The semi-weekly messenger. [volume] (Wilmington, N.C.) 1897-1908, 1898-11-04

let that one take the Bible and read
a few verses in the evening time and
then kneel down and your.
selves TO him who setteth the solitary
in families. / want to tell you that
the destroying angel passes by with
out touching or entering the d~ooTpost
~sprinkled with blood Of the everlasting
covenant Why Is IL that in some am
lies they never get along and in Others
they always get along we'll? have
watched such cases. and have come Il
a conclusion. In the first instance moth
ing seemed 10 60 pleasantly. and after
awhile there came 4 devastation. do
nestle disaster or estrangement. Why!
They started wrong. In the other case,
| although there were hardships and
trials and some things that had to bc
explained, still things went IN pleas
antly until the very last Why? They
started right.
THE ANGEL IN THE HOUSE.
Ny second advice TO you in your
home is TO exercise to the very last
possibility of your nature the law OF
forbearance. Prayers In the household
will not make up for everything. Some
of the best people in the world are the
hardest to get along with. There are
people who stand up in prayer meet
ings and pray like angels who at home
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may not have everything just as o
want il. Some times il will be the duty
OF the husband and some times Of the
wife to yield, but both stand punctil-
iously on our rights. and you will
have a Waterloo with no Butcher COM
ing up az nightfall to decide the con
fiict.
Never be ashamed 10 apologize
when you ave done wrong in domestic
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household. The best thing l ever heard
of my grandfather. whom | never saw,
was this. that once having unright-
eously rebuked one of his children, he
himself having lost his patience, and,
perhaps having been misinformed OF
the child'S doings, found out his mis-
take and in the evening Of the same
day gathered all his family together
and said: Now, l have one explana-
ton TO make and one thing To say.
Thomas. his morning I rebuked you
very unfairly. l am very sorry for it.
/ rebuked you in the presence of the
whole family, and now | ask your for
giveness in their presence 1t must
have taken some courage to do that.
1t was right. was it not? Never be
ashamed to apologize for domestic in
accuracy. Find out the points-what
are the weak points. if | may call
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stand alOof from them. Do not carry
the fire of your temper too near the
gunpowder. If the wife be easily fret
ted by disorder in the household, let
the husband be careful where he
throws his slippers. If the husband
come home from he store with his
patience exhausted. do not let the wife
unnecessarily cross his temper, but
both stand up for your rights, and |
will promise the everlasting sound Of
the warwhoop. Your life will be spent
in making up, and marriage will be
to you an unmitigated curse. Cowper
said:
The kindest and the happiest pair
Will find occasion to forbear
And something, every day they i've,
To pity and perhaps forgive.
I advise, also, that you make your
chief pleasure circle around about that
home. 1t is unfortunate when it is 9TH
erwise. If the husband spend h most
of his nights away from home of choice
and not of necessity, he is not the head
of the household. He is only the cash
Ter. If the wife throw the cares or the
household into the lap n
then spend five nights of the week at
the opera or theater, she may clothe
her children with satins and laces and
ribbons hat would confound a French
miliner. but they are orphans. 1t is
sad when a child has no one to say it's
prayers to because mother has gone off
to the evening entertainment! In India
they bring children and throw them to
the c~rOcodileS, and it seems very cruel,
but the Jaws of social dissipation are
swallowing down more little children
today than all the monsters that ever
craWled upon the banks of the Ganges
N rn1lncG
mother on the death of a child she had
neglected it. She said, IF I had only
hat she relt from the fact that the
child was dead as the fact that she had
neglected it. She said, "$f ! had only
watched over and cared for the child, |
know God would not have taken it,
The tears came not; it was a dry, bis
tering tempeSt-a screening Slmoom OF
| the desert. When she wrung her hands.
it seemed as if she would twist her fin
gers from their sockets: when she seiZ-
ed her hair. il seemed as if she had. in
wild terror, grasped q COiling serpent
with her right and No tears! Com
| rades of the little one came in and
wept over the coffin: neighbors came in
and the moment they saw the still
! face Of the child the shower broke. No
| tears for her, God gives tears as the
| summer rain to the parched soul, but
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test. the most scOrching and consuming
thing. is a mothers heart If she has
neglected her child. when once ii Is
dead. God may forgive her. but she
will never forgive herself. The mem
DRY will sink the eyes deeper into the
sockets. and pinch the face and whiten
the hair and eat up the heart with vul-
lures that will not be satisfied. forever
plunging deeper their iron leaks. Oh,
| you wanderers from your homes go back
to your duty The brightest flowers in
all the earth are those which grow in
| the garden Of a Christian household,
| clambering over the porch Of a Chris
tan home.
THE WIFE MADE MAN.
I advise You also to cultivate sympa-
thy Of occupation. Sir James Mcintosh,
| one of the most eminent and elegant
| men thu ever lived. while standing a.
the very height of his eminence. said
to a great company Of scholars. M
wife made me-" The wife ought to be
| Tho o1yiGinD partner in ayary firm Sh.