The Holly chieftain., 1907-05-31
Is He the Right Man

Not until the right man comes
dong 1t would be very com
portable thing, and very consol-
ing besides, if all marriages were
DELAYED until the right man came.
but, unfortunately. too often it is
she wrong man that has a place
n the wedding procession. There
are manv theories advanced as to.
the prevalence Of divorce in this
COUNTRY, but the simplest of all
Is that the marriage too Otter
.akes place between the wrong
persons instead of the right ones.
The sentimental persons rise
ZIP in arms at the thought OF peo-
pie who are not in love marrying.
With some misguided souls the
mere falling in love. and some
lines the belief that they have
fallen in love, is sufficient reason
ior marriages that are sure to end
IN disaster. When young girls
ana their parents deliberately ig
more dangers known and read OF
all men. it is time to inquire
whether or not there is something
wrong with the bringing up of
the girls of the land. There are
cases where young girls are
thrown accidentally into the COM
Dany of men they never should
meet, but when parents permit
their daughters to associate witb
men who manifestly are the
wrong material for good hus-
bands, it is a real crime.
There are certain charactcris-
tics belonging to ''the right man
tl2at no one can mistake. He
must be honest, manly, temper
ate. generous, truthful, energetic
and Independent if the marriage
is to be a success; no matter how
nadly in love the young couple
may be. But suppose he has not
these traits, someone is sure to
say. are the loving hearts to be
brokeno Will not the devotion
of married life be sufficient to in
sure domestic happiness2 Well,
it might, but the insurance COM
panics would class this under
Extra Hazardous" if asked to
pass upon its merits. These
foolish people pass by the fact
that no young girl should permit
herself to fall in love with the
wrong man, and then there would
be no vexing problem confront
ing the young couple.
Marriage is a lottery old la
dies will tell you, with their faces
drawn solemnly down, but don't
you believe it, girls. Ii you mar
ry a mean, stingy man there isn't
any game of chance about the
troubles you are heaping upon
yourself in the future.
If you marry drunkard, is
there any lottery business abort
his rceling home later on? And
the very sins you condone now
will rise up like monsters after
marriage because you will have
no patience with them. The ar
gumcnts you used when wise
friends attempted to warn you
will be thrown to the winds once
YOU are brought fact to face with
the stern realities of life. If you
marry the wrong man you Will
need no one TO tell you of that
fact after the ceremony. The
wonder Of it is. with all the liv-
ing examples before their eyes,
that girls expect the marriage
ceremony to transform plain,
everyday sinners into saints.
The right man is not faultless,
by any means. but he is manly
enough to know that happiness
in any walk of life is founded up-
on mutual forbearance, politeness
and consideration. He is willing
to be fair and generous in discus
sions and allow that older people
know something. Beware of the
man who is able to advise any
living being no matter what his
standino in life. Your opinions