Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1896-11-26

one busy woman: "Why don't your
brothers help herr" She will look at
you and answer you, as hundreds of
them have answered me: "Who can
rely on men to steadily take care OF
poor relations? They will splurge out
with o present. they will send some
ridiculous and unsuitable gift, but tine
man who regularly hands sum of
money out to "a woman whose only
claim on him Is that she is of his
blood anG Ia poor and old is more than
man; he is so exceptional that he's
an angelo
| VI course, there are foolish women;
| but the folly of woman when it comes
70 spending money usually has kindly
| FEELING as its incentive. Speaking of
| FOLLY not long ago, an elderly lady of
my acquaintance was left Thousand
dollars by a rich friend. A thousand
dollars is not great deal Of money,
| but IT was given because, while the
| LADY TO whom it was left had small
| Income. there was always the posi-
biilty OF sudden need OF money--ill-
| ness or death-and the giver thought
that this thousand dollars would be a
nest egg held for the day OF trouble. l
dropped in to congratulate ms friends
| They have a sweet. old home, filled
with furniture that is old fashioned,
and they are gentlefolks. Before l
could say a word IN regard to the be-
| quest, my hostess said:
| Agnes, you must show Mistress
Bah your diamond brooch
looked sufficiently surprised to in
yite an explanation. This was it:
Perhaps you heard, my dear, that
Cousin Nancy left me thousand dol
lars? Well, in looking over my really
handsome things, l gave my solid silver
tray and cream Jug TO Mary, whom she
was married, and the pearls that were
my wedding present to Louise, when
| she was married, So there wax nothing
really handsome left for Agnes, 80 " hen
this money came l went right down to
Tiffany and bought diamond brooch
| 80 that Agnes might feel she was not
| neglected. "
| To be honest, was so surprised that
wondered that the giver of this
money did not rise from her grave and
indulge in few words of sulphurous
faint. And yet the recipient OF the
brooch and the purchaser thereof,
seemed to think that what was right
had been done.
| nuptDtT WOtlldu, u lhuS. WIS WluDWbu
when she was 20; she had d lame child,
a tiny girl. Her husband left only a
tow Thousand dollar life insurance The
widow and her child went back to live
in household where the getting
bread and butter was already dill
| Guilty, and every mouth counted.
& verybody who knew the widowed one
felt glad about the life insurance. The
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her best concluded that she would use
it to open a littls neighborhood store,
and so make home and living for
herself and her sick child.
When called to sec her was told
she was away. l concluded she was
| visiting some friends. My second call
found her at home, and then / was
told that she had just gotten back
from New York. She went on to say
that she had always wanted to see New
York, and that she knew poor Harry,
| who had always been an indulgent
husband, would have liked her to go
] and then, too, she hadn't wasted her
money on a lot OF nonsense, for she
| had stayed six weeks at good hotel
and bought herself pair of diamond
earrings. She said that she felt that
this was a sensible purchase, because
when she was dead her little girl could
have them, and diamonds were always
good. Her entire family sympathized
with her and thought she had done
what was right Afterwards, l heard
that my behavior was criticised as
cold hearted; they said looked as IL
| thought she ought not to have spent
the money as she did. | never knew
before what truth-telling face had
But really, ii does seem as If there
were some women in the world who
needed TO be- led and cared for like
lambs.
Our men are, the most of them,
nineteenth century Bayards. But they
insist upon showing their generosity
and their love, as they think best,
without giving much thought to the
effect that every action has on the
world at large.
Duties are not pleasant burdens, hui
when one does ones duty, no matter
how unpleasant it may be, there is a
certain pleasant satisfaction that per-
meates one that is Understandable. II
ia sort of mental shaking hands with
ones self. 1t il the absolute recog-
milton that one has done right, and
done right without hoping fer any re.
ward. Yet the reward for a duty done
is a certainty, but certainty that may
not come Just when you expect it, How
mean you do feel when you let some.
body else do your duty How miserable
and low you do seem not only in your
own but in the worlds eyes! 1t must
be easier, | think, to get over com
hitting one great crime than to satisfy
ones self with Sinking the duties Of
everyday life. Some people don't ever
like the word duty" they forget
that it rhymes to beauty, and they
also forget how many kinds of beauties
there arc There is ths beauty that is
but skin deep, and OF which you grow
weary; and there is the beauty of heart
and of life, which makes somebody q
delightful companion forever and for
ever.
When you are seeking a wife you
want to look for that one who possesses
beauty of heart--it may be that she
has beautiful face, too. but remsm-
Der, no matter how beautiful that il,
it will change, for old age comes to
everybody. He ia visitor to whom
we cannot deny ourselves. He dulis The
eyes and wrinkles the skin and bends
the back and makes husky the voice,
but unless you are lacking in love and
kindness and in sympathy, he can
never touch the heart, 30 that 1t Is
always worth while to look out for a
beautiful heart. Who has it2 Each
one Of us would like to think that we