Birmingham age-herald., 1895-09-22
ducton the next time she meets Mrs. c. by a bow unless she desires to do so. In the Ball Room.


 The presentation of men at balls or ceremonous functions to young ladies
 gives them the privilege of that even ing's acquaintance only. It is perfectly good form for young ladies to pass such acquaintanceS on the street the day after
 ball or fete without sign of recog- ntion. The young man who has made an
 impression will be asked by the chap eron to call, and in case he is so for
 tunate he will do well to lose no time a bout it.. Twenty-four hours at the latest only should elapse before he pays his re- spects, and then let him be very sure to
 ask for the chaperon, and when she grants him an audience he may meekly
 beg to be allowed to see the young lady
 also. The chaperon is very important
 factor in modern society, and the youth
 who underestimates her power and fails
 to concilate her will be certain to learn
 her strength in most unpleasant man.
 ner, and repent at leisure.
 Dancing men are expected to dance
 with any girl their hostess may present
 them to-it is exceedingly ill-bred for
 them to do otherwise. An introduction of this kind in ball room carries with it your hostess desire, and you have no right to ignore the lady's wish. Society men are supposed to seek to know ladies, but they are frequently so exclusive in regard to forming acquaintances of their own sex that the introducing of men Htto SIOWU tO DS d very ldSh.
 A man argues, and not without some reason, that it makes no difference to him if woman moves in his own or his sisters circles he can afford to be polite to all women. With regard to his own sex, he insists that reciprocity of tastes as well as social position is the only basis for mans friendship, and he protests against having acquaintances forced upon him.
 It is not good form for ladies to shake hands when introduced. On the contra ry. it is considered highly offensive in
 man, when introduced to one of his own
 sex, not to immediately offer his hand A hostess offers her hand to both sexes when receiving them in her own home, | the only exception being at large recep- | tions, kettle drum teas, etc., where the | handshaking of several hundred guests would be great physical exertion.
 It is the privilege of the fair sex to | greet gentlemen of long acquaintance | either with an outstretched hand or | mere bow, but on ordinary occasions | lady must shake hands with every one l who. is introduced 10 her in her own | An Uncomfortable Experience.
 The custom of not introducing guests at teas, receptions, garden parties etc. l is to me most unpleasant and rude one | I shall never forget my first experience
 of this fashion. It was in Italy some fif- | teen years ago. received cards for an 'at l home" from some American friends who | had lived in Rome for a number of years | and were, of course, thoroughly accus- | tomd to the continental usages.
 called on the afternoon stated, and was shown into an enormous salon, where | my hostess, with perhaps twenty women | grouped around her, were seated drink | ing tea. She arose at once. and greeted me cordially, but introduced me to no | one, and was almost instantly diverted l from her attentions to me by the arrival | of several other ladies' l was young and | entirely new to foreign fashions, for in
 this blessed country at that time we were l more kind, and I think distinctly more | courteous, and made people ac-
 quainted," as the country folks say.
 sank into chair, and accepting a cup | of tea offered me by man servant, en- | deavored to conceal my embarrassment | by devoting my entire attention to the | beverage. I must have looked my dis | tress but in few moments very inn | posing lady approached me and, seating | herself beside me, said. "I am the Prin- cess de Rospoli. I think you have not
 been long in Rome" I could have em- braced this great lady's knees in grati-