Warren sheaf., 1905-08-31
BY MARGARET E. sANGsTER.

70 IQe very eQQ OF CQelr Gays.
When husband or wife is taken away,
there is an upheavalsin the home. as il
an earthquake or cyclone had swept
the house from its foundation. The
survivor feels 1T first as if the world
had come to an end. 1t does not seem
as though ever again there can be JOY
and gladness in the universe, or any
chance Of going on. Things have col
lapsed for the hour
Outsiders are very apt to gauge the
fidelity to an ideal Of man or woman
by the length OF time that passes be-
fore there Ia an effort to ill the empty
place. 1t is, however. only in accord
ance with 4 Law Of nature that there
shall be, after time, cessation Of grief
and the effort to go on again under
new conditions, and with a new part
uer. .
Nature always hastens to repair her
waste places. Flowers spring up and
bloom in the track that has been swept
by fire. The greenest spots are those
where battles have been fought.
No grief should last forever 1t i'm
plies not the slightest disrespect, hard
ly forgerfulness of the past, in begin
ming again a new chapter Of life, in
new circumstances, with some one else.
In most cases it is inevitable Aat a
desolate heart should snatch at some
probability OF renewed comfort and
| that there should be once again the en-
joyment of home life which is incom-
plete to the widowed
1t is the outsider who has nothing to
| do with it who generally feels and ex-
presses most jealousy at second mar
riage of neighbor or friend 1t hap
pens, too. that often there is apparent
| ly good cause for this inpersonal jeal-
ousy. For instance, a husband who
was sufficiently devoted to first wife.
yet who made no fuss about her, who
surrounded her with few delicate atten-
tions, and took for granted all the sac
rifices she made, is often most gallant
and lover-like in his attitude to his sec
| ond wife. She comes to him after the
first difficult strife Of youth, to acquire
| a competence. is over. In way, she
inherits the self-denial and sacrifice of
her predecessor. The wife OF the mans
youth did her own work, saved and
skimped, had few outings, and seldom
q long holiday. A handsome gown was
perhaps an event to her. She was sat
lsf1ed with few lu1uries. She was help
ing her husband to get firm foothold,
and make his money. BY and by, it
may be, worn out with incessaat labor,
she slipped away into the grave.
The woman who, after a decent in
terval Of mourning, has taken her place
is younger, prettier, and mucn less in
clined to strenuous domesticity than
she was She wears dainty gowns
and hats, and has plenty of changes IN
her wardrobe. Her step-children do not
weigh heavily on her hands, the older
ones being promptly sent to school,
and the younger ones put under the
care of nurse or governess. This
wife has leisure, retains her good looks
is her husbands comrade and com
panion everywhere, and has the ioy
always priced by woman of knowing
Iu1l NC Ii pIoOu VI ucE. INOC 1Qlro
quently the lot of second wife is far
more enviable and desirable than that
OF her who was wooed and won in the
freshness of early girlhood.
There is room in the same breast for
faithful love as we all know, in more
than one direction. We love our friends
our parents, our children, and the yari-
Gus affections do not crowd or iostle
or quarrel one with another. We love
people for different reasons. and along
different lines. Thus, a second mar
rlage may be equally as congenial and
equally as beneficial in its results to
both parties as the first, ifsonly it be
not marriage OF convenience. When
people marry for any lower reason than
mutual esteem, and wish to helm one
another on the road of life, they are
likely to arrive at failure and disap-
pointment. They have dared to lay pro-
fame hands on the ark of God.
II a woman marry her second hus.
band because he has wealth and can
give her opportunities for herself or
for the children OF her own first mar
riage, that otherwise she cannot com
pass, she is taking tremendous risk
OF one such marriage think. vhera
the 1al1antrv NJ the lover folI a,,,~. 1.r