The Van Buren press., 1898-10-29
DONT,S FOR EVERY DAY.
Few Wise Remarks That Will HeAO
Us In Our Domestic
Duties.

Don't give elaborate dinners when
you have to strain a point. One good
rule is infallible for well-regulated
homes. Let each meal, even if SIM
pie one, have dishes of well-eooked
food, good in quality, and rich in
favor-so for the guest who is in
vited late the extra plate need be the
only addition.
Don't fail to give the caller who
comes from afar cup of good tea
with a cracker or thin slice of bread
and butter. True hospitality shows it.
self often in a simple rejection.
Don't talk continually about your
| husband-what he likes and what he
doesn't like; never discuss family mat
ters. In fact, they are of no interest
to anybody, and particularly to other
women, who are engrossed with their
own.
Don't, when writing letter, cross
and recross the pages; a dancing up
and down of words which the reader
tries in vain to decipher. Number
y Jul 0llNNAS VI lNltti BdBNis lHdA iSt
i the letter is long one, clearly and
distinctly, SO that the message to be
read proves pleasure instead of q
worry.
Don't condemn anybody on some
body else's hearsay, Judge for your
self, and never pass judgment until
you are fully certain of the ease as it
stands, and then take as good view
of the subject as possible. Charity is
the backbone of good form.
Don't fail to acknowledge an invita-
tion as soon as received. A tardy re-
sponse is sometimes objectionable.
Like in the answering of personal let
| ters, a few lines will often cover ques-
tions asked and desires expressed.
Don't fail to inclose a stamped en-
velope when an answer to n business
letter is required. In all such matters
it is necessary but not in private cor
respondence.
Don't fail in your duties as guest.
| They are many, and the visitor who
| wishes to be success should follow
rules which are easily recognized.
Don't, when visiting, take the hosts
chair, monopolize his desk, usurp his
morning paper and keep up a con-
tinual chatter as soon as he makes his
appearance. Busy men at the end of
the day like quiet, and the polite Wis
itor knows just when to speak and not
to speak.
Don't object to pleasures given you
during the visit.
Don't be late at meals or come down
when the meal is nearly finished.
Don't correct the children of your
hostess. Mothers resent this, and be-
sides it is none of your business.
Don't give orders to servants in
other peoples houses or ask questions.
Be deaf dumb and blind to any hap
penings of an unpleasant character.
Don't leave umbrellas, overshoes,
hats and coats everywhere. A visitor
without order who neglects to keep
her belongings in her own room is a
trial of the worst sort.
Don't gossip, repeat scandals and
tell anecdotes that disparage other
women. Let no man or woman be q
butt for your brilliancy, however in
teresting.
Don't entertain your friends with
the clever doings of your family Il
always becomes tiresome and dull,
Everyone, big and little, speaks for
himself, and very often clever children
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Don't fail in courtesies of any kind.
There are maXims of good breeding
and little rules which constitute the
foundation of good manners.-Phila-
delphia Times.