San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1895-09-22


slider it is your right to see that
the inside track is kept clear for
yourself. Let this fact be clearly
understood at the outset.
1t is always the right of the
strong to yield to the weak, whe n
such yielding will not compromise
principle, disturb relation, or work
unhappiness, but where such re.
suits are foreshadowed it is your
business to step in and interfere
1t is your place to settle these
things and not to impose the bur.
den upon your wife, but it is your
business also, as her protector. to
make no movement to an exclusion
Of any of her friends, unless such
becomes real and apparent neces-
sity. The honor Of your home is in
your hands, and il through any in
advertance in any quarter it is
likely to be compromised it is your
right to interfere, no matter how
disagreeable the task.
Your rights will not be much
questioned by the trusting woman,
your wife, who sees on trial and
with growing acquaintance that
you are as mindful Of your duties
as of your privileges, and of her
rights and pleasures as Of your own.
II, however, you have been so un.
fortunate as to tie yourself to an
unappreciative woman it cannot
be helped, and you must make the
NEST Of your bargain. Providing
for her comfort and welfare, and
sacredly cherishing her, it it your
right to insist that your rights as
provider, custodian of the honor of
the house and its real authority in
case Of final decision, be recognized.
Firmness and kindness and gre
consideration are required in ad-
justing these relations, but if there
be real affection on both sides there
will be a growing harmony in all
things.
Tenderness is the greatest of all
charms in strong, masterful man,
and the husband who is both strong
and tender, loving aud manly,
more indulgent to his wife than to
himself, will find that the cords OF
affection that bind his wife to
him will grow stronger each
succeeding year and in the
end she will have but little will
aside from his own, her chief de-
light to minister to his pleasure.
The good old admonition "Hus-
bands, love your wives and be not
bitter against them" covers acres
Of ground in this matter of matri-
monial adjustment. There is
scarcely a phase Of the whole ques-
tion that may not finds its equit-
able and proper adjustment in this
consideration of love and kindness.
1t is your right to share your wife's
heart in all things, and it will be
your own fault if you do not, but
II she does not voluntarily accord
you such share you cannot secure
it by any assertion of right. You
must draw her heart to you by the
attractions OF your own or you will
stay apart ;you must win your way
by kindness and manliness and in
terest in her, or remain outside.
1t is your right to regulate the
expenses Of your home. AS the
man, you provide for those expen-
SOS. You know what your resour-
ces are, what your liabilities in the
world Of business are, what your
profits and losses are, what you
can afford to spend and what is be.
yond your means, and it is for you
to put your hand upon any extrav-
agance that is likely to embar-
rass you. Remember that your
wife is as much interested in know
ing and understanding these things
as you are. She will not object to
your regulation Of home expenses
when she knows that your person
al expenses are on the same foot
ing. II she does, then your duty
is plain. Step in with authority =,
inform her fully as to your circum-
stances and what you can afford