The Minneapolis journal., 1903-12-28

What about the man who is mas
terful and domineering? How is his
wife to treat him?
If she, would not lose her 1, own and
her husbands respect, she VIII not
quarrel will not scold, will not nag.
She need not resort to means which
are beneath the dignity Of refined
woman.
Let the wife appreciate that she is
her husbands equal, his friend, his
partner-not his slave nor his toy.
She must also have such love for him
that when an issue of no import arises,
and he asks in a kind, considerate way
that he have things as he wishes them,
she will gladly yield to his desires. 1t
is q. safe rule for married life that, ex-
must yield it should be the wife. But
let her do it thru love, not thru slavlsh
obedience, and let it be only in mat
ters in which the man has right to
make demands.
The main point is not what IS asked
by the man, but how 1t Is asked we
have not 80 much to do with the mat
ter Of the demand as with the manner
of it. Every dutiful wife has a right
to exact a courteous manner ana gen
tlemanly speech from her husband.
TO attain this end she will discour-
age at the outset any rough language.
One bride, within month OF her mar
riage, showed with gentle dignity that
she would allow nothing but courteous
treatment from her Hege LORD. Ihey
were entertaining a few friends IN
their new home. The bride made q
statement which the husband contra
d1cted. She hesitated a minute ,then
said, gently ..-.r.~-~ =,
John, I think that was the way
that happened. I may, however, be
mistaken" 6 .
The savage, latent IN every man,
sprang-as is frequently the case,
without sufficient cause-to the front.
Mistaken! You are not only mis-, ms,
taken, but you are talking like fool!',
The thorobred wife confronted all
evidence of agitation except her rising
color. Tactfully changing the subject,
she chatted pleasantly on until the last
guest had departed. Then, as her
husband. forgetful of what had nap
pened, and quite his usual good nat
ured self again, turned to her with
smiling remark, she said quietly
John. dear, there Is a little matter
want to talk to you about. SIT down.
please, here on the sofa, by me-
And as he, wondering at her gravity
followed her suggestion, she con-
tinued: ,...- ta- o. .,.'.-.s. ......- ..-
Dear, you know that I love. you
and that 1 would bear anything that
was necessary for you. Rut there Is
one unnecessary thing that / cannot
promise to bear. and that is rudeness
I am not used to it. L married gen
tleman. not q boor. So, John, dear
YOU must not speak to me again az
YOU did tonight, if I am to continue
to love you and respect you. You anC
I are equals, husband and wife. not
master and slave. 1 know you d1c
not mean what you said But you
cannot say such things to me. l coulC
not resent it where our guests were
But it cut me-and, dear. it disap.
pointed me. 1 am sure, knowing this
you will not make that mistake again.
Being a gentleman, he never did
Had he not been a gentleman at heart
he might have answered brutally. In
which case, silence on the part of the
wife would have been the only wise
course. She should then have waited
until some more propitious time before
speaking again Of the matter, or, had
the offense never been repeated, moi
mentioned it again.
But most men are gentlemen, II
treated as such. If a woman is uni.
formly courteous to a. man, he is
unless under all his polish, Of the stuff
of which beasts are made-usually
courteous to her. This being true, sht
will overlook his occasional lapses int
irritability, and meet them with the
silence that is golden Not with
Bulky silence, but with. the gentle quie
that seems to throw a mantle O
charity over his ill-humor and condon'
it because it is such an unusual thing
Then, when opportunity Offers IL
other words, when her husband pause
in his complaints, she will cheerful,
talk Of something else and distract hi
attention from the point at issue.
But suppose he is, at heart, tn