Burlington weekly free press. [volume] (Burlington, Vt.) 1866-1928, 1898-10-27

There are people who stand up in prayer
meetings and pray like angels who at
homo are uncompromising and cranky.
You may not have everything just as you
want It, Sometimes 1t will be the duty
of the husband and sometimes of the vito
to yield but both stand punctiliously on
your rights, and you will havo n Waterloo
with no Butcher coming up at nightfall to
decide the conflict
Acknowledge Wrong.
Never he ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic affairs.
Lot that be law of your household. Tho
best thing / ever heard of my grandfather,
whom l never saw, was this: That once,
having unrightcously rebuked one of his
children, no himself having lost his pa
thence and perhaps having been misin-
formed of the childs doings, found out
his mistake, and in tho evening of tho
same day gathered all his family together
and said; "Now, l have one explanation
to mako and one thing to say. Thomas,
this morning rcbuked you very unfairly.
l am very sorry for it, l rebuked you in
the presence of the whole family, and now
| ask your forgiveness in their presence"
1t must have taken some courage to do
that II was right, was it not? Never DO
ashamed to apologize for domestic inaccu-
racy. Find out the points, what are tho
weak points, If l may call them so, of your
companion and then stand aloof from
them DO not carry the fire of your tom
per too near the gunpowdCr. II tho wife
be easily frcttcd by disorder in tho house
hold, let the husband be careful where no
throws his slippers. If the husband como
homo from the store with his patience cx-
haustcd do not let the wife unnecessarily
cross his temper, hut both stand up for
your rights, and I will promise the ever
lasting sound of the warwhoop. Your lfo
will be spent in making up, and marriage
will b. to you an unmitigated curse. Cow
per said:
Tao kindcst and the happicst pair
Will find occasion to furbcar
And something, every day they live.
To pity ana perhaps forgive
advise also that you make your chief
pleasure circle around about that home.
1t is unfortunate when it is otherwise II
the husband spend tho most of his nights
away from home, of choice and not of
necessity, he is not the head of the house
hold; he is only the cashier. If the wifo
throw the cares Of the household into tho
servants lap and then spend five nights
of tho week at the opera or thcator, sho
may Cl 'ta hc' children with satins and
lace and re-: rH that would confound a
! French mllincr, but they are orphans 1t
Is sad when child has no one to say its
prayers to because mother has gono off to
the evening entertainment! In India they
bring children and throw them to tho
crocOdllcs and 1t seems very cruel, but
the jaws Of social dissipation are swallow
ing down more little children today than
all the monsters that ever crawlcd upon
/ the banks Of the Gangps.
Goddess Firesidcs.
l have seen the sorrow Of goddess
| mother on the death of n child she had
| neglected. 1t was not SO much grief that
/ she felt from the fact that the child was
dead as the fact that she had neglected It,
/ She said "If had only watched over and
/ cared for the child know God would not
! have taken it" Tho tears came not 1t
/ was u dry, blistcring tempcst--a scorch-
ing simeon of the desert When she wrung
| her hands, IL seemed as If she would twist
! her fingers from their sockets; when she
seized her hair, it seemed rs If she had in
wild terror grasped coiling serpent with
. her right hand No tears Comrades of
! the little one came in and wept over tho
coffin, neiRhbors came in, and tho mo-
mcnt they saw the still face of tho child
/ the shower broke. No tears for her. God
gives tears as the summer rain to tho
parched soul, but in all tho universe tho
driest and hottest, the most scorching and
consuming thing is mothers heart if sho
has neglected her child, when once it is
dead. God may forgive her, hut sho will
never forgive herself Tho memory will
sink tho eyes deeper into the sockets and
I pinch the face and whitcn tho hair and
eat up the heart with vultures that will
not be sat ~ u forever plunRing deeper
their iron beaks. Oh, you wan aerers from
your home go back to your duty Tho
| brightest flowers in all the earth are those
which grow in the garden of n Christian
! household, clambcring over the porch of u
! Christian home.
advise you also to cultivate sympathy
of occupation Sir James Mcintosh, ono
of tho most eminent and elegant men that
ever lived, while standing at the very
height of his cminence, said TO great
company Of scholars, My wife made mo "
The wife ought to be the advising partner
in every firm She ought to be Interested
in all the losses and gains of shop and
store, She ought to have right she has
q right-to know everything. II man
goes into u business transaction that he
dare not tell his VIE Of you may depend
that he is on the way either to bankruptcy
or moral ruin, There may be some things
which he does not wish to trouble his wife
with, but if he dare not tell her he is on
the road to discontinue. On tho other
hand, the husband ought to be sympa-
thctic with the wife's occupation. 1t Is
no easy thing to keep house. Many wo-
man who could have endured martyrdom
MS well as Margaret the Scotch girl, has
actually been worn out by house manage
mont.
Kitchen Martyrs.
There arc / 1000 martyrs Of the kitchen
II Is very annoying after tho veXations of
the day around the stove or the register or
the table, or in the nursery or parlor to
have the husband say: You know moth
ing about trouble, You ought to be in
the store half an hour" sympathy of
occupation II the husbands work cover
him with tho SCOT Of the furnace, or the
odors of leather, Or soap factories, let not
the wife DO easily disguised at the be-
Rrimed hands or unsayory aroma Your
gains are one, your interests ARE one, your
losses arc one, Lay hold of the work of
life with both hands Four hands to fight
the battles; four eyes to watch for the
danger four shoulders on which to carry
tho trials. 1t is very sad thing when the
painter has wife who does not like pic
lures. 1t is very sad thing for a pianist
Whan she has n has band 'gho hoes .ot M.
music 1t Is worry sad thing when wife
Is not suited unless her husband has what