The Mitchell capital. (Mitchell, Dakota [S.D.]) 1879-1918, 1904-02-19
Some Social Point. for Men to Consider



Willingness TO put yourself to u little trou-
Die on her account.
For example, II the very pleasant lad,
VINO presides over a charming home has
asked you to dine or sup, or take Sunday
night tea at her house, don't walt six
weeks or more to pay her Il call. Go to
her door as soon as you can after the en-
t~ertainment. She will consider your COM
Ing a compliment. She Will like you all
the better for your promptness and take d
iot OF pains to put you at our ease.
BY the same token, you are esteemed by
the hostess who finds that you come very
promptly on the hour set for her dance
OF dinner, who observes that you take
some pains to make yourself as agreeable
as you know how to those of her guests
near whom you sit and to whom you are
introduced. She thinks we'll of you, be-
cause you are willing to dance to the best
OF your ability with the women at her
ball. or, If you don't dance, because you
occupy yourself by talking TO the girls
who are not on the floor, and by walking
or supping with others.
1t was my friend, the bank clerk. who
realized the Importance of these self sac
%rifees. When a disguised young man
wondered to me why Jones got on SO ia
mously, when his own social success was
not In true proportion to his good APP
pearance, intelligence, or ambition, 1 was
ready enough with an explanation.
II is because Mr.. Jones pays a dozen
and one little flattering attentions that
cost him nothing at all. For instance,
when L was i'll two weeks ago, he did not
forget to call twice and cave his card,
and he wrote me a short note to say he
heard / was up and out again and tina
the news had given him pleasure.
When Miss Blank mentioned that. she
desired some information of a special
and statistical nature for a paper she
was preparing for her literary club, he
sent her the facts the next day. Now, L
am a stout, elderly lady. and Miss Blank
Is one of the most fashionable girls in
town, but we shall not forget Mr.. Jones
In a hurry. On the other hand, you my
dear boy. failed to call when 1 was i'll.
and you thought nothing at all about Miss
Blank wishes. In consequence, Mr..
Jones made the impression tina you over
looked.
What Young Men Forget.
The nice young American man. I an
bound to say. is not wholly agreeable in
his social relations, because he usually for
gets that there is a tremendous charm in
unseltiShness, when u woman is his COM
panion.
BY this / mean the unselfishness of man
man. When you We're introduced to that
attractive girl in blue, by the door, you
accepted the honor without enthusiasm.
When she began to talk to you, you let
your eyes wander about the room, and,
though she was doing her best to please
you, you gave her not the least hint that
her cheerful talk attracted any interest
on your part, while, as q matter of fact,
you really admired her very much and
thought her very sweet and clever.
Let me tell you, then, that the key to
the very pleasant situation occupied by
MIR. Jones Is the way. the really alert,
pleased, h~alf-admiring way, in which he
looks at any woman whom he meets. Mr..
Jones is not a great talker, but really he
has a genius for playing the part of an
audience. When you find 1t hard to start
a conversation, on making a new feminine
acquaintance, Just listen to her with all
your soul.
If you cannot express what you feel,
make it evident in other ways. l confess
to a great liking for the company of Mr..
Jones. because he treats my remarks as
though they We're words of pure gold.
His nice eyes seem to light up when we
meet, he comes from far across the room
to greet me. He says, with a most fiat.
tering warmth of infection, II am SO glad
to see you here, Mrs. Gordon or I hear
him remark to Miss Blank that he Is de.
lighted to see that she has come.
In other words, without any special elo-
quence at his command, Mr.. Jones dis
tinctly understands the almost incalcul-
able value Of the pretty speech, gracefully
spoken. / am not opening an advocacy OF
bold, crude and insincere %1attery, but ]
like the young man who, though not a
professed squire of DANES, is ready to yield
the homage of ready and respectful and
o%utspoken admiration and interest that Is
always and ever an ample recompense to
any woman for her efforts to please and
entertain him.