New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-01-25
rs TO HOSPITALITY.
It's Uses and AbuSeS-4AU Sorts of
"Fiend" Guests.


said Mrs Franklin ". Hooper at the conferences
Of the Brooklyn Institute held last week Mrs.
Hooper was the former president OF the Brooklyn
Wo1nan's Club, and she was talking on the Use
and Abuse Of Hospitality"
The fresh air fends." she continued; the food
bends: the people who must have a certain kind
az food: the people who must have their coffee
certain kind Of way; the people who cannot drink
tea or coffee either. but must have boiling water,
ana can't believe il is boiling unless they see il. 80
that one has not the little alcohol apparatus she
Is tempted 10 bring n the Kitchen tsaKe1us IoF
ocular demonstration
And yet on the other hand. can't help sym
uathiziug with the guest who feels she must have
boiling water and has well founded suspicion that
the ard brought her so daintily IN the china CUP
Is q portion OF that IN which the tUrnips were
boiled.
The Send however. Is only an exception He
Is not really SO difficult the ordinary guest VINO
comes in a free and easy way and makes himself
TOO much az home; takes possession OF the mouse
and makes the family feel for time that their
rlghts are blotted out On the other hand there Is
the hostess who doesn't leave her guest one moment
to himself; who plans entertainment Tor every
waking hour.
TO those who 1--we in the city means OF enter
tsinrsnt are all TOO plentiful and they be safely
left TO care for themselves. There is Grants tomb
for instance. Did you ever know guest from the
country who was coming TO Brooklyn who oid not
write specifically beforehand that TO see Grant s
tomb was the one thing he must DO?
Others want the opera every night and othsts
three famous pulpit orators OF Sunday, ana as
many more they can pack into the week But
the truly gracious hostess never WinceS- SLe re-
usnbers that, invitation once gwen hoSp'I@t4'y
"a sacred She recalls the pleasant refuge her
oornrrv friends house has been her in summer;
the solace Of the woods ana fields. the AInpld
skies and deWy morns; al those things SO com
rnonulace and nonotonOUs TO the country oWe-ieF'
sueh q well Of Joy 10 the city visitor Then she
ling Ia
ucious quality OF change and novelty 10 her eoun-
try visitor and she Is glad TO be able 10 give SO
much pleasure with so small effort"
Under the head OF The Ideal Guest" Mrs.
HOOPER gave an ini1nitable account Of certain
house party Of college boys and girls at house
OF her acquaintance.
MANNERS OF SOME COLLEGE BOYS
AT q certain beautiful country home she said,
there were nine young people IN the house. hVe
girls and four boys, two OF the girls and one OF
The boys being children OF the house. All the girls
were Radcliffe girls. Ind al the boys co4ege poys
TIE son OF the house had invited the boys. u "a
70 come successively. As II happened They an
turned ID al the same tine, and an excellent op-
portunity Afforded 70 study the eo41ege boy
.- ~ 49, e a Cornell student arrived with
4 word Of warning. The son had driven 70 me
village some miles distant, for the mar Al lns
Signature II - saying. VII be IN on The S15 train
Ae didn't know which Of his friends It was S9t
tram So be waited and met him Meanwhile
hungry. and the maids were very much fncon-
IA se ~. o1t sxPsctng him every H1 'a%Zs
n me guest was shown 10 his room ana e genue
- A1e already waited for nearly an honT-alo Inas
Ihey would ee very glad II he would come as
He ala not come down for Internationally
los Isne5 N fact untA every one u ne nc 3 ,e
was found that Cornell I'd brougtt twenty photo
so oesn employing The time in arranging them 70
The Yale boy arrived IN exactly the same fash;
To- ne son drove 20 town another evening. oq
aO' sstlIa ana TIE father said: Wed better eaS
% on Ee: pro5abiy be VIII bring back another 91g
exact Truth Yae bSd as SoH Sent postal card TO
announce his arrival by the 6:l5 train. wen ne
rs trunk was lost and he had 70 dress for MS
. make an elaborate toilet which also made his
- meal N the house very late. and caused uoLs
When his trunk fnaIly arrived he went 10 the
soz q the house and asked II he could get some
1sen IN need OF clean clothes that he could not
He was entirely Unconscious that his tennis suit
is % me white flannel over which any oto4La ~,
s u.s. Of the house washed It herself 50 uncon-
hack IN two hours 10 ask Il it were ready for him
a yet ne was one Of the sweetest p9lIeI Po ~
eS~a when woman was standing But when II
soaception q The trouble he was giving. And yet
-s srao been IN Yale College two years
N.G t-44fl man dlElFe- AySl., -
- tolng fellow who had been IN business Tor Two
~ tree years IN NeW-York But before ne came
LIVED a letter. The letter stated that his Vaca-
- laq been granted him unexpectedly, and taal
would take advantage OF his invitation now II
were perfectly convenient 20 the mistress OF inc
-.s1 he tnclOsed . cents for telegram, ana
- mat he would not start unless he received a
E-ss--te stating that Il was convenient 10 nave
~ ~ this time
lie telegram was sent he was expected. and no
fo- s s was caused ~ his arrival lie was re.qy
hon. upper five minutes after be got inside the
49, be had ell hig inpe6irnenta in hand, not a
s~"ent had 20 be borrowed or washed.
CONTRAST ~ THEIR ROOMS.
ne rooms Of these three throughout the
- Presented an instructive contrast. Yale never
--ax arufhlrr. even llrlnr q chair The floor