The Chanute times. [volume] (Chanute, Kan.) 1897-1913, 1907-04-19
THR DAUGHTER PROBLEM

THR DAUGHTER PROBLEM
i 1t seems to me that the columns of
our good home departments are full
aud OVERLOOKING with sense and non
sense. wit and wisdom, the bloom Of
the rose and the sting of the thistle,
land still many important subjects are
left untouched. l would raSher
know how successful mothers and
fathers manage to rear and settle OF
satisfactorily, a family Of daughters
than to know some other things.
The family problem is the most Inter
estng and important and the augh
ter side of it the most neglected, We
are told how to raise babies. All well
enough, but the babies when they ale
large enough to he called daughters
| II love boys and have some Of my own.
but want to ventilate Que su6jec
at tlme) are a more important ques
ton. How to get these sweet girl
babies past the dangers that even
assail the ignorant little girl before
her mother knows 1t and maybe she
never knows it, only the daughter
never satisfies the mother. l do love
all the young people. Ii had my
way they would all grow up with
clean. wholesome records, dear, dear
and lovable. But boys have some ad
vantages that girls do not have. SO l
90 back to nay subject-the daughters.
We don't want dreamy ideas, for girls
are not dreams but stern realities
We want women who have actually
succeeded to tell their methods. This
is my training and Of course my view:
First Is health. Take nothing for
grated. Work hourly and daily for
health-mentally, morally, and physi-
cally. Don't think, 20, she'll outgrOw
this or that aillnent." for maybe she
will and maybe she won't. There Is
time girls learn to conceal their all
ments and that is not right. Neglect
ed health 10 childhood generally
means ruined life later. and perhaps
ruined lives. If 1T could only stop
that. lam not one who believes that
only perfect specimens of the human
race should wed. for l believe the
mass of people better of married. II
IS Gods way-let none gainsay 1t. 81
let our girls be given all the chance
TO better the conditions Of their birth
which can be given. We don't want
the devil to claim so many OF our
splendid strong girls, We want the
home and family to have the benefit
af the best physically as well as NOR
ally. Why are not girls taught as
much of the marriage question-on
The how and when to marry well-aS
they are taught on lesser subjects?
l think most parents educate their
daughters as far, as their means Will
reach on all other points but the all
important one.
The healthy girl needs one training
and the DELEGATE girl another. Each
may be happy-it all depends. A dis
appointed girl is not a pleasant fea-
ture Ia the parents home. The girl
who is conscious Of her own defects
either In body or mind, or who is lack
leg in personal or facial charm, and
who knows no way OF overcoming
these things is one to need comfort
ing indeed. When girl knows she is
loyable and loved she is generally low
ing, but save us from the neglected
oues-who so often get spiteful and
make bad things worse.
III health comes first in Importance,
the rext thing is to cultivate happy
disposition by wedding out faults aud
plantiug all the Ieeded virtues and
graces until the girl is comely aud
agreeable. That1s great, great deal.
Every girl should be a student oil
III, enoltg-, and uiy lerself and her
{ lends as we'll. She should study her
limitations; what she can do aud do
well and gracefully. This is a big old
world and there is friendship aud love
for all II we only know how to reach
out and accept them.
So my dear girl, don't stay at home
and sour 10 your corner, aud think
your own neIghbor is bad aud the ad
Joining ones %bIgoty." Get 10 a