The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1893-12-03
TIE W1DOWRR,


| what does ne mean By such peculiar floral
combination
He Is a widovsr.
A widower2
Yes.
Is that the widovsr stylsi
1tseems to be-
why it7
tits emblemAtia
How
The weed /. tn. emblem Of sorrow, TIE
| flower. OF hope.
Sorrow for the wife that 10 gone. and hope
that he will meet her hereafteri
| oh no.
| Mop
No: hope that he wfll meet some one 10 take
her place right away.
How long has she been among the depsrtsAf
| Two or three years.
| Does he mourn her loss
Sure; that's why he wants another to drown
| his sorrowa
| Will another do thati
History doesn't record the fact that second
wife ever gave her husband much ehsnes 10
mourn over his first one
Why7
That Isn't what she married him for
She might give him cause to mourn. theuah
she might not give him q chance. chr
There's no law In the matrimonial economy
against IT.
DO wluoWere MAKE Rood nusDandsT
About ns good as any other kind Of men.
Doesn't their experience have an improvinG
tendency
Not Unnecessarily.
Why Is that7
They have to learn all over again.
But you have said widows improve on them
selves Then why not widowers7
woman can learn more by experience In .
minute than a man can in q lifetime. and even
then widow doesn't know II all
Do widows and widowers marry
Quite often.
And happily7
Quite as much so as II they were ami tsurA
The old love doesn't app ear to have . ssri-
Gus effect upon the new1
Apparently not
Isn't 1t more appropriate that widows and
wdowers should marry each other1
In one regard. at least. It is that being .
mutual understanding that references to the
virtues OF tho deceased for purposes Of oom-
parison shall be omitted.
That's worth copsideringf
On the opinion OF those who have tried the
other plan mig ht say that II was.
How old ia the wldower We are talking sboutf
Forty-fVe.
Not too old to marry again
They never get too old for that.
In their own opinion. you meant
young.
Don't some marry widowers out Of PITY
Hardly. unless 1t be pity for their own lot.
Widowers are not so popular In matrimonial
circles as widows are. are they2
Some widowers are not
Which are notp
Those who have children
What difference does that maks1
The average woman is prejudiced against
becoming n stepmother.
Isn't becoming a stepfath or As obi ection ablsI
Not as q rule.
Why7
because the man Is not so closely associated
with the children as a woman 10 and hasn't
the opportunities to be ugly.
But woman needn't be ugly. need shsi
Possibly she need not. but It requires the
temper Of an angel to be lovely always to chill
dren. unless they are ones own.
Has man any better temp per than q womanf
No. but he has q great deal less to try his
temper. especially In the household affairs
Is this widower attentive to any particular
woman
Not yet. but he 10 beginning to take notice.
/ presume he will marry a woman Of IS OF
Not II he can get one OF IS or thsreabouta
How old was the wife he lostf
She i've years his junior.
And he wants one twenty years his juniorf
Not especially.
MOI
Twenty-Five years his Junior would suit his
ideas better.
Why Is thatf
Because he can get one OF that age II he makes
the effort
He must be rich
Well. he's comfortable
How about the rich widowsrS
He's snap.
But what II he has ohildrsnf
His money can hire nurses.
Being stepmother under suoh circus
stances Is not so Objectionable then
Circumstances alter cases.
Is a woman so mercenAryf
oh. no, she isn't mercenary.
But she looks out for No. IL
No. She looks out for No. 2.
Are wldowers quite as Riddy a. widewsf
Just about. though In different form.
What form. for instance2
They pose as monuments Of sorrow aaA
mile through their tears.
j don't quite understand.
No man does until he becomes q wfdousa
Does widower consult his children before
akinG a second wife
II he Is a sensible man he does and he also
makes material provision for them. II he 10 .
nan OF any means
Why should he do THAR
To prevent future misundsrstAndinEs.
Do all widowers marry AEainf
No more than all widows do.
Why not2
Because there Is In some hearts . dsvstioa
which. when once II has been exercised. never
gain finds an object to move It,
Is that lover
1t Is something deeper and ErandsT AAa
obler than may be found in our present d.
milton or conct ption OF love.
And is IL common to men and Womsni
Common to both and yet most uncommon
And beautiful?
More beautiful than anything else inita
Shouldn't widower with children marryt
Yes II he can get the right kind OF . woman
What is the right Kind
That Is one OF tho things no fellow can ma
ut until he treA
But he should try Just tho sAmsl
That's what everybody saYa
And every body ought 10 knoWf