Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-09-10
1t Is Easier


To gain than to hold, and in the marriage
problem many a woman's capabilities may
be Judged by the success with which she
holds her husbands interest and affection.
OF course. It is true. there some men
whose undivided interest and affection could
not be held by the best of women. That IS
the mans misfortune Again, there Is he
wife who does nothing to hold the man for
whom she made such strenuous efforts be-
fore marriage. This is to be deplored.
But, thinking only Of those who marry and
unlntcntionally fail, there are as many m
dividual reasons as there failures.
one woman who married the man she
loved and had cause for great disappoint-
ment I'm him, marvel in the adjust
ment OF her qualifications. He was hand
some, attractive TO women In general. and
after they We're married she found he drank.
When she realized her ideal was shattered
che sat down and determined upon the
course she would take. and 1t was bright.
sunny, gracious and noble decision she
made
No man. good or bad enjoys "nagging' or
'prcachlng" Some bear Il and forbear,
but Il IL tho exception. She did not make
his life miserable by censure but she glori-
fed II with her own radiance. and attracted
him To different life, All day while he
was away she iaborcd for his comfort, then
rested. that she might he bright when he
returned. She met him after having made
as much effort on her toilet as she did
when they were lovers, and this was not
one night en- tho week, but seven. She was
never too tired to checrfuly say, TN be
delighted when ne gave her an invitation.
When he brought guests home they were
always welcome. She made herself agree
able To his women friends, and rose so SUI
p"riur To tho littl" annuyauces of living that
Tom saw she was one woman in the
world ana the one fOr him.
All cases could neither be SO gracefully
managed nor as successful in results. But
charm always wins ana serenity and smiles,
with dignity ana discretion, Will encourage
peace ana harmony
The Forgivirg-
Spirit IS blessed virtue and wonderful
sclf-educator II Is the offender who suffers
by a wrong deed OF the three ways of deal
ing with injuries done us-frce pardon, pun
isImont and forgiveness, and revenge-an
exalted mind will not allow entrance to the
latter.
When We forgive freely we exonerate. We
recall how often We DO what we should not
and apply the golden rule.
There are times when guilty ones must
suffer for their misdeeds. but this Is only
right when II is done for the good of some
one and not for the qualification OF bad
passions. Punishment. too belongs to Ger
tain ones parents masters and guardians
hut among these judgment should reign
where punishment Is administered. The law
of the land and the law Of God demand this
Of the individual.
Revenge should be out OF the hands OF the
mortal. IL inculcates evil and perpetuates
strife both IN the actor and the acted upon.
We are not able to judge of the extreme
circumstances which bring on wrong. and
should. therefore, not aggravate It by harsh
treatment. 1t Is belttling when some one
has done you a wrong TO go from one per-
son to another and tell of II and censurc
and gossip.
Not even the nearest heart and next
Knows half the reason why smile sigh.
And really the one who forgives receives
the greatest gift. for he has risen above
circumstance and sits on the throne of
mercy. He has II in his power TO bestow.
He creates for himself ability to show
strength and exercise midness of spirit. II
guilt could look into the face Of its tremen-
dous consequences there would be less to
forgive which must do even though
we cannot excuse.
A Bit of Bohemianism-
Sometimes adds a Zest to the monetonous
routine of the wel-appOinted household.
The enjoyment OF the unexpected adds real
and genuine charm. II is not well to have
every pleasure anticipated. There Is de-
licious spirit aroused when day has been