New-York tribune., 1907-10-27
The T1aIi1e7os~ers of Society.
the the Girl ignored by the Spoiled Young Men
of the Present Day-A Perhaps.

has a distinct claim to a partner for supper If at
her bv parents relatives and friends. a series OF
entertainments. to which the young men Of her set
recoepition shouId be made This fact too often is
not 5Gcase 9 e 6f th S nsratude of those
who have enjoyed the hospitality OF her parents VI
"A much needed reform could be worked among
the careless, selfish young men OF society I'm II tne
lively would band together and exclude those VINO VINO
disTegard the commonfS' TuleS o o. Two Individual
instances this has been done quietly ana win sood
and the rude youths in question we're soon whipped
into line, as they had social ambitions. Older men
iibcrately churIish. They take refuge for their
amusements, if omitted from the calendar OF ] ouGs
dances and other affairs IN the set wheTe the young
married women reign supreme, and the cause oil
the 'wallfower' is In no wise bettered
"A mother with young daughter soon TO De
launched socially can do much to avert disaster;
regularly in several outdoor sports-ridng. tennis.
golf etc.-so that she will have varied knoW-
terest with the she is to meet. Also. among
those she is thrown with when indulging in these
who will be useful in her entire career.
average. and the girl who meets him need not
and in fact must not, be too learned. The sciences
do not fit in at all with the throb OF the waltz or
the salad at supper, as do "reminiscences OF the
hunting field or the tale of & The lost ball IL at 6 54e
be too personal nor must she be too proud and
and openly evidenced favor for one Partcu-
lar man of her acquaintance have wrecked many
result before the season over.
Men like sheep where girls are concerned
and If is attentive to yirl for more than
evenings the others flock to discover what tn"
attraction is, and the girl becomes a belle until
she shows preference for particular one among
them. Then they and he, too, probably gradually
transfer their devotiOns elsewhere. In like man
does the effect of duty dance count with the
crowd. The who quickly returns the girl to
her chaperOn after the dance. with evident air
Of relief at distasteful task done and with.
helps to make her unpopular for the flock
and reason, on, If So-and-so nnds her dul! and
drops her so soon, why. We will not bother 70 be
polite. There is doubt about II, the age of
chivary is past, and the sef-centred Of Forty
hedglngs, are going 10 please themselves, an1
one else: Between these ages they some times thpk
OF matrimOny.
True. there 'wallhowers' who are so because
OF their unpleasant manners and discomfort with
all that counts for happiness in life. but these are
few and far between they retire TO follow
out some pet scheme Of their unnatural minds. But
these, too. could De changed society made faf
more joyful in atmosphere # the leaders would
clare Tor harmony rather than rivalry bitter
ness and the men would remember civities extend
ed TO them and act in the spirit Of reciprocity
rather than that of grab.
again, mistake is made in leaving growing
girls entirely IN the care Of R0yernesses unes thv
are women Of a reliable age and unduestfcna hl1.
~ women OF no other class the tiny differences
that create distinction be infused into the daily life
ana Iorm the character Of the child the position
sle Is called 10 MI In society. Carefully brought
up girls are rarely WallhOWeTs. for they are natu-
Ia4 without being bold. entertaining without chat
leIlns ana have a shy sweetness combined with
perfect pose Of SELF that is wonderfully attractive"