The Savannah morning news., 1902-11-09

She advocated reform. and prated of
the rational figure, and then she said,
| proudly; Il never have compressed
my waist. 1 would scorn to do such a
/ thing"
The young man looked at her so
4 innocently and said: 80, 1 can see;
you've only got a middle line" Oddly
| enough. she was quite offended.
Yes, there's no use in denying, 1t,
| the average man does immensely ad-
mire a small, trim, round waist-one
| which his arm can comfortably span.
/ Not a stiff rightly OF whalebone, but
a supple, yielding cirCle-a little big
! ger than the poetic ideal that two
hands can span, but small enough to
| fill him with wonder. and round enough
to deceive him into thinking it small
| er by at least two inches than it ac-
| tually it.
| Some day in the future. when man
kind has lost its conservatism, he may
grow to dislike the small waist.
Smart Sets New Fad in Rings.
At a recent performance at Mrs. Os-
| born's playhouse woman prominent
| in the smart set" made a startling
effort to introduce a new fad in
rings. AS she raised her opera glass
to scan the house from her box it
was seen Dit could not help but be
seenD that she wore on the little tin
ger of her left hand a cluster ring
OF brilliant diamonds surrounding an
enormous pearl. The ring was one
to excite attention in itself, but what
made it a startling feature of the
| lady's appearance was the fact that
| 1t was worn outside the white kid
| glove! AS to the womau's position in
the inner circle of the smart set
there is no question. She has influence,
audacity, and force. Though no lon
| ger in her first youth, she is always
perfectly groomed and no debutante
can boast more exquisite or more ex-
pensive toilettes.
1t has been regarded as 1.-The limit
to wear rings over gloves. 1t is con-
| sidered worse than wearing diamonds
at the breakfast table. That it is
| infinitely more convenient to put on
a tight glove over them has nothing
to do with the case, of course. None
but a woman strongly intrencbed in a
social position could have dared do
it. The question it, "Will she set a
| fashion,"
why Men Don't Marry.
That there is a growing disinclina-
| ton among men to assume the matri-
| monial yoke is apparent to every OBJ
server. In our grandparents time the
ambition of every young man was to
| marry early and establish a home of
his own. Nowadays men like to put
marriage off as long as possible and
one witty bachelor of my acquainr-
ance even goes so far as to define
matrimony as that species of insanity
that leads one man to asusme another
mans daughters bills.
Many reasons, says Dorothy Dix, in
| the New Orleans Picayune, have been
suggested for this change of condi-
tions-women's growing independence,
| the selfshness of men, the perfection
of comfort to which living has been
brought for the single men in cities,
where, for less than the cost of sup
porting modest home, a bachelor may
| indulge in all the luxuries afforded by
| a well-run bachelor apartment house.
| Without doubt there is grain of
| truth in all of these contentious, but
the real answer to the question why
men don't marry is to be found in the
modern girl.
Never before in the history of the
world was woman so attractive, and
so little loVable Never before was she
so charming as a companion, and so
undesirable as wife. Never before
was she SO we'll educated and so ut
terly ignoraN of everything that goes
to build up a happy and comforta BILE
home. Never before did she devote so
much time to the abstract considera-
| ton of ethical questions, and the up
lifting of the world, and never before
was she so cold oodedly selfish
In this is to be found the answer,
not only why men don't marry but
why they get divorces so often when
they do. The free bachelor looks
around among his acquaintance, and
sees this man working like a galley
slave to support the extravaganza of
his family, that one crowded UP with
wife and two or three children in
one room of a boarding house because
the woman doesn't like to keep house.
another one whose conversation with
his wife is a series of chickering's and
quarrels, and he observes nothing in
the prospect to lead him to go and
do likewise, for it is a solemn fact
that nine-tenths of the couples we
know are nothing but an awful warn
ing against matriInony
Probably the woman is no more to
blame than her husband, but under the
Circumstances 1t cannot be said that she
is good advance agent for the atrac-
lions Of patrimony for her sex Still.
for all THAT it is undeniable that ro-
body yet was ever warned by the fate
of another, or kept from doing the
thing they wanted to by another per-
sons failure, and so we must seek
deeper than the family jar for the rea-
have laid mans celibacy at wo-
mans door. Why?
In the first place, l believe that the
decay of domesticity among women
keeps more men from marrying than
all other causes combined. Men are
far more domestic in their tastes than
women Every man, deep in his soul.
cherishes the IDEAL of a, home that he
hopes some day will be his. He dreams
of it as place where the hearth will
always be swept, and the lovelight
burning; where the meals, however
simple will always be we'll cooked and
served; where he will be able to in
dulge his tastes, and lay his burdens
down. 1t is to be haven, a refuge, a
heaven on earth, but being a man Of
affairs, he knows that it takes a pre-
siding genius to make even paradise
run smoothly, and that no man can
have the kind of a home he wants I'M
| less he has a wife who has intelli-
gence, thrift, energy and enthusiasm.
With this beautiful ideal of O home
in his mind the man goes out into So
ciety. He meets Maud, and is charm
ed with her beauty, and begins to
| think how handsome she would look
at the head Of his table, but before he
can commit the folly of asking her to
! share his home, she chills his ardor by
| declaring in favor Of hotel life. Soon
| after he encounters Sarah, and is fas-
cinated by her brilliant wit and clever
ness. How delightful life would be
with such a companion ever by your
| Gf 10 hA hut ines