The age-herald., 1899-08-02
A Summers Day Talk
 On Probable Weddinus


 apartment where the young woman re-
 ceives her women friends, and when the
 echo of merry laughter reaches ones ears.
 As you step upon the balcony you may be quite sure that a pleasant hour awaits
 ycu in that deliciousy cool apartment,
 where a group of young women have es-
 abolished themselves for a summer morn- ing's talk over the dullness of the season, the prospects for the winter, the stories
 of the clubs which have reached ther ears, the engagements and the weddings to be, and all the other topics which the society belle discusses in her frivolous moods. A group of young women few morn ings ago were discussing various interest ing subjects, among them being the ru- mored engagement of girl to a we'll known club man. whose family objects
 very seriously to the wedding, which, it is said, will take place this winter His family" said the girl who led in the discussion, ''are very aristocratic, and he is one of the most democratic men in
 his views of life than any man l know. | The girl to whom he is engaged is one of those women who has made the best of her opportunities, and is really attractive
 
 are extremely ordinary.
 T take the view she continued that
 his people have every right to object to l his alliance with a family of ordinary
 standing, because a man or woman of
 aristocratic birth has no right to bring :n- to his or her family person without lin- cage"
 But" said the girl with democratic 1 views, If the woman has improved her opportunities as you say that she has, and she and the man love each other, why should the fact that her people, who are not in the fashionable set, prevent her 1 from becoming a grand dame through her husbands position? If she is capable of maintaining the dgnified position of the wife of a great social swell, and is first of all Charming and accomplished woman there should be no objection to the mar riage"
 Suppose that ones grandpapa," said the
 girl with glance at beautiful old minia-
 ture on her dressing table, had married beneath him in the social world, what dreadful thing it would have been for the
 future generation. For my part think it is a most serious thing for man or wo-
 man of gentle birth to make matrimonial alliance with person whose family proba- bly in the past were not at all considered in aristocratic circles"
 A woman at this point spoke of the many scandals that frequently occur in aristo-
 cratic families and said that as firm a be- liever as she was in fine ancestry that her faith had been shaken often. "I am thor oughly democratic," she said, emphatically, and while I would not possibly approve of | son of mine marrying into a family with i which probably my grandmother would | have been on rather stately terms, still if l the girl is as charming as the one who is to be married this winter and her family were no worse, would not raise any objection" Think of the girl" said the sympathetic
 woman. Put yourself in the position of
 the young bride-to-be. She of course
 knows that she is admired by both wo-
 men and men and she also realizes that the man to whom she is engaged is a brilliant match for her. Must she refuse to marry him simply because his grandmama would not bother her stately old head over her grandmamma, who was not in her set? Is this pretty and accomplished girl to throw away her chances in life just to please a descendant of some one who came over in the Mayflower? She has the same right to marry the man as any other woman, and besides" she added, "any woman on earth | is too good for any man that breathes." T would not marry him." said a girl who had remained silent. ''I would not marry any man whose family objected to the we'd ding"
 You don't marry his family" said rrU mn But two or three young women shook l their heads.
 "WelI," said a wise woman, "the girl who marries a man in opposition to the l wishes of his family is not exactly the type | of woman that l admire, but I would like l to know your opinion of the woman who marries a man in total disregard of the l opinions of her own family. Which IS to l be the most envied or the most con- l demned?"
 l The majority of them said they preferred l to be the woman who married agaips- he l wishes of her family, for to a woman of | pride there could not be anything more | humiliating than for the world to know | that her husbands family regarded her in the light of an alien.
 | "A man, however" said one of the women present, "who would allow his wife 1 to feel that his family did not welcome her l as his wife, should be welcomed, and who did not demand cardinal reception for her was not worthy of any woman's love-" | and she grew quite eloquent over mans l duty to the woman he married. What difference does it make, anyway" chimed in the girl in the canary-colored dressing sack What difference does it
 make anyway if the man and woman really love each other?"
 And it seemed as if she had settled the matter, for they were all silent for mo-
 ment. and one of the girls handing the bopbons around smilingly said: "Of course the wedding will take place." ~
 In Cnriofu