New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1893-05-07
HOME AND SOCIETY.
CHAT OF THE SEASON.

CAN MALE FLIRT.
our American girls are clever. There are no girls
more clever: but one lesson many of them fail to
learn. and that is the lesson Of good manners 1t
Is true that generally the mothers, the natural teach
crs are most at fault; but they in their turn are
ignorant too. and where Is the reform begin 1t
does not seem difficult for these girls to pick mp
the affectation OF peculiar handshake. the use OF
fashionable English expressions. the knowledge of
many things they had better leave unknown but the
learning OF good manners often TO be too lard
a task too old fashioned accomplishment TO be
worth acquiring. Do girls think they become
more attractive by induging in noisy talk and laugh
ter In public places like hotel parlors7 Do they
imagine that hoydcnish ways of throwing themselves
about In conspicuous places add single womany
charm, that the lack OF courtesy and consideration
toward their elders makes them more to be admired
They need not adopt the European girls air Of
dependence. but they mig1t well initiate her manners
in many ways. Let them keep little more In the
background not making themselves the central figure
in their secreated picture; above ALL let them
If their hearts do not make then fccl-the respect
a Continental girl shows her mother; not dragging
her about here and there TO suit their own selfish
pleasure or ignoring her existence when they
slder her in tie way. American girls may think
themselves queens their native soil but they need
not regard their maternal relatives ladies n-wa
ing In some foreign lands princesscs kiss their
mothers hands.
A century or so ago bsquc figures were not infre-
ouenly used table decorations. centrepece con-
sistng of group and two single figures Ior el'her
end of the table. These purely ornamental.
some modern hostesses have adapted the idea TO
present use combining the useful and the ornamental
To the dainty bisque figures with which they decorate
their fesal boards attached large bowls Tor fruits
or flowers. quaint little shepherdess presiding owe.
n mass OF white daisies, or rural SWAIN Win s'"ii
basket of red cherries his feet. would be pctr
a In tabl
Tbera may he seen on sale din Washington to-day
n beautiful and well preserved miniature OF Brian
Fairfax. tie eighth and last Baron Fairfax his
xa,hor was Thomas Fairfax. the sixth Baron, VINO
,a-r,ea before coming 10 this country the daughter
~ Lord Cupepper. At time he owned o'-o-'oVo
acres of land in Virginia and lived III royal sNie Vi,
his vast possessions. lie was president OF the cou
established for the government OF Tue COLONY wv Nv
returned TO England before the Revoutiohar! wal,
ona os he was a loyalst great deal OF his lanoed
estate IN tNis country contiscated. Ills son
Robert became the seventh Baron In que nhie' ou'
- he died soon after, chidless. MS younger o'o'H
Rrian succeeded to the title and estates. Dl'd" IL
moined In the United States. preiernhg lie "cedo''
and associations Of this country. and being huc II,
-, ,,,h Co,opal Carey's daughter. They marrlea
end settled In the mansion of Folsom Hail. wh'c" na
hsen occupied by Thomas Fairfax When He was ~
greatest andholder of Virginia
The beautiful portrait above referred 10 represents
p-ia
"a for his wife, and was handsomely set in goa as
- ornausnt She wore the gift with pride among
- costly laces: possibly she wore 1t ON the occ"sioh
xrhen George Washington came down 10 s'aiiu spon
sor at the baptism Of her third son. Lolu f'
and washington personal friends i"ere VIZ
,nrae sons but they supposed 10 nave uie' y"
childhood as we hear no more OF 'hehi' OnN s"o
- aorch,er Anne was left. No otner sun e"i9
20 make clad the Hall of Folsom and ih.en' 'he uu,
Of Baron of Fairfax. Al least lou years na'e -
ssnce this picture painted Dut IL Is do VIM "
c,,orinc as when 1t came from the hahos Vi o's a.
,,s, There are now living only three uesoeiu""'
% Rrion Fairfax, two of them being ht'ie chiia'.
no-,, has come to the race, and the mother VI 'ne
, babies 10 whom this picture belongs oy heii'a-.
has MI, il on sale that they may nave o'eau'
,yes not the caamihes OF war that prousn' . w
soo,dants OF Lord Fairfax to this poverty ~ voc
the slow dwndhng away OF ian'ns CIV 90 Iecav
mense wealth they possessed by proo'0 " ~. .,
49,. a, harder 10 bear than the sharper acclueh's u
war;
NIL ,,o, punert Craven, brother of the Earl
-. raven who married Miss Cornela si"run
daughter of Bradley Martin, has not Nm
,h.t the so-called dancing classes III
York are not for the instruction OF lhlah', ~ ~.
rraces OF the ballroom, but are eA'reniei' i
No and exclusive dances Talking Will so'e
,uercans he said Really, you know, some Vi your
customs seem very extraordinary to me- no" pi
hans I don't dance very well, IN TACT uon ola''
- ,rau fnt think it was little bit rough Oil d
fellow, YOU Know TO invite him 10 'oin "'Ne
class Really 1t seems very ooo'
,hoea fair Long islanders who value thelr hechs
e., tho hunting field should lay to heart tne ii.e -,
,mportance Of beginning their equestrian p
,earning to ride without reins without 'nrs 'e' ON
,,o, certain though uncOnscously to interfere VIII"
-, borses mouth when he IS In the act Oh !uh"ns.
g., hes case the horse, II he IS going at FENCE VIII
90, MS bea up" and will not see where he Is sos
anart from this, the reiness rlder acquires IN
sss, VINO 1t IS asked, has not seen you. s-~ W.
anxious to cut dash in the huh''hs 80 NJ,
80 .,rces at a fence, saving their mouths anu rum
- - ,nto their TANKS Very brave 'hey are
n "a Imt II horses could speak they "ou
FOL, ,lttable tale OF bow their mouths are "i IT,,
wbe n the act Of jumping NJ" 'nes W." W., ,aa
On, their stride; and how horse anu iiu.' 49,
bv i,tle stort of miracle on the TAT SUI Vi y. h
An tor error which ladies are especially ap' " "
I a, ,bo ne. NJ a spur Very few OF us are
sh, IN wear one without risk OF pricfnhs the ho,
inadvertently. In the excitement VI ~ .h,S =.
bo,nds IL Is almost impossible 10 aVoiu uoe -
t 20 ,sk. more out of your than Is necessary
-, ~ too,sb ana dangerous, inasmuch as 1t NAV
make him rush at fences or exhaust us s'"'o
too
There Is an Engishman in New fofn wiz "aa
=. .,,xspad IN an important fact. lie mas pee" IL"
fer two years. and in that time mas pee" $50,
Gated almost wholly with Americans inv t,,s
Fsview brought many OF the Queen 49,, =,
aro that the Englishman has had several o"'s -
CONSTANT mingling with his own race IRIS ID "na
ssys: "I'm surprised, after living WIN you ANY,,
cans for a couple OF years, to find now SLOW anu
dun my people We are absoiutey s,"p'" 49,
never before realized the difference bel"ee" 10
IL ON yonaerng how I'm the world we English
meh ever accomplished what We have and got wher'
we were"
a foreigner VITO has had wide experience OF society
,r many countries, and who has been obserVihI
Americans with great In the course OF pieasah'
x1s,i on this side" has been conidng the results VI
"a, observations TO his New York friends. One OF nl'
Youngest convictions Is that the young American l.
@ )6grto "In the United States" he said the o'he'