Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1902-01-18
The Woes of the Debutantes.

-Four young women recently found
| themselves together in the drawing-room
after a dinner. One was a debutante Of
this winter. another had existed socially
| for year, and was beginning her second
season. the third had preceded the lat
ter by a twelve-month. and the fourth,
who looked decidedly bored as she lis
| tened in an absentminded fashion to
their chatter, was a society girl of pro
nOunced position, to whom the fears and
nervousness expressed by her juniors
seemed rather childish.
why do you worry about partners?'
she said languidly to No. 3. Il can fancy
| that little Lizzie (the debutante) might
| feel anxious to show ner family and
| friends that she is a success. and that
Judith (No. = should perhaps wish to
prove that her popularity did not depend
upon being debutante and having en-
! tertainments given for her, but a third
winter girl should either feel comfortably
Independent or she should give up dances
altogether. If she worries over every in
! vitation as soon as she receives it on the
score Of cotillon and supper partners, like
an ingenue, she is a great goose, and
shows. TO my way of thinking. a want
of dignity. Why, / am very seldom en-
/ gagged for a dance beforehand nowadays
The men | know best do not care to be
forced to stay for the eotillon any more
| than | do myself. If | feel like it. and
sufficiently agreeable man asks me,
stay; If not, | 20 away. A woman of
the world should feel thoroughly at home
in ballroom, and not be dependent up
on masculine support"
Having delivered her little homiIy, this
superior Young person arose. and, throw
ing her train deftly with one hand, sailed
across the room TO a group of young
/ matrons, and became suddenly animated
and charming, just as the door opened
TO admit some of the men, who at once
Joined their party.
1T is all very we'll for Nina c. to
talk" said the third winter girl. 'She
belongs to the young married set, and as
sumes all their freedom. There are not
more than half dozen girls in town that
nave 1er position. but | feel as if / were
neither fish nor fowl. nor good red her
ring. | have only been out two winters
besides this. and am barely 20, and yet
| know | am ciassed as one OF the old
girls. and that the mothers that are Civ
ing dinners and dances would be pleased
to drop me from their list to make room
for young ones. Why is it, l wonder,
that while girls seem to be coming out in
relays, the number of men never in
creases"'
In giving small entertainment. so
ciety leaders are very apt to divide the
daughters of their friends into classes
the debutantes must, of course, be asked,
and the second winter girls if possible,
but girl who has been out several sea-
sons and has done nothing to make her
SELF prominent in any way is apt 10 be
dropped in favor of her younger sisters. A
clever young woman, to hold her ground,
must create for herself a circle, and be-
come necessary to some particular set, if
she wishes to continue in the gay world.
Married women are apt to prove to be
the best friends in such case, and a
w bn 10 nlap Nt.ifh ha,.
much more apt to retain her hold on so
ciety than one who succeeds only with
men. for it is the women VINO give tine
dinners, the theater parties, and all tho
other delightful little functions to which
they only ask their intimatcs And a
self recognized position in their society
need never be afraid of being Cropped
because she has been "out' for several
sessons--New York Tribune.