Evening bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1895-1912, 1903-08-08

there are enough neighbors, to say
nothing OF old maid aunts and Old
bachelor unclos. to keep the dastardly
babies from corrupting the morals of
the community.
DR.. Bridge speaks very sensibly of
the methods of bringing up" chill.
dren: of forcing them to be this and
that according to a rigid standard OF
our own. instead of watching and aid
ing the natural growth of the indiVd.
ual child up into the life and work
tnat will be Congenial. Perhaps a ma.
jority of those who have children
ought not to have them, att least to
train. These parents start out with
preconcieved notions, quote old Tes.
lament Scripture with icrvOr. and
forthwith spoil their children by too
much birching. heard a minister
who did not have any children until
he was fifty, say in the pulpit that the
quality to be desired in the parent was
"reminiscences, not giving in to soft,
fiabby. sentimental love-a weakness,
he said, due to want OF force of char.
acter. He spoke of the prodigal son
and praised the father because he did
to the dogs. II is my opinion that
there was something wrong with a
father who would let his son get so
far away from him In the first place.
He lacked sympathy. had the Scotch
temperament, or something. In the
second place, II was pride that kept
the father from sending this deluded
boy Of his an invitation to return and
be good. Had the boy been as proud
as his father (pride and not force of
character was what allied the old mani
he would never have come back. In
most cases, this high dignified. old
fashioned parental attitude practiced
by the saints and as devoid of com
nonsense as 1t could be Is what has
caused all the trouble between boys
and their fathers; between maynard
girls and their lovers. II has done
more mischief than even the theology
Of our fathers, and that Is saying a
great deal. Here and there today you
may find man who stands on this
high and mighty pedestal. In race, he
may be New Highlander; In work, q
preacher. II is not force Of character
that makes a father quick to contrive
SINE punishment for q violation oil
law, to whip a boy who has broken tn,
traces, and dared parental authority
Stern, rigid, exacting parents may be
very weak indeed. II Is the strong
Ifnrceful character that is kind consid
crate, charitable, that restraints i'm
pulse to quick retribution, holds dowI
anger, counts three before he chides
takes in all the evidence, remember,
his childhood and his adult hayward
ness, who analyses the why and where
fore of each childish act. Such a par
ent will soon discover that there is mo-
an Unborn, natural tendency to sin
that his child needs instruction NOR,
than anything else; that he Is a gooC
httle animal who is only finding him
self out, and In the process of TEN
| Ornamental disintegration he annoyi
prOpriety more than he offends II. w,
have outgrown our idea that mel
should be whipped for their offenses
and yot these offeuses are done vii
fully in adult life when the nature o
right and wrong Is fully understood
The child, in nearly every instance
does not do wrong by intent; his mo
tive Is good though mistaken; his mis-
chief, lying, naughtiness, disobedienc,
are based upon childish conviction
which needs to be got rid Of by rcas
enable methods. Whipping a chill,
Tor his act Is like treating a symptom
Instead Of the disease The root o
the evil ls left
Despite all the prophesies OF th'
wise and all the terrible wlckedness o
some poor Liable grows up to be a
Cood rs his oSacting neighbor, an,
perhaps he becomes u minister,
In Some Lessons 0f llorodity,' Or
Bridge says
zone cardinal truth We usually for
got, namely, that human being iron