Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1898-10-01
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HOW WOMEN ARE WON.

The truth is that about one man in
every thousand possesses the power,
and about one man in every thousand,
although married, possesses the heart
of the woman who bears his name, and
it isn't the fault of the woman either.
No woman is really won except by
one thing, and that is-love.
The average man stands before his
looking-glass and thinks as he buttons
his collar that all he has to do in order
to win a wife is to select one from the
list of the girls of his acquaintance,
propose the momentous question, and
Slip the engagement ring upon her
finger.
The probable truth of the matter is
that not one of all the women he
knows would have him at any price,
not because he has any particular faults
known to her, but because she isn't
aware of those charms of his that he
imagines are only too apparent to
every woman, for her own peace of
mind, and because, too, we'll, because
she doesn't want him.
Most men are much too conceited
why they should be, that is the gener-
ality of them, who knows? A noble
man is the sublime handiwork of God,
but nowadays the average man is self
made, and reflects but little credit
upon himself as his own maker.
fmen could only get rid of this in
cubus of self-importance and conceit,
it would facilitate the matrimonial
process greatly.
Many a man gets wife in spite OF
all his shortcomings, but he never real
ly won her heart, and he certainly
cannot keep what he never had, al
though she lives the life of saint and
is as true to him in deed rs ever a
woman could be, CLOSING over his
faults with her own sweet ideality,
wrapping the mantle of her woman's
charity about the clay feet of her idol,
and propping him up for appearances
and pride's sake so that all the world
may not know but that she married a
man and gentleman, and he-sWells
up like toad with vanity and &C.
cepts all that she does for him as q
Just tribute to conscious worth, and
thinks how lucky she was to get him,
and wonders how other women who
didn't get him manage to endure life
at all.
This is one type of the modern
man. We've all seen him, but he
doesn't belong to any of us, and so we
may discuss him freely and without
the fear of offense.
Then there are hundreds and thou
sands of other types-gentlemen by
nature, women's natural protector,
her comfort, her hearts pride and
bliss, who are, once lovers, always
lovers, no matter how many years
married, and who regard women as
something sacred. These men have
that refinement of nature that came
to them by birth as natural heritage.
You cannot make silk purse from a
sow's ear, is homely adage, neither
can you make a gentleman from the
material of which boars and Erutes
are made.
A true gentleman is always and for
ever chivalrous toward women. He
always holds the sex of his mother in
reverence.
Too many men these latter days are
lacking in the essentials of manliness.
They never show their wives any
chivalric attentions, because they
haven't the vaguest notion of what
chivalry means.
They talk loftily of woman's inferi-
ority and look upon them with much
enthusiastically? Simply because
they are not on sufficiently high
intellectual and moral plane to under
stand, comprehend, or appreciate the
sanctity Of womanhood 1t takes a
man of high intellectual and moral
attributes TO do that.
The man who is simply an animal
who cares only for his own physical
comfort, and who talks about being a
claw unto himself" meaning that he
considers that he has free license to do
as he pleases, can no more win wo-
mans heart than he can fly.
If l were to deliver quiet little
sisterly lecture 10 the men about to
marry, 1 would say: If you wish to
win and keep pure woman's love,
don't prate about marriage being only
a civil contract, instituted for conven-
ience sake and that it is binding only
upon the woman!
Don't smile in superior sort of way
when you hear marriage spoken OF as
a sacrament, even if you haven't the
vaguest comprehension of what that
means
Don't get married and talk about
loving and honoring her, if you can't
see why being married should hinder
you from having what you call ia
good time" whenever you go away on
a business trip, or your wife upon a
visit, and you are separated each from
the other.
Don't get married if you see no
harm in married man going out for
little champagne supper occasionally
''on the quiet" with pretty woman
who also sis a law unto herself"
DON'T neri,lre y0urself before God