Fisherman & farmer. [volume] (Edenton, N.C.) 1887-19??, 1895-09-06
NMHE following is a synop-

A&sS1S OF a sermon recently
n preached in Richmond,
y Va, by Rev. L.R. Thorn
bill, as published in the Dispatch.
That paper says:
Mr.. Thornbill took as his sub
iect, "The Mutual Relations of
Husband and Wife," selecting as
text Ephesians V. 20: "Hus-
bands, love your wives, even as
Christ also loved the Church and
gave Himself tor it, and Collos-
slams iii. I8: wives, submit
yourselves unto your husbands,
as it is fit in the Lord" The
preacher said in part:
can old Spanish proverb
quantity puts before us a stu>
pendous fact: He that goes far
to marry goes to be. deceived or
to deceive. The day you marry
you kill or cure yourself How
many have put nails in their COT
fn-lids on their marriage day.
Jeremy Taylor says: GA good
wife is Heavens last, best gift to
a man, his angel of mercy, min
lister of graces innummerable,
his gem of many virtues, his
casket OF jewels. l would add
that good husband is no less a
treasure to a woman.
"These texts which l have
chosen" Mr.. Thornbill said
further on, "strike the keynote to
the whole situation, and make
right living plain and possible.
Husbands are admonished to
love their wives. Their stern,
strong natures and their high
sense of manliness will make
them chiva1rous and put them in
the position of defenders, pro-
tectors, and supporters of their
wives. True love will harness
all these noble impulses and
principles and turn them to
conjugal felicity. Wives are ad-
monished to submission. Her
place is one of subordination.
She needs no special exhortation
to love. Her nature flows that
way, and where her esteem and
interests are centered love will
do its part without bidding.
II have been asked over and
over again to leave out of the
marriage ceremony the word
obey My reply has been, why
should I leave it out, when the
Word of God has laid such spe>
cihc emphasis upon that condi-
ton of the marriage contract?
Man is, indeed, made the ruler,
the head of the home, and to the
wife is given the subordinate
place. But this subordination
does not mean servile subsection.
Nor does it mean that the wo
man has no distinctive sphere in
the home. She has her sphere,
in which she is superior to the
man, and where she rules as
queen.
"Is there less required of the
man than the woman? Certain
ly not. The love required Of
him is not a mere sentiment,
which is to be appropriately ex-
pressed in overweight poetical
affections, in moon1it lovers re-
treats, but it is a love unto self
sacrifice; yes, it should be a love
unto death. 1t must be strong
er passion than he has for the
society of men, a passion which
will break his relations with the
clubhouse, the pool-room, the
card-table, and the saloon, and
bind him as with hooks of steel
to the home.
off you would study the finest
picture of human happiness,
pick out in your acquaintance a
well-mated couple, who i'll the
fear of the Lord, haye blended |
their lives and are living togeth-
er i'll all the ordinances of Gods
Word. Such picture, the Di-
vine intent was to present in
every home. But even in the
best ordered marriages, where
hearts are joined in the fear of
the Lord, we may naturally ex-
pect some friction. Two per
sons having reached the age of
different in tastes and
habits, thrown together to shape
one course, will naturally differ.
Sharp friction will follow, which
will amount to irritation, if spec
lal effort is not made to prevent
such result. This practical
question then comforts US. How
may a husband and wife so bear
heir respective relations as to
produce the least friction and
promote the greatest happiness !.
E ~ Let the husband and
wife learn. loving forbearance. :
This is especially needful On the
part of the one who prides hi1n> ;
elf On being the stronger of the !.
wo. He shonld not seek to bend :