Willmar tribune. [volume] (Willmar, Minn.) 1895-1931, 1898-05-17
AS TO EARLY MARRIAGE.
Whether 1t IL Help or a Hindrance
Depends Very Largely on
Circumstances.

circumstances
It depends upon number of things.
To make one rule fit all cases would be
impossible. Indeed, the numerous and
excellent answers to this question re-
ceived by Success, differing so widely
III their import, have, like the verdict
Of the travellers concerning the chanel
con, ''all been right and all been
wrong"
There are occasionally men to whom
home restraints and home require
ments would be exceedingly irksome,
even detrimental. They are, by ''every
implication of their being" free lances
free to roam from land to land, from
city to city, from house to house, or to
bury themselves in laboratories, or lit
erary dens, or other places where they
can be let absolutely alone. Their wan
behring's, and the things pertaining to
Them, or their experiments and burrow-
ngs, are all they care for. Love would
We to them only secondary consideTa-
lion, the care of family a nuisance.
'!or men Of this type to marry, early
their natural inclinations and habits
would cause friction and unhappiness;
things which are utterly demoralizing
to success.
Their are, on the other hand, many
young men, and perhaps more women,
whose hearts are, by isolation, want of
sympathy, loneliness, and lack of COM
Portable living, so dissatisfied that
brains and hands refuse to do their
potential best; and, in their restless.
ness, these people spend money need
lessly on many things which have in
them possible temporary satisfaction,
or which render thought impossible for
a time. People of this type, if rightly
mated, find in marriage their highest
happiness and most efficient help.
To majority of people a feeling of
being settled is necessary to success.
Very few men can have this feeling
without a home. The student or clerk
has his room or his den; the military
officer has his quarters; the sea captain,
his cabin; the herdsman, his ranch; as
ISOLATED men have their clubs, societies
d
home is practically unknown:
Few single men save their earnings
During their bachelor days, they are
liable to form expensive and careless
habits, and to keep bad company, all
of which means not only scattering
of dollars, but dulling of the brain
power and hand power by which dol
larS aor-po C,,ob ,,oo,, pool
tralizing influence, a countermagnet,
which will draw and keep them away
from demoralizing haunts. This mag
net is usually found in wife and home.
Il should never have saved dollar had
l not had wife's trust, encouragement
and counsel and the hope of a home be-
fore my eyes," said a young man to
the writer.
A young man who takes wife before
he is able to support her puts himself
in very doubtful position as regards
great success in life; for, unless he is
extremely fortunate, his family de.
mands will increase faster than his abil-
ity to meet them. Most self-made rich
1nen say the first thousand was the
1oAuCSC VI dill tuc1I WEALTH. ~ dCcumu-
late, so that a young man on an ordi-
nary salary, with a family on his hands
and no surplus earnings, will find it
very difficult to get this first thousand
| ahead.
Again, when one husband and wife
find stimulus and happiness in build
ing up success inch by inch, another
couple would be constantly chafed apd
irritated by poverty and it's depriva'
tons, and so wreck life in an endeavo1
to procure the wherewithal to live. II
is worse still wher only one of mar.
ried pair feels this Impotence of condi
tions and the irritation from curtail
ment of expense.
We must, then, conclude that
whether early marriage binders OF
helps success depends upon three things
the mental and material needs of the
individual, his ability to provide salts.
| factory home conditions and his choice
of a mate. These conditions being prop.
erly met, early marriage is undoubted
.]y, in large majority of cases, not a
hindrance, but an immense help to sue.
cess.-Success.
TNHSAY