The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1892-09-25

e." lar with women. lie
may be able to enjoy himself in thou
sand ways without her, yet he is secretly
uneasy if be finds himself outside the
pale Of her regard.
Some of the most brilliant men the
world has known did not know how to
please women. They would have been
no less great and far more agreeable
had they possessed this faculty.
While there are variety Of tastes in
this matter, there are certain things
which a man must not do if ne would
please us. Personal experience, obserya-
ton and the condolences Of hundreds of
girls and the criticisms of hundreds OF
women all render me certain of my
grounds In this matter.
The very first thing a man should
learn is when to go! have known fas-
cinating and charming fellow, who had
made an excellent impression, to utter
ly ruin his chances of pleasing lady
by prolonging his call until he wearied
her.
1t is a dangerous thing 10 do once;
twice it is fatal. Until woman loves
her patience is easily exhausted, and
once impatient with a man for his lack
of perception she never feels the proper
respect afterward.
The finest strain Of music falls I'M
needed on the most appreciative ears If
played too long; the grandest opera be-
comes tedious if it fingers through five
long acts; the most entertaining man
can prolong his call until he becomes a
bore.
A short visit brought TO IN end at the
moment when the lady seems most in
terested is a sure way of securing pleas
ant recollections from her. No matter
if she pouts at the brevity of the call, a
wise man will not prolong 1t, but viii
make his exit with graceful comph-
ment. Better leave her pouting with
pique than signing with relief.
Neither should a man call too con-
otantly until he is an alilanced lover.
He lacks wisdom if he does not allow
himself to be missed now and then. |
have heard scores of girls speak Of some
attentive man in this way:
ooh, he is sure to make himself visible
before the day closest You may be sure
he will invent some pretext to call be-
fore night"
Triumph and irony always mingle
with pleasure in womans tones when
she speaks like this.
Let him absent himself for day or
two unexpectedly, and both triumph and
irony give way to solicitude. But he
should be careful not to make his alb
sence too prolonged. Once let him seem
TO neglect her, and a woman soon for
gets a man with whom she is not wholly
in love.
a woman never likes a man who is
sarcastic and harsh in his criticisms of
other men. 1t seems always 70 indicate
lack Of confidence in his own worth;
in his ability to hold his own against
others unless he depreciates them, and
the moment man doubts himself we
doubt him also.
asked a bevy of bright girls today
what they most disliked in man.
Said No. /:
ii dislike to have him make apologies
for his dress. A man should never
speak Of his clothes to lady"
Said No. Q:
81 dislike 10 have man agree with
me in everything say and never offer
an amendment"
Said No. 81
IL dislike man who makes me do
all the entertaining"
Said No A:
II dislike a man who talks on ono
subject until be exhausts it and me.
want him to change the topic before l
am tired of it."
Said No 5:
81 loathe a man who is afraid of
drafts, and who is forever fussing about
doors and windows, irrespective of other
peoples comfort"
Said No. 6:
81 detest cynical man who has no
fifth in human nature or motives, and