The Montgomery advertiser., 1909-11-28

1 only way to make up for . limited I-pocketbook ana the simplicity which such "a very usual condition entails. But a good look over the situation l Is Imperative and a deal of foresignt is necessary to avoid unpleasant is- make her best apeparalicea 70 that everybody will % away thinking what . generally lucky dog John Blank is and how very apparent his good fortune happens to be on this particular occasion.
 Therefore her prettiest and most becoming frock is just the right one to wear. Also the most attractive china and glass and the dearest pos- sessions in the way of napery may we'll make their, initial appearance. but any effort at display for effect Ia ruinous alike to the charm of the entertainment and the nerves of the hostess.
 As 1t is upon the afternoon at-home that the young wife must depend to return her obligations. 1t is wise to center her interests on that ,.porten- tious event If there is one servant dressed in simple uniform. black frock white cap apron and cuffs. she should stand at the door holding a. card tray in her right hand and open the door with her left hand as the bell sounds.
 Upon the tray the visitor places her card and makes her way to the re- ception room where. without remoy- ing wraps or gloves. she accepts what ever refreshment is offered. leaving within a half hour with compliments and good wishes for the new home. l The hostess first duty Is to step forward and shake hads with every
 one who enters and to say the right
 thing to all. "dear Johns" friends and relatives, to treat no one with an
 overpius of cordiality. and yet to be interested and at ease with each Is
 prime test of good breeding and diplomacy.
 1t is the height of i'll maners for
 her to engage in confidential converse | ton with any guest, and all afternoon | she must remain in sight of the door way that no caller from the earliest 1 to the latest shall stand a second be- tore receiving her proper greeting. Especially must she look out for | those who are unknown to the great CT part of the assembiage and se to
 1t that they are properly cared for. Much the same course must be fol- lowed at an evening at home, which.
 with its addition of the host and men callers. Is likely enough to take on an appearance of more importance. heIreSnmentb may DC bcfteal ATohi n buffet if ones household service ad-
 mfts the scheme. However, if ones tcircumstances precludes the employ
 ment of servants. then the glass of wine or of punch, with its accom- panying tid-bit served by the hostess
 herself, is all that the necessities of | the case require
 Cards left during the afternoon are ] duly listed and fetufn ca1ifi made within as short q space Of time as ! possible after tiiesa ekpirat1on s' of. a
 week or ten days szIf the bride makes
 her rounds of calls alone tna addition
 to her own she leaves her Husbands s card. 4s.s1 ssr .sy.3L- hsscsl The dinners and suppers given in the new home should be arranged with
 as much care and foresisht as is be-
 slowed upon the at homes. and. save | in. when engraved, cards are sent out the wife writes the Of invitation.
 using "weY insttead of,the Taicof her
 maiden days ~ ,Y ati sss1 l Of course, fine sense of discrimi-
 nation is necessary in making up the first dinner lists. but as general policy 1t Is much the best way to have
 a nice balancing of old and new friends to help carry the feast or with the proper vim.