The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1897-08-28
rcopyright. 1871

Inc summer pace DrlnBS out the
woman who gets black and blue i'm her
efforts to climb the social ladder. She
is the woman who is scorned by the
people with whom she wants to assooi-
. ate, and she would do anything. pro-
vided the worst were not found out, to
get a bow from some leader I'm the ex-
elusive cotere. One cannot but wonder
e she will ever reach the height 10
I which she is climbing. She will IL she
kills in herself every bit of womanly
pride, everything that is sweet and
real and true. She will IL she has a
skin like hippopotamus and plenty OF
money.
She must not mind being snubbed by
= a woman one day and then approach
( ing the same woman the next day with
a smile, expecting another snub. willing
TO take ii and yet ready to smile again
the day after. She must learn that two
kicks down the rungs of the ladder
, which she wishes to climb must only
give her impetus to fly up five more.
: She must be willing to spend money.
and spend it i'm great quantities. She
must run after the lion of the day. try
60 capture him with golden chains and
' exhibit him in her drawing rooms.
But, above all, she must feed people
we'll and that is where the social
climber too often makes a mistake. Mrs.
Blueblood can afford to offer her Wis
y istors pale tea and waters, but Mrs.
{ Social Climber cannot expect hers to be
Z contented with anything less than cham
pagne, terrapin and pate de foie gras.
\ To make people satisfied with themselves
8 she must offer them the very best in
& the land. She must be satisfied IL she
{ can get Mrs. Blueblood to her house to
Il gin at
\She can scarcely expect her to take any
G. notice of her hostess. After she has
Hspent her money and degraded herself
y she may get her reward. Just now II Is
\ in the hereafter. But when she gets II
Z how she will appreciate It! And the
Nheight of bliss will be reached when she
, can snub other women who are trying to
Mellow her example and can cut off from
Sher visiting list all those who helped
I her in her early struggles. but whom
G. later on she will count as ineligible. or
( course there are always n few women
' who will not assist the climber. who will
\, .ot invite her TO their houses. no matter
I how much money she may spend or
how willingly she may submit to being
Observation-Disclosures speaking.
\ One delightful woman staying here
will control the people who visit at her
house. will not admit Mrs. Social Climb
er and refuses to be anything but frig-
idly polite to her. Once, when Mrs. So
cial Climber felt particularly brave, she
went up to her and said, II am going
to do myself the pleasure of coming to
your next Thursday" The overbrave
lady (?)' was looked at through pair
of lorgnettes by pair of piercing gray
eyes, and the answer came with beauti-
full clearness my servants do not ad-
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my visiting list"
Another famous climber. who thinks
that by gushing and giving a great deal
of personal information she can get
where she wishes grew very familiar
the other day with a young married
woman and said to her: Il wonder that
you use rouge. / didn't know that any
body but the demmonde did that"
With a sweet smile the naughty young
matron answered: "You are very, for
tunate in knowing anything about their
habits or them. My acquaintances have
always been in different set" AS this
was said in the presence OF about 10
women, nobody was surprised to hear
that the climber considered the young
matron "a nasty. stuck up thing whose
acquaintance 1 don't want"
That woman is an abomination upon
the face of the earth who thinks to gain
friends by gossiping about the habits
and costumes and special belongings OF
the ladies OF the half world She, can
never really account creditably for this
knowledge, and her listener has a per-
feet right TO conclude that she has ac-
quaintances among them. although 1t is
most probable that she has gathered her
stories from servants, dressmakers and
men. The well bred American woman
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ignore these ladies entirely, and when
she drives past one of them she stares
as blankly as If there. were no material
figure in the carriage opposite hers
Early as Ii Is, the buds are beginning
TO get ready to be taken from the hot
houses in which they have been so care
fully kept and. surrounded by so many
other flowers. to appear in the drawing
room. Poor little bud! From the day
that its mother rose elected that Il was
10 be out it knew perfectly well that
II meant the waiting for the gallant
prince who, seeing Its beauty and ad-
miring its grace, would bear il AWAY
close to his heart.
Onescan't help but feel sorry for the
buds, and next to them one feels sorry
for the poor princes who come a-woo-
ing. IL is a recognized fact that every
woman with n daughter longs for her
to make a great marriage. Many think
the average New York matron is crude
In her management. She doesn't do as
the southern or western woman does
just let the girls alone, allow them to
attract and hold by their own sweet
ness-but overmanages and overcon-
trives. She lacks the simple directness
OF the English woman. and she has not
the tact OF the French one. IL isn't so
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but her trying is too pronounced.
Not long ago at a bud reception I
saw the greeting rendered a very nice,
rather young and ever so many times
millionaire. He was offered everything
from claret punch 90 angel food. from
smiles To flowers. and he was made I
thoroughly nervous that I am perfectly