San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1895-09-15

household that this liberty is
rightfully hers. AS an abuse of
liberty brings with it a curtail-
ment OF that liberty in all other
cases, there will be found no excep-
ton in the home. The autocracy
Of the wife Is denied in spirit, with
in the home, as fully as Is that OF
the husband. Only for the better
discharge OF her responsibility as
home mistress Is she invested with
control, Just as the husband is in
vested with control OF outside mat
ters, because these are more es-
pecially his province. In neither
case is there absolute right Of con-
troll regardless OF the wishes OF the
other partner in the home, or bust
ness, management.
The wife, then, 10 autocrat Of
home, only as her right control
gives her the right thus to direct
and assume authority. In truth
the true marriage is partnership,
and, as in all other cooperative
concerns, there must be agreement
among tho partners or the bust
ness goes to smash. Search for tho
reasons underlying the numerous
marriage failures and you will find
that the unfitness of the twain to
enter into close partnership rela-
tions with each other Is at the bot
tom of the difficulty. 1t is not
possible that married life, the clos
est Of all possible partnerships,
can be successfully lived unless
the individual partners are special
ly fitted for such life companion
ship. Married, but not mated,
may be written over the door Of
nearly every unhappy home.
The absolute right OF choice con.
coded to the young women enter
ing into matrimonial relations, she
is to be held accountable for the
character of her choice. II she
goes through the wood and picks
up a crooked stick at last it is her.
self that must bear the conse-
quences. Having made her choice
she must abide it. If her parents
have no right to dictate to her
in this selection, much less
will the LIGHT preacher attempt
it, but as the word OF counsel ia
theirs 80 is it his. Suffer the word
Of admonition. Better wait longer
and be certain that your choice Of
husband is a wise one, than to
rush hurriedIy into marriage to re-
pent at leisure. No one can guide
you here, as your choice must be
made|in the light of yaIr own
knowledge of y3arself and the
knowledge tharyou possess of the
man you would choose, your decis-
sion resting on the harmony that
exists between you. There is but
one word to be said, Crockett's,
"Be sure you are right, then go
ahead"
Having assumed your place in
your new sphere, as mistress in
your home, prove your right to be
such mistress by the wisdom of
your home rule. Remember, that
the liberty of person and pleasure
and society that is your right is
now modified liberty, modified
by yourself when you entered into
the marriage relation. You have
surrendered something of yourself
and have received In return some
thing else, which 1t is fair to as
sumo you consider more than an
offset to your girlhood liberties,
or you would not have made the
exchange. Thus placed, assert
your right to yourself in all pro-
per ways and become in fact as in
name the mistress, the director
and guide Of your own home. This
is your right, and you are not to be
deprived Of it without cause.
Having voluntarily, and with
the approval Of your own mind
and heart and eyes, taken your
choice Of a man for "better for
worse" it is your right to make the
outcome of that selection all that