The Ocala banner. (Ocala, Marion County, Fla.) 1883-194?, 1903-07-03
ETHICS OF KISSING.
A WOmAN'S VIEWS ON THE SUBJECT
OF OSCILLATION.
Those Men Upon Whom a Modest
Maiden May Lavish kisses without
Computation and Those Toward
whom She should Play the Mtser.

fallen into diSfavOr, continues to be
mastery. When modest maiden 10 in
doubt as to whether or no she should
kiss or allow herself 10 be kissed by
any man not related to her by close
ties OF cOnsanguinity, she best displays
her wisdom by giving herself, not him,
the benefit Of the doubt and so refrain
ing from osculstiOn.
An absolutely safe list OF men whom
1t Is allowable 10 kiss might be COM
piled from the list given in the Book OF
Common Prayer OF persons whom il is
forbidden TO marry. There can be no
possible improperly IN any wOmans
being kissed by her father, grandfather,
brother, uncles, etc. whenever occa-
sion may offer. Still, public opinion Is
much less In favor Of kissing than Of
yore, and affectionate greetings are
no longer considered good form in mar
ket places or what answers for them In
the present generation.
To the prayer book may be added
cousins within the degrees forbidden In
marriage by the Roman Catholic
church, but these In moderation. The
young man cousin who Is greedy In the
matter OF kisses from his pretty cousin
Is not TO be trusted. He
Should be denied
And set aside and mortified
Kisses OF greeting or parting, Of good
night, good morning and OF cOngratu-
lation are still general. although BY no
means 50 frequent as they were for
merly. Indeed, kissing as a practice is
much less popular than 1t once was.
Between doctors and the moralists n Is
constantly falling more and more into
disfavor. while. still more fatal. Fash
lon, with a big +. sets her face a. a
nint against ali demonstrations OF feel
Ing as III bred.
All the same. the man who becomes
engaged to be married. as a usual
thing, expects kiss from his 6ances
to seal the bargain, not for publication,
SO to say, but as a guarantee of good
faith on her part II she is willing TO
promise to marry him, he reasons, she
ought TO be willing to let him kiss her
Moreover, he desires a kiss or kisses
upon general principles as something
to which he Is entitled by the unwFit-
ten law OF tradition. On the other
hand, the party OF the second part has
herself to consider in the matter. A
woman should be sure Of her own bona
nde intentions OF matrimony and dOu-
bly, sure OF those of her lover before
she sets such q sign and seal to the
contract Engagements OF marriage are
by no means irrefragible, and she who
kisses least is likely TO have least
cause for future regret. At all events
O prudent woman will wait until the
engagement is announced before she
permits any kissing. There are men
who have serious objections TO marry
ing any woman who has been engaged
to another man, for the simple reason
that they do not choose that any man
shall be able to say OF the woman
whom they take to wife that he has
kissed her as her lover. II matters lit
tie, rather more, that the kisses have
been given IN good faith to an aff1anced
husband. It's way men have.
Sir. she's yours!
You have brushed from the grape It's soft
blue;
From the rosebud you've shaken the deli
cate dew.
What you've touched you may take
A noted LADY killer OF a past gener.
alton who had been engaged many
times and who boosted to his intimates
that no woman had ever refused an Of |
fer of his hand In marriage was once |
asked why in that case he was still a |
bachelor. Because | am waiting until |
can find a woman who will not per- |
nit me TO kiss her before we are mar |
ried." he replied.
Even though a woman be fully as /
sured of the inevitableness in due time |
OF her marriage she will be wise not TO |
be too liberal of her caresses. Most |
things in this world are rated as valua- /
bic in direct proportion to their rarity. /
Were diamonds as common as pebbles /
they would be worth no more CONNER
cially than the common stones OF the |
beach and highway. Moreover, one may
have too much Of a good thing. King |
Midas story is an old one. TOO much |
water drowned the miller" 1t is a COM
mon practice with confectioners to al
low new apprentice all the candy |
which he or she can eat, certain that in |
a little while the surfeit of sweet will |
destroy all taste for sugar in any form.
1t is human nature essentially to tire
of what we have much Of and to prize
most the fruit which hangs highest
and is most difficult to obtain.
Consequently the woman who is
chary Of her favOrs, who is niggardIy
even with her caresses. will find that
her lover values them all the more, and
that his respect, as we'll as his affec-
ton, for her becomes the greater in
as he hopes rather than is
sure of her. 1t has long been a maxim
that no man shall kiss and te1; never
theless, the woman is safest by far OF
whom there is nothing which it were
better it were left untold.-Helen Old
field in Chicago Tribune.