Pine Bluff daily graphic., 1894-09-08
WHEELING NJ WOMEN.
.,v WHO ARE so CALLED ARE
 eeossLY MISUNDERSTOOD.


 .. understand Them-The Other Type 5 .voman Who Is Always Affabie'
 rittv and sympathetic man once .s to me. 'I would rather marry a sr,ap s~.r who looked feelings and had ns'. sa than a woman who had feelings s''.sY .s looked none. Of course the say a1s' asma more from his wit than his ,rotbv 'ss but I could not help feeling s.s ss.'. there were moments when l could '..- s-.a with him, although have known sg olue and the services of the woman - .-s.b no feelings to be underestimated. N Mv daughters have friend-a wom- onlv little past girlhood-whose = ,,anv is more sought after and rel sy,,. .shaf than that of almost any one ,,.n,r ss..,s She has admirers by the score and ssa.,a;ntances as.,., everywhere, and no won sar M for she is cultivated, always cheer ss,i ,.sI' and will listen to and rally the poor ~ ~ talker She is asked to everything = ~ tbe shape of feast, for she IS the as,.,,soment and relaxation of whoever ...,s .~sr Id about her. At the same time, ssssnsyer ss.'s her praises are sounded, the arlnoy winds up with the inevitable and d;sbsartening s tag, After all, you know, shhs Aias no feelings. And this is perfectly true. Quick and eanaprehending as is her smile and s,aceful g'.s as is her glance while cue is sslkipg to her, there is always the con rscf;on that not trace of real interest is involved. If she only had heart, tbe girl would be an angel.
 T ike the old fashioned word. And ,rban I have been alone with her l have offa,, wanted to say, My dear, do be as anRelP' But she has no heart. If she were to marry foreigner and go abroad X live. she would leave us all without { mopents regret. So her friends are vaSed with her want of feeling and warn the world against her.
 And this is what seems to me unjust. Take this girl as she is. Whether it is her nature or not, she never refuses tho challenge to be agreeable; whatever Ter OWE plans and likings are, she never hetrays impatience when they are pressed. Her companion may be plain, aTkward and tiresome but her eye and her eay little joke are never dulled for that reason. In fine she may be the in- csrpation of the light which shines, but does not warm, yet while she keeps a whole circle in good humor by her wit, as she does, it is poor return to gird n her
 Again and speaking now of a widely different type, I can call to mind older women, often only the survivors of more rigid era-exaet, severe. stern, un- bending and ruling their households with rod of iron How little this gen eration understands them! How little merit it allows to the implicit faith ill duty, the nntiring devotion to work. tho almost fanatic hatred of waste and self Indulgence and the Spartan maxims of life in which they were brought up and which they still observe. What has be- cone of our eyes that We cannot see the beauty of such liyes2 Why do we no longer recognize their value? These are not the women who have feelings but look none. They are without feelings at al aecording to the standards of our new Diversified and exacting society.
 hear young girls saying that their grandmothers or aunts, or what you please, don't understand them, and really ] think that many older people than these schoolgirls make just the same absurd complaint 1 ean appeal With Safety to every one Who has not known one of these same stern women almost bring the dead to life by her powers of nursing, or confront single handed and maintain her family on heggafs pittance, or save a falling nousehold by simple economy and hard WoTks l shall be told that all these things are admitted, but that is just the nont-they are not. If they were, the ay Of mo feelings" would never be raised, out of very shame.
 Know an old lady who has had the misfortune to live long life and to see ~ Ter descendants grow up unable to anderstand her. She is of the old, alspaflng sort, and they, artistic, orig aaal' eleyer, modern people, have no gaee Tor her either ill their theories or fasl1 Interests. With these her notions saa seareely be expected to agree either, " tne complaints come not from her, pu' l1om them. They are not complaints Y @of'ls They are complaints crystal alzsa Into entire disregard for the old ssaogl which does not, as it cannot, Naolly sympathize with them. It seems v axe an outsider, like myself, to see Maae do see-that without this erect, @a''e halred ancestress, who is appar- s'.s3 so separate from them all, wives s'a Qsoands both would have to teach s'slaselyes the fortitude which she com 5Tsaieates merely by her presence. sss. M;ss nouseholds would be dragging on M.shout the strong axles, so to speak, assas s.sa sne put in almost unnoticed for a neWly married couple, and the ssa sao'e tlamily now held together in an sss s'.saai Ylgor, would soon fall apart
 oelleve there must be many such
 have the deepest respect for ssss s'rong, unbonding characters who s, M conceal their utter intolerance of tNs, eentered modern methods. -
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