The Montgomery advertiser., 1901-09-08
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By Andrew .Jam.s MiII.r

4 . H L By Andrew James Miller.
 In social life. the more or less prodis sl lemPioyment of compliment. has cheap. ened and even disparaged one of the most The ihdiscrimi%nate nate usss sec of compiisnenss Ss ss | are so closely allied to flattery. that their | force, and charm are oftentimes totally
 tSs sSrr ssryns ur ns ssna ss extremely unfortunate. as the wilful 1 abupe of anything should not rob it of
 It's. intsinsic merit. And no cne can deny profit in this wholesome discernment of lovely traits in our friends and acquaint- anses, which redeems much of the mo- life faireri to gaze upon. In polite soci- efy, all sympathetic and we'll bred peo- pic find pleasure in recognizing. by word and 5d,ks the grace and charms of those who compose their circle. This may somstirnes descend to exaggeration and deEenerate into meaningless hattery, yet. such casual abuses should not detract from 2trde merit. If we have pleasur- able sensations towards those with whom We come In contact, it is natural that
 special excellence inspires our admira- ton; i've feel inclined to commend and
 compliment such sifts. Undue praise may .be injudicious. The most tactful command. But this should form no bar is most sincere and, if 1t weighs it's words compliment ought always to be sincere, else 1t loses much of it's force. Indis- criminate praise is foolish and generally deceiyss M only the the giddy and fl thcushtiess whose vanity cannot hide the glow of satisfaction beneath the veil of humii-
 ity.. Only. the wise have the proper de conysntionality. to receive such praise In l the right way. Therefore, compliments should always be sincere. We are sagely told by the iconoclasts of the world that it is poison to the soul to live in an atmosphere of constant praise, Even the great Smcllett tells consistent gift of thoughtless, crowds;' Dryden also speaks of "the noisy praise of giddy crowds. as changeabie as the | These conclusions may have their fitting ! application to those in public life. but certainly cannot apply to the ordinary
 social intercourse- of the world. There
 ts a a.charm in opening eur eyes to the att l fractions of others and when the tongue gives graceful and tactful utterance to the sincere impressions of the heart, 1t In his logical essay upon the Duty Of Praise." William Matthews declares that
 children, who are living unhappily and rusting in comparative inactivity. or do- | inM but a little of the good that they
 prsse GaVng s9n ao faith n 'ia they need an assurance of their capa- | biiities from others. To shy, sensitive
 natures praise is a vital necessity. They truly as others need to be l6shed anI
 spurne1. Sidney Smith says that ''repu- tation Is one of the prizes for which men
 every man to bestow deserved praise with the most scrupulcus ussce." |"
 Sainte Beuve very truly observes: "What wS1k hot .fa~ n1 kel
 their praise. Of what use to the faith 1 full wife. whom we lay in the grave. and l the tears we shed over her. the endear- ing terms we lavish upon her memory, | and the passionate praise of her virtues, 1 with which We veX the ears of friends? .?
 She whom we now deplore, would have
 her lifetime. with ineffabie delight; but l alas, our lips were sealed and now our I words cannot reach her" Who can es-
 innate the amount of good that might be | accomplished on every hand, if we were
 as quick to commend excellence as we
 are to growl and scold at its absence?
 "To praise Is to advise,
 | Telling men what they are, we let them | see,
 And represent to them what they should be-"
 | Too many of us prefer to be the Devirs ! Attorney, who is a feature at all canon izations in the Roman Church We rath-
 CT prefer to pick flaws and find errors, | than to pick out virtues and commend | their excellencies.
 Every actor can tell you the effect of
 a cold and chilly audience. Bulwer. in his The Efficacy of Praise" refers to the first night of the elder Kean in New York The audience was in no wise de- monStrative, and Kean came to the man. ager and said: ''1 can't go on the stage again If the pit keeps it's hands in its pockets. Such an audience would exttn- guish Aetna
 TO EVERY WOMAN INVENTOR.
 The following circular letter has been sent out by Mrs. Daisy P Smith, chair man of the Invention Committee of the Woman's Department of the South Caro- lina Interstate and West Indian Exposi- tion, which will be held in Charleston:
 Dear Madam. There will be an exhibit of women's inventions and patents in the Womsn's Building of the South Caronna Interstate and West Indian ENposltlen to be held in Charleston. S. C., Decem-
 The committee in charge will be pteaseH to furnish your dealer or VoilrseiI Wltn full particulars if you intepd to place a Tn )dcl of your invention on eXholtioh here.
 We trust that your interest fin this ex- position ic sufficient to induce you 10 consider the matter f@ayGraoIy' @ s,ni1G nGTG re-
 Chairman Inventions Committee.
 No. g Logan Street. Charleston.
 As stated before in these columns, Mrs. Pringle, who is secretary of the woman Department of the Charleston Exposi- tion lived in Montgomery short while some years ago and has many friends and relatives here who will be interested in that department on her account. She is niece of the late Colonel Tennent Lomax. It does seem that in every way. as exhibitors and as visitors the people Of Alabama would patroniZe the Charleston Exposition, and that it would be as much the fashion to do Charleston this winter as it has been to head for Buffalo during the past summer. It is home industry and should as such command the atten- tion of the Southern people.
 CORRESPONDENTS HOP"
 Miss Zitella Cooke. a native of Alaba- ma, is a woman of who m not only Ala
 bamians not Americans generally may
 well be proud. She has made her way
 to the very front rank in literary mat ters. Her works are highly appreciated
 and widely read. For many years she has lived in Boston but has never forgotten
 tbA old home and home people. Of her latest publication The Boston Transcript
 says:
 Among the fall publications announced