Essex County herald. [volume] (Guildhall, Vt.) 1873-1964, 1895-03-22

I ne ANuAft--- OF the lnilrA NLAlt~ uFeftS 10
move for change Of the National C0nsiitu-
tion and % appoint eommiitee-n0t made
up % single gentlemen. but OF men OF fami-
lies. and their families In Mashington-whO
shall prepare a good. honest. righteous. com
prehensiye. uniform law that will control
everything from Sandy Hook to the Golden
Horn. That will put an end 10 broken ties
in marriages. That will send divorce law
yers into decent business. That will set
people sgita.ed for many years on the Ques-
lion Of nov SHAH they get away from each
otter 90 planning how they can adjust them
selves TO the mo-e or less unfayorable circum-
stances.
More difficult divorce will put al estoppel
to great extent upon marriage rs a iinan-
cial speculation. There are men who 90 in
TO the relation just as they go into Wall street
20 purchase shares The female 10 be invited
into the partnership OF wedlOck is utterly
unattraetiye and in disposition a suppressed
Nesuyius. Everybody knows il but this mas
culine candidate for matrimonial orders.
through the commercial agency or through
the county records. finds out how much
estate IL to be inherited. and he calculates il.
He thinks out how long 1t will be before the
old man will die. and whether he can stand
the refractory temper until he does die. and
then he enters the relation, for he says. Iii
| cannot stand il, then through the divorce
law I'll back out" That process is going on
all the time. and men enter the relation with
out any moral principle. without any affec-
tiOn,and II is as much matter OF stock spec
ulation as anything that transpired yesterday
in Union Pacific. Illinois Central or Della
ware and Lacsawanna.
Now. suppose a man understood, as he
ought TO understand. that II he goes into that
relation there is no possibility of his getting
out or no probability, he would be more slow
to put his neck in the yoke. He would say
to himself, Rather than Caribbean whirl-
wind with whole feet OF shipping in its
arms give me zephyr of fields Of sunshine
aud gardens of peace.
Rigorous divorce law will also hinder wO-
men from the fatal mistake u marrying men
to reform them. II young man by twenty
five years Of age or thirty years Of age have
the habit OF strong drink fixed on him. he il
as certainly bound for Il drunkard's grave a.
that tram starting out from Grand Central
Depot at O'Clock tomorrow morning is
bound for Albany. The train may not reach
Albany. for 1t may be thrown of the track.
The young man may not reach drunkard's
grave, for something may throw him OFF the
iron track OF evil habit, but the probability l.
that the train that starts tomorrow morning
at s o'clock for Albany will get there. and
the probability il that the young man who
before twenty-five or thirty years OF age will
arrive at Il drunkards grave. She knows he
drinks, although he tries to hide il by chew
ing cloves. Everybody knows he drinks.
Parents warn; neigE bors and friends warn
she will marry him. she will reform him.
Ifshe is unsuccessful in the experiment, why
then the divorce las will emaneipate her be-
cause habitual drunkenness is cause for di-
vorce in Indiana, Kentucky. Florida, Con-
necticut and nearly all the States. So the
poor thing goes to the altar Of sacrifice. II
you will show me the poverty struck streets
In any city, will show you the homes Of the
women who married men to reform theIh. In
one case out OF 900 Il may be successful
experiment. | never saw the successful eX-
pertinent But have a rigorous divorce law,
and that woman will say. III am aiilanced
10 that man. il Is for life.
rigorous divorce law will also do much
to hinder hasty and incOnsiderate mar
riages Under the impression that one can
be easily released people enter the relation
without inquiry and without reflection.
Romance and impulse rule the day. Per.
hapg the only ground for the marriage COM
pact is that she likes his looks, and he ad-
miIes .Ae graceful way she passes around
the Ice cream at the picnic. II is all they
know ABOUT each othe7 1t is all the prepare
tion for life. A wCuel taat could not make
loaf OF bread to save her life will swear 10
cherish and obey. A Christian will marry
an atheist, ana that always makes con.
Joined wretchedness for II a man does not
believe there Is God ne is neither to be
trusted with dollar nor with your lifelong
happiness. Having read much about love
/ In cottage. people brought up In ease will
/ 20 and starve in a hOve!.
/ BY the wreck Of 10, coo homes, by the holo
/ caust Of 10000 sacrificed men and women
/ by the hearthstone OF the family, which is
( the cornerstone of the State, and in the
name OF that God who hath set upthe family
institution, and who hath made the break.
I ins of the martial oath the most appalling
/ Of all perjuries, implore the Congress OF
/ the United States to make some righteous
uniform law for all the States, and from
ocean 10 ocsxn, on this subject of marriage
I and divorce
Let me say TO the hundreds of Young peo-
pie In this house this afternoon. before you
give your heart and hand in holy alliance ust
/ all cautions. Inquire outside AS To- habits
explore the disposition. scrUtinize the taste
/ question the ancestry and find out the am.
billions. Do not take the heroes and the
heroines of cheap novels for model. ID
not put your lifetime happiness in the keep
| ing of q man who has a reputation for being
| little loose in morals or in the keeping Of {
| woman who dresses fast Remember that
while good looks are kindly gift of God
wrinkles or accident may despoil them. Re
member that Byron was no more celebrated
for his beauty than for his depravity. Re
member that Agsalom's hair was not mort
splendid than his habits were despicable
Hear it. hear IT. The only foundation 70
happy marriage that has ever been or eve
will he is good character
Ask God whom you shall marry il yol
marry at all. A union formed In prayer vii
be happy union, though sickness pale tn
cheek. and poverty empty 1.-The bread tray
and death open the small graves, and all tn
path of life be strevn with thorns from tn
marriage altar with its wedding march ant
orange blossoms clear on down to the las
farewell atthat gate where Isaac and Rebecca
Abraham and Sarah. Adam and Eve parted
And let me say to you who are In this re
lation, If you make one man or woman hap
py, you have not lived in vain. Christ say
that what He Is to the church you ought t
be to each other. and II sometimes through
difference of opinion or difference of dispo
stion you make up your mind that you
marriage was a mistake patiently bear ant
forbear, remembering that life at the longes
is short, and that for those who have beef
badly mated In this world death will Civ
quick and immediate bill of dtvorcemen
written in letters of green grass on quie
graves. And perhaps, my brother, my sis
ter, perhaps you may appreciate each othe
better in heaven than you have appreciate
each other on earth.
In the Farm Ballads" our American poe
puts into the lips of repentant husban
after life OF married perturbation these sug
gestive words:
And when she dies | wish that she would b
laid by me,
And lying together in silence perhaps W
will agree,
And if ever we meet in heaven I would nc
think it queer
Ii we love each other better because we qual
relied here.
And let me say to those of you who are
happy married union avoid first quarrel
have no unexplained correspondence wit
former admirers; cultivate no suspicious;
moment Of bad temper do not rush out an
tell the neighbors; do not let any of thos
gnd-ahouts OF society unload in YOUR hons