The sun., 1899-02-02
THE MISTAKES OF WOMEN.
MRS. AUGUSTA RAYMOND- KLDDER
DISCUSSES HER SEX.


She Loves Too Much and Doesn't Have
Enough Fun-MhrriaRe Never q Mistake,
but Weddings often Arc-Advico Rs to
What n Jealous Woman should DO.
THE Mistakes Of Women was the title of
lecture delivered by Mrs. Augusta Raymond
Kiddor last evening at the homo OF Mrs. Will
liam Curtis Demorest. 6S West Sixty-sixth
street Mrs. Kidder called her talk "lec-
turette" Probably this was because 1t seemed
out Of proportion TO the size of her subject.
One man remarked condoscendingly at the end
OF the lecture that she had made good begin
ming, which he would like to finish up some
time. He was not encouraged by the women
present
According to Mrs Kidder the first mistake
woman ever made was responsible for the in
PRODUCTION OF the cradle. Some OF the later
ones. however have not turned out so well.
One OF these latter day ones is the way they go
TO work to demonstrate their equality with man,
Women seem to think that the way to gain
their own ground is to pull the ground out
from under man and toppe him over Still it
must be admitted that women are not fairly
treated. There's looking backward. for in-
stance. Bellamy did It. Ho was a man and
got fame and fortune for 1t. Lots wife did 1t.
She was woman and we all know what she
got for 1t. 1t seems as II It was adding insult
10 injury to turn her into the cheapest COM
modify in the market. II 1t had been sugar
we could have appreciated the obvious COM
pment to tho sex. Still, 1t is some comfort
that. even in her disgrace. she was something
Indispensable.
Another mistake OF woman is loving too
much or course. love Ia beautiful. divine. and
all that. when 1t is deserved. But our sex 10
not prone TO investigate. 1t Is another OF our
mistakes that we trust too much. Thore Is
plenty Of counterfeit money afoat In the king
dom OF love. and ANYWAY, even II the coin wero
genuine. it Is feminine mistake to give ten
dollars In change for a one dollar bill. Accord
ing to Commerson. one OF women's mistakes is
that they distrust men too N uch In general and
not enough in particular.
"A fatal mistake OF woman is her tendency
to self-effacement. Did l hear any gentleman
smile ?" asked the speaker after the derisiye
laughter which followed her remark had died
away. He need not: for it is true that for
ages women have been content to inspire.
They have been more than willing TO bask In
the reflected glory OF those they loved. I'd
like to paraphrase one of LonEfeliows yerses:
Wives OF great men oft remind US
That they mako those men sublime;
That, IL husbands couldn't md US,
They'd be failures half the tmo.
Another mistake OF women is that they do
| not allow themselves to rest What women do
| not know about eating and resting has built
| 10000 hospitals. Another Of women's mis-
! takes is not knowing how to eat. Consider tho
| ways Of men in this respect and be wise An
other mistake is worrying. some women re-
| garden and dig them up the. next day to see
| how they are prospering; We all remember be-,
od d o ThG tposb in life anS
of it never happened .
| " Is one OF our mistakes talking too much
4 I ia nd q nj having enough
| fun Nearly every woman is a mtser OF jolllty.
Men are willing to catch pleasure as it tiies
| fore they can abandon themselves to enjoy
ment and then they are pspa;!J too tired 70
It's disease but fortunately not incurabe.
| Women say II il easy TO talk this wGy, but that
Worried. All can say is that you might be as
| hurried but you wouldn 7 be as worried II YOU
| did laugh / happened once TO speak OF my
| husband TO a little girl. and she said:
80 Why. didn't think you were married
| Why 2 asked.
| oh. Cause
| Cause why 2
Cause you laugh 40 much
Wasn't that commentary on matrtm3ny
| never mistake. though weddings often are,
connection let me speak about Jealous, women.
! II is large subject. but few words about
that e disease @ ' seldom listen to to advice. The
conclusion ! come TO is that jealousy under
to be don When ons s hnes one has gronnds
Tor the feeling is the last thing they are likely
TO do: that Is. to be so charming and aLtogether
| lovely that the rival will be routed AZ an en-
| trely inferior person. Some women however.
| think they are. jealous when they, are really
only selfish, With a case where there is real
| course be unable to cope. Martyrdom or a
| clergyman and the family lawyer would he he
| remedy, l suppose. But | recommend little
| wholesome introspection to find out whether
| after all. it may be only another mistake
| Tho last mistake Ia that we are too prone TO
| take offense at little things. We indulge in too
many petty misunderRtapdinRs among our
| selves Men don't do this. Let us emulate
them in it.. We appreciate mems merits and
| we can't do better than to initiate those we dis
| cern. As a rule, women admire men as much