Evening times-Republican. [volume] (Marshalltown, Iowa) 1890-1923, 1905-02-28
GOOD MANNERS.
Margaret sangster Gives Rules for All
Occasions
York Daily Tribune.

York Daily Tribune.
"rrhe word politeness carries with 1t
hidden meaning of elegance and of
the ease that is acquired by minglng
with ones fellows" ssys Margaret
Sangster in Good Manners for all Oc-
casons," published by The Christian
Herald 1T springs from the Latin
polio ,smooth), and smoothness is gain
ed not by seclusion, but by the attrit-
ion of the city, by the reciprocity that
needs must be exercised where people
meet one another often ard there must
be mutual concessions that there may
be peace and agreeable living together
IA rough diamond is valuable, OF
course but it's value is greatly increas-
cd when the tool of q cunning work
man has brought out it's beautiful pos
sibilities, shown the immortal fire I'M
der the shining surface, and made
every point star. A man who thrusts
his knife into his mouth or sticks
piece of bread on the point of a fork
into the platter of roast meat or chick
en- may have every virtue in the cal
endar. vet the fly in the pot of ONT
ment spoils the sweetness or tne
whole He offends the accepted can
Ons OF good society.
by good society l do not mean
fashionable society. 1t happens that
the very rudest people l ever met ne
longed to a very exclu slVe circle OIL
cosmopolitan America n city. Inc
mon and women to whom l refer were
away from home attending an EXPOSE
ton i'm southern state. Ihey naa
been most Hospitality Ell tertained ana
most kindly welcomed, but their alf
of detachment, of pride, Of indifference
to those around them, might have be-
fitted folks of the baser sort, who had
never had a chance to learn propriety,
but We're glaringly out OF place In peo-
people who had enjoyed every advan-
tase that wealth, travel and culture
could bestow.
con the other hand. have seen
man in leather apron, with hands
calloused by labor and clothing patch-
ed and faded, whose manners would
have been admired in court. one
seldom encounters gross rudehess
among poor and Woodworking people.
They may not know all about the fr1lls
and fripperies and furbelows or con-
yentional and ceremoniouS pollteneSs,
but they are polite to the core, WIN
the politeness that gives the best ana
warmest chair in the chimney corner
to the old and feeble grandparent, that
offers a seat at once in street car 10
the laundress with her basket or the
mother with her baby, and that puts
itself out to show stranger the way
or to. relieve a woman of a heavy bag
or awkward bundle.
"A subtle distinction exists between
manner and manners. The first is
often inherited; it Is made up OF In
Vulnerable little peculiarities that be-
long to the race and family. In we'll
known romance the hero is man we'll
born and of aristOcratic traditions, nut
illiterate and IMMERSED in the ways that
had been the natural expression OF
character in his family for generations,
He is a. day laborer on the SOIL that
was once his and that has been wrest-
ed from him by fraud Yet tho his
manners are sometimes flawed by Ill
temper and discomfort, his manner is
noble. 1t is the grand manner of his
father. Manner shows what spirit we
have to do with our daily conduct. "A
man or woman who is familiar with
etiquette to the least detail may nave
an awkward, defiant or self-consc1ous
manner that will be fearful handicap
in business success ard detract from
the enjoyment one may look for In
hours Of leisure" ~