The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1895-03-10
Etinuette of rrnre1inr.

What may man do, and What may
he not do with property during a jour
ney in the course OF which he is either
accompanied by women, or thrown by
chance into their company" asks a young
man Of the period. who adds that his
manners would be better. doubtless, if
he could ever find out just what q we'll
bred woman is entitled to expect under
The circumstances.
The journey may be up and down in
en- elevator it may be round the globe.
In both cases and in all the events that
may go between these extremes a very
good rule for a you1g man TO follow who
ae he would like any other young man
of his acquaintance to do if the young or
old woman in the case were the sister or
mother of the would-be-Polite-but-pe
Women adore little attentions. Even
the strongest minded ones do. And
ey ina ina T2 g OUT fo PRRPq Mast no9 aR Re
his attentions extensively pointed but If
he manages to be. extraordinary civil,
and more than that, thoughtful, and at
the same time act as if he did whatever
ne does as a matter OF course, he is going
to win golden opinions for his courtesy.
From raising or lowering blind l1 or
unable herself to get off a train by reason
of indisposidon or because she is caring
for ohd dtee ETC. ;i there o is nothing man
do for an unknown woman, providing
there is no porter who can assist her. e, alL (,
her own in, inability to watt upon herself IS
hat as he asks to be allowed to be of
service, makes his request in q. chivalrous
fashion, with all sobriety, and whether
his offer is or is not accepted the gentle
man will not afterwards presume to enter
into conversation, or make any attempt
to force an acquaintance out of the act
The polite man who is willing to give
up lower car berth, or to exchange his
car stateroom for an open section, or to
give up his steamer staterOom to accom-
modate an invalid or a, woman travelling
alone who by some fnishap is unproYided
with resting place, does not proffer the
courtesy of SO much magnitude in person
to the lady. He should ask the stewar-
dess to do so, in order TO save the lady
to whom he would be merely chivalrous
the embarrassment OF not beng sure that
the offer is made by, a gentleman. :,
The polite man who finds himself the
escort of ladies Upon a journey, or one of
party as on large ana long continued
excursion during which everybody Is
put upon the footing of acquaintance,
and thrown much into each others So
ciety. may with propriety offer TO do any
to ACCEPT at the hands of a corresponding
acquaintance. He endeavers. to spare the
ladies' all possible care and annoyance
such as looking after luggage. ETC.. but
he must not spend money for them with
out permitting them TO repay any chance
outlay. If the meeting is by Chance at
the end of the Journey he. after seeing the
ladies safely to their hotel, Will himself
20 to another one if possible. In the case
Of an excursion where all the party have
rooms engaged at one hotel, the case is
different from that Of one or two women
travelling without male relatives as In the
excursion party there are always huS-
bands ana brothers and cllaperones.
The difference, between the actions Of a
often merely q. matter OF manner and not
of the act itself.
very like that which obtains anywhere
among well bred people. Such eircurn-
stances, as being IN a wreck would make
it perfectly proper. it need hardly be said,
I for lady to accent attentions from a
strange gentleman that she could accept
under ordinary circumstances; but under
the usual circumstances q lady will be
grateful for and not resent the courtesfes
made possible by the routine of travel If
they are proffered by gentleman in a
gentlernan's way, distantly, respectfully.
without any after preSuming: where they
do not include the payment OF money,
and preferably are made through the
medium of a paid servant Of the cars,
chip or hotel. DINAH STURGIS.