The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1897-12-20

Is as natural as TO live, and our we'll
bred young people in society are seeking
success and admiration and praise while
they gracefully live In other peoples
houses but In their own homes they
realize that the love that governs there
cannot be quehched and viii moi be lost
10 them lei them tax its faithfulness as
they may.
Yet certainly much can be done by
persistent, patient SETTING fnrlh Of the
charm of happy family intercourse aud
by unfaililg sweetness OF temper and
cheerfuiness on the part Of the heads
of the house.
Il has seemed 10 the writer that faith
ers cooperate less earnestly than they
might in demanding n more chiyhlrlc
treatment OF the mother, who combines
so many offices In one, In watching
with increasing admiration the life OF
a nelghhoring family where courtesy
marked the most trivial act OF one to-
ward another It gradually became ap-
parent that the marked Difference shown
the lovely mother sprang from direct
Imitation OF her husbands unfalliug
tenderness towards her
There We're jolly athletic boys In pa
triarchal numbers In this household, and
their home looked down a highway lead
Ing by steep grade from the top to the
bottom OF q hill, Times without num-
Der have seen this merry clan Just at
the foot OF the hill doff all their caps and
make the most gallant saiutatIaR; they
had Just caught sight of their mothers
pleasant face on the outlook for their re-
turn, They met her eagerly receiving
her kiss with uncovered heads and
standing aside that she might have pre-
cedence In entering her own door. They
We're boys to the hearts core, jubiIant.
restless athletic and merry, but In four
years close ueiEhhorhuod | never heard
n word OF fraternal rudeness; never
saw mean or selfish advantage taken,
nor did any instance occur when they
were not as conslderate of each other
and Of home ms II they were guests who
tarried but night, Something besides
natural tendencies brought about these
results, and beyond the ordinary train
ing OF an educated Christian teaching,
II seemed to me to come from the lnflu-
enee Of their fathers gentle courtesy 10
their mother.
II courtesy OF manner has charm and
most delightful influences. courtesy of
speech goes yet further, and, alas! rude
ness Of the tongue Is remembered when
the roughness of reconsideration is for
gotten, The jeerlng laughter over some
unavoidable error; the quick ungracious
contradiction, the implied ignorance.
which Is so common in the comments Of
the young men upon their ell5rSiR these
days, remain like the poisoned heads OF
arrows and cause lasting sore. The
sense of being too old fashioned to 5eem
distinguished, of being so little up to the
Innovations OF the time as 10 seem ridic-
ulous, OF approaching sanile dementia
by adherence to theories and manners
of their youth, are the menta phases
only too familiar to the head of many
an American household IL day, where
the chan" or gFaver criticism at her
own dinner table have made wounds In
mothers heart which will never en-
,irely heal.
The aids against these sorrowfu, con-
di,ions lie In the parents hands First
there should be n rule as stern as any
Medtan law under which rudcness and
contradiction and discourtesy should be
regarded as wrong In the same sense as
any other punishable naughtlness In
childhood. and by other fitting discipline
us years 20 on-a rule by which the etl-
Quette Of home lie should be as fixed
and as necessary as in any other possi-
BILE social relation, and Its violations
should bring results which can be felt
and remembered: not a formula OF stlfl
restrictions alien to real feeling. but by
the enforcement of the rights of others
and the adoption OF that great law from
which good manners form their own de-
taIlS-the law OF self-forgetfulness and
enieavor to make others happy. Bad
manners and making things unpleasant
AT home come from pure selhshness. and
II Is cruel to let child grow up sell
fshIy.
TO help others lies in the tactful, per.
sistcnt shUwing--n lifelong demoRstra-
tion-of the happiness which comes
from The living the life of gentleman
or u gentlewoman. whose courtesy and
thoughtrulness In the world Is drawn
from the fouutainhead at home and has
ceased to be polish and become an In
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