The daily morning journal and courier. [volume] (New Haven, Conn.) 1894-1907, 1904-10-27
THE FAIR MAID PROTESTS.
She Has Her Little Say About Trifiing
Lovers.

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more in favor in this age. as we pre-
sently see, says the Richmond Times
Dispatch.
AS the school girl would say in a
on this subject, there are
many kinds of beaux. There is the |
beau whom the girls call a general |
beau" This is the beau who visits all I
girls promiscuously, and nc girl ~
particular. He is not much in favor, |
but if he is agreeable and attentive he |
is tolerated, provided he does not |
interfere with genuine sutton. Then
there is the candy beau. He may or
may not be general beau but at any
rate he may be counted upon by the
girls who receive his attentions to send /
box of chocolates or bunch Of
yiolets upon occasion, and he IS also
handy and convenient during the
theatrical season. It may be said to
the credit Of beaux Of this stripe that
they do not sail under false colors.
They do not pretend to be suitors, and
nothing is expected from them save
polite attention.
There is still another variety Of
beaux, who prowl around making mis-
chief and causing no end of annoyance,
and If the law could reach cases they
could easily be arraigned in court Of
justice on the Indictment Of false pre-
tense They are what the girls cali
"spooners.'' In their own cautious way
they make love to the girls whom they
visit. They are steady company"
They select some eligible girl and make
regular visits, consuming the family
gas and wearing out the family ear
pets, and keep their victims in state
of intolerabie expectancy, always hint
ing, but never proposing. There is one
girl in this community who has stood
this sort of imposition until forbearance
has ceased to be virtue and She lifts
her musical voice in protest. She asks
for a hearing through these columns
and she shall have it. She writes
earnestly and contrary to the ways Of
the trifling "spooners' whom she con-
dennis; she comes to the point. Her
composition would not pass muster in
a school of grammar and rhetoric, but
we have refrained from taking liberties
with her copy and print the protest in
her own language. She says:
Some young men have the extremely
bad habit Of paying court to young
girl for years without offering pro-
posal of marriage to them. They are
very liberal iii their making, but,
concerning marriage they are so slow
and thoughtless that many a young
girl has had her patience completely
worn out, and sometimes have had to
allude to it herself in justice to herself
and her people to try to find out his
Intentions. This often causes a girls
confidence in a mans sincerity to wane,
ruins her disposition and causes her to-
be sad and given to melancholy. OF
course, she notes the neglect and feels
the humiliation Of such state Of
affairs.
She does not know what to think or
do. Is her lover true? Does he ever
expect to marry? Does he want me?
Well. why doesn't he say so? Is he
pledged to another? Perhaps there are
circumstances to prevent him from
marrying; maybe his health will not
permit, or he has not the means to
support wife. He tells me other Sc
crets, why doesn't he tell this? He IS
very cruel and thoughtless, and can't
help but doubt his sincerity, but love
him, and oh, / wish / did know what
to do
Such are her premeditations, and
young men, this is indeed very wrong
to place a sweet and trusting young.
girl in such a position. It is cruel and
heartless. You have not shown your
respect to her; you have made her be-
| lieve you love her, and you are sure
she loves you; so she expects a pro-
posal next; any sensible girl would. If
you love her you should want to marry
her some day and should let her know
! it, and If you do not love her you
should not have told her you did and
you should not be waiting on her
Can't you have more respect for your
self than to be SO weak and regardless
of others feelings? What would you
think of a girl who treats you in such a
manner, keeping you always in sus-
pense, although she vowed she loved
Iyou? Imagine the pangs Of anguish to
would suffer. Would you not deem her
very thoughtless and cruel, 1t is just
so with the girl, SO put yourself in her
place and feel the anxiety of such a
position.
/ And it is much more heartless and
wicked for a man to set that way, as
The has more privileges in life than a
girl He may have several sweethearts
lat one time, but generally after a
certain young man has been paying
Iattention to young lady for a length
Iof time the young men begin to think
he is her choice, so do not interfere; so
in many cases he is her only lover.
Now in conclusion, let me say to that
young man, if you love the girl propose
to her Immediately; you should not be
so particular who you marry, and by
this heartless act it proves you are not
a saint yourself If you were all right
yourself you would think others We're.
Everyone have their faults so you need
Isnot be hoping to have an angel for
your companion through life. Look at
| yourself to seel if you are worthy OF
this sweet young thing, and not at her
to see if she is worthy of you. If you
do any other way than this you are 8
hard hearted wretch, and you may ex.
poet nothing else but sorrow much
heavier than the one you have cast
upon the life Of that Young girl sooner
Eor later"