The Meeker herald., 1897-01-30
WHY WOMEN FAIL TO ATTRACT
II L. Bsca.ss They DO Not Knew the
Acfual Power Thar Hnsa.as.

II L. 0oeAuee They Do Not Knew tia
Actual Power They Fosssss.
Thackery has said that II women
knew their power they could marry any
man they wanted, says an exchange.
This IL Just where the trouble lies; they
do not, know their power. nor under
stand wherein their charms lie. OF
course. there are exceptions to this
rule: there are many who understand
only too we'll and WELD their scepters
-of their sRords-with too dexterous
hand. But there are those who un-
dervalue themselves. are too retiring
and let the happiness which 10 meant
for them slip from their grasp. Con-
BtAntly one sees men and women
brought together who are suited in
temperament and are evidently suited
for each other. But what man Is so
much in love he can't find utterance
for his passion and the girl so much
IN love she cannot help him out! The
greatest mistake a woman makes Is
TO let her love get the upper hand OF
her. She at once becomes awkward
when in her lovers presence. loses her
mead, and makes all the nat. silly
speeches possible, when she Is really
a bright girl and would be very clever
II she did not allow her passion to make
her self-conscious. This style of youth
and maid wait for the opportunity
which circumstances do mot favor.
Some other man who does not care so
much comes along He is not awed into
silence. but speaks out The girl. be-
lieving the other man does not care TO,
her. as he does not tell her SO, accept
this one. who does. They marry ane
soon hnd matrimony failure. The
shy youth kicks himself when he finds
another man has won her. Havins
learned his lesson, he promptly pro
poses to the next woman he meets
with as tragic results as those Of tn,
woman he loves and his rival.
This is the first type of women wht
do not know their power. The sec
ond are those who think they do-bu
don't. They spoil 1t all by an over
exertion to please and labor to attrac
attention by affectation and insincert
speeches, which are sure to be seer
through. The woman whose object il
being pleasant is to curry favor an
get herself liked may be very sure
getting herself disliked.
The world is very shrewd and is no
often humbugged unless she wants tt
be. Counterfeits may pass for awhile
but 1t is not long before they are dis
covered. This type Of woman succeed.
best in boring men.
Men are not won by women thrustine
their charms upon them. The trul,
successful woman Is she who keeps the
thought OF her own attractions in the
background and impresses man with
the consciousness of his own-if he
happens to be SO fortunate as to pos
sess any; II not, he is all the more
ready to believe he does. A mans van
tty is always get-atable. notwithstand-
ing this particular weakness has always
been attributed to the other sex. A
Polish novelist has said: Nothing SO
impresses a man as to know that he is
genuinely loved. The woman who
makes this Impression usually wins
the day." The same author has also
said: "The woman who loves and who
herself is not disliked is sure to win
II she only perseveres." But their
perseverance does not mean pursuing.
AS soon as woman begins running af-
ter man her power begins to weaken:
he loses his respect for her, and where
there Is no respect there is no love.
After all, woman's greatest charm
Is naturalness. The woman who is sin
cere, who means what she says and has
tact enough to know how and when to
say 1t, has the world at her feet.