Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1907-07-06

They VIII without Hesitation agree To
the sentiments Of their nejghbors for the
reason that they dislike To seem contra
dictcy and poryersc
eun know that mt tjuseS Il makes one
appear rather contrary anu Inspirations
To take the opposite side. and it is often
much easier TO agree with people than to
disagree with them.
Still unless girl has q will of her
own and convictions about right and
speaking sincerely, she does not amount
to much
OF course. there are essentials and
non-eSseutialS.
Ii is never worth while to raise MI Is
sue about mere trihe. but if Il principle
Is involved. one should be as firm as Glib
raltar. Anything is better than being as
soft as putty and as unstable rs fluid.
Beng yourself, in short, implies educa
ZION. responsibility and character. The
personal equation always counts.
| was talking not long ago with a
friend about a dear girl whom we had
both known and loved. She had been
wonderfully gentle and not in the least
aggressive. She never insisted on having
her rights and was ready To concedc Il
great deal that others might hc Contented
and happy | have seldom met any one
less selfish, nor any one more entirely
seIf-poiSed
40 bt SPll -ilptSttl, keeping me haiaIte
steady and doing ones duty pleasantly
without fuss 50 that one may be relied
upon IN every circumstance. l. different
thing from being self-centered
The Selt-centered girl thinks first about
Number One.
The self-poised girl puts Number One
IN the background and is reluctant to
bring her forward or intrudc her ON tho
attention of other people.
ms girl of whom we were speaking
was often in the center Of the stage, not
because She wished to he nut because
Notwithstanding her CentcueSS she was
"A born leader 'She raised the tone of
our whole class" said my friend. be
cause she was SO true and direct and
straightforward. She had no affections
she was always herself
Kate Douglas Wiggin has done girl
hood and womanhood a great service in
her beautiful delineation of 'Rebecca of
Sunnybrook Farm. This fascinating
little heroine is never ANYBODY hut Re
becca, and yet one is sometimes tempted
TO say that there are Il dozen Reheccas
embodied IN that one bewitching person
ality,
This is SO with Il good many girls in
real life. Being yourself does not limit
You necessarily to being single. dull
colorlesS individual.
| once heard II woman at Il farmhouse
door direct her little daughter TO go
to a shop in the village and buy Il
skein of thread. BE sure YOU get me
whity-brown she said. The kind of
thread that may be described as
whity-brown, so far as color is con
cerned. would not compare very favor
ably with more beautiful and more
definite shades You do not need to be
the sort of girl whom that color would
match in order to be yourself
Each of us on different occasions
and H. different moods shows Il different
aspect
In your class or by your side in the
office there may be Il girl whose charm
for you and for her friends lies in the
fact that she 50 often surprises every
one by SOME new and delightful de
velopment. Yet she is always the
same Helen Lillian or Marie.
In the "Autocrat of the Breakfast
Table" DR., Holmes wittily pointed
out that each individual is invariably
to be multiplied by three. But | can
20 father, for | am sure that know
girls who may he multiplied by thirty
The more there is of character and in
dividuality and enthusiasm about a
person. the more potential she will Be-
especially if she is always herself
Once in a while one meets girl
like "Dorothea Brooke" in Middle
The more there is of character and in.
being herself, yet who has so modest
an estimate of her powers and SO eX-
allied an idea of those of another that
she is ready to be effaced and absorbed
though pure altruism
One should guard against this tempta-
ton.
do not want to be too subtle. but
girls IDEAL of herself may be kind
Of angelic nondescript and she may
try so hard to reach it that she may
never be her real self at all.
However, among plain everyday pco-
pie there are not too many like the
beautiful "Dorothea." To live constant
y copying noble idea is far better than
to have no ideal beyond getting ones
own way and having a good time.
Do not misunderstood me. If you are
Yourself you may as well he pleasing
as Il disagreeable self. You may cuti-
yatc the priceless gift of tact and YOU
rcann0t begin TO do this too early
One of the lovcliest girls | ever saw
came up to me one evening where ! had
been facing an audience of 800 college
girls in the very flower of the most
beautiful years in life-the years between
Il and % She was a radiant vision.
With a blush and Il smile she said,
Il am afraid | haven't any talents to
speak Of. and | am sure I've never been
within hailng distance of genius. You
see when I'm at home there are good
many old people and lots Of auntics md
cousins and Il host Of little children
among our kin, and they all come more
or less to our house. / just fit in /
cheer up my grandmother and nurse my
mother when she is i'll and take care Of
the babies so that their mothers may 20
on trips and get rested, and | am so
busy with such little things that | am
afraid I'll never be able to do anything
biz -
/ felt then and ! feel now that few
girls were better occupied than this
sweet home daughter, who was being
herself in Il hundred tactful ways INST
where she was wanted most.
She might not be genius, but she ras
something more l0vable more precious
and more useful filing her sphere NJ ith
sunshine and making up to old and
young. the sum Of whatever they needed.
1t was easy 10 see ia this simple-hcart-
cd. sincere and tactful girl there daelt
the spirit that makes home happy md
restful. for tired folk the spirit ct the
true hnmc-makeT.
Besides tact "a girl should have au np-
probation Of justice.
She who is lust will be far abova all
flattery and self-seekinC. She viii h as