The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-10-30
ideas for Wnanen.


g '77'7''
In every household 41ers is scarcely a
week passes without the question being
asked about some loss, breakage or me-
full answers comes.
Not to go further h that and say
that voluntary confession should be made
before any questions are asked / say IT is
a great thing fla truthful, prompt answer
follows the question.
Much depends upon this state of affairs
in a household. There must be a high
sense Of honor. a love OF truth, bravery
as to the consequences of telling it and a
trust to the one to whom IT must be
told. These conditions are not acquired
in a day, and back OF them must be
discipline and self-discipline.
"
The housewife has this matter largely
in her own hands. The best way to Sc
cure truth telling, and better still volun-
tary confession, is to say that there viii
be no punishment if the truth is told,
and then to take care that she keeps her
word in deed and spirit.
I have known people who did not '.pun-
ish, when they said they would not, but
who had a way Of throwing it up to a
fellow that was ten times worse Yet
the rule of never Furnishing when the
truth Is told cannot be absolute.
There are -temperaments for whom this
would be very bad, such for Instance as
are habitually careless, and do not con
slider n consequence except physical
pain or that which touches their pocket
books. The former we find among chill
dren, the latter among servants most
frequently. A nice discrimination is nee
essary in such cases. and much patient
labor, watching and conscientious ex-
pertinent.
A sense of honor is a plant of slow
growth. Where 1t is wisely cultivated In
a child from earliest childhood 1t can be
made as natural as any other habit but
where it has to be planted later in life,
as it does In many boys and girls of all
ranks, and in the common class of SER
wants who drift into our homes, it is
difficult to make It take root and grow.
It Is always helpful to trust children
and servants until they earn eur dIstrust.
although the reverse Of this is often the
way of the world. But from personal ex-
p~erience we nearly always find that the
result of mis- trust win be a good return
Of honesty, truth, kindly feelings, good
service and affection.
Eternal vigilance is another element
that must go with TRUST, even if at first
thought It seems contradictory. Lead
us not into temptation IS the daily
prayer of the Christian world. but how
often does one remember to add, Let me
lead not into temptation" or Let me not
leave an opportunity for another to fan
into temptation. even when I do not
lead?'
All Of us need to De "hedged round
about" at times, this should make us
who are heads of households, or overseers
OF any kind. all The more careful to hedge
round abofit'' those for whom we are in
any way responsible.
Let the hedge be a beautiful one.
such as can be loved aud relied upon.
with little consciousness that it IS a
hedge" and then all within its shelter
ing borders will grow in beauty which all
may see.
1t is long since sr1lart women have worn
'tea gowns" except in their own bedrooms
or boudoirs. or at most at their family
,~nSgsakfast table.
1.-The word was almost becoming obso-
Iste when Paris designers this autumn
lavished all their skill and creativeness
upon sumptuous robes that they tell US
are to be worn when enc receives infor-
maliy at tea time. They are Of the most
rich materials, trimmed with fur and rare
lace, and are built invariably with long
sleeves and a high c9eker.
The princess shape IL immensely popu-
lar, but as it is equally smart for most
elabefate dinner and ball 1t is Of
tener left to those occasions. Next in ia
vor are the soft silk or lace underdresses
girdled about the waist and with long
rlcked sleeves of milne lace, over which
Is wern loose open Russian eioaks Of yeL
vet. low necked and sleeveless. and with
large armholes. Lined with satin and
edged with fur, they sweep about one
voluininously and beeomingly. Gowns
built all in one piece and without the Rus
sian mantle have w~atteaus behind so very
broad that the top plat reaches from one
armhoi to the other, the folds beneath
being smaller ones arranged on each side
of the back.
This may have a princess front fastened
erossways, with g plating Of white tulle
10 follow the opening, or 1t may be built
straight and loose In front, with fitted
sides. There are several unidue sleeves
81 velvet hanging loose and straight al
most to the wrist. 1t is draped up a wee
bit on the inside of the arm at the elbow
fastened there, the edge finished with
fur and mel lining Of white or some hand
some satin or MORE.
Beneath this there is a long TIGHT un-
dersleeve of lace OF rucked null, or per-
haps OF silk a la mossqaetaire. but of
whatever it is built, covering the hand
well to the thumbs. Another sleeve has
a tight top 70 the elbow of brocaded silk.
q scant fur epaulette at the shoulder. a
turnover cuff OF velvet at the elbow. and
then a long, tight, urflined undersIeeye OF
lace, with ruffles over the hand.
sim another lace undersleeve has a for
of velvet rather wide and straight. and
hanging a little below the elbow, with the
little fulrfess making a pouch rather than
. pun at the top. At the elbow il Is fas~ |
tened in a bunch on the outside of the
arm. a sort OF plated tail hanging 4 bts |
below and lined with white satin.
me long, tight sleeve of velvet WITH
q small pufiHg at shoulder ana elhaw -