Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1892-08-06

The Evil Effects Upon Children of Too Much
Induieence.

The Evil Effects a pom Chiidrcn ef Too Much
Indulgence.
wri,i.n for Tho rvcains star ~ olive Thofne Mnler
WHAT SHOULD We THINK OF PER-
w son who cultivated a thistle bv every
winning effort OF Watering and care. and when
II had grown 10 be = strong plant. rcpclling
every one With it, sharp thorns. showed sur
prise and disappointment that IL had not tho
characteristics u hlyg This is exactly an
sisgous TO the conduct 81 MANY mother in
this strange world Of ours. From thoughtless-
ness. ar mistaken tenderness. she cul.iys,es a
crop of weeds worse thaa thi-.les and l. aston
ishoa and grieyed when they come cut in their
true character nj last.
The inaulgent mother l. 80 fond of her child
that she canno; bear to refuse HIM ANYTHING,
and 50 short sighted that she cannot see that
she is doing him 4 serious injury
HER WORK HEsiNs N rHE CRADLE,
from her aniahlc desire that every one should
admire and love him ss she does. in taking
great notice Of hun before Others. in repeating
HE GINNING doings. and. Whoa older. hi. bright
sayings. constantly talking ahout his dress and
hls Ways; IN word. making Che child and all
hi- concerns The most conspicuous object in the
house.
Few persons realize how early the haby be-
gins to imbihe ;hi- sweet poison 81 praise and
importance. Before ne can talk he Is robbed 81
chili greatest charm. = sweet Innocence an
unconsciou,ness of himself that wins ali hearts,
From self-conscioUsEess 81 concsit Of his own
importance L. hat = step. and then Of cou.se
every whim must DE gmtihed. We have all
seen this vice Ina baby before he could walk
USraUrHFULNrss.
When this crop of rclf-w will is well under wav
and fourlshng. 80 that he becomes trouble
some. comes in natural sequence the next step,
untruthfulness The willfui Infant prefers IA.
presence and care az ms mother. from whose
hands h. gets everything he wants without the
snubbing which he gets from his nurSc. lie
screams when she gocs away: she ieceivos hun.
anu very toon deliberately uucvaricatcs. oh
no. ne says. Mamma wont 90 away." aud
the moment his attention l. attracted .hc slips
ont and does go. Tie does not notice or re-
member. you sayy Does he not. indeed!
Watch him and Soc
When he j. li;;le older aud begins 70 ask
questions GENES a freah So; ~ lessons in ut.-
truth from the parent. who can't bea- to ~
fuse any ming. even information Ths-e j. an
old proyyth. "a food can psk questions a
philo,op her cannot answer. aud how mach
easier II l. Tor bgigh; child. with eager mind
opening 10 all TIRE wonders around him and
craving To- know about everything. Il A. nil
ful 90 see the chilli;kc confidence IL the wis
dom of parents abused % see absolute nm
truth taken into the earnest mind and cher
ishsd a. truth.
How sadly often do We sce rarcn:s. when
asked questions thcv are unable Ia answer in
vent a ri1culou- story. which the r.istiSnec ing
child absorbs greediiy periectly Trustworthy
The infatuated parcnt. too. thinks IL j. funny
joke oftcn casts cunning laoa arorad
among the grown people present. a. If proud II
the work.
TERRIBLE LESSON LFAHNEn.
In doing thus two things Hre lost sigh; ~;
II
that he soon grows up. II is not long before
he knows he Is deceived. and forms his judg-
ment accordingly. Thus IL learned a terrible
lesson that hi- mother or his father tor father.
are guilty here does not tell the truth Now
there u no reason why n mother should pre-
tend TO know everything: soon enough the
child nees for himself that she does not. How
much better. then. to take dgnifed position
at first and retain the childs respect by admit
ting frankly that shs does not know though at
the same time she should honestly try to find
out.
Not TO speak of the result Of indulgence on
the health by means Of improper food and
habits. which particular form Of baby killing
any honest physician will admit j. far from un-
common: nor, somewhat later. of bad associates
which the mother cannot control: how does
this victim Of an induigent mother fare wheel,
he goes out into the world with no mistaken
mother as a buffer between him and life.
As child he is disliked and avoided by every
one. Az he grows he il the dread Of teachers
and he is snubbed by his employers when he
gets them. When be reaches manhood. having
mo true ideas If life and HE own insiguificant
place an II. filled With conceit and self-assurs
ance. he makes few friends and he has the al
most impossible task Of learning at great cost
| off he learn at all what would have come WITH
ease In childhood. IL il like sending n boy Qua
into the world full grown without knowing his
letters; he has TO educate himself
mother should have tender and loving but
firm control Of her child from his first breath
She should rs carefully shield him from self
consciousness. cunceit and willfune,s as she
does from scarlet fever and Whooping cough
She should. above all things. set him a daily en-
ample of justice and truthfulness in the sInallest
affairs. In most cases the mother herself il the
victim of bad training. and her duty L. first
with herself. Only by taking the matter SER
ously in hand and TRYING TO overcome hef
weakness can the conscientious mother hope 10
avoid passing on her own faults Co the neNt
generation. to produce fresh crop of noAious
weeds In her grandchildren.