The Jersey City news., 1899-10-14


Company manners, says the New Or
leans : 4imes-Democrat,' are labelled and
laid away for finically nice conditions,
which come to us from time to time
whenevr, In fact, we meet new people
upon whom we deem 1t, by hearsay, worth
while making an impression
If not too stilted, our company man.
ners should be taken with us on nur
summer trips to the country, although
there be not prospect Of making new
acquaintance of an especially solid
sort.
Cultivation of these, our best manners.
should begin in the home, and care should
be taken to exercise them daily, especially
at such times when the members of the
family can witness the effect. Some per-
sons who consider themselves well bred
and can authenticate the origin of every
deed of courtesy from its historic begin
ming, for fear of wearing away their
stock of gentility and their fetching
graces, lay them away in a napkin, where
they rust from disuse and become misfts
finally. Getting the value of ones fine
instincts is one of the most important
deductions one can make, there is no risk
and an inevitable gain. The gracious
speech, the unselfish deed, are better
prompted in the home by some loving eye
to whom your comings in and goings out
are deal Of interest.
But you, perhaps, Understanding
yourself, put on boorish front, treat the
expressions Of the one who cares as
pathos and her ministrations as folly, not
thinking well of yourself you show your
worser side and feel honestly willing to
abide by the impression you leave. Hus-
bands very often disparage their quail
ties to the point Of being downright un-
bearable as a companion for dinner, let
alone a lifelong lessee of home privi-
leges Girls let themselves run down I'M
til their faces lose their glow for the
love-offerings of home, and, like the gar
rish sunfiowers, turn outward to beam.
don't know of what metal mothers and
grandmothers are made, unless It IS the
Narcissus gold, for they are all so self.
appreciative that they risk the wear and
tear of their good manners and gentle
phrases at all hours most reeklessly; but
it must be confessed that there are few
instances on record Of our families when
constant usage affected them in the least.
Those who must claim disruption Of all
tenets affecting Lares and Penates
through tne feminine raainstay should ac-
knowledge s-.e arlstccratic but morally
uncomfortable, family ghost.
But. as to company manners. With what
your heart dictates as the most refined
conduct to be responsible for. a little In.
cident which occurred at Pigeon Cove re-
Gently will prove contrast.
A woman who considers herself gently
born ard bred was invited to be one Of
house party at that delightful hamlet It
is Unnecessary to discredit any city by
stating her place OF residence for she i4i
a raprcach to any Of them. She ar
rived with her daughter and was shown
to a large room overlooking the Atlantic
ocean. The domestic then asked whether
she could perform amy service for the la
dies, when madame, with raised pTows,
said: II perceive that there are two beds.
Surely / am not expected TO occupy
room with my daughter?''
The maid answered that she had been
told to make the ladies comfortable in
the blue room.
.'There must be some mistake madame
remarked languidly. ~Ask Mrs Cove to
come here"
Mrs. Cove was chatting with other
guests on the porch when the summons
came through the somewhat frightened
maid With smile she mounted the
stairs. not countenancing the absurd story
of her servant; there was some mistake
of course.
you surely do not wish my daughter
and me to sleep IN the same room, MRS.
Cove?'' said madame.
81 had thought such plan would NOT
be disagreeable answered the hostess.
1--WE have very delightful man down
from Boston overnight. whom we had
not expected until other guests had left
ana have been obliged to give him the
room conencting with this ] hope you
will not be inconvenienced for this night,
and tomorrow we will have less con-
tracted ouarters-though. as you see. the
room IS spacious, and ! have no hesifancy
in asking YOU to share a room with your
own daughter
one would think the incident, which had
already consumed too much time, would
have ended here. But madamets nostrils
o,,,vered like those of the traditional
I1Lraina horse. and she refused TO take
the chair proffered by the necessarily de-
cided hostess. .,,
ssMv daughlter and I have never occu-
nied room together" said madame,
coldly. .qand I should decidedly prefer not
to do so now. / should have postponed
,nv visit to YOU till you could accomno-
date us properly, had / known that your
q,c,,se ss now too full. am sure that the
,rsoston gentleman will be glad to obiige
me by giving me his ROOM ana you "a
NUT MIN in with some other men In the
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