The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1896-03-04
MEN WHOM WOMEN ADMIRE.
The Traits of Character Necessary to
Win Respect.

Win Respect.
Men admire beautiful women; SO do
women admire handsome men. us
he handsome ?" invariably asks the
fair one on hearing a strangers name
discussed. But a man may be hand
some in his face, graceful in his move
ments. powerful in his build, and, if
in combination with all these admira-
bic qualities, there is a lack Of character
shown I am afraid the admiration will
be of short duration. An effeminate,
weak, silly, pretty mai grows insipid
and pals upon one. An elegant look
ing jewel needs a rich setting to show
it's fine qualities, and so does a hand
some man require a fine character to
enhance his worth. Character, above
everything else, is what the fair sex
nowadays admires most in men.
Women also admire graceful, elegant
manners in the sterner sex, difficult to
acquire and, alas, SO easy to lose at
the slightest provocation. Dickens
says in "David Copper6eld: ut is
possible for every man to assume an
elegant manner, but the true gentleman
is Natures own nobleman, who
forgets to be polite to everyone, and it
is as easy to discern the assumed from
the innate good breeding as it is to
distinguish paste from diamonds"
I was in New York city recently,
and on going down 9Th avenue saw an
old woman carrying a basket contain
ing matches endeavoring to hobble
over the crowded street crossing at
23d street. A gentleman, elegantly
attired, seeing her predicamert, lifted
his hat and courteously said "Per-
nit me to assist YOU" and taxing her
arm assisted her ov the dangerous
crossing as gallant, as though she
wa the highest I'm and richest
dressed woman in the land. He is
the kind of man that a true woman
admires, one who is charitable and
courteous under all circumstances,
who is not ashamed Of being polite
even to a poor peddler.
WOMEN ADMIRE TRUTHFULNEss.
Men like to be praised, fondled,
fattered, and told constantly "that
they are the dearest creatures on
EARTH" but women generally tire Of
this nonsense. 1t does forth nursery
and children, but women do not respect
men who wish to be treated like in
fants.
Why, with some men petting is es-
~sential if their wives want a new bon
net, it is the only way to win their
good graces and keep their equanimity.
It is absurd to say, "You dear, sweet
darling" constantly before the honey
moon is over, the words would lose
their favor.
The majority of women admire men
who admire them, and who notices a
pretty bonnet or gown and remarks
the fact to the fair wearer; and now
let me tell the "sterner SEX" it is
only a trifing fact to remember, but it
is just as well to know it, not anything
escapes a woman's searching eyes ;
and when o man sees every trivial de-
tail in a woman's gown or hat he is
thought the most charming, interesting
and brilliant mai Of that persons &C
quaintance, providing hehas sufficient
force of character to keep her good
opinion and knows something else be-
sides gowns.
No man blessed with a helrmate in
the form of a wife would ever dream
of asserting that the Grange Of fem
mime vision is limited" Ele may
fondly have imagined hat such was
the case while minated, but as soon
as the honeymoon is over he begins to
find out his mistake and becomes
painfully conscious of the penetration
of his wife's gaze, Of the wide and ex-
t~ensive range of her vision, and above
all of the indubitable fact that neither
the mental nor physical eye Of man
can compete with the sex he 10 often
affects to regard with half plying
condescension. Men are not so OBJ
servant as women women would ad-
mire them more if they we're.
Men always want their own way,
but an intelligent woman possessing a
particle of tact can rule any man by
letting him think he has his own way /;
in fact, insist upon him having it, be
he brother, fance, or husband, and
then he will not want it. Oftentimes
a man of this temperament gives a lit
tie breeze to a calm, even temperature,
and is greatly admired by some women.
Women admire men
WHO ARE KIND AND ~CONs1DERATE,
a~fectionate, loving, good, truthful,
Industrious, and who possess a nice,
sunny disposition and are thoughtful
of the welfare of their loved one at
home.
Women do not admire conceited
men, and a rather droll story was told
to me a few days ago that is quite
amusing. MIR. L., n OF the So
ciety men about town, who thinks
himself just "too elegant was at a
reception. He was standing near the
punch bowl that stood in n corner
of the room, and was twirling his
blonde mustache and slipping clarct.
A group of young people were standing
near him at the time, and Miss C.,
one of the young women, said merrily:
"Ah, Mr.. l., we were just talking
about you 49,,
Saying something nice, Ipresume?'
remarked Mr., l., with a smile OF
satisfaction spreading over his fair
complexion.
"Well, perhaps it was obviously
replied the young woman.
"Of course, it could not have been
otherwise than nice since it had refer
ence to me-" answered Mr.. J.,
complacently.
This vas too much for the witty
Miss C., and had a bomb exploded
the party could not have been more
alarmed when they heard her say
seriously: "Say, Mr.. IL, I'd like
to marry you
MARRY me, ali ! Now would you
really ?" and, placing down his empty
glass, seated himself on a divan and
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