New-York tribune., 1905-02-07
HOW TO BECOME CORNER STONES
Dress, Looks and Manners of Young Women
Discussed by Miss Burrill

really good, deeply religious women wave their
hair becomngly and pretty clothes" writes
Katharine Burril in her entertaining book Cor
ner Stones (Dutton & Co. New-York City,
Why Corner Stones? the reader will probably
ask The author forestalls the query by quoting
on her title page, That our daughters may be as
corner stones. polished after the similitude of
palace" That is the keynote of the book.
There few topics touching intimately the life
| of young that this lively author has not
touched upon. Health, clothes. letter writing
books, diaries, cooking housekeeping. manners and
manner, troubles, amability, being neat and tidy
few girls women could read what Miss Mrs
Burr has to say to them topics of consequence
like these without wanting to be corner stones
themselves
But to quote here and there from this exceed
ngly Quotable volume:
Unless people going to be all in all each
other cannot imagine why they even think of
| marriage. 1t seems such dreadful of time;
nothing takes SO long arguing and Quarrelling
and explaining. making it up and quarrelling again
People tell you there is nothing like real good
quarrel for clearing the air and making you better
friends This may be true of schoolboys but then,
that is fists. not words.
Two boys may hammer each other till thev both
have black eyes and then shake hands and swear
an eternal friendship But we presume few
husbands and wives of any education or refinement
take to fists throwing plates about they are
better not TO quarrel. Words are more dangerous
to sling about than plates. Tho plate may miss
your head; the unkind WORD rarely misses your
heart.
rs it old fashioned to think the words of the
marriage service mean nothing? Do love and
cherish naggng ana wranglne black looks
and cross words? believe the obey is considered
by some moderns terribly antiquated and out of
date but even dear young women if you insist on
taking your way, do take it pleasantly and
agreeably 1t is so mean to sulk till you make
poor, unfortunate Jack give you f15 for frock
that he cannot afford and you really do
Most of all. do not run up huge bills that your
hard working Peter knows notAing about.
Il have heard young wives say. Jack is such
goose, he never knows when have anything new.
Isn't it good thing2
Then when Jack receives bill yard long they
dissolve into tears, and the wretched Jack feels
brute because he is not millionaire. An easy
mind and an old gown seem to me better posses
sions than the painted chiffon and an uneasy
conscience
There is Jack reading his Daily Nail and
drinking his coffee. just going off to work for you
! for you, remember! And you pushing Nine
Eugenies bill under the tablecloth. Is Jack blind
| bat? Perhaps, but you mean cat. Besides
edmires you in anything: the other women only
SPeGuate as to how you are going to pay for your
| is going to pay for them. And as for the other
of the passing young man?
Men really know much less about women's
looks nice, and unless she is positively hideous
oe 6o nice @ 6s nee ree me nd rnnk wGda @
| about dress. Only last night l asked what
s%sr vas think it was iS geatiDe O at least cas- it
20Ked e M nrb M b 70 she Looked very nice &
NEST mesc II happiness to have stray man say you are
| Not much patience with flrtatious young wives
! has this author.
"A sensible man likes his wife to be admired. to
be made much Of he has no objection to her having
morning till night. He is perfectly right to object
tyrant at and thinks herself ii Used t
ret girl on and
you were going to have a fit jealous woman
rather an unpleasant type of animal but owing to
Ier snorts and barks she gets very little sympathy
loHS the outside world only laughs at you
m III @ you marry a very very handsome fascinating pan
After all, you have the satisfaction of knowing he
This diverting author has decided views on al
lowances, the duties of guests, keeping informed of
Il do not advocate newspaper reading as the
themselves little bit IN touch with things Bill iP
iaT o gfnpses need not they have other things to
that you meet at teas might just know there are
And this about manners: 'If it is important to be
nice II is nearly "a important to look nice. You
happy. but if You cannot cross a room without
Knocking tia down chair or two two or answer ques-
floor, people will never really believe in your good
ward and breaking things: they cannot help it. If
you leave man alone with tea table or break
no business to be awl5ward" ." ,.,- " ..... ,,.,,,,
ApropOS OF allowances TO girls parents should
make it clear to girl what the allowances are
expected to cover. rs it to be everything. incud
ing stamps railway journeys, tips to servants or
presents or does il only mean actual hats clothes
and boots?' But. once given, the father has
right to his girls well dressed Lucky young
women, who have really good allowances, say 100
a year, have no right to go about sCrubby and
shabby. and then. for excuse. they give all
6eF tn Fa oney me away IN T5 Ghag It's It's extremely m K unfair
enlind look bright and pretty in the evening; he
pays for the clothes and he certainly has every
right to them. I am not believer in the any
old black rag for home theory; why not dress up
for your people as much you do for stran
gers?'
And guests who never know what they want to
do a bad "sCrubby' daughters.
when a hostess politely asks you. Will wou
walk or drive?' Don't keep murmuring, Which
ever you like or It's quite the same to me Do
have 4 mind of your She would not have
asked you if she did not wish to know. In all
probability she will be bored anyway. you may
well choose for yourself
But one might go on quoting forever. and then
leave out just the passages tho next reader will
dwell with particular delight