Kansas City journal. [volume] (Kansas City, Mo.) 1897-1928, 1898-04-03
DOES SHE LIKE TO BE BossED?
The General Opinion Seems to BE
That She Does, in Spite of
What She Says.

Woman likes to be bossed by man. There
is no getting around this fact, declares the
New York Evening Post. She nay assert
and %reassert her love of Independence and
her dislike to what she calls domineering
men. but all the same she prefers such men
to those over whom she can domineer. Wo-
man nature is woman nature the world over.
The police officers and magistrates who
have made a study of the question say that
the uneducated woman of the slums who
is accustomed to receive periodical beat
ings from her husband loves him all the
better for that reason. A refine woman
who would hate a man il he used vlo-
leRce toward her will never love him, TO
put it mildly, unless he dominates her men,
tally. After all, the spirit Is the same IN
the women of both degrees. Equal right
erS and woman suffraSistS can pirate all
they please about the only happy rela-
lions between mar and woman being that
where neither bosses the other ana each
has the same mental. moral and physical
rights. There is no such relation, and never
VIII be. so long as man nature IS man ma
ture and woman nature Is woman nature.
In every relation OF life between a man
and a woman, in acquaintanceshlp. In
friendship, in sweetheartship and in mar
riage, either the man rules the woman or
the woman rules the man. Both are much
app if the former condition exists and
the relation will continue much longer.
If a man wants to hold a woman's interest
ACk I'LL ASA vi 49, NiSiS GAS
ways and ways of masteGng 4 woman. and
a clever man will never go at it in an ag-
sressive, NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. man.
ner. At least, that is what one girl who
has recently been mastered says. She was
talking IL all over with her chum not long
ago. Result, the chum is pining to be
mastered.
"Lcis," said the chum, 81 never expected
to see the day when you would allow a man
to boss you as Phil does. Why, he rules
you completely. You have no mind of your
Ar-, lac a-I - av, 30 ttnar fnr ntr'N
always bullyragged every man and woman,
too. about you. OF course. it was natural
for you to do that, and I'm not blaming
you for your family has always put a
great deal of Responsibility on you, and
then you've been making your W living
for five years and are consequently indie
pendent financially. and nothing strength
ems the will like a steady income and a
bank account. But you've been downed at
last, and to think that quiet old Phil has
done it,"
bossed. as you put it," said Lois. You
see. I've been working so hard for so long
and I've had my way absolutely until now
that. come to think Of it: I'm utterly tired
a great. big. clever man think for you
settle things for YOU. Ever try it. chum?
The feeling is a fine one: it beats that OF
independence to death. Any man can win
any woman by mastering her, if he is
sharp enough to do it without letting her
know that he Is mastering her. or course.
my case Is only an average case, except
tina I was far more Independent in thought,
word and deed than the average woman.
and I assure you the minute Phil says.
you must do a thing or must not do it,
I really want to do as he wishes. and 1t
seems to me that, after all, II you do a
thing because you want to or keep from
doing 1t because you do not want to DO II,
that isn't being coerced."
The other girl laughed contemptuously:
Laugh all you want to- continued Lois.
"The day will come when you will grow
sick and weary of YOU independence. and
of deciding things for yourself, and you'll
be only too glad to have a fine fellow de-
eide things for you. I never had such a fine
holiday as the one he made me take. True.
/ had occasional twinges because I knew 1
ought to he at my post. but the feeling that
somebody cared enough for my physical
well being to make me give up work for a
while drove all the twingeS away. Come to
think of It. somebody must be immensely
amused at the way I kick against his mas
terry and then give in to 1t. The best of 1t
all was that he was smart enough to keep
me in the dark about my subsection I'll
admit frankly that I never was so inter-
ested in any man as I am in this one. who
completely rules me. Talk about the sweet
ness and beauty of controlling ones self!
Why, it is nothing to compare with the
deliciousness of feeling that you are dom
mated by a nice man. After all. that is
true independence. A woman Is never re-
ally independent until she has a man who
cares enough about her to master her.
Then she has a real friend. and with one
genuine. true friend, in the best sense OF
that word, by ones side. a woman can
face the world. the flesh and the devil and
be awfully happy"
st reckon you are right" answered the
chum. I'm sick myself of bossing myself.
Every woman who does 1t is If she'd only
own it."