The news & observer., 1897-02-21

cannot afford to remain single. / sup
pose the ideal woman, the best mother,
will strike that wonderful happy medium
and make her boys polite and considerate,
but self-respectful as well.
There's no doubt about it that we all
Of us go in the way FIVE are trained.
Somebody said there was agreat deal of
politeness wasted, but | don't believe it.
If the woman to whom you give a seat
in the street car hasn't the decency to
thank you, it is rather hard treatment,
but you yourself know that you have
done what is right and what is polite,
and you should not, because of the ignO-
rance of one woman, allow yourself to
he her equal by concluding in future to
forget your good manners. Women are
little too well used to being considered
under this flag Of ours. Too many Of
them have gotten to the point when they
thin that simply because tahey are wo-
men all consideration should be shown
them. or course, there's some truth in
this, but because they are women, and
this beautiful chivalry is shown to them,
they should make every gentleman con-
scious of their keen appreciation of this
recognition of them You have seen the
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woman who, by sitting sidewse, occupies
two seats in the street car; you have,
also, seen the woman who piles her wraps
about her when she's at the theatre ia
such n way that she takes up part Of your
chair. so you are forced to sit like truss
ed chicken; you have seen the woman
who kept a whole line of people waiting
while she displayed her ignorance to a
bank cashier or ticket-seller; you have
been unfortunate enough to sit in front
Of the woman who put her feet on the
back Of your chair and showed the points
of her dusty boots on your coat-not IL
mention how nervous feet caused you TO
be; you have seen the woman who accept
ed all manner of social courtesies from
you, and never dreamed that it was nee
essary to thank you; you have seen the
woman who has, by her i'll temper made
your dinner party a failure, or your sup
per funereal festivity; we've all seen
these women; and the root of the evil
manners they display is selfshness.
Sometimes these women are young
enough to have it Knocked out Of them in
after life. Sometimes, though, they con-
tinue to be worshipers of self until they
reach their graves and then, they are
probably surprised to discover that they
have not been quite as important as they
thought. A selfish woman can make q
whole household unhappy. If she wants
to take a nap nobody must talk, not be
cause it would awaken her, but because
she wants to wait until she can hear it all.
If a seamstress is in the house she de
mands the greater part OF her time, and
the other women of the family can have
her when my work is finished" She
wants the best bit OF the chicken, the
warmest room in winter, the coolest In
summer, and always to have her feelings,
physical and mental, considered. She
IS the type of woman who drives man to
his Satanic Majesty, and who breeds chill
dren that are either her exact opposite
or else herself duplicated. Nine times out
of ten, however, the thoroughly selfish
woman has q son or daughter who is en-
tirely unselfsh. This unfortunate child,
unfortunate because he or she goes to the
extreme Of goodness and makes a vice
out of a virtue, sacrifices herself to her
mother and receives no thanks for the love
or unselfish devotion given her.
There is a certain unselfsh type, usual
ly a woman that is utterly lacking in
backbone
Constant thought OF other people makes
this type Of woman bury herself so COM
pletely that all her individuality is lost
Nobody recognizes her as a bright swo-
man, or am interesting woman, or ever as
a kind woman, but she is regarded as a
woman who would do anything for any
body, and who seems to invite i'll treat
ment. She always reminds me of a worm,
and / have never quite understood what
use there was in the world for those wrig-
Cling, soft, impersonal creatures. Under
a microscope they may look different,
but to the ordinary eye all worms are a.
like in their general characteristic Of
softness and worhhlessness, although
they do differ in color. | really think that
/ can endure better the woman who is
like a hedgehog than the worm woman.
AT least. the woman who, at the slightest
word, fourishes all her pointed quills and
is ready for a fight, has something about
her to interest one. How human beings
especially women beings-do suggest the
animal kingdom ] don't know exactly
what does come under the head Of the
animal kingdom, but | mean those living
things that we usually conclude without
knowing to have no souls
Haven't you seen woman who was
exactly like a plump little hen2 | have
seen her put on her gloves and smooth
down her dress when she was going out,
just as the hen arranges her feathers and
perks when she is starting for walk
over the lawn. The parrot woman can
be met almost every day; hooked Of nose.
recetling of chin, with little, beadlike
eyes, and shrill voice-how many Of her
are you acquainted with? Then there's
the woman who is IKE an Alderney cow;
placid, well-made, with beautiful eyes,
glossy hair, eating and enjoying her food,
and displaying no more than quiet in
terest in everything around her. Then
there is the woman who is like black
and-tan terrier; small-boned, dark in col
oIing, and with a quick, snappy way OF
talking, and rapid way of walking
that suggests the barking OF the little
puppy and hrs quick trot when he darts
for bone. There's the serpent woman; /;
there's the womanAwho, like the cock