The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-12-13

took upon themselves the great re-
sponsibilities of marriage they should
have learned this much of the cate.
chism-how to do their duty to their
neighbor; for, though husband and wife
are more than neighbors to each other,
yet they are that at least. and ought
to behave in neighborly way; when
they do not do this States are weak, SO
it really was a matter for State cogni-
zance.
Suppose young man spent the days
Of youth, not in settling habits, as he
ought, butin sowing wild oats: he can
not fail to reap crop of wild oats in
his home life.
Who, on the other hand, is the un-
happy husband? He who does not
bring to his marriage a clean bill Of
moral health, who cannot make upon
his wife that best of all marriage set
tlements-th settlement of habits in a
right direction.
Even young ladies require some
preparation for marriage. The most
important time Of their lives is be-
tween school and marriage. No one
would begrudge them fun and recrea-
tion then, but still, if they are moth
ing but frivolous and firty, and have
no higher form of worship than to
burn incense to vanity. they will not
be happy themselves in marriage, and
certainly will not make their husbands
happy. Women look back with re-
morse upon their ill-spent time. when
their children die, because they do
not know the elements of nursing:
when their husbands are cross, be-
cause they have not learned how to
feed them; or when the men despise
them as companions because they can
not take serious interest in the bus
mess of life in which they are en-
gagged. Nor is physical or bodily
health less important part Of readi-
ness for marriage. If young man is
always ailing sometimes the conse-
quence Of ale-ing), he will not be able
to support family as he ought, and
if wife is always suffering from the
S'sofa disease we'll, poor thing, she
may from her mattress grave do some
thing to regulate her home, but she
must more or less feel that she has
mistaken her calling in life when she
married. Then there are the medical
mans bills to be thought Of. and the
effect Of hereditary diseases upon chill
dren, so that some of the poor things
may be said to have been damned into
this world. On one occasion, when
Doctor johnson was waiting for din
ner in Mrs. Thrale's drawing-room, a
young man came up and asked him:
doctor Johnson, do you think that
I ought to marry?" The doctor, be-
ing nettled at the intrusion, growled:
''Sir, no man ought to marry, who is
not likely to propagate understand
ing This applies to the body and
souls Of children as we'll as to their
minds,
'sNever take a wife. said Franklin,
"till you haze house and fire (sic)
to put her in Asking sensible
woman the other day when people
should marry, she replied: "When
they have enough money and can af-
ford it," That was a good answer,
for marriage is a luxury which some
cannot afford, and when this is the
case thay are very selfish to indulge
in it. 1t may be blessing for man
to have culver full of children, but
he has no right to shoot them on to
relations and others to be reared
Some Of US who are married
find that we have survived the opera
ton, and also that we want certain
amount to live upon, and, therefore,
we can sympathize with the girl who,
having tried for some time love-in-
a-cottage dietary, said that she
thought that kiss and a glass Of cold
water made but a poor breakfast.
What should be said Of a man who
marries when in debt, and allows
his bride, on returning from the
honeymoon, to find bailiffs in his
house?
At the same time, the amount Of
money Necessary to marry upon is Of
ten greatly exaggerated. Show me a
couple who are miserable on account
Of Strengthened circumstances, and
will show you dozen couples who are
miserable on account of other circum
stances. Isuppose we all know bach
elcrs who have plenty of money fol