St. Paul daily globe., 1893-04-18

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This is the continuation of my talk
10 the men side of the house. do not
say these things because L want to
blame or wound you, my dear boy, but
because it seems to me that when one
has herself passed the crown of the
rugged hill we call life, when she can
see the snowhakes whitening her hair
that the frOStS on the summit sprinkle
there, and realizes how much one must
20 through to learn things, and that
after they are learned she has passed
The time of needing them, then, if she
could feel that in some way she could
pass these experiences that were not
pleasant in the learning on to younger
people, the harvest would be so sweet
that the toll and heat of the midday
sowing would be all forgotten. 1t is
very queer how the money question
underlies so many Of the differences of
married people, but it is true, l am
sure. How would you like it to
never be able to call a cent
your own? In short, if you had to earn
your money first and beg it afterwards.
! often wonder what the sensations of
a man would be if he could look into the
heart of his wife and see just how She
felt and what she thought of him at
some time after she had been Inundated
On the Money Question.
l think that even the most stolid
would be appalled,. II you have been so
foolish as to trust your honor and good
name to the hands of woman who is
not capable of being trusted with
money. you are in pitiable condition.
Ii your wife is a fool, you are to be
pitied again. If she is only untaught
as to the value Of money. as, alas! ow-
ing TO the ShOrt-SightednesS of fathers,
so many girls are, 4 few kindly, frank
talks on the subject Of your business,
your income and your plans, will set
that all right. You will be aStOnished,
If you have never tried this plan, to see
how wise some women can become under
most trying circumstances. You need not
fear that she will love you less. but
may rest assured that she will love you
more, Tor this proof that you think her
an equal partner and depend upon her
wisdom and Judgment, as we'll as her
love for you, that this confidence gives.
Don't compel her to ask for every cent
or any cent, bat set aside the money
that you can afford for household eX-
penseS, and give it into her hand; a GER
tain amount for her own and the chill
dren's clothing should be so given also.
Almost any woman can make a s. bill
90 as far again as man can. So, my
10y, you see that it would be eeOno-
my for you TO act the honorable, con-
siderate part to your wife. Then, my
dear, 90 back to some of the lOver-like
ways. Tell her that you are glad that
you did not marry that other girl that
you were engaged to once, for you are
sure that she would never have been the
wife that your heart could trust in as
the wife you have is. Tell her that she
is pretty. Suppose that the bloom that
you first admired in her face glOws now
Oh the cheeks of your girls, and the
dash and
Sparkle Of Her Eyes
is now to be found in your rollicking
school boy, Is she not the dparer to you
for this fact? Then why not crafty
her little vanity by telling her that she
IS as pretty as when you knew her first?
Take my word, my boy, that there has
never been distilled from earthly retort
or cunning necrOmancer'S skill SO sure,
so subtle a beautitier as these words
will prove. Perhaps there are silVery
threads among the treSSeS that you once
assured her were brown in the shade
and golden in the sun" But does not
each white strand represent a burden
born for love of you? And are they not
pretty still, as they wave across the
brow lined with cares for you and
yours?
Perhaps you are both still young, the
dew hardly dry on your own wedding
wreath, and yet you are growing away.
If you have taken a young girl from her
home and her friends, you were very
proud to think that you had diStanced
those other fellows, but as soon as the
novelty wore eff you began to neglect
her. You did not mean it that way. but
that is what it seemed 10 her. Can
you blame her if she listens to
the gallant speeches the men will make
to woman who is either pretty or at
tractiVe. Her wounded pride will find
balm in the thought that other men con-
slider her worth paying attention to.
The SWeeter, the more pride she has,
the dearer this thought will be. She
will not say to you in so many words
that that is the truth; in fact, if she is
the kind of woman that is most al
tractiYe to men. she would die the death
Of martyr rather than acknowledge to
you that she thought you neglected her;
but her heart is wrung all the same. In
that dear old book we all read and all
pretend to revere, there is a verse that
tells of how sGme of those who had pro-
fessed to love the Master had fallen
away, and seemed to forget Him; and,
In answer to the query Of their shepherd,
they are told to return and do their
first works over again." So [ say, go
back and begin again. AUNT POLLY.