The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1901-08-28

daily object lesson from his mothers 8
husband. Two anecdotes may illus
tratc the effect Of the fathers influ-
chce a little girl said to hcr mother
II suppose I've got to be cross old
maid like Aunt Jane or marry IA man
like papa. This is a hard world for
us womcn!" Another said: 81 shall
never marry" "Why not?' her
innthcr asked; 81 married" eyes, |
know, but you got papa, and there is
not another as nice man in the
world. T"c views of matr;;nony
founded on the personal observation
of children! In the first case little
boy would have drawn the conclusion
that it was the proper thing for hus-
bands to be disagrcablc, and he would
have put his theories into practice
some day. in the second, he would
have reasoned with his childish phil
osophy, that it was n part of hus-
bands duty to be kind, patient and
loving, and he would have en-
dcavorcd to carry out these ideas
In his own family when he should have
one.
1t is not sufficient, however, for the
father simply to set an example.
Some prcccpts should be taught at the
father s knee as well as the mothers.
In great many matters, even at an
early age, boy has more respect for
the opinions of his father than of his
mother. When the latter teaches
that he should be kind to all dumb
animals; that he should not rob birds
nests, or tie can to dog tail, or chase
cows, his pcrverse moral instincts are
apt to attribute these teachings to a
sort OF weakness on the part of wom-
en-; and when the mother insists that
his sisters must be treated with par
ticular Difference, the little embryo
savage is prone to conclude that she
loves them better than she does him.
1t is highly important that both faith
er and mother should inculcate in
sons the lessons of gentleness, cour-
tesy, fair dealing, generosity and
helpfulness, for all these qualities
are especially valuable in husband.
AS the boy grows older he should
learn from both parents. but partiou-
larly from the father, the harmful ef-
feet of tobacco and Intoxicating H.
quor, and here, again, the example of
the father outweighs the precepts of
both. And upon the father rests the
most solemn obligations to impress
upon the son the inestimable value Of
personal purity. It is the lack Of this
which wrecks more homes than all 9th
er evils combined, and there is no one
in the world who can influence the boy
so strongly upon this point as his
father.
If the boy attends Sunday School,
care should be taken that he forms his
ideas of the relations of men to wom-
en- from the teachings Of Jesus rather
than from those of St. Paul. If the
latter are studied, it should be in the
light OF historical knowledge and in
telligent criticism. No boy or young
man should be allowed to believe that
the rules laid down by St. Paul, nearly
1000 years ago, for the ignorant peo-
pie of a heather nation, are to be
applied to the intelligent, cultured,
self-controlled women of the present
day.
The boy should be taught from
childhood that he has no claim of SUI
periority over girls; that if he have
more physical strength, that is an ad-
ditional reason why he should pro-
tcct them; and that if they have 9th
er disabilities, that is so much the
stronger argument for making their
way easy. He should honor his own
sisters through his honorable treat
ment of every other boys sisters, and
this rule should be carried into man
hood. His conduct toward all women
should be of the most exemplary char
ac.er, and this III large measure
because of the reflex action on him.
self.
The husband of the future should
receive his education in schools and
colleges which admit both sexes on
exactly the same terms. 1t is only in
this way that he can get just sense
of the proportion of his own mental
ability. Whether by inheritance or
from hearing the statement so often
made, the average boy starts out with
the belief that man has more brains
than woman, and naturally that q
boy .has fmore than q girl. If this