The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1904-10-15

the Type of Man to Marry, Plan for
Their House and Children and Usu-
ally Succeed in Carrying Out Their
Ideas
There is not the slightest danger of
the young girl of the present day fail
! ing to get what she wants because OF
undue modesty or a retiring DISPOSE
ton. Reference is made to the girl Of
from sixteen to nineteen, brought up in
the modern way, with plenty of friends
and money, who perhaps goes away to
school, belongs to numerous societies
and is a young person. who thoroughly
understands herself. Her grandmother
may well envy her self-possession.
Watch her in street cars, trains or res
taurants and you will learn a lesson in
how to get through the world. This is
not to say that she is unduly forward
or in the least rude, but SO wonderfully
and fearfully au fat. 1t is-hard to say
in English just how thoroughly we'll
acquainted she is with forms, conven-
tons and just what to do at all times.
One would suppose that if she found
herself in a ear without a red cent it
would phase her just the least bit and
she might wonder how she was going
to extricate herself from position
which would make an older woman un-
comfortable. But not my girl of today.
She tells the conductor calmly that
she finds herself without money and
that if he will give her an envelope she
will send him nickel Immediately.
She straightway puts it in her pocket
and forgets the incident This is not
meant as criticism, as it is highly de-
sirable that every girl should know
how to take care of herself, but is
merely mentioned as an example of the
wonderful readiness of the modern girl
to meet situations You will find in
conversing with her that she is not in
doubt upon any subject. Her cock
sureness about everything from meta
physics to parlor curtains makes one
wonder what is the use of speculation
and study. If you talk to her for long
you will discover that she has picked
out the man she will marry, picked him
out in general way. that is, knows
just what the color of his eyes must
be and has long ago decided just how
many evenings he will be allowed to
spend at the club. More than that, she
has planned her house, theorized about
(uS UP OI n6T CQl1QT6n ana mas
views upon domesticity and the house
hold which would give pause to
Charlotte Perkins herself. When. she
is fifteen she has made up her mind
what boarding school she will attend
and why; what mems college is hers by
preference and also why. She always
knows the why Of everything, this
wonderful girl. She has decided, too,
at what age she will marry and how
he will yr1 11.1-frr
down. AS rule the modern American
girl has not very great amount of
sentiment and that is one reason why
she succeeds so admirably. For if you
will take the trouble to watch her for
a few years, you will be surprised per-
haps to discover that she goes to the
school she elects, travels abroad as she
desires, Tnarries the man with blue
eyes at the exact age she chose as the
time. has the number of children she
planned for and conducts her entire
establishment Just as she meant to
when she was sixteen. Admirable,
wonderful girl!
AS a rule. this successful young
woman does not bother much about
older people, nor has she much time
for the small kindnesses which are the
salt Of life. She is attending strictly
to the business in hand and that is
getting what she wants in the way she
wants it. Now this may be considered
hard by some women. They may find
fault with me and say I have exag-
gerated the case. If you do, write and
say so, and I will print the letters
cheerfully. OF course it goes without
saying that the description here Civ
en- does not fit all girls. There are
many who are quiet, modest whose
hearts often run away with them and
smash to smithereens the plans so
carefully made by their heads, but
think it is safe to say the description
fits a large number of fashionable and
Well-to-do girls of the present day.
Perhaps it is not well to have too much
heart; indeed, it is certain 1t is not If
if you would succeed in this world. The
girl who had so carefully planned to
marry a man with blue eyes and so
much a year, might find herself loving
desperately some man with brown eyes
and nothing year and willing to live
On a, crust with him. This could hap
pen to the girl who did not know as
much as the remarkable one just con-
sidered, but I have my doubts about
its occurring to the other kind. Love
and carefully made calculations do not
go very we'll together with real people
And now word on a very different
subject. There is man who refuses
to tell who he is, yet calls this depart
ment up on the telephone whenever the
spirit moves him who needs to be told
publicly what very detestable per-
son he is His first word is always,
! who is this?" Whereupon he is asked
who he is and informed that we do
not converse or give names to persons
unless we know to whom we are talk
ing. Whereupon he becomes very i'm
pertinent and says he does not know
why be called the number except that
it is on his memorandum. After this
I he lapses into silly talk This is mere
~ to ask him to scratch it off.