New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-02-22
WOMEN and GOSSIP.
Wellesley Club GiUen List Of
Feminine FOibleS.

The moral differences between men and women
snorded Dr Luther Halsey Gulick. OF the Board 81
Education the text for an uncommonly delightful
talk or Saturday afternoon al the Wellesley Club.
The club met by invitation o. Mrs Farnsworth. OF
Whittier Hail. IN the drawing room Of Whittier
Hail. as the guests of the Barnard club. Miss Abb
BY LELAND. president
After telling his hearers that men go 70 church,
Is compared 10 women. En- about the proportion OF
one 70 Eve; that there are eleven times more men
IN prison than women and that two social stand
Srds exist FOR the personal morals OF men and
women Or. Gulick went on TO point out some other
differences In the codes Of the two
THE conversation Of men about men differs
markedly from the conversation Of women about
women. Men feel a LOYALTY toward each other
which does not permit them to talk about a man
10 his depreciation behind his back. II one has
anything unpleasant &c say 10 or about man.
We fee that the decent thing is TO say Il 20 his
face. o. course. men DO talk about each other.
but they don't talk so much as women. OF course
gossip goes among men. Jut II goes faster among
women u is very difficult 20 get woman 10
say q blunt disagreeable thing point blank 20
another woman-she will nearly always say = 20
third person behind the other womans back.
Then In respect 70 games we see a difference
Angio-saxon men all over the world play team
games whore the success Of the same depends
very largely each participant sinking his IN
dividual desires and tastes and cooperating with
the others 10 put up a solid. unified resistance 10
the. rivals With the exception OF basketball.
which is too recent an invention 70 have made
much OF mark at the present time no team
games are played by women This Is true OF
women In all countries ali over the world They
Go not play team games. have talked with forty
trainers in athletics ~ both the sexes on this
point and ] find a consensus OF opinion among
them that women take 90 team play far less
readily than men-that they experience far greater
dficulty IN sinking their own Municipalities and
sacr.acing brilliant play 20 the good of the team"
Continuing, Or GulcS compared girls and boys
school
Girls are better Tor school discipline than bo,.s
be said and his hearers b-ghtened Up for they felt
that the moral advantages were beginning 10 come
Their way at last THAT Is 20 say" said the speak
ef, smiling sympatheuCaly girls believe IN stand
ING IN with the authorities and telling On each
other Boys stand together. and seldom tattle
ABOUT each other 10 the teacher. AS a high school
plhclpa found that scarcely a week went BY
mat some girl cid not come TO me and tell on an
other girl The boy who did that would not o,l,,
gel himself disiiked by the other bows bur his
teacher would not respect him. either Strikes al
Sls occur either In boys or mixed schools and
$3.50, because glrls and women VIII not stand
toEetner tc oppose the authorities
= Ihen see how the moral differences between men
VOL 4 ka-t '.lls oet IN NE matter q committee
80 S.1 oeleFe II Is a matter o. fact not mere
ollmon That committees comp0ees ~ mon NJ
,S eecuVey and with less personal friction than
l-u composed ~ women and men or az women
sene Women take defeat hard and tbe,, Iesr1
elL uIIlcuiiF Thar great principle upor which fhs
sNeIIinent OF ours is based-the Willingness ~
monty not only 20 accept thu decision OF the
,.,.-.s uut 70 forget their own failure or dfsap-
n t,s 49, Sno pitch in and help the majority with
,, -'er SAYING that ike ell questions o.. the Kind
~. s1iol.a oe considered historically. Or Gulck
vfich .eeA u the eariy-the earliest-farnilv IN
a.. 80 ne man might might not De faithful TO
All er..ehe children. but where their relation at
H. sb1--s. astec long enough 20 rear children.
on re Wv lle he OF such family depended
Procure 60 ABILITY O. fight OF enemies and 10
herself - 80 1ho on the woman's ability devote
Here I'd - nome, her husband and her children.
two se.s ~ very beginning" said he, we have
verrarcc - mora virtues Here we have a d.
cofra.ge ,-.9h ne first The man must possess
the vor,s- eLNe, the power 20 feel great anger;
u ri-.--.9 haPe love patience chastity. Each
Grafuaff- - NeIIespoucs. but Is not Identical
Aineffc- - Ae prehistoric man found that by COM
IT, .n us own strength was Increased Tor where
he rseF =. e-.tea % fight against a common foe
vas moi - Laoronary strength IN the individual
dinarv sledJ while az the time three or
~" could excel one extraordinary
O. The - necessity for fighting became less
he os-eF1i, ~ cooperation was extended, and as
snd ,1,-ets man gradually ceased 10 be a fighter
intusfrislre INTO woman domain. lie took the
ner - w oI The home. where she had pursued
Cou,,e-.- or ealized them In shops and factories
of re -. &C learning tended 20 give men some
sndu-int '''ae virtues. 20 make them patient ana
a. v1, eIt there ten times as many IN prison
hghtr - because these acquired virtues 81 50
eifope.t men that n takes very little 20 LIT them
Tie Virt-. eien nEht and are unchdGle. because
e. nevri, oI self-cOntroi and chastity have been
acquired by them. but. on the other hand