The Mitchell capital. (Mitchell, Dakota [S.D.]) 1879-1918, 1904-02-19

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folk, young man. this is my advice to
the bachelor who has social troubles OF
MS own.
1t helps you all along your career to
Know how 10 do this and do it we'll and
gracefully, whether the lode-star of your
life is the winning of mere material wealth
or the goodwill of society in general.
! Never boast that you are a mans man
he admission does not do You any credit
1t Is antamo to saying that you con-
less to some serious Shortcomings OF man.
ner, that you are a great sufferer from
shyness, ineltperience or the discourage
ment that arises from ignorance OF the
ways and means of ingratiating yourself
N feminine circles. ! am always genu-
lnely sorry for the avowed w~oman-hater,
and my firm conviction is that no bache-
or, be he young or old, dun or clever, is
4 misogynist by choice.
What Thackeray Says.
j speak so positively because more than
once l have been the fiattered recipient of
The condolences OF the best of young tel
ows. 1 shall not betray the exact nature
And extent of their self-revelation, but 1T
will suffice when / say that each one has
owned to Il strong sense of social impef-
lection and a desire to know how and
where to put a finger on the loose screw
II the daily machinery of living. Then 1t
s that j give some comfort and .consola-
ion by quoting and recommending to
perusal and study what the great English
novelist has said on the question of de-
Teloping a fine, easy and successful bear
ng In society.
Thackeray, you must know, set a great
leal of store by the manne of any man,
md when writing some very sound and
sensible advice to a suppositious nephew,
ae emphasized the Importance of knowing
low to make yourself popular with the
~lentler sex. Not less but more truly man
". interesting and generally esteemed had
lie always found the bachelor who UNDER
Itooi the art Of pleasing ladies.
This is true, not only because Thackeray
rays 1t, but because there are living IL
%ustrationB of Its forceful logic to be met
With every day, and when q young man
oours out his social sorrows to me and
isks my Recommendation of a good guide
20 etiquette, l follow up the name of a
reliable authority on manners with a sug-
g~estion from Thackeray.
Read, work, learn n outwardly OBJ
serve all the good rules, l say, and then
go where the incest kind of woman's in
auence will put your acquired knowledge
INTO practice and rub off the awkwardness
Of our demeanor and give you confidence
and courage.
If you are sensible and properly ambi.
! sious, I proceed, don't be satisfied with just
The book learning. To improve yourself
steadily, and in the right way, overlook
all kinds OF setbacks and make 1t youl
serious business to procure a calling &C
quaintance with a few well-bred, sweet.
hearted girls; venture now and then tc
take one of them to the play, along Will
her chaperon, and, even If 1t necessitates
an expenditure of great will power and
the taking of all your moral courage righ'
into your own two hands, go semi-occa'
sionally to a real dining, and. at leasi
once a season, to a ball.
OF course, you have got to make some
sacrifices of self indulgence. in order te
keep your manners in exercise and pol,
lshed up, but IL you don't do 1t you arr
going to suffer as a consequence, and {
good, graceful, thoroughly agreeable man
ner sometimes means as much to a young
man as stout muscles or excellent bust
ness training.
How to Please a Woman.
Having made up your mind to go out {
little, dom hlunder into the wrong con
illusions concerning the attentions tha'
please a woman. Resist the human temp
tation to ascribe the very evident attrac
tons of Brown, Jones and Robinson, Il
their well-tailored clothes. their we'll Sc
up figures. their very pretty native wit
Or their college education.
1 don't mean to say for one moment tha'
the clever, good looking, well-dressed fell
low has not a great deal in his favor. blu
no matter how ill-cut your coat may be
how red your hands, as the results o
hard farm work when you We're u boy, Of
how painfully conscious you feel, remem
Der that there is still one infallible wa.
open to you by which to win the liking O
the right kind of woman.
Show her an exquisite and unremittin
Difference. Never allow YOU shyness t.
interfere with the performance OF thos,
polite little actions that require no effor'
of wit or expenditure of money. The def
erential man oftentimes has not a frocl
coat TO his name, his beauty is not ever
ska deep and he can never pose as a Sid
ney Smith for wit, but every woman lla:
an honestly welcoming smile for him.
i l could give you the name, if | would, O
Just such u man, who began life as a law
yer's CLERK. He was big and gawky ant
Ill dressed. l cannot honestly say tina
his appearance made a great appeal in hi!
favor, or that upon first acquaintance h,
shone as a conversationalist. For al
that, there were few women who met ane
then quite overlooked or forgot him.
That was because he had a way O
surrendering his chair with a omptne
and a pleased smile that made it appear
as though he found 1t "a privilege to DE-
SO. lie opened the door, llfted your UNI
brella, relieved you of you parcels, of
fered you his arm, brought you a glas.
of water, handed you into a vehicle, am
listened to you had to say with al
air of one who found a distinct honor ii
rendering a lady any service.
When a lady was in his company it wa.
amazing how quick he was to note IL hel
gloves fell to the floor, If her tea cup wa.
empty, or il there was anything he could
do to render her more comfortable OF
happy. More than this, he carried hi.
deferential thoughtfulness into his rela.
lions with stout and embarrassing dow.
ayers quite as carefully as when his line:
were cast in the pleasant neighborhood o.
young and pretty girls; and though thest
little offices seem tribes light as air, they
nevertheless proved to every woman h,
met that the age of chivalry is not yer
passed.
Furthermore. they went far to bear un.
mistakable witness to the fact that he
was thinking not of himself but of hi.
feminine companion. and more irresisti.
BILE fiattery than that nc man can pay te
any daughter OF Eve, be she sixteen OF
sixty.
Compliments That Cost Nothing.
To win your way, promptly and certain.
lly, into the good graces of my. sex, yor
must learn to offer us a number of those
small compliments that cost nothing but
a little unselfish effort, and that no nice
woman ever fails to see and long remem.
Der. You strike wide OF the mark of pop
| ularity If YOU think that every charminp