The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1900-12-01
MUST Be A
TRUE MAN
What Marriage Asks of
the Husband.
FIDELITY IS THE KEYNOTE
Happiness Of the Home Depends or
Honesty, Says R.~ Mr.
Kincaid.


Text l Cor 7:3, Let the husband rem
der unto the wife her due" Eph., 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave
himself up for 1t.
/ Last Sunday evening we left the plight
; ed lovers standing at the marriage -altar
Taking the woman's hand, the man said
! to her: II take thee to my welded wife,
J to have and to hold, from this day for
ward, for better for worse, for richer for
poorer, in sickness and in health, to love
ad to cherish till death us do part, ac-
icording to Gods holy ordinance; and
thereto / plight thee my troth Taking
the hand of the man, the woman said to
him, with slight verbal variations, the
same words. The two were pronounced
husband and wife, and the solemn words
uttered: Whom God had joined together
let man put aSunder." They have
gone forth to begin their welded life to-
gether, no more twain, but one.
They are in their own home. 1t may be
Il fine great house, with rich furniture,
costly pictures, and all the elegances of
wealth; it may be cottage of four
rooms, with cheap furniture bare floors,
and destitute of adornment, 1t makes
very 1.-the difference what the size of the
house may be, or what it's furniture; the
happiness of the home does not depend
on the house or on what it contains; the
people who live in the house make the
ihappineSS,-or mar it.
What is involved in the husbands life
at home? Do we sufficiently realize the
! nature and extent of the pledge they take
at the marriage-altar? Was it made SIM
ply for the occasion, and never more to
T, be thought of? Does the average man
realize the responsibility he assumes when
he takes a young girl away from the shell
! ter of father-love and mother-love, the
softest warmest nest in the world9 and
1c h.ar int yyba
forth his love is to be her only shelter?
Does II occur to him how much the life
!. of the wife may be expanded by his SYM
pathy or chilled by his GOODNESS and in
difference? The world has heard a great
deal at one time and another of moraliz-
] ing about a wife's duty to be always win
+; ming and attractive, retaining the charm
of girlhood amid all care and toll and
sorrow. OF course; but is husband I'M
4 der less obligation to be always kind and
considerable, gentle and lover-like? This
is Il good rule, which should work both
It ways. 1t has been said by someone that
!. very many married folk find each ether
: out as mariners find out the solar world:
y they leave the shores of their single life
: in the spring days, sail on awhile in
: sunshine and fair weather, and then make
their way little by little into the cold
ATTITUDES, where they see u.e sun sink
a day 10y day, and feel the frost creep in.
= until they give up at last, and turn to
Ice, SltllnS at the Same IdDic. HIS 10
but too true a picture of the way in which
, the best relation in life comes to be the
!, worst, and in which the summer welded
happiness dies into a cold and cherries
l. winter.
/, What is it that the husband owes to the
S wife? Next Sunday evening we may find
= il worth while to consider what the wife
. owes to the husband but. tonight, let us
:. frankly face the husbands part in the
making of happy home. What does he
: owe to his wife?
e There is one word in the passages of
n Scripture which I have chosen for my
j text that covers every thing-the word
love Husbands love your wives" The
!, counsel is very short, but it grows eX-
II ceedingly long and broad when it is fully
I accepted and observed. The art of the
photographer is now perfect that he
? can take one whole side of a great city
: newspaper on a plate small enough TO be
worn in little pin: and yet as you look
at it under the microscope you find that
every word is there, every punctuation
point and mark. So in this word love
we have a whole volume of thoughts and
suggestions as to life and duty crowded.
What are some of the things that are en-
= braced in husbands love?
Y One is fidelity. The husband must be a
: true man. Well may the woman say as
= she goes to the marriage-altar:-
f Before / trust my fate to thee,
Or place my hand in thine;
Before I let thy future give
. Color and form to mine;
Refors / peril all to thee
u Question thy soul tonight for me.
= Does there within thy dmmest dreams
q A possible future shine
s Wherein thy life could henceforth
:, breathe
Untouched, unshared by mine?
If So at any pain or cost,
;, Oh tell me before all is lost"
: No man is fit to be a husband who is
e not a true man. He need not be rich,
d nor great, nor brilliant nor clever, but he
d must he faithful, or he is not worthy TO
= take a trusting woman's life into his keep
: ing oh the tragedies that are being en-
u acted in so many homes! | do not allude
e to acts of physical violence. I speak of
e blows that fall on naked hearts, of vIo-
lerce done to the deepest sanctities of life
speak of vows that God has sealed,
,e broken and trampled under foot. I speak
o. of the shameful profiigacy of husbands
? and fathers in so many of our American
T. homes. I speak of men with pure, noble
wives and innocent daughters, who make
J. light of the sanctity of that womanhood
o in which those wives and daughters are
y gloriied. Men breathing a. moral atmos-
:, phere one breath of which by wife or
" daughter would blast her with enduring
J. shame. Men hiding their sneaking abomi
N nations with social decencies, and living
V as if they were masked from God Mer
II
and contemptibleness, would skulk from
:, the face of virtue, and wilt in the light
- of innocence. Lepers of domestic infidel
le ity Animate plague spots in broadclotf
s. and fine linen Heads Of families, over
% each of whose door-posts should be writ
n, ten the words "a desecrated home anc
:. whose foreheads should be stamped will
1.-The mark of the beast" No home can be
"a happy home where the husband Is no.
l. first of all a good man, faithful to his
to marriage vows. This is the first duty M
w owes to his wife.
Then he owes her the reverence which
:, is always due womanhood. No mar
~ ought to ask a woman TO be his wife
At without assuring himself. to the best o
his ability, that she will make him help
meet he can always reverence. love ant
trust. A single life is necessarily an i'm
perfect life; but it is better far that
er man should abide alone. and enjoy wha
he calls single blessedness, than that III
should make a false choice. But how