The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-02-19

married life.
You think so. do your" said Miss Sal
Tor Waist a.
Let me fnish.- answered her compan-
ion You know women are very hard
on men who can marry but won't. We
say all sorts Of mean things about them,
and attribute all sorts of selfish motives
to them. and L think nine times out OF
ten that we are wrong in our judgment,
just as 1 admit that I've been in the case
of Ned Nomuch. You know a little iu-
tellectual fault common to women is de-
ficiency of judgment. The reason that So
many men do not marry is because they
think so little of themselves, they feel
that they are not fitted to mate with
pure hlgh-minded woman, and that's the
only kind of woman that they would mar
ry, which shows that they possess high
ideas, even if they do not live up 10 them.
Il m perfectly reconciled to be an old
maid since Ned Nomuch gave me that ex
PLANTATION of his not getting married. In
deed, l feel 1t is an honor to be allowed
to remain single. I think a man does me
a greater honor in not asking me to mar
ry him than he possibly could do in ask
ing me to be his wife. I'm satisfied and
l should think Faithful Forever would
be just as proud al she could be of having
the love of such man as Ned Nomuch.
you do, do your" said the other, all
NOSNAAASSS III iACt iILiiS. IOu say NAAiS
that a little intellectual fault common to
women is deficiency of judgment. I'll tell
you another that we have. 1t Is lack of
ability to look at a question from more
than one side. Now, III confess that l
can't understand Ned Nomuchs mean re-
mark from your point of view at all, and
1 think it was a thoroughly contemplate
thing for him to say, and shows up his
intensely selfish nature. Don't you fool
VOurSplf al MGR Il no
unmarried because they have such lowly
opinions of themselves and such high and
mighty notions about women. No man
who has not married is ever humble, and
man doesn't stay single because he is
such an imperfect creature in his own es-
timation. The majority of men who could
marry and won't are bachelors for one of
two reasons: Because they have not
thought of marriage until late in life. and
so it is not easy for them to open their
hearts to love- and neither is 1t easy for
them to think of having to sacrifice their
settled way, or else they are single ne
cause the woman of to-day requires and
demands so much in a material way.
Don't misunderstood me. l respect and
admire man as much as l do woman, and
enjoy him a thousand times more and so
far as selhshness goes, it's about six OF
one and half a dozen of the other Man
is selfish in small things and woman IN
big things, and so it goes.
When one by one the stately. silent years
| Glide like pale ghosts beyond our yearn-
ing sight,
Vainly we stretch our arms to stay their
flight,
So soon, so swift, they pass to endless
night
We hardly learn to name them,
To praise them or TO blame them,
To know their shadowy faces,
Ere we see their empty places!
Only once the glad spring greets them
Only once fair summer meets them,
Only once the autumn glory
Tells for them its mystic story,
Only once the winter hoary
Weaves for them its robes of light
! Years leave their work half done, like men,
alas!
| With sheaves ungathered to their graves
they pass,
| And are forgotten. What they strive to do
Lives for a while in memory of a few,
! Then over all Oblivion's waters flow
The years are buried in the Long Ago!
Julia C. r. Dorr In the New York Tri-
bune.
am constantly being asked says a writ
er In the Chicago es-Herald, about the
etiquette of visiting cards, of which I am
! glad because it is possible to display in
! lust that little matter of card leaving the
! greatest dignity and elegance or the re-
verse If people would but remember that
visiting cards and wedding invitations can
not be improved upon fewer mistakes
would be made Perhaps the safest ad-
vice is that which point out the incorrect
use of cards, for nothing more quickly be-
trays ones ignorance or lack of conf
dence. Never send card by post to rep
resent a visit N calling upon one who
has a guest a card must be left for her as
well as one for the hostess.
If the acquaintance upon whom you call
is receiving in her drawing-room, the SER
] want should not be given your card to take
to her. but should announce you by name
In older countries the card is not taken
to her at all but this rule is not adhered
to in America, because, perhaps, of our
unframed servants, who could not, as a
rule be trusted with the pronunciation of
a name. on leaving the house you should
leave your card and with it your hus-
hands card. If the lady of the house Is
| single or a widow. II she Is not. two of
your husbands cards should be left. II
YOU are unmarried and reside with your
father or brother his card should be left
with your own If your call is made on
an afternoon Eat home" for which you
/
he left. as the reception day is made the
occasion OF an entertainment and an ordi-
nary call should be made afterward In ac-
acknowledgement.
There are many occasions upon which
card may be left as mark of delicate at
tention or consideration, as in the case of
illness or death or misfortune These are
determined upon by the circumstances and
the relations existing between acquaint-
ances. A visiting card may be the silent
bearer of sympathy and loyalty and can
not intrude as spoken words might do.
In the case of death the words sincere
svmpathy'' may be written on the card,
but upon any other occasion of misfortune
such as illness or accident the message
should read simply kind inquiries. -
Flowers are always a graceful offering I'M
less they are sent in to lavish profusion.
There are few circumstances however del
icate, that justify friends in neglecting to
send a card to one who is in any trouble
| II CONVEYS the fact of kindly thought