The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1898-03-25
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She played at euchre at the C's 49,, ~
She slipped the '.tea" at Mrs. AS.
She dined IN state at Mrs. Us, d
She Joined the 'sboX' Of Mrs, H.
And then she lunched with Mrs. Y;
And when the dainty feast was DER
She stayed and danced till after four. =
.Another day." she gasped, sis blent
hope will survive till Lent"
OF Pleasing.
To please men is one thing, and to be
pleasing to men entirely another. 1t is Il
good deal easier to please the average
man than it is to be pleasing to him.
Women used to make the mistake Of try
ing to please men; now it is the fashion to
make oneself pleasing to them. Our
SrandmotherS and even our mothers have
wasted no end of time in thinking how
they could best please the men of their
acquaintance when they met. They went
ut 1t by thinking, saying, doing, wanting
liked best. 1t is not so with the girl of to-
day. One of her primary objects in life is
not to please men, but to make herself
pleasing to them. She has learned that
the man to whom she has made herself
pleasing does not forget her as soon as she
separates herself from him; that he wants
to study her; to know her better. Above
all i,,r he wants to do something for her.
The minute man wants to do some
thing for you, my DEAR" said an expert
enced matron to young woman, ''you
may be sure that you are pleasing to him -
On this point this matron ought to be
we'll informed, for she is pleasing to man
and to woman, too. The girl was typ;-
cal young woman of the period. independ-
ent, impulsive and also retrospective.
Now, when a man wants to do any lit
tie thing for you," the matron went on,
let him do it, even if he is as old us
<Methuselah, and pretend that it is the
very thing you want him to do; that no.
body else could have done it half so well,
and that life would not be worth living
If he had not done that very thing for
you. Nine young women out of ten now
adays, when man offers to do some
trit1ing service for them, protest. This is
a great mistake. The protesting woman
may please a man occasionally, but she
can never make herself eternally pleasing
to him. Suppose man offers to take \
letter to the box Oh the corner for you,
to buy some medicine that he thinks
would do your cold good, to step around
to the library to get some book that
Your impulse and the impulse Of
the average. woman of today is to
say rather impatiently: oh. would
mt trouble you for worlds. 1 can mail
my own letter. or Il never take medicine
for cold Or I have something else
can read tonight In your heart you ap-
preciate the mans offer, but you obey
your first impulse, and that is to pro-
test. Now, know men we'll, and they
aren't half bad. They are creatures who
never do anything that they don't want
to do, or, rather, when they do Il thing it
is solely because they want to do it, and
it provokes them beyond polite expires.
sion to have woman show that she had
rather do things for herself Every
the woman who makes the greatest sue
cess along this line is she who always,
under all circumstances, allows men to
do things for her. Every woman should
see to it that she brushes down and
chokes out the impulse in her to protest.
"'Phllosophers tell us that that which
helps or hinders fellowship makes the
the part of women certainly binders fell
lowship between them and men. Per-
haps it is putting it too strongly to say
that these prOtestatiOns Are bad manners,
but it is surely bad policy to refuse to
allow men to serve YOU. Try the advice of
a woman of the world and do not protest
if you would make yourself pleasing to the
~ "A ehstt NNII ASNCl I'LL ltSCil vi tue lue.l
that we owe our being to all expression
of its generosity, that if man had not
granted spare rib that he had about
him we never would have been ut all,
BY all means let every man living do ey-
cry little thing Oh earth for you that he
wants to do. Youth find that you get a
great deal more out of life, that you will
afford himself unlimited opportunities to
pat himself on the back, and that you
will not only make yourself pleasing to
him, but that you will make him pleased
with himself, which is the scientific basis
of success in society. New York Sun.
The Reduced Lady.
What tremendous opening for the re-
fined woman there ought to be in rich
houses where the parents are not refined.
but who have the sense to desire that
their sons and daughters should be more
well hammered than themselves. 1t is the
most touching concession which a self
made man or woman ever makes-that 81
lent request to be told how to do things
gracefully, and the remark, Il wish my
sons and my daughters to have those adj
vantages which did not have myself"
Now lady has her social ACCOMPLISH
ments ready for use. She knows how
to carry herself; she knows what good
habits mean, what bad ones to avoid
Mentioned individually they seem small
things, and of very little Importance. but
In the complete whole how important! Good
manners are a duty. Why should NOT a
lady, born and bred and improved by sew
eral generations of culture, go out and
put her splendid accomplishments of ''be-
ing LADY, into practice?
ana yet there are those so besotted as
to laugh at the very idea of teaching good
manners: Some peop,c are endowed With
a natural grace which needs no teaching;
but they are the very few. When we see
mlserably shy, awkward bow. who
comes in a room breathing hard, and who
upsets his soup plate over his best vest,
or some awkward schoolgirl, who comes
oancins ana prancing about the crowded
most with the belief that she is a pattern
OF fashionable ease, or else so stiff that
ramrod would become plant vine be-
SIDE her, who does not wish that some re-
duced lady of good manners could have
the training of her? Even the matter of
sitting down gracefully, neither to lounge
or to sit timorously on the edge of her
chair, this might be taught.
And to the inexperienced hostess what
a blessing would be a protracted visit
from a finished hostess. That graceful
woman who, in her own house. always
advances to meet a lady, but let's the gen
tlemen come to her. She has a chair for
everyone, and a kind word. She is ''civil
with ease She says something appro-
pirate, well turned, and gracefully kind to
everyone. Her agreeable welcome makes
the morning call a festive occasion.
10 teach women how to be hostesses
would employ all the reduced ladies for a
decade: In a world where love is at a
premium and even respect is not cheap,
why should women add to the number Of
those who dislike them-this business of
being disagreeable hostesses? 1t is ex-
ttremely unchristian to be rude. It may
be naughty assumption, but it is far
more apt to be ignorance.
And yet how hard to get reduced lady
"A home where she would be of SO much
service, as she would be in thousand
which need her i'll this country -Harper's
Bazaar. =
To Construct a aotbed
Flower-growers who enjoy bringing
into bloom different varieties of flowers
earlier i'll the season than their less ambi-
t1ous friends will find in hotbed of mod
crate size Il great help. In it seed NAV