The Progress. (Shreveport, La.) 1892-1900, 1898-11-05
things went on pleasantly until the very


Tor everything. Some OF the best people
In the world are tho hardest to got along
with. There arc people who stand up in
prayer meetings and pray like angels, who
ut home nre uuc0mpromising and cranky.
You may not have everything just rs you
want it. Sometimes It will BIO the duty OF
the husband aud sometimes OF tho vito to
yie'd but both stand punctiiously on Your
rights and YOU will have u Waterloo with
no Butcher coming upat night-fal to de-
eide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when you
have done wrong in domestic affairs. Let
that be u law OF your household. The best
thing | ever heard of my grandfather.
whom 1 never saw, was this. That once
children. he himself having lost his
informed Of the child's doings, found out
his mistake, and IN tho evening ofthe same
day gathered all his family together, and
said, Now, / have one explanation to
make, and one thing to say. Thomas, this
morning l rebuked you very unfairly. I
am very sorry for 1t. Irebuked you in the
presence OF the whole family, and now I
ask your forgiveness in their presence" 1t
must have taken some courage to do that.
1t was right, was It not2 Never be ashamed
to apologize for domestic inaccuracy.
On tho other hand, the husband ought
to be sympathetic with the wife's occupa-
ton. 1t Is no easy thing to keep house.
Many q woman who could nave endured
martyrdom as well as Margaret, the
Scotch girl, has actually been worn out by
house management. There are n thousand
martyrs OF the kitchen. 1t is very annoy
ing. after the vexations OF the day around
tho stove or the register or the table or In
tho nursery or parlOr, to have the husband
say, "You know nothing about trouble;
you ought to be In the store half an hour"
sympathy OF occupatIonl II tho husbands
work cover him with the SCOT OF the fur
mace, or the odors Of leather or soap fac
tories. let not the wife be easily disguised
Mt the begrimed hands or unsavory aroma.
Your gains are one, your interests are one,
your losses are one; lay hold OF the work
OF life with both hands. Four hands to
fight the battles four eyes to watch for
tho danger; four shoulders on which to
carry the trials. 1t Is n very sad thing
when tho painter has wife who does not
like pictures. 1t Is very sad thing for q
pianist when she has a husband who does
not like music. 1t is u very sad thing
when wife Is not suited unless her hus-
band has what Is called "gcnteel bust
ness" SO far as | understand "genteel
business" 1t Is something to which man
goes at ten o'clock In the morning, and
from which he comes home ut two or
three O'Clock in the afternoon, and gets
large amount OF money for doing nothing.
That Is, believe, Il "genteel business"
and there has been many q wife who has
made tho mistake OF not being satisfied
until the husband has given up the tanning
OF tho hides, or tho turning OF the banis-
ters, or the building Of the walls, and put
himself In circles where he has nothing to
do but smoke cigars aud drink wine, and
get himself into habits that upset him,
going down In the maelstrom, taking his
wife and children with him. There are
good many trains running from earth to
destruction. They start all hours OF the
day, and all hours OF the night. There are
the freight trains; they 90 very slowly and
very heavily; and there are the accommo-
dation trains going on toward destruction,
and they stop very often and let man get
out when he wants to. But genteel idle
ness Is IN express train; Satan Is the stoker,
and death IS the engineer; and though one
may come out In front OF 1t, and swing the
red flag OF danger" or the lantern OF
Gods Word, 1t makes just one shot into
perdltlon, coming down the embankment
with shout and a wall and Shrek
crash, crash There are two Glasses OF PEG.
pie sure Of destruction: first, those who
have nothing to do; secondly, those who
have something to do, but who are too lazy
or too proud to do 1t.
havo ore moro word OF advice to give
70 those who have happy home, and that
Is, let love preside In 1t. When your be.
havlor In the domestic circle becomes
mere matter OF calculation; when the caress
you give Is merely the result OF deliberate
study OF the position you occupy, happi.
ness lies stark dead on the hearth-stOne.
When the husbands position as head OF the
household Is maintained by loudnes, OF
voice, by strength OF arm, by fire OF tenn
per, the republic OF domestic bliss has be-
come despotism that neither God nor mar
will abide. Oh, ye who promised to love
each other at the atari how dare you com
nit perjury Let no shadow Of suspicion
come on your affection. 1t Is easier to XIII
that flower than It Is to make It live again
The blast from hell that puts out that light
leaves you In the blackness OF darkness for.
ever.
Here are man and wife: they agree in
nothing else, but they agree they will have
home. They will have a splendid house,
and they think that II they have house,
they will have home. Architects make
the plan, and the mechanics execute it;
the house to cost one hundred thousand
dollars. 1t is done. The carpets are
spread; lights are holsted; curtains are
hung; cards OF invitation sent out. The
horses in gold-plated harness prance at
the gate; guests come In and take theil
places; the flute sounds: the dancers &c
up and down: and with ono grand whirI
the wealth and the fashion and the mirth
Of the great town wheel amid the pictured
walls. Hal this Is happiness. Float 1t on
the smoking viands; sound It In the music
whirl 1t In the dance; cast IT in the snow OF
sculpture; sound It up the brilliant stair
way; fash 1t In the chandeliersl Happi.
ness, indeedl Let US build on the centre OF
the parlor floor throne to Happiness; let
all the guests, when come in, bring their
flowers and pearls and diamonds, and
throw them on this pyramid, aud let 1t be
throne; and then let Happiness, the