The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-01-15

for her almonds or her bon-bons. -
Your confectioner will send a man, who
will open the cans of ice cream for you II
lsyou request him to do SO, and he will also
supply you with a certain amount of ice
cream which may be returned if not
opened, and the same arrangement may
also be made with the grocer in regard
to the waters and crackers.
A plentiful supply of cut sugar and rich
| cream must be ready for the coffee.
1t will be necessary for you to have q
maid or man who can give their sole att
tention to attending to the door,, and to
receiving the cards of the guestA If a
maid attends to this duty her dress
| should be plain and neat, and she should
wear a large apron, and a pretty cap.
l Her duty is to instruct the guests as they
arrive, as to where their wraps may be
removed, thus. '~second-story, front,
please" is all that it will be necessary
for her to say. You, in your trying role
as hostess, should give NJ thought to the
dining room. but trust to those in whose
charge you ave placed the different du-
ties, and thus be enabled to nave a bright
face free from care.
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OF the disagreeable woman, there are
many types n phases, but one of the
most eminent physicians of the country
declares that we know her at her worst
as "a nagger." OF this sort of feminine
Individual he goes SO far as to say
that her relatives do not yearn for her
recovery when she falls ill. While this
seems, indeed. a sever estimate of the
'nagger's' depressing effect upon those
in closest proximity to her, it is, per-
haps, only its outspoken candor that
shocks us, and we rather incline to be-
lieve his assertion that varied expert
ence proves it undeniable.
But the nag with her reiterated com
plainings about this, that or the other
trivial delinquency, and petulant interro-
cations as to the why and wherefore of
every one else's most inconsequent COM
ings and goings, is by no means the only
disagreeable woman. even if high au-
thority ranks her as a chief among sim
ners in marring the peace of mind of a
whole household. There are others who,
if not exactly the same in kind, are not
less trying in degree.
One of this genius of disagreeables is
the -patronizing woman; she who always
assume that you do not know quite the
best people, the best way of doing things
or the best in music, literature and art.
She hastens to tell you who is who and
what is what, looks you over with I'M
crucial intensity of her ~sizing-up glance,
that your trimmed-over bonnet is a per-
feet guy and your neatly mended gloves
~disreputable.
This is a Wedgewood pitcher" said
a patronizing woman to a new acquaint-
ance who was calling upon her. Wedge
woods was a celebrated pottery in Eng
land, and this is an heirloom" How in
teresting!' replied the woman who
wouldn't be patronized, as she handed it
back; land my mother has a ~saltglaze
pitcher, a rarely unique one, made by
Crouch, who sold the pottery to the
Wedgewoods."
The patronizing woman said:-"Ah, in
deedi' with an incredulous lift of the eye
brows, but her face betrayed that she
had never heard of Crouch, and her in
| tended victim scored one with a sense
of triumph only to be appreciated by
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thrusts of the patronizer.
81 wouldn't have believed tina those
cheap silks would have made up into
such a pretty Dress said another wo-
man of this type to a dainty little thor
oughbred whom she envied for her style
and elegance in inexpensive attire; but
in this case the p~atronizing woman over
stepped the narrow line and evolved into
that even more widely different species.
the downright rude woman. And it is no
! use to say that the rude woman is not
sin society'-she is there as surely as
the whist woman, and every coterie can
point to one who has made herself avoid
ed on account of the barbed arrows with
which she takes uneHing aim at the vul-
nerable points of her self-styled friends
as well as the enemies whom she can
not forego h~umiliating.
If she has herself achieved matri-
mony, even at the eleventh hour. she
always greets her old schoolmates with
the laughing query:-'sWhen in the world
are you going to get married, Fannie?"
And she gets in her cleverest digs under
cover of a laugh. for it gives her the
lOOpHOle. VI having peeH uleItiy III AuH,
don't you known should her personali-
ties be resented, and, indeed, the dis
| agreeable woman who smiles and smiles
and is disagreeable still is about the
/ most difficult of all to endure with forth
tude. unless it be the woman who, upon
| the slightest acquaintance, whispers you
a warning story about every one you
| had inclined to like especially.
| Verify there are nom of us perfect,
| but no woman need be the disagreeable
woman if she wills to be otherwise. The
/ radiant success, ever in this world, of
| the agreeable woman is well worth striv-
ing for.
That was admirable advice which DR..
HalIJBrown, the eminent sahitarian, gave
in her recent lecture to an audience
| chiefly composed of school girls. This
| was. first, to wear dresses that cleared
| the ground, when they arrive. at the age
in which their frocks are expected by
| custom to touch; second, if this is not
done, to hold the dress up; and, third, and
most important, never to shake street
garments in the house, certainly not in
ones bedroom. They should be shaker
out of doors and always brushed from
one. All teachers of hygiene appreciate
! that it is the instructing Of this coming
generation in good sanitary ways, at the
! moment when they are most impressible,
| that is going to work a great benefit for
the coming man and woman. 1t some
| times seems a pity to Undue children with