The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1892-04-20
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Many small amenities which the un-
accustomed regard as among the fads
of fashionable life, and altogether
whimsical, unnecessary, and absurd,
will really be found reasonable if once
looked into with any scrutiny. 49,. ~
Where the loud-speaking woman is
stamped as vulgar, for example, it is
not only because the association con-
meets her loud voice with the fish-wo-
men of Billingsgate, but because the
loud voice is unsuited to dwelling
rooms, hurts the ears of the hearers,
allows every one to know all the
speakers business, and often that of
other people, and betrays, if not
coarse nature, at least an unframed
and uucultivated manner, while bad as
it is within doors, il acts q greatly
worse part without, where it attracts
attention and invites insult; but with
out and within it is unwomanly, and
it being generally admitted that the
part of refinement, good breeding, and
good feeling is to excite as little re-
mark as possible on the street, the loud
tone is, then, at once recognized as a
yulgarity.
The necessity of chaperonage for
young girl is another thing to provoke
the de rision of those unaccustomed to
it. In the days of early simplicity
want, and great want had largely in
creased the criminal and idling class.
and before much of the worst
of the Older civilizations had been
emptied upon our shores, chap
eronage may have been unnecessary
then, it was quite possible, woman
or young girl might have gone from
one end of the land to the other un-
attended and in perfect safety, like
the jeweled lady who, hundreds of
years ago. traversed Ireland hnmolest-
ed. But to-day we would, noue of US
like to send young daughter abroad
in that fashion. 1t is not, however,
from fear of any romantic kldnap-
ping, or from dread of any positive ~
Ijury, nor even to allay the degrading
suspicion which has crept in from tho
Old World that, being at liberty and
having the opportunity to go astray,
of course advantage will be taken ofthe
fact, that we do wish our young ladies
to 60 to the concert alone, or upon
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quarters where vice turks, or even to
take journeys unattended, but because
one who knows the way Of the world, +,
and who has superiority of years or
of experience, is able to conduct the
young girl through such paths and in
a way that she will neither see the
wrong, 'nor be touched by it, nor so
much as know that it exists, as one
leads another over muddy walks in
safe footprints.
AS much contempt is showered up
on the system of visiting cards as up
on anything else in the line of social
niceties but when it is remembered
that the card represents the individu-
al, as the bank bill represents the gold
coin, it will be seen that the card is
sent out on an embassy, and plays a
useful part in social diplomacy. Bit OF
pasteboard as it is, it pay mpliments,
acknowledges attention, serves in
place of.its owner. invites, declines,
apologies, and does the work of q
factotum, so will that, like beauty, it
has it's own excuse for being. And if
we looked into the matter still more
at length, without doubt we would
find that in almost every instance the
thing criticised is valuable usage. -
Harper's Bazaar.