Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1902-05-16
LESSONS FOR WOMEN
SUGGESTIONS CONCERNING THE
GOVERNMENT OF HUSBANDS.
Don'ts for Wives - Domestic Policies
and Family Politics-Make Home
Happy and Cheerful.

From What to Eat.
A man, my dear. is like any other we'll
fed pet; stroke him the right way and he
shows his paws; the wrong way and he
shows his claws lie breads friction unso-
hcited. OF course, You are not satisfied
with your husband. That shows YOU arg a
normal. right-thinking woman: but YOU
should bear in mind that you cannet cut
off his moral eNcrescences by hacking at
them with a butcher knife. Remember
that, unless he is a drunkard or a klepto-
maniac, he is great deal better than most
of the company he is Obliged to keep, away
from home. Your domestic horizon is mar
row; ii is difficult for you to see beyond IL.
but If you could realize that your husband
rs thrown with all kinds OF people who do
all kinds of ways, you would treat his
moral infirmities with that solicitude you
would lavish upon HINT II he had fever.
Ana. when he does that which is overtly
wrong, you would come to his rescue as IL
you were his lawyer unblaming, seeking
the best way out of the difficulty.
You complain that he does not spend his
evenings at home. You wouldn't, either, IL
you had pleasanter place to go. SUPPOSE
you were your husband and came home for
an evening, and your loving wife congrat-
ulated herself that she had lived TO see a
miracle. wondered how it happened, If there
We're no other place for you TO go: thought
you elght 10 have besn home last evening;
thought You would be out tomorrow night
etc, and sent YOU TO bed early to catch up
on your Sleep You would doubtless an
preclate she was giving you good medicine
put you wouldn't be in hurry for another
dose
Study Your Man.
When YOU married the man he thought
he had mind of his own. 1t may be
years before you can change his opinion.
Meanwhile, study him: get him by heart,
but keep him guessing about you.
Laugh at his weaknesses and he Will re-
member to try TO overcome them. Show
the funny side of his faults and you Will
shame him away from them.
Remember the following -don'ts'' and YOU
will not need an accident policy:
Don't make a god of man unless YOU
want him to make fool of himself
Don't treat him as if he were your mas
ter; let him keep an office boy To kick
Don't talk too much. What you say viii
thus become more or less oracular
Don't meet him with a smile" until he
wishes you'd take something for H.
Don't agree with him until he Is nauseat-
ed. The matrimonial system requires a GER
tain amount of acid, only let it be whole
some.
isn't making anything like the success of
it that he could. with your tactics. but he
is too dense to understand that
Don't scold him. Don't bite him with
sarcasm. When he is proof against reason,
try gentle ridicue. lie likes a little affec-
tonate pinching.
Don't lower your standard of purity.
Show no appreciation Of coarse Jokes " nen
he married you he thought you were a lady;
don't let him make anything else OF you.
Don't Blame Husband.
Don't tell him it is his "own fault" lie
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probably thinks he is. and you needn't con-
tradict him. 1t isn't worth while Be kind
and sympathetic always. 1t pays one hun
dred cents on the dollar, anywhere. any
time.
Don't visit too much and entertain in
proportion. A true man loves his home
because it is the temple of domestic happi-
ness. A true woman loves il for the same
reason. The charm is lost when it becomes
visiting mart.
Don't throw the poker chips out of the
kitchen window and entirely prohibit cards;
don't call him tobacco worm or a wine
vat. In other words, scripturally speaking
il "Ephraim is Joined to his idols, let him
alone"
Don't neglect to mention occasionally that
he is an unusual character different from
any you ever knew. He likes that AZ
ways be discovering new and admirable
traits. AS long you can set these out
in attractive language, you are sure of Il
hearing.
Let His Taste Alone.
Don't criticise his taste; it suits him first
rate. Don't wear his ties Don't read the
comic weekly while he is hunting his collar
button; take it off and give 1t to him.
Don't omit to preface your brightest and
most original remarks with, las my hus-
band says'-he will tell you when to quit
Don't overlook his counsel; such as IL is
it is volunteered for your good. Always
ask his advice. He will tell you what he
thinks and forget about 1t. You can then
do as you please.
Don't fail to admire his friends. even fr
you do so with mental reservations. Don't
talk Christian Science to him when he has
the toothache; and don't mention the pa
thence of Job when he has carbuncle on
the back of his neck. Don't allow him to
be showed under with religious literature
when he is sick, and don't have the minis
ter call oftener than the doctor
Don't fail to laugh at his jokes. to en-
courage his ambitions to live within his in
come. Don't be petty or spiteful Don't
fret. Don't tell him you wishk you hadn't
married him-the chances are YOU don't
wish it any more than he does, but neither