New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1906-01-21
ID O MT S F O r
b a G III E L O r S
By Everett Mcneil


had YOU married.
Don't be continually talking about what a
great beau YOU were in your younger days.
That Won are still unmarried IS sufficient
evidence that YOU were, at least, an unsuccess-
full one.
Don't pose as being superior to woman 5
charms You are not. 1t would be 1mPoS-
sibe for YOU to be superior to the charms OF a
good woman; but you might be inferior to
them Better remember this
Don't become cranky and notlonal and set
in YOUR WAYS. OF course you are minus your
better half; but make the best of the half
YOU have, and you can grow old Iovably' even
though you are a bachelor.
Don't set yourself up an authority on the
cost of living though married. Wait until
Won have bought a womans Easter hat, or an
opera dress. or a set of furs, a winter cloak.
The experience will prove to be great edu-
Gator.
Don't become cynical and try to be wlttlly
smart at the expense of Others, especially the
married. 1t only advertises your own dis
content and envy. Besides, cyniclsm IS a
friend-poisoner; and bachelor needs to keep
his friends.
Don't forget that, since you have no wife
nor children of your own, you should help
others who have 1t will keep your heart
from becoming calloused with selhshness, and
give YOU the pleasant home-teel1ng OF aiding
some one dear to you
Don't sponge" the homes of others. Some
bachelors act as if they fanced that their
friends had married for their especial enter
tainment and comfort. Visit your married
friends often-they may need cheering up
but don't sponge" on them. Also, do some
Of the entertaining yourself.
Don't become a confirmed" bachelor,
which is only a polite way of saying that you
are such fool that you have finally sue
ceeded in convincing yourself that you had
rather remain single. Whenever you begin
to talk in this strain your friends smile and
think of the fable of the fox and the sour grapes
Don't get desperate and marry against your
best Judgment 1t is bad to remain a bach
elor: but it is better to live in single blessed
ness" than in doubled misery. Even the
right wife is the best thing that can happen
to a man, so the wrong wife IS the worst
Beware don't marry her.
Don't be continually advising fathers and
mothers how they should bring up their chill
dren. Your viewpoint will make a sudden
and remarkable change the moment you hold
your own baby in your arms. Besides, even
if YOUR advice is good, the fathers and the
mothers don't want it and won't pay any
attention to it: so what is the of giving
IT. Better keep it until you need 1t yourself
Don't outgrow the love of children Bor-
row the children of your friends and neigh
bors Romp with them; play with them
love them 1t will do your old bachelor heart
good to fill it with the music OF children s
voices \ man needs the love of children
as much as a tree needs sunshine and rain
Without it his heart will dry up and wlther
Don't smile in conscious superiority every
time friend or an acquaintance tells of mar
ital troubles, as if you thanking God fo1
having had the sense not to marry. Perhaps
your good luck" was all owing to the sense
Of the opposite SEX Anyway, it is not much
to your credit that you did not find the right
woman and make her love you sufficiently tC
b marry YOU.
Don't try to convince anyone that you are
thoroughly contented with your lot. If YOU
are sensible man. You know that you would
be a happier man and a more contented man
if YOU were a married man, with a loving wife
and home of your own. Real cOntentment
is found only in a home, and there can be nc
real home without a wife and children. 1t
takes something more than a room and furni-
turc to make home.
Finally, don't give up. As long there is
life there is hope of marriage for almost any
kind Of old bachelor Don't let this hope
get away from you. Hang to it, even the