The Montgomery advertiser., 1905-08-20
ANY WOMAN MAY
 WIN SOCIAL SUCCESS.


 Note this: If a girl is neglected and fails to have good time" in society. it is her own fault. There is nothing in her which attracts others to her and holds them at her side. She may set this down as infaliiably true.
 Let us play" a girl has complained to her social mentors that people neglect her, pay no attention to her, never care whether she has good time" or not nay. do not even remember her after she has been introduced to them. The social mentor would say:
 My dear girl the object of attending social gatherfngB is to give pleasure. not particularly to get 1t ourselves. That last consideration is secondary. If we wayYt people to like us we must be able to please or help them in some way. They will not like us or even resemble us unless we do this. Every girl who goes into society must therefore think what she can do to add to the general enjoyment.
 T suppose when you go to a recep- 1taon you sit miserable by yourself and think all the while about yourself and how you are neglected by others. Get away from that thought absolutely. Self consciousness is a viper ever ready to strike us and paralyze all our effort. Just see to it that you look and act your best and that you speak correct, tidy speech:' then put the tormenting. demonfsh self out of your mind al- together. That is the first thing-get i'd of self.
 Consider. too, that you have no right to take up room at a social meeting un- less you can add something to it's at- fractions Every girl has some special gift. A very few individuals are witty and brilliant in conversation; that is their gifts to the fund of the social en- 5oyment. One girl may be an uncommon ly fine pianist or singer; here is her contribution. The girl wno Is even a fair pianist can always play accom- paniments for singers or dance music for informal gatherings, thus adding contribution; no small one where she is good tempered and sympathetic. The girl that can sing well is of course favored beyond most. She always knows what she can do and will be con- tinually finding new and attractive songs and keeping herself in prac- tice.
 Another resource for adding to the common happiness at social function is far to much neglected. and that is recitation and ancedote narration. Comic selections should in nearly every case be selected. It Is safe to follow the general rule that people desire to be amused rather than eaddened in books of comic and other recitations that will afford intending entertain ment at social gathering if we'll given.
 ITO recite well, again, observe the same rule--turn your mind resolutely away from your own uneasy, self seek ing personality and endeavor to make others enjoy themselves And even though you neither sing. play nor recite you can always say a word to the bash full youth and put him at ease or talk to old men and old women of the things you are sure will interest them. To do this. constantly read newspapers and keep up with the times.
 Bring out ever the happy, cheerful side Of life. And infallible method for you to make yourself liked Is to like other people. Begin at once. All the world is lovable, if the world only knew it. Put yourself in the place of others and look at life from their viewpoint Then you will always see something to bring you in sympathy with them. The one way to be popular in society is tc be of service to it. Choose your own method of doing this and follow 1t"
 KATHERINE BLADES.