The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1900-03-26
kEDITATloNS ON MARRIAGE.

The most dangerous thing a man car
do is TO fan in love. II he falls into a
ditch he may break a leg or a neck.
but when he falls in love he sometimes
breaks his heart, and that Is worse.
How mysterious is this business OF fall
ing In love, anyway. The youth goes
soberly along the path of everyday ex-
'stence. He has no thought save his
work, no eye for aught save the duty at
his door. Suddenly. a look, a voice, a
face, and he is in love. No more n.
pathway undisturbed. The world has
changed. writes Walter Williams in the
st. Louis Globe Democrat. A new ideal
has arisen. The gray clouds fade into
blue sky and he blacks his boots twice
day. Whether love be caused by
electricity or microbes 1t certainly
comes unbidden. Reason has little 10
do with It. Imagination is its helper
and sentiment it's twin. A man who
can keep out of debt and out OF love
VIII never be miserable and never hap
py.
Love is creator OF ideals In court
ship the sweetheart forms and fancies
creation and calls IL Her. lie places
this creature on a pedestal and wor-
ships as the Parsees u.d the sun. No
girl ls ever quite so good l.Uc syeet-
heart thinks she is. How lonely i'm this
world would be her life II this were nor
the truth. Sometimes the girl comes
down from the pedestal There is then
"a mistake OF serious import The ideal
is dissipated. the idol found TO be but
common clay. Well IL is for the girl
If she comes not down. The sweetheart
VIII hold her In higher esteem for her
REFUSAL A 70 hfu
Galatea is longer beloved than the fraiI
and tickle Phryne.
The chief disturber of married bliss
is ennui. II there was another word
that meant what this borrowed French
one does, that word would be the one
employed. But ennu alone expresses
IN half-dozen letters the tired feeling
which destroys many homes. . IL IS
cured by no sarsaparilla. EnnuI makes
men read newspapers and women ION
clubs. 1t drives husbands TO the lodge
and worse. IL makes wives cross and
querulous. The element Of surprise has |
gone from married life when ennui |
comes I'm. The bride is no longer |
adorned for her husband She keeps |
her adornment, for afternoon recep- |
tions. The man of the house forgets /
the kisses or the honeymoon. Each /
loses interest in the other Thus /
comes the rift within the Lutte"
They-only get tired. Hymen's bond (
does not gall. 1t only wearies. In
compatibility Of temper means gener-
ally only indifference. Paul said OF love
that il did many things, but he never
said that II did not get tired He was
an old bachelor, but he knew something
OF love. Nothing dissipates love quicker /
than 10 get tired and to see the OBJ
ject OF the love tired also.
IL is not the duty OF every one To get
married. Some should stay single as
horrible examples. Women formerly
got married because there was nothing
else TO do. Now they get married only
when they do not care TO do anything
else. Marriage is now the last resort
IL was once the only one. There is
room abundant in the world for old |
maids. There is none for old bachelors |
They should be taxed as much as the
years living of some good woman |
would require
Reformation by marriage is never n |
success. If he won't give up drink for
her when she IN his sweetheart he won't |
give IL up for her when she is his wife. |
This is a truism. but one that every |
girl should paste i'm her mirror. where |
she will see IL oftenest.
There Is no happiness greater than
that which true marriage brings. II is
not transient or Elusive like the will o.
The wisp, but shines on with added ra-
iance unto the perfect day. Clouds
may neck the sky and storms may
'ome without the home. but within IS
,oace and sweet content. Tho passing
rcars but add 90 the JOY. Youth fades.
)ut not tho spring OF love. Heads grow
yray and burrows chase the dimpies
rom the cheeks But the iovelight Is !
n the ewes. tenderness IN the voice and !
owe I'm the very footsteps down To- tho
lay when death does them part--yea.
uore, until the day when death does 1
hau m uuiie oralu