The star and Newark advertiser. [volume] (Newark, N.J.) 1908-1909, 1908-08-07
x THE EVENING STARS TWO PAGE MAGAZINE
BROKEN ENGAGEMENTS--AND
SOME THAT Do NOT BREAK
The Tragedy of Married Life Out of Tune Frequently fFihss
Greater Grief Than the Loss of S%weetheartS.

kN HERE are worse things in life than broken engagements-one might
marrya rascal you know, nd that would be man. line worse ,"h
4 discovering perfdy before HI law compes a woman to share nara
lot I ave never been able to discover my reason for feeling Inundated at
being told that a man feelings have changed, for hat is something no mi
car remedy. If he is sufficiently honorable to declare himselfa woman ought
to be able % facet the situation with courage.
No real woman wan to marry a man against his will She may feel deepy
grhved at the change in her expected fate, but pride prope sehrespect
will help her, and she feels som sort of satisfaction in Ter escape iron
the hard lot of n unnved wife. .
The other day l received a shock from which 1 W. not fully recovered. l
met a woman 1 had not seen for some years, n the change In Ter personal
appearance vas not accounted for by time. Yet 1 know-or thought 1 knew. a
it happens-that she was happily married I'M in fairly good health
Judge of my surprise when, after asking after the health of her usoano l
learned that her whole married life had been a horror, which she had faced
bravey until he threw prudence to the winds an avowed al open admiration
another woman I'M his etestaton of his present life. Two weeks after the
wedding of this pair the wife 1earned that during he W years Of ourtshp the
She married him in all faith, n IN day the truth came out. =
So they lived with that secret between them. a secret IN would not even
share with herm mother. Three children were born t. them and the world thought
it IN ideal famIy-tll as 1 said, the mar became reckless. The wife vas both
M accomplished, and very popular whe he took her to a strang city
and she has been a model wife n mother, tut at a terrible sacrifice of youth
belief that such a fate "a preferable to be Tilted at h very altar
In the face of tragedies like this, there are who have h hardihood
to attempt to force men 10 keep a promise Of marriage, men who would hardly
be safe ventures if they were ruled by al overpowerng affection. I do not mean
the women who ask for hard cash balm to heal their damaged affections. be-
cause they are hardly worth considering. They form a class hat commands no
been numerous cases of late where reluctant bridegrooms have been forced to
the altar by determined maidens, and the sight is hardly edifyfng.
It gives rise to unpleasant remarks about thu sex in general 1t is not nice
to have men believe an say hats girls ares so eager for husbands that it is only
a matter Of pick ant choose for n mar, tina wom d % the counting, and
that ordinary attentions are construed Into expression of affection.
Some IF these charges ire rue, in a great many cases., so the rest of
womankhnd has to suffer, say Betty Bradeen.
Occasionally a man with this distorted idea of femininty finds a woman
who teaches him a flew things and keeps him OIL IN seato uncertainty. That
woman las all the devotion she cal take care of I assure you.