Blackfoot news. (Blackfoot, Idaho) 1891-1902, 1895-10-05
Conrtsl,in after Marriage.

The American Rural Home.
We wish to say a few words IN al
gravity, to young farmers and Their
wives, who have entered into the near
est. sweetest, most sacred relation It
is possible for individuals to assume
towards one another, in this world
You have formed a life union to es-
tablish family; to obtain com
potency tor your support and for the
support and educationt,f thosehum
beings who may be the result OF your
union; to build up rural home that
shall be pleasant, beautiful dwell
ing-place for you while you live, and
Tor your children so long as they
shall live with you, and a place that
shall live in their memories, when
they shall have gone forth from the
parental home to establish, for them
/ selves, homes in the world.
| For some time previous TO mar,
riage, possibly for years, you passed
through a period OF what IS called
courtship, in common parlance, In
which essayed to win the favor, the
affections OF the other. During that
| time each sought to be agreeable TO
the other, in dress, in language and in
actions The young man, when about
to visit the young lady, undoubtly
tried to make herself as presentable
as possible. He probably washed
himself clean, so that he might not
carry any OF the dirt and filth OF the
farm and the domestic anamals into
the presence OF the lady, he was WOO
ing. He probably pat on clean linen,
brushed aud donned his best apparel,
blackened his boots, and presented
himself TO his lady at his very best.
And the young lady, does any one
doubt that she selected her most be-
coming dress, her most bewitching
ribbons and collar, and that her hair
was arranged in the most attractive
style, when She expected 4 visit from
her sutton?
Each had succeeded in winning the
love OF the other, and both are salts
isfed that their nuptial happiness viii
he greatly enhanced by uniting their
lives, travelling life 5 mysterious path
way together Doubtless, they individ-
ually create an ideal OF their future
married life, in which each shall find
his or her highest enjoyment and hap.
piness in ministering 70 the happiness
oil the other This is all we'll; il II
wisely ordained that the Young shall
indulge III bright lovely visions ot the
future and that the most Intense,m
powerful passions aud sentiments az
human nature shall conspireto bring
about the couiuaal uniDu
The marriage is consummated. tue
young couple move into their rural
home;does cOurtshjpcontinue2 But
says the reader, "they have won eAch
others love, wherefore the necessity
Of further conrtshtp3" Perhaps s0ne
OF the means used 90 win love, may ba
necessary TO retain it, Let us cOnsil,
err
In courtslip they seek 10 win love
by making themselves agreeable, by
seekingto please; can they retain love.
Il dlsaTeeable i!regardiess oi pleasing
There are numerous ways in which
those holding the relation Of husband
and wife may render themselves ugrec.
able or disaweeable 10 each other III
courtshIp We see how careful he man
is 10 make himself rs presentahlp ~
possible, when about To appear i'll the
presence Of her, he Is W0oimg. Can Ia
entirely neglect bis personal appear
ance after marriage without iumrjns
the feelings Of his wiie2 Can he "a into
the presence oil his wife. morning noon
and night, with sotlcd hands ana iace.
with his garments pa-tered with tie
earth he cultivates and odorous with
the scent OF domestic animals and his
boots smeared with their otfal with.
out provoking nher the thought that
ne Is q little lacking IN that tender rr-
spect which he always showed her III
his anti-uuptiaICourt-hip2
But how is he going to helm it2
You would not expect Il farmer to
change his clothes every time he GOES
into the house, would yougH
No, that would hardly be- practica.
bic. But It Is practicable for q farmer
70 50 arrange his dress for labor and T.
Tor the house that, with yery little (
delay, he can make himself quite pre. .
sentabIe, when becomes into his meals (
or to spend the evening ut his Preside.
Every farmhouse should have a back 4
lobby or entrance, as well as d front
nan, and therein farmer can harg
ms work clothes, or overhalls. There
should always De 4 foot.scraper and /.
mat at the back-door. The farmer. /
when he comes IN to his meals. cHn .
scrape and clean his boots ain 4
OH ms overhalls and on Ills clean .
coat, wash, brush his hair and T
clothes, and appear nj the table /
tolerabiy clean and free from Offensive \
odors. Il his boots are too fifthy III
clean, without CONSUMING
too much time, be can have 4 uair III .
slippers and boot-jack convient rs.
move his boots and put on his slip.
pers IN q very short time. Tint 81
probably the better way when IN Zoos
INTO the sitting room IN the eyening
and g soft dressing gown il neat and
comfortable, as an evening garment
The man feels more selfrespect com.
placency, in clean garments n tho
house, and the woman Il Hattered M n.
such an exhibition Of regard to her
feelings lnstsad Of saying, by action
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