The county record. [volume] (Kingstree, S.C.) 1885-1975, 1897-09-30
BILL ARP ON MATR|MONY.
He Writes of Affectlonate Husbands
and DisdainfuI Wives,
QUOTES THE "WOMEN FOLKS"
Sas That When They Marry oid
They Imply an Agreement to Die In
Short Time.

Hle, eSpeclaIiN "Aeh .ho
domestic character. Now here is let
ter from a man who says, Il know q
man-s neighbor is OF a WARM,
afiectionate, passionate nature and
loves his wife to distraction, but she Is
cain and cold and conservative by
nature and, therefore, indifferent to his
caresses, and whenever he ventures to
kiss her and puts his arms about her
she repeals him with such expressions
as. oh, Tom, get away; don't bother
me- She IS pure, good woman ana
loves her husband i'll her way, but she
never meets him at the door when he
comes home tired or disappointed with
his days work. The poor fellow Is
really pining away and languishinS for
lack of love-fpr reciprocity, as it were,
and can't get it. Now, what is the
remedy? Can't you bring your univer-
sal philosophy to bear upon this case
and solve the problem?"
No, cannot. [ am helpless. Moth
ing but time will equalize and harmon
ize that couple. I am afraid their union
was misft, but he took her for better
or worse and must be reconclled. In
fact, he ought to be thankful In these
degenerate days that he has found a
pure, good woman, even if she is not
as tumuituous in her love as he would
like her to be- But time is good doc
tor. Time will assuage him down some
and will tone her up some, for a man
and his wife get more and more alike
as the years roll on. There were some
good friends at my house last night
and seriously read to them this letter
and asked for advice about answering
it. They all agreed that the man was
not writing about his neighbor, but
was r,lating his own pitiful condition.
A married man said, "Write him to
get away and quit bothering her when
she says so.
A bachelor friend said, write him to
flirt little with another mans wife
and she will come to her senses mighty
quick and return his caresses.
That is all You know about it, said
another dame. "The hirtations OF q
husband destroy love and happiness,
too. They are more apt to bring con-
tempt and even scorn. A true woman
will suffer and endure any fault or fail
ing except that. "
A young married woman said tlmid.
", "she must be very strange kind OF
a woman not to like caressing, but l do
think she ought to meet him at the
door and give him smile or two when
he comes home"
l. ,rh
am sorry for him, said lassie In her
teens, or may be he is so horrid coarse
and ugly that no self-respecting woman
would want him bothering her for kiss.
es caresses every time he came about, !"
said lassie out OF her teens.
"Maybe he smoked and his breath
was disagreeable, said benedict who
never used tobacco.
So got but little comfort from this
goouly company and my wife continued
the discourse by remarking in her quiet
way, "Well, think your friend had
better have kept his misery to himself.
Let him stick to the promises that hs
made at the altar"
"Or apply for q writ Of mandsmus
and make her kiss him according to
law" said learned Judge who, was
present. 81 would make her recipro-
cate If the case was in my court. The
writ of mandamus is far-reaching and
effectual process.
Well Of course the conversation drift
ed TO the topic OF May anu December
marriages, with grooms of more than
three score and ten and brides of ten
der wears. We all agreed that if such
q groom had anything to leave such q
bride besides his name and would de-
part this life in q reasonable time, she
was justified in marrying him. But in
the first place the property should be
IN sight the 'tquid pro quo" and 1t
should be fixed, settled, lowered,
dovetailed, clinched upon her, and there
should be an implied contract that he
should die in strict accordance with the
death rate, the expectation laid down IN
the life insurance tables. Indeed, II
the late frequency of old men marrying
Young women is to multiplied to an
alarming extent, there should be es-
tablished death insurance office so
that the young girl could 60 to it and
get policy insuring the old mans
death in o limited time, and if he didn't
die within the time, the company
should pay her so much as she insured
for-say S., 900 or $40, 900 or $50. 900, as
the case may be. With the money she
could live decently and even secure q
divorce on the ground of fraud-fraud
in not diving according to hope and ex-
pectation and an implied promise.
WHY, I know a lady who married an
old man twenty-eight years ago:
He was sixty and she but twenty and
as sweet and pretty as O. pink:
He was rich and siokly and agreed
to settle on her $50, 600, to be paid at
his death. He looked like he would die
in a year, but. bless, your souls, my
sweet young sisters, he is living. yet
and she looks nearly as old as no does.
Her bloom of youth is gone: When
she married she was an orphan and
soon became worse than an orphan, and
she is childless. What mistake she
made. What fraud was perpetrated
upon her. What wreck OF earthly hap
piness. Young girls, beware! These
unions are not according to nature and
they shock the Judgment and sentiment
of mankind. There are widows enough b
to take these venerable widowers, but
Let the maidens remain single If they