Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-07-30

about which she had carried her point.
despite the mild circumstances of her
fiance in favor of a quiet home affair.
1t took her some days to compile a list
that she was certain included all her friends
and acquaintance, and would not cause
any one to think that he or she had been
either Intentionally or unintentionally over
looked. Then she sought her father
DADDY. dear" she said. I've got all
made out the list of the people 1 personally
want to invite to my wedding. Do you
want to look it over and add any names?
The indulgent head of the household SUI
perficially scanned the list. then jotted
down the names of a half dozen boyhood
cronies, then handed it back to his daugh-
ter with the remark that il very sat
isfactory list, indeed
The daughter looked at the new additions
and her face fell.
Are they the only ones you want to in
vite?" she asked.
Yes, said the father "besides the ones
you've already got down They're my clos
est friends, and l don't know of any I've
left off the list
But how about the lots and lots of men
you do business within
That's just it, daughter They are not
friends; they are merely business acquaint-
ances"
But, father. why can't you invite them
anyway, the ones you do the most business
with? I'd get many more gifts them
On the other hand, cases have been known
where fathers insisted inviting mere
business acquaintances for various osten-
sible business reasons to family weddings.
The cloth is not all cut one way, but the
question is
Is this graft? And If you can't decide
the question for yourself perhaps it would
be well to ask the aid of some business ac-
Quaintance who has been the recipient of
an invitation to the Wedding of a daughter
or son of man he knows solely in
business way.
When Smith went to the city from his
home town he polite enough and
thoughtful enough to look up his old
friends who had preceded him to the broad
er field, but after paying a call all around
he neglected to avail himself of the numer-
Gus opportunities that were given him to
continue the old friendships. 1t is safe to
say that he did not see one of his old cro-
MES twice year, and whenever one of
them, in an effort to get in touch with
Smith, would call him up by phone to
make an appointment for lunch or some So
cial event Smith would always reply that
he was too busy.
After this had been going on for some
time, Smiths cousin moved TO the city, and
the first thing the cousin did was TO in
quire of their old friends.
"HoWS Jones?' asked the cousin.
Haven't seen him for six months" said
Smith
well. how's Brown
Haven't seen him for six months,
either
So it went through the entire list; then
the cousin asked:
Don't you keep in touch with them any
nl0re?'
NO" was the reply, II don't. Why
should I? They can't be of any service TO
me. l made 1t point when l came here
TO know and associate only with people
who will be useful to me-"
This same Smith decided that he would
spend the summer months at the sea-
shore
You see" he explained to his cousin.
at will not be so expensive as it may
seem at first blush. 1 know a lot of swell
girls down there whose fathers have cot
tages, SO I'll just take room at some
bachelor hotel get my breakfasts at the
restaurants-eggs and rolls and coffee won't
cost much-and for most of my dinners I'll
get myself invited to their homes by the
girls l know
Graft?
Said young man two years out of coll
lege-a brokers' clerk and something of a
society chap-tc his chum:
She's a good girl to know Fathers got
wads OF money. Gives her all sorts of
turnouts. Two afternoons last week she
called up and wanted to know If I'd like to
go out driving with her. OF course, / was
delighted. Takes me out to her golf club
too, and the Country Club every once in a
while. Meet a lot of influential people
through her. Maybe some of them will be
OF benefit to me some time. But Just now
I'm having jolly good time driving be-
hind tandems and pairs and meeting people.
Tell you what, she's a girl worth knowing
and cultivating. and l intend to keep in her
good graces. Why don't you get acquainted
with somebody like that?"
Graft?
Mrs. Perkins making a morning call
on her sister, Mrs. Henry, who lives in two