The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1898-09-19
THE MANAGEMENT OF WOMEN.

A correspondent, who says that he
diligently reads this column every Sat
urday, and who must, therefore, be a
person of much intelligence and dis
elimination, writes to ask why the ar
ticle on 1.-The Management of Men" has
not been followed by companion ar
| ticle on the management of women.
He doesn't see why women should be
| enlightened on such a subject while
men are left entirely in the dark.
, This is a very hattering sort of letter,
! but it ascribes to the present writer al
/ together too much experience and too
much confidence in his own omnisci-
ence. One doesn't mind setting forth
the whole theory Of constitutional in
depreciation or the whole art of literary
criticism in a single column of a daily
paper, but the most confident mind
may we'll shrink from attacking a sub
ject the very thought of which should
give the very boldest pause. Far be
it from me to have any opinions what
soever; or, at any rate to get myself
into trouble by writing them deliber-
ately down and printing them; for
some misguided person might think
they were of value and try to carry
them out; and then there would be
trouble, and he would come around
later and stop his subscription to the
paper.
Yet, though discretion precludes any
original observations on the subject
from being written here, there is no
reason why my correspondent should
not be gratified in another way by
reading some opinions drawn from
other and more competent authorities
So the present writer suggested the
question the other day to a very beau
tiful and clever woman, who is so very
feaff hot
eyes out of his head for a chance to
try to manage her The question
seemed to her very simple one. She
said that there were just two ways in
which a woman could be managed
The first way was for man to make
her feel from the very outset that she
had met her master-someone who
would not yield to her whims and
fancies, and who would impress her
with that sense Of power which is so
dear TO the heart of every woman. The
other way was for a man to become
her slave, to show her the intensest
devotion, to study her caprices, to graf
lily the most unreasonable of wishes,
and as against hers, to have no will of
his own whatever. In either way, she
said, woman can be managed, and
there is no other way
This ought to be authoritative, but
when one comes to think it over. and
when he tries to imagine a case where
he would put it into practice, somehow
or other ii does not seem entirely sat
isfactory TO the meditative mind. Take
the first part of it, for instance. which
declares that the best way to manage
woman is make her feel your mas
terry. That seems a little like Horace
Greeley's famous dictum that the best
way to resume species payments was to
resume; for 1t certainly means that the
best way to manage a woman is just
to manage her, and, therefore, it does
not exactly illuminate the darkling
mind of man. How is he going to make |
her feel his mastery? p And suppose she
doesn't feel it, what then? That is the
trouble with all these little formulas.
They tell you very pleasantly what you |
are to do, but they keep uD a, most |
painful silence as to how you are to |
DO it. There was a very pretty little I
poem on this subject, which appeared |