Vernon County censor. [volume] (Viroqua, Wis.) 1865-1955, 1905-04-26
Affection Between Mother and Daush.


home is because there is so little real
sympathy between mother and daugh-
ter.
It is heresy to say this. We are in
the way of thinking that the lie be
tween a girl and er mother is the
closest and most sacred in the world,
but this is far enough from being the
case.
1t is true that there are few in
stances in which real lack of affec-
ton exists between mothers and
daughters, but cynically enough, this
category of blessings that brighten
as they fade, and in the majority of
cases it is only after a girl has left
home and gone out into the world to
work, or has married and gotten a
home of her own, that she and her
mother really begin to understand and
appreciate each other
The picture of mother and a
daughter who are real friends, and
whose companionship is elective in
stead of being forced on them BY ma
ture, is a beautiful and poetic one,
but in actual daily life it is as rare an
old master in a chrome factory.
There is no other girl alive with
whom the average woman feels so un-
acquainted as with her daughter, and
there is no other woman IN the entire
universe TO whom the g.rl could not
more easily open her heart than to
her own mother.
The mother wants her daughter to
love her. She desires tina. the girl
shall be fond Of her home, aud inter
ested in it, but she does not know how
to achieve these results.
The trouble is that all women de-
pend too much on what they call ma
tural affection. After child is able
to walk, and has ceased to depend
physically upon its mother, there is
no such thing as natural affection,
which, after all, is nothing but an ami
nal instinct.
After We begin to think, If we love
people there must be some reason for
congeniality, and they must have
bound US TO them by sympathy and
comprehension and consideration. We
do not love a person simply because
the person is kin to US.
Every mother desires her daughter
to conhde in her, but how few make
it possible for the girl to do 50. The
mother is only too often merely the
critic on the hearth, who has forgot
ten 1t il there ever was a time when
she was silly end giggling, and delight
ed in the attention of callow youths
It's no wonder that the girl that knows
her mother is going TO critiCise her
conversation lets her hear as little Of
it as possible.
It's no wonder that the girl who
knows her mother is going to ridicule
her friends meets them elsewhere. OF
that she is anxious t. get away where
she may enjoy the society She likes in
peace; and this doesn't infer by any
means that the girl yearns for Wild or
dissipated society.
1t may be perfectly innocent. but it
is merely the kind of society her
mother doesn't enjoy.
Mothers are not nearly as sympa
thetic as they are presented either
Generally a mothers sympathy mar
rows itself down to purely personal
taste, and when you hear a woman la
menting that her Mary is undutiFul, OF
her Saliie Is Disappointment, it I.
merly a case of Mary and Sallie want
ing to do something that ;heir mother
never wanted to do.
Not once in a thousand times does
a mother rise to the heights OF sym
pathizing with her daughter whose de
sires and ambitions are radically diff
ferent from her own.
If the mother is fond of society she
is sympathetic enough with her daugh
ter If the girl is a butterfly OF fashion
but she does not and cannot enter In
to the thoughts and aspirations Of the
girl is she is a noble and serious-mind
ed young woman, who cares NOTHING
for balls aud parties. but who desires
to take some part in the great wori
of the world.
It Is because the mother, to whom
clothes are everything, cannot strait
herself from nagging and fretting a
the daughter whose thoughts are Sc
on adorning her mind instead of hel
body, that almost every young woman
who follows any career is obliged, il
sef-defence, to leave home.
The average worr. never realizes
that her daughter IS grown up, ant
has the right Of a grown person
Sometimes a mother will let her sol
do as he pleases, but as long as hel
daughters remain at home she con
siders that she mas a perfect right e
dictate TO them about their clothes
what hey shall eat, and think. and be
lieve.
have known women at forty-flyt
who have never besn allowed to picl
out a pocket handkerchief for them
selves, and / once heard a bride ejacu
late the day after her marriage
Thank God I will never have to veal
another pink dress'-a uniform sh,
had worn ever since she was born. be
cause her mother happened to admire
pink.
Very few girls desire to do any
thing wrong, or yearn for the libert!
that is license, but every one Of then
reyolts against being bossed. ant
longs for the freedom to live her daily