The Donaldsonville chief. [volume] (Donaldsonville, La.) 1871-current, 1905-06-17
ny MARGARET E. sANGsTER.

/ Copyright. 1905. by Joseph B. Bow.es-1
7 an candid person. always speak
my mind. There is no deceit IN me. My
friends know where I stand. | never
niuce matters. speak right out.
The person who makes this deeIara-
ton of her independence is usually a
woman. Men are less given than women
to airing with pride their sentiments
ana methods in human intercourse
The lady asserts herself with an effect
| OF settling ruffled feathers, and calmly
| awaits the compliment she expects
from the listener.
| But should she receive a compliment?
Candor is an admirable virtue. But
eandor with bayanet CT a sledge ham
mer in its hand, may be very danger
Gus thing to encounter. Although one
/ speak the truth on every occasion, one
need not knock down ones fellows. nor
run amuck against the prejNdices of So
ciety. The habit of speaking ones
mind at every opportunity, in whatever
company, saTors of self-asteen.
which is nearly as bad a quality as ny
4
Why trample gh-shod on courtesy Z
Why ignore the plain fact that it takes
more than one person to see some
/ truths that truth may be an affair of
vision. and that with utter sincerity, a
truth-teIIing bIunderer may now and
then swear to lie?
The experience Of every court of JUS
II T. -J,S
tain false impression. They remem-
Der only half of what they saw. Few
memories are altogether accurate as te
names, dates and events. Desire on one
side or the other makes an unconscious
bias. One Of the hardest things iniife IS
10 tell the direct, absolute, irrefutable
Truth
The lady who is SO proud of her plain
T speaking, is not thinking of a court of
law, in which she might be as frightened
as any other novice, but Of the family
circle. At the table, in the parlor, in the
evening, when the family meet, to her
husband. to her children, and to ae-
quaintances. she speaks her mind.
When John comes home in excellent
spirits over a deal that he has success
fully carried through, she throws cold
water on his satisfaction by reminding
| him OF former disappointment
Dear father always said that you
were not cut out for a business man.
You are too sanguine. Anybody can get
the better Of you in a bargain. should
/ feel much easier if you were a clerk.
This style Of conversation is a distinct
damper on Johns enthusiasm. a man
whose wife is a perpetual wet blanket
1 cannot easily hold his own with other
men. That his wife believes in him re
enfarces his enthusiasm and strength
ems his will. A wise and discreet wife,
if she happen 20 have a doubt, keeps it
in her own bosom, and is Tar from the
brutal honesty that speaks it's mind.
when doing 50 cannot affect the matter
| IN hand
we miss Mrs. e. more than
words can tell. said woman much en-
| gagged In works Of charity. "After she
moved away We found it impossible to
secure anyone who could fill her place
Beyond anyone ever knew, she had the
art Of working agreeably with others,
and keeping different sorts of people in
harmony. She said such pleasant
things. When there was nothing pleas
ant TO be said. she kept silence .
I had known Mrs. a. from her
childhood knew her as a strong we'll
balanced woman, who had opinions and
convictions. but did not think It neces-
sary to go through the world with chip
on her shoulder. When no principle
was involved, she refrained from ex-
| pressing what she thought, and partic-
! ularly she was careful not to comment
unfaEorably on Others, present or alb
t sent. In passing. it may be observed
that, while It requires nerve to make IN
friendly criticisms to the person who is
present, it IS the nerve Of ruffan, not of
| a lady, and its only excuse is sn over
mastering excitement. To say disagree
able things in public, in cold blood, even
| II they are true and in measure de-
served, is a bit of cruelty, possible to
none but the ill-bred. To attack the alb
sent in any circumstance is eoWardly
and infamous.
There is a kind Of candor that sets i
peaceabIe family on edge and starts a
quarrel by its own rough impetus. It is
toIerably sure to be inopportune, to be-
gin a conversation when a man is al
ready late for his train, or girl is
dressed for party and has not time to
/ change her toilette. Plain speaking be
tween friends. when two of them are
alone, doors shut and curtains drawn, is
sometimes necessary, but it must be
managed adIottiy OF It may leave
wounds.
Tell me my faults, says the party of
the second part to the party OF the first.
TELL me exactly where you think I am
weak and what / can do toreform my be-
Tayior'
The experiment will be test Of
friendship. Nine times cut of ten it will
fatally flaw the friendship.
4 man Of talent and scholarly tastes.
| very successful in q difficult and arIuous
| profession. took it into his head to write
| a novel. It covered many pages IF pa
per ana occupied his leisure Tor a year.
When lit was completed he brought it to
literary friend and asked for candid
criticism
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