Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-08-26
WIVES GROW LONESOME.
Woman Doesn't Need Marriage
to Escape Cares.
SINGLE ONES HAPPY.
If Women Could Learn They Must I'm
derstand Others First, Much Trouble
Would Be Avoided.

The argument that women must needs
marry in order to escape loneliness in
ones old age rests on an absolutely false
foundation. For, whether married or
single, one is always more or less lonely
as the years roll by. Even the fullest,
richest existence has its lonely hours,
and it is impossible that the happiest
welded life should be without such. 1t
may happen to the most loving wife and
mother to feel more than once her
thoughts carried back with yearnlng TO
her childhoods home and the compan-
ions of her youth, and she may recall
with a sigh the comparative immunity
from care that belonged to those early
days. For this reason young girls can
not too soon begin to prepare them
selves for the hours of loneliness life
must inevitably bring, and they should
resolve from the first that whenever left
thus they will spend the time prohtably
in acquiring useful knowledge, in en-
larging their mental horizon so as to be
able to share their husbands pursuits
and understand their aims, to become
their worthy companions in every enter
prise. For this no tremendous display
of learning is requisite, that would oft
EN- rather weary Il man than not, IN
stead of giving him the sensation of re-
pose he seeks
Secrets of Happy Women.
One of the friends of my youth, an
unmarried woman, whose skill with her
needle was unrivaled, always had book
open before her while she worked, and
whilst executing some lovely piece of
embroidery of such graceful design and
In such delicate colors that it looked like
a water color sketch, she would learn
all the finest passages from her author
by heart. Thanks to this system, she
was able to relate stories without end to
the young people she gathered around
her. reciting long passages of poetry
and sometimes entire poems, without
ever having to refer to a book.
All. if women could but learn that
they are here not to be understood but
to understand others, that herein lies a
great part of their mission upon earth !!
But we are doomed to nothing but dis
appointment if ever we expect our own
inmost thoughts and feelings to be pene-
trated or appreciated by those we live
amongst. Men rarely understand the
nature Of woman; their own sentiments
are much less complex and less highly
elaborated and they seldom have time
or inclination to study the delicate in
tricate machinery of a womau's soul.
A man is generally satisfied. when he
returns home tired after the days work.
to find a comfortable tiresde awaiting
him; he fancies the simple honest affec-
ton he gives his wife ought to content
her also, and he certainly will not tr0u-
bic his head about any deeper psyche
logical problem involved.
Dignity Covers Wounds.
An atmosphere of supreme dignity,
something Of sacred halo. invests the
persons Of those married women whose
self-respect impels them to lock within
their own breasts the secret of what
ever dlsapp0intments and receptions
may have been theirs. Those who lack
the necessary self-command and vent
their wrongs in complaints and re-
proaches, thereby put themselves in
tault. however lrreproaChable their own
lives may he, aud might well in this
respect take n lesson from some of their
less virtuous but wiser sisters, who gem
orally avoid this error. For it is use
less for Il woman to hope that merely by
having an immaculate reputation she
can retain her hold on her husbands
affection if she wears out his patience
with scenes, making herself ridiculous
by frantic outbursts of jealousy. In
stead of giving way to tears aud up
braidings, she should simply try to show
herself more amiable and attractive than
other women, so that her husband may
have no excuse for seeking elsewhere
the pleasures denied him in his own
the best and most agreeable spot on
earth.
1t would, of course. be impossible 10
keep from him ali trials. all troubles
since there are certain of these-the
anNioteS concerning their children. for
instance-m which he must have his
share: these are the true cares. the great
SORROWS, which are imposed on both
ahke; but there are innumerable minor
worries, the trivial daily annoyanceS and
veXations. which belong to woman's
province alone, and which the true wife
will carefully refrain from inflicting on
her husband. The sunshine of Smiles.
the gladneSs Of a perpetual holiday,
should always greet him ON his own
threshold, and there need be no difficulty
about tins, II only she who awaits him
there would give all her thoughts To
higher duties, and hestOw less upon her
own person. That women are caDabl,
OF this forgetfulneSs of self of this alb
solute devotion to nobler aims. is fully
proved by the example and III the per
son OF nuns and all such as lead SINH
lar life of selfsacrihce
To Obey Is Solution.
Would that women could under nj
circumstances bring themselves to ODE,
the wise rule of the cloister, which doe
not permit them even To speak of them
selves, They should all of them rempnl
Der thar their inner life possesses inter
est but for Il very small minority. III
world at large is often glad to bCuei
by the results of these inner experiences
to rean the rich harvest sprung iron
seed SuNI in sorrow and pain. bur Their
are few who care to hear ANYTHING d
the storms and struggles ny which IN
soil was prepared Jo uriuZ forth sue
goodly fruit
Women are far too prone 10 hewaI
their hard fate. to complain of tbefr Inn.
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