The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1897-09-09

wondering why 1t pleases him, and give
her best energies to being very glad of
this diversion to his thoughts and
share his searches, and forget her an
noyance at the widespread confusion
he creates In the realization OF the
heatthfuT result
Sometimes the hobby" rides in quite
another path; he is a fancler of costly
bindings and rare editions. while the
drawing room needs n new rug and the
house wants paint Nothing is insIg-
nihcant II II diperts him from the state
OF the market, the points OF his difficult
brief, or the destructive routine of
Whatever his business or profession
may be. Learn the value OF the SEEM
ingly useless things that are dear to
him, make yourself like them and share
his pleasure, or II that is impossible
take your part in 1t by entering into
his qualification as good for him and
therefore surely good for you.
death-blow to married good-fellow-
ship comes surely to the wife who per-
sistehtly antag0nizes her husbands
natural tastes and inclinations and
urges him TO take his pleasures in her
way. To argue and insist and perse-
vereingly to ask for reasons, simply
puts her outside of his nappiest hours
and shuts the gate against her of the
place where he acts spontaneously and
freely as he likes. No measure can
take the dimensions OF the loss she has
so incurred.
Every common interest the wife can
grasp, outside Of those TO which fam
lily care Is a part, Is a buttress against
weakening Of that too OTTER transient
intercourse which in honeymoon days
makes the husband delight himself in
always being In his wife's society. It
Is better worth while to cultivate a
knowledge Of anything and everything
that interests him than II was In the
beginning to wear his favoritc dress
and sing his pet songs. You may cling
to him with every fibre of n devoted
heart, and seek only his good in all you
do: and yet. II you cannot see with his
eyes, aud hear with his ears. but fool
ishly try 10 make him happy by per-
petually endeavorlng to draw him
away from his favorite pursuits and
accept your Ideas Of rest and enjoyment.
your labor Is In vain, and your husband
viii never say Of yon: "Thou art my
rest"
II seems an arbitrary rule, and one
which does not work both ways, vet
deeper thought discovers strong and
beautiful reason for It's existence Your
feminine nature. which bears lts bur
dens OF maternity and all the multitude
Of duties by which we grow strong, Is not
mated to Its facsimile: your husband ls
that stronger, different, masculine per-
sOnalty without which your existence
would be incomplete, You do not want
to lean upon and look tip to reproduce
tlon Of yourself, and your share Of the
perfect union II to find out and nj into
your life the pursuits and tastes which
make him different from you.
oh, that It were possible to cxtcrminate
nagglng from domestic life! So often
with the most loving intention wife
allCnutos and lrritatOH, even bitterly
wounds the husband she half worghlps.
by persistent rcmonstrauccg or ontrcnty.
or by starting every day fresh argu.
mcnt on the same theme. Half the time
II II wholly concerning what IN supposed
90 be either for his good or hl1 chil1rcns:
but the wife cannot give up her point.
All The symbolic facts In nature the drop
" water that wears away the stone, the
mouse that gnhws the rope the crcylco
that becomes The chagni, are wcal, Illus.
trnlIons Of the fatal result Of these argu-
mcnil upon married comrudcshlp and
good fellowship AS the climbing IN
sandy way IN TO the feet VI the aged 40
IL n wife full VI words to quiet man. 3"
Wise. Indeed was the old philosopher
who found this quaint Bimttlludr. one
secs the crumbllng ennd Slide nnd fan
back aud ever draw the woman ot many
arguments away from her goal
rhoro IL also deep place " unity IA
tho wlfrly understanding OF the lmmons,
importance nnd honorable rcaponslbill.
tloa VI her husbands business II seems
no hard 10 see strength give way youth
fade ana lllne9 threaten under the bond.
anu Of a luminous profession or mn nb.