The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1892-02-06
MlssRAeLa MARRlAegs.


Unions Which PRO luce Discori aud TIM
happines4
Here are two gloves. They arc with
out stain and without rip and are of
excellent quality AMI color and work.
manship. But they are both for the
right hand and they viii not make n
pair. So, then, as far as their proper
design goes, they ere useless and irri-
.tating. These two Ealf-patrs represent
precisely the cause an | conditions of
many miserable marriages. husband
and wife nro both excellent people;
both young handsome, Intelligent and,
ut first sight uppLrcltly well suited to
each other
Their smiIoritv seems to promise a
happy union: on the contrary, it is like
the similarity Of two gloves for the
same hand. They prove to be equally
young and Inexperienced, equally fond
of authority, equally sure that their
own way is the hes; way, and so equal
ly clever ut repalt tee that "tiffs" are
their daily bread They both love
music, and each soon finds the practice
of the other little trying" Both
talk so well that domestic conversation
u
steamer day. B),h have such eXqui-
site taste in dress that tailors' and mod
istes' bills are equally eXtravagant
Both write and paint little, and both
are equally blind to their own errors
of style and wide awake to those of the
companion OF their litr.
1t is, indeed, Il fart that the common
possession of some one talent is q great
promoter of coniugal hot water. Some
counteracting element of sufficient po-
tency to maintain the balance of happi-
ness is wanting-there is no left hand
glove in the domestic intercourse. 1t
would have been better that one hand
there should have been love of direc-
,tion, on the other disposition to be
led; on the one hanl clever tnlSer, on
the other Il patient aud intelligent lis
tener; on the one hand skill with the
brush or pen, OH the other apprcciative
admiration of the talent.
Two positives make n negative in
most of the circumstances of life; and
matrimonially, the circumstances are
so final and important, it is better not
to risk two postives. Two minds, two
tastes, two dispositions of the same
kind are apt to be rs obtrusively irri-
tating as two gloves for the right hand.
The situation has in it also much that
is very depressing. For, as the glove
less man reflects, he must take the
journey on which he has started with
such an unluclIy pair, without any op-
portunity of repairing the mistake; so
the man unhappily married hut not
paired, is perpetually reminded of the
hopelessness of his wrong selection. 1t
would be miracle if he should now
ever find the mate to his right hand
glove, and il he did find if tho recogni-
ton being too late for appropriation,
would be 4 misery
In general circumstances the thing to
be avoided is that similarity which
breeds difference, and the thing to
be looked for is that exquisite differ
ence which insures completeness. And
as the selection Of wife is not an ex-
perience of frequent occurrence in a
mans life he may certainly look well
to find the complement of his own
nature. or else ask himself candidly if
he is willing to go through life with
the useless suparluity of two gloves
for the same hand. Amelia e. Barr, in
N Y. Iedper