The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1906-04-13

| pOSoAU4e. III ANY E..0OMc-3 1AStAoAA
Of Right Kind Tends to Develop
ment Of Highest -obstinacy
VS.. Firmpess-"Be Patient with
the Living" j
BY MARGARET e. sANGsrER.
An old Spanish proverb runs to the
effect that it takes two to make a
quarrel; one can always end it. a. This
is equivalent to saying that. one Ut
two who are contending will have sufi-
cient self-restraint and kindness of
heart to forego the privilege Of the
last word. In the family as nowhere
else on earth, Wills and tempera'ments
t are in danger of clashing, and people
being sure of mutual affection, ex-
press their minds with candor that
may wound the sensitive and leave
uncomfortable memories. I have
known families who were never happy
when separated, though they were al
ways -wretched when together. Incom-
patibility of disposition may work dis
aster to domestic peace, when every
body concerned is high-minded and
honorable. A good man may have a
knack of putting his foot clumsily
where it behooves him to tread deli
cately, and a good woman may have
a trick Of flying off the. handle on
slight occasion. : When such opposite
forces exist in a home, there is great
need to remember the pith of the old
| proverb, 1t takes two to make a quar-
rel. :
The wisest of men declared that a
soft answer turneth away wrath; AS a
rule. this is verify. But there: are
exceptions. In certain moods, q soft
answer is an irritant, an aggravation
of the previous offense, and it's effect
IS that of firebrand upon dry stub
BILE.
While men. and women continue
what they are. human and imperfect,
there, will never be unbroken serenity
and entire agreement in any home I'M
der the sun. An old gentleman once
boosted that lie had lived with his wife
so years, and they had never had diff
ference Of opinion.
"Vera praiseworthy, commented a
plain-spoken Scottish friend, "but very
monotonous" Another man com.
placently asserted that he had dwelt
in harmony with his better half for a
great many years. IF she prefers
red and l prefer blue" he explained,
1--WE always settle the matter by. COM
promising on the blue" An obviously
easy method this was, if a wife were
ready to sacrifice her own desire and
efface her own individuality. A long
course of it would spoil the most rea-
sonable of husbands and make :. him
terribly .self-opinionated, or were. the
pendulum: to swing the other way, and
the wife. forever have the final decit
sion, it would turn the sweetest Of
women into a tyrant of the hearth. Il
Fairness compels the conclusion that
two or more grown persons sheltered
under the same roof, cannot invariably
think alike: =
Nor would it'be desirable that they
should. A stagnant pool is a menace
to health. Running water, foaming
over the rocks, is pledge, of whole
some life in the locality. A stirless
day, when no breeze blows, is less slim
ulating than day when the winds
hold a jubilee. Movement, progression.
even frict ton of the. right. kind, tend
to development of the finest type.
But people may differ without bick-
ering and fighting. They may ex-
press themselves strongly without in
flicting pain. They may. continue to
think differently, and yet live in tran
Quillity, if they choose.
J., 1T takes two to make QUARREL :
One can always, end it, 49,. -.
You might accept my politics." ex.
| postnlated a husband, who was an old
fashioned democrat, to his WIFE, who
was a: radical republican. r.:
II accepted you,. dear. she replied,
"but my political sentiments are. an
Inheritance from, my father, and !
fcannots ;change them any more than ]
can change the color Of my eyes,
THANK. Heaven" he mnrmured,
that You haven't VOTE IT, f..
Some Of us who have no enthusiasm
on the subject of universal suffrage,
are Of the, honest mans opinion. And
yet, If ever. American women in an
insistent majority, should demand suf~
frage,, American men wiz have too
much gallantry to: deny them, and
none Of us anticipate that any fright
full domestic calamities will ensue
from that cause. ~, IN :.
Common sense and mutual good feel
ing, with. due regard for the effect of
quarrels upon the children will usual
~ prevent distressing squabbles in the
home. Hot-tempered people are prone
to say more than they mean. Tact
less folk rush into mistakes. But love
is q solvent that prevails to blend the
most diverse elements. and to con-
ciliate the most obstinate. .# ~
Speaking Of obstinacy, thousands Of
people confuse 1t with hrmness. They
fancy il they cannot be moved from
: position, either BY argument or per:
BuasiOn, that they are showing ten.