St. Tammany farmer. [volume] (Covington, La.) 1874-current, 1907-03-16
BY Julia Nagroder
Copyright, by Joseph b. Bowles.)

Copyright by Joseph Il. BoWleS-)
cne often hears the expression: oh
she's mans woman!" or She's a
Woman's woman!" and certainly the
differentiation is just. Occasionally
1t happens that the two are com
blned in one person, and then
we may, with the exactness OF
science, pronounce that the secret of
this woman's attraction lies in the
possession of that most subtle, most
difficult of all attributes to define,
which we know as charm.
But charm is very rare. II we
meet with it half a dozen times in a
life we may think ourselves fortunate
We are sure that Cleopatra possessed
1t, all the more so since modern re-
search goes to prove that she was not
beautiful, and we are equally sure that
had she been the most beautiful of hsy
sex and that alone, we should never
have heard Of her. Great beauty is
rare, but as all things are relative
in this life, it would seem that, COM
pared to that prominent power which
we call charm, beauty Is but com.
mon and everyday affair.
Beauty without charm will attract
but not retain, while charm without
beauty will both draw and hold the adj
rliTation. Sometimes the two exist to-
gether, as in the case of Nine. Reca.
E1ier. But can we doubt which Of
these qualities it is that has made hel
live? If her attraction had been mere
beauty, would she have been sought in
marriage at the age of 80 by one oil
the greatest men of his time? True
she is known to have retained hel
beauty to an extraordinary degree, but
that alone and of itself would not be
a sufficient explanation Of this fact
in her history.
;"
But what of the women who belong
t. the SO much larger class, who, with.
cut that rare quality of charm car
both attract and retain the admiration
and affection-whether of women or Of
men?
Evidently, If we reflect we find that
to be what is known either as "a mans
woman" or "a woman's woman" there
must be some powerfully attracting
quality.
Now; what is this quality? The sub
ject seems to fall into two divisions
Observation and reflection point to the
conclusion that an admired and be.
loved woman exercises wholly different
qualities to win the different sexes
What is it in women which mos
pIeases men and what is it which most
pleases women?
The mans woman, it would seem, il
very sure to possess, in some form. the
quality known as feminine. She reec
not of necessity be weak and helpless
indeed, that form of the feminine
may attract, but it will not hold-but
she must have some of the qualities
which specially differentiate her from
man. She must give him, in theil
whole relation, what he could not ge
from any man friend, as social OF
relatlve-the quality which Goethe call!
''the eternal feminine"
An experienced woman who knew
men pretty well once said to the writer
that there was one appeal to which
she had never known any man fail tt
respond-and that was a certain sor
OF cowardice in woman.
Let any woman, she said, no matter
how commonplace or ugly, become ter.
rified by tramp or burglar, or ever
describe herself as having been so
and adds You men have no concep
ton of what that feeling is in a poor
defenseless woman" and the man VII
respond to 1t as cat to stroking!
And why is this? What quality II
man does this course in woman ap
neal to so strongly? Is it his selfish
ness, because he likes the implica.
ton of his superior mental and physi
cal strength? Or is it his unselfshness
because he is touched by the helpless
ness Of another? Whichever it may
be, the fact remains that, although &
man may express approval of pluck5
conduct in a woman, it appeals to hin
on the masculine lines, and he pays i
the same sort of tribute that he woult
pay a man, which is an abstract com
mendation that has nothing to do witt
love or tenderness or any strong ger
sonal emotion.
And nc a man likes the woman who
depends on him and reaches out fol
his support, in like degree, on tint
other hand, ne despises a man FOL