The Savannah morning news., 1902-07-20

WORLD.

80 the happiness and comfort of liv-
;,e so do the little attentions be-
-towed in society, out of kindness and
courtesy, add to the general enjoyment
~ its members. They also make for
those who show them many friends,
and gain for a hostess the title of
good and gracious
There are all sorts of little atten-
+ions that can be paid by
women to women, says the
New York Herald, and men to
women, besides those that many peo-
nle. seem to think the words are alone
Intended to indica te-viz., the little
attentions that gentlemen pay to la
dies whom they admire, and whose
liking they desire to win-and it is Just
because men know of this sort of
general opinion that they often re-
train. for fear of their actions being
miscontrued, from paying ladies any
attention at all.
1t is a mistake from many points of
view to suppose that whenever a man
pays a little attention it is done with
an Interior motive of matrimony, for
more often than not it means moth
ing more than that he likes the ladys
society and conversation.
Every one likes to be the recipient
of a little attention, and every one
appreciates it, whether bestowed by
men or women, youths or maidens. Old
people like to receive it from young
ones even more than from their own
contemporaries, for it makes them
feel that they are not quite put aside
as useless, that their words are still
worth hearing, and their opinions still
worthy of consideration; and this re-
spect for age is still to be seen, for
in spite of the welI-known saying, all
young men. happily, do not think all
old men fools, nor do all girls con-
slider that all old women are bores.
There are some women who do not
consider it worth their while to pay
any attention at all to those of their
own sex, and just treat them with the
barest forms of civility, unless they
have some reason for doing otherwise;
but these women are, gladly be it said
the exception, and not the rule, and
it is because they are this that they
are noticed and spoken about.
A woman who acts in this way
proves herself to be foolish rather
than wise, for the good or bad word
of one of her own sex may make or
mar her future; and though this, no
doubt, is a worldly way of looking
at the matter, it is just as well, as
we have to live in the world, to look
at things from the worlds point of
view occasionally.
Most women know the value of their
sexs friendship, and life would be
sadder than it is to many of them if
no womans hand elapsed hers and
no womans door was thrown wide
for her entrance. For there are times
when she Graves the companionship
of her own sex, moments when the
help and guidance of a woman only
viii help sister woman from max
ing shipwreck of her life.
They think more of these little mat
tiers than do men. The latter will be
quite satisfied with civility. They
were civil enough. What more do you
want or expect?' are words that ex-
acuy express what they feel and
think but it is different with women.
They notice both the lights and shad-
ows, miss the little things that are
not always to be found in mere civili-
ty, but which belong to that courtesy
which is consideration for others S.
There are numberless ways in which
one woman can show little atten-
ton" TO another of her own sex-an
introduction given, an invitation to
meet a friend whose acquaintance
may assist her in her career, a present
of fruit or game to one who has but
small possessions, a loan of book,
gift Of flowers to the sick or aged.
So numerous, indeed, are the ways
that space will not permit a mention
Of one-quarter of them here, but every
woman can find and try them for her.
self.
True loneliness is oftener found in a
crowd than in a desert says an East
ern proverb. Every one, says the New
York Tribune, who has experienced
the uncomfortable feeling of being
alone among a lot OF people they did
not know will appreciate the truth of
this statement
Il know nothing more depressing,
said a woman who had successfully
pushed her way into "uppertendom,
than to be thrown in with an intimate
set who have their jokes and unknown
shibboleths that to an outsider are
perfectly incomprehensble. Fashion
able people are wont to be very ineon-
slderate in this respect-not intention
ally, perhaps, but, what is even worse,
through complete Indifference in re-
gard to any one who does not belong
lesltmately to their set. Ten years
ago." she continued frankly, Il was
not in what l would now call society
people, but l always felt when with
them that l was not altogether in it,.
could always get on admirably with
individuals, but a crowd of those peo-
pie always made me feel uncomfort-
able. Well, it went on like that for
some time, and, although every one
was very nice to me, | never seemed
10 be one of them. Finally, Mrs. Tip
top invited me to house party, and,
as half expected, found a lot of her
set there who, as usual, began their
Jokes and tomfcolery with each other,
leaving me decidedly out in the cold.
endured it for a day or two, and
then one day, feeling that 1 could not
stand it any longer, l burst out: Look
mere, if you will kindly explain to me
VINO Dickie is, and why his sayings
should be so funny, and what the joke
Is about Billy, and what that gentle
mans other name is, l will try and
Join in with your conversation, for you
must think 1 am extremely rude to ap
pear so uninterested At first they
stared. and then, the situation struck
Them as funny; they all laughed, and
then Mrs. Jack Smart came over to
me IN the incest way. We are abom-
hably rude, and that's a fact she
ssld and 1 like the way you told us
oi IT, But you will never have to COM
pain Of me again Nor did I have
any more trouble with any of them,
tOr l must say for such people that
wheh they do adopt you as one of
themselves they are cordiality itself"
Please don't!" The mans voice was
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