The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1898-10-28

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do. that wrong notions on the subject |
of Christian marriage are the cause at |
this day of more moral outrage before
God and man than any other cause.
There are some things that i want to |
bring before you. | know there are
those of you who have had homes set
up for a great many years; and then
there are those here who have just es-
tablished their home. They have only
been in that home a few months or
few years Then, there are those who
will, after awhile, set up for them
selves a home, and it is right that
should speak out upon these themes.
Ny first counsel to you is, have God
in your new home, If IL be new
home; and let Him who was guest at
Bethany be in your household; let the
divine blessing drop upon your every
hope and plan and expectation. Those
young people who begin with God end
with Heaven. Have on your right
hand the engagement ring of divine
affection. II one of you be Chris
tian, let that one take the Bible and
read few verses In the evening time,
and then kneel down and commend
yourselves to Him who setteth the
solitary in families. l want to tell
you that the destroying angel passes
by without touching or entering the
door post sprinkled with blood OF the
everlasting covenant. Why Is 1T that
in some families they never get along,
and in others they always get along
we'll? have watched such cases, and
have come to a conclusion. In the
first instance, nothing seemed to go
pleasantly, and after while there
came a devastation, domestic disaster
or estrangement WhyP They started
wrong. In the other case, although
there were hardships aud trials and
some things that had to be explained,
still things went on pleasantly until
the very last Why? They started
right
My second advice to you in your
home is to exercise to the very last
possibility of your nature the law of
forbearance Prayers in the house
hold will not make up for everything.
Some of the best people in the world
are the hardest to get along with.
There are people who stand up in
prayer-meetings and pray like angels,
who at home are Incorporating and
cranky. You may not have every
thing just as you want it. Sometimes
IL will be the duty of the husband and
sometimes of the wife to yield: but
both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you will have Waterloo
with no Butcher coming up at night
- he inf
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic af-
fairs. Let that be law of your house
hold. The best thing ! ever heard of
my grandfather, whom / never saw,
was this: that once. having upright
eously rebuked one of his children, he
himself having lost his patience, and,
perhaps, having been misinformed OF
the child's doings, found out his mis-
take, and in the evening Of the same
day gathered all his family together,
and said, Now, l have one explana
ton to make, and one thing to say.
Thomas, this morning rebuked you
very unfairly. / am very sorry for it
/ rebuked you in the presence of the
whole family, and now / ask your for
giveness in their presence" 1t mus
have taken some courage to do that
1t was right, was it notp Never bC
ash AIMED to apologize for domestic in
accuracy. Find out the points; wha'
are the weak points, If | may cal
them so, of your companion, and ther
stand aloof from them. Do not carry
the fire of your temper too near thu
gunpowder If the wife be easily
fretted by disorder in the household
let the husband be careful where h
throws his slippers. II the HUSBAND
come home from the store with his pa
thence exhausted, do not let the wifi
unnecessarily cross his temper; bu
both stand up for your rights, and
will promise the everlasting sound o
the war-whoop. Your life will b
spent in making up, and marriage viii
be to you an unmitigated curse.
advise, also, that you make you
chief pleasure circle around abou
that home. 1t is unfortunate when
is otherwise. If the husband spen
the most of his nights away fror
home, of choice, and not of necessity
he is not the head of the household; h
is only the cashier If the wife thro'
the cares of the household into tn
servants zap, and then spend fiv
nights Of the week at the opera O
theater, she may clothe her childre
with satins and laces and ribbons tina
would confound a French millinel
but they are orphans. 1t is sad whe
child has no one to say its prayers I
because mother has gone off to tn
evening entertainment! In India the
bring children aud throw them to tn
{ crocodiles, and it seems very crue
= but the jaws of social dissipation al
, swallowing down more little childre
to-day than all the monsters that eve
r crawled upon the banks of the Gange
have seen the sorrow of coolies
! mother on the death of a child she ha
= neglected. 1t was not so much grit
4 that she felt from the fact that tn
child was dead as the fact that sh
: had neglected IL. She said, IF ha
4 only watched over and cared for III