The Dalles daily chronicle. [volume] (The Dalles, Or.) 1890-1948, 1893-01-11
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S0une Plnau Talk tn Young Men Who
Think Themselves Pretty Poor.
From the time you begin to pay atten-
ton q, any set of girls you want to study
to please them. and vou want to keep
on studying as long as you live Don't
try to get out Of it by saying that you
haven't much money. and that every
thing that girls like costs an awful lot.
The poorest of you manage to 6nd
money enough to keep yourselves on good
terms with the boys You have some
habit or indulgence which you spend
money to gratify Think the matter
over and make up your mind which you
like best-the boys. your own pet gratifi-
cations or the girls. If you cant put
the girls first you had better drop them
1t may be hard to do, but it's easier and
less huIniliating than TO have them drop
you If you haven't much to do-wfth.
do the best you can with what you have
No more will be expected of you than
what you can do.
Don't drop into sentimental dismal
ness because you cant buy an opera boz
like some city swell. or drive a fast
horse like some smart fellow in the
country. 1t is not so much the cost Of
what you do as the way you do it that
the girl will notice and talk about. IF
you'll be man enough to study girls
tastes and gentleman enough to think
about them real hard, you viii find
ways of showing what sort of stuff Is
IN you. mo- matter how poor you ara
Usually girls get up-an the parties. and
the young men accept such affairs as
naturally as if they were meals at home
or gboarfiing house. or something
else 10 which they are entitled. Instead
Of special courtesies. which deserve
special Fecognitiou 1t isn't custom for
young fellow 70 get up parties on his
own account. but be- ought to have
enough ,manliuess and manners to devise
ssome9 nieans Of rsturning tha eoznpli-
nAut.
If he can't do 1t with his own purse
and brains he can get some other fellow
70 help. ANY two or three clever young
fellows can find plenty Of ways OF enter
tanning or amusing their entertainers IF
they win pool their brains and pocket
book& IL they're not clever, the best
thing they can do Is to make themselves
90 IS soon as possible. for tltSy can't ever
expect to be ''soiid" with the girls with
out It
Don't imagine yourselves generous be-
cause You spend time thinking what
lovely things you would do for the girls
If you only had lots OF money Any
fool can do that and yet die as mean a.
y s6nhint. It takes thinking and work
and self denial for any one to be gener-
ous unless he has great deal more
money than be knows what TO do with,
and nobody ever knew man as rich az
that. Besides there are plenty Of ways
Of doing nice things for the girls with
out spending much money, and youm
find ont some Of them If only you'll be
generous with your time and wits
IF you can afford cigars, or even Gig
arettes, you can afford to do the proper
thing for the girls. One common cigar
. day costs as much as two good theater
tickets q month. Fewer scarfpins mean
more bouquets. and one bouquet will go
further toward making you 'ssolid" with
girl than whole jewelers. case full Of
scarfpins
A suit Of clothes a little less costly than
the one you meant to buy will save you
the price Of ride or two for the girl,
who win care more for one ride than for
all the clothes you may try to show of
m A girls own clothes are all she can
pay attention to, unless the others are
shabby or at badly
No matter what you do. though. for
the dear creatures. you must put your
generosity into your manners as well as
into your doings. Don't act, as q good
many young fellows do, as If you were
paying debt when you do anything
nice for the girls. for whatever they do
for you isn't for pay-it's q gift, and
must be returned IN the same spirit IL
ron wish it to be welcome. Always do
courteous deed as If you were receiving
e favor. for that's what it ought to ap-
pear to your mind, and that's what it
really amounts to if you are the right
sort Of fellow There are some young
men who pay their social debts with the
air of a man paying bill. and the. girls
are very quick to catch on to that sort
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