New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1904-02-06

fondest of couples: it is Proper Pride which
drives well treated husbands to the worst
cesses of jealousy it is Proper Pride which
urges a girl to refuse the one man whom she
wishes to accept it is Proper Pride which re-
strains the noble. if impoverished, sutton from
saying the least word which could be construed
into a profession OF even temperate regard for
the idol of his existence; ii is Proper Pride.
In fact which makes so many people insincere
and so many others angry. And. as it affects
individuals it influences nations. There have
been few great wars in the cause of justice;
thousands of lives have been sacrificed millions
have been squandered, cities have been made
desolate for no worse offence than fancied
slight 10 some governments Proper Pride, and
for no better reason than display Of the same
abstract. But what is it? 1t is. as we nave
seen the cause of battles. of suicides. OF un-
happy love. and nettle rash. yet am prepared
TO swear that it is a manufactured-as opposed
to a natural-calamity. We are not born with
this bore attached to our sufficiently oppressed
spirits: IT is added to us. first, by our parents.
relatives. nurses and other guardians then oy
the education we received. then by the books we
read then by the counsel of our friends
themselves grooming under the burden of the
incubus. Reduced to its simplest form. Proper
Pride and it's exercise may be called the re-
straint of every kind impulse which makes LOT
the simplifcation OF human affairs-whether on
the trivial the grand scale
To return to my handsome young aunts-
remember we'll that the more dashing or the
two was a woman who abandoned herse1' WIFI
out n rnisgfving. to the pleasure OF thlhAlhs
sloud AS a thought entered her head she eA-
pressed Il; the fact that she contraclcted heEsel
at least eighteen times a day never olsturneu
he- oouan,mity: she refused incessant offers OF
ham
uho,, she left because she did not see why she
should live with him): at sixty she had glrIs
complexion. but at twenty-seven she had lcst
bo- aqure Chere was point where proper prlue
,n,cbt have been advantageous; she had any
,,,,,ber Of children: they all adored her. dls-
obeved her and disappointed her. L have seen
her laugh by the hour and cry by the hour' sh7
f. called impossible because she Is purely hat
urel. bows who gave her sweets "heh sile was
n little girl now. elderly gentlemen Win uis-
n,eea wives brimtul of self-respect. VIII walk
with gouO miles TO see her-if only TO refresh
their memories of her imperfection VIII own
that her life criticised by those VINO are u'sel'-
or,o,,red NJ candor. has not been i'm any material
sense successful. Her income depends. IN the
main on the life assurance policy taken out by
the least reputable Of her three husbands years
ago she spent her paternal inheritance IN vari-
o,s benevolent schemes for amusing the poor
Tho county, however forgets It's snobbery when
IT calls upoa her. and. under her childlike SMILE
the Lord Lieutenant dissolves into human be-
ing She has proper pride-she can love geese
charwonen marchiOnesses and the greehsroCeE
with A nequal and constant love. one OF her
friends IS the district coroner who Is but thirty
three. although he has sat on 2Io4 inquests. TO
numbers he would seem depressing. Another
friend is 4 duke without palate still. as
she SAYS FOR a duke he is very clean and tidy.
He tells her about his incorrigible sons and their
odious women acquaintances. He always pro-
tests when he leaves her that he would enjoy
his calls far more II he did not invariably meet
his wife coming in as he goes out My aunt
cannot see why he should object TO this pleas
ure. and when a busy lady once asked her: My
dear how can you be so charming to both?" she
replied: You see they are both so charming TO
me-
As have already said, she has no dignity.
But I wish could describe her eyes