The Saint Paul globe., 1905-04-25
DOS and DONT'S
FOR PUZZLED LADS

F YOU had ever told me what to
III do. l would have done the right
thing, exclaimed a youth of IS
who had just been reproached by his
mother for some trifiing breach OF eti-
quette. But no one ever thinks a boy
needs social training Sis got all the
training. ! just grew"
Many a lad who has been mortified
by the realization that he has COM
mitted some slight social solecism has
voiced just these sentiments. Here are
some pointers for the boy. who thinks
he Just grew
III you are walking along the street
with your mother or sister you must
raise your hat whenever she speaks to
an acquaintance.
III you meet friends. girls or boys and
wish to stop TO chat with them you
must Introduce them to your mother or
sister.
When you enter a street car YOU as
sist your mother by braciDg her elbow
in the palm of your hand. In leaving
the car you rise first your mother fol-
lows, and you wait at the foot of the
step to help her off.
II you leave the house with your
mother. you open the door for her to
pass out. then close the door behind
you.
When you enter the door you open
il, allow her to pass in first, then fol-
low.
If you are calling with your mother
or sister, you allow her to enter the
parlor first, and are the last TO greet
the hostess.
In entering a church or a theater
you allow your mother to precede you,
following the usher. In a restaurant
or public place where there is no usher
or head waiter to lead the way you
tnd the seat or table and your mother
follows.
If you take your sister to dance or
reception in the evening you wait at the
head OF the stairway or at slight dis
tance from the dressing room door un-
til she joins you, and then you both go
down to greet your hostess together.
If callers arrive when you are i'm the
parior or living room with your mother,
you rise and remain standing until they
are introduced and all the ladies are
seated.
If you enter the room and find your
mother engaged with callers. you stop
to be introduced, chat n few moments
pleasantly and then make your excuses
if you must leave.
III your mother is entertaining dinner
guests and you must keep a previous
engagement. you make your apologies
after dinner: if you have no other en-
gagement, you remain in the room
until the guests leave. when you see
the ladies without escorts to their car
riages. or take them to the street car
at least. If you do not escort them all
the way home.
If your sister is expecting a friend
and you are at leisure. IL is your duty
10 meet her guest at the depot, and
after attending to her luggage escort
her to your home.
If little affairs are given in her hon
or your duty is to see that she is not
neglected in any way. AS her hostess
brother you should see that agreeable
young men meet her at the dances and
that her card is filled, your name head
ing the list, unless she goes under the
escort of some other young man.
No matter how tired you may be, al
ways make some slight change in your
| dress for dinner. If il is not the family
custom to wear evening clothes to the
/ dinner table, you can at least don fresh
linen and a more dressy tie than the
one you wear in the store or shop. And
remember that you always draw out
| the chair for the lady next to you at
the table, whether she be mother. sister
| or guest
And when you do all these things in
your own family circle you will not fail
in courtesy in other homes.