The daily morning journal and courier. [volume] (New Haven, Conn.) 1894-1907, 1905-03-04


tn get along in their new surround
inss, They come from small cities in
most cases and are impulsiye, cordial
and lhospitable TO an extent that the
native born New Yorker scarcely ever
attains and is in no case willing to re-
veal. However hospitable the New
Yorker may be, he does not show it
with the frankness of the southerner
on his first arrival in New York.
The southerner discovers this dis
similarity of temperament at a time
when he is going through the pangs
of Inconsistencies. He is apt to feel
that the traits of New Workers take on
an almost savage unfriendliness. Z
'Just to Think said young woman
who has been in New York for only a
short time, Il have been living in this
house six months with seventeen other
families, and not a single person has
come to call on me. 49,
I'VE don't even speak when we meet
in the elevator, although 1 did try to
be cordial to afew of them when I
first moved in. They. glared at me as
if / were trying to butt into the sane
tity of their families and they did not
propose to have anything of the kind.
zone young woman was very nice to
| me and really smiled three times in
one week when we met. | almost felt
that adh made my first intimate
friend. She wasn't so friendly, though,
as 1 thought.
"At home when We have anything
L q 81, RI
| send some Of it in to the neighbors.
I've got such a good cook from home,
and she makes such delicious hot rolls
| that / sent some in last Sunday morn
| ing to the apartment Of the friend who
| used to smile at me in the elevator.
"But if / ever az anything Of that
kind again I reckon I'll deserve what
ever happens to me Do you know
that woman sent the bread back with
| a message that she thought there must
have been SOME mistake ass her rolls
had been delivered by the baker early
in the morning and she couldn't inn
agine how should be sending bread
| to her.
I'll never felt 50 insulted in my. life.
The next time we met in the elevator
| neither one of us spoke.
IF such an apartment house as this
| was in the. south we would all know
one another, In addition to, everybody
else who lived on 1.-THE block. If we
| didn't know them before we would go
and call upon them as soon as. they
came in the neighborhood, unless there
was something wrong about them. t.,
| II said to the janitor of the apart
ment one day that thought it was
queer that people did not call upon one
another when they moved in. He
gave me a strange look for minute,
and then said he didn't believe that
| any two families in the ohuse knew
each other, and he never heard Of any
body calling just because they lived in
| the same house. That's New York fol-
4 you.''' @ 81. -.
Some of the women who come to New
York from the south with the inten
ton of making friends find it not Sc
easy under those circumstances as III
| might seem, merely because most New
| Workers have friends enough of theiI
own, and are not likely to become in
| terested in other persons merely be.
cause of their attractive character
| Where wealth and social Importance
are involved and strangers are in 9
position to entertain or to be in Other
ways advantageous their welcome is
likely to be different. Few of the i'm.
| migrants in New York are wealthy
They usually come ehre to make theii
fortunes and are able to supply only
their natural attractiveness.
At brought letters from a clergyman
whom had known all my life," anoth
er woman said, land he was perfectly
well acquainted with my position.
Joined one of his guilds at his sugges.
ton, and there thhe principal womer
of his parish were most active. ....
II went to the first meeting and was
introduced to the president. She bore
a very well-known New York, name
and shook hands with me with some
cordiality. The rest of 49, the. womer
We're all present, and after a. while thu
meeting began.
None of them addressed a remark
to me. sat like a bump on log til
/ the whole proceedings were over
Then I got up and left without ever
getting a nod from the president.
Naturally, 1 never went back an.
more, but told the clergyman that
was not in the habit of being treated
that way. He expressed surprise ant
wanted to know what L expected.
told him thought that as a new
conner ought to have been introduced
to the women in the guild, The,
should at least have paid some atten
ton to me.
"'Oh, I don't believe ahlf those wo
men ever see one another outside tn
guild ROOM he said. They belong t,
different sets of society, and they NEE
only for cuhrch work. You shouldn'
feel offended, as they are in much tn
same situation as you
II never went back, however as
did not want to make the mistake O
being associated, even in church work
with people who might be afraid t,
speak to me outside.
That experience was not nearly $,
bad as my first call upon a woman ii
New York who had been asked to visi
me. When l came home from that