The Yellowstone journal., 1894-12-01

women whom the Present Generation
Does Not appreciate Because 1t Docs
1.at Understand Thcm-Thc Other Type
of yvoggl.en who l. Always AfabIe.
A witty and sympathetic man once
said to me, II would rather marry a
woman who looked feelings and had
none than woman who had feelings
and Looked none.' OF course the say
ing came more from his wit than his
Iynpathy, lut l could not help feeling
that there were moments when | could
agree with him, although | have known
the value ard the services of the woman
with 10 feelings to be underestimated.
My daughters have friend-a wom-
an only little past girlhood-whose
company is moro sought after and rel
ishcd than that of almost any one l
know. She has admirers by the score and
acquaiEtancas everywhere, and no won
der, for she Is cultivated, always cheer
ful and Will listen to and rally the poor
est talllar. Sine is asked to everything
in the shape Of feast, for she is the
amusement and relaxation of whoever
may be about her. At the same time,
whenever her praises are sounded, the
eulogy winds up with the inevitable and
dishcartCning tag after all, you know,
she has no feelings"
And this is perfectly true Quick and
comprchending as Is her smile and
graceful as is her glance while one is
talking to her, there l. always the con-
viction that not trace of real interest
is involved. If she only had heart,
the girl would be an angek
like the old fashioned word. And
when have been alone with her l have
often wanted to say, MY dear, do be
an angelr' But she has no heart. If she
were to marry foreigner and 90 abroad
to live, she would leave us all without
a moments regret So her friends are
vexed with her want of feeling and
warn the world against her.
And this iswhat seems to me unjust.
Take this girl as she is. Whether it
Is her nature or not, she never refuses
the challenge TO be agreeable; whatever
her own plans and likings are, she never
betrays impatience when they are
crossed Her companion may be plain,
awkward and tiresome, but her eye and
her gay little joke are never dulled for
that reason. In fine, she may be the in
carnation of the light which shines, but
does not warm, yet while she keeps a
whole circle in good humor by her wit,
as She does, it is poor return to grid
at her.
Again, and speaking now of a widely
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women, often only the survivors of a
more rigid era-exact, severe. stern, un-
bending and ruling their households
with rod of iron. How little this gen.
Grafton understands them! How little
merit it allows to the implicit faith in
duty, the untiring devotion TO work, the
almost fanatic hatred of waste and self
Indulgence and the Spartan maxims of
life in which they We're brought up and
which they still observe. What has be-
come of our eyes that we cannot see the
beauty of such lives? VIII do we no
longer recognize their valu /. These are
not the women who have feelings, but
. look none. They are without feelings at
all, according TO the standards of our
new, diversified and exacting society.
/ hear young girls saying that their
grandmothers or aunts, or what you
please, don't understand them, and
really / think that many older people
than these schoolgirls make just the
same absurd complaint. | can appeal
with safety to every one. Who has not
known one Of these same stern women
almost bring the dead to life by her
powers Of nursing, or confront single
handed and maintain her family on a
beggar's pittancc, or save "A failing
household by simple economy and hard
work? | shall be told that ALI these
things are admitted, but that is just the
point-they are not. II they were, the
cry Of mo feelings" would never be
raised ont Of very shame.
/ know an old lady who has had the
misfortune 20 live a long life and to see
all her descendants grow up unable to
understand" her. She is Of the old,
unsparing sort, and they, artistic, orig
inal, clever, uodCrn people, have no
place for her either in their theories or
their interests. With these her notions
can scarcely be expected to agree either,
yet the complaints come not from her,
but from them. They are not complaints
in words. They are complaints crystal
lized into entire disregard for the old
school, which does not, as it cannot,
wholly sympathize with them 1t seems
to take AN outsider, like myself, to see
what do see-that without this erect,
white haired ancestress, who is appar-
emily so separate from them ALL wives
and husbands both would have to teach
themselves the fortitude which she COM
municates merely by her presence.
Their households would be dragging on
without the strong axles, so to speak,
which she put in almost unnoticed for
each newly married couple, and the
whole family, row held together in an
unusual vigsr, would soon fall apart
and be dispersed
/ believe there must be many such
cases 4 have the dceDeSt respect for