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The San Francisco call., 1903-12-13

~HE first act of newborn OaDe
,s that of crying. If it does not
crv it is generally plunged into
cold water. or in some other way
made uncomfortable, that it may De
made TO cry. Those who have stuoleo
the physiology of the baby most close
Iv assert that there are very gooo rea-
sons for this method Of treatment IL
a young child cries 1t Is because 1t Is
not comfortable. II Is for this sin that
he is so often shaken, smackeo or
rocked until he is sick. II he was old
enough he might be glad to please
everybody and keep quiet and be good.
We should not forget that no young
child cries unless II has very good rea-
son for so doing.
The action Of many parents tend
to convince the thoughtful observer
that many parents think there is no
sense In child's crying at any time.
unless as a result Of very considerable
injury. Are they not wrong1 Can
every one not remember certain occa-
stons In their own experience when
good cry has greatly relieved themf
For some reason does 1t not seem to
clear the oppressive moral atmosphere,
tust as a thunder-stor purifes the
air? II for this purpose It is at all
necessary for the adult, II is certainly
many times moro important for the
young child, who Is 80 emotional, 80
susceptible to every change. II the
young child cries, 1t is likely that, as
before stated, he IL too hot or too cold,
or hungry, or uncomfortable IN some
other way. Why should any one object
to the expression of his discomfort and
displeasure? Is there any other way
he could call for assistance7 In place
Of being troubled to know how to quiet
a child, would It not be more sensible
to find the cause of discomfort?
To a certain extent. what has been
said of the young child applies to the
older child 1t should also be remem-
bered that children of certain tempera-
ments cry much easier than do those
of other temperaments. In some the
tears seem to lie very near the sur
face. They are so emotional. or so ner-
vous, that, without great effort, they
are unable to control their feelings or
repress their fear. Such should be
dealt with gently. Generally they
come by 1t so honestly that the same
popularity can be remembered as hav-
ing appeared In one Of the parents.
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her secretary. Rsne SENDS you dona-
ton It comes to you by check. There Is
none of that gracious personal associa-
ton there was with her predecessor.
The present Mrs. Astor cannot be seen
or disturbed during the morning hours;
the first Mrs. Astor was an early riser
and a very approachable woman.
THE average society woman to-day
will not rise at a seasonable hour In the
morning. Her day really begins when
the ordinary woman's day is half lived
through. Naturally the social demands
OF the hour on the society woman are
a heavy drain upon her strength ana
vitality, but then everything Is done 70
save her. Her children are brought up
on scientific principles In order to spare
her all maternal cares and duties. From
the moment Of its birth the baby Is
placed In the hands of trained nurse,
and every detail Of it's upbringing Is
worked out on scientific lines.
"A friend of mine was telling me the
other day an incident which appealed
to me most pathetically. Babies she
said. are placed IN bassinets as soon as
they are born. They must be trained
to sleep away from the mother, because
they must become accustomed to doing
without their natural nurse.
'"The weather changed suddenly one
night. when the baby she was telling
me about was only three or four days
old, and the nurse had told her In the
most matter Of fact way that she had
gone to the bassinet and found the baby
so cold she could only warm II by plac-
ing hot water bags under the covers
next to the little body. Think Of It'll In
stead of the warmth from the mother
keeping the baby's vitality in a normal
condition, the little one had to be made
comfortable by means Of hot water
bags! Is not this an outrage on ma
ture? speak of this not from personal
experience, for 1 never have been a
mother.
Though I have never been blessed
with a child of my own, the mother In
stinct Is very strong within me, and II
has been my happiness to have guided
many young girls, who have told me
they owed much to my care and affec-
ton for them. have been Miss Gould
second mother since the death OF her
own.
'Indeed. before her mothers death,
Helen Gould had learned to depend up
on me in many ways. She Is my daugn-
ter in all but blood ties. She was the
first one to welcome me to my new
home She had come down from Tarry-
town and was waiting here to receiVe
me the day 1 came here to live.
II remember the first time Helen
Gould came to me, telling me or her
great love for the Bible and her desire
to study and know 1t better. 1t was the
day of Garheld's funeral. We had re-
turned from the services. They were
Impressive, and the circumstances OF
his death had rendered them even more
so. She told me then as we sat alone
Of her great longing to know more of
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correspondents and be a medium be-
tween herself and an often obtru-
sive public; but the secretary never
material.zes.
The sentinel Of the house is young
maid. Who has answered the many rings
at the door in the old New York house.
She knows every one who has ever been
there even once, and remembers wheth-
er the presence Of the caller is agreeable
to her mistress. AS you are treated by
the maid when the door is opened to
you. so you may gauge your standing
in the friendship and esteem of the lady
Of the house
Any one at all intimate with Mrs.
