St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-09-17
GIRLS, Be STYLISH.
A Few Pointers st. Paul Maid
ems Might Use to Ad-
vantage.
Aunt Polly Answers the Con-
undrums Of Her Corpe-
spondents.
Some Of Fashions Latest
Fancies and FoibleS EX-
plotted.
Miscellaneous Gossip OF In
terest to Women Globe
Readers.

Iwish / could impress on all you
bright-faced girls who read the GLOBE
the necessity of having well-bred, quiet
manners. Of course l know you are
full of FUN, and are just bubbiing over
with good spirits: but don't want you
to let those spirits get away with you.
want you to be quiet III your manners,
especially in public places. The atten-
ton a woman attracts from strange men
in public is not at all desirable. Many
a girl is fiattered by bold stare, a
smile, or perhaps word spoken to her
by man she does not know. She con-
slders it all tribute to her attractive
ness; but it isn't. 1t is an insult, for,
believe me, not once in twelvemonth
is man impertnent to woman unless
she has given him leave to be. She may
have done it unconsciouSly, but done il
manner, and, above all. in your speech,
in public You will be stared at. and
you will be admired-a pretty
womsn always is-but the stare
and the admiration will he
pei Ictly respectful, and will be COM
pliments you may be proud of. l often
hear girl complain that such and such
a man has been 'trying to flirt'' with
hey-smiles at her, even lifts his hat
al Il | feel sorry for. the poor. silly girl.
Gne ought not to tell such things, even
Ii they do occur. for they are done be-
cause she has acted in such way as to
lead men to think she will not resent
an impertinence. Be quiet, my dears,
and well-bred.
From a purely ethical standpoint,
what is wrong i'll a woman is equally
wrong in man. l want you to believe
that, my dears: but make your belief a
thing to raise men. and not to lower
Yourself. 1t is moral truth, but Mrs.
Grundy doesn't believe it, and you are
100 frail thing to oppose Mrs. Grundy
and all her large family. 1t is no more
wrong for you to smoke cigarettes than
it is for brother Tom to use them, but
you can't afford TO do it. Russian wom-
EN- smoke, and so do Spanish women,
and women of many another nation,
but American women don't, that is, The
women you care TO initiate don't. You
can't afford to ape the manners
of the half world. There are mauy of
you, am sorry to say, who have fond
ness Tor going as near the boundary
which separates the women one knows
possible. You think it fun; but, o my
dears, it is playing with fire. The
bloom Oh a plum and the fresh beauty
OF your young womanhood, once
brushed off, can never be regained.
Nothing is fun for which your con-
science troubles you, and whenever
there are things in your life you dare
not tell your mother, you are in greater
danger than you dream. Keep in your
mothers confidence. and keep her in
yours. She understands you far better
thau you think. She will forgive your
little foliieS and enjoy your gjrlish tri-
umphs with you, for she was girl her
self once She will enjoy hear ny what
George paid you. She is interested in
you, If she he wise. Sometimes you
may think her bit severe, but. my
dearS, she knows the world better than
you can, and what she says is true.
Trust your mother.
But don't trust men. l like men. l
always have liked men, and l don't
mean quite all that warning implies.
My dearS, men ale not reared as women
are, more's the pity. A man has really
no reputation to lose. OF course, it's all
wrong, but it's the way of the world.
The men you are with will never tell
you when you are going too far. They
will urge you on, call you jolly good
fellow when your smoke, and full of fun
when YOU let them buy you champagne.
They fiatter you, pay you attention, and
never once let you know you are losing
their respect. That's why l say, don't
trust the men. Here and there you will
find one who Will treat you as he would
want his sister treated, but he is
the rare exception. You must know
when to stop in your fun, for the men
will not tell you. the will simply warn
their sisters against you, and l do not
think you can be quite sure they will not
kiss and tell" TO kiss and tell is. of
course, the most cowardly thing a man
can do. but he does do 1t, as many
girl learns to her sorrow. SO | repeat,
don't trust The men. Trust your mother,
your brother-for brothers are never
afraid to tell sisters how girls should be-
have, and they know whereof they
speak too often-and yourself. Let
there never be anything in all your life
the world might not know. You will
have secrets, but let them be innocent
ones-secrets that you are not afraid to
confess when you kneel by that little
white bed of yours atnght; and secrets
that you will not regret i'll after life.
AUNT POLLY.