The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1901-09-22
IT'S EASY TO BECOME A BORE.
PITFALLS THAT RESET CARELESS
CONpERSATIONALIsTS.
tnhspp, tholc~ Of Topics and Exaggerated
Msnner,sms Common sources Of social
Dtsfaser- I Unconscious Bores Not the
Least Trying of = NUMEROUS species.

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D,sfassr- i nconseious Beres Not the
Least Trying Of = Numereus species.
The old-fashioned bore Who used to ~
about b~uttonboling people and talking them
10 death has gone out. Happily. he has
not survived the increasing rush and hustle
Of life. and except among life insurance,
men and book agents the power OF a pro-
fusion OF words Il no longer relied upon to
accomplish results. But In the place OF tho
old-fashioned variety Wa have the un-
conscious bore who goes through life firing
people out with his conversations man
berisms." Nr
SO spoke a modern Turveydrop whose
knowledge Of the world and It's people 10 80
great that he proposes TO reform society
and give lessons In etiquette by means OF
drawing room talks. He spoke To half a
dozsn Of his feminine apostles who are
anxious to model their manners after the
latest fashions. His classes are informal.
Nnd his book on American customs viii not
10 out until he Il safely away from the
country.
you may be q bore and I may be q bore,
he went on. -and We may be- unauare oil II
until a thorough introspection reveals II.
Then We may set to work TO correct the
fault. But to be an unconscious bore and
10 20 through he world without knowing 10:
can anything be more horriblel Fancy
His hearers ~shuddered and looked mean
ingly at each other.
sThe person who talks too much u a bore.
and the person who measures his words and
guards his expressions Is also n bore. Dumb
people are never bores. although deaf peo-
pie are frightfully 80. Doctors are seldom
bores. because they are always being bored
by their patients. but cant afford To show
Il. The person Who IL awfully bored and
tells you so IL one Of the worst OF the class.
The unconscious bore l. never 81 through
temperament. but has become so through
some uncorrect.d mannersm or conversa :
tional habit. Women are worse bores
than men because they talk more. The
intensely reserved woman whose opinions
are ~ expressed Ina they might mean
anything is. II anything. a worse bore than
the gusher.
.Carcle-sness In speech Is the most easily
acquired OF habits and IL the hardest To
get rid Of. Slipshod talk seems to be gen
eral Slang has become fashionable and
IL is quite evident that to DO extremely
daring In conversation IL the only way
20 be UP to date Governe-ses and teachers
laugh to-day at expressions on the lips OF
boys and girls that they would have ~.
proved some years ago. Both IA England
and In America society has de'eriofated
In its conversational customs
There ae persons who allow small
habits 10 grow upon them until hnhliy
they make their society irritating ] have
In mind a young woman OF an extremely
sympathetic nature, which undoubtedly
csu-ss her had Conversations manner.
In her eagerne-s to APPEAR thoroughly IN
touch with the per-on with whom she u
talking she literally takes tho words out
Of their mouths and repeats the conclud-
ing words OF their -entencss In unison
with them. To talk with her for any length
Of time becomes a positive torture. hs
IL a severe case, but how many persons
can YOU rcall who rarely ss~eun To allow
you TO finish what you are saying without
interpo~ing an answer or question:
Some there are who interrupt ragrantiy
IN the middle. Of a speech. Others wander
In their manner and Ia Their replies some
have a fashion Of twitohing their eyes OF
lips while they listen In conversation,
Others emphasize the remark 81 the per
son who T. talking with confirming mods
and grimaces or violent head shakingS To
indicate agreement. Every ono knows
the person whose gaze travels around
the room and every where but To the face
81 the one who h talking Sometimes
the gaze IL followed by a remark or n qucs-
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