Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1894-11-04


most restlessly DESTROYS OF her own way,
whether got by direct command or Ca
jolery-every woman loves best the
man she respects most-the man wAose
love for her is in its turn bound up with
his respect for her. She knows that
were she to fall below her best sell she
would lose both that love and that re-
spect. There must be no paltering with
degradation of mind or body II she is to
retain her place In his heart. He does
not look leniently on "tame cats" on
extravagance, on nndonbtfullness, on
want of maternal care, on base neglect
OF household duties. de may not go to
the primitive lengths OF Ischomachus,
but in his own way be demands the
same sweet regard for duty and the
same dilligent fulfilment thereof. Kind
and tender TO temperamental frailtles,
he has no softness for moral obliquity.
He is always In sense her master; but
her master chiefly because ne Is her own.
He has learnt the grace and dignity OF
self-control, and self.control is Dot quite
the same thing as self-concealment.
The one deals with the core, the other
with the envelope. The masculine
quality suppresses the thought. the
inclination, the feeling; the feminine
overlaJs the expression. With true
self-control-that is, with true self
mastery-he is master Of all else. And
a woman who falls into the hands of
mau Of this kind-giVen the lighter
outside advantages which touch the
taste aud CRAFTY the poetic element in
love-is the woman OF ali others 10 be
envied as most blessed of her sex.
With an irascible man, a petulent man,
vain and restless and egotistical man,
with a man of brutal temper and coarse
impulses, all abroad and uncontined,
what happiness can there be? The better
the woman the more miserable, because
the more disappointed and disillusioned.
The worse the woman the more she
sinks into that special slough, which is
her besetting sin-for very heart-break
here, or for the Internal force OF imlta-
ton, perhaps because OF the fever OF re-
taliation there. Many faithless wife
of the kind which has no real self-re-
spect and no sense Of right, has gone
over the borders because Of the faith
lessness Of her husband. And coming
down to a yet more degraded platform,
drink in him has CEASED drunkenness 10
her, or 5 blow is returned because one
has been given.
No! Fig ht against it as much as the
new woma may, the sex as sex Is
happiest when Dobly mastered-that Is,
when mastered by the justice, the large
mindedness, the high principles of the
man. Such q man does not make his
wife helpless, faineante, selfish, Ike
that earlier type Of whom we have
spoken. On thu sontrary, he strengthens
her, and helps her to build up herself In
more enduring nobleness than she could
perhaps have attained uDassisted. de
supplies her with an unerring rule OF
right; advising always, not those things
which would be most pleasing to the
flesh. but those which are most nonr-
ishing TO the soul, and those which are
intrinsically right. And anyone who
h as ever been under such guidance as
this knows the gladness OF worthy llv-
ing knows that peace which tho world
neither gives nor can take away. "He
for God only, she for God In him." One
OF the deepest truths in human life is
in this phrase. To the man belongs
the independent conception OF the
nobleness the grandeur OF moral
ity-nobleness and grandeur In
manner Of self.existent, unrelated.
To the woman, this, TO be perfect,
must be mated with individual love.
When that love can be given to the
husband-whe fulfilling in the highest
sense the Jewish ideal Of the priestly
character inherent in the master OF the
family--the head Of the house-she can
reverence where she loves, and respect
the influence to which she yields, then
there is no more to be wished for. Pow
erty and adversely cannot touch such
marriage as this. Founded on the eter-
nal truth OF difference In sex, and on
the Complementary quality OF that diff
ference, il stands four-square to all the
winds that blow unassailable, uncon-
Querabls, and emDhatically divine.
4. LYNN LINTON.