Evening star., 1898-07-23
POINTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS.
Would-Be Brides Can study This for
Use I'm the Autumn.

Would-Be Brides Can study This for
Use i'm the Autumn.
From the Philadelphia Times.
In view Of the numerous marriages ar
ranged to come Off in the autumn few
points of etiquette connected with the same
will be of interest to many of our readers
Xhe old superstition that marriages which
take place in May are properbially unhappy
is still very much in force, as proved by the
comparatively few that have taken place in
that month. 1t would be interesting, could
statistics be gathered as to the truth or fall
lacy of this ban upon the merrie month of
May, and whether it might not be released
from the i'll omen that overshadows 1t in
the estimation of brides, if not BRIDE
grooms,
One doubtful Point appears to be whether
the rector or vicar of a parish should re-
ceive a fee If he does not perform the cere-
nony, or if he only assists at one. The
rule is that in every case the fee should be
given to him whether he oficiates or not
And regards the friends or relatives of
the bride or bridegroom asked to offciate
il rests with the bridegroom to determine
whether 10 give some memento of the occa-
sion in the way of silver plate or something
equally valuable, or fee corr esponding to
that given to the rector vicar although
oftener than not, when the relationship is
very near ons-brother or uncle for in
stance-this recognition of services is dis
penSed with. Again, in asking q relative
or friend to assist at the ceremony the
views of the rector or vicar should always
be studied as far as possible and clergy
man invited to attend whose views COIN
eide with his, rather than run counter to
them and this should be thoroughly under
stood and considered. The fees before men
toned are paid by the bridegroom and he
either pays them himself previous to the
ceremony or deputies his best man. to do
SO for him at Its conclusion.
We are constantly asked concerning we'd
ding favors. These have gone out of fash
ion in favor of buttonhole bouquets of nat
ural flowers, or tiny sprays of real orange
blossom are given 10 the guests, or if the
brides name IS that of a f1oWer-Eiolet
Rose or Lily, for instance-and the flower
IS procurable. the buttonholes are formed
of the flower in question, with a spray of
myrtle or some sweet-scented leaf These
huttonhole bouquets are handed in ha SIX cts
py the bridesmaids or by children<at the
conclusion Of the ceremony but these floral
favors are by means given at all we'd
d!ngs, especially when the guests are yary
numerous and expense is a matter of con-
slceration. The bridal bouquet and the
pfldesmatds' bouquets are presented by the
bridegroom on the morning of the wedding
ana the presents are presented on the pre-
V.ous day to the latter having been select
ed by the bride and bridegroom and not
oy the bridesmaids themselves
On the subject of providing the carriages
lor wedding numerous queries reach u.s.
One rule cannot be laid down for town and
country alike, as little modification oc-
ours IN the latter. In town the guests pro-
vide their own carriages and the brides
father for those of his own family. tnclud-
ing the brlde on her way to the church and
tne bridegroom one for himself and the
oiiie 10 convey them after the ceremony
10 the houss where the reception is to be
held, and afterwards to the railway sta
ton. ~
The departure from the church should
offer no difficulties; the bride and bride
g1 DOM should be the first to leave and tba
brides mother should follow immediately
alterWard; the guests should then do so I'm
ehe order in which the carriages are called
up; w heh any deviation from this latter
RUE Is attempted 1t does not work well. for
instance on recent occasion at fashion
ape wedding, 1t was decided that the guests
s.cuiu leaVe as quickly as possible in the
s'iIiases as laey drove up, regardless a.
TO whether they ware the owners of them
or not: 1t followed that many of the owners
were forced to occupy back seats in their
own carriages, guests who We're strangers
having entered before them and taken the
seats facing the horses; others who owned
smart carriages. were forced to leave in
1ndiferent single-horsed hired onas This
aI,ranSenent speaks for itself, and it is not
liReiy liF TO meet with general favor, as the
tline saved in getting away is not compan-
sated Tor by the results that follow
-" heh guests are asked from town to be
present at a wedding in the country the
, e Ia,her IS OF necessity obliged to
nave carriages in readiness to meet them
at the railway station to convey them to
the church and ,afterward to the receptton
ana THIS arrangement Is always mentioned
OF the invitations to avoid any doubt as to
ire means OF arrival at the church But
country residents provide their own car
rlages, as In town, and, unless the BRIDE
groom Is himself a country resident. the
prldes father places his carriage at his
disposai TO convey the bride and himself
ffem the church to the mansion and again
TO the railway station after the reception.