The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1897-03-18
forest taken in the, work has extended to
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forest taken in the work has extended to
the products Of every country.
Forty years ago all small people were
carefully instructed IN the formaIlties of
life. and one of the things especially in
sisted upon was that they should in
variably, in addressing their elders, say
Yes, ma'am." mo ma'am." Yes, sir
and mo, sir. !"
A well bred child in a later period than
that always rose when older persons en-
tered the rooms and remained standing
till told to take a seat. 1t is observed by
Augustus Hare in his lately published
autobiography that his mother IN her
girlhood not only stood when in the
room with her father. but even accorded
hat honor to his empty chair If she were
in the room will It. In our period a
well trained boy rises when his mother
or other woman enters a room, and
stands till she is seated. A little girl,
too. is taught to be soft of voice and
gentle in movements. and to slip a cush-
Ion behind the back of a friend, to urge
on a guest the most comfortable seat,
to adjust screens against windo glare
and freight, and to avoid interruption
and contradiction. But sir" and
ma'am" are not now in vogue for
children, being considered the appropriate
form of address for servants and for
those of inferior position. Children are
in no sense interiors in their homes.
They are socially on the same plane
with their parents, and it is fitting that
they should be treated with courtesy as
well as practice it.
A child should be taught to say yes,
mother" YES, father Eyes. Mrs.
Smith" mo, Mr.. Jones'" 1t Is always
elegant to repeat the name of the person
you address. Mother and father are
preferred at present to any affectionate
diminutive for the speech of wen little
children, and mamma" and papa" (not
monma and poppa) are in the second
place in favor. Singularly, daddy" and
NANNY" have just now established
their claims to be heard in the drawing
room, though of old the laborer's cot
tage was their accustomed place.
Edward w. Box, under the title of
1.-THE Odor of Spring Violets,'' writes
most forcibly i'm the March Ladies'
Home journal" IN the theme that there
is a bright side to everything-even to
March, the most disagreeable month of
the year. for it has Its spring violets.
ut is true he writes, that 1t is diff
cult sometimes to see the bright side of
sorrow, sickness and death. And yet
there is distinctly a bright side. No sor-
row comes to US without a reason. We
never know our friends until sorrow or
illness comes to us. We never know
what loving kindness and thoughtfulness
mean until we stand In need of them,
our hearts seem to beat against the
walks of a cold, merciless world. We learn
something from every grief and from
each pain which comes to us. We learn
to distinguish between friends, and what
more priceless possession is there in the
whole range of knowledge than this?
What develops US more thar trouble?
Virtues of heart, which we never dreamed
of as existing within US, reveal themselves
when we are sorely tried. That is why
sorrow and trials are given us; not to
give pain, but to develop US, to better
equip us for something unknown which
lies in the future, and which we could
not meet nor understand unless we a
first gone through certain experiences.
w are far too apt to regaM actual
blessings as ~calanities, to look upon the
dark side of things. Some sorrow comes
to US and we rebel. 1t never occurs to
US that, perhaps, we need the experience
which sorrow alone can give. Illness
comes and we fret But we cannot al
ways be well. Ailments are very often
given to us to make our appreciation of
good health the keener. ' : = God has
an aim, a direct purpose. in everything
He does. His blessings come in different
forms. Nor are these forms always such
as we would choose. Lessons can be more |
effectively taught in innumerable cases
through sorrow than through pleasure.
We should never know what a pure,
beautiful color white is if we did not
have black to bring out the contrast.
We want only pleasure in our lives. When
sorrow comes We rebel, and refuse to rec
ognize it for hat it SO often is: a bless
ing in disguise. We cannot always have
it June. There must be March. Yet
March has it's spring violets.'
SO
The one great novelty in the coming
millinery fashions is the use of vegeta-
BILE silk for the fancy plaits, which are
at least an inch wide. This has the
most silky n charming sheen upon
it. The more expensive kinds are made
entirely of vegetable silk, but it is imi-
tated in silk combined with hemp.
Here, again, the range of colors is
very bright indeed; vivid pinks, yellows,
greens, petunia shades and many others
are ready to be made up into the fash
ionable hats and bonnets, while others
show a combination of two colors and
sometimes three, such as pink, yellow,
light green and cream. 1t is very light
and is likely to effect quite a revolu-
tioa.
This same fabric has been woven into
an open gauze of a very light, thin make
in various colorings, and it is being
ruched and gathered to form ruches for
inside the hats. Some of them are shot,
and nan of these vegetable silk straws
ave the two colors combined in such a
way that they also appear to be glace,
while quite a new notion are narrow
straws freely striped in two colors with
the same effect Of combined coloring.
Striking results are aimed at in some
bridal corteges. A January bride will
have six lads and their frocks are
revelations. Palest corn-colored MORE
is the chief fabric used, the lower haM
of the skirt slit in six tails, and every
tab embroidered over in gold ssquins.
Between them fail out portions of an ac-
cordion-pteated underskirt OF vellow chff-