The daily morning journal and courier., 1902-02-21

l It is not platonic hate that should be consummated by marriage. It is pas sionate hate. Do you really and genu- inely hate any women o my male read CT And do you, fair one, really hate any man? If 0, then depend on 1t there | is something common to you both that might be the best capital in hand you could have for starting in a joint mat rimonial business.
 Love marriages seldom last. The passion of ones courting days cannot be sustained all through life, There ale one or two cases eXtant of such state of affairs, but the passion in the tlrst instance has never been deep. It has probably had good deal of platonlc tincture about it at the start.
 The ideal love marriage is one which, when the early passion subsidies, devel- ops into a mutual liking, sharing of common tastes and a suitability for each other. These marriages are gene rally the most successful The unhap- piest marriages are usually those which at the outset have seemed the most ee- static. After the early passion has passed and hubby does not dispense quite so many kisses, and appears to think about his breakfast and dinner in addition to wifes eyes, and sometimes feels hurt if he cannot find the clothes brush, comes the real test of a good or i q bad marriage.
 If the wife also develops similar ten dencies. then domestic strife is sure to supervene If, on the other hand, she ,J i, sions and sees aright that he cannot be always kissing her, and generally takes the thing in the practical light of a sensible woman, and sets to work to be good wife, then things will go smooth ly
 So that the ideal marriage is one in which early passion can develop by easy stages into a quiet, mutual suita- biIity, tempered by toleration of each others peculiarities. Could not a hate marriage have similar results? If pas slonate love degenerates in time into such a prosy business as the above, would not hate in the same way be- come transformed by marriage into quite a respectable, domestic, pleasant mutual arrangement?
 The essentials of a hate match are as follows: Do you really hate her? Is she the last woman in the world that you could possibly love? Would life seem intolerable with her? Does the sound of her voice or glance from her eyes fill you with nameless bathing? Is parting with her the sweetest ecsta- cy? Do you long for the day to come when you will never see her again? Then you do hate her. You should propose and get her to name the unhap- py day.
 And what i: she does not hate you? Suppose she merely dislikes you. Sup posing she just detests you socially and loathes you as a mere enemy what then? Do not be discouraged, but per severe. In time she may really hate you
 Hate letters. of course. will pass be- tween you. You will write to her in terms of delir!ous generation, and she will reply with cold contempt And suppose, instead of replying to your proposal favorably, she says that, while she dislikes you much, she could never marry you--that she will be q mother in-law to you. what then? Do pot be discouraged Say you think she would learn to hate you. That you have de- teted her since you first saw her, and that she alone has the power to make you unhappy by uttering one short word. And she consents.
 You will swear vows of hatred, dis honor and disobedience, will spend your honeymoon hundreds of miles from each other, will afterward live in diff ferent parts of the house. At first you will hate each other with unreasoning frenzy. It will last for six months or so Then, in turn, hubby will cease to hate his wife. her hair will no longer be execrabie to him, and she will cease to look on his whskers as hhe height of misery. He will get tired of hating the shape of her hands and the size of her feet, and she will begin to think that he is really not quite so detestable as she at first thought.
 This feeling will perhaps continue. They will grow merely indifferent to each other. and. in time, to mutually tolerate each other as partners in con- cern that has to be run, They may, af- ter a time, dine together or perhaps take walk. Then, in the calm light of conversation. each may discover that the other is quite interesting, and from tba t-who knowe ?-( (th icpgo Tribune