The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1902-07-27
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

Speaking OF loSL love between nus
hand and wife in the New Orleans
Pcayune, Dorothy Dix says:
have seen young men marry girls
and bring them to strange cities, and
having dumped them down in a hotel
or boarding-house. leave them to amuse
themselves and entertain themselves as
host they could, while they spent their
AVS at their business and their even
,nes at their clubs. Is it any wonder
that a woman. so deserted, listens to
me lovemaking of some other man
when her own husband ceases to make
love to herr
No man, when he is counting a girl,
would cream of telling her of her
faults, yet after marriage only too
many men never speak to their wives
except to remind them of their short
comines. The generous sweetheart
also changes into the penurious hus-
hand. and hut for the outward man,
many u woman could not recognize
The grabbed, cross tyrant she had to
live with with the noble. chivalrous,
e0teII1luluS yOdA5 mail w uO NOll HCI
heart and to whom she gave her hand.
Many a wife whose love has been lost,
could prove a case of mistaken iden-
1itv in court if she could contrast what
she got in the way of a husband with
what she thought she was getting.
So far as l am concerned l never
have the slightest sympathy with a
man who loses his Wife's love, and if
| was on jury when he sued somebody
for alternating her affections, 1 would
bring in verdict of served you
right" Any man who once has a wo-
mans love can keep it by the same
tactics that won it, and if he isn't will
ing to take the trouble to look after
lis own business, he should accept the
consequences without whining.
But if men occasionally lose their
wives love. a wall of woe comes up
from all over the land from women
who lost their husbands affection, and
again 1 say nine hundred and ninety
nine times out OF a thousand it is the
woman's fault. If a wife was mar
ried for her money, or for position she
could not be blamed for having her
husband cease to care for her. She
would never have had his love, but
having once captured his fancy and his
affection, so that he admired her more
than any other woman in the world and
desired her among all other women for
his wife, it is her own fault, her own
stupidity and laziness, and selfishness,
if he tires of her and ceases to care for
her.
l once heard n very clever woman say
to a crowd of women who were utter
ing lamentations over the general IN
faithfulncss of men:
Not many men would be attracted
by nI~ for l have the double misfor-
tune of being homely and clever, but
if a man did once love me 1 would
defy the most beautiful woman on
earth to take him away from me"
You have vanity" sneered another
woman.
Not at ALL" replied the plain-looking
woman, but if I cared enough for a
man to marry him, 1 should care
enough for him to want to keep him.
He wouldn't marry me if he cared for
beauty and as for the rest, whatever
quality he admired in a woman I would
be that thing so superlatively 1t would
make all other women seem fiat and
faded beside me, SO that they wouidn' t
interest him, and l would not give
that" and she snapped her fingers,
"fov woman who hasn't wit enough
to hold the man she has won.
IF he cared for good eating I would
make other women's housekeeping
seem the bungling of amateurs, so that
every time he sat down to dinner he
would bless his own sagacity in having
picked cut a wife who knew how to
cook If he liked to be entertained, /
would know the best stories, have read
the last book, and be as interesting as
the lady in the fairy tale, who saved
her head with her tongue. If he liked
fattery, I would burn incense at his
feet until it made the compliments of
everybody else seem lukewarm and he
would turn to me as the only person
who could really appreciate him. Above
ALL l should know that every human
being of US Graves peace, and quiet,
and love, and / should never be guilty
of nagging, and l should always make
him feel that there was one heart in
the world where he could turn for SYM
pathy, understanding and tenderness
and l don't believe that any man who
has got that kind of q haven, ever
sails very far away from it"
l have spoken of the lost love be-
tween husband and wife, because that
is the most important love in the world
but it is equally as true that we lose
other love. How many parents we
see who have lost their children's love;
how many brothers and sisters who
drift apart; how many friends become
estrangedl The truth is, that we treat
love as if it were weed that would
thrive and grow in any sort of a. rocky
soil, in any sort of frost or drought
when in reality it is the most delicate
plant in the world. A cold look will
wither it: cruel word will blight it
and if it is to grow and thrive we must
give it the sunshine of smiles and the
ceaseless care and cultivation OF
OF thoughtful and considerate deeds.
Never to have been loved is a misfor-
tune, but to have had love and to have
lost 1t is a disgrace, for 1t is an oper
Confession of our own incompetence
ana negligence. The love that is worth
winning is worth keeping, and wher
people learn to exerices as much care
IN preserving the affection they have
gained rs they did in getting it, there
VIII De less doing in the divorce courts
one of the greatest disconforts thai
rams to the lot of the ordinary morta
IN these midsummer days, says the
Chlcago Inter Ocean, is caused by
lhe coming of the tiny red blotches
edIled prickly heat. from which, un.
fortunately, persons of all ages anc
conditions suffer. Perhaps it may poi
CoIhe amiss at this season for every
ohe 10 know that a very simple WASH
easily prepared will do a great dea
loWard remedying this affection. The
sootnlng lotion may be applied sew
eIal times day, and it often gives
aHnost instant relief. The formula
rs Rosewater, two ounces; alcohol
one ounce; glycerin, two drains; car
oonc acid, twenty drops. If the Skin
IS very sensitive three ounces of rose
INa lln a