The Washington herald., 1909-04-25

Lovers Need to Be Very Careful, and Pride Must
Often Be Curbed

and boy OF twenty and you viii find the
! greater maturity and wisdom, even, in
the woman. while the man viii, Of course.
have the superior physical strength and
business ability.
I But the man In love Is so amenable
/ that the girl who is the oyiect OF his
dreams can do with him what she viii.
/ If she but knew at this time she could
easily break the bad habit in him which
may trouble her. not by nagging and
/ scolding, but by causing him TO realize
/ that his vice. large OF small as Il may
| be, cheapens him immeasurably in her
/ eyes.
But sanity and first love do not go
together and never did A little sober
reflection and good sense at this time
would bridge difficulties and often help
the young man forward in his career by
vaHauishing his worst enemy. whatever
| IL may be-c2rds. over-COnviviality.
IwastefuIness-any and al the evils that
beset a young mans path al its outset.
Obstinscy-a form OF stupidity-is al
ways one Of Cupid's most dangerous foes.
On both sides It looms up as the most
important thing in the world to be main
tained. and young people mistake It for
dignity.
Later on the man. al al events. learns
that the very best masculine policy. IN
der ali circumstances, Is 10 take al the
blame and ask humbly for forgiveness
Many a man. who. in public life. IS
noted for the aggressiveness Of his pol
icies and bulldog teuacity in uphoIding
his principles at all hazards. manages
his household on this simple but effective
plan OF admitting himself always IN the
wrong. even when the cook burns the
steak. or the dressmaker does not bring
/ home the promised gown.
II the two young persons most con-
cerned would only seek 70 avoid the first
quarrel. they would never form the habit
OF dIsagreeing over trihes- And the sad
/ fact Is that the Quarreling habit fsstsns
on some people with all the persistence
Of cigarettes or drugs. and is far harder
10 get rid OF when once acquired
ore Of the greatest causes OF trouble
between engaged couples IS TOO constant
+ association and too much familiarity.
/ Girls do not understand that the best
way TO keep a mans love IN the long
run Is to hold his respect. and they slack
en- ID the rules OF decorum, through
desire 70 be good-natured and kind.
But this is Just the time when man
must learn that the girl he loves has
her standards OF character and Of be-
havior. even to the small affairs Of eti-
ouette. which so many affect 10 despiss.
In reality these things are Just as in
portsnt as cleanliness. proper language,
and dress. They mark the line between
the untaught savage and the deceuJly
brought up man and woman.
The girl who resents anything tend
ing 20 iaxity Of manner or conduct or
speech during her engagement IS build
ing the foundation Of respect that viii
last through her lifetime with this man
whom she is 10 marry
Men are peculiar IN the way they VIII
overstep bounds # they are permitted
20 do So They viii call al unreasonable
hours and prolOng their visits 10 i'm
possible limits They viii smoke II
drawing-rooms and deposit cigar ashes
in the bric-a-brac. when such conduct IS
not permissible.
The troubles that arise during an en-
gsgemsnt can never be traced 70 any
source OF actual Importance They al
ways begin Idly and fOOlishly. and, IN
many cases. end in happy reconcilisIiOnS.
but they weaken the fabric OF love.
which should be strong and firm and
fine and above al pettiness OF spirit.