The St. Louis Republic. [volume] (St. Louis, Mo.) 1888-1919, 1902-08-31

WRITTEN FOR THE SUNDA1 REFCbI1C-
How long should q man remain IN mourning
for q parent, wife. brother or sister? What -
correct mourning attire for a man? s T K u
A man is expected TO wear mourning Tor Il
wife for a year and a half but the mourn
ing Is lightened very much after the first
wear; a year for a parent: six months for a
brother or a sister. \ mans mourning at
tire is never SO particular as Is a womanS.
and a band on the hat and on the sleeve Is
often thought quite sufficient, excepting 1or
a wife. The first mourning for a man Is
ALWAYS black: but after three months. IN
case of the loss of a brother or sister or
parent. gray clothes are worn with a black
band on the sleeve, as well as on the nat.
and always a black tie.
How should 4 young man. going to gee each
day his teacher, & lady. greet her at the door7
Should he say the same thing each day. or MOTH
ing at all? What should one say in the morning.
afternoon and evening" WHAT "oGlt ono say
when the teacher is a man? Is 1t proper Tor Two
| young ladies' to so to the thea'er OF opera IN
the evening without a male companion no"
are they 10 60 when they have No male friends.
II II Is not the proper thing Il 30 unesc5rt-iE
q. Z. .
It IS not necessary to say anything more
than Good morning" or Good evening. as
the case may be. whether the teacher he d
man or a woman. Il is perfectly proper for
two young ladies 10 20 to the theater or
opera without an escort; but II, would he
better If they could take a maid with them
TO the door of the theater or opera-house'
! or. rather. have a maid meet them there
afterwards
When the leading lady Of a GUNNER theatrical
company. staying for several weeks IN a city,
receives flowers from a woman who as a resi-
d.nt OF that city and a stranger 20 her. but
very much interested III nor, is II customary. or
would IL be proper for her 10 acknowledge the
flowers IN any way? II So when and how
It would be perfectly correct to send a let
ter of thanks for the flowers; indeed. II
| would be most incorrect. according to rules
of etiquette and courtesy, not to acknOwi'
edge such a kindness.
Is It the latest style. when calling. to send q
card for each lady in the houSe. or Just one FOR
| your husbands cards when calling On your sin
gle and married friends? Should your cards b.
the same style exactly as those OF your hns6and'
A card should be left for each lady in the
| house and your husbands card should be
left for the gentleman of the house as well.
If there are only ladies' in the family your
husbands card IS left with yours The
| fashion of leaving many cards has, how
ever. been so greatly exaggerated OF late
that when calling upon a family where
there are a number of ladies. 1t is perfectly
correct to leave a card. saying as you give
the card to the servant: For the ladies'
A. , bon. wedding Is II proper for the bird.
At u I1AAN NN-NAH-
10 precsde the bridegroom on entering the pa-lor
when she is to be given away by her father
there will be no brtdesmaidsD2 Should She weai
her left glove on entering the parlor when sl'
Is to be married with a ring? What style Of
clothing IS proper for her father to wear at ar
afternoon wedding How long before the wed
ding day should the cards be given out? u u.
No. the bride should follow the rule that
Is ALWAYS carried out at the church, enter
ing the room on her fathers arm. 1t would
be better not 10 wear the glove at an in
formal home wedding. as there Is always
some awkwardneSS about removing the
glove to put on the ring. If the glove Is
worn. II would be better TO cut the finger OF
the glove out. The brides father should
wear a frock coat, light trousers, black OF
white waistcoat and white foCr-in-hand tie
Cards should be sent out two or three weeks
before the wedding-three weeks are none
too long a time
Which is correct to place the spoon in tn,
spoonholder on the table with the handles up
ward or the bowls on top2 READER
S~poonholders are not fashionable for table
service at present. and spoons should BE III
at the place of each guest at the tab.e
rather than all together in a bowl. II tbs
bowl Is used it would be better to put the
spoons with the handles Up.
kindly tell me whether a lady taking a short
but expensive. trip with a gentlemen. SHOULD
allow him TO pay ali her expenses when she 1
not engaged to him q p d.
II the lady is a friend Of the gentleman
and she accepted his invitation for the triI
she cannot offer to pay the expenses. fol
whether the expenses are large or small
makes no difference She can easily deciin,
the invitation II she does not care to be IN
der obligations.
7 notice that when very dressy person.
tide in hanSons the lady gets In drst and theI