The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-12-11
Some Social Troubles
By Mrs. J. M. deCOtteS.

other in a manly voice saying, Ma dame. you are radiant and your evening Is delightful success" How her face beamed with the glow of youth. beau- ty and joy!
 The guests she had bidden had come, and had done we'll their parts on the stage of her setting.
 was again at that home, a year af- ter. when the cloud of a great sorrow rested over 1t. Its inmates were shrouded in black.
 Again there were flowers and on them fell the daylight. sifted mellow through lace curtains. In a casket lay the dear dead, the calm. peaceful face that was dearest to her was the central figure now. while she was in a room above bowed in grief closeted with those who were near to her and who though they could not comfort her. would suffer with her. Again, in the home assembled a goodly company, but the faces of the guests of a year ago were not among them. They were the faces of those who had not entered" They were faces of those who had loved and suffered; middle aged figures gowned In black; faces crowned with gray hair; under unselfish faces. When, with soft tread, the pall-bear- CTS gathered about the bier. he who had called her radiant" was not one of them. When she. silent. grief stricken. followed her beloved. still in death, no jeweled hands clasped her waist; no hands clasped hers. but tear full eyes and bowed heads bespoke low ing sympathy
 Who was this company? They were the reserve force of the ''favorite;" they were family friends: they were mothers" friends-'father's" friends. They were not in the race-they were "others."
 Those who needed not to be bidden had come and had done well their part on the stage that had been set for her
 It Is we'll for the social favorite to bear in mind the friends whose sympathy she may want while she cultiyates those whom she values and who value her.
 They may remember when the otn- CTS forget.
 A certain Montgomery woman in perfect good standing is said to bore to evaporation her friends with talk on the subject of her popularity, her numerous engagements, the luncheons and other small affairs that demand so IluSAl pL lAtL lILlG' AlWdyS that others present are not among the expected and a few days ago l was requested to write her up. I am afraid 1t Is hopeless case. A screw loose. For a woman who has through some happy circumstance gotten into society suddenly-a little late in life to exploit her engagements in a vul- gar manner is no more astonishing than some of the pitiful struggles of the nouveaue riche to evhiblt their newly acquired wealth but 1t is a lit- tie singular when one hears & woman who Is supposed to have been in good society since birth, brag in a most plebian way of the number of invita- tions received and act as if astonished at the fact. Sometimes the woman whose conversation Is full of the press of engagements is little off and her name is not always on the list.
 A little advice to this woman is that she take some things for granted, and if she Is not in her proper place in the best circles, keep quiet about 1t. Do not help others find it out by showing her cloven foot. It isn't wise
 There is a great desir1 on the part of some of Montgomery'f nostesses to establish the "Day at Homo system here. The plan is that bach neighbor- hood should select a day on which to