New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-07-13

along too wife could be so heardhearted as 70
compel him 70 stay at home when she went GAM
wanting on her summer vacation. And II. on the
other hand he manifested sneaking desire 10
inger behind. surely woman with Hex OF
sense would insist on his going along That Is 10
speak seriousIy-and it IS a very serious SUBJECT
why not let each couple follow It's own incIlha-
tons II husband and wife feel like spending
their vacation together. why not? II IT would De
more agreeable or convenient to spend II apar"
whv not2
If the question Of economy comes IN play IL
nlizht De 4 saving sometimes 10 take the husDei4
alone I know one husband. "commuter. VINO
four days after his wife went away ror her Naca-
ton got so lonesome that he went and bought A'
little chicks. two days old, for Is cents apiece He
thought they would make such a pleasant sur
prise for his wife when she got home He placed
them alone in large barn, and there came UP a
cold rain and the next morning the 100 little chicks
were all dead SO blown 10 the wind That would
have paid for an excellent weeks board.
take it that not speaking IN this cor
rcspondence Of unhappy marriages but OF the or
dinary normal happy though married exts-
tence. which the exciting period of romantic love
has subsidized into that steadysonE. satisfactory
thing conjugaI affection. Do the partners in these
unions ever experience feeting wish for the brief
sweetness OF those early days? The very best way
10 renew them IS 10 separate once IN q while. II
is continuous association that duus the freshness
OF love. and reduces it 10 placid jogtrOt- Il is
continuous association that dra2es the deadly veil
OF the commonplace over Us all Why does the
husband scan the incoming train with eyes alert2
Why does the wife descend from the car with
beaming face Why do the children precipitate
themselves on papa with shouts OF joy Way IS
every face radiant? All! they have been separated
for a while. and they are all glad 10 see one an
Other again II IS good 10 be together again. II is
worth while TO separate now and then TO endure
a little loneliness and discomfort even, in order
70 feel that thrill OF pleasure AT the loved
presence once more. 1t is nothing against husband
love their children all the time? Yet do they kiss
and embrace them every day, with the eXtravasant
pleasure i,t their coming has been excited 10 a
keen low by their absence This is the meaning OF
the old line Absence makes the heart STOW fond
really love any the less when We see each other
every HtS, dtLOSI eHeLI LleC-+' ,, ~ 1900
70 miss each other once in while: 10 miss each
right Pleasure to see each other once again This
IS human nature Let Us ACCEPT human HarSie az
rom linn Let no husband think that his wife
vii not have quite a different feeling in seeing him
If she has not seen him IQr a few weeks. ether
a EttIe, more iess-even those who love each
live toge1ber for period of Years without having
learn put up with certain things. each IN the
than people used to We live more nervous, high
strung lives. city life. especially Nsw-York city
OF all relations the marriage relation IS most exact
demands the most mutual sacrifice. In the name
Of all that IS resttul let US get away rom eaeh
other in while; not necessarily on the sum
vacation, but once a year least. In the anne
or all that sensible, let separate, II only Tor
a few days. II Will oil the wheels OF life marvel
lously. Let us relieve ourselves and relieve those
whom we love. least once a year from the
ceaseless demands the individuality OF each
For myself invariably take my vacation alone.
4 go away somewhere and sit down by InySeT IN
some quiet spot and take stock OF myself and my
life. and what I making Of IL and what IL
amounts 10. anyway. II find soul there that
know, I incontinently pack my trunk and fee l
wish a year be among strangers. and as
few OF them a : possible. and not speak 10 them
unless | like Before my weeks Is up am al
WAYS homeSick for my better half. and that's what
/ want I 70 long for him thoroughly want
10 he glad clear down the bottom of my boots
TO him Which is whl. and he Is
too. Which is inCOherenr. guy expressive
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