The Montgomery advertiser., 1907-04-09
HOW wALLFLOwERs GROW.
Chatterbox and "Sflent Partner" Alike
 Avoided by Men.

AvOiued ny Men.
 Chicago Chronicle.
 The duties of a hostess at a house dance are anything but a sinecure at any time, but she has a particularly hard time if any of her guests do not ' "take"-that is, have difficulty in get ting their dance cards filled.
 To be a wallfiower is the nightmare of every girl, no matter how pretty she may be or how many of the men she knows are to be present. The wall flower is a mystery, for 1t may not be because she does not dance well. If she Is popular her partners do not mind this little failing or if they do they do not object in the least to sit- ting out with pleasant conversation alist. In fact, according to the gem eral complaint most men prefer to sit out nowadays and fairly have to be ragged out of the smoking room at the urgent persuasion of the hostess or her allies.
 Reasons Are Various.
 But the wallfiower habit is bad one to fall upon any girl, and yet she is herself much to blame for it. She may consider that 1t is her hostess's place to see that she is supplied with part ners, and so, of course, 1t is, but the poor woman may have half a dozen wallfowers on her hands at once and iL iS hot hCI Idull II tHt yOuHB DltH she presents to a girl do not ask for a second dance later on or make no effort to sacrifice themselves on the altar of boredom for an indefinite period.
 No, the wise girl looks within her self for the reason of her unpopular lity and resolves to overcome it.. She notes inwardly that Nellie F- has the oldest frock on in the room and has freckles and snub nose, and yet a uyif rtn hn, there is almost a scarcity of men. So then, it Is mot always clothes or a matchless complexion which draws partners.
 Nor does 1t seem to be always the best dancers who are popular, for two reasons: One is that they are so fond of 1t that they show no mercy on part downtown and would be relieved to be allowed to spend a quarter of an hour in a comfortable chair. Another Is that a girl who dances well sometimes shows her impatience at an awkward partner and only those men who are sure of their own skill dare to ask her
 ChatterbOx Not Popular.
 The girl who chatters too much and the girl who talks not at all are often wallfowers for divers reasons. The first because she rattles straight on while she dances and keeps a man busy trying to keep up with her conver- sation as well as to avoid collisions with other couples.
 The other girl carries matters to the other extreme and never opens her lips to speak unless perhaps to utter a monosyllable In answer to her part ners vain efforts to start a conversa- tion. Both of these girls make bad mistakes.
 Let us begin with the first--the chat terer. When dancing a little conversa- tion goes great way, although an hon. est appreciation of ones partner and an avowed pleasure in the motion are encouraging. But between dances the girl needs to bring out her best pow CTS of conversation and she who has the best fund of small talk and the knack of drawing out her partners is most sure of being asked for another place on her program.
 Talk should Be Timely.
 ballroom is no place for deep sub jects of conversation, either, or for