St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1894-04-29
A VIOLENT TO :MENT.
jealousy and Its Three Forms
ALWAYS Shameful. no

OeatOuSy ana It's 1nreo FORMS
Always Shameful. ,Iq
Love has many torments, says an
essayist i'll the Pail Mall Gazette, but of
the whole number there is only cue
that is quite without mingling of
sweetness. This is jealousy. which lis
accountable for more agony Of nSiifd
than any other emotion. All the other
serpents that infest loves paradise
have little honey bag beneath their
fangs; Jealousy is, exceptional. IN that
matter. Like greed, TO which 1t bears
a close resemblance. it is one
of the original passions, and had a
f1Ourishing existence long before love
was invented; meaning by that the love
which this dictionary serves 0expOund.
All the original PASSIONS ara violent.
aud are expressed in fefocity when they
rise 10 their highest; even the one that
stood for love when as yet there was no
such thing. Jealousy was all wrath till
the tender passion OF love grew up. and
then became more tormenting for the
tenderness. Now grief was added to
wrath; and such glief that Its tears. in
stead OF SOlacing the heart they spring
from, poison it. Nor had jealousy coIEe
to its worst complexion yet. In due
time imagination combined with ten
derness to madden jealousy, and keep
1t among the blacklist of human pas
slonS. The jealous mau is prodigy of
Imagination, excelled by none but here
and there a jealous woman; and every
new fancy is new torture. 1t is char
acteristic OF all the primal emotions that
they are capable of extraordinary ill.,
crease by brOoding on them. The more
savage passions, being dwelt upon, rise
to madness at an awful rate OF acceler-
alton; and since jealousy is most apt in
resorting TO imagination for increase of
its own torment. none so quickly mounts
to frenzy.
Jealousy takes three forms. or passes
into three phases. The first is fear that
some one will carry on the loved one by
superior attractions or wicked wlleS /;
the second, suspicion that his or that
her love has been transferred to another ;
the third, suspicion become certainty
The first may originate in mere Grabbed
ness of temper. 1t may arise from a
native blend of envy, suspiciousness,
untruthfulness, which as often intlictS
as suffers torture, and therefore de-
serves small commiseration. But it
may have quite another origin.
and is then to be pitied how
ever fretful it may be. Jealousy at
many girl whose worst faults are that
she is uncertain of her prettiness,
knows herself in the connie average
for grace of movement and line of lin b,
finds herself, In spite of every resolve
to the contrary. without the gift of a
winning speech, and is of those land
this Is about the worst, perhaps,) who
are either destitute of the wnerewithal
70 go finely dressed OF who ''can't be
made to look well in anything" Yet
with all these disadvantages young
woman may be fond, and, what
is more. she may have found a
really beautiful lover, or one who has
in him the unnamed charm that few
women fail to discover and respond to.
Then is her case hard one. Impossible
to saY-especially il he be CHEEKY,
free-spoken mal-what jealous fears
may breed and wriggle like a knot of
Egyptian vipers beneath the unbecom-
ing bodice of her disappointing gown.
And what is the cure for these jeal-
ousies? The only cure is years wears
alone. which is as much as to say the
departure OF youth and the approach of
age. a-- -,7 a ess~
The second or fuil-suspicion stage of
Jealousy is, perhaps, the most agoniZing
of the three. 1t is worse than suspicion
case storm arises, in which all the
fiercer passions join with GRIEF to rend
the sufferer. yet after little while love
and jealousy perish together in the yio-
lence OF the tempest. The peace that
ensues may be the peace of desolatlon,
but it is peace, and it is often seen
that new growthS appear in desolated
places. The jealousy in which sus-
plclon is never quite confirmed; the
jealousy that fingers now OH some black
proof, and then beholds it tighten into
doubt; the jealousy that is one day
soothed with caresses which seem the
mere Establishment of treachery-that
is the worst of all. And yet there Is
reason to believe that it is sometimes
wantonly Inflicted, for the sake of
sport.
The only known palliative of jealousy
is not to brood upon suspicious. 1t is
that which gives to trlfies light as air
the weight of perfect confirmation, and
thus any little rootless case OF doubt
may be nursed into mighty pain. 1t is
pretty well known that men brood more
than women, though that is less fault
than misfortune. A woman may
speak of her jeaiousies and TO harm
done. She may even make charms of
her griefs, which no man can do. From
TIE nOuf mat ne becomes an accepted
lover it behooveS him TO lock his tongue
upon his JealOusies, unless the outrage
be open and palpable; and then
his eXpostulations must be made
i'll quiet and to all audience
strictly limited to the parties concerned.
Jealousy is the most natural of passions;
1t is known to be often blameIess and
always torment; but, however blame
less it may be. it is felt as something
shameful by him VINO endures it, and is
usually accounted ridiculous by the
witness Of his sutferlngf. The jsal-
Gus man can neither satisfy him self nor
anybody else. If twithon: cause) his
jealousy be great. he Is laughably ride
ulous; if little and lightly borne, he is
ridiculous; and it is no wonder to him
self i'll either case that he should be so.
Strange land yet the explanation may
be found in any good psychological die.
tionary.