St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-01-24

discussing the question. How to man.
age wives" AS for that. however,
something must be conceded to the diff
ferent nature of the problems and to
the factors. Men are practical and bus
iness-like. They found out long ago
that the only way to manage wives is to
let them manage themselves, and so
they do not waste time in talking about
it. Women are scheming and adroit.
They have had enough success in GER
tain cases to convince them that hus-
bands can be managed. but have not
yet arrived at an infallible formula for
the process; hence they are still talking
about it.
AS might be supposed, a great variety
of views was presented at the meeting
referred to; but, to the credit of the par
Elephants in the discussion, be it said
that none of them seemed to look at the
did not take the ground that the proper
management Of husband consisted i'm
making him submissive to his wife in
every respect and with no individuality
of his own. On the contrary, the pre-
vailing sentiment appeared to be that
such husband was not worth having.
The husband of SOrosis' ideal, it we
may sketch him from the condensed
report of the meeting published. is a
man who is faithful to his martial
vows, provides for his family as we'll as
his means will permit, and loves his
wife well enough to SympathiZe with
her troubles and share with her his en-
joyments. Surely this is not an extrav-
agant expectation for any honest man to
measure up to. No man would have his
friends think him to be less.
WOman-like. the majority of the
speakers eXhOrted their hearers TO man.
age themselves as the best means of
managing their husbands. The burden
of their arguments seemed to be: Ex-
ercise, patience, forbearance. discretion,
and if these do not make your husband
all that he should be, they will at least
enable you to bear with his faults and
get along with him somehow. Marion
Harland" Terhune stated formula
might have given recipe for a new
padding for the next edition of her
cook book. Said she:
Politeness is like gingerbread-it is only
good when il is homemade and cannot be
bought with money. However kind and
intelligent Jones may be- he needs to be
cleverly managed when in double harness.
to be coaxed and pettedup to what other
wise he might shy at. II he is prone to saw
agery when hungry, and he usually is,
wise wife viii wait until he has dned before
broaching unpleasant matters. If he is IN
clined 10 object to everything she proposes,
as some Johns are, simply because she lisa wo-
man, she will learn to make him propose the
thing she desires. and think it his own idea.
Men may be gay deceivers i'll love. but at
home they are the most gullible and trans
parent of beings.
John is neither saint nor a hero. He
never tried to make Mary believe he was. He
has objected to being canonized. and Mary is
more often to blame for her disillusions than
he is. Men are not to be measured by fem
mime ideas or ideals. Put him in his proper
h 1s<~Iz&
mon sense. and if he is true to his vows let
Mary thank heaven fasting for good mans
love.
Almost any man would be willing to
be managed in that way, but hot every
woman has the tact to do it. Mrs. Ter
hune's daughter, Mrs. Herrick, said a
sensible thing when she remarked that:
One of the first lessons q wife has to learn
is that her husband has a right to his own
individuality, and that while she can inspire
him to greater achievement in work for
which he has bias, she cannot, as she may