The daily morning journal and courier., 1903-09-03

marriage letters have forged the links Of their lives for all time. the wife sel- dom, if ever finds her husband the help mate of promise.
 He may not altogether compel her to abandon her cherished dreams straight away, but by his coldness and indiffer- enee he will endeaveer to starve her ambition slowly but surely to death. In many instances jealousy is responsible for this attitude of the husband toward his Wife's plans. for as a rule, the ambitious woman nlarries 8 man exactly the antithesis of herself, and so having no exalted dreams of his own to convert into realities, he fails to understand hers. and decidedly ob- jeets to his wife being more import ant person than himself in the world.
 Under these circumstances the wife is naturally miserable for, at the very outset Of her welded life. she is face to face with two crossroads of choice, says the Gentlewoman. Take one, and she must fight her way unaided along the lonely read to fame, slipping, with every step she wins farther and farther away from the. man who swore in courtship days his should be the pro- tectlng arm. to. shield her in veal or woe. Her only alternative is to give up her cherished dreams. hopes and plans, and settle down to the common places of domestieity, after the fashion of commonplace wifehoo6.
 Surely. either course is passing hard, but the choice must be made for no haif-measures will meet the exigeneies of the case. Given she elects to climb upward and onward alone a very wine press of suffering is hers, indeed For all the old ideals of love are ,reft, all the plans for the new life made under the Influence of courtships's glamor aband- oned, and small wonder that despite success ill her lifewori1 the girl grows 3 hard and unfeeling woman, for all the better, higher instincts of her woman hood are stunted by the failure of her marriage. She may rush hither and thither she may present a smiling face to the lnquisitorial eyes of the world, but.the iron has gone deep into her soul, fnarring it beyond the power of human healing. & .., ~. ....
 On the other hand if she gives up her ambition the chances are that she will grow equally lard For that ambition if it be worthy the name of ambition at all, is part of herself. and it's severance from her life as painful as if it were a limb. A man does not realize this and because his wife may not rail and storm he concludes she is accepting the inevi- table and congratulates himself that he has knocked all the ambitious non serlse'' out of her. Perchance, later on, he wonders why the brilliant girl has become a careless. soured woman. and thinks his is indeed a sad lot to be blessed by the possession. of such Wica!
 And that the wife regrets her mar riage goes without saying, she has been forced to give up all that life held dear est-give it up, too, after years of striv- ing and toll, just when fame peeped with alluring radiance on the horizon of her labors. Thus the ambitious girl is undoubtedly better unWed, for the risk of not anding a husband who will genuinely share her lie work and in terests is very great, Folks may call her selfish, but knowing and sym pathizing heart will understand all that 1t means to a woman who must crush and tramole out Of the love that illu-. mined her life, or else bury out of sight e. the world the talents with which a hountiful nature endowed her above her sisters.-Boston Herald.