Connecticut western news., 1898-10-27
Hong weIIY I'have watonsu suoh eases,

Hong well? have wat6hsu such cases, and have come to conclusion. In the first instance nothing seemed to go and after awhile there came Ro devastation, domestic disaster or es- arrangement. Why? They started wrong. In the other case, although there were hardships and trials and some things that had to be explained, still things went on pleasantly until the very last. Why? They started right.
 The Angel In the House.
 My second advice to you in your home is to exercise to the very last possibil ity of your nature the law of forbear- ance. Prayers in the household will not make up for everything. Some of the best people in the world are the hardest to get along with. There are people who stand up in prayer meetings and pray like angels who at home are un- compromising and cranky. You may not have everything just as you want it. Sometimes it will be the duty of the husband and sometimes of the wife to yield, but both stand punotiliously on your rights, and you will have a Waterloo with no Butcher coming up at nightfall to decide the conflict.
 Never be ashamed to apologize when you have done wrong in domestic af fairs. Let that be a law of your house. hold. The best thing ever heard of my grandfather, whom I never saw, was this, that once having unrighteously re- buked one of his children, he himself having lost his patience, and, perhaps having been misinformed of the ohild's doings, found out his mistake and in the evening of the same day gathered all his family together and said: "Now, I have one explanation to make and one thing to say. Thomas, this morning I rebuked you very unfairly. I am very sorry for it. rebuked you in the pres ence of the whole family, and now I ask your forgiveness in their presence. It must have taken some courage to do that. It was right, was it not? Never be ashamed to apologize for domestic inaccuracy. Find out the points-what are the weak points, if may call them so, of your companion, and then stand aloof from them. Do not carry the fire of your temper too near the gunpowder. If the wife be easily fretted by disorder in the household, let the husband be careful where he throws his slippers. If the husband come home from the store with his patience exhausted, do not let the wife unnecessarily cross his temper, but both stand up for your rights, and I will promise the everlast- ing sound of the warwhoop. Your life will be spent in making up, and mar riage will be to you an unmitigated curse. Cowper said:
 The kindest and the happiest pair
 Will find occasion to forbear
 And something, every day they live.
 To pity and perhaps forgive.
 I advise, also, that you make your chief pleasure circle around about that home. II is unfortunate when it is oth- erwise. If the husband spend the most of his nights away from home of choice and not of necessity, he is not the head of the household. He is only the cashier. If the wife throw the cares of the house. hold into the servants lap and then spend five nights of the week at the opera or theater, she may clothe her children with satins and laoes and rib. bons that would confound a French milliner, but they are orphans. It is sad when child has no one to say it's prayers to because mother has gone off to the evening entertainment In India they bring children and throw them to the crocodiles, and it seems very cruel, but the jaws of social dissipation are swallowing down more little children today than all the monsters that ever crawled upon the banks of the Ganges.
 have seen the sorrow of goddess mother on the death of child she had neglected. It was not so much grief that she felt from the fact that the child was dead as the fact that she had neglected it. She said, "If I had only watched over and cared for the child, know God would not have taken it. y The tears came not; it was dry, blis- tering tempest-a scorching simoom of the desert. When she wrung her hands, it seemed as if she would twist her fin gers from their sockets when she seized her hair, it seemed as if she had, in wild terror, grasped a coiling serpent with her right hand. No tears Com over the coffin; neighbors came in and the moment they saw the still face of the child the shower broke. No tears for her God gives tears as the summer rain to the parched soul, but in all the universe the driest and hottest, the most scorching and consuming thing, is a mothers heart if she has neglected her child, when once it is dead. God may forgive her, but she will never forgive herself. The memory will sink the eyes deeper into the sockets, and pinch the face and whiten the hair and eat up the heart with vultures that will not be satisfied, forever plunging deeper theiI iron beaks. Oh, you wanderers from your home, go back to your dutyl The brightest flowers in all the earth are those which grow in the garden of 6 Christian household, clambering ovel the porch of Christian home.
 The Wife Made Man.
 advise you also to cultivate sympa thy of occupation. Sir James Mcintosh, one of the most eminent and elegant men that ever lived, while standing al the very height of his eminence, said tC great company of scholars, My wife made me-" The wife ought to be thu advising partner in every firm. Sht ought to be interested in all the lossei and gains of shop and store. She ough to have a right-she has right-tt know everything. If a man goes into { business transaction that he dare no tell his wife of, you may depend tha he is on the way either to bankruptcy or moral ruin. There may be some things which he does not wish to trouble his wife with, but if he dare not tel her, he is on the road to discontinue On the other hand, the husband ough
 to be sympathetic with the wife's occu patton. It is no easy thing to keeI
 house. Many woman who could hay,