Los Angeles herald., 1905-02-13
CHURCH POTENT
IN MARRIED LIFE
Or. BOWLING SAYS RELIGIOUS
HOME is STEADFAST
In Sermon on "Homes Have Seen
Wrecked" He Urges lmport-
anee Of Agreeing in
Greed

day morning, Rev. DR.. Geo. Thos.
Bowling preached the ninth sermon
in the series on Marriage and After
Marriage" His special topic was
"The Lost Wedding Ring, or Homes
Which 1 Have Seen Wrecked" lie
spoke as follows:
II have seen homes wrecked because
they did not carry the proper chart.
They had not provided themselves
with truthful understanding of the
course over which they were to sail.
my friends, all harmonious action
is the result of compromise in the
state, in society, in nature and in the
home. Nature is a system of checks
and balances-compromis No one
element or power is allowed full and
unlimited sway. If it we're chaos
would return.
Society likewise rests upon this
same basis. 1t is a compromise be-
tween the employer who has the
money and the employe who possesses
the Drawn; compromise between the
citizen who believes in states rights
and he who believes in governmental
Capitalization. Thus, happy welded
life is an impossibilty without the
compromises of love. Otherwise mar
riage would become the sway of a
despot on one hand, and on the other
the cringing of a slave.
THAT is never a home which is
law ,t,1of fn6 1aNr
wholly upon the oneness of all it's
inmates; father, mother, children, yes,
and even the servants, when that is
possible. The fear Of anyone may be
a good thing in jails and among des-
perate men, but it is very poor ele-
ment in a home.
Now let me illustrate what 1 mean
by the compromises of love.
Here is a woman who is married,
and she attends, perhaps, different
church from that of her husband;
possibly she can influence him kindly
and wisely to adopt her point of view.
But suppose she cannot. Suppose, for
example she attends Christ Protestant
Episcopal church and her husband
has very decided preference for the
Methodist, or the Presbyterian, or the
Congregationalist, or the Baptist
church. What shall she do?
"Go with Husband"
"My answer is very clear. leave
Christ Protestant Episcopal church
and go with him. If he wishes to go
to the Roman Catholic church (though
I never would advise a marriage be-
tween a Protestant and a Roman
Catholic, nevertheless, if you have
already married him, go with him to
any church which he is willing to at
tend.
"There is a place where you can
wisely compromise, and for this rea-
son: In these days it is harder as a
than it used to be in the days of our
fathers to get bad man to go. Go
with him where he wishes to go. and
thank God that he is willing to go
anywhere.
"On the other hand, my dear sir, let
llc SOY d "Oid " you' Jul WilC .
home is her palace; if she is a true
woman, it is her world. You have
your office: your outside engagements
Do not interfere with the arrangement
of her world. so far as your means
will allow. All the chances are that
she knows a thousand times more
about it than you or 1 do. And even
If she does not there is a place where
you can wisely afford to compromise
AS a rule these little compromises of
love are the only wages she asks.
Don't scrimp in her pay. For if you
make that woman's life unhappy, you
are laying up bitter memories for
yourself some day. Have you forgot
ten how Thomas Carlyle whenever
he passed the spot where he had last
seen his wife alive, would bare his
head in wind or rain, and say: Oh
if I could but see her for five min
utes, to assure her that really cared
for her throughout all that. But she
never knew it-she never knew it,
II have only time for one more sug-
gestion, and that isl have seen homes
wrecked even when they have had the
right ship and the right chart, because
they did not have the right pilot.
"And then remember a Christian
family can never be broken up.
what. though one shall die in the
old home and another far away, with
no hand of sister, or mother, or wife
to soothe his fevered forehead, only the
thought even in his delirium that
somewhere they are loving him and
praying for him, there shall come to
each the same angelic messenger and
the same welcome message, and amid
the music of celestial chanting the
soul shall mount upward and the
voice of Jesus shall whisper You are
going home.'"