New-York tribune., 1908-01-19

and is q Injury that the wealthy man with busi-
| ness occupation is prone to indulge in
But no politics can equal the wire pulling OF
the ambitious father with his marrlageable pud'
For her sake he swallows insult, as the
chances are that apology will follow and that
! the meek shall inherit the earth he always pears
| in mind. The first dinner he gives 10 his new ac-
| ouaintances is stag affair; in fact several are
given this way it is quite by accident that the
| Ioval father admits that he has family EVentu-
ally he effects meeting at small family dinner
when topic of political import Is 10 De
discussed between chosen few later What re-
suits from this meeting depends entirely on the
daughters demeanor. and. in many Hases. hrm
friendships evolve: occasionally a match is made;
but inevitably the way is paved for sort or
salon, to which by the 'reformers drift en-
joying it than they would a salon to which
only women of their class in life would come
TO discuss the happenings in Their own world.
THE STRAIN OF SAVAGERY.
In every man, matter how tanned and CON
ventionalized he may seem. ard no matter how
refined may his surroundings and entire
cestry. there is latent strain of sivagery; and
TO this the climber appealed. Such men admire
art in every form. and 10 force ones way up from
obscurity appeals to them art OF order
10 be admired, II the political career transfers
the family Washington in its course here are
great opportunities. Among the diplomats are
titled scions 10 whom rich wife would not come
amiss: and marry a title IS a matter fre
quentlv considered seriously ny wealthy American
girls in spite Of the many unfortunate alliances
Once married and away for the visit TO his
people means crucial and much unhapri
ness for rudeness that she might prefer TO over
look is commented upon and made the most of
by her adopted family and visited upon her by
her bridegroom in the life TO follow oftener than
an American husband would think of doing, al
though there American men who
this particular weapon of abuse freely TO discoU-
fort the woman of their choice
1T is the daily thrusts from envious friends thai
furthest elbittering the existence OF the
woman who would be socially great, and the only
balm for these snat bites Is a social triumph such
as dinner attended by only the most exclusive Of
the higher up set who have probably accepted her
after months of steadily refusing similar invitations
from the same and with the inward resolve
Well this once get rid of her. but never again
This happens again and again, and the climber is
never the wiser: having once accomplished her OBJ
ject she content, as with her progress she
gains wisdom as forcing the hand with the social
trump.
Her children she sends to a dancing class which
only those OF the conservative families attend
and as the mothers appear TO watch the childrens
progress from time 10 time she also attends, anu
by judicious praise 70 the grace and beauty OF
the various little wins their good VIII as she
could do in no other manner. II she asks to con
tribute pet charities and interests herself
in them by personal visiting at the hospital Settle
uent house other places, she scores more to"afu
her ultimate aim than one could deem possible.
ITO work ones way up from cottage lie 10
mansion means. above all things, constant sub
lection of ones Will and answering determi-
nation make ones own way, with never
glance backward down into the past save as
useful experience. The way TO gain is never
through bizarre actions dress. but through dig
nifty and tact quality of dignity is one that
is always admired and that reaps a reward often
a vulgar goodhearted woman pushes her way 10
the fore bat triumph is shortlIved ana she
soon finds her level in lower stratum. There Is
also the sharp tongued woman who. by dilgent
reading of magazines and Weeklies, given 10 per
sonal OF fact scandal feels herself to be
on an intimate footing with all so mentioned She
will find her place among them in course OF time !
when another fails simply because she can talk |
freely Of their doags imagined. and com /
ment on them she deems proper In TINS IN |
stance an element of fear helps to balance the sit
uation. for men will listen TO a note or |
scandal and be Influenced by its telling, even |
though they deny the impeachment. and viii take |
pains TO keep the right side of the spicy minded
female lest the time comes when they, too, are !
exposed fire OF ridicule spite.
How much delight and true enjoyment ever |
really enters the existence of the woman deter I
mined TO gain social honors only be surmised |
but the game must De worth the candle TO them |
they would not persevere.'