Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1892-11-06

save with her eyes and her arts Of co.
qustry. which are As old as time and
love.
But during the last two years some
strange cases have come TO my direct
attention which propose 70 relate in
this article. hoping it may fall under the
eyes Of those referred TO and cause
reformation
IL Is very well for woman TO break
some of tho old letters forged by igno-
rance and tyranny, but all right minded
people must draw the line when il comes
u loyemaking OF giving of attention.
The moment a woman Is the pursuer
aud man pursued sentiment becomes
grotesque and romance ridiculous, and
tho sweetest and dearest illusions Of life
are destroyed.
A young man Of my acquaintance met
a very pretty young lady while he was
on business trip 10 one of the smaller
critics adjacent TO New York.
Their acquaintance was but slight
when he was surprised at receiving let
ter from her. However, he regarded her
writing the first letter as a mere girlish
freak and paid no attention to the mat
ter until she wrote again in a most un-
mistakahly tender manner.
In fact she told him that il had been
case Of love at first sight on her part,
and she hoped it was the same with him,
and assured him that her parents would
render them very comfortable in life, as
she was an only child.
The young man knew that she was a
good girl morally; that she would in
herit money. and that she was exceed
ingly pretty. But he never replied 10 her
letter. feeling only disgust at her bold
ness. Her virtue. beauty, youth and
wealth were ali lost upon him through
her having taken the initiatory steps. A
man resents q woman's robbing him of
his rights of pursuit.
Another man Of my acquaintance was
somewhat fascinated by handsome
woman few years his senior. He was
thinking seriously of proposing 10 her
when she anticipated his intention by a
bold suggestion OF wishing they might
always be together, which drove him in
stantly from her side.
The young women who ask men for
attention and compel them to become
escorts are alarrningly on the increase
Although the chaperon system is prev.
alent in the small, exclusive circles Of
our largest cities, there are still hun
dreds OF thousands of cultured, charming
young ladies in New York and else
where who attend theaters and operas
AMI receptions with gentlemen escorts
unaccompanied by chaperon. IL viii
require another hundred years before
this custom is relegated 10 the grisettes
and peasants. as In other countries.
Young women who come 10 New York
10 study for a career seldom come
ehsperoued, and depend upon the oppor-
tunities afforded by gentlemen friends to
attend places Of amusement.
One OF these young women brought
letters Of credit TO me. and found her
50 bright and charming invited her 10
my house. To my establishment heard
her ask young gentleman in my par
Tors to take her 20 hear popular actress
then playing in the city. The gentle
man Of course Promised to do so, and
daring the next month he was her escort
20 half n dozen places Of amusement.
al ON her invitation This young WON
an have heard spoken Of as $50 enter
prising. 80 popular" and such an en-
ergstic creature" by many people. but
for me she had spoiled herself by her
methods Of obtaining attention.
Another young woman Of excellent
family came TO New York 20 study
music. She was quite belle in her own
smaller city. and she found IL impossible
% i've without social life in the metrop-
oils. She complained 40 bitterly 10 me
% her lonely evenings that | took her
ont with me upon two or three occa
sions. Was surprised TO find hsr max
Ing tour u all the theaters and places
of amusement after that in company
with gentleman Of my acquaintance
When rsified upon his devotion ne
seemed uncomfortable. and finally con
fidentislly informed me that the young
lady hsd asked him 20 take her to these
places. and ~ could not well refuse. He
begged me "a give her some counsel
Men are such towards about these mat
ters. bus IL i fbsir Esllantry 90 the sex
~hica renders them cowards They
have net the courags - refuse. vet they
severely eriticise the women who ASK
Tor their stteutions. Il - thu greatest
mistake a woman can MAKE
Il - ali very wall when fashionable
Young woman. properly ehsperened. w
vites gentleman 30 occupy neg box A.
me theaeer or operas bss IL i qaita an
other thing when q girl with career
axis man 20 devote time and money ~
her enteftssnment
9. seem. - me that 30 woman With a
spark - refinement OF good taste or
sensifaent could a. sneb thing
ms growing evil = M donbt ono ~
ne ds.sst@r~ sftsndsns arsn womsn's
frsnsitipn state frora q usei~ss toy % a
more eaisre~t sphere. she ev~fst~fs
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