The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-11-22


it is a better thing to get a gooo
wife.
There are all kinds Of women in
this world, and most Of them, by the
way, would like to be married.
All they need is sufficient urging by
the opposite sex.
Now, as there are a great many wo'
men in the land and some are mani
testify superior, it behooves the wise
man to make judicious selection.
All women do not make good wives
and it is possible for man to marry
and make the greatest blunder Of his
life.
Some women can make you supreme,
~ happy, and others can make you
very sad. Be careful, then, as to the
kind of woman you ask to share your
lot.
Tn seeking wife, I claim man
should act in businesslike manner,
and not be carried away by his emo
tions.
The step he proposes to take is OF
paramount Importance, and will affect
his veal or woe more than anything in
life.
Marriage ought to be something
more than s grab-bag, into which a
man thrusts his hand and takes out
an unknown quantity.
A sensible wooer is like good
shopper, who goes from store to store
and examines the goods on all the
counters, inquiring into their quality
and price before he makes pur-
chase.
He selects wife after duly investi-
getting that portion Of the market
which is available to man in his
station, and comes to the pleasurable
conclusion that he has exactly what
he wants.
There is little romance, I admit,
about such prosaic method Of choos-
ing a partner, and some may criticise
this as a pretty cold-blooded way of
making love. But in answer to these
criticisms it may be said that this is a
workaday world, with very little ro-
nance about it, and it is better to be-
gin as we can hold out.
Such things have occurred, and will
occur again, but they are the excep-
tions that prove the rule that the best
love arises between those who are ac-
auainted with one another's antece-
dents and have similar tastes and
sympathies.
To marry well man must marry
woman who he knows will suit him,
and such knowledge comes only by
careful thought and observation.
There are certain qualifications
which every woman should. possess
who proposes to become wife, and
which every lover should demand.
These I shall mention, and to them
.fastidious individuals may add as
many more as they please.
] hope they will not require as
much, however, as man. once heard
Of, who said all he would demand in a
wife was "a good temper, health, In
telligence, beautiful face, a comely
figure, good family connection, domes-
tic habits, resources Of amusement,
conversational talent, good spirits,
elegant manners and money"
There was nothing narrow about
that man.
fortunately, ell men, do not have
such exalted ideals, and are willing to
put up with smaller number of de-
sirable qualities.
The first qualification that | shall
mention is that she who is to be a
wife must be woman Of character,
and thus command the respect and
admiration Of the man who seeks her
hand.
A pleasant disposition is an indis-
pensable quality.
It must be remembered that women
are born actresses-that they can play
their uparts most skillfully during
their courting days, and deceive their
lovers as to various weak points in
their characters, if they are so dis
posed.
Many man has been completely
fooled by the woman he was courting
and lived to regret his lack OF in
sight.
If she was slattern and too lazy to
dress herself neatly, she was shrewd
enough never to let her young man
find her in an unbecoming costume.
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