Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1895-03-21
ETIQUETTE OF TRAVELLING
How a Yousg Man should Act u,a.,
Various Circumstaac...
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What may a man DO. and ,,ha, -.
he not do with proEsis,y durinr ,ou,
ney In the course ~ which he 4. 40.
accompanied by women. or ,brov, -.
chance into their Company asks vo,n-
man OF the period: who adds th., a.,
mariners would be better douh,,ss, j,
he could ever find on, Just what a w.n'
bred woman il entitled to expec, ma.
the circumstances
The journey may be up ana dawn a..
an elevator II MAJ be round TIE xioh,
In both cases, and IN su event. ,h..
may 60 between those extremes Wv %s"st
good rule for young man 10 soliou, -.
is not quite sure of himself ia 10 A., g.,
as he would Ike any other young 49, -
! ne acquaintance to 10 if the yonn~ ~.
old woman In the case were tho siste, ~.
mother Of the wopld-be-polite but ner.
picked ycgth Wy
Women adore little attention, r,.>
the strongest-mindCd ones do A,
man who would be popular ann, -
early find this out lie must nos - -
his attentions extensively pointed h,, =,
he manages TO he extraordinarily civi,
and-more than that-thoughtfui. ana a.
! the same time act as II h. dld whatsvcr
he does as matter of course n. h.
going to win golden oplulons for Nj.
courtesy.
From raising or lowering a blind or
| window. TO obtaining a luncheon To- 60.
I unable to herself get oo a train by re,.
son of indisposition or because She 4.
! caring for n child etc. there is no,b,ns,
| man may not ofler with perfec, nro.
! rriety TO do for an unknown woman. nm
vlding there is no porter Who can as.ls,
her, and her own inability 20 ws,t unon
herself is patent But the well-bred usn
raises his hat as he asks 10 BE- sllowsa
10 be OF service, makes his reqs.st in a
! chivalrous fashion. with all sobriety. anJ
whether his offer II or Is not accepted. the
/ gentleman Will not afterward presume
T. enter into conversation. or make any
attempt TO force an acquaintance out OF
the act Of clyillty
NOT IN PERSON.
The polite man who Is willing % give
up lower car-herth or TO exchange nj,
car state-room for an open section or 10
| give Up his steamer state-roOm 20 ACCOM-
modate an invalid or a woman travelling
alone who by some mishap Is unpro-
vided with restlng-place. does not
| proffer the courtesy Of 50 much magnl-
tude In person TO the lady. lie should ask
the stewardess t. do so. In order to save
the lady to whom he would be merely
chvalrous the embarrassment of not
being sure that the offer is made by a gen.
tleman.
The polite man who finds himself the
escort Of ladies upon Journey. or one %
party as on large and long continued
excursion. during which everybody Is put
upon the footing OF acqualntances, and
may with propriety ofrer 20 ~ any u
the offices that he would viii his sister
10 accept at the hands ~ "A corresponding
acquaintance. He endeayors 90 spare the
ladies all possible care and annoyance,
such as looking after luggage. sc. but
he must not spend money FOR them with.
! out permitting them 20 repay any chance
outlay II the meeting II by chance AZ
the end of the journey. he, after seeing
ladies safely 10 their hotel. viii hlmse,,
go 20 another one II possible. In the case
OF An excursion. where all the r@riy have
rooms engaged at one hotel, the case Il
different from that OF one or two women
travelling without male relative. as In the
excursion party there are always hus.
bands, brothers. and chaperons.
The difference between the actiorb OF q
polite man and one who Is not Is yer,
often merely "A matter Of manner and nal
OF the act itself.
In fine. the etiquette OF travelling Il
very like that which obtains anywhere
among well-bred people Such circum
stances "A being In a wreck would maxi
n perfectly proper. II need hardly be said
for lady to accept attentions from .
strange gentleman that she could accep
under ordinary circumstances; but unde
the usual circumstances lady VIII b
grateful FOR and not resent the courtesie
made possible by the routine OF travel I
they are proffered by gentleman. In
gentleman's way. distanty. respectfully
without any after-presumng. where thel
DO not include The payment Of money
and preferably are made through the me
dlum OF a paid servant of the cars ship
or hotel. DlNAH sTuRGlS.