Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1895-09-28

us to give pain where least we mean 1t
and when those we hurt are nearest and
dearest to US. Certain 1t Is that the home
life of the average American is far from
being what 1t should be, and the cause of
1t doubtless buries its roots in our never
ending hurry" our desperate endeavor to
us no time, SO we think, for the small
politenesses which are the oil to the ma
chinery of life, lack of which makes every
thing run hard, and soon ruins the finer
parts.
Perhaps. in the hurry and worry of busi-
ress life, men forget to be lovers, and think
their wives are TOO sensible to notice the
lack of sentiment SO long as they know
that down deep at heart the old love is as
warm as it ever was. But how do these
wives know it? II Jack comes down to
breakfast. and fiops down with the newspa-
per without a morning greeting to either
wife or children, it is certainly a cherries
beginning to the day.
Love and Sympathy Needed.
In their honeymoon days a kiss would
have been the only proper method, probably,
OF meeting his wife, and why isn't it worth
more now than 1t was then? Mary has been
VIE for twenty years or more. She has
fulfilled in every way the vows she made
at the altar, yet she walks more surely alone
today than if she wore no wedding ring.
She has no part In his plan of pleaSurable
existence, she cuts no figure in his thoughts,
she is no more to him than the Chinaman
that his wife he can always depend upon to
do as he wants, and his 1aundryman, he
can't. or course he loves her! He told her
SO, and he clinched it by marrying her!
That ought to satisfy her. But does it?
When a woman marries, does she, any more
than man. marry only for home, the
care of children, the burden of rearing
re reputable nell and women? Does she, at
the altar, solemnly promise that with the
taking of The name wife she will forever
forego all the sweet tenderness and cour-
tesies of her girlhood days?
And then the children! What can you
expect of boys and girls who grow up in
such an atmosphere? If the boy is to be a
little gentleman" he has got to have a
gentleman to pattern after. Will Jacks
10y find much of an exemplar in the home
example of his father? A boys first and
lasting impressions of manliness are usual
ly patterned after the father. [ am afraid
that Jack Brown, junior, will never be
Known as Chesterfield, and already people
are saying, What little limb, and how
does it happen?"
Son Like the Father.
You see. they Only judge by the public APP
rearance of Jack. senior. and they don't
kI ow that by right Of heredity from his
father he was born selfish, egotistical,
dc mineering and cruel. These traits have
been enhanced by home example. All the
teaching of his gentle mother would not
outweigh one single word of his father
whose crabbedness he already has letter per-
feet. Example is much stronger with chill
dren than precept and a mother may talk
till doomsday to her son about the evil of
certain things, but if that son sees his
father addicted to those habits, and the
father yet retains the esteem of his friends
and neighbors, you may be sure that it is
the example rather than the gentle precept
that will dominate him.
If his daughter is to be little lady" she
must be treated as such in her home that
she may know how to accept the attention
of gentlemen outside. All the talk Of her
mother will not convince her that her faith
err is not a beau ideal of department, and If
she accepts him as her eXamplar, her moral
tone must be lowered to his standard, if,
irdeed. she does not lose faith in all man
hind when she begins to measure her faith
er by the men whom she meets, and finds
that his double standard of morals and ETH
quette is not the accepted one.
SONORA SARA.