Bismarck weekly tribune. [volume] (Bismarck, Dakota [N.D.]) 1884-1943, 1893-09-22
MAN AND WIFE At A WEDDING
Tho Feelings Of Tw" People Who A,,.,.
MnrriaSo Ceremonies.

1lnrrlage Ceremonies,
1t is not known that women ever
going to weddings or are ever ulycrs.ir.ms
fectcd thereby in their spirits, but mnnrn
mar welcomes May dizzy every year fnr ~"
relief it brings to his emotions. for 4 ;s s"t
notorious that the average married ~
shuns weddings as that the average ma, ="
glorics in them. The reason whyi is ohscnr"
1t can hardly be said TINT Beatrice ;s NY
less conscious of the hazards of the mnrr;"aa
state than Bcncdick, yet Beatrice glori.s ~
hymeneal displays, and goes early to church
to get n seat next to the isle, and st,r.s
with all her eyes when the bridal proccss;on
goes by, whereas Benedick goes as latr -
Beatrice will let him and sees no NOR. 90
what is going on than he can conveniently
help. OF course this contrast in dcmc,nn,
is due in some degree to the superior com.
petence of Beatrice as a judge of attire.
A woman who does not love clothes is,
woman with n defect. There are sonnI
Scriptural grounds for attaching high i'm.
portance to wedding garments, and in So
far as Beatrice's passion for weddings is
due to an earnest desire to see what tho
bride, and the bridesmaids, and the ladies
of 1.-THE family" have on, her presence in
the church needs neither to be cxplain.I
nor justified. But that is far from bcinr
the whole secret Of the phenomenon. Aside
from her reasonable interest in attire. sho
likes weddings because they are weddings
The spectacle seems to inspire her. Bc,,e.
dick will &c to see n friend married with
dccorous resignation, but Beatrice will %
to any wedding, whether she knows m.
contracting parties or not, provided the in.
convenience is not too great and she can
get n ticket to the church.
There must be a reason for these CON.
trastcd sentiments. Perhaps it is that WON.
en- see in every marriage the triumph Of
their own sex and the subjugation of IN.
other man. And possibly the men See the
same thing. Zone morc-poor man-mp.
DONE" is what the wedding bells are trali.
%tionally understood to be proclaiming. To
Benedick, as a man, the newly married pair
as they come down the aisle suggest one ol
two alternatives. The new husband will
either be a bad husband or n good one. II
he is a bad husband, he will neglect his
wife, or come home ipsy and maltrcat her
or flirt with other women and make her
wretchcd, or be jealous and make it hard
for her to have n reasonable amount of fun.
If, on the contrary, he is n good husband,
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making her happy. She will get the bes,
of what he has, and no one else thereafter
will get any more of his friendship or his
society than she can conveniently spare.
Neither of these alternatives fills Bcnp.
dick with entire satisfaction. OF course he
hates to see q man start out to be Il bad
husband, and yet for personal reasons he
cannot assist with absolute enthusiasm az
the making of n truly good one. But Bea,
trice has III such qualms. She will not
grant for an instant that it is ever a pity to
spoil II good bachelor. She either ignores
altogether the possibility that the groom
will prove n bad husband, or else she arms
herself against that chance by the assump.
ton that II bad husband is better than
none. If Bcnedick is good to her, and she
is sure thai nc other woman will ever get a
man like him, she is still willing that every
other woman should find that out. And if
he is Il brute she does not think evil OF
marriage in consequence, but simply re.
members that it is necessary that the cards
shall be dealt before there can be develop
menJ of trumps.
Finally Bencdick, out of his large cx-
perience of mankind, is pretty well con.
WINGED that nc man is really fit to marry a
truly nice girl. But Beatrice is confident
that every sweet maid of her acquaintance
is good enough for the best man on earth
and sure to make him happy. And so she
beams her benediction on the passing bride,
while Benedick looks down into the lining
of his hat and bushes for his sex.-Har-
per's Weekly.