The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1903-10-13
The Sort of Husband His wife Obeys.

To THE EDITOR OF THs SuN-sfr: There Is great
deal OF talk at present as to whether woman
should obey her husband. The man who cut his
yIfes hair has also received considerable comment
This brings up many other thoughts that naturally
suggest themselves In reference TO the spirit Of tho
times Why should she not obey hm' II has al
WAYS been So II Is coincdent with the laws govern
ing the weaker sex az manifested In the lower AMI
mails and why should IL be changed
l consider that the mon OF the present age arc
largely II not entirely responsible for tho restless
ness and arbitrar,neSs OF the new" woman. These
women are educated UP TO craving for customs
and ideals that do not belong TO their SET. They
dress like men, work like men. 60 10 college like
men. enter men professions. and want mems priv
ilegcs.
Is there not enough in their own sphere Of life for
them to accomplish without putting themselves
on the Same footing with nienH | do not imply by
this that the proper place for woman Is either above
or beneath that OF man-thAt depends entirely on
the individual. Irrespective Of sex; but do mean
that her place and purpose In life naturally 10 far
removed from that OF man, and as soon a. this dis
lance between the sexes Is iessened there 10 an
apprecable decline in respect
An example Of this can be seen any time one Is
out The ladyllko woman. daintily and enemn .
ately clothed nearly always gets seat In street
ear while the men say of the shortskirted, heavy
shod. typical new" woman: well. she's as strong
as we are: let her stand"
Women sheer at tho eHeminate Sissy" pink =
faced "Cholly." He - not natural He does not oct
like man. Why Is II. then. that women cannot ap
precato the contempt that man has for man .
nish" womanf
IN, again I say that this tendency. where Il
occurs In women, Is or has gradually been evolved
through the attitude OF men. The question natu &.
rally arises Are men getting wcaker' Do tho cares
and worrie, and nervous strain OF the strenuous
life break the masculine will and sap virility!
No woman can be expected TO obey man WHO
has no natural assertion OF authority who asks her
IN do ANYTHING In a way that courts a refusal We
have A frequent example OF the result OF this mode
Of procedure with the modern queen Of tho
Kitchen" woman, | believe. naturally likes to
obey a man, provided he Is real man and not
Door nervous. henpeched substitute. II isn't the
man that shouts and storms about in impotent rage.
giving bolstrrous and sensclcss commands and
loudly procaming that he Is the head OF the house.
whose wife Is going TO obey him That man Is shal'
low superficial and II would be absurd 10 think Of
such thing.
The man who Is obeyed by his wife, and gladly.
4, the quiet. even tempered man. who never osdoTs
his wife about. who Ii nevcr unreasonable he man
man whose authority ~ not spoken, but felt Let
men cultivate sef-control and learn . - bet
ter men, then shall have better women. md the
question as to whether q woman should oh10 her
husband win be amioably settled withoue any
wranglng and with satisfaction TO ~ sanoesaed.
In the meantime 1 see NO nsosssisy - enDaSans
the marriage service. OOQ
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