The Savannah morning news., 1901-06-09
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

EVERY now and then said the nap
pily married woman looking up irately
from her Chicago Record-Herald some
harmless smarty tries TO prove in print
that men no longer esteem youth and
beauty in women. but are captivated
either BY the charm of Intellectual SYM
patty or magnetism.
"Of course. d" she went on. this Is very
welcome and encouraging news to the I'M
married women who has drifted on the
shady side of thirty, but the statement
Is as rash as it is untrue.
How do I know It? Why by my own
experience and by the confessions Of
many Of my married woman friends. She
who has made love match with the
right kind of a man finds ont soon enough
that a large part OF his devotion is de-
pendent upon his estimation of her ap-
pearance. You may say, If You like, on
booking at some women who have mar
ried fortunately that they are both passe
and exceedingly ugly, but don't make the
mistake of thinking that they appear so
for one moment to the men who wanted
them for wives. Now mind you, l am
talking about love matches, which &C
cording to my philosophy Of life, are the
only marriages ana I've seen men des-
perately in love with very ugly women.
These are rare cases OF course, but they
do exist, and invariably the man is color
blind, nor does he love that ugly woman
until he is convinced in his own mimi
that she IS both fresh and fair.
be. ma 7 who look at
his wife with a codly critical eye that
sees all her wrinkles and gray hair, VINO
keeps count of her birthdays and real
ICES her age and It's infirnities. When he
WEEDS with no decisions as 20 her appear
snce his romantic attachment for her is
al dead as a doornail. He may go on re-
spectng and esteeming and all that, but
he absolutely has no kind of sentimental
emotion about her any longer.
THE man who loves his wife in the
years that follow the honeymoon, chose
her in the first instance because he was
conceitedly convinced that she was the
most beautiful houri of her sex, and to
him she remains just as fresh and just as
fair as in the days in which he couTted
her SO long as he fondly loves, he can
not see any change M her appearance. He
will deeply resent any reference to the
wife Of his bosom as an old woman and
will sharply contradict her II she care
lesSly gives the number of her years. My
husband grows so vexed If 1 mention the
respectable list of my birthdays that
low maintain a demure silence when ages
are the subject Of confession, and feel
treasured that no shadow has crossed his
affection for me when every now and
then he admits that. as far as he can see
I've not changed a hair since the days
when we honeymooned together.
Some women there are so dense and
unfeminine as not to realize the eternal
charm that youth and good looks possess
for men. They don't know that in every
mans love for his wife a lot of vanity is
nixed-vanity in displaying great taste in
his choice and vanity in owning the best
of It's kind-such a woman when she mar
ries'a man who is at all fastdious on this
point is apt TO grow old early, to become
careless and funny as well. and then she
Ets down in dust and ashes to wonder
helplessly why her hitherto adoring mate
has cooled in his ador.
Perhaps, poor man, he hardly knows
himself but the brutal truth is, being a
man he has grown hurt, Disguised and
chilled TO see that after all he has to
wife an old and ugly woman-a woman he
continues to admire for her talents and
respect for her virtues-but love-never
again"
This Is the way, says the Time-Demo-
crat, a quick-wftted New Orleans woman
dealt with an enterprising stranger re-
Gently. She opened the door in answer
to a ring at the bell, and the sleek in
dividual who stood Their said. convincing
ly: Madame, I have called for that suit
of clothes which needs brushing ADD
pressing"
Lady OF the house: What sluit?"
Your husbands Sunday suit, ma am.
He called at the store as he went to his
business this morning"
And he said I was to let YOU have
themT'
"Yes'm-"
did he appear in good health and
spir1ts?"
why, certainly"
Look and act naturally?'
"Of course. Why?"
Because he has been dead eighteen
years and l have some curiosity on the
subject"
II have made a mistake. perhapsr'
Perhaps you have. The man YOU saw
go out of here an hour ago is my broth
err. Good morning"
Talking OF odd happenings remark
ed a member of a weatherbound house
party. who, says the New York Tribune
instead of living out of doors in the beau
tiful May sunshine, as they hoped, were
gathered around big log fire in the hall
of q suburban country house while a cold
northeasterly storm ragged outside Il
will tell you of true story about girl
/ knew once. which might make a capt.
tai plot for a sensational novel. When
! was about sixteen years of age my
people sent me to a well known boarding
school near Philadelphia for a finishing
course as il is absurdly called to com
plete my education. Among the girls that
l especially liked there was the beautf-
full daughter OF a wealthy Pennsylvania
manufacturer. She was a quiet reserved
sort of creature, and didn't make many
friends among her associates, SO 1t was
probably the preference that she openly
Der her among my particular friends.
When ! left school we started a CORE
spondence, which, like all attempts at
keeping up intercourse with those whose
friends and pursuits are entirely differ
ent, gradually died a natural death, and
heard nothing from Anna Smith (Which
by the way, was not her name. but l do
not want TO give her real one) for q cou-
pie of years. Then some one told me
that her father had failed and they were
in such reduced circumstances that Anna
had been obliged to take a position as
visiting governess In Philadelphia. ] wrote
TO her at once 10 express my sympathy
and ask II ] could be Of service In any
way, but received no answer, and l new
er hSard of her again until few months