The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1898-11-24
ON HANDSHAKING.
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Hand.
When to shake hands and whentR
to shake hands are questions frequl NJ
y asked. The subject is many-s1Sd
one, and cannot be disposed of by ayea
or nay or by hard and fast ,fulel 1t
IS trite saying that circumstanceAal-
ter cases, and yet this adage exact. lkp-
plies to the matter in hand, as it en1fe-
y depends upon the circumstance of
the moment whether a hand is eXteDIhed
Or bow given.
| The difficulty of not knowing whether
to shake hands or not arises when irst
.ntroductions are made, and aganl at
| subsequent meetings between woAlen
but recently introduced to each other
and on many like occasions, such as
when strangers are brought in conqhct
with each other when staying in com
try house together, or at afternoon Hr-
ties, dinner parties, and so on. A
This question of when to shake haVs
wholly relates to the foregoing siI t.
tons, and is outside of the handsA
ing customary between friends, bR
which no reference need oe maddtRi
they shake hand with each othe( sn
meeting as matter qis rSurss11lnd
again on parting, with ts.eh-t Ion,
that at a second meeting onS me ME
day the act of shaking hands is not're-
peated.
The term shaking hands" is still in
use for want of better one, but as far
as the word shaking" is concerned it
is almost a misnomer, and taking the
hand" would be more explicit express
sion to apply to the fashion of the pres
ent day. When an introduction is made
between two women, whether they
shake hands or not is determined by
side issues. Generally speaking, the re-
ceived rule is not to do so, but only to
bow. but then follow all the various ex-
ceptions that induce women introduced
to do otherwise-thati is to say, to shake
hands at once.
When a girl is introduced to a mar
ried woman, for instance, by mutual
friend, the married woman may or may
not shake hands with the girl; she prob
ably will do so if she is good-natured,
but she is not certain to evince this
amount of cordiality. But if the intro
duction is made by relative of the girl
the married woman does not hesitate
to shake hands, but in neither case
would the girl take the initiative of
shaking hands.
When d man is introduced to a wom-
an, again the exceptions in favor of
shaking hands come in as against not
1oing so. For instance, if the man in
troduced is the husband or brother of
the woman making the introduction it
would be natural to shake hands with
him, almost imperatively so; but were
he mere acquaintance it would be
most unusual to shake hands with him
on first introduction. After little
| short and desultory conversation has
taken place between two women or be-
twee1 a woman and a man just int 20
duced to each other, the doubt All les
whether they are expected to Snake
hands on taking their departure; Meth
er do they shake hands at future chance
meetings, should ttey occur, unless
meetings under exceptionally favGra-
bic circumstances for promoting ac-
| quaintance at the houses of mutual
| friends and at social functions, etc. On
the other hand, the hostess shakes
hands with any and every guest
brought to her house by her frie1ds.
She does so on their arrival and on their
departure, and again at any subsequent
meeting if she happens to recollect
thsnn, which is not always certain to be
the case.
| As regards dinner guests, when a
man is introduced to a woman for the
purpose OF taking her in to dinner she
does not shake HANDS with him, but
merely bows, and. however well they
may have got on together during din
ner. she does not shake hands with him
later on in the evening, when taking
her departure. Indeed, the opportunity
seldom occurs for even bowling to him.
| At second meeting bows only are in
terchanged, and it much depends upon
circums tances whether the acquain-
| ldHCt lllJtHS llllO OhC Vi
ceases altogether.
| Little handshaking occurs between
guests staying at country house, they
| do not do so on first introduction by
| their hostess, neither when separating
on the first evening when Good night
! is said, nor on coming down to break
fast. They shake hands with their
hostess each morning ard evening, oc-
casionally with their host in the morn
ing. and generally so in the evening,
! and if they become interested in each
other and are inclined to be friendly
they shake hands when before mem
toned Good nights" aW.Essl
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