The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1900-05-18
re is the Art of Marital
Felicity.
Y HERBERT ID. WADE IN
WOMANHOoD.

ICtiICi Hdpiill, eagerly anu
nc thfully is an art that tran
II u nds i'll importance all other
!o $, as life tranScends death.
re Iced happy marriage may be
y. >; parent of the lOftieSt poetry.
,,ttos the nobleSt painting, of the
st compelling sculpture and of
II inventive genius which star
e1,,S us out of our unimaginative
Z. ses For love is the creator of
- aver and beauty, as God is the
atther Of the universe.
am not one of those who be.
N" M ne that certain people are made
ELS, certain other people and no
q ser. Spiritual attraction, men
SsCn, gravitation, propiuquity, the
o,Rs light that comes from sudden
nv wd unexpected opportunity
ID sse are only a few of the com
,D,sstlecated preliminaries to the mar
Est &c relationship. If young peo-
L 1g waited for their affinity" to
,-Nonlom there would he even more
;lr(mchelorS and maids than there
Ceeee,. Love knows no special aflin-
st- |. 1t disregards color of hair
ocdseeyeS, contour of face or form,
rs tecedentS or temperament. 1t
~ ,A,ings in the heart. putting to
oh oh ,ught all preconceived opinions
fitness, all familiar dreams of
n,rirr. 1t laughs at maNimS and
terms philosophy Love mates
" y, My like and the unlike. the wise
81 ecd the foolish, the dark and the
n, Ger, the sauguine and the anxious,
spite of wisdom, parents or
aelmiStS. The art Of marital fe
r;Tyeity consists in harmouizing the
RTpSt adverse conditions; it should
his ply o all couples without ex-
|Elo hbtion.
ION offer a few principles which,
eI followed iutelligen,ly, will
q bange haphazard happiness into
Tpermanent joy
I SYN the first place, marriage is
A. lgt dicipline. God never re
INh mved a rib from Adam and pre-
n aglted him with Eve that he
a,ould instruct her or that she
TO @puld lecture him. Tue most
in rFsistent seed Of unhappineSS is
! byn when the woman thinks,
to Aait till | get him. I'll stop his
in sinking. his smoking, his clubs,
rs OverwOrk"-or whatever it
e. NY be that seems to the bride to
FIR, ned reforming. And the man
alo looks forward to teaching
Ito l. ; wife this or that had better
JoI aver marry until that idea is
COZ Eliminated from his mind.
lit will probably come about
Iss Eat when wife exhibits a gentle
lFr>,rd unSeltish repugnance 10 a
"bit that 1t seems to her it must
p. wise to have changed, the hus-
,eri rnd, because of the love lie bears
ar, and of the charm of her man
res r, will gladly please his wife.
.S1sAlt when matrimOny degenerates
k,tO school of manners, morals
Jo%r discipline in any form, it rapid
FA becomes a school for scandal.
arln the second place, married
,toDIpplness can only be attained
lin mutually respecting aud edu
lfing one another'S individual
Co.. The lily and the pine re.
err ire different soil, different
Afatment, different conditions
tC.aer growth and fruitage. The
lei, me is true with man and
CONAN. a man does not marry
Jo alnmp of clay nor a woman a
Fl IN of dough. God formed them
With before marriage and gave
wv, EN- minds and aracters that
er, luire respect. Here is an AK
VII that ought to brighten every
AZ oomy household. Make your
Flhsband happy in his way; make
sour wife happy in her way.
|fJC lch should grant the other "a
' d in st freedom. II your husband,
Il Ter "a hard days work, prefers
8 Ote read book, don't force him to
Fl 10 the theatre, or If he wants
eigo to the theatre, don't pre-.
Il wnnt him because you don't want
FIT go. Most married people are
tpgs in the manger. Neither
Ia til allow the other to do what
I re re is unwilling to do oneself.
vvley wonder that they do not
c i,p AXE each other happy. Mutual
/ u,ncession to habit and tempera-
{ Fo TENT and preference is the only
q, isis for all intelligent partner.
ip. This might be illustrated
10 etinitely i'll the matter of food,
Fork, sleep, amusement, vaca
bins, etc. The word must should
Liver be used in a household eX-
! &c pit with children.
ia third fact worth remember,
Fg is that love cannot be com
Il lied. lyon promised to love
e, and you have got to-" is a
V.ry common phrase in married
e. AS if a few words spoken
VI a clergyman could compel
lat immortal etfiervescence of the
V,ul! LONELINESS is the only
EliuO that cnmnalS Iova SUaat