The Kimball graphic. (Kimball, Brule County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1883-1905, 1904-09-16

VI etiQuette is 10 exercise them daily
and hourly in your family circle, in
your office, in the school room and in
the nursery. If you do this conscienti-
eusly, YOU soon acquire the quite ir-
r~eslstable habit of politeness. and l
must mere add that, after n great nan
Years of effort and observation. l have
discovered that personal magnetism.
punctuaiity can be made d habit by
any one who has the good will and the
good ambition to try for its acqlisi-
ton.
Where A%srecability is of Service.
Now, when you have gone thus far
along in the theory and practice OF
good and graceful manners, you will be
sure to find that you investment OF
INT and effort, in the study of how to
be agreeable, is beginning to pay you
really pig dividends. If you are a man
IN business, occupied with the steady
grind of getting your own living, you
VIII pretty. soon begin to appreciate
the helpful effects of your improved
bearlng on your work, n in your life.
more readily. They will approach you
more freely, listen to you more atten-
lively, and do you favors more gladly
because o nave learned how TO set
them at their ease. to draw them out,
to understand their little preferences,
ana TO humor their small and HARM
less ~prejudices. 1t needs, please re-
member, the eye of an expert to detect
the value OF a rough diamond, but the
very newsboy in the street is able to
appreciate the Importance and the
beauty of a polished one.
therefore. in this world and day of
progress and competition, the most
hlShly lustrous diamond always COM
mands the highest price, and it is the
man with the best learning that re-
ceiyes the first hearing. Exactly the
same truth holds good with regard to
the woman who wishes to succeed in
her sphere. whatever that may be. 1t
IS not beauty and 1T is not wealth alone
that VIII win for any healthy-minded
woman the position she covets. If she
lonss to be the leader in her church
work. her family life, in her club, or at
a pail, she cannot lure the admiration,
the confidence or the social power She
wants merely by virtue of a fair face
or a full pocket. We Americans are a
very independent and critical peonle.
FAIR faces and long bank accounts are
not raritles among us, and we demand
something else in our favorites.
Above ail things, we demand to be
won by charm and sweetness of man
ner' and we are just independent
enough TO give all u admiration at
the shrine of the woman who, without
beauty and without wealth and without
fame for her intellectual attachments, is
still loved for her lovely
stand ready to bring forward any
amount of actual and irrefutable evil
dehce TO prove that there are many
such women, and that with them agrees
ability is an art which they havo
studied with much devotion, and which
they nave learned to use through the
exercise of care and steady practice.
Therefore 1 do most unhesitatingly
MAINTAIN that charm is the result Of
ell3rt expended in the right direction.
aiso iiaihtatn in consequence that ii
Is your Iault or my fault il we are not
genuine favorites in that society, do
hlestc' religious or fashionable, in
"hlch we are called upon to move.
Social Culture is Soul Culture.
twenty years ago 1 would never have
dared make such a statement. SO short
a tlme ago there We're no such oppor-
tunltles open to the aspirant after in
s.ructloh IN good manners as are now
oIleTed. But nowadays we take our
studies in social s%elf-cuIture seriouslv
lof we nave learned how essential they
are, ana That social culture leads di-
rectiy TO soul culture. | have tried In
an my authorship or the topic OF the art
OF pelng agreeable to make this clear.
Ine man or the woman who desires for
practical reasons, even for pure van
itys sake, to be charming, is bound to
be considerate, to think Of others quite
as much as himself. and to be ready
to serve others.
AS you study the art of being agree
aole, you study the habit of showing
yourself less self-centered, less agrees
day. For this reason then. as we'll ~
fee all the worldly reasons, / believe
most heartily that the art of being
agreeable is. AXE it all in all, The high
est n most important art of them
all. ~