The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-02-28

AS nOSIeSS, the daughter OIL the muse,
whether officiating in the absence of her
mother or assisting her in the exercise
of hospitality. should be courteous and
cordial. Nobody expects a young girl
to take a leading share in conversation
1t is quite enough If she hold her WI
agreeably. and above all pay attention
to what others are saying. One secret
OF social success is to- listen well and
TO look interested, and this the girl host
ess may do, and will do the better the
more real and unaffected her interest
Is in the people around her.
Perhaps the girl hostess in these days
is occupied in pouring tea. No more
graceful act can be imagined. and in
dispensing this simple refreshment she
may fulfill the meaning of the sweet old
word "lady.'' the loaf-giver, and the
giver as well of the cup. If acting as
hostess to friends of her " sex, in the
merry half hour at 1--WE O'Clock when col
lege girls permit themselves to relax their
minds and give their studies q bit of a
recess, the girl shows her home training
here, in the ordinary course of converse
ton, she shows her freedom from awk-
wardness. or she lapses into the provin-
cialism of speech or manner which is too
strong for the class room TO at once
eradicate
But she need not be troubled about
herself as an entertainer if she possess
tho hospitable spirit. Little by little one
acquires social ease. one lays aside
gaucheries, one learns to be graceful,
and to perform Ordinary elegant acts OF
the drawing room without thinking of
ones self. Such or such a one" we
say, SIS a born hostess. She makes her
friends perfectly at, home
But the hostess who gxcels in tact and
grace is quite often made, o~ftener, per
haps, than merely 2 born. All social
4 charms may be acquired. Urbanity and
elegance are simply matters of drill, of
taking pains, of thinking the matter
worth while. of seeking after and cuiti-
waiting the best.
The girl hostess who wishes to gather
her friends for a pleasant function can
not do so better than by giving ar in
formal luncheon. This may be served
at the large round or square table in
the dining room, or if the girl and her
mother choose at a number Of small
tables in the drawing room. Let some
color or flower predominant and give the
heyUOte VI lH6 0cCdSlUu. 1uG SOuIStS
may be many or few. but they should
at this season begin with fruit, either
oranges or grape fruit daintily prepared
and served, and end with a delicate des-
ert-ice. biscuits. glaces. or cream. with
bonbons and conserves. Between these
may be whatever one chooses-oysters
on the half she'll chops or birds broiled
to perfection. creamed chicken, salad or
$780, l-s-k IT.. 1890
ton of a lucheon does not consist in
having a great many dishes or a multi
plicity of courses, but in seeing that
each is absolutely good of its kind, and
that the plates are quietly and swiftly
changed, are cold or hot as they ought
to be. and that the food is appetizing
and the whole affair harmonious. The
girl hostess will see that her tables are
dainty arrayed with pretty china and
centerpieces of embroidered linen, with
cut glass and silver and doilies fit for
the fairies to handle. And if all this be
Abeyond her power. if what she has will be
whole n clean and bright. n if she
serve her guests with nothing more than
bread and putter. these win be SO good
that a king might feast on them and go
away satisfied.
SAIl WIZ pldeS ~ uciilS uOblcSS III
her fathers house viii shine to great adj
vantage when she takes her place as
queen of the domesticities in her hus-
bands home. Her training in girlhood
will not be lost. She will be the sweeter
and more admired wife because as a
young girl she served a novitiate In
woman's most characteristic and finest
profession, the offering a welcome and
hi -1A1.1A 1a0-~xr fr16or <ha Goha1fnn
of ones roof.
One Summer day on Hitting my baby
from his cradle after a protracted nap l
found his little head wet with profuse
perspiration; moreover, his small pillow
feathers, of c-ourse-was soaked. This
led to an investigation, for I felt that
such heat BODIED i'll to the sensitive brain
Looking into the matter l discovered
the following advice. given by an emil
nent physician long since deceased. He
wrote: THE proximate, if not the orig
inalg cause of great mortality among
American babies is some malady of the
brain. When we suppose death to result
from dysentery, or cholera infantum, the
immediate cause is frequently affectation
of the brain ~superyening Upon bowel
disease. The heads of American babies
are, for the most part, little furnaces.
What mischief must then result from
keeping them buried hour after hour in
feather pillows. 1t makes me SILVER
to think of the deaths among these
precious little ones where l doubt not
that cool straw pillows would have saved
thera. Do not fail to keep their heads
cool while sleeping"
The material which then deemed best
for baby's pillow-for straw seemed
rather hard-was deer's hair. One woman
employed hair combings. which makes
a soft cushion. Paper clipped fine is
recommended, as well as pine needles.
There are other ways, however, of in
juring a baby's brain-ah, how much
must they work before they arrive at
maturity? 1t is claimed tina the brain ia
more heavily taxed the first five years of
existence than during the remainder of
life.
Offers, princely in their nature, are re-
peatedly being made to Mary Anderson
de Navarro to return to the stage, writes
Edward w. Box in March Ladies' Home
Journal, but she turns a deaf ear to
them all. Only the past summer over
lures came to her from an American
manager which incurred a big Torture if
she would consent to return to the stage
for a brief period. There were six figures