The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1897-08-08
FOR FEMININE READERS
LADY BURTON,s RULES FOR RETAIN
ING A HUSBANDS AFFECTIONS.
The Satisfactory Street Dress Has Not
Yet Been Devised-The Woman
Who Makes Much of Her Woes.

The romance of Isabel, Lady Burton"
which is being so widely read, tells many
things of vital interest to women.
Her life, says a writer in the Philadelphia
Press, is a mine of human interest. 1t be-
gins with her young girl alteration OF her
captain that continued until her death,
which comes speedily after his, in old age.
In her Seventeen rules for a wife" she set
down a certain code of action for a woman
whose life was to be linked with that of a
man who, until forty years of age, had
roamed the world from Mecca to Salt Lake.
Several of the seventeen rules embody
minor rules, but all Of them are Of spirited
significance. The first one is about friend
ship and companionship; the second about
care of him when ailing; the third about
making home snug and attractive to intl-
mates and people that interest him as we'll
as to himself. The fourth rule is for self
Improvement and education; the fifth about
following on journeys at an hours notice,
ready to rough it.; the sixth about generos-
ity in affection and care in personal ap-
pearance, and the seventh about promoting
her husbands interests, professional, social
and personal.
The ten remaining sections of advice from
Isabel Burton to herself contain so much
philosophy that they shall be given in full;
Never conhde your domestic affairs to
your female friends.
Hide his faults from everyone and back
him up through every difficulty and trouble.
Never permit any one to speak disre-
specially of him before you; and if any one
does, no matter how difficult, leave the
room. Never permit any one to tell you any
fhip~ bout him acnania1lu nf hic conduct
with regard to other women. Never hurt
his feelings by a rude remark or jest. New
er answer when he finds fault, and never
reproach him when he is in the wrong, es-
pecialIy when he tells you of it, nor take
advantage of it when you are angry, and
always keep his heart up when he has
made a failure.
Keep all disagreements for your own
room, and never let others find them out.
Never ask him not to do a~nything-for
instance, with regard to visiting ,other
women or any one you particularly dislike;
trust him and tell him everything, except
another persons secret"
d not bother him with religious talk,
be religious yourself and give good exam
pies, take life seriously and earnestly, pray
for any procure prayers for him, and do
all you can for him without his knowing it,
and let all your life be something that will
win mercy from God for him.
Cultivate you own good health, spirits
and nerves = = > to enable you to carry
out your mission.
Never open his letters nor appear in
quisitive about anything he does not volun-
teer to tell you.
Never interfere between him and his
family; encourage their being with him, and
forward everything he wishes to do for
them, and treat them in every respect Gas
far as they will let you) as if they We're
your own.
Keep everything going and let nothing
ever be at a standStill."
If every woman would paste these rules
in the book she opens most, or over her
desk in the form OF a motto, she would, by
their guidance, save herself, her HUSBAND
and her children a number of unhappy
quarters of hours. One of the evils which
wrecks domesticity often is a constant
curiosity to know every detail Of another's
life. Women may find out a deal by con-
Stantly nagglng a man, but does the find
ing oHt do her any good? And does she lind
her own happiness increased by letting 9TH
er people tell her husbands peccadilloes?
No. Lady Burton should have added that
every woman should try her advice and see
how it worked. Certainly she could speak
from a successful experience.