New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1896-05-10
HOME AND SOCIETY.
r PROBLEMS OF THE PERIOD.
,supIsH AssocIATIoSs-THn MoThEa r.
CHILL ,vp THE BIcYcLE-ro MARRY OR
NOT TO MARRY.

pp .,s hest. although she POSSESSES o.. th.r, ~
so'or,d's goods. whether II is wen ,or ,me r,,
this ',S these young people whose pareh', a.e ,s,
30 WIN ~" Ia who have so much that they must
wealthy ca" AZ without, or whether it is right 10
necessarH s,,oeether from such influences. wh'ch
keep '" e throw them into quite o'ileren'
Will ou,d therefore affect their socai status Is
st ana "a determine. 1t is all very well 70 say
very .s,onab,e society in this country 10 Vuie'
nal nroud and that II is not su"'oen"' u
snd 80 he worth any effort TO RETAIN ,
sraoT :, .,s same however. 1t certainly Is Sought
10 H. all 'ne those who affect to despse It, and no
sstef even 90 have her children left out or the set
rotne, ,h.v have been born and bred but 'he"
IN VIM" the question again tor those VINO III 70 Soii.-
comes , r,or-does II not make girls olsooh'en'eu'
paiss ,d,e and extravaganza, 10 De h'ifna0o VIZ.
and poye 80 are accustomed to spend lavishly 7
emu there no danger OF their becoming '"". ms
Ane ~. q, all characters. "a hanger on OF the
undes"a 49, zoos 10 a school like G.. for instance,
hcn' majority of his associates VIII In all
where ,,,, he very wealthy. II he Is sufciently
pfood independent. this companionsnip VIII 10
many harm: on the contrary It may De OF dement,
him ...,,,s career besides the obvious advantage
m IN knowledge Of the world, ana CERTAIN
he =, good breeding which lasts TOT me- anu
CAMP ~ .sr-a,nIy very desirable. But II. on the
49, hand. boy is weak. easily Ieo' o' .n.N 49,.
ID. .uch association may be fatal. ana al oes'
N" :. stimulating TO either energy or amoitlon'
esnp" y Dc one 70 know And how decide Tor the
A ~, with girls ii is almost as much OF prooiem'
,...ugh the consequences may not be SO 1ar-
ns Nv ,n,,macy with the rich involves an actual
Nscn' a.-s which Is sometimes very announcement
expenditure "'''N'
70 meet. .s. consider YOUR daughters future
D wv. crndy. What is that future supposed to
Hys ME ,,ra success? rich marriage. neither
mnt ". loss VIII she be happy? All. that IS
uo'e ,..,,on and according TO the worlds way
snor Sus, does not 40 much matter. Truly 1t Is
u" 70 decide what rs best!' concluded the
w - lady ITO be in the world but not OF II
pe'p =, ,mpossibility. while to be out OF II Is
~.say d,sagreeable The only thing nowadays
CO. he 20 teach ones children the knowledge
= ~,d and evil and Its attendant consequences
-. them Judge for themselves"
...., h,cvcle story comes over from the other
..'" ,r,r, an intimate friend OF the pretty Lady
80. r transplanted American who Is an en-
attic cyclst She had been warned by her SIS
- ,r,sw not TO mention the subject before their
,ro,her who has as great horror OF "tnat oreao-
-, sr,csn machine" as she calls the bicycle, as
~. hs. a veneration for royalty who, IN her loyal
.a. couId do no wrong. Celia, my GEAR she
Ia Vary sweetly one morning TO her daughter-in-
law 81 thought some one told me you cyc'eu'
ron.,srrat,cn was depicted on the face OF every
,r, 1odv Rertie true TO herself and her coun-
try answered: Yes. Lazy - was ue'0N ~
a, homo In America"
"wbv then" said the Countess growing more
and more gracious. did you not bring your wheei
Nth vou should have so liked to see you r1oe'
"psrt." she continued turning TO her son. pray
..na for cel,as bicycle at once: It's pity we old
M, think OF It sooner" and she rustled out OF the
room.
"Welr' calculated Lord Berthe. as ne ana MS sis-
vrs razed at each other In amazement.
~ think 7 can explain the mystery said little
Lady Jane. the youngest and brightest OF tne ram
A. and she read from THE Morning Post" which
,.,r r rad left omen BY her plate: The Princess
sy.les and her daughters are taking lessons on
Mhcvcle and the Princess Maud bids fair to be-
ears very proficient"
Dear mater" laughed her son. Anything 'hat
an r r. does is sure to be all right. but 1t Is an
ri wind that blows nobody good! So we will SEND
Or our cycles. Celia. and have some FUN
..v c.rnnot denv that there are times when
feel very lonely" said a brilliant and much
oueht-after man Of the world. rather wisfully.
Lately especially have felt that II had married
ears ago I would have been happier AS one grows
der an existence that is bound up In SELL as
,rg,a mans life must necessarily be. grows very
,onotonous and wearisome: and the feeling that
fter all however much you may be invited 70 theif
ouses by your friends. you have no actual ABIDING
lace except IN your solitary bachelor lodgings IS
M a pleasant one To realize that this loneliness
must necessarily increase as the years go on. ana
hat an old age without afYectionate companionship
waits vou Is worse still Why do you not marry"
nv friends continually ask me; but ! have waited
% lone-my habits are too fixed. should De 100
xacting I could not adapt myself 1t wouid De an
and the results might De anything
nut happy No my chance is gone. but MADE
mistake II had my life 10 live over again
rould marry early and have my share OF the joys
md sorrows Of hfe.'
..ro which would you say that matrimony was
most essential 70 happiness. man or a woman?
vas asked at q dinner party lately "A man. said
| lady who was present without hesitation; "A
vomanr" exclaimed simultaneously her masculine
.eiehbor. Your reasons" demanded the first
peaker: give your reasons"
"A man." answered the lady taking the LEAD oy
virtue OF her SEX has really by far the more de-
pendent as we'll as the more selfish nature OF the
two II says In Holy Writ that II Is not good TOT
man TO be alone but II never says that OF woman
Natrimony Is not absolutely necessary 10 her nap
pmess but 10 a man II Is an essential. An un-
married woman finds her niche almost Invariably,
and creates home interests for herself In other
households where by her unselfish love and help
fitness she becomes a necessity; whereas man Is
utterly Incapable OF such adaptation or OF feeling
v'cazious interest in another family. and unless ne
has household Of his own he is wanderer on
ue face Of the earth"
l agree with you in part but not In al" said
ner neghoor "A womans life is In her cniidreh'
*h'en are mere necessary to her happiness even
,nan Is her husband. and therefore to her family
a'e Is even more important than TO a man. Who
Ano"s now many heartaches those brave. unselhsh
sA'n's known 10 the world as maiden aunts suner
al 10 Int nf
.na 'nat OF his clubs business etc.. and 1t Is pos
''oe Tor him to be absorbed in either: whereas
.oman has only the one and II that Is wanting
'as loses everything worth living for"
consider 1t is argument without con-
e'us'on' said their hostess. who had asked the
Sas'ton and suppose. after ALL 1t resolves Itself
N INTO matter Of temperament with both sexes
.0me people are best married and some are best
'nsie. both for themselves and others"
! have often noticed" said a suburban woman.
'nst II 90 into town for the day am more apt