The Savannah morning news., 1904-08-07
SAVANNAH MORNING NEWS: SUNDAY AUGUST T. 1904

to her attention as ideal. and which
she adopted at his suggestion. This
seemed to me impertinence IN him, and
in my heart I resented it.
Second. When Major White was
called away to certain city on bus
mess, she expressed to me a desire
/ to visit friends there at the same time,
and he arranged to take her out to
the theater and to dinner while there
all in my presence, and seemingly
entirely as a matter, of course, with
out a thought of improperly. I gave
no hint of my profound conviction
| that such a programme was indiscreet,
but I took care that my wife's pro-
posed visit should become impossible.
Third. Major White is often my
wife's escort home from late social
functions which l am unable to at
tend. His wife rarely goes out, and,
by the way, is an unusually homely
woman.
Fourth. I cannot but notice a mark
ed increase in the vivacity and am
liability of my wife when Major White
is with her. and she often bushes
when in conversation with him.
Fifth. Major Whites demeanor to-
ward me is curiously variable. Some
times he is effusively cordial, at others
stiff and distant. And there seems
to be an indefinable change in my
wife's manner toward me. I feel my
self a bore TO her occasionally.
Sixth. My wife is always present at
places where Major White is a guest
and has been little inclined to go to
places where l found him absent.
seventh. There is talented and
pretty woman in our social circle who
has shown a fancy for me, and has
repeatedly invited me to call on her.
7 chattlI banta v,Tn tn s-o Nit 1,
my wife. but 1 have felt a repug-
nance toward going alone, because I
doubt the propriety of an intimate
friendship with any woman other than
my wife. My wife, of course, knows
this lady's kindly disposition toward
me. and rallies me constantly because
l do not call upon her. She tells me
it would not only be proper, but that
courtesy demands it of me. She has
even said, in joking way, that
Irritation between this lady and my
self would be very amusing to her.
] shall not attempt to dodge a fact
which no doubt is already apparent
to you-that ] am tinged with jeal-
ousy. I have always regarded jealousy
as an ignoble and contemplate pas
sion, and I assure you that my wife
does not dream how closely l have
scanned her relations with Major
w niue. II IS only an lnUdDglDle rear
of ultimate trouble, and a conscious
ness of the possibility of grave mis-
take, that constrain me to write to
The Sun for counsel in the unpreced-
dented situation which now confronts
me.
Are intimate friendships and frequent
meetings between married men and
women with others than their own
wives and husbands proper?
Is the conduct of Ma ior White and
my wife, as described by me, such
that / should disapprove it?
Would it be wise for me to acquaint
my wife with the fact that her friend
ship with Major White lis intensely
dsagreea'ble to me?
Understand, please, that durir the
ten years of my married life my af-
lection for and trust in my wife have
never wavered, but lately have fear
ed that the admiration and compli-
ment, if not the love of another and
a very able and winning man, may
have placed her in an insecure posi-