The gold leaf. [volume] (Henderson, N.C.) 1881-1911, 1897-07-01

on this subjec, for the past few days
The lounges: boy Of my home took ;
notion he would marry, and marry he
would and marry he did: He first go
the consent of the girl, then the par
ents ON both sides and now he is mar
red.
God said, at is not good for man
to be alone" and that marriage is hon
orable in all men. And. out for mis-
deals or missing connections sometimes
there would be no old maids and nc
old bachelors, suppose.
My mind has been running back tl
the period nearly 2S years ago, wher
| took to myself wife. was just q
years old. II was love, cour,shlp and
marriage, to begin with am sure a:
| look back over the days preceding
my marriage as remember event:
that | simply wanted wife. After
marriage had wife, and l simply
wanted everything else. II my father
or father in law ever presented us witt
: nickel l lost 1t before got home.
We took ground start, as the say
ing is. | had no object in life and ne
ambition in life until after | was mar
rled and two children were born into
my home. All wanted was a wife
| had never thought over the charac
teristics of good wife and the quail
hcatlons necessary to good wife. The
questions as to qualities, amlabllltles
atfinities, never entered my mind; anC
Burns put it RE ht when he says it i
owing to lucky chance morc than t
good management that there are no.
really more unhappy marriages thar
| there are.
But mlsfi,s these days can be rem.
edied better than in former days.
am told that in some States they ISSUE
marriage licenses with divorce coupon:
attached, which seems nearly as res
pectable as the case where the HUSBAND
gave the preacher S. for preaching hi
wife's funeral. The preacher told hin
he didn't charge anything. "Well,
said the ft-bereaved man, 81 am il
the habit of paying S. for preaching
my wives funerals
/ After all, it is a question of adjust
ments and freqnen,ly Of readjust
ments. Very few marriages have eve'
found ready and perfect adjustmen
to begin with. You may talk abou
"mlnglng dew drops on the rose
and "two hearts beating as one
That's all pretty poetry. God says
"This twain shall be one" but some
times they are one hundred when
comes to aCqulesCenCe, submission AM
agreement. \ woman with mettl
won't be run over. \ true man Wi
not submit to petllCoat go>ernmenl
A woman without mc,tle IS Lacking i
! pedigree A man wlthou, manhoo'
has no pedigree.
Common sense and love and goo
stock Of religion are the three be,
things to harm all wants of al
Justment.
y good old ia'h~r when approache
by young man who asked the han'
! of his daughter in marriage, replied
"You can have my daughter. bu,
would advise you not to take hc
She's typhoon." "Well, is she not
! Christlan?' asked the young man
"Yes," said the old father, "bu
young man, the Lord can get alon
with people you and | cannot &c
along with.
1t takes the three, love, commo
, sense and religion, to bring about tn
poets ideal Of min ling dew drops O
rose. "WIsdom, justice and modera
tion," which is the motto Of Georgis
ought to be the motto written in tn
hearts and lives Of every young hus
band and wife in this land.
do not know how Il is with othe
young men who take TO themselve
wives; how they think and what the
propose; but the young man who take
unto himself wife with the purpos
Of lying down on his daddy or h
daddy-lnla law ought TO be relegated
: Shaker,own or 10 the penI,entlarl
God projected this world on the roo
hog or die poor principle, and II no
is to root or die poor, man ought |
, be made TO work or starve.
The older get the less patience
have of the dead beats. I'd rather b
a chaingang convict than to be
dead beat anywhere. We trequen,l
hear the expression, $50 and-so IS &c
ting along we'll and he don't do an.
thing; he don't work" l know tn
to be true: every bite that young iello
takes, the clothes he wears and the be
he sleeps on costs somebody soIn'
thing. Somebody pays the freight G
every pound Of goods shipped not on
: in the railroad world but IN the ac,u
affairs of life. Gods command Is, !"
no man work, neither shall ne eat
: | put in three hundred and slxty-h'
, days a year, and the longer | live ar
the older &c, the less respect | ha
;. for loafers and loungers and vagabonc
They are the hardes, class to get no
of and to make anything out Of NOR,
: man ever tackled.
], There are some essential things
marriage life IS 4 success. Flst, eco
omy. No home IS happy that IS tC
ever graphing with debt. In one
the happlest homes | have been
years-a bright home, and hap
) home and frugal home-the Int
wife SAID 10 me, "We have been IN