The daily morning journal and courier., 1906-08-23

life among what are called the middle classes-London Standard.
 THE HUSBAND Vs. OTHER MEN.
 While the selfshness, the brutality and the inconsistency of men are un- occasionally responsible for much of, the domestic discord which prevails in the world to-day, it must not be imag- fined that man is alone to blame for the existence of the divorce court. He may cause his share of the infelicity, but there are occasions when he, too, has his troubles.
 For example, there are some women who seem to think that the success of married life consists merely in getting married. Let them meet a man who pleases them and they proceed to exert all their charms to lead him to the point of proposal, How well a woman can do this only woman knows. So far as the man is concerned, says the New York Globe, he realizes that he is drawn on irresistably until he is made to feel that life without that particu- lar woman would be like Q barren waste, but just how the charm had been worked he never can tell.
 During this time, and during that other season known as the period of engagenaent, such women give their victim no occasion to suspect that they are otherwise than they seem-sweet tempered, happy creatures who have no other object in life than to make the man of their choice the happiest man in all the world and this confidence game" is continued without break to mar it's serenity, until the last words have been uttered and the two, now one, pass out into the world to face the future as man and wife.
 At this point, however, these women seem to feel that their work has been accomplished. They have succeeded in winning the man they had selected and, apparently, they see no further reason to exert the old-time fascina- tions. Instead of still trying to charm the husband, instead of sing every eff fort to show him that they are what hue believed them to be, they drop all pretense at subterfuge and exhibit themselves in a personally quite differ ent from that which he had been led to anticipate.
 If he is a wise man and has kept the secret of his domestic troubles to him. self he can draw what satisfaction he can from the knowledge that other men envy him the possession of such a fascinating helpmeet, but, in his own heart, he knows that this is slight conn pensation for the woes he must bear in silence
 Fortunately for the reputation of the marriage tie, such cases are the excep- ton, not the rule, in life.And yet, at the same time, there are many women who, while they do not go to such ex- tremes, fail to see the necessity of maintaining the virtue of their charms merely to delight the heart of hus- band.
 Even these who have not gone so far as to conspire to win mans affections under false pretenses, and who have na idea of making life miserable for the man whom they have welded often permit the unpleasant characteristics which they have conscientfously con- cealed to take the ascendency when self-control seems no longer necessary. Unpleasant words, which would never have been uttered before marriage, are freely spoken afterward, and traits of character entirely unsuspected press to the front to raise discords when other persons are not present.
 If a woman be wise, however, she will not need to be told that such con- ditions should be avoided She does not require anybody to tell her what particular charms found the greatest favor in her lovers sight.
 Neither should she have to be told that the qualities which fascinated him once are best able to hold his affections now,
 The fact that she has earned the right to bear his name does not mean that his love is securely fixed for all time to come. Shehas her part to play if con stancy Is to be maintained, and there is nothing that she can do which will make her place more secure in his af- factions than to try to show him al- ways that same consideration which she shows for other men.