Omaha daily bee., 1895-11-10
4 GIRLS FIRST SEASON.
! o"chthG the Dcbutuntc TO Make n
Good Impression.

All over the country thousands OF Young
women are looking forward to Coming ont
TINS winter, says the New York Sun. To
an OF them the occasion is fraught with
interest, though with some of them the in
lerest is at higher pitch than with others.
10 some girls success in society is almost
d matter OF life or death. During the previous
lie" years, while undergoing the finishing
toucheS at boarding school, they have fairly
trenbled at the thought of the coming preat
event All their lives, indeed. has the i'm
portance OF the matter been drilled into them
ObJect lessons as well as words have scboolsd
'heh TO a proper appreciation. They have
seen ana nave reflected upon the conside~a-
ton bestowed by every one upon the bellies
Oh a season; as they have also seen and also
lgmtcleu upon the commiseration, II not
contempt, granted the noble army of women
VINO are not bellies. They know that to sue
ceel themselves there must be no half
way WORK; they must make every effort.
must strain every nerve. More than one
srI during the last year at boarding school
mas Deen heard to say: "Oh, If | don't sue
coed, what should l do? Why. there wouldn't
be anything left but hari-kari, so far as
can SEE
There are those, of course, who do not re-
bdIu the matter in quite the sam light.
young women, who, by force OF character or
by fortune of environment and other inau-
ences, realize that, after all, there are other
lhlhgs to live for. But, however one may
measure the Importance of coming out" no
'he can deny that it is important. 1t can
occur but once. Other events in life NAV be
or encored. but coming OUT is
never to be repeated, just as being young is
!eVer TO be repeated. This fundamental
act, coupled with the stress ii receives from
he world of convention, accounts for the
.steem in which social success" is held.
lany a young woman has failed, too, simply
rom lack of knowledge, not from lack Of
interest. {
There was once two sisters. one OF whom |
ad just entered upon her first season, The S
ther was an experienced creature who had 5
cen out two years. Each was fairly well Z
avored, but it was the latter who was a f
1clal success. At dances she had more part
ers than she knew what to do with; she il
as greatly in demand at dinners, both by
ostesses and guests, and at unwieldly af- \
llrs' like receptions, her presence was looked "
pom as as much of a necessity as the music. q
lie flowers and the supper. 'She made things $
as one hostess expressed it. But with n
other girl it was different. She allowed
erseit to be handicapped by her youth and fl
experience. At dances she languished in :,
'rners alone; at dinners she ate her way n,
through, as though they were flu h.
'ral baked meats that were before her. t m
and the like she simply stood Al
9and ana iQngeSdo 1T to 80 h"~A.' aea.',o. IN
onhle You must begin right on nv " II NJ
lk' la'E wotcbed YOU time and again. Mmg, az
j, " .hara the other night at Mrs' NJ
" dinner hardly opening YOU, s % &C
,Gsp > to eat, and for ,, my P %6en l you aSn : we're ere ia
ow you " n stupid time. What you ousnt b
aying sGcn d vas to turn to that man next r.
} haES hove inst talked a stralght sIlean' q
~ ~, aors fairly hummed. vi couIav ="
,hat YOU say during this hrsI t it,u he t
a n" all nonsense, more or less u oG ,ne !" sound % o
pracrce, voice, YOUR tongue will get used a
Il your Nm Jmr and the first thing you know c
o wagging; w too, as we'll as the words
Move all, my dear, never talk ak n riv inter
Nny,S as if you weren't , pa arn'S ratSer f" talk
,sted. Talk to a man as II you ~ tbe world
to to,i MI" for ,rg social success that I know OF that >
canal to it,"