The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1902-06-15
And the gossips all agree that there's
been loving peace in the house since.


zone thing really vexes me-" said the
mother of a debutante daughter to the
New York Tribune reporter. and that
is to have the opinion of her silly little
contemporaries carry more weight with
my Mabel than my own. Nab is a
we'll brought up child, and has a pretty
deferentiai manner when listening to
my ideas, but l know all the while she
is wondering what Edith NJ. or Elsie
n. will say on the subject, and IL is
their approval or disapproval that is
the test. il may be the question of a
hat or gown, or even of a lover.
Everything concerning a girl of that
age is submitted to the test Of public
opinion as voiced by chits of eighteen
or twenty. 1t is annoying enough
when this censorship is exercised only
in clothes, etc. but when IL concerns
people il becomes really serious. There
is no doubt about it that an adVan-
tageous match has often been spoiled
by these sharp little tongues that are
no respecters of persons, and many a
girl who would, II let alone. fall in love
and marry in the good old fashioned
way, has literally not dared to evince
a preference for any man that her
friends chose to make fun of. Men do
not realize this, and they often make
great mistake in ignoring the friends
of the girl that takes their fancy, for
these friends can make or mar young
mans fortune If they feel so disposed.
1T is always worth while to gain
the goodwill of every one as far as II is
possible, but never more so than TO
make a friend instead of foe Of an
attractive girls most intimate friend"
This is really n heart to-heart talk
with the summer girl, says Kate Thy
son Mari, in the Chicago Inter-Ocean
l am not going to preach-in fact,
/ hate women who think 1t their duty
to be hammering advice into young
people, but there are so many mothers
who have not sense enough to guide
or to direct a girl, or to tell her many
things that she ought toknow.
The seaside girl, or the mountain
girl, or the summer girl of am local
ity should be equipped in keeping with
her surroundings. If she cannot ap-
pear to the same advantage as those
about her she lays up a store of un-
happy heart burnings that rob her out
ing of all pleasure. While she may not
be able to afford the splendor of some
others around her. and may have less
in every sense of the word, yet il her
wardrobe, though inexpensive, is pref
ty and dainty, and her personality
attractive, she may safely enter the
lists against her more favored sisters.
But though her wardrobe may be cir
cumscribed, yet it should be sufficient
ly we'll supplied to meet the require
ments of environment.
A white summer gown has boundless
possibilities for the limited purse, and
a few dollars judiciously disposed of
can net marvellous results. If, how
ever, one is haunted by the nightmare
of laundry bills, then other materials
should be substituted. There is moth
ing so absolutely repulsive as soiled
white clothing 1t cannot always be
helped when one is returning from a
days outing, but 1t can be when one
is starting out.
Women sometimes have an idea that
because they know that they will be
dirty on the return they are excusable
| for beginning the day in a rig that
is simply wailing for soap. 1t is a
wretched mistake. Start out clean and
fresh, no matter If you return bedrag-
gled to your neck.
| No man was ever fascinated by a
woman who acted as the decoration of
, soiled shirtwaist, but he is in danger
when a pretty girl Is caught in a show
| er and looks forlorn and bedraggled,
and half abashed, which unconsciously
| makes her appear at her best, and
while a man may laugh at her and
! sympathize, yet his heart is touched by
the evident embarrassment she is suf-
| fering and he wants to pet her and
| comfort her.
The summer resort is where a woman
should forget herself for the sake of
others. Women are so intensely vain!
And nothing so f1atters that vanity to
repletion as a conquest of the most
eligible man in sight His first show
of interest fills the feminine heart with
divine imitation, and his every act
is watched and noted with lynx-like
attentiveness. If he has horses, the
sight of another woman sharing his
drives fills her with anguish. If he
has yacht, she breads the appear
ance of others who may win him from
her. In every stage she is tortured
and very often this keen desire TO
monopolize proves her own undoing.
The girl who simply accepts a mans
courtesies, who never comments on at
tentions paid others, but regards il as
matter of indifference, and who
leaves him perfectly free, is the girl
who will WELD the greatest influence
over him. The moment she essays to
question his actions, that moment she
loses her grip on him by becoming dis
agreeable.
Don't criticise people or their clothes
on hotel piazza. You may tread on
the tender pet corns of somebody's
sisters, or cousins, or aunts, whom
you wish to cultivate. Don't make
sarcastic comments. They belittle the
persons making them. and are sure to
be repeated to their injury. And if you
feel any jealousy surging up in your
heart, mask it.
The summer girl Is more or less I'm
fiuenced by climatic conditions. The
heat expands her ideas, and she views
life through caloric magnifying lenses
A girl will do many things while at
the seaside with mercury in the nine
ties that she will be nortally ashamed
of when she gets back to town and
zero weather has cooled off some of her
exuberance. She will call some fervid
memories of a warm night with a
blush of regret. Summer time fairly
breeds atmospheric indiscretions to
which negligence lends a helping hand
A girl thinks it all fun at the time;
later she cannot anaiyze nor under
stand the impulses that governed her
Above all things, when SO assidu-
ously cultivating the young Mr.. Eli
gible, let her also pay the greatest
Difference to his woman friends 1t
is an awful mistake for a girl to ig-
more the feminine element, because a
slight is a thing that the aforesaid
element treasures up, and finds 1t
hard to forgive. A girl should renlem-
Der that 1t is not always summer,
and when comes the genus feminine
gets her innings. 1t is she who sends
out the invitations for teas and dances
and all sorts of social functions, and
her influence may not only debar the