The Newberry herald and news. (Newberry, S.C.) 1884-1903, 1901-01-08
WISE MRS. HARMSWORTH.
EDITOR 8 WIFE TELLS HOW
TO BE HAPPY In MARRIAGE.
Study Your Husbnnd's Waya-H"Ip Him
When He Is In Need OF Help and Leave
Him Alono whom hts Business
Ambition Controls Him.
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other newspapers and magazines, has
made fame and millions at the age ol
50. His chief factor in gaining that
success has been his wife, whom he
married eleven years ago, when she
was slip of girl. She is now q
tall, typical English beauty and IN OK
ponent of "how-to be. heppy-though-
married" theory.
"Everyone ought to marry" said
Mrs. Harmsworth today. 81 don't
believe single mon ever attain the
best that is in them, because their
natures are incomplete without the
softening, tempering influence of
women.
'1n the first place. continued
Mre. Harmsworth, sit is necessary to
know yourself. We must recognize
our short suits as we'll as our long
ones. Then all that remains is to
find somo one who will fill up the
suits.
"Ihat sounds simple. It is sim
pie. The trouble is girls do not
think of these things. They don't
realize the possibilities Of marriage.
They don't realize how large factor
they are to be, for good or bad, not
only in a mans home life and social
life. but in his business life, too, and
in the development Of his private
character. How man. girls, contem-
plating marriages, sit down and weigh
the qualities of their future husband
as against their own to ascertain
whether or not it is possible for two
people, such as they are, to live to-
gether perhaps fifty years without
friction?
MOST GIRLS DO NOT THINK
"Half the girls don't know until
they are married whether q man dis
likes reading or has a decided it,
erary bent; whether he prefers to
dine at night or midday; whether he's
believer or an atheist; whether he's
horsey or prude; whether he wants
to live in town or the country, or
whether he detests the prattle of
children or looks forward to the joys
of parenthood. All they know is he
has or hae not great deal of
money, ore title, or good social po-
'sition, or a certain fascinating man.
ner that leads them to believe they
are in love- So they are married.
The consequence Of such marriages
you see about you everywhere. They
are the majority, and they are what
convince the cynic, who looks to ef-
fects and overlooks causes, that mar
riage is failure.
"Of course, if q girls tempera-
mont is such that it requires money
and material things to satisfy it, then
it is we'll that she should marry mo-.
ney. For my part, L require some
thing more, and I knew l had found
it in the vigorous mentality, the
wholesome simplicity and the determ-
ined ambition of Mr.. Harmsworth.
"When we were married we began
at the beginning. 1 shall always be
grateful for that. From the time
was old enough to read or to realize
hoped it might be my lot to be a
part of my husbands success. I be-
lieve that that wish has been fulfilled.
At least he says so.
THEIR TASTES SIMILAR.
I'm the beginning we had not
much except hopes and ambition.
But they were th" same hopes and
ambitions, and we worked toward
them together. We were happily
mated. Our tastes were similar and
we had taken the pains to discover
the affinity in our dispositions before
marriage.
"Mr. Harmsworth was inclined to
be moody most men are--and I was
versatile. At times he Was all busi.
ness, his head and heart filled with
schemes and projects, and I was all
business, too.
81 listened to the schemes and
projects as they were unfolded to me;
I saw them from woman's point oi
view and criticised them accordingly