Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1906-03-19
Do Not Complain.

1t detractS from the enjoyment Of a jour
ney to have In the party some one who Is
continually complaining about the meals,
and the woman who is tactful enough to
turn these complaints into good humor
without wounding the feelings of any one
concerned is a treasure to be appreciated.
Such woman is frequently possessed of
such nice tact that she can turn a grum-
bler's comments into joke at his own ex-
pense so cleverly that he both enjoys It
and at the same time perceiyes that it is
the gentlest sort OF a hint. After while
he foTgets his ll-humor and does not mind
If the steak Is a trifie too rare for his
fastidiousness
Tact and thoughtfulness, courtesy and
good humOr are acquired attributes, and
no woman, seeing her sister admired for
a How of good spirits, lauded for her happy
disposition loved for her kindness, need
sit beck and envy her, any more than she
need envy the girl who always looks neat
and clean. The one Is almost as easily ac-
quired as the other. 1t Is not difficult to
be pleasant when everything runs along
smoothly and the surroundings are the well
regulated wheels of the home circle or the
nicely polished paths of your own social
sphere; but it is u different matter to
smile and be merry when everything seems
at SKIES and seyens. as is frequently so in
travelling. 1t Is under the latter circum-
stances that courtesy and tact are required.
When She Remembers.
me woman you remember on the train Is
the one who pulls down her window shade
IL the sun shines on your book: she Is the
woman who is careful not to pile her bags
and paraphernalla all over your portion OF
the section: she Is the woman who offers
you a magazine when you seek diversion or
who gives you her smelling salts II you
are propped UP with pillow, Ill.
mother never forgets the woman who
entertained little one for an hour or two
rnI,A ,xf1,<, n
remain with baby while she got breath
of fresh air or sought the dining car.
1t Is distinguishing mark OF the UNDER
bred woman that she Is unciVil and IN
gracious to every one with whom she comes
in contact, she assuming q lofty demeanor
and implying that she Is unaccustomed to
mingling with such inferior beings. NO
well-bred woman scolds and fuses with
the porter on the Pullman car, nor blames
the chambermaid in tho hotel because she
neglected to turn down the coyerlet for her
the night before. All these things make a
woman an unpleasant person to encounter
on trip. much more bette noir IN
party.
Troubles Will Come.
These accidents. inconvenience and an
noyances are bound to be met with. but 1t
is not the fault or the companions with
whom you are travelling: they did not seek
out the disturbances as a woman frequent
jections.
Frequently in travelling a woman meets
with trivial accidents such as the tearing
OF a gown or the losing of a glove. Must
she, then. as many of her sex do. lament
the fact thencefoith and forever and insist
upon returning to the hotel to have the
rent sewn or to search for the missing ar
ticle? No: the thoughtful womanl borrows
some pins. laughs at the SUCCESS she
makes of her impromptu mendfng and pro-
ceeds with the party even though IT may
have been her most cherished frock that
was torn. She is thoughtful enough not
to thrust her own troubles onto her friends.
She does not go about with her bare hand
In evidence, complaining that something
always happens to her! 1t is Just her
iucki the trip will cost her new pair OF
gloves! she wishes she hadn't come, any
way
Be Patient.
II a train Is Iate-and train frequently
Is. IL only this woman would stop to re-
aiize it-it is not thoughtful nor courteous
to the other members of the party to COM
plain that tho station Is q most uncom-
Portable place to wait. The tactful woman
makes merry over the situation and does
not display impatience. though she may
feel 1t as much as the others She does