Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1906-11-27

| love would lend It's rose Color W
every word and act; that each OF the
newly welded couple would be so
eager to please the other, to give
way. that there neither would nor
could be any possibility OF disagree
ment between them. Experience
proves the contrary, with all except
ing the favored few; those who are
in perfect sympathy, or who know
, each other thoroughly; a readjust-
ment of values, of conditions is TAX
ing place, and the period is electric
in its possibilities of storms and misT
understandings
People who are in love should
realize that the more deeply they
are in love, the greater is the neces-
sity that they should be on their
guard to avoid quarrel. There are
two good reasons why this is so: the
one is that love is keenly alive to
the least breath of disapproval, in
tensely sensitive to anything like a
hasty word, and is apt to imagine
that any slightest lack of devoted
attention upon the part of the be-
loved object shows a waning of af-
fection; the other is, that almost all
young lovers are prone at first to re-
gard each other as more than COM
mon clay, and to resent the dlscov-
cry that he or she, who has seemed
scarcely lower than the angels, is
but falllble mortal after all.
Moreover, the extreme desire to
please often defeats its object and
unnecessary sacrifices make one or
both uncomfortable. The first quar-
rel between newly married people is
much to be deprecated, and may
usually be avoided by the exercise
of a little good humored explanG
tion. A man is said to have once
boasted to Archdeacon Paley that
he and his wife had lived together
for thirty years without ever having
a different opinion. The arch
deacon answered: every praise
worthy, indeed; but how extremely
dull"
Nevertheless, II must be doubted
whether Paley was right It is pos
sible that an occasional difference
may add the spice of variety to life,
but too much pepper is not desirable
and the piquancy of dlsputatlon can /
easily be overdone. It's natural ten
dency is to degenerate into nagging |
and the effort to get the last word. |
This, the last word, is among the !
most dangerous Of Internal ma
the husband and wife who |
struggle for 1t are about as wise as
though they were TO contest the pos
session OF lighted bombl There
was once man who said: "I would
not mind my wife's having the last |
word II II were really the last; but
there are always so many last
words!" which Is but another way OF
putting King solomon's famous say
ing that "The beginning of strife is
lake the letting out of water"
Young people sometimes appear to
fancy that the mere act OF going
through the marriage ceremony will
give them domestic happiness, that,
In short, 1t is case OF the old fairy
tales, In which we are told: "They
were married and lived happily for
ever afterwards" On the contrary,
marriage is but the beginning of "A
fuller, broader, more strenuous life,
In which the two must carve out
their own fate, whether for veal or
woe; must seek peace and pursue
II, else they may find strife spring
ing up in their pathway. Those who
would be happy in married life must
acquire the constant habit OF patient
continuance In welldoing. In bear
ing and forbearing, in believing the
best, hoping the best with the love
which is charity that never faileth."
As a quaint old English writer hath
said Newly married people should
burn up in the fire OF their ardent
affection all little ways which are
disagreeable to each other" The
trouble, however, is TO sort these
these ways out in love and charity.
Marriage, like government, must