The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1898-06-22


wife" and called daughter" by he,
husbands parents.
Baked hominy in Georgia fashion is
a Southern dish that proves itself
both appetizing and nourishing fo,
the children's 8 supper, or for lunch
con dish, served with cold meat. The
hominy may be freshly coiled for the
purpose or the cold boiled grits, left
over from breakfast, may be utilized.
When warm, drop in it one egg, a
piece Of butter the size Of hickory
nut, and salt to taste, and mix thor
oughly with little milk or cream,
until it forms batter Of medium con
sistency. Put in shallow baking
dish, one of the pretty earthen ones
that can be used on the table, and
bake to delicate crisp brown on top
and sides. 1t should not be over two
inches deep in the pan.
But there are two sides to every
question, of course. The reverse side
to all this is the one where Tom,
Dick or Harry's wife is regarded for
an indefinite length Of time, or always,
as robber who has come in and car
ried off the dearest family treasure.
The engaged girl first goes through
this awkward experience, and after
she is wife, if she is sensitive at all,
she doubly feels her position when
the separation from home becomes
final. Often she longs to have her
new relations assure Ter that they are
something more than merely resign
ed" to Dick marriage.
Dick is not always most happily
married when he waits until mother
and sisters are quite ready to have
him wed and pick out the woman he
is to marry.
There is nothing that concerns other
people SO little and yet is interferred
in SO much as the matter Of finding a
suitable husband or wife. IF you are
inclined toward matchmaking, my ad-
vice to you is, don't. It is all right
70 shrew congeniai people togeshei.
If Cinderella had not gone to the
bail, you know, she never would have
met the Prince. But Cupid and Fate
are better hands at managing affairs
of the heart than summer time chape-
rons or ''best friends Not infres
quently, when it is chest friend"
who engineers matters, it turns out to
be regular "why don't you speak for
yourself, John?" case, and then
| somebody is bound to be disappointed
! and unhappy. And, then, who ever
heard Of ones marrying &c entirely
suit everybody in ones family?
1t may be true that marriages are
made in heaven, but great deal that
is earthly. somehow gets mixed up
| with them. If two people think that
they will journey through life for
maybe half century, with halo of
romance about them all the way. and
all the timer then those two are mis-
| taken. There will be trials and hard
ships that it will be very hard to asso-
ciate with romance.
The highest and best of happiness
comes through sympathy-thfough
being understood. All men, as we'll as
women, have ideals. These should BE
respected. We ere all better for
entertaining them. The woman Who
is interested in her husbands life
work, no matter whether that is plant
ing corn or painting pictures, and
encourages him to reach his highest
aims, is better beloved, even if she is
plain of form and features, than the
woman who is selfshly Indifferent and
as beautiful as it is possible to be. I,
for one, am great admirer of beauty
but beauty in woman cannot begin to
compare with that sweetness of dis
position and charm of manner that
make one forget to notice whether the
mouth is faultless or the figure per.
feet. Many Women who please at
first sight in short while lese .hci,
charm. Vanity and an evidence Of
self-love are not calculated to inspire
or help very deep regard.
The most delightful woman in the
world is the one who retains her indi.
viduality after marriage, for in this
way she is ever charming and new.
Through purity of heart there comes
beauty Of soul. and there is positive
divinity about the woman whose soul
shines out through the commonplace