The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1898-05-08
Wornan's Wor1d.

I
you've told me to-day when / first started
to have beauX ia be blessed with more
men friends than ] can boast now. The
reputation Of being abe 10 win more hearts
than any girl in my set does not please
me. What is It to win hearts If one can
not hold them2 I have read somewhere
long ago, when 1 was quite little girl
think, that it is easy to find a lover and
retain a friend, but what is difficult is to
md the friend and to retain the lover. But
do you know what I'm going to do? I'm
going TO climb up on a pedestal and see
how the world looks from there" :
The bachelor blew some more rings, and
this time the girl caught one on her third
finger. She blushed again, and he looked
content.
The fiabby-souled woman who must talk
or die would be bad enough, in ali con-
science, if she only told her troubles to
those whose long friendship and faith she
could trust but she is simply reckless in
her condolences. Give a woman a sympa-
theuc looking face and make her a good
hsteneri put her on a summer resort gal
lery with a piece of fancy work. and in
side OF week she will know the private
history of nine-tenths of the women pres
emit ana that without any prying curios-
lty or her own. The chances are that she
mas troubles enough of her own to keep
her occupied, but she can't help herself.
she IS the victim of the indiscreet confder,
ana must listen whether she VIII or no or
give mortal offense. And what things these
women tell. Good heavens, the folly the
madness of IL, and the wonder that any
one with so little sense should be permit
ted to be at large without a guardian
Consider says Dorothy Dix in the New
Orleans
a wife who will conide her husbands
shortcomings and faults and her own I'M
happiness 30 a woman she never saw be-
lore Just because the stranger murmurs
poor thing IN sympathetic tone at ev-
cry pause m the conversation! Just think
Of lovelorn damsel who confesses that
she is the victim of unrequited affection
and who will hold up the cracks in her
broken heart for inspection because some
woman Is willing to plaster it over with
little cheap pity! Think of mother who
Is willing 10 raise the dark curtain that
should hide sons or daughters wrong
dong, just because somebody was sorry
Tor her! There are women as responsive
10 word or look of sympathy as a bottle
OF champagne is to a corkscrew Apply it.
ana they are bound to effervesce and slop
over
or course, when the heart Is bound
NN"A WIN SOIToR JDere Is a natural
impulse to share the burden with some
one else, and to a woman a grief for the
time at least, has lost half its bitterness
When another mourns with her. 1t is this
FEELING that is generally at the bottom of
her condolences, so often misplaced so
more than often indiscreet. Say what one
WILL there Is temporary comfort in talk
ing over things with a sympathetic per-
son, and in that lies the temptation and
the danger. We tell of our disappoint-
ment in this one of the ingratitude of
that one, something has happened that
makes our hearts sore and heavy, and we
pour 1t all out. only to wonder the next
day what on earth made us guilty of such
idiocy. In clever novel that was pub
lished few years ago it is related that a
young man was discovered sitting, silent
and lonely, out on a fence while the col
lege hop was going gaily on near by. A
friend asked what he was doing, to which
the young philosopher responded that he
was trying to keep from making a fool of
himself; that there was a girl at the
dance that he knew he should propose
to If he were to give himself the chance,
and that il he did he would regret it the
next day. There is a world of suggestion
in the remark, and when we are tempted
to confide our personal feelings and ex-
periences in strangers it would save us
a lot of subsequent modification and
regret If we would only go off by ourselves
and sit on a fence until We had cooled
off and were reasonably safe from COM
hitting such a folly