Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1909-04-23


full Of kindness one might almost say
benevo!ence. The good she has done,
the big, generous point of view and the
poets soul are revealed in everything
She does and says But it is. of course.
her face one remembers above ALL
nave never seen more radiant express
SION Age seems to have no part in
her.
Family Quarrels.
Practically all of the quarrels that oc-
cur in this life are preventable. Nine
tenths of the disputes III which husbands
and wives or other members of a family
engage are silly.
In divorce case that is expected to at
tract considerable (newspaperJ attention
when 1t IS tried, one of the grounds on
which a divorce will be sought. though
this allegation is not made in the petit
ton, IS that the couple are "tempera-
mentally unsuted." Doubtless it will be
shown that the young couple-for these
are young people. who sought to live
happily together for many years-are of
opposite dispositions; that what one
enjoys the other does not, and that the
words and actions of the one are a
source of constant annoyance to the 9th
err. The real trouble, however, regard
less of whether the individuals or the
laws recognize the fact, is that the young
people have not maintained the right at
utude toward one another The fact
that they did get along well together, so
far as matters of temperament were
alone concerned. during the cOurtship, is
reasonable evidence that they could. if
they both so desired, get along equally
Wen after marriage. In fact, we make
bold 10 say that they would get along
best because of being of opposite dispo-
sitiOns, provided they were both sin
cere in their determination to make al
lowances for one another. There is no
particular credit due people of similar
tastes and harmonious dispositions be-
cause they live many years together in
harmony. Both undoubtedly are weaker
mentally after they have reached middle
age than they would have been had they
not been SO perfectly attuned.
If we are to have healthy minds, they
must be exercised. Self-control is one
of the first requisites of happy married
life. We need opposition, temperament
ally as well as in other respects, in order
to make the most of ourselves. Temper
tests are as essential to mental improve
ment as physical training is to muscular
development. When things go smoothly,
the mind grows slOvenly Opposition
makes us keen because our will, in being
continually pitted against an opposing
WILL if properly directed, fights itself. 1t
is difficult to eradicate the bad within
ourselves if we are never tempted to do
wrong. The man of violent temper who
goes through life without having occa-
sion to control that temper is as violent
in the end as he was at the outset But
the man who is tempted every day by
the irritating conduct of some other
member of the family, if he overcomes
the temper that is within him, leaves the
world a better man than he was by ma
ture when he entered it.
If the dis0sition to quarrel and nag
and say nasty things is within us, it is
our first duty to ourselves, to our rea-
| tives and to future generations to over
come that tendency. As we are endowed
with evils to be fought down, so are we
! endowed with weapons with which to
| fight them.-Woman's National Daily.
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/ The Business Side of Matrimony.
! "a man who earns So a week need
not support his wife. The woman has
| chosen to ally herself with him. let her
work for her own living"
! This decision was recently rendered in
! q court in New York city in the case of
| a woman who had appeared charging her
! husband with abandoning her few
months previous. because, so he said his
! earnings We're not enough to support
! household: they were barely sufficient to
! support himself. y few days later. an
! other Judge. in the same court in a SINH
! lar case rendered the following decision
Il hold that man who earns only So
| a week, II he marrles, runs the risk of
! being sent to Jail if he does not support
! his wife, providing he is brought before
me, and | would send you (the husband)
! to Jail, only [ believe it is your duty and
not that of the city of New York to sup
! port your wife. | will therefore sus-
pend your sentence, that you may do it,
understand that you earn more than
| SO week and | order you to pay your
wife IS weekly
These opposing decisions of eminent
! iuristS state the pro and con of a Ques-
! ton whicsh women cannot do better than
! to study i'll all its aspects. They disclose
in a definite manner the truth that mar
! rage means something besides love; it
| means business. the business of sustain
! ing family. If the principle implied
in the ruling of the one judge is binding
! that a man must work to the extreme
! limit of his endurance and give all he
! earns to his wife, this may or may not
! work out justicG to the man. What is
! to hinder the wife from misusing the
mans money? What work is she sup
! posed to be doing and who has the prof
! its of that?-or is she supposed to be
doing nothing at all?
| In effect, being married has a decided
!
woman's work. The judge who babe the
wife go out and earn her living seemed
| to forget that, under the law, a wife is
cut off from every opportunity to work
! that does not happen to be where the
| husband chooses to live. She might get
paying situation, and if the husband
chose to move anywhere under the sun,
she must follow him or he has grounds
/ for a divorce. Moreover, if she have
children, her wage-earning is again in
! terrupted, if it is not thereby made
wholly impossible. Manifestly, it is an
! exceedingly complex and difficult prob
lem which the New York jurists have
! laid bare. The second decision. further
more. discloses how intimately this prob
lem involves the common veal. In the
| second case the judge did not send the
deserving husband to Jail because then
/ the municipality would have to support
| his wife and him-that is to say, and
| this is with all due regard for the sacred
character Of the marriage tie and for the
! holy part love plays, unless men and
women will consider marriage as a BUSH
ness proposition, our jails, poorhouses.
orphan asylums. and divorce lawyers will