Iowa state bystander. [volume] (Des Moines, Iowa) 1894-1916, 1894-10-05
MATRONS AND II AIDS.
A FEW HINTS TO THE GIRL
WHO IS ENGAGED.
who Follows This Advice WIN BE he
loved by All Who Know Hcr--Uow to
Sweep IA Room She Must 80 : Home
maker StiIi--yurious Recipes.
III You Are Engaged.

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This thoughtful paper is INTENDED
not for the young person who has
many scalps dangling from her belt
and many ''engagement' rings CLEAN
ing on her hand. 1t is exclusively for
the young woman who has but one
| fiance on her hands, and that one Il
serious one.
| 1t is probable such is the unkind-
ness OF fate, that She is separa ted
from the young man whose ring she
wears She will do we'll, says the
New York Herald, not to make her
self obnoxious to her family by in
dulging in long reveries and fits Of
absent mindedncss. She will cndear
herself more to the members of the
household If she doesn't sull, every
time she happens TO fail to receive q
letter from "him." Her family is not
to blame either for the yonng mans
derclictions or the delay of the mail
trains 1t is scarcely fair TO her
mother that she should be so alb
sorbed in thoughts of him" that She
should absent-mindedly place the cut
glass Edish'in empty air or carefully
secrete the busters in the china
closet Her father will also appreci-
ate it If she does not cut hole in the
middle of the newspaper tariff article
in order to get the sentimental poem
from the back of the sheet She NAV
endear herself to her brothers and
sisters by not becoming enraged
whenever their fraternal feeling
leads them to tease her
If the young man is on the scene of
action there are many rules to be OBJ
served. She should not relate to Kim
all the family quarrels, drag the fam
lily skeleton out of its closet, and still
expect him to have the high regard
for her kindred which he displayed
before. She should not, on the other
hand, feel aggrieved because her
mother says that ''it's pity Charley
is so thin" or her sister observes that
she had never noticed Charley's
freckles until such and such a time.
The family is not wearing rose-col-
ored glasses Just because She happens
to be.
1t is not wise to see him too
often. In the first place it will grow
tiresome for the family. And in the |
second place twill grow tiresome to |
him and her. 1t will do that eventu- |
ally anyway; but it is wise to delay
the evil time as long as possible. She.
will enjoy his society and he hers for
much longer period if they do not
begin by seeing too much of each
'ther. Safety and boredom go hand
IN hand.
Reconciliations are delightful cpl
'odes IN engagements, but the wise
7oung woman knows that anything
which is too common loses its SAVIOR
ind charm. Therefore she avoids too
requent reconciliations by avoiding
90 frequent quarrels.
She does not Danish all her old
friends, men and women, in order to
levotc all her time to s'him.'' Friends
Who are dropped during engagements
lave an unpleasant habit of refusing
o be picked up again when the lovers
'egin to weary of their solitude a
eux. 1t is therefore well never to
rop them.
On the other hand, she will be wise
ot to ignore "him'' for other people.
le may resent it. If he ignores her
here is no question about the resent
lent- 1t is sure, swift, and terrible. :
There is one thing which the en-
aged girl must realize that no mat
err what sentlmentalists may write OF :,
ne beauty and ioyof the period be- !
veen the proposal and the marriage
is nothing less
more worrying to both
ersons, more productive of boredom
nd establishment than long en-
agements. The constant lover is f
orn about once in "a century and gem c
ally dies before attaining The age O
reason. Therefore it is wise for y
sr not to put her own consistency or a
his' to too great test. 4