Wausau pilot. [volume] (Wausau, Wis.) 1896-1940, 1905-04-25
Mistakes Which Young Wives Make.

Mistakes Which Young Wives Make.
Undoubtedly the greatest mistake
which the young wife makes is that of
trying to live according to certain rules
and regulations which she formed in
her own mind prior to the wedding
ceremony. 1t is doubtless often very
amusing to experienced married peo-
pie to hear a young girl describe in
detail how she is going to manage
everything connected with her new
home. OF course, they know that she
means well, and they are probably in
dulgent enough not to nip her young
and fresh ideas in the bud, so 30
speak, Dy telling her that she will
probably find half of them impossible
to carry out.
1t would be more kind, however, if
experienced nations, when they hear
a prospective bride talk of what she
is going to do for Jack and their flu
ture home, would tell her that the first
thing she must do after marriage is
TO adapt herself to circumstances, and
that instead of talking to other people
about what she is gazing TO do, arrange
matters only with Jack.
Otherwise she will probably find her
schemes go considerably wrong after
marriage. Jack, who always appeared
so easily led and agreeable during
courship days, does not seem so
plant and tractable when established
in his own home He suddenly seems
to evelop a will of his own. He wants
to know why this and that has been
done, and if it is not according to his
liking he does net hesitate to express
disapproval and insist on change.
The majority of the young wife's pet
plans are thus destroyed or turned
about by her husband until she is
ready to cry from sheer vexation.
All this can be avoided, however
by the young wife who asks the opin-
ion of her husband in all matters APP
pertaining to the home. Perhaps he
has no taste or judgment whatever in
some matters. But the mere fact that
his opinion has been asked will prob
ably cause him to agree with his wife
on account of his ignorance, and thus
she will get her own way, which she
would not do in nine cases out of ten
did she act without consulting him.
Closely related to the mistake which
young wives make of not consulting
their husbands in regard to home ar
rangements and management is that
of business. There are some newly
married women who make their hus-
bands lives perfect misery and drive
them to the refuge of the club, on ac-
count of their punctilious methods.
Such a woman gets on a mans nerves.
He is frightened to move in his own
home for fear that his wife should
complain of the amount of work Ae is
making for her. And as for indulg-
ing in such a hobby as photography,
fretwork or carpentry, he would be
fearful of giving his wife too great
a shock by mentioning such a desire.
The consequence is of course, that he
is driven to spend elsewhere that time
which he would spend at home if it
were more congenial
And then there is the sentimental
young wife, who thinks that her hus-
band has ceased to love her because
he does not indulge so frequently in
those billings and cOoings which char
acteriZed their courtship days. In
stead of taking her upon his knee af-
ter the evening meal and spending an
hour or so in assuring her every two
or three minutes that he loves her;
that she is the dearest little woman in
the world to him; that he does not
know how he could get along with
out her, etc, he fills his pipe en-
sconces himself in his easy chair and
proceeds to read the evening news
paper.
OF course he is promptly charac-
teriZed as selfish wretch" and the
young wife comes to the conclusion
that he is going to develop into an in
different husband. No reasoning could
be more foolish.
Worst of all mistakes is that which
some young wives make of carrying
complaints to their own mother and
other relatives. No matter what the
shortcomings of Tom, Dick or Harry
may be, the proper self-respecting
wife will keep them to herself What
happens in her own home concerns no
one outside, not even her own rela-
tives. A woman is, in fact, acting
wrongly and dishonorably toward the
man she has married by detailing his
faults to other people.-Home Month
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