The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1903-05-10
The Parents
Column
BY MARION HARLAND

{ On OUR YEARS AGO 7 MAR
Tied widOwer with two
boys Cat that time they were
- II and II years old The
younger boy had made his
home with relation since his mothers
death, which occurred when he was /
years old. For family reasons his
rather thought Il best for the younger
boy TO remain where he was instead Of
coming to US at the time of our mar
rage. our oldest boy has always been
win us and is a comfort and a bless
ing to us. II he were my own boy do
not think ! could love him more. He is
not faultless. but is above the average
boy Of % years.
Three months ago the younger boy
decided to come home. As 1 am very
fond OF children (and I have had nOna
born 10 mel, / was naturally delighted
As soon as he came i began making
plans for his future. and tried hard to
make home attractive to him. but oh,
what a failure It has beent I cannot
reach his heart nor gain his confidence,
however hard I try. He viii not obey
me, although never command. but re-
quest. He Is defiant. and If try 10
show him that such an attitude Will
cause discOrG in our home, where pre-
vious to his coming was only harmony,
that there is a change; I added that that
you might know 1 have always made
it an underlined rule with myself never
to mention his conduct 10 his tathers
and as his manner toward me Is differ
ent when his father is at home his
father does not know how disturbed
and unhappy / am over this
My husband is so exceedingly good
to me that l am willing to bear the dis
comfort for his sake, If It were only
that but / want to win my boy ana
have him love me and cOnfide in me
and trust me as he would his own
mother had she been spared to him;
z-rrr, TOrr OF CTEPNFOTHER IS
rarely altogether comfortable. It looks
TO me as though your second boy had
possibly been prejudiced against you
by the talk of iIl-advised relatives You
have been very judiciOus and eXcep-
tiOnaIly tender in not complaining OF
the lad to his father. Ny own impress
sion IS that the child needs good, old-
fashioned switching. but you can neiJher
give fl to him yourself nor be the means
of getting II for him from his father.
You seem to me to be doing the best
you can under the circumstances. DO
not be discouraged. Three months y
not a very long time, and il may be that
the child will come TO his senses later
Can not his brother influence him. The
big brother often has great power over
the younger. Take the senior into your
confidence and ask him TO help YOU l eli
him you do not wish TO distress Ino
father about it. and try to keep up the
patience and wisdom you seem to nave
shown thus far I cannot believe DuC
what these will have their effect IN time
IN G. A. Is a WIFE AND MOTHER
after my own heartS and I think my
husband would say: What sensible
womanV to all her remarks, or else
'Amenr to those about teaching the
children TO take part in all the house
keeping. AS for the managing, nursing
sick children and making all home af-
fairs pleasant, he likes to do that, and.
as NJ G. A says, II IS a recreation 10
him. He lays all his business ASIDE.
only telling some pleasant incident II
anything at all5 L never ask questions
and never bother him with my petty
worries, unless L consider II best Tor
him to give a punishment or reOuke-
We are a cOngenial family. although
our eldest child is only 10 years old
mo, IL isn't easy to teach those lit
tie hands TO sew, smooth beds, put on
stockings and shoes, WASH hands clean,
ETC. and I. at first, rebelled, preferrlng
to do il myself, but gave in when
saw the wisdom Of it, for it was papa
whether it is needed or not. their
help should be required, and usefulness
taught while they are young
Some of my friends do not agree
with our home teaching Our two boys
and two girls are taught. three hours
per day, the year round, by a governess,
and music on piano and violin two or
three times per week.
They are so susceptible to influences.
good or bad. that we think It best TO
keep them at home TIL they are able
to Judge between right and wrong Is
If hest or do YOU think they will more
quickly take up the bad examples be-
cause of the novelty of it2
ITS somewhat combining to both moth
CT and children. but we have outings
and we all keep up with the times and
the grading at school
One word TO Anxious Mother It
is certainly safest and best to keep on
the little band through the second sum-
mer but the coolest way. I found with
the last one, was to drop albatrOSS vest,
flannel skirt and even little socks and
slippers. till late IN the afternoon only
using a little knit wool or wool and silk
band '(aH in one piece with straps on
shoulders and tab to fasten napkin.
and a thin lawn slip Physicians all
tell you that under the little arms and
on the chest and stomach almost all the
baby troubles originate, and if we keep
them warm there our worst troubles are
avoided Those knit bands are splendid
and you can manage nicely with only
two. rinsing one out IN your own basin
while the other is in use
I appreciate and heartily agree with
the dentists's advice as to the care Of
children'S teeth. and would like to hear
more on that subject ELSIE A"
] FEEL THAT CAN APPLY TO
you the comment you say your husband
would bestOw upon NJ. G. A. It does me
good to hear another testimony to the
excellence of husbands. and I hope the
women who are bitter against marriage
because Of the cares and trials il brings
viii DC INSTRUCTED ana GQlQeu- You
very wise 10 give yourself the trouble
Of teaching your children to help 1t is
more bother than doing the work YOUR
self. but you owe something TO them in
the way of training. and this thew will
never set If you DC not deny yourself
the relief of doing things yourself soon
er than instruct them.
When your children finally go to school
you viii probably find them further ad-
VanCed than other children of their age
] approve of home teaching but II is
not to be denied that children get some
thing in the way Of association and
companiOnship at school they do nor
get by home teaching Do not keen
them from il too late. After 4 certain
time it does a boy good to mix vvitt
his fellows. Confirm his principles while
you have him with you and he win he
able to resist temptation when with
others.
THOSE AFFLICTED WITH TOO
much uric acid in their system NAV. IfIs
myself, find Strawberries a poison f11F
tomatoes may be eaten without the least
trouble if little soda IS added after fbey-
come TO the boil This coUnteracts tho
acid taking away the metallic faSrs
they nave acquired in tin cans. and verS1
little sugar IS needed. Cabbage is soft
ened and sWeetened by the use of soda
"A find bread pudding can be made
from condensed milk Do not chOD rails
ms or put them through q grinder Crrt
them with scissors and they will Be
separate and not en- masse as in the
other way.
Ham that is too salt may be much
improved by soaking in water which