The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1899-06-18
pretence Of helping them and their friends

It is quite an art to know how much to talk
to the various men that come in and what 70
to unless they speak to her no matter how long
they have known heror how familiar they were
on their last visit. Some must he treated very
differently under different conditions. 4 man
viii come in by himself and be very Jolly and
familiar II he finds the barmaid alone IN a hotel
bar, and Will perhaps even try to chuck her
under the chin. The same afternoon he will
come in with friend and will act as II he had
never seen her before and never spoke TO such
| IA creature in hislfe Some men expect girl to
talk TO them as il they were her BROTHERS, others
as II they were sweethearts, while few. for,
| tunatcly very few. speak to barmaids as II
they were no better than they should be-
pearance about what he viii, expect or what he
will stand in the way Of familiarity. She takes
R1SI d. M sS qei
the city dress As well as the biggest "tofrs."
Most OF the men are Judged entirely from their
drnf sspeeially VIII he is Alone sY he feels him,
sell obliged to make some remark to the bar
| The conversation usually starts by referring to
| some subject proper to the OCCASION. III II is
backed the winner. or something Of that kind
and rapdy drifts int atsrpg remarks per
gins to carry this kind OF thing too far or gets
too personal. the CIR! must have tact enough to
have told it to many girls before. -,
never to let her talk with one customer keep
| her from giving Immediate attention to a new
pnne "h nr to oe1Tay tine pre
| thing in tho business is for girl to be COM
PEELED to stand and talk to a man she positively
| pulsive or who has insu ted her. smart girl
will stand almost ANYTHING sooner than offend
self control to do it.. Married and elderly men
arsi A. a rule, well behaved and are the bar,
a woman, and even II their remarks are some
| times little broad; and they, occasionally
Myss TnSh hsy would dnn to
antly and the girl can turn it off as Joke.
The terror Of the barnIaid is the dude, the
| young fellow who thinks every girl is in love
with him. lie has no respect for her. and says
tho most insulting things without the 81 Rhtest
encouragement, He Will come In later with
friend to whom he has probably been boasting
in the meantime and he will lean over the bar
and say things that make the bhqrmaid, turn
class owe the unsavory reputation that they
have among those who do not know them.
III harmald meets a customer outside she
usually speaks to him. or at least bows. IL he is
| alone. but she must use her judgment in such
Tended II n barmaid did not recognize him on
the street when he vas alone might be ten
he was with friend, no barmad would rec
oEnze her best friend If he was with another
woman. and the man who has been cut under
such circumstances usually takes an early OPP
nortunty to drop into the bar and tell the girl
that he saw her and how nice she was looking.
or something of that sort. Just to show that he
appreciated herta
Xxx Gh3rqs grs ballet daneeTs and others
in the glare Of public life, barmaids have a very
bad reputation, but careful observers agree
the fooIiGhts mas no ono to account to for her
time. and is free to spend her mornings and
afternoons pretty much as she pcascs and to
STAY out for late sGppers after the play. The
morning, and must stay behind the bar
after being on her feet all day that
she does not need any ,housGkeepers
leisure she has is one evening n week and one
dav month The evening is very short at
s thu 20 "l un "H n1 must b be
TO herself Is usually sunday. and it does not
negin nul O'Clock and she must be back at
hihitions that take place in the afternoons and
seldom secs the sun except through the win
In spite Of all this the barmaid has unusual
oIrortunities Tor making acquaintance, and
cnt cIasscsthose who bsong to her cer own set
such as the tradesmen that bring stuff to this
hotel where she is EN- and those whom
hotel a good deal than to strike up an ac-
is good-lookin2. If he finds her agreeable ho
may perhaps venture to ask her to spend her
ton; or her coming Sunday afternoon In a trip
M the Thames. with supper at Richmond
Ihs girl has TO use her own qdgment in ac-
man has sense enough to behave himself and to
rrmemh her that tho only difference between the
girl he is with and those that he may, be accus-
toned 10 IS that this one has to work for liv-
pe and that she is avaiinE herself of one OF
IA" few opportunities she has for enjoyment.
his life with her. There is nothing about her
OF which h. need lie ashamed She is always
neatly dressed, quer and well behaved. Bar
maids have no "nrmarkS by which they can be
picked out in a crowd like actresses and their
knowled:" of the world and its ways makes
them the most agreeable companions always
jolly but never loud orEonS picuous.
They get about 81 week and their board and
house servants. They cannot save a comrc-
tence out Of this. and most OF them leave the
business before middle age. surprising
modest little cottages at Shepherds Bush
or ,BlackhG4th, what Engishmen call sec
opd . estahlitshm"nts,, usually the outcome
knowledge that one Of the best known men in
over for thirty years bv barmaid that he met
in Wales. and whose rompanionship he said he
rnl1yed more than that of all the great people
Quit" a number marry small tradesmen. or
men who keep bars OF their own either in
small public houses or hotels. On account Of
aging and keeping customers they make ex-
c"llent wives Tor small tradcsmen who need
nr in the e 1h9p and Th hsor usually get along and
them driving dog cart on Sunday afternoons
and going 10 the theatre occasionally After a
while you will hear that they are living in n
neat little cottage in the suburbs. instead OF
over the shop, and If you happen to pass that
way some aftern22n YOU viii see that the
engines under the glare Of The Iicbts in p pnSbr
lie house have found at last their true occIlpn-
ton in pushing Il baby carriage under the
shade OF the chestnuts on Hampstead Heath
HHtH OF PERSIA INSANE?