The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 18??-19??, 1906-09-11

fe.H tuD following note from AN old
Iachc.or. / SUSPECT. h il, doubtless.
in much trouble and turns To me 1"E
hep. Ii reads as follows
Dear Sir Sons months ~ yon
wrote = good piece in the SUNDAY
News ana Observer about a young
uai gong ~ see q iday year a4~"'
year. burning all the wood ana OIL
and Keeping her in suspense D. never
u.claltng his intentions.
Won't YOU BE 50 kind as 10 slFr l41
la..c than eleven Thousand subScrIb-
er. of tn. OLD Reliable your 4Ge@
about the way Z good. sweet woman
sho4It DO alter goa tell her your
suInl. DO You think il right Tor "A
woman - keep You ut Z certain place
year after year. by her tact, OF what
ever you may call IT, ,
Il don't strike me that the good
sweet woman" is 70 blame. 1t may
be-. and / think it more than ilkely IL
j., SO. that the good sweet woman
EIe MOI been very vigorously rushed,
49,. me eavilg is. Of course | do not
Iuow the parties nor The clrcuHl-
@.ancee. in this particular case, (fForn
he reading Of the abOye note l Judge
it refers to a particular case) but my
opinion is the gentleman IS 10 blame
for being kept "at a certain plac"
war after yoar." OF what account is
II setter Cpardon the parallel If he
don't flush the birds? OF curse BIRDS
viii keep hid in the stubble untli
flushed. And | Expect that the good
sweet woman referred TO- IS anu
has beer waiting year after year I"
he flushed.
some men changing the fGure)
IRE exceedingly poke-easy, and, in my
opinion its enough 10 worry the pat
ielcc Of Jobs sister waiting the move
uIente Of poke-easy men.
Eut. surprising the man in thlS case
l.. l..ar. ,.l, spt1.. hlN ij0tn actlNf
and p~erseVtring. and that he GOOD
sweet w0man' is unmOVable-she VIII
neither says nea non naY,-but, llke a
mushroom just sits still ana looks
pretty, the question is "hat 10
be dOuc2 We are up against i pro-
I1s!tiOn now that requires careful, IL
not brayerful consideration, for, as |
= there is, and has always been
in the ages past, much trouble right
along here. Many men have dled
IuutrimOniaIIy waiting for answers that
never came to them.
don't know why it is that some
good sweet women are 50 hard TO
court, unless it be that they are too
lu0dest ana too tiImid, to be sufficiently
rt&ro1SiEe to inspire enthusiasm and
- ~rci0ubliug of energy. It's been some
time since | was in the counting bust
mes and I've forgotten u great deal
used To know, but ! shall never for
Pet the fact that 4 good sweet Wo-
nan once KNEW, kept Il liituh u
mine at 4 ''certain pl4Ce'-aS the cor
respondent expresses it-and, do or say
what ne might, there they were: she
a. good and as sweet as she well
could be. ana he as restless as a man
Du trial for his life. Using the figure
If the destruction of Jericho be
marched arOund and blew h truln-
pet; but, seeing no signs of collapse
no indications of a surrender, he fold
eI his tent and marched away from
that "Certain place. leaving the good
sweet Woman alone in her goodness
and Sweetness to hold the fort. He
found another good sweet woman,
pDOder and SWeeter than She-and. in
= short while. he was wondering why
H. had ever been 50 silly as to waste
50 much valuable time trying to make
Il woman love him, when there were
others just as good and as sweet as
she. | don't think it's best for a man
to ask 4 girl more than three hundred
and SiNty-tiVe times TO marry him;
~ which ! mean if u girl, after Il
fellow has told her his mind" does
not agree to name the day, after a
whole years cOurtship. she should be
regarded as ''Sour grapes" and be left
hanging on the vine to be melloWed
and s"eetened by the frosts of win
ter.
Eut / have not yet answered the
question. tn-Wit: what ought a good
sweet woman do after you tell her
Your mind?"
! answer. she ought to do just as she
~lIeases say yes or no; or if she
mas another fellow in view she likes
better, but who has not yet made a
declaration, she has the right to hold
81 fellow in hand and treat him nicely,
Tor a reasonable length of time, to
give the other fellow. whom she
likes better, time to make up
his mind. If the other person is rath-
or slow, of course she must be very
careful how she manages her case. She
can't afford to send the fellow adrift
who has told her his mind, because
hes a bird in the hand, and she MAJ
not get the bird in the bush. 1t re-
qulreS the incest kind of management
~ a case of that kind, and none but
very successful diplomats can success
fully hold the one lover While trying
20 entdngle another.
expect ny friend who wrote the
note is "a bird i'll the hand" 1t may
tHrn cut, if the other bird cannot be
caught, in the years to come. he may
hear a very sweet voice saying, "Yea,''
Iiut if | were in his place, | believe
would move ~tOanOther county or State.
make a fortune, marry a sweet girl and
forever be thankful that the othel
good sweet woman" did not say ives
In years to come he might visit the
old neighborhOod, bringing his gooo
looking Wife and half a dozen sprightly
children to let the good sweet woman
who wouldn't move out of q certain
place. see how unwise she was in moi
becoming his Wife. BY that time she
VIII be considerably wilted and per
maps gray headed. but to be consistent
he should be totally blind to all the
changes which time may have made
ana, instead Of acting in her preSenct
as II he were carrying an old grudgt
gains her, it would be best not to al.
rude TO the past, but treat her as nice
~ as if she were a new found frien(
IN whose presence he very much de.
lighted.
Yes. l believe Ia do that: move of
n find another girl. Times too pre-
clouS to be wasted even on a "goOt
sweet woman" when there are SO man,
more who are good and sweet.
| have lived long enough to lear
that YOU can't make anything of
mule but a mule. You may trim mi
ears and let him have Il fiowin
maae and a long bushy tail, name hir
h~ucephalouS. and imagine him
horse; but to save his life he can't az