The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1893-09-08
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IN THE SOCIAL WORLD
Prospects For the Coming
Season In Music and
Festal Circles.
! CHAPTER ON AANDSHAKING
How Some People Do 1t and How
Some People Ought Not to
The Model Method.
i CHAPTER ON HANDsHAKlNG

Specialip tcritten FIR The Jersey CitH Ss'u'.
There are a great many ways In wnicn
people fond OF jumping at conclusions
ind out other peoples characters-en-
tirely to their own satisraction-inside OF
half an hour. There are some monoma-
MACS who pin their faith In a mans
honesty on the shape of lis nose; others
who mentally condemn him unheard on
account Of the poise Of his ears; others
who watch him as he pulls q door bell
and elass him accordingly. and still more
who are certain they can to anything
about his habits aud antecedents bT
whether be wears his hat backward, for
ward or horizontally. In fact. IL is de-
pressing TO reflect no W much ONES slig bit
and uneOnsidered movements represent
TO those aniahle luuatlcs. and the Dean
iiful estimates OF ones character tney
must be forming on evidence Dess KNOWN
TO themselves, certainly NOT TO as. Fer
haps the nearest TO a sensible way OF
telling what sort OF u man or woman
Que has met is by paying some attention
Il the way he or she shakes hands MOI
that this may not be as far wrong as
Of the short cuts to understanding, b
still It 10 interesting TO see how far IL Is
luStiu5Q Uy SUBSEQUENTLY AbEpt wv
HOW SOME WOMEN DO 1T.
For Instance. II npou meeting q young
lady, she eIevates her right arm to u level
with her shoulder. and shoves IL slowly
backward and forward twice, dragging
your limp aud unaccustolned hand along,
you MAJ be pretty well assured that she
generally does what people tell Is the
correct thing, without thinking 1t over
hers elf. IT she gets her hand up as far
as her ear, ig shows that she likes to 60
TO extremes in matters of form. Ii she
comnines this practice with wearing
white shoes aud q feather dnster boa, it
shows that sac is u natural born IDIOT
and not responsible.
1t is all very well to say that the up-iu.
the-air hsndshake IL this proper way of
greeting one's friends. aud that it you
dop't do IL you are not up to the times;
but Just the same, 10 jersey City at least,
10 Is not general-no, not at all. Ia the
late spring TWO girls, who held diverse
views upon the question, agreed tn watch
the women who greeted the hostess at
teas, for ~ few times. and see how women
really did snake hantls. They did Tot
keep an exact count OF the ber under
Inspection, but az three teas there were
less than twenty who Used the exaggar-
aled method of greeting.
A M0DEL GREETING,
There are women VINO eau make the
most bashfnl girls feel a. nome directly
fy simply shaking hands with them.
Der extended. give 1t enaugh motion 10
make l. q zeal han1shaking. and retain
it while they MAXI their first remark,
ia q correspondipgly "Tm-giad-to-see-
yoHp way. On the other hand. there Is a
way OF extsndiag a limp paw IN a tenta-
tive maunsr. letting the other person do
all the shaking. % getting it back
agaiL ,as soon AS possible. mucn MS q crab
gets cut Of harails way. THIS produces
much the saule effect as grasping the fin
of q dear, dead Spanish mackerel.
Everybody kpo vi the NAG that ONE
peeple haye ct meeting one another in
the street aud blocking uD the passage
while they talk aud shake hands, stimuli
uitAneousiy aud continuously. This Is n
painfuI subject especially with people
who lave memories of being blocked GU
busy day In this manner Some
people soy that woneE have q
way of meeting in this mRnne and
kissing each other with efnsieu Instead
Of shaking hands. In the interests of
Justice. the writer would like 10 state
than me the first Of FEBRUARY, 1898,
when the writer began TO look for sucn
cases with a view TO fiuding out whether
they were cagtomary, there have bean
Just two cases under observation. and one
Vt these was subsequently, proved to be
who were saying good bye for some
time, just as the horse car was coming to
take Que away. This does not prove that
sueh things never happen OF course. but
that a man cnnid get along quite CON.
fortably In Jersey City without having
his feelings lacerated IN this way.
so much tor tue haadshaking and how
II Is done. As for its value is an index
Of character, sone people will go right OH
thinking that u ma eanuo conceal his
true personality from the one who shakes
had a few experiences la this direction
generally come to the conclusion that
the best way to fnd out a persons
character is TO live In his family for
twenty-five or thirty years and tien mol
be ~astonlshed II he develops some al.
together unforeseen streak IN his nature