The San Francisco call., 1901-12-01

once exclaimed with comic pathos, Talk
of the patience OF NJ. Job, Any woman
whose husband has had a cold in the head
is entitled to like immortal reputation"
readiness to give up In little things Is
the most tactful appeal possible for n re-
turn of courtesy at other times when the
matter may be of importance to us.
IT is high attainment in politeness to
allow others to be mistaken. Let trif'lng
misstatement pass unnoticed where no
principle Is involved. and when a mistake
is past remedy. II is best to let the subject
drop. The argument of the II told you
so'' character is quite superHuous.
That irritability can be controlled and
that instantly is proved By the celerity
with which frowns vanish and the voice
takes on tones OF genial cordiality at the
unexpected appearance of some acquaint-
ance with whom we wish to stand well.
The paradox Is hard to explain that
We our own by look and tone.
Yet we love our own the best.
May 1t not be that in the world OF So
ciety politeness has become second ma
ture? IL IS there instructive to put re-
straint upon ourselves. to hide whatever
will not be pleasing to others and to show
ourselves at our best and brightest, but
in the secusion OF home we dare to be
barbarians. still trusting to love TO stand
the strain.
Nothing Is more contagious than tenn
pers, good and bad. There are some un-
canonized saints who seem to be non-con-
ductors of moral electricity. When others
are cross they turn a deaf ear and pre-
tend not to sec and the culprits are CRATE
ful-afterward. Vasari says of the painter
Raphael that ill-humor could not live In
his atmosphere One can always be cheer
ful whether one IS happy or not. Good
breeding Is so largely an outward express
sion OF an inward grace that the boundary
line between etiquette and ethics is often
> undistingulshabe.
Points of Family Honor and Breeding
or course no delicate or honorable per-
= son opens another's letters. Even the
youngest children in the household should
have the pleasure or opening the letters
addressed TO them. and so be trained Intos
recognition OF the inviolable nature OF
personal correspondence.
Practical jokes are rarely INDUCED I'm
by persons Of nice perceptions, and teas
Ing passes the bounds OF good taste the
moment that II ceases to be a matter OF
pure fun on all sides
Inquisitiveness IL always bad form.
Whom Is your letter FROM" What
makes your eyes 30 red?' are interfer-
ences with ones rightfuI privacy.
closed door should be respected and
give assurance OF seclusion Liberty is
the guaranteed enjoyment OF lawful
rights
The rough proverb, "Wash your dirty
linen at home" carries a valuable truth.
One who Is so dsoyal as TO repeat to
any outsider, however intimate, anything
to the discredit OF the family, deserves
to forfeit all family rights and privileges
And here let me enter n protest against
making ones family matters newspaper
property Theresara- no terms strong
enough to condemn the vanity OF parents
who will allow daughters charms
prospects and advantages to be adver-
tised In the public prints In this press-
ridden country.
Home Truths.
For some occult reason people are SEN
sitlve to criticism Of their clothes and
even of the UreVuiIinR fa9hinn ag thpv