The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1902-11-19
MATRIMONY.
here the Blame for Unhappy Marriages
Lies.
Lies.

or0g woman who discarded one
for another left the bridegroom
So. .vo weeks Of marriage, deciding
81 ] l;d a. not really love him-anothel
1 short her honeymoon in Europe
.omes home alone sitter less than
> months of msrriag 70.
H. analysis of such cases is asked
40 this is not solitary instance.
s. 81 inquirer says:
81 5s;nee it must be admitted that wo-
81 do mistake and misinterpret their
hearts and come to sad awaken
.fter marriage, what ought bride
81 % If girl has two lovers, and
sstlv and solemnly tries her best
80 which one she loves, and
g, earnestly aims to love him, but
~, marriage finds that it really was
otber man-what is the girl to do?
again, in quite differeut case
81 !ssspnst be admitted that man who
|ao his best behavior during court
q sometimes reveals faults of char
kr, temperament, disposition and
81 worse, which not only disillusion
81 bride, but make her think she
IS 81 not love him, and that to con-
s on living with him is unendur-
the first place, no girl who is
I I lied to earnestly and solemnly
3to decide which Of two men she
)" loves either one sufficiently to
se good wife, unless the man she
s2ries is paragon Of tact and pa
Ice, and SO unselfshly and devoted
d love with her that he applies
self to the task Of teaching her
love him. Even then he would be
,ly to fail.
@here is something very shallow.
y trivial, very superficial in the ma
j Of woman who IS driven to tbs
essity of studying her sentiments
3uch case, and who thinks to-day
\ loves one man, tomorrow morn
i the other, and again tomorrow
hing restores the first to favor,
n to discard him for the second the
day.
THAT is not love at all. It is mere
sh caprice in q very young wo-
and should not be regarded Sc
Psly by any one. In an older wo-
D it is an evidence Of selishness,
j Of a nature incapable Of q strong,
ap feeling.
There are hundreds Of women who
p to be loved where there is one
3b loves.
3here are young girls who seem to
Der between two or even three suit
1, merely to add zest to the wooing
8he secretly favored one;' but the
pan who is unable to fully decide
3ch two Of men has the greater at
$tion for her is about as we'll equip
\ for marriage as the sailing vessel
5hOut sails is equipped for sea.
3Vhen man wins such bride away
p all his rivals he is to be COM
3erated, as rule; as would be tho
atain of the sailless craft who set
3h upon long voyage.
II young woman makes up her
4d before the honeymoon is over
y she has no love for her husband,
surely is wiser to face public
Pmtns and end the farce then and
Ire than she would be to drag on
sough years Of misery, and finally
in the divorce court, with two or
Zee children to share her trouble.
Scarcely year passes that some
n case as deserting bride is not
}ught to the public attention.
10 conventional circles courtship al
= little real acquaintance between
lovers. They meet at formal oo-
fOns, clothed in their best man
T. There is none Of the opportu-
PES for intimate knowledge Of each
i2ers characteristics which exist in
I simpler walks Of life; nor issshe
2'entionally reared young girl in
Y respect educated on the natural
les which produce ideal wives any
re than is tis fashionable young
T. Z liable to be an ideal husband.
|4he !, very germ Of success in every
i'aeftaking is strong, intense feeling.
orator. the actor, the poet, the
lea'or' tho musician, the artisan,
! reels his work, and is absorbed
H. Is the one who succeeds in it.
/, |riafrlage is profession which men
/ women take up presumably for
4 and 1t is to influence future gen.
e.lons for good or i'll.