Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1892-07-30

ply man who has made il his life's study to
please women and has been pretty successful.
Such man Is very different from either the
lady killer" the "masher." The former
term is used generally to describe rnnn who is
no longer q youth, who dresses Enthusiastically,
who parades the streets where women are, and,
casting amorous glances at them, is quite GER
tain that they all fall victims to his charms.
Lady killers" are sometimes aggressive, in
which event they have been known to get killed
themselves, but generally they are harmless and
partially Insane and are mere nuisances which
the law cannot reach. Now. the ''nasher" is
different. He ia young, loudly and. frequently,
cheaply dressed, self-confdent and wholly OBJ
noxlous He spots" young women in the
streets or horse cars and marks them for his
own, and then he speaks to them and attempts
to walk with them. The slightest snub discon-
certs him, and he flies at the faintest sniff of
possible danger. II '.masher' bothers you
by his attentions to any lady who ID under your
protection, tell him to go about his business,
and he VIII probably 60. If he does not 60 at
once, then kick him and he will run bowling
down the street like mean dog. Lady killers"
are objects to be pitied, but '"maskers' are
worthy only Of whitening scorn. Young bows
who ought to know better sometimes practice
the ignoble art Of "mashing," but they outgrow
1t soon If they are good for anything and never
fail to look back upon the MASKING" period of
their lives with regret.
THE VOICE OF EXPERIENCE.
The man who is so well informed on the sub
ject of how to please women says that ..mashers"
and lady killers never do it. Very well, then,
how should one go about it? This is the voice
of experience:
In the first place you can't do it il you are
seif-consclous and obviously thinking Of the
impression You are making yourself. You must
be at your ease when you talk to women. They
don like bashful awkward man, but they do
like a man to be modest before them and not as
bold as brass. There are, it must be paren-
thetlcally remarked, men Of great ability who
are intensely bashful, through their modest APP
probation Of themselves, bat as a general
thing the very bashful man is a very conceited
man, although timid. He thinks he is the best
man in the company, but that they don't agree
with him, and he is afraid to assert himself for
fear they may by some possibility laugh at him.
Such q man can't succeed with women. He can
| induce some woman or other to fall in love with
him-any man can do that-and he marries
early, whereas the favorite with women marries
late or not at all. The object sought in con-
versing with q woman is to make her like YOU
and this you can only do by convincing her that
she has made an impression on you. Pay a
great deal of attention to her. show an interest
in all she says and try and get her on some sub
ject which you can easily see is the one she
likes best.
MISTAKE TO AGREE WITH THEM.
1t is q common failing CT Impractical men to
agree with all a woman Gays, under the i'm pres
sion that such course is pleasing TO her. So
it is to some women-to some silly women. that
1s-but 1t ls not pleasing to women of brains
unless you are sincere in YOUR agreement and
you may rest assured that thew can tell whether
you are really of their opinion or only pre- tend
to be for politeness' sake. Don't make the mis-
take of trying to impress a woman with your
own cieverness. II you are really clever she
ed,
won't care much about IL. unless peradventure
she comes of the race OF Boston blue stockings
In this latter talk ANYTHING that she doesn't
understand and she will be fattered Es-
pecially if yoh know some mathematical sci
ence that only few professional men take an
interest in, it Is well to ask her opinion about it.
pretending to take it for granted she is familiar
with it. Keep the conversation in the shadow
OF the class room and don't let it get out into
the world if you help it. 1t viii bore YOU to
please young woman Of the order Of Boston
blue stockings, and it is questionable whether il
is worth the trouble, but it is the easiest thing
in the world TO do. The difficulty comes in
where you are irving to please some Young
woman who is all brightness and life, and not
the finished product that works by certain
easily defined rules.
COMPLIMENTS MUST BE DELICATE.
Ofcourse you must please women by compi-
menting them, but you should be wary with
your compliments. The man who tells a good
looking woman in so many words that she is
pretty seldom pleases her. She knows it
already and she thinks there is nothing genuine
in his admiration or he would not be SO ready
to express it. On the other hand if he tells an
ugly woman that she is pretty she will posi-
lively dislike him. She knows it isn't true and
that either he is fool or lying. These remarks
apply to women OF average intelligence. There
are, Of course, pretty women who never get
tired Of hearing of their beauty and will
swallow any amount of nauseating fattery,
and there are ugly women who honestly believe
themselves to be pretty and who like to be
lied to, but these are stupid, silly women and it
is not worth your while to be liked by them.
Women of Average common sense appreciate
their looks for no more than they are worth.
The truth is that the practice OF profuseiy compl-
menting of women Is out of date. 1t was never
anything but an insult to women's understand
ing, and as their mental equality with men has
come to be more universally acknowledged the
old-fashioned. fowery language with which it
was customary to address them has been
dropped. The exaggerat;on used was often
laughabie. Here Is a good example: An Irish
man was talking to a lady of Scotch descent.
'My grandfather" said she, twas q McCrea
and was killed by a Irishman in duel" ''Im-
possible, madam" he interrupted. '.for no
freshman would have killed your grandfather"
1t is very much to be feared that the American
woman Of the present day would laugh at the
man WHO palu ner u compliment Oh that KIND.
You must make your com pliments SO delicate
that the person to whom they are paid must
think them over for a while before she appre-
ciates their full subtle force. But the most
effective compliment of all Is the compliment
that is q matter OF actions, not words Don't
tell q woman you are devoted to her, but Just
devote yourself.
SIMPLY TO PLEASE WOVEN
These remarks, you understand, apply to the
pleasing Of women simply and not to the art Of
making them fall violently in love NTH you.
As for this latter, it is thing not always desir-
able, and to make many women fall in love with
you at the same time requires that you should
be as clever and interruptions q Mephistophe-
les himself. Here and there-one man in q
million perhaps-is found the individual who
has an Unborn power Of making women love
him. This is the man whom they worship and
who u loved irresistibly by number Of them
In spite Of his conduct toward them. Some
times thsse favored individuals are good men
and sometimes they are bad msn-thAt has
nothing to do with 1t. Often their manners
are bad-even brutal-but the women love
them al the same, and no man can ten why,
any more than It can be explained why SER
pent can charm dove, or why one man can
manage fractions horss and another man,
although he applies the same methods, WIN be
Kicked or run away with. You cannot lay
down any rules on fhs subject Of loving.
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