Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-11-26

Besides you never know upon what err
rand any one is coming, and 1t quite as
often turns out that the stranger mas a
favor to confer and not one to ask. You
always are on display. and somebody knows
you II you do not know them. The woman
standing al the credit window whom you
never saw before and whose good offices
are the last that you can imagine yourself
wanting, turns out to be the only one
around who can identify you and promptly
steps UP to do It, Just In proportion as we
are prominent in dress, looks. manner or
occupation there are a dozen who know
us and have a line upon our purposes and
characteristics to one whom we have time
to estimate for ourselves.
The Door
Always Is open to involuntary communi-
cation and, no matter how fair we speak,
the strongest influences which we exert are
the insensible ones
A woman with little means who enter
tanned party of women at luncheon after
preparing most of it herself and instructing
unaccustomed maid, complimented her
upon the way she had waited on table.
Il felt nervous at first" said the girl.
but when l saw you sitting there looking
so perfectly happy and serene, as if it never
had entered your head that could make a
mistake, forgot that there was anything
to be afraid of"
The truth was this woman had laid the
cares ana stresses behind her when she
laid off the apron of cooks assistant. and
from that time She gave herself over to the
radiant happiness which she felt In enter
tanning her friends
1t is so with all the mental forces of
strong personality and 1t is by absorbing
and radiating those which she would dis
semnate through her household that a
woman has the best chance to make it
what she will.
She who shows happiness and good spirits
transfers more real help to those who are
dear to her than if she spent life of sac
rifces for them. Her confidence that her
husband is the most wonderful man that
has happened is the passing along of some
thing tangible which is going to be a sup
port to him. Her skeptical disbelief in evil
report is a power which breaks down evil
dence and which helps the one who doubts
to retain his faith.
The different phases of optimism are the
most practical power with which any one
can come in contact and she who does not
keep them near by neglects the most potent
force she has for managing and lettering
her home and those belonging TO her.
Even
The wish to be kind is not reason weighty
enough for answering a squarely put invi-
taton with a half promise. 1t proves any
thing but kindness to the one who gives 1t,
and she who has had nothing more than an
observing acquaintance with those who
know will gauge the held back answer as
coming from one not of them
There IS no way in which people are
placed so accurately socially as in their de-
gree of defniteness with a definite invita-
ton, Sometimes the Honized person pro-
longs the uncertainty as to whether he VIII
be able to accept, or accepts without know
ing as TO whether he will be able to make
good but it is almost certain TO turn out
that he has been so situated that the art
handling social n
him.
1t was Lord Dudley who said that the
most unpunctual persons he ever knew were
two distinguished brothers. For" he said,
IF you asked Robert for Wednesday at
YOU got Charles on Thursday at s." AS 1t
turned out, though these brothers were dis
tingulshed, they had not been so always.
That q decided refusal Is a long way
ahead of half assent in the eyes of any
prospective hostess is proved by the
promptness with which the efficient enter
tainer accepts the former with an offer
either to postpone the affair or to renew
the invitation at another time. IF she does
not do this and the disappointment is per-
sonal, It does not take a large amount of
aplo1nb to say or at least to infer that you
hope she will ask you again.
That
Idea that what we are and the way We
look is as the food we take into our
mouths was approach from the stand
point of the gourmand before 1t was by the
abstainer,
One of the great diners of the early part
OF last century wrote that careful ex-
periments had taught that succulent, dell
cate and careful living repels to a distance
and for a long time the external effects of
old age" 1t gave more brilliancy to the
skin. and more support to the muscles. he
said and those who understood eating
We're comparat lively ten years younger than
those who were strangers to the science.
II have always thought that the COM
plexion. at least, was exactly we made
II by every mouthful of food that we eat"
said a girl with the skin of baby. She
was on as strict diet as a training ath-
lete and had reached success after a long
course of experimental feeding.
The greatest scientist cannot say at what
point between that care in combinations
which the gourmand calls the science of
eating" and the diet of elimination of the
modern faddist lies the perfect nutriment,
any more readily than the beauty seeker.
With complexion and figure to register with
she ought to find the way to the perfect
body quicker than he who seeks 1t for the
wider Idea OF soul and mind building.
GRACE RILEY CLARKE.