The Montgomery advertiser. [volume] (Montgomery, Ala.) 1885-1982, 1905-11-07

casions precisely what she thinks of
them, may be a very good girl, but
she will never be popular.
Please observe, Dorothy, that we are
always to tell the truth IL we are
obliged to speak, but there are many
times when 1t is much more duty to
be silent than 1t is to speak. All truth
is not always to be told. You need
not go out OF your way to inform Sally
Brown that a green dress does not suit
her complexion and makes her look
yellow, IL she has Just bought one, nor
Is 1t your place to make Louise Jones
uncomfortable by commenting on the
which she must wear all winter.
good rule all through life is to say
agreeable things whenever one can.
and disagreeabie things only when one
must. No girl will ever be popular
who has no tact. The tactful girl is
more likely to be favorite than the
beautiful, the generous or the clever
girl, who lacks this quality.
Thazeelf- centered girl, too, Is likely
to be unpopular. She sees things ex-
clusively as they affect herself. She is
so occupied with what she wishes I'd
do, with her own plans, ambitions and
ends, that there is no room beside her
fire for anybody else to sit down. This
girl always makes herself comfortable
and does not care fig whether or not
others suffer. In a street car, she
pounces upon the best vacant seat, and
never things of Offering 1t to an elder
ly lady or woman burdened with a
child or anybody else who looks tired
and worn. She sends her brothers and
sisters all over the house on her err
rands. but it does not occur to her to
run upstairs for the hook her mother
Is reading, the shawl her grandmother
needs, or the box of toys that may
amuse visiting youngster. She does
not mean to be selfish. and she very
willingly divides a treat with or spends
money for her friends, but she thinks
primarily OF No. 1. Take care of No 1
Is her maxim. Nobody who makes
this her life motto will ever have MANY
friends.
Another thing that makes a girl un-
popular is affectation. This is espe-
cially girls defect. One hardly ever
| sees 1t in a boy. Your brother may be
q tease. or a torment; he may be rough
and clumsy; he may provoke you by
forgetting his manners, but he Is not
| apt to put on the airs of other people.
He will be just himself.
But girls sometimes purposely and
sometimes unconsciously initiate those
around them. and in speech and be-
havior are not quite genuine. Nobody
can have very much patience with ali
affected girl; girl on whom one can
| not count. who poses and acts a part.
You would better ask yourself, Doro-
thy, IL you are always simple and sin
cere and willing to be the plain, hon
est girl that your mother knows and
your father loves with such pride, be-
cause II you are, the girls will present.
ly begin to love you, too.
Real people who belong to the reali-
ties of life, and who are not trying to
masquerade in characters that are not
their own. are almost always sure of
gaining esteem, and after esteem comes
affection.
There is just the possibility that the
girl who mourns because she Is unpop-
ular cares too much about 1t. and is
too anxious to have the conspicuous
places. Your older sister could tell
you of a girl in her class in college,
who was lovely, provided she could he
pushed into position Of leadership.
II only everyone would look up to her.
ask what she thought, and give her the
casting vote. nobody could compare
with her In courtesy. But pass her
over. ask her next door neighbor to
walk with you. or take the chair at a