The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1893-11-05
ETIQUETTE OF WEDDINGS.
CeTemOnialS in Which the Brides
Parents Pay the Piper.

The Designing and Sending of Cards,
and Their Shades of Meaning Sub
ordinate Position OF the Groom-The
Illuminated Vallum Certificate in
It's Silver Case.
From the New York Sun.
All the novels and love tales lead up to
the climax of the courtship, and leave
her clasped in his arms, with her eyes
uplifted to his, as if all the trials of life
ended with the counting, when, in fact,
they have just begun. For the end of the
wooing is the beginning of the wedding,
and everybody knows that wedding is a
most serious and perplexing thing
Now the ten commandments delivered
unto Moses on Mount Sinai, and inscribed
upon two tables Of stone, are not more
fixed and unalterable than is the deca-
logue of a fashionable wedding. Year
after year the same customs maintain
fixed according to the patterns laid down
by the formula followed at English wed
dings. Year after year they are pub
lished. Yet every bride in the freshness
of her new experience finds herself con-
fronted with problems in conventionality
with which she feels unable to struggle
alone. The consequence is that no
ANSWERS to correspondence" are so oft
repeated and reiterated as those relating
to the law and gospel of the wedding.
First, there is the stationery The an
swer to who pays for the wedding cards"
ought to be kept constantly in type ready
for use. Anybody may pay for them eX-
cent the bIridpOrOOU1 hUf tho b,.i] os
father or mother usually receives the re-
ceipt for the bill at well-regulated we'd
dings. Wedding cards and wedding sta
tionery should be purely white. without
glaze and with no attempt at ornamental
ton. The size of the sheet is rather
smaller than that of previous years,
though the new small sheet has bv no
means supplemented the octave size so
long popular. The form of the invitation
engraved thereon in simple script is:
Mr.. and Mrs. Robinson Smith.Jones
Requests the pleasure of Your COMPANY
at the marriage of their daughter
Genevieve
Mr. Wand Ike Brown
on Thursday, June 10. at - O'Clock.
st, Grace church,
This invitation, lengraved on a folded
sheet of the size mentioned. is nut in an
envelope, together with a small card to be
presented at the chufcn door, and larger
card, which reads:
Reception (oT Breakfast
at % state street at One
The envelope may contain the CAT
Home" cards of the newly welded pair.
but it must of necessity bear only the
date and residence with no names. as the
wedding invitations are sent out before
the bride has any legal right to use her
husbands name.
BY punctilious people this At home card
is not enclosed with the others. but an
nouncement cards are sent out afterthe
wedding. Utmost cases these cards are or
dered with the wedding cards, and the
brides mother pays for them. The
bridegroom doesn't count for much in the
preparation for a wedding About an he
is allowed to do is 60 engage most of the
young woman's spare. time, to alienate
her from her friends by not giving her an
opportunity to call on them or them an
opportunity to see her other tban
in his presence. He is allowed
to suggest the names of his friends
and relatives to be invited to the ceremony