The National tribune., 1906-10-25
THE FAMILY.
By SENORA SARA.

Justice is outraged or stunted, as the
case aof temperament may demand, i
he finds himself subjected to unneces.
sary inconvenience or annoyance to sui
the mere caprice of some older person
(Which is too. often the case). No matte,
how he may have loved those relatives
before. the honorable child can fee
only shrinking or distress when he real.
ICES at last that his parents have been
less than truthful with him, or have
made him promises which they never
meant TO keep, or which they broke
without sufficietn excuse. Mama. too
may try to explain papa's manner by
saying that 'he doesn't mean any.
thing by his unpleasant words. which
are so thoughtless that they are abso-
Iutely cruel. "You know papa's way,
dear" TRULY He knows papa's way
only too Welt But that doesn't take the
sting away, nor add to his respect and
reverence for his father.
Just here, perhaps, it would be well
u S-.t few words about reverence and
respect for old age. We are taught that
age is to be respected and revered SIM
ply because it is age. Not sol Nothing
Is to be reverenced simply because of
what it is. Reverence shouid come
from what it represents. One may pity
an aged men and women because they
have grown enfeebled, but one cannot
reverence them simply because a certain
number of years have passed over their
heads. When their faces and their
characters show that rounding out that
mellowness which comes of a long life
Wen lVed, then, indeed, is there nothing
on earth worthy of higher reverence
But when old age merely represents a
bundle of querulous whims, increasing
IN number with each year and each ac-
corded an honored place as showing Ihe
advance of age-and as such o be
passed over as inevitable-then is old
age not to be reverenced and the Young
are not in the least reprehensibie for
avoiding association with it. 1 recently
rad story of some children whose
parents regarded them as very repre-
hensible for objecting to sitting down
at table with dirty old woman who
persistently dropned snuff on the table.
cioth- They pointed out the fact that
she was old, and therefore to be rever-
enced- On the contrary, il was the
parents who We're reprehensible in
obliging their children to do something
which was so utterly repulsive to them
selves and which outraged their sense
of decency.
This false idea of the reverence due
to age as age has done a great deal of
harm by allowing people as they ad-
Vanced in years to fall into careless and
slipshod habits. or to lose the hold
"hINu lIlty 1ldu over tnelr unDlpASant
tendencies. As age advances the greater
the vigilance to be observed over ones
self, for youthful failngs are very easy
or eXaggeration. Determination NAV
become obstinacy, firmness turn into
1mper1ousness Quickness at repartee
become ill-natured retort, lack of
thought about dress become sloyenli-
ness, or overanxiety turn into peevish-
ness or querulousness. ANY and all of
which are hard for others to bear and
do not tend to endear the aged on, to
those around. "If l thought I should
be like my grandmother was at 50 r
would not mind living to be a thou
sandH exclaimed young woman re-
Gently. What beautiful Comment on
the way" of that grandmother, All
who knew the old lady loved her dearly.
and no gathering among her young rel
atives was quite complete without her
But it was not her age which was re-
vered; it was the mellow life which
experience and time had produced.
To Seed Raisins.-Remove the stems
and cover the raisins with boiling wa
ter. After five minutes or Sd pour off
all the water and the seeds are easily
slipped out.
1t must always be pleasure to have
anyone for whom We care come to
make us visit and stay under our
roof but the mind of the hostess, espe-
cially if she be young housekeeper Is
often perplexed as to what preparations
she should make and how much she Is
expected to do for her friend. This is
still more the case If the visitor is some
one whom she does not know well. but
has invited out of courtesy, or to repay
social obligations. or. perhaps, out of
consideration for her husband OF his
family. The first thing to be done is to
xrh Io &c
have SO that she may feel az home in it.
and oddly enough we often defeat this
very end by trying too hard II accom-
plish it. We are apt to forget thatI
when people leave home they must nee
essariiy bring a good many things with
them, and if We fill the guest chamber
as we should room in which we live
ourselves, there will not be room for
the various little objects which. If they
could be set out comfortably would put
the visitor at her ease Immediately.
Most of us carry about certain pet
photographs. or work-basket to which
we are attached, or we may have a
number of littla-t-S :. articles which we
have come = consider almost essential
t. our comfort, and II we find every
inch in the -oom where We are to stay
already occGpied by the hostess's be-
longings, no matter how pretty they
may be. We are in the unpleasant posi-.
uon OF either having to put these latter
away. which seems ungracious, or else
leaving our own slowed away in our
trunk. AS most people now carry a
small traveling-bag, ii is not necessary
even to have A comb and brush on the
toilet-table, altho II is a good plan to
leave them in convenient place. in
case they should be needed before the
luggage arrives. A pin-cushion is al
ways provided. and a few flowers will
keep the empty toilet-table from look
ing blank, and give besides the prettiest
OF welcomes, while there is of course
no reason why small trays for frair-pins
or rings should not be left where they
may be useful
II it be kindness to leave the toilet
table almost empty, the writing-table
on the other hand, can scarcely be too
well furnished, provided the things on
It are such as may be used with ,ut
hurting them. Nobody likes to he too
familiar with q blotting book or pad
which has Christmas present. written
oil over IL. and has evidently been nut
Into the spare room because its owne,
considered ii too fine for her own needs
For the same reason, If the table has
cover IL should not be an extensive
one, for ink viii spill or spatter occa
sionally, and the feelings of a g.lest who
has thus spoiled an elaborate pieca %
handiwork are not enviable. Felt
denim and cretonne now come in such
pretty colors that any of them is much
more suitable, and bare polished table
best of all There should be plenty of
writing and blotting paper. telegraph
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