The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1898-09-02
p'o1NTs1N WEDDING ETIQUETTE
.Wou1d-be Brides Can Study. This for
s Use in the Autumn. 49,:

lsvsE Use LII kAGA kAutuuHs
= In view Of the numerous marriages ar
ranged to come off in tie autumn d few
points Of etiquette connected with the
readers: The old superstition that mar
rlages Which take place iii May are pro-
verbally uhhaphy il still YetF much in
force. as proved BY the comparatively
few that have taken place iii that Month.
1t would be interesting, could statistics
be gathered as to the truth or fallacy< of
his ban upon the merries month of May,
and whether it might not be released
from the i'll omen that oyershadows it in
the estimation of brides, if not bride
grcoms. -,
One doubtful point appears to be wheth-
er the rector or vicar of parish should
receive n fee if he does not perform the
cerel1tons, Or If he only assists at one.
The rule is that in every ease the fee
should be. given to him, whether he Off
GATES or not. And as regards the friends
or relatives of the bride or bridegroom
asked to oficiate, it rests with the bride
groom to determine whether to give some
memento Of the occasion in the way of
silyer#plate or something equally valua-
ble,,.. or a fee 5corresp0 nding to that given
to- the rector or vicar, although ofteneF
|, than not, when the rela tionship is a very
near one-brother or uncle, for instance
this recognition of services is dispensed
with. Again, in asking d relative or
friend to assist at the ceremony, the
views of the tector or vicar should al
ways be studied as far as possible, and
Clergyman invited to attend whose views
coincide with his, rather than run coun-
ter to them, and this should be thorough-
" understood and considered. The fees
groom and lie either pays them: himself
previous to the eefem6ny, Or deputies his
best man.. to do SO for him lat its con-
ciusion: .........-. -
.: We are constantly asked concerning
wedding favpts. THESE have gone out of
fashion III favor Of huttonho1e bouquets
;of natiifal flowers; OF THY sprays Of real
orange blossom are given to the guests,
or 1.-THE BRIDES name is that Of a aow-
the flower is procurable, the buttonholes
are formed of the flower: in question, with
spray of myrtle or some ,sweetscented
leaf. These :buttonhole bouquets are
handed in baskets by the bridesmaids, or
by children at the conclusion of the cere-
monY,s but these floral ,3favors are ~by no
means given at all weddings, especially
when the guests are very numerous and
expense is a matter of consideration, The
guets are presented by the bridegroom on
the morning of the wedding, and the
presents are presented on 1hp morning Of
the wedding and the presents are pre-
scented OH the previous day to the latter,
having been selected by the bride and
bridegroom, and hot by the bridesmaids
themselves. = - ~ -: ~ Ek*ifsE*< ~
On the Subject of providing the carriages
for a wedding Iitiniafoiis .d,ierles reach lis.
One rule cannot he. laid. dawn; for, TOWN
and country alike as a little. mobilization
occurs in the iatfet.{ Iii town. the Guests
proyideZ their own "c;irr;ages and fhe
brides father :fooIr those fsbis own family.
including the, bride ION, her way to- the
church, and the bridegroom one for him
self and bride to convey them after the
ceremony to the. house where the reception
lis to be held. and afterwards to the rail-
way station. 1,<,z.... :cz z.sf.E. al. $%fz
The departure from the church should
offer no sdiffic,llties. the bride and bride
groom shonld he the first to leave. and
the hrif1e's mother shnnld f6Ilnw %in1mefi-
ately. afterwards. the CHESTS shonld thei,
do SO II The order Il, Which tho carria aes
are called mn when anr devio t;Gn from
This latter rule Is attemnted # does not
work ven for instanca. On y recent ncca.
sion, at: a fashionable wedding, it vas de-
clGed tnat me guests should leave as
they drove =, rona,diess az to ,vheth ar
thew ,Wers tStss o,sf,ers of them ar not. #
followed that many of the owners were
forced to occupy back seats in their own
carriages. - ruestss who were strangers
having entered before then, and taken tho
seats facinr the horses: others. who
owned smartzcarriages. were forced to
leave in Indifferent single horsed hired
ones. This arrangement sneaISs fnrsitsalfs
and II Is not likeIv to meet WITH renerai
favor. as the time saved in getting away
is NOT cnmnei,snted for nv tho res,1lts.that
follow. =, =" - ~ -. :
nresant q s" : wodd;mn IN tha country - tbe
hides fathe,. Il AZ ,,a..ass;fv, nhi;as,1 70
have .s.arr;naes II raai;ness ~ meet thnm,
at tha rn;l,xap to+;"n - onn nv thon, 70
The church md afterwar,ls to sfhe .recen.