The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1892-04-09
HINTS 10 YOUNG LADIES.
Things For Thorn TO Consider in Theii
Hplationa IN Mon.


Things For Them TO Consider In Their
Relations to Men.
1t is also one Of the mistakes which
women sometimes make, TO ask any
favor of a gentleman which will incur
the least expense for him No matter
how pressing are the circumstances,
she should never take the liberty unless
he Is a near relative. In the vnrious
circles OF American society, where it is
the custom for young men to escort
young ladies to theaters and other
places OF entertainment, 1t Is mistake
for young lady to ever voluntarily ex-
patiate her fondness for the theater or
the concert In his presence. 1t might
be proper to say here, perhaps, that 1t
is mistake for a young lady to attend
such places with young men, unac-
companied by chaperon. But, though
much is said and written about the
chaperon nowadays, l am willing to as
sert that in the whole of America there
are not more than one thousand young
ladies who consider the chaperon n
necessity, while at least half million
very excellent young ladies are being
escorted about by admiring swains
every evening in the year.
It is also a mistake for a young lady
to correct or scold her parents in the
presence of young men, imagining they
will admire her culture or courage, or
imagine they will not notice it /
heard wealthy and accomplished
young lady at one of our noted sea-
shore resorts severely criticised and
condemned by group of gentlemen
one day, because one of them had heard
her speak unkindly to her mother
1t is mistake for woman (wife,
mother, sister or sweetheart), to make
spare hours, and then expect him to
enjoy himself.
1t is a mistake for q woman to try to
prove to men her great knowledge and
superior intellect They enjoy an in
tellectual woman when they discover
her brightness themselves, but they do
not like to have her force her brains
and learning upon them.
But it is just as great mistake to as
sumo an air of insipidity, and expect a
man to think it charming. Men are
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or too little brain in woman is equally
offensive to them.
1t is the mistake of n lifetime to give
man any liberty which you would not
want known, and to expect him to keep
the matter secret The exceptional
man will sometimes hide the indiscre-
tion of a young girl whom he believes
spoke or acted from ignorance; but the
average man, in the highest the same
as in the lowest walks of life, boasts Of
his successes with foolish women, and
the rendezvous, the letter, the embrace
or the souvenir which she has giver
him, thinking it will never be known
to others than themselves, is shortly
the matter of gossip among dozer
people.
Women hide their secrets far better
than men do. They fear the censure O.
the world too much to share their error,
or indiscretions with confidantes. Blu
men are almost invariably vain ant
proud of their conquests, and relate
their achievements with the fair sex Il
one or two admiring friends. They
may not use names, but let the Incl
dents once be told. it is an easy matteI
to discover the personages if one is a
all curious to do so.
The only way to keep men from be
traying our indiscretions is not to com
NIT them. I once made these remark
in the presence of several ladies, ant
one of them replied, that she was gla,
she had never been acquainted with tn
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time that lady's name had been uset
: lightly in club room not week pre-
i vious, and her indiscreet actions ha,
been commented on by 'the class o
men" she did know.
1t Is the worst mistake of all for
woman to think she can make no mis-
. take. The moment that conviction en-
&: ters her head she is on the highway t
E some grand blunder whereby she vii
= wound, disgust or antagonize the ma
n she most cares for. Eternal watchful
, ness, never-failing caution, perpetua
p tact and equal quantities of pride an
g humility are necessary ingredients Il
the behavior woman needs to US
with men. This should be garnishe
8 with good sense, favored with coquetr
and served with good-nature. An
oven then we will be liable to max
some mistakes, since one man will con
plain of too much coquetry in the fiji
: voring, and another will call it insipit
i one will say we have too much pride
J, render the dish palatable, and anothe
\, will complain of an overdose of humi
9 ity; and still another will think W
. served our conduct too cold, while h
;. comrade, will think the opposite. =
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