Virginia citizen. (Irvington, Va.) 1891-1921, 1908-02-21
SOME D0N'TS
FOR LOVERS.
tBy Everett McNeil.)
FOR THE GIRL.

bring him up with short jerk once in
awhile, just to let him know how firm
a hold you have of the other end.
Don't gush over him. Too much
sweetness clogs the appetite. Always
let him go from you hungry to come
again.
Don't be cold. If you have lover
worth loving, and you love him, don't
be afraid nor ashamed to let him know
that you love him; but don't slop over.
Don't advertise your love to the whole
world. 1t is sufficient to convince the
man most concerned.
Don't fiirt with other men. Most
men look on a flirt in much the same
way that a baby does a rattle-box
something to be played with and then
discarded. A fool is the only man who
knowingly will marry fiirt.
Don't quarrel. Quarrels are said to
be loves condiments; but true love has
no more need of condiment than has
piece of lemon-pie or salt and pepper.
Don't attempt to measure the love of
your lover by the depth of his pocket
book. especially If he happens to be a
man whose only asset is a moderate
salary. An eXtravagant wife hangs
like milestone around mans neck.
The sensible man knows this, and will
cut loose before it is too late.
Don't measure your lover with a
tailor's yardstick. 1t is the man in the
clothes, and not the clothes on the man
that you are to marry.
Don't idealize your lover. He prob
ably is neither better nor worse than a
million other men; and your loving him
will not make an angel of him.
Don't forget that modesty at all times
and in all places is loves most sacred
crown. Don't tarnish that crown.
Don't expect your lover to be a saint.
Few men are.
Don't letyour love blind you to all the
rest of the world. When in love YOU
need to see what you are doing even
more clearly than when you are not in
love.
Don't love where reason cannot Join
hands with the heart.
Don't marry a man to reform him.
Reform him before marrying; and be
sure that the reform goes clear down
to the everlasting bedrock. A girl is
a fool who thinks that a man will do for
her after marriage what he cannot or
will not do before. When a bird is in a
cage, who longer fears its wings?
Finally, don't forget that ioye is the
sweetest and most blessed gift of God
to mortals; and that it should be kent
pure and white, free from lust and
avarice and sordid ambition; for the
god of love is jealous god and gives
to drink of the blessed wine of his rich
vintage of happiness only to those who
worship at his shrine truly and un-
selfshly.
FOR THE MAN.
Don't visit your sweetheart oftener
than three times a week. Give her a
chance to miss you.
Don't attempt to buy her love with
costly presents, theaters, flowers, bon
bons, etc. You wish her to love Won
not your pocket-book.
Don't be stingy. Give freely what
you can afford to give, and no more; and
if she is the right kind of girl she will
understand and appreciate you all the
better.
Don't think that you own the girl the
moment you become engaged to her.
There's many slip 'twixt the Gun
and the lip" Besides, modern girls do
not like to be ''owned," even by the
men they love.
Don't forget to make a treaty. of
peace with your sweetheart's small
brother or sister. A little candy and a
few dimes judiciously bestowed will win
you an ally whose value is out of all
proportion to size. That lover may well
tremble for his cause who has not won
the friendship of the small brother or
sister.
Don't be jealous of another mans at
tentions to your sweetheart. If she
encourages them unduly she is unworthy
of you: Drop her! If he gets encourage
ment from her you have nothing to fear:
Rejoice! If other men find your sweet