The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-01-23
,<N Ar AXE yourself agreeable to
C ME- tho women folk, young
VH man" this is my advice to
u IN the bachelor who has So

- N the bachelor who has So
cial troubles Of his own.
It helps you all along your career to
know how to do this and do It we'll and
gracefully. whether the lode-star of your
life Is the winning of mere material
wealth or the goodwill Of society In gen.
eral.
Never boast that you are a mans man;
the admission does not do you any credit.
It Is tantamount to saying that you con-
fess to some serious shortcomings OF
manner, that you are great sufferer
from shyness, inexperince or the discour.
agement that arises from ignorance OF
the ways and means Of ingratiating your
self In feminine circles. I am always
genuinely sorry for the avowed woman
hater and my firm conviction Is that no
bachelor, be he young or old, dull or
clever, Is a misogynist by choice.
What Thackeray Says.
speak 80 positively because more than
once I have been the flattered recipient
OF the condolences of the best of young
fellows I shall not betray the exact ma
ture and extent Of their self-revelation,
but 1t will suffice when I say that each
one has owned to a strong sense Of social
imperfection and desire to know how
and where to put a finger on the loose
screw In the daily machinery of living.
Then 1t Is that / give some comfort and
consolation by quoting and recommending
the perusal and study Of what the great
English novelist has said on the question
OF developing a fine, easy and successful
bearing In society.
Thackeray. you must know, set a great
deal Of store by the manners Of any man,
and when writing some very sound and
sensible advice to a suggestions nephew,
he emphasized the Importance Of knowing
how to make yourself popular with the
gentler sex. Not less but more truly
manly, interesting and generally esteemed
he al he hon hall y},D
understood the art Of pleasing ladies.
This Is true, not only because Thackeray
says 1t, but because there are living Illus
trations Of It's forceful logic to be met
with every day, and when young man
pours out his social sorrows to me and
asks my recommendation Of good guide
to etiquette. I follow up the name Of a
reliable authority on manners with sug-
gestion from Thackeray.
, Read. work. learn and outwardly OBJ
serve all the good rules, I say, and then
go where the incest kind Of woman's In
fiuence will put your acquired knowledge
into practice and rub off the awkwardness
of your demeanor and give you confidence
and courage
II you are sensible and properly ambi-
tious, I proceed don't be satisfied with
just the book learning To improve YOUR
self steadily, and In the right way, over
look all kinds of setbacks and make 1t
your serious business to procure a calling
acquainted with a few well-bred, sweet
hearted girls; venture now and then to
take ono Of them to the play, along with
her chaperon, and, even If It necessitates
an expenditure Of great will power and
the taking Of all your moral courage right
into your two hands. go semi occasionally
to a real dining, and. at least once a sea-
son. to ball.
OF course, you have got to make some
sacrifices Of self indulgence, in order to
keep your manners In exercise and pol
1shed up. but If you don't do 1t you are
going to suffer as consequence, and a.
good. practical thoroly agreeable manner
sometimes means as much to young man
as stout muscles or excellent business
training.
How to Please a Woman
Having made up your mind to go out
little, don't blunder into the wrong con-
illusions concerning the attentions that
please a woman. Resist the human temp
tation to ascribe the very evident attrac-