The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1895-11-27
Good Breeding.


tire family were every evening wont
to be found, has been almost lost sight
of in the hustle and hustle and pro-
gress of the time.
The old-fashion habit of reading
aloud is quite unknown in up-to-date
households. Not long ago books were
read and discussed by the entire
family circle. Who ever hears Of such
thing being done now? The motto
of to-day seems to be Everyone for
himself" Each gallops through his
own particular style of books and is
we'll satisfied to do so.
Let those who want say what they
will to the contrary, the trite old lines,
GAS the twig is bent, the tree in
clines," are as true as nature itself.
There is not a man or woman in this
whole wide world who has ever known
the blessing of home with mother
presiding over it that was gentle, and
as wise as gentle, but remembers and
has profted by, nc matter what their
surroundings may be-every little
maxim, every little lesson in love and
courtesy they learned there. 1t is no
difficult matter to Judge what examples
children had set them when they were
still young enough to be impression
able, and thus the good or bad Of home
example is heralded to the world.
And it is because of this that one may
well regret many Of the changes in
home and family management that
have come with other changes, that
bear the stamp "Progress."
If the young have good examples at
home they will be courteous to others.
It becomes daily habit, a second ma
ture. Where parents are rude, cross
and snappish, it is idle to expect their
children to be ladies and gentlemen.
Governesses and tutors may vainly
teach, says q thoughtful woman in
Household News. They have object
lessons more impressive. Itis related
Of the Austrian Emperor that at late
festival he broke away from the body
guard surrounding him to carry chair
across the lawn for the feeble COVER
ness Of his youngest grandchild. That
was the pink Of courtesy, an act the
child will never forget. Such things
cement households together. For
those who are kind, service is delight
full. The attentive husband, the soli-
citous wife, mutually comforting grace
full attentions on each other, are the
most important elements Of happy
home.
It has been truly said that good
breeding is the current coin Of society.
Conventional rules founded upon it
are sometimes diverted from their
foundation. That they should be OBJ
served, when rot absurd, goes without
saying. A kind-hearted person, ig-
norant in regard to them, may be awk-
ward, or, through eagerness and pre-
occupation, forgetful Of amenities.
Too strictly followed, they hedge in
and limit spontaneous impulses that
belong to the divinity of our human
nature. Can aught be more dreary
than always to talk, walk, Bit, stand
and converse by rule? The springs Of
life are too deep and strong to be to.
tally sealed. Breaking all bounds, if
not allowed to flow with well-regulated
freedom, they may food life to it's
destruction. And true culture is that
which, studying the innate possibili-
ties of each, gives harmonious express.
sion and expansion to God-given facul-
ties.
But good breeding is not always
found where it should be. AS an in
stance, on small steamer plying be-
tween New York and a city on the
coast, lady had occasion to arrange
her disheveled hair in the retiring
room. Taking handsome brush
from her bag, she finished smoothing
her braids, and laid the brush on the
washstand. A young girl, ignorant
and crude, as girls who have seen lit
tie of the world often are, took it up,
remarked upon its beauty to the
owner, who stood silent, and then
lightly applied it to her own tresses.
As she put it down the incensed wo-
man caught up the brush, and, going
to the windows, without word flung
it far into the waters Of the sound.
The young offender, realizing her
wrong, buried her head in the cushion
Of the settee and sobbed bitterly for
an hour, while the outraged woman OF
the world walked away with an air OF
a tragedy queen.
Now, what a graceful and instruc.
tive act would it have been if she had
sat down by the untutored child and
explained to her that personal refine
ment required that no one should ever
use the toilet implements Of another.
It could have been lesson so amiably
given that the girl would date that in
cident as the beginning Of the percep-
tion Of fine breeding. She would re-
member her instructress as an ideal
lady, and not as an unfeeling rebuker
of ignorance. As it was, she left the
boat embittered against the elder per-
son and all her "class," as she called
well-bred ladies. The influence Of the
enlightened follower of social laws
was distinctly not that Of one who un-
derstood the ethics Of fine feelings.
Again, lady entering railway car
with her bag and wrap, takes posses
sion of an entire seat. The car fills
with travellers. With a cultivated
oblivion of the situation, curiously
common, she ignores persons standing
in the aisles. Should one have the
temerity to timidly approach and ask
if the seat were reserved for another
occupant, he or she is met with a
frigid and reluctant yielding of the
extra seat, for which the one already
in possession has no more right than
any other passenger.-&. Lcuis Re-
public.
The wife of Mr.. Leonard Wells,
of East Brim6eld, Mass, had been
suffering from neuralgia for two days,
not being able to sleep or hardly keep
still, when Mr.. Holden, the merchant
there sent her bottle Of Chamber
lain's Pain Balm, and asked that she
give it thorough trial. On meeting
Mr.. Wells the next day he was told
that she was all right. the pain had