Bisbee daily review., 1903-06-10
ABOUT WOMEN'S CLUB
SOME MOST COMMON CAUSES OF TROUBLE IN ORGANIZATIONS.
Commandments Suggested by Woman Who Has Sen Troubles that Befall
 the Workers Who Meet,

Who Has Sen Troubles that BefalI
 the Workers Who Meet
 Most women are taught to make the art of pleasing others the dominant thing in life. This idea started in the sex relation and gradually as race evolves it extends to other things Some women are morbid on the sub iect of not antagonizing men. They think harmony comes from agreeing with men at any cost When if these weak. foolish women only knew it, they must have strong characters and positive ideas in order to command the respect of either sex.
 Tnexperience, vanity, selfshness lack of candor and foolish ambition are some causes of inharmony in club life. A very common cause of trouble is the not unusual feeling of being a martyr. It is natural to feel that no one comprehends or appreciates our particular point of view. One feels this form of depression when she is tired or overworked and consequently she becomes confused and does not see things in their true relation. We often hear, this sentiment: ''Tll not belong to that club another year. have worked very hard; no one knows how much time I have spent on this committee work and the others were al lot tA lAff @n d oil thn drudgery. No one understood what was driving at"
 Another says: When I was chair man I tried to have social meetings, but no one came. I think I deserved all office in the club. I never got any thing but a directorship; the most unappreciative set of women I ever saw. I worked myself sick during their old fete, but I never will again. Inexperience and over work tend to this kind of martyrdom. Each mem. Der should select her major subject and let her minor work be incidental. The principal work which she selects to do should be done with such thor oughness, fidelity and grace that she makes herself necessary to her circle. Do not think, oh, crop of martyrs, that your work is not understood. There is always someone who com prehends and appreciates your efforts. but do not strive for a martyrs s crown; rather assume that others are working from just as good method Be content if you get an occasional smile and an infrequent handshake. Do away with frowns. cares and scowls. Be cheerful at any cost and never again be club martyr. It is unbecoming and useless.
 The kind of offices selected, as well as the method of selecting, is impor' tant. It is the club as whole which is to be served. If an ignorant person accepts a position of trust where her poor English is apparent, all the club must suffer disgrace. If treasurer made a mistake in the accounts she would justly be criticized, but if person writes 9 letter of condolence in which there are inaccuracies oi spelling, and inelegancies of diction they are passed over in silence. This is wrong. In the first place an uned ucated person should not accept 8 position for which she has not beer trained It is a great weakness t subject ones self to this kind of thin; just for the sake of holding office.
 In modern life there are frequent opportunities to study every nesessarI and most known subjects. A vel arranged club offers class work il physical training parliamentary law English and public speaking. Thes' branches at least should be studie' before one accepts an office. w know a club where the officers hav' never taken these branches and ye they put themselves forward as lead CTS.
 Such inadequate persons will hay, deserved criticism. The mania fo i. holding office is something 10 be de plored. So great is this passion tha we have known a person to hold ol to one office until she was certain 0 election to another. This is not i legal, nor even unpdTnduenC6lJ, Ou it is very rude to those conferriug tn first office and though not an uncon mon thing to do, it is very graspins conceited and vain and it invariabl calls forth criticism. Perhaps tn only prevention is rotation in office The difficulties of the popular vote ar not limited to the women's clubs.
 If women make all these mistake and continue making them it show that others are not candid in thei club life. Is candor a desirable elt ment in any or all relations? PersoI ally. I believe absolute candor is tn easiest and mos. harmonious wa, not sometimes, but always. Cal dor does not mean rudeness ( brusqueness, or unkindness. Tn ability to be truthful and candid is fri qrently a matter of temperament, bu it may be cultivated and should be the absence of it is unethical.
 No woman has right to make criticism of another which she woul not and does not make to the persol The tendency to gossip is very har to outgrow. The place to begin