The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1898-07-03
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had TEMPER AN UNHYGIENIC AND
UNAESTHETIC POSSESSION.
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She was talking to another girl who is
habitually amiable, but CHANGED to nettle
her friend, says a writer in the New York
Sun.
Il want you to understand that you can't
talk to me that way" exclaimed she of the
bad temper. I've a bad temper and I'm
proud OF it and I won't stand any nonsense.
tell you have bad temper"
That IS a self-evident fact" answered
the amiable girl, cheerfully 1--WE often
wondered why bad-tempered people take the
trouble to announce the fact. They always
do, you know"
That was like touching a match to kero-
sene. The bad-tempered girl got red in the
face, gasped, sputtered and made spec
tacle Of herself and it was just here that
the doctor came on the scene
Come, come. girls he said in the most
soothing tone, don't let us have any quar-
reling. Control your tempers, for every
time you allow them to control you, you
spoil your good looks and lessen, yes, ac-'
tually lessen, your chances of getting de-
sirable husband, and then, too, you injure
yourselves physically
rs that really true?" asked the amiable
girl interested, and the other began to cool
down.
oh, my. yes!' exclaimed the doctor.
bad temper is really responsible for more
old maids than a lack Of desire on the part
OF man to marry"
This remark was too much for the bad
tempered girl She forget her grievance and
said: why, what do you mean? 1 thought
men, that is, men with any go about them,
admired girls who, when they feel they
have been wronged. resent it. didn't know
that the modern man cared for these meek,
amiable, sweet-tempered women who never
resent anything"
"A woman who is truly amiable, meek
and sweet tempered rarely has any cause
for resentment" answered the doctor. IF
she is strong woman with her amiability,
both men and women have so much respect
for her that they would do her no wrong
The woman who governs her temper is the
woman who wins out in this life. AS rule
she makes the best match She is certainly
the most successful woman in business and
society, and where is the person who will
deny that she is the best wife, mother and
friend? Experience has taught me that the
average woman with q naturally irritable
temper cultivates it, encourages it, fosters
it. This is as true of those in high life as it
is of the woman in low life. Indeed. very
rlch and idle women generally luXuriate in
their tempers. Perhaps they wouldn't if they
knew that anger curdles the blood, binders
CALCULATION, ana, consequently, makes the
complexion bad and duls the eye. 1t also
weakens a wOman's wits, making her less
attractive physically and mentally. Bad
temper does not destroy the mind but it
renders one unable to work mentally. 1t con-
trolls the whole system and throws it out of
sorts II renders one utterly unfit to receive
truths Then indigestion is sure to follow.
If you go to woman who is under the in
nuence of anger, who is burning from head
to foot as you were when came in" turn
ing to the bad-tempered girl, whatever you
can say that runs with her desire she will
listen to, and nothing more. If you under
take to eXpOStulate with her, to convince
her that she Weakens her cause by losing
her temper, she will not hear; she regards
you as being opposed to her, and opposition,
real or fancled, only adds fuel to the flame
The way to help woman to learn to gov
ern her temper is not to talk TO her about
the evil effects OF anger when she is in a
rage mat where the average husband
makes mistake If, when his wife allowed
III temper TO dominate her, he would only
preserve a gentle silence, she would soon
get over it, and sense of mortified ton a
realization that she had made a show of
herself, would come over her and then if he
We're only clever enough to tell her that he
dldn Want her TO spoil her pretty face by
getting angry again, she would think twice
before giving way again"
But you said something about temper
and old maids, interrupted the amiable girl
with malicious smile at the other.
Yes, L did,, he answered promptly land
scared oft from asking a woman to become
his wife by the assertion from her lips that
III.
Men are selfish creatures, and above all
things like physical and mental comfort
Perhaps the average man does not hope to
attain happiness in this world, though in
truth he never ceases to seek it, but he does
believe that there is such a thing as har-
mony and he knows that bad-tempered
woman and harmony don't go hand in hand.
Amlablllty is power, if woman only knew it,
by being always cheerful and amiable she
can get hold on men that the bad-tem-
pered woman, no matter how beautiful rich
ana allurlng she Is, never dreamed of in her
philosophy. Availability is not only power
II Is health; ii is mental progression; it is
long life to ones self and to others"
We'll, l never thought of it in that
light, remarked the bad-tempered girl as
the doctor disappeared viii you forgive
me for being rather hasty and violent a
little while ago.? turning 10 the other girl.
/ L never dreamed that temper had anything
TO 40 with .woman's looks and her chances
of marriage"
v,oI dhefe ar, are many critical hours in a
come to US every day, and they may come
In q mt of bad temper, ii seems %