The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1904-01-23

t1ons OF Brown, Jones and Robinson tt
their well-tailored clothes, their well-set-
up hgures, their very pretty native wit
or their college education.
don't mean to say for one moment
| that the clever, good-looking, well-dresseG
fellow has not great deal in his favor
but no matter how illcut your coat may
be. how red your hands as the results Of
hard farm work when you were a boy, OF
| how painfully conscious you feel, remem.
| Der that there is still one infallible way
open to you by which to win the liking
of the right kind Of woman.
| Show her an exquisite and unremittine
! Difference. Never allow your shyness tc
| interfere with the performance of those
| polite little actions that require no effort
| of wit or expenditure of money. The
deferential man oftentimes has not frocl,
| coat to his name, his beauty is not even
skin deep and he can never pose as q
Sidney Smith for wit, but every woman
has an honestly welcome smile for him.
I could give you the mans, IL I would
OF just such man. who began life as q
lawyers clerk. He was big and gawky
and addressed. l cannot honestly say that
his appearance made great appeal in his
favor, or that upon first acquaintance he
shone as a conversationalist. For all that
there were few women who met and then
quite overlooked or forgot him.
That was because he had way of sur
! rendering his chair with promptness and
a pleased smile that made it appear as
tho he found it a privilege to do so. He
opened the door, lifted your umbrella
! relieved you Of your parcels, handed you
into vehicle and listened to what you
had to say with an air Of one who found
a distinct honor in rendering a lady any
service.
When lady was In his company 1t
was amazing how quick he was to note
If her gloves fell to the floor. If her tea
cup was empty, or II there was anything
he could do to render her more comfort
able or happy. More than this. he carried
his deferential thoughtfulness into his re-
lations with stout and uninteresting dow
ayers quite carefully as when his lines
were cast In the pleasant neighborhood of
young and pretty girls; and tho these lit
tie offices seem trifles light as air. they
nevertheless proved to every women he
met that the age Of ch1valry Is not yet
passed.
Furthermore, they went far to bear I'M
mistakabe witness to the fact that he
was thinking not Of himself but of his
feminine companion, and more 1rresiSt-
ible fattery than that no man can pay
to any daughter of Eve. be she 16 or 90.
Compliments That Cost Nothing.
To win your way, promptly and GER
you must learn to offer us a number of
those small compliments that cost nothing
but little unselfsh effort, and that no
nice woman ever fails to see and long
remember. You strike wide Of the mark
of popularity II you think that every
charming girl and kindly hostess is hoping
for $12-a-dozen roses and proscenium
boxes at the theater, by way of adequate
return for her amiable smiles and excel
lent hospitality. 1t pleases woman more
than you know when you show a will
ingness to put yourself to a little trouble
on her account.
For example, II the very pleasant lady
who presides over a charming house has
asked you to dine or sup, or take Sunday
night tea at her house, don't wait six
weeks or more to pay her CALL Go
to her door as soon as you can after
the entertainment. She will consider your
coming compliment. She will like you
all the better for your promptness and
take a lot Of pains to put you at your
ease.
BY the same token, you are esteemed
by the hostess who finds that you come
very promptly on the hour set for her
dance or dinner, who observes that YOU