Arizona republican., 1892-05-01

Mans wickedness and woman's frailty has ever been prolific theme for scientists and poets to write about, and
 sing about, since the foundation of so- cia relations, and yet the subject re-
 mains as fruitful and interesting as ever. It is very rarely the case that q chaste woman is ever insulted, or even an effort made to lead her into tempta- tion. A lady as wife may be free joy ous, and even hilarious, and still give
 no secret sign, in word, look or gesture, that would convey impropriety. And while we have no excuse to offer plot ting, professional scoundrels who cruise around as pirates on the sea of social life, stIll we do affirm most emphatical- ly that much of the ruin brought upon families, has been superinduced by
 married ladies, who, possessed of the spirit of overweening vanity, and per haps blessed. or damned. as the case
 may be, with great personal beauty,
 pride themselves upon their captivating qualities-iiirting at first as an 'inno- cent amusement'-just to test their power, and so the poor lambs as readily fall into the traps ready to ensnare them, as shot rolls down an inclined | plane. There is class of men very much like hungry suckers that nab at a bait before 1t is well thrown out to them or would even bite at the naked hook. The relation of husband and vile is one Of the most important, closest and sa- cred oi all relations that intelligent hu- man beings take upon themselves, and
 the very effort made by man or woman to weaken and cast suspicion or ridicule upon their relations. consign the reckless | wrecker to eternal infamy. Underlying | however, nearly all these unfortunate social calamities. there are extenuating ] causes, many times, that lead up to the grand culminating point. There are 80 many matches not made in heaven-- ! but made through the influence of in- | triguing and designing parties -so many are matched that are not mated; so many unspoken incopgrnities SO much | Of inconpatibility of disposition and | temperament that to live togsther as man and wife is 10 endure unmitigated | torments. Dante's Inferno, with it's numerous and horrible tortures inflicted upon the lost in hell, lacked one impor' tant factor to complete the perfect pie ! tare ot human suffering; and this would nave been the anxious, acnte, cyer-pres- enS, eternally prevailing of mismated. unsuSted, conjugal relationship. It is the cIeaSest, purest quintess eEce of hu- man wretcn1dness naked soul was ever baptized in. lncongruity, natural | ly--nOt necessurly-leads to iniidelity. | particularly on the part of the wife, and to ruin. A happy hn.ae is the most | perfect heaven this earNh can afford | and the man or woman who would jeo- pardize it simply, and innocently as they may at first imagine, to tread awhile on forbidden grounds, ia simply and uncOmp prOmisingly tle most unn.it- igated fool that ever took upon them selves the VOWS of the marriage rela- ton. If your home eis a happy one, keep it so; sacrafce your life rather than your honor. II your home is an unhap- py, miserable one, and if to redeem 1t and make it better is an lmpossiblity, | break it up and get away from it, the | sooner the better. Btu this last extreme should not be entertained until the in- eyitable pointed to no other way.
 | People talk about the wickeIness of | lies, hat 1 would like Co know how they could be got along without it in polite so- IIety. Imagine for ,ir.::..:st an after noon call, for example, wEere both host | css and visitor had cons S>tentously made ! up their minds tO Speas with entire l irankness and trut!dullness Figure to yourself the mistress of the house in the act of entering tne drawing room. h. stead of rushing impulsively forward and graspi':g the visitors hand with pleasant smile and words expressive Of | pleasure at seeing her simply says: { You ugly old thing, why on earth have you come to bother me with a call tfis afternoon
 simply for the sake of getting i through with an unpleasant duty" re- | plies the caller, I hoped very earnestly that should not find you at home.'
 "If had had any notion that you were coming l should have told the maid to say that l was not receiving returns the hostess. What a horribly uubecoming gown you have on.'
 Such a remark coming from a wo. man so notoriously badly dressed as yourself seems rather absurd rejoins the visitor.
 ".At about that point in the convecsa- | ton the restraints of poIteness are al- together dispensed with, and clapper- clawIng and hair-pulling follow,
  to conduct affairs on such basis. The conditions of civilized life are to high degree artificial, and we are all of us compelled by circumstances over which we have no control to act parts, very much as if we were on the stage, ;n- stead of being our real selves.
 "I have known good many persons who made t point 10 be particularly frank, deeming it virtue and going so far as to boast of it. They would not hesitate to say disagreeable things, im- plying that so long as they were true there could be no harm in uttering them. Such people do not realize that they are acting in imitation of savages. After all, the most important difference between the savage and the civilized in. diyidual lies in the fact that the latter exercises restraint upon the natural impulses. It is always the most natural impulse to tell the truth. A falsehood signifies constraint by fear or other mo- tives.
 Certainly, nothing can be more cruel and calculated to injure than brutal truth often is. Accordingly, there can be no objection to the employ ment of harmless deceptions when they contribute to peoples unhappiness.