The record-union. [volume] (Sacramento, Calif.) 1891-1903, 1897-05-16
BESELENA'S PRATILE.

Especial Correspondence of Record Union)
PORTLAND (Or), May -, 1897
The worldly man has always told me
that the longer one lives in the world
the more one sees of its selfshness.
have never openly contradicted the
worldly man, nevertheless / have had
my own private and particular opinion
On the subject. / did not believe that
the majority of men and women were
selfish, but from a recent experience /
am beginning to think that after all,
the worldly man may have been right.
Self is the motive power that pushes
along this little world of ours The
great II is paramount, the little we"
sinks into insignificance. The joys
and griefs. sorrows and troubles of
others make but small impression, If
any, on the people not concerned. 1t
has been said that people will listen
TIC your troubles not because they are
really sorry for you, but because they
are too polits to let you see that they
are bored to death, or because they
wish to make capital of them after
wards OF course I do not believe that
this is true in all cases, but it is true
that a sincere, DISTINGUISHED, unselfish
friend is hard to find. The majority
of people where they are not directly
interested are slow to praise and quick
! to condemn.
It's not a pleasant thing to find out
the faults of ones neighbors; it has a
depressing and a revolutionary effect
upon one I say revolutionary because
1T turns ones ideas upside down. Peo-
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others. They criticise people and things
/ Of which they know absolutely nothing
about. Such criticisms are not only
unfair but unkind as well. l regret
i to say that this spirit is more para
mount in women than men. Men, as
rule. are broader in their judgments
+ less outspoken in their sentiments
Men know each other so much better
/ than women ever do. Women are ex-
acting. they often expect the impossi-
/ bic from a man. The mans idea and
/ the woman's idea are widely different
The woman expects the man she hon
ors with her interest, to be her equa
not only mentally but morally; and q
man. if he has one spark of manhood
in him, will strive to live UP to the
woman's ideal to the best of his abil-
Iity
/ A woman will be ten times kinder anC
/ think more of a man who is honestly
striving to lead a better life than she
will be to the man who has no need OF
/ reformation. | have never been ar
advocate of a woman marrying mar
| to reform him, because | have never
known such q case yet where the ex-
pertinent was a success, but if a mar
reforms before marriage. and because
he wishes to win the respect and es
TEEN of some good pure girl, in tnt
end he is likely TO make a model nus
band.
One Of the thrice joyous things o.
life is to be blessed with q contentet
disposition. 1t is not every one who
is endowed with this serenity of tenn
per 1t is one of the rare things o
life. and is hard for the man or WON
an of the disconnected type to appre
ciate or understand it, A man who i:
married to such a woman ought t
thank his lucky stars every hour in tn,
day. The contented woman is neve
an ambitious woman. she does not hav,
strong personal dislikes or likes. anc
she is not given to the cultivation o
fads. She is absolutely contented Will
her surroundings, she does not wish no
ask for anything else; she takes lif
philosophically and is always young
looking in consequence.