The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1902-09-14

is to be harmony in s4.e home. 1t goes
without saying that a man does not want
his wife to be an echo of himself; that
he is glad to find her able to hold up her
end of discussion with ability, and Of
ten aid his own judgment with her feml-
nine intuition. But the discussion must
stop short of recrimination, must be con-
Quoted inpersonasly. If even tenor OF tam
lily life is to be preserved.
Another serious error into which wives
sometimes fall is to disparage and dislike
anv woman whom her better half may
happen to admire. This attitude is not
only unphilosophical, but is in the high
est degree unwise; it defeats its own
end For example q husband speaks IN
careless passing admiration of some lady,
the wife feels herself bound to make some
derogatory remark: the natural instinct
of the human kind 10 defend his position
forces the husband into champloninS the
absent lady Ply the time the discussion
is at an end, the wife feels q real and
expressed dislike to the unoifending fair
one. and the husban5sssA interest that he
would not otherwise I've had. Admire
,ingrudgingly any lady your husband
praises Guido him in pretty speeches OF
her and his thought will undoubtedly be:
How big and above petty jeaious!es Is
ny wife! How head and shoulders above
other women. How sweet and gener-
ous.''
Leave a bird free and it VIII peroetu-
ally hover about its nest; put il III q
cage and it viii beat itself against the
bars in vain efforts to escape. Nhieu
means: Leave a husband free "a, so and
come as he likes, let him feet that ii ne
wishes to spend the evening outside OF
his. home he IS perfectly ct liberty to do
So and he will think home the coslest
and sweetest nest in the world but let
him feel that if he suggests going ont
in the evening his intention will be met
with tears and reproaches let him realize
that he must resort to stratagem and
subterfuge to get out of the house, anu
he viii long for and secure a least a
temporary freedom. Reasonable or not,
this is masculine nature. The home must
he q nest not cage" y story which
illustrates one side OF this question was
told to me the other day. \ young cou-
pie, recently married had been keeping
house in an apartment for n few months
the wife was a young thing, but she was
very wise. One evening he somewhat
tloubEfuiiy suggested that ne would rath-
er like TO so out that evening aud see
boxing match a one OF the large halls IN
the city. Many wives would have said
pitifulS, .'Oh, don't go and leave me all
alone" or II think it is pretty hard thar
you can't stay at home with me when We
nave been married only four months
But our bride was wiser. Her heart beat
fast, but she said quietly, Why yes
dear, certainly; tell me about 1t. who IS
going to fight who?" Much sratitied, the
husband explained the details at some
length and the conversation continued
after they left the table and We're seated
in their parlor After while she glanced
at the clock. 81 think it Is time that You
were getting ready, dear. If you are to
be there for the beginning. she said.
1T is an awful nuisance, leaving this cosy
place. hut I suppose ought to see it,
be quericd, somewhat doubtfuliy. Why
of course you ought Go and get your
things. I will come and help you with
your overccat'' With not much aiaeity
the husband obeyed, He paused at the
threshold. Are you sure You don't mind
being left alone. darling. for an hour CT
SO? L wouldn't so q step IL 1 taoug:laa
you would be lonely. Say the. VOID and
l won't ;o.''
.Oh, shall be all tight" laughed the