Kootenai County Republican. (Rathdrum, Idaho) 1899-1903, 1901-03-22
open LETTER TO BRIDEGROOM.

being not like baby. throw
- some responsibility Oh her. Ieach
her - use money AMI IA save It. Make
her feel thar She Is your business part.
ner. and that the success Of tine trln de-
ponds on her good sense ana Judgment
just as much as 1t does on yours. {
should hear fewer stories Of woman )
extravaganza If we heard ofteper oil
men who made coniidants OF their
wives. A mans idea OF shielding the
woman he loves from any wind that
might blow roughly upon her Is very
poetic, and ii might be Kind II he mad
some way of protecting her perpetuaiiy.
But he hasn't, and III almost every life
the time comes when the storm breaks
with all its fury upon her, and she -
absolutely helpless and delen-eless. Z a
wise love has kept her a baby III eX-
perIenee and knowledge of real life.
and she is the most toriorn and pitii III
creature i'll the world. Don 90 II,
brother. The comrades we love best
are those with whom we have fought
shoulder to shoulder, and the ideal mar
rage Is not that in which the wife is a
pretty toy, to be dressed up and played
with when one Is In holiday mood. 1t
is the marriage where the man turns
to his Wife. in JOY or sorrow, in pros
perlty or poverty, secure that IN one
heart he will find perfect companion
ship and underst standing, and the power
that braces him up to fight his battle
to the death.
Praise her. Before marriage you said
a thousand charming things to her. You
noticed every new frock, and We're
ready to write sonnets to her eyebrows.
Did you ever think with what dull,
cold thud a woman's spirits must go
down when she first realizes that your
compliments were merely campaign
speeches, and that, having won her,
you don't propose to waste any more
eloquence on the subject? | assure you
that although you never notice it now,
she has the same eyebrows, and hair,
and eyes she had in the counting days,
and that she would enjoy compliment
from her husband ten times as much
as she did from her lover. You see,
you We're not the only source of supply
then. There were other men who ad
mired her just as much as you do.
There may be still. and they may not be
SO chary about telling her. Men don't
ed If there wouldn't be fewer silly
women hunting for atfinities in society
II they had more compliments at home.
Women are funny creatures, and It's
worth remembering that one will let
man mistreat her, and starye her, and
neglect her, and still 60 on thinking
she Is blessed above all others of her
sex, II he will only tell her often enough
that he loves her. and praise her house
keeping.
Don't marry girl for one thing. and
expect her to change into something
else. The days of fairy metamorphose
when a cat changed into beautiful and
adorable princess, are past. If you We're
fool enough to marry bit of Dresden |
china when you needed serviceable
delft, be man enough to abide by the
Don't take 1t out on the
poor little painted china shepherdess.
who isn't to blame for what she Is, ana
never pretended to be anything else but
an ornament. Sometimes | think that
that Is the eruelest thing on earth. A
man falls In love with little silly
frivolous girl, who has never done an
hours work In her life, and hasn't two
Ideas In her head, and yet the moment
the marriage ceremony Is read over
practical. helpful woman, ca
pable of being his companion. Half
the misery of the world comes in right
here. II you picked out the wrong
woman, have the merit at least of not
whining. BE dead game loser.
Deal fairly with her on the money
question. She is entitled to an indi.
vidual pocketbook as much as an indi-
vidual toothbrush. Give her such
as you can afford. House.
keeping Is not wildly exciting occupa-
ton. Remember, being married doesn't
affect woman's pleasure in an occa-
sional bunch of violets or box of choco-
late creams.
Don't expect her to take your love for
granted. Remind her of it. On this
hangs all the law and the prophets
For as the happy old song has it. Ills
love, tbs love that makes the world 90
round "-Dorothy Div In N-a., n,I
Picayune.
The Finger Malta