Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-10-01
A Woman or a Man

A Woman or a Man
May entirely spoil what otherwise would
be an attractive personality.
woman of good features passing fair
sat in the car for some twenty blocks, and
appeared to the greatest disadvantage by
keeping her lips in perpetual state of mo-
ton. She would bite them, and twist them,
and thrust them forward, and draw them
in again, until it became matter OF dls-
comfort to every one in her presence, SO
repellng were these facial contortions, III
was a habit with her that could easily have
been avoided, and could even now be over
come. 1t IS habit great many people
have to some degree, and one that shouIu
be conque-ed. They owe ii to themselves
and to a long-suffering humanity. what
right has any being to infct an unpleasant
Visage upon his fellow-men when care would
make him agreeable to look upon! Il can
stand anything better than to have my
hands dirty" said one aspiring youth, for
! have to look at them myself 1t was an
extremely selfish view of the matter, but II
is a principle In which he has many FOL
lowers Many a ore would mend his ways
were ne compelled to look at himself al
the time and in the different phases OF me
that the world has of him. 1t is type OF
selfshness that is scarcely pardonable.
Often the small bodily contortions give
bad Impressions to the public eye that the
benevolences of the heart and the grace of
mind are powerless to eradicate.
young man who in matter of dress and
general appearance indicates that he was
brought up to be a gentleman goes some
part of each day to a large library, chooses
his chair, takes out piece or gum anu
chews SO long and so loud and so hard tfat
enc by one the others seated at the table
find il convenient to go elsewhere. He has
a face that would indicate exceptional re
fnement his clothes expensive and
chosen with unusual good taste. his gen
eraI appearance is immaculate, and in most
v-<sys he is no doubt an estimable gentle
nl.>z, but no who has seen him cheW
gun can regard him with any sense OF
favor, nor would any of them care to form
his acquaintance.
Small things sometimes exert large in
huence, and the individual cannot afford TO
cancel the good vibrations of large virtues
with the bad ones of small vices.
1t is How
One does things that is sometimes of the
most value A man may have brains, be-
cause he was born with them, and he may
have inherited good breeding; his heart may
be large and true, but If he lacks culture,
which is the art of knowing how to use
mind soul and body, he is likely to fail in
the most vital moments of his existence
One small incident in the life of a man of
prominence and intelligence Will serve to
show what bad impression he was capa-
BILE of making because he lacked that good
Judgment which is the constant companion
of true culture. He had been introduced to
a young business woman who wished to
consult him on matter of Importance In
OF der that they might save time and also
enjoy the conversation, he invited her by
note to dine with him, and he named GER
tain date. She replied that she had been
called out of the city, could not state def
nitely that she would return by that time.
but would let him know at her earliest GER
tainty. which she did and accepted.
This is the note which she received in re-
ply:
MY dear Miss B.: Owing to a previous
engagement with another young lady (my
sister. shall be unable to keep my APP
pointment with you, but If next Saturday
will do, you may have me-.
This gentleman has brains, as he is in a
business that requires them. He has good
breeding by family right, but on that sheet
of note paper he erected monument that
that shall stand forever in remembrance of
his bump of poor judgment.
Think Of such a note being penned by a
business TO a business woman! The
first part suggesting that his personal at
fairs were OF moment to her, and the sec
ond part implying that evening in his
company was for her "a contamination de-
voutly to be wished. 4"
1t was warmly sealed but coIdly opened
His heart meant well. but he was seriously
unfortunate in the method of expressing his
good intentions.
The lack of brain development the short
NoIHlilSs VI DiTln, anu the lnOrnS OF poverty
can be concealed by the virtues of culture,
but lack of culture is inconcealable.
In This
Too, too rapid age. when the one human
cry is ''On 10 the goal" there is not enough
time given to meditation or a time of prep
aration. 1t is so satisfying TO see results
that the thought of how the results are OBJ
tained does not enter the mind. The ma
tonal habit Is one of hurry, and in a great
many instances it has but mediocre accom-
plishments.
But today, in the life of the nation is a
period of preparation. A great flood of new
thought has swept over the country The
lethargy that followed the advent OF civili-
ZatiOn has been and evarvthipo,