New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1894-01-14
HOME AND SOCIETY.
rpa AIMING THE YOUNG MAN OF THE
PERIOD.
late prNNERs-LAcK or DINNERS IN SOCIETY
IL ,nnrATE NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. AKE


~ ,la,oe IN ourselves \ child whose faults are
diminished IS certain to continue 'hose It"''9' ana
4, IS the same with the young MA" Vi S'0'e'3'
ivory woman should keep a back !st' anu prompt
10 note down thereon every offender whose name III
~. .,.rr. should b, dropped from her invitations.
oa,, tho other ncht a; a large dinner my neighhor
ta ., me of his hostess: shes queer o.d party
che invited me some time ago to SINAI! dance
did not 90 sent no regrets and never caAed ai,er-
ward So she made disaSreeable comments ABOUT
me - some mutual friends; yet she again invites
me- this time 10 dlhhef' ANU ""''''7 ''' 80
,er 10 d. l accepted
..I could not refrain from delivering to the young
man lecture. which he received with amiab'e sur
,rise but If on its account he considers me queer
1ld nartv' It VIII be for very different reasons. II
q woman establishes the reputation OF belnS pune
,uous in her demand for proper consideration from
Tho voung men who are her guests and at the same
.oe Is popular hostess she Is capable OF assist
tho greatly In the matter Of some much-needed
social reforms Expect courtesy and You are much
more apt 10 receive it, If You do not receive II
punish the offender for there lies no virtue III Inc
condoning OF such faults"
The fashionable dinner IS becoming later and later
and 70 get over that uncomfortable post-pIandiai
perod before the ball several wel-known hos'esSeS
have inaugurated $50 o'clock as the correct hour
an fact . would be better still" said a pretty
r,ondaine "for it is really Ike fitting in the pieces
lunch b-o'clock tea dinner and the dance after
ward where it IS no arriving until after II. III
London where O'Clock is frequently named as 'he
dinner hour the long English twilight curing inc
season seems an adequate excuse for very late hours
but with us It would be an absurd eXasgt ration u
turn night into day. and vice versa
Tho unvonted feature of this season seems 10 be
the great lack Of dinners. and the travelling Eng
lishman has fallen upon very evil Gays indeed
was told that your people were so eNtraordi'"i"S
bospitabe" said a newly arrived Briton the o'her
dav "and that l should be asked to dine somewhere
every night bu, as It happens l have been asked
on, only a couple of times. although have pre-
sented all my letters and have been in New
York for the last ten days.
Young clubnen too are complaining not little
Of the loss Of many good dinners. which hepeu 10
eka our their small ncOmeS comfortably OF Nore'
and fashionable married couples enjoying
Darby and Joan sort of existence which may or
may not be acceptable. Perhaps 1t Is rather ior'-
innate therefore that this somewhat trying season
q the shortest record since lSS. when the same
combination Of the golden number. with the iuli
moon and the Sunday letter fixed the date Of Easter
for March % and Ash Wednesday for February 4
II IN olden days mlady "swore her pretty oath by
yea and nay" the modern dame Of fashion, Win
the franknes5 of her world and period uses t"e
'big big d" quite openly. Smoking seems TO be an
accepted fact among the young married women be-
longing to the smartest set and swearing Is 'he
latest development 1t Is uncommon thlng or
late 10 hear pretty women use among ther mtl-
mates very strong language indeed. 'uIlouSS
enough however, and fortunately too. for the gem
eral good these little indulgences are confined 10
the vie intine OF inner circle. while to society
q, large the modern woman of the world Is a model
Of cold propriety There has grown up in London
and of course New-York has adopted ms latest
Innovations latitude of speech and action among
the truly initiated of certain set that Is SOME
what appalling those who hold the old-fashioned
standard Of what lady may and may not do.
7. seerns 10 be the mode nowadays for half-grown
girls 10 be especially doctored for some particular
complaint, and it very funny TO an outsider the
other day of the Sherry teas to near NAN d
dozen fashionable mothers discussing the various
fls with which their apparently blooming daughters
were afflicted Every girl. it seemed. had some de-
forrnity to subdue and conquer. one lady told or
her daughters crooked teeth. and what a time
she had had strengthening them out AZ the dentist s.
and the amount OF money she had spent upon
Them Another parent was struggling with par
OF curved shoulders and weak back. and had put
her daughter under the care of noted specialist
for the spine. A third had found that her child
was "knock-kneed Ga very common complaint by
the way, which they say accounts for many an
awkward gaiD, and had ncased her legs in irons
a fourth little maid under treatment for her
ewes: a fifth had undergone operation for some
catarrhal affection. In short, If they had been
really halt and MANNED and blind instead of ordi-
nariy healthy nice-looking children these poor lit
tie victims OF an utra-fashionable life could not
have been more tortured or tormented
81. Is really most incomprehensble" exclaimed
the harassed mistress of large establishment
"that notwithstanding the fact that the standard
OF good living in this country has been so greatly
improved of late years. and there should conse-
quently be much greater choice OF well-tralned
servants II is amos. impossible TO ma Duter
or footman who thoroughly understands his duties.
II must be that either those who are satisfactory
gave money and 20 out of the business. or, as 1t
happens unfortunately. in many Instances, they ac-
quire bad habits and drop out of sight Whatever
the reason change Of service means almost IN
variably several weeks OF absolute discomfort an"
no end of trouble, no matter how large are the
wages paid or how good recommendations gwen
II Is astonishing too to the absolute sOlecisms
that are committed by properly indorsed servants
and women who DO not wish 10 have the status
Of their establishments judged by these humbe
representatives should be careful how they give good
recommendations to their unsatisfactory Jeaihes
Yellowplushes. for It is only natural TO suppose
that servant does he has been taught, or at
least been allowed TO dc.
81 must confess" continued the fair critic, that
was not a little surprised by the obvious lack Of
knowledge the part OF English butler whom
I engaged solely because he had been in the en-
ploy OF Mrs. b.. whose establishment Is well known
for It's magnihcence. What l underwent with that
man during his week OF trial words tell he
passed the wrong wine with the courses at dinner.
he piled one plate another and behaved generally
Ike a 'garcon de cafe He really seemed TO be
ignorant OF the first principles Of service. and finally
capped the climax by leaving OF my most in
innate friends In the hall while he Numbered at
the door in his grandest manner VIII you receive
Mrs X? What a very curious menage must be
that Of Mrs. b. unavoidable comment"
Nothing delights at times" said an
elderly clubnan than to listen to the unsophsti-
Gated chatter Of very young people At Delmonico s
the other day | happened to sit next to lunch
party OF this .easOns dGbutantes and although
their conversation could not perhaps have been com
pared 10 either sauce piquante Attic salt It was