The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1898-08-07
LET WOMAN HAVE HER WAY
THEN MAN CAN HAVE HE Way, TOO,
AND norm WILL BE HAPPY.

Tho Art OF Managing Wives E~Npounded by
n Brooklyn Lawyer to n Girl with II Big
Diamond on tho Third Finger of Her
Left Hand-Man's Liking FOR Bargains
Some of the New Fads of ome
Man can always have his own way with
woman II he only knows how. Woman lie as
easily managed as a wax doll. but 1t must be
done by q somewhat circuitous method. She
rarely gets at anything directly. and she can
not be successfully dealt with by the direct
method. Nine times out of ten, when there is
trouble in a home, il is laid to some one woman
or all Of the women Of the household, and yet
ninety-nine times out OF q hundred the man in
the family is TO blame. AT least. that is what
two Brooklyn men say, and they ouRhtto know.
for Brooklyn Is a great place for family and
homo study, or studies OF the family in the
home. as you choose to put IL.
The said men are lawyers-clever lawyers
and they know a thing or two about man and
woman nature we'll worth knowing They were
telling q girl how easy 1t is for man to manage
woman the other evening. and the girl toyed
with the big diamond on the third finger of her
left hand rather nervously as she listened. The
talk all started In this way:
Il heard the most banging thing coming
over on the Staten Island boat this afternoon 1
ever heard" remarked one of the lawyers. "A
young couple came aboard and sat down d.
rectly in front OF me. She was a pretty girl and
looked as II she might have been married two
or three years. There was something pathetic
in her expression, though. ana found out
what II was before the boat landed. Her hus-
band bosses her instead Of managing her. He
gets his own way in everything by tyranny in
preference to getting it by nattering strategy.
and the very life and spirit. of course. are being
Slapped out Of that little woman as they are out
Of every other woman in the world who is man
aged in such a bungling way"
why. 1 thought that the majority of wives
ruled their husbands exclaimed the girl. I'm
fact, every time I've been abroad I've spent the
best part OF my time telling my English,
French and German friends what fine hus-
bands you American men are, how indulRent
you are to your wives and how you allow them
to have their own way in everything"
"Of course. American men make the best
husbands in the world" put in Mr.. Lawyer No.
2. but man nature is man nature the world
over, and mar in America likes his own way in
everything Just as well as man in Germany,
Russia, Greece or Egypt. The keynote Of this
whole business is that the American mar is
shrewde in the management OF women. Just as
he is shrewder in everything else. than is the
man Of any other country on the face of the
That's the whole thing in a nutshell"
answered the other lawyer. AS l was saying,
lllS eACepIlpndt Hlhn On inc lerTyDOdt DOSSeu
his wife instead OF managing her. He buried
his face in his paper and did not speak
pleasant remarks and he gave a grunt for a re-
ply, and when she asked him q question about
a Government vessel lying on shore he did not
even grunt, much less answer. Just before we
locked she said to him in a half-timid. wholly
mellow voice.,
cooley She SH Locked all tired rec S out II , BY the heat
finntIv Il haya said un would up uptovun m
should think that would settle it, madam
that man and he glared at me. and the poor it,
tie woman looked away of toward the sea help
board, but S as it W aas1 1 ep pitied h hSsS as q s shave et Snd
him as, not "a master, but a slave driver. You
know he who %Gnslaves another becomes him
Yes" said the other man. and he could
and his wife would have thought that that was
the only way to get to their destination
Obi by using a little decent diplomacy. He
should have said. 'Dearie,, which way, do you
prefer to 60 uptown Shed have been SO
she would have spontaneously answered, oh. l
want to go whichever way you want to GO .Wo-
gone. on the elevated railroad. as he wished. get
ting his own way, and his wife would have been
II man only takes the ee'ttrP6y trouble BE to- appear to
give woman her way: he. Invariably gets his.
and both are happy. for it is woman's nature
own. Man should seek to manage woman.
not TO master her. When a woman is managed.
and sheds sweetness and beauty on all around
her when she is mastered. she loses al. OF her
spirit is broken. he" capacity Tor :" enjoyment
leaves her. and when she, ceases to be able to
enjoy them she can no longer inspire enjoy
J. ment in others. Man tires Of her when this
: comes to pass and wonders how he ever could
have thought that he cared for this particular
slant that he is responsible for the change in
her. tell you, manHginE a woman Is something.
"Yes." answered the girl. flashing her dia-
mond defantly. but there are women. Just II
few. you know, in this. woEld who refuse TO be
oh. no." answered lawyer No. l, They
think they can't he. either managed or mas
tered, but every living, breathing creature in
the share Of woman can be managed or mas
tered. or both; Woman Is naturally not self;
a aet'@ far S ae% w Shf mkes sp 10 haEs m To do se sal She she
likes To have him do what he thinks best, SO
long as she is made to feel that he would be
perfectly willing to do as she thinks best. III
other words. II woman managed is q woman
made: a woman mastered, is a woman marred
trouble in the household, He gets his
way and is soRtemt and I'd happy sh e
dear enough TO want her to have hers. and SO
things run along evenly and smoothly, But In
a household where the man masters the
rather than diplomacy, All people who exer-
else power over others because they know they
possess It, and because they feel that they have
the right to exercise this power. are discon,
tented. and this mastered woman is utterly
miserable, because she feels that what she
thinks and says and does counts for nothing
and so after a while she concludes that it isn't
worth while to, think or to talk or TO act; and
Getty, at last as the iellyfsh is In, It's kingdom
thanks to the man to whom she Is tied"
II see" said the girl. Il hope III get a mar
a munager and not o master" and she looked
into the diamond as If she would read her fate
there.
The tan shoe, so far as is concerned
has about had its day. For the last two Of
three years it has held its own over all Others
for summer wear. but this year finds its popu
larity on the wane. Like everything else il
life. the tan shoe has its good and its bat
points. 1t docs not show dust and mud lik'
other shoes. and is admirably adapted to coun
try and seaside wear, hut there is something IL
the dressing of tan leather which draws sensi
tive feet into almost double and twisted boy
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