The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-01-21
The UnseIfish Woman.

There is too much of her in the home.
She may be the patient. self-sacrihcing
mother, who gets over-tired that Others
NAV gofree; she may be an elder sister
who mas sacrificed all the graces and gifts
Of individual life to u family OF younger
brothers aud sisters. Perhaps she Is a
maiden aunt who SmootheS the way with
anxious eagerness for everbody,s feet out
her own. or a grandmother whose bur-
deus multiply with the coming of the sec
ond generation, because the young mother
has not learned the secret of living ner
life INDEPENDENTLY. Whatever emergency
of life may have called out her unsel1sh-
ness, there it is, and, as l said before,
there is altogether too much OF it. Why?
Because there is such a thing as an I'M
s%elfshness that passes beyond its proper
bounds and becomes mean-splrlted. 1t
laws away that proper recognition of self
which commands respect. which is
wholly necessary for individual we'll
being. That the mother should be the
head. the brains of her family, what is
more fitting? That she should be hands
and feet, that she should serve before
| them like g hired assistant, a thousand
times No!
These unselfsh women. in their anx-
| iety to exemplify the Golden Rule, quite
forget that self, after all, underlies its
measure of values. If a great many
women treated their %neighbors no better
| than they treat themselves. this would be
| a sad world for neighborliness.
And this unselfishness is sure to work
mischief in u family, too. For unset
fshness is unlike most other virtues, in
that it breeds it's opposltes. not its W
kind. In a family where the wife or the
mother, or the elder daughter, is anx-
iously unselfisn, where She watches every
opportunity TO do for the other mem
pers of the family what there is every
Atnar 1Ixk,ll In for rhny,-
selves, these others learn quickly enough
first to accept it. then to assume it,
and finally to demand it. And so
there comes out of the home of the un-
selfish woman a flock OF careless, self
seeking children, intent on themselves.
criminally needless of everybody else,
tranpliug on the rights of others, and
having to unlearn. perhaps late in life,
the selfish lessons they learned at their
unseltsh mothers knee. Rarely Is 1t that
the lesson is learned as it should be, and
80 is kept up the army of selfish men and
women who make half the burden and
happiness of lIviug.-HeteD WutterSOn IN
the Philadelphia Ipdnirer.
Price of on Entres OF Society.
The London Times and Telegraph pub
lished the other dav this remarkable adj.
vertisement: "a lady Of title, moving in
the best society, will receive n young lady
into her house rs a friend. Terms, s1c.0 q
per annum. Any introduction of such
will be handsomely acknowledged. Ad-
dress Patrician, 10. 100, etc" AT once
the court officials set to WORE
and they found that it emanated
indirectly from the widow of q
baronet, who is in a position
to offer the social advantages which
the advertisement implies, but she finds
herself in a very straitened financial con-
ditiou; hence the advertisement. While
the officials refuse to give the name of this
latter day 'Patrician" they have taken
steps in warning debutantes and theil
parents against his expensive lodging
aud furthermore the baroness has been
notified that If she appears in society witt
any strange or unknown lacy her name
will be given to the press as the authoress
of the advertisement.