Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1895-05-23

NEW YORK, May 16.-The getting
married continues. And one is forced
90 wonder whether the desirability of
mating these two people who look so
radiantly happy has been thought very
much about. | am a believer in mar
riage. | regard marriage as the corner
stone of the State-but just now it is
the cornerstone that is Clipped and
marred in a most awful way. Marriage,
as 1t presents itself to the looker-on,
represents girl in white satin and
orange blossoms, u troop of bridesmaids,
procession of ushers and a shower of
rice. And then, too often, comes rap
turouD six months of love-making, year
of Misunderstanding and disappoint.
ment, and then stolid and sombre set
Ting down and accepting the inevitable.
Sometimes making the best of it, some
times not. Marriage, as it should be,
ought to have preface in which two
people try to find out whether they
have tastes in common, whether they
are sympathetic, whether, if one lost
his temper the other could control hers,
and whether they will not grow weary,
horribly, mournfully, desperately weary
OF seeing each other 500 times year
across the dinner table.
DRIFTING AWAY OF THE BARK "HUs-
BAND"
What have they right to expect in
marriage? Giving the precedence to the
lady, think that she has right to ex-
pect all the devotion that lover could
give; all the consideration that u brother
could offer, and then certain amount
of paternal care. A man has the right
to claim in marriage all the joys of
friendship and much more. Many times
he gets an impulsive affection and very
little sympathy. Undoubtedly, men do
shatter the commandments, but woman
can commit sins that are worse. She
can be aggrayating and wearisome be.
yond expression, and nine times out Of
ten her marriage is failure because she
is too little a wife and too much a
mother. don't mean by this that any
woman has the right to shirk the pains
or joys of motherhood, but, too often,
because of the love for the babies, the
husband IS regarded merely as neces-
sary evil. Women are creatures of
habit, and once they are on the sea Of
thoughtlessness, that dangerous sea, they
find, before they know it, that their
little bark marked "Husband" has
drifted away and cannot be drawn back.
when passion and habit lie long in com.
pany, it is only slowly, but it is surely,
that habit awakens to find its companion
gone. Now, there is the woman, the
general woman, who says, in half
wearied, half scornful tone, "Oh, when
was a young girl | expected every
thing in married life !" Very little, nv
friend, comes from expectation. There
is an immense amount of proof in that
old French pro7erb, "All things come
to him who knoweth how to wait. "
People remember the first, but forget
the last of it, which is the important
part. II is the knowing how. 1t doesn't
mean sitting with your hands folded
and your lips parted, wait indiiferentiy
for the ripe, red cherries to fall into
your mouth. 1t means selecting the
right place, watching the cherry unit
it is ready to fall and then catching it sc
that it is no bruised in the tumble. The
trouble in marriage is, the average
woman sees too much of her husband
and then she doesn't have sufficient
number of outside interests TO amust
him with. She is inclined to give him {
little too much of that house which il
Queen Anne in front and Mary Ann a
the back, and she is surprised that ht
isn't as much interested in the kitchen
as she is.
LOVE VERSUS EXPENSE.
One of the greatest statesmen tina
ever lived, mean Benjamin Disraeli
had the most perfect married life. Ill
said that perfect marriage and a per
feet friendship were synonymous. |
was told Of him that he never pretende,
to be desperately in love with his wifi
at the beginning, but he had grea
affection for her; they were each inter
ested in the same things, so that Their
were always subjects for conversation
and, as the years went BY, til
affection grew to be love- and at last
became great love, making each {
these two all in all to the other Ther
is nothing to me in the history OF Til
great man so interesting as the story
h the love that lasted, even after dealt
y Do think that there should be a ma
rage without love? No. but l thin
there are other things, too. Romeo IN
I bullet may have found love sdfficieu
Nut in those days it was not dcmandc
q thbt q house in Verona should have a
the modern improvements; real lace WI
not expensive, dressmakers' prices we
lower, and Romeo didn't need 10 use IL
best brandy, nor did he realize the co
of the finest cigar 1t sounds very We
\ to say that poverty is glorious and el
vating-I don't believe 1t. Nobody ltk
it and nobody wants II. And il Is qu!
possible to be rich and good. ScIiisl
= Well, this is the age OF selnshness.
By-the-by, over our Strawberries OF
tee the other afternoon, the question
what constituted fine iiguru came {.
1t is an old standby, you SNOW. Tue
were two women and & man, not
mention dog lie was polite pupp
and only ate sugar, not stra%berrit
One OF the women said "WAal a love
figure Mrs. We're de We're is. Z"
The man made himself heard by So
ing, DO you know, l think you are
bit Of donkey? The idea Of CALI
that beautiful figure, which display.
A bust nearly up to Inc edge Of tue Ghin
M waist measuring IL inches, lips +
W\ gotten and very prominent line at Z
w stomach, with every defect brought @
Wy d walk that is neither hoq, d ski
Aor a jump.
BEAUTIFUL WHY, 1T is HlDEot-s. "
am always glad to know anytltr
go l said, Tel US VIVA. d beautl!
figure is?'
As man does, when he is going
say something he thinks clever, this o
arose from his comfortable chair. a
allowed the mirror to see that Id Ma,
feet 2, had lovely complexion, and I
ugure OF III athlete. After we had
realized this, he announced, "a beau
tul figure must, before eyerytlin, Ill