The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1892-05-04

tudI culture. he can teach you certain
breadth of view that men get from
mingling with the world
He can help you to become interested
in the politics of our country, in social
questions, Ill problems our foreign broth
ars ARE settling with their hearts blood.
10th sides are necessary to we'll round
ri character. excessive devotion to either
burrows the life ana the views. If you
are not Interested in the subjects men,
toned. study and become so. Not to
echo him, but to give intelligent atten-
ton to what interests him and to be
able to give him the benefit of two points
Of view
You want also TO lend your aid in
keeping him alive to what is going on
i'll the world of deed, as well as in the
world of letters, in keeping him public
spirited and up to his duty as citizen.
Never fail to show him the cowardice,
the weakness of saying Gas so many of
our best men do) Politics is hopeless
middle, therefore | will not vote"
which is in effect saying, Bad men
have got hold of the government, the
thing possible to ruin our country,
therefore III shut myself up at home
and let them have their own way"
Make him feel, on the contrary, that
every good man has sacred duty-to do
what one man can to purify politics.
The making of home is your beauti-
fru and blessed work. No one else can
do it, and it is because of your need of
wisdom and of the importance of all
these points that | have dwelt upon
them. There can be no real home where
is not affection, intelligence, justice to
the least one, respect for all and a mu-
tual desire to make happy. Grumbling
and debating, fretting and nagging are
the foes of the home life, the petty vices
that undermine SO many families. The
first two may be usually laid at your
husbands door, the last two are more
often your own faults Could you but
realize the power for good of true
home, in the lines of both parents and
children, | am sure no fretting word
would ever again come fI5m your lips,
no nagging would ever again drive your
dear ones out into the world away from
you for peace.
One cause of the prevention of these
vices is the belief that has been in
stilled into women of their responsibility
for all the faults and shortcomings of
their households. How can a wife or
mother who so believes avoid a constant
effort to cure the faults she sees SO
plainly? So soon as she rises out of this
falsity and grasps the truth that she is
not responsible; that while it is her duty,
as it is generally her pleasure, to do her
best to influence for good, with the re-
suit she has nothing to do. how much
happier will it be for all!
Throwing cold water" is, fear, one
Of your pet vices. To dampen the en-
thusiasm of the children, to throw doubt
on the reality of their dear delusions, to
check alike their noisy animal spirits
and their generous impulses; likewise to
see nothing attractive in your husbands
plans, and instantly to pitch upon the
one difficulty instead of trying to find
way out of it; to mildly scott at his en-
thusiasm, to speak with superior air of
his love of hunting and fishing, for ex-
ample, as weakness that must be
tolerated.; or meet his warm praise Of
the sailing of his yacht in a severe man
ner that plainly accuses Kim of selfish
ness or extravaganza in keeping one. 1t
may very likely be both, but that is not
the way to convince him nor to promote
peace and good will, which are of more
value than all the money at his COM
mand.
Nor do you always remember that
everything you do to take away from
the perfect freedom and enjoyment of
home adds an attraction to other places
deadly foes of the home. If you make
a man feel small and mean, what more
natural than that he should go where
his self esteem is raised? it's so much
easier than to reform his life! And re-
member, too, that by the voice of society
and custom he is perfectly justifiable in
seeking any refuge from an uncomfort-
able home.
will end with the words Of Il thought
full writer: Love in the family, in the
home, in society and in the world is the
fulfllment of the law. He or she who
leads thoroughly loving life not only
lives in God. but shares something of
Gods own power to move and bless the
world OLIVE THORNE MILLER.