The sun. [volume] (Morris, Stevens County, Minn.) 1882-1895, 1893-01-05
IN FAIR WOMAN'S DOMAIN.
FACTS OF INTEREST TO EWES
DAUGHTERS:
Onuesired Friends - Fashionable
Observation-Disclosures by
Heat--How to Clean Brass--
The Annoying Freckle--
Growing Up,
Undeslred Frlende,

"It seems as il grandmamma could
not find enough fault with my friends"
young girl was heard complaining to
her sister the other day; and grand
mamma, not beyond hearing, felt very
sore and indignant over the unjust re-
mark. Why had she found fault with
the friends of her darling? Because
she loved to pick rose to pieces and
throw it's petals to the wind, or be-
cause she did not love the young girl
and want her to be happy? Far
from it. Her whole thought in the
matter was love. Yet, for all that,
perhaps her eye was not altogether
single in the direction in which that
love looked. For, in the first place
she was moved by desire that her
grandchild should have about her the
best companionship, and her anxiety
that it should be the best made her in
spect and criticise and find fault,
made her difficult to please; for what
was there quite good enough for the
occasion, and who was there to
be fully trusted to do no harm of blight
or tarnish to this opening flower of her
hope? And then, in the last place, it
is not impossible that little jeal-
ously of the companion, who has
possibly more beauty, or more talent
Or more money, or more position,
more of the worlds advantages in
general, perhaps even a prettier man
ner or better temper, than her own
young girl, made her look askant and
speak bitterly, seeing in her own dear
the demerit that only eyes made keen
by Jealous love are quick enough to
see, but which only the tongue that
champions rival is sharp enough to
announce. At any rate, either case it
is love even if love perverted. But is
it not better for those of us who have
reached the dignity of the elders, who
are grandmother and aunts, without
actual responsibility and power to
forbid, to remember that youth and
years behold things from entirely
different points of views?
If we look back over the intervening
space of our own lives we shall re-
member how ardently youth took
every thing in hand, how we chose
our friends, few out of many, for
reasons surely appealing to ourselves,
and having chosen them, how we chung
to them, contided in them held them
as a part of us, felt censure of them
as censure of us, not only as censure
of our choice, but ofall the life of ours,
the thoughts, thefeelings, the acts that
had entered into it. We did not sym
pathize with that love for us which
would separate these friends from us,
and we would have despised the jeal-
GUS thought that saw the wrong side
of these young friends who were the
other half of our souls, as Horace
has it, had we been aware of it.
Would it not be best, then, to reserve
the fault-finding fromloud expression,
to endeavor to improve the young
companion under our displeasure, and
if that is not possible, then to break
up the undesired companionship by
long visits elsewhere OF our ownyoung
girl, by journeyings and occupations,
or by bringing forward companions
beyond reproach, whom the propin-
guilty may make as dear as were the
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