The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 18??-19??, 1898-03-15
HOW A GENTLEMAN SHOULD
SMOKE.

NlES. JEFFERSON LAWS. NfhV" VI p1C
late President of the Confederacy, con-
tributes the following article to the New
York Journal:
The man who smokes is a much more
privileged person than he used to be.
Not so many years ago it was an I'M
Dardonable breach of etiquette for 4
man to smoke in the presence Of a wu-
man. no matter what the circumstances.
IF he did so he was stamped immc-
diately ill-bred.
Since then times have changed. So
ciety lis more @lenient to the smoker.
In these modern days a man may
smoke in a woman's presence and yet
still lay claims to the honorable title Of
gentleman.
In his own home he may alternate
slipping his after dinner coffee with a
puff at a good cigar and he may smoke
while reading his evening paper. even
if he is in the presence of his wife and
daughters. but always with their per-
mission. But no matter how inveterate
a smoker he may be. there are certain
rules of etiquette which he must OBJ
serve even with his own family.
The man who smokes at breakfast is
not to be tolerated. 1t is not only UNI
| wholesome for him to do so. but impro-
per and impolite.
No man should be allowed to smoke
in a nursery or a bedroom. Neither
should he smoke in the drawing room,
not only for the the sake of protecting
tie curtains and pOrtleres, but because
it is not the proper place for smoking.
In MS own den he may smoke to his
hearts content, but never IN the room
| where guests are received.
No man in his own home should talk
to any member of the family with Il
cigar in his mouth, neither shOuld he
carclessly blow the smoke III their faces.
SO much for the etiquette of smoking
in ones own home.
In public the man who smokes must
be more restricted if he aims to be
proper and polite.
A man should never walk with a wo-
man on the street while - liking. Meth
er should he bow to a woman with a
cigar in his mouth.
1t seems almost needless to say he
should never smoke in Il closed carriage
when taking a young woman and her
chaperone to a dance.
The question Of Il mans smoking after
coming out of the threatre when accom-
panied by q young man alone. and the
young man who smokes on the street
when acting as escort to Il young woman
and her chaperOne may be quite conf
dent that he will never have an oppor-
tunity to act in that capacity again.
On the other hand, i'll less formal So
cicty a man may. with the permission of
the young woman. smoke when with
her on the street in the evening if they
happen to be old and particularly good
friends, but think to grant the permits
SION Is an error Of judgment. and So
Getty would never sanction such an ac-
ton. 1t is not only improper and inn
polite but decidedly rude for q man to
! come out Of the theatre with a young
woman and stop to light a cigarette on
the way to the cab. while she stands I'M
protected until the cigarette is lighted.
Many men do this and it is no wonder it
is offensive to women.
In regard to Il man smoking with his
coffee at n table d'hote dinner. when
accompanied by a young woman he may
always do SO after first asking her per
mission. The fact hat he is dining 4
lone at a public restaurant with a youn.
woman. however. is sufficient to prove
that neither belongs to the society where
the rules of etiquette are rigidly en-
forced.
1t is improper and impolite for a young
woman to dine with a young man at q
public restaurant without a chaperone
In calling pol a young woman, no
man who knows the first principles OF
good behavior would hin of e~nterin.
the house with a cigar in his mouth.
Men should never smoke in a drawing
room when calling upon women in for.
NAL society.
But when making an Informal call OF
when a man is spending the evening with
his sweetheart he may smoke with he
PERMISSION, and if she is an up-to-dat,
girl perhaps she may choose to join hin
ny taking a puff or two at Il cigarett,
OF her own, but | question if the mar
will find his admiration for her increas
ed by this act OF good fellowship.
, Though in Europe the woman VIII,
| smokes rs considered good form. here il
America she is not as vet regarded i
= the same light. The fact that the Prin