The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1899-10-18
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rey. scudder's AdvIeeto Young Men
ofHIs ConRreRnfl NJ.

I;lV. Scuddefe hoPlfiti 70 GUN men
ofHIs ConRreRat "a
New York sun: the Rev p, John L.
seudder delivered the four OF bis
series Of lectures on 'MaFriase Bell, =
at the First congregationul church,
Jersey city. last night. HIgstopic was
..The Choice Of a VIE"
I'm the Garden Of Eden" he said.
there were two people, man and his
wife. At first Adam was % bachelor.
but he was NOT a succes8s he went
moplng AROUND the gardana tn God
took pity upon him, andsgave him a
wife. cellbacy Is unnatural and un-
satisfactory Every man needs q wo-
mans love to complete his life. Every
man Of unperyerted instincts desires to
establish home and install a queen TO
reign over It. Men may gibe about
m.trim6ny ahd pirate about SINGLE
bleJtedneSs. but deep down In their
hea.ts ID a longing for e1nppy home
Of their own, something hatter than q
boarding house. Married men live
longer than bachelors. The influence
Of wife and children q wholesome and
clTIllEing.
Some men DO not marry because
they are selfish, and prefer to spend all
they earn upon themBelveS; others
have been crossed IN love. Some are
vicious, and know they could not make
n true woman happy. Some have rel.
atlves depending upon them. and can-
not AFFORD to add q wife to the house,
hold. Some are 80 welded to their
profession that they have no time for
family life. In England centuries ago
bachelors used to be taxed, and In an-
Client Greece they were horBeWhipped
one day IN every year by. young, un.
married women.
"A bachelor Is q case Of arrested de-
yelopment. BE needs to be sweetened
and polished and tanned by the loving
heart Of woman. There 10 a world
Of meaning In that expression: He
married and settled down Whose
fndeth a wife flndGth a good thing.
But In choosing wife man must ex-
erclse good Judgment. There are many
kinds Of women In the world, and most
OF them would like to be married. The
wise man will make a judlcious seleo-
tIon. All women do not make aatlsfac-
tory wives, and in marrying certain
woman a man may make the blunder
of his life. Marriage should be some
thing more than grab-bag. into which
d man thrusts his hand and takes out
an unknown quantity. A sensible
bridegroom is like good shopper who
carefully examines the goods before
buying. In this workeday world what
men need IS genuine helpmeets, consct-
entlous women who will share the bur-
Aens Of life. Better to begin In prose
and end In poetry than to commence
in poetry and live In prose. The love
that keeps Is. the love that is based
on mutual fitness and character, In
selecting a partner for life a man
should be certain that the woman who
is to become his wife possessses good
disposition. This is not easy to do,
for women are born actors, and play
their parts well during the period OF
courtshlp. They know how to cover
their weak points. A slatternly wo-
man can make her young man believe
she is the pink Of neatness, and wo-
man with grabbed temper manages
to wear nothing but smiles whenever
her lover Is present.
'Men are often deceived by appear
ances, and the real nature Of the wo-
man comes out after marriage. as gay
colOrs soon wash out Of poorly dyed
cloth. I once knew q perfect vixen who,
In order TO catch a very religious and
elderly gentleman, looked as pious as q
nun for two years. She succeeded, but
the whole community piled the poor
man who blIndly took her for better
or for worse. He looked for sunshine,
and found nothing but moonshlne. No
man should enter into matrimony blind
folded.
''In addition to having sweet dIspo.
sltion, "a good wife viii be a practical
woman. who can take charge OF the
house and flilill a wife's duties with
dispatch. She will be able to bring up
a family without being on the sick list
one-halt the time, She will be able
to walk a half-doZen blocks without
taking a car, and the color on her
checks VIII come from good red blond
and not from rouge. She. will not grow
prcmaturely old and peeYlsh, and Will
carry her good spirits tostar journey
end. Then, too, she VIII have some
conception OF housekeeping being able
to make a. good cup of cOtfee and pie
crust at to eat. A hungry husband
cannot feed on fancy embroidery, NOT
get much nourlshment from Beetho'
Ven's sonatas. He has stomach as
well as a soul. II husband Is "a
provide for the outer woman It is the
wife's duty to provide for the inner
man. Furthermore, u good wife viii
not be extravaganza, and VIII be will
ing to start at the foot OF the ladder
with her husband. Young wives should
not expect to operate costly establish
ments. when their husbands are earn
ing moderate salaries. A husbands
love and happy humble home should
outweigh the eyes Of the world. Never
mind what otherH expect Of u.s. This
desire to be stylish when people cannot
afford 1t has broken up many a homo
or Allied It with dIscord. The pure wife
Is busy bee rather than a gaudy but
terfy. The best wife is real Chris
tian, not one with a veneering nj
piety, but one who knows the meaning
OF self-sacriice. The best matches are
made in churches. between those who
love God and love each other"
No Such Luck.
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