Blackfoot news. (Blackfoot, Idaho) 1891-1902, 1893-07-08
LOYE-MLKING TROUBLE.
co.RTsHIF IS a NECESSARY
EXPERIMENT.
Many and ve-atIous Are the Worries
Thzt Eelong 10 It-Litsis rhtazs
Thea AssuEs ThrsAtea-
ing Proportions


Is even 8 more serious matter 70 D.
gin courtship Although love and
courtship seem Just a. incident 70
youthful mankind a. the whooplns
cough and measles 70 intautile M
rnanity. i is no lees certain that
their effects upon the nervous system,
the character. the prospects. and the
pocket are still more serious and
permanent in their results
just a. the happiness Of lifetime
mas depend upon the glance o. a
sparkling eye or the blush q = maid
ems cheek, so q simple accidental
meeting which ripens into acgua-nt-
ance. and thence into courtshlp, may
be res ponsibls for thousands d human
pains and joys The feeling OF love
itself ha- been described As . sort %
sweet agony, and an itching ~ the
heart which you can not get a. - a.
leviate Almost everyone cut o. his
teens has a. some time during his life
had more or less experience a. court
ing--we use the old-time word
Il may have amounted 20 nothing
beyond the usual school boys esca-
pade OF losing his heart 20 a damsel
quite ten years his senior. who, II
she did not entirely ignore the state
Of his feelings Oaly noticed him 70
giggle az him. while she declined al
Cyertures. backed up though they
were by liberal Offers Of apples and
candies
Few Of those who ara already in
love would willingly b argued
out o. il. says Answers, but most
lovers would have 70 admit the
pleasures Of courtship have their
penalties. Probably there is no more
trying time in a persons career than
this. and il Is an experience well cal
culated 10 pnt ones fortitude, pa
thence. seli-denial. and all other ylr-
tues % the test Many people would
doubtless confess that they never knew
a days complete and analloyed hap
piness till they crowned their wOoing
IN matrimoay.
Though it must, unfortunately be
said Of many u both sexes that when
they marry their troubles begin the
matrimonial state may. however. bs
quite as often recommended 10 the
love-sick a. q panacea for the little
worries and anxietiss which proceed
from coIrtship
Not that il would 30 generally adj
visable 70 dispense with cOurtship
altogether. as did the celebrated DR.
Abernethy. whose marriage. though
Il turned out happy, was the most
prOsaic and unrOmantic affair posi-
pie he absolutely refusing 20 waste
+ his time on sentiment. and being ac-
cepted Immediately on proposal
COurtship. apart from romance, Is in
most cases a necessary experiment.
and a trial by which two persons may
learn 20 know each other suff siently
to know each other more Lovers
must have an opportunity - see each
other in their various moods and
during such an experience it is but to
+ be expected that many small misun-
derstandings will arise.
These 70 the sensitive lovers mind
will De magnified, and possibly
7 brooded over till even a GOODNESS
i only affected, perhaps. but none the
less vexatious to both springs up
between the dOting pair.
Then there often arise numerous
/ causes, real or imaginary, generally
/ the latter. for one suspecting the
4 professions Of the other. Some
may feel panied even in conceiying
\ these professions too good to be true;
7 but ii IS rarely that lovers feel them
selves loved exactly az they feel theg
f deserve. however modest they may
4 seem.
A lover may compare his inamo,
rata's eyes to diamonds. her lips Ia
rttbies and her teeth 20 pearls. all
4 of rarely that would astonish q
jeweler: but he cannot help thinking
that the fates designed him alone "a
gain the prize. Yet. somehow, he
can hardly dare believe that she
loves him with half the intensity
o. affection he layishes upon her.
How many signs. sleepless night.
and uncaten dinners such tantaIiZinp
suspicious have been responsible for
will never be known. Love they each
other with all the devotion possible.
counting couples especially those in
habiting the high sentimental lati.
tudesare pcrpetually asking them.
selves such questions as:
docs the other really love me;
And only me? And love me always
the same? And did he. or She. never
before love anyone half 50 much as
me?"
This is the fly in the ointment, the
thorn on the rose.
An inconsiderate expression. an in.
cautious word, trivial omission in d
love letter. or failure TO receive the
expected comforting note with par.
ticular postman's knock may prove q
thorn in the heart for days.
With many who are wooing. and
perhaps this applies to the young
ladies in particular, the mcrest trin,
will engendcr feeling OF being
coldly neglected; that the world is M
empty blank, and that there Is moth
ing left but to write sentinenta