Union County courier. [volume] (Elk Point, Union County, D.T. [S.D.]) 187?-1913, 1892-06-10

~ gas easily frightened
as a baby. Let your lip tremblc and
your eyes Ill, and say, George, don't,
don't speak ike that" but do it to
please, not 10 irritate him.
BE frightened il he scowls; be ready
to run if he growls. These big, ugly
fellows arc the tenderest- hearted men
In the world, but you must get at the
tenderness in them or you will find
yourself bullied about, and no woman
can stand that.
IL a mar is dictatorial, be as gentle
and Welding rs YOU can learn to make
yourself. Don't pretend, you know,
but really yield. Sink your own
opinions, but have a great respect for
the truth. These dictatorial fellows
are usually dictatorial because they
have genuine confidence in their own
opinions. They will more willingly
admit to themselves that they are
wrong than that you are right.
1t is the easiest thing in the world
to make them change their views,
only you must not seem to change
their views, only you must not seem
to change them. Let them do it Of
their own will and reason and intel
ligencc. Then agree with them al
ways. 1t is the right thing they
have come to, and In SO coming they
have indicated their superiority. 1t
isn't that they have agreed with you
and SO admitted themselves beaten.
Forego your little triumph. The
important thing is that the man you
are managing should be managed,
writes Clara Belle.
The man Of enormous dignity and
self-love must be handled, oh, so deli
cately. You must worship him, and
he must be sure you worship him, but
you must not sit up and sing his
praises. After all, these dignified,
self-sutficicnt fellows don't believe so
vely much In themselves way down in
their hearts. Their tenacity about
the respect and admiration Of the
world shows that.
Admit that the word thinks of
them, but tell them with clear, low
ing, steady eyes that they are not
much after all, and they will know
you are right in their hearts, where
they read themselves, and the puzzle
OF their natures and the difficulties of
them are solved for you.
or course, any fool of a woman
knows enough to be dull for a bright
man, and bright for a dull man. In
either case you must jcalously guard
the mans dignity. The bright man
must feel the inspiration Of an audi
cnce. You must grasp, of course,
what he tells you, but, dear me, you
could never have thought it out for
yourself, and how beautiful it is!
1t takes a very clever woman to be
dull, my dear. The dull man must
be frightened, spurred, encouraged
by the wit of the woman who man
ages him, and it must seem himself
who says all the clever things, him
self who imparts to her brilliancy.
Every dull man, down in his heart,
believes he is brilliant, and you must
seem to bring him out.
The fellow accustomed to command
delights in being made to obey. Oh,
not to obey always! A man must al
ways believe himself master, and feel
that you recognize him as such. That
is, my dear, if you want to manage
a man by the good, not by the bad in
him. The man who obeys a woman
because he can't help it is being
rapidly b%rutalizcd. There is no credit
in managing a brute.
But since fathers, brothers, lovers,
husbands shape, influence, and con-
troll our lives, we must learn to man.
age men, and very often we have to
make the man a MAJ first.