The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1898-04-04
MUST B[NARf Of THE MEN.
ADVICE GIVEN NJ An OLD WOMAN
TO HEN YOuxG COMPANION.
trust In fsur Own Sex-Girls Are Tee
Ready 10 Accept Withoat 0ues-
tton AaytAiag ana Everythlng
Their Male Aamirers Nay say.

Woman's friendship for woman = enc
thinS. and woman. friendship for man al
toSe'ner another. The latter Is no, SO ira
siie as the former. An old woman and 4
young woman can be the sruest and bsst
OF friends: two old women can be thor
ougniy sincere and faithful in their friend
snip. ana TWO young woSaen can be the
same until they become Interested in the
same man. Two men who are friends often
become interested In the same woman. nu,
the bond between them may not be broken
thsfeoy. Lei two young women who are
friends get Interested In the same man and
there is very different story 10 tell.
Why is II that we never see two euuny
women loyal and true and faithful In their
friendship for one another. as we men
ares' man often asks
~ y because there is marked differ
ence in the quality of mans mind and Of
woman-s- Since women are creatures OF
faith. ii would seem more natural for
them to be better friends enc to another
than men: but they aren't Woman has
more faith when II comes TO unseen things
than man. but man has more faith in the
Things aud people around him than his sis
tiers and his cousins and his auntx. 10 say
nothing OF his wife and mother. Faith Is
the basis of friendship. and w.thou, Il
honeyed declarations. such as women are
VIVA SJ fuaht, dNdif notniUS.
An old woman told young girl some
valuable things about this matter OF
friendship recently. Between the two there
exists one Of those ideal relasionships
which ally youth and age. giving TO one
the wisdom OF many years and to the 9TH
er the joyousness Of few.
II wonder why it Is" said the girl.
that friendship between women Of the
same age is so different from that between
men OF the same age or between men and
women. Now. l don't feel at all toward
my young women friends as l do toward
my men friends. There are a great many
things that l would tell the men that I
wouldn't dream of telling to women. A
thing Is safe with woman as long as
things are running smoothly between you
and her. but as soon as there ia little
spat or a spirit OF rivalry springs up over
clothes or beaux or any old thing over
which women vie with each other she for
gets all about her pledges of loyalty and
uses your confidence against you. Mind
you, I'm talking about myself as well az
every other woman in every other coun-
try OF the world. We are all in the same
boat. Something seems to have been left
out of our composition when II comes to
implicitly trusting another woman OF the
same age and attractions
ten You what It u.s." answered the
old woman. lit Is faith. Women certain
~ are queer. They can believe in all SORTS
OF queer gods and creedS and have per-
feet faith In miracles and man and yet
they cannot trust their feminine fellow
beings. unless the said beings are years
Older or younger or decidedly unattractive.
The reason you tell your men friends things
that you won't tell your women friends IL
because you have faith in them and you
have this faith in them because they have
Eai Fais ~
q friend you must be one. You cannot ex-
pect women TO be true to you unless you
are true 10 them. II every woman had
perfect faith In the goodness and sincerity
OF every other woman of her acquaintance.
friendship between woman and woman
would be far purer and stronger than
friendship between man and man or woin-
an and man. One woman can understand
another. can put herself in her sisters
place. can feel not only for her. but with
her az man could never do but alas and
alack! We don't do II because we lack faith
In one another Faith helps us TO draw 10
US whatever we actively trust In. Faith,
you know. means something besides fiaei-
lily; IL means trust.
you become friends with a man. and his
inherent faith In you gives you not only
faith in him. hut faith in yourself. and
your friendship fourishes and grows
strong. You meet woman Of your own
age and YOU lack faith In her and she
lacks faith I'm you. and to cover this I'D
YOU vow and declare that you will al
ways be true TO one another, come what
may. Faith Is one OF the most powerful
magnets given to human beings. but II at
tracts TO itself whatever or whoever Il
earnestly and persistentiy desires. II you
wish 10 esta blish true relationship be-
tween yourself and other women. culti-
vate a spirit OF faith ~ your own sex. and
preach and demonstrate tina; spirit to them.
Another thing: don't have overmuch faith
In man. Lop off a little OF the fidelity and
trust that you give to the rib sex and give
1t to the women folks and things will ad-
fast themselves more faisly ard evenly.
Not for worlds would l have yon lose
your faith in men, but DOM believe every
thing they say. Above all things never
accept an excuse a man offers with your
mind. Accept 1t with your lips. yes but
not with your mind or heart. What do /
mean? Just this: II one of your men
friends. usually very attentive, should
stay away from you a month, say, and
come back with the thinnest OF excuses
you would not only accept IL graciously
hut would actually believe n. Don't. us
all right to accept IL with the iipa but
not with the mind. IL woman friend
should neglect you two weeks you
wouldn't take stock in any excuse she
might offer unless you absolutely knew
u to he true. The womans excuse IL
more often genuine than the mans. Men
do what they want to do IL man really
wants TO he with you nothing short OF
wide separation In miles viii. keep him
away. Death Itself won; do IL unless ne
happens to be the CORPSE. So don't be-
lieve In his excuses unless they are really
very ingenious Now ! know a Chicago
lawyer. a brilliant fellow who has had
meteoric career. and really while. IL
were a girl, wouldn't accept his excuses.
] must say that could not fail 10 accept
and admire than, Only the other night
heard him make an excuse 10 a girl. 70
whom he had been very attentive. for not
having been around TO see her in month
OF Sundays. She reproached him, and he
said. In the most insnuasing voice:
Why. my dear girl, haven't been be-
cause I've been trying 10 stay away from
YOU. You are too attractive for me- and I
fanc!ed you cared for some one else more:
so | stayed away. But it's no use
couldn't stand II any longer. SO here I
am back. and you'll have 10 endure me-
Stay away from yoa I can't
That girl was In the seventh heaven.
and believed every word OF that excuse"