Burlington weekly free press. [volume] (Burlington, Vt.) 1866-1928, 1902-10-30

for q man.
The widow Is rarely as opinonated as
the young girl. The widow essays to
please. and to this end effaces self The
young girl fancics that she must be ca
tered to. the widow knows that the man
i7ust he. The young girl wishes all the
incense burned at her shrine: the widow
knows that man fairly dotes on in
cense; fumes himself and longs for two
pairs of nostrils and larger invoice of
lungs that he might inhalc triple and
quadruplc portions, particular If burned
by n pretty woman to the accompani-
mert of cooling voice, and eyes that
carry almost q wooing whisper with
every glance.
The widow is more anxious to please
than to be pleased. and a man can stand
the most copious draughts of adulation;
in fact he can be intoxicated by the wild
owls subtle chances and in such an in
toxication he rcvels with smile of in
cffahle content.
TIE widow caters to his whims. She
is too wise to argue with him. She
knows that arguments are the crypts of
friendship and the everlasting doom Of
love. She understands that when a man
leaves his business Office he wishes to
leave there all cares and perpleXties.
Consequently, she does not try to force
her opinions on him.
The widow does not object to tobacco:
she knows that a man loves his cigar
with a more slavish devotion than he
could love any woman. whether it he
sweetheart or wife. She has learned that
a man can cast n woman out of his life
with the same nonchalance that he throws
aside the cigar that has outworn it's
charm.
The widow knows also what man
likes. 1t Is never n trouble for her to ar
range n dainty tempting lunch when ne
is tired and prefers the seclusion of her
den to the noise and crowd of a cafe.
The widow rarely jars man, her one
aim being to be agreeable. She realizes
his shrinking horror of scenes and avoids
such topics as may mar the pleasure of
an outing or an evening at home.
The well-bred widow is always gracious
She may or may not care to marry again,
but having grown accustomed to a hus-
bands comradcshp, she enjoys the So
ciety of other men. Her sraciousness is
charmingly apparent when greeting her
friends. The young girl fanccs that in
difference is a spur aggravating mans
fancy. Tho widow knows that a man
vanity Is hattered by her gracious recep-
ton of him. and when either talking or
listening she Is animated and Interested.
The girly-girlish period or lackadaisiCal
indifference she has outlived and seeks
to entertain.
The widow knows full well, no matter
how Farveyized n mans defensive armor
may he, 1t Is never bullet proof against
hattery And nattcry is 4 woman's wea-
pom de resistance. Not such nattery as
carries its own glazing trade mark, but
the sweet insidious anaesthetic that
| makes a man feel ut peace with himself
and all mankind, and above all, conveys
the inference that he is the one and only
man on this old dreary planet. as far as
that particular widow is concerned.
The very attention the widow pays to
| he long-winded ccotisms and prosings IF
her admircr convinces the latter that she
| is wonderfully clever; that she under
stards him and he assumes an air Of
Importance in his own esteem that is
| positively refreshing
And should she indicate that his society
Is more agreeable to her than that of the
| other follow who dashes w in his racer
! then the admirer Is sure that she is a
| charming woman, and as clever as she is
| charming
As far as brains are concerned. the
| widow may not corner even a small cor
ner Of the market, hut there are precious
| few of them who lack a generous supply
| of mother wit coupled with n well Culti-
waited quota of tact. Above all else. the
accomplished widow has SAVIOR fatre.
She does not take offence at tho little
| pitfalls into which the best of men will
sometimes stumble. She is not cXaCtiug
rs the young girl Is prone to be. She real
| izos that her youth is gene, that she must
make up in manner for the handicap. and
she is ready at all times to overlook
| trihing lapses that her younger sister
would think due her dignity to resent.
| Herein the widow plays a strong card.
| And then too. there Is something very
| appealing in the widows insignia of woe.
1t is marvelousy becoming to every wO-
man If some men, long since dead and
zone. could sec their charming widows.
it you'd take more than D-ton monu-
| n1ent to hold them in their graves. 1t
| would a HhDirP 10
| her over again. or to furnish her free
| transportation to another sphere where
men are 1T rest, and free from widows
| Vaccinations.
| The weeds sometimes have rejuven-
ating effect. and it is noticeable that many
worleu who were positively ugly and UNI
| attractive az wives experience a sort Of
| magic transformation when the dear man
Joins the angels. The black garb acCen-
tuates n woman's best points, investing
her with a pathetic look that appeals to
| a mans ChValry.
| When the widow becomes confidential,
then she becomes dangerous to a mans
| peace Of mind She tells him her linan-
| cial troubles and knows that his advice"
will help her. Then he begins to think
| of her She tells him how lonely and
blank her life seems, then he begins to
feel sorry for her. She tells him how she
misses the love and tender attentions that
| blessed her life (even though poor Jones
may have been an old brute) and her adj
mrer gets sorrier and forthwith expert
| encos n sort of heart-failure sensation.
This she follows by telling him that he is
tho only man she has met who has APP
nealcd to her since the demise of poor
Jones, and that settles It,"
She looks at him in a pleading adorinG
sort OF way and thanks him in fearful
tone Tor his kindly interest and If he is
not mothproof he will swear he adores
her right then and there.
She has made him believe that he is
the one dear presence that can console
her, she has hattered his vanity in the
most artstically widowish way she has
appealed to her chivalry, and although
his poor dear old heart may be thread
bare and frayed out in all the seams with
only n few bargain counter remnants
left to attend to the throhing business,
vet he will gather these old odd lengths
in his hand and offer both to his divin-
ity who understands him so we'll and has
taught him to love her by that tactful
catering incense that a widow burns
without stint, and which constitutes her
| charm.
IN POLICE CIRCLES