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The InAueAces Which Make Men and
Women Well Bred or Otherwise.
"What is born and bred in . man
sticks to him." is q saying moro wise
than elegant. We have llmet thewom-
an, costly attired, fowery Of speech,
genial of manner, yet lacking the es-
sential charm Of a lady-that charm
which can no more be analysed and de-
scribed than can the scent of the rose,
but which we feel through all our be-
ing when we are in the presence Of its
owner, be she talking or SILENT grave or
gay. It is born and bred in her. It is
not put on with her evening gown or
laid aside with the same. tits the manly
tenderness of her father and the wom-
anly grace and virtue of her mother
blended with the daughters life cur
remit is her home education.
The smile, the graceful inclination,
the quick solioitude of another's COM
fort, the quick eye and the firm, gentle
hand are all part Of herself, seen bylher
with baby eyes, learned unconsciously,
and therefore never to be forgotten.
She is as different from her neighbor
Lady Show as the rose is from the dam
delion. Some like dandelions. AL love
the roses.
Lady Show is 1ovable, too, but she
shows her early training. She is lovable
because she does not try to conceal her
early training, thereby becoming stiff
and unnatural and didactic and horrid.
As with women, SO with men. We all
know the self-important little man
with the large visiting card and the still
larger display of "good form, don't you
know" He tells us that he is self
made" He is wealthy and at the top Of
the ladder, else be sure we would not
tolerate him for one minute. This en-.
ergy is to be commended. Nothing
succeeds like success" Yet we shrink
from him. We remember the poor fell
lows, the good fellows, whom he jostled
and crushed down and stamped on be-
fore he reached the top Of the ladder.
We do not want our sons to be like the
little man in aught save his success.
This little man has had selfish, brutal
father and patient, Woodworking
mother. Selfshness and patient toiling
were born and bred in him. His early
education at home was rude and incom-
plete. He is not to be blamed too much
that he has no fine feeling now.
Next comes Lord Show, stout, ford,
good-natured and good-hearted, all en-
cept q gentleman. He is lovable, too,
but he shows his early training. His
father was country gentleman Of
easy-going habits who married third
rate actress while he was under the in
fuence of wine. He knew none Of the
sweetness of refined home life. He is
not to be blamed too much.
Along comes gentleman. He has
not Asalwed over anyone to get on
faster himself, and he shows it in the
easy grace and dignity of his bearing,
in the kind glance of his eyes as well al
in the pleasant voice and reverence fos
women, be they worthy or not. The
gentleman was born and bred among
sweet, good women. He cannot bear ia
think that they are not all angels. His
father was man of noble aim in life
his mother, well, she was your and my
ideal lady. "What is born and bred in q
man sticks to him." The education OF
the home is indelibly stamped on the
children of the home. The home may
not be rich in costly furniture, but il
should be Immediately clean, and
beauty of manners and beautiful
thoughts and words and actions and
beautiful daily living should all b
there.
If the best china is not used every
day. how can you expect your sons and
daughters to handle china gracefully
by and by? If the parlors are not used
every day how can you expect you,
children to be easy in the parlors BY
and by? "Men are only boys grown
TALL" They keep their boyhood man
ners. The finest things of earth are mo-
too fine for home use. The sweetest be
havior in the world is not too good fol
home use-for father, mother, son ant
daughter, wife and child. They are til,
| ones we love best. Let us give them oul
best behavior-N. Y. Times.