The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1900-09-16
RETURNED FROM ABROAD.

RETURNED FROM ABROAD.
(Alamance Gleaner)
Mr. Lawrence S. Holt. wife. three
daughters and youngest son, of Burlng-
ton returned last week from a two
months trip abroad, during which they
visited the Paris Exposition and many
points of interest in Europe. The trip
was greatly enjoyed, but on the Sth of
July the party ran upon a hail and snow
storm in the Alps, which was cutie a
contrast to the climate in the Sunny
South" about that time. Mr.. Holt brought
to his aged mother, Mrs. Emily Holt of
this place, and other relatives, some val
ued mementoes of his trip.
HOW TO BE HAPPY WHEN MARRIED.
In matrimony abdicate power, but al
ways be clever enough to let your wife
think that the sceptre is in your hands.
She will respect you more for it.
If you want to rule your wife gently,
discreetly but firmly, show her that you
have the qualities which she herself sell
dom possesses; broad mindedness, free
dom from prejudice and a lofty sense of
liberation and forgiveness.
II your dinner is badly cooked praise
your wife and damn the cook. or be con-
tent with remarking that at the club the
dinner is invariably we'll cooked.
For weeks and perhaps months you will
have a good dinner.
husbands club is the fortress in
which he can rest and rally his forces be-
fore engaging in a new battle.
Now that women have their clubs. too,
the matrimonial campaign is fought on
equal terms.
If your mother-in-law pays you too fire.
quent visits neglect your wife for her
and the lady will disappear like magic.
Let your wife have her own way in ev-
erything. Only draw the line at being
told what is good for you. That's pro-
voking.
OF this remain judge yourself
In matrimony spend your time watching
and fighting that terrible enemy, that aw-
full monster, habit.
1t is as difficult to be an ever interest
ing husband or wife as it to be witty ev-
cry day of your life.
Never impose your society on your wife
when you see she is not in a mood to
enjoy it and you are not in the mood to
make it enjoyable.
Never lecture your wife except by Dip
lomatic hints in a casual. conversational
sort of way.
Advice is a piece of luxury thoroughly
enjoyed by the one who gives it.
A lecturing husband is the king of
bores
Never moralize, never pose for a model
of virtue. in fact. never make an ass of
yourself before your wife, for l don t
care what you think or say you are, your
wife is very much better than you
A prig is what women loathe from the
bottom of their hearts.
Always be considerable, at first especial
| ly. The happiness of your whole married
life may, WILL depend on the considera-
tion you have bestowed upon your wife
| the first dav.
| Virtues and faults should go each side
| of the balance, and if, on any day of
reckoning, the scales should incline the
right way be lenient and forgive.
Never let any one of you two take it
I for granted that all the wrong-doine
comes from the other.
Self conceit and self-righteousness are
the dead enemies of happiness in matri-
| mory.
Do not expect too much of matrimony.
La Rochefoucauld said that some mar
riages are good, but that none are deli
| cious.
If yours is good rejoice, return thanks
| and remember that with all its faults
matrimony has a great redeeming fea-
] ture; it's respectable.