The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1900-01-20
WHY YOUNG MEN FAIL.

Thomas B. Bryan, ex-president of
the Worlds Fair, lawyer, capitalist,
scholar and man of affairs and socie-
ty, has personal acquaintance pecu-
liar in its extent and nature. In
Chicago, his home city, Mr.. Bryan is
known as the friend of young men,
and it is to be doubted if any other
man of advanced years is in closer
sympathetic relations with a larger
circle of young men than Mr.. Bryan.
He states his view of the most gener-
al and potent causes of failure on the
part of the young men of to-day as
follows:
"Chief among the causes which
bring positive failure or disappoint-
ing portion of half-success to thou
sands of honest strugglers is vacilla
ton The lack of an undertaking an
plication to one pursuit is cardinal
weakness in the younger generation
of toilers in almost every line of eff
fort. The young men who keep their
eyes fixed on a definite goal, never
yielding an inch until their efforts are
attended with absolute success, are
not as common types as we might
wish. Indomitable will is quality
of character that the young man ofto
day may we'll afford to consider and
cultivate.
"It is also my observation that uni
form courtesy-kindness of disposi-
ton expressed in graciousness of con-
duct-contributes, to larger degree
than is generally appreciated, to the
advancement of the young man who
fosters this trait. On the other hand,
surliness and even indifference mill
tate against the promotion of the one
who is so unfortunate as to allow
these repellant forces to influence his
relations with others. Politeness is
so easy of requirement and so profit
ably entertained that I marvel its cul-
tivation receives so little serious at
tention. Certainly the failure right
ly to prize this element of character
gives the key to many life failure.
"The disposition to look on work
as task to be thrown off at the earli-
est possible moment is too common
failing, and is the reverse of that stall
wart faitafulness which attracts the
attention and approval of employers
and gains promotion and advance
ment for those who thus identify
themselves with the interest of those
whom they serve. 1t is with the
young man as with the farmer he
best succeeds who plows deepest. To
scratch the surface of things lightly
is not enough to insure bountiful
harvest. The crop of such seeding
is failure. He who would win must
go deeper, must live more seriously
and with greater determination and
fxedness of purpose. > Satm day
Egenimg Post.
hUW IUysELECr a WIFE.
Since marriage is the perfect state,
writes John Strange Winter, in the
Amey1can queen, why is it that we
poor mortals so often make the wrong
selection in the choice of wife? Is
it due to Our system of separating
young people just when they should
be growing up together; of allowing
boys and girls to meet as strangers
when it is most essential that they
should be well acquainted of know
ing nothing of each others character
istics, and having only their feelings
to guide them; or, in other words,
when each is mystery to the other?
The women of to-day are better
educated on this subject than the
men; their ideals are higher. their
advisers are better. Men as a rule
are too se1f-confdent they believe
they know it ALL" and they are i'm
posed upon by the girls least worthy
of their regard or respect, who lack
character, intellect, and in fact every
thing but beauty and the art of impos-
ing upon them. Few men are
match for a designing woman the
better the more easily is he victim
lied, because he attributes to the OBJ
iect of his affection all sorts of impos-
sible virtues.
The majority of unhappy marriages
are due to the lack of any fixed ideals
of married life, and in this respect
men are the chief sinners. They
marry because their friends marry, or
because they want a home, or because
they imagine they are in love with a
pretty facial insufficient reasons
for taking upon ones self the respon-
sibilities of marriage before one has
met the proper mate. A happy mar
riage is the making of any man, and
the happiest people are the married
ones.
When man contemplates marriage
seriously, and sets out to find himself
a wife, he should be worthy of one
he must not expect foolish girl of
twenty to develop, even as the years
90 on, into anything but foolish
woman girl who is at the age of
twenty has not begun to realize that
life is not all frivolity will never re-
alize it. However young the wife
men marry, unless there is the proper
material to work upon, they do not
make good wives. The right mate
rial is plastic, the wrong is liable to
ugly twists the right material is al
ways open to ennobling influences
that not only lift her, but have their
beneficial effect upon the husband.
The right sort of woman makes life
on this earth about as pleasant as it
is we'll we should have it.
A CERTAIN lady sat up till twelve
o'clock the other night waiting for
her husband to come home. At last,
weary and worn out she went to her
bedroom to retire and found the miss
ing husband there fast asleep. In
stead of going down town he had
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