Democratic Northwest and Henry County news. [volume] (Napoleon, O. [Ohio]) 1894-1905, 1894-09-20
UNFEELING WOMEN.
EANY WHO ARE so CALLED ARE
GROSSLY misunderstood.

Women WI I'm the Present Generation
Does Not Appreciate Because II Does
Not Understand Them-The Other Type
OF Woman Who Is Always AffAble.
A witty and sympathetic man once
said to me, 81 would rather marry a
woman who looked feelings and had
none than a woman who had feelings
and looked none" OF course the say
ing came more from his wit than his
sympathy, but could not help feeling
that there were moments when / could
agree with him, although have known
the value and the services of the woman
with no feelings to be underestimated
Ny daughters have friend-a wom-
an only little past girlhood-whose
company is more sought after and rel
ished than that of almost any one I
know. She has admirers by the score and
acquaintance everywhere, and no won-
der, for she is cultivated, always cheer
full and will listen to and rally the poor
est talker. She is asked to everything
in the shape Of feast for she is the
amusement and relaxation Of whoever
may be about her. At the same time,
whenever her praises are sounded, the
eulogy winds up with the inevitable and
disheartening tag, after all, you know.
she has no feelings"
And this is perfectly true. Quick and
comprehending as is her smile and
graceful as is her glance while one is
talking to her, there is always the con.
viction that not trace Of real interest
is involved. If she only had heart,
the girl would be an angel.
1 like the old fashioned word. And
when have been alone with her I have
often wanted to say, "My dear, do be
an ANGELO But she has no heart. If she
were to marry a foreigner and go abroad
to live, she would leave US all without
a moments regret. So her friends are
vexed with her want of feeling and
warn the world against her.
And this is what seems to me unjust.
Take this girl as she is. Whether it
is her nature or not, she never refuses
the challenge to be agreeable; whatever
her own plans and likings are, she never
betrays impatience when they are
crossed Her companion may be plain,
awkward and tiresome, but her eye and
her gay little joke are never dulled for
that reason. In fine, she may be the in
carnation of the light which shines, but
does not warm, yet while she keeps a
whole circle in good humor by her wit,
as she does, it is a poor return to grid
at her.
Again, and speaking now of aswidely
different type, can call to mind older
women, often only the survivors Of a
more rigid era-exact, severe. stern, un-
bending and ruling their households
with rod of iron. How little this gen
GRAFTON understands them! How little
merit it allows to the implicit faith in
duty, the untiring devotion to work, the
almost fanatic hatred of waste and sell
indulgence and the Spartan maxims OF
life in which they were brought up and
which they still observe. What has be-
come of our eyes that we cannot see the
beauty of such lives? Why do we NJ
longer recognize their value? These are
not the women who have feelings, bu
look none. They are without feelings a
all, according to the standards of oul
new, diversified and exacting society.
| I hear young girls saying that theil
grandmothers or aunts, or what yor
please, don't understand them, ant
really I think that many older people
than these schoolgirls make just th'
same absurd complaint. can appea
with safety to every one. Who has no
known one of these same stern womel
almost bring the dead to life by he
, powers of nursing, or confront singh
handed and maintain her family on
beggar's pittance, or save a falling
, household by simple economy and har'
work? I shall be told that all thes
things are admitted, but that is just tn
point-they are not. If they were, tn
cry of ''no feelings" would never b
/ raised, out of very shame.
know an old lady who has had th
: misfortune to live long life and to Sc
all her descendants grow up unable t
a Understand her. She is Of the old
unsparing sort, and they, artistic, orig
a inal, clever, modern people, have n
= place for her either in their theories G
! their interests. With these her notion
; can scarcely be expected to agree either
r yet the complaints come not from hel
/ but from them. They are not complaint
q in words. They are complaints crysta
lized into entire disregard for the oil
school, which does not, as it cannot
a wholly sympathize with them. It seem
l.. to take an outsider, like myself, to sc
what do see-that without this erec1
! white haired ancestress, who is appal
emily so separate from them all, wivt
and husbands both would have to teac
themselves the fortitude which she con
j. municates merely by her presenc'
# Their households would be dragging c
10 without the strong axles, so to speal
II which she put in almost unnoticed II
10 each newly married couple, and I'll
s. whole family, now held together in
}, unusual vigor, would soon fall apa
h and be dispersed.
If I believe there must be many SUE
# cases. l have the deepest respect +
j. these strong, unbending characters wi
n do not conceal their utter intolerance
is our self centered modern Methods
Q May Johnstone in Ladies' Home Jou
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