The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1898-02-06
WoMAA,s PUAsUt1 oFMAG.
A Matron's Advice To Girl on the AIT of
Pleasing.


To please men is one thing and 70 be
pleasing to men entirely another. 1t is
a good deal easier TO please the average
man than it Is to be pleasing TO him.
Women used to make the mistake OF try
ing 20 please men, now Il Is the fashion
10 make oneself pleasing 10 them. our
granmOtheTs and even our mOlhers nave
wasted no end Of time In thinking now
they could best please the men OF theli
acquaintance when they met. Ihey Went
at il ythinking saying doins Mdl''As
and even wearing The things that men
liked hest. IL is not so with the girl OF
to-day, one OF her primary objects ia
life Is not 10 please men, but 20 maxi
herself pleasing to them. She has learn
ed that the man 10 whom she has maue
herself pleasing does not forget her as
eoon "a she separates herself from him,
that he wants TO study her, 10 know ner
better. Above all, he wants 10 10 sonie-
thing for her. =. .,,,o-
~ he minute q man wants 20 do some
thing for you, my dear, SAID an eNpe-
rienced matron 20 a young woman you
may be sure that you are pleasing 10
him." ,. -. ~,
a, this point this matron ought 10 De
well Informed. 10, she IS pleasing 10 man
and m woman. too. The girl was "a typi-
cal Young woman Of the period inlep4N-
dent impulslve and also ntfospeel'~.
Now. when man wants 20 20 @-'
little thing for YOU the ualIon "e "a a.
.,let rim do il, even If he Is as ol1 as
Nethnselah. and pretend that u Is tno
-, fbinq Won want him 70 DO, mat no
bodv else could have done IL haL 20 Wei
a,,d that life would not be worm lNlh5
10 Ia rad not done that very tnins lot
vo,t Nine young women out OF Tn ~"
days when q man offers to 90 some
riding service Tor them, protest i"'' -
a great mistake ,,.,, ,learo q
man occasionally, but she can never ' e.,
herself eternany pleasing 70 nm
,oaa n man onsrs 20 take letter 20 sua
pox on the corner Tor you 10 ous 49,
madeleine that he thinks would 90 your
80 .,ood 10 stem around 20 a library 70
,s, some hooks that you are wishing
sor. DOM nrotest. Your impulse ana t"e
,,'n,,Ise Of the average woman OF to-pAy
A. 70 say rather impatien-ly, % 1
couldn't trouble you for WORLDS Gun
mail nv own letter" or y mover take
n,ed,cina for cold" or u have somc-
rnins. else can read tonight In your
naar} Won apnreciate the mans offer but
con obev your frat impulse2. and tAat
ie 10 nrotest. Now. 1 kno" men wen,
and thev aren't half bad. Tney are crea-
fures who never do anything thar iney
do not want TO DO. or rather, wneh may
ia a thing II is solely because they want
10 do il. and IL proyokes them beyond po-
nro expression 10 have a woman show tha1
.ne mad rather do things for herself
Every woman loves 20 be pleasing 10
men. and the woman who makes the
greatest success along this line Is she
VINO always, under all circumstances. al
lows men 10 DO things for her. Every
woman should sec 10 II that she crushes
down and chokes out the impulse In her
10 protest
philosophers tell us that mat which
neips or hinfers fellowship makes the
good and bad OF manners Protecting on
the part OF women certainly binders tei-
lowshlp between them and men. perhaps
II is putting II too strongly 10 say mat
these protestations are bad manners. but
Il Is surely bad policy 10 refuse TO allow
men to serve you. Try the advice OF a
woman OF the world and do not protest
" YOU would make yourself pleasing 10
the sex that can never rid itself OF me
idea that We owe our being 20 an expires
sion OF It's generosity, that II man had
not granted a spare rib that ne had
about him we never would have been at
AL BY all means let every man living 90