The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1893-09-21
ADMISSION INTO SOCIETY,
The Terms Upon Which This Desirable
Object Is Attained.


Object Is Attained.
There are great many people in the
world who, while they affect indiffer-
ence to what they call society and its
pleasures, are, nevertheless, always on
the alert for some opportunity to in
corporate themselves into this body
which they profess SO much to despise.
1t can not be denied that there is much
IN so-called general society that is ex-
ceedingly frivolous. and that great
deal-of time is wasted in pursuit of
such amusements as it affords, but
even 1the most pessimistic individual
must admit that social relations are
among the necessities of life 1t is
beneficial to every person to come more
or less in contact with others in rela-
tions outside of business transactions,
and society in some of its many forms
seems Ito Obe the approved meeting
ground for people of all classes
and conditions. Everyone may
find the entree into society easy
enough, provided one is mot too crit
ical about the sort of people one meets;
but to become a member of the most
select circles means very much more
than the unsophisticated and thought
less would readily believe.
To belong to what is called the best
society imposes on the individual GER
tain arbitrary demands that are not
always easily met. When society
wants US it is because we can offer it
something, and in order to be eligible
there must be some reason for our ac-
ceptance. Once admitted, the obliga-
ton does not by any means cease. We
must pay a tax for the privilege of re-
manning inside of the charmed circle
We must have something to give, and
the giving is without stint or limit.
We must always be ready, and not only
ready but willing, as social obligations
admit of nothing being done grudg-
mgly.
The young and uninformed person
who desires to enter society will do
well, first of all, to become well versed
in social manners and usages; then to
have something to offer to society as
the entrance fee and the regular dues
which it demands. And it is not diff
cult for young people to make them
selves acceptable, provided they are
intelligent and industrious enough to
do so. 1t is necessary to learn to do
some one thing well, and this accom-
plishment must be held ready on de-
mand. The ability to perform excel
1ently well on some musical instru-
ment, to sing in an acceptable fashion,
TO recite, read or otherwise entertain
the company will be received as cur
rent coin of the social realm Many
a young man has found himself well
cymed into society simply because
he was an excellent partner in
the dance; for good dancing men
are scarce, and with good manners and
this accomplishment almost any man
will find the doors of the social world
open to him. The young woman-artist,
especially if she has achieved any
marked success, is frequently much
sought after. The social world is full
of persons who are fond of lion hunt
ang. and even though the lion be little
more than cub, lit is sure to be looked
up and brought out on all occasions.
There are many social grades, and
this vast and heterogeneous body is
made up of chques. inter-circles and
ub-organizations, all of which need
something or somebody as an objective
point, something to rally around or
something to make show of: there
fore, let nocone despair of securing rec
ognitionsfrom society if he or she has
some accomplishment. some gift or
some reason for demanding admission |
thereto.-N. Y. Ledger.