The Washington herald., 1907-02-10
BY THE ARBITER

child labor ANY courtcses. either social or Official
/ that Lord Ashburtun can extend 20 Mr. smith will
/ be deeply appreciated by Alr. Jones'
Mr.. smith TO Lord AshburtOn.
! London. England
I The informal letter would read.
Washington. y. c. Feb = 1907
/ Dear Lord Ashburton: Ny old friend and col
I league smith, is about 20 sail for England for the
purpose Of investigating the child labor question.
would b. deeply indebted 10 you FOR anything you
( eau do for BIN, socially or officially.
With warm remembrance Of your past faTors. and
/ the hope that yo1 may soon visit America again.
- = YoaS siaeeley. II. JONES.
/ II The letter OF Introduction IS meant TO
f help it should be alive with the person
ality Of the giver. Mere perfunctory let
tars mean nothing yet when one gives
such "a letter he makes a debt which
must be repaid in kind.
The person holding letter OF introduc-
ton should never present it in person
I except it is formal business communi-
cation and his time is limited Then,
naturally, he should carry il directly 10
/ the Office Of the person to whom il is ad-
dressed. but If IL carries with il social
obligations, he should send il by mail.
OF footman. with his card giving his ad-
/ dress in town and the length OF time he
viii remain. This should be Immediately
/ responded 10 by the card OF the person
20 whom il IS addressed, and there should
follow an Invitation Of some kind, and
I the person TO whom the letter is ad-
dressed during the stay Of the bearer. in
his vicinity should do everything in his
power 10 entertain him OF expedite his
business.
Americans are accused Of being indif-
ferent to the obligations imposed by a
letter Of introduction. but there has
never been a more wrongful accusation.
II they pay attention 10 the letter at all.
the tendency Is 10 Overdo rather than
underdo. What they are amiss la is in
not acknowledging quickly letters that
are presented 10 them. That IS due TO
the fact that as a nation we are not
educated up 10 the formal rules that
govern society; It would, perhaps, be bet
ter TO say international society.
\ man naturally should Immediately
give the gentleman presenting him a let
ter Of Introduction. card 20 his club.
and II he is quite sure Of his worth and
standing, he would naturally later on in
vite him TO his house, bat great care
must be observed in asking strangers 10
ones own Preside. II is taken for
granted that women who present letters
are the social equal of those to whom
they are presented, and every possible
courtesy should be accorded them.
III
statement In last Sundays issue Of The Washington
Herald that IL Is net customary for American girls
aud Young women % courtesy &C. older women. Il
has been my experience both here and in New
York and Boston that young girls do courtesy 20
rieir elders, and have quite as good manners as
young women in Europe, % which l am not
stranger.-Alrs. Cosmopolitan
Answer: What you say is quite true.
The courtesy is universal here among
young women OF a certain set. but only
of certain set. In Europe il is univer-
sal in every class of society.
2 Question. I was told on coming 10 Washington
where have passed the winter, that was entitled
20 call on the wives q Cabinet officers without an
invitation. my wealth and standing in society be
ing sufficient introduction and this was horne
cut By Of your articles the subject Of calling
Acting uuon this privilege / have called upon sev-
cral ladies Of the Presidents Cabinet but have had
10 return visits, OF any acknowledgement whatever.
r. r. r.
Answer: Have patience The Cabinet
women receive hundreds of visits in the
season and 1t requires a long time to ac-
knowledge in any way all the calls made
upon them, but you will eventually re-
cetve some intlmation that your call was
not passed unnotieed
3. Question: In one Of your recent articles there
vas question regarding the etiquette Of salutfng
the President. and. If remember rightly. you said
he should always be saluted by those who recog-
nized him. Does this include all the members Of his
family? Should Miss Ethel Roosevelt, for instance
be saluted the public highway, or the young
boys Of the family. as is the custom in Europe with
the royal families 2-Obserant
Answer: No. 1t has never been Gus
tomary to stand uncovered when mem
bers of the Presidents family pass. nor
should 1t be, since il IS entirely against
our republican standards, as pleasant as
the habit undeniably Is.
4 Question If a young man with very limited
income asks a young lady with her chaperou 70
60 TO the theater. is it necessary TO send them
flowers and invite them to supper afterwand? ]. L.
Answer: No. It is IN the very worst
taste for any one to do anything beyond
his means. It may incraase his pride,
but It adds nothing to the respect others
feel for him, or his prestige generally.
3 Question; Ny Dear Arhter: I am in an en-
baTTassing position clerk on only S12oo year
but having what might be called swell oonnec-
tons. have been asked 20 house party on Long
Island. friend Of mine visiting there week ago
tells me that his fees TO the servants for the
three days visit amounted TO so. If I accept this
invitation. as 1 would like to, must l pay this
amount in fees7
Answer: This Is a question OF taste
Ny idea Is that one should never 20 into
a circle "a tho equal Of the other men,
bers where he cannot live up TO the
standards OF thoss with whom he Is as
ISOLATED. 1 once heard OF a man who
pawned a watch, which he had inherited
from his father. for tho wherewlthal to
fee the rervants OF q country house In
which is was stopping One could dis
cuss this question for a week without
reaching any conclusion, but though the
idea may be a snobblsh one. he did per-