Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1897-10-29
WHOLE NUMBER 1868.
How TO Rule a Husband.

"The Romance of Isabel, Lady Bur-
ton," the writer gives from the diary
of Lady Burton the rules she wrote
out for herself upon her marriage. To
these rules she believed much of her
subsequent happiness was due, but it
seems to the Household that, after all,
they are only the rules which any
loving woman, with tact and good
sense, might make. Since they have
been so often asked for by correspond
ents they are given here in full:
First-Let your husband find in you
a companion, friend and adviser and
confdante, that he may miss nothing
at home.
Second-Be a careful nurse when he
is ailing, that he may never be in low
spirits about his health without serious
cause.
Third-Make his home snug. If it
be ever so small and poor, there can
always be q certain chic about it.
Men are always ashamed of a poverty
stricken home, and therefore prefer the
club. Attend much to his creature
comforts; allow smoking or anything
else; for if you do not, somebody else
will. Make it yourself cheerful and
attractive, and draw relations and in
Inmates about him, and the style of
society QiteratD that suits him.
Fourth-Improve and educate your
self in every way, that you may enter
into his pursuits and keep pace with
the times.
Fifth-Be prepared at any moment
to follow him at an hours notice, and
rough it like man.
Sixth-Do not try to hide your affec-
ton for him, but let him see and feel
it in every action. Never refuse him
anything he asks. Observe certain
amount of reserve and delicacy before
him. Keep up the honeymoon ro-
nance, whether at home or in the des-
ert. At the same time do not make
prudish bothers, which only disgust
and are not true modesty. Do not
make the mistake of neglecting your
personal appearance, but try to look
we'll and dress we'll to please his eye.
Seventh-Perpetually work up his
interest with the world, whether for
publishing or for appointments. Let
him feel when he has to 60 away that
he leaves a second self in charge of his
affairs at home, so that if sometimes
he is obliged to leave you behind he
may have nothing OF anxiety on his
mind. Take an interest in everything
that interests him. To be compan-
sonable, a woman must learn what in
terests her husband, and, if it is only
planting turnips, she must try to un-
derstand turnips.
Eighth-Never confide your domes.
tic affairs to your female friends.
Ninth-Hide his faults from every
one, and back him up through every
difficulty and trouble.
Tenth-Never permit any one TO
speak disrespectfully of him before
you, and if any one does, no matter
how difficult, leave the room. Never
answer when he finds fault, and never
reproach him when he is in the wrong,
especially when he tells you of it, nor
take advantage of it when you are
angry, and always keep his heart up
when he has made failure.
Eleventh-Keep all disagreements
for your own room, and never let
others find them out.
Twelfth-Never ask him not to do
anything-fOr instance, with regard
to visiting other women or any one
you particularly dislike; trust him
and tell him everything, except
another persons scorer.
Thirteenth-Do not bother him
with religious talk; be religious your
self and give good example; take life
seriously and earnestly; pray for and
procure prayers for him, and do all
you can for him without his knowing
it, and let your life be something that
will win mercy from God for him.
You might try to say little prayer
with him every night before laying
(sic) down to sleep, and gently draw
him to be good to the poor and more
gentle and forbearing to others.
Fourteenth Cultivate your own
good health, spirits and nerves, to en-
able you to carry out your mission.
Fifteenth-Never open his letters,
nor appear inquisitive about anything
he does not volunteer to tell you.
Sixteenth-Never interfere between
him and his family; encourage their
being with him and forward everything
he wishes to do for them, and treat
them in every respect Gas far as they
will let yonN as if thew were vour own