The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1894-10-30

~ That dream Of
/ :oung love, all kisses and poetry, each
others eyes and the sweet influences
of the moonlight, passes with time and
use, just as the exquisite freshness of
/ the spring passes into the mature
amplitude of the summer, and this
again into the notIe fruitfuluess of the
autumn We cannot have il ALWAYS
springtlme and apple blossoms; nor can
the early raptures of the honeymoon
continue through the working years of
+ life. With the happiest marriage in
/ the world this ecstacy Goods down into
( friendship-sweet and tender and
faithful and confidential, but no more
like the exaltation of the first DAYS
than the ruddy apples of September are
like the pink apple blossoms of May.
/ Marriage is essentially matter Of
I give and take-of overlapping spheres.
i independent though conjoined - OF
I equal rights differently manifested
yet with the necessity of one supreme
head, one authoritative voice when
grave occasion demands an absolute
and final decision The grand cause Of
quarrel generally rests on the questions:
Whose is that voice 20 be? Is the hus-
band or the wife to be the court Of
ultimate appeal? Are his thoughts to
override her wishes. or her wishes TO
neutralize his principles? Outside these
grave occasions, however, which, ac-
cording TO us of the old school. both
justify and dignity the exercise Of
marital authority, the man who inter
feres with his wife's duties and
trenches on her rightful domain is sure
to come to the grief he deserves, If his
wife be of the true sort, with a due
sense of self-respect and q right esti-
mate of her apportioned duties She
resents his interference in matters not
belonging to him; perhaps she fights
and bickers-perhaps she sullenly
withdravs and gives way, letting him
usurp the place which belongs To her.
and contenting herself as she best can
with ''make-ups" of various kinds. IL
she takes up this cause or that. and
makes herself noisy platform
nuisance; if she plurges into dissipa-
ton and finds happiness only in excite
ment and the vortex" II she gives her
energies TO art, her ambition 10 litera-
ture, and lets her home go as il will,
her husband alone is 20 blame Others
suffer, and no one more than the wife
herself, but he is ponsible-though,
indeed, mighty little harm that fact
does to him!
1t may be, however, that the wife
rejoices in this interference and finds it
relief unspeakable 10 be spared
all trouble and all responsibility.
She is indoleut and self indulgent,
and lets herself sink into the
position of a favorite toy or
living doll that has to be dressed in
fine clothes and laid on soft cushions.
taken out for an airing in the sight Of
an admiring world, fed delicately. and
kept from all the dignity Of self-re-
straint, the education Of experience,
the ennobling influence OF active du-
ties. One knows women of this kind,
absolutely destitute Of the womanly in
stinct of household management
women who look on every detail of do
mestic life as an indignity, and who
hold themselves worthy OF all pity II
they have to order a dinner or see 20
the fit arrangement Of the guest-chsm-
Der. Ask such women what they think
they were born for, and they viii an
swer: ITO be taken care OF and have
no trouble" With no more maternal
instinct than they have womaniy ap-
probation, they have no love for their
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sire for them IL they have none. IL
they come, they are given up 10 the
nurse as things with which she has ell
and the mother herself nothing To do.
Grown older, they are sent TO
school or delivered over to the
governess without much anxiety as TO
their well being under neglect here,
irresponsible power there. Ia no case
are they the mothers csre-shc whose
only feeling is one of dismsy as she
contemplateS the time when her tall
son VIII be an accusing witness Of the
fight Of time, when her grown dnugh-
ter will have 70 be taken out and in
troduced- Such women as these are
essentially western odaiisques-cres-
lures Of idleneSs and luxury. doing no
good 70 anyone. There j. this differ
ence between them: The western
married odalisque lives FOR herself
alone, taking al, giving back nothing.
The final cause OF the other IL the
pleasure Of the man. Between these
different ranifestationS-thes "rea-
Sons why" Of moral degrada;ion-there
Is not pin 20 choose. The one Il ssl-
tshDess, the other servitude; and both
arc destructive Of yonanly NOBILITY.
A. the other end o. The scale stands
the obedieut husband. CON PLEASANT
lache, perhaps Indifferent; FOR the one
part, and seif-dishCnoring for the
other. This Is the man who takes
things "a they come. and makes 10
complaint how tad so-Ter or made
quste they may be lie allows his
wife unlimited authority, with liserty
20 correspond She IS absolute his
tress q the family life 7; Is she who
chooses the schools Tor her boys; ale
who determines or their professional I
career, she who regulates ihs.T aaoVT- /
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