New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1905-04-06
News AND Worzt
A CRYING CHAIR.
Way to Discipline a YOungster-
1duce TO Mothers.

AOCICC 10 NUOLu6TS.
'.E5avs a crying chair and when a child cries
~,ersstently put him IN the cE.1ng chair IN a room
alone. and tell him he may cry just long he
likes, but not where he can annoy other people
Never be cross in disciplining child. The fire
smiles and says nothing. but the burnt finger tells
,. tale Of consequences.
Never allow child to cry in the presence OF
Enother person longer than is necessary for the
hrfing Of a physical hurt to cease"
These were some of the salient points Of Mrs
tT,lia f Bates's discourse on The Vastefu Habits
Of children" at the Brooklyn Institute yesterday.
"a Complete Guide TO the Duty of Parents" might
have been a more descriptive title.
Il have seen a whole family upset for hours by
he determination Of foolish. undisciplined father
20 break the wiz OF two-and-a-half-year-ol boy
a4e is at It yet. and may yet land the boy in JAIL
which he has been building for him, stone by
tone ever since his infancy. Nothing can save the
aoy unless some good teacher gains his confidence
and affection.
aleyer punish a child; that is. never let anger
~ fl,e desire 10 make child suffer for a fault
enter into the consequences OF a transgression But
Hst every transgression carry its consequences.
IL q doll a toy or a pet is jerked or mistreated.
aet it be Immediately taken from the child
FOR BAD TEMPER
.sTe a child IS irritable and bad tempered let him
he put 70 bed alone. and told that child who is
TOO tired TO be good natured must so TO bed and
II q child persists in crying when not suffering
-,bvsioslly let him cry. but in a room alone. where
De cannot disturb others
AS 10 corporal punishment. It is difficult ques-
tion. One Of the best mothers ever knew. on the
Two or three occasions when she felt It her duty
whip her hoy gave herself blows Of the same num-
her and severity in his presence She told the boy
she knew that IN some way she deserved it, be-
cause II she had done her fun duty by him he would
not have 10 be whipped. The mental anguish and
discomfort il caused him were greater than any
. MN 17r7fr haK1o rfN-e
An unjust whipping by an angry father could
not win tear or cry from girl Of eight. But it
that Gay were planted the seeds Of resentment
against parental authority. Such whippings help
See The honesty in the eyes Of the tvvo-year-old
change into cunning and trckery Of the four-year-
old. Where has il come from? From parents or
servants The child has encountered injustice. 1t
il has no method Of seifprolecton except trickery
THE TwO-YEAR-oLD
Parents generally deserve what they receive
from their children. No judge on the bench is
keener OF what IS given and what is withheld than
the two-year-old. He gives little for little and
much for much.
i have known both boy and a girl of four
years Of age who were sent 10 The parlor 10 enter
tain callers. pending the appearance Of their
J'etent for The task because they had been accus-
TONED 70 y 9y Hhef mother This perfectly un-
this lack Of circumstances with strangers will
be money in his pocket later TO a poor bow II
win win him his welcome al COLLEGE ana enable
him some DAY 10 name his own salary A good
dancing school Is aid il this development. The
gose and charm Of many public men can De traced
taIough 539znleucs back 10 the dancing master. Re
act or poh5eness should be commended and re-
warced IN private; every act Of discOurtesy TO SER
wants or Others visited with consequences Of some
siino saw baby Of eight months make a ship
her morning rounds Te5b sc s,, EaS carried on
oourtesies and them IN turn with as much
Never discuss childs aiings. faults virtues.
s9oEs OF cute sayings IN his presence. Il makes
hin intensely se1-consciOUs The mother who tells
q ehld's transgression TO its father in the
She god to her baby HIS transgressionE sboIi5
ps - sacred between MN and her as her own are
EARNING MONEY.
From the age Of i've TN ne Is old enough for an
allowance, the child should earn every cent he
spends. All manner OF duties which tbe child
should DO. but doesn't like, should be given a
monetary value PunotuaIity neatness. both Of
Person and room. care OF clothes and bed sewing
on OF buttons. mending OF torn Rarmen4s All 4heso
Kings may be paid for This IS carrying the con-
sequence system into rewards as well as n,nisb
12ent and the child is forming habits that Vail Ia s4
should learn the of the needle and Tnsn5tn yoS
their own CLOTHES i the most admirable way to in
ne ute q tools AZ dfteen the girl should know
Sc able 10 az tie tn me same sgs the boy should
me ne nIst step from saEagery 70 barbarism ras
ne oTess tells the number OF milestones passed on
Sbs s Pan y culture what more pitiful sight
S.ns Tor the display OF elbow gloves and frocs ma
rms ~ SHY mOtheEB2 Personal adornuenf Yo- ~
pgpSte q attracting att milton has been male at
tribute since the beginning OF time, and 81 iS not
Two. -~A ~Ne1-AOOleo or
.s,s iieren should be both seen and heard at the
tsuie A. least once day. They should Learn hotb
their table manners and how TO bear an scrses Ia
- ~ tanle conversation OF their elders 1t
Ae.lher ch-lo nor adult be permitted 10 crgssc5Se
ii.LeL Io9e or service at the table any more tban
Ley would ~ the table at which they were o,,sSfs
Vata ' - ~ 10 AAauS IN pFl-
Shiloren az the age Of fourteen Ehould bava ~
gleneo 70 them by their mother the fIncfion ~
4rotscton through life. - 1--1A OesI
-oers5t me- only a small PROPORTION OF our maternal
ksLSSlts are mothers IS shown by Full TAILS an5
raT1es the prevalence of cfirne ,QrsfS. S
So!lssliion But there sre some mother IA eocb
EsaSEi avon. and Il Is for them 10 raise atfi5H
sHoalars end gathers Tor the n0Kt' '''9s