Fort Worth gazette. [volume] (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-1898, 1893-01-01

10 would be at once an ali-snticient clue
Time makes changes too; IN tue passing
seasons men grow boards and women
buy bOnnets
i cannot see any possible objection 70
saying when /0u meet whilom acQuaiu.
lance, My name Is Smith" or j ain
Mrs Jones whom YOU met at Newport.
That would be- enough 90 save the whole
meeting and conversation from destruc'
ton. Yet some menand especially some
womendo seem to have an objection
10 tins course though on what grounds
rs l have said, 1t Is impossible "a con-
cciYe.
Moreover. the name should be spoken
Immediately, before that fatal moment
which discloses to you that You are for
gotten. IL Is really yOur business TO
prevent that cOntretemps. You can save
the situation Almost no one In these
busy days and this crowded world can
remember Us at an instant's notice. and
while he Is searching his pcrplexed MEM
DRY, the passing opportunity for oil the
pleasant questions aud answers that
might have been has gone by.
But that highway robber Of society
who calls upon you to stand and deliver
his name deserves no mercy from you.
Don't You know meT she cries: and
You are tempted 10 answer, NO, and
never want to- Such rct0rt would be
only just retiibution for such challenge.
For Il Is most embarrassing even 70
appear to have forgotten a friend. And
Il Is sore hurt to find yourself forgot
ten Neither the one person nor the
other should be put in such o position
II Is highly probable time and trouble
have changed MS 80 that nu old friend
upes not recognize US. but he does not
wish TO tell MS SO; what right have we
70 oblige him to be even tacity unkind
j was once met with this greeting in
the midst Of crowded room: Don't
tell me yon don't know me2 ] have
inst been TO see Mary Smith and she
DIDN'T know. nue., and shall be perfectly
disgustcd If you don't citherw That
visitor was making her appearance for
the first time In n dozen years. during
when she had grown from girlhood to
WgmHn's estate.
Set it down that II certainly Is obliga-
tory upon every individual recalling
himself 10 au acquaintance nfter
lapse Of time or change Of place, to
speak Of his own name. And this Is
binding even when the acquaintance
may be called a friendship. unless IL
has been a matter of daily intercourse
or "a very close intimacy. II Is especi-
ally good form upon meeting with dis
unguithcd men or women 1.-THE moon
looks on many brooks" and while IL IS
highly proper and pleasant to remind a
great many that we have met him be-
fore, the occasion particularly requires
that q name should be given. In all
probability he b. glad to remember us
ana renew or increase an acquaintance
but he cannot stop TO think 10 whom
this face belongs
The like custom Is quite necessary
with elder people. Many father or
mother remembers well enough that you
once visited under their rOof-but your
tnce h not quite distinct TO dim eyes. Il
would doubtless give them much pleasure
To learn that you remember that visit
also II you, the younger person, would
seek the opportunity 10 say so, and be-
gin by telling who you are
The ability 10 remember names N
counted a great gift, and with reason.
II Is said Of General Grant that he
never forgot name and many idols of
society were born with n ike gracious
talent. All the world recognizes the So
cial charm Il gives, and coyets the
power
II IN Introducing strangers their mu-
tual friend would kive them some COM
mon starting point the battle Of social
case would be huff won. There would
be no lncs of topics, no despair OF ind-
ing anything 10 talk OF but the wealth
or, no disastrous failure 20 enjoy all
that was expected In each others SO
cicty. And besides, for instance, such
an announcement as Mrs. Jones, the
wife OF the Admiral, prevents your
telling that good lady that you think the
navy should he abolished, while it also
enables you to compliment the appear
nnce Of the White squadron &C Bar Har-
Dor
"Allow me to present Miss Robinson
of Chicago Is q simple phrase and
easily spoken but II may furnish forth
conversation for a whole evening.
In like manner the name of Captain
Brown Of the -th cavalry suggests to
you the inquiry whether he knows your
cousin, Lieutenant Smith.
This Is the use OF phrases which seem
10 SAVIOR Of the shop, and the especial
value OF titles In introduciCl.
MIR. Ihayer, the artist gives YOU
nc once The long coveted chance 10 ask
the meaning OF his Madonna, and deli
cate suggestion of the fact dat plain
Mr.. Davis Is Mr.. Richard Harding
Davis opens new world
lf you are informed ut the moment
Of introduction that YOU must have met
MIR Whitney when hc was secretary,
or that this IL Professor Briggs, the
Items Will be hints quite sufficient 10
prevent your villilying the Democratic
party To the one, or ayoWing on especial
utNoNion Tor orthodoxy TO the other.
how often we have al bewailcd our
ignorance that we were meeting Inc
neghbor Of u relative OF our own. and
We have all of us, 90 some time or
other, lost the one chance TO asl, an
Important question, or 70 inquire of the
well-heipg of long separated friend
for want Of some slight aud easy as,
slstance ON the part OF her who gave
the introduction, n the way of infor-
mhQon az to residence or perlonulity.
IL h possible with every introducticn
we give TO find some common meeting.
point for The two people TO flemish a
common ground for conversation. Ia.
caiiW viii always sWhce: oeeupation
Is another bridge IN four cases o,,t
OF i've we who introduce them know
OF an interest common To the two whom
we hope 20 nuke friends-ph ilnpthrop.
ic' artistic, professional, political or
ton "A gate beautiful"
ANNA l.. DAWES.