The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 18??-1935, 1899-04-28


Tact in Conversation.
In his essay on manners Emer-
con says: THE secret of success in
society is certain heartiness and
sympathy" 1t is an aid to any one
who is self-absorbed, diffident or re g!
served to keep this in mind. In So
Cial life the person with whom it is
easiest to talk is the person who is
cordial and kind and who has many
intere SITS, ard IL we try to throw our
selves into the discussion of subjects
for which others care the more read
lily will they talk to us. The effort is
worth making there need be no in
sincerity in it,and the result will be q
benefit to ourselves in widening the
sphere of our own happiness. 1t is a
mistake, for instance, for studious
girl to assume a superior manner, to
be self-consciOus, egosistical or to
affect indifference to society and it's
amusements. In order to be popu-
lar it is necessary to have a certain
atfability, a readiness to please and
to be pleased, graciousness in speak
ing to friends and acquaintance,
facility in remembering the names
meet. A popular person takes the
trouble to exchange kindly greet
ings, offers small courtesies, talks to
the old and to the young, to men
and to women with equal attention,
finds out whether people prefer to
talk or to listen and does not forget
that it is attractive TO be good lis
tener. A pleasant talker avoids
gossip and personalities, does not
speak of private affairs, illness or
disagreeable topics, and understands
that bright story briefly told will
amuse and that people are bored by
a long story full of detail and with
out point. In few words, then, an
attractive person in social life is
tactful, sympathetic, cordial and
good-natured, and whether the talk
is of books, music, pictures, golf,
travelling or the news of the day,
whether the occasion is a ball,
visit or an afternoon tea, is cheer
fully cOntented and strives to pos.
sess the adaptability to place and
companions which is always pleas
ing.-EX.
*x*
Are you awfully tired with play, lit tie
girl?
Weary, discouraged, aud sick?
I'll tell you the loveliest game in the
world
Do something for somebody, quick
Do something for somebody, quick.
Though the skies are like brass over
head, little girl,
And the walk like a well-heated
brick
And all earthly affairs in terrible
Do something for somebody, quick !;
Do something for somebody, quick
*.r
Fashions Fancies.
Foulards are very popular this
season.
Real lace sleeves are very much
in the ascendant, aud no wonder,
for they are most becoming to either
fat or thin arms. Double wells,
black spotted tulle over white, still
continue very fashionable, for they
are most becoming, though it is a
question whether they are good for
the sight.
WI bIO yOuhS SAAl lll6 uluSlll
robe is an ideal summer gown, and
this season it is glorified exceeding
~, and gives delightful touches of
color when made on a glace slip, or
in pure washable white bears an
amount of colored trimming which
would look patchy on black. The
new laces are light and ethereal and
considerably deeper in tone than of
yore. insertions which will be used
on collars and blouses, and also on
evening gowns, have irregular edges,
and are usually in floral designs
or conventional scrolls, and the
straighter borders are seen solely on
Nandyked and scallOped insertions.
Self.colored wooden materials are
still the only acceptable wear, and
anything figured i'm this class of
goods must keep to one color. Box
cloth of fine silky make, Venetian
and Amazon cloth, and Paris cloth
which is highly finished, light
weight, faced cloth, are the newest
for tailor made costumes, and in
black the finer cloths are so silky
and bright that they are suitable for
quite smart wear when relieved
with silk reyers and handsome
buttons.
Fashionable girls will continue to
wear the pompadour, but they will