Iowa County democrat. [volume] (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1877-1938, 1902-03-20

I full. The unhappieSt marriages are
usually those which at tie outset rave
seemed the most ecstatic. After the
| early passion has passed and hubby
does not dispense quite so many
| kisses, and appears to think about his
| breakfast and dinner in addition to
wifie's eyes, and sometimes feels hurt
| Il he cannot find the clothes brush,
comes the real test for a good OIL d
bad marriage.
! If the wife also develops similar ten
denotes, then domestic strife is sure
to supervene. II, on the other hand,
she understands her husbands little
explosions and sees Alright that he can
not be always kissing her, and gener-
ally takes the thing in the practical
| light Of sensible woman, and sets to
work 10 be a good wife, then things
will go smoothly.
| So that the ideal marriage IS one in
which early passion can develop by
easy stages into a quiet, mutual suit
ability, tempered by liberation OF each
others peculiarities. Could not a hate
marriage have similar results? II
| passionate love degenerates in time
| into such prosy business as the
above. would not hate in the same way
! become transformed By marriage INTO
! quite respectable, domestic, pleasant
mutual arrangement?
! The essentials Of a hate match are
| as follows: DO you really hate mel :?
| Is She the last woman in the world
| that you could possibly love? Would
! life seem intolerable with her? Does
| the sound Of her voice or q glance
! from her eyes fill you with nameless
| IOathng. Is parting with her the
| sweetest ccstaCy? Do you long for
| the day to come when you VIII never
! see her again? Then you hate her
| You should propose and get her to
name the unhappy day.
| And what if she does not hate you
| Surprising she merely dislikes you
| Surprising she just detests you So
cially and loathes you as a mere
! enemy, what then? Do not be dis
| cOuraged, but persevere. In time she
may really hate you.
Hate letters. of course, will pass be
| tween you. You will write to her i'll
| terms of delirious execratiOn, and she
| viii reply with cold contempt. And
! suppose. instead Of replying to your
proposal favOrably she says that,
while she dislikes you much she could
never marry you-that she will be a
mOther-in-law to you what then? Do
not be discouraged. Say you think
/ she would learn to hate you. That you
have detested her since you first saw
| her, and that she alone has the power
to make you unhappy by utterins one
| short word And she consents.
! You Will swear VOWS Of hatred dis
! honor, and disobedienCe, viii spend
! your honeymoon hundreds Of miles
| from each other. will afterwaru 1--we
! in different parts Of the house At first
| YOU will hate each other with I'M
reasoning frenzy. 1t will last for SIX
months or so. Then. in turn. hubby
will cease to hate his wife. her nair
will no longer be eXocrable to him
and she will cease to look on his whiS-
Ecrs as the hight of misery. He will
| get tired of hating the shape of her
hdiIdS ana the SIZE OF nef leeL. anu
she will begin to think that he is
really not quite so detestabIe as she
at first thought.
This feeling Will perhaps continue.
They will grow merely Indifferent to
/ each other. and, In time to mutually
! tolerate each other as partners III a
! concern that has to be run They
may. after a time dine together. or
! perhaps take a walk. Then. in the
calm light of converse non, each may
| discover that the other is quite in
/ tcre%ting, and from that-who knows?
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