The Jersey City news., 1892-01-28
To Succeed in the Business
and Professional World
She Must be For K
getfu1 of Self. \
SHE TALKS TOO MUCH OF WOMEN
And Thus Wastes an Immense
Amount of Nervous Energy
Her Point of View.

woman IS unconSclouSneSS OF HerSell-
to stop thinking about herself and quit
Sucking the thumb of fntrospectton" as
delightfully."- shrewd man expresses it..
The young woman of today takes herself
entirely too seriously. Ii she Is college
bred woman she goes into society OF
other collegebred women for philan-
thropic or intellectual work. And being
there, she gets very much in earnest
about it and has serious sense of duty
toward everyb body and everything else.
IL she is a business woman, no matter
what her work may be she is altogether
likely to be looking upon herself as a new
species of the human race bound TO much
more rigorous duties in thought and
achievement than any human creatures
that have ever lived before. In short,
women are thinking too much aoout
themselves and liking too. much about
themselves. They get together constant
ly into clubs for the exchange OF views
and the acquisition of ideas, and IN eight
women's clubs out of ten, you Will lind
an anxious reference of all topics OF dis
cussion to themselves-not as individuals
of humanity, not as human beings, but
as women. f.su
The college women have much to say
in their conferences about the place ana
the purpose of the college bred woman,
as If learning had produced new species
of the race with more serious mission
in life than just being unconsciously and
frankly lovable, capable women. Their
learning will not have passed into
wisdom until they are able to forget it
until they are fortunate enough to be
college-born instead of only collegebred.
The business and professional women
- - kI<xr. .lrrao fhn
same way They, too, have too much TO
say In their gatherings and in their
friendly intercourse among themselves
about "Woman."
Now "Woman" is a very useful and
admirable creation. indispensable to man
as his cook and as inspiration. for after
dinner toasts. And woman" Is doing
very well just at present, and is forging
ahead admirably with few disabilities aud
hindrances except what she thinks up for
herself. But she talks too much about
herself And her sexegotisul is no more
lovely than the personal egotism which
afflicts the other half of humanity.
Women will never reach that state OF
glory designated by many of them as
emancipation" until they get where
they can do without it. Their first need
is emancipation from themselves.
NOT ALL THEIR FAULT.
1t by no means follows that women are
altogether to blame for this unhealthy
state of self-consciousness They are VIC
tins as we'll as accompIices. Everything
has conspired to bring 1T about. 1t Is
partly temperament, aud 1t is partly the
logical result of the tremendous leap into
activities of all kinds, which women have
made during the last century, resulting
in a kind of sophomore consciousness OF
their own achievements. Men have also
helped in bringing about this state OF
over consciousness in women, by an eXag-
ceration of the polite. sentimental and
com plimentary attitude toward them.
That, however, is growing less ana less
with each common wide interest. LII II
man is talking to woman about the
scientific feeding OF the race, or even
asking her opinion on the latest tennis
tournament, he isn't likely to keep con-
stantly reminding her, in speech and
look, that she is quite separate creation
from himself. and so little lower than
the angels that he is shocked to lind her
knowing that the race has either stom-
achs or legs.
No. women are not to be blamed in this
matter, but they are to be admonished
They are to be admonished thar they are
wasting great deal OF time-and time
gets more and more precious with every
year Of our Lord that passes over our
heads. 1t is safe to say that nothlhg
helps less than the time Que spends think
ing or talking about ones SELF There is
a certain amount OF qualification to be
rot out of it, but nothing else. Before
women as before men, today, the wide
fields of science aud of arc lie smiling. Ii
women want to enter therein, they must
gird up their lions and be about it in SIN
cerity of purpose and in self forgetful-
ness. No human being enters through
any other gate.
WASTE OF ENERGY.
They are to be admonlsned, second,
that they are wasting an immense
amount of nervous energy. Says Annie
Pagcon Call, in most suggestive paper
on the lie of girls in college. few rea-
lize the absolute nervous strain in self
consciousness" The tire of modern life
is not in living, SO much as in ourselves.
The real secret of the excitement that
wears us out is that we fear we shall lose
our place in the struggle. The young
W oman of today carries in her own un-
natural and excitable egotism, which she
dignifies by all kinds of imposing names.
the result of the miscnieyous mental ac-
tivity of her over-conscious mother and
grandfather.
The young woman of today is to be ad-
monished last and always that ii she
wishes to be of the highest service TO her
time and her sex, she must get inside the
circle of her sex. She must disavow femi-
ninity and avow humanity. She must
feel that it is good to be u woman, but that
it is not good to be nothing else. She
must seek no longer to segregate her sex
and compare it in actualities and possi-
biIities with the other sex. The woman's
'.point of view that she is so fond of eX-
plotting is valuable only when it adds
something to that of the man. That there
should be any radical difference between
the mans point of view is impossible
while they have the same faculties Of
brain and body. Women nave too much
TO say about their sex in general and nave
not wide enough views of the rest OF the
world.
"The eternal womanlyo rests secure in
the hearts of humanity. But the ever
lasting womanly" is capable of getting
herself laughed at, sometimes. Helen
WatterSon, IN Philadelphia Inquirer.
Etiquette OF Drinking In old Holland.
We give the rule about drinking healths
as it is among the Burgers, SO that no
mistakes may be made.
81. Offer your friends before going to
for the digestion and is pleasant way of
welcoming them.
"2. With the first glass the host must
friends must answer with glass and
wish the same 20 each other also.
''3 II the company consists OF only ten
or twelve people, one can drink their
health in turn, but it is useless to do it all
at once as all may not have such thirst ut
the same time. When you wish to drink,
ask for glass of wine of The man or maid
who is serving.
"a Ir tne comnany ia large and thera