The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1893-05-07
In the Social World at Home and Abroad
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did not know where the young person
came from and was certain that she had
nc conception OF the effect she was pro-
ducing. Before these officers return
home I hope they will have a glimpse Of
well-ordered households. You are quite
right 10 put the blame where 1t belongs
on mothers. They set the pace. II
discipline does not begin with infancy.
nine children out OF ten are more or less
spoiled A MOTHER
Here. too. is a letter from a man who
mistakes my motive in singing out young
girls for criticism. Old sinners. good sir.
who know what they are about, are not
worth the powder-gunpowder-
upon them. Whenever you want To make
an impression aim at youth, and the
younger the better:
"My Dear Editor:
why. in your photograph Of life at
Old Point, did you leave out the goings
on Of some Of the married women, 10
whom the Daisy Milers could not hold
a tallow candle? Do be fair. And why
have YOU said nothing about the lack OF
accommodation for foreign officers when
coming ashore? There should have been
q room set aside for them in the Hygeia
as a sort OF bureau. where they should
have been received by properly dele
gated persons. Thus they could have been
started right in every direction; been
introduced to such Americans as would
have honored the country, and left Hamp
ton Roads with an Intelligent idea OF
republican manners and intelligence. 1t
IS a great pity that a country so adj
yanced in many ways should stand in its
own light through lack of social ETH
ouette on the part OF the peoples repre-
sentatives. What, with tho brutal care
Iessness Of detail so frequently conspicu-
GUS i'm officials and the fawning o6se-
ouiousness Of individuals. foreigners get a
InuddIed idea Of the effect Of the New
World on humanity. One hundred years
hence II will make no difference what
ANYBODY thinks Of us. Those now alive.
however. would prefer TO see Uncle Sam
nut his best foot foremost when he In
vites great nations to make him quadro-
centennial visit.
AZ OLD SAILOR"
I refuse to take up this gauntlet. Let
Jack Tar fight his own battles.
KATE FIELD.
The persistent gossip about Mrs. Pot
ter's intention Of retiring from the stage,
marrying a rich New Yorker, and settling
down again to a quiet domestic life has
been the cause OF some quiet canvassing
TO ascertain who the ''rich business man.
may be Perhaps there amt no such
person" The marriages Of actresses are
a fruitful topic. They sometimes turn
out so badly that ii is pretty difficult
IN say how Mrs. Potter would fare II she
we're reallv 10 try a domestic role again.
She would be following many illustrious
EXAMPLES. Mrs. George Gould is the first
that would occur TO any one; Mary An
derson-Navarro next, perhaps. These
with that OF Mrs. John Hoey. are mar
riages that turned out happily. Emma
Abbott had and Clara Morris has
husband unknown upon the stage, but
devoted and kind. You don't hear much
OF Mr.. Cecil Clay. Rosina Nokes nus
hand. but he IS one Of the old-fashloned
corr Most actresses marry actors, how
ever. and It is probably the wisest choice
they can make. Robert l.. cuttings
marriage to Minnie Seltgman was an eA-
ception TO all rules. II Is SAID, by the
way. that one reason for father Cu'
ting's cutting up so nasty apout VIC
matter was that he had been rather at
tortive 10 the fair Minnie himself. MIS-
Potter's professional career mas peen @
strange one. Going to it as the most
s,,cceesf,,l amateur in New York, she
hos outdone the old hands by the oar
ing wav i'm which she has acted rlsky
nlavs. When she first played "Cleopa-
tra and very literally barred her BOSOM
10 the property asp, New hork-esen
hIase New York-was shocked DurinB
her entire foreign tour she employer
newspaper man here TO secure the lilsol
ton Of items about her in the papers
and then ouarreed with him ABOUT ths
nav. on the whole. If she wants TO r.
gain a place in New YORK soclely' -
Potter will need TO marry very wen III.
deed I'd like to know who the happy
man is. / do know who ne ISL "''N
that Is James Brown Potter.
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pur,ors OF the engagement or MI
George w. Vanderbilt and MISS AihtuIn'
~ Ney York. are very generally current
.,aording 10 these rumors the engage
-,,ont viii b4 announced Immediately al
The conclusion of the present perlou ol
nolite mourning of the prospective ofide-
groom.
The entire Vanderbilt contingent VIII as
sernble in Chicago by May Nlh. % va,
ried and interesting are the eAhloltS a.
arnusements from now on that ProD"DIy
some members Of the family WIN
tempted to remain there Tor HUI"
longer period than first intended
with Mr.. and Mrs. Bradley-Martih, al
Tho Picbelieu. are their son, Mr.. Bradley
Martin Jr. and the Hon. Rupert craven
The vonneer brother OF their new son-lh-
lou, Who came over 10 act as best man
az tha recent wedding. Mr.. Martin mas
nracticallv abandoned all hope OF recoN-
erine his rocco watches that ne valued
so highly. as no traces or the roopeia
have as vet been discovered. ne anu
Mrs. Martin will sail for England during
the last week in May and their daughter
and her husband will either precede them
or 20 by the same steamship
Mr.. and Mrs. Theodore Havemeyer, OF
New york will start at once for Chicago
Mrs Havemeyer looked fine at her
daughters wedding last Wednesday. She
wore a very rich green ana lavender
shot silk which was abundantly trimmed
with point lace. The entire affair lacked
the element of jollity which usually pre-
walls al the Havemeyer mansion when
weddings. christenings, birthday parties
or other functions are on.
Mr.. and Mrs. Orme Wilson, Of New
York. will sail for this side on Saturday
week Nav 18th, from Havre. on one or
the French steamers. On their arrival
thew will proceed at once 10 Chicago. and
stav there as long as they are interested
in the wonders of the Worlds Fair, and
then move on 10 Newport. All OF the