The Savannah morning news., 1901-07-07

WORLD.

Writing in the New York World as TO
whcehsr Engiishmen or Americans make
the better husbands, Senator Chaunccy NJ.
Dspew ssyp:
1t ss dincult task and an ungracious
one, 70 ssy whether The Englishman or
the American acco1ds the most perfect
tres tment to WpmanNnd.
OF course, according 70 our standards,
in no other country do husbands pay such
dsfereucs to their wives. American wo-
men are brought up to expect this, and
American men are taught that it is the
approved conduct over there women are
not accustomed to expect so much.
This does not signify that the English
man is less devoted TO his wife. Not at
all If he is domineering neither he nor
his wife is conscious OF it. 1t is a mat
ter OF course, because it is The custom.
There the wife is constantly deferring
to her husband Here the husband is just
as constantly deferring to his wife, moth
er or his sister. This is not an annoy
ance to the American man. His pleasure
is to see what he can do to add to the
comfort of the women folks"
But when a man loves a woman prop
ery he speedily comes to her standards.
know several American women who have
married EnglishmeE and they are very
happy. I can't say whether they have
conformed TO the IDEAS of the husbands
or whether they have brought the hus-
bands on their own ways Of thinking. 1t
has. perhaps. been a compromise
On the same subject Mrs. Theodore
Lutis says: Horace Porter once said to
me that a lady can travel in this coun-
try from New York to California and
from Maine to Florida and receive moth
ing but courtesy from all the men she
meets. In Europe such thing would be
impossible.
1T illustrates the peculiar regard ac
corded by all men 20 all women in this
country. This Difference is not inspired
entirely by the American woman. 1t is
due to the Character Of the American
man. He is taught by his mother and his
sisters to honor womanhood, and he
grows up with the American idea of
what is due to himself as well as to his
wife.
I'm Germany England's near neighbor,
we see women harnessed with dogs and
driven to msrkt. Women In Europe are
not valued as they are here. This may
be due somewhat to the surviving infiu-
ences of feudslism under which women
were mere chattels / think that is main
ly owing to the army system. In Eng
land boys enter the army and leave
home for the colonies. On the continent
at a a boy joins the standing army and
becomes machine. The American boy
is taught above all to be an individual.
He feels that while he may rise from
any position to become President the girl
he narries will rise with him Any young
woman may hope to become the first lady
Of the land
Respect the personal liberty OF your
own children. That Is the hardest thing
a parent ever encounters. 1t is so nat
ural, says Dorothy Dix in the New Or
leans Picayune, for fathers and mothers.
who have their childrens interest so al
heart, and have made SO many sacri-
fees for them, to feel that they have
the right to decide their lives for them
but It terrible mistake that wrecks
many a career.
The world is full OF bankrupt business
men who would have achieved fame and
fortune II they had been permitted to
follow their bent and study the profess
sion they desired There are thousands
or incompetent doctors pursuing their
career of murder who would have been
successful merchants. Every Sunday CT
our lives we are bored to extinction by
preachers who ought to be half-soling
shoes, instead of preaching to the i'm
mortal souls of human beings We all
know lonely old maids living out narrow
ana bitter lives because their mothers in
terfered between them and their lovers
and the divorce courts are strewn with
the wrecks OF the happiness of women
whose parents selected their husbands
for them. Every family, as well as ma
ton, should have a constitution that
guarantees TO each individual the right
of life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness
and the choice of their own career and
matrimonial partner.
Just as much may be said of the duty
Of these young people who are coming
home from school to do their part to-
wards tiding over the period that is the
crisis in many a family history. 1 never
see a silly little goose of a girl, ashamed
Of her homely old mothers ways, or a
supercilious nincompoop OF a college lad
deriding his father without wanting to
show them the heroism of the sacrifices
that have been in vain for them, and the
beauty OF the rugged old lives and the
hneness and delicacy that underle the
questionable manners, but youth does
not see these things until its eyes have
been washed clear by the bitter tears of
experience. In dhe meantime II is to
age-mellowed by knowledge OF the world
and broadened by the real education of
life-that we must look to solve the
problem offered by these strangers on
our hearth-our children who are no
longer the boys and girls who played
about our feet, but men and women
whom we must bind to US with new ties
or else lose. God give US wisdom to
do it,
II Is not always the daughters of the
rich who can boast the most tasteful
sleeping apartments. True, they may
have costly furniture. draperles and
bric-a-brac, yet w1thal their rooms have
an appearance that jars upon the artis-
tic taste. One clever girl with little
money to expend upon her surroundings,
but with the cultivated artistic sense,
has adorned her room with charming pic
lures by utilizing engravings from high
class magazines. Not wishing TO incur
the expense of framing them, the young
woman bought several sheets OF blue
blotting paper. such as art students use
In crayon work, and some sheets OF gray
cardboard. Selecting the pictures that had
a good deal Of light she arranged them
on blue mats cut large enough to leave
margin. Those that hbounded in
shadows were affixed to the gray mate
The special and unique feature Of the