Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1908-05-15

Eve me with scorn, as they my grief would
A mere child, schooled to weep upon the
Tricked for a part of woe and somber-
90. who art thou they ask. ''that thou
To ind. forsooth. one single heart undone:
,I'be mage thou turnest there is purplewet
To who art thou to pirate of sorrowg' Yet,
yTbis iittle woe. it is my own. my own!
Charlotte Wilson, in McClure's.
$3.50
sHappinees Not the
Surfcme End of Marriage"
What we need is a doctrine of mar
riaee. At present there is no adequate
doctrine of marriage. One trouble with
modern marriage is that the masculine
element predominates in the ceremonial.
Neither the husband should obey the
wife nor the wife the husband. They are
EQUALS. / do not deny that they are diff
ferent in mind and temperament, but
they contribute equally an Indispensable
influence on civilization, though in differ
ent ways.
The popular way of explaining the
difference between men and women is
often misleading. We say women have
great intuition. but we deny them great
reasoning power. We say that men have
the gift of sustained and strenuous rea-
soning but we deny them swift intuition.
I'VE say that women observe the de-
tails of things better than men can. but
that they cannot apprehend universal
truths of science and philosophy as men
can. We say women particularize; men
generalize. We say women are all feel
ing, that they depend on their emotions
and impulses, whereas men act ON cold
hard scientific principle.
1T is not exact to make such distinc-
tions, nor are they very satisfactory
Women are intellectual as well as emo
tional. Some women in the past have
shown themselves equal to the most
difficult intellectual feats, and if there
have not been greater figures among
women in art and science and philosophy
it is perhaps only because they have nor
had the opportunities that men have had
ard not because they are naturally in
competent to rise as high as men,
Men also are capable of the finest
and most delicate emotions. If they
were not, how shall we explain that the
greatest interpreters of the emotional
life, the great poets, the great musi-
clans. have been men?
This is what / consider to be the
right relation between the man and
for each other. The woman should
rouse all the dominant intellectual ener-
gies all the inmost capabilities of the
man, so that he can appreciate the needs
of humanity and work for it.
THE woman by her spiritual infu-
ence over the man shall tend to develop
in him that love of obedience which
submits through love of what is right
and not through fear.
''She shall become his guide in mat
tiers of intellect and of morals, not By
any formulated code. but by the things
that she approves or disapproves. On
the other hand, man should by his intel
lectual influence on woman widen and
deepen and cause her to raise continual
~ the standard by which she judges
him.
People should not marry without
thorough understanding of each others
disposition and character. In fact. mar
rage should not be entered into without
4 thorough understanding on the part
of both the man and woman as to what
the institution signifies. There are spir-
itual meanings to marriage. The feel
ings need to be instructed by the far
seeing mind.
''The old idea of marriage was in
culcated and secured through two fun
damental rinciples-absolute submits
sion to parents and the understanding
that marriage was to be permanent.
Under present conditions these condi-
tons these are no longer tenable in the
old way, for the first was founded on
the idea that the child had no rights OF
its own except through its parents. Its
position was one of subservience, of I'M
questioning obedience to the parents,
and as regards the permanence of the
marriage tie it was chiefly a bond that
tied the woman to the man.
Her position was one of subordina-
Irnit baf "a
has rights which we are bound TO re-
sDect and that the woman is the equal
of the man.
'"The one great flaw in modern mar
rage is that we are losing sight OF the
social significance of it. because we look
at it as matter of individual happiness.
Love has to be reinterpreted The popu-
lar conception of love is that of pure
ly romantic passion. This is not real
love. and when the first glamor has worn
off. there is bound to be disillusion and
discord."
The difference between real and ro-
mantle love is that, under the deceptive
light of romance, the lover sees in the
object of his affections an exaggerated
perfection which does not exist.
Happiness is simply an incident IN
marriage and it cannot be made the SUI
preme end without arriving at the in
tolerable position, that couples may part
as soon as their happiness ceases. The
great end of marriage is the perpetual
ton and development of the spiritual
life of the race.
The good of society demands that we
consider marriage a permanent bond.
The individuals happiness is not of as
much account as the welfare of the
race. | deny emphaucally that happi-
ness is the highest aim Of marriage.
Marriage is a natural tie, and 10
consider it apart from the perfecting
and propagating of the race is to misun-
derstand it. | believe In separation, but
never in divorce.
People enter into the married state
nowadays with no other thought than
that of their own private bliss, and
leave the social side of the family to
blind chance
The true purpose of marriage is the
growth of character, of the feelings
OF the whole nature in the higher di
rection.
Plato believed that man and woman
represented each one half of a soul dis
tlnct from the very beginning TO NAL G