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Since | have walked with YOU nv dear,
Along the way love makes so clear
Irene l.. bearing in Boston Transcript
Lack Of Personal
Liberty in Married Life.
Married life is dull because there is
not enough freedom in it.
Every metaphor that we use in regard
10 marriage has in it the idea Of slavery.
We speak of the yoke of matrimony,"
OF the bonds of wedlock," of the mar
riage tie" of the ''fetters Of matrimony"
and SO on.
And it is because these SMILES fore
shadow great truth, and married peo-
pie are no longer free but slaves, that
marriage grows irksome
The thing that makes the yoke of mat
rimony gail US IS the mere fact that it is
Il yoke.
1t is this sense of there being no yoke
that so often makes the irregular rela-
tlonShlp that men and women establish
have permanency, a harmony and an
undying interest and charm that mar
rage ought to have. and doesn't.
This point is worthy Of the serious CON
sideration of every man and woman.
The one unquenchahle passion of the
human heart is for liberty, and the per
son who deprives us of this does so ut
his or her peril.
Yet the very first thing every man and
woman do after they are married is to
try to take away the freedom OF the
other one.
The man has been in the habit of COM
ing and going as he pleases; of selecting
his own friends; and eating what he
likes.
The wife begins interfering with her
husbands liberty of action. He must
keep certain hours, as if he were a child,
or a servant
She also revises his list of friends, and
attempts to dictate whom he shall assO-
Cate with.
She decides what dishes are good for
his digestion, and whether he shall drink
ice water or wine with his meals.
The husband adopts the same course
toward his wife. He nrmly believes that
marriage gives him a right to take away
every particle of personal liberty from
his wife.
She must give an account to him of
every penny she spends.
She must be able to furnish an alibi for
every minute she is out of the house
If she wants to go off on little visit
she must ask his permission.
If she happens to have different views
on religion or politics she must conform
to his, for he considers that marriage
gives him the privilege of policing her
very soul.
Both husband and wife have done the
hest they knew to make home a peniten-
tiary and themselves jailers for each
other, and yet they wonder that married
life is dull
1t is dull 1t is so dull that men fly
from it to the corner saloon, where they
may do as they please.
1t is so dull that women consider going
TO a woman's club where they have to
listen to long winded papers dug out OF
the encyclopaedia. dissipation by con-
traSt.
1t apparently never occurs to either
husband or wife that by the time people
are OF marriable age they have worked
out the scheme Of life most in accordance
with their taste, and it is a dangerous
experiment to NEEDLE with anybody's hab-
it's
A woman seems to think that a man
Imarrles her to get somebody to reform
him.
a man seems to think that woman
marries him to get a boss.
There IS not one wife in a thousand
who lets her husband indulge his whims
and hobbies in his own house.
There IS not one husband in ten thou
sand that respects his wifes right to
hold different views, and pursue differ
ent course of action from his own.
Nowhere else in the world is there so
little freedom of speech or action permit
ted as in the home.
Neither husband nor wife has the in
telllgence or the lberalitY to accord 20
the other the great boon of personal lib
erty that they crave for themselves.
Yet the whole secret of married haDpi-
ness may be summed up in the two
words-Hands off.
The greatest mistake that husbands
and wives make in dealing with each
t,l- INT, ylov, ion
the popularity of human nature that
ma kes whatever is denied US the most
desirable thing on earth.
ne perennial row about the latchkey
mas made more men rove away from
home than all other causes combined.
The man who Is free to come and 60
rs he pleasas always pleases to stay at
home
The same rule works with women.
The woman Who feels she is bound to
her house like Il slave 10 a chariot wheel
hates domesticity. 1t is the woman who
knows that she can get away from it
now and then who is the most enthusiast
tic housewife.
In matrimony ydu have only to take
down the bars TO make both men and
women satisfied to stay where they are.
he lot of the slave has never been
esteemed q joyous one. ana il IS because
most husbands ana wives possess * ty-
rant ON the hearth whose grinding eX-
acilOnS make Nero seen n libeFal-mlul-
cd individual that married life is dull
Dorothy Dix in Philadelphia Evening
Bulletin.
House Furnishings.
Equipment of the house" said Mis-,
Maria ParlOa in lecture on that subject
AT Teacher college on Friday, SHOULD be
in accordance with the styla Of living and