Kansas City journal. [volume] (Kansas City, Mo.) 1897-1928, 1898-03-20
MUST BEWARE OF THE men.
ADVICE GIVEN by AN OLD WOMAN
TO HER YOUNG COMPANION.
Trust in Your Own Sex-Girls Are Too
Ready to Accept Without Cues
ton Everything Their
Male Admirers Say.
From the Chicago Inter Ocean.

Male Admirers say.
From the Chicago Inter Ocean.
Woman's friendship for woman is one
thing. and woman's friendship for man al
together another. The latter Is not so fra
gile as the former. An old woman and a
young woman can be the truest and best
of friends: two old women can be thor
oughly sincere and faithful in their friend
ship. and two young women can be the
same until they become interested in the
same man. Two men who are friends often
become interested in the same woman, but
the bond between them may not be broken
thereby. Let two young women who are
friends get interested in the same man and
there is a very different story to tell.
why is il that we never see two young
women loyal and true and faithful in their
friendship for one another, as we men
are?" man often asks.
1t is because there is a marked difference
in the quality of mans mind and OF wom-
ans. Since women are creatures of faith.
1t would seem more natural for them TO be
better friends one to another than men;
but they aren't. Woman has more faith
when it comes 10 unseen things than man,
but man has more faith in the things and
people around him than his sisters and his
wife and mother. Faith is the basis of
friendship. ad without it honeyed declara-
tons, such as women are wont TO make,
avail nothing.
An cid woman told a young girl some
valuable things about this matter of friend
ship recently. Between the two there eX-
lists one of those ideal relationships which
ally youth and age, giving to one the wis
dom of many years and TO the other the
joyouSneSS of q few.
Il wonder why it is said the girl, that
is so different between men of the same
age, or between men and women. Now,
l don't feel at all toward my young women
friends as L do toward my men friends.
There are n great many things that I
would tell the men that l wouldn't dream
of telling to women. a thing is safe with
a woman as long as things are running
smoothly between you and her, but as
rivalry springs up over clothes or beaux or
any old thing over which women vie with
one another. she forgets all about her
against you. Mind you. I'm talking about
myself as well as every other woman in
every other country of the world. We are
an In the same boat Something seems to
nave been left out of our composition when
1t comes to implicitly trusting another
woman Of the same age and attractions"
III tell you what il is" answered the
old woman. 1T is faith. Women certain
ly are queer. They. can believe in all sorts
of queer gods and creeds and nave per-
feet faith in miracles and man, and yet
they cannot trust their feminine fellow
~ Soto SiA6o ~
older or younger or decidedly unattractive.
The reason you tell your men friends things
that you won't tell your women friends is
because you have faith in them, and YOU
have this faith in them because they have
faith in you. Faith begets faith. TIC have
a friend you must be one. You can't ex-
pect women to be true to you unless you
are true to them. II every woman had per-
feet faith in the goodness and sincerity of
every. other woman of her acquaintance,
friendship between woman and woman
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friendship between man and man or wom-
an and man. One woman can understand
another. can put herself in her sisters
place, can feel not only for her but with
her as man could never do, but, alas and
alack! we don't do 1t because we lack faith
In one another. Faith helps us to draw to
us whatever We actively trust in. Faith,
fidelity; it means trust.
You become friends with a man. and his
inherent faI,h n faith in you gives you not only
your friendship fiourishes and grows
strong. You meet a woman of your own
age nc you lack faith in her and she
you VOW and declare that you will al
ways be true to one another. come what
may: Faith is one of the most powerful
tracts to itself whatever or whoever it
earnestly and persistently desires. If you
wish to establish a true relationship be-
vate a spirit of faith in your own sex. and
preach and demonstrate that spirit to
them. Another thing; don't have over-
fidelity and trust that you give to the rib
sex and give it to the women folks. and
things will adjust themselves more fairly
Not for worlds would 1 have you lose
your faith in men. but don't believe every
thing they say. Above al! things, never
mind. Accept it with your lips. yes. but
not with your mind or heart. What DO I
mean? Just this: II one Of your men
sfsena swav us4 4raE very attentive: should
come back with the thinnest Of excuses,
you would not only accept it graciously.
ali all right EgI.' to a's aeceSt 2 it with IT; the eG ms. t bpt
not with the mind. If a woman friend
should neglect you two weeks you
w w9pldn of,a take Hn,s stock xo,i in IA any excuse she
to be true. The woman's excuse is more
often genuine than the man Men do
wants to be with you nothing short Of a
wide separation in miles will keep him
away. Death itself won't do it unless he
happens TO be the corpse. So don't be-
very ingenious. Now I know a Chicago
lawyer. a brilliant fellow who has had a
meteoric career. and really while. if I
1 must say that 1 could not fail to accept
and admire them. Only the other night I
heard aim make an excuse to a girl. to
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having been around to see her in a month
of Sundays. She reproached him, and he
said. in the most i~nsinuat!ng voice:
Why. my dear girl, l haven't been be-
cause I've been trying to stay away from
YOU. You are too attractive for me, and I
fanc!ed you cared for some one else more;
20 ] stayed away. But it's no use. I
couldn't stand 1t any longer. SO here I
am back. and you'll have to endure me.
Stay away from you 1 can't
"Tha girl was in the seventh heaven and
believed every word of that excuse" con-
tinued the old woman. Il knew that that
man had been devoting himself to another
girl. and my mind rejected every word he
uttered. but at the same time it applauded
his ingenuity. What we women. need is a
little more faith in each other in little
things. just n trifiing shade less in our men
friends. Then. l tell you. things would be
more evenly balanced. You make a test
case with one OF your fayorite girl friends
and you'll see that two girls can be Just
as good friends as two men. Give her
truth and tenderness and faith and they
will beget the same qualities in her. Not
even interest In the same man can then
break the cords of love and respect that
will bind you together"
Club Women in New York.