Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1901-09-08


the hour Is mentioned to guests, their
presence is obligatory; but II not IN
yited. Il would be an Intrusion.
II anything unpleasant ocaurs guest
should see nothing, but MAINTAIN
discreet absent-mindedness: and the
whole decalogue OF good behavior IS
broken at once IL one visitor eTitieises
to another either a fellow guest or
member OF the hosts family, or DIS
eusses any Of their affairs or interests
unless it be to praise.
The rooms allotted to visitors are
generally dainty. and often contain
choice articles that require careful use.
Often cherished belongings are taken
from accustomed places to minister 70
a guests comfort or pleasure, who Will
of course. keep the room in an efderly
manner and handle its pretty aces
series with due regard 10 their deiieaey'
The presence OF visitors adds appreeA-
ably 10 the servants regular duties;
so it is only just to tighten them as iaf
as may be, and ask no special service
| II II can be avoided.
! 1t is matter OF bedroom etiquette
to leave the room always in perfect
| order In the morning tne windows
should be opened, the bed-clothes Turn
| ed back to be aired, and the towels
| hung in place.
A thoughtful hostess will offer a
| maids services to unpack and pack the
boxes of her guests. fhe servants
should be pleasantly thanked for any
service, and upon leaving visitors con-
form to custom in giving gratuity to
such as have ministered to them per-
sonaliy.
Well-bred guests keep their belong
ings carefully confined to the portion
Of the house that is temporarily as
signed to them, availing themselves
only Of the closets and drawers that
have been placed at their disposal.
They do not take books and mag
azines to their rooms without the ex-
press permission of tine hostess. These
are for the benefit Of all the visitors.
They never ride borrowed horse too
far or too fast.
they endeavor to show themselves
at their best when others are invited to
meet them, taking pains to second all
the efforts OF their hostess.
When private theatr,cals or must
Gales are given, the hostess, or others
be grateful to those who, putting
aside personal preference, enter
heartily into the parts assigned them,
more anxious to give pleasure than TO
display their accomplishments. An old
proverb says, Never mention a rope
in the family Of a man that was
hanged" The application is obvious.
It were well to remember, tco. that
ones ailments are never matter of pub
lie interest, and self and its belongings
should never form a prominent part
in ones conversation. Ii Is optional
with a guest whether or not he will
attend church with his hosts. No
worldly etiquette imposes his presence,
but it is usually felt to be more con-
siderate for guests to attend church II
provision is made to take them there.
IL visitors have accepted outside in
VitstiCns before their arrival which is
often the case when making visits in
town-they should mention the fact
to their hostess as coon as convenient,
that none OF that lady's plans be WI
settled and that their going may be
arranged for
Guests should not allow their hosts
to ircur needless expense in their be-
half. They should in city pay their
own oar-fares, eab-hires, and express
charges; but If the host will not per-
nit this, it is in better taste to yield
the point than to insist upon it.
Although the desk Of guest-room is
usually provided with note-paper with
the family crest or the name OF the
, house upon it, and all necessarieS for
letterWriting, guests will be diserim-
mating in their use of them, and come
provided with their own, including
stamps.
1t is an o.d-fashioned bit of courte
Gus attention, but one usually appre-
ciated. for a visitor to bring to the
hostess a box of bonbons or some fruit,
rare enough to be an excuse for its
offering (Which is presented soon after
the arrival.
| have in mind one bright little
woman for the pleasure OF whose visits
all her friends contend. She comes
like a burst of sunshine, and every
member Of the family halls her with
enthusiasm. She pays a preliminary
visit to the confectioners. remember
ing that there are children in the
household. she a,ways happens to
nave VIA titt laSt iAN" bcoh VI
which the world is talking, and her
fund Of games, riddles, and anecdotes
Is ineXhaustible. She never fails to
have some bit of fancy work on hand,
upon which she stitches industr,ously
and with intense and absorbing inter-
est whenever there happens to be a
dearth of other occupation, or suddenly
remembers an amusing story that she
has brought to read to us Best of all,
she is ready for anything and enjoys
everything. nothing comes aniss. She
is an appreciative audience to the
children's small efforts on the piano or
at recitation. She tells them stories,
plays games with them. She Is inter-
ested in the little girls doll, for which
she will make "a love OF a bonnet
and in the boys collection of stamps
and butterflies, over which she won
ders to his hearts content, and never
by chance refers to his geological
specimens" as stones" Every SER
want is her devoted slave. She remem-
bers them all by name, has bright
word for each, and her way of thank
ing one seems to confer an obligation.
There is a universal protest when
the time comes for her departure, but
she has always made an engagement
elsewhere, which we suspect is sntep-
| tionally prearranged lest she be over