Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-05-06
THE MAKING OF A
SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND

one who Is should be your other self and
from whom you should have no secrets. :.
you could spare her trouble it would be
all right. although, for reasons which 1
snail explain later, do not think 1t the
best way even then. But you cannot keep
your troubles to yourself. Woman,s love
mas keenness of perception that Is super
human. She can detect the slightest phys
zeal or mental variation from the normal
In the object of her love. She knows that
you are sick or worried almost before you
realize 1t yourself How she knows 1t 1
do not attempt to explain, but my expert
ence has taught me that it is useless to try
to conceal such things from your mother.
No matter how free from. pain or care /
may pretend to be she detects the false
note instantly. and my observation leads
accompaniment of love- masculine or femi-
nine. but much more keen in the woman
than In the man.
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With this perception the majority of wo-
men unite most vivid Imagination, and
therefore when the cause of worry Is kept
from them they supply one of their own
Naturally the imaginary trouble Is much
bigger and more terrible than the real one
The visions a woman can conjure up under
such circumstances are seen by man only
in the throes of Welsh rabbit nightmare
So, instead of protecting her by conceal
ment, you simply add to her unhappiness,
or rather. you cause an unhappiness she
would not have felt at ALL in most cases.
had she known the truth. Ny boy, let me
give you one pointer good and strong. Don't
nave any secrets from your wife. What
ever your troubles may be don't tell them
to the policeman, but take them home with
you and unload them the little woman
there who has a marvellous capacity for
absorbing such things and giving in ex-
change a comfort nobody else can ever
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chemist. this little woman. You give her
rusty iron and she gives you gold twenty
four carats fine. She has way Of making
trouble look like 80 cents and sending you
back to work with a lighter heart and a
stronger right arm. l will admit that she
may not be able to resist the temptation
to say, Il told you So. but that Is womans
prerogative and doesn't make her anodynes
any less effective. unless you spoil it all
by flying off the handle like chump No
matter how great your sorrows no matter
how grave your difficulties. she can and
will give you help, and In the helping she
will herself be strengthened. She doesn't
have to go off by herself and NOPE over
imaginary Ills. She has something tangible
to oppose, and 1t gives her certain happ1-
ness to be permitted to stand by you even
in your troubles, to feel that she is your
trusted comrade.
1t doesn't pay, my boy, to treat woman
knows too much to fill that role with sat
isfaction to herself to you The posi-
ton of pampered pet is dstasteful to her.
She averages mentally about as high as the
betrousered half of creation, and she
doesn't want to be ranked with the bric-a-
brac on the parlor mantel- She is just as
useful as she is ornamental, and she's not
going to let you or any other man put her
on the shelf, and, by ginger, she's right.
It's mighty good thing, too, for you and
me and the rest of US fellows that she is
beginning to assert her equality, even II
some of her sex do run over the line You
know l never took much stock In the So
called advanced woman who clamors for
the rights" and privileges of men, not
because l don't think she is entitled to
nearly all she demands, but because 1 think
1t win be a sorry day for her if she gets
them. l believe in equality all right, but
the two sexes are designed for different
spheres Of action. and a mannish woman
q sissy is equally unnatural and alb
horrent. The equality l mean is the
equality of social and domestic position,
the equality of authority. the equality of
interest and the equality of consideration.
The granting of such equality makes a