Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1902-06-21
A Chapter on the Need of
Adaptability.
DON'T BE STIFFNECKED
IN BUSINESS YOU MUST NOT EX-
PEcT PARLoR MANNERS.
The Girl Who Imposed on Her
Hostess - Pitfalls to Be
Avoided.
(Conyrleht. 1902. }

Copyright 1907
Written for The Evening Star by Grace Dufhe
Adaptability is the first quality to in
bend his neck to any yoke temporarily may
be admired for his steadfastness but he is
generally left alone in IT. Perhaps he is a
truer man than his comfortable fellow
although am by no means certain of that
but he is far less agreeable: and when it
comes time TO distribute her golden apples
Dame Fortune is sure TO he most generous
to the agreeable man. He may not like
apples. but he will take them and taste
them and praise their flavor to the COM
plete satisfaction of the giver. even while
his more candid brother rejects them with
cold thanks and discourses on the superior
excellence of peaches.
To be able to take a rebuff good humor-
eddy.
To view an absurd sentiment sympathetic
cally
To be able to enjoy the greatest luxury
or cheerfully dispense with even homely
comforts. are characteristics which fit one
FOR the favors of the world.
Men are. as rule. alive to the needs OF
being all things to all men, except when
they discuss politics or religion Then II is
every one for himself.and a scrimmage. But
women, soft and yielding creatures as they
are supposed to be. have opinions tucked
away under their chiffon and posy bounets
that earthquakes cannot dislodge. These
opinions may be on the proper way OF en-
terlng carriage or answering note
lney may be on the causes of war or the
preparation CT pudding: but the most trou-
piesome opinion OF all is that any one of
them has claim on the time and devotion
OF any one else There are countless help
less women In the world today, able and
willing to work. who cannot find employ
ment or do not keep II when IL has been
found for them because they cannot rid
themselves of their preconceived notions OF
what is due to them as ladies"
She Was Particular.
Have you lost your position. my dear?'
asked good woman the other day of n
superior young person for whom she had.
by much tact and influence, secured a
place.
Yes" responded the girl. firmly and sor-
rowfully, II could not remain where was
not treated with respect. The men in that
office worked in my presence without their
coats"
She was nice girl. Not a fool I'm the
ordinary acceptance of the term But no
one could ever beat into her head that she
could not look for the manners of the draw
ing room in the battlefield. where she ana
I
She would have found them loyal, chival-
rlc, ready to help and encourage her
Even though they smoked black pipes until
the air she breathed was blue with gosd
leiioWsnlp and mellow tolerance, and they
wore their hats to balance their lack OF
coats.
A girl that goes into an office TO reform, r.
VIII have days few and full Of trouble. But
sne can De happy and secure and honored IL
she viii permit herself to be- wherever She
may be placed. The woman who has sweet
ness and good sense and an honest heart 70
IN no danger of insult discourtesy from
her associates in business. But she must
adapt herself to the ways of the peonle
around her, and not try to compel others
to take on her ways.
Babe Her Go.
clever young English woman is inst
now out Of position because she required
too much from other people about her. She
was employed as governess in an excellent
family, but she quarreled with a child who
won a game from her and she was dis
missed Then she drifted about, and finally
accepted the hospitality of busy and care
burdened house mother, who grew weary Of
mounting many flights of stairs to present
her compliments to her somewhat unwel-
come guest, but still felt the girls home
lessness too much to send her away
Inc climax was reached one morning,
however. when, with the labors and cares
OF her house pressing her hard she hurried.
gust brush In hand. past the young wo-
mans door, only TO be detained by her out
stretched hands and the words:
Mrs Blank, / have been your guest for
weeks, and you have paid me no attention
at all. Now ask you to give me an hour
OF your time, so / can tell you about my
uncle's last Illness"
Her hostess yielded dazed Rut after
that she rose in her wrath and bade her go.