Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1893-05-23
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Il u Of the greatest importance that
mothers should begin early to teach
their children the value Of good man
ners, for we live In an age when there 70
very little leniency exercised towards
people who are guilty Of vulgarisms In
their daily life and associations with
society. Pollteness and courtesy In our
bearing toward others exercise an In
fiuence that IL irresistible.
Give your children proper respect
for good manners, and teach them TO be
ladies and gentlemen under all circum-
stances, and they will be welcomed Into
good society and treated with respect
and consideration, whether possessed OF
wealth and talent or not. When chill
dren are once taught to be respectful to
each other, to treat all with whom they
come In contact with consideration and
kindness, they will acquire manners and
q graceful bearing that cannot faii 70
insure them welcome Into good 30
ciety. This training must be thorough
In every particular.
Disputes In family are always to De
deprecated, as they run Into hsrshness
when INDUCED In by parents. and Into
violent anger In children. COntradic-
tion-one OF the most difficult faults .
mother has to contend with In little
children-shouli be positively dis.
countenanced; loudness OF voice and
noisy talking should be signal for its
close, and silence should be Its enforced
punishment. Teasing should never be
allowed, and the interference with each
Others small belongings-toys, books
and everything else-shOuld be forbid
den, causing, rs It does, endless trouble
at the nursery.
We know a family Of children whose
teaching In this respect had been very
careful, and We are sure they would
have been the admiration OF every
mother. could their ways have been
generally known. "May look ut your
doll, sister, "Can use your slate q
little whiley" "May I roll my doll in
your buggyy' Scan read In your new
book or look at your plcturesy were
the questions heard all through the day,
and courteous answers Of consent were
always given, thus teaching the children
unseifishness and courtesy In their every
day intercourse with each other.
IL good manners are not learned IN
childhood, It IL very difficult to acquire
them later In life, and many people
grow up and grow old under the In
Fiction of ill-bred manners, aud never
suspect the truth Of their Ignorance
ascribing their want Of success In society
TO any cause but the real one. NC
varnlsh can disguise the deficiency
The would-be lady and gentleman who
overcome vulgarity In few glarine
points, are sure to reveal their true ma
lures In the end, and offend the well.
bred In minor particulars In ways OF
which they are ignorant.
A watchful mother can save her cnii
dren this modification later In lie
school education Is universal In oul
country, and with II should 90 home
culture and the teaching OF the courtee
sies of life. The end Of this culture II
there to atone all impediments aud Civ,
power. Let mothers, then, bear In mind
that good manners are the very founda
ton Of successful and happy life.