The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1893-06-07


out of the vehicle under the horses feet
and feels that the loss of her lover is as
nothing compared with the shame of be-
ing pitied and sympathized with.
Or take the case Of a man who has
been horsewhipped or kicked or slapped
in the face by another man stronger and
bigger and therefore Drawer than him
self. He doesn't want to know that his
friends are sorry for him! He would
much rather be suffered to imagine that
they hadn't heard of it, and yet there are
plenty OF thick skinned idiots who viii
on the first opportunity rush up TO him
with outstretched and:
"My dear fellow, want TO tell you
how indignant 1 am at the way that
brute treated you! Fairly kicked you
down the steps Of the clubhouse, they
tell mel Just ike these great hulking
beasts who think, because they are big
and strong, O little fellow like you or me
must give in to all their insolencer'
Probably the man thus apostrophized
at once measures the other ''httle fell
low" with his eye and mentally decides
that he can thrash him at least and will
do so on the first opportunity.
Among my acquaintance on one side
or the other of the water I am proud to
include a lady whose father was hung,
and Justly SO, for murder. Of course the
most of her friends painfully avoided
any subject within rife shot of the
subject, but heard that more than one
well meaning person had attempted to
syn,pathize acith her and thereby nearly
drove the poor woman to madness.
Or think of q mother whose son has
committed some shameful crime and IS
either fugitive from justice or is suffer
ing her penalties. Fancy dny sympathy,
even the most delicate being anything
but an offense to such sufferer. In
fact, there is no love upon whose death
it is not safer to count than upon that of
q mother. 1t is positively indestructible,
and l have never found any other class
Of love to which that word would apply.
Certainly some wives have loved some
husbands, some maidens have loved some
lovers, some women have loved some
men mot wisely, but too well" through
good report and i'll, through fortune and
misfortune, cruelty and kindness, faith
fulness and unfaithfulness, even to the
bitter end, but this unreasoning con-
stancy cannot be predicted of wives or
fancees or mistresses as a rule. Much
depends upon the individual.
But in the case of mothers it is the
rule, especially as regards her sons. The
bad boy may develop into the unmiti-
gated scamp, the profigate, the villain,
the jailbird, but though she may be
driven to discard him, TO Danish him
from her sight, to declare that she no
longer calls him son, there is always at
the core of her heart an undying fame Of
love, divine forgiveness and pity and
longing that she could not if she would
quench or destroy. Let the sinner but
reach his mothers feet, let him never SO
clumsily plead, Mother, have sinned-
oh, forgive mer' and his pardon is as
sured. Even though her Judgment, her
reason, her conscience, sternly condemn
him, that mother love of hers will rise up
and drown them all in the torrent of its
deathless force.
In the Scripture story it is set forth as
a memorable thing that the father Of
the prodigal son forgave him. 1t is not
even mentioned that his mother did, for,
not to be irreverent, "that goes without
saying" Doubtless she had forgiven him
long before he set out for home, and
indeed it is probable enough that it was
the telepathy of her love and forgiveness
that induced him TO relinquish his foul
living and return.
Well, then, is it not obvious that with
such love as this in the background no
mother will patiently accept sympathy
for her sons misdeeds? 1t will only anger
her and rouse her to defend him even
though no defense be possible. If she is
womanish sort of woman, she will prob
ably adopt the stu quoque" form of re-
sentiment and say: Eyes, know Harry
has done foolish thing, but it arose en-
tirely from his desire to help and shield
a friend. You must remember all young
men are not like your John, always con-
sidering what Is best for his own inter-
ests."
If she is not womanish, but womanly,
the best you can expect is, THANK you,
but this is subject upon which do not
wis. D talk"
l was once speaking with a lady in
London whose son had just been pursued
and brought back from the continent
under a charge of aggravated breach of
trust when another lady came up and
took her hand with murmur of Dear
Mrs. Blank, 1 want to tell you how sorry
am What, You have heard of it
already" exclaimed Mrs. Blank, with
smile like the fash of q bayonet Then
half turning to me she continued: 81
have lost my coachman, you know. Ac-
tually the poor fellow dropped dead in
the stables this morning, and l am per-
factly heartbroken The best old soul
that ever held whip. He was my
fathers coachman and actually put me
on the first pony ever rode. But l
can't think how you heard Of it so soon,
my dear, except that believe you make
it a point to gather every bit of news
that is stirring, don't your And with
this neat little blow in the face Mrs.
Blank sailed away, leaving her would be
sympatllizer gasping.
But there is no need Of swelling the
list of cases where the truest sympathy
Is expressed by apparent ignorance Of
any cause for sympathy. Every person
of delicacy or a sensitive organization
will recognize such cases for themselves,
and to those who are not delicate and
sensitive in their own personality no
amount of teaching will effect the OBJ
ject. You cannot train q rhinoceros into
q thin skinned Arab steed, nor cactus
into sensitive plant. Most people and
most things die very much what they
are born, and the clumsy sympathizers no
dom 1,t will aviSt x--bar, tho world