Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1901-09-22

All that the spirit of the most pune
tilious %etiduetta |enjoins for ones coz
dprt in society is doubiy binding at
home. As the New Testament enforces
the teachings of the Old with vastly
more exhaustive requirements, but re-
1ieyes them Of all hardness and exact
ingness by the infusion OF love as a mo-
tive. SO with the family relation.
Each individuality is an uncomprom-
Using fact and has to be taken into con
sideration. and though brothers and
sisters owe identically the same debt
to heredity all the way back to Adam,
they usually seem to have taken ad-
vantage al the wide choice offered by
the mHltitudinous family connection.
to inherit the most opposite traits and
often most a~Btaeonistic natures. 1he
law Of the attraction Of oppos.tes' in
matrimonial selection also complexities
the domestic problem, and unfortunate
" relationship is not a talisman for
affection.
To harmonic tempers and DISPOSE
tons. much love is required. but there
is no other such emollient to allay irri-
liability. no such check 10 petty dis
agreements or to interference with per
sonal liberty between brothers and Sis
ttTs. no like bar to rudeness on the
part Of cnildren and servants. as the
hahitual observance of the rules of
noliteness which We instincttvely fol-
lev With strangers.
The 2 b G Of good amer demands
that We soften the asperity oil cfltl-
cism.=but ehome truths have often
a freedom and %frankness peculiarly
cxaspeeatine.
Alteration about trifes is a fruitisI
. source Of friction. and stock subjects OF
. disputation beget a chronic "touehi-
ness One seldom cOnvinces by eX-
cited and voluble argument. and when
a suspicion of temper appears good
hve to success, P0liteness compels a
crHciliatorv manner, an open-minded
hospitality to the views of others,
which will he most effective if our oh
ject be to influence rather than to vent
our irritation. Peace at any price is
a Good family motto.
Some persons keep advice for gratu-
itoUs dis ribution. and give it at
length and with such energy that all
free agency seems lost to%tbe one ad-
dressed. \ well-breG reticence should
be exercised both in asking questions
and Offering advire, respecting every
3 ones natural desire for independent
4 thought and action. The elders are apt
TO dogmatize. expecting their views 10
be accepted without question. forget
ting that their correctness is not so evil
dent to those. whose minds have not
passed through the same processes.
There are people who seem 20 thiHk
that no one is entitled to a place in the
world but those Of whom they approve.
These sel~f-constituted critics are usu-
ally the least patient of criticism when
directed towards themselves. We can
not expect all the world to live up to
u standards. nor expect of others
What it is not in them to be. How
t%iresomely monotonous all the world
would he, \ wise power has made no
two alike. rs well condemn the rose
foI not being as useful as tho cabbage!
One thing & oil form imperatiYely de-
mands, that by no m~isthance. no loss of
self-control. shall family diseords be re-
vealed to strangers. children. or ser
wants. If there he friction that may
develop into a skirmish, let ii be de-
} ferred. ct whatever cost to self-posses-
sion. and resumed, if need be, behind
| closed doors.
An uncontrolled voice is always un-
mannerly. 1t is wise not to allow a
point at issue to become too important.
Some persons always wish TO share
their small ailments and require an
audience for their sufferings. A
Frenchwoman once exclaimed with
comic pathos. Talk of the patience OF
the late Monsieur Job Any woman
whose husband has had a cold in his
head is entitled to a like immortal rep
utation,"
\ readiness to give up in little
things is the most tasteful appeal pos
sible for a return of courtesy at Other
times when the matter may be of i'm
portance to us
3. It is a high attainment in politeness
to allow others to be mistaken. Let a
trifing misstatement pass unnoticed
5 whore no principle is involved, and
when a mistake is past remedy. it is
best to let the subject drop. The ar
gument of the 81 told you So charac-
ter is quite superfous.
/ That i%rritability can be controlled
and that instantly. is proved by the
CELEBRITY with which frowns vanish and
the voice takes on tones of genial cor
diality at the unexpected appearance
OF some acquaintance with whom We
wish to stand well. The paradox IL
hard TO explain that
We vex our own by look and tone,
Yet-we love our own the best
May it not be that in the world o.
, society poiiteness has become second
%nature? 1t is there instructive 10 pui
restraint upon ourselves. to hid what
ever wiz not be pleasing to others. anc
] TO show ourselves at Il best and
brightest. but in the seclusion OF home
We dare to be harbarians. still trust
ing TO love to stand the strain.
I'll Nothing is more CONTAGIOUS thar