New-York tribune., 1907-10-27

Every community has a damsel who. from her
debut IS relegated to the unenviable class desig-
mated as '-WallfoweTs." She may struggle hraV2ly J
TO make herself attractive TO the men she meets
and her girl friends may combine TO help her 20 n
good time yet it is but the flicker of candle
Eventually she becomes resigned TO her fate, and,
recognizing that no efforts can overcome what
seems to be the decree Of Providence. she with
draws from the scenes of gayety, and either be-
comes cynical takes up ardently some vocation,
such a trained nursing, Settlement work or the
development OF some latent or hoped for talent
Into whatever she undertakes she puts all of her
suppressed energy.
Just what qualities make a girl a wallioWer II
Is hard 10 say but nine times out of ten her social
failure can be traced partially TO shyness. which
the spoiled of the present day VIII not take
pains TO overcome pity, unless she holds gilt
edged securities In this he VIII pay the usual
attentions 10 her at her own home rather than in
public. the average man is coward before the
criticism of his fellows. When it is a question Of
leading his own life" as he phrases it-a short
cut TO destruction of name and fame-he will brave
any amount of deserved abuse, but he shrinks
from few words of jest about the well behaved
''gallhower."
1t is the men who are responsible for the misery
of the 'walihower," for it is they who make girl
popular. If the girl is brotheress good men friends
can make up for this deficiency by many small
thoughtful that take little time but mean much
70 her.
The girl friends of the "wafower" If questioned
TO the reason OF her unpopularity, will often
than not reply that she is general favorite with
them.
woman Of long social experience whose keen
Eympatlies have caused her to hold out a helping
hand 10 more than ''Wallfower" says:
Men often consider some girl stupid when in
fact she knows more than they. Most do not
care TO acknowledge a superior mind in a girl, and
afraid of it. besides being singularly Jealous
A girl TO be favorite has TO be her guard ever
Jest one careless sentence may wound the pride of
the sterner Sex and place them in the position of
,nferiority. For this the clever girl is never for
given Every glimpse of her revves the smart of
the supposed slight to the higher intellect. the
tale is carefully spread at the club other realms
of bachelordou, and one by one her followers de-
Tapt but meaningless attentions Another wall
flower is thus added TO the list.
Clever or stupid, the fate of the wallfower' until
she gives up striving for the enjoyment due every
- normal girl, is one that holds much unhappfness
NJ anc az times is almost uartyrdorn. The dances
that are sat out alone by the chaperon's side are
~ gaming TO the pride, and nowadays dressing
room Is more frequently the refuge for the Up-to-
date chaperon is scheduled for evenings bridge
at any party she may attend, and careful hostessee
or the patronesses Of dancing classes have card
rooms where the chaperons may be accommodated
supper time Is the crucial moment Then the
WalnoWer feels indeed disRraCed and sighted be-
yond the limit of ordinary endurance if she mas no
young man 10 look after her needs and escort her
Tor THIS IS the occasion when with any degree
or sentiment however slight, II may be any
natural feeling Of gallantTy obligation ask the
girl they admire or owe courtesy TO for the
pleasure Of her uninterrupted society until the
dancing shall begin again. Every 'walifower even