The morning news., 1894-11-25

raw recruits enter the ranks of society
year after year, expecting recognition
and consideration; and mothers make
great mistake in introducing their daugh-
ters at an age when they cannot help
being at a disadvantage. There is no use
OF forcing veal upon the market-people
do not like it and never will. Let these
children have their own dancing classes
and their own reunions; but for their
own sakes, if not for ours, keep them out
OF general society until they are twenty,
at ieast.'
How can q refined woman best protect
herself from insult? This is a serious q,les-
ton, says the New Orleans Times-Dem-
ocrat, in these days. when women are be
ing forced to accept responsibilities and
to stand oftentimes so completely alone.
Insults are not always merited, and sup
pose man or q woman malictously Of
fers an affront to a woman, and the one
affronted is innately refined, what re-
dress has she2 None whatever.s There is
no code of honor to tit the occasion. Tn
fortunately there are men ana women
who take advantage Of this lack of pro-
lection. Some one will advise. Treat
them with silent contempt" Wen, that
is the only way open, but il is not a just
way The contempt doesn't affect the
offenders and silence renders their vic
another. There is such thing right
eous indignation, and 100 frequently
peace is bought at too dear Il date. If
the affront is an indictable offense there
is the court; but how few women would
avail themselves of the publicity OF this
mode. There is the other alternative of
appealing to a male relative which is
very apt to cause trouble. and then. per
haps, the insult is offered by a woman.
Then the male relative does not avail,
There should be some code of honor
that would place a gentlewOman in such
an attitude that fearing some retribu-
tion, man or woman of the affronting
kind would be required to adhere TO at
least a courteous way Of being rude.
There is a Turkish legend, says the St.
Louis Republic, that gives a good index
to this part of social ethics
a mendicant was dying. He called his
son to- his bedside and said: My boy YOU
must go through life trusting to yourself
now. l can leave you no money, but much
wisdom and this mirror Garry it always
with the back to your face, presenting the
mirrored surface to the world"
Years passed on and the boy mendicaut
became a rich merchant. Gold had poured
into his Golfers as he walked through the
world, his shining shield rejecting all he
met.
Contentment came with these riches,
then curiosity. Why, he thought am |
so loved? What do | that men should cali
me fair and agreeable? What occult mag
netism do I possess to so easily compel
this flow OF riches? And he turned the
mirror for the first time toward his own
face. He was charmed. 1t gave back his
features beautiful and glorifed. He saw
himself in it's shimmerng surface a crea-
ture fair TO behold. agreeable to be with
a laughing F,rCha ing DfptIref
rapture and love for himself he paused
in his way thereafter gazing into the ex-
quisite depths Of his fathers gift
Gold there was none left. People passed
him by unsmiling. He wondered, when
not absorbed with self why this condition
was, and he died poor and forgotten.
The legend is to society as the laws of
the Pundit to the Brahmans. 1t explains
all. Go through life rejecting people, not
as they are. but as they wish to be, and
the good things of the world are yours
Why present to any man an ugly image
of himself when his faults can be ignored
and his virtues pleasingly presented with
out seeming ostentation or fiattery.
Some veritist may exclaim that such an
attitude is not fair one-but now prove
his theory. There need be no "toady-
ing" no criuging no playing for favors,"
but the brightest side of each mans life
suggested to him by conversation.
Said a society woman, known for her
tact and quantity Of her friends, whom
have qucrTied as to her social tactics: "I
have a pIan-possibly not original but
certainly successful--of ignoring the es-
pecially pleasant thing a man necessarily
knows about himself. Each one has a
particular accomplishment that this world
invariably 'tacks' to his name He is
pleased, of course. to possess this one
accomplishment, but, rest assured he se-
cretly wonders IL 1t can be the sum total
of his attraction. So try TO discover some
other quality / lind If he has the. vir-
tue of dressing well--then / also discover
some immensely clever remark Of his.
/ make point Of mentioning Il to him.
III on the other hand. he Is clever.
then I particularly admire q certain suit
Of clothes. or the fashion in his ties If
he dances wen then / ilnd that he has
made some good business deals. BE per.
fectly sure, my dear he VIII think YOU
vastly more appreciative than any other
woman. and the underlined gra tltlde he
feels at the bright side Of himself yop
have reflected back. brings YOU many d dc.
ughtful attention" And she concluded:
This is not hypocrisy in me. nor silly
vanity lu him. ] love 10 be treated after
that manner myself and my gratitude
Is equal % the mans.
4 third point h 70 remember. II posi-.
bile. what man talked most interestinIv
or earnestly 90 you about the last time
YOU mot. li shows interest in most sum
tlft Way Naturally this o. no eaey task
~ fhs laHaes between Visits are long. ana
Hou meet Eoodly number of naeu. Hut
NJ "a ia possible 40 remember the result
WiN prove lta Nafaom. "As sou uuce
faid.. hna penetrating chHrm for fhe
ltHfHnrr he it nau uf woman. ~ ia uage