The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1896-12-28
OVER THE IEACUPS.


Unfortunate indeed is the woman who
does not count among her chief treas
ures a woman friend. She may be
hedged about with the tender devotion
of a husband and surrounded by a
brilliant court of masculine admirers,
but life has still withheld one of it's
most precious gifts from her unless
there is some woman to whom she may
go at all times, secure of such love
and comprehension and sympathy as
only one woman can give another.
Platonic affection between men and
women has ever been a series of dan
gerouS experiments. Leaving the ethi-
cal side of the question out of consid-
Grafton, however, men are but fair
weather friends where women are con-
cerned. They love us while we laugh.
They leave US, if they possibly can,
as soon as we begin to weep. They
do not know how to sympathize, I'M
less the sympathy can take the form of
doing something. Your head aches,
perhaps, and your woman friend is
. content to sit beside you in a darkened
room, listening to your tale of woe.
Your man friend may pity you just as
much, but he wants to get out of hear
ing of your complaints and send the
doctor to you.
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Herein lies the essential difference
between masculine and feminine friend
ship, and il is what makes the woman
friend so necessary and sustaining. A
woman knows that when you COM
plain you don't always want things
changed She comprehends-for does
she not do the same thing herself?
that there is relief unspeakable in
unburdening your soul to sympa-
thetic heart, and that there is solid
comfort to be derived from having
yours, even when the weeping leads
to nothing A man is bound to under
value or overvalue these things, but
a woman assesses them at their true
worth
A gift of beauty and expense is the
little table of china, to hold trifies in
the modern drawing room. The stand
ard is with flower decoration, while
the top is formed of a series of Sevres
medallions-oftentimes heads of fair
women, alternating with bits of land
scape, etc.
The craze for crests is increasing,
and not content with blaZoning it on
ones stationery. it is now the mode to
have it exquisitely hand painted on
parchment, framed and hung in a con-
spicuous place in hall or library For
mourning stationery dead white Amen
with narrow black border is the
correct style. The very wide black
border which was supposed to gauge
the depth of the writer's grief, is quite
out of date. For second mourning.
pure white paper with a very narrow
border of pale gray or violet is some
times used, with monogram or adj
dress dye in color to match
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Ii is not every woman who possesses
the faculty of so adjusting ribbon dec
orationS on hat or dress as to produce
the most harmonious effects. And yet
nothing adds so much to the beauty
OF toilet as the disposition of the
ribbons that adorn it. Visions of love-
illness in ribbons and laces' are Ere
quently topics for the poets to rave
about. Clad in tailor-made gown and
muff1ed up in her wraps a woman is
herself and are-strangers, or at best
ready for the outside world: ready for
the hurry and stress of shopping or
the fOrmalities of calling and those
who meet her see the fair, somewhat
cold outside take her as she presents
acquaintance. But let this staid dam
sci cross the threshold of her home
and in an hour or two appear in her
drawing-room with some warm, rich
NO4OA CT lAl1Odl anu WdlSI anu the
whole atmosphere is changed.
Ease and relaxation and comfort and
beauty entwine themselves subtly in the
folds of her fluffy bows, and the for
tunate ones who find her then she is
the friend to whom they trust, the host
ess who is their delight. Let US hope
then that the reign of the ribbon is not
over, that it is only narrowed a bit
in its scope and that indoors it will
continue the beautiful sway it held so
securely through the summer After
the dull dreariness of a rainy, busy day
flash of bright ribbon on the woman
who waits at home is like a warm cor
dial to chilled veins, and tired eyes
will bless with fervent gratitude the
one who never forgets to use it and
thus add to her beauty and her COM
panion's pleasure.
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For the moment a good deal of serious
attention is being given to the use of
perfumes, and the lady who has rein
troduced the custom of using sweet
odors set the ball a-rolling by casually
announcing at dinner party that once
a week she regularly had her house
perfumed- A tall, bronzed, mysterious
product of the east whose pockets are
filed with brown beans and strange,
fragrant shavings and bottles no big
ger than your thumb, has thus sprung
into an interesting ephemeral fame for
he now goes about pertaining houses
He charges a good deal for his Job;
but really, when he leaves ones home.
a vale of roses or a dell of heliotrope
could not greet ones senses more deli
ciously than the atmosphere of the
rooms he has .perfumed.
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Noticeable among elegant table ap-
pointments is a combination of pitcher
and cooler for lemonade of claret serv-
ice. The pitcher proper is graceful in
shape either in richly cut or engraved
glass. This holds the beverage while
standing securely in the center is a tall
receptacle of fiuted glass which con-
tains the ice, thus cooling without
weakening the flavor and strength of
the refreshing drink. This pitcher be-
cause one of the seasons novelties. is
expensive, but from it's convenience
will be so generally accepted as to re-
duce the price in the near future. Like
most inventions. the only wonder is
that somebody did not think of it long
ago."
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