Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-05-21
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. speech offended and solicit forgiveness 1t
| Should not take superhuman grace for the
offended to accept such an apology in the
| same spirit in which it has been offered.
That is scarcely pardon whose speech Is
| cold and which has a ring which is not sin
| Cere. Sometimes it may be accompanied by
| an acknowledgment that the suer for for
giVeneSS has been most diSagreeable, and
| that, while he is forgiven. he must remem-
| Der that an unkind speech cannot always
be forgotten at will
| He who thus receives an apology is far
| Their from the right path than is he VINO
| has acknowledged his fault. The one is
| conscious of his shortcomings and regrets
| it: the other is wrapped about in a mantle
! of Conceit and self-righteousness.
| The Successful
Woman of the world has studied the tenn
! per of the finest sword. She can bend cas-
| lily, is flexible plant and yet has not lost
| the bravery and the power of her weapon.
! Men of the bar have been at trouble to
construct a system of politeness in which
an offensive self-estimation takes on the
garb of humanity. Harmony is preserved
a trial gees on with an appearance of defer
| ence and respect TO each other highly COM
mendable, and producing law and order
where otherwise might be strife. Although
these may be mimic humiities and compli-
mentS, they are nevertheless shadows of
the highest virtues.
The woman who is guarding her speech is
ruling her spirit. She is keeping her tenn
per, that furnace of all Affections. The lofty
chambers of her brain are cool and full of
fresh air.
Tact
Is that nice perception which enables us
to grasp the situation and to do and say
exactly the right thing at the right mo-
ment.
In reviewing our acquaintance we per-
distances her neighbors. In social life the
tactful woman is the favorite. knowing, as
she does, how to skate upon the thin ice of
| Vanity Fair. She triumphantly skins over
all difficult places leaving behind her the
| impression that she is a charming woman
and frequently gaining credit for qualities
she never possessed.
In every day walks of life tact is the lu-
bricating fluid which causes the social ma
chinery to run smoothly and renders pleas
ant that which would otherwise be unbear-
able. We can all remember some critical
hour when owed a debt of everlasting
gratitude to the tactful bearing of some
one else.
Ask the long suffering hostess of whom
among all her guests she reserves the
pleasantest memories and her choice is GER
| tain to fall upon the person of tact. She
gratefully recalls how her ready wit pre-
vented friction and poured the oil of dplom-
acy on the troubled waters, thus contrib
! utlng in no small measure to the success
of her gatherings. The tactful woman
abldeS in her memory long after the lions
and geniuses are forgotten.
The woman of tact journeys through life
making few enemies and winning the con-
fidenee of all who thoroughly know her.
She gains her own way more readily than
others, simply because she knows the wis
dom of hiding in silence with her eye ever
Watchful for the turn of the tide
She has proven the truth of the old prov
erb that persuasion often succeeds where
force fails, and consequently avoids the
mistakes of her sisters. and leads, where
she appears to follow, gaining time by her
seeming inactivity; because, having made
the best use of her powers of observation
She has no lost ground to cover.