The Black Hills union and western stock review. [volume] (Rapid City, S.D.) 1904-19??, 1904-09-16

advancing this strong argument that II
lis your duty and your business 10 Try.
fMy position not only now Is, out al
WAYS has been and always snail pc.
that charm Is mere matter Oh soou
manner that good manner Is an ari;
land that this art. In common Win nli
others is to be acquired by s''''pie
force Of diigent study.
During the years of medlaeVal ga
ness IN Europe nobody was to blame
for downright illteracy, because DOCKS
were few and schools were FAR between
but in this day and generation We
rightly feel only sovereign contempt loi
the men who cannot read OF the "oipE'i
who cannot write If they come 10 US.
dcploring their lack OF information. we
idisgustedly advise them to go to school'
or. if they are too big for school. we
suggest that they buy good books full
'of learned lore and educate themselves
I'VE no longer live i'll century "hcre
knowledge Is considered strange ana
mysterious power. proceeding purify
from the evil one himself, and we are
fast getting to view the acquisition ol
social charm in quite the same lisht'
A Common Sense View.
Inst make up your mind that your
manners are bad, indeed, very bad.
lust come to realizing sense that you
don't seem to attract and hold people
as you should arrive fairly ana square
'ly at the point where you can see Win
quite painful distinctness, that ior
want of charm you are failing 10 mhke
the successful career you planned out
for yourself and then sit right down
mud take n common sense view of the
situation. Waste no time losing your
confidence or courage, but look the SIT
,uation directly In the eye and say:
will study this art Of agreeapliity JUST
as | would study electricity, or Il
language or dressmaking.
II can't get on any longer "l.hou,
1T, and I find that there are iirst ana
foremost excellent text books upon the
subject to be studied. the rules and IN.
formation in which will be to me or
inestimable value"
Having got this far along the right
and royal road to the attainment Oh
your. desire, don't be either ashamed Oh
afraid to go straight out and purchase
some excellent volume on correct sociil
usage You can no more succeed WIN
out it than YOU can learn to discourse
s sweet music without notes, or prepare
delectable dishes without the assis-
lance of an authorized volume or APP
proved receipts.
Select carefully compiled ana per-
E.fectly up-to-date works on the best
and most modern etiquette by we'll
known authors, and do not be IN the
least deferred from your study OF rules
because you may be passing over nrst
youth or because you do not I'VE IN d
fashionable community, where there
. appear to be large opportunities LOT
spracticing what you learn.
There is literally no time OF life when
Il, is too late to study and adopt the
principles of exquisite politeness. am
proud to count in my list of friends a
man who made his money In colorado
gold, and a large part OF that goid ne
dug and blasted from the rock with ms
own big. strong hands. At forty five
,he had fortune, and he gave UP the
mines, came east. bought house in
New York and began to fit himself for
the enjoyment of q social life
II earned my money by some hard
flicks," he bravely said, land now l am
going to earn my social position by
some more hard licks'
He was as good as his word. The
hard ticks he put in while earning and
winning the society OF cultured mer
and women were devoted to the study
of etiquette and a gradual application
OF all Its best rules. Today he sits al
the head of his own table, whereat he
entertains the best in the land, and hi.
kindly, graceful. genial and correc
manners are as great a credit to hi
pluck and sound common sense as arr
his millions
Some Gratuitous Advice.
Now, if you wish to achieve as excel
lent results as my millionaire acQuain
lance, take your work on etiquette
seriously and study 1t with cheerful
81 diligence. 81 guess 1t isn't any harde
to win sound reputation for goot
manners than 1t is to win solid banl
account" once heard my enterprisinl
friend from the west say. and II yol
Just keep that same philosophy in prac
tice, you are bound ultimately to b
numbered among the well-bred one
of this earth.
l advise you to remember. If you car
that you do not take up this study, o
Il book that helps you to the attain
4, nlent Of agreeabilitS Just because it
Il a fine sort of accomplishment to pos
sess. Keep we'll in mind that you stud
your etiquette authority just as W
study algebra, or geography. or nj:
tory, because it contains informatio
that is going to be soundly and practi
callY helpful to you all your days, J
business and out. by day and by nigh
or wherever you mix with your kind.
Again, l am going to quote my frien
from Colorado, because on one occaa
i sion, when we both stood in his librar
he took down a well-thumbed boo
and regarded 1t CAREFUL
and regarded it half sadly, half &C
miringly.
ST is my authority on social usage
he said. "and / wish very much l ha
begun to study it and apply it's rule
when l was fourteen instead of fort!
five would have made my fortul
more rapidly and with less difficult
than did had / only known what
help could be found in a little know
ledge of etiquette. I'll give this graf,
itous advice to any young man. wheth
he starts his career as q newsboy or
la prodigy of oratory, that the be
friend he can have in the making of h
career is Il lot of safe information
the good rules of etiquette.
How to Study the Art.
In manners, as in mathematics, it
nearly always details that count. al
as In which, you can never go far
the track Of true politeness If you p
strict attention to What others u
doing, II you keep your temper and
you follow the cut and dried print
regulations as close as possible to
letter.
Don't ever attempt to take any u
rites with the good social laws as 20
chosen authority on etiquette has set
down, and don't get impatient with
sometimes seemingly stupid restr
lions. There is always n good reas
for leaving two cards or one and thu
rests q significance in where you
When you rise or how you bow Il
III means as much to the language
good manners as accents or termir
tons mean in rendering yoaf ennn 2
atoms of the French tongue iHtelligt
to the natives of that country.
AS you get on familiar footing W
the written laws OF good manners,
each newly acquired bit of inform
tion into practice in your daily l
Don't bss satisfied with keeping wi
you have learned in your head, 9
don't drag out your newly acquil
knowledge only on particular and i
portant occasions. You can never ht
to cast the spell OF personal charm
that fashion. 1t IS daily ana hOll