The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1899-06-03
HOME THOUGHTS.
Tho Profitable School Of Endurance
In Which Parent and Child Learn
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In Which Parent and Child Learn
Happiness Together.
New York Post: Behold" says one
who knew Of what he wrote. I'VE count
them happy who endure. There was q
special .'othcr world" Significance, no
doubt, in the original application OF the
thought. but 1t Ia a goodly thing for us
to grasp and hold on to from the baby
boy out Of whose grasp his gay balloon
has taken flight to the general who has
lost his battle.
do not mean that happiness Is found
In bending under bitter blows which
drub the life out OF US; there is neither
education nor elevation In merely being
beaten with many stripes. The endur-
ance which makes great Is the carrying
ones burden. whether great or small,
with brave, straight back and eyes
that look forward and not backward,
up and not down.
The child who Is allowed. or, as is so
often the case, Is encouraged to cry
over every small hurt: the boy who
sulks or storms over every annoyance
at school or disappointment in play; the
woman who makes herself III because
her household management Is trying;
the man who shoots himself and leaves
wife and children with what he Is
too selfish to struggle with as their. por-
ton. all belong to the same category.
The amazing record Of this past year
Of youthful suicides ought to make ev-
cry mother in the land. OF every degree
and station. look to It that In her nur5-
cry or about her feet. as she drudses
through q day OF toll, she should learn
10 endure pain. or deprivation, or dis
appointment with courage and cheer
fulress. That q girl Of fourteen should
take her life because her father fcolded
her for wrong-dolng: that lad OF yet
childish years should hang himself be-
cause he had failed In n school exam
nation brings thrill Of horror to ev-
cry humane heart. but few OF US study
the philosophy OF these awful facts. or
End In them any hints for parsoaal con-
duct.
1t seems as il the world had grown so
rich in resource. things are made SO
racile and delightful. that to be hurt
or 5aoiad onytbipr ba, lo,,,,a ,nhoor
able. l do not believe little one can
be too early taught, after reason and
understanding are awakened. that pain
must be patiently borne and desire to
bear denial without an outbreak OF feel
ing.
remember an ingenious young
mother who begu!cd child, too ready
to cry over snail lnjurias. into plying
and ccrnm!seratirg the source Of his
trouble. Poor floor" she would cay.
''Eow hard You did hit H." II was q
droll way % dlvertlng his thoughts. but
the little man would draw his fat hnnd
across his wet eyes ard stoop down. and
pat the place. with great Gentleress.
feeling genuine pity for the place on
which his head had fallen.
Not very high ground on which 10
start a lesson in selt-control. out Il
served q double purpose-the habit OF
crFiEN ard screaming over trlfe was
checked, and the yoanEste- thought o,
something besides his own discomfort.
When the hour comes In which q
mother can bring TO bear the ambition
to be brave. and combine with It an
| appeal TO be unselhsh and not annoy
| ether people, nothing should divert her
| .rcm the pursuance OF this teaching
| Until the principle has been establish
ed. Once learned. It Is learned for He;
| he who, gazing into the sky. w!nl:s
| away the tears while his kite scars over
the chimney tops and Is man enough to
take thought OF Its eccentric flight, viii
fiEd himself prepared 10 stand firm
when, in later ll.e.his pc; Scheme proves
n mistake. and to build new castle
| where the ruins OF an old one stand.
But all the teaching, all the mcst rig
Id requirements OF the parent. nre III
| tile and fruitlesa when the CHILD IN
learns by example wha; Is !nssilled by
| words In home where every all
mcnt makes the mother querulous and
complaining; where spoiled dress
rouses anger or brings tears OF vexa-
, ton: where the daily round o. small
! annoyances cause perpetual Irritation