Graham guardian., 1908-07-24
When a Man MarrieS

A Boston physician declares
that he has found in one young
woman six separate and distinct
personalities. 1t is commonly
stated that every man has three
personalities. They are, the man
he believes himself to be, the man
he is and the man other persons
believe him to be. Granting that
the average woman has as many
personalities as the average man,
about u half dozen totally diff
ferent persons stand committed to
the terms of contract when two
persons marry. In the case of the
Boston girl there will be Involved
in the marriage contract-grant
ing, for the sake of argument, that
this particular Boston girl marries
-as many as nine totally different
personalities, and possibly dozen.
And yet persons who have never
tried it, and can know nothing
about it, wonder why two persons
who have gone - church and
agreed 10 the provisions ofthe con-
tract sometimes find it. difficult to
stand the agreement.
Needles and pins, needles and
pins,
When man marries his trouble
begins.
In these words one of the classic
lists, possibly Mother Goose, sets
forth certain facts with regard to
the state of matrimony without
entering in to any annalysis OF
personalities or explanation of the
causes of strife.
Possibly most of our material
troubles arise from the unexpected
conduct of unsupported person.
alities subject to the terms of the
agreement without having been
consulted at the making of it.
Richard falls in love with Dor
otbea because she has--or because
she has not-tawny hair, or be-
cause she is-Or isn't-divinely
tall, or because she does--or
doesn't-like to read Schopenhaur
or Bill Nye. Dorothea falls in
love with Richard because he has
a magnificent physique or u motor
car, or because he is naval officer,
or civil engineer, or an orator, or
a golf player, or because he dresses
for dinner or appreciates Brown
ing. Then if Dick and Dolly fall
out quite hopelessIy after couple
of years and tell their troubles in
a divorce court, they are roundly
abused by all of their friends and
acquaintances. The real cause of
the disagreement may be that the
two young persons got married
without having the vaguest knowl-
edge of the various personalities
they singly and severally dragged
to the altar. What is u man or u
maid-what are man and maid
Ito do in the circumstance but to
take the plunge and trust to luck
to reconcile the various and prob.
ably warning personalities upon
the other side nf the altar And
should we blame them if they do
not succeed?
A possible solution suggests it.
self. Each person of marriageable
age might get diagnosed and divid-
ed in his, or her, component per-
sobalities, by scientist interested
in psbysical research; an exchange
of information as to hidden per-
sonalities might be established by
custom 80 that Dolly and Dick,
CHANGING to fall mutually in love
after the illogical manner of
persons otherwise safe and sane
as a result of having been thrown
together in the conservatory or
hammock or house party, could
swap these card indices of multiple
character before hailing the first
minister sighted and "surprising
their friends by getting married.
But then, of course, little
knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Perhaps Richard with all Of Doro-
thea's personalities down in black
and white might hesitate, and
Dorothea, with Richard divided up
into bis integral personalities,
might take the oath of spinster.
hood aud spend the rest of her
days thanking the Lord that she
had escaped matrimony. The
ordained way Of marrying by
guesswork and fighting it out in
the light of subsequent revelation
serves at least to perpetuate the
human race, and, cynics to the
contrary Notwithstanding, usually
results happily except IN Pittsburg
aud Chicago.-Louisville Courier
! Journal.