The morning call., 1894-08-05
WHAT IS RIGHT TO DO.
Something That Every body Should
Read and Remember.

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Many time a person who has lived,
moved and had his or her being among
cultivated people from infancy wonders
at the 10 them extra ordinary questions re-
garding The correct demeanor under GER
tain conditions that are asked by those
ignorant IF tho details OF social laws.
"Why. common sense ought to teach them
what is right To do !" is the usual eXclama-
tiOn, but common sense does not always
prove q wise teacher, for what rural
deniZen may regard as common sense tie
dweller i'll town would look upon as most
un common sense, indeed.
In order to answer those questions most
frequently met with in the spondrnts'
column of newspaper or fashion journal,
says the Philadelphia Times. he follow
ing brief hints have been compiled. II
young man resolves upon adopting city
life after a long residence in the country
he had better secure letters of iDtroduc-
ton to at least the family in his new
home, for he thus wards off that abs0-
lutely friendless and depressing loneliness
that comes in the midst of a crowd Of
strange faces. The letter of Introduction
is valuable also in that IL is help along
the road of ely ways and forms, for even
though the acquain tances to whom lie IS
introduced are not practically in society.
their company and example will rub off
the shy corners gradually and show him
silently in what way he is different from
town-bred folks.
young man is always correctly at
tired il he wears evening clothes when
calling upon lady after O'Clock, though
at first he may feel that he is too dressed
up. With this attire the watchchain
should not be visible. and the quietest of
studs and sleeve-buttOns are alone permis-
sible. There fs nothing that so exposes
personal vulgarity as an undue display OF
jewelry.
man should be just as careful about
his nails as woman. Even though his
hand is large and red The refining intu-
eDces of care are bound, sooner or later, TO
make their impression upon it.
When man comes to call formally he
l.shouId be careful not to stop over fifteen
minutes, and while he is in he drawing
room nervous fdeeiing about and dis
position to walk the floor should be at
once suppressed. The occasion of his
first evening call he should seud in his
card, though this formality may be dis
pensed with when he grows more friendly
with the parties he is visiting.
TO be late for dinner party is breach
of etiquette scarcely TO be pardoned 1t is
second only to asking for another helping
of soup. In travelling do not relate to
chance acQuaintances all your past history
or talk at any time for the benefit of your
fellow-paSsengers. Your affairs are DO
concern of theirs. an0 pretty good motto
to follow through life at all times and in
places is, Keep your mouth shut" ANY
undue levity or other action liable to make
you conspicuous anywhere should be
avoided.
At a public entertainment if a man
escorts lady or party II is his duty to
show them every attention in his power.
Hot words with ushers or walters, though
frequently wiIlfully provoked, should he
restrained in the Dreseace Of ladies'. 1t
seems hardly necessary IN add tnat the
person inviting the company or single in
dividual Is responsible for all eXt enSes in
CURED, and any woman Offering to pay for
car fare or entertainment ticket not only
embarrasses her escort needIessly, bnt
breaks one of the strongest cardinal prin-
cipleS of good form.
To make the first step sound and sue
cessful one The man or woman with social
aspirations should be scrupulously atten-
tive TO the details of he toilet The morn
ing bath must become a religious rite to
be punctually performed. Never be con-
spicuous in dress. A woman should never
appear at hotel breakfast table in wrap
per or tea gown, nor man in slippers and
louDging coat. These comforts. though
allowable In ones own home before noon.
are glaring evidence of mistaken manners
if donned in public. Diamonds, il is need
less to remark, are vulgar IL displayed with
morning style.
Always avoid personalities They are
mark of i'll breeding. Never forget an
engagement or criticize a meal. Be ex-
travagant in the choice of your stationery,
your linen. your gloves and your shoes.
These four intimate guiderosts speak
loudly of the world of character and re-
fnement or the absence of it. Answer all
letters promptly, endeavoring to make
them as legible as possible, instead of try
ing TO so construct the words that they
may more reasonably be taken for any
thing other than what they really are.
Make p0liteDess your watehword. COur-
tesy is never wasted, even when bestowed
upon dependent. Cultivate a low voice
and repose OF manner. BE respectful TO
the aged, select good friends and good
books, and, though it may seem hard to
get on al first. persistent following of
these simple rules will be bound to show
their refining influence sooner or later.