The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1902-11-01


ment before the event which you cele-
brated so gloriously the other night. It's
sucn an old illustration that 1 hate to
use II but man simply won't run af-
ter he's caught his car"
why should hep demanded the hus-
band
Even the 7. NJ. couldn't answer that
satisfactorily, replied the Oracle, but
mats what she wants. and what every
wife wants-a little of the eagerness and
concern her husband showed before he
married her. The Bachelor is right
100; lust because man devotes more
OF MS leisure to his newspaper than he
does to his wife doesn't argue that he
cares less for her than he does for the
paper: but if he let's the paper wait it
Will be old tomorrow.
The trouble isn't think, in a radical
difference between women and men
themselves. but merely in their educa-
ton and in their daily lives. It's just as
Byron said. wOnan's love is her whole
existence. We pretend to have changed
all that with advanced education for
women and by admitting them to an
| equal place with men in the arts and
professions and in business life. but the
New woman is Ditifully like the old.
| Wnen she marries she drops her Life
work, and presently she's as dependent
upon her husband as if she had had
nothing more than the polite boarding
school education of fifty years ago. 1
| don't believe that women have a mo-
noDoly Of all the tenderness and affec-
tlon; l think their husbands are Just as
loving, lust as self-sacrificing as they,
but their love is different. In both cases
1t IS more selfish than most people are
| willing to admit A woman Dretends
because she loves him, but is that love
as high and as generous as her love for
ner children which makes her willing to
deny herself the pleasure of their COM
pany for their own pleasure or benefit
A wife is never willing to efface herself
put every mother does it gladly. If you
truly and unselfishly love another don't
you put his happiness higher than your
own? Don't you want him to play cards
IL that is his WISH rather than to stay
with you? Aren't you glad to permit
MN to amuse himself in any way? Isn't
the one consideration, his welfare and
happiness, rather than your own? That
Emporia man who got himself into so
much trouble with the mothers con-
gress-What was his name, Christina n p
| if he were a woman ina cfne he'd
change his mind about the divine quail
ity of woman's love-it's purity, it's I'M
Iseldshness.
AS rule 2 woman hasn't much of
anything to do. She reads all day, and
it's not surprising that she doesn't care
ABOUT a book or paper at night, so
when her husband comes home she
wants him to talk to her or to go on
some place instead of reading But the
average man is pretty tired when night
comes and is glad to sit down with a
paper and cigar and spend quiet
evening of rest and remuneration 1t
doesn't seem to me that the fact that
q husband wants to read is any proof
r tnat he doesn't love his wife or that
the fact that she would rather talk 10
MIN than to read is any proof that she
loves her husband. I would want fur
Their evidence in both cases.
"A woman is naturally more demonstra-
tive than nan but is she as deep? A
woman has man on her mind more than
a man has any woman in his Thoughts
unless he's perfectly insane about her
out isn't that to be explained perhaps by
the fact that a woman has so few things
TO think about Take the women of af-
talrs, the women who achieve success in
business, in the arts or in the professions
, the women who have as many interests as
men. as much to interest and worry them
cont they seem as independent of their
husbands as the average husband does OF
his Wife? If a woman is club crazy or
stage struck society and she neglects
: ner husband and her home as shamefully
as the most direlict husband. Think of
the women who go away for visits or
from one to three months? Could any
man intrenched behind his newspaper for
seven nights in week give stronger evil
dence of Indifference? Isn't it noticeable
? among the very rich that the women OF
} the family are as greatly occupied with
their interests as the of the family
with their money-getting? The average
woman has no interests outside her hus-
band. but why? Because she loves him SO
much more than he does her or beeaus,
she is essentially of a more loving nature
1 think rather because with the average
woman, nowadays there's nothing else
doing. The women in Topeka, for in
stance. Don't they have to think about
their husbands in self defense? What else
? is there for them to think about? If they
have families, which is very unfaShiOna a.
bic, they are small. If they keep house
which is almost exceptional, they have re-
$ duced 1t to the mere struggle to keep a
2 maid. Some of them do a lot of talking
i about their clubs. but how much real in
a tel est do you suppose they take in Their
clubs? How much of their time do theii
cubs occupy? Society, here, could not be
, called an occupation, even If a woman
s went to everything. Most of them read
] the new books meaning the new novels
I and most of them sew little and do some
| needlework for Christmas presents anC
most of them play cards one or two after
Moons in a month. The rest of the time
: they're thinking about their husbands
teasing them to put down their papers
and talk to them complaining abou
them to another. The husbands have
their work which is the principal intereS
versions which the women employ will
some others that women, generally
haven't taken up yet Is it any wonder
that they have less time for their wive:
than the wives have for them? A woman
has simply nothing to do but her hus
band.'
20, you know a lot about it. said thu
Wise One Selling the first opportunity t.
bring the monologue to a close. Jus
wait until you have a husband of you
own and you'll talk differently. Com
over to my house and I'll show you
horrible example that hasn't looked III
from his paper since half past seven thi
morning."
Table and Kitchen.
Conducted by Ida Ames willis. Mar