The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1903-11-25

Some one wants to know about the
etiquette of calls and the proper man
ner of having cards engraved.
Time was when calling was more
generally done than at present. st.
Paul women have been known to say
that there. never was a city where so
much calling is done as here; but that
was several years ago, before society
was the unwieldly thing it is today.
Now it takes a year or two to get
around, and many women are cutting
down their lists and society itself is
breaking up into cliques. This in itself
is a sign of the growth Of st. Paul; the
many sets there are in society.
AS to calls after invitations, that
subject was taken up on this page the
other day. There is now more LATITUDE
allowed in this matter than used to be
the case. Calls after teas are not I'M
perative, but a courtesy appreciated by
those who have entertained. Calls att
er dinners, luncheons and suppers are
by all means to be made as soon as
possible. Dinner calls should be made
within week or ten days. Ihere are
some girls in ST. Paul whom older
women have declared they will never
invite again as they are so lax in this
simple courtesy.
AS to cards and their uses: 1t is no
longer considered good form to leave
from three to half a dozen cards, even
If there are several persons in the same
house to be visited. Three is about the
limit that in good taste can be lert.
Years ago there was a woman here
who had three daughters, and at every
house at which she called, where there
were one or two to be called upon, she
would leave three of her own cards,
three of her husbands, and three each
OF her three daughters; this stack or
cards was sent up stairs and, Of course,
made every one laugh. When woman
has two or more daughters in society
it is advisable to have one card made
thus: Mrs. Thomas Kimball. The
Misses Klmball." The daughters name
underneath the mothers. If Mrs. Kim
ball has a married son of the same
name, the mother-if she chooses-can
have on her cards simply Mrs. KIM
ball" while her sons wife is Mrs.
Thomas KimbaH." There are one or
two well known st. Paul women who
do not use their husbands initials on
their cards. The eldest daughter is
Miss Kimball, the others are Miss
Helen Kimball and Miss Sophie Kim
ball. as the case may be. Cards are left
at teas by those attending and sent by
those not going.
1t is not always necessary to send in
cards when calling; there are many
instances Wnen one Inlay uldhS III
formal. or morning, visits without
them Black bordered cards should al
ways be used in mourning; they are
an explanation in themselves and at
once let persons know that one is not
going out The question was raised the
other day whether or not invitations
should be sent to those who are in
mourning. By all means. Persons in
black, though they do not go into So
siety during the mourning period, are
glad to be remembered by their friends.
And in this day and generation, when
mourning is so little observed, no one
can take it for granted that persons
are not going out. Men who have lost
relatives should have black border
on their cards.
Men in the West are very lax about
observing mourning, in dress and the
matter of going out, compared to East
ern men. The latter observe a period