The Newtown bee. (Newtown, Conn.) 1877-current, 1899-03-10
The Home Circle.
BECOMING A HUsBsHD OR WIFE A sHRI-
GUS MATTER.
SOME TRUTHS PLAINLY EXPRESSED.

/ SOME TRUTHS PLAINLY EXPRESSED. |
IL, as DR. Jackson says, to become q !
husband is as serious matter as it is |
for q woman to become a wife, then mar
rage is no child's play; it brings added
care, trial, perp'exisy, vexstioD, and i
requires great deal of the happiness
which legitimasely springs out of it to
make the balance heavily in it's favor.
Say youlhave made your choice. Those
qualities of character which have attract
ed you to choose as you have. should
make your love grow daily while you
live together. AS to the second point:
IL you wish to live in harmonious union
with your wife, start out with the avow
ed recognition of the fact that she is you
compsnion and cnpartner. Marriage
rs ually makes the wife neither of these
In many instances she sees less of her
husband than before she marie him.
he comes, he goes, thinks, works, and
under the stimulus of business brings all
bis powers and faculties to the surface
and is developed therehy-uot always
tremendously but with increasing power.
Married men do not usually shrivel up
nor put on look vf premature age, but
women do, and it is plain to see whv
they do. Married women are shut up in
houses, and their chief care is for thir g
| that have no inspiring il fuence. Their
time is taken up in meeting the physical
wants of their ia miIies-croking. wa n
| ing dishes. keeping the hnuae in oder.
sewing, not one of which has fu il a ten.
dency even to culture and elevation.
Married women are devoted TO the house,
| and this means a lie of vexation and
pettiness. 1t gives no sort Of stimrlu
| - the spirit. So the hubbard, Who Is
out of doors, active, comi, & inrn coutscr
with men greater than himself, to inspi {
him with better purposes, develops and
grows in character, while his wife g.
home, who has as faithfully performed
her share of the york, wishers and de
GAYS premsturely.
Treat your wife exactly as you would
like tn be treated il you had to live uadel
her circumstances. and y u will not e
far wrong. Do not entertain silly notioni
that because she is of 8 diffarert gerde
from your own, that she IL, therefore
different in her wants. feelings, qualities
and powers. Don't within Id from you
wife your tender love and sympsth =
Don't try to argue with her. A voma,
cannot reason; she is guided rather b.
her womanly intuition, which is rarely a
fault. Let her understand fully you
business. Don't let her think you sr
earning $50 week ~hen you are earning
only $50. Give her all the pleasure yc,
can. She needs it, and don't go sbou
enjoying yourself with bonn companion
while your wife tolls at home. Neve
deceive; confidence once lost can peveI
be wholly regained, and never peglec!
the other for all the world beside.
Try to be thoughtful, considerable, and
forbearing- You will have new duties
and they will bring new trials. TAX
good care of your health and hers. Be
simple both, In your habits; be carefo
in your expenditure; be industrious. L
you keep your health and are fruea
blessings will come from your uni,e'
love, aud you will grow happier dav b
day as the years pass.-TA. G. S, Easto-
CT, March 7, so