The Daily Ardmoreite. [volume] (Ardmore, Okla.) 1893-current, 1899-06-25
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riage altar he would want her
character to be above reproach.
He would want to know that her
past life had been such that he had
reason to be proud of her as his
wife. And he would want to be
sure that the mother of his chill
dren had always held before herself
those ideals which he would have
held before his children.
That is it. A young man en-
| joys having the moral restraints
removed, and then when he gets
tired of his fast living he likes to
settle down in a home, not with
the type of woman at whose un-
holy shrine he has poured the best
of his manhood, but with some
body who, in growing to woman
hood, has preserved inviolate the
badge of her womanhood. Where
is the justice in thisf For my
part | am glad that there was one
young woman who exercised her
right to get what it was her pleas
ure to give-the quality of virtue.
A man insists upon the qualities
he must have in wife. She must
be pure, good looking and thrifty
as a housekeeper. Now, stand a
man at the bar of a woman S soul.
Let her speak and tell what quail
ties she desires in a man. She
surely has the right. Let her ex-
ercise it. She wants a pure, low
ing, thoughtful and industrious
man. Or is she so eager to take
the title of Mrs. that she will ac-
cept man though he fall far short
of what he ought to be? Are men
led to believe that if their lives
have not been as sweet as they
should have been it will not ma
teriallY affect their chances for
making good marriage! Yes, to
an extent they are led to believe
this, and it is because Of the two
standards for conduct which exist
in society, one for men and one for
women. The same departure from
a moral standard will bring in the
one case severe censure and partial
ostracism, and in the other case it
will be CLOSED over in some way.
THE YELLOW METAL WORKS WON
DERS.
True, there are families into
which no son-inlaw is welcome un-
less he has a good character. OF
course, his financial prospects are
considered, too, as indeed they
ought to be, but first comes the
question of what he is rather than
what he has. But in many cases
a we'll filled pocket book covers a
multitude of sins in the desire to
settle marriageable daughters in
homes of their own. Mighty con-
cessions are made on the part of
solicitous mothers who are looking
for good catches for their daugh-
tiers. Give the backing of wealth
to a man whose character is not
what it should be and the way into
some good homes is open to him.
No covering up the fact that the
jingle of gold helps one greatly in
this matrimonial race. Doors are
thrown open to him and fair mann
mas receive him with smiles and
extended hands.
Every person who is of marriag-
able age must decide this question
for himself or herself. Circum-
stances do much to alter cases. but
any one who has any part in help
ing to mould public thought con
cerning those things which affect
the welfare of the home must keep
before himself the highest ideals
possible. When the question OF
moral character as a factor in mar
riage is set aside in favor of out
side possessions | believe it to be q
serious mistake. | am not blind
to the important part that money
and social position play in the
question of matrimony. No one
can blame any parents for wanting
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