The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-12-22

life I am depicting is ruled by love;
the parental authority is exerclseu III
love: it seeks only the good or the chiIu
l. asks nothing unreasonaple vi ~
inst If it withholdS Things 'iia' |
child desires. il is either because 1t Is
not able TO grant them, or because .lie
granting of them would work INJURY
"a thor than benefit If ii seeks to guloe
the feet of the child into way ma
does not seem TO be the easlest or lie
most pleasant. it is because IL tnlhhS
is the best way. true paien ; arn
ance is simply love grown wise. an,
aware that this matter OF parental
guidance is often carried too far HaVe
YOU never been in a home Where tne
mother is constantly saying 10 thS
child: Don't do this; Don 90 ina.
The child can scarcely ya"n wn.n
the mothers permission. 1t is folloWe9
and hedged in and cuffed this way ana
that way 1t is not taught how 10 TAKE
care of itself. And when the chilu pe
comes a young man, and goes out lllo
the world, he says: Il nave never sen
ANYTHING: / do not know anything
have always been shut up at nome, ued
to nv mothers apron strings now
am going to have my day; i VIII mo
out a thing or two. Such Boys are
like those who go down into a battle
unarmed. And they are smitten
through and destroyed And the moth
er SAYS: My son has turned out pad
ly: but 1t is not my fault rose up
early and sat up late: and If / did not
govern that child, there never was
child governed in this world. yes
that was the very mischief of 1t. You
ruined the child by governing Ii so that
II did not learn to govern itself. "A col
Ilege friend once told me that AFTER ne
had reached the age of twelve his moth
er almost never forbade him anything
but that he almost never did anything
without asking her: and that her reply
10 him was almost invariably. MY son,
think about it; and if you can reconcile
it to your own conscience, L shall not
say a word. Do it if you think II is
best" She abhorred tobacco' ana ne
wanted to smoke-for that devil gets
Into BOYS almost invariably at that age
when they are still only boys, but think
they are men, and he came to her and
asked her If she had any objection TO
his learning how to smoke. 1t was IKE
gall to her; but she said to him, My
son. I shall not say anything about it.
If YOU can reconcile it to your own NOR
, al sense do it. You must act as you
think best" 1t was better a thousand
: times than a No" All, the thing to
, do is to so guide the boy and the girl
. lin the home that when things glitter
and are the most tempting, they will
have something in them which says, Il
: will not" They are very nearly and
r very well brought up when they car
!. say that.
e But let us pass to the next word
[ which Paul has to speak to the chile
o in the home. Honor thy father anC
s thy mother" he says. And the wore
# honor means to attach weight to; to pu
d in the place of superiority; to hold il
l. high opinion; to reverence, in the hes
" sense of that word Obedience is onl!
IS one of the more practical forms of thu
lie honor The honoring strikes deepe
rs than mere obedience-it touches tn
lie heart. it bespeaks the affections. it
f. reverence woven into the very nature
to connected with all the chords of being
of There is no need for any argument t
IS show that the child should honor hi
re parents: nor would it be of any use t
he deny that there is lack of filial re
ut spect on every hand. There are man
s. children who show by their words an
nd acts that their parents are not sacredl
or enshrined in their hearts. The mos
pitiable thing in the world to me is
in see young man or woman ashamed
ey their parents because they We're ole
is fashioned or poorly dressed. | haN
1t known such young people, and / hay
ur known also that one reason why II
lot father and mother dressed so poor
til and looked so old-fashioned was b.
en- cause of the sacrifices they were nal
lily ing for their children's sake.
it, The time comes in the history of e.
,ur cry home where there are childre
int when they reach the age at which the
lat must act independently of parent
Id; control. But that honor which shou
ar be rendered to parents does not ceas
les 1t simply takes a new FORM that
ial respect, expressing itself in courte
the and kindly deeds. and when necessa
ar In making provision for the comfort
ing their declining years. In spite of al
n.y. physical, mental or social independent
-al. 1--WE are to remember that we are st
k children of our parents and our pa
of ents are our parents still. There Is
os- change in the real relationship only
est some of the forms of it's duties T
hid same respect and reverence is due
not forty as at fourteen. There is no mo
urn womaDly or manly thing ever seen
Tvs this earth than a woman in her gra
hts and beauty and man in the prime
and MS strength and power showing defe
and ence and love to the father and mot
lite; Ier that gave them birth. To you. the
and who have grown to mans and Woma,
,ht, estate. and are married and have fal
ar lilies or your own, and have in yo
home that rich blessing of God.
me aged father or mother, the subject Il
ne evening comes with special force 7
to your respect and reverence for We
all parents be of itself a glorious examr
ars deeply written on the hearts and in
his future memories of your children S.
rue roundthe OLD age tnat adorns ana ht
ore ors your nome with every tr1bute
Is loving care; be Jealous of it's conf
Is and dignity. Cover its failings w
ess. tthe mantle, not of your charity alo