The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-12-24


acilng only in one paptieular. If it takes
up person, be it man or woman. he
cause It wants to be entertained the thing
must De done in the best fashion. ANY
uIsa ppolhtment in the person will result
III Illuminating rejection. If the woman
!sn bright or pretty when men think she
| ~ ana II the man. is not willing 10 sper j
his millions in a way 10 attract frierds
poLh OF them are certain to fall oat of
siSnl after they have once had a trial
| - saw TINS attitude toward new corners
| oppressed very Interestingly at a dinner TO
when 1 went about three years ago. A
nan oL great wealth and good family NOV
~ n. 10 view York from neighboring state
ne was known by name TO nearly all the
persons with whom he desired to asso-
clate' put they had no personal acquaint-
| dhee with him. 1t was necessary for him
70 De launched here under the. proper aus
pices' A friend of his influential in So
VLety, volunteered to do this, and invited
| the desired guest to a dinner given bv this
man at his beautiful new house. I never
saw more brilliant party gathered about
d ullher table than the eighteen there
| everything looked promising for a tri-
uihphal entry into just the social set this
| man wanted TO move in. The oysters
were warm, the soup came up cold, so was
| 1he nsh and the champagne was tepid
II was plain that some crisis must have
| happened in the kitchen. The dinner was
odc beyond description The guests look
| ed az one another significantly and said
nothing. They left as soon as possible af-
| ter the dinner. The evening had been an
| understandable fasco. 1t was afterward
| learned that the French cook had gotten
drunk; that the dishes served upstairs
were brought up as it were over his body
| Ior some of the servants held him down
| Whlie others brought up the meal But
| thdl made no difference; the millionaire
| mad lost his chance and shown his unfit
ness to entertain a collection of New
Aork s most distinguished people and the
| explanation of an Incorporate cook could
| not atone for that failure. He was never
admitted, although his birth and millions
entitled him to a place in society But
ne dld not succeed in amusing it or en-
tertainlng it as he should have. That is the
one thing which society would not forgive
ana its indulgence and favor toward the
people who do entertain it are proportion
| ately great"
1t is hard to define precisely what comes
under the designation of false shame.
A proper regard for appearance, says the
New York Tribune, is NOT only necessary
for our social status, but also for our self
respect. A man or WoE~an who loses the
reucence that makes him or her conceal
famiy affairs from the world forfeits a
the same time certain portion of dignity
which belongs naturally to civilization and
refinement of character. While on the
other hand the instinct of concealment
which causes US to be ashamed of our
condition or the class to which we belong.
and to place ourselves in a state of sub
servience to the opinions of those who
are better placed socially, is a sentiment
winch we feel to be unworthy of u.s. even
while we acknowledge to ourselves its ex-
istence.
Young people are especially afflicted with
false shame; they are naturally mistrust
tul OF themselves and of their surround
ings, especially if their circumstances en-
phaslze contrast to those of their asso-
ciates. They dread having the latter no
uce or become aware of their supposed
lnferior1ty. That such a feeling is I'M
worthy goes without saying; that it is nat
ural, however, cannot be denied. The
millionaire who had the second rate nor
traits that some artist had painted of his
plebian father and mother dressed up by
first class portrait painter in the most
fashionable costume of their day (even
having the dear old mothers hair dressed
la mode), really showed perhaps the
right spirit. He certainly was not asham-
ed of them individually, although he tried
to improve their surroundings.
From time immemorial women have been
naturally more often by the Iatter-that
worry digs wrinkles in their faces and
sprinkleS gray among their tresses. These
warnings do little good The fair crea-
lures go on worrying and will probably
continue 10 do so until the millennium
comes. The Detroit Free Press asks why
this is so, and then proceeds to answer its
own question in this way The Question,
of worry with women seems to be simpIv
this; Women are so hedged about by the
littlenesses of their protected lives-for
ID is the protected woman who does the
most worrying-that it is hard to see be-
yond and above sometimes, and matters
in this way get wholly out of focus. If
women had the capacity with men of get
ting up and doing battle with things wor-
ry would slip off their shoulders as easily
as from Off those of the average nascu-
line. Man doesn't worry about debt. be-
cause he feels that he has it within him
(since money making is his business) to
make suft1cient money to pay his debts
some time. Women look at it more prac-
tically and consider the now.
Man doesn't generally worry about his
health, because he really has not the time
Let him become Ill, though, and have to
stop his work, and how is ii with him?
Man doesn't worry about the future-he
is so madly interested in the present; nor
about his clothes for the tailor stands
matters-they, from mis- point of view. are
too trfval-until he comes home to a bad
ly cooked dinner, and then in his broad
outlook there is no excuse for this state of
things, for in business circles If an en-
ployer does not do his work properly his
employer gets someone who can, a meth
cd that will yet come to be powerful
lever in the leveling of woman's worries
Never had a case like it before >,
laughed one of Detroits lawyers. who is
in the prime of life and enjoys a valuable
practice. Don't suppose I'll ever have.
another one. 1t bothered me more than
l can tell, too.
Il knew them both well. for she and I
grew up together, and L liked him. She
came to me one day with request that I
get her divorce. / was never so shocked
or surprised, but she was insstent. | told
her how absolutely free he was from bad
habits how his life one day was like that
of another, and that there was not more
exemplary husband in the city of Detroit
He was a man to be proud of and to
cling to.