The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1894-12-30
MARRYING OPPOSITES.
An Anxious Inquirer Is Given N Little
ls9e Sermon on MatrimOny.

-'Quiet Observer in Pittsburs Commercial
Gazette.
Wont you please explain the meaning
of qd, the rule about marrying your s opposite?
to know when we have found it? ! am
really interested, because / have a chance
to marry, but don't want to make any mis-
take"
That old rule about marrying opposites is
still held TO be good one, and 1T seems to
be well founded. Those who have given
terpret it quite literally. They think it SIM
ply means that the short should marry
the tau the s. lean take s the fat the dark
protection of the strong. Some even go
so far as to claim that dissimilar tastes
and modes of life are essential to happy
union
This is not what the rule contemplates,
although dissimilarity of taste in greater
lives of both. but 1t requires a great deal
from becoming too great for comfort. as
is the case when each claims to be right
and the other wrong.
A quick, fiery tempered person should Sc
lect partner who is of calm disposition
and slow to anger. If both are fiery there
VIII be many warm times: 1t does not fol-
low, however, that one who is slow to anger
should marry one who Is quick tempered,
for this type of individual is liable to vex
a saint.
Instead of dispositions disagreeing they
should harmonize. at least TO the extent
amusements and entertainments. Should
they disagree as to these they would have
very little satisfaction together. They may
have their preferences, but for that which
pleases one to be offensive to the other is
almost certain to lead to discord discon-
tent and misery.
The rule applies to temperaments rather
than. to physical or social conditions. 1t
is not always the case that physical con-
Two persons of fair compiexion and of the
same build may have very different tastes,
while another two may differ widely in APP
pearance and yet agree in tastes.
Although the rule is good one it must
be given a liberal Interpretation, and COM
mon sense is better guide in doing this
not TO the interest of either for two fiery
tempered individuals to marry nor for two
slow-pokes to go together nor for two who
nave strong likes and dislikes and are very
positive concerning them. 1t is i'm such
cases as these that the rule applies with
greatest force.
AS has often been said and may be re-
peated often with profit. that there is n,
better guide in the selection of life part
ner than just plain common sense.
IL our correspondent has a case on HAND
she cannot do better than to set Cupit
| aside for a time and make a careful stud,
of the man. Take him just as he is. max
ing but little allowance for reformation
III there are things about him that are dis
| agreeable she should determine whether sh,
can put up with them for lifetime or not
| If he differs widely from her in matter.
OF taste. religious views and domestic hab
it's. she must not expect to bring hin
| around. for men, and especially strong men
| do not marry with a view to being reformed
nor will they cheerfully submit to bein,
brought around TO womans way of think
| ing
| II may be esteemed rank heresy to sa,
| so. but the fact remains that love is no
| always safe guide to matrimony. Low
| without proper environment is not lasting
| In cases of failure to hold out it is claimel
/ that it was not true love. This is q mis-
take. because love of a very ordinary quail
| ity will hold out and yield splendid result
| If the conditions are favorable.
You are acquainted with cases, probably
| in which there was plenty of love- but OF
i account of it not being carefully protects
| from passing storms of passion, and tn
| stings of ill temper, 1t withered and faded
| and win finally die. Or, possibly, one hear
| only has failed to properly nourish the ho,
| passion, and the other is struggling violent
| ly to escape misery that is sure to folloy
the death of its companion.