The St. Louis Republic. [volume] (St. Louis, Mo.) 1888-1919, 1901-03-03

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your own. II you send cards and do not go.
You must address the envelope Mr.. an1
Mrs" and inclose one of your husbands
and one Of your own cards. Your cards
should always be mailed together. In send
ing cards TO q large family, you send to
"Mr. and Mrs. the Messrs. and the Misses"
and tnclose the cards in three separate en-
velopes. The envelope addressed Mr.. and
Mrs" Is all that Is necessary for husband
and wife. Invitations to a church wedding
do not demand cards, but it is more cour-
teous to send them, and you should send
your husbands and your own cards to the
bride and groom, as well as to the people
who give the invitation. The cards should
be sent on the day of the If
you do not receive lat home cards from
the bride. you are not expected to call. III
you have received cards for an Eat home
You should call and leave cards. not send
them. You should only send them If you
are unable to attend. and the obligation
then rests with the bride to return the
call. You should have u very simple COLA
ton for an Informal day 'at home" such
as tea and chocolate. three or four kinds
of sandwiches and some fancy cakes. The
New Years cards do not require acknowi-
edgment, except IN so far that it is al
ways more gracious 10 acknowledge a cour-
teous act. such as sending you the cards
was Intended to be.
Should a man ask u girls father for her COM
pany. Or may he asl, her? If a young man asks
a girl to take q drive Should he. when calling
for her. get out OF the wagon and go into the
house to see her? Should a young man. after a
girl has accepted an invitation TO go driving,
ask to call. and should he not, IL he sees her
parents, express his pleasure for their considcra-
tion7 II. 8. v.
In this country 1t would be better for you
to ask permission Of the young lady's par
ents before asking her to drive or before
paying her any marked attention, but 1t
would be perfectly proper for you to ask
the young lady also, first assuming that she
will ask her parents. You must certainly
ask her as well as the parents. although
| strict etiquette demands that the parents
! shall be asked first. Certainly a young gem
tleman should go into the house when he
calls for a lady to take a drive. unless 1t Is
understood that he Is driving a pair of very
J skittish horses which he does not care
to intrust to the charge Of any one else.
| He may In this case arrange that the young
lady shall be waiting for him.. But certainly
he need not pay a call before starting on a
drive. That would be very foolish, because
he will have asked the young lady to be
ready at a certain time, and she must needs
!, be ready and waiting and already dressed
| for the drive. There would not seem to be
any nee essity for a gentleman to ask a lady
If he might call Upon her after she has
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must have known him quite we'll before she
would accept his invitation to drive. As a
mere matter of form. you might say: May
l call upon you this evening?' Tor whatever
time you wish), but il a young gentleman
meets a young lady's parents it is polite and
courteous for him to thank them for their
kindness in allowing hin to pay attention
to their daughter.
II I do not hear from a young lady I met In q
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who has come into the city for the winter, and
l see that her house is in order. ought 1 to go
and call on her. or ought I to wal until 1 am
asked to call on her. as She may have forgotten
my address? ". 3. S.
If you were asked to call by your ac-
quaintance Of the summer there Is no rea-
son why you should not leave a card some
afternoon between 4 and 5 o'clock; but If
there is any chance of your meeting the
young lady at any friends house you had
better wait until you do meet her and sic
shows some desire to continue the
acquaintance. Life in the city is very diff
fercnt from that in the country. especially
the life at a summer hotel. where every
thing is more or less informal.
In asking u young lady to go to the theater,
ought She be asked to set n night. or should the
young gentleman buy the tickets first and then
ask her? NJ. II.
1t is better to buy the tickets beforehand
dliu IuGu ~ dsh tue young lduy U lIliil
evening. II she refuses you can then use
the tickets for some one else.
II a gentleman asks a lady to dine with him
at q restaurant. including in the invitation. or
rather in the dinner. one or more ladies'. is it
necessary for him to ask any more gentlemen to
meet them? WESTERNER.
1t is not necessary, but it would certain
ly be more agreeable for the ladies you in
vite to dino with you il You invite some
other gentlemen as well. A party of three
or four women and one man is never IS
pleasant as when there are an equal num-
Der of men and women.
Kindly inform a constant reader whether it is
customary for the standard bearer OF an asso-
citation to lead a march at a ball or should it
he the floor manager? T. C.
Who shall lead the march at 4 ball is
decided by vote at a meeting held before
the entertainment comes off. Sometimes
the duties of a floor manager are so Oner-
Gus that it would be impossible for him to
serve in both capacities, and yet again it
being floor manager he should lead the
grand march.
Kindly tell me when one gives an afternoon
tea should the invitations be engrossed or writ
ten. and how worded? What refreshments should
be served, and can one serve chocolate instead
of tea? WoEFuLL
Write in the left-hand lower corner OF
your visiting card Tea at 4 O'Clock, Thurs |
day. February 81" or whatever the date
NAV be. For a simple afternoon tea. cEocO-
late and tea with sandwiches and dry
cakes are sufficient, but you must always
have tea, for many people do not drink
chocolate. so that If you omit one or the
other let il be the chocolate.