The Houma courier. (Houma, La.) 1878-1939, 1897-05-22
HUSBANDS. FAULTS.
Hrs. Beecher's Advice to Young Mar
ried People.

MS. Advice to Young Mar
ried People.
In writing of marital worries and
pleasures Mrs. Henry Ward Beecher
said:
Did you never tell your husband of
some great excellence of virtue in your
friends husband, purposely to remind
him of some shortening OF fault which
you had seen in his own habits or char
acter?
Do you ever treat your husband, when
in company, with inattention or impa-
thence, while you politely and cordially
accepted the attentions of other and
less noble men?
Do you ever impatiently blame him
in the presence Off third party? What
woman is more sensitive to blame in the
presence of others than a husband,
when the censure comes from his wife's
lips9
Are you ever cross and silent in your
own home, with no one to entertain but
your husband, yet full of life, wit and
%amiaDility in company?
While it is just that husbands should
listen and receive this counsel and by
the lesson it teaches endeavor to aug
ment the joys Of home, should not wives
also take its truth into their own
hearts2 Are we not equally likely to
trespass in the same way? Aye, more
so. For home is our kingdom, where
we may reign supreme if we have wis
dom to bold the scepter with a judicious
hand!
| have seen young people begin life
with every promise of the most perfect
happiness, yet make entire shipwreck
of, it by their own unguarded words,
impatient looks and unrestrained tenn
pers,
A talent for spicy and brilliant rep
artee may enliven a party and give the
highest zest and piquancy to social in
%tercourse, endowing it's possessor with
a certain position, enviable or other
wise; but in the home circle it is a dam
gerous gift, and, unfortunately, more
frequently bestowed upon the wife
than upon the husband.
How often have we recoiled, as from a
blow, when hearing those who should
be one in heart draw comparisons pre-
judicial to their own companion and to
the credit of another, and we grieve to
say that such remarks are quite as often
heard from the wife as from the hus-
band.
Do they ever recall that when they
gave the marriage roy they took the
care of each others honor and respecta-
bility into their own hands to cherish
or destroy? God has made that bond
so inseparable that all honor bestowed
on the passes over and is shared by
the other, and all disgrace or error that
is charged to the one is equally in
furious to the other.
l fully understand all that is said of
mans rough, abrupt, ~overbearing ways.
There is too much truth in it. Think
there is, naturally, a little spice of tyr
amy in every mans composition, and
perhaps from the days of Queen Bess up
to the present time we might find
enough of the same quality in u own
sex to establish our claims to sister
hood.
But, admitting that these are purely
masculine elements, do we not know
how'to conquer or soften these uncom-
Portable and undesirable characters
tics?
By ge%ntlepess and love woman may,
II she will, assert her power and find
men most willing subjects. But AFRO
gance and Impotence viii find rough
and stubborn opponents. Man is no
where found so true to his natural i'm
pulses as in the sacred precincts of
home, If one would be sure of his true
character, go to the domestic circle un-
expectedly.
1t is not when away from home or
in the pursuits of business or pleasure
that one sees him in natural condition.
In the bosom of his family he will be
found exercising his true spirit.
There you will learn the strength of
conjugal ties, and there his true char
acter will stand before you, glowing in
excellence or shrinking into insignifi-
cance.-Philadelphia Press.