The Montgomery advertiser., 1905-08-27
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER.

cousins the phrase if not the idea oi | the weeks end" visit. Over here we are busy people. and our leisure class
 is limited. Only the rich can afford to be idlers, and probably many of the poor would be amazed If they knew how strenuous hundrecs of rich men
 work, disdaining to spend their lives | in pursuit of mere pleasure.
 I ~ The week's-end, bringing with 1t the Saturday half holiday tempts thousands | from city dust and closeness to the enjoyment of rural quiet and the sweet peace of the country Another notable feature of lpresent-day life is seen in the multiplication of suburban homes, which are no longer exceptional, but are the frequent choice of young married people who seek repose, and of men who like a bit of garden and a cot tage when their days work Is done. Add to this the growing popularity of out door sport as a hopeful sign of the times,
 During the summer the Saturday trains and boats are thronged with
 travellers, who carry suit-cases and who go with light luggage for day or two away from home.
 The hostess who sends an invitation to her friends in town for this Satur- day to Monday visit should be careful to specify definelfy dates and trains. Fashion and courtesy now require that there should be no uncertainty as to the time for which a guest is invited, the hour for arrival and departure being precisely stated, if the coming guest be a man of affairs, and the morn ing or afternoon being more broadly mentioned to a feminine guest.
 Thus Mrs. Hunter asking Miss Green to pay her a weeks end visit may say: Please give me the great pleasure or having you in this home of mine, which you have not yet seen, and come month and day) I will met you at the station at live o'clock. You will find the four o'clock express very easy and comfortable train. l hope that you will remain with me until Tuesday afternoon"
 Inviting a man whose time was not his own the same hostess would ask him to come on Saturday afternoon and stay until Monday morning, assur- ing him that he could have breakfast at any hour Monday that would suit his convenience.
 A guest who goes for the weeks end visit should not be burdened with too many changes of raiment. A man may take his evening clothes, SO that if the household be formal he can dress for dinner. t1e may SaAO DuSANoS O SHAS of fiannels that he may be ready for tennis or golf.
 A woman, in addition to her travel ing dress. should have a pretty gown of organdie or summer silk, whtch Will be sufficiently festive for any function For her own room or the veranda she should have some sort of neglfgee, which she may wear while chatting alone with her hostess At the break Col and vhpn in com = pany with the other guests, a shirt waist and skirt are in good taste when a kimona or wrapper Is Inadmissable. The same rules concerning dress ob- tain if a lady goes with her husband to spend the week's-end at the shore or anywhere else in a hotel. One never wears any sort of lounging dress such as a tea gown, kimona or dressing jacket, although these may be very
 continuously finished and richly em- broidered, outside of one's own room in a hotel The dress worn by women in places of public resort should be simple and severe rather than elabor- ate. This Is the rule in this country, although very elegant and costly cos- tunes may be seen in the great cara vansaries of New York. The woman who is simply bird of passage must not wear gay plumage.
 Carry to the weeks end visit de- termination to enjoy yourself and to have a good time. There are people who are everywhere welcome because they bring with them light heart, a gracious manner and willingness to be entertained. Nothing is more de- pressing to a hostess than somebody with a heavy personality. who settles down, wants to do nothing, to go mo- where, and who contributes little to ! the general fund of pleasure. Guests should conform to the rule of the household in which they are received
 It is a part of good breeding not to
 be late at meals, and on Sunday morn ing to be ready to attend church with the family and to express interest in the preacher and the services.
 4 guest in private house Is not at all on the footing of a guest at an inn. It is incumbent on him or her to enter fully into the family life. No we'll bred guest treats any member of his hosts family with negligence or dis courtesy. For instance. If there Is in
 the family an aged man or woman. or an invalid a guest should not fail to | bestow some attention on such, and should take great care not to pass them by without kind words and looks Especially should attention be shown | to anyone who has the misfortune to
 be deaf and who is therefore likely to | be left out of the conversion and to miss some of it's delicate shades. About giving tips to servants there
 is wide difference of opinion. There l are employers who are extremely an
 moved at the though that a guest un-
 der their roof shall bestOw a fee or gratuity on the maid or the man who rendered a service. Others are less sensitive on this point, and have no
 objection to allowing their domestics
 to accept q tip from departing guest
 As company in the house always
 means extra work for the help, they
 are not the blame if they prefer those
 guests who slip little money into the
 hand when they are going away. A lady may please a maid as well by be-
 slowing on herAeome pretty gift such as a stock. a handkerchief, ribbon
 or a pair of gloves, as by giving hel money outright. Unless lost and
 hostess are known to be opposed to the
 practice, a guest need not hesitate tc
 give a small sum to those who have ministered to him or her comfort.
 Years ago, a man who was born ant had lived abroad all of his life, was
 often a visitor in the home of a young
 girl whom he greatly admired, ant who latter became his wife. Following the European custom, he always set his boots outside his bedroom door al ,tgbt and ha invariahIv found then