New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-09-16
ON MARRIED LIFE.
It's Jars and TroubIes-Old Fashioned
Theories and Mutual Obligation.

prominent case Of denial OF divorce brought
out some shrewd comment and sound advice from
the presiding Supreme Court justice in a remote
State not long ago The main complaints were
cruel and inhuman treatment and 'incounpati-
bilty Of temperament"
According to the judges Interpretation Of rbs
evidence. the cruel and iahunlan treatment, cow,
planned Of by the wife seems TO have consisted
mainly CT occasional exhibitions OF boorsbnAss on
the part of the husband. On one occasion he wac
bored with her piano playing, and ATTEMPTED sum
marty 20 stop the annoyance by closing Tho LID ~
the instrument Hts wife resisted, ard her fingers
were pinched in consequence. At another time no
refused to bulge from the two chairs he occupied
in front Of the window. to enable his wife 20 re-
move some pet birds which were hanging outside
third specification related TO the violent ringing
OF the doorbeH at night by the husband Acts like
these were the head and front of the offending
There may have been evidence enough in the
case said the judge. 10 secure a verdict from
jury OF women that the husband had behaved like
brute But then the judge asked. had the
wlte's temper and conduct no share making him
wiieS fingers, but was it quite right to insist
not want; Is 1t wise to make mans home
S5asdeeaDe that ne must either seek quiet and
them inside? As to the pet bird episode. it would
wife asked her husband move; and before con
deaning without reserve that morose and surly
credit for 4 dim feeling of regret that the woman
he had courted in days gone by had love to spare
for her birds but none f6r him Again, why should
wife's nerves be Jared by her husband ring at
women who find melody in that sound
than is contained in all the Of their piano
fOrtes all the trs OF their pet birds.
The old fashioned theory OF mutual obligation IN
these days declared the Judge. Men are too apt
10 carry their business faces and their business
but GOODNESS hardness and reserve to the society
- ar1,,,h - -. i',,,,al,.a' ~ -
and temper Of tho man Who has TO bear the brunt
OF the struggle II Is To very large extent Tor
their wives ana childreas sakes that are
themselves prematUrely old in the endeavor TO
position. There are many tn egs that cloud a
mans brow and try his temper about which he
would probably not understand them II he did and
attempt translate these troubles into definite
the fact that the boiling kettle continues to bubble
for a little after II has been lifted from the nre
In the way the active brain ~ the hard
OF himself run on the affairs Of his ONCE after ne
has come within the precincts OF home wise
wife Will make allowance for the occasional gruff
ness whose source she cannot understand. and
lines OF the troubled face, ana 70 allow the IN
iuence 81 pleasant home to work its gradual
OF course. deeper than all faults Of heedlessness
want OF heart Is the radical moral error OF for
reminded his hearers. People take IN marriage GER
the infrmities Of humanity which each possesses.
Whether FOR better for worse for richer or
lions are distinctly understood and married people
are as obviously bound accommodate their
tastes and tempers 70 each other they to re-
spect the nv!osbility % their neighbors property
| They have right 10 subject their children II
there are children % TIN demoralziug influences
OF a contentious home % the shame inseparaole
from a broken marriage bond. They have Just as
little right 20 weaken the tie which holds society
/ together by treating the marriage VOW as thing
termuahle AZ the caprice the vndictive impulse
OF either OF the parties TO II. There has been a
\ great deal too much talked and published about
the sentimental side Of this question on the stage,
IN the court Of justice IN all our social NE. We
/ have had many exposures % the morbid an
| atomy OF the minds OF vain vicious people who
chafe under the ties Of matrimony. II Is about
TINA that the simple and imperative duty Or mar
| rfed rner and women should Sc insisted upon