The St. Johns herald., 1894-12-13
VARIETIES OF COURTSHIp
Tho Antique, tho Progressive and
 the EphemeraL
A Chaperon Gives scme Interesting Ob~ servations Upon the Workings of the Tender Passion in Yo1nG
 Girls of To-Day.

"You see," said the chaperon of a quartette of lively girls at Long Branch, says the Chicago Inter Ocean, there are now three kinds Of court ing-the antique, the progressive and the ephemeral. Odd, isn't it, where the heart is concerned? Both the an- tique and the ephemeral kind are found among the old girls and boys and the debutantes, while the progressive sort is confined mostly to those who have been in society a half dozen sea- sons or less.
 ''The antique is the kind which has for its password one life, one love. Tine ephemeral lends to the fancy of the hour without further reflection. The progressive is one with which we have to deal in answering the query: Where are the old favorities, and why arc the younger set so popular?'
 Ut is most natural that the matured bachelor and the rosebud should enjoy each others society. This is epheme- ral, no responsibility, no care; but the rosebud has decided advantage over her courtly gallant; for, while she iS becoming skillful in the use of Cupid's weapons, he is losing time and ground and some day will awaken to the truth that he is growing old, bald and ridic- ulous.
 What does the young girl see in her old escort? Mostly attention, which is very fattering to her in her first season out. And the bachelor what does he see in her? He is lonely. The women of his set have disappeared somewhere, and he is willing to buy candy, kiss lap dogs, do anything to Dc entertained and entertaining. In this capacity the bachelor is most useful member of society. He has even been known to walk around with grandmamma and to carry the mar ried sisters baby and luggage to the train.
 Progressive courtship is curious. When a young woman begins to enter tam serious thoughts of her future, whether in choosing a profession, a business or husband, she rises above driftwood and marks tree that will shelter her. Her time, also, is con- sideration. She cannot waste years dallying with an old beau, perennial.
 ''These perenEials are many of them good souls, nice for escorts, but not up to date enough for ideal husbands. So the manageable women, those who can preside with dignity over neat homes-the belles, in short, of past seasons-leave the ranks and form new ties.
 When a young woman becomes in- different to parties, likes distant friends, protracted visits and can't be located, keep sharp lookout among the marriage notices. The out-of-town men secure most of the home prizes. The only chance for home bachelors is to emulate the example of the girls that is, to go out of town, too, where they are not known as everlastings.
 Suppose, however, that they. can not give up the old favorites; suppose that there is great tagging at the heart when they think of losing them. In such cases, if the men value their happiness and wish to wager on their chances, they must become specialists in love and ply their skill increasingly as the summer season approaches. Good by, sweetheartp if said idly, will be detected by no one more quickly than by the young lady herself, and the chance will be greatly in favor of that London, Philadelphia or Balti- more man."