The Yakima herald. [volume] (North Yakima, W.T. [Wash.]) 1889-1914, 1893-12-28
love VERSUS JEALOUSY
The GTetn-Eyed. Monster Discussed by
The Staff Reporter
THE TRUE Art OF BEING PLEASANT.
Women's lnfiexibis Desire TO Be
Admired The Value OF sincere
frsnkness-A synopsis OF the RE.
ligisn we Nest Need.

Written for THE HERALD by The staT Reporter
THE VALUE or SKSEss.-Frankness
is quality to be recommended in either
man or woman. The person who looks
you straight in the eyes and tells you
candidly what he thinks without hesita.
ton or stammering will win your conf.
dence, even though the truth he utters
may be very unpleasant to listen to.
1t is just this fact that prevents people
from being genuinely honest in the ex-
preston of their sentiments, as frankness
borders so frequently upon brutality that
rather than wound the feelings Of another
a polite evasion takes the place of abso-
lutte truth. Society white lies are largely
due to this, for say what you will the girl
or woman who sets out on her social
career determined to be quite frank on
every occasion is certain to be very I'M
popular il she carries ont her intention.
Some one may say that such a condi.
ton OF affairs sets premium upon dis
honesty. That is too harsh a statement.
II should be said rather that it teaches
the value OF silence on occasions when to
give utterance to ones thoughts is sure to
wound. For instance, II one woman says
to another, Il hope my pictures will be
good; l am such hard subject, you
know" it would be wiser..for the other to
say, ~ hope So" and drop the subject
entirely, than to remark Eyes, you are
plain looking. Why. when you come to
anslyze your face you haven't a single
good feature. You must indeed be a
very difficult subject for the artist"
OF course, hundreds will say that they
never would be so rude; yet that csnver-
sation did actually occur and there are
many instances where excessive frank
ness wounds by its very truthfulness.
II you do not like thing, unless you are
certain your opinion will not offend, keep
still about it, for there is safety in re.
straining the utterances of thoughts far
more than in their hasty and i'll advised
expression, for while speech is silver,
judicious silence is pure gold.
GREENE MONSTER. - True love.
they say, is always accompanied by jeal-
ousy, a statement open to controversy,
for any one brought into contact with this
class OF people soon discovers that,
though loving and lovable, they are
usually vain and self conscious. 1t ia
not enough for them to know they are
beloved; the world must know it, too,
and the object on which their trouble.
some affections are bestowed must not
seem untrue in deed or thought. The
jealous woman devotes the time when
she is with the man whom she loves to
questions as to what he has done, where
he has been, whom he has seen, etc,
and this last as a rule, usually leads to
trouble, for if woman suspects that any
OF the moments spent away from her are
devoted to another, hornets nest would
be mild and peaceful haven of rest in
comparison with the storm that will come
il her conjectures prove correct. Tears
pleadings, protestations, wild bursts Of
passionate devotion all mark the tenn.
pestuous courtship of jealous woman
The happiness of the moment is COM
pletely swallowed up in fear of the future
Wise is the lover who breaks the cords
that bind him to his exacting mistress ere
it is too late. As her husband, life be-
comes intolerable. He dares not say
another is good looking, cannot praise the
fit of gown or size of q shoe, without
being accused OF being madly in love
with their wearer. For him to speak to 9
woman, whether pretty or not, means q
scene, and even his men acquaintance
come under the ban OF his tyrant. She ID
jealous OF his mother, of his sisters, Of
that part of his past in which she had nc
part. If he can convince her that she is
the only woman he ever loved-that life
without her would be desert, and al
that sort of thing, you know, then he
may enjoy moderate share OF happiness
but if not, regret to say that being in
hot water will prove SYNONYMOUS term,
to the man who is unfortunately married
to Jealous woman.
ART OF BEING PLRAsANr-There is an
inherent longing deep in the heart Of each
woman plodding along this earth of ours
to be attractive. She thrives on admira
ton and grows plump at the rate of five
pounds week II little love should be
thrown in her way.
But the great question how to gain this
affection, this love and admiration which
he has the power to give is sometimes oil
a rather pulling nature to girls, espec
tally those who have no personal charm
to attract.
In conversation the other day some
charming young girls were complaining
of their lack of talent and plain features.
1t was suggested to them to make study
of the art of being pleasant. Girls, YOU.
don't know what an effect continued
pleasantness has upon man."
A woman who makes a man whom she
loves truly believe that he knows not the
meaning II WORRY and who ALWAYS has