Daily independent. [volume] (Elko, Nev.) 188?-1915, 1894-04-17
MATRIMONIAL PROBLEM.
1t Is Ono That Is Soroly. Perplex-
ing Mat2h. Mailing II lnlnmas.

drift into marriage, SO to speak? Does
propinquity or opportunity bring about
greater number of proposals than
does actual intention, asks the New
York Advertiser. This is the problem
that greatly perpleXes mothers with
marriaSeable daughters, and they are
at loss to understand why it is that
their daughters admirers do not de-
velop into suitors- The girls are
pretty, wcll-dressed and of ages ranging
from eighteen to twenty-eight. and
they experience no lack of attention
from the men of their different sets
men who ride, dance and play tennis
with them and with whom they are ON
the best of terms.
Mothers looking backward to their
own girlhood are dismaycd ut the diff
ference between the past and the pres
cnt, ana each matron remembers that
She was wooed and won within, say, a
few weeks of 4 first meeting, whereas
her daughters are still unsought after
months of constant companionship. Is
1T that in former days men were i'm
Pulsivc as well as impressionable, and
that in these days they are impression
able but not impulSive? Or is it that
the comradeship that is now estab-
llShcd between young men and girls
robs the situation of every shade of ro-
nance, while this footing of frank
friendship induces girls to assume n
sort of bruSque, sclf-reliant, indcpen-
dent bearing, the reverse Of senti-
mental and confiding? This NAV ac-
count in some measure for the position
That girls occupy toward men, but
hardly sufficiently SO to be. the only
cause for the gravity OF the situation.
Anyhow, it is humiliating to their pow
crS. of attraction, to find that after
months of pleasant social fntimacies,
the most valued acquaintance cool Off
From statistics CLEANED from conf
dcnces and careful observations, it may
&c laid down that very young men are
less prone to- propose fromdeliberation
than are older men, youth and fancy
going. hand-in-hand as against expert
ence and hesitation. On the one hand
they fall i'll love, as the old-fashioned
phrase goes, and propose. On the
other hand, they rather drift from lik-
ing into affection, but are not always
really to propose until some pressure is
brought to bear from without This is,
perhaps, one of the most delicate opcr-
ationS in social anatomy! Sometimes
the father operates upon the heart and
feeling of the laggard in love. This is
rather an awkward moment for both,
but it generally results in n satisfac-
tory arrangement OF the matter. and
the proposal is duly made Many men
require this patcrnal touch before talk
ing the final leap. A mothers inter-
ference is rather resented than not, and
she seldom ventures upon such an eX-
IRENE course
a warm-hearted mutual friend is,
perhaps, one of the best auXiliaries ~
Eirl can have. She can say Somuch
former and can say it SO we'll, and she
can hint mt a preference, which is fiat
tcring to most men if not to all. BY
the sumc token mutual friend can do
untold mischief and convert u dawn
ing admiration into studied avoid
ance. In her eaTcrncss to throw q
| couple together she houses in one Of
| them a fear of being made ridiculous;
| most antugoni$tic to n sentiment akin
to Il proposal. 1t is not too much to
| say that officiOus kin lncs3 on the part
| Of n tactlcSS woman .:lari many n bud
d1lltr mcmahon, which, but for hC'T in
reference. might have resulted alto
getfier differently.
Menswer~ing toward forty, or even n
little beyond it, often make premcd-
itated proposals, actuated by various
reasons, considering that if they do
not marry at forty they IRE not likely
to marry at alb They wish to settle
down and enjoy their possessions
They are matrimoniulprizcs and much
coveted by mothers. for their dnugh,
sers. Men who have arrived ut thi.
agc must have done one Of two things
either lived Il society life and num
bcred all the young beauties among
their aGquuintanccs, or have come
fresh from exile on mine or. ranch
ready TO propose to the first pleasing
;.irl they happen to come tFcroSs. They
| fall IN lf,un NJ ct o,,1 ,~,>