Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1892-06-04
THE TWO VISITS.

:, head rcsting on tho pillow Of the
rIalr fell TO meditating. had just TO-
,rrnsd home after paying two short
,i5,s to dear old friends Of my happy
,bool days. who for ten yeara had boen
,.,,rc,sas OF their own homca. was
,,,,pp. az / sat there. to answer the
s.,,iion why 1t was that had enjoyed
visit 20 much morc NJ Mrs. Van
ME. than / did at Mn. Blu,ow'a
IN ladies' were bright, cordial. enter
,lun-, Intelligent and exceedingly
l.ptihlo. aud had looked forward for
.v5 ycnr 10 tho pleasure Of whiting
,,s,n In their own homes.
They were living ~ Inland ciiica about
40 miles apart. Both OF those friends
tsdmarriod lawyer, who were already
,rniug good incomes. aud both familics
lI tho onircc TO tho best society.
Tho homes of these friends were not
o,lt comfortable but exceedingly tasio-
fal aud pleasant, md the children in
Mn homos were bright, handsome aud
merry. with Plastic minds ready to DO
nodded by thnf l'NlltHs
Set with al this similarity IN the so
,,,l posifon VI both families. Ia the IN.
ocmes they received, IN the homes they
h,l built, IN tho education OF the
parenis aud in their church relations
;he atmosphere OF these two homes WI,
yerv different. and a visit In the ono was
A great contrast TO the other
recalled many incidents of tho two
visits. and they convinced me. and
mgre strongly than ever before. that
the mother makes the home. Her taste.
llr methods. her ideas, hor example,
lar influence. her spirit arr all im.
rros,ed upon the household and create
~ atmosphere.
At Mu,. Van Dyko's not only was MI
the household machinery 50 we'll oiled
that IT, running was uoisclcss, but ther,
wasno friction whatever IN the family
Tic household arose bctimes. IN the old
fashioned way. and all the children
werr ready for breakfast when the moa
was announced. aud they appeared ap
propra,ely drc ed, and each with hap
~ face bidding their parents, cacl
other and The gucgts q pleasant goot
morning. Then after morning prayer
In which the servants participated, cncl
OF tho older children quietly disap
pearod from the sitting room 10 attend
to few practical duties before getting
ready for school, appearing ero long
with books In hand, for u goodby lisi
and to hear ihglast chocry word {. On
mother "a they started out.
With perfect couiIS and with nj
apparent trouble. a few friends wor
asked to dino one evening, aud u mos
delightful visit enjoyed. The flowers
the glass, tho silver, the table linen wcr
exquisite. aud tho dinner Of only fou
courses was well cooked, homeli.,e ani
well served. while tho feast Of reason
he quick ropartec, the witty stories. th
hts Of political, social and literary tall
wcrp not only "a pleasure to all the dido
ONES, but a source OF education and cuI
ture 10 the children. Several such IN
formal companies were entertained a
Mn. Van Dykes while WIS thoro.
In eyury department the h0uschol
seemed ~ move along harmuniou,ly an
without apparent oXertion Or undue car
on tho par, Of the mother, The HON
was at all times ia perfect order, M
yet without stiffness or ungularity Wis
bic anywhere.
remembered going into ono Of III
ehildren's rooms 20 look ut o gift OF
pretty picture, and us little Mary opone
bureau drawer | noticed how neat an
orderly It WAS ~ was also her close
whore the shoes aud rubhors oven wei
yet back against the Dashboard wit
regularity aud precision. asked Mr.
Van Dyke when we woro alone II Mar!
who was niue years old, arranged HI
closet and drawers honolf, 10 Hhie
question her mother replied;
Certainly. taught all my chillro
before they were two years old 10 DO o
derby. Even at that age she sail
''you know they are very initiative, an
they love to do little services for the
mothers. ! showed thom just how
put their clothes and shocs away IN d
orderly manner. aud how TO lay thin
In tlicir drawers and keep them neatl
Those early lessons thoy will never 60
get believe sls added, mo matt
how man, eryants one can afford
have 1t Is we'll 10 teach children TO
SELF reliant, aud to do oyerythii
promptly aud well Such teachii
saves vast amount Of work ind OF u
Necessary friction through life. Truo
isihat some children seem TO have ma
ufally more Of u bump Of order thi
0hors, but the orderly habit can ho ca
uvatod. II tho hanging loop u Mary
coat should give way, 80 orderly h
she lccome sh, would moi for n nome
think OF. hanging It upoiAiho hook un
the loop was mouded." f
All this recalled No sat there, al
also what my friend said about her 1t
band whon ! had remarked that | h
never seen gentlemen who seemed
make 30 little trouble about the house
"l!c was u surprise 70 mc In that
spoct,' said Mrs, Van Dyke, "l q
him soon after We were married tina
had Teen accustomed 10 SEQ men lea
everything about for some one TO pi
mp, md asked hun how It happened ii
he was no neat aud orderly. llo -
that When no was about thirteen yoi
old no noticed that his mother picked
and nut away what no had left carcle
~ about, ind whom he had tossed ~
bureau drawers his mother, withou
word came and regulated them, and
concluded ono day that no WINS sot
what better ablo 10 do all this than
mother, aud from that time on no mn
nor no trouble in such ways. And
course Mr.. Van Dyke has been gr
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