The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1895-06-13
STOP YOUR NAGGYNG
ITS EVIL EFFECTS UPON CHILDREN
SRs iNcAuCuLABIE.
d Charming Woman Tets Of the Inf.u
eEce CO q Mothers TeachinS-Terrors Of
the Everlasting "Don't"-Little Ones a.
Well rs Zig Ones Entitled to Ressons.

eEce CT a Mothers Teaching-Terrorso OF
the Everlasting "Don't"-Little Ones a.
Well rs Zig Ones Entitled to Reasons.
1t Is mistake to suppose that children
cannot be interested in little pieces OF
household work. \ child of can save its
mother many steps each day. Ii taught
thus early in life to make itself useful, and
that It's efforts are appreciated, it gradual
ly gets accustomed to the idea that it is Of
some importance in the world, and you
have probably saved yourself many anxious
moments Children who have any realiz-
ing sense of their parents love and Of
their own responsibilities as a factor in the
home life are not liable to get very far
from the right path, and even if the old
Adam in them does rise to the top occa-
sionally they subdue him much more
quickly than the children who are never
given reasons and are never taught to use
their own reasoning powers or to utilize
their superfuous energies.
Children should be taught to amuse
themselves IN a rational way. 1t is my firm
belief that they should never he left long
to their own devices, and that the moment
they tire OF an occupation or amusement
they should have change or diversion.
Grown people get desperately tired of do
ing one thing half dozen things over
and over again, even when they under
stand perfectly the logic and necessity, and
surely adults should be more reasonable
than children, though Our actions some
times say that we give children the credit
for being the more sensible
"a charming society woman once told me
ttpt her success in her trying social posi-
tien was al owing to her mothers gentle
tuition at the time when her character
was forming; and her mind IN its most re-
ceptive state for retaining Impressions
We were very poor, " she said, ''and my
mother, Being a good seamstress, made cur
living by doing fac hand sewing. She was
n Lady in every scnse Of the word and Gid
not forget her early rearing, even when
her fortunes wero at their lowest ebb All
day long sle bent over her sewing and /
played about the room, my few playthings
al being OF home nlanufacture-we could
aHord no others. dy chief delight was in
playing great lady and calling on my
1Elother. BY trained dress-fcr, of course,
an great ladies wore trained gowns /
thought-was my mother big bingham
apron tied on behind. She made me pair
OF mitts of white pique, such Us she used
TO wear when she was n child, and told mo
Fhat d lady always wore gloves when she
went on the strc.t. She taught me TO keen
liuy shoes well vanished, as lady never
WORE rusty shoes, and as Ii lady never wore
foiled clothes CT ragged ones either was
particularly careful CT mine, and was e,.-
Sremely happy when / found that l could
sew UP q tear in nsy apron or a rent in my
little iroch quite TO my mothers satisfaG- !
ton
Mother taught me how to enter
room and how to leave It, how te bow,
how 10 accept a favor. Indeed b5fore ] |
was years old think had quite mas |
tered every FlIe OF The Young Ladies' |
Guide to Good Behavior and had learned !
a great deal about books, for my moth |
er got at last to talk TO me as though |
1 was real 'g1uwnup.' I was a rest /
less child, and noisy one, and in !
Self defense my mother Lad 20 de- !
wise some means of keeping me en-
bloycd. OF course she could not stop her
work, gut her Inethod OF amusing me was
Instructive 30 Inc and helped to divert her
own mind. When was 10 years old, my
mother died, and the next 81 X years were
very hard ones for me I had to work for
my own living and could not go to sch,ol,
but the taste for books that my mother
had foStered In me, and the little tha: she
had fcen able TO imrart TO me, as she
stitched away, WAS my salvation. ] am
sure that her admOniJions about what a
lady should or should not do, given as
much TO keep me cuict Us with any thought
of their after effect perhaps, held ms in |
check very Often and her gentle counsel |
and talks about the world ard the people
who made il a happy place to live in made
mo ambitious 10 be one Of the prime NOV
ers III it. l read ard studied BY myselfev
cry moment l could get away from E:y
work, ana when fortune at last turned
smiling face on me L was quite ready tt
Ike the place in the world and in society
that was really my right by birth.
IF my mother had been like so many
mothers, of the opinion that children
should be suppressed, kept ignorantly
quiet or in the back ground, or if she had
turned ne loose TO play on the streets or
10 seek companions OF my own choosing,
D of tho best years of my life would have
cen a blank L have tried TO teach lay
Children Us my mother taught r:,c. When |
must deny them anything. l tell them
w ~, SO that they may not think / am I'M |
and l try TO keep them en-
ployod, or else interest and ANUS, them, |
so that their meddlesome fingers viii not
be put where the nurse or myself must be !
,ol stantly saying don't To them. Ad- |
mC nitlons of that kind are no more TO
;h;idren after awhile than laws that have
10 penalty atiHcilcd. and besides l believe {
hat "a constant ne yaying of that kind is alb
'olute;y injurious 10 child OF man. have
luowa children who were actually nagged
nto being perfect little terTorS.'
There, That Is tire word i wanted.
Don't nag! 1t Is worse 30 the temper than
persistent pin priclling i. 10 the flesh. 1t
would be great deal better 20 actually
'rui>e the flesh Of YOUR hid in passionate l
than 10 keep its temper black '
md blue with an everlasting humping of a
den is that finally cajlOuS il into utter I
Indifference II IL must be denied thing C
hat il wants Very match indeed, give il
excuse fer the denial and then /
rovi,lc il with employment of some kind, C
ither amusement OF work. and it will ! :
con forget its denial But if YOU want to :
lake a small anarchist out IF it just say b
don't and give "bCss,lIse' as n reason,
5 il flies from ore forbidden thing TO an
her, till both of you are worn out and
on. being the biggest and most powerful, q
Iank ii and call IL Possessed. Anarchy /
rows fat on that kind of treatmcat, and a q
hid anarchist is the most difficult of all h
lalcontents TO cc..l W ith.-Senota Sarah n
4 Washington Star. b
81
DR.. Astiac of Eimwood place reported a
esteroay very peculiar nilfoTnla'ion OF u
ia ciErulaioEy apparatus of & child born o'