The Bottineau pioneer., 1895-04-20
FOR THE FAIR SEX
INTERESTING &GOSSIP FOR MAID
AND MATRON.
Single, Life a Failure-Why Does Not
the British Maiden Come to See Us:
-Household Hints-For the bicycle
RiLcrs-DecorntiHe Hints.

Can women be as happy unmarried
as married?'' said 4 prominent physl-
clan, who had opportunity to STUDY
the question, the other day. NO.
do not think So In the first place,
an unmarried wulIlan has not the same
sort Of youth preserving interests that
a married one has. Moreover, Unless
she is a woman Of reglarEabie cliarac-
ter. she cannot fail to grow more OF
less set and selfish; and it is surpfls-
ing to know how much mental staues
AFFECT the health. Why," continued the
doctor warming to her subJect'
lieve that half the cases or neules-
thenia and nervous depression III NY
practice are caused, not by overWorh.
but by the need of some aDsorpins
interest. The average woman hlue'
have a place where she Is sup.eiLV'
not only over the inanlmate opJee's
but over live beings. She must nave
intense personal interests. IL IS no'
enough for her to be part or the ois
machine"
The doctor paused and looked as
though she were rejecting on the sau
lot of numerous patients. linen siie
reused herself and went on:
ut isn't so bad when one is twenty
or twenty-five But it is lit "a worse
when one is over thirty,-and sadder ana
more trying still after forty. At hrst
the enthusiasm, the novelty, and fresh
ness makes the life interesting enoush
and full enough, but little by htue
the glamour fades and her profession
is not enough. Women are so constl-
tuted that they live largely in the emo
tions. They need home-and i nome
means husband and children. Ihere
are very few women large-souleu anu
oad-minded enough to expend their
affections wisely, to keep their hearts
young and fresh through such remote
and impersonal means as hospitals ana
flower missions There are few, OF
course, but CHEEKY, unseltish and young
as they manage to keep themselves,
one always feels that even they WOULD
have been happier married.
"One great trouble with this pres
ent hue and cry about woman's work
and her independence continued the
doctor, lis that it makes the young
woman put off thoughts of marrying
until it is too late. I don't mean too
late for them to marry, but too late
for them to grow into adaptability with
their husbands. The years after a
woman is first through school and has
had her first experience Of life, either
professional or social, are years OF
settling down. If she gives herself up
to her career and to living her own
life and all that, she rapidly gets into
a state where she is really united for
matrimony. She may find her career
with all it's attractions and posslblll-
ties unsatisfactory, but at the same
time it is difficult for her to grow into
| domestic life after few years or pro
fessional life. 1t is all problem,
%oontinued the doctor, signing. land
dare say it will not be settled III one
day"
With which gloomy conclusion and
q sigh the doctor abandoned the ques-
ton.
Why Does Not the British Maiden
Come to See us:
often wonder whS it IS we see so
few young English women over here.
do not mean immigrants or variety
actresses, and as 1 have said young
women" I cannot possibly refer to
the kotted and sallow female globe
trotters, nor to unessy matrons with
q mission. I mean the representative
young English women-those fresh,
blooming girls with delightful man
ners, sweet, deep voices, sympathetic
minds, methods Of jolly companionship,
glorious figures and all that sort of
thing. We know they exist because we
read bout them; because Du Maurier
is thsG artistic apostle, and because
we see them when we run over to
England. But they never seem to think
it worth their while to come over
here, either to create first impress
sion or to keep up an acquaintanceship.
Even the celebrated fellows that visit
us-the writing doctors, the witty
deans, the lecturing -humorists and
elocutionary novelists-even they leave
their wives and daughters behind them,
and only show us Cneir photographs
or furnish them to the cheaper maya
zines as illustrations for articles on
themselves. I cannot ascribe their alb
sence to a dislike to travel, because
these same mothers and daughters are
constantly going off on trips on the
continent, or down the Mediterranean,
or in and out the Norwegian fjords
We speak the same tongue over here
or something like it-so there cannot
be any iingual difficulty that keeps
them away. Our women go trooping
W.
constantly putting themselves in evil
dence. The American girl has become
a British institution; she Is at home in
the town mansions and country houses,
and she has female friends and ac-
ouaintances there galore. But there
the connection seems to end. We
should like to keep up these acquaint-
ances on this side Of the water to show
our English cousins that We also know
something of the gentle art of enter
tainment. We should like to fill our
houses with bevies of pretty English
girls at Christmas tide, to take them
out sleighing by the score, to crowd
our yachts with them and teach them
how to paddle a canoe, and dine them
and wine them and make them happy
generally But they do not give us a
chance. They do not come over here,
and wonder why it is. Is it possible
that they think us uninteresting?
New VocatiOns for Women.
Women exhibit most admirable in
ventive powers when they are obliged
to find a new way to earn a living,
and wish 1t to be one Of refinement
and pleasure as we'll as profit. The
latest profession originated with Miss
Shippen Of Pk:ladelphia. who Is an