The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1902-12-12
DISCIPLINE FOR * CHILD J; Il

O4D4l LIME - IN Va1LO.',. ~
Keep Rnnishmenttis,s for Grave offenis i s.
Overlook, When No Principle J. {
is at Stake. ~: =. l..
Furnishing ones child. is the Gethse-
name Of motherhood. All the physical
care that has been given-the devotion
and self-sacri6ce, the anxious ministra-
tons in sickness-all are as naught COM
pared with the dealing out OF punish
tronted with the wrong-doing, then fol-
lows the necessity of recognizing the Of
Tense with the serious correction of the
offender
The superficial mother has the ever
resourceful Ito herr spanking literally ut
her finger ends. The thoughtful and in
telligent mother, VINO realizes that her
child's individuality must be studied here
more than anywhere else, has graver
responsibility to assume. Then after
these steps have been taken, comes. the
agony OF int1icting the punishment. To
hurt. either physically or mentally, the
little one she loves more than her life:
to cause even a temporary shrinking
from her who has ever been the shield
and comforter: to listen to piteous sobs
and renonstrances-ah.+ bitter indeed is
this phase Of motherhood! The unsel6sh
mother, however, inflicts these wounds,
upon herself, and saves the child future
OF failure. unhappiness and hopeless re-
greet.
BE not discouraged because your boy
boris. Tie strongest and most positive
characters lit children make the greatest
and most useful men and Women-if
properly controlled. Nor is it advisable
to adopt the method Of Mrs. Smith be-
cause it has proven successful in her
case; She may have clay to mould-you,
marble to ch,sel. Under no circum-
stances sta. I ooastfully aver that you will at
ter that you help him to conquer him.
is leading.
A distinguished dfsciplinarian once, up
on being asked to what he attributed his
success, said: ITO my faculty for not
noticing, Much wisdom lies in this re-
ply, and his method should be adopted as
far as possible by mothers. Unless
principle is at stake, pass over the mis-
Your Dress . SBe ' s stiIl.' and ndn K Rese
clean," are the wrecking Of many little
lives. Slamming doors and muddy feet
are trying, but should pass by unnoticed
If possible. If the act shows no malice.
overlook it. Discriminate between deeds
may be regarded with love, mercy, and
wisdom.
Keep your punishments for grave of.
lenses. Never neglect administering
them when principle has been violated.
Time will correct and eradicate little
transgressions and misdemeanors. Don't
3ag;, or scold, or threaten, and, finally,
don't whip. For all thoughtful child
trainers, in marked contrast to old-fash-
Toned teachings, decry whipping. "Use
the rod and spoil the child'' is now the
correct reading Of Solomon's advice. A
noted writer upon children says, "Whip-
ping will make liar Of any timid child"
Mothers WHY! because it is the simplest
method Of dealing with fault. No per-
manent good comes Of it. Strong ma
lures are made bitter and rebellious, the
confidence and cl0seness between whip
per and whipped is wrecked, and, above
all: the harmony of the home is irrevoc-
ably Jared.
gin at the beginning, and herein lies the
secret Of most failures. Mothers arc
waiting for the child to develop sense
and reason. Long before these qualities
have shown themselves, lack of respect
for you, and refusal to be governed, will
have be .39q paramount. Some one has
hs wise re Sad old 1a enough bte to
he is old enough to disobey." When the
child is year old, simple punishments
will prove efficient. 1t he be neglected
until 2 or 8. his discipline will have
to be much more severe. The simplest
plan to que!l an infantile insurrection is,
leave the child alone for q few moments.
Freed from the excitement Of arguing OF.
direct opposition, cut of from the asso-
citation, sympathy and love Of the
mother, the little offender will soon sob
out, s'1'll be good" Some babies hold
out 'Gnsef Of thai ne Win but if il only tssm
Recognize promptly the penitent, love
him, and comfort him by telling him how
happy his doing what is right has made
You.
When the child grows older, End hie
vulnerable point and attack that. Pun
they are either frequent Or UNMARRIED. 4
child sometimes forgets a fact, but never
an impression. Let his punishments be If
q sort to make an Impression If moth.
ers studied this matter they would soon
be able to render individual punishment,
thereby increasing the benefit to the
ures, cutting of Of spending money, TAX
ing away the thing the child enjoys the
mOst-these steps will make permanent
Impressions, far more resultant Of good
than the hurried spank Of the unthink-
ing mother. s>
less ahout cleaning her teeth. Coaxing,
until her mother happily devised this
plan: the child had an extraordinary
fondness for ice cream, and In plan
ming the desserts Of the family; Doro-
thy's preference was frequently regard
ed. Her mother one day decided to load