The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1899-10-30
TREATMENT OF A HUSBAND.
QUESTION OF RULERsBIP SHOULDN'T
COME UP, SAYS DIR. SCUDDER.'


Husband and wife should Both Preside in
the Hou sehold-Men Arc Big, Foolish
Boys, But Must be Taken As They Arc
Care Moro for Husband Than for House.
The Rev. Dr. John l.. Scudder delivered an
other discourse last night in his sorles on
Marriage Bells" at the First Congregational
Church in Jersey City. The topic was How
to Treat Your Husband" Dr. Scuddor said in
part:
st Paul was q bachelor and expected too
much in women. He placed the ideal high.
however. and made love the cornerstone OF
happy marriage. There are aome disagreeab!e
women in the world. and not few OF them are
married The fret set shall mention. make
no end Of trouble. They are charming
creatures. handsome. aAable. amiable.
but they do net conhne their love to their
own husbands. flirting wife breeds Jea
Quay and suspicion in the home nest.
WranEles and arrangements are apt 70
follow. When women marry they should sacr-
flee their fondness for other mems company
and not lay themselves open to misrepresen-
tation. There Is n certain matrOnly dignity
which every married woman should observe.
She cannot be as free and frivolous as she used
to be In her ants-maritAl days. Concerning those
who overstep the boundary line OF chastity
and too contcmrtible to mort any notice. Tho
sooner a man il divorced from fathless wife
the better. 1t is folly to patch up condition
OF affairs essentially unpatchable. The hap
pness OF that home is forever shattered. As a
rule wives are more chaste than husbands. The
she-devi most to be feared is not the brawling
vixen but the quiet. deep designing woman
who has no regard for the Seventh Command
ment.
Another class who make trouble 10 tho
homo are tho women who are always boupd to
have their own way. There Is no need for
purgatorial fire for the man who il welded to
one OF these autocrats. Sometimes the
mother-in-law comes in to assist tho wife and
takes hand in running the family. Some
times she asserts an authority she does not
possess and expects her son in law to obey
her as implicitly as her own daughter. The
woman. If she Is an inter eddler. has the
power to shatter many happy home. AS a
rule. she had better live in her own house and
attend to her own affairs. All mothers-in-law
however are not OF this class. Some OF them
are the sweetest women on the earth and
have admirable good sense. This question OF
rulershp should never como up between hus-
band and wife. Mutual love should lead to
mutual compromise. There should be no con-
tention as to which shall be the speaker OF the
Even in u model family there will be occasional
brsezes. but true love soon restores the GUS
tomary tranquility. Two old wheel horses will
occasionally lay their ears back and pretend to
nip each other, but they mean nothing by 1t.
That's only good-natured alteration. II. how
ever, a woman attempts to lord It over her hus-
band she will usually be vanquished. Tor man
has superior strength and generally carries the
pockotbook. Man ia a mule; he will do an
enormous amount OF work II you treat him
ut Ms n "s Pee. liar m1taT. ne e SHFS
and pride, The wife should never say you
must Men are G h tOoilsh boys but the
Another characteristic OF an ideal wife Is her
ability to keep her temper and control her
than your strong minded woman for she keeps
up n running fire Of irritating language. She
and Usually h%r mns has great amT
pieces. Bedding wives live long and die hard.
They possess wonderful vitality and eNuber-
ance OF speech. Fortunately some husbands
arc easy going fellows with thick hides and
pay no more attention to lopuarous wives
smile at their hurricanes o. passion and be-
come more imperturbabls as the women wax
sharp tongue tongue is usually flrshrand and cap
able OF producinEa conilaFrntion The homo
Ss o anH do e FnF wh ses the the
children are spectators. The japanese say
that woman's tongue is only three inche.
man have faults aud they usually have as
many. il not more. than women-their wives
will never correct them by donunciatcn and
and deep downright affection,
There are several ways OF holding hus-
band after you have caught him one IL to
take the same interest in him and show him
the same courtesy YOU did netore you were
careless inattrntiOp. Some care more for their
houses than their husbands. Formerly they
they entered: now they merely lean over the
stars and say Henry, wipe your feet The
little endearments and pICasnntres Of earlier
days are gone. and husbands, notice these
things but are too proud To demand them.
Their love Goods or in the atmosphere OF seif.
become susceptible to the Establishments OF
= "a woman should mover become so wrapped
husband and fail to show him the old time
affection A man is som ething more than u
hard working animal in a trcadmill. His wife
should he
The guardian angel Ser his life presiding
Each pleasure doubling, aud each care dividing.
Another way to hold your husband is to he
make your home attractive. Sovenly wives
who allow dirt and disorder to reign at home
who go about IN s3lIed irnrn ana rroWSy hair
a casual connection between dirt and DRUNKEN
ness. between bad cooking and cnrousnls
II man cannot get something good to eat at
home he will often get something to drink
around the corner. mans stomach IL one Of
his weak points and no wife can afford to neg
lect it. Paw attention to that organ and you
solve many matrimonial problems
Another way to holi your husband is to NAL Ike
allowances for his little imperfactiOns Ho
will smoke in the house and read the newspa-
per when you want TO talk to him he will go
about In his shirt sleeves and leave his clothes
around the room, hut never mind thps" tribes
They are only spots on the sun. Be patient.
and il you ever fall into n wrlnEle he tho first
one to 'maRH up Never let the sun go down
on your wrath. Put your foot on any little nm
plaasantness as on n burning match. Treat
him as II he was the best husband in the
world. Love him and live for him. and he will
do the same for you"
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