The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1893-03-14

household relationship there is a sense
of two wills which must mutually ac-
commodate each other and although
there may not be any strain. all sense
of restraint is never entirely lost, and
the home-feeling is not completely
realized. 1t is condition where com
promises between what we wish and
what we feel will be acceptable to
Others who must of necessity rule. There
is none of that feeling OF freedom. of
absolute independence, which Is the
chief characteristic of real home.
The quarters of the working classes
in our cities and towns are little more
than places in which to shelter and
sleep; they hardly afford space for
sentiment.
The tendency to live in public grows
with the spread of social gatherings
and amusement- sought in common.
Nor i ii state of things that needs
10 he deplorcd - long a. the old love
Of home and recognition of it, attrac-
tiuns arc preserved; hut that can
hardly be If men and women give
themselves up too freely to the delight
of being amused and neglect the duty
of pleasing. And that brings us to
the practical question-what is it that
makes home lovable:
Between the members of every
homelike household, We find that
there is common bond Of love or of
personal consideration. AMI that it
shows itself in sociality. freedom and
restfulness. If these qualities are not
present. the inmates of the house are
likely TO go elsewhere 10 seek them.
There should be company, when ii is
wanted, i'm every home, and Vel indie
pendence to pursue any liking, the
effect being that each member of the
home circle has sense of resttulness
and safe anchorage. That IL the one
best place in all the world. Too much
stress cannot be laid upon the impor
lance of creating and cultivating this
home feeling in the mind of every
boy and girl.
1t Is lamentable fact that the saloon
is often more truly a mans home than
the house he lives in. There he can
usually find acquaintance who will
tax more or less To his taste, and he
feels himself free to do pretty nearly
what he likes. 1t lie go-as-you-please
entertainment. But where the saloon
falls short of the home is in giving
sence of reStfulness. Ii takes years in
the chimney corner to do that. Still.
many a man, were he to try to realize
what lovers of home mean when they
picture its enjoyment> and the delight
full abandonment to content which is
its best gift, would draw his impres-
sions from saloon experience. For
there is very dark side to the pic
ture of home. Besides the tens of
who literally have no home
except the streets, there are millions
who cannot form a conception of what
tho word means to those who live In
ease-the sad millions who do not en-
pect life to bring them happiness. but
who are content with warding off part
of the pain that so easily beset them. !
And then beyond them are the N.Y.
riads to whom home is repulsive !
place, because incompatibility, hard
ness, suspicion, jealousy, cruelty, hate |
IA fiendish broadway be found in |
possession there. How fragile is
happiness.
One member in household may
drive it away from all-nay. one vice
or weakness sometimes suffices to |
langle all sweet sounds into discords. |
The sOrrows that are brought by the
great fatalities, poverty, pain, dis
grace and death are few, though deep, |
with the countless torments |
with which men and women atfiict !
each other, and the greater number
Of the manufactured mi>eries are made
in households that do not know what