The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1901-08-20
RULES FOR YOUNG COUPLES.
1t Is Worth While to Keep Up Ante
Matrimonial Illusions.
From Life.
Keep up the illusion.

Keep up the illusion.
Don't settle down too obviously to
married life. Be as eager to please her
as you were before marriage. Aim to
preserve the charm of the honeymoon.
Don't tell her she is illogical. She
probably is, but she mustn't know it.
Don't be too reminiscent of the days
before you knew her. From the battles
in which you slew the dragon she may
reason to the struggles where you fell
by the wayside.
Remember that the new life. which
to you is merely an episode, is to her
a complete revolution of thought and
haitian undiscovered country. Make
allowances for her. The readjustment
is not easy.
Treat her fairly, so that she will not
deceive you.
Keep up the illusion.
Tell her occasionally that you love
her. She knows it, but she likes to
hear it. She can't always take it for
granted.
Start in the way you want to con-
tinue, particularly in affairs of the
purse. Never humiliate her by making
her ask for money. Have definite
understanding at first. Money brings
the discord that causes most family
bells to jangle out of tune.
gle rose may perfume a whole day.
Never remark casually that there are
two stands, one for man and another
for a woman. Women sometimes put
two and two together with surprising
accuracy.
Remember her woman's instinct.
Be as polite to her mother as in you
lies, without encouraging her to live
with you. 1t pays in the end.
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it, and not before. The unaided work.
ing out of her life problems may be
well-nigh homicidal in the process. but
the results will justify your forbear-
ance.
Keep up the Illusion.
Tell her your sorrows as well as your
lows. Two can bear trouble better than
one. She is your wife, not YOUR sister,
and she loves you. You owe it to her.
She may develop new power and grace
with the knowledge.
Learn to bear with her occasional
tears. Men must work and women must
weep.
Never give her power over you by al
lowing her to see that you are jeal-
Gus. This is fatal. Assume indiffer-
ence If you have II not.
Don't embarrass her by adverse crit
icism of any kind before people. Make
1t a curtain lecture If It must be.
Don't forget to kiss her good-by.
Train her to be prepared for emer-
gencies If she isn't that kind. Bring
your friends home to dinner unexpect-
eddy.
Smoke in the house IL you want to-
and bring the dogs in. She knew these
things before she married you. Why
sacrifice your innocent pleasures?
Prove to her that marriage seldom re-
forms.
Make her feel that she is the only
woman You have ever loved. This is
very important.
Don't tease her and then refuse to be
Don't talk business to her after she
has been shopping all day. She has
troubles OF her own.
Treat her like a comrade and
friend, but never forget that she is,
above all. woman. who needs your
utmost sympathy and protection.
Keep up the Illusion.
Don't be an ostrich. Cover your
tracks as we'll as your head.
Ask her advice occasionally and take
It sometimes on principle. 1t may be
worth taking.
Never protest. Your zeal may DER
leap itself and fall on the other side IL
you do. Maintain a dignified and
thoughtful silence.
Don't make the mistake or providing
food, lodging and pin money for her
poor relatives. How did they manage
before you were married?
Cultivate your speaking voice. A few
tender words aptly uttered in thrilling
tones will calm her most violent feel
ings. Few women are proof against a
properly managed voice.
If you can't be frank, be as frank
as you can.
Don't think she is flirting outrageous
" when she is merely trying 10 be nice
to your best friends TO please you.
Don't tell her all the risque stories
you know. Reserve some of the worst
and leave her few sensibilities.
II you hurt her feelings-and you will
tell her you are sorry. An ounce of
true repentance will Danish many
pounds OF hurt
Don't lost your temper when she
does. Choose a more opportune mo-
ment. Some one must pilot the ship.
Remember that If you love each other
you can do with her as you will.
Above all keep up the illusion-if
you can. 1t is worth while,