New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1894-10-21
HOME AND SOCIETY.
MODERN HOSTESS AND HER GUESTS.

,,,.,xr M,-Mrs-THE GRANDMOTHER AND THE
y,cycLE-HoME-MADE OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES
n,uxc ABOUT THE TAsHIoNs-NoTEs
on ANTIQUE Fl RNITURE
,.,o relations Of the modern guest ana MS Iash-
,hIe hostess are entirely I'M ou siecie i"e'
'o,, have greatly shocked the hospi'apie iauy
W.. olden school, who entertained her Visitor
OF ''o n,,ost sense of the word. and arranged his
i" items as agreeably as possible, expecting on
o., complete surrender of his time and en-
h'S p allowing her the entire control or both
gase, .i,re being The come-when- you-like and
'o ,,or.nease style of the male visitor or the
so dav would have horrihed her sense OF pro-
p'e hiIe the careless indifference of smart
pre-, in regard TO her guests whereabouts and
hoses s,or,s'' would have seemed to her equally
reprehensible. .,,,, aouo,.er-
~. ,o,el" said a caustic old lady to young
INA" NJ. hod inst returned from Newport
man nardon." answered the youth, rather be-
wldered. rr,,.oto borse"
.ob do not consider 1T as private hous'
- Nine Mere. where the guests make 'heir
w" o,sacements pay their own carriage pii'S anu
own or,n,ions and come and go without consulting
horr consulted by their hostess
VI an, 70 get up dinner party Tor next sat
~" embarked the chatelaine Of paiatal cot
wu"', ,no sea to a lot OF young men who were
tase ~, NTH her II hope some of you are dining
spr,eo, And with one accord they all began 10
~ ,,,ses All were engaged at various houses
except one eo,u madame 70 q man
. ,rov ~ am so pleased to eaten glimpse VI
,ou. have not seen you for an age Nne'e "'e
,ou stopping? Won't you ooi"e anu
,,, before YOU leave?"
CO., stopped with you last week. laughed
bsr nuondam guest , g,
ooh so you did" she answered unaoasheu'
mite forgotten. Well come again then
, have long ceased to be surprised al any
.oru., DEVELOPMENT Of the sleeve, which seems
i-oosa in size every season. but it is interest
10 ,,,s, now to note how fashion has also attacked
~ rsck-which is being muffled up with oandases'
,..,,, called stocks" and then ornamented with
I'm rose,tes large bows punches OF material etc.
,ch 10 the uninitiated suggest very oao 'h'o"'
-, s,roa kind An old auntie from the country was
.sar, at q fashionable luncheon party given by hel
r,scs She was a humorous old SOUL ana was See"
- n,ckle silently as she took in the assemoiage'
au,hn. ,s I, Aunt Martha" asked one of the
I'll, DESTROYS of drawing her out. Land sakes'
,,.' ,loar, she exclaimed. Il had heard OF the
sleeves and expected to see them queer. but what
AZ Won 'spose is the reason that all OF your eii
friends have got the mumps!
A luncheon at Delmonicos or AT inc "aiuoi' a. '''
1850, ~ tho wear is very interesting TO those who
desire 10 note the latest evolution OF 1ashioh as inc
,,anse migratory class of rich people from every
g.. :, tho Union generally make New-Iork their
,..aorarters for a week or before going nome
far the wEter; and those who spend their money 81
the milliners' and dressmakers most la'ishy are
very ant TO regae the inner man with the oes'
French cooking between and O'Clock al the ABOVE
named places. The new plays, TOO geheraAy lore-
shadow the coming fashions, and the gowns us
nlaved on the stage may with modification be taken
as an index OF the newest styles and latest novel,
ties.
The grandmother who sits in the chimney-corner
kni,ng stockings is thing Of the pas; in these up
to-date days. Now she dons short skirt win leg
gngs and goes out shooting. In scarlet coat ana
abbreviated pettcoats she plays golf with enthusi-
asm Clad in a correct bicycle costume. she Is
mistress of the wheel and mounted on hunter
she follows the anise scent bravey. 1t is most In
teresting TO note what wave OF athletic ardor
has seized the older women. who literally vie with
their grandchildren In making record IN the
various fashionable sports Of the day
You will be taking up the bicycle next, grand
mamma" said modern young woman to sweet
faced. gentle old lady. the very personiication OF
old-fashioned primness.
my dear" she confessed, blushng like a girl. II
am trying a little-on moonlight nights-back OF the
Why Is II -nat even with the nearest and dearest
praise is so begrudged. while blame Is always 50
freely bestowed? In nine cases out OF ten the former
does infinitely more good and incites 10 Tar greater
exertion than the latter. Nevertheless, as RUE
the fondest parent the kndest teacher, the most
faithful friend often hesitates to praise while sell
dom falling 10 censure when the occasion calls ior
II, There is ever the feeling latent that the re-
cipent will be unduly elated by any appreciation
bestowed: and parents and teachers sometimes heS-
tate on that account TO express unstinted COM
mendation. while brothers and sisters. ana even
friends often at neart really begrudge the salts
faction and perhaps self-complacency they might
evoke by giving expression to the admiration they
may honestly feel While 1attery Is ever profust
and easy to obtain. honest praise is rare com
modify seldom given even when most deserved and
grudglngiy withheld when most needed HOW often
a child feels there Is no use trying simply because
his feeble efforts for the right obtain no recogh
ton. while his faults constantly recapituiaten
How often the weak endeavors OF a seIfsh nature
10 give up pass unnoticed while the original sir
Is constantly commented upon. Many puny PAM
has died for the want OF kindly nourshment ina
might have grown strong and vigorous under IA
vorable conditions. and II is sad to think that III
many a careful household. where children are ap
parently brought up under the best auspices. thf
germs OF better things constantly wther away foi
the lack OF the sunshine or loving praise ana coH
mendaton
There are homemade decorations which are 81
cheap and nasty" that clean bare walls anc
empty rooms are preferable; and II should ne re
membered that such domestic manufactures shouio
not be ventured upon by those who are "ithou
an Unborn artistic faculty Those who are so happy
as TO possess this may do good deal. even win I'M
ordinary homely woodenware Of the country store
The clotheshorse is TO novelty but ther'
may be novel ways OF treating IT, For library
one might be ebonzed. and small gilt rail- added a
the top. Panels might be OF "Lincrusta In tone u
match the room, with portfolios for engravings at
tached TO one or two OF them. The latter should
be Of the "Lincrusta." brass bound, or OF heavS
cardboard. covered with silk In some harmonious
cooring The portfolios should be securely fastened
by the back the lower part OF the panels, the IRON
being fastened by elastic straps or ribbons "heT
not in use A low bench. also ebonized with sea
10 tba MIA within the screen FOL