The San Francisco call., 1905-03-20
HOSTESSES SAY
SOCIETY MUST
MEND MANNERS
By ZOE GREEN RADCLIFFE.

OAKLAND March le.-Emerson says de-
feet In manners is usually the defect Of fine
perceptions" Then must the men and women
Of to-day be sadly lacking in fine perceptions.
Among other things hears hostesses COM
plain every day OF the neglect Of guests TO
send acceptances or regrets. The unobtrusivs
X. S. Y. P. that formerly called for an imme-
date reply receives absolutely no attention In
nine cases out OF ten. so one courageous Oak
land woman recently inclOsed an extra card
on which was engraved An early reply viii
oolige." That ought 70 bring desired results,
but Il probably will not. The polite woman
would answer without such reminder and the
other kind viii probably be highly insulted be-
cause she had TO be told what 10 do. There are
of course, many who sin through ignorance. for
not always come with the sudden riches that
sometimes opens the way into the circles OF
the elect.
an always reminded Of a story / once heard !:
Before the Civil way. when the South was in
the nush Of its wealth and chivalry one Of the
largest estates in Kentucky was owned by a
worthy old gentleman who prided himself on
his ga1lantry but who was ignorant OF many
Of the little customs OF the cultured city set.
One day he received a letter, by courier. from
friend recently returned from England versed
- me lSoeSh cOtteSt lnipes. Donh n one
corner OF the envelope were the letters r. s.
V. P. The old gentleman was nightly puz-
zled and Il was some days before he found
any one who could enlighten him. When he
finally learned that the mysterious letters sim
ply asked for reply he was irate. because.
ne said. no gentleman needed 10 be reminded
Of his duty. An immediate answer was dis
patched BY a colored slave and the letter bore
The inscription, IS. B. A. N. When the
friend wrote back asking the meaning Of the
hierogiyphics the old gentleman answered,
Sent By Niger Of course" {"
The hag Of Ireland has waved triumphzntly
over every social function Of the past week
81 Patricks cay gave the keynote 70 the vari-
not seem TO be any fewer because Of Lent
Everything is quite Informal however and IL
social spirit
Last Friday night it was DR.. and Mrs. e
L Dow's turn 70 entertain the Linda Vista
Club and usual with this genial couple.
their efforts were crowned with success Their
artistic little home on the corner Of Perry and
Vernon streets. was charmingly adorned by
the hostess own nimble fingers, the living
room. where the card tables were. being in
pink and green, while gorgeous red and yellow
blossoms frightened the entrance hall The
dining-room. where the late supper was
served, the most attractive of all. Green
tuIle lay in himy tangie on the table and each
shamrocks. Pretty little favors, dudeens Tor
the men ana green hatpins for the women.
The four heavy silver forks that invariably
constitute the prizes given by the club were
won BY E. NJ Walsh. Mrs. Gilbert Belcher ~
A Houts and Mrs. E 7. Eenshaw. Mrs Hen
shaw and Mr. and Mrs. Richard Lyman were
substitutes in the absence Of some of the MEM
bsrh
Another interesting st. Patrick's day affair
was the. musical given by Mrs. Olive Reed
AUfhuSn. MIS-. CuShrran is OF those who
enjoy the rare blessing of real cOntralto
voice. perfectly poised and full OF sweetness
and sympathy She has only recently re-
turned from New York TO her old home in Oak
land and Immediately resumed her old place
in musical circles. Her Friday musical was
one OF a series she is giving and the splendid
programme that distinguished IL was partici-
patec in by the hostess and Mrs. Carroll Mich
olson. Mrs. John R. Hunter (nee Barstonr1
Mrs. Mrs Ernest R Hueter Of San Francisco. Miss
violin 0tliEato by Mrs.. E ~. Ever, Mrs.
Hayward c. Thomas and Mrs. James NJ Cam
bic. Mrs Gamble IS a dramatic reader and
her Irish selections were greatly enjoyed
Es-ps and Tyres in Of green formed
the appropriate decoration.
The charming little home on Orange street
of Mr.. and Mrs. Edward r Hughes was The
scene Of a merry ssthering OF friends Thurs
day evening, who helped 10 celebrate a birth
day anniversary Of the genial host The house
wsa elaboratey decorated and as military
euchre was the game enjoyed the decorations
very htrinely consisted Of flags and the ma
.tional colOrs. The little forts that DESIGNATED
each table were artistic little affairs construct
ed by the hostess. The scores were kept with
tiny flags, the players Al the head table win
ming the greatest number. They were Mrs
Bean. Mss Shelley and Mrs. Broadwell scouts
and Messrs Borton, Patterson and Smith. de-
tenders.
Al the supper table the decorations. assumed
yerdant hue In honor OF the approaching
During the evening an iunpronptu musical
proerarnme was enjoyed. the participants being
Miss Lucia Oliver. who reads well Miss Shell
lev. talented pianist. and Clarence Oliver.
who H. the happy possessor OF a very pleasing
harvtone.
Annoae the guests were Mr.. and Mrs
Byron Rutley. Mr. and Mrs Frank watson
Mr. and Mrs H. II Kirby. NJ and Mrs
Edward Bean, Mr.. and Mrs. A. J. Patterson.
afr and Mrs.. Frank BllEer Mr. and Mrs.
Harry Brown Mr. and Mrs. A. J. Flood. Mr.
snc Mrs Chester Borton Mr. and Mrs e.
enaneler. Mr. and Mrs D. cahiIi Mr. and
Mrs NJ L Rroadweii. Mr.. and Mrs Schwauer
Mr. and Mrs Mobiey Miss Essie Macdonald
Mrs Burrel Miss Helene Burrefi Miss Jen-
ME Shelley Miss Lucia Oliver Miss Jessie
Spsngier Miss Marian Horton Mrs. 7. Drain
Mr. Wood of San Francisco Charles Ott
George Flint Clarence Oliver. DR.. Isacfey
Xr. Mcdonald, Edward Smith. Fred Seuiberger.
zfr and Mrs Harry P. Roach entertained a
csrd ofbt last week ~ delightfully."- original
manner After she usual games had b,en
played and prizes distributed, the guests were
uahsrsd into the dining-roon. where an slabor-