The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1900-04-25
MARRY.
Marry, Happily II You Can, But Any
way, Marry.

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man?
No.
Nothing is bar to any man or wo
man who has any real genius for any
real thing. a fence is simply some
thing to jump over when there's some
thing worth getting on the other size
of the fence. The man whose success
is spoiled by marriage never had any
real success in him. He's like the
man whose friends tell you that he is
nobody's enemy, but his own, for
the very good reason that he is too
worthless to create or hold even such
small quality as hate.
We've all met the genius who would
astonish the world if he could only get
rid Of an unfortunate predilecti on for
stimulants.
The man whose genius can be OBJ
scured by the popping Of a cork either
has an abnormally developed sense of
hearing or else his genius is of fra
gile order little suited to this rough
world of stress and strain. The man
whose success in life is marred by mar
riage would have found something else
to mar it. if he had remained single all
his days.
Marriage is not the end and aim of
existence. It is q side issue, a very
important and very engrossing affair,
to be sure, but still not the only affair
in life. Marry by all means. happily
if you can, unhappily if you must, aud
60 on aud make your life what it must
be afterward.
At least you have tried to do the
normal thing. II it turns out badly
make the best OF it. II you are worth
your salt the misery you undergo will
help and not harm the development Of
your especial talent.
Successl What is success? Who
finds it? The man who puts his soul
into his work. And no man, be he
great or small, wise or simple, finds
his soul until he marries. Oh, yes, 1
know the type of man we all know
the man held down by small spirited
wife, nagged and tortured and driven
half mad by her petty tyranny. That
will not injure his art. IF he meets
his misery like man it will make
man of him.. and it takes man to
do mans work in this world-take
any profession you please as tool.
Who knows how much Xantippe had
to do with the philosophy which made
Socrates famous? A happy marriage
is a beautiful setting to any life; an
unhappy marriage is q poor setting.
Neither Of them can permanently af-
feet the real gem Of character or attain attain
meat "a Itself.
Women!
Is marriage bar to professional
suoSess with them?
No, it is not. It is help to sue
cesa.
The woman Who never loved
man we'll enough to throw the
whole world aside as a foolish
bauble for his sake is only half wo.
man. 4hssi.n
The woman who never held against
her heart the child Of the man
she loves is but q foolish infant,
prattling Of things she wots not
Of, beside@ the humblest creature
alive who has the divinity Of mother
hood.
Marriage is the only key which un-
locks the closed heart Of the world to
q woman.
Marriage develops woman, aud any
thing that develops her helps her to sue
cess.
Is professional success bar to happy
marriage?
IN, :hs7e 10 the other side OF the
shield, s-ai,
Tie actress plays her part all the bet
ter for the home she left TO go to the
theatre.
The actress who knows what
marriage means paints better pic
ture than the single woman of the same
ability.
The writer who has shut out the
warm glow at her heart for the sake Of
uriting-who can question that her
work is better for the love she leaves
behind her?
But the home the actress leaves, the
husband the artist forgets, the child
the writer must neglect-how do they
fare? ~
Not SO well. Believe me, not at all SO
we'll.
Marriage is not bar to profess