The Prince George's enquirer and southern Maryland advertiser. (Upper Marlborough, Md.) 1882-1925, 1896-07-10

people III llc Wpflil are llllN ll\lllo ca
amplrS of the inSllilicicncv of GOOD IN
tentions msupplementcd by cultiva-
ton of manner.
The ideal hostess has truth, Sinccri-
| ty. and gentle manners. She frequent
! " tells her guest to make herself ut
home" This does not mean that she
| ahsolvrs herself from the responsibility
of providing the visitor opportunities
tor rest, occupation or amusement. 1t
rather means that these resources are
unobstrusivclv V set in the way of the
guest, and that they are left to her
choice. according to the unwritten code
of thoughttulneSS and tact.
The ideal hostess does not make her
guest the subject of oStentatious hoSpi-
| tality or Of espionage As far rs pos.
sihlc, the workings of the domestic
machinery are kept from sight; this is
regulated by the degree of intimacy
| between hostess and guest. In ease OF
emergency. the hostess will not disdain
| the assistance ot the one who would
| GLADLY make herself useful.
| Not even to her most intimate friend
will she unkindlv comment on the con
| duet of one who is in her home in the
character of guest. The ideal hostess
never invites one whom she does not
really desire, the actual hostess, owing
| to the cNigencicS of social laws. some
times does so. But. if she has done
| this for forms sake. she must abide hv
| the consequences. The amenities are
for the inSncere as we'll as for the sin
ccrc hostess.
The ideal hostess will have Il gift
| not only for saving and dom" pleasant
| things, but for hringin" out the |ilts
and @races of those about her. FOl
| her the singer will warhlc her sweetest
| the storv-trllcr be ut her best Tn,
young girls will more than ever rejoice
in their youth for her sake, and tn,
elderly woman will feel her estate tol
the time the most desirable of any
| She will welcome the coming guest
and the departing one will take away
memories that shall hc a joy forever.
But it does not all rest with her who
cntertains; there are considerations
which the guest is bound to observe
| They are not to receive all and give
nothing in return.
The rule for their behavior is really
the simple and old-tashioncd one %
doing unto others as you would hav,
them 'lo t" YOU. The truth is, thcr,
is always more of trouble about enter
tanning than in maintaining the uSua
order of the household, though with til,
trouble may come great pleasure
The poit" guest will not forget or Is
more this fact She will not cnumcr
ate to her hostess certain indulgcnccs
which she allows herself at home. l.
she is in the ordinary country house
water faucet, or the gas CRATE. If il
the citv, she does not con Stantlv won
der at the SmallncSS of the lawns. She
| will not make her hostess uncomturt
able hv the thought that she misses
this or that. or that she is mconven
fenced bv Il routine to which she is un
accustomed
The polite and wcl-hred guest will
learn the habit of the household, ant
adapt herself to it, She will he abb,
to entertain herself when necessary
there is nothing more wearing than til,
guest who must he prrpetuallv enter
tanned. unless it he the one W no refuse:
all manner of entertainment | hav,
known more than one hostess disturb
ed and di~plcascd by her guests un
responsiveness and in,liifrrcnce
The thoughtful guest will take grace
full Y with the gods provide She wi
pardon any seeming lack of attention
she will contribute of her hest to TIN
pleasure of ot hers: she will seek [,
appear cheerful when perhaps she i
sad. and will hide possible misfortune
or wrarinrSS until her own door i
locked, She will remember that how
ever much her friends love her. Their
is limit to their interest in her or he
g affairs. She will remember that ST.,
rs much a> her hostess. is under obi
cations to hc interesting" and anrccahl,
She Will make careful toilets. takin.
pains to look her best that l.cr hostcs
may have Il just pride in her pcrson:,
appearance rs well aS in her at1ractiv,
ness of manner
Speaking of entertaining leads m
t" say that happily there are few win
cannot do their little part: happl,
others than those wllo with servant : an,
fine houses can dispense hospitality
happily there are those who undei
stand that it is the spirit that make
beautiful the dccd happily, too, a wis
tendency toward simplicity is tn
fashion.
Not very long ago a friend of min
received Il call in early m"rnin" from
Il lady who wished t" consult her ol
business connected with club work
1t So happened that in the course q
} half an hour four other ladies', all mem