Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1892-03-06
PUT THE CASE THE. OTHER WAY
II the Boy Had Been Twenty-One and the
Girl Only Seventeen Not Word
Would Have Been Said.
WOMEN NEED NOT WAIT NOWADAYS
Their Modern Sphere Includes Seat in the Matrimo-
hial Wall Street.
WRITTEN FOE TILE DIsrATcH.


was a poor victim of a woman's wiles and
smiles. The tale, as told, shows how much
smarter was the girl than the boy. 1t re.
veals how much more brains the wife had
than the husband. 1t also shows that when
a woman wills in dead earnest, she usually
makes her point whether fathers and moth
ers are willing or not. 1t was what the
world agrees upon as mad marriage
case of marry in haste and repent at lei
sure" a case of calf love on both sides,
which nearly always ends up in disaster.
Parents knowing that marriage is a serious
matter and that it should not be entered
upon without careful consideration, are
naturally opposed to either son or daughter
assuming its responsibilities at an early age,
and in clandestine manner particularly.
Father BIaine's Side ofIt
The straight story told by Mr.. Blaine as
to the marriage of his son leaves it plainly
t6 he inferred that Jimmie" was ''roped
in, as they say out West, by a girl who
was anxious to marry into distinguished
family. She was young, pretty and am
bilious. A brilliant marriage is held to be
the highest success girl can reach in
society. In this case an alliance was in
view with wealth, high position and great
name. With the bliss of loves young dream
thrown in, il is not to be wondered at that
fashionable girl, with all the teachings of
society in mind, availed herself of the op-
portunitv to marry even poor young man
like Jimmie"
Ruskiu sets down Desdemona as among
the perfect woman as lovely and faultless,
and as belonging to the highest and most
heroic type of women. Yet she-held by
most of the critics to be so noble, pure, and
perfect-at dead of night clandestineiy LETT
her fathers house to fall into the embraces
of ''bIackamoor She brought shame
upon her noble house, and broke her
fathers heart. Yet this is the perfect
woman, the highest type of virtue held up
for modern women She bamboozled OtieIo.
She gave him world of sighs.'' She told
him if he had a friend that loved her to
teach him how to tell his story and that
would WOO her. This was broad hint and
it emboldened Othollo to take her to his
''sooty bosom" and finally they eloped and
were married.
Marie as Good as DesdemdAa-
If this is the way that perfect women and
highest types act, why are not the nine
teenth century heroines who run off with
the penniless coachmen for pure love, or
those who elope with silly Romeos when
they are far gone and suffering much e1-
tremitv for love-as was "Jimmie'-
equally as highly esteemed. According to
the testimony of the great poets and men of
the world whom Ruskin backs up, the
women who are to be the models for the
girls of to-day are the DesdeDaoadS, the Rosa
li,ads, the ,I,licts; but if they are, why should
the heroine of the late famous failure in
marriage be so strongly condemned?
A lovers eyes will gaze an eagle blind
That she WAS blind seems plainly proved.
Matchmakers are held in reproach, but
matchmaking is a business constantly pur-
sued ottentimes by those who most zealously
condemn it. In secret they feel entirely
justified in bringing friends together and in
engaging in a conspiracy for making them.
happy by helping to secure advantageous
marriages. Now if girl chooses to select
the man she wants to marry, where is the
great fault or wrong in her endeavoring to
secure what she thinks will make her
happy. All strategy, they say, is fair in
love and war
The Other Side of the Fence.
Men Of all ages, even up to the eighties,
are seen attempting to marry wives in their
teens and twenties, but they are not re-
preached with duplicity and hypocrisy, and |
taking a mean advantage of a poor, innocent
girl If Jimmie had been almost q as |
he claimed to be, and marie" had been II,
it is hardly likely that he would |
have been held up 10 scorn as having Sc
cured his bride unfairly and under false |
pretenses. Why, then, should the woman
be condemned for endeavoring to obtain |
the man of her choice, when she deemed it |
would be for her benefit, and that such mar
riage by the unwritten laws of society would |
be considered a brilliant success?
A woman who is ambitious is as careful |
10 consider the'stepping stones to place and |
power as man. BY tact and smartness, |
she is as likely to gain her point as he, but |
the fact is that when she succeeds it is set |
down to artiice and deceit, while in
him it is handsomely called capacity |
ior success. Every man is struggling
for renown, or wealth, or power, or infu-
ence of some sort. He aims to stand high
among his fellows, and cut some sort of a |
figure in the world. In society the same
desire, faculty, ambition is manifested by
mothers and ambitious daughters
in the matter of marriage. Rank, title,
money, high position that will open up to
them the honors and pleasures of life are as
eagerly looked out for and as ardently pur-
sued.
The Fault of the Teaching.
People affect to despise mercenary mar
liages. They are shocked at the idea of the
sacred contract being anything but '1ove
affair. But as long as modern girls of
fashionable life are educated With the idea
hat marriage is to he their end and aim,
they are sufficiently instructed to endeavor
10 fix their affections upon eligible men. By
that is meant men with sufficient fortunes
10 live in good style, and with the capacity
Tor getting on in the world
Somebody says that the average of fools
S very well kept up, but it is likely that.
f the facts could be ascertained men are
more given TO making failures in marriage
han women. They are more captivated by
mere prettluess, weak mindedness or trivoli-
v. Then when the dream of bliss is broken
md they find themselves Joined to a vapid,
illv, empty-headed soul-ignorant and ex-
cting-to whom they must sit opposite
hree times a day, they become thoroughly
miserable and realize what bitterne IS it is
o draw blank in the great lottery. Tai
mage saws somewhere that if man selects |
wife without consulting the Lord about it,
here are % chances to l that he will select
he wrong rib but as women can give their
rhole time and thought to it they are not |
o likely to make such glaring mistakes ,
Women Waiting For wooers
The tendency of the age, says an English
ritter, is to right one of the wrongs of
,odern civilization by changing the old
,ooers, bv making it fashionable for women |
, improve the shining hour by doing the
-ocing themselves. Instead of sitting in |
loated oranges waiting for the coming man,
nev can Just modestly and charmingly take
na load themselves He maintains that |