Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1904-07-16
WOMANS WORLD.

| members OF the family TO each other
| are based upon mutual duties. The
| parents have certain obligations to their
| children The children have toward
| their parents certain duties based on
| gratitude, on love, on nlial respect
| Brothers and sisters have mutual du-
| ties based on their relationship ana
| natural affection for each other on
| common interest IN the family well
| fare and on proper family prlde
| which even the poorest should feel.
The family may also contain other
| relatives: servents may be kept
| guests may partake OF its hospitality,
| All Of these must get along smoothly
| together for home loses all claim 70
| that name il crossness Is shown, II
| quarrels are frequent. The wheels Of
| the domestic machinery win move
more easily IL polteness constantly
| lubricate IL,
Children should never fell TO show
| their mothers and sisters the same
| courtesy they would show TO any other
ladies'. a boy should early be taught
| to lift his hat to them in meeting
! them on the street or in parting COM
pany with them. He should rise
| when they enter the room, and see
| that they are comfortably seated. He
should always allow them to precede
| him He should assist them in and
| out of cars; he should carry their par
| GELS, and escort them when they wish
| IT, IN short, he should be chiyalrous
| in his home life. No boy who is rude
| 10 his nearest relatives. or neglectful
| OF them, who is not sJlicltuos for their
| comfort and pleasure, has right TO be
| called a gentleman
The sister, In her turn, should be
taught to treat her brother with an
affectionate courtesy. She should
never fail To acknowledge his kind
nesses She should do for him any
thing In her power which he may need
done.
Train your children To be courteous
to servants and you will probably not
be deprived OF their services when
most needed.
If you permit them to run to the
door when some callers come, you need
not be surprised II they show curiosity
at times when you will be greatly
mortified. It is surprising how often
parents permit children 10 monopoi2e
the conversation. Let them early
learn To- he good listeners. See that
they never fail 20 put into their proper
places articles they have been using
or clothing they have been wearing
The whole machinery Of the household
may be disarranged by carelessness in
this respect 10 a systematic, tidy
housekeeper nothing is more vexa-
tlous, nothing more wastefu of time,
and often Of money than this afult.
It is Just as easy to train them prop
erly in this as in other matters.
BEHAVIOR AT TABLE.
In no one thing is good or bad
breeding more quickly seen than IN
ones manners at table 1t is espe-
cially noticeable, because people are
there brought into such close contact
with one another, A few hints for Ia
BILE behavior are given in the hope that
they may be suggestive.
The bell-bred person will not sit
too far from the table, nor too close
to II, nor sidewise, nor on the edge OF
his chair. He viii never tilt his
chair He will not finger or play with
the knives, spoons or other articles
on the table, He viii not put his ell
bows on the table, nor stick them out
in using his knife and fork, nor bend
his elbows In eating so as to bring his
arm around at right angle TO his
mouth,
Unless quite young he win put his
napkin on his lap, and not use IL as
bib lie Will use his knife only In
cutting his food. lie will not use his
own knife, or fork, or spoon to help
himself TO articles Of food He VIII
NOT secure piece OF bread by stab
bing IL with fork. He viii break,
not cut his slices OF bread or his bis
cults lie win break on little pieces
OF bread before butterng and eating
them. and not try TO eat from whole
slice after he has passed the age OF
infancy, He viii not clutch his bread
animal fashion, by as many fingers as
possible
lie viii cut his food as it is needed,
not all at once. He win reject bits
OF bone, or other refuse, by the aid of
his fork.
He win take soup nolselessly from
the side OF the spoon, not the tip.
He viii use the teaspoon 20 stir the
contents OF his cup, and viii never
drink nolsny, or from his saucer He
will never turn a glass or cup over on
his nose IN order 10 drain the last
drop. He viii never gaze around
while drinking. !
He will never reach and stretch"
after articles on the table He will
ark politely to have them passed He
viii ask the servant II one be In at
tendance, and not bother his neighbour
He will never talk across his neigh
| Dor. or pass things across another's
plate He win never appear to be
greedy, or eager about his supply of
| food. lie will never find fault with IT,
He WIN never put much into his
mouth nt once. He will eat slowly, and
| VIII refrain from drinking much
| while he Is eating He will not talk
| or laugh with food in his mouth lie
| knows that obedience to these rules
| win save disagreeable exhibitions. and
| choking and will prevent dyspepsia,
| lie win eat leasurely, that the meal
| may be a more healthful one for his
| digestive organs. and that samples Of
food may not remain on his exterior
| or on the table line, as reminders
OF his aWkwardness.
He will chew his food with his lips
| closed, Tor he knows that mastication
is not tempting vision, and that
the sight OF the process should be
| concealed.
Those who are wel-bred uncon-
sciously teach the right way by their
example and the wise VIII learn from
them what TO do in case OF doubt.
while the faults Of an ill-bred, untidy.
hasty eater are often an effective les
son In good-brecdlng owing To the
disgust they inspire In one DESTROYS OF
behaving properly,
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