The Plymouth tribune. (Plymouth, Ind.) 1901-1911, 1905-04-13
Mistake. which Young Wives Make.

Mistakes Which Young Wives Make.
Undoubtedly the greatest mistake
which the young wife makes is that of
trying to live according to certain rules
and regulations which she formed in
her own mind prior to the wedding
ceremony. 1t is doubtless often very
amusing to experienced married peo-
pie to hear a young girl describe In
detail how she is going to manage
everything connected with her new
home. OF course, they know that she
means well, and they are probably in
dulgent enough not to nip her young
and fresh ideas in the bud. so to
speak, by telling her that she will
probably find half Of them impossible
10 carry out.
It would be more kind, however, II
experienced matrons, when they hear
q prospective bride talk Of what she
Is going to do for Jack and their fu-
ture home, would tell her that the first
thing she must do after marriage is
to adapt herself to circumstances, and
that instead Of talking to other people
about what she is gazing to do, arrange
matters only with Jack.
Otherwise she will probably find her
schemes 90 considerably wrong after
marriage. Jack, who always appeared
so easily led and agreeable during
courship days, does not seem SO
plant and tractable when established
In his own home. He suddenly seems
to evelop will Of his own. He wants
to know why this and that has been
done, and if it is not according to his
liking he does not hesitate to express
disapproval and insist on change.
The majority of the young wife's pet
plans are. thus destroyed or turned
about by her husband until she is
ready to cry from sheer vexation.
All this can be avoided, however
by the young wife who asks the opin-
ion of her husband In all matters ap-
pertaining to the home. Perhaps he
has no taste or judgment whatever in
some matters. But the mere fact that
his opinion has been asked will prob
ably cause him to agree with his wife
on account of his ignorance, and thus
she will get her own way, which she
v old not do in nine cases out of ter
did she act without consulting him.
Closely related to the mistake which
young wives make of not consulting
their husbands in regard to home ar
rangements and management is thai
of business. There are some newly
married women who make their hus
bands lives perfect misery and drive
them to the refuge Of the club, on &C
count Of their punctilious methods
Such a woman gets on mans nerves
He is frightened to move in his owl
home for fear that his wife should
complain of the amount of work he i.
making for her. And as for indulg
ing in such a hobby as photography
fretwork or carpentry, he would bt
fearful of giving his wife too grea
shock by mentioning such a desire
The consequence is, Of course, that h
is driven to spend elsewhere that time
which he would spend at home if i
were more congenial.
And then there is the sentimental
young wife, who thinks that her hrs
band has ceased to love her becaIs,
he does not indulge so frequently il
those billings and cooings which char
acterized their courtship days. In
stead Of taking her upon his knee af
ter the evening meal and spending al
hour or so in assuring her every TIVE
or three minutes that he loves her
that she is the dearest little woman IL
the world to him; that ne does no
know how he could get along with
out her, ETC., he fills his pipe. en-
sconces himself in his easy chair ant
proceeds to read the evening news
paper.
OF course he is promptly charac
terized as a selfish wretch" and tn,
young wife comes to the conclusion
that he is going to develop into an in
different husband. No reasoning coult
be more foolish.
Worst Of all mistakes is that which
some young wives make Of carrying
complaints to their own mother AM
other relatives. No matter what tn
shortcomings of Tom, Dick or Harr,
may be, the proper self-respectin,
wife will keep them to herself. VIVA
happens in her own home concerns L
one outside, not even her own rela
tives. A woman is, in fact actin,
wrongly and dishonorably toward tn
man she has married by detailing hi
faults to other people.-Home Month