Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-10-21

surely as our action toward It. Belief in
the accomplishment of what we desire and
an intelligent planning for 1t while we
await the propitious moment for action
often will bring about the decided result
without our cooperation, While inpulsive
work without thought often will fall.
Impress the feeling of success on the chill
dren in their school work. Believe sin
cerely that they will be promoted. that they
are not to fail in their recitations, that
their essays are to be excellent, and tell
them SO.
Believe that there is a way out Of your
husbands difficulties, and that he will find
it. even though you do not yet know where
1t lies nor in what way the help will come.
How Do
We forgive? Let us hope that we always
forgive as we would wish to be forgiven.
The Lord loveth a cheerful giver." He
who gives pardons has need Of both love
and cheeriness.
Perhaps we do not appreciate how hard
1t is for some persons to say II am sorry
Perhaps there Is vindictfve streak In
many of us that holds out against our bet
ter impulses. Certain it is that some of us
find it difficult to grant such full and free
pardon that an offense that has been COM
mitted shall be to as though 1t never
had been.
To apologize is rarely If ever a pleasant
TASK OHe may Ieel tndl d certain angry
speech was wrong. but it takes great moral
and spiritual courage to go to the person
with whom one has been irritated and say,
humbly: Il was angry just now; spoke
hastily. VIII you forgive me?'
1t should not require superhuman grace
for the person who has been offended to
accept such an apology in the same spirit
in which it has been offered But too often
the speech of pardon is cold and has a ring
that is not sincere. Once In a great while
1t is accompanied by an acknowledgment
that the suer for forgiveness has been dis
agreeable and that while he Is forgiven he
must remember that an unkind speech can
not%always be forgotten at will.
He who thus receives an apology is far
Their from the right path than he who has
acknowledged his fault The one Is con-
scious of his wrong and admits it and
seeks to make amends; the other is wrap
ped about with a mantle of self-conceit and
Self-right eouSneSS.
Good Temper
Serves as a sort of balance wheel to regu-
late the working of the domestic ma
chinery. curbing the angry outbreak, check
ing the impatient response. adjusting diff
ferences and averting disagreements with
a patient tact that will derive something of
added power from the weight of authority
behind 1t. 1t will act as sort of moral
solvent, in which hardness of mood and
removing sources of friction that hitherto
roughened and spoiled the character.
1t will create an atmosphere favorable to
the growth of all good qualities and senti-
ments, and in which noxious growths, If
they unhappily should appear, finding moth
ing on which to feed, will quickly wither
and die.
And SO powerful will be this influence for
good that 1t Is quite conceivable that the
atmosphere of such a home could be shown
by chemical analysis to differ in its con-
stituent elements from the atmosphere of
a household presided over by a woman OF
sour or violent temper. That 1t will affect
even the casual visitor with a sense of
physical well-being, as the other does with
a sense of physical discomfort, is certain.
Nor is the happy influence excited by a
good temper by any means confined to the
limits of the home. Like the sunshine, it
cheers and animates wherever 1t reaches
Who Is not conscious. when a friend or ac-
quaintance possessing this gift enters the
room, of a thrill Of pleasure, of an in
creased confidence in his kind. and in the
powers that make for good; or, at all
events, of a sense of present contentment?
Good temper is the essence of good breed
Ing. as it is of business science.
ADA MAY KRECKER