The Black Hills union and western stock review. [volume] (Rapid City, S.D.) 1904-19??, 1904-03-04

the forty years that they lived together.
treated her as beautifully as
though she We're a lady of some distinct
ton and not his wife" I heard one envi-,
GUS matron remark, land that is what
the majority of husbands do not do" she)
said with the injured air of one Who'll
matrimonial experiences have been none'
of the happiest.
WifeIy Duty.
But the envious matron might have
proitably take a lesson herself from the
happy wife in this instance. Like many
another lady who has failed to find salts.
faction in the welded state, this particu-.
lar matron cherishes the very commonl
and wrong notion that no concession, conf
s1deration. and courteous cultivation of
the matrimonial manner is an essential
part of Wifely duty. She does not appre-|
ciate the dangerous possibility of tryingI
to occupy the honeymoon and courtship|
pedestal too long and the yet greater evil
or allowing the familiarity Of married life|
to breed contempt.
because, oh wife, your husband is your
husband, do not presume to take liber-l
ties with him further than you would
with a dear, trusted friend. Do not in-i
trude upon his privacies. Encourage his
confidence, but never force it, and when;
you receive 1t, respect it. /
L always admire and reverence the eX-l
ceedihg good breeding and good sense andl
del1cacy Displayed by the wife who Doesn't
talk over her husband, his ways and hisI
weaknesses. with her family and herl
friends. Many an insignificant rift in thel
con1ugal Lutte has been exaggerated intol
tragedy by the wife who was guilty Of theI
pernic1ous vulgarity of telling tales out of
school. BY foolish and meddlesome adj
visers and intimates she has been incitedI
to take a strong position about someI
triHing affair, which, if ignored, would
have blown over and been -forgotten.l
Apropos, 1 wish to sing the praises of al,
friend of mine who revealed to me rel
Gently her code of conjugal theory andI
practice under which she has enjoyed SUI
premest welded contentment these manyl
years. 1t is a code that l can heartily
recommend to any bride who thinksl
deeply on the important question Of how
to be happy though married.
The Way to a Mans Heart.
= am not" said this merry-faced wom.
an, lone of those who chung to the err;
roneous and oft-quoted philosophy that
the way to a mans heart is invariably
through his stomach. There may be mem
who live to eat, but my husband Is not
one Of them, and as 1 am only a toler4
ably good housekeeper, l had to find an
other and surer route to the head waters,
Of his affections. :
Il need not describe all the processes
leading up to discovery, but eventually Il
learned that nothing sweetens matrimonyj
like the timely, tactful little compliment
l have celebrated a good many wedding1
anniversaries, but I still know when and
where and how to tell my Dick that he|
looks ~stunningly we'll in his evening"
clothes, that 1 heard Mrs. Brown remark
that she thought him a wonderfully de-
lightful conversationalist, and thai Mr..
Jones conided to me that he was the most
companionable man in the club. And
Dick likes to hear me cay those things;
he looks very grateful when 1 casually re-
mark to a Lady that in all these years
he has never failed to notice If I dropped
my ball of wool or my handkerchief, and
he smiles a bland smile when 1 mention
that his new necktie is very becoming.
When he has picked up a clever story
or made a particularly nice little joke
himself and we have guests in to dinner,
l continue to work around the conversa-
ton until the jest or the anecdOte fits in
and then I join in the laughter and ap-
plause, and my good man looks at me
with eyes Of appreciative pleasure.
believe me that all these small efforts
are seeds that fall into good ground, for
Dick is as sharp as a woman to notice
my new hats and gowns. He quotes my
little sayings, and through the twenty
five years Of our partnership some of the
glamor of our courtship has lived and
llghted us pleasantly on our way.
II once had a neighbor who differed
from me on this point. Because her hus-
band told rather antique stories and
wished to tell them often she rudely and
regularly tried to frown them down at
table. The consequence was that she
made her guests highly uncomfortable,
and, what was far worse, she hurt her
husbands feelings. BY and by he came
to resent her reprehensible habit, he be-
gan to drift away from home to places
where his little puns and tales were re-
ceived kindly, and then she woke up one
morning to find that love was gone and
discourtesy had evicted him. Finally
there was a divorce.
| "a pity, was it not? If she had only
been patient and civil over a tiny detail
that tragedy would never have come into
her life. She was one Of the women who
, failed to see that the mainstay of love IS
sweet courtesy and generous Cancellation
> over the minor incidents of welded life.
} and that marriage is after all nothing
more nor less than a beautiful treaty of
, reciprocity negotiated in the high courts
Of true friendship"
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