The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1903-07-05
Mr.. RIGHT AND
Mr.. WRONG TO WE'D.

Undoubtedly the most difficult and
momentous problem in a girls life,
says the New York Herald, is when
she is called upon to decide in the
choice of a husband. How can she
tell whether the man she really loves
will always strive to make her future
life as he promised to do? Will his
love always remain sincere and strong.
and are their tastes, sympathies and
characters suited to each other? These
are all important questions which a
girl should ask herself before prom
Using her hand in marriage.
1t is said that a woman never real
ly knows man until after she has
married him, and that the majority of
unhappy marriages are due to this
fact. But if a woman cannot gain
minute knowledge of a man before
marriage, she can, by a close study
of his character, form a correct idea
as to his capabilities of making a good
husband, and it is usually those wom-
en- who neglect to do this and do not
try to discover a mans faults as well
as his virtues, previous to marriage,
who afterward complains, in the words
OF Shakespeare that Men were de-
ceivers ever"
must not allow her love to blind her
eyes. Otherwise, like hundreds of 9TH
other girls, she will marry a man with
whose character and habits she Is not
fully acquainted, and which, when dis
covered. will cause her to think that
she made a mistake in marrying for
love.
Whole-hearted affection is in a ma
jority of cases, absolutely essential to
10 ieaI 6o h,,A .
bined beforehand with practical COM
mon sense, which will enable a girl
to gain clear insight into the char
acter of the man she proposes to
marry.
Before a woman promises to be the
wife OF man it is a duty which she
owes to herself to learn everything
about him. 1t is not inquisitive or
mean, as many girls seem to imagine.
to inquire into his private life and af-
fairs. The time to find out IL your
fancy for a mans looks is Endorsed by
his life's history, and whether his hab-
its are good and his tastes congenial
is during courtship days.
Each girl should scrutinize her pros
pective husbands character as care
fully as she would a new hat or gown.
and then she should be able to decide
fairly easily as to whether he is the
llSIl man lOI utI 10 marry. But a
word of warning: Do not be too exact
ing. The perfect man has never yet
been born and you are bound to dis
cover a quantity of small faults, and
possibly number Of large ones.
Weigh them carefully against his
virtues, and see which way the bal
ance goes. Should you discover deep
rooted evil habits in your lover do
not be deceived into the belief that
he will forego them after marriage.
when he has you to look after You
can rarely reform a man after mar
riage, and, consequently. If he will not
give up such habits beforehand, do not
marry him, for he is not the proper
sort of a husband for you
If, however, after Analysing a mans
character, you find there honorable
ness. good conduct, and last, but not
least, true love. then you may be quite
sure that you have found "Mr. Right"
Do not desert your lover at once,
however, should you discover great
faults. but give him an opportunity of
overcoming them. Help him to do so,
in fact. Love can do a great deal. and
the man who in the first place might
appear to be "Mr. Wrong will prob
able prove to be "Mr. Right" A lover
who endeavors to do what is right in
the eyes Of his sweetheart furnishes
a striking proof of his love and regard
for her, and any girl would be safe
in marrying such a man."