Arizona weekly citizen., 1892-01-09

/ facts re-assert themselves. Then is the
time for two young people to meet
things alone. Three Is crowd.
/ stand for the old fashioned through
aud through love match. Not with
courtship long draw out, yet long
enough to escape, the spur of the mo-
ment. There is a golden mean between
an Interminable or an abbreviated love-
making.
Again no home is possible without
love. The simplest birds out in the
fields tell US that. But you see, as you
study them, that these simplest birds
have certain material things IN view.
Watch the swallows, in their love-
making and courting and home building
| They are IN love, yet they must have
mud, which is away over on the other side
OF world and sentiment and vocabulary
pure love. They must have straws and
stubOle for their building and the life
of their little households.
To a gIrl-the word wife ought to
stand for help meet-the good old gen.
Genesis word-and not for the word Of
the latest society novel help-eat.
To every girl-wife ought to mean
helper-but no man has any scriptural
or any other kind of authority, for turn
ing that word into drudge.
/ think the meanest man j ever met
and / am glad to say that it was an ac-
cidental meeting-was printer who be-
came newspaper man land married a
composition, because as he said-it was
cheaper to marry her than to pay her
wages.
Happiness would pile up a good deal
higher IN the world, If married folks
tried with all their might to be as ag-
reeable as in their courting days-if
each remembered that the other was
practically human beng not an angel;
if women we're as kind and as catching
as they tried to be to their lovers-if
men would stop and help the wife over
bad place in the path of life, as he
helped her over bad place in the road
when she was his sweetheart-instead
of driving ahead and calling back to her
Jump over and come along If both
parties remembered that they were mar
ried for worse as well as for betterl
$50 much of this courtship is game
Of cards-in which it is of the utmost i'm
portance to both, not to reveal their
hands. There is deception in finances,
in resources, income, IN the prospects.
Then the revelation comes; but 1T is too
late, and they look each other in the
face some day and see that it was cheat
cry.
Now of all things needed to make
true marriage, it seems to me that hon.
esty ard reality, positive out and out
facts, as they are sure to come to the
surface-a certain sweet and simple in
timacy, stand among the first.
1t is all we'll enough that young man
or a young woman shall make the best
possible appearance in these sweet and
delightful counting days-but mask is
not their best, Deception or illusion is
not the best. Our very best is the good
honest average. / hold steadily and
shall always frankly say that the good
mat hes are those in which both parties
have been honest and sincere.
Let me say that in this step, you two
people -can take all these matters
and decide then simdly on these ques-
tions If fitness, inner fitness as well as
outer, That ought to be settled first.
Put your human measurement to work
Are you two counterparts-not Of dark
or blonde, and-the underline to the over
line Of stature, but of thought, of mind
and heart, of sympathies, of dispositions,
of the kind of beginning you are to
make, of the point whether she will ad-
apt herself to his circumstances, be to
hers of your likes and dislikee, OF the
management Of the home, as to its du-.
ties and privileges, of your willingness
to make and take concessions, Of your
social affairs, your amusements, your
religious views. These are tho vital ques
tions, an / they ought to be settled be-
fore the license blank is filled out or the
pastor of the church is spoken to about
the we 1ding. There is no safety this
slde of such settlement.