New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1893-03-12
HOME AND SOCIETY.
CHAT OF THE SEASON.
CARRYING NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. FOR SPRING
AZ rMpREsS'S ALBUM-BRIDAL COSTUMES.


uov .p,r,ted, beautiful attractive American women
,nt 10 be made the objects Of barter and
' a.. calculation is Of the wonders Of this fin
L..,e civilization! And yet there have been
-, instances known where girls have been sub
,.d 10 the notifying indgnity Of being >actually
r.A ,or no other than that their prospective
!su.s were not as large their noble tl) sutors
n,.ed them to be when they committed them
.re, 80 far as offer their hearts and their titles
- a, American heiress. SO the recreant knights
Ia sway TO fresh fields and pastures new. leaving
Assorted madens to wear the willow and face
,ns comments Of a plying or 1eering world Such
no.tion Is simply ntolerable and 1t Is no wonder
49,, health and spirits fail and that lives are spoiled
=. consequence. The hardest part Of 1t all. more
-, Is that girls apt TO really love these
.,,sd suitors. who often attractive men Of the
.,,a surrounded with all the glamour Of fashion
"a noson which sheds such rosy tint
a,,ary mortals: and It Is not only the misery
:, thwartcd ambition that they compelled TO
.usr but the actual wretcnedness Of misplaced
.s.,lon Surely parents should not allow their
,.upg daughters to be exposed to such insults.
some one suggested the other evening that since 1t
,tually conceded that titles are to be bought and
IA how much better 1t would be II fashionable
,.,ssu OF Information established where the
noble esrls and dukes might obtain trustworthy In
~roson and thus prevent these unfortunate mistakes
vbi.h are constantly recurring.
To be cowboy Western ranch and
smasher" In Pccady would seem to be the two ex
,remes Of existence. Nevertheless the younger son
~ we'll known English family, who Is an OXFORD
man an athlete and "an allround good fellow, con-
,dyes to reconcile these Numerically opposite ca
,eers apparently very successfully. This dual ex-
,s,ence Is not altogether as Impossible as 1t would
ss.m At certain seasons for months at time there
=. practically nothing TO do on a ranch and II the
rronrIetor has money to spend there Is reason
INV he shonld not be in England Instead OF In
America or anywhere else in Europe. An Interesting
novel or play might be made with such material ana
a thoroughgong knowledge Of the two conditions.
That We should never trust to appearance we all
know full WE'LL nevertheless 1t Is truth that Is very
hord 70 ncucate especially with young people. and
many a funny and sometimes notifying experience
/, the result OF acquaintance made casually whc
travelling "On our last CROSSING" relates girl III
society people spend much OF their time abroad
sthere was particularly nice looking man whO some
voy or other always seemed TO be on hand 10 90
little thoughtful things for mamma and me: and as
10 was reserved and rather melancholy looking. and
oplte irrcproa in his general get up and
manners, we found him most interesting and before
the voyage was all became quite Intimate
and dummy 1t quite the accepted thing that
be should be our daily escort on deck where he
made himself simply Invaluable by the thousand and
pcltS SONS = winch are 80 COIlOTn VI co"iu
ship.
About himself however and his affairs ne
WAS most reicent and ! noticed that when he spoke
OF meeting on terra irma and OF our future inter-
course he cvaded the question with sigh ana
look Of such deep sadness that was almost whd
With curiosity. told mamma that was sure that
there was some mystery about him. She quite
agreed with me, and we made many attempts 10
obtain his confidence; but 1t was always In vain'
G,oi 1x- OrpD0StprOuS reason
we decided that he Anarchist and was vowed
10 commit some dreadful deed. We would not have
been at all surprised TO have heard aferward mat
he had done something desperate; but We were
hardly prepared for the real denouement when.
few weeks afterward, in one OF the mammoth New
York shops where one can get everything tnat can
be thought OF. heard familiar voice behind me
call cash. Turning. saw our melancholy hero,
whose sad fate simply to be floor walker
1t IS"
Az very smart dinner the other evening one
woman only among all those present wore sleeveless
bodice and she certainly looked very odd among the
extended terhas and ,es and balloon shaped sleeves
which exaggerated the shoulder width OF all the other
danes.
Praise ard approval far more potent reiormers
= than blame and faultfndng: and II little OF the
6attery that freely bestowed In society was useu
IN the home circle how much plcasanter lie would
become
very strange thing however. that while 1t IS an easy
matter for many people to be and amiaGe 70
strangers for whom they nothing. among Their
own people whom they really dearly love they are
cross and unk,nd 1t doesn't mean anything, Is inc
usual excuse for the very rcprehensible haot OF
nacgng- and fau,t-fndng among the various mem
ber OF family and that is the saddest part OF II all
II really doesn't anything In the beginning ~
Is amply n little swapping, snaring habit that can
easiiv be controlled and vet II also means so much
that produces coldness and lack OF ahechoh oe'"ee
brothers and sisters, a want Of sympathy oc'"ee"
uarents and children and a miserable, unrestul home
atmosphere that Is infinitely depressing. II AZ uis
season OF good resolutions each member OF the IanS
would resolve TO treat the others with the same con-
sheration and would give to their possessions ana
qualifications the liberal praise That they bes'o"
upon those OF their acquaintance IL might Do 'o'e
sauiary Lenen discipline than most, ana nave oel'e
anG more enduring results.
The Jewels worn by the German Empress at the
LAST Subscription bail" which took place In the
Berlin ROYAL Opera House a few days ago, "Xcted
the envy and admiration of all The women present.
Among her most conspicuous ornaments were the star
OF the order Of the Black Eagle, set In diamonds
magnificent brooch with exceedingly large Stones ~
which hung strings OF smaller diamonds; two bcauu-
fl diamond and necklace which cost prince
~ fortune great diadem OF brillians was on Her
Majes,y's head, while ON her shapely arms We're
strings of diamonds. The Empress also wore 'he
famous hat buckle OF Napoleon l. which was as
covered by Prussian regiment III the cohqueroi
carriage after the battle OF Waterloo. Tradition says
that the Emperor used the buckle on the DAY oi us
coronation In NOtrc Dame, December 2 loo4. ihe
treasure was added TO the PrusSan crown 1ewcis ny
Frederick william III. The King had an estimate
made OF the value OF the stones In the bncke' anu
paid the money 10 members OF the regiment "n''
owned It, Since then II has been one OF the prhcip'
Treasures NJ IN. pru.san crown lis various parts