The morning times., 1897-03-07
HOW TO TREAT 4 HUSBAND

Here is what Mrs. Henry Ward Beeeher
once wrote regarding marital woes and
pleasures:
did you never tell your husband OF some
great excellence of virtue in your friends
husband purposely to remind him OF some
shortcomings or faults which you had seen
IN his own habits OF character? Did you
ever treat your husband when in company
with inattention or impatienee. while you
politely IND cordially accepted the attentions
of other and less noble men? Did you ever
impatiently blame him in the presence ola
third party? What woman is more sensi-
tive to blame in the presence or others than
a husband, when the censure comes from his
wife's lps2 Are you ever cross and silent
in your OWL heme with no one 20 entertain
but your husband, yet fun OF life, wit and
amiability in company
while it is Just that husbands should
listen and receive this counsel, and by the
lesson it teaches endeav0r TO augment the
joys of home, should not wives also take
its truth into their own hearts, Are We
not equally likely to trespass in the same
Way? Aye, more so. For home Is our
Kingdom, where we may reign supreme II
we have wisdom to hold the scepter with
a judiciOus hand. | have seen young peO-
pie begin life with every promise OF this
most perfect happiness and yet make entire
shipwreck Of it all by their own unguartled
words, impatient looks and unrestricted
teInpers. a talent for spicy and brilliant
repartee may enIiyen a party and give
the highest Zest and piqUancy TO social in
tercOUrse, endOwing its posSessor with a
certain position, enviabIe or otherwise,
but in the home circle it is a dangerous
gift and unfortunately more frequently
bestowed upon the wife than upon the bus
band
Low often have we Tecoiled, as from
| bow, when hearing those who should he
one in heart, draw comparisons preiudicial
| 10 their own companions and 20 the credit
! of anOtheTs, and we grieve to say that such
remarks are quite as often heard from tha
| wife as fIo,u the husband Do Othey ever re-
call that when they gave the marriage VOW
| they took thecaTe Of each others honor and
| responsibility into their own hands To cher
ish or destroy? God has made that Bond so
inscpaTabIe that all honor bestowed on tina
one passes over and is shared by the other,
and all disgrace or error that is charged
20 tue one - EttttdHl IEJullLuS 10 lIt tIltE-
Il fully understand all that is said OF
mans rough, abrupt, Oyerbearing ways.
There is too much truth in it. I think
there is, naturally, little spice of tyranny
in every mans composition, and perhaps
from the days of Queen Bess up TO the pres
ent time we might find enough of the same
quality in our own sex to establish our
claims OF sisterhOOd. But, admitting that
these are purely masculine elements, do
we not know how to conquer and soften
these uncomfortable and undesirable char
acteristics? BY gentIeuess and love woman
may, IN she will, assert her power and ind
men most willing subjects But arrogance
and irnpatience viii find rough and stub
born opponents Man is nowhere found 50
true to his natural impulses as n the sacred
precincts of home. II one would BE- sure
of his true character go to the domestic
circle Unexpectedly. It is not when away
from home or in the pursuits of business
or pleasure that one finds him IN natural
condition In the bosom OF his family be
will be found exercising his true spirit.
There you will learn the strength OF cOnju-
gal ties, and there his true character will
stand before you, glowing in excellence or
shrinking into insignifiCance"