The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-01-30
WoMAN'S PURSUIT OF NAN.
4 uATRoN,s ADvToE TO 4 Girl ON
THE ART OF Pc LEASING.

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p,r,sc-New Corssts OF susde-The Appie
C,rc-NoyeIttcs In UnbreItas-rhe Tarkey,s
C,ay Succeeds the Rabbits Hind Eaot.
Tn pleasc men is one thing and to DO pleasing
a. man entirely another. II 10 q good deal easier
,o nlease the average mar than It is to DO pleas.
tno IN him. Women used to mako tho mistake
a, trying to please men; now 1t is tho fashion to
mako oneself pleasing to Thorn. Our grandmoth-
.rs and even our mothers have wasted no end of
time in thinking how they could best please tho
men OF their acquaintance whom they met. They
vent at It by thinking, saying, doing. wanting.
and even wearing the things that men liked
bet. 1t is not so with the girl OF to-day. One
M ner primary objects in life is not to please
men. but to make herself pleasing to them. She
has learned that the man to whom abe has made
herself pleasing docs not forget her as soon Ns
,he separates herself from him; that he wants
IN study her, to know her better. Above all, he
wants to do something for her.
1.-THE minute n man wants to do something
for you. my dear" said an experienced matron
IN A young woman, you may DO sure that
you arc pleasing to him."
On this point this matron ought to be we'll
informed, for she is pleasing to man and to
woman, too. The girl was q typical young
woman Of the period, Independent. impulsive
and also retrospective.
Now, when o man wants 10 90 any Ittlo
thing for you,' the matron went on, let him do
n, even IL he ia as old as Methuselah. and pre-
tend that 1t 10 the very thing you want him to
do, that nobody else could have done It half SO
we'll. and that life would not be worth living IL
he had not done that very thing for you. Mint
voune women out of ten nowadays, when o man
offers to do some trifiine service for them. pro-
te,t. This 10 o great mistake. The protest
ing woman may please q man occasionally.
but she can never mako herself eternally
pleasing to him. Suppose o man offers
20 take q letter to tho box on tho
corner for you. TO buy some medicine
chat he thinks would do your cold good, to step
around to o library to get some book that you are
wishing for; don't protest. Your impulse and
say rather impatientiy, oh, 1 wouldn' trouble
you for worlds. / can mail my own letter,
S,v u s nsnsF tnee el mof I ass r resd . tS sGlG;l Or IN !
your heart you appreciate the. mans offer
but you obey your first impulse, and that
4 they 70 ar gGSt'SSs half BAD BAD They are % epeat1Ses who
never do anything that they do not want to do,
CAUSE .ss sSsi; w wsnt t to % &c L. = a saii is !, prd u ifS,sl{ Them ss,
beyond polite expression to nave o woman show
that she had rather do things for herself. Every
woman who makes tho greatest. success along
this line L. she who always. under all circum-
woman should see to 1t that she brushes down
and chokes out the impulse In her to protest.
"Philosophers tell us that that which helps or
e eeasainly hin nfors' fellowship 81 p" Set WEE Z them and
Say that these protestations are Dad manners.
but II is surely bad policy to refuse to allow men
t, so sisvs s5 SSfudi do T rcy t pro ssxii L q You q v wSni% of %s Ike
yourself PLEASING 70 the sex that can never rid
s itssIf ST the 81 'd i,s t asn. ws 1--WE t Sns + Sf'i msn t. h az
not granted a spare rib that he had about him
we never would pave been at all. by AL means
earth for YOU that 10 wants to DO, You'll find
that you get g gfeat aeal more ouG OF NE, ina
pat himself on the back. and that you. will moi
only MAKE = Eoq han, r,spa ,e ead MGR 70 hh1mns,,ee u ,Sb sha,
Il Inc scientiac basis Of success in society,""
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The newest corset is made OF suede. For Q
good many centuries women nave been strap
ping their bodies up In Q combination OF steel
whaieoone. ana neaVy COTTON Rooos or Six ou,
IL remained TOT inc WOMAN OF to-oay 70 oemahe
q leather corset. some women IKE IL ano otneri
DO not Like evefytnine oise IN me- ie mas ~
gooa ana y. as Oaa saa,'S ar.u ' wha ao' u se I'M y !
woman who has to stand before q mirror to find
hsr waist or one who has Loaf airht of hers AL
together. But 1t 10 an intensely hot garment
and gives tho figure O stiff, set look. No thir
s %S%sn eo wSIld t drSs% q 5se ye soms ,S one ssS Of fhs
soft shades Of tan, blue, red and green. and are
handsomely embellished with lace, ribbon and
embroidery. A great deal is said and written
about women's not wearing their stays nearly
80 tight as formerly. This Is true and it isn't
true. There, 10 a period in every woman's life
when she pulls her strings too hard, IL matters
not whether they be corset strings, shot
strings. skirt strings, or what not. TIL
habit does not stick to her as it did to her fore
nMsr En- SS osose re gayGr now tnan Iney nav
women arc wearing those made of paIe pink
blue o.. yellow. with silk embroidered polka
SoOS r u t Se ~ 0t SuoSper shaaG; enn osners
striped silk.
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80 - 1IIH nSoe f~ptuiy IN
ssS1"St NauS snls .iS. o LEV.
-. 1910. "y a 1--we - N y uu'
10y ""o'9 e.ie"t
pointing tnat way. ono mas only TO watch the
women In any fashionable restaurant to see that
they eet about "A mucb comfort ont NJ the inc.
hvs.s-- M
prIetihg cup as men are supposed to do. Then
many Q woman nowadays owns her individual
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