The Washington herald., 1907-03-03
SOCIAL TOPICS-THE CODE.

down for the whole family is much more
sensible and economical, and really bet
ter form.
5 Question: In visiting on Long Island two weeks
ago. ] very much surprised to be left entirely
alone in the morning and after my arrival in the
afternoon, not seeing my hostess until the next day
a. luncheon. To be sure, a maid knocked at my
door in the morning. asking when and how would
have my bath. and how and whore ! would have my
breakfast but the mistress Of The house never greeted
me until me assembled in the dining room for the
midday meal. is this the fashionable stunt?-3irs
u. &.
Answer Your hostess followed the ac-
cepted form both in this country and
Europe. It is a sensible and practical
custom for guests 10 nave the morning
TO themselves. and to allow the hostess
leisure for attending to her household
duties. for correspondence. or whatever
business she may have IN hand.
8. Question: Is it correct for young woman to
ride through the suburbs with a married alone
provided his wife knows Of the engagement and
sanctions it'll. T.. +.
Answer. Stupid question. Yes.
Z. Question: 7 am a young woman from the Middle
West who has taken position in one Of the de-
partments here for the purpose Of helping pay my
expenses through college When poverty forced me
70 leave vas already IN the junior year and with
what study am doing nov, expect to finish in
year more. Ny chief is 4 married man. and has
taken the greatest interest in my welfare almost
every day he invites 70 go % luncheon with Kim
and after Office he generally makes il point % walk
uptown with me. ! feel sure that II Is not good
form for me % accept his attentions though they
are meant IN the friendliest way. How can ] dis
courage them! Il would be quite against my ad-
vantage 70 BE- rude and reject his attentions when hts
III vii might secure my dismissal and his good viii
insure my promOfion.-PJUzled.
Answer. OF course II is very bad form
for you TO accept attentions of the kind
you mention from your chief, and viii
undoubtedly result IN scandal which
would hurt you more than the finishing
OF your college course will benefit you.
II might terminate in something you
would never outgrow. Have a frank talk
with him and tell him exactly the situa-
ton in which you are placed. and II ne
has any manhood he will recognize your
embarrassment and help you In the mat
ter, but let no self-interest persuade you
TO involve yourself in such a way that
you might be the subject of gossip in the
department
s Question I want to thank you for the kindly re-
plies sou have sent TO the several questions have
addressed TO you ! am a Senator's wife. I have
never been in Europe yet suddenly ms position
places me among the diplomatic corps ! am din
ing with them constantly and have not the slight
est idea Of how 70 address them-I mean the titled
ones. Prince this and Count that. Baron SORnd- So
Gould you give some hints! or would sou be 50
kind as 20 make this the subject Of especial ar
ticleg
Answer. Why. call them by their titles,
Of course-Prince Salvador. Count Chop
Sticks Baron Macaroni-but when you
are in doubt and a bit nervous lest you
should not do the right thing. and your
failure 10 do so might create criticism in
your husbands constituency, address
titled gentry as sir" That is permits
sible everywhere even with the King Of
England. the Gar OF all the Russias. and
that stickler for etiquette, Emperor VIII
lam.
9. Question: Can you tell me if the Dowsger Pm
cess Pallavicini whose home was in Rome, is stin
liring!-Diplomat.
Answer. Ny last advices from Rome
were that she was still living and. despite
| her advanced age, very happily surround
cd b. a devoted family. That was some
time ago. but I think if she had died in
the last few months you would have seen
extended notices in the papers. for be
sides her rank and title. she is rather an
extraordinary woman, and was born d
Princess compagni-Ludovisi.
NOTE-Tbe Arbiter will he glad to
answer any questions of social
nature that may be submitted. Such
questions should be addressed to
The Arbiter, care of The washing
ton Herald.