Catoctin clarion. [volume] (Mechanicstown, Md.) 1871-1940, 1897-11-11
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other for life partners, but those prosalc
accounts must be squared if two would
live. and very sorry, indeed, is the
moment that reveals the fallacy of the
time. honored saving, Whats enough
for one is enough for two. AS matter
of fact. it very rarely is.
When it is too late. very, very often,
sentiment is baflled By unrelenting re-
alism.
To woman, in every event of life,
there ar" Two dictators. the head and
heart. The girl who starts on her way
heart free and with clear head, is a
happy girl indeed. She has not spent
years In fancying who it was that would
come to WOO her, and she does not make
the mistake Of thinking she must marry
the first man who asks her simply be-
cause he has asked her. There are
worse things than being an "old maid
for example, an unhappy wife.
Men are not wholly lacking in senti.
ment. One always experiences bit of
surprise TO discover mans actions
prompted by sentiment. But when you
do discover this, look well into it and
you will find it sentiment of the higher
order. 1t will stand we'll even on the
side that is practical.
l do not believe that man starts out
in life with the firmly rooted conviction
that somewhere in the wide world there
is a woman.-but one woman, waiting
tor him. He may hope that there is,
and be glad when he finds her, but he
does not sigh if he is long in discovering
her, nor make the mistake of thinking
the first woman who smiles g,aciously
upon him is "his fate" This is an ad.
vantage of training and of traditio",
too, for it is not an accepted belief that
sentiment plays any very material part
10 mans lille.
am sorry for the girl who is edu
Gated to believe that a girl who is not
engaged at 20 has made a general fail
ure of her opportunities. If girl is
educated TO think in this wise she is
very discontented and dissatisfied at
home, I know girl who told me
once that she could be quite happy ii
she was not sure that her mother was
ambitious to have her marry; that each
season they went away from home she
was quite miserable, because che felt
that season would be considered wasted
if she did not make a "catch.'' and
yet" said the girl, II do not want to
marry until find man with whom l
can be happy and contented." Sensi.
bic girl, I thought. foolish mother.
Can you think of any situation more
awkward than the girls, who has been
trained into the belief that all she has
to do is to marry to fulfill an ambition
or an ideal? | cannot.
1t would be very, very long story
to tell Of how many times the Prince
who is sought or accepted too quickly
turns out to be the wrong prince after
all.
1t is the better and more womanly
way not to waste time and sentiment
investing every man friend with a coat
Of romance.
I have been on the lookout for the
most popular girl. l think have found
her. Would you know her characters.
tics so that you would recognize her
should you happen to meet? Then
listen:
The most popular girl is not spoken
of as "a good fellow" She is properly
shocked at what Is hot woman,y, she
does not aim to be nannish therefore
is not "a good fellow, neither 10 she
prude. She talks of the best in art and
literature without being restrained by
narrowoess of thought. Men tell her
often how late they play poker, without
fear that she will think them repro
bates because they were not in bed by
midnight. Size will 90 TO the theater
in a street car if the man she goes with
must think twice before he expends the
price of carriage hire. She likes to keep
house. but should occasion require it,
would 90 bravely into the busy world.
She does not hold herself IN an attitude
of expectancy of pretty nothings that
most men know so poorly how to say,
neither is she on the defensive as though
expecting all men to say things they
should not say, and, above all she does
not think to find in every man she
chances to meet, The One.
In this description you have the best
type OF American maidenhood. The
ideal American girl may tie her pict,
uresqe hat under her chin with pict.
uresqe strings, but she does not simper
and is not much over sentimental In
deed. the popular girl Of the period