The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1903-12-23
His Interesting Description of
the Various Stages.
LIKE ONE WHO KNOWS.
Handled His Subject in a
MasterfuI Manner.
Was Given for the Oakland
Presby terrain Church.

An appreciative audience heard Rev.
Robert E. L. Jarvis of Clay Center,
Kan, deliver his lecture on THE Seven
Stages of Love- at the Oakland Presby-
terrain church last night for the benefit
Of the church Mr.. Jarvis is author of
1.-THE Making of a Christian" one of the
holiday books published by Crane & Co.
Of Topeka. The lecture itself was a. de-
lghtful one and in delivering it Mr..
Jarvis showed how familiar he was
with the subject in hand, though this
statement is not authorized
Unlike most lecturers Mr. Jarvis is
fond Of dealing with extraordinary sub
tects in an extraordinary way both in
writing and speaking. The subject OF
last nights lecture was somewhat of a
departure from the usual theme of the
lecturer and in that respect alone 1t was
interesting. Mr. Jarvis said in part:
1T is Of Love as associated with the
boy or man that I wish 10 speak. A
girl is always in love and therefore her
love cannot be divided up into different
stages. but a boys love is characterized
principally by its different phases and
forms. Al times he is in love and at
other times he is not His love comes
70 him in intermittent attacks and it is
from these different attacks that l have
drawn my subject.
The first stage of a boys love comes
to him when he first exhibits a DISPOSE
ton to wash his ears. He begins to
take an unusual interest in his personal
appearance and he brushes both his
clothes and his hair until they shine.
These symptoms will at first deceive
the parents of the child and for time
his mother will labor under the misap-
prehension that her sons cleanliness is
due to the many heart to heart talks
which she has had with him. This is
sad mistake on her part, however, for
-1rr
terest in his dress it is sure sign that
he is in love and has seen his own
aWkwardness and ill looks reflected in
the eyes of some one of his girl friends.
This stage does not last long, how
ever, for he soon passes into the second
or schoolboy age. In this stage he
first begins to distinguish between the
pretty girls and ugly girls, and inva-
riably his decision is in favor of the
pretty girl. She is usually some femi-
nine member of his school, and she
has rosy checks and her hair is done up
into two pig tails down her back, and,
TO make the description short, she is
exceedingly fair in the eyes of the boy.
1t is in this stage that he first con-
ceiVes the idea of expressing his love
to her, and then his troubles begin.
Many of US who have passed through
that stage of the divine passion will
remember with horror the torture that
we experienced when we undertook to
tell the girl of the regard which we
IldQ lOL uGI. Anu 80 We pass Oh u Tie
third stage Of our love.
IN this particular stage the boy
shows preference for women consid-
erably older than himself. He falls
madly in love with his school teacher.
She is probably old enough to be his
grandmother, but that does not bother
him in the least, and he feels sure that
If he would ask her she would clone
with him and they would go off to some
desert isle where they could like hap
PLY ever afterward. This is an exceed
tngly dangerous age for the boy, espe-
cially if the object of his affections has
money. I am reminded of a case where
two college friends-BiIl and Charlie
met about twenty years after their
graduation. Their conversation ran
something like this:
Hello, Bill"
Hello, Charliep
well, Bill, how has the world been
treating you all these years?"
Il fear that 1 am about where was
when 1 started, Charlie"
How is that?"
ried."
That's good"
That's too bad"
But my wife had money"
That's good
"She died"
That's good
''She didn't leave me any of the money"
That's too bad
But she left me fine house."
But the house burned to the ground
and, as l said before, I fear that I am
no better off than 1 was when 1 started
out"
.Wen. that's too bad"
And so it is" continued Mr. Jarvis
with the boy in this stage of love He
runs the danger of falling in love with a
woman with money and in that case he
Is to be pitied.
THE fourth stage is that which we call
the expensive stage-the stage in which a
and every one of them is good enough
Tor hln- 1t matters not one bit whether
she has blue eyes or black eyes brown
eyes or grey eyes. they are all the same
IN his eyes and they all look pretty good
TO him. This is also a dangerous stage
for the boy, for he is apt to fall in love
and marry some girl who is not wort nv
or ms love and will in the end make an
unsatisfactory wife.
From the expansive stage we pass on
an ideal and Will look at no other. 1t is
safe to say that no boy gets married
while IN this stage of love, for he is gem
orally so critical and exacting that no
girl, no matter how beautiful or how good
she may be. will meet the requirem en- s.
And then comes the reaction from the
critical stage. He was a lion, now he is
a lamb. He has become tired and weary
OF his club and hotel life and is ready and
VIKING to marry any girl that will have
him 1t IS from this stage that we pass
. on, almost 1mperceptibly, to the next and
last stage in which man picks out some
girl and marries her in spite of any argli-
ments which his relatives or friends may
advance
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