The Yale expositor., 1900-09-28

but her own discoveries are made so
gradually that she fails to realize her
danger until her conquest is complete,
and we all know how hard it is to
wean ourselves from any one or any
thing Of which we have become fond
even when we realize fully the frall-
ties and worthlessness."
But often it is the bright. wide-
awake woman of the world who falls
in love with this sort of man."
Il hardly know how much you
mean to convey by the term this sort
of man. but l suppose you mean the
good fellow kind. I'll tell you women
hate sham-in man, at least. The man
who makes a great pretense Of good
ness and perfection must, naturally,
slip occasionally, and so women turn
to the men who do not pretend to all
the virtues on the moral calendar, be-
cause they think they are the more
sincere Of the two. A sort Of Scyila
and Charybdis, I admit"
Cor in modern English, 'BetweeR the
devil and the deep, deep sea- How
about men who compliment and fat
ter?"
Many women say they don't like
the trait. l am sure it isn't very
pleasant to listen to it unless it is adj
dressed to ones self. But, if the truth
were told, most Of us do like it, just
as we like pie and cake, even though
we know it isn't good for us. But the
majority Of women are too sensible
to allow 1t to take the place of the
necessary bread and meat. The more
graceful compliment is. the more
appreciated, and it would improve
most American men to give a little
more study TO this art, for it is art
to convince plain girl that she Is just
as attractive as her beautiful sister.
or that the color of her eyes is that
poetical violet, monopolized by hero
ines Of novels, though every one else
calls them plain blue; or by a mere
look or gesture convey the idea to
some commonplace maid that she is
the most charming OF her sex. 1t
may be questionable art, as it is de-
Ginning, but it is art nevertheless.
However the man who has not made
a study of Chesterfield and his class
would best remain silent and listen at
tentively while his women friends tell
him their cOnqUests, plans and COM
pliments, for women do appreciate a
good listener when talking about
themselves"
us animal strength the vigor ne
cessary?"
Women like strength and health In
men, of course, but they like the la
tent, subdued power best. They like
to know that a man has courage and
force enough to thrash the rowdy if
need be, but they would despise the
same man did he crush or harm some
one or something weaker than him
self, no matter how lowly, just be-
cause he had the necessary mental or
physical power"
And the home-age? suppose
that's the age when women are ready
to settle down for life and want a
home companion?"
Eyes, a husband, in other words; so
now for ideals. Where all rules so
often fail. Well, l think he should
be independent, though not agrees
sively SO; he must not be small or
mercenary; cheerfulness is a laudable
trait; trust and sympathy are certain
ly essentials; unless he wishes his
wife to dictate in his business affairs.
he should allow her perfect freedom
in household matters, but these sug-
gestions are but general and somewhat
vague, for how can judge of heaven
or hell, having experienced neither?"
But, Nell, l am anxious to give
you the experience"
Thanks, which one?"