The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1902-03-01

| withdrawn. Whether the decision of
| the faculty has been brought about
through any especial cause or is SIM
ply the result of a gradual change of
| sentiment throughout the country is not
| explained, but it is presumably the lat
| ter. There has certainly been a rapidly
/ growing sentiment in America in favor
/ of the chaperon Even in the wild and
| woody west social forms are more
| complicated than a few years ago and
| the girl of good family no longer goes
| driving or to the theater alone with a
| eron has become recognized necessity
| in Uncle Sans country. We have i'm
| ported her from Europe along with our
| other Injuries Just how she is going
to affect the matrimonial market in the
end is a, question. The American man
does not as a rule look upon her with
favor. In a very exclusive social circle
of a certain eastern city chaperonage
is carried to such an extent that the
young men complain of never having
chance to get acquainted with the
girls. Those who decline to be dragged to
balls are reduced to dinner or calling
acquaintance. the latter, of course, in
presence of a chaperon. Now how in
the world is man to indulge in senti-
ment or form strong friendship under
such conditions? However that may be,
the select circle of the city in question
can show a surprising number of
spinsterS, and it is not by any means
lack of attractions that is the cause.
Weeping Women Out of Date.
Men have laughed, and women have
wept for ages Woman's tears have
been featured far more than they de-
serve. and the heroines of the old fash
Toned novels must have been a damp.
red-eyed lot of girls even in their most
joyous moments says the Woman's
Home Companion.
The fact is that women have over
done their crying, and have allowed
any amount of health, courage and
force to ooze from their tear-glands.
Weeping in the old days was really
fashionable as fainting, and the poems
of Moore and Byron dwell ecstatically
upon the tears of the various Julias
and Marys of their songs, so crying
spells must have had their charm in
those days. as well as ringlets and
wasp waists.
But the woman of the future will
laugh, and will be all the better for it.
Girls have never been allowed to culti-
vate a humorous sense as they grew up
until within quite recent years, when
intelligence is gaining such victories in
the nursery. Boistrous conduct or loud
laughter have always been reproved in
little girls while in a boy such exu-
berance is regarded as a natural and
healthy sex attribute This is one of
the reasons that the humorous sense,
which in children is usually evidenced
in the love of frolic, is killed in the
feminine nature. To laugh is rude.
That constitutes the law for the wo-
man child in whose brain-cells mis-
chievous fun is beginning to bubble.
The result of all this is that few wo-
men know how to laugh. The laugh
of the child is repreSSed and it develops
into giggIe of the girl. Then the giggle
is criticised, and many women continue.
in their efforts to be polite, to gurgle
and gasp into their handkerchiefs until
the end of the chapter.
Mothers Talk Too Much.
ct wish mothers would no+ +aIl so
much said a schoolboy, coloring with
vexatiOn as some foolish remark of his
maternal parent concerning his excep
tlonal ability was repeated to him. 1t
is a consumma ton devoutly desired by
most young people, who in the super
constituencies of youth fairly writhe
sometimes when they overhear their
fond mammas relating their exploits or
repeating their speeches. Boys are es-
pecially thin skinned about this sort of
thing, for the fear of ridicule is one of
the strongest attributes of youths Just
approaching adolescence, and they ex-
aggerate everything appertaining to
themselves with unconscious egotiSm,
not reflecting that the polite listener
seldom pays any attention to the ma
ternal eulogieS, and quite discounts the
rhapsodies says the New York Tribune.
All the same, however, it is not pleas
ant to be discussed. and mothers
should strictly deny themselves the
pleasure of talking about their off
spring. both on account of annoying the
on listeners, and which is not always
favorable. 1t is curious how many
other wise clever women fall into this
mistake, and are Quite blind to the fact
that they not only do not raise their
progeny in the estimation of their
friends, but sometimes actually do them
infinite harm
Il have taken quite dislike to that
young Brown" said a prominent ma
iron recently, speaking of a young man
whose name was proposed for a house |
party she was organizing.
But, why, mammal" queried her |
daughter, You hardly know him.
NO" answered the former but |
know his mother quite well, and 1 have |
often heard her repeat his criticisms of |
people and things, which she considers |
clever, but which sound to me very i'll |
natured and disa greeable. No, Maud |
we won't invite him, for do not desire |
to have our party laughed over by Mrs. |
Brown and her friends at her next lun- |
cheon."
Mrs. z. thinks that every man that !
shows Ethel any attention is in love |
with her." was another comment over |
heard recently on a mothers foolish |
Harry Midas sends Ethel violets oc- |
casionally." This gossip somehow reach |
ed the ears of the shy young man, and |
the violets We're discontinued. 1t is /
hard for mothers to refrain from talk |
ing of what is nearest their thoughts, |
and to be deprived of the gratifica ton |
of prattling about their sons virtues |
and prowess and their daughters tri- |
umPhs, but they should carefully bride |
their tongues in. this respect. knowing /
their world well enough to realize the |