The Helena independent. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1875-1943, 1893-03-12

Do2 carries them to his own home. He
salks TO his wife in language and tone he
would be ashamed to employ towards the
roster in his store. He should learn TINT
there arc even polite ways OF bsing rude.
and that a gentleman, If he must beat Ais
vie, will do it in a Gentlemanly way.
Ont of tho most atriking illustrations of
rude nne that ever ] have seen ia tho
ceive and snub. About her gather a halo
of fashion, and ut humble distances are the
silly satellites who are foolish enough TO
play the moth for this farthing dip. They
did not belong here. and they know IL. but
stand i. is in 'rT resi- oo,nst to s so%e; ; phsy
duoes them. Tea girls who DO
come very acute in the course OF
half n dozen seasons, do not trouble to
offer them "cakes aud alo"-the hostess, Is
the way in which Madame kittledrum can
celled all her obligations in that orudgins
card. 1t is honor enough to be invited here
at all-even for the seats below the salt.
and 30 far they stand around forlo,nly. A
sample of sandwiches secured on the I'M
pulse of the moment. goes to the head and
they adventure a comment to the rnstling,
sllken lady who pnuses near them.
1t ought to suflce-the certificate of char
aoter implied BY being under II mutual roof
in Il SOCIAL way, but it ~doesn't-oh, no! My
lady lifts her lorgnette. Perhaps Ave years
since she was thankful for steel speotacles
-huu Sue NtOiluly SSHTeS tp8S5 innocent IN
terlopers out OF countanance.
A perverted Interpretation OF tho words
polite society" renders this method of nc
complishing someboay'a social extinction
highly popular. And yet show ms tho
lender who does not love to drag at her
chariot wheels the foolish sycophants who
ats grateful for being thus bound and
cruHhed.
ITO lick your platter clean" in the house
of a friend is bette: tanners than to sug-
oestively sniff at the salad and comment to
your table neighbor on the REPEATING needed
by the silver.
The elastic habit of good manner is
severely tested by that eeotist who per-
sistently talks OF himself all the time.
Nothing is Sadder than to see a really sensi-
BILE person afflicted with this incurable sort
of dry rot. A lady who takes up your time
to tell you how successful she is, how popu-
lar she is, how sought after, has not yet
acquired that excellent manner whose other
name is self.expression.
An ill-mannsred man is he who dn.es to
be rude to those who dare not answer back,
or who asserts hts position by all insolent.
p%atrontzing air to interiors: to those who
bespeak favors and to those who are less
prosperous.
A man whose manners cannot stand the
test OF private life had better invest anew
in polite ways. He may go unRloved in his
own home, the freedom there 10 sweet and
FeEtlul, Dut IL ~ no freedom 10 say fuue
things, to get into ungovernable RACES. to
fling prases of reproach and Insult and bill
lingsgate at the lady who bears his name.
The other name for good manners is good
morals. Half an hour' later, smirkiug and
smiling in thu street, on his lips no stain OF
profanity. on his brow no defacing scowl,
who could dream the polite DR.. Jekyll had
a Mr.. Hyde side of life?
Handbooks on society tell you how to
peel oranges and help yourself to olives
and translate puuctlliousiy the turned
down corne.s OF Ii visiting card, hut to
harm a gracious nature is deeI er-and to
hurt q kind heart-although some do not
think 30, is q sadder breach OF manners
than to cut your palate with your knife.
There are two decorums. one of the hand
and one of the heart. 1t is bad form TO
leave an invitation card unanswered, but it
is bad heart to go about and investigate
first to find out who are the other guests.
1t is etiquette to eat with a fork. but it is
/ good manner to mean thank you" when
you say it. 1t is just that difference and no
mo e.
A lovely manner is no more indigenous
to a ralace bred person than cobwebs are
to q cornstalk-althouph both condi-
TEST hearted mon have accomplished
their destinies by hovel-hearths In the
street car often the head that wears a silk
hat defers only to the lady Of fashion-but
the Unrestricted workman vRcateS for the
woman, not the gown or tiie bank aCouuut.
A pig can be fitted with H silken coat. but
not with q silvery voice. Ths manner of a
man aIe tested when he talks and acts. not
simply when he appears.
If one would judge Il Eentlewoman, it is
when she shines by the side of lesser SEARS.
Good tanners are not kept for com any
dessert. with just enough to go around and
none left over to send TO the kitchen.
The e are persons who figure in public
circles, and to whose names u certain eclnt
attaches, who, after an intercourse of years
with centlefoik remain rude, selfish and
arrogant. Something prevents their inter.
penetration of the essential oils that make
the wheels of life run smoothly. A gentle
hammered man is never rude-never will
ingly hurts any ono's feelings, never shames
honest poverty or humbles q simple nature.
A gentle hammered woman is not afraid
to be natural, or to be gentle to her SCI
wants, or 10th to admire the beautiful pos
sessions of other people.
1t Is not q crime to put a fish fork into an
Oyster, nor u disgrace to ask for q spoon
when you would help yourself to olives.
Yet n shallow pate places these vices in the
calendar above all the virtues. Slander is
not hnlf so heinous as cutting lettuce with
q knife.
Judge of q women's mannera by the way
she treats her foe. of a mans by the way he
treats his wife, of the worlds by the way
they behave in a Gro Vd.
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