New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1896-06-07
HOME AND SOCIETY.
TILE HOSPITALITY OF THE DAY.


-orA1NNENT-PARIs FAsHIoNs-A QUEEN
s,x7r,EN-QUEER ENGLISH COSTUMES
fashionable hospitality OF the day is very
- article indeed from the good old-fash-
ON" o,ality that was wont 70 receive guests with
io"e o-,,s hguratively speaking. and which obliged
OPP" 10 devote herself TO their entertainment.
- IN her own pleasure. If need be. and never
s,n,ng Of accepting an invitation which did not
,aa her friends. Every for himself Is
- modern sentiment and in Smart country
.sss the host and hostess are absoved from any
,,,cuIar effort, and are as much at liberty TO seek
p~,r own pleasure and fill their personal engage
s,,s as II they were alone At Newport espe-
.olv +, is an unwritten law that guests should
- choir own engagements and provide for their
w. .,rrsements almost independently as II they
ra stopping at hotel This fn-de-siecle way OF
,o,,ng a visitor seems very odd at first 10 one VINO
%, versed in the latest fashionable tactics, and Is
-, always agreeable TO stranger in strange land;
~. % those who have their friends and are suffi-
,.,,,v vel known and popular such freedom is
- dsuehtf,il Men Of the world who. rule.
,vs visiting enjoy this liberty immensely and
-. always ready TO accept any invitation from such
,.es but for the tmid girls the ordeal of visit
'. ,,a o, the great Newport mansionsNis quite APP
palling , &c.
.,sr,s old friend Mrs. w. who lived In great
W.. a, that most fashionable watering place in the
osr she was delighted beyond measure and
800 forward TO the visit with the most joyful
,,cnations For days beforehand she and her
s,.,s,s were busy preparing her simple but pretty
.ors,s and many the jokes and prophecies
ds by the family and acquamtances over her
...hIe conquests When the time arrived she start
Y. ~ full OF pride and consequence; but saddcr
- utser girl she returned home a week later,
orsd enjoy myself" she exclaimed in answer TO
N. chorus OF inquiries on her arrival. "Weii.
,,,k may safely say that never in my life did
.. such an utterly stupid time At first thought
Avs n extremely rude. she seemed so neglectful;
So, was saved the blunder Of betraying my wound
a ceilings by being told by kindly little
~ who was also visitor at the house.
cha, II was the accepted Newport custom 10
-, neonle look out for themselves, and as he
~.s good enough to take pity on my loneliness l
o., On fairly well: but at first | thought IL dread
sl On nv arrival | met at the station by
Mrs VS. own maid "a most particular and un-
vonted attention found out afterward VINO put
Ne in a smart little brougham, gave my check 70
hs rootman who was in attendance and tod him
:, mt my boxes cab and follow. Whereupon
We we're w-hrlel OFF. without waiting. 10 the VS.
,,l,ce for can call il TO other name. There I
was admitted by one liveried servant passed on by
second. and finally told by third that Mrs. ".
mad been obliged to so out. but that she had ordered
tea In nv rooms and that she would be back be-
fore long l found my apartments Gor had bed
nam and n little sitting ROOM. I must acknow-
edge really charming. Il was a foggy, chilly. de-
pressing day. and bright little fire OF cedar-wcod
filed the air with fragrance, while soft couch.
table covered with periodicals and the latest novels.
and pretty little eQupage. which the Kind
maid arranged with hot buttered toast Jam and
delicious cup OF quite conso.ei me FOR the alb
sence OF my hostess. She did not put In an appear
ance until very late. when she ran in hastily 10
welcome me most kindly. sad she very
If-,4.,c S1lara
Feeling very lone.y and homesck changed my
frock, and had the pleasure Of dining by myself
served by pompous Old butler and two footmen. 1t
was a dinner OF half dozen courses, which had
sit through despite my longing 10 get up and run
away The next day several peope arrived. and
some Of ny friends looked up. and things looked
better; but as FOR Mrs. ". hardly saw her. I have
so enjoyed your visit she said 70 sweetly when
leaving Tell your mother lend you
70 me again soon Again the maid took me 10 the
station. and shipped home When | think OF
the way girl IS treated when she comes 70 visit US
o. dear manmy's motherly kindness. and the way
she Is setei and entertained by every one, canno,
help thinking how really better II Is TO be Jess fash
!onab!e and more thoughtful and warm hearted"
FOR the benefit OF tho inexperienced who may be
invited 10 step at smart houses in Newport. Bar
Harbor and other fashionable watering places this
summer II may prove usefu. 10 state that the &C
eepted fashionable code is that male guest should
Invariably pay his dues al the Casino. golf and
other clubs But he Is at liberty 20 accept any IN
vations always providing that they do not conflict
with any entertainment given by his hostess. and
that within the bounds OF decorum he may dispose
Of his time and keep his own hours
With girl Of course. these avs less stringent.
but Is considered better form that she also should
pay her own way and be or less independent.
While her hostess Is also free 10 make any engage
ments without including her guest All the same.
SAID well-known belle. speaking OF Newport ways
and manners at seemed rather odd 10 me 10 receive
from Mrs B. at whose house had arrived the day
before note which brought TO me before was
up with my chocolate. asking 10 drive with her at
lin the afternoon and ending until then au revor.
your devoted Milly.'"
There IS happy mean doubt. between ao-
solute neglect on the part Of a hostess and fussy
carefuness Perpetual entertainment Is bore;
and the guest who IS not permitted 10 nave All
hours solitude upon occasion is a suffering Delhg'
But there is such a thing as well-bred hospitality
which without seeming effort provides both soil
tu1e and amusement-and that is the ideal hosp-
tally
Manners queer in many ways to-day ana IL
Is 10 be feared that the lady and gentleman OF the
old school, would be prodigiously shocked at some
current fashions. one of the quecrest ilusra''onS
OF tho change Of things noted in famous CAFE
on the Riviera not long ago. when SUI Deau''iui
Empress. finishing her luncheon with her husoahd'
Vepdle1 20 depart. She called for q SaSs VI "o'''
sho while the Emperor paid the bill ana coihp"-
nsn,ed the proprietor and the other customers
raped, she took a tooth brush from her Imperial
pocket and calmly brushed her pearly Imperial
teeth
The newly made parent" said Mrs A., will
appreciate this anecdote Of the young father whose
acsnefic sense had been rudely shocked at tho
ssht OF sundry sugared rags supposed 70 sooihe
he windy little stomach Of his first born Forced
W circumstances INTO playing nurse one night. ne
met his wife IN the morning with Make them OF
.auaanum tonight, Mary-anything TO stop It's yell
ing pitied the Kid when began. despsed 1t
at Midnight, and by Jove, / hated the little besgar
mis- morning. Poor baby. victim 10 the gross
ignorance Of couple Of young people who know
more about tennis and baseball than they do about
'ns physical characteristics Of their offsprng