Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1907-04-27
Matrimonial Ideals.

seldom fires our fancy.
We crave lobster and champagne for
supper when we know we ought to be
eating bread and milk. We long for
chiffons and laces when we are con
scious we should spend our money tor
servceable homespun. We ENJOY novels
when our sober judgment tells us that
we should be improving our minds by
studying history and philosophy. We
would be willing to do without the neces-
sites of life if only we might have the
IuXurleS.
This vagary of the human mind ex-
tends to people. and, generally speak
Eg, no company Is 80 attractive To Us
as that which is bad for our manners
and our morals.
The most important phase of this sub
iect is reached, however, @Vhen a man
or woman is called upon to decide Wheth-
er he or she will marry the one who sets
his or her pulses thrilling, or the one
who realizes every specification of what
u good wife or husband should be.
Unfortunately, those who are most
filled with inward graces are most often
lacking in outward attractions The girl
who is Industrious and domestic, ard
economical, and pi0us, and possessed Of
all the virtues that fit woman to make
her real helpmate TO a man generally
possesses a knohby forehead. skinny
hair. no figure and Il taste in dress that
sets your teeth on edge. On the other
hand. the nrty and frivolous maiden
who hasn't got one single qualification to
recommend her for the job of wife, is a
perfect compendium of charms that
makes her every mans hearts desire.
even though he knows that he will be
taken in if he gets her.
In the same way. the earnest Young
man. who neither drinks. nor smokes
wi L..
the Epworth league and is getting
on i'll business. and bears a visible
stamp of being q. X. on his noble
brow. and to marry whom would he
like putting your money in the saw
ingS bank, niuety-nine times out Of
hundred wears his hair too long
and his trousers too short, and sniff
les when he talks, and steps on your
dress every time he come within TWEEN
~ feet of you.
Whereas the man who is a hope
less detrimental, and whom it would
be suicide to marry. is good to look
upon, good to talk to, good fun to go
out with, and knows every short cut
and bypath to womans affections.
1t is natures great law of com
pensation that parcels out the charms
and virtues instead of bestowing
them all upon some one individual
but it is pretty hard on the one who
must choose between them.
Many Il man has sighed as he
asked himself why the homely rich
girl that it would be so advantageous
for him to marry had not the melt
ing eyes and winning ways of the
poor girl who had shared his fancy.
Many u girl has wept salt and bitter
tears into her pillow wondering why
the rich widower who was counting
her couldn't be young and slim and
dance the twostep. like some poor
clerk that it would be a two-by-four-
fiat fate to marry.
But considering that one must gener-
ally choose between the ornamental and
the useful, which should one take in u
life partner?
should say that a man should al
ways choose his fancy and Il woman
her IDEAL
A man starts into matrimony with 4
certain capital of love tina. is more
apt to diminish tnun to increase. If
woman hasn't fired his Imagination
before the wedding day nothing short of
miracle will enable her to start Il COM
bustion in il afterward. If in the days
of courtship she has raised no thrill in
his breast, to her dying day, no matter
what she does, she will never make his
pulse beat one throb quicker.
Daily observation shows that even
men who were wild about women be-
fore they married them Gained down
AlAto uiIEulN uldlNtI-OI-Idtt ulINt4A iill'Ai
tai unromantic, unattentive husbands as
soon as the ceremony was over. There
fore. a man does wisely to choose the
woman who appeals most strongly to his
taste and raises the most commot1on IN
ms breast, no matter what drawbacks
she has
Women reverse this attitude toward
matrimony, and the woman should pick
out the man who satisfies her judgment
rather than Aer4fart il she c; mot find
man who doesNbUth. This is because
Women's affections are as adh' sive as q
harpacle. and will attach Themselves
to anything in their immediate vicin
Ity. Even if a woman marries withoui
heIng much in love, she will grow
I" love her husband if he is good t.
her
Besides. other things than love en-
ter into a woman's life. \ good home
a. comfortable income. settled posi-
uon in society are not To- be desplsed
and more than these is the freedom
81 anxiety. The woman who never
mas to tear her hair about other
women, who never has to get up II
me night TO open the door for :
drunken huFhaud. is happily married
no matter whether she's got any roman
nc Illusions about her husband or not
Then there Is this also to be con
Sidered-that our fancles are exceeding
y tragile>things and last very Shpr
flme al best. Close acquaintance with
charming scapegrace sheers of the grace
and leaNes only the scrape into which Z
woman has gotten by marrying him, l.
YOU will look about you carefully yot
y" see that the women who are trying
10 reform husbands are not dolnl
mnch palpitating over it, They art
doing il in tears and disgust.
But the good man grows in grace Is
the years 90 by. and hence the woman
who marries the man Of whom bel
sound common sense approves never re
grets it.-IFArothy Dix in New Orleans
Plscayune.
Vi Interest to Women