The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1903-03-15

the waist and the napkin. In sumner IL
- valuable safeguard against sudden
EMIL and by keeping 10 a very sflgbr
Iilcuon prevents the "Iooseness" which
Is OFTEN a precursor Of summer COM
plant"
| SCARCELY know how to address
l letter 10 an abstract CORE
spondent, but ] feel that pars
OUT OF my experience may be OF assist
ance 20 M. J. D." /. too. have five chill
uIen' ana a few years ago 1 might have
made the same lament. but can truth
Illy say that 1 have succeeded in bet
tering conditions.
wonder If M J. D.. in the egotlsm
OF young motherhood. did not assume
burdens voluntarily which should have
been shared with the husband from tbs
ist! II you want a husband who is
keehly appreciauve OF his home YOU
should marry a man who has been home
less for a while. One who stems from o,s
good home 10 another is ant IN take
Things as matter Of course. Nv bus-
band has an unseIdsh mother who
brought up her two sons 10 expect a
number Of little services that they
should have learned 10 perform for
themselves, l soon found out thar [
could not care for my home and my chill
dTen and perform those duties. so be-
tween important things and those 1 sim.
ply dropped them from my list. OF
course. there was some indignation and
q ID fFff -f Er-e D
be very glad to look after his clothes il
he would wash the dishes and tend the
babies. / managed TO keep my temper
and the affair adjusted itself Still until
/ was threatened with nervous urostra-
ton, shouldered the whole care Of the
chlldFen and plumed myself upon doing
Nirtuous act. Then when / had virtu-
ally shut him out OF all that tender care
OF helpless children which would have
been such a developing force in his char
acter. / felt injured 10 think he was so
helpless with them. But l had to leave
them TO him while 1 got rested I'D a
little. and when / returned I found We
had both learned a lesson. ! learned
that was not so necessary a part Of
the household as i had supposed. and he
learned TO get close TO his children and
they had learned 10 call on papa" for
things: and l am glad 10 say 1 had
sense enough to let them continue to de-
pend upon him. I've often stayed ia bed
by sheer force Of viii while he wrestIed
with a croupy baby but he has been
just as successful a nurse as myself.
He does not see things 10 be done. but 1
am no longer shy about telling him. 1
tell him frankly that want 70 get out
a little and he stays with the children,
and lest he should get out Of practice. 1
often go when / had much rather stay
az home
Then 1 wonder If M J. D." has tried
bringing her housekeeping down 70 its
simplest form.
cut of desserts except for Sundays
and especial occasions. They are much
more appreciated now than when they
came as a matter OF course. Now they
are served as little surprises and add an
unwonted zest 70 the meal. Then I've
shared the work with the children, and
IFS wonderful how many steps they can
save They make their own beds and
keep A44ElL 4ADAAAa Aaa VI AELH carry ALa
wood. wash the supper dishes-even the
little 2-year-oId helps 10 clear the table
and wipes the knives and forks. They
all have their little duties and take them
week about in turn. They also darn
their own stockings i must confess all
their little efforts do not make the work
easy. but it does tighten IL, and 1 know
IL Is forming their characters and Is
quite as much a part OF the education as
what they get in school i think there is
where the serVauJleSs mother has tho
advantage There IS not room ln the
kitchen for both a servant and children.
During vacation the two elder children
take turns getting our simple breakfast
and are very proud Of their ability In
that line The eldest child Is just II,
but they have been dong these things
for several years. i pay them 8 cents
week. and that Is their pocket money.
There is no teasing for pennies and they
know they have TO buy pencils, note
books and the small school necessities
out of this income. CareIessness about
their rooms and hanging up out-of-door
wraps Is fined one cent
Now one word more: let every mother
paste this where she can see 1t:
"ONE UNSELFISH MOTHER CAN
AND WILL RAISE A BROOD OF
SELFISH CHILDREN TO MAKE
OTHER WOMEN MISERABLE"
can scarcely hope that all this win
Get into print, but Il is the result OF
twelve years experience and may help
some one TO achieve results much earlier
ia the struggle.
And remember that what Is sheer
drudgery TO the wife may be a pleasing
change for the man Of the house. II Is
worth trying. anyway n 9. A.
p Son reading this over find you
NAV think I let my husband do all tho
getting up nights, bus i do my share
and 1 let him eff when know he Is
tired.
have let our Independent wife and
,,e,1e- tell an uncommon story in her
own way without hindr-ace or com
nent. She does II oF51 -z5sy. Sc tsi.a
some plain truths. She takes n0ss3