New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-07-29


We AL fee the bore as We dc pestilence. But
what makes "a bore chiefly a person who talks
about his own affairs all the while instead OF let
ting you talk about. yours Seriously no woman
can hope 20 charm who let's herself her own az
fairs husband children. house servants. feelings
or anything that Is hers form the constant topic OF
conversation II she mas not the intelligence 20
ind subject OF general interest she would better
There is only one form of talking about yourself
permissible ih lntelnsent society. That is when
you tell funny story with the joke on yourself
concerted and uukiad. II it is on Yourself II il
funny. OF course this rule does not apply things
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a couceted woman can never charm. She can
hold man as long as he is under the spell OF her
brains never has her head turned bv t..tterv and
attention. This kind OF beautiful woman is Just as
popular with women as with men. Witness Lady
Henry somerset. an exceedingly beautiful woman
accorded honor after hon"r IN their organizations.
And there are many beautiful women among the
States l could name them. if comparisons We're
The most direct and easy way 70 charm is 10 be
Interested In the affairs OF the person with whom
which meets with interest everything thar We men
t.on is the greatest OF all charms No cold stir
ness? Merely lack Of interest in US ana our affairs
or course no human being can be interested in
impossible But mistress OF the OF pleasing
that every she meets goes away in a pleased
and happy mood and votes her charming This
tsed for some Interior motive. II is never wrong
10 make one feel good unless IL is done 10 Set
something out OF him But this charming manner
leads TO bitter disappotntments sometimes on the
part Of Unsophtsticated persons who think some
they have met IS really interested in them
when. matter OF fact, she has merely treated
them with the ordinary manner OF gracious and
polished woman.
There is nothing in the world so offensive as anv
assumption OF superiority. All snobbery comes IN
this head-snobbery OF wealth snobberv OF in
tellect, snobbery of social position The snob can
never charm Nor can those persons charm who
make conscientious effort 70 show YOU thew 40
not think themselves any better than Won The
very effort IS insult Cordescenston is as had
rudeness. Only the woman who is really with
out snobbery who really meets you 'on the level
can charm: or she who can successfully simulate
this mental condition
think the really charming woman Is she who
has brains enough 70 be interesting; who is en-
full OF real kindness and consideration for others
and who has learned the manners that express ali
this. The manners are very important 4 woman
may have noble. unselfsh nature, and vet n she
has not learned pleasant manners-that Is the arr
OF pleaSing-she will not charm : MANY Interiors
may do Social leaders OF the great world ara gen
orally adopts at pleasing. II Ia their capital the
means by which they acquire power ard position
Women who interested IN moro serious
things IN reforms and movements OF various kinds
have their minds fixed on more important things
They do not always please we'll And thew 10
not always have the time the patience TO try
for IL takes both 10 belong to what Du NIaurfer
calls 'the old and ever blessed race OF charmer.''
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