Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1897-07-29

Some Advice to Those WHO Live in I
suburban Districts.

Some Advice to Those WHO Live in the
suburban Districts.
There are solpe people who imagine
that residents in the country are both
ignorant OF AMI Indifferent 10 all mat
ters connected With etiquette. that they
do not trouble kither to know or do the
correct thing, that they throw all
ceremony to the winds and follow the
dictates OF their own sweet will in all
social matters. This is, of course, an
extreme view, but it Is one that is TO a
certain extent held by some folks,
though it is all entirely errDneous, for
country folk are not only Just as but
even more particular about these mat
tiers than are the dwellers in town, for
new idaas and rev ways, both of man
ner and speech, are not SO easily nc-
cepted or adopted by the former as by
tho latter. Thete is no doubt less stiff
ness and more sociability in the coun-
try. for people are thrown more together
and are more dependent upon one an
other for comptnionship, for kindness
and attention. 1t makes little Or no
difference who is ones n,ighbor in
town, but in the country ii is NEST
important mHtter, says The Lady.
Although the rules OF etiquette that
govern society are the same in tine
country as in the town, there are one
or two little chstous that are diHsimi-
lar, as, for instance, the matter of first
visits. The newcomer can neither call
nor leave curdb first. Ii ia tho resi-
dents who take the initiative in the
matter, and this whether they nave a
previous acquaintance with the new
conner or not, dnd the same rule regard
ing first visits holds good also in noun-
try towns and pld cathedral cities.
10 the country, when visitors call
early in the afternoon, which is often
the case when people live at some dis
lance from one another, ard have long
drive, tea should be ordered for them
by the hosteas, even il it should he
earlier than tire usual hour for it; and,
though wine p never offered to after
noon callers id town, 1t is quito correct
to offer it to gentlemen visitors in the
country. Wbln lady drives herself,
and has no groom in attendauce-fo for
though ladies do not drive themselves
in the town without being attended by
groom they bitten do so in the coun-
try-the servant who opens the dour to
them senus fol some one to hold the
uutes UT pony hHeH tuiS IL uune,
the lady, at ths conclusion OF her visit,
should give tn man or boy who does
this for her some little gratuity in re.
turn for his services. This 10 always ex,
pected of her. and should not be forgot.
| ten. The sun given need not be q
large One-a sispeuce or shilling will
be quite sufficient for the purpose. Oh
course, when groom Is in attendance
this is not necessary. Sometimes when
visitors have driven long distance
which is often the case iu the country
tho carriage, instead of remaining al
the door as ID town, is sent round tc
the stables, and the horses taken out.
When this has been done. the visitor,
before rising to take leave of hei
hostess, should ask il she might inc
and oruer her carriage, aud the hostess,
unless gentleman is present to do &C
for her, rings the hell, and when the
servant enters. the visitor should ash
for her carriage. When it comes round
the servant returns and announces thai
it is ready, and the visitor then rise,
and takes leave of the hostess. Sht
does rot 60 out and wait in the hal
until the carriage comes round, hui
remains 10 the drawing room with hei
hostess until its arrival 10 announced.