The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1901-01-14

! thought might be bad for the boy
cause he might learn to drink. God be
praised, ne saw his mistake, and no more
was there wine on his table. I tell you
} a wife can do great deal with a hus-
bandit she appeals to him right OF
course, If she goes up to him and doubles
up her little fist and puts it in his eye
that isn't going to appeal to him much,
but 1t she knows how she can get around
him, I tell you. tell you we owe a great
deal to our wives, God bless them. There
are a whole lot of you just take little
drop now and then-why don't you take
the money that goes for that little drop
and spend 1t on your wife, or your moth
er, or your sister? Don't you think it
would be better, my friends?
Men are only grown-up children, and
they want sympathy just as they do
a little boy, with trousers that used to
come way up under my arms, and the
pockets sewed on somewhere at the back
down near the knees, so that 1 had to
turn over on my side every time I wanted
to get my marbles-well, when was a
little fellow like that my heart was hun
CRY for love and sympathy, and, thank
God, [ got it, but it's just the same to-
day, only it's got a little harder crust on
the outside, and that's just the way with
YOU fellows, some of you have got mighty
hard, thick erusts around your old hearts,
but the heart is here just the same, now
isn't it? And it wants to be loved and
sympathized with, don't it? You are just
big grown-up boy. aren't you, only
YOU have got such a crust around your
heart that you don't hardly know you've
got one, until it gets to aching for love
and sympathy-when someone happens to
touch lost chord somewhere. Bless your
hearts!
If a child rebels at anything that we
want it to do it is easy for us to take
it by the shoulders and shake it into SUBJ
mission, but that is not the way to ham
die a child. No, sir! We should begin to
love our children more; we've been boss
ing and scolding them too much. Take
your son along with you when you go out
to have good time-make a chum out
of him and a companion: then if you
have any desires to do what you should
not do, out of very shame, that son will
keep you in the right path. Trust that
son and never deceive him and you may
be assured that he will never deceive you
Show him by every action that you have
perfect confidence in him, and do not un-
der any circumstances make the mistake
of getting him into the habit of thinking
and believing that you do not trust him,
for then will he beat about the bush and
hide from you many things that he would
OlneTW1Se come ana tell you.
Il try to help the boys and let them
krow that 1 love and respect them even
though they are but boys, and I am a
gray-haired old man. Not long ago
father came to me with tears in his eyes
and told me that his boy would not stay
at home, and that when he was at home
he would be morose and sullen, and was
anxious to pick quarrel with him on
every occasion. I told that father to go
home ard have a talk with his son and
not to get angry: to find out what the
boys grievance was and then If he were
at fault as he probably was, to unbend
a little from his dignity and let the boy
understand that he trusted him
THE man went away and I did not see
him for nearly year. but did meet him
again one day, and he told me that the
result had been all that I had said It
would be. He said his boy was now his
chum and companion, and that wherever
he went, his son went. That is one re-
suit of love with your children.
Don't be petulant with your children
l remember one case where a mother
was in the habit of telling her little boy
to shut up on every occasion and the
result was that the little boy was out in
the street one day, when man came
along and asked him what his name was,
and was surprised when the little fellow
said. My name is Shut Up 1t is fact
that kind acts are very often forgotten by
children as well as adults, but it is also
fact that hard word is rarely forgot
ten by a child
If you will only love your children it
will be the surest cure for intemperance
that can be. Make the home pleasan.
and then they will stay at home, and not
spend their money over the bar in treat
ing friends in order that they may obtain
that convfviality the young crave.
Now / have told you part of what
1 have to tell you but I will say no more
tonight Say, I want you to sign this
pledge. Don't leave me-"
AS the beautiful words of Throw
out the life line filed the church, Mr..
Murphy passed up and down the aisles
shaking hands with everyone, while
willing hands affixed the little pieces
of blue ribbon upon the coats of the
pledge signers.
During the services excellent music
was furnished by the regular choir and
Professor ingalls, accompaniment on
the big pipe organ. Mr.. H. F. Wich-
man sang a sacred solo, "Come Unto
Me-" The music will be especially
good all through the series of meet
ings, which will be held each night
this week until Saturday evening,
which is reserved for some special pro-
gram not yet decided upon. A great
revival is anticipated. Miss Murcutt
and Miss Alderman leave for Hilo on
Tuesday to carry on the work there,
but will return on the 23rd instant.