Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-07-15
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shuttle with the Inhabitants or w fush-
Ing over into MesapOtamia. and Mesapo-
tamia broiling over into the land OF the
Amorites and Perrizites. the Hittites
and Girgashites the Invites and the Jeb-
usites Urbs descending upon Rus. and OF
latter years Rus seizins the opportunity
to visit stay homes IN Urbs. rev
suggestions anent the ethics of hospital
ity may not come amiss-
II you are going visiting and wish to
DO welcomed again. bear In mind that
your best play Is to follow suit. Find out
at once the usual rising and retiring hour
of the family and the schedule for meals
and conform TO them. even though IL
revolutionizes your own customs ana
preferences.
Don't overflow your boundaries. The
'perfumed glove" bearing the impress of
your ''roseleaf hand" lying crumped on
the piano. or your gypsy hat carelessiy
tossed on tho floor Oh your return from the
evening stroll may sound all right In
novel, but the tidy housewife prefers you
TO leave her rooms In order
If you eat fruit or nibble candy between
meals don't leave pits, cores and crumpied
sticky papers lying In your chair nor toss
them on the well-kept lawn.
Don't ask If you can wash out a FEW
things" or do little pressing. II your
hostess can make 1t convenient to have you
"mussing round she'll tell you so.
Unless your hostess keeps a retinue OF
servants take care Of your own room II
she does her own work turn TO and help.
Don't follow her, unlimited, into the
kitchen. decked In train and rufiies and
phylacteries. and ask IL you cant wipe
the Dishes" and where this goes and
what will you do with this and that?
Keep your eyes open and look for yourself.
It's more bother than help to have to an
swer q stream OF questions. Unostenta-
tious and regular help is best. Take upon
yourself. II you will. stated duties-the
he nf ha ND
the making of the salads. Smelling peas.
stringing beans looking over green's. This
keeps you IN touch with the hurrying
house wife. but out of her way, although
lending practical assistance. Don't think
you must be constantly entertained. and on
the other hand don't feel that your hostess
will feel lonely or injured If you OCCASION
ally absent yourself from the family liv-
ing rooms. II you make extra demands
upon the maids time recompense her, and
that literally. In theory this should not be
so; but in the present tormenting status Of
the help question they are apt to hold the
whiphand. and will take it out OF your
hostess when next she wishes to extend
hospitality.
Above all things, remember that having
accepted hospitality, condolences reposed In
you or matters that have come under your
own observation are TO be held sacred.
If the skeleton peeps out Of the closet at
you, and there is naught you can do to lay
1t. shut the door and forget It."
Duties of the Hostess.-Make your guest
as comfortable as possible without upset
ting the comfort of the household 100
much. If you have a guest room let The
atmosphere OF that room be peace"
Don't Don MAKE, make 1t a hospital for invalided
gilded chairs that funk at inopportune
times, old steel engravings OF cabinet coun-
ellis and death beds. To be comfortable Il
really needs little more furniture than that
placed by the Shunamite woman In the
little chamber on the WALL for Elishas
bed-a table. a stool and n candle stick;
but let those be excellent of their kind. The
japanese idea OF banishing from the bed
room everything that is not necessary. but
making useful things decorative as pos
sible, seems the ideal one. Let the privacy
OF the room be inviolate. Don't let 1t be a
stamping place for the children, who feel
privileged to try on the wearing apparel of
the guest. II you live in a compressed fat.
Nhere the only thing spacious is the feel
ing of hospitality, share what you have and
let the guest be content. In nearly every
fiat there are cunningly devised extension
couches or cots that are made TO do duty in
an emergency. If obliged. however, 10
share your own bed make It UP with two
sets of single bed linen and blankets as
though two single beds stood side by side.
This enables one to move without disturb
ing the other and each to suit the weight Of
bedding to her own special requirements
Don't imagine that you have TO entertain
your friend all the time Let her feel indie
pendent; at liberty 10 come and go, rest or
read. as the spirit moves. 1t goes without
saying that you will try to give her rs
many pleasures as you can compass, but
these should not be arbitrary. Consult your
guests taste in dishes as far as may be.
but do not become go wearied over much
serving that you miss all the pleasure of
oompanionship Above all. use hospitality
without grudging. II you have opened your
doors ever TO a stranger or some one
whom really you do not care very much
about do II with a cheerful spirit and make
them feel "a home Don't have such elabo-
rate company manners that they sit awll
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share your cheer with unaffected welcome.
4 Thoughtful Bit OF Hospitality.-Such a
charming act Of hospitality came TO my at
tention last summer. The possessors Of
a delightful suburban home with wide
pOrches. trees and flowers, and real vege-
table garden, sent an invitation weeks
ahead TO friends, a family of nat jewellers
IN New York city, saying: We go away for
our vacation IN August, and the house and
garden are yours. Come. all OF you and
make yourselves at home. We viii wait
until you get here. introduce you to the
ways OF the house. the Ice man. butcher.
baker and milk man. then you step in and
we step out Don't bother TO clean Up at
the end. for we shall have the fall cleaning
when we come back. anyway.
Eat the fruit and vegeta bles pick the
flowers be lazy and get good rest"
The invitation was accepted in the same
spirit IL was given. and the nat dwellers.'
expanded physically and spiritually in The
heavenly space and freedom that can only
be fully appreciated after the restrictions
OF a city apartment house
one o. the advantages Of the summers
Interchange Of visits is the opportunity
# affords OF gaining new ideas l rarely
60 70 anOther's house without learning
something that I didn't know about b.
fore. or how 10 improve upon something
/ thought l already knew. For instance,
last weeks end ] went 10 a dear little
box IN the country just on the edge
of strip OF primeval oak and beech for
est: one Of the old manor holdings. The
little house itself. built half n century
ago by a retired ship carpenter was as
solid as the rock on which II was built
All its beams and raftsrs were OF solid
oak The old-fashioned garden was all
Hbloom with real English flowers and
shrubs. brought there years ago. There
were foNglove and sweet william tiger
lilies and laburnum. nasturtiums and
hOneysuckle, hollyhOcks and feverfew.
The new thing to me. however, growing
IN profusion with the ferns all about the
well was mint. This had never been al
lowed TO die out. Summer and winter
year in and year out, II sent up its green
and tender leaves. ready for the cook And
for how many things she utilized them.
In cooking peas n sprig was added. Just
enough to furnish a delightfully."- elusive
favor. In boiling new potatoes, too, a
few leaves went in with delightful COnsa-