The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1893-04-16
FOB THE HOUSE AND HOME
Matters Mostly of Feminine Interest
but All Are Invited TO Read.
Some Problems Of Fashion Sensibly Disposed
Of-How to Shine in Conversation-Dainiy
Quarters for O Rich Mans Bride.

Quarters for O Rich Mans Bride.
So much has been said of the extreme
changes of fashion. that foolish women.
who fear they will be c~onspicuously be-
hind the times unless their entire ward
robe is renewed. will be treasured by the
sensible remarks of q writer in the New
York Led ger. She says there are several
possibilities that just now threaten the
peace of mind of the average woman. One
of these is crInoline; another Is such .
marked change In prevailing styles that all
OF her last years clothes must be thrown
away; and another is that the latest fash
IONS are going to be ridiculous in the ex-
treme. Just what object certain self-con-
stitnted authorities can have in ringing
changes on all of these ideas it would be
difficult. indeed, to imagine.
The woman of moderate means may pos.
sess her soul IN patience and preserve her
tranquility on the assurance hat we will
not be troubled with crinoline to any ex-
tent; that there will not be any radical
cnange in fashions. at least not so much as
to affect the conservative models of the
day. and last, but by no means least. the
ridiculous and absurd Will not prevail.
The dress of 1892 need not be thrown into
the rag bag or sacrificed to the Door box.
Many a dress made In the early part or last
year will do Its full duty as second best. or
first best. may be, for the moderate coming
and going of she woman of average means.
1t 10 not at all necessary to remove the
square basque skirts that were SO fashion
able last season. One can do so if one
chooses. and wear the little pointed bodice
shat remains. A putt of silk ar dress ma
terial set around the waist for slender fg-
ures will be o pretty addition to thin silk
or wool costumes. For handsome dresses.
q fringe of jet or Of colored beads In front
or . folded ribbon or silk belt, with bow
will be an appropriate finish. Of all things.
avoid the idea. either in thought or speech,
that the entire wardrobe must be revolu-
tionlzed. This is the height of absurdity.
New dresses are now being made that. in
style and finish. differ but very slightly
from those ordered q year ago.
Of course. there arc extreme styles and
extreme people TO wear them, but the con.
sentative. solid, sensible people. VIC are
not 80 much tho leaders as the arbiters OF
fashion. are wearing very much the Same
things that they wore q year ago. There 10
O conservative dress that 10 like the close
cottage bonnet that has not been out OF
fashion in q quarter of o century. and prob
ably never will go out of fashion as long as
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their being.
Etiquette In Conversation.
A daughter of Julia Ward Howe lays
down the law of social converse in the pa
per known as the Whole Family. She
says it is the correct and common sense
thing in conversation to remember that
brevity Is the soul of wit.
To talk in such q way as to smuse or en-
terrain ones interlocutor. or. better still. SO
that both parties may be amused or in
structed, as the case may be.
To make the topic suit the time and
place. avoiding sermons in ball rooms. and
political or religious discussions in mixed
assem- blies.
To sustain ones fair share of the bur-
dens of conversation, and to start new
topics when the old ones become worn or
grow personal.
To remember that the agreeable man Is
he who can and will listen attentively. in.
diligently and sympathetically.
To avoid repetition In the matter Of story
telling, personal remlniscencee and the
like. repeating. like the newspapers. only
once in ten years.
To remember that it is better to be agree
able than TO talk about ones own affairs.
To remember that every other parent CON-
siders that his children are prodigies also.
n therefore will resent the claims to ex-
traordinary genius made in behalf of your
infant phenomenon.
To think before you speak.
To wait until another person has finished
~ that you differ from him. or that you
have heard the story told otherwise, where
justice TO the absent demands this course.
To sink the shop" that is. to avoid talk
ing about ones business or profession.
TO talk about ones profession or calling
with q person who has expressed q wish
sincere TO all appearances-to hear aboutit.
To remember that frequent puns break
up tho thread of conversation. and that
the habltual punster is apt to become &C.
dious.
To avoid joking in general society or
with persons of q literal turn of mind.
To endeavor to draw out" timid. shy and
silent people, and induce them to talk on
subjects that interest them
To remember that conversation should
never turn into monologue.
To remember that q person who habitual-
~ says witty but sharp things is sure to be
unpopular.
To be generous. and praise. and admire.
when one can consciep tIously do 80.
To remember that conversation is q fine
art, from which base matter must necessari.
ly be excluded.
To remember Emerson's saying that nc
one can be Q master In conversation who
has not learned much from women; their
presence and inspiration are essential 20
Its success"
To remember that q fool may pass for \
wise man IL he know enough TO hold his
peace.
Newest Neediework.
New York Times.
For all the pretty impedimenta of the aft
erD0on tea table there 10 still nothing 90
popular as drawn linen. There is q ten
depcy to show less and less of the linen.
Some of the cloths. doylies or tea cozies are
as flmy in effect as morsels of fine lace.
Old.gold silk is freely introduced upon
trimming of the tea cloths, and gives q
particularly rich appearance, but other
examples-particularly those worked In the
fsvorite lace hemstItch-are left IN tho
purity OF absolute freshness. Besides the
white linen. in It's many applications of
pillow shams. toilet covers. sideboard
cloths. and the like. TO the colored varie-
ties. it Is noticeable that .'grandmother's
linen" 10 being much used. This 10 dyed in
all the delicate oolors. The idea of age "a
well shown in a night robe which is an ex-
act copy of one over one hundred years
old. The linen for this is o golden brown,
with the embroidery showing q coDven-
tional design in daisies, and it is worked
solidly In white.
a Bit of Luxury.
Philadelphia Times.