New-York tribune., 1908-06-14

That the sins of the fathers land mothers) Snail
he visited upon the children is true OF manners as
well as morals. absolutely are the 1apses from
politeness reflected these small absorhers Of the
,sailv home influences II is all very well TO blame
shortcomings shown by juveniles upon their luck
less nursery governesses, but the real fault hes
with the mothers and fathers who leave their ch
Hren almost totally the discretion of these PAID
empoyes.
The average mother of the fashionable set con-
signs her infant first 10 the care of wet nurse
1nd later TO trained nurse, more frequently than
not Of foreign origin In a luxuriously appointed
suite Of rooms or in entire wing entitled the
NURSERY that childs life is watched over by at
PENDANTS who, though coming with the best or
references cannot take the mothers place, ana
SHOULD not be allowed TO have full sway, as they
undoubtedly do, the mother merely coming IN as
lxn sional visitor how the small heir or
,aej-ess takes her bath. or show her off 20 some
interested guest. The first tooth, the first steps
and the first articuated word are duly appreciated
Inv mamma who will relate these events al a
ifridse or dinner party making her feel posi-
5,,ev ..ared" After she realizes that her child Is
,=ble TO think and feel like human being she VIII
.see more of it. and occasionally will complain OF
some action and give orders that the conduct ne
altered in that one respect but rarely If ever does
she know her own childs worse feelings or best
points or his or her character is showing forth
l1raits possessed by her or her husband
A WAVE OF REFORM.
Occasionally some newspaper tale or some actual
4~xperience with unworthy hireling in the drug
ixdng or cruelty line will bring these efete rich
parents to their senses, and the love that is natu-
raj though trained to be a side issue because OF
socety's pressing duties will bring about revolu-
Ation in he household arrangements. The children
Twill see their parents at more frequent Intervals
will even have their apartments in the main part
tc< the house and have luncheon with mother
iv-hen she has no other engagement does not ex-
lrect guests Then. and not until then, will the
,rnother realize what her child is growing TO be
iSnd in what directions the little mind has expand
led what ideas of right wrong have been in
xtilled how much selfshness generosity is in
hts raake-p In the first rush of reform the entire
staf Of domestics that have ruled in the children
quarter will he interviewed and the nursery gov
l.rness and trained nurse will be supplanted by
Lxoue young woman Of good parentage who De-
cause of financial reverses has TO support herself
She will probably have much trouble to undo the
work Of her predecessors
| II is well known fact that nursery disputes are
mot looked upon by the nursery attendants
tes more than casual happenings unless the young
x,e-s resort 10 vicious scratchings, kicks and hair
ts,uliings This at times will happen 10 the eN-
tent OF blood bringing, even in well organized
p<sta bshrnents the little dears being transformed
1nto vindictive fends. Unless close watch be kept
Zoo the cause of these fscuff episodes cannot be
lrully or clearly established, and while peace VIII
sbe PATCHED up some one OF the small fry VIII
have grudge that Will be setteld in fun at the
next scrimrnage by an extra finger bite or shove
.at is purely the result OF This treasured animos-
isrv II the guardian Of the nursery were a person
OF intelligence and good breeding and doing her
iduty conscientiously, the very first evidences Of
Quarrel would bring instant investigation, and the
warfare would be npped in the bud by setting
lforth plainly the right and the wrong sides and
.ppeaiing TO the fairness Of the children. If that
fsdea Of fairness is found defective the task Of
iroroperly developing ii Ehould be begun without
delay, and followed up at all times for without
fairness in all games gentleness of ways can
ipever be brought about. Children that fight
checked or improperly reprimanded in their
own nursery from the time they can toddle will
ever be ready for fray wherever they may go
whenever the bullying spirit rises uppermost. OF
ithese encounters the fashionable mother is the
last person TO hear If they do reach her ears.
TO understand their full import. She will prob
nhly be provoked the TACT that others have
heard OF her offspring's bad temper and will just
as surely blame il some discharged nurse.
Never once viii she realize that the entire respon-
efbity is hers and that her neglect Of her duty
IS the cause Of her childs bad disposition Often
you will hear the excuse: GLADYS is exactly like
ne gdaer ] was her age; she VIII get over II. or
Tommy is so absolutely Ike his father. when
.he mother should instc-l i1a ashamed OF the oc-
currence brought her notice
Bad temper. selhshness. sulkness slyness and