The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1903-09-20

and he doesn't bother himself to be
forever taking the temperature of her
affections. A woman, on the other
hand. sits with her fingers so to speak,
on the pulse of her husbands love, and
if it slows down a single beat, she
throws fit. "Ha," she cries to herself,
Just as l expected; he has ceased to
love me-" and forthwith she begins tor
turing herself wondering who the other
woman is and imagining a million Of
lenses of which the poor man, who has
simply been worried about business, or
had a case of indigestion, is entirely in
nocent.
1t is probably too much to hope that
family life could ever be conducted on
a common sense basis, yet it would
usher in the millennium if men and
women could be brought to look at
matrimony as partnership into which
they were entering with another faulty
human being instead of a rhapsody in
paradise that they were going to enjoy
with a pin-feathered angel. If, before
she marries a girl would come out of
her trance long enough to get a line
on what makes a happy home, she
would see that it is a clean hearth,
Widespread table, quiet place in
which a man can come home and rest
and be soothed and gather up this
strength for the next days struggle
with the world. No woman who can
assure that to her husband is going to
need to bother about the recipes for
keeping a man at home, or have 10
study ways to keep him fascinated.
She has simply got the matter cinched.
1t is not the women who are home
makers whose husbands are hunting
barroom comforts and opening bottles
for lady friends after the play This
Is plain, common sense remedy for
common i'll but it finds scant favor
favor among the majority of women,
who prefer romantic and poetic theo-
ries to hard work and self-denial, and
who would rather try to fascinate their
husbands by occult means than to get
up a good dinner for him.
Among the sad sights that we see
daily is the estrangement between
parents and children and this is near
ly always because the parents refuse
to use a little common sense in dealing
with the youngsters. The parents shut
their eyes to the fact that their chill
dren are grown, and that they have
tastes and ideals different from their
own. Above. all, they cannot bring
themselves to accord to their children
the right to marry as they please, and
many a tender family tie is broken be-
cause the father and mother refuse to
look at the subject from the just and
rational standpoint that the person
who is going to marry is the chief per-
son to be pleased and that tastes and
needs in the matter of husbands and
wives differ
A great deal of unnecessary trouble
also arises from a womans inability to
accept the inevitable with common
sense. What has happened has hap
eli
tons in the world won't change it
Neither does one gain anything by
kicking against the pricks. The logical
thing is to accept an unpleasantness
and make the best of the bad bargain,
but this homely philosophy is not for
women. Take the woman who has lost
her property. She goes through the
world bewailing her misfortune and
telling her woes to every passer-by,
and expecting to receive some sort of
especial consideration on account of her
misfortune. If she attempts to support
herself she thinks you should be will
ing to pay more for her paper flowers,
or dauby painting because she wasn't
raised to work. If she keeps boarders
she thinks that the fact that she has
seen better days should excuse the cof-
fee being slop and the beds adaman-
tine, and it really never seems to occur
to her once that if she would forget the
past, and hush the complaints that
will not bring back her vanished dol
lars that she might be a happier, and
assuredly a more successful woman.
This lack of common sense in every
day matters is the working woman's
greatest drawbacks. 1t handicaps her
at every turn and is the source of the
prejudice that men hold against women
in the working world. 1t is undeniable
that women who work generally do it
under protest and with a sublime dis
regard of business principles. They
take matters as personal that are
merely general and just so long as a
man has to apologize to his lady clerks
for calling their attention to mistakes,
just so long as women expect to be
treated on a ballroom platform in a
contingencies, just so long will men
draw better pay for the same work.
The present era has seen the broad
ening and enlightening of women in
many ways. If it teaches them to
throw away the petty superstitions and
prejudices with which they have cloth
ed so many subjects and look at them
from the common-sense platform it will
have done much for humanity. In the
story the Prince bore with him magic
talisman before which difficulties fadei
away into the morning mist. The
modern equivalent for this gift of the
gods is common sense, and the woman
who turns that on the difficulties that
perpleX her will find that, like the
Arab they fold their tent and silently
steel aWay