The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1907-07-14
GO SLOW, YE SUMMER GIRLS!
MORE RISK IN SUMNER THAN IN
WINTER ENGAGEMENTS.
Therefore Don't Say "Hes' DEFINITELY TIL
You Get Back TO Town and Away From
the Moonlight Warning From the
Mother or o Manageable Daughter.

gagements is always larger than the winter
crop, and this state Of affairs Is not salts
factory to some persons.
These persons, mostly women, nave a
special grievance against the summer en-
gagement that ends in matrimony. The
summer engagement that ends with the
summer is another story. They have no
fault to find with that. As for the former,
they say that it is not so productive of hap
piness as the winter engagement.
mother about to be separated from her
daughter for the summer addressed hei
thus:
Now mind. Katharine, I will under no
circumstance c~ountenance a summer en-
gagement. Idon't care who the man Is nor
how much in love with him you are nor
how desperately in love with you he says
he is, you must refuse to give a final answer
till We are back in town. Otherwise / shall
turn down his application altogether and
get your father to send him about his BUSH
ness. l am not going to have a repetition
Of Lottie Smiths experience in your case
IL I can help it,"
-Lottie was a silly" the daughter inter-
jected.
so are the majority Of girls with a sum-
mer love afair on hand" the mother
returned.
Lottie Smiths experience was as follows:
She was visiting a girl friend whose mother
owned a fine house at a watering place
where there was a constant round Of enter
tanning day and night. A young man just
graduated from college was visiting the son
Of the family, also just graduated.
He WAS good looking, he appeared to be
we'll bred, and everybody took him at his
face value without inquiring particularly
as to his ~antecedents or prospects. He was
visiting the Blanks, and that was enough.
1t was more han enough for Miss Smith.
who was In her first season and had not been
properly warned by her elders. When the
man made love to her she encouraged him
to an extent which made him propose mar
rage after an acquaintance Of five weeks.
She accepted him without reservations.
agreeing to keep the matter secret till the
end Of her visit, in three weeks.
BY the end of that time. thank to his I'M
interrupted opportunities to see the girl.
she was 80 much in love that when her father
after investigating the young a pros
poets put his foot down firmly and said
NO." she put down her foo with equal
firmness and announced that il she were
not allowed to marry the man Of her choice
at home she would run away and marry him.
As she is an only daughter she had her way.
the marriage taking place in November.
Before the New Year the bride was
wretchedly unhappy, having discovered
what her father had suspected. that the
young man was idle. dissolute in his habits
and inclined to i'll treat his young wife. for
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Had the girl refused to become engaged
till after her return home the marriage
would probably never nave taken place.
the narrator concluded with a side glance
at her daughter. Had she met the young
man in town. Certainly not. 1t would
not have been the same thing at all.
To begin with he would AVE had fewer
chances Of meeting her. Then she would
have been apt to wonder what his occupa-
ton was. or what profession or business
he intended to follow. or if she herself wal
not curious IN these points her mother
would surely be curious. provided she found
the youth dangling around her daughter.
in the city idle young m unless they
happen to be sons Of ~millionaires. are looked
upon with disfavor. while at a watering place
all men pass muster on the score Of idleness
Because 1t means simply a respite from
business. At a summer resort an ordinarily
e%nterprising young man can see more Of a
girl in one week han he could manage
in a couple OF months in town, and under
more romantic circumstances at that.
Il sometimes think that the adage about
mischief and idle hands is particularly
apropos OF summer love making. | once
overheard a man declare that, given a moon
light night within sight of the sea, an or
chestra playing sentimental ditties n a
woman in a chair beside him and he was
bound to make love to that woman no
matter how old or how homely she might
be. He simply couldn't resist the COM
b~ination. and yet he is nearing middle age
and when in own is the least sentimental
of men and one who has not the least IN
tention of getting married.
In the case Of younger men and women,
romantic walks and drives n moonlight
nights, with piazza tete-a-tetes thrown
in, are answeraDle for no end OF enga Re-
place mad the two met only in town.
For instance. there was young Smith,
a nice fellow, liked by all the girls and who
was so hard worked in a brokers Off ce
in spite of the invitations poured on
hun in winter he seldom attended an enter
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the gymnasium better and he really
needed the exercise he got there.
HE hasn't much money, as yet, but he
is in the line OF succession to get a lot, and
he is sure. too, to make money on his W
account. Therefore he is, or was, con-
among the eligibles by mothers with
daughters.
But he showed no great liking for the
society Of young women, and for three
summers in succession spent his months
camping at some out OF the way
place with some other men. Last summer.
TO please his mother, he broke his rule and |
agreed to spend his vacation with her at a |
resort. The result? He came
back engaged They were married this
"Yes, the match promises to be happy.
Nevertheless the girl would nave shown
taste, to say nothing of Judgment, |
had she made him wait for her answer |
till she got back to town in the fall. -Four
is q very short oourtship.
There are very NAM young women.
and their number Is increasing fast, I am
sorry to say. who pride themselves on be-
engaged before the summer is
over in the quickest time possible. in fact,
reaching a summer resort. Some
times this engagement Is broken soon after
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