Evening times-Republican. [volume] (Marshalltown, Iowa) 1890-1923, 1902-10-17


scribe, "tha, headline man uses brutal
English. Hear him:
MANAGING A HUSBAND.
".Mef Value Freedom and Feace IN
The Home Above Spotless
Cleanliness.
Don't Rub In the Faults.
/" Spare Him Tale OF Household Wor-
ries-Welcome His Friends
Give Him a Den.
and what follows is so good, so true,
that it almost might nave been written
by a man! Here is the article entire,
with unimportant omissions:
AS woman to woman. it may be ac-s
lknowledged that a man does not have
very much of his own way IN his own.
house. Upon this statement there Will
be two kinds of comment. One Will
contradict my assertion and bring forth
Instances innumerablo II men who have
ruled their households with a rod of
iron The other commentators will in
aulre calmly: Why should he? He
has his way in his business. Let the
wife have things as she wants them
at hon.o:
Both of these assertions are true.
There are domestic tsrants. But they
are the exception rather than the rule.
The house is peculiarly the wife,s do
main, but she should reign here as
queen consort, not as absolute soNer-
e.gn. She does not interfere in her
husbands business, but neither does
she put money into its support. The
man who pays the bills for running the
house surely has-or should have
some rights in the establishment
1.-The fault into which many young
housekeepers glide unconseiously is
that OF thinking the house of more i'm
portance than the man. They are so
DESTROYS to make the best use of the
money given them for the maintenance
OF the home. to take the best care OF
the goods and chalteis that have been
bought with the mans money, that they
let this desire render them careless of
other considerations. One of these is
that there are certain things man
would rather have than economy and a
spotless holse kept in apple-pie order.
He would rather have a place where he
could feel fully and freely at his ease.
He would prefer TO be at liberty to
bring home friend to Il meal to having
the Housekeeping accounts brought
down so cents lower III the course of the
week. He would find i'll more OF COM
fort TO be able TO smoke where he
pleased and stretch himself out on the
cushions of the drawing room divan
when he felt like it than to see the fur
nilure undisturbed and to know that
Isfilp curtains were ulSinOkeU.
"'All day long the man is at work IN
ian office. lie has his compensations--
be sure of that!--but still he works
| hard. He is with people from morning
Iuntll hight. AS the day draws to an
end his thoughts turn TO his home as
to the haven where he will escape all
the racket and bother that wait upon
| him here. When he comes home he
wants a place where he can have peace.
The woman, too, mas worked much
or perhaps all, of the day. Her toll has
been OF a different character. She has
/ Things to bother her more than she has
| had people. Perhaps she does not APP
preciate the craving hef husband feels
i to get away from every one. But she
d should at least recognize this desire in
1 him and provide him AN opportunity to
| indulge it.
".When possible man should have a
| den where he can shut himself away
from the world while he lets his
strained nerves relax after the labors
of the day.
In the ideal house. where there Is q
| room or two to spare, the man has d
den. Not a den oGt of a fashion paper
arranged by the wife in accordance
1 .;t!, clio ma Ion
should be, but city of refuge for him
from the frills and fallals that to his
mind cumber the other rooms of the
house. The den that he loves has in il
Aothing that can be hurt by smoke. II
has a lounge where he can nap and q
(. dig chair where he can sit and read his
paper. 1t has a good, 81 ong light. with
40 fancy shades. and ash receivers
4 plenty and a carpet on the floor that
nothing can hurt. There the man car
forget the world and thence he car
/. emerg, refreshed after his period OF
much-needed repose.
(. ".In nat 1t is next to impossible to
achieve this. Everything opens into
/ everything else, and the inhabitants
like the members of the early church
4 have everything in common. When tins
II only llldl ID ilol PIG-eIllplGC
i as a heCroom-it is usually the one
4 opening from the dlawing room, anc
j lignificd by the name of a library-has
j no doors between 1T and the room adj
+. Joining, it is not easy To manage ever
a semblance of privacy for the man oi
the house. When 1T is possible, witt
The aid OF curtains and by planning, Il
keep that part of the dwelling unvisitec
4 when it's nominal owner is taking his
i rest let it be done.
!. 81 can hear the man aforesaid en-
tering into vehement protest agains
such consideration. lie is not a baby
or u sick woman, he viii say, to have
4 his nerves hunored.
""rhat would be a very tactless wife
! who would force tins view of the mat
/ ter upon him. 1t is not necessary fol-
i her to announce to him that She is cod
/ ding him. All she has to do is to rec
ognize the fact that even a man gets
4 tired after a hard day, and manage that
he may have a little quiet either wher
no comes home or While he reads his
paper after dinner.
".Sometimes even this is not possi-
ble in fiat The one room that serves
eor the gathering place of the family is
all that is available for The mans snok-
i ing and loafing room.
"sIn that case the woman should