The Montgomery advertiser., 1909-11-28
MANY SOCIAL DUTIBe FALL 2
 ON YOUNG MARRIED COUPLE

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 Just about the middle of the ''bIeak- est month Of all the year" the be- witching brides and beaming brfde- Erooms really come down to earth and recognize the that if they would be members in good and regular stand- ing of the little community in which they hitherto revolved on .single axis" they had better look about them. and take. cosnizance of their social duties.
 with the new house to look after and the new duties 1t entails to meet and master the days pass all too quickly. yet woe Dc to the social pros poets of the newly.weds. who permit time to whiri past them and leave them by the waysfde..
 strike while the iron fs hot" Is very. good proverb for the bride and bridegroom to keep In mind. In the nature of the case all eyes are turn ed upon them and how they com port themselves socially for the first winter of their married life fixes their status for good time to come. This after the-honeymoon period: fs beset with pitfalls for the feet of the nn- wary. and from the number Of notes upon my desk I've & notion a little list of .'does" and "don't'' might come in handy. zs.s' .ss M
 Of course, the very first thing the bride has to look after Is the gracious acknowledgement of the wedding gifts. All presents are sent In the brides name and the bride herself is expected to send the proper acknow- Judgements However. the bride- groom shares in the honor. and when the note is written i've. must be used instead of II" For instance Eve are delighted with your charming gift, for which receive our thanks" If possible 1t Is just as well to name the article--a subtle form of fiattery which enhances the word of apprecia- tion.
 Very soon after the return from the Honeymoon trip, cards should be sent out for an at-home unless at-home cards were inclosed with the wedding invitations If an afternoon hour is named. Of course. the bride sends her personal card with the day and hour affixed in. one corner In de- ference to the men friends whose busi- : ness preclude their taking part in afternoon affairs 1t is we'll also to have one or two evenings at home, in which event the husband and wife Join in sending cards
 Afternoon at-home may be just as formal or as informal as you please but the average parsonage wishes new erthsiess that guests be properly car ed for and pleasantly entertained. A group of ones intimate friends to as- sisf Tn the dinning room. at the punch bowl to pour tea or ceffee, ana gem eraliy to look after the callers is the usual procedure. The orfiinary tea table dainties are an that is re- qusred in the way of refreshments.
 Decorations also may be of tha simplest sort. but the house must he in proper trim. the bride and her assistants must be on the dot when receiving hour arrives. and every nre. caution should be taken to avoid any possible hitch in the progress of tbe domestic end of things. :. An awl ward maid or series of whispered direo- lions are bound to bring humiliation even to the woman gifted abnornalIy with savoire faire.
 To be able to entertain gracefully and generously. to be in touch with the situation to know what you are able to do and then to have 1t done with as much ease as though the house had been established a hundred years, Is the only way to attain that thrill of satisfaction one shas when ones last guest has gone and q re- view of the afternoon brings no un-- easy moment to mind. It Is also the