The Birmingham age-herald., 1909-12-05

My Dear Girl,
 I who write to you this letter am 50 years of age, and I write to you as to daughter. And if you will carefully read what l say and ponder over 1t you nsy be saved from some regretful hours-or worse.
 Know this: The average man in his attitude toward girls and women Is a sort of Dr. Jekyl and Mir. Hyde parsonage He has two sldes-a good and bad side. For instance The average young man will spend hours i in coaxing a girl to kiss him and then think less of her when she consents. Strange, but true. The average young man will outward iy encourage girl to do things that he knows to be wrong and inwardly despise her for her weakness Inconsistent? Precisely. Men are built that way If you think that putting aside you natural modesty and doing the things men may ask you to do-things not necessarily criminal in themselves, but merely indis- creet-you make big mistake. With a man s, inconsistency, the one to whom you permit familiarity VIII Drag 1 about it to his chums. And they will laugh about 1t, and your good name will be lightly held 1 But
 There's another side to the man. l If you prove to him that you are mod est and pure and capable of taking care of yourself he will respect you down deep | in his heart | And should your name come up in dis 1 cussion he will see that 1t Is unsullied- And if you should need his protection ' he will defend you as stanchly as If he were your brother. l Do you see7 Every girl ought to know. Her moth- CT should tell her. If your mother has never explained this l two-sided nature of men to you l, who write, would feel myself guilty toward you who read my writing if l Tailed 1 to make it plain.
 Do not be prude, and do not De afaird
 of any man. Be honest. frank and fear
 less, but draw the line.
 Let every man know he crosses that
 line at his peril! He will not cross l~
 But he will respect you.
 Remember. my girl
 Most men have two sides. To . Man.
 Do you love your mother-in-law? Or. if not, do you respect her and her
 feelings?
 If not it may be questioned whether
 you really love and respect your wile.
 And if you make it your business to critioise your mother-in-law in the pres
 ence of your wife the nrst tnin9 you
 know you will lose the respect ana ioss
 of your wife.
 And you ought to lose it.
 Because the shafts of wit and sar-
 casm you level at your wife's mother
 go straight to the heart of her oauSn'
 ter She may not resent 1t In speech
 but she feels your fling at the mother
 is slight to the daughter.
 Moreover
 If you are too much of a gentleman
 for open criticism, If you are ~ nea. :,
 her own family, you cannot hide It, Ane
 your wife will think the less or you lo'
 your narrowness and vanity.
 What sort of woman would your VII,
 ha ,f when she married you she snouis
 turn her back on her own family?
 Could you trust her? .,..,. .
 Do you not realize the very quAnues
 loyalty which your w1fe ,,.,s
 ward her mother are the very quaie
 that bind her Loyalty to your What If you cannot precisely see al things from your mother-in-laws pom. view or that you may sometimes reel Una she is indiscreet? Never mind. Be charitable to the woman wne DOT your wife. Be broad mihueu anu ous in your treatment The daughter knows her mother weaknesses better than you do. Ano you are manly and forsiving and large hearted the woman you have marrlec VI realize that you are big and me- ana sh will worship you in her heart. Besides, you owe the mother or you wife lasting debt of gratitude. 1T you wife is sympathetio and heipful anu good housekeeper she gets these qu.nao from her mother. who moro 'n.n