Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1894-09-13

padour--Her Grandsons Would Rather
Go Out with Her 1han With Young
x Women.
Special Correspondence Gazette and journal
BALTIMORE, Md, Sept. I've are
about talked out. We all knew what
the other could do in the way of fancy
work; we all knew how amiably the
older mothers could give advice, and
how gracefully the younger ones could
accept it, we all knew-well, the truth
was, we all knew all about each other.
Consequently, there was absolutely
nothing to gossip about But one morn
ing some one said: "Ihere's one sub
ject that is always new-woman. Now,
what do you think constitutes a popU-
lar woman?" The answer came from
the corner.
THE DISCUSSION OPENS.
IA popular woman must not know
too much, must not dress too much, and |
must not be too good looking. If her
clothes are very fine, she excites envy. |
If she knows very much, she causes
jealousy. And if she is very good look.
Z ing, she will take all the admirers away
from the other women, and that will
make her unpopular at once. The
popular woman represents mediocrity.
She must be able to have an opinion
about needlework and the fashions,
and be willing to impart all her know
ledge of them TO the different women
around about. ANY pleasure that comes
to her she must be willing to share
with everybody else; and yet, | think
she oftener shares other peoples
pleasures with them than the con
trary. She must listen to the confidence
of the young mother, who gives a
full history of the baby's ills and what
day it was when the first tooth made
its appearance, and she must show the
same intense interest in somebody's
sweetheart, while she must be willing
to chaperon any girl in the house. Ii
she has any temper, she conceals it. If
she has any special liking for anything
or anybody, she cleverly hides it, and is
in reality all things to all women. She
seldom displays any interest in men ex-
cept as they occupy positions of husband
or sweetheart to some other women. Sine
sinks whatever individuality she may
have in her desire to be popular, and
impresses people who think very much
with the fact that she hasn't an idea Of
her own. Personally the popular woman
is usually next door TO fool"
swell, evidently you don't think
much of popular woman. What do
you think of
AN ATTRACTIVE woMAN?"
The reply to this came from the centre
of the group. 1.-THE attractive woman
is usually SO because she can't help it.
If she dresses well, if she is good to look
upon, If men admire her, SO much more
to her advantage. But she would BE-
attractive if she were dowdy and ignor
ant. Attractiveness in woman is,
firmly believe, q kind of magnetism
There are women who are dull in ap
pearance-that is, SO far as their face
go-who are careless in their get up, bu
whom both men and women like, ant
for whom they will do anything They
are the women to whom people fee
inclined to give things. Somehow, ever
if little self-denial has to be practiced
one wishes the attractive woman to havt
something that comes from you AMI
which will make her think of you. 70,
like her because You can't help it, am
you wouldn't help it if you could. Sin
seldom says malicious things. In fact
il you boiled down what she does say,
really wouldn't amount TO very much
II is the sympathetic way in which ii
tsT said that makes IL seem worth listenin
to. Nobody ever envies this woman Aa
possessions. Everybody is glad if sh
has anything that gives her pleasure
A woman can make herself fasclnatin!
but she has to be born attractive"
WE ALL KNOW HER.
"Fhen there is not much chance {
attaining to the attractive tvnc. BIZ
how about the woman who gossips ~
The answer to this came in very pos
tive tones from some one who had ey
IDENTIFY suffered from an acquaintant
with her. 1.-The woman who gossips
an evidence of how rapid is the lesce
to hell. She began by being sarcast
and making clever speeches Gradual
as subjects gave out, she took UP poop
where formerly sne had confined he
self to inanimate objects. Then, as Il
world got to know the sort of inform
ton she would like 10 have, people w
were afraid of her carried her all L
mean talk they beard, and she dress
it up in her own clever way, made
seem twice as bad, and hit 10 perso
where the original weapon had on
been meant for one. She has a mary
GUS memory--for things that should
forgotten. She knows the skeleton
your closet and in mine-and she
never SO well pleased as when with il
wicked tongue she can lure him foI
and induce him to dance before I
public while we suffer. If she con
to pay you visit, you wait in hur
TO hear what bitter things she has
say.
HER DooM's EXTREMELY HARD.
''If she cannot hit you she mana
to say something about your bos
friend, and then she goes away satisii
She explains herself by saying that
feels that you ought to know. Nc
why ought you? Ii your friend ha
weakness why should you know
You see her virtue and her strength 0
you delight in them, and there is
reason why you should ever know
anything that does not quite come vi
your ideal. have often wondered W
this woman expects her future to
Surely, she can't 70 talking fore
4 about other people. And, as bell
that part of our punishment, if not
of it, comes to us here on earth,
that as we have sinned so will we sui
M / wonder if hers will consist in hay
to listen to some other gossip, cleyt
and more bitter than herself, who '
IA make known to her not only her o
weaknesses. but the mistakes and
vices of those who are dear to her ?
"a murmur Of approval followed t
which convinced everybody that
woman who gossips is often met alw
hated, and that she really has no friei
Then the question came, what c