The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1893-11-29
WOMAN AND HOME.
GOOD MANNERS IN CHILDREN A MAT.
TER or CAREFUL TRAINING.


Treated In tho Proverbs Of Various Coun-
trie~=why Women should Marry--The
Chiidren's Bath--A Lemon Luncheon.
II people would only realize how very
very easy it Is to teach children good man
ners when they are little, IL seems to me
they never would neglect to attend TO It.
Hhe youngster Is allowed to 90 his own
way, to violate every rule OF courtesy,
hometimes Of decency, until his habits are
20 An extent formed. Then there is a
great breaking up Of established notions,
End the child is punished and nagged and
worried for doing that which IL has here
fofore been permitted to do without criti-
rism- IL bec2mes angered, sullen, unset
tied and irritable, and IL it has strong
sense OF justice-which, by the way, Is
more common in children than people, as
a rule, give them credit fort feels out
ragged and abused and becomes unman-
ageable and rebellious.
The best schoolof manners for child is
the parents example and home training.
! Company manners are, by all odds, the
worst element that ever entered into a
family. just why people should indulge
themselves In all sorts Of careless, indif-
ferent and Ill bred habits when they are
alone at home. and put on veneer of
courtesy, amiability and polish when
somebody comes, is one OF the many mys-
teries of this very mysterious thing which
we call life. How much easier 1t would
be to maintain the steady, uniform de-
pertinent. to follow out the same theories
and hold to the same principles Sunday
and week days, storm and shine, alone
or in society Veneers are a makeshift.
They may have their uses, but are far less
desirable than the solid material all
through. One lasts for little while; the
other weathers the storms Of tune, hard
usage and the wear and tear Of everyday
life. One In temporary and wears out with
a little contact with the world; the other
grows better with every passing year. The
earliest training of child should be I'm
strict conformation with the most approx
ed society into which it Is born. That
which is known as Sunday manners or
good behavior should be the infexible rule
OF the household.
One of the prettiest sights in the world
was witnessed In public place the other
day when boy Of years stepped out in
advance Of his mother and older sister,
opened the door, held IL with one hand.
Dourteously raised his cap with the other
and waited for them to pass through. It
cheek and caused many a mother with
growing children to wonder why it was
that her boys never did anything of that |
sort The simple reason was that in that |
household courtesy was enforced from the |
cradle. The boy had never been permit
ted to suppose that he could pass through
a door and allow 1t to swing back into
the face OF his seniors. At the age Of
years, he could offer his mother his arm,
escort hG to the table, place her chair for
her, pick up her fan, handkerchief or
gloves and perform any Of the little polite
acts OF everyday existence with the dig
nifty and grace Of courtier. TO say that
he was admired by every one would not
be in the least an exaggeration. In what
striking contrast was his conduct with
the Indifferent, lounging carelessness of
most OF the boys with whom he was asso-
ciatedi But to attain this degree of ease
and polish 1t is scarcely necessary to say
that the strictest rules Of good breeding
were constantly observed In that family.
II may be said that such things take
too much time and trouble, and that ones
home IL place for relaxation and indul-
sence in ones personal peculiarities. While
his may be 30, the question would imme-
iiately arise just what habits and prac-
ices should be allowed, and whether, un-
Ter any circumstances, bad manners, loaf
ng and extreme carelessness are to be toll
rated. When once one is trained to good
orm, some of the most Objectionable fea-
ures OF everyday indulgence become as
iistasteful as they were aforetine thought
comfortable and almost necessary. Ali of
which goes TO prove the truth of the old
quotation, Show use doth work a habit
n a manP'--New York Ledger.