The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-09-16

one very vigorously dt Inc S@dsiue Jesuit,
says Anna Rattenhouse in the Ph:ladel-
phia Press"
1t is possible that our grandnlothers
deceived us about the manner Of their
day.
They may have preached Of the indi-
vidual and not the mass; they may have
forgotten the manners of people crowded
together for a few weeks of the season
and dwelf upon the etiquette of the
drawing-room.
But even White Sulphur is not what 1t
used to be, they say; possibly that is
because the famous old Virginia summer
resort is not as exclusive as in the days
when people had to go there in relays OF
coaches and travelling was for the great
not for everybody.
But to stand today behind the chair of
a grand dame of twenty-five years ago
and hear her comments upon the modern
manners, is quite worth while for the
listener, even if the listener is essentially
a modern, and does not agree with her.
Frankly the modern does not notice the
changes until the grande dame points
them out, and then, perhaps. wonders II,
after all, we are not wiser with lessor
the furbelows; if the chop isn't quite as
succulent without the paper frills.
But that is a modern thought, and more
over, is the wisdom of the present genera
tion-whfch is in any generation the
wisest wisdom there is.
my dear" says the white-haired arls-
tocrat at the t'crush" of the summer re-
sort, 'did you hear those children say
yes to their mother. not adding 'masam.
What ill-bred children
mot at ALL says the modern. behind
the chair. children are taught now to
leave off the mann and sir to their
answers.
.-The young matron beside them would
correct them if they used it. She would
tell them that such an answer is left for
those who serve us for wages.
.sHow ridieulous!' says the aged arls-
tocrat. mo child will haven respect
a planet 40 lit Northumberland m NTH
for its superiors if brought up on such
a plan. That child should. be spanked,
and at~once, if it is expected to BEHAVE
as a gentleman when the age comes
"And see that young woman standing
with hands on hips. How vulgar. MY
dear. do look at the young man talking
to that lady with hos hands IN ms
pockets! He must have been u up
as this child here and she indicated
the one who had eliminated the maSam
when answerin a question.
do you know" she continued
observed a most well-behaved young
man do that at dinner last evening" he
| kept his left hand in his pocket wnen-
ever he was ont eating.
again these are the correct things 70
do" says the modern. "Well-pred men
keep both hands slipped half way INTO
their pockets. especially when they wear
dress suits; and it is considered as en-
tirely a correct a procedure for a man
TO keep his left fingers in his pockets
between courses Of a meal as it IS Tor
a meal to be served in courses.
.erhe tailors place the pockets in dress
suits peculiarly for that purpose.
~As for the girl. that is a most ordin-
airy pose, considered very fetehlng ana
1ver-hred. If she had her hand spread
ant that would be one thing, but she
rests her closed hands slightly on her
bjns u the back. and has the full con
scjo,,sness that she is in the modern pose
N n,bic bartists love to draw her and
which is considered as very good man
ners, indeed
ssyon cannot be in earnest" says the
ooea Aristoerat. "It is impossible that
he well-bred world should change so
tbs+ II will tolerate what it once ostra-
ci2ed neople for. What have they left
children to learn"
.sBut. my dear, you surely cannot say
anv+niro in favor of the manners in
dancing she adds hopeiessly. Your
avnlanation of these manners makes me
fool like driftwood; is-is-that process
~ dancing thought lovely-and-cor-
rect?" =,
. VIM dear lady. This is the dancing Of
re masses and the careful woman still
aatsst Il and avoids itin the drawing
room.
nro the modern world of accom-
-aI;sbments has put forth. What does 1t
remind you of"
ss0f dozens of bruta men hauling wom-
an about to try to find the nearest win
dow for escape" she answered. sSuch
o++it,,des should not be permitted IN de-
cent circles. Let us go away.
And az the Modern looks back at the
aancars she wonders if all the modern
manners seem as terrible to the ar1sto-
crat Of a day that is done as this sum
mer,s method-of dancing does to even
mel > IL
some moderns!
The mans arm across the entire
breadth of the woman's back, the other
arm crooked about hers in an upward,
ier,Sv movement, her arm curled around
his shoulder and half of his neck, the
otber arm curled about his elbow!
This is the attitude of the i~rresponsi,
HE mass of summer dances; it is devout-
~ n he wished that it will never be the
attitude of the careful woman at home
or abroad.
There may be bravery, but no grace In
= man rushing toward a fire escape with
! woman. holding her tight as best he
might. and in whatever way he first
CATCHES her.
Among the new avenues OF livelihood
which are opening up to women, that
witch Is pre-eminently fitted for the gem
t,awoman is the office of private secre-
tarv to some woman active in a career, |
either literary, social or .~philanthropic,
who finds her duties greater than she
can cope with s-inglehanded," writes vir-
einia Tatnall Peacock in the September
sswoman's Home Companion" THE re-
ouirements Of the position are frequently
IN the actual possession Of a well edu-