Vilas County news. [volume] (Eagle River, Vilas County, Wis.) 1896-1927, 1898-11-07


nership of two stuffed up with the
stories of romance and knight-erranty,
and unfaithfulness and feminine an
gelhood. The two after awhile have
reused up to find that, instead of the
paradise tEey dreamed of, they have
got nothing but Van Amberg me-
nagerie. filed with tigers and wild
cats. Eighty thousand divorces in
Paris in one year preceded the worst
revolution that France ever saw. And
tell you what you know as well as L
do, that wrong notions on the subject
of Christian marriage are the cause at
this day of more moral outrage before
God and man than any other cause.
There are some things that l want
to bring before you. | know there are
those of you who have had homes set
up for a great many years; and then
there are those here who have just es-
tablished their home. They have only
been in that home a few months or q
few years. Then, there are those who
will, after awhile, set up for them
selves a home, and it is right that l
should speak out upon these themes.
My first counsel to you is, have God
in your new home, if it be new home;
and let Him who was guest at
Bethany be in your household; let
the Divine blessing drop upon your
every hope and plan of expectation.
Those young people who begin with
God end with Heaven. Have on your
~ no, +bo froT1onnt rinO Of the
Divine affection. If one Of you be
Christian, let that one take the Bible
and read a few verses in the evening
time, and then kneel down and COM
mend yourselves to Him who setteth
the solitary in families. I want to tell
you that the destroying angel passes
by without touching or entering the
door-post sprinkled with blood of the
everlasting covenant. Why is it that
in some families they never get along,
and in others they always get along
we'll? [ have watched such cases, and
have come to conclusion. In the
first instance, nothing seemed to go
pleasantly, and after awhile there
came a devastation, domestic disaster,
or estrangement. Why? They start
ed wrong. In the other case, although
there were hardships and trials and
some things that had to be explained,
still things went Cd pleasantly until
the very last. Why? They started
right.
My second advice to you in your
home is, to exercise to the very last
possibility of your nature the law of
forbearance. Prayers in the house
hold will make up for everything. Some
of the best people in the world are the
hardest to get along with. There are
people who stand up in prayer-meet-
ings and pray like angels, who at
home are uncompromising and
cranky. You may not have every
thing just as you want it. Sometimes
it will be the duty of the husband and
sometimes of the wife to yield; but
both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you will have Waterloo
with no Butcher coming up at night
fall to decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic al
fairs. Let that be the law of your
household. The best thing I ever
heard of my grandfather, whom
never saw, was this: That once, hav-
ing unri ghteously rebuked one of his
children, he himself having lost his
patience, and, perhaps, having been
nisinformed of the child's doings,
found out his mistake, and in the
evening of the same day gathered all
his family together and said: "Now,
[ have one explanation to make, and
one thing to say. Thomas, this morn
ing I rebuked you very unfairly. am
| very sorry for it. I rebuled you in
the presence of the whole family, and
now [ ask your forgiveness in their
presence It must have taken some
courage to do that. 1t was right, was
it not? Never be ashamed to apollo
gize for domestic inaccuracy. Find
out the points, what are the weak
points, if [ may call them so of your
companion, and then stand aloof from
them. Do not carry the fire of your
temper too near the gunpowder. If
the wife be easily fretted by disorder
III the nOuSOuO1u, leu the uuSUtuu NC
careful where he throws his slippers.
If the husband come home from the
store with his patience exhausted, do
not let the wife unnecessarily cross
his temper; but both stand up for
your rights, and 7 will promise the
everlasting sound of the war-whoop.
Your life will be spent in making up,
and marriage will be to you an I'M
mitigated curse. Cowper said:
The kindest and the happiest pair
VIII find occasion to forbear;
And something, every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive.
l have seen the sorrow of a goddess
mother on the death of child she had
neglected. 1t was not so much grief
that she felt from the fact that the
child was dead as the fact that she had
neglected it. She said: eff [ had only
watched over and cared for the child,
1 know God would not have taken it,"
The tears came not; it was a dry,