The Big Stone Gap post. [volume] (Big Stone Gap, Wise County, Va.) 1892-1928, 1893-07-13
MARRIAGE.
WHO. WHEN AND WHY TO
MARRY.
Some Sensible Advise to Love
Sick" Couples.

Some Sensible Advise to Love
Sick" Couples.
Mrs. $. w. Thackcr, in response
to an inquiry from friend as to her
idea of marriage and welded life,
has written him the following sensi-
bic letter
Dear Tom
have puzzled considerably how
best to put together an answer to
your request that | should give you
my "vicws on matrimony'
am more than ever an advocate
Of marriage and want to make that
statement rery emphatic right at
first, because my "don'ts" might
lead you to think otherwise. say
to all men: marry just as soon as
you're fully able, but not one instant
sooner Now cable" means more
than having money to live on in COM
fort; it means having sufficient
strength, physically, mentally, NOR
ally and rcligiouSly to live joyously
If woman must not "Marry a man
to reform him." neither should 8
man marry Il woman to mould her
character. He must have sufficient
strength in himself to accept her rs
She is and attune his character to
suit hers-shc must do likewise, thus
putting the harmony of accord into
the chords of their lives. Wealth
isn'n at all necessary. If your in
come is sufficient to meet all demands
rs they come, that is all that could
BE wished. But if your income isn't
settled, if you have the very faintcst
hcsitancy about speaking to your
hearts queen of any of your bust
ness affairs, or of your financial stu
alton, ventures, etc, don't marry
her. She may not understand buSl-
moss papers, stocks, etc, but il You
are not sure Of Intelligent sym pathy
{ | use the word in its meaning as de-
rived from its parts i'll all your plans
She is not the one to he your wife:
don't marry her. Love is not enough
to marry ON. even believe il is not
the most important factor OF welded
happiness. i. c. that kind of love
which means reel procity of kissing
and Of bestowinS pet phrases and OF
blindness to faults, and other follics.
Because | know IA young couple who
loved Gin this way) oh, so well; an'l
oh, so-much- morc-so, not wisely.
They married as their young hearts
dictac; the hcud had been entirely
left out; he hadn't one habit, his af-
fairs were all ship-shapc, and "oh,
he loved her SOL" She was Il model
Girl, a Sunday school worker, She
had lent her voice to the church
choir and her aid to other church
works and "shc was perfectly dcvo-
ted to him." His new home was
in a place where ''houSc servant"
was name only. Hired help that
would stay at the honsc was an i'm
possibility, and the fond young bride
had to assume household work, rcut
york; and she knew nothing al I'll
about it. The doting %room's health
faiicd, because Cupid in the pario:
before marriage and Cupid i'll the
kitchen after marriage had no SYM
patty with each other; didn't match.
He is fond of flowers, she can't sue
coed with them; he loves dogs, She
does not, and will not feed them, SO
all his dogs die; he loves chickens,
she doesn't know how to manage
them, so the hens leafs their heads
OFF, and make no returns. She is
as sweet-lisposcd a creature as | ev-
er knew, but she married the wrong
man. Neither two had sufficient
inherent strength to accept the other
as each one is, and harmonic their
characters. She doesn't know how
to do q single thing but dress the
baby as taught her by the nurse, and
that takes her two hours every day.
Everything about the house is his to
think of. There is not a thought OF
his which she "meets half way"
They are not complimentary souls;
their reciprocity was only of affec-
ton. They sit for hours together in