Kingsbury County independent. (DeSmet, Kingsbury County, S.D.) 1894-1929, 1906-07-27
Feminine Graces That
Charm Mere Man

and all by an Insignificant little crea-
ture who was SO painfully shy and
sensitive that nobdy had even thought
OF hei as a matrimonial possibility.
." hardly ever go anywhere" she
murmured regretfully when tho man
whom everybody was feteing good
naturally suggested her joining an au-
tomobile party. You see, all the other
girls are splendid company, and they
are not afraid Of anything; and I'm
not ut all a good talker, and nobody
cares to be bothered with me-" and she
gazed pathetically up into his inter-
csted face, her big blue eyes suffused
in tears.
You poor little grill" he exclaimed,
warmly, doubtless with an unspoker
anathema for the other girls Why,
you're worth a million Of the others,
All you need is somebody to a k care
of YOU" And the vanquished other
girls" n the shocked dowagers are
still dejectedly debating whether the
little mink was really as artless as she
looked, or whether the whole thing was
a deep laid plot for their ultimate I'M
doing.
The little graces that go TO make up
the charming, attractive girl are al
most without number A friendly, in
genious manner alike free from ef-
fusiveness, gush and stilted s~elf-con-
seriousness, Is n or them.
Another Is the distinctly rare accom-
plishment Of reading aloud. This re-
quires a musical speaking voice-which
can be acquired by careful cultivation
and a keen, alert intelligence, capable
Of grasping the thought of h writer
and giving 1t sympathetic interpreta-
ton. 1t may not perhaps be displayed
very oiten, but the man OF fine sensi-
bilities who is not susceptible 70 its in
fluence is an anomaly yet to be en-
countered.
An even moro important requirement
is the art of conversation which means,
In modern society, tho ability TO main
tain a running fire of entertaining small
talk. 1t means something more than
this, however, for the popular girl is
she who can listen as well is chatter.
Nothing wins a mans friendship more
surely than listening with whole-heart-
ed. sel~f-effacing interest while he says
what he has to ay, no matter how
commonplace 1t may be.
The really tactful girl goes oven ur-
Their than this, for she c~ultivates the
knack Of making a man appear at his
best whenever he talks to her; and un-
less he is unusually unappreciative 1t
does not take him long to find out that
her very presence is an inspiration.
Finally, it is a good thing to remem-
Der that whatever a mans personal
character nay be, he has g. few cher
ished ideals Of womankind enshrined
somewhere within that battered strong
hold which he calls his heart. and woe
to the girl who skaters them. In his
unwritten cod of ethics every woman
should love children. flowers, and all
things beautiful, and he looks askance
on the woman who does not.
He may nave little reverence himself
for sublime things, but he regards with
involuntary disguL FL girl who pro-
fesses agnosticism or speaks c~ynically
of love, or who declares h has no
faith In humanity. Also. he has a lurk-
who boasts of her masculine conquests,
and, above all, who speaks slightingly
of her own sex.
However modern a man may be &c
to intellect, he is at heart n firm be-
lever in the good, old-fashioned vir-
tues, wen though he possess them not,
and he has a profound conviction that
woman should be as good as they are
beautiful.
Moreover, he believes that some
where in this wide world the girl is
waiting who is destined to be the o n
| girl in the world for him." and that
some day, inevitably Fate will drift him
to her side. Perhaps 1t is this belief
that takes him to the haunts Of the
summer girl; and, for the rest, given a
girl who is sweet and lovable and WON
anly, plus the usual complement OF
moonlight strolls and piazza conf
dences. and Cupid's task Is compare
lively a5y