The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-02-13
HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
Good Bachelors Some Zines
Spoiled by Mar"
rage.
TRIALS THAT WOMEN MAY SUFFER
Thorough Men Apt 10 Be Selfish
and Undesirable-,Hints to
Maidens Vino Stand
at the Threshold.

AS JQere are All SOrLS anu CouultlOuS u
men, so there are all sorts and conditions
of husbands. Fate sometimes spoils a
good bachelor to make a bad husband.
And Socrates gave the key of the situa-
ton to his brethren by saying, Marry or
not, yon'ilTrepeut il whichever you dc"
Nothing tests the merits of husbands
like time and children. Some husbands
are angels until responsibilities in the
shape of bills and babies come trundling
by the cart load. No woman knows her
husband until he becomes a father. A
thousand virtues spring to being which
she never dreamed he possessed. Or, on
the other hand, if the sacrifices he
is obliged to make are not agree
able to him. he reveals the cIoven
foot. The children fastened the revela-
ton. Time would have betrayed it later
Gu. The woman who has this family at
tachment is to be pitied.
THE STUBBORN KIND.
One of the most interesting phenom-
ena to come under this subjecS is the
stubborn husband He is not u tad man.
He is contrary and he mas to be managed.
He is usually married to II clever little
woman who is constantly devising
schemes to accomplish the things which
bl0hS tbSth VII ~
no suspicion of this. If he had he would
be SO mao he could undoubtedly eat her.
So all through life she goes on swinging
a turnip ahead OF his nose to make him
go the same as though he were u balky
mule. She is q CHEEKY little body and she
grows plump with every year and she
does her smiling behind the door, or she
chuckles in her sleeve when he 10 not by.
The stubborn husband is as interesting as
II bug. The Jealous husband is a terror.
He is an Insult TO his wife's honor. Words
fail to paint him. Tar would be Il good
think for him., with a generous allow
ance Of feathers to adhere to it. Women
make good husbands out of any material
more easily than out of jealous charac-
teristics. There is something SO per-
| sonal about his offensiveness nat she is
| rarely able to give her powers full play.
He dwarfs and embitters her nature.
Women and men, too, usually live up to
what is expected of them and the chanceS
are that by and by she will give
him cause for jealousy. She tires
ofsaathe name wlthout the game.
THE HUSBAND.
The thorough husband is y trial He
was a bachelor, or he was meant for one,
but he fell in iove with u sweet little
woman who had no bump OF order in her
Uranium. Poor little dear! She a no
idea what she was getting into when she
| married her neat, exquisite lover. She
ha0 q RAAh AistAS - 49,
ated him, and a lot of fluffy brown hair
| and the dearest little dimples that lodged
| about from cheek to chin, when she
talked. in a most irresistible
manner. What Is abnnp OF
ine attractions? A little dust on the floor
or chaos in "a bureau drawer is not
enough to cloud her happiness. She has
philosophy enough to enjoy life If he will
allow her. But he is a thorough man.
When he puts on clean linen he looks
| through the entire stock to find some
article which is out of repair. When he
finds. it, which he is sure to do, because
ne searches so thoroughly-well, never
mind what happens. BY and by she
lapses into an a%pologetic state or she is
always on the defensive. In time he be-
| comes crank. She loses the dimples
and tries to be orderly. Thorough men
should not be recommended by matrl-
monial bureaus, because they are apt to
be also selfish men.
THE PROFESSIONAL MAN.
The professionally intellectual husband
is an ornament to any family. He marries
to have his superior personal interests
looked after in an unSelfish manner by
the woman he honors. h intellectual
husband has pursuits of his own. The
man of acknowledged brain capacity,
commonly called a great man, never or
rarely ever marries q woman who will be
congenial. He searches diligently for a
wife, and one day he comes across a little
woman with a head so empty he could
beat a rat-tat-tat easily Oh her vacant
Uranium, and then he Is satisfied He
marches away with her in triumph. She
finds on reflection that she is married toaa
man who absorbs her personally. Event
ually she rises to the level of Il domestic
necessity. He, in the meantime, lives
under a glass case. She is sacrificed
on the altar of his self-esteem. The
incorporate husband is q creature of
circumstance. He is TO be pitied. II he
had no such bad ma bit before he was mar
ried, then his wife is in a great measure
responsible for it. She should keep her
eyes open. II a man is weak enough to
drink whiskey, he is not too strong to he
controlled. Sne can control him il she
wishes to. Ii she canuot control him she
is weak herself. She might absent her.
self from her domain Absence has often
been found a cure for intemperance.
Boiling water is another cure. The cruel
husband who cannot appreciate the devo-
ton of one good woman n desires to
devote himself promiscuously Is beyond
redemption. He has no principle. The
man without principle is n mere cumberer
of the earth. HIS wife should devote
herself 10 mission work and have inter-
ests OF her own. It's not worth her wnlle
to watch or wait for that kind OF u nus
band. She might pray. 1t would do no
harm .-Bro0klyn Citizen.
CLUB GOSSIP.