Phillipsburg herald. [volume] (Phillipsburg, Kan.) 1882-1905, 1896-10-08
TRYING TO KEEP UP.
False Pride and Living Beyond Ones
Means.

Means.
There is nothing so absolutely fool
ish and unremunerative as the false
pride which attempts style of living
beyond the means of the individual,
whose only incentive thereto is that
others In her set do thus and so, and
therefore IT. " incumbent upon her to
do likewise, says the New York TIL
bune. To strive to keep up to a certain
standard, without the means to do so
comfortably or successfully, Is OF all
things most wearing and displriting.
Many woman at the end of the season
asks herself what 1t Is all worth, and
thinks how foolish she has been to
waste time, energy and money to gain
the favor of certain people who have
SO much that they count for nothing
the efforts made to please them and
consider they are comforting q favor
by accepting invitations. Yet, despite
her experience of the vanity and hol-
low sham of 1t all, the chances are ten
to one that such woman will begin
her poor pltiful worldly campaign the
next season with renewed vigor, and
that she will again sacrifice herself and
family to this Moloch of modern So
clety called public opinion. II only
these poor, Woodworking, weary deni-
zens Of vanity fair realized that such
striving is not only fruitless, but de-
rogatory, that the very people whose
acquaintance and friendship they are
most anxious to secure would like and
respect them far more If they we're
simple and honest and hospitable ac-
cording to their means, it would save
them no end Of trouble and discour-
agement. 1--WE dined at Mrs. AS the
other evening" said the sensible wife
Of one of our multi-millionaires, "and
enjoyed it so much. She lives in a
tiny apartment and has only two
maids, and she gives us the simplest
little dinner, but so good, and such a
relief after the elaborate affairs one
generally has to sit through. Just soup,
fish, tillet of beef, an entree and a
sweet, everything in such excellent
taste, and only eight at table, but just
the people one wanted to see. DO ask
me again. my husband said to her as
we were leaving. I have not enjoyed
myself so much this winter and he
really meant it. We took dinner with
some one else, who shall be nameless,
a couple Of evenings afterward. Such
a tiresome experience as it was! The
dinner was poor and yet very elab-
crate, and everything was on scale
too big for the house. What a mis-
take those people make, I said as we
were driving home, and how anxious
and tagged Mrs. - looked. I pre-
sumo they are living beyond their
means, was my husbands manlike
conclusion. - came to me the other
day to get me to go into some new en-
terprise in which he is interested, but
1 guess I'll keep out Of it,
How tired and discontinued Mrs
Clymber looks" remarked one of her
acquaintance, "and yet she has made
success of it this winter, every one
says"
"She has bought her victory too
DEAR" answered some one who was
present. "She has spent more than
she can afford She had offended her
old friends, and what has she gained
federation only from the set she has
set her heart upon belonging to. No
wonder that she finds the apples Of
Sodom dust and ashes-yet she will
continue to reach after them with the
same eagerness next season."