New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1893-05-28
HOME AND SOCIETY.
CHAT OF THE SEASON.

DNRIES-RESCUE FOR The
MEN LIKE THE 1890 GowN-eoNH
PARIS FASHIONS - SPRING
STYLES IN WALL
COVERINGS
~ ur known as the obligations OF
o,a,, ro c,,r;ous outcome of out fin de steele
,u,., r1,o, sucb duties really exist as moral
oh,ica,io, and are virtually necessary 10 hoo 'he
social world together as an oredh'@"'o" ]" o''
Ian, u soon,s a pity that the drudScry ana empty iorhs
- ,,r ,vort cannot be so arranged that they VIII
,Lo ,ose time and patience. For instance can no
w -, y romedy for what has really become n
Wv Ill , o. formal visiting. which Is equally de-
naod from every one who desires 10 move IN The
,., .v,m7 The unlucky dame who has no car-
800 M fcotman. and possibly no great degree OF
.ontb Is expected TO In the same race with her
- fortunate sisters Great Is the WEAKNESS OF
irving 10 make dozen calls on short winters after
80 With n slow cab only IT ones command Surely
nrom her who has little. little shonld be required
Tho dinner call that troubles ones conscience or the
cord after a pleasant dance that must be LETT, takes
mo, little away from the agreeable recollection of
,,e OCCASION This ought not TO he necessary
sequence Of an entertainments and now that the ukase
bos zone forth that cards sent by post are bad FORM
what f. a poor woman to do?
~ in New. York this matter Of formal visiting has
become n burden too heavy TO he borne ny people
whose time IS presumably more or less valuable what
official dutyl Many a woman has broken down under
the arduouS strain Of trying personally to full all
that Is required OF her In the way OF returning her
Visits in person. for the public IS very eNgent and
considers that not only an acknowledgment OF every
,ist Is necessary, but that 1t must be pcronal
acknow led cment. A woman whose husband WIS In
the Cabinet throughout entire Administration has
said that during the four years that they were In
Office she spent nearly her entire time In simply
caalogrng and returning her numerous visits. hour
or five days OF every week In the season., she sid,
a actually took my lunch In the carriage and stained
ont at L. O'Clock In my endeavor TO eaten up viii
ms visiting book before my reception day brought
a fresh batch OF callers TO overwhelm me. 1t vas
tho most dispiritng thing Imaginable and was tie
hardest work did. Something ought to 20
done to relieve the wives OF the Cabinet officers frm
such a burden"
Another social tax which Is almost great a trail
in It's way is the necessity OF dealing with the numr-
Gus "teas' TO which all the world and his wife Te
invited. and which regarded in the light OF n
entertainment by the givers Of the tea and cals.
"Really, must 60 and that Mrs So exclaimd
Mrs. Amsterdam Geboren Van Knickerbocker Il
have received cards TO her teas for two winters
succession and have never entered her house slr
must think me dreadfuy rude. and those new peopf
are apt TO be sensitive" Feeling that she was con
fcrrng favor In thus honoring her rich neghbor will
her acquaintance. but that "noblesse obige." Mrs
A. wendell her way thither on one OF the afternoons
for which she had had an invitation. She found
perfectly appointed house. and as the foOtman an
nounced her name ladylike looking woman came for
ward and greeted her politely. but without the slight
est sign OF recognition. Other people behind
her. and Mrs a. passed In with the crowd, feelhg
that she might just we'll have stayed away seeing
acquaintance in the throns she said TO her, with
a laugh at her expense: Fancy my egotsm In
ina ginning that Mrs. :. anxious TO know me. Why,
she does not even know who ] am"
he thpr moi
heard your name" And they went out together
the latter took the occasion to 10 their hostess
"Oh. Mr.. s., Mrs. Amsterdam does not think you
know her."
"Oh, yes. surely" murmured the lady Of the house
IN obvious bewderment.
"And this Is the visit that has been troubling my
conscience for the last year." exclaimed the irate
representative Of the Knckerbockers. Il might have
spared myself the effort: the evidently takes
her from a social directory and sends out her
by the wholesale. and she has rot the least Idea
" comes and who stays awayW
Queen Victoria not only has butter and milk
from her own royal darics. but u sometimes turns
q pretty penny by the sale Of Ties commodities when
her Italian journeys diminish for the time The palace
use OF them. During her bsencc both cream
and butter were bought up BY London dairy com
pany. They disposed Of the butter at 40 cents
pound-a much smaller price than Is asked III New
Nor; for any especial brand" of the article. As for
the thick yellow from ndsOr 1t commanded
almost any price All the pats OF butter stamped
with the royal arms. thar one assured that
they had in reality come from arms in Windsor Park
OF these farms the two princir were established
Iy George III. otherwise Ter George" and
they used TO he known the TX and the Flemish
farms from the different syst employed in treat
Ing the different soils.
Speaking OF the especial br OF butter sold to
wealthy people In the city at ranging from 75
cents to 81 pound, 1t must b. that great deal
OF is hardly worth the small ices paid for the
creamery butter. pie'm sque name which
breathe forth the fragran' ,les OF fOwery
country. side IS often the chief reco mendaon Of
expensive butter Of this class. T. ideal butter IS
that made by perfectly neat couItry housekeeper
In an old ia shoncd springho FIJI o chness
and 50 clean that one might dine OF the floor but
that kind OF butter Is not sold In w-NorS even at
81 pound. Indeed one doesn't often find II In the
country nowadays. The wives and daughters OF
farmers don't care TO make batter when an djacent
creamery will buy milk. and while creamery but
ter attain TO the texture and flavor q that
made In small quantities. under tie conditions "ted
above by the Of-fashoncd housekeeper still 1t Is ood
butter and great cleanliness is u.s. ally observe In
preparing II.
There Is a certain flower with which no host IS
likes to adorn her house, and yet despite the utmost
care. few bathrooms without II. The seins1ness
and egotism OF the young men OF the day encourag'
rs growth. and did not the blight OF It's own morhe
pride often withdraw 1t from public view the wall
flower would flourish never before. Perhaps this
Is not all due 10 the seshness OF the society youth
though much might be said as TO the duties guest
10 HIS hostess-dutcs OF which greai many
young do not seem even dmly conscious. IN
fortunately with us there has been abuse OF the
manly virtue OF caantry. which has res ted in bring
ing about a serious Iaoi If gallant Across the
water a man asks you woman fc dance, ana
when tho dance is finished he rctur?s her to her
chaperon Or, In he T. IN EngEsim n, he may
desert her In the middle Of The hallrooma act hardly
TO he recommended. Here when dance 4 over, In
stead OF Having his partner with chaperoi or some
Young friend, the man Is expected not TO ABANDON
her until successor comes to take her u &C. in
consequence, II girl is popular, he 'ay, TO
college boys expression, get stuck" D. nail
an evening.