The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1908-09-22
Airing Our Grievances Is
Very Comforting, But
Not Always Wise.
YOUNG BRIDES MAKE
FREQUENT MISTAKES
Too Often Run TO Mother With
Resentment After a Trivial
Quarrel With Hubby"

Whenever we have a grievance It is
such a blessing to have some one TO
whom we can so for sympathy and 20
pour out our woes.
The very act Of talking over our trou-
bles Ightens them and makes the bur
den much easier to bear.
So it is a temptation 10 go and tell
our troubles 70 some one, but is IL
wise?
As 1 look at it It is never a good
thing to air our grievances" We are
at the moment Of relating them SO in
censed at the offender that reason gives
way TO imagination and the offense
under our enraged touch assumes gigan-
tic proportions. Probably il was only a
gray deed that melted our ire. a very
hg1t gray at that, but under the wrath
OF the moment It becomes at the least
a dark glowering smoke color, and,
perchance, darksome black.
OF course, we get a whole lot OF sym
pathy, and we 80 away with our mer-
curial spirits already taking the upward
trend In a short time the depth of the
color with which we endowed our trou-
bles is wearing of, getting ever and ever
so much fainter, till it becomes almost
white again, and we see that things are
appeared at first. and we come 10 the
conclusion that We are maybe quite as
much to blame as the other fellow.
Leave Bad Impressions.
But the person TO whom we conhded
our woes does not go through that same
mental process There is no graduation
Of color for our cOnhdante, and the
friend Of the deep. dark deeds stays as
he Nil
him that deadly shade.
When we again meet the person in
whom we confded our woes we are
Mortified TO hear some word Of fault
finding with one whose shortcomings
have long since faded from our minds.
We begin 10 think that that person
never was the friend We thought him,
or he would never speak so OF those
whom we love. And all the time we
are forgetting that we ourselves are
responsible for the friends point OF
view We ourselves gave that impress
sion its mean turn and twist, 70 blast
the otherwise good impression, all pc
cause once upon time we were
fused over some imaginary slight or
Ianc1ed grievance, and fused beyond
the point of discretion.
We would then give a great deal 10
unsay the mean words to which we
have given voice. We have found that
there were eXtenuating circumstances
But do you for a moment suppose you
can ever make the friend whose opin-
ion YOU have biased take that view Of
#? Not on your life. He viii think
you are fnsincere and don't know your
own mind, or else that you have been
bought into a better way of think
ing by some present or other, some little
trihing token that was only meant to
be COnCiliatOry-
The black tirge to the opinion is go
ing to remain, and you might as we'll
make up your mind to the fact that
nothing you can say now Will tighten Il.
Brides Mistakes.
Many a bride makes this retailing Of
woes one Of the gravest mistakes Of
her young married life.
Some fine morning the young hus-
band viii appear at breakfast with a
bad spell Of the sulks, an ugly case Of
grouchiness, and the young wife, never
having experienced just such a state of
affairs. will be reseutful and words
will follow. Now, instead of waiting
Till the evening brings a penitent hubby
home again with the old love light in
his eyes and a big box Of chocolates un-
der his arm. this foolish wife will HE
off TO her mother and tell her all about
It. But when evening comes with its
reconciliation. that same mother fails
to take the same forgiving view of the
affair as her daughter. Her child has
been badly treated, the mother thinks,
and she refuses 70 forgive the monster
who caused the tears of the morning.
And the moral of all this is. keep
your troubles to yourself, at least until
the morning after, or you may be
sorry that you said anything about
mem. BETSY LOGAN.