The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1906-04-27
BY MARGARET F.. SANGsTER

precipitate quarrels with little men of
three and four years old. The boy is
father to the man. In most cases ju-
dicious handling proves much more
efficient with both boys and men than
vehement urging, disagreeable COM
plant and strenuous opposition.
1t is part of the nature of husbands
to present both sides of any question
submitted to them for settlement, and
as a rule they present first the side
that is contrary to, the wishes of their
wives. They do not mean in the end
to deny reasonable requests, but they
must have their little argument. Just
after New Year skit appeared in a
newspaper illustrative of this almost
universal masculine tendency:
Bills to the right of him,
Bills to the left of him,
= Bills in the front of him,
Dad deeply wondered;
Frightful the charge they made,
Senseless the price you paid,
Then on the table laid,
Check for six hundred"
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of thing the American husband is by
way OF doing 50 long as he has a dol
lar in his pOcketbook or an account to
his credit in the bank. He~sets the
heaviest end of life in hard work,
year in and year out, with few holi-
days, big anxieties and short summer
vacations. His wife has all he can
give her, and ne grudges her no surf
ace, yet he must have his bit of fault
finding and his occasional fuss and
fret because he is human and because
he is man and because, being a man,
he likes to say no originally and to be
coaxed into saying yes, by the people
he loves.
1t goes without saying that the sort
of management that suits oneA man
does not suit another. If ever you
lived in the Bluegrass country and
had to do with horses, you know that
riding or driving horses are not to be
treated as if they were machines.
They must, be approached with some
Difference to temperament, to heredity
and to the rules of the road.
Precisely the same rules apply to the
nice and skillfui management of hus-
bands. A tired and hungry man is
not the man to whom one should
bring an unpalatable subject. If you
want to plead for the boy who is
going wrong, who is as much his faith
er's as his mothers son, wait for a fit.
ting moment. Ii you are assured that
there should be change for the bet
ter in household economy, do not Sc
lect time when the market is in a
panic, or the merchant depressed over
uncertainties, to force the thing on his
notice. Married people should remem-
Der that in double harness a team
aeeds to be perfectly matched.
There is 'i1ovel by Anthony Hope
m which there are more misf1t couples
shan one often sees grouped togethe.
One and all they misunderstood each
other and pull the wrong way, with
che. result of continual friction. suspi-
cions and jealousy. A book recently
published gives picture Of a domes-
tic. tyrant who could have been man
aged only by the primitive method of
brandishing a club. This method is
inexpedient and not to be thought OF,
but the few men who by nature and
practice trample rough-shod over their
wives and children, who forget the
first principles of the code that OBJ
tains among gentlemen, are not fit for
matrimony. Fortunately for the hu-
man race such despots are seldom
seen, in civilization.
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A wife who has become mistress of
the gentle art of good management
never bruseQueiy contradicts her hus-
band. She may be quite aware that
he>1s in the wrong, but she waits un-
til the right opportunity comes before
setting him right. She does not make
fun OF him in the presence of mis-,
friends, nor point jest at his expense.
She understands that Difference is in
itself an adornment and that she NAV
maintain her ground as carefully and
successfully without discourtesy as by
vehemenoe and clamor. A little wife
w. tact, the expression of genuine az
lection and the lavishing Of small at
tentions go long way In keeping a
home Z peaceful and happy, and lin
making the man at the head of it
pleased with h;mself. 2
It Is q rare art, that Of living com
fortably with others In order I'd at
tain it, pains must be taken and self
must sometimes be denied. 5;,. s
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are rather helpless. They are not
adopts with the needle, and the few
stitches by way. Of repair that their
wardrobes need should nevey be per
united to ,intrnds upon their notice.