The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1901-02-03

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20 Picayune, must begin with an ad-
.,,ition 10 her to make the most of the
.ssnt hour. Enjoy it. II is the prim-
time of the year with you. little sis
before YOU have found out that there
ave rborns that pierce hidden even among
.bs roses Of love. 1t is a time that
,,-,es hut once in all ones life, and hav-
,,g PASSED. never returns. 1t is the little
IN, set amidst the prose of existence,
,ts little drama in which. for a brief
.,aca every man and woman. even the
nos, commonplace and undressing
ore heroes Of romance about whom clus-
,sr q thousand dreams. and fancies, and
continents, that win never belong to
them again.
No love story ever written is so sweet
a. woman as that which she lives
through in the days of her engagement,
hut il Is Just as well to remember that
# isn't a magazine serial that runs IN
from month to month. and year to year.
If IS a novel, complete in one volume
and it ends for most women at the
church door After that life isn't ro-
nance. II is facts and poor cooks, and
while the love her husband may give
her is lust as strong, and true, and bet
,er worth having than the alteration 0f
her lover, still it is mighty apt to be a
flower with all the bloom rubbed off.
A neck Of potatoes may be just as much
a token of affection and remembrance
os bunch of violets. but nobody pr
&c he
ri thrill to them. Love. with most m n
is vioets before marriage, and potatoes
afterward, and it is just as well to make
The most of your romance while you
have it,, so that when the time comes
when YOU are short on sentiment you
NAV be long on memory.
II NAV seem like a douche Of cod
water thrown on you, but the most i'm
portant piece of advice that anybody can
give an engaged girl is to warn her to
make sure she has not made a mistake
In picking out a husband. Davy Crock
etts maxim, BE sure you are right, then
go ahead" was probably not intended
as complete guide to matrimony but
II comes pretty near to being one, AMI
il ought 10 be printed in letters an in h
high on the top of every MARI a re
license You are a woman, and used to
shopping You know that there are many
attractive materials in the shops, that
take your eye, and are well enough for
q party gown, or dress up occasions
but there is no wear to them. When
YOU marry look we'll to the quality OF
the goods you are getting Be sure that
the colors are steadfast, and that it
won't shrink in the washing, and that
It is guaranteed to stand the wear and
tear Of everyday life. 1t takes something
that is genuine all wool and a yard
wide to do this. my sister. 1t takes a
real man.
It is possible-it happens often and
often-that a girls fancy is captured by
a handsome face. or a fascinating man
uer, hut she finds out on closer &C
quaintance that her god has feet of
clay. / say nothing OF the big sins, be-
cause a girl who is idiotic enough to
marry a drunkard or roue to reform
him, Is so besotted with love and folly
there is no use in wasting words up n
her. Sometimes, though, a woman sees
little meannesses cropping out in the man
to whom she is engaged; he is narrow
and suspicious, and careless of hurtins
her feelings; he is cruel to animals, and
insolent to servants. and stingy. If he
has these faults don't run the risk of
curing him of them. Have the coura ze
to break your engagement. Before mar
raise man is on his good behavior. If
he Is overbearing and unreasonable to
you then, he will be a grinding tyrant
when YOU are in his power. If he strike
every stray dog that crosses his path. he
will ab his wife. Don't trust your
future to him.
Even if the man is all that he ought
to be, and your own heart fails you; If
you doubt the strength of your love to
be all things and suffer all things for
m tl1rr bac -,
foot Of the altar. The most mistaken and
cruel kindness that any man or woman
ever showed another is to marry them
without loving them, because they are
TOO cowardly to break an engagement
We have all seen that done, but we never
say anything but misery result from it,
Better million times a broken promise
than broken heart and broken life.
An engagement is a serious thing, but
1t isn't as serious as an uncongenial mar
rage with a person you married for
pity. Above all, never forget that moth
ing in the world but love justifies mar
rage. The woman who marries for
nome, or money, or position, has no right
10 draw her skirts aside from the woman
OF the etreets.
But, take it, you are of the fortunate
ones, who has drawn one OF the capital
prizes in the matrimonial lottery-and
'"VtO . hotHlHg better than good nus
oand that life can give any woman-so
! congratulate you with all my heart.
bu don't brag! Crow gently. You are
not the first girl who was ever engaged
Livery married woman, and many old
maids, have been there before YOU Be
mercliui to your family. When any of
your sisters and brothers come into
room when you and Henry Adolphus are
engaged in telling each other for the mil
month time how perfectly, unalterably
you adore each other, and how certain
you are that yours is the first authentic
case OF true love on record don't make
mem feel like interlopers who must back
VuI with hurried apologies. Don't always
ne Ringing Henry Adophus' opinion in
your fathers face, or get huffy when
your mother fails to see in him the in
IarHdle perfection you do. They are not
AZ love with him, you know. Be very
lender and very loving to your mother.
niue sister. Try to think what il must
ne 10 mother when she sees the daugh-
yer mat she has Graded In her arms,
mat she loved and nursed, and wept and
prayed over, and guarded by daily and
hourly sacrifices every hour of her life,
turning from her to give her love and life
mo strangers keeping.
boht spoon in public. It has been said
.naJ al the world loves a lover but it
,."es them at a distance. Nobody wants
i'4Hs pictures of affection. ID is disgust
ing and vulgar and ridiculous Engaged
ppop.e who can find no pleasure in other
PVople society, and no amusement but