The National tribune., 1892-07-07
EDITORS CHAT.
ErIoUET OF VISITING

EEiGIET OF VISITING.
WISHING has a code of its own, and one who
would be an agreeable guest in the house OF a
friend must give careful heed to its memorable
though unwFitten law.
To begin with. when you enter a house as a WIS.,
itor you should make up your aind to conform
vigorously 10 the customs and ways OF its inmates.
II is very lizard for resident Of the country,
where folks ee; Up ia the morning, 10 visit their
city cousins and 20 withou: food until or 10
O'Clock Of : forenoon, but crackers cheap and
will stay your appetite and Rppease your temper in
q surprising Way until you fail into the new mode
Of life. which Is always enough done. II you
do not ike it you need not stay long, but under no
circumstances try 10 reform the habits Of those who
extend 10 you their hospitality.
II they Use It an earlier hour than you are ac-
custOmed 20 il is your duty to rise also. Nothing is
more annoying 80 yoisr entertainers than to keep
the breakfas, Whiting While you steal another nap
put extra touch 10 your toilet
II you are accustomed 10 early rising and your
friends breakfast late contain your soul in pa
tienee. but under circumstances make aIIusion
40 the lateness Of she hour or complain that your
head aches from long fasting.
l. j. harder stiIl for The city cousin to adopt the
customs OF country life. Blu; the new thrill of
satisfaction ne feels ia seeing the sun rise for the
first time. chasing the shadows the dimpling
meadows. and f.ing the air with the aroma OF red
clover S. he presses the honey from dewy chalices
will bring relish for the early morning meal
OF wiile bread and golden butter and berries
with the desics,e bloom yet unbrushed from their
pulpy p3unipncss.
IL is part Of the visiting code that you shall
never hint Tor anything, arrange plans for your
host 20 carry ont, by word or act give any ex.
preston Of discomfort disapproval Of what may
be provided for you.
'Whai yonr plans for the day - a viracious
little miss ia The habit of saying TO her over.
taxed hostesseycr morning she appeared at the
breakfast table, exac,ing some new pleasure daily
and thinking only Of her own selfish enjoyment
People should never 20 a visiting simply to be
amused. There is better sociabiiiy than this it
Sc the reciprocity Of life, whereby one gives as
much a. he rceeires aud is happy In the giving as
well as in the getting.
The visitor in rho house should never be a disor.
Ranizer keepyour things picked up, and as far as
possible ia your room. Every girl should
make her own bed aad keep her room tidy
whether in her own house or that OF friend
Never use thc towel Tor wash-rsg or TO wine OF
the dust from your shoes or garments. In packing
your trunk pat 10 extra x-asil-cloths and >
few pieces Of old muslin, and needles and thread
and ail tho little etccterRs which you may need and
for which you should not trouble your host Dc
not soil too many towels, IL may be difficult 10 gel
yoG wash your hands aud face wipe ON one end OF
the toUei, instead Of in the middle. then fold ur
your tcwe! IN the cre2ses and hang 81 UP for the
next time. Never crumple il up or throw Il on the
noor Never put your soiied linen in the wash
nness You are asked 10 DO so; no one should wanl
10 turn a friend into wsshwoman
Do not lounge around on the clean. white bed
II you are III, or weary, fold up the spread. turn
down the covers and take your nap; then rise and
make nD your bed as carefully us you found II.
III you are fresh from another visit where there
j. more help in the house and more ceremony ken;
mp, do not talk about il. And never Tell " nat good
things you had 10 eat elsewhere. PEOPLE do moi
relish comparisons, and npt 20 think shat if you
yearn for the fiesh-pots Of Egypt you would better
be IN Egypt.
IL you are asked TO express choice or preferenoc
Of any kind do 50. but never he iusisient Let the
wishes OF your host control whether Il be In eat.
Ing, drinking, driving, church-going or pleasure.
seeking.
Remember that short visits are most desirable
Never wsit until The brown loafn is brought on
The table. In writing a friend, In response to 8
standing invitation that you will pay a visit be
sure and name the length OF time you intend "a
stay, and always make IL conditional upon the con
venience Of your host.
Drop into family life much as possible and do
not put away al your viTacity and life for the com,
psny hour. OF all the unweicons visitors II is the
young woman who never smiles or has anything
bright TO say until the young iaen put Ia their an
pearance. Remember girls. that a woman 10 be a
social success f,st irst meet the approval OF her
own sex. Women aTe ilie best judges OF a woman
and her social status is fixed by them aud not by
Den' however much they may extoI her