The St. Louis Republic. [volume] (St. Louis, Mo.) 1888-1919, 1902-10-05
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Good looks. money and soci1 position
A deharaute may have aIIthese. and SIN
nor make-a social SUCCESS.
What then constitutes the most correct
way IN which a young SRI about ~ make
her first bow 30 -or.r-. may ha brought
forward To the unrice OF those already tui-
tiatede How may she Pc introduces WITH
o,lr baIng either urulsesantly conspicuous
or fooIishly aEyg-tisel2 How must she De
eutertaivgG and A-W commented on ana
praised.t0 the best and not the worst al
VANTAGE
These are the questions which should
pqssibry they da-asitate chose society per
sons who h-v, the custody this iai q
prospective dtbutant"s. That society 4
regularly planned and seriously considefei
eampaicn nubcdy with brains nowadays viii
deny. That girl has far less "~shnWinS.
tfrvou like the word. for beliedom tSau she
did ~ hen hgr mother was just "out no.seh-
sib,e woman viii refuse TO admit. The men
don't know a thing about Il. ana nav
noticed that fathers generally pooh-pooh
the idea af a debut anyway. ONT very e~1-
mable father cf an extremely ntce ana Al
traruvn eirl refused last season 10 let ms
Slaughter make q debut in any sort % way
saying that "he didn't propose 10 80 ABOUT
advertising the fact thar Dolly (which ISM
her nanne) was looking for a hUshani- /
have noted all summer that Dolly who
went down somewhere East with the rest OF
the family. had anything hut n merry time;
for. somehow or other she uifn seem 10
get IN the swing. And now papa has haa 20
come forward and maufully swallow a gooi
big European "trip. which VIII keep her
abroad for a year with . party ot girls
aad YOU may be sur that this seiiSane
frip- is going 10 cost q whole lot more than
q comiEg-oUt han and in the end Woutd
have been Ear less expensive all round Also
more productive Of good results For. had
Dolly been allowed 20 properly enter So
ciety and do the things that her Nary lnsti-
iute chums began TO doLthat Is. going
about to theaters and some dancing. and
other functions. where she might have met
a man or two-the European trip might
never have been preached. and Miss Dolly
been well content 10 remain at home ana
enjoy another winter
But 10 70 back to our muttons. What shan
be done for a girl 10 insure her social sue
cessz How shall her cards be manipulated
so that the highest score be obtained? The
probiem is a big one. and VIII need all the
forces which family and parents can bring
forward. You see there are so many girls
nowadays. and the men demand so much.
and. it might be added. are 50 spoiled.
Really. the task is anything but light.
Entertaining Is usually the keynote 20 the
situation. And how judiciously fl mus: be
danel For those whose bank account i I'm
limited the course is comparatively easy.
Sometimes even they DO not care to m
prove their opportunities. one very pretty
and gentle-maunered cirl. whom you and I
know. would have none OF a coming-oIt
ball two years ago. Her mother pleaded
and her elder sister held Up awful warnings
in the shape Of partnerleSS balls and wall
flower teas: but Josephine was nrm. and a
bail She simply would not have She sid
out. - as she expressed II: and 10. in four
months became engaged 10 one very excel
lent youth. who had his weather eve on her
since the days of mud pies. But We are not
all like Josephine. and from a glance at the
list this year I reckon early engagements
viii hardly suit. At least, most OF the buds
with whom 1 have bad any conversation on
the subject have fatty announced their in
tehtion Of having a fling, And l hope
they may, with all my heart. This is Their
day. il II belongs to anybody.
When people have money. "wen1 leute
geld haben,' as the old German drama puts
II, 4 big reception as peace Offering TO visit
ing lists ana TO let old family friends know
that the youngest daughter Is out OF leading
Efrngs. usually starts. the ball rolling. Then
the rest OF the family come in with dinners,
luncheons to the d-ebutantes, small theater
parties. informal teas. chafng-dish Egppers
to meet some especially desirable bachelors
who will give much eclat 10 the bud X they
deign TO show her a bit OF attention. card
parties. and the like Such a round Will
naturally Introduce the debutante in the
1hnest way possible and insure her meeiiDg
the most desirable people in the shortest
space OF time.
But there are many girls who cannot. BY
any means. AFFORD such a sweeping circle OF
gayety, whose personal attractions and
pleasant manners viii be sufficient TO give
them a fair amount OF popularity, once they
become known. provided they effect this
IN the right way. The debutante, thea,
might start out in this MANNER:
Her mother may give quite early in the
season a small but uisnihed afternoon -
ception 20 her married friends. whose posi-
ton is such that the debutante viii profit
from their acquaintance, and also TO Older
friends OF the family. who may be counted
on to do something in s social way for Mss
Bud. This need not by any means he a
general affair, and should not be costly,
only pretty and properly arranged.
A series Of small iuncheons might follow,
inviting the debutantes Of the season AMI
some Of last years girls. These luncheous
should not be elaborate, but ought 10 in
clude some pretty little feature 10 give them
individuality. This Is easily effected in these
days OF novelty. But don't give small lunch
cons unless you intend 10 give a series OF
them, for one small affair IS apt 10 cause
more o1ense 20 the "left-outs" than the en-
tire absence OF any entertaining. This will
just about take care OF all the women.
Now come the functions where men must
be asked. and which are far easier, as n
rule. than the other. Give an afternoon
aluEtCaA Ol a C4AAA4aE . q uOAtQags WHEN
the men are not busy. Ask all the younger
set and a few married couple that delight TO
chaperoh. The programme need include no
professionals and the menu may be very
simple. Yes. Ilknow that music at home az
fairs is not at the highest ebb In ST. Louis,
and that Edgar Lakeland did. say. once
upon a time. that the only sitl he could ind
in the entire social set and sets who could
play his accompaniment was Florence
West But we are improving. indeed We
are.
II some OF your intimates are given TO
theatrical stunts. then get up a simpler
evening affair. with them TO be in the tab
ieaux or the charades or the small farce.
That might be easily arranged. Get up the
thing apparently on the spur Of the momen
but IN reality plan it with the greatest care,
and you can hardly fail OF success.
So you see. a debutante. even with mod
est means. need not despair Of success. pro-
vided that her people 80 about the matter
IN the right way. and see that she gets TO
know the really desirable people. No young