Richmond planet. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1883-1938, 1905-03-25

Copyright, 1895, by Joseph b. Bowles)
Three young women and two young
| men have recently inquired rather in
tensely concerning the symptoms of
| love.
sometimes | think l am in love-
| said one. "A day or two later | am
convinced that | am not. [ see so
| many faults in the one for whom I
supposed that l cherished a deathless
affection that | doubt its reality. and
conclude that l had better keep away
from her"
Another, in a similar strain, says
that he has heard a great deal about
that state of mind, or soul, in which
the adered object seems simply per
feet" He admits that he has liked
certain girls, and has run the risk
OF making a nuisance of himself by
haunting their homes two or three
times each week, for sometimes
months together: but as for this &c
| static condition in which q girl seems
perfect, | never have had it-and SO
l suppose | have never been actually
IN love. | can see that she talks
louder than l would like to have my
wife talk. Or that she is careless
| about her hands-and | could never
! abide wife who did not keep her
hands perfectly. Or she laughs toe
much. Or she is not reiigious-and.
though l am not religious myself, 1
want my wife to be So
There is a reasonable youth for
you! But, listen. Here is a girl who
is quite as eXacting:
There as young man who comes
often to see me. tie is sho"t-and
had set my heart on marrying a tall
man. But | could pu, up with that
II he would only jump more quickly
to pick up things that | drop-or to
open the door or get chair for me-
There are often three or four young.
men in the -parlor when l come down
and this young man lets the others
do all the little things for me.
have purposely given him chances to.
hand me book or paper, or look up
word in the dictionary - or pass
me wrap-but every time it is an
other man who takes the trouble for
melville he calmly waits. or course,
he has to do il, when we are alone to-
gether-but he does il in a way which
seems to say: You make great deal
of bother l have heard that he is
lazy and selfish. When | think of this
l hate him. But when he comes again,
and | see his face and hear him talk
l like him again"
A young woman who has recently
become happily engaged to be married
has younger sister who. though az
iec,!onGtc, loves % tease
One evening az RECEIPT
both of these blissful engS AZ
people were present, the young man
could not find his fiancee. With that
singular obtuseness which sometimes
accompanies a too great earneStness
he passed the group two or three times
without seeing her-his gaze every
time rowing past her, as he anMously
peered into the distance.
The young sister was merciless to
him.
IF you had really been in love with
her" she laughed you could never
have passed her in that way. You
ought TO have had a thrill, or some
thing, which would have told you
when you were near her"
A few days later at a large wedding
the beloved object" as a member OF
the nGptial party, Unexpectedly passed
up the aisle near which the young
man was sitting beside the saucy
sister. AS he saw her he gave an in
voluntary start
That is it," his tormentor assured
him, Then you had the thrill 1t
nearly finished the sash of my best
white gown, which you grasped as you
thrilled-let us charitably suppose I'M
consciously. But | begin to see that
love may be awakening in your heart
Only next time do not recklessly try
to hold on by my sash.
There may be something in this
lively young woman'S contention. But
not every soul in this unitarian age
is capable of thrills. Others do not
recognize them when they occur. The
thrill is hardly safe and sure guide
And, alas! the thrill is often said to
occur when you do not approve of it.
and would not fall in love for the
world with the one who arouses it
Such thrills are said to be due TO
"hypnotiSm,' or magnetism" or
some other kind of occult ism -
Generally, perhaps, they arise from
some attraction of physical beauty or
grace, which the senses acknowledge.
against the strong protest of the soul
AS very broad and general propo-
sition, with many exceptions. possibly
these rules may be as good as any:
promising, first. that the individual
in question has a good character
pure, upright, honorable. Remember
that nobody can love you properly
who does not love honor more
And, second, that the individual has
had religious training and holds re-
ligious views enough like your own.
so that you are not likely to clash
upon that ground. And, third, that
you have approximately, both of you.
about an equally good education. II
you find yourself thrilling" over any,