Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1902-11-01

care for the fate Of the bank when he has
received his pittanee. But the partner is
quite different. His interests are at stake
and he is bound to use great care in the
handling of money wife VIII save and
work and put all her strength into the firm
if she has a partnership in it; otherwise
she will get what she can out of the money
keeper by hook or by crook and let 1t go
at that If she knew the state of AFFAIRS
she would work In harmony with them and
not want gown when there was run on
the bank. But not being aware OF any
business compiled tons she makes her re-
quest at unfortunate times and goes forth
to the world as an extravagant woman,
who has brought her husband to ruin.
little honesty at the start would make
the financial side of marriage mucn pleas
anter. It is not an easy thing to turn ab-
ruptly from the subject Of love and say to
lover:
IT shall not like to ask you for money
when we are married. although I suppose l
shall have to have 1t then as now, so want
you to tell me Just how much We shall
have as a firm and leave 1t subject to my
order. I will conform to its limitations and
act sensibly in the matter of expenditures.
But you must never ask me what do with
my personal share because that VIII be
placing me under restraint and should lose
confidence in my own sense of integrity. I
shall probably tell you everything / do UNI
less you cultivate the husband habit of
meeting my condolences with reproaches.
L
woman, and sensible woman. and shall
not permit you to make me a trickster,
thief or a mendicant"
Their Little Sins.
do not know why women cheat and pre-
varicate and pilfer when the broad and
easy road of truth is SO much better, UNI
less it is the unfortunate habit men have
of making a row whenever they are taxed.
how 6ar't 70 In mr.
the very need of asking hurts and inumili-
have, every man of them. accepted the po-
sition of Providence pro tempore over their
household. L was told the other day OF a
fine, jolly gentleman who rallied his wife
on her diffidence in this way:
Ashamed to ask me for anything? Nom
sense. You can come to me just as you
would go to Cod
And he never knew the supreme egotism
of his speech either. and as long as she
found nothing to smile over in it, all seems
to be going well. But that Is really the at
titude of many men, and 1t Is not to be
criticised. There Is some quality In the
feminine heart which responds to it or love
would not continue to keep the world sweet
and hopeful. Only sometimes the matter
Is not fully understood
Women hate to speak of unpleasant sub
jects. They get the idea early in their ex-
perience that money is very unpleasant
subject indeed. Hence they resort to all
sorts of foolish subterfuges to obtain pos
session of 1t without open speech
Men like directneSs. and never one of
them has learned from Adam that few wo-
men are direct. This does not mean that
they are deceitful. A woman is no more de-
ceitful than man. But she is much more
careful in methods and in speech for fear
she will give offense.
l should think the knowledge that he had
made the wife of his bosom a sneak thief
would be disquieting thing to any man. A
wife has written me of her midnight excur-
sion to her husbands pockets for money.
And l am faint with shame because of 1t.
Il am only taking my own" she says But
she takes 1t in the night shadows, Like a
robber, because she would rather steal than
beg. There is shame and blame somewhere.
Whose Is 1t?
Just as Nature.
Nature sets an example for women In
the desire for things new. She never wears
the castaway leaves of seasons past. There
Is no renade foliage on the trees, no f1aunt-
Ing Of spring colors In the November air.
The skies are yelled in tints the summer
never saw, and the earth, in her age, is as
changeful as maid.
My letter has not been for the purpose of
urging my readers In the confidence corner
to rebellion. I am only reminded by the
Hurt Book" sign that only limited edi-
ton of womanhood is now bravely dressed
Unless woman looks we'll she may as well
move along and give place to those who do.
1t is not a matter Of rich clothing; that Is
inappropriate and vulgar If the least out of
place. But to be trig and tidy and well
shod are the requirements OF these crisp
autumn days, and that matter can be COM
passed without difficulty by most any one.
The influence of dress Is greater than we
own. We feel better, act better and bring
more honor to the ones who love US when
we are properly dressed than we can esti-
mate. And this can be brought to pass by
the use Of judgment in selecting materials
and taste In their construction far more
perfectly than by the use and abuse of a
large bank bill. An addressed woman may
have the wisdom of the sage and the beauty
Of Helen Of Troy, but she is at disadvaN-
tage among her sisters until she becomes
enough like them to be inconspicuous.
Saphos songs, in dingy covers, would be
among the hurt books