Evening star., 1905-11-05
The Bride

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Who begins by not depending seriously on
masculine aid in the selecting OF her wear
ing apparel is likely to be planning out 40
nestle happiness for herself for after years
The power which a wife has within herself
to manipulate her own wardrobe Is to
certain extent an investment which a hus-
band makes either for better or worse. and
1t is one in which he is particularly suscep-
tibe 10 pleasant surprises.
The controlling of her own dress prob
lens Is also one OF the few things remain
ing to a woman's married life in which she
can innocently keep to some extent within
the unknown. In the first few weeks OF
the honeymoon it is beautiful feeling to
be able to command the attendance of ones
own and undisputed property Ito help me
pick out little coat. dearest, so that l
shall be sure to get one that suits you, too
Joy that It is, however, 1t is mild IN COM
parison 10 the delight called forth by the
'Where did you get that sis?" and the ad-
miring masculine glance which Is suddenly
turned upon some new possession that you
have either conjured up or purloined from
the bargain counter for yourself.
The naturally and individually feminine
woman anyway, even In the beginning Of
the honeymoon. longs TO get away into her
just as the naturally masculine man longs
for an occasional return to an expurgated
edition of what is known as going out
with the boys" The woman who doesn't
reveal all the. inner processes of her bar
gaining and buying experiences has treas
IRE within herself of unexpected variety
and attractlveneSs.
In one OF the worst cases of lately dis
solved domestic ties the woman, who was
the salt of the earth, by the way, had be-
gun early and long kept up the habit OF
consulting her husband on every small mat
ter. As the domestic tension frightened she
rcdoubed her efforts by throwing out once
fatterng appeals for advice. Anent the
fifteen-year-old daughter, she wrote to him
TO know If Mary Louise might have her
hair done up to which the curt reply was
that 'he guessed Mary Louise was old
enough to know how she wanted her own
hair without bothering him about it,
This masculine outbreak was the forerun-
ner of the throwing off of matrimonial
shackles which had long been uninteresting.
Not a fair instance of the average man.
perhaps but an Indicator of the power to
pail in the OVERRIDING of the deferring habit,
even in the best regulated families.
The Recent
Admission made by servant glrl-one OF
the twenty years in place" kind-ought
TO be food for thought to mlstresses.
II she Is right one of the troubles in the
servant girl problem is that the might OUT
Is most often spent in putting each other
up TO thinking that they are abused and in
taking an unfattering inventory of the
charms OF each others mistresses.
Now. whoever sweeps into the kitchen
after dinner when her maid is washing up
the dinner dishes and entertaining Tilly
and a Frleda at the same time has herself
to thank for an unfavorable verdict if she
either appears to ignore their existence or
II she conveys by her manner that she
thinks they have no right to be there.
They have a right to be there-if they are
not committing depredations on the left
overs, which is another story--as no maid
should be expected to have anything to do
at that hour with which visitor should
interfere.
The truth Is that either Tilly or Frieda. If
She is reasonably young and new to the
country, is an ardent creature, keenly alive
to the facts of her friends environment
and thirsting for little interested notice
herself The woman who either unrealiz-
ingly or consciously shows hauteur at what
she believes TO be an intrusion on her
maids time Is put down by the sharp eyes
observing her as having the "coold proud
mad that the Kelly children attributed to
their teacher
\ friendly. interested and cordial word TO
this back-door guest in the same easy way
Tor which this woman is famous among her
own and her husbands callers will put the
Kitchen at its ease with the best results to
herself possible.
u IS no more than would be prompted by
q fine sense Of COrdiality and WomanlIneSs
10 one who. after all. is young and a
stranger In a strange land to let her know
that YOU are Interested in her company
lou may be sure that you will receive COM
menGa tiOn from Selma and FrIeda n g an AL
together possible person when next the
crowd gets together. which will not take
You off the list Of good places.
1t is Not
may aid In giving more of the self-conf1-
dence which affects manners at least, II not
morals. Whoever has made a study of the
rows OF feet in an electric car has observed
the rapidity with which the women put
down their skirts and the men shift one
foot from the other In an embarrassed eff
fort to get them out of the way. 1t is only