The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1892-10-05


a-S man." said a most es-
Unable lady to me recently. my SYM
pathies always rest with her."
Not long ago worthy woman ex-
pressed similar sentiment to a repre-
sentative of the press.
~ always stand by my own SEX" she
said
This is all very noble in way, no
doubt, but none of US ought to stand by
the woman who feeds her husband on
ground glass or murders him in his sleep,
it seems to me.
The unmarried girl who first brings
scandal upon herself is the one who in
yariably needs our sympathy rather
than the man in the case. Whatever
her holiness or folly, his superior knowl-
edge or human nature and the world
should constitute him her protector.
The father, brother or male friend who
shoots the misleader Of single woman
and lets her go free to reform her ways
shows a commendable discrimination.
But the married society woman who
forgets herself is quite another being.
In this age of womans progress man
Is the weaker sex when tempted by the
enlightened Eve.
The married society belle knows e2l-
actly what she is about when she tempts
a,1 leases his emotions. She knows
where safe and respectful admiration
ceases and the desire for possession be-
gins, Re the love of conquest and ex-
citement urges her on to play with fire
until she is burned, it does not seem to
r.le that she merits our profound SYM
pathy. 1t is better bestowed upon the
husband whose name is dragged in the
mire and upon the defenseless children,
who were forgotten in their mothers
love of conquest.
have a theory that really strong
man is never cursed by faithless wife.
A young husband who killed his wife's
lover wired home to her parents, ''Bessie
is vindicated." The tragedy becomes
farce when the man whom vain, sell
fish wife has forced to become muir
derer talks about ''vindicating her"
No wife is obliged to receive COM
promising attentions. 1t is difficult to
understand why she is not quite as cul-
pable as the lover in the case when she
encourages these attentions until they
bring disaster.
But it is the cause which leads to this
sort of crime which needs attacking
rather than the people who become its
victims.
The beautiful daughter of wealth
who is allowed to do everything she
wants to do, to have everything her
fancy Graves, to never know wish I'M
gratiied, and whose parents and friends
pride themselves on the fact that she is
care free and possessed of every blessing
life can offer this sort of girl is just
the one who as a wife will think herself
entitled to the admiration she Graves,
no matter what people say about it.
Never having been taught the beauty of
self denial in any way, how can her
parents expect her to deny herself this
most fascinating amusement? Never
having taught her to use will power or
self control, how can they expect her to
develop it after marriage? Having been
allowed constant change of pleasures
all her life, how can they expect her to
be satisfied without a variety of lovers
and admirers?
Quite different is the case of the ro-
mantle, admired girl, who finds herself
transformed into the neglected wife OF
an indifferent husband. He is engrossed
in business and club life, and the brief
time he passes at home is spent in sleeI
DC fa'-It finding.
els considered a s'good fellow" among
Il. IN, but he is niggardly in money mat
rers with his wife, and entirely omit;
TIC small attentions and courtesies 81
Gclr to a refined woman.
After years of this heart famine g
tlcuSatful, sympathetic friend come:
i-eo iar life. His delicate compliments
sound iika the lost chord to her woman
hea.t She mad thought there was NJ
rse IA t,yng to look pretty since nc on.
-toticed her appearance any more. Their,
was IA sise in keeping up her must,
Sire 10 one cared to hear her play. Blu
sae :C2rs n the mirror with flush o
q. d.,rq now because her husband
lGG0G he's said her eyes are just tn
cc;1r of English violets, and she turn
81 her music with delight because h
SAID l.er voice soothed and rested him.
& IS all SO easy to drift down stream
after that with no thought of evil unit
caughS by the fatal maelstrom of human
emotion
OH. tho pity of it all! Let us say
oar Ss1apathy which would be poorl
bestowed upon the selfish daughter @
T:-Sirb and fashion, who seeks nev
diversion in Irritation, and give it to tn
.ria;. md sorely tempted, lonely wife c
,he f&ithless or Indifferent husband VIII
ioTGos his marriage vows with the wan
ing q the honeymoon and left his wifi
&c tiDt diversion as she might Such q
she need the pity of men, women an
.ulgsls. ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.
G'hs illustrated Tourists Guild
L. F.