The Port Gibson reveille., 1894-01-19

The Sensible Views OF an Ex-
- tremely Sensible Woman
Something About the Secrets OF Perfect
Home life = The Science Of Coed
House-Keeplng-H 10 Bear ths
Unpleasant Things OF Life.

Something About the Secrets OF . Perfect
Home Life = The Science Of Good
House-Keeplng-H 10 Bear tbs
Unpleasant Things OF Life.
On the much mooted question, "Is Mar
fiage a Failuref' lady writes TO the Chica-
90 Inter Ocean some remarks 30 sensible
that we can not but quote them for the
benefit OF our readers: 80 -~~
, A woman makes q failure Of marriage
Unless she makes an effort to do a great
deal more than Is implied In her marriage
contract II Is supposed that the husband
supplies the material for the home, and
they are very raw materials indeed unless
the wife takes hold OF those means with
the'Eand Of a-.creator, building up out Of
them helps and associations loved and
needed by both. And q woman must put
her soul into her house, or 1t Is q hollow
and sounding shell -- e
As high as we must rate the accomplish
ment Of good housekeeping. 1t Is not all In
the making Of home. / know lady who
was a marked failure as a housekeeper who
was the Idol OF her husband, and who
graduated TO the world family Of accom-
plished and honored children. And there arc
women who Ia pain and weakness are con-
fined TO their own rooms, yet who manage
70 hold the power In an orderly house and
Ill it full Of love-light and happiness sum
cient for the comfort Of all who cross It's
threshold.
1t is the quality Of recognizing and filing
need that Is the essential quality OF success
In marriage. Practically, II a man comes
home from business with headache, hun
CRY for bit Of sympathy and love, and a
good deal Of quiet, and finds his wife In =
raging excitement over an elaborate dinner,
and Is ordered TO keep out OF the way and
amuse the children till the great proceeding
Is eliminated, he Is about as unfortunate as
the man who brings college friend home
20 dinner and finds his wife in wrapper and
clippers deep liz a French novel But the
woman who spies the coming friend from
the window slides out Of her wrapper In q
twinkle and appears upon the scene In due
time with a soul-cheering cup OF French
coffee, is the woman who makes her hus-
band envied among men.
Unfortunately women have hobbies, and
ride and ride and never perceive that they
are boring their companions to death.
There are men who would 20 to war to be rid
OF paper flowers, hair flowers, rugs, tides
and what not; aud there are men who think
art and Emusic are inventions Of the evil one
70 make people miserable. Any one, any
where, who cultivates a hobby at the exs--
pense Of other peoples comfort Is making q
failure Of life; but true politeness Of the
heart between friend and friend, man and
wife, viii obviate the danger OF overdone
amusements. &1sri -GsR-s, -
1t Is easier to forgive virtuous excess Of
zeal, and It is mostly excess Of zeal for ex.
cellence OF some kind that causes some
women TO be more exclusively housewives
than wives Of men. The greatest charity
should be extended to woman who makes
her house 30 perfect In detail and pol
ished in appearance that her friends 20 into
II with fear and trembling, for she is aniict-
ed with virtuous zeal, and has only over
drawn a very good thing. Housekeeping
has its fanatics and martyrs as well as any
other good cause. 49, --s-gmxzws< zkzM
! But housekeeping conducted as a means
OF happiness an d comfort, either in a cabin
or palace, Is science that no wife can
neglect II she wishes 10 sustain the law OF
mutual helpfulness IN marriage. vssr<s azzh
! A wife expects her husband upon mar
riage to begin course Of toiling for her
support without remission or any suspen-
sion OF responsibility, and why should he
not expect her to aspire TO tue greatest
excellence in homemaking1 Just here Is
where the wedge Of dissolution frequently
enters. A woman fails to give as much as
she receives-that Is, she works from COM
pulsion more than from a desire to keep up
her side OF the partnership with dignity
and grace S<ss@ S~-f<sr1. -sr
) But one says: II work all the time;
work like slave" Yes, my dear, you do
work like a slaye-just like q slave, and not
ike responsible being seeking an end and
not the means. You have braided little
Eya's dress up and down and alloyer, which
ioes not help little Eva, and your husband
would have appreciated you more had you
spent your evenings with folded hands and
happy face In your rocking-chair by his
Tide. You spend hours Of time on unneces-
'ary things and forget the essentials ofyour !.
which Is to evolve as much
'eace and comfort as possible out OF your
The science Of good housekeeping in
hese days, when we can buy so many con-
Teniences, Is not 80 much superiority In
my one thing as a general excellence in q
very thing. We do not need cooking
chools for girls so much as schools where
II branches Of home-making are taught, In
rider to preserve the balance OF usefulness
u Tue BAIA' ulAuu. n u1Au QOcb hot want 70
marry a chef de cuisine, and It Is no won
Ter the papers make fun Of cooking
70 learn one department Of housekeeping
o the neglect Of every thing else is ruinous.
II a woman Is to marry, there Is nothing
o much TO be valued as good health and
'ood sense and a very loving heart, and
henit VIII follow that she win adapt her
elf to the calls upon her ability. When
Foman marries for a life Of ease and doesn't
et 1t, there is certainly no remedy In her
ase 30 long as she forRets that life Is
truggle anywhere, and feels that she
hould be excused from helping to carry
be burdens OF those By whom she may DO
urrounded.
The mutual bearance and forbearnnce OF
fe Is as greatly the secret Of happiness In
marriage as in any thing else. We have TO
1lerate unpleasant things In our COM
anions In any relations Of life, and why
y TO build up law Of marriage In any
ther wayi