Woodville Republican., 1903-01-17
SECRET OF BRIEG CHARMING.
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QsaIlsles Whleh AF~ Bsaad
20 Wis Erieaas.

"What ls the secret Of being
charming" q girl asked ecsntiy. lt
l. not easy 70 define charm, nor is IL
easy % give directisns for acquiring
such quality. n lay be a gilt. like
beauty. IL may be IN a sunny tenn
perament. a sweet and cheerful dis
position. Il IA CERTAIN that IL may
be cultivated in true politeness, u
wish to please, an absence of selfish
ness a freedom from self-conseious-
ness. an unwiliingness to hurt an
other person by word or action.
n you are In search Of this quail
ity Of charm. you are already On the
road toward finding il. Al the start
you must realize that IL must not be
sought for your own qualification or
by way Of winning power, or you
VIII soon discover that il will prove
delusise.
II you would be charming you must
take the trouble TO be tboughtful Of
others, says Priscilla Wakefield, in
the DeliAeator. You Will be consid-
crate Of older persons. greet them as
cordially as friends Of your own age,
take the time 10 talk to them. listen
when they are talking. You will not
be so absorbed 10 your own interests
that you cannot enter into the in-
terests Of others.
You will look people in the face
when you are talking, and give your
attention 10 what they are saying.
You win not interrupt others or con-
tradiet them or show impatience for
your chance 10 talk, and will not try
TO monopolize the conversation. You
will not be effusiyely gracious TO
some one because you wish to gain
an invitation or something Of the
sort, while you are coldly Indifferent
TO another who may not be of so
much Importance 10 the world, or
among your set of friends. Sincerity
Is one Of the essential parts of
charm. a lack Of IL is quickly de-
teeted.
Perhaps | can show you how charm
can be gained by pointing out other
things to be avoided. You would not
call girl charming who is loud in
talk, or aggressive In manner, who dis
cusses people or private affairs in a
loud voice IN public who pushes rudely
past others. who seems to fancy that
by asserting her own independence she
Is maintaining her rightful place in the
world.
Contrast her with the girl with gem
tile, sweet manners and voice, who
talks quietly, who offers graceful little
kindnesses, who sacrifices her own
comfort and ease rather than incon-
venienee any one.
A girl may not be a beauty, or
brilliant talker, or wonderfully clever.
yet she may be SO charming that il is
a delight 70 be with her and 10 count
her among our friends She Is vim
some, swcet-tempered full Of tactful.
considerate ways genuinely kind and
sympathetic, and she has that whole-
some sense Of humor which helps TO
smooth away so many OF the rough
! places Of life, II is well to love whole-
! NNAttt tth HAiA AAtl1 lttt anh cultivate
the power of seeing the humorous side.
One thing to avoid, II you would be
charming, is the tendency to talk
about grievances. A girl who fancies
herself martyr, and who claims that
no one understands her or her moods,
IS not on the road toward the posses.
sion Of charm A girl who is morbid,
self-centcred, egotistical, cannot be
charming, and she needs to make every
effort TO overcome these characteris-
tics, or she will become tiresome to
her friends and the prey of discontent-
ment.
Try to live in the Sunshine OF cheer
fnlness and the breeze Of larger inter-
/ ests," II you would be charming. Say
pleasant things. Praise others when
you can do so with sincerity. Praise is
on encouragement. lie courteous, real-
" polite. When tell you to cultivate
charity, mean that kindly disposition
which looks for and believes in the best
In others, which Is generous in PARDON
ing mistakes which defends the absent
and does not repeat idle goxsip.