The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1901-06-03
A STUDY OF MATRIMONY
REV. VIRGIL w. TEyIS BELIEVES
ONLY IN LOVE MATCHES.
Those Who We'd for Money or Posi-
ton Usually Make Mess of It
Pure Love the Thing.

The Rev. Virgil w. Tevis, pastor of
Fletcher-place NJ. E. Church. delivered the
first of a series of lectures last night on the
subject of 'Matrimony." The church was
well filled and the congregation evinced
a deep interest in the discourse. Mr.. Tevis
said in part: 1T would be interesting in
deed TO trace the laws and customs of mar
riage, through the various ages, and show
the diverse forms obtaining in every age.
This could easily be done by the aid Of
various encyclopedias, but when done
would not illustrate the practical personal
phase of the subject we desire to dwell
upon this evening.
Marriage dates from the original crea-
ton. AS the formation of woman
was effected, Adam recognized in the act
the will of the Creator as to mans social
condition, and Immediately announced the
important statement to which his posterity
might refer the charter of marriage in
all succeeding ages, Therefore shall man
leave his father and mother and shall
cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one
flesh
Christian marriage implies the formation
of family ties and largely the breaking
of old ones. The relation of husband and
wife, under the Christian dispensation. is
like that of Christ and the church-the true
husband is to love the true wife as if she
formed one body with him. and with that
pure, self-sacrifcing affection that Christ
had when he gave his life for the church.
On the other hand. it is presumed that the
womanly instincts of a true wife will cause
| her to forsake everything for the welfare
and advancement of her husbands inter-
ests-even church should do for the
| Masters glory.
ONE IN EVERYTHING.
Husband and wife should be one in
prosperity. diversity, joy and sorrow. 1t
should be JOY for them to share in the
home; it is possible for them to make a
feast over a joy. Sorrows are to be expected
in the average run of every married life
| and it is then that the comfort of a true
| helpmeet can never be overestimated. How
many men owe their attachments to the
couraging words of their wives?
THE interests of husband and wife are
| common. If one fails, both fail; if one sue
ceeds. both succeed. Hence, love and dis
| interested labor are so often, and so rightly,
| manifested
1.-THE marriage relation should only be
! dissolved upon the very strongest possible
grounds. And / say rnto you, whatsoever
| shall put away his wife, except it be for
| fornication, and shall marry another. COM
| mitteth adultery The marriage contract is
| lOI lie, anu IL SHOulu bc Dulll upon q OASIS
of love.
There is a vast difference between love
| and respect. To imagine that you can love
| after while, when you do not now, is a
1 great mistake. Love is the only powerful
| cable to hold the husband and wife together
there are many calls upon il every day
| of married life. / believe in affinity; i be-
! lieve in genuine love at first sight Mis-
| takes have been made in this respect. but it
| is the exception rather than the rule. The
right one is waiting, and you will know her
| when you see her
| SYMPATHY MISTAKEN FOR LOVE.
sympathy in tender heart may be mis-
| taken for love. Many a shrewd of
the world has worked upon that line until
be captured a lovely victim. She believed
that he needed help and that she could
help him; she felt sorry for him and mar
| ried him to reform him. There are excep-
tonal cases where this has been DONE but
usually what mistake it has been, How
many heartaches and how many sad homes
| are there on this account? If a. man cannot
| or will not reform before marriage. when
| his future is in doubt and hangs upon his
| good behavior why expect him to right
| about face when his bride is won and he
| can do as he wills? II is equally as great
| mistake to marry for money. Money
| without love is like bird in a golden cage
| without a song. If it should be suddenly
| swept away, there would be nothing left.
| 1t is far grander self-sacrifice to help
| make the money than to marry for ii.
| Those who marry for money are married
| 10 the money and not TO the individual.
| / would rather work for 80 cents day and
be assured Of love when l go home weary
| and worn than be Croesus without it.
And marry not for honor or position.
pricked and Misrepresentation what? The
| most unhappy of all marriages are those
IL rmed to ally fortunes or unite states.
| There Is a grandeur in being a partner
TO help one up the hills of difficulty, and
| then grandeur in sharing the glory Be-
fore marriage the man and woman should
| ton and hereditary tendencies, for there
| is much in blood.
\ PURE LOVE.
above all things in a happy marriage
| there must be pure love, and ii should
always be kept blooming. Girls nowadays
| ought not much know how to skilifully
| throw the net as to build the cage; not
SO much how TO win their husbands love
| as to keep it. y wife should not only be
accomplished, but useful She should learn
to cook, to sew and to do homework. Such
| things may not be needed now, but who
knows about the future? No man is proud
| OF his wife because of what she cannot
| DO in the line of the useful, but every hon
| cradle development of skill adds to his ap-
| l'l eciation of her.
One more practical thought: When you
| are married set up home for yourself
| Love your relatives but do not allow any
| one of them to be an apple of discord in
your family paradise. Finally, never marry
but for love, and that thou lowest what
Is lovely. our prayer tonight is that every
| couple launching upon the sea of matri-
| mony may make a brilliant success OF life
| and by and by not only make home the
| happiest place on earth, but to all who
! enter there may it be type of that Eden
| whose flowers of love and promise peren-
| Italy bloom, and there may hope and pros
| perity sit on each side the hearthstone and
sing of the charms of the golden now and
CT the prospects of the sweet by and by"