The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1900-04-25
MARRIAGE AND SUCCESS.
IL the One q Bar to the Other.

Is marriage bar to professional success for
an ambitious man or woman? NO.
Nothing is bar to g. man or woman VINO
has any real genius for any real thing: A
fence is simply something TO jump over when
there's something worth getting on the other
side of the fence. The man whose success Is
spoiled oy marriage never had any real sue
tell you that he is nobody's enemy but bis
own, for the very good reason that he ls TOO
worthless TO create or hold even such small
We've all met the genius who would aston
ish the world II he could only get rid OF an un-
fortunate prediction for stimulants.
the popping ofa cork either has an abnormally
developed sense OF hearing or else his genius is
ofa fragile order little suited to this rough
world OF stress and strain. The man whose
success In life Ia marred by marriage would
remained single all bis days.
Marriage is not the end Of the aim Of e1is.
tence. It's side assure, very ipportanII,
not the only affair In life. Marry by sll means,
happily II you can, unhappily II you must,
and 60 ou and make your life what 1t must be
At least you have tried to do the normal
thing. II 1t turns out badly make the best OF
1t. Ifyou are worth your salt the misery you
undergo will help and not harm the develop
ment Of your especial talent. t...
Success What Is success? The man who
puts his soul into his work. And no man, be
he great or small wise OF simple, finds his soul
until he marries. Oh, yes know the type oil
small-spirited wife, nagged and tortured and
driven half mad by her petty tyranny. That
will not ipjure his art. Ifhe meets his mis-.
cry like q man 1t will make man OF him,
and IT takes man to do mans work In the
world-take any profession you please as q
tool. .. %.
Who knows how much xantippe had to do
with the philosophy which made Socrates
hQnnv
setting TO any life an unhappy marriage Is
poor setting. Neither Of them can perman.
emily afrectthe real gem ofcharacter or attain.
ment In ITSELF
Women
Is marriage bar to professional success to
them?
Itis not. Itis a help to success.
enough to throw the whole world aside as q
foolish bubble for his sake is only half
woman.
The woman who never held against her
heart the child ofthe man she loves is but a
foolish infant, prattling Of things she wots
not Of beside the hum blest creature alive who
has felt the divinity of motherhood.
Marriage is the only key which unlocks the
closed heart of the world to woman.
Marriage developes woman, and anything
that develops her helps her TO success.
Is professional success bar to happy
marriage7
Ah, there is the other side of the shield.
The actress plays her part all the'better for
the home she left 10 60 10 the theatre.
The artist who knows what marriage means
paints better picture than the single woman
Of the same ability.
The writer who has shut out the warm glow
Of her heart for the sake of writing-who can
question that her work is better fer the love
she leaves behind her?
But the home the actress leaves, the bus.
band the artist forgets the child the writer
must neglect how do they fare?
Not SO Well. Believe me. uot at all so we'll.
Marriage is not a bar TO professional success,
either to man or woman.
But professional success is bar to happy
marriage.
That IL not serious affair from the mans
point of view. From the womans-how
serious everything Is from the womans point
of view!