The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1893-08-08
MEN THEY WILL NOT MARRY.
THE HARLEM j. w C. a. DISCUSSES
an IMPORTANT QUESTION.


| where, Who Hnsu't One Of These bis.
qusItfying Chrrncteristics-Perh.p the
| Handsome Men viii ne surprised.
The ears OF the Harlem young mon burned
last night OF course there was woman In
the case: there were q hundred OF them.
in fact They met In the rooms Of
the Harlem Young Women's Christina Asso-
citation and told each other frankly and
forcibly just what they should expect OF tho
young mon who should aspire to tho honor oil
their hands and hearts.
The meeting had been announced as an oc-
casion for e practical talk" on The Man I
/ viii Not Marry" The attendance was large.
and there was an air Of subdued expectancy In
spite Of the apparent unconcern with which
| the young ladies' triled such airs as F" My Bon
| ME" and Seeing Nellie Home"
Miss McElroy presided over the meeting.
We are going to have a practical talk to-
| night" she said to the crowd OF girls around
hor. 1T lie to be on subject in which all OF
us are interested-very much Interested"
| Subdued giRRles greeted this remark.
I'VE are going" proceeded tho speaker. ito
| talk about q man. I'll tell you definition 1
heard OF . good leader Of a practical talk. It
| Is O person who doesn't know anything about
what is talked Of That's the reason I'm tho
| leader OF this meeting. The rest OF you must
do the talking.
Now. what we want to fnd out ia what
you don't want in the man you marry.
But. see herel Some Of you are mar
ried already. I guess We won't let
| the married ones into tho discussion until the
end. Then they can como in with all tho
worldly wisdom they have gained through ex-
perience. Now. then. some one tell what she
doesn't want in man."
A solemn pause followed this appeal. No
-
. good deal OF sly whispering and gigglinG in
the corners.
do you mean to say" asked Miss McElroy.
reproachfully. that you think that any man
you meet on the street is good enough for
your
There was loud murmur OF dissent.
Finally one young woman said timidly that
she didn't want her hypothetical husband to
be Incorporate. Everybody looked admirinGly
Mt the courageous young woman and after
some slight urging they all came out strongly
on her side. They were sure that they never.
never could be happy with man who was in
temperate
well I don't want my husband to be ILL
tempered" said one pretty girl. blushing up
to the roots OF her curly hair.
That's right" responded Miss McElroy.
"some moro Of you girls who have something
hands TGh are d ne
tempered p asked some one in pessimistio
"Ask his sisters" suggested her neighbor.
What II he's al. only child7" demanded tho
"0h. guess. your. thinking Of some one in
pariisnar." *. said mischisyous friend. .ou
ThasI Shows Hs SAID aSosher with tn %ofidy
t. TIL
rooms. and You don't know whore their motRoro
:, And SO they finally gave up deciding how
they were Unanimous that they didn't want It.
into thu sp IN hns
to sweep al seinsh men under the ban they
Them ons o
c9pd rast IL h ra
b snd to smokey' -'' 'A' O0'i ""1' 80 AN'-
Il would have done the soul Of mankind
GOOD i,pmor%, cried Iali dozen at, at once and
smokers Seemed TO have nais 'n' anu
a, mel boring street and UP spoke one en-
:, - don't want man who's always parading
subsidized Tor some time. There ars
And hf then 0o sysry1 s Ns s
bsa a.s s b4s rns T6h
port ths family. Other timid-lookinr girls
iii tell You a secret" said Miss McElroy.
Z" know Of o certain young man whom you all
know, too. He has. in fact. been right here In
h S na amy 2 man rS %s ef I'll
has haspy taken Isav fenoT 1T appears. to
do. You think he told friend Of his ! Why. that
this young lady Is good business woman. and |
he wouldn't have to work any harser than lie
docs % now: What DO you think Of that" ~
Of Il Tor they snied with SFest t scorn. and
ssfsp Il 5%s lie out Of s%s' yoaS. man It " ne
When Miss McElroy asked all who did not
want to support einseves after they were
married r. raise their hands. they all put up
Youth Was also put forward as an objection.
r ito 9, ssh %sss and de
Jealousy, but they didn't seem to agree ex:
hem didn't want their married life to smack
of 1t In tho least Others said they didn't be-
thought a little would be rather acceptable.
As for slang. II the Harlem young men could
otbsS M e
you find man out" they would have opened
heir eyes in establishment
About this time very nice. young woman
'aid that she thought it was rather late to sug-
:est that a young man ought to be z Christian.
body said that she. too. wanted her husbandto
10 Christian.
They were all looking solemn over tho last
requirement when bombshell was exploded
" . young woman who announced that she
lid not want a handsome husband. Tho dec
aration was rather startling. but 1t was unex-
,ecedly supported from all sides.
And SELFISH"
And they hirt"
And 90 It was agreed that man who was
lot ugly. but was Just good looking enough
9 escape uglinsss. was the most satisfactory.
Ilso II was decided that a man who is addicted
0 clubs and late hours away from home il not |
ut on the approved pattern.
Miss McElroy asked II they had ever seen |
Q en- with all the delightful attributes they had
na IN, On yes Well why hadn't they
because the man know is sixty years old
nd already married." said one.
Because I don't love him." said two or
hree others.
~ nTh.p you want t. loye The man you marryi"
Inat M al thar that at,,bIditv | d,