The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1904-09-07
TRAINING A HUSBAND
SO HE WILL STAY AT HOME
EVENINGS
Club Woman Asks How Many Nights
Out Husband Shall Have-if Wife
Makes Herself Agreeable Perhaps He
Won't Want Very Many

How many nights out shall man
have, asks club woman trRgicaliy.
1t depends good deal upon the man,
and somewhat upon the point of view.
If from a woman's standpoint, wife Of
aforesaid man, the mere nights he=went
out the better if he was not going to
be agreeable at home. If man wants
to go out, it would be futile to try
to keep him in. So it is safe to say
to the club woman that he ought to
have as many evenings out as he wants.
Let us hope the club woman will not
take this as meaning that wife
should be Indifferent te the number of
evenings her lord should remain at
home but in the sense of not wanting
any man to remain there against his
will The husband who is ready as
soon as he has swallowed his dinner,
to go down town or to his club after
a day spent away from his wife, well,
1t husband might as we'll go.
III is perfectly natural that man
should like to spend an evening among
men once in while. and no reasonable
woman will object to that. The only
thing that women as whole object TO,
ts his wanting to rush out some
where without her every night or even
five nights out of the week. But the
very wise woman will say nothing, and
make herself so agreeable that gong
out will never come into his mead
Scoiding and nagging never did any
good in the world, and nagglng wives
drive men out in the evening. Miser-
able homes presided over by cross, I'M
tidv wives, have a great deal to do
with the Subway tavern, its being
called the Door mans club and having
Bishop Potter open it with prayer. IL
the wives of men who drink changed
their tactics somewhat it might pc
closed with prayer. Give the poor man
as comfortable a home as possible and
greet him with smile and perhaps
he will give up going to the tavern.
1t is easy to say, however, have a
pleasant home, but many are too poor
to make their homes in the least at
tractive. This terrible problem cannot
be solved even by women's CLUBS.
But if man belongs to a. club II
would not be unreasonable in him IL
he spent an evening or two week
there To be sure, one would think a
man would like to spend his evenings
at home, considering how little OF ms
time he is able to be there. But some
times a woman marrieS mans man,
who likes to be with men, and cares
nothing for society. 1t is safer lar, TO
man. And wise man will never marry
a woman whom women do not like.
Take mans opinion of man and a
woman's opinion of her own sex every
time.
But love laughs at rules and direc-
lions and one marries whom one mar
ries, and often finds that he likes
few evenings at his club each week.
So the club woman mentioned above
says, how many shall he have? Alas,
that is matter to be settled by indi-
viduals, by temperaments and circum-
stances. A man might do worse than
spend evenings in the society of his
kind at a club. He might do better,
too, and spend them with his wife.
But until the millennium arrives and
husbands are perfect they must be
taken as they are. The one to educate
good husband is his mother when
he is boy. This trying to make grown
men and women over again is absurd.
1t is too late then. The boy who is
allowed to go out every night and Is
not asked how he spends his time, will
not make the best of husbands. But
the boy who loves his home and spends
many of his evenings there is going
to make a domestic husband. An en-
tire book could be written on the train
ing of husbands, but it will never be
written by