The Washington times., 1894-04-22
NUnfEnlilu'S 'Sldea

Girls, like flowers and other growing things
are divided up into distinct species, and are
known by types. There is tho pretty girl,
! who is apt to be spoiled for anything but the
society division of the world from the start.
The schoolgirl, the Housekeeping girl, the
clever girl, the ambitious and the nineteenth
century girl and the Summer girl. l like
them all always, from the time they appear
on the scene, red rs rose-leaf and just as
sweet, to the time they enter their teens to
find their wings and then sail away into life
as fully developed women.
Girls are universally interesting, and are
worth ones best thought as TO rearing them.
Ii boys are the hope of a family name, girls
are no less important as a present response
bility and the future makers of homes or
something else in this world. Since it is no
longer the fashion to set down or up home
making and the rearing of family as the
only thing girl is likely to come to, parents
have to take wider outlook for them. Not
long since told you, my beloved, to do as
much for your boys as you do for your girls,
and now am going to say, reverse that rule
Do as much for your girls as you do for your
boys to give them opportunity to develop the
gifts they were born with as to getting an
education. College doors are open. There
fore, do not let prejudice keep your girl out,
II she is capable and anxious to go in.
Recent events not necessary to detail
conclusively prove that on the side OF morals
men and women are to be judged alike in
the near future. The education TO bring that
standard about will consist in at home SO
instructing your boys as to respect all women,
whether of their class or another, and your
girls TO respect themselves, and to require OF
men as much as they give-when 1t comes to
exchanging hearts and hands. This should be
one of the duties which parents should regard
as imperative. they should not leave these
vital. delicate questions to the Sunday school
teachers, the high school instructor or to
chance. Chance never yet brought up boy
or girl in ilrst-class SHAPED If nobody looked
after them, and they turned out well, it was
IN spite OF "Chance," and because OF innate
nobility united to an ability to develop with
out outside aid.
The school girl-how engaging she is!
We all know her and admire her traits OF
mingled innocence and expanding intel
ligehce. We begin to see what she may be-
come II she keeps on growing mentally as
she develops physically in beauty from day
TO day. Generally parents are much more
concerned to make their children into what
they want them TO be than they are to develop
their natural capacities. 1t is worth while to
study your daughters disposition and tastes,
to see what to make OF her, quite so much as
it is to find out what Bob or George or Frank
wants to be.
One cannot general succeed in making a
school teacher-for life at least-of the girl
who has an instructive leaning towards house
keeping and domestic life. The most OF the
girls one meets are built on this last plan. 1t
is nplN, npxv and tbnp hot innrbtar t,ra-
fers TO write stories, TO paint pictures or to
study medicine, or even to take up a business
of some sort more than she cares for
day dreaming. building castles in the air, in
which she and her Ideal" are 10 live some-
time together.
This transition comes along of itself when
the average girl gets about through her teens
and has left school TO assume the pleasures
and privileges of young ladyhood. Many an
anxious mother at the beginning OF this
I Teriod in her young girls life has thought
her darling about to go into "a decline" be-
cause at this approach of the sentimental age
she 'drooped round and did not seem ito
take an interest in anything. Both fathers
and mothers seem to forget how it was with
at the same age. Get out your old
and see how you looked twenty
years ago. Only few of the more thought
ful mothers regard this period as an oppor-
tunity TO be wisely improved.
These see that their girls company Is well
selected, and. without seeming to. size up all
the young people of the other sex who are
callers, making those they do not approve of
feel so uncomfortable that they soon leave
the field to those who are approved They
never laugh at their daughter budding sen-
timentlity, but try TO train il SO as to make
it embelish her life, and not be the cause of
her downfall, either in or out OF marriage. 1t
is true sentiment about the common relations
ag.f,l
stincts and puts beauty aud poetry into them.
The more OF the right kind the better 4
coarse joke or iniualciors teazinc about this |
time acts like black frost. and IA girls frank |
ness and righteousness. even her confidence |
have been chilled by people, who loved her !
more than life. but who did not know enough |
to know when not to be smart at her ex- |
pense.
1t is not only unwise. it is cruel to laugh at |
these incipient feelings of a fine or gentle |
latured child. who is often puzzled al her own |
new emotions. Right here the good mothers. |
who have retained the confidence of their |
Young people of both sexes, can get in many |
1 helpful word, and keep either from doing |
-idiculous things or falling into some of the |
srrors OF youth and innocence
Many a girl makes u bad match because she
las no wise friend to contide in at time when
he needs Judicious confident, most and is
ifraid to confde in her mother The best
,ontldant a girl can have is her own mother,
md anything she cannot tell her all about is
lot the thing for a young girl to encourage
" SO much as a smile or a look of approval
There is good deal being said about the
nineteenth century girl as though she were
lew kind OF being which her mother, much
ess her grandmother, never dreamed of. And