The San Francisco call., 1901-12-08

child from eating some coveted dainty at
table. If children were made to feel that
their parents denied themselves a pleas
ure in denying them their wishes, and
that only their best judgment guided by
tenderest love prompted the refusal OF
what they would be far happier to grant,
there would be more trust and less fric-
ton between parents and children.
In no one thing does the good and bad
training of early life so quickly betray
itself as in the treatment of those whom
circumstances have placed in dependent
positions. The higher the nature the more
strongly is felt the inarticulate appeal
from the less-favored classes for justice
and gentleness.
Children should not be thrown in the
society of servants for companionship
more than necessary, but they should be
required to treat them with courteous con-
sideration, prefacing every request with
please and ready with pleasant thanks
in acknowledgment of any service.
Among influences that mold and re-
fine the young persons of the household
is The informal and frequent entertain
ment of welcome guests. Those ac-
customed to the presence of visitors havS>
more pleasing manners, are more at their}
ease and consequently more graceful and
tactful than those who have not this ad-
vantage.
Entertaining visitors unifes family, all
being pledged to the same object, the
qualification of the guest.
Children should be made to feel their
Identification with the home. little fel-
low replied to the question whether he had
any brothers and sisters, mo, We have
only one child"
Social observance requires no effort If
one learns it in early youth. A child
should be encouraged to write his or her
own note of thanks for pleasure offered
or a present received. However childish
ly expressed, 1t will probably thanh the
giver better than most correct effuslons
written by an elder
Should a child of one household have a
quarrel with another, the mothers show u
petty spirit in adopting it themselves
The difference should be carefully look
ed into, and the children urged to apollo
gize and make up. The one who is
most forward to take the initiative has
usually the finer instincts. Should
mother learn that her child has been
guilty of some grave fault toward an
other, she should call at once with her
child upon the one who has been injured,
and make her child apologize, expressing
her own regret and offering to make any
met in a generous and forgiving spirit.
The rule works goth ways.
No woman should ever presume to scold
or correct the child of another, nor should
she be the one to report its misdeeds.
A school girls dress should be plain,
neat and calculated to excite no envy, at
tract no attention. Simplicity is not only
in good taste, but it is the characteristic
of a little maiden's costume among those
who set a fashion by adopting it. Chill
dren should be as unconscious of their
clothes as birds of their plumage. TO
talk of their dress before them is fatal
to that spirit,
When unwise mothers or nurses admire
them in a particular costume or discuss
its becomingness, the poison begins to
work.
1t is wisdom on the part of parents to
encourage the visits of their childrens
friends and make them so welcome that
they may feel at home. So it may be
judged whether or not their companion
ship is to be desired,
1t is best for the mother to limit the
children's circle of acquaintance to those
of her own personal friends, as far as
may be, since she presumably knows
something of the home influences. Should
invitations come from children whose
parents are unknown to her, they should
be written by the mother of such chill
dren or accompanied by line from that
lady seconding the invitation; but in any
case it is wise to make inquiries and
learn what one may of the influences sur
rounding the new playmates.
Children's Entertainments.
A birthday is generally the occasion OF
childish hospitalities. The young folk