Fort Worth gazette. [volume] (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-1898, 1894-07-22

M .: :: !: !. !; !; !; !:
is to be said
about first cailg on arrival. should
calls be made at once on friends and
acquaintance, or should they take the In
latiye and be the FIRST to CALI This CUES
ton. 50 often put. has but one answer. not
only on the ground OF etiquette. but also
from common sense point OF view. The
arrival should be the first TO call. and, by
SO doing. intimate the fact Of being in town,
and, consequently. having town address,
otherwiseweeks may olapse before acquaint-
ances become aware OF the exact where
abouts Of Il Csc who have arrived; and when
the stay ia to be short one. limited to
weeks, the loss Of time is to be regretted.
This rule holds equally good in country
calling between aequaintanoos, although IN
innate friendship occasion It 70 be reversed
In many instances, and IL is thon considered
kind, friendly and polite to call Immediately
1t is known that a popular neighbor has re-
turned, and not TO wait to be taken In turn
WIN the more ceremonlous calls.
How soon should call be returned II the
caller Is a new arrival in town. Within
the week, engagements permitting. and.
better still. within three or four days. II
is idle to expect to hnd any one at home
during the calling hours, but calls are
made nevertheless and cards left. 1t may
be asked. what is the use OF calling when
/ there is a certainty that the answer mot
At home" will be received? It has dis
| unct use. A call is a roliteness shown to
| the person called upon. and. moreover. 1t
! forms basis for invitations. Without In
| vitations society would be ut deadlock
! and without calling invitations would not
| be forthcoming ON the ground that those
| who are in town and well enough to call
naturally do so. Illness or absence could
alone prevent this from being done-two
! formidable bars 10 the acceptance Of Invita-
tons.
After the first Interchange OF calls what
length of time should follow before a sGc-
| ond call? This 10 a point where a little
| hesitation steps In. Say new arrival has
called and been called upon within the
week. when should the call be repeated?
Most probably some kind OF an invitation
| will reach her. II an evening entartaii-
| ment, she Will have the opportunity of leay.
| ing cards afterward, or calling II II is a
dinner Invitation. Failing invitations. with.
| In three weeks would be reasonable time
| wherein to call by an acquaintance only
making brief stay In town. otherwise six
weeks or two months might be allowed 10
expire before again calling Not infre-
| quenuy new arrival sends out invitations
| as soon as calls have been returned. This
! gives an opening for further calling on the
| now arrival II invitations are OF the nature
as before stated, otherwise tho acceptance
OF an Invitation to luncheon or afternoon
tea is equivalent to a call and does not
necessitate subsequent one. providing
people are Intimate with each other, other
wise after an invitation to luncheon a call
usually follows within a fortnight.
A question that occurs 10 many is
whether II Is more correct TO return a first
| call on an at homo day or on any other
day OF the week. To return a call on AN
"at home day would be the correct thing
| to do for various reasons. The mistress
| OF the house would be sure to be at bone
and. being at home. she would probably
| prefer to receive calls on that day. but
it almost amounts TO matter OF conyen-
fence on the part Of the caller as to whether
! engagements permit Is II etiquette to call
a second time before a call has been ro-
| turned? The answer is no." not as ro-
| CARDS mere acquaintance; even II the call
is delayed, It must still be waited for, but
| 1t In no wise interferes with Invitations
being given and accepted. and call over.
due is beside tho question. Between friends
this etiquette is not in force. and friend
might call once or twice on another with
out hesitation, however long a call was
overdue.
II call is returned by card, what is
Intended thereby As a general rule, II
is meant to restrict the acquaintance to
card leaving one. This conclusion should
not be arrived at, however, without posi-
tive proof that such Is the case A second
occurrence for instance, would be a de-
cided proof. On the other hand IL is
sometimes done inadvertently, and fire.
quently through press Of engagements and
want OF leisure; II Is. therefore, all Import
ant to give aoquantances the benefit OF the
doubt In the first instance. When the con-
cluslon, however, amounts to an established
fact. the calls should be returned by cards
only after considerable interval Of time
II call has not been returned. say for
six mouths. nlno months or even twelve
months, has too long period OF time been
allowed TO elapse TO admit OF It's being pald1
MOI providing thore is the smallest excuse
or justification for Its having been so long
delayed. Say, living far apart IN town. of
In the country at a considerable distance,
absence from homo or occupation or Illness
being paramount excuses TO urge. but n
indifference or caprice are the only reasons,
and neither Uf the foregoing excuses ex-
list, so tardy call would harry be accept
able and more auspicious occasion should
be sought for renewing the acquaintance.
Another point on this head affects country
resdeuts. For Instance. resident has
failed to call upon new conner on first
arrival, yet. after perhaps year or
eighteen months, circumstances induce the
wish to call Perhaps the new conner has
become popular IN the nelghborhood, or has
proved 10 be smarter than was at nrst sup
posed or prejudlces have worn on and the |
seouainlance is considered desirable. I'm. |
dar such conditions can call be made |
Yes; II can be and is made. but the meek.
est spirited woman feels a trine hurt at |
This postponed recognition and return II |
rather against the grain. but the force Of |
circumstances almost compeis the accept |
ance Of the profered civility 30 late in |
coming.
widows and single women are often In |
doubt a. 10 how bachelors calls can be /
acknowledged, especially calls from un-
married clergymen. As matter Of course
cards cannot be left by ladies' 50 situated.
An Invitation 70 luncheon, tea or dinrer
Il The received way Of acknowledging these
calls. save in the case OF parochial calls.
which have no society Specification; but |
whea a ION is living with bis mother or a
hrotnar with a sister these gentlemen
should return the bachelors calls. occupa-
ton permitting.
ry~... rr..rr. ky......,