The Roanoke times. [volume] (Roanoke, Va.) 1890-1895, 1893-07-13


to have the loveliest outfit you ever saw"
responded the loving maiden. Mamma
is giving me everything want"
And the lover-of course he is the
most perfect man in the world" con-
tinued the lady, trying to lead the girl to
talk of her happiness.
Yes, he is right nice fellow. You
know, he has had his salary raised, and
he says we will surely go abroad in the
summer. Isn't that lovely?"
The lady turned away with n sigh.
ALAS! was this the extent of n girls
happiness on the eve of the most impor-
tant event i'll her life-a lovely trous-
seau and a trip to Europe?
And how would the ''right nice fell
low" seem i'll her eyes should some mis-
fortune cause his salary to be cut down,
and If, unlike her mamma, he could not
give her everything she wanted? Were
she deprived of her trip to Europe, would
marriage seem delusion and snare to
her! One would think that marriage
Should be regarded more seriously than
this, and yet hundreds of men and wom-
EN- enter into the sacred relation with
anything but sacred ideas or motives.
know woman whose whole life was
imhittered by the discovery that her
husband had married her because his
aged mother needed a companion Serv-
ANTS were unreliable. and he liked to
be free to go and come as he pleased, so
he married n wife and gave her COM
Portable home and left her to find COM
partnership with the aged mother while
he followed after his own pleasures. 1t
never occurred to him that he should
sacrifice time or inclination to bestow at
tentlon upon the woman he had married.
Marriage ought to mean something
quite different from this. 1t seems to
me woman who takes the wifely vows
fought to reason in this wise:
Il am now going to make it the great
object of my life to establish n happy
home for this man whose wife I am.
No matter what personal sacrifices are
necessary, what distasteful duties NAV
have to perform. will persevere until
make my home an ideal one for the man
who is forced to contend with the turmoil
and strife of the business world. In
that terrible warfare which men wage
for dollars he meets with discord, self
lshness, jealousy and deception. He
shall come to his home as a haven of
refuge where peace, love, apprec;ative
rest, await him. He shall be king of
that domain, and every one within the
Kingdom of home shall find it n delight
TO consult his tastes and cater to his com
fort. He shall always go forth with fresh
courage and strength to meet the daily
battle of life"
n wife unto himself should reason in this
wise:
Il will make this woman happy, what
ever curblnS of heretofore ungoverned
appetites and passions, whatever con-
quering of selfish habits, it may necessi-
tate. will remember that she NAV
sometimes tire of the home which is a
novelty to me after my days work, and
u will plan theater, drive, journey.
for her often enough to give her life va
rIety. will remember that delicate
minded woman is never so. Inundated
as when obliged to ask for money, and
will place a sum at her disposal. each
week or month.
IF the household arrangements occa-
sionally seem troublesome and ill or
dered, l will be considerable remember
ing that matters in my office sometimes
become mixed despite my systematic
methods, and l should not like to have
my wife reprove me for lack Of business
qualities at such times.
Il will remember that the physical
woman is n delicate machine, and if she
sometimes seems strangely nervous and
sensitive will be considerate and not
reproach her. Twill remember that she
needs to be told in words as we'll as ac-
lions that she is dear to me, and that n
word of praise gives her new Joy and
courage in her efforts to please me, and
L will not neglect the polite attentions
which every woman appreciates from
the man she loves. To keep her in love
with me and proud of me shall be my
chief object"
There may be great many men and
women who reason in this wise as they
enter married life. trust there are. l
know ut least three couples who set
forth with these resolves, and | know
that they have made home place which
as as near heaven as can be found OH
this care burdened earth.
But such heavens are mot reached nj
a single bound" Patience, sacrifice on
the part of both, self control and com
mon sense are necessary to establish
harmonious relations between two peo-
ple who have been reared with entirely
diferent surroundings. A wife may be
tired OF the house and long for recrea-
tlon, but if she sees her husband come
nome with an especially tagged expires
sion OF face she should have the tact to
realize that this is the time to keep silent
about her wishes and to settle down 70 =