The morning times., 1897-03-07

| bly, infidelity, and later ON scandal and
| divorce.
a sunny temperament that laughs at dis
| agreeable things, that is not easily ruffled or
| oversensitive, is a happy state of mind
| for man or woman. 1t is a gift OF God
to be thankful for. When not natural, it
| can be cultivated. Remember that, my
| dears. Happiness lies tina way.
| 1t is part of the ethics of home life 10
| cultivate this disposition To take life light
| ly, and when we cannot do this, to accept
| trials as disciplinary. 1t is a horIid doc
| trine TO teach people that all their troubles
| come because Of their sins Many or the
| best people the world has ever known have
| had seas of trouble to struggle through,
coming through the sins of other people
vicarious sorrows. Christ was "a man OF
sorrows and acquainted with grief" 1t
,, is enough to Ike ep ones self sweet through
the discipline of sorrow; to develop strength
of character from day to day, and to ac-
cept life as one finds it.
We have to live pretty much all our day s
before we wake up to the idea that we
Were lot born into this world simply aud
solely happy. Happiness is never foun'i
when it is pursued as an end. Bat is comes
along uninvitcd when one is ccing his duty
manfully, and glorifies many an hour of
COmmonplaces.
The home life is the life of the common
place, with the angels lowering near it,
? one is or life and one of death. No joy is
swcetcr than that which comes with the
birth OF the first-born child; no SORROW
deeper than when death claims it, or an
o-her. These are the sacred ties which
bind two souls together as one, and renders
home the dearest spot on earth for those
who have really known it.
It is sometimes both diverting and
exasperating to read what poor silly
neutrality-suspicious. OF both sexes-whU
have never known them, have to say
OF the marriage relation and home. For
instance: "A woman should always have
a regular allowance from the husbands
Income" Granted-if it is large enough
to divide up that way. But If it is
of the usual size OF the wage-earner's
weekly pay, 1t will not divide or be
added to or subtracted from on that
basis The rent, the household expenses,
and the unforeseen, frequently the in
calculablc, usually absorb the weekly
wage, especially If one is trying to ac-
cumulate a small sum in the savings
bank, or has a premium to pay ON life
insu rance, or an assessment in a bene-
ficial society. These obligations are
as much TO the wifes interests as the
husbands, and a mutual understanding
and agreement about them is Of much
more Importance to the family than a
stated allowance for wife.
\ trusty wife is often entrusted with
all that d man earns, That is, she holds
the pocketbook, and decides how the most,
il not all Of 1t, shall be spent. In the big
cities, where incomes are large and social
obligations great, an allowance may be
desirable; but usually the mutual under
standing and agreement as 10 eXpendi-
lures is the estsafegUard for the home, no
matter what bachelors of either sex may
say about allowances
The last and all persuasive thing to cul-
uvate in the new or the old home is o TO
manage that il shall be such cosy and
( comfortable place for the head OF the house;
So that all the boys and girls too, who have
been born into il Will find their highest
happiness there, and it viii be more attract
i've than any other place in all the world
Then. when away from it, they are never
happy until they get back to it, A family
which has lived to accomplish that has
mastered the ethics Of home ma king
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