The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1904-11-24

grows in beauty and perfection on
! the canvas of Life. While she is the
| true home-m maker, and the most i'm
| nortant factor in it's details, yet all
| realize that she needs the co-opera-
ton of her husband. Two are neces-
sary, both the home-fnder and the
| home-makef.
1--WE two make home of any place
! we go" expresses great truth. I'VE
/ two are the man and woman, VINO
together strive for each others happl-
/ ness and the welfare of the little chill
dren who bless their lives. The old
| ideal of the division OF this work was
that the man provided house, and
the woman made a home in it. Now
we see clearer and know that 1T re-
uuireS the efforts of both to make the
home.
1t is true that a house is very neces-
sary in which to maxi. the home, and
woman is the natural and proper
house keeper, but the mans contribu-
ton to the work of home-maklng is
not complete when the house is pro-
vided and supplied. He must strug-
gle with her in cultivating love, for
bearance, courtesy, patience and self
sacrifice, which are continually neceS-
sary in order to produce that psychic
atmosphere which will transform the
| house into a home.
ideals and lives of those who occupy
it, a composite echo, if | may so call
it. as it partakeS of the natures of
all in the house, and is modified and
limited by its contradictions. This
psychic atmosphere while invisible, is
very real, and easily felt, and should
become the study of all who desire
homes of the highest type
A house may be architectually
beautiful luxuriously furnished, and
contain every appliance known to
science for promoting comfort and
pleasure yet, if SelfishneSS, disorder
irritability and discomfort reign with
in it, in no sense of the word is it
true home Nor is the house without
a woman in it a home in the best
sense of the word. 1t may be shell
ter, or a hiding place, as was the cave,
but it is the woman in it as source
of continual joy that makes the man
! love home, cling to it, and fight for
it, if necessary.
The woman is essential not only be-
cause of what she does, but because
of what she incites others to do, and
because of her contribution to the
psychic atmosphere which permeateS
the house, and which because of her
should be peaceful, cheerful and joy
full, which can never be if the IN
mates of the house are peeViSh and
selfish and melancholy. Cheerfulness
and patience, and all other joy-creat-
| ing things can only predominant IN
the psychic atmosphere when all IN
the house contribute thereto. Cheer
! full self-sacritice is the first fruit of
! love and must abide in the house
! where one desires to make home.
| Cheerful cOmpanionShip is another
essential. Man is pre-eminently a So
| cial creature, and must have compan-
ionship. He should find 1T best at
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cheerful companion. So see to IT
] that your home-maker is not over
burdened, by her own choice mayhap,
with duties nor with pleasures, Tor
there is danger of both. If 1t is I'M
! possible to relieve her of some duties,
then try to tighten them by greater
appreciation Expressed, not taken for
granted,) and by redoubled gallantry
and devotion. There is generally much
| proof of devotion in the homes, but
| not enough of honest gallantry and
| chivalry A wife needs all three more
than the sweetheart and can only prop
| erly receive ii from her husband. Love
| is the domestic panacea, and real love
will prompt to the relief of the loved
ones burden. Bear We one another's
burdens" is q good motto to live by,
and the real home-maker should bear
in mind that her failure to do her
duties to the full measure of her abil-
ity must necessarily add to the bur-
den of her me-partner. Bear We
one another's burdens applies beautt-
fully to those ever-recurring, harrass-
ing, destroying, joy-killing
little things which have to be done
again and again and again, that seem
so insignificant, and yet if left undone
cause discord in the harmony of the
home. To have a happy home is the
dream of every human heart, and that
dream always pictures that home as
made happy by another heart. 1--WE
two" make the world as we'll as the
home.
So home making is strictly cooper
ative, each striving to make of the
| house an Eden for the other. Such
an effort will bring its own reward
| of happiness, for as seIfishness is the
F.! bane of life, so unselfishness is it's
| greatest blessing.
| There must be two sides to the
| home making SO as 70 properly minis
! ter to both sides of mans dual nature.
| These two sides are the practical and
the psychic or spiritual Tney are in
| ter-dependent and so closely inter-
woven that they>~ean hardly be con-
| sidered separately.
The practical side pertains to cook
| ing, cleaning, sewing, and all those
matters which are strictly woman's
work, to do, or to have done, as her
! husbands means permit. So much is
/ dependent on the way these practical
| things are done, that too much stress
cannot be laid on them. A well man
aged household is as essential to a
home as good government is to a
nation. dirty, disorderly house,
1 badly cooked food. screaming children
will without fail disturb the harmony,