Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1907-06-15
Troubles of the Widow.

Let a widow whose income is problem
atical or speculative appear Il little bet
rer groomed than usual and forthwith
the induisitive field looms up and wants
ro know ''how she manages it, and let
tbe aforesaid widow flash out in new
niece of jewelry and the same tiend will
spend wildly sleepless nights tossed by a
Storm of guesses to evolve the why's and
sources of the generous possessions and
q dozen other questions,
A>WOman who makes a mystery of her
self does herself a great injustice and is
more or less an object Of cruel suspicion,
and vet if she is level headed she will
moi acquant her women friends with
matters that are purely personal. Dis
crotIon is a waste of foreth0ught, how
ever. when the inquisitive friend, despite
reluctant and evasive replies, continues
10 question without the slightest sense Of
dehCacY.
A woman who guards sacredy her
love affairs is always the woman to be
admired, and yet her women friends Oft
en- resent most pointedly this reserve and
will ask questions that are i'll bred. UNI
feeling ana positively cruel, for which 10
excuse can be offered.
4 man, unless it be a matter directly
concerning him, will not question and
"a ii
that men have a jot less curiosity than
women, because as a fact they have very
much more, b1t a man has more delica-
cy and will refrain from questions that
a woman feels no conjunction in asking.
1t is good rule when being turned
and twisted and croSs-eXamined and Sift-
ed to call a halt in the beginning by as
sorting very positively: You need not
ask, because | would not tell you the
truth, and do not care to lie to YOU"
The chances are that you will get Il
huffy, disagreeable reply, but charge
that up to profit and loss and it will not
matter.
People who continually interrupt
conversation by wanting to know the
minuteSt details are eXasperating to
talk to. You cannot mention Il name
but what they want to know all about
the owner. and the interruptions come:
who is heT' NV hat does he doE'
How did you happen to meet him!'
And, of course, Il woman always asks:
Has she any money" Cash seems to
be the criterion of a mans eligibility for
the most trihing courtesies. and the one
and only standard OF worth i'll the estl-
nation Of many.
Friendship does not want to be in
closed by barbed-wire fence, yet it is
often necessary to hedge oneself about by
a naughty reserve ana comparative isO-
latl0n to enjoy even medium OF lmlnu-
nifty from the impertinence of self-con-
sttuted friends
When people are talking or telling you
any pleasant incident listen and accept
the story for what it is worth. 1t does
not concern you who or what the per
sons may be who figures in the recital.
One sensible question regarding any
point not exactly understood is all right.
but to keep up a rapid fire, as if you
doubted the word of the narrator, takes
all the vim and life out of a good story.
II you let people alone they are apt to
tell you all they know and what they do
not know they will make up and tell it
all the same; but to start out and cross
examine as if sou We're in a court of jus
tee, is ill-bred and presuming.
There is nothing on earth as lovely and
Ioyable as a cultivated, well-hred woman.
Wen seek her, women are attracted to
her. and children love her but the wom-
an who has no thought of, nor considera-
lion for the feeling of others is to be
feared and avoided. She will not only
wound YOU ruthlessly and wantonly, but
the replies that are given reluctantly will
aiten "be miSconstrued to your detriment
ana repeated accordingly, particularly if
jhey should be regarded as ones own, to
be treasured so sacredly that the prying
OF curiosity vendors may not desecrate
memories that are the sweetest part of
a W0man's life