The record-union., 1894-05-31
BESELENAiO ADVICE.
How Young Man Should Pick Out
a Wife.
If Girl "Has No Higher Ambition
Than to Make Home Paradise"
She Would Advise Marriage.

ESPECIAL Correspondence of RECORD UNIoSI
received a letter from young man
the other day. He signed some mystic
initials to the epistle, and he asked my
advice upon several matters OF import
ance to himself, and / rather thought,
from the tone of his communication, that
he thought l would be interested. TOO.
The mysterious young man is thoroughly
impregnated with the idea that can and
will give him sound and sensible advice
on a very delicate question, namely ::
Scan a young man support wife Oh SoO
month ?"
Now, to give advice to ones nearest
and dearest friends is a risky matter, be-
cause very few of us care to accept said
advice, no matter how well-meaning 1t
may be, preterring TO 60 ahead, following
blindly our own impulse, until 1t ends
with sharp turn in disaster or round
curve of success. If the latter, we can
Gay triumphantly, 81 told you so''; II the
former. then some one else can say, Jeer-
ingly, Il told you so'; and then, no mat
ter now sweet-tempered we may be ordl-
narily, we would like to annlhllate them
upon the spot.
knowing this to be the case, L debated
within myself long and earnestly whether
/ should risk incurring my unknown
correspondents undying wrath tor graft
tude) by complying with his request.
and finally | decided TO help him, be-
cause | like young men, and like TO see
them happy; and if my advice 10 the
young man in question was the open
sesame TO Utopian dreams in elyslum
fields, then [ didn't see any reason why
i shouldn't open my mouth ana utter
unto his listening ear words OF WISDOM.
This l did. l told him that if his sweet
heart, whose name by the way was
Daisy, was a good housekeeper, could
work and sew and perform all the other
thousand and one little duties incumbent
on q Young married couple who start IN
life with love in a cottage" and small
exchequer that he could marry Daisy,
and be sure of being happy forever alter
ward, as the fairy tales always say when
the prince weds the lady of his choice, be
she beggar, maid or princess.
But there is another side to the QueS-
ton which is not SO bright, and which
the young man should look to carefully
before plunging his neck into the lrrevoc-
able matrimonial halter, and that is, Can
Daisy do these things, and II she cannot
is she willing to learn? Is she willing to
stay at home and make that home bright
ana pleasant when the lord OF the
manor'' comes home from his day s
work? A man likes TO see a smiling face
and hear loving words when he enters
the portals of his home, no matter how
humble ii may be, and men are very
much alike the world over. II isn't very
pleasant for tired man to come home
after hard days work and find either a
cross, unsympathetic wife, who hates
housekeeping, or else finds the home de-
serted ana his wife out, torgetIul that a
hungry husband awaits her coming.
Some one has said that the best way to
win man is through his stomach, and
there is more truth than poetry IN the old
saying, for the very best tempered man
on earth will develop into a veritable
fear when his dinner doesn't materialiZe
on time.
While awaiting her coming he grows
moody and distrustful: all SORTS of vague
shadowy shapes fit through his brain,
and if he never were jealous before he
can, assisted by the pangs of hunger.
work himself into any sort Of a delirlum,
and believe it, too. The divorce court
usually ends it all.
This / pictured to the young man, and
warned him to be particularly careful in
studying Daisy's characteristics before it
is 700 late.
But there is still another side to the
question, and that is more pleasant to
look upon. That is, if Daisy, as her name
implies, is sweet and lovable and COM
panionable, and has no higher am mbition
IN life than to make home veritable
earthly paradise, then, l say, by all
means ignore the CYNICAL PttRchS ad
vice, who must have been suffering from
combination of ailments when he gave
il TO the world, and marry. There is al
ways the prospect in view for a steady,
industrious young man TO some day have
an increase of salary, and then Daisy's
actual labors will be over, though she
should always be able to superintend her
house and servants.
Another question asked me by this
anxious young man was this: Daisy, be-
ing young, was, of course, fond of going
10 the theater, and ii it pleased his sweet
heart, Daisy's adorer was very happy to
crafty her, but, alas. upon this mundane
sphere of ours there is no bliss without
alloy. Daisy has mamma who is q sort of
giddy young thing herself and when
Daisy and her best young man HE them
selves toward the temple of Thespis, the
gay and festive man main laW-tO-b be
wishes TO go to. The future intended
second half of Daisy was careful to ex-
plain that he didn't object to the chape-
rome only from pecuniary standpoint.
ou see young man can't do entertain
ing for three on $50 per month, and
he asked what I'd do were / in his posi-
ton. | told him if he found Daisy up in
all the refnements he demanded to make
him happy, then by no manner of means
10 offend his future mother-in-law in the
beginning, for mamma in law is a
mighty power behind the throne. After
he had married Daisy it would be an easy
matter to give her the shake. 1t might
cause wrench, but if Daisy loved him
she would think that all he said and did
was just right, and she would agree with
hiinIin everything which had even a
selnblance of being reasonable. l don't
think the prospective mother-in-law in
this case was very considerate woman,
or she would not want to accompany
them to the theater, knowing the young
mans financial position, as of course she
must. Then again, the young people
would be happier and less restrained
We're a third party's eyes not fastened
upon them watching their every move
ment. But the young man, to be sue
cessful in his suit, must be polite: he
must avoid snares and pitfalls, and guide
all his actions carefully. Then he will
be sure of ultimate success and happy
married life. This was the advice | gave
the young man, and it is the advice /
give TO all other young men in the same
position. BEsEIENA.
May so, 1894.