The Chanute times. [volume] (Chanute, Kan.) 1897-1913, 1902-04-04
TO MAKE HOME HAPPY.
Marriage should Not End the Love-
Making Between Husbands and
Wives-Hints for the Men.

Wives-Hints for the Men.
There is a great difference to be
observed between man and birds. The
former trills his love song for sea-
son of uncertain wooing, but the little
husbands in the trees sing all the sum-
mer through, writes Grace Dufiie
Boylan, in the Chicago Record-Herald.
1 have sometimes thought it would
be better if the methods Of the feath-
cred and the wingless gentlemen to
insure domestic content might be
more alike. l do not know, of course,
what vanity may be at the heart of the
lady birds. 1t is Just possible that
their rightful mates fear to stop their
songs. There are always bold and
tuneful strangers lurking around to
fill in the pauses with serenades that
may be listened to. If that is really
their reason for keeping their voices
filled with praises after their wedding
days it is a pity they cannot become
teachers of men. believe there is
more value in a bit of tender fiattery
from the lips of husband than all the
preachments of the bishops, and l am
equally sure that the man who forgets
to make love to his wife is in danger
of losing his place in her affection.
Youth flies and beauty vanishes, but
romance lives in every woman's heart
while it beats. She is as susceptible
to loves batteries when she is GO as
she was at 16. More so, indeed. For
tender words fall on old hearts like
reviving rains when they come after
long drought, and sentiment that
has been smothered in the alkali dust
of duty will spring up in thousand
blossoms of delight. But I am not
speaking of the "Trusties" now.
Most women are loyal by nature,
and it is not altogether their fault
when they waver from allegiance to
deaf and dumb proprietors. The
Creator could make women without
vanity, of course, but He never has.
And one does not live who likes not
to have the man she loves call her
beautiful. To have him touch her
hand with the reverence OF the first
sacred days of their love, to have him
note the light in her eyes and the
line of her throat, the sweet curve OF
her shoulder.
There is one subject which will adj
nit of any amount of exaggeration
and untruth. A woman will never re-
proach her husband for fiattering her,
even if it is badly done. She is not de-
ceived. She knows when her eyes are
dull and her cheek faded. But she
loves him for the tender lies he tells
her for a that, and if he does not have
the wit and kindness to sometimes
stop in the dull and emotionless rou'
tine of domestic life to tell her she is
beautiful. some other flatterer may;
and if she is Ewes daughter she will
listen to him.
The most ardent lover is likely to
become a matter-of-fact husband.
The lover says:
''Tell me that you love me thou
sand times day, every day while
live!"
But he does not insist on the full
fllment of that promise, and it is the
wife who whispers wistfully:
DO you love me?"
While he, bored but tolerant, re-
plies:
"Of course. Do you think I would
have married you if I hadn't?" And
then resumes his paper; not even
wondering why she signs.
If men made love to their wives
there would be decided change in
the records of the divorce courts.
There is no art easier to acquire than
love-maling, and it outweighs good
providing and certain other esteemed
husbandly virtues.