The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1903-07-17
WHY PLAIN GIRLS
FASCINATE MEN
BY a Man of Experience.

~ cancot understand IT," pathetically
| remarked the unengaged girl t. me short
time ago, in referring to a friend who
was known to- have had at least three
ing the man she really loved. "You could
not possibly call her pretty. with that
large mouth frecklal complexion and
fiery red hair, and yet dill the men abso-
lutely ran after ner."
But this seemingly difficult problem
was very easily explained in one word
fascination. The red-haIred. freckled
greater than beauty There was Pc
culiar charm about her which attracted
men in the same manner that magnet
attracts a needle. It was no secret
charm. however. for every girl. be she
pretty or plain. can cultivate this art Of
fascination. which will bring her scores
OF admirers and offers Of marriage sui
flcient to turn her head.
How IS 1t possible to acquire this great
power? Will probably be the query OF
the average girl reader. BY acting in
exactly the opposite manner to that
which would occur to you In the first
place. The art OF fascination is not to
be acquired by striving on every pos
sible occasion. as the majority OF girls
are In the habit Of doing. to make your
self attractive in the eyes Of the oppo-
site sex. and letting them see that they
are the most interesting item in your
life. The girl who wishes to be most
fascinating must cast aside her self
consciousness and interest herself pri-
marily in subjects other than the study
OF attracting the male sex.
The girl who. directly man appears
neglects everything else for him and
strives to make a great impression on
his mind. destroys much OF her charm
A man quickly wearles OF girl who
shows that her only diversion is him
self. in spite Of his reputation for con.
ceit. He likes the independent girl. who
shows an individuality Of her own. and
places herself on line OF equality with
himself. She fascinates him mainly on
account Of the fact that she shows he
Is not absolutely necessary to her ex-
istence, which makes him the more de-
termined that he will prove himself es
sential to her happiness.
A girl Is most interesting to man when
she does not show herself subservient to
him In any way. In fact. she becomes
most attractive when she meets him in
an aggressive, rather than a receptive
attitude Many girls lack those wonder
full things, poise and repose They are
Invariably self-conscious. and always con-
s!dering what they Will do and say In
order to appear most attractive,
As a rule, 1t Is the plain girl who shows
herself Indifferent to the attentions Of
the opposite sex, Perhaps this Is because
she thinks she is SO completely over
Swallowed by her prettier sisters that 1t
is of little use eSerting her limited powers
of attraction, She consequently takes up
the position OF Little Nils Nobody" But.
singular enough, 1t is In such moments.
when a girl is most Indifferent. most
herself and when she Is making least
effort to be SO. that she becomes most
nut this calm feeling Of indifference
must not be confounded with coldness,
haughtiness or PRIDE II you would be
Fascinating, you must take the trouble to
la thoughtful and cheerful towards 9TH
ers. A girl is not fascinating who is loud
in her talk. who discusses people and pri-
yate AFFAIRS in a loud voice in public.
who pushes rudely past others. and who
Stems to fancy that. by strongly assert
Ing her own independence, she is main
teining a rightful place In the world,
II is the girl who. talks In a quiet and
dianifled manner, who offers graceful lit
tie kindnesses, and who sacrifices her
own comfort and ease rather than lncon-
yenience anyone, who fascinates men.
She may not be beauty or brilliant
taiker' but she proves herself so charm
ING that men find 1t a delight to be with
Mar Nav York American.