The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1905-03-05
TIE TONGUE TIED GIRL
By Margaret f. Songster.

filled with a throng of people, most of
whom We're unknown to her, and
standing within the doorway, in a clear,
sweet voice, without shade of ernbar-
rassment, she gave a message from
her mother. Addressing the mistress
OF the house, she said what she had
been sent TO say, and then, with a
graceful and sweeping courtesy. toek
her leave, mounted her horse and rode
away. That" said one of the ladies'
is the prettiest thing ever saw
IL was pretty because the young girl
IN question, who had never in her life
been thirty miles from home, had not
single vestige of elf-consciousnesS.
am often asked by tongue-tied girls
what they can do to overcome the diff
Guilty Perhaps the most fatal thing
is to try to talk merely for talks sake
Never open your mouth unless YOU
really have something to say. is a good
rule for the novice InterFogate your
self and see whether you have any
facts or theories on which you may
draw. Ones voca bulary is greatly en-
larged and improved by reading. a
girl who seldom reads Will naturally
possess d limited stock Of words, and
her language will not always be well
chosen. Tt matters less whether one
talks very much than whether one has
the exact phrase at. hand to fit and
ClOthe her thought
Some of US are Singularly unfamiliar.
with what is going on about us in the
most entertaining and interesting pc
riod. No one can have very much to
talk about who does not daily read the
newspaper. Current events at home
and abroad, discoveries, inventions and
the various things that belong to the
forward march of civilization. should
interest girls. I do not care very much
whether a girl is learned or brilliant
or clever so long as she is interest
ing. 1t is a woman's essential duty to
have charm. One who has no charm
may have every virtue in the calendar,
but will go through life an uninterest-
ing woman.
Silent girls are by no means devoid
of charm. The most popular girl in
the world is not always the one who
is readieSt of speech The girl who is
witty at the expense of others, who is
satiricaI or ironical or places others
even momentarily in a false position
will never long he welcome in any
| company. The tongue-tied girl is in nc
/ danger Of offending in this way. Hel
| silence is her shield
One thing should be taken to heart
I by all girls, and that is never TO tel
| anecdotes or stories TO a group of lis
| teners unless they know how to do it
! and are not in danger of missing the
/ point. The ability to tell a good story
| at the right moment is as enviable al
| accomplishment as the ability to play
| a sonata or sing a ballad. But the
| blunderer, who tells a story badly, ha.
| the modification of seeing the effor
| fall fat. and has not always the acute
| ness to understand what has hap
| pened.
| A tongue-tied young woman may
| comfort herself by the reflection tina
| il is not necessary for her always Il
| take the lead. She should leave tina
4. to older women. For herself she ha
! the beauty OF youth, the sweetness o
| the early years, and the happy feeling
| that life is all before her and that tn,
| day will come when. although she i
| reserved now. she will undoubtedl.
| find plenty to say and many peopl
| willing to listen to her. Diffidence
| reSOlutely met. will vanish like tn
! morning dew before the sun.
Then. is it not far more desirable T.
| say nothing at all than TO talk un
| kindly of ones neighboFs. or-rto crit
| else the absent? would rather q
| tongue-tied than gain a reputation 70
| clevernesS by gossiping unkindIy abOu
acquaintances or friends Things, no
persons. should compose the staple o
daily talk. Remember this. an
tongue-tied today, may be fluent to
morrow.
I
! Copyright, 1905. by Joseph B. BowIes