New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1902-09-17
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IT REsENTs oFFHAND CRITICISM FROM
THE MASCULINE MIND.
I mentioned the Rocker Club to a man friend
the other day" said Miss MerivaIe, and what do
you think he said?"
Took IT for granted Of course" said Mrs Wei
don, that we meet for the purpose OF gossip. or
even backbiting'
1t was even worse than that. He said We ought
10 be al home attending TO our business"
Did you refer him TO cur husbands said Mrs
Wright. They ought TO know best whether we
neglect our business"
They would testify against US without waiting
for proof" sighed a melancholy looking woman
Mrs. Easley said. Mine wouldn't and the
others looked as II they would Ike 10 say the
same thing. hut RETAINED through tactful con
sideration for the melancholy woman
They might observed Mrs. Weldon, who always
came 10 the rescue. because it is favorite Joke
with men But they don't mean Il, rule
They think IT spells 20 express their apprecia-
ton of US; nevertheless. learn to perceive the
appreciation"
They should express It. however" said Miss
Merivale. One Of the most trying things about
men is their frankness in fauItfnding and their
reserve in praise. The friend I speak Of IS
steel, but he regards II his special privilege
crfttcise me. and then expects me take his
good opinion for granted
Then how do you know he Is true?'
Because I hear from others OF the value he at
taches my friendship II We had no mutual
friends I should long ago have dropped him in
sheer discouragement- And that would have been
an injusticei For If you once prove man a friend
you can count him forever
Then you do think a man worth more than q
a friendT''
Not invariably. You cant compare friends
Each fills a place that no other can fll-whether
man But to hold and enjoy a mans
friendship for years woman must have much pa
tience and must always remember the difference
in the point of vew,'
That's true with wife" said Mrs Wright
and with a mother, too when her sons are grown
She is so apt to find that she and they are facing
different ways! And as you say they take II that
affection brings the privilege Of frankness but sci
dom understand that it also implies the sweeter
How ctaEmingIy you express it, responded Mrs
WelooH a., IoaC . o6 YOU ever nouGe too that We
stand our point OF view?"
That's because We are SO hopelessly feminine
the men who are hopelessly masculine. unless it
I'm afraid your unless is incorrect said Mrs
Easley; i've known women who seemed 70 prefer
Education is the only remedy for that sort Of
as general spokesman by a cheerful mutual con-
sent. To my mindi the elemental woman is al
vious reason And yet men persist In making
such remarks as that Of my friend whenever WON
minds by intelligent intercourse! Many men still
chstteis bought with a prTce and ISte Eo9os ana
main between the walls, ike much furniture"
they have yet learned 20 trust usi If thev
could only believe that individually we can regu-
late lives. and that If freedom and the In
terchange Of thought causes woman to neg
Iect her home affairs then she would neglect them
anyway, even II she were locked up in the house
If thew would believe in us TO that
Then we should all want to rnarry!" tnterrun+ad
Miss Merivale. laughing again.
I'VE all do, don't we?' asked Mrs. Holmes. inno-
Gently.
'Oh. Agnes!" exclaimed her unmarried sister-in
law, distressfUlly.
Never you, mind. Miss Holmes!" put in Miss
MerVale- These naughty married women 6on'1
know how hard it is for some of US to find tI1e
right man. For my part, l would rather he told
bv a friend than husband that l ought m he ~
home now. attending TO my businessi can quarrel
comfortably with the friend, but should hate Ia
Ia ble"'