Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1898-10-24

There are some things that want to
/ bring before you. l know there are
/ those of you who have had homes set
/ up for great many years. and then
! there are those here who have just es-
| tablished their home They have only
/ been in that home a few months or a
| few years. Then there are those who
will, after awhile, set up for the--eelves
! home, and it is right that I should
speak out upon these themes.
| Have God For n Guest.
My first counsel to you is, have God
| in your new home, if it be new home,
and let him who was guest at Bethany
be in your household. Let the divine
blessing drop upon your every hope and
plan and expectation. Those young peo-
pie who begin with God end with
heaven. Have on your right hand the
engagement ring Of the divine affection.
If one Of you be Christian, let that
one take the Bible and read a few verses
in the evening time and then kneel
down and commend yourselves to him
who setteth the solitary in families. [
want to tell you that the destroying
angel passes by without touching or en-
tering the doorpost sprinkled with
blood Of the everlasting covenant. Why
is it that in some families they never
get along and in others they always get
along we'll? / have watched such cases,
and have come to q conclusion. In the
first instance nothing seemed to go
pleasantly, and after awhile there came
devastation, domestic disaster or es-
arrangement. Why? They started wrong.
In the other case, although there were
hardships and trials and some things
that had to be explained still things
went on pleasantly until the very last.
Why? They started right.
The Angel In the House.
My second advice to you in your home
is to exercise to the very last POSSIBLE
ity of your nature the law of forbear-
ance. Prayers in the household will not
make up for everything. Some of the
best people in the world are the hardest
to get along with. There are people
who stand up in prayer meetings and
pray like angels who at home are un-
compromising and cranky. You may
not have everything just as you want
it. Sometimes it will be the duty Of
the husband and sometimes of the wife
to yield, but both stand punctiliously
on your rights, and you will have a
Waterloo with no Blucher coming up
at nightfalI TO decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic af
fairs. Let that be a law Of your house
hold. The best thing ever heard Of my
grandfather, whom l never saw, was
this, that once having unrighteously re-
buked one of his children, he himself
having lost his patience, and, perhaps
having been misinformed of the child's
doings, found out his mistake and in
the evening Of the same day gathered
all his family together and said: CHOW,
[ have one explanation to make and one
thing to say. Thomas, this morning I
rebuked you very unfairly. I am very
sorry for it. I rebuked you in the pres
ence of the whole family, and now ask
your forgiveness in their presence. 1t
must have taken some courage to do
that. Il was right, was it not? Never
be ashamed to apologize for domestic
inaccuracy. Find out the points-what
are the weak points, if | may call them
so, Of your companion, and then stand
aloof from them. Do not carry the fire
of your temper too near the gunpowder
II the wife be easily fretted by disorder
in the household, let the husband be
careful where he throws his slippers
If the husband come home from the +
store with his patience exhausted, do /
not let the wife unnecessarily cross his I
temper, but both stand up for your
rights, and [ will promise the everlast-
ing sound Of the warwhoop. Your life
will be spent in making up, and mar
riage will be to you an unmitigated /
curse. Cowper said:
The 1indest and the happiest pair
Will find occasion to fOrbear
And something, every day they live,
To pity and perhaps forgive.
I advise, also, that you make your
chief pleas Ire circle around about that I
home. II is unfortunate when it is 9th |
erwise. If the husband spend the most I
of his nights away from home of choice I
and not Of necessity, he is not the head I
Of the household. He is only the cashier.
If the wife throw the cares of the house
hold into the servants lap and then /
spend five nights Of the week at the
opera or theater, she may clOthe her
children with satins and laces and rib
bons that would confound a French .
miIliner, but they are orphans. 1t is
sad when child has no one to say it's
prayers to because mother has gone off
to the evening entertainment In India
they bring children and throw them to
the crocodiles, and it seems very cruel,
but the jaws of social dissipation are
down more little children
today than all the monsters that ever
crawled upon the banks of the Ganges.
L have seen the sorrow of a goddess
mother on the death of a child she had
neglected. 1t was not so much grief
that she felt from the fact that the
child was dead as the fact that she had