The Newtown bee., 1904-02-12

& Co., Blnghamton, N. [" DC SNe anc mention this paper.
 Don't make any mistake, but re- member the name, SwamS-ROOt, Dr Kilmer's Swamp-Root, and the address. BinghamtOn, N. Y., on every bottle. be cared for, fed and clothed. Granted. But men-likewiss women and child redo not live by bread alone, and the life is more than raiment. We all of us know homes where the bodies of the inmates are fed and the souls and spirits go starved.
 Once upon time I knew home where everyone was happy. It was badly kept house,-from one point of view. The mother was no housekeep- CT and she knew it. There were holes in the linen, slits in the window shades, frayed spots in the carpets. The service of the table could only have been described as higgledy-pig- gledy. Yet have never known a more united family. There may have been cracks in the china, but there was none in the domestic unity. The children were loving and obedient, the father and mother were compan- ionable and charming.
 Of course, it was not because the house was in rags and splinters. It irh 1.ov rofnhn1uor1 tho fo fly peace still unbroken. But anyone who had to choose between living in such home and in a domain presided over by the kind of gorgon known as "nasty-particular" housekeeper would not have hesitated for moment. He would have preferred godliness to cleanliness and taken it at the first offer.
 Either of these illustrations is an extreme and this is what the woman who holds her own strives to avoid The middle course that has been de- scribed as golden is the end of her ef- forts.
 In order to win this she should lay to heart the truth that somethi ng must be crowded out. One woman with one head, one back, one set of nerves, hands and feet, cannot accom- plish everything. If she does, there is very little left of the woman but lot of assorted fragments and the memory of strenuous life. There are far bet ter things than these to put into the family collection. When modern sur gery reaches the point where it is pos sible to insert new backs, and replace defective nerves, woman may accom- plish all she wishes she could do and all mere man thinks she might do. Until then she must be contented to be as the Creator made her.
 There is choice in what may be crowded out. I have spoken of the advantage of the diversity of occupa- tion. A woman must not be all house. keeper lest she neglect the weightier matters of the law. She must not be all wife, for fear her children should suffer, nor should she be all mother, under penalty of making her husband feel like an imposed upon boarder in his own home. Still less should she, in her desire to keep step with the march of events outside, devote herself SO un- reservedly to Women's Clubs, Moth- ers' Meetings and Cooking Classes that her children bring themselves up by by hand and her husband finds his on- ly satisfactory gastronomic greeting at the club or the restaurant. In the ghoulish phrase of a sprightly young man, she does not wish either to keep in front with the hearse or come trail ing along at the back with the buggies.
 It is no small thing to be wife and mother and the fools who yearly rush into relation where angels might we'll fear to tread open terrifying pros pect for the future of the race. Still, the fools are not in the majority, and the greater part of the women who make mistakes do it through ignor- ance and false sense of proportion. When we start classes in girls schools for the study of perspective that is not that of drawing and a proportion that is not to be found in the arith- metics we may hope better things for the future of the nation.
 In the meantime,-"don't throw things at the performers they are doing their best" Their very best, poor things! It is not the fault of the young girl that she has not been trainedfor the great career of wifehood and motherhood that, if God is good to her, lies ahead of her. As it is, she can only do her possible.
 It is big thing when woman has learned how to make man happy, though married, how to'bring up child ren so that they will be as much con- fort as possible to their families and as little nuisance as feasible to the neighbors, to keep house so that no one but the house would suspect it did not keep itself, Ito manage a servant so that she will not look upon the mis- tress as her natural enemy, to be ready in hospitality without making it a burden, to be on good terms with the neighbors, near or far, without conde scending to peutiness, to be member of a Woman's Club withou10aying the stockings undarned,
 church without losing hen(
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