The commonwealth. (Scotland Neck, N.C.) 1896-1929, 1903-07-30
Rbat Constitutes ~
~ Charm in Women.
fRichmcst News-Leader.)

(Richmscat News-Leader.)
TAKE bird's-eye view of your friends
L and you will find that the woman
among them who is least self-conscious
is the woman who possesses most charm.
Charm is net dependent upon youth
or age, beauty or intellect or fine
clothes. 1t is equally apparent at IL,
% or 80. 1t smiles behind freckles
quite as often as behind alabaster skin,
and peeps from a sun.bonnet as readily
as from a Vlrot hat. It frequently
fights shy OF intellectually. 1t is in
nate, yet it may be acquired to a mark
ed degree.
The girl who lacks it may grow Into
the woman who possesses 1t, Tor though
it is known by such variety OF names
as personality, magnetism, ETC., in re-
a ity it is merely the attitude of ones
mind.
The growing girl is apt to be pain
fully conscious of herself. She is con-
stantly wondering what people are
thinking OF her, and saying OF her,
with the consequence that she is tact
less and awkward.
1t her hands are beautiful, she in
vents innumerahle ways OF keeping
them before the public gaze; it they
are ugly, she seems constantly repress-
Ing desire to sit on them. II her
profile is her strong point she vii!
never favor you as a square look in
the eyes, lest you become disillusioned
with her full face. In other words,
she either flaunts her prettiness before
you or makes such awkward attempts
to conceal her homely traits that they
cry aloud for your attention.
Such self-preoccupatlon is not con-
ducive to charm. It is only when she
Is old enough to become accustomed to
herself, to acquire little confidence, a
little dignity and repose of manner
that one has a first glimpse of that
Elusive, indefnable quality.
Then all parts of her body work in
unison under the direction OF her
mind and her self-consciousness drops
from her as a garment and charm
stands self-reveaied.
It Is in those moments when a wo-
man is most Indifferent, most indie
pendent, most herself that she is most
! attractive. It is when she is doing
something and doing it well, putting
all her heart into it, instead of wearing
it on her sleeve, that she compels ad.
miration.
Mile. de Lespinasse, the most charm.
ing woman OF her time, said II am
loved because others believe and see
that they are making an effect on me
and not because of the effect make
on them"
The secret of her great success ir
social life was that she felt the mind
of others and made them shine, utter
ly forgetting herself.
She was not beautiful, and, at th,
time Of her greatest popularity, whel
she gathered all intellectual Paris abou
her in her salon, she was nearing m id
9le-age but her soul was always young
her enthusiasts fresh, and one of he
admirers says of her: II have neve
known woman who had more natura
wit, less desire to show it, and NOR
talent in showing to advantage tina
! It Others"
/ A woman is usually most attractiy
when she is alone. Directly MAJ
appears and she throws aside her wor
20 make herself attractive she loses b.
he effort.
The woman in love is always full {
charm, for she is then doing the thin
that she knows best how to do, an
! doing it With all her might.
Cultivate seli-forgetfulness and YOU
!, awkward consciousness will disappes
and leaye you that most admired OF. a
) Gods Creatures charming woman.