The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-09-09
TALKING OF WOMEN.
Bab'S Summer Friends Air Their PET
Views.

VIEWS.
snappy Comments On the Different
Feminine Typss-Now, the Popular
Woman Must Be Negative and In
vite Conference.-The Attractive
Woman Usually So Because She
CANT Help It-You Like Her Be-
cause You Can't Help It-Confden-
tial Information ReEarding the
"Dressy Woman''-The Modern Mad
anne Pompadour.
Baltimore, Nd, Sept. S.-We are about
talked out. We all knew what the other
could do in the way of fancy work: we all
knew how amiably the older mothers
could give advice, and how gracefully the
younger ones could accept it, we all knew
well, the truth was, we all knew all
about each other. Consequently, there
was absolutely nothing to gossip about.
But one morning some one said: There's
one subject that is always new-woman.
Now, what do you think constitutes a
popular woman2" The answer came from
the corner.
THE DISCUSSION OPENS.
"a popular woman must not know too
much, must not dress too much and must
not be too good looking. If her clothes
are very fine, she excites envy. If she
knows too much, she causes jealousy.
And if she is very good looking, she will
take all the admirers away from the other
women, and that viii make her unpopular
at once. The popular woman represents
mediOcrity. She must be able to have an
opinion about needlework and the
fashions, and be willing to impart
all her knowledge of them to the
different women around about. Any
pleasure that comes to her she must be
willing to share with every body else; and
yet | think she Oftener shares other peO-
pies pleasures with them than the con-
trary. She must listen to the confidence
of the young mother who gives full his
tory of the baby's ills and what a day it
was when the first tooth made its appear
ance, and she must show the same intense
interest IN somebody's sweetheart, while
she must be willing to chaperon any girl
in the house. If she has any temper,
she conceals it, If she has
any special liking for anything
or anybody she cleverly hides it, and is
in reality all things to all women. She
seldom displays any interest in men ex-
cept as they occupy positions of husband
or sweetheart to some other woman. She
sinks whatever individuality she NAV
have in her desire to be popular, and IN
presses people who think very much with
the fact that she hasn't an idea of her
own. Personally, the popular woman is
usually next door to a fool"
"Weu evidently you don't think much
OF popular woman. What do you think
AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN"
The reply to this came from the center
of the group. The attractive woman is
usually so because she can't help it. If
she dresses well, if she is good to look
upon, if men admire her, so much more to
her advantage. But she would be attrac-
tive II she were dowdy and ignorant. At
Effectiveness in a woman is, firmly be-
lieve, a kind of magnetism. There are
women who are dull in appearance-that
is, so far as their faces go-who are care
less in their get-up, but whom both men
and women like, and for whom they will
do anything. They are the women
to whom people feel inclined to give
things. Somehow, even If a little self
denial has to be practiced, one wishes
the attractive woman to have something
that comes from you and which will make
her think of you. You like her because
you can't help it, and you wouldn't help
1t if you could. She seldom says malicious
things. In fact, if you boiled down what
she does say, it really wouldn't amount
to very much. 1t is the sympathetic wav
in which it is said that makes it seem
worth listening to. Nobody ever envies
this woman her possessions. Everybody
is glad if she has anything that gives her
pleasure. a woman can make herself
fascinating, but she has to be born at
tractiye."
WE ALL KNOW HER.
tVTbap thp1ta ic mar much -
tanning to the attractive type, But how
about the woman who gOssips ?"
The answer to this came in very posi-
tive tones from some one who had evil
IDENTIFY suffered from an acquaintance
with her. THE woman VINO gossips is
an evidence Of how rapid is the descent
TO hell. She began by beng sarcastic
and making clever speeches. Gradually,
as subjects gave out, she took up people
where formerly she had confined her
self TO inanimate objects. Then, as the
world got TO know the sort of informa-
ton she would like to have, people who
were afraid of her carried her all the
mean talk they heard, and she dressed
1t up in her own clever way, made it seem
twice as pad, and hit ten persons where
the original weapon had only been meant
for one. She has marvellous memory
for things that should be forgotten. She
knows the skeleton in your closet and in
mine-and she is never so well pleased as
when with her wicked tongue she can
lure him forth and induce him 10 dance
before the public while we suffer If She
comes to pay you a visit, you wait in
horror to hear what bitter things she has
to say.
HER DooMs EXTREMELY HARD.
"If she cannot hit you she manages to
say something about your bosom friend,
and then she goes away satisfied. She
explains herself by saving that she feels
that you ought to know. Now, why ought
your II your friend has q weakness why
should you know it, You see her virtue
and her strength and you delight in them,
and there is no reason why you should
ever know Of anything that does not quite
come up TO your ideal. ! have often won
dered what this woman expects her future
to be. Surely, she can't go talking forever
about other people. And, as / be-
Ileve that part of our punishment,
If not all of it, comes TO us
here on earth, and that as we have
slnned so we Will suffer / wonder il hers
Will consist in having to listen to some
other gossip, cleverer and more bitter
than herself, who will make known TO
her not only her own weaknesses, but
the mistakes and the wees of those who
are dear to hero A murmur OF ap-
prevail followed this, which convinced
everybody that the woman who gOssips is
often met, always hated, ana that she
really has no friends.