St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-01-24

lHlHS WHICH lHey may 90. Inc rule is
an excellent one for little children, but
inversely. This is where mother often
makes a mistake. Let me give you
some adyice-never fight a love affair.
You know love laughs at locksmiths and
opposition adds fuel to the flame."
Very good" said the New York
woman, who was cherishing misgiv-
ings. Il acknowledge all you say to be
true, but am anxious to know your
line OF action"
Simple enough" said the Harlem
woman, land dlvulged only on one con-
ditiOn, and that is that you do not be-
tray me. 1t has been one of the aims
of mylife to let the members of my
family have nnbridled liberty. Every
one does exactly as he or she wishes.
LII they are ruled, they do not know it.
i can't quite explain my methods.
Every one eventually wants to do the
very thing L want him to do.
''As soon as my children were edu-
Gated so far as school was concerned /
said to myself: They are prepared for
the duties of life as we'll as | am able to
iitthem, and now the next thing is to
direct Alright their matrimO NAL affairs
l didn't say so to them. l was appar-
emily obliviOus to any such prospect in
their future. but never weasel was more
wide awake than /.
Parents make great mistake by
being too earnest in affairs of this kind.
When young man calls upon the
daughter of the house they at once
view him in the light of a sutton for her
hand. Now. then, this is unnecessary
to begin with, because if the girl is
young she attracts young fellows-mere
boyS-ar0und her, who are in no cendi-
ioli to fol 10
tons.
@"Your daughter may think she is in
love with one of these ardent swans.
Then comes your chance to display your
tact. Never let her know you suspect
1t. Never deny him the house. EncOur
age him to come; invite others-the more
the merrier. If you are annoyed, and
you doubtless will be, and trifle jeal-
Gus withal, you place your daughter in
very dangerous position. Why? Be
cause Love is a sly boy, and he is on
their side. He is watching you closely.
Every time you signify, by ever SO
fires an arrow that hits two hearts. He
never misses his aim. You are respon-
sibe.
Never lose sight of the fact that
your dear, sweet, innocent daughter
has youthful head attached to her
youthful shoulders. She has suscep-
tible heart. Guide her in every way
you can by the light of your experience,
without ever suggesting what you did
when you were girl. Be her dearest
friend ard confidaDte if you possibly
can. Don't let her rush headlOng into a
sea of responsibilities which will surely
submerge her. Let her have such
jolly time as a young woman that she
won't care TO leave home. Nothing
kills sentiment like constant assoeia-
ton. If your daughter insists upon
falling i'll love contrary to all theory
and all common sense, increase the po-
tions. Let her have him oftener
''My daughter once had a grand pas
sion for man whom | knew to be
wholly inferior and unworthy of her.
He was stranger to all my friends and
/ had no chance Of knowing him well,
so took him to board. 1t is good thing
to allow young people to become &C
quainted. 1t removes the glamour of
romance. He seemed to be bit sur
prised when suggested his lodging in
our home. He didn't understand my
scheme and he speedily fell into the
trap. The whole affair worked itself to
the end 1 most desired in less than three
months.
81 should have kept him with US, if it
had taken three years, till my lovesck
girl grew tired of him. He didn't pay
his board after the first month. She
worked the problem out in her own
mind. l never offered an opinion ex-
cept to occasionally poke fun in quiet
way at some of the things he would do
and say.
She had more than half dozen suit
orS, and when at last she selected the
right one, he was the one Of all others
her mother would have chosen for her.
How do L manage with my Son?'
follow the same line as nearly as | can.
AS soon as he seems to be mentally abb
stracted, conclude there is a girl in
the case. l manage to find out about
her. Then, without his knowing it, l
invite her to dinner and to spend the
evening. He comes home and finds his
sweetheart. The fist time he is de-
lighted, the second time he is pleased,
the third time her presence interferes
with some plan for the evening, and the
fourth time he begs me not to ask that
girl to the house again.
He would have been married five
years ago if [ had not kept him from it.
L think he has found the right girl now.
She is too shy to come often to see me.
They will be married soon. She is the
one [ chose for him. Now, remember
all this is sub rosa."
AT this point the Harlem visitor took
her departure. The other woman was
left with something to think about, and
an eavesdropper in the next room fold
ed her notebook, and no one knew
those ideas were pinned down in black
and white.