Waterbury evening Democrat., 1894-10-04


 where I recently visited his grave. One reaches it by diligence over a corrugated road. Monticello is visited annually by quite a number of people, who pay a quarter of a dollar each to an old darky This money is said to go toward the re- pair of the roads, but as the roads get deliberately worse, and as the darky at the box office rode back to town with me and spent the money paid him by our party in the purchase of gin at colored hell ill Charlottesville, am ill favor of an investigation.
 "Timid One," Delhi, Ind, writes: II am to be married ill October, and write you to settle a trifling question for meat least presume that you will re- gard it as trifiing but it has worried me a great deal. I am of course pre- pairing my rousseau. and there is quite a lot of it-in fact, there is a whole trunkful of linen lt Ily own wear, and will havo to mako it. Should l make it with my own maiden name or the surname of my intended?
 T ask this because I was engaged | four years ago to a young man who | took advantage of tho low rates and ex- cellent travelling facilities over the Big | Four and Santa Fe routes to strike out for California on the day set for our marriage. Since then I've been almost ashamed to send my clothes to the wash with his name marked on them. I have barely worn out those garments, and they have been perpetual reproach to me. Now am again engaged to a gen. tleman friend. What should do?''
 Ineed hardly write you, ''Timid One, " that you have no claim on the name of your intended at the present time. You did very wrong before in utilizing the name of your betrothed, and possibly he heard of it in some way, fleeing like a bird to the mountains when he got the information Possibly he feared that you might be running up little accounts at the stores in his name also.
 You should remember that a good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, but you must not help yourself to it until the parson has given you per mission.
 "Timid One' also asks in postscript whether it is proper or not for her to ask her intended to break of some bad habit before they are married. Certain ly you might try it, but you will have to be the judge of how much influence you have at this stage of the game. It might be we'll to ask him to break off stealing horses or any other noticeably bad habit, of course, now while you are both ill the hcyday of bloom and fluff of life's young morn, but you always run the chance of arousing his ill temper and prejudice. You must be yourself the judge of this. Some young girls under such circumstances also pave the way for criticiGs1 and are little nonplused to be asked if they will not break off a bad habit, such as saucing their moth- CTS or allowing their fathers to go look ing sad and seedy in order that the daughter may wear "wash goods" in warm weather and run up tall laun- dry bill while the old gentleman wears a colored shirt for economy.
 Judge not, that ye be not judged, " is one of the best maxims that Shakespeare ever got of, "Timid One" and you will do well to remember it all through your life, which seems to be opening so aus- piciously.
 Some grooms are glad to have their errors pointed out to them seven or eight times per day, while others arc little sensitive about 1t. I cannot give you aifice without knowingthe person quite well. For my own part. l make a