New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-10-15
MOTHERS scATH1NGLY CRITICISED.
Miss Carr Says Indulgence Shows Lack Of
Love for Children.

Mothers IN general and the mothers % her pupils
IN particular received a savage overhaulins At the
hands Of Miss Carr, head OF private school in
Brooklyn. az the woman's conference at the Brook
I'm Institute on Thursday afternoon
81 have almost lost my respect for mothers
said Miss Carr. Il have TO work every way to
get boys 70 do right without making them lose
their respect for their mothers when really their
mothers don't deserve any respect
u wish mothers loved Their children They think
they Go. but they don't They actually do not love
their children. They are willing % let them Go
anything that nIeases them FOR the moment. no
matter how much Il VIII injure them IN the
future"
Although Miss Carr devoted her scathing denun-
cations 10 mothers alone. the only special and
particular Incidents which she related concerned
fathers.
The father Of one OF my pupils came 70 me and
told me he started 70 whip his boy. The boy
turned On him and said. What do you whip me
for? I mind Miss Carr. and she never whips ne.
II was present once continued the speaker,
'Ehen the mother of one OF my pupils refused the
child something she ought not to have. The father
SAD. Why don't you let her have il: What
you always refusing her things for That's the
way he's always doing, and the CHILD actually
adores him and almost dislikes her mother. al
though the mother IS her only true friend
I think when mothers. who should have the
most control OF any one in the world over their
children. have 10 come 70 teachers 70 old maids.
20 get their Sons brought under control. it Is q
pretty state q affairs" said Miss Carr
4 viii say. though" she continued. With the air
OF making handsome concession, that the moth
srs are just lovely about one thing. When they
realize that they can't control their own children
'hey are very anxious 70 put them IN the hands
q teacher who can.
TEACHER ovERAwEs THEN.
But at this point Mrs. Franklin H. Hooper. who
vas conducting the conferences. sailed gently, Sc
lrr be
'Oh. no. Miss Carr" said she II, isn't trs. ..
ell II isn't that the teacher s necessarily better
fitted 20 control the boy than his mother The
teacher might not DO any better than the mother
y the 10y were her own. II IS that a boy IS 50
constituted that nine times out OF ten he viii
obey the teacher when he won't his mother The
very difference fl the atmosphere Of the school,
the atmosphere OF subsection, Of discipline Of au-
thortty; the feeling that he Is only one among
many. ali on an equal plane; and seeing so many
children al IN subsection 70 the teaeher's authority
feeling that he is no more 70 The teacher than
any o. the rest-it all has totally different effect
upon him from the att 'osphere OF The hone What
ne would take as hardness and oppression from the
mother he takes as a matter Of course from the
teacher. Why. had boy who had such a violent
temper when he was little fellow that when he
GOT mad he would pick Up anything he could get
hold ~ and throw II az you ike a fash 1 took
niin % school With fear ard trembling 1 said TO
the teacher. don't know what you'u 90 with
him; he's terror At the end OF q vresl, sba
came 10 ne and said. Why. that boy OF yours is
an angel Hes IA ccrnel nov. and never had
bad report OF him from school from that dav
% this" ~'
The mothers besros IA
cidenL closed. IN ''-0 IA
$50 Aloefature for Children" was the subject
O tAe afternoon. We hea- occasionslIv ~ 80
80 VINO VIII not tolerate anything but the tr,,,l,
- rs stories, sad Mrs. Hooper 81 r.y.r -.
- $3.50 Dlt an not az liberty % dolht fho al.s
=, VIC nave One mother toii mo 80 -
S,,-- -. al airy stories Santa Cls1,s i9.
ftsT be 800 - neT boy would not have a,1N-Thi-r
let re collo not think al least rer,r| ms
20 We know OF some children yCbo 49, SSPs Ltle.
l3glnlng a. very early age. I saw a bo,, - s
.slls On ne moor reading history ana fbe 49,
49, q secn nature that he asked his rsotbs@ -
Slsln . hlra what 1npregnabie forfres-s s,es,.o
-,-IA clllidIeu are unusual children we a.
speaking oniy OF average children ~ arc
BOOKS CHILDREN LIKE.
We sho1ia De very careful in entering the aela
of ehlarens literature not 10 think children r,r.t
Ahe book because We Ike IT, Soma cbu5-.. -