The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1901-08-17

HIS POINT OF VIEW
What should / say make girls at
traetive2'' answered a society man to
whom the above query was put well,
that is a very hard question to answer.
Different men (for I take it BY asking
me you wish to know what makes
girl attractive to a MANI like different
attributes You probably mean gener-
ally attractive-what you might call
popular girl in society Well. should
say one of the most important traits
IS the power of making another feel
Ihat-for the moment at IeaSt-hIS per
sonality and what he says are of para
mount interest Many young women
let their eyes wander while You are
talking to them. as if they were look
ing for other men, This is certainly
not complimentary. Still, even absent
mlndedness is not much worse than a
too great intensity of expression. which
is apt to bore one. One feels any aft
fectation Of interest instinctively- In
terest must be genuine and spontane-
Gus to be agreeable. A pleasant voice
and sympathetic laugh are also great
adjuncts- I know several girls who
score a lot in that way It is a pleas
ure to talk with them for no other rea-
son. 1t is the general opinion that
beauty attracts a man more than any
other quality. This is by no means the
case; in fact. as rule the beauties do
not have half 50 good time as pretty
women who are less self-consciOus.
There are many beautiful women who
completely lack charm There IS one
thing about a. woman's personal APP
pearance that appeals particularly to
SO men out Of a 100, and that is neat
ness and smartness- Women, as a rule,
do not realize this In their efforts to
look pretty and have their belongings
becoming they often completely over
look tidiness, and SO spoil everything.
A neat. shining head always excites a
mans admiration, while becomingness
is with him quite a secondary conSid-
Grafton l have often seen my sisters
look in the glass, arrange their crimps
with the greatest care. and quite over
look the fact that their heads were far
from looking trig and tidy-two great
essentials, to my mind As for lasting
attractions All, for those men look be-
low the surface more than women sup
pose A mans instinct seeks in the
woman he cares for something better
than himself He may not say much
about it. but he feels II all the same
The qualities have mentioned may at
tract, but it needs others to attach"
HER POINT OF VIEW.
81 do not quite understand" she said.
do you want me to tell you what I
would really consider an attractive
man, or to say what makes certain
men that I know more attractive than
ference We have to put up with what
we can get; some men are better and
some are worse; but If one considers
posi- bilities, why, that is quite q diff
ferent thingI We would then describe
a hero, and heroes are not common; in
fact, / have not been fortunate enough
ever to meet one. Among men. as men
GO, some, of course. are nice and some
are impossible. 1t goes without saying
that an attractive man must be we'll
bred, and he must also be we'll groom
ed='tubbed looking -smartly dressed,
and all that. The way only nice Amer
leans and Engiishmen ever can look
Then ne must be manly, well up in all
kinds of sport, and modest, never talk
ing of what he does He must not be
too anxious TO please; in fact. he need
not try TO please at all It makes any
attention he shows much more datter
ing Success Of any kind in a man is
an immense point in his favor-in bust
ness, sport, politics. anything that
brings him to the fore. No girl actual
~ admires a purely society man. al
partners and other necessities in a bali
room. Sad to say, the nice men in So
ciaty are few and far between, and the
freaks and the it's are numerous.
What is a freak and what is an 'it?'
A freak is a man who goes to all sorts
of places; he floats around. and goes
with no particular set although one al
ways sees him at big balls and general
functions An it is a silly'-a 'tams
cat kind of person, and an attractive
man must not have any of the quail
ties of either"
How 10 Become Pretty.
How to become pretty! That is the
theme uppermost in q Woman's mind