The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1892-07-23
AVE OR ADMIRATION?
ezoRT- SIGHTED WOMEN
so1I czooss THE LATTER.

paaIu OF the Hes4-1He
he'-- .ots as Servant to His Wife.
runss of Selfish Wives
'Sp' r,o,. the Chicago Tribune.
and orators speak Of woman as a
fO0'' -iDo being who lives almost wholly
ID 10l rfa proves her Co be many-sided
h'o .risble in her ideas OF how men should
'uo their love for her.
Up P,.-v woman needs love as every plant
.a, liabs and heat; yet there are plants
neol' ,briye better in shaded hooks than In
VIM I.oad sunlight, and there other plants
M bloom their brightest in the artificial
..,rtb Of the hot house.
Tsora u a large percentage OF highly
.1v.tsd mentally emotional woman who
ur.in the imagination 30 far as sentiment
n'.arnad aud who find little but discon-
and disappointment in the realm OF
real IT.. .-,o.. o.6 douo.od
,,otbers. but they neither give nor receive
Ia.tivs happiness as sweethearts or wives.
.brink from demonstrative love, and
-, .c,usl seems coarse and common to
ssor, through comparison with the IDEAL
IT,, an inv A lovers letters better than his
~! ut and they are more devoted nurses
bnshsnd in sickness than companions
" T nav are faithful to every duty but they
.,a forever dreaming OF more spiritual
ard romantic love than they have known,
M veil Of sadness and disappointment
hangs between them and happiness.
~ 10 uhn
admiration is far more gratifying than
1ova saws Ella Wheeler Wilcox in the New
Vort World. The 1attery OF a crowd Of
admirers gives her more lasting delight
than the sincere love OF one undemon-
etrstiye heart The most earnest express
sons OF affection would not afford her hap
illness unless other people heard them and
Recognized them as tributes to her powers
offsscination. She finds more pleasure in
a bqll room with a score of men paving her
empty compliments than in her houdoir
listening to tne conVSrsdtlon OF bne uan
who loves her.
There are women who demand a ycombi-
nation OF both valet and maid in the atten-
tions of lover, and there are other women
70 whom this manner Of expressing devo-
ton is odious.
"You should see jules husband" said
jules friead to Aunie one day in my hear
ing. He is the most adoring lover / ever
Esw. He does not allow Julie to do single
thing for herself. He looks after the serv-
ants, does all the marketing, takes care of
jules gloves, laces and ribbons, keeps
them all in order, even hangs up her hat
and wrap when she comes in from a pro H.
enade. think such devotion just lovely"
~ am, sure should not want man to
show his devotion to me in that sort Of
fashion," retorted Annie. II should feel as
Though / had married my butler, and, for
getting myself, would be talking TO him
about his wages and his day off, My ideal
OF lover would be terribly lowered were a
man to take care Of my ribbons and laces
and wait upon me generally"
u don't understand you," said jules
friend.
well, then, to be more explicit" contin-
usd Annie, II could not love q man unless I
felt like serving him. Every attractive
woman finds scores of men who are ready
10 play page and courtier to her in poudoir
and ball room-all that is very we'll But
1t is rarely that she finds among these one
whom she respects and loves enough to
wish to serve. could not be happy with
amaD unless felt this sort of love for
him.
II should never wish to feel like serving
any man." replied jules friend.
Then you would never wish TO love &C
cordng to my idea of the passion, )"
responded Annie. 1T is all a matter Of
temperament; most women desire rather
10 be loved than to love, but l should not
respect a man enough to be happy in his
love unless he were able to create in me as
great love as he gave, and he could not do
this If he acted as a valet toward me. He
must be my king, not my servant"
There are more jules than Armies IN the
world, perhaps because there are more
pages than kings among men.
There is another type of woman who
gauges a mans love toward her by the
amount Of money he expends upon her.
Tod blinds her eyes to his moral and
mental deficiencies, and she faunts her
leTelry and fine dresses In the eyes Of less
splendidly attired wives, seemingly content
with her lot.
In her husbands presence she speaks of
his extravaganza where she is concerned
and approaches him for it with smiling ap-
proyal IN face and voice. She seems ut
terly Indifferent to or unconscious Of the
TACT that lavish expenditure OF money
affection.
More prudent and loyal husbands she
designated as misers, and frankly confesses
tnaI she could not live with man who did
Hot consider her comfort and pleasure be-
lore all other things
Is not infrequently the case that the
Uauk ofncer who is short" in his account Is
possesses wife Of this kind. Such women
Auu materially to the population of Canada.
Analogous TO her Is the woman who meas
ures mans affection for her by the selfish
ness and inciVllity he exhibits toward all
Others.
Ny husband used fairly to suub people
70 get them out OF the house so that he could
lave me all 70 himself" profsssedly re-
HSlous woman once said to me with great
su''o, His relatives were all furious be-
cause oil his absorbing love for me and his
ousequent indifference to thom, and she
laughed with delight at the recollection of
but herself
nave met great many women of this
syPe' an over and over have heard them
IeIs'e with pride and EMULATION the selfish
anu unAlnd acts which love for them had
pUompted men TO commit.
ouch women invariably express surprise
~ueu any wife Of their acquaintance per-
s eil.s ner husband to show liberality and af-
to.uon toward relatives, and ara quick to
r ~ that the husband who is thoughtful
u TSIners does not really love his wife.
w" and then / hear a woman speak of a
I.au love for her as something which
suouid make him incapable of an unkind or
Sousn sctlon-something which should rem
So. ulln generous and full OF charity and
ooIieVolenoe to all the world, but only now
onu then! Women who are the soul of be-
neVolenoe and kindness in ali other things
''S on oeVoid OF humanity in this respect.
-SeEe are women whom too much love