The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1898-08-28
FOR FEMININE READERS
A CHAPTER OF SENSIBLE .DoN'Ts-
FOR soCIALAND FAMILY LIFE.
Some Timely Hints in Regard to jelly
MaLing-Fun I'm a Kodak Party
The Fall Coats and Capes.

Don't give elaborate dinners when you
have to strain point, writes Mrs. Oliver
Bell Bunce in the Decorator and Furnish
er. One good rule is infallible for well-reg
ulated homes. Let each meal. even if
simple one, have dishes of well-cooked food,
good in quality, and rich in f1avor-so for
the guest who is invited late, the extra
plate need be the only addition.
Don't fail to give the caller who comes
from afar a cup Of good tea with cracker
or a thin slice of bread and butter. True
hospitality shows itself often in a simple
rejection.
Don't talk continually about your hus-
band-what he likes and what he doesn't
like; never discuss family matters. In fact,
they are Of no interest to anybody, and par
ticularly to other women, who are
crossed with their own.
Don't, when writing a letter, cross and
recross the pages; a dancing up and down
Of words which the reader tries in vain to
decipher. Number your sheets Of letter
paper, that is, if the letter is a long one,
clearly and distinctly, so that the message
to be read proves a pleasure instead of a
worry.
Don't condemn anybody on somebody
else's hearsay. Judge for yourself, and
never pass judgment until you are fully GER
tain of the case as it stands, and then take
as good a view of the subject as possible
Charity is the backbone of good form.
Don't fail to acknowledge an invitation
as soon as received. A tardy response is
sometimes objectionable. Like in the an
swering of personal letters, few lines will
often cover questions asked and desires ex-
pressed.
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when an answer to a business letter is re-
quired. In all such matters it is necessary,
but not in private correspondence
Don't fail in your duties as a guest. They
are many, and the visitor who wishes to
be a success should follow rules which are
easily recognized
Don't when visiting take the hosts chair
paper and keep up continual chatter as
soon as he makes his appearance. Busy
men at the end of the day like quiet and the
polite visitor knows just when to speak
and not to speak.
Don't object to pleasures given you dur
ing the visit.
Don't be late at meals or come down when
the meal is nearly finished.
Don't correct the children of your hostess
Mothers resent this, and besides it is none
Don't give orders to servants in other
peoples houses or ask questions. Be deaf,
dumb and blind to any happenings of an
unpleasant character.
Don't leave umbrellas, overshoes, hats and
coats everywhere A visitor without order
who neglects to keep her belongings in her
own room is trial of the worst sort.
Don't gossip, repeat scandals and tell
anecdotes that disparage other women. Let
no man or woman be a butt for your bril-
nancy, however interesting.
Don't when visiting compare your children
with other peoples children. Every swan
thinks its own the whiteSt.
Don't entertain your friends with the
clever doings of your family 1t always
becomes tiresome and dull. Every one, big
and little, speaks for himself, and very often
clever children are exceedingly disagreeable.
Don't fail in courtesies of any kind. There
are maxims of good breeding and little rules
which constitute the foundation of good
manners.