Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-07-22
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riously to learn aught beyond the routine
of work. and to be deadened by the monot-
ony OF the days.
On the contrary where opportunities are
embraced the individual and the individ-
uals descendants alike are enriched ana
gladdened by the whole measure OF the
added power and virtue.
Self-Denial-
on the part of parents Is one thing and
self-effacement quite another.
The plain man and the plain woman who
have scrimped. and stinted and saved. con-
trived. managed. risen early and sat up late
to send their sons and daughters to college,
to educate them literally. to place them
we'll in the world. are not to be set aside
as of small account when their children ar
rive at maturity.
They are mistaken in allowing themselves
to be pushed to the wall. set in the back
ground. as they sometimes are.
The mother may not know Euclid or have
the coolest acquaintance with Greek poets,
nor understand music. but she does know
q whole world Of science not necessarily IN
books. to which her daughter can gain no
clew through the class room. since lite
must be the teacher.
The father may speak a less ornate YER
nacular than his sons vocabulary, but he
has the shrewdness. the acquaintance with
men. the ripe wisdom. which come only by
intercourse with his fellows, by JOY and
sorrow. and the different phases OF mature
life.
IL the children are made of the right ma
terial they will hold their parents In the
highest esteem for all they have done for
them and because of their own true ster-
ling worth. They will repay the beautiful
self-denial of the parents by devotion
which knows no shade of dimlnution 1t is
an ignoble nature alone which is capable
Of feeling ashamed Of those who belong TO
ones kith and kin on account OF any sim
plicity of manner or plainness or speech.
A Girl at Thirty
is not so old now in estimating as she once
was at twenty. and such Is the advance
from the period when animal charm was
the greater that 1t Is now acknowledged
that at thirtv-five woman is only reach
ing her prime for all the uses and enjoy
1nents of life to herself and to others.
She may not have been particularly at
tractive at twenty. even with the prettineSs
that rarely falls at youth; She may have
had iong-iegged gainftness. shyness, ignor-
anee and other things of a sort to overcome.
But IL she really has contended she now
has won the battle beyond peradyentnre
Thus, the woman between thirty and forty
has acquired a knowledge of the world. OF
men and of things. perhaps OF angels that
enables her to meet and charm those who,
when she was twenty, may have regarded
her as they regard a doll baby-a pretty
toy for the hour. but firing for more than
the hour. -
Even although at forty her hair may
show a thread or two OF silver, they argue
nothing against her charm and effect a
fair skin and rosy color often are pright-
ened and made more attractive by what Is
considered prematurely gray hair. And IL
there are lines about her eyes they are not
noticed when the ewes kindle with intelli-
gence and the lips curve with gentle smiles.
To Maintain Ones Own
opinion, yet not to enforce II obstinately
when nothing is to be gained by so doing. is
the part of wisdom. Nor Is it necessary al
ways to correct peoples errors. What diff
ference in heaven or earth does 1t make
whether Aunt Jemima dined with Aunt Je-
rusha last Wednesday or Thursday? So
insignificant an affair as this sometimes will
engage the family attention and keep them
pickering during an entire breakfast. Let
some things go. If John lost his train this
morning, why waste time, temper and It's
sue in ascertaining who was IN fault? En-
deavor merely to give the good man an
early start for the train tomorrow.
The discussion of politics in the family,
useful and educational as II might be If an
tagonsts could keep their tempers, fire.
quently Is the occasion for storm signals.
Well-bred and amiable people become
transformed. indulge in unjustihable per
conalities. break the home peace simply be-
cause they cannot keep cool when talking
on political issues
Homes which ought to be tranquil. fami-
lies which ought to be contented. are half
the time at swords points over trifies I'M
worthy the discomposure of single hui
man soul. Jars and disorders which might
be avoided by most trihing excuse of self
control and OF common sense constantly are
disturbing the even tenor of friendship and
rnarring the pleasant intercourse of people
united By mutual interests and kindred
blood
Let things pass. Look at opinions and
people in a large. generous way. Have the
minimum OF friction.
ADA MAY KRECKER.