The Caucasian. (Shreveport, La.) 1900-192?, 1903-01-22
SOCIAL GRACES.
Seine of the Small but Important See
erets OF q Successful Career.

ssme of the Small but Important See
erets OF q Successful Career.
Quite in accord with the spirit of the
busy ever" many bride has begun
her new life in a town remote from her
ehildhoodss home. Being in the beauty
Of her gracious young womanhood, she
will wish to find her place in some SO
ciai circle. and she will be fortunate
indeed il she has relatives Of her own
or her husband TO guide her in the Sc
lection Of friends. In any case she will
need to be carefully observant OF the
customs peculiar to the people about
her, and she will wisely take little
time to choose her associates.
1t is always best to exercise extreme
conservat ism in the matter OF intima
cies, remembering that every act Of i
newcomer will speak in her favor or
the reverse. Friendships OF the best
kind must have some reasen for their
being. Their basis is always con-
geniaIitye and helpfulness ofa mutual
kind. such as, time alone can develop,
and strengthen. If the most astonish-l
ing friendships are formed within a
fortnight. the chances are that they
will pail quickly Meanwhile the op.
portunities for more desirable ones
may be cut of.
Above all, the tactfui woman will
consider well the terms in which she
speaks of her new home. II she com.
plains of dizziness in her social world.
It is taeit admission that she has lit
tie to contribute, and the future may
effect no favorable changes for her.
Society is ever on the lookout fer de-
sirable acquisitions and will quickly
recognize talent and congenial ele
ments
The sensible young matron does not
entertain the callers in her new home
by giving glowing accounts of the yir-
tues of her former associates. Neither
does she speak of their wealth and in
fuence. Observation has confirmed the
opinion that this is in reality common
error
Ii she has been bred to the purple"
the fact will be e~ident In many ways.
and ne matter how deeply welded she
may be to former associations she must
face the future and trust to time and
her own best efforts to create new i'm
pressions of her character and worth
which shall rival the old.
She should lose no time in identifying
herself with those movements in which
she has been Interested elsewhere or
toward which, she feels sympathetic
inclination. Once within the members
ship of any organization she should
strive to do well the duty that lies
nearest and not content. herself with
merely listening to the efforts of 9th
ers.
Rejoice in any opportunities for sers-
ice which may present themselves. for
with the doing of hard work comes
strength for more brilliant effort. The
legitimate work and purpose of many
an organization has been crippled by
the reluctance and failure of members
to perform their duties. 1t will develop,
a capacity for hard work to do this.
but no effort win bring better reward
Life is not so short but that there is
always time for courtesy. Self com
mand is the main elegance. Keep cool
and You command everybody. This.
then. is the secret of a successful social
career.-Ta bile Talk
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