The Savannah morning news., 1904-07-03

Nothing seemed real-all a dreadful
nightmare from which I must awaken
some day. l have kept my unhappi-
ness from everybody, although I have
often felt as though I could not get
up and face another day. and the feel
ing of unreality is so strong it often
seems as though it were some one else
and not l who goes about the routine
of life.
We were a couple united by true
love, by many similarities of taste and
disposition, each with our faults, yet
both striving to live the Christian life
my husband honOred and loved by all
who know him, ever trying to realize
more fully the ideal of true manhood.
Oh, can you tell how such a horror
could come into such life? Is it pos
sible for man to hold two women in
his heart?-for he insists he loves me
as dearly as ever, and strives by every
tenderness to win me back to cheerful
ness. Yet truth compels him to admit
that that other love still claims place
in his heart though he has tried to
Danish it, and all intercourse has been
broken off. Lest you should receive
a wrong impression l must state that
their intimacy extended to declarations
of mutual love. but was entirely inno-
cent beyond that.
There are moments when despair
overwhelms me. I feel that perhaps
this passion is really the deepest, the
supreme affection of his life, and in
, that case what solution is there to this
tragedy? Can you at least send me
some one thought to cling to in those
dreadful moments when l feel like Civ
ing up the struggle?
When difficulty arises between two
friends it is always safe for both to
assume that there is some wrong on
both sides. and it is always wise for
each one to endeavor to discover and
| correct his own fault. 1t is much east
err for you to see your husbands fault
than to see your own. but it is much
easier for you to correct your own fault
| than to correct your husbands. Cor
recting other peoples faults is always
a delicate. difficult and frequently a
| dangerous business. What your hus-
bands fault is in this case we cannot
| judge; nor have we any advice to give
him, since he has not asked us for any
| But 1t is easy to see from your letter
/ that you are of a morbid if not of a
| jealous temperament, and that you
have made yourself mentally sick by
! dwelling on circumstances until YOU
! have exaggerated them and probably
misinterpreted them.
| You say that your husbands action
! has been innocent. Why not assume
! that his motives also have been inno-
/ cent? You affirm that for many years
he has been honored and loved by all
| who knew him. ever trying to realize
more fully the ideal of true manhood
Why imagine that he has now ceased
10 realize this endeavor and ceased ia
deserve this honor and affection? You
affirm that he insists that he loves YOU
as dearly as ever and strives by every
tenderness to win you back to cheerful
ness. Why not accept his insistence
and go back to cheerfulness?
| Is 1t wrong for a husband to find in
! terest and attraction I'm the society Of
a woman other than his own wife? Is
it wrong for wife to find interest and
| attraction i'm the society Of man 9TH
er than her own husband? II may he.
! 1t may not be. 1t depends entirely
| upon the circumstances. the conditions,
the nature and degree of the interest
and the attraction. No one person,
not even a faithful and loyal wife. can
| nil to the full all the life of any other
/ person, though he be a devoted hus-
| band. Our lives are complicated: they
| have many elements in them. and they
/ must get their supply through many
/ avenues and from many springs. All
/ that wife has any right to ask is that
/ hiliu VI iuNtlAN anu utNollOfl winch puts
her first and supreme in his regard
! All that husband has a right to ask
Of his wife Is similar supreme regard
II your husband were abandoning you
I for some other companion il would be
/ right that YOU should feel the lSeenest
sorrow and indignation. But the re-
verse is the case. He has discovered
that his interest in and attachment Ia
another woman. a woman apparently
! Of uprightness and integrity. is trou-
| bling you. lie has ceased all social
! relations with her. Is not this suffi-
! cient evidence that YOU have the ST.
| preme place in his affections. and that
/ he gives YOU the loyalty which you
| have a right to ask?
our advice TO you. then. is 70 lay
aside your tears. to Danish your sor-
rows, to cease dwelling upon a cir
cumstance which may have been IN.
but which Il is almost certain you have
exaggerated. aud to return TO your
| cheerfulness. II your husband has
been wrong. your plain duty is TO win
him back to righteousness. and you
/ win do this not by self-indulgence IN
your grief but by giving TO him the
love which he asks and the Joy while n
comes with love Even n you have t.
pretend to some gladness which you