Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1897-09-20
THE HOUSEHOLD.
The Etiquette of Paying Visits-Pretty
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| Considerable ignorance prevails. even
/ among persons of good breeding, CON
corning the "details Of everyday etiquette
as observed in the world of fashion.
! Following are some hints on paying
visits from an English authority which
| convey correct idea also of the ETH
| quette prevailing in our large cities:
When a gentleman makes a call, he
! should take his hat and stick into the
drawing room with him. He retains
them in his hand until he has greeted
the lady of the house and shaken hands.
Then he places them on chair or on
the floor beside him, or may hold them
in his hand still if he prefers. When he
comes to the house by invitation, he
should leave his hat and stick in the
hall. Otherwise this is quite incorrect
unless he is one of the family To do
so shows that he is on privileged terms
and would be in very bad taste unless
he were at the house by invitation. He
may retain his gloves all through a
morning call Or remove them, as he
prefers.
When lady is in the drawing room
and guests are announced, she at once
rises to meet them and shakes hands.
If there are ladies present known to a
lady caller on her entrance they rise to
speak to her and shake hands. Gentle
men do the same and remain standing
till she is seated If gentleman enters
and the ladies present know him, they
merely bow or shake hands without ris-
ing from their seats. The hostess, of
course, rises, and so do the ladies Of
e., w Of
the host enter, no lady whom he greets
should rise to shake hands unless he is
very old gentleman and she young
girl, when such an attention is a pref
ty compliment.
1t is not usual to introduce two call
ers to each other unless there is spe-
cial reason for it. Where both are resi-
dents in one neighborhood it is a dis
tinct solecism, unless both have given
the hostess to understand that they de-
sire it. People sitting near each other
at call should converse without any
introduction. When a lady rises to go
after she has shaken hands with her
hostess and others with whom she is
acquainted, she should bow to others
whom she does not know, whether they
have spoken together or not. On meet
ing again this does not constitute an
acquaintance, and they do not bow.
When a caller rises to take leave, she
first shakes hands with her hostess, then
with others present whom she knows.
These rise to say. goodby-the ladies at
once resume their seats and the gentle
men remain standing till she has left
the room. The ladies to whom she
merely bows do not rise from their
seats, though all the gentlemen present
do SO, whether they are known to her
or not. The host should accompany her
to the door, or, III his absence. any
friend of the family on sufficiently in
innate terms to take his place. In any
case he opens the drawing room door
for her. If several gentlemen are pres
ent, this Office is performed by the one
nearest the door. A formal call should
not extend over ten minutes or a quar-
ter of an hour. When guest rises to
take leave, the hostess rings for a serv-
ant to show her out. When she is the
only guest present or of higher consid-
Grafton than those staying behind, the
hostess should go to the door Of the
drawing room with her.