Daily Kennebec journal., 1900-12-08

'onlooker who sees most of the game
When a woman is married to 4 man of
cxtravagant habits and tastes she Is
only injurlng him by doing all the
economy fDr the family. ! have seen
rascs where the wife wore cheap un-
lerwcar in order 10 economize. while
he would wear nothing but silk. He
dld not restrict her expenditures. and
ir she had made her purchases on 2
scale corresponding 10 his he simply
would have been compelled 10 rctrench
and il would have been an extremely
good thing fin him.
other women sacrifice everything 70
their children. doing without little
luXuries or pleasures greatly desired,
in order to supply even unreasonable
wishes ~ the sons or daughters. such
mot hers hay. morbid sens. VI duty
and reason that IL is the right NJ every
child to bc happy if his parents can ac-
c1mplish G. il. That is quite true. | al-
nit. but Indulgence Is not always the
shortest road u happiness. Train q
hoy To feel that som. way Or other he
must have what be wants: ut him see
that his mother regards no sacrifice t02
great TO procure what he desires, and
in time he regards every fancy as 4
necessity ana appropriatcs ii without
shadow ~ consideration for The
rights Of others. If l were training
children / would try first of all to teach
them to consider their lives as part
Of the family life and deserving m
consideration beyond that extended 70
others II the small income made 1t
necessary that the boy could have
bicycle only if his mother went without
a new gown. | certainly would not DO
him the injustice TO let him have the
wheel. | should appeal 10 his sense of
Justice and manhood TO persuade him
to put the wish aside: then he could
feel the healthy and ennobling glow Of
generous renUnciation. Yet have
known women to make just such sac:
rifices. which the boys took as a mere
right.
As far as | can see women are and
always have been in a conspiracy to
make men selfish tyrants, BY being
willing slaves. 1t always takes slave
t. make a tyrant. you know
y third sighed: 1t is horribly hard
To know what to do. If one tries -
train 4 child to be UnSclfish. is there
not danger that hc may carry 1t To cx-
cess" Extreme unseItishnoSs is as uh
jcctionable, in one way. as the re-
verse
Don't worry" promptly rejoincd thc
bachelor woman. The average mas
cuiinc creature Is born selfish, ana no
amount Of training could Grad
;cate the tendency y mother
can tell ny the time child
il two years old whether there is ans
danger Of its being stupidity unscltish.
4 safe principle is II assume that boys
are selfish and girls unseifish. The
exception may bc about one in a hun
drcd in both directions.
The argument that child il en-
titled to happiness is worthy Of only
limited respect. The few years OF
childhood are an extremely small part
of the individuals existence. and yet
are Of vital Importance in formative
influence, and it seems 10 me to De a
frightful mistake to regard them as
mere passing moments. with no furth-
cr use than TO be made happy. 1t rs,
in my opinion. q pennywise and pound
foolish policy in morals to sacrifice the
possible fifty or more sears Of maturity
to the fifteen of childhood"
What qualities should be the most
earnestly cultivated in girl children"
asked the young woman whose one
little girl was sleeping in the hammock
near.
The oldest in the groCp quickly re-
piled: My dear. your question calls at
tentinn to one Of the mistakes mos;
common in training children. Why
should girls have different method
from boys? The homcly old adagr.
What is sauce for the goose is sauce
for the gandcr' is abs lutciy true. ANA
if the same qualities were developed
alike in men and women most Of the
social wrongs of the civilized world
would be rightcd sooner than they are
likely to be. Self-reliance. justice. per
severance. truthfulness. kindlinesS and
obedience are qualities as essential |,
one as to the other. Teach the child tr
help himself in all reasonable ways. to
desire nothing that is not rightfully
his or to be gained by his Legitimate
efforts. to make repeated ana persist
ent endeavors to win anything for
which he may properly wish. to he
fearlessly truthful. gentle TO other chill
dren and to animals. and to obey the
laws of home that are the introduction
to the laws Of the nation. and you will
have a valuable citizen and an uplift
ing social force. as well as son or
daughterto be proud of. If you analyz2
those qualities You will find that they
COMPRISE the duty of the individual 20
himself ana others. and give him Il
solid foundation on which to build
noble character and a useful life"
\ heavy football approached. and
man lowered magnificently over tho
group. rs it the fall fashions. the
social campaign or the handsome
blonde who came this morning that j.