Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-06-18

a traveller Is so often misin terpreted as
snobbshness or actual i'll temper that it is
best always to think twice before rebuffing
stranger who wishes only to be polite
and not intrusive. Whatever the majority
approve the happy traveller is prompt in
making his habit, too, and in consequence
he is sure to please and to charm wherever
he goes, to find helping hands extended to
him in a moment of any difficulty, and to
be considered delightful companion for a
journey.
It Does Not Require
A gay society for you or for me or for any
one to practice and perfect ourselves in all
the lovely little arts that make for popu-
larity.
The best school for manners is always
ones home, which may be a great or a
humble house, set In the fashionable district
of a large city or in the country or in the
back woods. Wherever it is you can per-
fectly easily and most advantageously pur-
sue there your own course of study of the
deeds and words that express and that win
love and liking.
A little air of gayety is one of the most
attractive qualities that house companion
can display. languid melancholy mood
creates depressing atmosphere. II you
are subject to low spirits make haste to
realize they must be controlled or thrown
off entirely; much more frequently than Is
thought they are just lazy Indifference
or indulgence
Simply because you are not within eye
shot of strangers, because something has
happened to annoy or distress you and
only the family is to be assembled at din
ner, don't assume that you have the right
to bring to the table a long and woeful
countenance on which it would seem that a
smile would never again dawn. Come in
to breakfast not only with a shining morn
ing face, but with a shining morning man.
ner, and give your greetings all around
with look and in tone that compliment
tarily imply you are most pleased to see
your relatives again and that you are ready
to take a most prompt and affectionate in
terest in them.
It is as Easy
To teach child in pretty behavior with
the grown folks as 1t is to teach her to re-
cite bits of French poems. Drill her SO
carefully and SO lovingly that when the
matron caller says. Come here, my DEAR
or rs this your little daughter" she will
unhesitatingly advance, put out her hand,
say, How do you do?" smile, and listen
to all that is said to her as though your
callers words were words of especial wis
dom.
No matter how the child may be by ma
ture she be taught that much by her
mother. And 1t Is we'll worth while giving
her this special and important instruction,
If for no other reason than the smooth and
pleasant paths that 1t lays out for her
luluIc- IL Sle nave no beauty OF smart
ness to recommend her to the considera-
ton of others, she can by her manner alone
make hearts her own.
The memory of her sweet confidence will
linger long In your friends minds and most
pleasantly after they have absolutely for
gotten a self-conscious little maid with
curls of spun gold and eyes of purest blue
who sulks and shrinks back when her ac-
quaintance is asked. 80 s'' - i}-~
In this sort of social education make your
child quite letter perfect and give so much
care to her drilling that without suggestion
or prompting from you she will at once adj
vance and smile and listen and answer
What pleases a grownup most in a child Is
that it seems glad to come forward, will
ing to leave its game a moment, and be in
terested In what is said.
Never try, then, to teach your child any,
thing but a most becoming and fattering
modesty of manner with adults, and direct
both your boy and girl to stand when
strangers and their elders enter ROOM to
offer to carry little parcels, to run an err
rand. to quickly see and lift q handker-
chief from the floor and show your boy
how to be gallant little fellow.