Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-10-07
CHILDREN AS CHUMS.
Parents Urged to Gain Their Confidence
as Remedy for Many Evils
at Home.

Few mothers realize the loneliness of
child's life when left 70 grow M with
out the interest and CONFERENCE.-The ~
ms parents 1t is not enough to properly
ciolhe, reed, and care for the physical
requirements of d child. but the mind
should be reached through channel
which will always be found ready for
the parents who seek it, Often a has
Daiiu ana Wlfe, When speaking of a sub.
Ject they do not wish the child tn hear
lower their voices TO whispers. or If H.,
chlld Is very young, spell the words IL.
each other. This is blow to the chic,
VINO Is not even sensitive He nor re-.
allZlng what the conversation is ONLY
reels he IS being put aside. locked out. as
II We're from his parents aud their i'll
tefestS: When the child is sensitive he
oIten lmagInes the conversation is con-
corning BIN, and there will follow per
maps days and nights of suspense to n
worried little brain. If mothers womb
only make companions of their children.
TAXING an interest in every event no mar
Ter now trivial, they would soon learn
10 know the depth of child's nature
Mnlcn they have never realized before.
Inc Drcaklng of Il fayorite doll is often
70 lttie girl grief as severe as n
TOSS nY death TO an older person. Her
suffering IN comparison is rs acute: but
otten she receives no symnatlv,
or OF else is comforted with the words
mat another doll will be bought
a9I her Many mothers do not re-
heart-broken child. for the glass eyes
when have fallen back in dolly's head
siione with light for the little mother
Wnlch she alone recognized and wor-
shipped, and the faxen hair so often
brushed and curled was to her the NEST
beautiful thing in the world and had
thelf own Individuality. Parents should
converse with their children not only OIL
the topics that Mother Goose supplies,
put ON serious subjects; let the little fel.
low give his opinion on affairs of the
Jay. let the father encourage and argue
with him to find out the reason for his
opinions. Do not laugh at or ridicule his
IDEAS take things seriously and see how
ms mind will broaden and his interest in
thiligs increase. When the first wrong
dolng or OffenSe is committed do not So
Verely punish the child without first
nearing his explanation of the affair. In
stead OF harsh treatment let him real
ne the blow it has been that you have
been considered outside his interests IL
not being consulted first. He will per.
haps say, II did not ask you for | knew
You wouldn't let me do it," Convince
INN then of your reasons for knowing
such a thing was not right or good for
MN. and suggest something else that
might have been done in its place. If
tins plan was adopted there would be
better children and happier parents. On
the other hand, never threaten punish
ment and fail to fulfil it; the child will
soon learn to disregard this threaten
ing, and no benefit is accomplished in
correcting him. Never doubt a chlld's
word, rather let him think that you
know him to be above suspicion: his
natural pride will do the rest. DONE
punish the little girl for vanity if she
coaXes to wear her new hat or Shoes or
gazes over long at her reflection i'll the
mirror; it is but the natural vanity thar
is born in every daughter of Eve. and
does not mean that she will grow up to
be vain or conceited. In many cases
where there should be affection and re-
spect for the parents there IS nothing
but fear, and once the fear is estab-
lished love will soon vanish. The first
thing to do when bringing up children
is to learn to know them, for each and
every one has a marked character and
individuality of his own. Both good
and bad traits will be easily discerned.
Encourage and magnify the good, lit
tie fattery often does wonders for a
child; then tactfully try to suppress the
bad, trusting and putting them on their
honor. There will then be nObler men
and better women in the next genera
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