Wauwatosa news. [volume] (Wauwatosa, Wis.) 1900-1948, 1901-12-07
THE GIRLS MEN LIKE.
Dorothy Dix breaches a Little Ser
mon to Her Sex on the Art
o. PLEASING.

IN" other day Il young girl complained
to me that she was not admired by men.
Why, she asked, should some girls
always have hOT'les of beaux, while 9th
err girls just as attractive in every wa,
as far as anybody can see, never have
any: | am young. | am pretty, and
well-educated. and well-placed in soei-
iety, yet l am continually passed over
for girls VINO have not half of my adj
vantageS. Why is it?"
,'Ferhaps,'' | suggested, won Lack
adaptahility."
What do you mean by ,hat?" she in
quired.
Well" answered. last night. when
Jack. Graham was here. l heard you
arguing with hIm about Il play. You said
certain actor played il and lie said
scmc other one did"
Well she replied, triumphantly, ''and
was right, too"
All" | said, ''lAa: was the fatal
part Of 1t. II you had been wrong and
had allowed him to convince you Of
your error, und acknowledged his sune-
rltr information and wisdom, he Nigh.
have come back again"
Dc You mean" she exclaimed. THAT
/ mus 81 still, and let man carry his
point when know BETTER"
1t is the price of maa's Self-affac-
a
| went on seriously; My dear girl" /
SAID, the Woman VINO wants to he ad-
mlred hy men, and she is every moth
er $ daughter of us, has always to re-
member that men regard women not as
a necessity Of life. hut one of the luxu-
ries. \ mans real interest in the world
Is his business. and when he seeks q
woman's society, whether she be a girl
friend or his wife. it is Tor amusement
and entertainment. just as ne would g.
to the play, or read a book"
If the piav waS dull. he would ge
up and leave after the first act. II ths
book combatted his every idea and the
DRY. he would toss it aside. Ii more
women realized this there would be few =
er wives spenu"~ solitary evenings at
home. After hard days work, in
which he has fought out a hundred ques-
tions with business rivals and incompe-
tent clerks, no man wants TO come home
To- enter into joint debate 18th his
wife that lasts until bedtime. He wants
10 he Soolhed, to be admired to he de-
feTred ald looked IN 10. Still less does
any young man want to have his vanity
rntfied bv i. snip of a girl who stands
ready To dispute his statements ard
prove she is in the ripht. | should say
it's an even choice between wedding
ring and having your say i'll taIkfest
for no man in his senses is going to eS-
pouse woman with the arguing habit :
The tactful girl knows what to say
10 men, and what to leave unsaid. She
doesn't rub her college diploma and her
higher education in on honest John Poor
LtaN, Who has had 90 To work the min
ute he left the public school to support
his mother, She doesn't tell the old
beau. who has a mOnomania on thinking
he is still enc of the boys, to take the
only seat in the car because she likes
TO show Difference to old age. She
doesn't rave over athletics to little thin
chCSted bank clerks, or talk TO any man
about amy other living man.
On the contrary, she listens rather
than talks, though she can furnish con-
versation in plenty when she strikes the
silent man. She can absorb herself in
golf, or lake Il heart interest in the gro
Gerry trade, or enthuse over records, or
whatever the occasion demands. She
realizes the Scriptural ideal of being all
things to all men, and verify great is her
reward. There are no people so intelli-
gent as those who appreciate US
Next to this, | think the thing tina :
men like most in women is good nature
have never seen man yet who adj
mlred a sharp-tongued woman or want
ed to marry her. The clever woman
whose wit and sarcasm make people
laugh is appuaded sometimes, but She
is invariably shelved; 1t is honey, and
not vinegar, with which a trap for mas
cuiine flies must be baited. No man
likes to think thai ne may become the
target for the rldicule of a woman, OF.
that his wife may sharpen her wit on
his faults in the after-marriage period
Of existence. The woman who has good
natured liberation for the shortcomings
or others, and who can meet the inev-
ltahle bad quarters of an hour of life
with smile and n jest. has that which
makes her desirable as a companion and
invaluable as a wife.
Another thing that men like is sim
pllclty. Airs and graces don't go with
men, They make them tired. The girl
who can join in any kind of chorus.
even if she gets off the key now and
then, is more admired than IL Cave
VINO has to be coaXed to sing. Tine girl
men like IS the sort that can enjoy n
sandwich supper Just as much as she
can champagne and terrapin: who can
ne Just as Jolly or a hayride as she
conid on an automobile; who can laugh
Just as heartily over q negro minstrel
snow rs she could at Nat Goodwin. and
VINO Is always. at all times. ready 10
make the best of whatever comes along.
One OF the mistakes girls make most
frequently IS that in trying to attract
the ANIMATION of men. they overdo sonae
quality that they think men like. There
are many virtues in life that require to
be used with moderation. For instance.
Men like 4 girl to be well dressed
and present a good appearance, but they
do not like the poor creatures whose
brains are cut on the bias and shirred
in the middle.
They like the woman who laughs at
a good joke, but they loathe the chronic
gio"ler
They like eirl who reads. but they
don't want to he knocked down with
Il.sen and Matterlinck
They like girl to he athletic, but
they don't want an imitation man.
They don't like the girl who breaches.
but every man fears and breads the
woman who has no religion.
Finally. beloved, believe that there is
no difference between a mans ideal wom-
an and a woman's ideal woman. No
girl ever makes a greater error than
when she thinks that men admire quail
ties in a woman that other women do
not admire. 1t is woman's privilege ia
brighten life, and to be all that is sweet
est and tenderest. most gracious and
1. / l. Al I