Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1895-02-09

in a moment of maturer passion. Inc cniio
whose love for candy will lead it to steal
a forbidden penny from ITS mother to buy
the sweet will, If not punished, develop
into a lawless appropriation of other peo-
pies property. The child whose passionate
shrieks is on a safe road to the insane
asylum, unless it has some good horse
sense spanked into it,
Humankind is SO constituted that pun
ishpaent by pain, either mental or physlcai'
is about the only discipline which enectual-
ly deters us from wrong doing. MANKIND
from childhood to old age loves to be COM
Portable, and the penalty oil discomfort.
inflicted for infringement on the laws OF
God CT man. is the only thing that saves
us from falling to the leyel OF the orute.
Yet over severity Is as injurious as over
Indulgence. Giving a child full license one
day and Furnishing 1t severely the next ior
doing the very same things is anotner m
justice that weak, vacillating parents IN
f1ict, ard SOW the Seeds thereby, OF soclal7
ism and anarchy.
The one effective measure with children
is to teach them in one manner or another
that your mo- means no. and your
yes means yes" Then guard your
tongue against uttering them almlessiy
Don't threaten child with punishment OF
horrible nature, because you know that
you are staining your lips with lie "hen
you do that, and the child soon learns II
cause you fail to inflict the punishment, IL
learns to think that you are half afraid
Of it. Whipping is not always the pest
punishment, though, like surgical opera,
ton, it is often the only thing tnat VIII
save the patient.
To be always whipping child will only
serve to make him tough and tntractaDle.
Frightening children to make them obey
your mandates is a piece of barbarism for
which there should be severe penalty at
tached. The parent who will thus impose
upon her unfortunate offspring has IN her
a streak of latent cruelty, such as leads
the Indian squaw to torture her victim. To
shut child in dark closet or DARK
rcom and threaten it with the vermln that
may be there, is to lay the foundation 1cr
nervous disorders of q serious nature.
There are instances on record where cnll-
dren so imprisoned were taken out dead,or
gibbering idiots.
Some Mistakes to Avoid.
AS far as possible, children should have
their own particular belongings and be
taught to take care OF them in the proper
way. They should be Instructed In the
rights Of property distinction, and no ole
child be permitted to appropriate the
property of another, or to use 1t except
with the permission of the owner. Older
children should never be so lawless as to
use the belongings Of the younger scions
of the family without first requesting the
favor of the loan. Children, older or
younger, as the case may be, have right
to hold their belongings exempt from inter-
ference of other members of the family,
except in case Of parental intervention for
some good purpose. To treat a child as
Dorothy did Rose is neither ladylike nor in
any way justifiable. and l am ashamed OF
her. 1t Injuries a child's self-respect to APP
propriate his property without his permls-
sion. 1t makes him feel that he Is u very
Insignificant creature. and lowers him in
his own estimation, thing that should be
avoided at all hazards He feels that he
has been treated unjustly, and resents 1t In
his own way, which is often unpleasant. as
Dorothy will find out, before the fan cpl
sode is closed, fear.
Above all things else, a child has right
to expect that its parents, or those who
stand in that relation to it, will be Its
exemplars in everything. But how many
parents are fit to be held up a pattern
in all things for their children? When you
punished your little one for uttering an un-
truth, do you remember telling it that you
would burn all it's playthings If you found
them under foot again? You knew you
never meant to do any such thing, but
there was no one to punish you for your
untruth. and you were old enough to have
known better. too. When you washed your
little boys mouth with soap because he
used an oath. did you require his father
to undergo the same ordeal. knowing full
well that 1t was from him that the lad
caught the words that to him seemed
manly? Punishment in such cases Is rank
injustice for child instinctively apes the
manners and actions of It's elders. The
offending parent is the one to punish
Telling a child's bright badness in it's
presence is a grave fault that many par
eEts are addicted to. A child has right
to suppose that fault for which it has
been punished is not fit to be retailed, even
to ones most intimate friend, except as
horrible example; but when the misde-
meanor for which it has suffered Is told
with much gusto in its presence as being
good thing and extremely bright for
enc of it's years, its ambition is fired to
become more audacious, the punishment
passing for naught so long as 1t finds itself
the subject of admiring comment. 1t is
the child's first lesson in cajoling a capri
cious world. and 1t soon learns that unique
transgressions and brilliant vices are large
ly their own expiation in a world which
desires, first of all. to be amused. Childish
rights seem trivial to people of maturer
years, but they are of vital Importance to
the child, and, generally speaking, you
will find that the child that has been reared
to respect the rights of it's elders and had
its own rights respected in return, is the
one that will make a useful, law-abiding
citizen. SENORA SARA.