The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1894-04-12
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Cstu@sie College nsys.
The subject Of Dr. Ven De waters Tuesday
morning chapel talk to the Columbia College
boys was Marriage" Among other things
DR.. Van De Water said.
THE great trouble about marriage is that It
| II talked about too much and thought about
too llttla Many men eve more attention to
| the selection OF horse than they do TO the
selection Of . WIFE, Some women are 90
thouRhtless that they marry speedily to regret
| lsisurely. Failing In love 10 q very express
sive phrase II so truthtuly describes the affec-
| tion that too often terminates In matrimony.
II would be so much better we're men and wo-
men to walk in love. or run. II you please. but
| with eyes open. rather than bllndly to stun Bile
| along and fall In love. There must be some
| special Providence guiding men in this after
| or there would be more serious blunders than
there are.
Nine out OF ten men cannot trace the sffec-
tion that exists between them and their wives
an affection. I am persuaded. that has ripened
and strengthened with the process OF the suns
| to any earnest thought or deep consideration.
They merely stumbled into the consciousness
that they loved a woman. and. without much
thought OF consequence. they went and told
Harriet .Bescher Stove. sars that 'consan-
eulnity' Ia the chief cause Of love; that thrown
continually in contact with nny. one not sbso-
her: Whether so or not. we men are quite
willing to admit that we do not give thought
eonsidsrins its sure responsibilIty and possi:
BE conseauenees: ne are grossly careless In
Young fellows captured by a pretty face. q
giddy whirl at the dance, or q possible inherl-
lance. will marry a most unsuitable girl. whose
unconEenial. and lind when too late that a lit.
tie more thought in the choice OF wife would
fellows who live alone iii they are fifty N or
sixty. nccumniatlng a fortune or gaining
some adventurous. schemInE widow. twenty
years younger than themselves. or Girl
scarcely out Of her teens, to discover shortly
that with n half century OF experience they
have done what foolish boy OF twelve might
know better than to do.
bate courts with most OF their business.
SAYING that the vast majority ' oi married. s
neor ,,e are more IN love than when , they
not change their lot or their partners for any
other; one divorce In n village makes moro
talk than all the MARRIAGES Of year. Those
who are happy make no tumult For every
one couple nnhaprily married there, are 100
living In peace and prosperity as husband and
for comment; they make true homes; thoy
are real fathers and mothers; they give us
best Of the rising generation. They are sfisbie.
discreet, good ;humored. forgivinr. patient.
n s .S s Ss oSsH snsn 's Ss
day they were married:
Marriage makes the best homes. Rivea to
cities and churches. aud supplies heaven with
its inmates A man may, be cheerful and oon-
tented In celibacy but hardly rs happy as he
the duty han owes to himself. his neighbor,
state sta in which the hnest feelings OF human ma.
ture are never called into action and lind no
occasion for exercise or display.
MY advice s-be In no haste to marry. Pre-
sponsibie estate. Do not become engaged
marriago as the crown OF ali your present prep.
his studies at college and Is assured Of consid
cradle success In his business or profession
he to ssE nny % ms w
thing else come after this. Be sure you love-
not think. but know you do While you marry
Never mind what others think; be certain for
yourself that tho woman who Is to be your
wife Is SO admirable and lovely to you that her
face remains tho same no matter what changes
come IL you would marry suitably marry
your equal Your inferior will remain such;
viii , ~ ySn even II sne
Marry the daughter OF goot mother and you
eau scarcely do wrong SEQ that the spirits
can blend. Take time to make bargain to
BE not afraid to marrya poor girl. Be brave
enough to marry the, girl you love. regardless
people than poor ones. You show me one IN
happy couple on account OF straitened cir
wealth m ore unhappy from other causes. Re-
member. when marriage begins. romance ends
History. reality then commonces Prepare we'll
for marriage and what follows-paternity. Be
sure you give to- your wife the purity you ex-
pect to receive from her Marry the woman
you want to meet in heaven and be intimate
with forever.
you would have the nuptiaI uaion last
Let virtue be tie bond that ties the union fast"