The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1899-10-23
now TO TRE4T 4 WEE.
Keep Up the CourtShip md Don't Re Too
Stingy, Recommends DIR. Scuddsr.

Keep Up the Courtship md Don't Re Too
Stingy, Recommends DIR. Scuddsr.
A large congregation attended the First Con-
Rregational Church in Jersey City last night
TO hear the Nth sermon OF DR.. John l.. Scud-
der's series on Marriage Bells" The TOPIC
last night was How to Treat Your Wife"
Among other things he said:
TO every woman contemplating matrimony
say. If you have any money OF your own. al
ways keep it in your own name. Money is
power. and man has power enough without
your adding to it. / pity the woman without
means who Is married to an intemperate or
lecherous husband. For the sake OF the
| children. she clings to man who brings her
no comfort. model husband will give his
wife q reasonable share OF his time and atten-
ton. He does not spend all his evenings at
tho club. l believe the clubhouse has its
| place. but it should never overshadow the
home, which ought to be the dearest spot on
| earth. These women have my sympathy who
are obliged to retire every night with the
front door unbolted and whose husbands steal
in at all hours Of the night or morning. Such
women feel their loneliness kesnly.
"A good husband will give his wife a certain
sum OF spending money. a regular allowance
she can call her own. If she 10 a good house
keeper she Is entitled to 1t for she earns it,
Her services In the homo are valuable and
would bring certain sum In the market. II
man engages housekeeper or hires a cook
he gives her board and lodging plus her wages :;
II he takes wife he gives her board and lodg-
ing without any wages II he gives his wife no
spending money sheis worse off than the hired
girl. She does the work and gets no adequate
return. The ideal home is where the purse is
open alike to both husband and wife. but
where both are economical. and unselnsh. A
should hu ha nd
beggar every time she wants piece OF ribbon
or n stick Of candy. know men who tell their
wives they are worth their weight in gold. but
hegrudge them ton ;cent piece for pin money
Next to whiskey, nothing makes 40 much i'll
feeling in the home as the pockethook. Where
the man holds the money bag with q grip OF
iron. the vile either quarrels with him or 10
empted to G rcumvent him in soma manner In
order to get her share: man thinks nothing
cent bunch OF violets for his wife he considers
an unnecessary expenditure.
"A good husband will cultivate cheerfu,ness
and always carry sunshine into his home He
will cause the domestic machinery to run
smoothly by plentiful application OF that
handy about tho house. willing to help and not
expecting that everything will be done for him.
When his wife asks him to mend the sewing
machine or put new wire on the screen door he
VII not pout and say: that was not down in
when he can al Il moves around The house like
bearded angel blessing everything he touches
He overooks any llttle Weaknesses his wifs
may possess Instead OF calling her 'crCsspatch
and then acting ten times worse himself. He
ympathi2es rather than irritates. He is not
always telling her abe is wrong and he Ia right
He is inclined TO be lenient and let the littls
| woman have her own way in many things and
always let's her have the last word. for that is
wlfe's privilege. He is an all-around good fell
| low in his hons lie.
| Lastly, "a good husband keeps up his court
| ing as long as he lives He never forgets to
make love to his wife and tell her how much he
| thinks OF her. He believes the honeymoon
should be everlasting and that love grows
| richer az both grow older. He never ceases TO
ahow those delicate little attentions and cour-
| tcSies which mean 10 much to woman's
| heart, He kisses her lust as he used to before
marriage, lie Is not like some m en- who actu-
| ally are roughsr TO their wives than to any
! other woman on the footstool He never out
grows the civlllties Of life He plans little sur
! prisas. as he used 70 when he was counting
He takes an interest in her new dress and bon
! net and speaks words OF praise while she ID yet
| living He does not wait for the funeral and
not hear it,"