The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-02-05
IDEAS o WOMEN.

opes' tHefe are lew that reqU}rs
50 much thoughtful care as the formins
OF habits. Of trlthfulness. / know 4
young matron who has soiemnly an
houneed that all children are born liars
and the truth is whipped into them
says the Philadelphia ssPress.'
1t is surprising how soon the LITTLE
tots will learn to lisp an emphatic denia
when questioned in regard to some
wrong-doing of which they have beer
guilty. 1t even seems to come natura
to them to tell an untruth in man,
cases when the truth would serve the;l
purpose quite as well, and the mothel
soon realizes that judicious handling is
necessary if right habits are to bs
formed in this direction.
Yet there are many mothers. and
probably we are all acquainted with
such, who seem to give this important
subject but little thought. The follow
ing example is one of many that might
be quoted:
Il had twenty eggs hidden for Easter,
and mamma said If I would bring them
in she would keep them from peing
mashed; and she ma, used them all but
two! I'm hiding some more now. and
she won't get them, you'd better be-
lieve."
This is what a minister's son said to
me a few days before last Easter, and
his mother smiled over 1t, but it seemed
to me it might form a text for a very
eloeuent sermon. [ am not a preacher
and could not do the subject justice, but
l would like to enter my protest against
such training.
How can a mother expect to teach her
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ample? 1t may seem a small thing to
her, and yet it Will make a lasting i'm
preston. and a decidedly harmful one
on the little minds that are looking to
her fer guidance. We can teach the
children much more easily by example
than by preeept. and If we are careless
in telling the truth we have no right to
expect them to be otherwise.
We may look about US wherever we
will and see that the love of exaggera-
ton has a strong hold upon people, and
especially among children. The desire to
attract attention causes them to put that
which they have to tell in as attractive
and striking a form as possible, and per-
haps give it several embellishments that
are not in strict accordance with the
truth.
We find this fault in every profession.
and among people who would feel quite
insulted if they were told that they were
not strictly truthful. Habits of strict
truthfulness formed early in life will be
CT the greatest possible benefit aud bless
ing throughout the lives of children. 1t
does not pay to allow them to form the
habit of telling a thing falsely even when
joking. or for the purpose of provoking
laughter.
Many mothers make the mistake of
frightening children into telling false
hoods. l can retail many instances
where children would have told the truth
had they not been pounced upon in such
a manner that they told an untruth be-
fore pausing to think of the harm or the
c~opssaGences-
Never tell a child that you cannot
believe a word he says That is GER
ta:nly not the way TO make him truth
full Rather assure him that you do be-
-iere him and want to be able to believe
him always. He viii strive to be worthy
of your trust, never fear. That put
tins you on your honor has a fascination
for US all.
Aluays remember to make it as easy
as possible for the child to tell the truth,
f}tO IAdtetl WHdk are lie CIRCUMSTANCES
and if punishment is necessary for a
wrong that has been confessed. be as
lenient as possible, and impress it upon
the mind of the little one that the con-
sequence would have been much worse
if the truth had not been told.
On questioning the little cu.prit con-
corning some wrong that you now that
he has committed, do not ask him
harshly or threateningly if he did it, thus
tempting him to deny it; but, letting
him understand that you already know
of the wrong, encourage him to tell you
all about it, just how it happened, what
was his object in doing it, ETC., and it
may be discovered in many cases that
his purposes were good after all, and
very little punishment will be necessary,
excepting to 'help him to remember
not to do it again.
"Wilhelmina L. the little Queen of Hol-
land, rises at I o'clock every morning
through the year" writes Arthur War
rem IN most entertainingly describing the
young sovereign and her daily life. in
February Ladies' Home Journal "She
breakfasts at s, and at 9 o'clock her les
sons begin. The study she likes best Is.
history. This morning studies are stopped
at half-past II, and then the Queen goes
for a drive. No matter what the weather
is nor what the season, she drives in an
open carriage. At half-past u she has
luncheon with her mother. After lunch
con she takes another short drive, ac-
eompanied by the Queen Regent or by
Miss Van der Pail, one of the superin-
tendents of the child's education. When
the Queen returns from her second drive
she has lessons again until 4 o'clock. At
half-past 4 there is tea in the English
fashion. Then until dinner time the
jueen is free to amuse herself as she
J~leases. She roams in the palace gar
ydens, or perhaps has an outing with her.
ponies, or perhaps she plays with her
dolls. Al half-past 6 dinner is served.
Once or twice or week when the Queen
is at The Hague tine gentlemen and la
dies of the Court have the honor of din
ing with her. Always, if the weather be
fine. Queen Wilhelmina gets into the open
air again for half an hours drive or
walk. Her hour for retiring is as reg
ular as the hour for rising. She is bed
by 10 o'clock each night, and the lights
are out. This part Of the daily regime
is the one which pieases her least of
any. Few interruptions to the child's
studies are permitted Whenever or