The Savannah morning news., 1901-06-23

WORLD.

should marry, says Winfred Black an an
article on Love and Matrlmony In the St
Louis Globe Democrat.
There were two men in love with her
and she really couldn't make up her mind
which one she loved best-so' she tossed
up a penny TO decide.
The man whose head came up will OF
course, be ecstatically happy in the pos
session of a bride who comes to him with
a heart full of such absorbing love.
If he isn't happy with her, if she shows
the same fascinating indecision about
whether TO burn her steak or set it upon
the table raw; If she fails to be even "a
decently intelligent wife for him, he'll sit
up nights to curse the fates and wonder
why he was born TO such undeserved i'll
fortune
It will never enter his head that man
who marries a girl who chooses him by
hdpping pennies deserves any fate she
brings him
And the girl-what on earth did she
marry either man for? She had decent
home and a decent family. She could
have stayed by the candy hearth and
crocheted tides in peace all her life-but
no, she must rush in where angels fear
TO tread.
know a man who said he had great
faith dn the human race and it's future
till he became justice of the peace ana
had to marry people. Nine out of ten
couples who marry seem to do IL for the
same reason the lady pyromaniac burned
a mouse down out in Dakota the other
day-"iuSt because"
Women are especially addicted TO the
''just because" marrying habit
I've seen a woman, and an intelligent
woman, too, and a pretty one, worry
herself to death trying to decide about
marrying some man just because he hap
pened to ask her to be his wife. She
didn't love him; there wasn't one thing
in common between them. She had moth
ing to gain and nothing in particular to
lose by marriage. She could have said
NO in the fraction of a second and
settled things perfectly comfort ably.
But she seemed to think that it was
wasting good material to say NO to any
man, whether she happened to care one
penny for him or not.
Many women have this idea. It's a kind
of bargain counter rad. Look at this
good, healthy man to be had Tor Moth
6zag," they seem to say to themselves. Il
don't like him, and he doesn't really care
deeply for me. He's dull and I'm lonely.
He likes domestic life and l want to
board He's fond of music. and / hate
everything but a two-Step. He reads and
1 never look at a book. He isn't half so
good looking as the man who sold me
that bargain of yellow satin ribbon-b'ft
here he Is for nothing. II would be
sin to waste him" So she marrtes him
like a woman who takes old medicine IN
house-cleaning time to keep from throw
ing 1t away, and then she wonders that
her marriage is failure.
If half the manageable women in this
country would learn the old song, Have
Courage, My Boy to Say No. and prac-
tace what they sing. half the marriage
able men In this country would be saved
from a life of dire misery.
Phflosophize, argue, talk social economy
ali you please, there's just one sensible,
sane reason for getting married. The rea-
son that has ITS root in a deep, subtle in
stinct planted deep IN the human heart
for the preservation of the human race.
The old, old Reconnaissance she loved
q III -
If a woman aoves a man, she doesn't
care whether he's old or young or rich
or poor, or cross or aniable. or hand
sorna or ugly. He can wear cowhide boots
to ball or come to breakfast In dress
s,Iit, 81 he wants to He can cut the lawn
on Sundays and horrify an the neighbors,
or he can go to a revival and shout
psalms all day and half the night. He
can insist on reading his letters aloud to
the casual visitor, though all yawndom
intervene. He can even tell about the
way the girl he was engaged TO when he
met his wife wore her hair-and all these
things will be as naught TO the woman
who loves the man she S married.
II ch.a doezy1f lOrye him aVarvfh hing he
says will irrttate her everything he does
will annoy her, and she will persuade her
self that his mid little faults are each and
every one of them 50 many revelations of
the cioven hoof
A woman / know came to see me the
other day about her husband. She said
she didn't believe In divorce, and, besides,
she didn't have any cause which the law
required. But home she was going, and
home she intended TO stay, for her sensi-
tive Sota was raclxed to madness by the
hideotts coarseness OF the poor, well
meaning clod she had tied herself to in
a moment of madness.
When we had talked the whole matter
over Il turned OUT that the real heinous-
ness of the ciods 0ffense consisted in lik-
ing cakes and syrup for desert. and a
persistent habit of calling dinner sup
per- right before the SWEETEST friends hts
wife had
Before she went home ] found out that
she had married the ''clod'' because he
kept asking her. and there didn't seem
to be any one else available.
Girls, don't marry a man TO get rid OF
MIN.
Don't marry a man to reform him
Don't marry man because ne keeps
asking you.
He won't die IL you refusehim. OF course.
you are a distracting being, and It will
be hard for the man to come down TO
thoughts of common. ordinary girl after
he has had the felicity of admiring you.
bun he'll live through IL.
And some day when he finds the wo-
man he really loves, and who loves him,
he'll be so grateful to you for having the
good sense to refuse him that he'd set
up a little altar and burn candles before
your photograph II he were not afaid his
wife would misunderstood.
The one thing on earth that makes life
worth living 10 a normal man or a nor
mai woman Is a happy marriage.
The gayest Bachelor alive Is a poor
crippled half-existing creature compared
20 the humblest man he passes In the
street and pities for his life of poverty
and hard work, ~ that man IS happily
married
The most indepedent, most admired and
most brilliant woman You know is a ptti.
full. little lonely soul compared 20 the
woman who makes her fine clothes for
her. that woman has found the ono
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