Daily inter mountain. [volume] (Butte, Mont.) 1881-1901, 1899-01-07

at that woman's heart except through her
brain; and so. unless you are blessed with
a mighty big brain yourself you never
reach her. Life must be very dreary with
her. Her intellect seems to set her above
every one, and I've often wondered if she
doesn't get lonely up there. A character
like hers upsets all my observations and
theories about human nature, and I'm glad
that the brains of the majority of women
are to be got at through their hearts rather
than the other way. Now, Miss Strong
mind
You mustn't discuss people like that
even with your closest friends" interrupted
the bachelor, land l assure you l didn't
have Miss S~trongmind in the back part of
my head cutting his eye guiltily around
at the matron. That's the trouble with
you women. You can never be impersonal.
Don't you think we can have a little talk
like this without talking about any one
in particular? If you'd get into the habit
of always talking in an impersonal way
you would never get into such ludicrous
scrapes as you do with that clever little
tongue of yours"
Maybe not answered the girl. "but I
wouldn't be so popular. I'd grow real tire
some. These densely abstract ~conversa-
tionalists, as | call them, always are. There
is nothing like a few downright personal re-
marks to give flavor to a conversation and
you know it."
you misjudge the woman whose heart
is reached through her intellect, l, think
said the matron, smiling at the girl, and
then devoting her attention to the bach
elor. She isn't so attractive as the one
whose brain is reached through her heart.
I'll grant you; neither is she so companion
able. but she is a very useful person gen
orally. She diffuses happiness, as "a rule,
among those above whom her intellect sets
her through practical work. She can't get
down on a level with average people and
give them sympathy and tenderness. be-
cause they can't get at her heart, not be-
ing her equals Intellectually. But she fills
an important place in the world. You know
it takes all sorts to make
Eyes, I know answered the bachelor.
not allowing her to finish, 'but I believe
the job could have been completed in the
first place without this type of woman, ana
I for one begrudge her room here. Shes
without tact, and if there is one thing that
a man dislikes above all others it's a tact
less woman. Tact is the quality in woman
most admired by man.
How like your SEX retorted the woman
with a laugh. 'How very like you not to
know what you like and what you don't.
Tact in woman isn't what man adores; it's
tenderness. Those women whose hearts
are reached only through their intellect,
more frequently than that, possess the
most exquisite tact, but they are rarely
tender. Tact simply means a ready power
of approaching and doing what is required
by circumstances. 1t is rather more of an
intellectual quality than anything else.
Tenderness is quite another thing. 1t is
only found in the woman whose heart tran
scends her head. Men pretend to like brain
in a woman, and undoubtedly they do, but
they like a heart better. Had | a daughter
l should teach her to cherish this spirit OF
tenderness, and when'she came to get mar
ried | should say to her, You stand on the
threshold of an entirely new life. My most
solemn injunction to you, as a mother tC
a child, is to show tenderness to your nus
band from the very minute you are pro
nounced man and wife. BE tender with
him and you will gain a hold on him from
which he cannot shake himself free, MOI
will he wish to. Do not let any thought OF
word or act on his part take away your
tnp5arpecS from hjm''
"Mothers never talk that way to then
daughters asserted the girl. They are TOO
busy thinking about the wedding and The
trousseau to bother about such a trile as
their girls future happiness" + IT.
Eyes, 1 know" the woman
"They let their daughters enter onoon en-
tirely new life, through which they have
l Travelled the best part of the way, Withou
so much as eEen telling them that lender
ness will help them over the rough places
and that tenderness begets tenderness
Many a marriage has been marred just TO
the lack of this bit of knowledge on m
brides part. Tenderness and not, intel
> lectuality, is what man most Graves ah'
, needs in a wife, and it usually crops GU
sooner or later in the woman whose bfaii
p, is reached through her heart, but not II
4 the other woman. 1t would invariably APP
! pear sooner if every mother would impress
on each one of her daughters its value II
l bringing about that deSideratum IONS
, sought by mankind-a happy married NE.