New-York tribune., 1900-08-12
SOME WAYS OF THE WORLD
NOWADAYS GUESTS SHOULD ENTERTAIN
THEMSELVES-GNE OF SUMMERS
PLEASANT PASTIMES.
On. never go to France
Unless you know the lingo

oounsels Thomas Hood in one of his comic
ballads piece Of advice which might be para
phrased by the recommended tlon never visit New
port unless you know its customs-tnat IS TO stop
With what Is known the ultra smart set OF
course, the difficulty works its own cure in a way,
for the members of high society" are not apt to
invite those who may prove encumbrance or a
Iindrance 70 their own enjoyment. But il some
times happens that they credit their guests with
more acquaintances than they possess. and then II
is awkward for both parties An attractive young
married woman who had quite a social success last
winter i'm New-York invited by a certain
great lady L make her a visit of a week at
Newport. OF course. she was very much pleased,
and had several beautiful new dresses made for the
occasion expecting. as she said afterward to have
the time Of her life. On her arrival she received
most cordial welcome from her hostess who
after she had installed her visitor in lovely suite
Of rooms. said TO her:
Now my dear, you must make yourself en-
tirely at home, and go where you please and do
what you please. ] hope YOU have let your friends
know that you are here. There will always be
carriage for your especial when we do not go
cut together. and d bTougham for the evening set
apart entirely for you. Now just go ahead and
have good time. You accept all your in
Ttations except for next Friday night when / shall
give you dinner here. OF course. like every one
else, am up to my neck in engagements but be-
tween whiles must manage to see a great deal
Of each other" And she sailed off leaving her
guest who had never dreamed that she was ex-
pecteo TO procure her own invitations, in q state
Of complete bewiderment and dismay-but she
qdck and clever. and proved her capa ability
10 be woman OF fashion by grasping the situa-
ton and conquering the difficulty.
As her hostess lunching out the day after
her arrival, she announced that she would make
some calls and timing her visits well, she found
al home several women of whose hospitalites she
had psrtaken the winter before. To be stopping
with Mrs gave her the prestige she knew IN
Etinctively Il would. Size returned home with
sufficient number OF invitations to prevent her
seeming neglected, and on the whole her visit
proved agreeable.
But it might have been horrid," she said after
ward IF I had not been what my mother would
have called decidedly pushing I would have been
completely left out, and might have Jared like
one Of my friends who asked by her enter
tainer after few days Of solitude If she had no
friends, and who IN very self-defence dined twice
a. restaurant during her visit
What kind OF visitor are you?' frankly asked
an up TO date married woman OF a young man
acquaintance. Are you the kind that always sits
around and expects 10 be entertained or do you
eok out for yourself-join clubs make your own
Engagements and take yourself about? II you are
o. me latter species you may come and spend
week with me in August at Newport If you have
Rathng better TO do. l like 10 have people in the
house TO use them when 1 want them, but cannot
ssho catering for their amusement.