The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-05-15

# Oyermuch talking Is common evil. IL is 70 De found in the home, in soc,sty: @ a n lu the church. If people would talk less about themselves, their nrtghbors and <ntir associates there would be fewer hssd feeIinss If legislators woIla ,Ss,s ro,n ssrP there would be fewer half-baked laws. If preacberE would stop talking at the rfeff time when they had said enough to explain the text and Its application. ana ana the heathen in his prayers, and from diIations and dilutions like the milkman at the pump, congregations would be lsrssr and the people would , De nd ruler ort 1t thinking is what is eeded.--savannah Mcrning News.
 The man who wrote the above for The Savannah Morning News did great deal of sensible thinking and a little splendid talking in print.
 The question has been asked and writ ten on; Is speech blessingT" and one writer says: Let any family and socie- ty persop observe for a time the talk in the family. at meal times. in the even- ine circle. in visiting. and in the confi- cences of the conjugai curtain, and see if the unpleasant subjects do not turn the scale" and continues: ''Our univer- sal salutation solicism How do you dor Is an inquiry into our bodily infrmities and conveys -the idea that this is a sub feet of constant anxiety. Thus in our very halls do we plunge Into an unpleas- ant subject.
 Were it not for our own physical ail- ments and troubles and the moral de- pravity of our friends, conversation would often lag. Our digestion and the diges- tibility of foods Is surely. never-failing subject of conversation, though in Bos- tor it is bad form to mention digestion In company.
 The same writer who writes so well on the subject of our subjects of conversa- ton says in referring to the species of animals who have not the burden of arr ticulate speech: They are exempt from that dreadful suffering which Is common in our society, from the necessity to talk without having anything to say.''
 Who has not suffered from this neces- sity to talk without having anything to say7 and isn't it agonyi Sometimes think the popularity in society of the card party Is due to the relief it gives from this necessity. for a comfortable silence there may be construed into great atten-
  fortunate the woman who can knit her brow and look wise and rest her brain and tongue for a spell without being thought a dunce for lack of making talk"
 Writers are always deploring the end of the salon days when my lady, the Grand Dame, is supposed to have dis coufsed at length in suited fashion on thoughtful subjects and supposed to have been listened to. I don't for she would be unsufferably boring as is al- ways the women of today who attempts to Initiate her; boring to every one except ing her few satellites who are always glad of an opportunity to exhibit her in side show style.
 She is like the travelling mesmerist who takes his subjects" with him, for fear of finding none in the audience-she takes along her listeners who keep the ball of her brflliancy rolling and who never fail to applaud her usually inane remarks and her long stories in which she is al- ways the heroine.
 A good rule to follow in conversation is to talk for the listeners and not for ones self. Nearly the whole of conver- saticn is waiting for my turn and each countenance shows 1t. so if one would make hit give others their turn" at | the slightest notice that 1t is wished. Say no. more than ones hearers wish to hear but iisten--really listen-and if pause comes kindly fill it in until you are intefrupted-it wont be long. If the point of your remark is not reached feel sure that your s'interrupter' is just as harpy and just as satisfied with your brillianey asN it had been.
 It Is a mistake to talk to entertain ones self and hope to charm and interest others. It would be wise to never say a word that ones listener is not eager to hear.
 The man or woman who does that and yet will always be in readiness to fill up the gaps when required to keep others going, will never offend, will aid and abet self approval in others. and will get whole lot Of rest from the necessity of talking with nothing to say, and of bor- ing others when he or she has something 10 say that others show an indisposition to hear. #%