The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-07-31
THE SEBFTSHNESS OF MAN.
LOTE or EASE A coon THING IN
A HUSBAND s-OMEEuAfEs.
One woman,s Notions Of Qualities q Oil

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who Would swim-A ComplcAlon Cure.
They we're talking about the selnshness Of
man. consequently It is almost needless to add
that they were women. Two Of them were-
we'll, not exactly old. but we'll advanced in age
and experience. and two had not been out OF
their teens for more than two or three years.
They were Just old enough In fact TO think that
they wore experienced.
II don't think much OF your newest beau.
AlRy Allison" said one OF the girls to the other.
Ho Is sel1shncss personlled. or course. I
know as we'll as you do that all mon are selfish.
but 1t sticks out oil over Algy In a disagreeable
way. His selfshness il 80 obtrusive. In other
words. As I was saying, all men are born self
ish. but some OF them have the good taste, or
rather the c~levorness. to hide it."
Yes. Algy Is selfish" admitted AlRy's adj
mirer. but that doesn't bother me In the
least. I'd Just as soon look for piety in n pagan
god as to look for unsellshness in q man. II
woman was made from tho rib OF man. which
man takes occasion to throw in our teeth at
every possible opportunity. no was made, not
from the dust OF the earth, as is popularity be-
lieved, but from the pure. unadulterated es-
sence OF sellshhcss. Knowing this as 1 do, 1
don't look for miracles in the shape Of man
kind. and so Algy's little thouRhtfulness about
himself doesn't affect my affection for him. Am
1 not right in this 2" appealing to the older
women.
Il don't know about that" answered the
elder woman. "A selfish man often makes q
mighty fascinating. agreeable kind Of lover.
but he makes a very poor husband.
Yes" put in the other woman Of years,
and ny advice to girls in selecting their hus-
bands Ia to avoid selfish ones"
But II a girl gets a husband at all sho must
get n selfish one" said Algy's admirer. How
can she help It when every living. breathing
man who walks this earth Is as selfish as he
can stick toRether?"
You are very much mistaken In thinking
that" said the elder woman. 1T always
amuses mo to hear women say that man is self
ish. 1t shows how little they really know
about human nature. All men are not selfish
by any means. but oil men are born with q keen
love of ease. There isn't a man in the world.
old or young. rich or poor. who hasn't this love
of ease. We often SEQ women with no sense Of
ease whatever. They are the women who really
enjoy being physically or mentally uncomforta-
BILE when they know that by so doing they ease
some other persons body or mind. You never
see men of that type. One type OF man
kind is born with q sense OF ease
that considers self alone and Of course In time
this develops into seltlshness. l don't know
this Algy that you are talking about. but I do
know Bob BoGgins. Vel. he Is q perfect type
VI ltt IlIAh re q oVllO vi OUou IlICi tollClu-
ers only himself. Bob is an interesting chap.
for he Is Just us clever as he can be. beautifully
educated, well read, travelled, and all that. but
that man never has a thought apart from him
self and his own personal comfort. He's a fine
beau. but do you want TO know the
kind of a husband he'd maker Yes 2
Well. I'll tell you. In the first place when
he cnme home from business, 4 he felt a little
tired he wouldn't. take the trouble to greet you
affectionatcly. When he found that he couldn't
get home, to dinner. unless a telegraph station
half a block out of his way to send you o mes
sage, II your. upstairs girl left suddenly. he
UP at on Sunday morning, Instead Of 1880. SO
that you and the cook could get the cham ber-
Of your babies ever dared to disturb him dur
ing the night he'd he bad-tempered for week. -
tn oGEhfi q ms snd to tf boby th e5c ! Gnss dsf ths Ei4i
whA9 2 didn't admire a hs AIsy sw ~ tba th,rr. tn.t
women have to put up with in the men born
ssIisS Inn men r: but; thank soodnsss, thssy are ! IN n
e ease Tor others as well as for themselves,
example, Daniel likes to do everything
y tho easiest way to save himself all
good clothes. good meals, and q good time.
t 6Tf es H wants Is 6 eyeGyn 90 rs else aS9d To- ana ndy oas the s san.
II Daniel wants a new suit and his wife needs a
new gown at the same time. Daniel gets her
come his. way so that he doesn't have to wait
Long for r his Pb,e suit 6,m # ie1 PANEL M he comes me : IN ny, worn e ,S out
about Mrs. Daniels eyes. he always picks
o oar the ep diS Sna and mus som ms g 1oT Mrs. 'e 'Da3iei
makes room f e. Daniel and he soon nnd s, him:
sense of ease develops into a charming unself.
ishness instead Of into abhorrent sellshness
A 1A5 man myth without naDi any b Ssn sSe o, gSse T T9Sld 6s be ,
N ws5BiI t So %sk kSo tRiP SSs "a fSm 4atfsF Be- n tIeS d him Inn
to one With no sense Of ease at all. But
t he IN he9 tS9s vo tR9re IN are ,0c lots the Of w D%p:
how to distinguish them from The B9obg. y
concerning the universailty, Of mans selfish
ness; Ike IKE ma ! think b he is a great
ee%e eTtalHF; snV cptertainins and amushine s ONE 30 1
o girl, gets taken, In on q Bob and misses
f RHnltIe and 1t 4 pr nStioniyl hfEm sympsthS s SHs s R.s9 o oS'
Of me. for. as l said before. there Iare Danielt
THAT throws new light on Algy's character.
Yes t dess::" answered the othe: girl: "ant
for one intend to make q stldy OF this sense
shawls are in fashion again. Pretty. soft sill
and fine wool shawls are being very much useC
both in the mountains and at the seashore.
shawl Is q powerful weapon II woman onl,
knows how to use it. The time was when nj
fashionable woman thought her wardrobe com
plete unless it contained six or eight shawls
all sizes. shapes. and materials. To-day tn,
up-to-date girl is quite content with. two; BY
a a"o very rVo fn mu'' briTE1ht.coloiro"d paid 0H shaw \
which takes the place Of q steamerr rug for coun
try use and, is much lighter and more, easil,
carried, and the. other Ia q very cobwebby sill
shawl or one OF loosely knitted yarn to be worr
in cool evenings at a summer. resort. TIL,
Slnw wi iS the most convenient OF all wfaDS. for 1
is warm, graceful, does not crush the gown ant
never gets out OF order.
Many a woman is tussling with the wilc
waves these days. She's not bothering her
self about what they are saying. but what the!
are doing and what they will do to her. sht
is. OF course. the woman who is learning t
swim. Swimming is like bicycling. It's 81
easy after you learn how. and the person whc
knows how always thinks that the one who Il