Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1906-09-29

can find a man who can pay her piiis
and give her the ability to write
MIRA on her visiting cards, she Is
moro or less Indifferent whether ne
IA blind, or halt, or lame. The iact
IL that her conduct is due to iar
d,frerent motives. In the first place,
the maternal instinct is strong In
most women. and for this cause
physicaI affllction In man excites
her compassion and sympathy in
stead OF stirring her to repulsion, as
Il does a man. In the second place,
she Is much more affected by her
lovers character and disposition,
provided she really makes his ac-
auaIntance, in bestowlng her love
than she is by the color OF his eyes,
or. even by an erect carriage. Per
haps these idlosyncrasies explain
why It is that woman's love has, as
n rule. been more enduring than
mans since the beginning OF the
world. 1t does not fee away with
the advent OF wrinkles and gray
hair, It does not fade when the light
goes out OF the eyes and the step
falters. II endures as long as that
upon which It is built endures, and
since our character (Which Is but
another name for our souls) Is the
one thing immortal about us. 1t may
reasonably be supposed that the love
OF a good. true woman may outlast
death itself.
But. after all. what is most likely
to make a woman bestow her love
upon a man is his capacity for love-
making. In love. as In most OF the
conduct of life, genius Is merely an
infinite capacity for taking pains"
The man who wins is he who takes
1 the trouble to WOO. And homely
man Is by far more likely to bestir
himself In this respect than one who,
accustomed to admiration from his
youth up. relying upon his personal
appearance as his passport, expects
affection as his due. With most wom-
en- such an attitude upon the part oil
n suitor provokes antagonism. No
woman likes to have any man think
her ready, as the saying goes, to say
Eyes, and thank ye, too" Indeed,
many a woman has refused an OFFER
of marriage from the man whom
she would otherwise have accepted
simply because he showed himself
too confident OF her assent A mans
tenderness and ardor are what make
a woman more surely his own than
ANYTHING else In the world. And the
homely man not only may possess
the qualities OF devoted lover as
much as the handsome man; indeed
In most cases his self-distrust, his
1 disbelief In his own attractions, sc
influence him that he Possesses then
I'm far greater degree. He takes
paIns 10 make himself agreeable, h'
goes out of his way to show his lad!
love all the little attentions SO dea
10 womans heart; 80 to speak, III
offers her devotion upon bende'
knee. instead of by bowling to he
level with an air of condescension.
Unfortunately. some of the bes
men In the world, whether handsom
or not. are prone TO assume th
latter pose with the women they wis
10 wed. They rely upon their soil
! virtues. their honor and integrity,
fasclnate and appeal to the softe
i sex. But these qualities call fort
- resnect. not love. Women like me
o who have time to give to them! Il
y leisure and inclination 20 study the
D. ways, TO remember their likes an
y dlsllkes. and TO honor them. tt
u "ne'er do we'll" often forms gracef,
d habits of flower giving, his busine
90 is frequently set aside for his wo
~ ing, aud thus he nersuades q
woman that his love for her Is q
Is ruling passion OF his life. aud
No won by his charming ways, his pre-
d. ty compliments. many woman Civ
v, her heart and life into the keepil
IN of a worthless. unstable mast
m wooor." dlsregarding the poorly q
!. pressed but genuine devotion of
"A better man. Solid, sober men, loo
ing on, say she prefers frivoli'
n The accusation Is unjust. She