The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-02-03
HINTS TO YOUNG WIVES
Advising Them Not to Tire
Too Easily of Their
Homes and Respon-
SibilitieS.
BOARDING A POOR EXCHANGE
Which Often R0bs Them Of Much
Besides Rome - Practical
Helps in HouseWerk.

If you have disregarded Puck's advice
to those about to be married aud have
promised to love, honor ana obey, don't
make up your mind that You hate house
keeping because you want to have a good
time. Recently a young wife, in. discuss
ing this matter. said to mel never in
tend to keep house; l hate it," | assured
her that she would never hate it as much
as boarding when she had tried that q few
years.
l suppose it is a very difficult thing for a
girl to leave a well furnished home and
begin in another at the bottom of the lad
der; to see a great many bare spaces on
the walls and few pictures. these not Of
the highest talent; TO miss the little lux
uries which rave been granted by an
over-indulgent papa: not to be able TO get
things as soon as the eye beholds them
and Imagination says one must have
them. Perhaps the young lover told you
he could not give you all you were used
to, before you were married., but love
gave everything a rosy hue then. and you
were willing to give up everything and all
for It's sweet sake.
A E A LATEE.
Dun Il year ldUtE IL is fCtI dIuCIcht.
You have taken off your rose colored
specracles and have faced love in a cot
tage" with the naked eye. You have ex-
perienced what 1t means, have seen its
practical side, and are perhaps a Iittie
disappointed. You had always expected
to entertain a great deal, when you had a
home of your own; now YOU find it i'm
possible, that your house or fiat is too
small, that it costs too much. You are
tired of housekeeping. 1t takes up too
much of your time. You want to go
boarding. You can store your things
and just take a few, to furnish the rooms
you will have in the boarding house.
Your husband permits you to carry out
your plan, without, perhaps. even a
shadow of disapproval. But don't you
think you have broken up much more
Than your homer You will never have
that in q boarding house.
Most e l think, when they marry,
hope for Il home. In our large cities they
have had experiece in countless boarding
houses, and long for the time when they
Can leave them. They have met all sorts
n conditions of men and women living
thus, and few look for much beyond what
they pay for from them. Some of them,
it is true. promise home comforts, but we
have somehow not felt tempted to accept
their kind offer.
H OTHER SIDE.
Do you realize, you VINO have thus
selfishly given up your home and its re-
sponsibility, what this means to your
husband? He may say little, but you
have bought your imagined happiness
and ease at a great sacrifice. Should
your husband be u man OF means, you
would consider it your due that you
share equally his wealth; it is sometimes
difficult to make woman realize that she
should share his less prosperous condition.
If he has to work TO support his wife, Il
mai has a right to expect her to do her
share. II he furnishes a home, she
should be proud to keep it. Perhaps he
has worked years for this. She is disap-
pointed with her home and life without
cause; so Ia he, but with just canse.
What will you do when you go board
ing? You anticipate that you will study,
become accomplished. Probably you
will. You will also dress better and al
ways nave your hair just SO. curled and
done up in the latest style. You may be
out of u home, but not out of style. You
will do a great deal Of fancy work, prob
ably learn to paint quite well. Your
rooms will be sruffy, and you will have
to make things seem not as they are. You
will go out n great deal; if your husband
refuses to &C with you you will wonder
why, and will tell your friends That he is
queer" He seems cross and taciturn.
You think you give him no cause. You
mend his clothes, and ARE always cheer
iul and prettily dressed. You feel that
you are drifting apart. d. you think
now that boarding pays? You have a
great deal of spare time to ponder over it,