The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1895-09-11
Manners.

poor boy may be, or how little he
| possesses, he may always posses good
manners. One may be petite and gen.
tie with very little money in his purse,
writer who has devoted his pen to
the improvements and help of youth
tells us. The French and Germans Of
the lowest class, he says, are gracious
in manner and wcll-brcd. These for
| eign workmcn will lift the hat even to
each other, while some Of our Ameri-
can boys, add, hardly. will give this
salute to lady. 1t doesn't cost any
thing to learn 70 be polite, and, as
Lady Montagu says, 1T buys every
thing"
The we'll hammered boy holds in
his hand the key which will open
hearts and doors for him. "Win
hearts," said Lord Burlcigh to Queen
Elizabeth, "and you have all men s
purses. Another man has said that
"spitc and ill.naturc arc among the
expensive Injuries Of life. y DIR
johnson once said, "Sir. man has no
more right to say an uncivil thing than
to act onc-no more right to say a
rude thing to another than to knock
him down" The bars go down before
the polite boy, while rudencss shuts
up the heart and purses, too.
The place to learn and practice
politeness is at home. do not think
much of the boy who practices it out
side, and who, when he is at home, is
rude and unmannerly. Such polite
ness is like thin wash of gilt, which
soon wears off. 1t must come from
the heart and always be there;
Kindly affectionate one to another. = =
"In honor preferring one another. .
| Let your manners be even as courtly
at home, and then when you are out.
side that courtliness will come natural
to you and will not have to be assumed
Learn to thank your mother and sis
ter for their little attentions. y
traveller on the shores of Lake
Nayanza, in the heart of Africa, says
that here "ingratitude or neglccting
to thank person for benefit con-
ferred is punishable" Open the door
for your mother to pass through as
carefully as if she were stranger.
Pick up the little articles she or your
sister may accidentally drop, and then
YOU will never neglect the little court
estes outside. "NYait" on the ladies
at home in the many kindly little ways
your heart will prompt, and you will
find yourself doing so abroad without
any effort. I was won not long ago by
poor boy who certainly never had
one lesson in etiquette" His man.
ners were perfect. While others boys
stood by in rude negligence, he was
always ready to perform the many lit
tie kinds attentions which win the
heart. He did it SO simply and nat
utrally that I knew that his mother
had been the recipient Of those atten
tions from his boyhood up. He hao
been practicing on her, and in thai
practicing had become perfect:
Some boys, and some brought up in
well-to-do families, pride themselye:
on being rough. They think it be-
tokens manliness. On the contrary
it shows a small, low nature. 1t has
a bad influence on your associates
and, at the some time, wcll-bred boy:
will avoid your society. 1t is sale
that BENJAMIN Franklin, when ht
was a workman, reformed the habit:
of the entire shop. The results o.
good or bad manners are almost incred
ible. Your manners to certain
degree, indicate your character, ane
YOU are Judged by them. 10 be sure
a boy may sometimes be gruff out
wardly who has kind heart, but yo!
will find that that kind heart will
keep him from being boorish; and
vet how much better he would sue
coed in the world if his manners were
moro gracious and cordial Th'
learned mctaphysician, Locke, wa!
writing about his sons education tt
Lord Peterborough. He said: "YouI
Lordship would have your son
thorough scholar, but [ would haye
mine well-bred and well-tempered.
First impressions go a great ways
It is we'll known that the polite you'll
who applies for situation has much
in his favor. An employer soon learn:
to notice all externals and to judg,
the inner spirit by them. 1t is sale
that men succeed almost as we'll IL
life by their manners as by thel
talents. 4 clergyman whom th'
writer knew, who had no talent to-
preaching, but was remarkably kline
and affable in manners, has built up 9
large church and now has wealth.
congregation, while a more talented
preacher, but with no graciousnes!
of manner, has failed in scvera
churches.
The perfect manner is one Of ease
altogether unaffected and self-forget
full. In order to acquire this yol
must make it your home manner: L
is said that good manners are neithc
more nor less than beautiful behavior
Politeness is kindness. The polite
boy refrains from annoying others
and endeavors to contribute to tn
happiness of others.
It is we'll, however, to read SOM
thoroughly good book on etiquette, 81
as to know the rules which govern
polite society, for some day, thougl
you may be poor now, your lot ma.
be among cultured people or anon!
people who consider a breach o.
etiquette almost crime. Thougt
your heart may be kindly and you
manners affable, you do not want t.
be guilty of rudencss born of ig
norancc.
But while you arc striving to be
perfect gentleman, never forget tina
it is of far more importanc to be
consecrated Christian. Beside tha
everything else palcs. Take Chris
as your model in all your deces AM
words and thoughts. Then indeed
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