Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-12-17

| 1t may well stop and consider the effect
| upon himself
1t is the woman wage Garner who works
In small way, and who brings home the
| little package of embroidery or washing
or lingerie that she has finished. that Is
| most cruelty wronged by the habit. The
money needed for the little bit of work that
Is finished up while struggling with that
other job" of housekeeping, or nursing.
| or caretaking. which is claimed to be held
down by more than half the women work
ers, was inspired by the immediate need
OF the money forthcoming. The disappofnt-
ment of finding that the woman who has
given the order Is out, or lying down. or
entertaining, with orders not to be dis
turped, Is one which no one who puts her
self IN the others place cares to infiict
The woman OF the favored class who first
undertakes to do something for money is
the quickest to voice surprise. IL not indig-
nation, IL she finds that her money is not
forthcoming with the delivery of her work
That wages are sometimes DELAYED Is a
matter of business ethics which the b,1si-
ness woman finds the hardest of all others
TO understand. Even servants often dread
the duty OF turning people away as was
shown by one kind hearted cook, who made
up for a financial omission Of her mistress
OUT OF her own pockefbook. with the apol-
ogy: The look In the eyes OF her was
more than could stand.
It was Thaokeray who never was tired OF
reiterating that happy is the man whose
that golden opinions at least are won from
seryitors by the woman who never forgets
to leave this and that money so that 1t win
be In the hands that have earned it for
that over Sunday" In the planning of
which she has taken account of their COM
fort as well as her own.
Children
Are not spanked because they are bad or
because they have been naughty but be-
cause the father or mother is in a bad
temper. Nine times out of ten the child
Is punished when it does not deserve 1t,
and is laughed at when it should be repri-
manded. Nerves, a flash of temper in the
father or mother, happen when the child
has committed some slight infraction, and
1t is punished. and the injustice of 1t all
rankles in the little mind
Just how many bad boys and girls are
made bad because Of nervous, irritable
parents no one can tel1-perhaps all Of
them The sensitiveness of the child mimi
seioom Is understood. And it Is hard TO
believe that the commandment tn honor
thy Iatner and mother was meant for chill
dfen or parents who daily teach them their
unWorthiness of such honor
The old doctrine of sparIns, the rod am
spelling the child has been much amended
ana Inc switch is no longer mantel orna-
ment IN the homes of enlightened peonIe
II alu not disappear until long after the
whipping post was abolished but its use is
now almost as obsolete in the home as in
the school. Eventually spanking will dis
appear from nursery practice. Then the
nurseries will be filed with light merry
youngsters, and the sullen child will he
come unknown,
In fact, the children of the present day
are just as much sweeter and merrfer as
the parents are more enlightened in their
methods of enforcing discipline and good
behavior. George Bernard Shaw saws al
ways 10 strike child in anger because it
blood. Few do strike children in cold
blood In these modern days, but many in
anger, and the marks are made on the
tender minds of the children that remain
long after the sting of the blows has de-
parted.
In the greatest amount. not the remem-
prance or impression of the giver Is the
criterion of the wisely planned Christmas
giving. Either the spirit of altruism or the
fafthfulness to the history of Christmas
which adopts the words, DO this in re-
membrance of me-" makes that money only
well spent that gives the greatest amount
of happiness thar it is possible to get out
of 1t.
Sometimes the point has to be weighed
carefully, but as a rule the generosity
which gives all to a few in the impossibility
of doing well by everybody becomes sell
hshness In leaving out happiness for many
The small present gayly caparisoned with
christmas trappings and freighted with
Christmas sentiment may have the largest
appeal to those who understand other than
the money language. Even the richest per-
son must make humble selections if he fol-
lows the plan of doing the greatest good to
the greatest number. How choice is the
present so small that no computation of
value can enter into Its reception and which
brings no obligation except a corresponding
"a inHr ic NOT 1rx
as 1t would be If the way of one woman in
sending out her gifts We're known.
When writing the legend of good
wishes she said, II STOP like the little
boy who sent his notes to Santa Claus with
kisses, and make a definite wish, or YOU
might call 1t prayer, for the happiness of
the one it Is to go to-
There can be no doubt of the blessing of
such giving to the one who gives and with
the growing attention toward the theory
that thoughts are things the recipient of
such present need not doubt the potency
of the good received.
You
VIII avoid the embarrassment which will
sometimes suddenly overtake even the
most sophisticated people If you will deter
mine to call your faculties instantly to
some kind-any kind-of energetic action.
Embarrassment Is temporary paralysis of
the activities Energy gives over to con-
sciousness and the cure for 1t is to summon
back action with all the strength of your
will power.
Assume that the whole responsibility of
getting out of the situation rests upon you.
BY remembering that embarrassment Is
usually mutual you may call courtesy and
kindness to your aid in helping you to do
So Take the responsibility of extricating
the other person rather than leaving him to
extricate you.
A woman of extreme attractiveness and
refinement makes the claim that she never
can remember feeling embarrassment much
less being overcome or nonpalssed in her
The explanation of 1t was simple She had
the most actively energetic mind. The fer
tility of her brain gave her fertility of re-
source. She no sooner appreciated the diff
Guilty than she saw the way out
GRACE RILEY CLARKE.