The Montgomery advertiser., 1906-06-24
By JrIia Maeruder.

I Dead Selves" "Struan.r "A Beau I tiful Alien" and "A Manifest Des-
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 1 tcopyright. 1906, by Joseph B Bowles. ) One often hears the expression: "Oh, | she's mans woman" or She's a woman's womani" and certainly the I differentiation is just Occasionally 1t happens that the two are combined in ! one person, and then we may. with the I exactness of science, pronounce that the secret of this wonans attraction l lies In the possession of that most sub tie. most difficult, of all attributes to | define, which we know as charm. l But charm is very rare If we meet l with 1t half dozen times in a life we | may think ourselves fortunate. We l are sure that Cleopatra possessed it,
 all the more so since modern research l goes to prove that she was not beauti- ful, and we are equally sure that, had
 she been the most beautiful of her sex | and that alone, we should never. have | heard of her. Great beauty is rare, but
 as all things are relative in this life, it
 would seem that, compared to hat pre- eminent power which we call charm. ! beauty is but a common and everyday | affair.
 Beauty without charm will attract, | but not retain. while charm without | beauty will both draw and hold the ad miration. Sometimes the two exist tc- | gether, as in the case of Mme Reca- | mier. But can we doubt which of theac l qualities 1t is that has made her live? | If her attraction had been mere beau l ty. would she have been sought in mar riage at the age of 80 by one of the greatest men of his time? True, she is known to have retained her beauty to
 an extraordinary degree. but that alone and of itself would not be a sufficient explanation of this fact in her history. But what of the women who belong to the so much larger class, who, with : out tha: rare quality of charm can both attract and retain the admiration l and affection-whether of women or of uien7
 1 Evidently, if we reflect we find that | to be what is known either as "a mans woman" or "a woman's woman" there
 must be some powerfully attracting I quality.
 Now. what is this quality? The sub | iect seems to fall into two divisions Observation and reflection point to :he conclusion that an admired and be-
 loved woman exercises wholly different qualities to win the different sexes | What is it in women which most pleases men and what is 1t which most | pleases women?A
 | The mans woman, 1t would seem, is very sure to possess. in some form, the | quality known as feminine She need
 not of necessity be weak and helpless indeed, that form of the feminine l may attract, but 1t will not hold-but | she must have soma of the qualities
 which specially differentiate her from
 man. She must give him, in their
 whole relation, what he could not get
 from any man friend, as social or
 relative-the quality which Goethe calls l the eternal feminine"
 An experienced woman who knew men pretty well once said to the writer 1 that there was one appeal to which she had never known any man fail to | respond--and that was a certain sort
 of cowardice in woman.
 | Let any woman, she said, no matter how commonplace or ugly, become ter
 ri1ed by a tramo or a burglar, or even describe herself as having been so
 and adds: You an have 10 eoncep- ton of what that feeling Is in a poor defcnseless woman," and the man will
 respond to 1t as cat to strokingl And why is this? What quality in
 man does this course in woman appeal | to so strongly7 Is 1t his selhshness, because he likes the implication of his
 superior mental and physical strength?
 Or is 1t his unselhshness. because he
 is touched by the helplessness of an-
 other? Whichever 1t may be, the fact remains that. although a man may ex- press approval of plucky conduct in a
 woman, it appeals to him on the mas culine lires, and he pays 1t the same
 sort of tribute that he would pay a
 man. which is an abstract commenda-
 tion that has nothing to do with love
 or tenderness or any strong personal emotion.
 And as a man likes the woman who } depends on him and reaches out for
 his support, in like degree, on the other
 hand, he despises a man for those qualities. All of which goes to prove } that, just so surely as q mr1 demands
 Of men to be manly, he demands of !, women to be womanly. Trustfulness "the ever womanly," these are essen- ; tial qualities in the mans woman. ! There may be many others that at-
 tract, but unless these be there also the others will fail of their due effort and while a woman may be compli- } mented and approved by men without } possessing these qualities, she will noi 1 be loved or chosen-granted the quality 1 of true manliEess in the men. And now as to what makes "a wo'
 mans woman" Certainly here thu case is different
 ], Would 1t ever delight a woman anC win from her a warm emotion to hea g another woman proclaim that she hat f shivered with fright at the approacl
 of a tramp? She might sympathiz
 with the feeling and for the very req
 son of it's compr ehensibility to her { would fail to arouse in her any especia
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