The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-05-13

Tlgent shaping that is necessary, and
when people complain of the dearth of
good servants in America it would be
only fair to mention the want of good and
clever mistresses.
Writing of the ideal father and ideal
home training, in the May 'sI1adies' Home
Journal" France Evans refers to the
home life Of a well-known writer who
considers no affair of greater Importance
than the direction of his four boys minds.
His boys run in age from ten to seven
teen, but even the little lad of ten is adj
mitted to the family talks, which are
teaching these boys to think for them
selves Instead of telling the children to
keep quiet at the dining table, both
parents, with wise kindness, promote and
direct the natural talkativeness of youth
into fruitful channels. The father brings
home the news of the day, ana each boy
is encouraged to express himself on these
current topics when they dine at night,
provided he is willing to think about
what he is saying, not deliver some care
less. ignorant opinion, then ~obstinately
stick to it. Argument is encouraged, and
frequently started by the father. Each
boy may give free rein to his opinion as
long as he keeps his temper and argues
his best. No slovenly habits of thought
or expression are permitted in his family.
Thu topic in hand may be anything from
football to the latest scientific discovery"
So
How hard may a man squeeze a girls
hand? queries an English writer. Hand
squeezing hitherto has generally been
yieuad &C an indiaafiOp of a ffnotion on
the part of the opposite sex; but the
American young lady who has sued an
admirer for damages because, in a trans
port of admiration, he pressed her hand
SO hard as to injure q bone, has put quite
another complexion on this mode of dis.
playing regard. The damages she received
were so substantial that the transatlantic
young man will in future hesitate. 1
should say, to squeeze any maiden's hand
for fear of an accident. How is a passion
ate lover to know how brittle his ina
morata's bones are? and surely even the
most excitable of SWANS would never
squeeze so hard as to break ordinary
bones. 1 confess my sympathy is entirely
with the young man who has had to pay
for his exhibition of admiration. Enthu-
siasm is all too rare nowadays, and
modern maidens seem to resent rather
than welcome any demonstration on the
part of a lover.
In social ife the person with whom 1t is
easiest to ak is the person who is cor
dial and kind and who has many inter-
ests, and if we try to throwSourselves into
the discussion of subjects for which
others care, the more readily will they
talk to us. The effort is worth making:
there need be no insincerity in it. and the
result will be a benefit to ourselves. in
widening the sphere of our own happi-
ness. 1t is a mistake, for instance, for a
! studious girl to assume a superior man
ner. to be self-conscious, egotistical or to
affect Indifference to society and its
amusements. In order to be popular it is
necessary to have a certain affability, a
readiness to please and be pleased, gra-
ciousness in speaking to friends and ac-
ouaintances, facility in remembering the
names and special interests of those we
meet.
Many of the new dress sleeves on
Paris gowns have the upper portion made
of one fabric and the long, close forearm
part of an entirely different material,
which, on thin evening toilets or models
for summer wear. is shaped exactly like
a long mitt. A gown of spangled Chantilly
net, made up over rose-colored MORE, has
the upper part of the sleeve of this tex
tile, the forearm portion of fine Venetian
lace. a deep point of which reaches up
over the net sleeve above the elbow, and
down in. cuff style we'll over the hand,
covering the fingers to the knuckles.
So
Very broad draped waist bands, almost
forming a c~overlet, are one of the new
ideas. They are fashioned in silk of the
color of the skirt or bodice. When this
portion of the costume is of bolero shape
this drapery is worn beneath, otherwise it
is passed over the waist. These waist
bands are, not shaped, being of the same
height all around and generally fastening
at the back by means of hooks hidden be-
meath a narrow frilling. To make these
centuries set well it is necessary to sup
port them slightly back and front by thin
whalebones.
Hats covered with the exquisite new
flowers, which are such perfect imita-
lions as to seem real, and others trimmed
with feathers, chiffon and ribbon, are
/ pictured anu QCSSIiDCo ny aO0lSC IlOW-
ard in the May Ladies Home Journal
The hats themselves are of the new
straws and braids, and are described so
clearly that any clever woman may re-
produce them.
Some jeweled girdles ave just been in
troduced for evening wear which are very
effective. They consist of a series of sill
yer or gilt slabs, square, oblong or round.
connected by chains of the metal of which
they are made. The slabs themselves are
about one inch high and one and one-half
inches in breadth, the interval between
each being about the same. The girdle
crosses over in front and falls in two
three-inch long ends fastened by a jew
eled clasp, larger but of the same style
as the slabs.
I saw a French sleeve the other day,
and the effect was charming. The low
bodice was of pale salmon satin; at the
corner of each shoulder, back and front,
there was a rather full rosette of black
velvet; the shoulder-band and sleeve were
made of three bands of black velvet, one
passing from rosette to rosette above the
shoulder-one across, and the other under
il. A wide piece of black velvet also went
ro,,pd tho neck Of the waarar of this