The National tribune., 1894-06-21
EDITORS CHAT.

L. r. w Asks What is Expected of Guest
on Departing From Visit-The Question
Answered, with Others in the Same Line.
DEAR EDITOR: Please tell me what is required
of guest after she leaves your home Should
or should she not write 10 you upon reaching
home?
have recently entertained a guest c. C.,
too. and did every thing i'll my power to make
her have a good time. That Was over month
ago and / have not heard a word from her
since.-L. B. w.
This letter of L. BW's suggests many things
in visiting etiquet that may prove helpful to
the C. C. In answer to her question, Should
guest write upon reaching homer" we would
say, emphatically, yes.
Unlike many questions of good FORM there is
bus one verdict upon this. True politeness is,
after ALL but another form of kindness, and
kindness alone would prompt the writing of a
letter of thanks to the friend whose hospitality
We had accepted.
No matter how profuse our thanks may have
been upon leaving. it is due cur hostess to in
form her of our arrival home, and to write
cordially Of our entertainments
DUTIES OF THE VISITOR.
There are many other duties required of the
visitor. We often read of the duties of the
hostess" but the duties of the visitor seem TO
have been overlooked.
In the first place it is important TO give our
hostess some idea Of how long we expect 10
stay, so that she may arrange her plans accord
ingly.
Another important thing is to be prompt at
meals. IL you visit family who breakfast at
6 o'clock, then you must De ready at SIX. There
is, perhaps, no worse breach of etiquet than to
sleep in the morning and keep breakfast late,
or else require another meal prepared for you.
If you do not sleep well do not wound the
feelings OF your hostess by telling her what
poor night you passed, how the children disturb
ed you, or that you were cold for lack OF suff1-
cient covering, or too warm because their cell
ings were so low the air could not circulate
freely. Such remarks are so common and so
uncalled for.
DO NOT.
Do not pick at your food and remark that
you cannot eat anything but certain cut of
steak or quality of roast, and do not tell how
Mrs. So-and-so prepares dishes, to the disparage-
ment Of your hostess.
Do not tell how elegantly such friend lives,
in contrast with your hostess, or how well
other children behave when you can see that
your hostess children annoy her.
DO not repeat conversations that have &C.
Cured In other homes. or tell Of unpleasant
incidents; your hostess will know that if you
DO that IN her home you will carry gossip Of
her to other places.
If you are well 90 to church with the
family; do not insist upon going to your own
church when it is the wish that you go to
theirs.
DO not make fun of the town, or the people
you see on the street, or of entertainments you
may attend.
If you are young woman do not expect to
have house full Of young men every evening.
You are visiting your hostess, and try and be
satisfied with the entertainment provided.
IL You are young man do not inquire at
every turn if there are pretty girls in town.
aud drag your friends around making calls. Let
your host or hostess suggest, aud you follow
their suggestions.
Do mol suggest taking the horse and carriage
Of your host and driving around, unless it is
offered you. and then be as careful of the
horse as you would be Of your own.
II you are a man, do not stay out late at
night and keep the family up waiting for
you.
II you are young LADY, keep your own
room in order, making your bed and keeping
the basin and soap-dish clean.
DO not put your laundry IN the family wash,
or soil any more towels than you can help. or
make any more disorder than possible about
the house.
DO NOT BE PRIG.
Above all do not undertake TO instruct your
hostess in etiquet IL the table is not laid to
suit you, or the dishes are served without proper
attention to the laws of contrast, or if plate
is passed aTkwardIy, do not comment CT look
your disappToyal.
Remember that it is your sole and solitary
duty to keep sweet. IL you do not like it where
you are you can leave. But while there it is
required OF you simply 10 please and be pleased.
INSULTING THOSE WHO SERVE
friend called last night woman well born
and well bred and of high social position;
true lady, who recognizes that her interiors in
the scale Of intelligence and social standing
have rights as sacred and inviolabe as those
who are her superiors or equals.
i am positively ashamed and unhappy"
abe said. referring TO the rude treatment of
girl employed In her house as maid of all work
Then she told how an acquaintance had ar
rived from an adjoining city during her absence
crowded herself into the house, treated the girl
rudely who was in charge, and then upon her
arrival said. in a loud voice: Your servant was
not going to let ne in"
Il know Jennie is hurt" my friend added
and am so sorry an acquaintance of mine
should conduct herself that way We are al
ways as careful OF Jeunie's feelings as we are
OF those OF any member Of the family"
True IL Is; real ladies and gentlemen are
considerable OF all. 1t is the counterfeit article
which is making so much misery in the world
OUR ROLL CALL.
sn's daughter and Wv. veterans widow; members
Of associations will be marked s.y. and D.V.l
Ed. Clark. VS.. Woodvile. Ala Nellie Bishop
niece 20. j. ZSth MO, so clinton St., Carthage,
No; Winnie Alexander. Victor, Colo; Lulu
Boose. v.d. Path Ill., Corning Cal; Andrew J.
Miller, Battery h, Ath U. :. Art, Torrington
Conn; Ella V. Smith, Wv. New Chambersburg,
o. Dora +. Parker and Lillian Monroe Roches-
ter. o.; Mary McCraeken aud James McCrscken,
grandchildren Of a Union spy Fresno City Cal;
Stephen Brown, Collector of Revenue of Christ
ian County, Ozark. Mo-; Anna A. Howell, Box
81 Freesoil, Mich; JAS. Mullin, Jas. Flanagan,
Solomon Banks Neil McGregor, Chas Simpson,
Oliver A. Simmons, Edward Starr, Washburn.
Wis. Total, 1880
HAPPY HOUSEHOLD.