The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-07-10
LESSON ron A roUNo MOTHER
Advice from an Old woman on the Proper
Way TO MnnnEe Children.

Advice from an Old Woman IN the Proper
Way TO Manage Children.
What made you 30 late 2" two women ex-
claimed In unison as a third Joined them In the
parlor Of q club intended to accommodate out
of-town shoppers and suburbanites.
oh. I've Just passed through one Of the most
trying experiences OF a mothers life, and Il has
quite upset me-" was the reply.
Tut, tut, my dear" said the elderly woman
of the party. Your only child is only 4 years
old, and here you are talking about trying ex-
periences with him. Wait until he 10 old enough
to stay out In the evenings or until no starts
TO college, and then you'll know what o
mothers anxiety means"
Whats the trouble 7" asked tho other wo-
man. q STRAIGHTFORWARD splnster. VIII declares
that she hates those old maids who call them
selves women bachelors. TELL us oil about 1t.
Perhaps we can help you. or perhaps you are
unstrung and your troubles viii vanish % you
relate them"
well. IFS all about my boy Harry. must
admit TINT though he IL only q four-year-oldl l
don't know how 10 manage him. Everybody
tells me TO try q different method. I try them
all and my husband laughs and says that III
keep on Harry will land on the gallows OF be
lynched. The idea Of talking about the little
angel like thatl This morning / had some
very important writing TO do before coming
here to lunch with you and / told Harry 30.
gave hin a lot OF things with which to amuse
himself and asked him TO keep quiet.
He did-for about three seconds, and
then he began to ask questions.
was like a rapid-nre gun on one Of our war
ships pouring hot shot into tho Spaniards. He
kept up q steady ere for fully half an hour but
I ao asR dIs saEIinIs t TOR % 9 F IRsHP he S0S Went F o III lS
window and stood there o minute silently
speeSlly % rss$arde si8 When %' he drew 3 lons bSsstk6
%sIa b sI;SR a aiTT1tRs su Sa2thsr y!0%1ISSy at at m %S; Y Tihes
grow W, and not down. mammal y Mamma.
why Gan ! see people through the lace curtains
s s9ar ssey the Ssn da SfS @' had ant to % get ct, on an th eoSa ,.
Children always. do, YOU know, He began ask:
Ing me nTl a 4 CD A. had EdG jSp9ItI f ons f,s big snI sES q ~ lots ssS q
aaLdn'{ bite ilttt|e boys Ssat. 70 6sayen when
the face and time was clipping BY: said 70
tHRhaMtt 81, m must {ini sham ana m Il yoa ask hSY her eG@ a4ptRer
YOU 70 bed and L Isn't near noon yet, He
s%ssed h sen BIZ p &fi lfsh$ sYe iko e can't Rtn prS SnS nee
'r'L mamma ! had, Just written one line.
When he bobbed UP and asked me three Ques-
1te. coR FS I'D ! S9T TSM in H. sq m1egtsf iRR PS / sodE
didn't cTy until ! turned back the bed clothes
S BPsve tq 20 make ei q noise 5P; S sDs h,s sh litPle be Bod vs. sh6 tSG
with repressed sobs. There was q lump IN my
own throat as big as a goose egg. but I felt that
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s e 'PsSsp as i Sltb as nT RsRiy g e0uF ss,Il R RSSsIRl
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e SH Ssa., / ' ccnie ITs d e S TrSHs .! + RR ssit1 RfIn si so
sas q 9SS an up Sc e. : slRltit tlei fay Ef bsl} Z R far two seos see af
1ndarted tears o. his cheeks. Harry: dearest
n i putting You to bed. She knows that you ask
9Ea i q i b sIYah Sn e. T i64 t E. ERsS ssin asd; no e
bFiFhsenesd d up and he eeFciEsim1SSdd:, -
Yes said !. and he fairly shouted:
down! After that poser I changed my mind
f ai69us ny F smaIt Of P9 al tb a9 p t6at fo am sERs ere,
deal with fth' the child q he deserved. hsa5tyf
s s83di f tie eesa sST 3 t faRl sRis fS oaTeyeafto Si q a5 SsStt
S %oTried Pssl Pm sIof Rs sS Sl@ef t an sfRAssF0l' me- and I'm
Hal the mothers n The and IRE net ft t9
S VI RR0i I Gould h set Z e chance as ' e d 3lS P ? the
be we'd see q set Of children who knew Whatit
mss9FR oS to hGe9F t bsrsE P Sns It, old woman. Il
dcRt beiisys e e9fPs5ai pSqiEs6Im ! ,., q
child to terms In such cases. Nevertheless,
up children who honor themselves ip honoFine
their parents, that home must be founded on
lliR tsfe cS HiHldsftne ana ntie e sa aaE nsH mt SO 26 @ee than as
anything else TO sec nine, mothers. out OF ten
treating their boys and girls Is subjects, when
Sashs TO- saEe !aEsn az %GdslS: dnen ana snG
S " image SsS'1i instead Of trSfning themselves
eftsF A tES i%9se of q 3imt sse I've in soSS %ot lhhtsls
Deliberately hurt their daughters. grown daugh-
tiers at that, because they knew they had the
power 70 do SO. BECAUSE they enjoyed e%xerois-
as an equal and not as q subject. Get-1 was
about to say down, but III say UPON, a level
with him. for We, grown people always have to
morning. which makes this impossible. dc. not
allow the, child to remain with you. Send him
Gisat' the Es'n coe se0 taxa Rs'd charge II you Of n SiS. n SRS
until the boy Is asleep and out Of the way.
Whatever yop do don't expect him to
and behave as one; don't ,repress hiP and sub
spontaneity. II Is a crime to make subjects OF
iRsdhled Tor Il through them. AZ a ERale. When a
fagaIWs,hh ot , ,o..or vou,vs taught me. s.,d .,o
bbxs Rss1 as p q iittie @efhild m NY Sfy 0no Wy nAfu' 20
That's the key note" remarked the old