The Irish standard., 1905-01-28
ON C0URTSH|P
Rules For Company Keeping"
By Rev. Father Angelo.
Man Should No: Monopolize a
Girls Society, He Says.

favorably known in Cincinnati as
pulpit orator, has lately been on tour
giving missions in various churches
throughout the east. One Of his dis
courses is upon the subject of Court
ship" and, on account of it's direct ap-
plicability to prevailing conditions, it
has been widely commented upon.
In his lecture he advises against
courtship of longer duration than
seven or eight months, and prescribes
Il set of rules which are not only in
teresting and unique, but really excel
lent to follow. Following are the rules:
\ young woman should never keep
company with Il man who is a strang-
rr to her. First find out something
about his antecelents.
Remember always that til eobject of
courtship is to asceptain one another's
qualities and disposition, with a view
to deciding whether you will marry.
The young woman should learn
what the young mans habits are The
rule works both ways. The woman
should ascertain: Is he addicted to
drink? Does he gamble? Is he a per-
feet gentleman? The man must learn
to know her temper and conduct. For
this reason he should see her among
her family and friends.
Calling time, $50 O'clock, Departure
should be made at 1890 O'clock.
Every light in the parlor must be
lit. No dark corners.
Family should remain in parlor dur
ing the stay of the young man.
The young people must sit at re-
spectfu distance from one another.
Remember, while studying each 9TH
or. that colrtslip is Il serious prepara-
ton for the responsibilities of mar
riage.
Avoid late hours, dangerous buggy
rides and walks through lonely places.
The courtship should not continue
more than seven Or eight months.
1t is the duty Of mothers to take hold
of the young man and ask what his
intentions are
interviewed Oh the subject, Father
Angelo said:
Il am trying to warn the young
people against the many pitfalls that
confront them i'm their walks through
life. The girl of today has so much
freedom that she is in constant danger.
"A fashionable man appears in a
nrighborhoOd, and the hearts of the
young women are all afutter. He
picks out one and gains her permission
to call.
what happens when he does so?
Tho family all fly from the room, and
strict instructions are given that no
one shall disturb the couple.
Whit do they do? Sit on the sofa
and begin to. talk. Then become so ell
crossed in their conversation that they
forget to turn up the lights.
"lmpcrceptbly the hours glide
away and the clock has struck - be-
fore the man makes Il move. Then it
takes him half an hour to say good
night.
| have studied the habit of com
panykeeping, and the kindred evils
growing out of it, for some time past,
and have given Il number of lectures
on tho subject. In Louisville 1 was
Informed by several parents that it
WAS much less common. as it was the
custom of a mother or father there, if
II man started to pay attention to their
daughter, to ask him his intentions,
and if they were not serious, to re-
quest him to stop coming to the house.
apart from this, | should say that
it is as common in one part of the
country as another. 1 consider that
mothers should look after their daugh-
tcrs when they have men coming to
see them, by either being in the room
OF in an adjoining room with the door
open. instead of, as often happens, as
far off as they can get. 1lle habit
OF many young couples of sitting in a
dark or dimly lighted room should be
stopped.
Often Il man will call to see Il girl
and stay till the early hours of the
morning without any objection from
his parents. Is it any wonder that harm
often happens under such lax circum-
stances as these? When l lectured in
another city one of the newspapers,
with a keen sense of humor, headed
the article. NO Spoonng in Dark
Corners whilst another wrote An
Opening for Father Angelo suggest
ing that be employed by the gas
companies. as I advocated so much
gas being consumed"
Father Angelo spoke of the injustice
done to many girls by their being kept
waiting for an indefinite period, with
out anything coming from it. He be-
lieves that mother or father should
promptly ask the young man his in
tcntions.
The Right Rev. Msgr. Loughlin.
rector of the Nativity of the Blessed
Virgin, Philadelphia, Pa, when asked
his opinion on Father Angeles rules.
said:
"Father Angeles lecture is simply