Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1893-05-06

way that leads to unattractive and TIM
lovable old age.
The petted daughter and society belle
usually builds an indestructible and
solid masonwork OF ugly old age for
herself in her youth, and all her friends,
relatives, and admirers lend a helping
hand.
"She rules us all, says the do,ing
mother before the daughter is out OF
short clothes. There Is no such thing
as denying her anything. Why, her
papa would bring down the roof over
our heads II we should refuse her pny-
thing she asks for" As she grows inio
young-ladyhood the same false idea OF
devotion governs the parents. She is
petted, praised, and waited upon, and
encouraged in every selfish whim. Her
comfort and pleasure are paramount to
all other considerations. She Is so
pretty and charming that her extreme
seliishness is not observant to the casual
eye. She is a belle and favoritc while
she is young; but she makes a poor wife
and worse mother. and a most detes-
table old woman. She has never known
what II was TO give up anything for the
sake OF others, and she Is forever thrust.
Ing her nerves." and her Sensitive
feelings" and her whlms in the way OF
others enjoyment.
All her relatives dislike her, and s,ran.
gers abhor her. Yet she is the same
sort Of old woman that she was child
aud maiden; only, the blossom and
leaves of youth having fallen away, the
bare brown branch OF selishness Is
more fully revealed.
There are more disagrecable old men
than women In the world, because
women, MS a rule, are obliged TO practice
more selfsacrilice and unselhshncss and
patience in early life than men practice.
Men who have ruled their households
wives, children, servants, and employees
by a rod OF fear rather than love during
youth and middle age make very un.
pleasant old men. Mentally and physi.
cally incapacitated from inspiring fear.
they are unable to inspire anything but
hatred or the pity which springs from
scorn.
Unable TO rule, which has been the
source Of their happiness in earlier years,
they pass their old age In carping crit.
cisms and fault-fnding OF those who
succeed them.
The children who have formerly obey.
ed them only through fear now ignore
their wishes and fail to show them the
respect due TO gray hair--a respect i'm.
possible TO feel where there are no
qualities TO inspire II, but which good
breeding and humanity ought to impose
In seeming.
II is all very well to talk about the
love and respect we owe our ancestors,
but those are emotions which cannot be
prompted by duty. II old people rem.
der themselves absolutely unlovable, il
is not in the power of their children or
grandchildren TO love them: but IL is
possible for those descendants TO treat
them with kindness, consideration, and
patience. An old man who has lived
grasping, mefcenary. selfish life cannot
expect to be respected on accoun, of
his gray hairs; but out OF selErespect
his children and relatives ought to show
forbearance and kindness. The sons
and daughters Of such man will
bemoan the fact that their father is so
captious and unlovable, while at the
same time they indulge in habits and
cultivate qualities In themselves which
will lead them directly to the same goal
in time. They forget that one does not
grow old in a day-it takes a lifetime to
produce old age.
The man who passes his youth In the
pursuit Of pleasure and his maturity in
the pursuit Of gold, ignoring the feelings