Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1893-11-26

you. II you watch her closely you may
soon notice this.
Make it a point above everything else
never to complain that your husband
negIects you; if you do, the day will be
sure to come when you would give
worlds to make some one believe that
he does not; but your OWL words con-
vict him. Moreover, when you imagine
that you have been neglected, you think
a great deal more of that one occasion
than you do of all the tender caresses
that he has lsvishsd upon you. Doubt
less he is not perfect, neither are you,
and perhaps you often vex and displease
| him, only he does not worry and brood
over 1t as you do. Besides, you should
remember that for many OF the faults
and habits with which your husband
worries you his training is perhaps more
to be bl& med than he is.
II you are disappointed In him since
your marriage, probably he Is as much
disappointed in you; II you have turned
out exactly as he had hoped, perhaps
he would have oeen your ideal husband.
Human nature Is faulty, and there Is
usually blame attached to both sides.
| Make q solemn resolution that when a
trouble is past you will never mention
1t again, or allow your mind to dwell
! upon it any more than you can avoid.
In every way let your husband see that
instead OF giving way to temper and In
jured feelings you are doing your at
most to DO right. The consciousness OF
your own noble efforts will do much to-
wards making your life happier, and
unless your husband Is oae Of the worst
of men your example will doubtless In
cite him TO better thing
It'takes a woman OF tact to be a good
wife. There are many model husbands
who, under different management, would
deteriorate frightfully. There are 9TH
ers who are looked upon as most cruel
husbands, yet who would, under wiser
and more gentle management, be the
very reverse. 1t may be bitterly hard
to keep your trials TO yourself, but
eventually you will feel that YOU
have achieved a victory. Often
the petty matters about which
the injured wife asks advice are smooth
ed out happily without any interyen-
ton; then what would she not give to
have the secret still her own? For
those who think any outside advice will
be beneficial, the only course TO be
recommended is to send an account Of
their troubles to q good domestic paper,
signing a fictitious name, aud altering
the circumstances so that even ones
dearest friends may not imagine from
whom the complaint eminated.
Bear In mind that II you allow your
husband know you complain about him,
or fail to show him proper respect be-
fore your friends, you will have lost
your strongest hold upon him. There
is no situation In life where a little more
realistic application OF the good maxim,
"Do unto others as you would that they
should do into YOU" would not bright
en- and improve matters. No sensible,
unprejudiced person a believe that
amid the great army Of much-complain-
ed-about husbands, the blame Is only on
their side. Often those who complain
the loudest do so TO silence a conscience
that is self-accusing. For those who
have troubles too deep to be suppressed,
no sympathy can be deep enough or ten
der enough, but It Is not for such thai
this IS written. II you wish your
wrongs to be made public You nave only
TO bestow your confidence upon one per
son: IL you desire them TO remain hid
den. keep them TO yourself.