The Providence news. (Providence [R.I.]) 1891-1906, 1891-12-02
stances Did YOU hear who she was be

stances. Did you hear who she was be
fore she was married 7"
Seems to me someone said she was a
Miss Grace Mills, the daughter OF we'll
known New York doctor"
"Then | knew had met that girl some
where and at some time in my past lie;
Why, spent several weeks with the Mills
family when was In Rome, and though
she was then only girl in her teens, felt
confident last night we had been acquaint-
ed It's too bad for you women TO lose
your identity AS you do after marriage.
Had she been announced AS Mrs. Grace
Mills Howe should have caught the clew
at once, but as Mrs. George Howe how
was TO know she was the daughter OF "a
dear old friend9 Say, Jennie, your an
influential woman and bit strong minded
don't scowl, you know that's what
the neighbors say, and i confess am
proud OF it), why do you not start a reform
In this sort of thingy i never thouBn.
much about il before, but feel now as IL
/ had been cheated out of some very pleas
ant "reminiscences. IL Is "a downright
shame, too ; no man, however we'll known
himself, has right TO merge the idehtity
of a good old family in that style, for 1
believe Grace was the only child anu Tue
doctor died two years ago,
Just for these reasons, there seems now
a-days TO be n general favorable opinion
that il is right and proper for woman 10
prefix her maiden name to her married
name. In order that she may do this the
more easily she should not be given at
birth two first names, as Daisy Maude or
Lucy Florence. There may be Instances,
however, where the daughter has been
given the mothers family name Tor a mid-
die name, which is most desirable, as In
case of Miss Marie Weed Alden: the
granddaughter of the late Thurlow Weeu,
who was married last week 10 a Mr.
Henry j. Dawson. This in full makes
rather too long name, ana gives rise 10
"A new question, IL one should go further
back than the parents. Mrs. Brown or
Mrs. Sartoris signifies little, but MRS.
Garfield Brown or Mrs. Grant Sartoris
tells its own story. The more lliustrlous
the brides family connections the more
important il is socially for her 10 prefix IL
to her married name.
The granddaughter of Dr. Arnold Of
Rugby, the niece of the late Matthew Ar
mold and the daughter of Thomas Arnold,
NJ. A, of University College, could easily
be forgiven for wishing To keep the Ar
mold, though her husband, Thomas Hum,
phrey Ward, is also illustrious, ana
though she herself has added honor TO the
latter name.
Then again, IL any woman has any par
ticular distinction in her own name or
has been engaged on any important Dusl-
ness, IL is quite necessary TO know her
maiden name, as well as married. CLUBS
Oh WOllltH are solNluk tht 1uNo'D
their needs by having printed first in the
year book their Christian name, as Susan
Kelly Morton, following which that OF
their husband, as James II. Mortou.
On the other hand, card etiquette de-
clares that married woman should never
use her Christian name on card, Dut ner
husbands, as society cares not hg for
who she was but for who she is, while IL
is considered a great breach to address an
envelope other than with the husband
initials. Many funny questions arise In
the discussion, as, for instance, which
Christian name shall a widow use, her
husbands or her own The English say
il is absurd for widow TO use her hus-
bands Christian name, but here 1t is the
common usage for widows to retain and
use their husbands name, "as an identi-
fication in society,"" they say. Who cares
in the charmed circle Of the 400 who Mrs.
William Vanderbilt or Mrs. George Gould
was No one, says the leader OF the OPP
position, who throws out as last shot
that when this change has come about
then there will be women who want their
husbands to take their name, and by that
time the men will prefer not to marry at
all