The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1905-05-13
WHY SOME MEN FAIL TO MARRY.

Very unkind and sometimes very
harsh, are the remarks which one of
ten hears passed about those members
of the sterner sex who will persist
in remaining in state of single
blessedness. They are not perform
ing their duty to the State selfish
ness and Incidence are two of their
main characteristics while gayety
and dissipation are their chief objects
in life. These and many other
accusations are continually being
hurled at those men who refuse to be
drawn into the realms of hymen.
There is doubtless certain amount
oftruth in each of the accusations, but
they are not always justi6able. AS
a matter of fact, men who, actuated
by selfish motives, remain bachelors
from choice, are by no means nu-
merous. There are few men who do
not recognize that it is their duty to
marry. In fact, one might 60 SO tar
as to say that marriage is as much a
natural ambition with them as it is
with the opposite sex. Why, then,
the disappointed maid may ask, do
so many men remain unmarried if
only few do so from choice?
For practically only three other
reasons. First, there is the man who
remains bachelor because of dis
appointing love affair, when, having
failed to win the girl on whom he had
set his heart, he remains true to his
first love and refuses to allow another
girl to supplant her in his affections.
Then, there is the man who has never
met Miss Right" and will not ask
a girl to marry him whom he does not
truly love. The remaining type of
bachelor is the one who out numbers
all others. He is the man whom
girls have made into bachelor. In
other words, they have spoiled his
opinion of their sex, and he comes to
the conclusion that it would be best
for him to content himself with his
male friends rather than risk his hap
piness with a daughter of Eve.
Inquiries among a few bachelor
friends recently led to the discovery
that disappointment in the fair sex
chiefly arises from lack of womanly
modesty and dignity. And there is
no gainsaying the fact that a great
many girls nowadays by no means add
to the reputation which their grand
mothers gained for true womanliness.
Times, of course, have changed, and
forty or fifty years ago girls were not
allowed the freedom which is now
granted them without comment.
But there is a disposition on the part
of many present-day girls to abuse
the freedom they enjoy, and by so
doing they lower themselves in the
estimation of the opposite ex.
Which type of girl do you think men
are most attracted toward? The girl
who never fails to impress you with
the fact. both by her words and ac-
tions, that she despises the laws of
MRS. Grundy," or the girl who pre-
fers to enjoy her pleasures in quiet
manner, and strictly according tothe
rules as to what is becoming and
what is unbecoming conduct on the
part of a young woman!
The girl who will go to dances and
theatres. at night in company with
any male friend who offers to take
her; will hirt with anyone to whom
she is introduced, and talk in that
bold, free-and-eaey manner which is
only warranted by long and intimate
acquaintanceship, may be voted
"jolly girl' for the time being by
some men, but she disgusts the ma
jority. She makes herself cheap in
their eyes, and they pity the man she
marries. For they argue that if she
has such little self-respect and wo-
manly pride before marriage, she is
not likely to gain it afterward, and
moreover, would scarcely be content
with the homage of one man when
she had been accustomed to that of
several.
Then again, take the case of the
girl who, possessing somewhat
coquettish nature, finds the greatest
pleasure in the number of conquests
She can make. At last she meets the
man who really gains her love. Proba-
bly, he has some affection for her. But
the thoughts of how she has treated
other men are continually before his
mind. They prevent him from pro-
posing or cultivating anything warm
er than friendship, for he fears tie
treatment meted out to others. And,
after serious consideration, he decides
that it would be better for him to try
and forget this girl. He occupies his
mind with other matters, and should
the girl marry some one else out OF
pique, which in all probability she
would do. he simply heaves sight
over the past, thinks of what might
have been, and settles down to bach
elorhood. York UISekLy.