The Scranton tribune. [volume] (Scranton, Pa.) 1891-1910, 1899-03-04
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hood, writes:
Dear Saucy Bess:
You know n great many girls and you
look upon them from a different point of
view than they look upon each other. |
want to be a success in society. | want
to be popular and yet l want to be some
thing more. l can't say that I'd like to
get up to my ears in charitable and
church work for ! do like to be acquainted
with the family at home and / have a
cousin who does enough of that sort of
thing to make up for what the others
don't. But l don't want to he frivolous
Now you ought to know. What sort of
girls do people like most? Don't you think
it's better not to be too Intellectual?
Isn't it well to cultivate originality and
don't you think that society is very in
sincere and trivial? Anxiously,
Madge w.
I've always thought that when peo-
pie ask advice it is we'll to find out the
Kind they want and give em that.
They'll probably do that way at any
rate, and afterward it is ples 1ant to
have them come to you and Ay that
you have such excellent Judgment. But
| it Is rather difficult to determine Just
the sort to administer in this case. The
young woman knows what she wants
| III iSSullS, bul lnt exact nleInOQ TO DIr-
sue is little doubtful. 1t is a desirable
thlng to be very popular and yet to
have some earnestness of purpose be-
| sides mere popularity that those who
| look beneath the surface can detect
Yet. after all, popularity is a reason
| ably reliable test. The girl for whom
everybody has smile, and not even
| metaphorical frown when she has
| CgnI ic i.
of all the favor she receives. People
do not accord to mean, flippant or un-
| lovely natures anything like a unani-
nous vote of approval
1t is lovely to be a young girl with
! all the beautiful opportunities of life
| before her, but | fear that Madge. or
any other girl who has not laid the
foundations for popularity in earlier
| years, will find some difficulty in ad-
justing herself to the necessities. There
| are certain elements in the process
| which cannot be overlooked In the
first place, she must have perfect self
| control. If she hasn't already acquired
this, 1t is the fault of her mother. or the
person who had much to do with her
childhood training. a young girl who
is anything but sunny. sweet and
gracious not only outside her home but
within its walls. will not he success.
| one who allows herself to fall into vio-
lent RACES on fits of sulking is about as
pleasant to have in the family as a can
of nitro -glycerine or an open keg Of
| gun powder which nobody can tell
when 1t may go off. There are by far
too many women in the world who
should be labeled, High explosive;
handle with care"
With regard to being too ''intellect-
ual' ii isn't worth while to worry
about that. A girl is not likely to find
herself lonely on account of her brain
development in these days when every
body reads and a great many young
people and old keep up regular courses
of study. The girl who is really intel
lectual doesn't overpower her acQuaint-
ances with her learning. 1t is only the
halfway, superficial one who attempts
that feat.
As to originality. that depends on
the type selected. I know a girl who
takes great pride in being original in
| dress To the observer this is chiefly
displayed in the unfriendly terms ap-
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her belt in the back. and in the pecu-
liarly unbecomng hats she selects and
the rakish angle at which they are
pitched. Another likes to be consider
ed original in a habit of sclf-absorp-
tion which leads her to cut her ac.
QuaintanCes on the street and fail to
hear remarks addressed to her in social
conversation. She considers this an
indication of genius that leads thoughts
far far away from present surround
ings to climb the sleeps of lofty aspi-
rations and fancies but her eXasperat-
ed friends are wont to callously term
her expression at these times as semi
idiotic and her manner most i'll. bred
and veXatious. and among themselves
to threaten her with a sudden shower
bath, or the firing Of a cannon cracker
in the immediate vicinity.
Another Girl l know decides it to be
a mark of originality to criticisp people
very unkindly for their small or great
Nagaries, when the fact is that she
simply is bent on encouraging a most
offensive ill-temper and discomfort
Her remarks are only ill-natured and
in bad taste and not original in the
least as they are echoes of the vitu-
perations of snarling, crOssgrained wo-
men from Zantippe down. When sh-
was q tiny girl her mother applauded
her sharp little comments on the call
ers that came to their home: their
costumes and various peculiarities In
stead of tying up that small Virago's
mouth and severely furnishing her for
such cOarseness, the foolish mother set
the example on the judgment Of neople
by their clothes, and for the discus
sion of scandal and neighbOrhCod Cos
sip in the daughters presence. or
course she is now a bitter harsh
tongued young woman, old in her
knowledge of the history OF her towns
folk. and unpopular in her own set, the
members of which do not cali her
original but spiteful and sOurcd, and
she is anything but a comfort to her
mother with whom she quarrels in cat
and dog fashion
Originality. which is gained by au-
dacty in telling risque stories, in using
street slang, and in daring convention
ality isn't to be desired, neither is that
| which leads a girl to be q pride who
affects horror at the natural ebulltiOns
Of good health and good temper, who
is cold and unsympathetic because it
is $50 common" to be enthusiastic and
pleased with the pleasant things of
life.
AS to the insncerity of good society,
my dear Madge. there is insincerity
I'm everything from clergymen to taf-