The Savannah morning news., 1902-06-01

other woman's husband-has his ideal
of a wife.
1.-THE kind he likes dresses hand
somely and becomingly on a very
small allowance. She must never go
into debt for anything, but must al
ways pay ready money, whether she
can manage to get it from him or not.
Her jewels must on no account be
eclipsed by those of any other women
of her set, but when she buys Them
and the bill comes in, her husband is
furious about the outlay.
He sulks for a week, but then he
would have sulked quite as long if,
at the last dinner party, she had shone
a secondary star to any lady of their
acquaintance.
"a man loves his wife to be gentle
and sympathetic to himself. If she is
too much SO to her boys, and they take
advantage of it and get into debt and
go to her to help them out, then he
says: Bother sympathy
IF she is too good to the poor, and
gives them of the household abund-
ance, he is apt to be cynical and CEN
sorious-talks of encouraging a parcel
of idle rogues' of 'indiscriminate char
ity,' and the harm it does, and of the
danger of pauperizing the needy.
None of these considerations, how
ever, prevent him from giving to char
tiles that print his name at the head
of the subscription lists, or forking out
a quarter for cases that come under
his immediate notice. 1t is only the
wife who is to subordinate her kindly
impulses to considera lions of political
economy.
"A man likes his wife to be cheerful
He does not always concern himself
very particularly about the means to
make and keep her so, but he disap-
proves utterly of a sad or pensive foe.
He may cut her to the quick with
some bitter word before he leaves
home in the morning, but he is ex-
tremely annoyed if he perceives on re-
turning any signs of the wound he has
inflicted.
"a man hits hard, but he never ex-
poets to see a bruise. He has forgiven
himself for administering the blow;
why should not the recipient be equal
ly quick about forgetting it?
"A man likes his wife to be intelli-
gent, quite sufficiently so to be able
to conduct the concerns of life, and
to appreciate his own Intellectual parts
and enjoy stray ebullitions of his wit
and humor.
She must applaud these with dis
elimination, and in that delicate man
ner which infers no surprise at his pos
sessing brilliancy.
But he Is exasperated should she
be too. intelligent. His depths are to
be inviolate, but he likes to sound her
shadows; and so well does she know
this that she often assures a shall
lowness when she has 1t not"
Inn
wise, some one-an amusing and witty
some one-has been writing a book
about them. 1t is a book about mar
riace, mot marriage with big NJ. but
Just a nice. simple handbook to the
art The youthful wife Is given many
valuable and not too solemn tips on
the management of that fiighty plro'
the new husband. For instance, listen
to this counsel to those in their year
of honey"
Mrs. Caryle must. indeed, have had
to bear up" against a good deal; and
with her as a shining example OF stol-
cisn, we would make so bold as to ofIer
this sound piece of advice to the young
bride; namely, under all and any un-
toward circumstances, NEVER To
WEEP. Do anything rather than that
The first time you weep, your pride
groom will probably sympathize; the
second time he will be slightly indiHer-
ent; the third time he will-fatal word!
be bored. 1t is only in novels aho
plays that people like crying, or tha'
bridegrooms say, Weep always, dear
est creature, on my shoulder" Tears
are so charming in fiction, but are any
thing but charming in real life, besides
being, as q rule, very unbecominS
Only one woman in fifty can cry with
out her eyes becoming swollen and her
nose red; and ii is such paltry details
as these that are the beginning OF the
end of love, which is, after all, only
in its infancy in the honeymoon.
And there is yet another element OF
uncertainty about the happiness OF the
year of honey" 1t may be accepted
as a pretty general rule that two peo-
nile rarely love one another equally; II
nav (often) be simply a question OF
temperament but such is the fact. ii
a touiours run qui aime, ct Pautre qui
So laisse Amer. One has to adore, the
other to be adored; one or other must
therefore, have his or her little pedes-
tal or shrine II is in these little
shrines that the happiness OF most
households lies. The husband who said
'aThank Heaven. | am not SELFISH! and
then proceeded to take the only peach
in the dish, while he passed the apples
on to his wife, presumably occupied
such little pedestal TO his WIFE salts
faction quite as much as to his own
One of the couple has got TO give way
10 the other. and the first year settles
which II shall be. II is said, ! know
not with what truth. that the happi-
est households are those where the wife
Ia kes the lead in small affairs and the
husband in big affairs; il is generally
however, only for the FIRST year or "a
that there Is much lead" 70 take, for
after that. IN all well-assorted mar
riages at least. there should seem "a
be no great dividing Of the ways.
Writing about riches Dorothy DIX.
IN the New Orleans Picayune, says
have bern IN magnificent homes Nhefe
The hustand's every thought was bent