New-York tribune., 1896-11-22
,yrERNATlONALM MARRIAGES
,,rc Of ST. GEORGES CHURCH
HANOVER SQUARE IN LONDON
p,pT1AILY DESTROYED.

women 49,, church of st. George. Hanover
bra'eo a. rovs # its partial destruction
Squa'' wednesday last cannot IAN ~ i'i'e'eS'
BY h'e ,,r,ber of people on TINS siue oi 'he
I"s Rut in the early part Oh 'he eis"-
Atiah"' bv John James, and containing
teen'h o,,,sd windows brought from Mech
some M ~ Il bore in the style OF It's archi-
lin III -r.;,c evidence of the influence OF Sir
lecture u,rann. and throughout the present
Chris'0P . obout nine or ten years ago en-
cen'u'! r,,,otion of being the church where
IVY ,a.bionable marriages were celepra'ed
more 49,. sacred edifice of the kind in
ina" r,rantv and thirty years ago no bride
ssessed Of social rank or even vi So.,'N'
posS'.,,a have considered herself TO nave
..n "v ,rooerly married unless 'he "euu,"s iao
bee" P-Is ,aoa a. St. Georges. But of late its
''A IN this particular has somewhat "ahed'
we .ne Chapels Royal at the savoy ana 81
s s ST Marguerites, at Wes'iiiihs'eI' "''
james ,,..on souare. and St. Pauls, Knight
'soo 70 a great extent monopohze the mar
Briose' ,ha aristocracy and what are known
.hs smart set
,,-.u. IN some few cases st. Georges Will CON-
n,easant and agreeable memory II IS
So that 10 the majority or the American
,a women who have plighted their tro'h
s"'1 ,,s altar to Englishmen the associations
peiO ha ~ a painful character For, IN spite OF
' hos been said and written 10 the con-
a' ,ha so-called international marriages that
''"'' ,,rred out happily are the eAcepton-ho'
nov" The first object which the foreign
ue a seems to have in view as soon as ever
ms o.rriage has been celebrated is to ALLEVIATE
the 'sa as far as possible. not only from her
HIS as but also from her fellow-countrymen
ao,,rtrvwomen: and it is no exaggerauoh 70
"'N that the place which she acquires IN the
ss.,ce ave even in the affection OF her NUS
,s often proportionate to the extent 70
CO. sbe sewers her connection with hef kl'i'
va bin on this side of the ocean. some VINO
. ., heart domestic happiness ana VINO iooN
.or5 10 acquiring popularity ana resaru Ill
~. .ountrv Of their adoption yield 10 'helr nus
rs wishes in this particular 10 an extent
,;ob only those of their former American
.-,..ds who have visited Europe can form an!
, There are many houses on yonder size OF
49, Atlantic where in spite of the fact that the
..is,ress of the establishment is daughter OF
rrcla Sam. no American has ever been per
r,i,ted 10 cross the threshold
T. this connection il is worthy to note that III
lie. of guests invited to meet the Prince ana
p-,r,sss Of Wales at one Of the grandest coun-
49,. soa,s of England a week or two hence-a
seat whore the hostess is an American
.s which owes the restoration Of its former
~,.r,as IN q great measure to good American
souors-there does not appear a single American
name.
- o..ar how much a woman may be at
....a I'D davoted to her husband. she cannot
~, he,n feeling cruelty the separation 10 WhiC"
ba is condemned from those who nave heiu ,Ile
orenost place in her aitectloh anu II, - NJ
,ntu the moment of her marriage. NoiSo
~ az she NAV. and though she sacrlilce an 'hd'
~ has bcld most dear she will always be re-
arded nv her husbands counUyWomeh as d
oreigner and as an interlorer. her lIle l. nd u,,
or no circumstances altogether HaPPS O..
ONE Of them have been known 10 49,,
d,nit that in spite of the ducal coronet ina
dorned their brow their existence CUT "a
$ they were from all the assocla'ons .era ''ar or
riends of their youth was ho'n'"s
sss than a gided misery. .o,,oa ,,non
Tbere are others again who, when calieu Upon
= their husbands and by their ne" iiIenus - -
rut themselves adrift from everythhs on @ .''.s
ide the Atlantic-except, OF cou' -. ia
-decline to do so. ard manifest spirit oi 'iiue
cadence and OF patriotism which. Whlie III "ii
raw admirable is from a matrlmohldi Pon
ievv innpoli;ic For sooner or later IL IS pouilu ~
esult in estrangement between tH7 -
rbua ,ha husbands relatives instead OF p1-
ming her allv show themselves. II not Gown
ight antagonistic, at any rate the reverse %
-iendlv. In fact. the wife gradually sro"s ~
sad life that is entirely disassocldted from ma
= her husband He associates with ms 1rlehuS'
"a eha With hers He dimes at houses ana VS.
- country seats 10 which she is not bidden ana
n the same way she has on her Vssl'Ns iist '''0
names Of numerous people with WhoIh ne po,
esses no acquaintance whatsoever. IN lne 'iu
he union between the ill-assOrted couple pc
.onoas ore in name only. fortunate. indeed II II
ioes not culminate in a judicial separation, or or
wen In a divorce. as in the case OF 50 many VI
hese International marriages
The marriages between American women an"
'oraigners that have turned out most happiE
have been those where the husband p"iohseu ~
he cplomatic service Of their respective couH
trlss continuous foreign residence abroad nav
ing softened and in some instances oDIteidteu
the violence of their national prejudlces. ana II
mus, he confessed that there are few women
who are better qualified in every respect 10 hSuie
as the wife ~ diplomats than the dauehiers Oh
Uncle Sam. owing 70 their powers OF audP1d',, g..
ity, and their ability 10 sparkle ana shlhe III
every situation in which they may be placed. II"
matter how difficult or gloomy But the unions
with foreign diplomats constitute, aIter an pu1
a relatively small proportion OF the so-ca!eu III
ternational marriages. which should be CON
demned In this country quite as hluCh dS '"''
are on yonder side Of the ocean.
The late Jules Simon. dean or the fTehcH
press. and one Of the most eminent statesmen
ane authorities the social system OF the Old
lean woman as a danger TO the home in conse-
quence Of her alleged lack Of repose and her rest
iessness, her craving for excitement and novelty
which prevented her. so he declared. from devot-
ING the proper time and attention TO her huspahu
and 70 her children These sentiments are by no
means confined TO the banks Of the Seine, as Is
SHOWN by the fact that only few weeks ago
The London World" gave expression TO alto
getner analogous sentiments in an article print
ed in large type. which bore the thumb mark Of
one OF the most popular writers OF the Englisn
world one who has achieved distinction as an
essayist on matters social and economic. In MS
article Englishmen sOlemnly warned
against unions with American women as calcu-
iated to bring TO them nothing but misery and
sunhappiness. Under the circumstances. II may
T:,,ell - well Il some Of the women who read the
il'oune as well as their parents and relatives
vouio take note OF these remarks. written by an
A.nslshfnan which are destined 10 warn them
r ss' IN the same way that Engishmen ana
nn,sncnmen have been warned that there Is but