Northern Wisconsin advertiser. [volume] (Wabeno, Wis.) 1898-1925, 1906-06-07

DTfueSTOOm tuIu away irOH tue Ic6io-
ter, where they have sigaed the
same name, there begins union that
ought to be ideal The cords Of
mind, body and spirit should be gen
tly, but firmly, intertwined in a
friendship that will endure when the
glamour OF the honeymoon has long
been past Married friendship should
be one OF the most perfect things in
the world. How comes It that 1t go
rarely reaches this ideal? That the
marital duet Is so often full Of dis
cords? That the holy state Of matri-
mony" Is among the recognized ma
terial for tawdry jokes? Why is 1t
that the word uxorious conveys con-
temptuous meaning? And, above all,
why should the modern wife conceal
her love for her husband as though
1t we're crime?
There Is no gainsaying the fact
that In Britain we have to a great
extent lost sight OF the high ideal of
married life, and yet our favored is-
lands are notably the country OF the
home. Nowhere save in Canada and
In certain section OF French society
is the cult OF the home better fol
lowed than II is with us. And yet the
atmosphere OF 1t is too often the slaty-
gray of commonplace. For the hus-
band the home is merely the place to
begin the day and end It, For the
70 xxftt he
and without exhiaration hears his
latchkey In the evening. An attitude
OF mutual federation has replaced the
exquisite attraction that drew them
together in the early days OF their
union. There may still be firm
friendship between them, even a
pleasant comradeship; but what has
b come of the delight IN each others
society In which they once had rev.
elled? Where is the beautiful JOY Of
welcome that once made the return a
rosy anticipation throughout the day.
delightful reality with the reunion
for the evening hours?
The disenchantment that follows
upon dreams of rosy path through
Lille Is sometimes lingering process,
sometimes perplexingly rapid. Hus
band and wife expect too muck OF
each other, especially when they ard
very much in love. The old prescrip
ton, to "begin with little aver
sion." might almost AFFORD better re
suits. but wise counsel would he to
combine a great respect with the lit
tie aversion. There can be no true
and lasting love without respect
When Tommy Moore represents q
soprano lady as singing:
know not, care not what dwells
in that heart
but know that love thee. whatever
thou art
he puts the songstress as completely
out of drawing. from the point oil
view of commonsense, as she would
be with stricken deer" at rest In
her bosom, as in the first lines of the
verses.
Many girl has married a man
whom she respected. and later learn
cd to love him. II is a dangerous
experiment. but II is safer far than
marrying a man one loves but can,
not respect. In the wear and tear OF
everyday life It is mutual respect
that tells. The man who finds tina:
he has married a woman to whom
honor Is an empty name: the woman
who discovers that the husband she
has promised to honor and obey Is
destitute OF principle; what chance Of
happiness Is theirs? Love soon trays
out and gets worn to shreds, and
yet they have taken each other 'foi
better, for worse" This clause In
the agreement is terribly binding
For better, for worse"
II man should become slave tc
some revolving habit. the love Of
drink, for instance. the wifes first
feeling is that she cannot continue &c
share her life with being so de
graded. Every instinct of pure won
anhood and refinement revolts against
Il. But yet--for better, for worse
she feels in her heart that were she
to leave him, his only stay would ht
loosed, and his descent OF Avernu:
would be easy indeed. II she has {
high standard OF honor, she remains
with him and does her best TO wiz
him away from his detestable veal
ness. II can be done by kindnes:
only. Scorn and sarcasm. raging In
dignation, expressions OF contempt
are the first impulses OF wife II
such circumstances. But she soor
learns that there Is no ericacy II
these Patient. unwearying gentle
ness, amending forbearance. with ;
few words OF quiet protest now an(
then, form the only prescription fo'
dealing with such cases. Many
thousands OF wives have spent hal
their lives In Is close companionshiI
that revolts them, depressing ever,
impatient word. dealing with the sicl
soul. the ailing. polluted body with