New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1899-08-26

tsaid "The Telegram no manor certainly no
excuse for ignorance Of the standard which he
should make It the aim OF his life to reach. He
Mrs Miller tells US he should avoid and to per
severe steadily In tho practice OF their opposites,
vision into an acc0mpshsd act of the
n f tang which the husband OF a professional
bread winning business on his own account. and
TO aIruse himself by making ducks and brakes
Of her professional earnings. This seems almost
70 need special enforcennent; hut Mrs F.nwick
Miller insists that fer whose wives earned
part of the income 10 grow lazy. or 10 sehshy
spend all they earned on their own dissipation and
amusement" is so common as to be appalling
1t is she says rock which she has observed the
marriages OF professional women 10 be wrecked
Hence its avoidance is the very first Of the duties
&c be observed by him who would become ideal
husband. So long as he impoands his wife's salary.
or her receipts CT any knd from ire practice OF her
calling and souanders the money at billiards or
sk!ttles or fritters II away in unsuccessful at;
that he has not even begun 10 form any sound
notion Of what the idea! husband should be. :,
Though assiduous In the pursuit OF his own call
ing IL is his wfe's occupation. and how best 10
tighten its tolls Tor her that s6 ID BE v
to be little fatigued by his close attention TO
gruobing industries he should In that be care.
ful 10 conceal his WEAKNESS WIN the hef9lSm OF
day has been spent by his wife We will suppose, in
the exercise Of her profession writer OF "shil-
ing srsTs ~ reaqatien on is rs saw she has
come to a difficult point in her story, and what she
Hd e sTe IF for tn i rem FEW hours TO
affection and cheerful companionship. II will never
do for her husband to allow her 10 perceive that
he has got touch OF the same complaint. No he
will hasten home at his best speed In order that
when she quits her study for the drawing room
she may find him waiting for her with cup Of tea
and budget OF news, and as much light ana i've
is necessary afford her the required distraction.
Next 10 aap i s sany ps sue4 ii Of
the ideal husband Of the future will probably be
his unerring tact II the cook. whom ne Will nave
personally Interviewed that morning before starting
for the city, SHOULD fail to perform her task saus-
ber sbo;r4cenes and should the Wearied brain
worker display Irritation at the failure-as wearied
his own side TO maintain unruffled good humor
His wife cannot but appreciate the antiquities he
lance If judicously dealt with. will In all probabil-
drawing room , regsined the husband should seat
himself unostentatiousy at the piano. ana ano"
still he should give his wife an opportunity OF
ga5g tondy al nm as ne 9enGs over 5s b 70
displaying the beauty Of the arm. even, possibly
through black coat sleeve He should beware.
eer hspumd3f ad Should ever hold hmset in
readiness substitute for the soothing influence Of
sbo S WE he seems ns 70 % discern and anticipate her
wishes: and he should not hesitate to discuss her
work with her. should she, as Is not al all lpfooa
6 snow an he 9e 10 aTob viii prove
dstasteful 70 her and the sympathetic interest 10
Which they viii testify 9 viii go far to 9oq fea r hu
bands one aim in IA should be 10 devote himself
professioner powers: his presence and his person
atty should stand 70 her for evsrything that Is
We'll as for everything thai is healing and reposefuI
during It's blessed hours Of ~ 99 6 ne sre ana
winners-which is what Mrs Fenwtck Miller sug-
SinSs tbs his Is bevond the power Of the aver
age woman"-he. too. may occasionally feeI tnat ne
requires attention and affection and cheerful com.
partnership to hearten him up for future work
This need however might be met by an srranE &c.
Of ideal husband" and ideal wife, on alternate
QUESTION OF MEANS
Sarah Grand. the author Of the Heavenly
Twins" declares that the question OF professions
for married women is usually question Of means
And therefore when is asked Should married
women follow professions? one is forced TO allow
that II depends and is fam 10 add: Not II they can
help IL! She continues follows:
But II ii be the woman who must work let her
go 70 her work unhampered by other cares
is for the husband TO make the money and the
wife 10 make the home; if she does that well. she
need not entail the suppression OF any great gift
IN oysone oays women on bf }ber sx to- Do
plain needlework. which might Just as well have
that was waste OF good material for which there
car rarely be any necessity Home as the %o mas
there in round Of amateur performances and the
suppression of all that was individual in everybody
a training school, in which and daughters are
fitted TO grace any position in life and II Is not
the woman's sphere than the mans. Home
is essentially the human sphere, and marriage the
highest calling The great object In life OF all
married people should be TO make marriage a sue
cess, but how this best be done Is question
for themselves alone Each must be dealt
with singly. In one case II might be a great hard
ship for married woman 10 have TO follow pro-
fession but In another 1t might be an even greater
hardship TO prevent her doing SO.
In France. where IL Is the rule for married women
TO work, the children undoubtedly sufer-sufer
grievousy. | have studied the subject on the spot,
and been forced TO the conclusion that when there
children they should De the first consideration,
and the parents are both bound 10 sacrifice them
selves for their good Exactly what will be for
the good OF the children will often be very nice
which il is impossible to lay down any hard and
fast rules. But being conscientious and unselfsh
will be found great help when II becomes neces-
sary 10 arrive al a decision in the matter.
A should have the same chances In the
professions a man. But woman's work about
the house is never ending; the care OF child Is
the sweetest Of professions: and that woman il
neelectful of her best interests who into
the world 70 work when she can get a nice man
70 do the work for her.
Captain Sigsbee, the famous commander Of the
lost Maine in speaking OF the recent marriage OF
his daughter art student, 70 Balfour Kerr, a
Eew-YoFk artist, said ne would have preferred for
his daughter a career and then marriage. But. "
nartnership" In this connection II Is well 70 re-
cail that many OF the most brilliant careers ever
lived have been due TO marriage, and would not
hla With