Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1891-09-30
Men WHO are Not In Love.

II would give anything in the world to
know whether he is in earnest or not" is
the thought that passes through the minds
of most young girls when they have receiv-
ed good many calls from some handsome
beau ideal, who seems to just suit their
fancy.
"But how Can l ever find outp'' they cry
despairingly. "Oh! for some magic glass
that would mirror his heart and show me
what ia written on its tablet!'
Let me tell you, my dear, how to discern
whether young man is really attracted to-
ward you are not. Think over these ideas
for yourselves.
When young man has to be urged to
call on yOu-when you have to make op-
portunites to see him, or find excuses to
write to him, depend upon it, you are hsv-
ing your trouble for your pains, for. believe
me, he's not particularly attracted toward
you-he's not in love. If he calls irregular
ly, and not often, he is not troubling him.
self about whether or not any one else may
step in and win you from him. Love al
ways makes a man fearful that he may by
any slip Of destiny lose his treasure, and be
never feels safe until after he has won the
object of his alteration. It is truly said that
love makes man bashful and unassuming
in his manner
When man is eager to have you invite
your neighbours pretty daughters to help
entertain him when he calls, he is not in
love with you, for the eyes of lover are
shut to all smiles and glances but those of
her whom he has called to see.
If you are 20 years old, aud he is thrown
in contact with ycaug girls, and you see his
eyes restlessly wandering toward the girl
of IL summers, you may know then at once
that however bright and witty you may be,
he is not for you. For q ven should you be
unfortunate enough to marry him, you
would not be blessed with that heavenly
bliss which wedded people should enjoy
the love Of each other. A gentleman
should do al the wooing, for. though he
may come to see girl once or twice, who
plainly shows ''she'd like to have him." he
never comes the third time, for correctly it
has been said that
when a woman throws herself at a mans
head,
She'll soon find herself at his feet"
for if the girl has to make advances, the
man ia not in love.
When man is remiss 10 his attentions,
be is not in love.
When he neglects to perform any little
act of kindness that falls in his way, he is
not in love.
When Le puts off his eng sgements, he is
nos in love. Of course, in urgent cases, he
msy not be able to nelp If, bui if it is at all
possible, word should always ba sent, or he
cannot be called in Lore with yon. As
Rosalind says in GAS You Like IT,
"The nan who comes one minute late is not Ia
love-"
A young man who is continually asking
to be introduced to your young lady friends
is not satisfied with you, for he is not in
love; nor is he in love who always brings
nlsrriageabie gentleman companion with
him when calling upon you, for when real
love enters his heart be is jealous, to GER
tain extent, of all attention bestowed upon
others. He wishes to make sure of OBJ
taiuiog you, and will not knowingly throw
others in your way if he really cares tor
you.
Another and an excellent plan of reveal
ing the alimportant secret which some do
not dare to own Themselves Is through his
correspondence when he is away from you.
AS general rule, when lovers are separat
ed, his letters should come often. Do
they? Does he seem to find consolation ia
writing you letters long and often?
He may seDd you one every day for
long time aud then write every three or
four days. This, you say, is probable, be-
cause he is busy Then they come every
week, then two weeks apart, then they are
dictated, and then-well, they don't come
at all; for little by little, he has gently
broken loose from the slighs-yes, very
of mere friendship which
bound you together aud which you believed
was love. A lovers letters should come
often and many to your one, for oh! your
little finely written missives bring balm
and relief to him; if he does not care to re-
ceiye them, he is not in love. Do not knee!
before his picture and weep your eyes out
for him. Forget him, and say to yourself:
what care how fair he be,
Ifhe be not fair to me-"
He is simply not in love.