The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1902-06-01
WY WOMEN PROPOSE
New York Divine Discusses
Money and Marriage.
ONE EVIL OF THE DAY
Says If Woman Has Brain She
Should be Boss.

I New York. May 81-This question was
asked of Reverend Thomas a. Hyde Of
} New York:
Don't you think it requires 4 good deal
of audacity in a woman to ask q man
10 support her for life?'
When this question was put to the Rev.
Hyde. pastor of the Episcopal church
at Sheepshead Bay, by a reporter for the
World, he loked somewhat aghast. He
had loked at it in that light before. Wen
--er-that is he stammered. 1t
isn't always a case of the man supporting
Q woman nowadays, you know"
"Supposing the man should refuse here
the writer asked.
There's no harm in that. Don't wo-
men refuse men every day? 1t can be done
il digniaed and courteous manner"
What would you do if woman should
propose to your
This question was perhaps alarming in
view OF the fact that Mr.. Hyde is a
bachelor. and therefore much sought af-
ter by the feminine portion of his congre-
CATION.
Il should feel much honored, he re-
piled with an uncomfortable smile. and
I should pity her-yes. I should pity her.
Gould you still have respect for herr"
Certainly, why not? She has as much
right to tell me she loves me as I have
TO tell her L love her. OF course, he ad-
ded hastily, Il wouldn't have anyrespect
for her if she got down on her knees to
me. I wouldn't do that myself TO any
frI Id
quite the regulation way of proposing at
sheepshead Bay.
But if man married a woman who
had proposed to him, wouldn't he be like
~ to throw the fact in her face the first
time they quarrelled? He might say some
thing like this for instance: "Wen, il
you don't like it, why on earth didn't
you leave me alone? I never sought you
out 1t was you who asked me to marry
you.
LAS a matter of fact" commented Mr..
Hyde dryly. the men very frequently do
say something of the sort, even when
they have proposed"
But don't men usually value what
they think they can't get. Wouldn't the
average man value a woman less if he
thought she had been so easily won?"
no, and the proof of it is that the
girl who encourages the men and 1irts
and makes love to them who gets the
proposals. The modest-stay -at-home girl
doesn't get any. Your idea is an old-fash
Toned one"
But if the woman proposes. shouldn't
she be the wage-earnerg
"Oh, see. You would have the wo-
man wait until she can afford the luxury
OF supporting man.
If she is going TO propose to him
well, as a matter of fact. that is the
way it is often done. A rich woman wants
a bright young husband. a doctor. a law
yer. She practically at once proposes to
him and they are married This is such
a recognized fact that few years ago
a young man came to me and asked me-
my advice as to the profession he should
erter. I want one he said. IN which
1 will have an opportunity of meeting a
rich woman who viii fan in love with me
and marry me- Horrible? Not a hit more
than the girl selling herself for money
The young man 1 refer TO was very
poor. but he was intelligent and persistent
and in the end he married a fortune OF
100000 There was another woman with
only 10000 he might have wed. I my
self. should have preferred her"
But if a woman proposes ought she not
to be the head of the house? And what
would you do with the word obey in the !
service?'
Mr.. Hyde pounced on the last phrase !
Ike a hawk on a chicken. THAT word /
obey is very much misunderstood. very
much he declared emphatically IT |
doesn't mean that q woman has 10 sub |
her viii to that of her husband /
when she knows that he Is fool or in /
the wrong 1 am sure that I don't know /
what half the women in Sheephead Bay /
would do if they were to give in coRtinu- |
ally TO their husbands. I know OF any
number of cases where a woman is the /
head of the house. and the man is only /
a miserable gambler and loafer, The word /
obey should be mutual K means that !
both should be true mates in the sense
or oheying each others wishes. II there /
IS going TO be any leadership it should /
belong to the one who has the greater /
supply of brains"
when there is trouble in married life /
md it is the mans fault. what sin on /
mis- part is likely to cause it?'
drunkenness and the fact that he is /
unwilling TO spend his evenings AZ home. /
The club is responsible for hale the di-
eorce cases"
And when the women are to hlame?"
THE cause then IS social ambition. They |
want to be out all the time at balls. 1
parties and receptions. There is hardly
my home life left whether among rich
n poor Take the case Of an ordinary
ran. he lives in upper Harlem or Flat
bush. even Sheepshead Bay. BY the tine
lis long journey from New York IS ended
nd he IS home, his children have been
pat To bed. He sees them only OF sun
lay He spends half his evenings out
md his wife has only the chance e talk
% him. herself on SUNDAY. Why. chill
lien hardly know their own fathers.
4 man like those I have Just des-
.rihsd happened 70 leave his house a lii
4. later than usual one morning and he
.aught sight a his youngest boy PLAYING
"a the mud q the gutter Catching hin
y the ear he ordered him into the
iouse. The youngSter fed. screaming.
Oh mamma. mamma, That strange man
sho STAYS here sunday has just pulled
ny ear,
b1t 10 return 40 "9tiiV- +--1 --sr-- i.t
,osing; how would YOU have them do 4
Mr HYDE .looked thoughtful wen.
,sre Is a way I heard o." he answered
The girl said. II I we're you, Jack. and
Gu were /. We would have been married
cng ago Then. too. how would this 60
or another. Dear. you love ne better
han your sisters
BAT don yor think you are horribly
rcug IL encouraging women q c. this
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