Evening journal., 1901-04-26
Dsplores The Runaway Match


hnly very exceptional circumstances
Justify the runaway match. writes
rgaret E. sangster. In England,
tina Green was for centuries famous
the Mecca of clipping couples, forced
fly from the restraining hands of
ny fathers that they might be we'd
Il just across the border A good deal
romantic literature is based on the
.ubles of young people in love, their
on opposed by their parents and
ardians for prudential OF m-rcenary
sons. Lord Ullin's Daughter" and
oung Lochinvar" are memorable
ong spirited ballads with this mo-
IL. In THE Little Minister" nle Of
prettiest episodes in the beautiful
3ry IS the marriage of Gavin Dishart,
II the tongs. in the gypsy camp, to
lovely Bah, escaping from the
tchcs of her elderly admirer. Lord
atoul. We find no fault with ro-
nee when it depicts such scenes, and
oy them much more than we do real
A de scriptions Of situations in which
hing happens the very least re-
we'd from the commonplace But,
ieve me. dear young folk. that in
q st cases, IN plain everyday living,
runaway match is the greatest Of
NHsh mistakes. 1t is usually for
& i parties TO the contract. marrying
4 haste to repent at leisure. II a bride
& worth woong she is worth waiting
4 until he fathers consent TO neI
4 rriage can be gained. l. a man Is
4 rth a woman's faith and love, shs
= W we'll be patient until she can be
81 lrried to him. from her own home
the approval of her own people
Is setting out on her new life undel
E fairest auspices.
s owe is the staple from whi1h happy
q .rimony is woven. But people cannot
/. on love alone. There must he al
s. ONE. Therefore, before a man mar
Il IS. he should have q trade, a pco
E sion. an art or a clerkship, some
.Lg that will give him assured wages
salary. unless he has large neaus
8 4 is independent Of the necessity L
f #.rK. Fortunately this latter state re
4 hes to few rlea in our country. Til
f IA idler is with us in the minority
zen men Of great wealth, II tho.
lount to much, educate their sons Il
lrl. and work themselves. Million
4 res are discovered at their desks il
q broad offices. faithfully performing
81 cir tasks. and they set a goo
s. ample in this, to poorer men.
81 an should not do the girl he loves tn
justice Of making her wait for hin
& b long. Begin with a little. Do no
Nncy that wealth makes cOmp5telct
81 ly certain income which people ca
re upon, without exceeding it, an
N nnins into dCbt, means Icace
nd and comfort BE cOntentel wit
livery modest home at first Few yOun
3mon complain Of this necessit.
. bose who have had elegant homes an
zen the readiest to accept poverty,
81 implies no humiliation.
Once in a great while. there comes {
IS a condition of things in whicn a
81 1pement is justifiable, as with Robel
# downing and Elizabeth Barrett. Mis-
a irretts father was resentful at III
ought OF any Of his children leavin
q home roof for marriages, sons {
ughtcrs equally. His gifted daughtG
izabeth. was the pride of his lif
Id being an invalid, in need of col
ant care, it had not seemed to hi
ssibla that any suitor would offer f,
q hand. A Feet, she was won by
bet. and few welded lives were mo-
eally happy than hers and Robe
rcwning's. Yet they had to ste
way, softly and silently, from the Ba
It home they were married in Il
lurch OF .Marylebone, and then Il
ide returned and remained at hon
pr a wsek before she left with b.
isband for Italy. During this wet
ey 65d not meet. The fathers wra
as never appeased, and he died u