The Savannah morning news., 1902-05-18
WOMANS
WORLD.

,-uitne about men who are popular
y, ,romen Dorothy Dix, in an arti-
!, the New Orleans Picayune, has
- following to say:
3.~bans the secret of popularity
- our fellow-creatures must always
In the one unfathomable mystery.
.hs old days-before she lost her
.b accent-Anna Held used to
little ditty that said, For 1
-. sooch a way wis me" and that
olvays seemed to me about as
,s.r an analysis of the reason we like
narson and don't like another as
aver been gwen. A man-though
sorbt it-may be able to reason out
~. he loves a woman; but as far as
mon are concerned, we never have
40 ghost of an idea of why we like
or He may not be clever, he may
hs as homely as sin and as poor as a
{. obnrch mouse, but he has sooch a
..v wis him. and we get up and
Love our comfortable homes and fol-
-, him to the ends of the earth.
And. heaven help US! we don't know
,bv we are doing it, any more than
sheen know why they follow their
l.ader over a wall. 1t is simply blind
AXE it, however, that it is pre-
dsev these winning ways that my cor
rsspondent desires to cultivate, and
bat he wants to know, from wo-
man what qualities in a man are
most attractive to women.
Our hero says that girls do not core
hr his society-that the ungrateful
mikes will calmly turn their backs
mon him while they eat his candy,
and talk to another. Let us see if we
can help him.
a In the first place, it does not matter
vhether he is handsome or not. Very,
very few women care for beauty in a
MAN. 1t is d poaching on their own
preserves that they resent. Besides,
#the vanity of a handsome man, COM
#nared to the vanity of the vainest wo-
man that ever lived, is as moonlight
INTO sunlight, or water unto wine, or
sny other weak and innocuous imita-
Fl ton TO the real thing. 1t is reverend
ing, all pervasive, utterly unsatistia-
ble. and leaves him no room to notice
the appearance of any other human
being. 1t is worth bearing in mind
q that. almost without exception, the
4 great heart smashers of history have
4 been men who were not only plain of
q face. but some of them grotesquely
4 hideous Titania, falling in love with
i the creature with the head of beast,
& was not such a midsummer madness
& as the poet would have us to believe,
q No doubt, when they sat upon the
q fowery bank, he spent the time telling
q her how beautiful she was, instead of
a eXpecting her to wear herslf out pitch
81 ing bouquets at him.
But while mere regularity of feature
q in man counts for but little in at
i tracing a woman's fancy, man
q should always be well-groomed and
4 we'll dressed. Nothing on earth but the
81 grace of God keeps a woman in love
with a man with a two-dayS' stubble
of dirty beard on his face. Married wo-
a men stand this because they can't help
themselves but no girl wants to SLOW
& emily, untidy man, who looks like he
q needed to be run through the laundry,
Il hanging about her. All the knocking
! at the word dude comes from mas
q Culine lips. No woman joins in that
S chorus. On the contrary, she feels that
81 the man who comes into her presence
q ill-clothed, dirty, eglected-looking, not
only shows disrespect for her, but in
4dicates that he lacks Judgment, indus
s. try and progressiveness For that is ex-
#actly what being addressed now
means. The man who goes about
s with trousers too short in the legs, a
coat that looks like it had been slept
+ IN, lanky, long hair, and an unshaved
4 face may be genius. but the chances
are 999 out of a thousand that he is
Just simply too lazy and riftless to
take care of himself, and no dainty
4 girl wants to waste, her time on a
+ hobo beau.
Another thing that women like, end
& 1t is an attraction that any man can
acquire, is d certain savoir faire that
makes him equal to any situation. A
woman likes man to know how to
offer her chair, to help her on with
ner wraps, to order little dinner.
And she hates, with unspeakable
4 loathing, the fellow who is always
making scenes in public, who gets in
& rows with the theater usher over a
4 mistake about the seats, or the street
car conductor about the change, or
& Who sits up like a craven image of
wrath every time anybody drops in
while he is calling.
Il Chump, says the girl to herself;
ne hasn't got enough sense to know
only the ignorant have to fight to get
+ their rights!"
Women like generous men, but even
x girls have contempt for men who
spend more than they can afford. 1t
Is not the youths who waste all their
substance on bonbons, and theater
tickets, and violets, who are the most
a popular with the fair sex. Every girl
mas what she calls her candy beau"
Out she seldom marries him. The best
4 way to touch a girls heart is not by
upsettlng her digestion. An important
punt 10 remember just here is that
elie man who would curry favor by
means OF gifts must give discreetly. A
woman would rather have a present
mat cost cents if it represented some
especial taste or fancy of hers. than
uhe that cost $50 if it was something
utat had no personal significance.
III conversation, cultivate a happy
-lsulum. Be neither a continuous
pnoTnologue performer, nor yet a clam.
before you take the floor devote hours
UtApatlating on how you can keep
LOOKS or play ping-pong, or take snap
sgotS' be sure the pirl is really interest
~ III you. After a woman is in love,
H7 can SIT entranced for days listening
q man tell about the kind of collar
r luton ne wears; but if she isn't in
- steady stream of personal rem
essences eae gets on her nerves after the
oro9la hour. and she wants a change
~II chance to talk about herself.
~. lor PHYS sake, though, help out with
t S,e conversation. From the time a girl
sb o!u enough to understand anything
;- Is taught that her chief end in life
10 entertain man, and everywhere
stu so you can see her conscientiously
"uiK trying to do it. Every mothers
II t1ushIer of us knows what it is to la
d MI n ana perspire and toll trying to
IL 1aAe conversation with some man who
Just as unresponsive as a store dunn
. ny ana as Silapt 4t,a r.