The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1895-04-22
Keening Love and Friendship Alive


Sometimes Mrs. Lynn Linton says
such wise things that the lover of
humanity wishes they might be
printed and posted in conspicuous
places all over the world. Some Of
her recent utterances on the art Of
keeping alive" are among those. Mrs.
Linton does not believe that any good
things, from life itself down, can ex-
list without special effort on the part
of the person to whom they are in
trusted Business does not -four
ish without care. Health disap-
pears unless precautions are taken
to keep it. Intellect is dwarfed
and starved without food. And
even those finest and most elu-
sive possessions-love and friendship
need care and nourishment if they
are TO live.
TOO many" says Mrs. Linton,
suppose that love once confessed
and consolidated needs never more
and consolidated needs never more
expression-that friendship once knit
ted up will last forever without care
to keep the loops from running and
the threads from loosening. No great
er error, and none more disastrous to
happiness, can exist. Love and friend
ship need as much care 10 keep alive
as that greenhouse flower we spoke
of before, or the business which lives
by a mans exertions and dies by his
neglect. How often young mar
ried people blunder in this.
and. taking marriage to mean
per Sc adamantine stability.
neglect the simplest precautions to IN
sure continuancei AT home with each
other as they are. sure of each other s
re-
Straint on themselves. but let them
selves go in speech. habits, temper, APP
pearance. as all of minor importance
where the main thing their love- is all
right. She. in crumpled dressing
gown. with untidy hair and discolored
handS-he. in broken slippers and shah
by coat. unbrushed. unshaven. I'M
kempt-and both unappetizing to the
last degree; this begins the first pro-
cess of degradation. She. peevish and
disconnected over small matters,
whereof. were she wise. he would never
have heard the very echo-he, preoc-
cupied. snappish, unsympathetic; and
both without self-restraint or reticence;
this begins the second process of dis
integration. But they come together
again after their little tiffs. and in the
beginning of things the old proverb
about the ouarrels of lovers holds good
but only in the beginning of things.
By degrees that coming together is
Stacker. and the elasticity of recovery
is losing daily. The love that is be-
tween them begins to die for want of
keeping alive by care. and soon the
sorrowful tense is changed and for is
we read was
so with friendship, which indeed
requires as much tact and care to
keep alive as love itself, being in its
essence love without the passion that
ia P,~f1 Z
have all faith and confidence in each
other. That does not excuse the neg
lect by which one, we will say the
younger, tries the stability of the
elders affection. Letters left long
unanswered or but scantily replied TO
when acknowledge d-reticence over
those pleasant little occurrences of
daily life which keep the interest ac-
tive, and which seems when told to
bring the two parted spheres into
closer contact together-in word,
neglect, though only in small and
trivial matters. as surely kills the
al neglect and unrestrained tempers
kill that of love. For moth
ing on earth is immortal and nothing
Interchangeable. No affection that lives
in the human breast is indeStructible,
and even the mothers love can be
chilled, aHenated and destroyed. If
this be so with the most intense, the
most deeply-rooted of all. how much
more then will others which are in a
manner what may be called growths of
uperimpostion that comes
after and upon the more purely in
stinctive and prototypical? Mol
friendship end love have to be kept
alive by little care, a little attention
to details, little self-restraint, keep
ing one back from an ungainly amount
Of acknowledgement
These are wise words, and friends
and lovers everywhere will do we'll to
read, mark, learn and inwardly digest
them.