The Ocala evening star. [volume] (Ocala, Fla.) 1895-1943, 1898-06-06
MOnOpOlists i'm the Home

plOyed by their mana gers. Mo
nopolists make life difficult for the
majority; they consider the good
of the few instead of the many:
they discourage young men by
depriving them Of enterprieing
business careers; they are thor
oughly Selfish-these are some of
the things which we say about
them. Yet there are people who
are severe in denOuncing these
methods in the business world
while they are guilty of the very
same sins in their family life.
They are monopolists in the home.
A moments reflection will suffice
to call up instances IN the &C
quaintance of every one of us, and
We are fortunate indeed if our
own households can nvt furnish
an illustration.
First comes the man who com
pletely monopoliZes the time and
strength Of his wife, who, poor
woman, never expects a minute
to herself. after he enters the
house. If he happens to feel Ike
spending the evening at some
place of amusement. she must go,
no matter how tired she MAY
happen to be. But lot her be
ever so eager for the treat, and If
he elects to stay at home, there
is nothing more to be said. He
will not allow her to belong to
any of the women's clubs, because
this would neceSSitatr her coca
Sional absence from home on his
return from business, and that h.
could not tolerate. She must not
ride a wheel because he dOe,,n /
care for it himself. In IL word,
she must walk, talk, go or stay
only when it is his wish, and she
has yielded SO sweetly and unset
fishly for years that she has
! ceased to have an indepen, mt eX-
iStence
But husbands are not the only,
monOpOlists. Sometimes it is the
wife who demands everything.
She spends her time rs she
pleaseS, regardless Of the cOmfort
of husband and children. She in
SiStS upon having guests in the
house when the baby is i'll, or
when the husband particularly
needs rest and quiet. She gives
receptions when she knows the
money IS needed for Other things.
She spends her sunmers at rX-
| penSive resorts, leaving her huS7
band to get along as he can, Whlifi
working hard to attain the in I
come necessary to crafty her tx
| travagant tastes. Her huSba nc
| longs for the peace and comfort
OF home, with his children about
| him, but she cannot be bothered
! with hOuSekeeping, so they I've
at hotel. and the children are
| sent to an all-the-year-rOund
school.
| Occasionally a daughter is the
household monopoliat. The father
| tolls, the mother economies, the
| other children go without in order
| that Marion may have her way.
An outsider often wonders at
such a state Of affairs, but those
behind the scenes understand that
this is the only way to keep the
| peace, and by degrees each mem
Der Of the family has come to pre-
| fer yielding rather than have
| "Such fuss" 1t is even worse
when the whole household IS or
dered in accordance with the
WISHES of an only son who is far
from being worthy Of such sacri-
| fees.
But all these are extreme cases,
and, happily, not very common.
! 1t is in somewhat less noticea bic
ways that many Of US deserve the
title. The wife who wishes to
| have her husband call to herself, :
and frOWnS on a bicycle ride or a
cunning expedition which she can
not share, who drives away all