The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-07-09
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mist beautiful and tender thought
--.s has ever had has been of home
' whose only law is the law of
L and whose inmates, bound together
,. closest ties of interest and blood,
.. ,.rseet accord and sympathy with
u'' -+..r The saddest fact on earth
This ideal is generally dream,
..,. oftener than not the real home
.t,ea of pickering and strife, whose
as soon as they cross the
'..,T drop the mask of agreeability
-., have worn in public, and only show
...,.1 other unlovelness of temper sur
,.. and bad manners.
~, 5rs whose affairs takes them much
49,, o,5er peoples homes, says Dorothy
in the New Orleans Picayune, can
49,. The truth Of this statement When
~, find one happy and harmonious home,
-, end twenty that are perpetual storm
,.rs and where the domestic atmOs-
is always charged with lightning
rs. husband and wife "spat" with each
....r. rna children are insolent to their
liner and glum with their father; the
,-,.1ers and sisters quarrel among them
selves The house is in no sense a home.
T., is nothing but boarding place filed
rfp kicking guests, whose sole idea of
bsnpiress is 10 escape at the earliest pos
chile moment and enjoy themselves some
where else.
IN all the unreason and quirkiness and
-rsnkness of humanity there is nothing
..ss So strange as the way we deal with
tba members of our own family. Why is
il that people who are pleasant and agree
able 10 everybody else, so seldom take the
troubje 10 be even civil to those of their
own household? Why is it they so often
drop even she decencies of social inter-
course in dealing with their own fami-
les Does a woman forfeit the right 10
he treated like a lady because she be-
comes a mans wife? Why does she con
sider she has the right, the moment she
is married. TO drop every charm she
used 10 win him? Why should sons and
daughters, who go into ecstacies of graft
tude over the bunch of violets or two
BIT walking stick a stranger gives them,
be base enough to never show by word
a. look hat they appreciate the lifelong
sacrifices of their parents?
Il is a curiously involved domestic prob
lem for these people who frankly insult
and wound each other every day of their
lives are not actuated by active dislike as
one might suppose. on the contrary, I'M
der The brutality of treatment there gener-
ally exists a genuine affection that mani
tests itself in unavailable tears and cost
ly monuments, wnen those it might have
cheertl ana made happy have passed be
yond their reach. For my own part l
always cherish the fond hope that the
spirits OF the departed are permitted TO
come back and read on their tombstones
that they We're the beloved wife and
mother of somebody. 1t is about the only
lnumauon many woman gets of the es-
TEEN n which She was held by her family.
The pathos of the thing does not al
ways strike us, because We are so ia
miiar with it. We should think a man
fool If he starved for bread with his
pocket fun of money. We should think
Lin crazy, if, going into a beautiful rose
garden he trampled the flowers under
foot and only plucked the thorns, so he
could prod them into his flesh. Yet in
effect That is what so many families are
doing. With all the materials for happi-
ness In their hands, they stin go hungry
l2r IT, They throw aside the blooming
roses OF companionship, and love. and
ioyalN ana devotion, and only pluck the
tnorns of some little popularity of dis
position or taste. An then, long, long af-
rewards when the frost has killed the
roses when The summer of childhood is
gone and there is nothing but a line of
s'aEes In the old garden how the drifted
sweetness of the Old days come back,
ana one reproaches ones self that they
'll not enjoy il while they might. Al,
me The joys that might have been ours,
and that We missed,
Il is idle TO ask whose fault it is when
nome is a failure. 1t is everybody's,
because a home is a cooperative insu-
luton. No woman can make a happy
home if a man sits and scrowls at her
across the table, or if his idea of a home
place We're he can luxuriate in bad
temper and bad manners. No man can
make happy home if he is married to
woman who is more interested in Brown
Q2 taan she is in the cook book, and who
,hnks that any old thing will do for her
husband and children or who is slattern-
~. "asletul, querulous or fretful.
Generally speaking, however, the ma
loHJy Of the blame for the failure of
nome deserVedly rests on the woman.
"Aen man marries, the Wife's part of
me contract is a tacit agreement to make
d comfortable, Well-managed and well-or-
eere1 home, and if she fails in that she
mas Ianed in the first duty. More than
"' IL IS eQudIly woman duty to give
lAe tone 10 the home--to formulate it's pol
Fy-and It rests with her to determine
whether it is to be one of quiet peace and
WsHlJy or full of brawls and riots as
common pothouse.
me japanese Romeo neither asks nor
receives kisses from his dark-eyed juliet
Lor does he press her dainty hand to make
Is aware Of the fervor of mis- passion;
'u' ne continues to court the native maid
r 70 their mutual satisfaction, aud,
lowing no more about these things than
"g she misses nothing.
""en o Japanese belle wishes to in
t.ise IN a little fiirtaton, she waves her
VIS hanging sleeve, or perhaps just her
r .s.5 mana with the palm turned down
""o' am and handkerchief flirtations
m as htte known or practiced as kiss
oul the language of flowers is similar
9o,' tNes and as much employed.
-1'eiorn maids and ardent SWANS ex-
ne ss Inc tenderness of their devotion in
h, SJod. bad or Indifferent, according
no we Smllten ones ability. japanese
cal '1'-.-Aaklng being of a rather mechani-
p5., 11' lfe' bad poetry-that is, very bad
ip5-S less common than with us,