The citizen. (Frederick City, Md.) 1895-1923, 1899-08-11
THEMONEY QUESTION
RESPONSIBLE FOR WoMAN's RELucT-
ANCE TO MARRY.

Man should Carefully Instruct His wife
Regarding the Value aud Proper Use OF
Moncy-A Trusted Woman Is Proud Of
Her Husbands Prosperity.
However advanced the world NAV be
SAID to be, however quickly We may
grasp and adopt new fadS, fanCies and
notions, and however much we NAV
think we have improved upoG old times
and former usages. there are vet n
great many things that are susceptible
OF decided betterment.
Among these the management Of
household affairs stands gu promi-
hentIy, especially that phase of it that
involves the financial understanding
between the husband and the wife.
fof great many yeas it was
lhoUght that women were not capable
" managing their domcSti. concerns
as far as money matters we..t. There
WAS TO an extent, some show of rca-
son III this idea, and in SOM Instances
mere Is yet, but. as rule, to- existing
'tate OF things is just about as bad as
IFll'+cd people are capable OF making
l. n little analysis of thu situation
VIII readily discover why this is 50.
man of more or less mature years.
VINO has made or is making compe-
fence or good living. marres Il young
woman, sometimes scarcely mere than
child. She has been in school almost
all her life, and has never as iined any
resp visibility in money matters other
tlan to be expected 10 make herallOw-
alc" buy candy and other petty luNuri-
eS' II the money Were all enc She
went without confectionery and trinll-
cts until next time. and it was Just ~
well, perhaps better. This constituted
her limit OF financial experience. Her
DIS were paid, her neceSS ties pro
Vlded for, incidentialS we =, looked
ate and shortage was made up.
Whichever she wanted in ,.X'rSS of this
she coaXed or cried for until she got it,
or maybe was sulky, sulcn or DISC
bliging until the coveted article was
forthcoming as the easiest way out Of
the unpleasant state of affairs.
Fairly launched upon the sea of mar
ried nfe, that condition in VII. I'll young
Peuph feel ut liberty to do as they like,
her natural inclinationS. unframed
and unguided in the bud. blossom ont
into cNtravagant and unreasonable de-
mannS, and feeling perfect right to
call Tor whatever she desires trouble
comes sometimes suddenly and with
out warning. 1t is safe TO say that
money matters are responsible for
more domestic infelicities than all other
causes combined. Tie man is not long
in discovering that his wiz manages
badly, and he tightens the purse
str;h-S. Instead of carefully instruc-
ting her in the use of this ne, rSSitv Of
life. he becomes arbitrary and often
uhrta sonable, insisting, in naEr cases,
thaC all articles shall be bought on ere
dit and the bills sent to him to oyer.
look.
There are few things in the world
more annoying than a systematic eSpi-
onage of this sort, and the knowledge
that even the most trivial purchase
has to be accounted for. 1t is humila.
ting and puts the mistress of the house
on the level of an Irresponsible child
How much better it would be to ar
range at the outset some fixed method
in which forhearance on both sides
fO' MS an important part. honorable
straightforward, honest mel have very
litt'~ reason to fear the knowledge
Wnirl their wives may have of their
business. 1t is only when legitimate
pleasures and indulgences are to be
provided for that there is any occa-
sion for such secrecy.
y woman who is ccntiIrc in and
trLStcd will. as a rule. feel quite rs
much pride in and interest H. her hus
hards prosperity as he himself does.
and = is almost always pos allie. when
business is depressed. for wei ill.,.
formed woman to curtail eArtI ses and
sun ner demands to the eIiG"ncies of
the situation. But where tltre Is no
understanding or confidence, where
money is literally doled out ard that,
too In the most grudgng Hammer, a
fe'iirg of resentment springs up, and
tie idea prevails that the" must be
just so much contention anyway in
in order to get what is required. Under
such circumstances there is no wonder
if the demands are excessive md infe-
liCii.ts follow fast upon Oul another's
heels.
Tho money question, more than any
other. is responsible for the reluctance
of W. men 10 n AIRY and thGir ambition