Wausau pilot. [volume] (Wausau, Wis.) 1896-1940, 1904-11-08
To Retain Your husbands Love.

10 hS(a1u Our uSDauQPS Love-
Many young women seem to labor
under the impression that once the
marriage ceremony is over their object
is attained; they have played theirpart,
so to speak; the future can take care of
itself. 1t is one thing to gain mans
love. 1t Is quite another to retain it;
and the girl who is willing TO rest con-
tent with having gained it will never
make marriage much of a success. A
girl generally studies her sweetheart,
more or less; she considers if this will
please him or if that viii not. Well,
if that sort Of thing is so far essential
before marriage it is absolutely neces-
sary after the nuptial knot is tied; a
husband must be studied, and the wife
who does not study her husband will
never retain his love and respect.
Again, why is it that a sweetheart
who always dressed well and neatly
before marriage, adopts sloyenly
style Immediately after settling down?
This often happens, and it may give
the husband food for much reflection,
for what does it hint at? Does it not
suggest that having got him, she does
not care; in other words, may it not
mean that she only dressed carefully
In order to entrap him? Let hus-
band get those ideas into his head,
and love, on his side, may be conspic-
uous by its absence. A wife should
really dress just as carefully after
marriage as before, more carefully in
fact if she wants her husband to re-
main lover also, and by the waf,
that is the best condition under which
married life can be spent.
Then there is another important
thing-a wife must always be interest
ed in her husband and all his doings,
and her interest must, in certain cir
cumstances, be blended with sympa-
thy. Take his business or profession,
for instance Well. of course, it is to
her advantage to be interested in his
business; If he starts talking about it
she must listen, and if he wants adj
vice she must be ready to give 1t to
the best Of her ability. This greatly
aids a man; he is strengthened by
the fact that his wife takes a deep in
terest in his affairs; it spurs him on;
he has an incentive. Then If business
worries crop up she must be sympa-
thetic. and who knows but what she
may be able to give him many a valu-
able hint. Be very sure that the wife
who thus acts will retain her hus-
bands love; he finds that he could not
do without her; he gets into the habit
of turning to her as his wise counsel
lor
On the other hand, If a wife is apa-
thetic, and takes no interest whatever
in her husbands affairs, can one. Won
der If his love becomes a trifle luke
warm? 1t is hardly necessary to say
word about cooking and housekeep-
ing, but it may be remarked that a
tidy, clean, well-ordered house, cou-
pied with prompt, well-served meals
go a long way in holding mans
love, but enough of that.
Then there is one other important
thing, most men have hobby; indeed,
the man without a hobby is hardly
desirable person to marry. Well,
wife should always take the deepest
interest in her Iusband's hobby. 1t
may be argueu that the particular
hobby may have no interest for her
but she must make herself interested
in it; she must show him that his hob
by is also hers, and this goes a long
way in keeping a husbands love and
respect.-Home Monthly.