The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1898-12-09
IS COURTESY A LOST ART?

pint Of cider, Is to laugh"
IS COURTESY A LOST ARr3
"Appiied Sociology" is Not Over
bhrdened with 1t.
IF ! was poor aud an object of ap-
piled sociology, you know, should have
felt hurt. badly hurt, assure you. As
it H., ! am above it all; still, it has set
me thinking Of the divers ways modern
philanthropy has, Of imposing Upon the
finer feelings Of the DOOR,
She was dainty little woman. Her
long, clever fingers cinched the object of
her grlevance-a postal card. Distressed
by the enforced idleness Of the summer
months, she had enrolled in the employ
mcnt bureau of one Of the best-known
phllanthropic organizations. The card
was her first recognition. 1t read: "Call
at o'clock Tuesday. Bring this card
with you, and announce your arrival"
And what did you expect?''
- am sure l don't know" blushed the
little woman; ''but don't you think they
might have been a little more cutIrteous"
III you had gone around the metropolis
as much as your humble servant" was
her friends smiling rejoinder, "you would
nave learned before this that courtesy is
lpses OF the Latin races, they have good
manners. Witness tho manners of the
Immigrant before he has encountered too
c.csely the American reformer 1t is a
mo0ted question in my mind whether ap-
pied sociology in washing the unwashed
Will not eventually cleanse them of their
cardinal vlrtue-courtesy. Example. we
are told is the most powerful force in
dealing with the poor. If the average
for S,fp<
oe consldered-brings 10 better manners
INTO the slums than he exercises in the
society of what he considers his equals
or his peers. he will do little good. I
have often thought if, while teaching the
poor home and physical sanitation, mod
ern philanthropists would only reciDroca te
oy asslmllating something of the rarely
railing courtesy Of the poor, how much
easier uptown living might be-
largely college bred!"
"Eully one-half, should think"
Then how do you account for lack of
courtesy in their dealings with their less
fortunate neighborsY'
1T has been variously asserted that
coiiege-bred people, as class. are ut
teriy mannerless. Did you ever 20 TO a
collegiate tea? OF all the dismal ner-
tornances! Women clever in theory. but
utterly wanting in knowledge of human
nature and the indefnable little things
W.! 1rat make up the flower of courtesy.
1hey are prone to be as unresponsiye
as sphinx or Datronizing beyond endur-
ance. Fancy what they are capable of
pemg when they force their way into the
n0Iies OF the poor. where there is no nos
s,Dlilty OF confronting the only power
'ney seem to consider worth polite con-
Si1efatlon-a man or woman who holds
themselves "'' 'nes
"A college degree is not without it's adj
'antases,' interposed the little, SENSITIVE
woman. Not long ago, in one Of on,
leading cities. applied at a boardin.
mousse tor. accommodations. The frs.
question the landlady asked was: Ar
you IN. ~ My guests would not tol.
crate anything less. | presume var, ~,
an n. A.? No? Too bud!' and with ;,
condoning culver in her lachryn1ose voice
mllady bowed me out
wen, higher education has certainty
MADE rapid strides when it requires a de-
free 10 get INTO d boarding house" said
the little woman's friend.
do you know why the 1andlady WIS
forced to restrict her hot1se to Ph. rs
Ihelr bad manners. | was told, force,]
her degreeless boarders to find quarter,
elsewhere" qua =
LACK of courtesy is not confined to :hv
college-bred. remarked a woman who
had been an interested listener. when !:
comes to relationship with the Door. So
cety' IN the accepted form, classes al,
women who work for a living among tn,
poor. Not the poor they would reeenar.
ate, but the poor it is more convenient to
aVold than to cultivate. aim still smart,
ing from a recent ,discourtesy. so pardon
me If speak feelinglt. / had occasion
to spend from Saturday to Monday at 4
country house, where 1 was an honorer
guest. They were people of wealth and
social position. Among the gentlemen
was well-known New Yorker. Durina
the entire visit he paid me every posi-.
pie courtesy. do not mean to imply
that he was enamored or anything of that
sort; still, he showed decided preference
for my society. Monday we returned to.
gether to the city. As the train nearel.
the station he asked which direction
was going. l gave him the number of
my business quarters downtown, which
was not far from his Office.
Central park?'
" I do replied. but l belong to the
great army of New York working women
and my business is downtown
I'm the twinkling of an eve his Who'll,
business outside of the Office unless forced
to: l am not ashamed of it. hut l con
slider my friends. 1t might embarras s.
them; men do not drag their business, as
rule, into their social conversation. and
why should woman?
May l ask your occupat ion:' he said
ut length. The atmosphere at this time
was decidedly chilly.
II explained it briefly, and as it is
hn 1Sc%Dy ,~.s%1
est.
Every commendable; very commenla-
bic. he repeated.
"'Not at all, said; it's simply mat
ter of bread and butter.
when we got off the car it was rain
ing. I had 10 umbrella. He lad. W,
walked to the Broadway car be sharing
his umbrella. When we reached the cor
ner. he stopped. 1t was still raining.
"'Wcll, as you have only block to
walk he said, I will leave YOU Good
day. and he leaped on car. and l was
left to make my way as best l could in
the rain. Do you suppose for an instant
he would have treated me in that dis
courteous manner had l been what he
took me for, woman of elegant leisure.
living in some fashionable uptown apart
ment! Call him a snob, if you will. So
ciety is full of them. At bottom it is So
ciety's feeling toward the woman who
works"
Miss Jennings, the nurse of the Seneca.
said: at was beautiful to see the cour-
tesy with which several Cuban officers
expressed to Miss Barton their apDrecia-
ton of the service she rendered the Gu
ban soldiers. In their full regimentals
they called in body at the hospital shin.
''Well. if the war does nothing else, it
will have accomplished much if our SOL
diers assimilate something of the Dons'
inherent courtesy.'-New York Tribune.
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