Evening journal., 1899-04-12
rHTN MISTAKES on WoMEN.

title Of lecture delivered by Mrs All
gusta Raymond Kidder recently at the
home OF Mrs. William Curtis Demor-
est, 6S West Sixty-sixth street, New
York. Mrs. Kidder called her talk a
'lecturette." Probably this was be-
cause 1t seemed out of proportion to
the size Of her subject One man re-
marked condescendingly at the end OF
the lecture that she had made a good
beginning, which he would like to fin
ish up sometime. He was not encour-
aged by the women present.
According to Mrs. Kldder the first
mistake a woman ever made was re-
spone.s.e for the introduction Of the
cradle. Some Of the later ones, how
ever, have not turned out so well. One
4 these latter-day ones is the way
they go to work to demonstrate their
equality with man.
Women seem to think that the way
to gain their own ground is to pull the
ground out from under man and top
pie him over Still it must be ad-
mitted that women are not fairly
treated. There's looking backward.
for instance. Be,ramy did it. He
was a man and got fame and fortune
for IT, Lots wife did il. She was a
woman and we all know what she got
for il. 1t seems as If it was adding in
suit to injury to turn her into the
cheapest commodity in the market If
it had been sugar we could have APP
preciated the obvious compliment to
the sex. Still, it is some comfort that,
even in her disgrace, she was some
thing Indispensable.
Another mistake of woman is low
ing too much. OF course, love is beau
tfful, divine, and all that when It is
deserved. But our sex is not prone to
investigate. It is another Of our mis-
takes that we trust too much. There
is p.enty Of counterfeit money ahoat
in the kingdom Of love, and anyway
even If the coin were genuine, 1t is a
feminine mistake to give ten dollars
IN change for a one-doliar bill. Ac-
cording to Commerson. one # women's
mistakes is that they dis.ru-t men too
much in general and net enough in
particular
"a fatal mistake of woman is her
tendency 10 self effacement. Did I
hear any gentleman smile?" asked the
speaker after the deris.ve laughter
which followed her remark had died
away He need not; for ii is true
that for ages women have been con-
tent to inspire They have been more
( than willing to bask in the reflected
glory Of those they loved. Id like to
paraphrase one Of LOngfel,ow's s
verses:
Wives Of great men oft remind US
That they make those men sub
lime;
That. If husbands couldn't find us,
They'd be failures half the time.
Another mistake Of women is that
they do not allow themselves TO rest
J What women 10 not know about eat.
ing and resting has built 10000 hospl-
tails. Another of womens mistakes i:
not knowing how 10 eat. Consider this
ways of men in this respect and bt
wise. Another mistake is worrying
Some women remind me of chiidrer
who plant seeds in the garden and dis
them up the next day to see how they
are prospering. We all remember thi
/, old woman who said: Yes, dearie
I've had an awful lot of trouble in m,
life and most Of it never happened.
rs one Of our mistakes talking to,
mach? j fear it is. And another is no
having enough fun. Near.y every wO
man is a miser Of jolity. Men are will
ing to catch pleasure as it flies. Blu
women must have everything just s
before they can abandon themselves L
enjoyment. and then they are usual
too tired to take 1t. This goes beyonl
being a mistake. It's a disease. bu
fortunately not incurable. Women sa
II is easy to talk this way, but tina
one can't be laughing when one {
! hurried and worried. All I can sa
is that you might be as hurried, bu
q ycu wOuld be as worried If you di
4 laugh l happened once to speak G
( my husband to a little girl, and sh
= said:
why. didn't think you wer
: married
"'Why?' | asked.
r "'Oh, 'cause'--
q" Cause Why
o ""Cause you laugh SO much
y
:. rimonyl And now a word about maj
r riage. which is never a mis- ak
Though weddings often are, for ever
= wedding is not a marriage. In tn
connection ct me speak about jea'Ot
a women MS a large subject. but
few words about It are as good ;
D. many, for people with that diseal
l. seldom listen to advice. The concll
sion that | come to is that jealou.
IL under any circumstance is useles
The only thing to be done, when OF
:. thinks one has grounds for the fee
ing. is the last thing they are like
a to DO: that is, to be 50 charming an
:, altogether ,Oveiy hat lhe rival viii
routed as an entirely inferior perso
il Some women. however. think they a
jealous when they are really only 81
Al fish. With a case where there Is re
cause for this mental anguish ] shou
n OF course. be unable TO cope. Marty
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