The Marlboro democrat. [volume] (Bennettsville, S.C.) 1882-1908, 1905-03-24
CURSE OF DIVORCE.
The importance Of the Family. The
Rearing and Training of Children.
Woman's Influence In the Life
Of the Nation. Every Wo-
man Should Read 1t.
man Should Read 1t.

tire speech below:
In our modern industrial civilization
there are many and grave dangers to
conterbalance the splendors and the
triumphs 1t Is not a good thing to see
cities grow at disproportionate speed
relatively to the country; for the small
land owners, the men who own their
little homes, and therefore to very
large extent the men who till farms,
the man OF the soil, having hitherto
made the foundation of lasting nation
al life In every State; and, If tic
foundation becomes either too weak
or TOO narrow, the superstructure, no
matter how attractive, is in eminent
danger Of falling.
But far more important than the
question OF the occupation Of tur Cit
izens is the question Of huw their fam.
lily life is conducted. No matter what
that occupation may be, as long as
there Is real hlme and as long as
those who make up that home do their
duty to one another, TO their neigh
bors ard to the State, 1t Is OF minor
const quence whether the mans trace
is plied In the country or in The city,
whe, her 1t ca Is for the work of the
hands or for he work OF the head
VALUE OF THE FAMILY HOME.
But the nation is in bad way II
there is no real home, II the family Is
not OF the right kind; IL the man is
not good husband and father, If he
Is brutal:y or cuwaruly or selfish, il the
woman has lost her sense OF duty, IL
she Is sunk in vapid self indulgence or
has let her nature he twisted So that
she prefers u sterile pseudo intellec
tuallty to that great and beautiful de-
velopment Uf Character which comes
only 10 those ~hose lives know TIL,
1ullnesn or outy done, OF effolt made
and self-saCrltic. undergone.
In the last anaiy Sis the welfare of
the State depends absolutely upon
whether Ur not the average family, the
average man and woman and their
children, represent the kind OF citiz IN
ship tit for the foundation Of a great
nation; and If I'VE fail to appreciate
this we fall to apprt ciate tie root
morality upon which all health civil
lzatiOn Is based.
No piled up wealth, no splendor of
material growth, no br!liaLce OF art
istic development, will permanently
avail any people unless it's home life Is
healthy, unless the average man pos
sessses honesty, courage, common
sense, and decency, unless he works
hard and Is willing at need to fight
hard; and unless the average woman
Is good wife, a good mother, able
and willing TO perform the first and
greatest duty or womanhood, able and
willing TO bear, and to bring up as they
should be brought up, healthy child
rem, sound in body, mind, and char
acter, and numerous enough so that
the nation shall increase and not de-
crease.
MAN THE BREADWINNER.
There are certain old truths that
will be true as long as this world en-.
dures, and which no amount of pro-
gress can alter. One of these is the
truth that the primary duty of the
husband Is to be home maker, the
bread winner for his wife and child
dren. and that the primary duty Of
the woman Is to be the helpmeet, the
house wife and mother. The woman
should have ample educational advan.
tages; but save in exceptional cases
the man must be and she need not be-,
and generally ought not to be, train
ed as the lifelong care er as the family
breadwjnner; and, therefore, after
certain point the training Of the two
must normally be different because
the duties Of the two are normally diff
ferent. This daes not mean inequality
Of function, but 1t does mean that nor
mally there must be dissimilarity of
function. On the whole, think the
duty OF the woman the more impor
tant, the more difficult and the more
honorable OF the two; on the whole l
respect the woman who does her duty
more than respect the man no does
his.
No ordinary work done by man is
either as hard or as responsible as the
work OF woman who is bringing up
fam ly OF small cnIldrtn; f,r upou
her time and strength d, mar d, are
made not cnly every hour Of the day
but every hour Of lhv night. Sne may
have t" get up night after night 10
take care o. sick child, al d yet must
by Gay ntinue 10 90 ali ht hou O.
hold duties ar well: ana If the family
means ale tcant 81 e must usually en
Joy even her rare holidays taking her
whole broou OF children with her The
birth pangs make all m The deb or
OF all won en-. Above all cur sym pathl
and regard are due to the ST juggling
wives amung those whom Abraham
Lincoln called the plain people, ard
wi ON lie 50 loved and trusted; for thc
lives OF these women are often lead
on the 1t ely heights Of q.i"t, self
sacr ticing herosm.
DUTY OF MOTHERHOOD.
Just as tie bappt st al d most hon.
Orable and most useful task tiat Can
be set aty mau /, 10 earn enough for
the support OF III, wife and family, for
the bringing up and starting in life
OF his children, SO the most lmpor.
tant, the m st honorable and desirable
task Which can be set any woman is TO
be co. d and wise mother In home
marked by sClf.respect and mutual
forbearance, by willingness To perfo m
duty, and by Iefu al to sink into self
indulgence or avoid that which entails
effort and self sacrifice or course
there are exceptional men and excep-
tional women who can do and ought
to do much more than this, who can
lead and ought to lead great careers
or outside usefulness in addition to
not as substitutes for-their home
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