The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1902-05-31

and get things ready for breakfast:
I suppose IN. w. L." woul4 sit In
comfortable chair and doze while she
worked, perhaps pulling himself together
to make comments occasionally. we
young fellows aren't built that way.
We believe in helping our wives and let
ting them help u.s. When we sit by the
radiator they will sit with US, and we
will probably be discussing the evening
paper or talking over plans for helping
each other more in the future. Some
people could be married thousand years
and still feel like "eating each other up,
as our correspondent calls it.
My old father, nearly 70, gets up early
Monday mornings and puts all the
clothes through washing machine Tor.
mother before he goes to ne office. Ihey
have been married about forty-flve years,
and never saw him grin" yet when !
swept the floors or washed windows for
my wife. have even 1roned baby
dresses when our child was very i'll and
my wife could not leave it. If IF. NJ.
has never done anything worse than
wash dishes, he certainly has nothing
to complain Of After all the years I
have helped with housework still think
my wife the grandest and most beautiful
woman ever created, for she has aided
me in every way possible, and all sue
cess have ever had In business ana
social way owe to her.
Let IN w L." 'call around few
years hence and am sure he will find
me OF the same kind. q. f. r.
AS editor and friend. step from behind
TIL scenes to assure energetic CORE
spondents that nothing could please M
w. L." more than the success he has had
In drawing out the sense of the Con
stituency'' Of both sexes upon the topic
90 ion
| in writing to the Housewifely Helper was
to "get rise out Of other husbands and
wives, he has no cause to complain O.
the success of the cast. The radiator
is shut and cold by now, but I can see
hin, smiling satsfedly (and a lutte wick
edly) through the window opening news
paperward, maybe meditating another
haul.
No g.
A letter is addressed to ''Niobe" and
strikes the same key, although q trif1e
moro impersonaI in tone than those which
have preceded 1t.
My Dear "Niobe": You must not make
the altogether too common mistake Of
Judging bread issues by personal expert
ences and opinions. The relations of the
sexes are in last analysis founded on
strictly physical facts Of organization of
the body. and on the specialization of
duties resulting therefrom!
AS Marion Harland wisely states the old
story, both sexes depend on each other.
and it is rank waste of brain tissue and
newspaper space to advocate changes
which at best can only be historically
temporary. Any student of sociological
| history of past ages and races knows this
is true.
In our country and generation this fact
is clouded to the vision of those not
adopts in logical reasoning. because our
ri hole civilization is rapidly changing
frcn. the conceptions Of our agricultural
forbears, with their simple declaration of
| principles by Jefferson.
The single "Niobe" is In such a general
| situation about as powerful as a log in
| the whirlpool of the Niagara Falls
Same is true for the single man. What
you can do and what you ought to- do is
this: Decide quietly what you think is
your duty. and do that in full.
| As rule, men have in their mental
makeup an active or a dormant sense
! of chivalry. They are born of a long
| ancestry of other men who did things to
| suit themselves. without consulting their
! woman folks. Such hereditary traits are
not eliminated by the modern ideas of
sex relations by limited coteries of s. c.
| new women. Men wish, as a rule, to
| do right to their families. Two ideas are
| to the point here. First, that you can
| catch flies better with honey than with
! vinegar, and that the idiosyncracies of
man might be catered to without loss
| of self-respect, and. second the words of
Heine: Its an old story-a1ways new,
| Though; but to .whomsoever it happens
| it,: liable to be Misunderstanding"
| Think well, my dear "Niobe," before
you make the usual mistake of your sex
| to judge a situation by intuition only. or
| by personal experience exclusively
There is some good In almost every man
and woman. just as there is surely fertil-
ttitty in almost any soil. if conditions, are
taken advantage of wisely. Patience and
| resignation are about the hardest les
sons of life. and the last ones learned
| BY either woman or man.
A. W.; C. c. c.
IN NO. 5.
A woman snatches the pen again:
am much amused by letter signed
''Niobe. Her question seemed to be
which is the more dependent on the 9TH
| er, the man or the woman? no matter
| what any one says. facts are the best
proofs.
4 woman left a widow with four or five
children will go to work with her hands
and no other help. She will get a liv-
ing, cook and keep house and make the
| clothes for the family. She may have
q trade that will help her. but very often
her trade has been learned in a mill. II
SO, she does not give It a second thought
TT s}as does not know hou,s tf 3eEarv.E