New-York tribune., 1901-02-17
SOME WAYS OF THE WORLD
A HOSTESS WHO COMPLAINS OF
WOMEN GUESTS BORROWING HER
CLOTHES 80 THE VOTING
SOCIETY MAN

Il do wish" exclaimed the mistress OF a popular
country house up de ribsr." that my guests
would come TO my house properly equipped in the
way OF clothes. love 10 entertain. and 20 give
people good food, and make them comfortable. but
I do object 20 lending my personal belongings.
especially I SELDOM set them back. The winter
r. the worst time for then nothing Is safe from
their ravages. Everything / have in the way OF
WOOllens Is borrowed. my golf stockings, my FUR
capes, etc, all uthlessly used tor cOastng and
bobbing purposes. should yOu not think when 1
ask girl 70 come the country for winter sports.
that either she her mother would see thar she
has everything she needs IN the way OF clothing?
But not all She arrives dressed as she would
for a walk in Fifth-ave, ~ she has sufficient
short skirt, she rarely. n ever. has
galOshes leggings. a warm extra wrap. so
rather than let the poor thing run the risk OF
pneumonia / must supply what Is lacking. Men
are almost had women In this respect. and
after every one Of these Functions my husbands
temper Is rlIfned for days. He Is short Of hts
favorite collars because young Smith and Brown,
who came up from for the day, rushed out
on the lawn after luncheon and had SNOWFALL
match. OF course they got snow stuffed down
their necks. and there WAS nothing 10 do but to
let them supply themselves with collars from
poor hubby's top drawer. Hts shirts and his
socks treated IN the same way, and he
seldom has a sweater left 20 wear himself
But the elimination reached the other day,
when l really feared for the FIRST time since we
were married that were going 90 have serious
matrimonial difference. Jack is a crank on the
from FdinbIreS hall a DOZEN undershirts. which
were the thickest and lshtest and finest things
for could noi I get him 70 tell me whs, he paid
for ,s hSm o w sa5 ~ Msq an TnsS S a sTeS sS
cold. 20 for sweater. IL was an unfortunate e
there was nothing 70 do but 70 LEI them take Them
but ] tremhled when Jack came into my room
far madam" he thundered. 1T has got 20 stop.
SoSr WON women M eRes sRes nsiss m s upon sSsras
he banged out OF the room ! sat down ana laughed
oT s9 10 mo h aHs s2s %ss only BY
that his things should IN the future never be
good nature sut there is no hope for poor me,
suppose shall have 20 go on supplying detciencies
A great many h0stesses have made the same
~ Provided with emergency clothing In the sum
rneT they borrow mackintoshes. umbrellas sweaters
the name Of their needs is legion Besides the ord-
nary wardrobe that shs would naturally take,
in winter should have golf stockings galoshes krick
rap nS % IN s way SR eS sSe dey the Elements s
and thoroughly enjoy herself without fear Of grip,
THE sNoB IN SOCIETY.
The accepted definition OF 'snob" together
with It's attendant adjective "snobbish'' Is not
she same IN America IN England on the other
side Il means social pretenoe OF some kind and
Thackeray has shown under that head what a
great variety OF the species there r.. But with
Il does not necessarily inciude pretenoe. When
call person snob the idea intended 20 be con-
Veyed is that he or she is ultra exclusive and
wishes 10 associate only with persons who
considered very smart In fact, 20 be smart"
person must necessarily be somewhat snobbish ac-
cordins 10 the American acoeptation OF the word
for extreme exclusiveness Is even more necessary
90 the maintenance OF a smart set I'm a republic
than In places where the lines defined by rank
The so called -Four Hundred is as every one knows.
hui nevertheeSs despe srser,sSs to na ha cSH
trary. there is always one set that is fashionsbly
leaders are more prized than any Others and 10 be
Sere we cnmn bn ave limits m ,s Is sogsssd hen9r Ans
the word snob" People who make effort 20
neglect old friends are termed snobSish while ths
members themselves. who have desire 10
ence 20 the world AZ large. under the same
eTshla Ht,ia tnaGsefss people viii their mis-
other than they are land we may safely assert
Americsl. we would cali eads-so that the use %
either term by an American does not necessarily
lishman. ~ "'' i-''s-
THE FASHION IN GREETINGS
Young men who socially ambitious should
beware ~ anything that savors Of an obtrusive per
sonality. cluhmcn especially intolerant OF any
thing that they would cail fresh" and many a
young fellow who could have slipped into society
and exclusive clubs ~ nc had managed his entres
with tact has been shipwrecked by endeAvoring
80 make impression
Never attempt 10 be amusing" said an older
man, giving advice 20 q young relative from an
other city, FOR whom he stood social sponsor
Later on when you know people well Won can n.
as entertaining as you like. but /, bad form 20
auempt 90 Joke with persons you not intimate
Win, particularly men; they 10 resent Il"
ootime corciality and heartiness are out OF fash
Ion. Every one must have noticed Of lat wears
how solemn are the greetings OF society youne
men. This Is distinctly fashiOna hle. The bright
responsive smile ana cordial recognition have en-
tirely disappeared, and IN their place Is a sadness
that is depressing The austerity OF their man,
ner Is relieved by no CLEAN OF fun" saws an
observer. Commenting on this latest phase of the
3eunesse a'orse Their countenances q ssrtled
look OF melancholy, and yet they are capable ~
any ahsurdity IN the way cf amusement when rhev
al alone with each other, and the smallest ana
siest OF practical Jokes win set them In a roar OF
laughter" But this IL when they are with fh.,,
own set, In public they are always solemn, and a