The Washington herald., 1907-10-06
FROM WOMARS
POINT OF VIEW

Il always avoid that woman because
She makes me so uncomfortable with the
bitterness Of her speech against the wom-
en- who happen to claim her attention, "
said a sWeet-faCed spinStUr the other day
when the -uncalled-for criticism Of the
work Of another woman was repeated to
her. THAT is her failing" she continued;
IAN unfortunate one that makes her a
terror To most fair-minded persons"
Yes. it is unfortunate 10 have d nature
that grudges anybody whatever good for
tune may come. that cannot bestow
credit where it is due. and takes pride
in claiming superior ability and achieve
ment II stands IN the way OF advance
ment and prevents the public from hay
ing any hand In making the path TO sue
cess smooth and pleasant II makes
enemies at every turn. even though the
few may do pretty things through fear
Of "a tongue that spares nobody.
The women who get the best in life
are those who are discreet and tactful
and pleasant a few years ago a girl
left her rural home for the city with
boundless ambition and no training for
the work she was bent upon doing she
had education, however, and a firm be-
lief in her ability TO keep "a footing if she
ever got as far as that, and they finally
got her IN the coveted position.
She was unfortunate enough to attract
a man who was placed where he could
be Of considerable business value TO her
and she would have preferred to dispense
with his admiration. She really bunder-
ed in letting him know that. and then
he gave her a lesson which has proved
Of real value TO her You should study
Mrs. Black, he said, and learn what
q woman may achieve with tact. There
is a woman who pleases wherever she
goes and her sources Of information are
numberless and inexhaustible She will
remain at the head OF her profession as
long as she chooses TO work. while YOU
Will never get beyond hack worth If YOU
use others as YOU have seen fit 10 use
me. have no further business with
you"
Apologies never healed the breach be-
cause the mans vanity was mortally Of
Tended Il is a tender spot with the entire
sex, but there are degrees Of tenderness.
of course, and he was in the first class.
The girl has remembered the lesson and
tried hard TO faithfully copy her pat
tern, but is still miles behind her The
pattern is perfect; the imitator still has
10 struggle with strong disikes There
is no room for disagreeable women in
the business world. that she knows. but
she has to fight against an inclination to
resent manners peculiar to the business
world and never tolerated in private life.
Il is easy to get along with ones
neighbors in large cities. because they
remain strangers, whether they live in
the neighborhood one week OF one year.
In the suburbs, I'm towns and villages.
even in small cities. it requires a deal Of
tact 20 steer smooth course between
gossips and disagreeable people. To lis
ten 20 gossip is to court discomfort. to
take part I'm il is extremely dangerous
and decidedly iH-bred. To refuse 10 lis
ten would engender resentment. so the
only other course Is to use tact and direct
the conversation into other channels
without giving Offense. The amount of
quarreling continually going on testifes
10 the small number Of women who pos
sess tact and patience
I have known families to leave beauti-
full homes because the strain Of maintain
ing pleasant relations with all the neigh
bors was too severe. There were war
ring factions between which they acted
as a buffer and the position was nerve
wearing and distressing. They were glad
to change to a neighborhood where they
knew nobody and wanted to know no.
body even though they had to make
many sacrifices, like pure air. a bit OF a
garden, and quiet sleeping hours. As
they could not have everything they
wanted, they weighed the Disadvantages
Of both sides and chose the lesser Of two
evils. as wise people usually do.
BETTY BRADEEN.