Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1893-05-14

ssuis on ho.a sils's IS the cir
- cninttance demanding sympathy.
b~ata Is bal enough, but /, IL
BY 90 tuc.n- The worst N0st Of L. have.
ecca Through that dark aad terrible hour
whca that which 49, r.e-i our al IA, seei
iai! away trora our sigh, AMI from
Ain1ng nlen. and or friends have coins
drs-sfzi IA soflb-r clothes. And with s,rn-
Or 4nd 81 cOgEtcnauc.s have one by
one Resisted upon L.yIng bare the wound
W. aulI fam bilo under our mourning
glsTO aud expressing mOre or less crude
~. moro oF les ishcaisly, the sympathy
or - h.ch ta-y have come 10 as-ur, Us
II II a social Necessity that they saouli
CONE. We should feel surprised AMI
sligttfrl !. they dld not. and We 10 not
dream e shirking ,he painful duty either
OF receiving or % paying visits ot condo
lencs. hnd yet often wonder IL il would
not D. wrH - iudncs a social revolution
wherein this aud several other time hon.
ored customs should b. swept awav.
Time hoEOrvd indeed. for speak ,nx Il
t''is nstfsT tho other day 20 friend I
~as toll that when Job fell into allie
appointment To meet and make q collect
i've call 0f confidence. But--ani here
piesrss obssrve the superiority Of discre
uou N tue days Of Job COMPARED with
ogrs-having arrived with job they sat
down Gpun IA. ground. and for Sven
GsvS and nights nobody spoke word,
Now Ne don't have time in this era to
mt Ill
til prv~-ncs Of cur friends. but I often
tuDs n orr custom WAS "a 60 and sit
seven MINUTES. more or less, beside our
fr1s,id AMI then ~ away with a mute
cs,-rss or clasp q the hand. how much
better u would 10 than 20 try - say
~5fisfhiHg and thar generally the yyron.
thlag SHALL Esver forget u dear little
nnconvrut.Ona! widow whom I wen. 20
So Just after the sudden and shocisin,
death - her Young husband
IL WIS 80 gooiof you to come. out,
Oh do1t say . word-not one words"
xss,Sd size. and I almost literally COM
phsi
W. bereavement Is bal enough. and
90 very few. u 10 any - u given o. sIeak
To-. v-ofa.s % comfort or rcassIrance
But i.err ars sorrOws far more cruel
than dsaifn. tnsrs are b.'rcavemeuts sud
d.. AaI more hopeless than those Il the
grave. aud q; - IN these that sympathy
nsay in'leed despair VI G;!y expressing.
fts.if even by sitting silent seven days
an nights IN - presence.
\ iutu Ia sona prominent position az
trust tecuul"s a aefsulter and rams
away. ifavinx his wife and family -
bar %. Shame and notorie.y OF hIs
CRIME. psrhtp= i.svinS thcm in poverty
sal dfn, - well. for very few criminals
ssIufaif but one kind Of SIN. a ,iefsul,sr
"a usua.iy intensely selfish and considers
a. ugvu desires 50 exclusively that he
DOT oflv appr pirates moneys not his
owl cat h.s reighbors wife a. well. and
l. utterly ~ilious "a - the suffering ot
al s.r'- 30 wiich p. condemns the WON
an ttwf1.ly his ussn
Ne,V saf ~vnpatby can one express
- such Iaourner a. that Wife, Nh8;
wurd y, MA s.ern other taan pr.-suruJ.-
tn,ris asd intrusive 20 such tsrsavs-
m..u-s AID yat ~ all 10 fesl sorry for
her 80 AL dp loras. 20 lct her know 1:
AM - rotnfor- her
s-,if,, - "a who have struggled in deep
waters ourselves shrink from che at
t,In.g and contrivr some other mode u
Shawn re tFue sympathy Va fell. sn,l
80 'h~re h. gr.ef - deeply lived with
sbsas shat f.~ifIv~ly DO notice shogid
- tsksp = iteven hor ~ flowers,
sven n-w tsvss ~ . ard. would ssrv,
% biat ~ coa,.uienra So, strongly. anil
~ r.sui-Int-r ttat taongh speech - nj
veru ai,uea q, often golden
Hgs So sgsiu fhere ara srisfs even
de.y-r and Etara sensitive than thss u
tlss .sis'lrsl af.l deserted wife. thsre -
o. sgusY = sharns not 20 - shifted .,
ether shoulders Lln ones very own
s,.-re "a hsrvsv@ulent known "a all III,
world and ~ which the emf rsr would
soa bale from even her own eyes. ,ni
tins a when woman hss too realty
v,elds-I ap her 81 -,-finrs o. che who .inl-
plv araus.d hiusslf ~ffn her ea~V re-
S.ltv. and WHEN her Devotion began "a,
pnli he kis-s.i AMI r-ir away Ever
srs in a.. h'-le xsrli knows ne wltol.
s.srv The malicious whisper ~ 81.
90 threw herself az hi- as-,d- WHIST could
a.. rru~~.sT' Ire siadsr hearted enes
snrnaur Foor thing | 'vas afraid pa
arl,t mean anything Ant The shsr7-
est sr,nz = h-r nlsr-iicstIon = thff -he
fnfrs- thar they AT kaow and arr scora-
isss ai h4r or pitviRz her. Suil s1e ctn
bar s a. iong a. noa,''ly ssys snyfh'ng.
bus thsy I'll
Tier. az. sure - - st lsa-s -'~p ~
IT,. NrH rnesnins fools who want 10
sxpr-~s tb~'T svmpsthv- who n fact IN
rst up,'n iging 80 IN spite - all ~
wrxSls- sasi - ntSrxs D. their vic-rn-ss
tslpls-s ~ a r. sn&sv q rr'stchsd STICK.
VII cruel ~ At fhe ofher sri. -.
nacrs -sVr'ssssiY froS n the cir,t-hss
81 = vivis-stionts'- ~ho = determined %
isr yer, the thr,lhtinys - per f-cgys.
S-sr+s N the in-s--s~.s q humanity THE
srn2~sa,s>r essi~- Der rssas. she waite
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