Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1907-05-25
AotEerS-ln- Law Are
Not Always Nuisances.

MI Always NulE2ECeS.
To say that all mothcrs-in-law are
hnisanceS, and only fit to be the sub
ject Of jeerinS ridicuIe. would be trea-
sou Of the highest order Give a dog
q bad name and hang him Mother
in-law has u Il bad name, there is no
doubt Of it.
Alas. poor mother-in-law Are there
not many, though, who,7 IN spite of
coarse Jests and vulgar ridicule. can
come forward and be thankful for
theirs. at any rate: 1t must be re-
membered that the mother-in-law does
1oj always have tile Tappiest time. She
cannot quite give mp all at once the in
HucHce she has always had over her girl.
and The Now hu~hau~ could make things
70 50 much smoother when m0ther-n-
Jaw hrSt comes fUssing round if he would
stop TO consider to whom lie owes the
bfin-ing-up that has made SO charming
the wife Eo loves and admrcs.
some day, perhaps, the same wife will
ne "s mnthcr-in-laW, too
) man has n duty to his Wife'S moth
e'. however Little lie may care for her
personally. His H1sr duty is courtesy
and respect. one eau respect a person
without loving her: and love can be left
ah~"luJpiT cut OF the question. But if
ne VIII only show her the courtesy that
IS, after all, her due and try and remem-
otr that her fGSSy and perhaps rather
interfering ways are only the outcome Of
Ter great affection fer her daughter. she
is bound, if she has anything nice in her
ut ALL TO feel that lie is a son worth
having.
That is the husbands side The wife
has q far more difficult time.
Women are more ambitious for their
sons than they are for their daughters.
Hardly any girl is considered good
enough for her darling boy. She may
possess beauty, none. and Il sweet ma
ture, and yet. until the mother has grown
to love tie girl herself. there will be Il
thought sometimes that he might have
done better She has to go through an
ordeal when she is first introduced into
the family that a man rarely has to.
Her appearance, her manners and actions
are criticised sharply. and the mother-in-
laW-to-be is the sharpest or all.
1t is the aim of most mothers to get
, their daughters married; therefore, when
the future sOn-in-law makes his appear
ancp he is usually welcomed. Not so
with the daughter-to.be. In nine cases
out Of ten his mother would rather he
didn't marry. and when he does she
hardly ever thinks any one good enough
for him. But women have usually more
tact than men, and if 4 girl sets herself
TO win her husbands mothers heart she
can generally succeed in way that oft
en- quite surprises the more laundering
masculine mind. That there will be
trouble and pitfalls to avoid is certain
where there arr mothers-in-law \ little
perseverance on both sides will make
things easier,
The poor, despised mother-in-law need
not. and should not, be the object OF
diSlke-and ridicule she is so often de
scribed. She can be, and often is. Il gooG
and true friend. 1t is hard for her t.
take second place where she has always
/ been first, but sensible woman knows
that it is inevitable, and if she is treated
with kindly consideration. unless mother
in-law is very hard to get on with, there
/ is no reason why she should not become
ter-in-law or son-in-law as Mother. -
Exchange.