The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1895-05-19

| model home, from whose fountain a
stream of love and joy constantly
! flows, though the low-thatched roof
and the ivy-vine may be its chief out
ward adornments. In one of the fash
ionable districts of San Francisco,
noted for it's magnificent residences,
some of them costing half a million
dollars. one is impressed with the
fact that the windows are cldsed,
and the doors barred in most of
them. We are told that this home
was broken up by a faithless wife,
that, by a dissolute husband, this one
the only son disgraced by a life Of
debauhery, and that one is vacant be-
cause the family prefer to live In
Europe-and so on down the line, an
air of desolata,n prevails midst all
the splendor. and the costly homes are
but sepulchres of broken hearts and
disappointed lives.
This, we might say, was peculiarly
western, if we did not know that
city, its NEST elegant house, The
| Marble Palace" is just now the CEN
ire of discord and unhappiness, an
other monument to a disrupted fam
| lily. So in building our home, let its
corner stone be love, firmly cemented
with respect. Not the love which
mystifies and enchants for a time, but
that which will continue after the
glamor of courtship is over, and the
inner and real life is manifest.
Nobility of character and unselfish
devotion will outweigh all the frizzles
and big sleeves in the universeI I'M
agine the beautiful bride, pure and en-
chanting, transformed into the
frowsley, dishevelled and ill-tempared
wife. Ugh, No home can continue a
successful rival to the club and the
saloon, where system and sunshine do
not prevail and that really means in
dustry and cheerfulness. OF course.
it all depends upon MARY" who must
be wife, mother, companion and friend
all at once. But if L were writing
something which would catch the eye
Of John" there are many things I
would like to say to him; of how
largely the peace of the home depends
upon him; how much easier it would
be for his wife IL he remembered to
be punctual at meal-time; to be
pleased with a lunch when Mary
found it hard to get dinner; and,
above all, to remember that devotion
declares itself constantly in words
and acts, and the homage and care
which he bestows upon his wife les
sens her burdens and sweetens her
joys, while the companionship and
good-fellowship between them is nur-
liz
The few rare instances where a wife
has proven false to her wOmanhood,
and cast even a shadow of suspicion
upon her fair name, may be traced
back to selfish and Indifferent hus-
band-for the plant needs sunshine
no more certainly for its perfecting
than does the woman appreciation
and affection. Love is of mans life
thing apart, it's woman's Whole e,s-
CT .rct
John is thoughtful and sympathetic,
is Mary's individuality enhanced, even
midst discouraging surroundings, for
sacrifice is sweet for those we love.
Many a home has, however, been
maintained and it's benign influence
extended to all who come within its
portals, where the wife has carried
the burden without the cooperation
and encouragement of her husband,
for. after all, it is the woman in the
home which makes or mars it, and no
amount of progressiveness and phys
biological culture can supplant the de-
voted wife and the consecrated moth
er, in her gentle and loving ministra-
tions. 1t is there her power and in
fluence terminate and concentrate,
and the duty of the hour with her is
first the inward life of the home,
which is the real life of us all. Then
she must be neat and cheerful, frugal
and Industrious, making her sur
roundings so inviting and her pres
ence so exhilarating, that John will
not find the club half so attractive as
home.
When the babies come, and our
home can never be a model one with
out the babies, she must assume the
duties of mother, but not to the ex-
clusion of John, who has still a claim
upon her time and sympathy, even
greater than before, because of the
new and sacred link of parentage
which should bind them closer than
ever, so that in his business perpleX-
tiles and in her family cares and anX-
ieties, the mutual interests of co-part-
ners in business and the good-fellow-
ship of comrades must continue, and
merge into a deeper dependence upon
each other.
We seem, in planning a handsome
wardrobe, in building a modern house
and in driving a stylish equipage, to |
feel that we have earned the favor of |
the world, but of how little import
ance is all Of that, If the wife has no
confidence in her husband, or if the |
husband has ceased 10 respect his !
wifei Home is home only when pro-
vided with the blind influence of love, |
and love cannot exist where the OBJ |
ject of its devotion is unworthy its
homage, so 1 would say to John to
continue the courtesies and atten-
tons he found so easy in the early |
days of courtship, and TO maintain
his own self-respect by an increased |
reverence and tenderness for his wife
the mother Of his children, and a
life honorable and God-fearing every
day and hour, for therein is peace;
and to Mary, to let John continually |
find in her that true womanliness and
noble nature he fancied in the bright
young girl who so bewitched him
long ago" Remember that her hus-
bands interests must be her inter-
ests-intellectually, socially and COM
that this does not re-
lease her from any of the cares and
responsibilities of motherhood. Chill
dren have a right to a good deal OF
their mother, the church needs her
faithful assistance, society claims a
share Of her attention, and nQE, with
everything else, she is forced into pol
itics and its environments, and
'qand-sakes,'' I don't know however
she is to do all that she must do, and
do it well, but I am sure she will
somehow or other; only 1 do wonder,
with Samantha, sometimes, why the
men who made the biographies, did
not picture old Atlas in the garb of a
woman, as he bore the worlds burden
on his shoulders.
have not hoped to touch upon the
minor details of the model house but
if we have builded wisely, they will
come unbidden; nor of the children,
for they are but miniatures of the
older members, and living in an at
mosphere of integrity, devotion and