St. Tammany farmer. [volume] (Covington, La.) 1874-current, 1892-07-02
DANGEROUS ETIQUETTE

DANGEROUS ETIQUETTE
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Daages.
Il il not unusual, In speaking Of the
death Of some man prominent in his
COMMUNITY, to hear tl1e remark made
that he took . heavy cold st the funeral
Of his friend. where he stood Tor some
time with bare head at the open grave.
II seems almost uncharitable and un-
kind to criticise . custom which shows
respect to the dead, but IL Il peverths-
less true that many . man has returned
from the burial Of . friend or associate
with the seeds Of death in his system.
Il il certainly . moAt remarkable
usage which forces men to risk their
lives to show customary respect for the
departed: but there are in funeral ar-
rangements many things which amount
exactly to this. ...
Not long since, the death OF man Of
eminence in his profession, and one
greatly respected in the community in
which he lived, furnished . most apt
and melancholy illustration Of the lack
Of wisdom which ordinarily character
izes the management of such matterA
A lifelong friend of the deceased, .
man who had been his intimate friend
and associate for more than half . CEN
tury, was invited to act as one OF the
bearers. In spite of the fact that he
had but Just recovered from . severe
illness, he went TO the house, and re-
mained at the service of the family un-
til the last tokens of respect were
shown and all arrangements were com
pleted. g........-... -. 3
The deceased was somewhat stout,
and It SO happened that number OF tho
bearers were rather slight Of figure.
Each man felt his strength taxed TO its
utmost, and while carrying the caalket
into the church, they were compelled to
ask assistance from the bystandera
Arrived 1t the grave, they found it
necessary to walk several rods, and
were, of course, very warm and tired,
and several were almost exhausted.
Then, standing with uncovered heads,
they waited until the services were FIN
iShed Two of the men were kept in
doors for weeks with very severe colds,
the third died two weeks after the. to
him. sod and unfortunate day. There
should be certain rules of common
sense governing all Of the affairs Of life,
and in nothing Il il more needed than
in regulating the customs which At
tend the burial of the dead. No man
should be required to do for politeness
or courteey's sslss snythiag which pats-
his health or life in peril To remove
the haiwAile !Aeked 1fJA sexcuei& i
very injuriouk, ofsenti6eS almosssde.d-
ly, and should never be expected. II
never will be BY people Of common
sense, and for Others one need not care.
There is another practice which il
open to criticism, and that Is the habit
many gentlemen indulge in of remov-
ing the hat in IN elevator when ladies
are present An ordinary passenger
elevator In public building is public
conveyance, and . gentleman need not
remove his hat any more than he would
In street-car or stage. The air fire.
quently rushes through the shaft with
such force that ladies are often glad to
draw their wraps closer around them;
how unnecessary and foolish. then, to
require or permit man to uncover his
head when he can scarcely avoid taking
cold by 80 doing.
In the elevators Of hotels, where ~
dies are In dressy costnmes and without
hats, the case is different. Here the
laws of common-sense and good breed
ing alike require that this courtesy be
shown. .ai
A considerate woman will protest
against acts of politcncss which would
result disastrously to any individual; and
II well-bFed men, who are willing to OBJ
serve every requirement, could under
stand that they arc not expected to
their health for politeness'
sake, and that sensible women do not
expect Il, some uneasincss might be
avoided on both sides. A lady does not
like to request . strange gentleman to
replace his hat upon his head Is she
fears he may take cold, although, no
doubt, she would often like to do 50,
rather than feel that to his desire to
show his respect for her he may possibly
DwC y
There Is little enough Of politeness in
The ordinary ranks of life, and it is not
we'll to discourage or frown upon any
of il; but there arc occa-
sions when persons Of consideratc dis
position and genuine delicscy and re
Iinement may feel uncomfortable, and
even distressed, when IL il evident that |
shown by one stranger to IN.
other results in injury 70 the consider
lte party. Education and custom make
L almost out Of the question for lady
10 express her sentiments 1t the time
and in the place where their uttersnce
would avail anything. II she be of |
years, she may, and possibly
will, do 50; but the younger ones keep
silent, even while they are sensible Of |
Inc discomforts and risks which this act |
Il politeness entails.-N. Y. Ledger.
Deslgners Of Dresses.
The most fastidious dressmakers EN-.
ploy . regular artist in their establish- |
nent; he makes sketches from the de-
tails furnished BY the head designer.
These sketches are sometimes quite a.
'istic and are prettily executed in watep |
,olors, every detail Of braid work, lace !
" other ornamentation being faithfully |
depicted. A number Of these aquarelles |
lre generally on hand showing dresses
suitable for different occasions; from /
.hese the customer can select Whist best
,leases her, Suggesting any change that /
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