The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1897-05-16


where there are thousands who possess
an allowance from their husbands, or who
have money in their own right. there are
millions who never have a cent that they
are not obliged to ask their husbands for.
There is no question of gift about H..
At the altar he endowed her with all his
worldly goods. and he thinks he has lived
I'D to the letter of his vow when he tells
her that all he has is as much hers as his
But unless that oft-quoted saying is fol-
lowed up by a certain sum, no matter how
small, which is, in truth, her very own,
she feels that that clause in the marriage
service might as well have been stricken
out
When wives as universally share In add
ing to the general prosIN-ity of the home
by managing the house. keeping their hus-
bands clothes in order and caring for the
children, as men always admit Is the
case. wives are actually adding dollars 20
their husbands income. Then ought not
a man to divide that same income with
his wife, in the form Of an allowance, for
which, If only TO add to her self-respect.
he has no more right to call her to ac-
count than she has to insist upon seeing
an itemized account of his expenditures?
have nothing 10 say about extrava-
CANT or untrustworthy wives, who do not
come into the subject at all. / am only re-
ferring to the magnificent multitude of
good, careful. thrifty, typical American
wives, whose sole aim in life is to make
a happy home for husband and children
Nor am l denying that these women have
ali their wishes granted, and are allowed
10 spend their husbands money with rea-
sonable freedom, provided they account
for ii afterward. l am only asserting that
every married woman, from the farmers
wife to that of the bank president, should
have some money regularly which is sa-
credly ner own.
Perhaps mem think I am exaggerating
the evil Perhaps they don't know that
the only advice married women give TO
engaged girls, which never varies, is, BE
sure you ask for an allowance from the
FIRST, because if you don't you may never
get it,
. suppose that the majority of men
don't know that their wives. have to ask
them for money. OF course, 1t doesn't
seem so terrible to those of US whose
fathers occasionally want to keep back
enough money to buy coal, when our
daughterly demands get refused. But we
never imagine that a girls lover-husband,
this courteous stranger whom she has
loved and married, could ever forget his
theater and American-Beauty days sufti-
GENTLY to say, What did you do with that
dollar / gave you yesterday
well. here l am again with my sum
rner sewing way behindhand, and no pros
meet of catching up with my wardrobe
demands before midsummer. Last season
1 declared that another time would start
on my dimities and ginghams as early
as January, and when warm weather
came I wouldn't be hurried to death get
ting together a few suitable clothes. But
as usual"
Cas- usual" laughs another voice, you
forg6t all about your good intentions
while the fashion books were turning
out models for winter gowns. Oh!
know these sewing resolutions! Haven't
I made them again and again. It's the
same way with my Christmas presents.
After every rush and tumble scramble
TO select gifts / vow that next year
will make out my list some time In Sep
TENDER, and round it up before the holi-
day rush begins. But Christmas Eve
always finds me scurrying about, finish
ing up delayed shopping.
There's one resolution 1 make at the
end of every summer" a third feminine
tongue joins in. THAT is, TO fix a rose
Jar as surely as the roses bloom again.
i love sweet things, and I've wanted a
potpourri for years, but somehow the
roses come and 90, the recipes for making
a spicy potpourri mysteriously disappear
from my scrap book, and my rose jar
continues to pose as a piece of useless
bric-a-brac with never scent of roses
aboHt it."
Thank goodness there are others who
don't live up TO their intentions" says
fourth voice. My conscience pricks me
swfully for ignoring so many of mine.
The shortest lived of my resolutions has
TO do with cleaning house. 1 simply hate
pulling down draperies, scrubbing paint
and taking up carpets in warm weather,
and as regularly as I'm caught doing 1t
say to myself: Well, next spring I'll be-
cleaning done before the first fly APP
pears and yet, and yet"
1--WE are all still resolving murmurs
one Of the party, and a sigh of assent
sweeps round the tea-drinking circle.
Opinions differ as to what constitutes
an ideal hostess. but, according TO a num-
Der of society women, who were recently
discussing the subject, here are some Of
the indispensable qualities she must pos
sess.
She must make you feel individually
that you are the favored guest.
She must make you feel perfectly at
home.
She must see everything, and yet pos
sess the art Of seeming to see nothing.
She must never look bored
She must be able TO hear the same
story over a hundred different times, and
still be competent to smile approvingly
at the right point.
She must know how to get congenial peo-
pie together.
She must know how TO keep discussions
of religion and politics Off Of the carpet.
She must know how to compliment a
guests gown.
She must never moRopolize the CONVEX
cation.
She must know how to let people be
mistaken.
She must be generous enough 10 let
other people have different opinions from
hers.
She must never let any ono be slight
90, or overlooked.
She must know when To ask the amateur
musician 70 display their talents.
She must never dress as handsomely as
her guests.
She must be perfectly unselhsh about
her own pleasures