Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1895-08-15

Newport, r, l., Aug. 8. The next
pest thing to being rich one's self is to
have rich friends. And the next best
shing is to be able to accept from them,
graciously, what is offered in the way
of hospitality The woman who SAYS,
won't accept an invitation to Mrs.
millionaire IS house, because can't re-
surn her hospitality has a decided
etreak of vulgarity in her. Mrs. Mil
llonaire can offer to you, to me, or to
ghe other woman, an invitation to her
beautiful home, and, in return, if this
question of return must be discussed,
We give her the pleasure of our pres
ence,. Dur wit, or our fine appearance,
whichever it may be that we possess.
1t always evens itself out. You have
something that Mrs. Millionaire does
not possess. You can be the spirit of
10y. in the household, and make every
body glad and happy, SO that you are
giving something that dollars cannot
buy. The world at large is inclined to
laugh at the Little Brothers of the
Rich, but you can be very certain that
.the rich do not seek out people TO be
with them unless they find something in
shese friends that they lack. So say,
that woman is mean who doesn't know
how to accept graciously, and enjoy
thoroughly, the hospitality offered by
\ q rich friend
THE BURDEN OF VISITING.
% the average woman is the tipping.
There was time when to give, to the
maid who attended one dollar was
considered quite enough, but now
there is the butler, the maid who is
about one's room, the man who brushes
ones skirt or oils ones shoes, indeed
more than / can tell, who expect their
palms to be covered with silver-not
silver but gold, or its equivalent. To
visit for a week and have to pay five
dollars to the butler, two to one and
one to another, and one to another SER
want is really the bleeding of one. So
many woman declines pleasant in
vitation because she can't afford to pay
to the servants of her host what she
would otherwise give the proprietor of
a hotel My hostess is wise woman.
She pays her servants high wages, and
it is distinctly understood that il one
is known to take a tip, quick dis
charge will follow. One servant in this
way become more or less of spy on
another, and that important parsonage,
the butler, as he can receive nothing
himself, watches his underlings closely.
You say that in English country houses,
tipping obtains generally. So it does.
But there a visitor gives a couple of
. shillings, sometimes only one, and the
recipient is perfectly satisfied But
we Americans, being almost diseased
with what we call generosity, over-tip,
and, in consequence, render servants
worthless and impertinent But bad as
is the system of tips now, it was worse
during the reign Of Queen Anne Only
rich men could afford to go out to din
I ner then. Their servants assembled in
the halls and asked in the most inso-
lent way for their walls. The Duke of
Ormonde never sent an invitation to
poor man that with it he did not en-
close guinea, so that he might come
, TO the dinner and be able to tip the SER
: want without suffering himself. 1t
4 wouldn't be bad idea if people did
that nowadays.
NO CHANGE FROM CITY LIFE.
OF course, Newport is beautiful, but
Newport is not change from New
York. 1t is simply the fashionable set
removed from brownstone houses to
beautiful villas and living just as they
do in the city. Dinner parties, dances,
breakfasts, teas, and an occasional pic
mic for a change fill out the day and
1.-THE night, and life is the same tedious
round, and the men and women think
they are enjoying themselves. A din
.ner party of pleasant people is pleasant
anywhere, and SO il is here. But as the
l&a inner itself is the magnificent feast
which one sees during the season in
&New York, it cannot be cited as new.
Moonlight the scene of color on the table
Y was all green and white, except the
glass, and that was gold and white. Ex-
tquisite leaves and beautiful orchids
framed thefine china and superb silver
and the dinner table was picture Of
civilization, showing the difference
between the man of to-day and he who
ate his food from wooden platter, cut
his meat with the dagger taken from his
belt, and had no knowledge of fork.
The chatter goes on through the hours
at the table, the pretty women are
at their best and brightest, and every
body is trying to tell something that
is new or else SO old that it is worth
rejuvenatiop.
Picking up his glass and holding it
to the light admiring its fine cutting,
a man who is judge of beautiful bits
said: How many of you know that
the Carrot Russia is fine Judge of
glass, especially-of the byzantine glass?
Some made in the royal potteries of
Russia is never reproduced, and |
think if he We're going to make me a
present should ask of him not some
of the old silver, not some of the won
derful jewels, but two or three pieces
of that marvellous glass studded with
gems, and which has never been du-
plicated. Although, when Longfellow
translated the poem of INLAND. he,
nralfp tho I11Qlr of Eda,ahal1 uti1l =
never was really broken, but is to-day
cherished in the Musgrave family l
saw ii when / was there, and it is ByZ-
.antine glass. The crazy Duke Of Whar-
ton once let it fall. but the butler a
very old servant, quickly caught it in
"a napkin, and so it didn't break. The
story goes that member of the family
sat by st. Cuthbert's Well in the gar
den of Edenhall at midnight on st.
Johns eve, and, when the fairies came
up he snatched this glass from one of
them. As they flew back, the tiny elf,
angry at losing her drinking cup, called
out:
If ever this glass do break or fall,
Farewell the luck of Edenhall.'
1t is exquisitely thin, and is kept in
queer old leather case, mounted in
tortoise she'll and gold, and having the
Vcrest and motto of the Musgrave family
upon it. As Americans we ought to be
interested in 1t, for the daughter of one
of our mi distinguished men, David
Dudley leld, is Lady Musgrave. y
Then he took long drink of cham
payne, ana the girl next him was list
ENID to.
QUEER LITERARY CORRESPONDENTS.
She said: 81 know a woman who