The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-12-08
THE WIFE IN
THE HOME
Sermon By Rev. W. N.
Kincaid.
FIFTH IN THE SERIES
The True Woman More Than a
Poets Dream or an Ar
fists Picture.

ed by Rev w. NJ. klncald on last
Sunday at Central Union Church, the
fifth in the series of, Talks to the
Heart on the Making of Happy
Home" The fifth is on, The Wife Ill
the Home"
No greater honor can true man pay
a woman than to choose her IRON
among all womankind 10 be his wlte.
he 1its her up To be a crowned queen
His love laid at her feet eXaitS her 10
the throne of his life. Well may she
pause before she gives her hand III
marriage, and question whether ne Is
worthy TO whom she is asked to sur
render so much; whether he can DrlhS
true happiness into her life; whether
he can meet the cravings OF her nature
for love and companionShip, anu
whether she can lift him to the highest
place in her heart and honor him as
husband should be honored. L do not
mean TO teach in these sermons that
am preaching to you that tie answer
to the old question in the catechism
should be changed-that marriage is
the chief end of man, or of WOMAN, Tor
that matter-for that is not true. There
are multitudes of each sex Who never
will marry, and still greater multitudes
who are not fit to marry. In great Brit
ain today there are about mlihoh
more women than men, and that i I'M
BY inexorable law, you see, many wom-
en- will never marry. The supply FOR
ma trimony is greater than the de-
mand the first lesson of which is that
every woman ought to prepare 70 take
care of herself IL need be. Then there
are thousands of men who have no
right to marry, because they have be-
come so corrupt of character their very
offer of marriage is an insult to any
good woman. Society needs TO be ton
ed up on this subject, so that II shall
realize that IL "A woman who has Sacri-
need her honor is untitled for mar
srtage: so is any man who has sacrinced
his purity What right have you, y
man. whose life has been one of licen-
tiousness and unbridled passion. to
take under your care the spotIessness
. of a maiden reared in the sanctity OF a
pure and loving home? Shall the buzz
|. zard dare to mate with the ocVe? But
the question which every woman Should
ask herself before going to the marriage
altar as to the fitness and moral worth
OF the man who would make her his
wife, has another side. Can she be a
true wife to him who seeks her hand
Can she be "A blessing to him who would
lift her to the throne of his heart? Will
he find in her the deep sympathy and
companionship, the uplifting love, the
10y and help, which he. in the glamour
Is there any possible future before him
which she would not be willing. to
share? Are there any needs, or nun
gers i'm his soul to which she canno'
respond? Are there chords in his lie
which her fingers cannot wake? IL she
has a right to bid him question his SOU
for her before he leads her To the mar
rage altar. ne has an equal right tc
bid her question her soul for him. "A
wife has part in the song of welded
love If il is to be harmonious. very
largely does she hold in her hands, as
a sacred trust, the happiness and the
highest good of the home. The best
husband that ever liyed-the truest
the noblest the gentlest-cannot make
his home happy If his wife be not, 1T
every reasonable sense. helpmate &c
him. Say what we will, in the last
analysis, home happiness does depend
upon the wife. Her spirit gives the
house its atmosphere. Her hands fash
ion it's beauty. Her heart makes its
love. And the end is so worthy, SO no.
BILE, so divine. that no woman who has
been called to be a wife, and has list.
ened TO the call, should consider any
price too great to pay, to be the light
the joy. the blessing, the inspiration
of a home. Men of great genius tnini
IL worth while to live to paint a few
pictures which shall be looked at auC
admired for generations; or to write {
few songs which shall sing themselve:
into the ears and hearts of men. Blu
the woman who makes a true home
filing il with love and purity. is doini
something better than anything els
that human hands can find to do be
meath the skies. Not only the happi
ness of her husbands life, but tn
whole future Of his character, influence
and growth rests with her. Look a
this pen-picture of an ideal wife by
A Oh ID T., II
ems last and best gift to man. his ange
and minister of graces innumerable hi
gem of many virtues; her voice hi
sweetest music, her smiles his brightcs
day. her kiss the guardian of his limo
cence. her arms the pale of his safety
the balm of his health, the sure balsan
Of his life. her industry his sures
wealth. her economy his safest stew
ard, her lips his faithful counselor
her bosom the softest pillow of hi
cares. and her prayers the ablest advO
cate of Heavens blessing upon hi
head"
If that is what the wife is 60 be
her husband, well need she question ne
soul before she goes to the marriae
altar.
The true wife is more than A mel
poets dream,an artists picture an etht
real being too fine for daily use she
hesh and blood woman. healthfu
SNipHbs HIdtNlcdl. INDUSTRIOUS, with
hand for lifes common duties. ~
.Srowned with that beauty which a his
and noble purpose gives to a soul
spoke to you last Sunday evening
what the husband owes to the wife: I,
night ! wish to speak to you of what Il
wife owes to the husband
The first and chiefest thing that
the husbands due is faithfuness; al
that. too. in the largest sense. "T1
heart Of her husband doth safely tru
her" Perfect confidence is the basis
all true affection. a shadow of dou
destroys the peace Of married life.
true wife by her character and condu
proves herself worthy of her husband
trust. He has confidence in her affe
ton; he knows that her heart is una
terably true to him. He has confiden
in her management; he confides to h
the care Of his household. He know
that she is true to all his interests: TIL
she is prudent and wise. not wastef
and extravagant. Lack of thrift, al
extravaganza. have destroyed the ha
.piness OF many a household and wrecI
ed many home. Solomon says:
prudent wife is from the Lord: leavii
us TO infer where the other kind
from. Ruskin. in his talk to your
women. tells them Of the etymology
the name wife: What do you thir