Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1893-10-29
CHAPTER FOR BRIDES
SOME VERY sEAsoNABLE AND SIN j.
BILE SUGGESTIONS.
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From the time girl learns In the
primer that M stands for NJ A n, there Is
am inatinctive impression which never
leaves her. but grows with her growth
that one day in her life she VIII pos
sess or be possessed by one. and her
IDEAS on this subject are never very clear
as 10 which Is or VIII be the case
An American girl approaches marriage
with a certain sense of claiming her
rights She may not have distinctly IN
her mind that she Is wronged, but she
nuts herself unconsciously into FENCING
attitude. and her first quarrel with her
husband will probably be to show tnat
nobody can lord it, over her.
The American wife, too. Is always am
bilious; this may be set down as GER
tainty by the man who marries her
| she expects him TO be somebody, II LOT
no better reason than that he Is her hus-
hand Women are all alike in this, ana
| 10 stimulate those who seem unresponsive
in this important particular they resort
| TO all sorts of amiable devices NO mar
| ried woman has failed at some time 10
remind her husband what she gave up
| In taking him for better or for worse.
She cannot help intimating that she might
| have pursued some other course, anu
pictures the glowing consequences OF such
a choice. This is trenching upon danger
ous ground. however, for man is but NOR
| tai for all he Is given such high place
IN the universe and the primer, and the
most natural reply to such goading WIZ
be almost sure, pity you hadn't taken
| the other chance.
WHOSE FAULT is 1T?
,rff no
wife. who ''is not happy with her hus-
| band" but before we bestow all our
sympathy upon her let us candidly inquire
| how far she has kept herself lovely and
attractive. and II she is still the being
who inspired the admiration and devotion
| she still demands Is she as intent on
| keeping his love az she was upon gaining
| IL? Or has she sunk 10 the level OF COM
mon-place and given up all the graces
which won his heart and made him once
| her slave? When they go out together
| into society, does she now look her
brightest and best? Does she unshackle
for the nonce the chain that binds her TO
domestic worries and grievances and en-
deavor to be TO him her own old unmar-
| ried self. with the witcheres he so
adored? Does she give him no cause to
note that she compares unfavorably with
| other women In any Of those attractions
that first drew him to her?
Il whispered word to the young wife who
'fs not happy"-forget your cares and
humor your lords weaknesses 0or he had
them. enter into his pleasures and let
him see that all that gives flavor and
| piquancy to life need not be found else
| where than I'm the society OF his wife.
Man is but an incomplete thing with
out n helpmeet, in fact, only a mOety OF
a man. waiting to be perfected by the adj
diton OF better half"
The royalty OF his nature remains I'M
developed whilst he is single. but he needs
| the right sort OF inspiration TO complete
| his best side.
| An idle and self-indulgent woman can
never accomplish Il, no matter how deeply
he may love her I'm the beginning. II is
the quality of unselnshness that ne looks
for in her, I'm its highest perfection. and
| reconsideration toward him in the strug-
gle for a livelihood grows TO be unpardon-
able in his eyes. Some OF the happiest
couples are those who have lived on
modest incomes, fought the battle of life
step by step. learned the lessons OF life
| together and together suffered sorrow
and enjoyed blessings
SHE SHOULD WORK.
Young wives should ever be mindful OF
L
things that husbands, as rule. can sup
port wives without work. They need not
| be "drudges" but no true woman should
| ever be willing 60 feel that I'm ways which
| the second partner" may always be in
| valuable she does not at least earn her
bread. She should have her employment
carefully mapped out. for no woman Is
lowered by work. whilst idleness Is never
| elevating.
The trousseau and the presents, the
glitter OF the enchanting surroundings.
drive away the more serious thoughts
which should fill the mind Of the bride.
but the rational future will be time
enough for these. She sets out on her
bridal tour feeling as II the world holds
only two people, and it matters not where
| she goes life is to be a long dream OF
pleasure In the society of the one with
whom she has promised to spend IL: but
she knows not that her bridal trip Is only
preface to her welded life and that in
it, while she may read some suggestions,
she has only the book open to her when
she gets home after the honeymoon.
A TIN WEDDING.
The matrimonial fever has reached even
| those who have been married before. 40
there Is no guaranty even for those al
ready inoculated against the epidemic.
Golden and silver weddings, wooden and
| tin weddings, are almost as fashionable
this season as the original ceremony. only
| they take the form Of surprise parties or
informal receptions. Such was the cee-
bration of their tin wedding or tenth
anniversary, by Mr. and Mrs. j. II. v.
Daniel, on Wednesday evening, October
18th. An entirely impromptu gathering
of friends drank their health and, pre-
scented tin gifts and made merry with
them as they had done ten years before
Several OF the bridesmaids and grooms-
MEN were present, among them Mrs
Scolay Moore, Mrs. Il. b. Valentine, and
Messrs. +. II. Mcclure, Ashby Wickham,
w. w. Archer, and n. A. Dunlop.
Mr. Roosevelt Page read several original
poems accompanying presents, one espe-
cially bright from New York. too lengthy
TO be given here, but worthy OF publlca-
ton.
One from our home talent" however
appropriate to the present accompanying,
suggestive of Poe's immorta. Bells"
reads:
Hear the tiny tinkling bells.
Wedding bells!
Ten years since they first rung out
Telling with joyous shout
or the happiness awaiting
Those who then their lives were mating.
Now their tiklng is of tin.