The gold leaf. [volume] (Henderson, N.C.) 1881-1911, 1893-05-11

What She Says, and Study it Care
fully.
Marion Harland has this TO say on
chosng a wife:
Mrs. Hannah Moore tells US in
dreary three volume tale how Celebs
-stufflest of pen-and-ink prigs-chose
wife.
Who in modern and real life imi-
tates his example?
Fortune hunters seek "with smiles
and with soap the probable possessors
of plethoric purses; the returned mis-
sionary, on a brief furlough, consults
the brethren, and presumably the
Lord, in the selection of fellow amor
bearer with devout inclinations and
stout constitution quadruply bereaved
widowers, wider awake than bachelors
to sense of the uncertainty of the
time and earthly things, make haste
to be wise Cor foolish) and set forth
marriage feasts with funeral meats still
luke-w warm.
These are economic and prudential
contracts, legal enough, but wanting
in all else that makes the joining to-
gether in wedlock of man and woman
an honorable marriage in the sight OF
Heaven.
Love that sanctifes, faith that ele-
Yates, the hope that is well-sprlng Of
joy and comfort in heart and home,
are an omnipotent three that bring
down to earth the kingdom of Heaven.
But it cometh not with observa ton.
Women oftener choose husbands
than men wives, paradoxical though
the statement may sound. The over
lures of courtship, however impetuous,
give them the advantage in perspective
in Judging of sutors' merits. Once in
a generation Juliet meets Romeo fully
half way-perhaps a little over-but
the full tide runs in the direction of
mans approach and woman's waiting.
Women are enticed, argued, led by
cunningly devised stages into love.
Men "fall'' in how easily and fatally,
Addison narrates in his immortal list
of "killed and wounded" ct. S.
killed by Zelinda's scarlet stocking as
she was stepping out of a coach. Tim
Tattle killed by the tap of a fan. x x
Sir Simon Softly murdered at the play
house in Drury lane by a frown. W.:
W. Killed by an unknown hand, that
was playing with the glove off, upon
the side of the front box. Dick
Tastewell slain by blush. Musdorn
slain by an arrow that flew out of a
dimple in Flavia's lett cheek,' etc.
Shakespeare shows US his lover in
diting sonnets to his mistress eyebrow,
from which bow, we may surmise,
sped the shaft that brought him down.
Verify, in view of the exceedingly
promiscuous' character of the acci-
dents that guide Celeb's choice, he
has reason to cling, as for life, to tie
beliefth matches are made in Heaven.
Otherwise he has little show" in the
mighty lottery,
The only hope that the few hints
friends can throw out for his guidance
may be needed, is in the theory that
~~reversing the order of the miracle
none upon the blind man-there is a
moment in which the eyes rest clear
and critical, see through the first folds
of Cupid's bandage, women as trees
walking. When the silken tissue is
once firmly adjusted, observation is
complete. After that no experience,
save his own, and that dearly bought,
can eplighten him. TO vary the figure
the love fit is cupable only in the
inlipient stages, This opportunity
lost it must run its course.
1t is pity! We know SO we'll what
goes to make up the ideal wife we lose
patience with him who blindly seizes
upon the opposite type OF woman OF
upon one who is no type at all. 1t is
therefore with the feelings OF one who
beateth the air that / sit me down tC
see the preparation of this paper.
once knew a man who bore the
burden for ten years Of a hopelessly
Invalid wife. He was heroiCally pa
tient under the cross, and mourned
sincerely when the racked and wasted
body was laid out Of his arms upon the
one bed to which pain never comes
Meeting him two years afterward
congratulated him upon his secone
betrothal, saying that had heard ht
was singularly fortunate in his choice
"Thank you,' said the honest fel
! low, simply, 81 bt!!eve she is per
fectly healthy"
Begin we where he left off. Healtl
! of body, freedom from SO much as
$ proclivity to organic disease, is con
sideration SO important to one VIII
/ anticipates marriage that the wonde
: grows in thoughtful minds at the habit
' ual disregard of the question. It ma
, be chivalric to undertake the charg
of an ailing woman, and benevoler
to smooth her pathway TO the tomb
It but the chlldless widower who ha
dvelt for the best years of bis life i
e the yallew of the shadow OF death, {
the frantic father who sees the deve
" opment in MS offspring Of the drea
malady that cursed their mothers e,
d istence, may we'll deplore the earl
madness that has borne such fruit.
man has but one life. That spoile
there is no redress Without full az
quiescence in Darvin's dogma, til;
K legislation should step in here to prt
,ect the race, we can hardly state t,
=. forcibly the fundamenta fact that +
u diseased man or woman has a NOR
: right to marry.
a. Said a young divine in asking az
''iYice in dispassionate and Celebsis