New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1896-07-05
HOME AND SOCIETY.
now PEOPLE TEACH sELFIsHNEss.
,.,,xo nrroRMIrY NEW FASHIONS - THE
o~ THE xrrcr.EN-How TO rAKr
CARE OF INvALIDs-THE MAX


ING OF JELLY.
81. common belief that unselhshness Is pro-
.rcted and cultivated by the daily DEMANDS vi a
large family upon the patience and consideration VI
49, 20 r,o,s members one with another and DOUBT
49,, a. &c .rne But on the other hand 1t Is also
80. ,nat selhshness is equally developed, Tor there
ara always the givers and the takers IN every "o"e
bol and the latter become more and more eAa''"s
IN nroporton to the self-abnegaon OF inc ioi'n.',
That an unselhsh mother produces se'nsh 'n'a .
has often been noticed and commented upon" ou'
,.sh mothers and devoted. self-dcnying daugnNers
are quite as frequently met with. aithous" e'''oA
recognized as the outcome OF an aHec'o'".o P
-r,'s exac:lon. Nevertheless It may De "uls sa-N
that perhaps there is no more ih'ehSei' '
Ay,dual in the world than the soi'-Vo'oou' 500
loving, hypochondriac who rules the FANNY 49,
-, 80 iron cased in the sofes. OF velvet ana whose
devoted unmarried daughter and adm'!'.'s "u'u@"u
believe her 10 be a saint in patience anu o.s
ing Such woman frequently spoiis 'he he % nv.
daughter all unwittingly taking II LOT e"'@1 w
tho latter should give herself up 10 oe 'e W.
constant companion and attendant ne "o'"
vary belief in her own ailments, as well DIS "ef UNI
do,hed love for her slaves, causes her 10 oe oA"u
20 her own egotism and inlustice. "o"e
,,. other hand a whole family is so unseinsn 'ha'
with the best intention they suceeeu III ''""''e >
other thoroughly uncomfortapie.
An amusing story is told of the Cs, VINO weic 30
rar soch TO please the other and deny them-
sslye, that they very nearly SUCCEEDED IN uo'''s
what was absolutely repugnarst 10 each "e'N'e -
che household The project discussed was u'p
,nronsh Wales on bicycles, and the idea was hre'
,,oo,ei by the paterfamilias in moment vi e"-
.,rs,asr, renporary alteration. he called II after
orD II was accepted with apparent denght by
RS g-rnpathetc wife and daughters each supp'es
.,rr her individual objection because she 'hous',
che others seemed pleased. So 1t was oec'ue"
.,,, this should be their summers outing. by INC
- ,ha family regretted beyond measure his 1dsh
,ronoston: but being unwilling to dsappoiht ms
uIfe and daughters, who talked coh'huai'! VI .-
sn,ictpated pleasure he made up MS mihu " oe"
che consequences OF his rashness IN silence ra'iie
shan mar the general anticipation The glr4s mean
-.u. confsssxJ to each other that they knew II
x,,u,d be duh 70 a degree but poor papa see''eu
% pleased that it would never 90 10 Jet i'ii' nv"
ROW very much they would rather go 10 iael'-
s.,t as usual As for the poor little mother VIM
..r,cr,v hated her bicycle, when she PoSi'''.''
tered "a II It were living vicious brute anu no
- orrsllcd herself to learn TO ride to please "ei
emily she actually lay awake o nights oredons
the dreadful excursion. ITO thlnk' sic 49,
c,a,ntiveay 10 a friend that should nave " se
dear Williams vacation. when naVe '"
,.,ioved pedalIing up and back-pedaiins ooMn nv
Areadf,, Welsh hills. seated on prass HAIL. - 80
too dreadful o. mora
Az the time drew near for sailing she grew '''o'o
and more nervous and unhappy, until al iaS' ..''
