The Intermountain Catholic. (Salt Lake City [Utah] ;) 1899-1920, 1905-11-25

pect for one instant that she will not
! tell. OF course she Will, so save your
| reputation for politeness and do not ask
| her to have more self-control than you
had. You have made q slip, take the
consequences and let it be a lesson to
YOU.
It is not bad manners to brag, it is
Intensely vulgar. 1t is not bad man
ners TO talk about your husband or his
! mother or his sister, it is as mean a
! thing as woman can do. 1t is not
bad manners TO talk about your private
affairs, it is q mark of insanity. 1t is
bad manners to do all the talking, I'M
less you are so far above your hearers
in intellectual attainments that they
are struck dumb by the honor of your
attention. It is bad manners to talk
about the cost of things; to hold the
conversation to one subject when YOU
are the one interested in that subject:
TO criticisc the friends of her to whom
You are talking; to sheer at her belief
il religion or ethics or politics; to laud
virtues of which she is deficient; TO sit
silent and superior; TO interrupt and TO
insist on being heard when another has
the floor. I know q woman who has
the habit Of saying; "Now all listen to
me- and she hasn't anything to say
that is worth hearing. If she had, she
would be better hammered than she is.
1t is bad manners to perform any part
of the toilet in public. such as scratch
ing the head, blowing the nose, clean
ing finger nails, and the American
toothpicl habit is disgusting. 1t is ILL
bred to make q fuss about the food set
before you. If it does not please you,
perhaps it will be better next time. AT
hotel, the complaint made is usually
an attempt to impress those near with
your Importance and make them believe
you revei in luxuries at home.
i # the members OF a family practice
good manners only when they have
company. they will furnish amusement
to the guest. Manners must be habit
usl or they will not fit we'll AS we'll
expect tight shoes to be easy as to ex-
pect a new code of behavior to go
smoothly 1t is a saying that if you
eat with your knife at home. a fork
will stick you when YOU go into COM
pany.
Remember TO accept favors and at
tentions graciously. There is no Law
compelling man TO give a woman his
seat in g. public conveyance. If he does
so, he should have thanks for his cour-
tesy. If person makes polite inquiry
for you or yours when in sickness or
grief. do remember 20 say thank You
in polite way and before the occasion
Is forgotten. If a person stops and
speaks politely, do not wriggle and
twist without speaking. Say something
and say it so she can hear. If a friend
gives you something-and Christmas is.
coming this way-either refuse the gift
or thank the giver. 1t is ill-bred to do
other than that. fla friend takes the
trouble to write You a letter answer
it: if he sends you paper. write note
of thanks. In intimate correspondence.
more liberty is allowed Then one or
the other writes once or more and al
lOwance is made for the cares that
cumber. Thank you is easily said
Thanks is bad form-and it sweetens
things a good deal.
If you borrow 4 book, read it and
return il ins good order. To keep it
until its owner has forgotten who has
it does not make it yours. Just the
same you have not only shown your
bad manners. but YOU have been guilty
Of theft. The same holds true in the
matter Of umbrellas. Also ii is ilI-bred
TO neglect to return calls. a woman
does this not because she despises her
caller, but because she is careless ana
hurts the feelings Of. her acquaintance
and brands herself as a trife below
lady Excuse is made for age and in
trinity, but not for much else.
But do not confound manners with
manner. There is nothing TO be less
desired than manner. The raised af-
fected information. the perpetual sim
per the intolera bic falseness of it all
is the trade mark OF iIl-breeding. If
you have caught it, get over it as soon
as possible. II you are exposed 10 it,
be on your guard that you do not
catch the conta gion. Y disease would
be preferred. FOR when cured there
would be no reminder. whereas affecta-
ton is scarcely ezra bla