The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1896-04-14

Visiting is at times a great trial O
friendship. / wonder If some women re
alize what they ask a friend to undergS
when they invite her to make a fttl.
visit Of a week r SOP l believe not.
Eve staying OVER night within man,
. domicile means a severe cold and lot.
Of discomfort for the unfortunate Wis
itor. And If the little VISIT be pro
longed a week, or two of them, she il
really in need OF a sojourn at the "Resi
Cure"
! know of one long-suffering guest
who at present win not visit her owr
cousin Gin the suburbs of ~Philadelphia)
except for an hour or two of In after
noon. When asked to explain this phe-
nomenon she sighed. but said resolute.y'
mo, I never go to Margaret's now ex-
cep for an afternoon. Every time l
spend the night there 1 feel as unconi-
Portable as the princess who slept on a
pea, and I always come away with an
attack of mild grippe. You see, Margaret
has o children. They occupy her time
so thoroughly that she has no time to
spend on a guest. BY right she should
never invite anyone II the children make
4RQAl ANA-
She went OF to relate her experience
which was. with some little variation,
just what hundreds of women are en-
along extra blankets for a cool snap
when they visit.
In fact. one might say that to see a
guest mounting your porch steps with a
roll of feecy coverlets under the arm
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suit. And yet If there were always suf-
foient covering provided the sister
or cousin or aunt would not come down
to the breakfast table with the voice re-
duced to a whisper and bloodshot eyes.
Breakfast Is at s o'clock. At 9, when
she has fully decided that the cold and
cough of her guest come from the
change of air. the hostess proposes sight
seeing. This means that there is a
ruined church not more thar fifteen
miles away. and that her guest is ex
pected to enjoy a little walk to that
spot and back again. This little trot
over, she is ready to fab into a chan
while a very cozy luncheon is served,
which h feels too weary to do more
than touch. After luncheon the indie
fatigable little hostess proposes a round
of say ten visits about the ~neighbor-
hood. Then supper. and a large card
party which lasted til II P. NJ. Is it a
wonder that after a week of this the
woman who has visited needs the SANTA
rum?
There are a Thousand minor miseries
which If they mad only been om;ftsd
or hidden would have left the CUES \
possession of a sound mind in a healthy
body. If the hostess had not urged so
vehemently on the subject. perhaps the
poor woman would not have swallowed
thost two viands which were not her
friends.
II the maid had brought a jug Of hot
water in the morning to her bed room
door she would not have been obliged
TO come into the hail in her bath robe
TO secure the same herself. Her room
.ssIau sae a hundred per cent.
more comfortable if these had been in
it. Some Of the little articles which 60
to make UP her room comforts-pins
and hair pins, whisp broom. scissors
needles, thread, shoe buttons, a small
mirror. ink and other writing materials,
{ shoe hook and some books or maya
zines.
II the guest be a young person, they
viii uncuestionably like to be called in
time for the family breakfast table, even
II that should be at 6 in the morning.
But to one not in the flush of youth it
may be a bit of a hardship to make her
appearance at that hour. A gentle hint
that the husband and sons are obliged
to catch an early train, but that the maid
viii bring coffee and so on, to her room
il sure to be appreciated by an elderly
guest.
When the maid does bring it. the de-
Jeuner should not consist Of tepid liquid
and soggy biscuit, which makes a wom-
ans soul cry out against the sin of hos
pitality.
The woman who makes. her guests feel
most sat ease. gains undoubtedly the
highest triumph in entertaining. The bril-
liant. dashing. laxative woman isn't al
ways the best hostess.
Very often 1t is the quiet little being
who enjoys hearing the brilliant woman
talk. n who can, NEVERTHELESS, chat UNI
pretentiously with someone else concern
ing dne new baby.
The quiet individual who finds the way
at once to the hearts of the big, awk-
ward boy, who makes the country cousin
laugh, and forget the unstylsh cut of
her gown.
W should try to md OUT said Rus
Kin. not In what We differ with other
people, but in what we agree with them"
ls not there 2 whole essay in these
twenty-one words upon the art which
makes 4 hostess?
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