Martinsburg herald. [volume] (Martinsburg, W. Va.) 1881-1920, 1893-12-30
MANAGING AHUSBAND
A BRIGHT WoMAN's VIEW or THE
QUESTION.

QOES HUN
When Courtship Days Are Over The wo-
man Who Is Always Babbling-Golden
siience-whipping Posts For the Crime
of Nagging-One Side Of Picture.
Once upon time ''courtship love-
was cleverly defined as ian insane de-
sire to support some one else's daugh-
ter" Perhaps married love might mean
the peaceful union of prejudices, Gus
toms and preferences. We all know it
is like going down a toboggan slide to
make a man fall in love. You can do it
SO quickly it takes your breath away
But it is like the up hill walk to keep
him in that blissful condition-there is
great deal of putting and blowing
about it. 1t is agreed that men marry
for so many reasons, but in this day of
independent, self supporting women few
become wives who are not honestly in
love and who do not recognize their ca
pacity for making some man happy.
There are two things men can stand
work and appreciation They are will
ing to do the former for the sake of the
latter. Make a man think you thor
oughly appreciate his silver plated vir-
tues and you will be surprised how quick
ly he develops into the sterling article.
They can also stand a vast amount of
affection, but their capacity for being
''let alone" is almost as great. Mems
hearts are not built on the same gener-
GUS plan as woman's, and little sweets
go long ways with them. Remember
to let them do the wooing. Meet man
half way. For sometimes 10-degrees-
belowzero manner will so freeze up the
fire of love that it will never ignite at
your command again. Make love
game, long enough to interest, but
brought to a finish before he has time to
think he is tired of it all
Next to cold dinner man dislikes q
garrulous woman. Understand the mean
ing of golden silence" Silence is not
perhaps brilliant. but it is dignified and
sometimes convincing. Know the time
to speak. When man returns at night,
give him caresses and consomme, and
when he leaves in the morning make
your menu of silence and steak. Men
begin to discuss the question, lis mar
riage a failure?" when they find they
have married piece of bisque instead
OF helpmeet in whose companionship
they foresaw so much happiness. Con-
vince man that you know just little
less than he does and he will think he
has married an up-to-date angel. But
recollect that man would rather sit
tete-a-tete with Banquos ghost than
with the woman who has impressed him
with her mental superiority-if that
woman is his wife.
Whipping posts are out of fashion,
but if they are ever sold at the stores we
will buy one to tie the ''nagging" wom-
an to-the woman who finds fault with
everything, from the shape of mans
head to the space within it. Then there
is the woman who takes the utmost
pleasure in telling mans faults or fail
ings to the general public. Before long
there will be cause for divorce. If you
do not respect your husband, no one else
will
A man will forgive woman for not
being second Helen of Troy in point
of beauty, or rival Nine dc Stael as a
wit, but he will never forgive you for
not looking after the little things in re-
gard to his comfort. Make your home
as attractive as you can in every way.
1t is not necessary to have worked
motto in many hued worsteds that
Cleanliness is next to godliness" in ev.
cry room, but do have it engraved on
the tablet of your heart See that your
meals are served with the punctuality
that will assure you respect from your
husband-and your cook.
Convince him that you can draw clever
people about. As old Ben Jonson once
said, IF a man would have fine guests,
let him have fine wife" Let him think
you can entertain any one from clerk
to congressman with equal tact.
We often hear Of some dowdy looking
woman who talks with vocabulary of
900 words and is about five years behind
hand in her dress and ideas complaining
that she cannot keep her husband at
home; cigars and the club are her rivals.
Perhaps 10 years ago you knew her as
bright, lively girl Of 20; always well
groomed, happy in the attentions of de-
voted fiance. As a consequence they
married. Neither understood the other,
and little by little they drifted apart,
not understanding what the obstacle
was.
Her household affairs proved an excuse
for her inability to keep up her music,
in spite of her husbands fondness for it.
Day by day as she realized her husband
did not notice what she wore, her dainty
taste in dress became thing of the past.
She never read, for her husband did not
fatter her by caring to know her opin-
ions Feeling she was out of the world,
she did not accept invitations Of O social
nature, and consequently did not enter
tain. In short space of time she was
forgotten by the majority of her friends.
Her only comfort in life is the fact she
is devoted mother-surely misnomer.
Had she given less time to making drawn
work yokes for her babies and spent it
with the latest magazines, house cleaned
twice instead of four times year, so as
to have been able to have swept the cob
webs from her brain, her life might be
different.
The title of devoted mother" should
not be gained at the risk Of becoming an
unattractivo wife, for she owes a duty
to her husband and society as well as her
children, and is disloyal to all when she
allows herself to develop intoa household
drudge and nouentity.
The golden rule" for letting the bonds
Of matrimony weigh as lightly as posi-
BILE is to treat man In the same manner
as You did when you so successfully file.
the role of sweetheart--onlybe better. This
view is all one side, no doubt, but then
the definition of woman's love is SUR
render and service"
NJ. j. Chiffon.
A stiitsa ConversAtion.
AN IS