Fairhaven herald. [volume] (Fairhaven, Wash.) 1890-????, 1892-04-28
THEY DO NOT MARRY,
WHY YOUNG PEOPLE FIND SINGLE
slESSE0NESs so COMFORTABLE.

Keep Away from the Knot of Hymen
IL is an oft repeated remark that New
ORR Is the finest place in the republic
10 i've inf you are rich. But it i.
worse than the meanest suburb. the
drearlest of western "boom towns" the
dullest country village-if you are poor
This is the criticism of the person who
does not contemplate life as POSSIBLE.
lty-or an agreeable possibility-without
society, in the narrow sense of the word
without the pleasures that come from
money, without the social standing that
good bank account gives, without be-
ing able "to keep up with the process
sion" of those who are well dressed, well
fed, well situated and well off.
Singularly enough, those who demand
these things-who will not accept mar
med life without them-are generally
not well supplied with this worlds goods
People who have been rich all their lives
do not realize what it means to 20 with
out their Injuries. But people who have
been poor know just the wretchedness
of having to wear patched boots and 90
distances, because car fare mounts up"
of having to refuse nice invitations, be-
cause they have no clothes or no means
OF returning proffered civihties. To
these, poverty is bitter thing, and thew
loathe it. Marriage, unless it means
escape from carping cares of this kind
they eschew as a hopeless evil. Better
endure those trials that we have than
fly to others that we know not of, thew
say.
So thinks the everyday gentlemanly,
good looking, entirely personable young
man of thirty, who draws an income of
from two to four thousand a year, and
Is asked out all over because he dances
admirably and is good to look at. and
never does anything gauche So, also,
thinks the pretty, well bred, well dressed,
moderately bright girl of twenty-five,
whose father spends six thousand a wear
and has five children. Both of these know
Just the way they want their lives to 90.
Ever since childhood they have associ- |
ated with companions who have had |
more money than they have, and they |
know how nice it is to be well off To |
be rich or to remain as we are, that is |
their motto. when we make the great |
move" they both think, 1--WE make it to |
better ourselves materially, or we don't |
make it at all"
They do not want TO be millionaires,
but they do not want to be really pinched
anywhere. Their house must be large
enough and be comfortable. 1t must be
well fitted up-no "sheet by night and
tablecloth by day" for them There
must be servants enough to run it. This
girl-who has always been comfortably
placed, but never luxuriously-has no
intention Of binding herself down to do
nestle cares, of busting her own draw
ing room and turning up hens in her
own table linen. No; all that must be
done for her. She has made her own
dresses and trimmed her own hats all
her girlhood, and she wants, when she
marries, to change all that Better TO
go on doing it in your own home where
1t is all you have to worry over, than to
do it in your husbands, where you
have to keep the house and take care of
children as well
Thus the young lady reasons and re-
Jects her suitors with peculiar and good
humored indifference. She has made
up her mind that she will not marry
man who has a cent under five thousand
a year, and is not above telling this TO
the soupirants, who take the hint and
strive to realize the ideal. The young
lady is quite frank. She is not in the
least ashamed of her worldliness or de-
sirous Of hiding it under a veil of at
tractive coyness. She is not mercenary.
1t is not riches that she demands-com-
fort, that is all If she is comfortable
she will continue to be a very nice, at
tractive person, but if she has to scrimp
and struggle and fight over ten cent
pieces, and turn her old clothes, and
have her shoes patched, she will not be
for her temper. She is a {
Tin de steele to her finger tips-sensible
where she might be romantic, practical ,
where she once would have been impas- !
sioned-a person who is bound TO make
a success Of her life and keep it on the
lines that she regards as the best. {
The young man of her kind holds pre-
,isely the same views Life with be-
loved object sounds very charming, but
It is not to be INDUCED in unless the in
comes Of himself and the beloved object
loot up to from five to six thousand per q
annum. The beloved object on three :
thousand year is too expensive a lux
Try He cannot afford it. What might v
nave been a courtship dwindles to a I
mild friendship. Not infrequently he .
ellis the lady of his sad predicament and d
now impossible a matrimonial alliance !
would be on his salary. She condoles : !,
With him and they become friends, for u
10 violent fires burn in their hearts and e
comes quite easily TO them.
Marriage would mean a series Of sacri- o
ices that neither is willing to make &
They would have to live in fat in Har.
no one knows who has not lived