Daily tobacco leaf-chronicle. (Clarksville, Tenn.) 1890-1895, 1892-03-30
GIRLS WHO FLIRT.
Why MEN MARRY WOMEN WHOSE
ACTIONS THEY CONDEMN.

Single State Of Sedate Girls and tho
Splendid Marriages of So Called Priv
oious'' Young Women.
Select your own immediate circle OF
young lady friends-those WHOM you have
known during the last ten years and you
will find, think. that few II any Of the
fiirtishiy inclined girls remained single.
while several of their prudent and we'll be
haved and more industrious sisters are
still clinging ungathered on the parental
branch
Not many years ago heard father eau
tion his two lovely and accomplished
daughters against an intimacy with two
OF their girl friends "rhose girls are be-
coming 50 hirtish and gay" he said, that
am sure your good names will suffer II
you are seen much in their company. Men
are quick to comment upon and misinter
pref such frivolous actions as ! see those
girls indulge In, and ! do not want you to
suffer from an unwise Intimacy ! have
no doubt that they are innocent girls now
but they will soon lose the reputation OF
innocence IL they are not more prudent
The daughters of the gentleman listened
to his counsel and ceased to visit the young
+ ladies who had been accused OF being iirts
--and not without cause; and yet, regret
TO relate, the two flirts are today wives OF
men who adore them, and who are the
most tender and devoted husbands while
the two prudent daughters OF the discreet
gentleman have remained at home un
wooed and unwon.
Innumerable cases of similar kind
have come under my immediate observa
ton.
| always feel exasperated with men
I when | see them choosing such girls for
wives, while the prudent and discreet ones
are passed by, exasperated not because OF
their choice SO much rs because OF THEFT
praise for the type they neglect and their
censufe for the type they select. 1t Is a
curious problem.
have tried to solve it and render the
conduct OF men consistent with their ever
repeated assertion OF aversion TO the very
girls they seem most ready to marry
II seems to me that have arrived at the
explanation Of the problem.
Men themselves do not know why they
are attracted to and won by these girls
despite their better judgment; but think
can explain the matter to them.
Stronger and deeper than mans cult
waited and acquired taste for the domestic
miration for what they usually term "go'
In woman.
think ! have seen more mems eyes
sparkle when they described woman as
full of Ego" than | have ever seen from
any other cause.
A man will he very calm and matter OF
tact when he tells you how very beautiful
some woman Is; he will be phlegmatic and
prosaic when he tells you of some shighly
accomplished and charming woman" he
knows. Not ripple will disturb the
repose OF his face when he speaks of some
good, domestic, virtuous girls of his nc
quaintance; but when he says, by Jove
she's full OF goI'' his calm becomes exhil
aration, his eye glows, his voice thrills
/ have heard them say it scores of times,
and 1t Is always with the same intense de
light and appreciation.
heard 1t said once Of a girl on country
farm; the hired man fell i'll just IN the har
vest season. and she took his seat OIL the
great reaper and drove four horses until
the overripe wheat was cut and bound. !
heard II said of young girl who had been
reared In luxury and idleness, and whose
father died. suddenly and left the family
with nothing but debts, in less than six
months she had canvassed all the adjoin
ing towns and had obtained a large paying
class in music heard it said of the wife
Of a famous politician, whose energy and
tact and brilliancy won him half his sue
cess; and heard 1t said Of a society girl
who was not beautiful or rich, but who be
came a belle because she was the best
dancer, rider, swimmer and talker in her
set.
Now 1t Ii the same elemental sort OF
combustive hidden quality OF character
that actuated these women to do what
they did, which causes many girls to be
come fiirts Girls devoid Of this element
do not understand why they are not as at
tractive to men az some less beautiful and
less prudent friend may be, and think the
male sex very unappreciative'
They hear men severely criticise the girl
whose mis,iirected "go' has led her into
fiirtations follies with his sex, yet he is at
tracted, in spite of himself, by the quality
which actuated her follies, and he ends by
marrying her
II do not see that 1t pays to be well he
haved and prudent" said very beautiful
and modest girl to me recently The men
treat you with respect, but they pay all
their attention to and finally marry the
girls who flirt with them
i
ments, yet felt sorry to admit it, But no
modest and discreet girl need envy the
happiness of a art,
III she marries "A man she loves, every In
discreet act and every familiar attention
she has received from other men during
her flirting days will be like drops of gall
in her cup of sweets And If she does not
love the man she marries surely she is not
40 ks,a AL hp la a Y n
tinue her firtations after marriage
The best advice can give to the modest
and good girls ia to cultivate go Ex
tremely discreet and domestic girls who
never feel any inclination to kick over the
traces OF conventionality. are worthy and
excellent members OF society but they
seldom POSSESS much go" This quality
needs to be born In a person, like most
other qualities, II we would achieve great
results, yet 1t can be cultivated
Shake yourself up, overcome your self
consciousness, your Incidence and your
fears OF public COMMENT Try to be ami
mated, try to be ambitious, tactfui. anus
ing and thoughtful OF others
Don't get into, conventional ruts aud act
like every other girl you know. Dare &c
be yourself, for every one has an individu
ality peculiarly her own. But in your Ct
forts to be attractive don't attempt to be
fiirtish when 1t is not your nature TO be so
because you see that men make love &c
fiirts even while despising them, II you
do you will surely bring ridicule and dis
grace upon yourself and win no mans re
gard.
It IL not the flrting which draws the
men--it Is the element have referred to
which, when msdirected, frequently causes
girl to flirt, that ATTRACTS them, even n
spite Of their prejudices
A man would prefer girl who possessed