The Lamar register., 1897-01-30
WHY WOMEN FAIL TO ATTRACT
1t Is because They DO Not Know the
Actual Power They Possess.


man they wanted, says an exchange.
This Is just where the trouble lies; they
do not know their power, nor under
stand wherein their charms lie. or
course, there are exceptions to this
rule; there are many who understand
only too well and WELD their scepters
or their swords-rwith too dexterous
a hand. But there are those who un-
dervalue themselves, are too retiring
and let the happiness which Is meant
for them slip from their grasp. Con-
stantly one sees men and women
brought together who are suited in
temperament and are evidently suited
for each other. But what man Is SO
much In love he can't find utterance
for his passion and the girl so much
In love she cannot help him out! The
greatest mistake a woman makes Is
TO let her love get the upper hand oil
her. She at once becomes awkward
when in her lovers presence. loses her
head. and makes all the nat. silly
speeches possible. when she is really
a bright girl and would be very clever
IL she did not allow her passion to make
her self-conscicus, This style OF youth
and maid wait for the opportunity
which circumstances do not favor.
Some other man who does not care SO
much comes along. He is not awed into
silence, but speaks out. The girl, be-
lieying the other man does not care for
her. as be does not tell her so. accepts
this one. who does. They marry ana
soon find matrimony failure. The
shy youth kicks himself when he nnds
another man has won her. Having
learned his lesson. he promptly pro-
poses to the next woman he meets
with as tragic results as those OF TIT
woman he loves and his rival
This is the first type OF women who
do not know their power. The sec
ond are those who think they do-bu
don't They spoil 1t all by an over
excrtlon to please and labor to attrac
attention by affectation and insincert
speeches, which are sure to be seer
through. The woman whose object II
heing pleasant is to curry favor ane
get herself liked may be very sure o.
getting herself disliked.
The world is very shrewd and is MOI
often humbugged unless she wants 70
be- Counterfeits may pass for awhile
but II Is not long before they are dis
covered. This type OF woman succeeds
best In boring men.
Men are not won by women thrustine
their charms upon them The truly
successful woman is she who keeps the
thought OF her own attractions in the
back ground anG impresses man with
the consciousness of his own--f he
happens to be so fortunate as to pos
sess any; II not, he is all the more
! ready to believe he does. A mans van
/ ity Is always get-atable, notwithstand
1 ing this particular weakness has alway:
been attributed to the other sex.
/ Polish novelist has said: Nothing 81
| impresses a man as to know that he II
\ genuinely loved. The woman wht
makes this impression usually win
| the day" The same author has alst
said: "The woman who loves and VIII
herself is not disliked is sure to viii
IL she only perseveres." But thei
perseverance does not mean pursuing
As soon as woman begins running al
ter man her power begins to weaken
he loses his respect for her. and wher
there is no respect there is no love.
After all, a woman's greatest charm
is naturalness, The woman who Is sin
cere, who means what she says and ha
tact enough to know how and when t
say 1t, has the world at her feet.
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