New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1893-03-26
HOME AND SOCIETY,
CHAT OF THE SEASON.
TIE TACTFUL woM\N-A NEW CAREER FOR
YOUNG MEN-SOME DAINTY WAYS
OF COOKING


OF COOKING.
The woman who would be successful leader In
.ocIey must possess infinite tact. She must be able
"a say the right thing at the right moment and nver
by any chance wound any ones elfeSteem she must
no so worldly wise 10 seem genuinely unselfsh 30
mil Of consideration and sympathy to appear full OF
the milk Of human kindness tactful person will In
vsriably remember and use your name she Will ap-
rear interested In your hobby and will listen with
sattering attention to whatever you may say. she
will talk children and servants with the house mother
discuss pictures with the artist bo ks with the author
and gossip with the worldly minded. II this universal
sympathy sprang from higher motive what a noble
character Ii would mply-for the curious part OF a
perfectly worldly policy is that II Stimulates so success
fuly what Is best and loveiest.
"some Of the Washington romances are very queer
ssid lady who had lived for many years at the
capital. English people. you know. are apt TO be-
more eccentric In their fad> and their fancics than
Americans and sometimes they take odd likings.
some years ago there was young English girl stop
ping at the British Legation in Washington aud this
yrl together with the lofty scOrn of American men
peculiar TO the insular English maiden, had pro
,oronae although entirely theoretical admiration for
the aboriginal red man, OF whom. however, She had
never seen a specimen. just at that time there
some trouble in the West. and the indians per
forming their ghos dances and other antics. aud to
Miss IS great delight. deputation OF chiefs was
sent on to Washington 10 have pow with the
President. very small invited reception given
By the latter TO his savage visitors at which the
corps diplomatique present: and Miss
- whose romantic little head was full Of nonsense.
announced herself in love with solemn young
chief who Of The party. He was evidently
etered BY her very obvious attentions and presented
ner with Indian trnkets. with which she seemed
perfectly delighted. We all teascd her about her
indian sweetheart and laughed among ourselves about
her evident infatuation but her visit TO America com
Ing 10 an end. she went home. and thought nothing
more about It. until few years ago. when heard
the end OF the story II seems that she was gen
timely cprise with the dusky young warrior, and
Savage Bear. or whatever his name, was equally
smitten. 50 the matter finally arranged nv the
rirl. who had money of her own. returning to This
country with her brother. who seemed to accept IN"
iuation whcu: demur: and after visit 10 her chief
IN the far West they married and settled down
UPON a ranch In game country. This delighted the
brother who Is great sportsman, and am told that
they live very pleasantly indeed
"The next best thing TO discovering gold mine.
said man OF society not long is to bring 10 the
front some new family with social aspirations. They
can he worked 10 any extent for the first few years or
60" Yes. SAID his companion. but they invariably
drop their first set Of friends soon they are fairly
launched and become independent lhat - III
right rejoned the first speaker II Is all matter of
interest any way and the first people have had their
innings There is nothing amusing TO watch
than the various phases Of social progress In this re
publican land. and the absrdly exaggerated value thai
Is Il~c upon ng member o. the privileged ct RE
Just what constitutes the open sesame to society
Is very hard TO say Ii Is not wealth. although thai
is one Of the necessary qualifications. N i not fam
ily although that. too. has its advantages. som"
trtpo for without succeeding In
ing moro than the first portal OF the temple OF fashion
while others with no better qualifications walk straight
into the inner sanctuary almost without effort II
IS the beginning that tells more than anything else.
said woman who keen observer. People
should not try TO force themselves upon society. but
should make an effort to become necessary 10 II.
who Is clever and wishes to launch her family
will 60 Newport. for instance at first but will
begin her operations in some qui"ter place where there
are a few good families with whom She may become
Intimate. Thus she gradually extend her circle
until she knows enough people to form nucleus
After that. n she has money and knows how TO enter
tain she may pass the Ruhcon with safety"
or late wears there has been a new career -pcned
to mpecnnious young men Of good address and ok
cellent fnmily Connections career which, II NOT al'o
ecther suited TO ambitious temperament. Is GER
tsinly very comfortable sinecnre combining as II
foes the flesh pots of Egypt. the best society ana
manager, 10 rich man, who has neither the time
nor the experience TO attend 10 the detail Of hi
establishment for himself. sort Il gl rihed major
d1no In fact. the youth becomes he runs the house.
engages the servants attends TO the invitations and
the dinners and looks 10 it that everything Is done
In the most correct style, both in the house and what
is equally important, the stables That this Is not
distinctly 'Gnized position goes without SAYING.
Is tie mere fact OF making it regular Office would
destroy lis vauc. This household Authority. there
fore may be the "idus Achates,' the family friend
the "tame rat7 OF the house. anything but what he
really ia paid cmploye. engaged to use his knowl
edge Of the world for the benefit OF his patron
There is another social development which is very
curious and Interesting TO observe-the career of
those young ladies and Young gentlemen from no
where who BY dint OF much striving have obtained
footing in fashionable circles, and who hoat abOst
without any apparent family connections. obtain
ing their positions their devotion TO rich and in
huential persons. To be little brother or sister
Of the rich~ however. requires very distinct qualif
cations and n argues cleverness at least 10 have
sIcceeded In obtaining the coveted grapes which so
many OF their pharisaical brethren declare TO be
sour.
One OF ~. famous DR.. As best nurses married
rather late In life. and her only child was sickly
puny baby that seemed TO nave very little chance
0. living The mother however. threw her whole
sonal and maternal soul into the struggle with
constitutional weakness, and the result Is splen
DID child who looks II he had never had "A days
Illness in his life. Il attribute IL all to massage
and diet, and the most unremitng care said the
mother, proudly. III / had not been trained
nurse do not believe ] ever could have saved
him.
Tarlc,an IS TO he used again so they say. for
debutantes' bail dresses. 81 How we'll remember
orr tarlean ball dresses long ago" said lady.
speaking OF this new revival. "with their blllowy
skirts one above the other ] recOllect one cs-
pecially. belonging TO Mary which was all
pink and white ruching up to the waist. There
vas an immense amount Of work upon II, and She
had made II al herself-for She was as poor MS
church mouse-for Mrs. IS big ball. She looked
uorf.o. shat. pfoht and VI infrofucpd