The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-02-04

are older men; youth and fancy going
hand-in-hand as against experience and
hesitation. On the one hand they fall Ia
love, as the old fashioned phrase goes,
and propose. On the other hand, they
rather drift from liking into affection, but
are not always ready TO propose until
some pressure is brought to bear from
without This is, perhaps, one of the
most delicate operations In social ana
tony. Sometimes the father operates
upon the heart and feelings of the laggard
in love. This is rather an awkward mo-
ment for both, but it generally results in
a satisfactory arrangement of the matter,
and the proposal is duly made. Many
men require this paternal touch before
taking the final leap. mothers inter
ference is rather resented than not, and
she seldom ventures upon such an extreme
course.
A warm-hearted mutual friend is, per-
baps, one Of the best auxiliaries girl can
have. She can say so much for her and
can say it so well, and she can hint at
preference, which is fiatteriug TO most
men, If not to all BY the same token
mutual friend can do untold mischief, and
convert a dawning admiration into
studied avoidance. In her eagerness to
throw couple together she rouses in one
OF them fear of being made ridiculous,
most antagonistic to a settlement akin to
Il pIOpbSdl IL Is uOO 100 UuCH 10 say tndb
otficlous kindness on the part OF tactless
woman mars many budding inclination,
which, but for her interference, might
have resulted altogether differently.
Men verging toward 40, or even a
little beyond it, often make premeditated
proposals, actuated by various reasons,
considering that IL they do not marry at
40, they arel not likely to marry at all.
They wish TO settle down and enjoy their
possessions. They are matrimonial
prizes, and much coveted by mothers for
their daughtnrs. Men who have arrived
at this age must have done one of two
things-either lived society life, and
numbered all the young beauties among
their acquaintance, or have come fresh
from exile on mine or ranch, ready to pro-
pose to the first pleasing girl they happen
TO come across. They fall in love at hrst
sight, and the proposal Is made within a
week or so.
Many proposals are the result Of cir
cumstances, and are surprising alike TO
both sides. They were not, nor are, each
others ideas, but they drifted together,
nevertheless: these proposals cannot be
called premeditated they come about
from the force Of events, which often
brings together the most unlikely people.
Older men, over 80, make distinctly pre-
meditated proposals TO women of a GER
tain age, in whom they hope to find con-
genial companionship and women with
money are often found willing TO exchange
spinsterhood for wifehood under such
conditions, viz. suitability of age and po-
sition.
As the matter stands, It seems pretty
evident that as many premeditated as
unprecedented proposals are made-only
that there are so few when all is told. Is
1t that the good fellowship that now ex-
lists between the sexes acts as barrier
to any tenderer sentiment, joined to the
extravaganza of the age and the self-in-
diligence which is so characteristics of
both men and girls} Or, is it that the
number of marrlageable girls offers such
a wide choice to men in general that an
impression is effaced almost as soon as IL
is NADER