Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-10-21
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We conhde, and still more as To the ma
tGre OF the condolences bestowed
knr though our ''G-arest trend may
he very suitable ana sympathetic re-
ciplent Of our confidential outpourings.
grave and gay. il should always he borne
III the course of events, become our
dearest enemy, aud such Il one in pos
session OF our condolences. most unre-
>ervedly aud most indiscreetly given is
not likely to add TO Our mental case and
comfort.
Next as to the nature of the cou!i-
denceS bestowed. Unfortunately these.
Tor lack OF anything moro important OF
more intelligent, consist solely in The oh
iectionable and unamaiable practice of
talking people over, discussing their
shortcomings, and retailing anything real
or rumoyed to their discrcdit And this.
not always or even Oftenest, from malice,
but simply from bad habit or emptiness
of mind. Some Of the greatest offenders
in this respect are young married wom-
en-. who, not realizing tlet us hopc( the
gross disloyalty OF it. choose for the sub
Ject The sins Of commission ana omission.
the faults and foibles of their own hus-
bands says The Home Monthly.
Than this there is no worse phase of
confidential gossip; it is not only diSloyal
to the husband. but detractS enormously
j..
And besides, it shows inferiority on the
part of the woman, for il may he SAID
with certainty that the average man.
even while laying claim to no VERY sub
tie or elevated elements of character.
Will not adversely discuss his wife with
his friends, If the confdng woman
would turn her attention to the amend
ment of her own shortcomings rs a wife,
and to the better understanding of her
husband. she would probably find that
the faultinesS is not all on one side. and
that her husband might fairly air his
grievance as a married martyr.
The chief safeguard against danger.
Gus condolences is the practice of ha-
bitual kindness of thought. which
speech. 1t may be argued that malice
gives a spice to conversation-eyen Rus
kin admits this argument; and there are
those who would sacrifice their own
mother to an epigram. Surprising this
to be true. then it is only fair that the
malice and the epigram be uttered in cir
cumstances that give the victims of the
one or the other an opportunity Of re-
taliation. Think how many subjects
there are that may be discussed with
interest and profit, and without dullness.
\ woman might even discuss her huS-
bands good points, but as this would
probably bore her audience. that subject
may be eliminated. She might also dis
cusS her own bad points, but it is not
probable that she would.
But there remain her hopes and am
bitions-her occupations and amusementS
surely these should be of interest. And
it should be part of her scheme to listen
sympathetically to the recital of such
subjects as appeal to her confidante.
Happily the many rational occupations
ard recreations now possible for Wom-
en-. which have given them wider out
look and wider interests and 4 more de-
veloped mentality. are deadly enemies
to that petty and generally uncharitable
spirit Of gossip which cheered the gray,
empty. monotonous lives of our less for
tunate sisters Of earlier generations. 1t
is within the region Of hope that soon
it will he a Tibet. without shadow of
foundation to say:
that chat and scandal
Hang on the teapot handle"
Detroit News Tribune.