Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1908-12-04


ing, aud nursed them through the small
poX herself. Few persons would have
cone tins, even for friend and the
sisters Pope were strangers to her. She
knew them merely as two young women
medical N. students in serious trouble
Noman's Journal
Getting Away from Ideals.
Have you ever met a girl who has
,iflIted away from her ideals? One who
mas mind attuned unto all that is
sweet. beautiful and true in life? The
woman or girl who loves art, literature,
mowers, nature, little children. music
poetry, men and women? And you dis
cover she hides it all under that up-to-
gate American air of carelessness. Not
lohs ago q beautiful young woman, with
nature aust as the one herein de-
scflped, admitted that the age in which
we i've was killing her ideals. TO have
trends, she said. she had to be idle,
Ioohsh and ready for chatter. She
Louhd that few persons cared to be seri-
Gus about anything and that it was not
the glfl of brains or high ideals that the
people wanted, but one who could dress
ana ne mixer in gay crowd. Sne
sald II ironically, for she lost friends
ana gained none by living too much to
nefseH and her ideals. Her love for
mowers, music, books and art was moth
ing TO her acquaintance and so she
dfifted along with the merry tide ami
was often unhappy even with her
friends. She was born with a beautiful
mind that reaches ent for the sweetest
IN life. and if he's own lovely personal
ity can not draw friends to her because
she IS quiet, studious and refined, the
friends are not the ones to seek. One is
oIttlmes placed in an unenyjable posi-
Ilon among persons who really have no
object in life except to live a recklessly
good bohemian existence, with a merry
song here, Il glass of wine there and a
come trip the merry with me- This
kind of company is dangerous. 1t will
sooner or later shatter the best of a
girls ideals, and leave them like com
mon clay models. Better be alone with
good books and music, than with idle,
goSSlping persons who. in nine cases out
of ten, cause one more injury than good.
Inns young woman is unfortunate III not
being placed among congenial persons,
but like begets like" and if she would
return to her ideals, they would in time
find her the beautiful companionship
she certainly must crave among the per-
sons who love the things in life that
most appeal to her.-Woman's National
Daily.
-O.+o~
Social Reciprocity and Hostesses.
How often when group of friends
are chatting about some coming tesuVlty
will one of them remark that she really
cannot go, for the entertainment will be
on such lavish scale that l never could
return it in any way" Then the size
of her house and the state of her imam
ces will be mentioned as further argu-
ments against her acceptance of the in
vitation, and the others, in the best
meant spirit, will try to reason her out
of her decision The woman who re-
Trains from accepting all hospitality that
she fancieS she cannot repay IN full Is
cutting herself off from gatherings which
might lead to some form of success for
her husbands business or for her chill
dren's future, and it is not true that she
cannot return in full the courtesy eX-
tended. The woman with the most SUI
perbly appointed house, a staff of liver
led flunkies for dining room and pantry,
| a chef and her own maid is the very one
to whom a simple hone luncheon, served
by neat maids, appeals most, and who
at times positively Graves an opportunity
to escape from her surroundings of gran
deur, which she must ever uphold with
formality, to some congenial friend in q
simple, cosey home.
| Go to almost any community of the
country club order and soon you viii dis
cover that it is not the person with the
| largest and most extrayagantly run
| household who is the favorite, though
| she may constantly give entertainments
to which everybody is asked. Instead II
will be the one who keeps open house
to all, in even the smallest way, if that
| is all she can afford; for the welcome
and ready sympathy are the charms OF
| her hospitality And the woman from
| the mansion appreciates these things,
! too. She-poor souli-craves the wei
come and sympathy just as much as
| those less fortunate in the possession OF
wealth and the power it brings, and to
have the entree to the smaller house
| means more to her than the other WON
| an dreams of. 1t is the spirit in which
9 thing is done that makes it worth
| while or not, and no one is quicker to
/ appreciate properly this spirit than the
| rich woman who is pursued by toadies
| and flatterers and TO whom the establish
/ ment of a friendship with a womanly
| woman is a delight and comfort. Wealth
| and luxury are not the acme of happl-
| ness, and she has percllance too often
| found a seamy side under the cloth OF
| gold.
| The poor" young woman should not
| decline without some other reason. there
+! fore, an invitation from the rich one. for
/ the latter is in the enviable position of
! being able to ask just whom she pleases,
/ and the invitation would not be forth
/
| it, so a prompt acceptance should be
made, and the nature of the return may
! for q while be trusted to luck. This
! is very different thing from the action
of the hanger-on. who not only accepts
eagerly the smallest kind of a bid
| from her rich friends, but invites inyi.
itations most adroitly. These people us
ually claim that their mere presence is
sufficient repayment, as their name and
position are Of such social weight that
| they are really placing their hostess I'M
| der obligations by appearing in the list
| of those present" How much solid
satisfaction must there be to the rich
woman, then, in having a friend who
gives what she can, no matter how small
or how quietly done!
| No matter what may be the means of
| a family that is living in a commcnity
where any entertaining is done, a certain
amount of hospitality must be accepted
! and must be returned sooner or later. In
these days of varied amusements some
kind of an affair can be given that will
come within a limited income and no;