The Calhoun chronicle. [volume] (Grantsville, W. Va.) 1883-1984, 1899-07-11

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stitution of its ancient simplicity, and rem
dered its pure stream turbid in places.
Among the patriarehs before there were any
rakes, parents never interfercd, the Young
pair made the match, and the girl ALWAYS
married the man of her choice, an indispen-
sible prerequisite to happy union How
/ to secure happiness to c-arried life is the
question. Some one would say, You might
Us well ask to find the philosophers stone,
or the elixir of perpetual youth, or the Eu-
topia of perfect society The prime diff
Guilty in the case is the entire thoughtless-
ness the want of consideration, common
sense and practical wisdom Not ONLY
young persons contemplating marriage
which includes all between the age of Is
and 35-brt also many married people have
Il vague notion that happiness comes of it
self They wait for certain.dreams of Elys-
iun to be fulfilled bv beatifc realities Hap
pine>s does not come by accident. 1t is not
gift hut an attainment Circumstances NAV
favor but cannot create it. But advice to
those who stand, mean to stand by the
hymenial altar, falls upon dull ears, and
every coupled pair hatter themselves that
their experience will be better and more
excellent than that of any who have gone
before them. They look with amazement at
the tameneSS, and GOODNESS, and diversitics.
and arrangements, and complainings, and
disSatisfactions, which spoil the comfort of
so many homes, as at things which cannot,
by any possibility, fall to their happier lot.
But like causes produce like effects, and to
avoid the misfortunes of others, we mus,
, avoid their mistakes
Love on both sides, and all things equal
IN outward circumstances, are not all the
requisites of domestic felicity Human ma
ture is frail and multiform in its passions
The honeymoon gets dash Of vinegar now
: and then when least expected. Young peo-
pie seldom court in their everyday clothes
but they must put them on after marriage
AS in other bargains but few expose defects
They are apt TO marry faultless-love is
blind-but faults are there and will come
out. The fastidious attentions of wooiug
are like spring flowers they make pretty
nosegays but poor greens. Miss Darling
becomes the plain housewife and Mr.. All
, attention becomes the informal husband, not
from Il want of esteem but from the consti-
tuition and nature. of men. If all thcs,
changes and more than would answer in
wooingG time, are anticipated, as they are by
some analyzng minds, their life will not b,
> embttered by them when they come Bcar
and !o.bcar must be the motto in practice.
1--WE cXhort YOU who are Il husband t.
your wife, even IL You love yourself Give
honor to her. as the more delicate vessel: res
poet the dclicacy of her frame and the deli.
cacy OF her mind. Continue through life
the same attention, the same manly tender
ness which in youth gained her affections
Reflect that, though her bodily charms are
decIyed as She is advanced in age vet that
her mental charms are increased, and that.
though novelty is worn oil, yet that habit
and Il thousand acts of kindness have
strengthened your mutual friendship. De
, vote yourself to her, and atc the hours of
business, let the pleasures which YOU most
highly prize be found in her society
We eXhort you, whoa a wife, to he gen
tie and condesceiCing to your hu, band Let
the influence which You possess over him
arise from the mildne.s fyour manners and
the discretion Of your conduct. Whilst YOU
are careful to adorn your person with
neat and clean apparc-for no woman cln
long preserve affection if she is negligent in
this point-be still more attentive i'm orna-
menting your mind with meeiness and
peace, with cheeriuncss and good humor
Tighten the cares and chase away the vexa-
tons to which men, in their commerce with
the world, are unlvodably exposed, by rem
dcring his house pleasant to your husband
Keep at home, let your employments be do
nestle and your pleasures domestic.
go husband and wife, we say, Preserve a
strict guard over your tongues, that YOU
mevcrutter anything which is rude, con
temptuOus, or severe; and over your tenpers
that you never appear sullcn and remorsc'
Endeavor to be perfect yourselves, but cx-
poet not too much from each other If an
ofcnse arises, forgive it; and thin; not that
human being can be exempt from faults
sin conclusion We would say, that mar
riage is one of Gods first blessings Al
though it involves many weighty response
blitie,, it is a gem in the crown of life It
is a school ald exercise ofvirtuc: and though
marriage hath cares, yet the single life hath
desires which are more trouble and more
dangerous, and often end in sin, while the
care. are hut instances Of duty and exercises