New-York tribune., 1908-03-27
THE MOTHERS DUTIES.
STRAIGHT from the Shoulder TdlE
1bOut Children.

EIovers music ba bies and mothers, all m s'SAS
abundance, distinguished the si1,h snhua
vention of the Mothers Clubs of Brooklyn Fes'e'
5,v held at the Young Mems Christian Aseo''A
ton Building. There were rooms fuli OF jazz ~
outside being taken care Of while the" ho'-
vent to the meeting. and there we're SO MAJ
mothers that an overflow meeting had 10 Dc heu.
Mrs. Smiths daughter, said MISS 1A,
Williams director of the Philadelphia kindergai
tens failed of promotion on account Oh H0I 80
marks in grammar. Mrs. Smith went 10 sciioo ~
sreak the teacher about it, she was iio' o. "
angry but she was calmly satisfied with hs' "P"'
ion She said: 1T don't make difference ABOUT
grammar. | don't know no grammar ana ! so
man. and you've got all the grammar 'iei0 -
and you got no man. ,,
THE people" said Miss Williams demurey. "i'i
sustain no better schools than theS p'i'0'
the need Of
We teachers can more do our oest "'ih
with YOUR children without your co-opefdi'0 tHa''
you can educate your children without US "
concert at i3O o'clock one night Sd" siii y.
ten | felt sorry for her and for her teacher neat
day.
"A child TO do we'll school must have a Fesu-
lar life out of schooI-regular meals regular Sieep
The white thin faces that the teacner see' tO0
often tell tie tale of undernourishment IN the
schools of q certain city it mas been Hol'c1u '''
on certain days great numbers OF ehidreh 90 % NO.
go home luncheon; they go to bakery ous
two cents worth of rusk and play IN the 9t'e0'
till school time. And it has been found tiat 'he9
days the bargain days adVerlle0u i' ~
stores.
"A kinder-arten teacher in Philadelphia was
given sum pf money to make Chris'hiaS Io'
the children she said: I wish couio Keep - u
buy milk for the next three months 10 give e'-tS
child that needed it drink Then perhaps the
mothers could be induced to think that ni4A rs
good food for children.
why do you give johnny mucn pie"ies dlid
sausage? I said mother Because ne 'iie'
gets en- she replied
But would you give him the redhot poker
because be cried for it.? They don't make hiD-
sick said she Yes | replied but many d
child grows up shiftless and no account "ho
would have made man vino could earn q s'oU
living had he fed right in childhood
The indscrimnate giving of pennies 10 ciii4
dren is pernicious. 1t leads to wastefulhesS "i
money constant eating between meals and eauhe
of the cheapest candy And yet the siVihs VI
money to the child be made an important part
of the childs education From the time the chd
,s very little ;et him have regular weekly al
log-ance if il is no more than cent a weeh ~
he grows older 1et him have much larger one,
ont of which he is pay certain nAed peRsorli
expenses he the streetcars- let hinl pay
his carfare from his allowance, knowing that II
he suends his cartare he must walk. Let the child
begin early to buy certain other things Wnicn ne
must have, and to save from his allowance tor
other things that he Thus he learns early
both seIf-contrcl and the value of money Also
The mother can then appeal him 10 give 10
worthy objects OF with less fortunate COM
rades He has his own money and MS generosity
can be appealed and cultivated by exercise
''AU parents unless they a~fully concerted.
want their children TO grow up better than they
are themselves The carpenter never builds house
by instinct. So in accomplishing this great task
the mother cannot act solely on instinct She
must make rules for herself based OF reason
One of the most important of these is always to
hold the same attitude toward the thing.
I nen the child will know what 10 expect He viii
know that your attitude certain thing has a
reason and is always The same. instead Of depend
ing on the mood of the IIoment-
.At q table at which guest d mother
sent boy wash his hands When he returned
she said, will why you come to the table
with dirty hands when you know that always
send you wash them.
No said VIII, once you forgot
The once forgetting. was enough 10 create in
Wits mind the hope acis time that she might for
get again In dealing with your children all your
Greek Latin money won't help You bit Your
character your disposition. YOUR truthfulness are
what they will know ana Judge you by.
Let the child live il atmosphere OF truth
fInass hut don't think the child is liar unless
he really is I saw 'nelephant comin through
the back gate said Kindergarten boy Did YOU?
said l. and pass Another youngster looked
IN at me in surprise. That's zageraton. said he
firmly was Obliged to laugh. Don't tell the child
who tells this sort of story that he lies and is
naughty. Pass it over and a few years later he
will stop it of his accord
Don't praise chfld's clothes beauty it's
nresance II develops vanity and false pride very
ouickIv But on the other hand. be glad when the
child is glad If he rushing homo delighted
with a good report card. don't pass it and
push him of. Rejoice with him | knew one
| mother who baked enormous cookie in the
shane of girl 20 celebrate her little girls pro-
motion. II was cheap and simple celebration,
and vet il created fun and enjoyment at the
ing meal and celebrated the ohilds achievement
| without catering to her vanity