The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1899-05-19
THE MONEY QUESTION
RESPONSIBLE FOR WoMAN'S ReLUcT-
ANCE TO MARRY.

A Man Should Carefully Instruct His Wife
Regarding the Value and Proper Use Of
Money-A Trusted Woman Is Proud OF
Her Husbands Prosperity.
However advance the world may be
said to be, howeVer quickly we may
grasp and adopt new fadS. fancies and
notions. and however much we may
think we have improved upon old times
and former usages there are yet
great many things nat are susceptible
of decided bettermelr.
Among these tn management of
household affairs stands gu prOmi-
nently, especially that phase of it that
involves the financial understanding
between the husband and the wife.
For great many yeas il was
thought that women We're rot capable
of managing their domcsti. concerns
as far a. money matters went. There
was, TO an extent, some slow of rea-
son in this idea, and in SOM Instances
there is yet, but. as a rule, TT existing
state OF things is jus about as bad as
civilized people are uapable ot making
it. y little analysis of tn SITUATION
will readily discover why this is so.
\ man Of more or loss mature years,
who has made or is making q compe-
tencc or good liviH-. marries young
woman, sometimes scarcely mere than
child She has hc,u in school almost
all he" life. and has never as med any
rcsu' visibility in money mattnt- other
than to be expected 30 make heralIow-
auc' buy candy and ether petty luXuri-
eS II The money "-ip all 20 ne she
went without confccf merry and trink-
cts until next time ana it was just as
well. perhaps better This constituted
her limit of tinanciai experience. Her
bills were paid. her necessities pro
vidcl for, incidentials we" looked
afte and shortage was made up.
Whichever she wanted IN * rSs Of this
she coaXed or cried for until She got it,
or maybe was sulky, sullen or DISC
bliging until the coveted article was
forthcoming as the easiest way out of
the unpleasant state of affairs.
Fairly launched upon the sea ofmar-
ried nfe, that condition in wtoh young
people feel at liberty to do as they like,
her natural inclinationS, unframed
and unguded in the bud, blossom out
into eXtravagant and unreasonable de-
mands and feeling perfect right to
call tor whatever she desires trouble
. Genes sometimes suddenly and with
out warning. 1t is safe to say that
money matters are responsible for
more domestic infelicities than all other
cad>eS combined. The man is not long
in discovering that his wiz manages
badly, and he tightens the purse
stril2s. Instead of carefully inStruc-
ting Eer in the use of this net pSsity Of
life. he becomes arbitrary and often
unrts sonable insisting, in nan" cases,
that all articles shall be bought on Gre
dit and the bills sent to him to over.
look.
There are few things in the world
more annoying than a systematic espi-
onage of this sort. and the knowledge
that even the most trivial purchase
has to be accounted for. 1t is humila.
ting and puts the mistress of the house
on the level of an irresponsible child.
How much better it would be to ar
range at the outset some fixed method
in which forbearance on both sides
fol ms an important part. honorable,
ightforward, honest men have very
it'll reason to fear the knowledge
1 WHICH their wives HAY nave Oh lnelr
business. 1t is only when Legitimate
pleasures and indulgences are to be
provided for that there is any occa-
sion for such secrecy.
\ woman who is ccntileG in and
trdSted will, as rule, feel quite as
much pride in and interest - Der hus-
bapd's prosperity as he himself does,
and = is almost always possible, when
BUSINESS is depressed, for a well-in-
formed woman to curtail eGftI SEES and
sui ner demands to the e<iS"ncies of
the situation. But where tltre is no
understanding or confidence, where
money is literally doled out ard that
too in the most grudging TANNER, a
feeling of resentment springs up, and
tie idea prevails that the" must be
just so much contention anyway in
in order to get what is required. Under
such circumstances there is no wonder
if the demands are excessive md infe
litiits follow fast upon ouh another's
heels.
Tho money question, mora than any
other. is responsible for the reluctance
of W. men TO II AIRY and theii ambition
to provide a competence for them