The National tribune. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1877-1917, 1895-10-10

one day at friends, and on returning home
told her mamma how fine it was. Her mother
wishing to know what it was that was so fine
which she had had, was Informed, "Oh, we
had bread and molasses, and molasses ana
bread"-ditto and ditto. That would be our
fix, guess, with plenty of molasses.
Now i want to live, and | want something
more substantial 10 live on than love- In these
days young man who wishes to marry is only
expected to be the possessor OF private mint,
aud sometimes of a title. 1t calls to mind the
/ lines which run
When l was single
Oh how my pockets did lngiel
| i wish was single again.
There is n serious side to this question, just
! the same as there is to the new woman question
/ As to the singleness of man. 1t is question
which will, year or so hence, be absorbing the
public mind and thought, just as the woman
! question is now.
The general occupation OF woman in the
various professions and businesses of life has
to the extent that woman has entered into these
fields either crowded man o1t, materially
reduced his earnings. To-day, owing TO the
general entry of woman into the business
! walks Of life, many men are out OF employ
ment. Years ago. when woman was womanly
/ and took care of the home educated and trained
the children, men were more generally en-
| ployed.
Now, while / have no objection to woman
! in professional or business life, this much can
! be expected that whatever tends to reduce the
employment of men, reduces the chances OF
/ their taking unto themselves wives. Man
cannot Justly marry who cannot support wife.
/ This is one reason why many men are single.
! Man formerly earned enough 10 support himself
and family; to reverse the order, woman does
not earn enough TO support the man, or 1t might
work just well for man TO get married, stay
at home, and let wiley earn the living. For
myself.
hold il true whate'er befall,
j feel IL when count The cost
IT'S better TO have loved and lost,
Than to get married and be bossed.
There are great many nice girls to love
and court, who would not make excellent
wives That counts for something. 1t is nice
to be a charming. attractive and popular girl,
but it is sad to note that many young men in
these days will not marry, because there are so
many young women who expect to do absO-
lutely nothing when married but amuse them
selves and mediate on their own shining sue
cesses
These are not the girls whom young men in
these days are looking for. As heard it ouceex
pressed by one person, They are ia the world,
but not of il" but more accurately expressed
by another, They are Of the world, but not
in it,"
This is another reason for my single happi-
ness
Recently heard of brilliant young wife
who evidently looked on life as a guess
dream. One day said she to her husband. who
was a young doctor John, why don't you 20
into politlcs?" do you think that would
be advisable for young NJ. ID. ?" said the doc
tor. Well, / thought" replied WHEY, that
you might get to be one OF those warG-heelers,
who have such soft snap and seem so ir;-
portant." have seen wives who did know as
much az this one.
desire it to be perfectly understood that
do not refer TO any young woman in particular
in this paper, so that il ] am lectured after
the conclusion of this paper, ] shall take it
for granted that the shoe pinches somewhere,
and we might guess where.
ia these days when the young women in
our cities mannish. 1T would seem that
they scorned the idea of marriage. They do
not care 10 marry rapidly as did they
few years past; nor is the young man as anxious
to marry one of these up-to-date girls possessed
Of the idea that
She and she alone must rule,
And takes her husband for a fool.
have seen many distinguished women with
the prefix Miss I" 70 their name. IL always
seemed TO me NJ take. only would
take the :" Miss" You can rely on it that no
man would have any of them or they would
ali have been married.
We speaking of the why's for our single
ness. therefore what have TO say does not ap-
ply to the question of whether woman shall
enter into the various fields Of activity in life
or not. am sure that, as rule, however men
do not care 10 marry women whose whole time
is absorbed in work that causes them TO neglect
their household affairs.
Perhaps by a struggle with time / could find
wife who would properly care for her home
duties, and yet interest herself in other affairs
OF life. There are such women, bat they are
iecles in July at the equator IL
grieves me TO mediate upon this state Of affairs
for ! may some day feel inclined to select q
partner to share nay trials and troubles. am
not in that notion just yet, however, aud the
prospects do not brighten as the up-to-date girl
advances upon her retrograding suicidal am
bitions.
Another thing that appals me is the divorce
docket, which is by far the largest branch of
business that consumes the time Of our courts
and for which we poor men pay them fat
salary. There you again, we pay the
preacher to splice and the Judge to uusplice
1t pays at both ends. and man pays the toll
Now, want 10 urge, in conclusion, the girls
TO be as womaniy as possible. to devote them
selves to womanly work. to be unlike man
AZ possible (he's bad enough), and 10 try to re-
infuse confidence in man that there is such
person as woman living, who breathes and
loves and cherishes the happiness of being q
helpmate to man. instead Of trying to convince
him size is = man herself
II man cannot marry a woman, he does not
want any of these new-fangled up-to-date man
nish acquisitions Of the latter 18th century dayg,
and we will stay single until we each have .
woman las is a woman"
These are q few reasons why i am single
CONvERsATIoN CLUB.
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