Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1893-03-26

but fhe woman who loves
Us ia terrible" To which a
greater cy'nic added. Fortunately she
never loves rs
This WAS more witty than true. for
every woman loves, has loved or expects
TO love some man.
Man has . horror OF being loved--with
mercenary motive So great is this
horror today that it amounts to morbid
expectancy. Nine young men out of ten
speak of wife as possession only 70
be purchased But If man had never
been niggardly. woman would never have
become mercenary. And mercenary wo-
men are few. Men are far more stereo-
typed in mind than women. Therefore
their ideas regarding the grand passion
are more uniform.
While almost every woman likes
dramatic element In a mans love for
her the normal man has dread Of the
dramatically disposed woman. especially
In the role of a wife. This is the reason
we find so many phlegmatic women who
are wives Intensity worries a man un-
less 1t is kept well under check. and tho
tragic no finds insupportahle in daily life.
Less romantic than woman by nature
aud with less idealism. yet somewhere
in his heart every man hides dream Of
that earthly trinity-father. mother and
child-in which he imagines himself the
chief element
Sooner or later. TO greater or less de-
gree. every man passes through the TO
mantle phase
Unfortunately for woman. his idea Of
q sweetheart is essentially different from
his requirements for a wife later in life.
The average young bachelor is at
tracted by the girl whom other men ad-
mire. He likes to carry off the belle of
the season before tho eyes Of rivals. He
IL amused by her caprices. fattered by
her jealous exactions and grateful for
the least expression OF her regard for
him. He is lavish with compliments
and praise. But sentiment in mantle
average man-springs wholly from I'M
appeasedh appetites. The coveted but
unpossessed woman can manifest her
love for him in almost any manner, and
" will tie agreeable and pleasing.
Whether she is coy. shrinking. coquet-
fish or playful. demcnstrativeo or reserved,
his imagination will surround her with
every charm. A mans imagination is
the flower OF his passions. When those
passions are Gained. the flower fades
Once let him possess the object Of his de-
sire. and his ideas become entirely
changed. He grows critical and dis
eliminating and truly masculine in his
ideas Of how he wishes TO he loved.
We all know the story of the man who
compared his courtship TO a mnd race
after railroad train. and his married
life 10 the calm possession OF a seat with
the morning paper at hand. He no longer
shouted and gesticulated, but he enjoyed
what he had won none the less for that
& IL was a very quick witted husband
who thought Of this little simile to ex-
cuse his lack Of sentiment, but there arc
very few wives who are satisfied to be
considered In the light Of railway
compartment. for tho soul Of the wife
has all the romantic feelings which the
soul of the sweetheart held. II Is only
the exceptional man God bless him and
htI4t8<V hftAsf VIII fdI ifti rsiAlifftslll
and romance after possession Is an estab-
hshcd fact. Unhappily for both sexes.
sentiment 10 just "a much part Of wo-
mans nature after she surrcnders her
self a. before.
A we'll timed compliment, q tender
caress given unasked. would avert many
correspondent case If husbands were
wiser
After marriage a man likes to be loved
practically.
All the affection and demonstrations
Of love possible cannot render him hap
~ IL his dinner is not well cooked and
II his home IS disorderly, Grant him
tho background Of comfort and he will
be contentc,l to accept the love as a
matter q course.
Grant = woman all tho comfort life
may offer. vet she is not happy without
the background Il expressed love.
When men and women both learn 70
realize this iaborn difference IL eacl-
others natures and 70 respect 1t. mar
risSe VIII cease 20 be a failure
In this. | think. women are really 20
riake their part Of the concession more
cheerfnsly 'hsn are the men. Women
who loathe homework ard who possess
~ natural taste for il become excellent
housekeeasrs AMI careful. thrifty man
agers. hecan~e they realize the imI-er-
lance q thee matters in relation q tie
husbands comfort
lsnt tgr few nsep cultivate scnt'rseri'.
although .nowing il a. dear 20 the wife
Man = forever taking eioqrenfsy q
woman sensitive. refined nature, which
unfts hsr for ruhhc careers. Yet tAis
very sc1sitiveaess he craesfes in private
life b IguuEine Dor neea = different
heart Diet fkanf he one wbich he requires
Wives throne the cpoking schools.
hoTinz - make thfif hnsl,anas happier
thereby. Way net tart scho>i Of ser-
tinnest wherein hrsfsanfs should -
ccaeheSl n Teyiag <rsceful compliments
snl shswfng a>sfcz1e sFt<nficns. - Gesr
20 thesr ~ivess
A nan hse- % - loved ch~fvfuilr. A
raoriii pas<ien h1res hsra inexTre@sib'-.
no mater berr lovsi Il nav -.
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