The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1895-12-27
Sensible Talk with Women BY One whs
knows Them.

A Sensible Talk with Women by One Wac
Knows Them
/ / don't like the word policy. The
moment you tell ME that honesty Is
the best policy am sntagonized and
almost prefer dishonesty. IL YOU say
10 me tits polite 10 be sweet hammered
! find myself stunning the appearance
/ of hypocrisy which amiabilitv OF that
sort too closely resembles. Tell me 10
be good for the sake of being good.
and | viii try right hard 20 behave
| myself, but tell the to be good because
somebody is watching me and il will
be TO my advantage 10 make .
/ good impression. and / shall, ten 10
one, disgrace my lineage. The fact is
that we build up character altogether
too much after the fashion OF farmer
| who should plant his crops 20 please
neigheors, without consulting his own
| predictions or preiudicos. 81 viii
| raise buckwheat, not because / like
/ buckwheat cakes, bat because John
| Smith does. and l might drive a better
| bargain with John Smith some day
| should he chance TO drop In aud eat
hot battered cake with me-" is no
more senseles mode OF procedure than
| IL is for me 20 be honost and upright
| for no higher reason than because
shall have a better standing in the
community with that reputation tackled
to me.
Re good, be true, be pure. for your
! own sake and for the sake OF that com
| paniou you are going 20 spend eternity
! with-your own self
am not an old woman, and vet l
have lived long enough % see the al
most utter GecadeBce of some old
| fashioned virtues Take poli,eness.
for instance-simple, old-fashioned
politeness. that sprung from the heart
| like a rose from the root How lit;fs
we see OF il nowadays We see Q great
deal of what you call company MANNER.
| learned from a book Of etiquette. per-
| haps, but the kindly spirit that seeks
| TO make things pleasant for the hum
blest stranger. as well as for the
| guest who comes ia the van Of
| trumpeting herald. il growing rarer
each year. What II IL does cost q little
| trouble To answer a question or droy
your task 20 direct "A stranger. what j.
the use Of being in the weird NJ all Il
not 20 lend helping hand where We
can and make folks happy. The coVr-
tesy that is only shown TO people we
know and can respond perhaps In kind.
Is spurious courtesy. as different
from old time politeness a. pink made
Of muslin % n sweet carnation that
grows In a garden and woos the bees
Let us give over clubs for awhile.
and start q training school for mothers
We do not need anything 80 much liz
TIE world "a good mothers A. well
expect the h0usekesper 90 turn out
batch Of good cookies, II she make.
them Of sawdust and alum. "a 10 sx
pect the children To develop into good
citizens without the right sort ol
mothers The right sort Of mother
knows where her boy il AL day long.
She spends her time entertaining him
rather than entertaining shallow
headed callers from everlasting &C
everlasting. She tells him stories.
reads 20 him. and picks out tEass
with him on the piano. She IL 'chum-
my with him. too. and has bis com
pletc confidence. SIC doesB't allow
her girls % 90 70 the depot 70 sse the
trains come 10, nor does sse psrni;
them % spend nights away from The
guardianship Of heir own hons. sAs
g. watchful At 10 same time that shs
g. kind. loving &lwzya. bat never
iangusd ia the performances q tboss
duties which the vast responsibility %
Tno;hsrhood has lad upon her Give
us better mothers an1 ths world vi3s
soon b fnli - better men and sssr4ea-
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