The Port Gibson reveille., 1893-03-10
SUCCESS INFMARRIAGE.
Something About the Secrets or q Perfcrt
Rome Life = The Science OF Good
House-ko~ping-H How 10 Bear the
Unpleasant Thln@s Of Lkfs.

Something About the Secrets OF y Perfoma
Rome Life - The Science OF !. Good
House, -Ko~ping-Ho 10 Bear the
Unpleasant Thiags Of Lifs.
On tho much mooted question, sTs Mar
riage q Failuref" a lady writes 10 the Chic@-
20 Inter Ocean soma remarks 80 sensible
that we oSn not but quote them for the
benefit OF our readers: -
A woman makes a failure of marrlags
unless she makes an effort 70 do q great
deal more than is implied In her marriage
contract Il is supposed that the husband
supplies the material for the home, and
they are very raw materials indeed unless
the wife takes hold OF those means with
the'hand OF s..creator, building up out OF
them helps end associations loved and
needed BY both. And woman mast put
her soul into her house, or 1t Ia hollow
and sounding shell
As high as we must rate the accomplish
ment Of good housekeeping, IL Ia not al In
the making OF home know lady who
was q marked failure as housekeeper who
was the Idol OF her husband. and who
graduated to the world family Of accom-
plished and honored children. And there arc
women who In pain and weakness are con-
fined 70 their own rooms, yet who manage
70 hold the power In an orderly house and
nll IL full Of love-light and happiness sum
cieEt for the comfort Of ali who cross its
threshold.
II Is the quality OF recognizing and filing
need that is the essential quality Of success
In marriage Practically. II man comes
home from business with c headache, hun
Cry for bit Of sympathy and love, and
good deal Of quiet, and fnds HIS wife In
raging excitement over an elaborate dinner,
and u ordered 70 keep out OF the way and
amuse the children till the great proceeding
ls eliminated, he Is about as unfortunate as
the man who brings 9 college friend home
70 dinner and finds his wife In wrapper and
slippers deep in French novel. But the
woman who spies the coming friend from
the window slides out OF her wrapper In a
twinkle and appears upon the scene IN due
time with a soul-cheering cup OF French
coffee. Is the woman who makes her hus-
band envied among men.
Unfortunately women have hobbies, and
ride and ride and never perceive that they
are boring their companions 70 death.
There are men who would 20 70 war 70 be rid
Of paper flowers, hair flowers, rugs, tides
and what not, and there are men who think
art and music are inventions Of tho evil one
to make people miserable. ANY one, any
where who cultivates q hobby at the en-.
pense OF other peoples comfort Is making
failure Of life; but true politeness OF the
heart between friend and friend, man and
wife, will obyiate the danger Of cverdone
amusements. - .rfs~ -
II Is easier 10 forgive virtuous excess Of
real. and 1t ls mostly excess Of zeal for ex-
cellcnce OF some kind that causes some
women 70 be more exclusively housewives
than wives Of men. The greatest charity
should be extended 10 q woman who makes
her house 50 perfect in detail and pol
ished in appearance that her friends 60 into
Il with fear and trembling, for she IS afiicte
ed with yirtuous zeal, and has only over
drawn q very good thing. Housekeeping
has its fanatics and martyrs as well as any
other good cause. ~ ---ssssSs5.sEAs#Nsz szlm
But housekeeping conducted as O means
Of happiness an d comfort, either IN cabin
or palace, Is q science that no wife can
neglect IL she wishes TO sustain the law Of
mutual he esofulness In marriage. sstzSg&
! A wife expects her husband upon mar
riage to begin q course Of toiling for her
support without remission or any suspcn-
sion OF responsibility, and why should he
not expect her 70 aspire TO the greatest
excellence IN home makingi Just here Is
where the wedge OF dissolution frequently
enters. A woman fails to give as much as
she receives that is, she works from COM
pulsion more than from a desire 70 keep up
her side Of the partnership with dignity
and QrRcA sMs@<~t
But one says II work all the time;
work like q slave.n Yes, my dear, you do
work like a slavo-just like a slave, and not
like a responsible being seeking an end and
not the means. You have braided little
Eya's dress up and down and alloyer, which
does not help little Eva, and your husband
would have appreciated you more had you
spcnt your evenings with folded hands and
happy face in your rocknRchair By his
aide. You spend hours OF time Oh unneoss-
sary things and forget the essentials ofyour
partnership, which is TO evolve a. Eluch
peace and comfort IS possible out Of your
materials.
The science Of good housekeeping Ia
these days, when we can buy 80 many Coz
venIences, Is not so much superiority In
any one thing as q general excellence In
every thing. We do not need cooking
schools for girls so much as schools where
all branches OF home-making are taught, In
order TO preserve the balance Of usefulness
in the girls mind. A man does not want 10
marry a chef de cuisine, and IL Is no won
der the papers make fun of cooking schools.
To learn one department Of housekeeping
10 the neglect Of every thing else is ruinous.
II woman Is to marry, there is nothing
80 much to be valued as good health and
good sense and very loving heart, and
then II viii follow that she will adapt her.
self TO the calls upon her ability. When
woman marries for a life Of case and doesn't
get II, there Is certainly no remedy in her
case so long as she forgets that life Ia
struggle anywhere, and feels that she
should be excused from helping to carry
the burdens Of those by whom she may be
surrounded.
The mutual bearance and forbearance OF
life is&s greatly the secret OF happiness In
marriage as in any thing else. We have TO
tolerate unpleasant things In our CON-
panions In any relations Of life, and why
try to build up law Of marriage Ia any
other wayl
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