Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1902-04-05
WHEN ] At MAN WEEDS
AND HIS CHOICE rs HIS HEARTS
HIGH. LOVE.
Happy Homes and the Way to Keep
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Them So-A Pretty
Example.

little creature and fakes her to a new home
II Is sa1e 10 say there is no other time in
MS "noie lie when the good that is within
MIN Is so strong and his Impulses so near to
heaven.
VINO mas not seen a careless, bluff and
lrreligious young man become gentle and
mutely prayerful under the influences of a
young love, and stirred to reverence for
all women because one slip of a girl has
suddenly revealed her dependence on his
strength and her confidence in his good
ness! she may not realize that she has il in
her power for this brief time to leave last
ing Impressions On his loye-soft heart, and
10 elher sWeeten or embitter his character
40 not mean that the influences of a
sweet girl bride are going to make a good
man OUT OF rascal. But there Is no other
tlme ~hen such a Transformation is as
nearly possible as when the untried home
sheltered, little child-woman he has Won
goes TO MIN In her faith and innocence and
gives her life into his care There are few
men so Worid-hardened that they do not
feel this, and who do not have strong
warnings toward all that is best and
truest Tor her sake. A woman knows the
depths of this same emotion. But it comes
70 ner at a later time: when little. cropping
helplesS hands flutter across her bosom
ana her soul cries out to God to make her
worthy OF the confidence that lights her
baby'S eyes
II 10 Seiu d wires influence lasts only as
long as the Illusion which he has cast about
her can be preserved
is II not Strange thing, knowing this
that women allow the beautiful. Intangible
ven Which renders them sacred in. her hus-
bands eyes. to be torn away? If one wore
her fdeality all through those first honev-
moon days, why could she not wear it
through wife and motherhood?
Love and Trust.
Perhaps there is too much familiarity in
domestic life. The right to solitude is not
justly considered in the contract between
the partners. And the dignity Of the indi-
vidua1 is lost sight Of in maintaining the
rights of the firm.
Inc woman who keeps a mans love must
keep his interest and curiosity alive con-
cefnlng ner.. He must not know that she
Is going to be in certain place in a IA
mInar gown and with an unfailng smile
every day at one fixed and unalterable
time. He must not be sure of ANYTHING in
the world about her but her truth and good
ness ana he viii treat her at their golden
wedding festival with the same courtesy
that he showed her as bride
little more knocking at the doors In the
hcuse or life; little more reserve between
married people, would preserve to the end
the charm and delicacy of the courtship
America is full of happy homes, and it is
said by famous jurist that the percentage
OF divorces is small. But it will be smaller
come familiar with the rights and limita-
tons Of the estate. Love is the one and only
excuse for marriage, And love Is not eter-
nal; 1t is the rarest and most delicate Gift
OF God, and be sets It In the hearts OF men
and women as a florist may plant his
choicest rose. Not promising that it will
live, but giving it the right and chance to
do so.
Can't Do, Too Much.
woman cannot put forth too many eff
forts to make home a paradise 1t is in
deed her province, the object of her thought
and care, and she must establish her claim
that it is the heart and center of the world,
for marriage was originated and is main
tanned by woman. 1t is for her protection
and honor. And while man would fain be
free as butterfly in a garden of honey
suckes bee in a field of clover, he ac-
cepts the institution for her sake. And as
he makes the best of it, she should make it
for the best.
1 have been quite frank in admitting our
vanity, and now 1 am going to get up
courage and say those big brothers of ours
are Vainer still: and there Is point that
any one should seize in a campaign for
happiness Men love to be praised And l
have discovered the appalling fact that the
last person from whom a man expects
praise is his wife. Think Of that! When
loves tender flattery will smooth all the
hard places in life!
Il tell my husband the truth about him
SELF said the wife of a public man recent
ly. and an older woman answered:
''Oh, my dear, my dear, how can you be
so rash!"
1t really was the faith and f1attery of
Ruth Whitcomb that made her husband
succeed. He had married her when they
were both young; and he had never dream
ed of leaving the old place until the sud
den realization of his little wife's dainty
looks and gentle ways awakened his desire
to protect her from the hardships of the
farm.
II want to take you to the town to live.
Ruthie," said he. But l don't know how
L could take of you there These big.
rough hands are modelled for the pillow
handle; guess; but have always wanted
to study law. a foolish notion, like enough,
and L suppose you'll laugh at me-
He looked at her with mans sharp
dread of being ridiculed. But she put her
arms around his neck and answered.:
Never think that l would do that. How
could l, loving you as 1 do? Besides. I
know you would make a great lawyer.
Your head is just the right shape for It:
and want you to begin to study now"
So they moved to the town and set up a
real home in two rooms, and John pored
over the 1eather-covered tones and tried to
get the John Does and Richard Roes sorted
out, and foundered in hypothetical cases
and sank in the deep morasses of exhibits.
articles and clauses-and goodness and
Ruthie, know what else-until one day he
said there was no use in trying; he could
iiot See Through IL, anu ne Was gong to
give it up and go home.
A Woman's Way.
Then the soft arms We're around his neck
again and the little woman assured him
that he would do no such thing He was
born to be great, and she knew it. His
bump of logic fairly expanded under her
hand as she softly smcothed his hair.
So it went until examinations Then
John failed and came back to Ruth, white,
haggard and desperate
'I a fool" he said, land know no
more of law than a jack rabbit I am 60
ing to take you and all my other hopes
back to thedfarm.p
But Ruth said: mot one of us will CO.
You going to be a great man; know
because all the great men the world has
known failed a first. That's a splendid
sign. And we are going to try again."
And SO they did, and still again, and In
the end came triumph, and ever and ever
so much later place among the law
makers in the United States Senate for
John. %.
Doesn't it seem stranger" said he to
Ruth when the great day came and he was
chosen. -
mot bit" answered Ruthie. 81 always