Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1901-09-15

world Of men and women, music, art,
and travel. One should be familiar
with the current news OF the day and
the topics occupying public attention
with the names and authors of the
new books. and be able to say some
thing worth hearing about what one
has read and heard. Many get no far
Their in speaking of a book than that
it is dull or interesting. others give
il few words what seem to be its CEN
trail ideas. its characteristics, the time
and scene of its action, quoting per-
haps some sentiment h a has I'M
pressed or witticism that has pleased.
Ones conversation may become the
centre around which ones reading and
information are grouped. The habit
of memorizing with a definite aim In
view, and the consciousness OF having
something to say, give a sense Oh
power. Practice arouses and strength
etis the habit OF ready selection and
quick and apt application.
True culture carries with it an at
mosphere of breadth,-the world and
not the village. A woman lacking 1t
was said to betray by her CONVERSE
ton n mind of narrow compass
bounded on the north by her SER
wants, on the east by her children, on
the south by her ailments, and on the
west by her clothes'" Some one has
said that the three "G's" are not dis
cussed in polite so~ciety-dress, domes-
ties and diseases.
The mind grows shallow when per-
petualIy occupied with triyialities. A
course of solid reading is a good tonic.
When ignorant of our ignorance, we
do not know when we betray our
selves.
1t is better to be frankly dull than
pedantic. Not exhibition but service
is imposed by superior talent or ad-
v~antages.
Some persons give an opinion as
though their verdict were absolute and
final. Dogmatism has been defined as
"pupnyism come to maturity others
hold forth with oracular vagnenes5.
but convey few ideas, as though they
were educated above thor intelii-
gence.
One must guard ones self from the
temptation Of talking shop," rs the
slang of the day expresses 1t, and of
riding ones hobby" Our interest is
apt to bird us to the lack q: Il IN
others. !. comes under the reproach
OF dad taste" os does also the retail
ing OF family affairs. The entity OF
home life should he gp9r3ed by us with
g s-elf-resnectinr Icticcnoe.
A bore has been described as lone
who talks about hi1r3clf " en- you
want to talk about yourself Tie
sarcasm aside, whatever sets one apart
as a capital II" should he avoided.
Anecdotes that arc supposed 70 be Of
interest because eonne1ted 9Th our
selves. should be reserved Tor u inti-
mates. Cur troubles annoy those whom
they dc rot sadden. Let lis only pass
On pleasant things. A joke or humcr-
GUS story Is |deTenaent 'upan It's fresh
ness for appreciation; some emotions
VII not bear warming over A for
efgn phrase for which there is no exact
equivalent in English seems OCCASION
ally to give point, finish, or adorn-
risnt to a sentence, but one must be
wary af assuming that 1t is ~untraHs-
latabie. It is bad form to use fore gn.
expressions unless they be idiomatic
and pronounced with correct accent.
Il is now a well su~bstantiated and ac-
ce1ted canon of good form that only
pleasant things are to be said of any
one. An ill-natured criticism is a social
blunder as well as a neral one.
! Though we speak with the tongues Of
men and OF angels. and have not char
its, 1t profteth US nothing i good
society.
Gossip, too, is really going GU of
fashion. Any Il se.f convicted has
teas to retract whatever may give the
Impression that Il has INDUCED in
anything so vulgar and p~leblan. 1t has
q corrective ana an inspiring influence
to imagine the persons spoken of to be
within hearing.
ExaSgoration is misstatement, which
is untruthfulness. II often does as
much harm as a deliberate lie, and is
not as honest.
true wit 5 a gift, not an attain
ment. Those who use it Alright never
yield to the temptation Of saying any
thing that can wound another in order
to exhibit" their own cleverness. 1t is
natural and spontaneous. Those who
run after wit are apt to catch n
sense" Talk that has heartiness in 1t,
and the liyeliness and sparkle that come
Of .ight-heartedness and innocent gay
ETY., is a fairly good substitute for wit.
Il is a form of influence to pass on
in conversation whatever one has read
or heard that may be helpful and in
spring to others. Many an important
resolve taken in the course of ones life
has been greatly Influenced by what
one has heard in a chance conversa-
ton.
We may do much in the cause OF
truth and kindness without advertis-
ing our motive or sounding a trumpet
before lis. With an art that conceals
art, we may lead the conversation away
from scandal and innuendo into chan
nels pure and peaceable. Out Of the
abundance of the heart the mouth
STANDARDIZATION the source must
be right. Fearless.y but never aggress-
lively should we defend our convic-
tons, and show our c%olors." Preach
ing is out Of place. Society is not a
school, but a playground where people