The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1903-08-23
PERSONAL AND CONFIDENTIAL.

1.-THE Journal is i'm frequent receipt of in
quiries of a personal character. the re-
sponses To which seem hardly suited for
insertion in it's regular columns of "Ques-
tons and Answers Replies have COM
monty been made by malt where addresses
were furnished. but have now been placed
in the hands of special editor, well quail
fled a general adviser. and answered in
a separate department. Correspondents
wishing to communicate with this depart
ment will please address "Fidelia" care
of the Journal
L busy man and a bashful man. and
am so situated that meet but few women.
| should like to marry and have thought of
advertising for wife. Don't you think il
possible that women situated like myself
and i'm every way desirable might be
reached in that way?-Bachelor.
IL is possible. but not probable. 1t is un-
doubtedly true that many men and women
fail to marry, make unsuitable mar
riages, because of limited acquaintance
with members of the opposite sex. but very
few women worth having will seek such
acquaintance by answering the advertise
ments of unknown men. Brace up, take
a week or two off and look around among
the women you know Even in very
wife is likely to be found.
A young man think a great deal of is
going away from the town for permanent
stay. He has said nothing about wishing
me To write to him. Do you think | might
mention correspondence Mayme.
Don't do it. Let him miss you and write
the first letter. If he doesn't care to hear
from you enough to indicate his wish you
may as well turn your attention at once to
some other young man.
! was in love for three years with young
lady who turned me down to marry another
man. She has sister. Now I think I'm
in love with the sister, but can't decide
whether | love her for herself or because
she reminds me so strongly of her sister,
William @. Il. 81 think the younger sis
ter likes me.
Your situation is certainly touching But
you are not the only young man who has
had to meet practically the same problem
Perhaps you are Gin love with love" and
not with either sister. In any case. mar
riage is a state, as the prayer book tells us
not TO be entered into lightly, but soberly,
discreetly. wisely and I'm the fear of God -
Try to be reconciled To your first disap-
pointment. treat the second young woman
i'm friendly fashion, and. if you hope to
win her. above all things convince her that
| you love her for herself alone. No seIf-re-
| speeding girl wants her big sisters left
overs
| Can you tell me some easy and pleasant
| way that girl with artistic and literary
| talents can make money?-F. +. III.
| am sorry TO say that l know no way
by which money can be earned except by
hard work and unremtting effort Art
and literature are especially hard taskmas-
| tiers. and in these days of active compe-
| tition neither the one nor the other can
be depended upon to yield a living wage
until after the aspirant has served a faith
| full apprenticeship. Technical perfection
] even granted exceptional talent for the
work in hand-comes only after much prac-
tice. Granted that you have pretty talent
| for painting. you can find ready market
| for artistic dinner cards. Odd and dainty
cotillion favors are sometimes sought. In
the more strictly commercial lines, photog-
raphy and designing hold out inducements
| to the artistic girl who is also industrious
and ambitious. Stories and verses may
be submitted TO magazine editors who have
an eagle eye for promising work. In neither
line. however. will amateurs work be in
! demand
Do you think IL the height of Ill breeding
or an unladylike act TO recognize friend
| from a distance at the theater by slightly
| raising the hand?-D. V. o.
1t Is not the height OF i'll breeding OF
necessarily uniadylike. but it is unconven-
| tional aud IL would be well for young
women in public places TO refrain from
signals or other informal indications OF
| familiar acquaintance that though perfect
| ly innocent and harmless I'm themselves OF
| in a circle of friends, might be mscon-
strued by strangers. Conventional observ-
ances usually have sound reason for their
| existence.