The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1901-08-10

their kind and departed within the
hour. with bag and baggage. But that
was only the beginning In her efforts
to hurry through the work left by the
cook the Iaundress upset a kettle of
boiling water on her foot. and was put
to bed scream ming with pain. Then the
waitress went off in Mysteries from
pure nervousness and the weight of re-
sponsibility, and became worse than
useless and. to clap the climax, the
housenaid came to me and said that
she could not stand it, and, as her
month was up that day, she would
rather go. At 3 o'clock I found myself
with only the children's nurse as
helper. and ten guests expected at D
What did / dO2 Why, there was only
one thing possible, and that was to
get tea, hired a trap. as my own men
and carriages had to go to the station,
and drove from house to house in the
village until I had secured three lady
helps who were willing to 'oblige me
for large bonus. We reached home
Just as my party was driving up ana,
thanks to Mrs. White, Miss Hetty
Brown and Kesiah Love, we got
through the three days all right. and
had very good meals, although rather
queerly served But it just shows what
you may expect, and how we are al
ways, as it were, standing on the edge
of a volcano"
A Few Things 10 Teach Children.
me least part OF Cu1I0TenS eQuC4-
ton is that which they get from books.
They should be taught a thousand
things at home in early life to make
them good members Of society.
They should be taught to treat their
elders with respect
They should be taught to wipe their
boots when they come in on wet days.
They should be taught to speak softly
and answer when spoken to and not to
contradict.
They should be made to sit still on
occasions when they are in the draw
ing room with grown up people.
They should be taught to use their
forks and spoons judiciously. not to
spill their food or make unpleasant
noises in eating.
They should be taught not to expect
to hear their own voices on every occa-
sion and not to interrupt older peoples
conversation.
They should be taught to shake hands
with people in meeting or parting and
to bow to people they know in the
They should be taught not to stare
rudely or to make audible remarks up
on persons and things about them
A Great Mistake.
s'It is a great mistake remarked an
impecuniOus society woman, for poor
people like myself to try to return
civilities. It is far better to say frank
" you cannot afford TO entertain and
take the goods the gods Gin the shape
of your richer friendS) provide, without
any question of reciprocal exchange,
than to try to make any adequate re-
turn. AS long as you give nothing,
nothing is expected. and no one is
offended. but the moment you attempt
the smallest and simplest kind of
function you get yourself in hot water
because there are SO many that YOU
ought to ask and so few that you are
able to have says the New York Tfi-
bune.
I shall never forget the winter when
I tried to have few informal dinners
offended any number of old friends
and pleased no one. for upon those who
We're invited and came my little two
penny dinners made no in preston
whatever while to those whom I was
obliged to leave out they assumed
large proportions entirely out of keep
ing with their modest pretenSions, 50
that I found at the end of the season
that I had distinctly injured, instead OF
helped, my social position The dinners
themselves We're q great effort. as I was
obliged to attend to every detail my
self and al an expense that I could i'll
afford, while they were, as L said, not
in the least appreciated by those who
We're invited and came; so now I have
learned wisdom by experience al
ways have a hot cup of tea ready for
any friend who happens to drop in; but
beyond that / do nothing am asked
about more than ever, and 7 have the
satisfaction of knowing that it is en-
tfrely for myself that I am wanted, and
not for what can give"