Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1903-12-21

Because every pair of family glasses,
rs a rule. has a different lens and a
different focus.
Put Yourself In His Place.
Just study for a moment the different
ways the country brother and the city
brother look at the matter of family
expenses. They can rarely appreciate
one another's positions. The brother
living in the country hears that his city
brother has a yearly income of $1,000.
He wants TO borrow a few hundred dol
lars to help stock the farm. The city
brother may write back that he cannot
afford to lend any money. The country
brother cannot believe that a relative
having $1,000 income could not lend
him few paltry hundred dollars. But
the city brother who receives a salary
of $1,000 may be having just as hard
a time to make ends meet as his coun-
try brother Some time ago | asked a
brother minister of large city church
how he liked his present field. well"
he said, ''of course | ought to be happy
on account of its opportunities for use
fulness; but, to tell the truth, | liked
my country field far better. and | think
had there a larger net income. My
present church gives me $1,000 year.
With it | have to live in Il fine house,
dress well and have my family dress
well. When the year rolls around |
have practically nothing. But in the
country. though had only a small sal
airy. | also had very small expenses.
Besides, | had my garden, my horse
and carriage. my COW and chickens.
had fun with them all. and at the end
of the year l was able to save $500.
tell you. the country minister thinks
| the city minister is rich, but the city
minister knows the country minister
is rich" The man in one sphere of
life can rarely appreciate the financial
| conditions of one in another sphere of
| life.
Study the misunderstanding be-
tween the professional man and his sis
| ter, who is living a quiet domestic life
Such a lady says: My brother never
answers my letters now as he used to
do. He never shows me those little
cOurtesies of love | have a right to eX-
pect. The last time | wrote him he sent
me back a very sharp reply" Yes. my
sister, perhaps that is all true. But the
reason you are angry with your broth
er is, you. as a domestic woman, can
not understand the nervous exhaustion
under which your professional brother
is struggling. Perhaps the reason he
does not answer his sisters letters as
he used to do is because he is a clergy.
man. lawyer or a newspaper man
Day after day he sits and writes and
writes and writes. The pen is always
in his hand until the very sight of ink
and paper has for him a repuIsion
Perhaps the reason the brother does
not visit the sister is because he has
been unable to take a vacation for the
last ten years. Your difficulties with
cause you cannot put yourself in his
place.
Fancied Injustices.
Oh, that this coming Christmas We
would one and all try to focus our eye:
to our brothers spectacles! Then {
great many of the family troubles
would forever vanish from our dark
ened horizon. The man who travel
about this planet with such a Christian
spirit and goes from house to house
from the palace of the rich to the hove
of the poor, from the sumptuous pr
| vate office of the merchant prince t
| the counters of the small salaried cler
| soon discovers that this world is nc
| altogether a mean world, selfiS
, | world, heartless world, but it is
| tired world. a discouraged world,
misunderstood world. If every men
Der of q family who has bitter trouble
and trials could realize that his brotl
ers and sisters along the great higl
ways of life are struggling under bu
dens quite as heavy as his own-a
though their burdens may be made u
, in different kinds of packs and hav
silken cords around them instead {
hempen rope-he would be more p:
tent in his criticism of others, as |
may hope that others will judge hil
more charitably. Most of the seemin
, insults by relatives to relatives are e
tirely unintentional. AS every ma
hopes for mercy and pardon in the da
=. of judgment so there should be forgiv
, ness for one who offends anoth
y through inadvertence and not throus
intention. The fancied injustices b
tween relatives exist for the most pa
= in the distorted imaginations of tho
:, who have no right to indulge in u
Christian and merciless judgments
h relatives who really want to be friend
Il Christmas ReconciIiatiOns.
ID? Family dissensions should cease al
@ Immediately cease. Why? Becau
5 Christmas opportunities of future fal
It lily reconciliations may be very fe'
e They may never come again. We a
,r intensely shocked at the sudden depf
V lures of our great men and wOme
II When Mrs. Emma Booth-Tucker of t
v Salvation Army was killed on Oct.
,e in a railroad accident the news W