Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1901-02-16

! An Open Letter to "A Bride.
/ You have lust returned from your
! bridal cour. my dear little girl, and you
and thc dearest fellow III the world have
| settled down into the new home that is
I rs splck and span and sweet as love and
| care can make it. In a way you are at
The very beginning of real life, and YOU
are wondering how you shall best guide
! your little boat across the ocean OF years
| that lie before YOU.
1t has been my observation that brides
| share the common human quality of not
/ hankering for advice. Still, no old salt
can see young and inexperienced sailor
| put out to sea without wanting to load
him down with cOmpasses and maps and
charts to steer by. and it is in my heart
10 give YOU Il word Of counsel and cheer
us y0u start out on your journey
In the first place | would bid you take
Il death grip on your courage. You viii
never have greater need of ii than now
| The most bitter piece of sarcasm shat
has ever been perpetrated is calling the
first few months of married life the
honeymoon. Ninety-ninc times out of Il
hundred it is period of tears. and fric-
ton, and disilluSioning when Il man finds
out that he has married Il woman with
Il temper instead of an angel, and the
woman discovers that the hero of her
romantic dreams eats onions and can
! get into towering rage, and say things
If dinner is ten minutes late.
Take the. right start. There's moth
ing like getting off on the right foot
Don't make doormat of yourself be-
cause YOU happen to be so desperately in
love. There's nothing that q husband nc.
qulres So quickly rs the habit Of walking
over his wife if she proStrates herself he.
fore him. and invites him to tramplc on
her. You were n woman before YOU were
wife, and you owe something to your
WomanhOod. Insist from the very start
On II settled allowance for the house ana
for Yourself. That removes you from the
list of beGEars. and puts You in the ranks
of independent women who earn their
own livelihood by the prosecution of a
profession. II Your husband can only
gave you 81 week. take the dollar. and
don have it doIed out in nickcls. There
Is just exactly thirty chances less OF
friction in getting an allowance once a
month than there Is in getting money ev-
cry day. II is q mathematical PROPOSE
ton that should appeal to everybody.
Don't permit your husband to use LAM
Suage TO YOU that he would not dare 70
use to any other lady that had an able.
Nodded brother. Because a man is mar
RED to Il woman gives him no right to
abandon courtesy and good manners to
her hut stick pin in this. little sister.
You must set the example. If YOU hy our
into tantrums and say things thai are
sharp and dIsagreeahlc, you can't expect
10 get any better thaa you give Harsh
speeches are an evil brood of chickens
that always come home to rousf
Don't let your husband get into the
way of thinking any old thing win do
for YOU. You are entitled to fair share
Of the pleasures and perquisites of life
Take them. Nothing is 50 true as that
a man takes his wife at her own valua-
ton. If she keeps young. pretty. bright.
attractivcly gowned, he admires her and
likes to be- seen out with her Ii she
Is content to sit, like Cinderella. in the
ashes of home he gets in the way of
gong out without her and having 4 pref
IL good time. Every bride starts out
as Il little queen. 1t is her own fault if
She abdicatcs her throne
Don't tell your troubles. not even to
Your mother It's temptation, of course
It's SO nice ana soothing to be pitied.
and told one is 4 martyr. and To weep
out one heart ON a sympathetic breast
Don't do it. little girl, That way the
divorce court lies. You were angry and
hurt with John aud in the first heat of
YOUR passion you hlurtcd out the whole
story to your dearest friend. in conf
drucc of course, but she repeated il
ana before you knew it the air was rife
with gossip about your marital diScord
Or else you told il to mother. and, not
being oyerwisc, She spoke To John
about it, and the mother-in-law mischief
was done. Left TO yourselves. John
would have said he was brute and you
would have cried, and the memory of
the little shadow would have blotted
itself ont in the kiss of forgiveness
With other people knowing ii and inter
mcddling and cgging YOU on to stand up
for your rights and him ON to be master
OF his own house. the end is in sight
Don't let even your mother come between
YOU and your husband
Furthermore. don't tell him all Your lit
tie troubles and worries. He has aggra-
vations o" his own. Make his home a
cheerful place; not a trouble exchange
Don't ask him what YOU think, Won
thinl, about everything. Have mind Of
your own.
Don't interfere in all his little WAYS
He didn't marry to get a guardian. and
hc had figured ont his scheme of being
! comfortable long before you knew him
| Finally, beloved, remember the advice,
! of the wise woman who WAS asked To
/ give a formula for managing husbands
/ She said Feed the brute" Dorothy
| Dix in New Orleans picayuuc