The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1908-08-16

graphs involve expense to their own.
ers, even then it is as well to thing
twice before asking such favor.
! ANSWERED IN THE AFFIRMA.
TIVE.
Our dear and venerated Edward
Everett Hale, whom a nation unites in
honoring, is a nephew of that Nathan
| Hale who at nineteen became one of
the heroes of the Revolutionary period
I Nathan Hale had volunteered to meme.
1 trate the British lines and procure in
/ formation for General Washington
He was detected as a spy, tried. ana
hanged. His statue stands in the Citv
! Hall Park of New York. At least as
much tender romance and cord al svm-
/ pathy should be felt for the memory
of Nathan Hale, our American hero.
| as for that of Major Andre, the British
! spy who suffered a similar fate.
GUEST OF HONOR.
| When inviting friends to meet a
guest who is visiting you, send your
! card with ''To meet Mrs. Blank,y
written upon it, mentioning the day
and hour of the reception. If you wish
, to be more formal, you may write per-
sonal notes to those you invite Pre-.
! sent your friends to youf guest.
Should you give her souvenir of the
occasion, do so quietly when the affair
is over.
AN INFANTS WARDROBE.
A baby IS outfit for the first three
months should be very simple The fol-
lowing list of articles will completely
fill the need: Three small shirts; three
bands with straps over shoulders; four
flannel strips for bands for the first
four weeks; six or eight plain slips for
day and four for night, not too long,
SIX long white skirts; four flannel
skirts; four sacques; two wrappers;
cap and coat; mittens without thumbs
for winter baby; three pairs of
bootees; toilet articles, etc. There
must, of course, be a sufficient proyi-
sion of napkins-fve or six dozen.
Quilted covers for the bed, and squares
of flannel bound with ribbon to wrap
the baby in, will prove useful; also a
small down pillow and covers.
AN ART STUDENTS EXPENSES.
Before becoming an art student in
Boston or New York YOU should com.
munleate with some responsible friend
or with the Y. w. C. A. and ascertain
the precise cost of board and lodging
Unless you have very decided talent
and your people can afford to carry you
through, you would do better to con-
tinue your studies for the present at
home. As your parents are dead and
your sisters refuse TO help You, YOU
are not justified in taking the compare.
lively small sum you have at your dis
posal and venturing alone into a great
city. The Art Students League in
New York is very popular with stu.
dents, and the terms of tuition are
reasonable. Instruction at the Cooper
Union is free and of the highest order,
but the classes are crowded and there
Is very long waiting list
THE CASE OF AN ELDEST
DAUGHTER.
Your mother died when you were
fifteen, and you then undertook the
care of your father s house and of the
younger children. You have faithfully
performed every duty incumbent upon
you for sixteen years. The little sister
who was five years old when you began
to mother her is now twenty-one. You
are sought in marriage by man whom
You esteem and with whom you may be
happy. The family, however, are
aghast at the thought of your leaving
them for home of your own, and your
sister in particular is amused at the
10N1 thot d pCAaOn u luuE aye Cdh
think of marriage. It will be well for
her to have more responsibility and to
be less self-centered. You have spoil
ed her little. You should consider
and your own future, and mar
ry the man whom you love-
DISPARITY IN MARRIAGE.
A man of twenty-seven is deeply IN
love with woman of thirty four. He
has known and admired her for five
years, and they have been engaged to
one another for two years of that time.
Yet as the marriage day approaches,
the woman hesitates and draws back.
She fears that her seven years of adj
ded age will disqualify her for the
position of wife to a man who will be,
she mournfully explains, only thirty
four when she is forty-one. No rule
can be applied to this situation but [
have seen some extremely happy mar
riages, marriages that were certainly
made in heaven, where the wife was
from seven to ten years older than the
husband. IF there exist no other dis
parity, if the two are congenial in
taste, and of similar education, they
should not be afraid to face life in
May / hint that the time
for hesitation on the part Of the woman
should have preceded her engagement
An engagement once made should be
regarded as sacred.