Eagle River Democrat. [volume] (Eagle River, Vilas County, Wis.) 1893-1896, 1895-06-17
Lady ChesterfieId's Advice to Her Daugh

Paul Laurence Dunbar in the Century
Magazine.
Lady Chesterfie1d's Advice to Her Daugh-
ter.
LET me see. What is the date Of your
marriage?" -
The 25th, a week tomorrow"
Good gracious. Is it SO soon? Are
you not beginning to be afraid?"
Afraid of what? [ love John. and he
loves me-"
''Of course It's a real love-match.
I'm glad of that. Now, as l ought to help
you all l can. L will tell you how you
may, with luck, keep your Johns affec-
ton"
~Oh. do. But don't be SO dreadfully
grim about it."
IF you imagine it is a subject for
CHEEKY prittle-prattle perhaps. I'd better
not commence"
you know shall insist upon hearing
all you've got to say; SO go ahead"
'tEhe first and most important piece of
much with your husband. However
much you may care for his society, tear
yourself from it. Don't sicken him
straight off with your personality
: :. II m sure. John. would never"
tF:Ah, all Johns are alike. Then, don't
tell him too much. Don't let out on your
,: honeymoon the amount of sentiment
which should, if properly managed, spread
over four or five years. No. Treat him
as you would table d'hote acquaintance
with regard to your real self and feel
ings."
Eyes, yes. But afterwards? Life isn't
all honeymoon. / expect him to be fond
of me then What about later on?''
Later on he will ask you to slacken
your hold on society and to devote your
Self to him and to the house. Do not do
'.eitheF. 8, He would never thank you.
will haua ~ ontnrfain oil hiC
friends, and none of your own"
None Of them?'
'"Nonets For you single out one of
them for companionship you pickle rod
for your Own back. Better retain all
than one. Your house must be well man.
aged, your dinners perfect, your servants
underpaid-that he may boast of your
cleverness. And you must not mind how
many nights he may pass at his club, for
home is merely necessary relaxation
from too much comfort"
How can you! You don't know John,
and [ do"
NONSENSE You will never really know
John, because. after you are once mar
ried, he will tell you nothing of himself;
and you will find out that all he has al
ready confided to you was about an ideal
. lied John. No; he may occasionally re-
tail to you choice bits of scandal about
his friends, but he won't say much Of
himself"
But [ shall ask him."
81 wouldn't do that. I'm afraid if you
do not know his life, his thoughts, his
ambitions by intuition you will always
remain in ignorance Of them. Take the
little information he is prepared to give
you, and never ask questions. He will
think that marriage completed your edu-
cation; don't disturb that idea. He will
not care for the children when they are
little; so keep them in the nursery and
XNhoia thnu hooriT.
ming to be companionable he will take
them out and spoil them, and make them
tiresome and abominable."
Il should not allow it..
ut won't do for you to complain. New
err complain of anything. On the other
hand, never encourage anything or any
body. Boomerangs are the rule, and not
the exception, in married life. Thus:
Do not praise the woman John most adj
mires; that is insincerity. Do not blame
that is temper. Above all, never talk
earnestly upon the necessary details. of
everyday life; that is making a scene!''
1T all seems very complicated"
cit is we'll you should know it. Then
let his mother look into his wardrobe
whenever she will, and let her whisper
her favorite recipe for. bouillon to the
cook on the kitchen stairs And do not
you forget to order it next day.
::Ah, all, ah I should
Say your DeSL innings at DredkIaSl,
that he may retail them at dinner. Don't
let your laugh at the fftieth repetition of
his worst story grow too fat. Be the
best and most attentive of mothers.
Don't neglect your husband for your
children. Do not go to the dances to
which he objects. Do not stop at home
and NOPE. Dress exceptionally well.
Have no dressmaker's bills. Do not go
to Sandown with Capt. Chose. Be seen
about amuse yourself like other women:
Never mention the words rent tax
tailor butcher Put all summonses
silently on his desk. Do not laugh. A
married woman should be serious Do
not cry. Other women never cry. And
never frown. The frown of one day will
make John forget the 1854 upon which you
have smiled
do stop. I never can become such a
mass of contradictions.
Then you cannot be happy, Pail
Mall Gazette.