New-York tribune., 1900-08-21
A PIAZZA SYMPOSIUM.
SEVERAL MOTHERS AND A BACHELOR
GIRL DISCUSS THE EARLY TRAIN
ING OF CHILDREN.

II was at fashionable summer resort and
party OF women. sitting the piazza fell into
conversation on early training" Said II
l nae my life TO live again I should train my chill
4eA inherently l was taught by my mother 70
90 many things for myself When only six years
GIG learned 70 knit, and soon could knit my
Mite stockings as with my foot on the rocker
OI Ine oaoys cradle. AS a result OF such wise
framing have been able 10 help myself in many
ways all my fife
MY own plan with my children was 20 do every
thing FOR them and nov that they are grown they
cannot even put a bin ling on a dress I an
ashamed OF myself when I realize how helpless
they are as If really was more 10 save myself the
trouble OF teaching them than anything else that
MADE me do everything for them"
said another: a devoted wife and mother al
ways tends to make selfish husband and chill
oren- never knew IT to fail. Not being married
am the 'onlooker who sees most Of the game
Wnen woman is married TO man OF extravagant
hanlts and tastes she is only injurng him by doing
al the economy for the family. have seen cases
Wnere the wife wore cheap underwear in order 20
economic, while he would nothing but silk
he did not restrict her expenditures. and II she
had made her purchases on a scale corresponding
to his he simply would have been compelled 10 re-
trench and II would have been an extremely good
thing for him.
Other women sacrifice everything TO their chill
oreTl doing without little Iuxuries or pleasures
greatly desired in order to supply even unreason-
able wishes OF the sons or daughters Such mothers
nave morbid sense OF duty, and reason that it is
the right Of every child be happy If his parents
can accomplish IL That is quite true. I admit, but
indulgence IS not always the shortest road to hap
ptness- Train a boy to teeI that some way
other he must have what he wants; let him see
that his mother regards no sacrifice too great to
procure what ne desires, and in time ne regards
every fancy as necessity and approprates it
without q shadow Of consideration for the rights
or others II were training children I would try
nTst or al TO teach them 10 consider their lives as
part OF the family LIE and deserving no consid-
Grafton beyond that extended TO others If the
small income made II necessary that the boy could
nave bicycle only If his mother went without
new gown. l certainly would 90 MIN the inJus
to his sense Of Justice and manhood to persuade
him 20 put the wish aside; then he could feel the
ton Yet have known women TO make just such
sacrifices, which the boys took mere right.
AS Tar as 1 can see women and always nave
peen N conspiracy 10 make men selfish tyrants.
A third sighed: IT is horribly hard to know
what 10 do; II one tries 70 train child 10 be IN
selsn Is there not danger that he may carry II 70
excess Extreme unselnshness is objectionable,
in one way, as the reverse
Don't worry promptly rejoined the bachelor
seifsh and no anoun5 Of training could eradtcata
ne leLCenCy. = HloIher can LetL oy the uAle
ger Of its being stupidly unsehsh. safe principle
Is 70 assume that boys are selfish and girls ulsef-
ish- The exception may be about one in a hun
The argument that child is entitled TO happiness
Is WoTLny q only limited respect The teW years
cH1lCnOOC are an extremely small part OF ne
lndlVidUala s existence, ana yet are OF vital I'm
portance IN formative influence, and IL 20
me 70 be g frightful mistake TO regard them as
mere passing moments. with further use lhan
to be made happy It is, IL my opinion, penny
wise and pound foolish policy n morals 10 sacrt-
Zee he possible hfty or more years Of maturity 70
the fifteen Of childhood
What qualities should be the most earnestly cUl-
rveted in girl children? ?' asked the young woman
whose little girl sleeping in the hammock
The Oldest IN the group quickly replied My dear,
your question calls attention 10 OF the mistakes
girls have q different method from boys Inc
hOnely old aCage. What is sauce for the goose Is
for the gsnder' absolutslv true and Il the
qualities were developed alike in men and
world would be rlghted sooner than they are likely
10 be- Sefre!ianCe, justice, perseverance,, truthful
kindness and obedience qualities essen
riaI s the other Teach the child TO help
that is not rghrtUly mis- or to De gained BY MS
legitimate efforts, 20 make repeated and persist
endeavors 70 win anything for which he may
( properly wish, be <earlSsSy truthful, gentle %
other children and 70 animals, and to obey the
laws OF home that the Introduction TO the laws
Of the Nation and you will have q valuable CIT
izen and uplifting social force. as We'll son
or daughter 70 De proud Of II you anaIyZe those
qualities you will find that they comprise the duty
Of the individual &c himself and others, and give
him solid foundation which to build = noble
character and useful lie
4 heavy football approached. and a lowered
magnifcently over the group Is II the tal fash
ions the social campaign OF the handsome blonde
who came this morning that IS occupying your L
yelled sarcasm. The bachelor woman replied de-
murely, We were planning social campaign
He smiled Lolerantly, = q trthe coutenP tuously,
as he said Happy beings with nothing more
other woman And the women answered MIN only
by exchange Of amused gances In silence.