The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1893-08-25
In WOMAN'S BEHALF.
GIRL BACHELORS.
They Are q widely Discussed and INDIE
pendent Glass.

widely discussed to-day than the uh-
married women who can and do earn
their own living. 4 new name has
even been coined for this product OF
modern civiliza tion-she is the girl
bachelor TO the critics who praise and
blame. She has had at least a tiny
space in almost every paper OF note,
and all agree on some points That she
is selfish, infinitely selfish-holds sort
of monopoly, as it were, of that uncom-
mon trait-seems to be favorite theme
of her critics. They also assert that
she must necessarily become unwoman-
". and one of them went further re-
Gently and said that the old maid OF
other days who was ''houshold servant
in general" to any or all of her rela-
tives had a brighter future before her
than the single woman of to-day who
supports herself.
The great advancement made by wom-
en- in the last half century is largely
due to the fact that they are, in meas
ure at least, free to earn their own liv-
ing by doing the work which they can
do best, no matter what that may be.
Only in independence can any class
of human beings reach their highest
development. and if the unselfishness
and true womanliness so much praised
and lamented as thing almost lost in
this day means ignorance and a weak
yielding to any fate rather than make
an effort to help ones self, it is not
such a bad loss after all. Looking back
at the life of the single woman of the
''good old days" am deeply impressed
with the privilege of living in these un-
regenerate times.
Fifty years ago the single women of
middle age was felt to have no mission
in life save TO be the unpaid and gener-
ally unthanked drudge for such OF her
relations as were willing to give her
food and shelter. This was often given
grudgingly enough, especially as she
advanced III years and became less able
to work. Passed from one to another,
as her services were needed or her pres
ence became tiresome. she truly had
not where to Law her head" She was
regarded and made to feel that she
was an object of charity and must be
content with whatever her more for
tunate relatives were willing to give
her She might nurse. teach, doctor,
keep house, minister to the wants of
any or all of her relatives, but wages
for her faithful services was an I'M
heard-of thing.
There were exceptions, of course, just
as there were slaves who were better
off in slavery than in freedom, but the
tendency was bad. 1t gave the idea
tharwomen were incapable of support
ing themselves. They were not edu-
Gated to any special calling, because to
be ''some bodys wife" or somebody's
old maid servant did not require any
special training.
A woman who could carry on a bust
ness, edit paper, or run her own farm
to profit was almost as rare as red
headed Indian. Even literary work
was looked upon as unwOmlnly. No
wonder women turned to marriage as
the last hope. and prayed, Any one,
good Lord, will do"
With the war, which desolated so
many homes and forced upon so many
women the necessity of earning money
or starving, came the awakening to the
fact that there was a wide field for
women outside OF domestic service.
Men were so scarce that women had
q chance to show their mettle. 1t
might be said of the civil war that it
resulted in the freeing of the Negroes
and the old maids.
The single wOman-the girl bachelor
OF to-day, is often the mainstay and
90 90
For every independent single woman
who lives in ease and gay bachelor
hood" there are ten who are the bread
winners for a family. They do not
make a fuss over it, either, but go
quietly about their business as man
would, making no pretense of good
ness, simply doing their duty, and a
little proud, perhaps, of their ability to
do it we'll When one remembers the
innumerable charities to which women
give so lavishly of their time and
money, the charge that seltishness is
likely to come with freedom seems I'M
founded.
One point more. Circumstances have
made the girl bachelor. All our litera-
ture of to-day, from the highest re-
view to the penny newspaper, breaches
the necessity OF independence for single
women. Parents and schools teach it;
II is expected of the average girl that
She shall be able to earn her own liv-
ing in some way. From babyhood this
idea is instilled into her mind, and
usually she rises 10 the occasion"
nobly and successfully.
Moreover, male relatives are no
longer willing to give homes to the
single women of their families, and few
married women care to admit a single
relative permanently to their home
circle. In these days of eXtravagant
living few men can afford to offer asy-
lums to their unmarried female rela-
tives: their incomes will not justly the
extra expense.
And they are likely to think and to
say: with the many opportunities
open to women, she can make her own
living as / make mine. Why should
she expect to be burden on my Shout
-de-s3"
This may sound hard, and be thought
untrue-perhaps it is untrue of the
richer classes-but down among the
rose roots among the great common
people," from which class the girl bach
.elor most often comes, it is sadly true.
But the girl bachelor does not expect
support. The bread of charity is Bit
ter" she knows well, and that of hon.
est toll is very sweet So she goes her
way, busy. honest and independent,
knows the pleasure of earning what
she spends and spending what she
earns, and the content that only comes
to those who owe no man a cent
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