The Minneapolis journal. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn.) 1888-1939, 1903-11-23
most beautiful of women, when her
mirror told her she was nothing Of

most beautiful of women, when her
mirror told her she was nothing OF
the sort2
While I was at this friends home
her husband told at dinner Of some
thing funny that had happened that
day in the office, addressing his re-
marks directly to her. She made no
pretense Of listening, and evidently did
not hear a word.
"You don't seem to see anything
funny in that?"
"Oh, never listened to it at all. I
thought likely it was as stupid as the
stories you usually tell''-rudeness In
her manner as In her words.
She often signs because marriage is
80 different from the girls dream, yet
she never blames herself for any part
Of the failure. Still, as she could
this lack of courtesy to the man whom
she had sworn before God to love and
to honor, she may not be wholly free
from fault. Should you, present low
ers, call the marriage in which such
as this was common occurrence, a
success or failure?
In the course of my wanderings to
and fro have often spent some time
at a house where there never has been
meal finished without some fault
finding by the master thereof. This
is not due to ill-cooked food, for the
wife prepares good dishes and sees
chicken is boiled, ''Why didn't you
fry this?" If 1t is fried, 'Why wasn't
| 1t boiled 2" Or perhaps the complaint
will be that chicken was cooked at all
when he wanted fish. The vegetables
| were always over or under done;
| something that he wanted and had not
spoken about had not been prepared.
Maybe it would be, "I've been trying
| ever since I was married to teach
Polly to make bread, but it seems i'm
possible for her to get it into her
head" and the bread as light and
sweet as bread ought to be. Heaven
help the woman whose husband thinks
he can cook, and help her doubly if at
the same time he has the grum bling
habit!
| If you sat at the table three times
daily to. such remarks, you dear little
! bride of the future, what would life
be worth to you? Yet this man has
been much loved of women and has
made three wives happy-or misera-
bic well, conscious of few of their
defects, let us say. But to some
women it would be bitter bread that
had that flavor; one would be as COM
Portable walking on tacks as living
with man who is never suited, never
praising, but always finding fault.
I have never seen an instance of a
very happy marriage when the
woman was the bread winner, if the
husband were a strong, well man. II
a woman makes home and cares
properly for the husband and chill
dren who should be in it, she has
business enough within the walls OF
her house. Whatever she does out.
side is JUST so much taken from the
strength and thought that belong
rightly to the home and it's inmates
From the beginning it has been WON
ans part to care for what the mar
provided, and this instinct is rooted
back many centuries, and is a. part o.
the human race to-day. So surely az
it is violated for anything but the
greatest need the woman and the mar
suffer for the violation. She grows t.
despise the man who does not provide
for her-though she does not say So
}. and he loses his self-respect.
The woman who works with all hel
might to help a man make none.
makes a great Smistake If she is seek
ing happiness, for the money il
bought at the cost of the characte
development in tenderness and unset
fishness that the man needs and get
, when he looks after his wife as h
. wants to when he marries. It shoult
| be some very strong cause that lead
her to take from him this right to al
j unselfish manhood. The woman VIII
) makes true home does more for tn
J man than she does by going into tn