The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1902-07-12

facts off Interest
Jar tie Iousowf1e.
All communications addressed to this
departmet must be written in ink and
accompanied by name and address.
Both will be held confidential.
Correspondents will please write the
names of their places Of residence IN
full. Letters go astray daily because
| he address is given merely as City"
| There are forty-five Of these United
States and many cities in each State.
have a gentleman friend who the last
tins saw him expressed a desire to eau
on me at my home during my vacation.
Now, would it be proper for me TO write
and tell him when shall be at home!
a DAILY READER.
| Call him "a friend or can acduaint-
ance," not "a gentleman friend. The
pnrase always recalls bill once re-
| ceived from an over-partlcular splnster
of sixty, from whom I had bought poul-
| try My Christmas gobbler figured there
It would be quite proper to write to
your friend reminding him that he has
expressed the intention to call. and men
ticnjng the date Of your vacation.
! \. Are acquaintance justified IN speak
! ing only when pleased to do SO?
Am I justified in cutting an ac-
! ouajntance who speaks only when near
her place Of employment. 1t seems like
| lowering ones self to bear this uncon-
cerredl
3. Do GU think love is the outcome of
| association or the result OF two aiiinities
! meeting? Your answer will be guide
| for ME. j. 5i'
!. Certainly not Speak Invariably or
never.
!, No gentleman ever cuts" lady.
Bat YOU may, in the circumstances. take
your cue from the acquaintance afore-
! said Wait until she recognizes you, then
lift your hat civil!y, but formally
| s. Usually the compound result or ootn.
A claims that the proper form for
Young lady and young man to assume
on a question of calling upon her would
| be to have the young man ask II he might
call. while says that 1t is etiquette
TO have the young lady ask the young
man to call. Please give US your de-
ciston on this matter whenever you may
find convenient.
3 has known the young man for q
number Of wears Said gentleman would
like to call, but he expects to have thu
| Young lady give him a personal invita-
ton. =: n
The young man should ask permission
to call II he cannot pluck up heart to
do this, let him ask some common friend
Of his and of the young lady to intro
duce him at the house. Where there
is a will there is a way.
To be- brief, will you advise through
YOUR column self respecting young,
| woman, who has friend in business 10
New York, who has visited at her nome
and taken her to places of amusement.
and who now asks her to come to Ne"
York for an afternoon trip. as he wishes
10 show her something or the CITY. ana
must intend to accompany her nome.
VIII it be proper for her to accept tne
invitation? Your advice. SO sIod ana
true, shall decide the question.
One of your unknown but loving
friends.
tore had written this letter. It may be
M doubt it is-altogether innocent to run
over 10 the great o.ty TO meet your
friend Cf he be your barrothed). and visi
the places" you sreak Of d1ne Ia
gether. and return that evening IN com.
many TO your home The outing would be
60 onnosed to conventional rules that it
! uo,,Id give rise to ADVERSE CONNER
and uncomfortable gossip were it known.
| Don't take the risk. Get some elderly
| friend to accompany you or another girl.
YOU or another girl.
should say TO my daughter, You
! would better not go.
4 year ago met a. young lady
ard I have grown to love her better than
my life. I have every reason to be-
1--we that she loves me. Although we
| have had many confidential chats to-
gether, I have never spoken Of love, TO-
fear I would have to give up my one
hope in life, by finding that my love
was not reciprocated. I do hot Xix
to have her think I am crazy about
her, and it seems that we spend most
Of our time In making each other jeal-
| Gus by encouraging other young men
and women's attention. What I wan
| TO know is, shall I tell her I love her.
and learn my fate. for fate it will be.
OF shall let affairs run along as the
are doing. and in the end break my
heart? This is not a foolish letter written
for the purpose Of having pleasure, bu1
it is from the bottom OF the heart OF
/ A PERPLExED YOUNG MAN.
Many. many years ago another rrus
| lover wrote OF "My Dear and Only
/ Love-:
He either fears his fate too much.
Or his deserts are but small
That dares not put 1t to the touch,
To gain or lose 1t all.
Tell your dear and only love- that
she is all this. and ask Der to be morf
Be a man. brave man. and an honest
man, and no longer "a PerDlexed Young
Man"
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