The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-08-26
MARRIAGE NOWADAYS.
Is 1t True That the Women Make the
ProposalP
From the Ave Maria

From the Ave. Maria.
81 have been reading the Catholic pa
pers of late said the critic, land can
not make out what they mean by all
this talk about the eligible young girl and
the ineligible young man. Nobody pre-
tends that there are no Catholic young
men; but somebody is constantly jumping
up and declaring that somebody else says
that there are no Catholic young men
whom the girls can marry"
AN impression seems to be abroad that
the women do the proposing now" said
the lady of the house. AT least that is
the idea l get from some of these
articles
80 they do, " said the critic promptly.
''In nine cases out of ten the woman asks
the important question. Being bachelor,
of course do not pretend to speak from
eXperience-or to mention the number of
offers have been compelled to reject.
But | am sure that most men have had
the question popped by their wives"
"Why," asked the lady Of the house,
| tanning herself with some violence, lis
the man always represented in song and
story on his knees, in an appealing atti-
tudeN'
ION his knees ~ repeated the critic,
nabashed. 'Of course he is begging
to be let off, but the lady is always mex
| orable."
There was silence. The lady of the
house and the visitor looked coldly about
them, and nobody dared to smile.
~ am crushed" said the critic, "as
usual, like truth. Here are some of US
who ask why do Catholic girls of a GER
tain class say: we don't know any nice
Catholic young men, You don't hear the
men saying that of the girls they might
perhaps, but they are too gallant. At any
rate the critic continued, speaking
quickly, many of our Catholic girls
neither go into converts nor marry,
and at missions they are Away told to
do one or the other. / know charm
ing groups of Catholic gentlewomen all
over this country who ought to have mar
ried long ago, and made some men happy;
but evidently they didn't see any men
worth the asking. Do the girls expect
| too much2"
Evidently" said the conservative, ga
young woman of to-day will not marry on
the income which would have satisfied
her mother or her grandmother. She
wants TO begin where her father leaves
OF or if she earns money herself, and is
enabled to have certain misunderstanding
only one to look after-she does not want
to divide an income with man who earns
not much more than she is able TO earn.
The day when the daughter of a promi-
nent rich man would descend her fathers
steps, to begin life in a log cabin with the
man she loved, is gone out of fashion"
perhaps love has gone out Of fashion2"
said the Philistine.
Never explained the poet.
"Well-hardly-tha is" resumed the
Critic, Il fancy that the daughter of the
prominent man who followed the hus-
band she loved to begin life in log cal bin
| 81, oil 10 lob
and no samovar for Russian tea, had
learned not TO be afraid of work. Mar
tina Washington could have done it, and
half a dozen Pennsylvania and Kentucky
women did it, but they could spin and
brew and bake Browning clubs and
shopping were not necess ary to their ex-
| istence."
''Nor to that of the modern girl" said
the beautiful visitor decidedly. "If a
girl of to-day finds man worth sacrific-
ing much for, she will~not hesitate to
give up the luxurjes symbolized by the
Browning club and shopping. For my
part" she added, with a slight blush,
when / married would have"
$50 on" the Critic said. IF there is
anything / like IL is human documents.
But you, madam, proposed 10 a most ad-
mirable man; your good taste is gener-
ally acknowledged. So the man is not up
10 LQe SLduudEut dS Il TuiCs ludb > ~, 10 llt
| am sure that you are right, in spite Of
all that he may say. The reason our
Catholic girls complain that the young
men of their acquaintance are not up TO
the standard is that a woman requires
more in a man than she used TO. We
have improved on the last century. The
amiable young woman who was always
bathing dear Toms head after a drinking
bout, and who looked up to him as a noble
being because he did not beat her, is no
longer the vogue.
Educate the women" said the 'con-
servative, land you lead them to despise
the men"
Educate the men," said the visitor,
land they will appreciate the women.
You can't expect man INDUCED by his
mother from his infancy TO make sacri-
fees and marriage always means some
sacrifices both for the man aud the
woman"
Jones-Mr Cady. whore do you stand when
your friends get up tarin discuAsiOng