Warren sheaf., 1905-04-20
BY MARGARET E. sANGsrER.

come "Tongue-Tied" Difficulty.
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER.
Copyright. 1905, by Joseph B. Bowles.)
Amazing as the statement may be,
considering how glibly most feminine
creatures chatter, there are tongue
tied girls. Their conversational en-
doWments are limited and they have
no stock of ideas on which to draw
when they meet strangers or are away
from the sheltering orbit of the home
circle. They realize their limitations
and grope about to find the reason,
only to become constantly more dis
couraged and less confident of them
selves than before.
How can conquer my disinclina-
ton to talk in company? how can I
learn what to say? how can / make
myself popular and entertaining?" are
questions often and sorrowfully put by
the girl who owns herself tongue-tied
and deplores the fact. Some girls can
talk very we'll on large subject that
has interested them and with which
they are familiar. But in order to do
this they must have time, place and
opportunity. There must be somebody
else to whom the large subject makes
an appeal, and who likewise has given
1t sufficient study 10 talk about it with
Intelligence, if not with enthusiasm.
girl of this solid, subs tantial type
is very much in the position of per-
WI h0 ~,
her pocketboolz, but has no small
change. Occasions arise when small
change is indispensable to comfort and
when one cannot easily get about the
world without its convenient aid. In
street car, for instance, ffty-dollar
bill might be useless, when a nickel
would carry one miles on her journey.
The small change of conversation
enables one to say light and cour-
tous thing quickly; it implies some
talent for banter and repartee, and it
is little dependent on use and wont,
on knowledge of the everyday circum-
stances of those about us, and on SYM
pathy with the moods Of those we meet
The girl who knows herself to be
tongue-tied, though she regret it, need
not despair of popularity. Nobody is
socially more disagreeab!e and more
dreaded tn woman who talks to-
much, monopolizing the conversation
taking the floor herself and firmly hold
ing it and giving no one else chance
to speak. People fly from this over
gifted and aggressive talker A mere
chatterbox is equally disliked.
A good listener is always sure of
appreciation. If you can but master
the fine art of listening to each person
with an air of deep interest, just as If
there were nobody else at the moment
in the wide world, and as if your great
est wish We're to understand what the
other is trying to tell you, you will
have the effect of talking well. All
that is really necessary is not to let
your attention wander and at the right
moment, in the right places. make
some brief rejoinder or affirmation
You need never fear that you will be
thought too silent if you listen well
and say yes or no at proper intervals.
A good listener is never a bore, while
a great talker frequently gains that
unhappy distinction.
Girls are sometimes tongue-tied be-
cause of Indifference. A bashful man
2er, up to a certain point, is attrac-
tive. But when it has it's root in
hampering self-consciousness which
makes one awkward and clumsy or
surly and defiant, it is fatal handi-
cap. Whence springs the overpower-
ing difidence which lays it's weird
spell on some girls 1 cannot tell Cir
cumstances have little to do with it.
Heredity may have much. One finds
girl brought up in town and accus-
toned to meeting strangers and kins-
folk all her life a victim of this
wretched bondage, while girl of the
same age, coming from country home
and background of solitude, may be en-
tirely free from it.
remember olce in visit to noun
tain land of the south to have seen a
beautiful girl ride up steep Eill path
and dismOunt at the door of the house
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room which happened ts be filled with
throng Of people most of whom were
unknown to her, and, standing within
the doorway, in a clear, sweet voice,
without a shade of embarrassment, she
gave message from her mother. Ad-
dressing the mistress of the house she
said what she had been sent to say.
and then, with graceful and sweeping
courtesy, took her leave, mounted her
horse and rode away. That" said one
of the ladies, "is the prettiest thing ]
ever saw"
1t was pretty because the young girl
in question, who had never in her life
been 80 miles from home, had not a
single vestige of self lf-consciousness
am often asked by tongue-Iied girls
what they can do to overcome the diff
Guilty Perhaps the most fatal thing
is to try to talk merely for talks sake.
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