The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1898-09-30
Hospitality at Home-A Yonng Wife,s
IS Duty. Ely

Ct mans wants aud Gods goodness, Hugh
Miller. @@'S'asg s. a. ss*s .
Hospitality at Home-A Yonng Wife,s
IS Duty.
Many a young wife. especially If her
means are small, fancies that it will be
economical and right to give. up all soci-
ETY. thinks that it is her duty 'sto devote
herself" rs she calls tito her husband
Iand home,' anu to these, alone, I'VE
have one another; We shall not want any
other society,"" she says, and no doubt at
the time she believes this to be the. truth;
but later she is almost sure to discover
that she made mistake in SO thinking
and saying, says the Philadelphia Press.
For no one else can or should live entire
| " for and to themselves. -. $.:S s@ss Isl: I,
+ A certain amount of social Intercourse
sire to lead happy, cheerful, useful lives.
hut with our small means, = some
young hOusekeeper will exclaim, 1--WE cam
not afford to entertain, and she il right.
People with small means cannot do so,
for to entertain properly costs a great
deal OF money. It is, however, not neces-
sary, nor is it expected, of young mar
Keeping, and whose means are small, "to
entertain. but they can be thospitable
and see their friends quietly, without any
great expense being incurred; and TO show
to do. E -, z,S.'f S 3@tts ~ X ~
+ Between hospitality and entertaining
there is an immense difference, although
a great many people refuse to see It, and
therefore decide that because they cannot
DO the one, they will not even attempt to
do the other. AS rule men do not trou-
bic about small matters Of etiquette. 4 A
great many of them, in fact, would not
even notice whether any little detail vas
was called to the subject BY their, female
Women, however notice any little n MS
take at once, and this is as. it should be-
| for upon the woman, falls the arrange
ment and performance of all social duties.
She it is who sends out the Invitations, to
whom the replies are addressed, and wfo
receives the guests ON their arrival and iii
Isl her reception of them that gives, as it
were. the keynote to thesparty. for foW--a
ever cordial, hospitable and. pleasant a
host may be,aif the hostess Is: not the
same Ell none ION ct the guests viii be at case
A hostess should always be, ready and,
waiting in the drawing room to receive
her guests when they arrive Especially
should this be the case when the hostess
has not had enough experience in this
particular social duty, for if she is late,
she has to hurry and make ,.,lpo,opies,
which probably make her nervous and md
Hurried, and drive out of her mind what
she most wished and intended to remem
ber;&and to hurry, too, generally means
fuss and hustle, and no, time .eyen ia
think IN # it is all right and none to seethat
An unpunctual mistress generally ~ b e
unpunctnal servants, and II. fiieys sh0nld9
not be very well trained into the bargain.
confusion and failure are sure to r. theaE
order of the day or evening. -
81 1t is, too, a breach of good manners to
ask guests to come at a stated hour, and
then not be ready to receive them. Avoid
AL hurry and confusion, and to do this a
in time, but take time :byf,the forelock.
and be beforehand with him in these mat
ters-at any rate until she has gained
experience and knowledge eff. y " s.
In showing hospitality let simplicity be
your keynote. Never attempt to do .or
have anything beyond what Your means
justify. When having friend or. few
friends to dinner, keep strictly to those
things that are in season, then you; may
be sure that they will not be expensive.
and vet they will be good: ;.s5 ST. S. d &
"A plain dinner well cooked and nicely
served, is in far better taste and much
more appreciated than any amount of
Atue ulSHeS Dduly cooked ana badly
served. So no wise mistress would Or
should attempt more than she feels sure
her household is capable of accomplish
ing. ,=as~z - y g - IL -
True hospitality means the doing and.
giying-freely and hearitly-the best YOU
can, and of the best you have IF, as
often happens in a small household, and
with young hostess, any little mistake
is made or some small thing is forgotten.
it is better to let the matter pass, if unob-
served. Calling attention to- it before
guests does no real good, but it often
make those present feel uncomfortable,
and in all probability many of them,
would not have noticed that anything had
been overlooked ,gor any error committed,
if their attention had not been attracted
to it by their host or hostess. In all these
cases silence is. indeed, golden. H. T
II %ss::<5 Key to Happy Home. ri rs Il "a
Nothing is SO pregnant with sweet as
ISOLATION as the table; it is the blessing
of the household, and should, therefore,
be surrounded by pleasant and affection
ate conversation. There the members Of
the family meet each day and perform
the most important function of family
hfes---a good meal, says a. writer in the
Brooklyn Eagle. How often is the. hap
piness of the household marred and the
harmony broken up by fauit-findinr
husband, by an irritable wife, by badly
behaved children, by stupid and careless.
servants, or, worst of all, by a careless
and ignorant coQk.sai II 4flqk " n. fs
q family may be in a cheerful mood
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