The Montgomery advertiser., 1905-03-14

willing to bear, and to bring up as they should be brought up, heartily children. sound in body. mind, and character, and numerous enough so that the race shall increase and not decrease.
 old Enduring Truths.
 There are certain old truths which will be true as long as this world en- dures and which no amount or pro gress can alter. One of these IS the truth that the primary duty or the husband is to be the home maker, the bread-winner for his wife and children, and that the primary duty of the wo- man is to be the helpmeet, the house. wife, and mother. The woman should have ample educational advantages; but save in exceptional eases the man must be, and she need not be, and gem erally ought not to be, trained for a lifelong career as the family breadwtn- ner; and, therefore. after a certain point the training of the two must normally be different because the duties or the two are normally different. This does not mean inequality of function. but It does mean that normally there must be dissimilarity of function. On the whole, I think the duty of the wo- man the more important, the more diff ficuit, and the more honorable of the two; on the whole I respect the woman who does her duty even more than respect the man who does his.
 No, ordinary work done by man Is
  work of woman who Is bringing up family of small children; for upon her time and strength demands are made not only every hour of the day put often every hour of the night. She may have to get up night after night to take care of a sick child, and yet must by day continue to do all her household duties as well; and 1T the family means are scant she must usually enjoy even her rare holidays talr lrf kor rrvha nhitdrAn with her. The birth bangs make all men the debtors of all women. Above all our sympathy and regard are que to the struggling wives among those whom Abraham Lincoln called the plain people, and whom he so loved and trusted; for the lives of these women are often led on the lonely heights of quiet. self sacrificing heroism.
 Just as the happiest and most honor able and most useful task that can be set any man is to earn enough for the support of his wife and family. for the bringing up and starting in life of his children, so the most important, the most honorable and desirable task which can be set any woman is to be a good and wise mother in home marked by self-respect and mutual for bearance, by willingness to perform duty, and by refusal to sink into self indulgence or avoid that which entails effort and self-sacrifice. Of course there are exceptional men and excep- tfonal women who can do and ought to do much more than this, who can lead and ought to lead great careers of outside usefulness in addition to-not as substitutes for-their home work: but am not speaking of exceptions; am speaking of the average citizens, the average men and women who make
 Work Never Ended.
 Inasmuch as am speaking to an as- semblage of mothers shall have noth- ing whatever to say in praise of an easy life. Yours Is the work which is never ended. No mother has an easy time, and most mothers have very hard times; and yet what true mother would barter her experience of joy and sorrow in exchange for life of cold selfiishness. which insists upon per petual amusement and tho avoidance of care. and which often finds its fit dwelling place in some flat designed to furnish with the least possible expen- allure of effort the maximum of coTn- fort and oE luxury, but fn which there is literally no place for children?
 The woman who Is a good wife, a good mother, Is entitled to our respect as is no one else; but she Is entitled to 1t only because, and so long as, she is worthy of 1t. Effort and self sac riflce are the law Of worthy life for the man and for the woman; though neither the effort nor the self-sacrifice may be the same for the one as for the other. do not in the least believe in the patient Griselda type of woman. in the woman who submits to gross and long continued i'll treatment. any more than I believe in a man who tamely submits to wrongful aggression. No wrongdoing is so abhorrent as wrong doing by a man towards the wife and the children who should arouse every tender feeling in his nature. Selfish ness towards them, lack of tenderness towards them. lack of consideration for them. above all, brutality in any form towards them. should arouse the heartiest scorn and indignation in every upright soul.
 believe in the woman's keeping her self-respect just as I believe in. the doing so I believe in her rights just as much as I believe in the mans, and Indeed little more; and regard mar- riage as q partnership, in which each partner Is in honor bound to think of the rights of tho other as well as of his or her own. But I think that the duties are even more important than the rights; and In the long run I think that the reward is ampler and greater for duty well done, than for the insis- tence upon individual rights, necessary though this, too, must often be. Your duty Is hard. your responsibility great; but greatest of all is your reward do not pity you in the least. On the
 Controllers of Destiny.
 Into the woman's keeping is commit ted the destiny of the generations to come after us. In bringing up your children 1t Is essential to be loving and tender 1t is no less essential to be wise and firm. Foolishness and affection must not be treated as interchangeable terms; and besides training your sons and daughters in the softer and milder virtues you must seek to give them those stern and hardy qualities which, in after life. they will surely need. Some children will go wrong in spite of the best training; and some will go right even when their surroundings are most unfortunate; nevertheless an immense amount depends upon the family train ing. If you mothers through weakness bring up your sons to be selfish and to think only of themselves, you will be responsible for much sadness among the woman who are to be their wives In the future. If you let your daugh- ters grow up idle. perhaps under the mistaken impression that as you your selves have had to work hard they shall know only enjoyment, you are preparing them to be useless to others and burdens to themselves. Teach boys and girls alike that they are not to look forward to lives spent in avoid ing difficulties but to lives spent in overcoming. diff Nulties. Teach them that work, for themselves and also for others, is not a curse. but a blessing; seek to make them happy. to make them enjoy life, but seek also to make them face life with the steadfast reso- lution to wrest success from labor and diversity. and to do their whole duty before God and to man. Surely sne who can thus train her sons and her daughters Is thrice fortunate among women.
 There are many good people who