Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1892-01-31

santages ne has had % os winning his
Nay II the world 20 be able ~ support
household Therefore yoa can be Of
immense use 10 each other, tor while
yoa-u you De not assume the aggres-
save in these naatters-csn guide and
help him IL delightful ways AZ intsllsc-
tnal culture. he can teach You certain
breadth Of view that men get from
minyling with the wsrld-
lie can help you TO become interested
in the politics Of ocr country, IN social
questions. in problems our foreign broth
era are settling with their hearts blood.
Both sides are necessary 70 well round
ed character; excessive devotion 20 either
narrows the life and the views II you
are not interested IN the subjects men,
toned, study and become so. Not TO
echo him. bat TO give intelligent stten-
ton to what interests him and TO Be
able To give him the benefit Of two points
Of view
You want also TO lend your aid in
keeping him alive 10 what Is going on
! in the world Of deed, Is well as IN the
world OF letters, in keeping him public
spirited aad up to his duty Is citizen.
Never fail TO show him the cowardice,
the weakness of saying las SO many Of
our best men do. Politics is hopeless
middle, therefore will not VOTE
which is in enec. saying, BAD men
have got hold of the government, the
making of laws, and are doing every
thing possible TO ruin our country.
therefore I'll shut myself up at home
and let them have their own way"
Make him feel. on the contrary, that
every good man has sacred duty-to do
what one man can to purify politics
i The making Of home Is your beauti-
full and blessed work. No one else can
| do it. and it is because Of your need Of
wisdom and OF tho importance OF all
these points that have dwelt upon
them There can be no real home where
is not affection, intelligence, justice to
| the least one. respect for all and mu-
tral desire to make happy. Grumbling
| and debating. fretting and nagging are
the foes OF the home life, the petty vices
| that undermine so many families. The
first two may be usually laid at your
| husbands door. tho last two are more
| often your own faults. Could you but
realize the power for good of true
home, in the lines of both parents and
! children, l am sure no fretting word
| would ever again come from your lips,
| no nagging would ever again drive your
dear ones out into the world away from
you for peace.
One cause of the prevention of these
vices is the belief that has been in
stilled into women of their responsibility
| for all the faults and shortcomings of
| their households. How can q wife or
mother who so believes avoid constant
effort to cure the. faults she sees SO
| plainly? So soon as she rises out of this
falsity and grasps the truth that she is
not responsible; that while it is her duty.
as it is generally her pleasure. to do her
best to influence for good. with the re-
suit she has nothing to do, how much
happier will it be for all!
Throwing cold water" is, fear. one
of your pet vices. To dampen the en-
| thusiasm OF the children, to throw doubt
on the reality OF their dear delusions, to
| check alike their noisy animal spirits
and their generous impulses; likewise to
see nothing attractive in your husbands
plans. and instantly to pitch upon the
one difficulty instead of trying to find a
way out of it; to mildly scof at his en-
thusiasm. to speak with superior air Of
his love OF hunting and fishing. for ex-
ample. as weakness that must be
tolerated. or meet his warm praise of
the sailing of his yacht in a severe man
ncr that plainly accuses Kim of selfish
ness or extravaganza in keeping one. 1t
may very likely be both, but that is not
the way to convince him nor to promote
peace and good will. which are of more
value than all the money at his COM
| mand.
Nor do you always remember that
everything you do to take away from
the perfect freedom and enjoyment of
! home adds an attraction TO other places
deadly foes of the home. Ii you make
man feel small and mean, what more
natural than that he should go where
his self esteem Is raised? it's so much
| easier than to reform his life. And re-
member. too. that by the voice of society
and custom he is perfectly justitiable in
seeking any refuge from an uncomfort-
| able home.
will end with the words OF a thought
full writer: Loves in the family. in the
home. in society and in the world is the
fulfillment Of tho law. He or she whe
leads thoroughly loving life not only
lives in God but shares something Of
Gods own power to move and bless the
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