The Intermountain Catholic. (Salt Lake City [Utah] ;) 1899-1920, 1908-07-18
Church Universal

was in ecStasies, he was not far fr,
! mysteries; both states were svr3ntn
/ matte OF fever. in which, man beino OH
normal, he was not in a condition ~
mind TO become engaged. Let a ,nar
remember that he married in orJar
to realize himself, become better mon
! fulhlling his mission. reaping his dor
| tlny: Let him leave the fiighty, SNOWY
! smoking-room girl severely alone an5
seek for his helpmeet the made, "' ~
whom there was not a little to reyer-
ence, admire, and venerate, for to ber.
his hearts pure love would continue 70
grow, even when the fires of ma scio,,
burned themselves out. Love was an
everlasting Sun-fire, passion but a lurid
flame. The one was never noble A.
other never base.
Continuing, Father Vaughan asked
was it not true that man and woman
We're IN nothing alike, that it was the
mission of each to complete the otbar
and to be completed bv the otber ' CO
that the happiness and perfection Of
both depended on each asking and re-
celvlng from the other, as had well
oeen said, what the other alone could
give? Welded life ought to have its
oeSlhnlngS like great rivers that emp
tied themselves into the ocean. Their
source was in the mountains of God
and while they grew they gathered
strength, fertilizing as onward thew
Moved all the land about So should
married life be with its tender begin
nlngs in pure virgin love and with its
mai destiny after faithful fertility. in
the ocean of Gods eternity Such
unions yields on earth promise of Par
adlse. Like two mountain streams that
met and glided on, in unity and per
petuity, man and woman became in
Wedlock indissolubly one. and lived on
each ministering to each, each serving
the other, each merging life into that
of the other, each losing self to find IT
better uttered in the other Thus did
welded life become in a very true sense
a love-life, expressing itself in terms
of mutual service: for who so loved
the most had most, not to get. but to
give. The happy marriage implied a
life of self-sacrifice
Without arguing as to the superiority
of either sex. he would say that man
was mind, and wife heart. and so he
ruled by reason. she by love. Hence
man was far easier to understand than
woman. Not many days ago a lady
had said to him: Men are like reg,
ular verbs. knowing one l know them
all in all their moods and lenses" 1T
may be So said he, but women are |
like your French irregular verbs. and |
unless man studies them individually |
in their every peculiar mood and tense |
he will be likely to misconstrue and |
so misinterpret them, much to his dis
The first business of a bridegroom and |
bride was to try and understand each |
'ther, making allowances for the essen |
-ial differences of their sex, tempera-
nent, education. and family traditions |
TO the husband he would say. what
9ver else you may attempt to check in
-our wife, wo not try to stop the flow
ing tide of her talk For heavens
;ake, let her talk on, while you say
our prayers, possessing your soul in
peace. Praise her much. blame her a
little only, and that never before 9TH
RS. Tire not in giving her tokens of
our love-most women have a passion
or jewelry and finery. Meanwhile, for
ret not that their thirst for sympathy
5 like that of flowers for sunshine.
% the wife he would say: Even when
-Ou are without company. be neat ana
mart, and never keep your husband
Waiting, nor offer him lame excuses,
or contradict his cherished statements.
faintain your home in beautiful order,
nd neglect not to keep a good table.
tudying to crafty in all things legiti-
ord. Do not nag, nor scold, nor cry
man may yield TO them, but they kill
is love. To both husband and wife
e would insist especially that they
hould strive to make their home worth
herishing as a sanctuary of prayer, of
eace and of love, where they both de-
eloped in character and in chivalrous
onduct. and in courtliness and consid-
rate kindness to all who came to feel
he sunshine of their presence. Above
II things, said the preacher, let them
eep from their threshold that monster
allied jealousy. To deserve mutual
rust should be their aim; for what
as trust but love in repose? Let them
ever forget that their lifelong study
lust be to become ever more closely. :
ldissolubly one, indefectibly true, and
good. For this cause, 3
aid the Apostle, shall man leave
is father and mother, and shall be
,ined unto his wife, and they two {
lall be one" '