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smo oking or reading room or with some
coquettish spider in search OF unwary flies,
and, II you do not entirely lose your hus-
band, 1t will be because he is divinely pro-
tected from the disasters that have
whelmed thousands Of husbands, with as
good intentions as yours. Neither should
the husband, without imperative reason,
consent to such life unless he is sure his
wife can withstand the temptation OF So
cial dissipation which sweeps across such
places with the force Of the Atlantic Ocean
when driven by September equinox.
Many wives give up their homes for these
public residences, so that they may give
their entire time to operas, theatres, bulls,
receptions and levees, and they are In a
perpetual whirl, like whip top spinning
round and round and round very prettily
until 1t loses its equipoise and shoots of In
to tangent. But the dlfferenceis, In one
caset is top, and In the other,asoul.
Besides this there Is an a. ssiduous accu-
mutation Of little things around the prl-
vate home, which In the aggregate make q
great attraction, while the denizen Of one
OF these public residences ia apt to say:
"What Is the user I have no place to keep
them II I should take them" Mementos,
bric-a-brac, curiosities, quaint chair or
cozy lounge, upholsteries, pictures and O
thousand things that accrete In home are
discarded or neglected because there is no
homestead in which to arrange them. And
yet they are the case In which the pearl OF
domestic happiness Is set. You can never
become as attached to the appointments OF a
boarding-house or family hotel as to those
things that you can call your own and are
associated with the different members Of
your household or with scenes OF thrilling
import in your domestic history. Blessed
is that home in which for whole lifetime
they have been gathering, until every
figure in the carpet, and every panel oil
the door, and every easement OF the win.
dow has chirography Of its own, speak.
ing out something about father or mother,
or son or daughter, or friend that was with
US awhile. What sacred place it becomes
when one can say: ''In that room such q
one was born; in that bed such one died.
in that chuir sat on the night heard
honor; by that stool my child knelt for hel
last evening prayer; here I sat to greet my
son as be came back from sea voyage; that
was fathers cane; that was mothers rock.
ing chair!" What joyful and pathetic
congress OF "reminiscences!
The public residence Of hotel and board.
ing house abolishes the grace OF hospital.
ity. Your guest does not want to come to
such table. No one wants to run such q
gantlet OF acute and merciless bypercritic.
ism. Unless you have home OF your OWL
YOU will not be able to exercise the best
rewarded OF all the graces. For exercise,
OF this grace e,what blessing came to the
Shunammite in-the restoration Of her sor
to life becausetsbe entertained Elisba, and
to the widow. OF Zarephath in the perpetual.
oil we'll of the miraculous cruise because
she fed hungry prophet, and to RaEab In
the preservation of her life at the demoli.
tion of Jericho because she entertained the
spies, and to Laban In the formation OF m
interesting family relation because OF his
entertainment OF Jacob, and to Lot In his
rescue from. the destroyed city because oil
his entertainment OF. the angels, and to
Mary and Martha and Zaccheus in spiritual
blessing because they entertained Christ,
and to Publius in the island OF Melita In the
henling Of bis father because Of the enter.
tainment OF Paul, drenched from tho ship.
wreck, and ofinnumerable OF houses through.
out Christendom upon which have come
blessings from generation to generation
because their doors swung easily open In
the enlarging, ennoblinR, irradlatiDg and
divine grace OF hospitality!
Young married man, as soon rs you can,
buy such place even II you have to put on
1t 4 mortgage reaching from base to cap
stone. The much abused mortgage, which
Is ruin to reckless man, t. one pr udent
and provident is the beginning of COM
potency and fortune for the reason he
will not pe satisfied until he has paid 1t of,
and all the household are put on stringent
economies until then. Deny yourself all
superhuities and all luxuries until you can
say, Everything in this house Is mine,
thank God-every timber, every brick,
every foot Of plumbing, every doorsill."
NJ L, hnep II hnn nr1-
ing house, and do not yourself be buried
from one. Have place where your chill
dren can shout and sing and romp without
being overhauled for the rncket. Have
kitchen where you can do something
toward the reformation Of evil cookery and
the lessening of this nation OF dyspel tics
AS Napoleon lost one Of bis great battles by
IN attack OF indigestion, so many men
have such q daily wrestle with the food
swallowed that they have no strength left
for the battle Of life, and, though your
wife may know how to Llay on all musical
instruments and rival u prlna donna, she
is not we'll educated unless she can boil IN
Irish potato and Droil mutton chop, since
the diet sometimes decides the fate Of fam.
lilies and nations.
Have sitting room with at least one
easy chair, even though you have to take
turns at sitting in it, and books out OF the
public library or OF your own purchase foI
the making Of your family intelligent,
md chcckerboards, and guessing matches,
with IN occasional blind mans buff, which
which Is Of all games my favorite. Rouse
up your home with all styles OF innocent
mirth and gather up in your children'I
nature reservoir OF exuberance that will
pour down refreshing streams wien lie
gets parched, and the dark days come,
nd fh q lfrbto ~ onH fha l0u6hf6r ia
smothered into sob.
First, last and all the time hnve Christ
in your home. Julius Cesar calmed the
fenrs OF Oh affrighted Soatman who was
rowing In stream by saying, 80 long as
Cesar is with you IL the same boat, nc
harm can happen" And whatever storm
OF adversely or bereavement or poverty
may strike your home. all is well US Ions
as you have Christ the King on board
Make your home so farreacbng In it's in
fuence that down to the Inst moment oI
your children's life you may hold them
with q heavenly charm. At seventy.si]
years OF nGe the Demosthenes OF the
American Senate lay dying Mt Washing
His pastor sat ut his bedside, and "the old
man eloquent" after long and exciting
public life, transatlantic and cisatantic
was buck again in the scenes o.
his bo:hood, and lie KEEP: saying II
his dream over and over again, my
mother, mother, mother!" May the paren'
tai influence we exert be not only potent
tiaI, but holy, and so the home on eaIth be
the vestibule of our home in heaven, ir
which place may We all meet-father
mother, son, daughter, brother, sister
grandfather. grandma other and grandchild
and the entire group Of precious ones, o:
whom we must say in the words Of trans
porting Charles Wesley:
One family we dwell in him.
One church above, beneath,
Though now div ded by the stream
The narrow stream OF death;
One army OF the living God,
To His command We bow;
Part OF the Lost have crossed the food
And purt are crossing now.