The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1904-10-02

who prowl around making mischief ana
causing no end OF annoyance and, II
! the law could reach such cases, the!
| could easily be arraiEued i'll court OF
Justice upon the indictment OF false pre-
tense. they are what the girls cali
| ,spooners.'' In their own cautious way
| thew make love to the girls whom they
visits They arc steady company. :" They
select some eligible girl and mako reEu-
| lar visits, consuming tho family gas ana
wearing out the family carpets, and! Keep
their victims In n state of intolerahle
expectancy, always limiting but never
p1 proposing. There Is one girl IN this COM
munty who has stood this sort Of In
position until forbearance has ceased to
be virtue and she lifts her musical
voice In protest. She asks for hearing
through these columns and she shall have
IL. She writes earnestly, and contrary
tc the ways OF the trifling ''spooners"
whom she condemns; she comes to the
point. Her composition would not pass
muster III school of grammar and
rhetoric, but We have refrained from
taking liberties with her copy and print
the protest In her own language: She
says:
Some young men have the extremely
bad habit of paying court to young
girl for year Iii and year out without Of
gfcrlng n proposal OF marriage to them.
They are very libcralsin their love-nak-
Ing, but concerning marriage. they are
4. tIxe-, x1,1t n
young girl has had her patience COM
pletey worn out, and some times have
had to allude to 1t herself In justice
&c herself and her people, to Try to find
out his intentions. This often causes q
girls confidence in n mans sincerity TO
wan; ruins her disposition and causes
her to be sad, and given to melancholy.
or course, she notices the neglect, and
feels the humiliation of such state
OF affairs.
she does not know what to think or
do. Is her lover true? Does no ever
expect to marry? Does he want me? Well,
why doesn't lie say so? Is he pledged 70
another Perhaps there are circum-
stances to prevent him from marrying;
maybe Ills health will not permit or he
has not the means to support wife He
tells mo other secrets. why doesn't he
tell mo this? He is very cruel and
thoughtlcss and ] cant help but doubt
his sincerity, but love him, and oh! !
wish did know what to do
Such arc her premedithtons, and.
young men, this IS, indeed, very wrong
to place a sweet and trusting young gin
iii such q position. 1t Is cruel and heart
less. You have not shown your respect
tc her; you have made her believe you
love her, and you are sure she ioVcs
you; so, she expects proposal next
any sensible girl would. If you love her,
you should want to marry her some day.
and should let her know II, and II you
do not love her, YOU should not nave
told her you gdid. and you should not
he waiting on her. Can'tIyou have more
,, respect for yourself than4to be SO, weak
and regardless Of others feelings? What
would you think of a. kirl who would
treat YOU in such a-manner, keeping you
always i'm suspense, although she vowed
she loved YOU? Imagine the pangs OF
anguish YOU would suffer. Would you
rot deem her very thoughtless and cruel?
It IS lust SO with the girl, so put your
self in Iher place and feel the anxiety OF
such position.
.And tits much more heartless and
wicked for a man to act that way as he
has more privileges In, life than q girl
He may have several sWeetnc atEss o. o1'e
time. but generally after certain young
man has been paying attention to q
Young lady for length Of time. the
young men begin TO think he Is her
choice, SO do not interfere; 80 In many
cases, he is her only lover.
.'Now, in conclusion, let me say to that
young man, IL you love the girl propose
to her Immediately: you should not be SO
particular about who you marry, and
BY this heartless act it proves YOU are not
a saint yourself. If you were all right
yourself, you would think others were;
Every one have their faults; 50 you need
NOT he hoping to have nm angel for your
companion through life. Look at your
self to see If you arc worthy Of this
sweet young thing, and not at her to see see
II she is worthy Of you. II you do any
other way than this, you are hard
hearted wretch. and You may expect
nothing else but a sorrow much heavier 7N..
than the one YOU have cast up on inc {,
life Of that young girl sooner or later
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