Arizona republican., 1899-06-25


 for making a good marriage? Yes. t an extent they are led to believe this and it is because of the two standard, for conduct which exist in society, on for men and one for women. Tn same departure from a moral standars will bring in the one case. severe cen sure and partial ostracisln, and in tn other case it will be glosaad over i, some way.
 THE YELLOW METAL WORK:
 WONDERS
 | True, there are the families int; which no son-in-law is welcome un Hess he has a good character O. course, his financial prospects are con sidered too. as indeed they ought t be. but first comes the question o what he is rather than what he has But n many cases 3 we'll filled pocl1e L book covers . multitude of sins iai tn: desire 10 settle marriage daugh- ters in homes of their own Mighty concessions are made oh the part oi solictbous mothers who are looking fII good catches for the.r daughters. Civt the backing of wealth to-a man whose character is not what it should b2 and the way into some good homes i5 open to him. No covering up the fact that the jingle of gold helps enc greatly in tfis matrimonial race Doors ara thrown open to ifiTn and fair m&mIlaa receive him with smiles and extended hands.
 Every person who is of marr-age7b'e e age must decide this question for him. eslf 0r hsrself. Ciroumsta1ees e much to alter cases, but any one whJ has any part in helping to. mould puo- lie thought concerning those things which affect the welfare of the h5ns must keep before himself the highest ideals possible When the question of moral character as a factor in mar riage s set aside in favor of outward icsses=iahs ! belfave 1t to be q serious mist31e 1 am not blind to tie lmz portant part that money and social position play in the question Of matri- mony. No cne can blame any parents for wanting to see their daughters pro vided with a fine home and those com forts which a good income assures; htrt when these things ire put first, and a fast young mai With money stands a better chance of winh ng young woman than does the true hearted and manly fellow whose in come is moderate, then we are cer- tainly losing sight of that standard which should be thought Of first in this sacred relation.
 TREAT THEM BOTH ALIKE
 I believe that the first question 2 young woman should ask concerning a young man to whose destiny her own may be linked should be, What kind Of a man IS he?" And I believe that any standard of society which teaches that she should be willing to overlook some things which have not bsen just right !n his life should be equally lenient toward her if It happen that some nIssteps have been made in her highway of experience.
 Society may cond0ne 3 wrong in a young man, but the wrong is Iio less on account of this And it may se- yerely censuTe the In.sstep that young wonaah makes but it. does nat make her sin any worse on tiis ac- count. l suppose it IS fair io say that 1t the final bar Of judgment a wrong in & woman will receive no scverer than the same wrorg in a man, ana I think it cnly fair to insist that the same standard of judgment is just and cquable for society to use.
 Either there is one moral standard fer both men and women, CT there is a different standard for each. If oaiy me, then my position is unassaiIabIe If two, then l am wrong, and the, sow ng of wild oats in a young man shogIl )e chaTitably overlooked, while the same tn any young woman should be severely censured. What is your or. H. on in the matter, one standard f1r 10th, CT 3 different standard for each ?