Virginia citizen. (Irvington, Va.) 1891-1921, 1903-12-11

drely different from his and Is its nat
ural complement The father and the
son were continually irritating each
other. One night there was a domestic
explosion. The father ordered the son
| from the house. The boy never came
back. He went TO live in another city.
| lie plunged into life of dissipation.
| The father blamed the son. The son
blamed the father But are there not
grievous faults on both sides?
Heal Family Troubles.
Take. for illustration. that difficulty
| which exists between the daughter and
her parents. There are faults there just
| the same. Faults are on both sides
The daughter may have grown up to
be the pride of the parental heart. She
was the idol of her father and mother.
|. They sent her TO school and gave her
| every educational advantage that mon
ey could procure, but while they were
! giving money and, seemingly, every
advantage those parents were not care
! full about the acquaintance their
daughter was forming. They were not
careful about looking up the records of
the young men who were calling during
the evening hour. The result of this
parental negligence was that the daugh-
ter formed an affection for a young
man who was not regarded favorably
by the parents. They did everything
in their power TO prevent the marriage,
| but the trouble was that the parents
awcke to the danger too late. The
young girl was obstinate; she married
against their will After the daughter
left home she felt that her husband
| and children were not wanted back I'm
! the place where the wife and mother
was born. therefore she does not visit
where they are not welcomed. The
parents, in an unguarded moment, may
have said that all their children want.
ed of them was. their money. The
daughter Is poor, but very proud. At
times sue has not had food enough even
for her babies. How much happiness
it would give on all hands IL recon-
clinton could be effected and il the
| parents, remembering that their negli-
gence contributed to the trouble, and
the daughter. remembering that hard
words, spoken in moment OF irrita-
ton, should not weigh against long
years of love and parental kindness,
should come together again and agree
to forget the faults on both sidesI
What is true of the difficulties be-
tween parents and children is also true
of the difficulties between brothers
and brothers. sisters and sisters. In
evitably faults are TO be found on both
sides. Therefore what is the practical
conclusion of all this trend OF thought?
You, o man. and you, o woman, have
no right to complain about the injus-
iceS which others have done against
you unless you ut the same time have
done all in your power to atone for
the sins which you have, Intentionally
or unintentionally, done against your
brotherl IL you will go and honestly
ask your brother 10 forgive you the
wrong you have done him, in ninety
nine cases out OF q hundred that broth
or will ask you TO forgive the injus-
tees he has done you. Then, as You
are both ready to atone for the evils
you have done each other, there will
be no further cause for domestic strife.
Try TO smother the flames OF family
trouble by asking your brother TO for
give you the wrongs you have done
him. Try it. my friend. Try IL. Try
it before the coming Christmas festiy-
tiles
Family dissensions should cease. and
immediately cease. Why? Because
nearly all family troubles are caused
by one member of family misjudging
the motives and position of other mem
bers OF the family. Because IL is al
l.
sphere OF life TO properly appreciate
the difficulties and the trials and the
worries and the disappointment and
the heartaches which are continually
nagging and sapping the lives of people
In other spheres of life. Because II is
not easy for one TO read "the signs of
the times" through another's spectacles.
Because every pair OF family glasses.
as rule, has a different lens and a
different focus.
Put Yourself In His Place.
Just study for moment the different
ways the country brother and the city
brother look at the matter OF family
expenses. They can rarely appreciate
one another's positions. The brother
living in the country hears that his city
brother has n yearly income of $4,000.
he wants TO borrow few hundred dol
lars to help stock the farm. The city
brother may write back that he cannot
afford TO lend any money. The country
brother cannot believe that a relative
having $1,000 income could not lend
him few paltry hundred dollars. But
the city brother who receives a salary
or $4,000 may be having just as hard
ume TO make ends meet as his coun-
Try brother. Some time ago / asked n
brother minister of large city church
how he liked his present field. "Weu~
he said, ''or course ought to be happy
on account OF its opportunities for use
iuihess; put, to tell the truth, I liked
my country field far better, and think
l had there larger net income. NV
present church gives me $4,000 n year
with 1t | have TO live In a fine house
dress well and have my family dress
We'll. When the year rolls around
nave practically nothing. But I'm the
country. though had only small sal
airy. | also had very small expenses
BESIDES, had my garden, my horse
ana carriage, my COW and chickens. /
had fun with them all, and Mt the end
OF the year was able to save $500. /
tel you, the country minister thinks
the city minister is rich, but the civ
minister knows the country minister
Is rich' The man in one sphere of
hfe can rarely appreciate the financia,
conditions of one in another sphere of
life.
Study the misunderstanding be-
tween the professional man and his sis
Ter VINO is living quiet domestic life.
such lady says: My brother never
answers my letters now as he used to
Go. He never shows me those uttla
courtesies of love ] have right to ex-
pect The last time wrote him he sent
me back a very sharp reply" Yes. INV
SISTER perhaps that is all true. But the
reason you are angry with your BROTH
er IS you. as domestic woman. can
not understand the nervous exhaustion
under which your professional brother