The Coeur d'Alene press. (Coeur d'Alene, Idaho) 1892-1907, 1904-12-31


How a Wife can Help Her HnsbeRd.
Whether marriage shall make or
mar man undoubtedly depends on
the woman be marries. and lucky In
deed IL the man whose wife reeog-
nizes this important fact. There are
many people. however, who uphold
Ehakespeare's assertion that "A young
man married IL a man that's marred,"
owing 70 the fact that 50 few wives
understand how they can influence
their husbands lives and help them
"a realize their ambitions For I'M
less a wife affords her husband every
help ia her power. and decides that
his failure shall be through no short
comings on her part. be ~ apt 10 ind
the struggle too much for him and
relinquish his youthful aspirations.
II II somewhat pitifuI 20 NEE n man
striving TO reach the goal Of his am
billions while hampered with an un-
sympathetic and disinterested wife.
who either cannot or will not concern
herself with her husbands ideas and
doings. She may love him truly and
sincerely, and be a pattern wife from
domestic point of view, but the am.
bilious man who Is 10 be successful
wants more than that lie must have
q wife who win take an interest In his
talk and work. even n she does not
thoroughly understand his ideas: who
viii praise him Ia his trinmphs. ex-
emfN
ures and tender helpful advice when
ever abe is able to give H.
Wives too often fan into the error
OF thinking that when they have al
tended 10 the domestic affairs OF the
home and the creature comforts OF
their husbands they have done ali that
iH required Of them.
They argue with themselves that
they ennnot understand their hus-
bansls' work and business sufficiently
well 70 help 10 any practical manner.
aud consequently Il IL no use troubling
TO talk matters over with them.
IN such cases marriage will, In nine
cases out OF ten. mar q mans chances
81 real SUCCESS lie becomes difcour.
aged when even the one who processes
q hove him refuses 10 recognize the
merits Of his work. and share his hopes
aud fears. The fact that his wife
leaves him unaided Ia his difficulties
causes him 10 sink under them.
A wife may not be able 70 assist her
husband in any practical manner: but
by the exercise 81 little tact she can
get him to cOntide bis troubles IN her
when. for instance. he returns home
from the ONCE or workshop with a
worried and anxious mind. and the
mere fact % him being able 10 talk
matters over with some one who IL
ready 90 sympathize with bias. even II
abe cannot adyise. il often a great
comfort and help to a man. Her con
ccrn about his business troubles, and
her belief that he will End q way out
Of them, acts as a spur and arouses
the energies which be was allowing 70
lie dormant.
A wife must not allow her husband
81 sink into that monotonous grind for
daily bread which destroys mans
energy aud makes him forget his
youthful ambitions. or put them aside
as unattainnble because he has 9th
ers depending upon him. She must
not forget for one moment those am.
billions. or fail 10 remind her husband
Of them at favorable times II her
husband Is an artist and n pot boil
ers" must be painted. the great picture
which IL 20 make her husbands name
must be discussed and pondersd over,
even while It's actual beginning seems
probicmnticnl
a wife can aid her husband IN
thousand ways-soeially. II he is
professional man. as well "a with her
busy brain and fingers--but his surest
spur In her belief In him and his am.
billions. a belief which never doubts,
and Is frankly, constantly and low
tngly expressed Home Monthly.