Democratic messenger. [volume] (Snow Hill, Md.) 1869-1973, 1895-11-23

behavior Is right. II anything be doubt /
full, reject It, y huydcnish. hnistcrous,
masculine woman the dctcstaiion Of all, (
and every revolution of the wheel she rides
Is toward depreciation and downfall.
Take care Of Your health, o woman; Of
your nerves In not reading the trash which
makes M % out Of 100 novels, or by eat
ing too many corruco?ias Of confcction
cry. Take care ~ Your eyes by not read
ing n hours WHOM you ought TO he sleep
ing TAX rarr uf Your ears by stopping
them against h tides Of gossip that surge
through every rcighhurhood.
Ilealth Only those know Its value who
hay" lost H. The earth is girllcd with
pain and VAST proportion of it Is the
price paid for early rccklcssncsS. close
this. though, with the salutatinn In Mac
beth;
Now good digestion wait on appetite
Arl hc.ll;h on both.
s Word For Mothers.
Advicethct'lird: Appreciate your moth
err while You Lave her. II Is the almost
universal ties; .inony Of young women who
/ have ! -; m";nr. that they did not realize
| what she wns to them until after her exit
| from this lie. Indeed mother Is in the
! nYl recitation Of many young lady hin
! Grancc. Tise maternal inspection Is often
! considered an obstacle. Mother has so
many notions about that which Is proper
and that which Is impr Yer. II is astound-
! ing how much more my girls know mt
/ Is than their mothers AT -. With what
an elaborate argument, perhaps spiccd
with some temper, the youngling tries to
reverse the opinion Of the oldling. Tho
sprinkle II gray on the maternal forehead
Is rather an Indication To the recent grad
uaic of the female seminary that the cir
| cumsianccs of today or tonight are not full
! ly appreciated. What u wise boarding
school that would be II the mothers were
the pupils and the daughters the teachers!
! How well the teens could chapcron the
lfiics, Then mothers do not amount to
much anyhow. They are In the way and
are always asking questions about postage
marks of letters and asking, who is that
Mary d." and Where did you form that
acquaintance. Floral and Where did you
get that ring, Myras" For mothers have
such unprecedented means OF knowing cv-
erything. They say lit was bird In the
air" that told them. Alas, for that bird
In the air VIII not some one lift his gun
and shoot 1t? 1t would take whole libra
rics to hold the wisdom which the daugh-
Ter knows more than her mother. why
cannot l have this!" 'Why cannot do
| that"
And the question IN many group has
been. although not plainly stated: What
shall we do with the mothers, anyhow?
They are 80 far behind the times" Per-
init me to suggest that II the mother had
given more time To looking after herself
and less time To looking after you she
would have been rs fully up to date rs you
In music, In style Of gait, In aesthetic
taste and In all sorts of information. l
expect that while you were studying bot
any and chemistry and embroidery and
the new opera she was studying household
economies But one day, from ovcrwork,
or sitting up Of nights with n neighbours
sick child, or blast OF the east wind, on
which pneumonias are horscd, mother Is
sick Yet the family think she will soon
be well, for she has been sick so often and
always has got well, and the physician
comes three times day. and there is a
consultation OF the doctors, ana tho news
IS gradually broken that recovery Is impos
siblc, given In tho words, while there Is
life there is hope And the white pillow
over which are strcwn the locks little
tinted with snow becomes the point around
which all the family gather, some stand
ing some knceling. and the pulse beats
the last tbroh, and the bosom trcmblcs
with the last breath, and the question is
asked in whisper by all the group, as
she gomez And all is over.
Maternal Supervision.
Now come the regrets. Now the daugh-
ter reviews her former criticism of mater
nal supervision. For the first time she
realizes what IL Is TO have IA mother and
what it Is - lose II mother. Tell me- men
and women. young and old did any of us
appreciate how much mother was to us
until she was gone: Young woman you
will probably never have u more disinter-
ested friend than your mother. When she
says anything Is unsafe or imprudcnt, you
had better believe it is unsafe or impru-
dent When she dcc;lrcs IL Is something
you ought 10 90, | think you had better do
it, She has seen more Of the world than
you haze. DO yuu think she could have
any mcrccnary or contemplate motive in
what she advises you: She would give her
life for You II il We're called for DO you
know of any one else who wodld do moro
Than that for you: DO you know OF any
,nc who would do - much: Again and
egain she hns already endangered that life
during six weeks of diphtheria or scarlet
fever and sl.c never once brought up the
question OF whether she had better stay,
breathing day and night the contagion.
The graveyards are full Of mothers who
died taking care Of their children. Better
appreciate your mother before your apprc-
citation OF hcr will be no kindness to her,
and the post mortem regrets will be moro
and more Of an agony as tho years pass on.
Big headstones OF polished Aberdeen and
the best epitaphs which the family put to-
gcthcr could compose and garland OF
whitest roses from the conservatory are
often the attempt to atone for the thanks
we ought 10 have uttered In living ears
and the kind words that would have done
more good than all the Gala lilies ever pill
ell up on the silent mounds Of the cenc-
teries Tho world makes applauditory ado
over the work Of mothers who have raised
boys to be great mon, and could turn TO
my bookshclves and find the names Of so
distinguished men who had great mothers
-Cuvier's mother. Walter Scott's mother,
St. Demands mother, Benjamin Vests
mother But who praises mothers for
what they do for daughters who make tho
homes OF America: do not know Of an
instance Of such recognition. declare 10
you that l believe am uttcring the first
word that has ever been uttered in apprc-
citation of the self denial, of the fatigucs
and good sense and prayers which those
mothers go through who navigate fami-
~ Of girls from the edge Of the cradle TO
the schnolhouse door and from the school
house door mp to the marriage altar. Tint
Il an achievement which the eternal God
celebrates high up In the heavens, though
for Ii human hands SO seldom clap the
faintest applause. My. My! What time
that mother had with those youngsters,
and If she had relaxed care and work and
advice and solicitation OF heavenly help
that next generation would have landed 10
the poorhouae idiot asylum or pcnitcn-
tiury II is while she l. living hut never
while she Is dead, that some girls call their
mother maternal ancestor or "tbc old
woman"
Grief and Comfort
And II you have a grief alrady-nnd
some OF the kccncst sorruws of woman's
life come carly-roll II over on Christ, and
you will find him moro sympathetic than
was Queen Victoria, who. when her chill
drcn. the princes and princcsscs. came out
II the schoolroom after the morning lesson
had been given up by their govcrncss and
told how her voice had trcmblcd In tho
morning prayer because il was the anni-
vcrsary Of her mother death, and that she
had put her head down on tho desk and
sobbcd, Mother! Mothcr!' tho queen
went In and said 10 the govcrncss: My
poor child! ! am sorry the children dis
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