The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1895-05-30


nevertheless subject 10 the criticism and
IS. TO some extent. al the mercy OF her
who has been accounted uncertain. COY,
and hard 20 please"
From the time a girl learns on the first
page OF the primer. that N stands for
NAN. there Is an instructive impress
sion which never leaves her. but grows
with her growth, that one day Ga her
Ire she viii possess or bo possessed by
one and her ideas on this subject are
never very clear as 10 which will be
the case.
INCOMPLETE WHILE SINGLE.
one thing they do learn after they ar
rive al years Of discretion. that man is
but an incomplete thing without a help
meet for all he SIS given sucn high
place in the Heavens above and the
earth beneath" and even ln the primer
and the truth is patent 20 all that the
royalty OF his nature remains undcvcl-
opcd whilst he IS single. and that he
needs TIE right sort OF inspiration 10
complete his best side
wlMAS's TASTES OTTER.
Just the kinds Of men an women Ike
could never Dee determined hy any mental
process. because the kinds are as varid
as the taste Of these same uncertain
and coy creatures Of the opposite sex. a
woman VIII announce oraculariy that
the man whom she would most admire
will name in an endless list. and in a
short time after will pcrpetfate the IN
consistency Of falling iu love with man
who does not seem 10 possess one Of the
traits which she regarded as absolute
essentials
HUsEfN GOOD AUTHORITY.
Rushin wrote on this subject: "ren
T1e. young woman. whom you admire.
and IN tell you what you are yourself
i, IIf4INr lrI Ttff
nature SIS mean DO YOU admire rich men,
only because they are rich: You are a
mere tuff-huntcr. DO you admire light,
frivolous. and cxtravagant men? You
arc like them, light and frivolous DO
you admire brave. honest, self-sacrifc-
ing men? So are you yourself. an hon
est. brave spirit"
Nothing is truer than that women who
have had their taste cultivated and their
standard elevated by association with
men Of high character can only be
pleased by that kind.
cHEsrrRrIrIp.
Such women like men Of sterling merit,
who have the courage 10 speak the truth
even when ~ ia unpopular That coCr-
age possessed by some As not incom-
patible with tenderness. The world owes
much 20 men OF courage. the kind which
displays itself I'm silent effort and endcav-
or moral courage which charactoriZcs
the highest type Of man.
There SIS. probably. no saying OF Lord
Chesterfield that commends itself more
strongly than that 10 is truth that makes
the success Of a gentleman.
Women like and admire a true gentle
man.
THAT HAPPY WAY.
Manner. too. Is the principal external
grace. which women admire I'm men. IL
is happy way OF saving and doing
I'd. IL.
Of life. 10 tends 90 facilitate the business
Of life and 10 soften and sweeten social
intercourse. A manner. natural. gracious.
and cordial IS among the greatest aids 10
success in men, and many fail for want
OF g. Artificial rules of pOliteness are
Of little usc-true courtesy Is kind and
women know how 10 weigh both. They
care not FOR empty galantries but for
that truly ChvalrOus manner. frank and
cordial which sets all about them at
case. OF which IL has been said. ''it is the
humhlcst of the fine arts yet 10 is so
useful and so pleasure-giving that IL
might almost be ranked among the hui
manlties"
Women Ike men who work. Work IS
the law of our being: the living princi-
pie that carries men and nations forward.
The greater number Of men have 10
work with their hands as a matter Of
necessity. but all must work one way or
another II they would enjoy life as il
ought 20 be enjoyed. Constant. useful
occupation IS wholesome for the body
and mind IL develops mans best facul-
tics, 10 gives him the power which be-
longs only % workers. ldlers are ever
powerlcss Women Ike men of power.
They are not so foolish as 20 affect TO
despise fame, money rank. and power.
Desire Tor her husbands advancement
n an error Jeans 10 virtues side" Cheap
publicity or notoricty is one thing. but
achievement is another. TO succeed I'm
life is the natural and laudable ambi-
ton of every man. on his own account
OF the woman he loves.
INCIDENCE NATURAL.
There is perhaps, no tendency Of mans
nature that has 10 be more carefully
guarded against than Incidence. The
Willingness TO "let well enough alone
the disposition TO remain a stand
stir has made failures Of many capa-
BILE men. An intelligent foreigner who
lad travelled over a greater part OF the
world. was asked whether be had OBJ
fscrved any one quality (which more than
another could bee regarded as univcr-
sal Characteristic of our species. His
answer was In broken English "Mo tink
dat AN men love lazy"
II the curse Of Eden had been. ON
ielencss shalt chou live, and thy seed
after thee" what misery would have
been entailcd upon the human race.
Women like purposeful men. Men who
resist temptation. and have the courage
10 be what they really are and not pre-
tend 20 bc what they are not; TO live
honestly within their own means. rather
than dishonesty upon the means OF
others. a great deal OF the unEappinoss
and much of the vice OF the world is ow-
ing 90 weakness and indecsior of pur-
pose. Men know what is right and Yet
fan to exercise the courage 10 do IT,
They understand their duty. but will not
summon up the resolution 20 perform IT,
There are men who seem 10 be endowed
with every gift except the gift OF power
10 use them. This is from lack OF pur-
pose. Valiant resolutions are formed that
end IN words. deeds intended. that are
never done. all Tor want of decision Bet
ter the silent tongue and the eloquent
deed.
RELIANCE or sFLF.
Sclf-reiiance IS after an the ground
work OF success. When one Of Michael
Angeles principal patrons died. he said,
Il begin now, 10 understand that the |
promises OF the world are vain phantoms.
and that % connde in oneself and be-
come something Of worth and value, is
the best and safest course"
Women like men who like each other. |