The Washington times., 1894-12-16


hand an hall a dozen more pils1 on the table
behind her II gives her dignity and import
anee at once in he eyes OF All lie olher girls;
mamas who are entertaining for their own
daughters can not ignore her existence when
there is a formal presentation iike Jhis rs they
may very POSSIBLY do when girl slips into So
c.ety yuEannounced and Unherslisd
Old friends who are not in the Way OF going
10 Young folks balls are pleased and hnttered
to have the Young maid presented 10 them in
due form ia her own house. and are thereby
inclined TO regard her amiabiy. TO be ITO her
faults a little blind to be 20 her charms eX-
ceeding kind 7 Inns she starts i;Iir with i
clientele OF friends and acquaintances, in
stead OF having the whole lonely road TO
travel uphill.
CHeJ SING A SET.
Once debu ante is nicely launched il still
remains in mammals hands TO see that the yoy-
age is mada easy. Wise mamma doesn't scold
Frisky for rush ing into undesirable intimacies.
she takes e more sensible course OF inviting
desirable inlimRtes 10 her house 80 often that
friendship arise from mere prUpinguity. Ali
the nice girls grow 10 know In time that
Friskys mother has warm welcome for
them is Interested in all their iuA, AMI their
plans. ans wiz take the trouble TO helD in
both SO that before the thougEIleSs young
daughter reai o. ii she has formed her ir.cnd-
shiGs and associates in sac quarters.
Moreover, a Ge5uiante with such WISE
mother is learning all tais while The art Of
being a hostess. with all the grace and sweet
ness Of character ana of HanEe- which being
q charming hostess insurcs. For even if the
home Is q little narrow and money not very
abundant vet the hospitality is not abated.
Instead o; mercy ordering in deiirac.eS with
no regard for The subsequent bills. mamma
shows Jebutante how TO mako dainty dishes
with her owp hands, and thus bake. iuci-
dentally. her first less DIS IN hOusewifery: how
10 make a handful OF autumn l-aves and q
few ferns decorate as much as a great SCI
piece from the Horist. and how much more
delightful iroIics0me littl dinners and lunch
cons or three or four courses seasoned with
mcrrimrut are than duh feasts where can
vas back and terraLia are the only aIiac-
lions.
THE CHARM or COURTESY.
Still another duty ofthe debuiante's mamma
IS to. impress by example and precept the
duty or universal courtesy. No wise mother
will leave her little maid 10 fris5 away all her
lHvs in selfish amusgments She viii take
her along when she goes herself to call on the
older peo ie She viii see that her child
learns ID appreciate tie Intelligence. the dig
nity AMI charm OF Ieople maturer tnaa her
self. and tEat she also learns that sweetest Of
all virtues. Difference. She will teach her
that the sweet path to the winning Of love is
care!ulBcss IL tr.iies.
The girl who remembers always 10 inquire
with kind interest after an acquaintance who
Is sick o. suffering. and does not think il too
much ttoube to 90 with n Look or handful
OF foRe-s as 4 little token that the interest
she expresses IS real, VINO remembers TO be
glad with others good fortune, TO recall
birthdays. write al once in answer TO notes. TO
make friends with the babies, and sit down
for Il litiic talk With the Old ladies. is going
10 lie success in her social world, wheth r
she Toe plain or pretty, witty or rot.
HER MANNER WITH MES.
Lastly. perhaps nost important Of all. is the
attitude OF tho debutaates mother TO the
young men. II Is FAR too common for tie
careless. lay parent TO launch the daughter
ana ihsn D aye her 10 settle her relations with
men Tor herself which is as urw.se rs any
thing can wrll Lc. Ii the girl lhus neglected
fais o. attract admirers the selfish mother
Is iHi au NJ with her failure, or else rails in
d.s.-i Aias ely ii the seilsAness and stupidity
OF tEr m, da.n Young man.
II. or tis other hand, the pr daughter
en- 'aIs.'s Her aJections and makes bad
marriage. then the same selfish mother rails
at tEe i'ertcfs.ty OF girls. The wise marnma
does neither; she takes pains from the very
first 40 3e nice 10 the nice young men: she
does aot insist upoG her daugh:ers knowing
only Sgn5aE-schoOi superintenecnts. but she
Becs I'll trc zen asked 10 the house are gen
tlemfn. ard. moreover. thai IieV ate asked
often and that the house is made agreeable
Tor lbc2 when Ihey come. Hor daughter Is
not thrown n their heads; they and plenty OF
oIher girls there, pretty girls and pleas ant
ones. and finding il n charming. cheerful
house they come often, ana the girls who.
me~fiY seen IA a ballroom would never have
caucht their careless eye. proves to be witty
Hnd a. y and good sort. and they take
The Taics 10 ne courteous II balls, remember
inr what good times they have had at hei
home
Over aad over acain the girl who suffers
the anguish and humiliation OF being wall
flower. owes her sorrows 10 her mothers neg
lect aud stupidity. Men can only judge Of O
girl when they first meet her by outward ap-