The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1899-12-20
"ENGAGEMENTS."
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/ soon to be- married, bcaptilully fur
ni,hcd Houses. Even the lamps were
trimmed and put rca, for lighting in
one Of them. Wi,li,lt any apparent
reason, at the lat u.pmrit the iadic,
changed what ,hry wrrn pleased to
call their niu-. aud now the house,
are ,hu' nr aa,i The furniture is spoil
ing.
Wi,llotl restraint there can be
no conlinn 'ppinc,-; and if there
is not l.'irc purity of thought. word
and .,,e. a c.nti,l Will ogcr>had not
oul5 tir enlargement period but the
in.s!arc that follows The young
= ple should respect and try to bring
ont what i, best in each other
Happy i, h. wooing that is not
long in doing
We do not approve Of long engage
rrnts. for n"oplr mag grow away from
each other in tastes and feeling.
Neither of the engaged couple may
see any one they like better, but too
much thinkin. about the ties and re-
spcnSlbIlitics If matrilnony may make
them ir>irons Of crying off. y six
months engagement. We would say, is
quite long enough. 1t i, better to
take the ball at he hop, 50 to speak
and marry in the ardor Of first love.
Think Of all the money which is spent
during Il long engagement. upon post
age and tclcgram>. The writer
knows Il girl who laid out two shill
inrS one day on telcgrans to her
young man, though She knew that he
was comm" to see her next murning
when She could have given her own
message. 1t was Il triting question
about the furniture Of their first home,
a matter which has given my friends
SO much trouble that they must envy
the cuckon which, as the child said, +,
dgcS not make its own nest or lay its
own eggs. Then, there are engaged
girls who expect presents every time
the men come to see them, which cX-
hausts wisdom in choosing and spare
coin, and costs almost as much as
marriage Very simple was Sydney
Smiths Offering. One day before
their marriage, he ran into the room
where his fianccc was, flung into her
lap six teaspoons, which, from much
wear, had become the ghosts Of their
former selves, and said, "Thcrc Kate,
you lucky girl, J. give you all my for
tunc!' \ present not less interesting
than Sydney Smiths six spoons was
made to the lady of his choice by
Doctor Wordsworth, Bishop Of Lin
coin. When he was hcadmastcr of
Harrow, he sent to her the nine gold
medals won By him at Winchester and
Cambridge.
When IL girl has been engaged a
long time people begin to talk Of her,
and even to introduce her to strangers
in the presence of the young man, as
"Miss Sn-and-So who hopes to be Mrs.
So-and-S So"
1t is just as.wcll when engaged pco-
pie do not live too near each other.
Lately, talking of certain young
man, | happened to mention that he
came over every day to take tea with
his tianccc. The comment Of an cx-
pcricnccd woman who heard the re-
mark was, Every day? How dread
full; that was as bad as being mar
ried!" Still. if people are going to
tire Of each other it is better that they
should do so before rather than after
marriage.
a girl of my acquaintance was heard
soliloquizing thus-''I wonder if l
should tell him all?' Nothing more
dreadful than few juvenile tlirta-
tions were included in this call, but
my friend was thinking whether She
were bound in honor to confess them
to the young man to whom she was
engaged. let us hope that he alb
solved her as completely as did Doe
tor johnson when Mrs. johnson con
fesscd to him before marriage. She
thought it right to tell him that one
of her ancestors had been hanged.
The doctor said that if none Of his
had been hanged, several of them de-
served to be. We pity people who
never have had any romance in their
lives and during the engagement pc
riod illusions and day -drcamings are
quite cxcusablc. Some OF the castles
built in the air then may reach to
heaven. No one will be SO good, so
loving and so useful as they will be
when they marry. Their marriage
will be complete success, and not