The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1901-07-17

Marriage"
| BY MRS. s. CARPENTER.
Peoples ideas on married happiness
vary so amazingly that II is Impossible TO
prescribe Tor anyone but ones self, still
there are some necessary conditions that
should exist In every home. communitv
or tastes and diversity OF temperaments
are usually considered the best basis for
nappiness IN marriage. Occupation there
| must be and thought aud confederation
Tor the happiness OF others. The toys OF
| lazy and self-centered matrimonial
| partnership soon pail. Marriage is a part
nership and one OF the necessary condi
| tons OF It's continued .amicable existence
Is mutual confidence, confidence 80 in
| sured that unworthy suspicious cannot
arise between the partners Of the matri-
| monial firm.
| Another necessary condition TO happi-
| ness In married life to my thinking is a
| sufficient income. No man should ask the
woman he processes TO love. 10 become
ms wire until his salary insures his ability
not only TO support home. but to lay
something aside for unlooked-for con-
thgencios or the inevitable rainy day
BY MRS. AMELIA WALTERS.
To insure happiness In married life
don't expect too much: don't find fault
with the blessings already vouchsafed,
and don't wish for the impossible. We
re-eentinuaily wishing for something we
DO not possess and that IL, 4 think the
spirit which spOils existence for most OF
us, Tor when We do become possessors OF
that for which we have sought long and
diligently, the possession often brines
safety In marriage this is especially so,
and this is one of the reasons why mar
ried life Is not so happy as IL should be
add the reason of this is that the excite
ment is over. that the game pursued is
captured
That the glamor and romance OF q
mans love for a woman ends with mar
riage IL by no means true. but after the
honeymoon is over marriage becomes the
ordinary affair IL usually is, and ia my
belief this fault principally lies with the
woman. As soon as the marriage cere-
mcny Is concluded she is far too prone TO
put away from her all disguise. IL is no
longer necessary she thinks. TO show her
husband only her best side. her most at
tractive manners, and thus she loses the
veneration which is her strongest hold
upon him.
MRS. GRACE WILCOX.
Marriage 10 woman is the ripening OF
her womanhood, and no Joy can equal
that completion of a womans existence
as a marriage with a man she loves She
goes 20 the altar sweet and fair and true.
hoping all things and believing all things.
To husband and wife who love each
other nothing comes amIss They may
both be called upon the face difficulties
but then these difficulties can be met
hand in hand and heart TO heart they do
not seem too difficult 10 bear
Every woman should hold her husband
through life as lover. The only recipe
likely 10 accomplish this end is a thor
ough knowledge OF his likes and dislikes
and an understanding nature that grasps
his words, and, II possible, comprehends
their causes.
There can not he two heads 10 n house
hold. and IN the home the man should die
tate the policy and the woman should ad-
MINISTER that policy consistently. She
should. before marriage be trained for
her position as housewife. Upon enter
Ing married life the man should let his
wife understand her position and make
her zee for herself tho outside margin OF
expenditure he can AFFORD and what her
allowance IL 10 be; then n the wife enters
the situation fully enlightened one Item
OF future friction is removed and given
n right minded woman she will never
exceed her allowance even by n dimes
expenditure. A wife should never waste
her husbands hard-earned income This
Is merely p matter OF business and 10
he- credit that she craps its obligations
BY FRANK ELLISON.
The principle of ensuring happiness is
the same in marriage as in all relation
ships. Some people are perfectly happy
and contented among conditions that
would be direct distress and misery 10
another. Temperament counts for much,
A happy disposition counts for more.
Marriage has it's obligations as we'll as
It's joys, and the girls OF today who will
be wives OF tomorrow should be taught
that marriage has these obligations In
welded life two souls are TO ne saved or
lost, 20 say nothing OF the children who
may come TO sancitfy. thebaud and the
girl who becomes a wife must be as hon
orable In accepting these obligations OF
married life as n man Is expected TO be
IN his business affairs. When a man
places himself and his future in the hands
II the women he ,oves she in return
should not only be the angel OF home,
out the guardian OF his fortune and fu-
.ure. She should he capable and abso-
utely upright I'm the fulfllment OF her
part OF the contract.
Among the necessary factors for happi-
hess I'm married life, comfort is very inn
is more ma teriai than wom-
IN and creature comforts are as neces-
'ary TO his happiness as praise and ap-
)reciation are essential 10 the woman.
Mutual respect II another factor that
igures largely@in married happiness. Men
overlook much In the woman they marry.
md when they entrust her with their
lame and their fortune they ask but one
ulfillment OF the Observation-Disclosures.
BY MRS. II. M BEACH.
Up till few years ago the object OF
most girls lives was to get married.
When they did not achieve this object
hey were considered failures by them
elves and by the family and friends
low husband hunting il considered un-
The object IN most girls lives 4
ow seems to be the desire 20 have a good
ime, and I wonder II this IL an improve
nent on the old object. IL is difficult.
ay. impossible for either man or woman 4
o develop all it's possibilities alone. Mar
iage is necessary for the completion OF Il
he human being, but while II is true that
1en and women as a rule reach their
ullest development through married life
does not follow that marriage should
g the sole object of womans life