The Black Hills union. [volume] (Rapid City, Pennington County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1889-1904, 1892-02-19
DUTIES OF MOTHERS Is cHlLpRrN,
Every Parent Should Regard the Rear
Ing Of Daughters as = Trnst.

s''s eet0ne Sn0uid Regard the Rear
Ing Of Daughtors as q Trust.
q great deal has been said and written
| Of the obligations OF children to their par
ents but It il q rare thing to hear any-
thing OF the parents obligation to tleir
children. Yet much weightier obliga
tion re'ts on theparents than on the cLil.
drer in heir relations to one another.
While aehild should never forget that hts
mother i; his God given mentor, the moth
er shouht remember that her children aro
merely given in ner charge by heaven Is
pc trained for homes of their own, 10 do
their work in the world rs ste has slon4
hct* Parents. Rre too prone TO regard their
children as mere adjuncfs of their own.
without right Of independent Thought ar
action. or to regard them as mere pIay.
things and allow them to lead butterfsy
existence in search Of pleasure.
Only 20 far as a mother is true to her
trust and protects her children from foes
within and from foes without, will she ha
worthy o. their honor and respect. She
must make her children fellow workers
with her not slaves 70 obey her commnrd.,
There .,rc parents who are mere taskmas-
tiers. who never rise to the dignity of father
or mother, and who yet consider their chill
dren nngrateful because they seem eager
to leave the home life of dull drudcery fer
ci'ti,ces OF pleasure and beauty in ths
world outside. Children owe no Rratitude
70 parents who have made them mera
drudges and have not been guides to then,
in their life's work.
4 There is Al other class of mothers WIN
look upon their children as merely orna,
mental bricoa- bra.-who dress them beau
tifully 'nd feed them well, but bring them
up with little ambition beyond a desire ia
have good time. Such children grow nj,
with little thought Of the family cares at
home. The daughter who has been taught
to consider herself as merely an orna-
mental piece never thinks of sharing her
mothers cares. The mother has never
made her a aconfidante; has failed to remem-
Der that she may need in future years the
exact training which such Il confidence
would impart to her. She cannot bring
herself to look upon her child as one who
will one day have responsibilities of her
own to meet, and who must be trained TO
meet them. Every indulgence will prove
but another loadstone to drag the girl
down when she will need every power to
lift her into true womanhood.
None suffer SO bitterly in after life az
those who are pampered with every in
diligence in girlhood. They have no train
ing to meet the trials and cares that must
fall to the lot Of every one There is some
thing shocking to a thinking person in tbs
idei OF young girls rushing thoughtlessl,
away for good time, while the mother
has all the responsibility of the household
upon her. The housemaid may be in a
state of open rebellion and the cook mar
have just given warning; yet the daughter
tails to consider for a moment that an.7
extra obligation rests on her. She has
never been trained to think that she owes
priv nhlis,..t;@. I,..t -,i>>
possibly the care of her own room.
Even in homes where the mother has but
one servant, the daughter is frequently left
to 20 to school and to attend to her little
round of social duties among her intimates,
but she has no legitimate part in the work
of the household She is utterly unpre-
pared to assume the reins of household
in case her mother is taken
ill She may he girl in her teens, old
enough to take her mothers place and fill
it with dignity.
IL is curious in these days to read of
Theodosia Burr sitting at the head of her
fathers table and receiving his distin-
guished guests at the age of fifteen.
Though mothers may wisely object to their
young daughters being thrust into society
ut so early an age, still a daughter should
be so trained that she is able even at an
earlier age to fill her mothers place with
wisdom if she be called on to do SO. She
must be trained from her childhood to be
a wise and gentle helpmeet, not selfish
pleasure seeker.-New York Tribune.