Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1907-01-05

you Keen your temper and If you fol
J low the cut and dried printed regulation
a. close as possible 10 the letter.
Don { ever attempt 10 taken any liheI-
tles with the good social law as your
ghosen authority on etiquette has sci
q down. and don't get impatient witt
/ rs SoMetlmeS seemingly stupid reStric-
uohS. There is always "A good reason
Tor leaving TWO cards on one. and there
rests significance Ia where You sit.
when you rise or how YOU bow thar
means as much 70 the language of good
manners as accents or teruAina TONS mean
~ rendering your enumeration of the
French tongue Ineligible to the natives
Of that country
Is YOU get on familiar footing witt
the written laws Of good manners puf
each newly acquired bit of Information
INTO pr2cuce in your daily life. Don t
DC satisfied with keeping what Won have
learned Just m your head, and don't DRAG
our yoU newly acquired KNOWLEDGE only
on particular and important Occasions
1ou can never hope to east the smell
of personal charm in that fashion. III is
d3iiy ana hourly utilization of the Tule,,
OF etiquette that gives you the enyiahle
and essential ease in the fulhllment of
graceful clyilities. This is an art like
ihat ~ music. You are bound to prac-
tee IN order to produce delightful ef-
fcctS
The best way to practice the rules of
etiquette is to exercise them daily and
hourly IN your family circle in YOUR of
lice, in the school room and in the nnrs
cry. II you do this consclentiously. ven
soon acquire the quite irresistible habit
OF pohteness, and | must here add that.
aIIer great many years Of effort and
observation, | have discovered that per
sondl magnetism. like neatness. or
ver3city. or study, or punctuality can be
made habit by any one who has the
good VIII and the good ambition 10 try
for its acquisition.
Now, when you have gone thus far
along III the theory and practice of good
ana graceful manners, YOU will be sure
TO und that your investment of time and
effort, IN the study Of how to be agree
able. IS beginning to pay you really big
dividends, II you are a man in business,
occupied with the steady grind of get
ting Your own living you will pretty
soon begin TO appreciate the helpful eff
Iects OF Your improved bearing on your
work. and in your life. Men viii begin
TO IKE you better and more readily. They
VIII approach YOU more freely, listen TO
YOU more attentively. and do You favorS
more gladly because you have learned
now To set them at their ease, to draw
them out. to understand their little
preferences, and to humor their small and
harmless prejudiccs. 1t needs, please re-
member the eye of an expert to detect
the value of a rough diamond, but the
very newsboy in the street is able to ap-
preclate the Importance and the beauty
of a polished one.
Therefore. in this world and day of
progress and competition, the most high
ly lustrous diamond always commands
the highest price and it is the man with
the best learning that receives the first
hAa Yt1n al 1. hrxgl
good with regard to the woman wh0
wishes to succeed in her sphere, wha +
ever that may be. 1t is not beauty and
1t is not wealth alone that will win, for
any healthyminded woman the posi-
ton she covets. If she longs to be the
leader i'll her church work, her family
life, in her club, or NJ a ball. she cannot
lure the admiration, the confidence or
the social power she wants merely by
virtue of 4 fair face or a fun pocket. We
Americans are a very independent and
critical people; fair faces and long bank
accounts are not rarities among us, and
we demand something else i'll our IA
y0riteS
Above all things. we demand to be
won by charm and sweetness of manner
and we are just independent enough to
give all our admiration at the shrine Of
the woman who, without beauty ana
without wealth and without fame for
| her intellectual attachments. is still loved
for her lovely manners.
Social culture is soul culture. Twen-
| ty years ago ! would never have
dared make such statement. So short
time ago there were no such opportuni-
ties open to the aspirant after inStrue-
ton i'll good manners as are now offered.
But nowadays we take our studies in
social self-culture seriously, for we have
learned how essential they are, and
that social culture leads directly to soul
culture.
AS You study the art of being agree
able, YOU study the habit of showing
yourself less self-centered. less agrees
sive, and in short less selfish every day.
For this reason then, ms well as for all
the worldly reasons. | believe most
heartily that the art of being agreeable
is, to take it all in all the highest and
most important art of them all.-Ade-
lade Gordon.