The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-03-08

tUGY will receive more desirable help than if they are simply picked up en passant Cold. hard common sense must govern every thought and act The chariot wheels must be in order before the race is started; the driver must be prepared to meet every possible obstacle. A clap in the face from . former friend cannot be returned with safety; that might mean . halt in the career st perhaps moment that would be fatal.
 Rude jfbes and jests, hard words and even the singing of mud must be ignor- ed. The slightest giving way to passion. to return fn kind rudensss or irnperti- hence of the most slaring order would mean loss of temper, consequently loss of command. It would certainly mean loss of time. and there is not one second that can be spared In So wild scramble as Is going on to reach the end Of the weary race.
 It Is often made the subject of bitter commeht--the coldness and hardness of the suecessfui fashionable man or woman of today. That coldness and composure was gained at the expense of so much en- deavor, and even suffering. that 1t is not lightly to be parted with and does not imply that hard heart exists under meath 1t. It simply means that the race has not yet quite been won. When
 it Is there will then be time enough to be genial and pleasant. But in the mean
 time they must 60 steadily aiong-they
 who have started out not hoping in any wild spurt to reach the end of the race,
 but so quietly and calmly going on that
 they will get there and surprise the spec
 tators. who are always waiting to see to whom the prize is awarded at the end of the winter or summer season; in this case. perhaps, to the individual who haS'l not counted for much, but who has play
 ed the waiting game and who has in consequence come out ahead of all those
 who started of together-far ahead of the
 spectacular and perhaps more brilliant in
 dividual who determined to storm society. and who for the time was very much in evidence, but who now can scarcely be
 discerned 4n the clouds of dust that ob-
 seure him or her from view. One season will never bring any one into social prominence, even in the most mixed state that exists at the present mo- ment 1t takes more than one or even two seasons, and in fact, there is more truth in the old statement that 1t takes three generations to make a gentleman than has been accredited it for many a long day. But, after all. it would seem as though there were reaction from the tremendously spectacular eforts than have made American society target for fidicule from ali parts of the world. The American who would fain storm London society has undoubtedly succeed ed in buying his or her way in-that Is, their names may be enrolled among the guests at some extremely brilliant enter tainmetts. Have they open doors Into the circle where they would be? Have they passed the last milesstone? In years to come, If their children were
 to go abroad. would they in their turn.
 simply by reason, of their parents posi- ton, be received by the children of the people whom their parents entertained? The chances are that their names would
 be absolutely unknown, and that they in
 their turn would have to start from the
 very beginning.
 "out of Teuch.v a . % 5, The same rule holds good in this coun-
 try. The several individuals who five
 years ago were the leaders. in so far that
 they were the most conspicuous people
 socially, have in more than one instance dropped completely out of touch with
 what is known as society today. Their
 names may be enrolled on visiting lists of
 enormous size and they may not have completely lost their identity, but If they are not here and at the present moment bdhAAB ACtANO paAb III GntSEl4Affn8 anu De- ing entertained, they arc just as much l unknown as when they first started off on their wild career.
 On the other hand. the people who,. by
 virtue of birth, natural refinement or the social gift. have gradually but slowly and
 surely gone along on the safe path laid out for them, have won friends--not
 merely friendly acquaintAnces-and have
 now but to start out and entertain in
 order to be recognized for ali time among
 those who have attained the goal. They
 have played the waiting race and they
 have won. To them be given the banner
 and the seal of initiation.
 If they have come out untrampied and unscathed, so much the better. Their po- sition is now assured enough for, them | to be Of some importance and to take stand as to who shall and who shall not
 be admitted Into the circle which they now elect to form.
 On the reserved grand stand, as a spec
 tator Of the race for which they once
 worked so hard and the prize which they themselves so vafiantly won--if they in
 their heart of hearts consider ,that it was hardly worth the while, they are certainly not going to bIAzon that fact forth, but instead win unite with the 1 other winner in representing the prize as the only one worth having and the l goal attained as the most desirable posi-
 tion that the world can possibly hold. '