The daily morning journal and courier., 1896-06-20


 essential respects, She must, above
 all bow down to that grand European
 fetish-caste spirlt-and observe in all
 minute details those rules of dividing
 and sub-d dividing classes and species of
 mankind which her own forefathers in
 lI76 successfully levelled in the young
 republic Nearly all American girls,
 however, are unable to so completely
 Europeanize themselves, and hence
 their life is an unbroken series of com promises between their consciences,
 their minds, and the demands of their new home.
 It may be well to state here, though,
 that while 1t is true that when a Euro pean marries an American it is, in nnety-nine cases out of a hundred, primarily for the sake of a large, fat dowry, it is true probably in the same percentage that he treats his American wife we'll and indulgently Among the American wives I have met in Europe
 married to natives, I do not recollect personally a single case where the hus-
 band was brutal or where the union
 was an out-and-out unhappy one, On the contrary, know or have heard of quite number where there seemed to be happiness on both sides. An inti-
 mate friend of mine here, for instance, still cherishes the memory of his young American wife with a devotion which
 is as steadfast as it is deep, and that young wife, while she lived, often de- Clared her union to be an ideal one.
 But she had become thoroughly Ger
 manized within the first eighteen
 months of her marriage, Another young American I know of here, the wife of an officer in the etat major, takes such a pride in her husbands S profession, and such an interest in 1t, that she knows by name or looks near ly every officer in the German army. Countess Waldersee, nee Lee, is in tensely happy in her German life and
 very proud of her lord. The other day
 an American young widow, nee Budd,
 married a major in the German war ministry, Herr von Harbou, having been, as she says, so happy with her first German husband. Frau von Rot tenburg, daughter of the late American Ambassador Phelps is happy medi- um-neither too German nor too Amer ican, but Withal happy wife. Coun- tess Pappenheim of Bavaria, who IS also an American girl told me last winter that she felt sure she could not have been happier with an American husband and her life in Europe she likes immensely. Count Alexander Gersdorff of the army is the second son
 of the old imperial Chamberlain, Count Gersdorff who married an American,
 Miss Parsons, while his elder brother married Miss Loomis, and though he,
 too, married for money, the union may
 be quite a happy one. In this instance,
 as in so many in Europe, the sons are simply forced to look out for a gold fish" the social standing of the family requiring large means while their es- tates are heavily encumbered, And the American people being quite pro- ductive of gold fishes" these high
 born but penniless young men look for their game in that direction, not be- cause they bear America any special grudge.
 There is one elderly American lady in l Germany who has been quite a match
 maker for impoverished but aristocrat- | ic young German army officers, deliv- ering up to them a number of those | self-same "gold fishes" That lady Is
 Princess Amelia Lynar, nee Parsons, of | Columbus Ohio, who is a widow since | 1SS6 Her husband was a distinguished
 Prussian diplomatist. Her son is now 1 twenty, and entered the German army as officer the other day. He is the pie | ture of his handsome mother,
 From all the individual cases I know | f-t- ;,, Attr tria and the Scandinavian North, should say that marriages between na- | lives of those countries and American girls are much more likely to be happy
 or, at least, not unhappy-than with natives of Italy. Spain or France, whose estimate of women differs much
 more materially from the American es- innate than does the German one. However, high spirited self-Willed American girls are not advised ever to | marry even a German, or Austrian or | Dane. or Swede, as they are not nearly | so liable to have their way as when | they marry an American. Here the wife-the wellAbred, orthodox, average wife--is expected to bow down and submit to her husband, fieuratively, at | her ways of thinking above his as he Is supposed to do the thinking for her. | And the law goes even further than custom-by law a German husband is allowed to chastise his mildly,
 so as not to permanently injure her Even the new civil code now being con- | sidered In the Reiehstag has retained this provision. And divorce Is difficult | to obtain here, and only for few req | sons
 To conclude: I deem 1t inadvisable, generally speaking, for American girls | to marry Europeans, least of all Euro peans of the Latin races, Of course, as I pointed out there are numerous ex- captions.
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