The Caucasian. (Shreveport, La.) 1900-192?, 1901-07-21
Happiness in Marriage
PicaYune Women's World.


Peoples ideas on married happiness
vary so amazingly that it is impossible to
prescribe for anyone but ones SELF, still
there are some necessary conditions that
should exist In every home, writes Mrs
Carpenter In the American Queen.
Community Of taste and diversity of
temperament ARE usually considered the
best basiS for happiness In marriage. &c
cupation there must be and thought and
consideration for the happiness OF others,
The Joys of q lazy and self-centered mat
rlmOnial partnership soon pail. marriage
is partnership and one of the necessary
conditions Of its continued amicable ex
istence IL mutual confidence, . confidence
90 insured that unworthy suspicious can
net arise between the partners OF the
matrimonial firm.
Another necessary condition to happi-
ness IN married life, to my thinking, lie .
sufficient income. Ne man should ask the
woman he processes to love 20 hecone his
wife until his salary insures bis ability not
only to support q home, but to lay some.
thing aside for unlocked for contingencies
or The inevitable rainy day.
Among the necessary factors for happi-
ness In married life, comfort IL very i'm.
pOrtant. Man IL more material than
woman and creature comforts are Is
necessary to HE happiness as praise and
appreciation are essential to tbs woman.
ii utuaI respect lie another factor that fig
ures largely In married happiness. Men
overlook much In the woman they marry,
nd when they entrust her with their
name and their fortune they ask but one
fulfllment Of the Observation-Disclosures.
To insure happiness in married life don't
expect too mach; don't find fault with the
blessings already Vouohsaied, and don't
wish for the impossible. We are continual
ly wishing for som sthIng we do not pos
sess, and that Is, think, the spirit which
spells existence for most Of US, for when
We do become possessors Of that for which
We have sought long and diligently, the
possession often brings safety. Ia mar
rage this 10 especially so, and this lie one
ofthe reasons why married life 10 not 80
happy as It should be, and the reason Of
this 10 that the excitement 10 over, that the
game pursued IL captured.
That the gIamor and romance Of mans
10 We for q woman ends with marriage 10
by no means true. but after the honeymoon
is over marriage become the ordinary affair
1t usually is, and In my belief this fault
principally lies with the woman. As soon
40 the marriage Ceremony is concluded
abe is far too prone TO put away irem her
all Disguise. 1t is no longer necessary, she
thinks, to show her husband only her best
side, her most attractive manners. and
thus she loses the Veneration which is her
strongest hold upon him.
Marriage 70 . woman 10 the ripening OF
her womanhOO1, and no joy can equal that
completion Of q woman's existence - !
marriage with q man she loves. She goes
to the altar sweet and fair and true,
hoping all things and believing all thinEs,
To husband and wife who love each
other nothing comes amiss. Thew may
beth be called upsn to face din cultes
i but when these difficulties can We met
hand In hand and heart to heart, they do
not seem 80 QimCulL 70 Dears
Every woman should hold her husband
through life ~ lover. The only recips
likely to accomplish this end is q thorough
knowledge Of his likes and dislikes, and an
understanding nature that grasps his
words and II possible oomprehends their
causes.
There can not be two heads to q mouse
hold aud In the house the man should do
tate III, policy and the woman should
administer that policy consistently. She
should, before marriage, be trained tor her
position as housewife. Upon entering
married life the man should let his wife
understand exactly his position and make
her see for herself the outside margin Of
expenditure he can afford, and what her
allowance lie to be; then II the wife enters
the situation fully enlightened, one item
OF future friction is removed; aud given q
right minded woman she will never exceed
her allowance, even by q dimes expendl
ture. A wife should never waste her hus
bands hard earned income. This is merely
q m after Of business and to her credit that
she grasps Its obligations.
AThe prinaiple Of Insuring happiness lie
the same In marriage a. In ali relation
ships. SOme people are perfectly happy
and contented among conditions that
would be direst distress and misery to
another. Temperament counts for much;
happy disposition eouats for more.
Marriage has to obligations as well as
its joys, and the girls of today who will be
the wives Of tomorrow should be taught
that marriages has these obligations. In
welded life two souls are to be saved or
lost, to say nothing off the children who
may come to sanctffy the bond, and the
girl who becomes 3 wife must be as hon
oiable in accepting these obligations of
married life as q man lie expected to De In
his business sffdrS. When a man places
himself and his future In the hands of the
woman he loves, sne In return should not
only be the angel Of the home, but the
guardian Of his fortune and future. She
should be capable and absolutely upright
In the ful6llment OF her part Of the CON
tract.