The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-08-06
WOMAN 5 v ORLD

address myself. You may nave no need
~ INV remarks they may not apply TO
,,1 If they do you viii know it, whether
t,, confess it or not. But / am quite Ger
t,fn YOU viii be able to think of some ore
,r more of your acquaintance to whom
they will apply
rb. type of woman I am writing about
today. says Ella Wheeler Wilcox in the
New York Journal, exists everywhere.
She IS in the ulua-fashionable circles, she
il. to be found over the washubs in the
tenemeuts. and she prevails largely in the
spaee between the two extremes.
In the country, where women do their
own work. l have found her numerously,
and in villages and towns where she keeps
one or several domestics she also exists.
il makes no difference whether she is
rich or poor fortunate or unfortunate.
when woman has allowed herself to be
come a petty tyrant in disposition she viii
find cause and occasion 10 exercise her pc
culiar talents 70 make everybody about
her miserable. no matter what her sur
rouujings. OF course, selfshness is a the
root of it, Yet perhaps you are a woman
who keep your family miserable mentally.
and vel you tell me that you are unselhsh.
You do the work of a domestic to save
your husband the expenses because he is
not prosperous in money matters, and you
Do aIl th4 sewing for the children, and you
deny yourself comforts for the sake of
your family in order that the hus band and
children may enjoy Injuries, perhaps
4 Il hoy
Joy these luxuries when you tell them
twenty times a week how you have saved
and saved for their sakeS? Why have not
You The good sense to see that they would
he happier if you took life easily and
smiled a them and let them work and
save for you? They would rather a thou
sand times do this, and see a happy, cheer
full face about the home and hear loving
words and hopeful talk than to see the de
sDairing face you carry about. and to
hear your never-ending tale of toll and
sacrifice.
You pretend to be a Christian, I pre-
sumo. but the woman who is always de
scrbius her own good actions and who
makes everybody about her utterly
Wretched by her constant reference to her
sacrifices for their sake, is no Christian
Christ VIII be ashamed to own her when
she gets out of her body.
You say you want your family to appre-
cate what you are doing, and you are
obliged to remind your husband and chill
dren of your unselfsh labors and econo-
mics or they would take them as a matter
OF course after a while Let me answer
you madam, that nobody ever appreciated
a favor of which he was reminded every
day in the week by the doer, and talk
about your favors to others is as bad or
worse than forgetting others favors to
YOU
Discontinue your labors for your family
while if You think the members do not
appreciate you. Lie down and read, and
be cheerful and amiable and affectionate,
and see how quickly husband aud children
viii spring TO your aid.
This is a far better way of getting at
tention than by demanding it.
The woman tyrant has an idea that she
must always be first in every way in the
consideration of each member of her house
mold l have known her to make a scene
because her husband sat for an hour with
their daughter and a girl friend who had
jus returned from boarding school, while
the mother was writing letters in another
room,
But she was accustomed to having her
husband come at once to her side when
he returned from business, and she con-
sidered 1t a slight and a lack of proper
courtesy when he fingered with any one
e'st even his own daughter, for an hour.
Ihls is a poor way 90 keep man in
love with you. Only a weak man would
submit to it. The man I refer to was not
a weak man in any sense save that he
ionged for a peaceful home. He submit
TED to his wifes tyranny in a great degree
merely to keep peace, and he finally died
insane
1t was small wonder. Constant associa-
ton with man or woman who is pet,y
Vrant wears the brain far more than
great sorrow or tragedy.
Inc wife who makes herself so adorably
sweet and charming that man prefers
uer society to that of any other person
never needs to demand his attention
~ Is far more flattering to know a man
seeks you because nowhere else can ne
receive such a welcome such thoughtful
ness for his comfort such pleasing al
tenlIons or hear such agreeable CONVEX
sauon, than to glory in the thought that
you nave forced him to obey you by maxi
ing painful scene.
Inc sort of woman who is always work
ing herself TO death for the physical
comforts of her husband and children. and
,heh ruins the mental atmosphere of the
nome by her moods and her arbitrary
rules, is in my estimation far worse than
lhe INDECENT and neglectful mother who
Iels others bear her burdens, but keeps
pacld and good natured.
nave seen home spoiled by a fine
''u9ekeeper and careful economiZer who
made the meal hour a time to dread for
every member of the family
/, any one CHANGED 10 be ten minutes late
u Ied to lecture upon the care and toll
"''ch mad been bestowed upon the prepar-
'lh OF the repast and the necessity of
IT'S being partakeu of while fresh and hot
ana the inconveniece it caused others
herself or the domestics-to have members
81 lAe family late, and so on and so on,
''eVer, like Tennyson's brook, until star
'auoh would have been rapture compared
TO listening
How much kinder it would have been
=" clean away the dinner and to tell the
d'uA boy that he would have to take what
III could find on his return, as the hour
lor dinner was over? Told this with a
SuA'e' the boy would have been more con
,,N' with a sandwich and cup of water
lN"h with fun course dinner served with
Trade of Seeding.
VI you are a woman of this kind. OH let
~ oeS of you TO realize that it is not
N1ai you do for your dear ones which