The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1893-05-20
SOCIAL INpIscRETIoNs.
Contemplate Conduct of Young Me
Toward Young Women.

COntemptlDle COnduCC OF lOunS MSn
Toward Young Women.
One of the most common social indis-
cretions of which young men are guilty
is the practice of visiting at houses
where there are young ladies who are
more or less attractive and the singing
out for special courtesies of some par
ticular member Of the family. As GUS
tom has decreed this to be the initia-
tory step to matrimony, it is often the
case that young ladies accept such at
tentions; and, as they become more
and more marked, take it for granted
that matrimonial intentions are in the
mind of the individual. Society does
not permit either question or sugges-
tion from the young woman, and, as
time goes on, other young men take it
for granted that said young lady is
spoken for and turn their attentions
elsewhere.
If the apparently devoted lover is not
| in earnest and is merely amusing him
self, some day, without reason or an
explanation, he discontinues his visits
and leaves the young woman and her
| family in state of wonder bordering
on amazcment. Something must be
wrong. Have they quarreled, Or what
is the matter? OF course, the young
lady is perplexed, maybe hurt, possibly
heart-brolsen, for she may have become
deeply interested. The queries and
curiosity of her friends are very hard
| to bear, and nine times out of ten she
is blamed or accused of flirting. There
is nothing in the world so difficult Us
the attempt to justify oneself in cases
of this kind. OF course, all that she
can say is that she knows nothing
about the reason. The young man
when questioned says he has no reason,
never had any serious intentions, mere
ly liked to go there, and that is all
there is to it. This is selfish way OF
declaring that he chose to find an
agreeable place to pass his time, and
when he found one that pleased him bet
ter had perfect right to transfer his
attentions.
temptible in the extreme. While it is
true that young man may not always
desire to marry where he visits, it is
quite possible for him SO to distribute
his attentions that no one shall be dis
tressed or made unhappy, but this does
not answer his purpose as well. Under
such circumstances he would have to
take his chances with the casual caller,
but he prefers to have somebody on the
lookout for him, always interested in
his coming and always glad to devote
herself to entertaining him.
The social code should prescribe some
very peremptory fashion of dealing
with cases of this kind, Until this is
done, it would be much better for the
family, the young woman and, indeed,
the young man himself, were the
parents and friends Of the girl after q
reasonable time to demand some decla.
ration of intentions. No wrong could
come of this, and it would save much
unhappiness. 1t would, in addition to
this, show to trifiers and those young
men who go in society merely for the
saks Of being amused, that they cannot
indulge their desire for society at the
expense of somebody's slss comfort and
happinesA IN. X. Ledger.
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why do not Philadelphians resent the
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