Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1905-03-14

are often led on the lonely heights OF qulo'
self-saerificing herolSm
lust as the .happieSt and most honof apis
and most useful task that can DE set any
man is TO earn enough for the support ot
his wife and family, for the bringing up Ittlu
starting in life of his children, SO tile NJ
important, the most honorable anu u e'ii ~ 60
ia sk which can be set any woman is 10 pe d
GOOD and wise mother in home marheo ny
self-respect and mutual forbearance' py WI
inpness TO perform duty and by reIusdl "
sink into seif-ndulgence or aVoio llis't ,i,.s
entails effort and self-sacrifice; ot couise,,
there are exceptional men ana exceptioiiai
women who can do and ought 10 w ,nut -.
more than this, who can lead ana ousht ~
lead great careers of outside usefulness III
addition to-not as substitutes Tor - thei
home work; but l am not speaking VI sA
ceptions; am speaking of the primary uu-
ties; am speaking OF the average clI,ne,,
the average men ana women VIM ~ w
Inasnuch as 1 am speaking to an assem-
hlape of mothers shall have nothing what
ever to say in praise of an easy NE. iouI
;s tho work which Is never ended. NO
mother has an easy time, and most motners
have very hard times; and yet "nat 'iue
mother would barter her experience VI JOy
and sorrow in exchange for lie OIL colu
selfshness which insists upon perpetual
amusement and the avoidance OF care, anu ~
which often finds its fit dwelling place ~
some fat designed to furnish WIN .,e go,
possible expenditure of effort the maXlnluhl
Of comfort and of luxury, but In when there
Is literally no place for children?
Entitled to Respect.
The woman who is a good wife, good
motber Is entitled to our respect as is no one
else. Int she is entitled to 1T only because,
and ca long as she Is worthy of it. Effort
and self-sacriflce are the law of worthy HE
| for the man for the woman; though
neither the effort nor the self-sacrlhce may
| be the same for the one as for the oiner.
1 do not in the least believe in the patient
Griselda type of woman, in the woman who
| submits to gross and long continued III
treatment, any more than L beleVe IN
man who tamely submits to wrongful as-
gression. No wrongdoing is so abhorrent as
Wrongdoing by man toward the Wl1e ana
the children who should arouse every ten
| der feeling in his nature. SelfiShneSS to-
ward them, lack of tenderness toward them,
| lack of consideration for them, above all.
| brutality in any form toward Them should
arouse the heartiest scorn and indignation
| in every upright soul.
l believe In the woman's keeping her self
respect Just as / believe in the mans doing
So / believe in her rights just much
| 1 believe in the mans, and indeed little
more; and l regard marriage as a partner
ship. in which each partner is in honor
bound to think of the rights OF the other
as we'll as of his or her own. But 1 think
that the duties are even more important
than the rights: and in the long run 1 think
| that the reward IS ampler and greater for
duty well done. than for the insistence upon
individual rights, necessary though this
| too must often be. Your duty Is hard
your responsibility great, but greatest of
| all is your reward. do not pity you in
| the least. On the contrary 1 feel respect
and admiration for you.
Into the woman's keeping is committed
| the destiny of the genera tons to come after
us. In bringing up your children you
| mothers must remember that while it is
essential to be loving and tender it is no
| less essential to be wise and firm Foolish
atol affnc mn mi ha traa tod
| interchangeable terms; and besides train
| ing your sons and daughters in the softer
and milder virtues you must seek to give
them those stern and hardy qualities which
in after life they will surely neeG Some
children will go wrong in spite of the best
training; and some will go right even when
their surroundings are most unfortunate;
nevertheless. an immense amount depends
upon the family training. If you mothers
through weakness bring up your sons to
be selfish and to think only of themselves,
you will be responsible for much sadness
among the women who are to be their
wives in the future. If you let your daugh-
tiers grow up idle, perhaps under the mis-
taken impression that as you yourselves
have had to work hard they shall know
only enjoyment, you preparing them
to be useless to others and burdens to
themselves. Teach boys and girls alike
that they are not to look forward to lives
spent in avoiding difficulties, but to lives
spent in overcoming difficulties. Teach
them that work, for themselves and also
for others, Is not curse. but a blessing;
seek to make them happy, to make them
enjoy life but seek also to make them
face life with the steadfast resolution to
wrest success from labor and adversely.
and to do their whole duty before God and
to man Surely she who can thus train her
sons and her daughters is thrice fortunate
among women.
Many Denied Blessing.
There are many good people who are de-
MED the supreme blessing of children, and
for these we have the respect and sympathy
always due to those who. from no fault Of
their own, are denied any of the other great
blessings of life But the man or woman