The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1903-02-14

enough to keep the friendship of the wo-
men. She cultivated those whom she
thought would be useful to her, but as
soon as she had advanced a few steps by
their help she did not hesitate to offend
ana ALLEVIATE them. She made the mis-
take Of believing that only the favor of
men is essential to a woman's social
success. but the time came when the
friendship OF few influential women
would have saved her. but lacking il she
met sorry finish.
Il know the men are always making
the charge that all other women hate
the woman of unusual fascination. but
although there is no doubt that we are
jealous Of one another's charms il Is
possible Tor woman Of good sense and
diplomacy to be marked favorite with
the men without melting the hostility of
women The women didn't hate Becky
sharp because the men liked her That
may nave helped some but they would
have forgiven her if she had exercised
some of her destinations on their &C
count and tried even half as hard to
win their friendship as she did to steal
their husbands and sWeethearts. Becky
was not only untrue to her best women
friends. but she was openly disdainfuI
of them and of all other women when
as Mrs. Rawdon Crawley,' she believed
herself safely intrenched in society's
camp.
Women will forgive another woman
Tor being popular with the men unless
she makes herself disagreed Bile In that
event they sharpen their knives and go
after her and the day of their revenge
IS not usually, far away. Because when
they want to. the other women may
make WOman's social career iTnpossi-
bic Ii they cut her the men are not
long in following suit. 1t is very diff
cult FOR them to do otherwise. In the
first place it is the women who do most
OF the entertaining and if they won't
invite her how can the men meet her2
Not receiving invitations she can issue
none and is thus debarred from the
pleasure of entertaining except her men
friends and even the most fascinating
of women find it hard to take care of a
number of men without the assistance
Of at least & few other women.
When one woman is pitted against
several in fight for social position put
your money on her opposition 1t
is sure to win out eventually The men
VIII stand by a woman as long as She
/ is received al all but when the other
women cut her dead they promptly de
sert her. They are always talking about
our disloyalty to one another but Wo-
man Will remain true to a friend when
all the world is against her and for this
reason, If no other, every woman should
cultivate a few friends of her own sex.
Some times woman who is cordially
hated by all other women is still able
to rule society but that is because she
had, to begin with, an unassailabIe po-
s1uons large wealth and unlimited pow
er. The women are obliged to maintain
a sem blance of friendliness for her and
to preserve the peace but woe to her if
they ever get good chance at her.
And while she may never suffer from
their secret enmity it can not possibly
add to her comfort or happiness.
Compared to its importance to her
success the task of winning the friend
ship of other women is so easy that [
am always surprised when a socially
ambitious woman neglects it. / know
q civ
who would be a complete success if
the women didn't hate her As it is her
position everywhere is uncertain and Of
ten embarrassing owing to the uncon-
cealed opposition of the other members
of her sex. She is naturally attractive
to men and I can just imagine man
saying that that explains the Women's
enmity, but it doesn't. That may add
fuel to the flame Of their hatred but it
isn't the original reason They dislike
her because she delights in making her
self dlsagreeable TO all other girls and
women. Naturally envious, she vents
her spite on her sex in ill-natured. I'M
kind remarks and in the most insulting
lusolence of manner. Her position is
not sufficiently high to make it neces-
sary for women to endure such treat
ment from her and it is not surprising
that they heartily resent it. She has
perhaps not a single enemy as clever
and resourceful as she and few of equal
powers of fascination but they make up
IN NUMBERS Whdt tney lack IN VII ana
have made it so uncomfortable for her
in her own town that she is practically
osTacized. The men like her but what
can they do?
Their wives and sisters won't invite
her and in such a case Z. man is almost
helpless. If he devotes his time and
attentions to a woman of insecure posi-
ton the other women, the women who
entertain and who rule in the social
world viii leave him out
This same girl may thank her I'M