Kansas City daily journal. [volume] (Kansas City, Mo.) 1892-1897, 1896-01-02
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From the New YORK Evening sun
All over the country thousands Of
young women are looking forward to
coming OUT this winter. To all Of
them the ocCasiuu L, frau-ht with in
torest. though with some VI them the
interest is at higher pitch than with
others. To some girls success iu so-
clctN Is almost "a matter OF life or death.
During the previous few years, while
undergoing the finishing touches at
boarding school. they have fairly trem-
hied at the thought of the coming great
event All their lives. indeed has the
Importance af the matter been drilled i'm
To- them. Object lessons as we'll 0,s
words have suhuulyd them tb q proper
appreciation. They have seen and have
reflected upon the consideration be-
a season; as they have also seen and
also reflected upon the c0mmiseratiou,
II not contempt, granted the noble army
OF women who are not bellies They
know that 10 succeed themselves thcre
must bc no half Way work; they must
make every effort. must strain every
nerve More than one girl during that
last year az boarding school has been
heard To say: "Oh, II | shouldn't sue
coed. what would I do? Why there
wouldn't be anything left hut harikari.
so far as ] can see" There are those. Of
course. who do not regard the matter
in quite the same light; young women,
who. by force of character or by fortune
Of environment and other influences,
realize that. after all there are other
may measure the Importance Of coming
out no one can deny that IL u inn
pOrtant II can occur but once. Other
events I'm life may Dee duplicated or en-
corcd. hut coming out" is never TO he
repeated, just as being young Is never
TO Be repeated. This fundamental fact.
coupled with the stress IL receives from
tho world Of conviction. accounts for the
esteem in which social success is held.
Many young woman has failed, too,
simply from lack Of knowledge, not from
lack 80 interest There wins once two
sisters, one of whom had just entered
upon her first season. The other was an
experienced creature who had been out
two years Each was fairly well favored
but 10 was tho latter who was social
ners than she know what % do with; she
was greatly in demand at dinners. lu.h
by hostcsSes ana guests, and AZ un-
wlcldy affairs like receptions, her press
ence was looked upon as much ~ q
necessity as the music. the flowers and
the supper, "She made things CO." as
one hostess expressed IT, But with the
other girl IL WHs different. She allowed
herself 10 be handicapped by her youth
and iueNUeriaucC. At dances she IAN
ate her way straight through, as though
they were funeral baked meats that We're
before her. At receptions and the like.
she simply stood around ana lougoi t0|
go home and So end the torture. There
is no getting away from it," she said tt
herself nj the end of few weeks %,
am dead failure" one day, when sh
could np longer stand II, she said 3s
much 10 her sister "%obody's fault btt
your own" returned the social success
you don't talk; that's the trouble, Neu
must begin right on and talk. talk, tak,
as If your lie depended upon il. On,
I've watched you time and again. NW,
yoh sat there the other night at NJ.
IIayenough's dinner hardly opening your
lips except 10 eat, and for my part I
don't SEQ how YOU had any appe.te
when Won Were having such a stupid
time What sou ought To have d1ne
was % turn - the man next To YOU ana
have just talked n straight streak Until
his ears fairly hummed. of course.
what YOU say during this first winter
VIII he an nonsense, more or less, hut
itll be good practice. You'l get used 20
the sound OF your own voice; your
tongue will get used 10 WaEgins, ani the
first thing you know the ideas viii come,
dear never talk half-heartedly. as II
you weren't particularly interested. Talk
TO a man as " YOU would rather talk ~
him than 10 any one else i'm the worll -
mind. no matter who he Is. There's no
recipe for social success that l know II
that's equal 10 H."