The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1903-12-12

IF you could spend few days In
her house, observing her methods, you
would perhaps be amazed to see that
her demeanor with her servants is not
essentially different from her bearing
among her social equals.
1.-The whole secret of her success
seems to lie in the ease with which
she gains her domestics' confidence.
She looks at each one of them with
glance of sparkling kindness. and
with them her manner IS Invariably
that of serene amiability. Never, at
any time nor any place, does she raise
her voice to correct an error or issue
an order.
ITO meet insolence or incompetence
with anger or impatience, she con-
siders as unforgivable a breach of the.
code of ladyhood as to display temper
before a guest who had played her
a rude trick, or broken her most
precious bit of Dresden
Noblesse Oblige.
I'm all your domestic relations re-
member that, as the French wit said,
Our social distinctions are mere mat
tiers of breeding; the blood is the same
the world over; it is your behavior
and not your food and clothing that
proves you to be an aristocrat.
Your servants, believe me, may not
be able to quote the words OF the
keen-witted Frenchman, but they are
lust as prompt and sure, when gulded
by their own instincts, in estimating
the character and the behavior or
their mistress. In consequence or inns,
it behooves you to bear yourself with
as before the greatest in the lana.
You do not gossip with or before
them; you do not discuss your family
affairs in their presence, nor dispute
family differences in their nearing, pc
cause you must maintain your d1gni-
ty and their regard.
$50 long as you are mistress, II IS
your duty to recognize, that you owe
YOUR servants the benefit of the brlg ht-
est kind of an example, and that no
correction comes from your lips with
anything like the force of sincere au-
| thority unless you observe strlctly
| yourself the rules that you lay down. s.
| You are eager for maids whose
manner is bright, gentle and civil.
Nothing so rebounds to the good name,
! the charm and the sweet appearance
of your home as the crlsply capp Pcs
| and aproned woman who answers the
door bell, with her hair sas neat as
comb and brush can make IT,, and
! civility of bearing that gfeetss the
caller like a flash of sunshine. 3Noth-
| ing is so agreeable as to visit IN g
home where the maids step apoul
| lightly, speak in low tones and give
YOU a pleasant greeting night ane
| morning.
when, you find one such admirably
trained N oman, you can rest senrflforst
ably sure that at some time she Ell
t loved tuition at the hands OF a mis-
Z Aress who was herself low-Volceds con-
sAderate in her step, light in her toueI
on the door knob, and an seSeu lES'$s
in dress. Furthermore, she Was So
woman who followed the gracious Gus
tom of greeting her servants :nlg1
and morning, who was dainty IN mel
habits, and who, in short, was a lady:
.'NoblessH oblige was undoubtedly
her motto when she considered her@re:
lations with her servants. Before them
at all times, she was most careful tt
appear as the very criterion or mgr
| breeding and mold of the best form
Now, in all future associations Will
the humblest of hired help, let me
recommend to you exactly the same
high theories and daily practice
ut takes two, please remember, e
! make a quarrel, and If your own self
control is maintained you need never
fear the insults of the cook nor thu
impertinence Of the chambermaid. l
is quite safe to say that you will a
no time find it necessary to give thu
waitress a piece Of your mind If YOU
have succeeded in the first instance
in winning her esteem and exercising
:. upon her the spell of your individual
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