Wausau pilot. [volume] (Wausau, Wis.) 1896-1940, 1904-12-13

Sow Wife Can Help Her Husband.
Whether marriage shall make or
mar a man undoubtedly depends on
the woman he marries, and lucky in
deed is the man whose wife recog-
niZes this important fact. There are
many people, however, who uphold
Shakespeare's assertion that "A young
man married is man that's marred,"
owing to the fact that so few wives
understand how they can influence
their husbands lives and help them
to realize their ambitions. For I'M
less a wife affords her husband every
help in her power, and decides that
his failure shall be through no short
Comings ON her part, he is apt to find
the struggle too much for him and
relinquish his youthful aspirations.
1t is somewhat pitiful to see man
striving to reach the goal of his am
hitions while hampered With an I'M
sympathetic and disintereseed wife,
who either cannot or will not concern
herself with her husbands ideas and
doings. She may love him truly and
sincerely, and be pattern wife from
a domestic point Ct view, but the am
bilious man who is to be successful
wants more than that. He must have
wife who viii take an interest in his
talk and work, even if she does not
thoroughly understand his ideas; who
will praise him in his triumphs, e-C-
tend encouraging sympathy in his fail
ures and tender helpful advice when
ever she is able to give it.
Wives too often fall into the error
of thinking that when they have 1T
tended to the domestic affairs of the
home and the creature comforts of
their husbands they have done all that
is required of them.
They argue with themselves that
they cannot understand their hus-
bands work and business sufficiently
well to help in any practical manner,
and consequently it is no use troubling
to talk matters over with them.
In such cases marriage will, in nine
cases out of ten, mar a mans chances
of real success. He becomes discour-
aged when even the one who processes
to love him refuses to recognize the
merits of his work, and share his hopes
and fears. The fact that his wife
leaves him unaided in his difficulties
causes him to sink under them.
A wife may not be able to assist her
husband in any practical manner; but
by the exercise of a little tact she can
get him to confide his troubles in her,
when, for instance, he returns home
from the Office or workshop with a
worried and anxious mind, and the
mere fact of him being able to talk
matters over with some one who is
ready to sympathize with him, even if
she cannot advise, is often a great
comfort and help to a man. Her con-
Germ about his business troubles, and
her belief that he will find a way out
of them, acts as a spur and arouses
the energies which he was allowing to
lie dormant.
A wife must not allow her husband
to sink into that monotonous grind for
daily bread which destroys mans
energy and makes him forget his
youthful ambitions, or put them aside
as unattainable because he has 9TH
ers depending upon him. She must
not forget for one moment those am
billions, or fail to remind her husband
of them at favorable times. If her
husband is an artist and if "pot-boil-
ers' must be painted, the great picture
which is to make her husbands name
must be discussed and pondered over,
even while its actual beginning seems
problematical.
A wife can aid her husband in a
thousand ways-socially, if he is
professional man, as well as with her
busy brain and fingers-but his surest
spur is her belief in him and his am
billions, a belief which never doubts,
and is frankly, constantly and low
ingly representations Monthly.