The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1897-01-10

that, it is unreasonable and unjust. No
man would buy a fox hound expecting it
TO be bird dog, or put race horse to
work in cotton float. We do not de-
mand that the fragrant and graceful lily
shall blend as tremendously with a boiled
dinner as head of cabbage, yet every
man expects his wife, no matter what her
disposition or in what environment she
was reared, to be a shining exponent of
his pet tastes and whims.
NOW there are all sorts of nice girls any
one of whom would exactly suit some par
| ticular man. If he would only take the
trouble to hunt for her intelligently, in
stead of making his choice with his eyes
smut, as one does in grab bag at a church
fair. 1t would certainly seem only the
part OF common prudence for a man to
make up his mind whether society girl
would suit him best or a business wo-
man, whether he preferred an old maid
to widow, whether. he would find an
| athletic woman or one with missionary
tendencies most congenial. OF course, it
| is quite possible that the individual
woman he picked out might not be will
ing to have him, but having once cata-
logued himself, and her. to speak, no
would know in what class to continue his
Investigations.
When you come to think of it, there are
so many nice girls that choice is almost
invidious, and it is no wonder that so
many men take the first one that comes
their way, without ever inquiring into
the matter
Fatal mistake Chief among the women
who have helped men, to borrow Mr..
BoX's admirable phrase, are the women
who have refused them. Think of the
catastrophe it would have been if you
had married your first love. She was
generally the girl next door. 1t begun
when you were children, and you waited
at the fence to see her come out in her
back yard and then turned your back
and whistled and pretended not to see
her when she did come You laid red
apples on her shrine and stinted your
self in pocket money to feed her insa-
table appetite for soda water You took
her home from her first party, and both
of you were tongue-tied with embarrass-
ment until you nearly reached her door.
You won't tell" she whispered shyly,
and you answered with feeling: Sally,
I'm just as much ashamed as you are"
They sent Sally off to boarding school,
and she learned to do up her hair and
put on long frocks and when she came
home she snubbed you, and you thought
for two weary days you would die. But
you didn't. Love and the measles attack
the young lightly. The girl next door
married someone else, and it makes you
SILVER now to think-suppose it had been
you.
There's the society girl; she is generally
first choice, as one always wants a lux
ury, instead of a necessity. She's so pref
ty. and so dainty, and so surrounded with
luxury and beauty, she is like the fairy
princess of ones childish dreams. But
"hands off, should be the motto for the
poor man. She's a luxury intended only
for the rich man, like first proof etchings,
and turtle soup, and champagne frappe.
Being poor does not inoculate one against
craving for the goodies of life, and
sometimes the poor man falls in love with
this edition de luxe of womankind. FIRE.
quently she has poor enough judgment
and an lily enough balanced heart to fall
in love with him, but 1t is a hazardous ex-
pertinent to transplant an orchid to a
kitchen garden. 1t takes a man of nerve
to ask a woman to leave a satin-lined
jewei box to live in a three-story back
with him. When she has money the mat
ter is not much better Nothing short
of amazing grace can make a man seem
easy, and natural, and graceful as the
poor husband of a rich wife.
1t has always seemed to me that there
was a good deal to be said in favor of
marrying business woman. She is clear
headed and sensible and reasonable. She
has learned to look at life as it is, and not
expect the impossible Having earned
money herself, she knows the value of it,
and you could depend on her running your
house on a cash basis, and having her
housekeeping books balanced She
wouldn't be hoodwinked by servants or
cheated by tradespeople. She knows the
world is run on schedule time, and would
have meals ready, and not keep you wait
ing when you went out. But she has
worked with men, and, like the little dolls
dressmaker in Dickens story, she knows
their tricks and their manners and could
never be taken in by any of the stock eX-
cuses of going to the lodge, and having to
do extra work at night at the office, which
still pass with her more unsophisticated
sisters. A man might go much farther
and do worse than to marry the business
woman, but she is not the wife for a con-
ceted man, because she is accustomed to
forming her own opinions and deciding
things for herself. Neither is she for the
stingy man, for she has known the indie
pendent JOY of having her own pocket
book, and she will inevitably demand a
fair divide Of the family finances.
Not without reason have widows always
been considered particularly dangerous.
They have a charm and a fascination all
their own. and added to that, mans
judgment generally sustains him when he
falls in love with a widow. He may
say with perfect truth that IL / marry
a young girl / don't know what I'm get
ting. The slight and graceful figure
admire so much now, may be scrawny
StrlnBlness III tSh years AnlS duOTdDly
plump little creature may degenerate into
fat, but If | marry widow know what
I am getting She has arrived so to
speak. What she is going to be in looks,
temper and mind she already is, and
don't nave to take any chances on 1t.
More than this. a widow is generally a
comfortable sort of person to get along
with. Having been married, she does
not look for too much in husbands. She
Is satisfied with q moderate amount of
love-makng, and does not expect a man
to keep up to the high concert pitch Of
his counting days She knows II is no
sign that love is dead, because a man
wants to read his paper after dinner in
stead 81 talking Experience has taught
her that domestic bliss has its founda-
ton in a cloan-swept hearth and we'll
spread table. and not protestation OF
affection. In a word, the differences be-
tween her and a young girl. Is the differ