The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1904-05-18

suicide and took on dreadfully. The
other was an aristoarat, and he took
his congo in gloomy blue biooded sill
ence, but afterwards had the impu-
oence TO so and complain to the am
bassador and ask him TO make me
change lny mind Both Of these men
proposed marriage in an excited. rhap-
so0ical manner but with am underIy-
ing assurance of success that was most
distasteful 10 me. They seemed sure
that they were going to be accepted,
and no woman likes that In man
IT. presumptuous
The English are different and nicer.
said the conqueror of forty good men
and true. They make up their minds
90 marry you and nothing YOU can say
or do can prevent them from putting
their request into words. And, once
started. they carry it through TO the
bitter end. its much more convincing
70 hear q siOlia. stammering young
British subaltern asert that he loves
you than TO listen to the high flown
poetry with which an italian viii make
the same statement. The English style
Is bullheaded, but it is forceful- When
left Liverpool TO sail for home my to-
tai proposals had been sweued to
twelve tn all, and I would have felt
conscience stricken about it If il hadn't
been for che fact that I had honestly
tried 60 nip every threatened avoWal
in the bud. It's easy to refuse an Eng-
I1shman. though. He's a gentleman and
he's game. He takes his medicine with
a sttn upper lip, and he never com
plains or Whines like continental
does. I'm way that makes il harder
20 say Ne because it hurts SO.
"A1y first real American prog 7saI oc-
CURED at home during my first season
out. and III tell it in detail. because
"A
large party with man who had been
attentive 10 me for some months. /
liked him very much and 1 didn't want
him to propose to me, but in a weak
moment J promised to sit out several
dances with him. and he took advau-
tage of his opportunity. He was quiet
as mouse when we first found a nook
and settled ourselves in it. I talked as
fast as I could and tried to make him
do the same, but he was not TO be de
MED He cleared the decks for action
By firmly telling me he was not in
mood for talking fOOlishness. Then ne
squared his chin and frightened his
mouth until it was just a level streak
across his face, and he told me without
preface that he liked me better than any
other person in the world. ] thanked
him without cOquetry, and said that
I was fond Of him and that we had had
some good times together that winter.
But I mean a lot more than that
he said I know that I simply cannot
get on without you, and I want you to
be my wife. ] don't want TO hold YOU
up right here and now and make you
say Yes because I'd rather never see
you again than have any feeling OF
CompulsiOn about it. But If you feel
that you can tell me whether there is
any hope for me ] wish you'd do il.
L love you. dear, more than anybody in
the world, and that makes me brave
enough TO ask you whether you can
care for a man like me-
That's just the way he said ii.
remember it as if it were yesterday
And he squared his shoulders and
looked at me steadily with his honest
blue eyes while I searched my soul to
find out If I really cared enough TO say
Yes But I knew that my doubling
my love was proof Of its non-eXistence, !
so I told him No, and cried absUt il,
because liked him so much and / hat
Ell TO have him 60 But he went, not
angry with nee and not whining about
himself. but begging me not TO worry
about the matter. His was the unset I
hs hway Of asking "a woman to marry
him, and it's the typical American way. +
Sometimes there is more sentiment
about e., but the man is always mas
ter Of himself and bent first on spar
ing the woman that he loves. Even
the college boys are that way.
THE place where j received the most
proposals in the least time, went on
The expert more quickly, was in Wash
ington. I was only there one season,
but over a dozen men proposed to me. |
They were mostly diplomats and L
didn't like it a bit They'd do it at
dinner. between the soup and the en-
tree, and never bother about it half as
much as L did.
Another means which a number Of
men took TO ask me TO marry them was
the United States mail I cali that /
1OWardly. because q man could always /
say more on paper than he would dare I
to i'm speaking to YOU and I took pains /
ID refuse these prOffers as briefly as
could. A cablegTam. / paTdoned, be- +
cause the man was In China and he /
had heard that / was about to become /
engaged 10 someone else. But / ca /
oled back No and IL cost me s.. Two /
proposals / received and declined with /
put knowing that they were in earnest. .