The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1904-01-10
greetings. The girl came to meet him
with both hands outstrctched.. .
tante Prefers a Ball--Wha
Expected to Do.
By MARGARET Won sTuYBEN TRACY.

greetings. The girl came to meet him
with both hands outstrotched. 81
"Oh, Mr.. -. - she CRIED, so that half
the room heard. 'thiB Is indeed an un-
expected pleasure" 4: s,3 s.ys d. 4.
The proper sort. Of clothes for the debu-'
tante includes something sWeetly charm
Ing and gtrltsh--pale rose colored draper
from head to heels is no longer In the
best taste for 5debutante's gown; white
is reserved tor the occasion when the
maiden is ledto the al tar. MI II!
When intBduced to society 4 ehesss niaS
make herself an object delicious to con
template insany color but white. She
wears no Jewels. but "a few flowers. One
OF the many bouquets with which she Is
overwhelmed lis carried In her LETT hand,
while the right hand Is left free to present
Ito people as they are introduced. The
mother wears a gown OF richness and ele-
Gance, in marked contrast to the simpu-
city Of the daughters toilet, and a pros
fusion Of Jewels.
The young ladies' who assist In receivr
Ing in pretty. high necked gowns-no one
wears decollete costume like; nj other and
daughter. are without hats but wear
gloves. They are stationed about tho
rooms. and their duty, Is to look after
+ the welfare OF the guests and to make
themselves generally useful and agreea-s
BILE, and not to stand around like so many
Psyches and Galateas In museum. t-
"One genuine society. leader with tact
and experience" as the late Ward Nc.
tA,iister was*fonds OF saying us Of more
value to q hostess than a battalion Of
young damsels in gauze and flowers and
smiles r. l,35 n #.
There is much to be said. however,
in favor OF having a flower garden Of girls
to assist, provided each lis Impressed With
tho fact that the hostess, like as famous
admiral. expects each and all to- do their
duty.
Tho refreshments resemble those Of an
ordinary s o'clock tea. although some
what more elaborate The table, set In
the dining room, Is made attractive with
flowers and lights, and three or four
walters are In attendance to serve sand
wlches. salads, cakes. bonbons and Ices.
Bouillon at one end Of the table is served
from an urn. and tea and chocolate at
the other. III
II It is not possible to procure the ser.
vices Of walters, the table is presided
over by three or four OF the young la
dies. who add to the attractlveness OF the
supper room, sparkling out as visions In,
adorable gowns. and press youth and CHI
valry, represented BY the young mon.
into the service. SSs 5
Recitations and musical efforts BY
amateurs or professionals may enliven or
depress the entertainment. OF course.
the music is very heavy and classical,
since everyone Is SO educated now that
sne does not enjoy harmony she can
comprehend
The only real kindly and humane way
to entertain people on such occasions Is
with nalm-hidden hand, to which no
one needs make feint of listening, but
whose bright, popular melodies uncon-
sciously inspire rather than depress the
assemblage. ....
The intallible way to promote CONVEX
sstlon Ia to provide music. "How did
you make her listen to your n friend
asked man who had a wife possessed
Of the gift OF tongue,
II proposed at musicale" was tho
reply.
The chief element OF success for a COM
ing-out function is a really fresh debu-
tante., The average society glrl has had
almost three years in society In small
way, before her mptner freshens up her
gowns and her charms and pronounces
her y bud. with a great flourish Of trum-
pets. The result Is that she posseesses
little Interest In the social world, and Is
quite without the charm Of naiyete and
the freshness and righteousness that
render her fascinating despite her Cruz
dify and lack Of Eelf-possesslon