The Black Hills union and western stock review. [volume] (Rapid City, S.D.) 1904-19??, 1904-03-04

He treated her as beautifully as
though she Were a lady of some distinct,
ton and not his wife" | heard one envi-
Gus matron remark, land that is what
the majority of husbands do not do" shel
said with the injured air of one Who'll
matrimonial experiences have been none
of the happieSt.
WifeIy Duty. +
But the envious matron might have
profitably take a lesson herself from the
happy wife in this instance. Like many
another lady who has failed to find salts,
faction in the welded state, this particu-
lar matron cherisheS the very common
and wrong notion that no concession, con-
sideration, and courteous cultivation of
the matrimonial manner is an essential
part Of wifely duty. She does not appre-l
clate the dangerous possibility of tryingI
to occupy the honeymoon and courtshipl
pedestal too long and the yet greater evil
of allowing the familiarity of married life)
to breed contempt.
Because, oh wife, your husband is your]
husband. do not presume to take liber-(
ties with him further than you would
with a dear, trusted friend. DO not in-l
trude upon his privacies. Encourage his
confidence, but never force it, and when
you receive it, respect it. /
L always admire and reverence the eX-)
ceedlhg good breeding and good sense and
delicacy Displayed by the wife who doesn'tl
talk over her husband, his ways and his|
weaknesses, with her family and herl
friends. Many an insignificant rift in the|
conjugal lutte has been exaggerated intol
tragedy by the wife who was guilty of thei
pernicious vulgarity of telling tales out of
school. By foolish and meddlesome adj
Visers and intimates she has been incitedI
to take a strong position about someI
tri1lng affair, which, if ignored. would
have blown over and been forgotten
Apropos, l wish to sing the praises of a;
friend of mine who revealed to me re-
Gently her code of conjugal theory and,
practice under which she has enjoyed sui
premest welded contentment these manyl
years. 1t is a code that L can heartily
recommend to any bride who thinksl
deeply on the important question of how
to be happy though married.
The Way to a Mans Heart.
4 am not" said this merry-faced won.
an, lone of those who chung to the err
roneous and oft-quoted philosophy that
the way to a mans heart Is invariably
through his stomach. There may be mem
who live to eat. but my husband is not
one Of them, and as I am only a tolerj
ably good housekeeper, I had to find an
other and surer route to the head waters
Of his affections.
Il need not describe all the processes
leading up to discovery, but eventually i
learned that nothing sweetens matrimonyI
like the timely, tactful little compliment.
l have celebrated a good many wedding
anniversaries, but I still know when and
where and how to tell my Dick that he
looks ~stunningly we'll in his evening
Clothes, that 1 heard Mrs. Brown remark
that she thought him a wonderfully de-
lightful conversationalist and that Mr..
Jones contided to me that he was the most
companionable man in the club. And
Dick likes to hear me say those things;
he looks very grateful when l casually re-
mark to a lady that in all these years
he has never failed to notice if l dropped
my ball Of wool or my handkerchief, and
he smiles a bland smile when l mention
that his new necktie is very becoming.
When he has picked up a clever story
or made a particularly nice little joke
himself and we nave guests in to dinner,
l continue to work around the converse
ton until the jest or the anecdote fits in
and then l Join in the laughter and ap-
plause, and my good man looks at me
with eyes of appreciative pleasure.
Believe me that all these small efforts
are seeds that fall into good ground, for
Dick is as sharp as a woman to notice
my new hats and gowns. He quotes my
little sayings, and through the twenty
five years of our partnership some of the
glamor Of our courtship has lived and
lighted us pleasantly on our way.
Il once had a neighbor who differed
/, from me on this point. Because her hus-
band told rather antique stories and
wished to tell them often she rudely and
! regularly tried to frown them down al
t table. The consequence was that she
made her guests highly uncomfortable
l and, what was far worse, she hurt hel
} husbands feelings. BY and by he came
l to resent her reprehensible habit, he be.
l gan to, drift away from home to places
t where his little puns and tales were re
: ce.ved kindly, and then she woke up one
morning to find that love was gone ant
discourtesy had evicted him. Finally
$ there was a divorce.
/ "a pity, was it not? If she had only
: been patient and civil over a tiny detail
t that tragedy would never nave come int
S her life. She was one of the women wht
e failed to see that the mainstay of love !!
S sweet courtesy and generous Cancellation
e over the minor incidents Of welded life
p and that marriage is after all nothing
e more nor less than a beautiful treaty o
e reciprocity negotiated in the high court!
r of true freindShiD.'