, 1897-11-13
THE SOCIAL SWIM.
AN EXCEEDINGLY LARGE NUM-
Der OF SMALL EVENTS
DURING THE WEEK.

DEN UT SMALL EVEN L.
DURING THE WEEK.
Some Interesting and Timely Com
ments Upon the Art of Being an
Accomplished Guest-Mrs. Var
NUNS Delightful Party-Maccabees
Entertain-Card Parties Galore.
Visiting as a fine art-If. as is I'M
doubleday the case. it is an art to be
able to entertain, it is also n to be
entertained gracefully, and there are
many guests who have utterly failed
in g%rasping this important fact. There
are some people whose presence under
ones roof is IA zoe to be desired. and
adds a new joy to life; but there are
others who, on the contrary, act as an
i~rritant upon ones nerves. and render
the burden of existence heavier than
would otherwise be the case. There is
n golden rule which guests should
lay to heart if they wish their visit to
be a success. They should know how
and when to efface themselves, and
when to take a prominent place in the
social foreground. 1t is an appalling
and a terrible thing when the visitors
it is usually women who commit this
err0r-sit perpetually in the drawing
room. waiting to be amused. We are
on your hands, This. in the hostess
Imagination. is the prevailing idea
writ large upon their faces. and the
conviction that they will not assist her
in amusing themselves. invariably
checks the buoyancy of her spirits, and
figuratively, weighs her to the ground.
1t is frequently the case that if this
description of guest were to follow her
be writing letters in the privacy Of her
own room or skimming the asst new
novel in a shady corner of the garden.
The pity of it is, however. that she
imagines she is doing the correct thing,
and that when she is on a visit it is
unsociable. as well as ii breach of polite
ness, to absent herself from the family
circle.
There is, again, another class who,
in adopting the role of visitor. lose
thereby their own individuality. and
appear as mere ciphers with neither
tastes o %inclinations of their own.
These also are distinct trials to a host
ess. Everyone has come across the
guests who seem unable to give a de-
~cisive opinion upon any subject. When
asked whether they will go for a drive
or stay at home, they murmur, sweetly,
whichever dear Mrs. Blank prefers
leaving the perpleXed hostess to decide
in the dark, totally ignorant of their
real wishes on the subject of fresh
air or Preside.
1t may possibly happen that visitors
frequently find themselves intensely
bored by their host or hostess in par
ticular. and their surroundings in gen
eral. This state of mind must be sedu-
lousy concealed under a smiling and
contented exterior. if they wish to shine
as good guests" for nothing is so
trying as the unamusable person, who
remains hopelessly glum and uninter-
ested. The free-and-easy visitor is a
person to be avoided. This class appear
to look upon whatever house they are
staying at in the light of a hotel, and
regard it as a matter of course that the
hours of meals and other existing
household arrangements, should fit in
with the daily program they have
mapped out for their own convenience.
The qualities Of an ideal guest may be
painted in a few words-the tact which
invariably tells its possessor not only
the right thing to say, but the proper
time to say it: the art of self-efface-
ment in conversation. the knowledge
of how to make ones society valued
and appreciated, and when to with
hold it, and that rare and genuine DO
ii''I'SS "Il'h SIl lISS llplll uIlStlllSL-
ness. and finds it's own satisfaction in
the well being of others.
The Denver Choral society. the fin
est concert company in the west, will
give a concert at the Unive: Sly audi
forum Wednesday. This company has
suns with Scalchi and Nordica and 10
without doubt the foremost of it's kind.
It is composed of the following singers:
Miss Adelaide Beardsley, soprano; Miss
Emma Cook, contralto; Mr.. N. B.
fuille. tenor: Mr.. Adams Owen, basso.
Miss Ivena l.. Baker. accompanist.
The following program will be rem
dered:
PART 1.
Quartette. Spring Song. .Pinsuti
Song. None So Rare" (Martha) 900.
...... .......... .Flotow
Miss Cook.
Song. Drinking Song" Told GERMANY
Mr.. Owen.
Song, Venetian Song. .Tosti
Miss ~Beardsley.
Duet. Excelsior. ..Balfe
Messrs. Yuille and Owen.
PART II.
Trio, Queen of the Night. ..... Smart
Misses Beardsley and Cook and
Mr.. Owen.
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