The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-03-10
NEW YORK AND CHICAGO FLOWERS.
How to Pick Out a Member of the
Upper Ten--An Arab Moth
er's Wise Counsel.

Mrs. Clendenin Is q woman of medium
height; she has dark brown hair, eyes
which it is hard to tell just what color
| they are, for at times they seem hazel.
and at other moments black as jet. then
in a tender mood they look n melting
brown. The mouth is firm n sweet.
| and the poise of the head and neck THAT
in which an artist would delight. Not
| only, says the Ladies' Home Journal. is
| Mrs. Clendenin a remarkably handsome
woman, nj she Is possessed OF u charm
of manner which attracts all VINO may
| meet her. so full is it of cordial warmth
| and graceful vivacity. She is delightful
in conversation. and what Is oIten more
| having the tender heart of her father, she
feels with the great Roman that nothing
human can be alien to me-"
Miss Batcheller, daughter of the
American minister to Porting ], says That
the Lisbon girls are beautiful and attrac-
tive, but are very closely guarded. never
appearing unattended in the street ana
rarely being seen on foot. Carriage drlv-
ing of a decorous kind is a favorlte
amusement, but the girl who follows the
queens example and APPEARS on horse
back is regarded as very advanced IN her
ideas. The girls play a little tennis In
summer dance and play cards for amuse-
ment in winter. They are rarely invited
to formal dinners, as their parents are,
but appear at the opera. Inc chleI de-
light of these delicately bred and care
fully guarded maidens is the great bull
fight at Cintra. which a most unconven-
tional American girl, who carries her
own latchkey and travels alone in the
plebian. democratic street car, would
scarcely have the nerve to witness, much
less to enjoy the horrible spectacle.
When an Arab damsel gets married.
says the Indian Mirror, her mother gives
her the following advice for securing her
future happiuess:-"You are leaving your
nest to live with a mar with whose ways
aud habits you are unfamiliar. l advise
you to be his slave, il you wish to become
the absolute mistress OF your husband.
Be satisfied with little, endeavor to feed
him well, and watch over his sleep. For
hunger begets anger, aud sleepiessness
makes a man cross-brained BE dumb as
to his secrets, do not appear gloomy when
he is merry, nor merry when he Is sad, and
Allah shall bless you"
Mrs. Henry Ward Beecher says that a
woman can do her own homework, be her
own dressmaker, and, incidentally. Drug
up q family of children, accomplishing
all in a satisfactory manner ii she be up
held by the thought that her husbands
love aud trust are placed upon her.
Mrs. Grimwood, the heroine of Mani
pur, has declined a handsome offer to
lecture, SD6 Is u heroine Indeed.
Mrs. Cleveland is said TO live in appre-
hension hi her little daughter will be
kidnapped by some ruthless villain. ,sso.fa
The difference between the Chicago
and The New York girl is The difference
between the sweetbriar and The orchid.
One is a bit of nature, the other tie per-
lection of foi iculture. There's au odor
and u freshness and a willful little sting
about the sweetbriar Which are mex
pressibly charming and refreshing There
Is a velvety polish, a patrician softness
and a big, big price about the orchid
which no other flower possesses. One
has the tang Of the prairie, the other the
atmosphere Of the dollhouse.
One can invariably pick out the girls of
the upper ten by their voices and their
~vocabularies. There is a sweet culture
in their tones and they never say guess"
Instead of surprising" they ~"fancy;"'
they say Chemist for druggist" and
for ''stay at home" they ripple ont stop
attome;" II social gathering they dub
as Il function" and a grand ball with
them is a 'rout." "An awfully fetching
frock" is what they term a very pretty
dress, and suiacks of the English
strongly. 'Smart" is a pet word with
them, and applies to all excellent things.
from a dinner to a bonnet. Theys avoid
the word gentleman AS they would an
infection, and say simply man know"
American Girls.
American girls. like American men and
women, writes Mrs. Frank Leslie in the
March Ladies' Home Journal, go about
the world, be it the round world, or just
a little round Of their own, with their
eyes wide open and their minds expanded
sufficiently TO receive such new ideas and
new phases of life as may present them
selves, and to judge them upon their
merits, without too much reliance upon
tradition and precedent.
When American girls set the fashion of
travelling, either in companies or alone,
without a chaperone, they were looked
upon abroad as either so eccentric rs to
De almost mad. or so bold as to be almost
impruper; correct English matrops re-
garden them at foreign tables d'hote with
that STONY British stare" which includes
acc u~sation, condemnation and sentence
OF social osJracisU all in one, but the
American girl gazed calmly past the
British matron at Mont Blanc. or the
Dome of St. Peters, or whatever she had
''come out for to see" and never knew
hat she was ostracised.
The Frenchman, full fed with the milk
of etiquette, tradition, ami those social
restrictions sometimes very necessary in
his own land, twirled his mustache,
smiled sgreeab!y, and followed her from
picture 10 picture, as she conScientiouSly
''did" the Louvre or Notre Dame, hut
the American girl either did not notice
him at all. or walked around or past him
as il he were some inanimate obstruction;
or, ii he were very much in the way be-
slowed upon him one of those calm, cold
and judicial regards so effective from the
pure ewes Of Il Young girl. IL so quench-
ing to the pretentious of a coxcomD.
Of course she was often misunderstood,
and that was a pity, for | am a good deal
of CBsar's mlud aud don't want the
woman love to be lightly spoken of,
however falsely, but this in Il naughty
world is inevitable. aud l think if one has
p%itience and strength to wait, that time
generally wipes the slate clean of sian
uerous accusations. Il sets thir gs right.
He is fast doing SO with reglru TO the
American girl, and the best proof that
the British matron confesses her mistake
is that her own daughter, or cousin, or
niece, is now often found following the
example of the American girl. aud Iray-
eliug, perhaps, TO her German school,
perhaps on some artistic tour, or even for
pleasure. pure and simple, whithersoever
she chooses.
A Monuments funny History.
There is one very funny relic of bygone
ages on q house in old Berlin. In the
time of Frederick the Graat,s f.thar