The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1897-02-07
PAPER NO. 5.
Good Times and How to Get
Them

no two girls are alike. Therefore that
which makes a good time for one NAV
make quite another sort of a time for an
other sort of girl There are plenty of
young women who find the essentials of a
good time to be perfect harmony in ones
environment To give a luncheon. for ex-
ample, and not have every appointment
of table and service perfect, not to have
as many flowers or exactly the dainty
menu that one would like. would remove
all possibility of a good time Plenty of
otHe- girls there are who could accept
! much less in the environment vet would
nt-d their good time at the luncheon ut
teriy spoiled if the people present were
III assorted TO each other and uncongen-
!al TO herself
With both these conditions met, the
average girl can make out of a lunch
con party and many another party Il very
sooo time, indeed; but she only is sure
o. good time who can get it or can
| above conditions
But there are no such girls" hear
you answer On the contrary, there are
| plenty of them, only you do not happen
TO De acquainted with them.
But they must be girls who do not
appreciate delicate and refined surround
ings or the Importance of congenial and
| delightful cOmpaniOnShip.'
Not at all. They are of the sort who
! appreciate both most keenly and would
secure both whenever possible. and would
|
as an added delight and charm; but they
also possess the innate capacity for ere
attnS the good time. If the atmosphere
tS:-t that which they would most desire
! there is something about the personality
| that makes an atmosphere of sunny and
| nospltable cheer that is easier to be happy
IN than is the air that marks the more
! correct and formal affair.
| The secret of a good time is in one
/ self 1t lies in tact in the facility for
taking just the elements that one finds
nd n lTrf frae~ to-.
/ and delight. The girl who can do that
pleasure.
Fortunately in our modern life the
difficulty is not that pleasures are in
accessible. that pleasant things do not
| come to the young. Life is full of them
OF too many girls are so filled with oc-
/ equations that they cannot take what
| cones: but If one only keeps alive the
power to appropriate and to enjoy, the
opportunity cannot always be delayed.
sometimes serious writers warn the
young against an Over-desire for the eX-
element of pleasure and there is some
need OF such a warming Yet. strange as
= may seem. the love of pleasure, the
capacity for enjoyment, is thing that
has to be cultivated in a multitude of
girls. There exists a spirit of indiffer-
ence and ennuf that doesn't care very
much except for passive kind of en-
Joyment, such as it requires no eXertiOu
to secure. That spirit is in the young,
when we would naturally look for It only
|
are already weary and have lost the
illusions OF youth. There are far too
many young people who care, in an in
dOlent way, for pleasant things, yet MOTH
ing seems quite pleasant enough to tempt
them to make an effort tc secure it. To
young people who affect this attitude of
the aged. acting as if life were hardly
worth the trouble of living. a genuinely
GOOD time is impossible. And the rea-
son is that we get out of everything eX-
actlv what we carry into it. If, there
% nj 90 rreC Of Vva sfY~T
enthusiasm and interest and vitality,
these bring sure and swift return of
satisfaction.
The one important essential to good
times. which really are the heritage Of
the young and ought to be theirs in
largest measure, is that the young them
Sel--cs shall have. first, the wit 10 know
good time when it comes to them. or
the capacity TO know how to create Il
GOOD time if they have to make it for
themselves. and the power to enjoy in u
simple, heart whole and genuinely good
natured manner whatever comes in the
way of amusement or entertainments 1t
sounds like a very simple recipe At
first thought 1t doesn't seem to cover
any of the vital elements of good times;
but the secret of a world of pleasure is in
Just that one fact, that she only enjoys
who takes into things her own power
to appropriate delight. 1t is here, as
elsewhere, ITO him that hath shall be
given.
Tainment or opportunity to enjoy your
self whether at the party, at the con-
cert. at the luncheon, do not give one
thought before you go to the question of
whether it is or is not going to be so ar
ran-ed as TO suit your especial tastes or
desires. Think of it as something planned
for the pleasure of many, like a garden
OF flowers. in which you may walk with
others, gathering that which you find
suited to yourself Drop all criticism out
of your anticipation. Never consider for
a moment whether you are going 10 like
It or are not going to like it; but il
you go at all, take perfectly fresh, open
mind and heart. If the rooms are lovely,
if they are charming bits of art revealed.
here in a landscape, there is a statue; if
TIE music is sweet, if the flowers are
fragrant, let each one of these do for
1to1I ire IittIe work of nleasanf ministry
Think of the fortunes spent on flowers
that nobody looks at. Think at how many
entertainments delightful music is fur
ntShed to which nobody listens. Look
for once. listen for once and really alb
sorb and enjoy. Then, when you turn 10
the people take every charming thing
that few minutes comDaniOnship with
every charming person you meet as u
special pleasure prepared for you. Be
glad when other people say bright
thicgS. Be happy when other girls are
admired and join your hearty cOmmen-
dgt:on 10 whatever is commended Take
everything that comes With frank, free,
genial hospitality of mind anu soul-STate-
ful for whatever seems delightful to you,
and you will be surprised TO ind that IN
stead of going home tired, bored and in
different a treasure of lovely expert
ences will go with you You will have
good time because you took it with you;
it was your own good time. and not only
that: the very spirit in which you went.
YOU NAV be very sure, made good time
for a great many other people who may
rot have been keen enough to find out
why it was they enjoyed. but who did en-
low much better and much more because
OF what came with your presence ana
your smile.
Our space. unfortunately, does not al
low us to. speak, as we would be glad
10 do of the thousands of methods by
which the young man have a good time
But this one way that I have pointed out
can make itself felt without regard to
what manner or form of pleasure may be
YOURS Remember that true pleasure IS
one of the things God wants you to have;
that he equally wants every other young
person TO have it, and you can do your
share toward giving it to Others We'll
come your good times and instead or
them with cOndeScending IN
difference use them as one OF his pre-
cious gifts, always remembering that:
Everywhere the heart awake
Finds what pleasure it can make;
Everywhere the light and shade
By the gazer'S eye is made.
In ourselves the Sunsh ine dWellS,
From ourselves the music SweilS,
BY ourselves our lives are fed,
With sweet or bitter daily bread.