The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-04-11
LIBERTY OF AMERICAN GIRLS.
McAllistsr Says They Learn to be
Self-reliant, While English Girls are
Slaves to Their Mothers.
Ward McAllister IN New York World

McAllister Says They Learn to be
Self-reliant, While English Girls are
Slaves to Their Mothers.
Ward MeAllister IN New York World
What liberty do American girls
havelN This is a question that is now
being asked in England. where there ap-
pears to be under way a revolt Of daugh-
tiers against the tyranny of their mothers.
My answer is Whatever liberty they
choose to take. For here mother is
slave TO her children. It is. however, a
pleasing slavery-one in which she de-
lights. The sacrifice she makes for her
children she positively enjoys. The hap
piness Of her youth is reflected in that OF
her daughters.
have often been asked whether knowl-
edge or ignorance is more beneficial to 4
young woman. As far as regards the
self-supporting class of women l should
most decidedly answer that it is better
that she should know. Knowledge OF
life causes them to value themselves:
they quickly acquire the ability to dis
tinguish the right from the wrong and
their parents are. therefore, enabled to
trust them anywhere. Circumstances
force the knowledge on our self-support-
ing women
There is probably no woman in any
civilized country better able to take care
of herself than the American. AS a rule,
she may be little too eager to advance
herself, for If nature has blessed her
with good looks you may be sure that
she is fully aware of it, and will mako
the most of this rare gift. In this city,
at least once a week, usually on Satur-
day afternoons, she makes it her business
to appear, well dressed. on one of the prin-
cipal streets, and attracts thealtention of
the passers-by. Our young men, who
are not slow to appreciate a pretty girl,
are sure to take her in and ever after
keep on the LOOKOUT for her.
SHE Is sELF-RELIANT.
She thus learns how to stand the fire
from the battery of eager eyes in search
of Just such beauty as she possesses. She
then takes her first lesson in captivating
man, and her battle of life begins in
earnest. She goes into the fight single
handed as no mother or chaperone ac-
companies her. 1t is remarkable what
wonderful results she acComplishes
Provided only with such stock in trade
as she had acquired before leaving her
mothers apron strings, she, in most
cases, secures a fitting companion for
life. A girl of this sort born and brought
up in this city, becomes possessed of such
an intuitive knowledge of the world
and of man that the complete liberty of
action allowed her is her safeguard, as it
makes her wholly self-reliant. In some
cases the self-supporting girl is better of
than the young society woman, for this
same self reliance and knowledge of
right and wrong carries her safely over
the pitfalls of life
ONE BOSTON MANS WIFE.
An English writer has painted an en-
chanting picture of the beauty of the
modest maiden waiting like the violet in
the sweet seclusion of home until the
casual passer-by shall Gull her. With US
this mode OF procedure cannot be prac-
tised with success. L remember one in
stance of very wealthy friend of mine
in Boston who was seeking a wife. He
wanted no society BELLE but practical,
hard working girl as a helpmate. one
who would have proper regard for his
position and influence. Catching sight
Of comely young woman sweeping the
stoop Of her mothers house, he felt that
in her he had secured the woman he was
seeking. So he wooed and won the dam
sci.
As wife she led him a dance She
was a worker with q vengeance. She
fully appreciated the value of his money,
which she spent more lavishly than any
princess. She hurried him through life
with railroad velocity, and he arrived
painting at the end of his journey, he be-
moaned the fate that had thrown her and
her broom acros his path.
To deny absolute freedom to
young women will do in England, or
rather it has done up TO date,
but it will not work in this
country. English writer's now tell us that
their girls, like ours must be trusted
Emerson says that self-respect and self
reliance in young women are the master
IL
given young women of fashion, an English
authoress tells us, Two in house must
entirely syInpathize or one must rule"
In England the mother IS always the
head of the house, but with us, from the
hour when the fashionable daughter
makes her debut into society the head of
the house is the daughter
In most instances the mother is actually
in the way of the daughter, who feels
that her parents, having had their day,
should now permit her TO take charge of
affairs.
In some cases the daughter is Jealous of
the mother, for it not unfrequently hap
pens that the mother not only looks young
but is young. She cannot help it.; she
cannot help being merry and gay as long
as her constitution is sound and her COM
plexion provokingly clear. The daughter
feels that she must be crowded out and
u
But here she should remember that fair
and forty is often preferred to half baked
eighteen.
MARRIED FLIRTs.
When the American young woman does
not care TO marry, but prefers to be indie
pendent, it often complieates matters
In England a girl rushes early into matri-
mony, in order that she may have good
time. In this country our young women
do not like TO marry early, because the
gay period of their life comes to them
when they are young girls. In old times
flirting was done mostly before marriage,
but as our women become more European
lied they cling, even after marriage, to
this delightful accomplishment
We idolize our children and do not hest
tate to make any sacrifices for them. In
the summer mother goes to Europe
with the daughter to place her in the
hands, while the father is left
to encounter the heat in half shut up
house, with usually one domestic to look
after him. A man and his wife may have
had large circle of devoted friends
their daughter, on coming out, finds
them all intoleraole bores and at once