The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1900-12-15
ADVICE TO THE NEWLY MARRIED.

George thinks wed better i've
with his folks after we are married, "
said Nellie to her widowed Aunt
Mary, who was helping her with her
trousseau. "They have big house
with plenty of room in it, and his sis
ters and I are great friends. But
I'm afraid Mrs. Ellis may interfere
with us, as mothers -in-law are apt to
do, and I couldn't endure that. No
one shall came between George and
me--not even his mother'''
"If you feel that way, Nellie, in
duce George to set up home of your
own, by all means,' replied Aunt
Mary, crisply. In any case young
couples are better by themselves
while their period of 1unacy lasts. I
can conceive of no greater bores to
society at home and at large than the
billing and cooling of Mr.. and Mrs
Younghusband"
"Why, Aunt Mary p
"You never thought of that? Well,
you see have been bride myself
a fond and foolish one-and know all
about it. / also have the felicity of
being a mother in-law, and know all
about that. I'm on good terms with
my sons wives simply because have
never lived with them, though I'm
fond of them both. But young folk
and old folk are different, and unless
of the same blood, sure to tire or bore
each other if they live under the
same roof
Nellie looked thoughtful. 1t had
never occurred to her that she and
George could bore anybody, though
others might bore them.
"The remark you just made proves
you are like most girls; you will want
to be complete and unquestioned mis-
tress of your own affairs, and though
Mrs. Ellis suggestions may be kindly
meant, and the essence of wisdom,
you won't want to accept them, and
by-and-by without really intending to
be mean, you'll tell George that his
mother interferes with you, or sights
YOU, or talks at you, and then there'll
be trouble, for of course he'll take
your part-young husbands always do
at frst-and his sisters will defend
their mother. The surest way for a
family to lose son and brother more
cruelty than by death is to live in the
house with his wife, if the younger
woman is not kinder and less self as
sertive than most wives of the day
and the elder woman less sensitive
and more selfish than most mothers.
For, instance to say, it is the very
kindness and loving ministrations of
the mother-in-law that causes the
daughter-in-law's discomfort. She
wants to be all in all to her husband,
and desires him to rely upon her i'm
mature opinions exclusive even of the
far better grounded ones of his moth
er, and resents the latter's claim upon
his affection if it is at all evident"
"Do you think the jealousy is who'll
ly on the wife's part?' asked Nellie.
BY no means nor do 1 say that
the mother-in-law never interferes.
She does interfere too often, and with
disastrous results. Nevertheless, my
experience has taught me that in
most instances when trouble rises be-
tween the son S wife and his mother,
the wife is most to blame, as she sad
ly admits when, in her turn, she be-
comes a mother-in-law, and drinks of
the bitter cup she once held to the
lips of another woman. But it is too
late to undo the mischief wrought,
and the happiness lost all around can
not be regained. So set up home
of your own, Nellie, and thus keep
on good terms with Georges rela-
tives, adding to his happiness instead
of taking from it, and giving him no
cause to reproach you in the future
for having estranged him from his
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