St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-04-17

BetSey, who is inclined to be bit of
fault finder, said the other day, Il am
tired of reading advice to women. They
have been advised on every subject
under the sun, from artistic methods of
doing their back hair, TO ways and man
nerS of being presented to the queen.
But the subject that weighs most on
the advising mind is how to manage
their husbands. Why don't these liberal
guides of good advice think of the other
side OF the house a little? Is it any
wonder that husbands seem to need 30
much management when no one whis-
pers in their lOrdShipS' ears that it is
possible they may be somewhat TO blame
themselves for the unsatisfactory state OF
affairs as regards husbands and wives"
Then bethOught me that | would do 4
little advising on my own plan. 1t is
true that much advice has been given
to women on MANY subjects, but, my
dears, did You ever stop TO think of the
idea that is behind all this assumption
that women are the ones who need adj
YiSing? | am sure you never did, or
YOU would not be so FESTIVE under ii, or
resent the well-meant kindness as you
do. The real truth that underlies this
advising is that women are the home
makers, and the home the center from
which the real happiness of this world
must radiate. 1t is the bulWark that
guards humanity from the SurgeS of
passion and sin and evil doing, and
makes it possible for pure little chill
dren, with tendencies toward good, to
be born. There they are nurtured and
there are planted the seeds that later
grow into beauteOns frultage OF noble
deeds and holy living. How could such
beings come into the world amid angry
scenes and the discomfort and misery
that are the elements of an unhappy
home. You know, my Gears, that | am
Old-fashiOned enough to believe that
there is an essential difference between
men and women, not in quality, but in
kind Each has been given a part in
the wonderful plan or nature. Neither
could assume the others place or work,
and the effort to do so always ends in
disaster. 1t is the w0man'S part to make
the home, and The wise woman is the
one who recognizes the fact and shapes
her life accordingly. We hear good
deal about women having come to the
front" in these last few years. Can
You point TO time when they were not
at the frOat in all good as we'll as in
some things not so good. When you
read Of The lives of such men as Wash
ington, and remember that he was the
sen OF widow, you see he
was The result of a good wOm-
ans training. Do you suppose
that any one on the Old Virginia
plantation doubted who it was that
stood at the front in all things there?
Or of Lincoln, and find that be was only
a masculine reproduction Of a wise and
gentle woman. His father, the big,
gOod-patured frOntiersman, gave him
his unusual stature, his steely muscles;
but this was only the house in which
the real man, shaped and tempered by
the mother, lived. Go further back, if
you choose; was it not a woman, ami
not a very good one either. ain afraid,
who came to the front and lost Mark
Antony not only his home, wife
and kindred. but his honor and life as
well? Was it not a woman who held the
grandson OF Abraham in an unWelcOme
vasSalage to her father for fourteen
years, and gave her dover Of beauty to
thousands OF descendants? But the
question is, do women need advice more
than men? No, not more; but as much.
II men need to be managed, it is the
result of the traditions that have come
down to us from the days when brute
strength was the thing needful to sue
cess in the world. Little thought was
given then to the subtle influences
that have made human beings such
wonderfully complicated creatures that
we know. They, Individually, are not
to blame for it. So, my dears, if we are
wise we will still continue to follow the
advice OF the old song:
Well even let them hold the reins,
But we'll show them the way to 60"
AUNT POLLY.