The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1899-10-16
GET MArRIkD, SAYS DIR. sCUDDER.
He Also Tells the Young Mon of His Con-
greRation how to Select n Wife.

Hs Also Tells the Young Mon of His Con-
greRation how to Select Wife.
The Rev. DR.. John L. scudder delivered the
fourth OF his series OF discourses on Marriage
Bell " at the First Congregational Church. Jer-
sey City. last night His topic was The choice
OF wife"
I'm the Garden OF Eden" he said. There
were two people a man and his wife. At FIRST
Adam was bachelor. but he was not q success.
He went mopinR around the garden till God
took pity upon him and gave him a wife Cell
bacy Is unnatural and unsatisfactory. Every
man needs woman g love to complete his life.
Every man OF unperverted instincts desires to
establish homo and install queen to reign
over it. Men may gibe about matrmony and
pirate about sin gle bessedness. but deep down
in their hearts is a longing for happy home
OF their own. something better than a boarding
house. Married men live Longer than bach
elors. The influence OF wife and children Is
wholesome and civilizlng.
Some men do not marry because they are
selfish and prefer to spend all they earn upon
| themselves: others have been crossed in love.
Some are vicious and know they cannot mako
a true woman happy. Some have relatives do
pending on them and cannot afford to add a
wife to the household. Some are so welded to
their profession that they have no time for
used to be taxed. and in ancient Greece they
were horsewhpped one day in every year by
young. unmarried women.
"A bachelor Ia a case of arrested development.
| He needs to be sweetened and polished and
| tanned by the loving heart of woman. There 10
world o. meaning IN that eWTbP oe Hs
| wife hndeta good thing. But in choosing a
| wife a ma must exercise good Judgment
and adm most OF them would ike to be married.
| The wise man viii make judicious selection:
the blunder OF his life Marriage should be
more hi1 sh4H gsAbbss into which
| known quantity. sensible bridegroom is
| Ikea good shopper who carefully examines
day world what men need is genuine help
meets, conscientious women who VIII share
| and end in poetry than to commence in poetry
and liyc In prose. The love thnt keeps is the
character. In selecting a partner for life a
man should be certain that the woman who is
to become hi. wife possesses a good dsposi-
during the period Of ccourtshiD. They know
Woman Won can can make her Young man beiievs she
is the pink OF neatness. and woman with
| Grabbed temper manages to wear nothing but
smiles whenever her lover is present.
=, Men are often deceived appearances and
marriage, as gay colors soon wash out OF poorly
| dyed cloth. once knew perfect vixen who.
| in order to catch very religious and elderly
gentleman look ed as pious as a nun for two
years. She succeeded. but the whole commu-
| nifty pitied the poor man who blindly took her
| for better or for worse. He looked for sun
| shine and found nothing but moonshine. No
| man should enter into matrimony hlindtolded.
| good wife will be q practical woman who can
| take charge Of the house and fulfil a wies
duties with despatch. She will he able to
| bring UP a family without being on the sick
| list one half Of the time. She will be able to
| walk dozen blocks without TAX ing a car. and
| the color on her cheeks will come from good
| red blood and not from rouge. She will not
| carry her good spirits to her Journeys end.
| Then. too, she will have some conception Of
| housekeeping. being able to make good cup
| OF coffee and pie crust fit to eat. A hungry
| husband cannot feed on fancy en- broidery. nor
| get much nourishment from Beethoven's SON
| atas. He has a stomach as we'll az a soul. II a
| husband ia to provide for the outer woman
the inner man. Furthermore a good
| wife will not he extravagant and will be willing
| TO start at the foot OF the ladder with her hus-
| band. Young wives should not expect to
| operate costly establishments whom their hus-
| bands are earn ing moderate salaries A hus-
| bands love and happy humbe home should
| outweigh the eyes OF the world. Never mind
| what others expect OF u.s. The desire to be
stylish when people cannot afford it has broken
| pure wife is a busy bee rather than a gaudy
| butterfly. The hest wife is real Christian.
| not one with veneernR of piety. but one W no
| knows the moanin ing OF self sacrifice. The best
| matches are 10 ade in churches between those
| who love God and love each other"