The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1898-11-06
Repose of Manner.

New York SUM-
One absolutely reposeful woman can do
more to make things run smoothly, run
with little or no friction for those with
whom her life comes in touch, than all the
gods ever set up by man. Haven't you two
ever noticed how men, after they arrive at
a sensible age, seek women who are rest
ful?'
Eyes, I've noticed that" answered the
matron hastily, "but never could cultivate
repose. That has to be born in one; it's a
talent, and, unfortunately did not fall to
my lot came into the world with a nerv-
ous sensitive temperament, and I can't
keep still five minutes If my body is at
rest my mind is uneasy. ] do not know
what 1t is to feel absolutely calm, and Ned
says l almost drive him to drink fussing
around, as he puts it. You see, I'm volatile,
ElxaG1ous and according to him, vexatious,
Did you ever try?" asked the older
No" answered the other. because 7
knew there was no use fighting fate. My
mother never had any repose of manner,
SO how could hope to have any,"
That's just the way with nine women
out or ten, said the monitor in an indig-
nant tone. Instead of cultivating rest of
mind tranquility, freedom from uneasi-
they all mean repose, they sit back and
calmly say they can't. Do you mean to tell
me that this dear girl here cannot acquire
q quiet, restful manner that Will win every
man in sight? Look at her now She is
tanning herself vigorously, though this
room IS too cool for comfort; she hasn't
stopped tapping her foot on the floor since
we sat down at this table, and she's so i'm
patient because there is some delay about
ming our order that she can scarcely con-
IAN tam herself You are ready to jump out of
!, Eyes 1 am" admitted the girl. land feel
mat mat way the best part of the time and ut
Terry Without reason, too. I'm not warm
ana couldn't for my life tell you why I've
tired myself out tanning, and it wouldn I
matter II | stayed here until the place
closed, so there is no defensibe excuse for
my being impatient at not being promptly
served. l confess frankly that I'd give any-
INNS 70 get over this inharmonious state.
why, 90 you know we have a butler and
Two mattresses in our dining room and vet
l often get so nervous or so something that
! Jump up and assist them or get something
Tor myself If you could see the looks that
L get from my father and brothers on such
occasions you'd wonder how / ever get up
courage 10 repeat the offense, but do
woman or the world, in confiding voice.
hepose is trump card for any
won wenan o6 TO playy, who wishes wis to win
them to her forever. Then, too, it
does more to keep her who possesses it
young than the waters of the fountain of
youth, or all the complexion specialists in
the world could possibly do. And it is such
a comfort to be reposeful. The composed.
any difficulty, and there is such a feeling Of
satisfaction in having kept quiet when a
storm is over. When ] was young / didn t
nave an atom of tranquility in my compo-
S Sl5ion NY pettish fussy, erratic.
and amusing enough to older men
when l was still quite young, and at
tractlVe enough to younger ones for me to
be quite belle, but as | moved along toward
the thirtieth notch in my life l noticed that
l had very little attention from men, young
or old. An old woman who was a belle up
TO the day she died gave me the cleW to my
waning popularity. She said that though |
was a bright. intelligent interesting girl I
disquleted men by my lack of repose. She
explained that men, after reaching a certain
age, cared only for Womaen who could rise
above the petty annoyanceS of everyday life:
who could, in thought, manner. and speech,
place happenings that do not really matter
or that cannot really be helped. and she adj
viSed me to cultivate a spirit of tranquility
l did, and in a few months ! concluded
that most women. during their life. have d
great many troubles, most of which never
happen. Why. success or.failure can be pre-
determined by mental mood, and / tell you
from experience that the women who are
women in the home, in society, and in the
workaday world Philosophers tell us that
real power is in silent moments and / take
1t that means tranquil moments.
But repose suppresses the spirits, en-
thusiasm, enjoyment interrupted the ma
iron.
Not at all answered it's advocate. "a
think a tranquil demeanor intensiles tbs
sense of enjoyment. l know it has in my
case, and it certainly gives man chance
to enjoy more and suffer less in his daiy
life. The earning Of a livelihood for fam
lily is 10 small undertaking, and the mar
who assumes that responsibility, be he
rich or por, makes a sacrifice. He travels