Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1893-11-05
Re Happy and Heip to Make Others so
The season of Weddings, Receptions
and Other Society Events.
To worry or not to worryg


lures whom social inhumanities AFFECT
like thorns fostering In wound. PuH
out the thorns: bandage the bleeding
flesh: show It to no one; keep II out OF
sight. and before you know IT, the PAIN
has gone. II gives too much importance
TO Inclvilties to publish them, besides,
those who use the lash like to see tnat
IL has brought blood.
Some women worry over their healtn'
or their poverty, their disappointments'
and some worry because they are grow
ing old. Is she the only person VINO Is
growing old?
Is she not simply fulfilling a law OF
nature. and might she not add grace
10 the unwelcone fact that would make
even the young envy her content ana
the gentle grace acquired with years
She will not do this or that. nor go mere
nor there, nor sit In a strong llght' lot
fear that some one will discover her
gray hairs or the thinnest suspicion OF
a wrinkle. And while She worries over
these trivlalties. she denies herself all
the rational benefits Of self-forgettul-
ness. and grows old with worrying
The common-sense view would be 10
remember that we must grow older or
die. and which of us is ready to choose
the alternative?
SO many people can see the disagreeapie
things OF life and descant upon them
yoIubly that those who can find the
agreeable are so unusual as TO. be mover
and so reassuring as TO be always dellsnt-
full. The cheerful soul who busties
brightly about the house; who says In
the storm that It is just going to clear up
and I'm the drought that 1t Is just going
TO rain; who thinks the fever cannot run
much longer when we are almost de-
spairing over a patient; who Is sure the
fire Is Frightening when you are coid'
and that we will have a tidal wave to-
morrow when you are exhausted oy neat
who has a satisfactory excuse for mis-
chieyous urcbln's shortcomings, and who
in the midst of SANDER refuses to beheve
any one so black as painted. Is certainly
a comfort and delight to those about her.
announcement is to most people the very
breath of being, and encouragement Is
ant to make us cease trying TO be or TO
do anything. either for our own good or
for the good of others.
Some people have an unfortunate pro-
pensIty TO brood over what they call the
mistakes" of their lives. This idea arises
from a false estimate of human Judgment.
A conscientious lady of middle age wrote
to a friend: II am glad to feel that |
have probably some years - live. that
| may spend them in repenting my past
mistakes"
To spend ones time In lamenting past
mistakes seems the worst mistake OF ALL
Life is short at the. longest. To act up
TO our best instincts is all we can do
Il Is all that can be expected. II we act
according TO our best Judgment, we do
our best, but being human Judgment, 1t
is fallible. If we did what we thought
right, then could We do better than that
to-day?
In tracing the mistakes Of our lives
and looking back upon them with tha
cooler understanding OF maturer years
would II not be well 10 believe that the
mistakes" must have been intended to
be there as well as the correct actions,
because the plan Of our development has
included both?
The habit of making the best of our
difficulties. of forcing ourselves to smile
and look upward, brings brighter thoughts
10 our minds, brighter hopes 10 our hearts,
and enables US TO understand ana Apply
the maxim of Plato:
He who would be truly happy should
not study to enlarge his estate, but to
contract his desires"
Fret not myself is admonitlon many
hundred years old. and those who can
take 1t to heart are wise.
Where the rule Of life is to do good
and make others happy, there Will be
found the art OF securing true happi-
ness for ourselves.
There seems small need of recon-
mending happiness at this period OF the
season, since we seem to swim In a
sea of happy bridals almost too hume
rous to record.
On Wednesday evening at o'clock one
OF the loveliest of Richmonds lovely
daughters, Miss Meta Potts, and Mr..
Robert Ranlet, OF Holyoke. Mass, will
be married at the Monumental church.
and on Tuesday, the 18th OF November,
Miss Virginia Allen Brock, who has
been admired and beloved from her
childhood, In the city Of her birth, and
Mr.. Floyd Hughes, Of Norfolk, Va, will
be married at half-past In the eve
ming. and Miss Bertha Peasants, popu-
lar and charming young lady, and Mr..
Stanley Berry Tyler. OF Richmond. will
be married Mt o'clock on the after
noon of the same day.
A delightful luncheon was given by
Commander and Mrs. Pegram at the
monitors on Tuesday. II was In honor
of their niece, Miss Mccormick. OF
Washington, ID. c. The party from Rich
mond was chaperoned by Mrs. W. w.
Archer, and the young ladies present
were Misses Mary Norris Jones, Virgie
Archer, Alice Archer, Ella Cooke, the
Misses Clarke, and Miss Cooke, Of Pow
rattan county. Captain and Mrs Pigman
and Miss Adde Plgman, with Miss Nc
Cormick, entertained the guests most
charmlngly Covers were laid for
twelve. the table decorations were red
carnations, and each lady had bouquet
OF chrysanthemums. The party was
shown over the monitors. and after
luncheon had trip down the river in
row-boats, and were comfortably re-
turned to the city in the steam launch
In the afternoon.
The Halloween tea at the Rosemary
Library was very bright and agreeable,
and was only one of. several given In re-
cognition Of the old-time festival.
Mrs. Frank Isaacs entertained Miss
Susie Wexford and a number of her young
friends on the same evening in CHARM
ingly Informal style. There were cob
webs OF strings, which when untangled
were found TO have card on which a
fortune was written; candles In nut
shells named the one that burned out
first, indicating somebody's fate; trying
to bite a swinging apple, on which was
cut name; playing ''old maid with
cards, and many other amusing fortune
telling diversions. Misses Mary Donnan
and Mary Hill assisted in receiving.
Those present were Misses Wexford,
Mary Donnan, Mary Hill, Mary Tucker
Darlington, Annie Guy. Fannie Guy, Mary
Coles Darlington, Elise Branch, and
Messrs. Palmer. Gray. Julien Binford.
Dabney, Carr, Minor, Lewis. Richard
Wilson, Ben. Alsop. Ransom Guy, Spots
wood. Wexford. Barton, Andower. and
Stuart McVeigh.
| The ladies' societies OF Grace Episcopal
church have arranged for a series OF
! silver teas, which they hope will be at
tended by their friends OF other churches
| as well as their own.
Mrs. Clay Drewry. who Is president OF
| the Ladies' Aid Society, has kindly ten
dered the use OF her house on Tuesday
evening, November It'll. for the first enter
| tainment.
Captain Frank Cunningham. who Ii
ever obliging and ready to help every good