquirer. ! will say that
large punches Of tube rose bulbs should lie
separated to plant them but no one bulb
will bloom every year; they have TO have rest.
7 suppose. to make blooms. OF course the
smallest size have TO grow TO get large enough
TO bloom. but the largest bulbs that I buy
will bloom the first year and not bloom tbs
next but make many small ones TO bloom
later like gladion and many others Of tn
Dubious flowers.
have written this at night and I canno
see any too we'll but II l see this I'm prin
and 7 am not ashamed Of 1t may try agar
II I think I can help any one by so doing
With love to all, / say goodnight
, Calhoun. Ca MRS. 3. F. LANG.