The Goldfield news. [volume] (Goldfield, Nev.) 1904-1911, 1905-09-15

Are four American women u of five disappointed in their hs-
bands' Dive into your W knowledge of the lives of those aboas and
tho ansve will come unhestatingy, they are.
Let anyone set out upon a N investigation, remembering that the
natural bent of women is to adopt the appearance of happiness-for
to do otherwise is to proclaim their own poverty of judgment in max
ing a choice The result win be ar astonishing one. Our daily life and
the records of the divorce court viii lie a sufficient field. Briefly then
their discoveries will run somewhat IS follows.
The N great factor that through che wool of material mis-
takes is the essential difference between the sexes. The business of
women il, love, the business of lei is business
Love in itself admits of mu CHI variation in its durability, its kind,
and in it's quality. Rochefoucauld well puts it:
ttThere are two kinds of constancy in love, arising from in
cessantly finding in the loved one fresh objects to love. the other from
regarding it as a point of honor to be constant"
We all realize that in love a well a in anything else pertaining
to human accomplishment there must be continuous progression, to
stop means stagnahon, and stagnaton means death.
American women marry for many reasons. They marry for a home
They marry for social position They marry at the demands ofa family.
They marry because the one sutton is pressing and the other under NO
conditions shows signs of changing his state. They marry for love.
Love, pure and simple, is the magnetism of the sexes. 1t is the
law of propagation. 1t is the flaming fire that lasts perhaps a year.
Educated love consists of the ashes of this fire blown to life and
fed with chosen and seasoned tinker.
Educated love is only gained through diplomacy, or tact; through
qualities IN the part of the ia that make him respected in his W
class, o the part of the woman that keep her admired by other men,
even if she is married.
Love in order to live must either hope Or fear.
Marriage is an interdependent state, but society has SC arranged
it that a woman's position is a reflection of that of her husband.
Through him she attains o. loses. And to satisfy her he must crafty
her social life Cher life is essentially social a his is primarily bus
messy as well IS please her intimate private life.
In the working classes, where social intercourse is o. so prominent
an item, the husband must make up for its lack by satisfying the
demand for pride in the home, of for such things as his class has eAab-
lshed as a standard.
The American husbands, then, fail to suit in many respects, any
m of which, because of the crankiness in human nature which desires
s"e "hch 10 uooo hVt POSnJm She 10 SuuciouL 10 uutmH Hu-
In each given instance it must be remembered that the pE0ba-
tionary stage of sex love, imaginative love, and impulse has moved to
the stage of reality, the invanabte change of from me to three years,
Or less.
The first general mistake of the husband is to become too accus-
toned to possession, ard thereby to fail in the little attentions here
tofore thought necessary.
Then it is often true that he has personal habits which he has
not adapted to a life of two IS one and which at first become monot-
onous and then actively diagreeabe.
Perhaps he fails physically, in vmilty and manhness, through
comparison with others.
He may not have attained to the position that the promise of his
ability made eem almost certain.
He negecs to keep his wife I'D O. his outside affairs. and IS a
result there has gradually been lost a community of interests.
He develops peculiarties in regard to money which ought never
to exist. How many women are forced to humliating duplication
for what is rightfuly their sharef
He forgets that his wife is surrounded in Ter daily life by other
men, who, insomuch as she is not their wife, try to ppear to their
best advantage in her presence which attitude, with her, he has long
ago. dropped
e. And finally, he does not realize that he must retain tho Qualities
o a lover, a. TO hem those of a gamer of the respect of the commun-
Hy, eimer a a money geuer, or by reason OF some distinctive ability,
and combine them with a perfect generosity, to the eternal elimination
of self. These things American parents have taught their American
daughters to demand. \