Williston graphic. (Williston, Williams County, N.D.) 1895-1919, 1905-05-04

BY MAJ 0-.RET E. SANGSTER.
Copyright. 1895. by Joseph 3. Bowles.)
Amazing as the statement may be,
considering how glibIy most feminine
creatures chatter, there are tongue
tied girls. Their conversational en-
dowments are limited and they have
no stock of ideas on which to draw
when they meet strangers or are away
from the sheltering orbit of the home
circle. They realize their limitations
and grOpe about to find the reason,
only to become constantly more dis
couraged and less confident of them
selves than before
How can conquer my disinclina-
t1on to talk in company? how can l
learn what to say? how can make
myself popular and entertainins?" are
questions often and sorrowfully put by
the girl who owns herself tongue-tied
and deplores the fact Some girls can
talk very we'll on large subject that
has. interested them and with which
they are familiar. But in order to do
this they must have time, place and
opportunity. There must be somebody
else to whom the large subject makes
an appeal, and who likewise has given
it sufficient study &c talk about it with
intelligence, II not with enthusiasm.
A girl of this solid, substantial type
Is very much in the. o:ition Of per-
son who has bills Of generous size In
her pocketboolz, but has 70 small
change Occasions arise wien small
change is indispensable to comfort snd
when one cannot easi'v get aGoR the
world without its convenient - In
a street car, for instance, fifty-dollar
bill might be useless, when a nickel
would carry one miles on her journey.
The small change Of conversation
enables one to say light and cour-
tous thing quickly; it implies some
talent for banter and repartee, and it
is little dependent on use and wont,
on knowledge of the everyday circum-
stances of those about us, and on SYM
patty with the mood o. those we meet.
The girl who knows herself to be
tongue-tied, though she regret It, need
not despair Of popularity. Nobody is
socially more disagreeab,e and more
dreaded than woman who talks too
much. monopolizing the conversation,
taking the floor herself and firmly hold
ing 1t and giving no one else chance
! to speak. People fly from this over
gifted and aggressive talker. A mere
! chatterbox is equally disliked.
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appreciation II you can but master
tho fine art of listening to each person
with an air of deep interest, just as II
there we're nobody else at the moment
in the wide world, and as II your great
est wish were to unders tand what the
other is trying to tell you. you will
have the effect of talking we'll. All
that is really necessary is not to let
your attention wander. and at the right
| moment, in the right places make
some brief rejoinder or affirmation
You need never fear that you will be
thought too silent II you listen we'll
and say yes or no at proper intervals
A good listener is never a bore, while
| 4 great talker frequently gains that
unhappy distinction.
Girls are sometimes tongue-tied be-
cause of indifference. A bashful man
ner, up to a certain point, Is attrac-
tive. But when it has its root in a
hampering self-consciousness which
makes one awkward and clumsy OF
surly and defiant, it is fatal handi-
cap. Whence springs the overpower-
ing difidence which lays its weird
spell on some girls cannot tell. Cir
cumstances have little to do with It.
Heredity may have much. One finds q
girl brought up In town and accus-
| toned to meeting strangers and k1ns-
folk all her life. victim of this
wretched bondage, while girl of the
same age, coming from country home
and background of solitude, may be en-
tirely free from it.
Iremembe- olce In visit to noun
tain land of the south to have seen a
beautiful girl ride up a steep l'll path
and dismount at the door of the house
where / was staying. She entered q
room which happened to be filled with
q throng of people most Of whom were
unknown to her. and. standing within
the doorway, In clear, sweet voice,
v,ithout a shade of embarrassment she