Okolona messenger. (Okolona, Miss.) 1900-current, 1904-07-20

AFShl& mony the Outlook magazine ap.
pA~P & pealed to bachelor woman, ''an
WI attractive and able young probes
tR sor in one Of our universities" 1"
This attractive and able young woman replied with
the story OF her ow0exppriences-a sort Of conies-
sion Of her daliance with love and the problems OF
matrimOny.
She starts b the statement that her studies
among marriet women have convinced her that the
only way TO be truly happy wife is to be a
fool" By analogy she evidently regards
every married woman who is not a fool as
unhappy. It will be interesting therefore to
explore the oolishness which she regards as
sary for happiness, and the degree OF intelligence
which is bound to result in sOrriful married life for
the woman.
As a result Of her education and thought on the
subject this bachelor maid says she finds herself IN.
possessed Of every quality commonly recommended
In the ideal wife, and that she is glad OF it. 81 am
not, she says, "attraeted by the tTiumpbs al that
art which manages a husband and yet leaves him in
the unshaken conviction that he is managing you;
do not thrill with tender delight the thought Of
being taken care Of; even lack that traditional in
stinct universally declared to be- AS essential part
OF woman as any OF her physical Organs-the imper-
atiVe need Of husband OF such superior Intelli
genee that he may be looked up to- 1t is alto
gether heterOdox know, bat, honestly, il one Of
us has got to be fool should enjoy good deal
more cOmplacency in the feeling that my husband
was that One.p
ions here disOwned by this able and attractive
young college professor must also confess to being
fool. The who has intelligence enough to dis
cover that these instincts and opinions do not make
for matrimonial happiness should never marry, for
she Is bound to be unhappy. But we are only ct
the beginning Of the analysis Our attractive young
bachelor maid cOnfesses that she has been engaged
to several men and that she broke of the engage
ments one by one as she discovered that the man
did not expect TO treat her as equaP'; that is,
did not expect to yield bis place at the head OF the
household and, to quote familiar expression, let
the wife wear the breeehes. or two Of these men
she discOurses as follows:
Howard Moore assured me that be had selected
me as the object Of his addresses because be felt
that certain Of my accomplishments would be OF
great assistance to g Of his profession. Since
the yOug woman in whom he later (not much later
either considering how discOnsOlate be was) found
consolation has made her most conspicuous contri
button to bis advancement in the form Of annual
infant, / am at loss to discover Just what place
for the display Of intellectual grace is provided for
Ia his scheme Of marrying existence. Very differ
ent was Harry Merrill, who admitted that be was
jealous not only OF what wished to be but the little
that was. 'eThe trouble with you, he sneered in
the quarrel which marked the close Of our highly
cyclOnic bethrOthal, lie that you know too mnch
can never excuse you, II you are my wife, from
The domestic and maternal duties that you we're
made for, had had quite a little experience pre-
vious to Harry, but before in my life had the
1evOlting consciousness 6een forced upon me as 4 !
forced it Of what some men want wife for. The
married life OF which have permitted myself to
dream contains a husband who may be an intellect
ual companion; what my various lovers have desir
ed in me is, it appears, mother for their chill
dren."
The attractive young college professor pursues her
thought into the relations OF married life in a man
ner quite unpTintable. We have no desire to fol
low, beyond the simple statement that che insists
upon the inalienable right Of wife to impose
childless married life If she wishes. But there is
Suo doubt whatever Of The fact that woman educat
20 into the beliefs declared by this bachelor maid
wond1be doomed to an unhappy life If she married.
Ia hff intellectual egotism she calmly brushes aside
t1p TACT that marriage without children is seldom
happy She prates Of intellectual c0mpaniOnship'
in apparent ignorance Of the fact that it almost in
evitaby leads to Wretchedness unless attended By
the instructive love, the sexual love- the love Of par
entage.
But even if We doubted The certainty Of unhappi.
ness il The married life 81 woman like this there
could be % question Of the blighed life Of the man
who married her. A woman with 60 little concept
ion Of che mOdesty and delicacy Of true womanhood
to confess that she has been cheapened n the EN-
brace Of multitude Of lovers and that she discuss
ed with them the size Of the prospective family.
would promise nothing Of happiness to 8 husband.
Rather, she should Be- avoided s. unit g form
partner ia s matrimonial union.
But what We would ike 60 know IS whether or
not this attractive young college professor ls0vne
expression 70 ae trend q soeallsd higher education
lor women. Are these the things put into the minds
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