Waterbury evening Democrat., 1906-04-12

as rule they present first the side that is contrary to the wishes of their wives. They do not mean in the end to deny reasonable requests, but they must have their little argument. Just after New Year skit appeared in a newspaper illustrative of this almost universal masculine tendency:
 Bills to the right of him, Bills to the left of him,
 Bills in the front of him,
 Dad deeply wondered;
 1 Frightful the charge they made, Senseless the price you paid, Then on the table laid
 Check for six hundred" Of course he did. That is the sort of thing the American husband is by way of doing So long as he has a dol lar in his pocketbook or an account to his credit in the bank. He gets the heaviest end of life in hard work, year in and year out, with few holi- days, big anxieties and short summer vacations. His wife has all he can give her, and ne grudges her no surf ace, yet he must have his bit of fault finding and his occasional fuss and fret because he is human and because he is a man and because, being man, he likes to say no originally and to be coaxed into saying yes, by the people he loves.
 It goes without saying that the sort ] of management that suits one man does not suit another. If ever you ] lived in the Bluegrass country and had to do with horses, you know that riding or driving horses are not to be treated as if they, were machines. They must be approached With some deference to temperament, to heredity and to the rules of the road.
 Precisely the same rules apply to the nice and skillfuI management of hus- bands. A tired and hungry man is not the man to whom one should bring an unpalatable subject. If you want to plead for the boy who is going wrong, who is as much his fath- er's as his mothers son, wait for fit ting moment If you are assured that there should be a change for the bet ter in household economy, do not se- lect a time when the market is in a panic, or the merchant depressed over uncertainties, to force the thing on his notice Married people should remem- Der that in double harness team needs to be perfectly matched.
 There is a novel by Anthony Hope in which there are more misfit couples than one often sees grouped togethe. One and all they misunderstood each other and pull the wrong way, with the result of continual friction, suspi- cion and jealousy. A book recently published gives picture of domes- tic tyrant who could have been man. aged only by the primitive method of brandishing a club. This method is inexpedient and not to be thought of, but the few men who by nature and practice trample rough-shod over their wives and children, who forget the first principles of the code that ob- tains among gentlemen. are not fit for matrimony. Fortunately for the hu- man race such despots are seldom seen, in civilization.
 
 A wife who has become mistress oi the gentle art of good management never brusequeiy contradicts her hus. band. She may be quite aware thai he is in the wrong. but she waits un' til the right opportunity comes befor, setting him right She does not mak. fun of him in the presence of nj! friends, nor point jest at his expense She understands that deference is ir itself an adornment and that she ma, maintain her ground as carefully anC successfully without discourtesy as b, vehemence and clamor. A little wife ly tact, the expression of genuine af lection and the lavishing of small at tentions go a long way in keeping 1 home peaceful and happy, and il making the man at the head of pleased with himself.
 It is a rare art, that of living com fortably with others- In order to at tain 1t, pains must be taken and sel
 must sometimes be denied.
 There are trifes in which most mei
 are rather helpless. They are no |, sdepts with the needle. and the fer . stitches by way of repair that thei , vardrobes need should never be per ' nitted to intrude upon their notjc. D Men should be fed and starched an . meaded 90 unobtrusivsly that thes
 good things would seem to them as |
 the order of daily living. like the sun
 shine and the air
 When Mary married John 1t vas i
 the bond that John should furnish th
 money ca which to keep house, sn
 that the house should be kept D
 Mary. He should not fnd holes in hl
 socks. nor rips in his gloves fi
 should not always be compelled