Arizona republican. [volume] (Phoenix, Ariz.) 1890-1930, 1892-11-03

" pen IN ink, some time or
other has given vent to comments upon
d descriptions of the women men like,
and she is invariably pronounced to be
unpopular with her own sex.
j used TO read these wise and witty
sayings and accept them as facts. /
supposed of course that to be popular
With men n woman must be hated by
her own sex.
Over and over l have heard dashing
belle, surrounded by crowd of admir-
rig men, boast of her unpopularity with
Eomen.
Girls never like me. and old ladies
hook on me with disapproval," heard
enc say. with a proud air. II am sure l
don't know why"
Then the men all cried: son, we
know why. 1t is because we all find
You so charming. Women never for
Owe another woman for that, you
Know. You can't be popular with both
sexes"
Now no more fallacious and thread
hare theory every existed.
A few years close acquaintance with
humanity Taught me the utter untruth
q this prevalent idea.
know womcn--a number of them
VINO are adored by men and worshiped
by their own sex; women whose con.
guests and triumphs seem to be re-
lprded by their girl companions and
6eir maturey friends as matter of
course.
| also know other women, in greater
number, who are greatly sought after by
the sterner sex, admired and praised,
while their lady acquaintance finl them
Gsagreeable and unloveable in the ex-
treme. | have studied these women
with great care, and find them invari
xbly selfish, cruel and thoughtless
coward their own sex. All their sweet
Nts are saved for men, but you will
never find man who believes such
woman can he disagreeable to her own
Sex. Hewill take sides with her against
the sweetest and best women of his a.
quaintance, and he win accuse them ~
Jalousy aud envy and tell the handsome
belle that she must not expect to BE-
popular with both sexes--that the thing
4 impossible.
Yet he has only 60 look about him
hit to find that it is not impossible. As
said before, it is quite common to find
woman adOred by both sexes. But when
xman comes across a case Of this kind
he attributes it TO some subtle charm
some occult spell which the woman
Possesses.
have observed that this subtle spell
4 usually thoughtfulness and unselfsh.
Hess and tact. This sounds trite maybe
hut it is true. The woman who talk.
Of others charms and relates others con-
gnests viii DO immensely popular with
her own sex, no matter how much she is
a-tuired by men.
The girl who sits down and tells her
lady friends of the compliments men
paid her; OF the proposals she has had;
u the admiration she has received to the
neglect Of others, and then straightway
expresses pity for their dull lives, o.
passes some disagreeable comment upon
their personal appearance-that girl will
be hated and disliked very naturally.
Yet her male admirers will construe
her appropriately with her lady acquaint-
mces to jealousy, and you cannot con-
vince them of their error.
One of the most fascinating women
ever knew, before whom men fell like
blades of grass before the scythe, pos.
sessed remarkable tact with her own
sex. She invariably related to her lady
friends the sweet things she had heard
said of them since the last meeting, and
The admiration which certain gentlemen
had expressed for them. She praised
their costumes and showed them a
thousand delicate attentions, and it was
Eot tell to be wondered at that women
understood and forgave her conquests of
men.
"Were a man | should love her."
they often used to say.
Men spoke Of her subtle power" over
Her own sex.
That subtle power was thoughtfulness
and tact. ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.