The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-12-13
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which provided tia, before people
took upon themselves the great re-
sponslbllitic~ Il mlrrag: they should
have learned ri- much Of the cate.
chlsm--how & 30 their duty t. their
ncighbor. for, though husband and wife
are more tllan ncighbors To each other.
yet they ar. that at least. aud ought
to bcha.c III Il ncighborly way: when
thcy 10 not do this States arc weak. SO
IT rrnlly was Il matter for State cogrn-
znrlrc.
suppose young man spent the days
81 youth not in settling habits. as he
ought, but in sowing wild oats. he can
not iaIl to reap crop Of wild oats in
his home life.
Who. on the other hand, is the un
happy husband? He who does not
bring to his marriage a clean bill Of
moral health. who cannot make upou
ms wife that best Of all marriage set
Elements the settlement Of habits in n
right direction.
Even young ladies rcunrc some
preparation for marriage. The most
Important time of their lives is be-
tween school and marriage. 30 one
would bcgrudgc them fun and rccrca
tIon then, but still, if they arc moth
lng but frivolous and firty, aud have
no higher form Of worship than to
birn incense to vanity. they will not
be happy themselves in marriage, and
certainly will not make their husbands
happy. Women look back with re.
morse upon their il-spent time, when
their children die, because they do
not know the elements of nursing:
when their husbands are cross. be-
cause they have not learned how to
feed them; or when the men dcspise
them as companions because they can
not take serious interest in the bus
mess of life in which they are en-
gagged. Nor is physical or bodily
health less important part of rcadi-
ness Tor marriage. IF a young man is
always ailing sometimes the conse-
1uencc of ale-ing). he will not be able
to support family as he ought, and
II wife is always suffering from the
sofa disease, we'll, poor thing, she
may from her mattress grave do some.
thing to regulate her home, but she
must more or less feel that she has
mistaken her calling in life when she
married. Then there are the medical
man bills to be thought Of, and the
effect of hereditary diseases upon chill
dren, SO that some of the poor things
may be said to have been damned into
this world. On one occasion. when
Doctor johnson was waiting for din
ner in Mrs. Thrale's drawing room, q
young man came up and asked him:
doctor johnson, do you think that
| ought to marry?" The doctor, be-
ing nettlcd at the intrusion, growled:
''Sir, no man ought to marry, who is
not likely to propagate understand
ing This applies to the body and
souls of children as we'll as to their
minds.
Never take wife said Franklin,
"till you haze house aud fire (sic)
to put her in" Asking sensible
woman the other day when people
should marry, she replied: "When
they have en- ugh money and can af-
ford it," That was gc,d answer,
for marriage is luxury which some
cannot afford, and when this is the
case thay are very selfish to indulge
In it. IL may DE blessing for man
to have a puivcr full Of children, but
he has no right to shoot them on to
relations and others to be reared.
Some of us who are married
find that we have survived the opera
ton, and also that we want certain
~HiOuH0 " ii"C uFou, duO, CHcTClOT (,
we can sympathizc with the girl who,
having tried for some time love-in-
a-cottage dietary, said that she
thought that kiss and glass Of cold
water made but poor breakfast.
What should be said of man who
marrics when in debt, and allows
his bride, on returning from the
honeymoon, to ind bailiffs in his
house?
At the same time, the amount Of
money necessary to marry upon is Of
ten greatly exaggerated. Show me a
couple who are miserable on account
of Strengthened circumstances, and
will show you dozen couples who are
miserable on account Of other circum-
stances. Isuppose we all know bach
elors who have plenty Of money for