Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-02-18
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Women
Are seldom troubled at the age at Whlch
men suffer with bashfulness or awkward
ness. It is as If nature thus compensated
the weaker vessel. Cruel are those women
however. and most to be reprobated' VINO
laugh at a bashful man. The suffeTinss OF
tie shy man are q nervous seizure for when
no part Of his organization is to blame.
He cannot reason it away; he can only
crush It by enduring It: ITO bear is to con
uuer our fate" Some men, finding the play
not worth the candle, give up society ana
TIE world; others go on, suffer. and come
out cool veterans who fear no tea party
however formidably large and pretentious'
l. is the proper province OF parents TO
have their children taught all the possible
accomplishments Of the BODY, that they,
like the ancient Greeks. may know that
every muscle will obey the brain. y shy'
awkward boy should be trained in dancing.
fencing boxing; he should be instructed IN
music. elocution and public speaking; he
should be sent into society whatever II
may cost him at first, as certainly as he
should be sent to the dentists. His pres
ent sufferngs may save him from lifelong
annoyance.
TO the best men. the most learned, the
yulst graceful. the most eloquent, the most
successful has come at some time or other
the dreadful agony Of bdshfulneSs. Indeed,
& fs Tie higher order of humanity that the
dread disease most surely attacks; It IS the
precursor of many cXCeNcuces, ana, ike
- lgri,itl,, vigil If natient}v and bravely
Eorre. the knight is twice the hero. Il is
Ebis recollection which alone can assuage
The sufferer that he should always carry
with him Good manners are to special
sncieties what good morals are to society
an general, their cement and their security.
True politeness creates perfect ease and
freedom; its essence is to treat others as
you would have others treat you" There
forc as YOU know how embarrassing en-
barrassment is to every one else, strive not
70 he ernbarras sed.
Buy the mother Of shy and bashful
youths and maids does well TO bear in mind
tlat by cultivating their social faculties
early and persisfeutIy she will spare them
srsrIffsrabla torment and vastly enhance
their ornamental and useful qualities under
all sorts of conditions.
We Should Care
~, .., ,.-,.7t.- nc O ,.t,ri7}st cares for his
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Instruments II II llls iluSlS '''a' 'oiNV'
from his violin which he has In mind, as
Anna Plysnr Call SAYS and he IS careful OF
49,, f,s+,,,,,e,- ha,ause Of its musical
90 .:.1
l'"tL' % We VIZ 'oiO
power of % healthy BODY shouIu DC ctreIul
u keep II FUZZY supplied Wiln IIeSu an, ~
keep 10 exercised ana rested; 20 supply II
reuJ i; needs. ana 70 protect IL rom IN
necessary exposure. men, tHIouB1 ms ms
get ont Of order. instead OF dwelling on our
~, b,ci ~ tbeT norman : ATE
IL we learned to do this as 81 matter of
course as we keep our hands clean, even
though we had - De Conscious oL oUri DUu
yes LoI :. - rIr,,,i "a ~ would lead to
q b,npl, u1consciousness. Carlyle says that
we are conscious Of no part Of our bodies
until IL is out Of order. and II certainty
follows that the habit OF keeping our bod
les in order would lead us eventually to
physical freedom which. since the days of
our childhood, few OF us have known. In
the same way we can take care Of our
minds with a wholesome spirit We can
See TO it that they are exercised TO apply
themselves well, that they are properly d.
one kind OF work 10 another. We can he
careful nor TO attempt sleep directly after
severe mental work, but first to refresh our
minds by turning our attention into entire
" different channels In the way of exercise
or amusement
We must not allow our minds to be over
flffrtf.d any more than our bodies and we
,,r,rst learn how IN keen them I'm a state of
80, ra,dfrrss for whatever work or euer-
r,,c,. r,., Ia baf5re them
,-gc~a ia also q kind OF moral caro- which
g. r,,i+a in lime y,-itb the cara az The mind
81 tie t1.4,- which fs q material sf1 to
~ a nav az refusing ~ he irritahla or
sf.,i.y ,,4 ,,ta{,7f,,sr -f.,.vf,7l7gs- lind
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