Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-04-01
Romantic Girl Often Finds it Out
Too Late.
HUSBAND IS A BRUTE
But She Finds After Bit That He Isn't
Such Bad Fellow at
All.

up an ldol III the form OF her lover, ami
worships it, and it is not until he is her
husband, and possibly not until some
time after this, that she wakes up to the
fact that he is only a man. just as she is
only woman. To be sure, it frequently
happens that Il girl will ideaiZe herself
as well as her lover, during the days of
courtship, but she usually realizes that
as far as the idealizatIon concerns her
self It is beautiful illusion; but regard
ing the man, she is just as sure that the
ideal is the real man; his better and
higher self, OF course, something that his
leve for her has reused into greater ac-
ton. but the real man, with whom she IS
to spend her life.
When Idols Fall.
And after the wedding-after the
honeymoon has waned-then comes the
strong light of practical facts. Having
won his bride, the man usually no longer
considers 1t necessary to be eternally tell
ing her that she is an angel. He has 50
informed her many, many times 1t
must surely be impressed upon her mind.
Therefore after the first few months of
marriage, the idol of the dreams of this
young wife begins to appear in a new
light Not an unpleasant light, not i'll
an unklndly one, not in an unloving one,
but some of the romance and sentiment
has naturally dropped away during
everyday association, and he appears as
a mere man.
10 the very sentimental and idealisti"
girl this fact finally comes as Il sort of
shock. AS she RECEIVERS from il. her at
tltude will be governed by her tempera-
ment. If she is sensible and unSelfiSh
she will adapt herself to facts and, put
ting illusions away, be happy with her
husband as he is, and not spend any
time yainly signing for something that
never was lie is probably an honest,
ahectionate fellow, ready to do anything
IN his power to please his bride, but
without that inclination to keep up the
honeymoon forever that rules in the
mind of his bride. Disappointment there
may be, and perhaps tears shed in Sc
cret at the fall Of her ideals, but there is
much of JOY in practical living where
real affection exists. even though
romance does not shed its silyery light
over every hour.
Silly Things Grow, Often.
Sometimes, too, it is such silly little
things that make a young wife unhappy.
II the husband does the least thing that
does not come up to her idea-or ideal
OF him, she actually suffers, perhaps
weeps, or has a mild attack of mysteries.
Usually the man does not in the least
comprehend her state of mind, and
vaguely wonders what he can possibly
| nave done that causes such Il scene: or
II lie knows what he has done. he does
not see the enormity of the action.
a woman of long experience in married
life IN writing on this subject for The
independents let's her readers into some
OF the secrets of her own early welded
life. when she shed tears over a crumpled
pllloWSham, and imagined her husband
a brutal tyrant. OF course. this woman,
as bride, had her own lofty opinion of
her husband. but previous to her mar
riage she had been instructed by her
women relatives and from some spinster
aunfs in particular. that men were in
variably tyrannical and neglectfuI of
woman's comfort. This warning. not
outstanding her affection for her hus-
band, preyed upon her mind. In fact.
she had been misguided as to what her
attitude should be toward this "feudal
lord OF her destiny" and regarded him
with mingling of tenderness and dis
trust. Looking back today over many
years, she is divided in her restrospect
between amusement and compassion.
Husband a Clergyman.
One Of the funny features of the sit
nation i'll her case was that her husband
was Il young clergyman. However, hav-
ing been forewarned by her wise rela-
tiyes she lived at first in a sort OF shad-
ow of an impending crisis never know
reveal itself in her lord. 1t happened
at last, one Sunday afternoon, and its
occasion was the rumpling of the pillow
sham before mentioned. Henry was
either too exhausted or too maSculinely
Indifferent to pilow-sham etiquette to re-
move the sacred object before thrusting
his head upon the pillow" says the
heroine of this tragic incident. And
although he knew the thing had been n
highly priced bridal present from my
eldest spinSter aunt, ne not only refused
to smooth ii. but he made invidious com
ments upon the female habit of sham dec
0rations. To my distorted mind this
seemed an impolite reflection upon all
the women in the world | refused TO be
reconciled without an apology. which
must have seemed to Henry ont of all pro-
portion TO his offense. And when learned
to what phariSaical lengths Il good
mans wrath will carry him. for my hus-
band withdrew unrcpentant to his study
and spent the remainder of the day read
ing his Bible. Meanwhile | Sobbed and
faced the tragical end of all happiness.
Finds Henry Is a Tyrant
AT last light broke upon my darkness.
1t was revealed to me that Henry was
not only a brute and a tyrant, but he
was lacking in certain delicate reasoning
faculties and lntuitions with which |
felt exceedingly gifted, ana l concluded
tAtl W merit StIUlE tltditUS idiitN
doubtless feminine guile would succeed.
Delilah never planned the betrayal of
Samson with more cunning than
planned the conquest of my husband dur
ing the next hour. Passing over my
bridal finery,.l choose a gown which had
been embroidered by association with GER
tain sunshiny days of our courtShip 1t
was sort of blue-nldSlin appeal 20 Herr
rvs darkened mind for a renewal of
sweetness and light. And having az
complished this reverSion to type which
had been adorable to him. | approached
him ingeniously, as if nothing were fur
Their from my thoughts than pillow
shamS. | led the conversation in tendc"
StropheS to great distance from the
hateful subject, preened him with many
earesseS until | was assured that his
tyrannical faculties Were dissolved in the
happieSt Of all Illusions: then, with my
head reclining upon the unfortunate
mans coniding breast. ! murmured
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