Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1905-11-04
Advise for a SCHOOLGIRL.

When YOU tell me, Dorothy, that YOU
cannot win your way in school be-
cause the teacher is hateful and the
SIrls are horrid and nobody likes you.
| cannot help thinking that the fault
must lehoW lie with you. You tell
me with very mournful look thar YOU
are unpopular. Mary is popular, and
50 IS Jane. But YOU, Dorothy. with
every reason that they have for bcina;
! liked by the class ana the teacher. are
lett out in the cold and hav" begun to
tecl that You VIII always have to stay
on the edSe If things while other girls
al" III tn" middle.
Naturally, some girls get on faster
than others i'll a new environment.
There is Margaret, who is so magnetic,
50 #Weetly attractive that every one
falls in love with her gentleness and
grace. There is Stella, whose scholar
snip IS so accurate that teachers feel
delighted to have her at her desk when
they are explaining lessons or conduct
lnS Rotations. There is Iva, who is
never at 4 loss for the right word. ana
who never is bothered with her hands
and feet as some girls are with theirs.
! 1t il not really worth while 10 look
e" long at those fortunate girls, the
trouble being. in Your case, that you
do not belong to that group.
May il not be that you are over criti-
! cal? Occasionally a SCHOOLGIRL falls
INTO habit Of saying. disagreeabIe
| Things about other girls, ana putting
! wrong constructions on their motives
/ We have All seen the girl who is ready
! t" say something mean about her
hei"lbor, and who stoor3 to the greater
neannea5 Of saying mcharitable things
| about those who are absent. RI YOU
do this You cannot expect that people
in general will be very fond Of you
| have soon girls who prided them
selves SO much upon being candid and
/ telling the truth that people were ac-
! tually afraid OF them. They use the
| truth as a boy throws stones. One
| never knows when some hard little
| lellet will hit one in the face.
| For example Il grid may have entire
, ly too good Il memory. The girl whose
habit is. the instant she hears some
thing told, to make a face of surprise
and say in a shocked tone, why. last
week YOU expressed an entirely differ
telling hcr friends on al OCCASIONS pre-
ciscly what she thinks Of them, may be
a very good girl, but she will never
be popular.
! Please observe, Dorothy, that we
are always To tell the truth if we are
Obliged 70 speak. but there are many
times when it is much more a duty to
be silent than it is to speak
All truth is not always to be
told. OIL need not go out OF
your way to inform Sally Brown that
a green dress docs not suit her com
pleXion and makes her look yellow,
if she has just bought one. nor is il
your place to make Louise Jones I'M
comfortable by commenting on the IN
becoming style of her new hat. which
she must wear all winter.
A good rule all through life is 70
say agreeable things whenever Won
can. and disagreeable things only when
one must. No girl will ever be popular
who has no tact. The tactfuI girl is
more likely to be a favorite than the
beautiful, the generous, or the clever
girl who lacks this quality.
The self-centered girl, too. is likely
TO be unpopular. Sha secs THINGS ax-
cluslVely as they effect herself. She is
SO occupied with what she wishes "a