The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1902-02-23
THE NAN TO MARRY.
The Qualifications Necessary TO Make a Man
Good husband


| mean sensible woman. A flirt may
be satisfied to marry fop Under or
binary conditions all women want to
marry. 1t is wise they should. But it
is vastly important that they marry the
right kind of a man. All men are not
fit for husbands.
Who is fit to be husband? The
qualifications are numerous; only few
can be mentioned now.
To be good husband man must be
Industrious. A lazy man is not At to
live, or to die. or to be a husband. A
woman ought never to marry a man
who is not diligently pursuing some hon.
orable occupation. Laziness brings pow
erty. and poverty entails thousand
wants that must go unsupplied, This
brings sorrow, dependency and wretch
edness
A man fit to be a husband must de-
votedly love the woman he asks to be
his wife. Nothing but real love can
bind husband and wife together in the
sweet ties of conjugal and domestic
union. A woman should use all wise
means to determine whether her sutton
J is actuated by genuine or only pretend
ed love. Her future happiness depends
on this. If a man is moral, Industrious
and loves devotedly, then the main con-
ditions for happiness have been met.
| Intelligence is an important qualifica-
tion for good husband. This does not
mean that he must be a college bred
man. In this day of schools, and books.
and periodicals, any one who will may
be intelligent. The world is full of
knowledge, and one only has to open his
eyes and ears and take ii in to be intel
ligent. There is no excuse for ignor-
ance. An ignorant man is not fit to be
( the head of a family. He is not quail
fed TO manage business, or give wise in
struction to the members of house
/ hold. Go into any home, and mingle
with the children, and you can readily
tell to what extent the parents are in
telligent and refined.
! A husband should be moral and sober.
A woman should shun, as she would a
deadly pestilence, the man of immoral,
impure and degrading habits. Such
habits have brought bitter sorrow to
mnay a virtuous wife. Such habits are
! hard to throw off, and if thrown off they
leave indelible scars and moral weak
ness behind.
! No woman can wisely choose drink
ing man for a husband She knows
that drinking leads to drunkenness; and
to marry such man is to take the fear
/ full risk Of being drunkard's wife, than
which no life can be more wretched. Let
the fair women of our land save them
selves from the awful fate of being
drunkard's wives.
/ But to be a genuine Christian is the
crowning qualification for q good hus-
band. Genuine Christianity Carries with
it nearly all the essentials for the make
UP of a good husband; such as industry,
economy, intelligence, purity, sobriety
/ and love of home. 1t is sad for Chris
| tian wife to have an ungodly husband,
about whose salvation she is intensely
anxious. 1t Is unspeakably sad for chill
dren TO grow up in home where the
/ father cannot give them religious train
I ing. and whose sinful life leads the chill
dren astray.
/ To be a husband and father involves
tremendous responsibility. As husband
he is bound to love, protect and provide
| for his wife. AS father, God holds him
responsible for the moral, intellectual
and religious training of his children.
How careful, then, woman ought to
be in selecting husband! Mothers
ought to give their daughters wise coun-
ell on this important matter.
]. A. STRADLEY.
| Oxford \ C. Feb. 90