Grand Rapids herald. [volume] (Grand Rapids, Mich.) 1892-1959, 1892-10-09

XG pier VINO mas uipped his
" pen IN ink, some time or
other has given vent 10 comments upon
or descriptions OF the women men like,
snd she Is invariably pronounced TO be-
unpopular with her own sex.
| used 10 read these wise and witty
sayings and accept them as facts. l
supposed Of course that TO be popular
with men q woman must Do hated by
her own sex
Over and over 1 have heard q dashing
belle. surrounded by crowd Of admir-
ing men. boast Of her unpopularity with
women
Girls never like me. and old ladies
look on me with disapproval," heard
one say. with proud air. Il am sure
don't know why"
Then the men all cried: "Oh, We
know why. IL Is because we all find
You so charming. Women never for
give another woman for that, you
know. You can't be popular with both
sexes
Now no moro fallacious and thread
bare theory every existed.
A few years close acquaintance with
humanity taught me the utter untruth
Of this prevalent idea.
know women-a number Of them
who are adored by men and worshiped
by their own sex; women whose con-
quests and triumphs seem to be re-
garded by their girl companions and
their maturer friends as q matter Of
course.
l also know other women, in q greater
number. who are greatly sought after by
the sterner sex, admired and praised,
while their lady acquaintance find them
disagreeable and unloveable in the ex-
treme. 1 have studied these women
with great care, and find them invari.
ably selfish. cruel and thoughtless
toward their own sex. All their sweet
arts are saved for men. but you will
never find . man who believes such q
woman can be dissgreeable to her own
sex. Hewill take sides with her against
the sweetest and best women Of his &C.
qusintance. and he win accuse them Of
jealousy and envy and tell the hsndsome
belle that she must not expect to be.
popular with both sexes-that the thing
b impossible.
Yet he has only to look about him q
bit to find that it is not impossible. As
said before. IL is quite common to find a
woman adored by both sexes. But when
q man comes across a case Of this kind
he attributes it TO some subtle charm
some occult spell which the woman
Possesses.
have observed that this subtle spell
is usually thoughtfulness and unselfish-
ness and tact. This sounds trite maybe.
but il is true. The woman who talks
OF others charms and relates others con-
quests will DO immensely popular with
her own sex. no matter how much she il
admired by men.
The girl who sits down and tells her
lady friends of the compliments men
paid her; Of the proposals she has had;
of the admiration she has received 10 the
neglect Of others. and then strsightwsy
expresses pity for their dull lives. o.
passes some disagreeable comment upon
their personal sppearsnce--thst girl will
be hated and disliked very naturally.
Yet her male admirers viii construe
her unpopularity with her lady acquaiut-
sncss 20 jealousy. and you cannot con-
vince them Of their error.
One II the most fascinating women
ever knew. before whom men fell like
blades Of grass before the scyths, pos
sessed remarkable tact with her own
sex. She invariably related TO her lady
friends the sweet things she had heard
said q them since the last meeting. and
the admiration which certain gentlemen
had expressed fer them. She praised
their costumes and showed them
thousand delicate attentions. and IL was
not az all 70 bs wondered az that women
understood aud forgsve her conquests of
men.
Were a man I should love her.
they often used 20 say.
Men spoke Of her subtle power" over
her own ser.
That subtle power was thoughtfulness
And TACT Fila WHEELER WILCOX