The San Francisco call., 1904-11-28

forms Of riches in being easier 70
ger than 10 keep. The situation
is exactly as the author OF Love
Affairs of Some Famous Men has
stated il: Love at first sight is
easy enough; what girl wants is a
man who can love her when he sees
her every day"
Any good looking girl, who has that
indescribable attribute called styie. can
20 as stranger 10 a town Of medium
size, and in an incredibly short time
have many of the young men or the
place enamored of her charms The at
traction of. the new girl in town" is
worthy Of a proverb. To retain the
devotion which she has inspired is an
other story. Accomplishment of this
requires spirit and dehcacy Of art; but.
more than either. are purity Of mind
and purpose Indispensable.
The witticism which declared the
average taxpayer no more capable Of a
grand passion than of q grand opera
may be as just as il is clever. but this
Individual as we see him in America. is
love for woman is manly love. Fem
inine hghtness may catch his fancy
but il takes the wholesomeness OF an
upright womanhood 20 hold IL.
a girl who has common sense appre-
ciates that she is not really queen.
though men of her acquaintance may
have told her so. She comprehends
that her personal charms. while suff-
GENTLY great, perhaps. 10 distinguish
her from the crowd, would not de-
servedly win her rank at q beauty
show.
She realizes that she looks much
more attractive when well groomed for
the street. or society. than she does
early in the morning in the privacy Of
her boudoir.
She knows her faults: no one else on
earth knows them so well; and she
learns TO take compliments on her an
gelic temper with q pinch of salt, as
delicacies pleasant 10 the palate. but
too rich for the digestion.
Therefore, she tries consciously 10
keep the love which she has gained. If
it means anything at all 10 her. She
seeks TO make herself necessary 10 the
man whom she loves. She tries TO put
his ideal of womanhood into visible.
tangible form. She accepts her lovers
preferences as her best guide in mat
ters Of conduct. She adjusts herself 70
him mentally so far as she is able And
she strives TO be. morally and spiritu-
ally, an inspiration
Both men and women cling 10 their
ideals In love almost as tenaciously as
they do TO life itself. But there is a
difference in the attitudes they main
tain toward the gods they worship
To a man it is the ideal which he
has of womanhood that matters In
the beginning his love is invariably
selfish proposition, though il NAV grow
in grace as the years pass by. He ex-
poets that the girl whom he has chosen
will conform to his requirements for
her. and if she fails 10 do so he comes
before long TO feel that she is not the
girl FOR him.
A woman. on the other hand. Is stead
fast TO her ideal of the man whom she
loves Heloise. in her devotion TO
Abelard. offers a historic example of
the self bnegation which a great love
means TO a woman. Every letter that
she wrote to the man who ruined her
life by the cold selfishness Of his con-
duct rings with a passionate unwill-
+ ingness to blame him in any way for
the unhappiness which shut out for her
all the beauty of earthly hope
One feels in reading the letters that.
were her idol to fall from its niche
above her, it would crush her kneeling
before ii.
Men are not like women. who. when
+ they love, give themselves I'D TO their
( feelings comments Mantegazza. the
Italian professor of psychology. who
has made love his especial study Men
love much as they eat or drink OF walk
With them love is merely one side of
( life, it is not life ITSELF