Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1901-04-13

because she il not thoughtful enough
| folks.
She Is encroaching on your rights, A
girl Of good taste and fine sensibilities
| keeps always in mind the comfort and
| pleasure Of those about her You have
| paid for seats at the theater. You have
! planned a pleasant jolly evening. Your
! evening is Knocked into fourteen cooked
hats so far as real happiness goes be-
| cause a chatterboX In a chiffon waist
! gurgles and filters and jabbers and
tattles eternally and perslstently She
not only destroys the pleasure OF the
evening but she rifles up unwholesome
and nerve raCking thoughts like dead
leaves In a mud puddle, for one can't
refrain from feeling disgust and dis
pleasure at such exhibitions Of tactless
stupidity.
Don't be the prattling girl.
Etrike prattling off your creed Of con-
duct.
There is the girl who never rises when
| some one enters the room or when some
| one leaves.
She belongs to the don't care" type
Shlvers What selishness What lack
Of kindness! What bad mannersl
II Is such an easy, simple thing TO be
| gracious. How much trouble Is Il 20
stand up TO bring a smile 10 your lips,
to let little simmer OF goodness and
| kindness come into your eyes. 60 ex-
tend your hand and to Say, II am sorry
| you are going. | hope / shall zee you
| again soon"
In contrast, observe the don't care"
| girl who sits doubled up In her chair
| like a folding bed on moving day. You
can come or you can go, and all the
| sign of interest you get from her Is a
scooting up Of the eyebrows or a SILLY
smile" like the one described vocally
| In the coon song.
Oh. WE'LL Most OF the don't care"
| class are constitutionally selfish, so
| there Is little use lecturlng her But the
| don't care" class will never graduate
| from the International Institute OF
| Beauty Seekers. Never! Not II the
| world wags on for a million million
years and life be endless.
To have good manners Is only 20 al
low the draw-strings of your heart 10
pull out and 10 show a little attention
and regard for the people around you.
those whom you number as YOUR
friends, and those whom you meet at
the lnterlacings Of life's pathways.
There Is no particular discrimination.
A woman of real refinement IL quite as
correct and cOusiderate In her conVersa-
tons with her grocery boy as she Is
when meeting her dearest social enc
mics. Some women, you know. have
Sunday manners and sweeping day
manners They are one woman here
and another woman there. That Is all
wrong. You Go not rise when your cook
comes into the room, but you do not
yell al her because she fails TO under
stand what YOU say, The type Of fem
ininity that Is charming at viii, and dis
agreeable according TO within, IS a
Siamese-twin to the type that wears
turnover slippers and jackstraw top
knots In the house and velvet feathers
on the street,
Were II not for the fact that there is
nothing easier. simpler or more refining
than good manners, some OF the culture
mistakes Of femininity would be excus-
able.
by good manners do not mean the
little p's and as OF etiquette but the
manners that one has with one all the
Time, IKE ones purse or ones SIDE
combs II is not what shall / do and
say when I call on Mrs. c." but How
can I make myself lovely by everyday
conduct" Circumstances do not place
within every woman's reach the text
books OF etiquette in its highest form.
Il Is delightful 20 know Just what IL
good form. At the same time. IL you
haven't opportunities Tor learning the
lessons Of smart etiquette, you certain
~ can teach yourself the pleasant art
OF being kind.
II is a big step in the upward climb
toward the goal Of beauty. When you
write out your creed, put this first Of
all and make II number one.
"The art Of being kind"
When you read IL you will know that
Il Is only another way Of writing the
words, Good manners" but the express
sion Is so much sweeter, so much more
inspiring. so uplifting and so encourage
Ing that II will help lot.
Remember that no candidate for
beauty will ever get into office who be-
slows the smartlng sting Of continual
rudeness.
BE a woman.
Be good woman.
Best Of all, be a kind, unselfish wo-
man.