The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1892-12-25
ABOUT FALLING ~ LOVE.
The Fin De Steele Girl Must Have Neces-
sarily One or Two Affairs"

The Fin dc Steele Girl Must Have Neces-
sarily One or TWO Affairs"
II you happen TO be a girl and living in
the latter end Of the nineteenth century,
you cannot fail to have n love affair or
two. l say YOU cannot fail and l say it
adyiscdly. because there WAS a time, the
time called I'm books good old times" when
1t must have been an exception and not
the rule for L girl to have a real bona hde
love affair, spontaneous and surprising and
sWect-not arranged by her parents or
guardians, says a writer in the ST. Paul
Glote.
Now IN what. for the sake OF contrast,
we will call the bad new times" young
men and women are thrown into each
others society more than they used TO be.
They meet pretty often. and they are not
looked after too much. The world is dread
fully busy, the young men are oyerfull Of
business and the young women pickering
their pretty brOws with culture and study,
but they still find time to have love az
fairs" A lcye AFFAIR is not, as 1 take it,
an affair in which love Is the largest in
gredient. The term Glove affair" is Il wide
one. Ii covers, FOR want Of a better name,
all those passages IN a lifetime when one
either feels more than one says or says
more than one feels in connection with n
person Of the opposite sex. | do not see
that the word "1irtaticn" can be a good
substitute, because that seems TO signify
a game with little feeling offered on either
side. and In all love affairs some one feels
and suffers.
Every girl who Is not wholly cold and
unattractiye has experienced the encounter
with the sort Of man who shoots in the
dark. as IL were. He Is not In love. he IS
merely attracted, but IL he can set n light
10 the feelings OF his temporary attrac-
ton it Is not "A disagreeable task TO him.
as he wastes no capital in the way Of feel
inc. il the result IS below his expectation
well. there Is no less involved. Some
dimes the result is above his expectations.
Then his trouble is amply repaid and he Is
well amused. Pour passer le temps Is
this gentleman's motto, but he doesn't wear
IL painted on his forehead. and sometimes
IL doesn't dawn upon a girls mind until
it is very distinctly explained by his flight
to the next flower.
The kind Of love affairs that are results
CT unoccupled minds and vapid senImen-
,olism live but a short time. They are
made ND OF kisses. candy and a curious
sense Of incompleteness, Il feeling that II
this Is what poets write about ana painters
naint and Romeo and Juliet died for 1t
must have been exaggerated. Like u puny
child. TINS KIM Oh lOfc uhNA NNP @NN-o'
n IL ever lives as far as the marriage ser
vice. then alas for future happiness, domes-
tic bliss and all the rest OF that SORT CT
thing.
What about the love AFFAIR Of what Is
generally called the advanced schoOif /
mean the school that Is SO awfully advanced
that they know too much-far TOO much
for their cwn happiness. They are cheer
full pessimists. rs long as the present sys-
ten OF things lasts. they see no chance OF
happiness for them. They know by books
and married friends that where there Is
marriage love pines away In the coarse
atmosphere OF domesticity. Byron says so,
Tclstoi says so, Mrs. Besant says so, every
one says so.
They are not courageous enough 10 do
without this mere matter or fern bond,
ai the same. They think that there Is
something radically wrong In the system
OF things-something triste-mere breadth
and license ought 10 be considered allow
able after marriage. II ought not TO be
misunderstood and spoken OF as unfatth-
fulness, and called other ugly names. ]
dcn't know exactly how far this advanced
sort Of loys affair goes on. IL can't ad.