Birmingham age-herald., 1895-09-29


 twenty years. Formerly gentlemen called upon ladies only in the evening. More recently fashionable men in faurtless afternoon attire paid visits from to 6. Within the past few years, however, men of leisure have been permitted many privileges, and it is quite common to see half a dozen young gentlemen paying social debts at hours to suit their inclina- tions from II in the morning until in t.e evening. It is well to scrupulously avoid luncheon and dinner hours unless you have been asked to drop in inform l. ally for luncheon, in which case you may, of course, avail yourself of the of- fered courtesy. Calling in the morning should not generally be inuul8ed in. A visit to ones intimate friends before noon is in good taste, but the latter par of the day Is the more ceremOnious time. Especially in the small country towns and where one knows the woman to be called upon Is not well enough on b relegate all her household duties to ser wants, it is manifestly inconsiderate t1 endeavor to see her until the afternoon.
 Neither well-bred men nor women ever attempt to ''sit each other out" It Is expected you will arise and make your adieux within three or four minutes after the arrival of the next guest -.
 No gentleman ever calls upon lady until he has been invited to do so. A ma arried lady only is at liberty to give such an invitation. If young gentlemen wish to know and visit young gentlewo- men they will find the only way to achieve such praiseworthy object IS the proper one through the mamma or other chaperon. When d lady shows a gen. tleman such a very distinguished mark of consideration, let him not forget to evince his appreciation by promptly re- spending. The day following the invita- ton is not too soon. s, n
 The Day at Home. .f
 Ladies who announce themselves at home on certain days must be dressed and ready to receive callers with scrupu- lous punctuaity. Nothing is more un- civil than to keep visitor waiting under such circumstances. Indeed on other days it is far more courteous to instruct the servant you are not receiving than to keep caller waiting. A caller who has once been received has a right to ex- pect a courteous welcome thereafter. Oc- casionally it becomes, for some strong reason, necessary to deny oneself and to terminate an acquaintance. The proper and only way to do this Is to instruct the servant carefully that Mrs Brown is not receiving when this person calls. This Is the equivalent for the old mot at home" and has the very great advantage of be- ing at once correct form and truthful.
 The hall table is the proper place to leave one'S visiting card, and the ser want in a well-ordered household leaves them there during the day and car ries them to his mistress just before din- ner when the hours for calling are over until the morrow.
 From ten to fifteen minutes is the con- ceded length for a ceremoniouS call. When one finds the lady of the house alone it is proper enough to remain a bit longer, but it is always obligatory to rise and take leave almost immediately Lo f,-o, nf hat~ iCif
 Young lady guests do not of course ask young men to call upon them at their married friends home. The hostess must do so Gentlemen leave their umbrellas in the hall, but carry their walking sticks and hats into the drawing room with them, a fashion which seems to result in the extremest confusion and innumerable casualties to some and to be a saving grace in the occupation it affords others.
 In all large cities gentlemen wear even ing dress after o'clock, and for after- noon calls the regulation dark frock coat and light trousers. It Is not neces- sary for a lady to extend her hand to callers who are very recent acquaint- ances. She must rise, however and cour- tesy Where guests have been specially invited for any social function the out stretched hand is obligatory. When a friend Is visiting your own city at the
  you must call on both, leaving a sepa- rate card for the hostess. If the latter Is a woman older and of greater social influence than yourself you must care! fully avoid appearance of an attempt to force your acquaintance upon her. You will in such cases find an opportn7 nifty for very nice discrimination and tact. Tn leaving cards at hotels Or where there are other guests it Is polite and considered good form to write tFfe persons name for whom the card Is ifil tended upon it. thus: tt
 For Mrs. James Simpson Brown. |
 Answers to Correspondents. I,
 Irene-The moonstone and agate ard both regarded as June natal stones.
 ElinOr-I do not think the Glimmal al- liance ring Is made in this country | could not find one. Annie K.-All blue stones mean loyalty steadfastness, etc, hence the old saw True blue"
 Maggie-Peroxide of hydrogen is really the blondine, golden hair wash or aurora you refer to. Be certain of two thingsl if you are determined to have golden hair First that no matter under what, name, the fluid will be peroxide of hyJ drogen, and secondly, that the woman who artificially colors her locks will live to regret her folly.
 Jefferson-The brush is called the cam els hair scrubbing brush. Use 1t every night and as often as you require it dur ing the day If 1t does not irritate the skin 1t certainly is healthful. and even where 1t produces a slight superficial red- ness, it's use should be continued until the cuticle is hardened. Use pure soap for the face and rinse thoroughly.
 Ginger-Because the rubber absorbs the secretions from the skin. A bristle brush is much cleaner
 Jennie J., Clio. Madge-Face bleaches. in my opinion, are the most destructive external complexion compounds ever placed within woman's reach. Use anything else.