The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1902-03-15
The Woman a Man Wants to Marry

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| Men want to marry as well as women,
| and that is just the reason marriages
| AXE place A good man. under ordinary
circumstances. with proper aims in life,
wants the companionship and aid of
good woman. man who does not re-
spoct and love q woman is a very low
| type of humanity.
When ! was green young man
| thought the most important thing in lie
was to get married. l loved lots of girls,
and wanted to mrry some of them, but
was afraid 20 tell them so.
l said / was green; l knew | was, and
{ wanted to go to school; but among
1ther difficulties this one troubled me:
| was afraid that before l could get an
education all the girls would get married,
and | might not be able to get one. Bur
after had been in school some years, |
| learned that to get married was not half
| so important as to find a girl that would
make a good wife.
Now to the question: What kind of
woman does a sensible man want to
marry?
First, he wants a woman of unblemish
| ed morals. Strange to say, however i'm
moral q man may be himself he cannot
| tolerate immortality in a wife Equally
strange II is that a woman of spotless
purity will often marry a man of the
blacklist character. Put it down then as
| a fact that man regards purity as an
| indispensable qualification for a wife.
sensible man wants to marry a bust
| ness woman. If he has but little and
wants TO make it more he wants Il wife
who can help him. If he has a compe-
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| take care of it. No man of common
spendthrift woman.
Ask single men this question: "Why
10 you not marry and have Il home of
your OWN" and the answer will often
be. at costs so much to keep up a wO-
nan these days. as she wants to live
that I cannot afford it,
This is often true, but it ought not TO
be. A man with a real business woman
for wife will live at less cost than it
took to support him when single. A wo-
man who knows how TO plan. and work
and save. is mans greatest help to sue
cess in life. Many girl remains single,
and ought to, because she does not know
now to do any kind of household work.
in society, she is a mere butterfly. fir
she is little more than a parlor orna-
nent. Such girls are pretty to look at
but they are not the women men want
for wives. The woman who will make
l good wife can do all kinds of household
work and then can go into the parlor, or
society. and shine as q Jewel.
A sensible man wants to marry an in
telligent woman. If he is deficient il
int =.
needs a wife to supply this lack If ho
is well up in these, an intelligent wife
will be all the more companionable to
him. If children compose a part of the
household. such a wife will be needed to
rain them. During the early period OF
life, when character is formed. children
are almost entirely under the mother's
care. The fathers business necessitate 5
his absence from the family circle. most
Of his time. therefore the mother needs
TO be qualified to govern and train the
family. From a domestic point of view
[ is far more important for a wife to be
intelligent than for the husband. The
influence of mothers has shaped the lives
of nearly all the great men of the world. |
A sensible man wants to marry a |
Christian woman. However irreIgious
men may be, they are. as a rule, glad
,or their wives to be Christians. They |
know that religion is important, and IL |
they cannot bring it in their own lives
to their own families they are glad for |
he wife to bring it. Surely any sane |
man, all things else being equal, would |
rather marry a Christian than an ur.- |
godly woman. Christianity is one of |
the most beautiful adornments of female |
character. There is a Transforming in
Huence about it that gives grace, and |
sweetness, and loneliness that can come |
from no other source. Christian wo-
nan in home, faithfully performing the |
iuties of life. as wife and mother, is one |
Of the richest treasures of earth. The
nan that misses such wife is poor in |
Iced
OF all people women ought to be Chris |
tlans so as to glorify God. and thereby |
TO mellow refine and bcautify their own |
lives, and be great blessing in the home |
where they occupy the noblest place com
nitted 20 mortals
J. A. STRADLEY.
oxford, n C.