The Jersey City news., 1898-10-22
Keeping a Husband.


every married woman, unless she has
been SO unfortunate as to marry a brute,
holds her happiness under God in her own
hands, and the keepers of it are love and
patierce, " says Mrs Moses P. Handy in
"a Talk With Young Wives" in The
Woman's Home Companion. Never rea-
son with an angry man, said the eastern
sage 1t does no good under any circum-
stances, and when the man is your hus-
band it is worse than folly What will it
profit you, even though you have the best
of the arguinent2 Therefore in everything,
unless it be a matter of conscience, it is
generally better to yield than to contend.
Not that the wife is to be slavishly sub
missive. No man can respect a woman
who is lacking in self respect, and every
married woman has her rights But the
best way in which to secure these rights is
not by doing aggressive battle for them.
Let them be taken as a matter of course,
taking it for granted that your husbands
first wish is always for your comfort, as
yours always is for his
Never forget that your interests are or
ought to be IDENTICAL and try to convince
him that his wife is his best friend and
safest confidant. 70 that end never re-
peat anything which he tells you of his
own or of other peoples affairs, and If he
makes disparaging remarks of any one
keep the knowledge strictly to yourself.
Even the law cannot compel woman to
bear testimony against her husband. She
is a fool if she does SO voluntarily. Let it
be your chief object to please your hus-
band, and count nothing too much trouble
to this end. 1T seems almost an insult to
urge neatness of person upon any self re-
specting woman, yet there are many wives
who come short in this respect who fail
into the grievous error Of thinking that
John doesn't matter John does matter
much more than any one else, and it is
many times more important that you
should look well in his eyes than in those
of all the rest of the world. The task of
keeping husband is to thefull as difficult
as the winning of him and is far more
necessary
Ine Russian society UUman.
A Russian society woman knows only
one thing-fashion. Art is a stranger to
her. She loves admiration and Irritation,
but her heart remains cold. though she
may be burning other hearts with the fire
of her eyes. Nowhere is woman more dan
gerous than in Russian society. 10 begin,
Russian girl seeks husband only for
the position he gives her. Matrinony is
only question of fashion, and If Rus
sian girl cannot find husband within q
reasonable time she can fill no place in
good society, and she is ridiculed by all
her acquaintanoes. Thus, she watches
with agony the approach Of the end of her
youth. Every tentative is thus made to
win the grand prize of matrimony. Even
her friends are as anxious as she is and
fearsome lest she may be an old maid.
Then when all efforts have failed, when
no more hope remains, she takes advan-
tage Of the sole remedy left to her maiden
widowhood. = She travels. She goes to
Paris and Nice. She stays away three
years maybe, then returns to Russian So
ciety, no longer an old maid. nor even
wife, but widow Nobody asks whom
she married, nor how she became a widow.
She is widow; that suffices. As a widow
she is received everywhere and is some
body. Philadelphia Inquirer.