Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1894-12-04
,pOUT DEBUTANTES.
RAINING Young Women They Make
Their Bow 10 Society.
yETTER OF GREAT IMPORTANCE.
,.e.i,ent Advice Co Mothers Who
Are Introducing Their Daughters
10 the Social World.
,-,rrespondence OF the Dispatch.)

.-..,sa during the summer ceased 70
,,trcn ana become all at once young
are making their bow TO the go
...,3 They are announcing. not in
an, words. but by the most bewitch-
..,..s thai they are now old enough
,.. Or the voyage Of life II a good
..is % be had to accompany them.
matter Of great excitement and
&C interest TO the girls themselves.
-. matter q even more serious mo-
g., their mothers. for the way In
-, , e.rl gets started in life Is likely
..-.nce all her future. OF course.
. risky Festherhoad IS Infinitely
...-. ,ake1 up with the fit of her gown.
obi. number Of her bouquets than
.. any serious views about the future.
-,., IS natural and proper enough to
,..,e. but sensible thoughtful mamma
-. runaiciy for Miss Featherhead, a
.....si older and more discreet head on
,...t.lIcrs ana means that her dimpled
,.,r suddenly shot UP into a stately
.-. nIy. shall profit by her mothers
....a ana experience.
COMING-OUT TEAS.
-,t -.n with. II 4, Is in any way pos
.., ... SSH give Dimples n Coming-out
rt rs are lots Of indolent mothers
.., .,irk 3. less trouble for the daugh-
make her first formal appearance
49, Cd. social world at some one else's
.. up 40 some opening ball OF the
- pa, that arises generally from
Il 49,.
g.. . PSI. upside down. and have a ''func-
.,-r Nothing can be more unwise.
r.rr-out tea Is. after all. no such
,, u4it,r-the furniture pushed out
- ... vlv. some flowers here and there.
I'll. % aiI ones old friends. tea. choco-
80. rluli1n. sandwiches, cakes. ices.
"a ,an-boas in the dinlng-room. half
pan - her girl friends In smart
,-.ss @, help receive they may be called
... o. o. bridesmaids later. and little
,...-. smiling Fri9ky at the door be-
... mamma with "A bouquet as big as
,-.r n ore hand and half n dozen
... r.ei on the table behind her. 1t
-. Der dignity and importance at
.-. ia tho eyes Of all the other girls:
...r-e.s who are entertaining for their
..r r.uchters cannot ignore her exist
an. uieu there is a formal presentation
t.. -r-. as they may very possibly DO
-..-r ..rl slips into society unannOunced
.-f .r.. aided GA friends who are not
g. Oh way Of going to young folks balls
.-. ff s-el ana flatterel 10 have the
Sam. ua . presented 10 them IN due form
CO. f.- own house, and are thereby IN
ra.i % regard her amlably, 70 be ito
- .4t o. little blind TO be TO her
-t1rr- exceeding kind" Thus she starts
ZIP with "a clientele Of friends and ac-
c.~-.-~es. instead Of having the whole
CT. v roai 10 travel uphill.
CHOOSING A SET.
Once Dshut1nte is nicely launched It
Sid remains in mammals hands to see
..t CD. voyage Is made easy. Wise
ur1 doesn't scol1 Frisky for rushing
.-.. .. i-sirahle intim3cies: she takes the
- sensible 'course " inviting de-
,a mtimates to her house so often
g.. r nishps arise from mere pro-
..y All the nice girls grow TO
r time that Frisky's mother has
a..m welcome for them. ia Interested
o. e. their fun. and their plans. and will
.. the trouble 10 help in both. SO.
o.. before the thOughtless young
tt..r realizes 1t, she has formed her
g. ---slps ami associates IN SAFE quar-
o.. Moreover a debutante with such
-... mother ia learning all this Whle
81. n NJ being a hostess, with all the
.-..- AMI sweetness OF character anu
manner which being charming
t.....- tusires For even II the home 10
'tt. narrow and money not very
,t.-..,, vt the hospitality is not
..tI Instead OF merely ordering IN
t.....e. with no regard for the subse-
ehe lDehfifanfn
t.a 90 make dainty dishes with her own
A..s ana thus take. incidentally. her
f,s, lessons IN housewifery; how TO make
handful " autumn leaves and Few
,r--s decorate table as much as
t..st so piece from the florist, ana how
rg4 NOR. delightful! frolicsome little
..-.-. aul luncheons Of three or four
-... s.lsluei with merriment' are
.... ..U f,Asts where canvas-back anu
.,.,...n are the only attractions.
THE CHARM OF COURTESY.
Sc. another duty Of the debutantes
-~.t. q. inpress by example and pre-
., -. duty OF universal courtesy. NO
VS.. aa-her will leave her little maid
20 FISK away all her days in selhsh
.- .,ra-te She will take her along
v .- .-. s.es herself 20 call on the older
r-... ~n. VIII see that her child learns
g. ...,....te the intelligence. the dignity
t,I .r-, ~ ueople maturer than herself.
.. tet Sd. also learns that sweetest
g AL virtues. Difference. she Will eteach
I.f.rt The sweet path 10 the winning OF
ls-l. ctr,falue-s in trifies. The girl VINO
lr.-rttrs always 10 inquire with kihu
'.---st after an acquaintance VINO ~
Elk U; suffering. end does not thlnA IL
much trouble 10 go with a book OF
4.
t- interest she expresses is real, VINO
,n.noe.. 70 be glad with others good
t.'.re. % recall birthdays. write at once
. answer q notes. to make friends with
90. babies. and sit down for little tank
N,- o.. Ola ladies'. Is going to be sue
o.- d., h.r social world. whether she
b ia.n or pretty. witty or not.
HER MANNER WITH MEN.
lastly perhaps most important OF ALL
:. Or. attitude Of the debutante's mother
g. OBJ. young men. 1t is far too common
g. lie careless. lazy parent TO launch the
laughter and then leave her TO settle heF
s.t rs with men for herself, which IS
e. lra.se as anything can well be. l!
g.. lI thus neglected fails TO attract
admirers the selfish mother either IS
impatient with her failure or else faiis
70 Intimately at the selhshness ana
? f-f lliy 0f the modern young man H.
u be other hand. the pretty daughter
t..uF.,s her affections and makes
l-4 marriage. then the same selfish
l..taer rails at the perversity OF girls
l.e wise mama does neither; she takes
ie.n, from the very lrst to be nice 10 'he
t.,r y0gng men, she does not insist upon
Der daughters knowing only SUNDAY
t.-.ai slutrintendents. but she sees that
iae mon asked 20 the house are gentle,
t.u. 4uI moreover. that they are asheu
',.a aa1 that the house is made agree
atc lr them when they come. her
-..r.ier IL not thrown at their heads'
ty ina plenty Of other girls there;
Pretty girls and pleasant ones, anu
'e'rs ~ charming, cheerful houso'
t.F come often, and the girl "ho,
f.ly seen in a ballroom would never
i-'e caught their careless eye. proves 70
D a.fty and Jolly. and a good 'ott,
49, hey take the pains 10 be courteous
60 lels. remembering what good tithes
r'g have had at her home. over anu
t',r again the girl who suffers 'he
anguish and humiliation OF being wall
iyntr owes her sorfows 10 her mother
Neglect aud stupidity. Men can only judge
~ q fifi when they first meet her by out
ward appearance. and 30 the pretty ones
carry o0 most OF the partners; ana many
gl who knows how to be very agree
d. S.-y neglect 10