The Intermountain Catholic. (Salt Lake City [Utah] ;) 1899-1920, 1905-03-04
TACT AND POPULARITY.

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ness, sharpness, cunning and long
head
TACT AND POPULARITY.
Tact is a birth gift from the fairies.
The woman VINO has it is happy all
her life long. She may have poverty
for her portion, she may have an ugly
face. bad figure and poor health. She
may lack education and mental ability
But with il all she will always say
The right thing at the right time. she
viii know, without being told, the ex-
act thing to do to give happiness 10
her associates. If there is an IRENE
Giable something the matter with your
appearance, she viii not tell YOU of il
just as you are stepping on a street
car she viii not whisper to YOU in
church that there is a tear in the back
OF your waist or that the trimming on
Your hat has ripped and is hanging
down your back: she will not tell Won
that the man Pu just chatted with is
notorious. and that no woman can
speak to HIM and be considered rem
utable She viii not look you over and
make you feel to the innermost fibre
of your being that something is ter
libly wrong with you and that in some
important particular you are making
a show of yourself Not she. She is
conveniently blind and deaf and dumb
and has the happy faculty of minding
Ter own business. And everybody
likes her. You may know in vour
heart that she is not entirely sincere,
but she makes you comfortable and so
she is popular.
Every woman would like to be popu-
lar. But let's of them are too selfish
too vain, too anxious to please. too
censorious TO attain to it. When in
company she wants to vaunt herself.
she wants to brag, she wants to take
the center Of the stage and conduct a
monologuc about her husbands short
Comlngs, about her children's oerfec-
lions and what their teachers predict
Tor them. about her kitchen politics.
about the women on her street or in
her sewing society and she wearies- her
hearers. Everybody draws a. long
breath Of relief when she takes her
self OF and hopes that she Won't feel
that duty compels her to come again
soon. She wants to get. popularity. but
either she has a mistaken idea of the
means TO get it OF. she doesn't Know
what it is
Even though a woman be born with
an awkward habit of speech and a
Tesome disposition. she can cultivate
act and, by and by, find herself
popular woman, adored by her friends
ana admired by her constitutional enc
MES. But she has got to sink self in |
'rder TO do it. She NAV thoroughly |
p1nN the smart sensations of saving /
lever things about other woman be- |
ind their backs-they are sure to hear
u her oVer-indulgence she ma yhave |
NJ itching of the tongue which impels |
Ter TO repeat mean remarks made
bout you by some other woman: she ,
nay find enjoyment in contemplation
4 her miseries and of yours and talk
mem over: she may be absolutely GER
ain that this is a wicked world and |
hat it is her bounden duty to talk
bout her discoveries. What such
'pman has to do is to shake herself
nd rid herself of her bad habits of
6ought and speech. Let her eschew
iatlery in her attempts but let her
eek for good quality and see moth
1S else in the one she wants TO please.
>one of the bad are as lad as we think
hem; none Of the good ars as good
we think them. SO she can ALWAYS
md good point to begin with And
she cannot so far conquer herself as
o speak well. she can surely keep
Hent. If she goes around with her
YES open she will find sunshine. and
hat is always welcome.
DO not make too much of small dis
'lntoIts. We are pretty sure of dis
0mIoTts most of the time Something
S always a little less than perfect.
% not mind too much if you do want
drink Of water and can't get it. Do
lol spoil someone else's enjoyment be-
ause YOU are too cold or too warm or
eeause you have heard the story be
ore or because your seat does not suit |
"u' III woman makes fuss a bout
y Fry little thing she will be Stunned.
ne matter is in your own hands.
everybody in his Eeart thinks that !
Is affairs are of interest. Encourage
nm IN this by listening to his talk. {
GU see have changed the gender in
le matter under consideration-man i
usJ nave attention.) If he has a fad
la out something about the subject s
10 make it yours. If he is interested
ny IN himself, listen TO his talk {
While and he viii be interested in
'u. Haven't we all listened to a I
cary monoiogue about something we
red nothing for and when the bore I
OK leave. heard him enthusiastic
the pleasant evening he had
''''s a NOiIidll has caught d
'"a husband by a judicious use of
Up ears
LITTLE INTERRUPTIONS.
From the Sacred Heart Review) I
charming story is told of st.
ances, Of Rome. that holy wife, 6
Their foundress of a religious order, i
dow and then a nun in the order
- she founded. She was born in t
Z, and died in 1910; but the story told
her has its peculiar adaptation to S