Northern Wisconsin advertiser. [volume] (Wabeno, Wis.) 1898-1925, 1900-10-11


depends a great deal on the profess
sion or the calling of the man."
Well, a doctor, for instance"
Yes said, marriage helps a
doctor; it stamps him respectable,
and many women will not consult
doctor unless they know that he is a
married man; but white hair will
help him quite as much"
"That is not very promising" said
the lady.
'Well," replied "let us try again"
Surely woman can do much to in
spire, to encourage man whatever
his work may be-"
Eyes, a sympathetic woman can dc
a great deal; but it is very difficult to
quite determine what effect her help
may have upon her husbands work
during the various critical periods OF
his career. There may have been
days when, without her encourage
ment, he would have lost faith in him
self, but such cases are rare. Then
you speak of artists, of people who
live by praise, feed on it. have
known painters who looked for and
found such encouragement from their
wives. On the other hand, | have
known others who sought solitude
when at work-men who could not
have expressed their message unless
alone with their art. l have known
authors who looked for inspiration
from their wives, or thought they did,
and l have known others who could
not do stroke of work unless they
were absolutely left alone with their
thoughts
"But if wife makes a man happy,
that alone, surely, helps him."
"Of course it does. but the married
man has far greater responsibilities
than the single one, and he may be
obliged to produce for the sake of
filling many little hungry mouths.
And another thing, you must remem-
Der that the single man can command
the interest of a great number of wo-
men who would not care to be inter-
ested in his wife, and very few wives
will realize that they may not be as
interesting as Their husbands. This
viii cause trouble, unpleasantness at
least, and stand in the way of mans
success"
Then" said the lady, "let us
change the question. Does marriage
hamper a MANI
''Undorotedlw there are professions
which seem to necessitate bachelor
hood, wlere marriage is not only no
help, but handicap A solder, for
instance, should not marry, Tor a mar
ried soldier, good fighting man though
he may be never can forget the wife
and perhaps the little ones at home"
81 take it," said my lady interlocu-
tor, that you do not advocate mar
riage for the rising poet, painter,
dramatist or novelist"
Il do not advocate marriage for any
man that has the artistic tempera
ment strongly developed. The man
who is strong enough. to achieve great
things is strong enough to achieve
them alone, that is, unless he is for
tunate enough to meet the exceptional
woman. Lord Byron said that moth
ing can infiict greater torture upon a
woman than the mere fact of loving a
poet This is not due to the heartless
or deliberate cruelty of the poet He
himself is to be pitied for being a
martyr, the slave of art 1t is the
natural depth of poets emotions. of
an artists temperament, to fall in
love with every lovely woman. The
higher we rise in the intellectual
scale, says a modern writer. the
more varied, complex and deem are
the emotional groups which delight
and torment the soul Mental work
does not extinguish passions, it feeds
the flames, on the contrary. and nm.
tits the brain worker for matrimonv
Only people who have uneventful. al
most humdrum, lives, are perfectly
happy in marriage
Then you do not admit the exist.
ence of the man who needs the o,i,.t
sympathy of a good domestic wife ne
fore his art becomes fully articulateqo
No, because the artiss constantly
wants stimulants, and a domestic lifa
is not stimulating. Now, do not mis-.
understand me. Marriage can make
man very happy, including the man
with the strong artistic Temperament
but | don't think that it helps hin, I
have come across hundreds of cases
where artistic and literary efforts
nave been checked and sometimes
killed outright by the petty cares ana
worries of domestic life. The brain
worker is very easily 'irked and tor.
mented by the most trivial things He
is irritable and most sensitive 7
nave known literary men put right Off
their work for days simply because
devoted wives came into their studies
and after giving them an encouraging
KISS, carried off their pens to malre
out their washing list. l have known
painters whose faculties were nosi.
lively benumbed BY the presence 81
thelr wives. / have known dramat;sts
who could never set to work n ear.
nest before they had sent their
families into the country. or had
themselves left home far behind
them. And, mind Won. these -.