The Washington herald., 1907-02-24


ready to set the blame upon some other
woman for every shortcomjng-aye. every
atom CT sin ana wickedness committed by
man.
Now. It seems that women are ever
blamed because men choose 20 be bache-
Tors. Isn't it amazing? More than that
isn't it the most amazing thing one ever
heard or read of before? One writer says:
"Oue Of the main points that girls should
dwell upon to-day when confronted with
proposals of marriage is the fact that
their refusal In many cases opens the door
of bachelorhood TO man, and this through
the ridiculous Importance they attach to
the amount Of money involved in the
early period Of a mans business career"
So much has been written, 50 much more
has been said on what should influence
marriage but when we come right down
20 the heart Of the analysis. let each one
ask himself the question, What IS more
important at such time than the
amount of money involved?' We do not
Giscredlt the sweetness and sentiment Of
love. i is the motive power Of life, the
greatest incentive for ambition. the never
failing reason for sacrifice, the only thing
worth living fer Ia this world, and the
one thing we are taught 20 look for in the
next. But when we come 70. marriage, if
love stands by Itself. it is tho least seDsi-
bic reason that the human mind can con-
ceive. For a girl TO marry a man simply
because she loves him is like catins T.
whole box OF bonboas because they taste
good. We know they are not wholesome;
that we may suffer ii long time for the in
diligence; that il may end in an acute ill
ness. and We be forced TO noXious rene
dies. but we eat them because AZ the mo
ment they are agreeable to the palate
II a woman marries for money she gets
many of the good things of this life. If
Tor social position. her ambition is graft
fed. II for distinction. she has the JOY
og seeing the world honor the man whose
name she bears. but if simply because
she loves him-Well. there is absolutely
nothing more senseless or disastrous.
Girls have married their fathers coach
men because they loved them. and women
OF high rank have run away with their
childreu's tutor or a stroling minstrel
Tor the same poetic reason, but what
have they all come to- Sorrow. degrata-
zion, and untold regret.
Not wholly worldly.
Nor are we looking at this wholly from
a worldly point of view. There never yet
was "a home made that would stand
without love. No family circle is COM
plete-indeed, it never attains the sane
tity of d circle-without the warmth and
glow back OF it Of "a fame that never
dies. Olive Logan once said: Love is the
best thing in the world only when we mix
q little common sense with IT," In mar
riage we must mix great deal Of COM
mon sense with it. Ninety per cent of the
divorce cases to-day are those who mar
ried for love and most Of them those
who had nothing else back of IT,
What do boys and girls know OF the
importance Of money until after they have
had bitter experience? Why. most of the
latter have not the faintest idea with
what unrelenting regularity the grocer,
the baker, the landlord come around
every thirty days. If they are learning it
ga the present generation and are being
more cautious in the step they take for
life, then all praise be- TO them. Il is far
easier 10 work for one than for many,
and the blissful honeymoon lasts but a
little while. In a few short weeks the
dream has vanished. and the pair. just
stepping out OF their teens. realize that
they have the problem OF life 70 face-tO
pay their way.
Love and Salaries.
We are obliged TO smile when We read
that the first fancy in a young mans
life, when it is strong enough TO steer
him into matrimOny on a small salary. is
Ii may be observed that most impulses
of youth are strong. whether the impulse
De from a fair young girl or from cigar
cites. but many of these impulses are
likely TO land the victim in the poor
house OF a reform school. Turned back"
says the writer, into the heart, soul.
brain, or wherever love is first born, ii fire.
qUenty becomes a destroying influence.
He will never be so quick TO fall in love
or marry again. lie viii probably so in
for q business success, anxious to eIimi-
nate the possibility Of being refused
again by some little fool girl because
his purse is not large enough" II this be
true. then let the whole world rise up and
bless the little fool girl who first re-
fuses the youth. If it takes the good,
sound sense Of some sixteen-year-oId 70
he Is one az twenty, then let us all for
once admit that woman Is not the weaker
sex. Let him stay single until he has
established his place i'm the world so
firmly that he is prepared tc know when
and why me loves d woman and how to
make both her and himself happy in their
new life.
Bachelors Not Made.
I'm our opinion bachelors are born. not
made, and women ought TO rejoice that
there is such a charming class Of men.
They are not the hungry-eyed Romeos
and fearless LochinvaTs that Mrs Cath
crime McCullock so patheticaTy spoke Of
in her address before the Evanston
Woman's Club in Chicago. They are.
generally speaking delightful members
of society. who have seen enough Of the
world 10 have done with impulse, and
who know how to make a home OF their
own should they wish TO marry, or add
10 the pleasure OF many by remaining
single Think of the many fine men in
our bachelors clubs who must be smiling
to-day when they read Mrs. AcCulI0ck's
words-"To make laws against these
earnest ones Is simply inhUmau cruelty
They have probably been seeking wives
for years. but their fatal lack OF per-
suasive powers has crippled their efforts
and left them high and dry on the sands
loneliness.
Poor things! Poor. wretched. lonely
bachelors. They should open their doors
10 their spinster friends-I beg pardon, I
should have said to the hosts Of bach
clor girls-aud learn n lesson or two in
persuasive power Who knows how
many of them might be shielded from
the dry. cold blasts Of the sands?"
The Managing Mamma
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