The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1900-05-06
NUMBER FIYR.

must be made that not one man I'm a
thousand has any sense of deicacy about
girls letters. If he's vain he shows
them to brag of his conquests. II he's
a bastard he exhibits them TO compromise
the girl. If he's merely careless heIleaves
them lying around for anybody TO read
who cares to, and between the three
there's small choice SO far as the girl IL
concerned. A cynic once said that one
should treat all friends as those who
might some day be ones enemies. a
girl should write all letters to young men
as if they were TO be read from the house
tops. As 1t is doubtless impossible to
convince any girl OF the inexped!ency of
this point of view, perhaps the next best
thing to do, is to still more discourage
the writing Of letters, and permit the art
to fail into a further state of what Mr..
Cleveland would call innocuous desuetude.
There is one piece of advice which 1
would like TO give to every young mar
rIed couple" said a woman of experience
to New York Tribune reporter, which
if followed, would save much conjugal
unhappiness, 1t is to form q business al
lance. so to speak, as well as a matri-
monial one From the beginning they
should have no reserve toward each other
in regard to resources and expenditures.
The old saying that loves flies out the
true, inasmuch as the causes which beget
poverty and the trials to temper and
health which ii engenders are to the ma
jority of temperaments fatal to love and
happiness.
''ThIs is a condition of affairs which
might in nine cases out of ten have been
avoided by cutting the garment according
to the cloth, or, in other words, regulat-
ing expenses according to ones means
Men are naturally inclined to be reserved
about their business affairs, and unless
a wife in the beginning puts matters on a
CONFIDENTIAL footing the husband will be-
come more and more disinclined to dis
cuss his affairs with her, and will tell
her practically nothing, so that she never
knows Just how much she is warranted
in expendlng on the running of her house.
hold.
II never bring business home" is
common saying among men of affairs,
and they feel a certain pride in sure re-
serve not considering how many results
of their business worries they do take
with them, such as unreliable tempers,
unjust criticisms of expenditures and con-
sequent want of sympathy in the fam
lily pleasures and pursuits.
II know of a sad case which might give
emphasis TO my little sermon. No two
young people could have been more in love
or happier in their little menage than
the MS when they began their married
life-but he was reticent and she was IN
clined to be extravagant 1 never knew
how much l had to spend In those days.
said Margaret NJ TO me tearfully after
the crash came, and her husband has
succumbed to his misfortunes and be-
come a confirmed inebriate. Jack never
told me anything about his business or
his downtown worries-and the money
always seemed to be forthcoming. II he
had only trusted me l would have so will
insly helped him, not only by reducing
our home expenses, but by making nam
feel that success in business was not so
vital thing as he imagined it,
IF men could only realize how sensibly
most women would meet msfortunes.
they would not dread il so much and In
many cases it might be averted.'
In discussing the question as TO wheth-
err poor man should marry rich wo-
man, Ada Patterson, in the New York
Journal, says:
should a poor young man marry a
rich girl! Never, if he can help it, 1t is
astonishing what number of heart
breaking and life-breaking mistakes we
can prevent IL We try.
A Young widower who bore the burdens
of a mo,herless child, a dependent moth
err a pair OF ne'er-do-well brothers, debt
and a promise to a dying wife that he
would never take a successor for her
told me that he would never marry again
IL he could help it-in short not unless
he found that he could not live without
particular somebody He proposed the
next week and found that he could help
it. The young woman's answer was
mo- that was masculine in its unmistak-
ableness The widower is still alive, and
stju unmarried He has found that we can
help" the seemingly impossible.
If a poor young man is tempted to mar
ry a rich young woman he should put
few pointed questions to himself
Can 1 endure the hidden sneers of every
one l know?
Can / ask my wife for money?
Can l bear papa-in-law's disrespect and
mamma-in-law's tyranny?
Can 1 make my wife believe that / love
her for herself alone?
III can do all these can ever live down
the stigma of having "feathered my nest"
by my marriage?
The wise young man proves his wisdom
by answering TO each and all no"
The obssrvant world is conscious of
great lessening of respect for poor
young man who marries rich young wo-
man Ii laws down the public prints in
which the fact is proclaimed and smiles.
aad the smile is not latteTing to the
bridegroom.
1t smiles, too, when It reads that a poor
Young couple has been induced by the
promise OF a bed room or Kitchen set TO
have their marriage made public spec
tacle at a fair or bazaar, but the smile Is
tinctured with respect For the young
man aud woman who are married at the
fair have started even" and this barter
OF a public spectacle for household goods
is a purely business affair, and at least
shows the enterprise Of both.
The world has enough sentiment and
enough taste left i'm this ultra-practical
age to rebel, even though secretly, against
transaction ia hearts. II sneers at the
poor young man engaged in nest-feather-
irg by matrimonial means, and 1t will go
on sneerirg. Fer 1t presupposes-and it is
curiously obstinate in that-that the
young man has but one motive for such
a match, and that motive is money.
you've won a charming woman"
you're a lucky chap" it says by way Of
generalization, but II the young man lis
tens for the undsrtone in these speeches,
II win sound much like "fortune-hunter."
The healthy, capable young man has
the world Of success before him where TO
choose. Given 50 per cent. of ability and
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