The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-04-15
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experience of newly married people. after
the honeymoon has passed, that they find
in that dearest of all human relations,
thai Of husband and wife. that TOO
constant association is not best even for
their own happiness. They need more
society than is furnished by themselves.
1t is not good for man or woman to live
alone. Neither is it good for either to live
exclusively for each other. We all have
and should have relations with the
outside world. and our work to do in it.
This must require frequent separations
of husband and wife. But the regret
which these cause is offset by the
knowledge that good useful work for the
worlds betterment has been accomplished
and ii is more than compensated by the
happiness of both when those who love
each other are reunited. This is undoubt-
edly akin TO the happiness of the future
life. which means the reunion with those
whom we have loved and lost in this.
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The modern fashionable world does
not appreciate as 1t should the effect of
separation from the object of affection
in making thai affection strong and
enduring. Martin F. Topper wrote the
line in his .Proverbial Philosophy which
had great popularity with The young men
and women of forty or more years ago.
Absence increaseth love, if the last
recollectfons We're kindly" 1t was a
ponderous sentence, and yet full of the
wisdom which comes from knowledge of
human nature. Left to associate freely
with those of the opposite sex, there IS
too much familiarity in modern social life
to allow the cultivation eff high ideals.
No man can be a hero to his valet. In
fact, most of our great heroes and hero
Tres are men and women with whom we
have had little or no acquaintance Closer
associations with them will doubtless
disclose weaknesses that might make
further worship on our part impossible,
and we should be lucky if cur hero did
rot forfeit our respect. The constant
association of husband and wife is not
best for either. 1t is fortunate in most
cases that the different kinds Of work
each is called TO do make it impossible.
The co-education of young men and
women in colleges was at first objected to
by many people, because it was supposed
that it would reGult in unwise matri-
monial entangiemeats; but it was soon
found that only the shallow and mex
perienced were likely to suffer from this
result. The danger is really in the other
direction. The enlargement of ideas which
study and learning accomplish enables
young men and women TO see their
possible future SO brightly that they are
dissuaded from marrying rather than
attracted to ii. Mrs. Brewning's great
poem. Aurora Leigh, is a love story
that is based on the repellant effect of art
and education in preventing young people
from loving and marrying. In the end,
however, human nature has her way and
the woman learns that while she may
succeed in many kinds of work, her
greatest happiness must generally be
fourd in the duties which wlfel1ood and
parentage impose
The subject of bicycling touring is one
which has been widely discussed, and in
regard to which a great deal of advice
has been given. Isis of the necessary
articles to be taken as baggage upon the
wheel have been made out, and a multi
tide CT directions have been laid down,
governing the proper equipment in gen
eral. Nothing that the tourist could pos
sibIy need has been omitted. but-aId
here lies the mistaze-a vast number of
thiEgs which she could dispense with
bave been reluded with the outfit. From
this cause largely has come the dissatis-
faction which has been expressed regard
ing tours. Too many of them have been
undertaken by persons SO oyerburdeEed
with alleged "cenveniences' that their
trip has resenEbled that of a freight-laden
caravan. The secret of a p~leasurabIe
tour lies. in a great measure. in the
lightest possible equipment. The tourist .
On a wheel cannot expect all the travel
iEg lGxuries to be found in a drawing
room car, and the more strictly she linz
its her list. the more comfort she will
have, says Harper's Bazaar"
A plan which has been followed with
much success by a man ard his wife who
1--we in the suburbs, might well be adopt
ed by tourists in general. They carry
with them as baggage little else besides
a few toilet articles. These are packed
into a strong bag of brown linen, made
with pockets for the brushes. combs,
soap, etc. This bag is put into the fiat
luggagScarrier. of moderate size. which
fits into the diamond frame of the mans
wheel. The repair outfits for the two
wheels also find plenty of room in the
luggage carter, SO that they need not be
strapped elsewhere, and a drinking cup
Is another niece ssary article. No attempt
is made to carry any extra clothes; but
arrangements are made to nave these
sent Oh by express to the hotels or
houses at which the tourists are to stop
on their journey. This plan requires that
The route shall be carefully planned be-
fore the start is made, and that the ey-
ciists shall adhere faithfully to their pro-
gramrae. Arrived at each rights STOP
ping place. they find a bag of fresh
clothes awaiting them. and having taken
these ont. they repack the valise with the
things they have been wearing ard have
it expressed home again. If they are to
make a stop of unusual length anywhere,
they order a trunk, instead of a bag. to
be at the place at the proper time.
There is a great deal in Drawing things
out, but at times it is much wiser to run
way from circumstance han to fight
through them.
So. at least. says a little woman who
has tried 1t.
.sHow do J keep my equilibrium? How
do l get over my worries?" she said.
"why just this way: When things pile
up ten feet high and it looks as if a ton
Of trouble were going to topple over on
my head, l pack up and run off to spend
q fav davs III a frierdss4 What hapDens