The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-01-23

take some pains to make yourself a.
agreeable as you know how to those O
her guests near whom you sit and t,
whom you are introduced. She think
well OF you because you are willing t,
dance to the best Of your ability Will
the women at her ball. or, If you don
dance. because you occupy yourself b!
talking to the girls who are not on tn,
floor and by walking or supping will
| others.
1t was my friend, the bank clerk, wht
realized the Importance of these self
sacrifices. When a Disguised young maj
wondered to me why Jones got on 81
famously. when his own social success
was not in true proportion to his gooe
appearance, intelligence or ambition,
was ready enough with an explanation.
| 1t is because Mr.. Jones pays dozeI
and one little hattering attentions tina
cost him nothing at ALL For instance
when I was Ill two weeks ago. he die
not forget to call twice and leave his
card and he wrote me short note t
| say ne heard l was up and out agar
and that the news had given him pleas
| ure.
When Miss Blank mentioned that sht
desired some information Of special ant
statistical nature for a paper she wa!
preparing for her literary club, he sen
her the facts the next day. Now I an
|
one OF the most fashionable girls in town
but we shall not forget Mr.. Jones in
hurry. On the other hand, you, my deal
boy, failed to call when I was Ill, ant
you thought nothing at all about Miss
| Blanks wishes. In consequence, Mr.
Jones made the impression that you over.
| looked.
What Young Men Forget
The nice young American man, an
bound to say, Is not wholly agreeable ir
his social relations, because he usually
forgets that there is tremendous charm
in unseltishness, when a woman Is his
companion.
BY this I mean the unselishness OF
manner. When you were introduced to
that attractive girl in blue, by the door
you accepted the honor without enthu-
s1asm. When she began to talk to you,
you let your eyes wander about the room,
and tho she was doing her best to please
you. you gave her not the least hint that
her cheerful talk attracted any interest
on your part, While, as mater of fact,
you really admired her very much and
| thought her very sweet and clever.
Let me tell you, then, that the key to
the very pleasant situation occupied by
Mr.. Jones is the way, the really alert,
pleased, half-admiring way, in which he
looks at any woman whom he meets. Mr..
Jones Is not great talker, but really he
has a genius for playing the part Of an
audience. When you find it hard to start
a conversation. on making a new feminine
acquaintance, just listen to her with all
your soul.
If you cannot express what you feel,
make it evident in other ways. I confess
to a great liking for the company of Mr..
Jones, because he treats my remarks as
tho they were words of pure gold. His
nice eyes seem to light up when we meet,
he comes from far across the room to
greet me. He says, with a most flattering
warmth Of affection, II am so glad to
see you here, Mrs. Gordon" or hear
him remark to Miss Blank that he is de-
lighted to see that she has come.
In other words, without any special elo-
quence at his command, Mr.. Jones dis
tinctly understands the almost incalculable
value of the pretty speech, gracefully
spoken. ] am not opening an advocacy
Of bold, crude and insincere flattery, but
1 like the young man who, tho not a
protested squire Of DANES, Is ready to
yield the homage Of ready and respectful
and outspOken admiration and interest that
Is always and ever an ample recompense
to any woman for her efforts to please and
entertain him. Adelaide Gordon.