The Jersey City news., 1906-05-04
Useless Methods Of Training
Girls Adopted By Many
Unselhsh Mothers
TRAINING THE YOUNG IDEA
sEyERY INSTRUCTION SHOULD
BE GIVEN AND THEN THE
oHnD SHOULD BE MADE TO
DO ITS DUTY.

bringing up her children and she VIII
sprobably tell you, in a dignihed way, fhat
she is endeavoring to make good men and
women of them, giving them every ao-
vantage she can afford-often denying
Ehey ,elf the bare necessities of life TO DO
so. This is as it should be, in way
1t is but natural that either parent
should be willing and even anxious 70
sacrifice their own convenience for the
benefit of their offspring when occasion
lreauires. Nature attended to that when
Izaen and women We're created. We ind
FattentiVe and devoted parents in the ami
.raal world. And it is the exception and
Ealot the rule to find sel6shness and hard
lEAess of heart allied to motherhood. In
| fact. the deep sentiment of guardianship
Fand protection is one great stumbling
block in the way of good mothers. "
many families grown daughters are not
,allowed to assist in doing work in which
the mother delves from morning until
night, for fear their hands may become
rough and ealioused and unfit for the
ivory keys of piano. Sewing is not con-
sidered proper work. since the fingers
would be pricked and the back bent; and
Is for sweeping. busting and cooking.
any one of these things would destroy
he daintiness of the sweet personality
Ind probably interfere with the daugh-
er's opportunities in life-and by this is
Meant her chance of husband. Many
daughters, after having been so brought
No. are rudely awakened. after marriage,
10 the fact that they are utterly useless
reatures in Gods universt. 10 be elassed
among the eupremely. unfit,
Selfish mothers-there are some such
a existenoe-raise. as a rule, the best
,hidren-the most elf-reliant-the most
Fompetent. A mother who was a tidy.
Industrious housewife and did everything
kerself even to the most trivial things
Ebout the house. waiting upon her chill
lgen like paid servant. once remarked
hat she preferred to do everything her
self and know that things were well
lone. That she could not endure the
Iilly-dallying of her children about GER
ain tasks and the half-done result Now.
his was a selfish view to take, since ev-
ry child must be taught how to do
hings and it takes time and patience to
overcome many evils attending develop
nent. and yet the mother owes it to her
shild to compel satisfactory results.
There is a great difference in the tenden-
eies os children TO be helpful or negli-
gent Some children are horn little work
ers and aspire TO do everything they see
in process of work. Others, seemingly,
take no interest and when called upon to
assist in anything take French made
easy" course and are utterly Indifferent
as to the outcome. But all this can be
remedied by system of training, and
every mother owes it 10 her child as well
as to herself to see to it that each mem
Der of the family does the necessary
work for himself and others and all that
constitutes his share.
A woman once said of her four chill
dren: Il can say this: Two Of my chill
dren when called upon for anything. al
ways respond Immediately with, Yes.
mother, / WILL and never do. The other
two generally say, I will not, but always
do the thing requested" This shows the
strength of natural tendency. Children
who are brought up, or rather, come up
in a slipshod way, soon mature into slip
shod grown-ups. The world is all too
full Of that kind Of people already to
allow for more to follow. It is a sin to
let a child grow up without the knowl-
edge of what he owes to himself and al
80 what he owes to others; without the
understanding of what he can do for him
self and how he can help others. There
is no better training to develop this
knowledge, and develop ii early in life,
SAan the smah tasks and duties of home
life. Each mother has it in her power 10
oaltivate and improve and encourage this
helpful individual spirit of wholesome
usefulness and worth in child. or to
neglect. and by neglect destroy. ALL that
is worth while in early training and home
environment. We cannot make children
over, we cannot achieve perfection. but
We can develop good soldiers along the
march of life.
Mothers must attend to how things are
done at first. When a child comes into
tie kitchen to hlacken bis shoes with
Polish teach him to spFaed down a pa
per and thereby protect the floor. When