The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-02-27
VoNAN'S STUDY OF MAN.
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''..s uer nay Trying 10 Plense the Orig
~, .,,-Fiouers Replace Feathers on Mats
..,.,r, fer the slcE-GoinuE Unbreiias.
,rn, IL II that women spend 80 much tin
.,.n;,o how they can please menf In tho az
Ute they would never admit that they do.
eVus,n ,bc individual down with q point blank
ou'p.n and nine times out Of ten she confesses
eu'.un ~ the chief aims OF her life Is to please
"'"Srd This is nothing to be ashamed OF.
n"s.r,s II is deliciously womanly to want to
go and TO be pleasing to men, but 1t 10
~. cory irving to ones peace OF mind.
~. doesn't woman sit back awhile
VIZ ia, man try his hand at pleasing
ss and making himself pleasing to her 7
g.. man Is such q novice at this kind OF
,SSiD,ss that II would take him q long time to
sssorplish much, probably. but once he sue.
.sa.a he would like It. and as for woman, sho
Ia he In the seventh heaven OF delight. Her
nell troublos would vanish as dry grass before
go. and It's the little troubles that weigh on
-.uon'. heart. The Creator OF the mothers
:, rsn seems TO have given them strength
a mse, and bear the big trials OF life, but
A.. no,tv everyday annoyRnces that don't
- man turn n hair sap tho very life out
=, IN, women folks. There's n young woman
=, ,bls towr who says she's scrvel her day trying
- r,casc the original sex. Now she's deter
..,r. 10 BE- pleased for awhile. She was talking
=, Al, over with a mi ldlc.aEcd woman recently.
"t., ME lust tell you ono thing began tho
80, "I'm going TO give up studying how to
u,s. mon like me for awhile and let them
,,u.v how 10 make me like them. Men are so
ou,er. They talk about us being queer, and wo
c,p't touch them with nt"n-foot pole when It
- - o,o,rpIss miro and nnahnltnFnfad
m admit that they are more equablc in their
di,nosjtions than We are. and they ought to be.
Thu physical and mental makeup Of man isn't
h,lf so sensitive as that OF woman. A physician
Who has over 900 fashionable and would.bc
fashionable women as patients. not to speak
NJ hundreds OF poor ones whom he treats
fer. told me that n woman never felt
pbvsically the same two days in succession. and
while I AM considered u very strong girl. /. for
oue. can vonrh for the truth of his statement.
which be based on a broad experience. Is 1t any
wonder that We are nervous and moody and
,om,times hysterlcali A woman doesn't change
muscle over n pain that would put a man TO
bed, but the effect Of it tells on her. Men ought
To know this. but they don't. And I'm going to
lsl EN- find II out. I'm going to let my men
friends study my mental status and nervous
conditions anu WllHnS LOT u While, ana see II
they will match their moods with mine"
You arc just right, interrupted the elderly
woman. e but | wonder that you admit that you
have given so much thought to pleasing men
heretofore"
why shouldn't I" said the girl. You do
the same and so does every other woman. old or
young, single or married. good looking or ugly.
and I've observed this thing the more indopen.
dent a girl Is in thought. word. and action tho
more she likes 70 please men and have them
please her. Married men can make up
wives aren't trying to please them they
may DO sure they are trying to please
somebody else. This doesn't mean that tho vito
i:in love with some other man. mind you. but 1t
does mean that every woman has to have an
ideal man TO cater to. That is just as neces.
sary 10 her as food or sleep"
Interrupted the elderly woman, with n sigh.
What do you think it is that woman most
likes IN man T.
Truth and tenderness" answered the girl
every woman he met there would be very few
women adrift in this world. and II these men
Ing with US such a thing as an o~utcast woman
would be unknown. Will you tell me why a
man will ask a woman TO do u thing for doing
T WI as will respect rs her iessi They all do.
e~hapcroncd 10 the theatre, and after the play
asks her TO a restaurant 10 ha We a little supper.
Sas a: Sc bs,I the Invitation It o,yon in I'll the spirit in
the man really asks hor because he is enjoying
her society and doesn't want the evening to
tome to an end. But what docs he say to him.
her better II she had refused to 60 out to supper
>n,s the theatre; wouldn't like my sister to
:e,,ssd =, ~ ne ;,, haf only said that to the girl
lAousand times more Of him. Women like In be
tAEen in hand and guided or even ruled. 1t is
NIX 10 impossible f9r q girl not to fall in love
WIN a man who is able 10 put her in his sisters
pIMe and tel her the truth about things. about
wat men IKE and dislike in women. Oh. IL the
mn on,v Knew what n winner truth Is with
women! And next to truth a woman values
tenaerhess in a man. When she Is ovcrwrought
ana unstrung she doesn't want \ man to reason
Win her. She is incapable OF reasoning or
Whst she S,'"f wants fS'SO Is to fb% e talked to-
lehderly. Just a few tender words. an assur.
ance Of sympathy and understanding will do
more TO calm and comfort her than all the phil.
osophy and logic ever heard OF. II is such a
snhpie tning for, man 20 please woman. IL he
Sniy knew 1t. An he has TO do is to cultivate
ing moods and seemingly complex conditions Of
mina and body with those two elements.
will ieS' said the elderly woman. IF you
VIII really stop trying so hard to please men, as
you ye promised yourself to do, and will de-
Tahh truth Of them, the tenderness will follow.
anrh you viii find yourself in n true relation
I'm your men friends and they with you, and
inc result Will be a series OF ideal friendships"
Inc members OF the Audubon Society, and all
persons interested in preventing the extermina.
'oh oi oirds, should be delighted with the
spring mats already en- exhibition. Not n feather
no'a wing Is 10 be seen on thom. Flowers are
" oe me rage in millinery this summer,
~ fashionable m%illincrs say. II women
A"e" how much prcttier they looked
S4Der a hat that brings to mind a
mower Than they do under one which suggests
IN oFnithological exhibit or n taxIdermist's
.IUp WINDOW they would wear fower.bedecked
m''ihery The year round. Never have artificial
TV"ers been so beautiful as they are to day.
" unest are made in Franco. and it must be
,"d ,m mat the French nave almost riyalled
m",Ife ~ bringing their silk and velvet and
a"m.,'n nlos7Olns to perfection, Some OF them
~ mt natural Odor.
c0rns sprlhS fowers, tuliDs. lilacs. primroseB,
pra ndaon ana ~ the things that grew in our
sstdhunother's Old.fashioned gardens are esne.
.sly beautiful, and will he used on big brimmed
Il, = W. hals. Orchids. which were so very popu.
,nm y, awhie, had 10 take second place in the
rosa.""Her neIore last, when hats were a mass of
ano,bat nloicts' but IL seems they are to nave
miJ lam inning. Those who know say that the
loaded d ns hais; Tor dressy occasions, are to BIO
plorv !, uJ"U WIN roses such as are in their
'""' III inc south during the month of June,
n "e'FRhown florist told n customer some in.
m.'S''ne things about sending flowers to sick
rsop'e the other day. Tho customer was a
"OHa"' and 1t all came about in this way: She
~Nypoa IN !atc one afternoon and told him she
hospital. " ~"
=, t"m amazed that you should come in here
~ tulH linn .