The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1903-12-19

phi osophy.
Don't Criticize.
l can safely assure YOU that the woman
who is sharply critical will never even
peep into that bright and pleasant realm
known as belledom. To be agreea BILE, 10
be popular with the mascu. inc half Of
society, you must be tolerant
l know a girl who has much in her favor
to win attentions and greatly does she
long for them. She Is more clever than
most, but her sister, who is not one-half
SO good looking and scarcely to be called
brilliant in conversation. receives twice
the admiration of my intelligent and witty
friend. But the sister is kindly in speech,
while she, tho clever and amusing. is
too sharp. Her tongue is two-edged and
she is willing to laugh at the fofbles OF
friends and strangers alike. Her jokes
too frequently are made at the expense OF
others and many a possible admirer has
been lost to her by her unhappy faculty for
| sarcasms and by judging from the ex-
terror of things. Laugh and be gay, for as
said before, cheerfulness is so attractive
and so infectious. but do not discuss your
neighbors with too much energy; don't
make fun of Mr.. AS crudely chosen tie
or Mr.. BIS awkward manners. for you will
be feared instead Of liked, and men have
an acute horror Of ridicule which Is the
cruelest form of sport
Learn, in addition to this lesson Of what
: 10 dNOlu, Tile OludlIy VALUABLE lSoSoH VI
trying to look little below the surface.
It is not fair to judge the men you meet
| by the externals only. 1t happened just
here In my drawing room that 1 pre-
/ scented, to a young lady who was calling.
a shy, plainly dressed man whose coat
did fit badly andw no was not in the
least dashing figure of the latest mascu-
line fashion. In addition he wore big spec
tacles and spoke with a slight lisp, and
my fair caller. having failed to catch his
name, gave him very little notice.
When the afternoon was over l casually
remarked that I was sorry she had not
found Mr. Blank, whose true name is
world famous for his wealth and culture,
more interesting.
But I cid not met him. she answered
in amazement.
"Oh. yes, you did" I replied; che wore
the big spectacles nd has Slight lmpe-
dimcnt in his speech"
! why thought he was just nobody,
she walled in dire distress and self shame.
1 leave YOU to. draw the obvious moral
from this tale. 1t is very illustrative OF
the mistaken methods Of the woman who
is a little too critical Of eXterHals. Be
ready and willing to SOW the seeds of gra
cious kindness on promising and unprom-
Using SOIL for you can never tell just
where or when you will reap a harvest OF
friends. '1-.
That Fatal Egotism.
''She is such an approa enable sort OF
girl. that Miss jones' I overheard young
man say of damsel he had just met. "a nd
she is not all the time trying to air hel
BRAINS" he concluded.
| That verdict proved beyond the shadow
of doubt that Miss Jones is not afflicted
with tho fo+n' c~~+'srn f~o'"- "vh'r" -
many Of her sex suffer, es1ecially In .hel;
rtId LIOiIa as 40. .'->4 - ;.
your callers with your own affairs. The
~ man especially looks to the woman tt
draw him out and put him at his ease
l To make A conversation go with new
masculine acquaintance find out what in
terests him. and on those lines inspire nj
eloQuence.
You need not be football sharp, or
l golf expert. or a horse woman to lister
with nattering interest to accounts o
e games. but you will find it really enthral
ling and instructive when an enthusias
tells you about it. and he in grateful re
e turn for your interest will show you a.
G the adriring attentions in his power.
. lie likes you at once for having take
e the trouble to study his interest; and n
f may respect you. but only at distance
: if you are pretty pedant and able onl
v to discourse about your own trlumphs
YOUR own recreations, and the isms an
d ologies. -Adela1de Gordon