New-York tribune., 1908-01-19
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Methods of the Social .SfrfVer.
How She Secures the Friends Who Serve Runes in the
TO Success" Papa" a Matrimonial AGENT

IN every rocfal circle sthere is one who
thas made her way its midst 10y reason of he;
tndomitable viii. having had just ambition 10
make position for herself superior TO that in
which she bonn
THE climber" says woman who has had spe-
xial opportunities 10 watch ways of these So
cial luninaries, "is born usually in comparative
social obscrity but with the desire for social pres
tige AT school her ambition IS manifest in the
friends she chooses she is always careful Ia
adapt herself their views and conduct herself
along the lines OF their and doings If her
parents are ambitious for her they enter her for
some boarding school that has the of being
exclusive. and money is more or less of golden
KEY all that can spared from the home circle
SIS freely given the daughter. and with the feel
sing that financial equality has been established
with her schoolmates she assume a certain
aemount ef Independence toward them.
/ She gives no invitations save vaguely indefinite
ones 20 visit her some time in her faraway home,
(which she is more than likely TO invest with an
atmosphere Of romance, but she arcepts every in
tvitation given her that might prove advantageous
kshe ever bears mind that the friends of friends
bare frequently stepping stones and fails 20
hulfivate those she meets thus extending her list
lrf ecquaintances. She avoids the mention of any
Ez1ame that no. known those she is with AT
f<he time, unless II is prominent than theirs
fend her native shrewdness leads her TO choose
foongenia1 topics Of conversation when with her
helders ard TO show great interest in all their pet
hobbies. There is doubt about il. though the
and ability and a certain amount Of bravery.
"As this promising young person emerges from
her studies-and she is frequently kept school
foc special courses for a year more overtime
l<o gain more friends and secure irmer footing
with those already rradeshe is taken abroad for
the finishing touches, for there is no greater IN
oenttve the money making make more
money than the possession of daughter who
may IN time do him credit socially and. with her
force Of mind. cleverIy bring the family up the
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is spared TO and make, that when the girl
is old enough to come they Will be prepared
&c appear well before her great friends Probably
during her last year at school house will be
bought In a fashionable locality. decorator will
be consulted TO the proper furnishings. and
when abroad a few extras FiII be bought at
orhitant prices 20 be placed in the drawing
Ns THE CLIMBERS DEBUT.
Tor the coming out function of great elaborate
ness is gi-en; the girls asked 10 receive with the
debutante are picked from among the most de-
eirele acquainfances, and in many instances cards
sent 10 people chosen from the social register
ct random. As for the best known social lights.
however. the fact that they absolutely
known TO the tea giver does not matter in the
least The cards so politely sent in return are
kept uppermost in the card tray for many weeks
afterw-ard. and occasionally. the secretary Of
society leader keeps lists of all the cards received
for all the teas of the season, card for tea at
cne OF these unknown houses is sent in return
IT is this that frequently proves the open sesame
10 the patient waiter for social recognition. II is
true that the moment sh. crosses The thresh
OLD into the crowded rooms until she reluctantly
leaves she may familiar face and
the few words she exchange Will not he such
as 10 establish acquaintance beyond that OF
the most formal character The pour
ing tea viii prove the greatest consolation, for
her formal greetings can be heightened into a
chat on the opera the theatre, the motor show
or some ncn-personal subject and here sounding
can be made for mutual acquaintance. Thus the
first step steadies into faint footprint on the
social sand
..F>rora debut TO r1atrimony the natural order
Of things. and the parental eye has been prefer
naturally keen, for the average father, and even
1he fazher below the average, no matter how
careless e his own habits and accomplishments.
will wfea il comes TO the future life and happi-
ness of the esri for whom he has slaved, be most
critical as 20 very points in her prospective
husband, and. above all. she must marry up and
not down the social ladder With this aim the
father enters politics. the politics of party, but
those OF reform movements. for into this politi
cal ma elstrom promising young men Of the better
class are drawn. because reform politics absorbs
more time and money than the palmer methods