The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1904-05-18
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bow do men propose?
AAefe is one woman in Chicago who
knows if anybody does
Ter Forty men have asked her TO
marry them.
She has kept a faithful record of
now they acted i'm proposing. but she
doesn't want Dc known. So she won't
slFe her name, and refuses TO allow
her photograph TO adOrn this page-iJ
Woula be adornment, too. And her
name iS one wen known I'm society.
Hatfng Just announced her engage
ment after eight years of unquestioned
social success she has consented t'f0r
purely scientific purposes, TO discuss
The manners and methods of the
modern y0ung man when proposing
marriage to the modern young woman
III is not often that such a subject is
freely talked of by one qualified TO
know anything about it, Girls do &c
amongst themselves, they say, bat
they 90 il in a ragmentary way. con-
ceaiing many things and being afraid
To tell of their cOnquest5 lest they
should be accused of empty Boosting
by less fortunate compeers. A sense
OF honor not too often accredited to
them is also powerful in enforcing re-
ticence. But to aid the ''undevelOped
science Of Psychology" the expert In
prematrimOniaI skirmishing has con-
scented TO disregard all these influences
and TO frankly relate her proposal
experiences, emitting names and dates,
as an honorable maiden must. Her
first statement was sufficiently start
ling TO make the common or garden
mere masculine man sit up and take
notice.
Forty different men have asked me
to marry them" she said, simply. II
am sure of the number, because I
thought it was at least their due to
have me remember always the people
who have paid me this great compli-
ment"
The seeker after psychological data
gasped.
IT'S not such an extraordinary num-
Der, went on the expert" pOuting a
little. i've been ont since 1886, and
that's only an average Of FIVE a year
since. OF course the proposals didn'
all come as regularly as that, and it
seems brutal to speak OF them in such
statistical way, as If they were
census figures or election returns. But
I suppose that for the sacred cause Of
science such squamish feelings must
be suppressed. Even science, however |
can't make me disclose the particulars
Of the frst and the last times that
man asked to marry me. For it hap
pens that the same person was the
hero Of both these happenings, and
expect to have the honor of bearing
his name after a certain day In June.
When he first asked me to be his wife
I was Is and he was Is. I said Yes
but mother said No and I was hur
ried off To boarding school
While 7 was at school I received
three proposals of marriage. A san
Francisco girl there whose father had
left her millions in sugar must have
received hundreds during the same
period. Poor little thingl Shed get
these letters from absolute strangers
asking her to marry them and at first
she used to cry over them terribly. /
found out. though. that she had been
engaged to two youthful Californians
before she was il years old. and /
didn't waste any sympathy on her after 1
that. But wasn't it horrible? Just /
think Of the number Of constituencies /
fortune hunters there must be in this /
country to permit one rich girl to re-
CeiVe so many brazen appeals Ny /
proposals were Of a different sort. They /
were from three young college lads I
whom I had known at home, and I 4
must say that OF all the people that I
have asked me to marry them always +
excepting One). these boys did il In the 4
most attractive manner. I don't sup
pose they really were in love with me, I
for they seemed to get over il easily. !
But they were so manly and 50 earn
really loved to have them do it. and /
felt like a tragedy queen when L said /
No in as near an approach to their 1
manner as / could. The college boy /
way of proposing is the Gibson way,
After that had an experience with /
foreign men," she continued, a little /
sadly, and they weren't nearly as nice /
as Americans. An Italian wanted me /
TO marry him while we were in Flor I
ence. First he spoke to mother and I
then he spoke to me, but neither Of us (
believed him because he talked so 4
much about it, He was deliCately sem (
timental, but he seemed efeminate aft I
or my nice college boys, and sat down /
and wrote them each a long letter the \
night after 7 had refused him. My /
italian exemplified the 'sappy' school of /
In France we stayed all /
summer in the American Partisan coll i
ony and two young men asked me 10 /
be their wife. I hated that. One was a
naval officer and he sWOre he'd commit