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WOMEN AND MEN.
A Conversation Between Two Matrons
Gives Many Points to Young
Women Who Do Not Understand
the Sterner Sex.


Two matrons were talking about men. One
was 40. the other 49,. Among those listening
were two unmarried women listening with
interest; one ofthese had Just left college, the
other was nearing 30.
Both liked to hear philosophy OF experience
ed women; one because she knew she was at
the age when men love her; the other because
she thought she was at the age when men
really cared for her.
'Primaryily men are selfish" said one ma
trop, Railways remember that. my dear. Ac-
cept that as a fundamental quality Of their
makeup and you will save yourself much
unhappiness.
mean by selfish. They will not leave you
when you are sick, or dance while you are dy.
Ing, or forget your Christmas present, or tell
you that your gown Is lovely when 1t is-but
| woman must always remember that the
world was made for men as masters-that the
cen nturies have taught them TO accept without
kneeling all the world bestows.
man is cross OF tired or things have gone
wrong that good dinner, q fine cigar, quiet
hour puts him In hue fettle. Those things
rarely content woman"
"And II woman would only remember
that disposition In man." said the other ma.
tron, show much happier both would be.
whether he is husband, sweetheart, father or
brother, how many Jars 1t would save! A wo.
dinner In the world wouldn't compensate her
for harsh word from him, and SO she will
not see that rarely are bis moods from mental
causes. They are mostly physical. woman
strung nature-and she misjudges."
MANY young matrons," said the elder wo.
man, "are too unselfsh. think Indifference
or real selfshness or coldness ON a woman's
side are happiness breakers, but the yielding,
selfsacrifc1al position Of 80 many women to
men is demoralizing 10 the men.
"No man yet ever cared for the woman who
was too easy to have and to conquer; II
a wO0fn1.
woe TO her heard we'll known couple
married perfectly for forty odd years-talking
recently OF q poem the scholarly husband had
written her on the forneth anniversary Of their
"We were asking the wife to let US read it.
The saueiest twinkle came into her eyes as she
said: II I can possibly find 1t I'll let you read
It, The husband laughed and the daughter
said: why, mother, you know you've got It
'The woman in her. although married forty
coquettlng with her husband, and he grand
father!"
"Weil, she understood men," said the
younger matron. "a man wants to know 8
woman Is true and fine, but he doesn't want
her to give up everything in life for him: He
may ask 1t, but q woman ts unwise to do 1t.
I knew young fellow who wanted bis wife
always 70 be at home said be hated society.
bis wife why it was she never gotinvited out
socially, as his sisters and mother did; also
saw look In his eyes once, com pairing his
wifes costume with that Of a bright, stylish
friend, and IL was decidedly disappointed
look. Nothing was seriously wrong there; he
was devotedly in love with his vile, but she
had made herself slave to him, and his sub
conscious self was wishing she had not done
II. Happy the woman who sees that before 1t
is too late!
"These are the ways in wqtch men are sell
fish," said the first speaker, "and you girls
take warning. Don't ever believe you are
breaking mans heart, for you are not. He
isn't the emotional instrument you are, and
Is an everlasting blessing that he isn't for bis
lack Of nerves is needed for your support.
IF q man goes away on his holidays you
will live on tea and toast until he comes back.
You will give the maid her afternoons Oh.
You will let the fire 60 down a little or keep
only two rooms hot.
"You 20 away, does he do that7 Well,
hardly. He has the choicest tidbita In the
market. He gets what he wants. He gives
the maid extra laundry to do, he Keeps all
the rooms warm and invites his friends up to
keep him company. And you laugh at him
and love him all the more, fyou are senst-
BILE woman, because II you are going to be
happy you must start out with the knowledge
that no man is ever willing to give up
anything as much as you are"
"And that It is absolutely impossible for
him to ever suffer as you can do," added the
other matron.
II suppose You are right. A woman is too
apt to live for the one she loves, and there
Is the need OF world OF men for him." quoted
the girl out OF college.
Anne Rittenhouse.