New-York tribune., 1906-08-19

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or merely an impoverished friend of -
daughter of the house she has --. .- been n -. IS
as to put herself IN the power b. --e ueo ME -
insult after insult Is meted oa- ler as a ~.
of course.
The son of the house refer ~ her as ~dori,~
and refuses TO dance with her. daugbter -
ogizeS for her to the gildcd who fre7T5
the drawing room. The mother hose r1e-ra-Ts
plans have been completely urse- r. his faSc;,s-.
stranger attempts 70 turn her oi doors r~.5
the poor girl in self defense Tuar-l e great e.s
the season (in such works, no Sd. .-respect1g a..
son Is without its Pdrtil, who The verv II.
moment has shown himself o. 81. e most nsr-r~
minded of CadS, and so she btl.-. with ar,ra-a-.
satisfaction member OF this a-a BE circle an
in her turn to insult and brov
Whenever YOU read this sC-- u story vow r-,-
feel tOlerably sure that It's aut drawing nv
a fertile but conventional H. .,rariou Tts-
women of this type are insoler- and even rude m
viii deny, but 1t Is only the --lghtful egotlr
of the outsider that suggests tins -udeness IS DE-
signed and prearranged.
Ii was Stevenson, L think, Wl1 bet that i Z.
walked down Piccadillv without lis coat none n
his friends would recognize him ard most Outsiie-s
are in the position OF the coatlc-s S-evenson-no-
that his friends refused to knaa him. bur tbs-
It not among the COatleSS tla, their ewes II.
stinctively rOved III search of their aoquaintance
So with many OF We come home furlrtg
and contemptuous, because the great Mrs Sens
bOdy-by Tar the grandeSt person with whom Vs
ever had bowling acqualntance-ulth whom We
spent delightful half-hOur az the charity bazaar
sign of recognition. Deliberately cut u.s. we explain
To our astonished family How de~picabe the ri,h
are! How SnObbiSh the socially successful. She saw
us perfectly, and looked the other w4y
Facing the Unvelcome Truth
a LAS! my poor friend, IS that not a pleasan-er
belief than 20 face the truth. Mr. Somebody's
very suave and gracious the memorial bic occasion
when YOU FIRST met her, because She SHOWS how 90
be gracious whenever She wants TO. buJ ulhapUly
you never made the least impression upon a-
mental vision She did not remember vOu becaue
she never really saw YOU az all I'm theory she viii
always remember YOU that nice llttle man. wa
was 50 helpful at the bazaar and She would have
been perfectly willing to bow 10 YOU If anyone had
been at hand to tell her who YOU were. To ask her
to make the effort impress Your features upon her
memory Is just a little more than She feels calei
upon TO do.
This is the truth that YOU must rec1 guize # vou
are going swim with these hard and self-suhcieat
iron pots. They are lazy and sel1-Indu gent and Il
Is great deal OF trouble without any certain r.
ward 20 exert themselves for an outsider But Won
say, am not Just as amusing and times better
informed than they: Probably YOU are nv poCt
outsider; but YOU do not speak tle-- dialect, and
ask yourself, II two books were a- va,;r elbow,
frivolous one IN Your tongue, and s-ructlve oas
III a foreign tongue, which YOU vl-i select. G
course 1t IS irritating be ignored ur To- have y0ur
best aneCdOte interrupted No wonder YOU jump
TO the conclusion that nothing .ac deibera-e
desire 70 Snub YOU would induce -l- lole COMPANY
to leave YOU stranded hall a u.u- away ir1m
your point And vet YOU would ic -ons 20 think
So They would have been WIllIu- ugh 10 listen
and were prepared 70 laugh, oul lust az thai
moment some one al the other e.- u the loo@
began talking about some mutual ...--i some ht-e
scandal IN which they were in-c-c-. i, and t1eT
found they preferred 10 listen H. They tlI-
Sot a about you-forgot that vo, there
But such manners YOU viii So. make a bel,
garden. not a society. True and - us keep ol-
OF these gilded halls, and assoc.. rlv with oI
Childhood'S friends. who ,-c .u-se always
polite, always conSiderate. who. -.r interrupt
and never have the bad taste refer ANYONE
to ourselves.