Daily capital journal. (Salem, Oregon) 1903-1919, 1904-03-26
Thinks Love Is Not Sufficient
Capital Romance Is a Lex
cry and That Cupid
Gets His Life Fried
Over the Kitch-
en- Stove

We do well when we Judge such mel
leniently, because the public senti
ment that backed them up in marry
ing before they could AFFORD il makes
us "particeps criminis" in their Of
tense.
Love Not Sufficient Capital.
No n would undervalue the beauty
and the sacredness Of love, but Il
is a cold fact that II isn't sufficient
capital Of itself on which to marry.
No man or woman is in the proper
frame OF mind 10 be sentimental when
they are hungry or cold, and the love
that has to stand the wear and tear
OF shabby clothes, and crucifed
tastes, and the harassment OF unpaid
bills is mighty apt soon to show signs
OF frazzling out around the edges and
giving away in the seams. OF course
there are exceptions to this rule. but
anybody who gets married without a
decent support in sight is as fool
hardy as II no jumped overheard at sea,
without knowing how to swim, be-
cause there have been people who
couldn't be drowned.
In theory and poetry all that any
married couple needs to make them
perfectly happy Is bread and cheese
and kisses. no matter II they have
been used to t%errapln and champagne.
In real life, II we are going to be
happy though married, we have to
the same menu we were used to.
and the kisses thrown in as an extra
course. We have to add TO our pleas.
nres, not subtract from them. In the
hrst flush OF love a young man thinks
there Is nothing he wouldn't be
to sacrifice for the girl with
whom he Is simtten Sometimes.
while he Is stll OF that opinion. he
marries her. and then begins the
eternal battle between tastes and hab.
Us and love, In which love Is usually
knocked out In the first round.
Take the oase OF a man who has
been raised a gentleman. with a gent.
leman's tastes, lie has been accus-
toned to dressing well to living well.
10 knowing cultivated and refined
people. TO seeing good plays and hear
Ing good music. and smoking cigars.
marries on a too small an income,
and finds the salary that made one
comfortable can make two uncomfort-
able He must live In a cheap fiat
Or a God forsaken suburban cottage.
the uglln1ss OF everything Is an
anguish TO one cultivated up to Tur.
dsh rugs and old blue china stand
ards, he must give up his friends, for
he a neither entertain nor dress as
they do, and his life becomes one con-
ilnuai sprint at lodging the bin col
Is there any happiness for a man In
matrimonial conditioner WIN
le even continue to love the woman
be fancles now when she is dainty
and pretty when she becomes work
and dowdy, and shabby? An
us have seen men marry girls and
irag them down 10 poverty. and then
.urn from the faded household drudge
@ some lovely creature In shimmerlns
and nlmy laces. who answered
he ideal Of softness and beauty that
s every mans conception OF the eter-
lally feminine Il Is a tragedy OF
ragedies with, perhaps. no one 20
'lame II Is the craving. huugeriug
.eslre for what appeals 10 our souls
hat will not be denied.
Cupid Fried TO Death over a Range.
Nor is woman's love a whit mors
In such an an advised mar
lase Under heaven there Is no r
50 forlorn as the woman OF edu.
aud refined tastes who marries
really poor man and who must com.
Inc In her own person mother wife.
COX seamstross, laundress. ana
In comparison che lot OF so
allied working woman Is ldylue ease
nd luxury Tor she al least has some
our out OF the twenty.four that she
An call her own, and some money,
owoyer little that she a spend on
erself. whereas the unpaid house
Old slave has none The romantic
pose OF a girl who Is willing and