Eagle River Democrat. [volume] (Eagle River, Vilas County, Wis.) 1893-1896, 1896-03-09
GOSSIP FOR THE LADIES
To Jem.

meaning
With tenderness, and longing blessing
fraught.
Good-by! May God be ever with thee, bless
Guide thee console thee, bring thee safe
Oh! such the prayer, that as some unsealed
fountain
Good-by! Though far in distant lands thy
duty call thee,
Oh, may his arm preserve thee in all dan
ger,
there.
Good-by! With aching heart, and tones
that shake and falter,
And tears that rise and will not be con-
trolled-
And yet with joy, an almost painful sweet
Full oftentimes that little word is told.
Good-by! And we are left in sudden desola-
ton!
One pressure of the hand-one look-and
he is gone.
A deathly darkness wraps our souls in
darkness
The light of day is fled-we are alone!
Useful Hints to Club Women.
Parliamentary usage seems to many
women such mass Of detail they give
up all hope of ever understanding it, and
go through their club life silent because
they are not sure that they know how to
speak according to recognized form, or
else make themselves unwittingly rude
to the assembly each time they address
the meeting. In all the larger clubs
one hears a great deal about parlia-
mentary usage, but only now and then
wiseacre knows very much about it.
For all prac tical purposes a woman does
not need to know the contents or any
large part of the contents, of COM
prehensive manual. Presiding officers
liamentary usage in detail, but the ma
jority of the members of any club can
get along with credit to themselves and
their club if they know perfectly merely
an outline of parliamentary usage in the
conduct of societies.
Every woman should know that when
she rises to speak she should address
the chair by saying .Nfrs.'' Cor Miss
president" and not another word until
the president calls her by name. 1t
is polite thing to say Mrs. President,
Miss Green" in order that the presi-
dent may be sure of the name Of the
lady who has the floor.
A motion once offered properly by any
member need not be seconded in order to
be brought before the house for discus
sion and action. If anyone wishes to sec
ono the motion she should rise and say,
''Mrs. President, Miss White''-wait till
the president says Miss White''-and
then say, 81 second the motion" Very
large assemblies of women. even $50
rosis.'' have members who sit rudely and
say, "Second the notion" without TAX
ing the trouble to address the chair
The presiding officer may speak 10 any
motion, as she is a member of the club,
but the best usage is against her taking
definite sides unless called upon to do so
in the case Of tie vote. She should call
any member to order who is wandering
from the point at issue, and if she
doesn't, some member on the floor in the
midst of a long sentence about some
side issue may rise and address the
chair, and say she rises to a point of
order Upon being asked to state it, she
can do SO politely by saying, ''some of us
must go early and wish to vote upon this
motion and therefore beg that discussion
shall be limited to the point at ISSUE"
Another point whereon many club
women show lack of courtesy to their
sister members is the habit certain wom-
en- of pronounced views have of speak
ing two, three, five or seven times on
one question. No one is supposed to
speak the second time on any question
until all have spoken once who wish to
do SO.
Club presidents are prone to consider
themselves the mistresses of the situa-
ton, when in reality they are the serv-
ants of the club, honored stewards,
true, but put in Office for the best good
OF the order. No woman is fitted TO be
president unless she has the frmness to
keep order, and the tact to do SO without
appearing to be dogmatic. 1t is not pos
sible to please everybody, SO please those
VTy11 .srrh% 4 ~ -
who are wrong as possible. Do not
waste the time of ten busy women in
order to prevent giving offense to the
long winded woman, who has nothing to
do but meander through words, and talks
unintermittently upon every motion, in
Producing all manner of eXtraneOus mat
tiers.
A common form of rudeness to the
presiding officer is for a member who
has been asked, or who of her own ac-
cord gets up, to answer the question of
another member, to talk directly to the
member whom she is answering. She
should say. Mrs. President" and make
her remarks direct to the chair.
Every clubWoman groans at at least
of time used up in disposing of at least
every. other matter brought before the
club by those club members, who, once
being recognized by the chair, proceed to
air their views upon a great many mat
tiers irrelevant, or, at least, not perth
nent to the precise question before the
house. To begin with, there can properly
be no discussion upon any matter until
there is g. motion before the house. Miss
Brown may want to hold kirmess
Miss Green may object to the kirmess,
but if Miss Brown doesn't know enough
to put her idea in the form of motion,
Miss Green may make the motion to
hold the kirmess merely to put the matter
legally before the club. She can then
speak against it and vote against it.
Too many clubs hold long arguments for
and against this, that or the other plan
when there is no motion before the house.
and all those who speak are all out of
order.-Jenness Miller Monthly.
The Professional Chapercn.
Everyone is not aware that there are
society chaperons for hire. Society
women OF high position but small in
of the fashionable world and yet with
out money to keep up appearances, have
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