Arizona weekly journal-miner., 1894-04-04
Pointer. an Etiqustte


 pr. Green, the new president of Elmira College, has suggested rath- ar S novel feature in college hfe-a systematic study of manners. A Irepresentative committee of all the #,ollege classes has been formed, styled the Council of Etiquette. 3The aiA is by studying the best Authorities to become we'll versed on all disputed points. No provincial
 .ode of manners will do, but the Estsndard must be the customs of &rultured circles all over the world. I The following is a resume of the |essay on manners in public places, z presented through the council of Etiquette by one of its members, as 4noticed in a previous issue of The I World:
 In any public place there should . be a marked quietness of dress, speech and manner, with no loud i laughter or offensive behavior. . Whispering, staring or pointing t should be avoided, and personal @remarks should never be indulged . .in. Upon entering or leaving a car, a slight bow or low voiced Saluta- tiou is all that is necessary. Calling but a persons name on the street or On car is a very i'll bred habit, .although very common. Many peo- #ple who consider themselves anthor- . hty on such matters regard lounging
 ia the presence of others as a mark of ease, but the best standards do s not allow it, and in European coun tries it is rarely seen. Never put & &the elbows or hands on the table, and do not make yourself disagree able by drumming with your fingers. Never enter or leave a room without word or look of civility. Always 'apoIogize for any inconvenience given, however slight. One should always leave a room quietly, never taking the precedence either in leaving or entering
 College or Home.-Here manners should be as refined as in the pres ence of strangers, or on great occasions, so called. There is only one code of poiteness- lady should be as truly a lady at home, where the associations are necessarily inti- mate and constant, as in society. Traveling.-Unselfishness dignity and modesty distinguish the gen tlewoman in travelling, as we'll as everywhere else. Her dress should be plain and unostentatious, of some dark or neutral tint not easily soiled. A conspicuous gown is vul- gar, and jewelry is entirely cut of place. On sleeping car a lady's good breeding is tested as perhaps nowhere else. The conyeniences are limited, and the lack of considsra- ton on the part of one may disturb many. Plenty of time should be allowed, and the attentions of the porter should not be mOnopolized. Acauaintances formed on the train need not be recognized afterwards unless mutually agreeable, and re- member that dignity and courtesy will do more to rebuke rudeness than anything else.
 Hotels.-It is better for a young lady not to go to hotel alone unless it is unavoidable. Upno arriving, go at once to the ladies' parlor, and inquire for the clerk. arranging with him for rooms and a seat at the table. In order to avoid the embarrassment of waiting for a seat, if is a good plan to have a specified time for dining. Courte- ously greet ladies whom you may meet in the corridors, but you need not keep up the acquaintance after wards. For meals a walking or travelling suit is most suitable. Full dress is never proper when one is alone.
 On account of its publicity a woman's conduct is more apt to be criticised on the street than any where else. Although the passer-by may barely glance at her, every un- ladylike action will be noticed Her walking costume may be as rich:and well fitting as she chooses. but never conspicous. Beware of self-consciousness on the street. Nothing looks worse than to see one arranging her dress in public or putting on or taking of gloves. Take a few moments more to get ting ready, so as to be properly attiued before going out. Do not swing the arm or link them with another, and be careful about walk fng too fast or too slowly. There is nothing wrong in lady's being on the streets alone after dark; still it subjects her to criticism, and possibly. in large cities, to insult. In America and England it is a lady's duty to recognize a gentle man first, but in Germany the con trary rule is observed. Agentleman 4 never stops 8 lady or offers his hand-it is her privilege. She de- cides also when conversation shall end and by her manner indicates whether he may join her in her walk. While lowing to a lady a gentleman removes his cigar, and m \ walking or driving with her never
 smokes. it is not necessary to m troduce acquaintances on the street,
 and if one does so they need not ac-
 knowledge if afterwards.
 Driving.-A rather gray costume
 is appropriate for driving. The seat
 facing the horses is the seat oi
 honor in carriage and is assigned
 to the oldest lady or the first in
 rank. The hostess always occupies
 her own seat, and no guest should
 allow her to resign it. As in leav-
 ing a room 6 guest always precedes
 in entering a carriage.
 In general. selfshness is the root
 of all Ill breeding. 4 quiet, unPre,
 tentious appearance and digniheo
 demeanor, with kind consideration
 for others, will insure respect, though
 one journey from Maine to Sar
 Francisco.