The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1896-08-24
The NEW WOMAN.
How to Make Wives Happy and Keep
Them at Homo.

How to Make Wives Happy and Keep
Them at Homo.
Husbands must not expect the same
devotion FROM women after they Gro
married. Naturally girl cannot keep
up after marriage the same extravagant
and exclusive attentions of the courtship
period. She tires of being tied down.
Naturally she wants once more to see
something Of life and the world and the
amusements common to her sex. She
will after time, perhaps, not be so reg
ular in coming home early. She will
weary of the dull monotony of the fire
side and desire to go to the theater with
a friend oc have night off at the club.
On such occasions the right minded hus-
band will be all patience and tenderness.
He will not, if he is wise, keep tab on
her too closely as to the hours she gets
home at night or i'll the morning. And
when she does come, let him not meet
her with upbraidings and tears. 1t will
only serve to ALLEVIATE her affections
finally and fatally from him. 1t will
drive her still more to the club and to
questionable amusements. 1t will tend
to make her come home still later. Par
ticularly let him not question her too
closely as to where she has been. The
chances are if he does this she will be-
come irritable and will not tell him at
all or will tell him wrong, and then
there will be a scene and that first, fatal
quarrel which the true husband should
avoid as he would avoid pistol or poison.
A husband must understand in the be-
ginning that wife will have her lib
erty and will not be questioned. In ad-
dition let the husband see that the home
is a model one. Every unpleasant sub
ject, sight or sound should be carefully
kept away from her The dishes she
likes best should be carefully prepared
for her The husband should always be
neat and tidy. He should never appear
before her eyes unshaven; never let her
see him asleep. A man asleep, no mat
ter how beautiful he is awake, is not u
pretty sight In dressing, too, let him
select the colors she approves. No mat
ter what she does, let him meet it with
that patient, sweet submission which is
so beautiful in husband. Let him al
ways be to her virtues very kind and to
her faults little blind. If anything
will win back the wandering wife, this
course of conduct will. But such is the
feminine nature that even this may not
work. Then let the husband bear his
wrongs sweetly and silently. This is
often mans sad lot. 1t is not becoming
to the gentle, retiring, masculine nature
for husband to blare his wrongs from
the housetop. If all else fails the de-
voted husband, there are still left his
children and his church. In bringing up
his innocent children to be ornaments
to society and in the consultations of re-
ligion the suffering husband may still
find peace, almost happiness.
DIR. Sarah L. Shuey is president of
the board of health of Oakland Cal.
Some of the present day sleeves look
like a woolly caterpillar.
1t was fine stroke of good taste as
well as of business III Mrs. II. ". r.
Strong of Los Angeles Cal, to induce
the Republican party to employ as its
emblem this year three plumes of Cali
fornia pampas grass dyed, respectively,
red, white and blue. Mrs. Strong is the
leading cultivator of these beautiful
pampas grass plumes in America.
ELIZA ARCHARD CONNER.