Pine Bluff daily graphic., 1899-06-25
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l sauce For IQ9 GauQSF3 AOO' venture to say that if this man f were to take woman to the marriage altar he would want her character to be above reproach. He would want to know that her past life had been such that he had reason to be proud of her as his wife, And he would want to be sure that the mother of bis children had always held before herself those ideals which he would have held before his chil- dren.
 That is it. A young man enjoys having the moral restraints remoy- ed, and then when he gets tired of his fast living he likes to settle down in home. not with the type of wo- man at whose unholy shrine he has poured the best of his manhood, but J with somebody who in growing to womanhood has preserved inviolate the badge of her womanhoOd. Where is the justice in this? For my part I am glad that there was one young woman who exercised her right to get what it was her plea sure to giye-the quality Of vi,tue.
 A man insists upon the qualities he must have in a wife. She must be pure, good-looking and thrifty as housekeepeI Now stand a man at the bar of woman's soul. Let her speak and tell what Gl.alities she desires in a man. She surely has this right. Let her exercise it. She wants pure, loIing, thoughtful and industrious nan. Or is she so eager to take tbe title of Mrs. that she will acceT.t a man though he fall far short of what he ought to be? Are men led to believe that if their livss have not been as sweet as they shonld have been 1t will not ma terially affect their chances for mak- ing a good marriage? Yes, to mex tent they ale led to believe this, and it is because of the two standards for conduct which exist in society, one for man and one for women. The same departue from a moral standard will bring in the one case severe censure and partial ostra- cism, and in the other case it will be glossed over in some way.
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 True, there are the families into which no son-in-law is we come un- less he is a good character, Or course, his financial prospects are considered. too, as indeed they ought to be, but first comes the question of what he is rather than what he has. But in many cases a we'll filled poeketbook covers a mul- titude of sins In the desire to settle marriageable daughters in homes of their own. Mighty concessions are made on the part of solicitous moth CTS who are looking for good catch es for their daughters Give the backing of wealth to a man whose character is not what it should be and the way into some good homes is open to him. No covering up the fact that the jingle of gold helps one greatly in this matrimoni race. Doors are thrown open to him and fair mammae receive him with smiles and extended hands.
 Every person who Is of marriage able age must decide this question for himself or herself. Circumstan- ces dc much to alter cases, but any one who has any part in helping to mould public thought concerning those things which affect the welfare of the home must keep before him- self the highest ideals possible. W hen the question of moral character as a factor in marriage is set aside in flavor of outward possessions l be lieve it to be serious mistake. l am not blind to the important part that money and social position play in the question of matrimony. No cue can blame any parents for wanting to see their daughters provided with . find home and those comforts which a good income assures; but when these things are put first, art a fast young man with mo.aos stands better chance of winni..s c young woman than does to ae hearted and manly fello wnG h'o in- come is moderafG cor- eIii1 sht Of first in