Evening capital journal. (Salem, Or.) 1888-1893, 1891-09-16
The Aat or LEAVING.
A Good Rule u Having Once Arisen q
Co Never to SIT Down Again.

Go Never to SIT Down Again.
Do cultivate the art of leaving
: promptly. Even If you can't do it in
; an artistic way. learn to do it some
! how.
Some people seem to be anchored in
the parlor when they pay a call. To
the fight of time and the near approach
of her hostess dinner hour this sort Of
caller pays no attention. Frequently
she says, "Oh, l must go, gets up, sits
down again, and goes on talking.
Presently she again says that she must
TO- gets up and continues to talk. She
gets into the hall at length and talks
there Finally the anxious visitee, who
hears the baby crying up stairs, gets
the door open for her guest, who
makes supplementary call upon the
doorstep, exposing the other to pneu-
monia. At last she descends the steps,
and the hostess preoipitately retreats
and shuts the door, for fear she will
think of something else to come back
and say.
The writer once heard of a woman
who, considerably chagrined at the an
nouncement of a visitor whom she
knew had these staying powers just as
she was preparing to keep an import
tant engagement, decided to go into the
parlor with her bonnet on and explain
her hurry. She even arranged with
her husband TO come into the room and
remind" her at the end of a quarter of
an hour
The guest did not take hint from
the bonnet beyond saying that she
would only stay few minutes, but
when the reminder came she exclaimed,
oh. then must go, of course" stood
up and remained talking several min
utes more, walked to the door and
stopped again. AT last Mrs. R., in des
peration. suggested that they should
walk along together as far as they
could The visitor agreed, but even
at the corner where they parted, she
stood talking long enough for Mrs. R.
to lose her train and her appointment.
Shy and nervous young people have
fhe hardest time in leaving, and are
more to be pitied than blamed. Their
is often great. They are i'm
pressed with the idea that the how is
Of more consequence than the what,
md they keep trying and trying to lead
the conversation into what they think
will be a graceful departure. They are
wishing themselves away a great deal
more desperately than any one else can.
They watch for pauses in the conversa-
ton, and clear their throats to intro
duce some variation upon Lemuels II
guess I'd better be going" but they are
never quick enough. Somebody else
begins to speak, and they resign them
selves with sinking hearts to waiting
another ten minutes.
Still it is not always the callers fault
that she does not go. Sometimes it is
the hostess who is the fluent person,
who ends every sentence with a rising |
Indicating that it is only sus
pended and that she is going right on.
In such case it may appear to the caller
Is if it would be rude to interrupt her,
hough she may have heard the muffled
iptoeing of the rest of the family past
he parlor door and the subdued clatter
If china from somewhere, and have a
painful suspicion that dinner or tea is
ready and they don't want to ring the
bell.
But there is one golden rule at least
that the caller may stick to. When you
once get up to go never sit down again
New York World.