The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1893-03-19
In the Social World at Home and Abroad

has been adopted az matter OF neces-
sity from lust this cause in other I'M
portant social centres. The movement mere
has suffered the common fate OF REFORMS.
Their theories were burned at the stake
of disapproval. The girls furnished the
fagots and the young men set the loren
thereto, though Ii scorched them In us
burning Now IL rests with them 10 de-
wise methods OF their own TO obviate an
embarrassment which they can but ac-
knowledge exists to the hurt or poln'
directly to the young men. indirectly 10
the girls. Does not the whole case lie IN
what is expected OF young man In So
ciety? Then he, naturally though weak
", not daring TO 20 against customs.
silently approved, does what Is expected
OF him in haste, and repents at leisure
Suppose there were no day book In the
social library called Great Expectations.
the whole trouble would be managed as
II was OF yore, for this is a comparative
ly recent issue, which the press ana the
public fain would suppress. IL would DC
found that few young men OF means
would indulge In such extras as carri-
ages, opera, presents and flowers at VIII,
and be appreciated as a rarely by their
recipients, while others not so blessed
with the wherewithal for such fndui-
gences would forego them except upon
rare and justihable occasions. and In so
doing not find his pleasure marred by any
reprehensible feeling OF having left I'M
done some folly. the only Justification OF
doing which could be that he was ex-
pected TO do II.
II you can bring out a revised edition OF
this od-fashioned back number OF the
code OF society. girls, l have the author
ity OF those most concerned for declar-
ing that the royalty upon your work Will
be increasing belieship and multiplying
- - nj
pleasures The accomplishment OF this
great good is not the serious task X looks
10 be. II undertaken in the right and
helpful spirit by the young girls who
compose society. A little seif-deniai and
n constant use of tact must be her all
sufficient aids TO reach success which
will mean much in the life OF brothers
and friends. and will crown her efforts
rJnseiishness will set aside vanity and
luxury. which is fostered at the cost OF
others. and tact will discriminate and
delicately hide a motive which, however
kind. would be annoying IL revealed.
We can see most clearly that when
a young man brings a carriage for
short distance. or when the night Is nne,
II with graceful remonstrance she
declares the uselessness OF princely Gus
toms In a Republic. that on the next oc-
CASTOR he is at least relieved from
sured that she will not be annoyed at It's
absence.
Mothers and fathers with their usual
text Of they did not do so In our day,
are having much to say about the dress
ing tables and desks OF their
daughters being furnished with an
array OF costly silver, the gem
erous donors In many instances young
men connected by no closer tie than so
cIety friend" The daughter has likewise
made her present OF a silver flask. hat
brush. or inkstand. and Is but being
paid in like kind But suppose she had
remembered the anniversary by dainty
tribe. valued from sentiment alone. and
no vulgar consideration OF intrinsic worth;
is II not altogether likely that she would
nave been complimented In return by
chaste copy OF some book. or a box OF
dowers2 Thus no sense OF obligation
"a aroused on either side, yet with dell
cacv and taste the same degree or cour-
tesv has been exchanged. In these ana
countless other cases is the influence OF
the girl in society enabled TO right wrongs
ennoble her vocation. and In the silken
tous guide the lords Of creation INTO
the ways OF pleasantness and honor;
lne FELIX.