The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-06-08

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English, French or German contempo-
rary, shapes his life precisely according
| to the wishes of his wife. In other lands,
he finds, the husband is all powerful, ana
the years plans are made to suit his oe-
| equations and convenience. Here the Ia
| dies of the house make the plans and
when they are decided the head OF the
house is called in to sign the checks
.Idler'ss American man is trained 10
| give all and expect little in return. he
is taught to look for no settlement or
| portion with his wife: but the fact that
| his expectations in that particular are
usually realized does not hinder the lacy
however em~pty-handed she comes, from
| shaping her new family life wholly ae-
| cording to her own whims.
Bless me. this "Idler'' has got into very
bad company somewhere. He seems 90
be of New York, and he talks of ooserv-
| atoms made al balls and dinners ana az
the opera. No one seems to be habitual-
" to balls in New York except the very
vo,ng and very rich. "Idler'' must be as
suming to. chronicle the habits of thai
| select body whom we know as the SUI
1t can't be possible that he does y JUS
| tice; and if he does. the status that ne
| observes obtains in so small a held tnae
| it is not a thing of serious moment Ihe
/ rest of us know a different story ABOUT
| tho average American wife-that she IS
. faithful woman. who makes a nome
who rears almost as many children as
| she can afford. keeps them ciofneo' sees
~ their health and their educatloh'
makes all her husbands calls ana tenus
| ia. four-ffths of the social duties OF the
| household; wrestles ~strenuously WITH .he
nrohIems of housekeeping, gets more lor
ber husband out of his money thah Ne
can get himself. and pours her own m
come when she happens to have one'
| into fine family purse. That isthe Aihei
lean wife whom VIZ know ana esteem ar
we have supposed that II the
husband is an indulgent spouse II ! x
earse his wife is fit to be indulseo' pe-
cause the most pleasure there IS TOT mn
l. to he found in her company. ana pc
ca,se to promote her happiness Is US
way of having fur.
woman might perhaps be said to pelohs
to a more primitive type OF hunialn.s
than men says 1.-THE Forum "iuie
nan nlaca an interval between thought
aaa ont women are apt to follow feeilnss
| directly. in a half-instinctive way
o+har words while men, through renee
tion base their actions on consclousis
recognized general principles, women are
wont to respond emotionally to ndlVlouai
on5 concrete cases. This is the reason
why the latter so often show more reaos
taet and intuition, more conservatism anu
but less originality
than the former. This comes out curious
" in school life. If, when a theme ZOE
on essay is set to a mixed class OF young
men and women, distinct directions pc
g;ven as to form. method and length, ana
The sources of information named, the
vo,,ne women will do best. If. on the
oan+rarv NO directions or references are
given and the pupils are left to shift for
themselves. so that research and Original
ity are called for, the young men WIZ
do hest. I have often made this expert
ment.
We may say, then, that, whlle meh a..
best fitted for those occupations tnat can
for reflection. original thought, ana the
discovery of new principles, women are
best fitted for those that call for the READY
application of old and well known prih-
cfples. This is attested in numerous ways
bv the facts of history. Women cling 70
old habits. customs and 10
speak of superstitions and religions-much
longer than men; while they rarely sho"
| themselves inventors, even in their w
sphere of activity. The sewing machine
was the invention of men; and so, no
doubt. were the loom and the spinning
wheel. Men acquire and produce: women
receive and preserve. And along with this
mental difference goes a physical differ
| ence. Men. as a rule, are larger, stronger,
and more aggressive; women are hner'
more tender, and more sympathetic. inns,
of course. implies no inferiority of one sex
to the other. Both types of character are
equally essential to social well being.
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A bowlng-green-that is what so many
wish their way in life to be; a smooth,
close shaven. well rolled -bowling-green,
without a rut wherein their chariot wheels
may be uncomfortably jolted-without a
stone over which the needless foot may
Etrip-without a weed to offend the artis-
tic soul desirous only of flowers and flow
ering bushes. says 1.-THE Queen" And
when they nave to take the rough with
the smooth they make an outcry and a
pother, loudly lamenting their bad uck-
which they are sure is quite exceptional,
and no one ever had such evil chances as
they-or falling fou of that sorry jade,
that capriciouss and unstable Fortune,
who now drives her favorite of the hour
in a gilded coach along the softest turf,
and now turns him out barefooted, to
make his way as best he can across a
stony desert. They cannot take the rough
with the smooth-patient under the one,
| grateful for the other, and holding a
.heart for every fate 1t must be all
| smooth with them, else God and men will
be asked the reason why-answer or none
forthcoming! For such as these can
never accept pain spd suffering and sor-
row and disappointment as of the nature
of things, inherent and integral, but must
be always knocking their heads against
the stone wall of the Mysteries of Life,
which the maintain are worse for them
than for any others.
ST could not fail to notice the difference
in the young girls as soon as l crossed
| the Russian frontier and came into the
land of the Slav,,' writes Lillian Bell from
wilma. Russia, in the June Ladies' Home
Journal" Here at once / found indiyid-
| uality. Polish girls are more like Amer
lean girls. If you ask a young English
girl what she thinks of Victor she