The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1894-01-28

alone would estd blish the re5pecta Dliity OF
the custom, and after all, the freedom of the
fashionable girl with the chaperone is al
+ most as great as that which the inde-
pendent young artist enjoys. For l re-
! peat the assertion that the American
chaperone is huge joke. She remembers
her free girlhood, and she gives the young
4 people under her charge wide latitude.
! II is the history of the world that where
! women are most surrounded by restric-
| tions men are most lacking in respectable
! treatment of them; where women are
most at liberty men display the most es-
TEEN for them.
ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
Here is a little bit of worldly wisdom
| no, it is not that-it is little bit of earn
! est truth that you must not forget, says
| Catherine Cole in the New Orleans Pic
| ayune: Win and keep the respect of all
| the men whom you may come TO know. A
man does not begin with liking and end
! by respecting. He must begin with re-
| specting and end by liking. He comes to
| your side attracted by your fresh youth,
| your clean face, your wholesome health
and the undimmed brightness of what
| the French call your beautiful eyes. He
may be blase old fellow who
thinks all of life is tale that is told, and
an old, old story, but he can no more help
admiring you than he can help being
| charmed over the dewy beauty of wild
rose that lifts its mild eye to him from
out his country hedge. He expects that
rose 10 smell purely sweet, and If he
should bend to its delicate petals with
their bloom of dew, and should be greeted
with the odor of champagne or stale beer,
or even the artificial fragrance of some
chemists triple extract he would not be
more disappointed and amazed, than, if,
when he comes to talk with you he should
hear you using slang, expressing blasphe-
nous Vows of religion. or giving vent to
thoughts of jealousy, bitterness and cyni-
eism that do not well become even
the most experienced and accomplished
men and women of the world. He will
be shocked if you are what he calls the
Flip girl ~ he will sheer at you If you are
what he calls mans girl"-that is,
caring to be polite only to men, waking up
only when men come into the room, and
he Will have sort Of passion of con-
! tempt for you If he finds that he can, in
the least way. presume upon his &C
| quaintance with you, in the least sense
forego the dignity and modesty and re-
serve that should always be, like a film Of
ice, between man and woman who is
not his wife.
1t is very unlovely to see girl who has
| at least the priceless beauty of youth
| degrade the sweet artlessness of nature
| by using powder on her fair face, by let
| ting any sort of cosmetics touch her skin,
| by foolishly crlmpling and towsling her
| hair, and by dressing as If she were her
| own grandmother, but it is far more I'M
| lovely to see her take on the blase airs of
an old woman Of the world, TO hear her
talk of other girls unkindly, to see her
| snub those whom she thinks are less fash
! ionable, less entitled to social dis
tinctiOn than herself, and to know that
she enjoys the mistakes, the mortifca-
tions and the failures OF others. The other
| night at ball saw young belle and
| she was a debutante too, deliberately
give up dance to sit it through with a
| forlorn girl who was what they call wall
| flower. II was not her house, but she
saw to it that that girl had an escort out
to supper, and cannot begin to tell you,
dear, how her pretty thoughtfulness
touched my heart.
! No matter how clever he is, says Clara
Belle in the Cincinnati Enquirer, nor how
| eloquent, the chances are that he will
never say it at all, unless you really make
him. He will probably think he has said
| it, he will feel that you understand that,
| of course, it must be clear to you; that
| you know perfectly we'll that he loves you
and wants to marry you, and that there
is all there is TO it. But it isn't. 1t is
| absolutely necessary and In every way
due to a girls self-respect that tho state
of his feelings should be put into words,
and that she should in so many words be
asked to become wife. There are many
reasons that make this imperative. For
/ one thing, you need TO have something
tangible to tell your best friends
ana mamma and papa to make them con-
slider an engagement really on. Besides,
| you must have something definite to quote
lAn h fe all
he will, in a most shabby fashion, try to
pretend that he never really asked you.
| Somehow a fellow is always awfully
| touchy about being reminded of the time
| he made love to you, and seems to think
he did not make love, and it is necessary
| for your future control and self-respect to
be able to refer to definite time and SEN
tence wherein John said, II love you.
Will you be my wifel"
There are certain social problems, says
| the New York Tribune, that are becom-
| ing more and more difficult to solve every
! year, and which will probably only be
settled by some radical innovation in the
existing order of things. One OF the most
serious difficulties in the way of suc-
| cessful ball nowadays is how to provide
partners for the women and a speedy
change for the men. The latter are be-
coming positively afraid to ask young
girl to dance at one of the large crowded
functions, however much they may ad-
mire or like her, because they know that
all the other men in the room have the
same dread of being indefinitely
stuck" and will hesitate to
relieve them. The girl, on her
! part, Is quite as much bored, and as
uncomtortably conscious of the situation
as the young man, while she is not sufi-
GENTLY experienced perhaps to effect a
change. Obviously it is a most absurd
and ridiculous state of affairs, and yet
| one that causes no end of actual misery
and discomfort, and makes large ball a
veritable ordeal to many young people of
both sexes.
The secret of social success in a ball
room would make curious reading If one
| could get at the true in wardness" Of the
| various methods.
Jim, why did you dance twice with
that dreadful Miss Ducats, while you
never went near dear little Daisy Bell.
| although it was her first balll" said his
elder sister to a young man of society.
ITO tell the truth, l was deadly afraid
! of Daisy confessed the youth ingenu-
! ously. "She is just one of those innocent
/ little things that you can never get rid of.
! Aud as for Miss d., he continued. Jack
| Pusher had her in tow, and he managed
with her capitally. Come old fellow, ,
| he said to me, Il want TO present you to
! Miss Ducats. / will come back 70 you in
| five minutes he added, and, of course,
that way did not mind -