Aberdeen herald. [volume] (Aberdeen, Chehalis County, W.T.) 1886-1917, 1904-10-31
To Make Married Life Happy.

If two people are 10 I'VE HapPis w
gether. they must both move, or at any
rate endeavor to move, III the saihe
direction-that is to say. there must ne
no obstinate opposition to one announcer
wishes and opinions. Each must study
the others failngs and characteristics.
and make every effort not to clash with
them.
1t is wonderful what a difference II
makes to the happiness OF married lie
when husband and wife endeavor to
see things, about which they are in
clined to differ. with each others eyes
and mind. so to speak. There are
hundred and one things which crop up
during the first few months OF married
life. for instance, which are apt to
spoil domestic happiness. unless the
rule of give and take is followed out.
A common failing with the young hus-
band is to adopt the attitude of Il am
master in my own home. and will have
things done as ! want them 1t natur-
ally follows that his wife resents such
despotism. She considers, and rightly
So that she should have some voice in
all home matters. and the sooner a
husband recognizes this the sooner he
will experience the true happiness of
married life.
TO illustrate my meaning. couple
are very much in love with one an
other but both generally want to have
their own way in all matters apper-
tanning to the home. If people are in
vited to the house they generally have
IL spirited argument beforehand as to
how they shall be entertained. If
new piece of furniture is added to the
home they dispute as to how and
where ii shall be placed, while baby is
a rare bone of contention. They are,
in fact. always pitting their opinions
and views against one another. and 1t
Is seldom one is ready to admit that
the other is right. The consequence is.
Of course, that their domestic life is
thrown all out of gear, and neither can
understand why their marriage seems
to be proving disappointment and
failure
Another fruitful source of unhappi-
ness against which it is well to warn
married couples, more especially those
whose matrimonial experiences have
only extended over very short period
is that of living above ones income.
Many young couples are not content to
begin as their fathers and mothers did.
but must needs begin where they left
off
At first this policy seems to work
very well. There are only themselves
to think of. BY and bye, however
the difference between income and eX-
penditure is on the wrong side. 1t is
of course at this point that matters
than not Indifference or cowardice on
the part of a husband, reluctance to
explain exactly how matters stand,
prolongs the state of affairs. which fire.
quently ends in disaster. The happi-
ness of many home might be saved if
wives were taken into their husbands
confidence; for women as rule are
unselfish and self sacrificing.
If couple strictly avoid the afore
mentioned failing however, their mar
ricd life will not be a success unless
they remain lovers throughout The
sad part of many marriages is that the
love which brings them about Is not of
lasting nature 1t flames before it
burns. and consequently does not en-
dure. And as the old proverb says:
Loves fire. if it once goes out is hard
to kindle. Home Monthly.