The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1903-06-28

What's the natter
sOh. my sisters sister-in-law' hus-
band is very i'll: not expected 10 livel
II he dies. there'H be his wife and three
children left without any support. and
the whole family viii have 10 bunk IN
on my sisters husband. and he has as
much as he can do 10 take care OF his
own. What II become OF my poor sister
I don't know. She and / are. both u
us. nearly crazy"
But il isn't your own personal
trouble. is ~
NO. but I'm troubled 10 death on my
poor sisters account"
But IL is not even your sisters
trouble. directly. Isn't IL your sisters
sister-in-law's husband who Is iilG he
is the one who suffers"
Yes. but it's cruel and inhnman rot
to worry over your relatives troubles"
is il. indeed Can you do your rcla-
tives the slightest good by fretting
vicariously for theme Did YOU ever
see any woman al all 10 any good even
TO those she loves best by fretting and
worrying over their misfortunes
mo. I don't say ever did. But 20
say we'd he inhuman monsters II We
didn't sympathize with our own family
in their griefs'
Sympathlze with them. yes. But
what's the good OF making a dozen
persons miserable over one individuals
mishaps. Upon my word. that consti-
tutes half the trouble OF women I'm this
life. worrying over other people They
think II shows of their womanly. SYM
pathetic nature 10 ADVANTAGES. when
often IL merely shows OF a stckly santi-
ms raI lem
Troubles and misfortunes are the
outward casting of OF erroneous mental
conditions. Physicians tell US even dis
ease is many time the outcome of
wrong thoughts. Bad habits which re-
suit in disease certainly come from
wrong thought and desire Now. YOU
would not put on your relatives old.
secondhand garments and hug them
fondly TO you and wear them. would
you? Then why should you wear their
troubles. especially when YOU cannot
thereby do them a grain OF good and
only do yourself harme
The only result OF fret and worry
to a woman. even over her own
miseries. is that she grows old and
| haggard and wrinkled and upsets
her digestion and nervous system.
AS she thus Injuries her body in the
like ratio she upsets her mental poi=s
and Injuries her very power Ia help
I herself and others Is II worth while -
But there's my sisters only son
going TO the bad. Oughtnt she 20 worry
over THAR"
No. thousand times no, She has
done all she could 10 stop him Now
let him go. In his case there seems ne
other way. No mother owns her chill
dren. After reaching years OF account
ability they are as much individuals a.
she Is. They must live their owa lives.
must save their own souls She has
done her best prayerfully FOR them: now
they belong no more 20 her. but "a
themselves. They must learn the les
sons they need most from experiences
OF their own. She would be doing them
wrong n she sought 90 take a. %
troubles on herself. even II she could
In the great round up every soul must
stand for itself"
But any woman with a speck %
heart can't stop Worrying.
Don't tell me that You can stop
worrying Any woman with sp.cH
OF brains knows that she has within her
the God power 10 control her own emo
tions. every one. She knows too. shat
only evil comes from fretting and auxi-
ETY.. Therefore she casts this harmful
thought all out OF her mind and trusts
10 the good God 20 bring everything
right. after she has done the best shs
knows The Worry habit Is every whit
as injurious as the tobacco or alcohol
habit and there Is not woman Hvirs
who cannot break it on. Especially
she can stop the unpleasant habit "a
putting on secondhand troubles
JANE MOSES