The Intermountain Catholic. (Salt Lake City [Utah] ;) 1899-1920, 1905-02-11
WHY so FEW MARRY.
pass by.

if was part as it WERE of our home education to be
lieve that it is not good for man to be single 'haI
married life is the natural state OF ordinary auuiV
man and woman. When the boy emerged from MS
teens his parents suggested the ACCESSIBILITY OF set
Ting down. Matrimony the subject OF 1amlly
talk the beauty of welded life was depicted, the
happiness that comes from the building OF nome
the respect and the joys that the reward OF inc
elders who, having done well their share OF honor-
able work during the active period Oh me- Se''ie
down in their old age to the enjoyment OF the com
pany of their children and of their children
children awaiting peacefully In the plentltude OF
their wears the call to their eternal reward were
extolled as the goal to which Christian mar ana
woman should aspire. This was the g1st OF the con
versaton around the fire side OF the average OnriS
ian family. The young youngsters became lmplpeo
with the truth of this doctrine. And then the quail
tiles of mind and heart of the eligible Dung Wo-
men were canvassed; the lady truly Chrlstah'
virtuous and of kindly disposition! Would she
make true wife and good mother; true queen
of the household! Cor God pity the world and
the house wherein woman is merely the equal Oh
manD When the match was made the young folks
accepted one another; it really Tor better or
worse and for all time. The contracting parties
believed that married life is human as well as
spiritual partnership; that thereafter their inter
ests were to be inscparably mutual; that nothing
that could happen to the fortunes OF the one, but
would influence the fortunes of the other tor veal
and woe: that come what might, they would share
the bitter and the sweet of this life together, max
ing the best of whatever the future had III reserve
for Inn. Viewed in this light the married state
becomes source of emulation, strength and happl-
ness to both man and woman. The discharge Oh
its duties is source of pleasure and ever lncreas-
ing love The mole hills the petty disagreeaDe IN
cidents common to every day life, are discounted
or ignored; each schools himself TO bear with and
keep correct the infirnties of the other; the real
problems and difficulties are tackled with vim OF
III l,11,- th0 a6Xo q
line The pleasures of success become all the sweet
or with one whom we love. The tendency to &c
spondency which arises from failure, Is brushed
aside by the caress of kindly hand and dispelled by
the soothing cheering words of comfort OF true
life partner.
But why do not our young people marry nova
DAYS? The condition of noIi-narrlage Is patent IL
is more difficult to ascertain the reason OF its eHls-
tCnce.
The girls, owing to their greater inmate mod
esty arc not prone to discuss the subject except
among themselves and then the alleged reasons are
moro in the nature of an attack upon the snort
comings of the opposite sex than OF phllosophlcai
research of the true cause.
The bows say nothing-apparently y happy IN
the silent enjoyment of their egotlst1cal single
bessedness.
The changes which have taken place IN the IN
dustrial world opening TO women mnumera0le
avenues of sef-support. have made her more lnde-
penden and caused her. perhaps, to raise the stan
dard of the requirements of the candidate Tor her
hand. But worldly possibilities and advantages
have also been multiplied for the average man. In
that respect honors are evenhunlan nature Is ever
/ the same The inclination for mating should be-
/ and We believe is strong as ever
Then again we ask: Why do not our young
| people marry 80. a..
| Does the fault rest with the man or with the
woman? Much as we dread the charge OF lack OF
gallantry, we do Tin fear and trembling OF tho ait
ermath) plead guilty to the belief that the woman
is largely to blame. Man are willing to court sue
| and win as of old Well then why don't they mar
rvg All! there's the rub! Womans industrial lnde
pendencc seems to make her more "ottlsh. Inc US
true that the maid must be won, tbs true also thai
the swain likes to be coaxed.
The young girl of today does not seem TO view
the world as her mother did She creates tor her
self AN ideal that cannot be realized at least a
first: condition that comes i'll our day as 1t na
come in the past only after years of work. trugalt1
| and self-abnegation.
We believe that when the average man and wo
man have gon through life comfortably, raised
family given their children advantages commensur
| ate with the station which all wise Providence ma
allotted to Them and can spend their old age IL
relative independence, believe that this man AM
woman have enjoyed all that ordinary mortals cal
expect are entitled to. But the young woman
today too often dreams, if not OF high lie, at eas
of life that is 100 high for her; her thoughts ar
ter be often empty, even vulgar; OF the rich an
maEe-believe rich until the very thought OF mod
est retiring homelife, made happy by its quietnes:
becomes odious. She wants too much to start witt
The intimate causes of this condition permeato a
our surroundings. The habitual talk III the hon
is of money-money-ev money, not for the powe
it has for good when used rightly, but Tor Its powe
to enable us to lead lives of show and inactivity
making us forget the trusm that the law of life ]
labor and daily labor at that
In the schools the lessons arc ever OF that m1sel
ably defined something called success. The gos
of success which is described constructivey, II nc
actually is not obtainable BY the average man Q
woman of this or any other day Newspapers an
magazines are now so cheap $50 cheap in man
ways) that they enter every home. Their trash
literary efforts are light devoid of high civi
or moral purpose, that they turn the mind ava
from serious thought and serious effort. The
finely illustrated advertisements create cravin
for multitude of unnecessary things, real mo
bid hankering that is the cause of great deal {
unhappiness when not INDUCED; and, when sati
fled leads often to want and poverty.
No longer is the happiness and reasonable con
fort of the home the theme of conversation but Il
rather how viii we cause our neighbors te wondI
at our fnerY and 50 it has gone and still goes
until false standard of what life should be,is e