,sr,,lv doctor seeing that some'h'ns wds $50
oor,rivrd 10 win her confidence and theh "a. m
violated IT, telling Mr. C. that MS ~ie LIS s,,rnrse
he I'll ~ the plan were persisted In INV %. :,
"a r.,,.| ~ the good gentleman upon hea.i"s v,
This unexpected reprieve may be imasl".' -
when very unwingly the afectoha'e p'e 49,.
erred .uficent courage to tell their uaush'e'' --
.,a ,,sn must be abandoned, the whole tru.n eaiis
out Every one Of them simply hateu ue 49, -,
had concealed her feelings for me sahe u W.
..hsrs no, wishing spoil their pleasure.
Rut the most complete case OF sen az >. A.,
.~n,ch lasted for twenty-five years was 'ha' "a w.
and Mrs T. The latter had pronounce' us ~
a.. white meat Of a fowl. and this taste she ao
VIZ - during ALI that time. thinking her nus
80 u,,,Id also prefer II. He, kind man ol''
cred for the dark meat but noticing ms W. nd
,,arent prediction for the latter ne p h,s
invariably took the white. wrich acc0''-'''e ~ -.
.saas vas altogether inferior, How the dehoue'ie'
ar,~ after twenty-five years Of conJusai seil-'a'
fire deponent sayeth not-whether inc ~
.,c,.Ad in a burst Of confidence. or wne'her uui-'o
love tir Il came out through mutual recr'i'l.ra
,,on no one knows: but 1t Is certain 'ha' ~" ~.
y o,uavs takes the breast OF a chicken. wilie "e'
trshand regales himself upon the second JOINTS
>..,,,, g.. moro pathetic in this world than the
fate which brings the fulhlment OF arueh' n.y.
n,,v when the grasshopper has become Dufueh
s dessre hath failed" Such a commentary on
The vanity Of human anticipatlons occurrel TOT
,onz ago 10 one of the toiiers OF oaoSi'i,
vao longing beyond every thing ior 'he soo.
things Of this world. had like Tantaius' reacheu
on, ever in vain for the cakes ana ale Oh eA'''es
They always seemed just beyond her grasp u''
erailx they were within touch when they dToppeu
,-o,, tho neryeless tired fingers that were 100
weak 10 hold them Born to expectations WIZ.
were never realized and rendered ulScoii'e'.
,hs,shv with her contrasted surroundings MISS
A. life was one long unfulflled desire. ins'e"u VI
making me best Of the present she spent her time
c,,-,,ualv IN making plans for the future Every
thing was sacrificed TO the elusive nope oi inc pos
sbe riches which would. she imagined once ~
tanned make life delightful ana desirable one
might have been a happy wife and motner' ana
u,sfr, woman IN her generation. II II mad not been
far rho mirage Of wealth before her longing
eyes-a dream which made her commonplace sur
roundinrs insupportable.
So the years on; youth and beauty tooA
fight friends grew fewer and fewer. un''i III ,he
midst Of ioy,ess and purposeless middle age MISS
,.u III with n long incurabe Illness. Then and
then ONLY when the world. far as she was con-
cerned had narrowed Itself down TO the conAnes OF
small room. and even that gre" oH'"'ef anu
,oo-s unreal day by day came the contamination OF
her hopes An aged relative died ana iel' "e' 'ic
fortune for which she had 80 longed
oh take them away she cried win eNceenihs
bs-srrcss when they brought her the papers that
represented so much and yet 80 lrtle-for truly
man walketh In a vain shadow ana dsauie'e'n
himself in vain; he heapeth up riches ana cannot
tell who shall gather them
The scientific treatment OF physical detects mas
reached in these days. high point or skhI ana
children who are far from beautiful may nave
natures unkindness corrected TO curious anu
in,4re.,,r~ extent Marvellous things are done by
the dentist. who is clever surgeon In the way OF
STRENGTHENING crooked teeth and bringing INTO ia'r
and lovely proportions the projecting Jaw that 80
often mars childs prettiness and makes It's aiter
years uncomfortable. These changes are now so
eas,lv achieved that there for prosper