The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-11-27
v1y,S NEED OF FLATTERY.
yrs 4 MEANS BY WHICH hrs
cL"i PANTY IS REACHED.

-. noNns-Late Fashions In stationery.
,oiv timc | ever feel downright loneli-
u hogan the girls bachelor friend.
rs ",, when you arc with newly engaged or
a. married pcoplc.' interrupted the girl.
HsaHggnn answered ;he bachelor. ut Is when
i~whcn YOU are having n frolic with the chill
~ ono of your friends" interrupted the
oiv1 ~" second time with IN Ivc-hit-tho-noil-on-
.hs hcod-now expression,
"Wronc again. - ho rctorted, with n laugh.
.y.n ,rs n worry poor guesscr. But never mind
.tort that; women are always Door guessers.
III cas- about to say. tho only time ever feel
H.rrrirht loneliness is when l have no wife TO
comment on my clothing.
what nm admission" exclaimed the girl.
81 90. under tho impression that YOU men
-. not aware that you wore clothes; that
~, took absolutely no interest in dress. What
can you mean .. A., ~
...Asrery single man who has arrived ut an
. rhere he thinks Il great deal about mate
al comfort feels the same way. l often feel
a. naed of a wife to comment on my clothes.
,ndsed. not infrcuuontly ! fairly banker for
.oms one to say to mo. Harrison, you are well
Irs.ssd. You look well. Those clothes fit you
.,c4Ilently and are In fine taste Or l should
ma hsr 10 say, Dear me. Harrison. you are so
h,ily dressedl Do you think I'm going to
IA seen with you in that rig? Well, l guess
not"
How Interestingly" calculated the girl.
avail. must say | like that. Aud 80 that's
Cha only way you ever feel the need OF u wife.
N tell YOU that you are we'll or badly dressed.
Would II make you angry il she should tell you
that YOU were-well. for the sake OF argument.
say, dressed in poor taste I"
"~Certalply not. my dear girl. You do not in
the least catch my meaning. l get a brand
new suit from my tailor, put it on, look at my
self all sides and think some pretty nice
things to myself. but there is no one
10 confirm my satisfactory conclusions.
Again, l wear a suit after I should not
wear it. | wear it until it is shabby and out OF
SHAPE, perhaps. and | know it, but there is no
one to say, Well, Harrison, would YOU be
caught dead in the road in that suit OF clothes?
I%Wonldn't.' And SO l feel the need Of n wife.
but. mind you, it is only in that particular
Yes, but I'd be sorry for that wife il she
CHANGED to tell you that You were badly
dressed said the girl, Struggling her pretty
shoulders.
Tut, tut. tut! I'd enjoy that Just as much
asthough she told me l was perfectly dressed"
declared tho bachelor. If a person tells You
that you are well dressed it makes you satisfied
with your appearance. but II some ono tells you
that you are badly dressed the thrust stirs up
ALI the spirit in you and you Immediately feel
that you must defend your position by wearing
those clothes; you realize that it would be
making u reflection on your judgment to lay
them aside.a and then. too. you always feel that
A.. ,,hN ln, a,;tto;saI ,-nttn oHno raj hoe
no taste ut all. The spirit OF defiance created
by adverse criticism is Just as pleasant as tho
spirit of serenity bred Of favorable comment
One kind or another is absolutely necessary tc
mans happiness"
II intend" saidthe girl. Ito tell every woman
Of my acquaintance OF your confession. ant
can spring this OF them. Won't, they wonder
how we came to know 80. much about their in,
he nd y lie, ieellngs on . w thls o SUBJECT &c s 3t clothes he's,
vanity? Then it's true that any wonan caI
win any man II she only arncals strongly enough
to his vanity: l think III put that in my pipe
You pm this II your. .pJjpe and ;moke t.,
either YOU must understand the ethics OF dress
Clothing has won and lost more men than ever
S sss fgf t & / feel eli t il i Isek p Oh arifieIsm r ! 9 ya,
Ns,g my apparel. Now; II had q wife / know
ss t.I c%ritisise my clothes: and Ia like it; H.
arc so much more intense than We are
But to get bScS to where ! started, Every
Of the ethics. OF dress. Many a wo;
man has lost the respect and love Of a good
husband because she underestimated the duty
o~Ialways being appropriately and we'll dressed
OF. worse still. because she failed to do her duty
along this limo, knowing it. often hear moth;
behind your husband in AM. way II you want to
Esep his love and respect. You study and read
End End take sSsaI az int i%9tSSr f, IN What intsrestS him
60 on through life together side hv side. What
ever you do don't lot yourself lag behind hin
ior minute. t3r 4 you do you'll never be able
Think that is practical advice to give a cir
asont to be married" interrupted tho girl.
sEered the bachelor, =" but there is not enough
ott. Mothers leave out one. of tho most i'm
portant things. They should also say. 'Anc
you can possibly afford. Wear the best thing
that YOU can buy, but even that is not sufficient
haEe those things made In the prevailing fash
hang them in your closets or do them up II
tissue paper and lay them in your trunks
wear them. 4 man, feels nothing more keenl!
IMAM the sight OF his once trim, stylish, up-to
nate wife in n seedv, old-Style gown. and thu
instant he secs her that way his feelings towarr
ner begin to undergo a change, That's wha
Mothsrs ought TO say to their daughters, blu
No, | don't ever remember to have heard o
smMoNntt WHO gave u 'llllu any SUcn auNlcr. uu
mltted The girl. But how do you come TO kuov
" much about this? You aren't a widower il
uiSSulse. are you Z"
Bless YOU. no. he answered. but ",
neard men talk. Nothing mortiiles a maj
more than to take Ms wife out 10 a dinner o
theatre party or anywhere and to see that sh,
woes not look like other women: You can tall
soout mind culture and soul culture all yol
Sahtto. and fine things they are in their place
anu NJ 'ns average man. be he ever SO intellectual
WIZ " even spiritual, Just dotes on seeing hi
NWt stunnlngly dressed, That's n cOmplimen
70 ms good taste. II women only knew 1t. al
ways TO look their best Is n very sub
ue way OF .flatterinG u man. He look
az, her in her fine feathers. pats HIM
TX n on the back and smilingly ~soliloqulzes
,rwmHi 'gll you I'm a man OF nice discrimi
mmSS.nIOn, ! am. I'm n man OF very eXcellen
judgment when it comes to woman But il
sWEarance You Nay DO sure he doesn't. say
may. after all. I've no taste at all, and m,
cnnxulehl isn't worth a continental when |
iuTars 70 women Instead. he signs regret
MP, anu II he says anything at all it is some
sm"g uncomplimcntary about his wife. 1t |
more important for n married woman 4
snsSs wei than n single one, Why? Because
pfeer rsnSS a person occasionally and seeing tina
tTitSgSsa S%HnStantly are two very difneren
vwnmmngs' There's no art in being charming i
or personal appearance mt n !rncheo
hSceptlon Or theatre party. GocRus
S,,k,nEn makes a business OF doing tina
hf,mete lsa distinct science in being daint
NJ mnpahiast. 'iaintier ut luncheon and daintics
teSNtt ~ thc evening, and the oma who mas
M W I'VE aft must not only make 4 study of !
AVA NJ practice AS well. Clothes arc great bono
SSnnmy advice to womnnfind IS 10 wear GOO
esMSss;, Now, III Il case like mine thCre Ii no In
tnuttto dress either well mr. badly. for were