The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1907-10-05
SUCCESS

'Tis the coward who quits to misfor-
tune,
It's the knave who changes each ray,
'Tis the fool who wins half the battle,
Then throws all his chances away.
There is little in life but labor,
And tomorrow may find that
Dream
Success is the bride of Endeavor,
And luck-but meteors CLEAN.
The time to succeed is when others,
Discouraged, show traces of tire;
The battle is fought in the home
stretch
And won-'twix the flag and the wire!
JOHN TROTwOOD MOORE.
A RE you an interesting person?
n Have you any breadth of outlook?
Can you talk about anything except
your own especial shop? If not, you
deserve to be ignored.
Modern life makes So many diver
gent calls upon a persons time and
energy, that he cannot well afford to
waste what little leisure he has on
stupid people. If stupidity were a mis-
fortune like deafness or blindness,
that would be a different matter. But
It is not a misfortune it is a fault.
Everyone at the expense of a little
energy can become interesting-at
least mildly so-and most people don't
even approach it.
1t is not that you need to travel to
see strange sights, to meet brilliant
people. You have merely to keep from
getting swamped in the daily round Of
narrow, petty, material things. When
you occupy yourself with petty things
as most of us must a large share of
our time-you can at least think big
thoughts.
The woman who has nothing to tell
her husband at night except the things
that have gone wrong in the house
during the day, does not deserve to
hold his interest for long. The hus-
band who has nothing to talk Of at
night except his business or his own
branch of politics does not deserve to
hold his wife's interest for long. And
certainly they do not deserve to hold
anybody else's interest.
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NUHING emDelnsnes a hover ike
IN its own foliage; roses certainly
should have nothing more. Lily OF
the valley, hyaclnths, tulips and other
dubious flowers need only their own
pronounced foliage for harmonious eff
feet, and this, used sparlngly, Tor MOTH
ing robs a flower more easily of its
beauty than a preponderance of green.
Chrysanthemums, rudDecKla, goluen
glow, asters, corntower aster and all
flowers of their naDlJ appear rld1cu-
lous with any foliage except their own.
Their long stems make them highly
effective, either in tall vases or mas
sive bowls, and it is almost Impossible
to arrange them ungraceruIly unless
too many are crowded into a small
vessel. Ihey should be cut several
connected with main branch.
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I either accepting or DestOwing an
L attention, manage always to make
the party of the second part" feel
that your act is a peculiar tribute TO
himself.
Don't remark to the woman you are
calling upon that you've been on the
war path all afternoon, ana that hers
is the fifteenth call you nave made.
When a service has been rendered
you don't gushingly exclalm to the IN
dividual: "Oh, thank you; everybody
has been so kind! l mad no idea be-
fore that had so many loyal friends.
In answering letters, avoid mentIon-
ing the weary magnitude or your epls-
tolary arrears. 1t isn't pleasant for
your correspondent, even by implica-
ton to be included among bugbears.
No woman is tiattered by the en-
thusiastic announcement OF a man
that he would do anything for the
ladies'" Everything TOR the lady
would be more to her taste.
Don't acknowledge the acknowledge
ment of a favor with the commonplace
generality: 1T is my greatest pleas
ure to serve my friends. Find some
thing personal to say.
Receive a compliment, however trite,
to yourself or those or your family as
though the thing extolled was a very
gracious and neighDorly discovery.
Have your verbs or social inter-
course-at least as far as the spirit or
them goes-in the second person IN
stead of the third. mere Is a good
deal Of human nature IN most people,
and nothing is more soothing to even
the wisest of us than TO be considered
individually.
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MAR from decreasing, the popularity
II of hand-emDroldereu gowns IS, II
anything, greater IMAM ever, ana
whether the material pc SILK or linen,
chiffon or moussenne, Jnere must
MAIDS ha eome ltrrIe toucn OF hand em-