Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1892-08-13


NJ WkN that the people Of Wash
& MAN, ington should have the
N wv experience Of women in
&Ry the art Of pleasing men.
Accordingly an investi-
CATION has been made with the results tha.
follow.
One charming lady, whose success in attract
ing men about her il marked, sums up the
whole secret in the one word Hsttsry. She says
you can win any man on earth il you hatter
him judiciously. Put it on with some Of them
in soiid chunks, spread it over a large surface
With others, make il barely perceptibis with
others. but give them all some Of II or they will
never care for you. In order to catch the AMI
maj, however. You must know his nafure. No
person would think Of putting bird lime upon
the branches Of a tree in order to catch griz-
ely bear, and conversely II wonid be rather alb
surd to set a bear trap ia hopes Of catching q
humming bird. In the same way there is no
sense In taking . sensitive, ambitious man and
endeavoring to enslaye him by presenting him.
almost at your first acquaintance, with too much
nsstery, He will see your trap at once and he
viii decline to step into it and be win avoid YOU
ever afterward. Nor win it avail YOU ANYTHING
TO ofer grain Of hattery to q nature 30 Rross
fnat It can only taste it when 1t is offered in
pounds.
FIND OUT HIS AMBITION
But just take the sensitive man, and, by skill
fuiqussticning, hnd out what his ambition Is. and
then gently lead up to itand get him to talk about
It: Express ignorance Of the s-biect, but mildly
Disagree with what he says; then having drawn
MN ont, nnally express conviction that he 10
right. Let him believe he has made a convert
and he viii be SO thoroughly pleased with him
self that he viii be thoroughly pleased with you
Above all things listen to him when he talks.
inns Is kind OF fnttery that is very necessary
10 success, and remember, too, that notwith-
standing all that has been said about women 8
tongues, men are naturally great takers, and .
man Is silent only because he wants some one to
draw him out and to listen to him. OF course
these remarks don't apply TO the boobies who
wear clothes and look like men. but who haven't
any brains and are no better than automata II
you think it is worth while pleasing the latter
class you can do it by admiring their clothes
and asking them about the tailors of the city,
but you will have to do all the talking. simply
because talking involves an expression of ideas
and they haven't got any ideas to express.
FLArTER HIS wEAKsEssEs
And there is another thing that must be re-
|membered In making the effort to please man.
He is a selfish and conceited animal and must
be managed accordingly. Not that he 10 any
more selfish and conceited than the general
run OF women, but a woman hides her selfish
ness and conceit, whereas a man, being a lord
OF creation, doesn't mind showing his. For
this reason you must know in what particular
way ms conceit manifests itself and should
treas him accordingly. When a man who
has weakness for riding bicycle or playing
base ball and positive strength for arguing
law cases and transacting business comes under
your notice don't hatter him about the matters
be Is strong in and has succeeded in but about
tnose ne Is weak In. To recommend catering
to his weaknesses is perhaps to put the matter
TOO positively, but you must do some thing to
please him with reference to those weaknesses.
lou see, what he Ia strong in he is recognized
a. being strong in, and he knows just how much
he is worth in it. For instance, you may meet
and who has q high rank in that walk
OF literature. and that historian NAV
have weakness for writing poetry which no
publisher will print. II you want to thoroughly
please this man don't talk about his histories
to him, for he knows they are good, but ask
him you have heard them highly spoken Of.
There is no better example Of the truth of this
pride In what man does not do well than old
Cicero himself, who was q great orator but
horribly bad poet, vet he persisted In writing
poetry and fell completely under the influence
OF Julius Cesar at one time, because Cesar adj
mired one Of his poems-an incident. by the
way, that better illustrates Cesars diplomatic
talent than his veracity, for he was Q man of
taste and he knew bad poetry when he saw it.
Any woman Of tact can do With the ordinary
man she meets what Cesar did with Cicero.
BEAurr AND BRAINS IN WOMAN.
It il . common belief that voman's physical
attractions are the most important qualities in
her success with men, but they are aIi-import-
ant only in that they are apt to make men fall
In love with her II she Is beautiful, and are not
Of such transcendent consequence in making
her popular with men. No rules can be Laid
down for making men fall in love with you A
beautiful young girl who is simply vivacious
and good natnred will nearly always be sur
rounded ey men, but how many Of these men
are her friends? Has she any influence over
more than one or two Of them? Unless she has
some quality other than good looks and vivacity.
In other words, IL she is an empty-headed
beauty, some men will want to marry her and
others will enjoy playing with her as a relaxa-
playing with children, but that will be all there
u In it. OF course, everybody knows that men
kill themselves or kill other people or ruin
themselves for the sake Of women who have no
other claim to notice than mere physical beauty,
but just consider the large number of men
consider those other women who have
other attributes than physical beauty and who
In some cases haven't any physical beauty
whatever, who influence strongly q considers
BILE proportion Of the men with whom they
coAAAc Az SohsoSss Asoohy, sAi5 4ucstiou OF pQy8>
icl beauty il given too much prominence.
and ID not as important matter
as 1t is generally supposed to be.
How many beauties marry rising young menu
A beautiful girl often marries q man Of great
wealth. and people are apt to say that girls who
have not great beauty must content themselves
with poor men, but can beauty get one Of the
better class Of men? She IL queen In bali
room, but her kingdom il . very limited one
outside Of the ball room She is looked upon,
to a certain extent, as q toy, aud she Is apt 70
pair of with the wealthy fellow who doesn't
work, but who plays all the time, and who con-
sequently covsts a human toy. II IL not ueces-
sary, then, that you should be beauty in order
to please men. Your appearance must not be
sbN Itely disagreeable, bat II you are simply
gooo\ ,oking and you dress we'll you can please
the male sex, II VOC know how. In this matter
Of looks you must, before You make up your mind
that you want to please man, feel sufficient con-
hdence Ia your appearance not TO let IL Stand
In your way. The woman who ID -eonscious
that abe il good looking and lets you So hat he
10 conscious Of Il arouses q mans antaeoniam
ct once, and 20 likewise does the woman Who 4
not good looking and is conscious 81 il and LETT
you So that she ID conscious d IT, A voman
who u really ugly. IL shs forgsts her uelinese
thoroughly, may prove very successful With
men.
TEE ANALOGY OF NATURE. :.
In nature the males and females, unlass
paired Oh, are apt 70 herd together separately.