The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1903-08-16

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It Is doubtless q truism that tact has
accomplished quito as much as tal-
Some people may be gifted beyond tho
ordinary. educated refined and in eve e,.y
senge seem eninently qualified for success
n Ilfe whereof i they have no tact they
and blunders that viii completely block
their way to the goal OF their nmbi.
lions.
"frankness." A very different quality
| from bluntness. 81
one ca a1a5y y. e st The ohss
and one which begets confidence and
respect. Erusquencss Is another phase Of
a disa sreeablc way (which many per-
agreeable dispositions fl 4. 56
We sometimes hear the conduct OF per-
sons characterized as brutal frankness,
mems Of this Kind OF brutality Ii ana ' have
felt a disgucst for the person who in
dulged In this species Of overbearing,
heartless cruelty.
A person OF refinement an done who
has thorough knowledge Of human ma
ture, good heart, good common sense
and proper sonsidHro for The
tactfulness in ell his intercourse with,
Vanity and tact are Incompatible. One
ness OF vanity and conceit. but 1lll on
the contrary, draw others out and avail
nm OF the advantages gained by his
BY tho tact 81 those With whom ttheyy
are associated and sometimes one has
Positions BY SUCH dseate tact <. s sbsa The iho
bad tempered parties were so perfectly
disarmed that they were unaware tof
the magic influence that controlled
f a memory tina suggests the taste and
fobles OF ones friends: Is almost ne.
cesslty to tactfuncss. The want OF tact
Mrs. i. s., Grant was. without excep. +
ton the most Eueess woman haze ,,,y
she could, not possibly Indulge. In tho
little evasions that are almost universally
she had lud a bad memory about people
She never remembered the idosyncrasIes
OF people or their connection with church
i witnessed an amusing incident at ono
time WHICH General Grant enjoyed very
much at Mrs. Grants expense. We were
al breakfastlng In the EXECUTIVE Man,
f Els good onk feess e liz the ahs
Springfield. III.
One OF the guests was the hu US
er. Mrs. Grant had great aversion TO
women who spoke in public on politics or
religion.
posed to women's rights advocates. In
tho course OF the table talk something
was said about some women VINO had
occupied the platform on some public
Mrs, Grant. forgetting all a bout the gen
tlcman who sat at her right being me /
esSsea at hf ney
tleman. the wife OF the Governor tried to
smooth matters over s
Mrs. Grant did not agree with her
max BY saying women political. fpe aker5
eng women prSeac .h were a er sor!
ry for n man who, vas known as Mrs.
Somebody's husband"
z ! had whispered to General Grant. VINO
p psa eut Mrs RS Grant Mt was the husband Of
He said. let her alone; She VIII got &
Il he aseh ,t aeoe Episodes It e Mrs. raRs
pense, every ono laughed heartily anu 3
when the Governors vito explained ths
situation Mrs Grant sad e bn wo ns
: you Dr.. W, had remembered about
No 70 amount Of limiting could throw her
off the topic when she once o starred .,n 70
core opinion q the wh91e natteT fbat she
rarely criticised any, one. She had an
excuse foF every ones shortcomng;s; d hN
ia1 for her kind heart and gentleness
'oTafa W SHehII tho the power Of women es,
pocny e exercise tait y eh En- mahsg Of
often IN the same fam.
il; ii putting guests or strain ~ Ut
ill Wntn ttenton TO persons peculiar!-
las taste or want OF knowledge on any z
, iiSj under discussion. expressing con
III III yyitdual Without knowing the predilec-
ions Of all present is very tactless and
,ften leads to most unpleasant conAo-
Ip9is sapproying q second marriages, 81,
III hout knowing those with whom you
,re conyersing betrays lack Of tact that
nav prove fruitful Of serious misunder-
standings. as z. ~ s2s5
Killed Four White Men.
(special to The Times Dispatch.)
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