St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-02-14

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EA@ EM Advertiser. Why,
~ bless your short
I'm M sighted eyes and
NNxE ~ WT stupid wits, you
Fs5tst ~ I'M have chances with
W>\ IAM[S out number when
ever you happen to be with women a
little while.
Probably you imagine there's no way
to be eweet except with your arms and
lips, but that means merely that you've
never been smart enough to think of
any other way.
without kissing, and-bless their dear
hearts-they prove it in all sorts of de-
lightful and unexpected ways.
They don't do it merely by being
pretty, either, for some of the sweetest
are the homeliest. One Of the sweetest
L ever met was a sallOw little thing,
with hair like dingy rope yarn and with
blue goggles where her eyes should have
been.
Girls are.sweet in the way you could
be-by saying and doing things at the
right time. and nicely. They strive to
please others; you strive to please your
self.
AS I've told you heretofore. you think
of a girl only for your own sake. If you
want her to think you sweet, you must
esteem her for her own sake. You may
not see that there is any difference be-
tween the two ways of looking at her,
but she does.
AS to that, your own mother and sis
tiers could explain it to you if you were
modest and honest enough to listen, for
all women know by experience how
many young men-and some who are
old enough to know better are in this
respect. That isn't the worst of it,
either; they talk about it and free their
minds to one another, so that the fellow
who is slow in this respect gets bad
name before he is introduced to some
dear creatures whom he is dying to
know.
DO they also talk about the fellows
who are real Sweet?' Well, have
my doubts. Girls are as smart as men
in knowing,a good thing when they see
it. and they are not foolish enough to
give it away so long as there is any
hope of getting it for their own sole and
undivided use. If you have in your
disposition any sweetness which you
want recognized, you had better depend
wholly upon yourself to bring it to the
notice of those whom you want to i'm
press with it.
You can't show off on slight acouaint-
ance? Nonsense! A girl who is worth
being solid with will begin to take your
measure the first time she meets you
and has q chance to notice you. If you
can't unfold your charms of character
especially upon her, try them OH some
other woman within sight. 1t isn't nee
essary that you should practice upon
fI,,< Ii
and homelier she is the better your OPP
portunity, although if your sweetness
is the genuine article you'll have but
one kind of good women of any age and
looks.
l knew of one fellow who won
charming girl by his manner toward
! horrid old-maid aunt who infested the
parIOr throughout the evening when
first they met Of course the girl did
not say Yes that night; but the fellow
created first impressions that were ia
vorable, and first Impressions last long
est with girls.
How did he do it? Well, he listened
politely to everything the elder woman
said, and he took pains to make pleas
ing and full replies, instead of getting
away from the subject and TO the pretty
niece as soon as possible. The girl
thought that man who could be so
nice to woman whom he couldn't pos
sibly like would surely be so to one
whom he loved, and, although she mar
ried him great many years ago. she
is still sure She was right.
Actions speak louder than words, even
to girls who don't appear to be very
thoughtful. Any fellow can get up
sweet speech to unload upon his best
girl, but not one in hundred can-Or
will-see to t that she gets the most
comfortable chair i'll the room, or the
SmootheSt barked tree to lean her
shoulders against at a picnic, or the
shady side of sailboat on sunny
day.
OF course, you would be willing to
sit on the Sharpest edge of board for
the bliss of being with the girl you like;
but don't for moment let yourself i'm
agine that she feels the same way re-
garding you, or that she even will, until
y0u have given her better cause than
You will have done before you become
what women call sweet" in men.
OF course you are dying to pay her
the sweetest kind of compliments, in
words, ana you are puZZliDg your brains
to make up a stock to draw upon, but
she'll be far more pleased if you'll act
them out.
You may wish some time, that you
could remember some very sweet thing
which some one in book said to his
sweetheart, but the girl will like you
great deal better if you'll remember, at
the, first party at which you both chance
to be, what kind of cake or cream she
likes best.
You may hire some literary fellow to
write you Sugary poem TO send her Oh
her birthday, but she will think you
SWeeter if you remember who is her
faYorite author and send her one OF his
books, no matter how cheap, which she
hasn't read.
Don't imagine that for man to be
sweet is to he soft. for the two qualities
aren't bit alike. The sweetest candy
is the hardest, and also the purest.
There's many qualities more likely than
sweetness 10 make you soft while you're
towering about the girls, and sweetness
will rid you of some of them.
Don't imagine, either. that it will
make you unmaniy. RudencsS isn't
manlneSs, though most young fellows
seem To think it is. Whenever you find
/, thoroughly manly fellow, he. will be
one whom lot OF Wpmen will call real
sweet ami they could tell why. ton. If
you were fool enough To give yourself
away by asking them.
Observe L osriy the men Olier than
Yourself WI o IRE aust solid with the
Urls. AMI you'll fin that all of them
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