Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1894-03-29
woMAN's sANcTUM

When man gets to that point Of in
timacy with a woman in which he may
make suggestions as to her behavior
without giving deep offense. the woman
is generally greatly benefited thereby.
One of the first things that he will tell
her is to be more careful as to how and
where she discusses her personal affairs
with friends. He warns her not to en-
ter into discussion of the latest piece of
gossip with the friend whom she meets
in tie street-car and entreats her not to
Law bare her heart before another wo-
man as the two take lunch together at
a downtown restaurant. He points
ont how foolish her chatter will appear
to the people in front of her at the the
atre. and tells her to find out by obser-
walton how very easy. how unayoida-
BILE it is not to hear what is being said
by people about you.
A man can teach a woman this lesson
with perfect propriety, for men as rule
are not given to discussing their pri-
vate affairs in public. Politics and the
state OF the market. the latest murder
and the fresh news from Hawaii fur
nish abundant means for the converse
ton they carry on in public convey
ances or restaurants. They would not
dream of comparing notes on each 9TH
er's wife or going into the details of
some whispered scandal They may
do those things at their clubs or in
the privacy of their smoking 'dens, p"
though, heaven be praised, few Of them
do; but they are exceedingly careful
what they say abroad. No wonder
that they are often shocked at the care
less way in which women chatter in
public.
The woman in sealskin is quite as apt
to indulge in the propensity to gossip
in public place rs the woman in a
serge coat-indeed il is oftener the for
mer than the latter who fails in this
respect. Well-known society bellies
have a way Of talking Of their con-
quests rs they decide on the materials
for their new party frocks and the
salesman behind the counter is often
greatly edited thereby. Women Of
high social position will talk scandal
at the table when they meet for lunch
after a shopping our, and strangers
who may chance to be placed at the
same table with them get a great deal
of amusement from their conversation.
Not that they are the only women who
do such things, but it is far worse for
them to exhibitsuch bad manners when
presumably they know better then for
the women in other stations of life who
may not realize the breach Of etiquette
they are committing There are GER
tain responsibilities that come from oc-
cupyinga high position in society, and
one of them is that of setting ia exam
pie of fine breeding before the world
If ever the Audubon society should
be up and doing it is ut present, when
the hat of every other woman you meet
ON the street is adorned with numerous
wings or birds. But little else is being
used for trimming in millinery shops
this winter. and mot only one or two
birds are used on a single hat but whole
flocks are perched about the crown, or
hold up the Trims in coquettish curves.
Even the women who have openly VOW
ed that nothing could induce them to
wear feathers OF any sort excepting the
ones that fall from the tail of the pomp-
Gus rooster have suecumbed, and flaunt
their hats, gay with pert blackbirds,
right under the noses of the folks who
have heard them make their vows.
The heron aigrettes, which are so uni
versally worn and even without that
small pricking of conscience that some
times one feels regarding wings and
birds, are obtained in most cruel fash
ion. They can only be had during the
breeding season. and the mother birds
are taken from THEN nests and the
young left to starve.
Walter Besant replies to this by say
ing that while he deplores the present
fashions and wishes women would not
wear wings and birds on their bonnets.
he does not hold the women solely re-
sponsible for the cruelty 1t is not the
women who hunt and kill the birds.
but the men who wish TO profit by the
slaughter II the men refused to Kill
the birds out Of motives Of kindness,
no woman. no matter how cruel Of heart
she might be, could secure a bird for
her bonnet,
MRS. GLADSTONE.
Sir Andrew Clark has often been