The Barre daily times. (Barre, Vt.) 1897-1959, 1903-09-21
The First Requisite
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We're married, one year spent In brief
periods of happiness interspersed with
periods Of misery He had found mar
rtage q failure and must make the best
Of it. He resumed his place at his
clubs This is mans advantage. If he
does not find eompanionship at home.
he can get II abroad
It xas not so with the wife. She
could not thus eoolly make up her mind
that there had been mistake and
partly resume her former life Of indie
pendence. Instead of gathering about
her her former friends, practically
avoiding any serious pitfall, she listen
ed to the first man who chose to whis-
per soft word in her ear, and he, be-
ing encouraged. poured forth a torrent
This in measure supplied what she
had lost. II was like being widowed
and exchanging hearts anew.
1t was the anniversary Of their we'd
ding, but the husband had forgotten il.
When the wife discovered that this
| first anniversary, which a year before
she supposed would be passed in a
more intense cooling than before, was
absolutely aforementioned by her hus-
| band she gave way to irritation.
Nothing that ne said pleased her, ev-
| erything displeased her. 'This is one
Of her moods" he said to himself. Il
don't understand them, and / don't
want to understand them. know
place where can get. quiet and COM
fort, a place where no woman may en-
ter my club. There I win 60" When
/ he returned at II o'clock at night, the
new source from which his wife had
begun to draw the sympathy she could
not live without was sitting in his par
lcr. The husband. entering suddenly,
caught a look that was passing be-
| tween the two and believed that his
place was supplied.
A philosophie nature led him to think
out a plan and follow tia plan that
would do the least harm, give him and
his wife the least trouble. II shall be
no dog in the manger,'" he said If
she prefers this man, she shall have all
she wants of him. / win 60 abroad
and live But that my affairs shall not
become common talk / must have an
osfensible object in going / win ap-
ply for some petty consulship in a
place where no American would care
to live; then / viii live elsewhere and
pay a deputy" After he had given
himself plenty Of time to form an ir-
reyocable resolution he went to an
nounce 1t to his wife.
We are creatures Of happenings. We
mark out a course, take a week, a
month, perhaps year to digest It, then
when we are ready to put 1t into execu-
ton circumstantial zephyr blows 1t
away. When the husband was about
to communicate his plan to his wife,
She forestalled the announcement by
one Of her own. The germ of a new
life had come into the universe.
| III a twinkling the mans mind, in
tentions, affections were diverted into
a new channel He was enough of a
Psychologist 20 know that the mother
must have the best of care, both for
her own sake and for the sake Of her
and his child. lie was chained to a
necessity. He would bear with her
every fault, her irritability, her pee
yishness, her unreasonableness-ey
thing. 1t would be time when this sea
son was over to carry out his plan Of
living abroad or form another. He be
gan by putting his arms around his
wife affectionately. She yielded 70 his
caress. While they were standing ST.
lent in each others arms a servant
raped at the door and announced the
man who had been called in for sym
patty. The wife expressed annoyance.
4sTeH him that am not at home"
Then the husband made a discovery.
Controlling himself, bearing with those
| faults which had shattered his ideal
% married life. giving his wife occa-
| Eional expressions of affection which
meant nothing. but which were a part
OF his plan. he soon found that there
were no Objectionable traits 70 bear
with. or, rather. that they had lost
| their virulence. His wife often ap-
| peared to him more unreasonable than
ever, but the defect was atoned for by
7 expressions Of affection for him which,
unlike his own. were sincere. The pain
he had suffered from an uncongenial
mate was changed for one Of anxiety
softened BY mutual Affection mutual
interest in an expected pleasure. And
now that this delightful sympathy was
restored he began to dread lest he
should lose her This redoubled his
attentions. his sympathy, his demon
s3ratlons OF foye and these quadrupled
the return.
One day after hours Of physical az
ony to the wife and mental agony to
the husband in twinkling the sun
shone through raindrops, smiles broke
through tears. There were not only
two lovers, but three. King Baby set
up his throne in the household and
ruled, an autocrat. 1t was what VIII
your majesty please to wear? And
what will your majesty please to eatf
And when will your majesty please to
sleep7 And. most Of ALL when VIII
your majesty permit others to sleepF
Then the husband made a second dis
covery The first was that marital af-
lection could only be gained by his
sacrifice to the wife; the second was
that the sacrifice Of both to the child
was imperative. This submission OF
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