The Houston daily post. [volume] (Houston, Tex.) 1886-1903, 1901-01-20
SOME QUESTIONS
OF ETIQUETTE.

/ am invited to fashionable reception
whom 1 give my card? viii be p. esent-
ed to the ladies' wifi receive If am ao-
quainted with the hostess only? Who
Will ask me to 20 cut to retreshmen S,
and do / 90 to say goodbye to the hos
tess before leaving? DO | call afterward?
A Constant Reader.
You leave your card on the table IN
the hall and do not give it to any one
unless the maid servant or man servant
who opens the door presents a card tray
to you, in which case You simply put
your card on it, In these days, when il
is the fashion to announce the guest, the
name Is more oEen read from tue card
tint is given and in that way is an
nounced correctly.
No, you VIII net be presented to the
ladies who receive, for the entertaining
at receptions now Is very formal In the
case OF a debutante, the hostess intro
duces the guests to her daughter, or, in
the case of a tea given TO some person
ase, taat parsonage Will sand by the
hostess and be introduced to toe guests
SIS they arrive but The general rule is
simply 10 speak to your hostess as you
enter and then move on to make room
for the next guest
Ncu viii not have any one probably to
ask you 10 30 into the reireshment room,
for 1t is expected that you will 80 IL
there OF your own accord, and II there
are any ladies in charge OF the table they
SHOULD ask yor II you viii have tea or
coffee or any retreshment, but at formal
reception NOW there is generally a man
servant. who viii ask you what you will
have.
1t is not necessary to say goodbye TO
your hostess, especially if there are a
lot Of people arriving at the time you
! leave. but I, she Is standing alone and
you wish to have few words with her
before leaving YOU can take that oppor-
tunity to spelk TO her. You SHOULD call
afterwar1 II Il is convenient, but it is
not absolutely necessary so to do.
Your having been present at the rccep
ton and leaving card implies that you
already have called at the house; but It
( is expected, when you in turn entertain,
tint YOU will invite the people from
whom you have received cards.
4 have received cards for an "at home''
to Introduce young lady. Does such an
invitation require an answer? If so, what
style? Reader.
a card for an afternoon reception does
not require an answer, but you must
leave your card when you go to the re-
ceptlon or send cards afterward Ii is
better though, 10 send your card the day
OF the reception,
Would you please let me knew whether
q white or black tie is worn with dress
suit. and must patent leather shoes be
worn? Mrs (.
The white tie Is correct with full
dress SUIT, but back tie can DE worn
with IL for Informal entertainments, suon
as small dinners, etc, or at the theeter,
Paten leather shoes are correct with a
dress suit
hlease let me know which is proper,
| my Dear Mr.. Blank" or Dear MIR
Blank, - in addressing letter to gen
ileman OF short Acquaintance, in thank
ing him for favor Obtained Watch is
more formal, Dear" or My DearT'
My Dear Mr., Bank is considered
more formal that Dear Mr." as My
Dear" is an accepted form OF address in
beginning letter, just as wei as yours
truly IS conventional mode of ending a
letter The same answer applies to both
Your Questions. My Dear" would be bet
ter TO use in addressing a letter TO q
gentleman In thanking him for favor
granted,
VIII you kindly tel me how many or
my husbands and my cards / must leave
IN going 10 an afternoon reception given
/ q. mother and daughter. is II neees-
sary 10 wear reception gown or can |
wear suit and ght wa st and not re-
move my jsoketT Is 1t 90, gatory 10
make call aiter recsption9
A C9nst.n, Reader
! You must leave two OF your own cards
and three OF your husbands cards--that
/ Is, II there is q gentleman in uAe family;
I but in sending cards van can sinlaly send
TWO OF yours and two OF your husbands
{ You en- wear a reception gown or you
( can wear the suit and light waist and not
remoya your jacket There are several
different styles OF dress suitable to wear
al an AFTERNOON reception this season. and
both the plsin and elaborate eloth gowns
are Ia sty.e.
1t would be better TO make call after
recepti9n. but It is not absolutely
/ necessarY As YOUR having nalletl and iafi