The Jasper weekly courier. [volume] (Jasper, Ind.) 1858-1922, 1900-08-03

Should q Poor Mas Marry Rich Girl.
Should a poor young man marry
a rich girl? Never, if he can help
lit.
II is astonishing what number
OF heart-breaking and life-breaking|
mistakes we can prevent if we try.
A young widower, who bore the|
burdens of motherless child, de-
pendent mother, a pair Of ne'er-do-
we'll brothers, debt and a promise to
a dying wife that he would never
take a successor for her, told mel
that he would never marry again i'll
he could help tin short, not un
less he found that he could not live
without particular somebody. He
proposed the next week, and found
that he could "help" 1t. The
young woman's answer was a ono"
that was masculine in its unmis-
Itakeableness. The widower is still
lalive and still unmarried. He has
found that we can 'help" the SEEM
Iingly impossible.
If poor young man is tempted
to marry rich young woman, he
should put few pointed questions
to himself.
Can / endure the hidden sneers of
every one know?
Can | ask my wife for money?
Can | bear papa-inlaw's disre-
spect and namma-in-law's tyranny?
Can | make my wife believe that
| love her for herself alone?
If l can do all these, can l ever
live down the stigma of having
'feathered my nest"
The wise young man proves his
wisdom by answering to each and
Jail. "No."
The obsetvant world is conscious
of a great lessening of respect for a
poor young man who marries rich
young woman. 1t lays down the
public prints in which the fact is
proclaimed, and smiles, and the
smile is not hattering to the BRIDE
groom.
1t smiles, too, when it reads that
a poor young couple has been in
duced, by the promise oil bedroom
or kitchen set, to have their mar
riage made public spectacle at a
fair or bazar, but the smile is tine
tured with respect. For the young
man and woman who are married
at the fair have "started even," and
this barter of public spectacle for
household goods is a purely busi-
ness affair, and at least shows the
enterprise of both.
The world has enough sentiment
and enough taste left in this ultra
practical age to rebel, though Sc
cretly, against transaction in
hearts. 1t sneers at the poor young
|, man engaged in nest feathering by
, matrimonial means, and it will 60
on sneering. For it presupposes-
and it is curiously obstinate in that
that the young man has but one
motive for such match, and that
motive is money.
"You've won charming woman.
You're a lucky chap" it says by
way Of congratulation. but if the
young man listens for the undertone
in these speeches, it will sound much
like ''fortune-huntsr."
The healthy, capable young man
has the world of success before him
from which to choose. Given 80
per cent. of ability and 80 per cent.
of determination, and the SUM is
success.
Suppose the poor young man who
marries the iich young woman
achieves success, it is discounted by
the statement. "But you know he
married rich wife," and the inter
rogatory and deprecatory "Ah!"
that follows.
One Of the few unmixed joys of
life for a man il that Of laying his
success at the feet Of the woman for
whom he has won it. If the woman
is rich one, whom he has married
she will think, and she may even,
say: 'But you haven't done this
alone. Did not | give you your
start? Don't forget my money"
And their Joy is no longer un-
mixed.
Il is one Of a mans inalienable|
rights, if he be fortunate enough to|
be an American, to make his way in
life unaided. He voluntarily robeI
himself Of this, as we'll as the respect
OF his fellows, by marrying woman|
richer than himself.
"Can | ask my wife for monsy?"l
That is the pitiable thing a poor|
young man who marries rich wo- |
man must do. A young profes-