The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1896-04-13

portunity. Let her not NOPE or despair,
but plan for bettering these things. Let
her not think 90 III OF her friends that
she dare not invite them except to an
WHICH SHE CANNOT AFFORD.
"A wafer and lemonade will make
them just as happy, II they are worth In
vitjng. We can't be happy In society un-
We we cannot & have % Christ in society % until ii" we
are willing to invite Him and Ills friends
to our weddings and feasts even when
the refreshments are insufficient for the
guests. IL American sociesy has come.to
this, that the male American will not go
to his neighbor,s without the promise OF
1t IL well to think also Of another trou-
BILE In family life-the discovery OF the
husband that his wife 10 not very intelli-
gent--onlv pretty. She may discover this
in him earlier, Dut-we Will not speak
OF that now. What is he to do? Well, he
may be mistaken. Just because she does
not think along the same lines with him
self that Is no Indication that she is not
as wise or as quick as he. She thinks
perhaps that his sort of knowledge or
interest is Of little account, and the pro-
liabilities are she Is as correct az he.
People In such situation have q prob
lem to solve and they can do no better
than to consider together. There is prob
ably a common subject OF which both
are equally ignorant, but which both
consider well worth their attention. Let
them take up some study, some fad
what you viii, and when 1t appears that
progresses about as well as the other,
mutual respect will increase. The for
ward one may find some pleasure In as
suming the role Of teacher. Men say they
did not marry their wives to undertake
kindergarten. This is the mark of base
nature. Husbands who are really quail
fed to see the
INTELLECTUAL LACKS OF WIVES
are also best capable OF putting their
wives in the way of improve
ment. Such discovery as this
of wife's deficiencies Is always q refec-
tion on the husbands lack of perception
or affection--on his perception because
he did not discover 1t before they were
married-on his affection, because IL it
was deep he would enjoy leading his
wife's MIND on. And this Is all eq ualIy
true when their positions ere reversed.
Differences may arise In regard TO ques-
tions Of policy, where to live, how to
edueate children, where to attend church,
what proportion OF the income, II any
can, ought to be saved.
In such cases as these the first thing to
remember Is that the home being founded
on love, 1t is better to give up anything
rather than endanger that. This family
is a. coalition ministry holding office for
life, to administer affairs Of several per-
sons, little commonwealth. Though It is
time that abounding love will settle sll
these points OF policy we must note that
a wise dealing with there matters may
prevent the beginning OF estrangement
where the love Is not what Ii should be.
The family is not like debating society,
In which sides are to be taken and the
lily Is dual unit for the arrival at the
best course-just as one turns over in
ones brain the reasons for and against a
course OF action. Therefore, q quick and
extreme statement of opinion is to be
avoided because the distance to be travel
ed before two thoughts come together
will then be greater. Lam told by wise
husbands and wives that
WHEN srcH MooTED POINTS ARISE
II often happens after one expresses an
opinion at night the other, waiting lit
tie, Will agree in the morning. Every
question in the eye of God Is moral,
religious question. But there are often
two courses, either OF which bring the
same result.
gravely doubt whether as regards edu-
cation 1t makes much difference what
young people study, within reasonable
limits, SO long as they study. People
that 1t is better to leave property to the
next generation. While many wise men
differ on such questions, ii is not to be
wondered that your good wife or your
good husband holds views not in exact
accord with yours. That Is possible
without folly or stubbornness. IL one
party wishes 10 save and the other wishes
to give away, let the giver give as far as
may be without unpleasantness and
then give the balance to the saving
partner. The Lord never punished
the married person who gave away to
keep peace in the family; or who could
not be generous alone. Let each remember
that half of the money belongs to each
and the disposal OF all or much without
agreement may be a way of discord or
regret. IL the Senate cannot persuade
the House to make righteous appropria-
tion il mus not steal the money from the
treasury to make 1t, willy nilly.
The larger the trou BILE In the family the
more devout, careful and prayerful should
be the attempt to remove IL. A difference
i'm religious faith--or the entire lack of ii
In one party is common woe-for no
milder term will answer. There are rea-
sons why your husband will not look fa-
vorabIy toward Christianity.
HIS MINISTER rs DRY.
Do not hesitate moment. Leave your
chprch--if 1t be this church-take him
where the minister's thought is juicy, his
mind holy. Believe in the power of
character over.your Observation-Disclosures In
you or the minister. Go where he gets
Inspiration. II your husband were very
i'll and you believed change of physi-
clans would cure him, how long would you
hesitate? Not long will an upselfish part
ner delay in such a case. IL religion,
which Is freshand sweet, can be shown
to your wife or husband to be so--what-
ever book, whatever man, can do 1t, APP
ply the remedy--remove thousand miles
IL necessary. For God has intrusted you
with human creature dear TO Him. He
demands that as the apple OF the eve you
keep him or her. To toll, no sacrifice is too
great, that shall bring humility, gentleness
and mercy into that life to transform it.A
the mothers took their babes to Jesus,
Ms the sages journeyed from the Orient to
see Him, SO labor, study, struggle incess-
antly to bring the man or woman of your
love into fellowship with the Divine.
But an ambition to live well may have
tyrannized over your husbands thought.
In many homes there Is always something
to buy, some enlargement 10 make, some
debt TO pay, and the American life deals |
an tnuch I'm futureQ financially that il has