Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1903-01-31
CULTIVATION Of CHARM.
There is no Woman Born Who is With
out Grace or Virtue Upon
Which to Build.

Let It not be thought for an instant
that charm is gift to a chosen few ana
Is withheld absolutely from all the rest
of womankind. Charm is the result of
study, of practice, of sedulous cultivation
of such natural gifts as one may have
Ihere IS 10 woman born without grace
or ylrtue on which to build. A very few
are lowered with beauty, talent or sun
ny. lovable nature. while the average
woman probably mas 10 work upon fairly
good looks, moderate wit and temper
good enough when everything goes well,
but not so nice under provocati0n.
Inc average woman, then. who would
possess those many endearing qualities
when are all summed up in the one word
cilarlh, must be willing to 20 to some
little trouble and effort to devotion them
| untll they become second nature
The two chiefly necessary aualifica-
| tons Of the charming woman are uncOn-
seriousness and unselfshness in their best
ana broadcast interpretations. She must
practice sometimes before a glass. until
she can enter ii room gracefully ana
pleasantly. sit in chair properly and
easily. stand and walk well. lake care Of
| ner feet and hands gracefully. and all
| these things and others. too. must be
| practiced until they are done i'm the best
way without thinking of them ut all or
unconsciously. Take the matter Of feet
and hands. for instance We must OBJ
serve ourselves and see that we are not
walking with Il heavy, manlile tread.
with arms swinging or elbows sticking
| out; that we are not calling attention to
| our hands by too much geSticulaton
After some study of these points we will
quite naturally avoid the awkwardness
| that once betrayed our crudeness
Then take the matter of sitting down.
| Ii1Pp chair before a
| eyes and drop into it; then open them
| and observe your everyday attitude. It
| probably will not be as most pleasing
to the sight, though it is undoubtedly
comfortable. Arrange yourself in an
easy and ladyiiKe position and practice
! ii daily until you instinctiyely assume Il
! graceful sitting position. Study, also,
| holding up your skirt without undue
ankle exposure or carrying the arms
| akimhO.
| Have an eye also for your surround
| ingS. There are rare personalities so
| strong that they seem to absorb and
| oyerShadoW all environment, but the av-
frage woman must remember that the
! frame enhances or spells the picture.
| Therefore. if you wish to make fine inn
| preston in Il mauve gown, do not
| thoughtlcsslY steer straight for the red
or blue plush sofa. If you are inclined
| to be stout, don't stand and talk all the
time with a tiny little creature, but sit
with persons to whom your size will offer
less contrast. If you are 10 longer fresh
and giriish avoid facing Il bright glare
Of light These are just Il few suggeS-
tons y little study of your own ease
will give you more which, if needed. will
greatly help and increase your appear
ance. grace and charm.
BESIDES all these outward sraccS is the
other grace OF unSelfishness. The selfish
woman. no matter how beautiful sha
may he, never has long reign. so We
must steadfastly strive to overcome the
tendency 10 talk and think about our own
selves, especially with men. Don't talk
much to Il man about yourself and your
affairs unless Tor untiD he is actually in
love with YOU: then and then only will he
care to hear YOU. Most of the lords of
creation are intensely egotiStic. and, like
0Vergrown boys. they want to be looked
after, loved and petted more or less OBJ
vlously. Therefore, the woman who
charms them is kind, sympathetic and
full of that divine maternal instincf hav
ing the element of protection which
| ma es erring man do homage ut her
shrine Men demand i'll the first of an
| acquaintance usually not more than the
| power Of Sympathetically listening to-
| them and taking an interest i'll them and
| their affairs without the least sign of
being bored. This may ho worth cult
| vatlng and may not-indivdual cases
i''7' :" i'tt' puI inc Iult must w hume
| In mind that men naturally like to do
most of the talking themselves and to be
| the center of interest
| What one says must he said ntell-
gently, wittily or kindly aS the occasion
| may be. One must he amiablc cheerful,
good-tempercd and eager to be of use to
| others and TO bestow praise whenever
| possible. One must always use tact, too,
| winch Is only Il superior form of good
nature and thoughtfulness. The woman
who is wideawake. mentally. morally and
| physically, who is ever mindful of Others
and of cXtcrnais, as well as of the cult
waited graces of mind and heart cannot
fail to fascinate and charm.-Anna Car
son in the American Queen.