Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1897-06-29

1t costs more In the end. The trader
must charge more, because he has tG
wait for his pay. The family will pur'
chase many things, thinking "Fathei
will settle It." whereas, II they did moi
purchase It till they had the ready money
In hand, they would often deny them.
selves. One does not realize how rapidly
bill counts up. Children should early
learn not to buy until the article can be
paid for, and that they cannot always
afford to buy everything for which they
can pay. Rainy days come into all peo-
ple's lives.
Self-denlal gives strength. The wife
should understand her husbands busi-
ness far enough to regulate her house
hold expenses accordingly and govern
her children In their expenditures, that
they, too, may early learn the worth OF
labor and cost Of living.
The exterior Of a home generally indi-
Gates the character Of the interior, ca
pecially In the country. Where there are
trees and flowers, order and thrift, CON-
fort and beauty externally you are gener-
ally sure to lind neatness aud order, hon.
esty and kindness, truth and education
within. Children reared with such sur
roundings will never be satisfied without
them. Such homes do not require
wealth.
Happiness Is not to be always pur-
chased. II is not not what we own, nor
what We do, nor what experiences we
may have, II Is ,citkin us; In our inter
probation OF what these mean to Us. IL
depends upon the seeing eye and intelli-
gent mind. lt Is for one who finds
Tongues In trees. books 10 the running brooks
Sermons In stones. and good In everything
ATMOSPHERE.
There Ia a decided atmosphere Of In.
iidence surrounding every home. IL may
be either for quiet strength aud peace,
or for evil, discomfort and restlessness.
This atmosphere is generally controlled
by the parents. Many people sensitively
organized can feel this Influence upon
entering home, even without previous
knowledge OF its inmates. Ii does not
depend upon environment. IL Is created
solely by the character OF Its occupants.
Its power is strongly felt In the whole
neighborhood.
A spirit Of calm, deliberate thought
and action should be cultivated. Hurry
and worry is a foolish waste OF nerve
force and power.
A mother gets up hurriedly 10 the
morning, gets breakfast in hurry,
spills things. tips over articles, breaks
dishes, scolds the children, wears her
self out. and upsets the temper OF the
whole family. You all know II Is true.
Why, I've tried il a great many times.
Just ask my husband, II you don't be-
lieve IL. But have come TO the conclu-
sion II doesn't pay. IL | begin the day
with good thoughts, without fear, with
patience and without hurry or worry, l
can do twice the work, keep the whole
family happy, and not be half as tired rs
one OF the other kind Of days.
But don't lay II all to the woman.
Sometimes man is cross-although
never In our home, Of course. You may
have heard OF the father who came home
cross, and stormed about while the fam
ily remained in quiet fear, till he finally
snapped QUIT should like to know
what makes you all so cross"
On the other hand, in homes where
the parents are patient and kind, and do
not gossip OF criticize. and the children
are taught to bear and forbear, To be tn
selfish and just, the atmosphere OF their
home clings To them at school, follows
them 10 the shop, attracts congenial
companions, and gives them success
through life.
CHILDREN's CONFIDENCE.
There Is always dangerous time In a
boys or a girls age, when they are pass
ing from childhood into that great un-
known, wonderful world OF manhood and
womanhood. They feel vague restless
ness and longing for a confidential
friend to whom they can confide all their
strange fancies, who will not laugh at
them, and will guide them In safe
way.
This Is the time they need their par
ents' sympathy and watchfulness. They
may be easily led away by bad compan-
ions or receive untold benefit from noble
friends. But Ii Is difficult for parents to
gain child's confidence at that time
unless they have always had 1t. There
fore they should watch all the more
more carefully with what friends they
associate. At this time especially the
home influences should be so attractive
that other young people may enjoy COM
Ing 10 Il.
PUBLIC MEETINGS.
Parents should encourage public meet
ings, social and instructive. All people
need interchange Of thought and SYM
pathy. We gain a mental stimulus In
contact with others. People grow self
ish BY remaining at home and working
solely for their own families. Farmers
naturally are more likely to fall into
such habits than those who live in com
muniries. This Is one Of the best features
Of the grange.
BooRisH AND SENSITIVE CHILDREN.
Children brought up in family who
seldom have company, and who are moi
allowed to mingle with other families
grow up awkward, bashful and sensi
tive. when they are old enough TO &C
out into the world, they are painfully
self-conscious. They are at disadvan
tage and cannot do themselves justice
They do not have the right judgment o.
other people, and are more apt to be lee
astray, when thrown upon their own re
sources.
The influence Of home can generally
be Judged by the young people from tina
home. Last winter heard young maj
saw, "Unless We have company or l an
sick. you never catch me at home Of al
evening" / did not need to be tolt
anything of that home.
ADDRESS TO YOUNG PEOPLE.
There are many young people here to
day. who have lately begun, or ar
thinking Of building, for themselves
home. Let me entreat you to bear con
tinually in your mind, the great posi-
bilities you hold in your hands. Nom
of US are too old but what we too ma.
improve. Let US begin now to purif.
every thought and action Of our lives, g
that our homes may seem to all VIII
step over their thresholds like one o
Gods earthly temples, and the influenc
thrown out from them will be OF untol,
good for all time.
CLIPPINGS.