The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1899-08-15

III SS045Oa 4uOLSO COLl6 ll6
bitterness and disappointment for the
wife.
THE TRANSITION PERIOD.
TIE period that succeeds the honey
moo is a critical time in the case of
most marriages. The transition from
lover and sweetheart to husband and
wife is beset with little diff ,ulties.
This i5 just the time, therefore, when
the tact and skill of the wife need to
be exerted to prevent their union from
falling to a commonplace level.
After the honeymoon the husband
goes back to his Office or shop. The
wife takes up the charge of their
home. She should devote herself to
this as thoroughly as her husband de-
votes himself to his business. There
are a great many difficulties; a great
many things to be learned, and q great
many things to be done il starting a
new household. The young wife who
is wife will get a thorough-grasp of all
these matters as quickly as possible,
and she will not make them appear too
difficult. Her husband doubtless has
troubles Of his own, and does not find
continual accounts of incompetent
servants and extortionate tradesmen
especially interesting.
The WisesE attitude for the wife to
assume from the start is that she has
charge Of one branch Of their COM
non affairs, and must conduct that
branch pretty much on her own re-
sponsibility. ThaV is her right and her
duty. She should see to it that her
house is neatly ordered, quiet and
cheerful. In go far as she can she
should make it the embodiment Of her
own personality, and it will then be
the mes attractive spot in the world
o her hUs2and.
In other words, the best way for a
woman to pre- e.ve her romance is to
d S END at once to the practical. She
has certsil duties to perform, just as
her husband has. She should master
them quickly end get through them
with az little friction as possible. Now
a days men have their affairs very
conveniently and comfortably ar
ranged before marriage. Trey are not
likely to be altogether satisfied if their
b, mes are less inviting than were their
bachelor q lRrters.
l do not mean that a woman is to
coddle her husband. B. doing 80 she
will spoil him and stir up trouble for
herself. But it is dangerous to mar tial
happiness to allow the home to become
less attractive than the club.
am not arguing as TO the justice or
propriety OF a state Of affairs which
makes ig necessary for a wife to exert
a special effort IN making herself and
her home attractive during the period
that folio VS. the honeymoon. I merely
am STATING facts that have come within
my observation.
SAFETY IN LONG ACQUAINTANCE
1t all comes back to the point that
l have emphasized before. Most wed
d d folks do not know each other we'll
enough when they adopt the marriage
tie. In proportion to their acquaint
ance will their happiness be. II their
courtship has been long, and has re,
suited in an intimate knowledge Of
each other, there is not likely to be any
dislllusionment.
II, like too many marriages, the
welding comes after q courtship of a
few months, there is bound to come a
shattering of idols or of ideals
The attitude of first love is an exag
geration Of feeling and of passion. 1t
makes gods and goddesses out of what
is really mortal clay. 1t looks through
rose-hued spectacles, and sees only
that - DIoasin0 RI tho TUiaO n Now