The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1894-08-21

charge that wealth
is invariably the only incentive on the
mans part or that the distinction which
the wearing Of coronet confers is the
only motive ON the woman's side. This
is often an injustice 10 both parties
The American girl is remarkably
astute and brilliant product of mother
nature. and che is seldom likely to sell
herself for the mere qualification Of
vanity or from desire to see her name
enrolled among the nobility of the old
world. She reigns a queen in her own
land by right of her independent birth
that heritage Of every true born Amer
/ lean citizen.
We must look beneath the surface for
the conditions which lead TO these fire.
Quent international marriages Some
thing beyond greed on the one side and
vanity on the other must form the basis
of such unions. l believe one cause lies
in the fact that the average foreign no
bleman is possessed of remarkably suave
and winning manners. His ancestors
/ probably for generations were not forced
TO earn their daily bread by the sweat
Of their brow This life of ease, born
of conditions which have been handed
down through posterity, has impaired
q certain elegance of manner which is
rarely found on this side of the water.
The life here is a feverish one, which
keeps a mans every faculty on the
alert.
The nobleman may at heart be n
scoundrel, but this the young girl and
her parents can learn only ON the most
intimate acquaintance. His suavity and
polish of mapner conceal all moral de-
| fects, and it is not until after he has
made captive the susceptible young
heart that he appears in his true colors.
The usages of social life ON the two
sides of the Atlantic differ vastly in
many respects. One of the evils extern
sively practiced in the higher circles Of
European society is gambling. 1t has
/ dragged into the mire of degradation
more members of illustrious families
| than any ether form of vice 1t is this
| fact which so initiates against the I'M
ion of two persons brought up TO view
/ life from entirely opposite standpoints.
Here in America we are taught to look
with adherence upon man who habit
ually loses money at the card table or
who makes his living by preying ON his
/ fellow man The foreign nobleman, long
/ ere he embarks on the sea Of matrimo-
ny, has, as a rule, contracted a large
number Of gambling debts-debts of
honor, as they are called-and his first
/ impulse when wealth is within his
reach is to pay of his Indebtedness. This,
honestly believe, is often done with the
sincere intention of giving up his evil
ways Unfortunately, however, the ref
ormation is seldom Of long duration,
and he gradually returns to first princi-
pies This is one fruitful source of dis
cord which arises 70 mar the domestic
happiness Of the couple.
They also frequently hold opposite
views ON religious matters, which tends
to still further complications. A young
gill brought up in the atmosphere of
an American home is generally accord
ed a large amount Of freedom, which
she usually employs in following out
the dictates Of her own sweet will 1t
Is therefore doubly difficult for her to
sink her own individuality in blind
submission to the imperious viii Of the
foreigner. Especially Is this the case if
/ the nObleman should chance TO have
but little respect for the gentler sex,
and a great deal Of this Is noticeable
abroad
n old
en treated with the same respect-nay,
reverence even-as in America The
male sex almost from infancy are
taught to look upon mother, sister and
feminine friend as the embodiment Of
all that is true and lovable, treasures to
Be carefully Guarded II is this train
ing Of the youth which gives to the
American girl her Independence. She
neyer fears insult, no matter what she
may chance to do or say.
1t Is a strange fact that, while girls
In foreign lands are more restricted in
their actions than those in America,
they are supposed 10 enjoy greater
amount Of freedom upon entering the
married state This, like many other
u AAAc Dll AlC ONAAtL EltAt1 i
reversed here
The American girl really takes upon
her shoulders a stupendous responsible
ity when she elects to ally her fortunes
to those Of foreigner Of noble birth, for
she Is thus suddenly thrust into com
munity Of whose manners and customs
she has but little conception If she be
not keen Of perception and quick wit
ted, her life is apt 70 be rendered IN
happy. But it is seldom that unhappi-
nes from such canse follows one Of
these marriages Girls reared in this
great republic seldom fail in either Of
the above requisites.
Slander. like death, loves a shining
marx 4 noble name stands out tar
get for the jeers and gibes Of the mad
ding crowd, and what would be consid-
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