Northern Wisconsin advertiser. [volume] (Wabeno, Wis.) 1898-1925, 1902-03-20

Love marriages. seldom last The
passion of ones counting days cannot
| be sustained all through life. lnere
are one or two cases extant Of sucn a
state of affairs, but the passion III the
first instance has never been deep. 1t
has probably had good deal of pla-
tonic tincture about it at the start
The ideal love marriage is one
which. when the early passion sub
sides, develops into mutual liking,
sharing of common tastes, and suit
ability for each other. These mar
riages are generally the most success
full. The unhappiest marriages are
usually those which at the outset nave
seemed the most ecstatic After the
early passion has passed and hubby
does not dispense quite so many
kisses, and appears to think about his
breakfast and dinner in addition to
wifie's eyes. and sometimes feels hurt
If he cannot find the clothes brush.
comes the real test for a good OF a
bad marriage.
II the wife also develops similar ten
denotes, then domestic strife is sure
to supervene. If, on the other hand,
she understands her husbands little
explosions and sees Alright that he can
not be always kissing her, and gener-
ally takes the thing in the practical
light of sensible woman, and sets to
work to be good wife, then things
will go smoothly.
So that the ideal marriage rs one in
which early passion can develop by
easy stages into a quiet, mutual suit
ability, tempered by liberation OF each
others peculiarities. Could not hate
marriage have similar results? Ii
passionate love degenerates in time
into such prosy business as the
above, would not hate in the same way
become transformed by marriage into
quite respectable, domestic, pleasant
mutual arrangement?
The essentials of hate match are
as follows Dc you really hate ner?
Is she the last woman in the world
that you could possibly love? Would
life seem intolerable with her? Does
the sound OF her voice or glance
from her eyes fill you with nameless
loathing, Is parting with her the
sweetest ecstacy? Do you long for
the day to come when you Will never
see her again? Then you hate her.
You should propose and get her to
name the unhappy day
And what if she does not hate you.
Surprising she merely dislikes you.
Supposii.,g she just detests you So
cially and loathes you as a mere
enemy, what then? Do not be dis
| couraged, but persevere. In time she
may really hate you.
| Hate letters, of course, will pass be-
/ tween you. You will write to her in
terms of delirious execration, and she
| will reply with cold contempt And
suppose, instead of replying to your
proposal favorably, she says that,
while she dislikes you much, she could
| never marry you-that she will be a
not be discouraged. Say you think
she would learn to hate you That you
have detested her since you first saw
! her, and that she alone has the power
to make you unhappy by uttering one
short word. And she consents.
You will swear vows of hatred, dis
honor, and disobedience, will spend
your honeymoon hundreds of miles
from each other, will afterward live
in different parts of the house. At first
you will hate each other with I'M
reasoning frenzy. 1t will last for six
months or SO. Then, in turn, hubby
will cease to hate his wife, her hair
will no longer be execrable to him,
and she will cease to look on mis- whis-
| kers as the hight of misery. He will
get tired of hating the shape of her
hands and the size of her feet, and
she will begin to think that he is
really not quite so detestable as she
at first thought.
This feeling will perhaps continue.
They will grow merely Indifferent to
each other, and, in time, to mutually
| tolerate each other as partners III
concern that has to be run They
may, after a time, dine together, or
perhaps take walk. Then, In the
calm light of conversation. each may
discover that the other is quite in
teresting, and from that-who knows?
Chicago Tribune.