The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1900-07-03
AUNT N LETTER.

care not how much a girl thinks
she knows, or how proud of her
diploma she may be, if she does not
love, honor and respect her mother,
her education is deficient. No girl is
or ought to be excusable for neglect
inc her mother. The best wives are
found among those girls who help
mother. I do not mean help her
when she calls for your assistance
but who anticipate her wishes, do
things for her pleasure without wait
inc to be told. There are so many
of us older people who prefer doing
things ourselves, rather than be
troubled to tell some one else all the
why's and wherefOres. An honest
effort is always appreciated ever if
it is not quite a success. Blessed IS
the woman who remembers when
she too was a girl and does not for
get the tedious day of her tutOrage.
Please read Pansy's definition Of a
lady. It is an ideal one. ITO warm,
to comfort and-"why, Pansy do you
forget that we have quite a number
of bachelors in our circle?
You are correct, Martha. No wo-
man knows just how to have house
work done unless she understands
all the details herself. Her servants
may be ever so faithful, but unless
she knows how to do things herself
the day will surely come when she
will regret the lack of such knOwl-
edge. 1t is so much less trouble to
keep house if you know something
of its duties before undertaking even
to direct others in their performance.
But if you must try TODD those things
yourself without any previous pre-
paratiOn of course you will shed
many tears in spite of yourself, be-
fore you learn. You will readily see
then how vastly important it is that
girls should study in OrdertO be good
housekeepers. Such knowledge does
not come naturally and is exceed
ingly difficult to gain unless you
wish to acquire it. But let me ask
you do you intend to say Eyes" to,
somebody who is very dear to you
and do you realize that with that
yes" you tacitly imply a willingness
to keep house for him and think you
he will appreciate the story you tell
him when he finds that it was an
untruth in this sense, that you know
nothing about house keeping? Try
then to learn all you can of it's many
intricate problems and make him
proud of your accomplishments in
the home. Music and art are nice
and add much to home life but /
man wants a good dinner-and then
he can admire those things not be-
fore. Yes, girls, you too can judge
a man by the treatment he accOrds
his mother and sisters. If he is I'M
kind and neglectful of them do not
fatter yourself that he would be
different toward you.
1 am so glad that Maud sounds a
note of warning as regards marrying
strangers. Oh, so much misery has
been caused by this rushing into
matrimony before you know any
thing of the mans or woman's past
life or future prospects. After learn
ing all you can of each other it often
happens that grievous disappoint-
ments await you and to marry with
out waiting to find out about him is
reckless indeed. l trust that my
girls and boys will not be so rash as
to cast their all into an unknown
sea and hope that what seem to them
a staunch vessel will not prove to be
a sieve in case they do.
Cupid, joins us this week and if he
persists in allowing the girls to have
their way I am a little afraid that he
will play sad havoc in the circle.
He is progressive and argues we'll.
Come again. AUNT JENNIE.
SEVERAL SENSIBLE AND sEAsONABLE
CUnnESTTAUc