The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1895-04-21

your home must be right. 1t is to be one
must be located in the society belt" must
be substantial, with more regard to interior
than to. exterior beauty, and must be Iur.
that from dining room to assembly room 1T
is what it should be. The pictures. must be
and draperies must be quiet and harmon
ious and the taste displayed in
bric-a-brac rather severe. The dining room
appointments must. be complete, in hand
some and plain style. Silver is useful only
for forks. knives and spoons; cut glass
cannot be too plentiful, so long as your
father will stand the expense, and don't
make the mistake of having gaudy. china
Effusiveness is permitted only in the fur
nishing of your own boudoir, and there
it should be of a very delicate kind.
Another important factor is your method
had best put yourself at the mercy of a
good dressnaker, and then you won't know
how to wear the gowns she creates You
Don't let your dressmal<er cover you with
lace, or ribbons. or gimcracks of any kind
Plain, large effects are always more strik-
ing. If your form is good never let them
induce you to wear anything that Is not
trim about the waist Much jewelry is
be simple and the nearer you cling to pure
white effects the better. White will make
Whether your party gowns should be Sc
we're in their modesty or not depends en-
tirely upon what success you have had
with the massage and various ~beauty pro-
cesses'' upon your neck and shoulders.
Your Contingent party should not be
given until you are well. prepared for It.
You may need some further social train
Ing after leaving school which can be ac-
quired by visiting school friends. In the
intervals at home you can judiciously ex-
tend your acquaintance by having your few
Indianapolis. friends bring other friends,
boys as we'll as girls, for social calls, and
when they come make it as attractive for
them as possible with good refreshments,
sation. Don't, for heavens sake, either
at this stage or hereafter, Kick over all
your prospects by falling in love, and you
are very apt to do it If you are not care
full. Don't go driving with any boy, and
don't let any male person make love to
you. except at respectful distance or ,! get
Only one boy in a hundred can keep 1t to
himself when he gets his arm ground ,,i,,s,
enough to strike him. Once it is known
that you have been Rugged ever SO little
set begins to detest you, and, what is
much worse every mother becomes alarmed
daugh ne s' Il is @ social crime to to be
found out, and you are pretty certain to
be found out.
When you have extended your aequaint-
ance sufficiently your 'cofning-out'' party
may be given, for you can invite all your
young friends and SO many of their moth
ers as you know. Your mother should fol-
low this with a luncheon" and if you
can persuade your father to give quiet
dinner also, SO much the better. After
and your your ability ability to keep the
factors in your success. You must be able
to talk well about nothing in particular.
II you are silent 4 you , will bore the men you
moment, such as the theory of the latest
novel. some scientific discovery or any of
the greater things of life. you will frighten.
them. Remember, that they are tied up
all day with the sordid details of business
and scarcely get time to read the papers,
much less books.
If you take well" your way is easy
Be bit domineering. in matters pertain
in music, in colors or in what is ''the proper
thing be questioned. The others will sub
init with a meekness that is beautiful to
behold. Rush new fads rather strongly.
Just now you should go in for athletics
such as bicycling, fencing and tennis. Never
appear on the streets In the business part
of town outside your carriage, and don't
be green enough to go shopping in the aft
ernoon. Never 60 to a charity ball of any
sort unless you are sure that number of
''our Set will be there. Then, after you
are there, see that ''our crowd" has a
queer people, present snoW t. that yoe
don't care a cookie what they think of
you. Don't neglect to give. each unknown
you see wondering stare as though you
were rather curious to know what reason
he or she has for living. At the beginning
as You can until your card is filled, If it is
quasi-public affair, or until you have
made numberless engagements ahead if it
men you see, If they are well authenti-
Gated, brought up and introduced. If they
and You are well off with slight acquaint-
ance You may let the rest of the word
enjoy it, but it would never do to let the
mothers of "our set think so. 1t doesn't
''go'' to be too gay in Indianapolis After
any sort of a function, invite only your
intimate friends and those to whom you
abroad. If you invite other people whom
you have met merely because they are
swell" they are apt to come and then
must remember that the early education
of a good many people lin society," has
know them well, it is difficult to distin-
guish the people of gentle breeding from
Always object to NEW people" unless
they be young men, They are likely to
bring in daughters. and girls are already
too plentiful. Don't indulge in gossip. par
ticularly of the scandalous kind; married
women claim monopoly of this and are
rather jealous of their rights. Don't drink
wine and smoke cigarettes; there is no
fun in either. and the results have usually
proved disagreeable and sometimes disas-
trous Don't powder as long you can
get along without 1t: ii is sure to ruin your
complexion In few years. Nothing should
induce you 70 use rouge or pencil; it is
sure to be detected.
Your love affairs must be of the head
not of the heart The minute you tamper
with love you begin to deal with an I'M
known quantity. Your firtations should be
judiciously selected. Those with married
men must be of the mildest sort nothing
but occasional glance or converse ton
Even then he may consider you fool and
his wife will hate you and manage to have
YOU cut off some receiving list or other
Don't waste any time with boys; you grow
to the marriageable age much faster than
they They are all right TO dance with
but further than giving you the appear
ance of popularity they can do you no good
Exercise care in the selection of a hus-
band. If you are rich you need not look
for riches, but they never come amiss. Sc
iect some man Of serious purpose in life;
he is apt to pursue his purpose and let
you have your own way after marriage
IL you are not rich the best match you can
make Is to marry some man, bachelor or
widower. older than yourself. who has al
ready achieved success and wealth in his
profession or business He need not neces-
sarily be one of ..our set" Such men do
not usually belong TO any set. The next
best match Is very old and very rich man
You can AFFORD his crankiness and the gihes
OF the world for a few years for the fun
YOU can have after his funeral.