The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1899-08-09
CH|DES GARNENSYLVl
Ella Wheeler Wilcox Takes
Some Smart Sayings
ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN
And Shows Her She's Mouth
ing Archaic Cant.
ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN

When a woman gives herself away she
fancdes that she has given the wohle
world; the man, however, believes that
he has simply acquired possession Of a
new toy. A woman would be stoned II
she began to do those things which .
man of honor may do with impunity. A
woman who is misunderstood Il q woman
who doese understand others. An unhap-
py woman Is like a flower exposed to the
wind; for a long time she remains q
closed bud, and as soon as begins to now-
er she withers. A woman's virtue must
often be very great. since there are many
cases where 1t has to sufilce tfor two
From Carmen Sylva's newly published
Thoughts of Queen"
1t Is evident that Queen Carmen has
done good deal more thinking than one
expects a royal parsonage to do; and 1t
is evident that she Is something nearer a
pessimist than a philosopher. The pessi-
mist is one who looks on the side Of life
which he finds uppermost. The philoso-
pher turns the world over and looks on
all sides Of 1t.
It is quite true that much Is expected Of
omen in this world; but 1t is no longer
true that men regard her as weak. At
least the English-speaking male has ceas-
ed to so regard her. Savages and many
foreign men still consider the wife and
mother an inferior being, but In America
and England she occupies a conspicuous
place in masculine esteem.
heard bright man remark re Gently
that he did not know one married couple
where the wife was not the superior and
scarcely family of gils and boys where
the feminine element was not in every
respect more noticeable intellectually
than the masculine.
Several men agreed with him as they
named over a list Of acquaintances at
random. I must confess however, that I
thought these men more gallant than ac-
curate In their judgment. Women are
frequently called smarter than their
husbands, and sisters brighter than their
brothers, when they are merely shower
I can call to mind a dozen illustrations
of this fact. .i.-.
Women POSSESSING re tact and are read
fer to meet unexpected situations than the
sterner sex. They love to be noticed earl.
Ter in life. and resort to more devices to
bring about this result.
While, a country boy is wondering how
he manage to find an excuse for keeping
away from the party. and II he Is oblig-
ed to go, how he can best conceal his
hands and feet, his sister is wheedling
her parents to get her a new gown for
the occasion, ndSSpracticing bafore the
mirror to render herseJGlan object Of at
tention.Uoe o. n
4 young man will sit up half ths night
to read q book, and lie awake the other
half to1think about its problems, while
his sister reads tie reviews in the weekly
papers, and talks glibly of It to her
friends, VINO never knew her brother had
opened its covers. -
Not long ago heard lady make some
brilliant remarks upon leading questions
of the day at a dinner table Her hus-
band smiled as he listened, and said moth
ing. But 1 happened to be present later
when the guests had gone and the hus-
band asked his wife il she could explain
one assertion she had made. The wife
confessed she could not-she merely knew
it was so. Then very gently and clearly
the gentleman explained the lady to her
self-and told her why she was right. A
certain intuitive quality with a fluency Of
speech and a positiveness OF character
made the woman seem to be much brigh-
ter than she was. This is often the case
while the man Is really the smarter and
deeper.
Even the men themselves are deceived
by this sort of thing and accord women
far more praise frequently than they de-
serve. Carmen sylvia needs to live In
America a while and she will not think
women so undervalued
1t Is also true that q woman believes
she hts given a whole world away with
the giving Of herself. And she is right.
The woman who gives herself IN love
to a man gives him not only the whole
earth but either highest heaven or deep
est he'll IN addition.
II he Is a man Of any principle or moral
worth or power Of feeling he realizes
the value OF the gift he has received.
Carmen Slyva is talking OF bygone era
when she says man regards woman as
mere toy. The toy age has passed, and
most men know It.
The man who undertakes to make a toy
OF woman nowadays usually finds her q
boomerang before he gets through
In this era a woman who has been used
as toy and thrown aside Is capable of
mending herself and becoming as good
as
and heart meant death and destruction
for her. But the feminine character has
been affected by the process Of evolution
together with all other things under the
sun.
Our Queen Carmen says: "a woman
would be stoned IL she began TO do
things which n man of honor does with
impunity." she shoulud add. anywhere
save in Paris and New York"
In those cities for every man with a
past ca nbe found a woman with . past.
present and future. who seems to be petit
ed with bouquets rather than stones
The brightest and trueze OF the royal
authors epIgram is when she says. "a
woman who IS misunderstood Is a woman
who does not understand Others"
Whenever O woman tells me or writes
me that she suffers from not being ''un-
dersSoOd' know that sac Is 30 thought
conferred upon herself that she has not
been able TO learn how to please others
The unseifish person Il always under
stood, even By those who call him q fool
An unhappy woman Is like q flower
exposed to the wind for q long time she
remains a closed bud. as soon a. she be-
gins to flower she vftRasr.''