The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1892-02-27
HINTS 10 YOUNG LADIES.
Things For Them TO Consider in Their
RelnlIona To Mon.


Relations to Men.
II is also one of the mistakes which
women sometimes make, TO ask any
favor of u gentleman which will incur
the least expense for him. No matter
how pressing are the circumstances,
abe should never take the liberty unless
he is near relative. In the various
circles of American society, where it is
the custom for young men to escort
young ladies to theaters and other
places of entertainment, it is a mistake
for young lady to ever voluntarily ex-
patiate her fondness for the theater or
the concert in his presence. 1t might
be proper to say here, perhaps, that it
is mistake for young lady to attend
such places with young men, unac-
companied ny chaperon. But though
much is said and written about the
chaperon nowadays, | am willing to as
sert that in the whole of America there
are not more than one thousand young
ladies who consider the chaperon a
necessity, while at least half million
very excellent young ladies are being
escorted about by admiring swains
every evening in the year.
1t is also a mistake for n young lady
to correct or scold her parents in the
presence of young men, imagining they
will admire her culture or courage, or
imagine they will not notice it.
heard a wealthy and accomplished
young lady ut one of our noted sea-
shore resorts severely criticised and
condemned by group of gentlemen
one day, because one of them had heard
her speak unkindly to her mother.
1t is mistake for a woman (wife,
mother, sister or sweetheart), to make
plans for the disposal of all a man S
spare hours, and then expect him to
enjoy himself
1t is n mistake for a woman to try to
prove to men her great knowledge and
superior intellect. They enjoy an in
tellectual woman when they discover
her brightness themselves, but they do
not like to have her force her brains
and learning upon them.
But it is just as great mistake to as
sumo an air of insipidity and expect a
man to think it charming. Men are
eXacting in their demands Too much
or too little brain in woman is equally
offensive to them.
1t is the mistake Of lifetime to give
a man any liberty which you would not
want known, and to expect him to keep
the matter secret. The exceptional
man will sometimes hide the indiscre-
tfon of young girl whom he believes
spoke or acted from Ignorance; but the
average man, in the highest the same
as in the lowest walks of life, boasts of
his successes with foolish women, and
the rendezvous, the letter, the embrace,
or the souvenir which she has given
him, thinking it will never be known
to others than themselves, is shortly
the matter of gossip among a dozen
people.
Women hide their secrets far better
than men do. They fear the censure of
the world too much to share their errors
or indiscreHons with confidantes. But
men are almost invariably vain and
proud of their conquests, and relate
their achievements with the fair sex to
one or two admiring friends. They
may not use names, but let the Incl
dents once be told, it is an easy matter
W NlloCONcI IllV pCISOtldSCo IL OuS ID dU
all curious to do So
The only way to keep men from be-
traying our indiscretions is not to COM
init them. | once made these remarks
in the presence of several ladies, and
one of them replied, that she was glad
she had never been acquainted with the
class of men l knew" At the same
time that lady's name had been used
| lightly in a club room not week pre-
vious and her indiscreet actions had
been commented on by the class of
men" she did know.
1t is the worst mistake of all for q
woman to think she can make no mis-
take. The moment that conviction en-
ters her head she is on the highway to
some grand blunder whereby she will
wound, disgust or antagonize the man
she most cares for. Eternal watchful-
ness, never-failing caution, perpetual
tact and equal quantities of pride and
humility are necessary ingredients in
the behavior woman needs to use
with men. This should be garnished
with good sense, favored with coquetry
and served with good-nature. And
even then we will be liable to make
some mistakes, since one man will com.
plain of too much coquetry in the fla.
voring, and another will call it insipid
one will say we have too much pride tc
render the dish palatable, and another
will complain of an overdose of humil
ity; and still another will think we
served our conduct too cold, while his
comrade, will think the opposite. -
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