Bismarck weekly tribune. [volume] (Bismarck, Dakota [N.D.]) 1884-1943, 1893-09-22
WOMAN AND HOME.
IA MOTHER SHOULD TRY TO LOOK
PRETTY WITH HER CHILDREN.

A Noted German Teacher-Pure Air In the
Kitchcn-women Who Do Not Grow Old.
To he a Successful Newspaper woman
Women In the Medical Field.
"Mrs. NJ seems devoted to her chill.
dren," said one friend to another.
Eyes" replied the other, but the chill
dren don't seem devoted to her. Her own
shrink from her, and mine run and hide
whenever she comes into the house"
"Why?" asked the first in great aston.
ishment.
"Well, 1 don't know" answered the 9th.
er. II believes it's her clothes and her
manner. She is in deep mourning. She is
a tall woman and always wears long sweep
ing black gowns, with not a vestige of
white about them. She speaks in a mourn
full tone and signs every few minutes. Chill
dren naturally shrink from any such gloom
as that.
They are very impressionable. They
feel manner Il appearance very deeply.
While they are little, all their impressions
come through their senses. for they have
not yet become conscious of themselves.
Now, if Mrs. Nj believed what she pro-
fessed she would consider it a duty to shake
off h~erdespondency, instead of encouraging
its expression. She would know that she
had more to be thankful for thar to be sor-
Irowful about. And she would know par
ticularly that the duty we w to the living
is more imperative and essential than the
duty we to the dead.
She should know that she has no right to
shadow the lives of her little children with
such an unhealthy atmosphere. 1t is her
1,,e:~oe. - GIL >l1s- No., 80
and gladness, with lively actions and CHEEKY
words and bright smiles. No matter how
devoted a mother is. if her speech and face
and general appearance are forever asso.
.ciated in a child's mind with depressing
and uncomfortable feelings, how is he go
ing to learn that God meant mar to be
happy in being good, and not miserable?'
Yes. that is true" returned the other.
II believe mothers should keep themselves
young for the sake of their children. If
other women owe it to their contemporaries
to make themselves agreeable to the eye
and consequently more youthful, mothers
are doubly such debtors. They owe it to
the next generation as we'll"
practically it is not hard for a woman
to be prettily and brightly dressed at
home" said the woman, who seemed to
have considered the subject. IF she thinks
it right to wear Grape and weeds as a sign
and expression of her grief everywhere else,
she ought to beautify her person and look
bright and pleasing in the house and espe-
cially in the nursery. Pretty house dresses
and tea gowns are so inexpensive and SO
easy to concoct that no one can hardly be
excused on that score.
ut has always been one of my cardinal
doctrines that if a child has a right to any
one thing more than another he has a right
to pleasant memories of his childhood. He
has a right to have a pretty, gracious moth
er to remember, and a mournful black
draped one does not fit that demand at all.
THE mother makes the children's wealth
er. All the love and care she can give won't
reconcile them to perpetual thunderclouds
and darkness, dashes of rain from her eyes
and cold chills from her voice tones. Chill
dren admire and are proud of pretty moth
ers more than any one would believe.
"They like to see Inc touch bright, pleas
ant colors. They like to bear them. 1t
is part of their education, and an easy
and pleasant part if we would only
think SO. No matter what violence Mrs.
NJ does to her feelings in the process,
think it is her duty to wear a blue gown
and a smile for her baby to see, instead of a
black one and a sigh"
Her companion laughed. Mrs. M
would call you heretical, my dear"
perhaps she would. But no matter-l
am telling the truth."-Eva Lovett in Har.
per's Weekly.