The herald., 1896-04-26
THE MANLY MAN
bY AN AMERICAN GIRL

The inconsistencies and peculiarities
OF the lords of creation" have all been
explained, but little has been said of
the manly man.
There is manly man, whom every
one admires, but somehow the idea pre-
dominates in the minds of many that he
is "a thing of the past" Not 50. He
exists still, but 1t requires a long and
diligent search to find him; we are too
apt to look for him on a pedestal: but
he does not always occupy an exalted
position in life.
Position does not make the man.
man makes or mars his position.
The manly man does not forget him.
self whatever his lot may be; his posi-
ton and surroundings may have charms
but his gracious manners far out
weigh them, for they express a kindly
and sympathetic heart and well-poised
mind. One always goes from his pres
ence at peace with the world, for he so
carefully avoids what may cause a jar
in the minds of others.
He is never mean or little in his dis
putes, and does not insinuate an evil
which he does not say out. He con-
ducts himself toward his enemy as
though he were one day to be his friend;
and his kind words and pleasant man
ners infuse cheerfulness in the hearts
of all with whom he comes in contact.
He treats the humblest with as much
respect as the most exalted; ignoring
entirely race, rank or color"
In fact, mot to seem, but to be-" is
his daily life. He assumes no mask of
pretension, and we are apt to meet him
any place. He may be a scavenger or
lawyer, a bootblack or a judge-but
he is the manly man, who enriches our
lives and helps us to forget all that is
unpleasant.
The manly man, if he has mother,
wife or sister, does not snub her in pub
lie, his chief concern being to make
everyone feel at ease.
While he is particular how his sister
is treated by male friends, he is not less
so how he conducts himself toward
somebody elses sister-he does not
preach up heaven, and there lend his
strongest efforts to turn earth into the
place unmentionable" to polite ears.
And then, too, the manly man never
sits down and wonders how he is to
gain livelihood without honestly work.
ing for it.
He does not stand on the street cor
ners and make disrespectful remarks
concerning women, for he never forgetS
that his mother Is q woman; nor is he
so conceited as to imagine that every
woman who glances at him is ready to
die for him.
There are, however, men whom you
could throw a gooseberry pie through
and not mash it (the pie), they are SO
empty and aimless. Not SO with the man
ly man. He considers his brains of in
finitely more value than either his
pocket-book or good looks.
He is a man worthy of regard, and
worth turning to look at; he discharges
his duties, down to the smallest AMI
humbleSt, in an honest, upright man
ner.
His mind is always we'll balanced and
well-stored; his life is full of useful
purposes, the brightest object of his life
being to form manly character
1t is not the most successful life in
which man receives most pleasure and
power; but that in which he develops
manhood and soul and performs useful
work and human duties. Intelligence is
the noblest power.
AS man respects himself, so he re-
spects and is respected by others. Self
respect Is the noblest garment man or
woman can wear
The manly man is clothed in self-re-
spect-and ever tends to the bashful,
gentle, to the distant and merciful to
the absurd-patient, forbearing and re-
signed on philosophical principles, never
disregarding the privileges and feelings
of others.
True worth lies In being, and not SEEM
ing-the Magma Charta was secured by
manly men, who signed the deed with
their marks.
1t is well for woman to hold and keep
the love of a manly man; but 1t will
prove to her sorrow if she bestows her
affections on the trifling, perforated, in
consistent and peculiar being who
abounds so freely throughout the uni
verse.
The manly man is one who wields an
influence for the good of all, and is a fit
representative Of this American COM
monwealth. AMERICAN GIRL.