Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1893-10-16
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IF WOMEN PROPOSED.
What Would Happen if Progressive Wom-
an Sought Man In Marriage.

What Would Happen if Progressive Wom-
an Sought Man In Marriage.
Mr.. Ward McAllister is ordinarily a
warm admirer of Mr.. Henry Labou-
chere, who, like himself. is eminent in
society and journalism, although Mr..
McAllister is greater in the first respect
and MI. Laboucherc in the second. But
Mr. McAllister has no liberation for the
British editors suggestion that women
should propose.
"It seems to me-" said Mr.. NcAllister,
"that Labouchere's mental faculties
must have been seriously affected by ad-
vancing g when he made such a sug-
gestion. 1t is preposterous, sir. There
is no sense in it either from the mans
Or wonnan's point of view.
Human nature will nave to change
before this scheme can be carried out,
and however far women's rights may
have advanced within recent years hui
man nature remains the same thing in
many respects. 1t is a natural law that
the man should seek the woman not a
social convention. When the woman
seeks the man, it will be about time for
marriages to cease altogether. AS long
as men have any desire to get married
they will offer themselves. When they
nave ceased to care about marriage, it
won't help the women at all to propose.
''The woman who seeks a man will
drive him away. In palmer words, the
woman who makes a proposal of mar
rage will be rejected. The more per-
sistent she presses her suit the more OBJ
stinately he will avoid her. The shy
ness Of a prosecuted ma under these
circumstances would be a thing that
would surprise Mr.. L~abouchere. Man
is naturally more bashful than woman.
Il he thought himself in danger of a pro-
posal from a strong minded woman, he
would so away and hide. Woman can
only attract by a passive attitude. She
has no doubt q way of making love, out
to lie successful she must avoid any
Of the open, straightforward advances
which are natural to man. Her attitude
must be passive.
IF a woman asked me to kiss her, |
should decline to do so. Ihave, in fact,
had more than one such experience. The
request takes away any inclination to
comply with it. 1t may be laid down as
a general rule that a man does not want
W h1So tIS WOuldI WHO asks LIu1 10.
How much less will he care to marry
the woman who asks him to-!
1.-The only excuse for such a reversal
of the natural way of doing things would
be an economical one. The woman's
life is probably rendered more unhappy
than the mans by inadequate means to
carry on the household. Perhaps the
people who are in favor of women pro- |
posing think that they would only choose
men fit to be husbands. But as things
are now the, are able to reject the I'M
deserving, and, as have said, they could
hope to capture the husbands they
desired by pursuing them, because they
would never catch up with them. Even
If women did choose their partners for
without waiting to be asked, there
IS no reason to believe they would show
9ny more sense han the men or any
more than they themselves do now.
"a great deal of unhappiness is caused
nowadays by the modern laws which
a woman to keep her income en-
.irely separate from that of her hus-
I am very old fashioned in this
[ believe that wherever there
s a division of financial interest in a
home there is likely to be unhappiness.
A wife's income should not be separated
ron her husbands. Young men with
out money should not marry women
a great deal of money, who will be
n a position at any time to tell them to
go away
81 have made some very serious re-
marks on this subject, and they are
for. There is no knowing to
What length these progressive women
vii go. They have done nothing but
larm already, carrying domestic I'M
happiness wherever they co. New
Kork World.