St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-01-03

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\N>N%G1SN ~ Rules, Direc-
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ServationS for Their Conduct and Be.
havior Through All Ages and Circum
stances in Life. as Virgins. Wives anC
Widows" says Shirley Dare.
Perhaps this book is what some of US
have been looking for and rejoice t.
find. though late, writes Shirley Dare in
the Chicago Inter Ocean. AS life is
short, let Us hasten TO learn the whole
duty of a woman, as held III 1887, the
date of this cherished relic. The good
advice of the first ten chapters l cannot
spare, for | need it all myself. In sooth
1t Is sweet and searching monitor in its
chapters of MGdeSty." lot Weakness. >
"Of Compassion and ''Of AffabiIity."
The manner of behavior toward men
has some plain spoken adviceS, to use a
phrase i'll keeping, as when it bids
women have no ill-bred affected shy
ness nor q roughneSS unsuitable to
their sex and unnecessary to their viz
tue, but looks that forbid without rude
ness and oblige without invitation, or,
leaving room for the saucy differences
mems vanity suggests to them upon the
least enc0uragementS.
plain enough is the encomium Oh
aiIOlliCI CAIdl tCtSl III TIC SOOu-HullUCeu
woman who thinks she must always be
in laugh OF broad smile because good
humor is an an obliging quality. This
necessity of appearing at all times to be
so pleased is grievouS mistake, since
in handsome woman that invitation is
unnecessary, and in one who is not so,
ridiculOuS''
Very Hard Oh Man.
Conquest" we are told, sis so TENT
Ing thing that it often makes women
mistake mems submissions, which with
all their fair appearances have gen
orally less respect than art in them.
Women should remember that men who
say extreme fine things many times say
them most for their own SaheS, and that
the vain gallant is often as well pleased
with his own compliments as he could
be with the kindeSt answer"
Most Shrewd and experienced mont
Tor, POlonius to his daUghterl No
Woman's hand ever revealed this fine
edged truth. What woman's mind was
ever free from webs of vanity enough
to admit this when men said courtly
compliment to her? Small wonder
that the authors name was withheld
since he had it in mind to speak such
cutting thruts.
One advice Ito conclude this head is,
that women should every seven years
make some alteration in them toward
the graver side, not like the girls or
fifty, resolved to be always young, what
ever Time with his iron teeth determined
10 the contrary. Unnatural things carry
a defOrmity in them never to be dis
guised; the livelineSs of youth in a
ripper age looks like new patch upon
an old gown; so that 4 gay matron, a
cheerful old fool may be reasonably put
III the list of the tanner kind of mon
sterS. Such an old butterfly is of all
creatures the most ridiculous and the
soonest found out"
Mark we'll the distinction. 1t is I'M
natural liveiineSS carries the deformity,
the effort 10 be sprightly when one feels
least like it. There is stroug vitality
which keeps It's green far into Novem-
Der, which looks well and elastic be-
cause it is well. and the spring is not
and perhaps never will be out of its
veins. As we'll quarrel with climate
for its late autumns as with women
whose we'll ordered lives have left them
the clear eyes and unfaded cheeks, the
spirits and the wit OF their prime, far
past fifty. AS well censure DR.. Holmes
for his jaunty step and alert look as he
goes down the sunny side of School
street, because most men are bent and
grim at his years. Such perennial fresh
ness is a hopeful omen for the race, a
possibility which we may all share with
good treatment.
Sno.gbaIls VS.. Bullets
But there is no comment nece ssary
for the next passage, which is pithv
enough to fix Itself in minds which need
1t. The advantages of being reserved
are too many to set down; we will only
say that it is a guard to good woman
and disguise to an i'll. 1t is one of so
much use to both that those ought to use
1t as an artItice who refuse to practice it
as a virtue
The next chapter is of fe male friend
ships and censure. though why the two
are coupled may give us a thought. A
strict care in choice of friendships is
recommended. with demrre observa-
ton that perhaps the best are not
without their objections" The eau
tons in those cases are the old ones,
not to make hGsty and violent likingS,
or to put ones self III the power of weak
cOnfidantS, advice we all approve ana
cast to the winds vixen craving human
hearts demand at least the pretense of
cordial interest and the relief of faneied
trust. Those are fortunate who can
make themselves their own best friend
and confidant.
But the discourse on censure shows
most explicitly the handling of a man of
the world and of fine feeling. "WhiIe
an aversion to what is criminal and a
contempt of what is ridiculous are in
separable from understanding and viz
tue. there is great danger in letting our
opinions go farther than our own
thoughts. Unlimited liberty of CEN
sure is little less then sending a herald
and proclaiming war to the world, which
IS all angry beast when so provoked. %
We must take heed Of laughing at peo-
PIE except in company that is very sure.
1t is throwing snowbalis against bullets
and 1t is the disadvantage of a woman
that the malice of the world will helm
the brutality Of those who will throw a
slovenly untrnth upon her.
She Is for this reason to suppress her
1mpatlence for fools, who, beside they
are too strong party to be uppeceS-
SarIly provoked, are of all others most
dangerous in this case. The triumph
OF wit is TO make good nature subdue
eensure; to be quick in seeing faults
and slow in exposing them. To be
kindly used by the world is like a glory
about wOmaD'S head; it is a perfume
she carries about her and leaves where
ever she goes: it is charm against ill
will. Malice may empty her culver,
but cannot wound; the dirt will moi
stick, the jests will not take. Without
the consent of the world scandal does
not go deep: it is only slight stroke
upon the injured party, and turns with
the greater force upon those who
gave it.
EnsIaving Advice 10 Women.
This IS the very gold of worldly wis
dom. coinage for which one would not
sell ones soul; no, nor stoop to ever so
blight evasion or deceit. But the mere