The Savannah morning news., 1901-10-20
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

WOKLD.
rho Rev. E. T. Hardy discusses in
.,o philadelphia Times the kind of a
o. Girl should marry. In the course
,is article he says: Choice in mat
INV does not, as rule, come from
famale side. A refined girl will
take the initiative, but she has the
-oorsibility of refusing those who are
,.orgible. On what principle should
-,,. ne done? First of all, we would
-. that however handsome and agree
~, a man may be, he should not be
',orqht of as a husband if his char
ear does not commend itself to the
Ether and brothers of the girl. An
Itch magistrate asked a prisoner If
80 we're married. NO. replied the
.,or 20. then" said his worship, 'it
;s q GOOD thing for your wife," 1t is
indeed a good thing for woman not
=, have to live with liar, with thief,
with drunkafd, for twenty. or forty,
cr even sixty years.
A lazy man will make but weak hus-
hand or support for woman's house;
CO will one deficient in fortitude-that
&c the power to bear pain and trouble
without whining. Beware of the self
;sb man, for though he may be drawn
out of his selfishness in the early weeks
81 courtship, he will settle back into it
ooain when the wear and worry of life
come on.
To be happy in marriage, it is neces-l
cary to marry a gentleman in the
nroner sense of the word--that is to
cav one who is generous and unself-
ish who considers another's happiness
and welfare and not merely his own.
man who is bear to his sisters, dis
courteous to his mother, and careless
Of the feelings of servants and poor
relations is just the man to avoid
when YOU come to the great question
to be answered, yes or no.
A duck of a man" generally makes
4 goose of a husband, so it is wise to
choose for a husband one with lasting
qualities of heart and character. We
would not state a truth so obvious
were it not that some women say that
they like a man to be a little of rake,
lust a small garden one. If he is not
ali he ought to be before marriage he
is sure to reform after it, and so they
marry III a sort of missionary spirit.
hoping to turn him from the error of
his ways This is not a wise thing
TO do, for peoples character do not,
as a rule alter much after thirty years
of age. and if a man has a bad char
acter it is far more likely that he
will improve his wife off the earth by
bad treatment rather than that she
viii much alter him. The poor houses
are full of women who thought that
they could reform their husbands.
husband need not be handsome, but
he should be good looking, in the sense
of looking good morally and physical
ly. 1t is a risk to marry one in whose
face the Ten Commandments are con-
spicuous by their absence. when
see a man." says Addison, with a
sour riveled face, l cannot forbear pity
ing his wife; and when l meet with an
open, ingenious countenance, l think
Of the happiness of his friends, his
family, and his relations" We need
hardly say, however, that we do not
recommend a professional beauty, who
thinks that he is a lady killer. Why
should you have the trouble of keep
ing husband for the exclusive bene-
III of other women? When 1 marry"
said a budding schoolgirl, ''I'H want a
fine, tall broad. handsome man that
everybody will admire There's
where you are wrong said her elder
and more experienced sister. You'd
have much less trouble in watching a
less good-looking man."
The question, Does marriage hinder
woman's acknowledgment? depends.
says the Philadelphia Ledger, on what
is meant by self-development. If we
mean the drawing out of woman's
most essentially feminine qualities,
then assuredly she must marry, for
not to have known wifehood and mo-
therhood is to have missed the ''po-
tential best" out of life. Devotion to
husband and children often calls into
play heroic qualities, such as unset
ishness and self-sacrifice, and there
are many women who can never attain
to their highest level unless they have
something of their very own to love
and care for.
But, on the other hand if we mean
Development along intellectual lines
or the carving out a career, then, in
nine cases out of ten, marriage is a
hmdrance; it needs an exceptional wo'
man to carry on outside work and at
tend to her family and household at
the same time, and, alas! how few of
Us are exceptional women.
The ambitious girl who has dreams
OF making a name in the world, must
lace facts before she enters on the du-
ues and obligations of married life,
and take into consideration the little
worries of housekeeping, the hundred
and one small things that have to be
attended to-if she desires her hus-
bands comfort and happiness; so that
unless she can afford to pay some re-
nable person to look after her home
ana children for her, she cannot posi-
ply give up as much time as formerly
10 her work, and it inevitably suffers.
III course, there are women clever and
capable enough to manage their time
40 mat work goes on as usual and no
uuly is neglected, but they are the ex-
ceptlon, and it is the average woman
Wnom we have to consider and also
me average man, for there is no doubt
mat the husband plays a very inn
portant part in the wife's self-develop
ment
There are still a good many men
VINO believe that if their wives take
up any interests beyond the sphere OF
ue home, they and their children VIII
arrive at the unehviable position occu-
pea by the husband and family of Mrs.
Seiapy This is not a pleasant pros
P7et' so they encourage their wives to
GeFe.op along domestic and not along
Intellectual lines. And women, through
long course of hereditary training,
"eiuS adaptable creatures, suit them
aslEes to their environment, and grad
u'ly lose interest in all that does not
.oAcern their own immediate circle OF
reg ives and acquaintances.
everything depends on whether the
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