Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1901-09-22
COURTESY AND GOOD
MANNERS IN THE HOME.

ny MRS. nj RTON I<INGsLAND.
copyris Int. 1901. by Doubleday, Page & co.

tempers, good and bad. There are
4, some uncanonized saints who seem to
be non-conductors of moral electricity.
When others are cross, they turn a
deaf ear and pretend not to see, n
the cuIprits are grateful-after-
wards. Vasari says of the painter
Raphael thai ill-humor could not live
in his atmosphere. One can always
h. cheerful whether one is happy or
not. Good breeding is SO largely an
outward expression of an inward grace
that the bou~ndary-line between eti-
arette and ethics is often undisttn-
gUishable.
OF course no delicate or honorable
person opens another's letters. Even
the youngest children in the household
should have the pleasure Of opening
the letters addressed to them, and so
be trained into a recognition of the in
violable nature of personal cores
pondence.
Practical jokes are rarely INDUCED
in by persons of nice perceptions. anf
teasing passes the bounds of good tact
the moment it ceases to be a matter o.
pure fun on all sides.
Irq~uisitiveness is always bad form.
NnOH is YOU ittlti lIClh
makes your ayes so red?' are inter
ferences with ones rightful privacy.
A closed door should be respected and
give assurance Of seclusion. Liberty IS
the guaranteed enjoyment of lawful
rights.
The rough proverb Wash your dirty
linen at home carries a valuable
truth. One who is so ~disloyal as to
-- Z.4;IAr 1AryAyFar infi-
mate, anything to the discredit of Tue
family. deserves to forfeit all family
rights and privileges.
, And here let me enter a protest
against making ones family matters
newspaper property. There are no
terms strong enough to condemn the
vanity of parents who will lilo a
daughters charms, prospects. and adj
vantages to be advertised in the public
prints in this press-ridden country.
For some occult reason people are
sensitive to criticism of their clothes
and even of the prevailing fashion as
they wear it. Therefore do not say,
Great Scott. what a hat" but find
something to admire first, by way of
preface to adverse criticism. which
should be spoken in 2 manner to
arouse no a~ntagonism. For home crit
icism has its place and value, and
should not be resented if it be given
cuurte@uslv and not when under irrita-
ton. DO We not all know eccentric,
%unlovable people who have lived much
alone. with no one so nearly related
H. them as 10 venture to find fault
with them? The sooner that we recog-
nize the futility of family criticism,
the ooner We shall outgrow it.
Society requires that whatever their
private relations. husband and wife
face the world as a init appearing har-
mOnious and with interests identical.
Nothing Sc eheapens a married wo-
man and her husband in the eyes of
the world as her too evident effort to
attract the interest and admiration of
other men.
Filtration among married people is
growing more and more common. and
SO are divorces. Bad form can go no
further.
It has been said by a wise French
man that happy people need few
pleasures and when the world sees a
m to whom social success is the
aim and object of life. it guesses pretty
shrewdly that all is not right at home,
and no woman wishes to make a pres
emf of such a secret TO a captious and
critical world. Wome- are the custo-
dians OF the morality OF a nation ard
cannot hold themselves too high.
Time was, not so very long ago, when
in America. the bridal veil was no less
a symbol of withdrawal from socie-
ty than the one assumed in the clos
T. fer Dancing Irritation atfonFinu frC,,
other men. were all eschewed as a ma
ter Of course, and the young woman
gave herself all in all to the man of her
heart and choice. She was not neces-
sarily sacrificed; there was bliss in the
self-surrender, and divorces were then
almost unknown.
The simple and comprehensive phrase
used in the old Russian marriage cere-
may be suggested to some minds in
recalling such old-fashioned customs
and ideas, but such wives are the kind
still dreamed of by lovers of all tim. s
and countries. and they become such
mothers as Coleridge speaks of as the
hottest thing alive
Never should married people discuss
the peculiarities of one another in the
presence OF a third party Personalities
that are maze to do duty as family
jokes are never funny 10 the strang-
er.
For a wife to complain Of her husband
to any outsider. or a husband to con-
ride anything ~derogatory OF his wife ta
another. seems too heinous a fault 10
have its possibility believed. but such
things have been. A wife who in tn
confessional had been complaining u
the priest OF her husband had q seve e
penance appointed her. "You have on
fessed your husbands sins. and mus.
therefore do his p~enarce." was the
priests explanation.
All public displays of affection is in
equally bad taste, and is regarded with