The Washington times., 1895-01-13

out that it is thought to be polite TO send their
visiting cards TO people whose wedding is an
nounced. but many do not vet know that these
cards mean the same thing as a call. There
fore Mrs. Brown must pat into its noat little
card envelope one OF her cards, and two of
Mr. Browns. IL is not au fait for her to call
upon Mr. Jones. but il is polite for DIR. Brown
10 call upon both Mr.. aud Mrs. Jones. hence
lie sends Two cards. Ii Mrs. L. goes in per-
son to can upon Mrs. j. and Mr. B. cannot
go. then she takes for him and leaves as she
is departing from Mrs. U.s., two Of her hus-
bands cards.
II the hostess is in the reception room. it is
unnecessary TO leave cards unless one wishes
TO report new address.
Only an intimate friend in making a call
should ssad up his name by word of mouth
by servant. Servants make bad work OF
names that are unfamiliar to chem. More
over, supposing you are Mr. Smith, perhaps
the hostess knows several Smiths, and wishes
TO know whether You are Smith. the look
agent. or Smith. the society nan, whom she
rather hopss Is thinking twice about her
daughter. Your card viii tell the story.
Theoretically, If you make Il call and find
I the people not at home, you should leave
| card of Mrs. b. and a card OF Miss b., if she
be ont in society. for every lady in the Jones
family. including any lady who may be visit
ing them, also one OF Mr.. Il. for each one OF
the ladies, and an extra ore for Mr.. Jones.
| But where the family includes several grown
! up daughters and al aunt or two. and several
! sons who are in society the multiplication
( table is only mild comparison 10 the arith-
i mstieal problem that ensues.
The long and short of IT is that even in the
/ best OF society in this country. the mother
ani daughter leave card apiece and two OF
! the husband aud fathers Zone for the ladies
! aad one for the Inaa Of the family.)
But if Mrs. Jones has IA visitor and the
Browns are paying a ATTY call for something
1 given in honor Of the guest. they must each
! leave card for the visitor and also one OF
Mr.. BIS FOR her
The Gus. ON OF leaving your card in the
hall after a reception still obtains in good So
! ciety oVor here. Ii helps the hostess TO re-
member whether you were factor IN the
: crush or not. and costs you a pretty penny
for cards in tie course of the season. for il Is
( necessary. according to usage. 10 leave a card
for each lady whose name appeared en- the in
vitation. IL Miss Jones gives an ''at home
for Miss Jones, or Miss or Mrs. Anybody, You
must leave two cards and each OF your daugh.
ters who is invited goes and leaves two cards
or STAYS away and sends them by you, and
then your husband and each OF your sons
who is in society leaves two cards or sends
them by you. Ii none of you can go, you al
send cards on tne day of the reception.
If il were an X. S. Y. p. affair then you re
piled at once on note paper, and in the same
style of wording in which the invitation wa;
engraved. II you declined that's all yol
have 10 do except make party call after
ward. III you accepted them leave cards n
the time, and call aiterward.
Regret or accept to the people who issue:
the invitations always. If you know Miilie
Jones. and her father and mother invite you
to her wedding. reply to them, not to Millie
though you may write as many reams as you
please 10 her personally. But when yoI
can6 W9ddinD nrqcant Gand that With
your visiting card and one of your husband.
to Millie.
"The innocence OF the intention abate'
nothing of the mischief of the example,"
is not enough TO mean to be too civil. Yot
must show that you are. B. A. w.