The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-03-05

tity of your own rooms you bear cheer
full countenance. Don't carry your trou-
bles, your dsappointments, or your dis
gusts into the public assemblage. You
will soon find when living with strangers,
that buoyant, amiable demeanor eXcites
interest and admiration. You need talk
but little and laugh but seldom. If the
company and conversation fail to inspire
your eloquenca or laughter, but be ready
to nod with a smile, give Good morning
with pleasant glance and answer when
addressed as tho you found it pleasure to
grant a reply.
Furthermore, when living among stran-
gers do not deliver your mind Of emphatic
opinions and make your preferences and
prejudices Enthusiastically evident. Main
tain a good large margin of discreet re-
serve to your credit, and if the lady across
the table asks you if you don't adore
Miss Mary Ellen Blanks book, or If you
don't think DR.. Joshua Goodman is the
most eloquent preacher in town. give your
Judgment cautiously.
The Pleasant Way.
Guard assiduously and daily against the
most culpable table manners that the av-
erage hardened boarder displays. I do
not by this mean a carelessness in tech
nique Of approved play with knife and
fork, but in the selfish consideration Of
your own wants. ! can detect the hard
ened boarder, the old hotel resident, with
the promptness of Cherlock Holmes, by
his calm disregard of the comfort Of those
who sit to right and left of him. His in
terest is devoted exclusively to the de-
mand and supply Of his own plate and
glass. .-
He does not offer the condiments, the
sweetmeats, celery, olives, etc, either be-
, fore or after helping himself. He expects
his neighbors to look out for themselves,
and when he invites you to dine with him
/ he usually proves an unconsciously negli-
gent host. The pleasant and perfectly
acceptable way in a clearinghouse Is
never to omit these small formalities. The
persons sitting to right and left of you
may not be your guests or your family
but for all that they can appreciate your
nice unselfishness in considering thet1
wants little, and for this reason you need
never fall into habits for which in genera
society you may have good reason tc
| blush.
Again the exactions Of the pleasant way
demand that if you are inclined to bt
! cheerful and talkatiVe, and If those abou
you prove congenial company, that 70,
| give every one chance to speak a little
Of his own affairs and interest. Restrain
any impulse to dwell exclusively on your
own glories: don't proudly enumerate thu
list of your rich and fashionable friends
and don't fall into a familiar teasing wa,
that may amuse your victim the first o.
second time you venture on this dangerous
ground, and sorely wound and anger hin
on future experiment. 7-
! If you live in a hotel, you are free tt
| take your meals at hours that suit your
whim but forbear to demand this privi
lege in the house where service and &C.
commodation is necessarily limited.
Wise Precautlon.
1t is safe to say that discretion is tn
better part of charm when you live among
strangers, and that your success and pop
ularity increases in proportion as you re
fuse to take any energetic hand or tongu
in the politics Of the house. Do not len
your ear or your tongue where two O
three boarders are gathered together l.
heated or secret conference over the be
havior of the head Of the house or one Q
the inhabitants thereof. The gossip Of
hotel or boarding house is always stirr1n
and is always a futile, foolish and some
times fearful dissipation in which to in
dulge.
The wisest woman I ever knew sa
on the end Of the piazza Of a summe
, hotel and listened with flattering an
stimulating interest to the tales Of tn
awful doings Of this or that member
, the household. She heard with lifted eye
brows how Miss Blank had sat on tn
rocks late with Mr.. Blank, and how D
Jones had been overheard to speak so an
= so to Mrs. Jones, and how the Wander
= Wrinkle girl had come down to Dime