Daily capital journal. (Salem, Or.) 1896-1899, 1896-01-04

tor China.
Japanese women never discuss thei
servants. To do 30 would be contrarl
10 japanese etiquette. They MAJ
> talk OF dress, the theatre and the rest
Well. we'll, well! Who would have
thought the woman lived who coulc
resist the temptation 10 talk about
her servants? IL seems too good 70 b
E true. II must be an advertising
dodge 10 cause the tide OF emigration
70 flow toward the shores Of japan
, And II it Is, IL undoubtedly will have
the desired effect, for there Is no man
but who has had dinned into his ears
distressing tales Of the depravity OF
the servants, until he has been temp
ted TO fail in buslnes 70 that his wife
would be compelled TO do the work
herself. The women themselves have
been made the target Tor countless
arrows Of sarcasm and ridicule, and
sneers Of anger and disgust. Added
10 that. by continuing their fretting,
they have made themselves utterly
miserable. The much discussed ser
want question has been and is one OF
the most efticaciOus processes for
bleaching the hair that can he found
but it's not satisfactory TO the
women, for Il turns their tresses white
instead OF yellow. II is almost i'm
possible TO be in the presence Of two
women for fifteen minutes without
one asking the other, Have you
good girlg" and II pernhance the
answer Is "yes," Immediately there
comes a sigh from the questIoner' and
the declaration "Well, haven't. Yoa
Just don't know what a trial she Is,
and then follows lengthy tirade set
ting forth the misdecds and short
cOmings Of the one under discussion,
until a second listener, II man
wishes himself or the woman a long
way of; and II the listeper be a
woman she's just wild 70 relate her
experience, and conyipces her sister
in-tnouble that her troubles are as
nothing in comparison with what she
endures. She usually manages tol
gain the opportunity, too, and when
she has improved IL, No. really feels
jealous, hurt and grieved because she
does not have 80 hard time "manag-
ing" servant. Isn't that a dis
gustinR phrase? The idea Of trying
10 manage servant, as though she
was an animal IL doesn't pay 20 try
ones ability In that direction. II the
work Is performed IN a satisfactory
manner, be duly grateful. II not
state your wishes In decided, yet
kind manner. and II they are not
needed, find someone who viii heed
them. Don't wrangle with your help. |
IL does not pay 70 exchange unkind
words. II Immediately destroys the |
respect OF each Tor the other, and |
once destroyed IL cannot be Tegained.
You may think there is no such
thing as RESPECT FOR A SERVANT,
but there is, and II you are the right
sort Of woman you will realize II as
soon as you are reminded OF IL. H
you hired help dignihes labor by per
forming IL In a correct, consciensciOuB
manner, and az the same time main
tains the proper position in the house
hold, your respect Is commanded, and
given. And II you respect your SER
want you are a bit careful not 20 make
unnecessary work, or 20 remind them
unnecessarily Of chs fact that they
are servants. Don't call them SER,
WANTS where they will hear you. IS
is quite unnecessary and altogether
unkind, for they don't like to be un.
pleasantly reminded q the fact that
they occupy q subordinate position.
You wouldn't like IL yourself, would
your Then remember the golden
rule. and don't follow the precepts
of Pat, who, when asked why he beat
his pix 80 numerically, replied:
"och, sure, an It's 70 show me
'thoritY.n
You perhaps do not fully realize
how much influence a little kindness
may exert upon the recipient OF your
favor. With most people unkindness
has the effect Of emblttering them
toward all humanity, while a few
words will warm and
cheer the hearts, and too, coNsmER
THR PRACTICAL SIDE. No one Is apt 4
10 be TO an extra exertion 70 please an /
person. You wouldn't !
Let anyone feel that their
kindness meets with gratitude, and
they will meet your kindness With .
gratitude by renewing their efforts 70 ,
llease. The continually fault-fnding
master or mistress doesn't enjoy the
favor OF those employed. II
MARION.