Aberdeen herald. [volume] (Aberdeen, Chehalis County, W.T.) 1886-1917, 1903-04-27
Art n; MANAGING n Man.

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ancient proverb. (which can only be
managed by coaXing: kid glove, a
fire. and man." The woman, married
or single who fights for her right has
hard and bitter struggle, often to
fail at last. while she who takes them
gracefully, with a smile and sweet
thank YOU, sir, is allowed to walk on
freely, if not invited to come again
Any married woman, gifted with even
small degree Of diplomacy, may have
her own way quite as much, II not
more, than is good for her, If only she
be careful always to defer to her nomi-
nal lord and master and never to allow
any one, himself least Of all, to srs-
pect that she has been able to persuade
him that her way Is his own. The
secret Of her power lies In nutshell;
it is the power behind the throne which
never openly asserts itself.
All decent men are, as rule, good
to their wives, according to their lights;
it is the part of a clever wife to keep
those lights trimmed and burning. The
man who swears at his wife Is bully
and a coward, still he exists, and 1t Is
something in the way Of excuse for him
that he is usually husband to some
woman who nags. Even he may be
best endured by nonresistence, or at
least by getting out Of his way. The
mid power is usually the strongest
and n fortress which resists assault
MY sometimes be easily carried by
ins.dous approaches.
All men hate to be ruled; indeed,
no man will be if he knows it. The
henpecked husband of the humorist
is almost noneXistent. The woman
who Is truly mistress Of her household
never fails to set her husband upon Il
pedestal and to insist that all the house.
hold shall honor him as lord and master
thereof.
A woman's privileges are in most
cases by far more valuable than her
rights; the best way In which to in
crease those privileges Is to take them
with great show Of gratitude to the
man who confers them. Vanity, van
fly, all is vanity" and no man ever
lived who was not accessible to hattery
in some form or other. To conquer, a
woman must sometimes stoop, the more
gracefully and readily she does 30 the
better for her purpose. Gentle per-
suasion goes mile often where aggres-
siveness cannot stir foot. There are
not many things in the world outside
of matters Of conscience, pure and
simple, which are worth contention
upon woman's part, against the man
whom she loves and who loves her; and
for these few things the reward, gained
through martyrdom, comes usually in
the hereafter. Standing up for ones
rights against ones husband Is weari-
some work; 1t Is more comfortable to
relinquish them; still they may be had.
except In rare instances, by asking for
them as favor to be granted for loves
sake. Moreover, the submissive wife
may easily escape responsibility which
she does not care to assume by plead
ing her duty to her husband. Jack
likes this" or Jack objects to that"
are reasons the validity Of which no
one can question.
However perfect bit of mechanism
may be, it's bearings must be kept well
oiled or there will be friction; what
the oil can Is to the mechanical en-
gineer is tact to the wise wife. Defer
ence to her husband is the drop of oil
which keeps the wheels of the domestic
machine running smoothly; If she is
clever enough to turn those wheels in
the way in which she would have them
go, while to all intents and purposes she
is acting under his direction, so much
the better, perhaps, for all concerned.
There is much in mental suggestion.
Take it for granted that man will
do IA certain thing nine times out of
ten h does II. The tactful person drops
suggestions and leaves them to take
root and bear fruit. just as the husband
man sows his seed upon fertile ground.