The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-07-29

wives that they owed their success in
life. Few men have more gracefully ac-
corded this credit to their wives than
Charles Kingsley, the great preacher and
writer, who professed to owe to his wife
everything good thai he had ever done,
and whose tender worship Of her was,
perhaps, the most beautiful thing in a
beautiful life.
People ralk,'' he wrote to his wife,
s.of love ending at the altar. Fools! l
sit at the window all morning thinking of
nothing but home. I never before felt the
loneliness tf being without the beloved
being whose every look and word and
motion are the keynotes of my life"
On one occasion, when a friend who was
dining at the rectory was speaking in high
praise of his latest work, Kingsley said:-
nPlease do not say that to me. l am
only the hand; there (pointing to his wife)
is my Inspiration"
1t was one of the best features OF Lord
Beaconsieid that he was always as gem
erous in his praises of his wife as he was
cbiyalrous in his attentions to her; and
this. although she had. in the words or
an unkind critic, neither birth, branis
nor BEAUTY to win a mans homage. Still,
the eccentric W1AOW w.
ssblv devotAd of wives, and cherished and
cared for her Dizzy as il ne We're the
rarest jewel on earth. 1t was her devo-
ton and her money that made g great
career not only possible but easy TOT her
ambitious husband a touchlhg PROOF oh
her seIf~obliteration was when, Wh1ie ac-
companying her husband 10 the HOUSE y
on the eve of q great speech
her hand was damned IN the carriase
door. Although she WAS suffering INTENSE
main the brave woman said nothing o. ehs
accident for fear that il might DISTURB
her husband. and it was only when @Diz-
~, fas she loved to call him) was SAFE
in the house that her coneroi iaiieo nei'
and she tainted away
bismarck was sustained through q
crowaes and ambitious life by the de-
cotton If his wife. and vowed that ne
..1,o,,ld rather share a peasants nut
With her than rule the world with an
other .,m
There has seldom been a more ldeaity
happy married life thar that Of Mr.. ana
Mrs. Browning. whose joint existence
was a noern of sustained beauty. chlV-
airy ON hhs part and alteration on hens
married. their last years together as
much as the days when she penned
sonnet from the Portuguese IN ms
honor and he woeed her on q ped 81
main How they mutually inspired eacn
other the world knows to its profit let
without tho other each life record "ouio
have been sadly incomplete
Keble hal a wife who was Almost g
delicate al Mrs. Browning, and she
equally was her husbands strength. lie
defarred to her in everything, and sne
was not only the inspiration OF ms ille'
but. in his own words, his conscience
his memory and his eommon sense.
Perbans no man ever had a more de-
voted and helpful wife than Mr. CLAD
stone or ever recognized his help in a
more ehfvslrous way. From the far
away day sixty years ago. when he led
her 10 the altar to the last sad parting
Mrs Gladstone lived in and for her hus-
hand and he paid many a touching
tr;b,,te ia the care she took of him and
tha courase with which she inspired
him
There has rarely been anything more
patheticalls- beautiful than the way in
which the late Mr.. Fawcett, the bIind
Statesman. leaned on his wife. both
physically and morally. She was his
chief counsellor, and he generously adj
mitted that her political Judgment was
sounder than his own and that she had
saved him from many a political pitfall,
if not from worse. Golden used TO say
that he owed any success he had
achieved in life to his wife, the "ignor-
ant Welsh girl whom his friends looked
on witt SO much suspicion as an insult
able helpmate for him..
49,
saToo many mothers do not realize that
there are n problems in their relations
ship with their grown daughters says
Temple Bailey, in the August *Womans
Home Companion writing of Some
Mothers md Their Daughters the
training of little children is discussed as
an a~ll-important topic. Why should not
the delicate questions which must arise
in ever household where two or more
of strong personality live in constant and
close contact receive just as careful con-
sideration? It is after the school days
that the troubles begin. The mother who
has chung TO ner little girl fails to recog-
nize the needs OF the growing woman,
and is hurt by any independent action on
the part of the daughter; while the
daughter, in her eagerness TO grasp at
the best in the new life, forgets the def
| erence which is due to the mother. Out
If these conditions small clashings ensue
70 end too often in complete discord. 1t
Is inst at this time that the mother must
bring all her love and diplomacy to bear.
she must endeavord to know her daugh-
ter,s nature and to understand it's possi-
biIities and limitations. She will find
that her problems are not the problems
Of her mother nor Of her grandmother.
for the Girl OF today is not like the girl
If Yesterday and she must be studied
from a different standpoint. h most
unpleasant of all things American Is the
dominant daughter. Brilliant, restless
and discontented. she demands all things
as her right rather as a privilege. The
time honored tale q the mother at the
wash tub and the daughter at the piano
Il verified in the mental attitude OF many
households. There are two things that
fbe mother Of such a daughter should
cultivate quiet dignity which shall
force the girls respect, and a sympathy
which shall win her heart. She must be
interested lin that which interests the
Younger mind. And she must not be domi-
mated. Hoi. self-assertion need not and
should not be radical. but she must be
oueen Of her own household. yielding her