The daily morning journal and courier. [volume] (New Haven, Conn.) 1894-1907, 1897-10-28

IL HloSt piedSuraDle eHtel
(Signed) ABRAHAM JARVIS"
AS my grandfather must have pur-
sued his theological studies unoer the
direction of the Rev. DR.. Learning, IL
must have been at his house that ne
met and became engaged to MISS Ann
Farmar, a niece of Mrs. Learning ana
daughter of Mr.. Samuel Farmar, mer-
chant of New York. They must nave
married soon after his return In HOLY
orders to America. This event took
place in New York on Trinity Sunday,
May rs, 1866, and the service was per-
formed by the Rev. DR.. Samuel Auch-
muthy, rector of Trinity church. Mrs,
Jarvis was one of the most gentle ana
loving of women; my father ever spoke
of his deep love and devotion to her.
Her death, which took place in Cheshire
on the 4th of November, 1901, when he
was fifteen years old, had deep and
lasting effect upon him.
From my recollection of my fathers
remarks. I think that my grandfather
was man of the warmest and sincerest
affection, of great tenderness of feeling,
conJoined to high, strict and perhaps
stern sense of the demands Of duty
which led him to give them preference
at the risk of being considered arbitra-
ry. He never shrank from any duty,
however difficult or disagreeable. 1t
was over thirteen years from his mar
riage when his wife presented him with
son, who was named Samuel Farmar,
but who lived only ten weeks. Then
| followed seven long childless years
more before the birth of my father, on
the goth Of January, 1856 He was doubt
less the child of many prayers and must
have been promised unto the Lord from
the womb, for he was baptized on the
3d. two days after his birth. He, too,
was named Samuel Farmar. How
acutely Mr. Jarvis must have felt the
loss Of his first born, and how deeply his
affection was wrapped up in the second,
now his only child, is evident from his
unwillingness ever to be separated from
him. When 1T became necessary to send
his son to Cheshire academy he resign
ed the parish Of Christ church. Middle
town, and bought house in Cheshire,
where he continued to reside until my
father entered Yale college. He then
removed to New Haven and dwelt there
until his death in 1918.
1t must have been through Bishop
Jarvis insistance that my father en-
joyed what must have been considered
by the college authorities as very
great concession. He told me that he
was the first churchman who was al
lowed to attend church without being
obliged to ask special permission each
time Still, so 10th were the authorities
+n MI hat Monday
mornings the absentees from Sundays
meeting were called to account for their
delinquency the bishops son was never
omitted. Jarvis absent from meet
ing" Il was at church, sir" was the
invariable answer. In those days there
was high and strong fence between
the church and secession, and men were
candidly told that it was a sin to di
, vide the body of Christ. When they
came back to the church they did so
after study, on conviction, and thu
young grew UP intelligent, educated
decided and consistent churchmen l
is a false liberality, so-called, which
breaks down the fence, substitutes con
fusion Of thought for the one Catholic
,, faith and denominational union TO
. apostolic and Catholic unity
What 1 have related is beyond tn
: War of Independence, and, indeed, be
. yond the deaths of General Washington
+ and of the great Hamilton. I must g.
back to the opening of the struggle 0
t the Revolution. The citizens Of thes
, colonies were all subjects of the British
f crown. The strife was a civil war. An
as this civil war was not only a resist
ance to the unlawful encroachments O
king and parliament upon the libertie
s of British subjects, but was admitted
q urged on by New England Religionist
: for the purpose of preventing the intro
duction of bishops in this country, it
not to be wondered at that churchme
should have been, many of them, loya
lists, and thus have made themselves OK
! jects Of persecution. John. one of m
+ grandfathers elder brothers, who ha
a married early, had grown up sons, abb
v to take part in the struggle. Samue
v one of them, was arrested by the Wig
. lance committee, or Armenia New Yorl
i and imprisoned. He escaped from jai
q made his way to the British in Ne
n York and received a commission in til
" royal forces. Another served as an of
! Ger under Tarleton. Samuel went
!. England at the close of the strugg
with the English troops of Lord How
70 the other to Canada.
j, John, the father, living at Poundridg
10 was one dark night summoned to h
+ front door and on opening it was sh'
h and instantly killed. A second old
a. brother of the future bishop settled
ia Danbury, and his son is said by Hinms
r to have one of the two young tori
. who guided Tryon to Danbury. / ha'
"a reason to think that this statement is
mistake 1t Is nevertheless the ia
n that his father was in great peril al
m only escaped the fury Of the vigilan
10 committee by being hid in a potato hi
o. the potatoes covering him from sig
to when search was made. 1t was my /
in formant's grandfather who, thouE
III himself siding with the Revolution, w
,e his protector. 1t is hardly probable
10. would have so befriended his neighbo
~ had his son guided the British soldie
st to Danbury There was never any TT
n dition of the kind handed down in cit
tn er family.
an / mention these facts in order to e
e. plain the probable cause of two {
k tempts which were made upon the Il
II. of my grandfather. l have reason
a, think that my grandfather was SO tho
p, oughly American that he saw no oblig