The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1892-02-15
WHYDOMEN LIKEFLIRTS?
THEY CRITICIsB, BUT WE'D THEM
JUST The SANE.

RACES OF ATlT45 w no " III z Z.
From The Chicago Tribune
Select your own immediate circle Of
xonng lady friends-those whom you have
Known during the last ten years-and you
will fad, think, that few il any Of the
airtishly inclined girls remained single,
while several of their prudent and well-bs-
baved end more industrious sisters are still
oinging, ungathered, on the parental
branch
Not many years ago heard father eau
ton his two lovely and accomplished
daughters against an intimacy with two of
their girl friends
Those girls are becoming 80 firtish and
oav| he said, THAT | en- sure your good
54mes will suffer if you are seen much in
their company. Men are quick to comment
mon and misinterpret such frivolous actions
as I see those girls indulge in, and do not
want YOU to suffer from an unwise intimacy.
I have no doubt that they are innocent
rirls now, but they will soon lose the reputa-
Zion of innocence if they are not more pru-
dent"
The daughters of the gentleman listened
IN his counsel and ceased to visit the young
ladies who had been accused of being fiirts
and not without cause; and vet, regret
wives Of men who adore them, and who are
the most tender and devoted husbands,
while the two prudent daughters Of the dis
Greet gentleman have remained at home I'M
wooed and unwon.
Innumerable cases of a similar kind
have come under my immediate observa-
ton.
always feel exasperated with men when
see them choosing such girls for wives,
while the prudent and discreet ones are
nassed by; exasperated not because Of their
choice so much as because of their praise
for the type they neglect and their censure
for the type they select. 1t is curious
problem.
conduct of men consistent with their ever
repeated assertions of aversion to the very
girls they seem most ready to marry.
1t seems to me that have arrived at the
explanation of the problem.
Men themselves do not know why they
are attracted to and won by these girls, de-
sDite their better judgment; but think can
explain the matter to them.
Stronger and deeper than mans cult
waited and acquired taste for the domestic
virtues Of civilized lite in his Unborn admi-
ration for what they usually term ''go" In
woman.
| think l have seen more mems eyes
sparkle when they described a woman as
full of "gon than l have ever seen from any
other cause.
A man will be very calm and matter of
fact when be tells you how very beautiful
some woman is; he will be phlegmatic and
prosaic when he tells you Of some "highly
accomplished and charming woman" he
knows Not ripple will disturb the repose
of his face when he speaks Of some good.
domestic, virtuous girls OF his acquaint-
ance: but when he says: "By Jove! she's
full of goI" mis- calm becomes exhilaration,
his eye CLOVIS, his voice thrills.
have beard them say it scores Of times,
and it is always with the same intense de-
light and appreciation.
heard it said once of girl on a country
farm; the hired man fell i'll just in the har-
vest season, and she took his seat on the
great reaper and drove four horses until the
overripe wheat was cut and bound. / heard
it said of young girl who had been reared
in luxury and idleness, and whose father
died suddenly and left the family with moth
ing but debts; in less than six months she
had canvassed all the adjoining towns and
had obtained large paying class in music.
heard it said Of the wife of famous poll
tioian, whose energy and tact and brilliancy
won him half his success and / heard it
said Of q society girl, who was not beauti-
full or rich, but who became belle because
she was the best dancer, rider, swimmer and
talker in her set.
Now it is the same elements sort of
conclusive hidden quality of character
that actuated these women to do what they
did which causes many girls to become
lhirts.
An excess of physical vitality, and over
supply of mental activity, and ambition to
do or be which has no proper outlet-in
other words, nisdirected ''go."
Indeed, 1t is only the occasional woman
who is full of go" whose life is so well
directed aud whose nature SO we'll balanced
that she keeps wholly out Of mischief.
AT the same time, whatever direction or
escape this elements finds, it makes itself
felt above all mere negative goodness or pas
Hve propriety coupled with domestic Writ
ues Girls devoid of this element do not
understand why they are not as attractive
to men as some less beautiful and less pru-
dent friend may be, and think the male sex
very unappreciative.
They hear men severely criticse the girl
whose misdirected "go" has led her into fir
tatious follies with his sex, yet he is at
tracted in spite OF himself, by the quality
which actuated her follies, and ne ends by
marrying her
u do not see that it pays to be we'll be-
haved and prudent" said very beautiful
and modest girl to me recently. THE men
treat you with respect, but they pay all
their attention and finally marry the girls
who flirt with them"
could not deny the truth of her state
ments yet felt sorry to admit it. But no
modest and discreet girl need envy the hap
piness Of firt.
IL she marries man she loves, every In
ulscreet act and every familiar attention
sue mas received from other men during her
nlfung days will be like drops Of gall in her
cup OF sweets. And If she does not love the
uia9 she marries, surely she is not TO be en-
s sea Tor she is very likely to continue her
ulrtaaons after marriage
me best advice l can give to the modest
quo good girls is to cultivate go" Ex-
Melhely discreet and domestic girls, who
never feel any inclination to kick over the
traces OF conventionality, or worthy and
excellent members OF society, but they eel
s.'H possess much go" This quality needs
taas.icles, II we would achieve great results,
'V c." can be cultivated.
s oaake yourself up, overcome your self
iss vlousness, your Incidence and your
r asH public COMMENT Try to be ami
ana l1', ~, Try to be ambitious. tactful, amusing
W thoughtful of others.
H. Dolt get into conventional ruts and act
EVERY other girl you know. Dare to be
tssa 'Issel-for every one has an individuality
hsu,tariy her own. But in your efforts tC
WV atactiye don't attempt to be flirtist
,n s W. Il is not your nature to be so, because
Vbaa that men make love to flirts ever
S,5s Qespising them. If you do you will
yN,g! 0ring rfdicule and disgrace upon
Ill.,. 'I ana win no mans regard.