The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-07-23
FATAL BAD TEMPER.
Be Sweet if You Would
Live Long and Be
Happy.
AMIABLE WOMAN FREE FROM ILLS
Those Of Bad Disposition on
the Contrary, Finds Exist
nee a Burdensome Trial.
AMIABLE WOMAN FREE FROM ILLS

Bad tempered women can be divided In
to three classes, and all do a lot toward
making life unpleasant for the rest Of hui
mainly. There is the woman whose tenn
per is constantly in a state of irritation.
A little thing, a big thing or nothing al
all will throw her into a state Of anger,
and on the whole she is about the most
uncomfortable person in the world to havs
around. Then there is the woman with
the dynamite temper. You touch her in
! tender spot, and she goes off like a bomb,
put after that one flash she is as amiable
is ever. Finally comes the woman with
she s~lnoldering temper, the sulky woman
who has driven more men to-well, to
other women than any other. According
10 a physician who knows nc n Of things
about women physically and mentally, all
these types had better be getting rid Of
their bad tempers instead of coddling
them. He declares that INDUCING oneself
In a ct of ugly temper not only makes q
woman old and ugly before her time, but
actually shortens her life. Perhaps his
opinion on this subject might never have
been given to womankind had he not had
occasion to reprove a girl for Dragging
about her bad temper. She was talking to
another girl, who is habitually amiabie,
but CHANGED to nettlc her friend.
II want you to understand that you
can't talk TO me that way, F." exclaimed she
Of the bad temper. I've q bad temper,
and I'm proud of it, and l won't stand
my nonsense. 1 tell you / have a bad
temper"
ssThat is a self evident fact, /" answered
the amiable girl cheerfully. tive often
wondered why bad tempered people take
the trouble to announce the fact. They
nearly always do, you know"
This was like touching a match to kero-
sene. The bad tempered girl got red In
the face, gasped, spluttered and made a
spectacle of herself, and it was just here
that the doctor came ON the scene.
"Come, come, girls, " he said in tho
most soothing tone, don't let's have any
quarreling. Control your tempers, for ev-
cry time you allow them to control you
you spoil your good looks and lessen-yes,
actually lessen-your chances Of getting a
desirable husband, and, then, too, you in
jure yourselves physically"
is that really true?'' asked the amiabls
girl, interested at once, and the other be-
gan to cool down.
.sOh, my, yesi'' exclaimed the doctor.
bad temper is really responsible for more
old maids than a lack Of desire on the part
of man to marry.
This remark was too much for the bad
tempered girl. She forgot her grievance
and said: why, what do o mean? /
thought men-that is, men with any go
| about them-admired girls who, when
they feel they have been wronged, resent
it. I didn't know that the modern man
cared for these meek, amiable, sweet tenn
! pered women who never resent anything E
"A woman who is truly amiable, meek
and sweet tempered rarely has any cause
for resentment" answered the doctor.
'sff she is a strong woman with her amia-
bility, both men and women have 80 much
respect for her that they would do her no
wrong. The woman who governs her tenn
per is the woman who wins out in this
life. AS a rule, she makes the best match
She is certainly the most successful wom-
an in business and society, n where is
the person who will deny that she is the
best wife, mother and friend? Experience
has taught me that the average woman
with a naturally irritable temper culti-
Yates it, encourages it, fosters it. This ID
DIS VI no VI l11OCC AL II 4AAO Ia %~
women in low life. Indeed very rich and
idle women generally luxuriate in their
tempers. Perhaps they wouldn't if they
knew that anger curdles the blood, binders
circulation and consequently makes the
complexion bad and dulls the eye 1t also
weakens q woman's wits, making her less
attractive physically and mentally
bad temper does not destroy the mind,
but it renders one unable to work mental
ly. 1t controls the whole system and
throws it out of sorts. 1t renders ut
terly unfit to receive truths. Then indi-
gestion is sure to follow. If you go to q
woman who is under the influence of an
ger. who is burning from head to foot as
you were when l came in, turning to the
bad tempered girl, whatever o can say
that runs with her desire she will listen
to and nothing more. If you undertake
to expostulate with her, to convince her
that she weakens her cause by losing her
temper, she will not hear. She regards
you as being opposed to her, and opposi-
ton, real or fancied, only adds fuel to the
fame. The way to help a woman to learn
to govern her temper is not TO talk to her
about the evil effects of a2ger when she ID
in a rage That's whereThe average hus-
band makes a mistake. If when his wife
allowed i'll temper to dominate her he
would only preserve a gentle silence, she
would soon get over it, and a sense of
modification, a realization that she had
made a show of herself, would come over
her, and then, if he were only clever
enough to tell her that he didn' t want her
to spoil her pretty face by getting angry
again, she would think twice before Civ
ing way again.
MANY q man has been scared of from
asking a woman to become his wife by the
assertion from her lips that she has a bad
temper and is proud of 1t. Men are selfish
creatures, and, above all things. ike phys
ical and mental comfort. Perhaps the
average man does not hope to attain hap
piness in this world, though In truth he
never ceases to seek it, bot he does believe
that there is such a thing as harmony,
and he knows that a bad tempered woman
and harmony don's go hand in hand.
Availability is power, if women only knew
it. BY being always cheerful and amiable
she can get a hold on men that the bad
tempered woman. no matter how beauti-
full, rich and ~aliuring she is, never dreamed
of in her philosophy. Amiability Is not
only power. It is health. 1t is mental
progression. It is long life to oneself and
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