Williston graphic. (Williston, Williams County, N.D.) 1895-1919, 1905-03-30

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amples:
An attachment srrang up between
two young people who seemed weli
adapted to each other, and presently
their formal engagement was an
nounced. Congratulations poured IN.
The young persons received them
smilingly, and said: 1T will be some
time before we are married. 1t Is 60
ing to be a long engagement"
In the first instance which was men
toned the engagement lasted for 1our
years. Then the girl, who was living
at home with her parents in modest
circumstances, became tired OF her
levers delay and married another
man. He was not the equal Of the first
one, and she was never really hap
by. This case represents large class.
The only remedy we can suggest IS
that the matter should remain an alb
solute secret until few months be-
fore a wedding can be announced.
In another case, which looked bright
at first, the girl was away from home
and her lover had never seen her par
ents. They were plain people, and
lived in a plain way, and when he paid
his first visit to her home his love
waned.
It has been said that IL you really
wish to break up an engagement you
can do it more surely than in any
other way by arranging visit OF
either one at the home of the other.
It is truly hard test. The self-con-
sciousness-the certainty with which
little things will go wrong, and the
disadvantage at which everything IS
likely to show--these form an almost
fatal combination.
Some variation Of this sort of trou-
BILE represents another large class or
"breakers" on which the embryo ship
of matrimony comes to wreck and
ruin. In this case the only remedy
would seem to be to know pretty we'll
the family OF the beloved one, ii pos
sible. before the final word has been
said.
A third class of troubles arise from
| q lack of imagination. Thus deli
cately reared girl, the heiress to
great fortune, became engaged to a
charming young fellow, who had
pledged his life to the cause Of for
eign missions.
Her parents were consecrated peo-
ple, who consented that their daugh-
ter should give her life to the heather.
But az the wedding day drew near,
and tho girl began to realize what
she was about to do, she faltered.
She Eeard weird tales of the terrors
Of he3 future career; of the loneliness;
CT tbs difficulty of mastering bar
| tarous dialect Her love was not
quite strong enough to support her
under the prospect--and, with the
wedding day all but set, she broke the
engagement.
The young man ought to have been
delighted to have been freed from
| such a weakling, but he was not. He
was heartbroken. 1t is said that any
man can recover in six months from
disappointment in love-" but there
| are many exceptions.
| Thus, a third class of cases may be
said to be those in which the circum-
stances of the young nan are not ap-
preciated by the girl until she has
come more fully face to face with
them than was possible in the very
dawn of their love. Poverty and other
| k.:~ - CIV o0rf h0o n
under this head. AS for a remedy,
what can be suggested, unless that
every effort should be made to picture
to each of the Interested parties the
conditions which will follow under the
plans already made?
Perhaps another class may be called
the "ocean-steamer" engagement.
The writer has personally known sew
| eral of this kind which melted into
| thin air as soon as the prosaic shore
was reached.
There seems to BE- something about
the environment of the ocean and the
appointments Of steamship, and the
| negligee in which most Of the pas
sengers appear, which alters the val
| ues of men and women.
Thus, one young woman who was
going to Paris on purpose to purchase
her marriage trousseau, fell in love
with one of the officers Of the steam
er on which she went over, wrote
home to her distracted lover that her
heart was now given to another,
bought her trousseau, with the inten-