The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-01-23
RULES or COURTESY
Small Matters in Which
Good Breeding and COM
mon Sense Are One.
THE DESIRE OF PLEASING
unselishness a Fundamental Prin-
ciple Of Gentle Manners.
Kipling's Baby.

Ihere are thousands Of little graceful
acts of courtesy that we may perform for
each other that are not formulated In
any code OF etiquette. These acts are
the dictates of that truest politeness-the
poateness that springs from kindness and
goodness of heart. says the Philadelphia
Press.
NO more graceful kindness can be
shown h hat which ignores any very
obvious personal defect in ones friend,
acquaintance or neighbor, makes al
iowance for any personal popularity in
the same, although it may be disagree
able to endure. We come in contact al
most daily with those to whom we can
render little acts of courtesy and kindly
services which, are Infinitely soothing.
The blind win sympathy from every
one. but the partially deaf sufferer per-
maps more acutely in some respects, es-
pecfally those who are mentally bright,
and hence eager to enjoy intellectual con-
versation In company with others who do
not seem to realize what this afiiction
may mean. To be patient with these,
and to use all means in our power to be
at our own best with them, striving so
to talk with voice and lip and eye as to
be easily understood, is simply Christian
courtesy.
Then there are our own friends who
have peculiar hobbies. We should sym
pathize with these. as. we all enjoy our
own.
/ witnessed recently an exquisite cour-
tesy shown by a lady guest of hers to a
friend of the other sex who has a hobby
amounting almost to a mania on a certain
subject. He regarded her morning, noon
and night with this one subject, although
others stunned him very noticeably to
avoid listening to the tiresome theme. This
woman listened with the utmost good hui
NOR. and not a sign of impatience es-
capped her, nor did she show that at times
sne was bored. When sympathy was ex-
pected she gave It by a kindly glance or
looked for she laughed and that with such
evident gusso that those who looked on
agreed afterward that this victim Of a
hobby amounting almost to a mania had
not enjoyed such q day in a year.
That patience. for0earance and sympa-
e 9ood the as. valns e pr9 gSTlst by Its tou Powsr a fo5
that there are special occasions when we
must drop selfish considerations and de.
0 O15e our leva6 5hefSn as5ss e To- the a3sor pleasure anu, son Of
great sacrifice of patience and time.
Codes of etiquette are founded for the
= mo spec Part value On c N avspv s eommn and hs byf
there are gentler. lovelier courtesies in
the great unwritten code founded on hui
man kindness and goodness of heart than
Were ever dreamed of in all the written
codes, the observance of which is thought
of such vast Importance in those congeries
which we call society
The cold. phlesmatic. people who never
take the trouble to be courteous, who
never give out any magnetism or charm
Of manner, are the wet Blankets of So
ciety, and in their presence even the most
vo9uble and sociableI become quenched
and constrained. There are others who al
ways cause US to feel on better terms
with ourselves and the world in general.
There is no secret about it: they simply
understand the meaning of true courtesy.