The Appeal. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn. ;) 1889-19??, 1902-10-11

VI 1ci %IdllllHS ny glance at ner,
ana you can Judge of. not only her pres
ent frame OF mind, but Of her STEADY de-
pertinent by her> manner.
Ihey may say that a lady iis to the
manner born, but she must be also to the
manner bred.
It is mot enough to have had a lady for
a, mother tine ana gsts saa for father
lady for a trainer. =
True, etiquette changes, and the Father
of His Country ate with his knife. Forks
tSeaan Gould have eaten With h 70 Fork ke Of
That is why, when you meet a gentle
man Of the old school, you will be shocked
to see him plunginE a knife into his mouth
and turning himself, Temporarily, into a
sword swalloWer. - ~ - ~
They say that, If you are we'll trained.
you cannot make a mistake in social
manners. But is this true: Cannot one
become careless? - a.. s9@s
Is it not fact that implements as we'll
as etiquette change. and that busy wonn-
an makes mistakes because she is not
up on the Latest spoon and not
forEs Will the oeS'iny Oh the latest
Watch Your Hostess. -. Ts
. ,''Watch your hostess" was the admoni-
ton given itoia girls social school in New
e ns3itntion. had been 3nyited
as to its graduation class, to attend a
iuncheon at one Of the fashionable homes
The teacher, fearful lest one of them
should err and commit such inpropriety
as spreading the bread with the wrong
knife, gave them this parting advice:
Watch your hostess .,-.
And greatly wasn't appreciated Bread
was served in small luncheon rolls and
butter was in tiny pats. For the touch
Ing Of the speck Of butter to the dimnu-
tiy ye u, ron there was a queer little knife
knife was short but very wide and sud
denly pointed, lay with the others. AS
TO dords' there , Mers Just six some
png one of s5ons and
secure variety for her young guests the
hostess had made the almost fatal mis-
take of introducing the latest novelties, in
Where such novelties are placed in the
table service the hostess should show
her own good breeding at once. Imme-
diately the course is served she should
pick up the appropriate fork, or other i'm
plement, and proceed to eat with-it This
Is cue for her guests who are all watch
ing her and the dinner goes off well.
There Is nothing more embarra ssing
than not to know what to in eating,
and, when ones plate is surrounded with
sorts, and variety of fancy odds and
ends as is often the case at luncheon
party, then, indeed is one in peculiar
A guest at London reception declared
that she drank two glasses of water while
waiting for her "cue from the hostess.
bits of epoita as and i + Reae ou5
ed upon kindness. Of heart and upon the
Golden Rule, then, surely, every hostess
will remember that she should do as she
selecting the silverware for her dinners
and the glassware for her luncheons, and
will recall the admonition '.Do unto others
s you not Tog1d that th yS Tes ba
the cardinal law of politeness; the essence
Of good manners
A Few Things to Remember.
There are few of the points of ct
nor forgotten: The earmarks of good
manners are shown by the way you handle
your elbows at the table. If you stick
turing the ribs of your neighbor al and Jog
ging his elbow at critical moments, you
are guilty OF, not only gross breach Of
well.
Again, do not sit with your elbows upon
the table. 1t may be comfortable, but it
IS ebeM n for th or
ones hands. Do not lean on the table,, as
though 1t were couch, and do not act at
the table as though you were filed with
WEAKNESS and ennui. Try to sit erect and
to show vivacity in your attitude People
", Wh o. make e. the finest dinner guests are
the meal. Even if you go to he table tired
never lean upon 1T! Seek a. comfortable
position and let it go at that.
The handling of the knife and fork is
an exact INDEX OF Your own personal tratA-
ing: Have you ever seen a pretty girl
pick up her knife and fork and stand them
she With you This pt beilig wae
attitude can be noticed any night in the
most elegant dining hotels in town, and,
society. =. -Fr - sE-tt~|I =
fork up straight on the handle ends and
look at yourself in the glass. See how the
position mars the beauty of any girl, no
matter how pretty or how graceful she
Rules for Visiting. Ia .
Eat with your fork, and hold 1t in your
right hand. ~ --.'@ '..H..+ - ~
Let the knife rest upon the edge Of the
If it be a Steel knife for meat cutting.
little toward the back ga tE7#s. - II &.
When cutting meat cut one piece at q
time add lift itwith your fork. IS
Neyer the kn WIFI tfs sa
Never, under any circumstances, use
your own fork for removing cheese, from
a plate, or for helping yourself to bread,
or any other article served from one gem
eral plate.
passed, use your fingers.
If the bread Is cut for you and served
in your napkin, break it before spread
If the family fold the napkins fold yours
also.
drinking from your water glass;
and if You do not want It, leave it.
Express no opinion of the food unless to
If in a private family 1t is allowable to
compliment the hostess upon the excel
Never ask for another ulate Of soup.
Do not take see9 },ar hslpIng ct }o any any
10, dinner
At ceremonious dinners place your nap,
kin across your lap as soon as seated and
At a fine dinner the plates are upon the
table when the guests seat themselves. A
knife and fork lie across eacn plate. re
move the knife and fork to the side OF the
Sh some plain Rules.
But. it is not so much at fine dinners,
when you are on your guard. that mis-
t nere the Fea E shown as
time folks will say.
A .'real lady" will be very pretty IN her
luncheon manners. She will not take 2
into it as though she were droWnng
man clutching at a very straight straw,
or as though she had been s. nn;d aiagd
While 1t is the height of politeness TO 90
full Justice to a meal and very poor etl-s
quette to eat sparingly. at the same lian g
starved. Take your sandwich and cut It
up y making mouthfuls. A whole slice or
bread, d double sandwich a biscuit, none
Of these things are pretty, and certainly
none are conf Portable, to say nothing else
about them. 49, ss
Corn On the cob, asparague In the stalk.
whole olives, full lengths Of celery, and
few delicacies of that kind can be taken
as they are served, but are the exception.
Cut your sandwich and eat it daintily.
Keen the tahlecloth about your plate IN
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