The Pensacola journal. (Pensacola, Fla.) 1898-1985, 1908-12-13

SOCIAL CARES OF THE MARRIED.
The question 50 often arises in the
family circle as to whether the hus-
band must do this or the wife that,
and generally speaking the husband
slips out of most Of his obligations,
leaving tle wife to bear a double So
clai burden. But there are certain
social duties which are expected and
should be demanded of both
A man is very apt to come home
some evening and say: Il wish you
would go on call on Jones's wife. He
is a good friend of mine in business
and think you might help me out
to that extent" The proper way to.
solve such a, problem is for that man
to ask Jones wlen he and his wife
viii be at home, adding that with his
wife he is coming around some even
ing to make the call. The fact that
the two men know each other would
relieve an otherwise very trying and
dull situation.
Again the fretful father comes home
at night and asks his wife: "Who is
that chap calling on Ethel?" OF
course the mother should know who
is calling on her daughter, but it is
none the less the duty of the father
TO know the young man. I do not
mean that it is necessary for either
or both the father and mother to sit in
the parlor the entire evening, but the
head of the house should know every
young man who is calling on his
daughter. Let him go into the draw
ing room informally and chat with the
caller a few minutes, long enough to
judge IL he's the right sort And if
he is not the right sort, then let him
inform his daughter of that fact the
next day, and when the undesirable
young man calls again Ethel can very
easily send word that she is not at
home.
When young girl is introduced in
to society at a tea or reception, even
if the affair is in the afternoon, the
father as well as the mother should
be in evidence in the receiving line.
He cannot lay the entire response
bility on the shoulders of his wife
At such a tea both men and women
are invited and as a rule a great
many young men attend, hence the
father should be in sight playing his
part of host just as the wife does
her share of the duty as hostess. The
invitations to such reception contain
only the names of Mrs. Parker Smith
and Mr.. Smith, but Mr.. Smith must
be at home and do all in his power
to make the affair success.
Every man and woman who pre-
tend to do the proper thing in a social
way should have correct calling cards.
couples need three sets. The
card of the wife should read, MRS.
Walter Edward Blank" In the lower
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be engraved, and il she has a day at
home this should be engraved on the
lower left hand corner. The husband
should have his cards reading "Mr.
Walter Edward Blank" with no house
address.
There should be third card read
ing: mr.. and Mrs. Walter Edward
Blank" with the address in the lower
corner. but eliminating any
day at home All cards should be
engraved on heavy. dead white bristol
board in Old English type. For CALI
ing and general purposes it is better
TO use the two single cards. but the
card bearing the name of both hus-
band and wife is used for sending
wedding gifts and in sending joint re-
grets to invitations. Frequently such
D card is enclosed with wedding in
vitation to indicate where the bride
now lives and where the presents may
be sent.
When husband and wife call on
another couple they leave one of the
wife's cards and two of the husbands.
This signifies taat Mrs. Smith called
on< Mrs Jones and that Mr. Smith
,alled on both Mr.. and Mrs. Jones. A
woman never leaves caro- for man.
As soon as a death is announced