Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1892-01-31

kn0Ss- Not ripple will disturb the
repose of his face when be speaks OF
some good domestic. virtuous girls Of
ME acquxlatsnee; bat when he says,
''by Josel she's full of go,' has calm
becomes exhlisration, his eye gless,
his voice thrills.
How They Bsoenas Farts.
have heard them say II scores OF
times, and il is always with the same
intense delight and sppreeiation.
heard ID said once OF glri on country
farm; the hired man fell i'll just in the
harvest season, and she TOOK his seat
on the great reaper and drove four
horses unit the over-npe wheat Was
cut and bound. | heard ii said OF
young girl who had been reared IN lux
ury aud idleness, and whose father
died suddenly and left the family with
nothing but debts: ia less than AK
months she had canvassed all the adj
joining towns aud had obtained a large
paying class IN music. heard il said
of the wife of famous politician,
whose energy and tact and brillsaney
won him half his success; and heard
II said OF q society girl, who was not
beautiful or rich. bat who became
belle because she Was the best
dancer, rider, swimmer aud talk
er IN her set. Now il is the
same element foft Of COM
bustive hidden quality of character
that actuated these women 10 do what
they did which causes many girls to
become fiirts. An excess OF physical
vitality. an oyer-suppiy of mental ac-
tlvity, all ambition 10 do or be which
has no proper outiet-.n other WORKS,
instructed ''go." Indeed, il is only
the occasional woman who is full OF
''go." whose life is so we'll directed and
whose nature 60 we'll balanced that she
keeps wholly out OF mischief. At the
zane time, whatever direction or es-
cape this element finds, il makes itself
felt above all mere negative goodness
or passive proprlety coupled with do
mestc virtues. Girls devoid of tins
element do not understand why they
are not as attractive to men as some
les beautiful aud less prudent friend
may be, and think the male sex very
unappreciatlve.
Like Drops of Gall.
They hear men severely criticise the
girl whose misdIrected "go" has led
ner into flirtatlous follles with his sex.
yet he is attracted III spite OF himself
by the quality which actuated her fol-
lies, and he ends 10y marrying her. 81
do not see that it pays to be we'll be-
baved and prudent SAID very beau
tifui and mcdtst grl TO me recently.
"Tne men treat YOU with respect. but
they pay ali their attention, and finally
marry the girls who firt with them"
IL che marries man she loves, every
indiscreet act and every familiar alton
tlon she has received from ether men
during hcr flirting days viii! be
like drops of gall iah her cup Of sweets.
Ii she does not Ioy o the man she ma rries,
surely she is not to be enviel, for she IL
very likely TO contpue her tl.r,ations
after marriage. Tie best advice j can
give TO the modest and good girls 10 10
cultivate ''go." Extremely discreet
and domestic girls, who never feel any
inclination to kick over the traces OF
conventionali;y, are worthy and excel
lent members OF sacisty, bat they sell
dom possess much "go." THIS qualify
needs 10 be born In a person. hike most
other qualities. If We would achieve
great results, yet it can be cultivated.
Try to he Lovable.
Shake yourself up, overcome your
self-consclousness, your Incidence, and
your fears OF public comment. Try To
be animated, try to be ambitious. tact
full, amusing, aud thoughtful OF others.
Don't get into conventional Tuts and
act like every Uther girl you know.
Dare to be yourself-for every one has
anindivid uality peculiarly his own. But
i'll your efforts to be attractive don't at
tempt to be filrtlsh when IT is not your
nature To be SD. because You see that
men make love to firts, even while
despislng them. Ii you do you will
surely bring ridicuie and disgrace upon
yourself, and WIN no mans regard. IL
Is not the flirting which draws the men
1T is the element have referred to,
which, when m.sdIrected, frequently
causes IA girl TO tlrt, that attracts them,
even in spite Of their preludices. A
man would prefer girl who possessed
ego" and did not become a flirt. Ii
you, devoid of this element, degener-
ate into flirt, YOU will hc like some
literary aspirants who emulate the
vices OF Balzac and Swnburne without
D 5ssessing any OF their genius.
AVOID flirting, my dear girls, but cul-
tivate ''go."
ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.