The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-12-18

friendship than Is many graVer fauft in
morals 1t implies lack of good breeding
lack of refinement, lack of a thousand es-
! sentials of daily Intercourse" Now I have
very strong idea that that woman uttered
that truth the morning after some guest
had been late at one of her dinners"
But what can we hostesses do TO rene
dy this growing fault on the part of
MANI" asked the hostess.
Crime, you mean" corrected one.
do tell u.s." said the others
1T is hard fault to correct" answer
ed the elderly woman. Real friendship
can bear almost anything. If a real friend
Is the offender you feel that you cannot
give up his friendship for so small a thing
as being late at dinner; the offense seems
insignificant from that viewpoint. Not
so with mere social acquaintance. Let
! me give a brief chapter from my expert
ence which will, perhaps, help you Man
has always been predestined, I'll say out
| of goodness of heart, TO be late at dinner
| occasionally at his own home and at the
| homes of Others. You know best how to
| deal with him in the first case, for 1t has
to be done individually When a guest is
late as one of your dinner parties 1 say
act differently Men aren't any more tar
| dy than they've always been l had the
| same trouble when 1 was a young house.
keeper. have 1t now, but I've risen above
| being disturbed by such things. How?
| Just In this way: When a real friend was
| SO rude as to keep me and other guests
| waiting an unconscionably long time 1
| let him know, as only we women can
communicate such things, that my friend
| ship was strong enough to survive such
| thoughtless and selfish lack of breeding
on his part, but that ii had lost much of
its sweetness and joy. As for mere pleas
ant social acquaintances who offended in
| this way cut them off without another
| invitation. AS my bad little grandsons
| say, There are Others These things are
| known now among my friends and in my
| social world and no guest is ever late
at one of my dinuers-not even when
! transportation is blocked by tons of snow"
For woman to carry a package of any
size, says writer in the New York Tri-
| bune Is to James Yellowplush a distinct
badge of an inferior position.
II do not in the least mind carrying a
bundle in the street." remarked a subur-
ban gentlewoman. My friend and &C
| quaintances understand the situation, and
of course strangers do not signify, but 1
| really have been obliged to give up visiting
| at smart houses since the uptown move
ment unless hire a carriage, because
| have not the moral courage to face the
footman with my packages in hand.
had always felt 1t was rather infra dig
| but tried 10 persuade myself it did not
matter. But my last experience was the
final feather which broke down my cour-
age. 1 wished to leave a card at Mrs
Midas, and as her house, near the park,
| is only a couple of block from the Third
| avenue elevated station, 1 thought I would
! stop on my way home, despite a compare
lively large package which I was carry
! ing.
Il must confess I felt rather uncom-
Ill 7 al ag1.t,k .e
steps and rang the bell which was imme-
diately answered by a footman. Is Mrs.
| Midas at home? 1 asked, trying to look
| as naughty as possible, but with the bun
| die 1 could see by his expression that
were classed at once as a young person.
although 1 showed him my card.
Take a seat he said curtly, motion
ing me toward a recess in the hall, evil
| IDENTIFY intended for people waiting on bus
| mess, and, without waiting to see if fol-
! lowed his suggestion, he disappeared. In
| dignant as 1 was, I had no choice but to
| sit down in the little Office and await de-
| veIopments, as the doors Of the other
rooms were closed and had no wish to
be found fumbling at the locks. After a
wait of several minutes a lady's maid APP
| peared.
e" Mrs Midas is out she said affectedly
and impertinently, also glanclng at my
bundle, but if you have anything for her
| you can leave 1t with me-
Z" L have no message, 1 replied coldly
rising as 1 spoke. You can tell your mis-
tres 1 was sorry to find her out The
| quick-witted Abigail saw that a mistake
had been made, and readily adapted her
! self to the situation. 1 will tell her
ma am she said, with a sudden change
of demanor and politely opened the door,
| whence l emerged, q sadder and a wiser
| woman, mentally resolving never to come
| visiting afoot again"
Another experience which was even
| more annoying was that of a youth of
| long descent and great social pretensions,
who, as ne intended going out of town
| after a fashionable musical, took his bag
| with him, to leave in the dressing-room.
AS soon as he entered the house a SER
! want motioned him to follow him. This
| he did without question, as he thought, of
| course it was to the gentemen's dressing
room, but was considerably astonished
when he was taken through the back part
| of the house into what was evidently the
| servants quarters and finally shown into
| a small sitting-rOom. Il will come for
you when you are wanted" said the foot
| man, and the astonished young man. I'M
| til he was Joined a minute later by an
| Italian-looking man with a huge cello
| case, did not realize that his bag had been
taken for the case of some instrument,
| and he himself for one of the musicians.
"What a very ladylikelooking nurse
Mrs NJ has for her children!' remarked
one Young matron to another. "She
ought to be" returned the latter for she
is Mr.. MS first cousin. 1t seems she was
left without any money, and found, that
she was not sufficiently up-to-date in her
education TO command a position as gov
I erness. and there seemed literally nothing
| that she could do to earn a livelihood.
| Several of her relatives would have given
her home, but she was exceedingly in
dependent and refused all offers of as
sistance. After considering the situation
from matter-of-fact point of view, she
went to Mrs. NJ. and frankly stated her
! case. You want a reliable, trustworthy
nurse she said, one who will love your
| children and try to develop the best in
! them. l. on my part, am in need of work,
| and would conscientiously do my best for
| ,,ou and yours. Why should we let So
| cial prejudice stand in the way of our be-
| ing mutually helpful to each otherY And