Warren sheaf., 1905-05-11
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MAIDENs AND YOUTHS WANT
SIGNS AND WONDERS.

Exacting Demands Of Some Youths
and Maidens-Perfection Not to Be
Found in This World ~ Love
"Thrillso-Some Safe Rules emo
body Can Love You Properly Who
Does Not Love Honor More
copyright, 1905, by Joseph B. Bowles.)
Three young women and two young
men have recently inquired rather in
tensely concerning the symptoms of
love-
Sometimes l think am in love-"
said one. "A day or two later I am
convinced that am not. l see so
many faults in the one for whom I
supposed that l cherished deathless
affection that doubt it's reality, and
conclude that l had better keep away
from her"
Another, in similar strain, says
that he has heard a great deal about
that state of mind, or soul, in which
the adored object seems simply per
feet" He admits that he has liked
certain girls, and has run the risk
of making nuisance of himself by
haunting their homes two or three
times each week, for sometimes
months together: but as for this &C.
static condition in which a girl seems
perfect, l never have had it-and so
l suppose I have never been actually
in hot ho fo1
louder than l would like to have my
wife talk. Or that she is careless
about her hands-and I could never
abide wife who did not keep her
hands perfectly. Or she laughs too
much. Or she is not religious -and,
though l am not religious myself,
want my wife to be so."
There is reasonable youth for
you! But, listen. Here is girl who
is quite as exacting:
There is a young man who comes
often to see me. He is shOrt-and
had set my heart on marrying a tall
man. But l could put up with that
if he would only jump more quickly
to pick up things that l drop-or to
open the door or get chair for me.
There are often three or four young
men in the parlor when come down
and this young man let's the others
do all the little things for me.
have purposely given him chances to
hand me book or paper, or look up
q word in the dictionary or pass
me a wrap-but every time it is an
other man who takes the trouble for
melville he calmly waits. OF course,
he has to do it, when we are alone to-
gether-but he does it in way which
seems to say: You make a great deal
of bother I have heard that he is
lazy and selfish. When l think ofkthis,
l hate him. But when he comes again,
and see his face and hear him Talk.
like him again.
A young woman who has recently
become happily engaged to be marrleG
has younger sister who, though at
fectionate, loves to tease.
One evening at reception; though
both of these blissful engaged young
people were present. the young man
could not find his fiancee. With that
singular obtuseness which sometimes
accompanies a too great earnestness
he passed the group two or three times
without seeing her-his gaze every
time rowing past her, as he anxiously
peered into the distance. e
The young sister was merciless to
him. a
s'If you had really been in love with
her. she laughed, ''you could never
have passed her in that way. You
ought to have had a thrill, or some
thing, which would have told you
when you were near her"
A few days later at a large wedding
the "beloved object" as member of
the nuptial party, Unexpectedly passed
up the aisle near which the young
man was sitting beside the saucy
sister. AS he saw her he gave an in
voluntary start.
''That is it," his tormentor assured
him. 'Then you had the thrill It
nearly finished the sash of my best
white gown, which you grasped as you
thrilled-let us charitably suppose un-
consciously. But begin to see that
love may be awakening in your heart.
Only next time do not recklessly try
to hold on by my sash.
There may be something in this
lively young woman's contention. But
not every soul, in this utilitarian age,
is capable of thrills. Others do not
recognize them when they occur. The
thrill is hardly a safe and sure guide.
And, alas! the thrill is often said to
occur when you do not approve Of it,
and would not fall in love for the
world with the one who arouses it.
Such thrills are said to be due to
"hypnotism," or magnetism" or
some other kind Of occult '.ism."
Generally, perhaps, they arise from
some attraction Of physical beauty or
grace, which the senses acknowledge
against the strong protest Of the soul.
AS very broad and general propo-