The Savannah morning news., 1904-07-24
WOMAN'S WORLD

! family. and that instead of having in
cense burned at her feet, she has got
to fill the job of incense burner. At
home everybody considered her tastes,
and her pleasures. and adapted them
selves to her. As q married woman
she soon finds out that it is the hus-
band whose tastes and pleasures have
to be consulted and that II there is
any adapting done, it is the wife who
has to do it, 1t is the man whose
temper and peculiar.ties must be rub
bed the right way of the fur and it
requires age and knowledge of the
world to enable a woman to be a good,
successful rubber.
1t takes tact, and self-control, and
diplomacy for any woman to get along
peacably with her husband, and it is
impossible that any girl in her teens
should possess these. That is the
reason that all young couples quar-
rel like children. A girl lacks the
wisdom to cope with dangerous sit
uatiOns; she will fly into tantrums
where she most needs to keep her
temper; she will weep where she
ought to laugh. and say bitter things
where she should jolly. A baby with
it's hand on the throttle of an engine
going sixty miles an hour, a blind man
plotting a ship among the reefs, is
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untaught and ignorant girl who ven
lures into matrimony, and any man
who entrusts his happiness in her
hands is more than reckless. He is
fOolhardy.
In time the child-bride learns her
lessOn-she learns how to bear and
forbear, when to speak and when to be
silent, but the pity of it is that nearly
always her dearly bought knowledge
comes too late, for somewhere in the
stormy years of her early marriage
she lost her husbands love- She is
left to garner the harvest of her own
mistakes and she reflects with bitter
regret of how different all might have
been if she had only known more of
life. more of men, more of human ma
ture.
A girl who is married before she has
had her girlhood makes a far more
frivolous wife and mother than does
the woman who marries after she has
had her fill of society. Men seldom
marry until they are tired of balls and
parties and are ready to settle down
into slippered ease at their own fire.
side. Youth Graves excitement, diver
sion, companionship, amusement,
while if a man weds a young girl she
is still anxious for the pleasures she
has never enjoyed. MatIimony doesn't
stihe her yearnings for amusement.
She wants to go about because she has
not seen the show of life. The hus-
band wants to stay at home because
he has seen ii so often he is tired of it,
and there is no subject of discord oft
ener to the front than the antagOnistc
attitude of husband and wife on the
amusement question. This is a sub
ject of dispute, however, that seldom
arises between the mature woman and
the man she marries. because she too
is satisfied with society, and is glad to
turn to the peace and rest of domes-
ITCHY.
A final and clinching argument
against girl marrying at Is is that at
that age no girl has come to herself
and knows what she wants in a hus-
band, or what she is going to be her
risks anyway without taking the extra
risk of your own development. The
curled moustache lay figure of a man
that a young girl fancies. will fill a
mature woman with disgust. The man
that she was ready to break her heart
for at IS. she wouldn't have at 80 if
he was gold-plated and had every
hair on his head strung with dia-
monds. Happy, then, is she if she
hasn't tied knot with her tongue that
she cannot unite with her teeth. And
this is not the worst of it. Tragical
as is her changing taste it is not so
tragical as her own development often
is, and there is nothing in life sadder
than the fate of the woman who mar
ries when she is a child, and who out
grows her youthful romance and the
husband to whom she is bound.
When a girl should marry depends
on many things, but no girl should
marry at IS. She should wait at least
until she is a judge of men, and knows
what kind of husband she prefers.
True. she may not get him. but at least
she makes her bargain with the acu-
men of an adult. instead of making a
blind grab for the first thing in sight
like a child in a candy shop And the
results are likely to be more satisfac-
tory for both parties.
Dorothy Dix.