The Scranton tribune. [volume] (Scranton, Pa.) 1891-1910, 1901-08-26
HOW TO BE HAPPY
ALTHOUGH MARRIED
Rules for the Guidance Of the Young
Married Man.

Carolyn Shipmsn, in Lite.
Keep up the illusion
Don't settle down too obviously to
married life. Re as eager to please
her as you were before marriage. Aim
to preserve the charm of the honey
moon.
Don't tell her she is illogical. She
probably is, but she mustn't know It.
Don't he too reminiscent of the days
before you knew her From the bat
ties in which you slew the Dragon she
may reason to the struggles where
you fell by the waysidc.
Remember that the new life. which
to you is merely an episode, Is to her
complete revolution of thought and
haitian undiscovered country. Make
allowances for her. The readjustment
is not easy.
Treat her fairly, so that she will not
deceive you.
Keep up the Illusion
Tell her occasionally that you love
her. She knows it, but she likes to
hear II. She can't always take it for
granted.
start in the way you want to con-
tinue. Particularly in affairs of the
purse. Never humiliate her by maxi
ing her ask for money. Have a def
mite understanding at first. Money
brings the discord that causes most
family bells to jangle out of tune.
BE thoughtful in little things. 4
| single rose may perfume a whole day.
Never remark casually that there are
two standards, one for a man and
| another for woman. Women some
| times put two and two together with
! surprising accuracy.
Remember the Womans Instinct.
| BE as polite to her mother as in
YOU lies, without encouraging her to
live with YOU. 1t pays in the end
Give advice when you are asked for
1t, and not before. The unaded work.
ing out of her life problems may he
well-nigh homicidal in the process. but
the results will justify your forbear.
anCe.
| Keep up the Illusion.
Tell her your sorrovs as we'll as your
joys. Two can bear trouble better
than one. She is your wife. not your
sister, and she loves you. You owe it
to her. She may develop new power
and grace with the knowledge.
Learn TO bear with her occa sional
tears. Men must work and women
must weep.
Never give her power over you by
allowing her to see that you are jeal-
Gus. This is fatal. Assume indiffer-
encc If you have it not
Don't embarass her by adverse crit
icism of any kind before people Make
it a curtain lecture if it must be.
Don't forget To kiss her good-by.
Train her to he prepared for emer-
gencies If she isn't that kind. Bring
your friends home to dinner uneXpect-
edly.
Smoke in the house If you want TO,
and bring the dogs in. She knew these
things before she married you. Why
sacrifice your innocent pleasures
Prove to her that marriage seldom re.
forms.
Make her feel that she is the only
woman you have ever loved. This /!
very important.
Don't tease her and then refuse tc
be teased yourself.
Don't talk business to her after she
has been shopping all day. She has
troubles of her own.
Treat her like cOmrade and frienC
but never forget that she is, above
all, q woman, who needs your utmos
sympathy and protection.
, Keep up the Illusion.
Don't be an ostrich. Cover you
tracks as well as you head
Ask her advice occasionally and TAX,
IL sometimes on principle. 1t may b,
worth taking.
Never protest Your zeal may DER
leap itself and fall on the other side
If you do. Maintain dignihed anC
thoughtful silence.
Don't make the mistake of provid
ing food, lodging and pin money TO
her poor relatives. How did they man
age before you were married?
Cultivate your speaking voice.
, few tender words aptly uttered il
thrilling tones will calm her most VIC
lent feelings. Few women are proc
against a properly managed voice.
, If you can't be frank, be as frank a
you can.
Don't think she is flirting outra
Geously when she is merely trying t
be nice to your best friends to pleas
you.
Don't tell her all the risque storie
YOU know. Reserve some of the wors
: and leave few sensbiltes.
If you are hurting her fcelnGs-an'
=, you will-tell her you are sorry. A,
!, ounce of true repentance will banis
many pounds Of hurt.
Don't lose your temper when sh
, does. Choose a more opportune mo
. ment. Some one must pilot the shT
Remember that if you love eac
other you can do with her Al YOU vii
u Above ALL keep up the Illusion If yo
rap is worth the while.