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1t Is a good thing to have some rules
with which to work out hfe's problems.
and here are some that ave been picked
up and tested by a contributor to the
Washington Star" and found to be good:
Always take it for granted that every
one means we'll by you, unless you have
proof to the contrary. The average person
in society has a good natured, or at least
aAcynical sort of tolerance and liking for
you. Very few actually hate you, or want
to spite you. When you find out that there
is some one who does. don't discuss it or
quarrel about it if it can be avoided. Just
drop the person from your life as COM
pletely as possible. and, above all, never
descend TO abuse him or her. It Will hurt
you worse than it will your enemy. Never
treasure up a grievance; it will grow out
of all proportion with nursing.
Don't snub other women and girls just
because there is a man around. This is
the most fragrant fault of a girl who has
not learned relative values. The man will
not like you any better for ignoring a
girl friend and earnestly devoting yourself
to him. A great many %debutantes think
their success depends upon the men. 1t
is a sad mistake. It is the married women
and your girl comrades who can give you
a good time. or not, in the end. Very few
women dislike you because of your sue
cesses; it is Because of your Haunting
them.
Never ignore older and married men.
They will not forgive it. and they WELD
a mighty power.
Don't wonder what construction will be
put on everything you say, the way you
hold your head and the way you laugh.
Dent wonder what people are thinkin
OF your pose and your gown, and your
hands and the position or your feet. Ten
to one they don't even see you. and II
they do they are not bothering their
heads about you. This is not kind, but
it is eminently true. A very young girls
worst fault is her self-consciousness.
1t may be the consciousness of her short
comings, but that is even more vexing
than an appreciation of her virtues.
Don't be wondering what you will say
next. A pause is nothing deadly, if you
do not make it so. Probably by the
time you nave finished saying what you
have in mind a new topic will be sug-
gested. Trying to say so~mething-any-
thing-to fill in a hiatus, is. the most po-
tent cause of that mistake commonly
known as putting your foot in it.
Don't frequent tete-a-tete corners. Only
experienced and much older girls can do
that with impunity.
Don't giggle; but, on the other hand.
don't look as if you were at a wedding
or a funeral.
Use your eyes to say what it doesn't
happen to be practical to say with your
tongue.
If you happen to be left stranded for
one dance. never sit all alone on one
side of the wall to be pitied. Get up and
go over to some group of matrons, and
don't fancy that the whole room is
watching your transit. 1t is much too
busy talking and. dancing. Here again
don't think of yourself. There is nothing
so wretched as a would-be Indifferent
5all flower. She can't possibly look as
though she liked it. and there is not
The least use in trying to smile it off.
Above all things, never discuss an af-
fair where you were a failure. Never
admit that you Were a failure. Keep
quiet about it if you can't enthuse. 1t
doesn't do to explain the causes.
An the eminin world is smiling eagerly
for the first faint odor Of spring, which
they think can be detected in the purple
punches of violets in the florists win
dow. and in the nosegays of delicate
pink anemones, marked in fabulously
high prices.
Not that they are anxious to put aside
furs, but that there may be more free
dom in dress, and above all, some decided
changes in modes.
One grows so tired of wearing con-
stantly the same gown, no matter how
pretty or becoming, and of course it is
unwise to make a radical change in the
wardrobe at this off season before the
Parisians have decided on the novelties.
It is a good opportunity to do a little
r~enovating to the gown that has done
such good service
There's a long stretch before the Spring
gown win be ready for wear, and even
then it would not be overwise to put
it on constantly, as the freshness will
soon be lost; and this gown. with a little
work. can be made to do service for
second best.
If it has grown worn around the fac
ga what can withstand the slop OF
, the melting snow?-rip out the old facing
and set in some Of the new moreen, which
comes all prepared the light width
twelve inches, and is warranted to retain
its stiffness. If the skirt is long enough
and is worn off at the edges, turn in q
bit and set a velvet binding on the side.
Then. to freshen and brighten the
cloth. unless it should be crepon and this
will not stand such treatment), put IL
over an ironing board and go over the
surface with a bit of ammonia diluted
is a little warm water.
Before it is quite dry press it al
smoothly with a cloth between the iror
and the goods. You will have a skirl
which will more than repay you fol
your trouble; it will look like new.
The waist may be gone over, too, al
though there is less one can do for II
than for the skirt. However. any of the
new adjustable vests and collars fresher
up a waist wonderfully.
The woman who is anxious to look hel
hest and has little money to expend or
herself, usually succeeds. because sht
must plan and arrange where many
women rush blindly into things that ar,
neither becoming nor appropriate.
When in ancient or imperial Rome
maiden was welded according to confar
reatio she always carried three ears O.
wheat in her hand, while over head wa
broken a simple cake of far and mols
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