Arizona silver belt., 1893-10-28
BIGNESS AND SENSE.
NOT ALL INTELLECTUAL PEOPLE ARE
 coMPANloNAeLE.

by Many People Who Think They Are
 Treading tho Higher Planes of Life.
 Loving Children.
 Bigness is not the same as size, at least not always, and it is not to be estimated by weight. "The people" says q gener- 0us woman, whom l most dread as guests are those who have no capacity for small pleasures" I, too, have the same trouble. John has bulky fricnd who never plays game or romps with children, and l do not know what to do with him. When we go out to play cro- quet, he stalks up and down with his arms crossed under his coattails and has not the least interest in our sport Then John has to leave us and go off to dis cuss tho resurrection of the body or set tie some other high and mighty problem that neither of them knows anything about
 John doesn't like it, but he feels the obligations of host--and, as for me, l don't think any guest ought to disrupt a family and become a distracting ele- ment. Why can't the man get off his horse and try to geo what other folks need and like2 This is all the worse be- cause, if we propose walk, he secs nothing to interest him; doesn't notice the trees or the flowers and strikes in with disputatious tirade about Dr. Briggs or the higher criticism. When theology runs dry, he goes into politics, and we must discuss tariff and silver or be impolite. like hospitality. It makes me miserable when l cannot be sure of pleasing my gnest. simply have to wish that Edward Knox would stay away
 Women as a rule are made up for smaller things, and 1t very much pleases me that Emerson decides genius to be capacity for small things. But know few women who arc terrible charac- ters to get on with Mrs. Jane Geary comes in to talk over the last book by woman author. A pleasant topic this. But how unutterably silly this wise woman i3 when she tries to please chil- dren-for she really tries. Think Of asking q 7-year-old if she knows what the analysis" of candy is When she walks with me, she pokes hollyhock and calls it geranium.
 l do not know whether the ancients meant the sun and its rays when they talked about samson and his long tress. es of hair, and do not much care. But Samson was and is interesting for this reason: He was q physical prodigy, with Q gentle capacity for very human feel iBgs. He could be cajoled into frolic- some mood and was terrible only when he must be. David is better sample of tho great biz body full of su1all and pleasan; ways. "I, said certain great preacher. learned my first love for the ehildlike of my brave father, who never despsed small things. and then learned the same lesson of Jesus. lam a Chris tian because real Christianity is great ness in small things
 Oneof Jules do Glouvet's novels, The Woodman." saves its hero, who is a poacher and always ready for killing and eating and little else, by means of a little child The child kills out the mans furious passions. and the sight of the little one converts him to q new sort of life That is the mission. is i; not. of our children to keep us from growing old and harlin our emotions2 But what can a woman do with visitors who either frankly say they do not like children, or who manifesily are very indifferent to them? 1t becomes a necessity at once to create two households, to keep the chill dren busy somewhere while we attend to onr guests.
 We arc all fond of trining discoveries. We like our rambles in the woods and glens to find new flowers John gets as excited as one of the boys when he finds a rare flower. We talk it over, and it Is added to scme ones herbarium with pride Indeed l cannot see that there is any other way of making life very en- jsydblo or hvable even but by tho tri- fes. Tho Japanese Rolneos make love by calling on the object of affection. carrying in one hand a howerpot with a pet plant. We ought, believe, to cal- tiyate these simple wSys Those who cannot be happy without noise, display and excitement are on the road to being incapable of happiness at all.
 Dr, Bremen says: Easing my asser. ton on my private practice and at St. Eincent's, l will say that the boy who smokes at T will drink whisky st Il. take to morphineat 20 or g and wind up with cocaine or other narcotics at 90 or soon after" Above all things have a homely way of living, so childlike, simple, fresh that you win never be blase or any of your household lose the capacity for be- ing pleased have heard of dead moral natures and of intellectual powers ar rested in the way of development and have seen cases of both sorts, but there is quite as much danger of loss of faculty for pleasure.
 Event to church yesterday and heard a clever discourse on the Christian obli- gation of loving. The preacher said to us, Just love, only don't love yourself that is all there is to the law of religion, But do not believe that preacher was doing anything more than retailing wares he had bought in the lump and did. not know anything. abuut, for he went on with illustrations of all sorts to em- phasize and explain love, but all his examples were of showy sort. The real Christian love is in trifes of the coinmonest sort. The grandest exhibi- tion of bigness is in doing small favors There is something wonderful in big mans arms. The habit of taking mans arm is the finest little exhibition of honor a woman could have bestowed. Your arm, sir is stout and full of soul. It is the very ideal Of defense and protec- tion. You give it to me, and if I have confidence that your soul is as muscular as your body take the arm. Woman gives the hand; man gives the arm. But it is not all arms that are worth taking.