The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1895-05-19
MATRIMoNY AND GOSSIP.
BAB CONSIDERS THE FORMER A
CORNERSTONE. CLIPPED AND
MARRIED.

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Rights and NIan's-NIen shatter the
Commandments. But Women Do
Morse-Passion and Habit UIu-
mateIy Stray Apnrf-NOt ITO watt
but ITO Know How 40 wait"
New York May lS.-The getting married
continues. And one Is forced TO wonder
whether the desirability of mating these
two people who look so radiantly happy
has been thought very much about. 1 am
believer in marriage. I regard marriage
as the cornerstone OF the state-but just
now It Is the cornerstone that is Clipped
and married in a most awful way. Mar
riage. as IL presents itself 10 the locker
on, represents a girl in white satin and
orange blossoms, a troop of bridesmaids.
a procession OF ushers' and a shower If
rice. And. then. too often. comes a rap
turous six months of love-making. a year
OF misunderstanding and disappointment,
and then a stOud and sombre settling
down and accepting the inevitable. Some
times making the best of it, sometimes
not. Marriage, as ii should be. ought to
! have a preface in which two people try
to find out whether they have tastes in
common, whether they are sympathetic,
whether If one lost his temper the other
could control hers. and whether they will
not grow weary. horribly. mournfully. des-
| perately weary of seeing each other three
hundred and sixty-five times year across
the dinner table.
What have they a right to expect in
marriage Giving the precedence to the
lady, think that she has right to expect
all the devotion that lover could give;
all the consideration that a brother could
offer, and then a certain amount Of pa
ternal care. A man has the right to claim
in marriage all the joys of friendship and
much more. Many times he gets an inn
pulsive affection and very little sympa-
thy. Undoubtedly. men do shatter the
/ commandments, but "A woman can commit
sins that are worse. She can be aggra-
\ waiting and wearisome beyond express
/ sion. and nine times out of ten her mar
riage is a failure because she is TOO little
I a wife and too much a mother. I don [
mean by this that any woman has the
/ right TO shirk the pains, or joys. of moth
/ erhood, but, too often because of the love
/ FOR the babies. the husband is regarded
merely as a nee eSsary evil. Women are
creatures of habit. and once they are
/ on the sea of thorvbflessness Thai dan
gerOus sea, they find before they know IT,
that their little bark marked Husband"
mas drifted away and cannot be drawn
! back
A very clever somebody once said that
I when passion and habit lie long In COM
pany, II is only slowly but II Is surely
gone. Now, there is the woman, the gem
] eral woman who says in halt wearied.
young girl / expec led everything in MARI
! ried hfe! Very little, my friend. comes
from expectation. There Is an immense
amount of proof n that old French pro-
verb. IAN things come to him who
! knoweth how to walt" People remember
| the first, but forget the last of It, which
is the important part. 1t is the know
/ ing how. 1t doesn't mean sitting
| with your han1s folded and your
| lips parted, waiting indifferently for the
! ripe red cherries TO fall into your mouth
| 1t means selecting the right place. watch
| ing the cherry until II Is ready TO fall
! and then catching II so that il is not
| bruised IN the tumble. The trouble in
| marriage is the average woman sees too
much Of her husband, and then she doesn {
have a sufficient number of outside inter
| ests to amuse hfm with She Is inclined
to give MIN a little too much of that house
which is Queen Anne in front and Mary
| Ann at the back, and she is surprised that
he isn't as much interested in the kitchen
one Of the greatest statesmen that ever
| lived, l mean Benjamin Disraeli, had the
/ most perfect married life. He said that a
perfect marriage and perfect friendship
| were synonymous. II was told of him thai
I he never pretended to be desperately IN
love with Is wife at the beginning, but he
had a great affection for her; they were
| each Interested in the same things so that
there we're always subjects for converse
ton, and. as the years went by, the affec-
ton grew to be love, and at last NJ became
q great love- making each of these two all
in all to the other. There Is nothing to
me in the history OF this great man so
interesting as the story of The love that
lasted even after death. Do ] think that
there should be marriage without lOVc2
No, but think there are other things too.
Romeo and Juliet may have found love
sufficient but in those days Il was not de-
mandcd that a house In verona should
have all the modern improvements real
lace was not expensive, dressmakers
| prices were lower and Romeo didn't need
to uee ;hs best brandy, nor did he realiz
the cost of the finest cigar 1t sounds yer
eIeVatingEI don't believe it. Nobody Xix e
it and nobody wants IT. And 4 Is quite , rs
sible to be rich and good. Selfish? w ell
this Is the age of selfishness.
Rv the bye, over our strawberries anf
tea the other afternoon, the question: o
what constituted fine figure came b. 1
is an old standby, you know There weri
two women and a man, not to ment lon
dog He was a polite puppy, and on ~ at
sugar, not strawberries. One Of thu
women said: What a lovely figure Mrs
The man made himself heard b y say
ing: do you know, / think you al e a bi
| of a donkey? The idea of calling that
beautiful figure, which displays bus
nearly up to the edge Of the chin, a wais
measuring nineteen inches, hips forgotten
and a very prominent line at the stomach
with every defect brought out Ivy a wall
that is neither hop, a skip, nor "a jump.
/ am always glad to know an Sthing 81
I said, Tell US what a beautiful fgurl
is?"
AS a man does, when he Is going I,
say something he thinks cleY err, this on,
arose from HIS comfortable CHAIR and al
lowed the mirror to see that ne was 6 fee
.. had lovely complexion, nd the fgur,
of an athlete After we ha ali realize
this, he announced "A be autifuI figur
must, before everything else be neithe
too large, nor too small That woman VIII
loses a charm every time she undoes ,
pin is out of the race and 50 is that wonal
who with the undoing Of every button. O
the unlacing of every string, grows. fop
py The beautiful figure has a throat tina
is a handsome white column for the small
head has white and firm shoulders witt
not a bone showing IL the neck and with
out dimples. Dimples are pre-tiness, ba
not beauty The arms must be wei
shaped, neither fat noi' muscular looking
but white, firm to the touch, and quite d
cool as 'Greenla1ds Icy mountain TIL
bust, and by the bye, as a rule American
women do mot have eautiful busts shoult
be small, hard, viii te. and not too high
Fat is greatly to be dreaded here IN
hips should be largo. and the line from tn
hips to the knee and from the knee I,
the ankle should a. ehieve the same curve a
does Hogarth's lhle of beauty. The instet
must be high, and in standing the Der