The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1899-10-23


with. s. one known to tho larger part Of
humanity. The ego, the individual sep
arate win and nature which sud-
denly confrofts those who gave Il life
IS q wonderful thing 10 behold That
may have all been very well for y0u
and my father. but Il - out Of the
question 81 our day. mother, dear.
What nineteenth century home which
ShelteFA vigorous youth q Unfamiliar
with this argument regarding the or
deTing OF daily life9 II does not neces-
8afily indicate ahtagohism or willing
opposition TO parental VIII or lack Of
readiness to try to follow the lines Of
previous education: II 10 simply the
unwilling Of the spirit Of the man as i
IS. as God made him. he would be
upt 70 say. It u the Integral, vital
man rs he lg condition which, how
ever he may modify and regulate It by
guidance. or self-control. or under the
influence Of llfe's discipline, expreEses
his reai self. The pain deep down IN
the heart. as she flndsy that while h9r
element Il earth her offspring's Is the
water. Is something not to- be put into
words and unknown outside Of the
mother's world.
To be absolutely q part Of another
mature, iTdescTibably dear to you,Whoss
every movement stirs your heart and
every thought influences your happi-
ness. and yet find that In all things It's
linstinct Ia to seek your opposite ana
THAT its activities and Joys ara allen to
yours that Is not rarely q true state
OF things while parent and child are
sttll deeply attached one to the other.
While love remains true and stead
fast and no e5trangement step be-
tween, the ache Will grow bearable. and
| II the development Is fine. and strong,
land upward, pride will do much TO med
icIue the first sword thrust; but II this
differentiation takes an unworthy or
dishonOring place, then indeed, the
harvest love gathers IL a poisoned one.
.Old frenzied Lear, crying out IN hin
madness, is the centre OF, lurid pic-
ture. but In quiet. well-ordered homes.
where grace, and beauty. and the social
lveneer of conveyance keep q smooth
surface for the world togRze upon. gay
women and proud mon turn to the pa
thetIc words Of the wandering king for
the expression Of their grief: 20!
how sharper than serpent's tooth 1t Is
to have q thankless child"
And though 1t seems like coming Into
shallow waters out Of the deep sea to
turn from atmosphere which encloses
the lives OF parent and child to that In
which ordinary friendships grow, yet
THE brightness and good cheer. even the
courage OF our hearts, are endangered
by the variations Of our near friend
mood and tenderness toward US. To-
day we believe ourselves necessary
counselor, or at least one Important to
the vital scheme OF our frlendsiltte and
progress, tomorrow we have drltted
by some strange current Into place
fao NIL
raSelike, OF the friend we love, smiling,
kindly but intangible. No man can say
what has happened, no solution Is pos
sible OF q change without reason or
cause. but in many and many q heart
Int Is slowly making It's dull.edged
wound. The old French proverb that
between lovers one kisses and one
turns the cheek for the caress Is true
also OF friends, and the glver's heart Is
the one that aches wteh the kiss Is no
longer needed to bring the color to the
waiting cheek.
Such large majority Of human be-
lngs take, like the chameleon, their
color fromtthe place where they stop to.
rest! They have not meant, they had
not thought, OF change, but to-day is
not like yesterday and new influences
give new desires and the easily salts
fed heart is content. while the nature
capable OF stronger and more abiding
affection keeps the old chamber vacant
| and holds n weary watch FOR that
which, once chilled, cannot return.
In q recent clever novel there Is
keen and suTgically sharp laying bare
of the frequent disappointment in the
meeting Of old friends. Correspondence
had been frequent, warn expressions
efluSiTe. the long separated were eager
to meet Face to face, they we're start
led to find how slightly they knew one
another and how far they were really
apart. When this pair comes, there Is
| no remedy, no one is at fault, poor hui
man nature has simply proved Itself
unequal to the demand; few can love
| WhaC they neither see, nor henr, nor
touch, and II OF two once fond of each
other one only is capable OF this spirit
ual faithfulness. It can be predicted
with painful certainty that the end will
find O lonely ache as the result. 1T l
should not see you for twenty years. 1
know l shall find you the same" is
saying all Of man that can be uttered
concerning good faith and loving con.
stancy; rarely is the prophecy Justified
by the end,
This seems like making the hope Of
love and friendship as the pillars and
groundwork OF home and life OF no
avail Far, indeed, would this thought
| be from my Intention: have only
mean: to touch with a sympathetic
hand some Of those experiences COM
mon to us all. and which are too GER
tainly shared in every family or indi-
vidual life to pass unnotlced where we
assume to look with earnest eyes upon
the mysterious ties which bind US to-
| gether Rather do ] mean that only
i lNN, n 1OVn NvhlHf fOFVntU self and ndnls
ity which cannot be shaken even by
| disappointed trust can these strange
| dramas, nolselessly enacted under eV-
| cry roof, be so made to shape them
selves that our lives are not ship
wrecked.
II deep love and friendships fondest
confidence can scarcely doubt that their
strength shall not at times react upon
themselves and hurt by It's own force,
let the sufferer take courage by looking
at that most miserable existence which
withhoids lest Its talent should not re-
turn to II with us1ry and rather choose
| to openly lavish the rich provision In
| trusted to each Of us and gladden. the
| world. II there comes an utter pHin
to circle about our empty heaFt-chHm-
bers, let us not shrink; what has gone
out Of us guve birth and was md ever
viii be for the enllghtening and en-
richIug OF the world, which needs such
gifts, God knows!
The girl who chooses to- leave her
mothers side for the sake OF one UNI
worthy. and to set aside all counsel
and entrenty; the Maynard boy who
throws the glory OF his young man
hood to the dogs who Will deVour It;
the possessed who fly hlther and thith-
err after phuntoms and wlll-o'- the-wisps
OF fortune or fame or wild fanrles Of
| U,sft .