The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1904-02-04

A HEART TO- HEART
TALK WITH BRIDES

To the newly welded wife, the desire
on the part of her husband to eschew
entertainments In the evenings, after
the honeymoon has waned and its con-
sequent receptions and return calls have
passed into history, often comes as a
shock; for In her Eirlhood days she has
been used, perhaps. to one long round
OF gayety. To this girl the new state of
AFFAIRS is certainly bitter pill.
Yet. life cannot always be passed at
the theater. or going to dear Jessie's
house, or to dances. for when a man Il
married he begins life i'm earnest; he
shoulders a dual burden; he goes out
each day to fight for his wife and him
self. too. whereas in the old days he had
but one to think OF.
So in the very nature of things the old
life is changed and all things have be-
come new.
Therefore, Mrs. Youngwife. 1t is your
duty to make your home pleasant
resting place for your husband SO the
little nest. whether IT be a small apart
ment OF two rooms a fat OF house,
must be kept i'm beautiful ORDER, and
many will be the surprises planned for
the Homecoming each evening OF the
best man In the world
Do Not Retail Trials.
Whatever the trials of the day with
Maggie. or the losses in the laundry; II
the cake didn't turn out as you ex-
pected. or the elevator boy was insolent,
forget 1t before he arrives, and endeavor
to look sweet and happy, that the sight
OF you may gladden. your husband
tired eyes. Remember. he has been
downtown all day. amid the hustle.
confusion. and noise. and that he has
had manifold little troubles In his bust
ness day. He is weary and exhausted In
the Inevitable struggle for livelihood.
and you must not rehearse your trifiing
worries to add to his burden. When
you sit down calmly and think them
over. they are trifing. are they not?
When a man reaches home and finds
a good meal, a sweet-tempered wife.
a clean Preside land this takes IN wide
area). an easy chair. his slippers, house
coat. pipe, and his paper. he rests con-
tented. and wouldn't envy Solomon in
all his glory Given these conditions.
he rarely wants to get into his evening
clothes and go to the theater. No
doubt IL is showing outside. and II is
hard. indeed. to leave the CHEEKY fire.
side. to sit I'm the glare OF myrieds OF
electric lights that make his eyes ache.
and to hear voices that jar on his tired
brain. Yet you think he is selfish IL he
does not take you ont oftener in the
evening. and you think your life nonot-
onous In consequence.
During the Day.
Well, you must go out in the day
time. Call on your friends go 20 your
weekly club. once in a while take some
one TO the matinee. II you but look
l..
ments take place in the early afternoon,
leaving you the majority OF your even
ings at home with your husband.
But he viii not object TO few friends
for a friendly game occasionally. A
man enjoys playing the part of host,
but IL necessitates going to little even
ing once in while at some other per-
sons home.
Most men, especially those whose
work is mental and consequently weary
ing. like to be let alone In the evening.
and they enjoy the calm OF their "own
four walls" They are constituted that
way and the sooner the bride finds IL
out the better And II she is wise she
Will see the wisdom OF It, too. Working
all day and going out every evening. as
the husband has done in his counting
days. is equivalent TO burning the can
die at both ends, and IL cannot be kept
up: for a man cannot do his work prop
erly, and do Justice to his employer. IL
he has one. when he starts the day
without being sufficiently rested from
the previous one.
IL all amounts TO this: All men are a
wee bit selfish, from feminine stand
point. So let the feminine part be TO
learn this fact early, and since IN this
attribute man is semper eadem. wives
remain.