The people's journal. (Pickens, S.C.) 1891-1903, 1903-01-08
ARP ON MATRIMONY
'le Philosopher Writes on Serious
Subject
bN1h PARTIES SECURELY BOUND
arp says r'arria&e Is the onIv PART
"erSh'p That Cannot Be Dissolved
Responsibility.

ana then the happy day is fiXed--thc
auSpirious day that is never to be for
gottcn~-a day that brings happiness or
misery and begins new life Then
comes the license the permit OF the
law which says you may marry, you
may enter into bonds. The state ap-
proves it and the law allows ii, and It
VIII cost You only dollar and IL quar-
ter Cheap isn't it? And yet ii may be
very dear. Then comes the minister
and the happy pair stand up before
him and make some solemn vows and
listen to prayer and Il bcnediction.
ana lh"y are one. In a moment the
trusting maid has lost her name and
her free will. and is tied fast to a man.
Well. he is tied fast too. so It. is Mi
right all round, reckon. but somehow
| always feel more concern about the
woman than the man. She is Il heIp-
Tess sort OF creature and takes the
most risk. for She risks her ALL
was Illuminating over this, for there
was marriage going on at our good
friend Sam Jones house. and their
pretty daughter. Laura, was changing
hcr name and her home on this the
last day OF the year ard going off to
live with man she hasn't known very
long: but l have diagnosed him from
MS face and features and am satisfied
with her choice. He Is q big hearted
gent. man, or else the signs fail
wanted to be present and give them
III! DiesSlng, but was not we'll enough
10 So-lVe got the elephantiosiS from
my toes to my knees, and can hardly
meander across the room. but | am al
ways interested in the marriages OF our
young people. 1t is the most serious
business In this life, and IL the peril OF
IL was known beforehand many OF the
| Ia ~ Il
the change. The chains Of matrimony
and not bonds Of marriage are the
right words. When men make a part
nefship they cant get along we'll il
theY art unlike in disposition, or in
moral principle or in business ways
but they can dissolve and separate at
pleasure Snd try another man. 4 man
and his wife ought to be alike in al
most everything. In some things folks
Ike their opposites-thcir counter
parts. man with blue eyes goes dis
tracted over pretty girl with hazel
eyes, did, and I'm distractey yet
when ] look into them. though i've
been doing that for flfty-four years
But in mental and emotional qualities
ana in tastes and habits and politics
ana religion they should class together
never made any mistake about my
choice OF partner for the dance Of a
life but Tve thought Of it thousand
tlmes that If Mrs. Arp had known |
loved Goldfish and got up by daybreak
every morning, she never would have
,iao me 1t was nip and tuck to get
ner, anyhow. and that would have been
thc feather to break the camel's back
wen, I'm mortal glad she didn't know
IT, though am free to say that II | had
known she slept until the second ring
ihS or the hrst bell for breakfast and
! was lond OF raw oysters. it would bavo
had dampening effect upon nv auor
ior Il lew minutes. only Il few, But J
! nave seen some mighty clever people
cat oysters raw and sleep late in the
morning. But still man and his wife
can harmonlZe and compromise a good
many OF these things. and it is beau
tilal illustration OF this to see Mrs.
arp cooking Goldfish for me and fixing
| II All mp SO nice with eggs and cream
! ana IL Is touching evidence of NV
uhdyng devotion to her to see me
wandering about the house lonely and
!"i'torh every morning FOR an hour or
/ two: and forbiddng even The cat tc
walk heavily while She Slecu; The
C"aliah business comes to me honestly
. ifom my faIhe er'S side and my mother
put mp with it like & good, considcrate
! Wllc, and VIC children grew uu with
al lo"a mat 1t was good. I've heard of
young couple who got married and
went off TO Augusta on Il tour and the
lct"f stuck his fork into a Goldfish bali
ana TOOK bite. He chokcd it down
|. ''h' nero. and when his beloved
asked him what was the matter. re-
piled: "Dont say anything about i,
Nahdy. but as sure rs YOU are hOrl,
'hcr" IS something dead in the bread =
wen. we can make compromises
"oon' all such things as habits ana
tastes. but there are some things ihai
wont compromise worth Il cent. If y
Slfi has been brought up to have q
G"od deal Of freedom. and thinks it nc
hafm TO 80 WAltZing around with
every gay. l.othari0 who loves to dance
ana AFTER she &2!S a fcllcr OF her own
wants 10 keep at it and have polluted
arms around her waist. shc had inst rs
we'll sing farewell to cOnjugal love and
5 domestic peace. for ii is against tho
: ORDER or nature for a loving husband tc
, stand it, and he oughtn't.
| ana now another busy year has gcla
gone like the water thar has nne&o;'
over the danl--2Onc never to return
| IT has carried many friends al0ng with
, u ana Icit SAD memories in !hc house
mold. bui Oh the whole t. ha; nccn y
t good year to rs all and Providence has
been kind
! Now Is the time to look back and re-
Wow the past as did old Janus, for
, "hom january was named. He was 5he
porter. the gate Keeper. OF heaven and
: had Two faccS-onC TO look back and
,hc othcr forward into the mysterious
lutl'rc. Numa POmpi!ius gave him his
name and his high office for he WAS
, next IN rover to Jupiter. He added
= TWO months to tho calendar and called
one January for Janus and the other
frbfuary Tor the mother OF Mars Until
lhch there were but eight months OF
, !"rty-slX days each. Numa added two
more. which gave them thirty-SX days
each. and January was the fourth
month and remained so for moro than
Two thousand years. April was the first
month and remained SO until two hun
drcd years ago. Why 1t was changed
/ cannot understand, for April IS much
more like the beginning of a new year
thah January. April comes from apcrio,
| TO OOpD-thp tima XUhap bo