Connecticut western news., 1898-12-22

\ HIlbHlitr tiIe OppuSltlun tu0 BrduuOA triumph when you have conquered. I There is flower in Siberia that blooms only in January, the severest month of | that cold climate. It is a star shaped flower and covered with glistening | speoks that look like diamonds. A Rus ' sian took some of the seeds of that | flower to St. Petersburg and planted them, and they grew, and on the coldest day of January they pushed back the snow and ice and burst into full bloom. They called it the "snow flower," and it makes me think of those whom the world tries to freeze out and snow un- der, but who, in the strength of God, push through and up and out and bloom in the hardest weather of the worlds cold treatment, starred and radiant with beauty given only to those who find life struggle and turn it into vic tory.
 Again, if you would master the situ- ation, when angry do not utter word or write letter, but before you speak a word or write word sing verse of some hymn in a tune arranged in minor key and having no staccato passages. | If very angry, sing two verses. If in positive rage, sing three verses. First of all, the unhealthiest thing on earth is to get mad. It jangles the nerves en- 1 larges the spleen and sets the heart into a wild humping. Many man and many woman has in time of such mental and physical agitation dropped dead. Not only that but it makes ene- mics out of friends, and makes enemies more virulent, and anger is partial or consummate suicide. Great attorneys, understanding this, have often won their cause by willfully throwing the opposing counsel into a rage. There is ons man you must manage or one wom- an you must control in order to please God and make life success, and that is yourself. There are draw bridges to every castle by which you may keep out of your nature foreign foes, but no man has a defense against himself unless it be divine defense. Out of the millions of the human race there is only one person who can do you permanent and everlasting harm, and that is the being that walks under your own hat and in your own shoes.
 The Conquest of Self.
 The hardest realm that you will ever have to govern is the realm between your scalp and heel. The most danger ous cargo ship can carry is dynamite, and the most perilous thing in one's na- ture is an explosive temper. If your na- ture is hopelessly irascible and tempestu- ous, then dramatize plaoidity. If the ship is on fire and you cannot extin- guish the flames, at any rate keep down | the matches. When at some injustice inflicted upon you or some insult offer l ed or some wrong done, the best thing for you to say is to say nothing, and the best thing for you to write is to write nothing. If the meanness done you is unbearable or you must express yourself or die, then I commend plan that have once or twice successfully adopted. Take sheet of paper. Date it at your home or offioe Then put the wrong. doer's name at the head of the letter page, without any prefix of Colonel or suffix of ID. D." and begin with no term of courtesy, but bold and abrupt "Sir." Then follow it with a statement of the wrong he has done you and of the indignation you have felt. Put into | it the strongest terms of execration you can employ without being profane. Sign your name to the red hot epistle. Fold it. Envelop it. Direct it plainly to the man who has done you wrong. Garry the letter week, or two weeks if need be. and then destroy it. In Gods name destroy it. I like what Abraham Lin | k1 oH l.. a(f. l That cabinet officer had been belied and misrepresented until in fury he wrote letter of arraignment to his enemy, and in tersest possible phraseology told him what he thought of him. The cabi net officer read it to MT. Lincoln and asked him how he liked it. MT. Lin coin replied: "It is splendid for sarcasm and scorn. never heard anything more I complete in that direction. But do you 1 think you can afford to send it?" That calm and wise and Christian interroga- tion of the president stopped the letter, and it was never sent Young man, be- | fore you get far on in life, unless you are to be an exception among men, you will be wronged, you will be misinter- preted, you will be outraged. All your sense of justice will be in conflagration. Let me know how you meet that first great offense, and I will tell you wheth- CT your life is to be a triumph or fail ure. You see, equipoise at such time means so many things. It means self control. It means capacity to foresee results. It means a confidence in your own integrity. It means faith in the 1 Lord God that he will see you through.
 Again, if you would be master of the situation put the best interpretation on the character and behavior of otheyp. Do not be looking for hypocrites ip churches, or thieving among domestic servants, or swindlers among business men, or malfeasance in office. There ts much in life to make men suspicious of others, and when that characteristic of suspicion becomes dominant man has secured his own unhappiness, and he has become an offense in all circles, re- ligious, commercial and political. The | man who moves for committee of in vestigation is generally moral dereliot. The man who goes with his nostrils in- f1ated trying to discover something mal- odorous is not a man, but a sleuth- houndl The world is full of nice people, generous people, people who are doing their best-good husbands, good wives, good fathers, good mothers, good off, cers of the law, good judges. good gov ernors, good state and national legis- lators, good rulers. Does some man growl out. "That has not been my ex- perience, and think just the opposite. We'll, my brother, am sorry for your aff1ictive circumstances, and that you had an unfortunate ancestry, and that you have kept such bad company and bad such discouraging environment. notice that after man has been mak- ing violent tirade against his fellow