St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-03-25

It is so natural for girl to wish TO
be pretty that one is never surprised
that the consideration of the question
should enter into all her plans, but
being pretty means so many different
things that it would be very haro to say
in what il consists, so this in regard to
the Importance of beauty as factor in
happy marriage, from a writer in the
New York Mali, is instructive:
is it necessary that girl should be
pretty in order to make a good match?'
Ny dear young woman, although
beauty is highly desirable, it isn't an
essential in happy marriage. II You
doubt this statement. just take obSerYa-
tons of the households where you
know there is con!entment at the hre-
side. You will find more or less, not
at all pretty, but very happy. wives IN
many of those homes. Quite likely
their "winning ways mad everything
TO do with their being NOOed and won
at some time in the past.
\ girl may be SO attractive in her
manners that lack of real beauty VIII
not materially lessen the admiration
and the esteem she may WIN 10y aSSOcla-
ton with men and women whose INTEL
Hgence and morals make them deSlra-
bic as friends.
Now what do you think is good
motch9 Does il mean 4 man with money
only, or position only, or lntei.ect Ohly'
or only a capacity for being good
humored under each and every circum-
stance?
The common acceptatiOn of the term
means man in such mOneyed posi-
tion that he can place his wife in lux
urlOus circumstances" 1t is very
good thing 20 have plenty of money,
but il dOesn'tentirely cover the ground
of 4 good match" The merely SOrdid
and the uneducated girl might marry
the wealthy DoOriSh man with Intense
satisfaction to herself, while the refined
girl would soon awaken to a realizing
sense that size had formed a wretched
life alliance. however much 1t was a.
glitter with gold.
On the other hand, paltry-minded
girl would soon weary OF broadly IN
tellectual husband. This department
once heard Il wife say:
~ am that deadly tired of books and
art and thingS-bltSS me! L wish that
John couldn't read!-l never dol
W nat = the USt VI lllio olAli s'i'' hCli
sense he calls good Hterature?, I'd
rather dance the Highland fling any
Gav than to receive the gift OF a
library"
Anu yet, although the husband of
whom She spoke provided generously
for her comfort and was indulgent al
most 10 a fault. she was not made happy
by his partnership. He was no
more in sympathy with her light-head-
ed tendencies than she was with Ills III
tellectual pursuits.
Half the bad matches are caused
either by the educated woman MARRY
ing the man beneath her in all moral
and mental qualities or the man who
has spent his years culuvating his MIND
suddenly becoming fascinated by a
woman of wondrouSly beautiful face
with no backing of intellect.
You may readily understand, my dear
girl. that this "match" question has
many sides, and therefore many sorts OF
considerations as to what it means Tor
girls OF different natures to make a
"good marriage"
But your plain question is easily
enough answered with an assurance
that ''prettiness" isn't a requisite IN
settling yourself for better or worse by
means of wedding.
Just the same, always look as pretty
as you can with the material you have
Oh hand, yourself included.