Herald and news. [volume] (West Randolph, Vt.) 1878-1943, 1901-02-07
FAMILY HONESTY.
BaLse Cence ptions which Ereqweatiy
lead The Young Into
Error.

D chat waish paren l. are constantly max
8 ing when they allow their ehildreR's
a notions Of what they should do 10 bs
I formed on the basis of VIII at some otbes
, family can afford, says the Home
E Magazine.
, We want our young folks to be graft
fed. We are half ashamed TO have
! been 80 unsuccessful in life, as to be
unable to crafty them. Our pride
comes in, and we often fancy we are
keeping our children from cares with
which they ought not to be burdened,
when we are simply unwilling they
should know our own great struggles
and our small success.
Many a girl goes through her expen-
sive and often useless education, and,
afterward, through years in society,
spending more money, wearing better
clothes than she ought, simply because
she never knew the truth concerning
! ner fathers affairs. Mother manages
70 supply her wants; mother goes over
Abe accounts with harassed and over
burdened man, and the bills are paid,
and more bills contracted, and the
young girl enjoys herluxuries in happy
Inconsistencies Of cost. Under the
same severe strain upon his father
many dashing youth pursues his easy
way through college, hardly guessing
chat the burdens which his young,
strong shoulders are spared, are press
ing heavily upon his fathers life.
Under this false conception of the
family resources, college boys and So
ciety girls alike come to feel in |
diligence to be a right. When the |
truth finally makes its way to- their |
knowledge. it meets with as much in
dignation as surprise. They feel de-
frauded OF brthright, when in fact |
there was never any birthright or any |
other right to luxurious living. There /
was only the oyerweening pride and /
weak indulgence of parents who could /
not deny them, and could not bear to 1
have them know they ought to be de-
MED.
Al the very outset this falseness of
family life should be resisted or over
thrown-if already 1t has taken hold
of the home il should be overthrow.
Every child OF suitable age should be
made to understand just what amount
Of money can rightfully be spent. The
young folks, eager to begin their work
in the world, and to fill their own place,
will begin all the better for closer re-
lation to the life of the home. and a
closer knowledge of its small worries
and its trifling joys.
Before they become engrossed, either
as men or women in the world outside,
Is the time TO make them thoroughly
familiar with the world within. Let
the college youth find his way into the
hiding place OF his fathers anxieties
and hopes and cares. He has been the
petted child; make him the trusted
friend. Let him feel that some of the
planning for the welfare of those
younger than himself, some of the
thought as TO the comfort and protec-
ton of mother and sisters, is trans
'erred to his heart, and that hence
forth the father shares his business life
with him. Let his mother get ac-
quainted with him and make him her
and friend.
And what the son becomes to both
parents, should the daughter be as
we'll. Both should know the family
life in detail; its resources and its
needs. and together in nine cases out
Of ten. If really trusted, they would
unite TO uphold the parents hearts
md hands. There is nothing more de-
structiye to youthful character and TO
home happiness than this separation
'f interests that begins with the school
life. There are difficulties in oyercom-
ng the evil results Of this drifting
apart, but II the matter is rightly man
lged by parents the young folks will +,
AXE the larger share of the effort. and .
'ount 1t only part of the fun. Young
oiks are born reformers. If YOU doubt /.
I give them fair chance at the recon
'truction OF their own home.
Getting On.
How are YOU getting ON with vour '