Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1895-04-25

until she marries. Ones Christian name
Is reserved for those whom one loves
and who are close to one, consequently
q widow does not have upon her visit
ing card, "Mrs, Alice Brown" but,
when she is the widow of the eldest
son, simply "Mrs. Brown" and when
the widow Of younger son, Mrs.
Norfolk Brown" using her maiden
name and her married one, SO that cX-
actly who she is may be conveyed to
her friends. No answer is required TO
a wedding Invitation. The preferred
formula (Which Is, fthe one sent out by
Mrs. Letter. is taken from the English,
because II says all that is necessary in
the simplest way. 1t reads "Mr. and
Mrs. james Howard request the pleasure
OF your presence at the marriage OF
their daughter Elinor with Mr.. Charles
Thompson on Wednesday, June 18th,
at IL O'Clock, at st. Paul's, and after
wards at 1000 Fifth avenue" No hour
is named for the reception, but the
guests understand that they go direct
from the church to the house. The
parents Of the bride stand at the draw
ing.room door and receive the guests,
but the bride and bridegroom are not
with them, but instead further on in the
room, where they are ready to receive
congratulations. Later on they lead
the way into the dining.room to the
breakfast, or luncheon, whichever may
be served, There is no Formally as to
entering the dining-room after the
bridal party, and ladies may go with
out gentlemen as escorts, for the num-
Der Of ladies generally outnumbers that
of men at weddings.a
AS TO VISITS,
fifteen minutes is quite long enough for
formal one, and the proper hours are
counted as between 3 and 9. The most
formal ones being between and 5
while ones intimates drop in between
D and 6. Well-brcd people do not write
"R 5. V. r." on dinner invitation
nowadays as ones friends are supposed
to know that such an Invitation require:
an answer, and the letters suggest Civ
ing L lesson IN pUllteness. 1t is very
bad form for 4 man who meets either 8
married lady ur an unmarried one at O
tea to presume to call on either without
suggestion that he would be welcome
And by-tho.by, when Mr. Algernor
Smith is old enough to pay forma
visit he is quite old enough to take care
of his own hat and coat, and to retair
his immaculate gloves. And also by
thc-by (although Boston objects to this
lp entering a theatre, q lady procedes I
gentleman down the aisle, with til,
usher ahead of her. This method is pre-
ferred because, ii the gentleman wer
ahead lie could not protect the lad.
from being pushed against, and it make
it somewhat easier for her to take til
inner seat and leave the outer one 70
her escort.
RESERVE AND PLEASURE.
| think that is all they asked me.
believe have done my duty as solemn
as | know how, and hope wont brin
on my innocent head the Judgment o
the writers on etiquette who do knoN
such an awful lot They always say
as if it was the easiest thing in I'll
world; "Be at once reserved and yC
| pleasant. 1t sounds very easy. In rel
life it is very difficult Then, too, ther
IRE situations where it might be possible
and others where it mightn't. | Gu
imagine combination of reservity an
! PLEASANTLY when you have the tootl
ache, and know the dentist is going |
take it away very soon. That is, who
there is hope in tie future; but | can
imagine combination of reserve an
pleasure at an auction. You want
get something and four other wome
want 1t just as much as you do. 4u
said a dollar, and that hateful woma
said a dollar ten. And then woma
who dyes her HAIR said dollar ii
teen; and then you said q dollj
and quarter and tried to look plea
ant; and then the other woman said
dollar aud fifty cents, and you try
look reserved, and only succeed
achieving an expression of crossnes
The aGctioneer remembers your nan
and speaks to you and you feel please
but not reserved, because you laugh.
tell you il is u wise auCtloncet who tint
out the names of the different wome
Women love to be thought of impol
; ance. They like to have MIR. FTenC
call out, when he ia selling Il CUrot, AZ
; he knows an awful lot about picture
Now, Mrs. Calvert, you are "a Judge
, good work; you are not going 10 see I'll
beautiful picture 20 for mere song
And Mrs. Calvert feels that she is apr
ciated aud bids on the picture, and, su
denly, the agreeable auctiuneer say
"Why, Mrs. Iompkins, | didn't see y,
: before; | don't pretend to teach you an
/ thing about this picture. You have fC
! gotten more about art than ever knc
:, I'll Just ask you to look at it. \
: Mrs. Tompkius raises the bid, and
!, the tCnptur goes on, and lovely WON
:, tries to be reserved and squanders /
+ money. | always think, when go
- an auction, and 90 often, that the on
:, safety for nc lies in Mr. French l
seeing Inc; for if he does, am goi
= And | am one III hundred who RnO
y that pleasure is certainty, while
7 serve Is a positive doubt,
:, Then the etiquette book says,
}, "NEvEH DISCUSS PERSONALITIES.
n Speak OF things, not people" W
o your bosom friend calls, AMI You st
5. china us u discussion. | mean CHI
e cups, not the Chinese war. Ethclt
Y says, IBID you ever see such mean Gu
g as Mrs. Paryenl had ON her table
10 other day?' ANA you tip.tilt your n
t, as If You smeit something not quite n
,c and answer: "She is horrid Til
N anyhow. am surprised that you "
IN to her housc."
ID And Ethcinda says; son, she S
such funny things. You know,
daughter Is going 10 marry an Engl
/, man. They made their money in
~ retail way in Chicago, think. Wei
IN society reporter went 70 interview J
a Paryenu about the wedding, ana
ii came down sturs in her wrapper, Il
a. think 0f 1t, dcNrest, She said to him
~ hope yea will excuse my appeara,
|a but thought | had better not keep
II Wniiina mud SO | inst camn down In