The Black Hills union and western stock review. [volume] (Rapid City, S.D.) 1904-19??, 1904-09-09

III his own time and country. but Il
truly charming man or woman never
does That is because the charming in
diVidual disarms us of doubt. criticism
or Indifference b. exercising upon us
the spell OF what I call everyday and
all-day agreea blity.
To exercise this spell, you must es-
tablish II habit Il habit OF being agree
able early and late. and especially in
the so-called small relations of life.
where Il good many persons do not
seem to think il in the least important
TO be agreeable at all. 1t is a habit,
however formed by dint of Il little eff
tort of nice ambition and kindly good
VIII and 1t goes so far toward making
life we'll worth the living for ones self
and for everybody else that I am al
ways wondering why moro people do
not study 4 little in order to acquire it..
One Who Understands Its Uses.
Now | can best illustrate the practi-
cal application of this excellent habi
by telling you of one who does under
stand it's uses and the purposes and
powers Of that delightful. necromancy
of all-day aSrecability. This individual
is u woman, Il friend o! mine. Who Was
not born with Il silver spoon in her
mouth. nor did the goddess of beauty
preside about her cradle.
For all that, when she came down to
the breakfast table yesterday she was
u sight as welcome as the flowers that
bloom the spring. She wore such a
shining morning face and such shin
ing morning manner she came into the
dining room with such II flattering air
OF being glad to see us all, and she
wished us good morning in Il tone that
+: tailed with her expression l had
F, heard her saying good morning in just
TO the maid servant in the hall. and
even to the house cat who sat IN the
window. and they all seemed to feel
the better and the brighter for her
greeting.
When she got into her chair she
/ looked at each dish set before her rs
though its contents pleased her might
ny, and ! noticed that she did not COM
plain of the weather or tell of Il brok-
en- nights rest or read out the particu-
larly bad news that had come in one
of her letters. She spoke i'll q tone of
: voice that did not interfere with the
comfort that the head of the house was
taking in the perusal of his newspaper
and she made little Joke that even
set the sulky member of The family to
laughing. Somehow after she had
| been at table five minutes tAe children
We're ready to set off for school in high
/ good humor, and the head of the house
rushed away to catch his trolley car
! with an air of having breakfaSted wise
~ and WELL
Agreeability Below Stairs.
! After breakfast this charmingly art
I full woman took the matter of her
housekeeping in hand in Il manner that
appeared to Infinitely please her ser
wants She discussed the meals for
the day without announcing that the
whole matter bored her to death, and
that she wished she lived in 4 hotel.
She paid the cook an honest compli-
ment on her coffee: she criticised the
dinner of the night before. but in q
way and with an expression that took
the sting out Of 1t. She gave attention
to complaints either 3ound CT foolish,
without wearing Il helpless OF annoyed
air. and when the laundress loudly and
iangrily announced her intention to
leave at once. I heard the mistress say
quite gently:
Il am sorry something has gone
wrong, Mary. Come UP TO my room in
ten minutes. please and tell me Just
Why you have decided to go.
Ten minutes" she smilingly whis-
pered to me- gives US both time to
get command OF our tempers, and I've
found. in dealing with the servants,
THAT it is kindeSt to let them pour out
their grievances in private, 70 try to
look at the trouble from their point of
view, if You can, and then to part from
them on friendly terms. il part you
must"
! But in ten minutes the conference
Iended SO amicably that the laundress
went back almost cheerfully to her
iwashtub, and 1 saw that the humble
.,1rishwoman had appreciated The tiny
compliment of having her troubles
talked over. her reason and dignity APP
IN 1,n .p.,,,t t>,,
given to the friendly consideration of
her woes and privileges.
Agrecabiity in Trifles.
When the last detail of housekeeping
mad been settled. / saw my model OF
good manners sit at her desk for a half
hour. Il cannot let my notes wait"
she said. There are a couple of in
Ivitations to answer. I've a friend in
trouble who needs g. word OF written
make n call. and l want to let MI.
Brown Know that the bool. he sent
me has come safely 10 hand" and her
pen went WhizZin2 along the paper
before she slipped into her hat and
coat. and We took our way into the
street on shopping benz.
Across the way she stopped at the
florists and ordered a halr-do.an roses
sent to the frail old man who conducts
the literature class TO which she be-
longs, and who for two weeks has been
shut in with an attack of bronchitis:
and then. brief as our time was, she
insisted upon walking Il block out of
fhef way TO see that strange" in the
town was correctly directed to the
street she desired to reach.
When we finally got into the car, my
friend pushed steadily into the forward
end, in order not to block the door.
she explained, and when 4 man gave
her his seat. she said quite audibly
and with a little bow, That is very
kind of you" l thought he looked par
!ticuarly satisfied somehow, to have
given his place to SO gracious a lady.
who carefully drew all her wraps
land skirts closely about her in order
to give plenty Of room to another
woman, kept her umbrella close to her
side and refrained, I noticed, from dis
cussing with me any personalities.
That is dangerous and sometimes
cruel indulgence in public. Who knows
how clearly idle bits of ones gossip
may reach the ear of 4 friend and thus
give inexpressible pain.
An animated discussion of a new
/ book was interrupted by Nine. Agree
ability rising and pressing into her
seat SLIM pallid young girl CARRYING
"a heavy dressnaier's. tray.
1T is quite all right" my agreeable
! friend insisted. Il look Just twice as
! strong as you, and J. am carrying no
! bundles; besides, l shall get out very
!soon," and shd nodded at the fragile
+, girl SO brightly that the pale face was
illuminated with a smile that made it
[ almost beautiful.
Out of the car admiliogly followed
! my friend, who wendell her way into
a crowded shop with a considerable
caution that I wished to emulate, and
with an observance of some OF the ne
elected little courtesies that made me
realize anew their value. With smile
she held the swinging doors back for
a fussy old lady and later, at crowded
counter, where we We're in great haste
Ito be waited upon, an eager shopper
ny 1,n IL tlt-, n