The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1905-03-19

If a man would say to a girl that
if she married him she would have
to ask him for every dollar and
whecdle ana calole him out OF it;
that every time she bought new
dress. or a new bat. she would have
to endure his sarcastic comments on
her extravaganza. and that the ar
rival of the monthly bills would pro-
woke a storm that would scare her
out of her wits. the girl would say
mo" every time.
She would prefer to earn her own
living in some easier and more peace
able way.
The position that men take in re-
gard to their wives and money is the
most illogical and unreasonable thing
on earth. Every man worthy Of the
name expects to support his family
Probably he wants to do it, since
it is q Self-imposed obligation that he
takes upon himself.
Yet when he has to do it he does it
with the grooming and moaning of a
martyr. 1t may be that mems COM
plants. public and private, over what
their families cost them are merely
4 little plea santry to call attention 20
their virtues, but it is a joke that eff
fecually spoils married life for the wo-
man who is the object Of it.
When men and women acquire
enough intelligence to settle the
money question before marriage in-
stead of afterward ii will do more to
infuse happiness into matrimony than
anything else
No man should marry a Woman
until he has thoroughly familiarized
himself with grocery bills and coal
bills, and butchers bills. and drug
bills. and doctors bills, and millinery
bills, and dressmaking bills and all
the other bills and ills to which mac
rimony is heir.
And no woman should marry a
man until she has got an ironclad con-
tract for a definite allowance of her
own personal expenses and household
needs.
There Is just thirty times less fric-
tior in getting money out of man
once a month than there is getting It
from him every day.
The reason that most married
couples have not time to talk senti-
ment is because they are haggling
over money.
That source of discord has to be
is to flow smoothly.
The third reason that married life
is dull is because the curse of COM
mercialism is upon it.
The one deathless passion of the
American man is the passion for MAX
ing money.
He loves his wife, but he loves his
business better.
He gives one thought to how he can
make her happy where he gives hours
| of concentrated study to trying to de-
wise new ways CT extending his trade.
He expends his amiability in joi-
lying his customers, not in paying
compliments to his wife.
He exhausts his diplomacy in deal
ing with difficult clients. not in try
ing to get along tremendously with
his wife.
His witty stories. his entertaining
/ conversation, his suavity and polite
| ness even, are for those who can bring
grist to his mill. They are too pre-
| cious for home consumption.
The best of himself in mind and
manners and body he gives to his
| business, ard all that many a woman
ever sees in her husband is q man
| that comes home at night with wreck
ed nerves and a temper that bushes
+, the children's prattle as il they We're
stricken dumb, and makes the cat
take to the cellar.
No woman marries to get this sort
: of q matrimonial bargain.
She married for companion. nC