The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1905-08-13
How Girl in an Office
NAV Protect n err $ cit.
By Martha Stein.

employ many women emphasize ana clt tlsi--
date certain points. One thing which Is par.
lticularly perilous to the masculine balance
ana inclnes 1t to totter either into ove rmas-
$tcrlng irritation or into undue familiarity
is what Is termed the rlbbony glrl."53,ih nc
3ribbony girl includes the girl who uses per-.
fumory with Its subtle and gu ggestlve door
Of fostivity. The lace sleeve part cularly
evident during dlctntion, Is specially empha-
sized as being nnocuous to business. a pan
gle Is also offensive. 4li.all SS
Men, r csent o btrusive Fen1ininity.
"This,'' says Il male instructor VINO I'M ll'l-
presses upon his pupils the absence Of tinery,}
..Is because the business man reels thtat
fcmnInlty Is out Of place III the business
world anyhow, even though he has to submit
ia Il. He resents these things as obi rusively
feminine TO the man Of another type IT
suggests TINT the girl who wears them IS
~, easv ): that shc has tastes which she cam
not crafty; that She Is In the position whch
Ia summed lip MS q champagne taste ana q
beer pocketbook. /,
!" Tho average employer, too, will resent
any disposition upon the pnrt OF INC BIZ he
employs to discuss him. He Will prefer, nat nat
she wouldn't mention oven his good qlt'llitles.
1T would not add to his feeling Of safety us "
having her the conndante Of his business AZ y
fairs for instance to hear her say TO the
lother steuographers, us I did one the other
day: 4 We'll, he can have me-.
Sometimes a mhn is deficient h'mse ll,5 ~
what are known Us tactics. ol,e u 'i na'
kind. who had The slnccrest or business put
nose. had d stenographer who otfereo HIT
candy during dictation. She had PINK coi,i-
plexion and yellow hair, and was ihnoceh t tlS
friendly and cmbnrasslngly talkatiVc. lie
did not have the moral courage 70 eau her
down, but he managed TO get up eUo''s = -
discharge her.
u5,,v Girls Are Asked to Lunch,
Said a business woman VINO mas cone ne l lli'ulcc
IA raise the position OF the Chicago business
girl TO a higher plane a pretty sirl ,,[l1
7 nm SIRE was absolutely innocent Of any
Thing eycept the desire for attention. was
nlways complaining of being asked by her
gon,n,overs 10 70 out 10 luncheon. Ithappeneq
onc div that had sent her o work for some
fbodv that knew, and she came inWith the
s,mc story. l. knew that this man hadn't
asked her to lunch and had a chance to get
nj 1 ,,n whole story 1t seems that she came
IN swith$hcr hat on and nccosted the man,Who
was 81 fat and good naturcd person OF grutt
propensities but devoted TO his family.
".Say, do you know where the girls around
here get their unch?' said Miss Pretty Girl.
q "sNo, 7 don't know; suppose there must
hc some Joint around here some place was
the answer.
".Wcll do you suppose you could be kind
enough TO find out for me where it is z 55tft
"3.If YOU will wait Il minute my wife Is
4 going to stop for me and you can go with us,
was tho good ma tured answer sg5
tsa u: s n f5s5s.345si
Suuelch Man at First Advance.
"Now, this" said tho woman. who hap
pencd to be friend of the Wife was the
way in which tho girl got asked out to lunch
so many times. never sent her TO another
place. But this kind OF foolshness, bad as
it is, is only a small fraction OF the worse
than foolishncss that girls arc called upon to
meet. Tho training that have to give the
girls often Is Of a more subtle kind. For in
stance, sent a young widow not long ago
to place In which the man began q most
ELUSIVE and elaborate praise or her work.
She handled 1t nicely. Thank YOU very
much for your Kindness she said, but in
the future will ask you not to mention It
unless you find 1t necessary TO critclso It,
If he persists she will simply tell him that It
T will result in his finding another stenosrn-
pher These ovcrtures generally begin in
this way, or in Invitations out to lunch, or
in sympathy for the fact that the stcnogra-
pher Is working too hard, or In little offers Of
lemonade, which are apt to become treats
to something stronger. The office woman
who understands 1t ana who checks II right
in the start Is the ono who will not have
trouble"