The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1905-11-26
Home Pleasures for the Young Folks.
BY MARGARET E. sANosTER.

n uRING the years when chi dren
II are growing u, under the watch
ful care of father and mother, a
great deal OF discrimination must be
usel as to their associations their
daily reading and their anlUsements.
/ To the observer who looks on from the
outside and sometimes sees a GOod
deal more of family life than the fam
lily itself notices, nothing is more ex-
traordinary than the fact that par
ents often FnOW very little about their
children. Each generation IN a GER
tain sense fights its own battles, solves
its own problems and has its own at
mos here. The POINT of view of the
father approaching middle age is so
different from that of his boy OF 10 or
Is that the two have little in common
and are not in sympathy one with the
o-he--
Parents naae su much Of authority
during their children's earlier yea
that the children sometimes Geese TO
ltiu,t them, reserve their confidence and
live their little lives in a world alien TO
that OF the adult Even mothers, who
are the natural confdlntcs OF Their
sons and daughters 3, do not always
know very much about the inner ives
Of these young creatures who have the
world before them. One often helIa
girl say. 81 could nOtNask my mother
about this or that; she would not TN
dCrstaud" 4 toy is very often Uuch
more Influenced by the fellow he meets
at the corner or at thhe Iostoffice than
by his own father This is not because
his father does not love him, but sim
ply becaus. he and his father DO 10
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far apart in years pursuits and sym
PATTY to sceak the same languaTe.
Fathers fall into a habit Of snub ing
their grown boys. They forget that
they were hoys themselves. or they
do the thing. - to speak, on princi lie.
feeling that they are submitting their
boys cary to hardening process
which viii make life easier for them
BY acd by.
BOYS do furtively maay thinss IN
which there would be little harm if
they were done openly. For eXamr le,
the unwise parent Eliminates a decree
that his son shall not play cards. The
boy apparently oheys. Nevertheless,
he is entirely familiar with knaves and
tTumps and aces and all the nonnencla-
ture of CARDS: he plays whist and eu-
chre, and whatever other gane there
may be. but he plays IL in the larn or
away from home. or in some house Of
which his father does not know the
existence. When foys so wrong, nine
times out OF ten the reason IS that
the have teen living Il dolb life
They have been deceiving their PARENTS
in the ways open to boys; small ways,
it ia true, hut nevertheless ways that
lead downward Deceit furnishes q
very insecure foundation for success in
life. as il necessarily undermineS good
morals and lowers a boys whole ideal.
IT cards attract a lad. do not he ge
them with 4 prohibition. bit let him
pay openly at home. They viii BE-
less charming if not forbidden.
The first necessity Is that parents
and children should be metually con-
1dential and responsive. President
Roosevelt has uttered many wise coun-
sells to this nation, hut no SPOKEN I'd
OF his has been more potential than
the example he has set of living with
his children - fully as he can, sharing
their pleasures and their SPORTS and
teing orc with them IN their various
undertakings. Probably the president