The Topeka state journal., 1903-06-17
ADVICE AS TO MARRIAGE.
Augusta Prescott Tells Professional
Men Her Ideas.

Augusta Prescott Tells Professional
Men Her Ideas.
Some men seem to have been born
married. Some achieve marriage, get
ting, after patient courtshlp, the woman
they love. Some have marriage thrust
upon them
The professional man does not belong
to any of these classes. He must marry,
not the woman he loves. but the Wo-
man who loves him.
For the professional man, no matter
whom he marries. is welded to the girl
of his dreams. From time to time ne
dreams out new life and. then, he IS
welded all over again.
He is a man of Imagination, and no
matter what sort of a woman he mar
ries he viii still love another woman,
living or dead. real or imaginary, near
at hand or seated on the north pole
The professional man should, early in
his career begin to look for a woman
who loves him. She should admire MIN
thoroughly. His face. his figure, his
style, his ways, his income and his
manner of spending it, should all be
agreeable to her.
The professional man should reason
this way: L know 1 am very mortal
man, full of weaknesses. am unclasS-
ed for [ am not a family man, neither
am l a business man. I live by my
brains, and if my supply of brains give
out 1 have nothing.
mo, 1 cannot marry the girl love.
But can remember AEI. Will IldA ,
the girl do not love and forget her
"Off in sunny little street in sunny
little house there lives a sunny little
girl" reasons the man, who viii love
me always, no matter what [ do. This
is the girl who loves mel [ viii wed
her.
If we have bread and cheese for din
ner she will think them very fine served
UP with kisses. if the bread and cheese
! fail the kisses viii still hold out She
will not miss the bread and cheese
The professional man must select
girl who loves him under all conditions.
4 When things do not go right and ms
brow is cloudy the girl who loves him
! will hover around like dear little
angel; when they do go just right she
/ will still be lowering.
She Will sit and look at him as though
she loved him-which she does
The other girl, the capricious fasci-
nator. Will toss her head This grows
monstrous in a wife. She reads when
she ought to talk to him, and laughs
when she ought TO cry.
SO the professional man ruins his
career when he marries the girl he
! loves. He loves her and it makes him
weak He is shOrn OF his strength to
do and to dare and he sits in her gaze
trembling lest he do something she will
not like. His love makes him a slave.
The professional man is a man OF
genius. Geniuses get moody some
times and irritable at others They are
always extravagant for they see mill
lions coming and they are particular at
meals.
Unless a womansis very much in love
with man she will not stand these
and there is trouble.
There would be fewer unhappy mar
| riages if the professional man would
tear himself away from the woman he
loves. marry the woman who loves him
and settle down to business.
1t will be all the same after ten years
whether he married the girl he loved
! the girl who loved him and save
his life he can't tell which he did.
The professional man should not mar
ry the southern girl. She of all others
will not make him a good wife.
1t is very seldom that the professional
man can get the southern girl to marry
him. The southern girl loves money in
/ a sweetheart and the professional man
has not got it. He may get her by his
nice ways but within month he will
be sorry he did.
The professional man who marries a
southern girl says good-by to his pro-
fession. She viii not let him work. She
wants him by her side. He must eat
warm bread in the dining room, sip
sorbet on the piazza, drive Old Billy TO
the violet meadow, play croquet and
turn in at nine o'clock
Let the professional man marry north-
ern girl if he wants to succeed in his pro-
fession. She expects him to work early
and late she expects him to earn money
she expects him to make name Tor nm
self and for her. she expects new carpets.
new dresses and q cook She urges MN 70
climb upward and onward ana she prnN =
to him that she can spend the money es
fast as he can earn it.
The professional man with nortneI.l
wife gets very thin and very pale, very
hollow chested and very hollow eyed But
he succeeds. And this is reward enough
When not busy working he must watch
his wife For it is one of the rules of the
northern woman to f1irt just a little. The
southern woman does her flirting before
she is married. the northern woman does
it afterward. She says it adds spice and
Bnt she males a man of the professional
man and he becomes a success. His name
is known outside his county and his PIC
tnre is in all the papers. He can hold Of
flee if he wants to do so or he can earn
The rrofessional man is never happy un-
less he has something to be UNHAPPY about
never happy unless he is very unhappy
He has glad spells but he does not en-
iov them because he thinks he ought tc
worry. He has worrying spells. but he
does not enjoy them. for he thinks thinss
ought to be different.
The professional man never likes life
never likes himself never rests. never is
( eatisfed It is his penalty for being ambi
tious for ambition is the one thing that
marks the professional man 49,. ~.
And he needs a wife who can keep MIN
i'll leash He needs one who is 50 cross
that he dare not say he is worried: one
who is so happy that he dare not brood
in her presence: one who IS so critical s.
selfish so demanding. 50 extravasant ane
so hysterical that he VIII forget al ms
woes when at home in the effort TO pleas
And the northern girl will try to fill thi'
role She viii keep him jumping, but she
too has her compensations-
She will go to boarding or take in board
ers and do either with sweet smile Sh'
will go out sewing or take it in She VII
sirn nainter or blacksmith and do ii witt
/ oredit-Augusta Prescott, in Chlcag'
Chronicle.
Conclusion of an English Libel Suit
It was anticipated by most reasonable
and clear thinking people that Mr. JUS