The gold leaf. [volume] (Henderson, N.C.) 1881-1911, 1893-02-16
RULING A HUSBAND.
Prize Essay on This Interesting
and Fruitful Subject by a Mo-
bile Girl.

Prize Essay on This Interesting
and Fruitful Subject by a Mo-
bile Girl.
The New York Once Week started
prize competition for women writer's
the subiect being elbow to Rule 9
Husband" Miss l.. B. Robertson
Of Mobile, won the prize, set O.
Charles Levers works, by her contri,
button as follows.
No husband is invulnerable to love
tact and common sense. He will
yield as surely to such scepter as the
needle does to the pole. Let whose
ever will test the following rules:
First, love him. Not with senti-
mental gush, but with that frank trust
that knows no suspicion-even if you
find the letter of another's fair hand
in the pocket which you are mending.
l is likely IN appeal for charity OF
some INDECENT widow begging posi-
ton for her son. Nothing makes a
mans heart so obdurate as a wife's
distrust.
Do not indulge in prying into his
affairs. If he does fool you little,
are you the happier for detecting it?
If he still clings to bachelor days
habits of lingering out late at night,
do not indulge in tears and upbrald-
ings.
Bestir yourself. If the sitting rooms
upholstry is too fine for him to loll
upon move it out. Lay his favorite
papers in the corner, and especially
never tear up his "latest." Set a
comfortable easy-chair, stripped OF
all jingling furbelows, close by. Put
slippers and dressing gown in easy
reach.
Appareled in a dainty, becoming
gown, await his coming as you used
to do as his sweetheart. Greet him
wlnsomely, however late the hour.
Honey entices bees; vinegar never.
Such home comforts will SO permeate
through him that thereafter he will stride
by all of the allurements in town to
get to it and you. Then be compan-
ionable. If he likes politics, meta
physics, the turf or chess, and you do
not, appropriate some of that spare
time devoted to novels in posting your
self. Study like you used to do your
Latin to avoid being except in" II
you desire to keep him i'm just chat
upon his "lobby" with him and you
Will have no trouble at all.
If you wish him to spend his even
inss at home with you, do not save
all of your graces and smiles for out
siders and deluge him, like a shower
bath, with complaints and household
tribulations as soon as he comes in
from the days business cares. You
w soon be srending them " alone, !"
70. ne will rsniain out late, hoping to
find your tongue stilled in slumber on
his return.
If he is huntsman do not plant
the entire back yard in flowers and
then say there is no place for dog.
Humor his fads of fishing and bird
hunting if you want to keep him from
hunting worse amusementS.
TO prevent his eyes from ever turn
ing to seek beauty and grace in other
women make yourself as sweet and
attractive looking at home as lies with
in your power. Remember how much
care and thought you used to spend
to win his heart; now exercise some
OF It to keep that heart.
Live within his income, however
small, and you can always readily gel
money out Of him. Never make bills
that he can not pay and he will always
be agreeable, genial and loving.
Do not become extremely affec-
tionate when you want something-he
will learn the trick. Ask frankly.
The shy tremor in your voice will
never meet refusal.
When he comes in with brow stern
and lowering, do not imagine that he
dos not love you, and seek solitude
to cry about it.
Somthing is the matter. Maybe it is
a desperate crisis. Adroitly decoy him
into conversation upon pleasant
topic. He will do so to hide the con-
lic- within. Then when stiffness
crteps over the house and you are
alone, lay your hand tenderly upon
his shoulder, look trustingly into his
fac and ask, "What is the matter
tonight? Isn't something troubling
you?" The whole world could not
keep him from telling you, while all
tea S and urbraiding in Christedom
could not have extracted it from him.
Possibly your timely sympathy saved
hin, from sinking beneath it.
Never allow him to become indie
pendent of your society. Do not leave
him alone and forlorn to swelter
thr ugh summers heat to make money,
while you are off spending it in "cooler
clines." If ne has to stay, you stay,
too. and he will deem you an adorable
woman.
Though he may be an Ananias him
sell, man abhors Sapphira; so be
truthful at all times. Nothing turns
a Rms hear into stony self-will like
a woman's prevarications.