Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-01-07

ioi 'lie siitS OF Ot0erS all help In ma king
out the next years list She can also do
better by taking advantage of many good
thlng5 which now are marked down. BY
| beginning and planning in this WY she
Keeps Christmas all the year. s'sa
| There is another way of don,, this Be
gin now. and give as opportunity suggests
| Itself, without waiting for the arrival of
the great day of gifts. There often occurs
| mt moment for some presenta .Icr.-7a n
| afghan for a newly bedridden invalid, q
I handsome cover for the WORKOUT cushion on
sisters couch. fresh reading for the book
worm.
| Do not wait for Christmas. Do II now-at
| the psychological moment while the desire
| Tor 1t Is fresh and the hope lends 10Y to
| realization. Christmas in all its glory can
| not compare with one Of these ordinary mid
; season days, which grant the supply for the
| genuine need
| Then, when Christmas comes send a card
| or calendar, Or some other merest trife
! 1t can answer the token of the greatest
amount of love.
| In this way the pocketbook which has
: scattered of its treasure here a little and
! there a little all through the year without
| severe drain reaches the holiday with a lit
! tie good gold to give to the needy.
The opposite Is the case when We leave
| every friend of whom We are inspired to
| give to be provided for in the ia5t home
| stretch of shopping.
When the great day comes Il finds Our
! tables loaded with beautiful ba Ioles, out
our pocketbooks In that depleted condition
! to be foregone
/ In what is spent thus is the incomparab BILE
| significance of Christmas. the JOY of which
! Is yelled and the chance of which 8 If, en-
missed altogether by the plan of concanti at
! ing all our forces in one grand day Of out
ward spleEdor.
! It
| Ought to be the benefcent errand of some
good domestic soul who knows her world,
to choose the particular cook book with
which her young bride friends START out. and
especially of those brides who go away 20
live In strange cities and towns
The remark of one young housekeeper re-
vealed the power to depress or exniIarate
between the apparently innocent covers of
recipes. She said that her cook book. writ,
ten by famous novelist, was just like her
Stories and made her see things through
rose colored glasses, even on dark days and
when things burned up.
After all, individuality shows in a cook
book, just as 1t does anywhere e:se, and
there are those into which are breathed the
anxiety of minutes when the oven IS too
hot and the Impotence of the woman whose.
servants cannot be made to take pains and
others which are electrical with disgust for
lax housekeeping.
1T does not require a superhumaa effort.
10 strain gravy says one authority Ar
voted to entrees and meat sauces at the
absence of stock" Most osopIs have to
use water" shifts this cook, las there isn't
one housekeeper in hundred who seems to
know how to manage to have stock on
hand"
Any housekeeper knows that she has Just
as clear a vision of the individuality and
particular kind of bustling activity of The
woman who wrote her cook book as if she
had seen her and known her. To the per-
son psychically sensitive she is a presence
IN the house looking on while her directions
are being carried out.
There are plenty of the optimistic and in
teresting kind from which to choose SUCH,
for instance, as that of a youns cooking
school teacher.
but l do not need to be introduced" said
a young housekeeper to her, ''as l know
you and am awfully fond of you already
| through your COOK book.
Housewives
Especially mothers, should avoid the don't"
habit in dealing with children and servants
1t is one OF the commonest habits In the
home life, and also one of the easiest to
contract. The word don't" really should
be cut out of the household vocabulary.
| This is not because purists object to the
word itself. but because the constant
don ting in some homes comes TO be a
source Of oppression and injustice
Children especially are followed from crib
| to table, from nursery to parlor with con-
| slant calculations of don't" until It seems
! to them that they have been forbidden to do
everything there is to do. Don't do this"
| Don't do that, Don't climb on the
chairs" Don't make so much noice,"
Don't rum" Don't jump" Don't sing"
| Don't play The mother VINO gets into
the habit of don ting her children Invariably
loses control of them. The order instead OF
being obeyed. becomes SO commo apIace and
| is applied in many inconsequential cases,
| that it loses all force, and the child ceases
to obey It or pay any attention 20 Il. In
deed, It seems to me that, In some cases.
don't" is so common that 1t loses all mean
ing or significance to the child at whom il
any thought Of disobedience.
The same Is true with servants who have
Don't make the bed this way" Don't
cook the steak that way" Don't leave the
broom here" and a hundred other don'ts
dinned into them until they either are made
resentful or defiant come to the conclu-
sion that the mistress merely issues orders
like that for the sake Of issuing them.
1t is on the same principle as the theory
that the multiplicity Of laws makes lawless-
ness-aHd Il applies more strongly in the
home than in ordinary community life De-
cause those who are ordered are less de-
veloped mentally than the average citizen
One of the best ways in the world to make
a healthy child hate or despse law and defy
authority IS to cry don't" at him at every
turn. GRACE RILEY CHA RKE