The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1908-05-29


| Women have always inspired great
men to develop what was best in
them.
1.-The one great flaw in modern
marriage is that we are losing sight
of the social significance of 1T, be-
cause we look at it as matter OF
individual happiness. Love has TO
be reinterpreted. The popular con-
ception of love is that of purely ro-
mantle passion. This is not real love,
and when the first glamor has worn
off. there is bound to be disillusion
and discord.
1.-THE difference of real and romantic
love is that, under the deceptive light
of romance, the lover sees in the OBJ
ject of his affections an exaggerated
perfection which does not exist
"Happiness is simply an incident
in marriage and it cannot be made
the supreme end without arriving at
the intolerable position, that couples
may part as soon as their happiness
ceases. The great end of marriage is
the perpetuation and development OF
the spiritual life of the race.
1.-THE good Of society demands that
We consider marriage a permanent
bond. The individuals happiness ls
not of as much account as the wei
fare of the race I deny emphatically
that happiness is the highest aim OF
marriage.
Marriage is natural tie, and to
consider it apart from the perfectin2
and propagating of the race is 20 mis-
understand it. I believe in separa-
ton, but never in divorce.
people enter into the married
state nowadays with no other thought
than that of their own private bliss.
and leave the social side of the family
| to blind chance.
"The true purpose of marriage IL
the growth of character, of the feel
ings, of the whole nature in the
higher direction.
"Plato believed that man and wo-
man represented each one-half of
soul distinct from the very begin
ming to make whole. Marriage is
designed to harmonic whatever dill
| ference in temperament and taste
there may be between man and a
| woman.
mo matter how accidentally they
first met, with the help of the ethical
ideal, a permanent union can be es-
tablished. 1t is very seldom that a
man and a wife match each other
so perfectly that they realize Plato's
dream. The vision of Tennyson, She
shall set herself to him, like perfect
music unto noble words, is seldom
realized.
81 do not deny that there are gre at
disparities, profound incompatible, Ii.
ties between husbands and wives,
just like two persons whose gait is
different when walking. One takes
a long stride and the other short
stride; but / maintain that where
there is a serious sense of duty,
where the ethical ideal is strong.
these disparities can be eventually
overcome.
Marriage should be permanent,
for the sake of the children. Where
husband and wife disagree they
should make supreme efforts to come
to an agreement for the sake of their
children.
A child needs both its father and
it's mother. The greatest happiness
in marriage comes to those who do
not make happiness the supreme aim.
''The best happiness is that which
comes incidentally in the pursuit of
growth and development.
1.-THE best thing that husbands and
wives can do for one another is to
bring out the highest manhood and
the highest womanhood each in the
ether.
1.-The social side of marriage and
the individual side of it are not con-
Trajectory of each other. 1t must not
be said the individual is sacrificed to
social end. The individual achieves
his own highest good here as else.
where in serving the social good -
From the New York World.