The evening times. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1895-1902, 1898-01-15
MUCH TO LEARN
FOR MOTHERS
MANY of Them Fail to Realize
Their Nursery Obligations.
while xCeedingly Fastidious About
the Home Appointments, They
Are Not Model HOu~ekeepers-

1t would be- rank injustice % attempt 10
attack the ne w-fasEiOned mother from
any particular standpoint. She Is well
worth understa nding. To understand her
we must look at her from all sides. In
some respects she Is a woman 90 excite
warmest euIogieS; In other respects she -
~ dIy lacking ia the qUalificati ons that -
iowa ri the completion Of perfect woman
hood.
She Ivesata time. says Dorothy Ma CdoN.
when temptations are many, when ions-
haad.dues,t strupe-atiye HerueIghhOrS are
ia ST livers. her friends are cons family dem
onstra ting their desire Co ourdi~taucr their
incomes.
DtSpIav is the watchword OF the mo-
ment. To be dropped To the Tear hy
tnusr who are IA the race for pre>iis"
is not To INV Iady's hiking. There - an
immense conflict going ON IA tie breast
OF the new "a shiousd mother. shall she
or snail she not allow common sense
u act a. her me ntoT.
our modem mother Is a dainty soul,
with notions artistICally correct. We
owe To her an advancement IN home
making that IL ideal. she has reduced
this mart OF ner existence to science
Matters in her well-regulated mansiOn
move with clOck-Hke precision she has
M patience with anything les perfect
IN the way Of system.
So rasthiaus has she become that only
the most faultieSS service, the most
fauItIess dress, the most faultless daily
routine meets with her appreciation, and
for these luxuries she must pay gOO0ly
sum. In the pa wing there is trouble,
wrangIes, perhaps. with her husband,
sIeepless nights for herself. and as for
her offspring long. long before they have
reached manhood or wornanhOOd, they are
saturated with extravagant schemes. the
carving out OF which is calculated to
work deal of mischief.
These children are satiated- they are
blasa, they are peSsiinistic. You may
hear the boys flinging out cynical re-
marks at the world at large. while their
sisters cons ider it extremely smart to
indulge ia platit udes that viii dstonish
their elders.
The old-fa ShiOned uOther was model
housakeeper. and her home -making LETT
nothing To Ice desired, for ii brought
into the family circle peace she took
great pride in her linen press IN her
store closet dainties, and here her eN-
travagance seemed to have an end SliI-
plicity ruled in other parts Of her do
main. she had her charities, but they
were not of such nature that home i'll
terest must De neglected TO fill them.
To the new fashioned mother We must
give credit for being a philanthrOpist.
In this pose she must of necessity leave
home affairs in hired hands. l have al
WAYS found that becoming hum1nity's
friend invariably necesSitates some one
shouIdering the home burdens passed by
in the Scuffle to accomplish outside work.
The new-fa shioned mother does not
appeal to me. because she does not appa-
rently realize her nursery Obliga tons.
In the long run, her children govern
mother instead of mothers governing the
children. She has no word of reprOOf
for her son when she hears him call his
father the ''old man. no fears for her
future peace when she finds her daugh-
tiers lacking in respect.
In the days of old fashioned mothers
the curb bit was used. There was not
only respect, but reverence. for parents.
Husba nds, too. allowed their wives to
WELD gentle influence. Extreme coUr-
tesy met the Old-fashioned wife's Opin-
ions This was natural, for men and
women in those times were not being as
sailed upon every hand by staggering
innuendoes directed against the marriage
tie.
The ne w-fashioned mother. with all her
progressiv eness, has much to learn. IL
only the oId-fashioned mother could be
come here teacher,