The Canton times. (Canton, Miss.) 1893-1906, 1896-01-31
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WIFEHOOD.

Anu Wituout tnocc NO Stfi may W"'i .
What indignation such a law woul
evoke in this country and what a Ion
time would elapse before there woul
be any more weddings. The idea of a
American girl not only having to kno,
how TO do these things, but being fore
cd to do It, would not only be REGARDED
as utterly preposterous, butunbearabl
tyranny. 1t does not enter into tn
mind of the average mother to learr
her daughters all the duties that alone
can make happy well ordered home
nor Goes the girl desire to become pro
fcient in such homely requirements.
The highest am bition of both, is to cll-
rivate only the line Of accomp ishnlents
enormously supposed TO be essential t.
positions of wealth and elegant society.
After period Of more than half a esn-
tury's experience and observation in
this world, it is our opinion that true
happiness in home is greatly what the
wife makes it. II matters not whether
the home be hovel or = palace, if the
woman is wanting in all the cndow-
In ants of a well stored mind in \ domes-
tic line, SO essential in every well or
dered home, it is prima facia evidence
that her training and inclination has
not been set upon the highest mission
of woman in all ages and climes-the
love Of home, home duties, husband
and family. Such old fashioned doings
are not inconsistent with the highest
attachments in all the embelished adj
vances of the most refined and progress
sive society, where wealth permits tf|
this exercise-they only enhance these
advantages by being absolutely essen
tial to the perpetuation Of the blessings
and happiness they ought to bring.
Domestic infe!icity, incompati bility
and divorces of which we know and
hear so much, is all due TO the wrong
conception of duties, and wrong mo-
tive for matrimony. Women as rule,
have ceased 20 regard matrimony as an
affair of the heart and reason. inyolv-
ing obligations and duties which call |
for concentration of all their desires
u efforts to ove & respect for their hus-
bands, and to make the home the hearts
abiding place, and finding in it true
happiness and distiliing its essence into
all who inhabit or come in contact with
it. This is too prosy and old fogyish for
the demands and customs of the ele-
gait, fashionable society of to day, and
the bellies who pay votive service at its
shrine We are no appologist for men,
they are all mean enough at Fest, but
they all want and are susceptible to the
Influences of q loyable wife and happy
home. The aim of the average girl, is
to make an eligible" match, catch an
.'awfully nice fellow. who can earn or
give her life of "dressy" fashionable,
elegant ease, devoid as possible of du-
ties, responsible at whatever sa.ri
fee Of real affection, respect and hap
piness. Is it any wonder that conju-
gal infdelity, unhappiness and separa-
ton stalk in hideousness and frequency ,
before our eyes? The fear of the worlds
criticism, the dread of work, the mis-
conception of lifes trust and noblest
aims are keeping apart many women
and men who otherwise by true mar .
rage would not only contribute to their ,
own happiness but the general store of
the world by living examples. The
young man who is honest, honorable.
of good pedigree and is not afraid nor /,
ashamed Of work though poor, il aspir. !;
ing and energetic, is At match for any ,
woman, and IL of sound business habits
and principles will lay The foundation -.
Of prosperity that will be enduring.
when the more favored one who has in
herited fortune he has not helped to
earn and is incompetent to keep. will
have been discipated and its possessor
rendered unfit for coping with adver-
'ity- The former. one any true girl :
an afford to marry and help to work
or certain and abiding competency or :
ortune and happiness-whiie union :,
Nth the latter only means almost GER 9.
ain poverty, hardships and misery. !.
We do not mean that infatuated girls =.
houla marry Door worthless men, but !,
hat reason should hold sway. Love is :,
growth Of time. affinity, respect. as =
'ciatiop and true worth. What is de- :.
animated love before marriage and a :
borough knowledge Of ones character 4
nd personal merit is NOT love. il is pas =