Middletown transcript., 1895-11-16
The Bo y At School.


The Boy At School.
Maude Murray, in writing recently
of the relation of mother to son, con.
cludes by a good bit of advice. The
youth must remember that the world
will accept him at his own estimate only
If he lives up to it, she says. He may
take any place in the world which he
feels he has the ability to fiji, and no
one will dispute Lis right if he fills il
acceptably. He is not valuable unless
he makes himself so. 1t is useless to
worry about what others think of him.
His estimate of himself will set the
standard for others. When a new boy
enters school the other boys seem to
know instinctly what gauge to put
upon his ability and courage. Natur-
ally he must carry in his face and man.
ner his true worth, to be so quickly
judged. A new boy may pretend for a
day, perhaps, but his pretensions do
not long deceive any one. If the boy
is hero, be need not tell it; the fact
shows in the glance of his eye the car
riage of his head, the glow of his face.
The mother has doubtless impressed
upon her sons mind long before this
the Importance of being strictly honest,
but now, as he enters the business
world, she must again warn him of the
misery which lack Of perfect honesty
entails. A man may lie very dishonest
and yet keep out of the laws reach, !,
for many things may be legal which are
not strictly honest. 1t appears to be
the policy of some men togo as far as
possible within the limit of the law,
and il is certainly little discouraging
to an honest man to see that his dis
honest neighbor is 50 successful-using
the world in the worldly sense as relat-
ing to money u liking.
A business man canst,t aft 'rd to be
hasty in temper; every feeling, every
thought aud actlrI has its betriny Oh
the temper, and it is constantly being
made bet ter or urse. 1t is fortunate
If one can always overcome the ten
dency to give away to such feeling. 1t
has been wisely said: "Never give away
to what is little, or by that little, how
ever you may despise it, you will lie
governed"
The youth must learn to rely upon
himself. 1t will weaken him if he sits
idly and expects to gain an end through
The influence of some friend or .relat-
i've. If he can have such assistance,
al well and good, but let him not wait
Tor it, Self-help is the foundation for
Ill expectations. Those having most
in charitable work know
hat the true way to help the needy is
% give them work. Almsgiving al
most invariably leads to idleness.
The value of time must be apprecia-
ed by youth who hopes to make
business man. On the dial
If All Souls Church, Oxford, is in
cribed these solemn words: THE
lOurs perish and are laid to our charge
Lost time can not be recalled nd every
moment of it should be spent to advan-
age in some way. Ii a boy wastes his
wn time, he has no right to break in
lpon that of another. Only great
workers. realize how much can be ac-
in "odd moments
Let not the youth become alarmed
Vhen we say the successful business
nan must he industries, patient, hon
st, truthful, temperate, prompt, self
persevering, conscientious,
olite, neat in his dress, God-fearin &
nd law-abidiI &. With such traits,
here can be no failure. Yes m-n
ave succeeded in acquiring wealth
7ho did not possess all these traits,
ut other and greater things were
enied them.
As a last word, let the boy be SELF
aliant. "Insist on yourself, never imi-
ate," says Ruskin' "Your own gift
ou can present every moment with
be cumulative force of whole life's
but of the adopted talent
another you have only an extern
oraneous, half possession. That
thich each can do best. none but his
Iaker can teach him. No man yet
nows what it is, nor can, till that
erson has exhibited it. Do that which
assinged thee. and thou canst not
opa too mnch or dare TO much.' II
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