St. Tammany farmer. [volume] (Covington, La.) 1874-current, 1892-04-09

HINTS TO YOUNG LADIES.
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Relations 20 Afsa.
Il b also one Of the mistakes which
women sometimes make, to ask any
favor Of . gentleman which will incur
the least expense for him. No matter
how pressing arc the circumstances
she should never take the liberty unless
he 10 . near relative In the various
circles Of American society. where Il II
the custom for young men TO escort
young ladies 20 theaters and other
places Of entertainment Il Il . mistake
for young lady TO ever voluntarily sx-
patiate her foudneas for the theater ar
the concert in his presence Il might
Be proper TO say here. perhaps. that Il
h mistake for young lady to attend
such places with young men. unae-
companied BY . chaperon. But though
much 10 said and written about the
chsperon nowadays I am willing IN g.
sert that in the whole Of America there
are not more than one thousand young
ladies who consider the chaperou .
necessity. while 1t least half . million
very excellent young ladies are being
escorted about BY admiring swains
every evening In the year
II is also . mistake for . young lady
to correct or scold her parents in the
presence Of young men. imagining they
will admire her culture or courage, or
imagine they will not notice It 1
heard . wealthy and accomplished
young lady 1t one of our noted sea-
shore resorts severely criticised and
condemned BY . group Of gentlemen
one day. because one Of them had heard
her speslx unl<indly to her mother.
II il . mistake for . woman (wife,
mother. sister or sweetheart). to make
plans for tho disposal Of al . mans
spare hours. and then expect him to
enjoy himself
Il ID . mistake for Q woman to try to
prove to men her great knowledge and
superior intellect They enjoy an in
tellectual woman when they discover
her brightness themselves but they do
not like to have her force her brains
and learning upon them.
Eut it Is Just ~ great . mistake TO as-
sumo IN air Of insipidity. and expect .
man 70 think Il charming. Men are
exacting in their demands Too much
or too little brain in woman Il equally
offensive to them.
I su ~ v~s~A>n,> - NR>As-> A.
. man any liberty which You would not
want known. and TO expect him to keep
the matter . secret The exceptional
man will sometimes hide the indiscre.
ton Of young girl whom he believes
spoke or acted from Ignorance; but tho
average man, in the highest the same
- In the lowest walks of life, boasts Of
his successes with foolish women, and
the rendezvous the letter. the embrace.
or the souvenir which she has given
him, thinking IL will never be known
to others than themselves, IL shortly
the matter Of gossip among . dozen
people
Women hide their secrets far better
than men do. They fear the censure of
the world too much to share their errors
or indiseretions with con6danteA But
men are almost invariably vain and
proud Of their conquests, and relate
their achievements with the fair sex to
one or two admiring friends They
may not use name2 but let the Incl.
dents once be told. it is an easy matter
to discover the personages II one Is 1t
Ill curious to do so
Tho only way to keep men from BE-
trayiug our indiscretions Is not to COM
NIT them. I once made these remarks
Ia the presence Of several ladies, and
one of them replied. that she was glad
she had never been acquainted with the
class of men I knew" At the same
time that lady's name had been used
lightly In . club room not . week pre-
vious, and her indiscreet actions had
been commented on BY ''the class Of
men" she did know.
It 10 the worst mistake Of all for .
woman to think she can make no mis-
AXE. The moment that conviction en-
sers her head she il on the highway 70
'ome grand blunder whereby she will
wound. disgust or antagonize the man
he most cares for. Eternal watchful-
,esA never-failing caution. perpetual
act and equal quantities Of pride and
are necessary ingredients in
he behavior . woman needs to use
with men. This should Be gsrnished
With good sense. favored with coquetry
md served with good-nature. And |
wen then We will be liable to make |
'ome mistakes, since one man will COM
lain Of too much coquetry in the IA
'oring. and another will call IL insipid;
me will say we have too much pride to |
ender the dish palatable, and another |
will complain OF m overdose of humil-
~; and still another will think We
erved our conduct too cold while his |
will think the opposite