The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1896-06-29
First Methodist

Dr. Beans at the First Methodist
church last night preached the second
of his series of sermons on the home,
his subject being "Courtship and Mar
riage.' The text was raken from Gen.
7-1S: 1T is not good for man to be
alone" etc.
DR.. Beans prefaced his discourse by
saying that it was not his purpose to
amuse, but to advise. The object OF
the pulpit, he took it, was to sound
warnings Of approaching danger and
point TO a path OF safety; to prevent
pain and misery as much as possible.
IN a discourse of this character he
believed it was within the province of
the minister to use illustrations to
make the facts understood plainly and
while these at times may strike people
as amusing, the primary purpose was
to teach, not amuse.
Few questions, the doctor thought,
were of greater Importance than that
OF choosing a helpmate for life.
distinguished writer has said a man
who builds for home builds for eter-
nifty. How true this was and still how
few considered marriage in its proper
light. II was his purpose to point out
a few dangers in the pathway Of the
young contemplating taking such
step.
In the first place one should not
build on the sparkle of the eye or the
color of the cheek. The time would
soon come when you want something
more than mere pet or plaything.
Not always, in fact rarely, does one
who has sought after outward appear
ances realize the dream of his court
ship. Good looks are but a small part
of person and the handsomest wo-
men are not always the ones to greet
the husband with a smile on return
from the factory or the workshop.
Courtship is the door to matrimouy;
and therefore should be time Tor
finding out the fitness for each other.
This is not often the case, however, TOT
Young people in real or imaginary love
seldom act in each others company
as they do in company of others. The
Young lady anticipating her prospec-
it9va hushakfn s,eonfug puts ON her BEST
gown arranges5 the parlor with care,
treats the young brother as at no other
time and is withal ideal in her &C
tions. This is wr:ng. A little girl
upon stepping into the parlor, found
her sisters betrothed in waiting.
knew you was. coming, she salu, loi
sister has been so kind to me all Gay.
Usually she scolds and acts ugly ou.
when you are coming sne 10 JuS
lovely" The young man wisely LOOK
his hat departed and never sho"eu
I'D at the house again.
Things to be avoided to insure happy
MARRIAGES are many. First, ana very
common evil, is flirting. rms Is
moor preliminary to marriage, anu ~
leyel-headed young man or young lazy
will do it. Flirtations are nothing less
than a form of depravity and generaliy
the one who INDUCES in IT pays oeariy
for his whistle in after life. A writer
has characterized flirting like plant
in Shiny water, hard to handle and only
to be kept in Shiny water.
Second. avoid hasty marriage. Inc
young lady should pay no attention &C
the satirical illusions to the old maid.
The eact remains that many OF the
best, brilliant and brainiest women OF
the day are old maids. Far better tc
pass the thirtieth milestone in life sin
gle than to marry a good-for-nothing
thing-a two by four dude, who poses
in society as a man. A well known ed
itor in writing on the subject, said:
Girls. wait for a man." Do not marry
the first man that comes along; there
are other opportunities.
Third, forced marriages are great
danger to unhappy lives. Some
mothers are so anxious to secure
wealth. anu prominence lii1l IiiCS
lect the future husbands for their
daughters without considering fitness,
love or anything else.
Inequality is another thing to be
avoided. If you would marry wisely,
marry your equal. Many people marry
and the only indication that it is a
match is that it is made of birthstone,
| and It wasn't made in heaven. either.
Inequalities mentally, Intellectually and
ferio 1s,lx ct1n no NV 1nH Ac RI
the latter the scripture was plain:
Therefore take not unto yourself an
unbeliever" The Methodist Episcopal
! church does not deny the right CT a
Christian to marry an .inbeliever. and
still 1t believes in avoiding it whenever
possible. Then it was not uncommon
to see two people of different denomin-
| ations marry. The result is that ON
Sunday morning they part on the cor
ner. the husband goes to his church
! and the wife to hers. The one may be-
lieve in immersion, the other in sprink-
| ling. And 50 it goes on. Each has been
reared in different religious surround
! ings and with their very pronounced
ideas they couple themselves for life
but generally wind up in the divorce
courts.
Then there was danger for a girl to
, marry amy one but a total abstainer
IL iii1'lciS iOl liOW little ES OTIIlh. II
he imbibes anything at all he is unsafe
to pilot wife and family through
life. and should be stunned. His other
accomplishments may be many, but if
he has the smell Of liquor on his breath
it is the fly in the apothecary's ONT
ment that spoils the whole thing. To
marry a drunkard vas on the same
level as man who would build a
handome house in a. district where cy-
clones had been known to level every
thing to the ground every year for CEN
turtles. AS foolish would girl be to
marry a man in the maeIstrom of in
| temperance.
Disparity in ages is another thing to
be avoided, and a girl should never
marry a man to reform him.
The essential insurance for a happy