The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1894-11-25

~ gororS play ,Hlis9, ="
habit of promise uouS,
careless letter wriuhS
Is the WutSs. lVI 30.
most cases the danger rs noI o cy,n have
the time and The WrlltI "''2 - .bc has
fnrrotteu hcr imprudcnce VII" 81 80
$50, So, .,t-+Uurnc,S TIE folhdI'.',
ihc gush the having hoHlllt &c, N.bicb
TO do me almost INSANE -, 10 expIoif
rnokes some yosug women lohs ~ " 49,
49, ov.n hearts. caused poor NaN,i'''.
Sntih 10 wl4,c those ioohsh .tI'to ~ q
man whose every Eood P"aIts ..~,,'-a5
a. Invent ana WhO Afterwards u. 1uI''
- am those yer, letters INTO Il crime,
which made her stand Tor mouths "l'nIh
,bo shadow of On, eailOWs. She ndu not
IN so8 fhro when ne dId come these
go letters stood between her and her
hrrrintss and her fair name
NE very instinct witch leads TO CON
s.int letter writing. goes with q COnSttu-
tional want OF caution, and therefore in
di,atcs a necessity for intelligent self
restraint n young wOmcL when writ
irc letters would only project themselves
igro the future and imagine a time when
thpv might be confronted with the lines
which they have just pcnned, many an
N-atVisai missiNc would go into the fire
inStcll OF into The mail Gag. Indeed, II
Letters NJ all doubtful in spirit or intent
vera laid aside until next morning
many "a wong would be left uudonc.
many "a friendship would be preserved
unbTOkcn and many an imgrudenCe be
postponed and so UucOmmitted. IL indeed
woman could say truthfully this letter
IS my leUer. and If mischief comes OF lt
l alone have the penalty 10 pay;' eA-
peHSlVe CORE spOudcnCe might be less
dangerous. Bus no one can thus limit
folly or sin. and its consequence may
even touch those, who were not cVca
aware of the writing Of the letter.
The abuse of letter writing S one OF
the greatest trials of the epoch. Dis
lance. which used TO be a protection, is
now done away with. Every one cries
out. and insists upon you listening. They
Wute events while they are only nap
UcnlnD People unknown intrudc upon
your time and take possession Of it.
Eumities and friendships thousands OF
miles away scold or caresS-One Is CE-
aciirg. another angry third lays upon
your conscience Obligations which ne mas
invented For a mere DothinS-a yes, or
IA ro--idle gushing people fire of conlln-
ual notes and Insist upon answers. Now
this KIND OF letter writing exists only
because postage Is cheap, II such cores
pOndcnis had 10 pay twenty-five cents
for giving their opinions. they would not
give them at all II IS an lmPortiucnce
also. for though We may Ike person
well enough 10 receive from them visit,
or even To return il, IL is very differ
ent thing TO be called upon to retire into
ourselves with pen and ink ana note pa
per. and give away time ana interest
which We are not inclined TO give.
Plenty Of girls write very clever letters
letters that are an echo of their own
circle. fun of sweet audaclty and an
innocent SWagEer OF knowledge of the
world and Of the human heart, that is
very engaging. And the temptation to
write such letters Is very great, especial
~ as both the writer and her friends are
ant 10 imagine them evidence of a large
amour; Of genius. Indeed some VINO
have a specially bright pen, or else
specially large circle Of admirers and Nat
terers arrive specially at the conviction
that they can lust as easily write a
book So without reason and without re-
sults they Get themselves haartburning
4. .NH lint ID fftr-
fhere ia absolutely no kindred whichever
tatyr.an This graceful piuuant elOuueuce
an billet and the fancy observation ana
cypcricnce necessary to successful novel
writing
II "a girl really has a vein Of true senu-
roeuf She ought not at this day TO give
II away i'm letter writing. There is a
safer and more profitable way TO use IL;
che can now take IL TO market and sell
~ for naddinr mo Magazines and Ladies'
Newspapers. Sentiment and fancy nave
Inc tbem np i'm a two cent envelope for an
acquaintance-wh is likely very unap-
ureciatfVc. and who perhaps losses them
into the fire with a Coutemptuous adicc-
tivc-she might send them to some long
suffering editor. These men know the
depths OF the Eirlish heart i'm this respect
md they have a patience iii searching
for tne gold among the dross that is NOT
generally believed in Therefore If a girl
must write let her send her emotions to
~. DaWspapers. an editor iS "A far more
prudout confident taan her very dearest.
friend
Really the daV for letter writing is
past As an art IL is dead. as convenience
10 remains; but II has lost all sentiment
Even Madame de SeVlgue could not be
charming ON q postal card. ana for genu-
inc information. the general idea is to
nut IL into twenty word. and send ii hv
tsIeeraDh So then il is a good thin
Tor Young women to get over as soon AS
uossIbIe the tendency Of their wears TO
sentimental letter writing They viii thus
cav. themselves many "A hpartarbe i'm
the present and many a fear for the
future For If they do not write letters
they cannot feel hurt because they are
not answered. They cauuO, worry, be
cause they have said something imuru-
dent They viii not make promises in
the eXaltation of composition. which they
Will either break. or hate TO kcro when
they are i'm their sober senses. They
Will also preserve their friendships. for
they will not deprive them altogether Of
that charm which leaves something TO
the imagination.
OF couI7e, there are vet such things
as absolutely necessary letters; and
these. ih lh'H way, otsht 10 De maze
fecuon IA THIS respect Is easily attain
able us e"seIitlaia h'IhS eNlieht 10 an
as soon as N'N are stated. flrst' d
letter WHlCH N'ihdhuS OF deserves ulc
attention OF 2l answer ought 10 nave
IL as promptly as II we were pay iH6
bllt' StN"""i W ,"uhHN 20 NI'it us
tlnctly, IoI pau Is''"WI luHS represents d
very doEttu' sen -d9Nei 1ue temper, enc
too, whlch 10 uitalI, po.@JSe u we put
forWdIu "ui l..la IL IL "i.,.'' u ''..9
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