The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-07-12
Difference Between Love and Friend.
ship.

ity on amatory problems, is much
sought after by her less fortunate Sis
tcrs for advice, and, although she is
very busy little woman, the gifted
writer never fails to respond to any
reasonable request. Her mail is bur
dcncd with letters from wives wnD
have failed to find their souls, and
girls who never had any, and as all
pine to thrill with the divine spark,
Mrs. Wilcox's resources as dis
penscr of thrills and thrill induccrs
are severely taxed
Here is a sample letter from wife
who is rcpenting at leisure and Fila
Wheeler comments thereon
Dear Madam: have so often read
your good advice l have decided to
ask you for your opinion Of my case.
l have been married but short time,
and think have made mistake. AT
the time thought I loved my hus-
band, but I've been suffering from the
fact that do not.
''Do you think it is possible that it
may be Imagination? For respect
him; know all his good qualities,
which are many, and my only desire is
to love him as he loves me. DO you
think it is possible by trying for me
to love him, and if not, please tell me
which is the best way to appear to him
so he will never find it out
"This lady" observes Mrs. Wilcox,
'is a sort of sphinx. She is puzzle
to herself, and she wants me to give
her key to her own mind. She
thought she loved her husband when
she married him! Then she suffered
from q realization that she did not!
Now she wonders if that realization is
the result Of Imagination.
Surely she must be Il peculiarly
organized woman.
"To my thinking love either exists
or it does not exist. Very few people
really love. dare say not one-third
Of the human family ever experienced
the passion in its height, depth, length
and breadth. Scores, yes, hundreds,
Of people 60 to their graves believing
they have known love, when they
have only encountered its pale shadow
"a warm friendship, or tender Of
fection, or good comradeship.
'NIany young girls experience q
cerebral sentiment which they call
love. They invest man with halo
which they have fashioned out Of their
imaginations. A romantic girl pre-
pares this halo as soon as she enters
her teens, and the first man who
pays her compliment or smiles into
her upturned eyes received the aureole
upon his brow. She has no thought
Of marriage. but if he pays his ad-
dresses and becomes serious she &C
cepts him as her fate, believing he is
to lead her into an enchanted world,
away from all that is commonplace or
ordinary, for how could man with q
halo about his brow be ordinary?
"To such girl, whose sentiment is
purely mental, and whose emotions
are undevel6ped, and whose common
sense lies dormant, marriage is sor-
row and disappointment. My cor
respondent is doubtless one of this
type. The realities Of life have dis
illusioned her Of the ideal she had
formed Of happiness.
"When a woman loves man with
an absolute love, when the real passion
dominates her, then there is nothing
commonplace or ordinary in life for
her. Every situation is idealized by
the divine fame in her heart.
every trial is made easy, every
trouble sancti6ed; poverty has no
terrors and death no sting.
"But evidently the woman who
writes me has never known this love.
"Yet since she has married q man
whom she respects, and since she is
not quite sure that she does not
imagine her change of sentiment to-
ward him, I would suggest to her the
advisability Of cultivating affcctionate
thoughts toward him.
"An affection might be developed
in her heart which would render her
own life sweet and peaceful and satisfy
the husbands desire to be loved at
the same time. Let her think Of oil
his excellent qualities and all his good
traits of character. Let her assert her
affection for him in silence to her own
heart. Love begets love, and his de-
votion to her should create q oorres-
ponding devotion on her part. ."-St.