The Appeal. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn. ;) 1889-19??, 1891-09-12
COURTSHIP.
A Glimpse Into a Paradise Where
All Is Sunshine and Love.
The Difident Lover, the Confident Lover
the Sudden Lover and the Lover VIII
Always Does the Right Thing at
tho Right Time.

Always Does the Right Thing at
tho Right Time.
When Tom, Dick or Harry sets out
to court his Angelina is it ''of malice
prepense and aforethought,' or does
it all occur. on the spur of the mo-
ment?
It has been much discussed uues-
ton, and one to be adversely answered
as long as there are ''many men of
many minds" Each girl believes she
knows just when she made the first
Impression; but the truth is very often
the man himself cannot tell when the
seed was planted nor how it germinat-
ed, and is surprised to find that full
blown flower is abloom in his heart
sweetening and frightening the whole
world for him.
There is certainly no royal road to
success in love. 1t is as impossible to
lay down exact rules of procedure in
courtship as it would be to apply math-
ematics in calculating the probable
course of butterfly's flight. Even as
the wind "bloweth where it listeth, -
SO the lovers emotions vary and change
often against his will and better
reason. The man who is very sure and
calm in his courtship, who has no anx-
iety and is not sometimes assaulted by
doubt and wretchedness, is, obviously,
not very deeply in love. Certainty
and quietude may be the aftermath
following marriage, but they are surely
foreign to that anxious yet too brief
season which precedes the period of
bridesmaids, minister, congratulations
and wedding tour.
There are men who, finding them
selves interested, plunge. into court
ship as a diver takes his leap into the
waves. He comes up breathless; but
the very force of his first effort has car
ried him far on to success. He loses in
delicacy, but succeeds by the very odd
lty of his way, or perhaps, because it
is the unexpected that happens. To
this type belonged the stranger who
travelling west with slender girl grad
uate from Boston on her way to take
charge of school, proposed at the end
of the trip that she should teach him
how best to live his life, rather than the
children how to spell. His straight
forward assurance had it's charm, and
she exchanged her pupils for a hus-
band at the end of the first scholastic
term.
Others approach the point of proposal
as sensitive patient would take a
prescribed sea bath when the north
wind has chilled the waves. They ad-
vance to the very edge, but as the bill
low rolls up to their feet, they, afraid
of the shock. draw back-only to again
advance as the water recedes, and,
once more, retreat precipitately as the
breaker returns. So with the ditfident
lover Who so brave as he when away
from his fair? Who so determined to
his fate? But as the moment ap-
proaches when he must 'put it to the
touch and win or lose it ALL" his cour-
age GIBBS away, and he thinks: ''I'll wait
little while and make more sure. !"
Lucky for the man if he can at last find
such help as Dorothy gave her lover,
who for ten long. years tried weekly to
propose, but always became fright
ened and turned the question into some
thing else. At length in sheer desper-
alton, she answered.:
mo, I woan't be havin' the loan O.
yo' nag; but for the Law sake, Oba-
diah, if yer want to marry me, WHY
doan't yer say SOP"
Then comes the man who, as grace
fully as the strong swimmer parts the
waters, progresses through the intri-
cacies of courtship, and arrives at the
desired haven of acceptance safely and
surely. He is conanae IL faut in every
particular; he does the. right thing al
ways, and invariably in the right place.
Bis attentions to every member of the
firmly, from grandmother to baby Sis
ter, are just what they should be. His
intentions are perfectly plain-and so
are those of his lady love and of all her
kin. He, she and they know that he
will ask, she accept, and they approx e;
bat it is proper that a certain SEM
blance of the-young-m and
the-young- girl-innocent should be main
tanned; so Angelo does all that is
requisite and at last proposes with Just
the right amount of ardor and uncer-
tAinty in his voice and words Ser
aphina behaves to bushes,
hesitates and is coy, as is incumbent
upon so fair and modest a maiden
but, finally, sweetly consents, IF mann
ma and papa will approve" These
self-sacrifcing parents, having long
ago determined what a good thing the
match will be, magnanimously give
their permission, and all s'goes merry
as a marriage bell"
From these three kinds of courtship
there are many variations-al of them
pleasanter, perhaps, than the examples
given-for Tom, Dick or Harry, honest
fellows despite types and rules, follow
ing out their own theories, and believ.
ing that each one knows more about
his own particular Angelina than any
other man has ever known about any
other girl. He tells himself he is not
silly enough to be frightened or bash
full Or awkward; he is well aware OF
just what he is going to say and where
and when he shall say it. He thinks,
too, that he can be pretty certain of her
answer Tor he would not be so foolish
as to ask, though, if she should make
some few objections, he hopes and be-
heVes he knows just how to combat
tnem successfully. So he lays out his
P'ans while Angelina sleeps peacefully,
dreaming most probably, of him; and
ne retlres to rest in state of supreme
sell satisfaction and is likely to have
VISIONS OF some other and hitherto for