The Appeal. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn. ;) 1889-19??, 1902-10-11
r EW YORK, Oct 4.-The lady at the
luncheon table is the lady with the
barometer applied to her conduct.
You can tell all the ups and downs
u nf poa tra t,,ip INV olo h.,

1t is mot enough to have had a lady for
2 mother :, and nd gentlsman for father,
lady Mf Fl For a. tratn aag 1os esaenef ana 3
True, etiquette changes. and the Father
were two tined IN those days and no gen
tleman could have eaten with fork Of
the colonial period. = =.
man Of the old ia school you viii be shocked
to see him 'plunging; a Knife into his mouth
and turning himself, Temporarily, into a
sword swallower. -
They say that, If you are we'll trained.
you cannot make "a mistake in social
manners. But is this true? Cannot one
become careless? -.
Is it not a fact that implements as we'll
as etiquette change. and that a. busy wo1n-
an makes mistakes because she is not
up on !, The. the latest lat spoon and not
foTEs with the destiny of the latest
Watch Your Hostess
watch your hostess was the admoni-
ton given to a girls social school in New
dollar-a-year institution had been invited,
as to it's graduation class. to attend a
luncheon at one Of the fashionable homes
of the city. ..-. e..
sn gh ga and commt scn
as spreading the bread with the wrong
Watch your hostess" ~.
And greatly was5it appreciated: Bread
T vas -: served in small luncheon rolls and
Ing of the !speck Of butter to the diminu-
tive roll there. was a queer little knife
which looked like shield. The meat
kn1fe was short but very wide and sud
denly pointed, lay with the others. AS
to forks. there We're just six, some
pronged, some bladed, some spiked, and
only one Of familiar shape. Hoping to
secure variety for her young guests the
hostess had made the almost fatal mis-
take of introducing the latest novelties, in
tableware.
Where such novelties are placed in the
table service the hostess should show
her own good breeding at once. Imme-
diately the course is served she should
plement, and proceed to eat with it. This
Is cue for her guests who are all watch
ing her and the dinner goes off well.
There Is nothing more embarrassing
than not to know what to use in eating,
and, when ones plate is surrounded with
small dishes, saucers, little plates of all
ends as is so often the case at a luncheon
party, then, indeed is one in a peculiar
predicament. .... .. ~ (. !.
A guest at a London reception declared
that she drank two glasses of water while
waiting for her "cue from the. hostess.
bits Of e poteness and i these are II
ed upon kindness of heart and upon the
Golden Rule, then, surely, every hostess
wants to be done by And, when she is
selecting the silverware for her dinners
and the glassware for her luncheons, and
the covers for her MONDAY breakfast, she
will recall the admonition 'Do unto others
rs you would that they do unto you.''
Do not embarrass your guest. That is
the cardinal law of politeneSs; the essence
Of good manners.
A Few Things to Remember.
There are few of the points Of ct;
nor forgotten; The earmarl1s of good
manners are shown by the way you handle
your elbows at the table. If you stick
Or nI1t Of oS6 nf
turing the ribs of your neighbor and jog
ging his elbow at critical moments, you
are guilty of, not only gross breach of
etiquette, but of actual unkindness as
well.
Again, do not sit with your elbows upon
is not polite. The table is meant for the
dishes. and not for ones elbows nor for
ones hands. Do not lean on the table,, as
WEAKNESS and ennui. Try to sit erect and
to, show ,yivacity in your attitude. People
In the habit of resting half an hour before
dinner. They are then in good shane for
n hs eI ean Even If to the table tired
The handling of the knife and fork is
an exact INDEX or your own personal trafh-
pick up her knife and fork and Stand them
upright at each side Of her plate while
attTde can b win mhs e fs
most elegant dining hotels in town, and,
strange to say, it passes muster in good
society .' .'' y. -'-t|n'
But isn't it awful. Stand your knife and
fork up straight on the handle ends and
look at yourself in the glass. See how the
position mars the beauty of any girl no
matter how pretty or how graceful she
Rules for Visiting.,.- a..
,I Eat ", with your fork, and hold it in your
Let the knife rest upon the edge of the
little butterplate.
If it be a steel knife for meat cutting,
lay it upon the side of your own plate, a
little Toward the back. g i ! EEE. w ..
When cutting meat cut one piece at q
time add lift itwith your fork.
Never use the knife With the left hand.
Never, under any circumstances. use
your own fork for removing, cheese from
or any other article served from one gem
If in a family where bread is cut and
passed, use your fingers .ss.
If the bread is cut for you and served
in your napkin, break it before spread
ing The family fold the napkins, fold yours
Touch the lips with the napkin before
drinking from your water glass
and raI # y yoaf DO not want t, leave it.
Express no opinion of the food unless to
praise it,
III IN q private Idu1lly Fl Is dlOWdOlS "
compliment the hostess upon the excel
lence of q dish.
Never ask for another plate of soup.
Do not take a second helping or any
course if there are other courses to fol-
low as you delay the dinner.
At ceremonious dinners place your nap,
kin across your lap as soon as seated ana
s. show that you are ready. to be served.
At a fine dinner the plates are upon the
table when the guests seat themselves. "A
knife and fork lie across each plate. Re-
move the knife and fork to the side of the
plate. The waiter cannot place oysters OF
soup before you. 81
Some Plain Rules.
But, it is not SO much at hne DINNERS,
when you are on your guard, Inat mis-
takes are made, but in everyday aHalrs
Here the real lady''is shown as nowhere
else, and here the blood tells, as the old
A real lady, will be very pretty in her
luncheon manners. She will not take e
1 into It as though she were a drowning
or as though she had been undergoing
starvation rations upon a desert island
While it is the height of po1iteness to 90
fril Justice to a. meal and very poor et1-
nuetfe to eat sparingly, at the same time
You must not appear hungry. Do not act
starved. Take your sandwich ,, ana s, cut ~ y
hread. a double sandwich, a. biscuit, none
IF these things are pretty, and certa inly
none are conf Portable, to say noth1n else
about them. 2.ss,,.,
- Corn on the cob, asparague IN the stalk.
fa ND ddeIicacies. Of that kind can be taken
as they are served, but are the exception On
az ss5y,-tS YOUR sandwich and eat it .daintily.
Keen the tahlecloth about your plate "a