The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1895-03-24
WHOM SHALL SHE MARRY.
Choose the Man with a Working
Hobby, Says One Writer.

Buffalo Times.
or all the fine old crusted frauds in the
shape of proverbs which have been handed
down to us, there is, perhaps, none that
has worked more mischief than that dis
reputable old saw which asserts that "A
reformed rake makes the best husband
Accordingly, in discussing the type of man
who is found to most nearly approach the
cline altogether to be led by the nose by the
author of this notorious piece of clap-trap.
In praise of rakes, whether reformed or
otherwise, we have nothing to say, and we
shall assuredly give them no place in the
little gallery, of individuals who, experience
shows, run the smoothest in the double har-
ness of matrimony-
AS a husband of the good, stay-at-home
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lover of flowers, the budding photographer,
the proud proprietor of a lathe, and the
home artist, have each and every one quail
ties which go far to convert a house into a
home. The 'lodger husband" whose So
journs under his own roof tree are strictly
limited to meals and bedtime, is not a sat
isfactory institution. when judged from the
wife's standpoint, and anything which will
detain him on the inside of his front door
makes most effectually for domestic happi-
ness.
The man who potters about the house
with a hammer and saw, and who, per-
hsps, perpetrates atrocities in the way of
bookcases and executes fearful and Won
derful daubs upon the door panels. or who
riosities in fretwork, is nearly sure to be
a good fellow and a good husband. What
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sofa caster with the air of a man designing
a public building. It keeps him out of mis-
chief and it keeps him out of the street. To
those girls who are in the fortunate posi-
ton of being able to pick and choose we
would give no better advice than to marry
a man with a hobby.
The. lover of books is certainly entitled
to take high rank on the list of good hus-
bands. Fix him in his armchair, give him
his favorite author, and wild horses won't
stir him. If he has a fault it is that he is
somewhat t%aciturn; and does not find the
weather such an absorbing topic of CONVEX
sation as the wife of his bosom would some
times like. Still, he finds his paradise at his
own freside, and the pipe he smokes Is the
pipe of peace.
A protracted course of lodgings is a pow
erful factor in giving a man a proper APP
probation of a home of his own. The in
dividual who has been buffeted from pill
lar to post and has learned to eat cold NUT
ton three times a. week is a most promising
candidate for the role of husband. He is
not exacting, he is easily pleased. and may
be relied upon to walk the baby about at 2
O'Clock in the morning without q murmur.
He has also learned the priceless lesson Of
fact, take him altogether, he makes an adj
mirable third on the list.
Finally, we would commend for marital
honors the youth who has been brought up
with the large family of brothers and sis
ters. The ethics of giving and taking. which
may be termed the A, b, G of domestic
felicity, have been impressed upon him by
his home life. The example of his father
and his mother-for it is a noteworthy fact
that the parents of a quiverful are excep-
~iorally fortunate in their relations one to
another-form an excellent lesson in I'M
s~elfishness and self-sacrifice.
We have here given only a few instances
of qualifications which. observation shows.
are likely to develop a good husband. 1t is
needless to remark that they are and must
be of general application only, Good hus.
bands, and, alas, bad ones, will be found
both outside and inside the limits we have
Sketcned.