The Washington herald., 1907-09-02
FROM WOMAN'S
POINT OF VIE "

The popular girl hardly ever knows why
she Is preferred 10 her companions, yet
outsiders know that il is because Of her
desire 20 please and her ability to forget
self. She may not be pretty. nor stylish,
but she is sure 10 be charming, and that
is more TO the point.
A popular young woman went on a
yachting trip. the other day. where there
were several women whom she did not
know. She had every opportunity TO en-
JOY herself, for she had three feminine
companions and a train Of masculine &C
Quaintances. vet when she found one
woman facing a rather lonely afternoon
she quietly hunted up somebody TO intro
duce her and then proceeded 10 make the
woman enc Of her party. Later she
saw two shlveTing girls who had neglect
ed 10 provide themselves with suitable
wraps, and again she made herself agree
able.
When any one Of the party fell III she
devoted herself 10 the care Of the invalid
like a trained nurse, and again I told
myself that she deserved her popularity
Such a position in the world is worth
working for. but l fancy there must be
a foundation like a sweet temper and
unselfshness. You can hardly imagine
a selfish person being singled out for spe-
cial favors, and a cross nature is de-
cidedly repelling.
was at a fashionable wedding when q
woman was pointed out to me as a leader
in her set a large one, by the way. She
was not pretty, but her gown and aces
sories were beautiful and she wore then
with an air of Inconsistencies that made
me sure that she had been used TO beau
tiful frocks all her life. She occupied a
seat in the middle Of the church and
stood e receive her friends at the close
of the ceremony. She had money, but
not enough TO make her a power, and
after watching her for a few minutes
did not need to be told that she had q
reputation for good nature and thought
fitness and tact that made her very dear
to large circle of friends.
Invariably you viii find that the popular
woman does her part in contributing tC
the enjoyment OF those about her. She
cannot sit still and wait to be amused
she must first show that she merits at
tention. In almost every party you vii
find a woman of another stamp, the one
who. finding herself neglected a bit
SEXES uncomfortable means Of making
herself the center of attention. Some
times she falls i'll and keeps the Others
dancing attendance upon her, and make:
the atmosphere uncomfortable to a de-
gree. once went yachting with such {
girl, and, after making herself a nui
sance for hours by a sham illness, sh,
recovered 10 an appetite that could only
be appeased by a supper cooked undel
trying conditions.
But she accomplished her object in sep
arating a couple whose devotion did no
please her. She pinned the woman to hel
side by requiring constant attention anC
played upon the mans sympathy by he
apparent suffering 1t was hardly a mic,
way Of becoming the center of attrac
ton. was It? However. the girl seemed
to derive a certain amount Of satisfac
ton from her conduct, and it is safe 4
say she is likely to repeat the expert
ment Giving pleasure is the only sur,
way to be popular, and popularity Il
within the reach Of anybody who is will
ing to forget self. be good natured ant
pliable. These may be traits hard to cul
tivate, but they pay
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