Dakota farmers' leader. (Canton, S.D.) 1890-19??, 1903-11-27
dwsrfs expression.


"Our chief want in life," says Emer-
son, lis somebody who shall make us
do what we can. This is the service
Of 9 friend. With him We are easily
great There is a sublime attraction
in him to whatever virtue there is in
Us. How he filings wide open the door
Of existencel W hat questions we ask
of him! What an understanding we
have! How few words are needed!
1t is the only real society. A real
friend doubles my possibilities. adds
his strength to mine, and makes .
well.nigh irresistable force possible to
me-"
The example or encouragement Of .
friend has proved the turning point in
many life. How many dull boys and
girls have been saved from failure and
unhsppiness by discerning teachers or
friends who saw in them possibilities
that no one else could see, and Of which
they were themselves 3 unconscious!
Those who appreciate rs, who help to
build up instead Of destroying our self
confidence, double our power of accom-
plishment. In their presence We feel
s.rong and equal to almost any task
that may confront Us. II. ST. Sss"
Friendship Is no one-sided affair, but
an exchange Of soul qualities. There
can be no friendship without recipros.
ity. One can not receive all and give
nothing, and expect TO experience the
Hoy and fullness Of true companionship
Those who would make friends must
cultivate the qualities which are ad.
mired and which attract. II you are
mean, stingy. and selfish, nobody will
admire you. You must cultivate gener.
osity and large-heartedness; you must
be magnanious, and tolerant; you
must have positive qualities: for .
negative, shrinking, apologizing, round.
about man is despised. ,You must cul.
tivate courage and 'boldness: for a
coward has few friends. You must be-
lieve in yourself. If you do not, others
will not believe in you. You must look
upward. and be hopeful. CHEEKY, and
optimistic No one will be attracted to
gloomy pessimist.
The moment man feels that you
have real live interest in his welfare,
and that you do not ask about his
business, profession. book, or article
merely out of courtesy. you will get
his attention, and will interest him.
You will tie him to You just in proper
tion to the intensity and unselfshness
of your interest in him. But if you are /
selfish, and think of nothing but your
own advancement;if you are wondering |
how you can use everybody to help you /
along; if you look upon every woman
you are introduced to a. 80 much more
possible success capital; if you measure
people by the amount of business they |
can send You, or the number of clients.
patients. or readers Of your book they
can secure IOf yOa, tney WILL look upon
you in the same way.
If you have friends, don't be afraid
to express you friendship: don't be,
afraid to tell them that you admire or ,
love them. If you love anybody, why
not say 80? If you enjoy any ones
company, why not say so? 1t costs you
nothing, it may seem everything to
your friend, and to your friendship.
A lady was asked how she managed
to get along so we'll with disagreeable
people. 1T is very simple. she replied
''all do is to try to make the most of
their good qualitiesand pay no atten
tion to their disagreeable ones." No
better formula by which to win and