The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1898-11-02


lives that have ever been lived.
Tom, of course, should not be cap
tivated by simply a pretty face and a
silly little Miss Nobody. But if Tom
is as clever as you think him he will
see to it that this does not happen.
You will not think Of leaving the
selection of your very best dress to
your dearest friend, for you know that
tastes do differ so. And if there is
one thing above another that men like
TO do for themselves, it is to pick out
wives, for in this, too, tastes do differ
so.
We sigh when in royal families two
people are bidden to wed without
hearts being considered. The good
Queen Victoria has ''picked OUT hus-
bands and wives many time. How
much unhappiness has resulted from
these matches the world has learned
Of from time to time. And hearts be-
long to royal folk or plain Tom OF
Uncle Sans great and wide domain
and the unassuming little American
maid that Tom mother and sisters
have not s'picked out for him.
The American man is not half
the matchmaker that her sisters OF
other lands are. American lads and
lassies are particularly happy in the
freedom they are allowed in the Sc
lecting of their life partners. And /
do not know that society is any the
worse for it. America boasts some
very happy homes, you know. In
deed, American home life is pointed
out the world over as the ideal home
life. A clever foreign woman who
has come to make her stay in America
after childhood and young woman
hood spent in another country says
that the most conceited husbands and
wives are those found in this part Of
the universe. She says that to her
the most charming feature Of Ameri-
can society is the perfect good-fellow-
ship that exists between men and wo-
men; that the woman accepts the
homage of man as her right, while he
in turn would scorn to treat her as
inferior in any way, though pleased
TO act as her protector. But to leave
the happy American wife and go back
to the American maid-the engaged
girl.
If you love the man Of your family
very dearly and have worthy ambi-
tion that he shall marry we'll, do not
fail to remember that the girl he
dotes on as sweetheart maybe has
some one who is just as fond of her,
and is just as ambitious for her in a
matrimonial way as ever you are of
Tom. Besides that, Toms station is
not so very exalted after all, is it? [
have known some very commonplace
men, indeed, whose women folk
thought no one in the wide world
good enough for them, while down in
our hearts the rest of US we're wonder
ing how ever such men could have
won the promise to wed Of as charm
ing girls as they have offered their
devotion to.
The engaged girl is glad once in a
while to tell somebody that she is not
altogether happy. She has told me
very recently that though Tom tells
her that it does not matter, that he
has determined to marry in spite Of
anything anyone shall say or do, she
does feel sad because, though Toms
folks treat her passably kind, she
knows that there was another girl
"picked CUT for him. And then |
told the engaged girl, and I hope you
will. too. if she con6des in you, that
mothers and sisters have great way
of picking out" the wrong girl any
way, and that possibly Tom would
have been a very unhappy man all the
days of his life had he left the finding
of wife to somebody else.
IF you are Toms mother and have
"raised" him right, he will only select
for wife an honest and womanly wo-
man-and is there anything much
better? And if you are Toms sister,
be glad that Tom has some one to love
him very dearly, for every man is the
better for good woman's love, even
though that woman knows little of
Latin and less of Greek.
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the men emnlOved by .Well-knOWn