The Cook County herald. [volume] (Grand Marais, Minn.) 1893-1909, 1895-05-18
FOR THE FAIR SEX
INTERESTING GOSSIP FOR MAID
AND MATRON.
Demonstrate Your Affections in
Your Home Circ1e-EnSlish Cook
ing SchOOls-The Care of Velvet
The Oldest New Woman-Household
Hints.

In your family, I mean, show your
children that you love them; and not
only show it, but say it in words ey-
cry day. I think the most pitiful cry
in all autibiographical writing is that
cry of Harriet Martineau, Il never
had any childhood" and because her
parents did not understand her nor
say to her in all her lonely young life,
II love you.''
Most mothers and fathers would an
grily resent the imputation of abusing
their children. But how often is 1t
done, and the best impulses of the boy
and girl are crowded back? know of
women whose young years were a
schooling of self-repression. Her pa
rents were of the undemonstrative
sort, and while the girl was the pride
of their hearts, the delicious love-mak-
ing of parent and child was never in
dulged in. She often tells me of how
many times she cried herself to sleep
because she was so lonely, and of how
often she would steal to her mothers
bedroom door after the house was still
and everybody asleep and lean down
to kiss the doorstep, so hungry for
somebody to love her, to say some
tender word, that she could not lie
still nor go to sleep.
Now that she has children Of her
own, she has to fight the habit of self
repression every day Of her life, and
it is an effort for her to give her own
children what she SO much missed in
her own life.
Harriet Martineau tells the same
story. She relates how difficult some
Of her lessons were. but how easy
they would have been If her mother
had occasionally kissed her when she
!! did we'll. 10 stone q child's affections
| is a crime as much as to stone it's
body. 4 dwarfed soul is worse than
a bumped back.
Many mother who sews till she
aches in every nerve, and who spends
hours a day cooking nice things for
her family, is so tired when they come
in from school or work that she has
no impulse to smile, to kiss them, to
| tell a story or sing a song. She has
performed a lower duty and sacrificed
the higher. I know mothers life is
| full of cares and that many Of them
are daily sacrificed for their children
But it would not make the burden
any heavier for her to have a vOca-
bulary of love words and to be ready
for the goodbye and goodnight kiss
And what 4 difference it might make
in the afterlife Of the child. think
am safe in saying that few if any
children go to the bad who have had
Il father or a mother for companions.
Love expanded in tie home life Of the
child can only produce good both &c
parent and child. And as l said be
fore, let the love be demonstrativ"
! DO you remember that exQ,lstt {
touch ~ Uncle Toms Cabin" the
sweetest thing in the whole story OF
| Eva asking Topsy why she was so
| baf: Topsy answers: because nobody
| loves me- And there-what human
I heart could resist the answer Eva re-
| plies: why, l love you Topsy."
When the tears come, then the foun-
tains of the hard little heart are brok-
en- up, then the hungry soul drinks in
new life, then the current of life is
changed.
You will reap a harvest of a hundred
fold for the love words and kisses Civ
en- to your children.-Evening WisconA
sin.