The Newark star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1909-1909, 1909-05-03
WOMEN POLITE
WHEN WEARING
'PEACH-BASKET
Rev. Janes |. Vance Declares
They Are on Good Behavior
When in Fine Clothes.
URGES POLITENESS IN
ALL WALKS OF LIFE
Says Courtesy Would End Ser.
want Problem, Which Is
Caused by Bad Manners

Common PolitenesS," was the topic
!, of the Rev. DR.. James l. Vance's sec
end Sunday night sermon on Com
mon-place Virtues" at the North Re
formed Church last night. His tex
was BE Courteous /. Pet. ILL.,, s, ant
he said in part:
Courtesy Is a Christian grace. Com
mon politeness is a religious duty. Or
tianity. Good manners and gentle
breeding are as much a part of the gos'
pei program as the ten commandments
and going to HEAVIER when you die.
"Poiiteness is well-bred regard fol
the well being of others. 1t is kindli-
ness and co-nsiderateness shown in Q
we'll bred way. 1t is something more
than bare civility. 1t springs from an
unselfsh heart. 1t is not an affair OF
station or culture or wealth. One may
have good family connections and the
of a scrule. Indeed, he may
be well-bred and at the same time i'll
hammered. True ~politeness is not being
polite for the sake of seeming to be po-
lite, but being polite for the sake of be-
ing kind.
Common p%eliteness is not occasional
politeness, a rare oasis in a vast desert
of ooarseness and vulgarity. 1t is not
a dress parade affair. Some r ladies
and gentlemen when they have on the
uniform.
There are women who get under a
modern turret of millinery and inside
a late shaped. new shaded gown. and
thus attired they feel that the time has
fully arrived for them to put on their
most winsome smile and to adopt their
most gracious and agreeable demeanor.
Having on the uniform, they proceed to
the practise Of politeness.
There are men who get the chivalry,
which beats within their brave chests,
behind a starched shirt-front and their
manly forms arrayed in full evening
dress. and thus attired they pray,
Now, Lord, for grace to live up to my
clothes; for heavenly help for h space
of three hours, or until l doff what
here / have donned. TO act like. a
gentleman
But a woman who is only a lady
pasmodically, is not a lady. A man
who is merely a gentleman at a func-
ton is not a gentleman. Functional
politeness is pe%rfunctory politeness. 1t
is lust a false face, a bit of paint and
powder.
Common politeness is p~oliteness in
the common relations of life, toward all
sorts of people and on all kinds of &C
casions. l speak for it because 1t is
needed. Courtesy is the Sign by which
man climbs up out of the brute.
Let us have some common polite
ness in the home. If good breeding Is
not to be found there, pray tell me
where under heaven can you expect
to find it? Yet there are people VINO
seem to think that the i~nahnerisms of
good society are su~perfiuous when one
enters the seclusion of home and that
domestic happiness is a grace that
may play the boor with impunity.
LET us have some ommon polite
ness in the ordinary relations OF dali!
life, as master and servant, as en-
ployer and workman, as superiors, IN
feriors and equals. The servant prob
lem today is largely a question OF Dad
If there were more cour-
teous treatment on both sides there
would be far less friction. The fact
that a man or maid works for you does
not give you the right to be coarse
and rough and inconsiderate. me man
Who takes advantage of a servants po-
sition to treat him with ~discourtesy is
a coward. He is the kind OF man VINO
can be adequately and accurately de-
scribed by that kind of language which
may be used only by. one who is not a
member of the church in good and reg
ular standing.
Let us have some common polite
ness on the street cars. Let US prac-
tise common politeness in our efforts
ideal, when he said, 'Gentleness wee te
ideal. wnen he said, "Gentleness wed to
makes a man