The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1901-03-10
A FEW HINTS FROM PARIS.
sURPRIsING THINGS IN A NEW BOOK on
MANNERS NJ 4 FREN<HMAN.
Don't wIpe Your Glass ut a Dinner Party.
He says. and Don't Get Itp-y-Proper Be-
havior at a Dance Etiquette Of the We'd
ding Side Lights on French Manners.

And they think they know It all Hence tn"
absorbing interest which one cannot fail to
take in French books on etiquette
There is one, for instance. called lie Savoir-
yiyrc et la politesse Which being literally
translated means. The know-How-to-iiva
and politcness Under this comprehensive
title the editor MI Emile Guarin, provides
advice for most Of the emergencies which
may arise from the cradle to the grave.
inexperienced Americans may think that
MIR Guerin goes too much into details But
the man who has lived In Paris would like
10 paste some Of tho gentlcman's recon-
mendations ia the hnt Of almost every mar
ond woman In that city.
The Instructions he gives for behavior az
the table. for instance. are so explicit and
would make life so much more agreeable II
the population Of Paris could be prevailed
on TO follow them The chapter ia called
W-How-to-Iive at the Table" and
it Il, EXCELLENT The book, by the way, Il a
serious one II il not a Joke Al least. 1t Is
not intended as one
AZ n dinner Of friends saws this oracle on
behavior, the guest has many chances to be
polite AZ aoon "a II successful dish has been
tasted 10y the other guests. he gives the signal
for praises Of II and neither does he spare
MS tAflllillIlo'ls bl htllllIIl lDl VI NV 'ii
wine served IN ertrd To eat Il good dinner
and find il good Is simple politencss. though
To eat a bad dinner and keep stil, that Is tile
height Of IN" kno~w-how-tolive
Wipe your mouths. all YOU gentlemen
with mustaches. bat ab"v. all be careful
not 10 breathe into your glass and then wipe
it with your napkin This isn't done excert
in cheap re~taurarts! A Rrea, General who
was dining with y lady Of tho court had this
mania for wipins ht5 glass Nothing had
cured him Of It Finally the irritatod hostess
ordered the butler 10 take ava all Ia" glasses
which the General had 80 carefully polished
and put on others As soon as the General
saw what had been done he cried in a voice
Of thunder
"'Nh, has madame invited me here TO wine
tho rlas-es|
lie did not understand and continued to
breathe into MS glass and polish Pit YOU.
monsieur, who are not "A great General 90
not. | pray YOU, expose vour+e!i To- "a similar
" And then there are people who. whom they
mt a i"i,lin 'u~n~t"nt" ~ 10" tg.h' r"Ih
tuI uIlfr and absurd l"rrun 'h" risk q dis
gushing TN" S'l'-'s and uuupyluc Our hostess
You mustn't help yourself ~ bread. bu' az
the servant furu You should no. IeuN" Hiuc
m YOU" sli>- nor wipe your plat" VITA "
''"pn No. cal too fast. nor rattle the dishes.
and II l. very rude 10 idIk. Ca your n'tghh'r
IN a vuI," 100 low or e." j" 1d or In q Lam
guagr the other gu"-t- dr not uai"r-tuui
SUPPOSE. Tor instance. tnai q vpIus man
l. 1T IN" tthl" with. hl- ,up"rlor> ~ his pro
i'--l"u II will 10" hid for Atn r 10" -m,tckS
hI~ lips In eating, ru'i,r, hi, KNIFE and 'ork,
get gravy on VA" gown 81 ~ h"lSn"Ht.
breaks 'he bones, cracks the NUS win hi>
teeth, 'ri'~ ~" fruit VITA ms finger t2 mo
Whether II j. rlp" or show that b" THINKS
the pieces of WrUi too sinai.
A. thls happens =" II" a summary of the
iahl" manners of the average I""nDhlNHN
fltr,s l. r#HTa sense In lTII.|ltE -l.L. UfNN.fTN
In Nr uarIu'> bpou than Nw"rl,uus would
thiuN. Perhaps. ll~ NEXT Injunction f. ny
So necessary II" does not -rom t. thI;k
Il DO MT need, he says. TO tell you tina,
vour pocket any ~ the, thin~, served at the
tlhI" Also, ,W"ll-hred. people nny"r get
drunk when diuing 9n' ~ r." most they
"OWr grlndJathers and fathers used e.
sing over the dessert THIS custom has gone
out Don't PICK Your tooth with your knife.
