The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1900-05-20
WOMAN'S
WORLD.


that transcends in importance all other
arts, as life transcends death. Indeed,
happy marriage may be the parent of the
loftAest poetry, of The noblest painting, Of
the most compelling sculpture and of that
inventive genius which startles us out of
our unimaginative lives. For Love is the
creator of power and beauty, as God is the
Father of the universe.
/ am not one of those who believe that
certain people are made for certain other
people, and no other. Spiritual attraction
mental gravitation, propinquity, the in
sight that comes from sudden and unex-
pected opportunity-these are only lew
of the complicated preliminaries to the
marriage relationship. If young people
waited for their affinity" to bloom there
would be even more bachelors and maids
than there are Love knows no special
affinity. 1t disregards color of hair or
eyes, contour of face or form, antecedents
or temperament. IL spring in the heart,
putting to naught ell preconcetved opinions
of fitness, all familiar dreams OF JOY. IL
laughs al maXims and spurnS philosophy,
Love mates the like and the unlike, the
wise and the foolish the dark and the fair,
the sanguine and the anxious, in spite OF
wisdom, parents or palmists. The art OF
marital felicity consists in harmonizing
the most adverse conditions; 1t should Ap-
ply 10 all couples without exception.
1 offer a few principles which, il followed
intelligently, will change haphazard happi-
ness into a permanent JOY.
In the first place. marriage is not dfSci-
pline. God never removed rib from
Adam and presented him with Eve that ne
should instruct her or that she should lee
cure him. The most persistent seed OF
t. xnFl4 ha OF
thinks: "Wait till l get him. IN stop his
drinking, his smoking, his clubs, his over
work or whatever 1t may be that seems
to the bride to need reforming. And the
man who looks forward to teaching his
wife this or that had better never marry
until that idea is eliminated from his mind.
1t will probably come about that when
wife exhibits a gentle and unselfish repug-
nance TO habit that it seems to her it
must be wise to have changed, the hus-
band, because of the love he bears her,
and of the charm of her manner, win glad
iy please his wife. But when matrimony
degenerates into a school of manners, NOR
ais or discipline in any form, il rapidly be-
comes school for scandal.
In the second place, married happiness
can only be attained by mutually respect
fng and educating one another's individ
uality. The lily and the pine require diff
ferent soil, different treatment, different
same is true with man and woman. A
man does not marry a lump OF clay or
woman a pan of dough God formed them
both before marriage and gave them minds
and characters that require respect. Here
IS an axiom that ought TO brighten every
gloomy household Make your husband
happy in his way; make your wife happy
in her way. Each should grant the other
just freedom. If your husband, after
hard days work. prefers to read a book,
don't bother him into going to the theater;
or IL he wants to go to the theater, dom
prevent him because you don't want to go.
Most married people are dogs in the man
ger. Neither will allow the other to do
what one is unwilling to do oneself. Thew
wonder that they do not make each other
happy. Mutual concession TO habit and
temperament and preference is the only
basis for an intelligent partnership. This
might be illustrated definitely in the mat
ter of food, work. sleep amusement, vaca-
tons, etc. The word must should never be
used in a household except with children.
third fact worth remembering is that
love cannot be compelled. You promised
to love me, and you've got to-" Is a very
common phrase in married life. As If
few words spoken by clergyman could
compel that immortal eflorescence of the
SOUL LONELINESS is the only thing that
compels love. Sweetness. tenderness
thoughtfulness, faithfulness and all those
lovely virtues LIdt make Ilte worth HN10G
these are the only compellers of love.
When the woman frets and the husband "a
cross; when the man complains and the
wife eKooT.ateS; when abe unloyely thing
Is said and the untender thing is DONE
then love. the shyest of powers fits away
for IL has no abiding place. If a man ex-
poets woman to continue to love him. he
must put as much time and brains and
heart into being lovable as he did before
he won his bride. And IL a woman ex-
poets TO hold the strength of a mans de-
yotion she must not nag of worry her hus-
band, because, being her husband he is to
a certain extent, in her power. She must
study how to capture his heart anew ev-
cry day, and she will above all things cul-
tivate that exquisite tact which never says
the wrong thing at the wrong time. Wo-
men could hold men forever If they put
into the study of love all the time and
thought that they do into clothes or socie-
~. And men. If they spent half as much
time in considering their wives as they do
at the clubs, or in 1ounging over bars or
fussing about their business could easily
make their wives the happiest women In
the world.
Quarreling. nagging. scoldng, worrying
these will all be impossible in a life Of rnu-
tual consideration. and of that unse fish
respect each for the others nature which
is only too rare.
The majority of women err nowadays
in over-trimming their gowns, espsc ally
the bodices. only slender. long waisted
pers-ns, says the New York Tribune, can
afford to wear the bolero and bertha eff
fccts, the lines of which, running trans
veTssly across the figure, broaden Il and
shorten 1t more than those who blind!y
follow the fashions would. suppose. The
combination Of several different materials,
however harmonious and artistic they may
be in color aud Arrangement, is not be-
coming to a short woman, who should
keep entirely to one tint, both in material
and trimming, and who also, If she is
wise, viii never buy a figured material,
such as a challie or foulard, for It really
reqJires a tall woman with good figure
and carriage to wear gowns OF this de-
scription without looking "dowdy."
II always think that all black or all
white dress give exceptional dlstinc-
ton" remarked a woman of taste recent
ly, land 1 will give YOU an instance OF
the proof Of my theory A young West
ern cousin of mine came on to make me
a visit. The girl was exceptionally pretty,
and ] wss most anxious that on her first
up. esrance IN soc ety she shlu'd score a