New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1895-05-19
NAGGINC.
IT cuLTIvArEs NERVES IN CHILDREN.


ola sses Men of the first class melted TO bru-
tally and violence. Husbands OF the second class
avoid their homes and seek solace In CLUBS ana sa
looms Those Of the third class. who remain devoteu
TO their naggers usually Of nervous tempera-
ment and some have been driven insane by expos
ure to continual fault-hnding. which Is more IN
furious to the brain than overwork But II the IT.
ritable nagging OF the woman Is a consequence or
III health when the husband understands this fact
the nagging often to have any Injurious ef-
feet on him. The case Is different with children
Nagging Is equally injurious to their nervous sys-
TENS whether the mother Is an invalid or has no
such excuse
A woman who had lost her mother In early child
hood said to a friend, Eyes, know she was always
suffering and now. when can realize what she had
to bear. ! think Of her with pity and tenderness
but the effect OF the faultfndng and injustice cay
not be enaced. 1t embittered my childhood. When
I hear others speak OF blessed memories 1t cuts me
to the heart that have memory OF motherly
loving words. You knew her so well that IL Is no
disloyalty to speak OF 1t to you. remember one
day-you were In the room, too-when she raged at
Joey till I caught up the little sobbng fellow and
carried him away; and unhappily, ne remembers
IT, and has spoken of 1t many times" An orphan
girl lived for some years in house where there
was continual naggng and faut-flnding from MOTH
or and father, sisters and brothers. She had spent
few weeks with gentle, motherly woman ana OH
the last day of her visit as she sat with the loving
appeal In the sensitive face. "Oh. you don't know
how sorry I am TO leave you. I'm sorry for many
reasons, but most Of all because your voice Is SO
sweet and soft Some voices-hard angry voices
seem to go through and through me- dread,
dread to hear them" She shuddered and put her
hands to her ears. Presently withdrawing them,
she said. perhaps you'll think It strange fancy
of mine but sometimes when l wake at night l
think of the last Judgment It's not the thought OF
God Judging that frightens me. but have ter
ror of the voices and the noises; and more than
anything else fear the sound Of the angel blowing
the last trump" The effect Of continual naggng
on that child's nervous system requires no COM
ment
A vivid recollection of visit to summer resort
Is of an irritable invalid mother and her unhappy,
harrassed boy. She nagged at him In the dining
room till the poor child lost all appetite. One morn
ing the father came down alone. and explained that
mother was not we'll enough to come to breakfast.
Whereon the boy with childike frankness. ex-
claimed "Oh I'm so glad" Then. seeing his IA
theirs reproving glance, he explained, you Know
papa, I'm not glad she's sick; but-but DO enjoy
my breakfast so much more when she's not here
The woman egotist. Her own ailments were
her continual theme and the comfort Oh ner nus
band and child wholly disregarded
II think mamma doesn't like me, auntie, said
another sensitive child. "Oh. If she would only
sometimes seem satisfied with me, and speak to me
as you do to Nellie! used to try so hard to please
she always thinks 1t is wrong Two little girls
were talking of their governess irritable. unsym-
pathetic woman. who should never nave been placed
I'm charge of children. Said one clapping her hands
and dancing about the room. 'I've just heard the
most delightful news. It's almost too good to be
true Miss A. Is going to be married. and our next
coverness Is to be a really kind woman Papa said
So" ooh, you selfish. selfish GIRL replied her SIS
ter you might be glad she's going to leave US;
but how can you be glad she's going to be married!
Haven't you any feeling for the poor man? Think
what a life he'll have with her And no matter now
she scods he'll have TO stay married.
one sees nervous. nagging women In charge OF
schools and must heartily pity Them for they are
obliged to their living; nevertheless. they are
running the dispositions OF the children; ana IN
spite OF almost frantic efforts. cannot MAINTAIN
dscpllne Oft reiterated complaint ceases to have
remedial effect
bandsome woman, whose face bore traces OF a
sveetor disposition In girlhood was unhapply mar
rled to a drunkard With her large famiiy' small
means and the misery OF seeing the man return
night after night In disgusting condition or ntoxi-
cation she had a heavy burden to bear But she
did not rail at the man; she feared driving MN 10
lower DEPTHS The results of her disappointment
and worry were visited on the unfortunate Children
She was not by nature n mo;heriy woman Inc
children came into the world WITHOUT weicome'
and were made to realize IT, shaken scoided. I'M
reasonably accused they had no home In the true
sense If the word and each took the earliest oppor-
,,r,,v 10 leave the parents and 30 out into the
world.
There are nagging men as wen IN hasb'"S
women but AS the fathers are usually absent from
the home during many hours OF the day. they have
loss opportunity to destroy family peace 1t Is said
that 1.-THE mother holds the key OF the soul ana
s,a,rrs the coin OF character" We remember Cow
pers lines to his mothers picture; on, that those
lips had anguass s ,b esS paeM Memories of
mothers sweet voice have led back wandering feet
mothers have driven the children to the broad ways
OF destruction, as did certain wiuow "io ia n
,Hey Mere little but as they grew older, they gave
back railing railing and every son OF that moth,
ar was laid I'm a drunkard's grave "A Httle lad
made desperate by the naggng OF both parents ran
away crossed the sea as stSwa%ay and Io%nd "a
bring him up. Under the rule of his parents he had
When loved and trusted he returned love and trust
and developed n fine character. a.. .,,.x ..
re im aei' in the Children Cd grievances dwe
mon magnhed and brought forward at most inop,,
pS pet,y fault finding and But realization
her responsibility to hs arnss hs so
gentle ones. The children, were puzzled They did
not n Is rare to hear an impatient word in that
house from any OF It's members ,
,u Vns the rrltabty that results from sleepess
niehts and ong-continued suffering is difficult to
a,s hut much OF the uncontrolled irrability
co ,nvallds is the outcome Of sepy and lack OF
consideration for others The development OF ego
evils OF Inv tlidism ~,
thetic visitor - . 4, 49,. - l., $500. -,
l., nit she's so dlscontented and fault-nding that
n me Lord should III TO take her. she'd be max
Ing trouble among the angels and complaining that
her halo didn't Mt.
OF patience and self remuneration are learned
from nyalds who are suffering from ailments tina,
been stricken with incurable disease mnistered 10
Others long after she shed have LAID , aside her
continually watchfu lest those who tended her
shoud he Wcaried. On the day OF her death, when