The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1904-09-04
HUSBANDS AND WIVES
AND VACATIONS,

For the first two or three years of
welded life, says the New York Amer
lean, the holiday problem does not pre-
sent itself. Whenever the husband has
his annual leave from the office both
he and his wife go off to some favorite
resort for a few weeks. But as the
years in their flight bring the advent
of little feet into the home, just so
does holiday making become more a
toll than a pleasure-at any Pate for
the wife. Indeed a week or two at
the sea is often the hardest time of
the year, for unless one is possessed
of aff1uent means the servant is left
at home and all the additional labor
of minding the small folk every
minute of the day developes upon the
mother.
Apart from this, the best month of
holiday-making being August, the fam
lily in order to fall in with the hus-
bands outing are compelled to go away
at that time, and lodgings are general
~ oVercroWded and uncomfortable in
consequence. The expense, too, is in
creased a thousandfold by going away
when everybody else is away, and yet,
year after year, the unwritten law
holds good, that father and mother
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gether.
By and by, when all the joy and
novelty of holiday-making are marred
for the mother by the memory of the
weary toll each holiday, has involved.
the question, should husband and
wives take their holidays together pre-
sents itself, and certainly the expert
ence of matrimOny is bound to evoke
a negative answer.
PpThanS in the early Uaoy~ Of vel
ded life the suggestion destroys the
last lingering elements of sentiment
and romance, but looked at calmly and
dispassionately, the plea for separate
holidays undoubtedly has much to
commend it. In the first place, the
financial aspect of affairs is alluring
for if the wife and children take their
holiday in June or July, lodgings are
not expensive and landladies are more
at leisure to attend properly upon their
visitors when they have only the one
set in the house. Or, better still. a
tiny cottage or bungalow may be hired
furnished for comparatively a low
price and the servant accompany her
mistress, the latter plan is really the
best, as very often, for obvious rea-
sons, a young maid cannot be left
at home, and the advantages of a
mousse to themselves need no chroni-
cling where children are concerned.
by making these arrangements the
mother gets a real holiday, for
though she has the small folk
to supervise, she has no man with
the burden of idleness on his hands to
console and amuse. Few men realize
what a terrible trial they prove to a.
Wife on a holiday. Yet the petty ex-
actions they impose are little short Of
tyranny, not least among which is
the popular matrimonial fallacy that
every walk, be it's length what it NAV
must be shared by the tired woman
whose whole heart is trembling with
apprehension lest any of the children
should drown themselves in her an
sence. All this makes more work
Tor the mother, and, perchance
does not improve her own tenn
per.
And from mans point of view a.
week or two of his own for a holi-
day is really beneficial There is bound
TO be certain amount of fret in the
lncessant presence of the children.
bound to be days when he longs to go
off for a ramble and does not like 10
unless accompanied by the wife! OF
course, where funds and time permit
final holiday week away by them
selves is an ideal time for husband and
wife alike
Oh, yes, let husbands and wives
take their holiday apart, bl T9AS..
take their holiday apart, bv ali
means, since absence undoubtedly does
make the heart grow fonder. in the
case of each, but where a few davs can
be taken alone together. let nothing
stand in their way