The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1904-02-21
The Agree
able Bachelor

II uEllE tDu All -tAUlz gDAl NdLcE- ~ !
know how 10 do this and do il well and /
gracefully. whether the iode-star Of !
your life IS the winning of mere ma |
terial wealth or the goodwill Of society |
in general
Never boast that you are a mans /
man; the admission does not do you
any credit. i is tantamount TO say
ing that you confess 10 some serious
shortcomings Of manner, that you are
a sufferer from snyness. inexperience or I
the encouragement that arises from
ignorance Of the ways and means or /
ingratiating yourself in feminine cir
cles. I am always genuinely sorry Tor
the aFowed WOman-haters and my hrlh
conviction is that no bachelor, be he
young or old, dull or clever, Is o MI
scSynIst by choice.
What Thaekeray Says.
speak so positively because more
than once / have been the hattered
recipient Of the condolences OF the best
of Young fellows. I shall not betray
the exact nature and extent OF their
elf-reVelation, but it viii suffice Wheh
1 say that each one has owned 10 q
strong sense of social imperfeCtion and
a desire TO know how and where 70
put a finger on the loose screw IN
the daily machinery Of living. Ihen
it IS that I give some comfort ana con-
ISOLATION by quoting and recommending
TO perusal and study what the great
English novelist has said on the ques-
ton OF developing a fine. easy and
successful bearing in society.
Thackeray. you must know, set a
great deal of store by the manners
of any man, and when wiring SOM
very sound and sensible advice to
supposititious nephew, he emphasized
the importance of knowing now 10
make yourself popular with the gent
Ter sex. Not less but more truly man
y, interesting and generally esteemed
had he always found the bachelor VINO
understood the art of pleasing ladies'.
This Is true, not only because Track
cray says il. but because there are
living Illustrations of its forCeful logic
10 be met with every day, and when
a young man pouTs out his social sor-
rows to me ana asks my recOmmen-
dati0n of a good guide TO etiquette, L
follow up the name OF a reliable au-
thority on manners with a suggestion
from Trac1eray-
Read. work. learn and outwardly OBJ
serve all the good rules, L say, and
then 90 where the incest kind Of Wo-
mans influence viii put your acquired
knowledge into practice and rub OH
the awkWardness OF your demeanor
and give you confidence ana cour-
age.
bilious, ] proceed, don't be satisfied
with Just book learning To improve
yourself steadily. and in the right way,
overlook all kinds of setbacks and
make fl your serious business to pro
cure q calling acquaintance with
few well-bred. Sweet-heaFtec girls
venture now and then to take one
Of them to the play, along with her
chaper0n, and, even If it necessltates
an expenditure Of great viii power
and the taking of all your moral cour-
ace right into your own two hands,
go semi-occasiOuaHy to q real dining.
and. at least once season, 10
ball
OF course. you have got to make some
s9rrfdces of self indulgence, in order
10 keep your mnaners in exercise and
polished up. but if you don [ do 1t you
arc g0iDg 10 suffer as a. consequence
and "a good, graceful thoroughly agree
able manner sometimes means as mueh
80 a Young man as stout muscles or
excellent business training.
How to Please a Woman
Having made up your mind to SO out
2 itttte. don't blvrder into tne wrong
conclusions concerning the attentions
that please o woman Resist the human
temptation 60 ascribe the very eNl0euI
attractions Of Brown, Jones ana Ison-
fnson 10 their WeI-tailored clothes,
their well set up figures, their very
pretty native wit. or their college edu-
cation.
don't mean to say for one moment
that-the clever good looking, Well
dressed fellow has not u great deal IT,
his favor. but 40 matter how iH-cut
YOUR coat may be. how red your hanos-
as The results OF hard farm work when
1ou 7rcte a boy or how painfully con-
se55us you feel remember that there IS
sill one infaIlible way open 70 you Dl
which 10 win tIe liking o. the FlShe
kigi OF woman.
~hotr her an exquisite and Unremit-
lfng Gasercnce, Never allow your Shy-
ness TO interfere with the performance
or these polite little actions that Te-
,,ffre ms effort 81 wit cor expenditure o.
r1aner. The defercntiai man olten-
times has not frOck coat To MS name
his beauty is not even skin deep ana ne
can never pose as q Sidney smith Tor
Wlt but every woman mas an hJAeaiS
welcoming smile for him.
z could ciye you the name If 1 would
OF iijSr such man. who began lie as
n LAWYERS clerk. He was big and
eawkv and I'll dressed. / cannot nom
es-Tv say that Lis appearance MADE q
-reac-appeal in his favor, or Jh9I upon
first Acquaintance ne snohe as coz
vcrSati0ualist. For all that, there were
overlook or forgot him.
THAT was because be had a way OF
Surrenderiug his chair with prompt
ness anu a pleased smile tnat made u
apnear a. though he found Ii a priYlteg
to DO so. he opened the door, hIteu
vou- umbrella. relieved you OF your
GsffeIs. offered YOU his arm, brought
Won Il glass of water handed you into
q vehicle. ana listened 40 what you had
10 saw with an air of one UEO found q
distinct honor in rendering lady any
service.
When q lady was in his company it
was amazing how quick he was 10 note
Il hes gloves fell 10 the floor, II her tea
cup was empty. or II there was any
thlug he could do 10 render her more
comfortable or happy. More than ihis'
bc carried his deferential thoughtful
ness mo his relations with stout and
uniuterestiug d0wageIs quite as care
fully as when his lines were cast in
the pleasant neighbOrhOOd Of young
and pretty girls; and though these little
offices seem triIes light as air. they
neVert neless proved to every woman be
met that the age Of chivalry Is not yei
passsa.
Furthermore, they went far 10 bear
unmistakable witness 10 the fact that
he was thinking not Of himself but
of bis- feminine companion, and more
irresistible flattery than that 40 man
ran nav 30 any daughter of Eve, be
she 10 OF So.
Compliments That Cost Nothing.
To win your way, promptly and GER
tainly, into the good graees Of my
sex. YOU must learn 20 offer US q
Fa--.