Frostburg mining journal. [volume] (Frostburg, Md.) 1871-1913, 1894-03-03
TWO KINDS OF COURT SHlF.
That Which is Conducted in the Ohir
Leads to Better Results.

That Which is Conducted in the Office
Leads to Better Results.
1t is an actual fact that the work
ingwoman has nine chances out of ten
OF being happy in her married life
where the girl who lives at home has
one. Think Il minute. The latter secs
men at dances, theatres and social
gatherings generally, where they are
on their best behavior, in their best
clothes. and in their best tempers.
All thoughts of business and worry
are put aside, and pleasure is the one
thing aimed for
Men see that = girl is popular, and
wish to add to their own consequence
by being seen on friendly terms with
her
They put into Il half hours converse.
ton all the brightness and wit of
which they are capable and show Them
selves delightful companions. They
visit the girl in her own home; they
find her prettIy dressed, anxious To
entertain them. Is it not natural that
only one side. and that the brightest
of their nature should be shown:
The girl is charmed with what she
sees. and naturally enough fancies it
is all like this. She thinks Jack $"
much more gentle and clever than her
own brothers, and marrics him with
out any more real knowledge of his
character than has the French girl.
who never sits in Il room alone with
man till after marriage.
The girl who works, say in an office
where men are employed, sees total
ly different phase of her Jacks char
actcr She sees him on Monday morn
ings. when he comes back to work
after Il day off. She sees how he actN
when he is tired and things go wrong.
She sees his manner to superiors and
SubordinateS, to wealthy visitors and
the man who peddles pencils.
She notes that he finds time, amid
all the hurry of business, to pay her
some of those little attentions women
love. and that he heads off the man
who swears and tells broad stories.
She sees more of the real man in n
week than does her sister uptown in
whole season of parties, and when
she marricS Jack there will be fewer
hard discoveries to make as Il wife.
The rule works both ways. The girl
clerk shows her real nature every day
Of her life. The routine of office o.:
store work brings out every phas" ci
her character, as the light in which
she works shows off her complexion.
She shows involuntarily if she *
! quick. neat, conscientious and amiahi"
or the reverse. Jack sees how Sh"
bears troubles, great and small ami
above all how she guards her womal
illness under the tests of the semi,
public life she lives.
The girl who is seen only in her
parlor OF an evening, or at an enter
tainmcnt. is not the girl a man lives
with after marriage. She is only n
small part of her. She is the one VIII"
will head his table at a dinner party.
but it is question whether she will h"
there when the servant leaves or the
baby cries all night.
We often hear that the first year "i
marriage life is the hardest That is
because the young people are only get
ting acquainted with each other, ana.
after vOwing to spend their lives To
gcther. are finding out whether it will
| he possible to do SO with any COM
fort Society would think any mor''
intimate acquaintance than that of the
ballroom and parlor both unnecessary
and unseemly.
SO the welded strangers. in nine
cases out of ten. have IA bad time of
it. while the office companions, VIII"
have mctaphorically Summcred ana
wintercd each other into perfect knowl-
edge, have only to discover how much
nicer each one is in his home life
Jessie NJ. Burgoyne, in January Dona-
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