The Saint Paul globe., 1904-01-23
A WOMAN,S MAN
BY DOROTHY DIX.

is exactly what being addressed
means now. The man who goes about
with trousers too short in the legs,
coat that looks as if it had been slept
in, and an unshaven face may be a.
genius, but there are 999 chances that
he isn't. He is simply too lazy to
take care of himself, and there are
precious few girls who care to take
that long shot on hobo beau.
Another thing that women like. and
1t is an attraction that~any man can
acquire, is a certain savoir faire that
makes him equal to any situation. A
woman likes a man to know how to
offer her a chair, to help her on with
her wraps, to order little dinner. She
hates, with unSpeakable loathing, the
fellow who is always making scenes
In public, who gets in rows with the
theater ushers over a mistake about
the seats, or the street car conductor
about the change, or who sits up like
a craven IMAGE of wrath every time
anybody drops in while he is calling.
1t is only chump who has to fight to
get his rights.
Women like generous men, but even
girls have contempt for the men they
can work. 1t is not the youths who
waste their substance on bonbons, and
theater tickets, and violets who are
the most popular with the fair SEX
Every girl has what she calls her
candy BEAU" but she seldom mar
rfes him. You cannot touch a girls
heart by upsetting her digestion An
important point to remember just here
Is that the man who would win favor
by means of gifts must give discreetly.
A woman will think more of a scent
bunch of field flowers if they commem-
crate some special occasion, or match
her dress, than she will of $50 bunch
| of American beauties that have no
special significance, and that are just
sent hit or miss.
In conversation a man should culti-
Vate happy medium. A continuous
monologue will wear out the strongest.
| and clam get upon the nerves of the
most patient. Before a man takes the
noor and devotes hours to expiating
on how he can keep books, or play
ping pong, or take snap Shots he
should be sure that the girl is really
interested in him. After a woman is
| in love she can sit entranced for weeks
at stretch listening to O man de-
scr1blng what kind of a collar button he
prefers, but if she isn't in love a steady
stream of personal "reminiscences
makes her tired, and after the first hour
she wants change and a chance to
ring IN few lunches of interesting
anecdotes about herself.
that man should help out with the
conversation. From the time a girl
Is old enough to understand anything
she is taught that her chief aim in life
is TO entertain man, and everywhere
you go you can see her toiling like a
coal HEAVIER trying to make conversa-
tlon with some man who Is Just as
unresponsive as a store dummy and as
silent as sphinx. 1t isn't a fair divi-
win true gratitude let him chip in and
help roll the conversational ball along
BE bold, be bold, be not too bold"
is good motto for the man who de-
s1res to be popular with women Wom-
en- hate timid man who has to be
rounded up and corralled before he
will pay them any attention but thew
nate the one who takes for granted that
he has only to throw the handkerchief
to have them jump at him. A man
should also learn how to pay compIi-
ments as if he meant them Women
can always detect shopworn hattery
that has done duty with a hundred
other women before it was passed out
to them. There Is no surer Wav to q
woman's heart than through her vanity.
but 1t takes an artist to get there by IL.
Women like strong man. Because
she has no backbone of her own the
one thing that a woman admires most
on earth Is vertebra. There are men
who think to make themselves popular
with women by being good natured
and useful. They will take girls to
parties and let them dance with other
men, they will let girls make engage
ments with them and then break them.
they will suffer themselves to be called
upon as escorts when other beaux fail.
This is fatal policy. The man who
makes himself a convenience to wom
an Will never become q necessity to
her, and she will invariably pass him
up FOR some man that she doesn't dare
to treat badly for fear that he will new
er come back again.
The last and most important point i'm
winning womans faVor-and if a
man forgets all the rest let him remem-
Der thls-is not to stay too long when
he goes to call. More men have queer
ed themselves right here than any,
Where else No living human being can
be brilliant for more than thirty min
utes at stretch, or entertaining for a
longer space of time than an hour. or
endurable for more than two hours.
IN tnat time any man can say anything
ne has got to say that is worth hearing.
and II he fingers along until the clock
yaWns in his face he is simply defy-
ing rate and counting disaster MANY
good impression is spoiled by too
much of it.
Of course, no general rule can be
laid down for winning the fancy of the
falr sex. What has been said pretends
to be no more than the most element
ary suggestions on the subject, but a
guarantee goes with each hint that it