Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-08-12
IN THE COY CORNER.
How to Make Things Which Are
Just Right.
ADDS TO HAPPINESS.
Cheerfulness Will Do a Great Deal
Amusement and Comfort Needed
to Make 1t.

! III houSenold, often has agreeable ac-
complishments in the way of needlework
and knitting has a perfect store of ex-
cellent recipes for cakes and custards,
and knows the most delightful old-fash-
Toned games. She has manners, too,
| learned in a more fastidious school than
ours. She is stately, courteous, little
formal, and makes a beautiful courtesy.
She tells us how she was taught to do
lace work, to sew furs, to preserve cur
rants, to sit up and not touch the back
OF her chair: and her figure shows that
a good spine is the result of her early
! training. She is the one who is never
wearied by the society of growing girls,
and who has at twilight the prettiest
stories of her time, when she was
young lady. 1t seems, through the ten
der light of tradition, that these were
more romantic days than ours.
Old Treasures Come in Handy.
She usually has treasures of old lace
and brocade, which sometimes come out
for doll dresses and pin cushions. At
| Christmas time she is sure to produce
unexpected treasures. And to comfort
and encourage the faltering and fainting
mother when the new cares of maternity
seem almost beyond her strength, who
so invaluable as the real, good old lady?
The road to home happiness is said TO
lie over small stepping stones. So small
! sometimes are the causes of our unhap-
piness that we wonder the consequences
can be so great. One great palliative is
| the determination by every member of
the family not TO dwell on the circum-
stances. whatever they may be, which
are alike sad to all.
If it be poverty let it be cheerfully and
silently borne; if it be the i'll temper of
grandpa try to make joke of it. If it
be something infinitely worse and also
hopeless accept 1t bravery; do not talk
of it.
Try in the family circle to ignore it; ac-
cept every little enlivening circum-
stance; let in all the sun and air; work
on, and work On cheerily and hopefully,
knowing that however near an unhappl-
ness may be, however innocently we
may have incurred the stroke of fate,
there is One that knows better than we
what may be the best training for us
and that all things are His dispensations.
Gaiety Produces Graces.
Growing out of gaiety in women comes
another grace. cordiality of manner.
Who can separate the two? Cordially
must come with a smile. Sometimes she
is a little grave; then we call her cheer
fulness: but in her best estate cordially
and gaiety are sworn friends.
The cheerful gay woman who can keep
her family laughing, who can laugh her
self, has half conquered life by that
power. There is something to laugh at
in the gloomiest lot. We can steal sun
beams out of cueumbers if we choose.
One reason gaiety and cordiality are
good virtues is that they are unegotist-
ical; Il person goes out of himself when
he is gay: he retires within himself when
he is sullen and angry. Justice, verify,
temperance, stableness, perseverance
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They may not cOnduce to cheerfulness.
Cheer Is Good Medicine.
The cheerful member of the family is
a great physician. He cures many
fancied disease; he lights up the darkest
day; with his song and laugh there is
always company in the home; he goes
through life as a guest, for everybody
entertains him. "Such n man creams
up nature, leaving the sour and the
dregs for philosophy and reason to lap
up"
A father owes it to his family to keep
pace with them in their amusements. not
allowing himself to get rusty or to have
an entirely different set of ideas and oc-
equations. The members of his family
cannot enter into his business or profess
sional life; when he leaves after break
fast lie becomes a mystery to them; but
he can On his return go to the theater.
the party, or the concert, and should
try to do so to make himself Il part of
them.
The sons and the daughters in their
turn should have every delicate atten-
ton. every agreeable accomplishment
ready to make home delightful to the
father who works for them.
Pathetic Lives Are Many.
There is something pathetic in the
chained slave, chained to the oar TO
whom all look for clothing. food. money.
If he is millionaire, all goes well. but
if he is n struggling man threatened
with ruin, knowing that so long as he
lives he must pull up the stony hill. the
only reward being that so soon rs no
| reaches the top he begins to 60 down
the other side. it is all sad enough.
What freside can be made too easy for
such a man?
Women have not always the courage
of their opinions; they have a certain
degree of courage and there they halt.
This often puts a woman in a perilous
position of indecision. A woman NAV
wish TO keep her manners at the true
| level of social restriction, and VET she
may have longings for other things
This ambition to be better. wiser. more
free. to act out her own character NAV
in the attitude of wife make her uueasv
and uncomfortable.
Cheerful Although Lonely.
There are great characters who are
cheerful in a lonely adherence to fine
right. There are others which musr
have the sympathy and love and admiro-
ton of those near them or they are mis-
cradle. They cannot help this uneasi-
uess. this belief they were born for other
duties than the chronicling of small beer
Women are, however, obliged, like
men, to live out their own natures and TO
use their talents as men do Talent and
spirit will not slumber or sleep. Hapny
for this gifted woman if there be a vital
refinement in her mind which keeps her
from making her gifts but Illustrations
! of her weakness.
Familiarity does not breed CONTEMPT
except of contemplate things or of con-
temptible people, said Phillips Brooks.
1t is true. Yet it is to be remembered in
the household that familiarity does take
off the outer cuticle and leave us most
defenseless. We are not the same
rong-handed, steel-viSaged personages
to our own family that We are TO the
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