The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1897-05-02
ADVICE TO MOTHls
HOW GOOD INTENTIONS NJ,
FRusTRArEDA
The Irony Of Fate up~et. -.
Arranged Pian.-Scemin~s~ q
bic Husbands Nos Always 4. "a.
choice-Don't Permit se<,.s,
See That You Are Wa.~1-.
Chapter ON the BIaes.

My daughter shall never MARI
man. declared a determined-lcokins1.
lady.
How do you propose to manax. -.
so that she will nots" queriea - ~.
.-Oh. have taken care. In the sv,s -
that every man who is an hahItue y ~
house is eligible answered the upl1~ ia
mother. "and. secondly. she has ~. ~
well brought up to fall In love wisHs.
one who cannot give her the cskss -
ale of existence.
hut Ia mere propose Ell la nile H..
says the New York Tribune. Tia F
of fate generally upsets the most c,yss.s
arranged plans. Besides. II Is rens.r.S
the case that those who marry for ne--
or at least with the expectation a q,
scssing that desirable article. arp - !.
this country TO be sadly disappoint.l s
Is very seldom. in this land OF m s
downs. that riches remain long a W.
family. and young people with xress y
pectations generally lind when fhex =
middle-aged that they have neilha, q
substance nor even the shadow rsu.S
ing. their only inheritance heinz =
pensive tastes and disincltnafIen q
want of will power TO work.
IL would be far better IL calculo1
mammas would consult the statiatIrS y
this respect. and would realize M 4
really true. that poor young mar -,
has chosen his career, and wha d H.
trious, has 4 far greater chance a. a
ture prosperity than the idle rich II
butterflies OF the day. the majorily Z
whom will end their days in compa71tn
poverty.
.Of course. know that ! am pons
said very popular although an inrrx
nious society woman, but. some M
other. l cannot feel poor.
THAT is the reason you are such ~
cess. commented her friend III
Muitimillions said the other day thai ~
were the only woman she knew Nh "A
not bore her with your troubles. al a,
was the reason she liked you so M
Those who are not well off. as M
make their straitened circumstances ia
obvious, and people who have lost MA
retire from the world when there ID III
" no reason why they should do 50. N
take a back seat. and, of course. are
urged 10 come forward; bat II they b
remained in the front no one would Inn
questioned their right TO be there m.
not necessary to spend much or entefun
in order to maintain a position once -
have acquired il. All YOU have 10 a. j
10 be agreeable, and not let society =
that you are worried. Society Is no
natured IL you do not exact sympathy
and is disposed to be friendly 10 IL
members who have lost their moneY (
they are piucky and cheerful about II. ~
continue TO go about.
OF course If people are morbid Aa1
avoid their former associates. the latte
cannot be expected TO hunt them up; ~
if they lose their friends II il. in nin1
cases out Of ten. more the fault Of IN
people themselves than Of their formx
associates. Vanity Fair has no time Il
look after those who fall by the waysid<
but people make mistake In thinking sla
ostracizes her citizens simply becaua
they are poor II is the concomltants h
poverty that she objects to-the shab&
ness. the low spirits, and. above all ~
pride which apes humility. which IS mn
boring than anything else.
There was clever little tlogRerei ~
the rounds OF the newspapers not bnfGr
written I'm the vernacular of Ho61ap{k
ley or Mulberry Bend. which gam m
deal Of wholesome advice to the ss1M
of New York. Each verse ended uiA -
refrain: Because you know youe d
ter.
We must perforce accept the coudHjN
of our life because we've got ter thls|
is no choice about IL. We are not avh1G
of our fate. We cannot change tn a
cumstances of our environment bul IA
In the power of every one to NAH g.
best. instead OF the worst, Of then
and their surroundings.
Young people should be taught ~ \
is the part of coward to conplaH - /
get i'm the bluesA over what Is In<t1l
and that pluck" and ''couru9e
qualities as admirable In every-d1y
as on especial occasions. Ever Q51
a certain degree may be "sclf-m16eA
youth may. II he is ambitious. set BIZ
to consider first what material A h<o
v ork with.
The same principle may be apps
the body as well as to the mind. 70 =
as well as TO business relations
made need not refer purely to maf
physically and socially
are maay self-made men and worne4 49,
instead OF succumbing to tho en-
stances. nave so utilized what has -
given them that the one talent
has become ten talents -
hands.
An undeveloped boy OF sixteen, ~
stance. resolves 70 improve his pny
and patiently and steadily deyofes ~
ergies TO that end. and by systee
gymnastics. bathing. exercising
open air. proper selection OF food
OF all things hurtful ~
comes. four or five wears later. ina
imam of manly vigor. A girl who = a.
good-Iooking hat not pretty makes np "
mind TO cure herself Of STOPPING. 20
well. to acquire fine carriage. 70 be
pulousIy neat and weII-dressed. 10 haNt
fresh skin-in short. 70
herself. using the material which To
has given her 10 the very best aasan. H..
Both OF these young people may Pc 49,
be s.scIf-made.- quite rs mitch as ne
who. poor in this worlds goods. has "a.
a fortune. for II good looks and health
not equal to riches 1t would be hard e
what Is.