Delaware gazette and state journal., 1896-04-02

his conditions Fancy never being
quite sure in what condition he. will
appear! 1t may be that he will como
in merry drunk, and be gay with tho
children, throw all the money he has
to you, and then stumble to bed and
go TO sleep. Fancy his coming IN
sulky--it forces you 10 send the 1hil.
dren out of the room quickly. as you
explain to them that their father is
not quite well; and you endure all tho
mean words he SAYS, and only, when he
can no longer talk, do you help him
OFF with his clothes and induce him to
lie down, even il he wont go to sleep.
And the angels in heaven arc looking
down on this. | wonder what they
think? 1t is possible that tomorrow
morning you may have bandago over
one eye. The children will be sorry
because you GOT up in the night and
struck il against the door. Tho SER
wants will wink at each other. AT
night, when your husband comes home,
sober, be will bring you a new gown
or a new brooch or some pretty trifie
in the way of jeweiry--but none Of his
gifts can fade out that black eye. The
chances are that you are loving and
on loving a man who would strike YOU
whether drunk or sober? That blow is
the something" that begins TO make
you wonder whether you do really care
for him. But he is the,father Of your
children-the ideal of your girlhood
and somehow in your love there comes
a great pity, and although strong.
minded women would blame you, you
love him and care for him as you might
for one of our children. Your love
ceases to be that wonderful one which
should exist between husband and
wife, but becomes instead maternal in
its character and your attitude toward
him, this man who promised to take
care of you, is that of a mother toward
a naughty child.
There are vicious husbands, thought
less husbands, mean husbands, i'll.
tempered husbands, but between YOU
ana me, my dear little woman, there is
no husband quite as bad as the all
around fool. He never does or SAYS the
right thing; he never appears to advan-
tage, and no matter how kind Of heart
you may announce that he is, lockers.
on do not hesitate TO say that he is
wonderfully weak of brain. Personally,
believe the average woman would
rather be beaten by man with some
intelligence than adored by fool, and
that is one of the things that makes
me glad that am woman. Even il one
is a fool ones self, ono does not want
to marry fool, and go on populating
the world with fools for ever and for
ever.
She asked me another questionable
this little woman VINO wrote the charm.
ing letter. She said, "Do you believe
in divorce?" l wish knew how TO
say Mo- so loudly that it would reach
the ears of each woman who had ever
thought of it, and convince them that
one of these wonderful new guns was
near her, and that she was struck by
one OF the 800 shots that they sent out
every minute. Sometimes, between
two married people things reach such
a point that il is wiser for them to
separate; to live apart and to lead lives
that give no scandal. But the divorce
oh, no! Once woman is divorced
from one man and marries another she
becomes demoralized and fails TO see
why she may not continue the divorcing
and the remarrying as long as she
pieases. She forgets that the day will
come when the only bloom on her
cheeks is an artificial one; when the
beautiful hair is false; when the ewes
have lost their glow, and she is tired
Of life. What will she think about
thenF Always of her first love. She
remembers that if shc had not been so
easily irritatcd about this, SO sus-
picious about that, or SO determined
about something else, she might still
be an honored wife.
1t is beautiful thing, to my way of
thinking, TO see two people, no longer
young, tho woman no longer beautiful
from that standpoint that demands
rosy checks, bright eyes ana sunny
locks happy with each other. Of
course they have had their misunder
standings: of course there have bren
times when it seenled to each as if tho
other could no longer be endured. but
thon ono Of the two remembered tha
vows they had taken, and yielded, and
50 all llfe was made smoother and they
grew gradually TO understand lust what
each liked best, what each most on
loyed; and, although the big world was
around them, it was outside them; and
love ana peace reigned in the little
world made by these two. In NV
friends littN letter she said, "WEnt
would you do if tho man you loved
cared for another woman?'' | SHAH
not answer her. hut | will let learned
man tell her what he thought. Dr
johnson said that he would never re
ceiye back to his home dauphter
whose complaint was that her husband
had been unfaithfu to her; and Ills
reason for this was, that il husband
had boen unfaithful it was the wifo's
own fault, since she had not succeeded
in pleasing him.
| wonder If | have said all there ia
about bad husbands? don't like N
attack men. They have always been
good and kind to me, and am forced
TO Judge them by what see of thom.
NY friend, you may take it rs a truth.
that two people are required TO make 4
happy home. Many bad husband
has been unconaciously reformed by his
wlte wisdom. | don't like to saw
thht women ever need reformation. But
there are bad husbands. Elsn women
wouldn't be glad when they went oil
IN the morning and didn't return until
night But 50 much il in the hand Of
the woman. Man is the lower animal
To be quite honest. | have never been
quite sure whether be- was above or
below the monkey. So it is in the
finer, better nature Of woman to train
him in the way he should 20. To
train him to be more gentle; TO be
more aitectionate; more gonnYous ana
less fault finding Idon' believe there
i9 any redemption for the sulen Or Tia
silnEy man. However, il is pleasing
e think that he viii have a hereafter
and can imagine tnat heaven. h
some women vii mean looking down 10
where their husbands arr and remind