The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1893-12-24
CARES OF ,zHE SOCIETY WOMAN
Her Burdens Lightened by tue EnvaiuasI
Ala OF .shs Who Knows"

Her burdens Lightened by the Iavaiuasis
Ala of"sh Who Knows."
Ittsn't such an easy thing as IL looks TO be q
society woman. It involves something more
than getting your name in the list OF the Patri-
archs. and wearing purple and fine linen every
day. In the 1nstter of correspondencs alone
no one knows except the lady herself how
much 10 expected OF her. Every mornings
mail brings its budg got OF invitations that muss
be entered in the On eagement book OF regrets
10 aoms affair of her own which involve the
sending out Of more Invitations to Ill the
vacancies. OF charities that must be consid-
ered and of other oharities that must be
avoided. of tickets for sale at all sorts OF pri-
yate and public benefits for everything under
heaven. from Jewish refugees to broken. down
actresses, and yoluminous begging letters
from Omaha and Timbuc too, from flood suf.
fersrs and drought sufferers, aspirants for the
staae and candidates for the ministry
Indeed, the society woman Of any prominence
would yerily be buried beneath ayalanches of
manuscript were II not for most remarkable
woman who goes about from mansion to man
sion setting everybody straight as to addresses
and marriags. DEATHS ard d.nar,u,a. nu.h-
Ing society impostors and unreliable charity
ORGANIZATIONS For nearly Q score Of years
this cleyer woman. whose name IA not knovn
TINS eie.ei woman. "noeo neue 10 hot Known
outside the inner circle whose mechanism she
manIpulatss so adroitly, has been doing this
sort Of visiting secretary duty. until her Nom
ory holds tho GENEALOGICAL tree OF every family
hs =. ~. =, 80 80. Dt1 auu
not neAa 10 eot. u eouiS,neu c,'' prec'orS
and Almanaoh Dc dothA- whom the books are
4, ms = transn,ra tina, an. has rnown all -,
may uanspne u.". sue uas hno"h al aione
than thu potentats Of IN. patriarcbs bim..l,
To .om, Of the great leaders sba coca avarv
morning and looks over all but the personal
correspondence makes up the engagement
lists. writes checks to be presented to the va.
each year. marking on the dead and add sddtns
the 10" new names that society admits each
season with more than little reluctance
gocisty Ia RettinR in splts OF ita defences a
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WIZ uu"'oIu' wy. eau taup 10 peoomlng
more and more regarded as it becomes more
ssa na, '0r M.N S 90. .aa1'.s SOY w''hin
'ne pa'o' y. sn9 so1lsi SET
an: and receptions H are only within the court Of
Interior TO enter society now one mus, ' co sns
not ony VIII means 70 i've hAndsomsly and
ths elect 10
The HebeI bishops are = good example Of
thls Coming on here from California, with
married the daughters into two OF tho ilrst
families Ia the set and the rest was all plain
sailing. But many other families, perhaps
equally well equipped. but lacking the few
fFiends ~ the start. have been obliged to take
their place in one OF the outer rings for society
10 but network o. rings within rings. and
made TO the charmed inner sanctuary whose
portals are so carefully guarded against the
intruder. There Is pArtie uiarly refined species
OF cruelty In the way society Ignores those
whom II chooses TO reject. IL IL SAID that at one
OF the PGtri1rch's balls gentleman who had
been inEited with his daughter found on his
present. Nobody paid the slightest attention
a single Invitation TO dance. Everybody
seemed to know everybody elSs In the room.
They alone were strange. When the supper
was served he took the girl down. and very
soon after It. he left the bail. Rome OF the
Kilded set who had pOtiosd II said Il served
him right No zone should AttsmPt the Patrl-
Arehs without -beinR sure OF his reception,
Still II must have been known that the gentle.
n man was well endorsed or no could not have
In the giving Of a dinner hostess feels that
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