New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-09-16
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THE EFFECT OF PERSONAL HABITS

They had met for afternoon tea in the drawing
room-or, more strictly. living room-of the little
apartment: six clever girls. who delighted in talk
ing things over
Il wonder that any one ever rnarries." said
Sara. who the edge Of a large. solid writing
table preferring that Informal perch 10 cushioned
couch wicker rocking chair. There are so
many obstacles that don't enter into ordinary cal
cUIations. Only the madness blindness OF love
can account for the fact that two people
dure each others qualities and personal habits for
a lifetime"
How about relatives observed Alice They
have 10 endure each other"
They don't always make success OF IT," an
swered Sara dryly ''If qualities all. that
would be one thing; but it's not simple. You
alight possibly end a who kind and hon
orable and courageous and-and fairly good look
he wouldn't snore. or have freqUent colds in the
IN absolutely perfect way It's the per-
ue0pie-if they're al an nervous or fastidious. I
couldn't endure AT arcnanBel who sneezed loudly.
~Oh, sara. how absurd exclaimed Marie. But
often thought now much depends on those little
things II compcates lie. but what can one do?
others never think OF the effect they produce.
Once when We mad a long illness in the family and
could not employ trained nurses ali the time. We
had attendant VINO false teeth and who
mouth II drove me Wild. never rested until we
got rid Of her III forget the nervous torment
I don't think I object to sounds" remarked
ried man who bit his nails should have 20 be
divorced. II gives me an incessant squirm along
IN some story OF Tolstoy's said Ethel he
nel.los's = ma ia t 10 80, mil, he sad she
stuck out her little finger"
cor course"' cried Sara. Can anything be more
rnaddeniug than those little affected movements
and poses? I met woman one summer who was
devoted 70 embroidery aad who Thought she mad
pretty hands II you had seen her pose them with
every SLOW aLgn d sl!S y Sn seen the bands IN
those old fashioned ANNALS and Beauty Books.
c,L~ NTH haFE
females with curls and big eyes And Wnen she
sang she struck attitudes ~tn heP m aCc6na ana
merits JerUshai Excuse my sWearlng). lived
in daily fear Of going mad and assassinating her:
Yet her moral and mental qualities were excellent
People have endless bad habits at table said
Marie. IN grant you that dsaKreeanle ways OF
eating are almost unbearabe- don't mean I'M
Possible things IKE eaIng VIII ao 2Ie DO have
a cousin who talks while she chews - ,..,.
Sara gave vent 70 another innocent DUR ernphauc
She really ought 10 ne slainP' she exclaimed.
NV cousin only iinges the silver, and fusses With
everything in Teach-keeps her hands moving on
the table until you're dizzy. and wonder why you
But those things annoy every one" said Marie;
yes I know answered Sara, but the real
Things simply drive me wild that wouldn't worry
others AZ ali. Little odd ways or pronounclng
words for example, or getting names wrong we
had an English dressmaker whom ! used TO want
10 hit because she called my sister MISS h@F-yon'
ali MS tine been absorbed in a book OF illustra-
lions and had taken no part in the discussion:
Now she looked up at Sara with an amused
smile 40 -,
We'll 7 must say" she remarked. for girl
who is so easily annoyed do you know, sara
Mason that for the last ten minutes you have oeen
swinging your foot and swishing your SILK SKIRT IN
the most soul narrowing manner"
II dare say. said Sara. eoolly, alighting from
her perch. Just because l am nervous; sup
pose I'm the biggest nuisance OF the bunch!
II am wondering" said Edith. meditatiVely
..v,het her the secret OF charm not consist in
tic absence % annoying or repeilant personal
habits. That would make It somewhat negative
QUALITY ~ be cure but II would give such a de-
Iightful effect Of srnoothness and ease"
NO I think" said Margaret, that II would take
rlore than that TO make person positively at
tractfve. But that would be factor. We all
should take more pains avoid the tribes that Jar
mon others. Then aRain''-she smiled at Sara
EVE really must not &c TOO fastidious. II makes
Us miserable"