Iowa County democrat. [volume] (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1877-1938, 1898-11-03

stories of romance and knight-erranty.
and unfaithfumess and feminine an
gelhood. The two after awhile have
reused up TO find that, instead of the
paradise tScy dreamed of, they have
cot nothing but Van Anberg ms
nagerie, filed with tigers and wj'l
cats. Eighty thousand divorces in
Paris in one year preceded the worst
revolution that France ever saw. And
tell you what You know as well as
do, that wrong notions on the subject
of Christian marriage are the cause al
this day of more moral outrage before
God and man than any other cause.
There are some things that | want
to bring before you. | know there are
those of you who have had homes sci
up for great many years; and then
there are those here who have Just es'
tablished their home. They have only
been in that home Il few months or u
few years. Then, there are those who
viii. after awhile, set up for them.
selves a home, and it is right that
should speak out upon these themes.
My first counsel to you is, have God
in your new home, If it be new home;
and let Him who was a guest al
Bethany be in your household; let
the Divine blessing drop upon your
every hope and plan of expectations
Those young people who begin with
God end with Heaven. Have on your
right hand the engagement ring OF the
Divine affection. If one of you be
Christian, let that one take the Bible
and read few verses in the evening
time, and then kneel down and COM
mend yourselves to Him who setteth
the solitary in families. l want to tell
you that the destroying angel passes
by without touching or entering the
door-post sprinkled with blood of the
everlasting covenant. Why is it that
in some families they never get along,
and IN others they always get along
We'll? have watched such cases, and
have come to Il conclusion, In the
first instance, nothing seemed to go
pleasantly, and after awhile there
came devastation, domestic disaster,
or estrangement. Why? They start
ed wrong. In the other case, although
there were hartlships and trials and
some things that had to be explained,
still things went on pleasantly until
the very last. Why? They started
right.
MY second advice TO you in your
home is, to exercise to the very last
possibility of your nature the law OF
forbearance. Prayers in the house
hold will make up for everything. Some
of the best people in the world are the
HARDEST to get along with. There are
people who stand up in prayer-meet-
ings and pray like angels, who at
home are uncompromising and
cranky. You may not have every
thing Just as you want it. Sometimes
it will be the duty of the husband and
sometimes of the wife to yield; but
both stand punctiIiously on your
rights, and you will have a Waterloo
with no Butcher coming up at night
fall to decide the conflict
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic al
fairs. Let that be the law of your
household. The best thing | ever
heard of my grandfather, whom |
never saw, was this: That once, hay
ing unrighteousIy rcbuked one of his
children. he himself having lost his
patience, and, perhaps, having been
nisintormed of the child'S doings,
found ont his mistake, and in the
evening of the same day gathered all
his family together and said: Now,
| have one explanation to make, and
one thing to say. Thomas. this morn
ing rebuked you very unfairly. | am
very sorry for it. ! rebuked you in
the presence of the whole family, and
now | ask your forgiveness in their
presence" 1t must have taken some
courage to do that. 1t was right was
it not? Never be ashamed to apollo
ei2e for domestic naccuracy. Find
out the points, what are the weak
points, if | may call them so of your
companion. and then stand aloof from
them. Do not carry the fire of your
temper too near the gunpowder. II
the wife he easily frctted by disorder
IL the household, LET the husband b."
careful where he throws his slippers.
Ii the husband come home from the
store with his patience exhausted, do
not let the wife unnecessarily cross
his temper: but both stand up for
your rights, and ! will promise the
everlasting sound of the war-whoop.
Your life will be spent in making up.
and marriage will be TO you an I'M
mitigated curse. Cowper said:
The kindest and the happicst pair
VIII find occasion to forbear;
And something, every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive.
! have seen the sorrow of godles
mother on the death of child she had
neglected. II was not so much grief
that she felt from the fact that the
child was dead as the fact that she had
neglected it. She said: IF had only
watched over and cared for the child,
! know God would not have taken il. -
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