The evening times., 1898-06-01
IDEALS THAT ARE MISSING.
Sentiments That Take Their Flight
: = s=-7sR. After Marriage.

T. = a--iiS-H. After Marriage.
We were talking Of marriage-refective
minds gravitate naturally toward this
topic which keeps the world agog. says
Dorothy Maddox. A man in cold blood
declared any woman with an assured IN
come fool 10 marry, insisting that she
lost far more than she gained by such a
step.
Such sentiments from masculine lips
are unusual / rather like championship
of this sort. II is remarkable because OF
its utter lack of egotism l am well
aware that many women would CONSIDER
such consideration fmpertinent interfer-
ence. as II indeed their rights were being
tampered with. i7
So many of us esteem II blessed priv
ilege to give up all for dear loves sake.
and after the sacrifice is made we spend
the remainder of our. days narrowing our
souls because of our dlsappointments-
/ said to this man: I'VE are many times
sadly misunderstood. The sacrifice of self
Is not the cause of our discomfort Wom-
en- are naturally unselfsh creatures. They
rather glory in sacrificial offerings. but
they do ask in return, that some slight re-
gard be paid their Illusions
They ask that one or-two be allowed
TO live II Is the killed-out illusions that
breed trouble. Only think damsel just
skipping out of her teens was worldly
wise enough to tell me the other day that
her illusions were too precious to trust
them to the keeping of any man living"
Ny listener bristled with Indignation
illusions indeed. When woman mar
ries does she suppose man has nothing
better to do than loll round and coddle
Illusions? He has to be up and hustling
for bread and butter"
1 just looked at that masculine for a
moment and then laughed in his face.
I-r I'D hal naqrlv OF
them trots out the same hackneyed ex-
cuse when cornered with matrimonial
commonplaces?
That bread-and-butter business isn't
worth balyrag as an argument. would
dearly love to know how much more
hustiins could go on after marriage than
takes place when an adorer Is trying to
cajole some woman into marrying him.
Lovers are proverbial for their hustling.
They work day and night to scrape to-
gether enough to indulge In loves young
dream, or old dream, or any kind OF a
dream. And while the pinching process
is on, while the grand scamper for dollars
| and cents is taking place the man who a
wooing goes is toting flowers and bon
bons to the woman he wishes to marry.
putting out his money on theater tickets,
theater suppers, drives and goodness
knows what beside, for her pleasure.
1 would like to find any brisker hustling
than goes on at this stage OF the game.
And. strange as It seems, nobody appears
upset by 1t. 1t Is only after the knot Is
tied that this hustle act creates fric-
ton.
With the first complaint Of a lack of
lover-like attentions out comes the time
worn apology. The wife's faculties being
| in fair condition. she Is not to be hood
winked by the bread-and-butter wall, but
what can she do? Grin and bear the sit
uation, of course. And can she be blamed
II she wonders over the sudden fight of
that soulfulness that captivated her be-
| fore marriage?
Soulful lovers are as plentiful as black
berries In season: soulful husbands are as
rare as black pearls Robert Browning
was soulful husband. AS writer puts
| 1t. his courtship was but the prelude to
| the exquisite love story of married life.'
And the married women who read these
lines will draw deep sighs of ecstatic
pleasure as they dwell upon the bliss that
comes from so perfect a union.
Our ideals are many. If those cherished
by the wife were given fraction of the
consideration allowed them when the
property of the girl sweetheart we might
| in all justice be condemned If we dared
whisper syllable against the disencnant.
ment of matrimony.