The sun., 1908-10-11
NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS.
NOT. ALWAYS HER FAULT THAT
SIZE LOSES HER PLACE.
Her Social Training Often Q Handicap
Employers VINO BaIk at Her Know
ing People They DOnt--Blame Wroas'
~ Laid for Their Many Troubles

Employers VINO BaIk at Her Know
ing People They DOn't-BIame Wroas'
~ Laid for Their Many Troubles.
In It too difficult TO help the gentle
woman to help herselff Is her frequent
inability to get along at whatever her
friends may find for her TO do her
own fault? Ii there justification for the
observation that some women are 30 heip-
less as to make 1t impossible for anybody
to aid thern2 Often women who are In
need of such help have reached an age
that has of course found their charao-
ters completely formed. 1t is not. easy
for them TO fall into the way OF doing
things as others wish.
Here she's back on my hands again.
one frequently hears, "and 1t seemed
only the other day that l had found
place for her. What's the use OF looking
for them IL she Is constitutionally in
capable Of keeping themi'
Let us hear some stories from the other
side.
Il had an excellent post in household
on the Hudson River said one who had
come back to the working women's ho-
tel in the inevitable search for some
thing to do. 'and was entrusted with the
education Of three little children. Their
father. who was a widower, spent much
of his time in travel and the rest In New
York save for the occasional visits he
paid to his children in the old country
house their mother had lived and died
in. 1t was a great house. many times
| too large for me and the three little girls
who were in II. Two women servants
we're the only other occupants OF the
small part Of the building that was re-
quired by me and the children. Out
side the house were the coachman and
the gardener with their families.
Every thing was going very smoothly
after six months. The children went to
school every day not far of. took them
at intervals TO town for the theatre and
as the father told me dreesed them exactly
in accordance with his ideas and wishes.
They had grown attached to me and
there seemed to be nothing in sight to
interfere with my holding the post until
the children grew up.
Il had often thought that the house was
too lonely. We were quite alone after
| the servants went to their rooms in an
other wing. The two men were not far
of. but they were scarcely within calling
distance. The house, five miles from
| the station, sat far back from the road.
More complete isolation could not be
imagined. l did not always feel COM
Portable my self, but IL was not for me to
make suggestions on my own behalf to
my employer. 1t was not un til something
/ happened to make me soicitous for the
/ children that I determined TO speak to
their father.
sOne night when l was reading to the
children one Of them suddenly stopped
me.
IL hear somebody in the hail. she
whispered.
so did l. said the second. 4 heard
somebody just then start to 60 up stairs
Then we'll go out and see Who !: Is.
all together said, trying to reassure
them. althou gh was trembling from head
to foot. of course it cannot be any
body but. Mary or Miller or one of the
servants
We sailed out into the dim hall but
saw nobody. The children T.ere grad
ually convinced that it he'd been g mis-
take. but they were frightened. de-
! termined to speak to their father when he
| came up the next day. told him what
had happened and asked II one Of the
men could not be put into the house, as
4 I thought it would reassure the children
I and keep them from growing nervous.
Pm sorry, Miss X he said to me.
that anything of this kind has hap
pened You were doing so well with the
children. But cannot have a nervous
I person with them. You are too ner-
/ vous TO stay out here, so will take the
children to their grandmother in town.
| I'll do that on Monday. and as this Is the
18th, why. we'll consider that our ar
rangement ends then. I'm sorry, because
| should have preferred TO have them
stay in the country for their health
Now. was / in any way responsible
for losing that position? My duty as
a conscientious guardian Of that mans
young children was to tell him what
did. Yet haven't the least doubt that
the woman who helped me to get that post
thinks ] was Q fool not TO keep II and that
= am not worth any more trouble on her
part"
There was another woman with a story
to show the occasional unreasonablenese
Of employers. She had suddenly lost
place.
My advertisement was answered by
a man living in a large Pennsylvania
town. she said. ]and he agreed to meet
me. at his hotel in New York on a certain
day during the next week, as he and
his family were to make a motor triT
that would bring them through this city
On the day appointed called at an up
town hotel and met him. He was a
widower, and his grown son. Just out ol
college. was also in the room. The daugh'
ter whom / was expected to chaperor
had gone out had a very satisfactory
conversation with the father and son,
and finally the head OF the family said
it would not be necessary for me to wait
until his. daughter returned; as be wa.
certain she would like me. Every detail
Of my employment was settled. wa,
their home and there act as chaperor
J for the daughter and as housekeeper
The whole thing had been arranged &C
pleasantly and the head OF the family
had been so polite that felt should
do what could to let him see he had
not made mistake. After he had def
J nitely engaged me the daughter. a very
charming girl. had come in and
met her. II was to assure them tha
/ was all right that mentioned hac
friends whom they probably knew hvini
in their town. -.
Both the Ayes and the Bees. said
L have known all my life and they hav,
for years been intimate friends OF my
family and can tell you who am
INSTANTLY I observed that there hac
been a mistake somewhere. The fathel
and daughter exchanged looks. So die