The evening times. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1895-1902, 1898-04-12
GOOD ADVICE
BY p PRESIDE
A Matron's Views Expressed
to Young Girls.
Maidens AdnOnished Not to Protest
Against Offers of Service From
Their Masculine Admirers.

Seated before a coy fire in a West Side
! boudoir. says a writer in the Cleveland
| Plain Dealer, was a youngish matron
and two of her girl friends. The topic OF
conversation. naturally enough, was the
| proper study of womankind-man. One
| of the girls had been making what she
| doubtless thought were guarded inquiries
1 as to how one might tell when a man
was developing beyond the friendship
stage. The matron easily saw the drift
| of her young friends questions, and, hay-
| ing a deep interest in the latter. deter
| mined TO give her a hint bearing on the
| subject.
Let me lay 1t down as a proposition
which can under no circumstances be
gainsaid," began the matron, that the
| mute a man wants to do something for
you he has arrived at the point when he
begins to hope that he may become more
than brother to you When a man
wants to do something for you, my dear
let him do IL, even IL he is as old as
Methuselah, and pretend that Il is the
very thing that you want him to do; that
nobody else could have done it half so
well and that life would not be worth
living IL he had not done that very thing
for you. Nine young women out of ten
nowadays, when man offers to do some
triiing service for them protest This
Is great mistake. The protesting wom-
an may please a man occasionally. but
she can never make herself eternally
pleasing to him. Suppose a man offers
10 take letter to box on the corner
for you, to buy some medicine that no
thinks would do you good, to step round
to the library TO get some book that YOU
are wishing for. don't protest Your i'm.
pulse and the impulse of the average
woman Of today is to say rather impa.
tlentiy; oh, l wouldn't trouble you for
worlds. L can mail my own letter -
never take medicine for a cold or X
have something else / can read tonight
In your heart you appreciate the mans
offer, but you obey your first impuIsa and
that Is TO protest.
Now, know men well and they aren't
halt bad. They are creatures who never
do anything that they don't want to do.
or rather' when they want to do 1t, and
II provokes them beyond polite expression
to have woman show that she had ratb-
err do things for herself. Every woman
loves to be pleasing TO men, and the NO.
man who makes the greatest success
along this line is she who ALWAYS under
all circumstances, allows men TO Do things
for her. Every woman should see TO II
that she brushes down and chokes out the
impulse in her to protest. PHILOSOPHERS
tell us that that which helps or hinders
fellowship makes the good and bad of
manners Protesting on the part of wo-
men certainly binders fellowship between
them and men, Perhaps IL is putting ~
100 strongly TO say that these protesta-
lions are bad manners. but il is surely
oad policy to refuse TO allow men to serve
you.
Try the advice OF a woman of the
world and do not protest if you would
make yourself pleasing TO the sex that
can never rid itself of the idea that we |
owe our being to an expression of its GEN
crosby; that If man had not granted a |
spare rib that he had about him we never
would have been at all. By all means |
let every man living do every little thing |
on earth for you that he wants to do /
i on II ma that you get great deal more |
OUT OF lie, that you will afford himself /
unlimited opportunities to pat himself on
the pack and that you will not only make
yourself pleasing 10 him, but that Won
Will make him pleased with himself |
which is the scientific basis of success in
society"