The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1904-10-13
TAKE HIM WHO BOARDS
HE WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR
EVERY BONE
The Woman Who Marries Man Who
Has Lived at Home and Been Petted
and Spoiled by His Mother Takes a
Great Risk The Boarding House
Man Appreciates Everything


A young married woman said re-
Gently that it was much harder to mar
ry a man who had always lived at
home than one who had spent years in
a boarding house. For if he has lived
at home with his mother to wait on
hi1n-for mothers always wait on their
sons-he is bound to be spoiled. He
expects SO much and is always telling
you how mother used to do thus and
SO, until you actually get to disliking
mother when she may be the incest
woman in the world. But if he has had
a long experience at boarding house,
your ways and your kind of house
keeping will seem especially pleasing
to him, and-he will regard you as one
of those wonderful women he has al
ways known he would marry if he
ever married. All the little things
about the house will seem so nice, and
if you should wait on him just bit
it will seem so wonderful and he will
insist upon your sitting down and let
ting him wait on you. And it would
be wise to let him; it can't hurt him
in the least.
When he was at home his mother
probably had nice little things for him
to eat which she knew he liked, and let
him sleep late on Sundays and took
him the morning papers with a cup of
coffee. Mothers never have any regard
for their sons future wife. If they did
they would not do some things of
which they are guilty. Every woman
with a son should bring him UP to be
a good husband, but instead of that she
spoils him terribly and he often wrings
her heart in return. When he makes
up his mind to turn over a new leaf
and settle down he becomes a great
comfort to-some other woman These
sons who have lived at home expect
good. deal, and when they receive at
tentions from their wives take it
rather as matter of course Indeed
it is what they have been accustomed
to and they are not in the least sur
prised or grateful.
But marry a half-starVed man from
a boarding house, who has not lived
for years, and you will find that his
gratitude for a rag or a bone is really
touching. He expects Notwithstanding
boarded-and everything is a delightful
surprise. He will regard you as the
most remarkable housekeeper, cook
and manager that he ever saw, and
each cup of coffee will be triumph
Of culinary art. He will gaze at you
constantly and wonder what he ever
did that he should have such a wife
and life will be one grand, sweet song.
He will wonder why he never married
before and will condole with every I'M
married person he meets and talk
about my wife, and what things he
has to eat as if no one ever, ever ate
before.
But the other kind of man, the one
who has lived at home always and been
speiled-well, with him it will be diff
ferent. At first he will not want to say
very much about your ways being diff
ferent, but the day will come when he
doesn't mind saying to you that he
liked the way his mother did certain
things. 1t would be well for you to
stop this kind of talk at once if you
want peace. Fix him with your eye
and say something pleasantly but firm
ly, and intimate that there are a great
many women in the world with various
ways of doing things and that it makes
no difference to you how any other
woman did. Then. continue calmly in
your own way and take no further no.
tice Of any remarks about his mother.
Indeed it would be we'll to do things
just the other way. If any question
arises, don't be ugly about it, but for
purposes of Illustration. A calm indif-
ference is good for him. He will find
out in the course of time that, though
you esteem his mother highly, you
consider that she took entirely the
wrong way with him and that the world
is very full of men. Mothers get into
the way of thinking, particularly If
they have but one son, that he is a re-
markable sort of man and should be
treated much better than just any,
body's son. Disabuse his mind of the
idea that the world was made for his
amusement and comfort, and convince
him that your pleasure and comfort
are of great Importance.
One must be very firm with the nus
band who has lived at home, and it
would be well, if-you have no particular
choice, to take one who has Boarded.
He always feels toward you as toward
one who has saved his life.