New-York tribune., 1896-01-05
HOME AND SOCIETY.
.o,,r OF TIE WOES OF RICHES.
o,,.1,r SMALL DANCE - THE MODERN
GRANDMOTHER - CHARMING fAkls FASH
,oxs-soME NEW JEWEIRY-How TO

rO\s-SONE NEW JENELhi-io" ~
Use ANCHoviEs.
,,.r her opera box is only one OF mi.adys
,v trials Just at this season
.T, "a perfect nuisance always 10 feel that
- an nv mind" exclaimed one OF Gothams
.,,hy danes the other day. Whether go
"ea .., or not it is always bother. or course
~. could not go without ones opera box; 1t is
one ,a q, those responsibilities that people in
!" yr position are obliged to assume But as far as
.on,l comfort and enjoyment are concerned
,or one would rather be without one. should
,ohaby he asked by my friends as often as
p,ad 70 20 and should not have this continual
- about the disposal Of my tickets. When
go myself there is always the bother about
n for if you ask another woman you must
vida men and those you care to have seen in
or- hox are in such demand that II Is almost
;nnossble 10 get them. while the women don't
~rs :, II you ask Tom. Dick or Harry. Then II
Gov, don, 60 yourself. there is all the trouble
.hout those you send your box TO. You may
.,3 II 10 half dozen people. you know. and
have them decline 1t with thanks
"But" said her companion, "only consider the
ouantity of people to whom an opera box would
hs an immense treat! There must be any num-
49, ~ neople YOU know who very seldom have
. chance OF going TO the opera, and who would
be only glad to CO..
"But these are always people that you don't
particularly care to have in your box an
Mrs. with frank WOIlul!iieSs II ls
Al right tc have them at matinees then It looks
~a,ber well TO have ones poor relations. COVER
nesses and country cousins. always make
ro,nt OF asking Mime. B.. the children's ballet
class teacher. and Mile. c.. the French
1ouyernante and the rest. No one could say
am not kind" she continued with virtuous
self-complacency "But in the evening con-
alder that we owe 1t to the house to keep our
boxes exclusive"
Steam yachts are also apt to be considered
roore or less In the category Of white elephants
BY their fortunate possessors
I'VE were all relieved when father sold his
yacht" ash the daughter OF a millionaire owner
Of a superb vessel. I'VE felt that we must use 1t.
whether we wanted to or not. and that we were
continually expected to entertain on board OF 1t.
And II We lett 1t lying idle for few days.
papa always began to reckon up what It had
cost during the interval. until 1t grew to be
regular incubus.
There Is no form OF. private entertainment that
finds so much ready appreciation as small. we'll
appointed private dance and society Is deploring
the fact that the present winter promises so few
There seems to be widespread Idea that the CIV
ing Of a dance involves great deal OF trouble and
expense, and for that reason many people seek to
repay their social obligations by giving large tea
or perhaps, a few dinners which really Involve
more money and more trouble. while . card to the
former Is lightly esteemed and is never considered
a personal compliment. An invitation to dance
on the other hand. Is always hailed with delight,
while 1t may be extended sufficiently to cover all
obligations and really calls for very little expense
The three chief items OF cost at such social func
ton are the music. the favors for the cotillon and
the supper. The first necessarily calls for GER
tain amount OF expenditure. but as the choice
ranges from the Hungarian Band TO lone spinster
pianist. II is easy to suit all requirements A happy
medium may be struck, however, by engaging a
pisnls, with a violin accompanist which should
not cost together SIS; the former, however.
should be of the best, perfect time is indspen-
sable.
In providing the supper the expense. like that OF
the music depends entirely upon its elaboration.
but supper may be very simple affair salad
and croqueites. followed by ices and cake. being
all that 1t Is really necessary to provide 1t Is best
10 have the guests seated at small tables ana the
supper regularly served. In the way OF drinks,
champagne used to be the beverage de rgueur at all
fashionable functions. but there IS growing ten
dency to do away with all stimu.ants at dances.
which makes IL now perfectly permissible TO give
only bou:llon and lemonade.
In the estimation OF young people one OF the
chief factors of successful dance is the collection
O. Appropriate and decorative cotllon favors, when
may be as many few. as costly or as mex
pens,ve as the hostess may elect. Il is always
we'll 10 bear In mind in selecting them that the
chief use OF favor Is to give an air OF brightness
the dance and for that reason one should choose
those that are as decorative as possible japanese
fags are always popular. set OF com;cal masks
viii occasion a great deal OF merriment. Colored
balloons are very pretty and are sure 10 create ex-
element as by one they break away from the
dancers and rise majestcally TO the ceiling l"''o
were two effective sets OF favors at recent smart
entertainment The first consisted OF enormous
pink white and yellow paper roses. on long Stake
with leaves proportonately large the effect whhe
carried and after they had been distributed arouhu
the room really charming The other set
were equally effective; these were long wands mace
Of sticks wound around with silver paper. on the
ends OF which we're fixed by means OF a trembling
wire a slyer sun, whose long threads waved al
every motion and looked like moving electric Hghts
around the room
Homemade favors are often successful Among
these may be suggested palmetto fans, painted wan
a rough sketch and ted with gay ribbons; wooden
,,oons with the handles similarly decorated and
the bowls adorned with coiored drawing; shirred
hats Of tissue paper. decorated with paper mowers
.,c custom which has obtained vogue OF late
,s the giving OF souvenir favor 10 every one pres
en+ II ia generally some trife IN silver
uhara a country house is not fully Illuminated
Nth ga. or electricity. a good idea Is to have
boa-ds about four feet long ana SIX ihcheS "iue'
with twelve holes bored in each' cahuie ociie
40, IN each hole. The boards may theh De con-
cealed with wreaths OF evergreen o' "o"r,s anu
.,nan, Give. a great deal Of light. and the
effect is exceedingly pretty.
I, is with rather a comical feeling OF mixed peas
,re and diemay that up-to-date woman Oh inc
,,eriod finds herself a grandmother ana IL Is saie
m saw that In most instances 'he "ie''a'
r.nordarates as the tiny scrap OF humanity placed
IN her arms causes her realize that she Is entitled
to- that venerable title which she has always as
ISOLATED with old age and more or dess decrep''uue
As many Of the grandmothers OF our oaS arc
charming women. still In the zehith oi INC" 80
looks and power of attraction. II IS haruiS ~ Ds
ordsraa AZ that they should dislike name that ID
not even pretty or loving and thatthey should
their chidrcn's children to call them by some '"o,e
rnuadaYS the name 'granu-