The Washington herald., 1907-03-03

have good manners thrust upon them;
and some, alas, never know anything
about them, more's the pity.
Just here ! would like to say a word
10 YOU about consideration for your
teachers Unhappily. with many unthink-
ing girls, to be impertnent to their
teacher, 10 deceive or defy her. is a sub
feet for boastlnc It would not be posi-
BILE 10 add anything 10 teachers re-
sponsibillties and discomfort If the very
young could see through the spectacles
Of the old I often think that much harm
in the world comes from lack OF magma
ton. If scholars, girls or boys, could
realize how much they could add to or
take from the weight their instructors
carry, II would go a long way toward
making them more considerable When
the giggling girls al the foot Of the class
appreciate for a moment that while they
are trying TO outwit their teacher she is
spending her strength and energy to make
them better in every way, il viii inspire
them 70 help instead of hindering her in
her efforts.
l. Question: decis.7n OF the following is ear
nestly solicited: Mrs. NJ, who is someEhat socially
inclined. has visiting her lady Of distinction TO
and attention properly due her and 70 this end she
invites number Of the elite Of her acuAintanoes TO
meet the visitor at a luncheon. Among the invited
is the wife Of an influential citizen, and great
sicler for precedence who chooses 70 feel sighted
because she is not given the seat Of honor which the
hostess has. as think, properly assigned % the
visitor What say you'd NJ. NJ.
Answer. As stated In this column sew
eral weeks ago a person who might be
properly called the guest Of honor IS
not entitled TO the seat on the right hand
Of the hostess. That belongs to the rank
ing person present For instance the wife
OF a lieutenant might be visiting a Cab
met officer in Washington. and her
{ hostess would be DESTROYS Of presenting
her 10 the army circle. How obviously
stupid il would be for her to cotemplate
placing her guest before, for instance, the
wife Of the Commanding General OF the
Army. There is nothing more misunder-
stood than this matter Of guests Of honor.
/ Strictly speaking one cannot ask per
/ son Of higher rank 70 meet person Of
lower rank. One carnOt. for instance.
under any circumstances, ask an Am
/ bassador 10 meet any one; such a thing
would be an impertinence. 1t IS always
better not TO emphasize the guest of
honor unless the guest is Of royal blood,
or is Of such great distinction that
stupid person of high rank would not feel
offended by the invitation. as, unhappily.
many of them do.
p Question: Forgive ms tresTassing on your time.
but this is my first winter in Washington. ! am an
American from the West and unused. perhaps. 10
/ t1e Eastern code Of form and manners. and the
other day received. from foreign visitor. card
I bearing her name. Madame Blank. and underneath
her maiden name Is this customary IN America. OF
did she use tins style because il is en- rege in her
own country! / think she is a Geman.-R. 5. X.
Answer. That style is invariable in
/ continental Europe, and good style IL is.
/ too. since IL instantly places the person
/ leaving the card
/ Question. J vas much interested in the notes
you gave regarding the ehildrens luncheon last Sun
/ day and i want 10 ask If you VIII be kind enough
% send me a menu Tor a dinner which ] am anxious
/ 20 give 20 mi-Carsme let me explain that have
not been long IA Washington and that three Of the
members Of the diplomatic corps have accepted my
/ invitations. Ny standards are provincial but my
pocketbCok Is fun. and ssail be grateful for any
/ hints you can give me--Edwina.
/ Answer. ANY modern cook book would
1 help you out in your dilemma. There are
some excellent books that give menus for
/ every day in the year. However. since
/ you ask it. it would give me pleasure to
aid you in making your mi-Careme din
] ner a success. Oysters are always an
| acceptable beginning Of the dinner and
| are served in several forms, in blocks Of
lice. and as cockstails, but the old-fashioned
way OF offering them on the shell is best
I Nr f-A Of Vic Of mic
| Latterly. grape fruit has taken the place
| of oysters. and is a pleasant change. In
| serving this. the fruit should be cut IN
] half, all the pulp should be removed, and
! only the juicy portions returned to the
/ cleaned and divided skin. favored with
| a little maraschinO or sherry, a few pre-
| served cherries. and sweetened bit with
! sugar. Then, If your dinner is to be a
/ thin one as the French say, serve a
/ heavy soup, a bisque of lobster, or sore
| thing Of the sort. II you are to have a
| heavy bill Of fare, a cOnsOmme then a
/ fish-it is difficult to suggest, so many
| things are popular just nOw-but a cold
piece of salmon surrounded by a vegetable
salad is an excellent precedent for an
entree, which should be hot and appe-
/ tizing; calves brains with spinach. sweet
breads and caulifiower, deviled kidneys
a thousand things you can find in any
cook book. The roast, of course. follows
this and then the inevitable frozen punch
before the game which is a bore that
| should never be countenanCed. 1t is pro-
vinCial 10 burden peoples stOmaChs with
| an ice in the middle Of a dinner Follow
| ing the roast at a formal dinner there is,
Of course. game, whatever is in season.
! served with jelly and a vegetable. then
there is a salad. which should be simply
| lettuce. celery, or cress, with a French
dressing. served with cheese and bar Ie
due currants. and then the dessert, what
ever your fancy or pOcketbook allows.
For this season of the year I am append
| ing menu that may aid you.
Grape Fruit.
| Bisque Of Lobster.
! Fried Smells and Scollops Sauce Tartare
Calves Brains with Spinach
Saddle Of Scuthdown MrttOn. Caper Sauce
| Rum Punch.
/ Canvasback Duck with Homny
Plain Lettuce Salad. with Cream Cheese and
Bar lie Due Currsuts
/ Raspberry Ice served in Pyramid Of Apples
OF course, with this one must serve
wines or not, as ones conscience admits.
The proper wines would be sherry with
the first course, white wine with the fish,
champagne with the roast, and a fine
claret or burgundy with the game, and.
naturally liqueurs with the dessert. A
| clever man in Boston, who gave the most
wonderful dinners ever given there. out
ragged every Law regarding the conven-
! tional serving of dinners, and used to have
his champagne poured with the soup TO
! ''liven up his guests a Bit" he said, and
It did.
| !. Question: In calling on a mother with five
daughters how many cards is it proper to leave, if
| they are ali in society?
Answer. According to the prevailing