Arizona republican., 1892-02-24
HOW TO PLEASE THE GIRLS.
Some Plain Talk to Young Men wbs
 Think Themselves Pretty Poor.

Some Plain Talk to Young Men Who
 Think Themselves Pretty Poor.
 From the time you begin to pay atten- tion to any set of girls you want to study to please them, and you want to keep on studying as long as you live. Don't try to get out of it by saying that you haven't much money, and that every thing that girls like costs an awful lot. The poorest of you manage to- find money enough to keep yourselves on good terms with the boys. You have some habit or indulgence which you spend money to gratify. Think the matter Ovor and make up your mind which you like best-the boys, your own pet gratifi- cations or the girls. If you can't put the girls first you had better drop them. It may be hard to do, but it's easier and less humiliating than to have them drop you. If you haven't much to do with, do the best you can with what you have. No more will be expected of you than what you can do.
 Don't drop into sentimental dismal ness because you cant buy an opera box like some city swell, or drive fast country. It is not so much the cost of what you do as the way you do it that the girl will notice and talk about. If you'll be man enough to study girls tastes and gentleman enough to think about them real hard, you will find ways of showing what sort of stuff is in you, no matter how poor you are. 2 Usually girls get mp all the parties, and the young men accept such affairs as naturally as if they were meals at home or the boarding house, or something else to which they are entitled, instead of special courtesies, which deserve special recognition. It isn't custom for a young fellow to get up parties on his own account, but he ought to have enough manliness and manners to devise some means of returning the compli- ment.
 If he cant do it with his own purse and brains be can get some other fellow to help. Any two or three clever young fellows can find plenty of ways of enter taining or amusing their entertainers if they will pool their brains and pocket books. If they're not clever, the best thing they can do is to make themselves so as soon as possible, for they can't ever expect to be "solid" with the girls with out it.
 Don't imagine yourselves generous be- cause you spend time thinking what lovely things yon would do for the girls if you only had lots of money. Any fool can do that and yet die as mean as a skinilint. It takes thinking and work and self denial for any one to be gener- ous unless he has great deal more money than he knows what to do with, and nobody ever knew a man as rich as that. Besides there are plenty of ways of doing nice things for the girls with out spending much money, and you'll find out some of them if only you'll be generous with your time and wits.
 If you can afford cigars, or even cig- arettes, you can afford to do the proper thing for the girls. One common cigar a day costs as much as two good theater tickets month. Fewer scarfpins mean more bouquets, and one bouquet will go further toward making you 'solid" with a girl than whole jewellers case full of scarfpins.
 A suit of clothes little less costly than the one you meant to buy will save you the price of ride or two for the girl, who will care more for one ride than for all tho clothes you may try to show off in. A girls own clothes are all she can pay attention to, unless the others are shabby or fit badly
 No matter what you do, though, for the dear creatures, you must put your generosity into your manners as well as into your doings. Don't act, as n good many yonng fellows do, as if you were paying debt when you do anything nice for the girls, for whatever they do for you isn't for pay-it's a gift, and must be returned in the same spirit if you wish it to be welcome. Always do a courteous deed as if you were receiving a favor, for that's what it onght to ap- pear to your mind. and that's what it really amounts to if you are the right sort of fellow. There are some young men who pay their social debts with the air of man paying bill, and the girls | are very quick to catch on to that sort of thing. Chicago Globe.