The Prince George's enquirer and southern Maryland advertiser., 1900-06-15

determine whether 1t was gladly given,
or only extended by an indulgent but
not approving hand.
Unfortunately, there are 4 large
number of women not fitted for the
management OF moneys, and small
let us tr, to believe it is small-divi-
sion of the great feminine army to
whom acquisition for self and selfish
pleasures is the dominant rule ofeNist-
encc Yet every fair observer must
he willing to attest that any and all
capable of being taught the elements
of business principles, and the woman
who is really good administrator of
her home kingdom must be in some
sense business woman.
There is defect in the early train
ing of any girls hore in which the use
and management Of money have not
been already taught, before she takes
upon herself the responsible name and
office of wife; but admitting that the
bride has to acknowledge this lack
which is so common as to be nearly
universal, it would not be difficult
matter to start her right by saying:
"Wc can only spend so much; what
this does not cover we must 60 with
out There is an intuitive love Of
managing inherent in almost every wo-
mans heart which would rouse to this
appeal, and very few would fail to re-
spond chcerfulIy to the trust reposed
in their power.
From the very beginning, or even
before the Amen had closed the we'd
ding bond, it would indeed be almost
giving hostage to happiness if the
man who asked her to share his life
made clear to his young wife the
amount and nature of his resources,
the possibilities of dangers ahead, the
necessity that they act in accord and
perfect harmony towards the best pos
siblc use of what is by his marriage
VOW devoted to her service.
The larger, far the larger half, of a
workingman's life, be he lawyer, doc
tor, journalist, banker, merchant, is
spent in and with his business; if no
| g.. hof
himself concerning the burdens and
perpleXities of those long hours, She is
surely not an active partner in his
thoughts. Even when the Office is
closed, the anxiety goes with him as
he draws near home, and his nervous
suffering shows itself in ways incom-
prehensible to his family. His heart
fondly fancies that he is saving them
from distress by concealment when did
he better comprehend the heart of wo-
man he would know that to find the
door of his thoughts shut was her direst
pain.
The question is terribly complex, for
the vehemence, the partisan quality of
SO large a majority of womans convic-
tions, makes it difficult for them to see
two sides of question. What Injuries
or impoverishes their beloved ones is
wrong; what elevates and enriches is
right. A man must be patient and
clear of sight who can make lucid to
the average feminine mind that if he
has erred he was not beyond other men
foolish, or if he has been deceived, that
it was not by guile easily discovered
by his wife. There can be no question
that it is, in 4 thousand cases, the APP
parently easier way for a man to carry
the burden on his own shoulders, and
play Santa Claus to his wife while he
has money, and make her feel as if she
was the naughty child who only de-
served the symbolic switch in her stock
ing when luck is'against him.
But if welded life is to he of that
type which Mr.. Gihsons 5 famous pic
ture of The Last Wedding Guest"
portrays; when after fifty years love
sits unmoved when all the OF her friends
and kindred have left the old couple to
each other, it must be partnership
indeed. and man cannot render his
wife Il higher compliment than to
establish her rs his assistant and the
trusted steward Of his gains.
Where that anomalous condition eX-
lists in which the wife is the richer of
the two, weight is already laid in the
scale of possible dissension, or, at least
} dstrust. The sweet position of de-
! pendent wifehood is an appeal to a
mans tenderness, spur to his en-,
deavor, and a strong bond. a measure
Of Independence is very dear to a wo-
nan, if it is only for the joy of giving
: to her husband from out her purse that
which is in reality her own, not trans,
fer OF what he has given her for her.
) self But to have the balance of wealth
on the wfc's side of the house is to in
: troduce Il many peril. An heir.
css once said sadly: "'rhe men | would
care to marry are afraid of my money;
! the men who seek me have only that
in view
, Yet even here a perfectly open un.
. dcrstanding as to the definitely settled
use of the means of both the richer
f frank discussion of what best avails fol
each and both, is the only safeguard
ouainct tho norilS of tho woy