The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1893-03-24
ART Of PRESERVATION
Where, When, and How To
Introduce Persons.
IN CASES OF LETTERS
Care Should Be Taken Not to
ln1ict Ones Friends on
Strangerss

The various rules of that social for
mality, the introduction, are many
For a young lady to be properly in
troduced requires both knowledge
and tact. In this ease there are three
modes of introduction:-The present.
ing of a young gentleman to "a young
lady; a young lady introduced to a
person older than herself, the intro
duction of one lady to another.
A young gentleman wishing IN in
production to a young lady ought al
ways to solicit it either from her
parents or from some married lady
who will vouch for his standing and
character. After permission is grant
ed, to the satisfaction of all parties,
the presentation should be made after
the usual prescribed form
ALLOW me TO introduce Mr.. Robin
son, Miss Smith; | am delighted to
present him to you" Then the friend
retires and allows conversation be
tween the two without interruption.
In all cases OF introduction the gen.
tleman should, after being introduced,
wait for the lady to bow. 1t is her
prerogative to establish the acquaint-
Ice
On the young lady's part, when a
young gentleman is presented to her
she should not rise; she only inclines
her head, but she takes care that her
eyes are turned toward the person in
troduced. Her hands in restful repose,
a smile may be given in a gracious
manner. and she may commence con-
versation.
OTHER CASES.
A young lady, when presented TO
an elderly person or persons who are
evidently older than herself, should
rise. Position and standing of both
parties in a measure determine the
particulars of behavior. But GER
tainly the elderly person should de-
mand this respect of the younger
when introduced.
In presenting one lady to another
the permission should be secured.
A single oma should be pre-
sented to a married lady-not the re-
verse. This same law of manners
should and does prevail in the intro
ducing of gentlemen to gentlemen.
When a cordialitysis to be expressed
the hand should be offered, although
hand shaking is not SO general as
formerly. 'sThe c~eremonious intro
duction forbids it,
In the cases where young people
are introduced to persons older than
themselves, the offering of the hand
invariably should come from the elder,
never the younger, and should be
carefully received in the same spirit
as it is given.
When a stranger is presented to
any lady acting in the capacity of
hostess she should extend her hand.
This civility of the home places the
newcomer at ease and secures him
social welcome.
WHEN TO BOW.
~SszTaifa bow in polite circles is consid-
cred Ill that is necessary. A gentle
man, when given an introduction to a
lady, bows. Two ladies. being intro
duced, bow. When friends meet,
they bow or nod. A gentleman, when
eseorting ladies, raises his hat, which
means also a bow from the ladies
should they recognize a friend. This
last rule is the same in all social
circles in America
But whenever the introduction par
takes OF a marked friendly character,
then the hand-shake becomes a GO
between.
In all cases, the names in an intro
duction should be pronounced in a
clear, distinct manner. An indis-
tinctness or carelessness in this matter
is bad form.
Generally speaking, introductions
should never be given on the street,
in a store or any public place OF
amusement. That is not only in bad
taste, but a casual introduction does
not insure a foundation for future
acquaintance. Indeed, young ladies
when presented even at a ball, tea or
reception to a person who does not
prove agreeable, can ignore outside
their hostess house the fact Of the
introduction.
A question has arisen in many
circles whether at a reception, tea, or
n informal entertainment, the
guests of the hostess should consider
the introduction necessary.
Many persons object to what is
called a 'roof Introduction, and do
not believe in an equality SO social.
Therefore, for the most part. the