The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1895-09-29

Maude Murray, in writing recently OF
the relation of mother TO son, cOncludes
by a good bit of advice Inc youth
must remember that the world VIII &c
cept him at his own estimate only a.
he lives up to it, she says. lie may TAKE
any place in the world when ne Ieeis
he has the ability 10 I'll, ana no Que
will dispute his right II lac fills IT accept
ablv. He is not valuable unless he makes
himself so. 1t is useless 10 worry ABOUT
what others think of him. His estimate
of himself will set the standard lot
others. When a new boy enters school
the other bows seem to know instinct
lively what gauge 10 put upon ms apility
and courage Naturally he must carry
in mis- face and manner his true WORTH
10 be so quickly judged new boy may
pretend for day, perhaps, but MS pre-
tensions do not long deceive any one. II
the boy is a hero he need not tell II; the
fact shows i'm the glance Of his eye,
the carriage Of his head, the glow OF MS
face.
The mother has doubtless impressed
upon her sons mind long before TINS lhe
Importance of being strictly honest put
now, as he enters the business Woilu'
she must again warn him OF the misery
which a lack Of perfect honesty entails.
n man may Dt vel AAs4AN-'N-N N
keen out OF the laws reach. for many
things may be legal which are not strict
w honest. IL appears to be the pohcy
of some men to go as far as possible
within the limit of the law, ana IL is Ger
tainlv q little discouraging TO an honest
man TO see that his dishonest neighpor
is so successful-using the world In the
worldly sense as relating TO money max
ing.
4 business man cannot afford to be
hastily in temper; every feeling every
thought and action has 'ts bearing on
the temper. and IL is constantly peills
made better or worse. 1t IS fortunate
# one can always overcome the tendency
TO give way to such feeling IT mas peen
wisely said: "Never give way TO what Is
little, or by that little, however you may
despise IL. you will be practically gov
erned
The youth must learn to rely upon
himself. IL will weaken him If he sits
idlv and expects to gain an end through
tho Influence of some friend or relative.
II ne can have such assistance all well
and good but let him not wait Tor IL.
Self-help is the foundation for all eN-
pectations. Those having most export
ence In charitable work know that The
true way TO help the needy IS to give
them work. Almssiving almost mVarla-
bly, leads TO idleness.
The value of time must he appreciated
by "A youth who hopes 10 make a success
fnl business man. On tie dial OF All
Soul's Church. oxford, is inscribed these
solemn words: "The hours perish and
are laid to oar charge" Lost time can
not be recalled and every moment of IT
should he spent to advantage in some
way. II boy wastes his gown time, ne
has no right TO break i'm upon that of
another. Only great workers realize how
much can be accomplished in "odd mo-
ments."
Let not the youth become alarmed
when we say the successful business man
must be Industrious. patient, honest
truthful temperate, prompt self-respect-
ing, persevering, conscientious. polite
neat in his dress. God-fearing and law
abiding. With such traits. there can be
no failure Yes men have succeeded IN
acquiring wealth who dl1 not possess
all these traits. but ether and greater
things were denied them.
As a last word. Let the boy be self
reliant. Insist on yourself. never imi-
tate" saws Ruskin. "YOur own sift you
ran present every moment with the
cumulative force OF a whole life's cult
walton: but OF the adopted talent OF
another you have only an extemporane-
Gus, half possession That which each
can do best. none but his Maker can
teach him. No man yet knows what II
is. nor can. till that person has exhibited
It, Do that which is assigned thee. and
tho4 canst not hope too much or dare
too much. "-Philaklph!a Press.