Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1906-06-16
ANENT TALKING WOMEN"
Silence Has Soothing Effect, Says Du
luth, Mimi, Herald.


| The soothing effect Of silence is one
that many women might learn TO the
| benefit of those about them. To talk,
express opinions and volunteer remarks
| is the privilege of almost any person, and
one to which they are prone whether
| they should or not. But all the words
OF sympathy and consolation III times of
| illness or trouble may fail many times
before the silent sympathy that expresses
! itself in kindly actions and does not jar
the nerves by sound.
Perhaps If more voices were soft and
| low" silence might not he SO desirable.
! but sweet ones are rare in any cline.
land especially so in this electric Ameri-
can atmosphere. As Il rule they are
strident or hard. high pitched at any
time going up few keys more when
nervous or excited. For a person who
5 tired or nervously or physically i'll
such sound that also demands attention
from its victim is distressing in the eX-
| tremc, and where the other would fail
To soothe and comfort, she may only irr-
tate. Sometimes the kindest thing one
can do for a person who needs com
| partnership or sympathy is To give it
without words. There are many c,iler
ways of expressing it, all more effectual
i1an speech. that as matter of fact
! LILY HltioUhl 10 BplnlHS out SOUND.
1t is difficult to realize that a person
may not care to hear what one has TO
say, but the fact remains that a person
nervouSly exhausted would rather have
| quiet than all the spoken sympathy in
Gus person never wishes to be spoken TO.
Being human they require it. but it
| should not be long drawn OUT nor OF n
kind to excite her. \ few words quietly
spoken IS gratifying, helpful i'm the ex-
L mo- \
~ repeat themselves land that they are
bound 10 do if they talk on the same
subject, who are tiresome ana exhaust
ing.
The best possible sympathy for a
woman who is nervous is that EXPRESSED
IN little acts. There are 50 many little
things one may do for an invalid; merely
getting ready a comfortable chair for
her to sit in or having at hand an anus
ing story to read means thought ON the
part OF the person who does ii, and such
thought means always love and affee-
ton The thing itself may be trivial.
but the affection that inspires it is not.
and of thar the i'll person is perfectly
aware. There never was person who
did not wish all the affection she can
have from those for whom she cares. but
she does net want it always flung at her
! thunderously.
Unostentat'on is most desirable ele.
! ment in sympathy expressed without
| words \ person is not likely to wish
| TO be made conspicuous. and to four
ish what one is doing is tactless and
worse than nothing. Any little atten-
tions should be given quietly it does not
matter If the invalid herself is not aware
Of them at the time, She will be later.
If they are genuine: and when genuine
they are not for recognition but to help
ease pair or suffering
1t is very easy to go make call and
say one IS sorry for something that has
Happened To another; but TO give real
help day after day 10 one in affection
requires tact. sympathy understanding.
and words are less valuable than any
other medimm.-Dnuth Herald