The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-03-19
the newcomers are in need Of any assist
ance or advice they will not fail to call
upon her for aid.
The Right Hand Of Fellowship.

To those who take their duties as neigh
bors very lightly can give the positive
assurance that this readiness with which
my friend extends the right hand Of greet
ing and fellowship has greatly redounded
to her popularity and credit. She is a
wealthy, fashionable and cultivated
woman; she occupies In summer a very
sumptuous country home set in expensive
| and expansive gardens, but she has taken
pains to make the acquaintance OF her
neighbors, the small as well as the great.
No matter If it Is the new grand man
sion on the hill or the humblest frame
dwelling by the roadside that claims a
new occupant, she takes just as much
| trouble to greet and aid the strangers,
! each one according to his or her prob
able expectations and needs. have never
| known her to wait, as some so-called
ladies do, to inspect new arrivals at church
or the village postoffice or as they go
down in the lift before honoring them
| with a call. II q neighbor Is in trouble
or any need, sickness or distress, she Is
I never deferred from offering her SYM
pathy or rendering practical aid by any
foolish fancy that she may be intruding.
| There is always something that can be
DONE" I have heard her insist, land
never send around one Of my family or
| a servant to inquire how Mr.. Jones Is.
and to ask If there Is any way in which
I can render assistance. In answer to
such doubtful offer Of aid as that the
people who are in trouble usually reply
with thanks and negation I go my,
self to inquire the first time, and If il
Is case of illness or a fire that has
. created the trouble carry flowers, fruit
jelly or blankets along with me, and E
suggestion on my own behalf for help II
the emergency.
, Her advice was sound enough, and thu
, way to help q neighbor Is to look abou
| Se1 40 IN y,
! hour of affliction, and fulfill the OFFICE
2 without advice from anybody. If tn
, neighbor Is a total stranger to you, tn
obligation to render assistance Is as grea
as tho the unknown persons were you
best friends.
; The Friendly NeIghbors.
Not all your friends need be your neigh
bors, but all your neighbors should b
your friends. This does not imply tina
all or even any Of them are your tntimat
= friends. and the surest method by whic
r you can keep your neighbors on foot
\ ing Of the most substantial friendship
I never to presume upon their privacy
r There are times when your dearest frien
r next door does not care to have you drop
= ping in by the back gate on a family con
= ference; there are occasions when you
Q voice and presence bring constraint; whe
g the dinner Is picked-up affair and jus
J, ! enough IOr the actual ldILlly, OF W1leu
# guest Is expected and you are trif
= de trop. Do not. therefore, grow S
familiar with even the best Of neighbo1
r that you are unaware instantly Of tn
8 moment when the welcome she accord
9 you lacks a trif1e in spontaneity.
+ If you are in the way and oblivious {
a the fact, your neighbor is apt eventual
IT to show her chagrin and thus wound yor
+ feelings; but you are hardly ever in tn
II way If you are always careful to observ
y certain little formalities when coming an
going, to assume no liberties, and to fol
le bear from too frequent calling and dining
D Visit your neighbors readily and FRI
D quently when you know their habits, b,
W you make grievous mistake to linger VI
le til the first yawn is smothered, until the
1t are covert glances at the clock, or uni
l. little family disputes arise. And. on tt
lp other hand, don't encourage such intima<
~ on the part Of a neighbor that may lee
D. into too close a knowledge Of your d.
1T nestle doubts, difficulties, economic
l. small skeletons, etc. Remember that ye
le are never the more respected for your lat
< of reserve, and that there are some col
le idences that you should never make