Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1904-09-24

Love nj first sight, when genuine. IS
rare and few people with any experiences
believe in it. Girls in their teens. inst
enancipated from the schoolyoom, with
their ideas of love and marriage drawn
from the too often impossible characters
portrayed IN the few works of fiction
they have had the opportunity OF read
in!g, may do So for the inexperienced
girl Is ever ready to fancy herself in love
with the first moderately good looking
man who pays her any little attention.
ana to believe in the truth and sincerity
or the hrst sweet nothings" whispered
into her willing ear.
The older and wiser woman knows bet-
ter, Experience has taught her that the
couples who risk their chance in the lof-
/ tef[ OF marriage on the passing fancy
which they call love mt first SIGHT too
| OFTEN discover that they have made n
grave mistake. and seldom find any per
manent happiness.
Lasting love comes far more slowly.
| ana Is the growth of time, intimate az
| qualntanee, and friendship ripening into
love, kindred tastes, and sympathics. A
| thorough understanding OF each Others
| faults and weaknesses as well rs each
others married life; and all these things
are learned much more easily before than
after marriage.
In wife 4 man needs far more than
would attract his fancy nj first glance.
lie needs woman who can be to him
not only a Housewife" but a sweet
heart conhdante, and pal" How can
he know that She is fitted for even one
of these roles at his very first meeting?
She may be ever so pretty, and yet
very selfish. very unSympathetic very
Spoilt. None OF those viii show ND In
ten minutes perhaps; but in three
months, unless he is very blind. he will
nave discovered most of her characters
istics. both good and bad.
Women do not fall in love at first sight
/ half so easily rs men; III fact. they very
seldom do, fol they are not half so easily
| influenced by appearances. 4 handsome
man does no. attract Il woman as a pref
~ woman does a man. she looks for
something better than mere eXtcrnals.
and consequently her love is more last
ing when once it is won.
The reason so many marriages turn
out tinhappily is not that there Is any
/ lack of love ut the start, hut because
couples so often delude themselves. set
ting up ideals which it is impossible TO
reach: then one day comes the inevitable,
diSillusion the discovery of the feet Of
clay and the broken idol falls
All this is very, very foolish. Abso-
lutte perfection can never be attained on
EARTH and it is the capacity to give ard
take in little things which constitutes Il
happy married life. 1t j. the thousand
and one little drawbacks. he constant
dsagreements and frequent chickering's.
which make the little rift in the lutte. $
Love which could and would survive
great misfortunes will withcr up under
petty miSeries
Little disagreements are sometimes
/ necessary before people thoroughly un-
/ derStand each other. and it is far better
tlat they should occur before than after
marriage Often two people who have
qrarreled cheerfully ali through an en-
gagemeht. and caused their friends to
shake their heads ominously over them.
viii settle down to an exceedingly pleas
ant life.-New York News