The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1893-04-02

a dull time. Of course there are hardly
ever enough men to go around. The woman
who is surrounded by men is supposed 10
be having a good time, but she only knows
what hard work it is to keep herself sur
rounded, and what little fun she gets out Of
1t. As for the other women, the ones who
are not surrounded. they are perfectly
wretched. Men think society is arrau Red
for them. Il isn't. Womea try to at
tract men that other women may be made
enVious. That Is the secret Of all a
woman's efforts to charm men. The men
themselves are often bores, and the most
successful woman is the one who gets home
most tired out. Envy, hatred and malice
take rest, and the women get q chance to
enjoy the society Of each other. In other
words, they get chance at the attractive
people in the world. and they have a COR
respondingly good time. No need to say
long live dove parties. But let US cry "all
hail" to them. The women who have
started the fashion are of undeniabe
position. 1t is an Acknowledgements, not
that they lack the attentions of men, but
that really they cannot submit to being
bored all the time, and now the rest of US
may declare the same thing. AS for men ?
Well. already they are beginning to wake
up and coax for chances TO be noticed by
the blase danes who really have had
enough of them and are not afraid to
say so.
The woman who would be a successful
leader in society must possess infinite tact,
says the New York Tribune. She must be
able to say the right thing at the right mo-
ment, and never by any chance wound any
ones self~esteem; she must be so worldly
wlse as to seem genuinely unselfSh so full
or consideration and sympathy as to appear
full of the milk of human kindness A tact
full person will invariably remember and
use your name; she will appear interested
in your hobby, and will listen with flatter-
ing attention to whatever you may say.
She will talk children and servants with
the house mother. discuss pictures with the
artist, books with the author, and gossip
with the worldly minded. If this universal
sympathy spranR from a higher motive
what a noble character il would imply-for
the curious part Of a perfectly worldly
policy is that it Stimulates so successfully
what is best and loveliest.
"The most remarkable experience which
had abroad, said a woman just home,
who went over last. fall, to the New York
Times, happened before l touched q
foreign shore. At Bremen, where we landed,
we were taken off in a tug; as we were
steaming to the wharf we approached very
close to a vessel crossing our path, and for q
few seconds a collision seemed imminent
n AhoI WAOAl4 L hdA hOGASGh OI1 LhC pdobdBc
over but did not know at all, completely
lost his head at this crisis. He
was sitting near me but he suddenly
rose. took off his high hat, put it in my lap,
and, with the nasty exclamation: Please
keep this - leaped overheard.
Though every attempt was made to res
cue him. he was drowned there before our
eyes, and l landed short time later, care
fully holding his silk hat, which, by his last
will and testament, was certainly, though
most uselessly and reWsomely, mine"
1.-THE next best thing to discovering gold
mine," said a man OF society to the New
York Tribune. snot long ago, lis to bring to
the front some new family with social as
piraJions. They can be worked to any ex-
tent for the first few years or So" Eyes"
said his companion, but they invariably
drop their first set OF friends as soon as
they are fairly launched and become indie
pendent" THAT is all right" rejoined the
first speaker; ''it Is all a matter OF interest
any way, and the first people have had their
innings" There is nothing more amusing
to watch than the various phases OF social
progress in this republican land, and the alb
surdly exaggerated value that ia placed
upon being a member OF the privileged
coterie.
just what constitutes the open sesame to
society" is very hard to say. 1t is not
wealth, although that is one of the necessary
qualifications. 1t is not family, although
that, too, has its advantages. Some people
struggle for years without succeeding in
passing more than the first portal of the
temple of fashion, while others with no bet
ter qualifications walk straight into the in-
ner sanctuary almost without an effort at
is the beginning that tells more than any,
thing else" said woman who was a keen
observer. People should not try to force
themselves upon society. but should make
an effort to become necessary to it. A
woman who is clever and wishes to launch
her family will not go TO Newport, for in
stance, at first, but will begin her opera
tions III some quieter place, where there are
a few good families with whom she may be-
come intimate. Then she can gradually ex-
tend her circle until she knows enough peo-
pie to form a nucleus. After that, if she
has money and knows how TO entertain, she
may pass the Rubicon with safety"
A young man, says Clara Belle, had just
asked a girl to marry him, She hung her