New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-09-21

FOR DEVELOPMENT OF CHARACTER.
Being constant reader OF your paper I have
been in no small measure interested IN the recent
articles in the Housewives Exchange IN regard to
the sehshness OF mothers and the selfsacrihce OF
daughters.
Many truths have already been uttered on this
matter We have all OF US our own problems 20
solve. whether we have parents TO whom we owe
much little respect. For our own right develop
ment we must show the utmost respect 10 our
elders Sometimes to him who surmounts the
greatest obstacles comes the greatest reward
While thank Mary for starting this discussion,
7 think Il is a subject that the greatest wisehead
outside the family circle cannot we'll decide. Only
one OF the inner members OF the home (and then
fair minded one) could tell whether it is the mother
or Mary who is fault. Often the sO-called
seIhshness of mothers comes from circumstances
over which the mother has no more control than
the daughter Selhshness is selhshness. whether
we find IL among the old the young.
We have all heard OF Love divine all love
ceiling" Let me tell you that next TO this is
a true mothers love. The daughters can but rank
third at the best And it is the perfection OF
love I'm now considering
In the case OF Mary her mother and the patient
lover my heart aches for all three. For myself. I
should have TO decide such matter alone with my
conscience and my God. Then. II there
cost to self only God should know how great. II
seems TO me that IL Marys lover were younger.
Wen say just starting in business. Mary's
mother might then be obstacle TO the marriage.
But II he has waited for Mary eight years he
should by this time, IL ever, be enough OF a fnan-
cier to help Mary care for her mother. whether
the mother should live under the roof or
not. In the latter long separation be-
tween the mother and daughter is entirely
sary. l hope Mary viii reconsider and marry
him this way. II he is a manly man. nothing
short Of this IS justice TO any one OF the trio II
he is not. he would not appreciate self-sacrce in
the married state any more than Marys sacrifice
TO her mother. In this instance. in the long
she's better of without him.
The more homes there run by good true and
for the development OF character. And this Is an
essential thing il the rising generation and genera
tons to come to take place in the first rank
of the mental. moral spiritual. business and prac-
tical and women of this world The ideal
home (and il takes a husband and wife with
enough interests in common to work together TO
make il ideaD, matter how humble. IS the great
est centre for good in this world It's glimpse OF
heaven II must be holy and true. and then Il Is
the most far reaching institution for good
What all placed in this world for any,
way? Let us remember that character Is heavenly
not earthly And therefore it comes, usually. at
a high price
love has grown cold. remember your lover Mary
And you needn't neglect your mother to do II
either. Let her live with you. IL necessary hut
don't disappOint true man who has had such
faith in you that he has had the courage TO wait
eight years Look ahead. we'll as at the present
God will help you 20 decide this matter rightfuIv
if you will let Him. And let US hear The de-
ciSion Of a true woman in the Housewives BY.
change AN UNMARRIED DAUGHTER
Millbrook. Duchess County. N. Y.