The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1904-05-14

should look to it that her girl meets
the kind Of young men VINO make
good husbands. and do her best TO
esta blish her advantageousIy.
OF course. the anxious mother
whose concern for her daughters
marriage leads her to make a show Of
them both disgusts everyone, but I
don't include her among the match
makers because the fact is that she
is very seldom successful She and
her girl are town joke, and the
mother has such poor judgment, as
evinced by her poor taste in tipping
her hand that what she usually picks
up for her daughter is a very crooked
stick indeed. The successful match
/ maker has seldom that reputation.
Her work is so smooth that few pe0-
pie suspect her, least of all the men
whom she has in mind as possible vic
TINS The principal characteristic of
her method is thOFoughness- She be
gins the task of securing a good hus-
band for her daughter when that
daughter is baby. by making her
the sort of girl who is worthy of a
good husband. The successful match
maker understands fully the import
ance to the middIeman of a good
product, and knows that while much
depends upon the matchmaker, her
problem IS greatly simplified by
sweet and charming girl. Accordingly
the good matchmaker's daughter is
usually very attra ctive girl. She has
been we'll brought uD, carefully
trained and educated; she has been
taught the value of good sense, unset
hShneSS. patience. kindness and use
fulness. as wei as pretty manners.
becoming clothes and graceful ac-
| compllShments- Thus equipped she
can shine in any society, even if she
happens to lack the usual rnea s7Ire Of
good looks which falls to the average
healthy. happy and well grOomed
American girl
Having done everything possible
Tor the principal in her little drama
IN bringing her safely and prosperously
70 the age when she may begin to
think of possible husband, the
adroIt matchmaker considers the stage
setIlng and general environment.
Wnlch may be either great obstacle
or a great advantage to the debutante
VI course 1t goes without saving that
tne wise mother has been careful
about her daughters girl associates
ana has seen to it that she takes her
place naturally and easily among the
pest people when she makes her bow
70 the world The girl enters the
race without handicap in the way of
engagements which som etfmes over
turn tie best laid plans of otherwise
successful matchmakers
old Mrs Smooth understands per-
lectly that IN the social puddle even
more important than knowing the
right people is not knowing the wrong
ones and the same rule holds good in
MATCHMAKING A girl marries the
substantial ideal, and unless the
match -maker has desirable young
men visitors at her house the chances
are she VIII have an unfortunate af-
TAR OF the heart and a refractory
Juliet on her hands before the end Of
the girls first season 50 mamma
does what she can to make the house
attractive and herself and her daugh-
ter agreeable to the young men they
meet IN society, but her great care is
10 have the best young men predouni-
mating among their visitors. The rag
tag and the bob-taiI harmless and
amusing if kept in their places, Of
the social procession may come too.
OF course, because there is a certain
value in numbers as long as a girl is
dfScreetly chaperOned and we'll he
haved. but from the first il is notice
able that little Miss Smooth's cavaliers
are very carefully picked and chosen
and that of the possible score of men
VINO are visitors at the house and who
are seen with her and her watchf1lI
mamma in public there are always a
number of the most eligible young
fellows OF their set Mrs. Smooth is
not vulgar old mercenary- Her idea
of a good match is not necessarily a
money marriage She is seeing her
daughters happiness, not A pot of
gold, and although she understands
the importance OF good prospects,
industry and the qualities in a man
which win material success she has
also an eye to good habits, good fam
lily, good looks, good brains and
good disposition She would be very
unwilling to have her daughter make
a loveless marriage, but she has no
fear of that knowing as she does that
a girl falls in love with an attractive
young man with as little encourage
ment as peach tree bursts into
bloom in the early spring. The diff
Guilty is not so much to get her to fall
in love with the right man as to keep
her from falling in love with the
wrong one, and to prevent that calan-
1ty she takes particular pains that the
daughter shall never be thrown with
the latter under circumstances that
tend to the igniting of the fatal spark
This is the true secret of the sue
cesSfuI matchmaker: bringing the
right people together We all know
the inevitable consequences of propin-
guilty, but often have occasion to
marvel at the blindness or stupidity
or Indifference of parents who see
their daughters constantly with men
whom they would not consider worthy
husbands for them and who are as
tonished and Mortified when the fifrta-
ton ends in an engag cement If you
don't want your girl to marry a
worthless fellow don't permit her to
know him. If her vagrant fancy has
wandered to such a one before your
suspicious were aroused a separation
is best managed by means of an
equally attractive and more desira bic
substitute
Commencement gowns need not be
simple, girlish frocks of unadorned
white muslin Some very handsome
gowns of alI-over embroidery combin-
ed with lace, are being made for pri-
vate school commandments. which are
nearly always dressy occasions One
of these gowns is made of an enbrofd-
cry in an extremely open pattern
The skirt is shirred slightly at the top
and crossing it about half way down
are two rows OF wavy lace banding
Between the rows is a band of finely
tucked linen The collar and yoke are
cut in one piece of the embroidery
The two bands of lace cross the waist