The Montgomery advertiser. [volume] (Montgomery, Ala.) 1885-1982, 1909-04-04
EDUCATING PARnNrs

Mich 10 written nowadays about thu
EDUCATION Of children. yet how much
better It would be IL the education Of
parents were seriously considered and
carried out In series. Of articles adj
dressed especially to them.
More children, says The New York
Times. are spoiled, rendered useless.
and even criminal by ill-advised pa
rental training and Indulgence than
In this country children are less
trained. more spoiled and worse be-
hayed than those OF any other nation.
ed As belonging wholly to Its parents.
TO be governed and guided Just as they
chose, but in these days children are
limit There saH ha na sp medium no 5 bee
tween these two courses which while
developing that which Is best In the
child. allowing 1t itg own individuality,
the same time represses lawlessness
and seldshness, now Astounding on all
sides among the young.
Self-sacrifice. which to q certain ex-
tent is virtue. becomes . veritable
power for evil when carried to ex-
tremes, and leads to and develops sell
fishness In Others; but there can be no
tits in spiritual way the one exercIs-
ing II rather than the one who benefits
by 1t, the latter receiving usually ma
II parents are ' nunseifish, sacrincing
their own comfort, time and means for
their children, they develop In those
children selfshness and other attend
self-sacriace. when carried to excess.
y also really selfishness. To speak
plainly. the love of giving of ones
means. health and service to another
Is often greater In the generous, warm
hearted person than the desire to ac-
Qutre from or make use Of others. Such
people have their greatest happiness in
Of time, money or service. II they did
not do II, they would be most unhappy
Hence they enjoy more than they sur
The selfish person who givek be-
cause he or she thinks II is a duty, but
who feels keenly the deprivation Of the
money. the time or the effort given.
who gives for the pleasure of II. for
the pleasure Of bestowing pleasure on
thing i desires. who surrounds it with
every luxury of housing. dressing and
diet. who INDUCES it's tastes for toys,
and allows IL Its own way. In the real
pleasant scenes in childhood, avoids
tears. storms and protests, and is cred
tied with being Q FOND parent" i'm
stead Of being really merely weak
) Later on the aftermath is quite a
contrast. Then, too. later parents Of
ten repent their selfish generosity; or
their children do thus and SO. never
reasoning that 1t is the natural out
come OF a spoiled childhood.
., When =, child H. commits fault It
rious talk and q careful bringing OF
the fault before the childish fntelli-
gence will show 1t where the error lies
is quite enough. II not. then it should
be deprived Of some pleasure to point
the n.oraI.' The whip or personal vio-
lence should never be used.
Parents should teach their children
to wait upon themselves, and not only
that but to walt upon all others older
than themselves. 1t makes for the best
of manners and for proper unselfsh-
ness anu develops when properly done
the desire for usefulness.
It - the parents. not the children,
who should be , blsmsd for the rsdeness
exhibited In public streets today among
children. The loud, ill-bred yelling, the
racket Of relier skates.~ the playing OF
ns a f ths PAYNE Sassf sa Of oensss
are social crimes against the rights Of
other and older people TO quiet and
peace aS.,, start primarily s..t from parents
II parents win teach their children
to respect the rights Of others SO that
their own in turn will be respected the
chief evils OF CHILDHOOD days will be
II fathers and mothers would i'm
press tneir children that TO be well
bred is to be about the best possible
tning IN the world. because 1t implies
a decent regard for ones fellows, there
would be an end to exhibitions OF sell
fishness and tantrums in children in
the family, of yelling and piratical
playing In the streets. The children
themselves would be much happier,
learning to play, In quieter ways they
would not be disturbed as now In the
pursuit of their pleasures, and they
would attain q self-respect and self
control that would do them good In the
DAYS to come.