The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1893-02-10
WHEN A WOMAN LOVES.
She Sometimes Proves an
Awful Bore, So An Au-
thorfHqAsserts.
SOME SOUND ADVICE FOR GIRLS
All Idle Suspicious Should Be stifled
Mutual Honor Loves
Safeguard.
SOME SOUND ADVICE FOR GIRLS

When a woman loves severely she
begins to be nnlovable. For she be-
gins to be unreasonable, and, for her
great loves sake, to do her best to
make miserable the all too-fortunate
winner of her affections. She insists
upon accusing him of virtues which
he knows are not included in his char
acter, and taxing him with failings OF
which he is just as completely lnno'
cent, and with that intolerable itera-
ton which is supposed by women to
be some sort of argument.
The result is that the man begins in
time to believe that he is good where
he is not. and to turn bad simply be-
cause she says he is SO alrea dy. he
ma be as faithful as a mullet C"for
chaste love the mullet hath no peer"l,
but she will worry him by the assid-
uity of her suspicious, and her conse-
quent lamentations, out of h secure
highway of connubial affection into
the hazardous bypaths that lead by
other mems orchards to the Tom It'd
dler,s ground of the Divorce Court.
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and she pleads no other excuse when
on occasion she attempts a reasonable
discussion of their MISUNDERSTANDING
she will make his bad seem good to
him, and make his good become bad,
tlll the seven take possession OF him,
and, like one of the bedevllled swine
OF Gadara. he rushes violently down a
steep place into the seq. She has no
wicked intentions whatever. On the
contrary, her intentions are all deteSt-
ably good. And when the man rakeS
his mind for fome reason for his own
misdemeanors, he can remember moth
ing better than that she drove him
to it." Which is a poor xcu yet
true enough. So gardeners by fire.
quent little pinchings abort the up
right growth of trees into lateral OBJ
liquities.
There are very many men so depior-
ably human that TO keep on accusing
them of an offense is sufficient to make
them commit it. They will in time
live down to any moral standard that
may be fixed for them by women, the
women who love them, and, like the
oysters, alternately tickled and irri-
tated by the grains of sand which the
Chinese drop into them, will grow to
forget their natures altogether.
No wonan can be quite so miserable
as she who loves only man at q
time, for the time she loves him, and
being unable to absorb all her own I'M
happiness, she persists in offering him
half of it. Because she is so insanely
Jealous of his time and his society,
She will, 'for the sweet love she had
of him, -" waste the one and try to en-
a. 0%lap r1nffl phn fnrrnnnfC
him from innocence into a~rtifice, and
from a~rtifice into revolt; and so in the
sad end of 1t she can say. Il knew l
was right all the time" Does the dis
coyery break her heart? Not a bit of
it. Women who love at this high
pressure do not break their hearts.
They ~start-after a pause to repair
damages, and to make a collection, as
it were, of neighborly sympathies-
loving again, somebody else.
Such women, in the extrem .ityof
their affection for him, will throw
vitriol in a mans face; will poison
him with fly papers-murder him.
So it is not good for a woman to love
severely; neither good for him nor her.
The sensible man, when he sees it
coming, will put up the hurricane
shutters, back engines. skid the
wheels, throw salt in the fire-do any
thing, in fact, that will meet the emer-
gency. slacken speed or reduce the
temperature. Unless he be a sala-
mander. As to which, blythe way. the
aucients were divided in opinion,
some averring that he ate the fire up,
the rest that he was so cold thai he
put the fire out. Either OF which pro-
cedure was SUI fhcient to meet the Cir
culnstances.
But women, as a rule, only love
within their means. They keep some
thing in hand !; enough to make them
feel independent and secure against
neglect; and thus nearly every woman
can love two men at once, but one of
them so much more than the other
that the heir apparent never unseats
the king. Indeed, if you will analyze
her feelings, you will find thai 1T is
the second love that is the strongest
bulwark of her first, and thai the fix
ity of distance between the two is the
real measure of her hearts security.
1t is the true power of the penulti-
mate.n No man who has reason to
think himself the only one is safe for a
day. Let him know that there is an
other behind him, and he can, with
most ordinary common sense, keep
first. A woman hates the possessive
a and nothing knocks the stufhn &
out of the maj in possession SO thor
oughly as the knowledge of a quick
competitor. So she not only loves
two, but takes care to let one of them
suspect it.
AS a rule, too, you shall find women
preferring a man who has his faults
Not a vicious man; they have a well
founded aversion to such; for to be
vicious towards women is to be cold
blooded, and to be cold blooded is to
be treacherous; and a woman will no
more stand treachery than a serpent
will emeralds. But she likes him
human: neither more nor less than a
man. .
The moral of all which is, that if