Lawrence democrat. (Lawrenceburg, Tenn.) 1884-1925, 1892-03-18
HINTS TO YOUNG LADIES.
Things For Them to Consider in Thei
Relations to Men.

Relations to Men.
1t is also one of the mistakes which
women sometimes make, to ask any
favor of a gentleman which will incur
the least expense for him, No matter
how pressing are the circumstances,
she should never take the liberty unless
he is near relative. In the various
circles of American society, where it is
the custom for young men to escort
young ladies to theaters and other
places of entertainment, it is mistake
for young lady to ever voluntarily ex'
patiate her fondness for the theater or
the concert in his presence 1t might
be proper to say here, perhaps, that it
is mistake for young lady to attend
such places with young men, unac-
companied by a chaperon. But, though
much is said and written about the
chaperon nowadays, am willing to as
sert that in the whole of America there
are not more than one thousand young
ladies who consider the chaperon a
necessity, while at least half million
very excellent young ladies are being
escorted about by admiring SWANS
every evening in the year.
1t is also a mistake for young lady
to correct or scold her parents in the
presence of young men, imagining they
will admire her culture or courage, or
imagine they will not notice it. |
heard a wealthy and accomplished
young lady at one of our noted sea-
shore resorts severely criticised and
condemned by group of gentlemen
one day, because one of them had heard
her speak unkindly to her mother.
1t is a mistake for woman wife,
mother, sister or sweetheart), to make
plans for the disposal of all mans
spare hours and then expect him Ia
enjoy himself.
1t is mistake for a woman to try u
prove to men her great knowledge and
superior intellect. They enjoy an in
tellectual woman when they discover
her brightness themselves but they dc
not like to have her force her brains
and learning upon them.
But it is just as great mistake to as
sumo an air of insipidity, and expect {
man to think it charming. Men are
exacting in their demands. Too mucf
or too little brain in woman is equally
offensive to them.
1t is the mistake of lifetime to give
a man any liberty which you would no
want known, and to expect him to keel
the matter secret. The exceptions
man will sometimes hide the indiscre
ton of young girl'whom he believes
spoke or acted from ignorance; but tn,
average man, in the highest the sam,
as in the lowest walks of life, boasts o
his successes with foolish women, ant
the rendezvous, the letter, the embrace
or the souvenir which she has givel
him, thinking it will never be know
to others than themselves, is shortl,
the matter of gossip among dozel
people.
Women hide their secrets far bette
than men do. They fear the censue o
the world too much to share their error
or indiscretions with confidantes. Blu
men are almost invariably vain an,
proud of their conquests, and relat
their achievements with the fair sex t.
one or two admiring friends The
may not use names, but let the inci
dents once be told, it is an easy matte
to discover the personages if one is a
all curious to do so.
The only way to keep men from be
traying our indiscretions is not to com
nit them. | once made these remark
In the presence of several ladies, an
one of them replied, that she was gla
she had never been acquainted with tn
class of men / knew" At the sam
time that lady's name had been use
lightly in a club room not q week pre-
vious, and her indiscreet actions ha
been commented on by the class c
men" she did know.
1t is the worst mistake of all for
, woman to think she can make no mil
take. The moment that conviction Ell
tiers her head she is on the highway t
some grand blunder whereby she wi
wound, disgust or antagonize the ma
she most cares for. Eternal watchfu
ness, never-failing caution, perpetu;
tact and equal quantities of pride an
humility are necessary ingredients j
/ the behavior woman needs to us
, with men, This should be garnishe
with good sense, favored with coquetr
and served with good-nature. An
. even then we will be liable to max
some mistakes, since one man will con
, plain of too much coquetry in the fiji
, voring, and another will call it insipi,
> one will say we have too much pride
} render the dish palatable, and anotht
F.; will complain of an overdose of humi
| ity; and still another will think W
a served our conduct too cold, while
r comrade, will think the opposite.
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