The copper country evening news. [volume] (Calumet, Mich.) 18??-1907, 1898-02-21

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IA considered and said seri-
nuo "hont the part OF men anu ol wo n,'h
ousl !ys IN love and in the conscious u LII
hllps ats 70 which the granu passion ioaus
efale az. be more than merely .earins
HE s ~ TO pieces by smothered strug-
Of lnI ike b the writings OF the ii'an an'e'
Etna. ,.u,n, IN love, 1t is one OF the
As " cots Of the world, showing now
strange 49," NAV replace nature, that 10
far cuS'U aooed often has been held as I'M
love un"'I Or unmaidenly as to confess
wOmanv hod Not to WOO has been ad-
love unao all hands to be the woman 9 part
nlt'eu " heon immemorially point OF
and na' .,de and shame. So great In
paioen NJ persuasion that even the exact
deco y W % yooing has been made point
Opposnos .oxyine of delicate women char
ID 'no many poets and story tellers. 10
ac 0,a ivory hint of love, to pretenu eveh
hue osv md Indifference, to be inaccessible,
colupoos,a to ''let concealment ike
dlSOou sha bud." etc.-"the proverD Is
worm l,nc musty"-this has been the
sCnv'ui woman's part set before sensitive
yea .,rls In song and story and drama.
!ouns snrosent. why-even IL high feel
b u' mo hurled out of sight as II, as
ns %~ saws of beard on coward,
snaAosp.s noturo's excrement" instead OF
wey bloom and fruit hiding petals
NV IN the name OF all that Is siinpio,
',ncare and natural, Is 1t a fauit OF a snalno
-, a woman to love unsoughtr
n che may not speak or seek, may sne
.ot then feel9 Is love such thing In
NV that it is a shame to wake to IL
" a man ask for it? Yetso have many
"onen pretended in good stories ana
W. and no doubt in real life. 1t is past
p"ht,no that many woman has felt IL
~"nId he. or unhappily was, a shame to
w. hor love without being asked for 1t.
p,t This Is as up side down and topsy
80 ne n Il were held shame to live
VA breathe because we were not invited
- no horn. Why Is an attachment or
Ssart more TO be shame laden or held IN
romanlv (which is more than inhuman)
.hon an attachment of mind? In other
rords no more shame ought to be felt In
Living a person unasked than in thinking
~ a subject or using ones reason In any
way unlimited. =.
Rut II this be conceded, or whether 1t
ho or moi. what is to be said of the unwrit-
q ian Init most potent and immemorial
canon that q woman must not speak or
her love. to invite return of 1t, or to carry
a n its end. which Is noble marriageY
Let rs not saw end, but rather the second
stage of its beginning, whence love goes
onward toward it's end like some noble
curve whose apex is at infnity. Is this TO
be set down to natureY Are women MADE
soY Or is 1t custom and educationf And,
iftbe latter, is it good custom and a
natural educationy
There Is nothing more difficult than to
discover the grain of nature In a bushei or
customs. And, If it be found, 1t Is OF
small account, for it Is like a creature
which has fed on the custom so long that
its whole substance Is but the customs
J little transmitted.
| will not reason as to whether 1t be
contrary to womanly nature to speak OF
love, but she must wait the mans pleasure
to speak to her first, or forego II never he
speak. assume it to be q custom merely,
no matter how originating or how ancient,
still only custom. Then / ask, Is 1t q
good custom, sound, salutaryY
It U.s. however, no little question whether
both men and women should have the right
Of the initiative in love-at least whether
itshould be so habitually, or by common
custom, without any restraint OF senti
ment. Perhaps something might be lost
Dy such a common NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS.
thing delicate, tender, poetical, valuable
y There seem to be some reasons why 1t were
better for only one to have the initiative
by custom, with the strong sanction o.
usage, prestige, sentiment, but not will
the inyariableness and tyranny which
marks the present allotment. or thes'
reasons the chief seems to be the mystery
delicacy, romance, honor and special char
acter thrown around love by having thu
general provinces of men and women DIFF
ferent and defined in the initiative.
1t may be that an equal, unrestrained
similar and open access to each other 10
initiative or confession of love might wea
away much bloom, wonder, sanctity
which Is preserved by the difference of re
iatlon OF the two to the beginning ant
avowal. The sexes are so different, Will
such unity, that this no more should b
overlooked than their essential unity Il
the midst OF their so great differences. l
may well be that 1t Is for the harmony
oelicacy, joy, mystery and beauty Of Low
That the differences of the sexes should b
recognized by different relation to tn
initiative OF the relation. 1t may be tina
an inexpressible indeflnable, but very va
liable, sentiment may depend on some pt
uence, anxiety and canonical delicacy, cor
ventional reserve on the one side, to NEE
action, Judgment, choice, decision, initis
ton on the other
=, where all may advance equally and !
tne same way nothing is hidden, an
without some reserve there can be no tel
uerness. Where all may explain equal
ana without hesitation there can be n
urapery, no wells, and where there Is n
mystery or wonder there will be lack
Joy, A seeker and sought, n PROPOSE
anu considerer, leader and follower,
petitioner and giver, may be fair
sieht and more wholesome to love tina
TWO who may challenge each other equa
y, who therefore have no defined duties
sweet reciprooities regarding each othe
VINO perhaps may delay for each other
stupid situation-or may strive to get Il
s'a,t Oh each other--an utterly demeanir
anu undoing rivalry--or may scramble
.vles'aii others-a profane haste whit
o',en Is bad enough now.
But II this be true 1t is still questio
whether the initiative should rest vii