The evening times. [volume] (Grand Forks, N.D.) 1906-1914, 1906-10-17
OF Interest to Women

old. In America they believe in it
very much. They are too young. In
England it is neither one thing nor
the other, but everywhere you must
have divorce.
Some OF the English habits are
dreadful. Society ladies have told me
that it is the rule for the English gen
tleman to tire of his wife in five years.
Then he neglects her. 1t is natural If
she goes wrong. Then the men in
India send their young wives back
home to languish for years, unattend-
are unfaithful:
But how to prevent these scandals?
Start at the beginning. Educate your
children to choose the right man-the
right woman. Do it simply and dog
matically. Then say in your daughters
hearing that Mr.. c. is nice young
fellow, and then ask for some pud-
ding. 1t is wonderful what an effect
these little things have upon a girls
mind, if she thinks they are sponta-
neous. Don't sit, you men, behind
your papers and smoke while your
children are entertained elsewhere.
Throw open your house. Make mar
riage market of the dining room Do
your best for your children. Guide
them, but do not force them. Then
We shall have love marriages and
beautiful children.
When man adores his wife, and
she him, what else can happen but
the best that can come of their union?
The child is lovely in features, in
character. physical strength. 1t is
the best that can come of those two.
When money-bags marries money
bags, oh, what a different thing!
remember in German town being
struck by the ugliness of the women
! went back into history, and found
out why. The town has been wealthy
for centuries.
The dowry system of France kills
love in marriage. A man only has a
passing interest in his wife. His wife,
kissed now for the first time on her
lips by man (fOr even her father
has not SO kissed her before, so it is
in France) has a certain sympathy
for her husband, no more. So the
French children are weakly and do
not begin to thrive till they are Is.
The French woman is not pretty till
she moves and talks. But she does
not suffer from pig-headedness she
knows how to yield.
With English and Americans it is
different. They marry for love, and
the children are lovely. When the for
eigner comes to England for the first
time he stands still in the street with
admiration of the women. Are not
the women beautiful" he cries. very
beautiful"
But the English woman is not Ia
ken seriously. In France, if woman
assists her husband in the shop her
name is over the door. If she marries
and continues in business, her maiden
name is over the door, too. In En-
gland, oh no. You can tell by the
lack-luster faces. Faces that are
used to command, to gain interest,
and have work in life, are alert, in
telligent and animated. The English
woman is beautiful, but she is not
taken seriously.
Another condition in America.
There it is case of super-woman and
man. Yet they marry for love. The
beauty of the women throughout the
United States transfiXed ME; was
struck dumb. They would be per-
feet If it were not for their hands,
which are knotty and clumsy. The
nation is too young to have developed
fine hands.
One trouble is there is too much of
cant. And there is most in the middle
class. l do not agree with the middle
class attitude. 1t is not natural as
the so-called lower and the sO-called
upper.
If spoke in suburb as l speak at
the West End Hotel what would hap
pen? Half my audience would get up
and leave. The ladies would be suffer-
ing from what call "shockingitis. :"
l have no sympathy with them. The
lady who listens is not harmed, nor
Is she likely to be unfaithful to her
husband. That is not her character.
But for the lady who is shocked and
holds up her hands in horror l would
not like to say the same.
Much mischief comes from what is
called Platonic love. As commonly
understood Platonic love is humbug.
There is Platonic love, but Plato did
not mean what people think he meant
by 1t. A young man may love woman
sOlute passiOnlessness, but a mature
man cannot. What Plato spoke about
was an ideal love. Platonic love, as
it is understood, is out of the question
between men and women of mature
age.
1t is strange how women are at
tracted to men, and what makes them
love. Men are drawn by the beauty,
the fine figure and charm of women.
With women it is different, they do
not care what man looks like, If he
Is the one man. Woman is a spec
ialist. a mOnogamist by nature. Man
is pOlygamous.
Most women like ugly men, or at
least men that are not personally at
tractive. Of course, in saying that
man naturally is polygamous, sup
pose am treading on dangerous
ground, but the fact stands. 1t comes
to me as the result of lifelong study
of the philosophy of Plato. and wide
and long observation.
1t is not my purpose to attempt to
upset the existing social customs of
England or America, or anywhere
else, but l recognize that human ma
ture is not always subject to the laws
of its environment. And If we can
establish better understanding of
nature a great move toward the Sc
curing of happiness will have re-
suited. We are living, too. in a COM
pick age. Man is not alone. Neither
is woman. We are interdependent
We have the advantage of community
And we must understand the sacri-
fees of personal liberty that must
necessarily follow. man to man, wo-
man to woman. Yomen are not furni-
ture, though many adorn the home
Men are not machines. Though MANY