The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-10-30
IKE REPOSE IN WOMEN.
,,-x DrTEsr FUSsINEss Ann lack or
VIDA ~COMP0SURE.

,isr Nose-woman's Fancy Waistcoat.
.u ,bsro is one quality that mar likes more
another in woman. It is that OF repose."
that's q pointer which a woman OF the world
% tvn other women as they seated them
sslves In q Fifth avenue tea-room one alter
noon recently.
III mon A." she went on. after giving her order
y. . waitress. You're both too fretful and
go and pdgety In your mannerto please men.
W. value peace OF mind and body above every
,niOe else on earth. Now. I am not surprised
M,t Won should not have yet acquired the
t.h,t n repose." looking the younger OF her
~mnonions. a girl barely out OF her teens.
s,r,Irtt In the eyes. but you" turning 70 the
s.hsr a matron nearly out Of the thifties,
Son,bt To have learned better long ago. No
-Onder your husband wears a sad expression.
: ,lways fee! sorry from the very bottom
:, nv heart for q man who Is associ-
,.,,,.d in his daily life with a woman who
i,sts repose. You know nothing succeeds
Tts success; nothing makes happiness like
hsnriness. or discomfort like discomfort; 90
"o,hinp begets aud invokes repose like repose.
one absolutely reposefnl woman can do moro
" make things run smoothly. III with little
~ no friction for those with whom her life
.omss IN touch than all the gods ever set mp by
nan Haven't you two ever noticed how men.
,i,ar they arrive at q sensible age. seek women
who are restfulf"
ayes. I've noticed that" answered the
u,tron hastily. but l never ,.ould culti-
y,ts repose. That has to be born in
onc. It's a talent, and unfortunately did
mt fall to my lot. 1 came into the world with
nervous. sensitive temperament. and I can't
toep still five minutes. II my body 10 at rest
nv mind Is uneasy. I do not know what II 10 to
feel absolutely calm. and Ned says 1 almost
drive him to drink fussing around. as he puts
II. You see. I'm volatile. vivacious and. ac-
ooniine to him, vexatious. but I can't help II. I"
''DId rou ever try ?" asked the older woman.
NO" answered the other. because I knew
there was no use fighting fate. My mother
MAYER had any repose Of manner. 90 how could
lhope to have any 7"
That's Just the way with nine women out
Of tan" said the monitor in an indignant tone.
Instead Of cultivating rest OF mind. tran
ouWitJ, freedom from uneABiness. q composed
manner and bearing. and they all mean repose.
they cit back and calmly say that they can't,
Doyou mean to tell me that this dear girl here
cannot acquire a quiet. restful ann that
will win every man in sight2 Look at her now
She Ia tanning herself vigorously. though this
room istoo cool for comfort; she hasn't stopped
tapping her foot on the floor since we sat down
at this table. and she's 30 impatient because
there is SOM delay about filing our order that
she can scarcely contain herself. You are
ready to Jump out Of yours skin. aren't you"
Yes. I am" admitted the girl. "and I feel
that way the best part Of the time and utterly
without ransom. too. I'm not warm and
s.n,Su1t GO m" no. ton ron -hU ~" I'D nv
self out tanning. and Il wouldn't matter II I
stayed here until the place closed. 40 there IL
SVa'eu ~ @ NS 80. s'nSa,oa.
tnot being promptly served. Ioonfess frankly
that I'd give ANYTHING TO get over this inhar-
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butler and two mattresses in our dining room.
and vet I often ret 90 nervous or 40 somethine
,s.t 7 - - "a 1910 ther ~. oma-
thing for myself. II you could see the'ooks
that 1 get from my father and brothers on such
DIVISIONS you'd wonder how I eYer ret up
man q; he world. in a cSonfdfne voice.
h.1 trump card for any woman to play who
KEEN Hssp x *. aeT r IoseE posse nsen' I Sog So u a4e sh morf tho se
waters q the fountain q youth, orr an the com
do. And Il Is such a comfort TO be %reposefui
The composed. calm woman alWays comes
out first hest In any difiouIty. and there IL
sHPh a feeling OF satisfaction IN having kent
Quiet when a storm Is over. When / was
young | didn't have an atom OF tranuuillify
In my congestion. NV pettish. fussy. erratjc.
unexpected ways were al funny and amusing
enough to older men when I was still ouite
young, and attractive enough to younger ones
Tor me to be quite a belle. but as [ Tnoyed along
toward the t6irtieth notch in nv iife I nofIced
that | had very little attention from man
young or old. An old woman who was n heIle
up tot the day she died gave me the ciIIe 10 nv
was a briiSbt iptsIIiSnnt S1 interastin 1oukh
explained thai men. Alter EeacbinI = certain
age. cared only for women who could rise
S TSM s Cne petty ann3yances OF everyday HE:
transport themseIyes aeb6Ve the comm opDIsns;
hippeninRS that do not really matter or that
SHllHRUs really oe helped, and she advised me to
few months nonCIpdsd Yth n, most T 9nI, enu d I'M y .
iIE their life. have a great many troubles. most
NJ sn npn heVer happen: } success or fall
and tell U yo nfff from sHnariar Cs Am me fha moo
who are quiet and composed are the most sue
Cesslnl women In the home. In society, and In
tHe workaday world. Philosophers tell us
i,hat real power is In silent moments, and take
Htthat means tranquil moments"
But repose suppresses the spirits, enthusI-
Not at ALL" answered its advocate. ct
mlnt. a tranquil demeanor intensiles the sense
menloyment. / know IL has In nv case. and
certainly gives man a chance to enjoy more
s1n suffer less In his daily life, The earning Of
livelihood for q family Is no small underfnk-