The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1903-05-31

LAVE a cousin, a young man.
about 16 years old. His mother
has sacrificed a great deal 10
keep him in school, and now he
is in high school That poor wo-
man has enduredimuch suffering to keep
MN up IN as cOmforta bic q way as any
boy could wish for. Now ne does not
seem TO appreciate il in the least, as he
insists on doing things contrary to her
MlSnes, as staying late at school TO see
t me pail S3meS, at the same time know
ing well that his poor mother is suffer-
ing at home on that account.
1NoW tie main trouble is that he goes
10 nigh school and nobody seems smart
enough to tell him anything You would
neIp nus poor mother great deal II
You could publish this and also your
opinion or his actions A P
WITHOUT WISHING TO SAY ANY
thing to condemn the mother, think she
is making the mistake of holding the
boy too tightly. 1t is entirely natural
that he should wish to stay after school
ana see ball games. He would not be
normal, healthy BOY if he did not
enjoy athletic sports. OF course, there
may be circumstances that make 10
wrong Tor him to stay away from her,
but you do not mention these. If she
mas brought him up right, without IN
aye fS;s, st ti tn insignificant things, |
mink that a quiet talk with him would
nave the desired effect Of bringing him
20 perception of the duty he owes to
her. But one should not look for an
old head on young shoulders, or make
the mistake of forgetting that a boy of
10 IS near manhood, and should not be
tied too closely to his mothers apron
strings. If he is held in too strictly he
IS bound to break away sooner OF later
in a way he would not have attempted
If he had been INDUCED within reason
able bounds.
YOU ADVOCATE THE PRESENCE
Of children in the family, and beyond
any doubt they greatly Increase the hap
piness and security of the home but
when deep trouble and constant struggle
IN some form or other are so inseparable
from life, in homes oUtwardly the most
serene as well as in all others, do you
not think 1t is selfish and unkind TO
bring children into this world and there
by expose them to this battle of life?
Even when endowed with the strong
est characters, given the most desirable
home training and the best possible
equipment to cope with the world, life
is a constant battle. for the more re-
nned and enlightened the person the
more keen are the perceptions to suf-
fering.
existence and that His ways are wise
even though inscrutable. but parents
also have some responsibility in this
line, and are given the power of free
agency. c. c, A
THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO YOUR
question I believe very firmly that ~
either parent has an inherited disease
there ought not to be Children. Also IL
they are not able to support their chill
dren when they come they ought to DENY
themselves the joy Of offspring. But il
IS the ordnance of nature that the pOpu-
lation should be kept alive by the sue
cession OF the generations, and IL all men
and women went on the principle of
Withholding life to the next generation
IT would not take long to put an end to
the nations. Moreover. the pleasure and
pain IN life are pretty evenly balanced,
and enough persons love life to be glad
OF the glrt OF existence. 1t is a good deal
Of responsibility to attempt to reform
time-honored methods of race contfnu-
ance.
WILL YOU PLEASE TELL NE
If it would be in good taste for nv
mother to attend the theatre in widows
weeds2 She is an elderly lady and has
been q. widow five years, but will always
wear yhe widows garb as long as she
lives. My sister and 1 are both Young
girls, II and 19 years, respectively, and
mother won't hear of our going alone
even to matfnees. and, of course, we
would much prefer to have her with us.
as she IS so lonely and needs much
cheering up Would il be better to go
in the afternoons or in the evening, if
at all, under the circumstances
THERE IS NO REASON WHY YOUR
mother should not attend the theatre
and it would probably have a very
pleasant effect upon her. 1t is not, how
ever, considered in good taste to wear a
long veil to a place of public amuse-
ment. Many widows have neat black
bonnets which they keep for such occa-
sions as this, while they wear the deep
veil at other times I know of widows
who have worn black for many years
and who go to the theatre or opera,
tightening their dress for the occasion
so far as to lay aside the veil.
THERE IS A LITTLE FRIEND OF
mine in whom l am very much inter
ested. He is IN one Of the children's