The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1903-11-25

| marrleS sue mas never nanQleQ any
money. Everything she has had has
been given her and she knows abso.
lutely nothing of the purchase power
of dollar. 1t is the young husband )
duty to teach her this, and to make
her understand the exact limitations
of their finances. A man is a churl
who is niggardly to his wife, but he is
a coward if he allows her to run him
in debt. Women have o horror Of
owing money, and il their husbands
would frankly explain to them just
what they can afford to have and give
that freely, no matter how little it is,
few women would ever complain. The
man who does not do this, and who
does not make his wife q partner in
his business as well as his home,
makes fatal mistake. He has to
combat extravaganza that he might
have turned into thrift; inefficiency
that might have been his greatest help
aud he has always millstone about
his neck dragging him down, instead
Of q helping hand pushing him up the
ladder. Women are nearly all good
ananciers when they get the chance,
and it is wonder Of wonders that
men 30 seldom take advantage of this
talent that is rusting at their own fre-
side.
AS for woman being good house
keeper, man has simply the right to
demand that of his vito. Mean bread
ought to be the first cause for divorce,
and muddy coffee offers sufficient
grounds for separation and slimony.
In these days Of good cookbooks, there
is no possible excuse for woman
who has even rudimentsry intelligence
setting her husband down to meal
that is not properly cooked and serv.
ed, and he should refuse to be made
the victim Of her laziness and inoom-
petence. In this. respect there is
nothing like getting of on the right
foot, and I would most earnestly re-.
commend to any young bridegroom
that he start out with o high stand
ard of housekeeping, and require his
wife to live up to their bridal pres
ents. II she won't do this, if she has
not love enough to make her anxious
TO make her husband comfortable, il
she has no pride in wanting to do her
work we'll, if she has no sense Of duty
to make her want to fulfill her part of
the marriage contract, I should send
her back home, and sue her mother
for having palmed of inferior goods
under false representation.
Inasmuoh as matrimony is the pre-
destined career Of the majority of wo-
men, it is crime that they are not
trained at least in the elementary
knowledge Of how to be good wife,
but men have one comfort. Woman
is wax where she loves, and the hand
Of the man she adores can shape her
into anything he pleases. IF he es.
sablishes high standards for her, she
will meaaure up to them. IF he holds
her to the best that 10 in her, she will
give it to him. II he demands of her
thrift and industry, che will even be-
come Russell Sage in petticoats. In
word, if every man does not get q
good wife, it is because he lacked the
strength, the wisdom and the skill! to
clip and prune and t.ain the oiinging
vine that festoons about him into the
shape that he sdmires.
One word Of warning must be given,
though, to the young man that is start
ing out to train his wife. Remember
that women are kittle cattle to deal
with, and that although they may be
led, they can neve, be driven.