The Ogden standard. [volume] (Ogden City, Utah) 1902-1910, 1909-07-05
Managing sLie6eLord

~ Ne may hive Just the dcnrest
e H sweetest husband In the world. al
81 ways consdcrnte and Kind. but the
y fact remains that be has to be man.
aged md managed most tactfnIly,
II tho domestic peace and happiness are
10 be kept intact. Why this IS So un1.-
such conditions Is ine1pllcnbIc, but II Is
so Perhaps II Is the nature Of the brute
10 need managing 2rce In a while. and
II onc's~husbnnd be the other sort the
necessity for managing him Il nil the
greater and, naturally. oil the harder
task.
To manage ones liegc lord and master
Is an art, Indeed. the frst requisite OF
which Is that he shall be managed with.
out knowing he II managed. for no man
is willing 20 nduit even TO himself that
bs wife can manage him To give your
husband certain definite and positive In
structlons about this TINT. or the other
thing Is not managing him at al-it IL.
fnuEly, but IN o1t-und-out and in-ad.
vlsed attempt 10 make OF him n crouch
and wranclcr, or n Mr. Hen Peck II
Is easy no doubt, 20 suggest TINT vour
husband can be managed with tact. Sub-
tlcty md kindness. aud n difficult thing
20 accomplish this desired rcsuIt-but AZ
IS not hopeless tnsk In any but the
most exaggerated cases OF domestic In.
felicity.
Though II IL generally admitted that
the attitude OF two married people. each
toward the other, Is determined by their
relations in this respect during the nrst
six months Of their married life there Ia
no custom or tyranny of husband over
wife that cnnnot be allcvlated II only the
right remedy is applied. To nud thnt
remedy Is difficult task, md the woman
herself Is the only one who can do So
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and master and the pecularitlcs Of his
ego. He Is not iovulncruble everywhere
though he may appear to be as much so
as was Achilles. II you can only rench
his heel, to carry out the 0cure. be will
succumb. ia did that immortal hero OF
mythology.
To understand your husbands character
thoroughly, bis tostes. his habits. md his
mental cnllbcr will enable you to avoid
the sources OF much dlscord and irrlta-
tlon.
To generate the idea In his mind that
BIO must do likewise concerning you Is
moro diBcult task. but one not hope
less OF accomplishment. clear insight
Into what manner of man your liege lord
IS opens the way for you to avoid many
OF the jnrs and jolts on the matrimonial
highways.
1t is strange. indeed. but none the less
managing nrc generally the ones who are
q trlfc nfraid OF their husband. Fearing
his Ill temper. his irritnbIlity and his
cenSurc, such n woman seeks TO keep from
her husband every little domestic disaster
that may coll forth these qualities IN him
She Will even go 10 the extent OF telling
IN white llc'' to avoid a family uphenval
She tries TO twist and turn this thing
or that thing inside out about and
around. so thnt It Will foil in with her
husbands mood or desire
II there Is something she Is especially dc.
eirous OF accomplishing. she begins weeks
beforehand TO twist and turn the desired
thing 80 that IT will be presented TO her
husband In light calculated to be most
acceptable to him, Such q course may
be wise or unwlse. but 1t is mnnifcstly un-
fair md Its existence unJustl1able Such
O woman ls really managing her husband
Indirectly. though directly making her
own wishes and efforts subservient to his.
II this Is the only way 1t Gun be done.
then do 1t.
There is the other sort OF husband who
takes extreme delight In rumpling his
bair all up, banging 1rst ono flst aud then