The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-09-02

Tell me- I said to one Of the most
charming women I know. who seems to
have made a wonderful success of her
ten years Of married life. how you man
age to do everything so easily, n to
do so much more than other people. and
to make every one around you comfort
able and happy?"
She biushed at my praise as she am
swered:-"I am So glad to hear you say
that, for If I am successful now have
had to buy my knowledge with some bits
ter experience. Yeu know what a nervous
man my husband IS. How could he be
otherwise when the strain he is under
in his professional life, when from the
beginning he had to do everything for
himself, and make his way by hard work
and struggle? Well, when we were en-
| gagged / didn't understand him at all.
People may say what they please about
the engagement being the happiest time
of mos life; I argue it isn't.
II was always worrying John with
little exactions, demanding of him rea-
sons for this and that, interfering with
him and not respecting his time or his
individuality. Fortunately for me. his
love stood the test Of my tactlessness DUR
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so Of our married life, but his health
didn't. He was nervous and restless,
poor thing. He had so little real rest or
freedom with me.
"Then Dorothy came, and during those
early peaceful weeks Of her life, when |
had plenty OF time to think, / began to
see things in their true light, and l made
a few resolutions that I have tried hard
to keep ever since. Certainly. things
have been happier since l determined to
let John alone
1 waited for her to go on, and watched
the pretty little wifely light in her eyes,
says a writer in s'Harper's Bazaar"
II don't think there could ever be a
real difference of opinion between John
and me on the big things Of life, but one
! doesn't have to confront big things very
often, and it is in the little things that
the rub is apt to come. and where a
wife can worry her husband to death I'M
| consciously by her pettiness.
We'll, this was the result of my reso-
buttons. l try not to interfere in any
way with Johns business, not to demur
when be is obliged to go away often and
! to be often late. at meals, and not to ask
him why. frettingly, when he finally
makes his appearance, but TO wait until
he chooses 70 tell me-
when ne wants to sit up late, as ne
! does night after night, reading or writ
ing. when I feel he is not prudent, ac-
! cording to my standpoints, I make my
: self keep quiet, and not nag him with
| advice to go to bed, and I try not to
worry him about his particular economies
or extravagances. Very often he does
what seems to me foolish and unneces-
! sary, but l. have learned to respect his
/ Judgment enough to give hin the beneht
of the doubt. or, at any rate. to keep
| from telling him my opinion when it is
not asked.
Il also have learned never to ask him
to do errands downtown, or take any
| time from his business for me; and,
more than all, I try never to worry him
with any of the tiresome domestic prob
| lens that are continually arising"
Wise little woman. l murmured,
thinking of the many men who come
home from a wearying day downtown to
find a wife who is waiting to pour out
a tale of woe Of the days grievances,
which are exaggerated as they are re-
lated; and yet these same wives would
feel it hard if they had to listen night
| after night to the recital of their hus-
bands business troubles, and be shown
his ~incapacity to manage his business
as they show their lack of ability to
regulate theirs.
Yes. it works well in many ways"
she went on, "fer on his side John
shows the same respect for me. AT the
beginning of each month he puts a sum
of money into the bank in my name for
all the household expenses. I never have
to account to him for a cent OF it; he
never questions the wisdom of any change
that ] choose to make in my menage; in
fact, he leaves me alone in my domain
as absolutely as I do him. Consequently
when we are together we always talk
about things outside of the house. of in
terests that are educating, and we are
very good company to each other. / as
sure you,
No one could doubt it who saw them
together, and no one could question
she had discovered some royal road to
harmonious living. She is over 80 years
old, and she is always taken for about 2l.
She has several children, the dearest
babies in the world, and she is a very
up-to-date mother, belonging to kinder
garten classes, and personally supervis-
ing all that her little people do. She is
active in the affairs of the world and
in charity, and everywhere she is famous
for her quiet charm, and the interest
and help she gives to every one She
meets. And the husband? The other day
he went back TO a college dinner, and af-
terit I was told that all the men present
declared he did not lock a day older
that when he graduated, twelve years
before. And let it be remembered both
these young people have had to look
well to it that both ends should meet,
as they nave not been blessed with an
| abundant store of this worlds goods.
and every cent of what they have has
come with hard work.
s"An active. healthy imagination is one
of the happiest gifts a child can possess.,'
| is the theory advanced by Florence Hull
Winterburn, the well known padiologist.
| when writing Of The Imagination Plays
of Children" in the September sWoman's
Home Companion" IF we watch an In
telligent child. four OF five years old, who
| believes himself unnoticed we will prob
| ably be astonished at the richness and fer
| tility of the fancy which can give life and
| color to dun. commonplace things, and
weave whole stories and dramas around