Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1908-09-04
FOR THE LADIES.
corrowing Mother.

N AS nay &c AtNNNAhr- liz
Do not make him grow too wise
Ancels-ye who know;
I qui dull and slow TO learn,
T0IIiug here below
To not I'LL his heart too full
With yeur heavenly joy,
Lest the mothers place be lost
With her little boy
L.sss night the air was mild;
The moon rose clear, though late.
And somehow then it did not seem
So very hard TO wait
There seemed so much to learn,
So much for me to do,
Before my lessons here were done
Aud / was ready, too.
Those may dare to doubt who have
Their loved ones here sbelow'
For me, do not now believe,
do not hope-I know
Katherine Pyle, in Harpers Bazar.
$3.50
The Marriage Vow.
Sitting the other afternoon in the
calm serenity of the meeting house to
witness a Quaker wedding, was driven
to compare the simplicity of the under
takings of the bride and bridegroom
with the marriage VOWS imposed upon
all Protestants, and particularly in re-
gard 10 the woman's vows of obedience
Who was it, one wonders, who first
inserted those little words, ''and to
obey" in the marriage vow of the Prot
eStant bride? A eelibate prelate. with
out doubt, for it is an old adage that
only bachelors wives and old maids
children are obedienti
But to return to the Quaker wedding
The young couple simply rose in their
places at meeting for worship, and
taking each other by the hand, declared
in q solemn and audible manner to the
following effect: The bridegroom first
Friends. take this my friend, G. D.,
TO be my wife, promising, through di-
vine assistance, to be unto her a loving
and faithful husband, until it shall
please the Lord by death to separate
US. And then the bride in like man
ner Friends | take this my friend
A B., to be my husband. promising.
through divine assistance, to be unto
him loving and faithful wife until it
shall please the Lord by death to sep
arate u.s.
Here we have perfect equality of hus-
band and wife in their pledges to each
other before God. Certain persons were
moved to rise and address the meeting
or TO offer exhortations to the young
pair. The bridegroom and bride signed
the register, the officer of the meeting
house read aloud the marriage certifi-
cate, and the wedding was at an end
The ancestors of this particular bride
groom passed their honeymoon in Bed
ford jail. 200 years ago, for being thus
married. The Qnakers. however per-
severed in their opposition to tyranny
until they obtained the legal right to
marry according to their own principles
The Quaker women are notable ex-
ampies of good and faithful wives ana
devoted mothers, though they have never
uttered that little vow ito obey
The JeweSS is also exempt from any
such vow, AS she stands beside her
bridegroom under the fower-decked bril-
DIAL canopy, the woman of this ancient
race pledges herself to be a good and
faithful wife, and is enjoined by the ofli-
eating rabbi to make the home place
OF happiness and love for the bread-win-
ner when he returns from his toll. The
bridegroom, in addition to the promise
of faithfulness, gives a pledge to work
for the support of his wife. In the jew
Tsh marriage, therefore, the greater OBJ
legation is required from the man.
The Greek church does not impose a
marriage vow of obedience. The cere-
lDony IS very long and exceedingly pic
turesque, but the actual VOWS are short
and simple. At the espousal, or first
office" those who are TO be married
stand before a table and place their right
hands upon the Book of the Gospels.
The priest says to the bridegroom: wilt
thou have n. to be thy lawful wife and
promise her fidelity, love, help and kind
treatment all thy life:" and the man
answers: Il will have her and L prom
ise."
Then the priest asks of the bride:
Wilt thou have M. to thy lawful
husband, and promise him fidelity, love,
help and kind treatment all thy lifeE'
And she answers: II will have him and
promise" So far we have complete
equality between the vows undertaken
by the man and the woman, but IN the
former service of solemnization the wife
is admonished to fear her husband +"
stu, she may use her discretion as to
acting on this advice; she makes no vow
of obedience. Both husband and wife
are married with rings, and both wear
j wedding wreath Of artificial flowers at
the Office of the coronation when, join
ing hands with the officiating clergy and
the paFanymph, or best man, they pa
Fade around the table three times. The
paranymph, a very important person in
4 Greek marriage, may be woman, and
IN wedding which | recently witnessed
The elder sister of the bridegroom PER
formed the duties. She exchanged the
rings and the crowns or wreathS of the
bridal pair, and stood to them as spon-
sor. The dignity of the matrimonial cor
onation Of the Greek church is equal be-
tween the man and the woman. Both
are addressed as kings by the priest,
who halls them thus: BE thou mag
mined, . bridegroom and Thou, .
bride, be magnihed.' At one portion of
the service the bridal pair advance to
9taAd upon the sacred carpet, ana. ac-
cording to popular tradition, the one
who first gains the carpet will rule. The
bride, therefore, gets her chance.
The Roman Catholic church does not
impose a marriage vow of obedience.
The bridegroom says: Il take thee N,
10 my welded wife. tn have and to hold.
from this day forward for better. for
worse. for richer, for poorer in sickness
and in health, till death do us part, if
holy church win it permit, and thereto
plight thee my troth." The bride like
wise repeats: Il take thee, NJ, to my
welded husband, to have and to hold.
rom this day forward, for better, for
worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness
md in health. till death us do part, if
4oiy. church will it permit and thereto
plight thee my trotk"
IN the Church of England marriage
service the pledges exchanged by bride
and bridegroom are identical with those
quoted above from the Roman Catholic