The Dolores star., 1905-05-12
A Beautiful. Refined Woman.
RALEIGH r. WHITE.

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RALEIGH r. WHITE.
| combine the words beautiful and
refined because in a woman they are
inseparnbly connected in order to
make her attractive. By the word re-
fined mean modest, elegant, polite.
Those who rock the cradle of future destiny
Must be worthy Of tho place Of excellency
In order to impAft to coming ages worthy
dignity,
The beauty of woman is not in her
face 80 much as In the manner Of her
department. "A doll may be pretty in
the mold Of the face as a statuary, but
| It Is destitute OF expression that leaves
thought in q vacuum OF dissatisfied
longing that can only be charmed and
inspired by the throbing impulse of 4
real life.
In writing Of the beauty aud refine
Inent OF woman, i want to get away
from the conventionality seen In what
Is called polite society, which often de-
ceives. No matter how beautiful in
face and form woman may be, II she
is an innovater she lacks refinement,
and since she deals in novelties she Is
sham, an arch deceivef. Such
women are always influenced by van
ity with purpose to attract import
ance, which, when secured, is dis
carded as soon as it Is gained II they
see other and higher honors are to be
won by the charms or their personality.
From another point of view woman
is to bc admired because of her modesty,
refinement, politeness and common
sense use of language in expressing
herself totally separating from all
manner of policy. Refined modesty is
interviewer with consideration, and a
refined woman is careful of the feelings
of other people.
Inever shall forget lesson taught
me when q boy by the conduct Of
polished refinement. There were visi-
tors present, and also two men who
were driving pork-hogs through the
country selling them to the planters.
The time passed pleasantly in the
parlOr, and cake and wine was sefyed;
after which servants came in with
finger bowls (not much in use them in
which orange peel had been dropped.
| The hog drovers were the first served,
and they drank of the water. The
host, in order to save their feelings,
drank also, and waved the servants
out. So polished was the kindness of
all present, there was not smile be-
cause of the mistake. The two men
went on their journey ignorant of the
fact that they had committed an error
in polite society.
The reverse Of this / witnessed in a
pretext at politeness in Spanish
woman. attended state reception
given In San Jose, the capital of the
state of Costo Rico, Central America.
A young English nobleman admired
bopk, the history of the state written
by General Blanco (White) and the
take It," The gentleman, after thank
ing her, placed the book under his arm
and walked off. The Spanish girl
| turned to the and said, "That man is
q fool.n
| / know that am met by the argu-
ment of other writer's on the subject
that this Spanish girl, in her manner
toward her guest in offering the book
as present, was in speech only a
hypefbele and that she did not expect
the gentleman to accept the gift as
real. This is exactly that which is de-
testible, a fabulous pretense, in some
circles of society.
Talleyfand says, Language was in
vented as means of cOncealing
/! thought" From this desist. When
God confounded language he did so
for the reason that the people were
building tower which, in their igno-
rance, they thought they could do that
would reach heaven. And so THAT
they might not understand each others
speech" was not for the purpose, as
| T'alleyrand says, "as means Of con-
cealing thought" in a sense to deceive,
If this is what he meant.
No woman should clothe her words
in q mysterious wayj neither leave
them naked so that commohsense can
not reach 4 correct answer. Not to dc
80 is to assume an untrue position and
sacrifice all her beauty and refinement.
In no other why can a woman vindi.
cate the character God intended her to
have. In no other way can a gentle.
man vouch safe his tacit approval Of
her. e.
success. 1t Is said that "manner
|maketh i1iah." But there is no such
thing as refined polished falsehood
And that to pretend a thing is true
that is false does not point in the same
direction with real polished manners
must be admitted. Never pretend tt
be what you are not, nor fail to be
what you really are-a woman whose
beauty is in her modesty and refine.
ment.