The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1901-01-13
Some QuestioQs Of
eTIQUGTT6.

am invited TO fashionable reception or tea
from to g. Please tell me when l give my
card? VIII be presented to the ladies who re-
ceive If 1 am acquainted with the hostess oniy
Who will ask me to 60 out to refreshments, ana
do go say goodbye TO the hostess before lea'-
ing? Do I call afterward:
A CONSTANT READER
You leave your card on the table in the
hall and do not give it to anyone unless
the maid servant or man servant VINO
opens the door presents a card tray 10
YOU, in which case you simply put your
card on it. In these days, when it is the
fashion to announce the guest, the name
is more often read from the card that is
given, and in that way is announced cor
rectly.
No, You will not be presented TO the Ia
dies who receive, for the entertaining at
receptions now is very formal In the
case of a debutante the hostess intro
duces the guests to her daughter, or, IN
the case of a tea given to some person
age, that parsonage will stand by the nos
tess and be introduced to the guests as
they arrive, but the general rule is simply
10 speak to your hostess as you enter and
then move on to make room for the next
guest.
You will not have anyone probably to
ask you to go into the refreshment-room,
for it is expected that you will so III there
of YOUR own accord, and If there are any
ladies in charge of the table, they should
ask YOU if you will have tea or coffee or
any refreshment, but at d formal recep-
ton now there is generally man serY-
ant, vino will ask you what you will have
1t is not necessary to say goodbye TO
Your hostess, especially if there are iot
of people arriving at the time you leave,
but if she is standing alone and you WISH
to have !, few words with her before leav-
ing you can take that opportunity 70
speak to her. You should call Afterwards,
IL it Is convenient. but il is not absolutely
necessary so TO do
Your having been present at the recep-
ton and leaving a card implies that you
already have called at the house: but IL
is expected. when YOU in your turn enter
tain. that you Will invite the people from
whom you have received cards.
have received cards for '.at-homc 10 IN
ruIucc Il young lady Docs such Invitation
require answer: II So what style:
A card for an afternoon reception does
not require an answer. but YOU must leave
your card when YOU so to the reception or
send cards afterward II is better. though.
70 send your card the day OF the recep-
ton.
Would you please let me know whether white
o. black tie is worn with dress suit and must
patent-leathcr shoes be weFn: MRS l.
The white tie is correct with a fuil-dreSs
suit but q black tie can be worn with II
for informal entertainments. such as small
dinners. etc, or at the theatre. Patent
leather shoes are correct with ii dress suit
Please let me know which is proper. My dear
Mr. Blank or Dear Mr.. Blank in address
ing i letter I" gentleman of short ac4unint-
ftap lfup fnV oh u
Which is more formal ''Denr'' M; Dear:
MY dear Mr.. Blank is considered more
formal than Dear Mr.. My dear is
an accepted form OF address in beginning
q letter, just as well as yours truly Is a
Same answer applies to both your Ques-
tons. MY dear would be better TO use
In addressing a letter to a gentleman in
thanking him for favor granted
VIII you kindly tell ne how many of my hus-
bands and my cards l must leave in going
an afternoon reception given by nnctter and
daughter 1t is necessary TO reception
m,Vn.= or can wear shit and light waist and
NOT remove my jacket: Is IL obligatory 10 make
i call after reception:
4 CONSTANT READER.
You must leave two of your own cards
and three of your husbands carGS-that
is, If there is a gentleman in the family:
two of yours and two of Your husband $.
You can wear Il reception gown or You
can wear the suit and light waist and not
remove your jacket. There are several
different styles of dress suitable to wear
at an afternoon reception this season, and
both the plain and elaborate cloth gowns
are in style.
It would be better to make a calltafter a
reception, but il Is not absolutely neces-