The times dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1903-1914, 1903-03-15

j day and night" Tho band OF to-day 10 8
q light and easy burden W comparison
4 It should be made Of gauze aannel-stlk
warp ID best-bound all around With
white ribbon or fine silk galloon and s
fastened smoothly about the abdomen
with small safety pins. Il ID kept from
slipping down or up by being pinned 70 IA
the waist and the napkin. In summer Il
ls q valuable safeguard against sudan III
chill. and BY keeping up very slight 4
B friction prevents the ''looseness'' which
is often 9 prscuEsor Of summer oomr
4 plant ST 81, S
II SCARCELY know how 10 address II
letter TO IN abstract oorro-Sa
spondent, but feel that pags
I out Of my experiences. may be of assist
ance to IN. ]. d. I, too, have Ave chill
dren, and q few yearz ago 7 might have
made tho Same lam ent but I can truth
fully say that I have succeeded In bet-3
tering conditions. m {$SS III 81 Nj
i wonder II IN, J. DIN tho esotfsm
of young motherhood, did not assums 4
burdens voluntarily which should have &
been shared with the husband from tho N
q first? II you want q husband who II 4
keenly appreciative Of his homo n you 4
should marry man who has been home
\ less for a while. One who steps from one A
D good home to another Is apt to take d
4 things as matter Of course. 4: Ny hus!a
Z band has an unselfishN " mother who
f brought up her two sons ato expect q q
! number OF little services that they \
should have learned to perform for Il
themselves. I soon found out that, 4
could not care for my home and my chill
dren and perform those duties, so be-
tween important things and those I sim
ply dropped them from my list OF II
course. there was some indignation and
an injured air, but assured him ISwould 4
be very glad to look after his clothes II 4
he would wash the dishes and tend the 4
babies. mana ged to keep! my temper
and the affair ad justed itself u Still. until
I5was threatened with, nerYous; prostra.
tion, ISshouldered the whole care OF the
children and plumcd myself upon doing
"a vtrtuous act. Then when had virtu-E5
ally shut him out Of all that tender care
Of helpless children which would have
been such a developing force in his char
acter, felt 5inju to think he was SO I
helpless with them. But n had to leave
them to him while II got rested up a HI
lllllct hHo w l1S4A@A ACSulhlSA ~ Ia1H1
had both learned lesson. I learned n
that 1 was not SO necessary, part 81 4
the household as i had supp osed and he
learned to get close to his children and
they had learned to call one papa for
things; and am glad to say I Vi had "
sense enough to let them continue to 5de-
pend upon him. I've often stayed In bed
by sheer force OF will while he wrestled#
with croupy baby; but he has been
Just as successful nurse as myself.
FIe does not see things to be done, but y VI
am no longer shy about telling him.
tell him frankly that ] want to get out
q little and he stays with tho children. VI
and lest he should get out Of practice II
often so when had much rather stay
at homo. " a H. ,Ss s n. AK sg M
Then wonder II X M. j. D. 4 has tried
bringing her housekeeping down to Its Il
simplest form. 81 III 81 558 n 1iSss
cut of desserts except for Sundays 4
and especial occasions, They are much A
moro appreciated now than when they 4
came as matter OF course. Now they
are served as little surprises and add an
unwonted zest to the meal, Then I've #
shared the work with the children. and
& it's wonderful how many steps they can
save They make their own beds and
keep their rooms In order; carry the u
( wood wash the supper dlshes-even the
little 9-year-old helps to clear the to BILE
and wipes the knives and forks. III They
I all have their little dutles5and take them
week about in turn. They also darn
their own stockings. Y must confess all Y
their little efforts do not make the work
Z easy, but it does tighten IT., and know
It Is forming their characters and is
quite as much q part Of the education az y
z what they get In school, think there y
Il where the servantless mother has tho
advantage. There ~ not room N the &
Kitchen for both q servant and children
During vacation the two elder children
take turns getting our simple break fast M
and are very proud Eof their ability IN III
that line The eldest child is Just II.
but they have been dong these things L
for several years. pay them cents 9 \
week, and that Is their pocket money.
There is noteasing for pennies and they
know they have to buy pencils. note
books and the small school necessities
out of this income, Carelessness about "
their rooms and hanging up out-of-door
wraps is fined one cent. 4. 4
Now one word more let every mother
paste this where ste can{see 1t:
"ONE UNSELFISH MOTHER CAN
AND WILL RAISE A BROOD OF
I SELFISH CHILDREN b TO- Make
: OTHER WOMEN MlSERABLE,
/ can scnrcely hope that all this win
get into print, but 1t Ia the result Of
twelve years experience and may help
some ono to achieve results much earlier !
In the struggle
And remember that what IL sheer
drudgery to the wife may be q pleasing
change for the man OF the house, IL y
worth trying anyway. Al, g. A.
r. son reading this over I find you
may think let my husband do all the
getting up nights, but I do my share II
and 7 letihins Off when ] know ne = = g
tired A. gs II $s3
have let our independent Vile ana
mother tell an uneonmoa story " haf&
own way without l,indrance or ccLE-
memt. She does Il credtably She tells Il
some plain truths, She takes novel
ground. and, II must BIO owned. holds y
Reasonably well, ] am curious 20 knoN 7
what other mothera think Of her plan
Amusement blends with curiosity when \
Nj speculate as to what the average man
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