The Goodland republic. [volume] (Goodland, Kan.) 1891-1907, 1905-10-06
FOR ENGAGED GIRLS.
Dorothy Dix Warns Them Not TO Be
Too Pleased Nor Too
- Dorothv d.


(By Dorothy Dix
The second commandment Of the
engaged girl is this: Don't be too az
fectionate.
Paste this sentence on your mirrors,
where you can't miss seeing II, all We
girls who are engaged. or who ever
expect to become engaged
So shall you avoid making yourself
a figure Of fun to all behOlders, and.
above all and most important Of ali.
you shall preserve in the eyes Of your
fance that allurement of mystery and
reserve that is a wOman's most potent
charm
Lost has a most curious effect upon
a woman It causes her TO lose all
sense Of perspective and the relative
value Of things 1t goes to her brain
like much strong drink TO a mans
and makes her do fool things. and the
moi e in love she is the more idiOticai-
Y she acts and the more helpless she
becomes to grapple intelligently with
the situation
This is the reason that the women
who love little are always the most
successful in love.
Millions Of adoring sweethea-ts and
wives, who have seen the man they
worshiped forsake them for some
fate. why this thing should be- and
what was the secret Of the other
wOman's. fascination The answer is
obvious.
The loving women loved too much.
They gOrged the man on chocolate
reams, whereas the other woman
only gave him an occasional cOnfec-
lion that was half bitter and half
sweet, and that kept his appetite al
ways hungering for more
Another curious thing is that when
woman falls in love she becomes
blind to appearances. For the first
time in her life she cannot see herself
as others see her, nor how ridiculous
she appears. To this we may attri-
quite the vUlgarity known as spooniGs
I public
Emerson declares that all the world
owes a lover. So we all do, but for
/ reasOns quite different from the sem
mental ones indicated by the gentle
philosopher with the undevelOped
| sense Of humOr.
When we hear a maiden COO, ZOOS
/ iucky is oo?" to a stalwart youth on
| a street car, or observe a love sick
| couple holding hands in a theater, or
| see a clinging girl reclining upon a
| manly breast in the hot sunshine on
| The seashOre, we love them Tor the
amusement they afford US
| But as for putting ourselves in that
| .aughter-provOkng attitude-ah, no.
| T that be the effect Of Iove-heaN en-
| preserve US from it, we cry, and we
/ marvel at the unsOphistication Of a
| girl who voluntarily furnishes free
| vaudeville shows to a mOcking audi
| ence.
So don't think, girls, that when you
1 give public exhibitions Of your deyO-
| don to your Adolphus Gustavus you
| are making a touching and tender
| picture Of woman's love. You a~e
I merely living illustration Of how big
/ a chump a girl can be
Nor are you endearing yourself to
| AdOlphus Gustavus-
A man cant very well refuse to
! kiss a girl before other people il she
| proffers her lips to him, nor can lie
| decline to put his arm around her II
| she fOps over on his shoulder in pub
/ lie; but be sure he hates and lOathes
and is ashamed to do it, for men have
| a perception of the ridiculous, even If
women haven't.
The only possible excuse for love
i making in public is because one lives
where she has no other place than the
| street in which to listen and respond
| to loves sweet vows.
But if a girl has a home and a par
| lOr of her own, she should certainly
| cOnfine the lOve-making and the car
esses she feels prompted to bestOw
upon her fance to that sphere, and in
public she should, in the slang Of the
! day, ''cut it out"
Every girl desires above all things
to be a heroine Of romance to the man
she loves. She wants him 20 think Of
her as something different from the
ordinary run of women-sOmething
mystic, poetic. tantalfzing, desirable,
alluring. She wants to be the cham
payne Of his life, not the cereal cOf-
fee. Her one chance to do this is to
keep him at arms length.
There are certain laws Of love that
are as inexorable as the laws Of ma
ture, Of which they are a part
One Of these is that If a woman
should preserve the mystery OF her
love she must keep her heart yelled
If she would have a man thrill at
the touch Of her hand she must touch
his but seldom
If she would have him value her
kisses she must be as chary Of giving
them as a miser Of spending his gold
You cannot preserve illusions about
people that you know too we'll You
cannot thrill over doing things that
you have done by the hour. You cease
70 yearn for the thing that you can
have whenever you want it
Everything is desirable in proper
ton to the difficulty Of obtaining It
The edelweiss is really a most insight
hcant flower that looks like a piece Of
canton flannel, but men risk their lives
for il because il grows in almost in
accessible places.
These are facts that it behoOyes the
engaged girl to lay to heart The only
way to keep her love from becoming
a twice-tOld tale is not to tell il over
too many times The only way -
prevent herself from becoming COM
mOnplace to her hance is never to let
him break down too many fences nor
give him all the keys to her heart
There is nothing else in the world
that a man respects in a woman as
much as reserve or that fascinates
him so much 1t is this that makes
demonstratfve affection on her par
toward her sweetheart worse than
crime. It is bad taste and a blunde--
For half a kiss under the rose
man has died. From 200 kisses IN
broad light OF day he has turned and
ned in disgust
The first time girl gives her hanee
an honest, hearty smack at the front
door as he comes to call upon her she