The Bessemer indicator., 1893-05-20
IOyE-MAKING TROUBLE.
COURTS HIP iS A NECESSARY
EXPERIMENT.
Many and V-xatious Arc the Worries
That lielonK to It-LittIo ThinEs
Then Assume Threaten
lag Proportions

Considering all its possible after
effects. it Is undoubtedly very risky
thing to fall in love. no matter how
pleasant 1t may seem ut first taste, 1t
is even u more serious matter to be-
gin courtship Although love and
courtship seem just as incident 10
youthful mankind as the whooping
cough and measles to infantile hu-
Inanity. it is no less certain that
their effects upon the nervous system,
The character, the prospects, and the
pocket are still more serious and
permanent in their results.
just as the happiness OF II lifetime
may depend upon tho glance of u
sparkling eye or the blush OF a maid
ems check. so IL simple accidental
meeting which ripens into acquaint-
ance, and thence into courtship, may
be responsible for thousands of human
pains and Joys. The feeling of love
itself has been described as q sort Of
sweet agony, and an itching at the
heart which you can not get at to al
leviate. Almost everyone out OF his
teens has at some time during his life
had more or less experience at court
ing-we use the oldtime word.
1t may have amounted to nothing
beyond the usual school boys esca-
pade OF losing his heart TO dnmsel
quite ten years his senior, who, II
she did not entirely ignore the state
of his feelings only noticed him to
giggle at him, while she declined all
overtnres, backed up though thoy
were by liberal offers of apples and
candies.
Few of those who sro already in
love would willingly be argued
out OF it, says Answers, bat most
lovers would have to admit the
pleasures of courtship have their
penalties. Probably there is no more
trying time in a persons career than
this, and 1t is an experience we'll cal
culated to put ones fortitude, pa.
thence, self-denial, and all other vir-
tues to the test. Many people would
doubtless confess that they never knew
days complete and unalloycd hap
piness till they crowned their wooing
in matrimony.
Though 1t must, unfortunately, he
said of many of both sexes that when
they marry their troubles begin, the
matrimonial state may. however, be
quite as often recommended to the
love sick as a panacea for the little
worries and anxietics which proceed
from court hip.
Not that it would be generally ad-
visablc to dispense with courtshiT
altogether, as did the celebrated Dir.
Abernethy. whose marriage, though
1t turned ont happy, was tho most
prosaic and unromantic affair posi-
BILE. he absolutely refusing to waste
his time on sentiment, and bein. ac
cepted Immediately on proposal
Courtship. apart from romance, is il
most cases n necessary experiment
and trial by which two persons may
learn to know each other suffi ficientls
to know each other moro. Lover
must have an opportunity to see eaci
other in their various moods. an;
during such an experience it is but t.
be expected that many small misun
derstundings will arise.
These, to tho sensitive lovers mint
VIII DC HnttSHiheu' "Hu pos9ip'.
brooded over till even coolness-
only affected, perhaps, bat none tn
less vcxatious to bolh-springs NJ
between the doting pair.
Then there often ariso nnmerou
causes, real or imaginary, general.
the latter. for one suspecting III
protc ssions OF the other. Som
may feel panied even in conccivin
these professions too good to he true
but it is rarely that lovers feel them
selves loved cxactly a. they feel the
deserve. however modcst they ma
seem.
A lover may compare his inalnt
rata's eyes to Diamonds, hor lips I
rubies and tcr teeth to poar,E, Il.