The Prince George's enquirer and southern Maryland advertiser. (Upper Marlborough, Md.) 1882-1925, 1902-11-07
ON SUBJUGATING
A HUSBAND,

Almost any woman who has an &C.
tive intellect at 20 can subjugate her
husband before she is 40, and the OBJ
ject Of this discourse is to show her
how she may do everything possible
to avoid it. If she is already approach
ing the age of 40 it may be impossi-
BILE to avoid it. The harm may have
been done already, but by starting in
time taking the necessary precautions
it can either be avoided altogether or
its worst consequences can be made as
tolerable as possible.
There is general impression among
nearly all members of my own sex
with whom l am acquainted that it is
misfortune for a woman to have an
active intellect. l am defining and
not indorsing this opinion. Ny own
opinion is that though an active in
tellect may be and often does become
a great misfortune to its possessor or
subject, it is greater misfortune not
to have it. Nothing human, as the
poet has said, is on all parts happy.
1t is easy to be very miserable with
Il very active intellect, but it is i'm.
possible to avoid being very miserable
with an intellect which will not ope-
rate at all. ..t..- +,
The very general impression with
the male sex, especially with its mar
riageablc members who have not yet.
reached the age Of 80 years, is that an
active intellect in marriageable young
woman ought to disqualify her from
matrimony. In the simplicity of her
inexperience of the masculine nature,
she may not know that the brilliancy
with which she seeks to attract is
really repellant. But whether she
knows it or not, it does have that effect
is intensified according to the degree
of the intensity Of his satisfaction with
his own intellect. $500 .tH'-~ :.
THIS intensity of self:satis!action,
though distressing in its effect, is
seemingly indispensable in the male
of the human family between the ages
of 90 and 40 years. The attempts to
write really serviceable natural his
tory of the human family are SO un-
satisfactory that there is no literary.
scientific or even polite definition for
the controlling impulse of this period
Of human life. The popular definition
however, is accurate and comprehen-
sive, even though it may seem to some
crudely metaphorical. Thus defined,
1t is the impulse to "butt up against
things" Developing its greatest
activities at about the age of 20, it
continues to be an operative factor of
efficiency as long as selfsatlsfaction
should he replaced by wisdem. But
this intention may easily be defeated
and it is probably true that wisdom is
responsible for not more than 10 per
cent. of the things which are actually
accomplished in the world. The re-
naming 80 per cent. result from the
impact of the innumerable host of
people who are continually butting up
against things with a view of forcing
the opening for themselves they did
not find ready made. a rs Us
The objection to suhjugating hus-
band after marriage, or to selecting
one who is already permanently sub
iugated before marriage, is that, if
be loses his own satisfaction with
himself in any way. even in what may
sccin the most desirable way of entire
submission to his wife, his impact a.
gainst exterior circumstances will
be feeble. The use to which nature
intends to put the head of the family
in this very use as battering ram to-
force an opening in the outer world
for the family. 1.-The is highly. salts
fed with himself at the beginning;
if at %, when he marries, his conf
dence in his own intellect is over
powering, and if this confidence is
judiciously sustained and increased by
his wife's admiration, his capacity as
a battering ram may become phenom-
email. He will not only butt, but go
on butting up against things, no mat
ter how greatly his head may suffer
from the absolutely unavoidable reac-
tions. Thus, by the time his satisfac-
tion disappears unnatural reactions
and attritions, he will usually have
made the necessary opening in the
world for the family of which he is the
head, and by the time wisdom and
caution takes possession Of him he ha
solved q natural problem in the natural
way. Ht-s a+"
1t is not only desirable, therefore,
but necessary, that every woman who