The Helena independent. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1875-1943, 1892-05-12
THE MIND, NOT THE STOMACH.
A Maiden with \ Naw Idsa OF How to
Manage n Man.

THE MIND, NOTN The STONACH.
A Maiden with 4 Nsw Idsa OF How IL
Manage y Man.
Young man, attention! I want to ask
sour opinion in regard to q most vital and
al-important subject. Which do you in
the majority admire, the fresh, blooming
beauty. suggestive Of flowers md aelds, oil
the hlaas belle with an ''air?" For, AZ a
..den'' or "studio" must have an ''atmos.
phere," go must a girl of this stamp have
decided "air." Now, toll me truly, which
ia the most f~ascinotinRP I am earnestly
and sincerely searching for knowledge.
Come to my rescue and give me your opiR-
ions over your v mama (not necessarily
for publication, but as a guarantees OF good
faith, and enlighten me--and the rest OF
the girls.
All during \ journey westward he | have
sought for enlightenment. ! am still seak-
ing. One young man, u graduate OF Ann
Arbor, told me that, for his part, the most
interesting specimen of feminlnity was the
maid who marveled not ut tho wlckeunees
Of thesworld, but who, seeing the good and
the bad, Disseminated in favor OF the
former. He declared that, to his mind, \
woman who wal good because abe knew
nothing else to be, or, in other words. was
good from habit. was not 40 extremely vlr-
tuous after all. nor particularly interesting.
A great mistake is made, he went on to say,
mirs an immoral woman mora than a good,
pure woMAn
There il no doubt that q man finds a
woman of the world, possessed Of all
knowledge. temperate with all vtrtueA-a
woman who understands herself, and has,
thsois tioally speaking, shaken hands with
herself-rno, . interesting than that meek.
eyed little maiden, or that dova-oolored
matron whose chief interest Is centered IN
the newest style Of decorating a table scarf,
or the concoction of shaving-paper cases.
Why should it be otherwise?
Take for instance the table scarf young
lady. If she has q lover l will wager his
lifo is miserable. She expects to nom all
his desires, his wishes, his aspirations into
about the same amount OF space that the
marguerite she embroiders occupies on the
felt or velvet she IL working on. If he has
a friend outside of her she ia miserable. II
he stirs out of her sight at y moment when,
from her standpoint, he should not have
stirred: if he looks in a direction which the
peculiar state Of her mind at that critical
point declares he should not have looked
in, u quarrel ensues.
''Take your old ring and 20 home" says
Ma Belle.
'I'll do it, my dear,'' says the young
man.
They are as far as the hall loo now.
One more little, petty trouble ooms up like
an ugly weed in the garden OF their love.
The door is oPen.
Come back" says the girls heart.
"Good night" say her lips.
Some one says somewhat later: "Ihose
two reople are not fated for each other.
evidently. They seem to quarrel a good
deal"
"Yes, they do quarrel a good deal. God
save me from a tabla-spreao girl!' ended
up my Ann Arbor friend.
On the other hand, what a blessing ia the
She knows the world; intuitively, shs has
conceived of all evil and all good-and
knowing both she chooses the better way.
She may love a cigarette. She may have Il
temper of her own-a we'll cultivated one
at that. but nevertheless she is charming;
fascinating; a mystery-a wonder. And
truly from good choice. and not from habit
or because she knows nothing else. Quick
to excuse the fallings of men, ever ready
to lend them a helping hand-meeJing them
on their own ground, commanding their
respect, their admiration, their love. Many
people can not believe in q platonic friend
ship between q man and a woman! Many
people are fools, anyway! I agree with
Puck in his opinion in regard to 'these
mortals."
But great heavens, what possible enjoy
nent can a well-informed man take in the
mysteries of Kensington painting or the
discussion of Jennie Smiths tea-eown?
Paint a spirited woman or horse and you
can interest the man. Nave Jennie Smith
present q living illustration of the tea
gown talk, and you'll have him on that,
too. Some women on the very front tip end
Of the country CRY down the marriage cere-
mony, claiming that as tastes change COM
panions should do the same. But this is
f%allacy. I am a firm believer in divorce. It
is an injustice to ones self to stay linked
to q life that proves a barrier to all pro-
gross.
Progression is the keynote to heaven.
What right has any woman, OF any man,
for that matter, to hamper his soul with
the shaokles of an uncongenial union?
one. But, On the other hand, this cry
against the marriage ceremony CRATES
harshly or the old poetic idea in~stilled with
our birth. What is 80 beautiful as that
sweet ceremony where one. the one of your
life and hopes, is made your own.-Helen
Berger in Washington Post.