The news & observer. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1894-current, 1897-09-26

give any relief or remedy, 1t dlstresses
me, especially when the trouble II OF
domestic character. Now here is a letter
from man who says, 81 know man
a neighbor-who is of a warm, affectioh-
ate, passionate nature and loves MS
wife to distraction, but she is calm ana
cold and conservative by nature and,
therefore, Indifferent to his caresstS, and
whenever he ventures to kiss her al I'd put
his arms about her she repels hin with
such expressions as, oh, Tom, get way !;
don't bother me-, She is pt good
woman and loves her husband her
way, but she never meets him at t door
when he comes home tired or disal boint-
ed with his days work. The poor fellow
is really pining away and languishJ big for
lack of love-for reciprocity, as it'll were,
and can't get it. Now, what is thu rem
edy7 Can't you bring your uni versal
philosophy to bear upon this case and
solve the problem?
No, I cannot. / am helpless. Nothing
but time will equalize and harmonic that
couple. l am afraid their union was a
nisfit, but he took her for better or worse
and must be reconciled. In fact. he
ought 10 be thankful in these degenerate
days that he has found a pure, good
woman, even if she is not as tumultuous
in her love as he would like her to be.
But time is good doctor. Time will as
suage him down some and will tOhe her
up some, for q man and his wife get
more and more alike as the years rbll on.
There were some good friends At my
house last night and / seriously r$ad to
them this letter and asked for kdyice
about answering it. They all agreeh that
the man was not writing about his
neighbor, but was relating his ownlpitiful
condition.
A married man said, Write himvto get
away and quit bothering her whdn she
says So"
A bachelor friend said, Write him to
firt little with another mans wife and
she will come to her senses mightytquick
and return his caresses"
THAT is all you know about it'll said
another dame. THE fiirtations of h hus-
band destroys love and happiness, too
They are more apt to bring contempt and
even scorn. A true woman will suffer and
endure any fault or failing excepti that. =
A young married woman said timidly
"She must be very strange kind of a
woman not to like caressing, but / dc
think she ought to meet him at the door
and give him q smile or two when he
comes home.'
He must he a right good mans and
am sorry for him. said a lassie ID hel
teens. "Or maybe he is so horrid scoarss
and ugly that no self-respecting Eomar
would want him bothering her fori kisse:
and caresscs every time he came dbout.'
said lassie out of her teens
Maybe he smoked and his breath was
disagreeable," said a benedict whol never
used tobacco
SO / got but little comfort FROM this
goodly company and my wife continuef
the discourse by femarking in hee quiet
way, well think your friend had bet
ter have kept his misery to himself. Let
him stick to his promises that he made
at the altar
'Or apply for a writ Of mandamils AMI
make her kiss him according to law
said learned Judge who was present. =
would make her reciprocate if the case
was in my court. The writ of mandamus
is far-reaching and effectral process"
Well, of course, the Conversation drift
ed to the topic of May and December
marriages, with Frooms of mort thar
three score aIten and brides Of ttendel
years. Wen agree that if such aagroon
had anything to leave such bride be
sides hiename and would depart q is life
III 4 reasonable time she was just fed in
marrying him. But in the first pi1e, tn,
property should be in sight the did PR
ouon and it should be fixed, settled dow
cred, dovetailed, clinched upon ha, ane
there should be an implied CONTRACT that
he should die in strict accordance witt
the death rate, the expectation laid down
in the life insurance tables Indeedaif the
late frequency Of old men marrying
young women is to be multiplied ITO al
alarming extent, there should be fstab
lished death insurance office so thht tht
young girl could go to it and get policy
insuring the old mans death in a limit
ed time. and il he didn't die within the
time, the company should pay her Sc
much as she insured for-say $4,000 oil
$4,000 or $4,000, as the case mSy be
With the money, OF course, she could
live decently and even secure divorce
on the ground of fraud-fraud in not dy
ing according to hope and expectation
and an implied promise. Why, | know q
lady who married an old man twenty
eight years ago. He was sixty and she
but twenty and as sweet and pretty as q
ra;z-,- sickly and agreed
to settle on her $4,000. 10 be pai4-At his
death. He looked like ba--oid die in q
year, bat, bless s souls, my stweet
young sisters, he is living yet and sht
looks nearly as old as he does. Her boon
~ youth is gone. When she married sh,
was an orphan and soon became w,rs,
than an orphan, and she is childless. VIVA
q mistake she made What fraud va
nerpetrated upon her. What a wreck O.
earthly happiness. Young girls, beware
These unions are not according to natlr
and they shock the judgment and the .sSn
timent OF mankind There are WIDOW
enough to take these venerable widows
Int let the maidens remain single II Tn
cannot get n Young man Of their choice
And now as supplement to my ia
Indian letters, let me say that my inquI
ahout Lieut.. Paschal, who married >
rah the half-breed daughter OF Jon
Ridge. has been answered by MI. y,
Iilly. nephew of George w. Ia
schal. Mr. Lilly's mother was Pascnal
youngest sister, and died last year. age
e;ehty-one. Mr.. Lilly now lives IN
Louis. His grandfather Paschai vs.