The Independent. [volume] (Honolulu, H.I.) 1895-1905, 1901-07-05
sa 90 Advlees.

Never cay to your wife: "Before
was married, l used to do this aud !
do that She vii resent it.. Before !
you were married is long period |
OF your life in which she takes no
interest, aud she would rather lever
hear it mentioned.
You like TO hear of what your
wife was, and did, and said before
she was married. That's the differ
ence.
When you wish 10 offer your gym
patty and condolenoe to widow,
don't try to console her by saying
that her husband has gone to a
batter home. She might bring an
action against you for libel.
Ii you set any value on your time
never attempt TO prove that your wife
is wrong in saying this or in think
ing that. A clever man does not
commit such a mistake in matri-
mouy. He agrees or remains silent.
II he is man of great refinement
and hiss consideration for bis
wite's feelings, be agrees purely and
simply, aud does no. remain silent,
which would be provoking in the
extreme.
Lupaic asylums are full OF men
who have tried to argue in matri-
moniall ife.
II your husband cannot afford to
give you expensive jewels, have
enough delicacy never to mention
the Jewels OF Mrs. So and So before
him.
The most poignant suffering that
q man who loves his wife may per-
haps have to endure ia TO feel that
he cannot afford to give her dresses
and jewelry as expensive ss those OF
her fem ale aoquaintances.
Whenever you have an opporiun-
ity, give your husband a chance to
appear at his best. He will praise
you for it, aud go will everyone.
If, a. his table, he tells story,
wait until he has finished it and
made his point before you insist on
your neighbors taking little more
of this or that.
Never interrupt him. Never cor.
rect him before strangers. If you
do, you will make him ridiculous,
and yourself ten times more 30.
A wife may speak admiringly of a
man to he, h.sbsnd. He will pro-
badly joia her. Blu, for the love of
all that you hold most sscred in this
world and the next, my dear mao,
nsver speak admir- of a woman
to your wife, or NV II bs treated
as monster of crn5lly. Her priv
leges are not yours OF course, you
have your own.
Apropos of this-have you ever
tried to hold up woman of your
acquaintance as model to your
wiie7 Now, have youi MOI OIL!
do try, just for fun. If you want
to forsee the result, just remember
the feelings you entertained, when
you were q boy, for the boy that
was constantly offered to you as a
model to initiate.
When 1 was a boy l waited pa.
tiently for two years to pay out that
boy and show him how I appreciat-
ed his perfection. l got him in a
corner aud gave him the most
fam ous licking he ever got in his
life.
The greatest wisdom, in matri.
, mony Ms in politics, consists in
knowing how to accept accomplished
facts and make the best OF them
Not only should you do so in the
: case OF important facts, such as the
discovery of shortcomings and de,
, fleets in your husband, or in you
wife, as the case may be, hut in the
smallest details OF everyday life.
II your wite's new dress, wher
: finished and brought home, dee
not come up TO your expectations
do not tiud fault with it, Ga tn,
contrary, admire it, aud say tina
she never had one that suite he
} and fitted her 80 wall.