Elmore bulletin. [volume] (Rocky Bar, Idaho) 1889-1906, 1894-01-13
GIRLS WHO FLIRT.
WHY MEN MARRY WOMEN WHOSE
ACTIONS THEY CONDEMN.

spIendid Marriages OF So Called 'Fris-
oious" Young Women.
Select your own immediate circle OF
young lady friends-those whom you have
known during the last ten years-and You
will find, think, that few II any OF the
fiirtishly inclined girls remained single.
while several Of their prudent and well De
haved and more industrious sisters ara
still clinging. ungathered. on the parental
branch.
Not many years ago heard a father eau
ton his two lovely and accomplished
daughters against an intimacy with two
Of their girl friefds. Those girls are DC
coming so fiirtish and gay" he said tina.
I am sure your good names will suner u
you are seen much In their company. Men
are quick to comment upon and misinter
pret such frivolous actions rs ! see those
girls indulge In. and | do not want you 70
suffer from an unwise intimacy. i nave
no doubt that they are innocent girls now
but they will soon lose the reputation OF
innocence II they are not more prudent.
The daughters OF the gentleman listened
to his counsel and ceased to visit the young
ladies who had been accused OF being nirts
and not without cause; and yet, regret
men who adore them, and who are the
most tender and devoted husbands, while
the two prudent daughters OF the discreet
gentleman have remained at home un
wooed and unwon
Ipuumerable cases OF similar kind
have come under my immediate observa
ton.
always feel exasperated with men
4 oh, smell STtr fRF
wives, while the prudent and discreet ones
are passed by; exasperated not because OF
their choice 80 much M because OF their
praise for the type they neglect and their
censure for the type they select. IL isa
curious problem.
have tried to solve Il and render the
conduct Of men consistent with their ever
repeated assertion OF aversion TO the very
girls they seem most ready to marry.
IL seems to me that have arrived at the
explanation OF the problem.
Men themselves do not know why they
are attracted to and won by these girls.
despite their better Judgment; but think
can explain the matter to them.
Stronger and deeper than mans cult
waited and acquired taste for the domestic
virtues Of civilized life In his Unborn nd
miration for what they usually term go
In n woman.
I think | have seen more mems eyes
sparkle when they described n woman ~
full OF ''go" than ! have ever seen from
any other cause
A man will be very calm and matter OF
fact when he tells you how very beautiful
some woman Is. he will he phlegmatic and
| prosaic when he tells you Of some highly
accomplished and charming woman" he
knows Not a ripple will disturb the
repose OF his face when he speaks Of some
| good, domestic, yirtuous girls OF his nc
quaintance; but when he says, by Jove'
she's full Of go" his calm becomes exhil
aration his eye glows, his voice thrills.
| | have heard them say II scores Of times
| and II In always with the same intense de
| light and appreciation.
heard 1t said once Of girl on a country
farm; the hired man fell Ill just In the har
| vest season. and she took his seat on the
/ great reaper and drove four horses until
| the oyerripe wheat was cut and bound. !
heard II said Of a young girl who had been
reared In luxury and idleness, and whose
father died Huddenly and left the family
| with nothing but debts; In less than six
| months she had canvassed all the Adjoin
| ing towns and had obtained large paying
| class in music. | heard II said OF the wife
OF famous politician, whose energy and
| tact and brilliancy won him half his sue
| cess: and heard IL said OF a society girl
| who was not beautiful or rich, but who be
/ came a belle because she was the best
dancer, rider. swimmer and talker In her
/ set.
| Now IL Is the same element--a sort OF
combustive hidden quality Of character
that actuated these women to do what
| they did. which causes many girls TO be
come fiirts Girls devoid of this element
do not understand why they are not as ut
tractive to men rs some less beautiful and
less prudent friend may be, and think the
male ser very unappreciatiye
| They hear men severely criticise the girl
whose misdirected go has led her into
hirtatious follies with his sex, yet he Il nj
tracted, In spite Of himself. by the quality
which actuated her follies. and he ends By
marrying her.
II do not see that 1t pays 70 be well be
haved and prudent" said a very beautiful
and modest girl to me recently. THE men
treat you with respect, but they pay ali
their attention TO and finally marry the
| girls who flirt with them
| could not deny the truth OF her state
ments, yet felt sorry 10 admit IL. but no
modest and discreet girl need envy the
happiness Of a fiirt
III she marries man she loves, every In
discreet act and every familiar attention
| she has received from other men during
her flirting days will be like drops OF gall
In her cup Of sweets. Aud II she does not
love the man she marries surely she "a not
70 be enviesi, for she Is very likely to con
tinue her fiirtations after marriage.
The best advice can give 10 the modes,
and good girls In To cultivate go" Ex
tremely discreet and domestic girls. who
never feel any inclination 10 kick over the
traces OF eonventionality, are worthy and
excellent members OF society, but they
seldom possess much go" This quality
needs 70 be born IN a psrson. like most
other qualities. II we would achieve great
results. yet ID can be cultivated.
Shake yourself up, overcome your self
CONSEQUENCES, your incidence aud your
Fears OF public commentl Try 20 be AMI
mated, Try 70 be ambitious, tactful, anus
ing and thoughtful Of Others.
Don't get into conventional ru,s and mr.,
nke every other girl you know. Dare h.
oe yourself, for every one has an indiyisiu
aiity peculiarly her own. But In yu,lr n
iorts 20 be attractive don't attempt 10 l..
| nlreish "neh u - not Your nature to lie no
because you zee that men make love q
| nirtS even while despislng them. IN yos,
do you will surely bring rsdlcule and dis
/ gard ~ 1s1" ~
IL Il not the flirting which draws tb,.
meii--it r. the element have referred h.
whice, when misdirecte.l. frequently cal sss
giri " nirt, that attracts them, even In
spite of their prejnaices. :" -
A man would prefer 4 girl who sr...s..,.,
go" and who did not become \ mir, n
you, devoid OF this elemeut dsss,,s...a