The National tribune. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1877-1917, 1892-06-30

ETic-ET OF THE rEASI2G- EooM.
To appear wei in dravim--fosrn oHe mus;
study reJ'ose; THIS is the OF art, the
arr which IS true 10 nature.
There is counterfeit art WHICH c7ricatures ma
ture as'd (which leads 20 affeeH.ipn and prudcry.
BE careful TO avoid this always.
To be reposeful means TO he master of circum-
stances. ghst whether you ia a hut a
palace. you have that concentration of self that
rises above your surrounding.
What matter, then, IL you have much or little of
This wo-ld= goods? If you The host you viii so
defois yourself that you VIII become the shining
central fsuEe Of your abode.
81 you are tie CUES; you viii flx your attention
upon your lost who il for The Time being your
preriding genius OF hospitality and good ceer.
With such taci understanding, expressed in
action. in words, ]: becomes the pleasant duty
OF both entertainer Rnd entertained to contribute
60 the comfort and ease Of the Other.
Such understanding does away with apology
OF the one side and unpleasant comparison the
cther An apology the part of the host is the
sting Of hospitality. Never apologize you would
make your friends feel al home Ia your house.
i never spent such a delightful evening in my
life" said "a lady Of affiuencc who left a prineely
abode for visit 10 a modest country house. And
never entertained charming guest - was the
reply Of The Eard-working country woman when
the remark was repeated 10 her by another.
This the result of TIE flllillment OF the true
conditions between entertainer -ud entertained.
One gave whoe-hesr,ed hospitality in a quiet
generous way. She gave the best she had freely,
and did apologize because il was not as good
somebody else could give.
The otter came in "a cordial, friendly spirit. and
the hoingly cheer, served lfom common ware with
plated forks aud spoons. was much 10 her as q
12-course dinner from goldIined plates and ster-
ling silver. stamped with the coai-ofsrn,s of q
hundred earls. The best Of her bo.t WAS equal to
the best That anyone else cculd give.
All pleasure is comparative. AID lie who could
mol rise IN ibank!a!ness irc,a tie humble repzs: oil
peasant. y tsn II wGs tie best lie Lad 10 give
would 81 in iDocko:e before the feast OF a King.
There is ste OLD saying. When you move into
a neighborb2od and would have good neishbors
be sure you take good nsielbor along" So, when
you enter a dfrwiiis-rootn aud would spend q
pleasant croEiaG. besgre you do your part to COZ.
tribute 10 he SOCIAL pleasures.
BY talking too little, 10y talking too much you
may throw ..iiil over a whole company. II you
talk too little, especially IL you shy aud cold ia
your denseaaaor. you make your cos. s,snors fee
that you are not in sympathy with them and are
wishing yourself at horne. II you Ia x TOO much
and never s'rp long enough for anyone 10 get In q
word edge VS.. you become tedious especially 4
there l. r'ereyt manifested or not. Adapt you're.
TO your csi0 anions, AID do not insist upon airing
your oI'ii.ie.ss Il there IL not Il CO ID for them
DO not bge: In cpUa The conversation by some
thing ei..ilely foreign 10 lie same Watch YOU
chance, and where there g. luil bring forward 81,
subjcc naturally. Never contradict what anyont
says abreG' J. You may express SURPRISE, saying
you had Lreil Otherwise informed; but tyer cav
" IL is moi s." or know better uii: !, sh.way.
rude h.id agar. Defer 10 sge; but in res;ect (,
the opinions Of Others even il not n accs,ra witt
your Owe. ECU faay learn something you nepe
knew. aaa in a;y you cultivate that ioiefanc,
which u il'e life of a civilized community.
Show preference 10 age The best seat In III,
ihings belongs TO the ves.c:nie .a.aer or naoil.e
by right Of years. Never pre- einpt the easy chair
the snig corner on the sofa. the first seat a; ia,
table. I" Bile your seniors years honors stan,
in waiting.
do not make yourself conspicrous eitler d,
stfos reserve, WHICH will be sst Gown 10 siuIiss n
or suikiness. or oy boisterons cosGuc; which be
longs 10 ihe ui,SoGth and coarse grained One cal
DE digrifed without being Sphirx, or animate,
without !aSsiug for a ho.den. Avoid extremes.
III yoa see anything 10 admire say 20; ti.is i
always compliment TO your hest. II you zee a..
ehinS TO excite yorr d:sapprcral say no:aia:
criticism Is unrardcnah.e in gu.s. "a Tie honss
60. nj Tie iass. you sFe served with a,y. ii.r j,
sooc or d'sak That you disijka ;ake q. 10 resus
~ 's 10 show dis.pnrovsl Of yo:r bo.; soi5efi.in,
-hA' f'Sa Er~.-i'-s oasn0; .uigrAie. 1ou nee,
Gully Co. or Gsi.k VIA; yau ..le