The progressive farmer. [volume] (Winston, N.C.) 1886-1904, 1894-10-16

trunkful Of linen for my own wear, and
I will have to make it. Should I make
it with own maiden name or the sur
name of my intended9
81 ask this because 1 was engaged
four years ago to a young man who
took advantage of the low rates and
excellent travelling facilities over the
Big Four and Santa Fe routes to strike
out for California on the day set for
our marriage. Since then I've been
almost ashamed to send my clothes to
the wash with his name marked on
them. l have barely worn out those
garments, and they have been a per
petual reproach to me. Now 1 am
again engaged to a gentleman friend.
What should I dos"
I need hardly write you, "Timid
One," that you have no claim on the
name of your intended at the present
time. You did very wrong before in
utilizing the name of your betrothed,
and possibly he heard of it in some way,
fleeing like a bird to the mountains
when he got the information. Possibly
he feared that you might be running
up little accounts at the stores in his
name also.
You should remember that a good
name is rather to be chosen than great
riches, but you must not help J { urself
to it until the parson has given you
permission.
'Timid One" also asks in a postscript
whether it is proper or not for her to
ask her intended to break off some bad
habit before they are married. Ger
tainly you might try it, but you will
have the judge of how much influence
you have at this stage of the game. It
might be well to ask him to break off
stealing horses or any other noticeably
bad habit, of course, now while you
are both in the heyday Of bloom and
fluff of life's young morn, but you
always run the chance of arousing his
i'll temper and prejudice, You must
be yourself the judge of this. Some
young girls under such circumstances
also pave the way for criticism and are
a little nonplused to be asked if they
will not break off a bad habit, such as
gaucing their mothers or allowing their
fathers to go looking sad and seedy in
order that the daughter may wear
"wash goods in warm weather and
run up a tall laundry bill while the old
gentleman wears a colored shirt for
economy.
Judge not, that ye be not judged"
is one of the best maxims that Shake
speare ever got off, "Timid One" and
you will do well to remember all through
your life, which seems to be opening so
auspiciously.
Some grooms are glad to have their
errors pointed out to them seven or
eight times a day, while others are a lit
tie particular about it. I cannot give
you advice without knowing the person
quite well. For my own part, make a
specially Of pointing out the shortcom
ings Of others and shrink from criticiem
myself almost invariably. Mark your
clothing with your own nama, and go
easy with your cGlticifm for the first
six weeks as least. A girl friend of
mine had her clothes marked in q singu-
lar way before her marriage. She be-
came engaged to a petted and spoiled
darling whose parents were wealthy,
and she had promised to marry him in
order to reform him, for he was a sort
of rouey, as the French say. One
evening he called upon her as she was
just returning from a seaside ros TT,
and in a playful mood he shot twice
through her Saratoga trunk, which
stood near the door, packed for the
journey. Then he pointed the weapon
at her, but she hit it with her parasol
and knocked it out of his hand In
falling it was exploded. and the ball
passed through his person just below
the cigarette pocket,
She went home and patched the
places where the bullet had marked
her trousseau and lives cheerfully with
her parents now while DER his sudden
grave the bumblebees are bumbling.
BILL NYE
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