New-York tribune., 1897-07-04
I'm THE SOCIAL WORLD.
MUTUAL. OBLIGATIONS OF HOST AND
GUEST MODIFIED.
|ExpENsEs OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE NAY PROPERLY
BE PAID BY THOSE WHOM YoU INVITE
TUE .nvANrAGEs OF CIIRLS

BE PAID BY THOSE WHOM YoU INVITE
THE ADVANTAGES OF cuRIs.
It is Just as we'll to be posted IN up-to-date e;i-
ouette In regard to the mutual obligations OF host
and guest before starting out on summer Visi'-
ing tour nowadays. fer nothing has chanseo more
with the times than these relations. which from
state of mutual dependence have developed into
one of such pronounced independence that the un-
initiated visitor is ap, TO feel neglected unless
forewarned of the latest fashionable ethics OF so
ciol life at Newport Bar Harbor and other ultra
smart places.
How is Mrs Nj this summer?' was asked re-
Gently Of a guest OF the house
Every well, / suppose" was the answer. "out
have hardly seen her. The first day I was here
she dined out ard the second dined out and
we both had engagements for the two lunch
cons l am really fond OF Minnie NJ. nope
shall be able to see something or her oeiore
leave.
"It seens too bad should have to leave you for
,bree evenings in succession" said her hostess TO
a friend who od-fashioned enough TO imagine
that she visited her schoolfellow for the sake OF
renewing old intercourse but you quite unoe'-
stand how 1t is. do you not?' And the guest was
Obliged perforce to say that she did. aithough
.ba fo,t herself puzzled as 10 why she had been
invited at all
Another exploded idea is the ce-accepted con-
ventionaity Of the host paying for MS guest a'
outside functionsat the club. fees Tor games e'c'
Now
thing outside OF the house and It's belongings-ah
understanding which gives mutual satisfaction 10
che entertainer and the entertained the dues !or IL
guest being a really serious expense for those VINO
keep open house Ii Is rather a pity that this new
depar;urc is not more generally understood. as IL
IS no uncommon thing TO hear would-De eItertd,
ers lament the extraneous expenses wnlcn reanE
prevent their asking otherwise wished-ior guest.
III the world is becoming more selfish II is also
becoming more sensible and where there mere Is So. a
succession OF guests at the watering pace COT
taees the rule of absolute independence, ooth IN
the way of outside expense ana social ireeooni.
must be established entertaining ones friends
would necessarily cease. the younger memoers OF
the family finding that the old-fashoned IDEAS Oh
hospitality would seriously interfere win their
own summer pleasure. and the patertaminas
his own progeny were a sufficient outlay. as far
as he concerned.
II Is far better, therefore, to have weI-unoet-
stood and well-defned rules in such matters II Is
delightful to have guests but II Is not deligntiu
for either them or their hosts that thelr VISITS
should involve large expenditure OF tlme anu
money on TIE part Of their entertainers: and CODE
OF etiquette In regard 10 such matters which shou1
be thoroughly understood on both sides would
ocs one.
IDEAS FOR TABLE-COVERS.
Table-covers made OF colored denim. which now
comes in the loveest shades of green old rose
and light blue, and simply finished on the hem with
a row OF fancy stitching in doube-twised un-
b,.ached white embroidery cotton, are very pretty
for the different bedrooms OF country house. The