Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1903-03-07
There Are Moments When Guests
Wish to be Alone.
THE POPULAR HOSTESS
She Who Finds Pleasure in Dispensing
Hospitality is Positive lnspira-
tion-Little Points.

feels her presence in the hundred and
one small comforts ana pleasures with
which She surrounds her guests.
This is particularly true Of the hostess
who enteIJains the weekend house par
ties now 50 much in vogue. These are
nothing if nce leisurely, reStfu gather
ings, and the hostess whose tendency is
TO fuss over her guests should never
untertaL house party.
she who really euteTtaiuS visitors in
the truest sense of the word, prepares for
them with infinite care, then gives them
an opportunity u enjoy the fruits OF This
preparation in peace ana comfort, She
makes her guest chamber comfortable.
but does not drop in al inoppyslune mo-
ments 10 ASA whether everything is all
right. She notes signs OF raSt!eSSuess
and has something ready . suggest b9t
she does not interrupt when all signs
point to reStfulness.
She gives her visitor to understand that
the driving i capital, the crosS-country
walks delightful, the billiard room IN
readiness but she does not drive her
poor, oIei-enrertalu@d guest from pillar
10 pos; IN endeayoTinS to perform her
seif-impoSed role Of the strenuous hostess.
The hostess who asks no questions
when YOU choose to shut yourself in your
room with nervous headache or for
some less tangible reason, and does not
thrust noSrumS or unavailable advice
1l'Oi tou' 40 q D4too1uS 10 De appreciated.
Every woman has her pet headache
remedy, and there are moments when the
most social creatures want TO be alone.
\ good summer hostess may cul
sorry Inquire III winter, and vice versa
woman who is all sparkle and viyacity
in winter may be but 4 wilted flower in
hot weather; and Il woman who is all
froth and hutter on the summer piazza
may grow heavy eyed and irritable under
the strain of the winter season 1t is
the woman of equable nerves and tenn
per, who entertains because it is a
pleasure and not duty, that makes the
best all-the-year-rOund hostess.
The hostess who invites YOU to tea in
summer and then receives you in elah-
crate toilet and a flushed face, suggests
trouble in the kitchen. The thought thar
she has had to send into town hastily
Tor refreshments, because there has been
small strike in the pantry, does not
serve as an appetizer. The woman who
sits at the head of the table turning a
polite but deaf ear to the man on either
band and keeping an anxious eye on her
one mad, IS not an ideal hostess. She
makeS her guests wish that she had
taken less pains in preparation and re-
Selved them with more genuine interest.
while the primal motive of dining is TO
secure food in the social code it has
higher status-the gathering of congenial
spirits.
AC LiVStcSS " no IeeiS II z pleasure to
entertain Is a positive inspiration. She
VINO elects to entertain as a duty had
better pause. She is starting on a thorny
path which seldom leads to social sue,
tess. Much nonsense is written about
the social life being trade profession.
Perhaps there are those who climb for
the sake of reaching the apex, nothing
more. But there are a few sensible
persons left who want to have pleasure
en- route.
The wife who receives a few of her
husbands friends with some such remark
as Just in time for rubber of whist
and rabbit" is cutting one of the links
IN that chain which binds her husband
90 his bachelor pleasures and his club
And if she knows how to concoct a rab-
bit without making a great how-de-dC
over 1t, If she is delft, smiling and grace
ful, the men will pronounce her as
charming as if she had invited them to
state dinner, and nine chances out of
ten, if they be bachelors. they will sigh
dog
1t pays TO cultivate the chatting dish
habit, If one wants to entertain simply,
easily and often. There are so many
jolly little dishes to be evolved from
Ghatlno dish that a small book devoted to
the art Is worth buying and using. Re
member always that elaboration in CON
Another trick which makes Il hostess
exceedingly popular is studying the art
of making light drinks. OF course, there
Is nothing simpler than TO send ont to
the kitchen for pitcher of lemonade. or
claret punch, when ones porch is full of
guests, but there's better method stiil,
especially II q woman would be the idol
of her men friends. Let her practice i'll
secret the mixing of a few standard
drinks, until she is as deft-whisper it
low-as the professional artist in this
line. Let her learn hJw TO stir the
Shaven ice until it cli;ks enticinEly. Let
her learn how to pour the claret in
long, sparkling stream. Let her tWirl
the shaker and the strainer like an eX-
pert. Then, with an air of assurance,
she can bid her maid bring out the in
gradients upon low wicker table, and,
in less time than it takes to tell the tale,
she win have them nj, men and women,
watching her with fascinated interest.
just a word to the woman who dis
likes smoking. Never entertain your hus
bands friends unless you have a den or
smoking room for them. Ii there is one
thing which tries a husbands soul, es-
pecially if he be Il newly-wed husband.
It Is to apologize 10 his friends for the
TACT that his wife cannot endure the
scent Of smoke. even of the best Havanas.
Protect your dainty drawing room by all
means, but have a corner. no matter how
small where your husband may take the
men after dinner or just before bedtime
for their coy chat and smoke.
New York man who recently re-
turned from . visit with prim New Eng
land relatives, tells how the men OF the
house have built a shanty, something on
the lines of u large DOLLHOUSE in which
they have installed a small oil stove, and
whittier they retire many times a day to
smoke.
The average man objects TO seeing the
women he likes and respects given over
to the cigarette habit He hates 4 yell
low stain on the finger of the woman he
loves. but he does not object to accepting
a match from those same fair fingers
and he has sincere regard for the host
ess who has an ash tray about and
matches within reach
Another hostess who can depend upon
gaming popularity is She who brings inst
the right sort Of people together-not the
matchmaking sort. however. She 80 Sc
iectS her guests that they may please one
another as we'll as herself
In the same class Is the woman who
mas coy corners that are really coy in
her home. and n plenty 81 pretty girls to
snare them with the men. 4 hostess