New-York tribune., 1908-11-01

There are few OF the conservative eieI',e"' r..
IN society," but these are so IN the minority 'i''
the outward signs Of mourning Tor reiauFes heH %
spa dear. as observed by them IN accordance with
fine hoEo-ed customs. seem 10 have fanel ill'o
aesuetude death even in family seemingly
bound together by every afecuonate interest Ho
longer means that they shall so into coInpaIau'e
seclusion and for d time receive visits only rom
relatives and very few most intimate irlehVs,
Instead before the flowers Cuniess please omit
has been inserted in the obituary. are faded upon
the fresh mound of earth that marks The hnai rest
ing nlaca of the wife and mother paragraph IN
The various columns devoted TO the nlttihes oL
fashionable people viii note the departure Of the
husband and family for some watering place WieIe
rsye7v Teigr,s from morning to evening a lew
weeks at the edge Of such GCings soon wear Oh
the keen edge OF their grief and before the
sho.f season is the Wane all VIII he enquirer
IN the social maelstfom. the Vine being drawn at
se1res alone for fear Of too severe censure by
r7,cf, ~ 1l,e conservatives may be related TO
them and who may have wilis 10 make and could
name a charity instead OF their own flesh ana
blood.
On ali sides criticisms flying freely for ruth
lesey do dearest friends prescribe rules that they
themselves never think Of following Ihat Is Oie
rules are laid down when those concerned are out
Of hearing In the presence Of the mourners a
very different view OF their conduct IS taken Then
these same dear friends insist that such snaH
rleas,,res arc necessary or otherwise deep melan-
argument that your mother would wish you TO
enjoy yourself while you are young. instead or
shutting yourself OF from iqrocent amusement
aeain they viii argue that certain insignia OF
loss such as crepe trimming wells, other than
the lrbtest airiest and latest meshes are IN
healnful and that wearing black, save for the
Ehortest possible space Of time, means that the
home life viii be made morbid
But rarely nowadays are the servants put into
mourning livery when some member of the family
masses away and in all large cities it is a fire.
uueut sight 10 meet with handsome victoria, with
two men on the box in maroon or green or dark
bl,le livery with gold bUttcns showing up bravey
and the horses with brass mounted harness, while
IN the open carriage sits lady with apology
fer 2 mourning Yell floating in a box pleat from
the hack Of an aigrette trimmed chapeau. Sabes
are her furs 81 weather conrels any. and large
bunch of violets is pinned amid them. Could one
see her gown beneath her stunningly braided broad
cloth coat II would found 10 be Of some satiny
"a brio with embroidered net chiffon and lace
roke and f4sets vsaie inquiry would bring out the
fact that her husband child has been dead fol
six weeks or even less time, and that she is so ner
,ous that she must have change of thought and ir
consec-ence is giving small dinners and going tc
bridges Just with her most intimate friends She
also goes 70 any entertainments for charity. from
fetes 20 concerts theatTcals, and joins various
clubs for tennis and bowling TO keep her mind dis
+rac+ed from her trouble. in fact, she is as mucf
on ths go as ever before she finishes her list OF
answers notes Of coincidence.
Travel IS another form of distraction adopted b.
many OF the smart set at such time, and tht
clothes are selected with much care and are
quite as elaborate as those for their trousseaus
such lovely white English crepe comes for evening
gowns" you may hear one say. II within hearing
distance OF q mourning outfit conversation. and theI
~fn follow animated discussion Of handwrough