New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1895-03-24


WHAT CARRIAGES TO f'f'
Many peore in modern society 80,
socn - choose as motto. IL ho' amused
m'h' N'''' ,,.,1" This lack OF conceal
~ 90 harslor, does not appear TO STRIKE 'hem
" ~. o,l,. in lad taste. but also as e''hc"hS "
al rorretfulness Of wha IS que rom 'ne'" "'
,-,.ste Indcel in accepting hoS'.'"''E' Wv
IN. f1c, SONS a. be that IL u S'N0-"''r- ''N
- 49,, particular obligation Is conferred
a"@'.' ""''' h,s,oss: if there is any favor be-
T.! ''v -. scouos to think he Is the obliSing
80" - r. o,te-tainment is not to the taste OF
boo soojlel children Of society theY 10 ho' Ak
tcront 70 conceal their sentiments.
81 10 not understand young men NOWADAYS,
.,r'.a1 q recent hostess You know my little
- has inst come out. and although have
-. .artqined for a long time. having been IN
,,t,,, and out OF it all for years, thought
q, .o,h like 70 do something for the child 80
go her a little dinner dance and asked all the
o,s and daughters of my old friends. After
roasonabla time had elapsed after the dinner, ana
one or two men had struggled into the drawing
room | set I.ander's man going at the piano eN-
pcctng of course that the evening Would emu uP
in a Jolly successful little dance My DEAR almost
all those wretched young men shut themselves up
in the smoking groom and never came onl uHui '"e
uartv broke IN, Perhaps in my ignorance had
no, brought the right set together, or perhaps 1t
was inst modern swagger; but whatever 1t was II
was dreadful The mon simply wouidh dahce'
so the girls just sat about until their carriages
came and then went home or course "o"iu NV
ask any of these young men to the mouse ae'IN
and nv husband SAYS he would like to eaten any
of ,bero astinc- him n favor downtown! Ana yet
dare saw that not one of these youths re"~' "
the least that he made anything max d" 's''
able impression s ., no
, Of tho ,rey1ilinC evils of the social me vi Nu'
~, - 90, e,an from a purely selfish motive, II
60. ;,t,re end 10 be agreeable. The most success
rnI persbns are those who never allow private "hAl-
e,ies or worries TO affect their manner WE" Inv!
are in the world bu: who can chatter on gayY even
though threats Of failure and home troubles are
hanging Ike swords of Damocles over their heads.
Women in these instances more airoit th3n
men: they have more social conScienuousneSs' or
perhaps a more innate desire 10 please But III any
case cares and ennui should be left at nome ana
really good manners call for forgetfuiness appar-
ent if not read Of self and kindly consideration
for others
The increased number Of divorces among people
in society cannot fail to strike a patriotic observer
unpleasantly. Certainly in no other country can
noople marry and remarry easily and apparently
without any disagreeabe consequences as in Amer
lea What society thinks of this condition Of ar
fairs is hard to say that Il is tolerated ana even
ignored by the world at large is obvious Individ-
uallv some are shocked and panied. no doubt but
by far the greater number of people are quite IN
different. and willing to accept their TRENDS
under the set conditions without questio-SeemlhsIy
rather amused than otherwise at the complica-
tons which arise when the principals marry again
and new family ties are formed The divorces
themselves adapt themselves TO the situation win
the greatest sang froid.
DO you suppose Miss A is going to marry that
horrid Mr. B. said Mrs. C. speaking OF her
former husband.
Il hear that Harry is going to be divorced again
remarked another fair dame about her late part
neg.
Certain 1t is that in this country az least di-
vorce does not necessarily affect her social posi-
ton provided her character suffers no injury.
Perhaps It is
Yet seen familiar with her face,
We first endure. pity. then embrace
And separations are becoming frequent That
they cease to excite much comment. Abroad 1t is
different. In England the Queen will not receive
any one who has divorced. the innocent suffer
ing with the guilty. for no discrimination is made
BIZ Her Majesty. This may in great measure ac-
count for the rarity Of divorces In that country
for 1t becomes a direct social injury, and women
will submit a great deal before they ostracize
themselves or hurt the prospects OF their children
In France also, there fewer divorces IMAM IN
America and this is an argument that might be
used in favor of the marriage de CONVEYANCE.
Such marriages may not be as romantic but they
have the advantage of being prudently considered.
There has been wave" of hastily arranged mar
rages of late among certain set OF young people
who have decided their future. hardly waiting TO
consult their friends. When one of these newly
made brides was asked why she did it in that way
she eigced and said for fun" Comment on such
a marriage is superhuous