The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1898-02-04

changed from fur to velvet neckwear
as the season grows warmer next March.
Ihey are always pretty sure to be in
tashlon. Helen Grey-Page.
How to be a Belle.
:, An older woman who has been through
that maelstrom called society offers the
following hints to her younger sisters who
a Ire ABOUT to make their first plunge into
1T takes some MONTHS? she SAYS, Gin
many cases years, of the worldS fine pol-
iSh!ng to soften the little roughness and
tnose thousand and one incOmpletenesses
thit embltter extreme youth and turn ev-
cry want of attention, every slip of other
peoples tongues, into perfect regiment
of Sights. e'ADon'
OF social life is anything but the unalloyed
happiness l.IM of which she has dreamed.
The first lesson for a debutante to
learn is that she is not the only debutante
Ill the room, and that every eye is by no
means liked upon her. Remember that
each little debutante is just as much &C.
cupied with herself as you are, and each
motner who sits ranged against the wall
IS thinking very deeply of her own par.
tlcuiar little duckling that has turned SO
fact-that is, that everyone is not looking
at you-may be shock to the vanity. buf
it will do more to lessen that painful
shyness so wisely called by the French
faux hante than anything else in the
world.
mo one really knows or remembers
whether you were out in a certain figure
OF the german or not, and if you are left
alone there is no use in worrying and
feeling mortified until by the time some
one goes turn up you have not the spirit
left to make yourself agreeable
Being belle is often the merest acct
and brothers, who, with their friends,
are determined to make her a success
Then, again, her parents may have asked
lot of people to some entertainment, ami
from decency, not snobbishness, the men
who have been invited are bound to meet
and show her some attention.
I'm all probability you: are just as at
having the better time. and ten to one
the very men who are showing her atten-
know it. This is most consoling thought
if you happen to be left alone.
The most absolute necessity for being
favorite in every sense of the word is
sweetness. Not surface sweetness, but
that genuine kindness of heart which
makes us considerate for all about us at
home as well as abroad, and which it is
just as sure to make itself evident as the
tea rose is bound to exhale it's exquisite
perfume.
"Never say mean things about anyone
Your hearers may laugh at the time, but
instinctively they feel they may be the
next to suffer, and one by one they will
drop away from you, for there is nothing
so absolutely killing as ridicule.
"Never try to keep man with you
against his will. You may succeed. very
we'll for once or twice, but he is bound t.
feel more or less stuck and in the end
will avoid you. After all, your belledom
is not for one or two. years, but perhaps
for a good many, especially in America,
where the girls marry late, and you don't
want to make friends for only one season.
"Accept attention with so sweet a will
ingness that the other will be positively
glad he offered it, and if you have to de-
cline, do it as graciously and as kindly as
you can.
"Never be late for dinner or keep any
one waiting, and make point of always
speaking as soon as possible, and most
deferentially, to the elderly people in Il
room.
"With these small hints as to the man
ners and the greater one as to sweetness
warp is in some beautiful piece of tapes
life and find warm place in the hearts
about her" --Baltimore Sun.
The Borrowing Habit.
Probably there is no other women SO
universally disliked and execrated as the
woman who has contracted the borrow
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