The Savannah morning news., 1900-06-24
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

emily time Of young love, when the deep
est affections of life burst forth into their
perfumed poisoning and life is in it's
springtime?
Why is 1t that this joy Is so transient
and so apt to fade and darken like the hues
of the sunset? Why do there come to some
the bitter frosts that cut love down or the
subtle polsons that destroy 1t, while 9TH
ers enjoy 1t until death?
These are serious and not merely senti-
mental questions Life is not all logic
and economics. The problem OF securing
and retaining affection is fully as import
ant to the happiness of our homes as the
problem of securing wealth.
A separate individual Is but half life,
and happiness depends upon finding the
other half who is the most perfectly suit
ed in mind and temperament.
There is perhaps for every person one
perfect mate, though it may be seldom
that such marriages occur. Practically
speaking, we can only hope TO get as near
perfection possible.
One secret of happy marriage is to re-
tain, as far as may be, the spirit and
relations of courtship. Marriage should
never be considered the gateway to IL
cense and selfshness
Lover-love is the highest type of love
in the world. 1t is even higher and holier
than mother-love. 1t is the ripe and ra-
tional affection of equals for each other.
The highest conception which Whitman
has of the civilization of the future is that
we shall have a world of lovers
In every true marriage there should be
an element of devoutness. Nowhere is
nippancy more out of place than at the
marriage altar We would have fewer d.
VOTCeQ hAnanco for
every marriage were regarded as a pecu-
liarly serious and solemn Undertaking
was present once at country wedding
which Illustrates what mean. The young
couple were plain, modest folk from the
farm, and appeared to be deeply impressed
as the ceremony proceeded. When the
minister reached the words, Let us pray"
they both turned around with a quick mo-
ton and threw themselves upon their
knees, bowling their heads upon the sofa
and so remained 10 the end of the prayer.
IL was the first case in which ! ever
knew any one to kneel during the we'd
ding prayer except In a formal way, and
there was such intense earnestness and
devotion In their manner that every one
present was profoundly moved 1t was
very evident that they dedicated them
selves to one another with their whole
hearts
To the children born of love in wedlock
that is kept holy in fact as well as name
we must look for the elevation Of the
race. There Is no need of laws forbidding
certain people to marry, for ii is a fact
that people who are very inferior may
have children far better than themselves
IL they are drawn together by love and
obey the laws of their nobler natures.
But the chief secret of a happy marriage
Is the following rule: Put the woman at
the head of the family instead of the man
II there is TO be any ruling it is better to
have the woman enthroned than the man.
More authority will make the woman
stronger and more service will make man
genter. No man can ever know the full
sweetness of love who insists upon being
the lord and master of his household.
The English common law says: 1.-The
man and the woman are one, and that
one IS the man." This unjust and absurd
sentence has been the means of making
our homes little empires instead of little
republics.
| protest against any sort Of imperialism
In the home. The highest marriage is thet
which develops the liberty and self-hood
OF the woman as well as the man.
Women should be the owners of them
selves as well after marriage as before
All the immortality of the world centers
around the submissiveness and tactical
slavery of women.
Every woman should cultivate the sense
of self-ownership. for unless love is free
and pure IL is not love. 1t is mere selfish
smativeness and nothing more
The great need of our homes Is not so
much for better mothers as for better
fathers. The man for whom the world
waits Is he who will ascend into the high
est of his manhood and live there: who
will be strong enough to climb the nights
OF unselflsh love. 1t is he who shall love
as a maiden loveth." and by the culture
of his own brain and heart attain to COM
plete self-mastery. In such a man the
passions will not be extingushed but con-
trolled, and his better self will be the Su-
preme Court of his nature, from which
there can be no appeal.
There is a clergyman in New York says
the Times of that city, who, whenever
he has a chance to tell story tells a
Dewey story. 1t concerns a small boy in
his Sunday school and took place a lit
tie while ago when the Admiral was
moro general subject of conversation than
he Is now. In the course of talk the
minister had with his scholars one day
he had asked a general question:
What great deed did Dewey per-
FORM"
That was an easy conundrum. for Il
contained the answer in itself, one small
boy in the school thought. When he
heard that word deed" he knew in a
moment that was the reply the minister
wanted. and he piped out shrily;
Decided his house to his wife"
the case and she does not always get her
just dues. When Mrs. Dewey lost a dia-
mond pin in Detroit the other day all the
papers came out imms diatey with the
story Of the little boy who found it. But
1t seems that there was a little girl
Lillian McGrath who saw the pin at the
same moment that the small boy did
though the boy got to the pin first and
grabbed 1t. But 1t was little Lillian who
told the police and made its return pos
sible. And she was amply rewarded. She
was one of the little patriots who were
wildly anxious to see the Admiral and
his wife. II did not look as If she was
going to have the chance, but after the
finding of the pm, word was sent that
she was to be taken TO call on them at
their hotel, where she had a chance to
talk with Admiral and Mrs. Dewey for
at least half an hour. Then the Admiral
presented to Mrs. McGrath a $50 check.
with which to start a bank account for
Lillian, and better than that he promis-
ed 10 send the little girl his autograph on
photograph when he reached Washing
ton.
Il find II an interesting study in soci-
olesy" remarked a cilrbman, to the New
York Tribune. recently, Ito follow, step
by step, the rise of a successful parvenu
Take the CLIMBERS. for instance. can