The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-08-08
MANNERS
MAKE MAN
An Address to Punahou
Students.
COURTESY A RICH JEWEL
Instructive Discourse on Politeness
by President Frank Hosmer
of Oahu.


manners, taking as his text, Manners
Maketh Man" The address was so full
OF interesting advice that it is worth pub
Fishing for the benefit of others not fortu-
nate enough to hear 1T. The address is
as follows:
In an address delivered last year at the
Inauguration of the new head of Welles-
ley College, President Eliot of Harvard
suggested that the manners of American
students needed amending and hoped that
the new generation would show great
Improvement. He questioned whether
American colleges inculcated manners
with any success.
Some people are gentle and courteous by
nature and, like the poet Addison they
seem to shed around them genial warmth
ard sunshine.
Others are careless in behavior and are
lrrde because no kind friend has ever
POINTED out to them the defect. We all
remember the words of the Scotch poet
Burns
20 wad some power the Giftie gle us
To oursels as others see u.s.
Let me illustrate by an Eastern tale:
Many years ago during that period known
to history as the dark ages, a Frankish
knight was entertained by an Arab sheik.
After an extended visit the knight, when
ION MS way nOInep WAS OVeTtahen Dy a
slave of his host, who fell on his face be-
fore the Frank and said: MY master has
lbioden me to ride after thee and give thee
this message. He has been delighted to
meet go polished a gentleman as thou art.
He cannot allow knight so courteous to
go away without telling him of one little
, fault, little bad habit, popularity of
Isreech and of gesture in one whose con-
duct would otherwise be perfect"
The knight accepted the criticism in
tgcod part
Here In the college I find the young men
. and young women with many virtues;
they are faithful in study, honest and
fair minded. During the ten years have
been here, no boy or girl has ever done
a mean act or willfully told an untruth.
: And yet you VIII bear with me If 1 apply
} this Oriental story to you all and say that
none are so good but that they can be
improved. Let it be said truthfully of ev-
cry girl here, She is always lady; let it
be said with truth of every Punahou boy,
He is aIways a gentleman. You bear the
| honor of the school in your keeping, in
the classroom, on the campus, in your
homes, at church, on the tramcar, or
wherever you are.
Let no rudeness come from a Punahou
hoy or Punahou girl. Let it be notice
able to everyone unat the fact that you
are a student at Oahu College is reason
enough for your being courteous.
"Noblesse obl.ge" was the motto of the
old French nobility. They thought that
their position had its obligations They
were born to be ladies and gentlemen.
i And / say to you today-"Noblesse
toblige'-your position has its obligations
You are students in the highest institu-
ton of learning in Hawaii nei and you
4 have in your keeping the honor of this
Ischool-of this school, do say?-more
!you are to show to the community thai
you are worthy of the trust that is be.
ing placed upon you.
1t is more necessary to be a gentleman
than scholar The poet CHANGER, speak.
iing of lovely woman. said,
"She is mirrou no fall courtesy"
True politeness. like charity, sufferetf
long and is kind it envieth not; il vaunt
eth not itself; is not puffed up. 1t dotf
not behave itself unseemly; it thinketh nj
evil: it rejoiceth not in iniquity, but re
joiceth in the truth
But am to coufine myself to what the
French call les petites morales 1.-The fittl'
mcrals-and let me emulate the example
of the great Kong Flu Use, by giving few
:. negatives that may be useful.
: Do not keep up whispered converse
ton while piece of music is being rem
dered. 1t indicates a lack of appreciation
|, Do not whisper during the sermon; j
shows disrespect and irreverence.
y Do not make too much noise in ap
pause. Applaud with discrimination. lie
it appear that you have judgment D.
not ask for the whole program owe
, again. Too many encores are tedious il
tho extreme.
Do not keep time with the foot or han
at the concert or musicale to the annoy
ance of others.
Do not sit a table. Camp manner
are not fit for the house.
DO not sit on the back of a chair or set
tee and put your feet on the seat Thin
of the ladies' dresses Keep your feet O.
the floor or the ground.
Do not scatter crumbs or drop the peel
ing of fruit or pieces of paper where 9th
err will have to pick them up. Do no
=, add to labor but be of the number o
~ those who lesser it,
DO not put moist hand on the polishe
surface of a piano; keep your haudker
chief between the piano and your hand
The well-bred hostess will observe and ap
preciate it,
Do not carry mud into the house o
classroom. Carefully clean the shoes o
ertering the door,
Ia DO not forget the little phrases of good
will that mark the perfect manners
n ~ hank you costs so little and goes 8
a. far.
- Do not by word or act give unnecessar
pain to anyone. There is enough sorro,
in the world without our adding to il. lie
uS hSHtSu SOrIoW ana give pleasure WHer
we can.
Good manners secure your admission t
good society. Bad manners in the end ba
you out No one will tell you but yo
will be gradually dropped.
Let the moral tone of the school b
against rudeness Let common sense de-
eide what is the proper conduct for eac
occasion and each place. We can wrestl
and shout on the football field but not
the parlor or the classroom.
= There is a time for everything. To e'
erything there is a season, and tim
to every purpose under the heaven:
time to weep and a time to laugh; tin
b. to mourn and a time to dance; time
keep silence and a time to speak.
He hath made everything beautiful
his time; it Is the gift of God
We boast of our American civilizatio
but there Is another nation. now nes
q Ineighbor. which puts US to shame as f;
as manners are concerned. I refer to d
Nippon, the empire of the Japanese-tl
Frenchmen of the Pacific. We have
g these Islands only the peasant class al
" yet even their manners are worth obser-