The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-12-08

Horas of admiration which she Will )
hesitate to repeat TO him. And then,
she will never reveal to others the
things that concern the sacred inner I
and grievances in their married rela-
tons? Has her husband faults which
cause her pain? Does he fail in this (
duty or that? Are there differences
which threaten the very peace OF the
home? The true wife Will share her Sc \
cret of unhappiness with none but her
God. Least OF all will she tell them To
the lawyer, that he may flaunt them in
the divorce court.
Then she will seek to be in the tru-
est sense of the word the companion
of her husband. 1t was not good Tor
man to be alone even amid the joys of
Eden. Eden was not paradise without
its Eve. Before she came it was only :.
the paSture-land of beasts; after she
came, it became the home OF man. /
do not think that Brigham Young was
so far out of the way in his exposition
of the expulsion of man from the Car
den of Eden which / once heard him
give in the Mormon tabernacle in Salt
Lake City. He represented Adam as
coming upon Eve just after she had
eaten of the apple. "Oh, ADAM" she
cries. Il have eaten the apple, and (
now 1 have got to leave you and with ,
you paradise Il won't stay here
alone; I'll eat one, too, and go with /
his manhood more than the old tradi- |
tional explanation. The true wife will
allow no one to come in between her /
and her husband. Sidney Smith once !
said of husband and wife that they i
resembled a pair of shears so Joined
that they were not meant to be sep
arated; often moving in opposite direc-
tons, yet always Furnishing anyone who
ca me between them" The definition is
good, only he ought to have added one
thing more, and that is. if you part the
shears you have only two poor daggers
left.
The wife who would always hold in
her husbands heart the place she held
on her wedding day will never cease
trying to be attractive. She will look
well to her personal appearance; no
woman can be careless in her dress
slatternly and untidy in her appear
ance, and long keep her place on the
throne of her husbands heart. She will
cultivate whatever is beautiful in her
| life, whatever is winning, whatever is
graceful She must have mental at
Effectiveness. She will seek to be cloth
ed in spiritual beauty She will care to
please her husband more than any 9TH
er person in the world. She will reserve
for him her sweetest charms. Instead
of being bright and attractive when
there Is company, and then relapsing
into silence and indifference when the
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to be at her best when only she and ne
are sitting 2tOgether in the quiet of
their own home. Both husband and
wife should keep their best things for
each other.
Welded happiness is a lesson that
must be learned. No two lives brought
into such close relation can blend into
one without much Self-diSciplne AS it
has been said: Marriage is the beau
tiful unfolding Of many years; We are
not married simply the wedding
day, but all along" No true wife will
quarrel with the divine law that makes
the husband the head of the household,
If she has husband who loves her up
TO the divinely required measurement
about which we spoke last Sunday
evening. Such love never demands
anything; it seeks no. 70 be served but
to serve. Love always serves, or else
1t Is not love at all husband and wife
vie with each other III loving and serv--
ing. They mutually bear each other $
urdens. The husband Is the head, but
ne never says 50; never reminds The
wife of it; never clans authority; de-
fers to her in everything The wife
recognizes her husband as head hon
ors him, looks up to him with pride
and confidence-all the more because
he never demands subsection. Thus the
true husband and wife never have any
trouble about rights or place" Now you
are one" said the minister to the tou-
pie which he had just pronounced man
and wife. Which One?' said the
bride. All, said the minister, that
you must settle between yourselves
But that question never comes up be-
tween those who are truly married We
hear much of the boss" in politics. but
alas. that we should ever hear it in
connection with the home. Imagine g
young man and woman walking out in
their courtship days in the moonlight,
and stopping and saying, Nov here,
let s settle who is going to be boss" 1t is
an infamous word, and ought never to
be spoken in the home. We hear a
great deal about the better and the
worse half; but in true marriage the
halves should be equal-companion
each of the other. Do you recall the
beautiful way that Tennyson puts it?
For woman is not undeveloped man,
But diverse; could we make her as the
man
Sweet love We're slain; his dearest
bond is this:
Not like to like, but like in difference.
Yet in the long years liker must they
The man be more OF woman; she. of
He gain in sweetness and in moral
height,
Nor lose the wrestling threws that
throw the world;
She, mental breadth nor fail in child
ward care
Nor lose the chidlike spirit in the
larger mind:
Till at last she sets herself to man
. Like perfect music unto noble words -
1t is beautiful thought that the love
existing between a true husband and
wife never grows old Shakespeare
, says: Although time with his sickle
, can rob ruby lips and sparkling eyes,
[ let him reach as far as he can, he can
r not touch love; that reaches to the end
: OF the tomb. And | would add be-
I yond 1t. For husband and wife to love in
: that way and to go down the hill of
HE together, never growing old to one
| another. but seeing still amid the gray
hairs and wrinkled cheeks the face
t loved and won in youth, is there any
= thing more beautiful on earth? The old
= Scotch ballad tells the story:
e John Anderson, my 10 John,
we Gland the hill together;
d And many a canty day, John,
: We've had wi ane anther:
f Now we maun toddle down John
n But hand in hand Wen 60
o And sleep togither at the foot