The Marlboro democrat. [volume] (Bennettsville, S.C.) 1882-1908, 1905-03-24

Is never ended. No mother has an easy
time, and mosb mothers have very hard
times; and yet what true mother
would barter for experience Of Joy and
sorrow In exchange for a life Of cold
seldshness, which insists upon prepet-
ual amusement and the avoidance OF
Care, anu Wiiioh often hnds It's fiu
dwelling place In some fat designed
to furnish with the least possible ex-
penditure OF effort the maximum of
comfort and Of luxury, but In which
there Is literally no place for children.
NO aRIsELDA TYPE.
The woman who is q good wife, O
good mother, Is entitled to our respect
as Is no one else; but she is entitled to
it only because, and SO long as, she is
worthy Of it. Effort and self.sacrifice
are the law Of worthy life for the man
as for the woman; tht ugh neither the
effort nor the self sacrifice may be the
same for the one as for the other. I
do not In the least believe in the pa
tient Griselda type Of woman, in the
woman who submits to gross and long
continued Ill treatment, any more
than l believe In man who tamely
submits to wrongful aggression. No
wrong-doing Is SO abhorrent as wrong.
doing by man towards the wife and
the children who should arouse every
tender feeling In his nature. Selfish.
ness towards them, lack OF tenderness
towards them, lack of consideration
for them, above all, brutality In any
form towards them, should arouse the
heartiest scorn and Indignation In
every upright soul.
/ believe In the woman's keeping
her self-respect just as believe in the
mans doing SO. / believe in her rights
just as much as believe In the mans
and indeed a little more; and regard
marriage as q partnership, in wnicn
each partner Is In honor bound to
think Of the rights Of the other as well
as OF his or her own. But l think that
the duties are even more important
than the rights; and In the long run
think that the reward is ampler and
greater for duty well done, than for
the in istence upon individual rights
necessary though this, too, must often
be. Your duty is hard, your re- pom
sibility great; but greatest Of all is
your reward. do not pity you In The
least. On the contrary, l feel respect
aud admiration for you.
DON'T WASTE AFFECTION.
Into the woman's keeping is com.
mitted the destiny Of the generations
to come after us. In bringing up
Jour children you mothers must re
member that while it Is essential to
be loving and tender it is no le s
essential to be wise and firm. Fool
ishLess and affection must not be
treated as Interchangeable terms; and
besioes training your sons and daugh.
ters In the softer and milder virtues
you must seek to give them those
stern and hardy qualities which in
after life they will surely need. Some
children will go wrong In spite OF the
best training; and some will 60 right
even when their surroundings are
most unfortunate; nevertheless an i'm.
mense amount depends upon the
family training. If you mothers
through weakness bring up your sons
to be selfish and to think only fol
themselves, you will be responsible
for much sadness among the womer
who are to be their wives In the fu
ture. If you let your daughters grow
up idle perhaps under the impression
that as you yourselves have had tt
work hard they shall know only en-
joyment, you are preparing them tt
be useless to others and burdens tx
themselves. Teach boys and girl.
alike that they are not to look for
ward to lives spent in avoiding diff
culties but to lives spent in overc om
ing difficulties. Teach them thai
work, for themselves and also for 9th
ers, Is not q curse but a blessing; seel
to make them happy, to make then
enjoy life, but seek also to make then
face life with the stcadfast resolution
to wrest success from labor and ad
versity, and to do their whole dut,
before God and to man. Surely sh,
who can thus train her sons and he
daughters is thrice fortunate anon,
women.
THE BLESSING OF CHILDREN.
There are many good people whit
are denied the supreme blessing O
children, and for these we have tn,
respect and sympathy always due tt
those who, from no fault of their own
are denied any of the other great
blessings OF life. But the man OF
woman who deliberately foregoe!
these blessings, whether from vicious
ness, shallow heartedness, self-indul
gence, or mere failure to appreciate
Alright the difference between the all.
Important and the unimportant-
why, such a creature merits contempt
as hearty as any visited upon the sol.
dier who runs away in battle, or upon
the man who fuses to work for the
support OF those dependent upon him,
and though able-bodied is yet content
to eat in idleness the bread which
others provide
The existence Of women OF this type
forms one OF the most unpleasant an
unwholesome features CT modern life.
Ii any one Is so dim Of vision as tu
fai! to see what thoroughly unlovely
creature such woman is I wish they
would read Judge Robert Grants
lovel "Unleavened Bread" ponder
seriously the character of Selma. and
think OF the fate that would 8 RELY
overcf me any nation which develop d
It's average and typical woman along
such lines. Unfortunately 1t would
hr untrue to say that this type exists
only In a merican novels. That 1t
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