The Bon Homme County independent. [volume] (Tabor, S.D.) 1904-1913, 1907-05-09
SHOULD MARRIAGE
SEPARATE CHUMS |
Many Girls Who Have Tried II
Say It IS Sure to Result
This Way.
MANY REASONS ARE GIVEN
Tho Principal One Seems to Be That
Unmarried Ones Do Not Care
to Hear What the
Baby Said.

Haven't you at some time In your life
known two girls who were the closest
OF friends who vowed that nothing
should come between them so long AS
they lived and then seen them drift,
apart in about two months time after
one OF them was married?
1t Is almost always the case. Only
one girl out OF a hundred who marriesl
seems to be able to keep her girl
friends OH the same ground Of intimacy
as before, no matter how hard theI
others may try, and just why 1t Is no.
one seems to be definitely able to ex-,I
plain.
or course the fundamental reason Isl
because the interests are so suddenly
changed. She who has attracted friendsI
as girl finds that very few OF theml
care to listen to long stories of house
hold woes or hear husbands praisesl
sung or his shortcomings poured forth
with tears and regrets. People whosei
interests lie so widely apart cannot ex-
pect to be warm friends. 1t seems to
be part OF the ordained plan, friend
ships must be founded on commont
ground. If they are not they cannotl
last. no matter how great the effort tol
hold them.
But there are other reasons. too,
why girls will drop their best friends
as soon as they marry and, one OF them
is because she who has lately takenl
unto herself husband Is so prone to,
give advice TO those whom she con-
siders less fortunate than herself and
advice is never accepted with the best.
grace in the world.
Not Seeking Advice.
"you really ought to find SOME nice,
man and settle down. You're not asl
young as you were once and II is high
time you were getting married" may
be very good logic, but generally the
girl who doesn't marry has a fc-'
very good reasons for not doing
and considers herself perfectly cap-
able OF deciding that question without
married friend seems to think ii her
duty to continually keep offering.
Sometimes it is the difference In So
cial status or in finances that come
with the new husband that makes such
change in friendships, though that
really counts less than other things. or
two girls who have grown up together
most of their lives. longed for the same
things, and had about the same share
of the worlds goods, il one narries and
finds that she must give up the littlel
pleasures that they have been used to,
sharing together she soon finds that she
must drop behind and either do With
out friends or seek new ones who lookl
at life from the same standpoint. Per-
haps 1t is the other way around. and
with her marriage she enters into AM
entirely different existence, social
round OF luxury and good times. She
may strive harder than ever to keep
her less fortunate friend with her, but
they will be finally swept apart by the
tide of circumstances, {,
Children Make Difference.
Now and then 1t is the children that
make all the difference. IT is certainly
one of the trials OF the unmarried girl
to have to listen to nothing but the
cute sayings OF the baby from the time
she enters the house of her friend until
she leaves. Every rightminded girl
likes children, and she generally likes
those of her dearest friend better than.
other children, but that Is no reason
why the whole horizon must be taken
UP by them, why baby must be the
only topic of conversation OF an after.
Moons visit or why sne must be climbed
all over and mauled and pulled byl
sticky little hands when she has on her
best gown lest she hurt the feelings OF
an over sensitive mother who always
happens to overlook such things her.
self
Now and then there Is young mar
ried womaA who not only makes new
friends but manages to retain all herI
old ones on exactly the same terms asl
before. She is either particularly for.
tunate or else has made study of the
question and understands that she,
must be her same old self IL she wouldI
hold them. She doesn't preach and she
doesn't assume an attitude OF superb
ority, she doesn't pity or envy her girl
friends, and she is interested In other!
things beside those within her own
home circle.