The sun., 1895-05-28
Pre- fe reucea of Mothcrp

| To THE EDITOR OF THE SUN-Str: In
| Wednesdays Sun asked the question: docs
| mother love more her children that resemble
| her husband or those that resemble herself?''
and In Thursdays Sun you have this:
| 1t is puzzler we have got from that Newark
| Mother who wants to know whether n mother
! ought to love more the children that bio
| her husband or those that resemble herself.
| How would she like us TO say by way OF reply
that in n well-regulated family the mother loves
best the children that resemble her husband.
and the father loves best those that resemble
his wife, while both father ard mother love all
| their children and each otu,r with an equal and
perfect love3 She says she knows how it Is
herself. Then let her tell The SUN tor the
benefit of other people"
You will observe that THE SUN msquotes
slightly in saying wanted to know whether a
mother ought to love. &C." l did not say
"ought;" simply asked the direct question,
Does she, &C." What she ought to do is not
in the calculation; what she does 10 is the thing.
Now for your question. would like the best in
the world for you TO say what you have said, il
feet love you would have; but it cannot be done.
because an equal love does not exist between
heard of outside Of books. and those
works OF fiction, II there were. per-
Just the same. and it affects that one OF the
twain VINO loves more. Even the casual Observ-
er may see this in the watchfulness and ever
presence OF the husband or the wife who loves
the other more The difference in their loving
may be very slight. but 1t Is enough to make a
slave OF the one to the other. The man who Is
IN love with his wife has always a doubt in his
the one loving less is quite well satisfied, and
does not worry even though their association be
interrupted at times and they don't SEQ each
other every day.
know this much from my own expericnce
think | am a sensible woman with a fair degree
or lenience FOR mans weak ness. and not disposcd
TO DC Jealous under any ordinary circumstances
ana nave been married twice. My first hus band
In love with any other man. and he was crazy
III love with me-" During married life OF
seven years he was devoted husband INV
heart moved along rs serenely n boat upon IL
worried by his jeaousies. My second hus band
lnow dead two years. was in love with and
though no gave mo no cause to think he did not
love me truly, l was always anxious about him,
out of my sight. would do anything for him,
and wits always trying to do more Quite tho
reverse OF the conditions OF my first marriage
i have five children living two by the first
sure' Both of my first children resemble me
more than they do their father. OF tho others
TWO are the Image OF their father" and ons
looks something like both OF US. Now. while as
these children. there is not for my favorites are
the two that look like their father, one a riri
and the other n boy Tho equality YOU mention
seems to prevail rs to the Others though when
love her children more than loved them
have not tried to answer your question gen. |
orally. but as itapplies to me. Possibly, it is all
matter OF tho individual. but when ask ed the
eral A MOTuER
NEWARK. May 25.