The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1892-06-10
IN WOMAN'S BEHALF.
a GOOD wlEE.
Some of the Things a Girl should Looh
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Up.
It's both natural and honorable that
young girls should look forward to mar
riage as the ''Ultima Thule of life. for
n woman's crowning glory must always
be wifehood and motherhood; but bet
ter than a marriage without love. or
love without esteem. is the single girl
forever, says writer in the House
keeper.
Many girls on leaving school seem to
think their education completed. and
there is nothing more to do than to
dress and amuse themselves. and try
and ensnare some one into marrying
them. This may be fairly natural, to
look forward to having home of ones
own, and yet how few seem to think it
necessary to qualify themselves for so
responsible a position as the head OF a
household.
There is most important interval in
a woman's life-that between her
school days and her marriage. Then
the useful and practical knowledge on
household matters, needlewOrk, econ
omy and various other points which all
tell upon the happiness of home, may
be acquired.
If habits of industry and economy of
time are not formed in early life they
never will be. Every girl could help
in the household, having her own ap-
pointed tasks. How much better, even
if not obliged to do it. than spending
the time in dressing and promenading
the street, searching for the latest nov
city in dress, or as a walking fashion
plate to be admired
She should make her mothers home
her own in interest. Begin with her
own things, and her own living place,
and when she has made herself wholly
mistress of that, so that it is easier to
do than to leave undone, she has learn
ed enough to keep whole house, SO far
as its cleanly ordering is concerned.
Cherish instincts of taste and neat
ness, girls, in every little thing you
have about you, and order will breathe
out and grace from even the commonest
things. Some people may call you
''fussy, bat never mind; it is the not
knowing that makes you that.
Don't put even your pins into your
cushion in tipsy sort of way. Let it
be a part of your toilet TO dress your
room while You dress yourself.
1t is wonderful to see how much in
genuity is shown by some women, who,
with very little money, make them
selves and their surroundings so at
tractive. Old clothes fixed over
to look as good as new; old car
pets and curtains, fresh and bright.
Nothing helps person like doing these
things, and it is a real fact that, if dis
tasteful at first, housewOrk and sewing
will come to be woman's realm in
which such exact results will be reach
ed, by careful management, that it will
seem like magic.
Zone keep clean is worth a dozen
make cleans is an old maxim and a
true one. Manage to clean as you go,
which will save hosts of labor, and give
abundant satisfaction in results Put
ting to rights will not be a separate
task then.
In the realm of home, woman should
be queen. Home should take its hue
from her. If she is in the best sense
womanly, if she is tender, loving and
heroic, patient and sclf-devoted, she un-
consciously organizes or puts in opera
ton a set of influences that do more to
mould the setting of the nation than
any man uncrowned by power or elO-
quence, can possibly do.
To those, as we have said, who be
lieve that in marriage lies their only or
chiefest source of happiness, let me say
that you viii not find all light and no
darkness. all roses and no thOrns. A
young girl, in marrying, sacrifices much
She gives up in a great measure her in
dependence, to a great extent her pref
erences. She consents to great changes
in her habits, and often in her friend
ships.
In fact, she leaves nearly all her past
life behind her, when she becomes 4
wife, and very seldom does she appre-
ciate the character of The sacrifice she
has made, even beneath the crown of
blossoms. Oh, what a chasm often lies
between wifehood and maidenhood!
How she misses the mother, the sister,
all the tender felicities of home, the old
singleness of heart the serenity of
mind, the blissful. girlish days
All, she must love long and deeply
and worthily, or she will feel a blank
in her heart, 4 dull, dumb pain, never
wholly conquered, particularly if she
light upon a man not altogether merit
ed. or fully eompensating her for the
losses she has sustained
1t Is true enough that happy mar
riage is the best lot that can befall
woman, but surely, by long way, an
unhappy one is the worst, and how
many such would be averted if one
looked early to the ways of the house
hold and took q longer time in deter
mininv the choicel