The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1892-03-13

tanning" can choose a thousand ways. Let
her avoid attempting the impossible and let
her remember that no success which is not
honestly gained is worth pin. Ii it is
money it stings, if it is place and position
it becomes the shirt Of Nessus. Earn every
thing honestly.
But for the we'll hammered and well-be-
hayed American woman what noble sue
cess, what a perfect present awaits her,
what a delightful future! She is the
founder of the American nobility. All men
bow down to her. She is the queen of the
man who loves her, he treats her with
every respect. She is to teach the future
citizens honor, loyalty, duty, respect,
politeness, kindness and the law of love-"
Such man could read his Philip
Sidney and yet not blush to find
himself follower An American woman
yields the only rod of empire to which
American men will bow. She should try
to be an empress in the best sense of the
word. To young woman entering society
we should recommend a certain exclusive
ness. Not snobbish exclusiveness, but it
is always well to choose ones friends
slowly and with due consideration. We are
not the most perfect beings in all the
world, we do not wish to be intimate with
too much imperfection. A broken friend
ship is very painful thing. We should
think twice before We give an intimate
friendship to anyone. No woman " no es-
says to entertain should ask everybody to
her house. The respect she owes to her
self should prevent this; her house be-
comes q camp unless she has herself the
power of putting a sieve outside the door.
| We have no such inviolate virtue that
we can as yet rate Dives and Lazarus be-
| fore they ere dead. Very rich people are
apt to be very good people, and in the
realms of the highest fashion we find the
| simplest, best and purest of characters. II
is, therefore, of no consequence as to the
shade of fashion and the amount of the
rent roll. 1t must not be supposed because
some leaders of fashion are insolent tina,
ali are. A young hostess must try to find
the good, true, honorable, generous, well
bred well educated members Of society, nc
matter in what condition of life. Read
character first, and hesitate before draw
ing general deductions.
| And as hostess is the slave of he,
guests, after she has invited them, she
| must be
ALL ATTENTION AND ALL sUAvITY.
If she has nothing to offer them but tn,
hospitality Of small house, cup of tie,
and smile she is just as much hostess a.
| if she were queen. If she offers then
every luxury and is not polite, she is
snob and vulgarian. There is no such de
teStaDle use Oh ones privileges as TO bi
rude on ones own ground. "The man wht
eats your salt is sacred" However st
patronize' is a great necessity in som,
natures. There is little opportunity for
in free, brave America, but some mis- taker
hostesses have gone that way. Everyon,
feels pleasant toward the woman who in
vites him or her to her house: Their
is something graceful in the act. Blu
if, after opening her doors, tn
hostess refuses the welcome, or treat
her guest with doubtful degree of cor
diallty, why did She ask you at all? Ever,
young American can become mode
hostess, she can master etiquette, Great
for herself polite and cordial manner, sh
should be as serene as a summers day, sh
should keep all her domestic troubles out o
sight. If she entertains let her do it il
her own individual way, small way
necessary. There was much in Touch
stones philosophy, "a poor thing but min
i own.n She must have the instinct Of hos