The Washington times., 1903-02-01
Right vs.. Privilege.

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Right vs.. Privilege.
A woman who can go to her various
tradesmen and crafty the whim Of
the passing hour, who has a lovely
home and her modicum Of pin money,
too often regards It rather as a right
than as a blessed privilege. She not
only fails to appreciate il, but she
fails to make the home happy that,
owing to her husbands Hberality,
should leave him entitled to all the
good that love and conpanionship can
throw about him: and yet many such
women by continuous fault-dnding
and a system Of pin-pricking nagging
make the home d torture chamber that
man gladly avoids, even when his
heart is most hungry for its peace and
comfort.
The Unappreciative.
Women who have never known =
care are often the most exacting and
least appreciative: never having had
to practice self-sacriffce, they know
nothing of the bitterness entailed. But
should such woman find herself
robbed of that support by death, finan-
cial losses or kindred visitation, she
would soon realize the worth Of the
blessings that she failed TO appreciate
y hen enjoying them. I am convinced
thar the great secret of happiness in
married life is rather a prolonged
siege of Iattery, which the wife adj
ministers tactfuIly and in judiciously
proportioned doses
a man likes 10 consider himself tho
one and only 'it7 in the estimation
of the woman he loves. he likes to
be hattered into the belief that moth
ing or nobody ever existed who can
be compared to him. according TO his
own ideas
He Seeks It Elsewhere.
when a wife fails to accord him
this homage he viii seek it elsewhere,
and by giving his confidence TO the
woman friend TO whom he unburdens
his soul he runs the risk Of learning
to make comparisons between the
wife of his bosom and the woman
whom he thinks appreciates and cares
for him. and then it is that a man
is in his greatest danger. and in pro
portion as the other woman sympa-
thizes, in like proportion viii he lose
his gregard for the woman who fails
in this respect.
It is the appreciation Of every tri-
fling attention, of every thoughtful
present, Of every kindly regret when
perhaps "a man cannot do exactly as
he would wish, that wins him and
holds his regard.
Mans Best Compliment.
It is no small compliment to a
woman when a man seeks her, offer
ing his love. and with that love the
protection Of his name and the guar
antee Of d home free from care. The
right kind OF man wants his wife
wholly dependent upon him, and hav-
ing paid her the compliment Of ask
ing her to take himself and all that it
implies, he expects return OF al
lection and appreciation of what he is
willing to give, as far as his means
viii allow.
II is the want of appreciation that
sends the first cloud scurrying
through the heaven Of matrimony
and obscuring the brilliant honey
moon. and it is safe 10 say that the
man who spends all his time in his
home. who Iavishes his love on his
wife. is the man who has married
/ the woman who appreciates him, and
/ in nine times out of ten she can
/ thank herself that through this APP
/ probation she IS able to retain her
hold on his tickle fancies-
Pardon. gentlemen. now you know
rs well as /. that u man can't neIp
! being tickle and the only way 10
avoid il is for the wife to be so
/ charming as TO make him forget that
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