Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1892-01-26
SHOULD SHE MARRY
THIS QUESTION IS ASKED Aeoy
THE BUSINESS WOMAN.

Many Men sud wouion wan Nnt Agree
with a Question with Two sides
Il h perhaps because the press and the
public think that the woman who Is out
10 earn her brcid has good deal on her
hands already. that they discuss at such
length hcrpriyatr uitaim. The prcsump
tion L. that she has NJ time 70 think about
them herself
They prescribe suitable dress for her
n hiicous affair whigh suggests At onca
bathing suit aud the costume Of a Mexican
prrnser They tell her how n behave, and
ndyise her how TO get on IN the world
They point out her privileges and cnlixht-
IN her as to her supposed rights, and now
they have fallen TO discussing her matri'
moninl chances.
At the outset this seems supcr1uous. II
"a perfectly obvious that the woman WHO
goes to work does marry sometimes with
n degree Of .pccd aud an amount Of success
fairly dsgu.tlug 10 the one who must
achieve her destiny through the ordinary
social machinery. For, sentlinentnlists 10
the contrary. propnquity hu- a great deal
o. do with our poor human affections, and
II matches nrn arranged IN heaven, SOME
beuehcent angel take, good care 10 plan
them 80 ~ to save murtals any great sum
for travelling expenses
Whenever mon and women Of npprozi-
matcly the same social grnde work side BY
side theru j. srrc ~ hr an undue proper.
ton of weddings The dl.cnchantment "
familiarity. the continued friction which
{. the inevitable accompaniment Of even
the plctsante,t daily toll. the gradual
dninution uf the novelty which makes
the nrv FREUD more Interesting, " not
more esteemed, than the oll-nll these
force, arr powerl,s. beside tue stronger
ono Of mere propluqulty,
HsR EvoLrttoN.
The pretty typewriter, the graded school
teschof the cnshier, the government clerk,
NIL show fairly conclusive evidence that
the woman who Is u breadWinncr mArfirs
oasily-that H., quickly The only qucs'
ton 20 diaruss IA whether she really
iehievr, thr happiness which Il may be-
taken Tor GRANTED sho has la view wben
shc alters her condition. A. there Urv no
statstic,. all QUO can Ito g. to run briefly
over the logical probabilities ~ the case.
Ia the course OF her evolution from tho
strictly domestic type, the woman herelf
has undergone certain changes. To b, yin
with, She has proved herself us belonging
% cue Of the two great Glasses into which
all women who have TO come TO hand to
maud struggle with thc world are divided
the woman who can take care 90 hcnclf
md the woman who CtuuYt Doubtless
the lHtisr is tle murg pluohle spectacle,
but she Is hardly less agreeable chan the
other
4 woman can learn the b II com.
mgrojal principle. sometimes much more
than this, she eau school herself 20 such a
manner that the man Of whom HE buys i.
house or TO whom sAr SELLS a lot VIII Tor.
got to take refuge DO the absurd tnctcs
which tie ttrrner sex resorts 90 when 10
wants 20 tutu an honest pouuy without
doing violence 20 ls ullyalrous Instincts;
shc may learn to be- inpcrUous 10 criti-
cism aud oblivion. 10 impouincnce, but
whoever says she can get these things
without los u other, equally valuable
proves that be hn. not made IA cNhnus'
! tive study oi this Kind ~ trminiue succcss.
h isn mistake % describe this change by
saying thnt woman bvcom.s "iuascu'
| line" This real fact IL that she becomes
EXCEPTIONALLY feminine Traits which lie
| dormant under more fortunate conditions
now become very unploasantly active. The
woman OF Affairs must be n hypocrite II
she would succeed. She must consistently
affect to like the thing, she dospisrs and
" INlHN NNaN NiANH ANsAH - viz Ahll
| this we'll she will ultimately make her los,
tune; hut Ia the greater number OF eases
the woman who attempts II produces much
the same impression A. would IN ambition.
iish who should gasp great brraths of dry,
! fresh air aud cry, ION, how delighttulw
IL h all very we'll TO say that a woman
| Lays down the weapons Of her own rex
| when she takes ny sort Of work In which
bhc competos with the other; but, IL sh,
does 40, she does u In the fncn Of the
strongest temptation 90 Use them under
cover and WHORE they will be most elective
EIFrcr on DJNEsriclrY
The rcyyrs,Jn 10 he domestic type from
which she had 80 laboriously differentiated
herself Ia a feat Of which only one woman
In u thousand Is capable. The Original
change Is hard enough, but to retrlco hei
stcpsl- Doiucstcity IL like innocence
once lost, IL cannot be- rrgnncd.
Though 10 Is uuwisn Tor woman who
has forsaken the usual paths wherein bet
sex h appointed to walk 10 marry any man
the ease Is made especially uutortunat,
when she choosts, ~ We have seen she Is
very likoly TO do, hclpmeet who hN,
worked side by side with her. II Is tru,
That he will respect her capacity Tor affair
sometimes 10 the degree OF throwing cd
all responsibility with regard to the prac
ticai needs OF the fanilly--but the best thai
she eau hope for from him forever Rnt
ever Is that he will continue to be her yer,
good comrade. lie will assume that bc
cause she eau take care OF herself there Il
no need that he should take care OF her.
Tie will not worry when she traveli
alone, or make dear little Jokes about hel
practical incapacities or criticise the wal
she keeps her account books or attempt {,
instruct her In public affairs by mild leo
lures made up 81 political milk Tor babes
In short, no will not do any OF the thing
which make life worth living aud low
worth having to ninety women out ofeyer!
hundred
No, on the whole, the business woman
had bcttcr not marry, She had better con
tent herself with the knowledge that sh,
has attained that feminine bliss OF hayinl
plenty OF chances" and rest secure In thl
honorable order u Spinsters by Choice
her own choice. aud not some ones else --
Lunice Dorr in Kate Fields Washington.
Cnrnurcd.
Callcr-Nou have been abroad Ion
time have YOU uuti