The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1905-04-07
STOKES BRIDES OWN STORY,
SHE KEEPS OPEN HOUSE TO TELL
1T FREELY.
Really = Christian IN Spirit and Long
Has Deen-Doesn't HAnker for society
Her Views on kissing and Unity
With YOUNG Mr.. stokes FNpLfned,

cratic settlement worker in New York,
az he likes to be called, decided yesterday
to deny interviews, photographs and pho
tographic slttings TO nobody. AL day
she kept open house, frankly telling re-
porters the story OF her life and romance.
People have asked me- Miss Pastor
told THE Sun reporter, whether 1 would
turn Christian. don't need 70 do that
am already and long have been Chris
tian in spirit II there ever was one. Wasnt
Jesus Jew and weren't many Of his apostle;
Jews9'
Miss Pastor Is a blonde Of the Jewish
type, with a ripple Of gold In her hair. She
has a low forehead and wears her hail
in what Is called the Greoian fashion. HeI
eyes are act wide apart, her complexion Il
good and she has the large good naturec
mouth 80 frequently seen in persons Of en-
thusastio and kindly nature. She was
reminded that for all her Christianity Of
spirit she was employed by the 'eWfI
Daily Nsps to give advice to young Ju-
daism.
MY writings for the Jewish paper, said
she, were Of a purely morslistic kind.
advised young people TO DO deeply religious
Since they were Jews 1 wanted them to be
good Jews in order that they might be good
men and women. used 70 read the Chris-
tan Advocate and the Sunday School Times,
to the wonder Of my colleagues In the Of
fee. That was because / saw beauty and
sublimity in them and always had a lean
ing to them.
EOn one occasion, and on one only, I ad
vised a Jewish girl, who wrote TO me for
counsel against marrying a Christian
But that was not, as some cay, because /
am opposed 20 inteTma rriage. II was
simply because II was obvious that the girl
didn't love the man, whoever he was, and
! was always opposed 10 loveless marriages.
For instance, I spoke approvingly Of Israel
zangwill's marriage 20 the Gentle girl,
Edith Ayrton,"
Her past life Miss Pastor sketched with
light and shade, but mostly shade, because
Il has been a hard one. Her mother sat
by, and when the story reached the more
sombre periods the two women exchanged
sympathetic glanoes. The elder woman
told the earlier part Of the story,
When my daughter was years old
We emigrated from Russia Poland to Lon
first, and later in Red Lion Court, My
husband was q oapmaker. Rose went TO
the Bell Lane Free School, In which Zangwill
was a pupil and later a teacher. Then my
husband died. All, that was a dreadful
periodl'
THAT was a dreadful PERIOD echoed
Miss Pastor, taking up the narrative. Il
left school and did some sewing, as much
a. | could, for was scarcely 10, Then we
emigrated 20 America Cleveland. That
was fourteen years ago There 1 went 70
work In a cigar factory and learned to roll
cigars. IL is glorious 70 work with your
hands in a factory. Once your hand is
trained you can think the whole day
She wrote and managed here columns OF
noralistic talks under such heads as The
Observer Just Between Ourselves, Girls,
and Ethics OF the Dustpan.'
Incidentally she did reporting. One Of
the first assignments she had was 10 inter-
view her husband-to-be, 20 find out whether
OF not Robert Hunter, who had married
Miss Stokes, was going 10 start a rival TO
the University settlement. In writing the
interview she expressed admiration for
Mr.. Stokess frank face and democratic
demeAnor.
She and Mr.. Stokes now say that love
ct first sight was their trouble. And yet,
Mr.. Stokes added yesterday, he might
never have seen his Rose again II she had
not come TO the settlement as 4 worker,
which happened in this way:
As soon as she settled in her work she
organized girls club at her house. But
as all the girls were members Of the other
clubs in the University Settlement, she
soon moved her club there also. From
that time on she and Mr. Stokes met often.
And / soon grew 10 worship him. said
the young woman yesterday, as do now.
Both declared yesterday that from the
first the union Of their souls was so inevita-
bic and 40 complete that there was no
question Of marriage, proposal, engage
ment OF any OF the usual steps.
But I know we are going TO be very
happy said Miss Pastor, 'for our ideals
run along the same plane. Our hearts are
in this settlement work, and we will con-
tinue 1t as earnestly after our marriage as
before, though we probably shsnt be seen
90 much about the settlement. ] have
no ambition TO be rich or to shine in lofty
social circles
The Ghetto has been greatly stirred by
news Of the match. In the Jerish Daily
Nens Office the clerks exchanged jokes
about their approaching connection with
millionaires through the marriage Of their
former colleague, Miss Pastor The edi-
torial stan put It's files at the disposal Of
reporters and pointed out with pride Miss
Pastors contributions. They mostly deal
with love and marriage. To parents who
marriages for their daughters without
soul attraction OF anything Miss Pastor
addresses this apostrophe;
Alas blind parents, do you know why
there is 20 much mlssryy11Waay there are 10
survive are hall deSdS II Is because your
&c IKE fatheTs Of those children Is Because S
you would join two beings together whom
nature put asunder.
Speaking Of kissing In another place, she
maintains:
A kiss without love is PROCLAMATION. II
seems 20 me nothing so degrades az kisses
given without love.
She devised this list Of 'don'ts' for girls:
Don't speak untruthfully: don't get angry:
don't frown; don't fear, don't drink intoX-
ioants don't withhold the kind word. don't
depend upon others 70 make you happy. but
try 20 make others 80; don't forget that wealth
Of character IL far above all other riches.
Il mean 70 write a good deal after we
are married. said Miss Pastor yesterday,
both prose and verse;
Verse is, 80 to speak. her long suit. Il
have lots Of unpublished verse she said
lRuRhinRly.
A great deal has been published in tho
JtvSh Daily NeVs. Here is her poem on
. Love and Fame:
gHI'DERT CAN'T HAVE ClIVF