The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1898-11-02

we have always with US.
She is always interesting, and be-
cause she is ever near we have fine
opportunity to observe her.
I have written of the engaged girl
before, but, like New York woman
writer remarked not long ago Of the
subject of the matinee hat, at least
once year she will 'sbear discus
sion.'' The matinee hat is SO dear to
the heart Of woman that whatever is
said Of it proves Of vast consequence.
And you know the engaged girl is
never, or seldom, passed without par
ticular notice. From the time it is
known she is to be somebody's S wife
there is new interest surrounding
her. IF she is society girl the pa
pers tell aboutit and people talk about
it, and lucky indeed is the girl if she
has pleased everybody as well as her
self in the selection of husband.
I am sorry for the girl whose heart
goes a straying when parents and
guardians who think themselves wise
enough to order Cupid's ways forbid
that it shall stray.
It is sad when all the world does
not love lover. But the greater
part Of the lity of it all should be
given to the girl in the case. You
know a man is seldom wounded very
deeply by the expressed objections of
his sweetheart's parents and relatives,
lust SO the maid is true. Being GER
tain Of her trust and love, it rather
makes him feel proud that he has an
opportunity to defy parental or any
body else's objections and steal away
his bride. IF that be necessary.
But when things are reversed, when
mans family makes up it's mind
that he has not chosen wisely, OF,
then it is time to be sorry indeed for
the maid. Toms sisters do not call
upon her, and Toms mother has
openly expressed her disapproval,
and, try as she Will to be Indifferent,
there is not philosophy enough in her
poor little soul to keep her from feel
ing such sights. Not even the GER
tainty Of Toms very deep devotion
can keep her from feeling certain
sense of wounded pride.
She may be honest and good, this
little girl that Tom s mother aud sis
ters are sorry Tom cares for. But a
brilliant match had always been hoped
for Tom, and the little girl is not
brilliant. She is simply pretty and
sweet and good. You may think that,
all this being true, / am mistaken in
thinking that Toms family disap-
proves, but if you will keep your eyes
open you will soon learn for yourself
that all engaged girls are not as happy
as they should be. But Toms moth
er and sisters have always been ambi-
tious for him. / do not say anything
abous his father and brothers, because
men generally leave it to their women
folk Of nearest kin to do the planning
of castles built on the foundation Of
love. Usually when Toms father or
brothers find out that Tom has hope
lessly lost his heart they at once set
about making the best Of matters, if
matters are not altogether already Of
the very best.
/ believe that men have too much
common sense to try to "break off a
match" Maybe it is common sense
or perhaps it is charity that restraints
them. Whatever it is that dictates
the wisdom Of not interfering, certain
it is that Toms counting days are sell
dom made dreary burden through
the hearing of cutting remarks drop
ped by his masculine relatives con-
cerning his choice Of a wife. But
then his masculine relatives have not
been dreaming all the days of their
lives Of how remarkable woman the
one must be that Tom should choose
to journey through life with. Toms
mother, maybe, thinks great deal Of
riches and fashionable society, while
the modest little girl Tom has chosen
thinks nothing and knows nothing of
the things. And this is disappoint-
ing. Or, perhaps, Tom is clever
man and his sister, doting on ''higher
education for women, insists that
Toms lady-love knows too little Of
Latin and Greek. What does it avail
if Tom argues .hato .,iht horticulture is a
long way Of head-culture when it
comes to women, and recommends that
his learned sister try it for awhile and
see if the whole world does not seem
a SUMMER place to her In the course