The Savannah morning news., 1903-10-11
THE TIME TO MARRY.

There are times in every womans
life, according to the Baltimore Sun,
when she will marry anybody that
comes along. These times are when
she is II and 81. Between these ages
she is discriminative, and after the sec
ond of the two she is apathetic. To
the girl of II, it is said, the idea that
she makes a real live mans heart go
pit-a-pat is so ecstatic that in graft
tude for the distinction of a passion
ate proposal she easily fancies she is In
love. She thinks her refusal to marry
Augustus will break his heart and send
him to an early grave. So she WEEDS
him out of generous pity in order not
to wreck his life. She says Eyes" and
learns afterward that Augustus heart
is tough and had survived numerous
prior desperate attachments. At IL IT
is any man-any individual sufficient
ly inoffensive to allow her to nourish
unchecked the illusions which her self
love cherishes. For at this age man Is
only the occasion, not the object of her
affections He is only a dummy; 1t is
she who occupies the whole stage with
her swiftly varying fancies and ca
prices.
At 10 she has evolved an ideal. 1t is
not longer any man, but a particular
mana man, tall. dark, passionate look
ing, with a Byronic air One at war
with his kind and of abnormal opinions
is the type. He may be pessmistic
and melancholy. His merit is that he
finds in her the beauty, purity and In
nocence that restore his faith in hui
manity and make happiness again a ra-
tional hope. A year later she is still
romantic but experience begins to
friA CtiCal. The
spectacular beau of striking physical
aspect is refined into the strong, earn
est man. who looks at things in LOFTY,
high minded way and has fad. Her
idol may be matinee hero, an unap-
preciated genius, social settlement
worker of a long-haired poet. 1t is
time of danger. She may accept the
illogical student or elope with her music
teacher Such is her missionary spirit
that she is capable OF marrying a
drunkard to reform him. With " there
is less risk OF such unpromising ven
lures. She begins to enjoy life in It's
, operative aspects, without exclusive
reference to her subjective meditatlons
Matrimony, like heaven, is a cherlsneo
aspiration, but social incidents have be-
come interesting. She sees farther than
before into the drama of life as others
play it and it entertains her. Many
tepid admirers, she thinks, are better
than one who is fiery. In snort, Sne 10
having a good time and is averse to ex-
changing the gayeties OF life Ior NUM- UNI
drum husband. If she marries at this
age she is likely to make discreet
choice. -.
At o. however comes period OF
panic, and, as ten years before, the
| danger is great. 1t is seen that her con-
temporaries have nearly all married.
The girls who were her scnooiIhales are
settled nnatrons and boast the virtues
of their children. She accordingly be-
| gins to feel lonesome. The younger
set put her aside or ask her to chaper-
on their parties. Perhaps gray mar
| awful sight!-malxes it's appearance rs
| she an old maid? The idea anrlgnSs
wildly taking the first man that Of
fers. Foolish matches belong to TINS
neriod-the superannuated beau or the
widower with ten children.