The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1901-06-30
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ways welcome addition to a family,
whereas the daughter-in-law rarely is re-
garded as anything but an intruder A
mother can always enter into her daugh-
ter's feeling to a certain extent about
falling in love with man, but she never
understands what on earth could have in
duced her son to fancy the girl he mar
ries, and, in her secret soul, she always
believes him to have been taken in.
One of the pathetic features of the
mother-in-law evil is that the women who
wreck SO much happiness do it with the
best intentions in the world. 1t is always
hard, probably, for a professional to stand
silently by and see an amateur bungle
the game, and one can understand how
a woman, who is an experienced house.
keeper, and who has raised a large fam
lily of children, must be tempted to inter
fere, and run things herself when she
sees an incompetent young wife wasting
and mismanaging Toms hard-earned
money. 1t seems actually criminal to
Toms mother, but, if she has sense
enough TO know it, there is something
more important than few dollars at
stake. There is personal liberty and the
right to the pursuit of happiness and the
privilege of running her house In her own
way that is the inalienable birthright of
every woman. If Toms mother has the
justice to grant his wife this she will
make an adoring daughter of her. If she
refuses, she has an implacable foe, who
sooner or later will ALLEVIATE Toms affec-
ton from the mother who bore him. This
is worth remembering. The loss of a
sons love is a pretty high price to pay
for the privilege of criticising your daugh-
ter-in-law.
1t is natural vanity for every mother
to suppose that her way of doing things,
and her theories will be a lamp to guide
her daughters feet when she goes to
housekeeping, but she forgets that in maxi
ing home her daughters husband has
the privilege, as the one who pays the
bills, of at least an equal share in deter
mining its tone, and introducing the
habits and ideals TO which he has been
accustomed. / have in mind one home
that was broken up by the Incorporate
temperance opinions of a mother-in-law
The woman in question was a rabid pro-
hibitionist, and anti-tobacco, and anti
everything else sort of a person. Her
daughter was a charming and amiable
young girl, who married a jolly good
natured fellow VINO had been reared in
a somewhat Bohemian fashion. He had
lived in a bachelor apartment where he
smoked all over the place. where friends
were welcome at every hour, and IT had
probably never even occurred to him that
a glass of wine or beer could sbe rega rcled
in the light of dissipation
When he married he established a de-
lightfuny arranged home and prepared
TO spend the balance of his life in han
piness with his beautiful young wife
when the mother-in-law descended on
them. She scolded her daughter until
she wept about departing from the stern
ideals in which she had been bred. She
raised rumpus about the tobacco smoke
She froze out all of the old friends and
went into Mysteries over the wine at din
ner, and literally drove the husband to
his club, where he could enjoy himself
in peace and the end of that household
was divorce and alimony. The mother
succeeded in establishing her daughters
nome on the lines of which she individ-
ually approved, but the price ii cost was
the happiness of two innocent people
or course there are a few cases where
mothers-in-laws are angels in disguise.
and where they only enter a home to
bless it, but such instances are so rare
as not to affect the general proposition
that the man or woman who deliberately
elects to live in the house with a mother
in-law takes their happiness in their
hands, and makes a plunge into a sea of
trouble in which they stand precious lit
tie chance of surviving. No man has a
right to ask a woman to run this risk.
or TO propose marriage to her until he
can afford home, however humble, in
which they can be alone, and fight out
their differences Of opinion without any
member of his family or hers to referee
the quarrel
In the cases where the fatal step has
already been taken it is surely not too
much TO ask that the mother-in-law will
take counsel of good sense and make the
sacrifice, II need be, of letting the young
couple, whose well being after all Is dear
to her, work out their own salvation in
their own way. Above the door of every
man and woman's happiness there is no
trespassing sign, and a mother-in-law en-
tiers in and intermediates at the peril of
the peace Of all concerned.
of all the unaccountable superstitions