New-York tribune., 1902-10-13
4 JAPANESE WOMAN'S VIEW.
co>TpAsr OF AMERICANS AND JAPANESE
AS BOYS YOUTHS AND MEN IN
THEIR HOME LIFE.

. rarauase woman at the end % years visit
here. gave q short talk group Of friends the
other day regarding the differences between Amer
leans and japanese. as hovs, youths ana men-eN-
plaiuinr nodestly however that she did not re-
gard her observations as anything more than gen
e-7Iry Inclusive But her nearers felt that the con
trast of conditions IT, the countries although
s,u1ewhat 70 the disfavor OF her own peoplep Vas
fair and clear sighted
In a Japanese home" the unwonted lecturer
began. IN her dainty. deprecating fashion. the
parents welcome a girl well as a boy. but when
a bov IS born the household Jubilee and salutation
are apt be deeper and greater One usually con-
graduates Is II a boy Well done" So then frum
Ia hood the japanese boy, unlike the American.
has a certain predominance over the girl
'As little children the Western and Eastern bows
are both as restless, inqutstivs. active and mis-
chievous az can be However. their behavior tow
ard sisters and girl friends may he little diner
ent Even at this early period the idea Of helping
girls and protecting the weak may be terminating
IN the American boys little mind, Notwithstanding
the frequent temptation to tyrarnze over the less
strong girls The Japanese boy Is tender toward
his own sisters his love toward them Is beautiful
10 see But the common tendency toward the other
little girls is 10 look down on them, tease them
rather than help. keep from them rather than aP-
proach. because when he dares to be kind 10 them
then he must bear scoru and laughter from the
other boys
such a boy grows 10 be youth. What them
The difference between the American and Jap
anese. wonder. grows more and more. BY this
time the manners OF the American boy become re-
fined and gentlemanlike. he learns how 20 act be
fore the elders and women on the contrary. the
japanese boy is not half so much restrained about
etiquette as the girl Is Moreover. there al
time queer idea in fashion among the Jap
youths namely. to despise any boy dressed
In good order as a mean fellow. who thought only
about his outward appearance, and 10 consider the
dirty face torn coat short sleeves and rough man
signs OF the true. noble mind so that
riotous and untidv In spirit they were harmless
and studious; II was mere peculiar conception OF
lost its power. and now most of the students are
Tdu1si ana the brorber and Sisters
is no longer close, for they do not attend the same
schools their interests change; they do not go out
much together: the brother SPENDS of his
time away from home 10 his sisters friends he
ing he is among his friends. he Is dumb and
out Of place among the girls. What a contrast to
college work being finished. next comes the time
must marry now The American has already many
acquaintances among the girls; IT is not hard
anese boy! iie has put off his rough ways and be
Spe g senteI9an M & 3y tnis TIN time Dut %heTs can ne
knows either his cousins his friends sisters,
or his sisters friends even them he does not know
among them, il is fortunate for him; if not his
parents or his older friends are the ones who take
pains to choose the appropriate girl for him: It
Is not unusual for Japanese man TO be married To
grI whom ne mas never seen before The mar
riage between the well acquainted man and woman
must the japanese custom appear 70 the American
eye!
The man now becomes the husband and the mas
ter OF house The American home must almost
without exception. be happy one, for AZ consists
OF loving and loved people The JAPANESE home
though the way il is formed is so different can
not be considered otherwise than happy since fha
union OF husband and wife has been brought about
by experienced and we-wishing parents or friends
But at the same time, cold. sorrowfuI homes are
no less frequent The husband and the wife arr
the mutual helpers and cOmforters tust as IN thls
country. but in one sense the husband Is more or
the thing which strikes American il tbs o,it
ward cOidness of the husband toward the wife IN
spite Of his ofttimes deep love for her: especIaIv
before others. he assumes dignity and restricts ten
der words. "
As father ne Is generally loving which ts M
remarkable contrast to the American father Tbe
Japanese father Is not so indulgent as the sortsr
hearted mother he commands certain dignity
which calls forth both respect and love from Ms
children ''OA' AA'
His position as grandfather alone remains ~
be described reverence 10 the aged and fIiaI netv
10 the parent being among the mos ina rn1op,vSt pevS
moral duties observed by the Japanese his IA az
may be happier than that Of the American grand
father. Though no longer the master on thA 6ousa
he still receives every comfort and uxl,ry stncsr
love and respect from the sons and daurhters and
grandchildren anu
ON looking back. the main points that -,.r,
more or less distinctly the position OF the Jsnansse
man IN his home differing from that ~ tba
American are tVo-hrst. that The Japsnase rs
more authority the woman than tba Ansri
and second. that the rightti relations betw..,
tbs japanese man and woman do not vet ext,s .