Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1905-11-11

iades" to vince. It is merely common
prudence for one to acquaint oneself
with the family Of ones intended
spouse before the knot is tied. Many
a marriage which might otherwise
have been happy has been made miser
able by the incompatibility and inter
ference Of relatives-inlaw. And in
all Justice Il must be said that the
trouble is quite as often caused by
the family Of the husband as Of the
Wife
Especially is it the husbands moth
er who is more apt to prove a discord
ant element than is the wife's With
all the hulla-balloo made about the
advantages Of single blessedness for
women, Il is only the competent few
who are sincere in their objections to
matrimony, and they mostly Of the
present generation. The great major
ity Of mothers with marriageable
daughters have no more fervent desire
for those daughters than to see them
we'll married "what we earnestly de
sire that also We believe" and when
daughter is married the mother is
almost invariably anxious 10 persuade
herself and every one else that her
daughter has drawn a prize Of worth
in the matrimonial market; that "Dear
Edwin is an we could possibly wish
dear Angelina Is 80 happy" More
over, If she is even ordinarily sensible,
she will do nothing TO antagoBize the
sonin.law who holds the future Of her
beloved daughter in bis hands. None
but a married woman can possibly un.
dorstand how completely n wife IL In
tho power Of her husband. and the
mother who feels In and for her wo.
man.child win do much and suffer
much 70 make things easy for her.
Next 60 The wifo herself, often more
than tho wife tho wifo'a mother is
dcsirous that the menago should show
a fair front to tho world, and Il is
rarely indeed that she does not do an
that she can 20 that end.
On tho contrary, tho very women
who arc most anxious 90 sec their
daughters married are often unwili
ing 90 have their sons take 10 them
selves wives 10 is said, with much
reason, that ne woman over considers
any woman altogether deserving ~
her son. sho may bo ready 20 nc.
knowledge her a. FAR better than most
and tho beat 10 be had. but with that
there ia always tho opinion, unuttercd
or expressed, that tho young wifo'a
good fortune IL something for which
IL behooves her 20 be etornally Crate
ful. IN tho bride 10 wise enough 10
agree with her, 60 slt az her feet and
be taught OF her, then shall there be /
peace In that household. But woe 20
tho Daughter Of Heth" who asserts
herself, who h not willing 10 bow down |
and worship dutifully after tho man,
ner OF her motherihlawl She Is
and found wanting. held
strictly responsible for all ahorteom.
inga, many not her own. When a mar
Fied man falls TO fulfin a fond moth
eg's expectations Il Is perhaps only |
natural that that mother should seek |
10 lay the blame upon other shoulders
than his, and since we all know that
marriage makes or mars man,
what seaPegoat 30 apparent as his
wife, Even II she have not been open
ly a rock Of oifense and a hindrahee |
In his path, she must have failed OF |
her duty somehow, else the evil could |
never have happened. There are com.
paFatiyely few women whose charity |
Is broad enough 20 cover the faults OF
a daughteF-in-law. The two woman |
whose love for the same man, being of |
such different ibFe, should blend in
to one and form an indissoluble bond
between them too often stand upon the
ground Of armed neutrality, even when
they no not openly disagree. The
laughteF-in-law whose husband = moth. |
or takes her 10 her heart OF hearts has
cause 10 be thankful, and il she is
wise she will walk warily and DO moth
ing 20 forfeit her good opinion.
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