The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1896-07-14
RICE SNOW BALLS
FROM SIXTEEN TO TWENTY
Girls Lcok Only on the Bright and Pleas.
ing Side Of Lie.

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A Young maj addresses 70 Edward
". Box the query: why is it that
IN 60 many c=ees, I might almost say
the majority Of cases, a quiet, we'll be
haved, earnest minded, religious young
mans seriousness is ignored by somGny
girls between sixteen and twenty !. and
the company OF giddy, idle, ~senseleas
youths preterre69" and IN the July
Ladies' Home Journal editorial reply is
made. Mr. Box contends that girls ct
that age take few things seriously, and
are nor given to looking upon the seri-
Gus side Of life; that only the bright,
pleasant side attracts them. 1T IS only
natural that to a g:rl Of such &C 8ge
the young man CT bright conversation,
fippant and meaningless though thGt
talk may be, has az indefnabie attrac-
ton, She would far rather have it that
ne can dance well than that he can re
cite Emerson to her. II is the dancing
time Of her life, and not the Emerson
ism period. She Is apt to notice mans
clothes more than his character. Sac
likes the man better who pays her a
pretty compIm2n III than the one who
says something serious. Tee
young nal who pays her graceful at
teutions Is pleasing to her; she does not
seek to penetrate beyond the mere
compliment. And why should she 2
Young men are simply one form Of her
amusement; she does not take them
more seriously than she does anything
else. The young m&n Of presen5able
appearance, who dresses well and hasa
command Of the small taIk Of society, IL
her girlish J8ck-in the-box. The more
attention he pays her, the more he
fatters her, the better she ] sapt to Ike
him. The earnest young man who has
ambition, who studies and learns, whose
talk is sensible rather than lighk, is a
bit tires0ne to her. SIC may admire
his high purposes so far as che can
grasp them. She may respect him.
But if she is going to q party she does
not want his company. She passes him
By for the other fellow who is graceful
IN the dance. And is she to be blamed
or to be ceneured for this? Not a bit Of
it. While she is a girl she does as a
natural, healthy girl should; she lives
her years Of enj 2yment and gets es
much pleasure cut of them as she can.
For this che is a girl. But if he will
watch her after che counts her q
with the figure two he will observe that
slowly but surely a process OF gradual
development takes place IN the girl
wk0mh he believed TO be without thought
or reason. And equally sure will be
his discovery that tne companion of
her dances is not so eagerly welcomed
by her as once he was. He will then
gradually discover that the girl is not
the light minded butterfly that he
thought her to be. She becomes inter
ested in other things; conversations
which bored her q year or two earlier
now begin to have some meaning for
her. She begins to regard the internal
value of things. She looks at young
men from a d ff6rent standpoint. The
young man who can simply darce we'll
does not represent the same thing to
her. She begins to look for something
else in the young men who come to her.
the woman has simply begun to de-
velop; the girl is ceasing to be-"