Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1897-10-07
Have Learned to BIO Comfort
able Without Women.
PREFER TO ADMIRE AT DISTANCE
And Live in a Paradise Minus
an Eve.
Bachelors who Get Themselves Homes.
Keep House Well and Have an the Pleas
ures and None of the Worries OF Matri-
mony-The boarding House Filler.
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different.
During the summer there have been we'd
dings and weddings and weddings. But
Notwithstanding the great number Of mar
riages the society mother is complaining
that men do not marry. Why? Honestly,
suppose men and women are no better or
worse than they used to be. There are quite
as many in number, and they are, in a way,
Just as willing to enter into the holy bonds
oil Inatrmony. But man has learned to be
comfortable without woman, and occa-
sionally, more than occasionally too often,
he is 50 admirably arranged, that he prefers
70 admire women from a distance and to
live in his own paradise-a paradise without
an Eve and even minus servant.
This conviction has come to me from
having been the guest at innumerable
bachelor dinners given by proud hosts to
their women friends and in their own estab-
llshments. What man a few years ago
thought OF Keeping up place for himself
that Is, comfortable place? But now the
bachelor can without any trouble get him
really all the pleasures and none of the
worries OF matrimony. OF course, there is
a type of man that flies around from one
boarding house to another or from one
hotel to another, but he is the man who has
never gotten his natural instinct, which is
TO look Tor companion to make home.
He is the man who has hall room in a
boarding house or one not much more com
Portable in a hotel. and after knocking
around for awhile he meets a woman who
is more or less pleasant, who has the art of
making him feel cOntented, and then he
devotes his time to her. of course, lacking
the ability to make a home. he also lacks
the money to do it, and marriage is inn
possible. But he longs for the companion
ship of woman, and so be does the best
thing he can, which is to propose marriage
to the woman he loves and remain engaged
to her until death hranl,s or ttnites tba hTt,I
He says, does this unfortunate wretch. that
marriage is too expensive. He doesn't see
any possibility of making a home in a
boarding house, and really that is quite as
difficult to do as to make a home on the top
of Cleopatras needle.
People have been happy in boarding
houses, but they can't make homes there.
Homes are not made for tine multitude as
are ready made skirts, all after one pattern,
and that's the reason cooperative house
keeping can never be a success. But the
bachelor apartment is the enemy of mar
riage. An ideal bachelor apartment has, in
the first place. enormously big rooms. Then,
in the second place, the bachelor seems To be
able to get servants who keep everything in
order, although in his drawing-room or
library or whatever he may call it, there
are plenty Of books, plenty Of pictures and
plenty OF ali the delightful things that give
an AIR OF luxury. But the air of order is
present too. The dining-room shows big
round table and huge side board. on which
there is a quantity of beautiful glass, for
the bachelor houskeeper is great ON fine
glass. On small table stands tiny silver
service, the size suited for one. And that is
USED for the masters coffee every morning.
Anybody would know u mans room be-
cause OF the bigness Of the towels and the
size OF the washbowls. 1t is one of the
funniest things in the world, and vet it
happens every day, to go into shop and
have somebody say to YOU when YOU ask
for towels, "Gentemen's or lades'?' It
makes you feel like demanding of the over
civil clerk why lady, so called, is expected
TO dry her face on towel the size of DIN
ner napkin while man should be given
something very nearly as big as sheet and
which is an absolute comfort to USE When
q bachelor girl has an apartment, she
thinks first of all the pretty things, Of tl5
artistic corners and of the fine efflEtS
whereas mans first thoughts are ri III to
his bathroom. his jug and bowl, the kitchen
belongings aud all the dining-room appoint.
ments.
Men are undoubtedly orderly creatures.
II you doubt this, investigate. Every
woman is very apt to thnk-t mean every
married woman-that the especial man at
tached TO her can keep his belongings in
one bureau drawer or else have them showed
OF in corner of the wardrobe, while every
thing else in the way of closets and bureaus
must be dedicated to her. Some day. if She
will take the trouble to look, she will see
that while her top drawer is a wonderful
muddle of ribbons and laces hairpins and
Jewelry, Of handkerchiefs and gloves, Of
feathers and fuss, and that all the under
ones catch, because they are packed so tight,
the single one given over to her mankind is
as neat as possible and ought to be lesson
TO her. The shirts are laid out as if for an
Irish wake, the stockings are in d pile in
one corner, the handkerchefs III another,
WINE the scarts are smoothly spread ont
ntnnO ~ 81,
RED life man wants to have little some
thing that is entirely his own, and the wise
woman is the one who puts a whole chest
OF drawers at his disposal and lets him
KNOW that feminine trvols are not going to
Interfere with masculine belongings.
II was at a recent wedding that n man
asked me. "What do women marry Tor?
''Experence"
Then he asked me, "What do YOU think
men marry for" There were 50 many an
swers to this question that could moi boil
them down TO an epigram. Ottenest men
marry Tor love, sometimes for money.
sometimes because they think il is Tic
proper thing to do, but oftenest of all be.
cause they are lonely.
A man Is creature inclined to be conf.
DENTAL, and he wants something Of his own
IN winch 10 coLtide lie is inclined toward
laith, ana he wants something feminine in
which to believe, And then, too yery often
ne loves this pretty feminine thing with ali
his heart and soul. And very often shC
aoesh understand the meaning of the word
love. Love IS very queer thing.
there are people who think they know
what love is when they are only acquainted
with affection, which, by-th-bvc. is NOT ID
all bad thing TO have. But if YOU are
searching for real, absolute, endearinp love
study man. He is capable of putting ID
ms heart and shutting up from the eyes OF
everybody an intense love, keeping it there
and only bringing it out when it is required
What he longs for is to meet the woman
who Knows how to bring out this love auC
VINO. once she possesse' il, will appreciate
u. However, II may be taken for granted
II two people who have tastes solnev-hol
alike, each agreeable to look at, each vel
dressed, which means pleasantly dressed
are thrown for sufficiently long time ii
ehch others society, tina. love Will be IN,
result. This will be successful love if III,
woman Is altectIOnate and the man is loving
he Is u peculiar animal, Is man, and onct
he knows how much q woman loves ht
WtarleS OF her, She is wise ii she keen
sgne charm in reserve, so that be Is con
thualiy expecting and is never dis
appointed. lou know the charm Of I
pDusSe cafe? The brandy warns Won M
then You set taste Of the mint, then csn,a.
luscious mCuthtul uf Euugal, bitter with
almonds, then comes yellow cbartreuye
theh there is a deep red Raspberry ami lie,
clear, colo, white. swee, MarascAino, Inc
woman You love must offer Won variety N
lust such dainty Sips. hut after. an VIE Ii
MOI summed n by that clever l'reucbnlau
who, alter telling women of their MISTAKES
said 1.-THE woman yhp fryc. r,gfs 49,
The woman we love j. an ANGEL Il /.
true that the day has gone hv when men
sWtiheel everything for women. Cuuntries
ifed 70 pc very young or VERY old wien