Delaware gazette and state journal., 1895-12-05

the girl who sat next to her makes a |
face and says, "Old hypocrit! She'd |
good sight better be praying for that |
son of hers and let Ethel alone.
THE TREATMENT OF QUESTS.
By this time everybody had verged
around to Ethel's side and had their
glasses filled, and the hostess plant
lively asks; docs anybody suppose
would say word against any one of
my guests?" And her most intimate
friends answers; "No, Clarice; you are
honorable. Then for few minutes
everybody talks about Clarice's honor,
and she is rosy red with delight and
indigestion, and inquiries; Arc you
asked TO the Browns dinner dance?N
Everybody is except one girl, and she
remarks, never mentioning the fact
that she hasn't gotten a card: "Well,
of course, you can all go IL you like 10,
but mamma objects to seeing my name
among the people present, for we know
how Mr.. Brown made his money!
Then she says good-by to everybody,
anu one woman pins bunch of violets
on her coat, and another kisses her on
each cheek, and the one who decorated
her with flowers murmura, as sort of
elegy; Poor Mollie, it is funny to
hear her talking about her mother, and
what her mother will let her do and
what her mother won't let her do, for
it is many long day since she clapped
hands for mamma.
The girl who kissed Molie says:
"Oh, Mrs Jones, that's slang. But,
indeed, dear Mollie is too utterly
ridiculous. And so it goes on until
at last there is nobody left but tho
hostess and her dearest friend, and
she inquiries:
"AIN'T YOU GLAD 1T is ovER"
and the hostess answers: ''Indeed |
am, but | have wiped off my list all
that tribe" This is the average dove
luncheon. OF course, there are hos
pitable women, and there are times
when two or three meet together, two
or three pleasant women, and have a
thoroughly good time. The fancy that
exists Just at present for calling women
friends by over aifectionate names is
especially noticeable at dove
luncheon. Somebody addresses the
hostess as Sweetheart - n square
lawed woman, who looks as though she
had never known the meaning OF the
word, is called "Loye;" girl who
lisps addresses everybody as dearest, -
while Dear" is as common as postage
stamps. l confess to not liking it. A
woman wants to be dearest and
sweetest and 'love" to man, and
when she calls anybody by these en-
dearing terms, she wants to address
baby. Hence their inappropriatenes
between women.
TOPICS WOMEN DISCUSS
The other letter that came 90 me
about etiquette, asked about an after
noon visit. From its tone imagine
the writer is one of the kind who ar
rives promptly at and remains until
quarter past 6, and then finds you are
not quite pleasant because you don't
ask her to stay to dinner.
twenty minutes is long enough for
lady caller to inflict herself on
kind-hearted hostess, and the brighter
and more delightful she is, the more
certain will she be of appreciation il
she departs while her charms are still
fresh. She who writes wishes to know
what constitutes small talk. scarcely
now myself, so | listened to five lady
callers. The first one told all about her
diseases, and after listening attentivey
to her, L knew more about the femi-
nine interior department than | had
ever believed would be possible OK
cept to a doctor. The second took for
her topic that never ending and always
beautiful one-the children. She
dilated on the cleverness of one the
remarkable senHitivenes of another, she
repeated the last cunning speech Of a
small boy, and told of the haby's de-
termination, during the quiet hours of
the night, to keep herself before them,
put for her general appearance
should have thought her a nurse in an
orphan asylum. The third lady, meta
phOrlcally. never got into the parlor al
all Her mind never rose above the
Kitchen, and she talked servants until,
well, until l wondered why shevkept
them II they worried her so, men.
tally and physically. The fourth lady
had lust gotten back from seeking
green fields and pastures new on the
other side OF the ocean, and rather
expected she would tell us Of great
paintings, notable people, or beauti- :
ful scenery But her talk ran this way /:
Al Geneva, L got some lace very
cheap, and at a shop in Regent street
some beautiful underwear: but bonnets
are quite as costly as they are here. In
Rome, we picked up some pretty lew
elry, and in Venice Fannie found some
beads that went very well with that
CLASP she bought last year. These were
her impressions of travel. The fifth
lady, thank goodness, had fad. She
was a Suffragist, and she talked about
the ability Of woman, the greatness OF
woman, the trueness of woman and the
honesty of woman in a way that was
convincing to herself, if not to others.
lhat is all that | know about small
talk as CLEANED from lady callers.
VERY DELICATE QUESTION.
The other question is delicate one,
lie hasn't asked her to marry him,
nut she feels sure that he will. Under
these circumstances, is it wrong foI
MIN to hold her hand? AS have beer
asked this straight out, | should like
To say that she will be wiser il sh,
Keeps her hand to herself, and let's hin
have nothing at all to do with il unit
There glltters upon it the ring whict
means that his life is no longer hi
l own. After that, he can hold her hand
! and he can kiss her good night wifi
impunity and whatever pleasure ma,
result therefrom. The uosition of tht
) young woman engaged to be married il
usually spoken of as a dtlicate one.
am sure don't know why, for il eve
a human being looked like capto
q dragging around a miserable victim. /
i may be said to be the newly engage,
I girl and her young man. She com
: mands him. and il he dares to disobe,
/ she gives him look that would strik,
I awe among kings. She expects him /,
t follow her like pet dog, but, unlik
/ q pet dog, he can demand no priyi
leges. Any courtesy she shows him Ii,