The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1901-08-02
TU MARRIED PEUPLE.
THERE is ONE DUTY WHICH THEY
DO NOT ALWAYS PERFORM.
They should Furnish Proper Oppor-
tunities For Unmarried Young Wo-
men to Meet the Right Kind of
Men-objcct, Mntrimony.

The newly married husband and wife
are expected 10 so at once into the de-
hghtful seclusion of a little paradise, just
large enough for two, and here. by the
law Of custom and tradition, they are
privileged 10 spend the short, blissful Pc
Rod called the honeymoon. Then they
come back 10 the world. resume their re-
Iatons 10 society and take up the respon-
slblllties Of daily life. Among the mani
fold duties which devolve upon married
people Is one which they often neglect
VIZ, their obligation TO their unmarried
friends. ms rests especially upon the
younger husbands and wives, who have
not usually that distaste for social af-
fairs which is apt TO creep in upon later
life.
Every girl has an inalienable right to
an opportunity for marriage. Whether
she takes advantage of il must rest with
herself. but she is entitled TO her chance.
Society gives few really favorable oppor-
tunties. Young men and women in the
same social circle may live in a city for
years and meet only at occasional balls
and parties, where the acquaintance is
necessarily so superficial as not TO awak-
en- even a desire to make it more extend
ed. When summer comes. the consCien-
tlous mamma, anxious to do the best pos
Slble for her daughter, takes her to some
popular watering place, where there prob
atlE Is one man to a dozen girls An am
bluouS, energetic young fellow, the kind
that makes the best husband, does not
often 20 To fashionable resorts lie has
hut little time for an outing, and he pre-
fcrs 10 spend il hunting. fishing. camping
out roushlhS 1t ana laying M health and
strength for the coming years work. And
50 the pretty ami Interesting girls idle
away q tHi summer ana come home for
another rrohiless season Of dancing and
cards. Even such parties are apt 70 be
noticeable for tho absence Of representa-
i've young men, who ind that the fatigue
ana the late hours Tell heavily against the
clear. strong hram that Is essential for
tAt HrNt DAY business.
marriage is IafEriN matter of propin-
Q"i'F. i'hlh- numbers i men ana Wom-
." 'a-"'hef frequently IN close and friend
y a"i.i2hi'h>h'p' ana the result Is suFe
10 .e one or more marriages among them.
IL Is SIMPLY inc cariFIn@ "ut OF the laws
"I Aaj 'lf' which, speaNlh2 IN general
S'HSe' "" h"t IhlehG mat man "r woman
sHaH a' through life alone. often we
go
'"a. l.''- ta '''i| respect, ana we mar
''+ '..t. '-'N newer NAVE married he
te"~1 u r. IN iaal''ljf OF cas- $. that IN
H'H'H iNeN were s' situated as not to
cone i'tH close arlHaMiHu-e with men.
some -iils WIZ iu|Ar especial effort To
OBTAIN sleh acquaintance, but tac sensi-
i've ialht'' Hisulled WoiHah the ore
Nha IS i.oNi ".>llHhtr for Wlfe, prefers
"a hD & 1rsIf lTff has
)" satI Ate hrF innate sense Of WtHauly
de'.lNh.' Ae capable man, the man Of
"'al.~' Is ehIros>td I'D business lie mas
MS local OF marriage. tte hopes to attain
it some day, nut he has not the time to
make li Il SPECIAL object. And SO the
years sup by. lie passes beyond the
marrageahle age aud finally settles
down to really undesred and unwel-
come baehelorhood.
Now, here IS where married people
should recognize an obligation. They
have Teen SO fortunate rs to meet, to love
and to marry. They have their home,
their influence, their independence. The
temptation is very strong TO be selfish, to
settle down 10 mutual enjoyment, TO let
other people get on without their help.
Instead of doing this they should render
1t possible for their unmarried friends to
share III their JOY and perhaps to find
equal contentment and happiness. They
should make their home place where
young folks can come often for, friendly
informal evening, not a full dress affair,
but an occasion when they can gather
co7ily around the IRE for an easy. natu-
raj sociaI time entirely free from the
artlhclal cohVentlohallty or large society
functions. Ana then there should be sup
pers' hot innches, ana O'Clock teas that |
or4he togetherNa lot or women ana never
uian' oul quiet niue suppers, where
one elti can make the TEA another pre-
siue AT the chahng dish ana all show
their attractive domestic qualities. In
the summer the youngtmatron should ar
IanFe slhail plchlcs ana bicycle parties
lor me carry evening" where the men and
the s'lls can snare IN the preparation OF
2e supper ana theh nave a s,roll ny SUM
set OF iloonllghl' OF IVely' INFORMAL
t@'N ana DIT OF music all sitting under
hour that does not mean untitness for the |
duties Of the next day,
There is scarcely man so immersed |
in business or so stated with social frivol- |
tiles that he would not enjoy the whole |
some relaxation of such little entertain !
ments as these. Young men and women