The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1901-03-26

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amusements too costly, she must in
vestigate what is wrong, persuade
her warm-hearted husband to be less
given to entertainment, and stand
with gentle irmness on the ground
which she knows to be right.
To avoid the use of certain things,
to keep from forming certain habits,
to which you have no special liking,
but which are universal among your
neighbOrs, takes more courage than
one would believe. Especially is this
true of rural neighborhOOds. If
your schoolmate's door is opened by
a young girl with a sO-Called cap and
an apron better suited to a trained
nurse than to a hOusemaid. it seems a
very small thing for a sensible wO-
man to show her preference for neat
and shining hair and a tidy, simple
apron which it shall not tax a tired
maid maid-Of all work to keep neat.
But it does take courage to rule
your house after your own ideas even
in such petty things as this. My cor
respOndence, through this column,
shows d very eager desire ''tO do the
correct thing, rather than to con
form to the needs for simplicity
caused by small
SHE CANNOT LEAVE OUT GENEROSITY.
One thing a bride seldom emem-
bers: her husbands duty to his
friends, especially his man friends,
and also that he owes Il portion of
his time and affection to his parents
and family. Recalling the uninter-
rupted devotion of his evenings to her
during his courtship, it seems hard
to have him run away to give his
mother an hour, and the proud de-
sire to show his home and wife to
his bachelor friends breaks into those
long tete-U-tete hours in which the
world was lost to both lover and
sweetheart.
Nothing could be o. selfish than
to rob your husband of the faithful
friendship of his young companions
and show regret when they appear.
Let u generous sense of the value of
true friends fill your heart, and not
only make them welcome, but delight
your husband by being as attractive
and lovely in their eyes as possible.
And to your husbands family ex-
ercise the uttermOst limit of gener-
osity. Urge him not to neglect or
disappoint the Old mother who so
sadly misses his morning and even
ing kiss, and who has lost from her
home and life all that you find dear
in him.
Whatever may be the merits of any
disagreement, let unseltishness keep
you from c%riticising your husbands
relatives, and welcome them with
open cOrdialty, and feel that every
little attention shown to them is in
directly shown to your best beloved.
They are his family make them
yours also.
TRUST MUST SURELY BE WITH HER.
Men and wOmen look at things
from such different points of view
that there is often great difficulty
in young husbands and wives under
standing each other. And in the
serious complications of a mans
business it very frequently is not
possible for him to be confidential,
because of obligations to his part
ners. The sense of something I'M
shared, something not understood,
is very trying to a fond wife. Let
Trust be at hand to keep the heart
steady and at rest: these matters
are not exactly his to give to you.
If there Is Il quick way to destroy
love, it is to doubt it. Just throw
your whole heart into an effort to
wait and be SteadfaSt and believing,
and you will reap your reward. 1t
is ii mistaken bride who fOrgetS to
carry this help with her into her
new home.
n TO BIND ALL THESE TOGETHER, |
LOVE.
You will smile that happy, sweet,
incredulous smile so delightful in
the eyes of the old: Glove! Why
should L marry at all without that?''
Dear girls are you, ure you know
what 1t means?
1t does not mean that you admire
your husband elect beyond all other
men, o that you find his compan-
ionship satisfying, nor only that
you are willing to give up home and
father and mother TOR his sake. All
these things may exist and yet not
be the sort OF love that any bride
who hopes to be Il happy woman and