Okolona messenger., 1903-07-15


husband will act and talk much the same very soon
When he comes to see you now 10 the evening as
lover, he acts and takes very differently OF course
but after you married, and he goes back to bis
Office and everything falls into the old routine he
will do Just about he did in his home before be
married you. Try to be prepared for this. It is as
1t should be. You could not expect your husband,
with his numerous business worries and his new
responsibilities to continue to be the punctliOus
lover always. Try in these preparatory weeks TO
realize these truths that the change will not hurt
you when it comes. For it will come do not doubt.
Your lover likes you to be exacting and whimsical
ana cOquetish now But take your farewell OF these
things put fore bearance, thOughtiulness and ten
dernsss In their places. Remember that you, too,
are to assume new duties and responsibilities and
that you will no longer be the 6nancee waiting for
her lovers call in the evening, bat the housewife
making home for her husband. Do not expect OF
him the numerous attentions and caresses that
sweetheart's due. know yOn would never tire of
them; but men do, dear child. Men have not the
sentimentaty and fcndness for the details of eve-
making we women have.
II you must shed tearsthe first time be fOrgets to
kiss you good bye, do secretly and forget to
t0n it to him when he returns This fearful reminder
is often the first lesson of nagging wife.
1t will probably be necessary to change entirely
your attitude Of mind toward your lover in this
month. Up to this time he has fetched and carried
he has invented a thousand delightful pashmes;
every kiss you have granted has been regarded as
the exceptional favor it should be made. But you
must prepare your mind for gradual change. You
now are to become minister to him and the way Of
man is soon to regard as commonplace things that
at first seemed Heavenly dspensatiOns. You must
so alter your attitude in this month that not the
iaintest shadow of frOwn will mar your face the
first time he tentatively believes he'll 60 down to
the club awhile. There's an important business
meeting" Your face must not sadden, nor your
heart fail when you have breakfast companion the
back page of a morning paper. These things may
seem highly numerous to those who have never fac
ed them, or have forgotten, but il they come to q
girl who has expected her husband would cOntinne
her betrOthed, they are tragedies, no less.
And so say to you, dear expectant BRIDE yemplOy
these last weeks wisely. In sOlumn meditation in
prayer, il 1t avails you; Sc change your angle Of
vision that you are minister, not ministered unto
II you can perfectly accomplish this, your honey
moon will lnger far into the day OF your married
life that the setting will find it still present.
These things, mundane and unTOmantic as they
are must not take away the beauty and romance Of
married life. Your husband is first a man, and
then your husband, that s all But he is a loving,
true, big.hearted man, and you will grow to love
these very sefshnesses and mannish habits because
they his. That is the secret Of married love not
to love your husband in spite Of his FAULTS but be-
cause OF them. know this is all very unOrthOdox
and contrary TO woman's rights, but it's the way OF
the world, and the way OF men. And il we want
our husbands to be cOntented we must not try to
reform them, but to make them happy. We must
not love what they might be, but what they are.
Good, welcome, home made bread is .ar more it for
every day than wedding cake. / know you can't
believe it now but in this last month try to prepare
your mind tO accept the fact when it inevitably
comes.