The Washington times., 1902-05-04
The Popular Girl

" HE popular girl is the one who en-.
| ters with interest into the lives
i Of others This does not mean, OF
course. that girl must put her
self in the background and eliminate her
personality or Individuality. but she must
J be enthusiastic about the things which
occupy the attention of other people. and
she must study their likes and dislikes.
To be popular with ones girl friends
does not require much effort. They are
interested in laces and lingerie and dress
makers and the latest book ani the play.
and the men you both know, and the af-
| fairs Of chu,Sb and charity. and all the
| t,iings that make up the life of the new
century girl II you can talk over all
these things in an entertaining way and
can surround the smallest event OF your
life with fun and gayety. the girls will
welcome you. and will draw up the most
comfortable chair and light the fire un-
der the tea kettle. and take OF your
hat and keep you with them as long as
you are willing to stay.
Popularity with the men, however, Is
different affair. and is dependent on
many things. The same rule Of inter-
est and enthusiasm holds good here. how
ever. Be interested in the work in which
man is engaged. Argue with him about
politics or religion a little. il you will.
but don't stick to your point too long.
Give in gracefully. Don't try to scale
enormous heights. a man likes the chatter
OF care-free girl; he thinks deeply in
the strenuous life that he leads, and he
needs relaxation.
III he be a plain business man try to
meet him on his own ground, not on your
own. and do not underestimate his worth.
girl who was assisting at a recent func-
tion found in the corner an out-of-town
guest, a man OF difTident carriage, and
plainly not man Of books. He ventured
a remark about the Buffalo Exposition,
and the girl enthused at once.
did you visit the Roycroft Shops?" she
said.
What do they make there" he asked
Her glance of contempt spoke volumes.
Books" she replied. and in her heart
she called him ignorant.
But II she had talked to him of the
things he knew-not of books. but Of ma
would have found that 1t
was she who was ignorant and she would
l man who. il he did not know of the
artistic labors at Aurora. knew of thingf
hat have made the American nation great
n the practical world.
AS for the older man he likes a funny
tory told by pretty girl. and he likes
o tell one in return: he likes to have you
SIX him Of the time when he fought bat
les, and to have you enthuse over what
e must have been. He likes to tell you
4 the girls he knew. and of the fun they
ad in their youthful days
The older woman wants some one who
an listen sympatbetically to her tale OF
zoe about the servants, but she also
ants some one who can tell sad story
| retura-confdence begets confidence.
he wants to tell you of the new stitches
nd new dishes. and of the literary dis
lssions at the club.
The old ladies are pleased IL you will
tx them about their knitting and their
ealth, but most of all they like to hear
the outside world. For in the every
iy life of the old there is much mcnot-
~. and in the quiet hearts there are
ngings for the beautiful. and IL vol
I'VE Travelled and seen wonderful things
e wrinkled faces will grow youthful in
stening to your bright descriptions.
The price of popularity is constan.
ought for others. but she who is willing
lay it will find that she has gained
ore than she has given.