The Tupelo journal., 1906-04-20
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER

precipitate quarrels with little men of
three and four years old. The boy is
father to the man. In most cases Ju-
dicious handling proves much more
efficient with both boys and men than
vehement urging, disagreeable COM
plant and strenuous opposition.
1t is part of the nature of husbands
to present both sides of any question
submitted to them for settlement, and
as a rule they present first the side
that is contrary to the wishes of their
wives. They do not mean in the end
to deny reasonable requests, but they
must have their little argument. just
after New Year a skit appeared in a
newspaper illustrative of this almost
universal masculine tendency:
bills to the right of him,
Bills to the left of him,
Bills in the front of him,
Dad deeply wondered;
Frightful the charge they made,
Senseless the price you paid,
Then on the table laid
Check for six hundred"
OF course he did. That is the sort
of thing the American husband is by
way of doing So long as he has a dol
lar in his pocketbook or an account to
| his credit in the bank. He gets the
heaviest end of life in hard work,
| year in and veal out, with few holt
! days, big anxieties and short summer
vacations. His wife has all he can
rivra hnr anI no orr1Ido0c hpr no cI1rf-
ace, yet he must have his bit of fault
finding and his occasional fuss and
| fret because he is human and because
he is a man and because, being a man,
| he likes to say nc originally and to be
coaxed into saying yes, by the people
he loves.
1t goes without saying that the sort
Of management that suits one man
does not suit another. If ever you
lived in the Bluegrass country and
had to do with horses, you know that
riding or driving horses are lot to be
treated as if they were machines.
| They must be approached with some
Difference to temperament, to heredity
and to the rules of the road.
Precisely the same rules apply to the
nice and skillfui management of hus-
bands. A tired and hungry man is
not the man to whom one should
bring an unpalatable subject. If you
| want to plead for the boy who is
going wrong, who is as much his faith
| er's as his mothers son, wait for a fit
ting moment. II you are assured that
there should be a change for the bet
ter in household economy, do not Sc
lect a time when the market is in a
| panic, or the merchant depressed over
uncertainties, to force the thing on his
notice. Married people should remem-
Der that in double harness a team
needs t. be perfectly matched.
There is a novel by Anthony Hope
in which there are more miSft couples
than one often sees grouped togethe.
One and all they misunderstood each
other and pull the wrong way, with
the result of continual friction, suspi-
cion and jealousy. A book recently
published gives a picture of a domes-
tic tyrant who could have been man
aged only by the primitive method of
brandishing a club. This method is
i~nexpedient and not to be thought Of,
but the few men who by nature and
practice trample rough-shod over their
wives and children, who forget the
first principles of the code that OBJ
tains among gentlemen, are not fit for
matrimony. Fortunately for the hui
man race such despots are seldom
seen, in civilization.
A wife who has become mistress of
the gentle art of good management
never brusequeiy c~ontradicts her hus-
band. She may be quite aware that
he is in the wrong, but she waits un-
til the right opportunity comes before
setting him right. She does not make
fun of him in the presence of mis-
friends, nor point a jest at his expense.
She understands that Difference is in
itself an adornment and that she may
maintain her ground as carefully and
| successfully without ~discourtesy as by
| vehemence and clamor. A little WIFE
ly tact, the expression of genuine af-
lection and the lavishing of small at
tentions go a long way in keeping a
| home peaceful and happy, and in
| making the man at the head of it
| pleased with himself.
1t is a. rare art, that of living COM
fortably with others. In order to at
tain it, pains must be taken and self
| must sometimes be denied.
There are trifes in which most men
are rather helpless. They are not
| adopts with the needle, and he few
stitches by way of repair that their
| wardrobes need should never be per-
| mitted to intrude upon their notice.
Men should be fed and starched and
| mended so unobtrusively that these
| good things would seem to them as In
| the order OF daily living, like the sun
shine and the air.
When Mary married John 1t was In
the bond that John should furnish the
money on which to keep house, and
that the house should be kept by
Mary. He should not find holes in his
| socks, nor rips in his gloves. lie
should not always Nbe compelled to
stop at z tailor's if a button is loose
| on his coat. The wife who habitually
| looks after the little daily comforts
| of her husband in the matters that do
! not show will be more successful in