The daily morning journal and courier., 1898-10-17

thing before love as the motive or mar riage It is the woman and not her wealth, the man and not his profession that Is to be wed, Love may go indeed where there Is place and where there is wealth, but these should follow and never lead love.
 ''The man or woman who sacrifices the instincts of the heart for the judg- ments of the mind, who refuses to fol- low loves guidance and to wed for love and chooses rather to make marriage means simply for personal gain and worldly profit is unfit for marriage, which should be the unseltish giving of self and in the very act of marriage, which should ever be birth into a higher life of holier love- commits moral suicide-kils the noblest instinct of the heart--and shall reap the utter loneliness and desolation which belong to death. Oh, the lovelessness, the lone llness the moral degradation, the spir- itual desolation which follow in the pathway of loveless, ambitious and worldly marriage.
 5. The men and women who. moved,
 perchance, by personal affection for each other, form not temporary union but permanent one, but who
 voluntarily, needlessly, Wilfully, wick
 edly and sometimes criminally refuse to recognize Gods purpose in marriage and refuse to receive it's rewards who prefer a childless home and who live
 simply to lead selfish, self-indulgent life, will find some time in the solitude and silence of their home, in their dWarfed nature their starved souls, their hollow and hungry hearts their blighted and perhaps bitter life the plain evidence of Gods frownlng coun- tenance and conforming judgment. In marriage, as in nature, Gods eternal, unohangeable, unacceptable law ab des, Whatsoever man soweth that shall he reap; he that soWeth to the flesh shall of the flesh reap corrupten; but he that soweth to the spirit shall of the spirit reap life
 "6. Finally, the men and women who inspired by love and led in her sweet way see in each other the complement of nature and of life and in obedience to Gods law take each other for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, till death do them part and who in that welded | state bear with each others faults, for | give each others sins, minister to each others wants, share each others sor- l rows and joys, and who. if God wills | it so, receive, keep, love and train the | children who are born to them, find in deed that that love grows sweeter, the home grows holier and the heart grows l richer in all it's purer affections and
 nobler powers by their obedience to this | holy law of marriage which is of God. l No man knows this better than pas- l tor; for the man who for twenty-five or | fifty years walks daily among the | homes of men and seeks to minister to l their hearts sees much and sees ire | quently what many men seldom see. ! The man who blesses the groom in his 1 joy and the bride lowing beneath her l orange blossoms, the man who calls and congratulates the young couple as | they set up their first home, the man who mingles his smiles with theirs as i they look into the face of their first 1 child and who pours the baptismal water on it's brow, the man who kneels | with them beside the cradle where the l little life struggles with the deadly de-
 mon of disease, the man who enters | their home when sore diversity strikes
 them low and who sees how strong the man Is for loves sake and how pa l tient and hopeful the woman is for her mans sake, the man who comes when 1 sickness comes to one or the other of l them and who marks the daily watch
 and the nightly vigil, who notes the tender and thoughtful ministry day af- i ter day and week after week, the man | who stands by the side of the lonely | mourner when one has been taken and | the other left, who listens to words of | loving memory and fearful regret, who l walks with men and women through
 the sunshine and shadows, the day | light and darkness of life's heetine l years, that man knows, I think, the 1 depth and tenderness, the strength and
 sweetness of welded love. This man | knows not simply from his own per, | sonal experience of life's pleasure and | pain, joy and sorrow but, also, out oi | his observation and sympathetic shar-
 ing of the pleasure and pain the joy | and sorrow of other men.
 Speaking, therefore, not simply out oi the nOly word, put out or the nOly eX- periences of life, would bid you who in welded life walk together along life's uneven way f1ecked with sunshine
 and shadow, to walk that way witt
 faith in God in obedience to His law
 and with deep, forbearing, forgiving
 tender, sympathetic, helpful and ever. | growing love one to the other. So shal the loving God keep you amid life''
 changes; so shall His light shine upor T your pathway and border it with flow
 CTS and paint His bow of promise ant
 of hope upon every dark but passing
 cloud.
 ITO you whom welded life may lie il
 the future, would say: Do not be sil 1y, but be serious, at times, at lsast
 do not speak of love and marriage al
 ways with laughter but, sometimes
 with the tenderness of tears.
 Remember oh man, that when yo,
 ask a woman for her love. you ask he
 for her heart, her life, her all. Well ma.
 she say to you:
 ''Do you know you have asked for the costli | est thing
 | Ever made by the hand above,
 A woman's heart and womans life,
 | And a wOman'S wonderful Oye2