The Savannah morning news., 1900-10-14


waite matters
Don't Din your faith 10 the married We
man. she may not tell her own secrets
60 her husband. but she's sure 60 tell
yours
"By tho byc. someone has said that the
difference between a mans aud Wo-
mans reliability is-that he keeps anoih-
cr's secrets bur tells his own, while she
guards her own. but bctrays anothcrs.
and I believe there's a good deal Of truth
IN this statement
A party Of women were going TO the
Paris exposition grounds Ia an omnibus
and each ono paid her own fare. gays the
New York Tribune when the driver coi-
lected the money from the box into which
tho fares were dropped he found the
amount short lie stopped TO tell a wo-
man seated nearest 10 him that one fare
was missing She told him she thought all
had paid. hut De shook his head v.gor-
ouslv Won nour said he Where1pon
she turned 60 the others and asked them
in French II they had an paid The renly
was a chorus OF "Oul" oppar nifty from
an sides but the driver still protested
The passengers became Indignant the
man shouted and gesticulatsd. and for a
while pandcmonium rcigned Finally the
driver yielded. though uuwilhngly. 10 the
force % numbers. ana turned again to
his horses crumhliug over the meannesa
or the foreign Vtsitors Meanwhile. IN a
corner ~ the omnibus sat little Ameri-
can woman. wide eyed and astouished.
the only passenger who did not know 4
word OF French. When quiet was restored
she said gently ia English. Well really
! don't know what all that fuss was about
hut now that IL g. alt over, VII YOU please
hand up my fare! I haven't had chance
10 nay it yet. that horrid man seemed to
be so impudcnt about something!
\ Correspondent % Ella Wheeler VIII
cox recently asked her:
"WnI Won kindly eel me whether or 10
n Young girl should give up the prospects
Of a brilliant future TO become a wife
Il know OF a young lady who, though
she viii have to work hard FOR several
years 10 come. viii finally be singer,
she has met With a man who cares for
her. and the feeling 81 rcciprocated lie
is well able 90 support her and ie old
enough 10 know his own mind She hes
uates 10 give up her freedom aud. more
than that. her ambition" Extract from
4 letter signed An Interested Friend"
The poetess replied az follows IN the
New York Evening Journal;
The woman who hcsiatea should not
marry. II she s thinking already what a
sacrifice she must make in giving up her
career. now mach stronger will be her
regret a. time wears on ana romance
hecomos q reality
She will make poor wife. For the
mans sake rnther than for her own.
would ufge her 20 give up any idea Of
marriage.
one Of the most pathetic objects on
earth 80 mo is good home-loving hus-
band with stage-struck wife.
or course. the life OF a great singer is
a brilliant one while 30 lasts. II requires
more than a fine voice however. to bring
success In this profession.
II requires temperament. feeling. mag
netlsm ana constant sclf-coutrol ana self
denial The prma donna must deny her
SELF az every turn OF the hourRlsas She
must avoid the temptations Of the table
She must keep regular hours. She must
expend fortune upon the cultivation Of
her voice before u will bring her "a compe-
tcnce. She mus. work unceasingiy 90
keep her voice after she has developed
10.
We have few great slngers-not because
few people have great voices. but be-
cause few have the character and self
denial necessary 80 reach the goal, No
other talent Is 20 arbitrary in It's demands.
before Il will yield the whole worlds
applause.
Few men could be happy a. the husband
n q great singer for her voice nos her
husband, would OF necessity he her fui
consideration.
This young woman needs 10 be- very sure
that she has an the qualities for a bril-
liant future as a singer before she gives
40 her lover. Bnt Of course she is. Almost
every woman believes she has the posi-
bll.ties OF a great actress IN her. I think
1 have heard thousand women ln private
iifc say that thcy missed their calling by
not going on the stage.
u is "a very foolish lover who will over
persuade stage-struck girl-Ono who has
made any advance toward carecr--to
give up her ambitions and marry him
Better let her become disiliusionod with
herself and the career first or else
achieve the success she longs for
II she docs neither and becomes his wife
she As rarely happy Always there
runkles the thought in her mind that she
could have been "a great actress The
hardship the work the waiting. the
many sacrifices ana small rewards. com
p1radvcly speaking OF the most success
ful actress life she rarely stops TO- con
slider. tine might have been" s. . bright
Elusive dream. always before her vision
and through which her husband and chill
dren are shapes seen dimlv
No woman has q right TO marry unless
she rs willing 90 give the fullnese OF her
heart and love and devotion 20 tho profcs-
sion % wife ana mother n she loves some
other vocation better than she loves the
role she had better leave the lat
ter to some woman who Is fitted for a.
10 D. easier for mon to get over the
grief OF losing q sweetheart than 20 on
durc the martyrdom % living with q wife
who IS always longing FOR theatrical