The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1892-01-16
TO MANAGE HUSBANDS.
Sensible Conclusions Ar
rived at By the Wise I
Members of SOToSiS.
MARION HARLAND'S FORMULA.
Jennie June and Mrs. herrick
Give Their Views-lnteresting
Items For Women.
MARION HARLAND'S FORMULA.

famous New York Women's Club, the
topic of discussion was "How to manage
husbands" One point of difference be-
tween women's clubs and mems ciuos Is
the dissimilarity of the topics treated In
them. respectively. Who ever heard OF a
club of men discussing the question.
How TO manage wives"f AS FOR that.
however, something must be conceded 10
| the different nature of the problems ana
of the factors. Men are practical and
business.like They found out. long ago,
that the only way to manage wives Is 10
let them manage themselves. and SO they
do not waste time in talking about it.
Women are scheming and adroit. They
| nave had enough success In certain cases
to convince them that husbands eau oe
managed, but have not yet arrived at au
infallibie formula for the process; hence
they are still talking about 1T.
AS might be supposed a great variety
of views were presented at the meeting
referred to; but, to the credit OF the par.
ticjpants in the discussion, be 1t SAID .hat
none of them seemed to look at the sub
ject from a selfish standpoint. lhey
did not take the ground that the proper
auaaemen of a husband consisted IN
lldhlUA hlil SF'A ~
every respect and with no divlduail
of MS own. On the contrary. the pre-
vailing sentiment appeared TO DC Cha"
such a husband was not worth having.
THE IDEAL MAN.
The husband of Sorosls' ideal, II we
NAV sketch him from the condensed re-
port of the meeting published, is a man
who is faithful TO his martial vows, pro.
yides for his family as well as his means
will permit, and loves his wife well
enough to sympathize with her troubles
and share with her his enJovments.
Surely this is not I'm extravaganza eXpec-
tation for any honest man to measure up
10. No man would have his friends think
him to be less.
Woman-like, the majority of the speak
ers exhorted their hearers to manage
themselves as the best means OF manag-
ing their husbands. The burden OF their
arguments seem to exercise patience,
fo~rbearance, discretion. and If these do
not make your husband all that he should
be they will at least enable you to pear
with his faults and get along with MIN
somehow.
MARION ~HARLAND's FORMULA.
Marion Harland Terhune stated ator-
mula as calmly as she might have given
q recipe for a new pudding for the next
edition of her cook book. Said she:-
Politeness is like gingerbread-it is only good
when it is homemade, and cannot be oought
with money. however KIM anu lulSliRtut Oohh
NAV be, he needs to be cleverly managed when
in double harness, to be coaxed and petted up 10
what otherw Use he might shy at. II he is prone
to savagery n when nn hungry s and hd ne d ds"a.ly be Y: =
broaching unpleasant matters. Ii he Is inclined
to object to everything she proposes, as some
Johns are, simply because she is a woman, she
will learn to make him propose the thing she
desires. and think it his own idea. Men may be
gay deceiverS in love, but at home they are the
most gullible and transparent OF beings;
ah 10 rnifhar q min n N 81 hArO HI never
tried to make Mary believe he was. He has OBJ
jected to being canonized, and Mary IS more Of
ten to blame for her disillusions than he IS. Men
are not to be measured by feminine ideas or
ideals. Put him in his right place. survey him
by the white light of common sense. and II ne IS
true to his vo " let Mary thank heaven fasting
for a good mans love.
Almost any man would be willing to
be managed in that wav, but not every
woman has the tact to do it. Mrs. Ter
huue's daughter, Mrs. Herrick, said 81
sensible thing when she remarked that
One of the first lessons a wife has to learn
dividuallty. and that, while she can inspire
him to greater achievement in work for which
he has a bias. she cannot, as she may fondly
dream, mould his character, and she wouldn't
respect him if sne could.
Mrs. Jennie June" Croly also showed
that she has not been married in vain
when she said that
1t is not essential to be assertive. but simply
to hold your ground where principle is con-
cerned. and if you do at the same time hold
your tongue and keep your temper, you can do
almost anything with a man.
So you can, If he is a man who de-
serves to have such Il treasure of a wife,
and if he is not there is no doing any
thing with him. Mrs. Croly's recipe is
condensed, but comprehensive, and efic-
lent in at least as MANY cases as any one
formula could be.-PhlddelphiG In
Quirer.
Cultivating Beauty.
Beauty is not altogether an accident,
says Leisure Hour. 1t may be cultivated.
We have been cultivating it, more or less
nncnnscinuslu and hu a yariatY of fneEh-