The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1894-07-26

Only be sure LQdU IL In6 COllOCaClOn du-
rnits Of ridicule or Of obloquy or of an
noyance and disturbance to yourself the
thing will come to pass, the game Will
become a reality, the passing amuse-
ment of Clotho and her sisters Will be
destiny. And then as the game goes
on do not we often feel that we are but
blind agents, carrying out, in our own
despite, a plan of which we in our in
most hearts feel the evil promise:
y woman, let Us say, although these
catastrOphes are as common to one sex
as the other, but we Will say woman,
alone and lonely, oppressed with the
weight Of worldly affairs and even more
oppressed with that need Of loving
which the French rightly place at the
root Of a woman ; narure-such one as
this meets man OF plausible exterior
and ready tongue, who, percelYlng her
lonely and brooding condition OF mind,
sets himself to convince her that he Is
the very person out of all the world ca
Dable of filling the aching void of heart
and life and turning the gray rainclOuds
that environ her into the roseate dawn
of a brighter and better day than she
ever yet has known. Such a promise as
this is enough to bewilder the judgment
and blind the eyes of the wisest woman
that ever hved-that is, supposing her
TO be loving by nature and lonely by
circumstance. 1t is like the song of the
sirens TO waveworn Ulysses and his
comrades-they well knew, those hard
headed mariners, that the Circean shore
was not that for which they had embark
ed. They knew or should have known
that to linger here was to risk the loss
of all besides and to defeat the high
hopes with which they had been sent
forth by trusting friends, but Circe and
her nymphs sang of love and shelter and
rest and a loving barrier between them
and the hard cold world, and to man
they abandoned all else and fell into the
snare. You see, the fates had been play
ing at consequences, and one slip bore
the names Ulysses, Gree, met att and
all the rest of it.
But to return to our supposititious case
the waveworn and weary 'she" lis
tens 70 this siren chant and yields to its
tempting che says, - Il love you beyond
all else in the world; will you be my
wife and let me love you forever and
day. ''She says, 8" at is all that have
been longing for -" They marry, and in
a few years or months or weeks or even
hours che says. - ~ on re fool and CRY
for the moon," and ''she says, " ooh,
how could l have mistaken you for my
ideal man! Yes, L was fool, but you
are worse; you are brute!' Of course
the remarks vary with the persons and
the circumstances, and in a good many
cases they do not occur at all, but then
when the fates take to playing with
our lives all this and more is on the
cards, and it is well to be prepared for 1T.
Naturally, if such state of things
does come To pass, an ''unpleasantness"
arises IN the family which cannot long
be concealed from the public eye, and
presently wa hear what 1.-THE world
says. " And, oh, what cruel and venom
Gus and foolish things the world does
say when once it finds the chancel Why
is it that the world Is so lukewarm
and languid when praise is demanded
and so phenOmenally active where there
Is an opening for cenSure? Let man or
Il woman perform an act of heroism or
of sanity self sacrifice, let him or her
spend life and fortune in doing good TO
the poor, or the unfortunate, or the wick
ed, and the world yawns and says, Very
good OF him, I'm sure, but isn't he
just a little bit of a crank" Or, if it is
q woman, Nine. World smiles pity
ingly and says: "Ah, yes, poor thing
y woman who doesn't marry must GO
something to make herself of impOT-
tancc. Did You ever hear that she was
disappointed when young CrOesus mar
ried her cousin instead of herr" Or
perhaps it says: "Oh, gone into Il CON
vent, has she? What a blessed asylum
for unattractive girls convent must be!
1t is SO much prettier to be called Il sis
Ter of charity than an old maid!"
Whatever the form of virtue may be,
Mime. World is sure TO find some. flaw
or pit in the fair fruit she cannot choose
but praise and cleverly detracts even i'll
her approval
But If 1T Is not a question of right
and shining virtues. but of mistakes
and follies and wrongdoing upon the
one side or the other of matrimonial
differcnce-ah, then Nine. World sits
up straight in her chair and adjusts her
lcrSnette to her peering eyes and finds
so many flaws and pits III the apple OF
discord that she hardly leaves flesh
enough to hold it together. What i'll
dust-y and energy the old lady sudden
y develops! When virtue and noble
deeds were under discussion, she seemed
almost to fall asleep over her slurring
comments and bits of half praise, but
now, now no girl III her teens dancing
at her first ball or playing her first
grownup game Of tennis displays more
ardent zeal and activity. She calls her
carriage, or she dons hcr walking gear.
for Nine. World Is of all stations and
conditions of life, and she sallies forth,
her eyes sparkling, her lips quivering
with eagerneSs TO be ut work, and the
number Of visits that old lady can
achieve in one afternoon is something
TO marvel at And, when the prelimina-
rieS Of weather and health have been
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