The state republican. (Jefferson City, Mo.) 1871-1896, 1892-05-12
RELATIOMS-iN.LAW.
Hints for the Guidance of Yuurc and
Inexperienced wives.

/ HlhtS Tor the Guidance of Iuurg and
Inexperienced Wives.
One of the first questions asked uf u
newly made bride is how she like, hr,
husbands relations. and if cirau.
stances compel her t. take up hcr pb,d,
| with them. the question is usually II
sympathrti'nlly pitying one.
Considering the frequent di>ugp~-
mrnt> ~" ecr in families it is hardly
surprising If wc see occasional troubles
among those OF different blood. and
often totally different training. The
patriarth0l system while It would rive
unity to the nation. is not without indi.
vidual objections. 1t is the hardest Of
all lessons tn learn to accommodate
ones own angles to the angles of others.
When newly-made wife goes to live
with her husbands people she often
loses sight Vt the fact that She is simply
II daughter of the house. with no more
than Il daughters privileges In the
Hush of her new dignity she is apt to
forget that she is simply on the same
| footing as her husbands sisters. as far
its the management of the house is con
ccrned. While She should aid her
she cannot expect to give orders indie
prnd"ntlv. bat submit 90 direction No
household cun bc Il success with two
mistrrssrs. and most assuredlv it is the
part of the younger todefer to the elder,
though it may not always seem pleas
ant duty,
/ Really and truly wc don't think any
thing is more diiiiault than to live hap
ply with rrlatinnS-in-law. Even where
they love one another. there are So
MANY little traits and prculiarities
which cause internal vcNation. if the
lhrrlh| elements never come to the sur
face. There is no remedy for it, save
cverN"nr"at Da ticncc and kindness: and
, the model daughtcr-in-law must stand
aloof from family diSagr"cmcnts. She
must never side with John AGAINST
Fanny. on throw her weight with her
husband In 4 difference with his parents.
she must always remain neutral. on she
will widen breaches instead OF healing
them.
We believe that some of the souibs
and jokes scratched an the walls in
lompcii make fun of the mpthcrs-iu.
law. This cStimuhlc member of society
has been IN Object of drrisiou of cen
turtles, just as if it were our fault that
we become mothcrs-in-law under some
circumstances. Many - mpthcr-in-law
is as srlt-Sacri6cing as Il mother; many
man has reason to brs, the woman
who stands in that relation to him.
There may he ScOlds and mi-rhicC cC-mall-
ers among them. bat they would display
the sam" objectionable, traits in any
other relation, '.'bc implied dislike to
mothorA-inlaw j. about as reasonable
us the dislike for those urappropriated
blessings, old maids.
We can hardly wonder il the loving
mother shows anxiety fpr the happiness
and cOnfur: eff htr married darling
Th" mistake is in regarding such inter
est as otiriou,, This is mistake on
the part uf the son or daughtrr-in-law:
ana the mothers mistake is in thinking
that her child's household cannot be
comfortable withou. her constant super
vision. A young houscIlcrprr is very
tenacious of hrr dignity: She likes the
pomp pand circumstance of domestic man
agrmcnt and the young man just ad,
vanccd to the proud position of husband
feels all the dignity of the patriarchs
vested in his person. 50, perhaps. the
qualities most needed among relations
in-law are consideration. kindlinc,S.
and Il discreet tongue. If only we all
possessed these qualities what golden
age wc-should enter upon!-'Christian at
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