The Goodland republic. [volume] (Goodland, Kan.) 1891-1907, 1905-07-07
DE or Ella WILCOX
Should Not Even Try to KiH Our Low
for Anofher.


Some months ago an articleappear-
ed IN this paper on the subject Of q
little poem with refrain about ''The
love that viii not die
1t was the purpose Of the article to
/ teach that love, even though hopeless.
I ought to make life better and the
heart happier, in the long run. and to
| refute the idea that any life was ever
ruined or any character shattered by
| worthy passion. however unrequited.
1 This argument has brought many
| protests Married women with bachelor
I lovers. married men with girl sweet
/ hearts, young women in love with
married men, all write their dfscon-
( tent with fate and with my phiIOsO-
ply.
Here is one letter from a young
woman who at an early age and when
wholly innocent OF the world and hu-
man nature was thrown in the sOci-
/ ETY. OF a married but minated man, a
! friend Of her father.
Ny correspondent says:
The man just happened to be diff
ferent from most men He could not
keep up the farce after the marriage
proved a failure, and they decided
to remain together and yet live apart
Several years had passed thus before
he met the young girl above mention
ed, whom he Immediately loved with
a passion as pure as intense.
The girl resisted, the man resist
ed, Nearly eight years have passed;
the girl has had many offers to marry
but she is still free. The man cannot
get his freedom; he has no legal
cause, and the wife, like so many
good women, viii not apply for a di-
vOrce- The girl, now a mature woman,
loves the man with all her heart and
soul, and the man, now in the very
prime Of life, loves the girl more than
ever. And so time goes on, and two
lives are wasted and unhappy, and
there is no one to blame and no cure.
The woman has fought against il con-
tinually; she has done everything to
try to uprOot her love, and the man
has been equally cOmbatant- Can you
in your worldly wisdom offer a sOIu-
tiOn2-
No lives are wasted which are en-
riched by a deathless love This man
and this woman, whether they know
il or not, are building strong, noble
characters for eternity by their self
control and cOnstancy to an ideal;
and the entire purpose Of life here on
earth is character development, not
the attainment Of personal desires. It
is a curious fact that the large ma
jOrity Of intelligent and religious -peo-
pie Chose who believe themselves
Christians) fail to recognize this as
the real object Of human existence.
The average individual thinks we
are here to obtain that happiness
which I once heard described by a
very crude mind as Getting what you
want when you want it"
Meantime, if we study the lives Of
the people who have at any risk and
cost obtained what they wanted and
when they wanted it," we do not find
happiness or growth or development
Of noble character
In the large majority of cases We
find disillusiOnment, discomfort and
degeneration of character.
The child which is given candies
and cakes at each request grows up
with a diseased digestion and a brOk-
en- constitution.
His happiness is Of short duration
The one who has been denied and
lives to enjoy health and strength
through mature years finds the more
lasting happiness.
Yet when his chiIdhOod's appetite
was denied the sweets he craved he
would, no doubt, have declared his
happiness ruined
a heart tender toward all humanity
and broad and generous in its sym
pathies The nature that is so bene-
flied by any experience, however,
painful it may be, is fulfilling the des-
tiny for which we were created and
finding the road to a greater happiness.
There is no such thing as wasted
love Every loving emotion oes out
into space and sends vibration of
healing and helpfulness to all created
things. And it comes back again to
the heart that sent it out and vitalizes
and strengthens its emotions and
sympathies.
No human being should try to tear
love from his heart
Let him enrich his own nature and
grow better and nObler because Of it
The love that dies was never love; It
was only desire Of possession.
If you are really loving some one
/ today you will do nothing TO lower
the moral or social status Of that OBJ
ject.
The wife Of another, the husband
Of another. the daughter Of another.
you viii not lead to any act or mode
/ Of behavior which necessitates Sc
| crecy and deception and double deal
/ ing, for the moment you do this then
your passion is 50 longer love, but
selfish desire for personal gratifica-
/ ton.
Love is not love unless it is self
sacrificing; unless it thinks Of the fu-
| ture for its object as well as for its
/ own present happiness; unless it is
| willing to suffer rather than cause
l suffering.
A vast amount Of selhshness and
| egotfsm and vanity and desire for
power and conquest goes masquerad-
/ world.
Before you use the word be sure
| you know what il means
/ For sale.
A large windmill and tower, suit
able for irrigating purposes. VIII
be sold reasonable Enquire Of H
| h. Floyd, city clerk