Democratic messenger. [volume] (Snow Hill, Md.) 1869-1973, 1905-11-11

You hear angry words coming from
the clillrcn's bedroom. what Is the
matter giris:" hear you ask. why
this troublc;' oh" answers your
daughter Mary, Il cannot stand Jen-
playing with her dolls yesterday. and
she left her doll trunk out In the mid
die of the iloor have stumbled over
II again and again. Now ! have fallen
and hurt my knee. Then, mother. just
look AT that bed. II is n perfect sight.
II X her time to make II UP today. I
made II yesterday" Then you say,
daughter. why did you not put the
trunk away and make up the bed your
sclf:" With that Mary angrily losses
her head as she answers: Il simply
will not do .Iennics work am ready
10 do my nwn work. but am not will
ing To do hers" Why are the girls
quarrcling: They are both standing
upon their rights They are not for
bearing To each other They are not
willing 10 carry each others burdens.
They are not willing to go the twain
mile. They are willing TO do what they
have TO do. but they are not willing to
do what they do not have TO do for
each other
Domestic Difficulties.
What il true about the difficulties be-
tween the children Of home Is also
true in reference 10 most of the difficult
ties between husbands ana wives. In
stead of some men and women looking
upon the marriage altar ms an opportu-
nifty for promoting the happiness OF
their marital partners. they look upon
II Ms stepping stone to II throne,
where they can make their husbands
or wives work for them. Their mar
rage altar Is not symboliZed by the
beautiful nuptial ceremony which the
Cherokee Indians used To have. There
the young bride and groom used to
stand upon the opposite banks Of
brook and clasp hands over the run
ming waters 10 show that hereafter
their interests AMI work We're TO flow
together rs the waters of running
stream But instead of some husbands
being willing 10 go the twain mile for
the wife. or some wives being willing
to 20 10 the twain mile for the hus-
band. each says. Il will do for you
what | am compelled to do. and will
not do anything else"
y young man wooes. wins and mar
ries IL young girl She has been brought
up in "A well 10 do fathers home. She
was an only daughter. and TO great ex-
tent she has been spoiled. Time passes
on Iheyoung husband tries 10 keep up q
home TO the standard In which his wife
has been accustomed 10 live. but the
income is too small to meet the outgo.
Day after day he keeps saying: Mel
lie, you must economizc. You must
lessen our expenses. Cannot you make
your old hat do this winter: Cannot
YOU send the children TO the public
SCHOOL," NO" she answers. Il shall
not. You married me. and it is your
place to take care of me. | never
heard this nag.ing question OF money,
money. money. in my fathers home.
ana ought not To hear il now" The
yOun. man siaggcrs on In his struggle.
He takes To drink. Kind words are
now exchanged for angry ones. The
domestic difficulties eliminate in the
livorce court. Why? The wife was
unwilling 10 go the twain mile for her
husbands love. ON the other hand. the
husband Is just us much tn blame as
tie wife. From sickness or overwork
the wife may become Il nervous wreck.
In her weakness Is he always gentle?
Is he always kind? Is lie always
thoughtful: Does he try To shield her
as lie ought! DO the two angels Bear
and Forbcar hover over his iireside?
Are we all. for our dear ones sakes,
ready Ia travel the twain mile OF sacri-
flee:
Are we ready 10 do for our dear ones
what | saw Il noble friend of mine do
for his helpless. tongucd tied and men-
tally becioipicd wife. who few months
ago went to her heavenly rest This
gentleman M the time knew him had
passed his thrcescore years and ten.
His wife had fatal disease creeping
over her that was rendering her more
helpless every day. Instead of the old
gentleman leaving her at home TO be
cared for by servants lie waited on her
as calamity and devotedly as though
she were young girl He cut for her
the food at table When lie had guests
she was always by his side to eat with
them. When She split her cup of cof-
fee. as she sometimes did. he would not
apologize TO us. but sweetly say to her:
"Never mind. Jennie: never mind. 1t
IL all right" When we went out to
hear one of the greatest singers in the
world he took her along because even
In her physical and mental weakness
she always loved music. Then he
would say to me: "Ah. IL you only had
known her when she was well, can
never be too good to her for what she
has been to me-" Yes. in the home we
should never forget what our dear
ones have done for us. They have
Travelled the twain mile often enough
for us. Shall we not travel the twain
mile for them?
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