The news-democrat. (Providence, R.I.) 1906-1909, 1906-12-21
DON'T CARRY A CROUCH
TO YOUR FIRESIDE E

Much has been said and written OF the
woman who keeps her little worries and
troubles Of the kitchen and nursery 10
entertain her husband with when he re-
turns home after business hours.
She has been chided and urged TO re-
member how much her husband needs
her cheerful face 10 greet him at home
and her bright hopeful conversation 10
drive away the load of cares which beset
his weary mind
All this is very true There are always
women who need much advice-women
who forget that mans business life is not
one perpetual fete. and that his home Is
frequently the only place 10 which he
can turn for real rest and peace OF mind,
The object OF this letter is to call the
attention OF many American husbands 10
their own shortcomings in this very same
line OF conduct.
Observation impresses upon my mind
the conviction that very few business men
leave their office and shop worries and
anXieties behind them when they enter the
domestic door at oventide
They carry them into the home and
expect the wife to be entertained with
them. II she endeavors 10 change the
subject they feel that she is not inter
csted In their affairs. and that she Is
heartless and Indifferent.
II the do not talk their worries at
home. they act them, which Is quite as
bed, If not worse.
have seen a happy. optimistic. loving
woman's face. beamlng with pleasure at
the sound OF her husbands latchkey in
the door. changed TO sadness and depres-
sion I'm half an hour. by the gloom and
nervousness OF really kind-hearted man
who had not the forethought or self-con-
troll to throw his business troubles of be-
fore entering his home.
Even IL man Is so tired and worn by
a swarm Of petty and narrowing troubles
or by giant burdens. that he cannot at
once lift himself into n state of cheerful
ness or serenity he might at least make
some effort TO avoid spelling a loving wo-
mans whole evening by his preoccUpatioh
and depression.
II is, OF course. duty and n pleasure
for n sympathetic wife 10 soothe and
cheer and distract man mind from care:
but IL is equally a thoughtful mans duty
to save wife all the unnecessary work.
possible.
Nothing weakens q character sooner
than the habit OF taking all its troubles
10 another life TO bear vlcariously ana
Ignoring It's own duty for self-relianee
cheerfulness and courage.
The coming home OF a man whom
woman loves Is the event OF the day for
her. no matter how full her life may be
II four Of five days out OF the six week
days he comes home with the blues
just so many days are spoiled for ner
II she is continually called upon 70
stimulate and sympathize and cheer. the
drain upon her vital and spiritual forces
becomes exhausting. and the character
OF the man grows surely. IL unconsiousy
weaker by the process.
A wife creates the atmosphere OF the
home-but the husband must do his part
as well lf sunshine is TO prevail there.
It's rays will be dimmed if ne persists in
Transforming himself into n large black
cloud. as a bank OF fog. II is a relief,
now and then. for n wife TO tell her hus-
band all the vexations OF the day and 10
have his sympathetic counsel and just
so. on occasions. II Is comfort for man
to take his troubles home TO loving
mate and talk them over. But II Is n great
habit OF loading the others shoulders
unexpressed
with a burden OF worries, described or
error is made more frequently by the
husband than by the wife
Many a time the head OF the household
magines he Is doing all his duty by work
ing necessarily and keeping his family ih
comfort or luxury
If he exhausts all OF his hope and
cheerfulness in his labor and has
nothing 70 take hame 70 his family but
ing his wife and children greater injury
vided them with fewer material benefits.