The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1898-10-09
THE VOICE OF THE PULPIT
FAMILY LIFE. DUTIES AND OBLTGA-
TIONs THAT FOLLOW MARRIAGE.
short Sermon by Rev. L. ID. Temple.
ID: d., Pastor of the First Baptist
Church, BrattIeborO, vi.

| ther and mother. and shall be Joined unto
Ephesians V, 81.
October stands but second only, If indeed
the more recent statistics do not give it first
| place, as 1.-THE month of weddings" Tn
doubtedly many readers of this paper are
now starting forth ito travel the old. old
path together" while our theme may not
lack interest for those who have long gone
hand in hand
There is no more important problem for
men and women to solve than how to MAIN
tain correct family life The home is
Gods gift to mankind. Even when Eden
was lost home was left. 1t is His will that
nome should be happy, and the Responsible
ty to make it so rests equally upon the hus-
| band and the wife.
Marriage is often a revelation OF charac-
ter. During courtship each is concealing
| faults from the other-not designedly, per-
| haps, but in the very nature of the case:
the more amiable characteristics are then
to the fore while the infelicities are but lit
| tie in evidence and at most appear but
trifies, for it is quite true that "love is blind
| 70 very considerable extent After the
wedding the eyes of both are gradually
opened, and sometimes there is disappoint-
ment. Human nature is at best imperfect
| and none of us is free from faults MANY
of these must be overlooked, none magnided.
Be considerate, forbearing; not harshlv
| critical and fault+fnding. Kind suggestion
and mutual help will do much toward over
coming and minimizing the unfortunate
| traits of character.
Each should be patient with the other.
| The opportunity for a quarrel will soon ar
rive after the wedding-some trivial thing
WHICH, treated In the right spirit, may be
lN adi
mgnest Importance in keeping the peace.
You may not feel like smiling, but smile.
| We are all much like the Chinaman when
the artist employed as a model 'Smile.
John" said the artist. but John was glum.
| Smile" said he again; 'if you don't. i
won't pay YOU mo use," said John:
Chinaman felee ugly, Chinaman lookee
ugly alice samee." 1t is not easy to look
peasant when you feel Sulen, but it will
De better to do SOFT will dispel your own
| disturbed feelings and prevent friction
"hlcn should be avoided as the pest and
| never be allowed to gain foothold. Force
| the smile at the outset and it will come
| easier every time. 1t is not hypocrisy. but
set-restraint in the interest of Kindness.
! II this worlds vale Of tears. smile till
ralnDows span it." Many a woman has
cured her husband of unkindness by always
meeting him with smile. but a man who
absolutely requires his wife's perpetual
silllie IN order to keep good-natured is too
mean to have wife.
INDUSTRY IN THE HOME
In a model home both husband and uvssa
will be industrious. Some women who
marry comfortably wish to do nothing hut
dawdle. One whose husband has an ade-
| quate income ought not, indeed. to spend
| ner time doing the homework to save a
lew collars week: she had better pay II to
some girl VINO needs to earn an honest Iiv-
Ing ana give herself to the oversight of
nome, 10 self-improvement and good works.
O1 course, the husband will be Industrious.
Ii ne is willing to let his wife support the
family when he is able to do it, he Is ..worse
| imam all inidel." Labor is a school of char
acter' and to work for those we love de.
| Veiops in us the noblest virtues.
husbands and wives should cultivate con-
ndence In each other. "Green-eyed jealousv''
nas nlled the divorce courts with records
ol unhappy homes-too often wholly with
ouC warrant My good woman, if your hus-
| band gets a note in Iadys HANDWRITING
DO not be too quick to accuse him or tumn
| at the conclusion that there's Sometimes
wrong. If it proves to be only your mslIin-
er's bill you will feel foolish, and perhans
ton of distrust. My fine fellow. when vour
wife goes into society and you see her sur-
rounded by an admiring group of men Won
| are ordinarily very foolish to feel other than
pride In her charm and pleasure in her So
clal powers. You should believe in each
| others integrity. People grow better bv he
ing trusted and are often ruined by being
constantly suspected.
| You should share each others perplexf
tles Every wife should know something of
ner husbands business. OF course he will
have entanglements and losses to vex his
SOUL A woman who has no sympathetic ear
for her husbands cares is not a good wife.
| Some husbands are unwilling to inform thesr
wives about business matters. How can a
woman be rightly blamed for extravaganza
| If she has no means Of knowing what her
husband cannot afford?
Men come home from business weary. per-
haps irritable. Some of them object to hear
ing about household perplexities The poor
wifes brain is awhirl with trouble, and she
is entitled to her husbands interest and
cheerful aid in the home affairs. Let him
remember, too, that he has been out in the
busting world, while the wife's one relief
from the days monotony often is his home
coming at night
1t Is wifes duty. to make home at
tractive. Many men have an unhappy lot.
They work hard in store, shop or office
through the day and at night go home TO
| ill-ventilated. ill-kept, ill-arranged homes.
There may be times. as in sickness, when
this cannot be avoided, but never allow il
to become the regular order of things. A
wife will find it worth all It costs to have
the living rooms "slicked up" and to take
some thought of her own personal appear
ance for the evening meal.
| 1t is a husbands business to give to his
| family the benefit of his society as much as
! possible. Many wives have a comfortless
| life after toiling hard for a husbands hap
piness. There are cases where, when the
| evening meal is over. the husband now no
| longer a lover. goes to club or lo1nging
| place. leaving wife and children to cheer
| themselves. Is he doing his part TO make
his home happy one?
| Husbands and wives should always act
the part of true gentility toward each other.
A man once said: MY wife and had but 4
short acquaintance before our marriage. but
our courtship has never ceased" Courtship
is state Of being courteous. Why should