Aberdeen herald. [volume] (Aberdeen, Chehalis County, W.T.) 1886-1917, 1904-11-10
To Retain Your Husbands Love.

To Retain Your Husbands Love.
Maay young women seem to labor
unCcr the impression that once tue
marriage ceremony is over their opJect
is attained: they have played theirpart.
50 to speak; the future can takecare of
itself 1t is one thing to gain mans
love, ii is quite another to retain 1t;
and the girl who is willing 10 resi- con
tent with having gained it will never
make marriage much OF success.
girl generally studies her sweetheart.
more or less: she considers II this Will
please him or if that will not Well,
If that sort Of thing is so far essential
before marriage. il is absolutely neces-
sary after the nuptial knot is tied: II
husband must be studied. and the wife
who does no, study her husband will
never retain his love and respect
Again, why Is it that n sweetheart
who always dressed well and neatly
before marriage. adopts siovenly
style Immediately after settling down?
This often happens. and II may give
the husband food for much reflection,
for what does it hint at! Does II not
suggest that having got him. she does
not care: In other words. may ii not
mean that she only dressed carefully
IA order to entrap him? Let nus
band get those ideas into his head.
and love, on his side. may he conspic-
uOus by its absence. wife should
really dress Just rs carefully after
marriage as before, more carefully III
fact. II she wants her husband to re-
main Il lover also, and by the wat.
that is the best condition under which
married life can be spent.
Then there is another important
thing-a wife must always be interest
ed in her husband and all his dOings.
and her interest must In certain cir
cumstances. be blended with sympa
thy Take his business or profession,
tor instance Well. of course. it is to
her advantage to be interested in his
business: If he starts talking about 1t
she must listen, and if he wants adj
vice she must be ready to give it to
the best of her ability. This greatly
aids a man; he is strengthened by
terest in his affairs; it spurs him on;
he has an incentive. Then if business
worries crop up she must he synpa-
thetic. and who knows but what she
may be able to give him many a valu-
able hint. Be very sure that the wife
who thus acts will retain her hus-
bands love; he finds that he could not
do without her; he gets into the habit
of turning to her as his wise counsel
lOr.
On the other hand. If wife Is apa-
thetc. and takes no interest whatever
In her husbands affairs. can one won
der II his love becomes a trihe luke
warm? 1t Is hardly necessary TO say
. word about cooking and housekeep
ing, but it may he remarked that a
tidy. clean, well-Ordered house. cOu-
pied with prompt well-served meals.
go long way In holding mans
love. but enough of that.
Then there Is one other important
thing, most men have a hobby: indeed,
the man without a hobby Is hardly a
desirable person to marry Well. a
wife should always take the deepest
interest In her husbands hobby. It
may be argued that the particular
hobby may have no interest for her,
but she must make herself Interested
in it: she must show him that his hob
by is also hers. and this goes long
way in keeping husbands love and
respect.--Home Monthly.