The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-03-06

Why is 1t that women spend so much
time thinking how they can please men?
In the aggregate they would never admit
that they do, but pin the individual down
with point blank question and nine times
out of ten she cenfesses that one Of The
chief aims Of her life is to please mankind.
This Is nothing to be ashamed OF, because
it is delicously womanly TO want to please
and to be pleasing to men, but il is often
very trying to ones peace of mind. Why,
says the New York Sun, doesn't woman sit
back awhile and let man try his hand at
pleasing her and making himself pleasing
10 herr Poor man Is such a novice at mis-
kind of business that It would take him a
long time to accomplish much, probably
but once he succeeded he would like it,,
and as for woman she would be IN the
seventh heaven of delight, Her little trou-
bles would vanish as dry grass before
flames and its the little troubles that
weigh on womans heart. The Creator Of
the mothers of men seems to have given
them strength to meet and bear the big
trials OF life, but the petty everyday an
noyances that don't make man turn a
hair sap the very life out of the women
folks. There's a young woman in this
town who says she's served her day hy-
ing to please the original sex. Now snes
determined to be pleased for awhile. She
was talking il oil over with middle-aged
woman recently.
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gan the girl, I'm going to give up study
ing how to make men like me for awhile
AMI let them study how to make me like
them. Men are so queer. They talk about
US being queer. and we can't touch them
with . ten-foot pole when it comes 10
queerness pure and unadulterated- I'll ad-
nit that they are more equable in their
dispositions than we are, and they ought
to be. The physical end mental makeup
of man isn't half so sensitive as that OF
woman. A physician who has over 500
fashionable and would-be fashionable wo-
men as patients, not to speak Of hundreds
of poor ones whom he treats free, told
me that woman never felt physically the
same two days in succession, and while
am considered a very strong girl, /, for
one, can vouch for the truth Of his state
ment, which he based ON a broad expert
ence. is it any wonder that we are ner-
vous and moody and sometimes hysteri-
Gala A woman doesn't change a muscle
over a pain that would put a man to bed.
but the effect of it tells on her. Men
ought 20 know this but they don't. And
I'm going to let EN- find IL out. I'm go
ing 10 let my men friends study my mental
status and nervous conditions and whims
for a while, and see if they win match
their moods with mine
You are just right" interrupted the
elderly woman, but l wonder that you
admit that you have given so much
thought to pleasing men heretofore.
"Why should To- said the girl. You do
the same and SO does every other woman,
old or young, single or married, good look
ing or ugly, and I've observed this thing:
The more independent a girl is in thought,
word and action the more she likes to
please men and have them please her.
Married men can make up their minds to
one thing too. If their wives aren't try
ing 10 please them they may be sure they
are trying TO please somebody else. This
doesn't mean that the wife is in love with
some other man, mind you, but it does
mean that every woman has to have an
lQSdf man 70 cater TO. 1nht IL just as
necessary to her as food or sleep"
"But Ia what way can men please wo-
men?' interrupted the elderly woman.
with a sigh ''What do you think it is that
woman most likes in man?'
Truth and tenderness" answered the
girl promptly IF every man was truth
full with every woman he met there would
be very few women adrift in this world,
and IL these men would add tenderness to
l.. Il. Il IA
thing as an outcast woman would be I'M
known. viii you tell me why a man will
ask woman TO do thing for doing
which he will respect her less? They oil
do. For instance, a man takes young
woman unchaperoned to the theater and
after the play asks her to a restaurant to
have little supper. She accepts the In
vitation in the spirit in which she believes
II Is offered and at the time the man real
ly asks her because he is enjoying her So
ciety and doesn't want The evening TO come
10 an end, But what does he say to him
self the next morning? 1 should have
liked her better if she had refused to 90
out to supper after the theater. l wouldn't
like my sister 10 do that If he had only
said that TO the girl instead Of TO himself
she would have thought a thousand times
more of him. Woman like to be taken in
hand and guided or even ruled. Il is next to
A@~tAfN-H~AS-N
man who Is able to put her in his sis
ter's place and tell her the truth about
things, about what men like and dislike
in women. Oh. If the men only knew what
winenr truth is with women! And next TO
truth woman values tenderness in a
man. When she is overwrought and IN
strung she doesn't want a man 10 reason
with her She is incapable of reasoning
or comprehending reason at such a time.
What she wants is TO be talked 10 ten
derby. JUS few tender words, an assur-
ance OF sympathy and understanding win
do more 40 calm and comfort her than all
the philosophy and logic ever heard Of
X is such q simple thing for man TO please
woman. If he only knew II. All ne has TO
do Is TO cultivate truth and tenderness and
TO meet oil her varying moods and SEEM
ingly complex conditions of mind and body
with those two elements.
Yes" said the elderly woman. "If you
will really stop trying 80 hard 90 please
men, as you've promised yourself 10 do,
and win demand truth of them, the ten.
derness will follow. Then you will find
yourself IN a true relation with your men
friends and they with you. and the result
viii be a series OF ideal Friendships"