The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-12-11

iShus upon The circumstances of the mo-
n1eht whether a hand is extended or a
bow given.
Inc difficulty Of knowing whether to
snake hands or not, says a writer in The
We" orleans Picayune. arises when first
4HtIouuctlons are made and again at sub
sequent meetings between ladies' bur re-
Gently introduced to each other and on
many like occasions, such as when strang-
ers are brought in contact with each other
Wheh staying ia a country house together.
or at afternoon parties, dinner parties. and
so on.
rms question of when to shake hands
wholly relates to the foregoing situations.
and is outside of the handshaking GUS
tomary between friends to which no refer
ence need be made, as they shake hands
with each other on meeting as a natter-of-
course, and again on parting with this
reservation, that at a second meeting on
the same day the act of shaking hands
is not repeated
The term shaking hands is still in
Use for want of better one, but as far
as the word shaking is concerned it is
almost a misnomer, and taking the
hand would be a more explicit express
sion 20 apply to the fashion of the pres
ent day When an introduction is made
between two ladies'. whether they shake
hands or not is determined by side issues.
Generally speaking, the received rule is
not to do so, but only to bow, but chen
follows all the various exceptions that
induce ladies introduced to do otherwise;
that is to say to shake hands at once
When a girl is introduced TO a married
lady, for instance, by a mutual friend
the married lady may or may not shake
hands with the girl; she probably win do
so if she is good-natured, but she is not
certain to evince this amount of cordi-
atty; but If the Introduction is made by
a relative of the girl the married lady
does not hesitate to shake hands but in
neither case would the grl take the initi-
alive of shaking hands.
When a man is introduced to a lady
again, the exception in favor of shaking
hands come in as against not doing so; for
instance, if the man introduced is the hus-
band or the brother of the lady making the
introduction 1t would be very natural 10
shake hands with him, almost Imperative
ly so; but We're he mere acquaintance t
would be most unusual to shake hands
with him on first introduction After a lit
tie short and desultory conversation has
taken place between two ladies or between
lady and gentleman just introduced 90
each other, the doubt arises whether they
are expected to shake hands on taking
their departure, neither do they shake
hands at future chance meetings should
they occur, unless meetings under excep-
tionally favorable circums stances for pro.
noting acquaintance, at the houses of mu-
tual friends and at social functions, etc On
the other hand, a hostess shakes hands
with any and every guest brought to her
house by her friends. She does SO on their
arrival and on their departure and again
at any subsequent meeting, if she happens
to recollect them, which is not always GER
tain to be the case
As regards dinner guests when a gentle
man is introduced to a lady for the pur-
pose of taking her in to dinner she does
not shake hands with him, but merely bows
and however Wen they may have got on
together during dinner she does not shake
hands with him later on in the evening
when taking her departure. Indeed. the
opportunity seldom occur1 for even bowling
to him. AT a second meeting bows only arc
! interchanged, and it very much depends
| upon circumstances whether the acquaint-
ance ripeRs into a shaking hands one or
| ceases altogether.
Very little Misunderstanding occurs between
| guests staying at d country house; they
do not do so on first introduction by their
| hostess, neither when separat ling on the
first evening when good night is said,
nor on coming down to breakfast. They
shake hands with their hostess each morn
ing and evening, occasionally with their
! host in the morning. and generally so in
! the evening, and if they become interested
in each other and inclined to be friendly
they shake hands when the before men
toned good nights are said.
One of the most helpful qualities for the
winning of success, says a New York
Tribune writer, is that ability which en-
ables one to take philosophically what
one can get if one cannot get what one
wants That is, to be contented with sec
ond best if the best is unattainable.
How much more sensible Miss Smith
| is than Miss Brown" said one matron
to another, speaking of a couple of deb
utantes. "The former does not strive to
keep in the most exclusive set, where
she would be a nonentity, but she is cor
dial and agreeable to every one, and there
fore has a beautiful time while Miss
Brown on the other hand thinks only the
| smartest people are worth knowing; con-
! sequently when she goes to a big ball
she is a wallhower, while Miss Smith has
partners in plenty" 1t is certainly hard
to be sufficiently philosophic to carry this
principle into every day practice, although
to desire the unattainable is worse than
foolish and to know our limitations and
to act accordingly insures a certain
amount of success.
Young people especially cannot help feel
ing, for the time being at least, that the
second best, or what they consider the
best, iss not worth the taking, and so
opportunities are lost which can never
be regained.
1t has long been a question with women
and matter of anxiety, just what to do
with their pocket handkerchiefs nova
| days. Even the new woman must have
a handkerchief, but the new woman's gown
is fashioned with but little regard for the
safe keeping of this very necessary arti-
Gle of apparel.
The tight-fitting skirt permits of no old
time bullying and handy pockets. Such an
introduction into the sheathhke fit of the
fashionable skirt would be something en-
tirely unheard of and unbelievable, and
yet so far no one seems TO have contriv-
ed a substitute for the necessary square
Of linen which must be carried by rich
and poor alike.
Some maidens contracted the habit OF
tuckiug the dainty fimsy, lace trimmed