The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-12-20

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like dying; sure man must do it for
himself" and indeed so pleasant is
the occupation that it is only thos"
who are abnormally shy who wish to
do it by proxy. There is great dif-
ference between Irritation and court
ship. The first is attention without
intention. It was well described by
Punch as "a spoon with nothing in
it, but the latter, though it may bea
ssspoon" too, is a spoon with some
thing in it-that is to say, the inten-
tion to marry. "Oh, what a recrea-
tion it is" exclaimed an Irishman,
'sto fall in love; it makes the heart
beat so delicately that you can't get
wink Of sleep for the pleasure of the
paint t'Do you drame Of me, Mike?'
asked girl Of her young man, also
Irish. "Drame Of you, is it, me dar-
lin, why I can't get any sleep tor
draining Of you" After awhile, how
ever, it is felt to be a relief to ex-
change this painful pleasure, this
restless dreaming, for the sweet Sc
curity Of being engaged. No doubt
there are human butterflies who hit
from flower to flower, who weary OF
what they possess, and who think no
hills green except far-of ones. The
only pleasure of wild hunters like
Esau is the chase. Very different are
nome-loving Jacobs No toll or anx-
iety is too much for them if they are
allowed to put engagement rings on
the Rachaels Of their choice, and can
hope one day to settle down with
them. Readers Of Charles Kingsley's
biography will remember how friend
describes going to see him at his little
curate io..glug~, aud finding him pack
ing q portmanreau, into which he was
iumpiug iu aud out, exclaiming, "I'm
engaged, I'm engaged, and am off to
see herr Edwin or Jim has proposed
80 Leonora or Lizzie and to her father
"a not equally pleasant task,) and has
been accepted. He now establishes
protectorate over the young lady!
The wedding will be annexation. Be
ing protector ne must be perfectly
chivalrous and pure.minded. One is
expected to give enthusiastic congrat-
ulations upon hearing of an engage
ment, but it is not easy to do this.
Will the engagement ever be carried
out, or does it mean as little as did
Beau Brummell's affairs Of this sort?
He thought it part Of politeness to
get engaged to all his lady friends.
Mrs. Carlyle was thinking Of the
possibilities Of woe as we'll as OF the
happiness which matrimonial en-
gagemsnt may bring when she wrote
to girl friend, perhaps too candidly,
that she almost screamed when she
read In her letter an announcement
that she was engaged. Still, it is well
sometimes in life to take short views,
and If we do this it is not difficult to
sympathize with the present happi.
ness Of engaged people. We may
think that they are living in FOOLS
paradise, but Scripture tells us to suf-
fer fools gladly, and if they aaunt
their happiness in our face and look
at us as if they expected us to apollo
:gize for being in the same world with
rthem-well, perhaps we were not less
irritating long ago when we were in
the same interesting Ito ourselves)
condition. If people are not at their
best when engaged when will they be?
According to Leigh Hunt, no reason
able person ought to marry who can
not say, S'My love has made me bet
ter, and more desirous Of improve
ment than I have beeu,' and he him
self could say that love for his wife
had subdued the violent temper that
once possessed him. The prospect of
marriage with Margaret Simpson had'a
good effect upon De Quincy. During
his engagement he reduced his daily
dose of opium from $40 grains to 10.
All engaged persons shcaid prove the
sincerity of their love by reducing
their daily dose Of whiskey, of cigars,
Of gambling, of outbursts of temper,
Of frivolity, Of extravaganza in Dress
or of any other poisoner of domestic
life. Certainly do know young men
who have given up almost all small
luxuries in order to be able sooner to
afford that greatest luxury in life-a
GOOD wife. Sometimes there is not so
much self-restraint shown by the 9th
er sex.
There are persons who never seem
to realize that love has sacred and