Delaware gazette and state journal., 1896-07-16


At the funeral my husband had to
hold him up. He was SO overwhelmed
by grief that he staggered here, there
and everywhere. Owing to tho fact
that he had no lot 10 the cemetery his
wife was laid in a receiving vault !
never saw such widower He was in
such deep mourning that he reeked
with grief. Six months went by, and
one day he came to ask my husband IL
he thought it would be etiquttee to
announce his engagement before his
first wife had really been buried That
is what mans love is worth. The
wonder to me is that women remain so
true to their first loves or course,
widows marry again, but widow does
not tnd 1t SO necessary to get hus-
band as man does wife.
At least it would seem so. There
was one man in this village who
wanted to jump into his wife's grave,
| and three months afterwards he was
going around saying that he never
knew what love was until he met the
young woman whom he had elected as
successor to the wife who had died.
confess that men are useful; they
can lift heavy things, they are good at
checking trunks, and in a way, they
have their own place In the world, but
when it comes to be question OF de-
votion, the average woman is far ahead
OF the average man. That Is, when a
woman really loves man OF course,
these very strong, intense loves are not
everyday affairs but when woman
loves man and finds happiness with
him, no other man can ever take his
vNIa p,,tt o sn,, ,,,s
seems as if anything that was feminine
and more or less gentle, and which
made home for him. satisfied him.
Men are crude, and they don't know
the fine gradatiuns of love as women
throwing her shuttle backwards and
forwards, and making it form the
finest OF tatting, seemed to have an
opinion on this subject She said: 81
think all of us forget in time, and il is
blessing that we do. What would
the world be il it were populated with
men and women weeping for their first
loves, and fathers and mothers crying
for their children2 1t is good to for
get good not only to forget decently
those who have gone from us, but all
the trouble and worry and sorrow that
the horror If those who have gone could
see us; if they could realize how soon
Il o. are counted out of life; il they
could understand how soon after death
they become not the man, or woman
that we loved, but the awful something
which we dread, and which we speak
OF as it,. l believe in merciful God
therefore, / cannot believe in a God
NJ hn IN iat rlS, h.. ha
| fore, see those who have been left in
his world. Fancy the husband seeing
his wife consoled by the love and
| caresses of another man! Fancy the
wife looking on while her husband
yielded with rapture to the attraction
of a woman younger more beautiful
and more interesting than she was her,
self. Fancy the father knowing that
the children have forgotten bim-that
he is as one ybo has never been-there
can be no hell TO equal that, and |
don't believe just God would put any
such punishment on anything human, Z"
FROM HEAVEN TO Wells.
There was silence after this. and it
seemed as il for little while the
women were all remembering. One
probably thought OF grave which was
Overgrown with weeds, while another
remembered advice that had been for
gotten. Then somebody laughed 1t
wasn't an easy laugh, but it was the
evident endeavor TO make everything
lighter and pleasanter. And the girl
who was making iron holders inquired
II anybody had seen the new wells.
And somebody else said that wells were
at once great pleasure and great
bother. And the girl who was in town
last week told us this: 1.-THE really
new vel Is have very fine background
OF black net, with huge beetles or
huge rosebuds, hand woven, upon
them. The effect is all right, il these
wells are arranged as the French
women wear them, that is, draped
around very softly, and not drawn close
TO the face; but when they are dragged
tight over the face, after the Ameri-
can fashion, one becomes an abomina.
tion of desolation. The average Ameri-
can woman places her veil across her
face without wrinkle, and so she can
not wink; and if a beetle happens to
place itself, in its lacey way, on the
end of her nose, the result is grotesque.
Now, veil is supposed to be charit-
able in effect
The woman who is no longer 10
her twenties should drape her veil so
that full folds are under her chin, and
the lines and cords on her neck that
announce her age are hidden by its
hlmy lulness. In buying veil a deal
OF skill is required. You want to
choose the most becoming material, get
plenty of it, and then practice draping
IT, not only to suit your chapeau, but
your face. Women ought to take the
same care in arranging their fancy wells
that they do in fixing their locks in a
becoming manner. | once heard OF a
woman who had her hair fixed every
Friday, and never took it down all
during the week ~
Everybody shifted at this, and then
the lady who was making flannel
| petticoats for the heathen in Africa,
said, "Ob, that Is nothing. During
the reign of Marie Antoinette a lady OF
the court had her hair put up not
oftener than once in two weeks, and
there was the greatest lot of stiffenod
net and grease and wire and feathers
used TO arrange the fashionable coiffure.
One great belle had her hair dressed tu
represent three ships, and kept il UP
that way for month. Cleang No, ii
wasn't very clean, but then nobody was
clean, as we count cleanliness, in those
days, and a gentleman thought nothing
OF removing from ladys coiifure any.
thing that she might find unpleasant
or troublesome. l think, taken alto.
gether, women are nicer in every wsy
now. Cleanliness aud good health are
fashion, and we'll bred girl would az