The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1903-01-10

ming her In this particular case the
girl wasn't sure the man was worth an
effort but she thought shed make 1t
anyway. For some time e was W1rnou-
effect which urged her on and by the
time he was able to sit I'D and take
notice her interest and affection were
seriously involved. OF course it all hap
pened fortunately as TO time and Cir
cumstances. They met at the exact
psychological moment and under the ex-
act conditions to make happy ending
possible. He was already beginning to
recover from the effects of the affair
of the result If they had met a month
or SO earlier or later. In the former
case he would have SPOILED everything
by making her his eonfldante and
pouring out the unlucky tale of his
woes. OF course in that case she would
never have fallen in love with him. a
woman is rather interested in that sort
of thing from a man and sometimes she
is f1attered but it is ruinous to the posi-
bilities of a romance between them. she
likes herself in the role of confessor and
CONSIDER but, although she Is quite ready
to assure him that the other girl wasn't
half good enough for him, she has
secret contempt for a man who will let
a mere woman bowl him over like that.
A woman likes above all else the self
reliant masterful man. If she learns
that he is afraid of some other woman
land when a man is in love with girl
who doesn't love him he is always
afraid of her] she knows he would be
afraid of her, too and no woman could
love a man If she suspected that
"Well, and what if they had met a lit
tie later" asked the Patient Man as the
Oracle paused for breath
II he had met her a month later"
pronounced the Oracle solemnly, he
would have done just as she expected
him to do-fallen a ready victim to her
charming Wiles and been laughed at
He had already sufficiently recovered
from the previous affair so that he
wasn't stopping the policemen to tel
them about it. and when a mans pride
begins to assert itself to that extent It
is the beginning Of the end. A few
months later his heart could have been
caught on the rebound by the nrst Wc-
man that crossed his path, and likely
enough she would have scorned him.
Men and women are like that You
may say what you please, they want
most Of all what they can't have o.
what they aren't sure of. 1t was mighty
lucky for him that he met that girl just
when he did,
so he doesn't owe it quite all to
you suggested the Patient Man Time
and chance and the usual laws of attrac-
ton had something to do with it,
7 acknowledged replied the Oracle
with dignity, that there were certain
fortunate fOrtuitOuS circumstances
which contributed to the beatific result,
but the prime influence in the Whole
affair was the invisible presence of Some
One Else. If he hadn't been making ii
fool OF himself over Some One Else he
would have made fool Of himself over
her, and she would have had him dashed
to the mast with the cold salt spray
dashing over his helpless form. I stand
by my original contention, and ] say
that a man is an ungrateful brute who
viii meet with a scoWl the one to whom
he owes his greatest happiness. Imagine
the things he'll say to his wife about me.
If M name is ever preached between
them! Talk about a hammer fest! 1
can just hear him. I'd hate to have All
ugly, resentful disposition like that Not
that you can expect anything else frosa
a man They're hard losers in an affair
of that kinda You may say what you
please about a woman, but her be-
havtor under such circumstances com
pares most favorably with mans. She
may not be much IN a poker game, but
/ she shows the spirit Of a thoroughbred
when she gets the worst of it in a love
AFFAIR"
20. I don't know began the Patient
Man. But he got no farther.
You don't know" interrupted the
! Oracle why of course you know.
Stop to think of any Tilted man You
ever knew. Didn't he make perfectly
Z abject idiot Of himself? A woman takes
/ her medicine and says nothing in a case
like that. She may not like it but if the
worm + the bud gets in its fatal work
she's resolved to at least die game, as
+ Shakespeare says A Woman's pride VIII
keep her from making a fuss. She'll
meet the man pleasantly and graciously
and, the hurt over, bear him no i'll Will.
She knows that it's probably nObody's
I Iaulr more than auOther'S. He was no
more to blame because he couldn't love
her than she was because she couldn
help loving him A<woman's attitude
under such circumstances shows some
of that fine sportsmans spirit displayed
j by Billy Brue' in The Spenders.' Have
you read ft2 WelK Billy Brue' is in 9
seven-up game with a card shark and
during the progress of the game. just
after his partner has dealt, a friend
calls Billy to one side and tells him
that the partner just turned a jack
from the bottom Well, says Billy
/ looking at his friend reproachfully, it
/ was his deal, wasn't it2' The philosophy
a woman calls to her aid in a case such
as we're discussing is somewhat the
same. She argues that it was the mans
deal OF course # it's her first affair
/ it goes awfully hard with her because
she's had no experience to tell her that,
at the worst, it's only a question OF
/ time. I'm no rabid partisan of my sex,
as you know, but I must say that in
4 this one particular I've reason to be
proud of it. While the humiliation of
/ such a situation is twice as hard for a
woman as for a man she will endure
/ punishment without fiinching that
would put a man out of the business.
You've heard me talk about Betty
Brown who was my roomy at ST. Cath
arine's2 She mad desperate case in
nef JUNIOR year Win fflQley, SOpnO~
more at Cornell. It went on beautifully
for term, as college cases usually do
but just before the Christmas holidays
the second year of the affair they had
a misunderstanding and everything was
of. They were both aWfully cut up
about it but each thought the other in
different. And I wish you could have
compared the behavior of those two
children! Betty was three years young
er than F'rid and not nearly as expert
enced In fact it was her first case and
he had survived a half dozen. But
Frid went about believing like a calf
to every one he met about the way he
had been treated and how he didn't
care, and Badger, who was his room
mate, told me he sat up half the night
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