The Irish standard., 1895-07-13

up, she will find, by and by, that she is a
cistern and not well, and that the day
will come when her resources will be ex-
hausted-and what then?
Her children will 60 out into the world,
enter schools and colleges, broaden and
widen, while she stands still, and then the
day will come when they will say Of her
that she has. outlived her usefulness. OF
course, they won't say that if they are
children worth having, but if their mother
does not keep up, with themes, even a
little ahead. so that they can look up to
her-instead iof selfishly sacrificing her
self to their whins and sinking her indi-
viduality in their childish demands, she
inculcates in them the spirit Of selfishness,
which will in the end shove her out to
make room for those more active and use
full. You know you have seen such in
stances-many of them.
What of the husband of such wife ?
Is she doing her duty by him when she
makes herself subservient to his children
and forgets to keep by his side and apace
with him intellectually and socially? A
man does not like to say to his wife: You
are fading. You do not dress in as good
taste as you once did. You are no longer
interested in the same things that am. :
Those would be brutal things for man to
say to woman whom he loved, and yet
there are men who must think those
thoughts when their wives are careless,
slipshod and spiritless- that were
once to their nature as frost at the equa-
tor. If a woman won't keep up with her
husband, you can't blame him for being
ashamed of her. atG 4
It stands to reason that the mother,
who is fond of pretty clothes, and who
brushes apd cares painstakingly for the
hair of her husband thought 80 beautiful
when she was only her sweetheart, who
does her work with a view to protecting
the taper fingers che" admired when he
was .scourting" her, who saves her eyes
by letting small dresses and drawers go
With fewer frills and tucks. that she may
be able. to read the last political leader to
her husband or look up a point in history
for her boy, who believes that the pure
soul has got to have clean body to live
in, who goes upon the theory that men
do not gather figs off thistles or fine
thoughts from brawler's brain, who
compre hends that lie from her lips pro-
duces two on those Of her child, who be-
lieves implicitly that whatsoever man
sows that shall he also reap"-I say it
stands to reason that such a woman will
walk right beside her husband and chill
dren wherever they go, and she won't
have to plead for recognition either.
The world is always delighted to honor
such a woman She seldom has much
faith in ''clubs' for either men or women,
and she is always too much Of a lover-of
dainty dress to look with approving eyes
upon reform garments, which, to her
artistic eyes, would tend to deform the
figure she has been careful to keep supple
and youthful in its lines. She may have
gray hair and be obliged to wear glasses,
but on the cheeks that time has touched
so gently there is still a flush Of health,
and about her smiling mouth care has
drawn no lines or i'll temper left its indel-
ible tracks. Do you think a woman like
that sis left out of tQlings?' No, indeed
She is right in 1t all, and makes more fun
than anybody. It she chides you, she
does it with a CHEEKY grace that, after all
comforts you, and you know that you may
rely upon her advice and counsel because
she is in the world and right up to date
on every subject.
Alta literary club the other day heard
mother read an essay on Fashion; Its
Uses and Abuses" She understood her
subject. and invested it with fresh interest
for all. 1T is a woman's duty to array
herself as beconlingly as possible and to
study how to make herself more pleasing
to the people whom she meets said this
wise woman. A woman behind the age
in any thing is a woman who has lost the
key 10 her opportunities, and very soon
she will lose the opportunities Also