Hopkinsville Kentuckian. [volume] (Hopkinsville, Ky.) 1889-1918, 1893-06-27
The Etiquette to Bo Observed By Both


The Etiquette to lie Observed Hy Both
Seres.
Many members of the fair sex think
that II is sufficient 10 don sable gar
ments in order 20 DO in mourning,
whatever the cut or adornment of these
garments may be Now this is a
great mistake, for mourning is In
compatible with ornaments of any
kind, and has been invented, on the
contrary, precisely for the purpose of
dispensing with all the tyrannies Of
fashion on the part Of the afflicted.
For those who wear mourning merely
~ a matter of form. without really oar
ing FOR those who are gone, this rule
remains just AS immutable, neverthe-
less, and can be no more disregarded
than II their hearts were breaking for
the loss of a cherished relative Les
convenances," as the French say, exact
that 40 long as one wears mourning for
somebody one should show proper re-
spect for his or her memory, regardless
OF personal feeling in the matter
jet, and even black-wood jewelry are
not worn in deep mourning, and the
only fur permissible is black astrachan
after the first period Of mourning is
past. Gloves should not be of kid, but
OF black suede, and shoes and slippers
OF black channels leather. For a hus-
band mourning should be worn during
a period OF two years at least Through
out the first half OF this time the
dresses should be OF dull black
wool made absolutely without or
nament excepting broad band Of
English Grape bordering the skirt In
France, where mourning etiquette il
strictly observed, widow wears out
doors long black shawl of heavy cash
mere draped around the shoulders after
the fashion of twenty years ago, but
here II is allowable 10 adopt a black
cloth jacket lavishly trimmed with
Grape. The long Grape veil is worn
over the face by widows during at least
a year, and after that hanging down
the back. In the case OF the death Of
other relatives than the husband IL is
usually worn over the face for few
weeks. on late IL has become usual for
widows TO adopt when at home the
English widows cap. AZ the end of
twelve months lighter and more fanci-
full material, such as grenadine, silk
Grape, fancy cloths, etc, become per
missible, and with these may be worn
for the evening black or white pearls II
Jewels should be desired. During the
last six months-that Ia, eighteen
months after the death of her husband
the widow can wear gray, lilac,
mauve and white, amethysts and dia-
monds IL Is, however, not in good
taste thus TO tighten the mourning be-
fore two full years have elapsedi and
some widows never discontinue wearing
dark colors.
For father or mother deep mourning
Is worn at least twelve months; for
brothers, sisters, brothers or sisters-in-
law, from eight months to n year. The
mourning for uncles and aunts is worn
six months. and that for cousins six
weeks. In olden times II was not con
siderod necessary 10 observe mourning
for a child-a most barbarous idea, for
no despair can be greater than that of
u bereaved mother. Grape Is now worn
for a child during at least two years,
when not ever afterward.
Men do not observe mourning ETH
quette" rs strictly AS do women; black
suits, black or white four-in-hand ties
black gloves and mourning band
around the hat is all that n required Of
them. Children under ten years Of age
are not put In black but are clothed
from head 10 foot In pure white.
Anybody invited 10 be present at n
wedding while In mourning must for
that occasion only leave of Grape and
wear either black silk and lace, or spot
less white. In England court mourn
ing Is worn, strangely enough, in black
and crimson, and In Austria in black
ana white. A white satin dress covered
with black Chantilly lace Is considered
quite the thing ~ wear In the evening
after the death of a member of the AUS
TRAN imperial family, and absolute
black Ii only worn by near relatives,
IL goes without saying that when
death has visited family IT, members
abstain from receiving any hut intimate
friends, and from accepting invitations
to parties, balls, or even from going 10
the theater. Servants, whether male or
female. belonging 10 the establishment
should be put In mourning and II a car
riage Is kept harness and liyeries should
be Invested OF brass or even silver orna-
mentS.-N. Y, Tribune.