The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-03-25

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ga hint? Why, thu woman would not
recognize a hint. She would need a
sledge hammer blow of reproof to- take
any effect. She is literally twisted up in
her own conceit."
Eyes, and who would dare hint to such
a magnificent creature. 1t would not be
well for the woman who did the limiting.
And so fly among the club
members discussing poses and "Posers,
says Dorothy Maddox in the Philadelphia
Inquirer"
There is nothing that annoys sensible
women more than a bundle of artihclailty
dressed in petlcoats. She poses as a
housekeeper, a literary light, a beauty.
What matters her pose? She fools many,
disgusts more. She managers to get fol-
lowers in spite of the superficiality that
spreads like a thin veneer over all she
say and does.
sit does not pay to go to the bottom
of things. A smattering these avs is all
one needs The tone of the speaker is
bitter.
You are mistaken is the response,
very much mistaken. If the poser had
fewer enemies l should think posing
paid"
Posing does pay, for a time at least.
Here l have been tip-toeing, as it were,
on the edges of things for months because
a certain acquaintance of mine has made
me think she is a book worm. | have not
dared more than venture a criticism
when. she has been around. I have lis
tened with such Difference to her opinions
only to find she is as big a ninny as 1 am
about literary matters. 1 have found her
out, never mind how"
MY experience to a dot"
"Give in your experience" and the club
looks eXpectant.
my poser is a housekeeper. I have,
metapherically speaking, sat at the feet
of that fraud. She must have been fiat
tered at my open-eyed delight over her
methods. They were, l will say for them,
fine in theory, but do you know, l., by
the merest chance, find that she talks well
and that is all there is to her. She is
the poorest apology for a ho~usekeeper,
and here I, trained by a mother who real
ly knew something, ave been made to
feel as flat as a founder by a know-it-
ALL"
THE beauty poser makes me weariest.'
All hands turned in the direction of a
small woman who has been silent as a
Sphinx UP to this moment.
Ssh has dun colored hair or hair of
some hue that is ugly enough, goodness
knows. She talks about each lock as if
they were ali strands of gold. She never
meets me that she does not put out a
complexion feeler. The other day she ac-
tually said to me:-"Mrs.@ -, why don't
you try my remedy for spring ~sallowness.
1t is fine Considering she was the color
of a piece of chanois at that very mo-
ment I did not respond cordially. She is
conceited about her clothes. Arrogates
more in one minute than I would in a
year. She carries followers along with
her and picks them up wherever she goes.
Here heard some one only the other
evening praising her to the skies, $50
stylish, SO piquantn"
"Well, I'm sure if the downright home
ly woman gets any satisfaction fooling
people, 1 don't begrudge her her luck. She
has enough TO bear in being plain. She
can nave all the pickings she finds"
This good natured comment calls forth
grunts of ~disapproval from all sides.
There are scathing remarks from the
c~ommenters, one woman under iIer breath
saying something about the ugly sister
having a way with her when she is with
ultI, SopGtIdhy OtlAN OAhAS -
The club members are scattering and
the woman who poses has not a leg left
to stand on.
Many poor men would like a wife with
a fortune, because a fortune is undeni-
ably a handy thing to have in ones
family, but the men who look to marriage
as a means of support are comparatively
Few, and usually their attitude towards
life is SO obvious that no fairly sensible
rich girl need be taken in by them, says
Harper's Bazaar No man who is not
a fool or a rascal will wish to marry a
woman, be she rich or poor, with whom
he does not believe he can live happily.
But there is no such thing as a marriage
in which one partner is happy and the
other not. Either it is a good marriage for
both or neither. Marriage is as much,
or very near as much, a failure TO a
man who is not happy with a rich wife
as to one who is not happy where both are
poor. What the rich girl wants is justwhat
the poor girl wants-a good man who
suits her, and who is worth marrying. II
she can satisfy herself that her sutton IS
a good man, and that he has sense
enough to provide for his own happiness,
she need not distress her mind with
speculations as to how much weight her
fortune has in promoting his attentions.
The man who wants to marry her mere
1y because she is rich is unworthy, and
if she has a fair degree of discernment
she will detect his unworthiness. Blu
the man who wants to marry her, and is
glad she has a fortune because it makes
marriage more feasible for both of them,
is not necessarily unworthy, but if she
loves him he may be advantageous for
her to marry. The practical turn of mind
which makes a man appreciate the advan-
tages of accumulated money does not
necessarily ender him in any respect
incapable of approaching a woman or of
repaying her confidence in him with entire
devotion and fidelity. Her fortune, far
from being a drawback to her happi-
ness after marriage, will still be hers, and
will still be about as useful to her as
it was before. The possession of it will
help to make her an equal partner in the
household, and, indeed, will tend. especial
ly if it is too big, to make her the rul-
ing partner, so that she will ave need
to exercise some discretion to avoid hav-
ing too much her own way. That may be
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