The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1905-06-28


"A man does not. love a woman pri-
marily because she is good cook and
competent manager, but if he keeps
on loving her after he is married to
her 1T is because she is.
Show me woman's housek keeping,
and | can tell you to mathematical
nicety how long she will keep her
husbands love.
The first great danger Of married
life becoming dull consists in it's
being lived in unattractive and un-
comfortable environments and this
is a catastrophe that every woman
has it in her power to prevent if she
will. ..-
If the first snag that young couple
strikes in married life, and that
jolts, the romance out Of matrimony,
is the wife's total inability to wres-
tie successfully with the household
problem, the second is the money
question. .,-...
The first disillusions the man.
The second smashes the woman's
IDEALS iuto smithereens.
S,meLody-doubtIess a matrimonial
promoter-once announced the CHEEKY
theory that marriage was real coon
omy because two people can live
cheaper than one, and most men are
taken in by this fallacy.
They even marry on it, and when
they find that it isn't true-that it
takes twice as much food for two as
one, and four times as much house
rent, and ten times as many clothes
when the other one is o woman, it
gives the man a shock Of surprise
from which he never recovers as long
as he lives.
He wasn't prepared for it.
He had expected sportive cupid to
play about his pathway, and instead
of that the bill collector camps upon
his trail, and it makes him grumpy,
not so much because he is not willing
to pay as because he did not expect
to have to pay.
1t is sentiment with a price tag on
it, and he grumbles at the price.
For the woman the disillusionment
is even more complete. Nobody but
a woman ever knows the agony of the
hour of enlightenment when she gets
the first intimation that she, and the
household expenses she represents a1e
considered burden.
This isn't what she married for,
either.
During the days of courtship the
lover lavished every luxury upon
her.
The husband complains at supply
ing her with the necessities of life.
While he wooed her he swore that
he asked no greater privilege of hea-
ven than the pleasure Of providing for
her. As soon as they are married he
talks Of having to support her.
Before they were married he de-
lighted in bestowiDg gifts and treats
upon her.
After they are married he scrimps
her on street car fare. '.... ...
As girl she had thought of the
position Of wife as being one of hon
ored independence.
When she is married she finds that
she is dependen. who hab her de-
pendence continually thrown in her
face. =
She had pictured matrimony as an
elysium in which she would be taken
care Of and protected from the world
by husband who would be Prince
Bountiful. :,
She fiuds it the only situation in
life in which the woman has to beg for
the money she earns.
Practically every wife works harder
for husband than she could be hired
to work for an employer, but not one
wife in athousand g gets anything for
it but her board and clothes:
She has no separate allowance.
She has no money she can spend on
personal qualification. Every cent
must be accounted for, and when the
monthly bills come in the average
husband acts precisely as if she had
eaten every mouthful Of the food
charged on the grocery and butcher
bills, and had worn all of the clothes
on the dry goods bills, and had ab.
aorbed every particle of the heat and
light fer the coal and gas bills.
Is it any wonder that married life
that is SEE to the tune Of the hus-
bands complaint over the family ex-
penses gets to be the dead march Of
q woman's soul instead Of the glad;