The Helena independent. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1875-1943, 1892-10-14
ABOUT VISITING CARDS..
Seine Points About What TO DO VITA Them
on Different Occasions.

Some Points About What TO DO With Then
on Different Occasions.
Mr.. Howella gays somewhere: Mos
women can express any sentiment undei
heaven with cut fiowers."
And the same is true of the visiting card
Joy or grief, congratulation or condol-
ence. gratitude. regret, cordially. or even
disapproval and reputation.
A society woman. recently becoming
vexed past her patience with tins
somewhat vulgar vaRaries Of a ~wsll-known
dame, left her card upon the offender
with the address scratched of. A perfectly
final actl IL in q mistake to believe thaA
stationers make the fashions in card in
their own interests, as ID sometimes as
serted. when, in fact, there ID n pstmanent
~etiqutte in this currency OF courtesy. 10
meet all these requirements OF courteeY a
very large quantity of cards Is required by
those to whom the exercise OF eocial ansni-
ties la the rule.
1t was, therefore. Ii morciful dispensation
which abolished the custom some while
ago in vogue. of leavinga card for each
member of a FAMILY. ana, II the caller wers
Il married woman, of adding az many Or her
husbands, "dealing both packs" as a lively
young marion put it oncs. Now IT suftioes
to leave your W onrd for the lady apen
whom You call, if she Is out or engaged,
and your husbands for her and Tor her
husband.
If there are daughters in the house who
are in society, leave one GARD OF your own
and one of your husbands for them. col
lectiyely.
II Won cannot be present at an afternoon
tea to which you are hidden, send your card
on the afternoon of the lat home" 1t ls
equivalen, 20 yonr preseno e, ana cahee,s
your social debt. OF course. IL you attend.
YOU leave your card in the hall. or with
the servants who announces you. II the
men OF your family have been invited. ana
cannot be present, leave their cards also.
If a man 10 asked and cannot go. he should
send his card by messenger or post. II he
has no relative to take care OF ms 'isisihS
obligations
Cards OF coincidence are delicate assur-
snoes Of sympathy. and a graceful atten-
ton. If possible, they should be left IN
person, bus mny be sent.
A card with Congratulations" written
upon it may be sent to the parents OF u
newly born infant, an engaged friend, or to
those newly wed. Ii the parents only of she
bride are your friends, send your CARDS to
them with best wishes inscribed.
If YOU cannot attend a church wedding
send a card, or cards, to those who invited
YOU. If the invitation was issued In two
names, respond to both upon the envelope.
in which two cards should be enclosed ana
sent by mail or messenger upon the DAY OF
the marriage. If you go to the church leave
your card, or send it within a week.
1t is not good form to write notes upon
visiting cards, anything which savors of an
abbreyiation of courtesy, as this does, being
invariably in questionable taste.
Introductions by card are sometimes Sim
pier than by letter. The name of the bearer
in such cases written above that of the
piyer, prefxed by the word Introducing"
This card is then placed in q small envel-
ope, left unsealed. and bearing OH the lower
left hand corner, Introducing Mr.. or
MIS-" with the full name written out.
When presented. or forwarded, the per-
son introduced ~incloses his or her own card
with the address written or engraved on it.
This style of Introduction is much more
personal than by note or letter.