Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1895-01-19

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S$5 friend of mine spoke
| 1 Of the daughter of an
| old schoolmate. who had come to visit her
| and see Washington as we'll.
"She seemed to me to be girl Of keen
perceptions" 1 remarked, land quite equal
| to almost any emergency. Indeed, I thought
| she made quite a graceful appearance at
| your tea"
| ''Oh, dear, yes, she knows well enough
| how to carry herself in company. but she
| is utterly selfish and it surprises me, for
you know her mother was one of the most
| self-sacrificing girls in college. OF course,
| she is young yet and might learn. but 1
| fear her sefshness is so thoroughly
| grounded now that reform is out of the
| question. 1 don't usually discuss my
| guests, but we have 50 often talked over
| the shortcomings of girls compared to
| what was expected of us when we were
young that 1 would just like to tell you
| how Minnie imposed me- You know
| have but one servant now, and a small
| maid to run errandS and wait upon the
door. 1 expected to get another at once
when asked Minnie to visit US, but Bar
| ton thought she would be WELL enough to
return right after the holidays, and as
| she is capable, 1 concluded to wait.
Then L remembered how helpful and
| sweet Minnie's mother always was. and
| said to myself that her daughter would
| certainly be like her. and willing to wait
upon herself a little. The evening she
came she had bad headache. and said
| that nothing would help it but to have
her hair combed-you know what long.
beautiful hair she has-so my small hand
maid was set to do the task She made a
mess of it, for she can scarcely comb her
own locks, got scolded by Minnie, and now
hates her most heartily. But every day
while Minnie remained she took my maid
from the door for an hour to comb her
hair, She never got up to breakfast. but
came down an hour or more late, though
l told her at what hour we breakfasted.
The third morning she rang for her coffee
and roll to be brought to her room.
Mamma always brings it to me at home,
she informed me when carried the tray
up myself. and 1 feel quite weak for an
| hour or two if 1 don't get my coffee in
bed,'
She Was Not n JOY.
She was extremely untidy about her
| room. and left her belongings scattered
about over dressing case. chairs and couch,
and never once thought of even turning
back the clothes to air her bed, to say
nothing of making it, as you and I We're
| taught to do, even when We visited in a
| house with a number of servants. She
| quite deprived my mother of her favorte
| chair in the family room, and gave such
distinct disapproval of pipe that my
husband had to indulge in his only dis
sipation in the privacy of our room or for
go the pleasure entirely. She detested chill
dren and numerically snubbed Rex, who
greatly admired her pretty face and. child
| like, wanted to touch it with his hands.
AS for the baby, she remarked more than
once that squalling baby ought to be
| choked, Oh, 1 can't begin to tell you all
| the awful things she said and did, and
| never in my life before was l so delighted
| to see the door close behind an invited
| guest The minute Lucille is out of long
| oil 7 int tn educating
| how to become an acceptable guest.
Now / have more than once questioned
| myself why it is that so few girls know
| how to behave when away from home,
| and for the time being made a member of
| the family which they are visiting. 1 have
been dreadfully tried by girl friends of
| both Dorothy and Rose. but one never
| quite likes to discuss the faults and fail
| ings of those who have broken bread and
| eaten salt under ones own roof on foot
! ing of equality, so beyond trying to cor
| that have discovered in the girls I haI @
| kept my peace. After all II young girl
| is not instructed how to demean herself
| in the hcme Of another she can't be eX-
| pected to know much about it,
Minnie demonstrated that. She had been
| used to being waited upon by her mother
when at home, and Was quite helpless
when away. 1t suddenly burst over me-
| that if Rose were to go away from me she
| would be quite as troublesome. for there
| are many things she has not been taught
| and she has never learned to care for her
| own hair / like to comb and arrange her
| long yellow braids and never think of 1t
| as task. This morning ! surprised Rose
| by telling her she must learn to do it her
| self. 1t nearly broke her heart, and 1
| couldn't see much better than she when
| she looked with rueful, tear-dinlmed eyes
| at the reflection in the mirror of her untidy
| efforts at cotfuring herself
| Duties of n Guest.
| 81 think 1t is just dreadful to grow up
she cried at last. young ladies don't have
| near as nice a time as just girls; they Lave
| to do everything for themselves and be so
| proper, and never can he excused for any
| thing because they are such children
| l suppose I an, spoiled" she ended a little
| sadly as she turned from the mirror, but
indeed. Sara, I'd 50 much rather be Rose
| III bloom than Rose I'll try to be very
| good if You OILY won't treat me grown up.
Just play you have not time to do my
hair and rl:trcure my nails and things, and
| it won't seem half so hard. Every time
/ you say you are old enough to do things
| yourself 1 want to cry.
| be so foolish?' No, i didn't L kissed her
grieved red lips and told her it should
| be she wished, and that she should be
| a child as long as she wished and she
l SHALL but it shall not hinder her from
| being a womanly helpful one
| 1 don't believe that there are many
women who realize that social success de-
| ponds as much upon knowing how to be
entertained as upon knowing how to en-
| terrain. The girl who is selfish, arrogant,
pretentious, indolent, unpunctual or given
| to gossip is never a welcome guest in a
well-regulated household. a girl who
| boasts of Saying what she thinks, regard
| less of consequences" is never a welcome
guest, either. In fact it takes more talent
| and greater degree of culture to make
! one a welcome visitor than it does to do
| anything else in social life. You have to
| remember that you have been invited-for
| of course you are not guilty of such a
| breach of social customs as to go any
where uninvited-because of the pleasure
| your presence in the house would give.
| Hence it should be your chief aim while
under the hospitable roof to make your
self agreeable.
| When you prepare for your visit you
| should consider it in every light, and make
| your arrangements accordingly. II the
! friend whose guest you are 10 be is en-
| dowed with few of this worlds goods
| in proportion to your own 1t will be ex-
| ccedingly bad taste for you to carry with
I Won a lot of fine new gowns which will
xfar outshne her modest wardrobe. Honor
ner by wearing pretty toilets. of course,
/ but do not express in them the fact that
| your father has money to burn" Supply
| yourself with all the necessary toilet and
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