which j. untidv, nor even with a 'u''hpiCk,
which i not proper Hide yourself 50 that
And when yul oct NJ from IN" table DO
not told your ui,Ein Finally an EnEIiIh
not steal away n.t'r dinner without -.!inS
ANYTHING Il Is rude
ia" fhicct ut trn- l. n"Nt taken N. from
whI,h II tppotr- That thee" tons COVE" an
a. intervals If on" cor Two " ""h-. on" invita-
tiuu hUIng good for ia" Wuul" -oHs"n lut
~" queer part Of u j. Nat ne veg l. s'rn'4
These t.i- should upf ho attended hv moro
Than thirty persons. t''"rd'nt I. w "N"'ln,
\cyf vo com" go no" subject ~ dance ana
"" larn TINT q gentlemen should never
-guo.2n hls partners hand nor tl|s into n"r
ear be thar Do" must NOT ,ni NJ arm ar"ih"
her waist. hut pIHco hi- hand Nat iu the mid
die Of her back Misc that II g. very bad form
- dance without tt6i'G the hand Of ones
partner lh. young r"orIG ar" ai,o cav
ii,urd not 80 book al th"' |."!v'- ~ ia" mir
r,r. Whom rhny urr huWIIE jtlki.g or dane
ing Apparently th"r nav I''K a. ih"tu-
''l,"s ~ thNy Plea" nj "ln"r mT3'u"n'-
c-tiur Mr. Gu"riu ~ara 'rHt IN commencing
game ~ ctld- ~" d"I."r >oluic- I'll" ,th"r
rl,yrr- with 70 slight cow a. h" distributes
iUn cards H." finishes 10" chapter with.
Nou TX ladies never IlaF ,.ird
When a girl makes a debut. IN" father
Give. nor his arm aud presents ho' 20 all hs
fricnd- For IN" ball -h" ln> u Whit" TOILETTE"
r,r calling, Cp-,uUr 10 black -Ili or ul color,
WIN a hHt trimmed with r"-'- for rco"iviug
m home -Aa wear pearl gray This leads
~ The important subject Of uurrifG"
x vuui.s man.. say, m" book pr tho know
how-to-Nyo, wI-L"~ 'n marry. ~" las pcr-
"a. =, his taste. NuIt uICh' l" 10 do'
) ,r-t. sound ne relatives Of the girl - Ind
ONT # they want t. mdrrl nor, II there j. any
other rpgagrncnt aud what Is the amount
When th. youne man knows how things
s,o,d he gets his relatives 10 make the pro-
,1.oi' ~ marriage To- ia" gIri'7 father. OF. il
be il not living, To her mother. Ia" Young
yirl meyer. under any rr"'"Nt. taA"' part In
sH.Ga tNTsllf1lLlIN fl~'N A~rH..T.
80 when IN" arrangements have h"en made,
The Young mans parents can upon tho.e ~
,Hc y,,tug girl and then, IN the pros"nc" Of IA"
tW, families. takes plaC" m" first. Official
,,,ryiaw bet we.n the future bride and groom.
The marriage f., announced ~ speedily as
possible
,ho ytr's parrut- and this Is returned nv the
,,,n, mans All strangers arc excluded
rrc ing l. sent after tn" dinner. also Il whit"
Utter tho engagement Is announced tho
Family r.1-o- 10 receive. Reception davS
.rn discurt.uued In" Young gil docs not
% ont AT all Tho i'auc" i received evcrv
doy. though y. should use has discretion
nboilt nbu-iug this privilege"
Tho ,rcp.tIrg- between Tho Young people
take place I'm the presence II inc glrl : 'no'h'r
A, the marriage approaches thic Surveillance"
may be- relaxed sum"w bat, hut 'hey ar" never
l.f' aloue nor ever allowei Z" ~ together
on the SAM" roIh
The civil mnrriag" occurs a lev days
I.fIrr the Chlr, % ceremony When tho
register l. presented the vif" signs tr-',
lion pus,n- the pen To the husband, who
snv- Thank yop. madam" From that
lime. though she remain Win her parent,
until after the church v"ddins, eh" i called
''"i1, dav Of tho 0ual ceremony III" young
man poo. with M family - get hl~ bird" and
carries her a white bouquet IN" Sfpou,-
man goes In n cgrriHC" for IN" bridesmaid,
U,cnurnanind in the c~aIriag" hv h"r parents
IN. bride. her father and mother. ride in
'ta first c~4rriag" Then comes IN" bride
.-.... ,r,,t. b1. faflsF md hnfnsT hen