The Fairmont West Virginian. (Fairmont, W. Va.) 1904-1914, 1904-06-16

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1881 Lyn nm "a bbott D. d.; editor
the outIook. 's.s and a clergyman
q ufS dis inction and long experience, re-
B cent? Fecetxed the following letter
from a distressed wornar n lie printed
a tie 0utlooK, together with his
Il a1asw Hi s reply has stirred up a
sfIetter was a fol lows:
III great distress Of mind and
heart, and knowing not where to seek
flor hei ps IA Eirnpelled TO turn 10 yct1-
So Iy husband and have lived together
Tor many years OF happy welded life,
mot nc thoSIt trials and severe ones,
Is f.s happy IN our relationship. He
finally thrown into the company
woman whose Dersonality soon
took d strong hold on him. She was
Il woman Of wealth and station, but
sic and unhappy in her married life,
my hns bands sympathies went
u heSsoughtfsto cheer and brighten her
and III ime her heart clung to
him. and before he was aware of his
danger he realized that he loved her
I'M know not through what compromise
with conscienc e,syet i know he strug-
& gled ne fancied he could be true to
me and still cherish her.
s. As such things usually do, in time,
came TO my knowledge, and was
\ such a blow as seemed to me would
surely deprive me of life, or reason.
Icannotf tell you the terrible feeling,
though the sun had been blotted
& cut and wandered in darkened
world Nothing seemed reaI=all a
dreadful nightmare from which must
awaken some day I have kept my I'M
Happiness from everybody, although
snaVesoften felt as though I could not
getS1Ip and face another day, and the
feeling of unreaIity is SO strong it
often seems as though it we're some
one else and not I who goes about
the routine Of life.
1--WE were a couple united by true
love-, by many 5similarities of taste
and disposition each with our faults,
IS " d. Is
both striving to live the Christian
husb band honored and loved
3aas5s al who know him, ever trying to
realize more fully the ideal of true
manhood.
can you tell how such horror
could come into such life? Is it pos
sibIe for man 20 hold two women
In his heart for he insists he loves
{ me as dearly as ever, and strives by
every tenderne to win me back to
acheerfulness. Yet truth compels him
Sto admit that that other love still
claims a place in his heart, though he
has tried to Danish it, and all inter-
Z eallrss has been broken off. Lest
yoH should receive a wrong impress
ssion$ Z must tate that their intimacy
4 love. but was entirely innocent be-
i Vond hat,
here are moments when despair
B sSuverWhelms me feel that perhaps
this passion is really the deepest,
che supreme affecticn of his life, and
4 N hat casewhat@ solution is there to
I this tragedy? Can you at least send
me some one thought to cling to IN
a those dreadful moments when l feel
ssiiKe giving up the struggle?'
Abbott's reply was as follows:
sszsa3EsssseyVfeIp a difficulty arises between
two lends it is always safe for both
Ia: ass tr11le that there is some wrong
on both sides, and it is always wise
IS; FOR each one to endeavor to discover
and correct his own fault 1t is much
easier for you to see your husbands
fauits than to see your own, bat it IS
4auch easier for yau to correct your
n own fault than to correct your hus-
Il Band' s Correcting other peoples
faults is always delicate, difficult
Y and frequently a dangerous business
what your husbands fault is in this
N caseFwe cannot judge; nor have we
s*s any advice to give him, since he has
not asked us for any. But it is easy
ossee from your letter that you are
ssspf "a morbid, if not a jealous tempeTa-
III raent. and that you have made your
Ss self mentally sick by dwelling on cir
81 enmst ances until you have exagger-
4 ated them and probably misinterpret-
M ed them
IL RE = on say Il at your husbands ac-
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