The Washington herald., 1909-06-13
Managing One'SLieeeLOrd

~ Ne may have Just The dearest,
sweetest husband in the world. al
ways consideTate and kind. but the
fact remains that he has TO be man
aged and managed most tactfully,
II the domestic peace and happiness are
20 be kept intact Why this IS so under
such conditions is inexplicable. but It Is
so. Perhaps Il Is the nature OF the brute
10 need managing snce In a while. and
II ones husband be the other sort the
necessity for managing him rs all the
greater and. naturally, ell the harder
task.
To manage ones liege lord and master
is an art. indeed. the first requisite Of
which is that he shall be managed with
out knowing he is managed. for no man
Is willing 10 admit even 10 himself that
his wife can manage him. To give your
husband certain definite and positive in-
structions about this, that. or the other
thing is not managing him at all-it is,
frankly, but ar oltand-out and ill-ad-
vised attempt TO make OF him Il Crouch
and a wrangler, or 4 Mr. Hen-Peck. IL
is easy. no doubt. 20 suggest that your
husband can be managed with tact. sub
tlety and kindness, and a diGlcult thing
20 accomplish this desired result-but Il
is not n hopeless task In any but the
most exaggerated cases OF domestic IN
felicity.
Though It IS generally admitted that
the attitude OF two married people. each
toward the other. Is determined by their
relations in this respect during the first
six months OF their married life. there is
no custom or tyranny OF husband over
wife that cannot be alleviated II only the
right remedy is applied. To hnd that
remedy is a difficult task, and the woman
herself is the only one who can do so.
Study the idiOsyncracies OF your lord
and master and the peculiarities OF his
ego. He Is not invulnerable everywhere,
though be may appear 70 be as much so
as was Achilles. II you can only reach
his heel, to carry out the figure, he will
succumb. as did that immortal hero Of
mythology.
To understand your husbands character
thoroughly. his tastes his habits, and his
mental callber will enable you to avoid
the sources Of much discord and irrita-
tion.
To generate the idea in his mind that
be must do likewise concerning you is
a more difficult task. but one not hope
less OF accomplishment clear Insight
into what manner Of man your liege lord
is opens the way for you 70 avoid many
Of the jars and jolts on the matrimonial
highways.
II is strange. indeed. but none the less
true. that the women who do the most
managing are generally the ones who are
a trife afraid OF their husband. Fearing
his IN temper, his irritability and his
censure, such a woman seeks 10 keep from
her husband every little domestic disaster
that may call forth these qualities IN him.
She VIII even 90 to the extent Of telling
"a white lie' 10 avoid q family Epheaval.
She tries TO twist and turn this thing
or that thing inside out. about and
around. so that IL viii fall IN with her
husbands mood or desire
II there IS something she Is especially de-
sirous Of accomplishing she begins weeks
beforehand 10 twist and turn the desired
thing so that II VIII be presented to her
husband In a light calculated 10 be most
acceptable 10 him. Such course may
be wise or unwise, but II is manifestly IN
fair and its existence unjustifable. Such
a woman is really managing her husband
Indirectly. though directly making her
own wishes and efforts subservient TO his.
II this is the only way it can be done,
then do It.
There Is the other sort OF husband who
takes extreme delight IN Fumpling his
hair al up, banging hrst one fist and then