Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1902-05-31
CAN He BE LEFT
A Phase of Summer Plans
for the Household.
BUT SHE HATES TO GO
AT LEAST THAT'S WHAT Is USU-
ALLY HEARD.
He DiSlikeS to See Her Going, Too, but
Nobody Believes Word
of It.
BUT SHE HATES TO &c

Written for The evening Star.
In order to avoid certain msunderstand-
ings which are due to intrude at this season
of the year, it might be wise plan for the
fashionable bride to make an amendment
to the usual marriage resolution and say:
81 promise to love and honor and cherish
this man for three-fourths of the year, but
the summer is my own. and while it lasts
I shall be in heart and in plumage a but
terf1y. with no mission in the world but to
find the gardens Of roses"
Then when spring comes and the prepara-
lions begin the clouds of bilowy fabrics
which are brought in to the house will not
be so likely to darken the brow of the good
man, even If he is obliged by business to
stay in town during the blazing July and
humid August while she dances and dreams
by the sea.
From the accepted point of view, that
man cannot be left to himself for fear he
will get into mischief. it seems curious
thing that at the very times when life runs
at full tide and nature, always at heart a
pagan, lays by her pretenses and packs up
her creeds. h. mes and churches are alike
locked up and abandoned
/ am not saying that this is a bad thing,
for l believe the man who has TO be
watched to insure his correct and loyal
conduct is a pretty poor sort of a man and
not really worth bothering about, and no
woman should feel herself responsible for
his soul 1t has been the fashion to lay
the failures of men to women. But it is
cowardy charge and one seldom proved.
There are a thousand things for us all to
learn which will add to the happiness and
well-being of those we love. But 1t is not
fair to the average man, who Is the honest
man, to say that he must be amused and
tricked into ways of responsibility. If
he lives up to the name of manhood he
does not need to be propped up by favor
able influences all the while We can all
be good If we have the chance: but II we
want to tuck the plume of victory in our
bonnet it must be won against difficulties;
it is cheap quality of virtue which fails
without support.
A woman can remain at home during the
summer for a dozen good reasons. And If
she remains there are a dozen ways by
which she can make home summer para
disc for her husband and her household
But let her not insult the man she has
sworn to honor by saying that nothing
would make her leave him to the allure
mentS of the town.
Like to Play Postum.
It is astonishing how a mistaken senti-
rlent makes husbands and wives play
'possum'' about the little matter of leaving
each other. 1t is the sane and natural
thing for people to desire changes in the
order of their days. 1t is a dull prospect
to face one others face for three meals
day, year in and year out. and to drag out
the routine of domestic life without the
ripples of new experiences. Love grows
speechless and yawns prodigiously If he
does not fly away.
A pretty woman of my acquaintance had
a delightful experience last season. She
had been married long that her husband
had quite forgotten the language of love-
although doubt it deep in his
heart it was on the day they had be
come one. But they had not been separated
since that time and each terribly
weary of the other. She wanted to go away