Durango semi-weekly herald., 1906-05-14

lain In nll parts of the world, has al
cady published some 10 books relat- |
Ing to marriage and kindred topics,
has just issued his eleventh volume,
what Men Like In Women"
Get married! Marry early, II pos
sIble. often IL necessary; but keep
married." said he. with smile, dur
ing an interview reported by Miss
Lavinia Hart
Rev. Mr.. Hardy Is past grand
master in the intricate science OF be-
ing married and being happy at the
same moment. "How to Be Happy
Though Married." which has been
translated into every civilized tongue.
succeeded because 1t was something
more than a cluster of day dreams
and theories. Rev. Mr.. Hardy mad
weathered years of conjugal storms
before he ventured. through the me-
dunn of the printed page, to beckon
the whole world toward the halcyon
state OF matrimony.
mot that it's always a halcyon
state" ne said, stroking luxuriant
beard that lent dignity to his words
as well as offering an occupation for
awkward pauses, but at least 1t holds
out all the opportunities for the skill
ed workman or the willing appren-
tice. Married life is what we make
it. There Is every chance to make 1t
heaven; there is every possibility
that we may make 1t hell. But, like
the Hindu eternity. there is no pur-
gatory, no midle course"
"And the shortest cut to the conju-
gal heaven?" asked the interviewer.
The reverend gentleman smiled.
"There is no short cut. If you rush
into matrimony the same way you
and swallow your food. do not won
| der tilat you get marital Indigestion
| There is not any short cut to the
coniugal heaven. 1t Is reached by
weeks and months and years Of pa
tience. toll. self-sacrifice and unself
ishness."
The Honeymoon.
"Oh, and the honeymoon"
"Is far removed from heaven. 1t Is
a passageway, mined with explosives;
an initial step to fall that is bount
to come; the fall from the ideal tc
the real: the realization that she tc
whose eyes we wrote scnnets and ht
about whom we spread the mantel o.
god are ordinary human clay. witt
human faults and human weaknesses
It's bad shock always. Take my ad
vice and make the wedding trip short
It's best to be at home when the wax
ing comes; the inconvenience o
travel are no help to sweet temper
Then you mean to say everyone
VINO marries is disillusioned?"
Exactly; and the sooner the better
Illusions have no part in active, ear
nest married life. When the maj
finds the woman is not an angel If 1t
be sensible man, he will be glad o
it. II she were perfect his own fault
wonld stand out the more glaringly.
'T thought real love was blind?"
mo: that's amateur. Real love i
the sort that continues to live with tn
trills cut away and the colored light
out. Real love is conjugal love, tha
has passed the stage of disillusior
ment and made itself firm ON found
| alton OF fact, of mutual forbearanc
and compromise, and an unselfshnes
, that gnverns ai'''-------'
The bride is bought, the bride
groom sold
TITS marvellous" he said, 'the ma
terial methods some people follow
with regard to matrimony, frequentl,
} with success. think it Is becaus,
beneath all the practical calculation
something stronger attracts them
Do you remember the account Arte
mus Ward gives of the affecting tie
th2t made him banker after Bets,
Jane? Her fathers farm jined our'n
their cows and our'n squenched thei
thirst at the same spring; our ole
mares both had stars in their forerds
the measles broke out in both fami
lies at nearly the same time; oul
parents (Betsy's and mine) slept reg
ularly every Sunday in the same
meetin' house, and the nabers uset
to obsarve, How thick the Ward.
and Peasleys air!"
Mr.. Hardy laughed aloud.
Don't you know dozens of people. ;
he added. who marry with much less
reasoning than that and with vastl,
less excuse? Don't you know mer
who have married women because
they were beautiful. not realizing un
til too late that beautiful face with
nothing behind 1t becomes as tire
some as a beautiful landscape seen
daily?
"A fortune in money or beauty
HERALD -WRIGHT'S STRING 2-o
counts for little with the man who re.
ally seeks happiness. 1t is better to
have fortune in your wife than with
her"
What constitutes a fortune in a
wife?"
"Womanliness. and all that II
stands for-tenderness. thougatful-
ness. solicitude. candor, obedience.
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