Omaha daily bee., 1905-12-24
Notes and Gossip for and About Women Folks

lick and a promise. and the work is not half
done"
What. me. Mis- Thompson? 1 dun swep'
dat room cherry day dis week. sho did,
Mis- Thompson"
Now, Betsy" said mother, in her most
conciliatory tone, you know you have been
careless-just look at the dirt under that
bed"
Dirt" said Betsy, quickly. Then stoop
Ing down and looking under the bed she
broke into broad smile. "Lor', Mis-
Thompson, dat amt no dirt, honey chile,
OATS jus house moss!"-National Magazine.
Twelve Rules for Choosing n Husband.
DR.. Harriet c. Keatinge OF New York
City in an address on Divorce" before the
New York Legislative league, laid stress
on the fact that mental, moral or physical
weakness could not be Judged before mar
riage, and that most mothers looked merely
to good clothes, good manners and some
money in the man who married their
daughters. The doctor drafted these rules:
/. The first requisite for a woman in
choosing a husband is an education, not
such as she gets at Vassar and Smith, but
an education in morals.
?. The next thing she should insist upon
is clean bill of health. man or woman
contemplating matrimony should be ex-
amined by physician, as for life insur-
ance. II there be any inherited or incurable
disease 1t will then become known. In the
event of an affection that is durable mar
riage should be postponed. II it be proved
beyond doubt that an silment is out of
the reach OF medical SKILL the man or
woman should be brave enough to renounce
marriage and take up some line of work
which may absorb his or her interests.
For in marriage, as in all else, the uplift-
ing of humanity should be the highest
consideration.
5, a woman should demand among the
good qualities of her husband that he be
well bred. The little delicacies of life go
far toward oiling the wheels.
4. She should look for congeniality of
tastes, well as some quality of intellect
or its development. A college-bred man
and a primary-school girl would be hope
lessly ill-assorted.
O. She should look for a husband to
whom she would be not only a wife, but a
good comrade. Comradeship is one of the
strongest ties in marriage.
G. She should never marry q man who
asked the sacrifice of her individuality or
permitted her to dominate his. Each has
a right to that inner self, for each soul
comes into the world and goes out of it
alone.
T. AS rule she should marry young, al
ways provided she has a sufficient knowl-
edge of the world. The ignorance Of
women in this regard is stupendous. But
men, too. are ignorant. The father should
be his sons teacher, the mother her daugh-
ters.
g. She should choose a young man pref
erably, because he then becomes educated
with her. They are likely to be more
adaptable to each other.
0. A young woman should never marry
a middle-aged man with the idea of chang
ing him. He will expect the woman he
marries to conform to standards already
fixed.
10. A woman should take some time to
study the character of the man with whom
she expects to spend her life
Ii. She should ask, above all things. the
confidence of the man she marries. II she
understands his circumstances a woman
with any heart will be willing to make
sacrifices and yet not run her husband into
debt
IL She should demand an allowance and
not consent to a housekeeping scheme
which includes the running of bills. She