The Helena independent. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1875-1943, 1893-01-29

The husband makes a point Of controlling
his wife's fortune, an considers himself
according to national custom-free to spend
it as he %pleases, without even consulting
her. If extrevaQant, it Is not long before h.
has run through with 1t. and she soon
learns, to he sorrow. that the devoted cav
ali r of a few months before has devei.
oped INTO a sci lsh, unsympathetic com
panion, rom whom she can neither ex-
q ct nor e1 ct consi !eration. lie seldom
fails to crafty ali his g sonai caprlces,
pleasu s and ev n vices. Self-denlai ahd
unselishness are nothing but names to nm
ANY remonstrance On the part OF the wife Is
III vain; il the husband chooses. he has u
light to ~ill-treat her. She can appeal to no
on" for redress against this; and a woman
who complains OF her husband, or his vic, "a
md extrayaQances, especially If she be IN
me lean. ovokes little genuine sympathy
in foreign society.
l know OF one charming American
woman, who had been petted and spoiled,
and surrounded by all that heart could
desire at home; but at an early age, with
her mothers full and free consent, she
sacrificed everything to IN rry an English
man of high family: and it was not long
atterward that she awoke from her dream
to find out that her handsome and f%asclnat
ing husband possessed little or 10
moral v.lue; and in addition to ill trent
ment and neglect, he deserted his home, his
wife and children, to lead a life OF reckless-
ness and pleasure. The canker of cruel
disap ointment ate into her very life and
heart: and che is doomed to lifelong grief,
perhaps. In the p inc Of Young woman
hood she sits alone at her frsside. eating
the bread of sorrow, and all this 70
"a lord! Another nobleran, who was about
to ma y n Young cir. W Dom i knew. de
cliued to have both tn civil and the
religious marriage &c emony pertorme!
(the former being obligatory to make n
marriage valid abroad. sud Won d onl>
con sent to one ceremony unless She placed
her entire fortune under his control. This
the young lady nd her family declined TO
do. thereby saving her much piobable woe.
This same man. who is seen in the best
society of Paris. has endeavored to
eutrap all American girls with money
that came across his path. making
light of their affections and then casting
them off when he hnds that they will not
comply with his matrimonial conditions.
A number of instances have come to my
notice-some of them being well-knoWn
persons. whose names delicacy torblds
mentloning-and III all OF which the
proud, sensitive American wife. who had
made all the sacrifices, became II VIC
tim of the husbands brutality. neglect and
even insult, and in some eases. not iecelv-
ing n full support; but tins ma tyraom on
the affairs of rank, title or 70 elgn b nth, Is
compensated in aristoctatlo stNle by that
magic combination of n few letters OF the
alphabet. TO which the high minded,
I go born American woman chooses to
sacrifice her independence, her money.
her happiness. her ali. IL the compan-
sation adequate? docs it pnyY" Ameri
can women, answer for you selves. Here IL
u lesson which observation has taught to
many, but which just AZ many fail to learn
a.
pet,ence. And no lessons are SO hard, 80
cruel. but 40 effective, and 30 fsr-reachinD
"a those which experience caches
Berna diere in The Ladies' Home Journal.