St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1892-10-03
USE DIPLOMACY.
Manage Him, but Never Let Him
Know You Do 1t.

manage him, out never Let him
Know You Do 1t.
This very important question reminds
me of receipt for cake which l was
trying to put into practical use while
yet novice at housekeeping, somewhat
ignorant of the mysteries of cooking.
After giving the ingredients, the receipt
finished with the Injunction, Use &C
cording to your discretion" This left
me completely at sea, as l lacked the
discretion in this particular line which
time and practice alone can teach. So
it is with man, be he lover or husband,
''use according to discretion" and time
will teach you how to use it to nicely.
After ten years experience ones the
cries are pretty we'll proven and nearly
perfected. After you have him caught
in the matrimonial moose, you can tight
ell it gradually-gradually, mind you
or slacken up, as the occasion requires;
but never let him have a hint of
a suspicion of what you are about,
for he will be very apt to
resent any such encroachment on his
rights: do it sweetly and lnnocently, as
if you were giving in to his wishes, but
in realty weaving a net around him,
which in time he cannot break, and
way as much as it is possible for woman
to have.
Love does three-fourths of the work
for you, then tirmness, tact and con-
siderable diplomacy complete the job q.
There is one side to this question which
is all important in your success, and
that is, see that he is well fed. Do not
imagine that this calls for an extravs,,
giant eXpenditure-it does not. When
you buy your provisions get the very
best, it pays in the long run. Have
meals we'll cooked and on time: moth
ing makes hungry. tired man so saw
age as to be obliged to wait for a
tardy meal. 1t costs nothing ex-
ira to have your table linen snowy
white, your glassware, although
not cut glass, sparkling, and, if you
have silverWare. nice and shining; with
few flowers to decorate the table, or,
in the absence of flowers, even few
green leaves or tall grasses. which may
be had out of almost any yard. Have
your table inviting. and it will prove an
appetizer to the meal thereon. no matter
how humble it may be. Always have
your meals so well prepared that unex-
pected company will not throw you into
fit. and that the good man can bring
home friend to dine with confidence.
Now that we have disposed of the vul-
gar necessity of eating, there are many
other things that must be considered.
Do not notice his every little fault; pass
them over. If he has any grave ones,
here bring your firmness into play.
Do not scold. Ii there is anything
that drives man to desperation il is a
wife who is constantly ''naggng" at
him. Think well over the best way to
cure his faults. 'Be sure you are right,
then 60 ahead" no matter how severe
you may seem to be. Sometimes you
must administer the pill sugar-coated,
and then again in all Its bitterness.
Have a certain dignity, which belongs
wholly to you. and your husband will
respect you for it. Keep your house
hold cares to yourself. If you are the
mother Of little ones, see that they are
snugly in bed before mis- arrival home
for the evening, and let the older ones
stay up to enjoy the evening with you.
Never let your expenses go beyond
your income, and in that way save
yourself many troubles. Let him think,
and strive to impress upon him that he
is the man in your estimation; let him
know how much you love him and value
him to better and higher aims; let him
thtuk there is the making of still higher
achievements in his composition. His
knowledge Of your pride and faith in
him will keep up his courage and save
him from many pitfalls, while at the
same time you will havekept him pretty
well in line; and, although mis- toes NAV
occasionally be seen to come out too far,
still, at word or reminder from his
drillmaster, he quickly regains position
again. NJ. B. W.