The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-01-04

but certainly it would seem a gracious
and most fitting thing that her mem
ory receive some tribute upon the
forthcoming OCCASION - Chicago
Times.
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Carelessness About Names.
As it is the little foxes" that ''gnaw
the vines" making great havoc. SO it
is the little points which indicate
high breeding. One of these small
induces of wide reaching significance
is an ability. intuitive or acquired, to
pronounce persons names correctly.
1t needs only the attentive listening
at the moment of introduction, or, if
that opportunity is not successful, it
is easy to inquire of Il third party or
frankly appeal to the person himself
and he righted once for all. TO per-
sist in %miscalling Il conveys to the
mind of that person one of two things
either that you are too careless to
take the trouble to get the name right
or that the individual who bears it is
not of sufficient consequence for you
to do so.
Either opinion lays you open to tine
imputation of imperfect breeding,
which it is foolish to SO needlessly in
wife.
Many persons address o married
woman by her maiden name long after
any excuse for the blunder, if such
ever existed, has passed, and similarly
address a twice married woman by
her widowed title, a fault that may be
still more serious and embarrassing
under some circumstances.
The same people, or the same sort
of people, insist on confounding names
of nearly similar sound or spelling. 1t
is very annoying to Mrs. Smith to be
called Mrs. Smythe, and vice versa,
and Mrs. John dislikes heartily to be
addressed as Mrs. Johns. Frequently
to the initiated the difference in the
letter of a name signifies much, in
which case to put the letter where it
does not belong raises the act from %
blunder to an offense.
Appearance VS.. Reality.
A woman of some little common
sense cannot fail to be strongly moved,
even unto the region of disgust, at the
number of things woine are con-
stantly recommended to do in order to
make thing look like something else,
which it is not, it cannot be, and it
never will despite the utmost efforts of
the woman who follows the instruc-
tions to make it appear so. All such
labors come under thehead Of 'affecta-
tion, (which is a striving for appear
ance instead of for reality. And this
striving has brought many an
otherwise respectable amount of
body, or mind or soul to premature
death. Imitation imposes only upon
dense ignorance. No one, though
they spent years in the attempt. ever
made two and two appear like five.
to people who understood arithmetic.
If a woman resolves to make her dear
est friend q Christmas present, and
hugs to her soul the delusion that for
twenty-five cents she can purchase
materials wherewith to compose a
present which will make the friend
feel under Il five dollar obligation,
that woman is deceived. She should
know better. She should known that
her dearest friend is as we'll aware of
the cost of cotton plush and sleazy
ribband as she is herself.
After it has been washed and dyed
and turned, an old gown does not
look precisely like IA new one to the
eyes of the learned in gowns, though
the optimistic fashion writer's may
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material be made to look as if it cost
$3.50 to those who know better.
Nobody can make pumpkin pies
out of dates, nor apple pies out OF
milk crackers aud tartaric acid, nor
demon pies out of squash and lemon
| extract, and palm off these abomina-
tions upon women proficient in pie
baking. Nor can one make out of a
barrel Il chair that looks as if it cost
$40. Nor furnish a parlor for $50, so
that the sharpest visitor will be con
WINGED it took $500.
The result is inevitably dishearten-
ing and demoralizing to her better
nature. For she finds out this, too.
That the struggle to make n think
| appear greater, or better. OF other
than it is, whether the thing is a pie
or a gown. or a piece of furniture;
whether it is her income or her man
ners, or her reputation will cost her
far more in the long run than the
same amount of labor spent in max
ing the thing actually better, OF
greater or higher than it vas before.
That it is better to make an old
gown in a fashion according to its
value, and rest contented that behold
ers should think it old. That it does
not make a barrel chair more impress
sive to ove it with plush. That it Is
better to live upon the whole of one
thousand dollars than to spend any
| part of it trying to make it look like
ten thousand. That it is wiser to
spend all ones lifemaking a good rep
utation than a portion of 1t in pub
| fishing to the world how great a repu
tutiou he has. And that straightfOr-
ward actions prompted by honest
thought create the finest manners
Eca Looett Carson in Philadelphia
Inquirer.
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