The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-02-15
OUR SOCL4I OIIGARCHS No4
, ppelbUtante succeed pebptanteS who faIl
 Is the social gift born or acquired? ,.
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way out of this fearful plight, she takes
 the road that at all events leads to mo-
 toriety. if not to social prominence.
 That a certain amount of scheming,
 plotting, or, to speak more diplomatical-
 ly, the laying out of a social campaign.
 is requisite in these days, when society
 is so complex, goes without saying But,
 like good commander in chief who se-
 lects his generals and, after selecting
 them. leaves all in their hands, who lays
 his plans wisely and does not change
 them, so does the woman who wishes for her daughter a successful social career
 plan out months ahead campaign and
 then fit the daughter for that. And this is generally the one who succeeds unless
 the material she has to work with Is hopeless.
 If girl is impossible socially-that is. If she has no socl,-- gIfts-after a season she is if well managed, withdrawn from what might be called the open arena of dances and formal entertainments. Then
 series of smaller and more exclusive entertainments. on the intellectual or der with the guests selected most care- l fully, will often prove of greatest avail. Lhere are very few girls in the world who are not possessed of some one tall ent. That talent. If developed carefully.
 will make the girl a success; and why not spend the same amount of time and money in that one direction rather than in trying to force her to be a belle?
 What Money Won't Do.
 | There is a lot of rubbish talked in these days about how money buys everything.
 Money will not make a girl a belle. and, curiously enough, often prevents her be- ing one if 1t Is unwisely spent. She may
 be invited to certain number of enter tainments in return for those she gives, for society is a business and 1t requires
 that the give and take system be carried out most punctiliously. But the girl her self does not gain one step. On the con- tFary, at the end of the season she has lost. Whereas if she has not money-by that Is meant not a large fortune-and depends more upon her own resources and makes more of a neffort to be agree able, she soon finds her own place, and one day wakes up to find herself a suc- cess with a capital "S." The American mother-it might truth fully be said the American parent-makes quite too much effort for her offspring. ! and where there is great wealth a girl is very apt to feel that her wealth will buy her attention Id admiration. The same mistake is made in regard to beau ty; but 1t requires marvellous beauty in these days and an astounding amount
 of wealth for either beauty or wealth to
 push girl provided she herself does not help along. t=
 The rudeness of the young man of the present day is very potent factor in
 a girls success or failure, and while the
 American young man is credited with
 being a great seeker of wealth and ad-
 mirer of beauty, what is seen and over-
 heard in bathrooms would go rather to dfsprove these two assertions. "Oh, MT. Tompkins, may ask you
 to kindly dance with my daughters friend. who has no partner for the cotiI- lion-that pretty gIrl over there. She wnl come into large fortune one of these | days-in fact has money in her own right-and am sure you will find her a charming girl. She does not know many
 people as yet, and. as you see. she has no partner" This Oy the hostess to a
 young man who has just dIned al her house.
 He'd Rather Not. Really. you must excuse me. Mrs. , Washington, but I don't care to dance | this evening, and have decided not to take any partner for the cotilIion. really
 prefer dancing stag. you know. Yes. she
 Is a very pretty girl, but does not seem
 to be a, success. does she now? Good
 evening. WilE see you later"