The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1894-10-30
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own-by threatening TO canvass thu
constituency against him She Is en-
phatically Mistress Uppermost. and h
Is her helot But is this the ideal? Can
this be said TO be the husband mother
desire for their daughters CT such rs
those daughters themselves wocli
dream of before they were perverted
Either of theseexamrles the man who
takes on himself the duties and ofiiccs
of his wife, whether through tyranny
Or whether because of over-indulgence
OR the man who gives his vito
her head at the expense of his own dig
nity-is emphntically not ore 81 the
ideal kind dreamed Of and desired by
the best woman.
To make himself respected - - car
wants 10 be happy in his marriage he
must look on this as the spell by which
that heaven IS 10 be opened Every
woman-the most mas,erful their is
the most restlessly DESTROYS Of her owr.
way, whether got b. direct command
or calolery-every woman loves best
the man she respects mos,-the man
whose love for her Is in its turn bound
up with his respect Tor her She knows
that were she TO fall below her hes,
self she would lose both that love and
that respect There must &c no paiter-
ing with degradation Of mind or body
if she is 10 retain her place in his heart
He does not look leniently on "tame
eats" on extravaganza. on undutiful-
ness. on want of maternal care. on base
Il
not go to the primitive lengths oi
lschomachus, but in his own way We
demands the same sweet regard for
duty, aud tine same diligeut fulfillmcnt
thereof Kind and tender % tempera-
mental frailties. he has no softness for
moral obhquity. tie is always in n
sense her master; but her master chief
y because he is his own He has learnt
the grace and dignity of selfcontrol.
and self-control is not quite the same
thing as self-concealment The one
deals with the core, the other with the
envelope. The masculine quality sup
presses the thought, the inclination.
the feeling; the feminine overlays the
expression. With true self-control-
that is, with true self-mastery-hc
Is master of all else. And a woman
who falls into the hands of man Of
this kind-given the lighter outside
advantages which touch the taste and
crafty the poetic element in love-is
the woman OF all others TO be envied a.
most blest of her sex With an irasci-
bic man, a petulant man. vain and
restless and egotistical man, with
brutal temper and coarse impulses, all
abroad and uncOnfined, what happiness
can there be? The better the woman
the more miserable, because the more
disappointed anc disillusioDed. The
worse the woman the more she sinks
into that special slough which is her
besetting sin-for very heartbreak
here, or for the. Internal force OF imita-
ton. perhaps because of the fever OF
retaliation there. Many q faithleSs
wife of the kind which has no real self
respect and no sense of right, has gone,
over the borders because Of the faith
lessness of her husband And coming
down to a yet more degraded platform,
drink in him has caused drunkenness
In her. or blow is returned because
one has been given.
mol Fight against 10 as much as the
new woman may, the sex as a sex ia
happiest when nobly mas,ered-that
is, when mastered by the justice, the
large mindedness, the high principles
Of the man. Such a man does not
make his wife helpless. faineante,
selfish, like that earlier type OF whom
we have spoken On the contrary. he
strengthens her. and helps her 10
build up herself in more enduring
nobleness than she could perhaps have
attained unassisted. lie supplies her
with an unerr:ng rule Of right: advS-
ing always, not those things which
would be most pleasing TO the flesh.
but those which are most nourishing
20 the soul. and those which are in
trinsically right. And anyone who
has ever been under such guidance as
this knows the gladness Of worthy
living-knows that peace which the
world neither gives nor can takc
away. "He for God only, she for
God in himi- One Of the deepes,
truths Of human life u in this phrase.
To the man belongs the independently
conception OF the noblensss, the grand
eur Of neutrality-suspicious. and grand
eur in a manner self-existent. unre-
lated To the woman this, 10 Dc per-
feet, must be mated with individual love.
When that love can be given 20 tho
husband-when fulfilling In it's highesi
scnse the Jewish ideal Of the priestly
character inherent In the master Of
the family-the head Of the houss-shs
can reverence where khe loves, and re-
spect the influence 70 which abe yields,
then is there no more 20 be-
wished for. Poverty and advrr-ity
capno. touch such a marriage hs ,his-
Founded on the eternal truth Of differ
encs in ser, and on the complimentary
quality Of that difference. II stands
four-.quare 70 all the winds that blow
unassailahle, uDconquerabls and en-
phaticAily divine
T. LTsx Lfsros.