The Daily bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Hawaii]) 1882-1895, 1891-01-29

4 His wifs's Lever"
Copyright by American Press Association.l
\ It is always rather mortifying to
woman to read articles telling how to
retain her husbands affections, when
few writers, if any, ever go to the trouble
to correspondingly inform husband
''How to Retain Your Wifes Affections.
It seems to be taken for granted that it
is an easy matter for husbands to keep
their wives in love with them. This is
not as it should be. Every woman should
manage in some way to make her hus-
band feel that her love, and not her mere
faithfulness, is the sine qua non of hap
piness for him, and that it cannot be con-
tinued to him unless his life and his love
!. for her are such as to deserve the rich
Sreturn which she desires to give him.
q A woman of tact and resource who
Il genuinely loves her husband will take
4 this attitude unconsciously, both toward
Sherself and toward him, and the mutual
3relations of the two, if he be true man,
awill be permanently adjusted on this ba-
isis; but there are thousands of wives,
! well meaning and afectionate women,
&swho since things are as they are, see
4 their husbands slipping away from them
sday by day, and who would give any
,sthing for the power to bring them back
;sand hold them to the romantic fealty of
sstheir courting days.
a Such women as these have not de-
s,served, like the willfully giddy and per-
ssverse, to lose their treasure; they have
.sonly been dull and stupid. Perhaps while
sthey have remembered the paramount
/: instruction to keep their husbands well
9.fed they have been too ''tamely and
atruly true" or perhaps, while their
ahouseholds have been neat and well or
8dered, the strain of life has been too
Ahard upon their tempers, and their quick
5words, regretted as soon as spoken, have
s9created breach. How can they regain
what they have lost? And how can they
skeep it when gained?
y Perhaps the strongest story which
ssssSaxe Holm ever wrote is that in which
sshe tells "How One Woman Kept Her
q Husband" There is some general truth
Gin that striking tale, but the main cir
scumstances were too exceptional to af-
ssford much help to women at large.
n There are. however, many truths regard
Sing the keeping of husbands, which
Everybody knows in vague way, but
(which few apply to themselves. There
4 are many men whom nothing could per-
sssuade to their duty, to say nothing of
& love, either because they have not the
materials within them for honesty or
5snobility, or because they are not men of
4 principle nor of Judgment.
q But there are plenty Of well meaning
gmen, brought up upon traditions, who
Edo not feel the old glow of affection for
L their wives, and are not gentlemen
4 enough to simulate it. They find other
\ places more attractive than home, and
i without being either immoral or brutal
\ they make their wives miserable by show
!. ing plainly that the old love has gone out
i in their hearts.
J There is one fact which such wives
Fought to take to heart. 1t is this: In
Y spite of all the lovely and beloved in
q valids, of whom there are not few, it
. remains true that health and happiness
3 usually go together. The healthy wife
is oftenest the happy wife.
"But," many poor, broken woman
has argued in defense of herself, "what
sif you had to be sick? What if hard
u work and anxiety and all sorts of wear
Z ing little burdens had affected you so
i that you could not help being sickS"
! This is largely nonsense. No woman,
] unless under crushing weight of power
8 ty, or the desperate illness of loved one,
4 has any right to work too hard for her
i health. 1t is distinct robbery of her
4 household when she does this. She knows
{ that there is nothing gained by sitting
! up night after night till the small hours
I to get the family mending done to suit
1 her, or to put ten tucks in Cora Bellies
apetticoats, 1t is far better to OCCASION
Tally let child wear an undaned stock
ding and to let Cora Bellies skirts hang
4 plain foreYermore than to inluFe ones
health Ten 10 one the mother works
! thus from tho insane desire with which
aome women seam imhned 10 pose l.s
! martyrs, Husbands do not, IA rule,
love whining, complaining, weakly wo-
men, Many wife recognizes this truth
j after the mischief 10 done Then she
I would ngiya thousand worlds % enrp
what lrlao would hafe prevented
! Perhaps the quality Which leula Tho
lnnal iuhefnfa hfAlll aad which rnifaa