Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1908-11-21

lazy but manners haye Crown p, Ri !
1 ont OF door life Is conducive 10 ttae5 Y.
most informality- and SO when i ,,, p,si,
comes back to town etique,tLe., a'l1 ,s,,,.
\ If the trlith5 We're known, IT as y,
/, iirstfcw weeks at school that u strailss
girl is Judged by her in'ttes, anu u1 Ia.,,t
makes herself liked n lttle, the lwi VIII,
Will he a hard one. There Is. OF e ...,af'a
such a thing as trying 20 make u. iriel NE
less haste the better. but there is {: 2
hapny medium which consists OF q. girt
carrying herself with8sdlgnlty am 1,t, +
reserve M 4, W,rm .ne Viii TO max
Inc Importance sc sslestins !, her 7.
school friends carefully y oi,u W. w Il,
Impress upon n girl. More than one
Young miss who is herself sweet . ar4
gentle Is unfortunate ID tns MAJ. Nj 1i's i.,
Obliged to bear he subsequent. eifect ,
Schoolgirls are Very critical Of encn
other, and sometimes their st at ,illes1
are far too sweeping. One is not llk '
because Of the waN5sin3 which sho
dresses nnother falls TO please because aus :,
Of her manners, When such 8, e g, III ms
are ,lnfounded they wear tite nc, sci es,
out after n time. and the gIrl col ''
into her own. but when they have ,,s;,,
son the do of dislike is cast i9r LII ltiiil
eranee of youth the Intimate friends sl,Is ,oI
5sucha girl arc included In tho gelle,r;;n
unpopularity. and there Is !, ali lGl
formed a little set which pulls alone g
the months go by ms
Every first class private school MAKES
the greatest effort to have amons IN "
ali ways. Teachers more than some
parents. realize that friendships for for
life may be made at. school IRON on n NY
they try to safeguard from undeslrapiis
associates those who are under Their
Charge. Nevertheless there may pc al az,
influence, or example. not to be FOL i1
lowed by those who would bring oue
the best that Is in them. For instance tI.1sas;
Il girl NAV belong to one OF the oidess
ali advantages Of association and
breeding. and vet have manners better
suited to a peasant. The effect OF TINS
&upon others. and especially Younger
girls. is most unfortunate. Knowing
the girl by name. or having adopted her
as the most intimate friend the pro
does, to the great deterlment of their
own niceness They can not too soon
realize that bad manners are BAD mall
ners, even though It might pc parnaIsen1
them. and that rudeness and yulEaflty
are never to be initiated. Loud talking
conspicuousness in dress commonn it,s;
and if she has such q type, among her
acquaintances the sooner the two are
disassociated the better.
girl to lose friends and caste some
times at school. She may at nrst INNS
it is clever to carry things with nigh
hand; to wear more elaborate frocks,
end pitch her voice n bit louder. than
the others. But she Will find after
time that her mates do not ike anu
Will not tolerate 1t, and from having
been the center of many things she is
cut off from almost all.
Genueness is one Of the mo, t, {. deslra,
bic at fri maks at for
the rest of her life. sweetness is ny, ny
for a moment to be confrounded Win
lack of character or Stiffness, ana tneIe t.
not required TO aid herself and others.
1t is sweetness which a big girl shows
II patient with little one when the the
incidentally the little help given to a.
midget may, unconsciously on the part
Of the older one be the beginning or
of time afterward will not break. Some
older girls seem TO thing 1t is clever to-
snub the little ones and be "superior'
breach OF good manners. II small
girl is hanging around at recess. OBJ
vionsy endsavorinE to hear , the eonr cer
be Of 1en e o aMay to these of her
own own age but 1t should be done kindly.
not with supercilliousness. Never Is
girl more sensitive lIldn wien Sil6 10 4
q Or i years Old, ane g ,s inc ss.
for the remainder OF her life against
The other who did it. She who IS nat
urally gentle and restrained will not
need to be told to consider her juniors.
but reminding others will be sufficient
If they have kindness III their ma
lures.
1t is not the girls who talks the roud-
est or brags most who makes the firmest
frienrs at school, Such may tempo
ytfsy,t t1t1 1Ny,f "a n
well hammered, kindly ones who are
most liked and who make lasting
friendships. School is not the place in
which to relate social gossip. "A girl
OF this type may seem TO have great Y
popularity, but In point of fact others
are afraid of her, and their parents do
not care for what they hear Of her.
ever made of private schools is that
they are the hotheds of gossip, and In a
measure this is true. Girls who hear
comment upon acquaintance and
events at home frequently repeat them
at school for the ediiication of their
mates, but those who do this hurt
themselves ultimately. Parents after n
time are aware of what Is. goint OIL,
that their daughters are hearing, things
best unknown to them. ana the inform
ant is more than likely either to find
herself rebuked or avoided. 1t is not
clever to know sharp things of others
and to repeat them. II accidentally
one becomes aware of them 1t is the
part of policy. not to mention kindness.
10 refrain from passing them on. The
clever girl tells neither all she hears
nor all she knows. and her popularity
is greater in consequence.
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