The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1892-01-16
GIRLS MEN DO NOT LIKE.
A Dissertation on Several Kinds of
Young Women One Generally Meets.

A Dissertation Several Kinds of
| Young Women One Generally Meets.
The men who can marry, and who nova
days are usually thirty-three, are men of
certain experience and by no means fools.
They are attracted by good looks, whether
| ia the foolish or the wise virgins, and are
carried away by unusual beauty. rs they
were In the days of Helen, and will be
| when the world coois but they are quite
! conscious of the advantage possessed by
| the sensible and the cultivated. They
know what terrible bores ignorant girls
| can be, how utterly unreasonable they
often are, and how much more liable they
are in middle life to grow acrid, snappish
| or positively iii tempered.
There IL no one so perverse as the woman
without intellectual interests whose situa-
ton happens to be at variance with her
| ideas of comfort, or who, being comforta-
bic, is conscious of the faint contempt or
rather slight avoidance Of those around
her. Women are perfectly well aware
when men listen from politeness alone, and
those among them to whom that lot falls
grow as bitter as some disappointed spin
sters.
The men of thirty-three know perfectly
well how great part friendship plays in
married life, how it deepens affection, and
how difficult il is to feel friendship for
woman whose early charm has passed, who
does not understand one word in six you
say and who can neither sympathize with
failure nor understand why you have sue
ceeded. Camaraderie, one Of the most de-
hghtful of all the bonds of union, is inn
possible between the able and the silly.
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clever girls. not the simpletons, who are
free from the senseless extravaganza which
is. perhaps, of all the foibles which are not
exactly vices, the most permanently irri-
tating in wives. That thing, at least,
culture has done for the majority of cul-
tured women-it has taught them how to
count. The immense majority of cultivated
girls are economical. Frugality is their
road to independence. They could not live
their lives if they cost their fathers too
much, and they learn to know the value of
money and to avoid debt with horror. They
are not perhaps, devoted to ''housekeep-
ing" as some of the unlettered are, mean
ing three times out of five, endless and
harassing interference with their servants
but they can keep house, when they know
their incomes, at an outlay well within
them.
Men know what it is to be bored. There
Is no bore on earth equal to the woman
who can neither talk nor listen, who has
no mental interests in common with her
husband, and who thinks his friends sa-
tirical because they attend to her with
faint sense of amused amazement. The
men we are speaking Of believe also that
of the two the educated are the more affec-
tionate.
But girls of culture are too frank Of
speech, contradict men, unless much and
visibly their eldeg> too often and too
bluntly, and are therefore condemned as
formidable" This habit, for it is moth
ing worse does not proceed in them, as it
does in most men, from either arrogance
or temper or want of self control, for they
do not display it toward women, even when
intellectually their interiors. It proceeds
from delight in intellectual independence,
from an unexpected sense of mental equal
ity which must be made audible to be thor
oughly enjoyed
Even very sensible young men of ex-
perience will retreat before it with a sense
of disappointment and choler and never
again, unless by accident, give the girl who
has tried, as they think, to put them
down" a chance of showing that she was
attempting nothing of the kind. The habit
is a mere gesture in reality, colts kick Of
pleasure in the free field, and not, as it
often is in old women, sign of vicious
temper; but it constantly ruins bright
girls chances, and has done much to create
in society an impression which is, on the
evidence Of facts, entirely unfounded
Cultivated girls have, in fact, trick Of
thinking that argument is conversation,
and that contradiction shows mental fear
lessness-a trick which men, even tolerant
men, never quite Gke.-San Francisco Ar
gonaut.