New-York tribune., 1902-01-29
SELECONTROL IN CHILDREN
WOMEN'S GUILD LISTENS TO SUCCESS
TIONs ON GUIDING THE LITTLE ONES.

WOMEN'S GUILD LISTENS TO SUGGES-
TIONS ON GUIDING THE LITTLE ONES.
How to Develop self-Control in Children was
the subject considered yesterday morning at a
meeting of the Mothers Club of the Woman's
Guild of the Manhattan Congregational Church. at
Broadway and Seventy-sxth-st. Mrs. ". E. Her
vey who was chairman of the day, and delivered
the address, referred this attribute of the
chief things that distinguishes man from the brute
creation The lesson of self-control must begin
from the time OF the childs BIRTH said the speaker
One of the first opportunities teach a child
selt-control will be not to pick it up every time
that it cries. The mother who yields to the i'm
pulse always to give the infant its way in this
matter is already deprivng it of opportunity to
acquire the needed discipline"
Example. the speaker said. A most potent les
son. and means which many were reluctant to
dertake System order. punctuality and good health
were necessary to the proper development of self
control as a we'll ordered life is conducive to
strengthening II. Normal desires should also be
gratified. in the form of little pleasures which
essential to the chd's webeing. When child
is old enough to understand appeal its pride
and dignity such step is often productive of good
when other measures fail. The cigarette habit in
a small boy could often be cured simply by the
statement that boys do grow so we'll who
smoke
Manual training was also spoken of affording
valuable discipline. Children acquire self-control
in doing that work because they learn when carv-
WoOu, instance, that SlaShing at II Will ruin
it. when by patience and exercise of the will the
work be completed.
Responsibility was spoken OF good for even a
small child. One boy who would take more than
his share of candy from a weekly allowance TO all
was absolutely Indifferent to rules until it occurred
to his father to give the whole quantity into his
hands and place on him the responsibility of its
rightful distribution and the of any left
| The diSnihed position OF custodian of the whole
appealed to the childs of responsibility, and
| he took advantage Of Il hal
himself The child must learn that its life cannot
| be controlled by whims and tastes, but by high
Ideals. ana this be best taught by pointing
examples of noble lives Standards said the
speaker. ''and the quality of sticking to purpose
through hardship and trial is that every child
should be taught to cultivate In closing, the
! speaker said submission the will of another
was the beginning of selfcontrol: religious spirit
| Is at the root of il all. When have learned
De submissive to the will of God know how to
| use our own viii
Miss Elizabeth Williams OF the College Settle
| ment at No. 95 Rivington-st spoke Of the work
done there to help the mothers In tenement houses.
| rev people realize how isolated the mothers
who i've on the upper floors of tenement houses
family lves on the top floor. she seldom goes out.
Inc children DO all the buying and the things are
devotion TO their children, and willing to make all
sdcrihceS for their welfare. They never look for
| pleasure Tor themselves. and the way reached
tnem Is by getting the children to bring them. as
dren's interests"
| Special entertainments are got up to which
the husbands are invited. and they TO take
pleasure in the opportunity for companionship and
sociability The women love TO go into the beauti-
full homes thew are inytted m ,,iejt hv ,bnsa intar
ested in the work. One philanthropst invites par
les made up or women over seventy years of age.
glad to avail themselves Of opportunities to do
| better with the means at their command