The morning news., 1899-12-03
WOMAN'S
WORLD.

y Ork W Ofiu, anu WlShlh5 u SOulinuS IN
the fashionable set is altogether relative.
The lowest possible figure is 5000 year
but it could be done for that by careful
expenditure and the wholesale and whole
some disregard of opera boxes, theater
tickets, carriages etc.
am acquainted with a very charming
woman who is in distinctly fashionable
CLIQUE but lives on the extreme west side
of the city because she can't afford to live
in the vicinity of Fifth avenue. She man.
ages to dress well, keep up good appear
ance ana a swell circle of friends on an
amount even less than that named above.
she rarely entertaIns, however, as she re-
sides in rather a small apartment, but she
and her husband are invited to everything
worth attending simply because she is so
brilliant and clever and entertains by her
wit and originality those who invite her.
This couple have received no less than
twenty invitations for Thanksgiving day.
Many young men with rich fathers make
the mistake of depending upon them for
their future support, and for that reason
make no effort to obtain employment for
themselves. 1 have a case of this sort in
nind-that of a young man who had a
wealthy father and never considered the
possibility of misfortune overtaking him,
This young man was in love with a rich
girl. but she did not care for him, and
eventually he married a woman with no
money at all; but as he had plenty from
his father 1t didn't matter. Financial dis
hon md
i'm consequence the son became PAINLESS.
Then it was that the rich girl whom he
had formerly loved showed her noble ma
ture. Unknown TO any one she gave the
Young couple financial assistance until the
Youthful husband obtained employment.
Much stress is often laid upon the fact
that wealthy men are on The lookout for
wealthy husbands for their daughters.
This is not. so. AS a rule a father pre-
fers TO see his daughter married to a good,
honorable, ambitious young man who has
no fortune rather than to an Idle, fashion
able fop who cares for nothing in life but
clubs, clothes and a competency.
Poor young men should not allow false
pride to stand in the way of their accept
ing the love of a rich girl for If man
mas ambition the fortune is but stepping
stone to his goal
Sometimes, however, the thing doesn't
work out so well, 1 remember distinctly
the case of a young man who was very
promising architect-I expected great
things of him. He married very wealthy
girl Wen, she simply ruined him-carted
him off to Europe, on the go all the time
If he attempted to settle down to work
she pouted and sulked until he quit, and
altogether she smothered every spark of
ambition there was in him. Now he is a
nonenuty-and all because he married a
rich girl What do you think of a woman
like that? For 1t was all her fault. The
great trouble in estimating the cost OF
living in New York is found in the i'm
rnense number of unlocked for expenses
that are continually cropping up In the
way Of concerts, fairs, charity entertain
ments, etc. A person of any social stand
ing whatever is supposed to subscribe TO
all these affairs, while people of at all
large means are simply swamped with
tickets of all sorts.
In talking to my physician the other
day I questioned him concerning the re-
ported illness of Mrs. H.
Il understand she has nervous prostra-
ton" ! remarked.
"No, madam" he made reply; ats
nervous prosperity
And that's what ails half the society
women of the day.
Ones expense in the city may be easily
regulated 10 one INCOME. NOWs Olu 1OAli-
modore Vanderbilt told Mr.. Sage that it
didn't cost him $4,000 a year TO live when
he was worth sixty or seventy millions.
He had simple tastes, and his tastes re-
maned the same to the day he died.
In regard to the marriage of young peo-
pie in ordinary circums tances, I have a
story In mind of a young man who was
employed in Mr.. Sage's office at a salary
of $50 a month. He was 10 years of age
and fell in love. He came to me and ask
ed me to intercede with Mr.. Sage, that he
might receive an increase of salary and
thus be enabled to marry. l told him l
would do nothing of the sort until he was
q and old enough to vote-when, perhaps,
he would be old enough to marry. AT
that time 1 considered him worse than a
goosei he was a mere gosling. When he
was q Mr.. Sage gave him the desired
increase and he married. In about year 5
time he came to my husband with the
news that a baby had been born to his
Vile and naturally there were additional
expenses. Mr.. Sage again increased his
salary. The following year he again ap-
peafed with news of another arrival and
an ltemized list of expenses he had been
forced to meet Among the items was $24
Tor shortening the first babys dresses.
The fact of the matter was the young
WIFE should have married a millionaire,
ior She didn't know how to do the first
Valthly tnlnS TO ecOnomlze. Ine poor
young fellow died the next year, I believe
from worry caused by fast increasing re-
sponsibilities.
and if young people would only look at
the practical side of matrimony! 1t is
not all romance Much of it is prosaic
bread and butter. But love, naughty spritel
works much mischief. Even our great
DeWey lost his head and a little of his
glory in the delirium of love!
he Is an Englishman living in New York,
eeys the Times Of that city, but he has
not forgotten his birthright, and he has,
~ common with some of his brothers from
'e ule right little tight little island, the be-
nel mat ne can show his appreciation by
eAloilng Britain at the expense Nof the
g9Sgun'ry of which he is now a resident.
ne -ie g'rl is a good American, and 90 say
s"T east she will not admit. that there is
letter country or a country that con-
S -.uS anything better than her own. Con-
4lehtly she and the Engisflmap, who
say reasonably good friends, enjoy them
s55 most frequently by quarrellng in
mAd manner. But the other day the
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