The San Francisco call., 1905-04-16

v V as a matter or course,
and then What shall 1
do?" is almost certain TO
follow, for II there are any two oues-
tions which perplex and vex one more
than these should like TO know them
On all sides you hear the subject of
frills and furbelows and the small
gossip that is a running accompani-
ment is nothing more or less than a
budget Of criticisms reserved for Just
s-ch occasions. For, alas and alack,
Mrs. Grunoy always has it in for every
one who does not follow her scepter
blinoly, no matter where it leads and
how much Inconvenience il causes.
Difficulties. Exactions. Criticisms,
These are the trifes that kind friends
freely throw about 10 mar the social
status Of the aspiring. Anything and
everything for gossip, and spicy gossip
al that, fer one must be entertained
ana amused these days. don't you
know.
There are breaches and breaches,
but the worst ever IS to disgrace your
host or hostess by eating in a fashion
that brands you as little short of a
heathen or a wild and woolly barba-
rian.
don't mean eating with your knife,
possible. But / do mean buttering
whole pieces of bread and biting out
bits now and then. or forgetting that
spoons belong in saucers and not in
cups. OF course, slips Of this kind are
not serious enough 10 hang a man, or
even put him in prison for life, but it
may make such a decided impression,
and such a bad one. too, that his
chances viii be ruined on the spot.
know of q girl who was to be
married and who broke her engage
ment because she didn't like the way
the chap ate icecream. Now, undoubt-
eoly that seems like a very little
thing, but IL meant q great deal to her.
Foolish? Certainly not. He turned
the spoon over in his mouth and drag
ged il over his tongue in the most dis
gusting manner. Ugh! I couldn't
stand it."
In a disgusting manner" tells the
whole story. Just as long as the little
god throws dust in your eyes and
makes you think that Tom, Dick or
Harry, or Molly or Jennie, just as the
case may be, is the loveliest ever il is
all fine and daisy and nothing but
happiness can result, but let the least
suspicion Of doubt creep in and there's
a peck OF trouble.
II he was disgusting to her once he
evidently had fallen from his pinnacle.
and no matter how hard she tried she
never could quite boost him to- that
exalted elevation again. Little by lit
tie, she would see his deficiencies and
turn away from him until some trifling
act would set her teeth on edge.
After all, you know il IS the little
things OF life that really make it
worth living. A cross word casts a
cloud over a beautiful. sunshiny day.
or a cheerful smile scatters the blue
devils to the four corners Of the earth.
And the worst part of ii Is, half the
heartburns are caused by carelessness
that cuts and rankles. though it really
was not intended TO at all.
Weatherly certainly voiced this
when he wrote:
Twas only IN jest I said il
Last night when dance was done.
But / think Of It SUI tonight. dear.
For knew that your heart was wounded,
Your tears were like TO fall.
I'd have giy'n the wide world then. dear.
IT I could but those words, these words recall
FOR words that arc lightly spoken,
And meant but half in 5est
Nay fall with bitter meaning
On the hearts We love the best.
And so il goes all through life. The
little things that do not amount to a
hill Of beans grow and assume gigan-
tic proportions. though. unfortunately
for u.s. we are not always aware of
the fact until ii is too late.
The chap who takes a girl to the
thcater is inwardly pleased when he
finds her daintily and faultlessly
gowned. Her trailing skirt and pic
ture hat are decidedly feminine and he
walks along at her side with his
shoulders squared. thoroughly at peace
with himself and the world in general.
She has gone up in his estimation
some ten or more pegs, for he admires
a woman who appreciates the eternal
fitness of things
But imagine his dismay and his
modification TO md that her table
manners are not as fine as her silks
and safins She orders sandwich
and endeavors 10 eat il whole. At
least. that is the impression she con-
veys. for the knife and fork are utterly
ignored and fingers are used in very
noticeable manner. Sandwiches are
meant 10 be eaten, OF course. but eat
ing isn't the only reason for being on
earth. though some people certainly
convey that idea
This one break ought to be bad
onQ-pb but nine times out OF ten this
s. girl Will push aside her
plate. lest both elbows on the table
and talk a blue streak. Maybe she is
IN earnest ana wags her head, because