The Goodland republic. [volume] (Goodland, Kan.) 1891-1907, 1893-03-24

y Z~AI : said. The woman whom
~ we love is only dangerous,
bat the woman who loves
us is terrible" to which
greater cynic added Fortunately she
never loves us.
This was more witty than true. fol
every woman loves, has loved or expects
to love some man
Man has horror of being loved-=zxith
a mercenary motive So great is this
horror today that it amounts to morbid
expectancy. Nine Young men out of ten
speak OF wife as Il possession only to
be purchased But if man had never
been niggardly. woman would never have
become snercenary. And mercenary wo-
men are few. Men are far more stereo-
typed in mind than women Therefore
their ideas regarding the grand passion
are more uniform
While almost every woman likes a
dramatic element in g mans love fol-
her, the normal man has dread of the
dramatically disposed woman, especially
i'll the role Of wife. This is the reason
we find so many phlegmatic women who
are wives. Intensity worries Il man I'M
less it is kept well under check, and the
tragic he finds insuppOrtable in daily life
Less romantic than woman by nature
and with less idealism, yet somewhere
in his heart every man hides Il dream of
that earthly trinity-father, mother and
child in which he imagines himself the
chief element
Sooner or later. to greater or less de-
gree every man passes through the ro-
mantle phase
Unfortunately for woman. his idea OF
Il sweetheart is essentially different from
his requirements for a wife later in life
The average Young bachelor is at
tracted by the girl whom other men adj
mire He likes to carry of the belle of
the season before the eyes of rivals. He
is amused by her caprices, fattered by
her jealous eXactions and grateful for
the least expression of her regard for
him He is lavish with compliments
and praise But sentiment IN mantle
average man-springs wholly from I'M
appeased appetites. The coveted but
unpossessed woman can manifest hel
love for him in almost any manner. and
it will be agreeable and pleasing
Whether she is coy, shrinking, coquet
fish or playful, demonstrativeo or reserved,
mis- Imagination will surround her with
every charm mans imagination is
the flower of his passions. When those
passions are calned the flower fades
Once let him possess the object of his de
sire, and his ideas become entirely
changed He grows critical and dis
eliminating and truly masculine in his
ideas of how he wishes to be loved.
We all know the story of the man who
compared his courtship to Il mad race
after a railroad train, and his married
life to the calm possession of Il seat with
the morning paper at hand. He no longer
shouted and gesticulated. but he enjoyed
what he had won none the less for that
1t was Il very quick witted husband
who thought of this little simile to ex-
cuse his lack of sentiment, but there are
very few wives who are satisfied to be
considered in the light of railway
compartment. for the soul of the wife
has all the romantic feelings which the
soul of the sweetheart held 1t is only
the exceptional man God bless him ana
increase hinlD who can feel sentiment
and romance after possession is an estab-
lished fact. Unhappily for both sexes,
sentiment Is Just IS much Il part of wo-
mans nature after she surrenders her
self as before.
A well timed compliment. tender
caress given unasked. would avert many
a correspondent case if husbands were
wiser.
After marriage man likes to be loved
practically
All the affection and demonstrations
of love possible cannot render him hap
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if his home is disorderlyl Grant him
the background of comfort and he viii
DE contented to accept the love as a
matter of course.
Grant a.woman all the comfort life
may offer. yet she is not happy without
the background Of expressed love.
When men and women both learn to
realize this Unborn difference in eacL
others natures and to respect it. mar
riage viii cease to be a failure.
In this think, women are ready to
make their part of the concession more
cheerfully than are the men. Women
who loathe homework and who possess
no natural taste for it become excellent
housekeepers and careful thrifty man
ayers. because they realize the impor-
lance of these matters in relation to the
husbands comfort.
But how few men cultivate sentiment,
although knowing it SO dear to the wife.
Man is forever talking eloquently of
woman s sensitive. refined nature, which
units her for public cSreers. Yet this
very sensitiVeness he crucifies IN private
life by ignoring her need of different
l,earf diet than the one which he requires.
wives tlrong the cooking schools,
hoping to make their husbands happier
thereby. Why not start a school of sen-.