Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1898-03-31

Special Correspondence OF Gazette aud Journal
New York. March 25.-I can perfectly
eympathzc with the young girl VINO before
abe was a wife expressed her disgust az the
women who continually talked about their
servants but after her marriage, when she
was in the midst of discussion of TINS
never ending subject and reminded by
friend of her former remarks, SAID, u
wonder that they talk about anything
else" The business man engaging CLERK
paws him for certain work and expects nm
10 be capable Of doing that work He needs
n comnetent bookkeeper. Numbers appear
10 apply for the situation. Each telis oil ms
experience. his ability and oilers ms refer
ences The business man engages that one |
who seems to be most competent, most |
healthy and about whom the best words are |
said by former employer, VINO gives |
reasonable excuse for having dismissed MN
from his employ. That man eXpects that
in a few DAYS his bookkeeper Will have
learned the special methods of the estab-
lishment and be a competent workman
He knows that he would not dare to pose as
a flrst.class buokkeeper unless he WAS one.
He understands that business man does
mot write reference for an employee unless
II is deserved and the employer would think
the world was coming to an end II, at the
end of the first day the man engaged 10
keen the hooks announced that he oid not
know very much about them, but That he
was very good at putting corks IN cologne
bottles.
But that is the sort of treatment thet
comes to the mistress of house. She is
anxious for a tirst-class cook. Inc COOK
anpears either in answer TO an advertise
ment from an employment agency or
through some friend, She presents her
recommendation. 1t is written evidently
bv a LADY, and according to it this woman
has all the virtues and is perfectly com
petent cook Her first dinner is an a6so'
lutte failure. The meat is cooked to death.
White watery potatoes, greasy vegetables
and heavy pastry constitute the menu. The
mistress signs After dinner she has little
talk with her new employe, only TO dis.
cover that where she lived before she did
not do the cooking, Just helped around the
house, but she wanted to be cook, and
'Mrs Nlontmorenc Brown was SO kind
hearted that she gave me recommend as
ONE Ny friend. what right has Mrs.
Montmorsnc Brown to tell an absolute
untruth on paper? Yet this untruth Is not
the worst that has come to you or to me
brought by some one desiring TO literally
live with us.
A well-known woman who would have
been Mortified, for she was especially con
spicuous in church work, at being told thai
she was sinner committed crime OF thu
deepest dye, which she excused on Tn
ground of feeling sorry for the girl" IL
a waitress VINO had been caught sIeallnl
money she gave recommendation, 10
honesty. From the next household which
this girl entered she stole more than money
She took magnificent silver wonderful
Jewels. fine pieces of hric-a-brac, au'
handed them over to her sweetheart {
pawn. while she disappeared. When tn
detectives looked up her references, whlc
her mistress should have done they di:
covered that this lady, knowing her to be
thief, had vet allowed her to go INTO othe
homes as an honest girl. As a woman TO
woman, as housekeeper To housekeepe
have the strength vi mind to give nothln
but an honest recommendation to Il
servant who leaves you or whom you d.
charge And never fail to date your Tefe
ence, for girl who may he honest to-da
may be a thief next year, while sue wi
may have been sweet and pure and goo
while with you may be uepIaNeu IN s.
months time
Each Of us Ms we enter the little pla
that means home whether it be a tin
house or a small HAT in some great city,
overlooking with nope about the womi
who, while we employ her, will yet he
make the house home, Each o. us nlea
10 be good to her, and each Of us wants
make her happy. How does she meet Il
desire on the part of the mistress? i
average servant regards the average m
tress as her natural enemy. Kindness $
considers as nothing more than her rig
sympathy she suspects, and gratitude
something unknown TO her, Oh, knt
there have been faithful servants and tn
are good servants, but once in awhile
mistress has right To speak, especially ne
when the papers and journals are overllC
ing with articles from the side Of the {
ploye You and ], who engage one g
arrange for her a comfortable bed-roo
There is Il chest IN ii which contains Il 81
cient number OF Sheets pillOw-cases {
towels especially dedicated to this room. \
allow your maid time enough to put
room in order, and YOU beg OF her " hen
gets up to throw the bedclothes off the
a onen the window and lGtthe fresh air in. ]
hans this is done once, perhaps three tin
but after that it is considered waste
time by the mistress of the kitchen,
YOU soon learn that the linen on that
would never be changed if you did not i
some of your valuable time and in
upon it.
II must be to eat from an untidy table,
use soiled dishes or to have scraps repre-
your bill of fare. So in one of the kiLc
cupboards there are cups, saucers and pi
and all the necessary dishes in plain "
ware and with them some small tahlecl'
for the use of Jane and to add to her c
fort. On her arrival yOu show her Il
articles meant to make life pleasantel
her and as you explain their use you M
that a look, half Of scorn, half Of diss
comes over her face. That first night J
spreads the little table in the kitchen
eats her dinner after a civilized fashion,
this never happens again. She is too
to care about being dainty, ana she "
rather eat a little now and a little /
standing or sitting as she fances, and
be bothered with being, as she puts it.
awful particular" A fit Of crying
course you have had it. We all have hi
We have all arranged comfortable
rooms. we have all tried to make ei
something more refined than 1t usually
the kitchen, but the empioye not only
not meet the mistress half way, but '
her friends visit her she tells as a great
how the mistress hoped to make her Ii
she wanted her to- Perhaps you not
gave your time and your very self, bu
spent great deal of money OH this wo
who was ill when she came to YOU.
weeks after. when you were tired ont
general nursing and hoped to he able t
little, this young woman appeared al
formed you that she intended to leav,
afternoon. You said. What Ma
Leave me now when | took as good g
you when you were i'll as If You had
my own sister, And Maggie, with
wonderful GOODNESS that belongs to
ana that still more wonderful ingrat
answered. ''Hes. ma'am, that is ju!
reason why. II you had been the
thought you, you would not have don
Now, what is to be Gomez Nou ant
tender-hearted women, and when u
comes to some one who is in our XII
our hearts go out to the sufferer, Il
give of our best in every way, only
hurt afterward. Have you and !, who
ourselves and who are good mistrcsses
known maid 70 say, by doing TIT
so can save % cents?" Oh, mol
and see the great need to econoui;
go into the kitchen and insist upon
are spoken of as "mean." Care as
amount of food used the quantity o
"a burned. of gas lighted or conside
aritT tFa RIr has ts ina