The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1898-01-09

man has entirely disappeared--thltt ls,tht
cantle old maid who had little income
aud was eyerybody's friend. ToIyou she
was Cousin Mary" to somebody else
she was Aunt Molly while s{mebod.
alse who had gone to school With her
called her 'sAIinnie," when therb was 1
long illness, she appeared on tie scene
and was the gentlest of nursbs, whs
never grew weary and who never les
nat;ance. At the time GO o wedding she
was ON hand to help make tie wedding
cake. no assist with the trousseah and to
dress the bride. W@.En death knocked
ut the front door, she met hun with al
, 40 ana reverence and alb lived nc
strange hand to touch the dglr dead
one. while she was the only one whose
voica could really console thoseIln trou-
ble She begged pardon for t4e prodl'
e,ol and was always ready TO EXCUSE any
human weakness. She had mort friends
imam she could count, more holes than
ebo could live in, and when eheIcame TO
die everybody missed her. She was loved
and rpsnected. and if some yohng FOO
a .'no in awhile smoke of her asl IAN old
,'laia, Il was i'm an apologize Eone, as
If all mankind needed to be excused Tor
,ot having discovered her Projections.
This gentle creature, the friene of the
ontire family. has disappeared, and IN
bar nlacn is the energetic busting indie
Ion5ent bachelor woman. This woman
is very much alone and so fond Of speak
inc of her independence that one ls
+nmpted TO wonder whether she flnds u
rs agreeable as she claims it is.l She is
NOT willing to be one in the large faml-
IL: not willing to be. as was the gentle
aId maid. the friend of many, but she
seeks the much talked of Independence,
and. earning her own living, she stands
ouite alone. While she has hundreds of
aeonaintances | am tempted to wonder
if she ever gets as much love as did her
less highly educated predecessors, whom
she is inclined to scorn.
The average woman of to-day, being
abnormal. yearns for business career,
Undoubtedly there are times when it is
necessary, but nowadays too often that
woman who has a good income thinks to
be like a man and increase it. Miss
Small Fortune, who could live I'm com
fort on what was left her by hef father
and make herself an absolute necessity
to all those bound to her by ties OF blood
refuses to do this. She lives in hotel
and adds to her income in some special
way. Now, it is all right if a woman
has to earn her living. | respect, her for
it, and | applaud her ability if khe can
achieve it in some special, origiNa and
beminine way,but when it is NJ ecessa-
ny, when it is simply an ~ omanly
desire to get out into the b. vorld,
DO not think any one who s wha
a woman ought to be, what OF he
encourage herThe daughter &c. bus rlcl
man has taken up artistic garden ng. III
daughter of that rich man is ful hin
several dairies with fresh milk al Egg
while millionaire's daughter is III
ing dancing class. Several ing
act only of good, but of assured 2Sitio
are readytO manage your Soclet boo
for you, and in this way tell Y M JUS
who and just who you should M hay
en- your list How is this - t
straighten itself out? VIII Their be
survival of the fittest? Will thel ~ com
a time when the woman who ShOul
earn her own living will do SO N9uietl
and honestly or will the unhol% craz
for money making come to an endi
mean. of course, for Unnecessary mone.
making. Why can't those womdn wht
have plenty Of money allow whaE W0rl
there is to be done by those womRn VIII
have other people to support! neye
knew an honest woman work4r VIII
had not some elderly person OF SOM
little child dependent on her, or som
one of her own family who needed assist
anee and to whom help must be- given
An ingenuity with which the fwomel
who have to work think out method
of doing it is something wOnderfln .
The brightest girl / know has To aid il
keeping an invalid mother Sle tTies
half a hundred things, and she Hid no
seem to earn her salt at any q them
There was the druggist to pay, Nle doc
tors bills to meet and the many many
trfles to be got for the invalid that seen
20 little and costs so very muclI Now
she Is as prosperous as she can De, and
she enjoys her work. This is what sht
does You who are giving you'd small
boy party need not bother abOsIt how
the children are to be entertained YoI
drop her line and say: ''DeaE Miss
Playwell, my boy of 10 years is to have
a birthday party on next Tuesday, anC
there viii be 100 children to entertain
Ii you have nothing else ON hanH, vii
you kindly manage this for me?i' Miss
Playwell appears at the proper time, ar
ranges the rooms to suit herself anC
then sees that the various plays ARK
properly led, manages the children il
their ances, looks after the small one'
who are too slfy to have good time
and makes every blessed little pickle pre-
sent enjoy himself keenly. Stiff Mrs
NiIliouairp who is to give a dinner mar
ty, lets Miss Playwell know to whom i
is to be given, and behold! there il SOM
special new scheme of decorations fol
the table, the menu cards are original
and the favors are unusually clever Miss
Playwell merely retails her brains fol
the benefit of those who either lack then
or who do not care to exercise them
and she is such a delightfully."- unselfisf
girl that she absolutely finds pleasure
in her work.
Her cousin, gentle Mrs Industry who
married a delightful man who danno
earn penny and whose joy and heart
ache is her lame son, swells her Income
in another way. She was educate4 in ;
French convent, and she knows hbw t
sew as only those ladies whoI have
been taught by the nuns. So IwheI
Miss Fuss-and-featherS gets up al sew
ing class this winter it is Mrs. Industry
who teaches that class of girls how t,
sew. for the fashionable girl is VERT am
bilious in this respect, and the tdache
Is paid well for it. UnconsciouslJ, sht
teaches them some other things for tThicl
there lis no accredited sum of none!
paid She makes them comprehend tht
value of low, sweet voice in wdman