Evening star., 1893-10-07
DOn'ts for Wives.
From Good HOUSEKEEPING

NASeSSAcSphiS.
Don't talk too much about what "lovelv
uLnes unes you used to have when you were
Tree and SINGLE" or your husband NAV
wish that you were SO at the present time
when her husband cherishes that onin;on
regarding her. 1t is sadder day stiiI for
him. ~ No'
Don't treasure up all your daily trials for
at night. ,.o'''e
Don't tell him how bad the children have
peen, or how hateful the kitchen girl has
ac.ed, or how the stove won't draw. or how
ue ciotnesnne broke with the weeks wash
ing on 1t, or how the baby has cried ali day.
or now badly the ironing has been dons. or
now the milkman left milk that soured in
an hour. or how little ice the iceman left
1or ID cents. or how the grocer has sent bad
eggs for good ones. Don't add all these
things to the trials your husband has borne
all day. He has had his trials you NAV be
sure Of that. and. unless he is an excen
ton TO the general rule. he has not said
anything at all about them to you
Don't mag" at him all the time That is
the hatefuiest little word know of, and the
nagging practice is one of the roost
vicious. Much should be forgiven a hus-
pand who has "nagging" wife-one whose
tongue Is never still and whose every word
Is OF fault.finding or complaint Such a
woman is a blot on the fair face of creation
and her husband has much to bear What.
band.
Don't compare him to other men to his
disadvantage. Don't tell him that YOU ..do
wish" he were like this woman's or that
woman's husband. Nothing can fiatter him
so much as your openly expressed ,.onyic-
ton that you have the best and kindest
and handsomest husband in all the world
No doubt you told him SO once, and even
II you think differently now, nothing but
harm can come of your telling him so.
Don't go around slipshod or slovenly b.
fore your husband. He may not say any,
thing about 1t, but 1t will have a demoral-
izing effect upon him, all the same Don't
come to the breakfast table with your hair
In crimping pins because you are going
down town later in the day and the Grimm
Will all come out II you take your hair
down before breakfast. Your husband
won't see you when you are down town.
rather look your best before him than he
fore any other man in the world? The
time has been when you would have been
mortified to death had he caught you
with your hair in crimping pins
Don't ask him to be both master and mis-
tress OF the house. Don't ask him what Won
shall have for dinner or burden him with
all Of the family marketing. Don't expect
things that you. as mistress of yo,Ir own
home, ought to do. He probably has his
hands and his mind full keeping up his end
of the row.
He has not found perfection in you, has he?
Perfect men are so rare In this world that
If one could be found he would be worth his
weight in gold as a dime museum curiosity
and perfect women are equally rare II
your husband is "as good as the avera ge''
be thankful that he is no worse and bear
in mind that 1t rests largely with YOU
whether he grows better or worse.
OF course nearly all these "Don'ts" an
ply to husbands as well as to wives. Men
are no better than women, nor as good:
they have their failings by the score, but
don't increase their shortcomings by show
ing them the weak side of your own char
acters