Semi=weekly graphic., 1899-06-28
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venture to say that if this man were to take woman to the marriage altar he would want her character to be above reproach. He would want to know that her past life had been such that he had reason tu be proud of her as his wife, And he would want to be sure that the mother of his children had always held before herself those ideals which he would have held before his chil- dren
 That is 1t. A young man enjoys having the moral restraints remov- ed, and then when he gets tired of his fast living he likes to settle down in a home. not with the type of wo- man a whose unholy shrine he has poured the best of his manhood, but with somt tbody who in growing to wOmanhood has preserved inviolate the badge of her womaHhood. Where is the justice in this? For my part am glad that tLere was one young woman who exercised her right to get what it was her plea sure to give-the quality of yi.'tue.
 A man insists upon the qualities he must have in wife She must be pure, goou-looking and thrifty as q housekeepel. Now stand a man at the bar of a woman's soul. Let her speak and tell what qualities she desires in a man. She surely has this right. Let her exercise it. She wants pure, loving. thoughtful and industrious man. Or is she SD eager to take the title of Mrs. that she will accept man though he fall far short of what he ought to be? Are men led to believe that if their lives have not been as sweet as they should have been 1t will not ma terially affect their chances for mak- ing a good marriage? Yes, to anex- tent they ale led to believe this, and it is because of the two standards for conduct which exist in society, one for, man and one for women. The same departue from moral standard will bring in the one case severe censure and partial ostra cism, and in the othertc case it will be glossed over in some way.
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 der5.
 True, there are the families into which no son-in-law Is we come un less he is a good character, oil course, his financial prospects are too. as indeed they ought to be, but first comes the question of what he is rather than what he has. But in many cases q well fiAed poeketbook covers mul- titude of sins in the desire to settle marriageabIe daughters in homes of their own. Mighty concessions are made on the part of sOlicitous moth CTS who are looking for good catch 0S LOT lHelI uduSHtCiSA 0ANO Sho backing Of wealth to man whose character is not what it should be and the VI ay into some good homes is open to him. No covering up the fact that the jingle of gold helps one greatly in this matrimonial race. Doors are thrown open to him and .Aix hi wi e and extended haD6s.
 Every person who is of marriage able age must decide this question for himself or herself. Circumstan- c8s do much to alter cases, but any one who has any part in helping to| mould public thought concerning those things which affect the welfare of the home must keep before him. self the highest ideals possible. w hen the question of moral character as factor in marriage is set aside In favor of outward possessions l be lieve it to be a serious mistake. l am not blind to the important part that money and social position play in the question of matrimony. No one can blame any parents for wanting to see their daughters provided with q find home and those comforts which q good income assures; but W hen these things are put first, and d fast young. man with money etands better chance of winning a young woman than does the true hearted and manly fellow whose in-