The record-union., 1897-01-31
HAPPY, THOUGH MARRIED.
Sensible Advice to Wives and to
HuSbandS-TaCt and Good Sense.

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from a paper. a short time ago 1
spect Due to Wives" and among its
paragraphs were the following:
DO not jest with your wife on any
subject where there is danger of
wounding her feelings.
Never speak of some prominent vir-
tue in another's wife, just to remind
your own of a fault.
Never be inattentive to your wife in
company. Nothing wounds a woman's
pride more keenly or tends so much to
weaken her respect and love for you.
IF you would have pleasant home
and cheerful wife, pass your evenings
under your own roof with your wife, or
take her to share social enjoyments
with you.
DO not be stern or silent in your own
house and remarkable for your social
gifts elsewhere"
This is certainly excellent advice, and
too often is greatly needed. But in
reading it now the question comes to
ne, Do not wives need such cautions
equally with their husbands? What
about the respect due to husbands?
Perhaps it is the perversity said to be
often found in w0man's nature. but I
acknowledge being somewhat behind
the age and pAead guilty to some little
sympathy for husbands
Read these sentences again. good
wives, and allow me to whisper a few
questions to you
Did you never tell your husband of
some great excellence or virtue in your
friends husband, purposely to remind
him of soma shortcoming or fault which |
you had seen in his own habits or char |
acter?
Do you treat your husband. when in |
company. with inattention or impa- |
tience, while you politely and cordially |
accept the attentions of other and less
noble men?
Do you ever impatiently blame him |
in the presence of a third party? What |
woman is more sensitive to blame in |
the presence Of others than a husband. |
when the censure comes from his wife's |
lips?
Are you ever cross and silent in your |
own home with no one to entertain but |
your husband. yet full of life, with and |
amiability in company?
While it is just that husbands should |
the lesson it teaches endeavol. to aug
ment the joys of home, should not |
wives also take it's truth into their own |
hearts? Are we not equally liable to |
trespass in the same way? Ave. more !
so. For home is our kingdom where !
we may reign supreme if we have wis |
dom to hold the scepter with a Judi |
cious hand.
have seen young people begin life |
with every promise of the most perfect |
happiness. yet make entire shipwreck of |
it all by thair own unguarded words. |
impatient looks and Unrestrained tenn
pers.
A talent for spicy and brilliant rep
artee may enliyen a party and give the
highest Zest and piquancy to social in
terCouTse, endoWing it's possessor with
a certain position enviable or otherwise.
but in THE home circle it is a dangerous
gift, and, unfortunately, more frequent
ly bestowed upon the wife than upon the
husband
How often have We Tecoiled, as from
a blow, when hearing those who should
be ONE in heart draw comparisons preju-
dicdal to their own companions and to
the credit of anothers and we grieve to
say that such remarks are qubee as often
heard from the wife as from her hus-
band. Do they ever recall that when
they gave the marriage VOW they took
the care of each others honor and ra-
spectability into their own hands to
cherish or destroy? God has made that
bond 50 inseparable that all honor. he
slowed on the one passes over and is
shared by the other. and all disgrace or
error that is charged to the one is equal
ly injurious TO the other
| fully understand all that is said of
mans rough, abrupt, overbearing ways
There is too much truth in IT, / think
there IS, naturally, a little spice of tyr
amy in every mans composition. and
perhaps from the days of Queen Ress
UP to the present time we might find
enough of the same quality in our own
sex to establish our claims to sister
hood. But. admitting that these are
purely masculine elements, do we non
know how to conquer or soften these
and undesirable charac-
teristics?
BY gentleneSs and love woman NAV. if
she will, assert her power and find men
n1cst willing subjects. But arrogance |.
and impatience will find but rough and i
stubborn opponents. Man is nowhere
so true to his natural impulses as in the
sacred precincts of home II one would