St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-02-01

II one has courage enough to wait,
they will find that by and by other peo-
pie are likely to come round to their
way of thinking. This view may be Of
some comfort to those misjudged moth
PTS who. by keeping the confidence of
their daughters. have been able to pre-
vent by their loving care those foolish
RntanglementS that so often mar wom-
ans life, and keep what is OF such in
conceivable value to them, the compan-
lonShip of their daughters, until they are
Did enough to have some idea OF the
Importance of wise choice in marriage.
A writer in the Chicago Times has this
10 say on the misunderstood subject
managing mothers:
The world appears to have an idea
that mothers with marriageable daugh-
terS are ever on the alert for wealthy
husbands TO carry away their offspring
10 pa!atial homes. Much is said of the
scheming and plotting that goes Oh to-
ward this end. Many there are who
firmly believe that a daughters choice
in the matter is quite out of the ques
ton, and that the maternal guardian al
ranges everything from the first meet
ing to the wedding breakfast.
This idea has been fOstered to large
degree by the many unions of spring
. and December that seem to offer no
other explanation unless, indeed, the
girl is as mercenary as the parent is
supposed to be and accepts old age III
lieu of youth OH account Of the ducatS
in his Golfers.
In this country there are very few Of
the generally accepted type CT match
making mothers, Mothers there
DESTROYS that their child should ben
eft by her marriage than have to
assume another and palmer mode
of LIVING than the one she had
been accustomed to. Isn't this natural?
Does any right-minded woman wish to
see her child thrown from ease to hard
ships: and certainly, if hardshipS have
been her lot, how much more eXcusable
the desire that the rest OF her life may
atone for the fluctuations of her girl
hood? No mother is anxious to get rid
of her child. Of course, in the earlier
years of the gilPs life thure is pro-
tecting sort of love. There is the ever
Watchiul care, the anxiety that the
WOmanhoCd of the daughter will be
bright fufillment of the mothers hope.
ana ever before that mothers vision
comes the thought that when the
school DAYS are over she will
have gained the sweetest. dearest CON-
paniun on earth. Then do you suppose
that it is pleasant, just as soon as that
time arrives, to give up these cherished
dreams and share with another the
treasure she would have ali her own? 1t
is always painful 10 the mother to part
with her child, but, as is only natural
to expect, what more worthy than that
SHE should watch the moths that fiji
ABOUT the candle, weigh the virtues and
vices OF the suilorS, and be DESTROYS Of
getting the best for the child OF her
heart? 1t may sound very undemo-
cratic. but if there were more match
making mothers of the right sort there
would Gc far less unhappy marriages.
is net a mothers judgment more clear
sighted than that of the girl blinded by
the infatuaiUn of first attachment? If
the daughter would only appreciate the
wider experience of the mother the
matches made in heaven would increase
in number through the care and fore
sight of the human agent In the bust
hess on earth.