St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-01-24

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N,AI'fAEE>JjNhEI Mia Hicks in the
ibYMEF ((VbNY 1iBoSton Globe. To
"a LJNfA VIII h imy thinking it is
IN SHH MHX< because they are
A VIE iMO so awfully SuS-
EH " Il piciouS. In the
81 + I&=ss- E~ first place, even
ENSE in childhood they
are suspicious of
nearly every one, and as they grow older
that suspicion grows upon them. Young
girls are taught to be suspicious of their
friends, especially their male friends.
Take, for instance, young lady en-
gagged to be married. Isn't she always
-SuSpecting the young man to whom she
Is engaged is once in while deyotlng
his attentions to some other young lady
say, one 10 whom he has kept com
pany with in the past: and doesn't she
Gf she be like the general ruh of girls
often try to hear all she can about this
young man? And then she puts this
and that bit OF gossip together, and the
result is that her imaginative and sus-
piciOuS nature chillS her heart, and in-
stead of hearing his explanation. she,
day by day. suspects more ard more,
until what was only tritie or nothing
at grSt, becomes as big as a mountain to
this suspicious girl. In this way she
loses the man that she really loves.
Then. again. let this same girl marry.
and it is the suspicious married women
that are to be pitied. 1t is many peo-
pies nature to be suspicious, and. in
measure, they cannot help it; but 1t is
their duty, for the welfare of them
selves, as we'll as those around them, to
try and overcome it.
You may say jealousy and suspicion
are one and the same, and, in fact, there
Is but this ditfereDce-Suspicion pre-
eedeS jealousy. You suspect something.
and then get jealous of that something
when there is no cause of suspicion. A
mans business may take him
Away From His Home
nearly every evening during the week.
and be tells his wife he has to go to such
Dr. such place. Why does she suspect
that he is going somewhere else that he
does not care 10 tell her? She doesn't
know why she does. but she does, and
ten out of fifteen would do the same.
After he has gone out she seems to
he be going beside where he told me?"
until her Suspicious MUD comes to the
conclusion that he Is deceiving her.
She is eager for his return that she
may question him. and by so doing now
and then she thinks, There! He is
slowly giving himself away" and she at
last accuses him of what she suspects,
and, as is generally the case, a few
words are spoken by both that they will
repent of when their temperS are in a
more tranquil condition.
1t may be all suspicion on the wife's
part, and then again she may suspect
right, for men. as we'll as women, are
queer creatures. If women would be
happier. they must suspect less. If men
would be happier.and make their wives
also, they must make cOnfidantS of them
and tell them some OF their business
matters, and let them see why they have
TO be away from home evenings. Do
and when asked the reason, "Ohi bust
ness, business that you wouldn't under
ltand. Goodbye"
''Well, now. when the business, bust
ness" goes on too long IN this manner.
what wife is there but what will SuS-
pect, unless told something of the ma
ture of that business? The wife some
times tries to find an excuse for going
out evenings, and if she isn't home
body she will not be long finding an eX-
cuSe to 90, or go without one perhaps,
aid who
Would BE More Suspicious
than the husband were the wife to re-
peat his own words to him: "Ohi YOU
wouldn't understand if | told you.
Good by"
When the man begins to suspect he is
worse than the woman, for nothing can
check bis imagination. In this way wife
and husband are both unhappy, and
many times separate, when her suspi-
clonS at nrSt led her to believe he was
decelying her, and to give him a lesson
she enacts the same role. Perhaps
she goes to friends house to
spend the evening, Just to make
him think she is somewhere else. And
when they both suspect each other,
what more happiness can they expect
TO take together? They may have been
happy before suspicion came to mar
that happiness, and they 60 on. if they
do not separate, and live the rest Of
their days i'll perfect inharmOny.
There are women and men who do
not have suspicious dispositions, and
they are to be envied, but they are
scarce.
a suspicious person can never be
happy long at time.
The women are not wholly TO blame.
a man may marry a girl who would not
think of suspecting him of doing a
wrong. and as time goes on he may say
to himself, ''Oh! well. she will never
know. I'll do this or that, and tell her
something different" and he may be
successful for time, but there are not
many women who, in time, will not
IND out some little things that will lay
4 IF ;o,o
hearts, and once rooted there, only all
the power in heaven or on earth could
uprOot it.
80, husbands, make eonfidants of your
wives. and wives make the same of your
husbands. Know the young lady'S dis
position before marriage, and girls visa
versa, as we'll lis you can. Do not
Marry in Haste
and do not marry young. AS the say
Ing goes, "A young man married ia
married" Know at least your own
mind first, and never marry until Won
do.
"All is not gold that glitters," and a
beautiful girl on the outside NAV be a
beautiful fend Oh the inside. A man
with smooth tongue and fine appear
ance may be smooth-tongued villain,
ana therein lies suspicion. You can't
help but suspect; but to carry it to ex
tremes, and where a wife suspects
something wrong of her husband every
time he turns around and the
husband suspects his wife-well,
there isn't much of paradise for them
OH this earth. They are the ones who
are always glad to hear, "In heaven
there is no uniting of husband and
wife ,, for IhpV think tbpv CON ,,rf =, =
with it while on earth. But rest assured
they will keep their distance when they
reach the other side. There are many
things which cause unhappiness,, but OF
all things suspicion is the most to be
avoided. When husband and wife dc
not try to deceive, even in trifling
things, they may be happy, but not unit
then.
There are the married man and woman
who fiirt. Why they do it no one seems
to know. 1t seems TO be catching, and