The age-herald., 1901-07-17
A Word About the Summer Young Man, Far From Home and Mother. Miss ErsweIl Weeds Mir. Gels.
 mer-soclal Gossip.
BY ANNIE KENpRIck WALKER.

mistake. It requires a great deal more than trunkful of pretty clothes to make girl the belle of summer re- sort, and bowling success, writes Do- rothy Dix in the New York Journal Now, just what constitutes popularity is one of the things every woman has to find out for herself, and when she does. she takes precious good care not to give the snap away, but there are certain ele- mentary rules to which it seems worth while to call the beginners attention.
 In the first place. the young woman who aspires to being a successful sum- mer girl should adopt as her motto the words of the old song, There Are Others" For downright, unadulterated selfishness and lack of consideration of other people, the average summer girl holds the championship belt and Is oapa- ble of defending it against all new corners She monopolizes the shady cor ners of the hotel galleries: she camps in the best rockers and she murders sleep by shreking rag-time ditties after mid night For brilliant grand stand play I can think of nothing so original and effective as for a girl to now and then give some intimation that she does not think the summer resort is being run for her exclusive benefit.
 The summer girl should also boar in mind that, in this country. society is en- gineered by women and that 1t is never safe to snub the grannies who sit on the galleries doing crochet work or. the home ly girls who line the ballroom walls. It d. tta ante taining in winter, when society Is In full blast, and many an unattractive girl has an eligible brother. Men may pay you compliments, but it is their mothers and sisters who make out the ball lists.
 Remember that the summer season is season of rest, when people don't want to be talked to death. It was an enemy of the sex who first suggested that women could make themselves fascinating by never-endng flow of words. Men don't want to be talked to-they want to talk Listen: Encourage them to tell you their opinion of the Philippine question, their golf record, the state of the white goods trade, so shall you have a fish on your line that you can play as long as you de- sire.
 Never tell a man a joke. It is a tres passing on his own preserves he always resents. Besides, he has generally read the comic papers first, anyway, and you are taking the words out of his mouth and leaving him bankrupted in conversa- tion. If by any chance you have the mis- fortune to be witty and have a knack of repartee, send your bright thoughts to the almanac makers. Choke them down never speak them out in company. Many | a woman has cut her own throat with her | tongue.
 Enter warily into all games with men. If they beat you, they have a poor opin- ion of your intellect and a contempt for your skill. If you beat them they have horror of you as a creature who knows more than she ought to.
 Don't take every man seriously who makes love to you. Ten to one he has a 'best girl'' somewhere else and is merely making sentimental speeches to you to keep his hand in. Never forget that a summer engagement is only a sort of six ty day option on a mans heart anyway. It isn't permanent trade until it Is rati- fled in town.
 Be amiable. People may laugh at your sharp speeches before your face, but they will call you cat behind your back. The worlds bete noir is a sharp-tongued woman. It dreads her. It fears her and 1t shelves her. It is the amfable. good natured, generous girl who has a good word for other girls and who is willing to share her beaux and her chocolate creams, whose engagement we read in the society columns of the papers. She's the kind of girl a fellows mother and sisters like, and that he hunts up for himself when he really means business. Do not lose sight of the fact that the world is very little place, and that we all live uncomfortably close together
 Your escapades at the seaside and on the mountain will be told with embellish- ments in town. Don't flirt with the floor walker off for his vacation. and not ex- pect him to nudge his fellow clerks when you sweep into the store and tell them that you are the girl he had so much fun with last summer Don't do things in August you hope people will have for gotten by December. The world has a long memory for our faults and a short one for our virtues.
 As you are strong, be merciful. Have pity upon the poor summer young man. Remember he Is an unprotected creature, far from home and mother, and that he does not really enjoy giving away all his necxties and stick pins for souvenirs, or making a dancing dervish of himself. or sprinting over the mountains. He comes to rest, and this is where the hammock girl scores.
 Don't tell some strange woman every thing you know. and your family secrets. just because you are sitting together In the moonlight and you feel confidential. It's one of the commonplace tragedies of life that we give ourselves away
 Assume an air of success. Don't look like you were striving to win admiration. Look as if you were used to 1t. In this one thing is comprised all the law and the prophets of being successful sum- mer girl.
 To Miss Morrow.