The Scranton tribune. [volume] (Scranton, Pa.) 1891-1910, 1898-02-19
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"She has such beautiful manners"
remarked a lady, competent TO express
such an opinion, of q fair young wo-
man who is very popular in society in
this city. Yes" remarked listener,
"she saves them for acquaintances
and strangers You just should see
her at home; why she's too disagree
able for anything. Every member of
tn family goes on tip toe, figuratively,
in her presence"
Now that's something worth know
ing" exclaimed another member of
the group. II wonder how she man
ages it. Id like to have her recipe.
Nobody ever went on tip toe i'm my
vicinity yet. | believe even as a baby,
| must have had to smile when pins
were sticking into me, Just for fear |
might annoy somebody. It's what has
always been expected of me. I've been
the one who has done all the tiptoeins
in our family and I'm just about tired
of it. No one ever suggests that Tom
stop sharpening the carving knife a
half hour at time, because Of my
nerves. 1t is always Aunt Annie's or
Sister Grace's nerves that must be
considered. Nobody ever hesitates to
find fault with me for every trivial
thing / do or don't do, but If a hint is
given of scolding Margaret or Grace,
there is always some voice to pipe out.
oh. / wouldn't say that to Grace, she
is so sensitive l wish to goodness l
knew how tn go about it to secure the
tiptoeing process as operated by some
one else besides my unlucky self. i
should enjoy seeing our household
stand in awe of me for a little while"
mo, you wouldn't, it's horrid. The
role wouldn't fit you" said the first
speaker But really, Miss c. is hate
'ul at home. The servants all tell it
and even her mother inadvertently ad-
mitted as much one day"
Not nice of her mother" put in the
patient looking woman in the corner,
who everybody knew was brow beaten
by her husband and never made
complaint, but always spoke adrniring-
ly of his nice temper.
Now all this comment is enough to
set one to thinking as to what governs
these traits. The young woman mem
toned is supposed to be thoroughly
well bred. She is noted in a large
circle for her exquisite manners the
fineness of her tact, the beauty of her
low, un-Scrantonian voice and her de-
liGhtful consideration for others. Yet
it is stated on good authority that she
is dictatorial and actually unpleasant
in her fathers house
There are those who are infinitely
less agreeable, known as being brusque
and even awkward in society, and yet
who are so sunny and dear and sweet,
so thoroughly unselfish in their lovely
home life, that their Immediately fam
lily breads the day when they may
leave the paternal roof and take for
ever it's sunshine away.
There are men who are so suave and
genial to their outside acquaintance
that it would be almost impossible to
credit the statement that at home al
though they do not shy plates and
chairs at their wives, they are lavish
with harsh words, sneers and fault
finding-missiles which hurt worse
than blows. Just how one is to ac-
count for such points of variance is
difficult to determine, and yet it is at
home that the gentleness should glow.
What does it matter if sometimes to
the stranger We may be abrupt and
| not particularly winning in our ways
| 1t would be better if we could be smil-
| ing and sunny to everybody, but if
| we must have a safety valve for a
| twisted disposition let it be used for
| the benefit of the people who do not
| care much for us, or upon whom we
| exercise no claim of proprietorship or
kin. The stranger isn't obliged to live
with us during the remainder of our
natural lives. If we are disagreeable
| to him he can go around another block
and avoid meeting us again, but there
are those who have to come in at
night for years perhaps and listen to
| our endless complaints and repinings,