The Helena independent. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1875-1943, 1892-03-11
WHERE LOVING WAYS RULE
The Beautiful Life Is Easier to Be
Lived Than Is the Mean
One
Gentleness and Kindness In tho
Household InsepnraAAe From
Happiness.
Wonderful Power in Being Right-A
sunny Old Age-An Ideal Now
Years MarninE.

S @rA %sH 1GSrb 1A0EA10ks H ~
+ know a home where loving ways rule.
The children awe grown up In ths atmos'
phere of intense affection and DEVOTION
and have caught the spirit OF II. Every
attention il paid to the removal OF lrrltat'
inr influences, SO that tho work OF llvina
finely shall be easy. The law of the house
hold is to be gentle and generous, and 80 bs
hapnv. Ths more think Of this, writes
Mary Il. Spencer III tho St. Louis Globe
n.mocrat. ths more [ sm convinced that
thu beautiful life is easier to be lived than
the mean one.
st is easier for a child to be good than
bad. If We can persuade them OF that,
thew will follow the right path. The east
est way to persuade them is to set thsm An
a1nrpls ourselves. / bellows more ohll-
drsp are tortured by scolding into bad
habits than are saved from them.
The tongue is q dangerous whip. ihers
nrs a host of parents and teachers VINO
are herror-strack st the thought OF physl-
cnl punishment, but who lacsrate THO nor
IONS svstem with sharp words. Remember
that solomon's rod bruises only the 'ausou-
lar system. What parents need ia to under
st.nd that the nervous system is the easisst
wounded and the least easily hsalsd. 1t 10
by all odds the highest part OF tbs human
organism; ard when once overstralneu OF
anfesbled will probably never De healed
The whole burden of training should be TO
see that only fine influences play on the
Young nerves. l have seea children liter
allv tortured by the ungoverned tongue.
Corporal punishment is e1cusabIe only
when gentle and beautiful ways fail 70
secure right doing. Then let the lashlns
not be dome with the tongue. l mean
TO include the lecture as we'll as the
soold: for there is to me nothing more
a%ppravating than the cool, deliberate, IN
yufled and protractsd lecture. If q boy is
doing wrong tell him of it in a short. clear,
plain wsv; thor do what you can to show
him a way of honor. Then know when TO
xton. All the time our example speaks
Ionder than words. The chief difficulty
with family governments is the consciousness
that Va are not right ourselves. There IL Il
wonderful power in being right. 1t gives
an instructive method for getting Ut ana
winning others. If the child secs that We
find i very d III sil3 10 hs % ra u1unf sia eaa
rOE 00OuIS l& lac II ~
fail. Bat beware of pretsnsss; they WILL
surely see through us.
a word for ourselves. Are we happy!
Anart from the children, are We satlshed
With our own lives? Do We reach any IDEAL!
Do we come up even to our second Dss1 OF
third best conception OF the gooas 40
not mean are We touching peFteotlon,
which is . silly ideal for any one; but are
wa making fine progress? Are ws slaves to
habits that should be broken! Ga the
whole, does tho life We lead tend, ever SO
SLOWLY. downward to enfeeblement or CHAR
actor, or upward? 1t seems to me the chief
question with a woman is not whether she
has a model husband, but whether sho be a
model wife. To be a model mother Is sure
to make model children-lf anything Will.
To fret at our hindrances will take up ell
of life and waste cur o~pportunltles. nc Dc
beautiful where we are, and under given
circumstances, is the problem Tor US. by
sort of beauty; q purity and calm outlook
that makes the most of life, rather than
frsts and dsspairs at what We have not.
What in the world is more beautiful than
a sunny old age? The light IL more red
than blue or yellow. 1t Is ike That OF
October, when all the trees are warm WIN
color, and the fence rails are wrapped in
warm blankets of ivy. Is old age as besutl-
full as it was fifty years ago? We remem-
Der, of course, the old homestead before in
v%entions had made it g part OF the whirl
of tho world. There were some charming
features about that simple life. 1t did not
Jake so much to make psople happy. The
vim of life was not Tar of. This universe
was smaller. Religion was lived in q worry
homely round of faith and works. Nobody
had doubts or questions. Now the dear old
heads can not sit contentedly in the chim-
ney corner and read the Bible. Bat
old age has its compensatioas. Peo-
pie are fresher now at ~ nan
they were at so two generations ago. Even
as vell-born and well-kept a philosopher as
"Poor Richard was broken up ut 10. Most
of the worlds great men and women died
by the sgs of 60 or G5. A beautiful life now
may live on up to 50 without breaking up
badly. But if feeble hereslty and a nerv-
oup waste intervene we go to pieces earlier
than our ancestors. How shall old age be
most beautiful? Not any longer by being
the more relic of an immensely stout phyal-
cal organism than death can not quite mas
ter, but by being q fairly active continue
ton of well-spent youth and middle life.
No one cam or ought to be satisfied With
feebleneas that comes from overwork and
neglect of the undinching laws of nature.
l have an ambition to 90 INTO old age
strong, wholesome and helpful.
A noble household adjusts itself to al
OCCASIONS, aud brings good out OF al
changes. Some there ate who have three
or luuf MONDAYS III q Jeal, LIB h5Clet VI
good living il to make every day a holiday
that is holy to fine purposes and noble
deeds, aad the art of making others happy,
OF all fine arts this IL the finest. to livs
outside of ourselves and be twice eve,
happy in the JOY of those We aid. This if
possible not only for the whole household
but for many outside its range. A little
study given to the poor and troubled, auc
tina sinful az we'll, will wonderfully relieve
our own personal worries. There is no edu
cation for noble children like teaching then
to sock to do good. EyarT sunday shoult
be a holy dEy, not for rich dressing anc
formal worship, but for doing something
to make some one happy. 1t should b,
a part OF the family plan. DO you know
how beautiful your boys will be If brough'
up in that manner, and hsv pure ana Iowa
Bile will be your girist Let u8 also have
our special saints' days wien we try TO dc
and be as near as possible us we believe
Some noble character would do. Na8ning-
tom birthday and Liucoln's and Frank.
Inns: and Agassi2's sad Darwin's nnt
Humbolat's; and Dorothy DiI's and Flor.
ence N~ightingals's and ST. Agatha's: ali,
st. Pattick's, and some more of ths sainte
-as we'll IN that of the sWaetest and tues
of all, Jesas-euch afford TEXTURES for dc
lightful character & owth. So let us bsglI
our each New Year, and live it TO It's close
The light of a winters me ming ia JUS
putting out the stare. There is a lieh
mantle of snow over the trees. The Grim
son touch on some light clouds over tn
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