The daily journal. (Salem, Or.) 1899-1903, 1901-10-04
not better matters, she tried the window

not better matters, she tried the window
act.
Il would have been wiser to walk out
at the door. II is more discreet TO 20
into the highways Of earth nninvited
than to force an entrance into the mys-
terious realm OF death.
The man or woman who commits sui
eide is a spiritual pauper. He who has
spiritual strength knows he will be aided
to the end, and waits his call. But the
spiritual pauper declares himself bank
rupt when he ends his own earth exist
ence. We do not know what provision
is made for them in the next world.
Sometimes the only way wife can
make her husband understand her is TO
die. Then he sees and sdmires all her
sweet, tender qualities
like to think the world is peopled
with happy wives and husbands l
know many. Many more exist unknown
to me. Happiness is oitentimes secret.
i've and quiet; misery is noisy and COM
municative. Happiness seeks no conf
dant; unhappiness wants to be sympa-
thized with.
Happiness thanks God in the silence.
Misery cries aloud to the world And
so we grow to think that unhappiness lie
the rule. aud happiness the exception.
But do not believe IL.
Still, in this overlull world aud over
civilized Estate of s-ciety, there are hun.
dreds of unhappy wives TO be found;
wives who feel often on the verge OF acte
as desperate as that of the poor little wo-
man who forms the subjectof this sketch
and husbands who are as blindly
thoughtless and unkind as the one
whose irritable words drove her TO her
death.
II you who read these lines are a man
and husband, ask yourself just what
you are doing toward making your home
the peaceful place home should be.
What are you doing to render your wife
happy at the thought Of seeing you each
evening? Are you praising her for ev-
cry good quality she possesses and
thanking her for all her efforts to please
you?
Are you telling her she ia a good wife
and good mother, or are you finding
fault with every small failure Of hers and
ignoring her great virtues?
DO not imagine good woman Is salts
fed with virtues own reward. The con.
sciousness OF her own worth is not suf-
6cient to keep her happy il you are 81
lent and never seek TO impress upon her
mind the fact that you realize her good
qualities. And this is especially true il
you take every opportunity TO assure her
that you see her faults.
Why not study your wife as you study
your partner? Why not be as tactiul
and patient with her as you are with
him? Why not entertain and amuSe
her as you do your customers and pat
rons2
II you called at your neigEbor's house
and found anything amiss, how suave
and amiable you would be about il. Are
you equally 30 when things 90 amiss at
your own homer
II not, why not?
Why are neighbors to be treated with
more consideration than your very
dearest ones?
II you owed your partner or your
patron money, you would feel ashmed
TO make him ask for It f; you would feel
II consistent With your business honor
and pride TO be prompt in such "A matter.
Then whv should you humilste the
partner you have taken for life by max
ing her ask for money which is her
rightiul portion as the keeper OF your
home and the sharer Of your fortunes?
Why do you not feel as delicate in this
matter with her as in dealings with men
| can never understand how wife or
husband can be more thoughtful OF
outsiders than they are OF each other
cannot understand how they can be ILL
tempered and lault-fnding with each
other, aud courteous and conciliatory to
strangers.
There is no woman on the face OF the
earth to whom you should show such
considerate thoughtiulness as TO your
wife. You should study to avoid aggra.
waiting her faults, and you should
strengthen her best qualities by judiciors
praise.
A suong man can make a woman over
into anything in the world he desires
her TO be, II he will go about it in the
same perseverance aud determination
which hs puts into his business. Only
when he loves the woman as he loves
dollars is this possible.
Aud remember always, the real
business OF life is the makingol happy
home. Everything else is secondary to
that; for when you come to slit the
the whole chat OF existence, everything
goes to the winds but the happiness we
have had at home.