The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1903-07-09

~ Whats the matter?"
"Oh, my sisters sister-in-law's hus-
band is very i'll; not expected to live!
If he dies, there'll be his wife and three
children left without any support, and
the whole family will have to bunk in
on my sisters husband and he has as
much as he can do to take care of his
own. What II become of my poor sister
1 don't know. She and I are, both of
US, nearly crazy
But it isn't your own personal
trouble. is it?'
mo. but I'm troubled to death on my
poor sisters account
But it is not even your sisters
trouble. directly Isn't it your sisters
sister-in-law's husband who is ill? He
is the one who suffers
Yes, but it's cruel and inhuman not
to worry over your relatives troubles"
rs it, indeed? Can you do your rela-
tives the slightest good by fretting
vfcariously for them? Did you ever
see any woman al all do any good even
to those she loves best by fretting and
worrying over their misfortunes?"
mo. 1 don't say I ever did. But do
say we'd be inhuman monsters if we
didn't sympathize with our own family
in their griefs.''
"Sympathize with them. yes. Bur
what's the good of making a dozen
persons miserable over one individuals
mishaps. Upon my word that consti-
tutes half the trouble of women in this
/ life worrying over other people. They
| think it shows off their womanly, SYM
pathetic nature to advantage, when
often it merely shows off a sickly senti-
mentalism Now, look here:
Troubles and misfertunes are the
outward casting off of erroneous mental
conditions. Physicians tell us even dis
ease is many a time the outcome Of
wrong thoughts. Bad habits which re-
suit in disease certainly come from
! wrong thought and desire. Now. you
would not put on your relatives old,
secondhand garments and hug them
fondly to you and wear them, would
you? Then why should you wear their
troubles, especially when you cannot
thereby do them a grain Of good and
only do yourself harm?
THE only result of fret and worry
to a woman. even over her own
miseries. is that she grows old and
haggard and wrinkled and upsets
her digestion and nervous system.
| AS she thus Injuries her body, in the
like ratio she upsets her mental poise
and injuries her very power to help
herself and others. Is it worth while?"
| But there's my sisters only son
going to the bad. Oughtnt she to worry
over that?''
NO a thousand times MOI She has
done all she could to stop him. Now
let him go. In his case there seems no
other way. No mother owns her chill
dren. After reaching years of account
ability they are as much individuals as
she is. They must live their own lives,
must save their own souls. She has
done her best prayerfully for them; now
themselves. They must learn the les
sons they need most from experiences
of their own. She would be doing them
a wrong if she sought to take their
troubles on herself, even if she could.
In the great round up every soul must
stand for itself"
But any woman with a speck of
heart can't stop worrying"
Don't tell me that You can stop
worrying. Any woman with a speck
of brains knows that she has within her
the God power to control her own emo
tions, every one. She knows. too, that
only evil comes from fretting and anxi-
ETY.. Therefore she casts this harmful
thought all out of her mind and trusts
to the good God to bring everything
right, after she has done the best she
knows. The worry habit is every whit
as injurious as the tobacco or alcohol
habit and there is not a woman living
who cannot break it off. Especially
she can stop the unpleasant habit Of
putting on secondhand troubles"
JANE MOSES.