The Morris County chronicle. [volume] (Morristown, N.J.) 1877-1915, 1901-02-01
CHOOSING A HUSBAND
PRACTICAL ADVICE TO GIRLS ON
WHOM TO MARRY.

zine devoted to the interests of women"
| There are dozens of such, you know, in
this country and in other countries too.
In your magazine devoted to the inter-
ests of women" there is, maybe, a chap
ter telling girls just how they ought to
fit themselves to be good and agreeable
homemakers, how amiable they should be
! and careful to be always smiling and
| agreeable when their husbands come
home after the days work has come to
an end, and in these same journals from
variety of publications-dailies, weeklies
and monthlies-there is plenty of space
given over to articles on whom to mar
ry" This advice, no doubt, you have
noticed, is indirectly intended for the
young man who is contemplating matri-
mony or is likely to at one time or an
| other.
This young man is advised to avoid
taking for a wife a girl who is untidy in
dress, unamiable in disposition and Civ
en- to "nagging." Oh, there are a hun
dred little bad traits that a woman may
possess that are pointed out to the young
man who may marry.
| Kind, thoughtful and generous are these
| scribes, and true enough, too often, are
| their remarks. But where, oh, where is
| the one who will point out to the woman
| who may marry a bit of written sermon
| on whom to marryT
| That the "girl in the case" may not
| feel altogether neglected l will be bold
enough to say that the lords of creation"
have great many shortcomings, and a
| list might be made out of petty traits of
| character in which even ''nagging," which
| is invariably and most unfairly ascribed
| to women alone, is included.
| The young man who may marry has
been told how sad and dreary his home
would be should he choose woman who
did not look upon homemaking as a la
Dor of love--that should he marry a girl
who regarded home only necessary
place in which to eat and sleep he
might expect the sympathy of the whole
world, for the world generally rushes in
with great pleasure to sympathize with
the man whose wife is gadabout.
Now, girls, | am ready to tell you
whom not to marry, and when you want
to know "whom to marry" just make a
note of an individual who is lacking in
| just the faults that the kindly disposed
have pointed out as Objectionable in the
girl in the case" for the man who does
not love his home is, in fact, gadabout,
is impatient and ''nagging," for | con-
tend the meanest of all "naggers" are
men. Why, that man. though you are
an angel, would soon provoke you into
unamiable speech and general unloveli-
ness Of disposition.
The average man has been spoiled
First, there was his mother, then his sis
ter, next his sweetheart and then maybe
his wife, who walked around on tiptoe.
and did not dare claim her soul as
her own because Jack was awfully out
of humor." If everything did not 60 to
suit Jack, it was perfectly right for him
to wheel out of the house. closing the
front door none too softly behind him
to emphasize ms Indignation, and go to
his club to spend the evening.
And Jack at home with his mother and
sisters could be as untidy as he pleased
There was always some one to 'pick up
after him, and as it was known that
Jack hadn't bit of patience" every
thing and everybody moved in a lively
fashion, just so that Jack would be
pleased.
This is all something of the home train
ing that the average man receives. Jack
is merely an average man, capable, to be
sure. of appearing much better and would
appear much better was it expected of
him. He has nothing to live up to. Ev-
crybody accepts him as he is.
Here is a scrap from a very clever
| me -,
of Il student of human nature. you will
Immediately acknowledge the grain Of
truth that inspired this paragraphs
"Do you wish to find out persons
weak points? Note the failings he has
the quickest eye for in others. They
may not be the very failnigs he is him
self conscious of, but they will be their
next door neighbors. No man keeps such
jealous lookout as a rival
To expect of the average man that he
be without faults would be looking fol
gods among men" That he has faults
you and | must acknowledge. but why
should his be overlooked any more than
those of the average woman?
Again say the average man does no;
| make the hest of himself, because we DO
not expect him to- If you pin him right
certain he will honestly confess this him
self am quite certain, too. that the
/ average man is tired of being humored.
| fancy he would quite enjoy the novelty
| of being expected to be amiabe and rea.
sonably patient. to not be excused for
! being too lazy to make careful toilet
for an ordinary occasion and to know
| that he is looked to to take more interest
in the affairs of the home than to merely
praise the dinner when it is good and to
complain when it is not on time.
Oh, yes. the average man is good sort
of fellow, but he has his faults 1t is
hardly the usual thing, however. TO call
attention to them, The average woman.
Of course, has come to take ii as mat
ter of fact that if she has any imperfec,
tons she must not only hide them. but
correct them.
Whom to marry, girls?" Well. since
you have asked me to answer YOU | will
| just quote this, which is truth: bad
men excuse their faults, good men will
| leave them"
Be sure that the man you marry is
| quite as willing to correct his faults as
! you are yours.
Whom to marry? Why, the man
who is reasonable, manly, tender and
ambitions Margaret HanniS iii ST. Louis
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