The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1905-08-19
ANY WOMAN MAY
WIN SOCIAL SUCCESS.

AT OTE this: If girl is neglected
IN and fails to have good time
in society, it is her own fault.
There is nothing in her which attracts
others to her and holds them at her
side. She may set this down as in
fallibly true.
Let us play girl has complained
to her social mentor that people neg
lect her, pay no attention to her, never
care whether she has a good time or
not-nay, do not even remember her
after she has been introduced to them.
The social mentor would say:
MY dear girl the object of attend
ing social gatherings is to give pleas
ure not particularly to get it ourselves.
That last consideration is secondary.
If we want people to like US we must
be able to please or help them in some
way. They will not like US or even re-
member US unless we do this. Every
girl who goes into society must there
fore think what she can do to add to
the general enjoyment.
4 suppose when you go to a recep-
ton you sit miserably by yourself and
think all the while about yourself and
how you are neglected by others. Get
away from that thought absolutely
Self consciousness is a viper every
ready to strike us and paralyze all our
effort. Just see to it that you look and
act your best and that you speak cor
rect. tidy speech then put the tor
menting. demonish self out of your
mind altogether. That is the first thing
get rid of self.
Consider, too, that you have no right
to take up room at social meeting I'M
less you can add something to its at
PfjRnS EURrV girl has al
gift A very few individuals are witty
and brilliant in conversation: that is
their gift to the fund of social enjoy
ment. One girl may be an uneommonly
fine pianist or singer; here is her con-
tribution. The girl who is even a fair
pianist can always play accompani-
ments for singers or dance music for
informal gatherings, thus adding her
contribution; no small one where she
is good tempered and sympathetic The
girl who can sing well is of course
favored beyond most. She always
knows what she can do and will be
continually finding new and attractive
songs and keeping herself in practice
Another resource for adding to the
common happiness at a social function
is far too much neglected, and that is
recitationS and anecdote narration
Comic selections should in nearly every
case be selected. It is safe to follow
the general rule that people desire to
be amused rather than saddened in
this weary world. There are little
books of comic and other Rotations
that will afford unending entertain
ment at social gathering if well given.
ITO recite WELL again, observe the
same rule-turn your mind resolutely
away from your own uneasy, self seek
ing personality and endeavor to make
others enjoy themselves. And even
though you neither sing, play nor re-
cite you can always say a word to the
bashful youth and put him at ease or
talk to old men and old women of the
things you are sure will interest them.
To do this, constantly read newspa-
pers and keep up with the times.
Bring out ever the happy, cheerful
side of life. An infalIible method for
you to make yourself liked is to like
other people. Begin at once. All the
world is lovable, if the world only knew
it. Put yourself in the place of others