The herald., 1894-01-15
MARRIAGE FROM BOTH SIDES,
Father Dye breaches on Matri-
m0Dy and It's Features.
There Can Be No Failure Under
Certain Conditions.
Marriages. for PASSIONS Sake and for
Money Always Are Falares-One
Bad Result Il No Cri-
terion.

Aue always pertinent question, le
Marriage Failure" ?" was taken by Rev.
Father Dye as the basis OF his discourse,
yesterday morning, at st. Vincent
church. and was treated by the reverend
gentleman from an eminently practical
and common sense standpoint, distinct-
ly encouraging by comparison to the
"Mona Baird" doctrines and other fin
de steele methods.
The preacher considered that mar
riage was certainly sure to be failure,
unless the contracting parties possess
the necessary qualifications. 1t is owing
to the fact that 80 many marriages are
made without the aforesaid qualifica-
tions, that they result disaetrouely; and
it is on account OF these failures that
number of unthinking illogical idiots
ask, and answer the question, SIS mar
riage failure? ?" in the affirmative.
" Passion is the cause OF number of
unhappy marriages." declared Father
Dye, ''animal passion; and there's q
great deal of it in US. A man falls in
love-with what?-a pretty face; it is
love at first sight; she is pretty, he,
carried away by her beauty, marries
her but that's all she has, she will fly
into a passion upon the least provoca-
ton; she is stupid and hasn't an idea in
her head; she's lazy, and her
only idea is to look nice for
her callers; and he takes this woman
'for better or worse, in sickness and in
health" Suppose she lose her beauty,
what then? Suppose the scars of dis
ease destroy her prettg face-beauty is
only skin deep-whst has that man got
left7 Simply the opportunity to law
fully CRAFTY hls brute passions.
Now, that man will, OF course, tell
you that marriage ia failure.
Take another instance. A woman
thinks man is rich; she needs posi-
ton, pleasures and gaiety; she is tired
of her humdrum existence, and marries
him. She doesn't stop to think that
his money is all he has, and be has
nothing else. He is unre6ned, coarse,
animal, mean-in fact be is no man at
all Suppose he loses his money, what
has she got? OF course they find mat
rimony is failure, distinct mistake.
But, ior all that, marrisge is only fatal
in some cases. In others it is success.
Marriage il itself is all right; it is nat
ural, it is divine; established by God,
who married our 6rst parents. With
out it, where would you and | be today
How would the human race maintain
itselfP l tell you it is good and holy, in
accordance with the highest and best
principles OF nature; so you must not
Judge from individual cases.
Because one or two people you heard
OF didn't have these necessary oualifca-
tions, don't say the whole hing is
failure; tnat would be illogical. II you
ask thief what he thinks OF everyone
else, he will tell you they are all
thieves: a liar will tell you all men are
liars. They judge others by themselves.
And in the same way those who have
not succeeded in their married lives tell
you it is all failure-but they are
wrong A man tellU you there is no
money in a certain business in which
he failed; he only tells you that be-
cause there was no money in it for him
there may be for you.
Another example: Because one
married woman forgot her VOWS, would
you say ali are the same? Would you
say that OF your mother? And If you
cay that all are the same, you must
necessarily include her as well. Take
preacher: They forget themselves Just
ho uuSh an you huu L., uOu bu6y l.
guess SO. Well, he admires another
mans wife; and he tells her go. and
they go off. Would you say because of
this tnat every preacher is looking for a
chance to run off with someone else's
wife?
Suppose priest forgets himself, and
they often do, for the fact of be ne a
priest dees'nt destroy mans passions;
suppose he disgrsces himself and the
church, does it follow that all priests
must be the same? Now be honest
does it? Be careful, for how would you
like it to come back like boomerang?
Suppose ask you whether you are a
merchant, and you say yes" and tell
you that because l found one merchant
q scoundrel all are alike, and you with
the rest? Now do you see TIE point,
how illogical it is to judge by one in
stance?
Marriage must be entered upon as
business, as most serious business;
if you rvsh in like fools where angels
fear to tread. then will yours pe a fail
ure, but marriage itself is good, holy ;it
ie divine, bringing out the beat in man