The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-11-17
Wooing and Wedding
Told To HonoIuIans.
SERMON BY VIM, KINCA|D
Powerful Discourse by the Pastor
of Central Union Church
Sunday.


Heart on 1.-The Making of a Happy
Home" the subject being, ''Wooing and
wedding" He took for his text Gen.
29 20, And Jacob served seven years for
Rachael; and they seemed unto him but
a few days, for the love he had to her.
He said in substance:
The making of true home begins be-
fore there is home; it begins in the days /
when the life-choices are made. There
are many unhappy marriages. There are
families sheltered in houses which are |
not homes. happy home does not come |
as a matter of course because there has
been a marriage ceremony, with plighted
vows and ring and the minister's Whom |
God has Joined together, let no man put
asunder, and a benediction. happy
home has to be planned for, lived for, sac
rifced for and often suffered for. There
must be wise choosing before marriage,
or the making of happy home may be
impossible. At few points in life is di-
vine guidance more needed than when the
lquestion of the choice of a life-companion
is to be decided. A mistake then will cast
Its shadow down all the years to the close
| of life. Many a promising career is
blighted by a foolish marriage.
! The good old-fashioned Quaker mar q
riage has always seemed to me nearest
the truth of God in which both the man
and the woman declare, the ground of
their coming together, that they have
been moved to the deed by the Holy Spirit
That brings God not only into the we'd
ding but into the wooing, and makes Him
the Matchmaker, and / doubt not mat
| is the reason why SO large a proportion
of the Quaker matches turn out so well.
Any way, you never hear of Quaker
couple getting into the divorce court Ev-
cry true match is made in heaven, and
all true men and women who believe this.
and act on it, find something of heaven
in their matches.
1 approach the theme, this evening, with
much hesitation. 1t is topic not often
dealt with in the pulpit. There are some
experiences in life so sacred that one
hesitates to speak of them in public. He
knows that he cannot speak with abso-
lutte frankneSS. And yet shall religion,
which has a word of counsel for every
otner epoch of life, stand silent, when
the young man and woman are about to
enter upon this most vital of all relation
SHIPS, speaking no word of warning
, against the dangers attending the step.
or offering no suggestions as to its OPP
. portunities and blessings? Surely not.
The religious teacher has a duty and a
, responsibility here as well as elsewhere
There comes time in the experience OF
every true youth when life suddenly takes
on a new aspect, receives a new inspira-
ton, becomes possessed of a new power
, woman enter into a new relationship with
one another. Let me illustrate what
mean from this old world love story from
= which the text is taken
e Jacob reaches The well at Hanan at the
+ hour when it was customary for the shep
herds of the neighborhood to water theil
, fiocks. Some were already there. anC
they were waiting for their whole numbe
s to assemble in order that they might
e with their united strength, remove thu
n heavy stone that formed the covering o
the well. Suddenly Rachael fair as tn,
early dawn, and innocent as the lambs
she guided, comes near. 1t seems to hav
e been case of love at first sight" He
e presence fires the dormant passion within
Jacobs heart. He gathers up his strength
and, unaided, rolls the stone from tn
mouth of the well. Jacob makes know
: his love for Rachael to her father, an
=. according to the customs of that day en-
: tiers into an agreement to the effect tina
Z he shall win her by giving her father sew
Il en- years of continuous service And thi
1t stipulated service Jacob gave without
o grudging, and then, being cheated h
r gave seven years more; and we read. 9TH
: years seemed unto him but as few day
II for the love he had to her" In all hi
cheouered career, Jacob never appear
n tc better advantage than when he is ST.
n ing for Rachael. Love ruled him. an
W love is the chief of the graces. A ma
who loves honestly and truly is always
=, man at his best. A man who loves thu
81 is pretty sure to give honest service
1t the world. He will also hold pure an
lie honest theories about love. Such low
al purifies him; it civiliZes his conscience
:, it refines his passions; it lays the founds
- ton of ethics deep in his nature. HenC
'e the coming into a mans life of such
ir love in the form of a Rachael is one {
O. the greatest gifts of God. There is n
IF greater power that can come into man
:. soul than the power that emanates frol
- the love of pure and noble woman,
love that never changes except to gro
stronger; a love that divides every though
and feeling; a love that turns servic
III into song-such a love transforms an
Id transfigures.
n We parents who have entered into tn
g experience have a duty toward our boy
20 and girls who are growing up to be youn
% men and women under our eXperienc
H. We are to prepare them for it, not by isl
h, lating them from each other, but h
ic teaching them how to grow up togeth,
III in sweet and simple intimacy, by pr
:, noting an acquaintance that will develc
aS into friendship; that friendship may d.
d. velop into love.
D. And then, ii is our sacred duty to teac
rs them the true meaning of that mucl
q abused word love. Blessed the boy ar
- girl who have grown up in a home whei
~ the father and mother have not forgotte
IN to be lovers, where there is a perpetu
at honeymoon and alas for the boy and gi
at who live in a house that is held togetn'
- only by the four walls, and not by Il
- love which is the bond of perfectness. "
Sn need to teach our boys and girls how
On distinguish between true love and /
ne lcounterfeit-passion. Passion is selfis
Of thinking only of itself, and of anoth
- lonly as means of disqualification: 10y
~ is unselfish, thinking only of how it ms
is sacrifice itself for it's loved one. Passit
it is sensuous, feeding on outward beau'
IN alone; love is spiritual, looking benea
20 the mask that everyone wears, and Sc
:, ling the beauty within. Therefore passit
'di is transient, but love never failetn."
of all the world there is no force so nigh
nd las true love. Distance is powerless to
es lstroy it. Time cannot kill it. 1t is stro
80 ger than death, mightier than the gray
70, The wooing of Rachael by Jacob exten
DO ed over fourteen years. I do not mean
p- say that we are to follow his example
cy this respect Life is too short for tn
dit sort of thing; but the wooing should
- long enough to enable young people
nc find out their fitness, each for the oth'
me or else they should not wed, because wit
out such fitness, the license and the mi
.s a $40 s~-ss 2 4.