The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-10-30
ADVICE TO WIVES
The Rev. John L. Scuddel
Tells Them How to Treat
Their Husbands.
HUST NOT SCOLD OR BE SLOYEhLY
The Minister Advises Immedi-
ate Divorce From a Faith
less Woman.

ate Divorce From a Faith
less Woman.
The Rev. John L. Scudder delivered an
other sermon in hts series on MARRIAGE
| BeIls'' to q crowded house last night a.
the First Congregational Church He
said in part-
ssst. paul was a bachelor and expected
ZOO rna,eh In women. He placed the idea
| high. however, n made love the corner
| stone of happy marriage. There are sone
| disagreeabIe women IN the Worad ana lao'
a few Of them are married. fhe hrst se'
I I shan mention make no end OF trouble
I They are charming creatures. handsome
| aRable. arniable, hut they DO not CONNIE
| their love to their own husbands. A nirt-
ing wife breeds jealousy and suspicion ~
| the home nest. Wrangies and estrAnge-
ment are apt to follow. When women
merry. they should sacrifice their fond-
! mess FOR other mems company and not lay
/ themselves open to neutrality-suspicious..
:.~rhere is a certain matroniy dignity
which every married woman should
| observe. She cannot be so free
| and frivolous as she used to De
4, her ante-maritai days. Concern
3nr those who ovsrstep the
line Of chastity. we have little to say,
for thev are false at heart and too con-
tsnsptibae to merit any notice. The sooner
a man is divorced from a faithless "ire
/ the better. 1t is folly to patch up 2 con-
dit,or Of AFFAIRS essentially unpatcnapie.
4 The happiness OF that HON Is forever
shattered. A. a rule wives are more chasee
| than husbands, bur when a beantaiui
xrnnnan ss bad. she can make more he'll
II, the SQUARE inch than any other agency
an sarth. The she devil most to be feared
q nat me brawling vixen, bat the quiet
deep, designing woman, who mas no re-
gard for the Seventh Commandment
AAnother class who make trouDie "a ~
/ home are the women who are Always
hound to have their " way-these au-
rocratio creatures who say marriage
makes two people one, but l want you ~
understand that ! am the one IheEe =
no need OF pugatoriai IRE Tor tne man
who IS welded to one Of these autocraes'
~ sats enough torment in this life. some
,svnas tbn nofher-in-law comes In to ASSIST
~ xifs and takes q hand in running the
e. ms1x Sometimes she asserts an au-
/ thorify she does not possess. and expec.s
bsr sou-in-,aw to obey her as impicitiy
ss her own daughter. This woman, II al
| antermeddler. has the power to smarter
many q happy home. AS q RUE sne ha1
better 1--we in her own house and attend
10 her own affairs. All mothers-in-iaw.
however are not of this class. Some OF
then are the sweetest women on the
earth and have admirable good sense.
This question OF rulership should never
come IN between husband and wife.
Mutual love should lead to mutual com
( promise. There should be no contention
| as to which shall be the speaker OF the
| house: both should occupy the chair to-
gether. Even in a model family there will
| be occasional breezes. but true love soon
restores the customary tranquility. Two
old wheel horses will occasionally lay
| their ears back and pretend TO nip eacn
| other. but they mean nothing by 1t. Tnat
is only good natured alteration. II. now
| ever, q woman attempts to lord It over
| her husband, she viii usually be van
| auished, for man has superior strength
| and generally carries the pocketbook.
~ a rule a wife can run her husband
| If she has tact and never attempts to
| drive him. Man is a mule; he will do an
| enormous amount Of work IL you treat
| him right. but you must not beat him'
| for he is sure to kick. Man IS a peculiar
mixture of leniency and pride. The wife
| should never say, You must The y
band will allow her to steer. If 1t is under
| stood that she steers with his permission.
| Men are big foolish boys, but the women
| must take them as they are. When a wife
| looks her prettiest. caresses her husband
| and calls him sdearie, she usually gets her
own way. Such military tactics are toe
| much for him and he gracefully sur
renders.
Another characteristic OF an ideal wife
| is her ability to keep her temper and con-
| troll her tongue. "A cross, c-antankerous
wife is worse than your strong-minded
| woman. for she keeps up a running fire
| of irritating language. She is always
| giving her husband q piece OF her mind,
and usually her mind has a great many
| pieces. Scolding wives live long n die
hard. They possess wonderful vitality
| and exuberance of speech. I pity the hen
pecked man whose wife is always telling
him he Is not worth the salt in his bread
and that husbands like him ought to sbe
tied UP in bundles like asparagus and sold
at ten cents q bunch. Fortunately some
husbands are easy going fellows. with
thick hides, and pay no more attention to
loquacious wives than a rhinocerous does
| to mosquitoes; who smile at their hurri-
| canes of passion, and becomes more i'm
| perturbable as. the women wax more VIC
| lent: but these men are rare. A sharp
tongue Is usually a firebrand and capable
OF producing a confiagratton. The home
circle often becomes a prize ring, where
father and mother do the lighting and the
| children are spectators. The japanese