The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1907-06-02
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In making a call the guest rises as
the hostess enters the drawing room.
The hostess offers her hand in greeting
and seats herself near the caller so
there will be no excessive formality or
stiffness about the occasion.
The visitor remains from twenty
minutes to half an hour. when she
rises. 1t is not necessary to say any
thing about intended departure. Her
rising from her seat is sufficient init
nation to her hostess that she intends
taking her leave.
| 1t is not considered at all necessary
for the hostess to urge her guests to
prolong their visit. In the case of in
innate friends this is often done, but
with more formal acquaintance it is
| thought to be in bad taste She simply
rises, again gives her hand, and says
something to the effect that the coming
has afforded her great pleasure.
/ Ii no other guests are present she
| usually accompanies the visitor to the
| door of the house, although many
women insist the hostess should go no
farther than the drawing-room door.
| When there are other visitors in the
drawing room, or If the departing guest
be man, the hostess never goes be-
yond the drawing groom door. Like
wise the hostess who keeps butler
| never goes with her guests to the door,
for the butler is always in attendance
upon the hall when there are visitors.
In many homes between 4 and S
o'clock in the afternoon a cup of tea
is always offered visitors The maid
either brings in a tray containing a /
small teapot, silver pitcher of hot I
water, a small pitcher of milk or
cream, or a little dish of sliced lemon I
and a plate of cake, or tiny three-cor- {
nered bread and butter sandwiches. II 1
there is a tea table in the corner of 7
the room the hostess herself makes the {
tea for her guests; but the former
method is now considered smarter
Except occasionally on reception or
at home day 1t is no longer considered
good form to have tea table in the
drawing-room
TWO GAMES.
Amy number of people may be pleas
antly entertained for an hour or so in
the following manner: Let the hostess
provide some lonE-stemmed Jacque-
minot< roses for the ladies, and some
boutonnieres of white and crimson car
nations for the gentlemen, and invite
each guest, in turn, to leave the room
for a few moments while the flowers
are hidden away in some secluded corr
ner, pinned in the folds of a curtain,
placed behind a picture-anywhere out
Of sight. The banished guest is then
asked to return and is told that a
flower has sbeen hidden away, and if
he or she chooses to seek it the hostess
will kindly assist by playing on the
piano while the search is in progress.
The Flower Song would be an APP
propriate selection, played softly until
the seeker approaches the spot where
the posy is hidden, and then more loud
", thus giving a clew to the hiding
place of the prize. The nearer the
to the spot the louder and
saster the music must be played, until
he souvenir is finally captured and fas-
ened VIGOROUSLY in the lady's belt or
N the lapel of the gentleman's coat.
In these days of much letter writing,
when every one is expected to be able
o quote correctly. it would be well for
-oung people to familiarize themselves
With quotations generally termed "fa-
niliar"
It is safe to say that no one be he
yer so clever, can quote correctly. To
rove this some evening when you are
boxing for amusement that will COM
inc pleasure with profit. try the game
f quotations.
Distribute among your guests cards
twelve supposedly we'll
nown quotations. misquoting all save
ne. Announce that to the person word
1g the quotations correctly, and to the
ne selecting the correctly quoted one,
rizes will be given.
When the cards are handed in COM
are them with some standard book of
uotations, and then announce the prize
inners. 1t is unlikely that there will
e any. But there will be lots of mer-
ment, much discussion. and much ref
renee to the authority before your ]
uests will be willing TO acknowledge
lemse1ves to have been mistaken.
THE HOSTESS IDEAL. {
Opinions differ as to what constitutes !
4 ideal hostess, but, according to a
lmber of society women. who were
Gently discussing the subject, here Z
e some of the indispensable qualities r
lie must possess: .
She must make you feel individually
at you are the favored guest. She
ust make you feel perfectly at home. Q
lie must see everything, and yet pos
SIS the art Of seeming to see nothing. @
lie must never look bored. She must i
low how to keep conversation always !
ing. She must never let any one be
GIFTED Or overlooked. She must know