The Savannah morning news., 1901-04-21

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distinctly is not, but merely a sort of
! commercial enterprise.
| Hospitality, so called, says the Wash
ington Evening Star is not generally the
| outcome of benevolence, but policy.
I'VE must ask that tiresome old Miss
| Brown-Jones to dinner, for she knows all
the best people, and one meets them at
her parties" and "it is no good to ask
the Porter girls They are so pretty that
| the men have no eyes for any one else.
| and then, too, they are so impossibly
| poor!'
| These are samples of the remarks one
hears from society people who are given
| to hospitality" and if there is any kind
ness in their motives it is so well COW
cred in selfishness that it is hard to dis
cover.
Dives does not, as a rule, give banquets
to Lazarus, and when he does, his ac-
| ton is usually heralded with flourish
| of trumpets, so that people applaud him,
| and he gains social distinction. Without
| the trumpets one might find the hospf-
! taltty virtuous, but with them one mere
| ly sees that an opportunity of self ad-
Vertisement has not been neglected.
Homely gatherings of intimate friends
may be the occasion of the most charm
| ing hospitality, but they are not fash
| ionable. 1t is a money grubbing and am
| bilious age, and it seems that the major
| ity are keenly anxious to earn money
| and spend it, not in real enjoyment for
themselves or in giving pleasure to 9th
ers, but in giving dinners to and feting
| generally people somewhat higher in the
social scale than themselves in order to
further their own advancement.
| There used to be a silly notion that a
woman who spent much time or money
| on her clothes was frivolous, while a
| man was supposed to be quite beyond the
necessity of doing more than cover his
nakedness, says writer in the Woman's
| Home Companion. We are learning bet
| ter and despite the fact that you can
| point to a hundred and one poets and
| philosophers who have done good work
| in old clothes it is true that the average
| persons will do better work If he is well
| dressed. And to return to my first prop
osition. The Ill woman will help herself
| nightly il she remembers her physical
and mental condition. II You have a
headache and are suffering from nerves,
| even II you have more real pain, such
| as neuralgia orthe toothache, and are able
| to be about at all, don't go around the
house in your oldest wrapper. with your
hair down. Rather put on a bright frock
and brush your hair, as IL you were ex-
| pecting company and this bright out
side. combined with the effort to look
| cheerful will go far toward helping you
| out of your pit of darkness, and, though
/ it won't cure pain, you will be surpris al
! to find how many pains and little ill
nesses it will tighten and lessen.
The other day a woman said to me.
says Dorothy Dix in the New Orleans
Picayune:
II don't know what to do with my
/ 4 IA.
/ tented. I'm sure I humor her, every way
can, but nothing pleases her"
do what the mother bird does when
| the little birds begin TO get troublesome
in the nest" l said. Push her out, and
let her forage for herself a while"
She might get hurt" anxiously pro-
| tested the mother.
She would be sure to-" responded.
unfeellngly, but she would be cured.
There's no remedy for an imaginary pain
like real one. Nobody ever stopped to
| remember that they had a heartache
when they had a jumping tootache."
81 don't suppose jamie is going 10 get
her lesson. Mothers are mostly two ten
der to do their full duty by their chill
| dren, but she is not the only one. The
world is full of Janies-of girls with good
homes and kind parents. with every ele-
ment for happiness In their hands, yet
who are getting nothing but misery out
of It, and who are utterly dissatisfied and
disgruuntIed with their lot, Indeed, dis
content may be said to be the measles OF
adolescence, and few girls escape an at
| tack. 1t is most apt to break out about
the end of the second season when no
husband has appeared on the scene, when
| the girl has grown weary of dancing and
| flirting, when she begins to realize her
doll is stuffed with sawdust, and first
asks herself, In the words of the politi-
clan. What are we here for?'
There doesn't seem to be any particu-
lar need of her at home. Mother is a no
table housekeeper. and will permit no
bungling amateur to NEEDLE with the do
mestic machinery. Father sarcastically
wonders what the world is coming to
when girl can't be satisfied with lux
urious home, and somebody to pay her
bills. The girl is too honest, and too in
telligent to think herself a genius who
could astonish the world in music or
| literature, or art. So, baffled at every
turn, thrown back on herself, all her
youth and strength and vigor of body
and brain turns into a kind of helpless
protest at fate that voices itself in a que
| rulous discomfort that makes her about
as soothing a companion as a fretful por-
cupine. Say what YOU will. 1t is a critical
period in a girls life. Many a one at
such time rushes into matrimony with
man she would not have looked at be-
fore, on the reckless theory that she
can't help herself or be more miserable
and dissatisfied than she Is.
For my part have nothing but sym
pathy for the disconnected girl, but
never see her frettng at life without
wanting to tell her what a great big
mistake she is making. and TO say 70 her
! In sporting parlance: Either put up, or
shut up" DO the thing you want to do,
or else keep quiet about Il. Each OF us
has a right to live our own life. but We
haven't got any right 10 ruin other PEG.
/ pies by our discontented whines and
means, There ouSlhft. 10 be an unwrtten
law OF honor that FIGURES everybody I'm
the home 10 either make themselves
agreeable or else get out
Sarah Bernhandt h the hacker OF her
! nlece ana another young Frenchwoman
I in a projected millinery Fhop Tor London
T Tho famous ncirrrs lcrt the two a good
many thousand francs % couple OF years
$50 when they opened shop in Paris,
J Nnero they recently beeams bankrupt
She 80 mot sclid them however Cor
4 their boa luck bat Nith fhAt wonderfully
D tender smile ~ hers exclaimed You are
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