The Savannah morning news., 1903-01-11
WOMAN'S WORLD

what the fellows said" and the heart
less attitude of the old man. on the
baseball question. If woman's self-es-
TEEN occasionally leads her to talk
about herself. she soon realizes her
mistake, and much experience has
taught her that the way to make her
self agreeable to her brother is simply
to sit by and apply the corkscrew to
MIN, instead of pouring out a gurgling
flood of her own bottled up renin-
iscences, and experiences.
Another way in which man shows his
vanity to be greater than that of a
womans, is in his indestructible ability
to believe that he is always a fasci-
nator who can win any woman he
wants. 1 have known men who had
been refused by every woman they
ever courted, and yet who had not had
their faith in themselves as a heart
smasher shaken a particle They still
believed with unabated confidence that
they had only to throw the handker-
chief to have every woman around
scramble for it. No matter how old
and ugly man is. or how little he
has to offer woman, he is always
genuinely surprised when she refuses.
to marry him, and, as a matter of
fact, in matrimony it is the man who
sets all the conditions and the woman
who fulfills them. He demands that
SAAN NC PuAC dliu 6Oou, pretty anu dIIlt-
able, and she-takes what she can get
1t is, however, this happy faculty of
believing themselves irresistible at
every age from the cradle to the grave
that leads aged and wealthy gentle
men to think that the little debutante
| or the chorus girl they are espousing
| is marrying them for themselves alone,
instead of having one eye on the will.
women have no vanity in love. They
are always humble before it, wonder
ing that so fair guest has stopped
| at their door, and this suspicion often
| leads rich women to do their own
| hearts and worthy men grievous
wrong in thinking that the men who
really admire them are fortune hunt
| ers.
This popularity of the two sexes in
matters of the affection is greatly to
mans advantage, and saves him from
many pangs that women suffer. After
| man has once won a woman's heart
| he possesses his soul in peace on the
| subject, and it never occurs to him that
he could lose it. Indeed, so overween-
| ing is his vanity on the subject that
he seldom takes any trouble to keep
the treasure he has won. He is so
! dead sure that his wife cant help keep
on loving him that he frequently feels
! 1t perfectly safe to neglect her and
snub her, and fail to show her even
| the ordinary courtesies of life
On the other hand, a woman is al
ways in terror lest the love she has
won may slip away from her She
| keeps her finger on the pulse of affec-
ton and counts it's heart throbs, and
her constant query is: DO you love
me? Do you love me as much as you
| did yesterday, as much as last year.
| as much as when We were sweet
hearts," Nothing is more pathetic (be-
| cause it is such a confession of fear),
| than the classes. of middle-aged mar
| ried women we see everywhere taking
| physical culture and laioriously wad-
| ing through studies in order to keep
| young in mind and body so that they
| may not lose the love of the men, who
! never give a single thought as to
| whether they are in danger of losing
| their wives affections.
| Take it all in all, there is no doubt
| but what man is vainer than woman
| but so far from this being a weakness
| it is rather strength, for vanity is a
| cushion that pads out all the angles
| of life and saves us from the pin pricks
| of criticism. If we think well of our
! selves it ma tiers little about the opin-
/ ion, of others. Certainly no woman
! should wish man to be less vain than
| he is, for mans vanity is the harp
| of a thousand strings on which she
can play endlessly-and always get an
| encore.