The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-08-14

that still another was better. She n1I1IeI
the boy around by the arm talking in
cessantly, until finally he refused ~
move at all. Then a friendly neigbbo-
decided that she would come to the resc,,,
and offered her broad lap as a seat TO-
the small boy That was the LAST straw,
Sit in woman's lap in a public carl Of
course he wouldn't, and he struggled
Nainly, but with an effort on the part ~
the mother and neighbor he was made Ia
sit down, looking miserable and unhannv,
Did you see that?" said one woman
who had been looking on to another
boy?" '''a'
Do" said the other woman, holly and
perhaps thinking of the story books If
her youth "Id jump off the car ana RIM
away to sea"
But the boy was not old enough 10 pat
so far away from the parental hand but
when, in few years. he does. the moth
er will never understand WHY her kind
ness has been so strangely repaid.
When was learning the way In which
L was expected to act as grown-up per-
son, remarked. says the New York Sun a
woman who had already reached the stasa
that was marked by white hair and tba
generous lines of a dOwagers figure. III
was always impressed upon me that what
ever e!se might happen, I must keep nv
elbows off the table. There was little dan
ger that [ would eat with my knife. One
or two warnings usually rid a child of any
tendency toward that habit I got over 4
soon enough to have no recollection Of
any prolonged training in that direction
But the elbow question was a more Sc
rious one. l had to be reminded of nv
weakness in that direction. My subse-
quent triumph was bought only after a
struggle. But it did come ultimately. and
conscious of my own strength l aad a
pity for persons who had not learned the
lesson as l had In childhood. But there
were very few opportunities for me to ex-
hibit this sympathy. l never saw anybody
put their elbows on the table at any time.
Il quite as unknown as TO find any
body eating with a knife. So, in common
with other persons who received their
breeding at the time l did elbows on the
table went down with the knife as one Of
the objectionable crimes of dining room
etiquette.
But l have learned within recent years
that l was wrong about all that. There
is not the slightest breach of the best table
manners in sitting through a dinner with
ones elbows on the table, so long as
the arms above and below them happen to
begong to a woman. If they are bare it is
highly probable that they will remain on
the dining table during two-thirds of the
meal. That, indeed, is the distinctly
smart attitude at large dinners, and the
girl who fails at some time during the
dinner TO lean on the table with her head
in her hands and stare or smile at the man
opposite has completely failed to take adj
vantage of one of the most effective din
ner tricks known to the girls of to-day
1t is even possible to hold a wine glass IN
the hands, and, with the elbows on the ia
BILE, sip it slowly, but that is a little diff
cult and needs practice.
''Duse used TO do that in the final act of
Camille and ii was very fetching. But
beginners should be cautious about trying
it. With both elbows on the table and the
arms stretched out directly in front of her
a girl may toy with a piece of bread, talk
to the man next 10 her. and make a very
piquant tableau. She should never fail to
get her elbows on the table several times
during dinner, and if the arms are pretty
the effect is of course, very much better.
But in evening dress they are sure to vary
attractively the monotony of the attitudes
at a dinner, whatever their particular
qualities are Dinner in a restaurant or
luncheon offers the same opportunities. OF
course, il is scarcely worth while for them
10 do anything of this kind at home, SO
there is no use for considering the oppor-
tunities for il there.
zone thing must always be borne IN
mind Elbows on the table can still be vul-
gar. That is the result when the arms rise
horizontally on the table with the elbows
pointing out. That is as much bad form
to-day as 1t was fifteen years ago, and
fashionable society could attempt that with
propriety. The elbows must rest on the Ia
bic only when the arms are vertical
zone other change has come about which
seemed violation of something l had been
taught in the past, although 1t is looked
upon now as a perfectly permissible prac-
tice, even If it has not the sanction OF fash
ion. Not long ago 1 saw a woman in Def
monico's using a toothpick most ostenta-
tiously. She was almost defiant in the way
she fourished 1t about. knew her, knew
that she was not a woman who could pos
sibly be ignorant of what was proper and
wondered When l am in the dark about
these matters l consult my children. 80
asked one of my daughters when l got
home that night how in the world Mrs.
happened to be using a toothpick like that
in public when it was supposed to be some
thing that was usually confined to the prl-
vacy of a woman's room. 'Oh, that's done
everywhere now, she said to me. Last
summer at Hamburg the Prince OF Wales
used one regularly on the piazzc and mace
the waiter bring him one. 1t took sohS
time and after that he came TO the restau-
rant always with a little gold one that I'M
screwed like pencil ana could be carried
in his vest pocket. He uses IL always III
public and so do the English people VINO
copy him. The Americans who go to Lon
don regularly saw that and imported the
custom to let it be seen that they knew
set
THAT did not serve to quiet my own
misgivngs as 10 propriety, but 1t heiped
to explain what l had heard about fasn-
ionable amateur who went to the opera az
WAYS with a gold toothpick and seemed u
enjoy it, 1t also helped me TO realize that
manners change"
1.-THE most healthful and agreeable bath
is that of tepid water writes Ruin ASH
more in the Ladies' Home Journal. re"
people can stand absolutely cold baths anu
no matter how strong one may be sueh
bath should not be INDUCED in unless
thorough rubbing be taken afterWaru' -
speak plainly, it must be remembered tIde
while a cold bath may be more or less
invigorating it is not cleansing eau
easily understand the desire OF every
woman to have a clear beautiful skin pue
| confess to being provoked when IhlHN
of the amount of money spent on lotious'
Dreams and DOWders 70 be applied eXJei-