The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-06-19
Wonan's World.

too, but he Won't acknowledge it, and rare
ly shows it Indeed, he speaks of jealousy
as one of woman's few base and reprenen-
sible traits, and declares that it is at the
bottom of more misery than the devil him
self There's one man in this city, says
the New York Sun, who doesn't think that
way he is a physician with large prac-
tice among the very rich and the very
poor. lie ought &c know what he Is talk
Ing about. for he has seen much jealousy
in his time and watched its physical and
psychological effect.
Il don't know what to do about Polly
a doting mother said to him recently. she
has the most jealous disposition I've ever
known; not envious, mind you, but jealous.
She is as generous and loving as she can
be. and is always glad to see other people
set what they want. but she is jealous of
the affections of those she loves. 1t is
such a hateful trait, and I'm sure 1 don't
know where she gets it. unless from her
fathers side. for nobody in my family
was ever jealous. I wish you'd tell me
how to Obliterate this despicable passion
in her.
Jealousy isn't a dispicable passion"
answered the doctor calmly, "and you
mustn't think Of trying TO eliminate it
from your daughters nature. Jealousy
has a distinct beneficial value, not only
on womanRind. but mankind. The thing
for you to do is to teach your daughter to
control this passion and not allow it 10
control her. as she must do, judging from
what you have told me. What are her
symptoms"
Not any different from those of five
girls out of ten" answered the mother;
but I do not like them all the same.
Polly can't bear TO have any one she cares
for show another person any attention.
She is jealous if her father caresses one
of the other children wee biz more than
he does her, she is jealous If see a great
deal of any one of my friends. she gets
furious if her brother pays some girls over
certain amount of attention she is an
CRY If her sister goes out with another
girl, and she fumes and frets herself into
fever if her fiance, who is absolutely de
voted TO her, so much as mentions another
girl, especially if it happens to be one
that he is fond Of Really, the girls health
Is being affected, | believe, and I know her
disposition is. She is nervous, irritable.
sulky, moody and what not. and, alto
what am | to do?"
Il thought So" said the doctor. 'I've
had lots of cases like that jealousy.
which 1 hold is fine thing in itself has
the upper hand of Polly, and you must
help her TO get the upper hand of il. She
must do this through her will. 1t is a
great mistake to suppose that we must
surrender our will to come out of a dark
ness into light You know it is only
through viii that any progress can be
made, for growth is through desire. and
desire is the expression of will. You NAV
wonder what this has to do with jeal-
ousy, but you'll see i'm a minute viii is
divine inheritance given to US so that
We may overcome our passions, and love
is absolutely the only source of will Pas
slons mastered are useful and obedient
slaves; uncontrolled they make slaves of
US What is in the mind expresses itself
IL the body and that's the reA son Po1Ivse.
health is being undermined by IeaIousvi
The emotion of jealousy is Unfortunately
developed In her and if she continues TO
foster il she will drive her fiance and
friends all away from her 1t is a wise
provision of nature that ones family cant
get away Many a man is driven away
from home, driven even to the divorce
courts driven to another woman on ac-
count of the insane and unreasonable jeal-
ousy of his wife In such cases the wife
as the slave to this emotion. On the other
hand, If she makes jealousy her slave she
can chain husband, family and friends
to her, especially the husband"
why, what do you mean?" interrupted
the mother
Just this" answered the doctor. "Man
Is naturally poygamous animal He
really never tires of honey though he Of
ten claims 10, but he doesn't like TO take
IL forever out of the same dish. He likes
to fit from flower to flower, slipping a
little sweetness of one kind here and a
little OF another there If his mother. or
sister, or wife, or sweetheart, as the case
may &c, shows a proper amount of ieal-
ousy she can bind him TO her and deter
this amusing, but not socially approved
tendency. The jealousy of married wo-
men, so much berated by their own sex
Goes more to keep married men true to
themselves and to those they really love
than ali the bugabOos of the hereafter ever
presented from Purilanical pulpits When
a woman is master of her jealous instinct
she has a powerful weapon. She can use
II to 1atter a man until he doesn't know
whether he is walking right side up OF
crab fashion You women make a great
mistake is supposIng that the way to a
mans heart is through his stomach; it is
through his vanity. The average man is
immensely pleased when any woman in
whom he is interested gives evidence Of
jealousy, provided she does il in an artis-
tic and refined way. She mustn't sulk
ana pOut ana Iret ana tume, and rear and
rage, as you say your daughter does. for
those things effect Eoman's physical
appearance, and woman makes a bad mis-
take to do anything or indulge in any emo
lion that lessons her beauty. She should
let it creep out in little ways that she is
jealous and man knocks under at once ="
But how can l teach my girl to 10
that?'
An intensely jealous person thinks a
great deal about herself" said the doctor.
Talk frankly and lovingly and tenderly
to your daughter about this. Show her
how she is making herself and every one
around her miserable by giving way to
this passion, but at the same time show
her that the emotion of jealousy has its
benefits and can be used to great advan-
tage. Tel her that when jealousy rules
a woman it is a dwarfed and dwarting ex-
preston of love; that its tendency is mar
rowing and belittling. Teach her that SHE
can conquer this emotion only through
will. Help her to understand that perfect
love renders fear impossible, and thar,
if she loves those dear to her in a true
unselfsh way, she will have no fear II
they chance TO show affection for another
than herself. Parents make Such mis-
take In decrVing and deplOring euorione