The Virginia enterprise. [volume] (Virginia, St. Louis County, Minn.) 1893-19??, 1895-06-28
Lady chesterfield's Advice to Her Daurh.

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LET me see. What is the date OF your
marriagey'
THE 25th, Il week tomorrow.
Good gracious. Is it 80 soon? Are
you not beginning to be afraidY'
Afraid of what? | love John. and he
loves me-"
"Of course. It's a real love-matcb
I'm glad of that. Now, us ought to help
You all | cam, l will tell you how you
may. with luck, keep your Johns affec-
tion.''
"oh. do: But don't be SO dreadfully
grim about it,
IF YOU imagine it is i, subject for
CHEEKY prittle-prattle perhaps I'd better
not c0mmence.'
all you've got to say; so go ahead
The first and most important niece Of
advice / have to give is-Do not be too
much with your husband. However
much you may care for his society, tear
yourself from it. Don't sicken him
straight off with your personality"
Pm sure John would never"
An, all Johns are alike. Then, don't
tell him too much. Don't let out on your
honeymoon the amount of sentiment
which should, if properly managed, spread
over four or five years. No. Treat him
as you would Il table d'hote acquaintance
with. regard to your real self and feel
ings."
YES, yes. But afterwards? Life isn't
all honeymoon: l expect him to be fond
of me then. What about later on?''
Later on he will ask you to Stacker
your hold OIL society and to devote your
! self to him and to the house. Do not dc
| either. He would never thank you
Then you will have to entertain all his
friends, and none of your own
None of themY'
| "None. For if you single out one OF
them for companiollship you pickle Il rod
| for your own back. Better retain al
than one. Your house must be well man.
aged, your dinners perfect, your servants
underpaid-that he may boast of YOU
cleverness. And you must not mind how
many nights he may pass at his club, fol
home is merely Il necessary relaxation
from too much comfort
| How can you'll You don't know John
| and | do
Nonsense! You will never really know
John, because. after you are once mar
and you will find out that ali he has al
ready contided to you was about an ideal
| lied John. No; he may occasionally re
tail to you choice bits of scandal abou
his friends, but he won't say much o
HIMSELF
| Dul Slill uSk Ilnl.
do not know his life, his thoughts, hi
ambitions by intuition, YOU will Away
| remain in ignorance of them. Take tn,
little information he is prepared to Civ,
you, and never ask questions He viii
think that marriage completed your edu
cation: don't disturb that idea. He will
not care for the, children when they ar
little; so keep them in the nursery an,
keep them quiet. When they are begin
ming to. be companionable he will TAX
them out and spoil them, and make then
tiresome and abominable. y
II should not allow it,
ut won't do for you to complain New
er complain of anything. On the othe
| hand. never encourage anything or any
| body. BoOmerangs are the rule. and no
the exception, in married life. Thus
| Do not praise the woman John most ad
mires; that is insincerity. Do not blam
her: that is jealousy. Do not ignore her
| that is temper. Above all. never tall
earnestly upon the necessary details 0
| everyday life: that is making scene!'
1T all seems very complicated.'
1T is we'll YOU should know it. Thr1
let his mother look into his WARDROBE
whenever she WILL and let her whispe
her favorite reel pe for bouillon to tn
cook on the kitchen stairs. And do no
you forget to order it next day.
"Ah, ah, ah! | should'
Say your best things at breakfast
that he may retail them at dinner Dom
let your laugh at the fiftieth repetition o
his worst story grow too fiat. Be tn
best and most attentive of mothers
Don't neglect your husband for you
children. Do not go to the dances t
which he objects. DO not stop at HON
and NOPE. Dress exceptionally wei
Have no dressmaker's bills. Do not g
| to SandOWn with Cant chose b., see
about, amuse yourself like other womel
Never mention the words rent tax
tailor butcher Put all sunlmonse
silently OH his desk. Do not laugh.
married woman should be serious D
not cry. Other women never cry. An
never frown. The frown of one day Wi
make John forget the 364 upon which yo
| have smiled
mass of contradictions
Then YOU cannot be happy
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