The Penn's Grove record., 1895-03-22

Chicago. Married nt the prtdes mousse NO
cards. There are States OF the Union which
practically put a premium upon the disin.
tegration of the marriage relation, while
there are other States, like our own Nov fork
State, that had fora long time the pre-emi.
nent idiocy of making msriage lawful at
twelve and fourteen years OF sge.
The Congress of the United states needs {.
move for q change Of the National Constitu-
ton mi to appoint a committee-not made
up Of single gentlemen, but of men Of fami-
lies, and their families in WashiDgton-who
shall prepare a good, honest, righteous. COM
prehensiye. uniform law that will control
everything from Sandy Hook to the Golden
Horn. That will put an end to broken ties
in marriages. That will send divorce law
yers into a decent business. That Will set
people agitated for many years on the quee-
ton OF how shall they get away from eacb
other to planning how they can adjust them
selves to the more or less unfavorable circum.
stances.
More difficult divorce will put an estoppe.
to a great extent upon marriage as a hnan.
cial speculation. There are men who go In
to the relation Just asthey go into Wall street
to purchaae shares. Tho femaleto be invited
into the partnership OF wedlock is utterly
unattractive md in disposition o suppressed
vesuvius. Everybody knows 1t but this mas
culine candidate for matrimonial orders,
through the commercial agency or through
the county records, finds out how much
estate is to be inherited, and he calculates 1t.
He thinks ont how long it will be before the
old man will die, and whether he can stand
the refractory temper until he does die. and
then he enters the relation, for he says, 81
I cannot stand 1t, then through the divorce
| law I'll back out" That process is going on
| all the time, and men enter the relation With
out any moral principle, without any. arec'
| ton, and 1t is as much . matter Of stock spec
| ulation as anything that traDspired yesterday
| In Union Pacific, Illinois Central or Della
| ware and Lackawanna.
Now. suppose o man understood, as hb
ought TO understand, that II he goes into that
relation there is no possibility of his getting
out, or no probability, he would be more slow
to himself, eRather than a Caribbean whfrl-
/ wind with a whole feet Of shipping In its
arms give me a zephyr of fields Of sunshine
and gardens Of peace"
Let me say to the hundreds Of young PEG
| pie In this house this a t%ernoon, before you
! give your heart and hand in holy alliance use
all cautions. Inquire outside as to habits,
explore the disposition, scrutinize the taste,
question the ancestry and find out the am,
bitions. Do not take the heroes and the
hereines of cheap novels for o model. Do
mot put your lifetime happiness In the keep
ing Of o man who has a reputation for being
n little loose In morals or In the keeping OF q
woman who dresses fast. Remember that,
while good looks are a kindly gift OF God,
wrinkles or accident may despoil them. Re.
member that Byron wa no moro celebrated
for his beauty than for his depravity. Re
member that Absalom's hair was not more
splendid than his habits were despicable.
Hear it, hear It'll The only foundation FOL
happy marriage that has ever been or svel
will be 10 good character.
Ask God whom you shall marry IL you
marry at all. A union formed LIP prayer will
be a happy union, though sickness pale tn.
cheek. and poverty empty the bread tray
and death open the small graves, and all tht
path OF life be strewn with thorns from tn.
marriage altar with its wedding march anf
orange blossoms clear on down to the LAS
farewell atthat gate where Isaac and Rebecca
Abraham and Sarah, Adam and Eve parted
And let ne say to you who are In this 70
lation, II you make one man OF m hap
by, you nave not lived In vain. Christ say
that what He Is to the church you ought K
be to each other, and II sometimes through
difference Of opinion or difference OF dispo
sition you make up your mind that YOU
marriage was a mistake patiently bear AMI
forbear, remembering that life at the longes
h short, and that for those who have beer
badly mated in his world death will Civ
quick and immediate bill Of diyorcemen
written in letters OF green grass on quie
graves. And perhaps, my brother, my sis
ter, perhaps you may appreciate zach othe
better in heaven than you have appreciated
each other on earth.
In the aFarm Ballads" our American poe
puts into the lips Of q repentant HUSBAND
after a life Of married perturbation these sug
gestiye words:
And when she dAs ! wish that she would b
laid by me,
And lying together in silence perhaps W
will agree.
And II ever we meet In heaven ! would no
think 1t queer
n We love each other better because We quar-
relied here,
! And let me say to those Of you who are !
! happy married union avoid first quarrels
have no unexplained correspondence wit
former admirers; cultivate no suspicious; 1
o moment OF bad temper do not rush out an
tell the neighbors; do not let any of thos
~gad-abouts Of society unload in your hous
J their baggage of CAB and little tattle; do nc
! stand on your rights; learn how to apolc
gize; do not be so proud, or so stubborn,
: 20 devilish that you will not make up. RI
member hat the worst domestic misfortune
l and most scandalous divorce cases starte
from little infelicities. The whole piled u
train Of ten rail cars telescoped and smashe
at the foot of an ~embankment 100 feet dow
came to hat catastrophe by getting two
8 three inches OF the track. Some Of the grea
: estl domestic misfortunes and the wide n
: sounding divorce cases have started tror
little misunderstanding that were allowed I
!. go on and go on until home and respectabi
! tty and religion and immortal soul wen
. down in the crash, crash!
! And, fellow citizens as well as fellow Chrii
: Hans, let US have q divine rage, against an.
, thing that wars on the marriage stat
: Blessed institution Instead Of two arms
. fight the battle of Life, four; instead Of tw
!! eyes to scrutinize the path Of life, four; II
! stead Of two shoulders to lift the burden
Z life, four. Twice the energy, twice II
Z courage, twice the holy ambition, twice Il
! probability of worldly success, twice Il
: prospects OF heaven. Into the mAtrimoni
J bower God fetches two souls. Outside ths
J bower room for all contentious, and all biel
srings. and all controversies, but inside I'll
: bower there Is room for only one guest-tf
! angel OF love. Let that angel stand at Il
Z aoral doorway OF this Edenic bower wit
J trawn sword to hew down the worst foe
2 hat bower-easy divorce. And for ever
: PARADISE lost may there be a paradise r
\ yained. And after We quit our home hei
! nay we have a brighter home In heaven, I
: he windows of which this moment are #
, niiiar faces watching for our arrival an
rendering why so long we tarry,