Warren sheaf., 1905-08-31

When man looking about him fors
second wife decides that this voma1
or that viii make him good house
keeper. that she viii do his mendine
and preside well at his table. and so
addresses her, omitting all thought OF
romance. he is not likely to give or re-
scelVe much happiness. Such union is
hopeless in the higher sense Married
happiness must have love for it's foun-
datlon stone All satisfying pleasure
by the hearth is kindled by the breath
OF true love- This is as true in a sec
ond or third marriage as in the first.
we must admit that people some
times md their true mates later rather
than earlier In life. We are not the
same people at 40 that we were at 20,
nor at 90 that we were at 35 Our char
acters have broadened We have taken
IN new ideas from many sources.
Great disparity of age should be
avoided The man Of so seldom seeks
a wife near him in age, but let him
beware OF paying court to very young
girl She and he will look at life from
different standpoint. They will not
be on the same plane. If-she be social
and ne prefers an arm chair and the
evening lamp at home, there will be in
evitable jars.
father who has young daughters
In their early womanhood should not
bring into their mothers place wife,
who is about the age of his own eldest
girl Occasionally, but rarely. such 4
choice turns out, we'll When it does
it reflects great honor on all con-
cerned. Generally, it results in heart
ache and friction all around. and often
it causes broken home and irreconcil-
able antagonism follows 2s4ses.s
Many wives would do well to cease
their laborious- struggle and no longer
necessary self abnegation when pros
perity comes to their husbands. and to
begin at once the sort Of life his sec
well array themselves in soft raimsnt
and. insist on adequate help In the
household before they are laid upon q
sick bed Excellent and devoted hus
bands are often thoughtless. To their
eyes Jenny looks well In anything. It
never occurs to them that she is wear
ing 4 frumpy gown or dowdy hat
They would be willing to give her any
thing she craved, II they recognized
lack BY every law the first marriage,
that union of hearts which begins
when man and woman are In the glad
ness and strength OF their early day
should be the one perfect and rounded
sphere. the. one glorious fruition with
in reach of humanity. 1t is not always
this, because human nature is poor
imperfect thing of shreds and patches.
But it may be made ideal if people live
up to their privileges of goodness and
unselhshnsss. -
"A second marriage should not have
to face criticism and unkind comment
It, too, should have a chance for ex.
pansion in all that is worth while. A
man once said to me: When my first
wife died. determined to remain
faithful to her memory, and for ten
years did. But married then. and
now am sorry for the possible seven
years might have had with tha dear
est woman In the world. my second
wife. Why did not find her sooner!
Life is short, we are growing old J
think l did Mary no good by my long
loneliness, and I am sure she would
say so, could she see me with Jane"
I wonder! am afraid that Mary
could she return, would look with
mournful gaze on her successor. But
the dead do not come back, and IN
Heaven they neither marry nor are
given in marriage.