The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1905-11-12

expect of them and what they prefer
in them. Besides, there are lots OF
men who have the pink tea craze, toS.
This is specially true of young men,
college men and others just getting
their first taste of social gaieties. US
ually after few years they out-grOW
it. They find out that society and bust
ness men won't mix and that a social
ana commercial success are rarely CO.
incident Therefore they follow tina
greater inclination and devote them
selves to business, leaving it to their
wives to keep up the social end, and
what IS more expecting them to- It
may not have been his object in chOos-
ing his wife, but after a few years OF
married life the thoughtful woman
begins to wonder If her husbands idea.
IN marrying her wasn't to leave cards
and go to church for him Having
practically retired from such activities
a man wants his wife to keep the thing
going. He may grumble about her
dreSSmakers' and milliners' bills and
scof at her for frivOlity, but he wants
his wife to so every place worth going
and know everybody worth knowing
according to the standard of their par
ucular set. Men, as a rule, like to
have their wives names IN the society
columns. Sometimes they like to see
their pictures in the papers. OF course
it is only that kind of a woman, for
tunately, who rnarries that kind Of a
husband, but there is rarely a club
form of Female Reformer whose hus-
band is not greatly interested IN her
work and proud of her prominence
in it.
And when it comes to snobbishness,
deliver me from the male snob. He
is the worst ever. This not only be-
cause we expect better things Of q man,
whose outlook is naturally broader
than woman,s. who brushes
up against more different kinds OF hui
mainly and ought to know that the
colonePs lady and. Bridget O'Grady
are all the same under the skin; but
also because when it exists at al the
snobbery of a man puts a woman's to
shame.
Woman's inhumanity to woman. un-
der given circumstances, is an admitted
fault of the sex. but there is no woman
who would dread the enmity of her
sisters if she didn't know that It would
also cost her the friendship and sup
port of the men. When women, so
cialIy powerful, influential women.
wage war on a sister, the men desert
her also. Many a woman has relied
to her sorrow and enlightenment on
the strength of her hold on her men
friends, in circumstances of this sort,
but never one that have known in
ing. Even the favOrites Of princes
have not been able to hold their own
against the combined enmity Of their
rivals. The friendship OF women IS
absolutely necessary to a woman, not
because of any inherent demand Of
her nature but because without It she
can not hold the friendship Of men.
When society frowns, which means the
woman leaders who initiate all the
frowning that's done, upon a woman
her cavaliers sooner or later desert her.
OF course there have been occasional
exceptions of men who, held in the
spell of a strong passion, have risked
and lost all for "a rag and a bone and
hank of hair" but q woman's usual
train of admirers are fair weather
friends. The minute their friendship
or support is really needed. they dis
close the rabbit strain in their blood.
All Of which proves nothing, except
that with all their faults we love them
still.