Los Angeles herald., 1907-07-14
Copyright. 1907. by william windsor.
M atrimony

Matrimony
wy HILE we claim for vitosophy that
wv it offers a rational solution for
every problem of human life it
must be understood that a solution is
worthless unless worked out by intelligent
human endeavor.
A great many people imagine that be-
cause the vitosophist offers advice on mar
riage and the various social relations that
this advice is claimed to be infallible.
All that a vitosophist can do in any case
is simply to suggest such, arrangements
and adaptations of temperaments and
physical and mental conditions as will
make harmony possible.
The problem of harmonious association
in matrimony is very much the same as it
is in music. Two instruments may be
tuned to concert pitch and harmony may
be perfectly possible, but if the perform
ers' are unskillful discord is the result. So
it Is in marriage-the vitosophist may
describe the type of person that is per-
fectly adapted to given individual and
may outline conditions that are naturally
productive of harmony, agreeable associa-
ton, financial success and perfection OF
offspring. yet if the performers themselves
are unskillful, if the characters are unde-
veloped and unrestrained, If bad habits,
careless conduct and inconsiderate actions
be permitted to come into the association
discord is sure to result.
There are certain we'll defined rules
which the science of vitosophy prescribes
which have been found to greatly promote
the conditions of harmony in human asso-
citation.
This applies not only to marriage but to
business partnerships, social companion
ships, the relations of employer and en-
Y,Io in
which close communion is either neces-
sary or desirable.
Because matrimony is the most impor-
tant of these relations we emphasize the
use of the rules in the selection of matri-
monial companions, but they will be found
to work out satisfactorily in the other re-
lationships mentioned.
The important objects to be aimed at are
as follows: First, mitigation of the in
evitable frictions which must result from
the close association of any two persons.
Two intelligences possessing different de-
sires, energies and capacities are certain
to result in more or less opposition. To
overcome and mitigate this opposition and
reduce it to a minimum is of the first i'm.
portance There is certain amount of
restraint, disappointment and sometimes
evaporation which is certain to result
from continued companlonShlp or any
two persons. When the temperaments are
antagonistic this frequently results ir
positive combat. Where the tempera
ments are harmonious an adjustment il
always possible, and nearly always thu
parties gravitate to it by mutual attrac
ton.
1t is painful to witness the domestic dis
cord which the neglect of temperamenta
adaptation results in. Scientific men who
have investigated the subject patiently are
generally agreed that over 70 per cent of all
married couples regret the fact that they
are married sincerely within five years.
This is a lamentable showing for an in
stitution which is supposed to be at the
foundation of all human happiness.
When the question of temperamental
adaptation has been properly adjusted the
next consideration is age and identity of
purpose There is little good result
achieved by marriages between parties
who have great disparity of ages, and