The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1894-12-30
THE PLAIN GIRL.
HOW TO SUCCEED IF SHE rs Narru-
Err RICH NOR BEAUTIFUL.
The Vaccinations of the Fast SET Are
Very Afluring, But the Plain De-
Dutnnte Who Would Be Belle
Must Make Many Friends.

tdly- everywhere enc is sure to find
the fast set, and the serious set, the
musical, the literary, the religious, and
annette sets; and however she may
make up her mind before hand to keep
clear Of clques, she is sure to find.
sooner OF later that she has, by nat
ural affinity, selected her special friends
from some one of these sets.
But there Us wide difference be-
tween choosing friends among sycnpa-
lhetic people and giving ones self over
10 d very narrow range of acuuaint-
ances and ignoring the possibilities of
amusement or benefit ito be found out
side a small clique Naturally the
plain girl with a nice singing voice or
the one who loves her piano, is going
TO be inclined to chum with the other
girls who like to go to The concerts
ana naturally she would rather ACCEPT
invitations to houses where her talents
count for something, and she is likely
20 meet the great musicians as fellow
guests, but she viii make a great error
II she Identifies herself so exclusively
with the musicians that when a q)r9rtv
is being made up to go and hear a
popular lecture ard come back TO a
llttle supper afterwards, where there
rs q lot of clever talk and fun, she is
Ieft out because the people with liter
airy tastes thinks she cares only for
music. And though she may be a girl
with serious religious views and anN-
,ous TO be of use in the Sunday school
or interested in some of the city mis-
SONS, 1t is a pity to be so absorbed in
being Of use TO others, that she loses
all sight of the uses of her own youth
and so gets left out of all the innocent
laTks and fun of the other girls be-
cause they think shes so deadly pious
and grave"
Great Temptation.
To the ordinary looking debutante
VINO Is fun of health and high spirits.
and eager for plessure-as. thank hea-
ven, the average girl is-the greatest.
temptation of all is to join the fast set;
se set whose only pursuit ana interest
Is pleasure, and, therefore seem to her
ignorant little eyes, to have the best
time of any of them.
She sees mamma shake her head
Wnen the names of some of the leaders
In that set are mentioned, but when
she meets them for herself, they seem
70 her to be only more than usually
jelly and kind and not at all different
IN behavior from girls whom mamma
approves of, and the men Of that set
are livelier and dance well and say such
admiring things to her that she jumps
10 the conclusion that the fast set are
]u-te as nice as anybody and much
more amusing.
After a while she hears them say.
and sees them do, some little thing that
Shocks her rather, but they are SO
good tempered and cheerful about it
that she hesitateS to take offense at it,
and day by day she sees and, hears
and gradually grows accustomed to
things that would have shocked her
terribly at first had she known them
all at once. Day by day she grows -
mot mind coarse jokes and vulget.
deeds, and from thinking they are no
harm she simply passes into initiating
ihfir behavior; the decline in her deli
cay and nlodesty being SO gradual
that she does not perceive how far she
has gone. She would be Mortified and
disguised with a girl whose finger nails
were black or her body foul and dirty,
but she has lost the power to perceive
that black mind and a foul tongue
and imagination are Infinitely more
loathsome.
The Idle Set.
Another set that the wise, sweet
minded young debutante will keep out
Of is the idle set, who find their only
amusement in the feeblest of novels
and the Saturday matinees. Who fill
their empty hours with furious admir-
alton of actors and singers, who know
and care nothing for such addle-p ated
admirers. This Is the set that are al
ways knocking about the streets, TAX
ing hours for the smallest bit of shop
ping, dwelling forever upon idle gossip, |
priding themselves upon their slang,
and spelling their digestions with a
continued diet of sweets.
The girl who lets herself drift into |
this set will infallibly find herself in
fuenced by it in time, and acquiring
an their languid habits, while the |
clever girls and the athletic girls grad |
ually get in the habit OF leaving her
out of their pleasan test an1usements !
because her body is so feeble and her
mind so dull that she can contribute |
nhorhing to the general pie, sure.
CoDqucring Circumsta ces.
Every girl beginning her first season |
should take stock of herself carefully. |
n pretty girl, or rich girl, is likely to !
be in much demand; but the girl who |
is not pretty has a somewhat harder |
task before her 70 make her season |
pleasant and successful.
Tor one thing, she should realize that |
while beautiful uebutanteS can afford |
10 be little careles in dress and still |
look attractive, it behooves her to be |
always very pink of perfection in all !
matters of the toilet, since there is a |
certain beauty and charm in absolute
neatness which every one unconscious
~ feels Her hair should always be
beautifully done. her nails perfectly
manicured, and every pin, pleat and |
ribbon exactly in place. Whatever
gift she may have should be carefully
cultivated and developed to its highest
degree. It is not always the beauties
who are the best partners on the ball 4
room floor, or the best musicians or
housewomen, or golf players; and
wherever such accomplishments count /
the beauty may have to give place to
the girl who knows how to do some
thing we'll.
A clever, witty girl finds most things
plain sailing, but a girl without such
gifts can charm almost as much with
sweet temper and careful courtesy, and
cheerful willingness to be of use 10
other people.
The rich girl. too. can without much
difficulty, command following, but
the poor girl has a harder time Yet
the poor girl who shows nc envy, who.
takes her deprivations cheerful1y, is
not always standing upon her dignity,
and knows the art of being a charming
guest and accepting gracefully and
gratefully many favors she cannot re-
turn, rs in 2 fair way to do away with
many of the disadvantages of circum- {
stance. This sort OF girl never places
herself in rivalry with those better off
than herself in matters of expense. She !
naalces no aItempt TO initiate with cot I