Wausau pilot. [volume] (Wausau, Wis.) 1896-1940, 1905-01-17
The Too Good Wife.


and folly weary man marries an inno-
cent, unworldly and good woman"
Ee wants az sweet home life he has
not found in the paths of pleasure. He
wants the unmercenary devotion of
loving womoan. 1t is the inevitable
goal of every worth while man. The
woman feels that she is filling wom-
ans highest mission III reclaiming
lost sheep. But how few such women
know the wise middle course to walk
with such man.
1t is all very well to listen and be-
I.eye when he tells you he is happier
than he has ever been in his life be-
fore, and that his home is dearer to
him than any club on earth. But 1t is
far from very well if you fall upon
his neck and weep the first time he
intimates that he would like to drop
in at the club and talk with the old
chums for an hour This is the poor
est method you could adopt to convince
him of the greater joys of home. The
fact that he should want to visit the
old scene now and then is not an indi-
cation that he is sick of home or that
he is wandering from the fold again.
If you have married man who has
been overload of the fair sex, and If he
is kind and true and loving, do not be
forever upon the alert lest he stray
from you. Constant surveillance never
yet kept a man true. 1t has made
many a man unfaithful
Although your husband may have
told you over and over again that you
are tenfold more pleasing to him than
any woman he ever knew before he
met you, that does not signify that he
might not like to sit by some other at
a dinner party. 1t does not signify
that he would not enjoy talking with
others whom he regards less highly
than you. In the association with the
women he does not love man often
most appreciates the woman be does
love. Should he take a seat by some
other woman and converse with her in
your presence, do not act sulky, dis
trait or injured. That only makes you
ridiculous and unlovable
Although your innocence and I'M
worldliness won your husband from
the paths of folly, those qualities will
not keep him at your side unless you
mingle common sense and tact with
them. 1t is easy for many women to
be brilliant, and it is easy for others
to be good. But it seems the most
difficult thing in the world for a wom-
an to be sensible.
Be satisfied if your husband gives
up the liberties which the world al
lows a bachelor, but do not ask him
to relinquish the courtesies and recre-
ations which are every mans privi-
lege. Drive suspicion from your door,
and install confidence in its place. Gull
tivate self esteem and self confidence,
and think, act, talk and live so sweetly
and lovingly that rivalry is impossi-
BILE.
The best of his devotion and the
larger portion of his leisure should be
given her voluntarily. But to make
him willing captive should be wom-
ans art, not to make him a life prison
er, and the home a reformatory, and
the wife suspicious warden, always
imagining that the prisoner is plan
ming escape. The good wife must pos
sesS other qualities besides goodness
to make her marriage with mere
man successful.
Common sense and tact must be two
strands of the rope to make it strong
enough to act as an anchor for the do
nestle ship. The too good wife relies
wholly upon one strand and the ship
breaks anchor.-Ella Wheeler Wilcox
In Spokane Spokesman-Re