The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1900-02-06

young girls make in regard TO their
marriages is the not intIequent sacri.
6cs of themselves in the belief that
they will be able to reform d~iseipared
lives. INV many broken hearts have
followed misEskea eff ,rts of this sort
to save a men rom drunkenness or
other debasiDR folIies, none Of us cen
ever reckon; G0d kee ps the sad RECORD |
II uohappIly you learn to love a man
Who has fallen into sins which mar bis
life, let him prove hln self able t o walk
uprIghCIy before hls marriage and not
imagine that your presence will save
him. Give him no pledge or prom lse
until long and patent probation b, g
ehoWn tina he Is conquerer { 8
evil incllnations. Some euch fauiGs
are linked with most generous traits
aud are the weaknesses OF natures
originally lovabIe to a degree, but il
il worse than fol y to marry such a man
believing that you can ward eff bis
enemies. God and his own courage
must Wln the O6GGIe.
I do not mean that you may not
have wonderful influence for good;
that precious gift is yours without
stint. Youth and sweetness and the
longing q man has for wife and home
will dc lnfulGe service to q soul strug
CLING to free himself from sin, but leE
your love be a guerdon faithfully
striven for, and let his self conquest b.
long assured before you risk that
most sorrowfuI existence, the wife Of q
drinking man.
ERROR IN JUDGMENT.
M IST4KE5 IN IdgmenG made by
WI InnUceI t end loving hearts are,
ara-, of hourly occurrence. | The young,
fresh, unworldly heart does not natur
ally harbor suspicion OF a man VITO
SEEMS only TOO eager TO devote bis llfe's
I o make il happy, Yet not every ap-
parently sincere attachment will bgar
the test of lIte's sharp alcnemy.
Tue gIrl who possesses wealth has
bitter reasons TO fear that she is not
~ooed for herself The daughter Of a
man OF influence able to pusa The for
'unes OF an ambitious m IN stands al
m)s5 IN GqIal jeopardy. IL 10 not a
gracious tssk to sou seeds of oIs,rusJ
IN your yet un worldly minds, but a
ge, t g, courteous manner, a suave and
persuasive persistence too of,en WIDs
for a heart.ess su TOR what a less selfish
and assured man fails to obEa'n.
FRANKNEss WITH PARENTS
THARM, Personal beauty and a
" graceful bearing do not guaran-
Lee a loyal heart, a generous temper
and an unsel64h fidelity. YJuDg q
experienced ey es are not Rdjusted to
tue fsTc9 light which beats down Oh
US in the worlds hard his b ways; they
are not always to be trusted to see for
themselves. But close at hand a
mothers heart and a fathers kLowl
edge and judgment of men stand on
either side, and they are the true
guardians of your peace.
Your hearts cannot love to order;
they must make tree choice; but | b.
seecn you to Oe open with these tender
guIoes who can have no motive in de
csiviDg you or in tampering with our
happiness. Let no veil OF disgust no
dIslngepous Discrimination hide your
preference from your mother. Be
fraukly open to ward her who gave you
your life at the peril OF her W And
If she bids you 60 walk Warily and to
be Glow to give your future into the
keeping Of a lover whom she distrusts,
heed what she entrests, even at the
COST OF much pain. Many a page / n
the Book OF Experience might fIy
wear a mourning edge for those who
have refused to listen to such warn
ings,
Girls are often less open with their
fathers than with sheir mothers. This
is a thing to grleva over, especially 10
connection with this very subject of
marriage. Who would naturally be
m pre- tender OF you than a good father
be so qIIck to see errors in char
acler in one who sought to win you as
he knows both you and the world and
who is competent to judge a man al
oOly q man cant
SYMPATHY OF FATHER AND MOTHER
VOUNG gIrls are apt TO imagine
- That their parents are loath to
see them marry. This is rarely true.
Toe father remembers that the years
go fast, that ths day is at hand when
lis arm will no longer be strong to
labor, and he is comforted to know