The Wichita daily eagle., 1894-01-13
SOCIAL DRONES.
There Are Too Many Men Who Simply
Want to Be Amused.

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Want to Be Amused.
Society. in its best condition, is made
up of atoms, each of which serves some
definite and intelligent purpose. Each
member has duties to perform, and un-
der no circumstances ever permits the
obligations Of courtesy TO be all on one
side. As far as public duties are con-
cerned, the Young man OF moderate
means IS supposed to conceal his IN
debtedness to the social world by con-
scientiously attending to the wishes OF
his hostess, furnishing partners for
young ladies who dance, escorting
whomever the hostess presents for a
partner. at supper, and otherwise MAX
ing himself agreeable. He cannot en-
tertain, therefore he assists the hostess
in her duties, and acts the part of
subordinate officer to her command.
| In this way they are able to feel that
they, in a measure at least. repay soci-
ETY. for the benefits conferred upon
them.
Wealthy young men can benefit soci-
ETY. in many ways. They can enter
tain and assist materially in making
Things agreea DIE
But there is another class of men,
| and they are not by any means con-
fined to the young. who are merely So
cial drones. They go out because it
pleases them, they eat swell dinners
and dainty suppers because they relish
them, and make themselves agreeable
because they enjoy doing So They
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general ease or comfort of the people
| they know, but rather take it for
granted that they are to suit
their own convenience or moods,
and go or stay as may be most
TO their minds. And some one has to
suffer inconvenience for this. There
are always times when these men pre-
fer cosy freside, a quiet evening and
the undivided attention of some one
woman to all of the balls and recep-
tions which society affords. Some OF
these men are rarely seen in assem- blies,
but are never found at home. They
select two or three places, usually the
society of some single woman, and
there evening after evening they sit,
enjoyi ing the quiet and comfort of the
place, eating Of the fruits and confec-
tions with which the place is usually
supplied, slipping, perchance, glass of
wine or a cup of delicious chocolate.
Other callers come in. Finding one
man almost always there, they soon
begin to look upon him as a fixture,
and seek fields uninvaded. Such steady
visitors seriously interfere with the
matrimonial prospects of young lady
and should not be encouraged, for they
have no serious intentions They
merely want to be amused. There are
instances where this persistent visiting
has been kept up for five or six
years, the man dropping in two or
three times during the week and sit
ting out the entire evening. Not once
was the theater, concert other
entertainment mentioned. Neither was
there any courtesy extended or ac-
acknowledgement made even to the ex-
tent of a bouquet book or a maga-
zine. Simply and solely the man want
ed to be amused.
1t may be said there are not many
such men, that they are the exceptions;
but intelligent woman of quiet tastes,
those who are not in general society,
are aware that there are by far too
many of them. They seem to think, if
indeed they think at all, that their own
entertainment is and should be their
chief object in life, regardless of the
pleasure, comfort, convenience or
future prospects of the women or whom
they bestow their not always welcome
society. In many cases their chosen
victims are old friends of the family or
ladies who are not in general society.
as social interruptions are not at all to
their taste.
To sit hour after hour and listen to
the music of their own voices with an
appreciative, or at least polite, au
ditor to say: "Yes?" 'Indeedr How
remarkablew is the keenest enjoyment
to them That it interferes with home
tasks, amusements or studies matters
not at all.
ments in home life. They disorganize
interrupt and put out Of joint all con-
secutive labors or pursuits
The hostess does not like to snub or
ill-treat them. May be they are, to
some extent, interesting, and, in the
case Of middle-aged men, their conver-
sation is frequently instructive, but
they bring no adequate compensation
for evening after evening Of what
really amounts to wasted time.
Generous, unselfsh and considerate
men will always try TO add something
other than their society to the pleas
ures of their hostess. and should never
forget that continuous calling on their
part will certainly have a tendency TO
keep other visitors away, and TO shut
out from the lady TO whom they de-
vote themselves many attentions from
others and the opportunity for many
amusements and much useful and
bene fetal association N Y. Ledger.
Was Always = Rough Sport
Football kiekers and kickers against
football may find interest in the fact
that in England three hundred and
fifty years ago King James l.. by de-
cree did de Earre all rough and vio-