The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1902-01-21
TIE 9 Z TYPE og

>4'- TYPE OF GIRL
In this matter 90
nave not advanced dnr ~sn'e'a v,
n nnIs 09 nnt We Americana he last
give manners the a]tte aopo' Do Dot
t 9os'r rao.. Abroad, We are oso.. The,
5ne reputation of betno acquiring
dressed people in the 2s'y so the boa
ABOUT our manners, which 's.a but
more important than dra.. are s'a
often a polite but signiaosn,, 'as'sh
Our educational system sbo. ,l,saa
more account of deportm etu,a @h
in large measure, is eTo 'rs' which
what we represent. The oS!'e d
mosphere is warmed nv tb 9o0''' a.
slasm of youth We sano sn'1a'
even envy the overaowinp rt..S St
OF the healthy girl. B7t w s'''l4
ou'pu' ol thls enthsiasm and vi,,% w
becomes forgetful of the f. ,,S''q
and opinions of others, the 1,oa
tween good manners and -.uS o.
crossed. Young women u6 Dau L
fond of outdoor sport., who az, s'
as we'll as men numerous ~. 10
shat, in the past, mon alone a5 lug
women who are suooessfnrr au'
peting with men in the bn.iDo ssl.
the professional world, exn,. u ~
power and freedom which n' w.
mothers did not have. Tbi.i..r a'1
lent, but these progressive voms,
are in danger of offending eood nav
by giving their exultation and 49,.
own personalities too great an .n
phasis. Some of them feaI N,
their sturdy work, or play, is ton en-,
crossing to give them time for II,
delicate amenities and little not;o.,
OF social life, that in my youth warn
held in such high esteem. This vtsv
of manners is not that of the ma.
jority of women, but it has sniff 3ien
prevalence to have caused a deter.
GRAFTON in pOliteness, since the dsu
when | went to school. Young vp
men are less reserved than they used
to be. They should remember th,
reserve is a power in life, as in liter
allure. It is possible to be frank
yet keep something in reserve.
Good manners are not a mere mat
ter of form. 1t is, of course, essen
tial that there be some Standard
department., but the garment Of for
NAL pOliteness is easily assumed
and may conceal d~epravity. Tra
pOliteness, the kind shat cannot
cOunterfeited, finds its source ina
good heart, sincerity is its Chief
element. To be polite in the truo
sense, one must be we'll manner9dll
thought and feeling. If d mother
brings her children up to be sell
respecting, sincere and conslders8
of others, she need not drill them
much in the external forms Of p0Ie
ness. She may rest assured t1si
they will have innate good breeding
which is a key to many of the words
stOrehouses of success and happiness
The freedom or even la1lty O.
manner which l have seen develop
in young people during the last lew
years is but a reaction against lilo
old stiffness and Formally OF s0C'8|'
Already this reaction is beginning
TO wear itself out, and the p0nuu'a1
of American womanhoOd TO s"'lS
evenly and smoothly. The ne" ~
fuences and opportunities "n''D
have come into she lives of our W.
men during the period of my 0O''l
walton, have resulted in a sta5s u
affairs which partakes som0"n''"
the chaotic but, out of the ooa ~,
order is being born, and out OIL .r
stimulating new conditions ., %sD
come the representative t"9n . ,
century girl, who will Oe, trl. ID
the highest type of girl the :. s S.s
has seen.-Julia Ward Howe IL '''
CESS.