The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1902-08-13
friends ':settled for life'' as they ex.

press it. They are probably in ear.
nest in thinking them exactly suited
Tor each other, but the chances are
that in their zeal they color some vir-
tues and conceal some defects so as
TO smooth awty any obstacles that
might prevent the match upon which
they set their hearts. How can any
third party know the aspirations
and nesds Of two human hearts or
the infrmities Of human tempers2
But suppose all the preliminary
eteps have been taken and the irfevo-
cable vows have been made-fortu.
nstely in our State such supposition
is admissible-how can woman best
convince her husband that he has
really chosen che right sof. Of wife?
Unless he be the veriest idiot she will
not do go hy talking about womau's
rights and assuming supreme control
Of the household. No man worth
talking about ever submits to be open
ly ruled by his wife. Her influences
and persuasions can easily bend his
will, but masterful attempt to con-
troll him never succeeds. Even though
all mans friends may be cesn:s=::
Of the fact that his wife rules him, he
is rarely conscious Of the fact, with
suoh tact does she conceal any out
ward manifestation Of authority. If
she expresses an opinion upon some
family matter and he disagrees with
it, she does not argue the point, or
give way TO frowns and tears, she sim
ply waits and let's him think the mat
Ter over and, as rule, is rewarded
by his coming around to her view, end
doing 80 in such way as would make
one believe the idea originated with
him. Patience and good temper
achieve more victories than any other
qualities in domestic concerns, and
tears are the worst weapons woman
can use, although they are supposed
to be SO effective. No mon cares 20
live in q continual shower bath Of
tears, and their constant dropping
wears~out love faster than anything
else.
Perfect truthfulness and confidence
between couple is absolutely neces-
sary to true happiness. There can be
no lie batween them so small as to be
harmless, and tia first discovered pre-.
varication awakens distrust OF every
thing said thereafter. Again, wo.
man should never employ the few
hours her husband can spend at home
by telling him every little domestic
misfortune that happened in his ap-
sence- He probably cannot help it if
the servants are not perfect or if the
children were disobedient in little
things, or If any Of the other machine
-ry of the household, which it is her
duty to attend to, does not run quite
smoothly. If he is a manly fellow he
does not bother aud worry her with
the unpleasant Incidents Of the days
business and she should show equal
forbearauce. Probably he has had q
hard day and has come home hoping to
find rest and cheerfulness, and if his
wife is the right sort Of one she will
be quick to see that he is tired and
will do what she can to make the home
bright for him. Again, the right sort
Of wife is even more particular about
aer dress than she was in the days
when her husband came courting. It
is q perfect miracle how affection can
endure when the pretty, well-dressed
girl gradually sinks into the untidy,
careless wife and mother as is 80 de-
plorably often the case. And last of
all, the right sort Of wife is religious.
No matter what a mans opinions on
such subjects may be, he cannot help
feeling there s something wanting in
woman who has not reverence for
sacred things. To have that rever-
ence for womanhood that uuderlies
the pure love OF o husband for his
wife he must think Of her as infinitely
better than himself. Sometimes he
even feels that her goodness will
count something for him, too, in the
day when accounts are made up
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