The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1892-01-19
HOW TO PLEASE GIRLS.
Some Receipts Givon by Fa'Eorite
of Theirs.
"A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG sMEN
Which Should DO Carefully Read and
Pondcrcd Before Going Out to Sec
\ His Innmorntn Of EycninEs...Curo
Yourself OF obstinacy Above all
Things--.somo Valuable "Don'ts"
Suggested by IL Knowing Writer.


Ne,C York AdrcrtSer,:
/ My Dear Boys, II you want TO bo solid
with tho girls you must take as much
pains TO got rid Of your obstinacy as II
it were the smallpox, In fi,ct, you want
to BIO still more particular about ut, for
a doctor could rid you OF smallpox in
two or three weeks, while nobody but
yourself can rid you Of obstinrlcy-7-a
complaint which grows worse the,longcr
you have it,
4 Some faults OF human natures wear
out in tho course OF time, but obstinacy
isn't ono OF them.
The. girls don't call it by that namc.
They call it contrariness, but no.mattcr
what tho name, they hate tho thing it.
self worse than if it wero an ugly bon
net. rrl' ,s
OF course you don't think you have
it; nobody thinks SO about himself, but
the 1.-Two young fellow who isn't strcakcd
u All LllEUuHll Will ~ 10 upOus ia hulA "
find as an honest politician.
II you don't know the signs ask your
mother and sisters, or any Of the boys.
If they're all too modest or good-natur-
cd to tell you, you can chase thom down
yourself II you'll be entirely square
with yourself Tor few days.
One Of tho surest signs is an over
powering desire to have your own way
about everything, and to have a very
small opinionto everybody else's ways.
That sort Of thing may work success
fully among men in business, if yon
have moro capital and experience than
anyone else. but it won't work with the
girls. They call it being overlooking,
and all tho brains and money in tho
world can't make an overbearing man
acceptable to women who are worth be-
ing solid with.
They have opinions OF their own, and
hold to them so strongly that perhaps
you may think they, too, are obstinate
or contrary. Maybe you won't bo far
from right in thinking so, either; but
you can't cure them by showing the
same fault Like don't cure like in
that sort OF thing. You might as well
try to cure a fit Of indigestion by eating
another dinner on top OF the ono that
caused the mischief
Leave the girls to cure their own
faults. Your own will give you as big 4
contract as any one man should carry.
As soon as you become well enough
acquainted with girl to- chat freely
with her, you will find yourself drop
( ping into argument about many things.
l don't mean chat, which is very DIFF
ferent thing, but argument, the sort of
talk that very young men indulge in
solely for the pleasure OF airing their
! own opinions and suppressing those OF
other people.
OF course, you won't admit to your
self that you have any such purpose,
but the girllwill think so, and so will
her mother, or whoever else happens
to be in tho room, and they won't miss
it, either.
OF course, you think you know it all
about pretty much everything: that's
the way most young folks are made,
but one trouble about that notion is
that the girl herself is likely to have the
same idea about her own opinions, so
there will be some awkward clashing.
Perhaps you think that woman has q
weaker mind than man, anyway, but if
you are right, there is all the more rea-
son why you should 20 slow, and not
have all your wisdom break upon her
at once. There have been cases where
q girl liked a fellow a great deal, but
gave him up because he seemed too
tremendously wise to live with. Strange
though it may seem, too, girls seldom
become fond OF fellow for the strength
Of his convictions about matters and
! things. With girls, an ounce OF feeling
goes farther, than ton OF opinions.
II yon chance to. cay that a horse is
sixteen feet high instead of sixteen
hands, don't stick to it for the sake Of
being consistent, for the girl won't be
able to see the consistency, not even If
you kindly supply her with the biggest
magnifying glass that money can buy.
Don't imagine that you are being
true toyour convictions when you are
merely keeping your eyes tight shut so
that you can't get any other view. The
tighter you close your eyes the better
other people will see Your blunders,
r. CNcll IL lllcy iilCs- Ollky girls. .Ha-.H.
You can't make friends with even n
( dog by kicking him, and you can't draw
any one to you while you're pushing
with all your, might in the other direc-
ton.
Ifyyou expect to DO solid with girl
you mustnot only respect her opinions,
but You must adopt great many OF
3 them. Don't be ashamed to do it; most
! OF them will be, upon matters OF taste
and manners-subjects upon which her
I ideas are likely to BIO worth hundred
times as much rs yours-if, indeed, you
+. have any at all, which you arc likely to
doubt byth time you become very we'll
acquainted with q girl who is worth be.
ing solid with.
& Until yon get your obstinacy well in
hand, don't attempt to talk with a girl
about either politics or religion, Tor the
less she knows about them the more
likely you are to get yourself into trou.
I'd Bile, especially if you are, really as igno.
Z rant on both subjects as she, which
may possibly be the case, although at
the present time you can't possibly see
why.
I'm sorry for you, my dear bows, ii
you take tho advice I'yc offered above
for: you'll find it q hard job; Pm sorrier
/ though, ii you don't, for you'll set ali
the better members Of the better sex
Al against you.
You can see it through. however, il
you'll he square yourself. You can
1 have the consolation while you're doing
= THAT obstinacy is only o form Of mis-
placed energy. A lot Of tho power o.
resistance has been put into you iol