The National tribune., 1907-04-18
by SONORA SARA.

With all the delight that is popularity
supposed to illuminate the first sea-
son." the early experiences OF many
debutantes are full of positive suffering,
simply from lack of attractive con-
versational powers. A girl may be pos
sest of all the domestic virtues, she may
have a cultivated mind full of fine as
pirations and earnest resolutions, she
may be popular with her girl friends
and respected by everybody, and yet fail
to please men and secure attention.
Why? Merely because she is ignorant
of the judicious method of falling into
absorbing talk and drawing beyond the
conventional phrase on to delicieuSiy
dangerous topics. Because. in short
she has not the art of entering into in
teresting conversation.
A few rules will repay study and be
of service to the novice in society.
Do not regard conversation solely as
a race of volublity. There must be an
honest fund of general information, an
Intelligent interest in the everyday af-
fairs of life, bright personality, fresh
piq,tancy of expression, and the talent
to conceal ignorance or cleverness-too
much Of either is not an advantage.
If you are at loss what to say, it
Will always be safe to ask your partner
for information on any subject He will
he pleased to give it. and you may be
amused to receive it.
You cannot ask for advice too fire.
quently You are under no obligations
TO follow it, and any man Will be the
happier for giving it.
Never ask a question unless you can
display genuine anxiety for the answer.
If You say only, How do you do?" let
Your, tone and expression show that the
answer is of vital Importance TO you.
Be OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES to
Your sentiments, thoughts and ambi-
tions; but never fail to mention that re-
serve is your habituai characteristic and
that YOU cannot quite account for the
Irresistible impulse to break thru it.
Never contradict a. man--never. And
if he asks you for an opinion, always
try to give him his own-
Acquire an insight into mans char
acter and learn to understand his little
weaknesses, as medical specialist un-
derstandS the symptoms of his own par
ticuIar professional line. Then you will
realize that in some cases tender, in
finite softness is necessary to charm: in
others, little rebeIiious and dainty COM
mands are most important.
Always be quietly dressed. Most men
have a great admiration for demure
ones, and are frequently irritably dis
turiIed by too much color in asgown, too
emphatic sleeves or other fashionable
Congregations.
And. above all, be, and remain, an
enigma. 1t is quite true-the old Greek
philosopher was right-when man I'M
derstaEds woman she ceases to be of
interest to him.
Like poets, the charming woman is
born. not made. Still, to be agreeable
is. in a measure. a science. and, like
other arts, may be. at least to certain
degree. acquired The art that consists
of graceful tact, OF winsOme compli-
ments, of sweet nothings, of deiectable
follies will make life pleasanter for both
men and women, and is quite worthy of
earnest study, for our happiness in the
world depends very much upon the adj
niratioiI We are able to inspire.
Rubber overslIoes are all so much
alike that it is well 10 have some dis
iinguishing sign by which to recognize
them y hen left IN dressing rooms. etc
One woman accompanies this by sew
ing a ls9p of black tape on the back of
her overshoes, and this serves also to
hang them on hooks and clothes-hang-
ers. In another family all the rub
berS'' are painted in broad band each
member Of the family having his or her
particular color Marking the initials
inside Is ali very well if you can be
assured OF their permanence, but ordi-
nary ink is very soon rubbed off Get a
small trunk stencil of the family sur
name. and ii will last much longer and
Is more easily renewed
To make Duchess cake, rub to a light
cream one cup Of sugar and a cup and
q half of butter Add six eggs. two at
u time beating 10 minutes between each
addition. Sift together one pint of dour
and one teaSpoonful of baking powder.
Add to the butter and sugar. together
with one teaspoonful of extract of elm
pamon- Mix and bake in small shallow
SutIarp pans in "a moderate steady oven.
Ice.
To make dressing for chow-chow
make "a paste OF six tablespoonfuls
ground mustard, one tablespoonful tum-
eric. a cupful of -four. one of sugar and
two quarts good eidar vinegar. Stir the
dry mixture with little of the vinegar,
then add the remainder. Put in clean
porcelaia-iiGe6 kettle with the pickles.
that should have been drained from the
brine. stir the whole until it scalds and
becomes smooth and thick, then turn
into jars and seal.
There is no end to little things that
serve as first aids to housekeepers" az
1t We're. suggestions that not only make
work easier, but also help to preserve
The furnishings or articles. For in
stance, "A stair carpet should never be
swept with a long handle broom, bur
held under each step. This in the end
saves work, for the dust does not fly
and therefore the halls are not made
dirty lay it. Another thing to remem-
Der about carpets at this season, or
soon. when they are 10 be taken up for
The Spring cleaning. Is that the floors
IT washed shall be quite dry before the
carpets are tackled down again.. Other
wis- The nails will rust and make bad
places in the wool.
Rust may be removed from nicke!
plating by covering The spots with NUT
ton tallow and iettiHs il stand for sav-
erai days. II this treatment is followed
by rubbing with powdered rotten
stone and then BY thOro washing with
strong ammonia, srcC eeded by clear
water. and final polishing with dry
" hitting, stubborn cases will yield
The quickest way Of removing = glass
stopper is TO pour n small quantity of
alcohol around il and on the mouth of
the bottle, touch a match to make a
iiame. When it i done burning pull
ont the stopper. This is the easiest and
quickest way If bottles are large. but
somewhat dangerous if they contain
cornbustiblc ingredients
Dccanters that are stained inside may
be made quite clean by cutting raw
potato into small 6iye and putting them
into the bottle with warm water and