Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1895-04-10
on THE SEA OF MARRIAGE.
The Daily Dangers to Successful Navi-
cation.

CATION.
1t is seldom that a great tragedy
spoils martial happiness. If we were
to investigate the hundreds of cases of
unhappy domestic lives about us, we
would find that 10 in every 20 were re-
suits of countless small happenings,
which served to finally rend the veil of
illusion through which the lovers view
ed each other before marriage. After
all that we may say regarding the i'm
portant part the woman plays in the
role of successful marriage, the fact
still remains that man is master of the
situation. like all others, if he is only
strong enough and tactfGl enough to
see it. Yes, and delicate enough, for
with his greater strength there must
be delicacy of thought if he would
keep the veil of illusion over the eyes
of the woman he makes his wife.
We hear a great deal about the dan
ger a wife incurs who allows herself to
grow untidy and careless in her dress
after marriage. But there is CORES
ponding danger which husbands incur
by negligence of their person, and we
hear little about that.
The girl who falls in love with a
well-dressed, carefully-brushed, scru-
pulously- Identified lover may
NOT BE ABLE TO STAY IN LOVE
with the husband whose appearance
and habits are exactly opposite. l
once saw married man of wealth and
position whose hands were always
black across the joints, and whose
teeth seemed to have forgotten any &C
quaintance with brush.
How could a dainty wife retain her
love for a man like that? She might
do her duty by him, but it seems to me
that all the charms of love-life would
have died natural death.
I have seen great many men grow
careless in their dress after marriage
men, who, as young bachelors, were
noted for their correctness in attire
and the attention they paid to details.
Sometimes this decline in their appear
ance can be traced to financial causes;
they are anxious TO keep the wife ard
children well clothed, and they un-
selfshly put themselves in the back
ground.
But it is mistake for husband to
do this. The wife who consciously al
lows it is not worth the sacrifice, and
may not appreciate it, and the wife who
is worth it will not want it made.
Whenever see the shabby husband
and father of stylishly attired wife
and daughters, I know that little love
brightens that mans life.
A bachelor said to me recently that
he thought men by nature were far
neater and cleaner than women. That
order and tidiness were of more i'm
portance to them, and that this had
been one great factor in his remaining
single. But as look about me do
not find sufficient evidence to substan-
tate his statement. Men whose to-
ba o habits necessitate extra care in
keepn:g the breath pure, are far more
indifferent and careless in this than
their wives. A woman seems to take
a natural pride in keeping her lips in
viting to the salutes Of Cupid, while a
man falls easily into state of negli-
gence in the matter. Meanwhile many
a wife makes the first ripple in the
lutte by aggravating nervous husband
IN SMALL WAYS.
I once read a queer book of woman
whose husband was i'll in bed; and for
an entire week she stepped over and
walked around scarf which had fall
len to the floor, and which he had
twice asked her to pick up. In his
supersensitive condition this mole hill
became a mountain. Everything she
did after that irritated him. Another
wife kept her husband in i'll humor all
summer by never hanging the iceplck
in it's proper place. He happened to
be victim of the icewater habit, and
liked to prepare it himself-but day in
and day out was obliged to hunt for