New-York tribune., 1902-09-24
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IT SKINS THE SURFACE OF THE GREAT
SUBJECT OF MANNERS.

| SUBJECT OF MANNERS.
| I can't stay with you to-day said Mrs Quitting
| at the door of the sitting The Rocker Cluo
members were costly settled indoors, where the
! appearance Of cool weather had driven them. L
must hurry on" she continued. I have to get up
a good dinner for who was Invited some
days ago. but did not condescend to let US know
that he was coming until the last moment He gave
for his delay In replying; didn't even offer
the fimsest excuse-took it for granted In his
lordly way that should be delighted to have him
anyway. matter how long had to wait for
his decision. Such things make Charles so angry!
had fairly to hang to his coat this morning to
make him promise before Re went TO town that he
wouldn't telephone TO the and tell him not to
come I always say to Charles Thank goodness.
you're a gentleman" I had TO say 1t two or three
times this morning to get him into a good rumor
again"
'I always think Of the good. old Saxon phrase
Manners rnakyth man. " said Mrs. Weldon.
Man makyth manners would be better. Some
times he turns out very queer specimens! Well
goodby. I wish you luck Don't be too clever while
I'm away
Mrs Quitting is very clever herself" remarked
Mrs Holmes. But she will poke fun at her hus-
band."
That's because she is devoted to him." said Mrs.
Weldon hastily. "in spite Of differing taste in
jokes But what annoying experience-about
that delinquent guest! Why VIII people Indulge in
small discourtesies?"
Courtesy means consideration" observed Miss
Holmes Don't you think 1T is a moral virtue?"
Undoubtedly. Most conventional rules are sim
ply moral laws writ small Discourtesy is con-
densed selhshness,"
INV mother saws # is an unmannery age" put
in Mrs Wright she often tells me Of the charm
ing things men said in the days OF her youth and
their graces of manner. But tell her one could
not always count upon their sincerity; the courty
phrases were like lace ruffies-merely ornamental
ton But she shakes her head. and says Chivalry
dead, M dearl
Perhaps it is" said Miss Mervale Peace to
its ashes. Let It go. II We have truth and honor
and good corlradeshp in its place!'
But have we? You complained the other day or
the blunt frankness of men and their open disregard
for the niceties OF feeling. And many women sin
in the Same way. forgetting that 1t is our special
duty TO smooth the rough places of social me-
Whenever there is u good thing there is always
a little too much of it," replied Miss Merivale.
Did you notice that? / read good arqfie 1G
not long ago-I forget who wrote lon me IN,
planttude of any good implies some little excess
The energy, for example, that works wonders must
snficient power 10 secure great results Well that
applies TO our modern po ~ at the rough
wood But It is sounder at the core ali tne same: ne
don't like roughness and neither do yd y0@d ra1bar a4inE
tell a fb or than hurt peoples leelisS' Vi
make them uncOmfortah bic v,,,. ..r mould
like TO know Who ever succeeded In perfectly rec
onciling good breeding and sincerity! w court osfes
"a me from iyenuine kindly impulses, Sald MISS
Merivale But for my part, nave SO many ynI ut
kindIv iunuIses to conceal that t. tell tle Wn0le
truth would fatal 10 my sooG oieSuinS aic ~ AZ,
cessive proyocatior. Only yesterday l dinea Wltn
a dear good aunt, whose notion OF pollteLeSs -
to watch what her guests eat ana W9rbs oee1 oeen
tbem said nv fftieth No, thank you. pe5a peiWe9a
nn set 10th and if had said IT once more should
have bitten off the thank YOU rta. IN +a.cb
rheres nothing like an aWtuI eAdiliPe " az
Won what 10 do and what TO leave uluoIS' %!
Sre Weidon my children have behaved better
~. ~ III etar since a terrible month spent
af q maintain resort, where we Iou!i9 90 80
unexpectedIy herded with the masses S 0H IN p fb
ticuIar instance has been Stadine {oH NJ II NAV
fan1iIv ever since small child couIq n9I 49, aIi
ya hsr SOM and the mother exclaimed Fut your
niate mn and drink 1t. That's the way yo;,nar ~ of
hrthur exploded this topsy Jury .TttaraI Nov
parental Instruction, and amy sdLu ,ars'r', ~
rGr sec what it's like to have no ildle1 - ,.,,
bad = similar experience in a grown uP
said Miss MerivaIe 4 had lrIgllu. ~
of nv Louth who incessanty broke fisf ~
iies lions The Inconvenience TINS causgu ne rstu
- snInnnn earning and needed IT, Iol va -
d i have tried sirce then 10 sWedr 70
nv neighhor and disappoint MIN not 'i'"e
"ere to my & o"t ioWegt neighbor' said Mrs Wei,
don ,3,IsinSiy Let tell you Trivia ,Ibe ee
20 - 80 ,9outh which illustrates aHottei pr paor
of the subject ] went sometimes 10 te ,e;ts we're a
rare deiigbi one day had promised TO 10 so foot W If
some friends came n-soine ped5u nv, nrorI;se TO
was a great temptation oroke S ~ see her she
the old lady. Later, when Melit Ia T looked for
va o 11iee III i fire in parlor lii9t i+ia % stocit
vision of the poor old soul uSs is @ for me through
of coal for nv comfort and wallns io fternoon It
the lonely hours OF that wlnteGrb - means so
muchAthat 'dlsappointeth him not 1t 'S ''''