The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1901-07-14

credit of human nature and a splendid
testimony to the sacrament itself.
1t ts claimed that the marriages which
result from coeducation in our colleges
are almost universally happy. A very
wide observation leads me to believe that
this is the case. Those years of COM
panionship in the classroom and on the
campus have given that mutual knowl-
edge which should be the foundation,
and have developed that similarity of
tastes and pursuits which is essential
to a congenfal union. This rule holds
good where men and women in the same
profession marry, as physicians, lawyers
ministers, writers, teachers. 1 have
known OF scarcely an instance where
such a marriage turned out unhappily,
and this must be because of the congen-
iality of disposition which leads both into
the same line of work and prompts them
to continue 1t together. Society is apt to
condemn marriage between an employer
and his bookkeeper or stenographer, and
yet their daily companionship has given
each an Insight of the habits and dispo-
sition of the other. and shown their abil-
ity to work together harmoniously.
Where such marriages are founded on
mutual respect and affection the chances
ought to be in favor of their proving
satisfactory, If we accept the premise
that thorough acquaintance is a prime
requisite for a successful union.
A prominent reason why many mar
riages are failures is found in the i'm
perfect development of men and women.
While neither would expect to succeed
In any kind of business without a special
training, they rush blindly and reckless
ly into this most complex and exacting
OF all lifes relations, and are amazed
when bankruptcy stares them in the face.
II is not possible to take up in detail
the numerous causes which lead to this
result, the inf1rmities of temper, the
lack Of self-control and forbearance, the
business incapacity of the husband, the
domestic inaptitude OF the wife, the to-
tai want of an equilibrium which will en-
able them to meet their inevitable diff
culties with calmness and fortftude. The
vices of youth prove too strong for the
man to lay aside. and, carried into mar
ried life, produce the usual wreck The
frivolous superficial attractions which
rendered the girl so charming prove
wholly inadequate to retain the hus-
bands love, and she has nothing more
enduring to offer. The foundations of a
perfect marriage cannot be laid upon
deficient manhood and womauhood
This brings us back TO our original
proposition that the ideal marriage must
De iounueu on tnat mutual respect
which is possible only between equals.
and out OF this will grow the only love
which is interchangeable. John Stuart
Mill is often quated as having said, mo
ordinary man rs willing to find at his own
hreside an equal in the person he calls
wife" This may have been true when
Il was written, but a new generation
OF women have come into existence
since that time and they have revolu-
tionized the old ideals. Even the "ordi-
nary man expects far more OF the
person he calls WIFE now than IN days
past. when the most progressive men
are demanding. n not their equals, GER
tainly more advanced womanhoOd
than tho world ever before has seen
Although tho women OF the United
States stand more nearly on an equality
with the men than DO those OF any
other nation, YET larger proportion
Of men here marry than IN any other
country Such statistics prove that.
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