St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-01-24
HOW DO YOU MANAGE;
Various Women Have Various
Ways Of Running HuS-
bands.
Here Is a Case by Which
Wives Might Well
Profit.
a Column of Miscellaneous
Matters Devoted to
Women.
Social Note and Comment and
People in Para
graphs.

Receipts for managing husbands are
always In order They have 10 be man
aged, there is no getting around that
fact. There are as many processes of
management as there are men to be
managed and women to manage, but
thus new idea from the New YORK Sun
Is certainly worth trying:
"A soft answer turneth away wrath,
SAYS the Good Book. 1t is woman who
is generally expected TO keep the soft
answer in working order, although ii
sometimes depends on men. However,
things have changed in l,S93 years, and
the one who gives the soft answer is
pretty apt to get bullied. In domestic
life the soft answer no longer compares
with a sense Of humOr. A properly di-
rected sense of hum0r will not only
ehace the casus belli, but restore the
status quo The appropriateness OF
these phrases will indicate changes
in the social relations since
the original system was put
forth. This may be illustrated.
A woman. with sense Of humOr de-
lightful 10 all her friends. married. AS
most brides, she had studied well her
role. This obliged her to be sweet
tempered in season and out OF season.
She literally kept soft answers III stock,
In the early period OF her domestic ca
rcer these did all that could be expected
Of them in keeping the atmosphere OF
lone sweet and clean. But soft an
Swers, Hike all other remedial means. IN
time seemed 10 lose tier ell cacy.
Nothing daunted on her part she had
them on tap,against all manner of un-
rpasOnableneSS from tired, nervous
man A ftn, tiuip cha came tD 600 that
not only did her soft answers fail to
work out properly, but that she was en-
COnragng the development Of Il species
Of domestic bully. After every turn Of
her soft answer she realized not only Il
loss of sef-resuCCt, but OF respect for
the being whose unrCasOnablenpSS she
wac humOring like that Of fr0Ward
child.
Her sense OF justice was reused. 1t
her domestic happiness was 10 go down
it should Mt least 20 down with flying
colorS. She met attack by attack. She
secured the last word at all hazards
In reviewing these scenes she draws
veil over the details, but exhibits Ger
tain reprehcnsibIe complacencc at her
own achievements. One day friend
who had sometimes seen the fringe of
battle said to her: "Why do you take
your husband so seriously? Y on
used TO have lovely sense OF
humOr. Why can you not see
your husband in the light of a
joker" "Jokcw cXclaims the dis
gustcd woman. All the same it gave a
turn to her thoughts. Feeling mistress
of herself on the next occasion, she
turned her wits ON him. He was routed,
but retired in good order, and whistled.
Evidently he was as glad TO get out of
it in that way as she, since their anna
bic relations escaped with scarcely 4
fracture. In time it rather entertained
her TO be suddenly called upon to prac-
tice her wits III meeting emergencies.
But what was most distinctly gratifying
was the increased respect her husband
appeared to show for her intellect. She
amused him; he began to value her as
companion. On the other hand, in ccas-
ing to regard him as a child to be hu-
mored. she began TO respect him as Il
man. This is the tale Of two people.