Birmingham state herald. (Birmingham, Ala.) 1895-1897, 1896-05-05
OUR SOCIAL WORLD.

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(All items of social interest will be gladly
noted in these columns If sent to Mrs.
George c. Ball. Nineteenth street, between
Tenth and Eleventh avenues, South High
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A young friend wrote me thus few
days ago: IF in your power will you
please tell me If it's policy to flatter
girl or not? Does it make a woman like
you that much more, and does it pay in
the long rum" Now, l use the term
"young friend advsedly, for man OF
mature years and of wide experience
would know that all girls-and every
body else for that matter-enjoy hear
ing pleasant things said to them and of
them. And he would also know that the
agreeable things said of US we never con-
slider f1attery if we'll said, but esteem
them as compliments instead. 1t is only
flattery when applied to other people, as
we all are aware. And more than this,
If a man is really fascinated with
woman nothing seems extravagant for
him to feel and say while the sentimental
attack lasts; so what he ventures to ex-
press of his admiration at such a time
cannot be called fiattery, asst is sincere
expression of warm affection; he is
honest and genuine, for the time being
Now as to the permanent good to be
accomplished: whether in the long run
mans cause is to be advanced with
the woman he loves by a reiteration of
sweet nothings' and fulsome compli-
ments, there is a diversity of opinion.
A woman who can be won simply in this
way is not generally of a very high order
Notwithstanding the fact that every
daughter of Eve is susceptible to kindly
and complimentary speeches. While
man should feel in duty bound to say all
the pleasant things possible to the wom-
an whom he loves, he should not depend
upon such tactics alone for final success,
provided the woman is a sensible one and
worth the effort to win. But if my
young friend should gain his sweetheart
with fine speeches he must not cease
this pleasant custom after he marries
as is the habit of mankind generally
Men seem to be impressed with the err
roneous idea that after marriage it is
no longer necessary to continue the
agreeable tendencies, the little courtly
sayings and doings that rendered them
attractive previous to marriage. They
may be the most fascinating suppiants
and f1atterers before matrimony, but
they almost always terminate into the
most sef-SatlSfied, imperturba BILE of
spouses. who seem to consider that they
have conferred a lifelong favor upon
their unsuspecting wives by granting
them the privilege of bearing their
names and keeping their homes in order.
They forget, apparently, that the lives
of average women are necessarily linn
tied and circumscribed, and that they
need all the encouragement possible in
the daily struggles which surround them
And they little reckon how bright a
whole day can be made by a tender, low
ing word. So for fear that this young
friend may, after the manner of some
men, grow careless subsequent to matri-
mony, perhaps he had better say every
pleasant thing that he can imagine to
his sweetheart just now and leave the
result to time and to the young girls low
ing heart.
Miss Florence Pullman, daughter of
George NJ Pullman of sleeping car fame,
was married few days ago with great
eclat at her magnificent home al Chicago
to promising but impecunious lawyer of
that city, Mr.. Frank o. Sowden. Immense
sums of money were spent upon the floral
decora tions of the house, and new or
gan was built for the occasion. The bride
was magnficently attired, of course, in
white satin, with veil of Brussels lace,
while the bridesmaids dresses were ex-
quiste and girlish to degree that war
rants imitation They were of white tafe-
ia silk, covered with fine white Swiss
muslin trimmed with lace, and were ex-
ceedingly dainty and simple, yet at the
same time sufficiently handsome to &C.
company the brides elegant toilette.
A writer in the London Woman tells
this interesting story of Paderewski:
During the last Norwich festival a we'll
known arcitect took the great pianist
over the cathedral, with which he was
greatly impressed, SO much 50. Indeed
that next day he resolved to go there
alone and make himself further acquaint-
ed with its beauties He managed to
lose his way, however, in the cathedral
close, and happening to pass what looked
like school room. from which sounds
of music were issuing, he stopped and
went in to inquire his way. A few small
choir boys were there alone. waiting for
the rest to assemble for practice grouped
around one of their number who was
seated at the piano. 1t must be explained
that several of the cathedral choir boys
are included In the festival chorus, so
that they had heard Paderewski play the
great Polish fantasia produced at Nor
witch during the festival. I'll show you
how Paddy plays" the young pianist
was saying just as Paderewski entered
and straightway began a decidedly
"frisky" imitation of the great player
For moment he listened, much amused,
then advancing to the group he remarked
quietly, mo, iii show you how Paddy
plays" and quietly pushing aside the lit
tie pianist he played for a short time
magnificently to the astonished boys,
who stood in open-mouthed admira ton,
not at first recognizing their visitor, till
ing a recital from no less person than
Paddy himself, of which they will no
doubt be proud forever.
The Sunday school of St.-Mary s-on-
the-Highlands will picnic next Saturday
at Trussville.
The Daughters of the American Revo-
luton will hold their regular monthly
meeting this morning at 80 O'Clock with
Il ko lee ut hA- h., H.
South Highlands.
Mrs. A. T. Henley has just returned
from delightful visit to relatives at
Montgomery,
Mrs. George Nichols, formerly Miss
Sophie Hallonquist of Montgomery, spent
yesterday in Birmingham, en- route from
Little Rock to Montgomery. Mrs Mich
OILS will spend several weeks at her old
home after which she will go west for
the summer with Mr., Nichols, whose
business carries him to that section.
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