Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1907-12-08
ADVICE TO WOMEN.
How One May Grow Old Attract
lively.

Growing old is not a condition to be
dreaded. Youth is delightful and full of
zest. but that is no reason why its loss
should be bemoaned. A woman who
wishes may gain attractveness with each
year she lives. and at thirty be far pref
tier. more delightful and entertaining
than at twenty. This is the working of
the eternal law of averages that never
fails If one will only put it into operation
Only one must understand the situation
and the law and abide by it accordingly
remembering that there is no gain with
out loss. and that to achieve one must
work.
To grow old gracefully is an art, and to
step into, middle age successfully is a
triumph. 1t is women who do this of
whom one hears others say she is better
looking than when she was a girl or is
ever so much nicer than when she was
young" Every woman may be this by
developing attractions which a girl can
The original mistake that many women
make as they feel their youth going is to
fail to bring out the next set of attrac-
tons. Mere youth is pleasing, and be-
cause of it fnuch is overlooked. condoned
or ignored. She is a pretty girl some
one says. and forgives the evidences of
bad temper.
But they will admire more a woman of
middle age who has learned to control her
temper and to show sweetness and self
control when youth would fly into a rage
A niiddle-aged woman who has learned
from life as she has gone on is infinitely
more attractive than girl The former
has gained sweetness and strength in
trial She is more entertaining, has more
tact, more knowledge of how to please
When girl pleases it is simply in the
fact that she is girl; but with this same
power in an older woman there is knowl
edge before which a girl fades into OBJ
livion. The adventures in play is
never a girl. She is always a woman
| past thirty years of age. She must have
age to be clever. but the mental ability
which a woman of that type turns to bad
purposes may in one who is honest and
well-bred be used for the best ends
| For one thing she makes herself helpful
and particular. A certain carelessneSs in
DIRE ssing, that in a girl may be pictur-
esqueness. in a mddle-age woman is
SlovenlneSs. and one who wishes to look
and be her best will not give way to it. 1t
is a mistake to think that because ones
hair is turning gray how it is done up
doesn't matter 1t matters a great deal;
and especial pains must be taken to ar
range it well and becomingly. To try to
wear the same style frock as youth does
| is ridiculous and unbecoming. Gowns suit
ed to the middle-aged figure will not make
one look older They simply harmonic,
and do not by extreme contrast call at
tention to the fact that a woman is not a
| girl. Little airs and SraceS or manner
that were pretty in the girl are ele
| phantine in the woman. Instead of these
there should be a sweet dignity of man
ner that will charm all.
There is absolutely no need to dread adj
lvancing years if only one will advance
with them in dress habits and customs.
Ones friends are getting along also and
all keep on together.
But every one. and especially woman,
should grow old attractively. and not
carelessly. To be too particular about
the neatness and detail of ones clothes,
that they shall be perfectly put together
and becoming. is impossible. Too many
women are careless about this and 1t
makes them look horrid. On the other
hand there is nothing prettier in the
world than sweet and dainty old lady,
and if her character and mind are sweet
as we'll she has more friends and deeper
admiration than ever fall to the lot of a
girl.