The record-union., 1899-10-01

ton, To plnch ana 10 SacflHce, WHlic
the daughter prances and dances.
promenades, smirks and smiles with
every one but with the members OF
her own family The ideal home is not
where reverence and respect for par
ents are. wanting; where there is an
absence of obedience and fealty TO
father and mother; where there is no
sympathy and no confidence between
father and son, between mother and
daughter; where each is wholly ab-
sorbed in self, with little thought or
interest in the others. The ideal home
is not where selishness prevails where
ill-temper and dissatisfaction prevails,
where discomfort and bad humor
reigns supreme, where there is in
quietude and constant vexation OF
spirit.
The father alone cannot make the
ideal home. He may be ever so loving,
ever so generous and ever so thought
ful, he may be ever so considerate and
ever so helpful, he and he alone, cannot
make an ideal home. He may toll and
struggle, live and labor, yet he, and
he alone, cannot do all that must be
done to make of home the ideal spot,
the earthly paradise. He can be
most important factor he can, by his
kindness of spirit, his forgetfulness of
self, his constant thoughtfulness for
the well-being of his family, do much
to make his a perfect home, but yet
If unaided and alone in his effort he
must fail in the attempt to create the
ideal home
1t has well been said that "a man
never has good luck who has bad
wife" And the man who is burdened
with a bad wife need never look for
an ideal home. Nor can the wife alone
make an ideal home. She may be ever
so sweet and loving, ever so cheer
full and pleasing, she may be ever
so self-sacrificing and self-denying;
she, and she alone, cannot make an
ideal home. Nor can sons and
daughters alone make an ideal home.
They may be ever SO loving and
dutiful, ever so obedient and re-
spectful, they may be ever SO af-
fectionate and faithful; yet they, and
they alone, cannot make an ideal home.
The complete family is where there is
father and mother, sons and daughters.
The ideal family is where all these live
together in unison and in loving har-
mony The sons can do much; the
father can do more; the daughters still
more, and the mother the most to make
the ideal family. The father may be
1kened to the head, the sons and
daughters to the limbs, and the mother
to the heart of the family 1t takes all
of these to make the ideal home. 1t
takes but one of these to mar the ideal
home
The father must be the guiding spirit,
the sons and daughters the hearty, act
I've, co-workers, and the mother must
furnish the warmth the sweetness and
the sunshine to the household. She, it
is, who must have the tact, the judg
ment, the good temper; who must know
how to smoothe the ruffied spirit, how to
calm the excited temperament, how to
soothe the angered mind, how to drive
away the unhappy feeling, how to
check the illtemper.
God seems to have anticipated wo-
mans need of all these qualities and to
have blest her with these attributes, if
she will but cultivate them.
1t is the wife and mother, after all,
upon whom the chief responsibility lies
for the making of an ideal home. No
home is complete without her. No fire.
side can send forth it's cheeriest rays
without her presence to still further
brighten it's beams. She it is who must
be the cornerstone upon which the
ideal home is builded. Her tact, her
good judgment, her unseIfish devotion
to husband, to children, to the home,
must be the inspiration for the others
in the family. Her chief object in life
must be to make her home a place of
delight, where may truly be found rest
for the weary and comfort for the
heavily laden. The law of her house
hold must be kindness; her influence
must tend to have every member
thereof filled to overflowing with that
spirit. The thought which, through
her influence, must animate the mind
of each is not, what can the others do
for me, but what can 1 do for them?"
Her aim must be to have all seek one
another's good and to tighten one an
others burdens
The ideal home is a home of sacri-
fees, where husband and wife make
sacrifices for each other and for their
children; where children make sacri-
fees for each other and for their pa
rents; where the making of such sacri-
fees is looked upon as a privilege and
are performed as tokens of love and
affection.
In the ideal home there is happiness
in the kitchen as we'll as in the parlor.
Those who are called upon to serve the
family are made a part of the home;
their comfort is sought. their health
and well-being are cared tor. their bur
dens are made as light as possible by
words of appreciation and by chee. tul
aid. They are made 10 feel that they
are serving loving and appracia.iye
friends instead of heartless and exact
ing masters. The ideal home is where
harshness never enters, where selfish
ness finds no lodgment, where irrita-
bl!lty is kept beyond the door. where
nagging is never heard and where
thoughtless and bitter words are never
uttered to leave scars behind en-
wounded hearts
The place filed with an atmosphere
OF love and affection, of thoughtful
ness and helpfulness, of tenderness and
sympathy, the place where one lives fer
all and all live for one; where petti-
ness of soul and haughtiness of spirit
are strangers, where patience and kind
ness reign supreme, there will be found
the ideal home.
Not least among the causes which
nave tended to perpetuate the Jew and
enabled him, after all the unhappy ages
Oh the past to outlive his prosecutors
was his ideal home life. The respect
Tor the parent on the part of the chill
dren, the love of the parent for the child