New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1897-01-10
IN THE SOCIAL WORLD.
AWKWARD BALLROOM INCIDENTS THAT
u. ~ SHOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE

u. SHOULD BE lMFtSsupT'
! =
~v,,ne THAT MAKrA rRot-BIE-THE 'coMlNG-ou
RECEPTION wANIxo-sALAD DRESSING
QUEER SOCIETY rEUps.
.hat society is more~or less on a wrong basis IN
.eoard "a the relatsons,of men and women 10 each
other in ballroom. and thet many clever ana ue,
.,rahle persons OF both i'exes are tnereoy oe'e.'
from attending dances has often peeh re"'"'N e"
hut so long as selHshness ana pride are the cor".,
,or.s ~ the social structure. as they undouotedy
a.. row there does not seem TO be much nope 'na'
.h,,., vii, he otherwise. The women VINO cou'o
20 ,bev chose alter this stare Of ahairs VIII neve.
A. ., for the reason that they are 100 sa"s"e"
9TH the existing order OF rh'nss' WHEREBY NV
envross the attention and aLmirat'oh vi '"e "
,or,,x Of the men, to change r. As IL Is now ho"
.ver q man with kind heartsis almost AZ as srea'
. disadvantage in a bathrooms as shy ana part
nerIess girl. ia MANY
,,.rsora, attractions said the other day tha' ne
Ma hecp Mt one dance this winter anu 'ha' S'>
horses could not drag him to anotner. '"o w"
hlc with Jim" satd younger bro'her' "hose '"'
airy led him into no srch dincuity' Is ''"' NC W
acts the knight errant. and does ho.h''.s ""'
a,s,ressed damsels so OF course. he has s'"pu
.,,n." And n ,rarupired upon investigation ny
his amused family that the good-na'"re" eu'
hrotber had had only two partners our'"k '"e w
,,re evening both Of whom had peeh 'ei' slU"~
,ao ard disconsolate-until the modern Don Q"'N
ote had taken the one forssken MAIDEN u S"pp'
and danced the cotillon with the o'her' 80
OF. -, ovro women rarely reflect that they
-, ,ar. little Christian charity with them INTO
,ne ballroom girl who is favor'e can u"
much 10 make shy. awkward young s''""e
hsppv by little friendly attention 10 'heir m.e"''
hut 9, IA astonishing how seldom such k'hu'''e''
Is shown. ,x.v so,d a
81 felt like a pariah the other n'sh'' '" 49,
,,urg cir, from the country. II had a par'nei ~.
~ co,iI,op but none for supper. and IL oio ho'
occur IN me that | needed one. especially vi Una
there was any ordeal about IL. uh'i " W
march played and my partner VINO nao an '"e
ment said: Where shall take your On sa,u -
,,,,,. unconscious of committing any soecsm thero
is Molly b: sit with her. 10 my su,
Molly who must have heard me. and whom 1 I'D.
always considered friend turned her heau ""'
nearly her back In manner that was ""'
ab,e "Then will sit by Alice A.. excia,i"eu'
In desperation but Alice. who had two men a''e"u
,rg IN her with assiduous devotion. never gave "7
!. Glance 40 7 came UP. and could see pialhi! '""'
I was not wanted I felt quite miserao'c io' "
moment, as knew my partner was "a'"s W %
when a rice-looking girl. whom oio HUI ""o"'
made room for me beside her.
" come and sit by me- she said. kindly. ana !
really felt thankful whereupon man knew we"
came I'D. and after that was all right.
"Is there any harm In dancing or IN gong "
balls?" asked a conscientious girl OF her reo'o'
Not in the least my child" answered the
broad -minded clergyman. 'if you take your p'i"o'
n,es with YOU into the ballroom know OF no
r,ace whore they can do more good and you can be
"a consistent Christian there "a anywhere else
THE "COMING-OUT' RECEPTION
The "coming-out" reception shows signs OF be-
coming less fashionable.
tea is supposed to be so general ana soce's
has attained such magnificent dimensions ''a' Nv
ordinary private house Is capable OF coh'ai"hs
what used to be known as the -Four huhdreo
so the most exclusive women TINS year are
ing about giving the world to understand In TINS
fashion that their daughters are out. A certain
rrande dame it is said. has expressed the genera
feeling of her set by saving: IL really cannot open
my doors such rabble she mas aoop'eo
most sensible method. which undoubtedly VIII De-
come a precedent. She has enclosed her own ana
her daughters cards in envelopes ana simply sent
them nv post This really gives the world all the
Information that Is necessary. namely. that the
girl is grown up and is ready to receive invitations
Some of the teas" of last year In moderate-sizeo
houses were brushes that were beyond descr1ptioh
Certainly such an ordeal gives pleasure TO neither
guests nor hostess. and 1t would be far peer 'ha'
the card system should obtain vogue
sOCIETY's FEUDs.
New-York is not the only city where the social
relations are greatly strained by the deadly quar-
rels between reig. ing families-the Montagnes
and the Capulets the Guelphs and the Ghibeliines
the Lancasters and Yorks. II is almost as dii-
fcrlt TO gather together fairly big dinner party
of smart people without bringing enemies into
Undesirable contact in Boston or philadelphia as II
II In Manhattan. SO. when Mrs. SAVIOR rare VI
ranged for two entertainments on successive weeks
and bad purposely asked Mrs MONTAGUE %l'h .ne
were friends IL seemed to be the very irony OF rate
that the former should mistake the night ana an
rive like bombshell. as II We're In the very camp
Of the enemy. She came very late and nearly al,
the guests We're Tho knew he dates and
guests for the two dinners Of the opposing Iact9ns
happened TO be in the dressing when Mrs'
MY dear. she said gently. you have made a
mistake: you are week X TOO o, soon
Il assure you" continued her friend, that IT
had asked You next week" ,, >,ou
tague. MY carriage has gone, and Mr. Montague
came on earlier from his club club in "Dear Annie
seeing that the a %., had found sS SHi
no end Of persuasion the affair was arranged ,,o
Mrs Montague sat between her host ama sne
occupied the same relative position, AZ the oth ,s
end OF the board there being literally no one else
whom they could talk TO-
A METHODICAL MAID.
Tho anecdote OF the woman whose husband asked
her to hide the latchkey under the doormat SO
that he might find 1t on his return at night. and
who to make things doubIy sure stuck card
hack of the bell plate on which was written SO
ia,cbkey is under the mat" was probably mere
fabrication. 80, . -, hor r,a,d q,
. dinner the other evening very much ike ina!
one The mistress was stopping at a MOTEL ana
oxnec,ine TO be out late told the maid not TO wait
hut 70 leave the key OF her trunk and oewei box
in the pocket Of one OF her gowns nans'ng up !,
shs closet (deeming that a safe place. ana tha'
~ .ouid nut away her things herself.
ON her return she found placard pinned on mel
,,sh,on On which was written in large characters
81 have left the keys OF the trunk and jewel box
IN the nocket OF your green walking dress. which Is
hs nxing up in the closet
MAYONNAIsE DRESSING.
with a good mayonnaise sauce eou'u e"' -, :;
s,o,,or" said an irreverent bon vivant IL Il
ss,or,sb,ne what delicious salads may he made ou'
of nothing even a grandmother, II the sauce Is al
that II should be- ,-..t tho vo,hs O,