The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1901-02-20
But Mrs. Paisley Lived Happily
With Her Husband.
MINDED HER OWN BUSINESS.
He Made Z Business Of PIaylng Cards on
tho Atlantic Liners and Sugandersd
I've Fortunes.

New York. Feb. 2o.-The distressing
picture OF the gamblers wife which has
been painted for centuries by anti-gam-
bling crusaders was knocked in the head
yesterday by Mrs. Ruby Paisley, widow
OF Henry n. Paisley, who died suddenly
in Bellevue Hospital.
For twenty years Paisley has held an
interna tional reputation as a faro bank
and poker player Ho played away two
inherited fortunes In his lifetime, but ne
won hve times as much as ne lost.
mo woman in New York." said Mrs.
Paisley yesterday AT her home on East
Thirty-ffth street, was ever happier
than I. or course I loved my husband,
but this was not the whole secret OF our
domestic success. He played faro and
poker
II knew IL as well as he did, but during
all our married life / never alluded to II
in any way. / knew that he Travelled
back and forth on the Atlantic steamers.
but 1 never once asked him 10 take me
abroad. 1t was not because / did not
want to go, but I knew better than 10
ask him TO take me.
MINDED HER BUSINESS.
'I have no doubt but could have gons
with him had asked him, but I knew
he would not like 1t. don't suppose Mr.
Russell Sage. Mr.. J. +. Morgan. or any
of the men who deal in Wall street,
would like their wives TO follow them to
the office two or three times a week and
pry into their business affairs.
II am not a Mrs. Sage or Mrs. Astor.
but ] knew from the start OF our mar
ried life that my husband had his own
way OF making his living. ! knew him
for ten years before we were married.
II knew he had been in that same busi-
ness for ten years and that no would re-
main in IL until he died. / never begged
him to get out OF IL.
"He was kind and gentle 10 me. His
business took him away from home a
great deal sometimes for months at the
time. / stayed home with my child and
contented myself with domestic affairs.
WAS NO CARD SHARP.
when he came home from a long trip
I never quarreied or asked him where he
had been or who he had been with. He
had scores OF friends among the best men
in business in America and England. He
was no card sharp, and when he played
he had money to lose IL luck went against
him. He never owed man or woman
dollar and when he had a large amount
OF money he provided for me nicely.
II could have had at times much more
than 1 took, but knew he needed capt.
tai, and when he was flush as they call
IL. ! did not try To get IL all away from
him so he could not gamble any more.
IT believe any good. true wife can get
along with a man who CANDLES just as
we'll as she could with a minister or
banker. The trouble between a card play
er and his wife more often lies, fn my
opinion, with the wife.
"A man who gambles is by nature
liberal-minded man, and easy to get along
with. No husband ever treated his wife
better than Harry treated me. No wife
ever tried to mind her own business and
take care of her husband when he was at
home more than 1 did.
1--WE had reverses OF course. He lost
two fortunes in his life, and we were not
living when he died as we lived when we
were married. But did not bother about
that. Every married woman is liable to
live humbly IL her husband fails In busi-
ness.
II knew that IL Harry pulled through
his last illness we would get back TO
prosperity. But he had a weak heart, and
a spree he went on about ten days ago
ultimately killed him. Ten years ago he
went on O spree, and his doctor in Mon
treal, Canada. told him If he ever drank
whisky again he would die. lie kept
away from II for ten years. But about ten
days or two weeks ago he met some busi-
ness men from London. aud they drank
heavily at the Waldorf-Astoria and a
number OF the uptown cafes. Harry came
home sick and I nursed him for ten days.
Then j broke down and had 20 send
him TO a private ward in Bellevue. lie
died Saturday night"
Mrs. Paisley was making arrangements
20 bury her husband when she was talk
ing. Although her husband left her moth
ing but her widowhood. little girl and
a small life insurance. she never shed q
tear while telling her story,