The Atlanta constitution. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1885-19??, 1892-11-22
DONTS FOR DEBUTANTS.
WORDS OF WISDOM THAT ARE WORTH
NOTING IND HEEDING.
sootesy Girls Should be Natural-One OF
Thorn Who Was SO, and Don't Want
Debut Party-The Latest Fads.

INV dear girl as you read the heading OF
this chapter.
Don't. l know that you think it rather
presuming in any woman to give rules ana
advice to just finished maiden, fresh from
the most approved boarding school, where
she has been neatly turned out smars us
to frocks and clever as to useful knowledge
and accomplishments.
But despit. all this despite the fact that
YOU are up In the cut of the latest frill, ia
miliar with all the newest dances, at ease
with your own form and the pretty coquet-
tish things that adOrn it, notwithstanding
all these accomplishments, L say, you VIII
find that there is much worldly knowi-
edge vet undreamed of in the imprinted
pages of your life A debutante asked
beautiful woman recently how young girl
could make herself an absolute social sue
cess, and the woman answered at length In
this wise:
Don't be vain and selfish and conscious of
yourself.
Don't be susceptible and get yourself en-
gagged to every pretty young fellow you
meet.
Don't brag about your beaus and your
popularity TO other girls. Ii Will always
get you in trouble with men whose names
you mention.
Don't ever let one man see your prefer
ence for another.
girl.
Don't be supercilious or sarcastic. Men
hate these things in all women and abhor
them in debutantes:
Don't say broad things with the idea that
men like naughtineSs. That sort or thng
suggests to them things that you'd hate to
think of.
Don't be clever or amusing ct the ex-
pense of friend Men hate treachery'
Don't talk act loud anywhere.
Don't look conscious or 81 tISfled Wnen you
go out with the most desirable beau in your
set. That makes the men and all the Wo-
men laugh at you.
Don't dress ike u regular out and out
young lady. If you do lots of people will
say you are twenty-five by the time you
are twenty. And to sum up all these
donts into one sincere and kindly admon-
ton, don't do anything, say anything or
think anything except what is worthy the
best of your nature. Caution, worldly wis
dom, knowledge of men and women and the
things that please them viii all come very
soon, but before these things are acquired
by experience, keep yourself within the rules
prompted by clear common sense.
Every smart wedding in New York during
November has had It's two little pages to
carry the train of the bride. These are
usually her little cousins or brothers and
they are dressed in courtly fourteenth cen
fury style and add greatly to the statelinesS
of the occasion. The bride must take her
stead of the big bouquet. but this can be
put aside for the bouquet when she stands
to receive her congratulations at the re-
ception that follows. 4 pretty idea III the
way of bridesmaids dresses was one i'll
which yellow was the chosen color. There
were ten maids who entered in pairs and
the first wore gowns of Il rich gold nue.
which was softened i'll each succeeding c0u
pie until the faintest yellow tones were
shown in the creamy gowns of the maid
of honor, and the Marechal Mel roses that
she carried. The other maids all carried
chrvsanthcmuns which exactly matched
the yellow hues of their gowns 1t was
quite the prettieSt idea for Il coored wed
ding and the brides clear, white roses
looked amid the gold like bit of white
cloud against a daffodil sky.
One of the most admirable bits of common
sense I have ever heard of was displayed
upon the part of quiet. clever girl, who.
upon returning from school, absolutely re
fused to allow her parents to go through
all the ceremonials necessary for formally
launching a young girl into society.
What do | want with 4 debut party
mamma 2" she asked with rebellious good
whats the use Of my making a debut
with fuss and feathers" she continued
when it will all simmer down into the two
facts to-wit, that ] won't like society and
society won't like me. I'm not cut out for
Il howIng belle ! don't care for gaiety
and | don't want to talk to men just be
cause they are men. Id be an utter failure
I've seen just the sort of girl ii be sitting
against the wall many "A time No
dear mamma. excuse me from Il debut that
would simmer down into social modification
and failure. Let me lead my quiet, UMPIRE
tentiOus life in my own simple way, sur
rounding myself with those who really in
terest me and find me interesting" and 50
the question was sensibly settled and |
don't know any girl who has n pleasanter
more cOmpensating life than this one who
wOuldn try at something she had no talent
for She is clever. charming woman. She
entertains delightfully."- and her friends are
sll worth knowing
1t really does seem rather absurd, this in
sistence upon bringing every girl out when
she comes home from boarding school. A
woman doesn't take her Young sons and
trot them around Whilly-nilly to every so
Cial function OF the season, and why
shouldn't girls he left to their own tastes
lust as bays: Every girl who is brought out
hasn't social tact and talent and. indeed
numbers of them. | am sure, would rather
not be brought out ut all in the formal and
formidable sense of the word.
Some of the prettiest garments I've seen
recently were fashioned for the trousscau
of a rencent bride. The entire trousseau
planned and executed by one modiste who
had all the lingerie made at her establish
ment and even ordered the handsome cor
set of white satin which was worn with the
bridal gov"
The wedding set of undergarments was of
white silk, helnstitched, and finished with
made empire, with ribbon forming belt
just below the bust, and tying into a bow
with long ends below the shoulders
A charming calling gown of a new shade
of rose-ripe silk. shot with gold lights, was
trimmed with darker shade of rose velvet
and iridescent peSsementerie. vest of
pale yellow satin formed the Frenchy touch
in the costume, and the darling little hat to
match was trimmed with the velvet and
rich yellow lace.
An enchanting house gown was of pale
blue silk trimmed with loops of black velvet,
and having the princesse back formed of
heavy nacre silk. showing stripes in
white and soft tones of blue and yellow.
A handsome gown was of heavy black
and green rough bengaIine, trimmed with
green velvet shot with petunia red, this be-
ing finished with handsome jet. The smart
little bodice to this frock had a strap of the
velvet across the gathered bust and mar
row pointed girdle.
4 charming broad-brimmed theater hat of
white felt was trimmed with pink ostrich
tins and pert bows of pale velvet ribbon