Waterbury evening Democrat., 1894-07-20
TALK OF TWO WOMEN.
Men Will Read It With Interest and Profit
 and the Fair Sex With Pleasure.
Especial Corrcspondenee.l

~NA" SAsANs "NA~ politan society women, both married, and they wero sitting around 5 o'clock tea table exchanging their views on life, but on men in particular. Now, be it known that in summer the ''swageer'' woman never takes tea She has crystal glass packed to the brinI with crushed ice and favored with diluted creme de menthe.
 It struck me as listmed to their chat ter that it would be n good thing if men might know just what women say of them in the sanctity of n boudoir, and determined to bctray confidence. Be as surcd that when n woman has her hair down and Is lolling with n cooling drink in the shaded silence of her own little sanctum she is apt to speak the truth.
 II think" said No. l, that men don't give sufficient attention to trifles- If there is one thing in the world n man should be particular about, it is his clothes. But the American man docs not dress well. Outside of New York and n few other big towns he doesn't even approach the correct standard"
 You arc not exploiting the dude, are yout' asked No. ., lifting her eyebrows.
 Not n bit of it. I think all sensible women dctcst tho dudc'
 So do I. So far, then, quite agree with you
 q mean the carelcssly dressed man, when by little interest and attention he could bc n most pleasing sight. l mean the man who gets one suit of clothes at a time and wears that with dust and crcascs, day in and day out. to business. When it is worn out, he gets another, and so on. Men should do us we women do, even when our means arc very small. They should have two business suits going at n time-two at lcaSt-more if they can af ford it. It wouldn't cost a bit moro in the end After wearing one n few days it should be left at home or at n tailor's for dusting and pressing He should be par ticular about his linen, and it pays to wear the very best. He should strive to pay n certain homage to fashion, for nOth ing becomes absolutely popular thing unless thCrc is n Guud mason for it
 Exactly" said No. .. Il remember once that l could have fallen deeply in love with n man but for the aboIninable tics and scarfs he insisted on wearing. They were ccru and scarlet or snuff color and pink-and his scslrfpinsl When he didn't have a golden calf stuck in his hid eOus neck decoration, he had silver cle- phant. rCmcmbcr l summoned courage to speak of the matter, and he was enrag- cd. He stood mp for that silver elephant in n way to turn your blood cold.
 II can undCEStand how that would af- feet you. Men don't rcalizc how well women mason from small things If he was rooted In bad taste and you married him, fancy the strain upnn your brain and health If hc insisted on filling the house with bric-a brac that was hurrid and plush furnitupr of vile culnrs that would sat your teeth on CSIt,c It's the same rule applied morr difTusnly. Now, thcrc's another Cu- rious thing l want to tell you. Men have rCally better skins than women when they take C5lr. of them. The man wiO iS de I voted roi: d.iiiy- '::st!hfr morning or night, if it's only spuDGc hath, hns always >Ssaan- >San less thcUc is something COnstitutiOnally wrong, a gOud. wholesome, cOol looking skin. It takes n lot of little triilts to make n woman look her best. Her abundant hair muz have n curl in it. she must have n pretty thruat, pink and white | skin, rcd, frJssh lips, beauty of eye. Be coming cOlOrs arc grCnt advantage Co her. So Is n wChlikc veil, which hides an occasional fpcklc and gives completeness to her costume. But men need only tO be well gruomcd and titlily drcssed in quiet ! colors tO bc perfectly acceptable. A man utterly hopeless nOSc, but if You arc i'm pressed by his absolute, flawlcSs cleanli- ness he will bc interesting.
 What about hats!"
 Well, n man should. of course, Gct what is most beCOming, hut not if it is sO unconventional [ bat he is lal'cled queer. , | This Is not the latitude for tho snrnbrCrn, and yachting caps are ridiculous save on or near tho water. X high hat should all ways bc ry'servc,l as a drcss affair. just as | n woman's gauge bonnet is DcrhiCs l | like, and whatever style is Cn TcglC usu- | ally looks the best. Those straw hats with | round, wlbbly crowns and rolled up brims, which make every man look like sliceT of meat joints ar mixer of drinks. should bc avoided like tho plague by all sensible men,
 II think icwclry is horrid on a man, don't you''
 of course I don't mind q ring and q good, plain watch, but no more
 Now, what traits do you think women hate most in men:'
 The cuwarIily man Is horror to all women. The cffcminatc man Is equally bad. By that don't mean the man Oi slight physique and delicate features, but he who goes nOsing into the smallest af' fairs of his sisters and wife, who likes tC go shopping, who sruSsips, who naGs, whC keeps an account of the smallest house hold cxPcnditups-in fact, who usurps tht woman's place, as well hs her worst faults.''
 .Therc is one still worsc," said No. 9 "Thcrc is the man who Is close And she waggcd her head
 .'Oh, he! Count him out of everything If n man Is poor. I don't think thcrc Is [ refined woman living who thinks less o him, us n man, for that. Indeed, instinc lively and dclICatcly she tries to bc of ns expense to him. But tho man who tries to sneak out of paying your faro by mnk ing you walk. who carefully, dclibcratsl! adds up bill in n rcstaurant and qucs tions everything. who sCcnIs to have aI Idea that the world is levied to cheat hin he l. dctestable%'
 .Therc Is a habit some men, even mic men, have which has hurt them morc II the estimation of women than anything , clso," said No. . II rcfcr to the habit q , carrying n pursc for changc-"
 "I could forgive . man anything bu thatl'' cried No. l cxcitclly. "Oh. if mel only knew how each new woman acqunint anco they make watches to sge If the. will bc guilty of this, I'm surc q wholssssal information would st in- The hahi
 makes n man Sccm mean and cruelty painfully tidy. Nothing excuses it-nOth ing! Tho man who gOcs down dccp int his pocket and without any display c laviShncss brings up a fistful Of snal changc takes tho first right step in n wnn
 ans estimation. That action sccIns [
 stamp him As n man"
 ''Takc it all in all. then, n man thoi
 oughly clcan, particularly as to tcoth an l nhAlSs uEtN@tA Ah NNA bA@s~ 2 quiet color. who ducsn't plaster his hair | any Outlandish way, who doesn't wear Q 'frcak' hut and who doesn't carry n pun - is about rightf'
 You've hit him off finely" said No.
 with n plcascd air. and Isn't my Georg
 all of thatf' KATE JORDAN
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 drinking brandy together.
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