Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1908-02-03
HOMES HAPPINESS.
It Depends on Woman's Mental At
titude

So much of the happiness of a home
depends upon the wonan that she should
lose no opportunity and spare no effort
toward achieving lit. for when home is
not pleasant and congenal place "a
man can seek diversion elsewhere. and
there will be little or, no gossip. Ger
fanny chances are against his being hurt
socially. A woman, however, cannot GO
alone out of her home for amusement
without. at once becoming a center of
gossip of the most unpleasant sort She
caunot even do much at home in the way
Of entertaining unless her husband is
with her. At home or abroad without
him. she is almost certain to be talked
ABOUT. and no woman of refinement and
breeding likes. such position =
Inoughuulness is frequently responsible
ZOE the unsatisfactory conditions that pre-
Vail In many homes; thoughtlessness and
iorgetfuiness of the many things against
which man contends during his business
day. that make him tired and even i1i-
table by dinner time. Despite this state
OF AFFAIRS some wives seem to think dur
ing the nrSt year of married life that
husbands will have the same attitude
toward them as during engagement and
are utterly unprepared to meet the rubs
lnat must sometimes come to even the
Uappiest and most congenial of couples.
The wife doesn't understand why the
a
finance should seem Indifferent to her; or
should he willing to stay away from her
for few hours in the evening when
once he would not have been happy ex-
cept with her She forgets that condi-
tons have changed; that though he has
greater love for her than formerly. and
still would rather be with her,than with
others, he knows he has her to go back
to; not in Indifferent taking for
granted way, but with happiness and per-
n nj in ho fnp .-l,n l..
there
The lndlHerence many women display in
little things after they are married is one
of the never. ending sources of surprise
to many persons who look on. There
are woman who. having married seem
TO think that it is not necessary for them
to make any further effort to be attrac-
triVe. amusing or prtttily gowned In
point of fact, they sink into an attitude
|of general Indifference, that causes an
palling results. 1t is not that such a
woman cares less for her husband; she il
constitutionally lazy or stupid. !.
1T does not dawn on her that it is not
pleasing to man who has worked hard
down town all day to Keep the home run
ning and provide all he can for his wife
to find her looking dowdy or being peevisl
on mis- return. Being but human. he is
irritated and disappointed because in
stead of the pretty. bright girl he used
to see before he was married he finds
complaining and unbecomngly dressed
wife
True. it is not always easy for a woman
to be sweet and amiahle and to pretend
that life Is an unrippIed ocean of ioy
But what will do much toward helping her
over surging seas of servant troubles and
trying to keep house and dress on nothing
a year is the thought that her husband
~ WORKING for her. doing the best he can.
daily meeting difficulties disappontments
and setbacks, about many of which Sine
never knows.
mat Is MS part of life. and he expects
it. but the wife's share is to run the home
the best she knows how, sparing him
the veXations and trials there. as he
spares her down town, trying to make
nerseif pretty. sweet and unselfsh. and
home place to which he is glad to come
She saves funny or Interesting incidents.
to tell him, makes him "a physie ,Ily
comfortable as she can, studying his
tastes and inclinations and her success
lies not only in making him happy hu,
being SO herself