The Bamberg herald. [volume] (Bamberg, S.C.) 1891-1972, 1905-05-04

y " y marks which one often
e y hears passed about those
U,.e,,,,.e0 members OF the sterner sex
ooooo who will persist in remain
Ing in a state of single blessedness.
They are not performing. their duty to
the State; selfishness and Incidence are
two of their main characteristics; while
gayety and dissipation are their chief
objects in life. These and many other
accusations are continually being
hurled at those men who refuse to be
drawn into the realms CT hymen.
There is doubtless certain amount
Of truth in each Of the accusations, but
they are not always justifiable. AS a
matter Of fact, men who, actuated by
selfish motives, remain bachelors from
choice, are by no means numerous.
There are few men who do not recog-
nize that it is their duty to marry. In
fact, one might 60 so far as to say that
marriage is as much a natural ambition
with them as it, is with the opposite
sex. Why, then, the disappointed maid
may ask, do SO many men remain un-
married if only few do SO from
choice? -.
For practically only three other rea-
sons. First, there is the man who re-
mains a bachelor because of disap-
pointing love affair, when, having
failed to win the girl on whom he had
set his. heart, he remains true to his
first love and refuses to allow another
girl to supplant her In his affections.
Then there is the man who has never
met 'Miss Right" snd will not ask
girl to marry him whom he does not
truly love. The remaining type OF
bachelor is the one who outnumbers
all others. He is the man whom girls
have made into a bachelor. In other
words, they have spoiled his opinion
Of their sex, and he comes to the con.
elusion that it would be best for him
% content himself with his male friends
rather than risk his happiness with
daughter Of Eve.
Inquiries among a few bachelor
friends recently led to the discovery
that Disappointment in the fair. sex
chiefly arises from lack of womanly
modesty and dignity. And there is no
sainsaying the fact that great many
girls nowadays.by no means add to the
reputation which their grandmothers
gained for true womanliness. Times,
Nof course, have changed, and forty or
fifty years ago girls were not allowed
the freedom which is now granted to
them without comment. >.
But there is disposition on the part:
Of many present-day girls to abuse the
freedom they enjoy, and by so doing
they lower themselves in the estima.
ton of the opposite sex. Which type OF
girl do you think men are most, attract
ed toward? The girl who never fails
to impress you with the fact, both. by
her words and actions, that she de-
spises the laws of ''Mrs. Grundy," or
the giI who prefers to enjoy her pleas.
ures in a quiet manner, and strictly
according to the rules as to what is
becoming and what is unbecomtng con-
duct on the part of young woman?
The girl who will go to dances and
theatres at night in company with any
male friend who offers to take her;
will firt with anyone to whom she is
introduced, and talk in that bold, free
and-easy manner which is only war
ranted by long and intimate acquaint-
anceship, may be voted "jolly girp'
for the time being by some men, but
she disgusts the majority. She makes
herself cheap in their eyes, and they,
pity the man she marries. For they ar
que that if she has such little self-re'
pect and wpmanly pride before mar.
Lage, she is not likely to gain it after
rard, and moreover, would scarcely
3e content with the homage Of one man
then she had been accustomed to that
II several.
Then again, take the case Of the girl
who, possessing q somewhat coquet'
tish nature, finds the greatest pleasure
in the number of conquests she can
make. At last she meets the man who
really gains her love. Probably he has
some affection for Ter. But the
thoughts of how she has treated other
men are continually before his mind.
They prevent him from proposing or
cultivating anything warmer than
friendship, for he fears the treatment
meted out to others. And, after seri-
Gus consideration, he decides that it
would be better for him to try and for
get this girl. He occupies his mind
with other matters, and should the girl
marry some one else out Of pique,
which in all probability she would do,
he simply heaves sigh over the past,
thinks of what might have been, and
settles down to bachelothood. - New
York Weekly.
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