The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1904-11-20
ONE MAY Be HAPPY WHEN MARRIED
BY DOROTHY DIX.

stances can do is to take her husband
as a boarder, charge him enough 20
run the house on. and spend the
money in peace and as she DleaScs'
AS long as she makes him coIlloit-
able he has no more right to inter-
rere in her management than he Woula
with any other landiadyS methouS'
Women contide too much. anyway
there is no earthly use III telllns pe-
Iorenand everything one lhlnks sue ="
gong to do, particularly II 1t Is napie
20 be objected to. Do 1t hrst, ana
discuss it atterward. Saw Wood anu
say nothing, is wise motto Tor WIVES
DIS we'll as politicians.
Another advantage that many Wo-
men would gain if they could lnduce
their husbands to regard themselves
more in the light of boarder, anu
Tess in the light of a boss, would De d
very superior article OF manners "
that to which they are now accus-
oomed. No man would TANK Tor
minute, that because ne palu ms podlt
1t would give him rlght TO sheer al
mis- Iandlady's opinions, deride ner
views, and rldicule her sentiments
these are privileges that matrlmonS
alone bestows upon q man, ana many
d WomanS fondeSt dream OF napplneo9
is to wish that her husband was do
polite to her as ne is TO othef ldules
ne will listen with apparently ap-
sorbed attention while another woman
airs her views on the Japanese war;
ne is quick enough to respond TO an
others woman's Witicism, but let ms
wife undertake to eXpound the bolIl-
cal situation, or tell STORY. anu nc
hasn't the slightest hesitation IN smut
tIng her up by telling her that she
doesn't know what she is taking
about, and that he read that joke III
Punch during the deluge-
Likewise, as a boarder. he might
even be reused TO express some gratl-
tude and appreciation Tor the tlreleSs
devotion to his interest, the unceasing
study of his pleasure and comfort the
love that never fails. that now, as a
husband, he takes for granted, ana
doesn't think worth mentioning. so,
too. when he is sick. He feels that
he is at perfect liberty 10 reward ms
Wifes sleeplesS nights. her worry ana
care, with grumbies and groWls, ana
iii temper, but he would never dare
to treat an angelic landlady. who was
nursing him, that way lie would
feel that he never could repay such
self-sacrificing goodness and besides
he would be afraid that If he didn'
behave himself she would turn him
over to hired nurse and go off and
ieave him.
Nor would all the advantage be on
the side IF the woman. Many man
would have everything to gain in be-
ing promoted from the rank OF the
husband to that of the star boarder.
it cannot be denied that if there are
cantankerous husbands-and am
talking now not of the happily mar
RED, but of the disgruntled of both
sexes. TO whom matrimony has brought
more kicks than ha pence-there are
also neglectful wives. There are Wo-
men, good women. who throw away
their bait as soon as they catch a
husband, and never try to charm him
again. There are wives who exist for
society: wives who club their husbands
to death; wives whose philanthropy
begins everywhere but at home; wives.
who after the first baby comes. are
nothing but mothers, and who spend
their evenings holding a childs hand,
even at the risk of having some other
wortlan hold their husbands.