Fisherman & farmer. [volume] (Edenton, N.C.) 1887-19??, 1901-01-24
WEDDING BELLS RING
Arp Discusses Marriage in Interest
ing Manner.
SPEAKS OF THE TROUSSEAU.
Barlow Philosopher Discourses on
Dresses and Other Features of
Wedding.

and every body talks about the coming
nuptials. Mothers. wives and daugn-
ters are specially interested, Tor II is
the bride who has most at stake and
is about to surrender everything 10 her
lover But hope is stronger than fear
and the women all rejoice in it and
wish the good work 10 go on. Ihey
dissect and discuss every phase OF the
new relationship aud crowd the church
or the home where the knot is to be
tied with anxious and eager interest.
The bridal trO5seaus and the wedding
gifts have especial consideration and
carefully inspected. What d differ
enCe between man and woman ABOUT
such things. What a difference be-
tween my wife and |. 1t was Of small
concern to me whether the brides APP
parel cost a thousand dollars Or num-
dred. Just so she was dressed in good
taste and wore a few pretty ornaments
was enough for me. 1 like to see
pretty WOman dressed IN way that
you can tell pretty well how much o.
her is clothes and how much is flesh
and blood. Padding and pc+:lcoatS
may fool q man in a new dCqualnt lnc",
but a home girl can't fool anybody Ne
see them ride and walk and stand Up
and sit G( WIN and Iun around ard We
can measure them up like DAVID
Harum measured a horse. The mod
ern style Of dress is much more pleas
ing to men than the old style or
hoop skirts and bustleS. Nothing IS
lacking now but to shorten up their
walking frOcks so that they won't drag
behind and sweep up the sidewalks
with all their filth Of cigar stumpS
and guilds and bacteria and expe 1torat-
ed germs of expectOrated consump-
ton. When ! see a girls skirt drag
ging along | suspect that she is pigeon
toed Or boX-ankled and wants to hid"
It, Ny wife never wore dress that
way in her life for she wears number
two shoe and steps like a deer
But it is a wOmans nature to love
ornament She cannot help it and It
is no sin. John Wesley tried TO cure
her of it in the discipline but he
couldent discipline about ornaments
and jewelry and other finery IS a
dead letter. | have suspected that
may be he was too hard on his wife
about such things and that IS why she
Quit him. What a miserable time those
when pretty girl had to wear plain
black dress to church; home made
straw hood shaped like a coal scuttle
on her head. and not an earring nor a
breast pin nor even a string of glass
beads around her neck. The creator
adorned the earth with flowers and
studded the heavens with stars. He
gave the birds their beautiful plumage
and taught them to sing for our pleas
ure. There are diamonds in the mines
and pearls in the ocean and of course
they were made for women. We men
care nothing about such things. [
wOuldent give ten dollars for a bushel
of them, but my wife goes into rapture
over them and would give everything
she has got for them. except her chill
dren and may be me.
Woman is curious and peculiar
creation. I have been studying them
for sixty years and don't fully under
stand them yet. They are very near
to us and very dear to US. but very
unlike in their devotional nature:
their love Of the beautiful; their long
suffering under trial and adversely.
They go willingly and eagerly to the
marriage altar wnen they know that
theirs is all the peril and theirs to be
all the pain and care and grief that
inevitably comes to a wife and moth
er I have pondered over all this and
if | was woman and had only a
mans instincts and emotions | would
not marry any man upon earth. 1t is
the God given maternal instinct that
persuades and forces a woman to mar
no MIL launch Or
stream and take her chances to jump
the waterfalls. She will marry even
against her judgment and the plead
ings of her friends. She does not re-
alize the force of this maternal in
stinct, but it impelS and controls her
My little granddaughter are perfectly
happy with their dolls. They play
with them by day and sleep with them
by night. A little four-year said
to me last night, Campo, don't take
dolly away from me till I get fast
asleep" Little boys care nothing
about dolls They want balls and
drums and fire-Crackers and guns
something that will make a noise. \
man loves a woman and marrieS her.
but there is not a particle Of paternal
instinct influencing him The young
mother hugs her first born to her
bosom and is happy. The young faith
,er takes the advent OF the child as
matter of course. but not Of choice. In
course of time the little one grows into
favor ana he becomes attached to it.
ard even proud OF it, but there is no
maternal instinct. The true woman
loves to be a mother. She is not con-
tent with one child. She wants an