The Topeka state journal. [volume] (Topeka, Kansas) 1892-1980, 1897-01-01
WOMEN And THEIR WAYS.

Unfortunate indeed is the woman who
does not count among her chief treasures
woman friend. She may be hedged aboui
with the tender devotion Of a husband. and
surrounded by brilliant court OF mascu-
line admirers. but life has still withheld one
Of its most precious gifts from her. unless
there is some woman to whom she may go
at all times. secure of such love and CON-
prehension and sympathy only one wo-
man can give another.
Platonic affection between men and wo-
men has ever been a series Of dangerous
experiments. Leaving the ethical side OF
the question out Of consideration, however.
men are but fair-weather friends where wo-
men are concerned. They love US while we
laugh They leave US. IL they possibly can.
as soon as we begin to weep. They do not
know how to sympathize, unless the sympa-
thy can take the form OF doing something
! Your head aches. perhaps. and your woman
friend is content to sit beside you in dark
ened room listening to your tale of woe.
Your man friend may pity you just a.
much, but he wants to get out of hearin G
OF your complaints and send the doctor to
you.
Herein lies the essential difference be-
tween masculine and feminine friendship.
and it IS what makes the woman friend 80
necessary and soeustaining. A woman knows
that when you complain you don't always
want things changed. She comprehends-
for does she not do the same thing herself?
/, that there is relief unspeakable in I'M
burdening your soul to a sympathetic heart.
and that there is solid comfort to be de-
rived from having somebody mingle their
tears with yours, even when the weeping
leads to nothing. A man is bound to un-
dervalue or overvalue these things, but
woman assesses them at their true worth
gift of beauty and expense is the little
table of china to hold trifes in the modern
drawing-room. The standard is with flower
decoration. while the top is formed of a Sc
Wig 1RS 5oTT AGA@ hnod
of fair women. alternating with bits OF land
scape. etc.
The craze for crests is Increasing. and not
content with blazoning it ones station
cry. 1t is now the mode to have It ex-
quisitely hand painted parchment.
framed and hung in a conspicuous place
in hall or library. For mourning station
, border is Is the the correct style; The
supposed sup ed, to gauge the depth Of Of
date. For second mourning. pure white pa
per with very narrow border of pale gray
or violet is sometimes used. with monogram
or address die in color to match.
Tt is not every woman who possesses the
faculty Of so adjusting ribbon decorations
on hat or dress as to produce
the most harmonious effects. And
yet nothing adds so much to the
beauty of a toilet the disposition of
the rlDDOnS LEaC aQOrn IL. NE51OnS OF love
illness in ribbons and laces" are frequently
topics for the poets to rave about. Clad in
tsilor-made gown and muftied up in her
wraps. a woman is ready for the outside
world; ready fo4 the hurry and stress of
shopping the formalities of calling and
those who meet her see the fair. somewhat
cold oStside. take her she presents her
self and are-strangers. or. at best.
quaintances. But let this staid damsel
cross the threshold of her home, and in an
hour or two appear in her drawing-room
with some warm, rich color at throat and
waist and the whole atmosphere is changed.