Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1905-08-12
HOW LOVE IS KILLED.
Commandments for the Home That Will
Make Peace and Happiness
q Fact.

Here are loves commandments: Thou
shalt have no other love but me. .. Trust
me all in all, or not at all. 3-Thou shalt
not dull me with safety. 4-Wound me
not with cruel words.
| The fourth commandment of love is
! this; wound me not with cruel words"
| Would you be loved? Speak only gentle
and pleasing things to the one whose
affection You would gain and keep.
Would you love?-Alas none of us
! can defend our hearts from speeches
! that stab them to the core.
1t is Il little curious that the tongue,
| that is the chief instrument in winning
| love, is the thing that oftenest Stays il.
| This fact is always n bewildering grief
and surprise beca use it is as if the sword
| that had fought for Cupid was suddenly
and traitoTously turned against him.
The first time that we discover that
| the lips that have dropped honey can
lso drop gall is in what is known as a
! lovers quarrel and which is popularity
supposed to add Zest and flavor TO court
ship. Women, who, despte their need
to know, are not oyerwise in matters of
| the affections, hold to tbs view of the
matter. and instead of avoiding lovers
quarrels they provoke them.
The bitter sweet pam of misunder-
| standing, the pNclIe0leuL Oh cFlulllldlIOllS
| and recriminati0nS, and the fearful JOY
! of kissing and making up all appeal to
woman's emotional nature, and she can
not see but what the patched up faith Is
! just as good as that which had never
| been strained and broken.
| In this she is mistaken.
Love that has been tainted with doubt,
love that has been bruised with hard
words, love that has had to forgive or
| be forgiven, is never quite the same
| again. The wound will heal, but the
scar remains, and the first lovers quar-
rel strips from love a glamour and Il
radiance that nothing can give back to it.
The second wound that the tongue
! deals love is given by those misguided
! PEOPLE who believe that the inner con
! sciousness of affection gives one IA right
| To tell any other person home truths.
Never was a more fatal error than
this.
Criticism we may be able to stand
/ from strangers for whose opinion we do
i not greatly care, but every word of dis
! praise from those we love and i'll whose
eyes we would shine, is like a drop of
acid that burns to the bone.
Yet, knowing this of themselves. there
| are men and women foolish enough to
| tell each other of their faults, and still
expect to be loved and cherished. Vain
expectation. Faithful" says the Good
! Book. ''are the wounds of n friend. .
! They are also fatal to love, and there is
no surer and quicker way for couple,
whether they are engaged or married,
to shoe love out of the window than for
them to tell each other Of their little
! iGiosyncrasies and pecuharitles that
might be altered for the better.
If Romeo had said to Juliet that, Of
! course. he wouldn't have mentioned the
matter except that he loved her SO much
that he felt that it was his duty to tell
her of her faults in order that she might
| correct them, but that she ought to dress
| iii a quieter and less conspicuous way.
and break herself Of the habit of hang
ing over balconies Mt night. and if Juliet
! had observed to Romeo that only her
love and desire for his welfare induced
her to mention his faults to him. but
that she was really afraid that he drank
too much and was fond of dissipated
| companions, and that she did hope that
he Would break off with that brawling
! Mercutio. who was always getting him
| into tr0uble-why, be sure, there would
have been no double suicide of two ador-
ing young people who could not live
! without each other.
For we can all live mighty happily
and nightly contented without the peo-
pie who remind US of our weaknesses
| and our shortcomings.
The third wound in the side of love is
the domestic spat. This is violent form
of the lovers quarrel The lovers quar-
rel is a sparring match with gloves, but
the domestic spat is fight to n finish
with bare knuckleS.
In il nothing and nobody is spared Ii
is the desecration of all that is holy and
sacred in love. 1t is the SCATTERING of
ideals Il is the tearing down of ones
gods, and no matter how much one may
try to replace them. il can never be done
| The pedestal on which they stood has
been broken, and forever after they will
be rickety. and ready to topple over AT
the slightest jostle. Besides. nobody can
worship again the thing that they have
once seen i'll the dust at their feet.
To the man anu woman who wish tC
. love each other-whoSe very happiness
: is dependent on their loving each other
since they are tied together in the bond,
. of matrlmouy-there can be no folly
equal To the madness of INDUCING in
family SpatS. Yet in The ma iority OF
:. households they are as much n matter of
: course as breakfast or dinner. aud those
who thus sin agajusr love excuse il 10y
saying that husband and wife forgive
and forget.
!, They who offer this apology for theil
: crime stUltity themselves Nobody ever
=, tor@Nes or torletS. In temper. as IN
- VINE. there Is truth, and in the heat OF
=, passion one flashes out the bitter aeon
. Satioh the Sc1thlnS criticism. the ran
~ NlnG disappointment and diSiliuSj0u that
w Polcy ana prudence bid one hide in sanel
IL moments.
Us THUS is what makes the excuse Il don'r
mean what | said when | was angry" :,
- Iu'te. We all know TO a ghaStly certain
" Y that 1t Is when people are angry that
they say what they do mean
10. lie last and deadleSt wound of nj
Ihat the tongue deals love is uNggipg
" No affection, no matter. how great. sur.
- wives thar, Worst still. it is love done