Los Angeles herald., 1905-01-05


with ones fellows" says Margaret
sangster in Good Manners for All Oc-
casions," published in the Christian
Herald. at springs from the Latin
polio (snooth) and smoothness Is
gained not by seclusion, but by the
attrition of the city, by the reciprocity
that needs must be exercised where
people meet one another often, and
there must be mutual concessions that
there may be peace and agreeable
living together.
"a rough diamond is valuable, Of
course, but its value is greatly i'm
creased when the tool of a cunning
workman has brought out its beautiful
possibilities, shown the immortal fire
under the shining surface and made
every point a star. A man who thrusts
his knife into his mouth or sticks
piece Of bread on the point Of fork
into the platter of roast meat or
chicken may have every virtue in the
calendar, yet the fly in the pot of oint-
ment spoils the sweetness of the whole.
He offends the accepted canons of good
society.
"a subtle distinction exists between
manner and manners. The first Is
often inherited; it is made up of innu-
merable little peculiarities that belong
to the race and family. In we'll known
romance the hero is a man well born
and of aristocratic traditions, but illit-
crate and unversed in the ways that
had been the natural expression of
character in his family for genera
tions. He is a day laborer on the soil
that was once his and that has been
wrested from him by fraud. Yet
though his manners are sometimes
fawed by ill temper and discomfort, his
manner is noble. 1t is the grand man.
ner of his father. Manner shows what
spirit we are Of 1t is the temper of the
steel. Manners have to do with our
daily conduct A man or woman who
is familiar with etiquette to the least
detail may have an awkward, defiant
or elf-conscious manner that will be a
fearful handicap in business success
and detract from the enjoyment one
may look for in hours of leisure"
Mrs, William Parrish Jeffreys, nee
Hubbell, announces that she will not
be at home during the month of jan
uary but will receive on Fridays during
February.
Mr. and Mrs. George Guild Guyer
have issued invitations for the mar
riage of their daughter, Lillian Sara,
to Freeman Ames Ford, to take place
Wednesday evening, January is, at All
Saints church, Pasadena.
Mr.. and Mrs. F. w. Braun and
daughter are at Coronado.
Miss Bri Conroy is visiting friends in
San Diego.
Mrs. 1. N. Van Nuys was hostess
Monday evening at a theater party in
honor of Mrs. John w. Dwight of New
York, who, since her advent here, has
been more entertained than most chance
visitors. The affair was at the Mason
and among the guests were: Mr.. and
Mrs, Alfred Solano Miss Margaret
Sweet of Buffalo, N. Y; Miss Hor-
tense Childs, Miss Annis Van Nuys,
Will Wolters, Walter Van Pelt, Will
liam Carey Marble and Bent Van Nuys.
Following the performance supper was
served.
That discerning cubwoman, Miss
Helen NJ Winslow of Boston. has
framed a fresh set of New Year reso-
lutions for her kind that deserves a
larger list of adherents than it's local
publication can insure:
Whereas, We are all human and,
therefore, love gossip, let us resolve:
That we will cultivate spirit of
love and patience for every other wom-
an in the club, as we wish it cultivated
for us.
THAT if we hear a word of criticism
on another member, her words, actions
or dress, we will not repeat it.
THAT we will not answer such crit
icisms, except to say something good
of her who is assailed.
THAT we will make our club a place
where helpfulness and kindliness go
hand in hand.
That the Golden Rule is just as
good a guide in club life as it is in home
life, and that we will adopt it and
practice it,
When Pauline Periwinkle, the breez-
lest woman's club writer in the United
States, read Miss Winslow's resolu-
tions, she said
There is but one fault to find with
the foregoing. and that is it limits the
application of this helpful spirit of
charity to club sisters.
Whats the matter with treating ev-
cry woman with the same considera-
ton we give those who are club MEM
bers? Far be 1t from us to ever grow
so narrow-minded and Pharisaical as
to disregard the rights and feelings of