The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-01-30

of the pernicious yulgarity Of telling tales
out of school. BY foolish and med dlesome
advisers and intimates she has been. in :
cited to take a strong position about some
tri1ing affair, which, II ignored, would
have blown over and been forgotten
Apropos, wish to sing the praises of a
friend of mine who revealed to me re-
Gently her code OF conjngal theory and
practice under which she has enjoyed SUI
premest welded contentment these many
years. 1t lis a code that I can heartily
recommended any bride who thinks deep.
ly on the important question of how to
be happy tho married.
The Way to 4 Man. Heart.
81 am not said this merry-faced
! woman, lone Of those. who cling to the
erroneous and oft-quoted philosophy that
the way to mans heart is invariably
thru his stomach. There may be men
who live to eat, but my husband is not
one of them. and as i am only toler-
ably good housekeeper, I had to find
another and surer route to the head
waters of his. affections.
Il need not describe all the processes
/ leading up to discovery, but eventually
learned that nothing sweetens matrimony
, like the timely, tactful little compliment
have celebrated good many wedding
anniversaries, but still know when and
where and how to tell my Dick that he
looks stunningly well I'm his evening
! clothes; that z heard Mrs Brown re
mark that she thought him awonder-
fully delightful conversationalist, and that
Mr.. Jones confded to me that he was the
most companionable man in the club.
And Dick. likes to hear me say those
things; he looks very gratifed when I
casually remark to Mrs. Blank that in all
these years he has never failed to notice
if dropped my ball Of wool or my hand
kerchief, and he smiles a bland smile
when I mention that HIS new neckties Is
very becoming.
| when he has picked up clever story
or made a particularly nice little joke him
self and we have guests in to dinner, /
until the jest or the anecdote fits in and
then l Join in the laughter and applause,
and my good man looks at me with eyes
of appreciative pleasure.
Believe me that all these small efforts
are seeds that fall into good ground. for
Dick is as sharp as a woman to notice
my new hats and gowns. He quotes my
little sayings, and thru the twenty-five
years of our partnership some of the
glamour of our courtship has lived and
lighted us pleasantly on our way.
Il once had a neighbor who differed
from this point. Because her hus-
band told rather antique stories and
wished to tell them often she rudely and
regularly tried to frown them down at
table. The consequence was that she
made her guests highly uncomfortable,
and. what was far worse. she hurt her
husbands feelings. BY and by he came to
resent her reprehensible habit. he began
to drift away from home to places where
his little puns and tales were received
kindly. and then she woke up one morning
to find that love was gone and discourtesy
had evicted him. Finally there was a
divorce.
"A pity. was it not? If she had only
been patient and civil over tiny detail
that tragedy would never have come into
her life. She was one of the women who
failed to see that the Emainstay of love is
sweet courtesy and generous Cancellation
over the minor incidents of welded life.
and that marriage is after all nothing
more nor less than a, beautiful treaty Of
reciprocity negotiated in the high courts
Of true friendship
- 'jff.-Ade:aide Gordon.