The daily morning Astorian. [volume] (Astoria, Oregon) 1883-1899, 1895-10-11
SMILES AND TEARS.
Channels Through Which They F:ow-
Mother GTundy.

Mother GRUMPY.
A good sized audience assembled in the
M. E. church last night to hear what
Prof. N. N. RiddeI, Pm. ID. had to say in
regard 10 Smiles AMI Tehrs." The iec-
ture was fun OF April weather, sunshine
and rain, and HAs audience was kept in
mingled mlrth and sadness.
"TNhIe affections" sI1ld the speaker, "are
the channels through which MANS joys
and sorrows come" The various facul-
ties that comprise the social feelings were
each taken up in order and defined, and
their uses and abuses aptly shown. Con-
jugaMy is the mating instinct and the
foundation of marriage. Where 1t Is very
strong 1t incifnes persons TO seek COM
panion very early in life. People today
are not near as thoughtful as a class
as THEY should be in the selection of
the life companion. Many get married
with the Thought that If 1t does not result
in perfef1t happiness they viii get bill.
Contug'aluty Is the foundation of jealousy,
and when 1t Is strong in persons when
they get in love, they will feel very hurt
over the thought that the loved one has
ever been associated with another. Par
entail love rs another element of the
social feelings and is said to be the high
est feeling In woman's nature. 1t gives
the Cove of children, but it Is often de-
graded, as 1t is when 1t Is bestowed upon
the pet poodle dog, that in many cases
receives more attention than a chEd.
Parental love gives the basis of the train
ing and governing of children. Many
mistakes are made by good parents in
THE governing of the little ones. A COM
mon one is In obtaining obedience by
appealing to the child's appetite. Another
Is in not answering the chfid's Questions
or giving q false reply, such as the moon
is made of green cheese, etc. Again many
parents think that In order to govern the
child they must crush its wild. This
should never be done, for when 1t is,
the child has no power Of self decision
and becomes THE easy tool of the selfish
WELLS of ala 1T meets in the world. Never
crush the Will, simply direct and guide
Vt. Again keep near to the child's heart,
and sympathies Admit your own mis-
takes. We need to be very careful OF
our actfons, as children are az good
mimlcs and are patternin9 after us all
the time. A greilt many parents make
a grave error by deceivlng the child.
They frlgihten 1t into obedience by telling
1t bugAboos wiz catch 1t.
Love of hlome was another one OF the
social feelings dweOt on. This feeling Is
very STRONG lin al people who live in
mountainous countries. 1t is the basis
of patriotism and gives the love OF coun-
try and of home. A nation of happy
and conltented homes Is a safe nation.
There is SCARCE a great man in all HIS
tory that has not come from happy
home. The last of the feelings consid-
cred was friendship, the fraternal feel
ing THAT binds people together outside or
the hlome We need more of genuine
friendship In the world. how little we
find of 1t in business, Friendship in its
perverted state gives us the whlsperer
and Mother Grundy the gossip, 1t also
leads to fashionable calling. People used
to go visiting, but now in perverted
society we nuke 400 calls a day The
speaker In closing gave some very ex-
ceJlenlt hIhoughts on the evil of gossiping
Tonight the professor gives his great
est and most Instructive lecture on Her
edfty or Why We Are What We Are"