The Union times. [volume] (Union, S.C.) 1894-1918, 1906-10-05
pOINTLtSS PtNNlNGS.
THE ART OF WOOING.

the author has been seriously con- +
the subject in hand, and !
after duly weighing all facts in his |
which by the way are ,
few and with no certain foundation, :
has concluded that his knowledge -,
is even more limited than he at
first realized; said limitations being ;
the facts, that his meagrc expert
encc precludcs positive statements,
and that women are of such varied
and varying natures that no set rule
may lie formulated. However, be
licving that nothing Is ever done
without an attempt, he is going to
hazard his reputation and make the
attempt.
Remembering that young man
should never use tlattery, vain
boastings, and coarse Jokes, nor
should he get on his knees to a
woman, let us now see what he
should do. OF course, we speak OF
mans wooing, for women never 90
the like, or if they do they should
not and are not to be considered.
! The proper use of her charms is not
accounted wooing-that is simply
, being herself.
The prerequisite of all wooing Is
opportunity for conversation and
association. Without this opportu-
nifty, wooing would necessarily be
impossiblc. With it, man learns the
nature of the woman with whom ne
associates; and at the same time
learns more of his own nature. BY
association with others and compar-
| isun. rs has been said before i'll this
column, we learn ourselves and
reach an estimate OF our own selves.
I'm these associations Il man learns
the kinds Of natures possessed hy
women. and in So doing l. alb" to
determine just what kind ot nature
will best mate with his own. 1t lS
u Sow. gradual and half lfumconSrl"uS
NprucrSS, working both upon feeling
ana reason. This i true of sen
.iblc wouing only, for when Il man
is swept off his feet 10y Il woman'S
beauty of face or form, or falls dcS-
pcratcly in love with a pair OF pretty
eyes or head of beautiful hair, it
is not sense or reason at all, hut the
widest and most unreasonable ia
natacism. | say it is n slow pro
cess working upon both feeling and
reason Then when Il mans feel
ing bids him WOO the one decided
upon, and his reason sanctions the
choicc-in other words when feel
ing and reason agree he may be safe
in proceeding TO win the chosen OBJ
iect of his affections. Now how to
do it? :: e,..r.oI.es. .-s..4
r-~~t yo,ir character that We may
learn your nature. Nothing in ma
ture is single and everything in it.
self is incomplete; hence if your
nature be what hers lacks, and if
she be able to Judge Alright, there
will he fully as much desire on her
part to make complete, or to unite
the two likes, as there is desire on
your part. The principal task then,
OF Sultor is to reveal his nature
and let 1t be passed upon. Custom
and tradition require, of course, that
4 little additional coaxing be done:
this may be employed in large or
small degree, according to the tastes
OF the persons concerned.
' In this revelation of character, the
ant # deception has been and is
much practiccd. Men, and women
too, are Su;h accomplished actors
that they can mask their own true
selves and pretend or assume most
noble roles. But that too is i'm the
art OF wooing; all's fair in love
and war"-but, Just what the re-
suits will be, no one will venture to
say. When the wooing is over, the
prize won, and the unmasking be-
gins, men and women both regret
sorely that they masked ut all !
That is their lookout.
Sincerity is probably the next
most important item in the list of
nccessaries" in lovemaking. There
are no tricks that surpass down
right sincerity; as in oratory, sim
ccrity is the one rule.
THAT which issues from the heart
alone,
Will bend the hearts of others to
your own"
says the great Goethe; and that
rule applies here. And the ncces-
sary cause, of which sincerity is a
result, is of course real love. Our
own Timrod says:
Loves the lovers only magic,
Truth the very subtlcst art;