The Montgomery advertiser., 1905-07-16
SCHOOL GIRLS SHOULD
 HAVE BOY FRIENDS
BROTHERS ASHAMED TO CARRY
 HIS sIsTER's BOOKS.
Nothing Sentimental About the Boy Who Helps You With Algebra-
 Old-Fashloned Candy Pull
 Pleases the Young Folk.
nY MARcARrr E. sANGsTER.

loss for comrades If her brothers have the right bringing up. There are brothers and brothers. however. I | heard of one not long ago who was 1 ashamed to be seen walking to school | with his sister and who refused to | rainy day. That boy may one of these days be very attentive to somebody else's sister, but he will not prove l good friend for all that He has missed the home training which lies at the foundation of all friendship. Boys and girls in the same family and under the same roof should be good friends. Neighbors who attend school together | should equally be friends. The boy next door and the girl next door ought not to be strangers and in every street | the young people who are growing up | together should have good times. and realize what 1t means to be friendly.
 This does not mean that boys and girls should be foolishly sentimental Nor do I think they often are. You cannot be sentimental about boy who is in the same class with you. who helps you with your algebra. and 1t may be is glad of your help in his Latin translation. So long as boys and | girls enjoy outdoor games and indoor pleasure together, there Is nothing to be criticised In their friendship It Is only when they begin to be mysterious | and furtive about 1t that their mothers l need to take alarm.
 For instance, when Willie hangs about the door in the dusk and does | not come in, but waits for Mary to steal | out and meet him at the gate. there is room for compaint. Mothers have told l me that their daughters from 14 to 16 have been determined to walk up and | down in the evening with boys of their rryhn fnn moi m | know.
 Here is where the line should be drawn. A school girl simply cannot have friends who are not welcome in her fathers house. and of whom her mother does not approve. She may not write letters to boy friends or re- ceive letters from them without taking her mother into her confidence. If there are picnics. merry makings, even ing walks, drives or sails by moonlight, 1t Is all right if a group of boys and | girls are accompanied by an older friend. mother, aunt or married lady who Is trusted acquaintance must take charge of such a party. Above all, a girl must have her life and con- duct an open book for her family to | read. She cannot have secrets and reserves from her mother. This is more important in the realm of her friendship than anywhere else In the whole of life's intercourse.
 A question worth considering for each of us Is. what do I mean to my friends? For what do I stand?
 Girls do not always remember that it Is their privilege to exert a good influence over the boys they know. A girl who uses slang and permits herself to be rude and discourteous in her be- havior to boys, who does not exact from them by her sweet behavior something that is like homage paid to an ideal. misses her opportunity. do not mean that a girl should be selfconscious or q prig, but she should not forget that she is in a way little princess, and Is to be treated accordingly.
 Ethel should not ask Theodore to come and see her. any more than she should beg him to be her partner in a dance. If he wishes the pleasure of a call he should ask and she should grant, and her mother should be pres ent at least during part of the even- ing. The pleasant and natural way fer very young people is to visit in the family and have every one coming and going while they are there. *.
 good deal of pleasure is added to an ordinary call If. before it is over. there Is something to eat. Lemonade and cake do not come amiss. and there | fashioned candy pull if a half-dozen boys and girls take part in it. I have yet to see the boy who does not like to call at the house where the girls invite him to help them make fudge. There Is the more fun if the boys help to clear away after the feast.
 We shall never do our friends good unless we are ourselves right minded, sincere and unselhsh. There Is not the least use in pretending to be what one Is not Unless we have real principles and care about living up to them, we shall never know the golden value of true friendship. Girls. don't forget that convictions lived up to make strong characters.
 A friend Is not afraid to tell the truth. though now and then 1t may wound another Still, 1t is not neces- sary to be officous. If in your pres ence one of your schoolmates, boy or girl, should say something unkind about the absent, 1t would be an easy thing for you to show your displeas- ure You would not need say a word look would be enough. Sometimes the refusal to smile at a jest which takes a liberty with something you re- | spect as. for example. a grave look If there is pi ofanity in your presence. will put an end to 1t. I am persuaded that the habit of cigarette smoking which we all deplore in boys, would vanish from the face of the earth if the girls would only show by look and word that they disapproved It. and would not have cigarette smokers numbered among their boy friends.
 These are a great many things which boys and girls may do together In the department of nature study this is peculiarly true. Excursions to study birds or find flowers. involving tramps through the fields. or mountain climb ing, are douhly pleasant if party of young people go In company -u.
 To add zest to such study every one must be enthusiastic. There !s no room for the lad who Is bored or the girl who lags behind and takes little interest. Girls are as able to endure fatigue and take whatever comes In the way of hardship as boys If they are properly dressed for their expedi- tons. Onsy a silly girl sets out for d mountain climb or a walk across coun- try dressed in organdle or lawn. with floating ribbons. with a picture hat and tight shoes. The girl who is a good comrade wears loose, easy fitting cos tunes. for out doors, has no float ing tags or ends. has cap or sailor and low heels properly adjusted to her feet.
 Tennis. basket ball and golf are games that boys and girls may play. with no odds on either side but with no end of fun. For the rouGher games, such as football and baseball girls are content to assume the role of specta tors. They know the points of the game and their sympathy cheers the