The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1899-05-08
CHANGES in WEDDING ETIQUETTE.
Is No Longer Correct to Collect An Elaborate Tr0usSeau
Consequently BrdeS-Elect Are Not OverwOrked, and
They Go Out Up to Very Hour of Wedding.

Mrs. Blank accept with pleasure Mr..
and Mrs. So and Sos kind invitation
to the marriage of their daughter on
June y, at half-past three O'Clock, at
st. Johns church." Or, Mr.. and Mrs.
Blank regret that illness Cor absence)
vii prevent heir acceptance, etc Ihls
same phrasing is employed when the
invitation is to the church and the
house after the ceremony, the sentence,
"and to the breakfast Cor reception) at
four o'clock" added at the end of the
page on which the reply is given.
1t is now regarded as not only incon-
siderate but a distinct ill-omen for a
bride TO KEEP her guests and fiancee
waiting one moment over the time set
for the ceremony, and brides of this
spring have proudly boasted that they
stepped into the church aisle exactly as
the clock struck the hour.
This spring also the superstitious fam
cy has arisen for catering to the lucky
fates by putting the right foot first on
entering the church, on turning to
leave the chancel and on entering the
carriage.
White lilacs and asparagus fern has
been the choicest bridal bouquet since
the lilacs came into favor, but with the
passing of these, nothing has been con-
sidered smarter than a bouquet of pure
white rhododendrons and acacia bios
SONS. White sweet peas and asparagus
fern is another lovely combination very
much the mode. and ii SENS to be the
universal custom now for every we'd
ding guest to wear buttonhole bou-
quet or breast knob of white flowers.
1t was the accepted fashion a little
while ago for every bride to go to the
altar leaning on the arm of her father,
brother or whichever male relative was
chosen to give fer away. Now this
ic,
ored in the breach than otherwise, for
the bride has come to the conclusion
that not only is the supporting arm not
needed. but that she makes a more
striking and effective appearance pro-
ceeding I'D the aisle alone. When this
form of procession is adopted, the faith
er of the bride gives his wife his arm
up the aisle, and only when his daugh
ter is at he foot of the chancel steps
does he come forward take her hand
in his, hand her to her fiancee, and
stand beside her until the marriage
lines are all pronounced.
Where do the relatives come in, and
what does the best man do with his
hat? are questions that cause anxiety
occasionally. Abroad they follow the
very expressive custom OF lengthening
out he bridal cortege with the lady's
parents and immediate relatives. When
the wedding march begins, following
the bridesmaids, the mother of the
bride goes up the aisle on the arm Of
her son, or grandparents go first, fol-
lowed by married sisters and brothers
of the bride, her aunts and uncles, and
even her cousins. This is occasionally
the arrangement in America, though,
as a rule. the family come in first,
quietly take their places. and the we'd
ding march announces the bride, pre-
ceded by the ushers and flower girls,
and followed by her maids The mother
of the bride usually comes to the church
in the carriage with the head brides
maid or maid of honor, and the other
members of the family arrive with the
ohter attendants. When the ceremony
is over. the mother and father go down
the aisle together and then the remain
der of the family follow and pass out
by the central door.
The Best Man.
The best man leaves his hat in the
vestrY and gloves as well. because he
must at he altar hold the hat and
gloves of the groom, and he would pre-
sent a very OverWorked aspect If he
stood at attention with a high hat in
either hand. When he gives the groom
his hat and gloves he returns hurriedly
to the vestry, picks up his own be-
longings and drives away to the brides
house from the side entrance of the
church.
A woman who is married in a travel
ing dress ought not to have any brides
maids. Her bouquet can be held dur
ing the ceremony ythe relative who
gives her away, and when a couple are
married and leave at once for their
honeymoon journey. the groom goes to
the train or steamship in the frock coat
in which he was married.
MILLICENT ARROWPOINT.