Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1893-03-05

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woman married 20 tyriusi American
nlan- There are ether u;tn IN the world
who make better Iuverz Romeo. the pat
tern and inoaei u. lovers. eould not Ios-
ably have been az Amegican otheilo
wooed bes.smon4 - never American
wooed or could woa
One can hardly imagine General Grant.
for instance. recststulsflnx hls battles
and making much II his -hAirbrezGgA
escapes by go and land tor ths c.li6cs-
tion ct = young lady wholn be D;shed 20
marry. And yet i. for one, would rather
have been Mrs. Grant than Mn. Othsllo.
CT even Mrs- Romeo Montague. for even
- the Moor killed his wife from jealousy
the Italian certainly would have neg
lecfed and siighted his while he sang
under the balcony II some other jules.
True. lao would have esp~Stei her to take
the same liberty 40 long ~ xhs didn't gel
found out. but that state OF things tan
hardly 10 elassed under The head Of
happy marriages.
All men Of the Latin xnces-ltnlians.
Frenchmen. Spsnsards. Purtuguese-are
endowed by nature with the gifs Of love
making. They can lock across the room
hundred things moro eloquent than
q Saxon could say on the fsirest moon
light night that ever sbone. Give him
the moonlight night, and he not only
looks but speaks like Apollo. like tho
syrens. like Mephistopheles himself. who
Is. ~ all accounts agree. the most fas-
cinxting creature in the world until you
become too well acquainted with him.
But this Irresistible Latin lover makes
an extremely poor husband In fact. the
honeymoon Is scarcely over before he re-
sumes the occupation Of lovemaking.
only now those glances, those whispers.
those adoring protestations. are devoted
to somebody else.s He has courscd his
hare and captured her; lie has charmed
the bird OF the bough and Gagged her.
Now he looks for hare and = bird who
are still at liberty and still can give him
the pleasure Of the chase.
Make love to ones wife! BE laughs in
good natured contempt ut the absurd
suggestion. and with final twist O. his
moustache, final survey Of his invinci-
BILE self in the mirror. he walks away
leaving Ia signora or madame to pass
her lonely hours rs she viii.
As a general thing she contrives that
they shall not be lonely. But. after all.
this is not the ideal marriage, is its
Now, il the signora or madame is an
American girl accustomed ~ an Amer
lean father and his domestic manners.
she doesn't take the new ways at all
kindly. She does not want TO have some
other woman's husband come and senti-
mentally console her for the desertion
Of his own spouse. Although In Rome,
she declines TO do what the Romans do,
but persists in demanding that Rome
should do as New York or Boston or
Philadelphia does. She doesn't succeed
in creating new code Of international
marriage relations, poor little soul, and
tho result is, as usual thing, tragic.
/ Either she beats or bruises herself 10
pieces in dashing against the walls Of
! the inevitable or she accepts her fate in
reckless spirit that carries her great
( deal too far. She does ''ccnsole herself
with vengeance. and misery. warfare.
perhaps divorce. perhaps death, are the
results.
But the more common form OF inter-
national marriage Is not between an
American and Latin, but sort Of
/ cousinly alliance between an English,
( Irish or Scotch man with tho American
girl, whose blood is generally derived
from one or the other Of these divisions
Of the Anglo-Saxon race.
Il
Latin alliance, for there are points in
common between the mother country
and her independent daughter which
make more harmony. There is a COM
non language. generally n common re-
Igion, and an nnwritten code Of ethics
and manners which is pretty generally
shared by each.
The British lover and the American
lover are about on a par. although the
Englishinan, as general thing. assumes
as soon rs be Is engaged a certain air Of
authority and proprictorship which the
American never dreams Of az any period
9. les career as n lover and husband.
feel sure that in the English Inar-
rage service the obey Is spelled with u
big 90" for il seems the principal point
Of the brides new duties. and tho fiancee
il checrfully ready 10 begin 10 practice
her obligations. II she tries 10 rebel.
her mother and friends. perhaps her be
trothod himself. cali her 10 account with
the threat that II she doesn't take care
she will lose her opportunity. Jack or
Tom or Ned viii feel that ~ unfractable
girl will make poor wife. and he will
be Of his bargain
Saw that 10 an American girl. and
what walls or roofs vcnld contain her
fcorng She wonli return that young
mans rings ard letters before the hour
was out and not know him the next time
she met him. But with the English girl
n different heretlify and different train
iag have produced an entirely different
temperament She also has iusensibly
gathered from the mutual deneanor -
her father and mother the standard Of
matrimonial manners and obligations.
She Jerccivcs that her mother : FIRST duty
l. u defer in all things 10 her father: 90
provide for bis physical comfort ~ the
expense perhaps q her own: TO coax. ca
sole. persuade or deceive him into con
senf,nx u an entertainment. ~ expesii-
lion. new gown 81 a new visitor The
father l. a little jupiter. AMI the mother
i IA '-ox cye1 juno vbofe PRINCIPAL
virtue il aiuiahle submission. and who.e
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