Okolona messenger. (Okolona, Miss.) 1900-current, 1905-11-01

ley all che blame npOn young men who Consider
that mabrimOny wculd not only take awag their fpee
dom, but rob them u what they regard indispens
able pleasures In which two cannot share beCanee O
Ithe expeBse.n The writer further impaaes the hap
leE Young man upon her caastC gOoseqUill by aOcus
ing him of spending as much money upon slperau
Ous amusements as would keep Q wite, as though
the matrimonial problem were one merely Of select
ing new amusement. M
Deeper and more sinister feeling is shown, how.
ever, BY this languishing flower Of womanh0Od 81
this paragraph: ssBut what about the thousands O
young women who are eligible in every way to an.
dertake the responsibilities Of matEimenyl It is
lamentable fact that though We possess domestic
virtues and not few accomplishments, thOugh we
are viking to share mans burdens minister to his
wants and participate in his sorrowsas we'll az his
Joys, We are not sought after in marCiege. We are
certainly not to blame for the falling marriage mar.
ket. This must BE asCrihed to the bliHdnees, and,
u you WILL the stupidity of yOnng men."
The indictment iH seweIe. No dOMOt the sap
pressed resentment Of many years is expressed in
this final Outburst Of indignation against the iriR0,
lOUs, selfish and pleasure depFaYed sen. But there
is another side, and this Is presented by average
yonnk man thus: The position Of this daughter Of
EF0dB hardly fair. She should remember that
since time began the same competition OF wOmen
against amusements, II IL may be 81 crudely puk
has been going on IL ~ not probable that the
yonng men Ot today ere any more addicted -
mmasemOnta than their aMth8rs Wero. ane ang less
desiroug Of having homes OF their own. Perhaps
tAe girls themselves have contributed materially to
present subordinate conditions. Modern girls are
essentially dierenttrom their mothers and grandma
tAers. Today girls have acquired more expensive
tastes and peasnCes They born with high
matrimonial Ambitions whch are usually encouraged
and fostered BY their mothers. They 60 I'm sOcety,
and there they meet many yOung men who are lead
ing apeDd thrift and buter6y lives and these girls
are apt TO learn TO measure oil men by such stand
ard. After such women iritter away the most pre-.
Gloss PEARS and remain unmarried they lay the
blame on the young men who have occupied rather
obscure society positions because OF early lack Of
ready money the rigid exacti0ns Of their employ
ments. These men may have gained g position
where they can afford household establishments,
but too late TO be considered tsCatCh' among the
younger women still pursuing their butterflies.
These young men who have not been inclined to at-
tend dances and spend their time and money In
frivolous enjoyments are blamed for not marrying,
when IL ID alaAOst Impossible for them TO meet
eligible young women, and II they did meet them,
the deficiencies Of these candidates n the ways Of
ssociety" would form bar against an appreciation
not be blamed for hesitating TO marry women who
turned TO them after the gamut Of social
with tho freshness and youth sacri6ced ia younger
and more frivolous company.
Thus briefly We have the two sides 70 the prOpOsi-
tioD. Il muet be confessed that the young man has
made good case. The argument may not cover the
entire ground It probably does not but IL is high
" interesting in establishing too widely divergent
views Cf the same problem.
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