The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-03-27

Some men have strange notions about
women. This is especially true when it
comes to that old but ever new subject,
marriage Three men and two girls tell
to talking about it the other day. The
men weren't young; otherwise they would
have discussed the kind of women they
would like to marry. One, says the New
York Sun, was a middle-aged man,
physician and a philosopher The other
two were successful bachelors, and had
reached an age where they really knew
good deal of the world As for the girls,
they-well, what's the use of saying mucn
about them? They had little enough to
say on the subject which is supposed to
absorb every womans thoughts until she
has landed a husband They got some
points from the converse ton, though, that
they won't forget in a hurry.
Doctor" said one of the bachelors abb
ruptly, what do you think of marriage?
Don't you think that the average woman
marries for every other good reason be-
fore love? I do. Women and men are
both calculating when it comes to mar
rying, but l think that women are far
more calculating than men. If a woman
has two suitors, say, and one of them
has $4,000 year, which has come to him
through the efforts of other people, and
he hasn't got brain enough to increase
that income by a dollar in any possible
trade or profession, and the other man
has 5000 a year which he earns himself
and he shows the capacity for earning
ten times that amount in time, the wo-
man win take the $4,000 man every time,
even If she loves the other Women's
heads are stronger than their hearts, &c
cording to my notion. They allow their
heads to govern their hearts,"
"Bosh!" exclaimed the philosopher ply
stefan. II think l know more of the
world than you do, for two reasofs: 1
am much older man than you and have
seen more of it, and, then, am doc
tor. Physicians know men and women as
they are. We go into a family when some
member of it is ill, and both the sick cne
and those who are well are themselves.
OF course, philosophers tell us that every
man alone by himself Is sincere. and that
on the advent of O second person hypocricy
begins. This Is true in a measure, but a
family will drop more hypocricy when
one of its members lies suffering than at
any other time, and the doctor comes in
and is Immediately part and parcel of the
family. That's how we come to know
people so well, and 1 assert most emphat-
ically that the average woman is guided
by her heart In her choice of a husband.
There are, of course women who marry
for money, especially in France and Amer
lea, because the women of these two coun-
tries many of them, are taught to spend
more than they have; to live, not as they
can afford, but according to the income
of their friends or neighbors After all
these women are exceptions.
THE average woman doesn't calculate
at all when it comes to getting married
Perhaps there would be fewer unhaDpy
marriages if she did allow her head to
rule her heart a little more. The idea of
your saying that women allowed their
heads to take precedence of their hearts!
Why, they are all heart, God bless EN-.
It's a good thing, too. for men are mostly
head. We are the ones guilty of caIcu-
lating. A wise universal Father has given
women so much heart to balance our lack
of it. We men would be rough cruel.
coarse creatures, indeed were ii not for
the sweet hearts of women; these hearts
keep US anchord keep us slf-controlld.
tH1hc rs tiuSE anu puIoF ana better IN
every way. The woman doesn't live who
can't tell some other woman how to CON
troll her heart affairs with her head, but
by Jovei when 1t comes 10 her own she
lets her affections run away from her Iea-
son as q hare does from lame hound
OF course, there are very bad women IN
the world, for when a woman is bad she
is much worse than a bad man. She has
further to fall, you know. These women
90 do M ny ~ he,
men in swell society, but the average
American girl, no, most emphatically no -
Most of the married women of my ac-
quaintance have been calculating i'm their
matches" interrupted the bachelor in an
unconvinced tone, "and most of the single
ones are calculating in their love affairs. "
you must have known a bad lot !" an
swered one of the girls, turning her nose
up and the corners of her mouth down con.
temptuously.
Il can't understand a man with a dear
mother and charming sisters holding such
an opinion about women concerning the
most sacred relations of life," put in the
other girl with a far-away look in LEI
eyes. ''The average girl is not a rich girl
who lays great stress on material things
and feels that she cannot live without
them The average woman believes that
II is love that makes the world go round
You know" she went on, facing the bach.
elor, Il was so glad to hear the doctor
say what he did about women. Perhaps
you do not realize that expectation fulfls
itself in outward conditions. You expect
women to be calculating, and they are
you attract what you expect. If YOU ex.
pect to meet only calculating women. then
you meet them. You say il hurts YOU e
ind that the woman Of to-day is inclined
20 calculate in the choice of husband
determine resolutely to expect that She
allows her affections 10 rule her reason
and you will attract nothing but what
you wish.
Some philosopher has said, Carry any
kind Of thought you please about with YOU
and so long as you retain it, no matter
how you roam over land or sea Won will
increasingly attract to yourself, knowingly
or Inadvertently, exactly and only what
corresponds to your own dominant quality
of thought. Thoughts are our private
property, and we can regulate them TO eujt
our taste entirely by steadily recognizing
our ability to do So If your taste now,
Is for women who are not mercenary when
u comes 70 marriage. regulate your
thought of women 10 suit your taste. ana