Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-08-06
The Hopeless Defect

OF woman In all practical matters. II has
been declared. is that It is impossible to
make her thorough This has been proved
to be not too deep for her comprehension,
but too shallow. 1t depends entirely in
what sphere you find her as to whether she
lacks thorouEhncss. Some things she does
thoroughly beyond any dispute. House
work for instance, testifies to her ability
in that direction.
Women make thorough society managers,
and when one undertakes to lift church
debt she marshals her forces like a gen
eral She plans, organizes, conQuers and
governs in her home. She Is queen of the
kitchen as she Is of the drawing room. She
speaks four or five different languages. She
entertains royalty and suffuses sympathy
that charms a coterie of guests. She is an
untiring campaigner, but she does 1t so
easily one does not realize her capabilities
Also comes the argument that she exerts
her energies for poor cause. Imagine her
bringing the same influence to bear on the
new work she may undertake If she will.
Most fields are open to woman now, but
she has not nerved herself up to do well
the things she has the right to do.
Woman is not constltu:iOnaIly lacking in
thoroughness. She simply has not quite
como to looking her possibilities in the face.
In the fields woman has worked her
achievements have been glorious. II she
will form the same habits of ho-oughn
Intellectually that she has in her home pur-
suits she will gain high success.
For Civilized
And enlightened beings to display passion
is deplorable. Among savages and the
lower animals it is pardonable, for they
know no better. But those who have been
taught better should do better.
Must I keep my anger in my mOuth?'
asked a bright little girl 1t should never
get In anywhere. then one would neither
need To accept nor reject it. Anger has not
one thing to recommend it, 1t brings evil
To health and happiness 1t distors the
face, Increases the heart action, and de-
feats every good aim.
There is Il difference between righteous
resentment and unhridled passion. Calm
ness is always the most effective weapon.
There is the retOrt courteous which proves
the value of sclf-conuOL An old gentle
man in a fit of anger reproved young wo-
man by saying: Good morning. child of
;he devil" She answered sweetly. Good
morning, father II Is belittling to get an
CRY. The really wise and truly great will
not indulge in such barbariC display.
There is nothing that may not be con-
Quered by agreeable self-control A smile
for frown, a pleasant word for a cross
one. a swect-tempered expression for an
angry flashing glance, is more than even
exchange and brings a larger reward than
mere compensation.
Conversation
Between men and women Is always some
what insincere. In cultivated society men
endeavor to please women, and when
they talk they try to say as much as pos
sible what the others may be supposed to
wish to hear. Women have grown accus-
toned to this, and, consequently, when
opinions are offered which do not take into
account their personal and private feeling
they are inclined to be resentful.
This is fatal to truth, because 1t robs men
of the candor and frankness toward wo-
men they bestow upon each other. That is
why so many men are seeking the society
of cultivated women. whose intellects are
developed to the high standard of a mans
TO her he may express himself without re-
serve and know she will understand.
That woman who can enter the mind of
man and think thence possesses a wonder
full power ard charm for him. Were man
sure his mind would be entertained he
would not have a hatred for pink teas He
avoids them because he knows he will be
bored
Observe man OF the world whose opin-
ions known to you. Notice when he
speaks 10 woman. Mark the little pause
before he begins, during which he turns
over in his mind what he is about to say
and decides upon the manner that viii suit
her best. and too often the integrity of the
truth suffers by the method. Things he
does not care for in the least he processes
are OF the greatest Importance. Subjects
he knows to be of value are passed by. and
so the woman misses an opportunity for
culture IN order that the hour may be
agreeahy spent
Men, of course, are not likely to be severe
judges OF the abstract Intellectual quality
Of the talk when the woman is beautiful or
magnetic, or both. although if she be intel
lectual and so clever as to keep it subser-
Went to her grace and charm she becomes
the one woman In the world.
Insincertty
Is seldom attributed to the nl-mannered
boorish and brusque. The good faith is
likely to be questioned of one who is uni
versally polite. He who has agreeable