The Coeur d'Alene press. (Coeur d'Alene, Idaho) 1892-1907, 1904-11-12
To nIaLe kIarrlsa 10 Happy.

| 10 MAKE M3NFAe0 ASAhN hNNhNR
| II two people are 10 live happily TO-
gether, they must both move. or at any
rate endeavor to move, In the same
direetion--that is to say. there must be
no obstinate opposition TO one another's
wishes and opinions. Each must study
the others failings and characteristics,
and make every effort not TO clash with
them.
Ii is wonderful what a difference It
makes to the happiness Of married life
when husband and wife endeayOr to
see things, about which they are In
clined to differ. with each others eyes
aud mind, 50 to speak. There are
hundred aud one things which crop up
during the first few months Of married
life, for instance, which are apt to
spoil domestic happiness. unless the
rule OF give and take Is followed out
A common failing with the young hus-
band Is TO adopt the attitude OF Il am
master In my own home, and viii have
things done as 1 want them" II natur-
ally follows that his wife resents such
despotism. She considers, aud rightly
so. that she should have some voice In
all home matters. and the sooner q
husband recognizes this the sooner he
will experience the true happiness Of
married life.
To illustrate my meaning. A couple
are very much In love with one an
other, but both generally want TO have
their own way In all matters apper.
tanning to the home. II people are In
} Vited to the house they generally have
spirited argument beforehand as to
how they shall be entertained II q
} new piece OF furniture Ia added 10 the
home they dispute as TO how and
where II shall be placed. while baby IL
: rare bone OF contention, They are,
J In fact. always pittlng their opinions
and views against one another. and sc
! Is seldom one In ready TO admit that
} the other Il right. The consequence H.,
OF course. that their Siomeatie life Is
thrown all out OF gear, and neither can
; understand why their marriage seems
TO be proving a disappointment and
J failure.
Another fruitful source OF unhnppi-
] ness against which IL IL well to warn
: married couples. more especially those
{ whose matrimonial experiences have
: only extended over a very short period.
IS Is that OF living above ones income.
} Many young couples are not content 20
: begin as their fathers and mothers did.
. but must needs begin where they lett
: OF.
: At hrst this policy seems % WORK
/ very we'll There are only themselves
to think Of ny and bye. however
the difference between income and ex
penditure Is on the wrong side. II H.
of course. at this point that matters
should be FpaFranged. hut more ofter
than not Indifference or cowaF,iice OF
the part Of husband. a reluctance q
explain exactly how matters stand
I proIongs the state % Affairs. which IRE
!. qucntly ends In disaster. The happi
I. ness % many home might be saved Il
. wives were taken into their husband'i
confidence. for women a. rule aFu
unseltinh and self.sacrtnCing.
I, II a couple strictly avoid the afors
mentioned falling. however. their mar
ried life will not be a success unless
they remain lovers throughout. TIL
sad part OF many marriages Is that tn
love which brings them about IL not o
:, lasting nature II flames before !
/ burns, ard consequently does not en-
dure. And ~ the old proverb says
>. Loves ire, n Il once goes out, ia bar,
: to kindle. Home Monthly.