Savannah courier. (Savannah, Tenn.) 1885-1979, 1894-03-15
THE AGE OF DlsREsPEcT.
Bumptious 30 's and Girls and How They
Should he Accepted.

should he Accepted
The time from ten to fifteen years Of
age, writes Epson Clark in paper on
the above subject is of all the periods
of life the most lacking in reverence.
The problem Of how to live with this
young person, often three or four strong
in single family, is an absorbing
problem in the minGs of parents.
Even in Il well-m anaged household,
it must have been remarked by every
observer that the BOY or girl of from
ten to fifteen, especially if he or she be
bright and ambitions, is likely to be-
come bumptious, A hoy may have
comported himself up to the age of ten
or twelve with modssty and propriety,
but he often takes turn about that
time and becomes impertinent, heed
less of advice and even of command,
scornful of father and mother and gen.
orally uncomfortable. 1t is n time for
exercise of the choicest wisdom within
our reach. These children are full of
life and hope; they ere successful in
school, leaders among their mates and
so far instinct with confidence in them
selves that it is not strange that they
find themselves cribbed, cabined and
confined by the restrictions of home.
They do not realize that their parents
have been through just such a series of
triumphs and successes us they them
selves are enjoying land if the truth
were known, were probably as disa-
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dren now are of their own small clev-
ernesses) and they regard the heads of
the family with something which sa-
vors not remotely of contempt 1t is
easier for mother TO bear this than
for father, and yet the mother us,l-
ally comes in for tie greater share Of
the disdain. Some one has written
that if we could realize how our morh-
ers love us there would be new force
in the world These children are very
far from realizing it. They can not
realize it until they are fathers and
mothers themselves
mo chance no Yamc,
No wealth Of love can ever compensate
| For dead mother"
But these unseeing ones, wrapped in
the dense, opaque brightness of youth,
have little perception of these deepest
truths
"But how shall we manage them?"
asks perplexed mother How can
we make them listen to us, take our
advice, treat us with proper respect in
the presence of others, do the drudgery
which falls to their share in the house
hold work thoroughly and well, believe
that when we forbid pleasure it is for
their best good-from that sharp and
waspish word No pluck the sting?'
In the first place do not find fault too
much. Pass some things over. Do as
much rs you can of the neglected work
If the child has, as is likely, real nobil-
ity at bottom, this course will touch
his heart. We all hated drudgery at
| his age. Talk with him alone as much
as you can. 1t is hard to make any
impression on a child when he is sur
rounded by others. Show an interest
in his pursuits, even if you feel none.
Don't be cross to him when he litters
up the reception-room and when he
pcrsistently, day after day, keeps his
own room looking as much like ken
mel as he can. Good Jane Bidd calls
'scolding and crossness" the curse of
! clean women and ten times worse than
the dustiest dust. Many boy and
girl, at this critical age, have been
turned permanently against their
homes by the fault-fnding and cap.
tiousness of over-clean mothers.
But the great general rule Ito adapt
the directions in the "Faerie Queen")
is ''Be patient and again be patient
but be not too patient" A little
wholesome spirit in parents is good
thing now and then for these bump
tious" children. One must, in short,
apply to the dominion of the home
what Tennyson has written of great
err kingdom, or republic, in which "the
common sense of most shall hold a
fretful realm in awe" The great gift
of common sense is never more needed
than during the age of disrespect -
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