The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1900-03-20
A HUSBANDS UNsPcKgN LOVE.

HUSBANDS UNSPCKsN LOVE.
DEAR AUNT JENNIE:-AlloW me to
flin your lnEeTes Ing Oand, and permit
ma space to say a few words concern
ing the treatment Of a wife by her hus
band.
Too many husbands treat their wives
altogether as If they were nothing but
genteel drudges-the manager Of their
homes and nothing more. If a man
marries a woman simply to acquire a
coed house keeper, and the woman
knows it It the time, I have nothing to
cav. But If a man marri.s q woman
10 be his wife, in all which that term
implies, then let him treat her as a
wife. Simply to provide we'll for her
is not enough. A man of generous
impulses would do that much for any
womau-any mere house keeper who
keeps Ms hous e in order. A wife il q
little more than that-at least, she
should be.
Here Is where the unfortunate Ameri
can greed for gold comes in. Men are
500 apt to measure everything by liza
standards. They think that if they
give their wives every material thing
they want, their wives ought to be
perfectly happy. just as in business
employ ers think that all their employ
ess want Is more salary. Bat the kind
--wI ~ ~wnNun rRrn~ rNaU &nwrhcR in
busiD esq than mere compensation.
Hundreds of wives today would ap-
preciate one loving word from their
husbands more than all the wealth and
comforts lavished upon them. To be
given plenty 10 eat and plenty to wear
is but a p o lr Offering to a heart that lie
longing for the expression Of a hus-
bands love. The stomach cannot feed
upon that which is not given: and
she heart cannot be enlightened by
that which is not told.
l believe ia little acts of considera-
zion SHOWN by husbands to wives, they
are the very essence Of life. But some
thing must be added, and that some
thing is an expressed love. And il
silent appreciation is killing ID q Wite's
endeav1rs silent love q il Fl aitely worse,
We have by far o much of this I'm
spoken Election ia our homes. Hus
bands make altogether too little of
their wives. II they would make more
Of them the world would be the
brighter for it.
B3tOIe marriage men like to tell
their s FeeG hearts how much they are
10 them; after marriage they are COG
tenE with the same declaration every
ten da5 or months. Tne ssream of
love thai S CRY stall at the start becomes
too much of a sluggish stream "a iG
19Es. Il dceen'E hurt q wife to be
told by her husband that he loves her.
L never did and iE never will.
I make no foolish, sentimental plea.
l DO not say that a husband ought to
tell his wife every time he sees her
how much he loves her. But some
husbands ought to tell their wives
more often than they do. Uaspoken
love is one of tie most dangerous
moths in our domestic happiness.
1--we is more to a woman than it is
to a man. It is her very existence
"A the f1wers bloom in the home, so
is the heart of the wife in it.
Ole would imagine that some young
men used up their pretty sayings be
lore marriage judging tiom their
economy afEerwardsl
Such is the case of many turning
after they have the privilege Of hold
iag a Calm in some sweet and pretty
y0ung lady for a life time. o., zee;
he Can then eit back and chew his own
s5oacco or em IKE his old pipe, while
his wife tolls in trying to keep the
home in perfect order so az TO try and
lake everything pleasant for his own
c1lturE Then many are the times
sac never gets one bind or a sfectionate
word from him. On, ye husbands OF
Ia tacugh5, you cannot real.z9 the
525a you are causing the one to whom
IN other days you often t2ld your love,
"a1 was the b:ide OF your choice.
Fearing I will occupy too much
.1se= IN your columns / will bid you
I'll aGseu for Ghis time.
By the way, | cont want my read
"a 10 th}Ik I'm numbered as one on
'ae ma rid list for I'm only a girl of
z@VeGtt en- summers. Hence will spend
4Epy more years single, which I imag
ne Is by far the better, especially il
gu rave a cross, sore headed man to
c,0teD6 with. Lovingly.
FSTETIF.