The St. Louis Republic. [volume] (St. Louis, Mo.) 1888-1919, 1900-02-25

El Mis- WilL.-M J.. BRYAN.
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MADE t." Irufc-sor Summer -.,at mot u.a~-
Imam - Per CeaL OF mar ri r,r. e g-.-...
their ideals 81 G3rr-g-- j. Gil. ur-.l
hottie" r. E"c a.y 1ru.r r"--'n ,. .E..
- the nature o. 3hla-s GIG Caa u.'.- ra.-.
.2ScrFr an.i .r:E- uu ,y.IlaI. 10y statistics
or accurate Information cagra, Re gained
CGon sch . subject.
EnVironm.nt = = powerful f.,.u~ IT, :.;w-
iH- opinion. iV-Juai observation ... a.-
peilencc oCtRo.cht a great del ut theory.
have known people. whose lives had been
emhitt"red by DISAPPOINTMENT, say 'ha- III
men "sre dishonest aal Lutru=tWcrlEv.
while others. whose surroundings We
more favorable. asserted with equal ,..-
hdence that the world WIS fri - ho--
'Siv and goodness. ones standpoint has
much 10 do with what Cue secs.
II Professor Sumner - "a laer,Ia~ sri
las reached his conclusion at long ra.1-a.
one need not be SURPRISED II lis rz--.mE-m.
II nc Is a married man and counts a.mSr.r
among the lucky 70 per Gems. ,ar s., led
10 wonder where lie his sathc-.l - s.-
formation.
Two Classes of Failures.
"hi!e II Is always hard 10 Judge rH, s.ir-
u u u speaker by {; fragment cC his speech.
! an. willing to conCede that thrr, i= mu.l
"i truth in what he says. Very many r.1-
iie do fail to realize their ideals. tbs,
Naturally fall into two classes.
IN the first class We may place those
whose expectations are unreasonable ana
not in line with possibility and common
sense. II a Woinan's ideals lead h-r to SEE in
fer sweetheart Il GCm.God. perfect in man .
~ strength. infallibie in wisdom ana INV
less an character. and 20 believe tn, ill.,.
WIN MN viii be without itI hard. rag.H
places. her ideal Will never l.. attained
me i'm" when man was q gallant lri-t-
willing &" spend his hours drumming his
iSht guitar at the lattice Of his Inyr and
Ewing himself up u a lifetime of !ovamsk-
fAG, may have existed in the age of rb-.-
Ealry. II may still find place j.. runr,r.
Hnd IN some romantic minds. But IN, maid
Nh" thinks She has found such q iuvar IS
soon ui'deceived in this generation.
II the youth secs in his hril, . wirr1r=S
angel. who Will forever he swee'-ter.rcrei. .
ana believes that her inr"- pr.earr. viii
MAKE nome a heaven. h" is equally sure 10
be disappointed. :
HAND IN hand. the gallant knight aud tie 3
afssiic being, mad" only to be warshireG. p
nave passed from or III. stage. TI,aIs
which rest upon an unreasonable basis f.r
ci realization. 1t is right IN. they should.
Another class Who's hopes do rot rn.-
teiiailze are those who have found thu Dos
slhliIties OF married lif. 50 far beyond rn.s-
Eonthful expectations that the ideal is out
grown. Its realization is Neither sought nor
cared Tor. In many cases IL j. ;grEgrr.s .r I
perhaps, remembered with an irfyIgenr
smile. instead Of with disappointment. II
Is not possible for people before mlrri4..
TO realize the completeness OF life which
may come to them, and their hopes fan
short of the goal.
Granting this much Of the s~aut!-maa'+
position. l must take issue with him. how
ever, on the question Of per ,.ut.
Between the two classes mentioned WIN
stand At either extreme in thu scale of
matrimonial JOY, there ar many who r.
alize their ideals-mora than ten i'm every
hundred, | am sure. 1t seems equally .er-
tain that this number is constantly ON tie
increase.
changed Conditions.
conditions haze changed in tie past thirty
Hetrs. y generation ago the great ma
Jnriiy Of women are dependent. Thu dld I
not know how 10 hn s"lf-su~jliniug. and
fer avenues Of employment were open 10
them. Many young women married tu- a
home. a pharse we have all heard used ~
our grandparents. Such marriages could
but lead to disappointed hopes.
In ev"r-incressins nUmbers girls are uo.y
'au@ht 10 be self-reliant. and to prepare tu
max" their own way, if ncresSary. A tn.
humber OF helpless ones decreases trerr is
q consequent increase ia the number Of
well-selccted mats. \ growing number a.
'tih thrlr expectations because ideals have
changed.
'ocduca;ion or equal educational ady3r-
TaSes, which now 50 largely obtain have
maui III HHle!thCe. Men ana women ar
able 10 estimate each other rlUrh NOR.
justly and accurately. No senSihl. vogr-
woman these days but knows that Whit
her choice is the dearest by In tn WORLD
Ge is human. She has discovered that there
are limits To his knowledge and is .qVa..
able to see that he is not fauitle-s.
On the other hand. men who have ceased
10 look for perfection are content. Eotu
ideals are, generally speaking. more reason
able and more capable of realization. T..
idea OF ccnradeship grows in favor. qi~- .
blind devotion on either side. While ,
press brings TO public attention many
and scandals. II does not # necnS-
city follow that nlne-tenths Of married peo-
pie have failed to find that for which tnsv ,
hoped. For each case made public there :
are "a thousand homes whore husband a,d !
wife are growing. year by year. more truly
one. =
There are those Gho have based their | ,
love upon cOngenIal tastes. These know the ,
keen delight which comes from mental UNI !
". God has made the mind Of woman the !
complement 70 the rliud of men. Wh.r ]
properly coupled they are a source ,C q
strength to each other. A. steel and niu- ,
strike fire. 50 the brightest wit and best =
thought springs from thc intellectual union ,
of man and wife. Beginning as 4 stlmGl.IS .
TO research and higher -nteLyuT. each learns .
20 Know the mind Of the other. Y glance ,
often reads the thought without til" spoken ,
word. ,
Sometimes one mental half speaks to his
counterpart through space. Instances of the .
latter are by no means Uncommon. Since = =
question of this MATURE must always remain
Il matter of opinion. | am at liberty ~ III ,
sist that Professor Sumner IS entirely wrong a,
on the question of per cent. =
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