The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1898-06-09
AS TO EARLY MARRIAGE.
Whether 1t IL II Help or HindrAnce
Depends Very Largely on
circumstances.

1t depends upon a NUMBER OF tD1nSS.
To make one rule lit all cases would be
impossible. Indeed. the numerous and
excellent answers to this question re-
ceived by Success, differing so widel:
in their import, have, like the verdict
Of the travellers concerning the channel
con, "all been right and all been
wrong.
There are occasionally men TO whom
home restraints and home require
ments would be exceedingly irksome,
even detrimental. They are. by ''every
implication of their being" free lances
free to roam from land to land, from
city to city, from house to house. or to
bury themselves in laboratories. or lit
erary dens. or other places where they
can be let absolutely alone. Their wan
behring's, and the things pertaining to
them. or their experiments and burrow
ings. are all they care for. Love would
be to them only secondary cousidera-
ton. the care of a family q nuisance.
For men of this type to marry, early
or late. would be a hindrance. because
their natural inclinations and habits
would cause friction and unhappiness;
things which are utterly demoralizing
to success.
Their are. on the other hand many
Young men, and perhaps more women.
whose hearts are. by isolation. want of
sympathy, loneliness, and lack of com
Portable living, SO dissatisfied that
brains and hands refuse to do their
potential best; ard. in their restless
ness. these people spend money need
lessly on many things which have in
them a possible temporary satisfaction.
or which render thought impossible for
a time. People of this type. if rightly
mated, find in marriage their highest
happiness and most efficient help.
To majority of people a feeling of
being settled is necessary to success
Very few men can have this feeling
without a home. The student or clerk
has his room or his den: the military
officer has his quarters: the sea captain
his cabin: the herGsman. his ranch: as
scciated men have their clubs. societies
and lodges: but. without a woman.
home is practically unknown.
Few single men save their earnings.
During their bachelor days. they are
liable to form expensive and careless
habits. and to keep bad company all
Of which means not Only a scattering
OF dollars. but duIling of the brain
power and hand power by which dol
lars are earned. Such men need a neu-
Trailing influence, countermag net
which will draw and keep them away
from demoralizirg haunts. This mag
net is usually found in wife and home.
II should never have saved a dollar had
not had wife's trust. encouragement
and counsel and the hope of home be-
fore my eyes," said young man to
the writer.
young man who takes wife before
he is able to support her puts himself
in very doubtful position as regards
great success in life: for unless he is
cNtremcly fortunate. his family de-
mands will increase faster than his abiI-
ity to meet them. Most self-made rich
linen say the first thousand was the
hardest Of all their wealth 20 accum,l-
late, so that Il Young man on an ordi-
nary salary. with family on his hands
and no surplus earnings, will find it
very difficult to get this first thousand
ahead.
Again, when one husband and wife
find stimulus and happiness in build
ing up success inch by inch. another
couple would be constantly chafed and
irritated by poverty and its Gepriva-
tons, and so wreck life in an endeavo!
to procure the Wherewithal to live. It
is worse still wher only one of mar
ried pair feels this imraticnce of condi-
tions and the irritation from curtai..
ment of expense.
We must. then. conclude that
whether early marriage binders or
helps success depends upon three things
the mental and material needs of the
individual, his ability to provide salts
factory home conditions and his choice
OF mate. These conditions being prop
erly met. carly marriage is ,lndoubted-
~ in large majority of cases not
h1ndrance. but an immense help to sue