The Washington times., 1903-07-19
Fl nDatron's Aovtce to a Uoung
Girl Hbout to Enter Society

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ing her. The experience is 50 novel. so
fascinating, that older heads have been
turned by its Establishments. and the
man who is the first to tell her that
he loves her is apt to remain a hero In
her eyes as long as she lives provided
he never forfeits her respect. Yet
there are many heroes OF girls salad
days to whom she reverts with a pray
er Of thanksgiving for her escape.
In the very verdant period a girl Of
ten boasts that she does not care what
people think of her. and affects an in
dependence fatal to popularity. No
woman can afford to carry this spirit
OF independence too far. It is sure TO
sound the kneu of popularity. which
may also mean ostracism
girls first aim should be TO culti-
vac a suave, gracious manner which
may at times defy even age itself to
Deggar her' OF charm Remember, that
1t is the woman folk who give the
teas and entertainments in the winter.
and IL you inczir the ill-wilI OF a woman
of social prominence in your set she can
ruin you among them She can noise IL
about that you are iII-bred. and II
such criticism gains currency you are
doomed.
Avoid dark corners at summer hotals
1t may be mighty sweet TO sit in the
cleaning way on in some secluded spot
or some sequestered nook. but the girl
having a penchant for dark corners ana
moonlight sails lays herself open to Cos
sip, which she cannot afford. and which
even when unmerited may initiate
against her for years to follow.
The girl who fingers IN the open. who
has a smile for everyone. who waves a
laughing good-by to friends, leaves a
pleasing impression on their minds that
is apt to stay.
So many young people encourage TIA
| idea that they must show their likes
and dislikes despite all other consider
atoms. Mothers of debutantes are fear
fully mortified by girls bIuntness. who
does not care what she says. and has
not had the experience which teaches
that Dohteness rules the world rather
than bluntness.
The too free expression of opinion q
one OF the most fatal mistakes OF the
newly hedged society girl, who is prone
to indulge her likes and dislikes ana
thus finds herself at times unpIeasantIv
misunderstood
The girl who is natural. IL her hear.
/ is Of the right stuff, is always lovabIe
She treats everyone with courtesy and
consideration; the royal stamp of good
breeding Cheap wit, indicate sar-
casms, and criticisms that are rude and
cruel are sorry passports to favor.
Cultivate adaptability. To be able 10
fit into any groove that time or cir
cumstance may warrant. 10 enter into
the spirit of any diversion proposed.
these are the charms that help a girl
magnetic the friends she meets on
every side.
girl has 1t within herself to define
pretty clearly her own social orbit.
/ She can make herself adorable or de-
piorable. She can be sweet and low
able, or pert and hateful She can be
companionable for man or beast, child
or woman. anything ranging from eight
to eighty. or she can be so disagreeabIe
as to be intolerable. II she is wealthy
she can make herself so charming that
people will forgive her because IT really
is not her fault. she cannot help fl, and
II she is poor. she can cultivate some
talent or accomplishment that viii make
/ her sought after
But, OF course. girls, no matter how
much advice is fred at you. you will do
precisely as your mothers did before
you. fall In love any old way But go
easy-don't plunge or tumble. Just 20
easy and fall as easy as possible. for,
despite your care. you may wake up
with an awful thump.