The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1894-12-02
CONCERNING pEnurANTEs.
Advice to Mothers Who Are Intro
ducing Young Daughters Into So
ciety,

At this season all the peach-cheeked,
curly-headed girls who have, by some
mysterious process during the summer,
ceased to be children and become all
at once young women, are making
their bow to the social world. They
are announcing, not in SO many words.
but by the most bewitchirg smiles,
that they are now old enough to ship
for the voyage Of life if a good mate
is to be had to accompany them.
It's a matter Of great excitement and
intense interest to the girls themselves,
it's a matter of even more serious mo
ment to their mothers, for the way in
which a girl gets started in life is
likely to influence all her future. OF
course, Miss Frisky Featherhead is
infinitely more taken up with the fit
of her gown, and the number of her
bouquets, than with any serious views
about the future, which is natural and
proper enough at her age. but sem
sible, thoughtful mama has, FORUM
ately for Miss Featherhead, some
what older and discreeter head on her
shoulders and means that her dimpled
baby, suddenly shot up into a stately
young lady, shall profit by her mothers
wisdom and experience.
COMING OUT TEAS.
To begin with, if it is in any way
possible she viii give Dimples a, COM
ing out tea. There are lots of in
dolent mothers who think it less
trouble for the daughter to make her
first formal appearance in the social
world at some one else's party, or at
some opening ball of the season, but
that arises generally from a selfish
reluctance to take trouble, turn the
house upside down, and have Iunc-
ton" Nothing can be more unWise.
A coming out tea is, after all, no
such great matter he furniture push
ed out of the way some flowers here
and there, cards to all ones old
friends, tea chocolate, bouillon, sand
wiches, cakes ices and bon bons IN the
dining room, half dozen OF her girl
friends in smart frockS to help receive
Ghey MAY be called upon to be brides
maids Iater) and little blushing smil-
ing Frisky at the door beside mama,
with a bouquet as big as herself in
one hand and half a dozen more piled
on the table behind her. 1t gives her
dignity and Importance at once in the
eyes of all the other girls; mamas who
are entertaining for their own
daughters can not ignore her existence
when there is a formal presentation
like this, as they may very possibly
do when a girl slips into society I'M
announced and unheralded Old friends
/ who are not in the way OF going to
Young folks balls are pleased and fiat
tered to have the young maid pre-
sented to them in due form in her own
house. and are thereby inclined to
regard her amiably, to be ito her
fault a little blind, to be to her charms
I exceeding kind Thus she starts fair
with a clientele of friends and ac-
ouaintances. instead of having the
whole lonely road to travel uphill.
CHOOSING A SET.
Once Debutante is nicely launched ii
still remains in mama's hands TO see
that the voyage is made easy. Wise
mama. doesn't scold Frisky for rushing
into undesirable intimacies, she takes
1.-THE more sensible course of inviting Gle,
sirable intimateS to her house so Otter
that friendships arise from mere pro.
pinouity. All the nice girls grow t
know in time that Frisky's mother
has a warm welcome for them, is in,
terested in all their fun, and theil
plans. and will take the trouble t
help in both. So that before the
thoughtless young daughter realizes it
She has formed her friendships and as
| eociates. in safe quarters. Moreover
q debptante with such q wise mother
Ia learning all this while the art o.
heinr q hostess. with al the graces
and sweetness of character and Q,
manner which being charming hos
tess insures. For even if the home is
little narrow and money not very
abundant yet the hospitality is no
labated. Instead of merely ordering il
delicacies with no regard for the sub
seouent. bills, mama shows Debutants