The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1902-05-02
SHE FINDS HUSBANDS.
Woman Whose Business Is to Marry
OF Old Maids.

" SAAaA whose BUSINESS Is TO Marry
OF Old Maids.
There is an educated. well-to-do woman
on the upper east side, who devotes much
OF ner Ilne and some of her money TO
lihulnB husbands Tor old maids. She is
American born, but of foreign parentage.
ana her husband is a fellow countryman
! OF her father
Those who know me only specifically
/ mink 1 am a crank she said i'm = con-
/ versation upon the peculiar kind of phi
lanthropy she has chosen eff they hap
pen 20 be more charitably disposed they
set 1t all down to an inordinate passion
LOT matchmaking. The way I became in
tereSted In my present work. If one may
call It work. in the philanthropic sense
OF the word. is this. In my younger DAYS
/ once came across a novel By the bro
tners Goncourt, in which. among other
Things, 1 found remarkable description
OF the sense Of loneliness which bore
down a poor unmarried woman. IL was a
deep and most convincing psychological
stucy ana II made a profound impression
on me At that time ] was engaged to
marry the man / loved, and the future
seemed 70 have nothing but happiness in
store for me. But the picture OF that girl
haunted me I would imagine myself in
her position, and tearfully cling TO my
fiaIlce, as though fearing TO lose him
and TO remain as lonely and miserable as
the heroine Of that novel
j became intensely interested in the
subject Of old maids in general. and
carefully studied every cEse OF this kind.
tnat came under my observation. There
are thousand and one reasons why some
girls remain unmarried and plain looks
( are certainly not the most frequent cause
or II. one Of the women for whom 7 have
been trying to find husband was decid-
edly the pretuest creature among all the
women I knew At that time She was
4. but she looked . or 20. and she was
Wen formed ana tuli or grace The men
OF her acquaintance kept at a respectful
distance from her. but that was due as I
discovered. 20 certain effect Of melan-
I choly pride and mystery which her face
and manner produced She piQued my
Z curiosity. and I would not rest until
learned the story OF her past life Well
she had been i'm love once. madly in love,
and her passion was reciprOcated. too.
but. unfortunately. she belonged to the
rather numerous tyDe Of women who are
forever raising questions and picking
haWs ID themselves as well as in others
I'm short, she did not think she loved her
young man sufficiently 10 marry him.
and. or course, the more she burroWed In
her own soul the more proof she found
that she was right. The human soul is
/ n SOFT or curiosity EnCD you know You
can find anything you look for there.
Her lover, on the other hand, was a
leTel-headed matter-Of-fact fellow too
busy 70 delve into his s0ui-that is 10 say.
10 make himself eicE 81 he vnaIlyy did
and begged her TO have the wedding as
soon as possible She shook her head
pensively. How can I marry you with
this doubt in my mind% she would say.
suppose that after the wedding 1t be-
comes clearer to me than ever that IL
was all q mistake@ Mistake nothfnEr
he would answer impatiently- It's All
imagination. ] can't live without you.
dearest, and J know that you could not
live without me, either. Throw 1t all out
OF your mind and let us have 10 done and
over with. so that there will be no more
questions and no chance for YOU to make
life burden 70 yourself
Poor fellow he knew very little Of the
psychology OF this kind of women. His
words only egged her on to pick her mo-
tiTes 10 pieces and ne old curiosity shop
yielded her q fresh crop Of misery. The
long and the short of IL is that the ell
gagement was broken of and the young
man married another girl Then it was
that the sOrrOW of her life began TN
earnest. When it was too late she found
out how dear he was To her. When she
saw him the husband OF another woman
she had no more doubts. nor picked any
flaws IN herself. She.was on the verge OF
insanity with jealousy and the sense Of
having voluntarily given up the man she
loved 70 distraction.
Years passed. She got over her jeal-
o9sy. and her love, and her dualms az
self-accusatiOn. but the sad. pensive eX-
preston. which her face bore during the
first three or four years Of that mans
married life has chung 10 her beautiful
features. I won her confidence. She laid
f, her heart bare 10 me. and one Of the last
things ] heard from her lips was a cor
I roboration Of that French story ] had
read. She made no pretense Of being true
to the memory OF her first love 7 never
think of *. and when 7 DO Dc D. only as
OF pretty book seem 70 have read. she
SAID But ] feel all alone in the world
and the Thought 81 remaining lonely as
7 H. u Ne~s~ 80
know how awful il is. Ny most intimate
friends seem strangers To me. There Is a
gulf between them and me which I can
not cross I am longing for one who will
/ be SO near 70 me that there viii be no
gulf 10 cross.
"Of course It takes a superseusitive
3 self-centered creature like her 20 feel The
way she did. I asked her plainly whether
she would let me look around for some
man who might make ner happy. and she
/ answered just as frankly. Yes. + won Z
/ bother about the state Of my heart any
more. III YOU can md a good. honest.
Intelligent man. I'll marry him. I'll give
I him nv whole heart. There will BE- no
I gulf between US 7 feel sure Uf that
Il tried my best. but my efforts were
I not crowned with success The men T
knew and who ] thought would make just
/ the kind Of husband she needed shrank
I from her. Yes, she & really beautiful
one Of them said 10 me. but it is the
[ kind Of beauty ono likes 20 look at IN
hear or 20 iuhale. but not To marry One
I man would have married her IF she had
money. which she did not The only fell
/ low who was really IN love with her az
I the period was q married man who did
not live with his family Still. did not
/ give Up an hope 81 getting The right man
for her and I might have succeeded. too.
/ if-if she had not fallen prev 10 a hered-
I itary disease. Of which she died In a hos
pital-
I zone Of the old maids I have married
/ on had remained SINGLE until she was
! S. chiefly because she had an older
/ sister who vas unmarried. She was de-
( voted 20 her and would not disgrace her
4 bv becoming a mother IN advance Of her.
Z she said. There were lots % young men
l around and all OF them showed a de-
/ cided preference Tor the younger sister.
/ who took care 10 discourage their atten-
/ tons Finally the older sister married
! on ole widower. By this slime however.
my client had lost son6 Of her former
/ charms. Wei. ] had no difficulty with
I her She had an honest. middle-sged.
houseWifsly face that proved 70 possess