Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1894-05-08
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WHAT IIIA WHEELER WILCOX SAYS
ABOUT MARRIED FOLKS.

WHAT ELLA WhetltR WILCOX SAYS
ABOUT MARRIED FOLKS.
II IL seldom that q great tragedy
spoil. martial happiness. II we were to
investigate the hundreds Of cases OF un-
happy domestic lives about u, We
would lind that nineteen In every t~en-
~ were results of countless small hap
penings, which served To finally rend
the veil % Illusion, through which the
lovers viewed each other before mar
Rage. After all that We may Say re-
gsrdiug the important part q woman
plays In the role 81 successful mar
Rage, the fact still remains that msn ].
master ~ that situation like all others.
N he I. oaly strong enough aud tactful
enough Ia see n. Yes, and delicate
enough, for with hls greater strength
there must be- q dellcacy Of thought II
he would keep the veil % Illusion over
the eyes % the woman he makes hls
wife.
We hesI q grest deal about the danger
q wife iucurs who allows herself Ia
grow untidy and careless In her attire
after her marriage. hut there IL cor.
responding danger, which husbands In.
cur. by negligence % their person, aud
We hear but little about that.
CHANGE or HABITS.
The girl Who falls In love With the
well-drcs.ed. carefully brushed, scrupu-
lousy dentrifced lover, may not De- able
"a stay In love With the husband whose
appearance and habits are exactly oppo-
site. ! once saw q married man 81
Isl a
always black across the joints, and
whose teeth aeemed To have forgotten
any Acquaintance With brush.
How could a dainty wife retain her
love for man like thst, She might do
her duty by him, but IL seems Ia me all
the charms % the lo,e-llfe would die
natural death.
have seen n great many men grow
careless In their dress after marriage;
men Who, as young bachelors, were not
I'll for their correctness Ia attire, and
the attention they paid 10 details. some
time. this decline In their appearance
can IL traced 10 financial causes; they
are anxious 10 keepihe wife aud children
themselves In the background.
D a
do this. The Wife who consciously
allows IL, Il not worth the sacrifice, and
may not appreciate IL, aud the wife who
l. worth Il, will no, want II made.
Whenever see a shabby husband and
father % stylishly attired wife aud
daughters, know that little love bright
ems that mans life.
A bachelor said "a me recently that be
thought men by nature we're far neater
and cleaner than women. That order
and tidlness were of more Importance
Ia them. and that this had been one
great factor Of his remaining single.
Hut rs look about me ! do not Ind
sufficient evidence Ia sub.tantiste his
statement. Men whose tobacco habits
nec-s.itate extra care In keeping the
breath pure, are far more Indifferent In
,hl. respect than their wives. A woman
seems to take a natural pride In keeping
her lips inviting 10 the salu,es OF Cupid,
while a man falls easily Into = state Of
negligence In the matter. Meanwhile
many a wife make. the fret ripple In
the Lutte by sggraSating nervous
husband Ia small ways.
LIrTLE LIMITATIONS.
once read In queer book Of woman
whose husband Was III In bed; and for
an entire week she stepped over and
walked around q scarf that had fallen on
the door, and which he had twice asked
her 20 pick up. In his super-sensltive
condition this mole hill became mount
ain. Everything she did after that IT.
ritsted him. Another wife kept her
husband la III humor by never having
the Ice pick In Its proper place. lie hap
pened Ia be q victim TO the ice-water
habit aud liked To prepare IL himself
but day In and day out WAS obliged to
hunt for the Ice pick! II IL no wonder
II his love grew cold. lie felt that
she neglected his comfort, and Was lndlf-
ferent to his feelings.
A MATTER or DRESS.
The man Who gets ready To 20 out for
q walk by putting on his hat. and gets
very impatient because his wife IL not
equally expeditions, IL not very bad
sort Of husband To be sure, II that IL
his only fault, but he often makes things
uncomfortable without cause. lie must
remember at such times that he did not
marry person who wore coat and
trousers snd beaver hat. lie married
q thing Of frills and furbeloSs, house
gowns snd slippers, aud all those fem
inine sccessories helped To ensnare him.
She can transform herself Into trim,
outdoor comrade 10 be sure, when oc-
casion demands Il, but he must give her
time. The long hair he thinks 90 beau
tlful when u falls below her waist, takes
time To arrange, even II abe IL In = hur-
~. IL Il so easy to spoil all the pleas
ure Of the walk by scolding her for be-
Ing go slow, when In fact she IL being
very expeditions, u he will stop 10 con-
slider all she has TO do.
Husbands and wives who fall Into the
habit Of contradlcting each other In
small matters, and dlsputlng over trifes,
are unconsciousiy feeding the little foxes
who will ruin the vineyard. ] have
seen q woman grow scarlet with anger
over difference OF opinion regarding =
name, or = date, which really had no
positive bearing on the subject they |
were discussing, and I have heard her
contradict her husband, aud endezvor Ia
set him right In presence of others, aud |
In regard Of some tribe which was not |
worth moments consideration, and
only served TO humlllate him.
90 tar the nervous system that multi |
tudes Of people are deprived Of good and
sufficient sleep, with rulnous corse- |
quences To the nerves. Remember, |
Ayers Sarsaparilla makes the weak |
strong.
what conceIted creature IL man! lie