Goldsboro weekly argus. [volume] (Goldsboro, N.C.) 1885-1909, 1894-07-26
Fortunate Early Marriages.

Fortunate Early Marriages.
We are too apt to consider
money the one thing needful in
this complex modern life of ours.
writes the editor of the New
York Is.ibune's "Home and So
ciety," and to marry on moth
ing" is esteemed, if not a crime,
at least a misdemeanor. which
will entail it's punishment in flu
ture misery and privation. Yet
for the benefit Of those young
people who are old fashioned
enough to believe that a man
and woman who truly love one
another, and who have good
average abilities, can live hap
PLY on minimum of this
worlds goods, and have rea-
sonable security for the future,
it is only fair to state that the
majority of people, who in mid
die age find themselves in com
Portable circumstances, COM
menced life with little or no
prospect ahead save those of
the "dinner of herbs and love
withal." And it may be added
that many who made what the
world called brilliant matches"
are now living in obscurity and
poverty.
when | married. said the
wife of prominent banker, the
other day, 1--WE had literally
nothing. I was one of o. large
family, ano beyond very mod
est trosseau my people could do
nothing for me; while Mr.. H
was simply a clerk, with nothing
but his salary. Our only favora-
bic start in life was that in the
building where he was employed
there were several vacant rooms
which were given to us rent free
to live in. Of course our life
was primeval in it's simplicity,
but we never suffered in any
way; and as our cares increased
our resources grew greater, and
[ have never ceased to be thank
full that we had the courage to
face the world together in our
early youth.
From the far West comes an
other confederation of this old
fashioned theory. A few years
ago the writer visited a charm
ing home, near one of the promi-
nent western towns. The house
was situated on a little knoll sur
rounded with beautiful forest
trees, the popularity of the
dwelling, which was large and
rambling, being that it was
built on different levels on the
side of the hill, and on the trees
themselves as foundation. That
| is, the close-cut stumps formed
piers, on which the floor beams
were securely bolted, making a
most solid structure. It was q
comment on this singular struct
ure that led the hostess to give
her guests a sketch of her early
life, when she and a husband
were pioneers in a wild and un
) settled country.
i II was a school teacher" she
| said, land Henry was book
keeper on small salary, ano
, not over strong; and when we
: became engaged to be married
there seemed nothing for it but
to wait long years, and ever
then there was small hope that we
), would have enough to live on.
So when one evening my sweet
, heart came to me with the prop
: osition that we should go West
re-empt some land and try oul
luck as immigrants, fell into
the idea at once, particularly as
) hehad looked very delicate fol
: some time, and had a nasty
cough that worried me dread
) fully. Well, we decided that i
would be too expensive to make
two trips of it; and as we hat
both saved little money, W.
) were married and started a
once for Minnesota, having Sc
f lected that region on account o
: the dry air and the fertile soil
' We gave ourselves a couple o
} weeks to decide upon a location
and then staked out our claim
2 and built our house (only on,
: room at firsD on the very spo
r where we are now living. Gu
=. first cabin was blown over in
/, tornado; and that is why w
4 have built on the firmly bedde
e sawed stumps of trees, the tim
; ber being so thick and convenien
e in this spot, although few rod
/, back of us lie the open prairi
j lands that yield us such goo
|, crops. It would be too long
) story to tell of our various turn
:, of good and bad fortune; of m
# dreadful lonliness and fears g
l. first, when Harry was away {
n work; and all the other har
g trials of a settlers wife. Bu
n little by little, with the help {
good Providence, we conquere
fortune, and we are still youn
: enough to enjoy life with OF
9 children, while we bless the da
- when we made up our minds
% marry ON nothing.