The Montgomery advertiser., 1905-04-09
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER.

(Copyright, 1905, by Joseph B. Bowleso
 q am a candid person. I always speak my mind. There is no deceit in me. My friends know where I stand. I never mince matters. I speak right out"
 The person who makes this declara- tion of her independence is usually a woman. Men are less given than wo- men to airing with pride their senti- ments and methods in human inter course. The lady asserts herself with an effect of settling ruffled feathers and calmly awaits the compliment she expects from the listener.
 But should she receive compliment! candor with bayonet or sledge candor with a bayonet or a sledge hammer in its hand, may be very dangerous thing to encounter Al though one speak the truth on every oc- casion, one need not knock down one follows, nor run amuck against the prejudices of society. The habit of speaking ones mind at every oppor- tunity. in whatever company savers of a self-esteem. which Is neariy as bad a quality as hypocrisy. Why make truth disagreeable? Why trample roueh-shod on courtesy? Why ignore the plain fact that it takes more than one person to see some truths, that truth may be an affair of vision ana that with utter sincerity, truth-tell- ing blunderer may now and then swear to lie2
 The experience of every court or Justice verifies this statement Peo- pie retain a false impression. Tney remember only half of what they saw Few memories are altogether accurate as to names, dates and events. Desire on one side or ,he other makes an un. conscious bias. One of the hardest things in life is to tell the direct' ap- solute, irrefutable truth.
 The lady who is so proud of her olain speaking, is not thinking Of a court of law. in which she might De as frightened as any other novice pu' of the family circle. At the taple' m the parlor, in the evening, when the family meet, to her husband. to her children, and to acquAlheahcee' S" speaks her mind.
 when John comes home in excellent anIrits over deal that he has success fulIy carried through. she throws colo water on his satisfaction by reminding him of former disappointments.
 Dear father always said that you were not cut out for business man You are too sanguine. Anybody can get tba better of you in a bargain. l sbouId feel much easier if you were a clerk"
 This style of conversation Is dis- tinct damper on Johns enthusiasm. man whose wife Is perpetual wet blanket canot easily hold his own with other men. That his wife believes Tn him re-enforces his enthusiasm and strengthens his will. A wise and discreet wife if she happens to have doubt. keeps it in her own bosom. and is far from the brutal honesty that speaks it's mind when doing so cannot affect the matter in hand.
 we miss Mrs. A. more than words can tell" said a woman much engaged in works of charity. After she moved away we found 1t impossible to secure anyone who could fill heI place. Beyond anyone I ever knew she had the art of working agreably with others, and keeping different sorts of people in harmony. She said such pleasant things. When there was nothing pleasant to be said, she kept silence"
 I had known Mrs. A. - from hel childhood. knew her as strong well-baIanced woman, who had opin'