The Jersey City news., 1902-02-21
In Woman's World.


Tssese is repeated wonder and comment
on tae useless extravaganza indulged inby
marv girls in. giving magnificent church
weddings, which necessarily result in
numerous costly expenditures, which the
parents can in many cases III afford.
OF course, this is not to be considered
as a condemnation OF all cnureh We'd
aings; far from It.
A simple church wedding. even though
one has bridesmaids. and some palms and
potted plants for decorating the church, is
always in good taste for those with sim
pie purses. One will not incur much ex-
pense The cards for the church cere-
nsoay may be sent to all friends and re-
iatons. and thereby cancel all social obli-
cations
IN this way the bride has only the ex-
pense of her gown and the church dec
orations, and the simple collation. at the
small reception following. which need only
consist of cake, wine and ices.
The bridesmaids pay for their own
gowns and carriages And the groom
navs the minister So one may readily see
that bride who has a simple church
wedding does not incur much expense
as the one who is married at home Es-
peciaily SO is this where large number
of guests are invited to house ana
where decorations must be elaborate ana
a large collation. follows.
Rnt the church wedding that Is espe-
ciaIlv referred to, is the sensational one
The wedding that necessitates endless
exnenses. where the decorations for the
church alone have cost an enormous sum
ana the reception and breakfast that has
followed
The ceremony has been most costly
One can readily understand how expen-
sive this is, if one stops for one moment
to consider the matter. First of all the
house must have its share of decorations,
at least the rooms used for the reception
and the breakfast, and then the cost OF
feeding a large number of people, not to
saw anything of the expense Of the bridal
trousseau.
The brides gown If made by a fashion
able modiste, is certain to be large ex-
pense and often bridesmaids are com
PEELED to incur an expense they can i'll
AFFORD in order to procure their gowns
Many girls when asked to act on such
an occasion are very diffident and rarely
care to refuse This unnecessary extrava-
gance, when indulged in by girls whose
parents cannot afford it, and who are
compelled to go into debt in order to do
so Is very much to be condemned, and
the affair when viewed by outsiders al
ways affords much amusement especially
when all this ponp and splendor is fol-
lowed, as it often is. by the couple be-
ginning life in a humble way. How much
better if the parents would add some of
this money to the outlay made for the
future home of the young couple
As a rule the maid who aspires for the
glory of a church wedding is socially
ambitious. And the big majority will GER
tainly agree, that a quiet wedding and
the beginning of life of the young couple
in pretentious establishment well kept
up, viii further their social ambitions,
much better than a sensational church
wedding and a beginning of life in
humble home, where both ends can only
be met with strictest economy.
A wedding, sensational to a degree
once took place in Philadelphia It was
one of unusual magnifcence and splen-
DOR The girl was pretty and of good
family, and keenly anxious for social
honor. Her parents were people of mod
crate means and far from able to stand
the expense of such an elaborate wedding.
But in order to indulge her whim the
father borrowed from a business friend
the sum in order to foot the expenses
for the affair."
The wedding was a grand success AZ
least it had all the appearance of being
SO on the surface. Notwithstanding the
fact that the real lace veil worn by tne
bride was rented for the occasion. and
the gown which was made by a fas4lon-
able walnut street modiste has never
peen paid for, and the man VINO loaned
the money has not as yet received a
penny OF the amount back So do not m v
GEAR maid, indulge in a wedding of mag
innocence and grandeur unless your Dar
ents can afford the expense and your fu-
ture husbands income will permit Won
live in style in keeping with the snlen-
dor of the wedding.
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devoted, cheerful, caressing daughter
Is the JOY of a home, says Max O'RelI IN
the Philadelphia Evening Rtliat;n ;, eta
IS the sun that shines all day. she e tho
chain that binds father and n,ottar ~
se'her, ana their safeguards against any
oanger OF their love and faithfulness to
saeh other. is there anything that could
e~.e~1 t1ettS1 OuL Oh MS house So Ione
as lhat girl Is in it? No, nothing but tba
work that he has to do, and which be
eneerfully does, all the time longing fo.
that welcome kiss when he returns homo
admire the love of daughter for bar
mother, but it is so common, SO natural
tnat ! am always ready to take ii for
granted, but the love of daughter for .
Iather' What sight for the gods it isl
LOOK at that girl on her fathers knee
with her arms around his neck, fondrinp
him, petting him, patting his face. curling
his mustaehe, pulling his nose. Look Al
them in the street, arm In arm. like old
pals" His weight is not one ounce. IN
that girls company he is a man Of twen-
ty-fve. not a year older. Watch them
fatten their noses against the shop win
dows, looking at all the pretty things in
side
But they do not remain outside. Sure
they go in the little rogue knows her
business. She knows that papa is always
ready to part with his loose cash she
gives him a nudge a little wink; they
laugh. and in they go. And what time
they are having IN discussing over the
choice Of all the things they are going to
havei When they return home, they get
ecoidpd for their exfrava paf1ce h4,t that.s