The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-10-29

yesterday, the delightful tSSdS 49,
present book on the history and people
of Philadelphia is just out, says Anna Hat'
tenhouse in the Philadelphia Press
She was talking of the eiegance OF notes
and the distinctive charm which some
persons lend to a little note of thanks,
regrets or condolences.
She thought the women and men who
had a European education showed
more plainly that little mark of civilized
leisure than the American educated
women.
She was citing a certain society girl
in Philadelphia, who's notes We're a de-
light.
They are written, said Miss Repplier,
as if she had leisure and was doing you
the courtesy of taking time and attention
for the writing of your note. There Is
no person but feels the delicacy in the
compliment; it flatters young n old.
While the words in the note may be in
significant, the tone and the paper and the
| seal give you a pleasant feeling. 1t is
| as if someone had said a charming thing
of you.
Every woman should learn, if she
! doesn't know, the elegance of note writ
ing.
It does not lie in a great seal or a
Haunting monogram, nor in being per-
fumed. Everything in it is in good taste;
everything is delicate, cordial
Our ancestors knew the art; the stately
endings were all there. for men and
women had leisure to write in colonial
times. The busy busting spirit OF
i American life tends to grind our notes
down to the form of kilograms. we dasn
through .syours sincerely and think we
have lone our duty.
There may be some who argue that
we are too full of stirring times to think
over a note or the paper that goes to make
ii. When a nation makes that mistake
it makes a very vital one, for the accom-
| plishrnents OF leisure are what tend 70
keep a people refined.
You may not be in circumstances to
foster social amenities, but you can keep
up the elegancies Of life in your note
writing. Use plain white paper, write
with a margin on either side and see 10 lt
that your language is well chosen ana
your ending cordial but formal.
There are simple tools hat do not COST
money, but a little care, and it Is quite
worth while taking time over the pleasant
| cOurteSieS or IRE,
We are sufficiently work-a-day by ma
ture and environment.
remember an uncle of mine used al
WAYS to say to me:-'If you nave to
make excuses for your notes to me,
don't write them" He was one OF the Ola
school and quite testy about the degen-
eracy which he claimed had crept into US
Youngsters. He was exacting that l
should write a note without excuse, blot
or mistake, and always ending in the
most approved phrases.
That is good training for any young pei
son. for it insists upon a certain ele-
gance.
Nothing SO improves the looks Of a note
and the temper Of those who read it
as the eviva of the round or square
hand which young women are learning 70
write.
Its adoption by several leaders has
made it fashionable
Miss Repplier told me of one lady OF
GO who was so delighted with it-and her
own writing was so lamentably ilegibie
that she has begun lessons in
with a copy book and the same dear
old truisrns to write, and now she is plod-
ding over. always aim to do your best.
Such energy is a lesson to US alis
-
The fin de steele young mother is as dit
ferent astype from the foolish young mat
er of a quarter of a century ago as IS
the young woman of the period from the
..girlv sirlo of twenty-five years back
The modern mamma has apparently none
of the silly fears and forebodings which
4 1;f1t nf tho o1d-f9S hj0n-
| ed mother miserable. Her days comfort
and happiness do not depend upon the
way a child sleeps, eats or acts, or any
other little sign that used to affeet the
| barometer of a youthful parents spirits.
| If the child is really i'll she devotes her
self to it conscientiously and tenderly as
a matter of course, but the ordinary
childish ailments do not worry her, and
| she is capable of attending to her other
duties and even pleasures, even II baby
is fretting with his teeth" or If he is
a little upset"
Whether this is better for the child or
not may be open to discussion, but that it
is far better for the husband is obvious,
| who no longer in the secondary consider
| alton to the baby, and who enjoys the
society. Of the woman he has chosen as
a companion and friend. without losing
her in the mother of his children.
1t used almost to be a matter of con-
science with the newly married woman
to give uP pleasure and pursuit that
interfered in the least degree with her
constant and unremitting care of her chill
dren, a self-immolation as well as sacri-
fee Of her husband, which necessarily in
creased with the family, and which she
felt was her paramount duty, never real
izing that after all it was a species of sell
fshness and an actual injustice to her
husband.
One of the most effective and original
entertainments to get up at this season Of
the year is what is called in the country
the harvest festival, and it may be just
as easily arranged in town as out Of it,
says Harper's sBazar." A number of
young girls Who live in the attractive VIII
lagos in Morris county are preparing to
give a harvest festival this month, and
they will charge admission to it. SO as to
raise sufficient money to buy an organ
not an organ for a church, but a regular
street organ, the kind pulled about the
streets by Italians. And when this organ
is bought they intend to hire weekly a.
small hall or room, where they will teach
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