Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1902-06-14
AS OTHERS SEE US.
Iisrlties of American Mar
rice Life.

rex Lie
\ clever writer in the Kew York Sun
recently commented on the habit of Wis
itinS foreigners who come to the United
States, and soon after striking our shores
criticise orr women for the way they
treat cur men. One of the latest Offend
ers Of the kind is NJ. Hughes lie Roux.
a lecturer and traveller of some note. who
said recently. in an address before the
University or Chicago:
Not so many young men are getting
married nowadays. because it takes so
much to support wife. She wants To
20 IN society and wear fDe dresses. and
if she can't do this there is trouble in
the family. Women have much more
time to give to education and society
than men have ana are beginning to be-
come dissatisfied with the company Of
their husbands. They tolerate their hus-
bands only because they earn the money.
american husbands never know how
badly they are treated until some for
elgner comes over and tells them about
it. The following is vouched for as hay
ing been written back home 10 a friend
by German professor in one of our
large universities
- was entertained by Mr.. \. md
after dinner he invited me 10 take a
walk with him. To my great surprise
he invited his wife also. When ne
reached the gate she said she must 30
back for her shawl which she had for
gotten. You can imagine my diSnation
when he said pleasantly that we would
wait for her; and when she returned
instead of rebuking her for her careless
ness, he actually took her shawl and car
rled it on his arm. | was speeches.
from amaZement"
unfortunately they are not all
speeChless. 1t will be a relief when we
can learn from the reports of the last
census whether the marriage rate really
is decreasing. But on one point we do
not need any statistics, and this is that in
the modern desire for the luxurious
things of life men have kept pace with
women, and If women do not marry I'M
less they are sure of getting these, men
refrain from marrying lest they should
be deprived of them. In discussing these
questions however. the aarmists always
consider them from the standpoint of So
called sOcety-Of those who are in or
trying to get in-and they overlook the
unc0unted thousands who are constantly
marrying and settling down happily aud
contentedly in their little flats or cot
tages and are lost sight of because thew
90 not Hgure IN the society column or the
divorce court
is infinitely greater than in any previous
age, for while now the miserable seek i
dissolution Of the bonds in former times
they endured in silence, and millions Of
women VINO were not quite so Wrctched
as 70 wish to dissolve the marriage, new
erthelesS Smarted and rebelled ut the
dull restricted and dependent condition
in which they were held by custom and
law. They are far happier now, and be-
cause tins IS so. they make their hus-
bands happier. There is more coDgeniaI
lty. because there is more nearly eouaI-
ity aud instead of husbands being toll
Grated because they make the money
there never was a time when MI tbe
women of the family were so anxious to
help make the money and tried so hard
10 hit the burdens from the shoulders of
the husbands and fathers.
One great cause according to the
latest French critic. for the condition
which he thinks he has discovered is
that the majority of boys have to 90 70
work at l6. Not so the girls. who cdlp.
cate themselves and become sunarior
This would be all right If they used their
knowledge TO cultivate the men, but i'm
their opinion man was made for business
and nothing else
THAT is the opinion the average man
has of himself, and there is nothing he
would resent 50 quickly as any attempt
on he part of his women folks to cult
vate' him. Besides, it is only a few
weeks since the professor of law al
} Yale University, III pshlic address. de-
Hvered the ultimatum that no woman
should feel that She knows more than
her husband But unless she did feel
that way how could she undertake 70
cultivate him? For women even to at
tempt to follow all the advice which is
SO freely bestowed upon them would soon
crowd the capacity Of our insane asy-
lumS. But is it not amusing to hear
them complain THAI women are becoming
better educated than men, aud the ad-
mGnitiou that they should use some of
their surplus knowledge for the benefit of
he other sex. when one reflects that two
generations ago there was not high
school in the United States which admit
ted girls, and that one generation ago
open their doors to women New Or
leans Pirnyunc