The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1905-01-01
MRS. SANGSTER ON THE
GIRL IN LOVE.

m AID MARIAN. or Dorothy, or Eve,
lEI never shows her sex more emphat-
ically and completely than by her
reluctance to accept the bonds of love
w men a man falls in love. he Is very ant
70 make sudden plunge as a swimmer
ulNeS INTO a stream He does not in the
Ieast rear getting in beyond his depth.
tIG sees pretty girl II may be in
frlends house, in a drawing room, or on
a Journey. He has only the most super
lclal acquaintance with her but al once
he Is Interested, observes her grace the
SrnoothneSS or the waVV curl of her
brown hair the Brightness of her ewes.
the charm of her manner, and Drestot
she is the only girl in the world for him
have known men to meet, love and
know existed three months before the
wedding day. In such cases the men
pave pave been extremely earnest wooers-
some years ago one of the ma gaines
published a story entitled "A Young Man
IN Il Hurry The man who falls in love
1t is natural and right that man
should make the advances and do the
counting 1t is woman's right to be
Wooed and won. The ideal woman is not
won without effort It is a great deal
that a girl gives when she bcstows her
self on the man who seeks her. 1t is not
strange that on the brink of so great a
change as is made when she relinuuiShes
her entire Independence, and agrees to
belong wholly to him who will one day
be her husband, that she is coy and feels
some hesitation The normal girl does not
dislike compliments and courtesy. Few
girls are insensible to delicate flattery
Girls have a right to be adOred. What
they tremble at as instinctiVeIv as the
bird when pursued by the hunter is the
yielding up Of freedom. To the bird IL
is death. To the maiden IL is absorption
and transformation.
The most charming girls are as hard to
win as the bird upon a bOugh. Just as
the lover thinks he has succeeded in the
chase, he is dismayed to find his prize
with word or a smile. or turn of the
mead, as Tar away as ever, and his court
ing has to be done over again. This is
a
10 flirt- It is the impulse of her sex
which leads woman TO keep herself
alOOf until the hour comes when love 50
dominates her soul that she can sur
render herself without fear.
I am sure" writes Dorothy that
Edwin loves me. He shows il in every
look He surrounds me with attentions.
He has told me over and over that I am
the only one he has ever cared for. or
ever will desire. But ] am afraid I DO
not love him enough. L feel as if there
ought to be something more than the
think j shall let Edwin go"
This is the extremely common case of a
girl who is in love, but does not know it.
She is of calm temperament. She has
lived a secluded and sheltered lie, and
she has cherished in her dreams vision
OF something more eXuberant and more
romantic than the feeling with which
Edwin has inspired her. The chances
are if she gives her lover up that he Will
not return, and when left alone there
viii come over her vain Lodgings and
regrets. 1t is in Woman's nature, per-
haps in human nature, to sigh for the
unattainable. II Dorothy dismisses Edwin
the probability is that his vanity viii re-
ceive a severe blow. from which he will
not easily recover. In the rebound he Will
meet another girl and presently forget
his first love Dorothy may spend years
IN SplnSterhOOd. never again finding any
one who suits her as Edwin did.
1 do not know that either girls or men
as such are disposed to fickieness. There
are girls who seem unable to be stead
fast 10 a lover out of sight.
EaN mt cd TO larry
WIZ, should in the nature of things re-
main WINS fiancee even should the con-
tinent stretch itself between them. But
l have known an INSTANCE like this; A
young civil engineer a man of magnifi-
cent talent and admirable character was
engaged 10 a beautiful young woman.
who apparently returned his devotion to,
the fullest extent. The time for their
marriage was not yet set, and she was
enjoying the pretty distinction that be-
longs to an engaged girl-BViIl always at,
her service and her highest wishes, irl--
his power \ business opening took him
10 South America for year On leaving
dearest friend TO take his place, so far
as escort duty was concerned with
Gladys. whom he was leaving broken
hearted. The chum agreed to do his
best, and so well did he perform the obli-
cations he assumed that before the year
was over Gladys wrote a penitential let
ter TO win, returning his ring and break
ing her engagement. She married Wits I
friend, and Win was left lamenting,
1t would seem that propinquity has a
great deal to do with falling in love and
that girls especially are at the mercy of
time and favorring chance and circum-
stances.
A girl is more likely to become the bride
OF a neighbours son whom she meets
every day and knows very well. than of
an equally excellent man who lives in the
next town and whom she sees less fire.
quently. She grows used TO the idea that
the neighbOrS son presents. and gives
herSet more Willingly 10 him than to a
stranger. Very happy marriages have
taken place between young people who
have attended college together recited in
the same classes, and seen each other
in the, ordinary garb of everyday life.
1 wish could persuade girls every
where not TO give themselves too readily /
or too lightly TO a man who cCnfesses (
TO having had checkered past or TO one
whose habits are not irreproacha bic. Ro-
mantle girls are attracted to the type of
man who has dallicd with evil or who !
has fallen into intemDerance, or some