Elmore bulletin. [volume] (Rocky Bar, Idaho) 1889-1906, 1892-08-28
THEY DO Nut MARRY.
Why YOUNG PEOPLE FIND SINGLE
sLEsseoNEss so coMFC@EAsLE.

AeGp away tFom tue Hnot OF hymen.
Il Is an oft repeated remark that New
York Is the finest place in the republic |
10 live inf you are rich. But II Is |
worse than the meanest suburb. the /
dreariest OF western boom towns" the |
dullest country village--if you are poor. |
This is the criticism of the person who |
does not contemplate life as a POSSIBLE |
ity-or an agreeable without |
society, In the narrow sense OF the word; |
without the pleasures that come from
money, without the social standing that
a good bank account gives, without be-
ing able ITO keep up with the process
sion" of those who are well dressed. well
fed, well situated and well off
/ Singularly enough, those who demand
these things-who will not accept mar
ried life without them-are generally
not well supplied with this worlds goods
People who have been rich all their lives
do not realize what 1t means 10 go with
out their Injuries. But people who have
been poor know just the wretchedness
of having TO wear patched boots and go
without lunch: of having to walk long
distances, because car fare mounts up"
! Of having to refuse nice invitations, be-
cause they have no clothes or no means
OF returning proffered civilities. To
, these, poverty is u bitter thing. and they
, loathe IL. Marriage. unless it means
escape from carping cares of this kind
they eschew as hopeless evil Better
I endure those trials that we have than
. fly to others that we know not Of. they
say
SO thinks the everyday. gentlemanly,
. good looking. entirely personablo young
!. man of thirty. who draws an income of
0 from two to four thousand u year, and
= is asked out all over because he dances
Z admirably and is good to look at, and
; never does anything gauche. So. also,
; thinks the pretty, well bred. well dressed,
!. moderately bright girl OF twenty-five,
q whose father spends six thousand year
and has five children. Both of these know
2 jus, the way they want their lives to go
4 Ever since childhood they have associ
9 ated with companions who have had
d more money than they have, and they
know how nice il is TO be well off. TX
be rich or to remain as we are, that Ii
their motto. when we make the grea
o move" they both think. I've make it L
l. better ourselves materially. or we dom
make it at all.
They do not want to be millionaires
. but they do not want to be really pincheC
;. anywhere. Their house must be larg,
enough and be comfortable. Ii must b,
: well fitted up-no "sheet by night anS
tablecloth by day" for them. Their,
must be servants enough to run it. Thi
girl-who has always been comfortabl,
- placed. but never luxuriously-has n
intention Of binding herself down 10 dc
- iuestic cares of busting her own draw
ing room and turning up hens in he
p own table linen. No; all that must b
- done for her. She has made her owI
dresses and trimmed her own hats al
her girlhood, and she wants. when sh
marries. to change all that Better I
90 on doing it in your own home, wher
= it is all you have to worry over, than {
q do il in your husbands, where 20
r. have to keep the house and take care {
Il children as well.
W Thus the young lady reasons and n
- jects her suitors with peculiar and goo
humored indifference. She has mad
up her mind that she viii not marry
ar man who has a cent under five thousan
1T a year. and is not above telling this |
the soupirants. who take the hint an
Vi strive to realize the ideal. The youn
lady is quite frank. She is not in IL
least ashamed of her worldliness or d.
sirous of hiding 1t under veil OF a
tractiye coyness. She Is not mercenar,
az Ii is not riches that she demands-con
Is fort, that is all. II she Is comfortab
she will continue to be a very nice, a
o. tractive person, but if she has to scrin
ri and struggle and fight over ten Gel
- pieces, and turn her old clothes, al
have her shoes patched. she will not
responsible for her temper. She is
fin de steele TO her finger tips-sensib
where she might be romantic, practic
where she once would have been impa
sioned-a person who is bound 10 NAL
a success Of her life and keep it on Il
lines that she regards as the best.
The young man OF her kind holds pr
cisely the same views, Life with /
loved object sounds very charming. b
it Is not to DO INDUCED in unless the !
comes Of himself and the beloved obje
, foot up to from five to six thousand p
annnm. The beloved object on thr
thousand year is too expensive a In
ury. He cannot afford it. What mig
have been courtship dwindles to
mild friendship Not infrequently
ss tells the lady OF his sad predicament al
how impossible matrimonial ALLAN
would be on his salary. She condol
with him and they become friends. {
". no violent fires burn in their hearts a
friendship comes quite easily to them.
Marriage would mean a series of sac
fees that neither is willing TO mai
on They would have to live in fiat in Hi
lem-and no one knows who has not liv
=. in Gotham the horror in which Harlt
n. is held-or q second rate boarding hou
beyond Fourth avenue.
Then come clothes and theaters.
New York woman spends money Ii
.. water ON her clothes. She would mn
Ter rather be well dressed than well f.
ms She must be well dressed TO be mp wi
ch anything The moment she gro'
ng shabby she is no longer Of any impC
re- lance. Then she may as well give up
lh- the fun and consent 10 be relegated
he dreary insigniicance like the old wiy
ate of the pashas. San Francisco Argonal
rty -
Ell He Was sorry.