The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1892-06-07
NELL'S LETTER
Bad Behaviour at q Wedding
Funeral Flowers. Etc

Desr Madge: There was a pretty
wedding in this city a few days ago AMI
the briie looked beautiful Of course,
and ali the det ills were managed in a
manner which won praise from all
but we'll let me tell you tina, there
are people in Sefalia, who ought to
be relegsted to the back woods, they
havu't a grain of politeness. they
havu't the least sense OF dec rum
The wedding l referred to took
place at church and invitations had
been sent to all friends who nigh,
care to witness the ceremony and of
course seats we're reserved for these.
The dear public, however, who
were not invited, concluded that it
was free show and they worked it,
IN slang parlance. for all it was
worth. They took possession of the
pews and by the time the ceremony
was over they blocked up the churc.
exits in such q manner that the imme.
date relatives of the bridal party we're
almost unable to find an egress.
Now, Madge, it does seem to me
that people have some rights even IN
such matter rs . wedding, end enc OF
these rights is to have friends present,
il desired, and none other.
There is q certain delicscy. to say
nothing of etiquette. which prohibits
those who have not been remembered
with invitations to weddings, etc g,
from being present, aud good many
who struggled and stared Wednesday
evening, should bear the fact in mind.
For my Part, l neither believe in
public weddings nor public funerals,
Both are in bad form, becs use both
give rise to vulgar curiosity. which
had best be quelled.
More especially should a funeral be
private. 1t does not in the least nit
igate the grief which We suffer at part.
ing with our loved ones to know that
people are present at the funeral with
whum the deceased never had an &C.
quaintsnce. and who are there merely
TO take notes and comment on the
possible cost of the coffin. tie hem on
the mourning veil, the number of the
loral offerings, etc.
In Connection With these latter l
am glad to note that it is beginnin !:
t. be the custom to omit funeral de-
signs, such as broken whe l., broken
columns, pillows and the like, which
have a stiff look and carry with them
nothing but q sense of tortured roses
and lilies, and substitute instead loose
punches Of flowers, twined with their
own foli,ge.
This change in popular taste may
he hard on The florists, but it is {.
great saving to those who study arts
tic effects and have long shuddered At
the floral abortions which they have
seen added to the list OF funeral trap
pings. There Is really more love ex-
pressed 10 the little posey gathered by
tender hands and laid above the pulse
less breast Of the dead. there to exh.le
its fresh sweet fragrance, than
in q hundred designs where the word
"Rest." has been made OF immortelles
and kept in stock. 60 as to be filled
upon order and when l die Madge,
dear, l want nothing, if am not to
have the posey.
"Simon Gays thumbs up" has been
a popular title for the sweet girl grad
yates this year, Madge. Ihave counted
no less than eight who have used this
title.
In the march Of progress, it does
seem to me that the school commence
ment has little to boast of. Nobody
is such . fool as to suppose that the
shop worn essay is not at once recog
nized and yet year after year they are
chased out of hiding and the same
inane twaddle is repeated.
Now Why could not every pupil be
allowed to select some subject on
which she or he could write intelli-
gently and if not this be allowed to
select from standard authors bit of
prose or poetry-or in fact Why should
| the public commencement be held
at all?
tits no test Of scholarship it 10 merely
one more show which should gOin hand
with show weddings and funerals.
Honestly, Msdge dear, it looks Is it
nothing could be accomplished with
out the blars Of trumpets anymore