Abilene weekly reflector. [volume] (Abilene, Kan.) 1888-1935, 1907-05-16

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Copyright, By Joseph D. BowlaA)
One often hears the expression: 20
shes a mans womanl" Or 'sEhe's
woman,s womanp and certainly tt
d differentiation 10 Jiist. Occasional
It happens that the two are con
bined In one person, and the
we may, with the exactness 9
science. pronounce that the secret 9
this woman.s attraction lies In tn
possession Of that most subtle, mos
difficult of all attributes to define
4 which we know as charm.
But charm Is very rare. II "
meet with 1t half dozen times in
life we may think ourselves fortunptt
We are sure that Cleopatra possesse'
1t, all the more SO since modern re
search goes to prove that she was no
beautiful, and we are equally sure that
had she been the most beautiful Of be-
sex and that alone, we should neve
have heard Of her. Great beauty 4
rare, but as all things are RELATIVE
in this life, 1t would seem that, com
pared to that preeminent power which
we call charm, beauty ID but a com
mon and everyday affair.
Beauty without charm will attract
but not retain, while charm without
beauty will both draw and hold the ad'
riiration. Sometimes the two exist TO-
gelher, as in the case of Nine. Reca-
mier. But can we doubt which Of
these qualities 1t is that has made heI
live? II her attraction had been mere
beauty, would she have been sought in
marriage at the age Of so by one Of
the greatest men of his time? True
she is known to have retained heI
beauty to an extraordinary degree, but
that, alone and Of itself would not be
a suflcient explanation Of this fact
in her history,
But what of the women who belong
to the 80 much larger class, who, with
cut that rare quality Of charm can
both attract and retain the admiration
and affection-whether of women or Of
men?
Evidently, II we reflect we ind that
to be what is known either as "a mans
woman" or "a woman's woman" there
must be some powerfully attracting
quality.
Now, what is this quality? The sub
ject seems to fall into two divisions
Observation and reflection point to the
conclusion that an admired and be-
loved woman exercises wholly different
qualities TO win the different sexes
What Is 1t in women which most
pleases men and what is 1t which most
plsases women7
The mans woman, 1t would seem, Il
very sure to possess, in some form, thu
quality known as feminine. She need
not Of necessity be weak and helpless
--indeed, that form Of the feminine
may attract, but 1t will not hold7-bpi
she must have some Of the Qualltietl
which specially difterentiate her from
man. She must give him, in theii
whole relation, what he could not gel
from any man friend, as social Of
relatIva-ths quality which Goethe CALI
the eternal feminine" i
An experienced woman who knew
men pretty well once faid to the writer
that there was one appeal to which
she had never known any man fail t.
respond-atid that was q certain soriI
Of cowardice in woman. Il
Let any woman, she said, no matter
how commonplace or ugly, become ter
rifed BY . tramp or burglar, or ever
describe herself as having been 80
and adds: you men have no concep-
ton Of what that feeling is in a poor
tefrnseless woman" and the man vii,
respond 10 II as q cat to strokingl
~ s9fgs -
And wig o thisf What quality h
man does this course In woman ab
neal TO 80 stronglyf Is Il his selfish.
mesa, becAnse be likes the fmpllch.
lion 81 his Superior mental and phySI
cal strength 0rls u his unssIhshhess
because he 4 touched 81 the helpless.
ness Of dnotAeFt WhH6heVsF It. MAJ
be, the TACT remains that, although d
man mar express approval Of pluekJl
conduct In woman. It appeals to hin