The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1895-10-14


his dinner2 IT is probably true that
many wives otherwise admirable are
TOO PARTICULAR ABOUT MATTERS OF
SLIGHT ACCOUNT.
"Although Lyman Beecher, tits said,
came to dinner In brown study and a
dressing gown, that was better than to
come in full dress with brain ss blank
as his linen. Wives OF such men ought
TO be thankfal that they did not marry
tsilors' models with wooden heads. l
cannot think Moses needed dress suit
often. IL your husband can do anything
well pray encourage him, ever though
the muffins grow cold. There 10 many
wife VINO would be glad TO have her hus-
band keep dinner waiting every day, III ne
could only have an ecstasy that would last
long enough TO compose great pies,
poem or preacbment.
"Althongh the woman was made 10
crown and complete Eden, 1t will not be
wise for her to tell this often TO her nus
band. Unless he believes IL without
your assurance he will not with 1t. The
woman's art will consist In letting him
discover il. That will 90 him good. The
less woman tells her husband OF her
merits the more he will see them. You
do not need TO hand him a table OF con-
tents OF yourself Inventories are seldom
pleasant reading. He will be more taken
by pleasant page OF the book when
he finds open. Show the best side OF
yourself continually to your husband,
and in process OF time there VIII De no
bad eide 10 show, but rounded charao.
ter. all best. Think the best things OF
your husband and let him know tnst you
think them. Then he will be ashamed
not TO possess them, and he VIII I'M
prove Tor the sake Of your trust and de-
lighted endorsement.
lone OF the promises q woman makes
sonnet lines in marriage is to cherish her
husband. That is
NOT MERELY TO FEED HIM WELL.
| There Ia a side OF his nature that needs
| cher hing-tending, sunlight, stimulus,
else IL will be lost. All husbands have
| q good side, and every little trait that Is
| really vital can be made something grand
| in time Many wives haze helped their
| husbands discover their powers. wne
brings out husbands good or bad quail
tiles. There Is q sleeping devil and an
| incipient angel In the man. Don't
| fight the devil. That WILL wake him up
| Cherish the angel; feed him on iEspira-
tions, bring him out, and he VIII grow.
| Restraint is good for criminals; the con-
straint OF love 10 better Tor decent man.
"a woman who marries reasonably
young husband may probably make al
most anything she chooses OF him. she
ought, however in justice TO herself, to
learn before engagement whether the
human clay she proposes to work upon
IN
why she should handicap hersei: In the
start by beginning with poor raw ma.
terisl. Angelo could make wonderful
statue from a cramped stone, and his
success was a great achievement. But II
is a foolish thing to try it again. Too
many failures result Given fair mate
rails the woman should possess even
tualIy q treasure in her husband mot
merely treasurer. And IL must be al
owed that no time In better spent than
that given to a judicious drawing out OF
the literary taste, the artistic talent, the
tenderness, benevolence and faith OF
husband. A certain noble and cultivated
woman used to Say that she
HAD TRAINED THREE HUSBANDS!
"Tbis number is probably beyond your
ambition, but one man enriched and ele
waited by your efforts Is no small gilt to
the world, for you can do nothing NOR
gracious. Mothers who neglect thei
, children's spiritual educ i n are deser y
edly blamed. II a wife finds herself witt
a husband who is child spiritually ii
, his feeble perceptions OF Righteousness
and his weakness before temptations, sh
owes IL TO him, to herself and the futur
to suggest, by her character, other-worio
, Illness. To many husbands the wife Is
telescope to view the heavens
''I suspect that every wife likes TO be
, l!eye that her husband is great man
and IL there is any doubt about II sh
| gives him the benefit OF the doubt. IL
, awful TO think how many mortine
wives there must be- Let not her hop
q die. She sees certain imaginary outline
of manhood that do not follow her nus
bands real character, but round out int
, beauty and nobility. They remind U
OF those dotted lines on the, map
OF polar regions or unexplore
> continents, showing where IN
boundaries and streams should be. He
| al k,a "A ana IN
, times sadly, to fill in with real bounds
!, ries these suppcsititious lines, until at lai
she has written on her brain complel
I, map of him. Well for her II she finds hil
a expanding to be what In her girls
d dream she supposed he was; ana happ
!, that man whose wife will persistent
. look for the boundary where 1t ought
= be until he grows to II. 1t will be wort
y his while to gladden. a fearful eye an
= make her heart say, AT the last a.
not disappointed. For love that endul
= eth to the end shall save and be saved.
. "W Whatever a woman may possess TO wi
q n husband to herself, that she must Vi
!. TO win him to what is better than he
- sell even the Christ. 'Adorn the do
- trine OF God our Saviour in all things
q ApoRN IT WITH BEAUTY, CoURTEs'
n TALENT.
IL Whatever Is grand In a woman is
- because she uses il as chaunel OF righ
"a eousness. "A woman beauty Is, OF ma
i be. dedicated to the Lord in matrimor
as completely as under the nuns vel
le Possibly that beauty is sacrificed; pc
z; baps it is appreciated and honored as
Di favor from the Lord. At any rate Il
q wife must SO regard 1t and live pure {
"a the bride OF Christ. Profanity cann
touch any soul unless it exists in q
" soul.
"This is what the age needs to teach
Is contrast with the age of chivalry. l.
the intent OF woman be righteous and ]
impurity, no brutality can render h
IN impure. This is the last best view
r, truth that has come into the world. II
n fiesh profiteth nothing. Out OF the hes
is proceeds evil and thence also arises Z
TO life OF the spirit.
I'd "Beauty is grand possession, not SO
OF dependence, as flowers are delight, ey
IN a support TO the higher department
es life, but not enough. A woman shou
be provide herself with as many sources
at power as possible. Beauty IN action is
g. freouent and successful substitute