The Savannah morning news., 1902-01-05
.OMAN'S
WORLD.

,u sometimes
, ~ our friends" She puts her foot
'U4' u,,tb an air Of Innocence that says
II " sorry. I did not mean to hurt
nnr feelings dear?'
A. narties she arrives early, so as to
ns.ful if called upon to give the
i s-s+ost help. She generally succeeds
7ntroduclng to each other people who
not the slightest desire of MAX
.cauaintance and young couples
we are not in the least anxious to
/ 49,. toeether. AS long as the guests
.rriving she takes her post just
Lind the hostess or close by her side.
p.onle ask themselves who she is
4t.tber she is part hostess. She has
bind smile for every one. She is a
,,,,lar society stager, up to every
..ok and she feels she is indispensa-
n, that at every moment she may
.,,o 10 The rescue of the hostess, get
/ -, mt of every possible little diff
s,rltv She knows everybody. She is
living encyclopedia of society knowl-
Tben the party is complete she dis
4 .,noars from the side of the hostess,
..bo hegins to breathe more freely. She
| saornears but she does not go. She
Sm5s that she still may be able to rem
/ ssr thousands of services, and she i'm
uedstely sets about it. Her most OBJ
isctionabie habit is that of rendering
services. 1t is a disease, but a disease
hat keeps her in good health and
cbasrful spirits. Now she multiplies
herself and is seen at once in the
E1rawing rooms. dancing rooms and re-
f,esbment rooms In the reports given
Of parties in the society papers she is
4 tbus described: MRS. A, with a grace
fu smile for every one, was every
&where." In England they say: Was
ubouitous" And so she is.
In the refreshment rooms she sees
8tbat every one gets something to eat
or drink: she suggests to such and
such men that Mrs. B. or Lady c. has
MAJ nothing; then she makes an in
*roduction, and, by and by whispers
#to the hostess Poor Mrs. B." or Poor
&I.ady c. l found that no one was pay
fing any attention to her, so l intro
&duced So-and- So to her, and 1 got her
2something to eat And the hostess
Whispers back: 80 kind of you
. You cannot get rid of her, because
she never gives you an opportunity for
Equarrelling. She is not a gossip, much
Eess Of wicked tongue. On the con-
fnary. she speaks we'll of every one,
praises your parties, your children and
4 all your belongings, and you cannot
HELP liking her. If she could only get
frid Of that terrible habit of spending
sher life doing you good turns and of
Thus constantly getting on your nerves,
you might like her, even get very fond
Iof her.
At home she rules husband, children.
Servants and all things therein. She
'has advice ready for every trouble, a
'cure for every indisposition, a solution
flor every problem. She knows what is
good for her husband much better than
she does himself, and expects him to. be
grateful for the unceasing interest she
flakes in him and his welf-being.
She is honestly persuaded that he
|owes everything in life to her skill,
Per push and her diplomacy, and she
WOULD resent any promotion he might
'eet outside of her influence. The fact
|that she is married helps to make her.
II not popular. quite tolerable, because
most people think that, after all. they
|must be thankful for their lot. which
Emght have been much worse. Thev re-
I1ect that they might be married to
society catechism as understood
10y William Lampton of the New York
Herald is as follows:
Do you see that?
do see that.
What is it?
lady.
What is a ladyY
A woman by a different name,
How?
All ladies are women, but all women
|are not ladies'.
um-who is this lady?
Sne is society person.
What is that?
person who is in society.
What is society?
An aggregation of individuals each
possessing the necessary requisites for
II equality of association.
Mnat are the requisites?
Money.
Nothing but money?
Well, il would be absolutely impos-
thing. -'eF''i' ''ie saiiie
now are the candidates admitted?
by common consent.
immediately on application?
Vh' no. it takes time.
z are candidates placed on probation?
40 tney work their way into the sa-
/ 'ed circle by degrees.
AT, are there set forms to be followed?
Not al all. Sometimes they get in
r. way; sometimes another.
for Instance?
vel by way of London, or Washing
OI the American headquarters of din
aals VINO are past masters and pro-
Iisaiohal society persons, or by mar
LSee' or by contributions of personal
Esrs. V.. OF OF large checks to charitable
Ersn Eaes' or by waiting until their chill
i. N become of the chosen.
kv.to' 10 not then entirely by the merit
Hardly
membership permanent?
|iet,, iong as the money holds out So
Wy ,ly holds on.
INA %Ist OF bad behavior?
nsrnuicIously conducted II adds pi-
H. 80 isg 10 the peccadillo and interest 10
ne Individual. W - 'e' COT ~
Co., ~ alWays judiciously conducted?
Eetsrtee OF the more daring have char
h. ,'t, ,Ieu tneir acts by certain swag-
|ts ""ich mas given a title to their
i "I aoas society dearly loves a title?
N TS.J S'sy fear public opinion?
~
indeed ''''' i''u''lereht 70 It.
bat not Society is a strictly pri-
',sbnoe lu ia exclusive organization. and
a. oe amenable to public criticism.
Ana A" y. quite understand that.
Wiz 'ou won't until you are in II.
|sys w. au the advantages of wealth.
'tsinrss, society persons quite superior
N NJ, 'heir own estimation.