Daily independent. [volume] (Elko, Nev.) 188?-1915, 1898-12-30
on R~ANDsHAKuEG
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to,ShAke hands are questions frequent
] yA6hed. & The SuNjeetisfH many-sided
one, n canno be disposed of by.aJes
or . nay, or by a hard and fast rule. Il
is . trite saying that circumstances. 81,
ten cases, and Setthis adage exactly ap-
plies to the matter in hand asitentiFe-
ly' depends upon the circumstances Of
themoment whether hand - oHtonded
or a bow given.
Thedificulty Of not knowing whether
to shake hands or not arises when first
introduotions. are made, and again at
subsequent meetings; between women
but recently introduced to, each other
and on many like occasions, such as
when strangers are brought in contact
with each other when staying in q coun-
try house together, orat afternoon par
ties, dinner parties, and SO on.
This question of when to shake hands
wholly relates to the foregoing situa-
tionS. and is outside of the handshak-
ing customary between friends, to
which no reference need be made. as
they shake hand with each other ON
meeting as q matter of course, and
again on parting, with this reservation,
tIoA ia oCSOhu oA lhC u
day the act Of shaking hands is not re-
peated. ..... ,. ~ e..
The term shaking hands" is still in
use for wan of a better one, but as far
as the word shaking" is concerned it
is almost q misnomer. and taking the
hand" would be a more explicit express
sion 10 apply to the fashion of the pres
cnt day. When an introduction is made
between two women, whether they
shake hands or not is determined by
side issues. Generally speaking, the re-
ceived rule is not to do so, but only to
bow. but then follow all the various ex-
ceptions that induce women introduced
TODD otherwise-that is to say, to shake
hands at nee. .-. '.. .... .s'
When n girl is introduced to a mar
friend. the married woman may or may
not shake hands with the girl; she prob
ably will do so if she is good-natured,
but she is not certain to evince this
amount of cordiality. But if'the intro
duction is made by q relative of the girl
the married woman does not hesitate
to shake hands, but in neither case
would the girl take the initiative of
shaking hands.
When d man is introduced to a wom-
an, again the exceptions in favor Of
shaking hands come in al against not
doing so. For instance, If the man in
troduced is the husband or brother of
the woman making the introduction. it
would be natural to shake hands with
him, almost imperatively SO; but were,
hd6 a mann on,tofnforn ~ mould ho
most unusual to shake hands with him
on first introduction After a little
short and desultory- conversation has
taken place between two women or be-
tween q women and q man; just intro
1uced to each other, the doubt arises
! whether they are expected to shake
hands on taking their departure; Meth
erdo they shake hands at future chance
meetings, should they occur, unless
meetings under exceptionally fav5ra.
Bile circumstances for promoting ac-
quaintBnce at, the honses of mutual
friends and at SOCIAL functions, etc. On
the other hand, the hostess shakes
hands with any and every guest
brought to her house by her friends.
She does so on their arrival'ahd' on their
uefaPiuxe- anu again at dhS SuuSequcut
meeting If she happens to recollect
them, which is not always, certain to be
the case. 3 .r.as .,s .ss.. 49,. g ...,,s.
As regards dinner guests, when Q
imam is introduced to a woman for the
purpose Of taking her in to dinner she
does not shake hands with him, but
merely bows and. however well they
may have got on. together during din
ner. she, does not shake hands with him
later. on in the evening", when taking
her departure. Indeed, the opportunity
seldom occurs for even bowling to him,
At a second meeting bows only nre in
Eterchanged. and it much depends upon
circumstances whether the ~acquain-
lance ripcns into shaking hands one or
E~ceases altogether 40
Little, h~andshaking occurs between
guests staying at a country house, they
do not do SO. on frst introduction by
their hostess, neither when separating
Lon the first evening when "Gpod night"