New-York tribune., 1895-12-22
HOME AND SOCIETY.
THE CHRISTMAS SPIRIT.
,up,sr1AN NAMEs-coNcERrs FOR CHILDREN
CHRISTMAS sHoPprNG-THE ENGLISH SALE
PARIS FAsHIONs-sIMPLE CAKES


PARIS FAsHIoNs-srMPLE CAKES
AND RICH ONES
.Why Is 1t that people seem as really
rhr,.tmasy as they do in books?" asked a little
,aia wistfully the other day. ut al seems jolly
., the stories reads. Every one is SO kind. and
every one good-humored but 1t isn't really sothat
a. among the people know. AT home all give
nresents and like Christmas OF course but the boys
tease mother scolds. papa grumbles the bills,
and everything is just horrid usual How
lovely II would he II could be like the book
families and every one be happy, and pleasant. and
hind for a week.!
7, is very hard. indeed to throw off and
~orry and even the petty annoyances of everyday
,fe for yuetide cheerfulness; but II parents could
he unselfish enough to make the effort to
atmosphere OF peace and good will and Christmas
cheer in their households for one short week alone
they would be abundantly rewarded-not only In the
loving memories OF the exceptionally happy time by
their children in after years. but by present graft
cde and appreciation oddly enough. human
nature Is so constituted that a lifetime self-sac-
,iace and makes less impression than spe-
cial effort made TO please-the one being taken
matter OF and the other recognized and
membered. with appreciation that is far beyond
us actual worth Therefore. Oh. fathers and
mothers. make Christmas time happy time in your
bou,es Danish for one short week the expression OF
care and cersure. and let your private worries and
aaxicties sleep. And while you make Christmas
hsppv time make IL also blessed time. Help
other families be happy well your
Feed the hungry and help the poor man
dates that have been. and will be- repeated from
pulpit and press and over again through the
long years past. and come; but it is incontro-
ver,bc truth that charity does even more good TO
the donor than to the recipient, and a week OF
kindly enor; in family and community will carry It's
blessing throughout the year.
Young mothers when they proudly bestow their
own Christian upon their infant daughters.
should reflect twice. before they conclude to do
Parents do no, generally consider the numberless
rettv annoyances that entailed thereby later
on when the baby becomes woman and has no
cir" In her distinguish her from her mother.
or course in such a case, youth is paramount and
the daughter is Mary Smith (or whatever may be
the cognomen while the mother is relegated to the
undesirable dignity of mature and becomes
known. even TO her intinates as Mrs Smith only.
Ii is small matter, II is true but nevertheless an
annoyance to many women. who like to feel young
enough be called by their bapt!snial names by
their especial friends.
Pin prick No. is the confusion there is apt to
be with their respective notes. 1t annoys Mrs.
Smith considerably 10 write a note Of invitation 10
a young man. and have him answer ii in friendly
fashion to her daughter who OF course. is too well
brought up 10 dream of usurpng her mothers pre-
rogative in the matter of invitations, ard who. II
she is very young would never he allowed 10 indlte
episiles TO the opposite sex. This is bad enough,
but II IS even irritating TO have the notes OF
Mary the younger. answered 10 Mary, the elder
for the girls Of this generation rarely pen graceful
and well-expressed notes, and Mary smith, me
mother rather prides herself on her clever Ett!e
bnlets-doux. and by means covets the distnc-
ton of having of her daughters careless
scrawls.
Even with handkerchief and body linen the con-
fusion and mixing up is continual Whatever is
best is Mary's" said a long-suffering mother;
that is the way tell at our house,
one of the funniest mistakes OF this Kind nap
pened not long since to a welknown writer whose
budding daughter ana namesake had literary aspi-
rstlons and who unknown TO her mother, sent
crude little story of the prominent magazines
What was Mrs. IS surprise and annoyance 10
receive the MS. returned" with a polite little
rote saving that they would have no need Of her
story at present
There will be no dishwashing in heaven am
thankful 70 saw" exclaimed a weary farmers wife,
as she put away the las, plate after long day OF
toll only TO take up the burden again with the us
ing OF the
81 really don't know what to do with my time
remarked a lady of fashion. who was blessed with
m especial fad or fancy Il get through the morn
ing somehow by rising late, writing my notes ana
taking a constitutional; but positively don't Know
half The timo where TO tell the coachman TO drive
20 IN the afternoons"
Which of these women has the best OF IL
Nus: We perforce be content with the only solu-
:. n that is given US shall the clay say 10 Him
ut fashioned H. What makest thou?
Last year in London there were some SATURDAY
afternoon concerts. or rather musical lectures.
given for children. The idea TO train the little
ones more rs listeners than as perforners' 10
teach them something about the FORM ideas and
component parts OF the music that they VIII near
when they are older and fit them for intelligent
and thorough enjoyment OF harmones. This would
seem 10 be a good idea for to take up
here Such lectures. properly Illustrated could De
made very interesting, and although school cnil-
olen would hardy care 10 hear them as saturday
afternoons entertainment they might be introduced
into the regular school curriculum with excellent
effect.
Money is lsvished in teaching to play children
wao have little musical taste This Is all very
Well as matter OF culture. but part OF this outlay
at least might be well expended in training them
10 understand and in cultivatng a desire Tor What
Is Otter a task and WEAKNESS. AT the concerts
referred to- explanatory remarks full OF attractive
Interest made. and theye were ILLUSTRATIONS
from wel-known operas describing the dinerent
styles OF the various masters II wouid seem 'ha'
each musical lecture with carefully arranged, in
etructive and elementary programme would meet
with great success ir NevYork where musica! cult
Is amos; always carefully attended TO, Whatever
else may be neglected.
Christmas shopping Is not always Pleasant even
for the shopper whose purse holds more than she
knows what to do with. The other day woman OF
high degree as regards refinement station and
wealth went bout the siversmiths shops In search
o. a little silver box. She wanted 10 buy one OF
certain size for 1t TO inclose another tiny box
which sne carried In her hand She tried several OF
the most popular shops in vain-there were silver
boxes in plenty but none OF just the right size.
Then she entered a shop which she Goes not often
visit, and wherein she was not recognized Politely
Addressing a salesman she held out the little box
which was 10 be inclosed and told him what she
wanted Hardly deignng to listen and entirely fail
Ing 10 lake IN the meaning o her words the man as
sured that she wanted one OF Their empty cases III