New-York tribune., 1902-03-17
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zone good thing about clubs" said the clever
woman thoughtfuly. lis that they stimulate cour-
tesy in women"
Women don't need H." said the social woman.
plantively But should be thankful to know Of
anything that would stimulate courtesy IN men"
That's strange" said the clever woman. "EyI-
IDENTIFY It all depends the point Of yiew-li.
other matters. In much as courtesy IS con-
Ccrned 1 would prefer TO have business dealings
with twenty men in "A day than with woman"
We'll, In society" observed the other. 81 would
prefer to deal with nifty women than with
man. Take young girl. for eNamplc-the moT.st
bud, just emerged from the calyX OF the nursery.
Um trying not to mix my metaphorsD Well she
may have her little airs and vantics and naughty
ways but II she has been taught anything you
depend upon her to do the correct thing: 60
answer your invitation promptly and prettily. to
arrive on time and to do her share Of anything
that is expected in the way of dancing. taIkr <.
music; In short to help her hostess by making
herself as agreeable possible. OF course.
few shy or incapable. but you that
they make an effort. In most cases And a woman
who IS accustomed social life will immediate
herself to any extent on the altar of proprety.
She may snub impossible people. what the
English call 'detrimentals' or she may even be
lacking in the sort of courtesy which means kind
ness Of heart; but she will never do the unpar-
donable things-sulk in corners. neglect the ordi-
nary conventicnalites refuse to dance when she
is invited for that purpose-aII those things. you
know, which drive a hostess crazy"
And you find that in society do those
things"
MY dear it is one Of the chief difficulties of en-
tertaining especially with the younger men. Some
of them fail to realize the sarctity OF a dinner
engagement. They will keep you waiting for
reply until II is late to dnd a substitute, or
possibly accept your invitation and disappoint YOU
the last moment. | assure you that young Van
Booram asked be a woman's guest at a
club breakfast. s. a cover and. after accepting.
broke the appointment by that mornings mail"
Did she cut him."
NO; that's the trouble Young too
much needed in society to be treated they de-
serve. At a dance, the hostess is nervous every
moment lest her most popular men should fal
victims TO extreme fatigue. and stand looking
Ianguidly while the girls sit without partners And
If a does not get the partner he wants for
cotilIon-or at dinner posit ycly you can do moth
ing with HIM"
1T is simply aggravated form of selfshness,'
said the clever woman, "or constitutional lack
of conscience. The dscourtesies of women OF
an entirely different type. Apart from the street
hends of both sexes, | find that IL Is In the
business world that women sin the most against
oh in business they get tired and nervous"
IT'S not that altogether Womtn have & nol yet
assfk that m tbcy're afraid to be human Thay
think ii quite the right thing to be just a little
brutal The other day l found young girl cry
ing over note from womans exchange commit
tee She explained that what hurt her was not so
much their rejection OF her knit shawl and her
Communication She felt as if her things had been
with thanks letter from editor, and she said II
must be almost pleasure to be turned down by
such a polite mani
.Ah yes." said the social woman; IT'S the man
ner that counts ! remember spending days
AT a big woman's dormitory at the exposition.
The women in the office like many Cor
gons They looked you with a stony glare and
When they wanted to find out whether you
ockhoIder or a transient guest. the way they
snapped out stock transient? made you feel
II you were in reality mere homeless tramp ask
ing for charity / almost expected 10 be sent away
with what Mr.. Flynt calls poke out
Yes I'm afraid women make too much of
little brief authority. at times We all remember
the church guild tyrant; the mother in Israel
don't really know at this time whether the type
has died out or is ytill huorshing."
oh she's fourishing stl: | know her eX-
claimed the social woman, struggling her shoulders.
"Only last week she sent my daughter home in
tears from a meeting OF the altar society"
Strange. people don't learn that it doesn't pay
10 be rude or unkndl' observed the clever woman.
but here we are in the old groove. Every one
IS more or less objectionable, except you and mel
Take another cup Of tea 1t Will strengthen our
virtues" i. -- ---