The Marlboro democrat. [volume] (Bennettsville, S.C.) 1882-1908, 1905-03-24
NO aRIsELDA TYPE.

doing by man towards the wife and
the children who should arouse every
tender feeling in his nature. Selfish
ness towards them, lack Of tenderness
towards them, lack Of consideration
for them, above all, brutality in any
form towards them, should arouse the
heartiest scorn and indignation in
every upright soul.
believe in the woman's keeping
her self-respect just as believe in the
mans doing SO. believe in her rights
just as much as believe in the mans
and indeed a little more; and l regard
marriage as a partnership, in wnicn
each partner is In honor bound TO
think Of the rights Of the other as well
as OF his or her own. But think that
the duties are even more important
than the rights; and in the long run l
think that the reward Is ampler and
greater for duty we'll done, than for
the insistence upon Individual rights
necessary though this, too, must often
be. Your duty is hard, your respon-
siblity great; but greatest Of all is
your reward. l do not pity you in The
least. Ga the contrary, 1 feel respect
aud admiration for you.
DON'T WASTE AFFECTION.
Into the woman's keeping is com.
mitted the destiny Of the generations
to come after us. In bringing I'D
our children you mothers must re
member that while 1t Is essential to
be loving and tender 1t Is no le 8
essential to be wise and firm. Foot
iShLess and affection must not be
treated as interchangeable terms; and
beSioes training your sons and daugh-
ters In the softer and mllder virtues
you must seek to give them those
stern and hardy qualities which in
after life they will surely need. Some
children will go wrong In spite OF the
best training; and some will 60 right
even when their surroundings are
most unfortunate; nevertheless an i'm
menbe amount depends upon the
family training. If you mothers
through weakness bring up your sons
to be selfish and to think only for
themselves, you will be responsible
for much sadness among the women
who are to be their wives In the fu-
ture. If you let your daughters grow
up idle perhaps under the impression
that as you yourselves have had to
work hard they shall know only en-
joyment, you are preparing them to
be useless to others and burdens to
themselves. Teach boys and girls
alike that they are not to look for.
ward to lives spent in avoiding diff
culties but to lives spent In overc 1m-
ing difficulties. Teach them that
work, for themselves and also for 9th
ers, is not curse but a blessing; seek
to make them happy, to make them
enjoy life, but seek also to make them
face life with the stcadfast resolution
to Wrest success from labor and ad-
versity, and to do their whole duty
before God and to man. Surely she
who can thus train her sons aad her
daughters is thrice fortunate among
women.
THE BLESSING OF CHILDREN.
There are many good people who
are denied the supreme blessing OF
children, and for these we have the
respect and sympathy always due to
those who, from no fault of their own,
are denied any Of the other great
blessings OF life. But the man or
woman who deliberately foregoes
these blessings, whether from Vicious
ness, shallow heartedness, salf-indul-
gence, or mere failure to appreciate
Alright the difference between the all
important and the unimportant-
why, such a creature merits contempt
as hearty as any visited upon the sol
dier who runs away in battle, or upon
The man who re fuses to work for the
support OF those dependent upon him,
and though able bodied is yet content
to eat in idleness the bread which
Others provide.
The existence Of women OF this type
forms one OF the most unpleasant am
unwholesome features OF modern life.
II any one Is SO dim Of vision as TO
fai to see what thoroughly unlovely
creature such woman is | wish they
would read Judge Robert Grants
iovel "Unleavened Bread" ponder
s".ious!y the character OF Selma, and
think OF tie fate that would RELY
osorcf me any nation which DEVELOPED
its average and typical woman along
such lilies. Unfortunately 1t would
be- untrue to say that this type exists
only IN American novels That it
only exists In American life is mad.
uhplcaSantly evident by the statistics
a| 10 he dwindiiDg families evident
In equally sinister fashion by the
c ns' statistics az to divorce, which
are fairly appalling; for easy divorce
is now as 1T ever las been, bane t.,
any nation, curse to sociaty, a men
ace 10 the home. an incltement to
married unhappiness and to 1mmor.
ality, an evil thiug for man and a
still more hideous evil fol women.
These unpleasant tendencies in our
American life arc made evident by
articlts such as those which I actual
ly read not long ago in certain pa
per, Where a clergyman was quoted,
seemingly with approval, as express.
ifg the general American attitude
Wien he said that the ambition of
any save very rich man should he to
rear two children only, SO az to give
his children an opportunity TO taste
few OF the good things OF lite."
A VICIOUS DOCTRINE.
This man, whose profession and
calling should have made him moraI
teacher, actually set before others
the ideal, not Of training children to
90 their duty, not OF sending them
forth with stout hearts and ready |
minds to win triumpths for them
selves and their country, not of al |
lowing them the opportunity, and |
giving them the privilege OF making |