Savannah courier. (Savannah, Tenn.) 1885-1979, 1897-11-19
in, and Of the manner In which one pref
ty girl was reformed.

decked out in one another's clothes, q
portion of each wardrobe having been
purchased for some one else. To be
sure, these charming peoplewere ready
to lend me everything they had, but
unfortunately much preferred wear
ing my own clothes, which were almost
| invariably scattered all over the house.
IF daughter OF the house was in
my room when a caller was announced,
or when the dinner-hour was imminent,
that daughter picked up the first collar
or belt she could lay her hands on and
donned it as readily as if it were her
own. It did not improve the case that
the borrower was quite willing for the
same liberties to be taken with her
own belongings. And I could not but
perceive that the larger part OF the
family jars occurring in this amiablc
household were traceable to the bor-
rowing habit. Yet they thought that
not to lend and borrow freely was
evidence of selishness and restriction
upon the privilege and right of relation
ship and friendship.
''One day, however, I had the chance
of getting in good word with Kate
the elder daughter, which eventually
J cured her OF the borrowing habit. An
exquisite gown had come home for her:
it had been spread out upon the Ded'
and the mother and family had been
' called in and allowed to look upon its
: beauties. Kate's sweetheart was COM
ing next day, and this gown was to de-
light his eyes when she appeared before
= him in it. While she was out walking
the unexpected happened, and her lover
arrived day ahead of time. lie went
y after her, met her, and the two walked
home together, and, as 1T was the din
10 ner hour, straight on into the dining
room, expecting to make apologies to
n the mother for lack of preparation. In
20 that dining-room what sight should
overwhelm Kate, but that of Maud, her
N Younger sister, sitting at the table,
.. arrayed in all the glory OF the new
- gown! Maud's beloved had come and
he she, too, had coveted to appear in new
= and wonderful apparel You see, Kate
:" she said apologetically, I didn't know
he you were expecting Herbert. l didn't
know at all what you had this gown for
n' YOU didn't tell me. And l didn't
ne think you would care-I thought you
would be glad under the circumstances
IN. for me to tal0e it. Nobody told me
Herbert was here. Jack came, and
OF hadn't thought about anything else
,re And everybody-you, too, Kate-has
worn my clothes until they are pulled
in all out of shape; and came in here te
look for something to wear, and .yot
' were out, and l had to take the gowr
the without consulting you. l had NJ
- doubt but 1t would be all right
'a'' "T believe said Kate to me afte'
ow dinner, your way of not borrowing no
lending is best-although, at times,
ov- have thought it was dreadfully sell
ish way
owe "Then 1 found time for the lessor
,,o NV DEAR said I, the spirit which !
~ back of the freedom with which 20
ear. lend and borrow with each other. is
beautiful that I hardly feel it Is for nj
so' to criticise this particular form OF II
the expression, yet indiscriminate borrow
ing seems to me communism 10 III
d. point of lawlessness. A higher eXpre
un- sion would be in carefully respectin
the rights and property of each othe
ien- And In the point of convenience,
would have many advantages over yo'
present custom. Whenever any OF yc
We, want to 90 out, there is great confuslt
here in matching your gowns with Il
|. trimmings which belong with then
4: much time ds lost, and, as you ho
s yourself, much composure OF splr
s Your mother, for instance, who 40
* more lending and less borrowing th'
WV the rest of you, has become quite d
couraged in her attempts to go o.
inst verify, as + believe, from the difhcultl
row. which lie in the way of making sat
ping factory toilet in the time at her co
e far mand."
"I hadn't thought Of it in that wa
and Kate replied, softly. believe tina
feet see with you that the less selfish way
nor not to borrow. But do not know ho'
very shall cease to lend
pp Of "'That will come of itself. If J
prop cease to borrow you will soon cease
that lend. People who respect themsel
ter, a will not ask it; people who do not
spect themselves, you will find couri
,wers tc refuse. The question OF private, I
that sonal rights, of justice, should co
nlans before that of generosity. There
ere is times when one should lend, timeswl
kind one should borrow, times when
rood should give; times, when in our G
owed interest and in the interest," Oh o'i
turn one should do none OF these thu
, the We should neither give nor lend
looks cause others think we should, but G
of the as our own will and wisdom direct
tbe Another woman, who is an autho
s her on these little things in life which m
care people agreeable to one another,
never recently to the writer: II should
been ways rather give my things than
rs I'M them. / have friend who is q
sense, charming woman, but whose visit
of the dread. She carries away armfuls
. her books, and when she brings them
III thc they are worn and badly used
,tber's thors whom I handle with love
reverence"
amily, Every person VINO oorrows II
} their runs the rlsk Oh ihahlbe nihioeii W
incon- self nuisance to the 1rlenos VINO
,hance them; every person VINO lenos II
possess runs the risk OF having precious T.
nerosi- ures abused by careless hands
TO bor- Of entertaining Ill thoughts IN q
from quence. Lend Literally, give hpei
even IL in response to actual need ana !
urned, cordance with your judgment and
iduali- science, but do not abuse the high
L. +b, ;lore of oivinp and lending by.usi