The Montgomery advertiser., 1904-03-08

.c,o,,. sor iournaIism and for many other professions into which the young of this country are to enter, It seems n..z,nv strange that as yet there has hesr no institution founded for the ex- nress purpose of instructing the young society. And yet society today Is pro- fession that requires many years or therein has not been inherited. It might siso he stated that a knowledge of socie- ~ A. 1t exists today does not always come by virtue of inheritance, but must needs be acquired slowly and painfully and from the very rudiments thereof.
 There are many hundreds of men and women who entered in the race long since and who are straining every nerve to attain the goal, and to these the question of how to attain 1t is as much of a puzzle as when they first started on their mad career.
 Does the waiting race win in the end? Is rather an interesting topic of discus sion, and affords much food for thought In this country, and at this time in the worlds affairs, we have grown accus- toned to believe that more is gained by a wild onslaught than by slowly and patiently going along, winning just a problem: Do not these few steps taken in this painstalking fashion lead to a more secure position and further LID on the heights than that obtained by the sudden scaling of those heights in the rough and ready fashion that seems to have come with the possession of sud- den wealth?
 Successful Social Campaign.
 The woman of today who is the most popular hostess and who entertains the best is not always the one who gives the most magnificent entertainments or wno lives in the most conspicuous manner. The quieter and more unassuming wo- man, possessed of executive ability, is often apt to win. She it Is who plans out her lists of guests for her various din. ners, who has a waiting list and also a list of substitutes provided for each dinner, and whose dinners are given at least twice a week. This form of social campaign is not altogether understood, nor Is it understood that 1t is very brilliant one and one that requires cool ness of judgment. discernment of people and unwearied patience.
 served at some conspicuous place, and with no r---sy spared for the entertain ment of guests, undoubtedly create a certain farore, and there is little or no difficulty in securing enough guests, and admirable ones, too, for any such enter l tainment. But when, at the close of the year, the profit and loss are counted ' up--just here we may say that this profit \ and loss reckoning is most thoroughly gone into by the social aspirant with a long head-will she be able to exhibit among the invitations she has received many from the very people who went to 8 the more conspicuous entertainfnentsr
 The man who makes up his mind to get into certain clubs has hard task be- \ fore him, but if he waits long enough. X chooses his associates carefully enough, entertains quietly enough and at the same time to perfection, will eventually & get where he would be. The woman who sees ahead of her a certain set she in- # tends to become a member of, ana who plans her campaign on the lines already Indicated, will in time surely get there; but let both the man and the woman who undertake this understand that 1t must be .done in .pusiness=likA fashion, and had best be talked over quietly and calmly-the difficulties fully faced. and the fact that unwearied energy and ceaseless pursuit can never be relaxed for moment always borne in mind.
 Danger of False Move.
 One false move, such as going to the wrong place in summer, of being seen at Undesirable houses or in the company of people not at all smart" will undo the work of two or three seasons; so Mon- sleur and Madame make up your minds hat your vigilance cannot be relaxed lntiI you have arrived.
 It is very hard to possess ones soul in patience In a social campaign, to see others whiz by on the race track appa- rently to certain victory, while, at the pne steady pace determined upon in the
 tart. you go on ostensibly not gaining n the least. But it Is a long race and
 ard one, and the wild spurts and the
 erce onslaughts soon tire out the brav-
 st, and then is the time when the hard
 york, the untiring energy, and the cease
 ess endeavor all tell and bring one in
 he victor at the close of the race.
 No turning to right or left to help any
 ne else in the race can for an instant
 6 permitted. ones dearest friends or
 elatives may lie helpless in the road be-
 ore the very wheels of our chariot, and
 ct to stop and pick them up would mean
 he loss of the race. Young and old,
 hose who are bound to you by ties of af-
 ection and of long friendship, you must
 eed see them suffer and not stop to
 elp them. If you do several paces are
 ost, and the entire race may be lost
 well.
 There must be no turning back. The
 yes must never be swerved for a mo-
 lent from the goal ahead, as there Is
 me enough when the race is won to
 back and pick up those whom you