The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-02-11
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A Few Things Of Interest to the
Fair Sex.

Some Thoughts About Acquaintance
Before Marriage-A Few Points
About Proposals-The Fatal Cause
of Obesity and How to Avoid it-A
Remarkable Dream-Who is Con-
sidered Successful Hostess-A
Thought or Two About Various Mat
ters.
It is an actual fact that the working
woman has nine chances out of ten of being
happy in her married life, where the girl
who lives at home has one, writes Jessie
NJ Burgoyne in Donohoes Monthly.
Think a minute. The latter sees men at
dances, theaters and social gatherings
generally, where they are on their best
behavior in their best clothes, and in
their best tempers. All thoughts of bust
ness and worry are put aside, and pleas
ure is the one thing aimed for. Men see
that girl is popular, and wish to add to
their own consequence by being seen on
friendly terms with her. They put into
q half-hour's conversation all the bright
ness and wit of which they are capable,
and show themselves delightful compan-
ions. They visit the girl in her own
home; they find her prettily dressed,
anxious to entertain them. Is it not natu-
ural that only one side, and that the
brightest of their natures, should be
shown2 The girl is charmed with what
she sees, and naturally enough fancies it
is all like this. She thinks Jack so much
more gentle and clever than her own
brothers, and marries him without any
more real knowledge of her character than
has the French girl who never sits in a
room alone with a man till after mar
rage. The girl who works, say in an Of
fee where men are employed, sees to-
tally different phase OF her Jacks char
acter. She sees him on Monday mornings
when he comes back to work after day
OF. She sees how he acts when he is
tired and things go wrong. She sees
his manner to superiOrs and subordinates,
to wealthy visitors and the man
who peddles pencils She notes
that he hnds time, amid all the
hurry of business, to pay her some of
those little attentions women love, and
that he heads OFF the man who swears
and tells broad stories. She sees more of
the real man in week than does her
sister uptown in a whole season of par
ties and when she marries Jack, there
will be fewer hard discoveries to make
as wife The rule works both WAYS.
The girl clerk shows her real nature every
day of her life. The routine of ONCE or
store work brings out every phase of her
character, as the light in which she
works shows of her complexion She
shows involuntarily, if she is quick, neat,
conscientious and amiable, or the re-
verse. Jack secs how she bears troubles
great and small, and, above all how she
guards her womanliness under the tests
of the semi-public life she lives. The girl
who is seen only in her parlor of an even
ing, or at an entertainment, Is not the girl
man lives with after marriage. She is
only a small part of her She is the one
who will head his table at dinner party,
but it is question whether she will be
there when the servant leaves or the baby
cries all night We often hear that the
first year of married life is the hardest.
That is because the young people are
only getting acquainted with each other,
and after vowing to spend their lives
together, are finding out whether it will
be possible to do so with any comfort.
Society would think any more intimate
acquaintance than that of the ballroom
and parlor both unnecessary and un-
seemly. So the welded strangers, in nine
cases out of ten, have a bad time of it,
while the Office companions, who have
metaphorically summered and wintered
each other into perfect knowledge, have
only to discover how much nicer each one
is in his home life.
When man has proposed as often as
the eXlgencies of a season in these DAYS
require, he is likely to become enough at
ease himself during the supposedly try
ing ordeal' to become slightly critical Of
the manners of the girl to whom he hap
pens TO be proposing One of these tried
ana not true fellows has cOnf1ded some of
MS deductions to me. Said he: II am
pound TO say that too many girls are be-
trayed INTO heaving more or less windy
sign that only too plainly bespeazs salts
Iactlon at having landed one more, so to
speak. 1t also appears to be the fashion
10 take on an air of surprise. That is all
nonsense when girls so frankly angle all
season for proposals, and with all the
men they know. Engagements are no
longer serious things. Only the last one
INTO which a girl enters in a season has
really any insigni6cance, and we men I'M
uerstand that perfectly. We understand
even II fellow happens to own a yacht,
d Idte spring engagement probably means
ouIy the use of the yacht for the
summer We understand perfectly
vnaI becoming engaged to girl
means only certain right to her society
ana some privileges that convention will
not accord without the formality of an
engagement to sanction them. So why
should the girls do all the old tricks when
"'A OofAo LGE W wear merely an en-
easement ring, practically for a few
Weeksf Marriageois seldom mentioned in
a modern proposal, because it is so seldom
Ihought OF in connection with it, Some
women are wise enough to take things on
tnls basis. Indeed, / remember yet one
II the first proposals l ever made. The
Elrl was little ahead of her set even
then. | said the conventional, at that
ttlne' Darling, will you be my wife?' at
tne same time somewhat precipitately at
tempting to place the very brilliant en-
gagement ring.
a." Dear boy, don't put it so dreadfully
seriously said she. I will wear your
ring, II you like, a little while, but, of
course will not be your wife What
was!" ~
y A short time since, says the Westminster
G.azette, a wealthy Hungarian magnate
onered the hospitality Of his house to two
travelling nuns-an elderly lady in specta-
yes who said she was the reverend
iLlouher OF the convent, and a young nun
tsgeiy professed, who, In the words of the
Vuclal report, was as pretty as a pie
i Iure. The pair said that they were col
Lectlng money, and during the five weeks
Vi Iuelr stay they managed to scrape to-
betner a considerable sum which. thew
explained, was for the convent which |
tHey were building The magnate's fam