The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1897-05-16
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SECOND PAPER IN A SERIES OF FoUR. ny IAN
M%AoJAREN IN THE OUTLOOK"
Between n cultured American and an un-
cultured there is ms much difference as between,
say, Matthew Arnold and "Punchs" AIRY, and
] would like to make a plea some day for tho
simple and unfinished American: but lot one
Englishman at least record his honest opinion
that an educated American is the most courteous
person no has met on his travels. One may have
q pardonablc pride in the good form OF an
English cntlomun-an instructive sense OF what
IS beco ming-and get desire the cordially which
Is very taking in an Americana; ono may admit
that In what may be called the decorated style
of manners a Frenchman is a past master, and
still MICS thct note Of simplicity which is found
IN an American. There Is, indeed, rs appears
TO n dull male person, u certain analogy
between the superiority Of an American
man In manners and an American woman In
dress Cher manners, II goes without saying, arc
charming, yivacious, sympathetic, fascinating).
for shc has added TO the severe good taste of an
Englishwoman a certain grace, and redeemed
the clevc rness Of the Partisan from the suspicion
of trickery. Blood and climate have united to
produce this f~clicitous result, where the gravity
and dignity of tho Anglo-Saxon have been re-
lieved by n certain brightness of spirit and light
ness OF touch which would be out OF place, and
might be even offensive IN rain unu ioB.
The typical American editor is not peremp-
tory, autocratic, nor frank unto the point Of
brutality in dealing with his contributors, who
arc the only worms who have not formed unions
and do not turn In the present millennium OF in
dependence. He is warmly nppreciative OF what
no accepts. and he takes tho trouble to refuse
what he cannot accept In such a way
as to confer q favor. In my hands have
I held for q brief space a letter from
tho editor of q largely circulated and
quite delightful American monthly to q
young lad who had sent an account of life
at an English University, explaining why it
could not be accepted, but bestowing discrimi-
mating praise. One fears that his character for
vcracity cannot survive the strain of such q
statement, but one takes the risk in order to pay
his tribute to the courtesy Of the editor. and a
Jortiori of all men of letters across the Atlantic.
g d6ey nsse o Is maP PTSfessbi9 af h "a 9 the most @sd do@ihsa Tstt
land perhaps also chastened) Of his order, is an
example unto the whole world. His patience
this is the final test-with an unpunctual con-
tributor is sufficient to melt a heart not utterly
deprayed, and to qualify, him for a very high
The The Young n university man Of Yale or Harvard
is neither gawky nor cheeky but has an easy
flavor Of dsference to bis snperiors. Whatever
n native-horn clergyman may say or do In &c
world over. from Rome downward, Is SO close
and charged with gas that. no one breathing 1t
ought to be held responsible. he is invariably
lowing himself to wrangle about theology or to
assume arrogant airs to lay folk. One. Is never
nor is one afraid Of being browbeaten or
taken by guile. Clubmen, are everywhere very
masonry which constitutes them a class
by themselves; but the American is entitled
to this praise, that his manners are not spoiled
by afectation nor frozen into icy inhumanity.
He does not wear n single eyeglass for orna-
,.nunteuaDce from which all intarast In ANYTHING
has been studiously eliminated. Nor does he
labor to reduce the crisp, sinewy English speech
to regard the outside world as Philistines. An
absolutely well.bred man in speech and deed.
can shake hands like n man, he is perfectly affa.
BILE. and does not speak q patois in which "ah"
sdont You know" hils up the frequent inter.
1tices of thought.
and ah thu tf test PtS OF eh III sGSd is m "a man's Is bs snlEa!r q
women. The reason one is suspicious of French
SSF rs Z Is t 4aissd though 20 shs sir psrisi aesrs.@m Il a
the shSpsirl no Difference on the street, while
kind. From end to end of America a woman is
respected. protected, served, honored. II she
street car an she sfev Is Never ers allowed man to u stand Il a man
can give her a seat; on the railways, conductors,
RRS ssssn to and wa livery On 0i hes; t amy G man ohi dari
ing to annoy a woman would come to
s saIlsy a ahS e eS%fest T IN pSe s ssn ssay Which Sits 70 Sc a
European seems. most admirable Her richer
sister has IA maid and footman in Europe; she
Q court, with every, man listening, to her, de-
ferring to her, rejecting her. Perhaps the
ing, at times-it is the penalty of absolute mon
archy; perhaps the men exceed in Difference
and think for them in everything except politics
this is the rawback OF hereditary loyalty.
most perfection BY granting her subjects an oc-
casional experience of equality. upon which they
x xDHsd nei ioyaI fstn night III do I9f his Ruler r true SERVICES fee
and safeguard her from selfshnGss by, an oGca.
sional and quite limited assertion Of the rights
good for a strong and restless people to be pos
sessed with noble ideas OF woman. and from the
sworn unto her service. The woman cult in the
States Is in itself a civilization, and next door to
Hospitality is also of the essence of courtesy,
and every visitor to the States agrees with
eli etSo R'ltfhhi hss-tSst tfe e. aisS f has re sfSsi
ne IN ANCIENT fha w Eastern tt idea and ;du9 @eelin "a fSa
In Europe and smitten to the heart with re- re
aletter, we receive him with calm civility, hope
that he has hnd a good passage, inquire what he
for him, ask him to a meal, and let him 60 with
modest disclaimer that he has given us any
knowing, half a dozen. people in the whole
continent, letters o fhospitality arrive before you
bLlrJt tney are brought on DOhru your steamer
with the pilot, they are delivered on the landing
stage, they arc lying on the table at your rooms,
and they all come to the same thing,-that yon
will stay In Q hotel at your peril, and that you
and your belongings-it is hoped two boys may
come to the writer's house. tyou have an iron
rangements prevent your being, q proper guest
for a guest has his duties as well as q host-yop
tality, but you win have to fight your way, 30 to
say, to the hotel. And II you are q guest you
Will be received at the StatiOn-WC allow visitors
to make their own way to our houses-and vel
coined bi by the whole VI ,s. family liysI as II you Were OF the
standing; and you win DO driven oyer the whole
disposal as II he had nothing to do-yet Judges,
university men, merchants, editors, have some
engagements-aRd, you will depart laden with
roses and good will.
One is not quite sure whether to admire most
of all tho grace or tact or spontaneity or COM
ploteness q hospitality amons our kinsfolk; but
counts dearest, is the genuine Kindness. The
Americans are q kim people, and they are not
lishman, who has been treated like u royal per