San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1895-09-22


govern. 1t is the right Of the
young man who has been accepted
as an "affiance" to have the fact
recognized publicly. 1t is honest,
open and right to make such an
nouncements Of prospective rela-
tion public,an 1t is the unquestion-
ed right Of the young man to have
1t known in those social circles in
which himself and prospective
wife move. The propriety Of this
course cannot be questioned.
Any refusal on the part OF his
betrothed to sdch publicity places
them both in false light, percep-
tibly weakens the bonds that unite
them and leads to inevitable mis-
understanding. Not misunder-
standing on their part; necessarily,
but on the part of others. 1t
leaves the young lady open to the
solicitations Of others who might
desire to win her heart and hand
for themselves, 1t debars the young
man from seeking as he otherwise
might the society Of other young
ladies, or falling this opens the
door for mutual accusations OF in
terest elsewhere. The custom, so
universal in the best circles of So
ciety in both hemispheres, of an
nouncing betrothals, is coming in
to acceptance every where, and it
is decided change for the better.
1t is your right, young man, as
the accepted lover and husband in
future of any young lady, to be so
accepted and recognized in the
society in which you both move,
and il the lady or her parents OBJ
ject to such recognition it af-
fords good ground on your part for
entering a demurrer. By this
refusal you are relegated to the
same place in the eyes Of society
that you occupied before your &C
ceptance, and the woman you have
conferred your hearts affections on
and whom in your thought you
would make wife, is free to accept
the attentions of any other man
as freely as your own. She may
not do it, but she is free to do it,
and this very freedom is an injus-
tice to yourself and to herself and
is misleading to others. AS you
have no right to place others in a
false position, it is your right to
Zee that you are not yourself thus
placed.
Perhaps the most trying time in
young mans life is that period
bounded by his marriage engage
ment on one side and his marriage
on the other. 1t is intensely dis
agreeable to be paraded as a to-be-
married man, and men have not
the knack of taking these situa.
tions gracefully as the girls have.
Nevertheless, the situation is one
Of his own making and the groom
to-be must make the best of 1t,
just as he will after marriage. 1t
is good discipline for him. 1t
teaches him that he is preparing
to give up his life more exclusive
ly to another than he has hereto
fore done, and taste of what is in
storeifor him is afforded. All that
he can do is to make the most Of
his season Of probation, and while
asserting his rights as
the husband to be, carefully alb.
stain from any offensive nantes
tations Of proprietorship, some
thing that a high spirited girl
will resent.
Having married, it is your right
to have your wife for yourself,
in preference to permitting any
other to intervene. In order to
do this it will be necessary for you
to have the means to set up an
independent establishment of your
own and maintain it, otherwise
you will be neither the master of
your own household nor the head
of the family, nor free from the
intrusions of relatives. 1t is true
that there are those who marry for
a home in some wealthy father-in-
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