The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1899-11-10
TIVE TO FIND FAULT.

With elder children, the right and wise
method of finding fault is far more diff
ilcult matter than it is with the little
ones: and to choose the right time for
for, but waited for because there is
nothing that so angers, irritates and
hardcns big girls and boys as being
found fault with before their compan-
ions, or in the presence Of strangers. 1t
hurts their vanity and sorely wounds
hearts; they know perfectly we'll that
they deserve a rebuke, for youth is ever
sensitive of it's budding dignity. The
wise correction of her nearly grown IN,
and even quite grown up. children. is a
SUBJECT that gives many a mother much
thought and anxious consideration, es-
peclally, in this present. day of liberty
and individual rights, when the reins of
authority in almost every instance have
been and are being so greatly relaxed
but, l hear some readers exclaim.
,..young people must and should be found
fault with when they do wrong
True, perfectly true; but, to quote
spoken by our own or other peoples t.:
children: "What's the use of scoldingv
None, we at once admit: still, though
we allow that there is no necessity for
nor good III scolding. it is without doubt
the duty Of every; parent and person i'll
placed to point out to them any fault
they may have committee, and not only
this, but they should also both show
them way! Of, and help them in over
coming their fault, or faults-a duty
which, if neglected, will be bitterly re.
pented some day.
In the fulillment of this duty wise
person will ever remember the word in
Scason-how good it is, and what good
results it has, just as good and bene-
fetal as the word out of season is use
less, If not harmful. 1t very seldom
does to find fault with big children at
the moment when the fault is committed
II others are present: much wiser is it to
pass over thing in e::,ence for the time
beng. to even appear not to see what
is done or hear what is said To speak
hastily is very often to speak inadvised-
~. and thus anger is aroused. which, per-
chance, may not be confined to one side
only tny Words may be spoken: too, when
this happens by which the Influence of
the one and the respect of the other may
be weakened. if not altogether destroyed.
The right time to find fault, to point
out il mistake, is when parent and child
are alone together, III those moments of
quiet confidence which every parent
should try and find occasionally-nay, if
necessary, should: make at any sacrifice
OF convenience or pleasure. For words
can be spoken and will be listened to then
with an amount Of attention that they
probably would not receive at any other
time.
1t is not easy to guide and lead the
children when the nursery and school
room days are passed, says the Lady.
Youth. when on the verge of man or
womanhood, is apt to think that it can
stand and walk alone; at any rate. it
likes to try and do so, and before doing
what it is told, wants to know why it
should
Constant faultfnding affects young
people i'll different ways. In some it
arouses anger; in others Indifference and
carelessness. They come to look on it
as 'mother's way She is always do
ing it, they tell themselves and others.
In whatever way they take it the results
are injurious to both parent and child.
The habit OF finding fault continually
grows until it becomes part of ones ma
ture--so much so, indeed, that it ceases
to be confined to the children, and is ap-
piled to servants and neighbors, friends
and acquaintances unfortunately.
DON'T NEGLECT PERsoNAliAP-
PEARANCE.
"A man would infinitely prefer to be
disappointed in his wife's intellect than
in her personal appearance if he has to