Sage's home life knows that the maids
position is no sinecure and is one which
calls for great tactfulness. If the hun
dreds Of people who ring that doorbell
and ask to see Mrs. Sage during the
week were admitted indiscriminately it
would prove too great a tax upon her.
Mrs. Sage is most affable, gracious to a
fault to the many seeking interviews
and proposing wilder schemes than ever
any Wall street promoter dreamed of.
She is very fond of telling how much
more honorable in paying debt is a
woman than a man. Men have told her.
she will say, that young girls to whom
they have advanced money for the pur-
pose Of taking any particular study will
nine times out Of ten liquidate the loan
more promptly than young man to
whom money has been advanced TO help
him through college. She is very proud
OF this honorable trait in her sex.
Her dav begins usually between Z and
1880. She has an enormous mail. mostly
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BY kindness they may be trained to
have much more control over their
emotions. However. 1t is hard TO en-
tirely overcome this natural tendency,
as these children so frequently feel In
tensely.
Some children. both young and older,
cry simply for the purpose Of carrying
their point Such require entirely dlf-
ferent treatment from that already
mentioned. IL a child cries without
sufficient provocation, 1t Is likely the
fault of the improper training he has
received. 1t is entirely unnatural for
a child to yell and squeal as some chill
dren do. In some cases they have not
been treated as they should have oeen'
or they would probably respond In
milder tones. The child who cries per-
sistently and loudly, though not suffer-
ing pain. does so because his past ex-
pertence leads him to believe that he
will be successful In securing what he
wishes. II such a child should pass
under the control Of one to whom such
methods do not appeal, he would cure
himself Of his fault very quickly.
The parent who wishes to stop a
child's crying should first make sure
that the child is not suffering some
mental or physical pain. In too many
cases. the mental suffering Of child
is far greater than parents think. Hav-
ing removed the cause OF the pain,
crying should cease. If, after having
used all gentle means which can be
commended, the crying does not cease.
II may be necessary to convince the
child who cries for nothing that it Is
really unpleasant to have something
to cry for. Nothing but corporal pun
ishment will appeal to some children.
at such a time. When the child finds
that some punishment Is certain every
time he cries without having some
good reason for crying, a wonderful
transformation will be worked In nine
out of ten such children.
The child who persists in crying for
something very much desired may be
cured very easily OF such habit. If
the child is made to understand that
the parent cannot and will not give
anything for which it cries. 1t will be
found that the child Will cease crying
for what It wishes and ask for 1t as it
should.
Most children tease, more or less.
Yet there are some children who do
not tease. Why Is 1t that some tease
their parents, while others do not? OBJ
serve closely and you will notice that.
when the parent, asked for some favor,
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composed os begging letters. She has
scores Of engagements for charities and
social duties, and in between a crowd
of callers. some on business. some to
enlist cooperation in their pet fads and
many warm friends.
She is very determined. Does a cha
rity or project appeal to her she will
give you her hearty Endorsement and
financial assistance; but let it not ap-
peal to her and the rock of Gibraltar is
not more adamantine. She is strong in
her likes and dislikes, but gracious. even
to a woman for whom she has no SYM
pathy.
The encroachments of trade. the de-
molishing and remodeling of the build
ings on either side of them, forced Mr..
and Mrs. Sage to realize that the home
haIlowed by the memories of over thirty
years of an ideal married life must be
abandoned: and then came the long and
wearisome hunt for new home.
For a long time Mr.. Sage demurred,
but the quiet determination of the wife
won the day. Mrs. Sage resigned her.
self to the discomfort of remaining in
town house-hunting, later house-fur-
nishing, and the summer was devoted
to the task of pulling UP and moving
away from the house to which she had
gone as a bride.
During all this time Mr.. Sage's COM
fort was her first thought, and he at
tended to his regular business undis-
turbed by the fact that his home was
being dismantled. The new house was
all furnished and his personal effects
packed and moved. and one day not
more than two months ago.he was told:
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CRYING AND TEASING
Twelfth Talk TO Parents by VIM. J. Shearer.

hesitates momentarily and seems in
doubt as to what to DO, the child Is
apt to repeat the request II past ex-
perience has shown that frequent re-
quests will generally cause more IA
vorable answer, the repeated request
will be sure to come. Such parent
may expect to be teased for anything
a child wants
The parent who, In a kind but firm
tone, promptly either grants OF refuses
the request, Is not likely to be teased.
II. upon refusal. the request Is re-
peated. and such q parent denies with
no less kindness, but with somewhat OF
frmness, he Is not apt to be bothered
by having the request repeated ire
quently. Indeed, 1t may be said that
the parent who meets the request in
this manner, at all times. VIII never
be troubled by being teased- All must
acknowledge, then, that child teases
because II has discovered that a par
ent's decision Is not final The child
has discovered that. by persisting, he
can get the parent to grant the request,
II for no other reason than to get rid
Of him.
