The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1897-06-27

IeaNe cards or call during reserved hours
lot Gaining and yet many little points arise
! when require instant decision when OBJ
serving this social duty. Ought l to cali
when, on arriving a the house I find an
al nome is being held which / have
not received an invita- LIon?'' asks one
ought j to call upon a lady " hose car
rage is waiting at the door when reach
the houseY asks another In the first
case the correct course to take is to leave
cards without asking if lady is al home
To go in and see her would be out of the
question under the circumstances, and as
all cannot be invited on one and the same
day. there is nothing invidious in having
been excluded from any one home dur
ing the season. In the second case refer
red to the call should stil be made, but
the usual answer received from the ser
want is Mrs. a. is a home. but she is
just going out" This leaves no alterna-
tive than to leave cards.
on the other hand, if a servant is not
instructed to say this, 1t may be taken
for granted that visitors will be received
and the drive delayed in consequence.
When this is so, the considerable thing TO
do is TO make the call as short as posi-
bic and TO mention on departure the fact
Of having noticed the carriage waiting
At the door; or still more considerate is to
leave cards without inquiring if the friend
called upon is at home, and thus show
some little thought as regards keeping the
horses waiting about in the hot sun on
sultry afternoons. To put off calling on
account of either of the above reasons
would be sheer waste of time, as they re-
peat themselves continually during the
calling hours.
A doubt that Is constantly occurring to
many good natnred women is whether or
not they should call upon the relative of
intimate friends, relatives with whom they
are unacquainted and who are only tenn
porarV visitors at the houses of the said
friends This point should be decided in
the negative, unless asked especially to
call. but this is seldom done. The usual
course is either to take a relative to cali
upon af rend of her hostess or invite the
friend to meet the relative during her
stay. This is more frequently done, how
ever, in the country than in town, as in
the latter every day engagements seldom
admit of such introductions being made.
It has now become distinctly the fashion
to celebrate twenty-five years of welded
life by holding a so-called SILVER we'd
ding" reception. 1t is given to few to COM
memorate fifty years of married life, but
when spared to reach this epoch, then
golden wedding" is the title the festivity
bears. and it lis celebrated accordingly in
the various circles of society to which the
iudIIlGQ tOuBltS DtlOAA& 1llAo AOlAidAlAlC
and touching custom is of German origin,
but it has taken root in English soil and
has become nationally accepted Ques-
tons are constantly reaching us as to how
silver wedding" may be best celebra ted
and, therefore, at the present moment
few details will be well timed and of in
terest to our readers.
There are different ways Of marking this
event. To give a reception is the most
usual. to give a dinner party is next in
favor, and to give dance is popular when
a family includes unmarried daughters,
or a dance follows dinner party, or
dinner party precedes an evening party or
reception, or an afternoon reception ar at
home precedes a dinner party; while now
and again silver wedding is recogniz-
ed in a quiet way, relatives and intimate
friends only being invited either to a small
at-home or to a small family party
Invitations to all these gatherings, large
and small, should be issued in the united
names of husband and wife on at-home
cards and dinner cards; these should be
printed in silver and either the ordinary
adhered to or quaint original ornamental
ton introduced, the latter being quite per-
missible on these occasions. The words
Silver Wedding" should be printed on all
the invitation cards after the
day and date, and the ma
ture of the amusement to be given
in the opposite corner of the cards. The
designs are varied according to fancy; one
well-known literary lady had miniature
photographs of herself and husband, franz
ed with silver bells, at the top of the at
home cards; the bells bearing the dates
of the wedding day and Of the silver we'd
ding day. The point, however, is to avoid
being too ornate or to resemble the designs
peculiar to valentines, cupids, hands and
hearts united, etc, and thus many prefer
to have invitation cards as plain as nos
sible, so as not to err in this direction
At reception or afternoon at-home a
husband should assist his wife in receiving
the guests, and also at dance. When a
dinner party is given 1t is usual for him 70
take his wife in to dinner and place her
beside him at the right hand, as at Their.
wedding breakfast of long ago: tbe1y
should precede the guests, not folloU,
them, to the dining-room. IL is also usua1
for the wife to wear white, or white and
silver. Some husbands rather object 10
occupy so prominent position, and nre-
fer that the usual precedence observed ri
dinner parties should not be deparred
from. The decorations of the dinner tahIe
should be of white and silver, white flow
ers. silver vases and receptacles for flow