Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1895-01-17


Bad Mannsrs--sketches of the "swells"
at the Opera, the Girls and Young Men
OF the Present Generation.
Special Correspondence of Gazette and journal
Nav Y0RK, Jan. ll,-,What deal Of
difference It makes as to the glasses we
wear when we look at the world and the
people therein. 10 see 1t as it really is to
sec the faults and virtues, the kindness
and sweetness OF the men and women who
compose 1t, we need to look at it, not
through the green speCtacles Of envy and
discentent, not even through those that
are toe rosy and make everything seem
good, but instead We need to choose those
wonderful glasses made of the finest ana
clearest pebbles, permitting the looker-on
to see everything as it really is. A good
many people behave as il they always wore
the green glasses that show hatred, malice,
meanness and all uncharitableneSs through
them. Then again, because there is SUN
shine iii ones own life, one is convinced
that all the world Is just as it seems and
that unhappy or troubled people do not |
exist This extreme is almost as bud as |
the other and, what you and want, my |
friend are the clear glasses that do not |
exsggerate in any way. We want TO see |
life people, books. pictures, ana beautiful |
belongings as they ARCTIC look the truth |
straight i'll the face, and to know that it Is
mighty and does prevail.
HER HEART WITH THE POOR.
The average man and womun is inclined
to think that she ot whom they read as
being gay, rich aud beautiful, does not
trouble herself either about the SORROWS OF
the world, or how to relieve them. That is
one mistake. The fashionable woman is
really a busy one, but she manages to have
her pet charity. TO work faithfully for it,
give to il plentlfully, and sometimes she
forces her friends to do likewise. A silly
idea, the result OF foolish stories, that ideal
| ICES the poor and insists that hearts do not
beat under silk or satin as they do under
| cotton or wool, exists. The best cOntradlc-
| ton is to see the rich women in the hospi-
| tails, not only at holiday time, but all the
| year round. To see these women carrying
/ iellies and delicacies to the tenement
| houses, and entertaining gracefully and
graciously las does Mrs. Fred. Wonderfully,
| party after party OF working girls mem
bers of the club to which she belongs, an
emphatic denial in itself.
ALWAYS IN PRETTY FRocKs.
In the hospitals. and down among the
tenement houses, it is preferred that the
rich woman comes well.dressed. Those
women on the other side like TO see the
pretty gowns, and feel that, if they are
worth visiting at all, they are worth dress
ing for. shall never forget the express
sion on sick child's face after he had had
standing by his cot a charmly pretty girl
all feathers and ribbons, laces and furDe-
lows; as She laid the punches of holly
berries on his bed, he smoothed the silk of
her gown caressinSly and said, II like you,
You always look AS if you had walked ont
Of the fairy book" ! tell you, my friend,
the charities of the fashionable women
are many, and if She were to give them
up, the people on the other side would
realize exactly what they had meant, and
all that she had been to them.
QUESTION OF MANNERS.
Looking through the glass with great
care, think rs nation we may be sci
, down as at once the most Chivalrous and
the worst hammered in the world. Toe
much independence of constitution has
I made too much Independence of manner
and there is slight inclination to respect
neither weakness nor old age. A party oi
fashionable women 20 to the opera, anc
talk through an entire scene-make every
body else uncomfortable and then, whef
a some man, a real music lover, who cal
5 only afford the opera once in while, feel
i that he is being defrauded of his right
II and ventures to hiss the chattering con
y tinSent, he is quoted as y boor. Now, tina
is all wrong The women who talk de
It serve to be Missed, and each one of then
/. ought to go home with her cheeks burn
i ing with shame, and think out in the
d quletness of her own room, as to wha
IS constitutes real politeness.
o WHERE HAS CouRrEsY CONE?
We women, who crowd the street car
i that are already full, and look steadtastl
e and rudely al the man who does not ris
}. and offer his seat, are very guilty We 4
Is into restaurant, where the tables are a
II ready crowded select the one We woul
. like to have and wonder audibly and, o,
casionally loudly why those people don
al hurry mp" We talk u greal deal abOl
I. respecting the rights Of the nation, and "
E. haven't the slightest particle Of consider;
IN ton for the individual. tmpoliteues
IN exists in every Class OF society, and is I'll
OF one vice watch the rich and poor shul
alike.
IN Our young gifls are in such a hurry
,r have a good time that they forget I'll
"a Difference due their mothers Our sol
a' are in such hurry TO make money TIL
10 they Disregard the advice and ignore ii
az experience OF the father, whom each OF
is inclined 10 call the old man. Oh
servants, treated rudely and without co
e sderatlon, are impairment and are only
W proof that the servant is rejecting the mi
~ tress as in a looking. glass. Do YOU thin
r. that am loohing at things darby! NJ
~ Think 1t all over yourself, and you will 5
~, that as a nation we are about as baima
AZ nered as we can be, and that we WILL on
attain politeneSs when each individu
ar considers it 4 personal duty to be couTteo
,ut y each and every one in every grade
is life.
OF GENUINE ANp IMITATION.
" II is funny how people write and t,
M about the swell set in New York /
'eu "swagger set and the literary set, n
d. best set is that one never heard Of.
ng does not bla2olfforth its riches hut eric
led them in comfort. II is uf blue blood a
for white reputation. Its daug4ters are l.
-es, advertised III the daily uarers as prof
son sional beauties, and its sons are not d
Of spicuOns among the hprsey or fast 50
OF Charity and kindness are found among
VI. The men are honest and the Women
ATE above reproach, The set you read abe
the is governed by the stock market is ri
iCr to-day and making great display. II
~. possible that its downfall may BE- chFl
WI cled tomorrow, dnti ii is certain thu
Mil will be forgotten the day after The sj-Gal
III literary set has little 10 recommend ii
mas that those who com pose it mIsuEe 10
riety for fame. They talk ahp.,t 4ubI.
ard Laey do not understand, and ,ArE alsI
tTa- IN IL curious manner, hON wGli-uuy
IN tised pill is swallowed without i quest
nd, as to its Guratiye value.
on: now no CIT IN.
~ To get in the mNeh-itdvertisci sgt.
va. sa-called swell ont require. very lie
) imply the spending ol plenty Of mon
,,u a sfin somewhe! thick ana gtongllg sa,
, W. what acrid In the literary set men AZ,
~ scarce that they are accepted, 40 uiW
NJ how, or through whom they come 4
- who are from some small town wish 1
nv, I'M veu could see all this gaicty, aud re.
~, ~. that you are not IN society, Really
~, ~, can afford to laugh, for no one Sc, ia
'S0 society, Society proper rs really
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