Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-09-17
The Life

The Life
OF the society girl Is not always pictured
with Justice. The butterfly, pleasure-seeker
and regardless young woman we read about
and hear discussed is not the Ideal society
GIRL nor Is it fair painting Of the posi-
ton she occupies.
The girl In society who fuflls conscien-
tiously her social occupations and fulfils
them with taste, good judgment and clev-
erness is quite active as the girl behlno
the counter. and she has a mission albeit
different one from the station of the daily
toler. Indeed, the average man could not
stand the strenuous life of society girl
who is in the swim.
Society regards as imperative the writing
of a large number of notes. the sending and
acknowledging of numberlesS cards, anu
the keeping in mind of thousand courte
sizes that, forgotten. would mean social ran
IRE The daughter of the house does TINS
for herself and her mother, and part or her
morning is thus spent. What man coula
stand the pressure OF this correspondence.
perchance attend a CLASS In the morning,
reading in the afternoon. luncheon De
tween. three or four teas or two formal re-
ceptions, rush home, secure a hal1 houT
rest, dine then go to an opera, theater VI
stately ball. and finally go to her rest at
early dawn, and yet remain miraculously
fresh and bewilderngly far? ana, OF
: course. the masculine defender VIII aoo
The secret is the care the society girl
takes of herself and gets from others. Her
food is of the best her bathing systematic
and religious her manicuring perfecton'
her massage soothing and rebuilding her
hair is under vital attention and her morn
ing rest is assured Thus 1t happens that
no girl is better cared for physically than
is the society girl
And today for the society girl to be So
cial lioness she must know something be
sides being fair to look upon. She meets
Travellers poets, actors, sages. philosophers
statesmen--n fact, she is thrown constantly
with clever women and brilliant men, which
In itself is an education and requires of her
a general knowledge and interest, whlch is
no small demand
She meets Frenchmen, Germans. Italians,
and she must be able to talk with them
She meets musicians, and must understand
music. Art the society girl must have, ut
erature she should have.
These qualifications are made manifest
through taste grace and kindness, ana
more often than the world is willing 10 ao-
NIT If the society girl were thrown upon
her own resources she would reveal abilities
for business and fortune-makng that would
rival her brothers in the outside world.
Adjustment
Is the word used to give idea of parts
fitting into one another, each part doing
what IL can to agree with every other part.
So long as the members of family remain
at home and together possibly there Is no
discord owing to the fact that habit has
brought about uniformity of thought, word
and action. This Is much on the same prin-
cple as the balance theory. When the
weight is borne on both feet there Is nat
uraf equilibrium, but Immediately the
weight is shifted the necessity of poise Is
introduced When we go out into the world
and meet with strangers. and are sur
rounded by new environments and subject
to new conditions. there comes the need OF
submission to new adjustments. and unless
we do this freely and Internationally we DO
not get the most enjoyment out of life. II
we, as parts do not do our best to put our
selves In harmony with the rest OF the
parts discords will daily cross our path.
The most charming person on the face Of
the earth is the one who gets along in all
places and with all sorts of people, No
matter where he is or with whom there Is
q place always where he exactly fits in. He
never takes a position and holds II dog
matically and arbitrarily and imagines the
world will change Its course In order to go
around with him. There 10 nothing stiff
and aggressive about that one whom the
whole world loves, and. fortunately. we
have some luminous examples Of persons
who find the beauty of their life in sur
rounding. perfecting and Illuminating the
rest of the world.
One little woman says the days are not
long enough for her. Life Is so sweet. her
thought fingers on each moment as though
81 were loath to see It go. The drawing
room claims her for queen. The ragged
little newsboy sits at her feet. His papers
are thing OF the past. his chin rests in
his hands. and eyes gaze rapturously at her
from whom comes his inspiration. When
she travels every one contributes something
to her pleasure, and new-formed acquaint-
ances wait anxiously until they shall see
her again. Cheerful faces find in hers a re-
Election. and hardened ones are led to relax.
Why? Because of her
Secret sympathy,
The silver link the snken tie
Which heart TO heart and mind to mind
In body and In soul can bind.
No one has n sorrow too great for her
nor a pleasure too small for her to appre-
clate. She takes love with her wherever
she goes. and she returns on the wings of
devotion. And 1t is easy to do.
Small service Is true service while II lasts;
OF humblest friends, bright creature scorn not
The daisy, by the shadow that II casts
Protects the lingering dewdrop from the sun.
Girls
In well-to-do households where there Is
no visible straitness OF means. are often
much happier when working for their own
support than when receiving what their pa
rents give them. True. nothing is farther
from the thoughts Of parents than to make
grown-up daughters who are living at home