The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1900-10-12
MAKE THE BEST OF IT
DON'T SPoILTHE PRESENT BYMoURN-
ING OVER THE PAST.
The Work of Today Is Not Done by
Dwelling on That of Yesterday.
Though Your Loss De Heavy, Do
Not Parade 1t Before Your Friends.

Not Parade 1t Before Your Friends.
A woman is more given to looking
backward than is a man. When misfor
tune comes and changes follow in its
train, woman will meet it all bravely
enough at the moment, but there surely
and swiftly comes the time when she
will look back at the has been and allow
regret to overwhelm her. She will say to
her husband, John, my dear, it breaks
my heart to see you working so hard, and
for a mere pittance-you who once had
thousands at commando
Now, John has his moments of regret
also, but, knowing the world as he does,
he is very thankful that things are going
as well as they are. The bitterest part of
the misfortunes that have overtaken him
is that which touches his family. But no
matter how brave John is he is always a
bit disheartened after hearing his wife
regret that 'all is so different from what
it used to be-" OF course it is her deep
love for John that causes her to sympa-
thize with him in the mournful fashion
that she does, but far better were it, my
dear, to withhold your sympathy alto
gether if it cannot take on a cheerful
tone.
The natural disposition of a woman to
dwell on the what has been goes beyond
the confines of the home also. If she has
stepped from prosperity into adversely
every little slight, real or fancied, she
ascribes to the fact that the world does
not care to take the trouble longer to be
kind or polite because she lis not in the
position she once was"
If a king should step down from his
lofty estate and go about as a bcggar
because he had never been used to work,
he would be nothing in the eyes of the
world but a bcggar, hut should he set
about with courage and determination
to do the best that he could to earn his
daily bread | am quite sure he would be
surprised at how many he would find
who were willing to help and encourage
him. And, so you see, it is not the story
of what you were that interests others,
but what you now are and what you are
now doing.
You may hug the history Of your good
birth and the story of the luxury in which
your dainty grandmothcrs lived close to
your breast-and | would not ask you to
let a bit Of this pride of yours slip away
but unless you take the trouble to be
much of Il gcntlewoman yourself in man
ner, who would ever guess your gentle
origin?
1t is what you are, my dear girl. with
great deal of family pride, and not
what your foremothers were that wins
you place in the world after all.
Not long ago | saw woman standing
mid the ruins of her splendid home.
There were the beautiful pictures which
she had brought from abroad on this
hand and rare carved furniture on that,
while man listened to the bids" that
We're made by strangers. After awhile
all the crowd had gone, and soon the fur
niture was carted away, piece by piece.
There were no tears from the woman.
Indeed, there was a brave smile on her
face.
"VVhat shall l do?" she said in answer
to an interested friends question. why,
make the best of it."
| have seen her several times since she
began to do this, and she has truly been
successful. Her husband and children
seem to be as happy and eontented as
they ever were in their lives, and she
makes no apology that there is pressed
instead of cut glass on her table nova
days, and she does not tell you while you
are eating the nice little dinner she has
served all herself of the time when there
were many servants in her household.
You may suggest that no woman of good
form would do such thing, but beg to
disagree with You. This is fault COM
mon to women Of even extremely good
form. And it is fault that the world is
very charitable toward.
The making the best Of things" meth
cd is by far the best to adopt when mis-
fortunes come. You Will present better
appearance by turning and making over
your old brown dress-if it is necessary
to do so-than Icy sitting down dreaming
over the days when your wardrobe con-
talned no less than a dozen beautiful
gowns. Your friends will appreciate you
thousanu unles more When you wear
your made over dress all fresh and neat
than they would should you wear Il dow
dy gown and tell them stories of the
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