The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-09-24
WOMAN 5 v ORLD

Il is probably no more a woman's bust
ness to make herself agreea bic, says Dor
othy Dix in the New DREAMS Picayune,
than il is mans. but in our scheme of
civilization we have allotted that duty to
her We look TO her for the finer graces
of life, and to meet a woman who has no
quality of personal charm is TO sustain a
shock for which no number Of previous
dIsappointments seems TO prepare us. She
IS a misit in society, diseord where We
expected harmony, a flower without per
fume. a bungIer whose mistakes seem
worse than crimes. Nothing makes up
fore it, neither wealth nor position, nor
beauty, nor c!everness. Lacking charms,
she lacks the most winning OF all wo-
man attributes, and it is strange, indeed.
that SO few should think il worth their
while to cultivate the graces Of the mind
and heart as well as those OF the body.
They have not even the mans excuse Of
laying their lack on nature, for women
spend their lives in overriding and cir
cumventing nature. But the woman who
would not dream of wearing her hair
straight because nature mace 81 that way,
hasn't the slightest hesitation In letting
her manners remain in the uncouth state
in which they were turned out raw from
the shop. She may deplore the result, hut
che takes no steps to supply the remedy.
Yet it IS as certain as anything else in
life that charm may be acquired. one
does not refrain from sending ones chill
dren TO school because they were not born
with knowledge Of the alphabet. Indeed,
the less natural aptitude they show, the
more anxious we are that every effor'
should be made in their behalf Many
people with little talent have by practice
made themselves delightful musicians, and
it is quite a $ possible for us by dppiiCa-
ton and diligence 70 acquire the gentle
are of pleasing. We may never attain
degree of fascination that will enable us
to sell gold bricks TO our acquaintance,
but we shaA have added much to the
general average Of human happiness and
comfort.
Roughly speaking, the ground work of
al personal charm is tact-the ability to
keep off of other peoples toes, physically
and metaphorically. Goodness knows tina
looks like il ought to be easy enough but
Il seems that il isn't There are people
who cannot walk down ear aisle without
going out of their way TO step on you.
and there are those who so through life
tramping on everybody's vanides and
euscepubilities and forever saying and do
ing the wrong thing. If she comes to see
you she invariably comes the day you
have a picked Up dinner. and the baby is
driving YOU crazy by his FIRE ting. If
there is woman in a crowd whose mar
ried iufelicity is an open secret, she dis
courses on the subject OF divorce and the
equivocal position of Divorces in society.
If there is one with a black sheep in her
family. she harps on forgeries and pris-
nraN DI.h a ma I'm.
from humble beginnings, she bubbles over
with anecdotes Of the faux pas of the new
rich. If there is any topic to he particu-
larry avoided you can hack her against
the field for going right az IL. If there is
a sore spot in your heart she puts her
brutal finger on il with unerTing precs-
ion, and il is no vail for YOU to tell your
sci she didn't mean il. 1t hurt, and you
hate her for If. OF course this kind of
woman always offers by way of excuse
that she didn't think" 1t is no apology.
What right had she not to think? The first
lesson the moman must learn who wishes
to acquire charm is to think, and 10 think
early and often, and from the other per-
sons point of view too.
The next thing is respOn siVeuess Now
und then-aias thai il should he so seldom
we meet a person who has hi rare quail
ity OF delight. We te them Of our hopes,
end Their eyes kind'e. W. speak Of beau
?
their intelligent comprehension follows
every turn. We - OF our owed ones ana
We fe5l that they TOO. know what he JOY
OF friendship and The sorrow OF parting
may he. But how different The attitude of
the ordinary person 10 whom You TN 10
tcu any thing Tell them of something tina.
has touched you, aud il wooden Ind an in
FROM Of cigar Store wCu Re just as COM
panlOnable and responsive. Try to describe
something you have seen on your recent
trip, and they sil up with en- expression
that says 50 panty, 81 wolder how mu n
more there is OF this9' that YOU cut your
self Off in modification in the IN ode of
sentence. so far as Hing a. story or r.
lat ms joke is cone, rucd now, il takes a
person Of reckless ing to even attempt
il. NoDody has The Manners to even APP
PEAR 10 be IA crested or amused and you
are lucky if by The time you reach the Sc
ond sentence, some ocr doesn't announce
that he has heard Il betO-e Be not as
these. CULTIVATE a responsive 1ook and
learn 10 smile if yea lave 10 go to a school
of actinE 20 acquire l.. We are grAtefill
TO many people, but We keep a warm D ace
in our hearts for more more than for tgOsA
tnte .ligcnt and Ill cr mi "a ing ind V duals
who have had the good sense 20 see the
POINT of our STORES, and laugh al our
jokes.
Washington people never tire of talking
of the brilliant woman whose recent death
recalled her early prominence in national
affairs, Kate Chase Sprague. An artist in
The capital who was domicled in tine
White House when Miss Chase was mar
rled is responsible for the following:
Every body in the caIilal" he said.
was excited over the marriage OF Kate
Chase 10 Gov. Sprague Of Rhode Island
She was the most decided personality in
Washington, for, besides being great
belle and conversauondiist il was known
that she was a great power behind Sec
retary Chases ambitions.
"She knew politics well and talked ablv
on subjects hat often bafiled men
President Lincoln was very fond Of
her,
"Her sprishtliness and witty good humor
delighted the keenly humorous phi,oso-
pher and he denrly loved TO 'eet her
started and make her talk.
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