The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1906-02-18

One ventures on the thinnest ice
when one dares to speak on so delicate
a subject as the management of hus-
bands. Yet every wife is well aware
that there are perfectly legitimate and
exceedingly subtle ways of manage
ment which she does not exploit in pub
lie, yet which she practices with more
or less success in her home, and her
daily routine The stronger sex takes
kindly to good management Mothers
learn this while their boys are in kits,
and if they are wise and discreet they
do not force issues and precipitate
uuerrels with little men of 8 and years
Old The boy is father to the man. In
most cases judicious handling proves
much more efficient with both boys and
men than vehement urging, disa gree
able complaint and strenuous opposi-
ton.
1t is part of the nature of husbands
to present both sides of any question
submitted to them for settlement, and
as rule they present first the side
that is contrary to the wishes of their
wives. They do not mean in the end
to deny reasonable requests, but they
must have their little argument Just
after New Year a skit appeared in
newspaper illustrative of this almost
universal masculine tendency:
Bills to the right of him,
Bills to the left of him.
Bills in the front of him,
Dad deeply wondered;
Frightful the charge they made,
Senseless the price you paid,
Then on the table laid
Check for six hundred"
Of course he did That is the sort of
thing the American husband is by way
Of doing so long as he has a dollar in
his pOcketbook or an account TO his
credit in the bank He gets the heavi-
est end of life in hard work, year in
and year out, with few holidays, big
anxieties and short summer vacations.
His vife has all he can give her, and
he gTudges her no surface, yet he must
have his bit Of fault-finding and his
| occasional fuss and fret because he is
human and because he is man. and
because, being a man, he likes TO say
no originally and TO be cOaxed into
saying yes, by the people he loves.
| 1t goes without saying that the sort
| Of management that suits one man
| does not suit another If ever you
| lived in the Bluegrass country and had
| to do with horses, you know that riding
| or driving horses are not to be treated
| as if they were machines. They must
| be approached with some Difference to
| temperament, to heredity and TO the
rules Of the road.
| Precisely the same rules apply to the
/
| bands. A tired and hungry man is not
/ the man to whom one should bring an
| unpalatable subject. If you want TO
| plead for the boy who is going wrong,
| who is as much his fathers as his
| mothers son, wait for fitting mo-
| ment If you are assured that there
should be q change for the better in
| household economy, do not select a
| time when the market is in a panic,
or the merchant depressed over uncer-
| tanties. to force the thing on his notice.
| Married people should remember that
| in double harness q team needs to be
perfectly matched.
/ There is q novel by Anthony Hope
/ in which there are more misfit couples
! than one often sees grouped together.
! One and all they misunderstood each
| other and pull the wrong way, with
| the result Of continual friction, suspi-
/ cion and Jealousy. A book recently
| published gives a picture of a dOmes-
| tic tyrant who could have been man
aged only by the primitive method Of
brandishing a club. This method Is
| inexpedient and not to be thought Of.
but the few en- who by nature and
practice trample rough-shod over their
! wives and children, who forget the
| first principles Of the code that OBJ
tains among gentlemen, are not Mt for
matrimony. Fortunately for the hu-
seen in civilization.
/ A wife who has become mistress of
the gentle art Of good management
never brusquely contradicts her hus-
| band She may be quite aware that
he is in the wrong, but she waits until
the right opportunity comes before set
ting him right. She does not make fun
of MIN in the presence of his friends,
nor point q Jest at his expense. She
i understands that Difference is in itself
an adornment and that she may main
| tain her ground as carefully and sue
cessfully without discOurtesy as by We
henence and cIamor. A little wifely
tact the expression Of genuine affeC-
ton and the lavishing of small atten-
tons go a long way in keeping q home
De lcefuI and happy. and in making the
man at the head of it pleased with him
self.
It is a rare art. that of living com
: fortably with others. In order to at
tain it. pains must be taken and self
must sometimes be denied.
There are trifles IN which most men
are rather helpless. They are not adopts
with the needle, and the few stitches
by way of repair that their wardrobes
need should never be permitted TO in
trude upon their notice. Men should
be fed and starched and mended so IN
| obtrusively that these good things
. would seem to them as in the order of
: daily living, like the sunshine and the
! air.
} When Mary married John it was in
the bond that John should furnish the
money on which the keep the house