The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1897-06-28
HOW TO TREAT YOUR HUSBAND
The Rev. Mr.. Scudder Tells the At
tributes of the Ideal Nife.

TIL Rev. John L. Scudder last night
preached in the Tabernacle on the sub
ject. How to Treat Your Husband" The
text was: Teach the young women to
love their husbands, to be discreet,
chaste, keepers at home. good ard ODE
dent to their own husbands"
Mr.. Scudder said:-ssSt. Paul was a
bachelor. Anyone could tell tina from a
glance at the text, for none but a bachelor
would expect to find all these fine qualities
in any one woman. Still it is well to set
up a high ideal. If st. Paul was not a
married man he was somewhat of a phil
osopher and he very wisely put love first.
for love is the soil from which all other
domestic virtues obtain their nourish-
ment. The various evils which are in the
habit of visiting the hearth stone and
creating matrimonial discord are trace
able in almost every instance to a lack of
love on the part of the husband for the
wife or the wife for the husband. There
are a great many disagreeable women in
this world and not a few of these are
married. Consequently I endorse the sem
timents of the philosopher Who remarked
that none but the brave deserve the fair
and none but the brave can live with
some of Them The first kind I shall
mention are more exasperating than they
are disagreeable. They usually possess
many personal charms. The trouble with
them is they are altogether too amiable.
They do not confne their love to their
own husbands. They distribute it too
freely. An ideal wife would not receive
even the harmless attention Of other men
when she knows they annoy her hus-
band. Granted that men are sometimes
over jealous and unreasonable, still it is
the duty of the married woman to re-
spect her husbands wishes in this matter
and make sacrifice for loves sake.
Another class of women who make
trouble in the home are the excessively
Independent women, such as are bound
to have their own way. Now. the ideal
wife has her way whenever she can get
it without a disturbance, but this kin of
wife will have it at all hazards. Some
women. are born autocrats n shortly
after the marriage ceremony they begin
to ight their husbands. Marriage makes
two people one, she exclairns, and want
you to know, sir, that / am the one. If
have peace; but if you cross me you
might as well understand first as last
there will be war; Man is a peculiar mix
ture of leniency and pride. Never call his
authority in question and in the great
majority Of cases he will not care to exer-
else it. Husbands are willing to let their
wives hold the helm most of the time.
The women can steer, but the men want
it distinctly understood their wives are
steering with their consent and permits
sion. A prudent woman knows what a
little coaxing inc ~cajolery will accom-
plish. She says: Now, husband, / shall
do exactly as you say, but, deary, I want
very much to do so and So Then she
looks her prettiest, kisses the old fool
and smiles a knoWing smile. Now what
can a husband do when his wife adopts
this peculiar form of military tactics. If
he is any kind of a man he gracefully
surrenders. Another characteristic of an
ideal wife consists in her ability to con
troll her temper and especially her tongue,
which is the principal vehicle and weapon
Of a Woman's spite. Remember this,
young wife, If your husband is at fault
you can never reclaim him by reproaches
and asperity of treatment. Take the same
interest in him and show him the same
courtesy you did before you were mar
ried. Be careful, bou your personal APP
pearance. Don't grow s~loveniy. Live out
your religion from day to day. Then, in
deed, you will be an ideal wife and your
home will be a heaven