The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1892-05-18
A Delightful Diversion.

A Delightful Diversion.
In this glorious springtime it Is RELIEF
to turn from the hideous vice which SEN
sutional and gross-minded preacher mas
unearthed In New York. and fix our
thoughts on tho engaging. elevating.
and altogether fascinating subject OF
true and beautiful love. the pure ana
tender sentiment which dominates the
hearts Of tho great mass Of men and women
in this vast community, and lifts them
above the temptations to tho evil whose
fatal provocation has been so gricvously ag-
cravated by his vile and devilish methods.
We are led into this delightful path by
correspondent who asks our advice under
circumstances which he relates thus:
.rhrs, years ago loved a young lady became i'll
and whls sick she married another. was NOT en-
gagged to her. have learned since that she was NOS
ali my enrapturei fancy pictured her and have no re-
grcts in tho matter Since then nave t'rmea
another attachment. sincere and aroent. pus NV
young lady heard Of flrss love- in facs to'u
her. and tho moro she becomes attached to me .ae
more she pro that she could not be happy with
man who loved before Attached to me as she Is she
is disposed to think 1t wiser not to marry me, bus
marry o man she does not love. hoping to lovo MIN
after IN arrage. Ia her reasoning corrsct' Can man
love more than II THE suy will throw light on
this subject perhaps two persons may become happy
Undoubtedly man can love moro than
once. That is matter OF demonstration.
for multtudes of men have loved and really
loved several women in turn. Probably the
majority Of men do not marry their first
loves. The first love Of q man frequently.
If not usually. captures his heart before he
mas reached full maturity. Oftentimcs
she Is older than he. woman. while
he is barely beyond boyhood: and
this youthful passion may be the
most purely ideal that ever masters him.
and the most enthralling. It may he love
simply, with no thought Of marriage and
possession. the worship as OF a goddess. 1t
passes away. and there succeeds in due time
the natural and healthy and masculine SEN
timent which leads a man to WOO woman
as a bri.le. Tho first served as an educator
for the second; the fanciful made way for
the real
So, also, II man fails in love adventure.
as did our correspondent, he is bound to
get moro completely than before under the
thraldOm when he is again made captive
by the tvrant. The healer OF his torn and
bleeding heart will bc doubly powerful over
him, as a physician who has cured so dcs-
perate malady and as a being of n lowell
ness so surprising that she has made him
forget the poignancy of his past sufferings
in the joy of experiencing anew the pangs
which are so surely symptomatic Of his COM
plcte recovery from the original disease.
Oh. yes; a man can love more than once.
There is no doubt about that. Some fell
lows contend that they are capable OF low
To, |, ntf ln trna
bat they are only trying to excuse their
faithlessncss. and women, very rightly, re-
fuse such divided passion. This is II mono
gamic country. We have no liberation for the
arguments Of the polygamists. well know
ing that in polygamy the elcvating and po-
etical sentiment Of love can have no exist
cnce. Yet. as tho experience of the world
shows. true and genuine love may be kin
died anew in a manly heart which had pre-
viously been devastated by feminine periidy.
Undoubtedly the fair object of our friends
rckind.cd affection might learn to love n
man after marriage who had not captured
her heart before. That often happens and
it may happen also that a woman will learn
to unlovc IL man after she has married him.
though before she imagined that her heart
was wholly his. Expecting nothing OF SEN
timeEt IN niatriniony. She may DO surprised
by getting abundance. and entering into the
state with the expectation OF illimtabe
blissfuness. she may find that because OF
her very enthusiasm OF affection, with its
OSCILLATIONS, her hopes and dreams and
imaginings will be crushed out or brutally
dlstigured by actual companionship with
the creature she pictured as god, when in
reality he was only poor imperfect. and
perhaps commonplace man. Unromnntlc
respects of great value in marriages. after
oil. It's enduring in it's quality. 1t stands
by you; and the man who secures it from
a wife has her bound to him by
bonds into whose composition the material
of genuine affection is likely to enter more
and moro as time wears on. We are not
prepared to say. therefore. that your
charmer might not in the end be happier
with the other fellow than with you. She
seems to DO OF u jealous disposition. per-
haps little hysterlcal. and she might find
securer anchorage in the placid waters Of
the other mans affection. II he Is worthy
to be her husband and would prove a strong
stay for her. the chances are that her lifo
would be far from miserable with him. and
In years to come she would look back Mt tho
little episode Of her gir!!sh love for you as
danger happily escaped
Gro ahead. however. and pay no heed To
her objections. If she loves YOU and really
wants to marry you, she will get over all
that. Throw il out Of your path as n purely
imaginary obstacle, for Only Imaginary and
whimsical it is. Refuse II talk about it.
Treat it as Il mere morbid fancy. Dis
cuss rather the day when the minister
shall DO summoned. and the ordering of
tho establishment to which you will lead
your happy bride when the wedding Is over.
Ignore the whole subject Of her doubts