The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1894-12-02

florist, and how much more dellghtfuIiy
frolicsome little dinners and luncheons
of three or four courses seasoned with
merriment are than dull feasts where
canvas-back and terrapin are the only
attractions
THE CHARM OF COURTESY.
Still another duty of the debutante's
mama is to impress by example ana
precept, the duty of universal courtesy.
No wise mother will leave her little
maid to frisk away all her days in
selfish amusements She will take her
along when she goes herself to call
on the older people. She will see that
her child learns TO appreciate the in
telligence, the dignity and charm of
people maturer than herself and that
she also learns that sweetest of all
virtues, Difference. She will teach her
that the sweet path to the winning OF
love is carefulness in trifies. The girl
who remembers always to inquire with
kind interest after an acquaintance
who is sick or suffering, and does not
think it too much trouble to go with
book or a handful of flowers as
little token that the interest she ex-
presses is real, who remembers to be
glad with others good fortune, to re-
call birthdays, write at once in an
sWer to notes, to make friends with
the babies. and sit down for a little
talk with the old ladies, is going to De
a success in her social world, whether
she is plain or pretty witty or not
HER MANNER WITH MEN.
Lastly, perhaps most important Of
all, is the attitude Of the debutante's
mother to the young men. 1t is far
too common for the careless, lazy
narent to launch the daughter and
then leave her to settle her relations
with men for herself, which is as I'M
wise as anything can well be. II the
girl thus neglected fails to attract adj
mirers the selfish mother either is I'M
patient with her failure, or else rams
! unfortunately at the selfishneSs ana
stupidity of the modern young man.
| If, on the other hand, the pretty
daughter entangles her affections and
makes a bad marriage, then the same
selfish mother rails at the perVers1ty
| of girls The wise mama does neither;
she takes pains from the very first TO
be nice to the nice young men; she
does not insist upon her daughter S
knowing only Sunday school superln-
| tendents, but she sees that the men
asked to the house are gentlemen, and
moreover, that they are asked often
and that the house is made agreeable
! for them when they come. Hel
daughter is not thrown at their heads;
they find plenty of other girls there,
pretty girls and pleasant ones, and
hnding it a charming, cheerful house
they come often, and the girls who,
merely seen in bal, ballroom oona1esy would aIs
prove to be witty and jolly and a
good Sort" and they take the pains
to be courteous at balls, remembering
what good times they have had at her
| home. Over and over again the girl
who suffers the anguish and humiiia-
ton Of being a wall-flower, owes her
sorrows to her mothers neglect and
stupidity Men can only judge of a
girl when they first meet her by out
ward appearance. and so the pretty
ones carry off most of the partners;
and many a girl who knows how to be
very agreeable is made SO timid by
neglect as to be awkward and silent,
but a clever and loving mother viii
| make so many friends for her girl by
her wise management that there will
be no chance for her debutante to be a
| failure. E. B. W.