The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-09-09

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on precept. here a little and there a little
The fruit will come finally in the vel
bred gentleman, but it must not be ex-
pected all at once in the boy. ! would
never punish a boy for faults Of this
kind.
Love brings patience, and 1t gee with
out saying that It does require a large
amount of this rare virtue to bear the
banging of doors, the muddy boots on
the carpet in utter disregard of 5oor
mats. and the words spoken in n loud
enough for a deaf person. But if the
hasty word Of reproof can be suppressed,
If the boy only hears a lovfngs gentle
voice in reply, the reward is certain.
If the mother wins the boys affection
she will hold the mans. If she patiently
hears all his boyish griefs, listens With
interest to all his school r~ecitals. enters
heartily into his sports. covars his balls.
~untangles his kite strings. helps him to
find his hat and books. which somehow
never are in the right place, she will
not fail to have the entire love n con-
fidence of the youth when he is exposed
to all the temptations of coming man
hood. To her he will come for advice
Gill sympathy dltQ oAS WAL nav
ward many times over for all her pa
tient. loving teachings.
Overhearing a mother remark to her
boy recently :-'You mustn't do that, be-
cause the other boys will laugh at you"
/ INDUCED in a htt1e ~disquisition all to
myself. Was the motive just cited the
fear of ridicule, a wise or even a safe
one? Would ii not tend TO establish in
the child's mind a low and false stand
ard OF right? Would It not make him
cowardly? It certainly would seem so,
especially when such a motive was in
stilled into his mind at his mothers knee.
No, the wise mother, no matter how sim
pie and trifing nay seem the question
that she is settling for the little ones.
will teach them to square all their ac-
tons. great or small, by a higher stand
ard.
Suppose for example that your boy Cor
your girl, either, for that matter) has
taken up some popularity of dress. or
arrangement of the hair. or some other
trifie that proves annoying to your taste.
State to him the real reason for your
~objection-that IT IS u~nbecoming or i'm
modest, as the case may be-and teach
him to have respect for your feelings in
the matter, but do not once mention a
motive ffact, though 1t may be) that his
classmates would laugh at him. A child,
though naturally bold and fearless. could
be weakened by such training, while one
of a sensitive, yielding nature would sure
ly develop into a mere machine or COW
ard. The fear of a chum's laugh might
some time in the future tempt our boy
to take his first glass or yield to some
other evil. Rather teach them to brayely
meet the leering laugh. to be firm under
ridicule. the only question being, Am I
in the right2
Does 1t pay to send a girl to college?
asks a writer in the North American
Review Many a weIl-to-do father,
whose family is living comfortably and
spending all he earns, and many a hard
worked mother. who wishes her daughter
TO have some easier and more remunera-
tive occupation than herself, are a~nxiously
bordering This question. After many
years of investigation and observation l
can give but an oracular answer. If Pc
cuniary return be the chief motive for
sending a girl to college. I should say
the venture is as risky as any other busi-
ness investment.
The necessary expenses at a woman's
college are about $500 a year. The charges
for board and tuition at vassar and Wei
lesley are s4e0 a year; at Smith and
Bryn Mawr, where there is greater var
iety in the accommodations, the average
price Is about the same. One hundred
dollars is a reasonable sum for books,
class n club dues, and necessary Incl
dentals. Clothes and travelling expenses
depend upon the Individual. ! have been
told by a woman of wide experience, and
my own observation confirms 1t, that
a college woman is doing well if, upon
graduation. she can obtain a place TO
teach for $500 a year without board. A
teacher is obliged to dress decently, to
live in a respectable quarter of the town,
to attend an occasional concert, lecture,
or play, and she ought not to be prohibited
from buying books now and then. or taxi
ing a trip during vacation. She must
manage well if she can do all this, V
in a small city, on $500 a year. OF course
unless she is a young woman in comfort
able circumstances, boarding at home,
she hopes for speedy promotion; but it
does not always come. I know of women
who rave taken advanced degrees at
American and foreign universities land
this class is small enough to make its
services valuable, who are filing sub
ordinate positions in schools at less than
81, 0N a year, and are unable TO get any
farther. Still, let us always remember
that there are two women in his country
who are paid a salary of over $500 a
month.
The Queen Regent of Holland is a prac-
teal minded German woman. She has
caused her little daughter. wilhelmina,
who will be Queen fopr years hence. when
she is twenty, to be arefully trained and
educated. Her play is educational and
has trained her to realize the ideal of
Dutch women, a good housekeeper. Says
the Woman at Home":-
Het Loo, in Gelderland, is Queen Will
helmina's favorite home. It is a lovely
country estate not far from Apeldoorn.
The house is a big old Dutch mansion on
the edge of a wood, n the home park
is her young Majesty's special play
ground.
Here she learned to ride n to drive
and to row. She does all these things
with skill. Here she has a truly royal
playground, for a portion of the park Is
hedged off for her particular diversions.
She has here a miniature farm. which
she has learned to superintend for all the