The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1903-08-02
PERSONAL AND CONFIDENTIAL.

1.-THE Journal is in frequent receipt of in
quiries of personal character. the re-
sponses to which seem hardly suited for
insertion in its regular column of "Ques-
lions and Answers" Replies have common
ly been made by mail where addresses were
furnished, but have now been placed in the
hands of special editor. well qualified as a
general adviser, and answered in a sepa-
rate department. Correspondents wishing
to communicate with this department will
please address "Fidelia,' care of the Jour-
nall
Which do you consider the better month
in which to be married, June or October?
Hattie.
The argument in favor OF June is that you
have your sewing done before hot weather;
on the other hand, if you marry in October
you escape beginning housekeeping in mid
summer. Neither of these arguments is
very weighty, however. In your case, il
you have your young man engaged. DC
tober is probably better because it comes
sooner.
My<husband thinks / ought to let him
read all the letters / receive from my
friends, whether he knows those friends
or not. should like to know your opinion.
e. L. M.
ilege. If he has not confidence that the
correspondence is harmless. something is
wrong with Xou or him that reading of
the letters will rot mend. Even il you were
willing that he should see them, the rights
of the writers Of the letters should be con-
sidered. How would they like it?
Please tell me if peroxide of hydrogen
hurts the hair when it is used often enough
to keep the hair yellow. My complexion is
fair, but my hair is a shade of brown not
at all pretty, and L should like to have it
lighter.-Grace.
1t is claimed for peroxide that it does
not injure the hair, but don't you believe
this. 1t stands to reason that anything
powerful enough to change the color of
the hair must, In the long run at least be
injurious. And whether it hurts the hair
or not 1t will hurt you. Anybody with half
an eye can tell instantly that you have
peroxide hair. Most of them will think
you are silly, and some will think worse.
Don't use it. Nature can be improved on
in many ways where women are concerned,
but ''blondining" the hair is not one of
these ways.
1 am invited to a wedding reception to
take place next week. and feel that / shall
have TO go, though. frankly.I dread It, as
so out very little and am not accustomed
to the ways of such gatherings. One thing
1 don't know and wish to ask is, whether it
Is necessary TO say goodbye to the host
ess.-Mrs. Il.
At large reception this is not consid-
cred necessary. though it is always proper
enough.
A young man 1 know is going away to
college. He is very bashful and will not be
likely to say anything about my writing TO
him. though am sure he would like TO hear
from me. Do you think ii would be all
right. under the circumstances, for me to
speak of it?-Jennie.
Don't do 1T, Jennie. If the young man
is afraid to say anything on the subject, he
is probably not timid but that he can
pluck up courage 10 write and ask for the
privilege after he gets away. If he doesn't
ask it will be for other reasons than bashful-
ness. AS you go along through life, you
will find that few men are really backward
in asking for what they want IL they want
IL very much.
MY husband has two hired men on the
farm and does not have to work so very
hard himself. so l have taught him to make
bread and he is very good about taking this
| part. of the Homework off my hands, but
| the neghbors think this is no sort of work
for a man and laugh at both me and him.
What do you think about it?-Farmer's
Wife.
Never mind the neighbors. To relieve his
wife OF any sort of hard work about the
house when he has opportunity is not be-
meath the dignity OF any man. Encourage
him to contin~e the breadmaking. but see
10 1t that his hands are clean and that he
does not smoke while he Is engaged In the
| task