St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-03-21

There are always several ways of
looking at any question. Our opinions
depend on the point of view. The talk
of equality between husband and wife
brings out expressions from various
people. each tinged with the medium
through which they view the matter. y
bright woman writes about it this way
in the Chicago Mail in answer to a
woman who signs herself "Arabella,
and asks:
"Is it not fact that in homes where
husband and wife are equal in every re-
Spect there is no such thing as domestic
unhapplness? Which does not mean,
Of course. the incidental worries that
may be evolved by ordinary, everyday
living"
Beyond 4 doubt, my dear woman. the
cOnjugal atmosphere is balmieSt where
each party of 1.-THE happy couple agrees
with the other.
The marriage relation should always
be backed by mutual respect. COnnubial
love should rest upon a foundation made
UP of a sense of each others equality
ana a due respect for such respective
prerOgatives.
There may not be even little bit of
personal superiority in the nuptial bar
gain that may be warranted to stand the
everyday scOurings of domestic oblIga-
tiOns without becoming threadbare and
losing color.
Individually. the importance of the
happy couple should be accounted alike.
Nevertheless. AraOella. this depart
ment is opposed TO matrimonial equality
in every respect"
1t believes that the husband should do
the huStling for Hylng all by himself.
The wife shouldn't be in it.
While he is thus occupied, she should
be keeping strict tab on what he pro-
videS for the home. She has all the
work she is able to do>Tigbt around her
family altar. if she keeps her domestic
affairs in trim.
The present writing is not taking
stock of the social jobs that she and he
separately and collectively may under
take.
She isn't ''cqual' in the rights of
tranSacting his business, No more is he
on alevel with her in correct methods of
making the home attractive and COM
Portable. He should judiciouSly pro-
vide, and she should judiciOuSly take
care of the provision. 1t Is allowable
and pleasant ana helpful when they
consult each other regarding respective
duties.
But there shouldn't be any ''have to-
mixed with such mutual cOnsidera-
tions.
When wife begins debating about
her husbands business and takes hold
of its affairs she belittleS him. If she
stands between him and his obligations,
through inclination. she usually repents
of her folly later, when he expects her
TO be part and parcel of the main sup
port. Irresponsible husbands are some
times made so by the early mistakes of
their wives.
OF course, these opinions are built OH
the SuppOSitiOD of usual conditions of
the matrimonial contract. There are
exceptions to this rule. the same as with
other sensible formulas.
A conspicuous exception on "her"
side of the line is the building of the fire
III the kitchen stove at early dawn.
Arabella, that is a thing which a wife
should never understand. She should,
on principle, make a fiat failure of it
every time she undertakes the awful
task. One success will rum her chances
at morning maps.
Neither should she ever learn how to
chop the kindling wood.
In several domestic ways the husband
may be useful.