The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1899-08-04

content with a sandwich and a cup OF
water than with full course dinner serv-
ed with TRADE of seedlings.
If you are a woman Of this kind, oh,
let me beg of you to realize that 1t is not
what you do for our dear ones which
makes home, but 1t is how you do IL.
and what your tone and your eyes ex-
press to them far more than what your
hands preform.
And let me tell you another thing. You
have no right to spoil the lives of those
about you by your whims, your narrow
judgements, and your arbitrary rules or
your self-centred notions and the thous.
and intangible and indescribable ways
which women like you have at their COM
mand for rendering everybody miserable.
What You need is a good strong master.
A man who will say to you, Madame,
married woman I respected, believing
her to be possessed Of good sens eand a
desire to make me happy. You are for
feiting my respect. you are showinfl very
little good sense. and you are rendering
me miserable. / shall be obliged to take
up my quarters at the club unless you
can control yourself and your system of
tactics"
1t will be well for you also II your chill
dren make an open revolt against your
petty tyranny and get away from youf
control.
1t is perfectly useless for husband or
children to yield to the home tyrant. The
more they yield the more intolerant and
domineering she will become. It Is abb
solutely useless, also, to argue with her.
She is not amenable to reason. The only
thing to do is to take a quiet, determined
stand and maintain 1t; and IL she con-
tinues to nag and scold and irritate, to
get away from her influence, for there
is no tie of blool or duty which gives one
person the right to ruin the happiness Of
another.
Sometimes it is the husband and father,
but no man, unless 1t be an invalid, has
the power to make or mar the home as
every wife and mother has.
1t is ehpresiding mentality-the person
who is constantly in the housewife
makes its spiritual atmosphere. Thoughts
are like doors, and they AL the space We
occupy with their emanations.
A woman has the opportunity to so
dominate a home with her sweet, restful,
kind, cheerful thoughts that she can over
come the influence of crotchety man
during the few hours he is in the house.
One Of the most peaceful houses 1 ever
entered was made so by the sunny heart
ed wife Of cross-grained husband The
mothers view of life was reflected By the
children, and in spite OF an unaniable
host guests found the house of rest and
cheer
Where the wife and mother possess the
Respondent or tyrannical nature, however,
there is small chance for a husband or
children to make the home anything but
a place to sleep. Only when one is locked
in the arms of morpheus is peace to be
found under the roof with such woman.
And yet these women are almost always
devout church goers, and usually regard
ed by their neighbors as devouted wives
and mothers who are sacrificing their
best interests for the sake Of an unappre-
clative family.
1t Is only those who dwell under the
roof with them day after day who re-
alize the enormity Of their crimes, for II
is one OF the worst crimes in the calendar
to destroy the happiness of home.
There is nothing in life for any man or
woman who has an uncomfortable or dis
cordant home. Wealth honor and fame
are to one who sgoes pack to his own
roof with dread.
The petty minded woman tyrant invari-
ably saves all her worries and cares and
bodily aches to talk about upon the re-
turn OF her husband or children. in order
suffers for their sakes in her effort to
keep the home together.
She does not realize that a little dust
and disorder In the home could be borne
better than so much mental disorder as
her conversation indicates. Not that eth
er is neceSsary-there is no earthly reason
why a woman cannot perform all the
quires and retain cheerful end agreeable
department at the same time.
But IL one OF the two must be neglect
cd let 1t always be the physical duty.
Somebody else can be found who will do
that for you no one else can be agreeable
and cheerful for you.
And remember this! You are not good
wife or a good mother or a good Christ
ian. though you work your hands to the
bone for your husband and your children
and deny yourself comforts for their sake.
IL you are complaining. scolding and max
ing scenes over the daily annoyances
which occur in every household.
Unless you are amiable, cheerful. opti-
mistic AMI agreeable in your family. you
are bad wife, bad mother, and a bad
citizen.