The sun., 1902-01-12
BACHELORS ARE IN LUCK NOW
MEN IN VERY GREAT DEMAND AT
N0CIAL ENTERTAINMENTS.
u The, Have the Proper Qualities.
therefore, They May Dance and
Feast All the Year - Glasses Of Eli
,,ble HachelOrs a WOnlan's lament

xlble Bacheiors wonians Lament.
.To he a bachelor in New York is now
s-davs what Henry James would call the
,,aat good thing. II does not matter II
Iis means are 80 limited that he can barely
nav his living expenses. II he has any
socal position, and even II he In without
social position but possesses good looks,
charm or accomplishments he may go
through a winter brilliantly and perhaps
marry well II good opportunity comes
along So spoke a woman OF experience.
A poor girl in society hasn't n ghost OF a
show" she went on. unless some wealthy
relative stands sponsor for her. She abso-
h,tely must have gowns and even then she
has 10 possess decided charm of some sort
n she hopes to marry well. But man with
euE,ient income 10 dress on, and he can
dr., well on less than n fourth OF what
II costs his sister, is feted. nattered and
made much of, not as desirable catch. but
A. an addition 10 dinners and parties.
An English woman recently scolded
English bachelors for their selfshness
I'm regard to accepting social favors con-
st1a,lv without making any return to their
l,.tessas. The writer describes conditions
ia America as being vastly different and
sars that girls on this side of tho water
receive better treatment from their bachelor
friends while all obligations TO their host
esses are returned in fun.
This is a greatly mistaken notion. l have
been closely in touch with social affairs
for many years and ] know that many
men are invited 10 dinners and other en-
tertainments because they dance well or
tall, well or firt well. They are not eligible
men and never return their social debts,
The fact of the matter is. that conditions
have changed within the last ten years or
more Bachelors in America are sought after
for their society and have so many inv-
to,ions that they no longer feel themselves
under any obligations FOR the hospitality
that il so freely extended TO them
-The American bachelor spends all his
income on himself. his clothes, his apart
mcnt. his cabs. OF course | do not mean
tnnt any of the rich bachelors in society
ar prnurious. Many of them entertain
throughout the winter and the summer.
None Of them, however. does as much as
h. should in the way Of returning enter
tannents.
But am referring TO the large number
OF Young men who are always invited out
and never in any way do anything
To return their social debts and are
and make a good appearance. dine out
seven nights in the week, put In an appear
an, at the opera, the Horse Show and at
all tho larger functions always as guests.
Some of them send a few boxes OF
flowers TO their hostcsses during winter,
while others do not go even so far as this.
The average bachelor makes not the slightest
attempt 10 seem cognizant OF the fact that
he is receiving constant entertainment
. .Hostesses have learned that the most
successful parties are those at which the
men guests Outnumber the women by far
IL is getting to be quite the thing to have
a double number Of men on list. Above
ALL IA there a demand for the men classi-
fed as dancing men, as dinner men, anc
corner men as the chaps who are most
popular for their good looks are called
SThe dancing men are the most rare
and the most difficult TO obtain. IL one
gives a dance there must be men to dance
with. Not merely rich men or clever mer
or handsome men, but men who can dance
and who will do So.
-The cotiliun kaders head tho list and
then follow the men who are known as
willing performers IA the German. skilled
~ o. king their partners through difcult
figures, enthusiastic twc-sleppers and
waivers who ar" seh-SacrlhCihg enough
TO ia Ike out "a " debutantas and hGperons.
Men of this sort will have their ha nds
filed through season and, mark you,
they may be extremely unintcTesting in
every other way. but II they once get on
the list of the dancing men their entertain
ment s assured
THE dinner man Is quite different. He
may not be ablc to dance a step. He
rarely does. but he Is "a good talker and Is
known % he clever iu some line. He
h,s fund OF anecdote. badinage and COM
pl'Weularv phrases
lie knows his opera and IL up In the
plays aud books. He may be- even trlfie
eccentric II he can and viii talk during
the courses of a dinner and keep things
from DecOfninR stupid.
THE corner man IL never invited 90
dinners especially, but hs fills Ia delight
fully At house parties ard dance, he eli =
out with the cha p-fOns Hnd ma kes him
elf useful Ia getting loss and chair, even
in ordering carriages. Some p@oll" oall
the corner man the tam" cat. fOf the reason
that he IL always hanging about ~ teas
and ~ functions which n"n d-si'ire NJ
a rule.
sHe Il even known 90 pat in an apIsaT-
sncs at womru- club fucuIiioir good
eufn.r man uau s'-l through a Wiutrr lsauti-
fully on an income that ould uot ke-p
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many oaurss lui the most powerful one
l. ths fat thht NuuInn, within "a" Ilari
frv yrafr, have lH'n marrying rioh in-li
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