The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1904-10-26

going bore. \ trihing fanaticism on
some subject lacking in general inter
est: little iDconsideratcncss as to
the interests Of others-and the foun
dation is laid.
The man who borcs is a sore trial
but the woman rho possesses such
characteristic is positive atilction.
Doubtless there are few readers whe
have not met such woman. She
will recitc for hours at stretch the
troubles-rcal and imaginary which
she experiences with her husband, 3,
children and servants. She will cx
pound upon her own ailments, and
bore you with recital of pains and
aches, sufficient to fill hospital
ward.
She also usually complains Of being
bundle Of nerves, and yet takes u
keen delight in telling you the most
sensational and narrowing news which
she has read, until she makes your
flesh creep. And if you plead an en-
gascmcnt in order to escape her, she
n. only offers, but actually insists
in g .anncr not to be denied, on ac-
cor panying you until she has cx-
h.ustcd her fountain of talk.
The grievances which such woman
has to tell you are incXhaustible. No
matter how earnestly she may work
for the good Of others, she is always
sure that no one appreciates her
efforts. The truth of the matter is,
that she does nothing at all without
largely advertising the fact, and no
body can appreciate sclfpraisc.
She talks of the failings Of her hus-
band, children and servants, totally
ignoring her own faults, which, how
ever, are very apparent to her friends.
She is not with you FIVE minutes be-
fore she begins telling you of the
hours which her husband spends at
the club, ncglecting her night after
night. No wonder, you remark in
wardly, thes poor man tries to escape
the affliction as much as possible, if
his wife uborcs him as much as she
bores you.
Then there is the woman whose
children treat her unfeelingly. She
cannot mention them without cnumer.
ating all their petty faults and fail
ings. Her children torture her, and
her servants wear her into shreds.
Ia fact, TO Judge from her tattlcs,
they seem to have been specially
created by spiteful Providence to
worry her into an early grave.
But of all the women who bore
their friends perhaps the most to be
despised-for really she deserves
nothing but contempt-is the woman
who fancies that she is entitled to fill
some mission in the world, and bemoans
her fate because she married poor or
incapable man, who cannot help her
to realize her hopes and ambitions.
Such woman makes her own life
miserable as we'll as the lives of every
one connected with her. What action
can be worse on the part of woman
than that Of giving vent {, thoughts
which are a continual ceproaoh to her
husband, because she is not what
she thinks she ought to be? Pride
should keep woman from talking in
such manner, even though she might
have dissatisfied thoughts.
The woman who would avoid beoom-
ing bore must remember that her
personal affairs and petty domestic
troubles are Of no particular interest
to anyone, except, perhaps, to spite
full neighbors, to whom they form
food for gossip. IF you meet or visit
a friend, the natural question is.
"Hcw are you getting on?" or come
thing to that effect. But there is no
necessity to enter into the most minute
details of your troubles or to bemoan
your fate, which, after ell, is but
cowardly. Friends have quite enough
trouble and worry with their own
affairs without having to listen to e
long recital of what Goes not concern
them.
Every woman, of course, is not q
good conversationalist, nor possess
the happy knack of being able to
entertain friends with pleasing talk.