The Newtown bee., 1893-01-20

lUW IN, OONN., | NlDf
 tives for marrying, and, in order to right
 motives there must be right under
 standing of what marriage is, and what
 the probable consequences may be. In these days when All sorts and con
 ditons of men, from all parts of the
 world. mingle in such promiscuous rela-
 tions, it is an urgent necessity that our
 young people should have true ideal of the relations of social life.
 TITS A SAD FACT
 that many fond parent are crying out ln their grief, now, when it IS too late, ID that we might have buried our sons and daughters rather than have seen them married as they are."
 In some parts of our country there is one divorce to every five marriages. Judge Edmund H. Bennett writing on marriage laws, a few years ago, said; ''Our first impulse is to attribute this sad state of things solely to the lax and easy divorce laws now existing in so many sections of our country. True such laws make this exhibit possible. Were legal divorce less easy to obtain, such frequent separations would not take place. But the laws themselves, how ever lax are
 NOT PROPERLY THE CAUSE
 of so many divorces we must look deep CT to find the real sources of so much do- nestle alienation"
 'The primary and efficient cause of the multitude of divorces," he says, ''is the many nasty, indiscreet and improvi- dent unions entered into under the sanc- tion of the present existing marriage laws. Too many are married but not mated; too many enter into this rela- tion unadvisedly and lightly, and not reverently, discreetly, advisedly, ,soberly, and in the fear of God.
 "How", he asks, ''can two persons live happy, welded life who are by na- | ture, by education, by habits and associ- ations totally unadapted to each other?' Each may possess qualities capable of making some other person happy, but when there is no mutual fitness what can | be expected but constant desire and | longing for separation? How can two walk together except they be agreed? Is not separation the natural resort of | those who are so unequally yoked to- gether?" Again he says, 'Reform in f thk,, Inn fa h., ;o pnnacea for all domestic differences. Re form in tine heart wilt be more etfectual. but proper precautions and safeguards wilt do much to lessen the probabilities Of domestic di~cord. Prevention is BETTER THAN CURE.
 'S"ne one has given the following summary of reasons why women marry: Number one has married for home. She got tired of working in factory, or teaching school, or making dresses, and she thought marrsed life was nothing on earth but moonlight walks, buggy rides, new bonnets and nothing to do. We'll, she has got her home; whether or not she is tired of the accompanying incum- brances this deponet saith not. Number two married because she had seven younger sisters and papa with narrow income. She ''consulted the in- | terests of her family.'' Perhaps she | would better have consulted her own in- terest by taking in light washing or go- | ing out by the day to work. Number three married because Mrs | sounded so much better than Miss. She was 29 years and II months old and an- other month would have transmitted her | into
 A REGULAR OLD MAID. Think how awful that would have Le n! Number four married because she wanted somebody to pay her bills. Her husband married for precisely the same reason, so they are both of them repent ing at leisure. Number five married because Fanny White had a nice new husband and she wasn't going to be left behind! Pity if she couldn't get married as we'll as other folks!
 Number six married because she was poor and wanted riches. Poor child She never counted on all the other things that were inseperable from those coveted riches.
 Number Seven married because she thought she wanted to travel, but Mir Number Seven changed his mind after ward and all the travelling she has done has been
 BETWEEN THE WELL AND BACK KITCHEN DOOR.
 Number Eight married out of spite, be- | cause her first love had taken unto him. self second love. This little piece of retaliation might have done her good at the time, but in the long run Number Eight found it did not pay. Number Nine married because she had read novels and sswanted sympathy" l Sympathy is a fine thing, but it cools down at q rapid rate if the domestic, ket- tie is not kept boiling, and the domes'i ic
 turkey is underdone. Novels and house.
 keeping do not always go well together.
 And the supply of sympathy alone may 1 not hold out.
 l Number 10 married because she loved
 her husband with Ill her heart and with
 all her snul And she loves him still,
 and will probably always continue to
 love him, and is the happiest wife in the
 world--so she says. Here we have the , RIGHT MOTIVE AT LAST , |
 motive which, when sanctfied by de
 sire and d resolution to improve and