The Washington bee., 1907-01-19

guided souls the mere falling IN ro--.
and sometimes the belief that thev b,,,
fallen in love, IS sufficient reason g.
marriages that are sure to end in dc
aster. When young girls and their oar-
cnts deliberately ignore dangers know
and read OF all men, it IS time 70 IN.
qalre whether OF not there Is some+bi,c
wrong with the bringing up of the
girls of the land. There are casa,
are many theories advanced as 70 tla
prevalence of divorce in this courtry
but the simplest of all is that the mar,
where young girls are thrown acci5ar-
tally into the company of men thsv
never should meet, but when parents
permit their daughters to associate with
men who manifestly are the wr5ny ma
tcrial for good husbands, 1t is a real
crime
There are certain characteristic he
lCrging to 'the right man" that no one
can mistake. He must be honest man
ly, temperate, generous truthful. ener-
getic and independent if the marriage
IS to be success. no matter how madlv
in love the young couple may be. But
suppose he has not these traits. some.
one Is sure to say, are the loving hearts
70 be broken2 VIII not the devotion
o. married life be sufficient to insure
domestic happiness? Well, it might:
but the insurance cOmpaniesWOuld class
this under Extra Hazardous" if ask.
cd to pass upon its merits. These fool
ish people pass by the fact that no young
girl should permit herself to fall in
love with the wrong man, and then
there would be TO vexing problem con-
frcr.ng the young couple.
Marriage is a lottery" old ladies'
will tell you. with their faces drawn
sclemnly down; but don't you believe
it, girls. If you marry a mean. stingy
man there isn't any game of chance
about the troubles are heaping up for
yourself in the future If you marry a
drunkard, is there any lottery business
about his reeling home later on? And
the very sins you condone now will rise
up1 Ike monsters after marriage be-
cause you will have no patience with
them. The arguments you used when
wise friends attempted to warn Won
will be thrown to the winds once YOU
ere brought face to face with the stern
realities of life. If you marry the
wrong man you will need no one to
tel you of that fact after the cere-
rlony. The wonder of it is. with all
the living examples before their eyes,
that girls expect the marriage cere-
mony to transform plain, everyday sin
ners into saints.
he right man IS not fauldess by any
means, butt he is manly enough 10
know that happiness i'll any walk in life
IS founded upon mutual forbearance,po-
hteness and consideration. He is will
ing to be fair and generous in discus
sions and allow that other people know
something. Beware of the man who
IS able 10 advise any living being, no
matter what his standing in life. Your
opinions may not be worth a great
deal, but it IS refreshing to be able
to express them without being sure they
will be laughed at or frowned upon
by the man of the house In the ideal
home, husband and wife are equal. and
the faults and failings of both are kept
from the world religiousIy. This is
only possible where the right man and
the right woman are made one on the
wedding day. {
So don't take too much stock in the
lottery" idea. Find out the character
and disposition of the young men with
whom you associate before you DO min
gle with them. A man may have the
outward appearance of a gentleman and
be a frst-class scoundrel. but he cannot
deceive all the people all the time. IN
less girls and society in general dellb-
erately remain blind and deaf, they are
sure to hear whispers that may easily
be Investigated. Everything tia" They
say" cannot be counted gospel truth.
but it is worth while to find out all
you can about persistent rumors Of
rongdoing. Straws show which way
the wind blows, and no young man
cloaks his real character very long. The
little straws Of conceit, untruthfulness,
intemperance, dishonesty and other kin
dred faults reveal the trend Of the con-
trolling wind of his life, and the maid
en- who refuses to be warned IS mar
rying the wrong man, no matter no"
fair the exterior may be.
Truly it will be a happy period IN
the history of the nation when the pure,
well-bred and charming young women
wait until the right men come along.
DOING GOOD.
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