The Cooperstown courier. (Cooperstown, Griggs Co., N.D.) 1902-1913, 1905-09-07

by the length of time that passes be-
fore there is an effort to fill the empty
place. 1t is, however, only in accord
ance with a law of nature that there
shall be, after time, cessation Of grief
and the effort to go on again under
new conditions, and with a new part
ner.
Nature always hastens to repair her
waste places. Flowers spring up and
bloom in the track that has been swept
by fire. The greenest spots are those
where battles have been fought.
No grief should last forever. 1t i'm
plies not the slightest disrespect, hard
ly forgetfulness of the past, in begin
ming again new chapter of life, in
new circumstances, with some one else.
In most cases it is inevitable that
desolate heart should snatch at some
probability of renewed comfort and
that there should be once again the en-
joyment of home life which is incom-
plete to the widowed.
1t Is the outsider who has nothing to
do with 1t who generally feels and ex-
presses most jealousy at second mar
riage of neighbor or friend. 1t hap
pens. too, that often there is apparent
ly good cause for this impersonal jeal-
ousy. For instance, q husband who
was sufficiently devoted to first wife,
yet who made no fuss about her, who
surrounded her with few delicate atten-
lions, and took for granted all the sac
rifices she made, is often most gallant
and lover-like in his attitude to his sec
ond wife. She comes to him after the
first difficult strife of youth, to acquire
competence, is over. In way, she
inherits the self-denial and sacrifice of
her predecessor. The wife OF the mans
youth did her own work, saved and
skimped, had few outings, and seldom
long holiday. A handsome gown was
perhaps an event to her. She was sat-
isfed with few luxuries. She was help
ing her husband to get firm foothold,
and make his money. BY and by, it
may be, worn out with incessant labor,
she slipped away into the grave.
The woman who, after a decent in
terval Of mourning, has taken her place
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clined to strenuous domesticity than
she was. She wears dainty gowns
and hats, and has plenty of charges in
her wardrobe. Her step-children do not
weigh heavily on her hands. the older
ones being promptly sent to school,
and the younger ones put under the
care of nurse or govern>ss. This
wife has leisure, retains her good looks,
is her husbands comrade and COM
panion everywhere, and has the joy
always priced by woman of knowing
that he is proud of her. Not infre-
quently the lot of second wife is far
more enviable and desirable than that
of her who was wooed and won in the
freshness of early girlhood.
.
There is room in the same breast for
faithful love as We all know, in more
than one direction. We love our friends,
our parents, our children, and the vari-
Gus affections do not crowd or jostle
or quarrel one with another. We love
people for different reasons, and along
different lines. Thus, second mar
riage may be equally as lcongenial and
equally as beneficial in its results to
both parties as the first, IL only it be
not marriage of convenience. When
people marry for any lower reason than
mutual esteem. and wish to help one
another on the road of life, they are
likely to arrive at failure and disap-
pointment. They have dared to lay pro-
fame hands on the ark of God.
II woman marry her second hus.
band because he has wealth and can
give her opportunities for herself. or
for the children of her own first mar
riage, that otherwise she cannot COM
pass, she is taking tremendous risk
OF one such marriage think, where
the gallantry of the lover fell away like
Q husk the day after the wedding and
the wife found herself united indeed
to a millionaire, but as we'll to sordid
miser. From the ample house to which
he took her the hired help was sent
away, and she was bluntly told that
he married her that he might save
money.
When man looking about him for a
second wife decides that this woman
or that will make him good house
keeper, that she will do his mending
and preside we'll at his table, and so
addresses her, emitting all thought of
romance, he is not likely to give or re-
ceive much happiness. Such a union is
hopeless in the higher sense. Married
happiness must have love for its foun-
dation stone. All satisfying pleasure
by the hearth is kindled by the breath
of true love. This is as true in a sec
ond or third marriage as in the first.
We must admit that people some
times find their true mates later rather
than earlier in life. We are not the