Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1892-06-14
FARMERS GIRLS.
now To xrrr rnsx on rur YARN.

now tn KEEP THIN IN riIE YARN.
There has been 90 much written upon
how To keep the boys at home on the
farm, that I want to say what seems
equally necessary-how To keep the
girls on the farm.
However Ignorant or uncultlvated q
mother may be, she always desires her
daughter 10 have better education,
morr privileges and lighter labor. than
hs. been her lot. with the secret hope
that her daughter may marry In little
higher station Of life. With this Ia view
many poor woman tolls, economies,
and denies berself. aud gives her daneh-
ter the advantages of = good education,
nly 10 be repaid with ingratitude. The
daughter IL ashamed of her mothers
Ignorant ways, lack Of gentility, un-
grammatical speech, aud narrow mind.
The home seems cherries and the family
uncougenial, after q boarding school.
Little things unnoticed before leaving
home, crate on the young lsdy's nerves.
she wishes father wouldn't come to
the table In his shirt sleeves, nor eat
would dress In better taste, and use bet
ter language. She wishes the children
we're not so rude aud boisterous. She
wishes she had something 10 read be-
sides the Que weekly newspaper aud the
few old books on the psrlor table.
She wishes for the company and con-
ycr.ation of her bright. Intelligent
schoolmstes. She wishes for more
pocket-money. And thus In short
time home 1. unbcarable, and she soon
leaves it, perhaps a. . teacher, oftener
to go Into some mill, storr, or factory.
Aud so all over our country there are
tired, lonely mothers nec'iing dAugh-
tiers help and cheer.
There IL the great labor question of
where can We hnd compctent girls for
hou.eworki
WHERE TIIE FAULT LiLs.
Who Ia 20 blame. mother. daughter or
society," Would Il have been better "
that daughter never had been edacatei'
Education IL never wrong. The
trouble Ia, she was not educated Alright.
The fault, or rather misfortune, began
with the mother. The mother must irsi
educate her daughters heart, then LET
the academy or college educate the mind.
In the Infants frst years the true moth.
er IL constantly thlnking-how can ]
make On. most of myself In order To
b. able to teach and guide my children
go that I may make the Doblcst men or
women of them. 90 that ! may always
keep their love and respect. To DO this,
q woman must be herself, Ia q great
measure. what .he desire. her child To
BE-. "Iike father, like son."
The mother must watch for her own
faults and failures a carefully M Tor
those of her child. She must teach, aud
traln, and educate her own mind, ne lar
a. possible.
Then, as soon A the child is old
cnough--and that !. very young-teach
Il fllai respect, love aud Obedience.
However humble the home, the secret OF
happiness lle- In It, members. fsuit
finding. repinlng and scolding viii, IN
the child's earliest years, destroy respect
for parents, and love Of home. ilerrin
lie. the secret Of many q mothers .uc-
GEES or failure. She IL necessarily kept
closely at home, oycrtsxci with care
and work, which often Injuries her health
and nerves. She has but little time Tor
reading or improvement, and easily fall.
Into the habit Of scoldlng. She grows
narrow minded, SEEING aud hearing but
little of the outside world.
4 .colding ar fretful man Il far more
to De blamed than is woman addicted
to these faults. Women, especially
wives, are noted for gossip.
Ia every country neighborhood is said,
There never Was such q place AZ this
for gossip" Il II any wonderi They
must talk about something, and those
v ho do no, have time 10 read or tis,el,
have nothing 10 discuss but their own
family Affairs and those Of their neigh
bors.
EDUCATION BRoADESs riiE MIND.
To city person, stopping at q farm
house, IL seems very strange to see the
members Of a household leave whatever
work they are doing and run 10 the vim
dow every time q team passes, aud To
hear them speculate as to Who u is, aud
where they were going, surmising this
or that from the horse or the woman's
shawl, or the contents OF the carriage.
II simply shows an eager, unoccupied
mind, ready To be Interested In any
event however trivial.
This IL Just what the mother wishes to
guard her daughter against. To educate
aud train her mind 10 Interest Itself In
higher objects.
Ii i. often remarked, "what good doe.
IL do q person To get just . smattering of
the 'ologie-, 'o.ophie. and languages,
being thorough In anys Many OF
those studies scholars take up for one or
two terms and then drop them, aud In a
few years, apparently forget all about
them"
want 10 tell you just what good IL
seems to me they accomplish. Educs-
lion IL broad word. IL IL the whole
general knowledge Of our lives, whether
Il runs In one or two grooves or In
many. Sometimes little general
know ledge Ia different directions, serves
far better than thoroughness In one or
two. They all serve To awaken an
interest In other things, To broaden the
mind, and To make not only its posscssor,
but those about them happier.
suppose the mother has only little
Of botany. As the little
children bring her their Wild flowers, she
can tell them the names and little OF
their habits aud uses, and explain how
the flowers belong To families just as
people do. Long before the snow u
gone she can let them have their vases
OF twigs, composed Of pussy willow, aP-
pie buds, maple, aid r., witch hazel,
poplar, etc. Teach them To watch the
buds swell and open In their variou..
blooms. Explain To them how the naked
trees have their roots deep In the earth,
drawing up the life-giying sap Into those
little brown buds. which were formed
last summer, while the big leaves hid
them. Teach them the habits OF close
by showing them that the
alders aud hAxels not only have the
blossoms Of the long yellow tassels, but
also the little red pistillate blossom on
the same stem.
Take them to walk by the common
stone walls, and give them an Interest
In mlnerzlogy, by showing them the
quartz, mica and feldspar, and their CON-
biuations Of granite, gneiss and mica
schlst. Draw their attention TO the