Arizona republican., 1903-06-14
GRAVE MATRIMONIAL QUESTION

They do these things differently in England, if one may judge by the fol- lowing article in an English publica- a Dark Man?":
 T have been thinking hard over this problem. because the other day l met friend who confided to me that his heart was blistered by an unkind girl who consistently said no. Pressed 70 give a reason, she admitted she loved him. but thought he ought to marry fair-haired girl, because it wasn't good for two people of a color to marry.
 II know there is a scientific law. Likes repel, unlikes attract But sure ly it Is a far cry to fit an electrical statement to souls. Though, of course, love may be q subtle kind of magnet ism, in which case undoubtedly the dark should marry the fair.
 "The great advantage of this seems that, roughly speaking, fair people take life more easily than dark ones, and are less nervous and more amiable. Therefore the ideal mate for the dark. energetic, highly strung man is the blonde, placid, good tempered woman whose calmness will cool his impetu- osity.
 Just in the same way the golden haired girl with violet eyes will Irob ably be drawn to the dark Italian look ing fellow, whose eloquent brown eyes seem to speak a world of passionate yearning.
 His eagerness, his audacity will move her more than a blonde lover; Saxon handsomeness. The dark lover will be her ideal. the force of contrast will draw them together, and they will be, in the eyes of the world, a per fectly matched pair.
 "I knew of dozens of good ladies who sigh their loudest and exclaim, Dear | me, We shall see what we shall sec when they hear that dark man and a dark girl are going to make a match | of it. According to them the doom of the unfortunate couple is settled be- cause their hair and eyes are the same in color.
 This is going too far. We've all known happy couples who were of the same complexion. just as we've known unhappy pairs whose coloring made a fine contrast.
 For the comfort of the dark haired girl who hopes to marry a man whose locks are almost her color, I'm going to quote d lew UI lHe lNlIlSS nave learned from close study of some few hundred married couples.
 Probably there is a more passionate attraction between a dark man and a fair woman than between a dark man and dark woman. But this passion ate feeling by no means always lasts Indeed. it is apt to be succeeded by a feeling of boredom.
 ssIf tbap yott want to in 6c,.fas overwhelming passion in your lover you will have a better chance if you are his physical opposite.
 But if you wish to inspire deep and lasting friendship, you will have a bet ter chance by being his physical coun- terpart.
 Looking round the women I know who are. first and foremost, their hus bands chums, I am amazed to find the majority are dark, and have dark husbands.
 Tn the rare cases I know of where a fair man and a fair woman are the best comrades, l have invariably found that their pursuits are entirely differ ent.
 "The fair men and women are Saxon to the core, and love fields, animals, mud, long walks, and the pleasures of nature, while the dark couple crave eX- citement, and are mentally more acute.
 'The conclusion of the matter seer1s ! to be that a man must choose his wife | according to what position he wishes | her to fulfill in his life. If he wants | something to worship, something to de- light his eyes, something to provide re- laxa tion when the days work is done he should choose a golden-haired maid | en. If he wants passionate devotion | and poetic fervor he should select q girl with raven hair and dark-brown eyes; but he must run the risk of a | vehement temper and a jealous dispo- | sition. If he is a farmer or quiet business man he should marry his phy- sical opposite. because the contrast i: more piquant. But if he is a man de pendent upon his brain for a living. his first need is sympathy, and this vii be found in the woman who is of the same coloring and similar tempcra ment."
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