The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1905-04-06
Observation-Disclosures
NOT EXACTLY ENGAGED, HE SAYS;
THEY'RE ONE IN SPIRIT NOW

j. q. Phelps Stokes second son Of Arson
Phelps Stokes, announced last night In his
rooms at the University Settlement in Ed
ridge street his engagement 10 Miss Rose
Harriet Pastor. who three years ago was
a cigarmaker In a Cleveland factory and
now Is a clerk in the settlement.
Rumors that Mr.. Stokes had become
greatly interested In Miss Pastor and in
tended 10 marry her have been current for
several months, but only two weeks ago
he told THE Sun over the telephone that
a report Of his engagement 10 Miss Pastor
was without foundation and he would sue
for libel any newspaper that printed such
a statement.
Mr.. Stokes explained last night that he
made this denial because TO acknowledge
an engagement would have belittled his
relations with Miss Pastor, since they did
not consider their relations should be de-
scribed by the word engagement. They
had so long considered themselves one in
spirit and purpose that an engagement,
in the common use OF the word, was I'M
necessary. They are 70 be married how
ever, about the middle Of July.
Mr.. Stokes said that there was no oppo-
siton in his family TO his marriage. With
out exception all the Stokeses we're not
only content but delighted.
Not only are they all pleased said
Mr.. Stokes, but many OF my rela tives have
sent me kilograms Of oongratula ton and
letters and best wishes. My parents are
nov in Europe. On March rs had a able
gram nom them. That was one OF the
reasons why I have said nothing Of the
marriage before. wanted TO hear from
81 AIT 4 10 "a
lations was sure they would send. This
u the cable message l received from them;
''Tunis, Algeria, March 25.-We most
sincerely congratulate you and wish you
all Joy and happiness. Give our love TO
Rose
His parents, Mr.. Stokes said, had de-
cided to return 80 that the marriage could
take place as soon as possible and he thought
they would be back 30 that the wedding
could take place in July.
Miss Pastor is rs years old. While she
il not described by her friends as good
looking. they say she possesses attractions
which would appeal TO a man Of Mr., Stokes's
temperament and inohnations.
She was born in Russia, but at 3 years
old was taken 70 London by her parents
For a few years she attended the Jewish
Free School in that city. In 1891 the family
emigrated to Cleveland, and at ~ the girl
went to work in a cigar factory. As she
grew older she began TO write stories and
poems, contributing to the Sccidhst Re
yiev and the Jslcish Observer in that city.
Two years ago she came ere and
became a reporter on the stan Of the
JeviSh Daily Nevs. She met Mr.. Stokes
by being sent TO interview him on
come phase Of his settlement work.
Soon after the meeting although she con-
tinued 10 write a series Of articles entitled
Just Between Ourselves, Girls on the
order Of similar articles printed daily in
the English afternoon papers. Mas Pastor
began to do voluntary work In connection
with the settlement. A few weeks ago she
left the newspaper and devoted her time
entirely to the settlement. She lives in
The Bronx.
Mr.. Stokes was anxious last night to
make II known that in his opinion there is
no radical difference between the religion
Of Miss Pastor and his own.
Miss PASTOR he said, lis a Jewess in
the same sense that the apostles and Jesus
wore Jews. She believes as l do that they
were Jews by tradition. She and / are
are both proud Of the Jewish race and Of
tie traditions. We both believe that Judaism,
while true 90 far as It goes, does not express
90 much Of the real truth as Christianity
dos. Our attitude toward Judaism and
Christianity IL identical. We both consider
ourselves Christians. She IL Of Jewish
ancestry; / am not. That Is the only
difference.
Il have a. high a regard for Judaism as
any Jew. but believe that Judaism has
truths and Christianity has truths, each
that the other has not, or viii accept
Neither religion as preached to-day con-
tsIns the entire truth
Then Mr.. Stokes went back 10 the sub
iect Of bis relations TO Miss Pastor, and
explained to The SUN reporter why he
didn't consider that they were engaged
I'm the eyes OF the world he said Il
presume that we could be called engaged
We do not consider it in that light. We
have considered that we were one-married
in works and thoughts.
I'VE regard ourselves az wholly one.
We have never mentioned such a thing as
an engagement between us. There has
been no formal engagement as the world
calls H. We are one. You can understand
that, think. To call ourselves engaged
would be 10 belittle our relations. No be nds
can make us one more than we are. Amen
gagement implies two persons. We are
already one. There can be no engagement
Mr. Stokes also said that Miss Pastor
had gone back 10 her trade Of cigarmaker,
90 that she might get in touch with the
people again. She wanted the old associa-
tons and thoughts that meant 80 much to
her when she was poor and struggling for
her own living. He wouldn't tell where
Miss Pastor is working, but said that IL II in
one Of the largest factories in this city
Her mother and two half-brothers are living
in this city, and will attend the wedding.
The marriage ceremony Is to be performed
by Christian minister but Mr.. Stokes did
not think Il would be well TO tell yet who the
minister will be. For the rest, the BRIDE
groom-elect said:
We have not made our plans for next
year. We expect, however, to live in a fat
In a tenement house down here on the lower
East Side
Miss Pastor writes verse, which her
friends compare with that Of r. s. Rosen-
field, the we'll known Hebrew poet Mr..