Evening star., 1905-11-04
IF YOU'RE ASKED OUT
Before the Weekend Visit
and After It.
TO ACCEPT OR REGRET
CORRECT ATTIRE AND THE LUG
GAGE NEEDED.
Pretty Ways to Show Ane's Apprecia-
tion-Sman Courte-
TO ACCEPT OR REGRET
Written for The Star.

popular ana uei1gntlui IOrmS OF entertain
ment for the invited guest. The cenrerins
Of interests in big cities keeps the busy
people of the twentieth century away from
the beauties of nature. and to many the
suburban home offers the only means OF
breathing In the freedom and luxury OF
pure country air. and then only for few
brief hours at the end Of the week.
The usual form of invitation for the week
end is a short note from the lady of the
house, the answer to which should be some
thing as follows:
my Dear Mrs Flagg:
Your kind note inviting me to spend the
Sunday of the 18th with you and your fam
ily reached me this morning, and 1 shall
be delighted to accept. 1 trust you will
pardon my leaving Sunday evening, but my
duties require that should be on hand the
first thing Monday morning.
Awaiting the pleasure. of seeing you all.
/ am, very sincerely. :, = 5-e.. /.
HENRY HARRISON" =
Should previous. engagement, prevent
the acceptance of the invitation. an imr,e-
diate deply in this wise is most courteous:
MY Dear Mrs. Flagg:
1T is with great regret that I am
obliged to forego the pleasure of accepting
your kind invitation for Sunday, the 10Th.
A previous engagement keeps me in town
for the day, and deprives me of a most en-
joyable visit to your delightful home and
family. With sincere regrets. Cordially,
HENRY HARRISON"
If the invitation comes in the form of
an unsealed note brought by an employer
or some friend from his Wife q prompt
answer should be sent by mail. A verbal
invitation demands a decisive and polite
acceptance or refusal.
Clothes for this weekend visit are impor-
tant. but lack of fine raiment should never
De the cause of refusing an invitation. The
very fact that you are offered the hosni-
tally of a home for one or two days signi-
ffes that you will be welcome whether or
not you are dressed in the tip of fashion.
Dress Needs.
For girl correct attire is represented
In smart tailored suit with dainty shirt
waist for travelling to and from the friend $
house, while a best hat which is not too
perishable in its makeup is none too good
Tor this short Sunday trip. At very fash
ionabie weekend each girl brings a steamer
truhh. with Tour or more appropriate cos
tunes Tor outdoor sports. dancing, etc. The
girl OF small allowance, however requires
simply dress suit case containing a light
HuHy dress for wear at dinner and durinp Q
the evenings of Saturday and Sunday. q
SIX oress, II she possesses one, for church
etc, on Sunday. or a silk or other dainty
separate waist to be worn with her tailorad
skirt. The latter, by the way. should he
snort. In order that she may enter into any
outooor pleasures with freedom and com.
iessiy clean gloves are also essential. and
1t is well for girl to tuck a pair of eyenina
| Shippers into her bag. To be prepared fo1
| any sudden changes in the weather, always
larry an umbrella, so that there will be nc
necessity for borrowing in case of storm at
| the time of departure :"
| mans clothes consist OF the wall
pressed business suit which he wears and
| pieh'y .ny OF immaculate linen in a handbag
with number Of changes In neck scarfs
ana good warm overcoat. The man xvbr
| IS fortunate enough to possess one alsS
carries his dress suit, with clawhamme,
| coat. The sack coat is also permissible
| though not In perfect good form. In casf
dress suit Is not among his possessions
his linen should be changed each eyenine
before dinner. donning a dressy tie as
Wen, Whlie fresh linen each morning adds
| greatly to his appearance, and a white
! light vest no longer marks a man as 9
| candy, but gives a smart look to his
| business suit.
A Hostess Duty.
Once your hostess receives your answer
| to her invitation she usually sends shor,
| note informing you as to the best trair
| for your arrival. and her carriage or ons
| of the family meets you at the appointed
hour. If you are late in reaching the sta.
tion you must expect to find your owr
| way to her home To arrive before the
| appointed hour Is not courteous to YOU,
hostess, who may be busy with household
duties and hurrying so that her time may
| be perfectly free while you are with her
Should your hostess fail to let you know
| the best train for both your and her con.
venience. write a note telling her at what
hour you expect to reach her town, and
| find your way to her home by yourself
1t is one Of the very nice customs ot
these weekend visits to have afternoon
| tea served as soon as you arrive at the
| house. This is an English fashion which
is very commendabie, as dinner Is apt to
| be served at a later hour than you are ac-
| customed to. and the fresh country air
gives visitor a particularly keen appe-
tfte. Over the cup Of tea a hostess d.
| vulges her plans for you for the remain
| der Of the afternoon, and directly 1T is fin-
| fshed shows you to the room you are to
| occupy. quick freshening of your ap-
pearance and you return to your hostess
Immediately, and enter heartily into
| whatever may be proposed for your enter
| tainment
Ready for Breakfast.
Before retiring at night ascertain at what
, hour the family breakfasts, and IL you
have no timepiece make request that
you be called in plenty Of time to make a
| complete toilet 1t Is the height of rude
ness to keep any meals waiting for you TO
| put in an appearance.
II the family attend church you should
accompany them, appearing at breakfast
| in the costume you are to wear for the
day. 1t Is only a mark Of courtesy to your
nOStS 10 respect tnelr religious views, and
| unless they make point of your spending
| the day in the country. or quietly at home,
1t Is proper for you to attend whatever
services they do. Should none of the fam
| lily be churchwaEd bent, there Is no reason
| why You should not excuse yourself for
| these few short hours and attend your ia
rorite services,
The midday meal over. the hostess or
some member OF the family suggests some
kind OF entertainment, and 1t Is the least
a guest can do to enter cordially into any
and all plans. While accepting a persons
hospitality, be very careful that your per-
sonal likes and dislikes are not too appar-
Ont. II you are asked what you prefer TO
do state simply and truthfully. or II you
must decide between two forms of pleas
ure do not hesitate to speak your own
wishes This saves many family uncer-
tainties and even disagreements You are
being entertained. and It is only right to
suppose that your comfort and happiness
are OF first consideration to the friends
who are entertaining you.
Go On by Yourself.
Should no mention be made OF offering
you some other kind OF amusement arter
| the midday meal. md some good book and
enjoy 1t until the family comes together
for dinner or supper.
Sunday axynriuU 20 fyn ttv.a Fr~ xvssst3v~