The silver star., 1897-07-29
A oirl's influence.

be. In fact many girls never think
of the matter at all, but it is worthy
of serious consideration. Every
word and act are witnessed by some
one-a person of whose surveillance
she is altogether unaware.
Disposition, speech and manner,
all go to what should call infiu-
ence. Indeed, it is really more
than these; it is really the inner
life and thoughts which so truly
have expression in the face, and
through those open windows of the
soul and eyes. The influence of
sweet, patient girl is unbounded-
in Dolores.
A kindly, loving presence cannot
but be associated with many, and it
has influence upon each and every
one.
Children are inspired by the ex-
ample, and wish to grow up to be
just like it. Companions admire
and respect it, while they try to
make their own deposition conform
in a measure to that of the kind
playmate.
Older friends and relatives can
not but love the child and wish it
every happiness, while the parents
almost idolize and believe that
never did parents have such con-
siderate and loving daughter. But
while the girls influence in all of
these places is great, there is one
class of boys in Dolores with whom
it is still greater and, if anything,
much more important, especially is
this true as the girl grows older.
That is with the boys. Not her
own brothers particularly, though
her influence over them is deep and
losting; but everyone knows that
girl can do much more with some
other gil's brother than she can with
her own. OF the same is converse
ly true of her own brother.
A girl whom boy sincerely likes
and respects can influence him more
than all the brothers and sisters and
relatives and friends and ministers
in the universe. In fact, more than
anyone except his mother.
This girl is his friend and strange
contrariness of human nature, she
can tell him hard truths and lay
down entreaties (Which, to him, are
commands to be obeyed) that no
friend, foe or relative would dare to
do. 1t is possible that girl might
have several friends, over each of
whom she exercised similar infiu-
ence. But it requires many good
traits to acquire this influence. To
secure the friendship of several
boys, a girl must first Of all be wo-
manly. This one quality alone,
more than all other, attracts the at
tention of boy and commands his
respect.
Then she should be broad in her,
sympathies. She must consider the,
boy her friend, and that only, and
expect nothing more Of him. There
must no little petty jealosies. no re-
striction of his liberty. A boy per-
mits that only with his sweetheart.
His girl friend should never think
Of such thing. A, friendship of this
kind is one of the hest that can come
into the life Of a, young man. He
is developing. His ideas, charac-
ter and habits are unsettled. This
influence is elevating, refining, and
so far as needed. restraining. Dis
agreeable.habi will be prevented
by its intervention. Ambitions will
be higher by Its Indictment. Asso-
ciates will be more what the should
be. This one influence will effect
all her life. The two may be sepa-
rate for years, yet time will no.
eradicate it. The principles and
beliefs which were wrought into the
developing scul will never be for.
gotten. s-"" ""'
Then since a girls influence is sc
Igreat, every girl should endeavor tt
fit herself to wisely and urselfishls
use the power she has. It's worth
cannot be- eatimated, and she cat
never know the good she may &c
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