The Honolulu republican. [volume] (Honolulu, T.H.) 1900-1902, 1901-07-03
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By GRACE Of YOUTH
The ssppiIy Marrssa woman Gives
Etsr Sisters Hist or love That
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every now and then. said the hap
ply married woman. looking ap iraxe-
- from her Sunday paper. -son,e
harmless smarsy tries to prove in print
thar men 10 longer esteem yoakh and
beauty IN women. but are captsyatea
either b. the charm Of intellectual
sympathy or magnetism
OF course shc went on. this is
Fe<y welcome and encouraging news
20 the unmarried woman who has
aTifted onto the shady side OF thirty.
out the statement Is as rash as il is
antrae-
How do knox its Why. By nv
own experience. and By the coufeS
siuns OF many OF my married women
friends she who has made a love
match with the right kind OF man
finds out soon enough that large
part Of bis devotion is dependent upon
his estimation OF her appearance You
may say. if you like, on looking at
some women who have married fortu-
nately. that they are both passe and
exceedingly ugly. but don't make the
mistake of thinking for one moment
that they appear so to the men who
wanted them for wives Now. mind
You. / am talking about love matches.
which, according TO my theory of life.
are the only marriages. and I've seen
men desperately in love with very
ugly women These are rare cases. of
course but they do exist and invari-
ably the man is color blind nor does
he love that ugly woman until he is
convinced in his own mind that she is
both fresh and fair
Ware the man. I say. who can look
at his wife with a coIdly critical eve
and see all her wrinkles and gray hair,
who keeps count of her birthdays and
realizes her age and its infirmities.
When he weds with no decisions as to
her appearance his romantic attach
ment for her is as dead as a door
nail He may go respecting and es-
teeming and ali that, but he absolutely
has no kind of sentimental emotion
about her any longer
The man who loves his wife in the
years that follow the honeymoon chose
her in the first instance because he
was eoneeitedly convinced that she
was the most beautiful houri of her
sex. and to him she remains just as
fresh and just as fair as in the days
in which he courted her. So long as
he fondly loves he cannot see any
change in ner appearance. He viii
deeply resent any reference to the
wife of his bosom as an old woman,
and viii sharply contradict her if she
carelessl< gives the number of her
years Ny husband grows so vexed If
7 IT, -
birthdays that l now maintain a de-
mure silence when ages are the sub
iect OF confession, and feel treasured
that no shadow has crossed his affec-
ton for me when every now and then
he admits that, as far as he can see.
| have not changed hair since the
DAYS when we honeymooned together.
Some women are so dense and IN
feminine as not to realize the eternal
charm that youth and good looks pos
sess for men. They don't know that
in every mans love for his wife lot
of vanity is mixed-vanity in display
ing great taste in his choice and van
itv in showing the best of its kind.
Such a woman. when she marries a
man who is at all fastidious on this
point is apt to grow old early. to be-
come careless and frumpy as well. and
then she sits down in dust and ashes
TO wonder helplessly why her hitherto
adoring mate has cooled in his ardor.
Perhaps. poor man. he hardly
knows himself. but the brutal truth is.
being a man. he has grown hurt. dis
gRsted and chilled TO see that. after
all. he has to wife an old and ugly
woman-a woman he continues to adj
mire for her talents and respect for
hnr r.irt,,nc. htrf fnva-nerar AGAIN. .,