Arizona republican., 1892-05-26
THEY DO NOT MARRY.
WHY YOUNG PEOPLE FIND SINGLE BLESSEoNESs so COMFORTABLE

BlESSEDNESS so COMFORTABLE
 If They Got Married They Would Have to Make Great Many Sacrifices, or So
 They Think, and as a Result They Keep Away from the Knot of Hymen. It is an oft repeated remark that New
 York is the finest place in the republic
 to live inf you are rich. But it is
 worse than the meanest suburb. the dreariest of western bloom towns" the dullest country village-if you are poor This is the criticism of he person who does not contemplate life as a possibil-
 ity-or an agreeable possibilty-without society, in the narrow sense of the word;
 without the pleasures that come from
 money, without the social standing that
 a good bank account gives, without be-
 ing able ito keep up with the proces- l sion" of those who are well dressed, well
 fed, well situated and well off
 Singularly enough, those who demand
 these things-who will not accept mar, ried life without them-are generally
 not well supplied with this world's goods People who have been rich all their lives
 do not realize what it means to go with
 out their luxuries. But people who have been poor know just the wretchedness | of having to wear patched boots and go without lunch; of having to walk long
 distances, because car fare mounts ups"
 of having to refuse nice invitations, be- cause they have no clothes or no means of returning proffered civilities. To
 these, poverty is a bitter thing, and they
 loathe it. Marriage. unless it means
 escape from carping cares of this kind,
 they eschew as a hopeless evil. Better endure those trials that we have than
 fly to others that We know not of, they say.
 So thinks the everyday, gentlemanly, good looking, entirely personable young man of thirty, who draws an income of
 from two to four thousand year, and is asked out all over because he dances admirably and is good to look at, and never does anything gauche. So. also, thinks the pretty, well bred, we'll dressed, moderately bright girl of twenty-five whose father spends six thousand a year and has five children Both of these know just the way they want their lives to go
 Ever since childhood they have associ- ated with companions who have had more money than they have, and they know how nice 1t is to be well off To be rich or to remain as we are, that is their motto. "When we make the great move," they both think, i've make it to better ourselves materially, or we don't make it at all"
 They do not want to be millionaires, but they do not want to be really pinched anywhere. Their house must be large enough and be comfortable It must be well fitted up-no ''sheet by night and tablecloth by day" for them. There must be servants enough to run it. This girl--who has always been comfortably placed, but never luxuriously-has no intention of binding herself down to do- nestle cares, of dusting her own draw ing room and turning up hems in her own table linen. No; all that must be done for her. She has made her own dresses and trimmed her own hats all her girlhood, and she wants, when she marries, to change all that. Better to go on doing it in your own home, where 1t is all you have to worry over, than to do it in your husbands, where you have to keep the house and take care of children as we'll
 Thus the young lady reasons and re- jects her suitors with peculiar and good humored indifference. She has made up her mind that she will not marry man who has cent under five thousand a year, and is not above telling this to the soupirants, who take the hint and strive to realize the ideal. The young lady is quite frank. She is not in the least ashamed of her worldliness or de- sirous of hiding it under veil of at tractive cOyness. She is not mercenary It is not riches that she demands--com- fort, that is all. If she is comfortable she will continue to be very nice, at tractive person, but if she has to scrimp and struggle and fight over ten cent pieces, and turn her old clothes, and have her shoes patched, she will not be responsible for her temper. She is fin de siecle to her finger tips-sensible where she might be romantic, practical where she once would have been impas- sioued-a person who is bound to make a success of her life and keep it on the lines that she regards as the best.
 The young man of her kind holds pre- cisely the same views, Life with be- loved object sounds very charming. but it is not to be indulged in unless the in- comes of himself and the beloved object foot up to from five to six thousand per auuum The beloved object on three thousand a year is too expensive lux ury He cannot afford it. What might