The Montgomery advertiser. [volume] (Montgomery, Ala.) 1885-1982, 1909-08-29
ART OF BOWLING.

1t IL said that the saiutatfon Is tne
touch stone Of good breeding. The
manner in which the bow or saluta-
tion is made indicates ones training,
nurture or culture. because culti-
waited, well-bred person Is careful In all
the trivial civilities OF life. says
writer In The Richmond News-Leader.
A well-bred person feels It incum-
bent on self-respect to be courteous to
all sorts and conditions of people. not
giving cordial bow to a person who
may be considered Of importance and
then greeting one inferior in the So
cial scale with q careless nod or a
mere elevation of the eyebrows. 4
In this age of careless haste people
are often too brusque In their manners.
but while a brusQue manner Is rude,
very effusiye manner and low bow
are worse. The correct salutation IL
between these two extremes.
Good manners are not a superficial
veneer, thin covering over rough
surface, but they are founded on kind
ness and common-sense. They show
the nature, the heart. the disposition.
Bad manners are attributed to "a
lack of fine perception which sees lit
tie things, want of that delicate
touch which handles them, and of that
fine sympathy which a superior moral
oE6dhtZ6tioh always bSRNN"Ss
Someone has said that, Of the people
we casually meet, we ask only that
the salutation be pleasant. This seems
to be at the root of the entire matter
of greeting-to be pleasant. A bow
Is made instinctively and promptly as
soon as one NETS the eye of an ac-
auaintanse. whittier on the street or
in room.
When bowling. the head Is inclined
slightly. Even when persons know
each other very well 1t Is not correct
to accompany q bow with a broad
smile, but there may be a smile in
the eyes," beam of goodwill which
lightens the countenance and prevents
an impression of GOODNESS, indifference
or absent mindedness, the death blow
to friendship.
With such one can be only lenient
and charitable and slow to take offense,
remembering that the acquaintance
may not be aware of her conduct. She
may be self-centered and selfish. but.
If she Is valued as friend, she may
be asked why her manner is so vari-
able. and this may bring her to sense
of her peculiarities. But II she Is not
really q friend, it would be impossi-
BILE to make any inquiry about her
manner.
When passing acquaintance several
times, 1t is only necessary to bow at
the first meeting. and 1t Is not correct
to mention the name of the person to
whom one bows.
A bow to an older or superior per-
son should be respectful. If bowling to
persons one knows slightly, the bow
is slight; IL bowling to those one knows
WELL the bow Is more cordial.
An important rule is that a man must
wait to be recognized by a lady before
he bows, but between friends the act
of bowling is almost simultaneous.
In bowling q man lifts hts hat and
replaces 1t quickly. He does not hold
1t off At arms length, but lifts II, not
too far from hts head. He raises his
hat when he Is with lady who bows
to anyone, although such person may
be q stranger to him; when he passes
q man whom he knows who is with
ladies'; when he is with man who
bows to a lady; when he Is with LADY
and meets a man whom he knows.
There are other small but important
points about bowling which disin-
guish a well-bred man. He raises his
hat when offering any civility to a lazy
who is a stranger, when he Apologies
If by accident he has stepped on
lady's dress In passing. or has acct
dentally touched against her when he
passes her on a stairway, or when he
offers any small courtesy in a public
conveyance.
when he takes leave of lady after
speaking to her he lifts his hat. He
removes his hat In a hotel elevator, or
in hotel corridors, when ladies' are
present He raises his hat when &C
knowledging any service done by man
to a lady whom he is escorting. II a
man is smoking a cigar when meeting
| lady who bows to him. he should
| remove his cigar when bowling; and
II he wishes to speak to a lady, he must
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