Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1899-05-26
Rules for a Wedding.

| Until this season brdes-elect never an
| peared at any social gatherings of i'm
portance after their wedding cards were
| issued. That rule is now a dead letter.
| and up to the day before her wedding a
young woman is seen everywhere OF
, course thls Is the natural result Of the
| recent and reasonable revolt against put
| ting together an elaborate trousseau.
| Smart girls in New York society. for in
stance. who are marrying this spring
! have provided themselves with suitable
| wardrobes for the season, and nothing
more, and this, with the getting 81 the
wedding dress, has left them time and
strength for all the passing gayeties of
| the moment.
Another new and interesting point in
the present busy hymenial season is the
| very early sending out of invitations.
| the day of the wedding, and a rule some
how has arisen ordaining that directly
| upon receipt of the invitation the we'd
| ding present must be sent or within
| by this means the bride is not troubled
| with the struggling in of gifts up to the
very day Of the ceremony and a heavy
demand on her Voca bulary of thanks ali
| in the week preceding her marriage and
| maybe the week after.
| There is also another deep-laid design
| in sending out invitations so early. A
bride who posts her cards four weeks he
| lore the great day fully expects her
| friends TO call upon her promptly, and by
sklllful conversation acquire pretty
|
the way Of gift Relatives and init
mate friends are expected to openly 30
llclt her wishes on that point. or YOU can
take ASIDE her mother, who knows the
young lady.s wishes and will consider
ately give helpful tips in silver bric-a
brac, pictures, jewelry, etc.
100 many persons are negligent in ac-
knoWledging the receipt of wedding in
vitation, or are puzzled to know lust how
such an invitation should be treated ac-
Gepted or regretted. One hXed rule to
Keep in mind is the Importance of ac-
knowledging this courtesy and doing So
promptly. If asked to the church only
answer by the accepted formula i'm the
thlrd person. saying MIR. ana Mrs. Blank
accept the pleasure Mr.. ana Mrs So-and-
80 Kind invitation 70 the marriage Of
their daughter on June a. ut $50 o'clock
az -. Johns Church" OF Mr. ana Mrs
Blank regret that illness Cor absence will
prevent their acceptance. etc" This
same phraslnS is employed when the in
NltAtion Is to the church ana the house
aitef me ceTIemony' the sentence. and
- ny pIrdhtdSt tor reception a Al
o'clock, added AT the end of the mage on
which the reply is given.
il Is now regarded as not only incon-
siderate but a distinct i'll omen for Tho
bride to keep her guests ana fancc
waiting one moment over the time get far
the ceremony. ana brides Of this spring
nave proudly boosted into the church
hour.
This spring also the superstitious fancy
mas arisen Tor catering To the lucky fatp1
by putting the right foot first on enter
ing the church. on turning TO leave the
church and ON entering the carriage
White lilac and asparagus fern has been
the choicest bridal bouquet since the IL
laos came into flower, but with the pass
ing OF these nothing has been considered
smarter than a bouquet Of pure white
rhododendrOns and acacia blossoms
White sweet peas ana asparagus fern Is |
another lovely combination very much
the mode, ana il seems To be the unfypr-
sal custom now for every wedding guesi
~ wear buttonhole bouquet or breast
knob Of white flowers.
II was the accepted fashion 4 little
While ago for every bride 10 20 to the al |
tar leaning on the arm of her fatha~
brother or whichever male relative. was
chosen To give her away. Now this Gus
tom is rather more frequently uonored in |
the breach than otherwise, for the bride |
has come TO the conclusion that not only |
IS supporting arm not needed but that |
she makes a more striking and effective
appearance proceeding up the aisle alone
When this form Of procession is adopted !
the father Of the bride gives his wife his |
arm UP The aisle and only when his |
steps does he come forward, take her
hand in his. hand her to her fiance. ana |
are all pronounced.
The best man leaves his hat in the YES |
try and gloves as well. because he must
at the altar hold the hat and gloves of |
lhe groom, ana ne would present a very
oVerworked aspect if he stood at atten-
ton with high hat in either hand |
When he gives the groom ms hat and |
gloves he returns hurriedly to the vestry
picks up his own belongings and drives |
away to the brides house from the side |
entrance Of the church.
A woman who is married in a travel |
ing dress ought not 10 have any brides |
maids. Her bouquet can be held during |
the ceremony by the relative who gives |
her away, and when a couple are mar |
ried and leave at once for their honey |
moon journey the groom goes to the train |
or steamship in the frock coat in which /
he was married