Evening journal., 1897-01-22
AT THE CHARITY BAIL.

one SIDE OF inc paper only.
AT THE CHARITY BALL.
Governor Ebe w. Tunnel was one of
the distinguished guests at the Charity
Ball in Philadelphia last night at the
Acadmey of Music. The ball was an
immense success, having the attend
ance of the governors of four states |
with their STATS. and one OF the most /
notable marches ever given. The |
gowns of the wcmen were superb, and /
the decorations were magnificent.
The grand march was led by Cover
nor Daniel H. Hastings. of Pennsylva- |
MIA. with Mrs. Thomas A. Scott. Fol |
lowing were c. c. Harrison and Mrs.
Griggs, Governor Lowndes, Of Mary
land, with Mrs Hastings; Governor
Griggs, Of New Jersey, with Mrs.
Mitchell; Governor Tunnel, Of Della
ware. with Mrs Harrison; Dr. S. Wier
Mitchell with Mrs Farrar Smith; John
G. johnson with Mrs. Balch, General
Farrar Smith with Mrs. J. G. Johnson,
and Frank Thomson with Mrs. Lown-
des. Many Of the patronesses followed
with the managers.
Preceding the ball. Provost and Mrs.
Charles Custis Harrison gave a splen-
did dinner for Governor and Mrs. Hast
ings. at which the guests were: Cover
nor and Mrs John Griggs, Of New Jer-
sey; Governor and Mrs. Lloyd Lown-
des, of Maryland; Governor E. w. Tun-
nell, Of Delaware; Colonel Robert Rails
ton. General and Mrs. Farrar Smith,
DR.. and Mrs. S. Weir Mitchell, Mr. and
Mrs. John G.. Johnson, Mrs Thomas A.
! Scott Mrs. Singerly Balch, Frank Thom-
son. Mr.. and Mrs. Charles c. Harrison
and Mrs. Russell Selfridge
Wilmington was also represented at
the ball by Miss Mary Peoples.
circumstances. began DR.. r. S.
Macarthur, of New York, to Herald
i representative, when asked whether en-
gagements should be long or short.
Then he decided not to finish the quo
tation, and continued: 'lf there is a
general rule it is that long engage
ments are not desirable. Young people
should exercise more wisdom and eau
tion before making an engagement,
and then once made it should be kept
unless the reasons for breaking il be-
come very strong.
Young people are too apt to think
that marriage must be put off until
/ they can begin housekeeping On the
/ same scale as that in which they have
3 been in the habit of living. Let them
Z begin as circumstances permit; b'
p brave and heroic and make the best o
q their positions"
Don't you think it's rather hard fo
4 people to make their engagement shor
/ when they haven't enough money t
start housekeeping on any scale a
e all?" was asked.
"They can begin if they want to-
q was the reply. "A sensible youni
, woman won't ask young man to CIV
! her social environment that his salar,
y will not afford.
81 think this q proper subject 10
Al both pulpit and newspaper discussion
a and l. is closely related to the best in
N terests Of ali the churches. There is n
a social question of more impOrtanc
d than that of the marriage relation.
p belongs alike to the church and state
j. and should receive more attention tha
\ it does from all religious teachers an
1t philauthropists.
w 81 say to all young people, do nc
,e make engagements unadvisedly, an
le having made them wisely, do not pos
y pone marriage unduly. Begin life,
ne need be. humhly; stand together lo'
nj ingly, Loyalty, heroically, and diIiicu
IN ties will vanish. prospects wi
s. brighten, and a worthy, if not what tf
he world calls a brilliant future, will
We assured
of short engagements are preferable
n declared Mrs. Elizabeth Cady Stanto
he but before engagements are eve
ad thought of every woman should fit he
H. self 10 be her own support; she shou
Is not become engaged with the object
ch leaning on another. But. once engage
n the marriage should not be postpone
Ily The engaged couple Will grow tired
,te each other. Their affection will 10
its freshness, and the fancy of one
the other is apt to stray
"A girl who is engaged for lol
IN time very frequently tires and irritat
- her finance by her captious exactioI
u, her jealousy and her unreasonable d
~, mands. The man often grows indiffC
~ ent and inattentive. The glamour
'a,. their love wears off, they see ca
,S others faults too plainly without {
~ forebearance which often comes wi
s5 marriage, and consequently so ma
iu engagements are broken. Short G
,ra gagements are best"
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