The Daily Ardmoreite. [volume] (Ardmore, Okla.) 1893-current, 1893-11-12
The selrneniaI of Pnrsnts.

That parents should deny them
selves superfuities for the sake of
their children is not in the least to
their credit; it is meet, right, and their
toounden duty. That they should give
eheir children better advantages than
>hey have had themselves is equally,
in the nature of things, their proper
line of conduct. Each generation
owes TO the one in advance all that it
can bestow of preparation, of culture,
of opportunity and of privilege The
selfdenial of parents is the tribute
the race demands; it is not especially
notable nor particularly praiseworthy,
because it is the appointed and ex-
pected role which is given to people
when they take upon them the obliga-
tiOnS of parenthOod.
But self-denial on the part of par
ents is one thing, and self-effacement
quite another. The plain man and
the plain woman who have scrimped
and Stintcd and saved, contrived, man
aged, risen ear. Y and sat up late, to
send their sons and daughters to col
Aegc, 50 educate them literally, to
.pla them well in the world, are not
20 be SGT aside as g small account
when their children arrive at maturity.
They ate wrong 20 allow themselves
to be pushed to the wall, set in the
phCh IOuufN u7 'lHGS oOIACllHlCS
The mothef may not know Euclid. or
have the fatntest acquaintance with
the Greek poets; the music her
daughter plays may be Chinese puz-
zle to her comprehension; but she
does know a whole world of science,
not necessarily in boo,ss, to which her
- 4 tsS.ca gain no clew in the
iSce life must be the
Pay speak less
L..
Voca biffdfv, onC he has the shrewd-
ness, the acquaintance with men,
which come only by intercourse with
ones fellows by JOY and sorrow. and
the different phases through which
all pass who live long enough. 1t
should br no pat of the self-denial
of parents to do without the defer
ence, the tenderness the regard, of
those whom thcy have brought up
One finds ii ofteper in Il compara-
lively new country than in the more
conventional life of our cities a state
of things in which parents seem to
have been otttgrown by their children.
There are farm houses in our frontier
states where women. not yet middle
aged. have put on gray hairs and
wrinkles, los ne beauty and elastici-
'ty of youth, years before their time,
resignedly accepting prlvation and
toll and loneliness to give their girls
a chance. If the girls are no6le. sweet
natured and true, they will hold the
dear mother in the greatest esteem
because OF all that she has done for
them. Far from entertaining a feel
ing of pride or complacency, they Will
repay the beautiful self-denial of their
parents by devotion which never
knows a shade of diminution. 1t is an
lgnoble nature alone which is capable
OF feeling ashamed of those wEo be-
dong to ones l1ith and kin on account
of any si:nplIcity of manner or plain
ness of speech. Self-denial must not
become self-efface ment
J :ow years ago it was not uncom-
mG2 - find the parents of young peo-
pie rather crowded out of the way,
the drawing rooms given up to the
youthful daughters and their friends.
while their mother and father sat by
themselves in a basement dining
room, or their own chamber. bet
ter state of things obtains now, and
young people hive learned that socie-
tv is crude and unsa atisfactory in
which parents have not their fitting
places -Harpers Iazar.