The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1904-07-21
men FAIL TO NOTICE
LITTLE THINGS ARE LOST ON
HUSBANDS
Women's Lives Are Made Up of Trifies
and Men Are Concerned in Large
Matters-Difference in Temperament
Makes Trouble

Said a man pathetically the other
day: why don't you write about the
liability of women to understand that
mems minds are absorbed in big things
and they must not be expected to no
tice every time a woman moves pic
turc from one side of the wall to an
other" Now there is a great deal in
that and women are altogether wrong
in this matter. 1t comes, of course,
from the widely differing interests of
men and women. A woman will work
all day changing the appearance of the
library. let us say. She will hang the
pictures over, put the desk where the
table was put the table in the corner
instead of the middle, and then she
will wonder what her husband will say
when ne, returns. To her the room has
a wholly different look and she feels
sure that when John comes home he
will be overcome with joy and surprise.
But John comes, leaves his hat in the
hall, walks in the library, sits down,
never sees the change, doesn't notice a
thing and his wife Immediately wakes
Wroth. AT dinner she hardly speaks;
finally he sees something is wrong and
asks what the matter is For answer
she bursts into tears, tells him she has
worked all day changing the room
round because she thought he might
like it, "and-he never-saw it at all
and she thinkS--he is-real mean, so
there.' Well, the fat is in the fire and
the stage Is set for a domestic tragedy.
The tears instead of appearing pathet-
&c to John, make him feel like swear
ing and he is more likely to say we'll
not his prayers-than to patiently ex-
plain.
The truth is that he was absorbed
in thinking of something that may
have gone wrong down town, and was
resolved to say nothing to her about
it: his Intentions were of the best and
he was really thinking that he was a
very kind husband. There is nothing
makes man feel so VirtuouS as the
knowledge that he is a good husband.
And rightly SO. The result is that he
VIII go down town, whereas he in
tended to spend the evening at home
and for two or three days the atmos-
phere is cloudy.
Now these things are likely to occur
IN the best regulated households and
are nobody'S fault in particular. They
come from the difference between the
masculine and feminine temperaments
Womans life is made up of petty
things; her interests are largely chairs,
tables, curtains and other domestic
things. To completely change a room
round Is quite an event and worthy of
extended notice. A man is wondering
hS% business IS coming out, whether
the crops are going to be good and
whether it will be best for him to tell
his wife that things are not looking
very bright. So he resolves to keep
all unpleasant things away from her
and this puts him into particularly
pleasant mood with himself. Men do
not notice little things at home They
Know when they are COmfOrta bile with
cut exactly knowing why or wherefore
The sooner women make UP their
minds not to expect them to know
when the table has been moved from
one side to another, the happier things
are going to be. After ALL few women
like man who can accurately de-
scribe tables and chairs and womens
dresses. Yet women must not always
be blamed either for being hurt. as
their horizon-that is the horizon of the
Very domestic woman-iS extremely
limited. and men should remember this.
too.
Men like to be comfortable, and not
always wondering whether they are
doing the right thing Wise women
will swallow the disappointment like
the one recorded above and say moth
ing. But women are not all wise, nor
are all men tactful. Hence this gives
Us something to write about on wom-
ems pages in the papers and little do
mestic differences are not altogether to
be despised by persons like the under
signed. Ii everything was ideal men
perfect and women angels, we should
have to devote these pages to discus
sion of the weather and the vegetable
market So while wishing that every
enc could live in peace and be exceed
Ingly happy, it is an i'll wind that blows
10 good to