The Hawaiian star. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu]) 1893-1912, 1894-08-10
TALK OF TWO WOMEN.
Men WIN Read 1t with Interest and PROFIT
and the Fair Sex with Pleasure.


NEW YORK, July l6-They were metre
politan society women, both married, and
they werc sitting around o'clock tea
table exchanging their views on life, but .
on men in particular. Now, be 1t known .
that I'm summer the 'swaggcr' woman .
never takes tea. She has u crystal glass .
packed to the brim with crushed ice and .
Favored with diluted creme dc mcnthe
1t struck me as listened to their chat /
ter that it would be good thing II mon
might know just what women say OF
them in the sanctity of q boudoir, and
determined to bctray confidence. BE as
surCd that when "a woman has her hair
down and Is lolling with a cooling drink
in the shaded silence of her own little
sanctum she is apt to speak the truth.
Il think, " said No. /, that men don't
give sufficient attention to trillcs. If there
is ono thing in the world man should he
particular about, it is his clothes. But
the American man does not dress well.
Outside of New York and IA few other big
| towns he doesn't even approach the correct
| standard. -
''You are not exploiting the dude, are
| you'' asked No 2, lifting her eyebrows.
| g. Not % bit Of 1t. l think all sensible
/ women detcst the dude
] - NO 1. ~ lbT, lllNll' NliNN otAN'
with you"
Il mean the carclcssly dressed man,
when by a little interest and attention he
could be most pleasing sight l mean
the man who gets one suit of clothes at a
time and wears ;hat with dust and crcaScs
day in and day out, to business. When
1t is worn out, he gets another, and so on
Men should do as we women do even
] when our means are very small They
should have two business suits going at a
timc-two at lcast-morc II they can af-
ford It, 1t wouldn't cost n bit more in
the end. After wearing one few days it
should be left ut home or at tailor's for
busting and pressing. He should be par
ticular about his linen, and it pays to
wear the very best. He should strive to
pay certain homage to fashion, for moth
ing becomes absolutely popular thing
unless there Is a good reason for it"
Exactly" said No. ?. Il remember
once that l could have fallen deeply in
love with man but for the aboninable
ties and scarfs he insisted on wearing
They were ccru and scarlet or snuff color
and pink-and his scarfpinsl When he
didn't have a golden calf stuck in his hid.
eOus neck decoration, he had silver elc-
plant. l remember l summoned courage
to speak Of the matter, and he was enrag
ed. He stood up for that silver elephant
in a way to turn your blood cold.
Il can understand how that would af.
feet you. Men don't realize how well
women reason from small things. If he
was rooted in bad taste and you married
him, fancy the strain upon your brain and
health If he insisted on filling the house
with bric.a brac that was horrid and plush
furniture of vile colors that would set your
ODD 1p rttla mil i9f
more diffusely. Now, there's another Gu
rious thing want to tell you. Men have
really better skins than women when they
take care of them. The man who is de-
voted To a daily bath morning or night,
If it's only a sponge bath, has always, un.
less there is something consttutionally
wrong, a good, wholesome, cool looking
skin. 1t takes a lot of little triiles to make
a woman look her best Her abundant
hair must have n curl in it; she must
have a pretty throat, pink and white
skin, red, fresh lips, beauty of eye. Be
coming colors are "A great advantage Il
her. So is wcblike veil, which hides al
occasional frecllle and gives completeness
to her costume. But men need only to b(
well groomed and tidily dressed in quie
colors to be perfectly acceptable. A mar
may be redhaired, cross eyed and have al
!
pressed by his absolute, flawless clcanli
ness he will be interesting"
What about hats?"
well, "a man should, of course, ge
what is most becoming, but not If it is st
unconventional that he is labeled queer.
This is not the latitude for the sombrero
and yachting caps are ridiculous save on
or near the water. A high hat should al
ways be reserved as a dress affair, just as
a womans gauze bonnet is. Derbics
like, and whatever style is en- regle usu-
ally looks the best Those straw hats witt
round, wabbly crowns and rolled up brims
which make every man look like n slice
of meat joints or mixer of drinks
should be avoided like the plague by al
sensible men,"
Il think jewelry is horrid on a man
don't your"
"Of course. 1 don't mind ring and
good, plain watch, but no more. "
Now, what traits do you think womel
hate most in menu
The cowardly man is a horror to al
women. The etfeminate man is equal
bad By that l don't mean the man q
slight physique and delicate features, bu
he who goes nosing into the smallest al
fairs of his sisters and wife, who likes
go shopping, who gossips, who nags, VIII
keeps an account of the smallest house
hold expenditurcs-in fact, who usurps tn
woman's place, as well as her wors
faults"
There is one still worse, " said No. :
There is the man who is close. " An
she wagged her head.
"Oh, he! Count him out of everything
If man is poor / don't think there is
refined woman living who thinks less G
him, as man. for that. Indeed, instinC
lively and delicately she tries to be of IL
expense to him But the man who trc
to sneak ont of paying your fare by maxi
ing you walk, who carefully, deliberatel
adds up "a bill in a restaurant and queS
tons everything, who seems to have u
idea that the world is levied to cheat hiI
he is detestable!'
There is habit some men, even mic
men, have which has hurt them more /
the estimation of women than anythin
else, - said No. Q. II refer to the habit {
carrying purse for change"
Il could forgive man anything bu
that cried No. excitedly "Oh, If me
only knew how each new woman acluaint
ance they make watches to see If the
will be guilty Of this, I'm sure a wholesal
reformation would set in. The habi
makes a man seem mean and cruel
painfully tidy. Nothing excuses it-noth
ing! The man who goes down deep I'M
his pocket and without any display {
lavishness brings up fstful of SINAI
change takes the first right step in Il won
ans estimation. That action seems
9 stamp him ms "a man"
Take It all in all, then, man thor
oughly clean, particularly as TO teeth am
nails, dressed in well brushed clothes O
quiet color, who doesn't plaster his hair il
any Outlandish way, who doesn't wear
freak hat and who doesn't carry purs
is about right"
You've hit him off finely" said No. l
with a pleased air, and isn't my Georg
all of thatH KATE JORDAN.
With IA prOyiso.