New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1895-01-27
HOME AND SOClEl I.
THE CHAT OF THE DAY

VISITING SICK FRIENDs-chAi N''''''
u,ow,SrrR rAsHIoNs-How TO COOK
THINGS on A cHAFlNG-pisH.
rs ont in force at this season.
Joos coiioi ,,. friends and saying just the
ronc thing IN the wrons place +.
.Ds,r M,Iv' said one OF tnese CONSCIENTIOUS III
s,,,au,s 81 heard you were ILL., ana nave zee" :!
ing 10 come to see YOU 'o'u I,'''s' s,,,o,, 49,
''e " ,hat entertainment had TO be gwen up
no "'a''' ,ou,d stay with you an hour or so to-
mus az" ., "a cheer you up How pale you look,
cay az" Won taking ton!cs? There is so much III
dear N :, seems as II heard OF nothing but
ne in every direction Did you hear ABOUT
- And that sad affair OF Miss B.
4H's ,h,s morning | heard that Mrs. C--'s chill
anu hsve scarlet fever and that two are very
~r,usIy ill''; and SO ur I'll her listener felt
80 ~ there was no health or cheer in the world
,Tha, was my first visitor this afternoon, said
,or little Mrs S. Historically. relating her expert
snce 10 her husband in the evening. Mary. in the
,,rdness Of her heart. as good as her WORD,
and nut in her hour in kind Samaritan fash
ion as she believed. at the cost of considerable
sacrifice in the way of giving up outside pleasures'
And she RECALLED me with every horror she couid
think of. When she left felt in the lowest depths
NJ DEPRESSION and just going TO comfort nlyseH
uth cup of tea and n novel. when Mrs L sent
nod got in there was nothing else to do so babe
tho maid bring her up. We'll. what are you doins
With vourself% asked. hoping at last TO near some
thing cheerful. Nothing at all my dear she an
euered promptly; my whole time seems to be taken
mn visiting the sick and the afflicted My circle Is
ca large AID have so many dear old friends mat
7 ,,,s, eo TO see those who need me- and let the
rest go And thereupon She too proceeded TO
administer comfort very much in the style of her
predecessor
Children are apt TO betray by their talk the char
acteristics OF their parents. and people have no
idea how much they are given away, by these niue
mouthpieces. who in their childish ignorance speak
openly OF VIVA, their elders would have the SAVIOR
faire TO conceal. administering their pin-pricks
with the utmost frankness and callousness. Many
a demure quiet little monkey who is apparently
busy with her playthngs. absorbs almost uncon-
sciously the gossip INDUCED in by her elders; ana
those elders would be considerably startled II they
knew how literally she is apt to repeat what she
has heard to her companions and friends. These in
their turn carry back the remarks 10 their own home
circIe-not unlike their small prototypes, the spar
rows, who. although such pretty, innocent little
things in themselves are nevertheless regular scaV-
engers Not only is current gossip often dlssemi-
mated In this manner but-what would cause even
more embarrassment 10 their parents did they but
tnov it-chance comments and remarks about their
ne.ghbors and their affairs are often repeated to the
children of the people themselves without the least
softening.
Mamma what is Billingsgate hshwoman
asked the little daughter of a very charitdpie
woman. whose fault is wax very warm in debate
at her various philanthropic meetings. and 10 eX-
press her mind rather too freely sometimes
"Why do you ask Gussie?" said her mother
Why Mollie 8. said her mamma said you talked
like one: but l said you were from Massachusetts
answered the child. innocen;ly.
Surely rich people would not wish their children
hOaS n,
and yet the following is true story OF a newport
happening Of last summer:
lis your father a millionaire" said member
OF a chld's dancing class to new pupil.
II am sure don't know" answered the new
conner, but do not believe IT,
Because" continued the first speaker. III ne Is
not YOU ought not to have Joined the class all OF
our fathers are millionaires' What must be inc
home training OF child TO whom such speech
was possible.
woman of society whose good sense Is proVero
among her friends said the other day: boys as
a rule are very tenacious OF their mothers Dig
nity What girl would take for granted II her
parent happens to little glddy. and rather more
youthful in her actions and attire than her age
would warrant. boy generally distinctly disap-
proves Of and II lessons his respect ana even MS
love for his mother II he sees her lay hersel open
10 comment or criticism. Although this fee.ihs on
hs part may be exaggerated ana MS judgment
BY
be very careful to respect a sentiment "hich reaS
has IFS root in the boys and natural chivalTy
o nreserye the admiration and respect OF her sons
-. woman should be very willing indeed to sacrilce
her own liking for adulation and hattery
There is something very beautiful IN oos
unspo,led love for his mother and his manly stand
ard OF what is BETTING whom he holds. In
way sacred and even If It involves giving up a good
deal OF what might be called pleasure 1t behooves
the Cordelias OF to-day to respect the sentiment ana
to try and live up ideal which. after ALL Is
the sincerest fattery."
Princess May. Duchess OF York still shows some
of the merry traits OF a girl brought up entireiy
with brothers. She learned In her youth the ART
OF whistling and often goes about the house thus
tunefully expressing the musical thoughts haunt
INK her mind The young Princess. we are told
Is fond Of oxford gray walking costumes, renewed
by touches Of mauve velvet.
The fair Duchess Of York is very kind young
woman. Most OF her spare time is taken up with
work for the poor While entertaining morning
callers her white hands generally busy with
fancy work. which when sold 20 adnirins Brtons
at bazaars bring in comfortable sums FOR the SICK
and frendless.
MANY years ago. perhaps two generations back In
the past gra1dmothers made dainty little caps OF
muslin silk or lace and these adorned the heads OF
all infants. both by night and by day After time
baby caps went out OF vogue and no substitute was
ever contr.ved 10 replace them. This seems IKE
quite an unlmportant statement. one which may
merely recall 10 the memory Of some few elderly
people that baby caps were worn long years ago
But let us ask How may people do you notice OF
the age of fifty years Whereabouts, whose ears
nare away or set off from the head? How many
Younger peoples grow close or on line paral-
lei to the head?
Is II not a strange thing to note that In all these
years OF study into the OF improving and
identifying the human face and form. no philoso-
pher has given attention the falling away In grace
Of the human ear? Indeed 1t is only lately that
device was offered to restore the contour OF the
head by forcing the ear back into position-and all
because baby caps went out OF fashon-those little
caps which kept the tiny ears In place until nature
ned them there through growth
Al maturity IL is too late to force what the grow
Ing time has NEGLECTED and TO bring back the true