The Cooperstown courier. (Cooperstown, Griggs Co., N.D.) 1902-1913, 1905-04-06

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mented the mother. coldly.
Girls do sometimes-just that-nice
girls, too"
II should hope that my daughter
never would"
well. certainly did not in this
case. l just sent him my card to show
that had gone to X college. in
stead OF Y. as had told him when
we last met. x college is near
him, you know"
"Oh, of course, he understood that
you we're perfectly crazy to have him
call upon you. He will probably de-
spise you as one OF these forward crea-
lures who haven't a particle of
modesty."
But now he has written to the ma
tron 70 ask II he may call. and she
has referred to you, mother. l have
told you exactly how the matter
stands, and you have been terribly
hard on me, but hope you will write
to Mrs. s. and tell her that he may
call"
The mother, after more expostula-
ton, allowed the young man to call
upon her daughter. All this happened
Is years ago. The girl and the young
man have been married ten years and
the match has turned out to be an ex-
ceptionally happy one.
Nevertheless the mother was right.
and in most cases the young man
would really have despised the girl.
Talking over this question with the
1udiojous mother of three marriage
able daughters she said of her eldest, a
plain and rather too serious, but truly
lovely, girl: "Adela might have been
married to any one of three or four
delightful young men, If she had only
been willing to show them how much
she liked them. No young man wants
to be turned down. and Adela is so
painfully anxious to reveal no undue
liking that she went to the other ex-
treme.
One after another they dropped
of. l do not know that she was in
love with any one of them, blu. feel
sure that she liked them all rather un-
commonly we'll, and they we're such fine
fellows that she might have grown to
love any one Of them-or so it seemed
to her father and me. But she has a
horror of what are slangily called
'man-chasers', and therefore she re-
NAMED SO strictly impartial that no.
body could tell her feelings at all. 1t
is a great puzzle, deciding how far a
modest girl should go in encourage
ing young man." sighed the mother
A distinguished writer has promul-
gated the doctrine that there will be
no equality between the lOve-suitor and
the suited until the economic question
is better adjusted between men and
women. She reminds us that in fam
lilies where the woman has more money
than her husband he almost never sues
for divorce. The man, in our present
social condition, has more to give to
the woman than she has to give to
him, especially in our older and more
thickly settled states. Therefore she
is, as a rule, more DESTROYS OF marry
ing him than he is of marrying her.
Yet she must not show this desire.
since tradition has made it almost q
crime for any woman to dare 10 fall in
love with any man until his majesty
shall indicate that he wishes to have
her.
Now for the exceptionally beautiful
or graceful or entertaining or rich
girls, who are all more or less in a
position to dictate terms, The situation
| is not very hard. But vast rumber
of girls belonging 10 good families can
not properly be classed under any one
of these heads-they are just fairly
good looking, everyday, commonplace
girls, often with strongly lovable
hearts or characters, which cannot be
displayed in society, where only the
shower traits usually app ar. Ii they
fall deeply in love, as many OF them
do, without proper encouragement,
they sometimes traneress the laws of
decorum and oyer-step that feminine
| modes:y which some of us consider to
be the foundation of good society.
Thus in certain giea, western city
a young woman in a weIl-paid and in
tellectual occupation. is apparently SO
deeply enamored of young business
man that his aun:, with whom he lives,
has had to ask her to discontinue her
frequent visits to the house. The girl,
who has to pass che place on her way
to and from her daily work, had taken
up the habit of calling for him to walk
to her Office with her, as his work lay
in the same direction! But the aunt
has not saved her nephew from this
determined young person, who now
steps up to a certain window and taps
on the pane to let him know that she
is there.
"And does he go out and Join herr"
asked the listene- to this extraordinary
story.
"He gets right up, hurries on his hat
and coat, end walks of gaiiy with this
peculiar girl. Now she belongs to a
respectable family, is we'll educated,
and nobody breathes a word against
!, her character. How can she do this?
But he must despise her.