Atlanta semi-weekly journal. (Atlanta, Ga.) 1898-1920, 1902-10-02

on a small income because
NV the girls expect so much
these days. They want dress
and a good time without the cares OF
housekeeping and we are not able TO reach
up 70 the necessary figures"
I wonder II that bachelor complaint Is
based on facts7 IL is a good thing that
such q complaint has been written and I
am going to answer II. II am able 10 do
50.
There IS great complaint OF the extrava-
gance OF girls-as a stumbling-block TO
marriage; and the bachelors are fiery
ready to hing aside the thought OF taking
70 themselves a wife. when the care OF a
household Is distasteful to them
When you see pretty fiippant girls liv-
fnr in boarding houses. the conclusion Is
arrived at. that all the girls are built on
that pattern. Maybe those very girls are
capable OF great things in home-making.
but lack the opportunity.
II she -ad a neat little home. with your
anection and society. dear bachelor. she
would not crave the aimsy excitement OF
q boarding house. with its gaieties.
II the bachelor cannot inspire a better
vocation or a better idea OF happiness In
his girls heart. he Is wise not 10 marry at
All. for the confession he makes. that he
cannot induce the girl 10 care enough for
him 20 deserve a home rather than
boarding-house existence. reflects very
seriously on his own incapacity as well as
his meagre purse
A girl may be snowy. and yet not be
extravagant and she may be extravagant
and still not heartiess woman Show and
raIetv are not sinful things OF them
selves and sometimes the economy that
RfrI exercises in turning things 10 account.
that some other people would fling aside
OF put In the scrap bag. evidences genu-
ire taste. skIll and ability.
A. = H. a
not OF necessity heartless or 70 be con-
ocnned as an unit mate
Oftentimes Il grows out OF a real desire
70 please. She who can win all hearts. Is
MANY times capable Of deep and sincere
affection. Some times these little hirts
carry their brfIliancy and tact too far, but
what I mean 20 say Is. that they must be
f. .red BY what they are, and not by what
they seem 70 be-
II Is an astonishing fact. but nine girls
out OF ten would Ike nothing better than
a home and a husband Perhaps ninety
nine out OF every hundred would Ike such
a home and such husband as their fancy
pictures to them. II is the sorts of homes
and husbands that they see about them
that makes them prefer to earn their own
living in self respect and determination.
no matter how closely they are confined
70 work. OF how dull their existence may
be otherwise.
In a boarding house she can wear good
clothes. rest herself when she has a mind
10 and go out sho-ning or visiting when
tGa man is at work in his oatly business
II is natural that a woman should enjoy
the easy things OF life as well as ANYBODY
else but with a husband that loved her
wlo made her comfortable and whom she
could respect and admire, as she did in
courti- : days. ninety hundredths OF our
Girls are willing 70 economic, live strait
ened. and do their very best towards
building a home nest for the coming fam
fiy II this narrow little home, she viii
wear calico instead OF silk. and cook the
victuals. provided she can lease and help
alo-g. in the effort 10 get start
But the girl is not willing 70 give up all
her little luxuries. W I she gets married,
II the hubby clings to all he had before
II ne holds on TO cigars ar1 his club, she
WI want a pattern hat, and a new cos
tune: ano who blames herr
There is no sort OF use, IN continually
exhorung wives 10 stay plain and sober.
when the gentleman butterfly puts on all
his before marriage airs and graces.
" girls like boarding houses more than
homes Il is because they get more atten-
ton when they are dressed up. and have
tine 20 thirk OF their own good looks and
enjoy the company about them Let the
bachelor make up his mind to give up his
o. ways and habits and buckle down 10
making a home that his wife viii enjoy
and be pro- OF and III wager the girl, in
ninety cases out OF every hundred, viii
meet him more than half way.
~ dear bachelor. try 10 make yourself
upright high minded. unselhsh and in
dustrious. and when you fall in love with
the girl not only make her fail in love
with you. but strive every day 20 keep
her confidence in your integrity and affec-
ton perfect. and you may then marry
with safety on a very small salary.
have profound belief In wOmanhood.
I never saw any good woman pitch her
own domestic happiness out the door.
until her respect. love and confidence for
her husband had not been seriously dam
aEed II not destroyed They are human
not angels yet-and they want TO be treat
ed lie they deserved attention and re-
Epect. II they do live on scanty rations,
and struggle 10 keep up appearances.