Keowee courier. [volume] (Pickens Court House, S.C.) 1849-current, 1908-05-13
WHEN LOVE crows COLD.
Men Do Not Realize the Full Import
of the Situation. I.

1t is not until man realizes that
he is tired of a girl, and never really
was in love with her, that he also
realizes how foolishly he has acted,
says the New York American. 1t
amazes him to find that he has gone
SO far as to be considered the fiance
OF the maid, whose whole attention
has been given him for long time
FOR many of these affairs result in an
understanding that is the equiva-
lent OF a proposal.
Then, not knowing how to get out
OF the tangle in which he has become
enmeshed,a he falls back upon the
unmanly method of neglecting the
girl he has hitherto courted and fat
tered. True, this is little more fool.
ish than the former recklessness OF
his conduct, but 1t causes good deal
or suffering to woman who has
loved innocently and too we'll, and
is deserving of better treatment.
Having no real reason to give for
his coldness, except the bold sti,te-
ment that he has made a mistake,
he shirks the issue. He knows that
II he tells the truth he has to account
FOR many statements that seem to
prove the contrary. II
A mans methods are, often cow
ardly in dealing with the woman for
whom he has ceased to care. He
tries to force her to break with him
by giving her ample grounds for
complaint, but woman Is usually
too generous and too loving to take
advantage OF his devices. Her cry
is: why are you so changed?"
She cannot understand why the
lover who has left her with fond
bood-bye can go away and put her
out of his mind. She writes him
frank, open letters, then pleading,
implorins ones. begging all the time
that he will tell her what she has
done to vex him. He cannot tell her
without putting all the blame on
himsef, without showing that he has
not acted a manly part. But even IL
he could and is not disposed to, his
conduct should show her that his
love is dying. The signs are unmis-
taxable. 3
is there a woman who being thus
treated does not know the truth at
the beginning? She does, but she
will not admit 1t. Yet all the time,
from the moment when the first
doubt arose in her mind she has
known it.
There is only one thing to do when
a mans love is dead, and that is to
let him 60. To win back his love"
is next to an mpossibility. 1t Is a
pathetic sight to see two people, one
madly in love with the other, and
the other unable to reciplocate. And,
yet, "try to forget" is the only ad-
vice that can be offered.
A man shows it plainly enough
when he has ceased to love. Ap-
pointments cease to be sacred, he
cannot summon up courage to write
letters, he is moody, and silent. and
shows in his manner all that his
toneue refuses to say.
If he can get an excuse to go off
| somewhere away from his fiance, he
endeavors to bring her to an under
standing of his views by preserving
a strict silence. 81
Should she not see things as he
wishes her to, she may be angry with
him, and he will cease this pretext
to bring about a rupture between
them B3 - w
Anything to save him from con-
Tossing that he has not acted well.
Usually the disappointments Of wo-
men are the outcome of mans infat-
uatior and false promises. M
were q woman not so honest and
SO blind in her love, she would see
through many of the protestations
of affection made by man, and know
his VOWS for what they are worth.
q The silliest thing woman can do
Is to cling to the man who wants to
have done with her, and to try to
bring him around 60 reciprocate her
| affection. &
IA IL heis sentimentalist he may be
Influenced, and vow that he really
does love her, just to please her. But
this will not alter his affections. He
will shirk the marriage and put 1t
off. Should he go SO far as the altar,
she Is no better off, for doubtless,
after marriage, he will state plainly
that he doesn't care for her, and that
he only married her because she
| worried him into It, Certainly men
have queer ways, and should be
brought2to book about their misde-
meanors.
= 1t is not wise to surmise that a
mans love is dead and treat him ac-
cordingly. Be sure of 1t. Bring him
to the point of saying SO. 1t will pay
you to do this, much as youS regret
the parting, fora man in love can be
gentleness itself, while he who loves
not, can be cruel as the grave.
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