Durango semi-weekly herald., 1902-08-25
CIR Is, BE
MA TURAL

~ NhNi "a weak NhAf tHHH'leH't lhf
present method o, deceit evasion and
Imitation fosters
young gIl WHO is enjoying the
doubtful delights of a FIRST bean said
10 me The other day never know
what 10 say to my company ! prepare
my conyefaauous ia advance, and
'hink know inst what shall say to
be entertalning, but when the time
comes, | am Just Ike an oyster This
the result OF wisnins 10 be and to do
something unnatural tile very conf
mon desire oi humanity TO fake"
Don't DO H. nay dear young friend.
trust to occasion and brains for In
pifation spuuiaueiy m couversa-
zion is its greatest charm, while stud
led talk % positively painful
Girls be natural
Did YOU ever aee an affected man2
Yes. occasionally you meet a smper
M dude who tries 10 appear some
hing that be is not. and sou are prone
20 inquire What is it?' But it
must be admitted. to mans exaltation.
that compared with the number OF
wnmen. bat lnw men are afflicted with
the disease OF putting on more po-
ltely termed aGectation." The de
ire ou The part OF either sex to appear
well is highy commendable, but the
method OF asmmirg "A false manner
fails OF It's pufpoe
DO not try to copy others. A lady
70 the manor aud manner born is adj
mirahle she has q polish that you
envy aud fain wonid Initiate. but you
must remember that true culture
comes from within is q srowth of the
soul and not confined TO pretty man
nerisms not a mounting OF fair words
which but too often come only from
he lips True culture viii ever eN-
press itself grncefuly and with sin
cerity that imprrssas those who have
,he good fortune lu come within its
range.
Beautiful manners may he cultivated
but not suddenly assumed as you
would don your Rimono for drawing
room use ln an emergency on hot
afternoon
An assumed voice is one Of the adul-
tetatious most commonly heard in the
social gathering and les always so dis
pleasing ua to win the stamp Of spuri-
ous musical voice may be Guilt
waited but mott donncd for an occasion
The method Tor acquiring 1t is this:
Speak u gentle tones TO your pa
rents. brothers and sisters, school
maies and wrtirrlarly to your less
fortunate brothers and sisters
Nearly as. common as the affected
voice ls the pliucd expression OF face
which attempts to look refined or wise.
As an bOaurnl outward expression
must come from within. the pleasant
ountcnauc, must be iimmiucd by the
hariunblc and sympathetic impulses
of "a noble, generous soul. Faces beau
tiul in coluhug and feature are not
rare In society but that beauty which
inacnntos ami Hngers in the memory
Of ,ho bcholdyr is of the soul,
Why is this boauty seen 30 rarely?
Hconusc ot the attempts Of the low
er stratas 70. ociety 10 emulate those
above them iu hlrtA. opportunity or
inaucial standing The remedy
When pride OF character and spirit.
nal development Is placed above the
frivolous forums and fallacios Of socie-
~. then may o change for the better
bc hoped tor then there shall be less
Of the counterfeit and more OF the
genuine
n yo. 0. 2. i, laf do not be
ashamed ut yo-s nalo- ali.J your
birthplace. Your father lr lother
your awkward friend, your poverty,
your m, aero Educational opportunities,
your WooatIon nor to go 10 the door
With yoW apron on.
u you have ancestry. Il is not as
ronishlur- people bavr- reserve
discussions .lIcaruius Ut Tor the priva-
ey of your nmlly circle. 10 You would
not have alirs and gentlemen smile
aud reserve comment Likewise ah-
stain from hoasung of your rich rola-
uye Neither your noble an
cesturs NOR tnur rich relations are sub
stantiol backing with people who are
In their RIGHT minds. Il is true, oi
coursu tNHr tbofo is class OF people
With whom such credentials pass but
he surcat way s 10 build ON YOUR own
haurtor AVID not on the achievements
Of others
The true Indy OF gentleman does not
deceive with what is known la society
as "whitg lies" The truth properly
told Will gar rake the place OF false
hood Tho vicious practice Of white
lyiug couum the young. y child's
Hrst lesson ia talsehooi Is usually
when bis mother tolls the maid 10 say
mot at humc and from this he
speedily bgsomes a social diplomat
which means skultul pretender OF
course thrra is another definition.
The pmruUcs Of good society have
much TO answer for in the corruptlns
Of youth
pear girls and bows. live white lives.
and you will not have to ton white
lies po Dot ally yourselves with
that class Who will never do anything
very great nor anything very mean A
black he ls better than a white lie,