The Helena independent., 1893-12-03
WOMAN AND HER HOME,
The valuo cf-ElElnnsss a,19 kind
ness. In Dealing With ypung a
Children. X
A Mother Has Only Horsslf ia
Blanc for Her Sons
Naughtiness.
strategy Can Sometimes He Ussd with
MsrvsiSusty Geod Results House,
WORK ~ IN Art.

We are doubtless all familiar with the
conyersation claimed to hayo been over
heard between two boys Said ono to the
other: "Are you going fishing todayi"
NO." replied the second boy; 'smother
won't let me-"
Fudge" said the first boy contemptu-
0usly; "tcasc her md tease her, and II she
won't let you 80, lie down on the floor and
kick. That's tho way do. Then she will
let you 60"
Our first thought is one OF indignation
against the little rascal; our second, no
the child In not to blame. II he knows he
can get what he wants by teasing, why
should he not teasei Or, II kicking upon
the floor will change his ,nother's no into
yes, he would be q very foolish boy II he
did not kick. II no did not knowb be could
get what he wants by teasing and kick
ing, be would not do 1t. The mother has
only herself to blame for her boys naught-
iness. Ibelievc that right here lies three
fourths of the trouble, anxiety and wear
upon the nerves in the bringing up Of chill
dren. Let your no mean no always, and
it will be accepted as final, but IL some
times 1t may possibly mean yes you may
rest assured that you will not be the one
to get the benefit of the doubt. But think
before you say no.
Remember that what seems to you a
foolish tri1le may mean great deal to
your little one, and to be deprived OF the
pleasure will cause a bitter disappoint-
ment. When she comes to you brimming
over with some anticipated scheme that
promises such lots of fun, enter into the
plan with interest and be glad with her.
II it seems to you not q feasible thing, do
not say 30, but tell her you must think it
over. Then think 1t over carefully, and
the difficulties may disappear. If not,
and you find it would be unwise to grant
her request, tell her lovingly, giving her
the reasons why it would not be best, and
tell her how sorry you are that you must
deny her. II you have taught her by your
daily actions that her mother is her truest
friend; ii she knows that you love her so
we'll that you will grant her every happi-
ness that is in your power, II it Is best
that she should have it, she will accept
the decision because "mamma knows"
and, though the lips may quiver and the
eyes fill, there will be no "scene," no out
break of temper such as all mothers dread.
A child brought up close to the mothers
heart, with perfect confidence in the strong
mother love, will give her unquestioned
obedience when that obedience Is neces-
gary, because it will not enter her mind
to doubt the love in the demand. Share
your children's joys as well as their sor-
rows. Be child with them when you
can, and the battle is half won.
In dealing with children little STRAIT
egy may sometimes be used with marvel
ously good result, and before the self will
ed little puss realizes what she is doing
the point ut issue has been SO skillfully
turned that she has done exactly what
you wished her to do and has forgotten to
rebel over it.-Philadelphia Press.