The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1899-03-11
In Moman's World.

a woman so constantly Hi$iiol
impulsiveness, says Dorothy MADDOX N
the Philadelphia Inquirer" This fault IS
far reaching in its mischief making quail
ties. 1t seems it has as many arms Tor
branching out and clutching unto itself
victims as an octopus.
Al woman swayed by ephemeral feelings
is prime favorite for the moment. She
falls below par in favoritism as soon as
she is understood. She may be rather a
lovable body, too, as women go, but the
people who have suffered from time to
time through her impulsiveness bitterly
resent the righteousness with winch she
has managed to fool them.
AS a hostess she is most to be feared.
She means well, but not the slightest de-
pendence must be placed on her. She has
the trick of falling in love with individu-
ais on sight. Then she becomes possessed
with a desire to see more of them, and
invitations are scattered obout as Wildly
as apple blossoms in a gale.
Miss w. is the dearest girl. | must
cultivate her." or,
"Wha a dear. sweet woman that
charming Mrs. S. is"
AT the first opportunity both ladies are
invited to drop into luncheon, or they are
implored to set a day for dinner, or sun
higher the impulsive soul climbs in the
scale of hospitality and they are asked to
save some time during the coming sea
son for a house party.
Then the impulsive hostess whisks on
aglow with satisfaction and never gives
a thought to either one of the women
until the mail brings word that one or
both have taken her cordial invitation in
dead earnest.
What a tempest in a teapot! The i'm
pulsive one is inclined to quarrel with
everybody but herself. She talks about
Cheek" Has fiustered soliloquies when
blame for the threatened intrusion is
placed everywhere save where 1t belongs.
1t may seem impossible that level head
ed women can be taken in by Spurious
hospitality. The truth is the impulsive
woman can hoodwink the smartest OF Us.
She is spontaneous. There is a real ring
of sincerity in her tones. She IS alto
gether the best known counterfeit We
have. Fact is, this hostess plays quite rs
deceptive a part with herself as her guest
For the time being she t~horoughly be-
lieves in her honesty of purpose.
The impulsive daughter of an in1pulslve
mother is an actual menace to the peace
of her social world. She goes about SO
full CT life and sparkle. She is such a
convincing young person.
She asks people to do this thing and
that. She fairly badgers them into ae-
cepting her plans for their entertainment
and at the last moment willis like a head
of cabbage in a July sun.
One summer, when We had gathered
a colony of congenial SPIRITS came across
a young woman who seemed to me just
about the sweetest thing in petticoats !
had met for some time. She was pretty,
had a voice like a lutte and she could rat
tie off gracious little compliments with an
air of sincerity.
1t became whispered about that she was
unreliable. I should say SO. as unreliable
as a bog FREELY. Unreliable because a
hospitality spendthrift.
Her invitations were lavished upon Miss
and Mrs. Tom. Dsck and Harry. Forns-
I ing a sudden liking for a person she would
start the acquaintance with
Come to luncheon soon. When2 o!
don't let US set a day. l hate Formally.
Come any day.,
ore woman after another got caught N
some of the tightest places by taking
her at her word. She was either not at
home or if there plainly showed she never
expected her good nature to be taken lit
orally.
If there was no other reason for being
on the lookout for hospitality that means
nothing, the fact that SO little of the Did
fashioned article is going about ought to
be enough to put US on our guard.
The modern housekeeper is scared to
death to offer a friend what would be
surely good enough if accepted in the
right spirit. She knows that another
Moderate wants, when she come to
luncheon, to be given soup, then a tidblt
for an entree, or a salad or a chop, with
chocolate or coffee and a fancy bread,
and this must be ollowed by a sweet.
And the linen must be without blemish,
there must be a maid softly shod and
snowily capped; the children must be IN
clean pinafores, the silver must CLEAN,
the glassware sparkle and the lady OF the
mansion be in a mood as bright as her
silver. Goodness. it is all so tiresome.
This up-to-date hospitality.
In the face of such hard-hearted facts
how dare an impulsive woman urge the
freedom of her home or unsuspecting
mortals when not prepared to meet
modern demands. Because she does not
take herself seriously. Neither do her
knowing friends. That they allow her to
think they do has spoiled her completely.
Along comes a new friend. She is
caught in the impulsive hostess drag-net.
The net is full Of broken meshes.
Through them the latest victim takes a
tumble that leaves her sore Of heart for
many a day.
Does such a mishap incline the erring
hostess to see her follies as others see
them? Not at all. She goes on to the
lsend, persuaded that she is an exponent of
g~raciousness.
Beware of the impulsive hostess, or.
better still, beware of the tremendous
risk involved in the acceptance of any
hospitality that does not come arrayed in
Madame Etiquette's best bib and tucker.
When presumably capable women give
up housekeeping, says "Harper's Bazaar
and betake themselves to boarding be-
cause they cannot get servants or man
age them; when mistresses are palpably
afraid of their cooks, and unable to pre-
vent waste and even dishonesty in the
kitchens which they hesitate to enter. al
though they are their own when half the
references given are not truthful, or al
least misleading, when intelligence offices
are the last places where an intelligent
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