The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1897-06-26
HE OLD, OLD STORY
Advice on Love, Courtship and Marriage
Given Fifty Wears Ago.

Advice on Love, Courtship and Marriage
Given Fifty Years Ago.
"The Mystery Of Love, Courtship and
Marriage" is the title of little book
which, though published 80 years ago, con-
tains much advice that is as sensible now
as it was then. "Flattcry," says the au-
thor, whose sex is not revealed by the title
page and is not easy to guess from in
ternal evidence, ais powerful weapon in
the art of making love. Never lived there
yet man or woman but that in some way
or other could be flattered. The great point
is to know in what way to use 1t. young
lady will feel flattercd if you get chance,
young man, to tell her mother about tie
good qualities of her daughter. Never fear
but the daughter will hear of 1t. The
author dwells ut some length ON the subtle
flattery conveyed in applying what is ordi-
narily termed pet name" to the object
of ones affection and repeats with en-
phasis the admonition that faint heart
never won fair lady"
Then the author fits the shoe to the other
foot "There is no improperly, " he or she
says, Sin lady's taking any reasonable
measures to induce her beau TO make his
proposal when he is either backward, slow
or bashful" The advice of old Weller to
"bevare of vidders" is Endorsed in only
half hearted way. "In making love to
widow" our author says, "you have
nothing to do but TO answer her questions
and to return her caresscs. In making
love to a widow, then, you must first be
sure that you want her for IA wife, as it
will not be safe to trust yourself within
the pale of her influence if you expect ever
to got off heart whole" She will certainly
catch you in her tolls, If she pleases. She,
of course does not give you much chance
to exhibit those romantic proofs of attach
ment which young girls delight in, but
will discuss the marriage ceremony and
plans for the future with the same cool
ness and deliberation as If she were select
ing her furniture and household goods
Considering all her peculiarities, the court
ship of widow is mere formal matter
of business. Any man with sufficient
nerve to use his own Judgment in the pur-
chase of horse may court a widow with
out trouble and without advice.
Twenty ways of popping the question
are advanced, and the author concludes the
advice for wooers and the wooed with the
following axiom: GAS a general rule u
gentleman need never be refused. Every
woman, except a heartless coquette, can
easily discourage man that she does not
intend to marry before matters come to
the point of declaration. 1t is very true
that some men are woefully blinded in this
thing of lovemaking and do not get their
eyes open until they are kicked. "-San
Francisco Argonaut-
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Burton House, Burton, w. Va, and
one of the most widely known men
in the state, was cured of rheuma-
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He says: 81 have not sufficient COM
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told me that nothing could be done
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1894, Mr.. Evans, then salesman for
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Co. wholesale agents for the Hawaiian
islands.