The Savannah morning news., 1901-03-24

she was won BY a poet. and few welded
lives were more ideally happy than hers
and Robert Browning's. Yet chey had
/ 10 steal away, softly and silently, from
I the Barrett home, they we're married IN
the church of Marylebone, and then the
I bride returned ana remained ct home for
q week. before she left with her husband
Tor Italy. During this week they did not
meet. The fathers wrath was never ap-
I peased. and he died unreconciled to his
I daughter. His was an implacabie nature
I The Brownings we're Of mature age
I Eliza beth, seven years her husbands sen
I ior. and past thirty when her marriage
I took place. As a rule, runaway matches
are made by boys and girls, who can well
afford 10 wait having the bright years
+ lying all before them.
II couldn't have happened in New Or
| leans. Of course, says the New Orleans
I Picayune. Here the women are al meek
and mild. but in enother city a marriage
which was 10 take pace between two
prominent young people was recently
broken of at the last minute By the wo-
man on the ground that the prospective
Bridegroom was too bOssy."
II is not known 10 what way he eXhib-
tied his fell determination 10 domineer
He may have been rash enough TO break
through all the time-honored traditions Of
the occasion. and assume that ne had
right 70 help decide when. and how. and
where he was to be married. when, as
everybody knows. a man Is nothing but a
4igurenead at his own wedding. He may
heaven help him. nave interrered with the
young woCnan's privilege Of flirting with
other men eli the way Up 10 the altar. He
may even have been foOlhardy enough TO
Try 10 dictate TO her about her trOusseau.
The main point is that he showed his
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the girl withdrew from a contract that
was going to give her a tyrannical master
Instead Of a sympathetic companion.
II IL eXteremly doubtful If a marriage
was ever broken of on better grounds. or
a woman ever showed more level-headed
good judgment The happiness OF a life
Is not made UP Of the one or two supreme
joys that come TO US in the course of
lifetime, nor do the big tragedies make
its greatest misery. The things that turn
existence 10 worrnwood ana gall are the
little daily nagging TRIES, the pin that
pricks us at every turn, the burden that
we may never lay down for an instanfs
respite.
Chief among its minor fluctuations are
the people Of our own households that are
too bOssy," who always interfere with
our arrangements, and who are insistent
in trying TO force their own opinions and
tastes upon Us. None Of US entirely es-
capes the afiiiction, but no other boss is
quite such an aggravated nuisance as the
man who attempts to manage the women
Of his family. There you get petty tyran-
ny IA its most offensive CAUSE.-THE man
who is always pokng his nose into the
meal barrel, who keeps tab on soap ends,
and who arrogates 70 himself the right TO
supervise his wife's visiting list decide
on what clubs she shall join. select her
clothes, and form her opinions. Such
man may be a paragon Of all the virtues,
but he is less desirable as a husband than
! the broad minded fellow who may fail in
hundred ways to be all that he ought,
but who is too generous to even want to
boss his wife.
Of the human heart is the love OF liberty.
For that wars have been fought and he
roes have given up their lives, and thou
sands have braved the perils of unknown
countries. We realize that abstractly, and
yet we are so dun that we cannot bring
it down to our dealings with those of our
own households. The despotism of the
home is just as grinding as the despotism
of any monarchy the world has ever
known. We hate the tyrant on the
hearthstone just as surely as we hate the
tyrant on the throne. E,yerybodys own
experience bears that out, yet we spend
our lives trying to coerce our families into
doing our way instead of giving them lib
erty to do their own, and when they flee
from US we wonder why.
Give me liberty or give me death" is
the cry of love- as well as patriotism,
and when we learn to heed it we shall
have solved half the domestic troubles OF
the world.
Card debts with fashionable people, says
the New York Tribune. take precedence
Of any other oblgation-that is, a man
or woman may owe money right and left
to tradespeople, and not lose caste, but
an unpaid score at bridge" will ostra-
cize him or her at once. or course, there
are certain reasons for this rigor In
the first place, the loser would have taken
his opponents money If he had been the
winner, and therefore the risks must
necessarily be equal, and, secondly, such
obligations are purely debts of honor. But
IL IS a curious Instance of the unwritten
laws that govern society that winner at
cards must be an uncompromising credit
or. Easy going, generous men and wo-
mer. who would lend money willingly to
their poorer friends and never think of
II again, turn into inexorable creditors
when the money Is lost at the card table.
A story is going the round that at fash
ionable house recently one of the guests
| found that he was unable to pay his loss
Il
said, thinking that such a promise would
| be quite sufficient but his hostess touch
/ ed bell. my footman is at your orders,
| Mr.. X" she said; you can send him
| to your house for anything you want"
/ Women are quite as strict among them
! selves as men on this point. The father
Of pretty young woman who heard a
vociferous discussion going on in the
drawing room one afternoon, on his return
from business, looked into the room, and
was surprised to find a friend of his
daughter. who was great favorite of
| his. sobbing violently. while half dozen
! other girls were adj talking at once
! Dorothy says she cannot pay her losses
at bridge papa" answered his daughter
! TO his inquiry as to what was the trouble
She has lost S25, and says she has spent
all her allowance, ana hasn't a cent to pay
| IL with" oh is that nll2" exclaimed
the good natured man. Here. Dorothy.
| child let me be your banker" and he
drew out a roll of bills from his pocket
| mo, papan NO Mr. NJ chorused
| Dorothys accusers. "She would have
taken our money II she had wont She
had no right TO play with nothing to pay.
IL was not fair. and we won't have her
in our club any more" and despite the
kind hearted circumstances of her cham
pion and poor Dorothys tears, no com
promise was allowed, and the latter was
suspended until she could pay what she
owed, legitimately. It's "Payi payl Payr'
| FOR your credits sake" at bridge"