The Montgomery advertiser., 1906-03-14
CONCERNING WOMAN
 AND HER INTERESTS

ity, must meet and greet her new neighbors. For her a little talk upon the subject may be helpful
 When making a call a visitor asks the servant who opens the door, IS Mrs. Dash at home?" If there are other ladies in the family the words may be Are the ladies at home! or "Are the ladies receivingT If the an swer is in the affirmative the visitor enters without other remark, giving her cards to the servant, or laying them on the hall table in passing. These are left as aereminder that one has called. The servant leads the way to the drawing room door, drawing asioe the portiere, or opening the door. With out knocking on it.
 If a maid neglects to conduct a visl- tor to the drawing room the visitor should enter without lingering in the hall. If the hostess is not in the room when the visitor arrives the visitor should seat herself and await the com ing of the hostess and rise when she enterA
 Servants should be instructed what to do and what to say when visitors call. A lady who allows servant to say, T will see if Mrs. Dash is in" and then sends a message that she wishes to be excused" or is mot receiving, IS showing a discourtesy to a visitor.
 The formula Not at home" Is gem erally used at the door by servant when 1t Is not convenient for nos tess to see anyone. This Is not intend ed as an insincerity, but those who object to the expression may instruct a servant to say Mrs, Dash Is not re- ceiving," or Miss Dash is very sorry not to be able to see anyone this af- ternoon, and wishes to be excused
 When making a call a first visitor If a lady does not rise when another visitor enters if a gentleman he should rise. The hostess rises and advances to greet her visitor by shaking hands. She introduces her guests to each otner, and the new arrival is expected to seat herself near the hostess and the other visitor. The hostess usually says, "yVill you sit here?" or Where will you str" or something equally as in formal and natural, and both seat themselves simultaneously and all con- verse together. The visitor who has been the first to arrive is the first to take leave. hostess rises and shakes hands with a guest who is leaving. If the other visitor is a man he must rise and remain standing while his hostess is standing. If she has but one visi. tor at the moment she may accompany her to the door, if she pleases: but if she has other guests she may not leave
 them. A lady may not accompany a man to the hall. nor does she offer any assistance to him whatever with his overcoat.
 When a visitor is leaving it is not | the custom to urge her to remain, al~ though privileges of intimacy may per l nit one to say, Must you go so soon?' | or something of that sort.
 Evening calls are not In fashion in large cities. 'even among intimate | friends. Persons are supposed to have
 engagements in the evening, either al home or elsewhere, and 1t would be em- | barrassing to arrive as an unexpected 1 guest at an assemblage. In small towns | or country neighhorhoods this rule is not binding.
 1 A woman's visiting card is about | three and quarter inches long by | two and a quarter wide, a card of me- alum size and nearly square being the | prevailing fashion. Simplicity is the