Bismarck daily tribune. [volume] (Bismarck, Dakota [N.D.]) 1881-1916, 1904-02-22
THERE ARE GIRLS AND GIRLS
Christine Terhune HerrtcI< Contrast tire Girls
|4% Of the Period and Suggests How the M Mothers
May Help to Raise the Right Kind. 4

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It is hard thing for one woman to !
criticise other women and still hard
er and in even poorer taste for one
mother to pick flaws in other mothers.
But are not the mothers in measure
responsible for some of the faults of
the girls? Have they not made a !!
mistake somewhere in the early train
ing of their daughters? It cannot be
altogether the sins of the latter,
either hereditary or acquired. II the
mothers had held the right relation
ship with the girls from the time the
little creatures left the nursery, along
through school life and out into So
ciety, would not the young woman of
the present day be a rather different
product?
Perhaps it may sound hopelessly
old-fashioned to press the value of do
nestle duties in making the girl more
womanly. But is it not the case? If
a girl is taught from the first that GER
tain home cares fall to her lot as a
matter Of the home-making work?
The girl who intends to go out and
seek a career will doubtless laugh this
idea to scorn, but If she does, it is be-
cause she was started wrong. From
her childish years she should have
been called upon to do her share in
taking care of the home and making it
attractive While she is still very
young she can be instructed in the
mysteries Of busting and in such
small duties and as she grows older
she can look after her own room and
keep the living rooms attractive.
Then there comes the time in
when she is allowed to do a little cook
ing. Now that the sensible plan has
been introduced of giving cooking les
sons in public schools there is a
chance for children to learn something
Of cookery outside of their own
homes. The effect is often very no.
ticeable. The child goes home eager
to attempt some of the new dishes she
has made under the teachers super
vision. The mother is guilty of q
grave blunder who does not encour-
age this sort Of thing in the home.
What if it does for while make more
plague than profit? Bother is not
what the mother should be trying to
escape. Her effort should be to in
duce her daughter to care for the
purely womanly pursuits of making
the home and all that therein is of
comfort and pleasure.
It is an excellent plan to give the
girl sense of responsibility when
there is entertaining to be done. This
does not mean that she is to receive
her guests alone while her mother
and father retire to- the background
Quite the contrary. When older
guests are present the girl must con-
slider it incumbent upon her to help
make things pleasant for them. She
need not thrust herself forward, but
she should let them see that she ap-
preciates the duties of her position
as joint hostess. When her own
friends are invited to the house it
should not mean that the parents are
banished. In the habit of Young Am
erica of putting "the old people" to
one side when girls and boys are met
socially may be found the cause of
many of the defects we lament in the
girl Of the period.
For after all the young girl, no mat
ter how charming she may be, is an
untried creature. She is full of life
and vigour and shows these in an over
flow of animal spirits that manifests
itself in strange fashions. The youth
full spirits are all well enough In their
way and we would not have her with
! out them. But they must be directed
and checked when they threaten to
carry her too far.
The average young girl is too self
absorbed to grasp the idea that there
are other points of view besides her
own. She knows what her impulses
incline her to do and she does not stop
to consider how her actions impress
those about her. If she dwelt toe
much upon this consideration II
might have: q tendency to make he1
j, self conscious, but a little thought Of
herself in relation to others in an ad.
i mirable thing. When she has been
j taught from early childhood to be un:
selfish and to seek ), the comfort OF
others rather than her. own enjoyment
pure and simple, she Is pretty sure tc
be womanly and gentle. d.
Yet this does not mean that she may