The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1904-06-12
WOMAN'S WORLD


| day to ill-cooked dinners. and tear
! full incompetent wife for couple OF
wears while the woman was learning
! how TO cook and manage servant,
! they have established the spat habit.
and laid the foundations for life time
| of pickering II there We're no bad
I breakfast tables there would be few
/ unhappy marriages. Many man
\ would never find out that he had miss
ed his affinity. II ne didn't miss his
club coffee and rolls. Many true love
has been choked TO death on tough
I steak. and drowned on watery soup.
The second nlusionment that comes
to q man is when he finds his nose
put out Of Joint by pudgy. lobster
cOlored baby, Children are supposed to
hind people together. They do gen.
orally. but not sentimentally, and this
IS the womau's fault because the aver
age woman is so much too much moth
en-. and SO much too little wife. A
man has TO get acclimatized to children.
To start with he doesn't consider IL
enhancing music TO hear a baby yowl,
nor does he prefer the odor of baby
foods 70 any other perfume. He may
be ever so proud papa, but he still
takes an interest in other things. Not
so NTH the mother. Society, amuse-
ments. literature, politics. everything
has been swallowed up in the nursery,
and II her husband will sit there with
her she let's him go his own gait alone,
and IL is during the first six months
OF the first baby's life that the young
husband finds the way back again
downtown and to his old haunts. Oc-
casionally you hear OF a woman who
considers her husband of as much i'm
portance as the baby, and she keeps
him. but to the majority Of women the
husband merely exists in order to earn
money for the children.
Womans third way Of Staying love
is by never learning anything from
experience. She is like the fools who
are always killing people with an emp
ty gun. No matter II she knows that
a certain subject irritates her husband
as much as waving a red flag at an
angry bull, she never learns not to
drag II into the conversation. No mat
er how many safe and easy roads there
are around his prejudices, she never
learns to take them. but tramples
straight over his sensibilities to her
goal. There is some excuse for wife
humping up once or twice against her
husbands pecuNarities, but after that
it is sheer stupidity. Any woman can
manage any man If she is willing to
take the trouble.
The woman alone, however. cannot
make marriage a success. 1t takes
two to kiss, as well as two to quar-
rel, and men have their share of the
blame.
Men fail to make their wives happy
chiefly through lack of tenderness.
When the average man gets married
he quits love making with a sudden
ness that knocks the props out from
under a woman, and brings her down
from Heaven to earth with jolt that
loosens her back hair. For months or
years he has spent hours every day
telling her how he adored her before
marriage. After marriage he never
mentions the subject of his affections
to her again, He thinks that his
spending his life is proof enough to
his affection, yet a woman would rather
have an ounce of compliment than a
barrel of deeds, and as long as a man
will tell her that she is the most beau
tiful of her sex and that he worships
her, he may beat her. and mistreat her.
and she will still consider herself as
blessed among women.
Men fail as husbands because they
treat their wives as pensioners instead
of partners. No woman was ever hap
Ply with a man who made her feel her
financial dependence upon him. Men
fail as husbands because they take
more interest in their business than
they do in their homes. They become
mere money making machines, with
out one human impulse of affection,
and many a great enterprise is built
upon the wreck of a woman's heart
Men fail because they try to combine
the husband and the rounder No man
has a right to marry until he is ready
to settle down, and give up his bache-
lor habits. Before he marries he should
decide whether he prefers holding his
wife's hands to hand at poker, and
pouring tea at the domestic table to
opening bottles for chorus girls, and
he should abide by his decision. If
he isn't going to stay home with his
wife in the evenings, he should leave
her in peace with her own family and
friends.
Both men and women fail in mar
riage because they look upon married
happiness as an accident instead of a
matter of will. There are no two peo-
pie of different blood, brought up in
different environment, and with diff
ferent tastes and habits who cannot
find enough matters to scrap about If
they will. nor are there any two who
cannot find enough things they have
in common to get along harmoniously
If they desire. In the determination
to be happy though married, lies all
the law and the prophets. 1t is a
matter of volition and not luck
Dorothy Dix.