The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1892-07-07
RELATIONS-IN-LAW.
Hints for the Guidance of Young and
inexperienced Wives.

Hints for the Guidance OF Young anO
inexperienced Wives.
One of the first questions asked of
newly made bride is how she likes her
husbands relations, and if circum-
stances compel her to take up her abode
with them, the question is usually a
sympathetically pitying one.
Considering the frequent disagree
ments we see in families it is hardly
surprising if we see occasional troubles
often totally different training. The
patriarchal system, while it would give
unity to the nation, is not without indi-
vidual objections. 1t is the hardest of
all lessons to learn to accommodate
ones own angles to the angles of others.
When a newly-made wife goes to live
with her husbands people she OTTER
loses sight of the fact that she is simply
a daughter of the house, with no more
than daughters privileges. In the
flush of her new dignity she is apt to
forget that she is simply on the same
footing as her husbands sisters, as far
as the management of the house is con-
cerned While she should aid her
mother by every means in her power,
she cannot expect to give orders indie
pendently, but submit to direction. No
household can be a success with two
mistresses, and most assuredly it is the
part of the younger to defer to the elder,
though it may not always seem a pleas
ant duty. 't
Really and truly we don't think any
/ thing is more difficult than to live hap
| PLY with relations-in-law. Even where
they love one another, there are so
many little traits and peculiarities
! which cause internal vexation, if the
jarring elements never come to the sur
1 face. There is no remedy for it, save
everpresent pa tience and kindness; and
the model daughter-in-law must stand
| a1oof from family disagreements. She
must never side with John against
| Fanny, or throw her weight with her
husband in difference with his parents.
She must always remain neutral, or she
will widen breaches instead of healing
j them.
We believe that some of the squibs
! and jokes scratched on the walls In
Pompeii make fun of the mothers-in-
law This estinable member of society
has been an object of derision of GEN.
turies, Just as if it were our fault that
! we become mothers-in-law under some
circumstances. Many mother-in-law
is as self-sacrificing as mother; many
| man has reason to bless the woman
who stands in that relation to him
There may be scolds and mischief-mak.
ers among them, but they would display
the same Objectionable traits in any
other relation. The implied dislike tf
motbers-in-law is about as reasonable
as the dislike for those unappropriatec
blessings, old maids. ........ .f.....
We can hardly wonder if the loving
mother shows anxiety for the happiness
Land comfort of her married darling
The mistake is in regarding such inter
est as officious. This is mistake OF
the part of the son or daughter-in-law
and the mothers mistake is in thinking
that her child's household cannot b.
comfortable without her constant super
vision. A young housekeeper is yer.
tenacious of her dignity; she likes tn
} | pomp and circumstance of domestic man
agement, and the young man just ad
, vanced to the proud position of husband
r feels all the dignity of the, patriarch
? vested in his person. So, perhaps, tn
qualities most needed among relations
r in-law are consideration, kindliness
and discreet tongue. If only we al
possessed these qualities what a goldei
age we should enter rupon!-Christian a
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