The Savannah morning news., 1904-06-26
THE GIRL WHO HAS HAD.

ed woman appeals TO a man as more
enjoyable as a companion than desir-
able as a wife. He may like to spend
his leisure hours in the society of a
woman who knows her world. but
when he marries he IS apt to pick out
some gentle creature who has, at least,
the illusion OF artleSs ignorance about
her for there is no gainsaying the
fact that an impression prevails among
men that the less a wife knows the
better.
This explains the fascination of the
debutante, and the reason why men
50 often pass by the cultured. elegant
socially experienced woman of their
own set to fall in love with some rustic
maiden with whom their marriages
are as inoongruous as the union Of
the Sevres jar and the earthern pot.
TO men. ignorance in woman still
means innocence and absence OF oppor-
tunity, lack of desire, when. in real
ity. they are as far apart as the poles.
Still this is a mistake that men al
most universally make. and strangely
enough. the older they are and the
less excuse there Is Tor their -DzklrS
such an error. the more aV- they are
to fall into il. If an old oa c.ssi0- mar
rieS, for instance. he almost 1--N-a-- ale
picks out some little g1rl t.lS- 81. ct
the school room with g1e 4-1-1s e.
bread and butter StsN & co-- Ger
stead OF some woman O. as ca- 8S-
who has arrived IA: ms ts- ns. &sl-
state of experience - - s.esLS
The average mans -@sE- a. WITH
not the Ewes who -5t-aa- -7-- sez-rsS
apples because chs trg1 On. Sir
their digestion - U1s- caS ts ~ ~.
gaze falls upon the --zs 4s te sags
to himself: Here ~ --s -rs,:ssG e1-.s
f1oWerlet / have been b3eag-.E -Ir S1s
doesn't know anything s-Nc.4- 5l1---l-
ton, and adulatI0r ike the sCdsrl.-1
big roses that bloom uU TIE -onservt-
tories and 50 / viii trlGSpLE-- 1sr g
the secluded shade of my own 1cwe
where she viii be perfectly sats1s1
just to shed her perfume tor me
Heaven defend me from acquiring. for
my own pleasure. one OF the prize win
ming flowers that every man that comes /
along has admired, for 1 apprehent I
that that kind of a woman can't live Z
except in an atmosphere. of perpetual I
adulation, and l do not care for any !
married belle in mine"
Thereupon the wise man marries a |
young girl during her first season in /
society. firmly convinced that because |
he is the first and only man who has |
ever made love to her, that he will |
be the last and only This depends |
on circumstances. The girl may be |
sufficiently in love with him to never |
crave the admiration of any other |
man, or she may be 50 situated as to |
be cut off from it and so safe, but |
the path 20 the divorce court is kept |
hot by wives who were married when |
they were mere children, and before |
they found out how Intoxicating is the !
draught of admiration, and flattery, and |
love making that man offers TO wom-
ans lips. If woman acquires a |
taste for this after marriage God help |
her husband, for there is no cure for |
the married firt. She may not be |
a bad woman, or an actually immoral
one, but her craving for admiration
is like the hunger for opium. 1t grows
by what il feeds on, and there is no
limit to the depth of imbeoility into |
which II will not lead its victim.
If you Will trace back the stories of |
the infidelity of wives, half of the time |
you will find that the woman was mar T,
ried when she was very young, before |
she had experienced the thrilling de- |
light of listening to a mans VOW of |
deathless devotion, or had known the |
subtle sense of power with which a
woman finds out that she can sway
men by her beauty or her charm. Few
husbands ever make love to their |
wives, and so it is the woman's nat |
ural desire for this Courtship and this |
adulation that she has missed that |
leads her into seeking it away from /
home and in forbidden paths.
Far otherwise is it with the woman
who has been a belle before she was
1, % .I,,l,
tion and admiration from men, and 1t |
possesses none of the charms of novel |
" to her She has heard the verb to
love corrugated in all its moods and |
lenses until it is a wearisome as a ,
school exercise. She has played at the |
game of filtration until it has palled |
upon her, and as n married woman, she |
would no more think of finding amuse-
ment in carrying on a surepttious love |
affair that a Paderewski would think
of grinding out rag-time from barrel |
organ. She has had all she wanted. |
She is tired of it. She has outgroWn I
it. Above all she has picked out the |
man she prefers, after knowing, many |
men, and the woman who has been a |
flirt before marriage may be depended |
upon to hang up her bow and arrow |
when she marches TO the altar, and |
never to indulge in the sport again.
An old negro woman once put this |
matter pithily to me when. in speaking |
of a frivolous matron. she made this !
excuse for the Eighty lady: You see. |
honey" said the dusky philosopher, |
Miss May done married before she |
had any gal time, and a woman just |
'bleeged to have a gal time. Ef It |
don't come while she's young, it's got |
TO come when she is old. Miss May Is |
just getting her gal time now" A pro-
found truth is wrapped up in this !
homely axiom. The reason that the |
American married woman. as a whole, |
is more trustworthy than her continen- |
tai sister is that as a rule. the Ameri- |
can woman has had her girl time of |
love making, and Irritation, and free
admiration from men before marriage,
while marriage first opens the door to !
these pleasures to the majority of Eu-
ropean women. So, in reality, in choos-
ing a wife the man who picks out a
woman who has been surfeited on ad-
miration gets a preferred risk. Not so
with the man who marries the ingenue
who still has her debt of admiration
TO collect from man.
Another mistake that men make is
In thinking that the best way to as
sure themselves of getting domestic
VIE is to marry a woman who has
never been in society. Men marry to
get home far oftener than women do.
The city man, at least, seldom com
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