The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1901-06-21
ART OF CORDIALITY.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT AND THE
STUDY is INTERESTING.
There Is Something Charming About
the Cordial WOman-One Can Be
Frank Without Being Abrupt and
without Loss of Dignity.


the Cordial WOman-One Can Be
Frank Without Being Abrupt and
Without Loss of Dignity.
1t is not enough to have gone through
the world merely greeting people and rec
ognizing their existence simply because
we could not well avoid doing so. 1t is
truly duty that we owe to our fellow
associates that we know something of the
art of being cordial.
Some folks are born with a knack in
this line; others never see the plain neces-
sity for cordiality-as it rests with them
selves-and. again, there are others who
early in life realize that there is some
thing wrong with their dispositions and
Immediately set about the correcting of
them. These are the wise ones. The
ones lacking in wisdom 20 all the days of
their poor, narrow lives blaming the
world and the people in it and declare
that more than half of what one hopes
and dreams of doing all proves a failure
no matter how hard one may try.
The cordial man or woman is willing
to meet the world half way. This is
what the world likes. 1t is a grim old
world-if you meet it with anything but
a smiling face.
There is something so charming about
the manner of the cordial woman when
you first meet her and this charm grows
upon one as ones acquaintance with her
continues. Socially she is a success, and
when by any chance she must come in
contact with the business world she finds
almost a hearty greeting awaiting her
there.
There is a certain reserve that is al
ways necessary, and this the dignifed
woman instinctively preserves but there
is such thing, you know, as carrying
this reserve a degree too far 1t becomes
an aifectation oftentimes.
1t is wrong impression, entertained by
many of the most sensible women, that Il
cordial manner might be mistaken for
proper lack of dignity. The truly wom-
AMY woman may risk being cordial She
need never he afraid of being misunder-
stood. Cordiality will never be confound-
ed with familiarity.
Often a fear of being thought too i'm
questionable will restrain woman who
would give all the world If she might just
act naturally and show how genuinely
glad she is TO meet some one who has
just Glanced 10 cross her path. Such
thorough self preservation as seems the
nature of every woman must surely be
the result of the training thar has been
given womanlind since the days of Moth
or l, =
very long way and dim-the idea that it
IS unwomanly or unmaldenly to do any.
thing else than play little part always
and never say or do just as she feels in
clined to say or do. If men are regarded
as more frank and cordial, have the grace,
then. you who harp on the fact, to re-
member that they are not victims of a
foolish training
a frankness of manner couples we'll
with cordiality of manner. To he frank
is not to be abrupt by any means.
1t is an effort that is not worth the
while of the self respecting American
woman to appear anything but what she
really is. The role of the reduced gen
tlewoman" may be carried out well and
becomingly in England, where the play
ers of the role seem to be especially nu-
merous. but it does not exactly harmonic
with the social conditions of a land where
it is boast that all are free and equal
The reduced gcntlewoman is misfit
anywhere you may put her if she insists
III reminding you of the fact at any and
all times Her effort to impress all those
with whom she comes in contact with her
past, if not present, Importance stirs one
to feel the thrill of two emotons-pitv
and WEAKNESS. The true gentlewoman
does not need to proclaim the story of her
gentle breeding. There are a thousand
little ways in which it is naturally shown
and by which one may guess it.
This bit of 'preachment" may sound a
tritie harsh, but since it is well meant it
may find those who are generous enough
to forgive it.
The truly great can always afford to
be generous. This applies to social life,
artistic life and business life. "The
great truths are the simplest; so are the
greatest men"
The cordial and frank disposition al
ways belongs with the generous nature.
The letter that is signed Cordially
yours" is penned, you may be sure, by
INC HaHu VI one IL Woulu De good to call
friend. The man or woman who grasps
your hand with a cordial clasp upon
meeting is the one, you may be certain,
with golden thread through his make
up. At once you feel confident you have
met some one it is well for you to know.
A host Of friends will be won and kept
by the woman who takes the trouble TO
be cordial and, it may well be added, sin
cere. True cordiality is not SHAM you
know. 1t must spring from the deepest
corner of the heart. If it is only assumed
and not truly meant, it will soon be dis
covered that it has not the true ring.
This | would say to the ambitious
young woman who has asked me to an
swer her: There is plenty of work for you