The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1903-11-07
NELLIE SANDS WEDS AGAIN.
Former Wife Of J. R. de Ia Mar Married TO
James R. HatmakM In Paris.

Paris, Nov. flames r. Hatmaker for
many years private secretary to the late
Cornelius Vanderbilt, was married Thurs
day to Nellie Virginia Sands at the Amer
lean church. The Rev f. G. Thurber off,
ciated. The only witnesses were Algernon
Blackwood and w. S. Magill.
The beautiful Nellie Sands, divorced
wife of Capt. Joseph Raphael de la Mar,
who won Monte Cristo at eighteen and
was said to have married him solely for
the magnificent wedding gown he prom
ised her. has forged her way to happiness
through a veritable sea of troubles
When, In 1892 at Narragansett Pier
where she was summering with her moth
err the widow of a well-to-do New York
druggist-the youthful beauty met Capt.
de la Mar, she was little more than a
/ child.
The charm OF her brunette tpye wa. ac-
oentIated by the curving cheek. the pout.
ing lips and the clear gaze which are
rarely seen In the mature woman. 1t was
her childishness that captivated the
world-worn captain. who. according 10
the varying stories OF his early career
had wrestled his fortune from frowning
fate.
With prosperity the captain longed for,
the things II could buy. He was a widow
er. nearing fifty. He coveted social posi-
tion and its surest inspiration--a lovely
wife.
The lovely Miss Sands. as far as social
distinction was concerned. was as little
known TO the world as the man who
woed her. She had spent her girlhood in
modest house on Lexington avenue.
A GORGEOUS WEDDING.
Their marriage at the Church of the
Heavenly Rest In May of 1898. less than a
year after they met, was gorgeous af-
they took up their residence on Madison
avenue, near Twenty eighth street. and
by lavish entertaining strove to break
down the icy barriers with which tho
-Four Hundred surround themselves
But society summed them and Mrs. DE
la Mar thought of Paris. Her husba nd
gladly agreed To move TO the French cap
ital, and presently Monte Cristo. his wife
and their little daughter were domciled
on the Blois. There beauty and wealth
accomplished what they had failed to do
In New York. Paris courted them. The
DE la Mars became the fashion,
IL was then that her elderly husba nd s
jealousy. always easily aroused. began to
manifest itself on all occasions. lie de-
Mrs. De In Mars mother. Mrs. Sands
they loitered through the Orient. They
did Egypt in regal style, and the cap
tain's bliss was complete, when he was
recalled To Paris on important business
complications, leaving his wife and her
train 10 follow.
Alone he brooded on his wife's lack OF
love for him. Chance added poignancy
to his fears that Others were nearer 10
her heart. In a desk at their home. ac-
cording To later reports, he found a. pack
ct OF letters addressed TO his wife His
suit for divorce followed.
That was In 1s9s. The captain took
his child and while he provided hand
somely for his wife. has since that ..ne
held no communication with her save
through his lawyers
Mrs De Ia Mars engagement 10 Mr..
Hatmaker was announced last June. For
many years secretary OF the late Cornell
ius Vanderbilt. Mr. Hatmaker r. an au-
thority In railroad matters and finance.
A bequest OF $4,000 was left him In Mr..
Vanderbilts will. lie has made his home
In London for tho past four years.