The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1893-11-01

With Happiness Around the FIreside
at Home, Old Age VIII Find You
Blessed In the Love of Those
Whom You Have
Reared.
Every now and then some rich mans
daughter up North runs away with
the coachman or negro or some de-
signing scamp who is on the make and
slips up on the old man while he is
asleep-not asleep to his business OF
piling up money but asleep to his FAM
! lily that they rarely see him except ON
Sunday aud never get close up to him
as children love TO do unless they are
repelled by indifference or unkindness.
"KnoWing that thou vert an ausstere
man" fits many father now and the
children soon get weaned and so does
the wife. That girl at ST. Paul would
never have married negro man If she
had had kind fathers love and
care. OF course she has wrecked her
hopes of happiness, and her parents
are to blame for it. Her home was
not happy. BE We not unequally
yoked," sayeth the Scripture and every
violation of this Injunction brings
grief to the girl, the victim and the
/ family. The scamp who works the
scheme is generally bought off and re-
tired. Solomon says: "He that
troubleth his own house shall inherit
the wind.n No husband or wife, mol
son or daughter has any right to bring
ftrouble within that sacred domain
called home. was ruminating about
this because the daily papers are OIL
late so full of domestic grief. 1t looks
like there is hardly family. in the
!, land but what soma member OF it has
brought trouble to all the rest. look
over the community where l live and
the number is small where there Is no
shadow-no secret sorrow. A fathers
bad habit, q mothers discomfort, a
8 sons dissi patton or daughters frailty
= have troubled and still are troubling
many household that might other
!. wise be happy. "A happy home is the
ONLY paradise upon the earth and who
ever makes it unhappy is as guilty as
:. was the serpent that destroyed the
r peace of Eden. The domestic fireside
is the most sacred place upon the
= earth. Blackstone says that by the
: laws of England mans house is his
s castle into which the king of England
: dare not enter uninvited. am sure
g that our people generally do not value
'' the privileges and endearments OF their
n homes. do not mean the house with
its adornings nor the flowers in the
b front yard, but do mean the sweet
!. communion of the family by the fire
+ side or under the lamplight or in the
r dining room or sitting in the veranda,
e and all the time loving each other and
;, sympathizing with those who nave
J. suffered or are suffering the Affections
that are common to US all. If every
lmember of a family who ia old enough
to think would only resolve to bring
nothing but sunshine into the house
/. hold how happy would they be. This
can be done. 1t is easy to do. A man
has no right to enter his own door
with O cloud upon his brow aud bad
temper in his htart. His coming
should always rejoice his wife and bis
children. A woman has no right to
be always complaining about little
things aud showing her discomfort in
a thousand ways and keeping the chill
dren in a state of constant alarm for
fear mother will make fuss about it,
t. There should never be frOwn at the
dinner table nor at the morning OF
evening meal, nor should there be that
dismal silence that sometimes bro0ds
over the feast and takes away the ap.
petite Food taken in silence will not
digest. The bed and the hoard should
always be cheerful. The sleep will
r not he sweet when there are tears
e upon the pillow. would he afraid
h to scold child just before the eyes
g. were closed in sleep. The responsible.
# ity is greater upon the parents than
upon the children. If the father is
loving and companionable TO his boys,
they would be mnre apt to stay al
=, home and not wander off into bad
:, company. They would not speak OF
>, him as "the old man." They would
:. not be wsiting for HIM to die 80 that
!, they might inherit his estate.
If the mother was always gentle
|, and kind and reasonable with her girls
y they would love home too well to
:, - make run-away match or to receive
\ the attentions of unprincipled young
= men. "Make home happy" should
= be the watchword In every family. 1t
q u is well enough to have the little prayer,
= =, "God Bless Our Home" painted or
:, worked in canvas and overhanging
y the mantle, but our Creator will not
i do for US what we can do ourselves.
= There are two kinds of home-sickness
~ sick of home and sick for home. I
e know a lassie who, not long ago.
9 was sent away to college and she
grieved 80 at the separation from the
loved ones at hume, and her home
sick letters were 80 full of tears, that
: she was at last permitted to return.
= Her companions laugh at her and
: make sport of her childish weakness.
e but have more regard for her than ]
ever did. She loves her home too
< dearly to-leave it for any common low
e er. She can get education enough
here, even if the polish is not as fine
! as it might have beenImade elsewhere.
t It is far better to be sick for home than
q sick of home. When was sent off to
: college was miserable for awhile and
could not conceal it from my room.
l mate, who made fun of me and talked
, about my mothers apron string, but
8 he had no mother and could not un-
derstand my distress. When the
term was out and was TO 60 home |
did not wait for the sun to rise but
Y left Athens by moonlight, about 3
= O'Clock riding horseback with little
: negro boy behind me and made the
, forty-four miles in time to surprise the
3 family at the dinner table. What
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