The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-05-01
Wotnan's World.

IT is one thing to attract a man and
unite another thing to keep him attracted,
"a hold him after he is attracted. A wo-
man of average physical and mental
charm can attract all the men of her
acauaintance for time, she can attract
come of them for all time, but she can't
attract all of them for all time. 1t takes
a very extraordinary woman to do that
Nan have always thought themselves in
4eresang subjectss and, no wonder, for
since The day when Mrs. Eve1Adam was
set m in the sun 10 dry, woman has look
cd at hem through the glasses of maiden
hood. wifehood, widowhood. and spinster-
mood OF course, says the Chicago Inter
Ocean. the results have been various,
Dung girl, a middle-aged wife, a
widow, and spinster fell to talking about
this subject not long ago.
You're all always railing at me for
nor,e go many beaux and never getting a
hnsband,' said the girl in reply to re-
mark. Maybe It's my fault, and maybe
r. isn't. 1 haven't quite settled in my own
mind whether it is or not. I have settled
one thing, though, and that is that 1t is
me thing to attract man and another to
b.Id him after he is attracted. When
once set my head to draw man to me
can do it, but l have never yet been
able to keep one that I wanted in the
least. Why? That's what I'd like to
know. Perhaps 1t is because my nature
Is too yielding with those of whom am
fond. or it may be that 1 demand too
much of a man when 1 am inclined to care
for him. 1 rather think, however the
trouble lies in the fact that permit
friendship to ripen too rapidly when
meet a congenial spirit. Philosophers tell
us that friendship Is the slowest fruit In
the garden of life, and yet force IL to
perfection as a florist does his lilies at
Easter time. and you all know that forced
flowers and fruit decay very soon. Friend
ship is the most beautiful attribute of hu-
man nature, and nature will not be hur-
ried. wish knew what the trouble is"
why, l don't think it is hard to hold
man after you've once attracted him. said
the wife. who has the reputation of still
being sweethearts with her husband,
make mistake in really yielding to man
whom you've attracted. You should smile
and smile and only seem to yield. wo-
man who wishes to hold man should new
er allow him to understand her thorough
w. She should be to him a sweet mystery.
The mysterious interests us all. That's
our nature. We cling to what we don't
quite understand in the hope of solving the
problem. I'm getting to be an old woman,
but I never let day pass without mysu-
flying my husband. make an enigmatical
remark that he has to think about or l do
or refuse to do something that makes him
open his dear kindly eyes and stare; but,
mind you, 1 am gracious and loving with
1t all. Then l coquet with him. 1t is sad
day for a husband when a wife leaves OF
her mask of coquetry. You know flirting
Is one thing and coquetry another. re-
fined woman is born with a sweet spirit OF
coquetry, but the art of flirting is acquir-
ed, and Is generally somewhat vulgar. You
can coquet and be perfectly sincere, but
flirting is merely another name for insin-
cerity But 1 was talking about holding
men. It's a very good plan TO coquet with
them and to see TO 1t that they do not
read your every thought, word, and deed.
OF course, we are only looking at this
subject from a mental view point. We are
and not by physical charm, for there is no
elevating happiness to be derived from the
latter method. 1t would be senseless to say
that women have not held men in that way
for a lifetime, and perhaps in the life to
come but ] doubt If there has been a
peaceful satisfaction to either In such
bondage"
You accuse the girl here of wavering
Affection" rejoined the spinster in her
H. XNrr6 do har
she Is but seeking a constant man. If
she ever finds one, she won't have any
trouble in holding him. OF course, she
can attract men by the wholesale. Any
woman can and / don't add If she has
good sense. Brain is not a necessary COM
modify in attracting men, but fattery is.
Some sour old maid has said that there
never was a man so homely, so halt, so
deficient in beauty or brain, that he could
not get wife when he wanted to; but I
think she nisstated her proposition. There
never was a woman so unAttractive but
what is she set her mind to it, she could
attract some man long enough to get him
where he couldn't get away If he wantad
TO. It's all well enough for young peo-
pie and married ones to have their jokes
about old maids; but assure you most of
US are self-e1ected, However, if woman.
af - she has attracted a man, wishes to
ho.1 hin, she must take care not to be
TOO clever. Men like women who are just
clever enough to grasp their cleverness
and are just dull enough to admire 1t inn
mensely If woman wants to hold man,
she must admire him and make him feel it.
She needn't keep dingdonging into his ears
how much she admires his wit or stu
pidity, as the case may be, but she must
feel admiration and look it and seem even
10 breathe it. And If she does that, an
other woman ten times prettier, cleverer
and richer, but with less subtlety, couldn't
drag him from her side"
This talk of how women can attract
and hold men strikes he as being very
strange" spoke up the widow, and the
old maid smiled significantly. Mature
made women to be won and men to win.
think 1t is easy enough for a single girl
or woman to both attract and hold men.
Women look at their men admirers, but
20 not examine them. But woman ex-
atnlnes her husband and he examines her,
ana SO frequently both are put to it to
Know how to hold each other, to retain
edeh other as comrades. as friends as we'll
Is IN the closer relationship If husband