Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1900-06-30
THE SECRET OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE.


life, and happiness depends upon find
ing the other half whdis the most per-
fectly suited in mind and temperament.
There Is perhaps for every person one
perfect mate. though It may be seldom
that such marriages occur Practically
speaking we can only hope 10 get as
near perfection as possible.
One secret OF a happy marriage Is TO
retain as far as may be the spirit and
relations OF our courtshIp. Marriage
should never be considered the gateway
TO license and selfishness.
Loyer-love Is the highest type Of love
| I'm the world. II IS even higher and
| boiler than mother-l0ye, II Is the ripe
and rational affection OF equals for each
| other The highest conception which
| Whitman has Of the civilization OF the
| future is that we shall have q world
Of lovers"
In every true marriage there should
| be an element Of devOutness, Nowhere
! Is hippancy more out OF place than az
| the marriage altar We would have
| fewer divorces. because less need for
them, II every marriage were regarded
az peculiarly serious and solemn I'M
dertaking. rss.
was present once az country we'd
| ding which Illustrates what | mean.
The young couple were plain modest
folk from the farm. andBppeared 10 be
deeply impressed as the ceremony pro-
cecded When the minister reached the
words "let us pray" they both turned
around with a meek motion and threw
themselves upon their knees. Sowing
their heads upon the sofa, and SO re-
NAMED to the end Of the prayer.
It was the first case in which l ever
knew any one 20 kneel during the we'd
ding prayer except In a formal way.
and there was such intense earnestness
and devotion IN their manner that every
one present was profoundly moved. IL
was very evident that they dedicated
' themselves TO one another with their
whole hearts.
To the children born OF love. in we'd
lock that is kept holy IN fact as we'll as
name, we must look for the elevation OF
the race, There Is no need Of laws for
bidding certain people 10 marry, FOR Il
is a fact that people who are very in
feviOr may have children far better
than themselves II they are drawn to-
gether by love and obey the laws OF
their nobler natures
! The English common law says: THE
man and the woman are one. and the
one Is the man." This unjust and abb
surd sentence has been the means OF
making our homes little empires in
stead OF little republics.
protest against any sort OF imperial.
ism In the home The highest marriage
Is that which develops the liberty and
selfhood Of the woman as well as the
man.
Women should be the owners OF them
selves as well after marriage as before
Every woman should cultivate the
sense Of self-ownership. for unless love
Is free and pure Il II not love. IL Is
mere selfish amativeness and nothing
more
The great need Of our homes Is not
80 much for better mothers as for bet
ter fathers. The man FOR whom the
world waits Is he who viii ascend into
the highest OF his manhood and live
there: who will be strong enough q
climb the heights Of unsetsh love. il
Is he who shall "love as a maiden low.
eth and by the culture Of his brain
and heart attain 10 complete self-mRs'
terry In such a man the passions vii
not be extinguished but controlled, and
his better self will be the supreme courl
OF his nature from which there can BE-
no appeal.-Rey. Jesse II. Jones IN New
York World.