The Montgomery advertiser., 1906-01-21
QUARRELS IN THE HOME.
T Have Known Families Who Were Never Happy When Separated Though Always Wrechsd When together Entire Agreement Impossible in Any Home-Friction of Right Kind Tends
 toDeyelopment of Highest Type

any more than can change the color of myl leyes"
 Thank Heayen.p he rnurmured "that you Some of us who have no enthusiasm on the subject of universal suffrage, are of the honest mans opinion. And yet, if ever American women In an insistent majority. should demand suffrage. American men will have too much gaiantry to deny them- and none of anticipate that any frightfui do-
 nestle calamittes will ensue from that cause. Common sense and mutual good feeling with due regard for the effect of auarreis upon the children will usually prevent dis
 dressing sauabbles in the home. Hot-tem- they mean. Tactless folk rush into mis- | takes. But love is a solvent that prevails to blend the most diverse elements and to conciiiate the most obstinate. Speaking of obstinacy, thousands jof peo- pie confuse itswith firmness They fancy if they cannot be moved from a position. either by agument persuasion, that they are showing tenaeity of purpose and strength of will to an extent that lifts them abov ehteir fellows. Often. instead of ffrmness these people are simply dis playing the temper of a balky horse, or the absurd steadfastnos of a mule that re- in holding fast to a prejudice, or obsti- nate because of an over-weaning self-con- ceit. An ability to see another persons side of the shield, to look at affairs from
  goes far. to reduce obstinacy to its lowest terms, and make people agreeable com rades on the road.
 Note that character amounts to little which is without convictions. About right and wrong we should have positive ideas and maintain them with firmness About questions of policy or expediency we should be open to persuasion or concessions from others.
 whether or not married folk agree. they should not let wrath and bitterness creep into their lives. If arguments and discus sions breed disension they would better be
 waived Anthony TroIlop wrote a brilliant novel in which the hero, man of wide i reading. good family and gentlemanly ante cedents, always knew he right His mulsh obstinacy was the rock on which his wife's heart broke. and which wrecked his domestic peace. If people do quarrel by daylight. let them forgive and forget before they sleep. The vicissitudes of fife
 aer too many, the trials too inevitable, and life itself is too short for any of us to spend l it in foolish quarrels.
 There are very few of us who do not some times need to remind ourselves that we would better be patient with loved ones The circle shall not always remain unbroken. While we are together it is worth while to trampIe down our selfishness and live with those who belong to us in something better [ than mere peace and resignation. in real | joy and gladness and infrequent yielding It, ] tie things that the great thing in our life 1 may be love.
 | Sweet friend, when thou and I are gone, ( Beyond earth's weary labor, | When small shall be our need of grace From comrade or from neiEhbor Past all the strife the toll. the care, And done. with all the aighfng, What tender truth shall we have gained Alas, by simply dying! Then lips teo chary of their praise Will tell our merits over And eyes too swift our faults to see Shall not defect discover. Then hands that would not lift stone Where stones were thick to cumber Our steep hill path. will scatter flowers Above our pillowed slumber. Sweet friend, perchance both thou and I Ere love is past forgivlng, Should take the earnest lesson home Be patient with the living, Todays repressed rebuke may save Our hlinding tears tomorrow: Then patience, cen when keenest edge
 May whet nameless sorrow. Iris easy to be gentle when
 Deaths silence shames our clannor
 And easy to discern the best Through memory's mystic glanor; But wise 1t were for thee and me,
 Ere love is past forgiving,
 To take the tender lesson home Be patient with the living.