The Saint Paul globe., 1904-01-23
ARE NOT PLEASANT
THE GIRLS WHO GO OUT SHOULD
BE AGREEABLE
The Guest Owes 1t to Her Hostess to
Treat Every One Politely and Be
as Pleasant as She Cana ST. Paul
Hostess Makes Some Pertinent OBJ
servations

Said a ST. Paul woman the other
day:
Why don't you write of the duty
that guests owe to their hostesses in
the way of efforts to be agreeable when
they go out?", There is a saying that
some persons carry their good time
with them, and l take it to mean that
they are so charming they add tre-
mendously 10 the pleasure of every
one present. 1 was led to thinking
about this by seeing a girl at small
affair the other night act as if she had
merely come to be entertained, and
she sat back and said nothing. Her
hostess did her best to draw her out
and make her talk, but she was a dead
weight and refused to say anything
but yes and no. Now that girl would
have done much better to have re-
NAMED at home, unless she was willing
to do her part toward making the
evening pleasant. One can see this
sort of thing at almost every informal
gathering. OF course if a girl is bash
fui and it is difficult for her to talk
without embarrassment, that is diff
ferent matter and if she keeps on go
Ing out she may overcome it. But l
mean the girls who will only make
themselves agreeable where they think
it pays, and who are pleasant to some
and not to others. There is SO much
of this.
There is a certain set of girls here
who never become animated or agree
able unless they are with their own
friends: a few who go together and
regard themselves as of great i'm
portance. | noticed this at a luncheon
the other day; one girl was placed at
a. table where the others were
strangers to her and she made no eff
fort to talk to them or make herself
agreeable but a little later when the
hostess changed her to another table,
where there were some girls who be-
longed to her own set, she became
very animated and pleasant. Now that
Is an illustration of the sort of thing
| mean when l say the girls do not
try to take their good time with them.
When girl accepts some ones hospi-
.ality she owes it to her hostess to be
equally agreeable to all those she
meets under her roof and to show no
[avoritism. At another luncheon I re-
member year or two ago, seeing a
woman who was almost a stranger
sitting between two women who knew
each other very well, and if you will
be believe me, they talked across that
woman all during the affair and only
directly addressed her once. Those
women were knowingly, consciously
rude. But must say that these things
are done more often by girls than
older women. When a girl is being
entertained, she must not regard it as
a favor on her part, but courtesy on
the part of her hostess, and to slight
any guest in the house of a friend is
objectionable. But there is a certain
set of girls in this city who make it
point to be polite only to those who
are their particular friends, or a few
whom they regard as being socially of
Importance
1T costs very little to be pleasant all
the time but surely if there is one
place more than another where we
should make an effort to be agreeable
it is when we are being entertained"
All of this is very heartily indorsed
by