Idaho semi-weekly world. [volume] (Idaho City, Idaho Territory) 1875-1908, 1893-12-19
GIRLS WHO FLIRT.
Why MEN MARRY WOMEN WHOSE
ACTIONS THEY CONDEMN.

olouss' Young Women. ssa
Select your own immediate circle a.
young lady friends those whom you shsye
known during the last ten years-aDd you
will find, / think, that few n any Of the
firtishiy inclined girls remained single,
while several Of their prudent and well b.
haved and more Industrious sisters arr
still clinging, ungathered. on the parsrtal
branch.
Not many years ago / heard q father can
ton his two lovely and accomplished
daughters against an intimacy with two
Of their girl friends. CHOSE girls are IS.
coming 80 dirtish and gay be said, that
am sure your good names will suffer II
you are seen much in their company. Men
are quick to comment upon and misinter.
pref such frivolous actions as / zee those
girls indulge in, and do not want you to
suffer from an unwise intimacy. ] have
no doubt that they are innocent girls now,
but they win soon lose the reputation OF
innocence II they are not more prudent
The daughters Of the gentleman listened
70 his counsel and ceased tOyisit the young
ladies' who had been accused Of being Girts
and not without cause; and yet, regret
to relate, the two firts are today wives o.
men who adore them, and who are the
most tender and devoted husbands, while
the two prudent daughters Of the discreet
gentleman have remained At home un
wooed and unwon
Innumerable cases Of a similar kind
have come under my immediate observa-
ton
always feel exasperated with men
when ! see them choosing such girls for
wives. while the prudent and discreet ones
are passed by; exnsperated not because OF
their choice 80 much az because Of their
praise for the type they neglect and their
censure for the type they select It Is a
curious problem.
have tried to solve It and render the
conduct Of men consistent with their ever
repeated assertion Of aversion to the very
girls they seem most ready to marry.
It seems to me that have arrived at the
explanation of the problem
Men themselves do not know why they
are attracted to and won by these girls,
despite their better judgment; but think
| can explain the matter to them
Stronger and deeper than mans cult
waited and acquired taste for the domestic
virtues Of civilized life is his Unborn I'D
miration for what they usually term ''go''
in q woman
think | have seen more mems eyee
sparkle when they described woman a.
full of go" than have ever seen from
any other cause.
man will be very calm and matter Of
fact when he tells you how very beautiful
some woman is; he will be phlegmatic and
prosaic when he tells you of some highly
accomplished and charming woman" be
knows. Not a ripple will disturb the
pf his fac oVxyba he he <,fe
good, domestic, yirtuous girls of his &c
quaintance; but when he says, by Jove
she's full of gop' his calm becomes exhil
aration, his eye glows. his voice thrills.
have heard them say it scores of times
and it is always with the same intense de
light and appreciation.
heard it said once of a girl on country
farm; the hired man fell ill just in the bar
vest season, and she took his seat on the
great reaper and drove four horses until
the overripe wheat was cut and bound.
heard it said of young girl who had beer
reared in luxury and idleness and WHOSE
father died suddenly and left the family
with nothing but debts: in less than six
months she had canvassed all the adjoin
ing towns and had obtained large paying
class in music | heard it said of the wife
of famous politician, whose energy and
tact and brilliancy won him half his sue
cess; and heard it said of a society girl
who was not beautiful or rich, but who be
came a belle because she was the best
dancer, rider. swimmer and talker in hel
set.
Now it is the same element--a sort o
combustiye hidden quality of character
that actuated these women to do what
they did, which causes many girls to be
come fiirts. Girls devoid of this element
do not understand why they are not as at
tractive to men as some less beautiful and
less prudent friend may be, and think the
male sex very unappreciative.
They hear men severely criticise the CIR
whose INSTRUCTED ''go'' has led her inte
| firtatious follies with his sex, yet he is at
tracted, in spite of himself, by the quality
which actuated her follies and he ends by
marrying her.
Il do not see that it pays to be well be
haved and prudent" said very beautiful
| and modest girl to me recently THE mer
treat you with respect, but they pay al
| their attention to and finally marry ths
| girls who fiirt with them"
could not deny the truth of her state
ments, yet felt sorry to admit it. But NJ
modest and discreet girl need envy the
| happiness of flrt.
If she marries man she loves, every in
discreet act and every familiar attention
she has received from other men during
| her flirting days will be like drops of gal
in her cup of sweets. And if she does moi
| love the man she marries surely she is no,
to be envied, for she is very likely to con
tinue her fiirtations after marriage.
The best advice | can give to the modes,
and good girls is to cultivate go" Elk
| tremely discreet and domestic girls, who
never feel any inclination to kick over the
traces of conventionality, are worthy and
excellent members of society, but they
seldom possess much go" This quality
needs to be born in person, like most
other qualities, if we would achieve grea,
/ results, yet it can be cultivated.
! Shake yourself up, overcome your sell
consciousness, your Incidence and youi
fears of public COMMENT Try to be ami
mated, try to be ambitious, tactful, anus
ing and thoughtful of others.
Don't get into conventional ruts and act
like every other girl you know. Dare te
/ be yourself, for every one has an individu
ality peculiarly her own. But in your eff
| forts to be attractive don't attempt to be
| fiirtish when it is not your nature to be so
because you see that men make love tc
hirts even while despising them. If you
90 you VIII surely Dffng rldlcuie ana ols
grace upon yourself and win no mans re
gard.
1t is not the flirting which draws the
men-it is the element have referred te
which. when misdirected frequently causes
q girl tn flirt, that attracts them. even il
spite of their prejudices.
A man would prefer a girl who possessed
'go" and who did not become fiirt. II
you, devoid of this element, degenerate
into a fiirt, you will be like some literary