The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-03-25

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placed in a position of utter irresponsl-
bility with regard to money matters. She
dislikes the fact that she must ask for
every penny that she spends. She has no
pleasure in giving, for she can make no
sacrifices.
In this very discomfort may be found
one of the answers to the question which
SO many parents are asking: why do our
daughters go out from homes where they
are needed to accept positions in the bust
ness world-often unc~ongenial?' The
girls answer is, usually, Il must be in
dependent and if you will look closely
into her life and study her problems you
will find that the independence for which
she longs is not license to do that which
is unconventional, nor does it always in
clude ambitious visions of a career, but is
rather the sense of freedom which an
assured income, however small, gives.
If it is not too late begin when she is
little, this daughter of yours, and give her
something, if it be but ten cents a week
for her very own. Let it be understood
that it is all her spending money. If spent
on Monday no goodies until the next
Monday. Let her have her own pocket
book, and, if she will, give her tiny mite
to Sunday school or pet charity. Increase
the amount as she grows older, including
gradually small articles of dress. When,
however, she becomes a young woman,
her allowance should, if possible, cover all
her needs. If she can start a bank ac-
count you will be surprised to find the in
terest she win display in saving.
Do not think it will make her penuri-
Gus. There is no generosity in giving that
which costs the giver nothing. An allow
ance will add to the happiness, the self
respect and self-poise of your daughter.
Can you afford to withhold it.
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Children never will recognize the fact,
but it is a fact, that some grown-up folk
become bent and gray in the effort to give
them amusement. There are youngsters
who are impossible. Nothing short of We
suvius in eruption would give them aston
ishment; their stolid little faces would not
take a crease of amusement at even a Sc
rious and painful disaster to an adult.
These children take up the silent, stone
wall attitude mainly, ] think, with a view
of p~ersuading the world at the outset that
it has for them no secrets and that the
knowledge contained in their little brains
is SO great that it makes their foreleads
bulge; seeing clearly that this impression
once accepted they viii be saved a heap
of trouble. For that matter, the number
! of grOWn-up men who hold a secure repu-
tation for sound common sense only by
never disclosing the fact that they lave
none is past counting. admit" say
their friends, initiating the testimonial
given to the silent parrot, 1--WE admit that
he does not say much, but you have no
idea what a beggar he is to think" A few
children look thoughtful because they are
thoughtful.
Some, again, look thoughtful because
they are indiscreet in eating. Nothing
causes youngsters to take such
grave views of life as the i'm
preston that food is an error
and cream m%eringue a curse. You
may comfort your features; you may in
vent diverting charades; you may intro
duce brand new games of a deliriously ex-
citing description, but this kind of child
viii stare gloomily on, cycling you with
something of pity: something of disdain.
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"In the first months of married life, love
is so sufficient, and loving SO simple, that
there seems no other need in life,'' writes
iIV1CAi w L 4iOCdS LII tlS Alo III
Ladies Home Journal" But by-and-by,
when care begins to shadow them, when
duties present themselves, and, strangely
enough, conflict with each other, when
convictions clash and tastes differ, then
both husband and wife begin to realize
that pack of love must stand what I
have called STEADY and sturdy moral
qualities'-justice, patience, honesty,
sincerity and magnanmity. Indeed IN
these depends the very continuance of
love in marriage, for it is not possible
to go on loving unless that is found
which is worthy of love. 1 say this
advisedly. 1 know the world is full of
men and women who think, either be-
cause they like to think SO, or sadly, be-
cause they must, that one can love where
one does not respect. 1t seems to me tl,lt
this does not ennoble ones ideal of love.
One may pity, may have an infinite yearn-
ing tenderness over what one cannot re-
spect, but love is of royal birth and recog-
nizes only what is as royal as itself. The
way then, to keep owe secure in married
life is not so much to be anXiously watch
ing and guarding lest it should escape, or
| crying thai love has spread it's wings be-
cause the first holiday romance is replaced
by graver feeling, but by living along
simply and honestly and frankly together,
on a high plane, looking most and always
toward whatsoever things are true, what
soever things are honest, whatsoever
things are just, whatsoever things are
pure, whatsoever things are lovely, what
soever things are of good report Then
Love will be not a captive, but a most
willing guest"
Pressing is of great importance in dress
making. and always undervalued by the
beginner, says the "Gentlewoman." After
the seams are stitched, and the hastings
removed, they should be opened and slight
ly dampened with a sponge. A moderately
hot iron should then be pressed, not
rubbed or stroked, over the damp seam,
from top to bottom. An electric iron is the
ideal instrument to use for this particular
work, but experience and judgment will
render the use of an ordinary flat iron
both safe and satisfactory. 1t is best,
however, to use a heavy, moderately heat
ed iron instead of a small one, more heat
ed. The iron should always be tested be-
fore using, and should never be used hot
ter at one place than at another, as this
causes the cloth to draw in spots. The
imprint OF the iron showing through the
cloth is an objectionable blunder which