The Birmingham age-herald., 1908-10-11
Who Is the Popular Woman !

What is your idea of the popular wom- an? Is it to serve lots of attention? To have people look at you you pass? To attract notice wherever you go? To be always the topic of conversation in every crowd? To be continually in the lime light" so to speak?
 All of that is popularity of one kind. and it is pretty, and fattering and en- joyable-but there are other kinds
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 Most women are fairly good looking. Some are beautiful. Legions of them who may have been sighted in some small way in the matter of looks study the art of making themselves beautiful, but how few of them ever study the art of popu= larity.
 I once knew a girl whose parents con tinually impressed upon her that she must be sweet and gentle and amiable to people, or else she would never be popular, because she had not claim to beauty-as a child-as a girl-this was her life study, and she was rewarded by the belleship of many states in her sweet young womanhood, and afterwards in her married life held every friend, whose al legianoe once pledged was never With drawn
 We often hear the expression, "Ohi she Is a womans woman," or "She only cares for menn Dear me! She would be very defective bit of feminimity if she wasn' one or the other and we all agree that a woman without defects is merely an aphorsm. while those with them are con crete factsi
 And this brings us to the real founda- tion of popularity-the womanly woman whom the women trust well as the men.
 You always know her as soon as you bar. n afY e ahoHt her, in the grasp of her hand; in the clear "straight-front-the-s look out of pair of truthful eyes; mag netic something which tells you that If you were in trouble. or people were revil- ing you. you could depend upon her. In other words, she Is the feminine equiVa- lent of good fellow"
 A woman who has learned the success full method of not playing the game of life wide open nor yet concealing anything. Just sweet. gentle charitable woman, true to herself and to her friends.
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 It isn't hard just begin this way, when you want to do anything say to your self Is it right and do I know that my motive will do me and no one else harm? That will then bring quick and sure result for good and you are living true to your highest This is the way to win trust in yourself for once the world knows you respect yourself it must re- spect you and cannot do otherwise. It is the woman ever trying to push her self forward and pull someone else down who lifts a smiling but oh such wicked oountenance to the world that it is certain mirror for the deceit and evil ways of it's possessor.
 
 Popularity may mean all sorts of things One may be popular for some particular trait or talent; but to be gen orally beloved is to make oneself useful to one's friends. To be true to the absent one, as to the one who is pres ent To be prodigal with words of praise for the living and not reserve everything till the ears which would re- Joice hearing them are dul1ed by death. Frankly, I think most people would like to enjoy few flowers while living, rather than have them all arranged until their departure from this world-dont you? The sweet. friendly greeting, the generous word of approval the wom- anly attitude toward humanity in gen. eral and her own sex In particular mark the attributes of the woman who is more than popular-she Is beloved Don't you know the type? You meet her every day, and the world seems sweeter and better for her very pres ence. She is the woman who is ever in demand: at the smallest party her name is never omitted; at the largest function she Is always there; in church and club work. socially and otherwise she is the popular woman-the woman the women trust and love.
 Her popularity is the theme of a pretty toast from the pen of a woman who says
 An, drink if ye will toN sweeth cart And a wife of faith undaunted; And drink in the praise of their fetch
 ing ways
 To charms that have long been
 vaunted
 And drink to the eyes and drink to the
 lips,
 Aye drink, since drink ye must But when we've done. drink everyone To the girl the women trust. An, drink if ye will to one whose faith Can last through years untroubled; And drink to the trust that is never
 marred
 Though a mans deceit be doubled; And drink to the songs and drink to
 the sighs
 Of earth and of heaven above: But the proudest boast is to drink a
 toast
 To the girl the women love.