The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1903-11-01
WHY WIDOWERS MAKE SUCH
PLEASANT HUSBANDS.

A girl, says the New York American,
remarked not long ago, with reference
10 the impending marriage of a friend,
"Really, and the man a widower?"
Does this mean that a prejudice ex-
lists against widowers? Evidently it
does, but why? There is surely no good
ason why they should not make as
desirable husbands as any man; in
deed. one would think they would make
better husbands upon the whole.
Do they not, having been married,
know all about womans little ways,
her little eccentricities, her humors,
and such like? They should, for in
these things one woman is singularly
like another.
The main argument in favor of girls
marrying widowers is this, namely,
that widowers know what to avoid, as
we'll as what to do. The one is as inn
portant as the other, if not more inn
portant.
A widower knows the kind of things
which offend or raise the temper of
women, he has learned when it is I'M
wise to use his tongue; he understands
the many signs which show that trou-
Bile is likely to arise, and in obedience
to them, he acts in a manner calculated
TO keep matters going smoothly.
Then the "greenness" is off a wild
over. He has had experience of mar
ried life, and can guide a wife in many
ways, and he is more tolerant than the
average hot-headed youth; he knows
that woman is a creature of moods and
fancies, and acts accordingly. There
fore, a girl marrying a widower will
certainly, have much more of her own
way than if she married single man.
The first year of married life is uSu-
ally a somewhat difficult time for a
young wife. She has so many things
to learn, so many trifling items to dis
cover; and, of course, if she married a
bachelor he is in the same boat.
The first year is a time of surprises
some pleasant, others distinctly the re-
verse.
If a girl marries a widower, however,
she won't have such a long time of the
surprise business. He will be able to
teach her many things. The girl, in
fact is in the hands of one who, if he
be a sensible man, is a capital tutor
and wise counsellor.
If any little trouble connected with the
household arises, or any untoward
event happens, she has but to go to
him and he will usually be able to show
her the way out.
Now these things greatly trouble a
young and inexperienced couple. They
don't know what to do; often enough
neighbor has to be asked for advice.
One can thus see that the girl VINO
marries a widoWer has an easier time
of it from the very start than if she
married a youth who had never been
through the matrimonial mill.
A young couple too, are often both
cred with relations, some advising one
thing, some another. You have no
idea what a nuisance relatives are to
a newly welded couple. But the wild
over will soon put his foot down on
that sort of thing; he remembers what
it was before. He will have none OF 1t,
and relatives are kept at distance.
1t cannot be explained here all that
this last sentence means, but If any
girl asks a few married women about
the bother connected with relations she
will get her eyes opened with ven
geance.
Do you begin to see the advantage of
marrying a widower? 1t is very great
indeed.
A widower, having been married,
knows the right kind of women to Sc
lect as friends for his wife; the average
young man cannot be expected to
accurately The married man can, as
a rule, and thus the girl who weds
widower is kept right so far as So
ciety goes.
1t has been said that a widower
makes a harsh husband, but this is not
true. He may not be so loving or SEN
timental as the average youth, but
there is more real worth in the love he
does display.
A widower is really very tender with
girl, and treats his young wife with
great respect, and as something to De
greatly treasured.
1t must be granted that girl who
marries a widower does not thoroughly
appreciate what the early days of mari
rimony really mean, in the usual sense.
Her life is much smoother; there are
not the worries, the battles, the neon
veniences, the struggles, which are so
common when two single persons weo.
The girl who weds a widower mas an
easier time of it in every way.
There is no reason why prejudlce
should exist against widowers. They
make excellent husbands-not over
loving, perhaps, but good, honest, ster-
ling men are they in the majority OF
cases. So, if any girl who reads TINS
gets an offer from an eligible wldoWer,
let her not miss the chance, but accept
him at once-that is, of course, II she
loves him.