Arizona republican., 1899-06-25

made recently concerning 9
 oman who refused to marry 3 ,nose moral character d.d not equal her own. This correspondent Is at odds With 4flg 9osftloh. He WritE5:
 If her perg1'ts were satisfied with tl,n
 *s aot-in-law why should she ob-
 ject to him because he was a littla fast2' A second reading of the nHticie will show this correspondent that 10 tattsmpt Was made to decide for this young lady, her case being taken as a good one to emphasize a social creed which I fully believs in, netwithstaEd- ina th.5 v5ry Earnest letter from a nan who thinks I am entirely in the wrong. Briefly, the position taken in tha Sunday morning talk was this: There should be no different moral standard for young men than for young women.
 I said I did net take an atom of stock h this miserable makeshift to excuse the sins of a young man by saying he YVES only sowing his wild cats. That if young woman sowed i inc same wild oats she. would be se- verely censured That if the moral standards for both sexes were not ths same. two sets Of commandments would have fbesn, found on Sinai, one with wild cat reservations for young men. I also added that 3 man has n-ght to demand at the marriage altar Cnly what he can give in return.
 A MATRIMONIAL AUCTION.
 Am I right or wrong in taking ths position? Generally speaking, it is safer and better to follow the advice gf father and mother fn every way pos sible, but not always. Some society
 
 daughters for the sake of obtaining fashionable and financially backed marriage for them. These daughters have bsen brought out. their charms exhibited, and at this matrimonial auction they have gone to the highest bidders. Then the match makers put on a knowing look and say: Rare bit of diplomacy on the part of Mrs. K Well managed. and if the daCgh- ter plays her cards i2s shrewd1y she s well fixed for life."
 Other people who believe that love should be the real tie at every mar riage altar say: "What a pity! That girl, left to herself. might have e2- riched some mans life with the wealth of her womanly affection Some true hearted man who w0u11 have blessed ttis woman with the gift of a manly heart. but who didn't hava gold enough to put him in the, class of good ! catches. says: |'I loved that gri and would have done all in my power to make her happy: but there was no chance for me where everything else l except money was of secondary con sideraaion."
 There are cases in which parents do | not hold the highest ideals before | them in the question of the marriage | of their daughters, and 1 think the | criticism holds good in the instance | to- The daughter objected to | a marriage with a fast young man, | that in some respects : he WAS good catch, and my core spondent thinks she should have | waived the moral aspects of the ques- tion and accepted his proposal.
 SAUCE FOR THE GANDER, TOO.
 venture to say that if this man were to take 3 woman to the marriage altar he would want her character to be above reproach. He would want t0 know that her past life had been such that he had reason to be proud of her as his wife. And he would want to be sure that the mother Of h-s children had always held before herself those ideals which he would have Eeld bc- fore his children
 That is it A young man enjoys having the moral restraints removed. and then when he gets tired Of his fast living hal likes to settle down in q home. not with the type Of woman at whose unholy shrine he has poured the hest of his manhccd. but with som mebody who in growing to woman hood has preserved inYiC'ate the badge of her wonanhOod. Where IS the justice n this? For my part I am glad that there was enc young woman who exercised her right to get what it was her pleasure to giye-the IuaLty Of virtue
 A man insists upon the qualities he must have in a wife She must be pure, good looking and thrifty as nousskeepeF Now staaci 9 man at the bar of 9 Wonn8n's soul. Let her speak and talI what qualities she de- sires n 9 man She sUr5iy has this right Let her exerc;se 1t. She w3nls ] pure loving, thoughtful and indus riQus man Or is she sl --sgCr tJ take he title. of M,E. that she will accept man though he fall far short CT wh7. 1e ought to be- Are men led to be leve that if their lives have not been g sweet es thsy should have bsen St will not materially attsct their chances