The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1896-11-21
WHY WOMEN FIJI TO ATTRACT.
Some Don't Know Their Power and
Some Knowing 1t Fail With 1t.

Thackeray has said that if women
knew their power they could marry any
man they wanted. This is just where
the trouble lies; they do not know their
power, nor understand wherein their
charms lie OF course, there are excep-
tons to this rule; there are many who
understand only too well and WELD their
scepters-or their swords-with too dexter
Gus a hand. But there are those who
undervalue themselves, are too retiring
and let the happiness which is meant
for them slip from their grasp. Con-
stantly one sees men and women brought
together who are suited in temperament
and are evidently intended for each other.
But what man is so much in love he
can't md utterance for his passion and
the girl SO much in love she cannot help
him out? The greatest mistake a woman
makes is TO let her love get the upper
hand of her. She at once becomes awk-
her head and makes all the fiat, silly
speeches possible, when she is really a
bright girl and would be very clever il
she did not allow ner passion to make
her self-conscious. This style of youth
and maid wait for the opportunity which
circumstances do not favor. Some other
man who does not care so much comes
along. He is not awed into silence, nut
speaks out. The girl. believing the other
man does not care for her, as ne does
not tell her so, accepts this one who does
failure. The shy youth kicks himself
when he finds another man has won her.
Having learned his lesson he promptly
proposes to the next woman he meets.
with as tragic results as those OF the
woman he loves and his rival.
| This IS the first type OF woman who do
not know Their. power. The second are
those who think they debut don l..
They spoil it all by an oVer-eXertion to
please and labor to attract attention by
affectation and insincere speeches, which
are sure TO be seen through. The woman
whose object in being pleasant is 70 cur
~ favor and get herself liked may be
very sure of getting herself disliked.
The world is very shreWd and is not
| often humbugged unless she wants TO be.
| CounterfeitS may pass for while, but
| it is not long before they are discovered.
This type of woman succeeds best in
| boring men.
Men are not won by women thrusting
| their charms upon them. The truly sue
cessful woman is she who keeps the
! thought of her own attractions in the
background and impresses man with Ehe
consciousness of his own-if he happens
! TO be so fortunate as TO possess aIy;;
| if not. he is all the more ready to be-
lieve he does. A mans vanity is always
/ get-atabie, notwithstanding this particular
weakness has always been attributed to
! the other setx. A Polish novelist has
said: Nothing so impresses a man as
to know that he is genuinely loved The
woman who makes this impression usual
| ly wins the day. The same author has
also said: THE woman who loves and
who herself is not dislked is sure to
win if she only perseveres.' But their
perseverance does not mean pursuing.
As soon as a woman begins to weaken.
he loses his respect for her, and where
| there is no respect there is no love.
naturalness. The woman who is sim
cere, who means what she says and has
tact enough to know how and when to
say 1t, has the world at her feet.