The Saint Paul globe. (St. Paul, Minn.) 1896-1905, 1901-06-30
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Lucy Gray in a recent number of the
Kansas City Independent addresses a
sensible little sermon TO this years crop
Of young brides" and tells them as fol-
lows Row to make married. life Tic sue
cess it should always be-
June is the month of briles and Kan
sas City is now witnessing the usual rich
harvest. 1t is to these Young brides
happy-faced creatures in a perpetual
futter-that I want to address myself
The average young matron's library IS
Invariably overstocked with fat cook
books, volumes on babies, essays on gar
den!ng, helpful household hints, etc. but
never, by any cnance, a little brochure
or the management Of men
Now 1t is a woman's special business
to make her marriage a success. OF
course in marriage, as in commerce,
there must always be a small percentage
of absolutely unavoidable failures al
lowed for. But in nine cases out of ten
mai rlages would turn out comfortably
and happily enough If their respective
partners invested as much energy and
interest IN the marriage business as they
put into the affairs OF a literary or coun-
try club. If 1 marry a husband 1t is
equally my business to carry the part
ne, ship through to a happy and COM
Portable end
Now the marriage business is almost
entirely In feminine hands. Women are
very much in the habit OF complaining
that many professions and callings are
closed to Them because of their feminine
gender. They forget that the central and
leading national business Of marriage and
home making = lett largely to women.
1t Is very remarkable that woman, who
trains and eGUcates the entire family Of
citizens should cOvet the post of police
man or cultivate an ambition to direct
municipal drainage schemes.
1.-THE responsibility of making or mar
ring a marriage rests almost entirely with
the feminine partner. A man devotes
eight or ten daily hours to office or shop,
for it is his end of the business to keep
things al home going, his province, pleas
Ing or otherwise, to pay the bills. The
wlfes end of the business IS to manage
him and make the home happy and flour
ishing. She ought to put MS much energy
and vested capital into her department
as the man exercises in his business. A
strict attention to home business on the
part OF q womao usually results In
happy hous 2hcld unless she makes the
fatal mistake OF managing every other
branch in the home excepting the man!
There are ITO motives in managing a
man: One is to manage him to ones
own selfish ends, the other is to use tact
and discretion to the end Of making
better and happier man of him.
"Cynics say that women never learn by
experience Anyway most Of us know
wives who, out of pure cussedness, con-
tinue Gay in. day out, for quarter Of
a century the enc practice that they
know will exasperate the partner Of their
Joys and sorrows to the point Of homi-
eide A boy Of fifteen killed his sister
with a Ratchet. Arrested Immediately
after the deed he said in eXtenuation:
She wouldn't be lying there If she hadn't
nagged Which is the philosophy Of the
management Of a man in nutshell.
People rarely quarrel over the large
and important Issues of life. But they
will fight to the death about the things
that don't matter. In most families there
is some small bone Of discord, which
crops up again and again at every meal
a mean, contemplate cause Of strife that
none agree to bury decently once and for
all. Between husband and wife some
petty differences gradually grows which
touches each on the raw whenever it ap-
pears with Jack-in-the-boX regularity.
tactful, womanly management in the
early stages would prevent the stupen-
dous growing power of these matrimonial
bogies.
''The new woman asks why her sex
because nature has made the province Of
home-making the feminine end Of life's
business Goodness knows the modern
man works hard enough for his living in
the rough scrimma &c of commercial com
petition. Maybe mans temper is lit
tie short when he comes home from
work No doubt he has faced twenty
men with short tempers and small pa
thence in the course Of a business day.
His wife can eternally face one; and it
is the privilege Of her partnership to
soothe and amange a tired man after
hard day spent IN the turmoil of a city.
ut Is easy to manage to man if you
let him have his own way on half a dozen
small points If you interfere in these
you will have to take a back seat in the
matrimonial coach Manage him IN re-
gard to some idiotic little trifies light as
air. and you may make him your willing
and admiring slave for all time. Man IS
an easy-going mechanism on the whole
so long as he is handled with care and
consideration in the small things Of life
THAT woman who prides herself on al
ways 'blurting out everything in the
course of domestic councils must take
her place at the bottom Of the matri-
monial class, for she has never learned
the B c Of her wifely profession. It
Is well to remember that though It may
be good for a womans nature to be
open. like that Of a clocks face, IT is not
desirable to carry the comparison further
by telling all she knows
ION which precept perhaps hang all the
law and the prophets with regard to the
noble art Of the management Of men,"
HANDSOME GOWNS.
An exquisite evening gown recently de-