The Bottineau pioneer. (Bottineau, N.D.) 1885-1895, 1895-03-16
A Girls MarriaHeable Are

The age Of marriage should be de-
termined by the understanding of both
principals as to the nature of their
bond. It must always seem to an
older person who has had experience
In observation Of careers "made or
marred" by marriage that the mistake
Is apt to be in impetuous Judgment,
rather than immaturity or the reverse.
One has seen quite as many failures
resulting from the mating of gray hair
with middle age as from the nuptials
of eighteen with Internationally. As
a general thing, indeed, young hearts
seem to grow more together, to ac-
cept the inevitables Of life more frank
ly, to be more lenient with offending
for loves sake than do their elders.
Old lovers who have spent their lives
together in their journey through life
have a rund of tenderness in recollec-
ton Of their common youth that Is
fountain sealed at which they alone
can refresh themselves. Then in youth
hard knocks are borne SO easily togeth-
err; laughter is so apt to come after
tears; hopes shared are sustaining even
In disappointment: These thoughts
make an early marriage sacred from
the common gibes about rushing blind
fold into a pit" tying a milestone
around ones neck" marrying in haste
to repent at LEISURE" etc.
But materialism is the governing
~.--au "a ., 900 orI c0cYofrF \Eh0ro
certain indispensables are now lack
ing to a home discomfort and heart
burning are 80 often seen lurking
ear.
If a young couple be sure enough OF
their wn ability to shape their lives
according to their actual means in
venturing into matrimony they are
blessed indeed. This is SO rarely the
case that a young man now holds back
to let thirty find him in possession OF
sufficient income to pay his house
hold bills before he dares assume the
intimidating privilege of a wife.
There can be no reason against a
girl marrying young if circumstances
insure to her q reasonable protection
against the disheartening apparition
of poverty %sfivering behinl the lamps
and silver bonbon dishes of her we'd
ding presents.
In our large cities one is called upon
to attend wedding after wedding,
where even in the brief glamour of
excitement surrounding the pageant
that glides up the aisle and back, there
seems to be an almost awful suggeS-
ton of the future of the pair. The an
tecedents of the man met in a ball
room a few months before, unknown
to the girl or disregarded by her par
ents; the evident consciousness OF the
bride as to theatrical effect; the un-
thinking delight Of the bridesmaids in
themselves; the, callous ind ference OF
the congregation to the vital issues
Of the scene make one sick at heart.
No wonder the divorce follows so soon
in the annals of so-called fashionable
life.
There was never a time when the
bond of matrimony was entered into
more lightly, unadvisedly than now.
There has never been a time when
| the marriage tie is treated more scot
fling in speech. And It is in the hands
| of the parents of u land to see, by
precept and example. that this wrong
is righted.
When a yodng man, therefore, Is
| able and fit to take a wife, when a
| girl is ready to understandingly as
sumo the duty toward her husband,
that should. it seems to me, be the
| right time to marry, and not before-
| Mrs. Burton Harrison in Ladies' Home
| Journal.