Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1904-08-20
MOTHERS A LA MODE.
Complete Equality Between Mother and
Daughter Scarcely Prac-
ticable

even TO violence. Yet, when it comes 20
the point, what are the head and front of
her offending? She may be accused of
taking the glorious privilege of thinking
for herself, and occasionally you will find
she will act for herself It is even said
she may contemplate living for herself.
But it must be granted that, ON the
whole She is useful. practicable and
serviceable object. fearlessly and glori-
ously innocent of that inertia which stg-
matIzcd her great grandmother, and by
no means neglectfu of the decorative
duties that she owes to the world. SAYS
Mrs. Aria i'll the London Daily Tele-
graph
In spite of the fact that some wretch
promulgated the detachable theory that
when we are young We love our parents,
later we understand them, and some
times we forgive Chem,' mothers remain
enshrined-well. as mothers for ever and
ever. And thus, having enShrined the
many, let me bring an Indictment against
the few who live to enjoy. and let me
urge, just i'll defense Of the daughter. that
1t might with justice be held that il the
modern girl be more blameworthy than
her predecessor, small measure Of gGilt
rests on her most modern parent
Mother is now perennially young. and
would be at once Il good comrade for
whom indulgence IS asked and Il stern
parent tO whom Difference must be raid
This is the difficulty of the position The
complete equality between mother and
daughter, which both are now so anxious
10 attain and maintain, is scarcely prac-
teal, and cannot be relied upon to work
well, for it is apt to leave little gan,
which might be the better for filling with
respect, duly earned to be duly gained.
for without it the greatest love on earth
may come to lack something of loyalty.
If | cared to criticize--the fates forbid
the mother of the moment. | should
find that in nursery times her girls arc
either petted or ignored, overdreSsed or
undercherished; that after schoolroom
days they are treated as children or as
women, as necessity or convenience may
suggest; and that when they are I'M
doubleday grown up, caprice will most
prominently mark her attitude toward
them. Today, for example. the mother
of my moral says: "She is my comDan-
ion. We are ALWAYS together. | confidn
everything to her" Then tomorrow Won
will hear her assert that ''she is only n
little girl and alternately she will be
used as clIaperon, and sent upstairs to
be out of the way. Under such condl-
tions how can the recognized relative
positions of mother and daughter be
worthily upheld?
Yet it must be granted that this per
petuaHy young mother has many adj
vantages. She IS ever ready to 20 out
and about. TO share in amusements. even
to make one at golf or fourth at cro-
quet, and she will plan the gayest excIlr-
sions. the benefit of her experience being
invaluable in securing the right neonle nj
the right time. She is. on the whole.
very superior specimen to the MARTYR
mother whose favorite text is Never
mind me, | am of no consequences This
is really the most eXaSperating sort OF
mother, for she is not helpful. she is not
instructive, and she is at best mis-
homer, at once a mother-and selfish.
| once heard a girl say that mother
would be simply perfect if she were only
a little stouter Whar we girls want in
our mothers is Il thirty-lncn waist. for
acceptable. desired, or offered, and
therefore, and girl who wants to keep
her mother entirely her own should care
fully offer her sugar and butter, and all
the fattening foods of the hour" She
was tiippant, ribald soul perhaps-but
ohservant, no doubt.
1t is, | think, mainly with the girls
capacity for being pleasantly absent that
the grumblers find fault. But what is the
ordinary days work of the daughter of
the much-engaged mother? In truth. she
is rs Invaluable as ever was pretty rural
| Fanny of othct times. who would go
forth marketing in the morning. and ply
y
shade of the chestnut trees ana muSh
room hat ruched with roSettes. She is
M betimes. to see father off; and then
she visits mother in bed, slipping chocO,
late while contemplating her bills and
ruetully regarding the remnants of her
last bail gown. Dutifully she asks, Can
| do anything for youT' to he told as
quickly, should the days appointments
DO as crowded ~ usual, NO, dear. y
! with an eager assurance which to those
who run may read. entertain yourself
| and allow me the like privilege"
Analyze a little the tales of grievances
/ which are told by those who would decrv
/ back to the one crime of independence.
/ aud the minor misdemeanor Of liking to
! 20 out. Well, youth can hardly be eX-
/ pected to banker aftei solitude and duty.
and lesser charge. but insisted upon is
/ that size freuuents clubs This was with
out the possibility of her forebears. be-
cause there were no clubs. and even now
! serious investigation Of what the girl
/ does when she gets to her club would
prove that she uses it at teatime maybe
/ 70 entertain there an invited guest. That
She should spend whole days playing
games is another count against her. bat
/ the athlete is aSSuredly among oar great
I est triumphS, for She is invariably ami
( able, ana can always manage 10 amuSe
herself.
I But it was ever thus; the girl of the
! period was never 4 patch ON her prele-
/ ceSSor, and to think that those ut present
I 80 aSSllied are the daughters. or, perhaps.
( the granddaughter. of those Mrs Lynn
[ lynton eXhorted more than Il score of
I wears ago. Take heart Of grace from that.
my daughters, and continue 10 march
with your times Ia the golf links and
! prove that capability need not spell ag-
greSSivenesS, and that self-reiiance in
spires self-reSpcct, that wholesome excr-
I else proves no barrier 10 wholesome senfi-
ment, that the needle and the nihlick may
lie welded with equal doftueSS by the
same hands, and that She who rocks the
cradle may rule The world of sport. or
even dominate an intellectual sphere with
diStinction.-New York Globe and Com
mercial Advertiser.
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