The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1902-08-24

's.ha1v Ipon us, with bag and bag
and the airy remark: "Oh, you
~ hospitabIe knew you wouldn't
Ind nv coming without waiting for
invitation" We do mind. Every
,odv minds, although they may have
souteness to say hypocritieally: "Oh,
III = course. I'm delighted" But men
& hlv we make a black cross against
81 tbat person, and we never forgive
,heno for their unwarranted intrusion
II may be safely taken for granted
mat everybody who wants you will
invite you, and there is no possible
excuse for thrustfng yourself unasked
an another persons hospitality. It's
+. FAR more respectable to go to a hotel
n and beat your board bill, for then at
YOU are not treading on the sa-
<cred name of friendship.
An invitation is strictly personal,
/ and is not a family pass. Strange to
B saw. many people think that an In
Eyitation is kind of blanket sheet
THAT takes in their whole connection.
You are entertaining a party of young
people, and you ask. Maud to come and
stay a few days. Maud has another
n e1lRdBGDlCllIs N0t pGOQlG QOfl
mean to let a good thing go to waste.
and they send the lettering old grand
mother, who has, of course, nothing
in common with a lot of butterfly girls
and boys, and who effectually squelch-
es your party. Or, perhaps, you ask
Mr. and Mrs. Blank over from Satur-
day until Monday. Your overfull
house has only room for two more
but Mr.. and Mrs Blank bob serenely
up with three or four children, be-
cause, as they casually explain, they
\ Thought lit would do the poor dears
fgood to have change, and they were
<so wild to come" and you grind your
*teeth together, and wonder at the ut
liter lack of all consideration for others
&that makes parents aff1ict their chill
#dren on people who don't want them
Hand haven't asked them. Nobody has
Ia right to take a child on a visit I'M
Nless they have a written statement
{that the said child's presence is desir-
fed We all love children-but we love
#them at their own home, as a general
fthing and on most occasions
Nobody should go visiting, either,
1 unless they are going to conform to
Ethe rules of the house. Only in now
\ els are meals movable feasts that
prepare themselves instantaneously,
\ and are always ready. In real life a
. ot of thought and planning go to the
getting up of every dinner and lunch
land breakfast, and if people are not
READY on time, the meal dries up. and
Ethe soup scorches, and the vegetables
Iget cold, and the ices melt, and the
servants rage, and the mistress tenn
per is kept on the ragged edge. Prob
ABLY there is no hostess who has not
had to put up with these inconven-
einces from guests, and who has not
realized that no matter how charming
and agreeable a person was other
wise, If they were not prompt, and
did not fall into the ways of the
they were more trouble and
aggravation than their society was
worth.
st. Paul's advice to "eat what is set
before you and ask no questions for
consciences sake is never more per-
tinent than when visiting. People who
indulge in fads in eating, and who
have particular dishes cooked in par
.ticular ways, should stay in their own
kitchens. So, also, should those blum
dering and self complacent ladies who
always tell how perfectly deliciously
they have everything prepared at
home, and what magnificent cooks
they keep. To admire your own way
|of doing things is doubtless very de-
srable, but it is certainly the hight of
rudeness to institute comparisons be-
tween your belongings and those of
your hostess, yet 1 have heard a wo-
man, who was visiting in the country,
miles from waterworks or a plumber
spend hours expatiating on her porce-
lain tub and the joys of a cold shower
bath on a hot morning.
The slightest possible return one can
make for hospitality is to seem pleased
and to appear to enjoy the efforts that
are made to entertain one, yet who has
not known the misery of having a
guest who never fell in with any plan?
Propose a walk, and she was always
tired; suggest a ride, and she was
afraid of the horse; get up picnic for
her, and she went to it with the ex-
preston of an early Christian martyr
being led to the stake. I even once
had the pleasure of entertaining a lady
with such sensitive, ingrowing con-
sclous that she got up and left the
room every time anybody started
game of whist.
Blessed are they who, when visiting
enjoy everything, or at least assume
the virtue of appearing to enjoy if
they nave it not; who can eat sand
witches and beer at midnight without
remarking on how exquisitely Sherry
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can ride on a hay wagon without its
reminding them, by contrast, of some
Dodys automobile, and who are will
ing to chip in the chorus of any kind
OF a song and help roll the ball along
Ior the amusement of others as well as
themselves.
Another kind of visitor whom we all
Know and loathe, 7 call the "profes-
slonal visiting CRATER" because they
never have anything that they ought
10 nave and depend upon sponging
upon other people. Most of us are
Ialrly we'll acquainted with ourselves,
ana know what we are going to want.
II doesn't need for the spirit of proph-
ecy to descend upon us to warn ia that
we are going to need stamps and sta
uoneFy, needles and thread and scis-
sors' .toliet articles, whatever simple
remedies we are in the way of taking,
ana the little daily comforts we are
USED TO- Yet half the time people who
go visiting depend upon their hostess
10 supply all those kind of things, and,
70 my mind, it would be just as decent
VI mem to borrow her toothbrush. 1t
.eu mat a hostess is stingy that it
anhoys her to be called upon to furnish
ler guests personal belongings. 1t is
because it rouses that feeling we all
nave against being workeS-that riding
VI willing horse to death that is al
ways a final outrage that even the
Heebest resents.
another point to avoid is in giving
sour host and hostess too much of your
II IV.lety Nothing on earth is so wear
oo s as to have to sit UP and entertain
oGTnpany all day. Society ought TO be
" c run on the homeopathic prin-
ple' anyway A little of most of us