New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1896-12-13
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IN THE SOCIAL WORLD.
THE INDIFFERENCE OF THE AMERICAN
SMART SET" TO STRANGERS
IN GENERAL.
eoMETHrNo ABOUT THE KINDLY WAYS OF THE
GERMANS AND THAT DEPRESSING SENSE OF
ISOLATION THAT OFTEN COMES TO ONE
WHEN IN CROWDED ROOM

crRMANs AND THAT DEPRESSING SENSE OF
ISOLATION THAT OFTEN COMES TO ONE
WHEN IN CROWDED ROOM
"who is that JmT"
"a stranger
'yyell cave a brick at him.
In civilized life the instinct OF avoidance is oy no
means 40 defined but nevertheless 1t Is distinctly
noticeable Every who has ever been stranger
in a strange land has at some time felt that oe-
pressing sense of isolation.
ct shall never forget said an American GIRL VINO
had heen thrown more or less In the smart set
IN London my first dinner in England AT table
got on fairly well with the men. but afterwaro' !"
the drawing-room, my penance began Ihe 1ash-
fonable women present paid no more at'oh''on '"
me than II l were a piece of furniture MY hos'es''
Of course. would oe coldly polite bringing n,e q
basket OF photos something Of the kind 10 iooN
over md then with obvious relief. would turn 10
her friends. while sat lonely and neglected until
the men came in They were very much kinder.
New-York we are sorry to say. has not the repu'
tation of treating outsiders with courtesy. ana uh-
less they are exceptionally rich. or beautiIul OF
fashionable they receive scant attention.
..There is no place so trying" declared WASH
ineton belle land so humiating as Ne"-iorA
assemblage Of Slight acquaintance. IL cos's 90
little TO kindly polite. one would tnlnK' ou' Vi
all i-bred Indifferent disagreeabe people, thhk
= roomful of New York girls takes the precedence
This ia a very strong charge. but in measure IL
"a deserved by our fashionable people. who are Ger
tainly very indifferent to strangers IN general "u
not oyerciv How different from Ango-onAoh
rudeness are the kindly ways OF the Germans. ~
them stranger is a guest, and Is treated az euch
nv all present. II It Is a woman at small gamer
ing every man in the room will ask 10 Do intro
duced to her. whether she Is attractive or hot' 'nA.
does not necessarily mean that they must stay ano
converse 1t Is simply greeting. no moro. ou' II
nuts a timid girl wonderfully at her ease with those
nrssent The women are equally kind. and invari-
ably make a point Of showing courteous attention
10 an outsider. 1t seems a pity that the SANS
genial manners cannot be more universal. and that
the true courtesy. which springs from KIND hear'
and intrinsic good breeding is not oftener met with
in society.
THE GERMAN CHARACTER.
To an American the simplicity OF the German
character is ever a wonder. How people can see 50
much of the world as they necessarily mus' ana
vet retain so many primitive habits ana ways %
living is incomprehensibe to ouf country ioiA' "'o
are nothing If not adaptive. and VINO nave assun'eu
An a few decades the civilization OF the centuries
An American maid and German man mahe a
very interesting couple, and such international
matches are apt to be happy. although nothing
could be more unlike in disposition than an up."
date American girl and the typical German "ao
chen 1t il funny see the pride OF 'hese simple
gentlemen when their promised wives astonish 'hen
hv narforn,ing any little housewifeiy ectoh
"AIy bride sewed these orders on their riooohs h.
SELF said a Pruss.an officer. pointing proudly 10 NE
decorations land yet they say the Amer'ca"i'oio
Niadchep cannot use a needle When inc Vsito'
laughed at this proof of her skill he exciameo anef
waved: But that is sewing NIGHT wahr'
kindly simple heart. which was long ago stiiied IN
the battle What "serio-pathetc )unoe Ins
whole story was of their courfhp and marriage iol
lowed so soon by the tragic end OF the young 'i"'
hand Their first meeting dinner In Dresden; her
nschievous fun after leaving the table and the men
presumably safe at their smoking How she put on
one of the Prussian helmets and danced IN the man,
and how its solemnly staked up ana ksseu
her although he had never seen her BEFORE. " nd.
temper she was in and would not be appeaseo unui
she was finally made to understand that II was
German custom and she had brought II on herself!
How the big officer tumbed Wildly IN love with hes
then and there. and proposed. In his broken English
the very week at cotilon; his neighoor mean
while heard the whole declaration and too OF IL IN
the dressing ROOM to the great amusement Of every
one. How the pretty little American first refused
him and finally consented, and how funny 1t all
seemed to her family. to whom "Unser Fritz" was
perpetual Joke!
.wh.+ IN the world are you doing?' exclaimed HE
.v>.rheart a. after an evening gathering In her
mothers apartment. he proceeded to blow out the
lights
the Gesellschaft has departed hs demonstrated
quite aghast at such extravaganza
After their marriage they went to live on his an
~sstral estate "A horrid old CASTLE. she described
A. without any plumbing" And then, after year
Of great happiness las she afterward said). the
Franco russian war broke ana his regiment OF
dragons was ordered to the front
The last picture il q most touching one halt OF
the regiment for a minute a. midnight before his
horne IN Berlin Without leaving the ranks he took
last look at his wife and child the former with the
baby In her arms ran to ne. husband. He lifted up
ths little fellow and kissed him. "Auf wiedersehen
and they were off,
ss ss' 1oa s e SSs' *.s si IL. A.
Muse scheiden-Ja. schsdsn
Doch coll du mich ouch rscht vsrssshsn-
ia recht verstehen--
WSnn Nenschen einandeY geheut
Is oarsn Sic "Auf wiedsrsehen-
ia wiedsrsshen.'
HOUSEHOLD FOES