The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1897-02-21

OF nl-brceding to indulge in gossip about
little things. Probably human nature
didn't change. but there was day cl
dignity when ladies' did not chatter so
much after the fashion OF monkeys, ahl
men found them less good comIade7' pu1
very much more celestial beings. 10 WAoh
grca' respect must be shown.
Possibly tho woman OF to-day moro
interesting, hut how she can talh. ono
has very little fear OF anything OF any
body and as gOssipa ana scc'o7 nl' ~
longer ducked. or put in me phioiy, sn9
can give vent 10 an her small clslk'S anu
iva ne most positive manner. OF course.
there are many women who ma no 'it-,s
ure either iu listening 10 or lnuultlN3 i.'
this small tattling: but the clever gossip
who tx a bit vicious has her place To-Day.
and IS feared as much as she is laughed
at.
MAKES HER FURIOUS.
Sometimes this type OF gossip wears
masculine clothes and claims 20 De man.
then he Is that much more conteml pune
for small sins. especially sins or the
tongue have been M various time con
coded 70 women when they were counted
mean and low IN man. The pest way
10 down the woman or the vicious gossip
type IS to listen 10 her with "a looh %
perfect Indifference upon YOUR lace lNl1
makes her furious She doesn't MIND i,
by speaking Of a friend she makes you
angry. she doesn't mind IT, Whcn sue
rattlcs the bones or your faimiy ahtletot.
she hurts you. but she does long TO claim
your attention and force your interest. DO
requires some courage 10 look 20 her in-
differently, and as if-you were Sims ncl
up. Il may make her hate you, but IL Will
force her 10 confess that you are beyond
her and her type since You DO not care lh
the least for her malicious talk
A woman Of this kind seems TO de-
lieht iu hurting young dciencciees elris.
At a reception llIis winter. TO lle h,I
debutante: "How and where D. your
mother" The girl almost tainted. but she
had good blood I'm her. and she had ilat
wonderful something called pluck. which
stood by her so she heid herself up H'
we'll as she could. and said. THANK you,
she's quite well. she's on the Continent.
The truth was that three years before the
mother Of this girl had been the heron.
in q dreadful scandal and II was "a wen
known fact that she was living horrible
life in Paris. Some enc did have the couf-
age 20 ask this woman why she saga
what she did. And She answered; "on.
We'll. those people are always go TAR above
everything that's little human that
thought ia give them hit' To was
true they were above mean acts. InI
after all. the world As not so bad. for
among The women who were present when
this happened. AZ least five took Airs.
Hurtfufs name of their list. and her
enemies were increased.
ENGLISH IDEAS ~ OUR NURSERIES,
Nowadays. eXc1 with very little chill
dren. you no longer See the French nurse.
ln her place with the children or the rich,
is the English nursery gOverncss. She SIS
apt 10 be rather Faunt looking. but she
is certain 10 Doe o woman of gentle birth,
gentle manners. and with sufficient cdu-
cation TO answer until the children are
ready to go under regular ecvernoss.
This autOcrat Of the nursery brings with
her in addition 90 "a perfect English ace
cent. pronounced English ideas on the
subject or chiidIeu's parties, sweet meats.
baths, clothes, waiting on ones SELF les-
SONS and spanking. ln this last art she
is an adept. She teaches the children
mat they must eat ana eat properly. and
they learn. very early IN their acQuaint-
ancc with her. that She oheys King Solo
mon order. and is not economical with
The rod. She IS absolute monarch in the
nursery. OF course she really does no
real mental work. but she absolutely rCe-
ulates In them those manners which. for
centuries. well behaved children have
been expected to copy. She is making
the American children ~ the rich sulon-
didly grOomcd little animals and she is
teaching them, which is "a good thing for
them 10 learn. tho dcsirability Of waiting
on themselves. At the table they must
learn TO help themselves TO proper
quantity of food. taking not too much
and not too little. a tiny maiden of my
acquaintance is being taught this neat
"a
nursery when the children were having
tea and while each one was enjoying.
with @ cup of weak tea OF glass or milk.
piece of hot hut simple cake. this lit-
tie maid OF i've was eating. of % dinner
plate. sOmc cold vegetables and some
cold pudding. She was inclined 10 be
bit greedy. and when she fancied a dish.
helped herself 10 q great deal Of IT, The
English eoyerness brought the remedy
for This bad behavior When she took
too much Of anything her plate was re-
served for her and she had. for hcr tea,
the Overplus. The medicine was a very
unpleasant one. but ] am sure I'm "a very
little while the unhappy child will take
but q small portion OF the dish that she
likes and ask. ia IL be allowed for q
second helping rather than show her
greedincss and her bad manners by maxi
ing the mistake no> unfortunately pccu-
liar TO little people Of overlooking her
plate.
CHILDREN At WATERING PLACES.
A friend OF mine told me Of three chill
dren whom she met at a watering place
one season. They were the dread OF the
entire house. The next season they APP
peared at the same place. but under the
charge OF one Of those English govern
esscs who looks as n she had stepped out
OF one of the pictures in Punch The
change i'm them was ; great that IL was
startling. They had their lessons every
day as regularly as when they were az
home, and they walked and slept accord
Ing TO the clock. They were brought by
the governess to the table, where they
had been perfect horror the year be-
fore. but now they only had. In the way
OF food. what she approved Of, If one
were at all inclined to return 10 his orig
inal state OF deviltry and rebel. he was
taks~ from the table az once and very
quietly. and the remainder OF the group
knew perfectly well that q systematic
spanking would be the fate OF the small
rebel Ny friend saiO the most beautiful
thing OF all was 10 see these young sim
ners carrying the pitchers of water 10
their room for their baths
An Englishman told me that the law
in bis nursery was so great that even hi,