Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1892-04-19
THEY DO NOT MARRY.
WHY YOUNG PEOPLE FIND SINGLE
BLE5sEDNess so COMFORTABLE.

blE5SEDNtSS 50 CONF ORIAbLE.
~ Thsy 60, Married They Would Have
10 Make Great Many Sacrifices, or No
They Tbiak. and as n Result They
Keep Away from tho Knot Of uymcn.
1t is an oft repeated romark that Now
York Ia the finest place In the republic
20 live inf you arc rich. But IL IN
worse than tho meanest suburb. tho
drcaricst OF western "boom towns" tho
dulleat country villago--if you aro poor.
This is the criticism Of the person who
does not contemplate life M possibil.
ity--or an agreeable possibility without
society. In tho narrow Gonso Of tho word;
without the pleasures that come from
money, without tho social standing TINT
n good bank account gives, without be-
ing ablo "to keep up with the process
sion" Of those who are vol dressed, well
fed, well situated mud well of.
Singularly enough. those who demand
these things-who will not nccopt mar.
riod life without thcm-aro generally
not we'll supplied with this worldsgoods.
People who have been rich all their lives
do not realize what II means 70 90 with.
out their luxuries. But people who have
been poor know just tho Indebtedness
OF having TO wear patched boots and go
without lunch; Of having TO walk long
distances, because car faro mounts ups"
of having to refuse nice invitations. be-
cause thoy have no clothes or no means
OF returning preferred ciyilihcs. 10
these, poverty Is u bittcr thing, and they
loatho II. Marriage, unless It means
escape from carping cares OF this kind,
they csehew - u hopeless evil. Better
endure those trials that we have than
hy TO others that wo know not Of, they
my.
80 thinks tho everyday, gontlomnuly,
good looking, entirely pcrsonable young
man OF thirty, who draws an income OF
from two TO four thousand n year. and
IL asked out all over because no dances
admirably and is good TO look at, aud
mover doos anything gauchc. SO, also,
thinks thoprctty, well bred, wen dressed,
moderately bright girl ot twenty-five,
whose father spends six thousand a year
md five children. Both Of those know
Just tho way thoy want their lives TO 10
Ever since childhood they hayo associ.
ated with companions who hayo had
moro money than they have. and they
know how nico Il Is TO 10 we'll of. TO
bo rich or 90 remain az wo arc, that Ia
their motto. "Whon We mako the great
move" they both think, two mako II 10
bottor ourselves materially, or wo don't
make II at ALL"
They do not want 10 DO millionaires,
but they do not want to borcally pinchel
anywhere. Their house must DO largo
enough and DO comfortable. II must DO
well lifted up-no "sheot by night and
tablecloth by day for them. There
must be servants enough TO run II. This
girl--who has always been comfortably
placed, but never luxuriously-has no
intention Of binding herself down TO do
inestic cares, Of busting hcr own draw
ing room and turning up hens in her
own table linen. No; all that must be
dono for her. She has mado her own
dresses and trimmed her own hats all
her girlhood, and she wants, when chs
inarries, TO change all that. Better 70
80 on doing IL in your own home, where
u Is all You have to worry over, than TO
do 1t In Your husbands, whore you
hAvo 10 keep tho house aud take care Of
children rs we'll
Thus the young lady reasons and ro-
Jects hor suitors with peculiar and good
humored indifference. She has made
up her mind that she will not marry
man who has cent undor five thousand
year, and Is not above telling this to
the soupirants, who take the hint and
strive to realize tho ideal, Tho young
lady is quito frank. She Ia not IN the
least ashamed OF her worldlincss or de-
sirou8 OF hiding It under u veil OF at
tractiyo coyuess. She Is not morcenary.
II is not riches that sho domands-com-
fort, that IA all. II she is comfortable
sho will continue % DO very nice. at.
trlctivo porson, but II she has 10 scrmp
and struggle and fight over ton cont
pieces, and turn her old clothes, and
have her shoes patched, she will not be
responsible for her temper, She Is u
fin do steele TO her finger sensible
where sho might be romantic, practical
whore she once would have been impas-
tionou-a person who is bound to nuke
asueeess Of her life aud keep it on tho
lines that sho regards as tho best.
The young man of her kind holds pre-
eisely the Hamo views. Life with boz
loved object sounds very charming, hut
1t ia not TO be INDUCED in unless the in.
comes of himself aud tho beloved object
loot mp to from five to six thousand per
nnnum' Tho beloved object on three
Thousand year is too expensive lux.
NY. lie cannot afford il. What might