Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1894-12-20
Special Correspondence Of Gazette and Journal

Special Correspondence Of Gazette and Journal
New York, Dec. 14,--Dtd you ever
have an overland friendY One of the
sort that considered it her duty to tell
you unpleasant truths? To pay you
| visits when you wished to be alone2
And to criticise closely everything you
did, or said, or thought? The kind uf
friend that came at o'clock in the af.
| ternoon with the intention of dining
with you, and when she departed at .
| left you feeling so unhappy that you
| wished somebody might be killed, you
| don't exactly mention who? This is
| the kind of friend, so called, who talks
about your weaknesses to her other
friends and never confesses that you
have any virtues She doesn't require
| an invitation to pay you visit, and,
| consequently, she is certain t. appear
| at some time when your skeleton is
| dancing the cancan and making ii over
visible. She gets acquainted with your
pet vice and then she talks TO you about
it before people She will volunteer, when
there it nobody around who has pin,
to tell you that your gown is ripped,
and she is always quite willing to make
you understand exactly how ill you
| look and how much wiser it would
have been for you to have stayed at
home and taken care of yourself instead
of going out and having good time.
SHE Is EvERYBoDY's FRIEND,
and everybody says how very kind she
is, while they would be quiet willing to
permit her to be kind to somebody else
and ignore them. | think a little kind
ness is more appreciated than this abso-
lutte donating all of ones time and
thought and action to somebody else.
Really and truly to dedicate ones kind
ness to oneself is wise thing to do, and
not TO give too much of it to outsiders.
The overland friend likes TO "drop in"
Now, the wise woman never permits
this. NOBODY with any sense likes peo-
pie to drop III unexpectedly. When YOU
and l, who claim to be wise, want our
friends to dine or lunch with us, We ask
them aud state exactly what day and
what hour we expect them to arrive,
and then, we have put away all our
little troubles, Indeed, as far MS pos
sible, we have forgotten them. We have
on best gown, and smile in harmony,
and on our table is the dish we con-
slider the most tasty, and which we have
taken q little trouble to have prepared
in honor Of our friends. Then every
thing goes right. The one who is invited
has good time and SO does her hostess.
But when you drop in Unexpectedly,
you never Know what the result may be.
To be very positive, want TO say that
never bored anybody by doing this,
and | shouldn't thank anybody for
foisting herself upon me when there has
been no invitation extended. There
was time in my life when l sub
mitted TO it. But | q wiser now. And
when the unlimited and obtrusive come,
they simply hear that Mistress Bah is
unable to see anybody to-day. And
advise all women who have been
imposed upon to do the same thing, and
then visiting will be more agreeable and
become more of fine art.
WOMEN IN BOARDING HOUSES.
Talking about women, listened to one
the other day who had been living in D
boarding house where all the boarder.
were women. What she told me wa:
the best reason for woman's hotel no
existing. She said: Somehow, it seemed
as if the very air had something in il
that told that there were no men in thu
house. And that it was nothing uuusua
for women to have spells of hysteria Of
faint; in fact, have known Of there
being as many as seven in one evening
who gave way to wild attacks of tears
and hysteria. Then, they got up atfec
tions for each other, and there were
) jealousies and ridiculous expressions o.
love, such as kissing gloves, and crying
ii somebody else kissed the beloved one
and walking around in each Others
arms, or sitting ON the staircase and tell
ing of the trueness OF their love. lef
and went to an ordinary place, and from
the very day after got there l begat
TO feel better and stronger, because tht
atmosphere was mixed, and men anl
women We're thrown together socially
as God had intended them to be-"
Another woman, talking about the
SAME sort of place, said: Il went to dine
. at the Home, and it seemed to me as il
| saw nothing but women, heard moth
ing but women, and no subjects were
: discussed that hadn't women anG
} women alone for their topics. l had NJ
appetite for my dinner, and | felt per
Getty certain that
TIE CHICKEN WAS A HEN,
the oysters were all proper ladies, ant
that the ham had been taken from a lads
pig. Nothing would ever induce M
TO dine there again" Now, neither o
these women were fools. They were
simply normal women, healthy in thei
tastes and sweet and pure in their ideas
But they could see the weakening ant
! depressing effect resulting from throw
ing lot of young women together ans
forcing them to talk too much abon
themselves. AS there are no men abou
) to interest them, they think about them
selves, talk about themselves and grow
! so conceited that they are frightful bores
Then there is another phase of thu
: life That of the girl who gets up
ridiculous affection for another girl
finds everything beautiful, attractiy,
and satisfying i'll her. DO you know
what is the matter with that girl? Sh
wants real, and not pretend, sweet
/ heart. And if she were out in the rea
r world she would attract one, woult
probably marry him, and make goot
d wife and mother. But, as il is, she i
/. wasting u deal of Affection. You proba
Z bly, think that don't believe in wumel
U friendships. do. But not of this kind
. And consider the
i BEST FRIEND FOR A YOUNG GIRL
to have is the man she is going to marry
do not think all girls should marry, bu
that does not prevent their havinl
u pleasant friends among men and receiy
:, ing many courtesies from them A
i. women grow more agreeable, they real
IA re what pleasant friends men can be
: and how they can bring into the hem
:, life the rush and freshness of the worl,
81 outside, which is delightful to woman
Il and how thew can receive thn tnste nf