The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-02-20
Ralph Thinks That
the Peculiar Life of To-
day Makes Women
Good Ones.
EXAMPLES Which PROVE THE ASSERTION.
Love and Self Sacrifices Lead to
True Comradeship-A Grave
Woman's Battle
for Life.

What sort of a wife makes a good COM
rade for u manf What constitutes COM
radeship between husband and wife?
will put the answer in Il nutshell pres
emily, but first let us take a look around
at some women who illustrate various
phases of that peculiar and right relation.
know a young woman VINO is super
intending her brothers. sheep ranch on
the plains. She is a city girl, a college
graduate, a refined woman, but she
mounts a horse at daybreak, frequently.
and rides over the ranges to make sure
that the herders move the fiocks out of
the night corrals betimes. That woman
is an ideal comrade for her brother; she
shares his life and pleasures aud cares.
know a woman in Canada. who i'll true
| co~mradeslip, shared with her husband the
business reverses that shouldered them
both out Of comfort in a great city TO
begin life anew in a two-by-six border
village. She makes that wretched place
| seem gay to him because she fills his life
with cOntentment and with love OF her.
Gu one occasion she had an awful fright
and a narrow escape from death, u she
made u joke of it because, she says, she
btlOukut DO hta OuO u - D1o@
of Indians came in his absence to rob the
store and do murder. She ordered them
| out, and actually pushed the leaders as IL
they had been wooden cigars sians that
she was showing out. her childish
strength, her sudden action, her noun
tain moving pluck formed q combination
that was too much for the Indian mind
to com prehend, and she won the battle
/ know a woman of famous blood who
| lives on Murray Hill and leads II life of
pleasure and devotion to fashion. Tie
last time that / saw iisr she WIS debat-
ing whether to go to that bed which had
only known her for five hours in TWO
nights. or to join her husband in q dash
on horseback through The park. 1t Was
a short debate and could only end in one
way, for she and her husband are like a
boy aud girl together, side by side on
horseback, at tennis at swimming, yacht
Ing, shooting, billiards and at whatever
either likes-which is another way OF say
ing whatever both like.
GUIDE, PHILOSOPHERS N FRIEND.
know the wife of q very famous liter
airy man; she is most intent in bringing
up her children in the way she would
| have them 20. Yet she is her husbands
| comrade. She seems to share even his
| inspirations, and whether she has
purposely educated herself in his
liues of study, or whether, as they would
say down South, "she Just natu-
rally likes what ne likes" l do not know.
Yet / do know that she is his guide.
philosopher and friend, that he consults
her about everything, and that half his
reputation ought TO be hers. | have Sc en-
those babies jeopardizing their lives and
the sbeautirul furnitures.of that home
while she sat absorbed In the books in
which she sought to find what her hus-
band needed TO know. Hers and his is an
intellectual comradeship. but it is perfect,
none the less.
WHAT ENCOURAGES C%oMRADEsHIP.
ALI these cases seem very unlike one
another, and yet through all of them runs
the same chord. III tnat chord lies the
answer to the question, What consti-
tutes Il -comradeshlp between a man and
wife?"
It's love; the two must be in love.
It's a cheap wit which in every age since
love began has made out that love Is dead
or moth-eaten or laid away. 1t isn't. l
know plenty of homes in which IL | rang
the door bell and asked. SIS love IMP" the
answer would be Yes, indeed"
know plenty of houses of the other
sort, OF course.
There is nothing new about any sort of
c~onlradeship. 1t is oftenest found be-
tween girl and girl and man and man.
Married life to be a success. to impress
true ~comradeship, must be u succession
of self-sacrifices and adaptations on both
sides until both lives meet on IA level.
+ / see all over the country y tendency
among women that may interfere with
the comradeship possible in some cases.
while it offers relief from the misery of
miscarriage i'll others. Women are es-
tablishing affairs of their own that take
them out of the currenG of the lives of
their husbands. Some have their literary
c~oteries, others their philanthropic work,
Others studies of specialties, still more are
involved in social circles which include
huchaIprs ann Girls hlt laAvp thu hnS-
bands to their clubs.
wI do not know whether this is an up
growth of a movement or whether it is a
movement that will put the fair sex
where it is in certain European capitals,
where women live in u world of their
own, which dominates that of the men.
But if there ever was a time when tru
comradeship between man q woman
could be nobly delightful it is now, when
women are SO much more ulany-sided
than in the DAYS gone by.-Juli1n Ralph
in Philadelphia Inquirer.