The daily morning journal and courier., 1904-07-29
PICK WIFE IN SUMNER.
GIRLS BEST STUDIED DURING
 THE VACATION TIME.
Then if Ever an Observer May see Them at Their worst-Advice of
 Man Happily MarrIed-chnraeter
RevelaetiOn.

sIt's all very well to joke about sum- mer firtations and summer girls" re- marked the prosperous looking business man, laying down his newspaper with a smile; but, all the same the happiest marriages I know of were planned in the good old summer time, or to be exact, during a summer vacation and at a summer resort.
 My advice to any young man look ing for wife is this: Seek her at a summer resort, where there are plenty of girls A man can get to know girl better in one week during summer vacation than during a whole winters acquaintance in New York. mean of course, the average busy man.. not the idler.
 How. for instance, is a business man, whose eourtship is confined to. calling at girls home of an evening and taking her to places of amuse- ment, going to find out the worst about her-supposing there should be a hworst? The fact is he cannot and does not see her often enough with her family or in company with her women friends to form any correct estimate of her character.
 Until the pair are engaged, the wooer it may be has seldom or never been asked to an informal meal or en- tered behind the daring room of family life. One of my friends told me not long ago that up to the time he ap- preached his prospective father-in-law to ask him for dozen words.
 Father and daughter, it seems never could get on we'll together. Conse- quently, they tried to keep out of each others way-a circumstance of which my friend was ignorant until after, the wedding. Now he wishes he had some points about that young woman's dis position sooner.
 There is a general belief that a girl has small chane to size up mans disposition before marriage. and be- lfeve that is so. I am just as sure. though, that may many a man marries quite in the dark as to the real dis position of his bride.
 There is no better place than sum lner resort in which to size up a girls character, provided man does not at first put on binders.
 t'Ther are men whose fancy is caught by the trun of an ankle, meeting pair of eyes, the roundness of chin. They don't see. don't care to see anything else; and so long as they are not look ing for wife that sort of binders is not serious.
 T used to be a bit that way myself. When I made up my mind, though, to settle down, it was different. took off the binders. At the same time took also a months vacation and decided to spent it at a lake resort which I knew was just running over with nice girls and had the usual scarcity of men.
 'sYes, I got there. But l am ahead of my story.
 The morning after arrived saw the prettiest creature on the piazza, a blonde girl done up in the loveliest frock you know the kind-thin and airy, with lots of lace ruff1es all over it, and long, trailing ends of ribbon in the back. She had golden hair. the real thing, roseleas complexion and regu- lar features. She was picture and no mistake. Said to myself, T am in luck.
 Like flash had vision of her walking lip the aisle of St. Thomas church in wedding gown. Then I noticed that beside her most of the girls who came trooping out of the hotel to make off in the direction of the lake Hooked quite commonplace and that there were several young men hanging an her vicinity, was envious. Before the day was out had an in xroduction and for nearly week I seemed to have the inside track in her favor. By that time, however I had got over caring whether she favored Rae or not, for the reason that I was not wearing brnders. What hap pened? Nothing in particular, but good deal in general.
 II learned that the surprising fresh- ness of the numerous airy gowns the girl wore was due to the stern fact that her mother spent most of her days shut up in her room ironing, smoothing, pressing out, inch by inch. rufffes, streamers and puffs. After one wear ing the ironing was done all over again. An alcohol stove and fiatirons had been brought along for that purpose
 The girl herself never attempted to help her mother, and the person who discovered and gave out this interest," ing information added that the girl ac-6 c9PIeQ sdll lnlS dILeullOn as d matter or course and never seemed to feel called upon to lift a hand for her mother who often looked nervous and i'll.
 aHer selfshness didn't stop there, either. She was never ready to fill a gap or to do a good turn to one of the other girls, and she did not hesitate to snub fellow unmercifully if he forgot to carry out one of her wishes or if he divided his attentions between her and any other girl. One put up with almost anything from her because of her beauty.
 "One evening, I remember, she re- fused me the second dance on the pro- gramme because I hadn't asked her to dance the first. That day an old friend of my mothers had arrived, bringing along her niece-a girl I had never met --and out of politeness felt myself bound to ask her for the first dance Whew! how the beauty resented it.
 Perhaps had been wearing binders uu