Smyrna times., 1892-05-04
The HAPPY MARRIAGE,
TALK TO THOSE ABOUT TO LEAP THE
MATRIMONIAL PRECIPICE.

In a Talk to.those About to Marry y
the author of How to be Hannv
Though Married." says: heard a girl
not long ago who was going to be mar.
rled saying to friend of hers. 81 won
der If l ought to tell him all ?' Proba-
bly, this ''all'' did not refer to ANYTHING
more criminal ON a girls part than
some mild Irritation, but certainly
did think it would be best for her 70
tell her future husband all.
Nor ought married people to listen
to censure against each other even
though 1t fall from father, mother, sis
Ter or brother Indeed, the best wav
OF Keeping on friendly terms with ones
relations-in-law land we ought to trv
TO DO thls) is not to see very much of
them, especially during the first wear
after marriage. Sometimes. from a
false notion OF economy, the mistake
Is made of trying to get two families
TO live IN one house as if thew were
one but the result is nearly always
disastrous. | once heard d man saw
bitterly II hate the very word law -
why ~ "Oh, because of that sister
| lh-iaW OF mine who lives with u.s."
Two cats and one mouse
Two women in one house,
Two dogs to one bone,
Will not agree long
During the first year married peoDle
have to settle upon what scale they |
intend to keep house. This can be
more easily raised afterward thar
lowered, so they should be careful not
TO pitch 1t higher than they can hope
to continue ii.
Let there be perfect confidence in
this, as in all other matters. between
them. | have known husbands who
never told their wives the exact
amount of their income, and then /
blamed them severely for exceeding it
III pure ignOrence.
SYDNEY SMITHS RULES.
Sydney Smith and Mrs. S. are good
examples for young housekeeDers
Alter his marriage he was very Door
but he had none of the false shame
that more than anything else makes
poverty bitter, and neither he nor she
ever shrank from saying 81 can't afford
H. mere was no seeming in his little
household, substantial comfort-whicb
he called the grammar of Hfen-
being always preferred to outward
show.
Avoid shame, but do not seek
glory. Nothing is so expensive as
glory" This principal regulated every
detail of his establishment. Some Iec-
lures he delivered at the Roval Insti.
tuition enabled him to furnish a larger
house, where he established little
weekly suppers as centres of attraction
70 MS overwhelming circle of friends. j
Nothing could be palmer than these I
suppers were; yet the hosts "feast of
reason and flow of soul" drew all the i
most celebrated people of London to :
share his single dish S
Young couples beginning life have f
1t IN their power TO halve their ankle t
ties and double their chance of haDpi- T
ness If they would resolve to act uDon d
this principle: avoid shame, but do i
not seek glory" t
1t has been remarked that the first r
requisite to success in life is to be a /
good animal. Will it seem shockingIv b
unp0etlcal to suggest that this is also a
a very important element of success in
marriage? If a man cannot do business T
When the nice mechanism of his body |,
Is deranged, neither can he be gentle n
N'Alt- N'AiN ~ VIC ldlully ClIClB. n
The fact that husband and wife have 7
chosen each other implies that thev n
have established Mutual Admiration I
Society but ought they not also form 7
Mutual Improvement Society? Ger n
talnly no example is more powerful n
than that of him or her whose bundle 7
OF life is bound up with our own. And n
here we may drop the hint that mar q
ried people influence each other not so T
much by direct exhortatiOn as by con- +,
sistant example. When Lord Peter il
borough had lodged for sometime with a,
Fenelon, referring to his example, he q
said at parting II shall become a II
christian in spite of myself" In the
same way when one of a married pair
Is a true Christian the other NAV te
not be able to escape becoming the Il
same. m
MAKING A PLEASURE OF DUTY. a,
For the sake of each other, husband "
md wife should acquire the inestima- re
Die art of making duty seem pleasant. Ell
and even disappointment not so blank &C
md crushing. They should be to each &C
)ther like a braeing, crisp, frosty at th
nosphere, without a suspicion of the m
element that chills and pinches. pl
Each young couple that begins W
housekeeping on the right basis brings M
he Garden of Eden before man once er
more. There are they two, alone sh
owe raises a wall between them and
he outer world, There is no serpent. w,
here, and, indeed, he need never tb
,Ome, nor does he, so long as AC2m mr.
md Eve keep him at bay but too on
,ften the hedge of love is broken, lust :
/ little, by small discourtesies, little w
small inciVilities, that on
but surely beComer wider he
md wider holes, until there is no IT
ledge at all, and all sorts of monsters in
inter in and riot there. ne
''Out of the very ripeness of life's core. is
A worm was bred" br
The only real preventative against 90
his worm is true religion. Unhappily ~ IA
or themselves, the healthy and young IG lIi
ometimea fancy that they need not N ~
hink of this, They forget that relig- Su' n
on is required to ennoble and sanctify M M
his present life, and are too liable to IN IN
ssociate it exclusively with the con- ne
emplation of death. aG' aG
IATRIMONY's TEN COMMANDMENTS, me
When Theodore Parker was married an
10 entered in his journal on his we'd Wi
ing day the following resolutions:
First-Never except for the best rea-
ons, to oppose his wife's will.
Second-tO discharge all duties for
Ter sake freely.
Third-Never to scold. ole
FOurth-Never to look cross at her. tai
Fifth-Never to worry her with del
the
Sixth-To promote her piety. go'
Seventh-TO bear her burdens. IN
Eighth-TO overlook her foibles. dis
Ninth--To save, cherish end forever Gel
efend her. int
Tenth-To remember her always in of
ly prayers. Thus, God willing, we Ian
hall be blessed. dei
The commandments which Parker we
ut upon himself are like the old Dec In
logue, all comprehended in One-love. DE
iove is the fulfilling of the matrimoial ide
$ we'll as the Jewish law. ths
the
A West Philadelphia bride-eIect said an,
he was pot going to have any old has
hoes thrown after her, but had a box cor
f brand new slippers sent home for fat
he use of quests who wanted to take a "A Il