The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1904-05-28
Love OF LOVERS.
The GrOuchy Bachelor Discuss
es Phases of the Malady.
Condition Throws a Glamour
Over All Concerned.
IT APPLIES TO BOTH.
Girls Quite as Silly as Men, Says
the Oracle.
Hardanger Embroidery Being
introduced in Topeka.
IT APPLIES TO BOTH.

There's one phase of love-sickness
that have no patience with" said
the Grouchy Bachelor. "I can stand
for the enthusiasm of the lover for
the loved one and listen politely for
hours while a fellow talks about the
girl he fancies, but when he includes
her whole family and expects me to
agree that they are the cleverest, the
best looking, the most aristocratic and
in every respect the most desirable set
of kin that a man could marry, my in
terest wanes. I feel that 1 have done
all that courtesy demands when I
have enthused about the girl he loves.
I will say that she is pretty-she usu-
ally is, you know-if you don't care
what you say; that she wears her
clothes well, talks interestingly, and is
thoroughly fascinating. But when it
comes to cOmplimenting her fat, Vul-
gar old mother and her hard-fisted,
brutal old father, her silly kid
brother, all her cousins and her old
maid aunts, 1 draw the line.
Il often wonder what a fellows
thinking about when he talks that
way about a family we all know and
have a record of for at least two gen
eratiOns. Why doesn't he realize that
we have opinions of our own about
those people, and the fact that they
are related to Her doesn't throw a
glamour over them for US, whatever
effect it may have upon him. But the
fact is, that a man in love is the most
egOtiStical ass on earth. The gentle
passion brings out all a mans most
irritating qualities with other men.
He fancies himself in love with a
woman, but in reality he is usually
more in love with himself than ever.
He imagines that because he loves a
girl everyone else shares his senti-
ments. He thinks every man in town
envieS him. Because he has preferred
her he firmly believes that she could
have any other fellow she wanted.
and he swells with pride when he re-
fleets that of all the men in the world
she has chosen him. although the
truth of the matter probably is that
she had nothing to do with the chOos-
ing but that she accepted him and
loved him because he preferred her
and that she would have been equally
devoted to any other decent sort of
fellow who had presented himself
There is really no mad rush in her
direction, but he believes that it is
only his superior attractions that
keeps the crowd back. Before he fell
in love with her he was probably able
to see that her people were a very
ordinary good sort, with no unusual
quantities, but as soon as he has taken
the fatal plunge he gets the idea that
her father is the smartest business
man in town and in every respect the
most influential and important citizen;
that her mother belongs to the most
aristocratic family and is the best
bred and the most distinguished look
ing woman in her set; that her
brother is the best sportsman, the best
athlete, the smartest dresser the best
student and the most popular fellow
in the Mellins' Food crowd. It never
occurs to him that he was a long time
finding these things out, having
known them all for several wears be-
fore he fell in love with the girl. and
that NOBODY else seems to have no
ticed it. But the fact is that all his
friends encourage him in his asinin-
ity- When he makes fool remarks
about her parents, leading one TO
suppose they are the main prons Of
the sun, they appear to agree instead
of taking a fall out of him. as their
duty to society demands. When a man
starts to talk that sort of rot to me
I come back at him with a few choice