The San Francisco call., 1904-10-09

give. I remember hearing a girl say
she had liked a certain chap until
she saw him eat ice cream from the
end of a spoon and then sort of lick
1t off" Surely, that was not a hid
eous ofense, but such is the perYersity
Of human nature.
And so it is with man. When you
make yourself ridiculous in any man
ner he considers your conduct out
rageous and is ready to annihilate you.
In fact, he will pardon you more read
lily for crime than for making a spec
tacle Of yourself; more easily for will
fully treading on his heart than awk-
wardly treading on his dignity. He
viii declare until he is blue in the
face that he doesn't care a rap about
good FORM but beware of slipping
UP on good manners" for from his
viewpoint this is objectionable and un-
forgivable.
Man likes to feel his own Importance
and so he demands feminine manners.
He doesn't go in for sweaters, shirt
Waists and independence. No. That
reminds him too much of himself and
he isn't fiattered with the imitation.
The girl who can take care of herself
may be refreshing at times, but she isn't
good as e steady diet, for she takes
away that gratifying sense of protec-
tion that he likes to feel toward a
pretty hODldU- ne doesn't enjoy DelnE
treated as though he were of minor
consequence and a little something
that could pe dispensed with entirely.
And then, too, he does not especially
enjoy the brusQue fashion in which he
is more than apt to be treated. In
short. he resents it for the world and
all like a cat whose fur has suddenly
been brushed the wrong way.
Don't think it is the masculine girl he
objects 10, but the masculine way in
which she does things. He demands
gentleness and he gets q generous dose
of brusqueness.
So you see it is better paying prop
osition for you to wear d trailing skirt,
a picture hat and a becoming amount
OF gentleness. To be sure, the ma
Jority of men do not condemn woman
then and there if they chance to hear
her say damn" but it is an unpleas-
ant surprise and one that they do not
forget readily. 1t may be all fine and
daisy to have q companion who can
walk miles in the country, who can
ride like a f1end and who can rough it
as well if not better than he can. Yes.
she is jolly good fellow, but you
couldn't see him for dust if any one
proposed that he walk to the altar
with her. Not for him. The childish
youngster who understands the art OF
holding up yards Of fluffy lace and who
cannot hem without asking his advice
is the one he invites to accompany him
on this journey, and he thoroughly
enjoys being her faithful Fido, for she
has a charming, artless way of tickling
his vanity. Flatter a man and you can
do almost anything with him. He needs
smoothing and soothing with an occa-
sional scratch just by way of contrast.
You cannot bluff him half so easily as
you can wheedle him. In fact, Il you
are past master In the art you can
nearly always wheedle a man into
falling in love with you.
. Flee from loudness in any form as
you would fee from a deadly pest. It
is worse than foolish to wear gaudy
apparel, to saturate yourself with per-
fume and then to cap the climax by
talking for the benefit OF the entire
room or car. A man may turn about
and look at you, may even ogIe you.
but he is thinking heavens, another
freak turned loosei" Rest assured he
isn't thinking anything complimentary.
IT may not be a crime to hold your
petticoats six inches higher than is alb
solutely necessary, but II you do 1t
you most certainly cannot expect on