The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1898-12-10


ed honor. and then as she found herself
just inside the circle the death-fnessenger
beckoned and the ruling passion had spent
itself.
Confidence and repose are two attri-
butes much to be desired by the girl who
is to act in the trying role of bridesmaid,
says the Chicago Chronicle Not many
young women are possessed Of the reau.s7
ite nerve, and when called upon to face
the ordeal they display their deficiency.
OF course every girl hopes to De g
bridesmaid at least once in her life an6
wishes to carry off the part with srace
dignity and eclat. She wishes to enter tns
church and walk slowly up the aisle wit
a manner that shall win golden opinion
from all sorts Of people. She wishes it
step gracefullyo out of the way Of the bride
when the party turns from the altar to
manage her frain well, to point her toes
properly and TO carry her bouquet Tosca
stick or prayer book in the most artistic
fashion.
SO many have fallen short of all this
| that a clever and brilliant New York
woman, Mrs. Eleanor Georgen, director of
a dramatic school. has undertaken to in-
] struct society women in the requirements
of this difficult situation.
Mrs. Georgen studies her pupil well be-
fore beginning the lessons. Perhaps she
remarks the nervousness Of the average
highstrung American girl. The nervous
ness is the very first obstacle to be over
come. The teacher insists that the pupil
shall learn to stand we'll. A woman or
fashion must stand on the centre OF the
foot and resting the weight upon one foot,
leaving the other free for action. The
soldier stands stiffly and sauarely on both
| feet. 1t IS the attitude of attention ana
| obedience. So does the servant. But the
society woman. never. The pupil is
taught to hold the arms in lax, reposeful
attitudes. Some young women never
know what to do with their hands They
are continually Jerking and working
them. playing with their rings OF toying
with fan or parasol until the neholdef +
/ constrained to cry, "Holdl Enough!"
! Next she teaches them to walk in fancy
up the aisle Of a crowded church TO the
strains Of the wedding march. The pupil
Is taught to set each heel down in line
With tie other, thus preventing q r3lNag,
wiggllng gait, which is inexpfsssioiy
Vulgar.
i saU 8 mother evince amusement re-
ca..y over her child's exhibition OF yio-
laae temper. writes Ella Wheeler Wilcox
IN the St. Louis '.Post-Dis9atca-
.ise is such a little volcano OF ire
vixen he gets angry she said "a min
iature Yesuvius. 1t IS 50 dron 10 see
him
II VIII be less a matter of amusement
twenty years later. Violent temper is the
flsat step in the path Of insanity ana
crime.
Every lime a human being loses control
Of Ills telaper he unainges q moral bresn
cen and brings himself one notch nearer
the murderer
T4le great majority Of such criminals
commit their crimes when under the M
guerce OF anger. The man who learns
ii early youth how to control his tenn
paf is in no danger OF doing violence 70
his worst foe. The man who has nos
acquired possession Of himself IN this
r.attef may shay his best friend in q
rsonent Of unreasonable passion.
Yl7o oftener we allaw ourselves to
Indulge III What We may believe to be
righteous indignation. the more fFsdnent7
sIv we find sach occasions presenting
themselves to US.
II is surprising to note how %opuieat
life is with it's opportunities for Ill tenn
par. once We yield the seeptre Of self
control 10 irritability.
There is a theory prevalent, somewhat
we'll sustained by facts. that a strong
character is often supplemented by q
quick temper ana violent passions
Another fact quite as well established
is less frequently remarked upon, viz
That witt sach attributes there is always
4 corresponding strong will if it is exer-
cissd and put il use,
THIS is the fact which every mother,
father. guardian ana teacher ought to I'M
press upon d chila's mind as soen as it is
able to understand it's native tongue,
There is no disgrace or disllonor in the
possession Of a temper. The shame lies
III losing possession Of il.
The first sound a human being makes
is an angry protest against the entrance
of the air into startled lung cells. For
that he is ~excusabie. as it is TOO early
to expect him to know that he has q viii
power.
Every mother ought to impress children
with an idea that an exhibition of tenn
per is bad form, and that it savors Of the
vulgar and the crisninai. OF course it IS
a difficult lesson for a mother to ineuleate
while she is displaying petty tempers her
self at the least provocation.
That is why the most OF US lind our
anger getting the better of us frequently,
after we know how belittling and immoral
it is. we are following bad patterns
A ehild's character is said to be formed
at fourteen years of age. After that age
1t requires 4 tenfold effort to shape or I'M
shape the mind, The mother who laughs
at a small child's paroxysm of anger is
paving the way to the fountain OF tears
later in life.
Too often in our Christmas religious
observances is this thought almost en-
tirely lost sight of, or not sufficiently em-
phasized,s writes Edward Box In the De
cember Ladies' Home journal" There
can be no love for God which is unattend-
ed with love for man. The final test Of q
Christian life is not the worship Of God,
but always the love of man for man..
If the message of Him whose birth we
celebrate at Christmas teaches US one
thing above all others. 1t is not that we
shall try 10 do fer Him as a person. but
that we shall seek TO do for one another.
That is knowing Jesus and clearly under
standing Him. And wherever this true
poneepfiofl Of His life teaching IS