Northern Wisconsin advertiser. [volume] (Wabeno, Wis.) 1898-1925, 1906-05-10
The Real Secret of Life.

Heard discussion recently upon
that puzzling subject, husbands. and
the stand taken by one woman was
SO decided as to create stir. What
ever you do" she said to the group
OF unwedded women who were drink
ing in the words of wisdom as they
fell from the lips of experience, ''avoid
the man OF genius, in any closer ca
pacity than that of friend. He does
not make a wholly satisfactory sweet.
reart and is quite impossible as a
comfortable husband Turn your back
upon him and encourage the common
place wooer of clean morals and good
sense and let him enjoy making your
path through life a sunny one."
Much wisdom was there in her re-
marks, although they smacked a
tribe OF cynicism. But then, she has
had experience with gifted husband,
who CONSIDERABLY passed to another
world, and allowed her to try the
change offered by partner who was
practical. good-tempered and thought,
ful OF the comfort Of others. So I
could not deny the strength of the posi-
ton she took. But there was one
feature she ignored-the inability 70
wholly govern ones affections. /
should say that life with the difficult
man one loved would be sweeter than
the easy path and devotion of another
and possibly better man.
Where women fail Is in sheer helm
lessness before crisis. They marry
men whose faults are mostly known
to them, and instead of accepting them
or quietly dealing with them accord
ing to circumstances, they nope and
sulk because natures cannot be chang
ed like clothing. There Is a world os
wisdom in taking people as we find
them, rather than fretting because
they do not conform to our standards
lncompatibility of temper is a stupid
excuse for separation, for where will
you find two persons who think alike
and act alike on all occasions? Life
would be commonplace and tame
enough were it not for variety of hu-
man nature, and can imagine nothing
more monotonous than time spent
with men or women who had no opfn-
ions of their own and we're willing %
accept mine.
What we need In this world is for
bearance. We ought to know that HUI.
manity is full of flaws and each of us
has full share of faults. We are
probably very trying at times, and
those who are closest to us often wish
that We were different as we wish of
them. 1t is useless striving to remodel
patterns that are already cut. save in
a small degree for which influence IS
responsible. Have you ever found
perfect nature? If so would yon mind
pointing 1t out to the others of us VINO
have been less fortunate in the search?
| still maintain that the only cure
for the divorce evil is law that com
pels men and women to make the most
of bargain. We submit to all kinds
of eccentricities in blood relations.
because we are reared In creed that
holds families together. There are a
few deserters, but not enough to
materially affect family life. I think
we are rather given to hide faults in
the family and not expose them, and
If the same principle were carried
into the marriage circle there would
be more harmony.
1t would be eminently satisfying II
we could so regulate our lives that our
hearts would go where they ought;
but since the matter is rather out IF
our control see no reason why
woman should not be happy with
genius, provided she loves him sufi-
GENTLY to ignore his very evident alb
sorption in self. She can allow her
pride in his gifts to take the place OF
the satisfaction AN unselfsh devotion
would give her. The woman who
weds handsome man has to make
sacrifices to his vanity, and the wife
of plain man has to swallow her