The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1904-02-13
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TT does SEEM" said the Oracle. look
ing I'D from her magazine, that there
Is no excuse for the woman who makes
a failure of matrimony, so much good
advice is hers for the reading and SUCH
careful directions for avoiding the Dit
fails commonly incidental to that state
Every Woman'S magazine ana nome
journal has regular corps OF W zrl aISt
apparently with nothing else 10 90 pus
tell how to be happy though married;
yes and most of them are OLD
maids interpolated the Young Matron-
ssThere's where all the beautiful theo-
ries about men and marriage orisl-
ssT notice here the Oracle went on
calmly, ignoring the insinuatlon-
formula for keeping husband at home
nights Ever notice how much atteh-
ton is paid to this problem by writers
of this class? Why. 1 could never IN
derstand It doesn't seem to worry tne
wives much, but the wOmen's pages are
all wrought I'D about it. According 10
this authority. tact is the thlng tpdt
will accomplish the desirable END by
the way, what would the home Journals
do without tact2 have seen II rec
commended for every emergency IN
Wonans life from a broken heart or a
lost pocketbook to jelly that Won JeH.
So 1 am by no means surprised 70
learn LhaL It Will serve do Gil a.
anaesthetic for keeping husband at
home when he wants to go out The
really tactful wife says this authority
has the talent for keeping her hus-
band at home nights. and as a conse-
quence there are no domestic Jars TO
be aired in the divorce courts
These experts in questions domestic
find their greatest difficulty in account
ing for the fact that the most devoted
lover cools off a few degrees after TAX
ing the life risk and although most of
the married women of my acquaintance
accept this fall of temperature with
resignation and equanimity, not to say
relief the condition is viewed with
alarm by the people who write about it
for the magazines. 1t seems to be
quite settled that that is the way mar
riage works and I notice that few young
persons contemplating matrimony real
ly expect to continue in the roSeate |
glow of courtship after the honeymoon
but the home journals persist in re-
garding the problem of keeping up the |
loverlike relations a greater problem |
than any concerned with politics, war, |
finance or Industrial conditions. And to |
what end? As far as I can gather from /
what have read simply to keep a man /
at home after the shades Of night have |
fallen. This, it seems is the great test
of husbands love and the standard of |
attainment for wifely success.
ITO accomplish it, woman is vari- |
ously advised. This writer l have been !
0uOJlQ2 says ne art Is ALMOST WnOliy |
comprised in a wife's continuance after
marriage Of the charms that made her |
attractive during cOurtship. One |
matrOn after thirteen years of married |
life said her husband had never gone
out alone in the evenings except when |
called by imperative business engage
ments.' "
The Young Matron shifted Every
woman has heard about those impera-
tive business engagements she inter-
rupted.
The Oracle read on: In achieving
this admirable record it IS fair to pre-
sumo she did not indulge in dowdy
dressing saeques or answer with cross
words the growls that occasionally come
from masculine lips before the soup is
served. She retained her girlishness
and the cOquettishness which won him, |
remembered the effect of a. fresh tie
with clean shirtwaist, kept up the old
courtship did her hair as carefully as of
old and in general preserved her former
while incidentally con-
tributing a little thought to his crea-
ture comforts
But some writer's believe that the
wife who could have her husband keep
on loving her with all the rapturous de-
VOtion of their engagement and show
the same frantic desire for her society
as he did when they were sWeethearts,
ought to cultivate the intellect. Pro-
badly having in mind the average
mans passion for Browning and Her
bert Spencer, they tell her to read and
keep abreast of the intellectual move
ment of the day. They say she should
take a keen interest in all her hus-
bands affairs. his business, his diver
siOns his fads and be able to talk in
diligently on any subject he may in
troduce, entirely ignoring the fact that
what a man wants is not someone to talk
to him but some one to listen. I am
firmly convinced that if the average
married man were asked what sort of |
woman makes the most desirable wife
he would answer a mute A man
meets men people all day who think
they can talk intelligently on any sub
5ect and who persist in doing it to the
exclusion of his expression of his bold
est theories and brightest ideas, but |
only at his own fireside can he insist
upon his right to a patient listener who
will maintain absolute silence while |
he discourses on the things he knows
al about
"Then there is the theory that a man |
wants a cook and a housekeeper when /
he marries rather than a female sa-
want and the apostles of this creed re- |
mind US of the old rule that the way
to mans heart is through his stom- |
ach.
THE New Woman. club women. |
bluestockings. ct al. who are striving