Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1902-10-26

~, ,hc marrying and the giving in mar
-.~s tlat has been going on In this beau
.sa,, harvest month of October! Oh. the
ave Young hearts that have swelled
.s the inefTable song-the music never
4,sgat 10y syr1nx or flute. or violin:
~, words nc tongue can tell. Truly Love
.seeen. busy gathering in the sheaves of
az, or-,9o. j will not say it-it shall be
,-ss Faalloyed-at least untl after the
neon,
rmea;y-seven marriages last week. and
~, two society columns" scanned.
4 PI.AINTTvE QUESTION.
and IN the midst of ali this fervor and
,.ssan: breath OF orange blossoms and
,.- 81 ogoing-away gowns'-one plain
n.a i.grle vail:
N know that a young gentleman
loves nc. and know that love him.
ana yet he does not say SO, what must
5o This IS the vail.
M dear ! haven't had harder CO.
rgnaru-n asked me since fate settled my
swr.
What can I tell you?
You are hampered at the start by the one
r-ea essential Of a mans love; because
y rca know that he loves you now.
now that his love viii cool TO zero as
,751 rs YOU take the initiative and tell
nm So This thing is oased upon nature,
,-5 we dare not break natures laws
Nh impunity-even in love.
III TIE first place, are you certain that
=, loves you? One slightest mistake here
Is tatal-fatal to your love, of course,
M fatal TO your pride.
Remember that the woman who clam
as Tor love IN vain, inflicts on herself a
57uble pang: for the loss Of se1f-vespect
s even more bitter than the refusal OF
her soul's desire.
You may know your own heart; Go
y7a know his? Bear well in mind that
nj ali chill things on earth, the chilliest
is the heart Of u man towards a love he
5ses not desire. which he cannot return.
No maiden. high or low, rich or poor,
rsu select from her masculine friends
and acauaintances the man with whom
she feels she would be willing TO pass
The remainder of her life. Or, if once
chosen. Il must be silently and secretly.
She cannot make her choice known TO
tie object of her affections. Right or
wrong, though she die, she must bide her
time.
DO NOTHING.
The power of choice in a woman sim
nix amounts 10 the power of rejection.
And II. near her. there be another whose
addresses she could receive with pleasure,
he must be left to find that out for him
salt
So. 7 an bound to reply to your anxious
Query, do nothing.
sometimes these questions solve them
saves. Among girls whose lives give them
sLaurdsnt social opportunities, though this
Same rule holds, st does not bear with
EQUAL weight. Ordinary society life is
t.fl Of chances fer indicating ones prefer
ones which do not come into the circle
OF the average working woman
Tie favored girl is sure also of char
Ger OF interest in her matrimonial
aspects on the part of relatives and
lends. such as is rarely exercised in
agv fcipfui sense toward the other IN
..c5 have noticed that to these girls
me few Of the helps and all OF the OBJ
les IN the way OF making happy mar
f1agcs.
The hanpy marriage must be based on
mutual affection, and mutual affection
is largely q thing OF propinqulty, dePenc-
mt upon mutual association.
s1ca We cannot give any woman the
mower 10 express her choice in matrilnony
Inc reXt best thing is to advise her no"
55a -ua.- choose Tor herself from the i'm
5t.7 number OF suitors who desire TO
Moose her. remembering always that II
lis a boon to wonanhood to-daE that she
y. not obliged to become the VIE CT
warrior who claims her from her t1lpe'
a9r is she led, in America, straight rom
q convent TO z marriage OF cen eii'e1iee'
manned by nor parents.
BE CAREFUL.
For advice in her selection, no warning
word can be too strong in its teaching,
for SO often when the critical question IS
PRESENTED the tempter, as All "angel Oh
l.gst." whispers evil counsel; he Spears
To the inexperienced girl of WoriolS az
rartages 10 be secured
He shows her the golden oppoftultl i'
th..t the possession OF money VIII give
mr. He even suggests how much gooo
sle can do!
Ana when the heart responds, No,
a. not love the man. the ternptfr urges
.Tsrt Won will when you know nm
tzr,er.,' And she waivers, and rs lost
Or she raIliatos her decision by say
"well. it is true that do not love y n,
lGl he loves me" false argullieiit ~
rl-aa when the JOY of human ives Is
stake. zrs
M length OF purse, nor beauty Of dress
1U- social mower can make up TO a "o-
rasB far the loss of her own happiness
gue for the loss Of her husband love
~ sooner or later he hnds out the siiai'i'
ana in his heart she is dethroned:
Why THEY RE SJB8i1SSiNtl;
7 oDne knew Il man VINO ~as-al n'I r.
rlase observer OF women IN CYNICAL
qr5 lalf-conteInptuous way He said 10
inc racently-referring TO weaIths
acknowledgements aliiance-that
he remarked curious tendency among
women 10 submit with comparative con,
1taccncy TO the inevitable, whenever II
happened 10 coincide with their inatetiai
advantage.
Women" ne argued, have hos a.. 90
o.aa, outgroWn the traditions OF lhe's
cordftfar when their partners were
caosea Tor them by lot or the chance OF