The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1901-08-11

vI.-The Wedding and the Honeymoon
An elderly unmarried lady of Scotland
after reading in her newspaper the births,
deaths and marriages began to morslize.
She said: Birth, death, marriage, these
are solemn events, but We ken they are
what we must ali come to-" Then her i'm
pudent young sister looked up and said,
"Ah. Miss Jesnie. but ye have been lang
spared" We cannot spare the engaged
young people Of whom we were thinking
in the last paper any longer. We must
bring them TO what they had to come-to
their marriage day.
TO LOVE, CHER1SH-AND OBEY.
Not long ago a man who was only a fort
night distant from his marriage remarked
to the writer hat had lie known all the
red tape that had to be gone through be-
fore getting married he never would have
ttempte it. My friend had thought that
it was 'as easy as kiss to marry, but he
found that kissing was the only easy part
Of it, that settlements had to be made,
bans put up in church, a house taken and
furnished. a honeymoon tour planned, a
ring bought, lockets for the bridesmaids
chosen and himself brought at the APP
pointed hour and day to church in his
right mind and clothed in wedding gar
ments, not forgetting lavender gloves. II
ever we should pray. If ever we should be
grave and anxious. If ever we should alb
stain from vain show and vainer declama-
ton surely it is when two people are Civ
ing themselves to each other for better, for
worse until death part them. But no! So
ciety says we cannot allow the young peo-
pie to sneak into the comforts Of married
life without giving US some fun first, hence
the fashionable wedding. This is all very
we'll for the bride. She knows her way
about as well as if she had been often mar
ried; she likes TO be turned off, we'll, for
it arouses the envy of her girl friends; but
the poor bridegroom He on that occasion
feels as if he were going to make a fool Of
himself, as If, like a second Samson, he
had for the love of a woman allowed his
eyes to be put out. and he seems
to hear a large congregation of
female Philistines calling upon him to
make sport for them. The great diff
Guilty women have in the marriage serv-
Ice seems to be to get their tongues round
the word obey" Brides boast that they
evaded the word obey and substituted
''go gay or words of similar sound. After
her wedding a lady Of this kind remarked
to the Rev. f. ID. Maurice, who had per-
formed the ceremony, Now, Mr.. Maurice,
I call you TO witness that l have no inten-
ton of obeying." Maurice answered with
his sad sweet smile: "Ah, madam, you lit
tie know the blessedness of obedience"
What would this bride have done IL she
had met her match I'm a bridegroom like the
one who, when the woman hesitated at the
word obey said, go on, parson, I'll
make herl" The word obey had not as
great terrors for our late Queen, when she
was going to be married, as it has for the
new woman" When arranging about the
service the archbishop of Canterbury
asked her Majesty whether it would be de-
sirable to omit the word "obey." and she
answered. II wish to be married as a
woman, not as a Queen" She knew that to
reign through service was the highest kind
of sovereignty. At a negro wedding, when
the clergyman read the words. ITO love,
cherish and to obey" the bridegroom inter-
rupted him and said: Read that agin,
sab! Read it once mo-, SOS de lady kin
ketch de full %solemnity of it's meaning; I've
been married befo'." That the bridegroom
sometimes finds it difficult to get the ring
out of the receptacle where he placed 1t for
safety. as the bride does the word obey
out OF her mouth, was SnOWn ny dilOliSI
widower. When told to place the ring on
the book he looked for it In his gloves,
turned out all his pockets, and at last re-
membered that for fear Of forgetting 1t he
had placed it in the heel of one of his Wei
lington boots. AS an apology TO the litter
ing congregation he said, when taking off
his boot. "You must excuse me, as 1t is so
long since / was married before"
moo DTTGv RRInEGROnMSf
The bridegroom may seem of small ac-
count in comparison with the bride, but
still IL is ~inconvenient when he does not
turn up at the wedding M. Pas
teur. who has made such useful though dis
q~uieting discoveries about germs ala not
arrive at the hour appointed for his we'd
ding. Some friends fastened to his labora-
tory. and found him very busy, with an
apron on. He was cross at being disturbed
and declared that his marriage might wait,
but his experiments could not do so.
Not long ago, on the day appointed Tor a
wedding in Ipswich, everyone put in an APP
pearance except the bridegroom. After con-
siderable delay a messenger came on a
bicycle and announced that the pride
groom said he was too busy TO go to the
church. The ceremony was postponed until
the next day. On this occasion the Drlue-
groom went but not the bride. and ii was
only after much persuasion and after keep
irg her busy husband-to-be waiting for a
long time that she was induced to go to the
church. The writer had lately in his house
a servant who was engaged to a well-to-do
mechanic. A few days before her marriage
she got into low spirits and said that she
wished she was staying in her situation and
were not going to be married, for she was
afraid that the man might develop a bad
temper. 1t was all that we could do to COM
fort her and bring her, on the marriage
dav. TO 1.-The sticking place" This fear OF
the unknown and the untried that takes
hold OF some people before marriage ac-
counts for the cases of suicide that have
been committed by an occasional bride or
bridegroom on the eve of the wedding day.
We nave instanced a man WHIT said that
he was too busy TO come to his own we'd
ding. This sort OF person would have APP
preciated a marriage ceremony as brief as
that which was employed in the celebration
of a marriage In Iowa, United States. The
bride and bridegroom were told to join
their hands and then asked: do you want
one another" Both replied yes" "Well.
then. have one another and the couple
were mar and wife.
Nh ruIinv paSSion is NOT felt stronger in