The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1904-04-24
The
All Day
Agreeability

A prophet may live without honor in
MS own time and country. but a truly
charming man or woman never does
Ihat is because the charming individ-
ual disarms US of doubt, criticism or
indifference by exercising upon US -the
spell Of what 1 call everyday and all
day agreeability.
To exercise this spell you must estab-
lish habit. a habit of being agreea BILE
carly and late, and especially in the
so-called small relations OF life. where
n good many persons do not seem to
think it in the least important 10 be
agreeable at all. II is a habit. how
ever, formed by d;nt Of a little effort of
nice ambition and kindly good will and
it goes so far toward making life well
worth the living for ones self and for
everybody else that ! am always won
dering why more people do not study
little i'm order TO acquire it,
One Who Understands It's Uses.
Vow ! can best illustrate the practi-
cal application of this excellent babit
Dy telling you Of one who does under
stand Its uses and the purposes and
powers or that delightful necromancy
ot all day agreeability. This individual
IS a woman, a friend OF mine. who was
not born with a silver spoon in her
mouth. nor did the goddess of beauty
preside about her cradle.
or All That. when she came down to
the breakfast table yesterday she was
a Sisht as welcome as the flowers that
hioom in the spring She wore such n
SHINING morning face and such a shin
ing morning manner: she came into
the dining room with such a fiattering
arr OF being glad to see us all. and she
wished US good morning in just that
gay sweet tone to the pOstman. to the
maid servant in the hall. and even to
me house cat who sat in the window.
ana they all seemed 20 feel the better
and the brighter for her greeting.
When she got into her chair she
looked at each dish set before her rs
though its contents pleased her might
lly. and j noticed that she did not COM
plain or the weather or tell Of a broken
nights rest or read out the particu-
Iarly bad news that had come i'm one
Of her letters. She spoke i'm n tone of
voice that did not interfere with the
comfort that the head Of the house
was taking in the perusaI Of his news
paper. and she made n little joke that
even set the sulky member Of the fam
lily to laughing. Somehow. after she
had been at table five minutes the chill
dren were ready To set off for school in
high good humor. and the head of the
house rushed away 10 catch a trolley
car with an air of having breakfasted
wisely and well.
Agreeability Below Stairs.
After breakfast this charmingly art
rul woman took the matter of her
housekeeping i'm hand i'm a manner that
appeared 10 infinitely please her seFv-
ants. She discussed the meals for the
day without announcing that the whole
matter bored her to death, and that
she lived in a hotel She paid the cook
an honest compliment on her coffee:
she criticised the dinner OF the night
before. but I'm Il way and with an ex-
preston that took the sting out of it,
She gave attention to complaints either
sound or foolish. without wearing a
helpless or annoyed air. and when the
laundress loudly and augrily an
nounced her intention to leave at once
I heard the mistress say quite gently:
Il am sOrry something has gone
wrong, Mary. Come up 10 my room
i'm ten minutes. please. and tell me Just
why you have decided TO go"
Ten minutes she smilingly wills
pered 10 me, gives us both time to get
command Of our tempers. and I've
found. i'm dealing with the servants.
that it is kindest to let them pour out
their grievances i'm private, 70 try to
look at the trouble from their point of
view, if you can. and then to part from
them on friendly terms, if part you
must"
But in ten minutes the conference
ended 50 amicably that the laundress
went back almost cheerfully TO her
wash tub. and I saw that the humble
IriShwoman had appreciated the tiny
compliment Of having her troubles
talked over. her reason and dignity
appealed TO. and the fraction of an
hour given 20 the friendly consideration
OF her woes and privileges.
Agreeability in Trifles.
When the last detail Of housekeeping
lind been settled l saw my model Of
good manners sit at her desk for
half hour Il cannot let my notes
wait" she said. There are a couple
of Invitations 20 answer. I've a friend
I'm trouble who needs a word OF written
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