The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1903-08-30

Troubles Of Spinsters.
BY ELLA WHEELER wilcox.

butantes and the Discrimination OF many
wives to having their husbands pose as
platonic friends OF other women leave the
attractive spinster with limited aeYd
for the selection OF man friends and as
socates. She is when self-respect1ng
and rehned compelled to- find her COM
radeshtp with men reegated to relatives
who rarely give or inspire any senti-a
ment stronger than good will, and who
afford but occasional opportunities for
study of the sex AS IA class. A
Still another exclamation OF the single
woman's propensity to become different
from married women Of her age is the
psychological one. The Creator Intended
the sexes to mate and fill the offices for&
which nature formed Them Just as He
intended the plant to bud. flower and
bear r, fruit. The plant which fails To-
tulnll my one of these functions Is not
woman who Is never led and neVerJn
mother. cannot be q complete human be-$
ii1s There Is a certain blight upon her
position more subtly and peculiarly Clan
the most disastrous marriage could do
IS she is. as a rule, quite unc onscious of
married fiiends. II she recognizes any,
she believes tha 1t Is TO her credit, She
reels that she is more sensible. and that
and Is a finer critic. Sometimes a this
IS true. but 1t Is also unfortunate
Inc purpose of all life Is to make human
charltable-not more critical and Id fault yI
finding =, " 81 AL II - -
It Is the purpose of this essay to Get
single s Ing ! women to thinking on these lines
agreeable old ladies against tho habits
which Will prevent such a result tho
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was the alteration OF children and Of
their mothers. She seemed to be q born
entertainer Of little ones and sympath-E
etc friend Of their parents. She UNDER.
stood the Whims and needs of the young
minds and her charity was as a cloak
70 enfold thelr,faults, and her tact infinite
IN leading them from pouts to smi1es:.ih'!g
two decades, what a change was found n
She had not married End all her lntcresth
IN children had turned into criticism. She
o. grsrsr. training, was EorrIhed at he
outlA,k before I hem and manifested Moth
ing warmer than a bored Indifference i
any one Glanced TO try to call her atten-@
ant change In hsrself-a change which had
come about gradually, with the PASSING
tho springs OF love and sympathy fed In X
hor heart, Instead. Bhe had choked them
with the debris of carplng criticism and
uUEedSOIluDle ueNl1UCS lOTE ttlt| peTLcCrH
was so far from exhibiting; herself
Neatness nnd order and system are H
virtues OF the first order, yet many, q sins
gle woman turns them into rank vices by
f~r business and her strictness upon those
WHO do not possess$these ha bits, no mats
ter how great may be their other 5000
qualities. The fussy married woman is 1
not stranger to any Of us. to he sure,
but, as a rule, the wife and mother learns
to submit TO- a little, occasional disorder
while the .spipsIer Is apt to become a mon
omnnlac upon the subject without hind-
rance and without any one to tell her how
dlsagreeable virture gone to seed can
The ready condemnation OF the 1.-TWO.
lous or ndiscreet woman, the severity Of
Judgment and the Intolerance at another's
arst l nte s Who fSeI much , alone
Now, to every woman who finds herself
from design Or accident sns ss, ana paaIs
thirty %9na urge days 20 by Lei
her not lose hsr interest in children. nor
turn carpiue critic ct the youth, and maid
hsM a dsss e avs a.! y hu Sss sr g
m trIaa. NJ Ell e. her be- tolerant Of the IDEAS
Of others and keep love and sympathy h
aI1 rhsr n i. ser much n said and written by
certain conventional order OF mind about Z
the people who are kind to animals ana
diTerent to children. think such a com.
binaon Is most exceptional; kindness Is. enc ne
Indicate universal Kindness and sympathy. \
hut have sncountsrsd TWO t single, o women zen
children in an hystarlcal admiration and
a frection for fo,sr.legged creatures.
both cases an indifference almost resemnn-
ling dislike was exhibited toward ch''-
dren.
Single s Woman almost unlimited scope and
avenues for thought action , nnd t nsef1 -
drive her toward crankiness still e'!st.
and she should face the facts and nsht
That married <omen should seek 70
grow agreeable and eompano,nahSle a. tF sS
sinrie woman has no husttud or chIldreH
eondon faults Sns hsr hes euy n
,bo most exceptionai yirtues az she Ecsss
down tho hill OF life toward lonely om N