The midland journal. (Rising Sun, Md.) 1885-1947, 1906-01-12
CHOOsING A HUSBAND.

CHOOSING A HUSBAND.
/. The first requisite for woman
in choosing a husband is an educa-
ton, not such as she gets at Vassar
and Smith, but an education in NOR
ais.
2. The next thing she should insist
upon is clean bill of health. man
or woman contemplating matrimony
should be examined by a physician,
as for life insurance. If there be any
inherited or incurable disease it Will
then become known. In the event OF
an affection that is durable, marriage
should be postponed. If it be proved
beyond doubt that an ailment Is OUT
Of the reach of medical skill, the man
or woman should be brave enough 10
renounce marriage, and take UP some
line of work which may absorb his or
her interests. For in marriage, as IN
all else, the uplifting of humanity
should be the highest consideration.
3. A woman should demand among
the good qualities of her HUSBAND
that he be well bred. The little dell
cac:es of life go far toward oiling the
wheels.
4. She should look for congeniality
of tastes, as well as some quality OF
intellect or it's development. A COZ
lege-bred man and primary scnooi
girl would be hopelessly ill-assorted.
5. She should look for HUSBAND
to whom she would be not only Wire'
but a good comrade. Comradeship IS
one of the strongest ties in marriage.
6. She should never marry man
who asked the sacrifice OF her lhdl-
viduality or permitted her to domln-
ate his. Each has a right to that In
ner self, for each soul comes into the
world and goes out of it alone
Z. AS a rule she should marry
young, always providing she has
sufficient knowledge Of the world. me
ignorance of women in this regard Is
stupendous. But men too are lgnor-
ant. The father should be his son
teacher, the mother her daughters.
s. She should choose young man
preferably, because he then becomes
educated with her. They are likely
to be more adaptable to each otner.
8. A young woman should never
marry a middle-aged man with the
idea of changing him. He will expect
the woman he marries to conform to
standards already fixed.
10. A woman should take some
time to study the character OF the
man with whom she expects to spend
her life.
IL. She should ask above all things
the confidence of the man she mar
ries. II she understands his circum-
stances a woman with any heart will
be willing to make sacrifices and not
run her husband into debt.
12. She should demand an allow
ance and not consent to housekeep-
ing scheme which includes the run
ming of her bills. She should handle
the money she spends and under
stand the value of dollar.
To sum it all up should say that
a woman in marrying should looK
for the man with whom she hopes 10
spend her life. She should marry him
with the idea of becoming the mother
of his children She should have In
mind the way of harmony believe
there should be in the graduate
course of every young man and Wom-
an a series of lectures on marriage,
on the domestic life, the marital bond.
to prepare young people for what lies
before. Not perfection, but human
virtues with human faults is what we
want
If divorce or separation have to
come the man or woman alone may
take up the broken threads and make
a new life. If there be children
blight falls upon them.-Dr. Harriet
| C. Heating, in the New York World.