New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-06-10
ESSENTIALS OF THE HOME.
"sweet ReasOnableness" Within, Added to a
Due Degree Of Privacy

A wise woman. with almost threescore OF well
lived behind her thus voices her ideal-found-
I'd on both experience and observation-of Essen
tails Of the Home:
LAS Mrs. Barbauld has said. the father and the
mother and the children. these make the home.
Something less may serve. even down to Dame Trot
and her cat. but this Is the ideal starting point
CcmpanionshiD Of some kind there must be. Did
Thoroau make Tor himself a home by Walden
Pond? 1t is doubtful whether that deserved the
name Of home. Possibly mis- books were compaa-
ionship enough for him. but few people would be
50 easily satisfied.
THE world shut out and love within. for at
least a definite portion OF the home life. the
ideals which should be cherished as essentials OF
the home Does family love need cherishins? Yes.
verify II is a hardy plant and home its natiVs
soil hut Il may die. Envy. jealousy. unkindness'
pickering II allowed place. may choke love out-
We have need 10 cultivate the love that excuses
and bears patiently sympathizes Loyalty. helps
kindly, IS always reasonable. In the privacy OF
the home nothing hidden, all know one another.
faults obvious 5 virtues. Love must see
everything in the best light-as mothers do. Per
hsps Il IS because the mother-the right KIND OF
mother:arey fails 10 do this that she is so 'noS-
pensable a part OF the home.
Sometimes the very anxiety that our own should
scQuit themselves creditably makes as exacting to
the point OF being hard upon our dearest ones
Pride and selashness hide deep in the human
heart ana fan often to recognize their mani
festation At times the knowledge gained in the
intimacy Of home life Of the vulnerable point the
sensitive place is made the aim OF a bitter SHAFT
OF ridicule or contemptuous speech. IL love has
been deadened BY such unkindness there are Few
who have not the grace be ashamed OF II, ana 10
hide II from the outside world The loyalty cue
is rarely so far forgotten that comp
and faulthndinR allowed TO reveal what shouio
be kept sacredly the secret OF the home Inere Is
a well deserved stigma upon the 5poilng OF one s
nest Perhaps in the greater freedom OF these
latter days need 10 keep the ideal or this safe-
guarding more clearly IN mind. - a.
Love, then. Sc The first essential. Inc POSSIBLE
ond. I visited a great, barnlike structure IN
Which were housed fifty families OF Russian Men-
nonites while the eldest and Hisest or the men
We're away out the Kansas pratrles 10 secure
lasd and make ready for the coming or the wnole
COLONY. The hoor OF this building was oiVioed INTO
compartments by pianks laid low upon uestles,
which served at once partitions and benches 10
Up each It's little cloud OF smoke from lenslh OF
Two OF pipe to Aoat 81 the recesses or the hish
rafters. 10 d-ist iaZily out through the open
ooors and Windows Here the mothers cooked the
.ooo ana distributed 20 70 the children, Who SAT
upon the bench-. wandered about with q potato
the unresting mothers tended the crying babies.
ano looked about helplessly, longingly Tor the
silence and ssclusion that they were unable 10
secure IL was a pathetic Illustration az me pre-
S.Onsness OF privacy. They had safety ana shelter
pet not the dullest woman among them would
ffsss called the little compartment appointed for
We must cherish the privacy OF the home-not
sa.t we should not also exercise hospitality as
V~auue sno generous as can afford. The posi-
10y OF eeclueion must not be forfeited There
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