The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1904-10-23

all these considerations count in con iecturing
what sort of time she is going to have.
Her own personal qualities have more
TO do with her experience during the second
winter of her social life than at the outset.
If she has many friends through her family
position, her first seq sons Invitations are
a matter of course. If she has neither
charm, beauty nor other attractions her
second season invitations are less certain.
They depend on her own personality.
During her first year, once she has been
introduced to the social world, she figures
as one of a group of d6butantes who are
seen everywhere together. They receive
at one anothers teas, they meet at dances
and dinners, and the name OF one rarely APP
pears in social records without the others:
Their rIothers are usually friends, and
in many cases made their debuts together
many years before.
There are now other means OF introduce
ing young girl to society than the after
noon tea Sometimes series OF afternoon
receptions extending over month may
be given exclusively for the women friends
of the hostess who wants her daughter to
have an opportunity to meet them and
knows that in the mere formal greeting of a
crowded room anything like even the most
casual acquaintance is impossible. Men
are sometimes not invited at all to these
functions, because tSey- care nothing about
them. Last winter, afternoon receptions
of this kind were followed by dinnera for
young people, and in che or two cases
Informal dancing followed the dinners,
more guests being invited In to make the
number large enough.
Some of the young women who have
recently come into society. OF the most
modish kind have not been formally intro
duced at all. These girls, who were lucky
enough to be assured of invitations to all the
balls of the winter, simply eegan to go to
them, with no warning or announcement
of the fec, that they were ready for eocietv
beyond the limitations which their
mothers gave to their friends. These were
luckily friends who were able to be OF the
greatest advantage to them, and they were
Guests at all the functions which marked
them as being really In society.
Girls have been known to make their
social d6tuts at a horse show, never hav-
ing been allowed there in the evenings
until 1t was time for them to take their place
along with their elders in society. The pres
enoe of the girls who are just out is sought
by all the entertainers. hostess old enough
to be the grandmother of some Of the young
women she asks must always have at her
ball every winter the d6butantes Of that
wear Without them her party would la0k
brilliancy, and she knows 1t. SO her Visiting
l'St is always revised every year to nc,uos
t'le young women just out OF school.
Some Of these young girls are fortunate
| enough to have friends and relatives who
make their debuts into social life especially
| brilliant. An uncle may give ball. an
aunt n large theatre party, and other rela-
| tives a series of dinners. There are New
York girls born to such lucky experiences,
Then the young girl may be so attractive
| AVID irresistible that strangers are a2x'ous
TO make life pleasant for her.
.Whc is that pretty, black haired girl over
there2s one dowager will ask Of another in
the interp.issions of a cotillon they are
watching. 1--we seen her at several places
this winter. She is charming little thing
"She is the youngest Of those two Smith
girls" answers her companion. .l'he y're
rather new people, but they've had great
success. Got In at southampton, hssr
Lovely girls, though"
! Call her over here says the dowager
/ still eying her with a certain critical salts
faction through her lorgnon. I'm going
to do something for her, or ask her to some
thing. Looks like a nice girl, too
Thus the fortunate ones Of this life
although they may not have numerous and
| influential relatives, are sometimes able to
win out, in spite of lacking these aids to
| success.
| The mother who brings out her daughter
! in the more conventional way by clinging
TO the afternoon tea has this year indicated
! an intention to Use in her invitations the
script which has been popular 80 long
Old English tyne is much smarter, but it Is
| also much moss costly and the difference
in price Is 90 great that any persons