The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1903-12-12

and the last to break them, and that
they are essentially the same regula-
tions us those we practiceln the salon,
tho a bit different in their applica-
ton. r.
Now, your primary and greatest
mistake lay in forgetting that courtesy
inspires courtesy in even the very
humblest and toughest individuals
and that you show the highest altru-
ism and respect for yourself in care
fully respecting the feelings of others,
no matter what their origin and oc-
cupation may be.
After all is done and said. that is
the very backbone and explanation OF
all etiquette and good breeding. Ii
you are only seriously occupied with
the Importance of creating an envlable
impression among your drawlng-room
Inhabitants, you have sadly overlooked
and misinterpreted the really best
meaning of the art and value of rem
dering yourself generally agreeable.
'Poise and personal magnetism, let
me assure you, here and now, are no.
where exhibited to greater advantage
than in your Kitchen
The Velvet Touch.
CAS- you are woman Of generous
instincts, whose pride rings true and
whose common sense is a faculty at
once sound and sweet, you cannot too
soon appreciate the principal utility
of learning how to handle the domestic
situation with touch that is as sure
as steel an das soft as velvet.
THE keynote to your success hes
in this: Persuade your servants to
like you. 1t is the keynote to success
everywhere, but the sum of your in
fiuence in the domestic regions in
creases in proportion as you exercise
the art of pleasing every individual in
your employ.
Never lose sight of the all-im-
portant fact that there is just as fine a
field for the display of superlative
charm in ordering the dinner or cor
recting the parlor maid as there is in
welcoming a caller or pouring a cup
| of tea for an influential doWager.
You have Numbered sadly in for
getting that servants are just as hu-
man as yourself, and very observant
! and critical, too. Don't continue in
the erroneous belief that having paid
them their wages, you owe them moth
| ing else, and don't have one voice, one
| glance, one mode of speech for the
parlor and a totally different de-
meanor for use on the basement floor.
Your authority is but sounding
brass and tinkling cymbals. if you
have not inspired every servant under
your roof with a real and hearty de-
sire to do your bidding.
| LET your personality count, and
whether you have one maid of-all-
work or a dozen highly accomplished
domestics at your command, you can
| make your influence felt as greatly tC
| their own as to your advantage. ~
Above an THINGS, consider that il
is the first and foremost obligation OF
your position as mistress to render
the labor in your house just as pleas
ant as labor can be made, and thai
1T rests wholly with you whether ser
wants are satisfied or not under your
roof You should try to understand
that there is as much cause for pride
in the fact that you find servant:
readily and keep them a long time
as that your draWing-room is al
agreeable spot and attractive to Wis
itors.
A Fine Art.
| IT am never more wholly confiden
Of the innate good breeding and true
/ ladyhood Of a new acquaintance thar
when I discover, on close intimacy
that she possesses what she may wei
proudly call old family servants.
That same woman. is sure to boas
lifelong friends and an unmistakablt
faculty of winning the liking Of ever,
individual near whom her lines Of lift
are cast.
"She is woman who has lifted he
capacity for displaying sweet condo
scension into the realm Of the fin'
arts. She knows how to be gentle
gracious, even thoughtful, of her EN-
ployes, without in the least injurin,
her dignity.