The Mitchell capital. (Mitchell, Dakota [S.D.]) 1879-1918, 1907-02-22

tatti1 ne lUHaEht tsai t q %oifiai Wa
til1, 81 .e ping liyt husband NOSE 70
tlg gYgaiatoue Ia Those days OF
tHal mel,us the hot4ely phrase scarce
~ D4plttl extravaganza. simply poor
nanteetnetl which Kept the HUSBAND
'rail .et,ing ahead. from putting
10y snrnethtne for II rnlnl day iron
providing for Il comfortable old are
Altl u decent burial Today the old
fashioned phrase IS fast becoming ob
soieiu. notably In circles where the
Grlndsteii~ itself Is stu IN use and stiIl
III evidence, In spite of the efforts 10
keep 1t locked up In the closet with
the family skeleton.
one who looks at life with half an
eye camnot fam To see that the grind
stone torture is a sad disturber of the
family peace. IL not u serious menace to
social Well beng. ! do not refer now
to those extreme cases in which the sui
tcrers are driven TO tragic ends chron-
icled IN the daily papers under sensa-
tional headlines of suicide, embezzle-
ment, on divorce. but only to familiar
Instances IN which the victims are bear
ing their bludseoning without wineing
or crying aloud. In the ranks of these
every day heroes, who, like charity,
suffer long and are kind. and that with
out the hope of even a Carnegie medal,
are found representatives of all classes
ana CpllGltloiS, proving CIctlIS tldt NHe
"torture' IS not the inevitable cut
growth of any particular set OF cir
Culnstances.
Too Good to Be Sensible.
One must admit at the outset hat
the American husband otter puts his
own nose to the grindstone through d
blindly misplaced generosity. We have
no marriage settlements. yet the
American bridesroom's version of with
oil rh,r p.N,l3l,r pranlc I then a,Ntny.' IL
often Dearest, YOU may have all my
salary" Here in New York seven In
stances have recently been brought to
my notice In which the husband hands
over TO his wife his entire stipulated
income. AN average salary of $1,000 a
year. In three of these cases the wives
allow their respective husbands enough
for Il new suit OF clothes each year and
Tor car fare and a 25c luncheon each
day Clothing in excess of one suit
per year and any extra expenses In
CURED must be paid for by extra money
made. All three meet these demands
by night work; one of them manages,
tn addition. to carry $4,000 worth of
life Insurance.. In a sixth case. the
husband must not only "hnd" all his
clothes. his car fare. and ~luncheons, but
the wherewIthal to pay various and
sundry bills that exceed his wife's al
lowance." In no one of these cases
aptS Nv 20 R'aAiAN " ''+y
emergency Whatsoever. In TWO famil-
les there is a child each to he provided
for, in four the wife alone is CON
sidered.
Now, in a seventh case the wife, after
providing for herself, two children, and
her household, places to her husbands
hank accornt enough to pay for all his
clothing. c~arfare, luncheonS, club dues,
and payment on $4,000 life insurance.
Man number seven also works At night
when he feels disposed. AS "%byprod-
ucts" he has published two successful
never touched. That sum. the wife will
proudly tell you, is invested for "a
home of u own by and by and for n
college education for the children"
This last case. you may say, is not a
srindstone case. 1t is cited here to
show that the abuse of generosity in
the Other cases is not unavoidable.
When six women tell YOU with tears,
Il can't live on my allowances" not
knowing the amount of the allowance
arc very apt to Jump to the conclusion
that there are six stlngy, brutal hus-
bands cumbcring the earth. If tho
seventh woman did not step In to tell
how gladly and proudly she has
planned -'skinre4 and sa., ] tho 9TH
nnCe." You might imagine that ii is
impossible to live in New York ON
$4,000 a year. The seventh oman
moreover, is the happiest one of the
lot; her apartment bears the marks
of greater taste N refinement than
one finds I'm the homes of the others:
one meets at her table more people OF
worth and distinction.
Chained to the Money Mill.
Mans most ~poienant suffering FROM
tho erindstone torture does NOT re,rn
from the extra work involved nor
from the haunting fear OF an en5er-
sency for which he is wholly ,,nnra-
pared. but rather from the fenljne nat
he has done his best and his hest is
not enough. chat he has coined Ms
heart for goll and his wife ,nerelv aslts
for more gold. What Inc seventh man
has found. the other six All drea,ned
of finding. In his halcyon courtins
DAYS. not one of them ever dreanlef
that the dear Girl he loved carved \
Erindstone concealed about her vim
some person. not irving TO nrove
that the ratio O selfish to- uns,l6st
women i'm the w rid is as six 10 emo
I am merely stating six authentic in.
Stances OF nflsniaced confidence and
tso 10 a - t,ae Keep sooa mems noses
The story OF the se,a, WHO ,o
Pduallv we'll If NOT o1,,ouv D;so1,, 4.