The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1897-04-05

times the coffee pot is put away as 1t is
taken from the table. with the leftover
coffee in II. but this is very unwise, for
it will soon spoil the flavor Of the very
best coffee If the pot is thus neglected.
Women are better takers han listeners
while men as a rule show more defer
ence to each others opinions. 1t Is, in
deed, the wise Woman who realizes tina
monologue is not conversation and that
she who never suspends her own elo-
quence long enough to hear a contrary
view from her coterie is sadly lacking in
more than one essential of popularity.
Emerson asserted that only two could
converse. while a third listened; but that
Is true only when the themes are deeply
interpretive. There may be conversation
of a real sort among quite a number of
persons, but only when there are no mon
opolists to hold the fort against all inter-
change of thoughts and ideas.
There are ON people with whom one
can only converse by mods, smiles and
sympathetic glances or a lifting of the
eyebrows. They put you on the level of
mutes and reduce you to the limit of
sign language. We all know his speci-
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see them in the street cars, and even in
the usine hour of the morning one of
these big takers will intercept you In
the main thoroughfare of a department
store and hold you, if not like the An
Gent Mariner with the glittering eye, at
least with her no less compelling tongue.
The talking monopolist generally has
self for a topic. one that can never be
as interesting to Others as to the particu-
lar ego who is engrossed by 1t.
To talk well is a gift, but to listen we'll
is a rare accomplishment, something ac-
CURED through cleverness and appreciate
ed by every one as the most subtle of
compliments. Perhaps there is nothing
so characteristic of the sold school gem
tleman'-or lady-as that courteous man
ner Of listening ~attentively. 1t goes with
out saying, of course. that all well-bred
men are good listeners when women are
talking to them; but the woman who lis
tens to another woman-where is she?
And yet listening is, after all, a mega
tive talent and fluency a positive one.
Foreigners accord American women the
palm as the brightest takers in the
world. English wofnen-poor things
have always had to be listeners, willy
nilly.
The afternoon tea, with its in~cessant
clatter and the general participation in
the committee work of women's clubs,
has given great ease of expression to all
classes of women. This is a great adj
vance and one Should be satisfied with
1t, for to wish that one woman might
sit in smiling attention magnanimously
all ears, while another tells her a twice
told tale, is to expect more than the hui
man of l-ong-suffering humanity.
THE sleeves Of the new Jackets" writes
Isabel A. Mallon in the April Ladies
Home Journal . are decidedly smaller,
the necessary fullness being Immediately
at the top.
The revers are not exaggerated, the
rather simple masculine coat collar and
lapels being fancied, and these are very
often faced with velvet.
There are few ripple effects; instead.
the smart jacket-that is, the semi-htted
one-rests smoothly across the back and
does not suggest too much fullness.
Covert cloths are especially favored.
The colors in vogue are fawn, tan, light
and dark blue, reseda, cream white,
black, as a matter of course, and all the
innumerable grays.
"Braiding, especially with soutache, OBJ
tains very generally, and coats awe de-
signs arranged for them, the braiding be-
ing done by hand so that a wide effect
IS given to the shoulders, a narrow to the
waist, and a broad to the hips. Short
Empire coats entirely covered with braid,
put on lengthwise, are seen.
Small buttons of ivory, pearl and gilt
are used, the ivory and the pearl being
the round bullet shape, while the gold
buttons are fiat and suggestive of gold
dollars. Large buttons, notably those
showing the Delft colorings and patterns,
continue to be popular, but the newest
jackets show the fly closing, with no at
tempt at placing buttons as if they were
really used"
The black and white striped fabrics in
wool and silk and wool mixtures, which
impart length and slenderness to the fig
ure, are greatly in favor, and while they
are plain and simple in style they have
a smart and ladylike appearance, show
ing an untrimrned skirt with narrow front
UTeduln, wen SOTeQ SlueS ana the IulIneSS
in a small space at the back. A close
fitting Jacket bodice opens to show a bit
of shirt waist and necktie. The entire
costume of the stripe is about as becom-
ing a gown as a woman can nave for
certain uses. 1t can be worn at present
with a fur %collarette. and also be appro-
pirate for warmer weather when no sort
of wrap is needed.
A pretty choker is made of a scarf of
tulle or lace, tying in a large bow be-
hind, with a rounded velvet piece turn
ing down in front, fiat against the choker.
Square tab are also used, but they should
be turned down and fastened to the
choker and not be allowed to stand out,
as heretofore.
One of the fashionable toilet tables of
the day is of old Dutch form. 1t is
built of mahogany, and is inlaid with
various woods. On these tables are dis
played a mixture of china and silver
toilet articles.
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