The Marlboro democrat. [volume] (Bennettsville, S.C.) 1882-1908, 1906-03-16

Wesley's experience, therefore, en-
abled him to give good counsel, and
when n Of his young preachers wrote
to him for advice on marriage, saying
that he was hesitatir & between two
women-one was a processing Chris.
tian, but had a torrible temper, while
the other made no religious profession
but had a sweet disposition Wesley
Immediately sent back word: Mar.
ry the woman with the sweet DISPOSE
tion."
Marry a good hCuSekeeper.
The story Is told Of a teacher OF In.
dams who was reading them the para
ole of the Ten Virgins by the aid Of
an interpreter. AS she read she no.
ticed o smile on the faces of her usual
ly sober-visaged pupils, and, stopping
to II quire the cause, discovered that,
owing TO the limited vocabulary OF
the Indian dialect, which made the
same word serve for virgin and old
maid, the parable as it read through
the interpreter was to the effect that
ten old maids lighted their lanterns
and went out to look for husbands"
Woman's education one hundred
years ago was the lighting of a lantern
to enable the girl to better look for q
hus band, and her education was II
the arts Of the kitchen and the parlor,
and the Objsc Of education was mere
ly to make q useful housewife. Now
the pendulum has swung to the other
extreme.
When men select women for wivis
In quiet homes, where domestic graoes
prevail, the tinery Of the world will
sink into ins%igniIicance.
The most fascinating women are
those who a enrich the everyday
moments Of lie.
The time was when women OF the
very best society became their hus-
bands friends and companions, COL
sidered their interests identical and
did not hold them as SO much fair
game for graft. They made their
houses homes and not mere passing
places for vanity to 60 through.
Give us women content to be what
God and nature meant them to be;
but no, the ideal life set up by the
girl of the period Is plenty Of fun and
luxury. Dress dwarfs her intelligence
while virtue gives up the ghost at her
nod; fed to order, she must be nursed
like a baby and kept from a hysteri.
cal fit by a sugar plum.
1t may be q scaud.lous thing to say
but the scandal Of the fact Is 20 much
greater than tho scandal of confess
Ing 1t that l will risk criticism for
the statement Of the faot--the dome :
tic life OF this country is in an appall
ing condition.
Many a man has given up all high
ambition for study, for Self-denying
service OF his fellowmen, stifled the
voice Of his conscience when 1t de.
manded sacrifice and devoted himself
to the n object Of gaining the where
withal to keep sunshine ia his housa
by the Unlimited Indulgence OF a fash
ion pampered woman's fancies.
The fault lies with the parents; I'M
less they car give their daughter q
fortune when she marries, they per
petuate a fraud upon the young man,
If by lack Of domestic training they
make her unfit for the position OF
wife In the home OF the young man
who has to make his way In the
world.
Just as 1t Is a mans duty to provide
for his family, SO 1t is the woman's
duty to adOrn the home with all the
excellences OF grace and good taste,
and either by her own industry or the
wcll-directed industry Of those who
serve her; to fiji 1t with h althful In.
lluenceB OF cleanliness, good order and
Deatness, so that everything may min
lister TO the comfort and enjoyment OF
those she loves.
The state Of life into which it has
pleased God to call our daughters Is
plainly, for the most part, and which
entails the duties Of the housekeeper
and the home. maker, and for those
duties the learning acquired Ia the
schools often does much to unfit
them.
The result CT this unfaithfulness In
the foundation education Is seen In
extravaganza hab IS Of our modern
housekeeping, the ignorant waste
where the young ome finds herself
liable to teach and direct her servants
In cases whore she is not required to
do the actual work herself, and,
wearying OF her attempts to be queen
OF her W household, she allows her
little kingdom to live without a head.
Her husband fluids that the expense
of married life Ia far greater than he
had anticipated and the comfort less.
as the expenditures increase, he secs
that his hard work on one side ia only
to supply the means Of wastefulaess
on the other side, and that his Chill
dren are growing up with notions OF
life which nothing oan satisfy.
We need not wonder that great dis.
conGen1 prevails among many men
IT Is this extravaganza and incon.
petence Smopg women that account
very largely for the fact that there