Omaha daily bee., 1902-05-26

manner Of alien influences at work TO
wreck Il.
II is by no means bad luck for a pair Of
true lovers to have TO prove themselves
superior TO the hostility OF their friends
and relations, always supposinR the obiec-
tons those persons are able 20 bring for
ward are merely foolish or selfish in their
character. To stand together, their two
selves alone against the world, cements
their affection, Yields their constancy and
creates between them a triply forged cable
OF devotion. Besides-and this is a highly
important point-conhict from outside pre-
vents conflict between the two Themselves
There is no sorrier spectacle than that
OF a love worn thin, and the danger OF CON
slant trivial quarrels is tina one sad day a
reaI tumult will arise which will reveal 20
lA participants the horrible truth that thew
nave Wearied one another's patience out AT
last Hence. what the friends of n nair
prone TO the stimulation Of perpetual fall
lngs out should do in Kindness and in Wiz
dom Is TO hasten the wedding on with All
speed. For 1t is strange but true that the
most quarrelsome sweethearts often settle
down into a truly amiable married pa,r
without a point at variance between them
Certainly the betrothed person agree.
WIN Ie" persons. 1t Is so trying to the
temper. No one knows this more abso-
Iuteiy than the naturally obstinate in
olVlduaI. II there we're a school for lover,
the class containing those who will NOT
admit they have been in the wrong UouId
be lowest in the academy. Their lesson
"ouid be a repetition OF tneS words; I
am sorry. l am TO blame. Forgive me-
Wnlch they would have TO say, not with
oo"ncast eyes, a sullen look and an IN
hammered scovl, as IL they did not really
feel or actually believe what they declared
out with repentance in their very action
Hah the serious dissensions that so
cruelty spoil what should be the loyelies.
and most enjoyable hours the engaged psir
Pass together arise from a pig headed de-
termination not to give in and beg pardon
Tor faults committed. Often the fault is
so paltry that the couple themselves can
not remember what it is. while the battle
RACES with full venom and hearts throb with
sorrow and spleen.
II only one or two would do hurt to the
pride that holds back the word OF recon-
c~iliation, then love would survive.
But as a rule It is the aggrieyed marty
who can do most to avert disaster in such
a dilemma. especially II the one in error
be the man. Women find 1t dificult enough
TO admit themselves in the wrong. but men
are usually absolutely tongue-tied under
the ordeal. They would rather stink awaS
unforgiven and suffer any amount OF mis-
understanding than honestly make confess
sion OF their own culpability and sue for
pardon. So what the girl has to do is TO
soothe the trouble down or to laugh II of
altogether, and fortunate indeed is the fell
low who is engaged to an angel who can
perform either Of these feAts while she in
yet singing from the taste OF his unkind-
ness.
For be 1t known there are a greater mum.
Der OF what would have been considered
In the old days hopeless cases cured in
these by the Intervention OF the woman's
good sense and all-eonQuering devotion.
Does any one realize to the full what a
revolution has been caused by the annihila-
tion Of what used TO be known in the past
as proper pride?" And also by the Guilt
walton Of that doughty friend OF all lovers,
a sense Of humor?
Happily there Is no kind OF quarrel that
exists between the estranged couple. Al
sweeping statement? Yes, but one that
life verihes every day. There is a love
that even outside influence cannot kill,
though It tries its best and usually in
cases where It is most likely to succeed.
What mischief-maker is there like a
talebearer. for example,! Trusting little
i7-year-old Janet. who idealiEes her stall
wart lover, Douglas one day has poured
into her ears a story Of his engagement
to another girl in the far away years before
Janet knew him. Douglas had never men
toned that affair to Janet. whether wisely
or not, no one but himself is the proper