The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1906-01-21

An old Spanish proverb rms to- the
erect that it takes two to make a
quarrel; one can always end 1t. This
Is equivalent to saying that one Of
Two who are contending will have SUI
nclent self-restraint and kindness Of
neart to forego the privilege of the last
word. In the family as nowhere else
on earth wills and tenperanents are IN
danger Of clashing, and people, being
sure of mutual affection, express their
minds with a candor that may wound
the sensitive and leave uncomfortable
memories I have known families who
were never happy when separated,
though they were always wretched
when together. Incompatibility Of dis
position may work disaster to dOmes-
tic peace. when everybody concerned
is high-minded and honorable = good
man may have a knack OF putting his
foot clumsily where il behOOVes him
to tread delicately, and a good woman
may have a trick of flying off the han
die on slight occasion. When such OPP
pOstte forces exist in a home there is
great need to remember the pith of the
old proverb, 1T takes two to make
quarrel"
The WiseSt Of men declared that a
soft answer turneth away wrath. AS
rule this is a verify. But there are
exceptions. IN certain moods a soft
answer is an irritant, an aggravatiOn
Of the previous Offense and its effect
is that of a frebrand upon dry stub
bic.
While men and women continue what
they are, human and imperfect, there
will never be unbroken serenity and
entire agreement in any home under
the sun. An old gentleman once boast
ed that he had lived with his wife
fifty years. and they had never. had
difference of opinion.
AT,v
plain-spoken Scottish friend, but very
monotonous." Another man compla-
Gently asserted that he had dwelt in
harmony with his better half for a
great many years. If she prefers red
and I prefer blue" he explained. eve
always settle the matter by cOmprO-
missing on the blue" An obviously
easy method this was, if a wife were
ready to sacrifice her own desire and
efface her own individuality. A long
course of II would spoil the most Tea-
sonable Of husbands and make him ter
ribly self-opiniOnated, or were the pen
dulum to swing the other way. and the
wife forever have the final decision. it
would turn the sweetest of women into
tyrant Of the hearth.
Fairness compels the conclusion that
two or more grown persons sheltered
under the same roof cannot Invariably
think alike.
Nor would it be desirable that they
should. A stasnant pool is a menace
to health. Running water foaming
over the rocks, is a pledge of whole
some life in the locality. a stiTless
day, when no breeze blows. is less slim
ulating than a day when the winds
hold a jubilee. Movement. progression,
even friction of the right kind, tend
TO development of the finest type
But people may differ without bick-
eTing and fighting They may ex-
press themselves strongly without in
flictinc pain They may continue to
think differently, and yet live in tran
guilty. il they choose
1t takes two TO make a quarrel One
can always end IT,"
You might accept my politics, eX-
pos;Uiated a husband, who was an old
fashioFed DeuGcrat- to his wife, who
was 4 radical Republican
7 accepted YOU, dear" she replied.
but my political sentiments are an
Inheritance from my father, and I
cannot change them any more than
can change the color or my eyes.
Thank heaven" he murmUred,
that you haven't a vote"
Some of US who have no enthusiasm
on the subject of universal suffrage
are of the honest mans opinion. And
yet, if ever American women in an
insistent majority should demand SUI
much gallan-ry to deny them. and
none Of US anticipate that any fright
full domestic Calamities will ensue
from that cause
Common sense and mutual good feel
ing, with due regard for the effect Of
quarrels upon the children. will usual
~ prevent distressing squabbles in the
home. HOt-tempered people are prone
TO say mora than they mean. Tact
less folk rush into mistakes. But love
Is a solvent that prevails to blend the
most diverse elements, and TO con
ciliate the most obstinate.
Speaking of obstinacy, thousands Of
people confuse it with firmness. They
fancy if thew cannot be moved from
a position. either by argument or per-
suaslOn. that they are showing ten
acity Of purpose and strength of will
to an extent that lifts them above
their fellows. Often instead Of firm
ness these people are simply display
ing the temper of 2. balky horse. or the
absurd steadfastuess of a mule that