The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1897-03-14
STREET ETIQUETTE.
GOOD MANNERS FOR MEN AND
WOMEN WHEN OUT OF DOORS.
How to Conduct Oneself in Public
Conveyance, When Walking With
or Meeting Friend, With Minor
Points of Good Breeding.

There is no attention so useless and
annoying, offered by a well-meaning
young man to a woman, as that OF
steering her about the public higkxays
by her elbows. At night man always
offers his feminine companion his arm
his left arm, invariably. When walk
ing with two women at night he offers
only one his arm. and that to the elder
of the couple. BY daylight he never
offers his arm at all. unless the lady is.
old and infirm, really in need of it, and
never must he venture to put his hand
under the elbow, and so rather push
than aid her along.
This IS a stupid, ungraceful custom,
and not in the least an assistance; it is
also familiarity. though it is not in
tended as such, and at any time, when
walking with a woman it is a super
fiuous and annoying attention to seize
or touch the elbow as she comes to
puddle or a street crossing. A cour<
teous man will always place a lady on
the inside of the street-that is, near
est the house line-keep step with her.
moderate his pace to hers, lift his hat
when she bows, whether he knows her
friend or not, let her pass before him
upstairs and into any vehicle. This
same man will never presume to re-
tain his pipe, cigarette or cigar when
he walks in public with a woman, nor
should he ask her permission to
make light and smoke in her pres
ence on the street. At the same time
he must not swing his cane or UNI
brella about, and wear his hands in
his pockets. though he need not, if he
meets and talks to a woman in public,
keep his hat in his hand.
RECOGNITIONS AND MEETINGS.
1t is etiquette, when a gentleman
meets lady on the street and wishes
to speak to her at length, for him to
turn out of his own course and walk
beside her, without bringing her TO
a halt to listen to him. As he comes
up he lifts his hat. asks permission TO
join her, resumes his hat instantly and
lifts it again when he leaves her. If
she arrives at her door and he fingers
there for a few words he need not
stand bareheaded. When bowling in
the street ne lifts his hat a few inches
and inclines his head, and he invaria-
bly, waits for her to recognize him
first, unless they are good friends of
long acquaintance. Then the recogni-
ton is spontaneous on both sides. No
man, when walking with lady, should
stop to speak with an acquaintance
of his own, or ask another person to
join them, though the other person
may be his own sister or mother
Should he accompany lady to her
own door, or to the house where she
may be going to pay call. he walks
up the steps of the house and does not
leave her until the door is opened and
she passes in. In case it is a shop she
is bound for, he leaves her at the door
and does not presume to enter how
ever much he may wish, unless he in
tends at least Stimulating a purchase,
or she asks his company further. If
she wishes to enter a public conveyance
it is in best taste for him TO remain
signal it for her see her safely on the
platform of the car, or close her cab
door, and then. lifting his hat. pass on.
FOR STREET CONVEYANCES.
A man is not obligated ever to pay a
woman's car or cab fare unless he has
requested her 10 accompany him to
some place of amusement in either Of
these vehicles. 1t is true that this at
tention in a street car or bus is on
his part always permissible, if they
enter the conveyance on his or her in
vitation whether they meet in the We
hicle, or enter it together by accident.
So trifiing is the sum involved that no
man can begrudge it, nor any woman
refuse to accept it. In the case of a
civility for a man to offer payment Of
it's hire, unless he is its temporary
proprietor, and the feminine inmate
his guest.
In a street car no gentleman ever
fails TO offer his seat to a woman when
the conveyance is full To do this he
rises, lifts his hat, and if the woman
he would oblige does not see what he
intends, ne makes his offer of a seat
and again lifts his hat in acknowledge
ment of her thanks. 1t is a fact equal
ly we'll established that no gentleman
ever eXpectOrateS on the sidewalk cS
on the floor of a car, nor out of hiS
carriage window. He uses his hand
kerchief for this purpose. whether or
not he is in a woman's company; and
though she precedeS him when enter
ing a public conveyance, she follows
him out of it. If, when riding with
woman friend in a street car, she
rises to get out he stands up and lifts
his hat, but does not assist her out
unless she is infirm as we'll as elderly
ETIQUETTE FOR WOMEN.
1t is never kind nor graceful for a
woman to demur or try to force on a
man her money if he offers to pay her
car fare; neither is it good form. when
she is walking with friend and a gen.
tleman joins her, to refrSin from mak-k
ing an introduction between them.
The woman so introduced to a man
need not afterward recognize him, nor
need he expect her to. On the street,
when a man joins a woman. if walking
with her only a couple of blocks, she
can assuredly expect him TO relieve
her of any parcels, books. etc, she
may be carrying, should they in he
least seem to inconvenience her. If a
man joins a woman on the street, and
his company is disagreeable as we'll as
unwished for, she need only quietly
asked to be excused. and he will see
at once her desire and leave.
There is on the whole though no
clearer exposition of a careless, Cx-
travagant and untidy character made
in public than by the woman who per-
mits her skirt to trail unified through
the dust, mud or CRIME of the city
streets. A well-bred woman invariably
knows how or learns the art of lifting
and holding aloft dainty petticoats
With equal care she always refrains
if possible from cutting even her dead
lest enemy in public. In case she
nears a person she prefers not to bow
to. she refrains from bowling at them.
BY keeping her glance persistently
out of their direction she avoids but
does not actually deny recognition.
FANNY ENDERS