New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1897-12-12

was shocked when she finally came downstairs 10
see how tagged and changed she was Inc taoie
looked pretty and the simple little dinner WASH
bad On the whole. fancy Jack thought every
thing went of swimmngly, but It all seemed terri-
BILE TO me- What burden Of responsibility TO
carry year in and year out! In the night was
walked up by the baby crying. for the walls OF the
little house like paper. and before went
down to breakfast In the gray OF an early Decem-
Der morning. heard the discordant clank OF the
ash shaker my poor chum raked down the
ashes and did the furnace for the day
".No Miss Brignteyes, said TO myself that
evening at a dinner party as sat opposite pretty
little Miss Smith, whose charms had nearly victim
lied me- you don't catch me following poor Jacks
example II one OF your good relatives would leave
YOU a fortune. or II my bank should request me 10
become a partner. i might consider the matter;
but under the circumstances. ia tai"
Young women are not apt to take this end-of-
the-century view OF matrlmony: they would be
willing in many cases to make tho experiment 1t
is the young men who draw back who hesitate.
who refuse; and. as theirs would be the response
billy in case Of marriage. their hesitation Is not
altogether TO be wondered at. But It is no wonder.
OH the other hand that the new young woman Is
making herself Independent Of these faint-hearted
youths.
"v:io either fear their fate too much.
Or their deserts arc small;
Who care not put II to the touch
To gain or lose IT. all
Letting II dare not" wait upon II would"
PSEUDO SENTIMENT
There IL an immense deal Of pseudo ntiment
In tho world which Is altogether superficial often
hysterical, and which has nothing whatever to do
with the nobler qualities of sympathy and practi-
cal benevoence. One takes up the newspapers
every day and reads OF actual want and suffering
and crime and careessly skins over the reports
with comparatively little interest. and certainly
not much feeling and yet the same person will be
n Ora In al
theatre of the same class OF woes. connected with
purely fictitious characters. and tears arc often
shed over imaginary situations portrayed In
novel People will even he called. and actually be-
lieye themselves to be. tendcr-henrted on account
Of these easily aroused and spurious feelings Of
commiseration for suffering that does not exist.
while the real miseries Of humanity around them
are taken as a matter of course and hardly pro-
woke a thought This Is one among the many
curious contradictions OF complex humanity. and
IL IL almost impossible to separate the true from
the false the dross from the gold in ones own
nature while TO see ones self rs others Is ono
of the most difficult problems OF our existence.
think.
The The proof of a humane nature is not what one
feels but what one actually does for others
FORGET AND FORGIVE
"I hear that Mrs. A. Is going to return to
New-York after her long stay abroad" said one
of her old acquaintance. speaking or fashion,
sble woman who. half dozen years ago. had
been the heroine Of much-discusscd scandal
about which at the time the opinions OF the social
world were almost equally divided What do you
suppose people will do about herr" she continued
"Will she be visited, do you think7"
..What do you mean TO do about 1t yourselfr'
IT shall act just II nothing had ever happened 4"
was the answer. There Is practically statute
N limit alton for all social Offences five years are
| enough TO condone anything or. at least. long
| enough for people to forget It. Things cannot be
talked about forever they had far better die out.
! and the old motto. Forget and forgive. is para
! phrased by society into Forget and don't care
| There IL too much TO do and TO think OF to keep
| track Of every ones misdemeanors. You'll see IN
/ the case of Mrs A.; the old stories viii hardly