Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1891-05-09

A YOUNG MAN ON COMING INTO A
great city, or into new place where he is
NOT known, should try to bring few letters OF
introduction. If he can bring such q letter to
any lady Of good social position he has nothing
further to do but deliver II. and II she takes
him up and introduces him his social position
II made. But this good fortune cannot be COM
manded always or often. Young men often
pass through lonely life in great city, never
finding the desired opportunity.
But to some it comes through q friendship
on the cricket ground, at the clubs or through
business. II a friend says to some ladies that
Tilten is good fellow Tilden will be sought
out and invited. 1t is hardly creditabie to any
young man TO live in a great city without
knowing the best ladies' society. He should
seek to do so, and, perhaps the simplest way
would be for him TO ask some friend to take
him about and to introduce him. Once
introduced Tiden should be particular not to
transcend the delicate outlines of social
sahrance. He must not Immediately rush into
an intimacy.
ABOUT CALLS
A call should never be too long. One hour Is
all that a woman Of the world says should be
granted to caller. This rule is q good one
Tor an evening visit 1t is much better 10 have
ones hostess wishing for longer visit than to
nave her sigh that you should 60. In first
visit gentleman should always send in his
card After that he may dispense with that
ceremony gentleman for an evening visit
S daoe always De IN evening dress, black cloth
dress coat, vest and pantGloons, faultless linen
and white crayst, silk stockings and polished
low shoes.
black cravat is permissible, Blu. It is not full
dress. For . dinner party white cravat il in
eispensaoie; man must wear it then. No
II ia fasb,s IL
rings. Men can hide their watch chains in
evening dress The hands should be especially
cared Tor, the nails carefully cut and trimmed
NO matter how big or how red the hand is, the
more masculine the better. Women like men
to look manly, as If they could drive. row. play
ball, cricket, perhaps "handle the Gloves
genslemans dress should be SO Quiet and
so perfect that 1t will not excite remark or at
tention. Ihackeray used to advise that a
watering pot should be applied to new hat to
dressed up" defeats an otherwise good toilette.
AT rHEArxR PARTY
We will suppose that Tilden becomes suffi-
eientiy well acquainted to be asked to Join a
theater party. lie must be punctual at the
rendezvous and take whatever partner the
hostess may give him. but in the east he must
not offer to send q carriage; that must come
from the giver of the party. In this eastern
and western etiquette are at variance.
40 In certain cities west and south a
gentleman is expected TO cali in a car
riage and take a Young lsdy TO A marty.
Inns would be ruin in Europe nor is il allowed
In Boston or New York If, however, Tilden
wishes to give theater PARTY, he must furnish
every thing. He first asks Indy 70 chapcron
ms party. He must arrange that all shall meet
at his room or friends house. lie mnst char
ter an Omnibus Or send carriages for the whole
party; he must buy the tickets He is then ex-
Peeted to invite his party TO sup with him after
the theater. making the feast as handsome as
his means allow.
AS HOST OR GUEST.
This il favorise and proper manner for
young man to return the civilities offered him.
1t is indispensable that he should have the
mother of one cf the young latiies present. The
custom of sending such a party with ONLY
very young chaperon has fallen properly into
disrepute. And 1t seems almost unnecessary
to say SO except that the ofyenso has been COM
mitted. Never. should he force himself into
any society or go any where una 5ked. OF course.
bihty. and 1t is an understood thing that a
leaaer OF society can take Young nan any,
where. She is his sponsor.
IN THE DAT TIME
In the early evening young man should
wear the heavy loosely fitting English clothes
now so fashionable. but for an afternoon prom
enade With lady, or for reception, a frock
coat tightly buttoned gray pantaloons, neat
tie and plain gold pin is very good form. And
this dress is allowed at small dinner in the
country or for a Sunday tea LIZ men are of In
the Adirondacks. il flannel il the only wear
there is no dressing for dinner. but in conn
try house where there are g,,ests il is better to
make full evening toilet, uniess the hostess
gives absolution.
At any rate there should be some chenon
clean linen. fresh coat fresh shoes. &c. Gc.
even In the quiet retirement of one S own home
Neatness, frequent baths. much exercise in the
open air, these are the admirable customs of
Young gentlemen Of the present day. If every
enc OF them, no matter how bnsy
how hard worked. could come home
take warm bath and dress for
dinner. 1t would be mn admirable plan Indeed.
ii all American men like ell English men would
show this attention to thoir wives. society would
pc lar more elegant A man always expects
his wife to dress for him. why should he not
dress for her! He is then ready for evening
visits, operas, parties, Iheaters. wherever he
may wish to go. No man should ,it down to a
7o'clock dinner unless freshly dressed.
HIS TURNOUT
II Tilden can afford to keep a tilbury or n
dog cart and fine horses, so much the better
for him. He can take q Young girl to drive If
her mamma consents but a servant should sit
behind. That Is Indispensable, and the livery
the whole arrangement. should be elegant
TiIden, if he would succeed, must not be
hashy. and as true refinement comes from with
in let him read the noble description OF Thack-
cray:
What is it to be gentleman? Ii it to be
honest, to be gentle. 10 be generous. to be true
to be brave, to be wise. and possessing al! these
qualities to exercise them in the most gentle
manner Ought gentleman to BE- loyaI son.
u true husband and honest father? Ought
his life to be decent. his bills to be
paid. his tastes to be high and elegant?
Yes. thousand times, yes" Young men who
come to great city to live are sometimes led
astray by the success of CANDY Adventures who
do not fall within the lines OF the above de-
scription, men who ''get on by means of
enormous impotence, self-assurance, audacity
and plausible ways.
But II they have patience and hold to the
right the gentleman will succeed and the ad-
venturer win fail. No such man lasts long.
Give him rope enough and he will soon hang
himself. II is not necessary here to refer to
the etiquette OF clubs. They are self
protecting A man soon learns their rules
and limitations. A man OF honesty and
character. seldom gets into difficulty at