The Vermont watchman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1883-1911, 1898-07-06
BE Sweet and Live Long.

Woman frequently plumes herself on
her bad temper. Man, on the other
hand, invariably denies that he is bad
tempered, if he happens to be prone TO
anger. Bad tempered women can be
divided into three classes, and all do a
lot toward making life unpleasant for
the rest of humanity. There is the
woman whose temper is constantly in
a state of irritation. A little thing, a
big thing, or nothing at all will throw
her into a state Of anger, and on the
whole she is about the most uncomfort-
able person in the world to have
around. Then there is the woman
with the dynamite temper. You touch
her in a tender spot and she goes off
like a bomb, but after that one fash
she is as amiable as ever. Finally
comes the woman with the shoulder
ing temper, the sulky woman who has
driven more men lowell, to other 70
men than any other. According to a
New York physician, who knows no
end of things about women physically
and mentally, all these types had better
be getting rid of their bad temp ,rs in
stead of coddling them. He decl,r es
that INDUCING ones self in a fit of ugly
temper not only makes a woma old
and ugly before her time, but actually
shortens her life. Perhaps his opinion
on this subject might never have been
given to w%omankind had he not had &C.
about her bad temper. She was talk
ing to another girl who is habitually
amiable, but CHANGED to nettle her
friend.
81 want you to understand hat you
can't talk to me that way" exclaimed
she of the bad temper. "I've a bad
temper and I'm proud of it and l won't
stand any nonsense. l tell you l have
a bad temper"
THAT is a self evident fact" answer
ed the amiable girl, cheerfully. "I've
often wondered why bad-tempered peo-
pie take the trouble TO announce the
fact. They always do, you know"
This was like touching a match to
kerosene. The bad-tempered girl got
red in the face, gasped, sputtered and
made a spectacle of herself, and it was
just here that the doctor came on the
scene.
Come. come, girls" he said in the
most soothing tone, don't let's have
any quarreling. Control your tempers,
for every time you allow them to on
troll you, you spoil your good looks, and
lessen, yes, actually lessen, your
chances of getting a desirable husband,
and then, too, you injure yourselves
physically"
SIS that really truep" asked the anna
BILE girl, interested, and the other be-
gan to cool down.
"Oh, my, yesl" exclaimed the doc
tor. ''Bad temper is really responsible
for more old maids than a lack of de-
sire on the part of man to marry"
This remark was too much for the
IA .tempered girl. She forgot her
grievances and said: "Why, what do
you mean? l thought men, that is,
men with any 60 about them, admired
girls who when they feel they have
been wronged resent it. l didn't know
that the modern man cared for these
meek, amiable, sweet-tempered women
who never resent anything"
"a woman who is truly amiable,
meek and sweet tempered rarely has
any cause for resentment" answered
with her amiability, both men and
women have so much respect for her
that they would do her no wrong. The
woman who governs her temper is the
woman who wins out in this life. AS
a rule she makes the best match. She
is certainly the most successful woman
in business and society, and where is
the person who will deny that she is
the best wife, mother, and friend?
Experience has taught me that the
average woman with a naturally irri-
table temper cultivates it, encourages
it, fosters it. This is as true of those
in high life as it is OF the women in low
life. Indeed, very rich and idle women
generally luxuriate in their tempers.
Perhaps they wouldn't if they knew
that anger curdles the blood, binders
circulation, and consequently makes
the complexion bad and dulls the eye.
1t also weakens a woman's wits, max.
ing her less attractive physically and
mentally. Bad temper does not de-
stroy the mind, but it renders one I'M
able to work mentally. 1t controls the
whole system and throws it out of sorts.
1t renders one utterly unfit to receive
truths. Then indigestion is sure to
follow. If you 60 10 a woman who is
under the influence of anger, who is
burning from head to foot as you were
when ! came in" turning to the bad
tempered girl, "whatever you can say
that run with her desire she will lis
ten to, and nothing more. If you un-
dertake to expostulate with her, to con-
vince her that she weakens her cause
by losing her temper, she will not hear;
she regards you as being opposed to
her, and opposition, real or fancied,
only adds fuel to the flame. The way
to help a woman to learn to govern her
temper is not to talk to her about the
evil effects of anger when she is in q
rage. That's where the average hus.