The Helena independent., 1892-09-18
Aen Who Ought to Know Relate
Sons Experiences That Are
Interesting.
Howard Fielding and Els Mauds
Get On Without Very Much
Management.
Opis Read Thinks 1t should he Done
Quietly-RlM ARP Asks for Infor-
nation -WilltAns' Proverbs.

~ GENTLEMAN WHO DEEPL,
4 needed the information, and VII
/Gl also knew where to 10 for IT, ha
asked nae how TO manage wife
For whsthss Nauds and ! have done we'll o
i'll, shs responsibility has been wholly
mins Ny wife mas been absolutely aAds
my control.
Fsw other men can say this; for In srdsl
10 be able TO say il man must os . Rood
liar by nature. and enc who has never lst
hinsslf gst ont Of training. Bat in my
case il 10 the truth. 1t 10 always man'a
fault IL his wife doesn't suit him. He should
mould her character and disposition in ac-
eordance with his wishes. 1t IL wonderful
how great an influence We can have upon
those with whom We are intimately associ-
atsd in this vale of tears. / made this dis
covsry early in life.
There il nothing 40 much like matrimony
as ''ehumming'' with a fellow At college.
hs used to lose sll his money at poker in
stead Of buying furniture tor the room.
This practice would have endangered our
friendship, but I rose to the oecasion. ]
reformed him. In three months he was a
steady winner and We had = velvet carpet
ON the floor and pictures on the wall.
1t is selfshnsss. perhaps. which leads a
wise man to modify those with whom he
comes in contact in such q way that they
will be more aarsssbl to him, but although
that method may be called by so hard =
name. must recommend it earnestly.
Just how have done it is secret which
fs,p ho han rf
any bachelor who may be trembling on the
brink of matrimony.
MOST men fail to realize how important is
this matter of modifying. by we'll directed
effort, the nature of wife. Some men think
of wife only rs a person to whom ono can
transfer his property and keep it away from
his creditors; or as person from whom
one can transfer her property to himself,
and keep it away from the bargain coun-
tsrs. These views are SUPERFICIAL; the char
actor ia the thing.
In the first place I found Maude color
less. She lacked any we'll defined ohsrao-
ter. IN. B.-Friends are requested not to
order floral tributes on account of these
words. shall escape.) encouraged her
to Be more truly typical woman. l
wanted her to be stupid, and make ali
sorts of funny blunders, Just as any other
too clear in her mind. 1t 10 a great mis-
take. Never let your wife be too clear in
her mind. She might take day off and
mediate on her husband, and never have
any sort Of an opinion Of him aftorward.
Whom she 10 threatened with anything of
that sort buy her memorandum book and
let her keep track of the household ex-
penses. In three days shs will show YOU
mora funny places in the multiplication
table than there are In all the variety shows
Of season, and it will teach her not to
overestimats her own Importance. When
she tries to pay nine people $3 apiece out of
SIT, which you gave her on Saturday night,
she will realize how small human being is
in comparison with the great and svsrlast-
ing truths of mathematics.
But Naude ana I have never quarreled
about money matters. l have made her
comfortable and happy On 9 salary which
some might consider good, but which, in
oomparison with the workman's merit, is
the smallest that has been paid since Jacob
worked fourteen years for wife.
haude has never given me bis of trou-
BILE that did not provoke. l have heard
the author of "Southpaw, the Left handed
Detective" and other literary men with
whom I associate complain that their wives
were in tho way when they were engaged in
literary pursuits. have never found is So
Maude has always been great assistance
oA0 u O0I timo AOAuy kASu, "uO II b
led a life OF remarkable gloom, tsllR me
that the most painful thing in his long ca
reer of calamity has been the spectacle of
his wife reading from his re- jeoted manu-
script and trying to laugh in order 80 cheer
him up. But Naude never bothered me by
too deep and interest in my state of mind.
She has changed great deal in the last
three years. She has passed through many
unusual experiences. but has always con-
Quoted herself strictly in accoi dance with
my directions. If | remember rightly, sha
used to be a blonde. but | sltered her
sty le of beauty. in a fit of absent minded
ness and now she is a brunette. There is
no telling what she may be to- morrow, but
to me when am trying to read about prize
fights or in other ways to improve my mind.
She does not spend my money in pearl pow
der and tides. She does not drop pins and
needles on the bedroom carpet.
She Is merry most of the time, because |
make her so; but once in q while, when no
body sees her but me, she oomes in softly
when l am smoking, perhaps, and letting
my fanoies wonderland she lays her hand
upon my shoulder and looks up at me with
a sweet smiling face. 6he is most to my
liking at such times. But whatever che
may be, she will be mine. manage he:
for she is only a creature Of my
character in my stories. |
am not married.
Sometimes wish were; and then, again.
for her sake. Pm glad 1t isn't true
HOWARD FIELDING.
AKP'S 43 YEARS EXPERIENCE.
Bill Says They Don't Manage Them Down