Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-07-15
TACT is MOST VALUABLE
To Say and Do Right Thing at p.
Time More to Be Desired Than
Millions.

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Millions.
Were l only just starting IN ISL. ,
| SAID the Man of the World. "apa c..-il
choose my single talent, it would mos
certainly be tact, for of all the gift, ha.
slowed upon human beings il is hy fam
the most valuable. and the man or vyor,,
an VINO possesses it is more 10 be er,.aI
than tie millionaire"
TACT may be defined as saying and H,.
ing the right thing in the right way ar.{
OF not doing it in the wrong one. t.
Is twin brother TO charm, and some-i,r.s
Is very difficult TO distinguish WHICH
twin is which. There can he no c}.,a l1
without tact There can be 10 cham,
without conversation. No one evar
Aeafd or charming woman VINO W.
uulhD' Al the same time tact in IiSton-
ing Is as supreme an art as in thar nf
taking. Only a royal duchess. like -t.
ola Duchesse de Maine in Louis Nv
tlhe could say she liked society becgusa
80 ESoouy listened to her and she need
not listen TO anybody.
II is sometimes assumed thar yroraa,
nave more tact than men; bur j. His
really the case! The quarrels ana H..
tSFhess amongst women who see In..a
OF each other entirely arise from lack F
tact and self-control. Men could ror
possibly manage the business Of -Ia
world II they showed the utter lack .f
Inc OF most women with their own Soy
HE unpopularity of domestic service i.
III a great measure due to this.
ne most tactful women in the west
efn world are trenchwomen. So clever
are they, they do not need beauty. Tho
are &il-conquering without it. The cole
p II:it women of the salons Of the
eighteenth century, as rule. We're rel-
ther young nor handsome. not alwav.
well educated, and often far from ricb.
yet by their tact, the influence thew
sWayed was enormous.
Mile. de fEspinasse, one of the most
celebrated of the salon holders. was 4v-
I1remely poor, and was also plain. Mr..
alantyre, IN his witty book on the sa-
IONS ~ says OF her; When people talked
TO her they never fe,t how clever She
was. but how clever they were" This
was the secret of these incomparabla
lact1ul, clever women; they brought oar
the cIeyerness of others Mr. ITALIAN
tyre quotes Shenstone, who wrote Of The
fenchWoman in general. that there is
a quallty IN her in which no woman in
the world can compete with her-it is in
tellectual irritation. She will draw wit
out of fool"
Nine. de Deffand, old and quite blind.
was TO the last witty and delightful. and
swayed the minds of men. Witty Hor-
ace Walpole was one Of her bosom
friends when an aged woman. Yet she.
who never bored anyone in her life. suf-
fered terribly from ennui herself. and
was, often bored to death by ali and
sundry around her. Queens must be con-
tent to stand alone.
Nine. Geoffrin. probably the greatest
OF all the salon holders, was a bourgeoise
OF me bourgeolses. 9Her father was a
valet de ,chalnbre.J Yet this little per-
son, not beautiful, and not well educat-
ed, was accepted as a leader by the most
exclusively aristocratic circle the world
has ever known. because ''she had a
tact that amounted to genius One Of
her most devoted admirers, to the end Of
ner HE, was Stanilas Augustus, King Of
Poland, whom she called her son. Her
TACT ana the sympathetic qualities. which
TOOK the place of learning and wit made
her intensely en- rapport with learned
men and attractive women. Night after
night the greatest in the land, kings.
princes. ambassadors. philosophers,
thinkers of the most exalted order, came
10 her salon. We are told she was per
fect listener. and always put in the right
word. VI education, according To mod
arn notions, she had none: she could new
ar even spell correctly. Her clever Hit
crate old grandmother. who brought her
up, used TO say ii a woman were a fool
education only made her folly more con-
spicuous; and, if clever. she could get
On very well without it, This may be al
very well for the two extremes of wom-
IN, but how about the betwixts and be-
-weens! These great Frenchwomeu,
often full of faults, and even vices. felt
and instinctively knew the right thing 30
say and do. and it was for this t3ey
we're adored Their hearts spoke and
dictated to them how to please. -oot. q,
and advise. 1t was the pas
'lonate heart of the Latin race which
rave these women such influence Tie
colder race of Saxon women try lew
hey may. can never compete in tac.iui
harm with the gifted daughters Of
France.
The only woman who is universally lis
liked is she who has unpleasant. abrupt,
actless manners. This sort OF woman
'ften prides herself on these. and thinks
hey denote honesty. She blurtS ont
What she calls the truth on all occasions,
orgetting that BLUNT truths more harm
han nicer falsehoods do" Religions
'eople are fond of quoting a word ia
eason, how good it is" not realizing
hey have not the quality of brain "alt4
an make them recognize when q Wafi
5 in season and when not. What tre-"
rood people mean is that they cannot re-
list the temptation to preach Leslie
lorrlSOn in Pictorial Review.