New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-09-09
Hozxsee0fOes Exchange.

THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE.
There is an old German proverb. IAN apple falls
far from its tree" which has always been
a great favorite OF mine for I have always found
II Dnfailingy true Sometimes ! have been de-
eNived by q veneering OF poHteness IN a woman
whose children unbearably rude, but was
not deceived for long-sooner later it became evil
dent that blossom and fruit were like the parent
tree ! have never heard the English equivalent
for this German proverh. though once heard
New-England woman say OF ne.ghbor who was
about to entertain some delegates, IF she wants
to make good impression on those strangers.
she'd better hide her childrenr SO is II that
they betray usI Watch a group of children at
play; watch your own children. note how the play
mother speaks TO her children. TO her servants, If
you wish 10 yourself portrayed
mother once gave a birthday party for her
six-year-old daughter She confessed TO a neigh
Dor that she had invited the children OF certain
newcomers. because she knew they would be
glad 70 be invited to her house that they would
probably send handsome gifts! 1t only nat
ural that tbs daughter OF such a mother should
look for the Sterling mark on her silver gifts be-
fore she thanked the donors. was 1t surprising
that when certain small boy presented a little
cup and she should look it critically.
and then remark: 1T doesn't look very expensive
don't believe it cost Inuchr' The little fellows
face flushed painfully while the little girls mother
was mortified. well she might be, TO her
self thus betrayed
On Anotner OCCASION a ulOIner was making some
very critical remarks about her most intimate
friend. Her young daughter, who present be-
gan to add TO the criticisms. when her mother
turned sharply upon her. with. Margaret. stop at
once. How often have I told you you must not
criticise? It is very rude" And to my great sur
prise. after rebuking her daughter she actually
went on with her criticisms.
once heard small boy of five say. when
his mother urged him to apologize to a playmate
Well. I'm not bit sorry. but I'll apologize for
policy's sake I not surprised. for policy
had always been his mothers watchword
il seems TO me the American womsn possess
moro power, influence than the women Of
othsr countries, and 1t great pity they do
not exert their influence for the good of their
children. Tor any woman can lead child to will
10 do what lie right. But to do this she must first
have locals OF her own nave known mothers
oilorei-eVen, aianl praiBed them for sef-seeking.
have known other mothers who, while they
talked and preached poIteness, were Invariably
rude 10 members of their femily, TO interiors
and servants They did not realize that what we
are browns what wa say. and that even q chit= IS
not deceived By sham IDEAL only the true
the Enother-cRn ever become the Ideal which the
child viii strive to attain
The English children are brought up under an
stantly with their elders. The smallest English
house has q room set apart for the nursery and
here the children grow simply and naturally. all
OF family expenses and the ordinary family gos-
sip-the American child has ell this 70 endure.
Our democratic form OF goyernnaen cannot be
blamed Tor the lack of manners. for Win lts Tree
schools and colleges. 1t offers the opportunity to
every one 10 rise II he will, No man need be a
churl or boor unless he prefers 70 be- Mneh can
more could be cone Il there were some bod Of
sympathy. acquaintance even. ber7een tia riorner