Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1894-11-01
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neutrality-suspicious. Of Gazette and Journal
New York, Oct. 26.--She never
thought that the work had to be done
whether she felt happy or glad, whether
there was lump in her throat that
limited of tears or a smile on her lips that
told of happiness. When she has asked |
me / advised her not to come to New
York. She wrote me pleasant little |
letter and enclosed some samples of her |
woodwork that was redolent with the |
air of pine woods, but not exactly the |
kind that an editor wants. She was hon
est in saying that nobody had ever paid |
for it, but she thought if she had a |
chance, she might succeed. | told her
how crowded this busy city was. |
asked her to be content with the bread
and butter and jam and quietness at
home, and cited few of the failures,
but evidently my letter had no effect
She came. The day / saw her she
looked like blossom; her eyes were
bright and blue, she had a lovely color,
and she talked as hopefully as most of
us do when we are young and believe in
humanity. Now, that she was here
did not dare say to her what l thought.
She told me the various editors she in
tended going to, of the subjects she was
going to write about, and when limited
that instead Of taking up the tiresome,
worn topics of the time, that she would
be more successful if she did picture
of her own village life, she laughed
merrily and said that there was nothing
in that.
ENTERING THE WORKING WORLD.
Her goodbye was an expression of
hope. The days and the months went
by. Every now and then | saw her,
and it seemed to me that she looked a
little tired; but she never confessed to
non-success and she never once limited
that the Bohemia she had dreamed
about and the working world that she
had longed for were not all she ex-
pected. One day she lunched with me,
and then she did say, in pitiful way,
that it seemed as if there were great
many women. And hadn't the heart
to remind her of what had written to
her.
And now, she is asleep. And some
body says it was caused by starvation.
Think of that in this great city And
somebody says it was caused by disap-
pointment. And as look at her | think
she was only one more innocent, gone to
feed the Moloch Of ambition; and
wonder how long it is going to last.
Every day, certainly every week, the
letters come to some of us asking advice
about leaving the small town, telling Of
the great and overwhelming ambition,
and always, although advice is asked,
the writer has concluded just what she
will do. Do none succeed Very few.
] tell you it isn't easy to learn to keep
down every feminine feeling and do
your work. 1t isn't easy to control the
tear that you would like to she'd, be-
cause there is something that must be
done. 1t isn't easy to get to be a
machine and to work, work, work just
as long as it is wanted, and just
how it is wanted; and yet, that is
the apprenticeship. How we wish that
those girls would stay at home. Stay
at home and have the right to be them
selves; to live out their own young lives
in simple, womanly ways,and then ethel
to marry and make home for some man
or to stay at home and he the loving
care-tender of those to whom age il
coming.
The world has improved in one
4 respect. There was time when the
woman who did not marry was sup.
posed to be subject for jest; when il
was concluded that she remained unweC
- because she could not do anything else
p Nowadays it is all changed, and
THE WOMAN WHO DOES NOT MARRY
has a recognized position socially ant
we have all grown wise enough to know
that any woman who wishes can marry
1t is true she may not marry the mar
she most admires, but always she car
marry some man; so that if she stay
out her life alone it is by her owl
choice. Then, too, the beautiful friend
ships that may exist between women
are recognized, and the possibility of
home being made without man in il i
d certainty. In flats, in dainty littl
houses, two or more bachelor womel
they don't call themselves girls, who's
lives are so arranged that one can be til
homekeeper while the other is out il
the world, are happy and comfortabl
from day to day. And better still, the
are not only happy themselves, but the
make less fortunate women glad b
bringing them in to share some OF thel
pleasures. They give agreeable littl
dinner parties, they entertain in auie
ways and always these arc the wome
whose names are not heard in conneC
ton with votes, nor whose pictures ar
seen in the papers as among those VIII
intend to remodel the city government
The editor of a well-known literar
paper 10 Ulb Ol lueSe women, ana 81
makes for all nephews and neiCes
lovely resting place, managing to Civ
it all the attention required in fe
hours before and after business. Al
other, a very abode of beauty, is lii
home of two women friends, one wei
known actress, the other the onl
woman dealer in plays in this countr
And there are innumerable little homt
where women are bound by ties
blood.
WOMEN AS HONE CREATORS.
For my own part, am glad to Sc
women take this step, which is one
the right direction. Anything TIL
means the making Of homes, is 50 fl
superior to the thinking about votes til
it ought to be encouraged in every wa
Pray understand that in urging til
making of feminine homes | am n
undertaking the beauty Of marriage, f
~ think that the natural right Of even
s., woman. Yet, we cannot all live natUr
~ lives, and when this is SO surely the be
-HN must be made of that which comes to i
~ The bachelor woman may have in h
heart an ideal man, who has never ask,
her to be mis- wife, and She may be Il
willing to sacrifice this ideal by accet
ing the man who has proposed to Ii
and who is far below it, Why WON,
don't marry is oftentimes very mu,
more interesting subject than why tn,
do; and one reason certainly can
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