The age-herald. [volume] (Birmingham, Ala.) 1897-1902, 1900-09-09
"she is a woman therefore to be won."

'She is a woman, therefore to be won.
Whom first we love few of us wed. Time
and experience which teach most things,
have taught men and women that whose
ever loves once is likely to love many
times more Those lovers, men and women
of whatever years, who deceive them
selves that they each have had but one
love would pursuade themselves that their
lives have been largely empty of the real
pleasures that come alone through affec-
TONS sometimes Swallowed way. No other
joy can approach that which comes of
masculine and feminine. devotion inter-
changing, and being true no other pain is
SO exquisite as that created of such de-
votion.
Women and men seek by varying meth
DDS or blindly to keep dormant the spirit
of attachment of the sexes and for vary
ing reasons, chief of which is reluctance to
brave the pain that is of it all inevitable.
The instinct of loving, one of the many
forms of human selfshness, is coordinate
with the instinct that warns of suffering.
More especially is this true of women, who
never yield their affection save in the ex-
haustion resultant from a bitter struggle
bctWScl tHiI SeHcIouS Impulses anu lHSlT
sense of self-protection. Women beat
down their hearts and cry of their hearts
mercy. They stifle their emotions and i'm
pulses as forewhisperings of danger that
they know inherently awaits them Away.
They are cold to men they yearn for and
are sunshine to men they contemn. The
inward suggestion that men whom they
are fond of may suspect them though un-
sought sends the hot blood of their mod
esty and their love rioting through blue
veins to pink fair faces, and what they
would they may not. They must be
sought, and even when sought by men
they wish to seek them they cannot bring
themselves to the low-sounding voice of
love you, love you, love you! Women
adore, accept, wed, live and pass loving
with singleminded devotion without ever
giving speech to the love words craved of
every lover.
In the essential of loving, as in many
other essentials of life, society and men
wrong women. They place them in false
attitudes and demand of them constant dis
sembling concerning things of vital import
in striking a balance in the great sums
of well-ordered existence upon the earth.
Women may not give the force of express
sion by action or words to their like or
dislike of men. They must dissemble.
Some strange order of nature impels them
to give men to whom they are Indifferent
the freest abundance of their smiles and
| their cheerfulness; and society aids nature
in such Inconsistency. They shall not seek
| men they wish to seek and when such men
seek them they throw out their porcupine
quilts in stout rebellion. Most men, being
vain and unobservant, are unable to per-
ceive the difference, and thus new Incl
dents are constantly added to the worlds
| tale of sorrow. These men who force
| themselves upon women are without the
| saving grace of common modesty, and
| women refuse to enlighten them. So they
| become common bores of society, vulgar
| stumbling blocks to men whose merits are
| entitled to consideration they never re-
| ceive. The bores ask for women by self
| given right, thereby interfering with the
| arrangements and purposes OF reputable
men, whom it is too easy for them to drive
| away. Intelligent well-bred men sell
| dom contend with bores and fatheaded per-
| sons for the possession of women. however