The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1908-05-03

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Vanderbilt and Mrs. Philip Lydig will
visit here shortly, as they are contem-
plating a trip TO the Orient. Captain
Lydig will probably be in the party.
He is very well known here, having Wis
tied here several times
Ella Wheeler Wilcox has discovered
that the habitat of the popular mother
|! in-law is Honolulu. In one of her let
tiers to the San Francisco Examiner
she writes:
There must be some peculiar quality
in the climate of the Hawaiian Islands;
for there L encountered two young
women who had been married for
decade of years, and who were abso-
lutely devoted to their mothers-in-Iaw
Both were American women, married
to American men. One assured me that
she would go to any remote spot on the
earth and feel that it was home if her
husband IS mother accompanied her
'fShe is the sweetest and most won
derful woman in the world,'' was her
remark
The other told me that the JOY and
life of the home was her husband IS
mother.
How refreshing and beautiful is such
statement coming from the lips of
young wife.
The world can never progress to the
standard dreamed of by the altruist
and reformer until the term mother-in-
law ceases to carry a stigma with it.
Never can woman become emanei-
pated and take her right place in the
great scheme of the universe until she
eliminates from her own nature the
petty cruelty the ignobIe selfshness,
the mean jealousy which combine to
make her a disagreeable mother-in-
law.
Never until she learns that large I'M
derstanding of Love land of the much
Wanted Mother Love- which renders
it impossible for her to be inconsider-
ate of the feelings of her son and his
wife, or her daughter and son-in-law,
can woman help the world along to
higher standards.
Because she is an older woman. and
has had more experience in life, the |
mother-in-law should feel it her inn |
perative duty to bear with the weak |
ness, the selfshness and the folly of |
the son s wife until she could, by con-
slant exhibitions of the real spirit of !
the universal mother love. win her |
daughter-in-law to be her friend and !
compel her admiration and respect. and |
through those qualities help the younger
woman to overcome her faults.
That is what long life is given to us I
for-to perfect our characters; to make
teachers, guides, helpers and
friends of the young; to be in moral
position to Lad them up and out of
the valley of selfishness and the by-
ways of folly into the sunlight of use
fulness, and to set their feet firmly on
the high road of character building.
1t should be the ambition and pride
of every woman of middle age to so
help younger women and men over the
difficult road of life.
And surely she would be most pa
tent and tender with the wives of her
sons and the husbands of her daugh-
ters.
She should attract them first by her
admirable qualities; with her loving ma
'ure; with her patience; with her toll
'ration and liberality of judgment, and
BY her ready appreciation of their good
rats.
She should make them love her. Then
III the rest would be easy, and the
lame of mother n-law would cease to
uggest the human poreupine, name
which it so frequently merits today.
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The beautiful Nuuanu residence of
dr. and Mrs. George R. Carter was en-
etc on Wednesday; the occasion being
reception given in honor of Mrs