The St. Louis Republic., 1900-08-12

QUESTIONS OF ETIQUETTE.

Kindly inform me on the following point: re-
turn to my native town a visit after alb
sence of few years. and meet young woman
now engaged to be married. and with whom
vas once intimately acquainted. Should now
ADDRESS her by her given name Miss -?
am not acquainted with her intended husband
You had better wait and see how the
young lady addresses you. If she calls
you by your Christian name. then you can
call her by hers. 1t is a question for her
to settle not for you. and it is always best
in such cases to err on the side of formality.
I, 1t correct for young lady to wear low
reck at an afternoon wedding? If not what
should she wear? If a young lady who is wear
| irg black has wheel which Is enameled red, Is
1t the proper thing to ride it, or should it be re-
ameled? Is it correct form for young ge',tle-
| man to GO driving with n lady In white luck
after 6 o'clock, and would duck be appropriate
| to to an informal dance given at q private
house?
| 1t would be quite incorrect for a young
| lady to wear low neck at an afternoon en-
| tertainment of any kind. The unlned yokes
| and sleeves that are fashionable now make
| a gown look smart enough for any occa-
! sion. If you have n low neck gown that
! you particularly wish to wear you can have
a guimp made to wear with 1t. a muslin
! and lace or silk and lace gown Will be the
I best costume for you to choose. There IS
no necessity for having the red wheel
| painted black Carriage wheels are never
| painted black when the family so in mourn
| ing, and a bicycle can be governed by the
same rules. White ducks are now worn
| summer evenings with Tuxedo coat, and
white duck suit Is quite correct 1or an
evening drive An entire white duck suit
| would not be correct for any evening enter
! tainment.
Kindly inform whether young people. 18 to
| IS years old should shake hands when intro
! duccd In giving an Introduction should the lady
| be presented first? Is How do you dog cor
| rect form of replying to an introduction? have
heard 1t in first-class society.
| 1t is not necessary for either young or old
| people to shake hands when they are intro
duced. but If they have mutual frinds and
| have known one another by sight for some
| time, and desire to appear particularly
| friendly. there is no reason why they should
not shake hands. The gentleman is always
presented to the lady. unless he be per-
| sonage of great Importance, such as the
President OF the United States. There is no
| fixed law as to what form or expression
| should be used after the introduction, but
| some expression indicative of pleasure Is
| always agreeable. You can say: Il have
| often heard of you," or II am glad to have
| the pleasure of knowing you" Auy grace
| full form Of address of this sort is good
form.
| Please tell me II gentleman at a country ho-
| tel or boarding house can ask the young ladies
| in the same house to dance at the hops" given
| Saturday evening without being introduced.
| 1t Is much better to ask for an introduc-
| tion before asking any young lady to dance.
| There will certainly be no difficulty in Sc
| curing an Introduction after you have been
! in the same hotel for a while, and it Is
| not at all difficult to become acquainted
| with your fellow-boarders. for 1t is under
| stood that the proprietor of any first-class
hotel is particular as to the character OF
the people whose patronage he desires to
| obtain. Consequently you are not likely to
meet any one whose acquaintance you
would not care for. You yourself occupy
the same position and are accepted as a
gentleman. Consequently it is scarcely
probable that any lady would refuse to
| have you introduced to her. but she might
think 1t strange and very pushing" if you
were to ask her to danes without first
| having been introduced.
Is it proper for two young ladies aged respect
itely 16 and II to go to q fashionable summer
| hotel without chaperon? Tile young ladies in
l question unusually Old for their age and
| might be taken for is or 20.
It Is certainly not correct for two young
| girls TO go to SUMMER hotel without a
! chaperon. If they have no mother or near
female relative. and do not care to pay for