The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1903-09-20

confidence. Even an evasion would have
been decisive: it would have been equiva-
lent to yes" The question called for
single yes or no, and the true, but fateful,
answer was Yes" / answered mo" and
did not regret it. You think such dilemma
impossible? Well, / can't prove myself right
without betraying the secret. AS for the
third kind of a necessary lie, it is only the
kind we all think it right TO tell to SER
iously Ill or demented person, and we know
that some extend its scope TO totally unreal
sonable persons. Not being professional
casuist, L will not go into that at all.
We were talking about insincere compli-
ments. Bless you, my dear, women don't
want insincere compliments except an
occasional votive Offering, like Sir Walter
Raleighs cloak to make the path little
smoother. To begin with they are not worth
the breath it takes to utter them. Every
woman sees through them unless she's pur-
blind with vanity. Compliments in these
laughable than otherwise. And yet you are
perfectly right in thinking that women
want to hear pleasant things about them
selves. They do.
If you think anything pleasant about
woman and don't tell her so you needn't be
surprised If she gives you the go-by. If you
know woman for long time, be she wife,
mother, sweetheart, sister, friend or maiden
aunt, and never say a nice thing to her
about herself, she'll cry over it in secret,
and she'll act to you in some way that
you'll call capricious, or, If she's too proud
to complain, she'll drop you. If she's mar
ried to you and can't help herself she'll
suffer from chronic encouragement, which
is bad for both of you No; you can't afford
to abstain from ''insincere compliments
but If you never give her a sincere one you
will lose her love- her faith, which is
worse You must take the trouble to think
up something pleasant that's true, that
you really believe to be true and come
right out with it. It's better in the end
far better than letting her worry you by
saying that you no longer care for her, and
trying to appease her by saying that 'ac-
tions speak louder than words" and you
''think she might trust you after all this
ton is better than cure Try my method on
the girl you like best, and on all the other
women that you like at all Gncluding me, of
course), if you care to be popular Such is
the nature of wOmankind. 1t only means
that we are easily discouraged, and rather
fond of little mild petting.
And now I'll tell you another secret,
equally important. If you were woman,
and i were telling you what know about
men, 1 would say Get me refer back two or
three sheets)-I would say IF you think
anything pleasant about a man and don't
tell him so you needn't be surprised If he
gives you the go-by.' "You must think up
something pleasant that's true, or that you
believe to be true, and''-(no; "come right
out with it, won't do here) bring it out del
icately, and administer it bit by bit, with an
lair degagee." Try this method on the men
you know. Yes, truly! / have known men
to complain to me that certain men friends
of theirs didn't care for them because they
never said so! Men really worry over each
other a great deal at times You know
that; you're rather favorite yourself.