The Lafayette gazette. [volume] (Lafayette, La.) 1893-1921, 1897-06-05

their vows. The masculine horror of a
swell, display wedding is one of the answers
to the query: ''Why don't men marry
If man could just take his best girl and
boom in the matrimonial market.
In all good truth it does seem that no
where else in the world is there more need
for a few enlightened rays of common sense
themselves. Let them marry and give in
marriage as they choose, but let the poor
man and his bride sit down and think be-
fore they plunge into the folly of a swell
the beginning of real life. 1 have known
a young couple, where the bride was the
daughter of people in moderate circum-
stances, and the groom a young fellow On a
salary, who had his own way to make, who
were almost ruined by the idiotic vanity of
the GIRLS DESIRE to be married after the
manner of the rich and fashionable. On
the white satin gown and veil, on church
souvenir pins for the attendants. and car
riages, and the wedding breakfast, was
spent enough to have furnished them a
cosy cottage. The brides of poor young
pressing med for white satin gowns, and SO
the expensive dress was rcver worn again.
Worse than that, it became regular incu-
bus, a terror to take care of. She was all
nous pakage it made, and the first desidera-
tum in moving into new house or taking
board was always place to stow it away.
''It was perfectly dreadful she confess
feet nightmare. You know everybody had
rent us things because we sent out SO many
invitations and of course they all had to be
returned. Somehow it always come about
was sickness. we had saved up little to
have treat, or buy coveted piece of
furniture, somebody had to get married.
and we had to send them a wedding present.
deny ourselves things we needed because
we were vulgariy in debt for present.
Wasn't it awful?''
There is something pathetic in the way
we make trouble for ourselves, and burden
ourselves with unnecessary cares and bur-
dens. Uncounted generations of women
have made martyrs of themselves stitching,
stitching away for dear life on girls we'd
ding finery, making up dozens and dozens
of articles that put away to miidew
and rot and be stolen and all this in the
face of the fact that the world is going on as
usual in spite of the fact that Mamie Jones
married Tom Smith. One would like to
say to these overburdened little brides that
this is the last opportunity there will be
to buy clothing. Business will continue to
be carried at the old stand, and you will
continue to take an interest in the bargaip
counter. Don't let your last days at home
as girl be a memory of turmoil and labor,
and nerves and worry over clothes. After
you are married you will know that this
time should have been the most precious of
all your life, when you were tasting for the
last time the sweets of home affection and
tenderness with intervening presence,
and the clingiEg mother-love that grows so
wistful as it realizes that it is giving up to
a stranger what has been dear and near.
Don't start your new life with debts, or with
appearances you cannot afford, and then
when the time comes for you to he married,
just go off quietly, like the Georgia girl. and
get married without saying anything about
It. So shall your family and friends rise up
and call you blessed. DOHorIIT DIX.