The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1893-02-18


his brain is always big enough to think it
out; his heart is great enough to pity and
love her weakness, and because he is a
man he will make it all right. And the
having it made all right for one in this
world, means great DEAL An American
man, unless he comes from the great West,
where fresh air is plenty, is not oyerstrong
physically. He is a bundle of nerves, each
one of which is drawn as tense as possible;
and his mentality is so great that when he
finishes the days labor, be it what it may,
in the great commercial markets or among
the learned professions, he wants relaxation.
If he weren't man, he might be willing
to take that with the herd; but, being a
man, he properly enough wants to be spe-
cially catered to. And this is his right.
The duty of wife is to cater to every
desire of man, from looking her best for
him to giving him her best in every way.
She has no right to make herself anything
but agreeable to him. She has the right
to be his friend and his sweetheart, and
when she combines these, she is the strong
est power in his life. Usually she thinks
only of herself, and is once in awhile sur
prised to discover that he finds in some
other woman-who may lack her beauty,
who may even lack her youth-delights
that he never discovers in her. lam very
serious about this. The cause of the Ameri-
can man, his rights to happiness, seems to
me of much more importance than who
shall be next President, and whether
women or dogs are the most intelligent.
Personally, l think dogs are, for they know
what they want and get it.
If women ever do learn, it is usually
when it is too late, and then, Of course,
they blame someone else. never saw a
man-of course, in this l don't include
dudes-peacock about as woman does in
her fine clothes. | never saw man, if he
cared for woman, want every other woman
to care for him too. [ never saw man delib-
erately do things to offend woman; and yeti
you and I, both know that woman will set
to work and persistently learn something, to
offend not only man, but specially the
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in finding women who have learned to
smoke cigarettes because dear Jack object
ed to them. Who chose conspicuous frocks
because dear Jack liked quiet dressing; and
who refuse to ruin their figures or be both
cred with children. The savage is so
strongly developed in me, that | should
like to see these women put in the stocks
and lashed twice a day until they come to
their senses. And if they were, don't you
know that dear Jack would be the first one
to plead for their releasel
People talk about the forgiveness of
women; it is nothing compared to the for
giveness of men. Marriage now days
seems only to mean that man shall as
sumo an extra responsibility, and woman
have good time and not bother. That is
one reason why | should like an era of in
ternational wedlock. After the American
woman had been put in her proper place
by the brutual Englishman, her daughter
would make superb wife, and, after the
English woman had catered physically and
mentally to the American man, he would
realize the possibility os wife. American
women, tie brightest and prettiest in the
world, are also the most stupid. They do
not appreciate the diamond that is beside
them, and they over-value the paste which
is away from them.
Somebody will contradict me and say
there are bad men aud bad husbands, l
don't doubt 1t. Men are largely what
women make them, and it is in the power
of mother to make her son bad hus-
band; but, if she begins right, it is in the
power Of his wife to reform him. What
do | advise? The lower education Of
women. We are troubling ourselves too
much nowadays about the cultivation of
the brain, and not thinking of the cultiva-
ton of the heart. We are deeply interest
ed in what the ancient Egyptians did in
working out their mysterious messages,
and we fail to see the care and worry so
plainly written on the face Of the man
nearest to us. It is only the lower edaca-
ton Of women that will lead them to the
highest state or happincss-that of being
a joy forever to one human being. What
are you going to grasp for2 What call
the lower education of women isn't taught
at the Harvard Annex. It has to be
learned by constant watchfulness, and its
tutor is gay little professor who signs
his name Cupid, NJ. A. And he is a
master arts. He knows the great art Of
pleasing He knows the great art of
soothing. He understands the great art of
encouraging but he is quite Ignorant Of
the vice called thoughtlessness, He has
no knowledge of feminine independence,
aud he laughs until ever dimple deepens at
the people who call vanity love.
| never made plea before, but then
never felt so interested before I feel as
if i had started out like that unpleasant
young man in the poem, bearing a banner
with strange device ce-inine differs from
his, on mine is written aThe rights Of !