The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-04-15

them. The Southern father is fond OF
his children, and proves it by his pres
ence at the domestic hearth after his
days business is over"
Society women poor t~hreadbare
phraseD are learning to talk, says the
tGentle Woman" Formerly all girls
were supposed to take lessons in singing
regardless of whether they had singing
voices or not. Not, so much stress has
been laid for so long upon the prevalence
of unpleasant speaking voices among
American women, girls and women are
beginning to pay attention to the long
neglected speaking voice. leaving sing
ing lessons for those of marked singing
talent.
A lady who has a large number of
pupils in voice culture for talks sake not
singing, says
Our women are clever. Many of them
are entertaining, but only a few of them
talk we'll. The fact is, American women
usually talk too much. They are vivacious
and versatile and used to attention, and
they impose upon their hearers. They are
seldom good listeners, and they say so
much that what they say loses weight l
lived in Europe for years, and had excel
lent opportunities for studying nation
al characteristics in conversation. The
French woman of intelligence seems to
understand the art of conversation intui-
lively. One can see how the salons were
possible in France. After the French the
R~ussian-Polish women are the most en-
tertaining in Europe; and I found the
| Danish woman very interesting, but that
10 d11a Nchiaf1y 70 the nIJalitU Of thpir
minds. while the Frenchwoman's CONVEX
and may be acquired.
1.-THE first essential to pleasing IS nor,
as it has often been said to be, a desire 70
please. but a desire to make your COM
panion pleased with himself" is the posi-
ton taken by Florence Hull Winterburn
when discussing ''The GIFT of Personal
Charm in the April Woman's Home
Companion"
What pleases US gains an ascendency
over us. and nothing really pleases that
has not some relation with ourselves,
= something in common with us, and draw
ing on US to a better opinion of our own
merits than we had before. For one of
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to see itself graciously reflected. A man
endears himself IN proportion as he shows
that he is guided by The motives and
opinions we, understand and like, only
carrying them out more agreeably and
successfully than we are competent to do.
So it appears that the secret of the per-
sonal charm that makes some men and
women delightful is not marked SUI
periority. but battered likeness to our
selves. Whether we imagine the likeness
or whether it really exists is no matter
so that the Illusion is brought about.
And the ability to bring it about belongs
to the nature that is gifted witt power
to divine the feelings of others, and sym
pathize with them. To be 'sympatica' is
better han to be beautiful or talented.
A certain apparent subordination of self
is involved"
The Duchess of ~Saxe-Coburg Gotha
| (who is a daughter of the late Emperor of
Russia possesses the finest parure of
rubies now known, says the london Dali.
~ Mail"
In the exhibition of 1851 there were two
rubies belonging to the Hope collection.
one representing the lead of Jupiter and
the other a full length figure of Minerva.
The best ruby from that collection is now
in the possession of Lady Wimborne, who
is a daughter of the Dowager Duchess of
| Marlborough.
The most beautiful jewels. generally
seem to pass into the hands of Americans.
Some four years ago Mrs. Bradley Martin
made a tremendous sensation at one of
the Queens balls, when she appeared in
all her beautiful diamonds and rubies for
the first time; and the late Mrs. Aver was
the owner of the celebrated Mazarin ru-
bies. When she gave her famous dinner
| at the Savoy, which set the fashion of din
ners at different tables with different dec
| orations, she created quite a sensation by
wearing these beautiful jewels, which
were said to be of almost priceless worth.
Another American lady who wears ru-
bies and diamonds is Lady Cunard. her
/ crown is composed entirely of diamonds,
with one big ruby in the centre, while her
necklace has rubies set in diamond clus-
tiers, and, as she is very fair, with golden
hair and white skin, although the stones
| are not of the same value as others which
nave been mentioned, they are certainly
very becoming.
Very few of the great families seem to
ownrubies as heirlooms, but the late Lady
| Margaret Beaumont had splendid rupIes,
| which were given to her by her husband
| when her famous emeralds were stolen.
These rubies are still in the Beaumont
family.
If the little tots catch cold at this
c~hangeable season, and are restless and
irritable, beware of the 'quieting medi-
| cines" that contain drugs. It is an i'm
portant question to consider: Why is it
| that so many men and women move heav-
en- and earth to put down the liquor traffic
and use of opium, and not one OF them
says a word against the traffic in the nur-
sery? How many nurseries are free from
some remedy that is guaranteed to
.'quiet" the fretful child and give it and
the mother a good nights rest?
If it is right to drug a fretful or wake
! full infant to sleep, why should the com
munity raise such a commotion when an
adult seeks the same end by a pipe of
opium or a dram of liquor? While the re-
suits in either case are so disastrous, OF
the two the baby %drugging seems the
worse, for the babies have no choice; If
they had they probably would refuse the
| dose; while the adult takes his drug vol
UNFAIRLY.
And doubtless this very druggng in the
vY,rSorxy owe fha fo1lndation for the taste