The Washington herald., 1907-01-27

Of course, he Is sort Of Bones, and
pays for his entertainment by doing
1 stunts
s. Question; ! bare recently married and have
ceiyed one hundred and fifty presents. Already
] have received cards of some Of those who remem-
beied me AZ nay wedding Is IL obligatory me %
make return presents when J did not wish Tor or
cannot use the gifts that came.
Answer: This is a question that one
should arrange with his own conscience.
You might send back the gifts that were
sent you, II, as you say, you have no use
for them.
G. Question: win you kindly tell me If it is correct
for young SRI 70 have her address engraved on
her card! II Il Is not correct please tel NE why.
Answer. No, IL IS not proper, except the
young girl Is a business woman. If she is
in her fathers house fl is supposed her
friends will know her address through
/ their acquaintance with her parents. The
reason for this rule is, Of course, obvious
TO all people Of the world
z Question: ] have been much surprised since
have taken up residence % Washington % receive
cards t5r teas given bv Young unmarried women In
society, apparently without the help cooperation
o. theH mothers. For instance ] received a card
reading. Hiss Jones. az home January TO- 5
O'Clock, and u course. thought that airs Jones
must Dc III or 0ut ~ town 3, 60 the Tea Mi,s
Jones receives cordially. and I md that Der
mother Is not ID. but having a lovely time in an
other Togm and not receiving with her daughter TO
one who has had FrTy oldfashi1ned training this
seems the height ~ ii breeding IN an the cities
abroad where have STAYED land 7 have studied Of
lived IN a great many, ] have never heard Of an
unmarried daughter giving any s0rt u entertainments
quite aithlut the assistance % her mother ufan
that mother was IN perfect health and going ont in
slclety continually Would yGu. nag dear SIR kindly
.et me- kDoa through sour columns If ! am night or
wrong,
Answer. No matter what the custom has
become in Washington OF elsewhere. Il is
extremely bad form and a display Of uu-
pard0nable ignorance 81 social ethics for
"A young woman To give any sort Of an
I entertainment without the cooperation Of
| her mother The facts you mention have
come under the ArbiteT's observation, ana
I he has been quite as astouished as your
self. II is, OF course. perfectly pernissi-
| bic FOR a spnSyeT % entertain her friends
without chaperon, but in America or
elsewhere / know Of no spinster Of good
family and breeding who does so. II is
not the policy Of this department To men
tiCn names. but u would be possible 10
point out a number OF maiden ladies in
I Washington. past the half century mile
stone ~ life. whose mothers are stlu liv-
Ing, and who never give au invitation save
IN her name. You ala perfectly right from
every point Of view regarding this matter.
Il is the height II I'D breeding for "a girl
90 ignore her mother or for "a mother Id
allow herself 20 be ignored Most fortu-
nately. the custom you aIlude 20 is never
met with except among people who are
comparatively new % social usages, or
those who affect B0hemianism.
heirg opened ay a member q the family should /
present ms card 70 the lsdy O. gentleman who adj
miu me- have calling acquaintance who has
four Er7Hn daughters shall I leave card for eachs
N,E sincerely. r. 81
Answer; No, you should on no account
offer your card 10 a member of the family
I but should place IL on the card tray in
{ the haH or a convenient table The an
swer 90 your second question is given
above.
/ O. Question: VII you kindly tel me through your
column If 7 happened 10 b. talking To au elderly
/ lady u nay own home and q debuianre should en-
Ter. ought % ris3 20 greet her-ypuose she is the
daughter Of Senator and I only the wife a. Rem
| resentatiyc, Ought the daughter Of a Senator %
take precedence Of other debtantcs whose fathers
are IN private life Noy truly YOURS. T. NJ NJ
/ Answer: No; a married woman Of social
standing should never rise 10 greet a
/ debutante or any other young woman. no
matter what her position. No
TO- Question: Is it correct for man 20 shake hands
/ with bis glove on. BEAU BRUMMEI.
Answer; No.