The Pacific commercial advertiser., 1900-12-15
PARENTS IN
THE HOME
Sermon BY Rev. ". N.
Kincaid.
SIXTH IN TIE SERIES
"Take Heed That Ye Despise Not
One Of These Little Ones,"
Says the Bible.

on the making of happy home, now
being delivered at Central Union
church by the pastor, Rev. w. M. Kim
caid. This one is on The Father and
Mother in the Home:
IL is a sacred hour in a home when
the frst baby Is porn ana iaid IN the
arms OF the young father ana mothet-
1t Is a new marriage. 1t draws their
lives together into cloSehess shey
have not known before. 1t is the nnai
seal upon their welded love; the clos
ing b,nediction of the marriage cere-
mony. Ii touches chords in their neal Is
that have lain silent until now IL CANS
out powers that have never Deeh eAei
cised before. No deeper. purer JOY 10
ever .experiencd in this world than the
10y of a man and a woman VINO are
truly mated on the birth OF their nrst
child They must be veryeworidly, m
deed and devoid of senSlDlnty, VINO w
not also feel some awe as tney peh'
together over the new craule. Inc Hiys
terry of human life comes very near,
and never seems more wonderful. Il
think that the most wonderful DOOR
that could be written would be the BOOK
i'm which an angel should write all lIe
thoughts that pdss through Iue
mothers mind when she first hears lne
crv of her child and knows that II Is
horn into the world, and rejoices In the
midst of her WEAKNESS and pain. Inc
Laughing. needless girl of year ago Is
transformed in an hour into thousht-
full woman. Let the gay party De ;'Neh
now. and the giddy dance whirl rouhd.
and the lights glisten; she that le"
rnontbs ago was a belle, courted on
every side. her highest joy apparently
TO be the admiration of others, Is now
n mother Behold her, in little cot
tage. with no great wealth; with, IL
may be- only a very moderate cohpe
fence. With no witness; with none 10
praise and for most of the hours or the
dav. with no companionship but lit
tie babe and "a babe that cannot SING
To- her but can only cry to worry her
that cannot even look at her to know
her. There is nothing to relieve the
tedium of her life except this little one.
Behold her wonderful gladness OF IA
tigue: her unwiIlingnesS to divide her
care with any: her heroic sacrihce OF
all that is brightest and best IN hAe'
with no prospect OI any reIauneralioh
except the saIsfacti zion she lSels u
serving that little helpless atom OF hu-
manity 1t is her Joy 10 take her papc
sick or we'll night ana day, and pear IL
I'm motherly arms. Whence tins sud-
den transformation in which pride aTc
selfishness seem dead in her, ana her
life is transmitted into a constant sac
tttce7 Nor is il simply the young VIE
less unsettled youth leaping into man
ly strength and fixedness of character
as he looks into the face OF MS child
and takes it into his arms. He, TOO, IS
made To partGipate III the bounty anu
culture OF love. New aims rise up Ds-
fore him, new impulses stir his neart'
Life takes on new and deeper mean
f. ing. There comes to him new reVe-
Iation Of God and his love. No man
knows who God is until he has become
"A father; for no man knows what fath-
erhood is until he has felt the pulsa-
tions of fathers love in hiss own
heart. 1t is as true now as i'm the
olden time that the sign of Gods pres
ence in an earthly home is the babe In
the cradle. 1t is only when children
come. as they should come into every
home that is "a true home, that life be-
comes real, and that husband and wife
begin to learn how To live. No home
ever yet came to it's perfection unless
there was a child in it. Mr.. Beecher
says: Men and women cannot be de-
veloped perfectly who have not been
compelled to bring children Up To man
hood and woniannood. You might as
we'll say that a tree is a perfect tree
without leaf or blossom, as to say that
"a man is a man. or woman a woman
who has gone through life without ex-
periencing the influences that come
from bending down and giving ones
sell UP TO tnOSe VINO are nelDleSS dnC
little" Another leading thinker says
"A child softens and purifies the heart
warming and melting 1t by its gentle
presence; II erriches the soul by new
feelings and awakens in IT what is ia
vorable to virtue. 1t is a beam of light
fountain of love. teacher whose les
sons few can resist. 1t brightens the
home. deepens love. invigorates exer
tion. infuses courage. and vivifes anC
sustains the charities of life" Well ha.
the poet sung:
"A dreary place would be this earth,
Were there no little people in it,
The song of life would lose it's mirth
Were there no children to begin il
1he sterner souls would grow more
stern,
unfeeling natures more inhuman
And man to stole coldness turn,
And woman would be less thar
woman"
When the children come into tn
earthly home, what do the father an,
mother owe to them?' The parents ar
the builders of the home. From then
II receives its character, whether goo
or evil. IL will be just what they max
II. If IL be happy. they must be tn
authors of the happiness; if it be un
happy, the blame must rest with then
Its tone, it's atmosphere it's spirit II
iniiuence-it will take from then
They have the making of the home 1
their own hands. And this responsj
bility rests upon both parents. / kno,
there Is most real sense in which tn
mother Is the real home-maker 1t
from her that the child receives 1t
first Impressions. In-all it's educatio
and culture she comes the closest to 4
Her spirit makes the home atmosphere
yet the divine law makes the father tn
head of the household, and lays upo
him as such the responsibility for tn
upbuilding Of his home. the training c
his children. and all the sacred inter
ests OF the family How many father
seem to forget this They do not seer
to realize that any share of the burde
and duty of making the home-life be
longs to them. They leave ii all to tn
mothers. They come and go as if the
we're scarcely more than boarders 1
their own house, with no active inter
est In the welfare Of their children
They plead the demands of business a
the excuse for their neglect. Socrate
used to say that he wondered how me
who were so careful of the training O
n colt were so indifferent to the bring
Ing up Of their children. The father