The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1899-03-13
Certainly Not Good For Man to Live
Alone.
MUST HAVE WOMAN'S CARE
LUXURY AND EASE WILL NOT
FILL THE BILL.
Hot Foot Baths, Close Attention to
Mufiers and Mittens and Tender
Hygienic Doctoring of a Wife Is
What Keeps Man Well-Not
Having It Bachelors Die.
Special correspondence

never before nave realized that when
THE Lord God said, 1t is not good that
man should be alone, will make a
helpmeet for him. our Creator re-
ferred to sons of men unto all genera
tons, and not merely an individual
Adam in the garden of Eden.
Here are some recent observations
upon which / base my belief that rich
or poor, a man is better off married
than single.
Since the beginning of last November
it has been my melancholy duty to fol-
low the funerals of some seven unmar-
ried friends; young, well TODD, a6trac-
tive men, who had been living care
| free lives in handsome bachelor style.
AS far as the world knew, all of them
were decent, upright fellows, led thor
oughly respectable lives, and each one
was a distinct loss to the community.
| Two | can vouch for as noblernan in
the best sense of the word, and it is
my mistaken belief that they would
be living today had there been wives
to care for them.
| Most of us read about or have seen
the luxurious suites of rooms occupied
by prosperous single men, where all
| that money and modern convenience
can accomplish to make existence
agreeable is combined for the benefits
of bachelor residents A standing Jest
in the comic papers is to compare the
welded slave of fiat house miseries
with the unmarried sybarite who re-
joices in the beauty and ease of club
apartments for single gentlemen.
And it is true, the unattached man
does get prompter etectricskell service,
SIMMER shoes, richer sauces on his
food more plush, liveries, gilt, plate
glass and fewer petty annoyances than
his friend wno makes the same salary
support wife and babies in the su-
buTbs.
In these days, one would suppose the
insurance companies ought to accept
the prosperous bachelor at cheaper
rates as a superior risk Apparently
he lives in pink cotton wool, with his
private bath, quiet, airy rooms, break
fasts in bed, and no one to think about
but himself. For him there are no cur
| tain lectures, no Wearying domeGtlc
complaints, no fretful children, ailing
wife, or big household bills to shock
and strain his nervous system.
And yet, statistics show that the av-
erage married man has better chances
| for a long and healthy life than his
bachelor friend. Pneumonia, appendi-
! citis, rheumatic feVers, etc, that sweep
| like demons of destruction through
those softly lighted, richly-draped
rooms where beaux and gallants dwell
are. when met, more often conquered
in the shabby home on the outskirts of
| town.
| In talking it over. we, every one of
us, agreed that both Jack Davidson and
Henry Turner, in their thousand dollar
a-yaar rooms, actually died of neglect.
Three weeks ago, when Jack dropped
| in at o'clock for cup of tea, L eX-
! claimed almost aloud over his haggard,
J IL
| upon entreaGing him to go to bed and
! have a doctor. was Mortified to be told
he intended giving a theatre party that
| night Next time l saw the poor soul
| it was to lay a. bunch Of violets in his
| still, white hands and say goodbye for
| ever
Jacks mother. VINO lives up in the
| northern part of the state, Wept as she
repeated all the servants had to tell
! her; how for weeks before his death
the boy lost his appetite, was irritable
and coug'hed necessarily. The maids.
it seems, had been much concerned, and
had done what they could to make him
comfortable, and demonstrated at his
! reckleEsness. One in particular related
with tears in her eyes AS how
begged him not to go a-trailin' out in
the rain last Wednesday night, but he
took me up mighty short and just
]
Now, that is the SORT of stupid i'm
prudence the average wife simply won't
put up with from her husband. 1t may
be a bit tiresome to have Mary COM
| mecIt every time you declfnei soup or
] sweets, count your pulse when you are
cross and Insist upon f1aring a candle
down your throat whenever she fancies
a frog has gotten into it. And then to
be forbidden the club because. you
frrat Iatfcr &c i,,f1-
veXatious, but, then, Mary properly
considers it big part Of her duty to
keep you we'll.
True. she can't follow along to the
office and see her tenderly watched
over spouse gobble down a welsh rare
bit or hot mince pie, and sit through
in wet feet because oVershoes were for
gotten when he went to lunch. But on
the whole Mary's vigilance does a vast
deal in warding off sickness. and when
it comes, her promptness with mus
tard baths, plasters and hot teas routs
the enemy in a fashion bachelors know
nothing about.
Woman's love is quick to note the
smallest sign of distress in a cherished
object Men may love truly, but are
negligent of details. I'm sure when
Jack Dawson was at his worst, all his
man friends would have told you he
was looking fine" man must be
pretty far gone in health before his
closest chum notices anything out of
the way.
And later, when Jack was too i'll to
be around and a trained nurse had
been installed l went one day to make
INQUIRIES. The woman came out and
told me in despair she could do nothing
for her patient The night before. no
sooner had the doctor gone, leaving
strict orders that the invalid was to be
absolutely quiet, than a couple of men
came and asked to be admitted. The
nurse refused but Jack said: Nonsense,
let the fellows in" and with gas blazing
there they sat smoking, gossiping and
laughing until all hours. 1t never oc-
Cured to the visitors that they were
putting a nail in Jacks coffin, they re-
garded it as a friendly action to visit
While with the sick man, no matter
what his condition might be.
1t is because women realize all this
and know what stupid, half savage
creatures men are In all relating to
health or sickness, that a woman be-
gins stern hygienic discipline as soon
as she marries. The meekest brow
beaten wife is never too timid to take
her stand on rubber shod feet on
damp days. 1t is instinct with us tc
like to feel foreheads for fever. examine
tongues for indigestion, and see man
squirm and swear over @ Singing mol
foot-bath. 1t is one of natures devices
for preserving the species. Ten pei
cent more men than women die before
the middle arc of life, and nothing but
our steadfast pursuit of man with
arctics, mufflers and mittens, preserves
even that ratio.
The statements above may sound
suggestive of trying to scare bachelors
into marriage, and putting the whole
question on very unsentimental basis
Not at all. 1t is to prove rather that 8
woman is as pivotal to a home today
as when men Wre warned to marry