The Olneyville times. (Olneyville [Providence, R.I.]) 1887-1917, 1903-03-06
ETHICS OF KISSING.
4 womAN'S VIEWS ON THE SUBJECT
OF OSCILLATION.
Those Men Upon whom Modest
Maiden May Lavish Kisses without
Compunction and Those Toward
whom She should Play the Niser.

whom She should Play the Miser.
There are stIll occasions, however
rare, when inactivity, much as 1t has
fallen into disfavor, continues to be
mastery, When a modest maiden Is In
| doubt ms to whether or no she should
kiss or allow herself 10 be kissed by
any man not related 10 her by close
J ties Of consanguinlty, she best displays
her wisdom by giving herself, not him,
the benefit OF the doubt and 50 refrain
ing from osculation.
An absolutely safe list Of men whom
II Is allowable TO kiss might be com
piled from the list given In the Book or
! Common Prayer of persons whom 1t Is
! forbidden 10 marry. There can be no
! possible impropricty I'm any womans
! being kissed by her father grandfather
! brother, unclcs, etc, whenever occa-
sion may offer. Still, public opinion IL
much less In favor OF kissing than OF
yore. and affcctionate greetings are
no longer coysidered good form In mar
| kct places or what answers for them in
! the present generation.
TO the prayer book may be added
cousins within the degrees forbidden III
marriage by the Roman Catholic
church, but these In moderation. The
young man cousin who Is greedy In the
matter OF kisses from his pretty cousin
is not 10 be trusted. He
Should be denied
And set aside and mortified.
Kisses of greeting or parting, Of good
night. good morning and OF congratu-
lation are still general, although by no
means so frequent as they were for
mcrly. Indeed, kissing as practice ~
much less popular than IT once was.
Between doctors and the moralists 1t Is
constantly falling more and more into
dlsfavor. while, still more fatal, Fash
ion, with n big +, sets her face 10
flint against all demonstrations OF Feel
Ing as III bred
All the same, the man who becomes
engaged TO be married, ms n usual
thing, expects n kiss from his hancee
10 seal the bargain, not for publications.
so 10 say, but as a guarantee OF good
faith ON her part. If she Is willing to
promise 10 marry him, he reasons, she
ought 10 be willing to let him KISS hcr'
Moreover. he desires n kiss or kisses
upon general principles as something
to which lac is entitled by the unwrit-
ten law of tradition. ON the other
hand. the party Of the second part has
herself 20 consider I'm the matter n
woman should be sure of her own bona
fdc intentions of matrimony ana dou-
| 4 pf lnNpr before
she sets such a sign and seal To the
contract. engagements of marriage are
ly no means irrcfragiblc, and she who
kisses least is likely To have least
cause for future regret At all events
"A prudcnt woman will wait until the
engagement Is announced before She
permits any kissing. There are men
= who have serious objections TO marry
ing any woman who has been engaged
10 another man, for the simple reason
9 that they do not choose that any man
shall bc able to say of the woman
whom they take 10 wife that he has
kissed her as her lover. II matters lit
, tie. rather more that the kisses have
e been given In good faith toTn allianccd
husband. It's way men have.
Sir she's yours
p. You have brushed from the grape its soft
blue;
From tho rosebud you've shaken the dell
z cate dew.
\ What you've touched you may take
c A noted "lady killer of past gener-
S alton who had been engaged many
times and who boastcd 10 his intlmates
that no woman had ever refused an Of
fer OF his hand In marriage was once
c asked why I'm that case he was still n
bachelor. Because am waiting until
= | can find n woman who Will not per-
n NIT me To kiss her before we are mar
= vicd." he replied.
Even though woman be fully as
sured of the incvitablencss I'm due time
L Of her marriage she will be wise not TO
4 be too liberal OF her caresses. Most
things I'm this world are rated as valua-
BILE I'm direct proportion to their rarity.
Were diamonds as common as pebbles
they would be worth no more CONNER
clally than the common stones of the
q beach and highway. Moreover. one may
e have too much of good thing. King
Midas story is an old one. TOO much
water drowned the miller" 1t Is com
e mon practice with coufcctioncrs TO nl
= low new apprentice all the candy
which he or she can eat, certain that II
little while the surfcit OF sweet vii
destroy all taste for sugar In any form
- II is human nature essentially TO tire
Of what we have much of and TO prize
" most the fruit which hangs highest
l. and is most difficult 60 obtain.
,e Consequently the woman who Il
chary of her favDrs. who is niggardll
~ even with her capcsses, viii find tina
a her lover values them all the moro, apl
that his respect, as well as his affec
ton. for her becomes the greater II
proportion as ho hopes rather than Il
NJ sure of her. IL has long been maxim
:, that no man shall kiss and tell; never
thclcSs. the woman is safest 10y far q
% whom there is nothing which II wcr
10 better II were left untold.-llelcn Old
Geld in Chicago Tribune.
~ Marriage and Crime.
IL is said that statistics prove that