The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-03-05
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o,s would undervalue the beauty
,ba saeredness of love. but II is
..., that it is not sufficient capital
..- 10 marry. and those who start
with no other resources, soon find
bankrupt in sentiment as
purse. No man. says Dorothy
the New orleans Picayune, is in
frame of mind to be a lover when
. H., bungrv and the affection that has
\ -t,rd the wear and tear of shabby
4 - and the harassment of unpaid
,.o-le that frightened and fresh
him up. In a word, he lived well.
w., with a family to support, he is
|rrui.,akably shabby; he must live In
,,or little cottage. where the ugllness
II cleanliness of everything outrage a
t.. that is educated up TO Turkish
.,,s and old blue china; he is forever
dclsins bill collectors, and his knowl-
.,p4 of the plays and operas in which
3. delighted dwindles to hungry scan
i.., of the billboard and pictures on the
walls
Is it any wonder that sensible man,
confronting this condition, pauses on the
cote side of matrimony and asks himself
| If love IS going TO make up TO him for the
s,,ridce of all the tastes and habits of
a lifetime? Indeed, he might well go
farther. and ask himself If he will even
love the woman who is now so dainty
spd pretty in her beautiful clothes, and
artistic environments, when she is care
worn and workworn and shabby, and
presents a sorry contrast TO women
more fortunately situated? l have seen,
and YOU have seen, men drag women
down to poverty, and then turn from the
hard-worked drudge TO some lovely crea-
lure in shmmering silks and filmy laces,
VINO answered the dream of sofness and
beauty that is every mans ideal of the
etarnaly feminine. 1t is tragedy of
tragedies. with perhaps no one to blame.
1t is the craving, gnawing desire for what
sppeals 10 our souls that will not be
denied,
With a woman, although she seldom
does consider the wisdom of marrying,
the need is even more urgent of using
some common sense. Under heaven there
is no other woman so badly off, so hard
worked as the woman of refined and edu-
Gated tastes, who is married to very poor
man, and who must combine in her own
person wife. mother, cook, housemaid
Iof g. he 60
called working woman, in comparison, is
one of idylhc ease and luxury, for she
at least has some hours out of the TWEEN
ty-four when she can rest and sleep in
peace, with no fear of any calls being
made upon her and has, however scanty
her earnings some money to devote to
her own personal needs. OF course there
are women, strong of body and strong
OF purpose, who do not find marriage, I'M
der such conditions, a failure, but such
instances are not common, and many q
girl has felt after the honeymoon waned
like singing the refrain of the old song:
Il Had Good Home, and Left It." Any
woman, contemplating such a venture
should think of it long and carefully be-
fore she takes the fatal step.
But say the advocates of indiscrimi-
nate matrimony, these young people could
get married il they were willing to go
back and begin life like their parents did.
1t is nonsensical argument. Nobody can
go back TO tallow dips after using electric
lights or the stage coach after the auto
mobile. 1t is true that we demand more
luAurles than our parents had, but we
are used to more, and have greater needs.
II Is not convincing to say we ought to
be happy in logcabin in the forest be-
cause our forefathers lived that way. We
know very well we should be miserable
without beauty and comfort in our sur
Toundings Rightly or wrongly, there is
the cultivated taste to be dealt with, and
SO We are left with a condition that the
theory doesn't fit
do not say that only the rich should
marry. Far from il. l believe that the
very happiest and most congenial mar
RACES In the world are those where young
people with moderate means have mar
Iled' and worked their way up together
by thrift and industry. But unless there
Is suIflclent income to maintain them in
comfort, in the way of life to which they
nave been accustomed to live, it is a haz-
aruous experiment to try.s>It is better to
DE- laughed az because you are not mar
Iled than it is not to be able to laugh
because you are