Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-05-21
All Successful Lives

Are those that are worked out in a few
general principles. The first broad rule Is
ID have an object. The objects of life are
as numerous as is a man. one man desires
wealth, one power, one fame, another re-
forms, another only asks affection and the
woman he loves. Whatever object a man
wishes to secure is quite possible of real
izaton.
And the first rule toward securing 1t is
that the object must never for an instant
be lost sight of or forgotten. The man who
never forgets the end of his journey does
not stray far to the right hand or to the
left. He may not make bee line, but all
his steps bent in general direction
because he purposes to arrive at his des-
tination. So the man who never loses sight
OF the object he holds in life bends every
circumstance. even the smallest, in the gen
eral direction of his life's ambition. He fol-
lows this second rule almost inVoluntarily
and finds it but a logical outcome of his
adoption of the first
The third rule is part of the two others
and is most important. Man must never
allow himself deliberately to place a STUN
bling block or an obstacle in his own way.
Obstacles and stumbling blocks there will
be doubtless. Let them be placed there by
others. These are to be overcome But
never can he overcome the mistake which
implies deliberate desertion of the chosen
object.
Sometimes
AS age comes to people there is a slough
ing away of the small courteses or charms
of manner. Yet the younger folks who OBJ
serve such lapses of manner may, many of
them, even now be forming habits that age
will confirm and which will prove quite as
Objectionable as those which today they
critically notice The way" of youth be-
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So after all, are not the habits of others
who are older than we excellent object les
sons TO us who are daily forming habits?
They may teach us to avoid the small
lapses of good breeding, the little needless
tricks IN which we are sometimes tempted
to indulge.
One woman on the shady side of fifty has
way OF shaking her foot always during
church service. Through hymns. prayers
ana sermons her shapely foot beats a light
tap, tap, tan on the floor of her pew a
sec mlnsly harmless diversion, yet one that
TN eatens to drive to nervous despair some
of her near neighbors. AS one advances in
years 1t is only too easy to acquire nervous
tricks which after awhile become almost
inCurable habits
When one is no longer young she is not
always schoolable, and young people are
TO respectful to attempt il. With each of
us rests the responsibility of keeping our
manners to the mark of perfect breeding
Possibly
We do not always forgive as we hope to
be forgiven. Perhaps we do not always ap-
pTeciate how hard it is for some people to
say Il am sorry" Perhaps there is vim
dictive element in many of us that holds
out against our more generous impulses.
Certain it is that many of us find il hard
to grant such full and free pardon that an
onense that has been committed shall be to
US as though it had never been.
10 apologize can never be pleasant task.
One may feel that a certain speech was out
or order but 1t takes vast moral and spir-
itual courage TO go TO the person whom the