The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1908-02-15
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trouble to the Adam whom she was
intended to bless, being the cause Of
mans first disobedienCe and his fall
Still, as the mother of mankind she
should be gently judged of her chill
dren. It may safely be asserted that
no woman not scanned and SCARED by
an unfortunate love affair has any Sc
rious or deep-rooted aversion to mat
rimony in itself; any and every wo
man is ready and willing to marry
when the right man-alas! sometimes
when the wrong one-cOmes along
Recently an eastern journal stated
that a prominent merchant was stead
lily filling all his important clerical po-
sitions with men, and for a significant
reason He did not deny that women
clerks and stenographers are mental
ly equal, even superior to men But,
he said, it usually happened that when
he got woman trained to difficult
position she left him to get married.
The instinct of the race is more pow
erful than the pride of individual in
dependence When men marry, on the
other hand they become better work
ers, more ambitious, more intelligent"
Which brings the matter down to bed
g rock Woman is primarily intended to
: be the helpmate of man, and the pow
er of women is felt most when it is
! the power behind the throne.
1t is only natural that marriage
r should seem desirable and important
, to a normal woman. It means COM
r partnership. home of her own, moth
p erhood, and added dignity with the
I respect and interest of her fellow men,
= sentiments which frequently are with
p held from single women of greater
r worth and larger usefulness. For,
+ however unjust it may be, the fact re-
mains that there is an indefnable
= courtesy and attention paid to the
n most uninteresting woman who pre-
p fixes Mrs. to her name which is rarely
h accorded to a spinsteT, and that re-
, spect is doubled and trebled when the
a man whose name she bears is known
!, in the gates"
:. The lesson of all the ages is that
p woman, however gifted, finds her most
d congenial abiding place in the sweet
II safe corner of the household fire, be-
is hind the heads of children" Love
= makes a woman's world
" Mans love is of mans life thing
Is apart;
,e tbs womans whole existence"
And if, as mas been charged, this is
because that existence is narrow, 1t il
a. no degree lessons the fact. There is nc
is greater joy for the woman who loves
- than to spend and be spent for thu
man whom she loves, to feel that SHE
- helps strengthens and comforts him
;, that he could not well do without her
The love of good man and true, when
that love is mutual, is the most preci.
Gus gift which God bestows upon a
- woman.
All the same, it is many times bet
!. ter that woman should stand alone
=, all the days of her life than leap up,
"a on a broken reed which, perchance
= will not only fail her but pierce hel
=, to the heart. 1t is better not to mar.
ry at all than to marry badly. More
over, there are some women for whom
- marriage is always more or less of ;
~ mistake. There are many people il
=, this world who are incapable OF thu
" devoted affection which asks nothing
- but love and can bear all things hop
90 all things and endure to the end. Nor
-, of these are men than women, still
she who belongs to this class will b,
wiser to work out her own salvation
and carve for herself the career t
which she can give her whole soul un
~ reservedly. Yet it is forever doubtful
whether it ever wholly satisfies wo
70 mans heart to
"Sit by lonely fires
! And hear the nations praising her IA
Off"
There is much truth in the saying
that woman's work, however success
~ full is vanity in her eyes without tn
appreciation of the man whom sh
:, loves.
= The treasure of a good mans love
> may well be the crown of any wo
mans life, and the beneficial infiu
e. ence of wise and appreciative hus
:, band can scarcely be overestimated
G The wife's womanly weakness ma!
:, profit much by the husbands mani!
is strength, and if the wife have talen
- such a one would be the last to per
~, NIT her to hide it in the napkin of do
- mestic drudgery. 1t was Mr.. Plat
=. who gave "A Woman's Poems" to tn,
- world and it is much to be doubted
'o whether, without her husband, Johl
% Strange Winter would have achieves
III name and fame. The women who havu
\ failed because of marriage are thos
who have loved WnOt wisely hut to,