New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1893-08-27
HOME AND SOClHTl
A GIRLS ropULARN
r,rr1Sc ON ONES FooT-A wIFE's INCOME
AMERICAN CHILDREN AND GOOD MANNERS
-pARIs FAsnIoNs-A LONDON DAY.


PARIS FASHIONS-A LONDON DAY.
what makes a girl popular in society is very
ruus,ve question and yet 1t is that most maid
ors would be glad to have answered. Popularity
i've success is a very incomprehensible quality
One girl may be very pretty fairly agreeable, OF
sunerior social standing. and undeniably accom-
r,shed and yet fail to attract; and another with
out half her advantages is decided favorite. and
q sure to have good time wherever she goes.
cs,f-consciousness is a great obstacle to success;
the girl who is continually thinking OF herself is
handicapped at the outset frank. happy young
voman with nonsense about her" showing her
.r,ovment In her face, establishes at mag
ret,c current with those around her who cannot
help feeling a sympathetic pleasure in her enjoy
nent Cordial manners have also a great deal TO
do with the making of favorite. bright, pleas
ant greeting that expresses II am glad to see you
attracts at once.
straying attention is very great damper to
social intercourse; II is talking to girl and
he finds that she only half hears what he says,
smiling vaguely in a conventional fashion. he feels
bored at once. "Nne-tenths of the girls one talks
TO at a dance completely self-absorbed." said
man who had been discussing this very question,
"and II Is that that makes them unnteresting.
You can plainly that they are distract think
Ing of their hair, their gown. of possible partners
of an escort to supper OF partner for the german
Their smiles mechanical and meaningless their
answers inane. No one can realize the rehel IL Is
N turn from girl of this type and find happy
Young creature enjoying herself to her very bent
in the exuberance of her youth. her own personal-
~ quite forgotten. each of her partners 1eelhg
battered that she evidently liked his society, and
that he has contributed to her pleasure Such
girl be she plain pretty. never lacks partners
and rarely IL ever has a stupid time anywhere;
and when one comes to think OF a partner Tor me-
who would not rather chose this sunshiny creature
full of kindness and good spirits than the great
est beauty going who is ABSORBED IN hersell anu
her own perfectons!
sitting on ones foot is a distinctly feminine
habit that is universal and one that is quite in
comnrehensibe to the masculine lover Of comfort
affordng men no little amusement and wonderment
as to how such position can possibly De com
Portable Il had a dreadful experience at Mrs b. s
the other evening"" said young lady who was ad-
diced to the habit in question Il had just thrown
myself back on a luxurious sofa with my foot com
fortably tucked under me. when Mrs. r. calico 10
me from the other end of the ROOM come mere
Emily she exclaimed. L want you 10 help me
arrange these duets and l struggled up quickly
only to find that had caught my foot IN the s'rhs
which fastened the back Of my skirt, and DO what
/ could l could not disentangle it,
Emily again called Mrs B.. somewhat i'm
MISUNDERSTANDING l had not heard-while tot
tered and swayed. kicking out in the most unlady-
like fashion, and becoming red that am sure
the people near me must have thought was going
70 have a fit They all looked at me curiousy, and
kind Mrs. A. came to my assistance w nat Is H.
nv dear?' said this good Samaritan. Can help
you? Don't you feel well?' And the look OF amuse-
ment was as hard to bear the sympathy when
explained the situation. Grinning broadly Mr. s.
another friend who now approached TO oner MS
help gave me his arm. and between them hoped
in disgraceful fashion TO the door, KIND Mrs A
helping me as we were alone TO extricate
my foot which had been caught in a regular
moose"
Princess Eulalie has been staying quietly In Lon
eloIh
ridden in the early morning. shopped on foot and
avoided visitors. and has altogether taken thor-
ough rest after the excitement and fatigue OF her
American tour Her little sons have been with
her. They are small for their age. but uncommonly
precocious little fellows.
Very few men treat their womenkind openly ana
frankly in regard to money matters. and 1t is no
uncommon thing for man TO be apparently VIII
ing that the scale of his household expenses should
be conducted on the most lavish basis, paying the
monthly bills without a murmur, ana yet apparent
" grudging every dollar that he hands over to MS
wife and daughters. 1t is curious inconsistency
and one that causes not little il-feeng and sense
~ iniustice on the part Of a woman who cannot
understand why the head of the house should be at
the same time careless and so close, or WI! zen
dollars more less bill is not even CONSIDERED
and the actual money in hand is so hard TO obtain
II is very trying for sensitive woman TO nave 10
ask for every tent for her personal expenses ana
O man Of any generosity should appreciate the
situation, and give to his wife regular allowance
in accordance with his means and other expehul-
lures In England this is considered In the Settle
,oents and as rule the brides relatives see
tba. she is guaranteed enough for her personal eX-
penses. In this country such an Arrangement 10
seldom If ever thought Of, and the bride puts her
self and her future with unquestoning falth INTO
the mans power. To the honor of American man
hood be it said that our men are OF all men the
most generous; but 1t is not always pleasant even
loyin wife be absolutely dependent, now
ever liberal her husband may be, and the sense OF
.'rnoney begrudged' is absolute torture TO most
women If taken in no other light the housewife
fairly earns a salary To oversee house. large or
small, provide for the welfare of the family and
TO perform all the mutifarious duties that such a
position involves actually deserve large hnan-
cial recompense. and woman should have II re-
corded to her her right, not doed out to her as
favor.
Complaint Is often heard against the manners Of
our American children, and unfortunately 1t Is a
just complaint. English children at a very early
age are taken out of the hands of uneducated SER
wants and put into those Of nursery governess,
who is generally young woman OF refinement
and in all person of much better education
than that possessed by the ordinary domestic. A
child is capable year old Of beginning uncon-
sciously appreciate the principles of gentle cour-
tesy and there is surer way Of teaching good
manners than by force Of example. Instinct and
nimicry are both natural possessions of every In
teuigent child, and the necessity of the develop
ment Of the latter power has been shown by the
habits of few unfortunate creatures, whom chance
In some strange way has cut off from human as
ISOLATION from their babyhood These wretched be-
nrs with uncouth sounds and even like an ami
NAL run on all tours. while the baby of less than
two years who has been surrounded by civilized
life trots around In upright position on It's TWO
small feet and already forms BRIEF sentences 70
exnress tic desires Unfortunately many people
seem TO regard courtesy wasted upon those mites
OF humanity The mother may say BABY hahu
me that book" and yet in reply to the small Cd
ject's Mamma give me some preau' ren'ai
steinly "Not until you say please anu t"o"e.