The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1897-12-02
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bound to finish the sentence she is bent
on utteping that very moment or never.
There is no greater assurance of a happy
home than a calm. well regulated voice.
and the woman who possesses 1t has won
half the victory toward social ana 40
nestle success"
once saw a man move along IN a
peaceful way as If his professional cares
were as the sand fly to the elephant l
wondered how he had achieved SO re-
sponsible a position.
1 saw him once stand firm, calm. splen-
did in a great crisis, directing otners'
making history with forceful ease, guid-
ing an imperiled moment to deliberate
safety. Then L knew why he was there.
The dean of that mans profession sa1o
to me lin answer to a emark mat II
seemed any man would lose his mead
at such a moment):-"Had he lost ms
head he would be an ordinary man
among ordinary men,"
The lesson stayed with me-, and now,
before / vainly wonder what element II
is in a man or woman that puts them
in control of others, 1 watch their men
tai attitude in a trying moment. There's
the testi
This idea was brought to me on
Thanksgiving Eve while sitting in the
fur department of a great firm. A STEM
der. quiet-looking young woman was at
the desk. A swarm of, women and men
were awaiting attention. A holiday was
approaching, there had been ice on the
ground and a city of people wanted their
furs-new ones, repaired ones and stored
ones. A score of young assistants were
rushing hither and yon, some with scowls,
calculations, irritation or carelessness.
Many were doing their best, but the ex-
element of the rush had gone to their
heads and nerves.
At the desk the quiet-faced girl was
directing, signing, answering. Every one
was calling her; all customers demanding
her, She was constantly moving away on
an errand, satisfying questioners along
the line as she accomplished her mission.
Turning out tons of work without a
frewn, moving swiftly without irritation!
Then 1 knew why she had been chosen
to ~superintend.
1t is somewhat easier to get through a
pressing moment out of a tight corner
If you can make sufficient noise about it.
To tell every one what an exigency it is
and how you are well-nigh crazy seems
to let off steam.
But the woman or man to be senvied
is the one who has the entire nerve sys-
tenn so in control that not a moment is
lost. not a word uselessly spoken. These
are the people who come out of the fray
without losing all vitality.
Is it natural or acquired? Can 1t be
cultivated?
Certainly people must be born with it,
otherwise we should never nave had the
great heroes of the world. But l think
repose in trying moments can be culti-
waited in our own narrow circle. Half the
talking we do in a nervous moment comes
from sheer nervousness, and unconscious
Iy. If we watch ourselves at such times,
it is marvellous to find how much we can
accomplish by simply holding ourselves
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Try it!
every one of US has his and her own
ailments" writes Edward W. Box in the
December Ladies' Home Journal" de-
L Ii Lie 0AlRlCoSoiil iAR A~AJ PO0PA>
have of discussing their bodily ills. 1T is
enough for us all to keep well ourselves:
to be compelled to listen to the ilments
of others does not make that task any
easier. Besides all this, these unneces-
sary narratives of personal ailments are
positively injurious to ourselves. Physi-
clans all agree that many of the slight
illnesses, of which some people make SO
much, could be cured if they would but
take their minds from themselves. Too
many people work themselves into ILL
nesses, or prevent themselves from get
ting well, by talking about a petty all
ment, which, if forgotten, would, right
itself. I will not say that women, more
as the majority Of women have more leis-
ure han the majority of men, they are
more likely to let their minds dwell up
on every little i'll that assails them, and
talk about it. It seems to me that
of the most important lessons we can
all learn with the close of the year is to
refrain from infiicting upon others what
is purely personal to ourselves. Let is
cease this tiresome, this insonsiderate,
this unnecessary talk about our ailments.
Cold and hard as it may seem, the fact
is nevertheless true, and will ever re-
main so, that the vast majority of people
are interested in what is pleasant in our
lives, but not in what is unpleasant. Pains
and sorrows are elements in our lives
which are sacred and interesting only to
ourselves"
One gown, made for a December bride,
is of deep ivory satin, with a yelling of
white chiffon, to which Tiny punches of
orange blossoms are attached. The bod
ice is, of course, high necked and long
sieeved, but 1t is made with sleeves and
guimpe of the Chiffon, which, by cutting
a few stitches, slips out, leaving a beauti-
full low bodice of ivory satin. The clip
ping of a few more stitches will free the
ivory satin skirt of its bridal yelling of
chiffon and orange blossoms, and this
thrifty bride will v at her disposal an
f~aintest suggestion of having ever done
duty as a brida garment.
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growing to a phenomenal extent. They
are by no means Inexpensive, as the set
ting is often as, careful and genuine as
if the stones were real, though there is no
pretense that such is the case AT one
wedding recently the bridesmaids wore as
which were as beautiful to the casual eye
as the most splendid Oriental gems. Had
they been real they would nave been
worth a kings ransom; as 1t was the
cost the respectable sum of TWEEN
ty-ive dollars apiece.
It is always very bad taste for a girl to
select an expensive dress for her brides
maids, and then ask some friend who
band of maidens. unless she expects to
give her the gown. 1t is always in much
better taste to have the bridesmaids
gowns as simple as possible. Young girls
look their best in white, and the bride
wants a group of maidens about her in
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