From what has been said. II win be
seen that parents train children to
tease by not having them understand
that they mean what they say. The
injunction for parents on this subject
is, Let not your aye mean no. nor
your no mean aye" If children could
be questioned and led to tell what they
really think about this matter. many
would testify that they fully expect
to have to tease for what they are
determined to have. They learn to cal
culate the time most favorable and
the energy which viii be needed to car
ry their points.
Who ever heard OF q child's teasing
at the table for a glass Of water. OF
for a piece OF bread, or for anything
else that was not out OF the ordinary
He expects to tease only for that which
he very we'll knows II may not be best
for him to have. 1t is the second piece
Of pie, another knife. or sled, or for
permission to sit up later than usual,
or to remain home from school, for
some insufficient reason
Many parents yield to teasing be-
cause they are tired out by the ever
lasting nagging, which is certainly un-
pleasant and racks the nerves.
Think twice before speaking may
be a good rule for children. Might not
the injunction TO think several times
before refusing or granting a chiId's re-
quest be just as good for parents?
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ON BEGGING LETTERS

- FGGING letters are a dreary
waste. sometimes of imposture,
IN sometimes Of shiftlessnesss and
O occasionally. though not often,
OF genuine need and undeserved misery,
but this province has also charming
oasis. There is the man whose father
used 10 be a verger in the church where
your father once had a pew. and had,
that is the father Of your correspond
ent, the highest respect for the COM
manding appearance and courteous
manner Of the other father that is
your fath-r, on the strength OF which
the son. who doesn't know you, and
whom you don't know, being under the
weather for the first time in his life,
through DO fault Of his own. feels sure
that you VIII lend him, by return OF
post. ICs, to be repaid by four monthly
instslnnents. There is also the man
who wss born in the town where you
once lived fve years Of your life. and
that in the days Of your childhood, who
has followed your career "a very mod
erately distinguished one) with the
highest pride. ever since those morning
days, has often thought OF writing 10
you by way Of encouragement, and even
Of coming to take you by the hand just
for the sake Of days Of Aud Lang Syne,
but has been hindered by that spirit OF
6inidence and excessive modesty which
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7 the busy mart vf finance the
Hsme Of Russell Sage is one to
conJure vi h. Here on the Pacific
Coast. avross The broad Atlantic, in
the money markets Of the world,
the aged fnancier is almost as
vel known as in the maelstrom
OF our own Wall street. The woman
VINO bears his name. who has presided
over his home and been his helpmeet
aqo companion for more than thirty
years. is but little less known.
Those who know her in her everyday
nfe-a life as simple as that led by the
humblest OF her sisters-have learned TO
love her for her sterling worth Of a
character whose strength lies in it's pur-
ity and sweetness. Those who have met
her here and there in her works OF
charity and organization have learned
20 respect her for her justice and
power. Those who have gone 10 her
FOR advice and for comfort have never
failed TO receive at the hands Of this
gracious woman words OF good cheer
and encouragement, helpful 10 many a
weary, despondent sister TO whom the
burdens and sorrows Of life seemed
more than her frail shoulders could
oaTy.
The idea that wealth brings leisure
and exemption from duties. pleasant or
otherwise. proves fallacious IN the case
q Mrs Sage Her days are filed 70
ovSrfowing. She IL her own secretary,
though often declaring that she cannot
be any longer and that she must Of ne
cessity have some one TO keep her many
papers in order, answer her numerous
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morning when received another letter.
also addressed, as regards the envelope,
to myself as the former had been. In
this letter the same writer explains the
same circumstances, but now 1t is my
wholesome and touching story of
which he has heard. and II is the SER
vice i am rendering to pure literature"
which has charmed him: then 1 knew
the former letter was not intended for
me. 1t is still book, however. that he
asks. and he concludes that IF you in
cline your ear and send me your book
1t will be to me as bread to the starving
Indian and as water to the thirsty
Arab" The peroration seemed to be
permanent. and possibly the introduc-
ton. but the middle part of the letter
was varied according to the author
whom he was approaching. And one
wonders how much this gentleman se-
cured in the course Of a year.
Should one have anything whatever
to do with literature, then he will re-
ceive, although he be neither an editor
nor a critic, a considerable number Of
letters between January and December,
containing MSS. for his reading and
judgment.
This correspondence is not without
pathos, for occasionally, though not
very often, the writer Is anxious to earn
a little money In time Of distress. but 1t
also has its perils.
