Fisherman & farmer. [volume] (Edenton, N.C.) 1887-19??, 1896-07-31
WOMAN AS WIFE
And MOTHER
CALVIN S. BLACKWELL.

In tHeSe WORDS 1Ou says lIldl
Solomon and almost all other
great or good men are what they
are because of their mothers.
The mothers character crowns
the son with dignity or degreda
ton. The son is apt to inherit
the good traits, and the daugh-
ter the weaker impulses of the
mother. The law of heredity
imposes an awful responsibility
upon Motherhood.
In my sermon to young wom>
en- l expressed my delight that
marriage is no longer a girls
only hope. Yet it is fact that
almost every girl sees marriage
alter in the future. l assume
that the majority of women will
either marry, or are married.
Most any woman can marry.
But how to be happy afterwards
is problem that not all women
have solved. One half of the
domestic misery starts in the
dough tray coffee pot and trying
pan. Most of our girls need to
go to cooking school more than
to a school of music, poetry and
art. Perhaps not one half the
women who marry can bake a
loaf of light bread. How can
al1y woman expect man to live
on bakers bread, soda biscuit,
and steak sizzled in greese and
not be grabbed, snarling dis
peptic2 Nine tenths of good
cooks and dainty housekeepers
have healthy happy husbands
and homes. Nine tenths of
slovenly housekeepers and poor
cooks have unhealthy children,
cross husbands and miserable
homes. The kitchen stands
mighty near the church. The
first thing Christ did when he
entered his public life waste gcito
a kitchen,a kitchen inCanna and
regulute things. If he should
come again | think he would
begin his work at the same
place in the kitchen.
What can a woman do to keep
her husbands love alive? |
have heard of a woman who
once a week got her marriage
certificate and shook it de6antly
III his face and shrieked, cold
fellow you have got to low. me,
for here is our marriage certi6>
cate" That woman experienced
what nine tenths Of married
women experience-that mans
love seems to grow cold after
marriage. But l doubt if she
went about warming it the best
way. You may be 80, 40 or 90.
What's the odds ? Much of the
love that promised to be eternal
has faded, and only a misty Wis
ion remains but how you cher>
isll it and live over and over
again the JOY and sunshine of
courtship of which nothing is
left save a few endearing express
sions tied together with a time
worn ribbon, trinket or two
and memories bitter and sweet.
Men They are clumsy, they
are dense. TO them a love affair
once over is to be buried as far
out Of sight as possible and wary,
indeed, must be the Individual
friend or foe who can get them
to resurrect it. 1t would be we'll
if women could cultivate the
manly philosophy which sol
browns out sentiment,
and allows good hard sense to
take its place. Not that the idea
is either beautiful or attractive,
but it's eminently practical.
There would be no need of this
palatable advice if men were not
men. They can WOO in a way
to give a woman an idea that
they are sentiment from the
crown of their head to the soles
Of their feet. But just wait.
Your patience won't have to be
.ested very far. To most of them
he courtship is merely a fact in
life which is to be looked back
Upon with regret or satisfaction,
according to the way the ma.ri>
nonial venture has turned out.
You haven't forgotten the time
when the ardent lover counted
he minutes as golden that were
spent i'll your society and nearly
roze off your poor little nose in
lis desire for a few last words at
he door. 1t did seem as if he t
Gould never tear himself away,
md yet if you ask him after mar
tiage to throw over his lodge or :
Tub for one evening you feel in s
<our heart of hearts that you are
yoted an intolerable nuisance.
In womanly fashion you won> t
Ter at the change. 1t seems to
'ou that i'll some way you must t
'e to blame for not keeping your
leart in pace with this waning {
Election, and yet the dear fellow t
S just as dear as he was when /
,011 1Nara etinNit1n the hnnn.