Cottonwood report. [volume] (Cottonwood, Idaho) 1893-1901, 1894-01-26
ADVICE FOB The fIANcs.
Sensible Suggestions for Young People
Who Have Become Engaged.

Sensible Suggestions for Young People
Who Have Become Engaged.
After you have placed the engagement
ring upon the hand Of your fiancee it is a
question whether you should continue to
shower valuable gifts upon the young lady.
Flowers as costly as you can afford them
can be sent as often rs your purse will per-
nit, but parents should have a say as to
the acceptance or refusal of jewelry by the
young lady; and in this matter it is best to
obey the father and mother, for you will
soon have the young lady all to yourself,
and it is barely possible that you will your
self object as strenuously to the importuni-
ties for jewels which will undoubtedly
come from your young wife
You should always be with your fiancee
in public places to which you are invited;
at the opera. at theatres, at balls, at re-
ceptions where gentlemen attend. IL you
are alone at the ball or at the opera the
fashionable world will believe that you
have quarreled, and the fashionable world
knows, as a rule, what it is talking about.
Right here it must be said that the quar-
rel is unnecessary and vulgar, and usually
ends in broken engagement, or if de-
ferred until after marriage, in the divorce
court. | use the word vulgar advisedly,
for no gentleman will allow petty and
uncalled for jealousy to bring him to the
point of quarrel. No lady will give the
fgentleman actual cause for such action.
II is lady's privilege to fix the wedding
d3ty. On this point the cdint of fashion is
absolute, but there is no instance on rec
FORD in fashionable society where the young
lady who was really in love failed to take
a suggestion in the matter from her pros
pective husband. In other words, the gen.
tleman can suggest, but the lady fixes the
day.
If the parents Of your prospective wife
are inclined to be religious, make it point
to go to church with the family every Sun
day evening.
The custom of coming early to the home
of your fiaDcee and of staying late is to be
deplored.
do not mean to say that you can pos
sibly become bore to her, but | do insist
that for the convenience and comfort of
other people in the house you should cut
your visits almost as short as when you
first began to incline favorably toward the
young lady. Ten o'clock is very pretty
hour at which to leave and you will find
that strict observance of this will make
future welcomes much more hearty.
Don't be enthusiastic over your fiancee to
your friends. Don't make her the subject
of your constant talk Everybody knows
that it is interesting to you, but you are
likely to be the only one who is apt not to
know how unbearably tiresome you are.
There is one delicate question that have
been asked to touch upon, and that is,
Should Il man of fashion kiss his fancee,
and If 80, on what occasions2 There were
times when it was not in fashion to kiss
the young lady until after the ceremony,
but happily that time is only dimly recol-
lected by the society men of today. The
one regulation that believe it incumbent
ON me to lay down is that when you kiss
the young lady it should be in her presence
alone, because, while it is very pleasant
pastime to the young couple, it is bound to
be ridiculed and laughed at, even by the
sister or brother, and smiled Mt as foolish
by the mother, so don't show your intense
affection in the presence of any one except
the young lady herself.
In the ultra fashionable set of all cities
it is considered proper that the young lady
should always be chaperoned wherever she
goes with her prospective husband, and no
matter what the conditions may be-
The question Of the propriety of young
lady's acceptance Of invitations to her
are many worthy dowagers who would,
under no circumstances, favor the accept
ance by their daughters of an invitation
to visit the sisters of her fiance.-Boston
Herald.