The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1900-04-22
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

The New York Journal printed in its
Sundays issue several articles on the sub
ject of the ACCESSIBILITY of a young man
who is ambitious to have great career
taking a wife On this subject Charles
Dana Gibson said: 1.-THE man who said
"a young man married is a young man
marred, was right. lie was also wrong
It is a question that is wholly absorbed in
the bigger ones, Has the young man mar
ried the right woman" Whether mar
rage has made him or marred him dep nds
entirely upon the answer 60 that ques ion.
Whether he be twenty or thirty or 70 ty
when he meets her is an inconsiderable
item. Whatever his age he would better
marry her at once if she will allow him
If he is twenty-eght when he meets iler
and decides that he will wait until he IS
thirty-fve 10 marry, he IS likely TO loses
her, TOR other men may NOT have such cool
pulses and such calm foresight There Is
every likelihood Of her falling in love with
and marrying a more nearly normal man
while he is achieving success in other
lines.
1t is inc ~prehensible to me that mar
rage SIM - 4AAclItlG Win d 9ONA5 iihA .
career, n everything depends upon that
proviso-he marries the right w1man.
If he has married the right woman mis-
career will be successful and his life VIII
be happy. She will be a good woman,
woman of Ideally, and yet supplied with
plenty of durable common sense. She Will
be ambitious for him, and she VII be
healthy of mind and body. She Will be his
living aspiration. A man cou.d not Cesire
better Certainly il could not be found
his own sordid determination 10 get on"
You will find that those who carp at
marriage are generally the unmarried. l
don't know why any one should listen to
them. Theirs are certainly not the Opin
ions of experts Pit the happily married
against the unhapply married man for
discussion There win be need of an ar
bitrator and the arbitrator will decide
that it all depends upon the woman
whom the man marries.
1t is never safe or just TO generalize
about women any more than il is to gen
eralize about men. Men are not all alike,
and women are still further from H. a
man should consider himself, not his
neighbor, and his own needs and choose
the woman who is adapted to them. If
he selects a wife haphazard he will regret
1t. as he deserves to do. A man should
certainly give as much time and thought
to the selection of wife as TO the plan
of his days work. Most men give much
less. AllSldheI marriages are more OLtrit
the fault of the man than the woman.
Their unhappiness is due more 10 this
lack of foresight than hers. There are
no home worries for the man who has
married the right woman. She eliminates
them all. There is scarcely anything else
IN the life of the man who has married
the wrong woman"
But there is another picture, a reverse
view. The man who has married the
wrong woman is the man marred. He
may succeed, but his chances are less than
If he remained unmarried; infinitely less
than if he had not made a mistake in
thinking she was the right woman.
If she is the wrong woman she will
dominate his work in a mischievous way.
Her peccadilloes will harass his magma
ton and shut out the ambitious end he
has in view. Her selhshness by distract
ing will stultify him and his work. The
petty, vain woman, whose thirst for ad-
miratiOn cannot me quenched, is always
the wrong woman.
The eXtravagant woman whose one
thought is to equal or exceed che dis
play made by her neighbors is the wrong
woman. The quick-tempered. hysterical
creature is the wrong woman for any
man.
1t is such women as these who breed
the home worries chat are unquestiouably
foes to mans success.
They are a weight and an irritant. They
eiiG al btSt Il Sci 4OAS udilliCdD.
On the same subject Mr.. Andrew Car
negie wrote:
Well, l take it that nearly all young
men have decided, just as soon as posi-
BILE, to ask "a certain young lady 10
share his lot, or perhaps his lots, and, of
course, he should have a lot or two to
share, and this is very serious business
indeed. and gives rise TO many weighty
considerations.
BE sure to marry woman with good
common sense" was the advice given me
by my mentor, and just hand il down to
all young men as the solution Of the mar
rage question
Common sense is the most uncommon
and most valuable quality in man or wo-
man.
But before young men have occasion TO
provide themselves with a helpmate there
comes the subject Of wealth-not wealth
in millions, but revenue sufficient for mod
est Independent living.
The greatest work men and women can
perform is 90 establish on earth a happy
virtuous, refined, earnest home
On the same subject Mr.. De Lancy
Eicholl had the following to say:
Why should young man marry?
The cynic opposed to all marriages de-
clares: "A young man, not yet-an old
man, not at all"
AS epigram this may be amusing,
but there will be few sympathizers with
Shakespeare hath it. "a young man
married is a man that's marred" But
elsewhere he declares that the honorable
forehead Of married man is preferable
10 the bare brow Of a bachelor"
But who is a young man.
There are some young men who are
very, very old. Ana there are some old
men who are very, very young. If by a
young man is meant a man under thirty
then I say that all young men should
marry II they love a virtuous young wo-
man and have the means Of supporting
her.
But there are some things they must
avoid.
No young man ought TO marry a wo-
man his senior in years. She will become
old while ne is still young. She Will never
appreciate his enthusiasms or forgive his
youthful fOllies. Women become old be
fore their time. Nature never intended
them to be different from men in this re-
spect, but fashion and habit have made
them 50. Men keep young by exercise, &C.
ffTifv ard 0rcuUafiOn. Few women kUoU