The Savannah morning news. (Savannah, Ga.) 1900-current, 1901-09-13
LOVE AND MONEY.
The First to BE Preferred in tile
Case of Marriage.


! From the Philadelphia North Amer
lean.
From the pinnacle of commercial, lit
erary and matrimonial success, Ed
ward Box, editor of..the Ladies Home
Journal, gives forth wise counsel to
| the young idea in book just publish
| ed by Doubleday, Mcclure & Co., with
the title of "Successward."
Unlike most men who achieve con-
| spicuous prosperity. Mr. Box is a pro-
| found philosopher, and he has guided
| his inner vision by the light of his
! worldly experience. So all those who
have watched his career and hearkened
to his teachings in the columns of the
ohaste and elegant periodical over
which he presides will agree that his
views on marriage. as set forth in the
book, are worth heed, study and diges-
| ton.
At the outset Mr.. Box discovers that
| the question of marriage to a young
man is an important one, and that lit
| is unquestionably for the good of al
most every young man that he shall
| marry"
| He adds, with that graceful vigor of
| style which has made his paper ia
nous:
| When young man deliberately
| lays out for himself a single life based
| upon any other reason than the strong
| est physical or mental reasons, he
makes the mistake of his lifetime.
IF a young man refuses to marry
| because of a lack of faith in woman
| hood, or a distrust of the existence of
| those qualities generally attributed to
woman, he errs, and he errs fatally.
There can be no disputing the fact
that a mans life is never complete in
| its fullest happiness until that life is
| made whole and complete by the love
| of true woman. The absence of
wife from home has demonstrated to
many a man how large and important
| part she is of it and of him. The
| right kind of a wife knows better what
is essential to her husbands comfort
| than he does himself-far better.
1T is an unfortunate fact that some
| men never get to a point where they
| understand woman. And yet to know
woman, to properly understand her, to
| correctly interpret her best motives,
is the deepest lesson that life can
| teach a man.
Every man with a fair mind who
| clasps good woman to his breast and
calls her mother, wife or sister will
understand the import of these words.
| How man can be a hater of woman
is hard to conceive when through her
| so much can be added to his life
Mr.. Box agrees with his fellow artist
in letters, Miss L. j. Libbey, that ut
is mans heart which directs him to
the woman whom he wants for his wife,
| never the finger of the adviser Love
pointed surely" is an old proverb, and
it is as true to-day as upon the day
1t was written.
Many young man, however, stands
undecided on this question of
| marriage. He believes that the only
holy marriage, the only marriage from
which can spring happiness. is that of
love. The girl with whom such a mar
riage is possible is perhaps within his
eye.
HE loves her. he feels. and yet he
hesitates. Why he hesitates he can
not sometimes explain. Sometimes
there is another girl in the case, whom
he acknowledges to himself he does not
love quite so well, and yet he feels that
she would bring to him something that
the other girl does not--a certain So
cial advancement, perhaps, a further
ance of his business interests or an ad-
vantage of one kind or another"
As to those who marry for money
this young editor, who made his own
way in life, has strong opinions. He
thinks it is "the most contemptuous act
of which man can be capable"
To marry a girl because of some
possession, simply because he likes her
better, perhaps, that he does other
girls; because, may be- he respects,
fancies or admires her: because she
seems to esympathize with him. is to
establish a wrong basis for happy
marriage.
the foundation for any truly happy
marriage. There are things which ap.
peal to us in any dear friend man or
woman.
The girl who is to be a young mans
companion for life. to be with him and
of him as long as she or he may live,
and to be the sharer of his joys or
sorrows. to be his children, must
awaken other emotions in a young
mans heart"
Pursuing this line of argument, MFR.
Box wakes poetic. The girl" he says,
that young man should marry, and
the only girl he is safe to marry, is
she who fills all his life his every
thought, who guides him in his every
act. whose face comes before him in
everything he does-the girl, in short,
without whom he feels life would he a
blank. without whom he could not live.
loves, and it makes little differ
enee whether such a girl be rich
or poor. talented or not. trav-
eled or untraveled. Enough is it for
him If she is affectionate in her ma
ture. sympathetic with his work. re-
sponsive to his thoughts, appreciative
of his best qualities.
These are the traits in a woman
which last the longest and remain
with "A man throughout his life. They
are the traits in women which make
good wives and better mothers.
Knowledge is a good thing in a wo-
man, but affection is infinitely better
Far wiser is the young man who
marries the stupidest girl in the world,
If she be affectionate, than he who
marries the brightest girl in the uni
verse. II she be cold. clammy and UNI
responsive in her disposition.
1--WE laugh at sentiment. we men,
when we are young; when we have
lived a lifetime we reverence IL, and
tho jest becomes the tribute"
on the money question Mr.. Box has
noble ideas. Marry the girl OF your
love" he says. in effect even II she
} hasn't a cent" Although he leaves
1.-The inference that v you can manage