Delaware gazette and state journal., 1896-02-13

love her own husband, but must have
an affair with some other man. OF
course, there are plenty of people who
will always believe that | did some
thing dreadful; in reality, only
helped two love-lorn people, who are
now married to each other, and have
forgotten that | was ever any use to
them. Curious how people forget.
! thought Of my old nanny way
down South, who had nursed my
father, and who, whenever there was
trouble in the family, went to that
one who was most unhappy. We used
to say of her, AUNT Julie never knows
of anything unpleasant in the family
except to those who are in the
trouble. - When she got to be very.
very old, we who had been her babies,
put together and paid for a house, and
gave her little income. When it
comes to 80 or 40 men and women to
make up an allowance, nobody need
give very much, and when | went to
my Southern home on visit. ii was
my greatest delight TO drink tea with
Aunt Julie, for though she was half
blind, she refused to sit down with me
she had too much pride for that but
her great grand daughter waited on
me. There are
NO PRESERVES LIKE HERS NOWADAYS.
there il no such golden corn bread,
and | don't believe anybody ever knew
how TO make coffee as she did. Then,
when the day of her death came, we
were all there, and women and meu
who hadn't seen each other for 10 or
20 years, shook hands at her grave and
rar mi f1Nh nd
she was laid to sleep at the foot of her
mistress, and l believe she hoped that
when the resurrection day came. she
would be allowed to wait upon her, for
that would be Heaven to her. Where
are these servants nowadays? Money
cannot buy them. What is the matter
with the women in our kitchen and
the women who nurse our children?
They have no respect for the mistress
who cares for them, they have no love
for the children they nurse, and every
thing is matter of dollars and cents
Whose is the fault? i cannot believe
that il is entirely with the mistress.
Not long ago dear friend of mine
hired "A maid; four weeks after she
carse to the house she was struck down
with typhus, not typhoid, fever During
her long illness she was faithfully
nursed by her mistress; when she was
able to go out in the fresh air her mis-
tress took her in her own carriage; !;
when strength had fully returned to
her she gave her mistress months
notice.
The too kind woman looked at her
and said; why, Mary, how can you
leave me when | have cared for you
through all YOUR sickpessYn
THAT is the very reason" she an
swered; ''if you had been as much of
lady as l thought you were when
hired myself TO you, you wouldn't
have done it,
A less fragrant case was this: An
English lady was told by her own maid
that she would not come to America
with her. As she had been very kind
to her, she discharged her, and took
one who brought good recommenda-
tions, into which she inquired care
fully. Before leaving London she paid
f5 to have her taught hairdressing and
El0 pounds to make her an adept in
manicuring. All the way over the
maid was sick, and so of no use to
her mistress. Her first month was up
two days after landing, When she was
paid, she said. "You will have to get
somebody else, am going to leave this
afternoon. An absolute cross-ques
tioning brought out the truth.
SHE WANTED TO COME TO AMERICA.
She felt sure that this lady would
have her properly trained for first
class maid, and that it would cost her
nothing to come over. And the con-
sequence was, as Madame Fin dc Steele
hak lnI 20 hat
maid wait upon her, was left without
one in strange country.
Is gratitude an unknown quantity
just among ourselves, you and that
other woman and me, we three women
together, | think it is. Thank you"
is said as one says Good morning."
but it is usually for nosegay, the
picking up of fan or handkerchief.
1t is not in appreciation of the real
kindnesses of life. 1t is true that,
when we do what is right and womanly,
we ought not to want thank youn--
but, alas we are only women, and we
like gratitude expressed in come way.
Men laugh at us for expecting it. The
best of them do what is right, and are
satisfied because they have done it,
but we women, we'll, we are little
weaker, and when we deny ourselves
some good thing for somebody else's 8
sake, when we give the helping hand
to somebody, or when we aid somebody
by making the rough path of life a
little bit easier to tread, we like to
think that what we do is appreciated.
And we think SO much of a little bit of
gratitude. A woman can nurse the
man she loves through a long illness
she may get no rest, she may get no
change, and the sick room will be her
abiding place, day in and day out; but
she is satisfied, oh SO thoroughly
satisfied, if, when that man is well,
he puts his arm about her and whispers
some loving words. that tells of ap-
probation. But nine times out of ten,
men take the service Of women for
granted.
MEN, WOMEN AND GRATITUDE.
A woman may take two or three
of her old frocks, brush them and
| freshen them, make them over into one
nice one, and hand them to that poor
relation who needs grown. And if
the recipient will only say, 6 / was glad
TO get the frock, for | know you put
Yourself to much trouble about il, and
/ thank you,' then the busy days will
be as nothing, and that woman's heart
will be full of happiness for many.
many days. It is true, L suppose, that
tho good deed ought TO be enough in
itself, but you know we are only
human only those poor, miserable
creatures who can stand PAIN that
would kill men, who can face troubles
that mon would fall down before; and
who are true--true always to the people
they love. We shed tears about nothing
but oh how fine we are when real
trouble comes. | often wonder il