The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1899-12-17

which would call your attention. In the
first place l would earnestly recommend
you TO study the art of expression That
is one of the amenities of life that we are
apt to underestimate, yet what world OF
difference the mere tone of voice or the
infection of a word can make! You will
recall that in Chevalier's delightful ditty
the hero, in setting forth his comp aints,
declares that it wasn't what zee said, 1t
was the narsty way ZEE said it, that gave
offense-a state of affairs with which we
are all familiar enough to make us SYM
pathize. Who has not writhed under
some remark couched in unexcepdonal
language, yet uttered in so sneering
tone that it was a deadly insult? Who
has not felt the keen edge of sarcasm in
many a honeyed speech? Women are cev-
er at this kind of thing, and lit wasn't
what she said, 1t was the hateful way she
said it, is the real reason of many
girls lack Of popularity.
But while we are all quick to appreciate
the dark side of this question, We over
look the fact that there is another view of
il as cheering as the other is dispiriHng,
and it is this that I would especially i'm
press upon you. If there is a "narsty'
way of saying things, there is a nice way
that is well worth your profoundest study.
Acquire that and you have found the open
sesame to popularity, for none of us are
insensible to it's charm or fail to be lei
captive by 1t. Have You ever thought of
the difference In the way of saying even
such simple thing as the morning salu-
tation? There is a "good-morning' that
is as curt as a slap in the face a msre
perfunctory compliance with custom,
and there is a ''good-morning" that is al
most like caress, and that seems to say
that the mere meeting with us is an ever
recurring pleasure that made the day
brighter Only the two commonplace
ha1t hafr 10 hn
gulf in which lies our personal vanity and
self-love. and nobody is such dullard as
not to distinguish between them.
In realityit never matters so much what
we say as how we say il, and this recalls
10 me a little story Of women 1 once
knew, who, although she was neither cry
bright or clever, ma ta'ned reputation
for brildancy simply by the expressive
way in which she exclaimed how Won
derfuli'' Let a doting no her come TO her
and babbe of the precoclty Of her chill
dren. their beauty end wit. At ppr,prate
intervals she would exclaim in The most
interested POSSIBLE manner how wonder
rnIp' ard the fisttered mother wou go
Off singing the praises Of woman who
had sense enough to recognize an infant
phenomenon when she heard of it. When
a chrvsanthemum haired footba hero dis
coursed TO her of his achievements on the
gridiron she would punctuate his remarks
with "hoW WOnderIul!' CteVer WOmdh,
that" he would say, doesn't ask fool
ouestions-thoroughd understands the
came" though n reality she never knew
q right tackle from a quarterback. Poll
ticianss found themselves drawn out by her
show wonderful into dissertations on
ward politics; business men, after recount
ing their schemes into her sympathetic
ear and listening TO her exclamation. de-
clared her head was as sound as a bell,
and that she hit the nail ON the head every
time. Every b. dy agreed she was the most
enferlaining person In town, simply be-
cause she had mastered the art of listen
Ing intelllgently and using two little words
as If she meant them.
This may seem TO you an extreme case,
but YOU will not have gone far In your lit
ne Journey in the word without becom-
ing aware that the most offensive rude
ness of our day, and the thing we resent
mogt i'm other people. however much we
NAV be guilty Of IL ourselves, Is the lack
of attention Nobody listens. Nobody APP
pears to pay any attention. ! know OF
woman here who met another woman In
an elevator Of a fashionable shop. And
how Is your charming sisterY" inquired
one. "she has been dead two years" re-
plicd The other, the quick tears rushing 20