The Banner-Democrat. [volume] (Lake Providence, East Carroll Parish, La.) 1892-current, 1894-12-15
THE ELDER DAUGHTER.
ono VINO Sometimes Is Made Too Much q
Slave.

Ono Who Sometimes Is m&ue hOO ~ eS.. =
Slave.
It seems to be the lot of many
women to sacrifice their own pcrsoneii-
ties. tastes and desires to the emer-
pencics of the home life in which they
we're born. Their brothers are called |
to no such sacrifice. 1t seems to be the |
natural thing as soon as they have
grown to maturity that they should
leave home and work out fortunes lot
themselves, but no such freedom is OF
fered to the daughters, chained as they
are to the petty details OF domestic
life, unless perchance the prince, VINO
breaks all charms, comes and caus
them to homes of their own
How many daughters, who grow up
and assume their mothers burdens IN
the household, find they have grown
into middle age without having tasted
any of the possibilities OF life outside
the house? Perhaps they have older
sisters, and their time has been de-
voted to caring for the younger chill
dren, SO that they have had no time
for society and the world outside their
homes. The younger children have
grown up-the boys have gone OUT
into the world and sought and found
! their fortunes, and the daughters have
married. or possibly achieved careers
for themselves, while this elder sister
waited at home, too busy to think OF
life outside of home, with all the
chances and triumphs that the world
might have held in store for her. II
: has not been her lot to achieve q des
! tinv. She has been sacrificed, possibly
without realizing it herself, to tns
J needs of the younger members OF mel
family.
AS the younger daughters grow up
they do not offer to take her burden
:: as she took her mothers, and thus eacl
e in her turn share the burdens OF tn
r family. 1t is on the eldest sister
y therefore, that the cares OF the age
y mother also often fall because she ma
q remained a single woman and has q
q wavs borne the larger burden OF tn
- family care. In many families an eioe
% daughter who thus assumes tho care
le the family refuses all chances OF matr
Is monv. because of the responsibility
m these very burdens upon her, and NJ
I'll until her mother has passed from III
q, and left her a lonely woman, does 81
"a realize what the sacrifice has reau
n! been. She is too old, too Settled,
is achieve any separate place OF her ow
&c She has become to the world nonen
st tv. without personal interest beyol
I'D herself and the fulfillment OF her dsi
II, needs, typical old maid. The me
eo complete her sacrifice to the needs
lis others has been, the less time she
M been able to take to make herself
MT cable and agreeable, the more tn
en- ouch will be her isolation from !
~ world.
nd Mothers who allow one daugh
is thus to bury herself in domestic ca
Is for the sake of the rest OF the lam
ry. seldom realize how great sacri1
, II tkev are demanding. 1t seems
hat Mi thing that the daughter should
SUI utterly devoted to the mother, and
by elder daughter is most likely to be
our one called on to take charge OF
we household. But it is equally essen
way that the other daughters should sh
rld' the responsibilities and have the
hen cation of a home as well as the ed'
1ie' ton of q school. The burden
mes ,.ahold which becomes drude
ion; 1.;d ~, the shoulders of one
hall son is hardly felt when shared by
hall The mother of the family should m
any the same sacrifices for her daugh
on as the father does for his sons, and
mo, low them to achieve careers for tn
one: selves apart from any demand she
is OF have for their services,-N. Y. Trib
ears