Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1906-06-02
The Charm by Which a
Woman Holds Her Admirers.

Admitting and loving are quite differ
ent things, though often COMPOUNDED, for
how frequently one hears a man say.
oh. yes, / admire her very much, but
she is nor the kind of woman 1 could fall
in love WITH
What first attracts q man is beauty,
what holds a man is charm, and a wom-
an may be very lovely, yet possess no re-
tentive charm. Thus 1t Is we see a beau
tiful woman losing her grip on ii mans
affection, while plain woman does not
do so.
Why this should be is rather a vexed
question, but as a general rule it will
be found in such cases that there is none
other than mere physical beauty. no
beauty, it may be. of intelligence, feeling,
or sympathy. 1t matters not how eX-
quiSite Il woman may be in complexion
and eatures; if there is no depth in her
nature she ceases sooner or later to be
attractive.
The beauty of Lady Bessington would
never have fascinated such men as
Thackeray. Wellington, Brougham,
Landseer and Dickens had she not been
brilliant intellectually. Yet even her
beauty, enhanced by her intellect, had
not the same hold over men that less
gifted women have possessed, because,
alas, she was shallow
An Irish poet once said to the lovely
Lady Morgan: Were you a Venus |
should forget you, but you are a Laura,
LeonOra. an EloSa, all in one delight
full assemblage! My idea of you is very
exalted indeed. This in a woman, a
beautiful woman, whom | must ever
esteem. what magic can be so irresisti-
bic in this world 2"
Rachel, the great actress, was not at
all beautiful. but she commanded an adj
1,tra I11o 70 hars 11g1c, nj bfaN
only. for. apart from her talents of the
stage, she seemed to have little or no
power to win such lasting esteem as it
has been given to even very foolish
women.
So it is evident that neither beauty
nor intellect by itself, nor even united,
have any permanent influence over men.
In fact. there is but one irresistible
charm that can conquer when intellect,
beauty, position, money may all fail.
That charm is fascination. And if
there were such beings as fairies to give
gifts tc mortals the best gift a woman
could ask for would be the gift of fasci-
nation. that strange, indefnable intiu-
ence that exercises such strong mag
netlc influence over everyone.
So uncanny was it considered in old
days that it was almost regarded as the
spell Of the Evil One. and certainly in
connected with the power of education,
OF mind over matter
There are two types of fascination,
natural fascination and cultivated fascl-
nation. and. as in everything else the
natural charm far exceeds i'll beauty,
depth and influence the artificial one,
which often degenerates into absolute
hypocrisy and a social veneer, Impress
ing without convincing.
III. fhA r1ln 1sa-t
plumage have the sweetest song, so
some women with the plainest faces
have the greatest fascination.
/ can think of one woman who. though
old and almost ugly, with clumsy figure
and coarse features, yet possessed the
power to attract men away from even
the youngest and prettiest of girls. The
secret was that she made people pleased
with themselves. In her presence they
ielt clever and bright Her conversation
was as dry as champagne, eXhllaratlng
aAd piquant.
The essence of attra ction by sympathy,
real genuine sympathy, but some peo-
pie mistake gush for sympathy. and are
then repellent rather than attractive. as
-uSh Is but forced feeling, possessing no
sincerity whatever.
What men especially admire in wom
an Is femininity. though the gentle, APP
Ieaiing woman who can hardly cross
.f'b W ltiitut IeaF. anu IERDlDllDG- Wup
IaiutS Mt the sight of mouse, or shrinks
III the sight of a spider, is rather out of
5.ate now. and receives more sympathy
before marriage than afterward. as the
charm Of helplessness that may be fasci-
mating III a hancee becomes a bore in the
wife
No, femininity without helplessness is
much more lasting in its grip on mans
affection and when united to true SYM
lathy. tact and intelligence forms an ir-
i'SiStlhie force of fascination. Tactful,
itelHSent sympathy, which can cOmpre-
lend another's most trivia! joy and deep
81 pleasure, and another's slightest grief
ana keeneSt sorrow is the magnet that
draws around a woman a circle of ardent
friends
To be able to descend in sympathy to
inc level of a fool or ascend to the
gelgbtS Of genius means in more mum
Nane matters 2 host of admirers for
woman. as these admirers admire her for
%tEfeclating them.
Everyone Graves for sympathy, and
itfaaps men &c do so more than women,
eng rs this craving is unconScously sell
lNA' a woman must be ready to give her
y MpaJhy without hope Of return, and
men she may perhaps one day get her
.,U@fd IN lifelong friendship or love
A'i4dephla Evening Bulletin.