The Washington times., 1907-12-01

II HERE lived a good many years
ago in England = quiet sort OF
man. who every morning sat
at his desk, ard wrote Just so
much and no more or less. 1 believe
the exact amount OF material turned
OUT each day numbered some twenty
sheets.
:his man was Anthony TroIIJpe. and
,he writing lie did methOdicaUv has
nten preserved as that Of one OF the
Sr-atest nOveIists who ever lived He
lid not write anything that has ever
cen draihatzed; inIaed. mis- stories
are IN TO way dramatic But the. are
better than that. for they portray
human nature with startling hdclitv.
Through all his books TroIIope makes
love and sympathy the only things
absolutely necessary 10 happiness.
Here is the way he puts the sentiment
iu ''Phineas Finn:
No person can live happily with an
other. not even with a brother. sister
or i friend, simply upon esteem. An
tc- virtues in the calendar. though
they exist on each side. viii not make
man or woman happy together un-
less there be sympathy"
And there never can be sympathy
without love.
Too often It happens that married
paople drift apart The breach widena
so gradually that 1t is almost inper-
ccpible FOR a time. 4 keen observer
like TrollOpe saw the cause of tins. He
realized that the man was relying
upon his good points as business
man, MS Geservedly nigh standing in
the community. his absolute faithful
ness 70 his marriage vows. his steady
Kindness 20 his wife. TO keep her love
and be also realized that with
woman ali these things fall unless
The one great thing is added 10 them.
She must have the mans love and
sympathy, the subtle understanding
81 her nature, which made ii possible
iur MIN 10 WIN her as his wife She
must have this or she can't be harry
with him. no matter II she knows he.s
head and shoulders above u,ost mon
both in his personal and business life
When such a man loses the. love. or a
woman he always says: Il cannot nm
derstand il. foF have never given he
the least cause to think less of me
II you want TO know Just why some
women turn aside from the compau-
ionship OF a good man to accent that
of others who are not as worthy. YOU
have IL right in the sentence OF Trol-
lope: "All the virtues in the calendar,
though they exist on each side. will
noU make a man or woman happy to-
gether unless there by sympathy"
Especially is il true that the best
wens5n in the world sometimes find
themselves deserted in spirit, if not
literally, BY a man toward whom they
have ever tried to do their duty. They
have been the best OF housekeepers-
unsedsh mothers. YES. even the finest
Of cooks, and yet they've found their
husbands have grown away from them
m all but name. Absolutely sincere i'm
their desire TO find out where the dif-
hculty lies and remedy il, they renew
their efforts 20 be even more worthy
OF esteem. Then they wonder why
conditions don't improve.
None of US need look very long
among the people we know 10 and
married couples who appear bored
with each other. II you anaIyze the
character OF both man and wife you
may find in each only admirable uIlal-
tiles Yet they are plainly bored
What's the reason You will find Il in
these words Of TrollOpe.
AS for friendships net THRIVING on
esteem alone they are seldom. put 10
such a test. for the majority of us
manage to get clear Of those intima-
cies which bore us. A Friendship is not
an mdissOiuble bouS. as marriage Is
supposed To be-