The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1905-09-01

5.0NeAAu )" tA0 u0CAuoo IuaC InlS woman
or that will make him good house,
keeper, that she will do his mendina
and preside we'll at his table, and 30
addresses her, emitting all thought OF
romance, ks is not likely to give or re.
ceive much happiness. Such q union is
hopeless in the higher sense Married
happiness must have love for it's foun.
dation stone. All satisfying pleasure
by the hearth is kindled by the breath
of true love. This is as true\ in q sec.
ond or third marriage as in the first.
We must admit that people some
times find their true mates later rather
than earlier in life. We are not the
same people at 40 that we were at 20,
nor at so that we were at IS. Our char
acters have broadened. We have taken
in new ideas from many sources.
Great disparity of age should be
avoided The man of SO seldom seeks
wife near him in age, but let him
beware of paying court to very young
girl. She and he will look at life from
a different standpoint. They will not
be on the same plane. If she be social
and he prefers an arm chair and the
evening lamp at home, there will be in
evitable jars.
A father who has young daughters
in their early womanhood should not
bring into their mothers place wife
who is about the age of his own eldest
girl. Occasionally, Il but rarely such a
choice turns out we'll. When it does
it reflects great honor on all con-
cerned Generally it results in heart
ache and friction all around, and often
it causes broken home and irreconcil-
able antagonism follows.
Many wives would do we'll to cease
their laborious struggle and no longer
necessary self abnegation when pros
perity comes to their husbands, and to
begin at once the sort of life his Sec
ond wife would live. They may as
we'll array themselves in soft raiment
and insist on adequate help in the
household before they are laid upon
sick bed. Excellent and devoted hus-
bands are often thoughtless.~ TO their
eyes Jenny looks we'll in anything. 1t
never occurs to them that she is wear
ing frunpy gown or a dowdy hat.
They would be willing to give her any
thing she craved, if they recognized a
lack. BY every law the first marriage,
that union of hearts which begins
when man and woman are in the glad
ness and strength of their early day
cho 1>o h1
sphere, the one glorious fruition with
in reach of humanity. 1t is not always
this, because human nature is poor
imperfect thing of shreds and patches.
But it may be made ideal if people live
up to their privileges of goodness and
unselfishness.
A second marriage should not have
to face criticism and unkind comment
1t, too. should have a chance for ex-
pansion in all that is worth while. A
man once said to me: when my first
wife died, + determined to remain
faithful to her memory. and for ten
years I did. But I married then, and
now am sorry for the possible seven
years I might have had with the dear
est woman in the world. my second
wife. Why did not find her sooner?
Life is short, we are growing old. I
think l did Mary no good by my long
loneliness, and I am sure she would
say so, could she see me with Jane"
1 wonder! l am afraid that Mary
could she return, would look with
mournful gaze on her successor. But
the dead do not come back, and in
Heaven they neither marry nor are
given in marriage.