The Chickasha daily express. (Chickasha, Indian Territory [Okla.]) 1899-current, 1906-07-02
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER.

BY MARGARET Z. sANGsTER.
Dorothy tells me that she has a very
poor memory. Shaking her head as
II the calamity we're something never
TO be remedied. she insists that she
cannot get her lessons or fix anything
useful in her mind because things roll
of It as water runs downhill.
must admit that / have met peo-
pie whose minds were like sleeves, and
whose memories were pockets with
holes. and other people there are whose
power OF remembering seems limited
to whatever is not worth while. But
have always been quite sure that
we may have good memories II we
choose 10 take the trouble to cultivate
them. Memory is a useful servant and
II treated like a servant and held re-
sponsible. 1t will not disappoint its
employer.
There are exceptional cases where an
illness OF blow on the head destroy
memory for a time. II you have con-
cussion OF the brain you will very like
ly have TO pick up your memory of the
past little by little till the fragments
are pleced into whole. Fortunately.
few school girls have eoncussion OF
the brain. Most Of you may remember
whatever you choose. If you have two
excellent qualities, concentration and
attention.
A good rule is to think only Of one
thing at a tine and think Of that with
all your might If the object OF the
moment is a lesson in geography or a
date in history or a proposition in ge-
ometry, think OF that and think Of
nothing else till you have mastered it.
Never mind about Virginia's hat or
Blanche's new dress or the fetching
way in which Evangeline is doing up
her hair. Never mind the teachers
mood of the day, whether she is cross
or agreeable is no affair OF yours. The
thing you have to do is to get hold
OF that date. that boundary or that
proposition.
II you are taking music lessons. cul-
tivate a musical memory. This. too,
depends almost entirely on concentra-
tion and attention. II depends some
what, but not wholly. upon the ear,
but II girl chooses she may learn by
heart some Of the pieces she can play
and then when a tired father asks to
be entertained in the evening. or she
goes to visit her Aunt Fanny. she is
not obliged to carry her music with
her; 1t should be In her brain and at
her finger tips.
A good memory for faces and names
will make you very popular in society
when you are older Memory Of this
kind is cultivated by princes and royal
folk in general. 1t is always a com
pliment to be remembered. and there
is something very like dash of cold |
water in the face when one expects to
be remembered and finds herself for
gotten.
Now that have said this, let me
advise girls to discriminate between
what their memories should carry by |
sheer force of determination and what
they may safely trust to a memoran-
dunn. 1t is not at all needful that you
bear in your memory the streets and
the townships and counties
of all your acquaintances. Commit
these particulars to an address book.
A pad and pencil may vey properly
assist you in keeping the record Of the
days or the weeks engagements.
When once you have written a thing
down and know that you can put your
hand on it at a moments notice, you
need not try to remember 1t as well.
The memorandum is sufficient.
There are girls who never seem able
to remember their lessons, or to re-
appointments they ought to
keep, who still have what | call the
wrong kind Of memory.
If anybody has ever treated them
or done something unkind or
said something they did not like, they
are sure to remember that. I have
heard people boast that they never for
got an injury Let me remind you,
-lIAes lndl luCAC ID nOAhAnS AobAC III
a grudge The thing to do
when anyone has wronged US is. as
soon as we can. to forgive and forget.
We do not forgive unless We forget, =
md the more complete is our forgive
ness the better we are and the more
allied to the Divine.
II Dorothy, conscious Of a treacher-
,us memory, is in downright earnest.
he may without much difficulty
,hange it for a good one. The way 10
10 is to be very firm and stern with
1ou- memory. compelling it to obey
lou. l do not believe very much in
ricks and rhymes and systems for
memory. You may, If
rou choose, try what you can do by as
For instance, fix a date in
Four mind by remembering something
lbout the room in which you were
studying. or the teacher to whom YOU
'ecited. or the color of flower upon
rour desk. Certain dates in my mind
ire associated with red and others with
rellow.