The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-10-09
WHEN A WOMAN WON'T
A WOMAN DISCUSSES METHODS or
 WINNING WOMEN.
The Wise Way for Men to Adopt
 When They are Refused.

Helen oldheld in Chicago Tribune.
 "she is a woman, therefore to be won"
 The line. like man another saying of 1 shakespeare's. has passed into a pro- | verb. which, in the main, has had abun-
 dant proof. "Everlastingly keeping at
 if" is undoubtedly the secret of sue l cess in most undertakings, great and
 small. The people who win in the ] world are those who, like General l Grant. never know when they are beaten, who, when bowled over. are up | and at 1t again before the enemy has | had time to sound trumpets over victory; the people whose pluck and persistency refuse to acknowledge fail ure. Many things in this life may be won by waiting and hard work, and prayer without ceasing is by far more likely to fatter woman than to weary her.
 The suitor who camps at her door step, who is always ready to run her errands and do her bidding. who con- suits her tastes, and defers to her whims, who remembers her birthday. and who patiently and persistently makes himself necessary to her in numberless little ways. Is almost cer- tain to win the woman whom he thus serves, sooner or later. She gets used to him: he becomes an important fac tor in her life, she acquires a fond ness for him as one does for caviar or olives, and some day when she finds another woman making eyes at him or he strategically announces his inten- tion to depart for Australia or the Klondike or other remote locality, she Is overwhelmed at the prospect of los- ing him and gives herself away liter ally and figuratively.
 This is the ordinary course of af- fairs; nevertheless, there be few rules. however well established, to which there are absolutely no exceptions Water sometimes fails to drown fire has been known not to. burn. There are some women whom no amount of wooing will win, who mean No" when they say it, and ho know naught of the theory that nineteen nay-says are half a grant" They are not the kind of woman who
 "The ready money of affection pays.
 Whoever draws the bill"
 A man ought to be able to tell when a woman Is in earnest, when she is merely trying her power over him, and when there is no hope for him. to know when the stony exterior which she pre- sents to him Is not flint but granite. from which the steel of his love Is powerless to strike a spark. In such case he should be enough of man to take his rejection standing. not to "saueaI," as the argonauts of '49 used to put 1t; to remember that life has other claims on him than that of love. and to work on with his head, with his | hands. or with both, as duty ordains.
 He will not rail against all womankind | because one woman has disappointed him. perhaps played him false; neither
 will he bear enmity to the rival who has succeeded where he has failed. He
 bas or should have. sufficient self-re- l snact to show himself a man among
 men and perhaps to prove to the wo- man who has preferred another that he | ia the better man of the two. | Besides. in all probability, time will do much to heal the smart of his
 wound whether 1t be of the heart or onlv of his vanity. There is sound
 truth in the maxim that there Is as | good fish in the sea as ever came out of if and he may wisely act upon the l advice of the poet:
 | seek again, the world Is wide; l If ia full of loving creatures,
 | Fair in form and mind and features:
 seek among them for thy bride" | There is d true story of a man who l after long pursuit of and devoted at | tentton 10 the woman of his choice 1 fonnd himself put aside in favor of 8 1 stran1er, All broken up by her deser- | tion. be sought an old friend for sym