The Montgomery advertiser., 1903-03-08
THE GIRL WHO MARRIES
 TO HAVE A GOOD TIME

Hcme Chat.
 Not long since girl vas showing with | much Iride and pleas.:re her wedding presents to an Jl1er woman friend. The friend said something about the conveniences and pretdness that seemed to be ready in lavish measure for the new home, and how interesting and de- llghtful 1t would be to keep the house hon elika.
 The girl looked at her with wide-opsned eyes of dlstate and amazenent.
 "Ch, nobody need suppose III going to bother over things of that sort!" she said frankly I'm not going to spend ny days | over housekeeping, I'm not marrying to do my duty, and dull things like that m marrying 10 nave good time" Now, most girls would not perhaps ex- press themselves with the same brutal candor, but many of them have much the same idea In their secret hearts. Marrying to have a good time-to hold the keys of that paradise that books and foolish talk and their own fancy, have combined to assure them is to be found in marriage!
 Poor deluded girls!
 'dariage, like the rest of life, may be paradise. or the other thing, as one chooses 70 make it. But most of the mak- ing rests with ourselves. Thsre is no ready-made paradise Tn marriage, or out of 1t
 A girl fancies that from the moment the wedding ring Is on her finger, all cares and troubles and disa yrceables cease.
 She imagines she steps over the thresh- old. when she leaves the church, in veil and orange blossoms of an ideal palace of delights
 Poor soul! She goes on living just the same life every day. Only she has joined that life to another which can make hers happy or wretched. just in the same de- gree of power as she has on her part.
 Marrying to have good time.
 If that Is her only reason for wifehood she had better have .'etained her spinis- terhood. Certainly. It would have held far more probabilities of her desires being sat isfied than the. lot into which she has entered. If she thinks she will find free dom from care in marriage she makes fatal mistake Marriage doubles cares and responsibilities for the most part. It entails duties that send good times pretty much into the background, and leave little thought or place for them.
 When a woman has a house to care for and a husband to claim her time and at tention. she Is no longer free to spend her days as she likes.
 Hockey and golf must take a very su- bordinate position. Dances are no longer able to be the chief interest of her nights.
 When children come she is fortunate if she has any leisure moments at all If she cares for them, and desires to study their welfare, she must sacrifice to them most of the time that went in amuse- ment and idleness before.
 Marrying to have q good time What an ideal of the state that is called holy! What a paradise, as shn very soon finds out: poor and nltifu end to what ought to be the opening If ii, CT and more perfect life.
 How dull that good time will begin to seem to her after year pr two of 1t, even If she succeeds n getting a taste of 1t at first! How 'he will be bored in her effort to go on amusing herself! How she will find al lthe old amusements pale and grow tame!
 Marrying to have a good time
 She will wonder how she could have had the folly to give up for that fallacious hope her girls liberty and ease and ab- sence of care and responsibility. There is no life. after all, so simple to live as that of the unmarried girl at home.
 What were the qualifications of the hus- band she has chosen to be her companion and friend through life?
 Either that he had money to give her