The Washington herald., 1907-03-17

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place for your guest though it is always
within the province Of a hostess TO say
that her list is full
Question: J. YOi are rery severe. it seems 20
me regarding the conduct Of young men and young
women. The rules sou lag down seem extreme.
but my mother thinks them perfect. and agrees
with everything you say. So I am writing TO ask
you If you think IL would be very terrible for ne
20 take an old friend. q man. near my own age ont
m the new nInabout my father gave me on DIS
birthday! There IS 10 sentiment between us. We
are not engaged and never viii b. but We are ven
fond cl each 0thT. Do please SIR. ATbtcr say
sou do think IL is al right
Answer: The ArDiter regrets that you
md his opinion regarding the conduct Of
young men and young women severe, but
suggests that when you have daughters
OF your own to bring up your point of
view viii change. AS to taking a young
man out in your runabout for whom you
have no sentiment and to whom you do
not expect 70 be engaged ] would sug-
gest that you be guided entirely by the
wishes Of your father and your mother.
who would seem in this matter To De
your best judges. Unhappily, it would
be impossible for The Arbiter, despite
your amiable appeal. to say that he thinks
IL "ali right, as, from his point Of view,
IL would De all wrong.
Question: T. Asked 70 lunch at the Chevy Chase
Club the other day. D wore a gray morning slit
tar shoes and dcrby- There were three other
men present tive Il whom appeared iu frock
coats. white ties aud tall hats Which of us Of.
Tended against good TASTE VIII sou tel me fur
ther when a man is asked 20 dine informally az
Chevy Chase, must be wear evening clothes:
FOREIGNER
Answer; Morning clothes for the lunch
con at Chevy Chase would be perfectly
proper II is absurd 20 go to a country
club for midday meal In afternoon at
tire. because ore must expect 20 indulge
in any sort Of sport-b0wIing. billiards,
tennis. and golf-snd q frock coat on the
golf links or tennis court would be laugh
able, truly. Perhaps your friends mis-
took the character of the function to
which they We're invited. and expected 90
attend a wedding. though I believe, since
the old Bradley house was converted
into the club. no such ceremny has
taken place there. When asked 70 dine
at the Chevy Chase Club the host or
hostess generally indicates what shall be
worn. In summer. at informal dinners.
hauneis are always acceptable. IN fact.
IL would be an excellent rule for the club
TO adopt. that no evening clothes should
be worn after the lst of June.
Question: s Hotel Aicazr. Prado I2l,
Havana Cuba March T. 1907
The ATbter Washington Herald
Dear Sir; ] have Just arrived in Havana, and I
am very anxious 20 the interior of the palace.
shall leave my card on GOV Mngom or Mrs
Gen. Rates. gho does the- -hoHoTs feE himt Mr.
Morgan. the American Minister. ! hear has two
aunts. who make thtir home uith him. shall J
leave ms c1uis upon hm al the American legation
or upon them at bis home IN the suburbs ] am
going into the interior Cf Cuba fuf will return in
a tew days As ! have The Herald sent 90 me,
please answer me ID your columns Ohiige.
a CONSTANT READER.
Answer: I take IT from che wording OF
your letter that you are q lady. therefore,
it would be entirely bad form TO leave
your card on Gov Msgoon. Surely there
must be some officer i1 Cuba perhaps a
member Of his staff. with whom YOU are
well enough acquainted 20 ask the cour-
tesy of an INTRODUCTION 20 the governor,
or, it would be perfectly proper 20 call
on Mrs Bates and explain your desire
Mrs. Bates YOU viii find a charming and
delightful woman. who VIII be only toe
glad TO help YOU In the matter by sug-
gestiou or otherwise. You should OF
course. leave your card upon Mr. Nor
gan's aUHts IN his home in the suburbs
II you have any business TO transact with
the legation, il would be we'll To cal
there, but 1t Is never good form for a
woman To leave her card upon a gentle
man. except he is a dignitary of the
church.
Question: 6. Just what stand should young
woman take in offering her seat u car TO eIderly
women. NV mother is of foreign uarcntage. and
since my childhood has insisted that whcn an olde
woman gets into a crowded ear that J offer hcl
my place. This courtesy Cl ny part has ofter
been met with almost indignation t5 the ladies q.
whom surrendered II. and Sc. / am most Uucom
fortahie % remain seated ard allow lady cid
enough 10 be my mother ~ stand In Europe, yor
know. 10 one IS allowed 90 enter a CIR unless there
Is vacant seat. and there can be question ia
this regard. wish it we're The same hero. be-
cause the crowded condition Of the cars mabes II
very embarrassing for yctmg girl Above all
when a gentleman old enough 10 be ny father in
sists upou my taking his scat. I believe in th,
csurtssg Of q Younger person % an Older person
but I do not see why should take seat from
stranger Who has paid for IL and Is entitled % it.
NGENUE.
Answer. The question you ask has Otter
been discussed. IT makes a young woman
conspicuous, rather than otherwise. tC
give her seat To a lady who is not mani
festly i'll. or very old or feeble. Indeed
many women take it as a reflection upon
their appearance. but any young woman
with a kind heart and good character vii
rise Immediately to offer her seat to n
aged person, man or woman. / agree witt
you regarding the car service i'm Europe
1t is most regrettable that it does no
obtain here. If a league were formed
among those who suffer from the over
crowded condition of cars, with the motto
NO seat. 10 fare. it might inspire th'
rich railroad corporations here to max,
their patrons more comfortable.
Question: Z. Should bachelor who makes hi
headquarters at club in town and has all Of hi
mail sent there. put the address Ct his club upU
his visiting card? CLUBNIAN.
Answer: Undoubtedly; if he wishes {,
have his calls returned or receive the in
vitations that are meant for him. h,
should use some address. and since hi.
mail is sent to the club. it is quite proper
that its name should be engraved on lat:
card.
Question: S. shonld man holding the degsss e
Ph ID. use the title doctor 60 which II cu
titles him. on his visiting cards. PHI y.
Answer: This is entirely a matter o.
personal taste. In Germany. where tn,
greatest formality obtains among uni
versity men. a man possessing this de
gree would invariably use the title Doc
tor" 1t is. too. frequently used in Amer
ica, but the late Mr. Langley. for many
years secretary OF the Smithsonian Insti
tuition. was very much opposed 10 tn
employment of any title, and it was
matter of real irritation to him TO be ad
dressed as doctor" or professor an,
his cards read simply Mr.. Langley
But other scientists of equal standing
nnraf nrflr- ttrn tho title ..lnrtnr ~ and Ii.