The latest specimen which 1 have
added to my store Is a letter froru a
man OF whom I have heard, but whom
do not know, asking me to introduce
a man, of whom l have never heard, TO
q club, of which I am not member, to
do everything can to secure his cleo
ton, and to let him know the result as
soon as possible. The whole letter con-
veys the idea that the request Is Q, IA
vor conferred upon me. which will lay
me under a deep sense of responsibility
and eternal gratitude. The most disap-
pointing letter / ever received-al-
though my hopes had not reached the
boiling point-was one without q sigma
ture, informing me that the writer had
been so touched by the sentiment Of one
of my stories, and was generally so
much impressed by my remarkable lit
erary ability that he had placed $1,000
to my credit with a London bank as a
token of gratitude. As 1 have never
heard anything more of this generous
gift, I am driven reluctantly to the sad
conclusion that the letter was written
in a spirit OF unworthy sarcasm, and
that it's author desired to convey the
Impressions that he thought very mean
ly, both of myself and my work He
was entitled to his opinion. but 1t was
cruel to trife with the worldly hopes Of
a struggling literary man, and to lead
him into the extravaganza of a new
top coat, when the old one would have
done perfectly well for another winter.
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the evening
Yes. have been asked many times
what Is my opinion of the New York
society woman. Really, I am not pre-
pared to answer that question. She is
so essentially the outgrowth of the
enormous wealth which has sprung up
In the United States during the last
twenty five years. The society woman
of to-day Is 30 entirely different from
the society woman a score of years ago.
For instance. take the two Mrs. AS
tors The first Mrs. Astor never had a
secretary, she wrote e.l her letters her
self. even after she became bind, ard
when urged to have some one to write
them for her. she replied:
"'No: 1 will do it myself as long l
can. 1 feel that I am more In toucn
with my correspondent.
This remark was in certain sense
a key to her character She came into
personaI touch with the world around
her. When she gave me $4,000 for the
he'd she endowed in the Woman's Hos
pital she counted into my hand nVe
$1,000 bills She never used checks. MT
Astor gave her the money, and sne per-
sonally paid it out.
"The present Mrs. Astor is entirely
different. You must reach her through
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We Will dine In the new house to-
night. Everything is ready, and this
house will be closed to-day"
'Mr. Sage she said a few days ago.
'is not accustomed TO our new quarters
yet. He waits for me TO go to the table
with him, as If we were stopping at a
hotel. He acts as though he were on a
visit and were going home again. l am
sure he will gradually become accus-
toned to the change, but 1t really was
very hard for him.
THE hall Of this house is so arranged
that there is no place large enough for
our old hat stand. This really worries
him very much. For fifty years he has
been accustomed to coming home in the
evening and hanging his hat on the
same peg. In the other house the hat
stand was on the left of the door. The
hat stand here is on the right, but 1t is
not the old stand and the old peg he
misses so rarely. 1t rather upsets him
from the very moment he enters the
house on his return from business In
The daily morning journal and courier., 1903-12-21

were se4i. .6SO. .1s6. Those of essentially the same lines for the year 1922 were se07, ,547, 1926. On the same mileage basis the net earnings averaged s1sS more per miles for 1908 than for the previous year.
 The total net income of the roads in- 'cluded in this advance report was SEA- 709. .4S5. This amount includes s93, ,079,- 2S9 received as income from corporate investments and miscellaneous sources. The aggregate of the deductions from income was s643,546. 723. The principal items comprised in these deductions were interest on funded debt, rents of leased lines, permanent improvements charged to income. taxes (which were S52, ,9e0. .O04), and dividends. The result ing surplus from operations was s91. .162,- 712. The full report for 1902 showed a surplus of ss4,S55,0Ss.
 The dividends declared during the year ending June 30, 1903, by the rail- way companies for whcih returns ap- pear in the preliminary report amount ed to S159, ,S1O. .010. This sum exceeds that representing the dividends of core spending lines for 1902 by $9,5S9,7OO. It should be understood that the prelimin- ary report, being compiled from the re- turns of operating companies only, does not include any statement of the divi- dends that are declared by those sub- sidiary companies which have leased their property to others for operation. The income of these companies is al- most wholly derived from the rentals which they receive from their lessees and from which they make their own corporate expenditures, including divi- dends. The lessor companies distrib- uted as dividends among their stock holders in 1903 probably about $35, 900, 900. n SD q $! !* 6!6*!6!*!*!!i*6*66"66"a
The daily morning journal and courier., 1903-12-21
TOBACCO EXHIBIT.

Growers, Dealers and Manufacturers Asked to Contribute. -.
 Hartford, Dec. 2o.-The committee on the exhibit of Connecticut tobacco at the Louisiana Purchase exposition has issued the following circular:
 To the Tobacco Growers, Dealers and
 Manufacturers of the State:
 Connecticut is preparing to make an exhibit of it's various interests at the Louisiana Purchase exposition at St. Louis in 1904. The tobacco interest be- ing one of the largest of the state, 1t should be we'll represented, and we ask your hearty cooperation in helping to make the best exhibit possible. All are asked to contribute samples of their goods for exhibition. Each sample will be entered under it's owners name for competition The committee requests