The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-11-17

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or how handsome the rings they possess
ring.
The latest style wedding Invitation Is
much larger than formerly, rather longer
than it is wide, or unglazed paper, in
| paragraph form. with everything. even
the dates, written out. II Is customary
to make them very formal and requests
the honor of your presence" and half
after six" instead OF half-past six, is the
accepted fashion.
A square veil from the hem of the
gown in front to the edge Of the train
in the back is considered more the thing
than one with a short. removable piece
to the knees in front. The opening is
left on the left side and is thrown back
by the maid of honor before the bridal
party leaves the altar. This looks very
biIlowy and is very becoming put back
So
I asked a clever, well known doctor
only today what advice he would, give
the newly married. Il would tell the
woman" he said, never to let her hus-
band think he had quite won her, that
there was not still something held in re-
serve to give him. A woman never
seems to think she ought to be fascinating
to her husband after marriage He lee
tured the woman, of course. There is a
universal tendency in mankin to do this.
Yet another doctor / know once said in
my hearing that he believed from all
he had seen that the happiness of mar
riage depended primarily upon the man.
Were he worth anything, the peace of the
household was assured.
Letters to the newly married SHOULD be
addressed to both. There is much that
might be said. First of all, that neither
take the devotion of the other for grant,
ed, making no effort to cultivate or re-
tain what each other felt to be a due.
There is nothing one should kill quicker
in marriage than the first tendency in
either one to discuss the peculiarities of
the other before the third person. Nothing
is more fatal and nothing is more vulgar.
No one can ever take a greater liberty
with the other. These personalities are
never funny, though they are often made
to do service as family jokes brought
out for the entertainment of the stranger.
Nagging should be prohibited, and teas
ing secrets; that mutual concession be in
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other be regarded as an opportunity for
helping that other, and not as an excuse
for alienation, and l should beg the one
who had a trouble share it with the other,
so that neither go about with evidences of
worry while declaring that nothing is the
matter. "Oh. nothingg' in answer to a
lowing inquiry from husband or wife,
sensitive TO disturbed conditions in one
loved is often the first wedge which ulti-
mately drives both apart.
"Black satin is a material in vogue for
coats" writes Isabel A. Mallon in the
November Ladies Home Journal. Aand
upon the coats made of 1t lace, ribbon
and all rich decorations run riot. The de-
sign most in vogue for satin has a close
fitting bodice with an attached skirt, this
skirt being formed of the trimming. A
typical black satin coat, which is given
in Illustration, Is fitted to the figure, but
has In the centre of the back and just in
front a few soft folds. 1t is cut so that
IT extends two inches below the hips,
where it arches slightly, and it is then
finished with a frill of heavy black lace
that reaches almost to the knees. Wide,
dropping revers of the satin are overiaid
with cut Jet, while at the neck is a
folded collar of the satin with a large
flar.ng bow in the back. A imilar bow,
but somewhat larger, is at the back at
the waist line, and from 1t come two long
satin ends that are drawn ever the hips
to the front and are loosely knotted so
that they fall far down over the lace.
With a jet bonnet as its adjunct such a
c12f NAV he MORN urf+h n ~n~1 cyrs-
which must. however, be black, and the
effect of a very rich and elaborate cos
tune will result"
A combing sack that is as pretty as
1t Is practical is of electric blue French
flannel. with ecru lace and insertion.
The fullness at each side is disposed by
gathers at the neck. and the closing Is
In the centre, with small pearl buttons,
and ~buttonholes. The fullness of the
eamles back. which is -smooth-ftting
across the shoulders, is drawn well to
the centre of the waistlines by three
rows of shirring. Ribbon ties fastened
at each end are carried forward to ter
inmate In the centre front by pretty
bows and ends. thus holding the ~fuilness
OF the fronts in position. The moderate
ly full sleeves, gathered at top and bot
tom, are finished at the wrists with mar
row bands of insertion. edged with lace.
A handsome sailor collar falls deep in
pack and front, fiaring a little in the
centre, and is trimmed with insertion
and edging. This charming neglige can
be fashioned in any design of red. blue
or pink flannel with admirable effect. If
lace be not desired, feather stitching will
give a simple, yet dainty finish.
Nowadays, when one finds a household
without a well-selected and up-to-date IL
brary, one mentally calls the woman at
the head of the establishment a BIT che
hind the times A music stand thinly
and badly provided is equally a matter of
bad taste and bad Judgment. Yet there
are few women who properly understand
stacking a music rack, or who, under
standing, put their knowledge in practice.
But the appreciation and study of music
Is so general in these days tina the selec-
ton should be r~eligiously attended to. A
piano is found in every home, and a small
musical library should It. In
cases where certain members Of the. FAM
lily are practical musicians there is no
danger of dearth of music scores. But I
speak of households in which there is no
uerformer II IS SeIdarn that a o,,aut xvho