The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1902-02-15
Don't Fret.
Don't fret.

Don't fret"
The usual fashion after this text is
announced is to follow it up with the
admonition that if you do fret you will
make yourself ''old-Iooking.''
Promptly afterward it is told that.
meantime, you will accomplish mot
bit of good
This kind of preaching to women has
become morbid habit, or shallwe mild
ly call it a reckless fad?
Never minding what one may elect
to term these anti-fret sermonettes.
none of them includes rational direc-
lions to lodging this despoliation of
beauty which accompi1shes no beneht
through the sacrifice, says H ETA Web
ster in the Chicago Journal
The weight of the advice rests upon
'old looking" This means that lines
of care and loss of color tell tale in
which worry is the leading feature. 1t
means that the countenance isn't as
smooth and beautifully tinted and
cheerful at is should be in order to be
attractive and young looking.
Certainly there isn't any infatuatiop
in a haggard face. If it be the result of
borrowed trouble or fret over trif1es-
either means is kind neither to herself
nor others. and she is likewise playing
fast and loose with her own happiness.
This kind of foolish woman damages
and spoils her own peace of mind and
that of others. But, as the world goes,
a woman is apt to be the proprietor of
an anxiety which it is her duty
the painful obligation will advertise
itself upon the face and TO the
deterioration of beauty.
No matter how self-controlled the wo-
man may be. an anxiety tinctured with
suffering is an inexorable enemy to her
face. True it IS that real sorrow for
herself or for those she loves. tenDers
the emotion of woman and expresses
itself in ''old-looking."
It's wonder the exhorter who advo-
Gates don't fret" without mitigating
or exceptional conditions, doesn't ex-
plot recipe for an utter disregard of
a voman's woes and the tribuia lions of
those she loves best as well formula
for benumbing the conscience. She must
become callous OF mind and heart con-
corning any grievous duty of her own
or of others before this unqualified adj
vice don't fret" can be acted upon in
it's fullest sense. Only the actual ex-
perience OF callousness can serve as an
antiGote for premature or out-of-seasoD
"old-looking."
True. some women maggie and scold
and whine and make themselves less
attractive of countenance- and in man.
ner without cause. OF such are the wo
men who erratically enjoy their self
magnified miseries and would be lone
some without them. For such women
the retribution lies in old looking"
which in due course becomes their trag-
edy.
Granting that fret" to a. large de-
gree, is temperamental-all that can be
done is to learn the discipline of patience
and forbearance. and then to apply the
bitter training to 1.-The case" until a nor
NAL cheerful resignation is attained.
OF course the woman who follows this
suggestion Will more or less acquire
'old looking while she is training. But
the remedy lies in the honesty of her
patient acceptance of troubles that can
not be paended. Furthermore. she finds
her reward in consequent buoyant
mentality that assures a young look''
to her face in a reflection of itself. in
due course of time and self-subjugation
to the inevitable.
The Care of Lamps.
Lamps are both useful and ornamen-
tai but a certain amount of care must
be given them, so that they will do