Iowa County democrat. [volume] (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1877-1938, 1906-06-14
LEARN TO LET ALONE.
Give People an Opportunity to Devel-
op an Individuality.

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abrade his personality. We need a
radical recasting Of our business hab-
its. giving a large part of the after
noon to the man as opposed TO the
crowd Our marriage laws are based
on the old savage right of possession
of the female. Pauls logic was based
on this conception of the sexes. Yet
every one must be let much alone In
his or her development, in order to
make life wholesome or even moral.
The vice of mixing personalities until
one is broken down, or possibly both,
is as criminal as that crossing oil
races which leads to degeneration.
Babes can be spoiled by too much
handling and fondling. If they sur
viye, they are muddled in their Will
power and disordered in their nervous
system. Boys and girls that are
growing should have their chances
for being by themselves. Tom is
often made up Of pieces OF Dick and
Harry, and probably ends in having
no well.defined character.
This evil runs into our schools,
where the boy is induced to swallow
a lot of maxims, rules, notions, and
80 is a confused medley in his think
ing faculties. In church the matter
gets even worse. 1t becomes crime
to impose the opinions of the best OF
men upon the moral evolution OF
Twining was told what Paul said, he
replied THAT was Pauls opinion, but
this is mine" Is it safe to have
the majority of our folk grow up with
the belief that, where Moses and Pet
er and Paul have expressed opinions,
that ends the matter-there is no
privilege thereafter for private opin-
ion or expression? So 1t Is we are
kept in the crowd through life, and
the crowd is constantly imposed upon
us as law and gospel.
In the flush lyceum days the chlet
trouble Of the whole business was
that our lecturers could never be let
alone. They were entertained, gen
erously to be sure, and benevolently,
but to the total despair of their nerves
and work. Cough writes in his auto
biography that when he got sight of
A.. he felt a special satisfaction, be-
cause he knew when he reached that
city that he would neither be
bothered nor bored. Invariably he
was taken in a closed hack to spe-
cial mansion, where the lady OF the
house met him at the door simply
saying: MT. Cough, your room is
ready for you, and the dining room is
open at all hours" He Was neither
visited nor compelled to visit Wen.
dell Phillips also had his special rest
ing place, in quiet family, that I'M
the need of letting him
alone. But Bayard Taylor positively
refused to go to private house at
all. Give me-" he said "a hotel and
a quiet room and a key to my door.
Keep committees away
This is a lesson worth thinking
about, in our homes as well as in our
public affairs. Do not intrude your
upon your guests, nor let
your guests intrude theirs upon your
self and family. Every household
has it's own special need for health,
and soundness. So
cial generosity does not require of
us to sacrifice our household idiosyn
crasies. The student is soon eX-
hausted If he cannot retreat Friend
ship must take this into account with
great consideration, 1t must not
wear out what it loves Burbank
has the sign up, you are welcome
for five minutes" A great deal of
business can be done in five minutes,
but not great deal of wearing CAB
bio INDUCED in. Many of us need
much contact with vegetable nature
the woods the gardens, the orchards.
We need not find fault with the DR..
Johnsons, who prefer to walk down
the Cheapsides or the Broadways.
There is too much effort to convert
people over to the likeness of other
people II is a drift toward the
mass, and not the man, Too much
has for its aim to create
of sentiment Would not
the world be just as well off, and
even in a healthier state, If every
creed were lost out of sight? The
question, what church do you belong
to or what party do you belong to, is
more or less of an imDertinenCe. The
abolition of slavery frees every man
from belonging to any other person or
of persons. On the whole,
this let-alone business should have
more recognition everywhere.
A LOT IN LIFE,
EnllnIl.N how may hnNl thnir nnrts