Vernon County censor. [volume] (Viroqua, Wis.) 1865-1955, 1903-01-14
woolNG AND NEEDING.
BY Rev. Jenkin LIoyr

"oOhN1 mn w h1OOlN1.
BY Rev. Jenkfn Lloyd Jones.
The wou home" seems TO spring
from ROD that indicates an inclosure;
it suggestsa place of seclusion. What
night is I'd exhausted nature the home
is to the Eoul of mana place into
which he escapes after he has been bat
tered against the hard corners of an
exacting Iorld 10 regain his poise, to
renew his strength. Happy is he who
has a resting place where the fippant
tongue dos not irritate and where jest
and GOSSIP do not follow. Happy is she
who has place where she may trust
her avera.e self, her normal personal
ity without being bolstered by the arti-
localities of dress, formality and the
etiquette 5f society Under such cir
cumstancis does the spirit reach its
maximum power mind assert its SUI
premacy ,ver matter and the soul rise
superior = body
1t goes without saving, then. that the
union of nan and woman in marriage
is the me,t holy and sacred of unions.
1t is not pnly the true basis of society,
but within its sacred precincts the indi-
vidual reiches his or her maximum.
Marriage is that mystic chemistry of
the spirit.which blends two lives in oae
and still leaves each life larger. nobler,
freer than before. / have no new words
with with 10 characterize this stlolrs-
est. diyiIest passion of the human
heart that winch gives us the best
name For the Deity itself, the passion
that has such overmastering power
that it gives TO life its divinest costa
sizes and its saddest agonies. Love gives
at once the highest glory and the dark
est shame of mankind.
Who dare undertake to prescribe the
method Or to analyze the motions of
this ruling passion? J. at least, will not
mock the fathOmleSs river with my
petty plummet Love may well scorn
the small dykes of prudential eXpedi-
encies that attempt TO stay or swerve
the splendid torrent in the heart of man
or woman There is but one golden rule
in wooing. and that is simple loving.
The worst enemy of the home is the
irreverent maker of matches, however
kind her motives
From this most sacred period and
most critical crisis in the life of Il
young man or woman let the tongue of
gossip be silenced and the meddlesome
hand hold off If in superintendent
gar you must indulge in banter and
in joke, go trifle with the man whose
business prospects are tumbling into
ruin; perpetrate your puns upon the
women wheN the flame is setting its
teeth into the ridge pole of her house,
but. in the name of All purity, let the
trifing tongue be still where the heart
of boy or girl is learning the alphabet
of love. for it is Altogether probable that
in these months and years the clock of
their ideal strikes twelve. 1t is then If
ever the soul finds its Bethel places,
and. however rugged the mountain top
MAY be. there the celestial ladder is
discovered.
Ny first rule. then. is concerning WOO
ing; keep fippant hands off and beware
OF trifiing. l know of no more insidi-
Gus poison to vitiate the purity and
innuendo, the persistent joking which
even married men and women, who
ought to have learned better by expert
ence. infiict upon those who are tasting
the bitter-sweet joys of wooing.
70 those who have the celebrating
but dangerous passage to make l
would say that. while 1 believe much
in the subtle attraction that is the inner
call of love, and while there is no sub
stftute for that grayitation which must
eventually direct the tides of the heart,
vet because you are men and women
YOU must remember that you are some
thing more than doves, and wooing
must have in it a higher and stronger
element than merely cooling. True
courtship must contain Il large invest
ment of intellect as well as of heart.
The home-maker must be Il thinking
as well as feeling being, and a little
wise forethought may save many bitter
afterthoughts. Great deliberation be-
comes those who would wisely wed.
Hasty recklessness bargains for the
agony of the divorce court. Saddest Sc
quels often follow happiest wooings.
SOberness. not fun. should direct this
high undertaking The ecstasy of the
moment may be but Il passing breeze,
an exhilaration related more to lust
than to love. \ pretty face may charm,
but il is the store of mind that sustains.
Intelligence. not romance, furnishes the
material for home-making