The daily morning journal and courier., 1902-07-10
CARD-LEAYING ETIouETTE

 On the subject of leaving cards there
 is always much to be said, and at this particular moment, when entertain
 ments are so numerous the question of leaving cards connected herewith comes into greater prominence than l usual
 I When should cards be left and when
 should calls be made after entertain ments are questions that concern our correspondents not little and, there- l fore, the following remarks relative to | the same will no doubt, meet the re- quirements of many of our readers and subscribers.
 To leave cards after receiving hospi- l tality is a time -honored custom which
 even in these days of change still holds good. It may be asked how did 1t orig mate, and why should there be any dif- ference made between one function and
 another-that is to say, why leave cards
 on one accession and pay persanal call
 on another? It would occupy too much
 space to enter at length into the why l and the wherefore of these points in l Noi ihS it 10 CitOdSii Lcl bHC pus
 pose of this article to say what is done
 under given circumstances.
 I Broadly speaking, to leave cards af-
 ter being entertained by friend or &C.,
 quaintance implies a slight recognition
 of the civility received. The distinction
 made between leaving cards after a
 dance or reception and calling after a
 dinner party Is a very sensible one, as
 to receive calls from one hundred to
 three hundred people. even,if spread
 over a week, would be more than most
 women would care to go through, but
 to receive calls from ten to fifteen din-
 ner guests would be pleasant rather | thap irksome.
 | Again. these calls are, reduced in num- | Der in most instances by the wives only calling and leaving their husbands s cards, while bachelors calls are never over numerous, even after dinner par 1 ties.
 I The time allowed to elapse before pay l ing these calls is rather in favor of the calle's convenience. A call need not be made within the current week if more convenient to postpone it until the fol- 1 lowing one, but between the most inti- mate friends it cannot be dispensed
 with without some excuse being made l for the omission, absence from home, press of engagements and the like req sons, but something must be said to | prove that, if the right thing has not been done it was not from want of l knowledge of what was due on the oc- casion.
 When these calls are made it is under stood that very little is said respecting
 the previous dinner party. It is not discussed, as after ten days it has be-
 come ancient history, but a word is said | early in the visit as to the party having been a very pleasant ane, and that is all; the talk glides at once into other channels, unless some prominent per-
 son was one of the guests or the visitor
 had been introduced to relative of the
 hostess, when some personal remark
 concerning either is made.
 In leaving cards after a dance there l is a distinction and a difference for | those who are acquainted and unac- quainted with hostess, and great : number of dances include the latter in
 both town and country society. In l town those who have received invita-
 tions through friends only, or from a
 hostess by desire of the same, leave
 cards, as do those acquainted with her,
 within the current week of the dance, | if not on the following afternoon, but E in the country, when guests forming a