The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1895-04-12
CAN MAN COMPEL LOvE7
Many Men, for Good and Sufficient Raa'
sons, Think Not.

Many Men, for Good and Sufficient Elaas
sons. Think Not.
What question: OF course he can,
if circumstances give him even a loop
hole, and he knows how to set about
it. The fatal part is that none of them
do. The man who is in love loses his
head completely, ard can't bring any
Judgment 70 bear upon the matter.
That destroys his chances. The man
who isn't in love can't do it, for he can't
possibly furnish the charm, which is
the one thing needful. 1t must be
real, not assumed for the occasion, aud
he can't make it real to order.
This being so, it is no wonder men
don't succeed in getting the woman
they want. They are diffident and
nervous, they blunder so that no
woman in her senses would want them;
they go so foolishly 70 work that the
woman who is looking on and watch
ing the game feels inclined to shake
them if she is wanting them to win.
1t would be wonder that any woman
ever fell in love with a man at all were
they not atfectionate creatures, and
always anxious to have some unworthy
object to adore. If men once knew
their own power to win a woman's
love the history of the world might be
changed, but they don't, and probably
never will, except in few isolated in
stances.
Of course, circumstances must be, to
a certain degree, in their favor. They
must have a chance of meeting the
woman, or writing to her, of keeping
in touch with her, and acting on her
mind. In fact, the more man keeps
himself in evidence before the woman
he wants to win, the better, granting
only intervals of retirement from her
miss him and realize how much his
society is to her. But it is just at this
point he is apt to blunder. 1t is won
derful what tactless and impatient
creatures men are when in love!
Persistence can win any woman.
Yes; it is said advisedly. Any woman's
love can be secured at last if only
man sticks to his point long enough.
The worst is, they are too impatient to
stick. They get discouraged, or their
tickle inclination wears out. Some
times they have to serve longer than
Jacob did for Rachel, and you won't
find many nineteenth century men
who are willing to do that. They
think three months long time to WOO
girl, and if she says No" the first
time they ask her, they go off in
o,,l cD,,,a Quo D1e,
But every woman will love a man in
the end for his persistence. At first
she thinks she don't care about him,
and she probably does not; she feels
suspicion that there are much nicer
men than himself in the world, and
ones whom she would much rather
have for husbands, if she could find
them. She is not going to take the
crooked stick without going through
the wood and making a choice. That
is when he first asks her to marry him.
But as time goes on, she doesn't find
straight sticks in such multitudes as
she anticipated She chooses a likely
one, perhaps, and then it breaks in her
hand, and does her an injury, and she
throws it away. All the time the old
crooked stick stands waiting to be
taken, and she compares its conduct
with sticks of a finer growth. BY and
by they thin off. She finds she hasn't
q chance of any of them.
What will make a woman's love turn
in gratitude like the feeling that the
old lover has been constant through
all? If he has the sense to wait till
that happens, and to step i'll then, the
field is his.
A strong wooer can always win
woman's love. He must not be i'm
Fortunate or worrying; he must not
abuse his strength, and try to COM
mand, not WOO. But if he will be a
man, and show her he means to have
her, even though he asks-not demands
she will be ready to give him all he
wants. She mayn't let him see it at
first. She races from his hand like
frolicsome horse in a field, and filings
away to show him her independence,
and that she doesn't mean to be caught.
But she will come back to him--she
always means to come back; and if he
knows the precise point to slip the
bride on, she is his forever. But then
it is just one of those things that a
man doesn't know, and so he doesn't
understand how he can win the wom-
an he is wanting.-Frank Harrison's
Magazine.