San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1895-09-15

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theme. 1t is all nonsense to say
that, having won you for his bride,
your husband is to tire OF you in a
short time and seek his pleasure
and happiness and recreation else
where. That is libel alike on him
and yourself. 1t is confession that
the woman cannot make herself as
indispensable to her husband as
the girl can to her lover. No
genuine woman will confess this.
There is no need of such a con-
fession. Marriage brings you nearer
your husbands heart and interests
and daily life and inner thoughts
than courtship possibly could. Is
there any reason why, in this closer
relation, you should less fully fill
his life and thoughts? Certainly
not. Wisely study the situation.
All successful wives study their
husbands. Study yours. Do not
consider 1t beneath your wifely
rights to do this. 1t is
your right to please, your
duty, for this among others
things is what you both expected
in marriage. Never mind about
his duty to please you, that will
come in his sermon next Sunday.
What is your concern is to please
him, not by any surrender OF
womanly prerogative, not by max
ing yourself his plaything, but by
making his comfort, his home life
desirable one, his thoughts of
home and you pleasant, his home
coming real pleasure to him.
Do you imagine that when this
is done that he is going to seek his
comfort and recreation outside of
you, and in society that does not
include yourself? 1t is not in hu.
man nature to do this. Where the
heart is there is the treasure. Let
those reverse the saying who
choose, this is truth. Take the
lowest view of the case possible.
Put your husband down as sell
fish, self-seeking individual il you
will, the truth remains the same,
you can make him see only in his
home tho sanctuary of his life, the
comfort spot Of existence, the only
place of all others to be desired,
and as consequence he will see in
you, as the cause of all this, that
which his selfishness most desires.
Can there be any doubt as to the
result? VIII there he anything
that you &C, wife have set your
heart on that such husband will
not join you in securing to the ex-
tent of his ability? Your own COM
mon sense answers. Do not forget
that you as a practical governor OF
your household are to take account
of the character Of your subjects
that this knowledge is indispensi-
BILE; that you made selection Of the
man you crowned with all the gifts
of your heart and person, and that
it is yours to make him better
instead of worse, even il
you find him worse instead
Of better upon trial. Al.
most any husband can be thus
made to regard his home as his
heaven, If the right kind OF a
woman for him presides in it, and
she takes him in hand early in
married life.
There is nothing here intended
by way Of sop to those wives whose
boast it is that they "manage"
their husbands. 1t is the wife who
manages herself and her home
that is here referred to, but who
manages these in the light OF her
knowledge OF her husbands pleas
sure, appetites, tastes, ideas OF COM
fort and all that lives in his home ;
and these because she is truly his
helpmeet, and finds her own wifely
pleasure in these things. These
may be old fashioned ideas, but
they will stand the strain of every
day life until the end. Your mar.
rage was fraud perpetrated on
your husband II it was not your in.
tention to make his home all that
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