The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1894-12-02

sometime of deals Whether sucn Ideals
are often realized IS al!pl"V e.I Eut
That Is eXperIence-and lie 49,, Tor
what these ideals are. the L~oohito 1,
ward - fs quite "A different que7tlou.
has been stealthily brOacheu ia ST r,en
In bouqoir talked owe" by groups "a III
In smoking jackets and by Detlea III nov
At the midnight hour Yet not ul''i h-cad
has the query Teen asked In the pISnJ
light of day. 4 company OF distihs uisnvu
gJtboys and people Of the w0Tld lla''
been questioned, and with TINS reSu'''
WIPE OF TIE FUTURE.
The qualities which 20 TO mar ~ ain
ideal wiie are so elusive tnaI !, - Ire
C,lf 10 say precisely what they az,
80 baviu.r made a study OF wives, even
could / state those qualitles sno ~
have no authority TO SPEAK. Ia Course
~ nc hricf time upon this earth, but
have vet to find pen sullclehtiy hISp'loa
Ia do her Justice; therefore, SHdn iiu'
make the effort to describe the Ciai5
acteristiCs which make Hei
Judge. however, from what l hahe
road i'm the newspapers recently, lhdC tie
ideal wife Of the future Is 70 De III;
marvellous thing. She Is gOlhs 70 c.tti
nate he word male from the Consutu
tiols of our States. she Is Solhs ~ ~
strain masculine tendencies ever ,,oi,',,
g1ye in her own nature. one u egd
IN hring Lp her daughters 10 Note ",u
e,ond i7n in horse cars: 10 run FOR Con
grDss and wear beaver hats, 10 SelFT V.i
turies and shave; while her sons w. VII nC
Instritcted in the noble artS Of 'OOniiis''
sewing and buttOn-holing. In SH9l :,
- Going IN emaucipate man ana doNie9l'
"a 70 man When she has done tIll9 I'm
will destroy vice altOgetheF' Cl'i'iD 80.
become A lost art. Human nature, WIZ ,,iII
5reoever il fails to please her she w
rhonqe until il does please her, ana w w
world will be neat as a pin ana as soo0
as pie. -, ,,,,ro will he a
naruiticent creature, and her husod"u
vii wish he had never been born.
VIII VIE" JOHN KENDRICK BANGS.
SEE TIE BOOK or PROVERBS.
on "thc ideal wife"-that IS. the man ne
ideal-is. as a rule, the cI Snse The
own intense masculine seiilshheS9' -
49, 1Icture Of the ideal wife nav
ever seen YOU will find in the book Vi
pr,vrrbs. chapter XXI, ana II -
mans ideal all the way through, thhe
words of King Lemuel but II - a. ~ -
prophecy that his mother tluEF - al
So il comes from a woman aIteI az,
"The heart Of her husband truSItlh III
her, and he shall have no lack OF Eallii
She will do him good-she seeketh WIZ
and flax and woTketh Willingly win iiel
hauds-she bringeth her food anu u''''
too. quite nkely-"from afar.
"She rieeth also while II IS yet nlEnI
and ciyeth meat 10 her householu
while he rolls over for another snoQ 2l',
g tCnGlGgTFltn q
and he owns two-thirds OF It heI lS ann
goeth not out by night'-Dut ne IS M
to bed and last to get up-'her huSoa d
is known in the gates. because ,nI e iafh
fine linen and selleth it-but II doeS Hol
appear that ne does anything except 70
sit in the gates-"among the ELDERS ~
the land. She openeth her mouth WIN
v.isdom'-while he wisely Keeps his shut
save when he has the good taste ana APP
preciation to "call her blessed and
'nraise her" "She looketh well TO the
WAYS Of her household and eateth not lhe
bread Of idieness Wherefore he has an
easy time of 1t and has no need 10 bother
his head about anything.
There IS the ideal wife" for you; her
husband is mentioned only three times
In the description Of her household; once
he is safely trusting in her once ne
is praisng her having nothing else 10
do himself and the other time he Is
sitting IN the gates, wearing OUT , lne
one reason why her candle burns all
night. THE ideal wife"-why- IS
only one good wife In this congregation,
said a grim old minister. standing in bis
pulpit one Sunday morning; every man
and woman in the house looked at each
other-"and every married man thinks
lie has got her the pastor concluded.
That is the ideal wife" the woman who
takes care Of your children, your house,
your clothes and yourself.
ROBERT j. BURDETTE.
LET MAIDS AND BACHELORS DECIDR.
Really you should not ask married men
and women TO give their ideas of ideal
wives and husbands. TO be the right
sort of a married person, each one OF
them could only answer. "the one |
have is my IDEAL 1t is the maids and
bachelors who should answer these ques-
tiOus. Each one Of them has an ideal,
and as, in the majority OF cases. those
ideals have no subsequent realization,
such records would be interesting in the
future to the parties in question, and
10 their tricnds.-Frank r. Stockton.
HOW TO MAKE HIM IDEAL.
An ideal husband! Oh! wonder of won
derS! 70 be looked forward TO in per-
feet hope in ones maiden days. to be
found-so seldom! But when found, what
a treasurer
And now to describe him! In one thing
good temper-this is the first great es-
sentidl in the salad that goes 10 make
up an ideal husband-and after that one
should drop in speedily the gentle oil
of perfect truthiulness ana then the
tender herbs of honesty and unrightness.
Good temper then, is the first thing.
But If man have a good nose. that is
good thing, too, for a nose goes long
way in the making Of face. and face
has a great deal TO 90 with the hearts
Of most wives.
There arc little trfles in all our lives
that sometimes lead to bad results. These
trifes should be looked to i'm time For
instance. the ideal husband should not
smoke i'm the drawing would
be-. abominabe, And he should not like
his club better than his home. that would
be criminal. And he should not love any
one as well as his wi No. He should
love his wife above all otherS--that means
everything. But, then, for the other side
of the question. If ne NAV not smoke
in the drawing rooms or in his Wife's
boudoir. she should see that he has a de
hChtful snuggery OF his own, where he
can smoke to his hearts content. and If
he is to be truthful and upright and
honest. why, 50 should she be. And il
he is 10 love her above all the rest OF
the world. why. then she should take
care that she so holds herself as 10 be
worthy Of such love Indeed when all
me I'm this, that the making of an ideal
husband lies in the wife's own hands!
And when one comes to argue the case
quite fairly, ] think she ought 10 have
a handsome nose. too,-M. Hungerford.
C"The Duchess
TIME TELLS TIE STORY.
I once spread MY Ideal Husband" out
over two or three pages. What | said
OF him then | don't quite remember:
something good no doubt. This time |
will be father nOn-committal and with
out specifying his virtues. say that the
man who is his brides id aal. and who.
thirty of married life. is still the one
his wife would choose from all the world.
is my ideal husband.
MARY j. HOLMES.
WHAT MRS. NYE is.
My ideal wife is a comrade who wins
me from down town, and who agrees
with me- generally, and If not. il is quite
likely TO be because | am wrong She
Is enc who mas repeatedly proved that