Elmore bulletin. [volume] (Rocky Bar, Idaho) 1889-1906, 1893-03-11
GOSSIP AND ISLANDER.
DOES THE RESPONSIBILITY LIE WITH
MEN on WOMEN

Charge Against Mems clnbs--They Are
Hotbeds Of scandRl-But Disappointed
Women Are Worst Of All.
Who is responsible for the scandal, the
ilander that Is abroad in the worldf Man
'ays It is woman, and woman stands with
accusing finger pointed ut man. A young
girl came to me the other day and said,
1--WE made fool OF myselfr' l politely
tried to look surprised, though / wasn't.
yes" she continued, II have; and I'm so
mad with myself that | could bite my
tongue out and use my head for football
Whyi This Il why. The other evening
two gentlemen called 20 see me. One was
a friend had known from childhood, @
great, splendid, whole hearted fellow that /
brings an atmosphere Of cheeripess and /
perpetual good nature with him. lie is /
always 70 courteous, 50 considerable, 80 APP |
preciatiye and so complimentary that IL Is |
n pleasure TO be In his company.
THE other gentleman was n man OF
great intellect, whose desire to meet me
bad filled me with sense Of citation. l
was walking on air. Wetalked OF all sorts
OF subjects. and 1 felt that | never had
spent "A more delightful evening Of its kind
close something happened" and the
young girl looked SO lugubrious that moth
ing would have surprised me 'Yon see,"
continued she, I'VE had talked about peo-
Pile and things. AT last the name OF 3 GER
| tain woman was mentioned. The persun
enjoys considerable prominence. One OF
4 the gentlemen said. do you know herP Il
know vino she is Did you never meet
| ber-she is 80 charming conyefSationalist
| am sure you would like her. Yes, | re-
piled, and there must have been something
In my manner which challenged ques-
tion, for Immediately IL came. what do
you know about herr You evidently do
not approve Of herr"
/ Now the Young girl has moro wit than
discretion and she replied, well, IL you
must know, I've heard she was shady,
|, and some one ouce took the trouble 20
warn Us girls not 10 be seen talking In
the streets to her. or to have anything TO
do with her. Both the gentlemen looked
shocked. why" said the man OF intel.
lect, Il have visited her many time, and
! have never seen anything in her behavior
{ that could be considered the least out OF
Q the way"
a Then the young girl forgot she was talk
ing to men, not that she wished To discuss
undebatable subjects, but she forgot what
Is always said when one woman fails T.
agree with a man In his high estimate o
{ another woman. So in the heat of the ar
d gumeut she exclaimed: "Well, all know
+ Is that some Of her associates have beer
n dropped by society, and IL won't do TO
Il young ladies' to attempt To 20 counter {,
o the dictum Of society leaders. IL may b.
= very sweet and lovely and all that, but II
!. girl does attempt to do 80 she herself sui
: fers without being able to do one thing to
u ward rehabilitating the shady person Ii
70 the garment Of responsibility" Then boti
d the gentlemen looked panied as well a
II shocked.
Il know they went away thinking that
, would lend myself TO the cnvious detrae
], ton Of smother woman, and l wouldn'i
!. Ia the first place both OF those gentleme
~ overestimate the Importance Of that pei
N sons position. They do not know as d
that many doors are CLOSED against hei
T. they do not know that, from the stand
ID point Of my set, she does not possess on
s. single attribute or attainment that ca
arouse envy
4 My friends experience led me TO max
inquiries. Where do you think scandi
y originatesf" asked bright society won
~ an, Young in years but old in worldly wi
dom "Where7 With women" she r
ey piled unhesitatingly. and then added, "Bt
IN let me modify that With the memory
Ir- all have heard in my life, aud the know
n edge that 1t generally could be traced
nv the afternoon gossip of a mems club.
i must take that back a mems club is Il
=, very hotbed Of scandal. Those fellows, o.
80 and Young, want TO he thought irresistib
AZ or omniscient; they can't deny themselv
DE- the pleasure Of being thought suecessf
where others have failed. BY smii
Ds, when woman's name j. mentioned; by
as significant look. a. shrug Of the shoulder
NV even n twirl Of one side Of mustache. Il
~ insinuation is made--tO say nothing Of q
omen discussion OF "a womans charms, al
- the speenlations ns TO her being able
~ meet the requirements OF n CAESARS wife
nc II don't mean 20 say that a perfect
pure, good woman, whose conduct has
'ul ways been above reproach, will become q
prey Of their conversation, although su
IN eases have happened. But you know II {
Us are hosts Of women and young girls "
will do imprudent things. Many Of the
"a are women now in a stratum OF society n
w where they belong by birth or educatiC
'"e They don't know how TO behave. Til
iot are not thoroughbreds, you see. TIL
mt foolishly take pleasure in defying pub
he opinion They don't mind being talk
im about. They boast Of their escapades, a
yet they do have lots of friends, sweet 4
nat friends, vino absolutely refuse to belle
-, that dear - IL aught but so impr
a., dent, and some man comes home from /
=, club-some father. brother or husha
'id and warns the women Of his family not
NJ be seen with So-and-so' any more; th
Fas her name has been mentioned in the elu
at Oh, my dear" continued the soeie
mar woman, "the shores Of clubdom are stree
with wrecks Of reputationsi
,.b "0n the other hand, the worst detraets
AZ OF women are married women every tin
You take a woman whose own career !
he been failure. She is always on the los
get out for improper behavior among younl
Ter and more attractive women. She canE
- forgive them for receiving what she
as longer can hold-the admiration OF ml
,ell When you find such women Ia hotels a
,or boarding houses. they are to be dread
-. They make wild endeavors to hold tn
own with the younger women: they Il
they Hre bitter; they devote themselves
tch lying IN wait for fresh game all the tin
their grip is weakening, but they clutch
sh- the same. Oh. my dear. II you ask
VII how scandal originates, must go back
my first answer and say with women, "
In. tagged out. jaded, disappointed pas
women A young matron, secure In
~. position IN society, happy in her hnsban
~ love, and surrounded Ivy her children.
ten too sweetly selfish, too wrapped up IN
y, own happiness 10 be envious or jealo
osy She i not The derractOr Of her sex IS
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