St. Tammany farmer., 1905-08-12

L, suoA oA Atteu them as smooth
y as taelr evening clothes, had not the
most distant or the faintest resemblance
70 the brusque, bearish and possiblv
Ooorlsh manner that too often is blot
upon married friendship.
use the word friendship adyisedly
ZOE unless people are friends they have
no right to be married, and marriage
70 those who have entered It should |
oe the highest elimination Of comrade- |
snip between friends. Unfortunately
T is not always this, for into the free
aom OF marriage creeps the poison oil
rudeness and inconsiderate and i'll
timed frankness. A great deal Of most
objectionable impoliteness shelters it.
self behind the mask Of frankness. The
man takes 1t Tor granted that his wife
is aware OF his love. and is at no pains
to assure her Of its continuance in
word or act, out Of the commonplace,
And she is not free from blame on her
side.
II truthful, some wives would be
forced to admit that their attitude to-
ward the lovers OF their youth had
wholly changed. They were intention
ally attractive and pleasing IN appear
ance, and conversation when with these
acknowledged lovers They do not now
take the trouble to be the same the
lovers having become husbands with
whom they have settled down into the
easy jog-trot Of double harness.
Think OF the contrast. What? Re
ceive Harry when he came to call of
an evening, with tumbled hair, in a
dowdy gown, without q collar, ribbon
or frill, and without SO much as a
fitting smile Of approval. He Is thus
received now very often. But then it
was different, Harry was then the
magnet Of every waking thought and
probably focusssd the fancies Of ones
innocent dreams. Ethel was complete
" absorbed in the lad and dominated
by his lightest wish; "Harry's will is
my law" she used to say, with pride.
IL he did not admire hat it was dis
carded il flash. IL he liked pink,
Ethel's summer muslins blushed with
rosebuds. She would not have let him
see her IN soiled gloves or torn
flounces. II he preferred one dessert
to another, Ethel's fair hands COM
pounded it on the day that he came
to dinner. Had he gained promotion
ar some forward step In business, she
praised him for It without grudge or
reluctance. for to Ethel Harry then
wore the glamour Of warrior return
ing with the spoils from hardly won
field.
Rut on the other hand, a score OF
Years ago, Harry seldom called empty
handed. He used to bring flowers, bon
hons. 4 new book or the latest maya
~. and these were tributes laid at
Ethels feet. She never looked pretty
th.t IL did not tell her 50, in some
scrm 81 honey speech with variations.
Her dainty toilettes were not lost on
MIN she dressed for his approval, and
~ !. s. rrew ii. and lavished compliments
Il IA return TOR the pains she took.
/ II ,,s suppose that Harry, grown
!. ,,tt,.S M haId. i little rotund. little RED
! = : the face, plainly middle-aged, ana
n.+er-familias :. from the top q ms nat
!. 81 the toe Of his boot, should again
,s.,~ :, . q ethel through the eyes OF the
,y.. ~ srv : he used to be. Supposing that
-. ti, means permit him, and ne snonla
80 sa,.s;nnally bring home roses as wen
~ nackages from the grocer ana mar
lat stall. Suppose ne should nollce
~. ~. n ! new gown and comment upon
ne. .us .a+ - vearfng an air Of oblivion wnen
=, =, nJo Ioaks better or worse than other
women. ]. ,,,...oad and really
,.rotea = husband Of my acquaintance
- wnnan friend once venturea 70 say.
- = 80, yon know that your VIE Is me a.,
~ sressed woman in this town.!
y. wol ssar received the remark with m
Inc Ms amazement, saying: 1T
cover occurs to me TO think think now ,S.t sne it
,no,.s nsyr. MI took It for granted tna. :
aoeAs ,,snted or when she wanted nsW
sns 1870 she would buy them.
clo.ns9 .nod man, well-to-do, ana Sc
me ssssthful. never gave passing
1,,snt rene,y u his wife's costume and s. she
.nou nnened to be too proud TO .ell am Z
.sat nar she required anything. ~ aac uas
lnas aas,mnliment between those soou peo
9, o. cp pad set in sea Of forgetfuiness.
PIE snnaose mae e that Ethel in these days lays
snppUst IpSst angular, somewhat thin ana and
somswns ,,sm somewhat gone on as g gooa q
,ass sal,0x hut With possibilities Of beauty beauty
louhs, 100, should 3 array herself for HAIRY !,
snas s.as, Il 4 she did 20 years ago. .hr;s.v sn
thin thinking Of people ordinary ,,.t3s tastes tastes.
.nd able to crafty their n'tle 'as.er. aster
s1Sv 1ru 4s should she not make an ,a a'.., ehs
,,o. nuoa her young daughter % monopu The
ailo" !, I'll the fathers admiration! a,,t ne
nze ~ has "a ! right to her husbands tsa uu.,
spoken assu which she knows abides r,'i roi
tenderness hnsverfalIng spring q love o home nne
her, - Of paying compliments ,nnn1uess N aos
,lsa nsD', uo,,ld preserve home a nappene pener.
ilfe Woa aaM f i we're only more aa gsne. !,
, a11v practiced The tongue .saa1a : u first but
aliy ,,ight stammer little 2. ~ n,,a and s ac.
i + Toald maaa' soon cease 70 stumble ana ..