Perrysburg journal. (Perrysburg, Wood Co., O. [Ohio]) 186?-1965, 1905-03-17

But he was so dreadfully shy" pro-
tested the girl.
1T makes no difference" argued her
shocked mother. you should not have
done 1t. A young girl should never
send her visiting card to young man
under any circumstances"
1T seems to me-" continued the girl,
shat might send my card when my
address has been changed. He is the
son of well-known clergyman"
Ministers sons are often dreadful
fellows!" interrupted the mother.
But he is not, and you know it. He
is simply very difiident. If he had ever
asked me If he might write to me 1
should have dropped him line"
1T is wonder that you did not ask
him to correspond with you" COM
mented the mother, coldly.
Girls do sometimes-just that-nice
girls, too"
81 should hope that my daughter
never would"
We'll, 1 certainly did not in this
case. just sent him my card to show
that l had gone to x college, in
stead of Y. as had told him when
we last met. X college is near
him, you know"
"Oh, of course, he understood that
you were perfectly crazy to have him
call upon you. He will probably de-
spise you as one of these forward crea-
lures who haven't a particle of
modesty."
nj hn ri fr hn
tron to ask if he may call, and she
has referred to you, mother. have
| told you exactly how the matter
stands, and you have been terribly
hard on me, but hope you will write
to Mrs. s. and tell her that he may
call"
The mother, after more expostula-
ton, allowed the young man to call
upon her daughter All this happened
Is years ago. The girl and the young
man have been married ten years and
the match has turned out to be an ex-
ceptionally happy one.
Nevertheless the mother was right,
and in most cases the young man
would really have despised the girl.
Talking over this question with the
| judicious mother of three marriage
able daughters she said of her eldest, a
plain and rather too serious, but truly
lovely, girl: "Adela might have been
married to any one of three or four
delightful young men, if she had only
been willing to show them how much
she liked them. No young man wants
to be turned down. and Ade!a is so
painfully anxious to reveal no undue
liking that she went to the other ex-
treme.
One after another they dropped
Off l do not know that she was in
love with any one of them, but l feel
sure that she liked them all rather un-
commonly well, and they ere such fine
fellows that she might have grown tC
love any one of them-or so it seemed
to her father and me. But she has {
horror of what are slaneily called
'man-chaseEs', and therefore she re
mained so strictly impartial that no
body could tell her feelings at all. j
is a great puzzle, deciding how far ,
modest girl should go in 'encourag
ing young man." sighed the mother
A distinguished writer has promul
gated the doctrine that there will b.
NO equality between the love-suitor ant
the suited until the economic question
is better adjusted between men an,
women. She reminds us that in fam
lilies where the woman has more none,
than her husband he almost never sue
for divorce. The man, in our presen
social condition, has more to give I,
the woman than she has to give t,
him, especially in our older and NOR
thickly settled states. Therefore sh
is, as rule, more desirous of marry
ing him than he is of marrying hel
Yet she must not show this desire
since tradition has made it almost
crime for any woman to dare 10 fall i
love with any man until his majest
shall indicate that he wishes to hav
her.
Now for the exceptionally beautifr
or graceful or entertaining or ric
girls, who are all more or less in
pOSlllOn W ulCldJc THIS, lue olLudllO
is not very hard. But vast rumbe
of girls belonging TO good families car
not properly be classed under any on
of these heads-they are just fairl
good looking, everyday. commonplaC
girls, often with strongly lovab
| hearts or characters, which cannot |
displayed in society where only I'll
shower traits usually appear. If the
fall deeply in love, as many of the
do, without proper encouragement
they sometimes trangress the laws
decorum and o er-step that feminii
modesty which some of us consider
be the foundation of good society
Thus in a certain g eat western CT
a Young woman in well-paid and i
tellectual occupation, is apparently
deeply enamored of young busine
man that his aun4 with whom he live