The St. Louis Republic. [volume] (St. Louis, Mo.) 1888-1919, 1900-10-21

MIR" rreixed TO tn. nime on a E~entleman's Wis
i;ing card? II SO. are these cards used for al!
purposes. or are they u.ed exclusively for calling.
necessitattins other cards without the NJ =.
Also. wha. IS the proper size for both OF the au'Ne
cards? II. :. W
The correct visiting card for a man mas
always "Mr." on it. and the card should ne
quite small. obiong In shape and al I'M"
pasteboard. II Is not considered good SiyIe
TO have n card without the prefix Mr. I'M
less IL is a business card. If yuE haV" any
settled address that also should h" ''l-ratr'
on your visiting card. but II you are merely
in a place temporarily. you can 'it tue AL
dress In pencil. show rs that i l. merely d
temporary abode.
II a lady gets into . cab with a gentleman.
should the gentleman or lady get IN Hst' Ant
wha; side Of the carriage should tie lady i.i"
oneZ Il. =. IL
A lady Il supposed "a ride on the left side
or a vehicle. unless IL is her own 'atrldS''
In which case she always sits at the right
1t is an English fad al present that a i'hE
should get into a hanson cab first and SIT
down at the side nearest the pavement: tn"
gentleman then gets in. Passing hcr as
he does so. All these little points nave
/ some meaning. and il Is just as well to fol-
low them. but II Is foolish IN pay 10" much
attention to them. because no one could lie
Judged-at all events. in this cnuntry-hy
the fact that he sat on the right or the
wrong side Of 4 trap.
I In calling at a house where there are several
visitors and two unmarried daughters how many
cards should \ young gentleman leave VII" only
really wishes TO call on one Of the visitors. hut
who has been invited L. tile h.'ise severa! times
b the young ladies who live there
In calling at a house II IL supposed that n
gentleman will ask for the lady OF the
house and leave a card for her. X he wish
es to see one of the young ladies. he must
all the same, ask for the ladies and leave
two cards. This means that there IS one
left for the ladies OF the house-meaninS the
unmarried daughters-or any guest WHO
may be stopping there. and at the same
time he is following the rule OF leaving l.
card for the lady of the house. II he wishes
TO call on any one especial visitor VINO -
| there. he can leave a card written for Miss
So and So. but unfortunately. he must
needs call on all At once. at ali events Tor
the first or second tine. He can then make
some appointment, asking IL he may cal! at
a certain time, and when he does so, send
| up his card merely to the young lady whom
he wishes to see: Their, as he leaves. he can
leave two cards on the hall table, which Will
help him out OF all his difficulties. and may
! perhaps insure him {. cordial we!cnm- the
next time he repeats the visit.
Are flowers necessary on 4 breakfast table. or
is the fernery more correct and flowers for DIN
ner? TASTY TABLE.
A fernery looks better on a breakfast ia
NC NAAO llNSA ~ ~ "a = 49,
thing but an addition to n dining table, but
as a rule the more elaborate style of floral
| luncheon. A fernery is always in good style
and adds greatly TO the beauty of any well
| appointed table.
| II a young gentleman asks 4 young lady 10 81
| TO the theIt.r with hin. does he have to wear
his dress suit or can he So in hs ordinary bls.-
ness suit? j. f.. :.
| 1t is always more courteous TO pay a young
lady you have invited to go to the t.:eIicr
the compliment of wearing your dress SUIT.
for she will undoubtedly take the trouble
10 wear a rather smarter gown ti.dn her or
binary street costume. There are a great
many reasons why II may not be possible
for you to wear a dress suit. You may not
have time, ar you may not ne IN the habit
of wearing one, but il You are in the habit
OF wearing one il certainly would seem
| very strange TO choose this opportunity for
not wearing il. ard u1doubtcdiy the young
lady would be very IN ich pleased If you did
SO.
Would I: be improper Tor a young lady on re-
ceiying a bouquet for her birthday or any other
gift during the CHRISTMAS holidays without the
sender's signature to ass the gentleman az It be
one) IL he was the sande-: DAILY READER.
i Il would not be proper for YOU to thank
any one sending you an anonymous gift, I'M
less YOU have reason to believe that the
sender chose that way of making you a
present in the belief tlat YOU would uruer-
stand who had sent IL: but if you are quite
sure You know to whom you are Indebted
you can easily in some way convey your
| thanks. Writing any letter of thanks would
| entirely spoil the delicate sentiment that
undoubtedly prompted the gift.
/ hay. been asked to b. an usher at a morning
| wedding. Would 4 cu,avay coat. white vest and
light trousers be appropriate? Also what kind OF
gloves, and When should they be worn.
E. G. N
The black coat. white waistcoat and light
trousers will be quite correct, but do not
| have the trousers too light in color. Such
as you would wear all winter would be
| best. White or pearl gray gloves. with
heavy stitching at TIE back, are correct,
and you will. OF course. have to wear them
| during the ceremony, as well al at the re
| ception. while you are performing the duties
OF usher.
Kindly state IL one should remain sIoyed during
a business conversation With a lady at her home -:
Are written cards bad form for a lady? When
should the third person he used in correspond
ence? BUSINESS NoAAN.
Yes. one should remain glOyed during Il
/! business conversation with a lady at her
own home. for as your visit is purely on
business and not social you will not he eE-
pected to shake hanCS. 1t Is an act "i
courtesy for a gentleman about TO shake
hands with his hostess To- remove his
| gloves. but this is quite 4 different case.
Written cards are not good form for either
man or woman to use: the engraved cards
are correct. The third person is always
used i'm formal correspondence, and i'm many
business notes. but in writing Il letter when
the third person is used care must be taken
to preserve the third Person throughout.
for otherwise the note will seem inClegant
and unfinished. and is decidedly ungrum-
NAUTICAL.
What - the most appropriate thing for a
yours gentle man to say when he wishes to con-
eIatulate j. young lady who has just been mar
ried, and to whom he had paid great attention
for 4 long time before htT marriage?
Perhaps the plehsantest thing to say
after YOU have Offered sincere congrat"-
lations' to the lady. would he To remark
that Noa are in Il position to offer great
Fluctuations fn her husband. since Your
long friendship has made you well ac-
q~uainted with the bride he has won.
| AN amusing bit Of Thackerayana IS to lie