Ellsworth American. [volume] (Ellsworth, Me.) 1855-current, 1897-08-19
SOME RAMBLING THOUGHTS.
BY "NEMo".
Copyrighted by Dave 4 Tabor.I

Copyrighted by Dave Tabor.
To YOUNG MEN IN LOVE I'D article):
Admitting the truth Of all l said to you
last week about the compelling force of
love and its molding influence, so strange
that purified thought has forced out
grossness, so transforming that music is
in your soul and poetry on your tongue,
SO volcanic that the crust OF self1hness
thick over your heart is rent asunder and
a stream of thoughtfulness for another
gushes forth: admitting this, l say, you
must concede another fact that exists in
in every Christian civilizations: every
young fellow, no matter how lowly or
lofty, no matter how uneducated or
learned, no matter how badly or well
brought up, gains from his feeling OF de-
votion to one dear woman-choice OF his
heart-a glimpse at least of the real
grandeur of living and a ray at least OF
the sunshine Of life possible to all OF us
forever and ever through woman, the
weak strong complement OF man. This
gift OF better understanding OF the re-
sponsibility of existence comes to all who
truly love; with some it fingers for aye,
with others it vanishes like the dew on
summer morning. But to all it comes,
whether treasured or disregarded.
Please now-for here my heartfelt APP
peal to you whose steps are springy with
hope must begin--look around you. Look
well at many Of those who having loved
each other and truly, years ago passed
into marriage, state which in your pres
ent feeling seems the one thing above all
others to be desired. Study them closely.
for mayhap you are looking in pro-
phetic mirror!
The youth OF ten summers ago goes to
his daily duties now like a machine, and
like mere machine he turns homeward
at night. Buoyancy has disappeared.
He plods much like horse piods, with
no motion taken unless forced to it by
external necessity. Where he once
obeyed a gentle voice with aIacrity, glory
ing in sacrifice, leaping to her tasks Che
was just as sincere as you are, he is apt
now to grumble at even the Harvesting of
the horse for her to drive. HeappreaChes
the maiden OF ten years ago more often
with complaining than with praise. AT
eventide he wraps himself up in silence,
doing nothing to enliven the hours, or
away he goes to the society OF the club or
the grocery, or the saloon or worse. The
ordinary courtesy prompted by civilized
feeling towards women is forgotten " hen
with his wife, and he finds in marriage
merely permission to be rude to one
woman wit bout fear OF rebuke. The fra
GRANGE of love that exists in tiny atten-
tons like opening the door, raising he
hat, and saving choice portions for her Mt
table, has evaporated and left no trace
behind.
II occas ionaly he his name is LEGION
thinks backward along the way he has
Travelled, his puzzled heart will admit
with groan that no matter how sweet
the uncertainties and hopes and dream
ings OF courtship, marriage, with its
knowledge and intimacy, has scattered
all. Sunshine has been followed by
gloom; the rosy tints OF the dawn OF love
by the unrelieved stretches OF a dun col
ored day.
So, lads, though you are likely to deny
such a thing and probably ready to argue
with me most vigorously about it, there
Is a possibility, not very remote, il we
may judge from others, that your heart s
feelings will change and the glorious
oasis you are resting in Capable OF be-
coming beauteous kingdom under your
care), will witness your back turned on
its pleasures and your face set towards a
dreary desert journey, like the one you
have travelled before you found your dear
love. AS fellows traversing but once the
pathway OF life, let US talk with our
hearts close together.
To avoid the misery depict, you must
keep alive in your heart its present con-
viction that perfect love consists as much
In communion with her dear mind and
spirit as it does in securing contact with
her precious body. know you have felt
this way, and ought to still, for you like
10 think as she does; opinions and beliefs
expressed by her tender lips and her
bright eyes have become for while more
real touches OF divine wisdom than you
think you ever heard before OF course
she is not the wisest mortal, but the
effect on you is just as good AS il she We're;
for il draws you to her side and you bot h
rejoice in being together. II this feeling
can be made to last, your future will be
one OF beautiful growth in wisdom and