The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1894-06-17

business aptitudes. or even in moral
principles, then they had far better re-
main single. But if they are the con-
verse of all these, marriage will not
only be suitable but highly desira bic.
Paradoxical as it may seem, good
and thrifty wife would make the late
bachelors income go farther for two
than for one Her def and ready
fingers would at the same time multi
ply his comforts. Her thrifty and care
full habits would prove the safest
guardians of his humble store.
We presun1s. of course. that the
marriage is prompted by love; other
wise it is likely to be failure Only
rich people can venture to marry with
out it, as they have other compen5a-
tons of which we do not approve, but
which they often seem to imagine suit
them Just as we'll.
To our thinking a loveless maria e
is not only an unna tural union, but Is
sheer folly or downright wickedness.
People will sometimes say, 'Oh, but
love will come after marriage" Never!
the chances are too many against it..
An intelligent and mutual affection,
however, is in itself marriage, and we
must not be led away by supposipg
that ceremony can ever be anything
more than a ceremony.
4 There are other reasons why poor
people of suitable dispositions, as men,
toned. should marry. Marriage calls
forth all the latent good that may be
in them. 1t enlarges their sympathies
and their hopes; it gives incentive TO
action and solidity to character. it
steadies the wavering, and saves those
who would otherwise be lost. The
nome may be poorly furnished. and
wanting in many things; but love
'brightens and cheers the hunblest cot
tage. And. after all. it is real home
where two brave souls cherish and com
fort each other. And when the children
come, the parents have ripened by ex-
parience, and have discovered the
means whereby to provide for them.
Often. too, they come as Gods angels,
to heal a wounded heart or TO
strengthen weak spirit.
Thus. poor and rich are not absolute,
but relative terms. For man is not
nourished by bread alone, but by
thought and action. and innocent pleas
ures, and above all by sympathy Inc
confirmed bachelor is apt to develop a
hard and selfish nature: the old maid
is too likely to become sour and crusty;
and not because their characters are
worse than those of others. but because
their circumstances have not been
favorable for the growth of their high
er feelings. True marriage is often
like Moses rod, which smote the hard
rock and refreshing waters gushed
forth They were hidden. pent UP,
waiting for the friendly touch that
should free them.
OF course. a certain measure of prud-
ence should be exercised before engag-
ing in marriage. A man should see his
way to fulfilling all reasona BILE respon-
sibilities. and in so important a matter
the most important of his life-should
weigh we'll what he is about to do. As
! a rule, the character of his wife is Of
more consequence than the amount of
his income IF the latter would be
sufficient in the hands of a prudent and
domesticated woman, and he is attach
ed to such a. one in mutual love, then
the sooner they marry the better. Let
them do so in the bloom of life and en-
Joy each other society when hope and
energy are strong, and not wait until
the world has embittered them OF
crushed out all the happy toouyancy of
their youth There is another advant-
age in early marriage their children
will be grown up before they. them
seves will have passed middle age. and
will be able. perhaps. to have the fell
leity of returning their parents' care by
assisting them, should their old age
| need it.
! BY far too much is made of the differ
Eence between the rich and poor. Those
who have experienced both states
know that human happiness is much
the same in each. Wealth has its dra W
backs as we'll as poverty. And posi-