Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-05-20

, ished and observant of form, but In all
| those emergencies that show the loftier
points of character she will be frigid and
insensible as marble
1t is much easier to show the proper def
erence 10 the feelings OF our equals or ST.
periors than to those beneath in social
position or authority. But the truest cul-
ture is shown in the latter case. 1t does
not require much self-control or kindness
of heart for Marie to assure her wealthy
girl friend that her accidental breaking of
a rare vase is a mere nothing-that she
never will give 1t another thought. The
wealthy friend need not spend sleepless
nights over IL. for she can replace 1t with
one as good. or in some other way make up
the less to Marie But should the friend
less. penniless maid meet with the same
accident IL would be real heroism for Marie
to assure the distressed girl that she knew
It an accident and that she must not
worry about 1t. The anxiety of replacing
the broken treasure from the maids Scanty
purse would be allayed, and feeling OF
mutual good will established between her
mistress and herself.
Tennyson sets forth the beauty of defer
ence to the feelings of those less fortunate
than ourselves when he says that kind
hearts are more than coronets, and We
also draw the inference that In respecting
the feelings of the lowly lies true politeness
as well as greatness. 1t has been said that
| with the simple passport Of a kind heart
one can mingle with any society and enter
courts and palaces and still not be guilty OF
any breach of etiquette.
Perhaps One Obstacle
To our progress in manners is that we con-
| stantly are told that in this age courtesy Is
well nigh impossible. We are confronted
with the epoch of our grandmothers and
great-grandmothers until we feel that If we
want to be polite we must wear powder
patches, hoop or a sword.
PM ayuhq ck In, r,llr
clothes. is it not possible to talk pleasantly
and act agreeably? In European provin-
cial eating house Is the following recon-
mendation written in large round hand on
a card conspicuousy displayedi Eat con-
tentedly. pay cheerfully, leave promptly and
make room for others" These are wise
and comprehensive precepts for those gath
cred at the banquet of life.
Let US help one another in achieving the
success Of mannerliness. 1t means taking
a great deal of trouble, no doubt; it means
a good deal OF celebrating and sustained
effort. and at the same time 1t will depend
good deal more on the small things We
are than on the big things.
As Boys and Girls
Grow up to manhood and womanhood par
ents should respect that nascent dignity
which comes with the age; they should re-
spect Individuality. 1t is one reason, per-
gether happily that neither has been taught
to respect the others strong popularity of
character. at least in outward manners.
If we treated our brothers and sisters
with the same respect that we treat our
formal acquaintance in matters of friend
ship. opinion and taste there would be
greater harmony in households.
One of the first and most apparent duties
is to respect seal. Never open your chill
drens letters after they are old enough to
read them. 1t is curious element of self
respect that this community of letters
which exists in some families hurts the
feelings of young person from the first.
Certain parents or relatives tear open
Sans letters from Dick and laugh at them
Certain other parents consider it duty to
open their daughters love letters. Do not
open her letters. Do not spy her acts or
abuse her friends. She will be far more apt
TO come right II she be treated as II she
were certain to be true, frank and honor
able In all her acts
If the opening of letters is a fact which Is
treated carelessly in some families ii be-
comes part of that thoughtless disregard
of individuality which is the cause OF un-
happiness at home. Did we but think"
says the careless person.
Precisely; did we but remember to con-
slider the claims of those about us particu-
larry Of those at home. where all amenities
begin. ADA MAY KRECKER