Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-12-09

How
To make Christmas a truly merry Christ
mas Is a question not to be solved IN an In
slant. Every family must consider it from
it's own standpoint. Happiness. even at
holiday time, cannot be put up in great
sack and labeled candy and toys"
We should study our children and find out
what particular thing they are counting
upon, especially when Christmas Is the
great gift-making epoch OF the year and
the children look to it for their annual
store Of games and toys.
But only half our duty toward them will
be done II we have not taught them the
pleasure of making gifts to others.
There is no use in forcing children TO De
liberal or to give up their toys and play
things.
The incest baby has a strong sense Of its
rights over property, and will fight for It's
own toys. But if its rights are not respected
and it is made to give up, 1t becomes
pirate and seizes upon what belongs to
other people.
The moral nature Of child exists In the
germ. and it has to be cultivated just as
the intellectual faculties must be cultivated
In moral training all our approaches must
be made to the heart. No restraint upon
conduct is of any account unless we sue
coed in getting the Child to want TO De
good. He will then try, to be good under
all circumstances, and will enjoy being good
when he is away from US as well as Wnen
he is in our sight.
When child loves his parents and otners
of the family with a hearty, pleasant anec-
ton it is only necessary to direct his ener-
giles, for he naturally desires to please
Them and beneficence is particularly de-
lightful form of showing affection.
If children have an allowance of pocket
money it should be suggested to them that
r4at~ fnyr nff dTr1o
be laid aside to buy Christmas presents,
and they will learn to know the pleasure
of generosity.
A Guest
Makes no claim ON the time Of her hostess.
does not suggest, makes no comments on
matters in the house or on the friends of
her hostess and never claims the use Of the
horses All drives and excursions are
planned by the hostess. To ask the use OF
the carriage in the city for shopping, call
ing on ones own friends or to convey one
to and from entertainments is to make the
greatest Of mistakes. One should accept
such courtesies when proffered as openly
as possible.
A guest does not give directions to ser
want nor does she complain Of neglect. In
most families of moderate means all re-
quests should be made of the hostess. In
large establishments one asks the maid
who attends to the guests room.
A guest who has been staying more than
a night in a house will recompense the
servants with a small fee for all service
personal to her. She remembers all with
whom she has come In contact, down to
the man who has had the task Of bringing
and carrying away her trunk. After a long
visit it is every servant in the house who
must be feed: Large fees are not good
form. From 50 cents to 81 is all that is
well. even after a visit Of some weeks
length
Family affairs should not be discussed in
the presence of the guest. One member Of
the family never should complain to an
other in a guests presence.
A guest should regard as sacred what she
hears and sees in a famfly-not the little