The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1904-11-06
A MANS VIEWS ON FLIRTING.

Northwestern University of Chicago IN
n lecture to the goods OF that In.
stitution has just laid down the follow
lis rules Of proper conduct for a young
lady:
Do not seek the attentions Of young
men.
Never notice young men who look at
you from the corner of their eyes.
Do not stroll on the campus with
more than one escort.
DO not employ little devices to at
Ssact young men-a man Of real worth
will seek you for yourself alone.
Don't encourage the attentions of too
many young men; such conduct cheap
ems a woman.
These are admirable precepts for the
way to become an old maid, that it
is safe to say that no coed will be
silly enough to follow, but the pro-
fessor's views are interesting as show
ing how little a man knows of what
attracts a man in woman, and of how
little man is able TO distinguish the
snares that are set for him, or per-
ceive the trap in which he is caught.
ANO SUBJECT Is MATTER OF more per-
petual wonder among women than this,
for every Benedict thinks he married
for one thing while his wife knows
that he married for something else.
The things a man thinks he admired
in woman are never the qualities
that actually attracted him, and il a
man could really find his ideal he
couldn't be induced to marry her. The
funniest thing about courtship is that
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in the game, he never knows how it
is played.
Take, for instance, the professors
first rule of correct conduct for young
women: do not seek the attentions
of young men," Theoretically nothing
is so distasteful to a man as the
thought that he is being pursued by
q woman. 1t is doubtful if women had
the privilege of proposing if it would
do them any good because every man
would say mo" when a fair one pop
ped the question. A man likes to
think when he courts a woman that he
is storming a citadel that no other man
could take, and that puts UP good
fight against him, and is only finally
overcome by his irresistible attraction.
On the other hand, to marry a woman
who was plainly anxious to marry him,
makes him feel that he has been taken
In in a confidence scheme.
When man thinks about getting
married he has a picture of himself
seeking out some shy, and modest, and
retiring little creature who has always
been kept unspotted from the world
in the sacred seclusion of her own
home, but as a matter of fact, when
he does marry he does nothing of the
kind. He marries some girl who was
right out in the middle of the stage
N 1pta q..II
her so that he could see her. The girl
who takes a mans advice about the
best way to catch a husband being to
stay quietly in the background is
doomed to have splnster carved on her
tombstone. 1t is true that men ad-
mire the modest and unpretentious
violet. but they never notice it until
they see 1t done UP in purple ribbons
behind the plate glass of a florists
window.
AS for seeking the attentions of
young men. no woman who knows her
business does it-so far as the man
knows. If she did she wouldn't get
them. She merely puts herself, as our
Methodist friends used to say at the
love feast, in an attitude to receive the
blessing. She doesn't run after a man,
but she camps along the path he is in
the habit of walking. She doesn't hold
him up for civilities, but when he ten
ders her courtesies she is so apprecia-
tive and subtlx f1attering that she in
spires him to repeat them. She doesn't
pop the question to him, but she leads
him to the proposing point so that he
topples over of himself.
Never notice young men who look
at you from the corner of their eyes,"
This is the academic way of referring
to the goo-goo eye, and to eliminate
the goo-goo eye is to do away with the
first aid to love making. 1t is the man.
ner in which dawning interest wig
ways its signal from heart to heart
AS long as a man stares at a woman
with a plain. full, wide opened eye
there is no occasion for her to notice
him. So he looks at a stranger, so he
looks at his grandmother so he looks
at his clearinghouse keeper. so he
looks at his laundress, but when he
takes to glancing at her out of the
corner of his eye that is another sto-
nv. He has differentiated her from
the crowd. 1t is loves first overture,
and If no woman noticed the man who
glanced at her out of the tail of his
eye, there would be no more marriages
DO not stroll on the campus with
more than one escort" is bad advice
anyway you take it. In love, as In
war, there is safety in numbers, and
the girl who has a dozen beaux is
Just eleven times less likely to fall in
love than If she had only one. Divid-
ed attractions distract her attention.
She admires Dick for his intelligence,
Tom for his good nature. Harry for the
droop of his moustache, Bob thrills
her with his football exploits, Charles
comes up to her ideal of Christian
hTsanhoodi Icarry's chocolate creams
plead for him in his absence, and II
is so impossible to choose the best
among so many good things that she
doesn't choose at all.
The otherside of the proposition also
merits consideration for, as far as
men are concerned, no woman is so
admirable as the much admired, and
the girl who limits herself to one beau.
seldom has any. Why II comes to
women, men are like sheep they fol-
low the leader No man has the cour-
age to admire a woman that no other
man admires, but ne Is cheerfully Will
eng to chip in with the majority and
burn incense before any woman who
has already established a reputation
as a belle. Thus will II be seen how
unwise il is for a girl TO limit herself
70 one man. whether she wishes to re-
main single or get married
Don't employ little devices to at
tract men-a man of real worth will
seek you for yourself alone" These
are noble words, full OF cheer but I'M