The Intermountain Catholic. (Salt Lake City [Utah] ;) 1899-1920, 1908-05-16
COMPANY KEEPING
AND couRTsHlP."
a Practical Talk by Rev. Dr.. Thorn.
as of ST. AIMS Church, Baltimore,

Preaching recently in ST AIMS
church, Baltimore. of which he is rec
tor, Rev. c. F. Thomas. S. T. L. gave
some very practical advice on the sub
! ject of courtship.
In former times, he said. men kid
| mapped their wives. That belonged to
the days Of savagery. Then some
bought them for cash or by labor. and
some women came high. In more re-
cent times matches were made by the
parents, and that custom still prevails
| in some parts of Ireland, France and
Italy In the present days the young
couple choose for themselves. In these
days also the young begin to think of
love at very tender age. This is par
ticularly noticeable in a boy. When you
find lad who has his shoes carefully
polished, his nails manicured. his pants
creased and wearing a good tie, you
can put it down that this boy is in love
and has a girl around the corner.
Now for some advice, In the first
place, make study of yourself. Look
into your disposition, your character,
habits and make close study of your
aims. ambitions and energies. When
you have done this look around for
girl who will fit in with these charac-
teristics, and who by her similar tastes
will make you happy. Extremes some
times meet. but they never produce
happiness in marriage,
Don't look for a foolish girl, but one
with sense and intelligence. Don't al
ways call in the evening when she is
dressed up. Call around in the morn
ing. say about 10 o'clock Go in the
back gate and see is she is helping her
mother or playing the piano. See if
she is beautiful. All girls are beautiful,
I,,4 ,F lyo har m
Another admonition--save your money!
Don't spend most Of it for flowers, soda
water and theater tickets. I have
known some men so improvident that
they had TO borrow the money to get
their marriage license. In fact, I have
often been ashamed to marry such.
They have nothing to start life on, and
they are rash and foolish. Again in
the line Of advice-steady yourselves
Form good habits, avoid bad compan-
ions, saloons and gambling. and don't
think that you must have q good
time" matters not what il costs. Be
industrious. honest, sober, brave and
chaste Form your habits before mar
riage; you can't do so after marriage
any more so than you can teach an old
dog new tricks.
A married man makes the better citi-
zen. Marriage settles man and
steadies him more than anything else
in life. He is removed from temptation,
and his wife and children will develop
the finest sentiments. A bachelor is the
most selfish OF beings.
Now for the girls! When you begin
TO sit up and take notice-and some OF
YOU do this early-select man who
measures up to the standard set. Marry
a man and not baby. Don't tolerate
the man who thinks of nothing but his
clothing, the creasing of his pants, the
con1bing of his hair ESPECIALLY that
parted in the middle) and the chap
who affects pointed shoes Take the
man who is industrious and has work
RI do. Don't make them spend all their |
money on you. That is all some girls
want, end the man is no good unless
he can take them riding in an automo-
bile. etc. Encourage man to be econ
,n1ical. Ask about his companions, fino |
,ut ali YOU can about him. It is SER
ious business for you. i
some women can't take advice ana
sone cannot be convinced. Don't be-
ieye that you can reform drunkaro
f+ar Won have married him. Drop him.
Don-t nut any faith in the ardent swain
,,l,o drops on his knees, looks lovingly
INTO YOUR eyes and says: III ole Tor
vou." Don't believe him. Tell him 10
come off the roof" You DOM want
nan TO die for you; you want nm 70
i've for you. Don't believe IN the nat
erer. You want man who talks sense
md who has honor and integrity
Ven don't want the man to be
brother to you. You nave enough OF
,rotbers. and you might tell one whoi