The Caucasian. (Clinton, N.C.) 188?-1913, 1909-07-15

The girl who has an even temper
and Ii rarely upset by trifies, and who
Is merry and full Of fun, Is sure to
be popular. The happy heroine Of
real life IL not the heroine Of the
novel, who takes offense with appall-
ing readiness and who is difficult to
please
The happy heroine. for example,
does not fall out easily with her men
friends, nor forgive them reluctantly.
She has what | think / had best call
social grit and courage. She can take
trying situation cheerfully. When
her pretty frock Is stepped upon by a
accept his bIushing apology with
an angry stare. She makes him
ten times more repenant and ever
lastingly her admirer by saying: "Of
course forgive you. | know you are
sorry. but accidents will happen: and
IL you will get pin Or two think |
can make it all right"
When her escort Is tardy, when
her seat In an audience is none of the
best, and when Mr.. A. and Mr.. B.
are diliatory in paying their duty
calls, she does not look either dis
gusted or insulted. Her good temper
then gives her an influence that all
men respect, and her willingness to-
be amused and to make the best of
everything always excites their I'M
| bounded admiration. Men are never
slow to devoutly honor the girlish
philosopher who does not lose her
cheerfulness when a train is lost or
| late; who does not sulk because the
rain fell on her best hat at the picnic;
| who is not given to fretting. frown-
| ing, worrying or complaining, and
| who Is ever and always a womanly
| woman.
The woman whom men admire is
not melancholy or self-conscious, and
she usually has the mother-Wit and
discretion to believe that hearts are
pretty much alike, whether they beat
under nankeen waistcoats or chiffon
blouses, and are to be conquered by
very nearly the same means. Men as
| we'll as women, she knows, are more
pleased and 1attered to be coaxed
into talking than to be forced into
listening; and therefore, when such
a woman is introduced to Mr.. Jones
Brown, she warns the genial cur
rents of his soul by trying to talk to
him about himself, rather than about
herself.
This is indeed a point that so many
truly clever modern girls fail to
make. You stand accused so often,
my dear college girl and literary
maid, of trying to take too lofty a
tone in your conversations with young
men. You are just bit proud Of
and arrogant with, all your splendid
knowledge, and when you meet Mr..
Blank you want to talk about Brown
ing and Parsifa1, when poor Mr..
Blank really has never read one line
of that poets work and does not
know one note of music from anoth-
er. Or, if you do not make this mis-
take, you fall into the equally fatal
error of allowing yourself to be very
easily bored, and of looking superior
and difficult to please. This is what
the woman admired by man never
does. She never allows the fact that
she speaks four languages and plays
Beethoven beautifully to interfere
with her popularity; she has not a
condescending manner, and she does
not take interest only in the man who
can speak languages, too, and under
stand Wagner and Strauss.
Charm is not so mysterious quail
ity after all, and You can be charm
ing by cultivating many pretty, SIM
pie ways of doing and Saying pretty.
simple things, and by studying how
to show the sweetest and most grace
full side of your nature.
Maybe no one ever told you that
there exists a very sensitive charm
in woman's dress, and that men are
keenly sensitive to it. Therefore,
whether you consider yourself good
to look at or not, remember that your
dress is a matter of paramount i'm
portance in creating a first impress
sion, and in exciting a most valuable
kind of miration.-McCall's Maya
zine.