The Washington times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1902-1939, 1903-02-08


recipe as to the best way to manage
q husband!
How to manage a husband It Is
a labor Of Hercules.
Every woman who has tried it
knows that it Is much easier to man
age another husband than it is to
manage her own
The woman who essays this hus-
band-managing business very early in
life is apt to make the worst kind of
failure of the whole thing.
] am not giving away state secrets,
but the fact is, it is often just an ag-
gravated case of old maids children
and bachelors wives whom We know
are always perfect, and when telling
how to manage other women's nus
bands we do so theoretically. and let
the wives do the managing-if they
can
This fact made plain, we will give
wives and others who may find it
worth while to experiment, what we
have agreed are the best rules by
which to manage d husband. and or
which the most such successful is:
To let him think that he Is manag-
ing you.
Value of Tact.
If woman has tact enough to 90
this she has a corner on husbandry
that ought to bring peace into the
household for all the days to come
If you ask how the woman may
let the man think that she is letting
herself be managed, il is awfully
simple, only she must go about it in
the right way,
Perhaps a few hints might be ser
viceabIe TO the average novice, and
would be better explained by some
sort of illustration, as it were.
For instance. let US suppose that
woman loves the theater and her hus-
band hates it, or says he does when
he has to escort his wife
Now, the wise wife viii not betray
her own anxiety to go, but she viii
convince hubby that he wants TO go
by extoIIing the players who are to
appear in the cast, and saying that
while she cares little for such things,
she is sure he would enjoy it.
IN the ma iority of cases this plan
works splendidly, because d man
likes TO be fattered into the belief
that his wishes are paramount, and
if he thinks that if his wife cares
nothing for such things. but Is anx-
ious for his pleasure, he. VIII begin
perhaps to think that the show Is
worth seeing after all
II he happens to be overly fond Of
his club, a wife's best plan is to seem
most anxious that he should go Ask
him about ten times during dinner
If he is going down 10 the club, and
what time he will return.
Men Are Suspicious.
Now, a man is about the most sus-
picious animal ever bred. and if he
thinks that his wife wants TO get rid
of him. the chances are that ne viii
wonder what one earth she is up to,
or where she Is going, or II she ex-
poets callers. and then he viii feel
it his bcunden duty to hang around
To see who the other fellow may be.
A fellow may swear that he is never !
suspicious Of his wife, but that is all
rot. just let the least thing happen. !
or the least word be said, and two to
one he viii begin TO watch her, and
the peace of his mind Is seriously dis
turbed, Now, If q, woman is true she .
has nothing to fear through all the /
watching in the world, and viii let
hubby watch ali he wants TO. while /
she viii have the laugh in the long
run, provided she is diplomatic and
never beuays herself.
a woman who persisteutly encour- I
ages a husband TO go TO his club has /
the chance Of breaking him of the
club habit. |
The club is the refuge Of henpeCked /.
husbands. cynics Who have not for !
gotten or forgiven the jIIting by their /
best girls a few decades before. or
the men who are SO selfish that they
ind the servitude OF the club more /
TO their taste than the donesucityI
OF a home would ever be.
When al is said. perhaps the most
potent weapon IN the AmazouIau hand
when it comes 10 the question of man /
aging man Is the subtle art of fat
terry. 50 deiicateIy and daintIly admin /
{stered that q man is soothed and re-
assured without knowing why.
Flattery Aftez a Boomerang.
Flautery cIumsiIy administered is an
insult 10 the male Judgment. but the
dainty nothiugs that seem so little /
and mean so much IS the anesthetic .
against which no man is immune. A /
nan can De coaxed and cajoIed into
anything, but TO woman can make .
man love her with q club.
Lots OF mon fear q woman az they
never would or could fear anything
else. but this never did. nor ever will I
mako man love any woman. He NAV
be kind and support her rather than
provoke the scandal that another
course would undoubtedly arouse. A11-
rs for love. il is out or the question.
Husbands and wives can become TOO