The morning times., 1895-07-21
Women Who Hauo Wedded
Men Of fh0 Hrnly and Navy
Life on the Frontier or Away From a Seagoing
Husband Is Not Always the Most Desir-
able Thing Earth s.

v
the church in the most fashionable section
of the city is crowded with elegantly
dressed onlookers the groom, bestm man and
ushers are resplendent in gold lace and the
bridesmaids Il dream of beauty III their
costly gowns.
1t is all very fine then but 1t is quite a
different matter when it comes TO leaving
the East and going away out to some
frontier settlement remote from civilization
to endure the hardshjps aud privations OF
garrso life.
A S time wears on the natural attack of
homesickness follows aud the poor bride
has Il hard time of it to conceal from her
husband that she wishes herself back East
among friends and kindred. Added 10 all
this are the terrors of Indian warfare for,
while the wives are not called upon TO 90 out
to fight the savages, the knowledge that
those whom they most dearly loye, their
husbands, the fathers of their children,
arein momentary peril, isquiteas narrowing
and the suffering itenta lis Is beyond the con
ception of those who lead the safe, sheltered
lives in which knowledge OF such things is
only gained from reading in the papers
accounts of Indian warfare and wholesale
massacres by the painted red man.
NOT ALWAYS SERENE.
That spirit of unan nimity generally sup
posed to exist among little birds in their
nests by no means always finds counter
part in the shut-in, isolated lives at army
posts in the far West and remote regions
generally. Quite the reverse is too often
the case for there are unfortunately dis
agreeable people everywhere and the
presence OF even one such at post IS sur
| fiicent to make the greatest amount OF
discomfort.
When il comes To being ordered to such
remote posts, away from schools and edu-
CatiUHal facilities, the real hardshipS OF
| life are understood TO the utmost by the
| wives Of army officers This condition OF
| things is hcttered when II is possible 10
! place the children in the care of compe-
| tent governess. but as few OF the army
| families can afford this luxury the result
! is to increase tcnfOld the duties of the wife.
Added 10 everything else she must then
| be school teacher, goyerness, and nurse,
| as well as SeamstreSs, for the little onea.
! 4 young officer ordered 10 the West
| seldom leaves frontier life until ne is We'll
| on To middle age, unless. of course, he mas
| sufficient Influence to get his orders
| changed Thus il happens, because OF the
! lack Of means TO accomplish the long ana
expensive journey back East, the young
| couple pass their youth away from al!
| their earl V surrOu ndings.
Truly, the glitter Of army buttons and
| showing of gold lace on parade is q fine
sight but it does not compensate for al
things.
THREE YEARS SEA DUTY.
In the case Of n young naval officer II
is hardly better, especially when, as fire.
quently happens, the three years sea duty
comes shortly after marriage, even some
times while the honeymoon Is in fun
shine. If the young couple has means be
yOnd the pay of the officer the wife can see
her husband FROM time 10 time during thE
cruise by packing up and following him
| al INF aaT
puts into port Between whIles, alone
away from home and friends from every
one. in fact whom she has ever known
her lot is not an fnvably happy one.
When, however. as sometimes happens
the matter of expense Is 10 he considered
the young wife must stay at home and bca
up under the separat ion as best she may
Then Il is she knows what II is to cny,
those of her friends who have cast il
their lot with and married civilians
Then it is that the glamour OF gold lac
falls from her eyes, and she wishes witt
all her heart thai the man OF her chOic
had selected TO make his life work outsld
either branch OF the service.
After the lapse Of years, when the office
is able to settle down in home of his own
the benefit Of those years OF wandering II
foreign ports is appreciated by the wifi
from a different standpoint Her hous
is filled with rare and curious relics
picked up in all parts OF the world, eacl
having their own peculiar history and asso
ciation, instead Of, as in the majority o
cases, having been gathered from the brC
a-braC shops of her native land.
II isn't much of compensation, all thing
| considered, unless the Wife has happil
, | followed her husband around the world, an
taken part, as much as compatible wit
naval regulations, in his travels
Some of the handsomest establishments
| owned hV the T1millp
of A rmy and Navy officers, and the amour
| of wealth possessed by those making thei
home within the District limits is great.
> SOME OF THE WEALTHIEST.
e The Lieutenant-Generalo of the rmy an
Mrs Schofield, while not TO be classed in th
list of very wealthy people, are yet po
sessed of sufficient means 10 enable theI
to lead life of far more than the ordinar
, | amount of ease and comfort. Mrs. Scht
field is one of the hest dressed women i
:, | Washington society, not only because {
the materials of her gowns, but for III
taste displayed in their selection. He
home is one Of the Centers of enteTtainin
during the season, for though no large ever
ing receptions are given, the number {
dinner parties and luncheons at which sh
\ is hostess will compare most fayora6ly wit
= that of any fashonab bic in Washington.
Admiral and Mrs Ramsay have pleasar
| y
: with dinner parties and luncheons Th
= exception TO this was last season, when on
of the largest afternoon teas of the SeaSo
was given to introduce their daughte
y Mrs Ramsay does not allow her soci;
o duties 10 interfere with those she has mappe
+ out in the line of charitable work.
a No woman in washington society accom-
plishes more in this line than Mrs. Ran
q say. She is always ready to co-opera
y | in any charitable entertainment that
s gotten up. and at the same time, in ht
>. own modest fashion, contributes her quoi
a in addition to giving her time and energle
II Mrs. Sheridan has a pleasant home {
e Rhode Island avenue and Seyenteent
1t street. the one presented to Gen. Sherida
e shortly before his death. Since that tin
N until last winter. when her oldest daug
d ter was introduced in society, Mrs. Shel
dan has lived very quietly. She has
ir comfortable income that enables her
D. keep up her Washington establisame1
\ and the summer home at Nonquit wi
st every comfort and luxury.
Ie THOSE WHO ENTERTAIN.
Mrs Hazen. 3widow of the late Ge
1t Hazen. is one of the wealthiest wom
IS in Washington society, and during L
- season always takes her part in entt
9 tanning
o. ., Lieut.. and Mrs. Richardson Glover ha
n. one of the handsomest houses owned by t
army and navy contingent of society. tt
u as is now closed, as they are spending t
40 summer, according to their usual plan,
~ their ranch in the Napa Valley in Ca
AZ AZ fornia. Last winter Mrs. Glover open
bt her house for a grand fancy ball for I
~ ~ first time since her marriage, as she h
~ been in mourning for the greater portl
~ of that time. Before her marriage,
,ss Miss Dora Miller, the only daughter
hpr