The Butler weekly times. (Butler, Mo.) 1881-1918, 1905-09-14

RY MARGARET =. SANGSTER.
Copyright. lsj. ny Joseph + Bowlcsl
am often asked by young people
who are anxious to do just right,
whether lady should invite a man
TO call upon her. or whether he should
ask her PERMISSION 10 call. In urii'
nary Intercourse the matter is not
momentous. II two persons meet cas-
ually, md each other agreeable, and
wish further acquaintance, they usual
~ find a way of bringing about what
they desire. According to strictly
conventional rgl,s. the gentleman
should .vE The acquaintance Of the
lady. and he may properly pay her
The homage of asking ii he may call
On her. or he me" suggest 10 a friend
who knows her that he would like To
be taken To call, There are no mSur'
mountable barriers in country like
ours. to prevent the pleasant social
minglng Of those who are mutually
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reason why, in most cases, young
woman shoGld hesitate to say, frank
ly: Il will be pleased to see YOU at
my home if you have an evening free"
or "Mother will be glad to meet you
at any time" or Mother and | are
always happy to see our friends. or
any other formula that Is sincere and
cordial
Girls are learning the true value
of mothers, In the more exclusive cir
cles of society mothers spread pro
tecting wings over their unmarried
daughters Till the latter have evil
IDENTIFY and definitely entered on the
privileges of Spinsterhood. a young
woman who has reached her thirtieth
year no longer needs the lowering
pinion Of maternal supervision at
every step. Girls, however, are saved
many emharrasSments and rescued
from many predicaments by treating
their mothers with consideration, and
putting thm as shield between
themselves and any confusing situa-
ton. The days are over, | trust for
ever wh.n on the announcement OF
masculine caller CallOw youth
or boy about a. old as her own son,
mother Scuttcs out Of the parlor
like a friehtencl hen and leaves the
entertainment and the field to her
daughters. She may not wish to give
up her entire evening to the boy or
the man. bat ii she be weil-bred, she
greefs him ard stays awhile, and re-
tires in no disorder. Nor, while she
remains. is her presence handicap
on the group. Her girls wish mother
to know their friends.
How late may a man lineer when
he calls is another query solicitously
propounded OF course the length OF
call depends somewhat on the ia
milarity of the caller in the family.
An intimate friend will not trespass
against any accepted code If he re-
main until almost the ordinary bed
time of the family. This time, as
everyone knows, differs widely in diff
ferent households. Ten o'clock Is late
for some Others do not break tie
evening camp until II. But. broad
" speaking. few callers should stay
beyond half-past ten, and ten is the
better hour for leave taking in most
instances. A first call should not be
10 hal
eight TO nine o'clock In town calls
are in order. In country homes call
ing may begin and end an hour earlier
than is feasible in town. Never pro-
tract cail after it grows wearlsome.
When conversation drags like sleigh
on bare ground for PHYS sake arise
and depart. Don't monopolize the
conversation, you who receive. or you
who call Good talk is not a mono
logue 1t must needs show fair play.
"Shall | relieve young man Of his
hat, his stick. his umbrella" inquiries
a young woman. whose earnest desire
is to he courteous. Fashion says,
let a man look after his parapherna-
liza himself. The duty of a hostess
does not oblige her to take any trou-
BILE in the matter. But here inter
venes common sense. Should you
happen to have a bashful visitor, or
near-sighted one, why not tell him
that there is a table, hat-rack, or
some other convenient place where
he may lay his outdoor things? The
clever guest, accustomed to society
will need no such intimation, and the
instinct of amiability is to assist the
opposite one whose shyness Is max.
ing him wretched.
There are men who cling desperate.
ly to hat and stick, as il should they
let them go they would be unarmed
In a hostile country. BY all means let
such sufferers possess their souls, and
their hats, too, in peace. In the case
OF an aged or infirm visitor rules are
laid aside. Such one Is to be cared
for and aided In every way. Before
age and weakness politeness bows the
knee. Indeed, the foundation stone
underlying 'he social ediG and L...