The Holt County sentinel., 1908-09-25
HOSTESS AND GUEST
LITTLE THINGS THAT MAR PLEAS
URE OF A VISIT.
Exercise of Little Tact and Thouqht-
fuiness Can Make Sojourn at
Friends Home Time of De-
light for Both.

When people are constantly abusing
hospitality one ceases to desire any
one except the immediate family un-
| der the rooftree.
Guests seem to have such capacities
for arriving at the wrong time. for
| causing so much extra trouble, for up
setting the household arrangements.
| for requiring such constant care and
/ attention that their victims often wish
| they would arrange TO put up at ho-
meals.
If one is the possesscr Of a house
i'll the suburbs or OF cottage by the
seaside, one is 0veTrur by visitors
from any part OF the country.
If they have at any time shown
counter hospitality one feels that one
must smile and make the best of it.
bur ii they are merely trading upon
relationship or a more or less close
friendship then indeed does Cne rebel
Some may say that this feeling is
al wrong. One ought - De only too
Glad % entertain friends
But Put yourself in The position of
4 woman who besides having the care
Of several children. does the greater
part Of her work herself
It is not joyful fer her TO receive a
letter from All old school friend say
ing she would like TO run down for
day or two to talk over old times-the
recipient knowing perfectly we'll that
a day or two means week.
1t is not a clever jest, by any means,
for woman to drive up Unexpectedly
with huge trunk with the intention
of recuperating at the seashore for a
week or two at the cottage of wom-
an she has perhaps not seen for a
year or so.
1t is no excuse to say that the poor
victim is possessed of a sufficient
number Of maids, and of children
that are beyond the nursery stage.
The household arrangements must
be altered just the same, extra trouble
must be undertaken, and the whole
establishment thrown into furry to
meet the unexpected contingency.
Every guest should take note of
these conditions:
Even if a bona fide invitation has
been received. do not permit any
amount Of cOaXing to persuade you to
stay longer than a week, unless an in
vitation for a longer time has been
given.
If no length is set for your visit |
then it would be wise to stay not |
longer than few days, but you will |
generally find your hostess will men |
ton in her invitation the period O. |
time you are expected to remain.
When you arrive, either endeavor |
to efface yourself as much as possible, |
or else to slide into the household |
grooves so easily that your presence !
will hardly be felt.
Try to like what is served upon the
family table, and do not expect that
extra dainties, or dishes perhaps |
strange to the cook, will be prepared
for you.
Your hostess must have time to her
self, in which to attend to her house
hold duties, so either make little
excuse about letters to
write or a novel in which you are very
much interested, or a friend who will
be quite hurt if you do not call upon
her.
By the exercise of little tact, and
the bearing in mind of the old and
time honored saying" "Do as you would
be done by" you may make your visit
such a delight that they will be sin
cerely sorry to see you go, and really
anxious to have you come again.
That is the test of being good
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