Milford chronicle., 1903-06-05

they promised on their wedding da.
to live for, they turn their backs upol
their husbands and bury their exist
ence in the nursery. From morning un
til night and from night until mornin:
those engrossed and absorbed mother
think and dream and plan about moth
ing but the one theme of baby. NJ
matter where they are. with whom
they are talking or what subject oi
conversation may be started they tall
nothing but baby.
They viii tell you over and over
again how many teeth their babies
have cut and when those teeth came
but they cannot tell you about the
sharp, poisonous fangs of business
worries that have buried themselves in
their husbands brains and heart
/ Neither DO they care how sharp those
I fangs may be. They can tell you,
without one mistake, how many
times last night their babies coughed,
but they cannot tell you how many
hours their husbands the same night
walked the floor, hour after hour, try
ing to think and plan how they could
meet the great crises of life which
may now be confronting them There
is many man-mark thisi-whO
heard the death rattle of all true, help
full wifely association on the night
that their first baby was born. Only
a short time ago l had a prominent
man say to me: ANY success which
have made in life l have won in spite
Of my wife. From the day that my
first baby came she has had no inter
est in me or my work In my inter
course with my business associates she
has been a positive damage instead Of
a help" There is many a husband
who is today living as far apart in
thought from his wife as if he were
ten thousand miles away from her. He
may eat with her at the table and live
with her in the same home, but
their mental and spiritual association
is absolutely dead She lives for her
children. He lives for his business.
Between them there is the great yawn-
ing chasm Of Indifference, ever widen
ing, ever becoming blackcr and more
fatal to marital love-
Now. mothers. want to say to you
that a woman cannot be a true moth
er unless at the same time she is a
true wife. | want to say that if a wife
will not enter into the joys and hopes
and sorrows and cares and perplexi-
ties of the husband who is by her side
ana wants to love her and have her
share his burdens She cannot be true
to the daughters, who will follow in
her footsteps. l want to tell you that
no daughter is developed Alright unless
she has had before her the example
of a mother who has been faithfully
trying to be true TO her father as well
as TO her Would that every mother
might have as beautiful a eulogy pass
ed upon her by her husband as Pliny
the Younger wrote about his beloved
wife: she has great talents, she is
an admirable economist and loves me
with entire affection. To these quail
tiles she unites a taste for literature
inspired by a tenderness for me. When
| plead, how great is the anxiety she
suffers. She engages people to tell her
what applause have gained, what
acclamatiOns l have excited and what
Judgment is pronounced upon my ora
tiOns. She sings my verses and, un-
taught, adapts them to the Lutte. Love
is her only instructor; hence / expect
with certainty that our happiness will
be durable and that it will daily in
crease" ! wish that such a eulOgy
might be given to every mother. \
woman's direct relation to her hus-
band is almost as important in the de
velopment of Il daughters life as the
mothers direct relation to her child.
The true mother also should be a
true daughter and sister. a woman
cannot rightly meet the cares and re-
spOnsibilities of her husbands home if
she is forgetful of the fireslde where
she spent her childhood. before which
the banquet table was spread and the
wedding cake cut on the night she left
to preside at her own table. The
young mother, bending over the cradle
of her baby. can feel no genuine, holy
rapture if she has no gratitude or
reverence for her gray haired father
and mother who watched over her
own infancy. or love for the brothers
and sisters who were her childhood's
companions.