St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1893-11-20

| Its claims are paramount in ali plans
and activities. Mothers and daughters
| often double the burdens of home be-
ca Use they have mo time" and mo
! place" Good resolutions fit through
the mind. There are spasms of deter
mination which struggle toward order,
but they are like Jacobs son Reuben.
unstable as wafer"
| The third characteristic we COM
| mended was decision of character. It
is surprising how circumstances bow to
| VIII Which refuses to bow to them.
| The space clears about the one of de-
| cislve purpose. You need this endure
ment. You need 10 make 1t an endure
ment from on high. You need it that
| you may stand by the sacred duties of
| heart and home.
If you cannot say yes" mo-" each
| in its right place. and according 10 the
right. then you DO not belong to your
self.
You are the mere toy of influence and
circumstances. Recall the picture we
gave you of the girls among the hills of
Switzerland, and pass Oh to 1.-The Holy
Heights"
L come now to the first topic of the
evening, which Is Self Control" and
my text is Proverbs xvi, -.
He that Is slow to anger is better
spirit than he that taketh city,"
We are gifted with emotions. They
are like the sentinelS of a grand army.
Feelings give us the alarm: they wake
US to action; they spur us on. But
there Is DO more virtue in a feeling or
Impulse than i'll throb of the body's
heart.
The sensibilities cry out: DO some
thing! ActH' The mind and soul
decide. The decision anu not the i'm
pulse OF feeling has moral character.
As regards self-control, there are two
classes of people. The one Gin many
communities the larger one) floats upon
the tide of emotion, and, like the tide,
emotions are sometimes in" and some
times out;
The other lives upon principle and ac-
ceptS of feeling only when it gives a
push toward what Is right. Those of
the former class are like the ship which
plOws the sea, distancing everything in
speed. bat presently becalmed. Then
come mead winds, then "veering and
lacking" The sails are out, sometimes
Tapping and sometimes full, but the
ship is not going anywhere.
The latter are like the steamship
engine and sail work together when the
wind is ''abaft." feeling and principle
both becoming propelling powers. But
that is not all, for on into the very ''eye
OF the storm" they go, and in the calm
they keep the steady beat of progress.
This is an age of emotion! This is
getting to be nation of emotiOnalS.
Our literature shows it. Some of our
illustrated weeklies show it. The pre-
valllng bent of our theaterS is that way.
Our streets and stores and homes and
churches show it.
1t is not in the drawing room you
find out whether woman is controlled
by passion or principle. Smiles and
gentiity toward society, but not always
50 as she turns from the closed front
door to the inmates of her home. Why ?
"Oh, L get provoked at the selfiShnesS
and stupidity of people, and speak out
just what l feel. 1t is my way, and |
must do it," Your way! indeed Who
ever gave to any one the right to break
madly into the home circle and trample
down its garden. What right have any
OF US. man, woman or child, TO pierce
hearts with shafts of anger?
Upon what meat does this our (royal
lady or gentleman Caesar feed 10 have
grown so great? 1t is for woman not to
tear, but to weave the fair web of life.
Begin TO weave it while under the
shadow of the home tree. Have you a
father? Do you realize how much his
life rests in you? Through the long
years one of the visions which has
cheered him on is your growth into
faithful womanhoOd. That anxious look
which sometimes clouds his brow may
not mean WEAKNESS or business trou-
bleS.
And the mother! Are you often pro-
voked at her restraint? And do you give
hot words auG become headstrong? Do
you become glum and pouty, or go
StOrming about the house? Think be-
fore you act.
When you were little you were un-
consciously the boldeSt OF pilots. guiding
your mothers fond thought down
through the coming years. The old ark
In which Noah was carried never made
such voyages as your cradle made.
There USED TO be no hand like hers
when she clasped your little hand and
led you. There used to be no cushion
covered with velvet so soft as her lap
used to be; no rose so lovely as her
smile; no path SO fragrant and fiowery
as where her feet had trod.
This Self-reStraint is needed, too. in
care for your health. This body is the
righttul temple of the Holy Ghost"
Keep faithful watch and ward over it,
Impulse says do this; do that" Dis
cretIon, fortified by experience, SAYS:
No. There is danger" Obey the wise
counselor. Uncounted numbers of fair
girls fade and die, the victims of i'm
pulse, and we say lit was a strange
providence" No, not that. 1t was hui
man improvidence. Wearied for lack of
sleep.
But" says some one, you know
nothing OF my peculiar circumstances
and TEN permanent" All circumstances
and all temperamentS are peculiar.
OF this be sure, that ungoverned i'm
pulse always snarls the skein of life and
destiny.
a petulant, wiIlful nature finds the
commandments and the providences OF
God and the perplexitieS of life like the
cords with which the eXecutioner binds
the culprit. But to the patient, ODE
dent spirit the binding is like bandages
with which the tender, Skillful surgeon
dresses the hurt of the wounded man.
We pass now to the SUBJECT of ex-
travagance, and our text is Matthew V,
81:
But let your communication be yea,
yea: nay, nay; for whatsoever is more
than these, cOmeth of evil" So spake
the Master. He does not mean that we
shall always use these exact words in
conversation, repeating the one or the
other twice, no less, no more. He
did not in His conversations. Nor does
he uedu we shall llOG uSo NOCuS Oh
pleasantly and wit. Society derives
many of its charms and wholesome re-
liefs from them. There is broad line
between pleasantly and Stiffness, be-
tween wit and coarse jest" They
are no more alike than diamonds are
like glass beads.
Nor again does he mean that we shall
not use poetry and beautiful language
There are plain, solid thoughts and
facts. which appropriately demand
plain, solid Saxon; but when one goes
from the tlatiron or sewing machine to
the mountain peak or to the banks of
swift. clear brook, language ought to
climb.
Riches, talents, social position, bodily
grace, vigor of brain; all these man may
have, yet by profanity in your presence
or out of your presence, he degrades
himself SO as to be unworthy of your
confidence.
Cutting words. keen jests may rouse