Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1892-01-18
w. G. I. u. COLUMN.
GIRLS WHO WANT TO WORK.
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middle aged people, to be sure, who
firmly believe that this is a mischief
Gus and misplaced activity and that
it is going to work out all kinds OF
destruction if the race of women take
to other things than domestic and po-
i lite accomplishments. Be that as it
will; it doesn't pay to argue about
M what we shall never live to prove.
vi Here you are, hundreds of you, girls
NJ who are honestly averse to homework
N 1t also happens to be true that wom-
en-, like man, work for wages, and
that the wages a girl gets for house
work, even in her fathers house, are
not such as encourage you to adopt
homework as a profession. And SO
lit happens that you are thinking to-
day about wage earning business
IN outside your home more than you are
thinking about husband.
The first thing you've got to know
il what you can do best. To find that
out consult your taste. If you think
Il it would be beautiful to trim hats or
NJ make gowns say so and stick to it.
NNThen go to the best milliner or dress
N maker in your town and ask her to
let you come into her shop and learn.
She won't pay you at first, but your
father has fed you for several years
and can probably discharge that pa
ternal duty for few months longer.
N If you are bookish and the law or
medicine attracts you, go to the Of
flee of your fathers lawyer or physi-
clan and borrow his simplest book and
study it. In any case don't disdain
the modest beginning that lies near
est your hand; you are not ready for
wider fields yet. And when you've
settled upon a work don't play with
it. Learn to treat it just as seriously
as your big brother or your father
treats his.
And SO as your diligence and knowl-
edge grow together you will perhaps
come to a point where you must leave
your fathers roof in order to finish
your preparation for your work or to
widen your competence and SO in
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your small town for a city, or the
small city for a large one. Before this
can be considered for moment, one
or two things is imperative, either
you must have the certainty-not the
mere possibility-of something to
work at that will give you a modest
living oryou musthave money enough
i'm reserve to pay your way for year
ahead.
There is no compromising with this. |
Never leave your fathers home on
any other conditions. The number of |
Young women who leave their homes
each year and come to New York
without definite provision for work is
simply appalling, and out of this
spring the awful tragedies Of want
and Encouragement that drive wom-
en- to death or worse.
With this provision made, go into
your work with the whole of you.
Take care of your health, and for the
Erest give your mind and body to your
duties. You will get discouraged in
y
will only do you good. The man or
woman who doesn't get discouraged
bitten and often, seeing his ultimate
reach beyond his daily grasp, doesn't
see far enough ahead ever to succeed
So be sure that you will get discour-
courage yourself because Of that very
thing.
You will probably be thrown much
among men. Learn not to expect |
parlor etiquette in business places. |
You are not there to interpret the |
amenities of life to lot of busy men,
but to do your work competently and /
60 your way sensibly. They may be |
as kindly intentioned as your broth
ers, but they are too busy to assure
you of their distinguished considera-
ton. If they treat you brusquely, di-
rectly and frankly, they're playing
you the compliment of treating you
like a sensible woman
Above all don't always be looking
for things to hurt your feelings. They |
will come sometimes, and bruise you
i'm every fiber till you'll want to put |
your head down in your mothers lap
and cry like a little girl. But you
must learn to distinguish between |
wounded vanity. A woman cries nine
Zines out of wounded vanity and once
out of the wounded soul that calls for
|divinest soothing to heal. Let your
vanity smart all it will; it's good for
most of US.