The Wichita daily eagle., 1894-02-13

life are like slow poison to heyouns
girls plastic mind.
A fair divorcee once told me that the
wreck of her marital happiness was
due to such a friendship in her early
girlhood. my parents were most
critical of all my girl friends, she said,
'but this charming married society
women and belle was allowed to chape-
rome me, and take me about with her
whenever she chose. My mother was
not society woman, and of course
she was flattered by the attention to
her daughter of one who was. Queer,
how a good, honest and otherwise
level-headed woman can have that
abject reverence for an inferior
person morally and mentally who is
called society woman; but my
mother felt that reverence, and al
lowed me to stay two or three days at
a time with Mrs. Giddy. OF course !
enjoyed it--what girl of my age would
hot? MRS. Giddy was al lays Enr-
rounded by throng of men, and Mr..
Giddy was always at the club.
''His wife declared that they were
devoted to each other, but that each
enjoyed "a little harmless Irritation
now and then. It was old fogy and
stupid to think such things wrong.
Well, Mrs. Giddy sails along on
smooth sea to-day-but when / mar
ried and attempted to adopt the same
principles my barque went to pieces on
the rocks of great scandal think
the flirtiest sort of girl friends could
have associated with would not have
harmed me as this chaperon did"
The wife who is forever sneering at
sentiment and romance in married life,
and representing husbands as the
grave diggers of happiness, is poor
companion for an impressionable
young girl. The young are build
thoughts, hopes and desires. Any
phase of thought insisted upon and in
dulged in long enough brings a result
of it's own kind, in greater or less de-
gree. The wife who tears down the
young girls illusion of happy mar
riage is preventing that illusion from
becoming q reality-wnich the very
have made it in time. AS the priests
of India can produce the beautiful
shape of tree and make it visible to
the eye from the power of thought
force, so can the force of q maiden's
love and faith produce a happy and
lasting romance, if she is not diverted
from her object by sneers and sarcasms.
Better by far the most frivolous of
girl friends, than one such woman as
sociate.
1t is queer fact that while mother
and father would be Mortified beyond
expression at the idea of having
young daughter listen to the converse
tion of an unchaste wife, both parents
are perfectly Indifferent to the CON-
radeship of their sons, growing lads
and youths, with unchaste husbands,
who boast Of their Don Juan adven-
lures, or speak of them as mere Incl
dents in the life of man.
l dare venture to assert that not two
youths out of every ten in American
towns, villages or cities, grow to man
hood without overhearing half a dozen
conversations of this nature among
men.
1t is all very well for young man to
know what temptations lie in the
world and in himself Ignorance never
saved dozen souls from the pitfalls
of Satan. while it has opened the trap
door to thousands But there 10 vast
difference between talking freely to
a youth of what exists in the world,
and so forewarning him, and of lightly
jesting on the subject-in his hearing.
A lad must be born with exception
ally strong principles, and high ideas
of right and wrong. not to gain the
idea that immorality-in regard to
woman-is smart when he hears il
discussed as a natural phase OF man
hood by his elders.
The parents who grieve their hearts
out over the cornpanionship which ex-
lists between their son and some wild,