Indian chieftain. [volume] (Vinita, Indian Territory [Okla.]) 1882-1902, 1898-06-09
HOW TO LIVE WITH OTHERS.
lie Always Consfderate in speech
and Deed.


The world is not altogether what we
should like it to be, and life with the
best of men is one long struggle to
remedy and overcome its imperfec-
tions. People have to make allowances
for deficiencies and drawbacks The
ia rmer asks science TO help the power
" of the soil. The mariner knows
that the needle is apt to vary, and cal
culates accordingly. The artist in pro-
cious metals, when he discovers that
pure gold is too soft for his work. does
not throw it aside. bIt hardens il with
alloy. To make the best of men and
things is . sensible philosophy of life.
Fuming. fretting and fault-fnding do
no good, but much harm. TO all the
parties affected by il. Let your con-
siderateness be known unto all men,"
is an apostolic axiom which casts oil
upon the troubled waters of contro-
versy, and so softens the wheels of our
complex social machinery that they
run easily and well.
To be always considerate is some
what difficult. We get impatient and
irritable when the prejudices and fol-
lies of other people disturb our plnns
and give us what we think unaecessary
trouble. To preserve the spirit of cour-
tesy in presence of annoying imper5ec-
tions is often hard. The dull and obtuse
man who is constantly misunderstand-
ing what you say or what You tell him
to do is bore on whom You feel in
clined to launch the thunderbolts of
your wrath every day. But his very
stupidity has pathetic plea on your
patience which should restrain your
DR.. Arnold never forgot the fearful pro-
test of the dull scholar who looked up
into his face and sobbed: "Why are
YOU angry, sir? ] am doing my best"
The great teacher was Christian gen
tleman. He begged the lads pardon
and ever remembered the rebuke in his
eagerness for the young mind TO IN
fold. So you must be gentle and endur-
ing with your stupid friends mistakes,
even should they be mistakes which
have been hundred times corrected.
You cannot sting him into cleverness.
IL you and he are to live and work to-
gether. the sooner YOU accept him for
what he is the better IL will be for both
parties
BE cOnsiierate of the feelings of 9th
er people in your conversation. Table
talk at restaurants Is often a source
of misery to sensitive minds. Many
women speak with each other in entire
of the fact that stran-
gers are present, and what they sdy is |
governed neither by prudence nor by |
kindness. The following incident nav |
be taken as type of many like unto IL: |
i young man was partaking of boiled |
rabbit in iondon restaurant with evi- |
dent relish. At the opposite side of the
table were two stout midtlle-aged Ia
dies, who had just finished a dish of
outlets. IL don't think much of those
outlets" said one. but. anyhow. they
are better than rabbits. How anyone
can eat rabbit is Il mystery to me-"
The inoffensive young man glanced
lervously at The lady, whose eyes were
liked sternly on his plate "Boilcd rab-
pit. Iny dear; no. ! could never touch
me the tosmcntor went gliblv on
after that rabbit in Church street.
lon you remember? Yes. YOU never
an forget" The unfortunate voune !
nan had ordered his dinner and had 20 .
make the best of it. but the look of
'entIe satisfaction faded from his fnce !
nd his misery was evident. II is pos :
tive cruelty as well rs extremely bad ,
aSte TO ventilate ones opinions n Aout >
ertain dishes in the hearing of parties
rho are engaged in discussing the con. :,
ants of these dishes.
The true gentleman is always sonsid-
rate in speech and deed. Courtesy ,s
lore thing of the heart than of con. 'i
sntional politeness. II Is neglected fC
irtue in our days of haste and selfish
IRVING. The law of the survival of the di
ttest so presses men that they push
b the wall their weak and weary broth III
IN instead of speaking n kind word
nd holding ont the helpful hand which u;
i'll send them on their way with new a,
'urage. Your own personal interests ",