The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1904-08-03
MATRlMONY.
The Kind Of Girl to Marry.
Dorothy Dix in New Orleans Picayune.

this world but fool, and the chances
are that if man ever does marry q
woman simply and solely because of
intelligence, be will have well-order-
ed home, reasonable, sensible and
practical wife, and calm voyage
across the sea Of matrimony with q
companion who will be interesting and
entertaining. And the certainty of
not being bored justifes q good many
risks.
Should man marry for amiability?
Next to beauty amiabilj.y is wo-
mans chiefest charm in masculine
eyes. Every mans ideal Of woman
is mush poultice that nothing ever
rufiles, and that eau be run into any
kind Of mold. Undoubtedly per-
fectly amiable woman, one who never
fuses nor scolds, nor argues is most
soothing companion. After having
been up against the world all day
that derided your opinions and mock
ed your judgment and irritated every
possible point, it is nice to come
home at night to wife who will not
contradict if yol say the moon is
made of green cheese, and DO mat.
ter what goes wrong will always be
able to maintain placid attitude to-
ward life.
The man who msrries q woman for
her amiability get his moneys worth
of peace and quiet. But he must not
forget that excessive amiability is, in
reality, certain weakness Of charac.
ter. The woman who agrees with
everybody in everything they say
does 80 through sheer lack of back.
bone. The woman who never main
tains her opinion has no opinion to
maintain. If man marries mush
poultice he mustn't expect it to have
ginger in it and complain because it
lacks flavor, because that is the way
that mush poultices are made. If he
picks out olinging vine ne musn t
expect it to suddenly turn into q sturdy
support if the day comes when he
needs wife to help him instead OF
lean upon him. The man who marries
woman solely for her amiability
will have peaceful life but he will
have all the burden to bear Of the fam
lily.
Should q man marry woman be-
cause she is all hearth
Affectioc is one Of the most attrac.
tive of all qualities in woman. Love
is the mantle that covers multitude
of sins, and we forgive o person al.
most anything if We are only sure
that they love US enough. Yet be.
cause woman loves o man does not
always make her good wife. Some
times woman loves man 80 we'll
that shs ruins his life by keeping him
tied to her apron string when better
opportunities await him elsewhere.
Sometimes woman thinks because
she knows she loves her husband
and will die for him if need be, ex-
cuses her for not making him COM
Portable while he is living. Love will
aet make ve@sa geca vile va!sss
she has intelligence. and without ami
ability it is the mother Of jealousy and
often brings untold humiliation on
the husband.
Undoubtedly it is very Aattering to
o man to feel that woman loves him,
but to marry one who is ell heart and
no head is about the most dangerous
matrimonial experience, that any one
can make. The man who marries o
woman who is al: heart will have q
life that will know periods of fervid
devotion, but that will also know
times of hair-pulling.
If were man picking out wife
the four qualities that should look
for would be common sense, practioa-
bility, tact and oheerfulness.
If q man marries woman with thes.
all the rest of the virtues and graoes
shall be added to her. She will never
run away with oranks. She will never
expect mere man t. be q demigod.
She will know how to make excuses,
and in every relation of life she will
be sweetly reasonable. If prosperity
comes she will know how to enjoy il
without being puffed up, and if re.
verses befall her she will put her
shoulder to the wheel without com.
plant or repining, and will help pull
the family wagon out OF the ditch.
No other quality is 80 rare among wo-
men as common sense, and no other
virtue is SO needed, for wcmen'e
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