Herald and news. [volume] (West Randolph, Vt.) 1878-1943, 1895-02-28
No.
WHEN YOUNG PEOPLE WE'D.
They Seem to Make Hopeless Middle Of
Their domestic Life.

Promising that, bachelor though WI
be, we are quite alive to the value of ,
1 good wife. approaching to the full the
heaven which such one can make O.
home, and admitting that by nature
there is void in mans heart which car
only be adequately filled by the adj
vent of that mysterious she," we
nevertheless confidently assert that the
fair sex of the middle and upper classes
are themselves very largely responsible
for any present falling off in the wor.
ship of Hymen. Thus writes bach.
elor:
The irrevocable step is not lightly to
be taken by those who would deserve
matrimonial happiness, and yet how
many men and maidens change their
condition without any prior inquiry
| into mutual antecedents - although
they would not purchase blood horse,
which they could get off their hands
| without much trouble, without scru-
tinizing closely the pedigree ~ with
scarcely "A thought to the future, only
in too many instances, thenceforth to
wander uneasily through labyrinthine
mazes in search of hearts ease and con-
tent.
Sensible, well-brought-up girls,
domesticated, of good physique. and in
every way calculated to become true
helpmates, though unfortunately in
decided minority in the girl-wor of
to-day, are by no means altogether I'M
known, and careful. intelligent re-
search will discover quite q sufficient
choice for would-be benedicts. Dut
srch jewels, though they may be appre-
ciated to a certain extent by most, are
too good for the average run of men,
and if the seeker of wife be not
Bayard in miniature, he would better
avoid the probability of a refusal and
seek his divinity among those who will
not decline to accept him and his not
too scrupulously manly habits.
Though married. life is not without
its cares. the case of the average
bachelor is of too pitiful and lonely
character for him not to be willing to
escape from it by entering the matri-
monial moose, could he only depend on
some maiden to whom his heart flies
out proving real helpmeet. But, I'M
fortunately, he has no guaranty that
such will be the case
The playfulness which charmed be- |
fore marriage sometimes develops into |
temper after the knot, which no efforts
of the teeth can loose, has been tied
fast by the tongue, having merely been
assumed for the moment as part and
parcel of the equipment matrimonial,
while in other cases post-nuptial expe-
rience demonstrates that frugality and
the proper rule OF household are alb
sent virtues Thus the presence of
many snowy limitations of the genuine
article renders the task of the searcher
after true helpmeet no light one, but
will usually meet with
iue reward. To deserve a wife of
worth, however. the would-be benedict
must choose his divinity for what she
IS, not what she appears to be.
There would be some prospect of an
III succeeding genera
ions. physically, mentally and NOR
lily, If the majority of right-thinking
men, and women, too, for that part,
marriage avoided as
,estilence the mnltifarious crew of
asst, brazen-faced representatives of
he opposite sex, who, il appearances
70 for anything. have lost all power to
appreciate wholesome home life.
Thai. foil ~ e..
nd among them even women. who
ught to be examples of better things,
listen without blush to double en-
endres and seem to take positive
leasure in the discussion of subjects
+ more than doubtful character. Out
Tardly not a few of the women may be
air to look upon. though all too fire.
uently close investigation goes to
rove that all is simply another version
the old tale regarding the whited
inside of the charnel house.
But another and vastly different
vpe Of womanhood calls forth the
raises even of the cynic. Regard with
ceilings akin to those with which you \
'elcome the coming of spring in the
ght of the first snowdrop, in which
leasure and admiration blend into
,mething near akin to veneration, !,
ny girl in whom maidenly modesty
nd unsullied purity are fifty framed
good physique and fair modicum
that self-sacrificing disposition a
hich has the effect of causing her to u
link twice before speaking once, lest
so doing something might unwit- =
ngly be said that would hurt the feel :
gs Of some other person. Westmin-
er Review