Pine Bluff daily graphic., 1905-08-04


and not enough Jolly
No human being ever has the slight;
est conception how many faults he
OF she possesses until after they are
married and are privileged to have
their shortcomings pointed out to
them by a husband or wife.
In the outside world it is the polite
custom of society, at least in our
presence, to gloss over our weakness
es and magnify our virtues.
In the family circle the opposite
rule prevails Our good qualities are
accepted without comment, and it is
our mistakes and frailties that come
in for notice.
This is the greatest disappointment
of matrimony and the thing that
does more than all else to take the
salt and SAVIOR out of married life.
What we really marry for is to get
somebody to admire us-to bind some
body to us who will always be giving
us the glad hand, to secure a perpetu'
al incense burner who cannot get
away from us and will never weary
of his or her job.
Falling in Love.
A womn falls in love with a man
because he tells her she is the most
beautiful, and most fascinating, and
the most charming creature on earth.
A man falls in love with woman
because her whole attitude towards
him cries out, how intelligent, and
brave. and strong, and handsome you
are"
These are the tactics by which they
attract each other and yet the min
ute they are married, they abandon
them.
No man and no woman would
dream for a mute of saying the bru-
tai things to strangers that they say
to their own wife or husband and yet
they wonder that they do not find
each others society agreeable.
If Mr.. Jones meets Mrs. Smith, who
is attired in a hat ten years too
young for her. he pays her fiorld
compliment about always being sweet
sixteen: but if his own wife should
put on similar piece of millinery, he
would make sarcastic remark
about an old hen trying to look like
q spring chicken.
If Mrs Smith has a husband adj
dicted to relating long and wearisome
stories. she does not hesitate to tell
him what a bore he is making of him
self. but she will listen with a rapt
expression of absorbed interest while
MI. Jones proses by the hour how he
fought, bled and died in the civi!
war.
Falling Out.
Herein lies the terrible mistake OF
most married couples. If they would
reverse this proceeding-if Mr.. Jones
would keep his honeyed compliments
for Mrs. Jones. and Mrs. Smith would
reserve her subtlest batteries for Mr..
Smith-they would never find mar
ried life dull. for there is no society
as thrilling as that of discriminate
ing admirer and no voice so eloquent
as the voice that praises us.
The man who is sure to find fas-
cinated listener in his wife is the man
who never stirs from his own fireside
of an evening.
Nor is the wife whose husband tells
her that she is getting younger and
prettier every day ever one of the
ladies who are out on still hunt for
an affinity.
On the contrary woman may be
as homely as mud fence, and as dull
as meat az but If she knows
enough 10 Jolly her husband she need
never fear rival: while. if man
will only feed his wife enough taffy
he may starye her on beefsteak,
There comes time of peril in the
history of every married couple. This
is due to arrive about two years az
ter the wedding
But then the husband and wife have
quit jollying each other and have he-
gun handing out a candid opinion of
each others faults that blister
where it hits.
Use Flattery.
The wife lets the husband see that
he falls about a million miles shor
of the romantic hero she had suppos7
ed him to be.
The husband permits his wife to
frankly know that she isn't the angel
he had imagined her.
Married life is dull because is has
nothing in it but criticism, and none