The times. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1897-1901, 1900-11-25
WHEN A MAN MARRIEs.
Mrs. Sage Has Something to Say
About Ii.


About Ii.
Mrs Russell Sage has an article in
Fashions giving her opinion as to the
amount Of money necessary for a young
couple to start life together in the social
world of New York Here are her ideas:
The income necessary for young couple
starting out in life together in New York
and wishing to continue in the fashionable
set is altogether relative. The lowest pos
sible figure is S., 600 year. but it could be
done for that by careful expenditure and the
wholesale and wholesome disregard of opera
boxes theatre tickets, carriages, etc.
Many young men with rich fathers make
the mistake of depending on them for their
future support, and for that reason make
no effort to obtain employment for them
selves. / have case in mind OF this sort
that of young man who had a wealthy
father and never considered the possibility
of misfortune overtahing him. This young
man was in love with a rich girl but she
did not care for him. and eventually he
married q woman with no money at all; but
as he had plenty from his father, 1t didn't
matter. Financial disaster overlook the
parent, however, and in consequence the
son became penniless. Then ii was that
the rich girl whom he had formerly loved
showed her noble nature. Unknown TO any,
one. she gave the young couple financial
assistance until the youthful husband OBJ
tanned employment.
Much stress is often laid upon the fact
that wealthy men are on the lookout for
wealthy husbands for their daughters.
This is not so. AS a rule ia Their prefers
to see his daughter married to a good,
honorable, ambitious young man who has
no fortune rather than to an idle, fash
ionable fop who cares for nothing in life
but clubs. clothes, and 4 competency.
Poor young men should not allow false
pride TO stand in the way of their accept
ing the love of rich girl, for IL a man
has ambition the fortune is but stepping
stone TO mis- goal.
Sometimes, however, the thing doesn't
work out so we'll. ] remember distinctly
the case of a young man who was a very
promising architect expected great
things of him. He married a very wealthy
girl. Well, she simply ruined him-carted
him off to Europe, on the go all the time.
II he attempted to settle down to work
she pouted and suiked until he quit, and
altogether she smothered every spark of
ambition there was in him. Now he is a
all because he married
rich girl.
In regard TO the marriage OF young peo-
story in mind OF young man who was
employed in Mr.. Sage's Office at a salary
II $50 a month. He was nineteen years of
age and fell in love. He came TO me and
asked me to intercede with Mr.. Sage that
he might receive an increase OF salary and
thus be enabled TO marry. ] told him l
would do nothing OF the sort until he was
twenty-one and old enough to vote
when. perhaps, he would be old enough
10 marry. At that time / considered him
worse than a goose; he was mere gos-
ling. When he was twenty-one Mr.. Sage
gave him the desired increase and he mar
ried. In about a years time he came to
my husband with the news that a baby
had been born TO his wife and naturally
there were additional expenses. Mr.. Sage
again increased his salary. The follow
ing year he again appeared with the news
Of another arrival and an itemized list of
expenses he had been forced to meet.
Among the items was s24 for shortening
the first baby's dresses.