Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]) 187?-1922, 1906-04-29
Marry EARLY IL Possible.

Rev. b. j. Hardy, author OF How to Be
Happy, Though Married." who, during a
busy life spent as army chaplain in all
parts OF the world, has already published
some ten books relating to marriage and
kindred topics, has just issued his elev-
enth volume. What Men Like in Women. q"
Get married. Marry early II possible,
often II necessary; but keep married" said
he, with a smile, during an interview re-
ported for the St. Louis Globe-Democrat
by Miss Lavinia Hart.
Rev. Hardy is a past grand master in
the intricate science Of being married and
being happy at the same moment How
TO BE Happy, Though Married" which has
been translated into every civilized tongue,
succeeded because it was something more
than cluster Of day dreams and theories.
Rev. Hardy had weathered years of con-
jugal storms before he ventured. through
the medium Of the printed page, to beckon
the whole world toward the halycon state
OF matrimony
mot that it's always a harycon state"
he said, stroking his luxuriant beard that
lent dignity to his words as well as Offer
ing an occupation for awkward pauses
but at least It holds out all the oppor-
tunities for the skilled workman or the
willing Apprentice. Married life is what
we make 1t. There is every chance to
make II heaven; there is every possibility
that we may make II hell. But, like the
Hindoo eternity, there is no purgatory, no
middle course"
And the shortest cut to the conjugal
heavenf' asked the interviewer.
The reverend gentleman smiled.
There is no short cut II you rush into
matrlmony the same way you rush for
trains and dash through shops and swal-
low your food. l do not wonder that Won
get marital indigestion. There is not any
short cut TO the .conjugal heaven IL Is
reached by weeks and months ana years
of patience, toll, self-sacrihce and un-
selnshness."
''Oh, and the honeymoon"
us far removed from heaven. II is n
passageway, mined with explosives; an
initial step to a fall that Is bound to come:
the fall from the ideal TO the real; the re-
alization that she to whose eyes we wrote
sonnets and he about whom we spread
the mantle Of a god are ordinary human
clay, with human faults and human weak.
nesses. It's bad shock always Take
my advice and make the wedding trim
short. It's best to be at home when the
waking comes the Inconvenience OF travel
are no help TO sweet temper"
Aheh you mean 10 say that everyone
who marries Is disillusioned7"
Exactly; and the sooner the better
Illusions have no part In active, earnest
married life. When the man finds the
woman is not an angel. II lac be a sensible
man. he will be glad OF It. II she were
perfect his own faults would stand oul
the more glaringly."
Il thought real love was blindT'
mo, that's amateur. Real love is the
sort that continues to live with the frill,
cut away ana the colored lights cut out
Real love Is oonjugal love. that has passee
the stage OF establishment and mad,
itself Arm on a foundation OF fact, Of mu
tual forbearance and compromise, and az
unselhshness that governs alike grear
events and merest details"
The bride Is bought. the bridegroom sold
Its marvellous" he said 1.-THE materia
methods some people follow with reEar,
10 matrimony, frequently with success
think IL Is because beneath all the prao
teal calculation something stronger at
tracts them. Do you remember the ae
counts Artemus Ward gives OF the affect
Ing ties THAI made him banker after Bets,
Jane? Her fathers farm lined our'n
their cows and ourn squencht their thurs
at the same spring; our old mares both ha,
stars in their forreds; the measles brok
out In both families at nearly the sam
period; our paents (Betsy's and mine
slept regularly every Sunday In the sam
meetin' house. and the .-""~S used 10 oh