The copper country evening news. [volume] (Calumet, Mich.) 18??-1907, 1897-10-07

49, lkr3l stronger passion
E Jealousy yi is assured n,,s,,
the more unreason-
able, though nobody has ever detected
signs of reason in love. 1t has frequent
lv been declared that there can be no
love without jealousy that where Jeal'
ousy exists not love exists not either
Many, again. have held, with equal
positiveness, that jealousy disproves
real love, which is then but passion,
lacking the high faith, the sublime self
confidence, all the nobler qualities
which go toward making it up
But what may not be affirmed or de-
MED Of the extraordinary phenomenon
called love, of which jealousy would
seem to be in most cases an accom-
paniment? If we are to believe men,
women nearly monopolize jealousy,
though women proclaim that men are
fully as prone to it as they themselves
are. Neither sex will pretend, however,
| that women have not far more cause
| than men for jealousy and are often
| justified in their suspicious. The gen.
| eral truth remains-it has been familiar
since the dawn of history-that man is
as inconstant by nature as woman is
constant. He claims with characteristic
effrontery that it is as difficult for him
to be loyal as it is easy for her, and
that he deserves extraordinary credit
when he is so, since nature makes him
tickle in his affections. He makes him
self tickle, no doubt, by indulgence of
his propensity and puts off the response
bility on external agencies, as is not
seldom his wont.
Considering jealousy from the femi-
nine side, it has been observed 10y both
sexes that women most likely to be
! jealous have the least reason to be so;
that those having the most reason to be
are the least likely to be jealous. This
is striking paradox, and would scarce
| ly be credited if it had not been so fire.
| quently confirmed by students of human
nature. Who does not know or has not
known some confirmation or confirma-
tions of this widespread belief? How
much current gossip in certain circles
bears directly Oh the question, though
nobody would own it?
Many persons go to the extent of
maintaining that when woman is
frantically jealous of her husband it is
strong presumptive evidence of his COM
plete loyalty to her and should have due
weight in the courts, which is palpably
absurd so far as he is concerned.
They insist that her suspicion is COM
monty form of monomania arising
from temperamental self distrust: that.
believing herself not loved by the man
she loves, she feels sure he loves some
other woman generally-indeed, any
number of women. He cannot look at o
woman pleasantly; he cannot chat with
her on ordinary topics; he cannot have
the most conventional relations with
her without exciting her morbid pas
sion. She sees in the most trifing. the
most innocent circumstance confirma.
ton Of her worst fears. of her most
baleful imaginings.
This is true enough but it is equally
true of jealous men. IN fact, is there
any recognizable difference in the man
Hesitation of jealousy in the two sexesP
Very little. if any. Jealousy may seem
a more feminine than masculine infirm.
lty, because we have been long accus.
toned to regard women as weaker than
ourselves, simply because it tickles our
I vanity to think so. 1t is unquestionably
weakness, and women may be more
inclined to give way to it than we are.
But when we do give way we make
| OnpgQlVne ri1io,,
much contempt as they do, and we de-
serve still more. The worst of jealousy
is that while the suffering it entails is
intense and absorbing it evokes no SYM
pathy, scarcely any consideration T.
always appears selfish, more or less
narrow, often positively stupid. It is
apt, therefore, to prove deadly 10 itself
or somebody else.
Jealousy is prone to inflict on the
person of whom it is jealous the tor.
ments itself endures When it can con.
sciously infiict them. it gains very
bitter sort of compensation A man is
often secretly pleased in the beginning
at woman's exhibition of jealousy of
him. But the pleasure is brief. for il so
increases In intensity and exactingness
as soon to become insupportable by con.
verting self love into fear of self con.
tempt.
No man, whatever his self cUmceit.
feels that he can afford to be ridiculous
and he knows that woman's jealousv
is bound ere long to make him SO. The
greatest puppy and egotist, whom al
most everybody disclaims, has been re.
duced by woman's jealousy of him to
80 abJect terms with himself at last as
to stir in the hardest heart a degree of
pity for him. and such pity, compared
with the most painful death, would be-
q sovereign boon.
A woman of whom man is iealons
however immoderatelv or copsn;cro.,.,'.