The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1897-06-13
AFTER MARRIAGE.

"A lady writer IN one OF the Eastern
newspapers has been catechising hus-
bands as to their observance OF the at
tentions they layished in the counting
days. The comparison she suggests is
not undeseryed. 1t will not be denied
that a great change begins to take place
soon after the honeymoon on the hus-
bands part, and the lover of the court
ship days passes out of existence. The
lover may, in exceptionally happy cases,
survive in the husband, but that phase
of the relations is not the same even
with the loyerlike devotion to accom-
pany IL.
The new relation brings cares and re-
sponsibilities which were not present In
the old. Those cares usually increase as
the married life progresses. and the head
of a household has something else to
think OF besides ice cream, picnics,
flowers and love letters. Those considera-
tons do not suffice to justify neglect or
failure to observe pleasant attentions.
But such attentions are generally ac-
corded unconsciousiy. and the more near
ly and the longer the wife exerts the
fascination she exercised as sweetheart,
the more generously and the longer will
the attentions be paid. Some men are
attentive as a matter Of duty. but that
Is poor substitute for the devotion
which is evoked by the charm Of the
| wife.
Man Is not a faithful animal The male
one female is found in the animal crea-
ton, the female will be found to possess
specially attractive power. In the court
ing days. man is couspicuously anxious
TO inspire a favorable reception. He is
soiicitous for the comfort Of the maiden,
anxious about her health. interchangeable
In his ministrations TO her wishes and
fearful of giving offense. But. unless he
be far beyond the average, 1t will be
found that his solcitude Is not so much
to do what he does TO obtain credit
| for doing what he does. His love is not
| of the unselfish, martyr-like character
| which seeks to ofYer homage and render
service which shall remain unknown TO
| the object of them. A woman often loves
| in that fashion, content to silently sacri-
| fee herself with no other reward than
| the satisfaction OF doing IL where her
| heart is concerned. Not so man: he must
| have the satisfaction of knowing that his
| deeds are known TO the object of them.
and he wants them acknowledged and APP
| preciated. if not in words. then by the
! signs which need no Interpretation.
| But do wives carry the characteristics
| OF the sweetheart into welded life? Do
| they appreciate that they are the objects
/ Of far more anxiety and OF far more ma
! tcriai effort on the part OF the husband
/ than on the part OF the lover? Are they
as solicitous To appear TO the best advan-
| tage In demeanor and in dress as before
| marriage? Are their thoughts Of the hus-
band himself as the man. and not only as
| the provider. as unselish and devoted as
| they were TO the bearer OF captivating
| glfts and the promoter OF picnlcs and
| taunts ana boating expeditions? Are they
| as careful 70 please his eye by neatness
| and prettiness. as delicate In the modesty
! ~ natrimony as In the coyness Of court
| ship
The wife may reply that IL the husband
has rev cares ard responsibilities so has
she. II he hss 10 devote more time 10 ths
F! providing FOR family. she has the ankle
/ ties ard lsbors OF rearing children These
! she Will say. consume her time and absorb
her attention 10 the neglect OF the per-
| sonal adornment and ieisgreiy cultivation
| of physical and mental attracttyaness.
which we're easy enough In the days spent
a. her fathers home.
II is true. but IL does not alter human
| nature ard the careless or Siovenlv wife
! Is rot the one TO command her husbands
! continued admiration. She may be salts
asd 20 consider herself a woman doing
her duty. but this IS no. the aspect Of The
I case now under consideration. The hus-
! band Nigh, repay such q wife by his al
! mission os her good intentions, bat Re is
a. exacftns creature. ard his recognition,
/ o. a woman worth does not always car
I rs with IL through ltfe his surrender OF
supremacy 70 her as the u1cst lovely and
charming giri he h1inaly believed her To BE-
In the courting days.
II may - Interesting 70 speculate upon
this qecaii&Tify, but II IL Q. little use 10
| arge IL upoE. a woman who has nor The
faculty 70 recognize IL FOR herself and the