Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-02-11
Why Men Marry the
Disagreeable Girl of the Family.

Mans strange animal, and makes strange
use
OF his own nature and the various arts;
And likes particularly to produce
Some new experiment 10 show his parts
One of the most surprising illustra-
tons of the truth of these words from
one of Byron's poems which ever came
under my notice was furnished by the ac-
ton of a friend OF mine, who SIX months
ago married girl who, to be candid, was
regarded as the most disagFeeable, I'M
popular and independent female of the
particular social circle in which she
moved. Singu!arly enough, when this
man was first told about the girl before
being introduced to her, he casually
passed the remark that he would be sor-
~ for the man who married her"
| slyly asked HIM recently if he was
sorry for himself, and he begged Of me to
let the remark sink into oblivion, for he
was really the happiest married man
alive.
1T is true" he continued, that my
wife is a self-opJnonated woman. of in
dependent disposition, frank to degree,
and therefore disagreeable according to
many peoples ideas, simply because she
will not agree, for the sake Of politeness
and courtesy, with nil they sag and do.
1t is also true that she had the reputa-
ton of being 4 bit Of q shrew amongst
her male friends, and she has laughingiy
confessed to me since our marriage that
she believes she frightened more than enc
suit0r away on this account. She was. in
fact, one of the few girls who did not
court popularity by being as nice as she
possibly could on all occasions, and | be-
lieye that is why l fell in love with her
almost as soon as we were introduced
This mans explanation of his marriage
affair puzzled me the more because |
knew that his reputation before marriage
had been quite different to that of the
woman he married, lie, in fact had
been voted by his women friends as the
most popular man ia their particular set,
and | have no doubt that there were a
few signs and just little heart-aching
hidden under the congratulations which
they showered upon him when his en-
gagement was announced; and, of course,
the most miserable life was predicted for
him after his marriage with the odiouS
Miss Dislike.
But they were all wrong, both in their
predictions, their estimates of Miss Dis
likes character, and the qualities which
some men look for in the girl they would
wed. A census of the opinion of half Il
dozen men which | was led to seek after
considering the case i'll point revealed
the astonishing fact that it is q.ite pos.
sible for girl to be too nice and ami
able.
Said one young fellow, wher l asked
him what kind Of a girl he liked most to
meet:
Il like the original girl Not the girl
who thinks so much about appearing at
her best III your company. and pleasing
you By being as nice, amlable and agree
able as possible; but the spirited girl, who
has opinions and views OF her own, and
is not afraid to express thenl although
they may not be i'll accordance with your
own. 1t is very possible that she won't
please you at first. In fact, she will
probably offend you now and again, and
you will have series of small differ
ences; but my opinion is that you grow
to like such girls after 4 time, and prefer
their society to that Of the girl who al
ways puts on her very best manners
when i'll the company of other people,"
As a matter OF fact, this was prac-
tically the opinion of the whole half
dozen men whom | consulted Oh the sub
iect. | learned further that so-calied
nice girls are far too common 50
common, indeed, that they are frequently
passed over unnoticed by men in search
of a wife. The greatest drawback to the
nice girl is that there is 30 originality
about her. And when You come TO think
of it. there is no great cleverneSs in the
art of being pleasant with every enc with
whom YOU come into contact. You have
simply 10 conceal your own feelings and
views and agree with pretty we'll all
they have to say, and they will so away
charmed.
And there is no gainSaying the fact
that some men like to wed a girl who is
amiabe as the day is long. But there
are other men-and they are possibly the
most numerous-who confess that the
ways of the amiable girl begin to pail
on them after time. They get the idea
into their heads that she hasn't any grit
or backbone. 1t is 50 easy to be nice"
ana smiiips s%9afIr o girI "a, 'i arn un
successfully to be nice" and all her
women friends viii say what a charm
ing, amiable creature she is
Unfortunately her male acquaintance
do not 50 estimate her attractions. OF
course, men are not attracted towards
gIrl who Is rudeiy disagreeahle, and who
has conceited opinion of her own cana
blitieS and shrpu1uesS -SnIectad