Fort Mill times. [volume] (Fort Mill, S.C.) 1892-current, 1901-01-23
WEDDING BELLS RING
Arp Discusses Marriage in Interest
ing Manner.
SPEAKS OF THE TROuSSEAU.
Bartow Philosopher Discourses on
Dresses and Other Features of
Wedding.


around here for some TIME. Their
music always excite the good people
ana everybody talks about the coming
nuptials. Mothers. wives and dangh.
ters arc specially interested. for it is
C1e bride who has most at stake and
Is about to surrender everything to her
"o'@r. But hope is stronger than fear
and the women all rejoice in iHand
wish the good work to go on. They
olSSect and discuss every phase of the
new relationship and crowd the church
or tAe home where the knot is to be
lied with anxious and eager interest.
ne Ufldal trosseaus and the wedding
%HtS nave especial consideration and
'arciuily inspected. What a differ
"h'' Between man and woman about
Su'h ihlhgS. What a difference be-
S"|cn my wife and |. 1t was OF small
cone srD 10 me whether the brides an
pa'el cost a thousand dollars or a hun
"|ci Just so she was dressed in good
'aS'e ana wore a few pretty ornaments
was enough for me. | like to see a
hirttv woman dressed in a way that
you can tell pretty we'll how much %
nor Is clothes and how much is flesh
and blood. Padding and pc.,icoats
may foUi man in new acquaju: lncc
nut home girl can't fool anybodJ We
see them ride and walk and stand In
ana SIT GC wn and Iun around and We
can measure them up like DaviG
harllm measured Il horse. The mod
"rn style OF dress is much more pleas
ing TO men than the old style OF
hCop skirts and bustles Nothing s
lacking now but TO shorten up their
walking frCckS so that they won't drag
behind and sweep up the sidewalks
with al their filth OF cigar siumps
and guilds and bacteria and eXpeatorat-
cd germs of eXpectorated consunp-
tion When | see n girls skirt drag
ginG along suspect that she is pigeon
toed or GoX-ankled and wants to hid"
y. My wife never wore dress that
way in her life for she wears a number
two shoe and steps like deer
But II is 4 woman's nature 10 love
ornament. She cannot help L and Il
is no sin. John Wesley tried 10 cure
her Of il i'm the discipline. hut he
couldcnt discipline about ornaments
and jewelry and other finery IS
dead letter. | have suspected that
may he he was too hard on his wife
about such things and that is why she
QUIT MIN What miserable time those
women had in the days OF the PuritaEs
when "A pretty girl had to wear a plain
black dress to church: home made
straw hood shaped like a coal scuttlc
ON her head and not an earring nor
breast pin nor even a string of glass
beads around her neck. The creator
adorned the earth with flowers and
studded the heavens with stars. He
gave the birds their beautiful plumacs
and taught them to sing for our pleas
ure. There are diamonds in the mines
and pearls in the ocean and Of course
they We're made for women. We men
care nothing about such things |
wouldent give ten dollars for bushel
of them, but my wife goes into rapture
over them and would give everything
she has got for them, except her chill
dren and may be me.
Woman is curious and peculiar
creation I have been studying them
for sixty years and don't fully under
stand them yet. They are very near
10 us and very dear to us. but very
unlike in their devotional nature:
their love of the beautiful their long
suffering under trial and adversely.
They go willingly and eagerly to the
marriage altar wnen they know that
all the pain and care and grief that
inevitably comes to a wife and moth
or. ! have pondered over all this and
If was woman and had only
mans instincts and emotions ! would
not marry any man upon earth. 1t is
the God given maternal instinct that
persuades and forces a woman TO mar
ry She will launch her boat upon the
4 4,l.e III, % ;.,vo
the waterfalls. She will marry even
against her judgment and the plead
ings OF her friends She does not re-
alize the force OF this maternal in
stinct but ii impels and controls her
My little granddaughters are perfectly
happy with their dolls. They play
with them by day and sleep with them
by night a little four-year- r-old said
20 me last night, "Ganpa. don't take
dolly away from me till ! get fast
asleep Little boys care nothing
about dolls They want balls and
drums and fire-crackers and guns
something that will make a noise.
man loves a woman and marries her.
but there is not particle Of paternal
instinct influencing him. The young
mother hugs her first born to her
bosom and is happy The young faith
er takes the advent Of the child as 4
matter cf course. but not OF choice. II,
course Of time the little one grows into
favor and he becomes attached 10 il
ard even proud of IT, but there is no
patcrnal instinct. The true woman
loves to be mother She is not con
tent with one child. She wants an
other and another. Two children
double her love and therefore her han.
piness and finally when she has no