The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1895-08-08
WHY WOMEN FALL IN LOVE.
Hatred of a Man OFTEN Precedes Admira-
ton and Affection.

Hatred of q Man Often Precedes Admirs-
ton and Affection.
A little conversation that the writer
once overheard between two ladies it
was that suggested the subject of this
short article.
why" asked one lady of the other,
ibid you marry your present hus
band?"
Because l loved him." came the
natural answer.
And why did you love hin?"
The lady addressed hesitated mo-
ment and then gave the eminently
womanly reply: Because L did love
him."
And in ninety-nine cases ouI of every
hundred the responses to the queries
of this little catechism would probably
be found to De the same; and, there
fore, an additional interest attaches to
those exceptional instances where a
woman is able to confess what personal
trait of character-speech, manner, or
what MOTT was that caused her to
fall in love
IF it is not too impertinent ques-
llOll1 IlllBhG lltIilIS why JOtlS w LlO
have become quite famous locally for
your beauty, married the defendant,
whose i'll looks are notorious?" asked
an examining counsel of comedy wit
ness in certain continental lawsuit.
well, you see, it was like this" was
the candid reply of the fascinating
giver of evidence. Il am by nature
terribly jealous, and when l met my
present husband, and saw he was so
ugly that no one else was likely to run
after him, l fell in love straightway."
Probably this example of affection
inspired by lack of beauty may be re-
garded as unique, for in many cases
the mere observation of the effect upon
other women of mans good looks
and charm of manner has been instru-
mental in winning him one woman's
love; albeit the fact of her regard for
him being so inspired affords a very
poor guarantee for the tenacity of such
affection.
In a court devoted to the unhappy
task Of dissolving ill-assorted matri-
monial unions, the following evidence
by the lady petitioner, affording case
in point, was given:
MY husband went out great deal
into society, and it was the very fact
of noticing what favorite he was
that caused me to love him. 1t seemed
a very proud thing to me then, seeing
his popularity, to be able to say he be-
longed to me-"
Humiliating as are such confessions,
wrung from unwilling victims on the
rack of cross-examination, disclosures
involving the confiding and yet dearer
personal secrets are sometimes more
cheerfully made.
NO; Tom amt no beauty. His glass
eyes spoils him." declared lady NOV
ing in the lower ranks of life once to
the writer. But then, if he hadn't
had that we should never have been
married.
You see, some years ago l met with
an accident; and, though perhaps you'd
never have guessed it if l hadn't told
you, I've got a cork leg. Well, when l
got my little bit of compensation, there
was plenty Of young fellows as heard
about the money and not the operation
as would have married me there and
then, but it always used to trouble me,
thinking how they'd laugh at ME
when | told them all. And then |
met Tom, and, feeling sure as man
that had got a glass eye couldn't
sheer much at a woman with cork leg,
l felt drawn toward him, and in the
end we were spliced."
And to the writer's knowledge the
union thus oddly brought about was in
every way satisfactory.
Strange as it may appear, it is never
theleSs an ascertalned fact that when
man at first acquaintance inspires a
woman with dislike, and even hatred,
it is very frequently a preamble to her
loving him; startling assertion, the
accuracy of which is instanced by the
well-known case of our foremost queen
of song, whose aversion to the gentle
man to whom she is now married was
at one time SO strong that she insisted
upon condition being put into her
contracts STIMULATING that this singer
should never be engaged in the same
company as herself.
Another interesting axiom, the
truth of which will early make itself
apparent to the student of human ma
ture who turns his attention to the
present subject, is that in very few
cases do a mans mere good looks
prompt that sincere affection that ends
in happy marriage; and while it can
not be denied that unions contracted
on a purely mercantile basis are by no
means infrequcnt, it is corsolatory to
observe that, though facial beauty will
ever win admiration, it is the sterling
heart alone that prompts the truest
love.
With one more personally collected
anecd.1te, culled from the unromantic
regions of the east end, we will con-
clude.
Prosecuting inquiries into the man
ner of living of Il troupe of humble
public entertainers, whose swings ana
roundabouts and shooting galleries
were pitched on vacant waste of
ground, the writer encountered q
young woman who had married
great, uncouth lout of fellow pre-
viously known to him and, wondering
what strange cause had brought about
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