New-York tribune., 1902-08-03
SOME WAYS OF THE WORLD
WHAT THE SOCIAL ASPIRANT SHOULD
AVOID-BRINGING UP THE
MODERN CHILD.

1t would be a great help to society aspirants II
g social chart could be published showing those
who are on pleasure bent and who desirous of
spending pleasant summer. irrespective of any de-
Gliding circumstances. what places the most
desirable for the seasons campaign For no ap-
parent reason, some places frgid to newcomers.
others are temperate Indifferent. while others
again show delightful warmth IN their cordial re-
ception of desirable strangers. New people who
desirous Of entering society are apt TO establlsh
themselves in the most ultra-fashionable To-
calties a Fifth-ave. house in ''Millionaires Row
or a villa Newport seeming at first TO them all
that is necessary in order TO belong TO the social
as well as actual neighborhood- This is fatal
mistake and one that is often irretrievable. for
verdict once passed by society is not easily re
voked A Newport youth whose people are much
fn the swim met at other resort girl whom
he found charming, and who seemed great belle
AT the place they were in One day. to his aston
ishrnent she spoke of Newport as her summer
home But that is my home, too he exciaI1rneo-
novance for she knew very well who he was, but
that he did not place her argued sm 1naT sn I and
desirable every way. her people SIMPLY ha'lIs ing
cI1siye neighborhood without proper credentials
Very chilly indeed is the atm9sphsre GI eCf'
the neglect and the consequent loneliness become %
sefed aest to be- e9rdaly received the
f1,snds getoR oh am afraid they are having dreary
time poor things and 1t is really very hard on on
me for potaT am e oe to OF death ne Unless they have
exceptional advantage, people who are ON, on l4o 4o
become by going TO Newport ana & ho% tbev
Night 5iT become socially prominent among very nice
Ieople and have beautiful time, while here lney
remain nobodies
TWO METHODS OF CHILD TRAINING.
Mrs A and Mrs. z. have such diametr1cally op-
oste theories and methods in regard TO the tram
i,r NJ their Young daughters that am rather
curious TO see the result remarked inutuai
friend The former keeps her children IN s'riC'
saclusion. They take their meals In the soIoo
room, with the governess and never dine with tner
,.-.,+s ,,n4r they are sixteen, and even then are
NOT expected to take part in the general coIi'eis
ton IL there are guests. unless Directly auuIeSSeu
They are happy little things, however ana IN thett
oun domain are not suppressed. but even there IL
,,,- -e-,in5s one of the gayety and liveliness OF
l,.4le "a ged birds must acknowledge that as IaI
as the elders concerned this system Is q go
relief There is noise or nagg1ns Oh any hlHN'
the father can come home and find an atmosphere
e ,,,iet and reace The children prettily dressed
an5 IN their best behavior, come 10 him aIter ne
has had his comfortable dinner and is ready 10 en-
iov their company. As say, for the seniors Vi
family such a training is perfect and cannot De
too highly commended. The only question Is Does
81 5evelop the children they should be developer
Is such suppression good for them in after me- of
rather does it contribute TO their future success IN
the great world outside Of the narrow walk OF 'eii
was told not to talk to older people until
was eighteen. and then was sent out 70 90 GnnG5 fI
parties and told TO make myself agreeao!e: Sa1e
one OF these beautifully brought up InalGgIe TIe
1iairrfxely hut / can't say word so IN nine
cases out of ten she sits a wall flower, while her
mother has the modification OF seeing the type
thaf She has always disapproved Of score dis
tnct success. ~, 1, ..oor,,
.In contradistinction to Mrs. A, Mrs rs theory
is that children should be always made Welcoile.
and she not only has them with her al a unles "a a.
home hut she takes them with her wherever sue
goes They are pretty and attractive and reGetas
Icf Of attention. VIII this be bad for tneIn later
on or will IL develop them and give them CON
fdence in the worlds approval? Constituted as
7 world is nowadays. ! very much fear that the
admirable displine maintained in the a mouse
hold will prove handicap while the hlSn Splits
and ready chatter fostered by fndulgent MIS- IL
viu insure the confidence that begets success
aIVhat a difference there is in the attraction OF
those two girlsr' said older woman SPEAKING
of a couple Of debutantes one a dignlheo nnaiotet
Of the highest breeding and the other regular lit
tie chatferbox whose manners certainly lacked the
form Of We're de We're -.
yes isn't thereg" answered the man quite ms, Us,
,,nderefaDding her preference. II cannot get on at
ali Win Miss s She is so dreadfuily stiff. but
Miss NJ is no end of good sort!