Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-02-04
Mistakes OF the Visiting Girl.

b,ained MaTY's friends mother with
laak Of apology, land We have not Yet
,eared W. the house Shc is the dearest
Girl in the world, but can't help think
:as that she has bccn badly brought up.
From the moment she arrives she tram
Ma, rough-shod over all my traditions.
Sac ignores every one of my rules and
vets a bad example TO my children. We
are fond Of her, but Jane and l draw
breath ot yc1ief Whenever her visits are
ever"
Now. mother" pleaded the young
daughter OF the h0use. don't you think
FAs; you and Aunt Jane are a little too
cid fashioned? You really are not quite
IaedeYn. Mary is like most of the girls
know, ana when / visit her the whole
tasnily are amazed at my particular
ways, though here at home you arc not
oppressed with them"
My dear" said the mother with ener-
~. IF I ever imagined that you, when
visiting in Il strange house, could leave
= trail Of your gloves, pocket handker-
chiefs and stocks marking your path
from your own room to the other rooms
sf the house; if you turned on gas and
c!ectric lights and left unnecessary burn
when you were not needing them: if You
came late to breakfast and late to din
ser, and generally ran amuck through
every CiYillty, | should be ashamed TO
have you go out as representative OF
my home straining. | really do like
most of your friends, and | am fond of
Mary, but the next time she comes here
/ shall put her in the second hest bed
room, and not in the guest chamber. She
IS too destructive, too eXaspcratlng. She
has ruined the cover of the dressing bu-
reau by scattering it with ink, and
cracked the soap dish 50 that / will have
- buy another, which Spoils the set
Poor Mary sighed Elsie. She must
AaYe fallen into those careless ways
while she was at college
Here Aunt Jane interrupted the con
versati0n in her usual strenuous man
ser. Aunt Jane is an energetic spIuster
who has convictions on every subject
eSder the sun, but who is especially pro
sognccd in her judgment when it comes
10 bringing up girls She spoke severely
Il knew her mother before the child
was born Not one of the tribe ever had
rae ghost OF an idea of tidiness. Mary
was not well started. Consequently she
is not aG ideal guest in a fastidious house.
Nevertheless, for the sake Of her breezi-
ness and sweetness and the fun she
sWngs, we must take her rs she IS. l
So hope thnt the fashion of Bringing up
come back
wonder if girls who are something
like Mary ever stop in their progress
through the world to reflect that, while
everybody likes zephyr, few people can
tolerate cyclone. Just little thought,
little time and little consideration for
others often make the difference between
aR agreeable guest and the reverse.
If you are going on a visit. the first
thing of which You have to think is
whether or not you are 10 take a trunk.
II the visit Is to extend over a week or
W ere it is we'll to be provided with clothes
for every emergency. and these cannot be
80 easily packed into a small suit case as
into the larger compass of a small sized
steamer trunk. If girl is invited either
by herself or as one of a house party
there will presumably be occasions when
she will require a pretty evening dress,
and when she should be properly gowned
for luncheon or an afternoon tea. Her
travelling dress will meet the require
snents of walking, driving. skating or go
ing about in street cars if II be short and
smart, without elaborate trimming. II Is
q good plan. when convenient. to send a
trunk by express the day before one goes,
thus insuring its arrival on the same day
with its owner. This cannt be depended
upon as certain in times of crowded sum
mer travel or in the winter when storms
and drifts may delay trains.
A visitor should arrive promptly at the
hOur which has been fixed. Once in the
house of her friend she should unobtru-
Alvely familiariZe herself with the ~rdi-
Hary ways of the house. Every home has
its little pecularities which belong TO IL
self. young girl should not neglect the
elder people whom she finds III n family
and she should be careful not to interrupt
conversation, nor m0nOpOlize it, nor take
the lead when older people are present
All this should go without saying IN the
case of well-hred young girls. vet they
sometimes need word of caution.
For instance. if you have been spend
ing the "ening ont and come in late, it
is thoughtful for you to 20 quieGE 20
Yddr room. not chatting loudly or laugh
ing on the stairs and disturbing the rest
81 those at home who are already in bed.
Another good point for the visiting glri
is to he pleased with everything that -
aOne for her and not to be afraid 10 eX-
press her thanks Never economic"
thanks. Ii is better to say too much
than too little in the way Of acknowledg-
ing kind attentions. If a guest wishes
"a carry books or magazines from the
family living room tn her own especial
domain, which the guest chamber j.
while she occupies it. she should meation
fer desire ia do SO, rs some one may pos
sbly be in the middle OF a novel, or still
Ne reading some article in the magazine.
Neither should Il girl express eXtravaganl
liking for one member or the family and
treat another with Indifference. 4 girl
knew once paid visit in a home where
there were twin sisters. Il little older
tban herself She was much attracted
70 Miss Elizabeth and equally repelled
from Miss Cyuthia. not through any act
en the part OF either sister The girl
was vcrv Young. Sh" thought Miss Eliza
heth the prettier Of the two ard took Il
tremendous fancy to her music. lingering
10 hear her play the piano, while when
AIsS Cynthia sang she ostcntauously left
The room Ter preference and her dis
ike Were both so marked that they
aroused surprise and comment. and she
was not invited TO that houSe again foI
wears.
A girl going from home shnuld not for
got that She Is an advertisement TO every
enc she meets of the home she comes
from. If she is rude and noisy, if she