The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-07-23

The working gentlewoman, as we
have seen wants to get married
in order that she may nave less
work and more comforts. the clue
woman, who is often a widow, remains
unmarried for the very same reason.
Naturally she is not a pioneer, nor an
emancipation nor enthusiast. nor theorist
of any kind: she Is simply the counter
part of the club man-that is to say, a
person who organized life on the lines of
least resistance and aims chiefly to save
trouble and avoid responsibility. While
1t was bad form for a woman to live in
chambers by herself if these ladies would
never have thought of doing so; but as
soon as society accepted people who were
either doing or had done this thing, they
realized the possibilities open to them.
and, though they were no theorists, con-
tentedly put themselves in advance Of
humdrum people. And certainly they have
gained enormously in the conveniences of
life. The lady who has five or six hundred
a year and no encunbranees used former
ly to be obliged to take a house and have
two or three servants; that condemned
her at once to a cheap suberb and made
entertaining practically impossible. Now
Stlt Has Gidl1lDClS oOl1At w Va tSNcA-
dilly. her mind women only, or, if she
prefers it, one of the mixed arrangements
which are becoming so popular"
The author concludes by expressing the
opinion that as a result Of present condi-
ions there viii be a great falling off In
the number of marriages of convenience.
The reproachful term .'old maid" will dis
appear and instead we shall have only the
bachelor girl. but the old bachelor woman,
who, when the middle-aged single gentle
man of the future grows tired of club life
and offers her the comforts of a home,
will reply
THE comforts of a home are for the
husband. do not want to take upon my
self the charge of an establishment and
the tedium of eating three meals a day
which I myself have ordered"
These bachelor women are one thing and
the old-time old maids quite another.
A child with a violent temper is very
hard to deal with. 1t is better to draw
its attention from its own troubles and
quietly remove the cause of the disturb
ance, says the "Boston Traveller" On
no account should you speak to an angry
child when your own temper has escaped
control 1t requires great care and pa
thence. to govern a quick tempered child,
but bear in mind always that the little
one is In no way responsible for the un-
fortunate inheritance. and the great bur-
den of it must, all through life, fan upon
Its innocent shoulders. It's curse can be
greatly lessened by forbearance on the
part of the mother and father, whose
good sense and good judgment will tell
them that they must nave perfect con-
troll of both temper and judgment before
beginning a course Of discipline with a
high strung child.
I eanot neglect this opportunity to be-
stow a few hints on the necessity of
teaching children daintiness in able man
ners. The child who has had no care
full mother to attend to this matter in
childhood is to be pitied. It is so much
easier to grow up with nice manners
than to acquire them later on. It is by
just such seeming trines as these that
men and women are Judged. In former
years immense Importance was given to
the etiquette OF the table, but the rush
and hurry Of American life has cut away
all su~perfluous n~iceties, and / am sorry