The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1901-02-20
How to Please the Men.

sex IS 'Tlplanted in the fibre o. men
and women, and even where there is a
fiuc show of indifference it is usually
on the theory that it is policy that
attracts. As we were glanoing over
an exchange, our attention was at
tracted by this query:
To Editor Woman's Inquiry Column:
l am youlg woman Of marriage
able age and desire to know the best
method by which l can entertain my
men friends SO my conduct will lead
them to believe that would make
good wife. Can you advise me what
to do through the Inquiry Column?
Q. X
Baltimore.
There is an element Of frankness iu
this question that is engaging, and
some man will do we'll to seek out the
individuality that is hidden behind
those mystical initials 20. X.' The
Inquiry Column referred to is in
the Baltimore News, and the oracle
which answers these inquiries from
feminine readers evidently reached
the same conclusion that we did as to
the estimablo character of the uucs-
toner, but replied automatically as
follows:
BE sensible, bright and G, od-hu-
mored, and perhaps some of your men
friends will come to regard you as
their beau ideal of what wife should
he-and viii tell you 80. There is no
royal road to gaining masculine affec-
tions. Capricious women, and silly
women, and bad-tempered women find
husbands with comparative ease, it
seems, while the girl who can neither
sew nor cook, is often overwhelmed
with attentions. Be q good daughter
and sister and a cheerful and useful
woman, without regard to the effect Of
these virtues on the other sex, and if
some good man doesn't find out and
ask you to preside over his house
hold, Why SIS Sc much the worse for
him.
By rather singular coincidence, a
moment or two later, We came upon
thefollowing paragraph from the New
York Commercial Advertiser, bearing
upon the same subject, and purportipg
to be the wisdom of an experienced
belle:
eyes. my dear, one could lay down
rules for the charming Of the other
sex, said an old but very successful
belle to debutantc, who, in spite of
beautiful face, is, it must be admit
ted, failure, as far as popularity
goes. (Ardent adorcrs she has, but
of temperate admirers and men friends
she has none) zone could lay down
rules hundred and three of them,
all good rules, too. But there are two
that I'd remember, if I were you, and
you can afford to let the others take
care Of themselves. The first is, when
talking to a man never run down
another woman. The secondhand
even if you forget the first, please re-
member the seconds never praise
another mani"
Our gallantry causes US promptly to
endorse the wisdom of the first rule,
for it is rather poor specimen of
manhood who cares to listen quietly
aud hear woman "run down. He
at once, and properly, takes the de-
fensive, and in casting about for the
motive that prompted the attack may
reach conclusions not complimentary
to the one who ia doing the running
down." It is clesr, therefore, if it be
prompted by any selfish motive, that
the young woman is likely to injure
rather than advantage herself.
But shall that second rule 60 uu-
challenged? Are men such selfish
and conceited chaps that they cannot
listen couiplacently to praise 90 an
other man? Does praise, even for his
rival, SO upset the equenimity of the
average man as to cause an abatement
Of his admiration for the one who
praises? Can it be possible that the
average man has his thoughts SO self
centered that he takes praise of an.
other as lack of appreciation for
himself? Is he so selfish that every
thing said of another must be men
tally placed by him in contrast with
what he thinks should be said of him?
Perish the thought! We cannot ac-
cept, without protest, this twentieth
century wisdom of the New York
belle.-Augusta Chronicle.
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