Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1895-01-19

them. do not ride a free horse to death,
as the saying goes, but use sparingly, and
leave the dainty toilet conveniences in as
good a condition as you found them. Re-
ly found all the qpretty Christmas tides
and bits of brica-brac, the embroidered
| dresser scarf, match receivers, crocheted
| toilet traps and beribboned fancy affairs.
braided and embIoIdered pillow and sheet
shams that lots 0f nice people still use,
and the rugs in the guest chamber are gem
orally placed there because they are priced
too much to place where they will be bad
| ly used. If you ara dainty and thoughtful
| you will fold those shams carefully each
night and lay then. where they will not
get rumpled or soiled. You will not toss
burning matches into the last new re-
| ceiver, and scorch it beyond hope of repa-
ration. You will not spill any Of your
| toilet liquids on the rugs or carpet, and you
| will eat the tides and bureau scarf with
| tenderness and care. You will not push the
lace or muslin curtains back.in wrinkled
wad when you want more light, and you
will not carelessly splash water on the
| carpet. That is, you will not do these
| things If you are as refined as you would
| like people to think.
If the friend whom you are visiting has
! but one servant you will thoughtfully care
for your own room, making yourself as little
trouble as possible. You will always be
punctual to minute in getting to the
| breakfast table-and all other meals, but
| to breakfast particularly. There is no
| meal during the day which so upsets all a
housekeeper's calculations as a late break
| fast While you are creeping about your
| belated toilet the coffee is cooking itself
stale and the steak is getting ieathery.
| while the men of the house are mentally,
If not orally, execrattng you for making
| them late to business A well-bred girl
| will not give as an excuse that the break
| fast hour at home Is much later, for that
makes her hostess feel like criminal for
suggesting that her guest break over the
| habits of lifetime. Neither does the we'll
| bred girl remark On any Of the dishes serv-
ed that she detests one, or that anything
| on the table disagrees with her. On the
| contrary, she will get herself up in as
/ fascinating a morning dress as possible.
and come to breakfast on time. with
| smile and a kind word for everybody,
making believe that everything Is pleasing,
and that she is happy, even though she Is
| miserable. She keeps her wits about her,
and knows when to leave her hostess to
| herself. No guest is wanted around all
| the time, particularly in the morning, when
| the plans of the day have to be made and
| the house put in order. After the guest
has arranged her own room she will busy
| herself with her correspondence or read
ing. her fancy work, till her hostess is
at liberty. She does not go to the parlor to
| do her writing when her hostess has ar
| ranged for her to do 1t in her room. When
| the sitting room has been put in order for
| the day she does not snip silk or embroid-
| cry cotton all over the floor. necessitating
a second cleaning.
|
| The hostess whose guest is welcome in
| vites her friends to visit her and provides
| such other entertainment as lies in her
| power, and the guest has no other voice
in the matter than to accept it. No matter
how provincial it all seems, or how much
| she may be bored, it Is her duty to appear
| to enjoy 1t. She will always be ready to
| go when her hostess desires her to, and
| she will never express a desire to leave the
hon rH.vn ie Nf
for her hostess to go with her to pro-
vide her an escort. Above all things she
| will never invite to- visit or to even call
| upon her anybody of whom her hostess
| might not approve, and it would be basest
| ingratitude TO ask TO the house of ones
hostess ones very best friend. without
first gaining her permission. The well-bred
| guest never draws invidiouS comparisons
| between the house she is visiting and the
| one she visited last. and never remarks
| that they did things very differently there.
| wcll-bred, for it would imply either that
| they treated her better in the last place, or
that she felt that she had not been we'll
| treated, and that would leave her present
| hostess with the impression that at the
next place her guest went she herself
| would be discussed in like manner and her
| well-meant endeaTors spoken of slightingly.
Lastly. and, perhaps. most important of
| all, the well-bred guest never gossips, tells
| or talks about the family affairs of her
| friends to her hostess. The sometime
| guest OFTEN gets peeps INTO 1aHlly closets
| where repose whole cemeteries of skeletons.
| 1t is pure accident that reveals them ger
| orally, and only migrate would ever
| tattle of what happened. Sometimes
| sorrowfu family secret is uncovered; a
| family quarrel is witnessed unwittingly;
little economies before unsupported, are
| made known; thousand and one things
may happen, to which you must appear to
| be blind and to which, after leaving the
! house, you must be dumb. In ancient
! Greece 1t customary TO hang above the
| banGueting table Il rose. for sign that
| whatever was said and done there was to
be forgotten or only spoken of thereafter
| among those then present. To all others
the seal of silence was set upon all lips.
! Hence came sub rosa, or under the
| rose" 1t would be a splendid motto for
| all guests to carry with them.
| When the visit Is over and the guest has
| returned to her home. she will, within a
week. write to her hostess. expressing
thanks for the courtesies rendered her and
:, do it in a hearty way that will make the
| recipient believe that she means it. A girl
who does all these things. and does them
naturally, will never lack for invitations
| to pleasant homes. for she is the kind OF
girl that people like to have around;
| SONORA SARA.