The Birmingham age-herald., 1906-04-01

enter my parlor than his eyes filled with tears. and his lips trembieG as he said
 sMr Talmage. my wife and my two daughters have left me and l want you to help me to get them to come back.
 DO you drink?i | asked. No. I never drink" Are you a gamblerH' No, he answered. Are you untrue to your mar riage vows?s No" he again answered
 What Is the matter?' Well. I will tell you" Then he told me a long story. He was very nervous man and therefore very quick tempered There had been a family quarrel, and the mother had taken the two girls and left the house. And
 oh" he said. 'I do love them so much and I am so sorry. What am l to dos Will you help. me?'
 No" l said. T will not. I admire your wife for taking the stand she has done As far as I can make out, you have again and again threatened her life He said "Yes. l have" You have been going off in your ugly fits of jealous rage for at least eighteen years. If anything goes wrong in your house. you work yourself up into a perfect pandemonium of fury You are an unworthy husband, and there is no excuse for your actions. The won der to me is that your wife has lived as long with you. You go to a boarding house and get a room and live there alone long enough 10 prove that you are sin cere in your repentance. Give part of your weekly wages. and I will see that she gets It. and that money will help her support her daughters, while you are away. Then, when your repentance is an evident fact, she. I know. will go back and live with you for she is a good wanm." Yes" he answered. "she Is a good woman"
 Bitter Words a Curse.
 I do not know the history of all your homes, but I do know this: Some are homes in which 1t is absolutely impossi- ble for peace and love to dwell Why? Because in some of those homes there is a father or a mother or a sister or a brother who has never learned to control the temper No sooner does anything gc wrong in those homes than bitter words come to the lips and sharp sayings sting and lacerate, until life itself be- comes a miserable burden to every one around them. God forgive you, my brother. my sister. if you have been one of those who OH account of vile tenn per, become a curse to all about them.
 What are the causes of an ungoyern- able temper? There are two and both are directly or indirectly for the most part attributable to the parents of the man or woman having the vile temper. Father and mother sometimes are too lenient with their children when they raise them. They do not make their children obey. They do not teach them that yes means yes" and no means mo" When their children begin to cry or to pout or to sulk for something the indulgent mothers and fathers say. "Oh. we'll go ahead and do it, if that will stop your crying" The result is that many children never learn to subject their wills to higher will. Allowed to indulge in fits of temper as babies. they are learn ing how to sulx as men. As spoiled chl- dren they kick and scream because they cannot have what they want and as adults they will lash themselves into fury when they do not have what they want in the home or in the store. Solo mon was right when he said, Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he shall not depart from it." large percentage of ungovernable tempers can be charged directly or indi- rectly against wrong parental training. Teach your children to obey. Teach them to recognize other peoples rights, as other people must respect their rights. The next great cause of the ungovern- able temper is the custom of teasing which Is to be seen everywhere around us and especially in the home. We find boys teasing boys, girls teasing girls, men and women teasing men and women. men and women teasing children and even fathers and mothers delightng in | tantalizing their own babies. We find | that people are often more pleased at hearing other people cry and stamp their feet in rage and in seeing their eyes | flash and their fists clinched than in see | ing them smile and be happy Beware, | O man, how you make the angry pas sions of some one else to leap and blaze | Remember that you cannot be true to your loved ones If you suffer their baser | passions to assume the sway.
 | In closing, I would again read to you my text, He that is slow to anger is | better than the mighty and he that ruleth | his spirit than he that taketh city, | You see, it is written in the present tense 1 IL means for you to learn to govern l your temper now Perhaps by laXity of past training you have been guilty of this sinful habit Will you not now begin l systematically to curb your evel temper as a general lays ont campaign to cap | ture city? You say you are not able l to do if in your own strength That is l true, but by the help of Jesus Christ you | can conquer And let me encourage you l by reminding you that this temper is a proof of stored up energy. which, if by the help of God you can bring under con | trol, win fit you for useful service in His | cause. Are you not ready to say. O l Master take my temper and rule it hence l forth by thine own loving power?
 | Copyright, IJv6 by Louis -.lopsch) l