The Marion daily mirror. (Marion, Ohio) 1892-1912, 1907-03-02
,cop,risht, ~ Joseph D bowle..j

i, Cne often hears the expression: "Oh,
she's mans woman!" or She's q
woman's woman!" and certainly the
differentiation Is just. Occasionally
Ii happens that the two are com.
Dined IN one person. and then
we may. with the exactness OF
science. pronounce that the secret of
this woman's attraction lies in the
possession of that most subtle. most
difficult Of all attributes to define.
which we know as charm.
But charm Is very rare. II we
meet with II half a dozen times in q
life we may think ourselves fortunate
We are sure that Cleopatra possessed
it, all the more so since modern re.
search goes to prove that she was not
beautiful, and we are equally sure that
had she been the most beautiful of her
sex and that alone. we should never
hSve heard OF her Great beauty is
raic, but as all things are relative
IN this life. II would seem that. com.
pared to mat preeminent power which
we call charm, beauty Is but com.
mon and everyday affair.
Eeauty without charm will attract,
hit not retain. while charm without
Lcauty VIII both draw and hold the ad-
riiration. Sometimes the two exist to-
gether, as In the case of Nine. Reoa4
riier. But cqn we doubt which OF
these qualities It Is that has made her
live? II her attraction had been mere
beauty. would she have been sought IN
marriage at the age Of so by one OF
the greatest men of his time? True
sno is known 10 have retained her
beauty. 10 an extraordinary degree, but
that alone and OF itself would not be
a sufficient explanation OF this fact
In her history.
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But what of the women who belong
{? the SO much larger class, who, with
Gu; that rare quality of charm can
both attract and retain the admiration
and affection of women or Of
r,en?
Evidently, II we reflect we find that
to be what is known either as "a mans
woman" or "a woman's woman" there
must be some powerfully attracting
quality.
Now, what Is this quality? The CUB
ject seems to fall into two divisions.
Observation and reflection point to the
conclusion that an admired and be-
loved woman exercises wholly different
qualities to win the different sexes
What is IL in women which most
pleases men and what is it which most
pleases women?
The mans woman, 1t would seem, Is
very sure to possess. in some form, the
quality known as feminine. She need
not OF necessity be weak and helpless
indeed that form OF the feminine
may attract, but 1t will not kold--bu.
she must have some of the Qualities
waich specially differentiate her from
mar. She must give him, in thei,
whole relation, what he could not get
from any man friend, as social or
reiative-the quality which Goethe calls
the eternal feminine"
An experienced woman who l;new
men pretty well once said 10 the writer
that there was one appeal to which
she had never known any man fail to
respond.-and tSat was certain sort
of cowardice in woman.
Let any woman, she said, no matter
how commonplace or ugly. become ter
riiied by tramp or a burglar. or eveI,
describe herself as having been so,
and adds: You men have no coucep.
tion OF what that feeling is in poor,
defchseless woman" and the man will
respond to II as cat to strokins!
And why Is this? What quality In
man does this course In woman CD.
neal to SO strongly? Is II his selfish
ness, because he likes the imp!ica-
ION OF his superior mental and physi-
ral strength. Or is 1t his unselfshness,
because he is touched by the helpless.
ness OF another? Whichever 1t may
be, the fact remains that, although a
man may express approval of plucky
conduct in u woman, it appeals to MIN
m the masculine lines, and he pays ii
he same sort of tribute tha, he wuuld
pay u man, which is an abstract COM
hendation that has nothing to do with
ave or tenderness or any strong ,er. |
ionai emotion.
And as Il man likes the woman who
depends on him and reackes out for
his support, in like degree, on the
);her hand, he desplees man for
hose qualities. All OF which goes TO
prove that, Just SO surely as a man
demands OF men TO be maIlly, he de-
Mands of women to be womlnly.
and dependence being an.
!Crent parts OF "the ever woman'y"
hese are essential qualities In the
mans woman. There may be MANY |
,thers that attract, but unless these |
ie there also the other, will fall of |
1eir (Ne effort, and While woman
nay be compllmented and approved by |
ren without possessing these quail
les. sho viii 10, be loved CT chosvl-.