The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1898-10-08
Duty Of the Mistress.

gsoes and what not in that time. and
their ages varied from sweet sixteen 10
sere sixty. / got them through adyer-
] tisements and employment bureaus
mostly, and I wouldn't dream OF get
| ting a girl that way now
What" exclaimed the young house
keeper II should feel myself lost II /
didn't have at least one or two adver-
tisements TO write each month. and did
not pay several dollars into the treas
ury OF these servant exchanges"
"Qut IT," said the old woman en-
phatlcally. when sou WANT cook go
TO the cook Of q nelghbor or friend, who
| has been in her place a long time. and
ask her to recommend friend. When
YOU want waitress. go TO girl that
YOU know to be good waitress and ask
| her to do the same. Their friends are
almost sure to be women OF the same
character and capabllitY, and in this
way you are apt to get excellent girls.
You can't Judge servant that you Sc
cure through an exchange or an adVer-
tisement by her recommendations, for
housekeepers often give servants a fine
send-off to get rid OF them In peace.
Long ago l was guilty OF doing It mS-
self, but wouldn't dream OF such
thing now.
AS soon as you get a eervant show
her your way of doing things. Don't ex-
pect her to learn everything in one les
son. Make up your mind to go over the
same ground again and again, II neces-
sary, and by no means allow yourself
to instruct her In a fault-fndlng spirit
or a spirit OF reproof. Teach her as
workman teaches an apprentice, and
you'll find her eager enough to learn
Above all II you want to keep your SER
wants after you've trained them don't
! make their lives burden by seeing
that they mind their own business. see
that you mind your own.
There now" calculated June Bride
groom. lighting n cigarette, and smiling
trIumphantly. II told you so.
you didn't do anything Of the kind.
You only grunted." retorted his VIE
'But tell me just what you mean by
mInding my own business as far as my
servants are concerned?" turning her
attention again 10 her old friend
simply this said she Of large e%-
pcrience. 1.-THE average woman takes
too much interest In the affairs OF her
servants. She wants to know what
church they go to, where they epena
their evenings out, all about their rel
HklNG5s WHAT LlGN w WIN bAANAA "@PN-'
and a thousand other things. Servants
are human creatures, and they resent
this Any living creature who earns a
living, even II 1t is a starvation living,
ACQUIRES the spirit Of independence.
and we should respect this In our SER
wants. II you'll learn TO treat your SER
wants exactly as your husband treats
the employees in his office, the domestic
troubles will end at once. Men. have
no trouble in retaining porters, clerks,
cashiers, boob-keepers and stenograph-
ers in their'empl0y for life time. What
we women must learn is to treat our SER
want girls as business women, and our
grooms and gardeners and furnace men
as business men. Suppose your husband
asked the men in his office the questions
about their golngs and comlnFs that you
ask your servants. He wouldn't have
man or boy left in his employ in a
weeks time IL they had any self-resepct,
and know they have. 1t Is because the
average woman will not let her servant
be independent that she cannot keep
her. After learned to do this had no
more trouble.
But thought 1t was the right thing
to look out for the moral and spiritual
well being of ones servants" protested
the young wife. 'and / have been so
conscientious about It."
ITS a great mistake. Take an inter
est in your servants" advised Mrs.
Golden wedding, "but don't harass their
souls salvation and such things. AS l
said, learn TO mind your own business;
that's the keynote OF success in getting
along with servants. I've followed
this plan forty-fve years, and shall fol-
folw 1t until I'm planted. My girls
come and so, as their work permits;
they spend their evenings where they
please; have what company they please
and spend their wages as they see ftt
1 never ask them question except
about their work, but they voluntarily
tell me from day to day OF their pleas
ures and disappointments, Of their
friends and relatives, and so on. They
are satisfied, because they know that
when their work Is done their private
life is their own; that they have secured
the reward OF a bread-winning woman
independence. You try my plan, for
know II works to perfection, and don't
forget to mind your own business"
81 shall certainly try your way" said
the young woman, smiling happily once
more.
Forgive me, dearie," said her hus-
band, stroking her hair.
Forgive you?" she repeated; Why
what for? II was my fault, entirely
and I'm sure you know all about man
aging servants and at this Mr.. and
Mrs. Golden Wedding exchanged an UNI
Outstanding smile.-New York Sun.