Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1893-02-05

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enf bs]lzs< - : sbsp vjFhzsst rtpv1>ton-
kibs kaz<zs hsr>l< The lisa II marriage
ef,<r ~ tsrs>.'z,e a. exl-tr,r:see tors< be-.
An engagement ~11rh enee e4n,e IA
der he wrlters attention had lasted for
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s,n1nu hal bren t:se1.ia< snA te4u-
f.inl. 1u1 ~ tbs k1feiess .sars eref't ca
~ EsAAl.s settL<-i touu INTO tf.a d.
,rous ll.lrr.es uifkon: srisnrs TIE
mnn. Ga tie ether h4s.'. t4d gone west
- make b. everlasting fcFtune. - that
- r1izkt return ard vel tAe queen =
A,- Mart hat el... Ae hl,l ,haifs 1.st many
f1lIs from fke f.4tA u strisI ElslItxl l.,a
t,..ssinx faaras nesee itna,nfel k.fsr
u.znv other girls there were T. whom he
had protested undflnz desofion. She
went On trusting. Finally hs grew
tiresi II is ST and cane back 70 kis mt
hives fezt .--sAe who he.i believed all n
his s,iroit faia.hoos:s about the postpone-
r,er.t= Il fheir marriage from tiese 80
t.n.e. he rroIonsatlon n Their engage
raeaf. ana lad never raarmurci
They weze married. pFseaicaily enough.
fnf What we're their chances Of hapli-
n<zk She bad waited year after Year,
until tire hight Of hope had almost t'ess
froal her eyes. always believing that -
uoald IL loy1l and true Denfirg her.
self II all oti19 claimants she had lived
on ia solitude. = life which = but antici-
pafsj wilowhcod. eq1xn,@nt 20 that II
the SEPARATED wife. hut far more inse-
cure and dependent. until she had b.
come an object Of conjecture. wonder
u.nt. sometimes pity. Then. at last,
when Marriage actually carae to cnd her
long vix.l. tho>s CID dreams Of her heart
| hza ile-i New duties were burdensome:
| attention II = husbands wants ani
/, vhsuls was bore Che had grown fas-
/ tilio,ss about many thirss. Triiies wor-
/ ri.si and irsE.@ted her. She was now too
/ old: they had been separated too long 10
adapt themselves 10 each others ways
I Tat mufual giving anil receiving some
times seen in the Marriages Of younger
pss,pie 81 contrasting deposition was
isaEo-sible with them Dlscord was in
esliabie.
+ hold that the worlds standard Of
honor upon the engagement question Is
al wrong: that. being only Z period q
trial. no eensurcs should attach 70 either
one for breaking an engagement from
good ard sufficient carse Nor. on the
other hand. should it be entered into
h4htly-thai's where the censnre lis
Nea and women Do 50 frequently dis
play such absolute irresponability BY en-
tering frirolonsiy into an arrang ement
. which they never intend 10 consider So
r.ously. az, which they break at the ear
( Hest convenience. when they have tired
. Of the novelty II T. Not infrequently the
mice Of such lightness and fiippancy be-
comes the cost Of q precious HE. when
4 unawares a heart has become entangled
/ In the rneshes.
! The engagement where love exists only
On one side isan interesting study. These
are often arranged by the advice Of mt.
tual friends for pecuniary reasons or for
some good social cause. Suppose. fer
instance. that love is on the man's side
only. the girl not possessing dislike. but
honest respect. and perhaps kindly 70
CARL. she being merely acqrif-scent. The
coulpal Is made. The girl soon finds
herself obliged to submit to the caresses
Of a man 10 whom her heart does no:
fully respond. and she rebels against this
penalty. Every engaged man. save per-
bapsafcw grand courts brother less arctic
fances who regard the fair object idol
4trousiy. considers this his privilege as
an accepted lover. but. believe me. there
IA nothing ~ r<ru1f1fznt 10 the feelings