The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1901-09-08

OWHERE else in life is the
triumph of hope over other
u people 5 experience so beau
ifully illustrated as in matrimony.
Every young couple who ioyously lock
step up the church aisle to the altar be-
lieve that they are going to be the one
exception TO the general rule. and that
lhey VIII live in a perpetual honey
moon where they will never want to do
anything but gaze into each others
eyes and murmur VOWS of alteration.
This is before taking. After taking
they find out that they are like other
people. and that they have unintention-
ally taken each other in with a snow of
virtues that they are not prepared to
make good in every day life Many a
man gets the jar of his life when he
finds out that the being NJ has regarded
as an angel has "a temper like a FISH
wife. az many bride sheds salt and
bitter tears when she discovers that
the hero of her romantic dreams eats
onions. and swears a blue streak when
his collar button rolls under the bu-
resu.
1t is because both men and women
are one thing before marriage and an
other after II. that so many people feel
that there is another guess coming to
them, and apply to the divorce courts
conundrum.
As a matter of fact marriage is a
gambling game where YOU always bet
on the dark horse. and never know
what you are doing until after you
have done it, Age and experience and
previous records count for nothing. and
no matter how often YOU may have
seen the trial performances OF the can
didate for matrimOny. you never know
how he or she will turn out at last as a
running mate
A young woman. for instance, who is
OF the clinginE vine pattern. and de-
Eires a manly form about which TO fes-
tOon herself can base no assurance OF
future support upon the conduct of her
lover. Because in the DAYS of court
ship, he tenderly lifts her over a
shadow on the carpet is no sign that
after they are married he won't stalk
along about four feet in front of her,
and leave her to carry six bundles and
the baby.
Neither is there any way TO tell be-
fOrehand whether a mans supply of
patience and forbearance viii be equal
to the strain ofEthe wear and tear Of
domestic life. e3efofe marriage a man
will ACCOMPANY a girl shopping and
stand around for six hours while she
prices things ard assure her that he is
enjoying it 81 and having the time %
his life but the married man who is
lSeseSsssS IS SSSDYSss yAjJe his Wis
purchases 3 sS>OOS 81 tSsceS2 S2<Ses SIX
HfU and wants TO know what on earth
she was doing and If she supposed ht
wants TO spend tine balance OF his life
in a department store
Nor is the generosity OF ones besi
beau any indication that the gooc
things Of life are coming TO the wife
on wings. Many a girl who has beer
fed on chocolate creams anc showed
under with presents by her sweetheart
has 10 hsggle with him over the stree
car fare after she marries him. anC
hypDotize him before she can get a new
frock-
1t is also a lamentabIe fact that Z
mans view OF a woman's perfection
varies before and after marriage. II
the nte-nuptial days he admire
everything she does I'm tho Dost-nup
iial he criticises. II every man ex
pressed the same opinions of hi
sweethesrt's wit and taste in dress an,
Judgment that he does OF his wife's. tn
marriage registrar might shut up hi
shop and 20 home. There wouldn't b
enough doing in the matrimonial lin
OF business to make It pay.
So far as men are concerned the ven
fure is even more hazardous. Wome
are uncertain ever. and never a create
risk than in matrinony. Many ma