The daily morning journal and courier., 1901-06-29

t''''''N ability to say and do things the rlsHt way.
 A Mexican of excellent family was saying to me the other day that gong to an interior state he had sojourned at an hacienda where the men there as sembled on engineering and other mat ters, were not of his kind, and so did not eat at the same table, Tor they were not "cabaleros, or gentlemen. T demand brains and good breeding in my associates, or l live alone!
 This man speaks English perfectly and reads our best authors, and he IS equally well grounded in other foreign Languages. He has none of that snob- bish pride that offends, would not hurt another's feelings and does not insist on nicety of dress but does demand or his associates that fine breeding ana perfect tact that characterize people who have inherited the courtly tradl- tiops of old Spain
 It struck me that he went too far that the technically trained men he met in the country were quite good enough to associate with, but to all op- iections he would reply: "They were not of my kind!'
 A Mexican woman of the old nobility of the country, wealthy and of long eesidence abroad, witty, of linguistic accomplishments and much social eX- perience in Europe as at home, sald;
 1T did not invite foreigners to my ta- ble, not even diplomats, for they are too critical of the service, and here you know that it is impossible to have such well rtained servants as in france or England. I have been hurt in my feel inrs, at my own table, at the qulet amusement of guests when something went wrong. some blunder in service. And as foreigners will make no allow ances for our domestic shortcomings, l close my doors to them. In Paris l should entertain foreigners, for there l could be sure of my servants But we Mexicans do not want to be laughed al, and that perhaps, by people who are not at home, in their own countries, or our class. One does not know who they are or what Is their origin, The lower their extraction the greater their pre- sumption here.'
 Other Mexican women of the very first rank in society, wealthy and hand somely gowned from Paris say the same thing. They are afraid or the | "merciess criticism" of foreigners. Sometimes they will entertain a visit | ing party from the United States or | England but only when their husbands insist on their doing so, for business reasons, there being some financial con- | nection with the foreign men. But this | "dutv dinner' over, the high class l Mexican dama retires to her privacy and will have no more of the outland- CTS, When the word is passed around that certain visiting foreigners invited to a Mexican mans house do not arrive at the dinner hour, because they nave been dlverting themselves too earnest lv one can realize that the foreigner is not regarded as "bien educado."
 The free and easy manners of tour fists who often leave their manners be- hind when they cross into Mexico, are responsible for much of the social nreiudice against Hes extranjeros." " l Men and women enter a church during mass, talk loudly, take snapshots of the altar or a shrine, disturb the wor- shippers, and depart, leaving an lm- ,,resaion of yulgarity and lack ofs com mon decency of feeling A kodak ftend, l without asking permission, enters the | charming courtyard of a great house hnd takes pictures He may not DC asked to leave, but his action IS re- parded as another evidence of the lack | of courtesy and breeding on the part of those rude foreigners.
 The other afternoon, on steamer noticed one of those pleasing actions l which so endear the foreigner to the Nexicans. Two young Mexican women
 dressed simply in black, giving no evi- dence. except in a quiet elegance of at Fire of the fact that they were wealthy both of them young women Of traVe ,nd accomplishments, occupied seats on the shady side of the car. They un- derstood English. as well as you do
 Enters a sandy bearded man with the l iearmarks of a newly arrived eVangel' ;st come to convert these rude pagans +o broader and better faith. He is
 occomnanied by his wife, freckled, ye
 not uncomely, patient looking wom
 man tactless and of no social training The evangelist and his wife take seat on the sunny side of the car. The af
 +ernoon is hot, tropically so, for there | has been no falh
 Rv and by the man assigned to res cue Mexico from the bottomless plt
 and incidentally to verthroW th
 naean idoltary of this Popish land, re
 a.,,s to his wife 'The other side l
 cooler" and taking her by the hand
 sba is s bit reluctant-passes owe
 ubare the young women are sitting
 o,d without one word of apology
 without the customary with permls
 eion fairly rushes the women to ont
 s;da and soueezes in himself, makinE
 ,,oo,, also for his wife, who is no
 wholly pleased with her snare III thl | rude performances
 The Mexican women looked at eacl
 other in half frightened, half aston
 jshed way, then smiled as if they say
 something comieal in the situation, ant | resumed their interrupted converse
 tion. The excellent pastor ot an alle
 fock apeared as if he had done a per
 fectlv proper thing in taking up th
 room which had meant ease and com
 fort to the women. Anyhow, they Wer
 only natives
 The Latin has one governing princi
 n,e of action in society; he will no
 willingly offend you, and he resents in
 tended offense. Acting on this socis
 plan life flows on very charmingf here Rarely will one receive a gfos insult. even a harsh grating worf , There are Mexcans with bad manners | T An,o