Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1894-01-07


OF respec, and admirayon TO her chill
dren-one whom they can rely upon as
well as love. All this does not REQUIRE
3 vast amount OF scEooline or reading
or accom- plishments;i 1t requires simplv
the cultivation Of character and self-
cynfrOL
have heard one OF these "do-
mestic"' mothers-a woman who saws
her life Is devoted aud sacrificed 20 the
care OF her children have heard her.
1 say -feam at child IN hysterical
ang threatening 10 whip her. 70 tell
papa, TO shut Der in dark room. and
declaring herself on the verge OF In
sanity over the bad, naughty, disre-
spectful conduct OF the child. This
woman complains she has no time TO
dress or read. She had far better be
making an elaborate toilet, or be buried
deep in study, than TO allow her do
nestle cares to run away with her com
mon sense aud judgment in this man
ner. But, better than books or toilets.
would be a steady practice Of self-con-
troll aud dignided language ia her deal
ings with her child.
II is impossible 10 respect a parent
who gives way to ebnllitions OF anger,
and whose nerves are always on edge.
A woman has no right To wear the
crown Of mother II she cannot control
herself In her dealings with her
children.
In our large cities there Is a type OF
mother who prides herself on being a
sister 10 her daughter. She keeps her
offspring n short dresses as long as
possible, aud when the pronounced
maturity OF the young bud renders her
debut imperative, an open rivalry more
or less serious, according TO the char
acter OF the two. exists between them.
These mothers have usually been
beauties and bellies In their youth and
beauties and bellies as wives. Mother
hood to them is merely an accident or
En Incident, and not q crown OF glory.
Often such mother feels secret sat.
isfaction when she receives the greater
share OF masculine admiration-not
from any unkind sentiment toward her
daughter, but through her own Intense
desire 10 remain young and retain her
hold upon society as belle: the thought
OF even resigning the reins of power
into the hands Of her daughter is pain
ful TO her. While the tenderest a fec.
ton may exist between such a mother
and daughter, the latter invariably
feels she is not occupying the position
TO which her youth entities her, and do
what she may TO strive against II. n
the mother creeps into her heart. have
detected open warfare, even, in glance
and tone between the two In one or two
cases, and violent jealousy existing.
Again, l have seen a woman who ap.
peared like her daughters twin. n most
perfect mother IN every respect Nature
had bestowed upon her happy, sweet
disposition, and Providence had blessed
her with devoted husband. The
daughter who came as a crown TO this
early marriage grew M 10 be a charm
ing second edition Of the bright Young
mother, who, while appealing To he
scarcely a day older than her child.
yet possessed all the maturity OF char
acter and earnestness OF principle ne
cessary for the maternal role
The ideal mother is one who seems old
enough TO be an adviser and counsellor
for her children, yet Young enough 10
enter into all their feelings. She should
be so tender and sympathetic that thew
would come to her with their Utmost
thoughts, yet so strong and unchance-
able in her system OF management that
they would not idly neglect the duties
sue required 81 them. She should praise
much and blame little. She should over
see all their pleasures without inter-
ering with them. She should have an
opinion on all subjects, aud never sinh
Ject herself to the humiliation OF say
Ing 81 don't know" 10 her chiIdren's
queries unless she supplements it with
~ tCuJ find out" She should strive 10
keep young not as a rival, but as sym
pathetic companion for her daughter
She should aim to be, not the servant
or the sister, but the mother OF her
daughter.
ELLA WHEELER Wilcox.