The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-04-08

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having enough fun. Nearly every woman is
a miser of iollity. Men are willing to
catch pleasure as it hies.N But women
must have everything just SO before they
can abandon themselves to enjoyment,
and then they are usually too tired to
take it. It's a disease, but fortunately not
incurable. Women say it is easy to talk
this way, but that one can't be laughing
when one is hurried and worried. All 1
can say is that you might be as hurried,
but you wouldn't be as worried if you did
laugh. l happened once to speak of my
husband to a little girl and she said
+" Why, 1 didn't think you were mar
RED
!" 'Why?" I asked.
oh, cause
"s'Cause whV?'
"s'Cause you laugh so much
Wasn't that a commentary on matri-
ntony!
last mistake is that we are too
prone to take offense at little things. we
| irdulge in too many petty misunderstand-
ings among ourselves. Men don't do TINS.
| Let us emulate them in it. We appreciate
| mems merits, and we can't do better than
to initiate those we discern.
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I'm Irritation there is the same dlssi-
pated element of excitement SO beguiling
in gambling-uncertainty; in fact, we
might add to the dictionary definition a
still later one: To firt, gambling in
hearts," writes Frances Evans, About
Men," in the April .Ladies' Home Jour
naI.,' 1.-THE firt, like the gambler, feeds
.--. -. 4o.;ao+;o, Of hiG aSSinnS In
a few years he becomes incapable OF
! %steadfast, enduring love, that feeling
which in civilized man is separated from
the love of the barbarian by the element
of ideality, of spiritual sympathy as dis
tinct from merely the attraction OF brute
nature. The open-minded, open-souied'
manly man is apt to express himself IN
abrupt praise of what he likes, but the
firt knows better than to take the edge
off of a compliment by giving 1t pup
licity. The fiirt is invariably confldentlal
in his manner. A flirt becomes unscrupu-
lous in his relations with women, no mat
ter how high a code of honor he may
abide by in other matters. His conscience
is calloused on one side beyond remedy
There is no germ which develops more
rapidly than the firtatious bacteria.
Given a young man or woman whose
pride is wounded more deeply than his or
love By a member of the opposite sex,
then, il there be a slight firtatious ten
dency to begin with, it will be but over
night before the weed has grown to sur
prising proportions, choking out con-
science and kindness while it supports and
Strengthens vanity, which stands esose by
wounded affections in the human heart"
In preparing for a card party one is al
ways glad of a new suggestion for a
method of assigning the partners, says
the .sGentlewoman.'' A simple but pretty
scheme is to cut hearts, diamonds. clubs
and spades from. cardboard, celluloid or
similar material. If the company in
Guides both sexes, give the SPACES and
diamonds to the gentlemen and the
hearts and clubs to the ladies; for a Ia
dies card party the devices need not be
sorted. Each set of heart, diamond, club
and spade is of one color, and a bow OF
ribbon or other device of corresponding
hue is fastened to one of the tables. The
PLAYER holding the red heart IS the part
ner of the one holding the red diamond
at the red table, the red club and spade
are also paired together, and so on. If
preferred. the color of the table may
be denoted by the color of the ribbon
attached to tie favor, which latter may
also be used as a score-card.
Another method which furnishes much
amusement is to write familiar quotations
of from four to six lines on cards and
then cut the cards diagonally in two and
distribute the halves to the guests. Each
pair whose cards match are partners
The number of the table at which they
are to play is written on one corner of
the card before cutting. The effect Is
enhanced If instead of quotations origi-
nal rhymes concerning the game are
used.
An English publication recently offered
a prize for the best dozen "~sensibly hui
morous'' subjects for discussion after din
ner. The following questions were
chosen as the ones entitled to the prize
1. When a cross wife commences to scold
her husband, is it good policy for him to
commence whistling?
2. If a husband be a few days absent
from home. should be bring his wife a
present on his return?
8. Is it an easy matter to spot an old
in a crowd?
4. Does reading love stories make Ia
dies more inclined to firt?
$. Surprising you had a few friends
whom you knew to be very downeast,
would you entertain them for an
hour or SO to make them give a good,
laugh?
6. why do old bachelors and old maids
give preference to lodgings where there
are no children?
I. Should the husband remain at home
occasionally to look after the children,
ETC., in order to leave his wife free to
go to the theatre or the ball?
s.. How could you cure the mar who
stops at his club too late?
q. What means should be adopted to
bring a bashful man to "the sticking
point ~
10. What advantages has the new
woman over the oldr
II. Are heroes or heroines the more to
be admired?s
u. Is it better to marry for love or for
riches, or for a compound of both?
So
How much of the pickering and UNI
that MAI our lives and scar the
leart might be lone away with if all
knew how and when to scold!
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