The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1893-09-14


ly, approximate realities-and time,
no effacer and the reconciler, smooths
yer the shortcomings and buries the cl'
memory Of those lofty ideals and brings
certain cynical philosophy into the life -
nd en- makes of If not xvI,,+ 4eeO was expect
t,u % ii-' -. - 'Sfs planned, but some
d, not wP5ferable and moderately sat;efn 81
~" tory-at least as good as the lives of otbo,
people around about, and-ves. well
enough, let Us say.
Out of this great mass of mankind
there are q few, u very few. ,,,ar,rfa,I
couples who do really fulfill thcir i7aa1e
and find life just what they had honad
just what they had planned. Yfav are
fully satisfied and go about the world
gloatlnS over their own happiness and
haunting it in the faces Of other pcoD7o
IN fashion that would be cxasr,ar,t:,,c.
If 1t Were not so pathetic.
Now, this class of persons lool, uDon
| divorce as near akin to murder or sacri-
! Iege or madness. They cannot in the
least understand how ANYBODY once nd
mltted to the paradise of Tnatri,norv
could ever wish TO leave it o.. TO drira
their other self out OF its dear inclos,rn
They speak with bated breath or with
upl1tted eyebrows and whispers of boIv
horror and dismay as they wonder what
strange sort of beings those NAV he. end
finally giving up the gloomy conundrum
turn with sigh of relief to throw Them |
selves into each others arms and ..tban1, |
with brief Thanksgiving whatever now
ers may be- that they are not like otber
men.
returning TO that great class OF mar
RED people who just get on after q fash
ION, with good deal of bicl,erino, and =
good many spoken or unspoken doub+s
as to whether marriage is worth while
or not, we find them also opposed to di-
vorce, bat from u different standnoint
than the little clique of paradisians inst
described. They thoroughly RECOGNIZES
why some people wish TO be divorced
Ihey are more or less frankly conscious
OF occasionally wishing to be so them
selves, but they have never said so alo7d
ana the bitterness of their oDpositioD +o
tins mode of relief is that they do not
care to see others rid themselves Of
burden which they have made I'D their
minds to bear. 1t is just the dog in the
nanSer over again. Il can't eat fhis
clover, and SO you shan't,' saws The dog
% the OK, and sometimes the OK IS scared a
lway and gives up his proposed ban
Iuet.
III can set along with Tom. i'm
CINE you can with Dick. and SO can Won
'lth Harry, says one Of their philogo-
hers to Ter sisters who are JThisDe7.ino
bout divorce, and then. warming with
er topic. she reads them q lecture unon -
ne slnfulness and the shamefuIness and r.
he general deprayity Of the woman who !
Ill see her name dragged through a Z
lvorce court" and the duty Of every
lie TO submit with patience and sweet
ess TO her marriage LOT, Whatever i
ay turn out TO be, and If she can't 70 T,
I'm her husband 10 win him over by
e exhibition Of her own yirtueg until
falls in love with goodness. and for
kes vice. and ''all goes happy ever
ter Re
Yes, these Disseminated and vet obsti-
tely staying wives are tho bitterast :
d most Tirulent Opposers Of divorce f-o
q do very possibly effect some GOOD nv y
aSooninS their feeblcr sisters INFO = !
omission that not infrequentlv ends in the
half bitter, half Indifferent acCuias- 4
&c IN fate very different from what 1
S hoped and yet not too bad to be en- /
red with some SOFT of philosophical /
ltent. 20 wives of this class-in fact =
ali three Of the classes Just described e
ny; Stay where yon are. BE satisfied 81
n the frying pan and don't iumpinto
nre. Bear the Ills you have and do
that you can TO alleviate them
oFe all, If you have children. sacrifice
T own worn and weary life to their
n young promise. ! woman who IL
borne child has IN q manner "
ICED herself TO bear for that chilli n
--Ss<s-<sze<@sss-szzzsxElzzs =,
1t strength comes from heavy bDr- poiic
well borne. That is the rav fha c., 80,
an women acquire their queenIy
II there is still another class. and = L Z :
one 70 whom 1 would not nroffa, 81 81
aoVlce; to whom | yvo1Id ra+Io,. -
Save yourselves while Won canN
len without children and v-;(T,r-,4
cations except the narriara 80, -,
n have been flung back uno7, -, ----
cred and soiled by him who b9J
Il 10 mold them sacred and ipviolats
onS rs we both shall live" VIZ
Gay comes to any wife. . DO
she finds her home ruined - Law
insulted, her self ras,laol
Ged; when she finds that no. T.;
her tears, her arguments and Re- AGO
lliSS alike are scoffed and disro- to
a; when she sees that she cen - 81
ng TO elevate the man who nn7,siSE- te
degrades himself and dracs bor 'h
with him; when she fears +bo+ ,-r-.,r,
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