Birmingham age-herald., 1895-09-22
THE PROPRlE TIES.
DIANE DE MORNY DlsCOURSES THEREON
Laws Governing Presentations Set Out-Ihe Correct Thing in the Ball Room--Dn- ,.
 ties of the Hostess
BY DIANE DE MORNy.

Copyrighted, 1895, by Diane de Morny)
 "Please tell me-" writes an un-' known friend of Diane de Morny'S, "the difference between presentation and an introduction, and how I am to know which to present to the other, or intro duce to the other, or does it make no diff ference so that I make them acquaint- ed?" Decidedly it does. Gentlemen are presented to ladies always, young ladies are presented to older women or to celeb rites of their own sex, unmarried women to married women, and young men may be presented also to famous men, but or dnarily one introduces men to each oth- CT. always carefully mentioning the older or better known mans name first. Thus: Young MT. K would be introduced to MT B., gentleman ten years his senior; he would be presented to chief justice or comma nding general. All men, no matter of what rank, in America are pre- sented to gentlewomen. Ladies in the same station of life are introduced to one another in the simplest manner pos sble. For example one need only say Mrs. Black, Mrs. White" with little rising infection of the voice, and the la dies bow and are left to become friends or otherwise, as they feel inclined.
 Laws Governing Presentations.
 To present a young lady to an older woman the form is: Mrs. Black, allow me to present Miss White to you.' The same form is used in presenting gentle men to ladies. or to a military, literary or artistic lion. For example: General Gordon, permit me to present MT. Fred erick James to you"
 Introducing persons not previously known to each other requires great dis erection on the part of those making the iDtroductions; for example, it is most reprehensible ever to introduce a gentle man to a lady, except the lady's permis- sion has been obtained. Exceptions to this rule are very few.
 The hostess at a large party may in troduce men to young ladies without the formality of asking permission, it being understood that she will only receive de- sirable acquaintances for them.
 For small parties, dinners, theaters or breakfasts it is better form to ask ac- QuaintanceS only In case the entertain ment is given in honor of a stranger of course all are introduced to the guest Of honor
 It is difficult to always discriminate concerning jntroductions. and whenever 1t is possible 1t is well to consult both parties. One is frequently surprised, however into a position which becomes extremely awkward without the cere- mony of an introduction, even though one Is conscious one of the persons does not desire the acquaintance of the other. Good breeding is happily first and last the essence of politeness and gentleness, and it is in far better taste to incur the slight displeasure of one person to the real discomfort of three; therefore, if you happen to be chatting with Mrs. B.. a fashionable leader, when Mrs. C., who has no acknowledged social claims, and whom you are quite certain Mrs. B. does not care to know, Is ushered into your presence, there is nothing for it but a formal introduction, and you will say very sweetly, Mrs B., may I introduce Mrs C. to you and insist on making the conversation general, keeping in mind the fact that Mrs c. is the person whom you are to protect and make com fortable. Mrs. B. will remain a few moments and then withdraw, and is not obliged even to acknowledge the intro