Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1893-11-12
HINTS T0DEBUTANTS.
WISE SUGGESTIONS TO GIRLS JUST
ENTERING THE SOCIAL REALM.
Two Handsome Receptions Given by Mrs.
Waiiter-Othcr Events of the Past
Weei-Coining Weddings.

Two striking articles, suggestive Of good
things for young ladies' just entering soci-
city. have recently caught my attention.
ana at the risk OF being thought prosy
ami didactic. / venture a word OF advice
10 debutante3, borrowed partly from wiser
heads and more faci!e pens. AMI embody-
Ing some very safe rules and good sug-
gegtions. ..nr.S 4, SssasE3
There is an undeniable charm IN the
fresh Leauty Of eighteen, to which mex
pcricncc and early romance lend addltloh-
al fascination. An attractive girl who has
beer untouched BY care. and VINO knows
the world through imagination only, Is
delightful companion for most men, ana
she should Law down such rules for her
conduct toward them as Will win their
highest respect as we'll as their passing
fancy.
An exchange writes:
"The following rules OF conduct
fen out OF a little girls pocket-book the
other day and / picked them up. she ~
belle in a small city. whore she lives.
and has hosts OF ardent admirers around
her, and. 1 judge. deservediy:
Il don't let man smoke when ne
walks or drives with me.
81 dent give my photograph TO men.
I used TO-. occasionally. but I'm wiser now
q was disagreeable to me TO think | was
hanring in Toms Dicks. or Harry's
room. or being thrown around in bureau
drawers.
Il don't let a man take my arm when
he walks with me. II he does, | tell him
prefer % take his arm.
Il don't let a man friend give me
| presents unless 1t IS a book or flowers.
and | always gauge mans taste In
| this respect.
Il don't care FIR the attentions of any
man who Is not polite to my mother.
II don't allow visitors later than IL
| o'clock. II they 10 not 70 at that hour,
| politely remind them of my custom
! supplementary TO the rules by which
| this discreet and sensible young lady
| steers her successful course In society Is
a paragraph headed: Advice TO Young
! Girls"
Don't he silly about men.
Don't fail to take "A man at his word
when he says he Is poor.
Don't bp rude to a man I'm order To
! show your independence.
/ Don't let a man impose upon you SIM
ply because he Is 4 man.
Don't think because man likes you
| that be wants TO marry you,
Don it"S'ne ,.,'. ,,i, ,o,, so
/ marry you uh'i ~ - i-'', ,,,n ,.Is
Ion ., tt,.'',.If ,r yourself
! you. elthcr "Lou, H'''''v., ". ,,,1 do,,.t
| Don he i"il''''' 80 -
/ permit ianil'aiit'' lle,l ,hat NAM Is obliged
! 10" -.,--,.,,, hac,usa he has tho
| appearance of one.
/ Don't think because man Is grave
ful ana ih'ereS'''E '''''''
thins else. T., ,ooiat,,
Don nun" you Wv" ''
"i,''ou' -. -, ,o,,. cato or door to talk
W." VIZ S1,.,, All th.p adieu
NJ, -. an Intimate friend OF your
r,,.'i. IN js a cross nattety 10 your lover
i.,'s ,ero,.Is hin intcrs. satisfac,.Ju.
/ ..nor,t make couddautes OF your girl
e.i',I. ins,.sl of voin' mother. who.
,',.-,l ,o,, cam never be- either jealous or
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/ ,i,.,.,., ,,,,, no accented as "A whole or
3, ar, Ia, the Young ladies' standing upon
~ ~ p., ..,,stoi1 af soctet,. but those who
Wv, ol,..rro1 by = conservative code viii
-. f.,,...r r,orota and more admirers.
,rha list of dobutantas was incomplete
- -, .,rlier in the season. and II
" M"I1 IitiieuH At any time 10 obtain "a perfect
/ Uqt. but at latest advice W give IL tuher'
N.,no RandoIrh Virgie DreTrv. Julia Lee.
| carrie Coleman. Mamie Gillian. Lena
Tatum. Kate Harris Leila Gray. Mary
| Archer Fannie Archer, Carrie Teioott
Kote Tauev. Adele Archer. Mary McCaw.
stanley Atkins. Evie Blankenship. Marian
I 49, Uarrnire Moore Roy Ellerson,
l'nTN
; J1izabefh HAYES. Mary Hayes. trouie
pnora-u Judith Deane. Rachel Cooke,
Mamie saunders. Fannie Lyell, and the
( Misses Morris.
Tho "suver tea" given by the Grace
ob,,-cb ladies' at the residence of Mr..
,,i.,. nr,,,r,, vas very successful Pretty
f',..r,tiors in white chrvsanthemums and
coudloe in silver epergnes and silver can
dIn.tt.1. carried out the silver" idea.
,,t ton chocolate crackers and cakes
80. disnsnsed bv n number of attractive
,.,,,,,,, i,dios Tho married ladies' receiving
-. NTasdonas cav. Drewry, Lanl0n
r Mason. :. H. Boykin. T. 4. Brander.
T.c,tnr Avt4I jacob Alichaux. ". q.
C,tIatt / B. Haryie. David Lynch. and
The vouna ladies serving were Misses Mer-
. ,,- cont,a VIRGINIA Hcnnlng Mary Ar
cher Fannie Archer. Minnie Boykin, Ber-
! nard Haryic. Janet Morris, ana Josie
Knox.
Nrrs r,r,o. " Walker gave two most
beautif,l and tasteful entertainments on
,T,,la.,l,,, .vering. the first from >
:, and the second from . to
:, rho bousa was artistically deco
.-,4i Vim mink lamps ami gas
i,,..,., ri,t, roeas and chrvsanthemums.
I IL, ,ro,,ned in pyramid5 and IN
- n,.arvvbere
mr.. ,,lt, yor,ico yas trosformed into
NE D',n - roar, draIoJ i'm gracefully
S,l,,lI v'ls, hn,tlng in varied colors. where
~, E.l,rarJ Gnek and Miss Annie Walk
-I' ,,,l'-.l,','1 tha lunch
80 ',,,,5jc sol. from behind
Tla'i,1 ,,. III ohoyn and cushioned
phIH9 IN ,,,rs,ct.I tho charm
noohs ior -, e. '7''
ing SUI rVu'''i''s5' ,. - crusbe1.rose
Ihe tanie hdu q il''e "' ,,rnr yybicb
color'd sun III w cnaI .,,,h ,,orgeous
49, -, tt..r,,,r3s and al the four
pun .''' 80 siIyrr candelabra with pink
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S,i,d, croouett.s. paths. ices cake,
and copfeciions were served by charming
maidens. who added 70 the bed"'y ~ w
- Thev were Misses Virginia Hayes,