Northern Wisconsin advertiser. [volume] (Wabeno, Wis.) 1898-1925, 1906-05-10

Once upon time Wnen a man
took a wife he expected her to be, and
and she was, the partner of his JOYS
and sorrows. Those were the days
our grandfathers tell about, and to the
brave woman of those days we owe
America as it is today.
The trip across the Atlantic was
itself a hazard great enough to daunt
many man from attempting to visit
the great new western world, but
what shall be said of the women who
followed the fortunes of husbands and
sons across the seas and helped them
to carve out homes in the wilderness
In the face of danger and difficulty.
In those days the men toiled in the
fields and wrought the daily living
from the daily task The women. too.
labored in the fields and beat the
fax and wove the rough homespun
cloth that supplied the needs of dress.
Truly they were the partners of the
joys and sorrows of the men whose
children they bore, but today although
the old expression still fingers, how
little it is applicable to the conditions
that prevail in the land that the grand-
children of these women inherited.
In how few instances is marriage a
partnership, and how many times the
whole burden is carried by one or the
other of the parties bound together
for life in the bonds of wedlock.
Did you ever notice a team of
horses that were not we'll matched fos
strength or different in disposition, or
where one was more willing and ener.
getic than the other? Did you ever
see the driver beating one of his
horses because it Jagged behind it's
fellow, and shirked it's share OF the
common toll?
Well such q pair of horses are ex
actly like a great many married
couples. Just stop and note them well.
They cannot pull half the load drawn
by the team that pulls well together,
and therefore they are not suited to
heavy work. No one would think of
driving down the avenue with pair
of carriage horses that didn't keep
abreast of each other and draw evenly
The horseman insists that his pair
be matched not only in spirit, but in
appearance, size and general character
istics.
Yet people marry with half the con-
sideration that careful breeder gives
to matching a pair Of carriage horses,
and what is the result? Unequal
teams, queerly assorted pairs that
look as funny all through life as the
pair of horses that do not work or
drive well together. And therefore
there is the divorce court, and every
time its doors are opened there are
crowds of men and women fiockine
to be released from the bonds that
bind them to an unequal partnership.
And truly these combinations are
almost beyond itself. The big, bulk
ing sporty loafer. whose reputation
consists principally in his ability to
destroy large quantities of liquor. and
whose attractiveness is limited to an
apparently stalwart physique, finds
favor in the eyes of some modest
churchy young woman, and almost
before she knows it she is his wife.
For a few short weeks she may
think herself happy, but then begins
her period of torment, and it will last
as long as her sensitive soul is forced
to come in contact with him, and sub
nit to his brutality. Her modesty and
good taste are offended continually
by his glazing neckties, and coarse
language. She finds that he APPARENTLY
never secures position tina. gives him
fair show, and she is lucky if he does
not spend the little he earns on some
woman of his own stamp.
1t seems curious that women never
find these things out until 1t is too late.
In the blindness of what they believe
is love. but what is really only tenn
porary infatuation, they shut their eyes
to everything, and marry what they
think is an ideal, to find its stern
reality of the most unpleasant species.
How many women, for the sake OF
their children, live on and on and on
for years with a man whom they
despise and detest, a man who spends
his earnings in gambling OF worse
ways, while the faithful and patient
wife tolls day in and day out to give
her little ones education and comfort
until they are able to care for them
selves and, let us hope, for her.
How many an innocent man loafs
through life, with no ambition, no vo-
cation, no thought, other than to enjoy
the sunshine and escape the storm,
while his wife teaches music, or
writes, OF paints or is a milliner or
dressmaker, and her daily toll and
worry and work provide him with the
luxuries as well as the necessities u
! life?
There are husbands, too, that su1er
and toll to keep lazy, indolent vain'
selfish women in luxury they don't de-
serve
Stop and think how many yon can
st IN married life with high hopes
- ambitions for the future, only to
ind their hopes dashed TO the ground,