St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-03-20

4 man said last night: 81 don't like
to be without a dollar or so in my
pocket. You see a fellow never knows
when he may want a little change for
something or another" Now l have
not the slightest objection to a man de
claring and feeling that little money
in the pocket backs up his self-respect
wonderfully. | have not word of
fault to find with a man for desiring to
do his pant in hospitality while out with
his friends. or if he Unexpectedly meets
an acquaintance. Cash on hand does
help one to surmount lot Of difficult
ties. and makes the wheels Of life turn
in much pleaSanter rhythm than they
could be induced to DO if that lubrica-
ton was wanting. But for all that
that speech made me mad. Not twenty
four hours before had heard that very
same man say to his wife, in reply to
her request for some money: "By JOve,
Jenny, can't see what you do with
your money. You say that you have
not just now an idea what
you want TO buy, but because
you are going down town you like to
have some money on hand in case you
see something you need. l can tell you
that money is not so plenty that | can
afford to give You So just to carry loose
IN your pocketbook. When you have
made up your mind what you need it
will be time enough to give you money.
There is 81; that will be enough for
your necessary expenses, and l have no
money to fool away" Now, that is the
man who liked TO have few dollars in
his pocket when out in town with
friends. but theswife-that was an en-
tirely different matter. She was going
down town with party of friends. She
was really very economical. careful
little body, and seldom spent a cent that
was not absolutely necessary. She
would plan aud hink to make ner money
Go its utmost. and really she did won
derS in that way. She made the modest
home that her husbands salary made it
easy for them to keep, a real bower of
pleaSantnesS ana comfort 10 all within
its bounds, and uany were the times
that her husband had told NE of her
wonderful management lie really
thought her wonderful. Perhaps
she had carried her management
too far, So that he had grown
to think she really never needed an
extra dollar. Could he not consider that
she might feel better to feel that she
could do her part in any little treat that
might be suggested. Her self-reSpect
md pride would be wounded as deeply
Is his own under the same circum-
ItanceS, ii she could not dc her part
Besides, was net she the one to decide
Ehen and how she needed a little
honey. 1 can tell you, my dears, this
honey question is the rock on which
llany a marital barge is stranded. How
lan Il woman continue to love, or even
feSpect, a man who is willing not only
> subject her to the humiliation of beg
1ng Tor money, when all her life, all
Il is or is likely ever to be. is merged
Into this mighty task OF home making
lnd wife and motherhood? Can love
live in heart consumed by the fires of
EOunded Self-reSpect and pride? | am
afraid not. Women may not argue out
10 themselves, but the humiliation OF
such treatment goes far To counterbal-
Rnce the sweet words that mans softer
moods suggest. How must a man feel
who never had one cent to call his own?
Who had TO render an account for every
dollar given? 1t is no wonder that mar
rage Is going out Of fashion, if the fore
boding OF some OF our modern prophets
is to be believed. So many of the best
and nOblest of our girls and young
women are earning money, they know
the feeling of Having a dollar or two
in ones pocket" and also the pleasure
of spending their dollars when and how
they please, and enjoy that pleasure
too we'll 20 be willing to put themselves
in the position that they have seen than
mothers occupy, without serious
thought on the subject. These bright
girls are not mercenary, but then,
sturdy self-reSpect Shrinks from the
treatment that they see other women
receive.
If wife has not sufficient good sense
to know when to spend money in ac-
cordance with her husbands means, she
should not be expected to keep house
or bring up children.
If man is unwilling to trust wfe's
discretion in the use of money, he has
no right to become husband. 4 woman
who combines in herself the positions of
cook, chamber maid, nurse, hostess and
seamstress, surely should be privileged
with dollar or so in her pocket Could
anything be meaner than a man who is
generous to himself and Stingy TO his
wire? AUNT POLLY.