The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-08-26

we -FOUR We're taking over sentimental
matters, says Dorothy Maddox, in the
Philadelphia inquirer" Women have d
way of drifting into such topics. One lit
tie lady told how she had taken a walk
with her husband the night before. 1t
seems the couple went a two-mlie
stretch Of beach on which a golden moon
cast its glamour without a hint of senti-
ment. He just strolled along, his hands
in his pockets, a cigar in his mouth. ana
did not even know the night was heaven
" or that his companion looked irresistl-
bic in a brand-new beach snood.
We concluded there and then thai such
a collection of crimes would rave been
impossible in a lover. I was amused at
the one unmarried woman in our party
valiantly taking up cudgels in defense
OF husbands in general.
She did not hesitate to say married
women failed to understand or appreciate
this very blessing of not having to make
an effort. She seemed to think the very
contentment of sitting with a man or
walking with him without being constant
ly on a strain I'd amuse or fascinate
should more than compensate for lack
of cuddling.
She made an impression, a decided one.
Ol Int SIuiipieTS. AOltt ~ tHl1hf VI IL
how we N'effort' our way through life,
if I may be permitted to so express it.
We sit around half the time doing the
agreeable. Our lover is the most exact
ing. With him on our hands we may ex-
peet TO pay dearly for any extras IN the
matter OF attention that he gives us. a
lover is nice to fit into moonlit corners,
to fetch and carry, to whisper apprecfa-
| +ixra onfhiprc - IA tho grand roraanfia
act, but for steady bliss the husband
VINO is a gentleman is far more TO be
desired.
He may have times when he would
rather think thar talk. he may be a 81
lent man who even as a lover had to
strive to say nice things and who enjoys
matrimony because he can enjoy his
moods without leave or license. Then
why fret over him?
There would not be so much friction
after the knot is tied if wives did not
keep a constant watch for inattentions. if
they did not foolishly expect the lover to
continue his almost l~aughable attentions
after marriage.
Wives are looking for neglect 1t is
called 50 when the poor man tied to Them
would give this release from constant
and solicitous tenderness the name Of
rest.
When engaged people are seeing much
of each oSher a sweetheart is too shy to
demand one attention more than is meted
out to her. When she becomes a wife
she sits around and pouts If she is not
eoddled. Her demands. Unfortunately. are
made many times WHEN her husband is in
a mood that is anything but sentimental.
This i'll chosen moment brings trouble
to all parties. As lovers such a trouble
would never hav arisen. although eleyerly
balanced ! question whether lovers quar-
rels are not quite as many if not as Sc
rious as those which take place after
men and women are married
The unmarried girl. a young thing, only
nineteen. Started pestls of laughter by
wisely r~enaarking.-
Il have three married sisters. ] have
watched them before ana after taking.
and | know they are as much happier as
it is possible to imagine since they have
husbands to please in place of lovers.
! Oh, no! I never could get one of them
to admit this. Somehow married women
think they have got to- pose as martyrs.
It is all a sham. l remember how they
suffered when they had the one they most
cared for about. It seemed to me they
were in hot water from morning till
night. There was no peace for anybody.
If their hair got out Of curl at the shore;
if we went on a picnic anywhere, If we
went out sailing or fishing or did one
blessed thing they never got one ounce of
fun out Of the trip, because they were al
ways fussing over their looks. And when
they got home they used to put me
through a whole catechisrn.
TT was: Sadie. did you think this2,
or Sadie, did ] look like a guy?' until I
was in the seventh heaven of delight
when they were all comfortably settled.
Now they try sometimes to make me think
they nave worries. but they never get a
spark Of sympathy from me. I haven't
forgotten how miserable they used to be
with their lovers,
When Sadie had finished a member Of
our party looking very solemn, said:
"sOut of the mouths of babes and suck
Iings.,"
And 7 am sure a certain young matron
will not soon forget the words of wisdom
dropped from the lips of one of those
wise buds of which the garden Of girls
seems overrun.
In most cases both Of men and ,wonen
the struggles and disappointments in in
dustrlal pursuits arise from a lack of
thought in choosing D career, says the
"Woman's Home Companion" That is
fatal to n endeavor. A grave and
daily recurring mistake is made in seek
ing the fields that are already overfull,
and not looking afar for new occupations.
If fewer girls would qualify themselves
for other skilled emplcyments and newer