The Sunday herald and weekly national intelligencer., 1891-05-24

AS long ago as the days of our first father,
Adam, the need of a helpmeet was fully
realized. Such being the state of the case,
and men forever seeking those better halves
without which their lives are incomplete,
dull, and savorless, the following repre-
sentative views of some of the leading pro-
fessions among Washington beaux in reference
to the question will prove of widespread in
terest aud doubtless be of practical value to
the matrimonially aspiring class of young
girls.
After getting together q budget of opinions
from the female standpoint it was suggested
to me by a prominent young bachelor of our
city that ''turn about was fair play" and
that the men should be allowed an opportunity
to air their sentiments upon the al-important
question.
THE WIFE FOR NEWSPAPER MAN.
One of my first interviews was with a
promising young journalist, whose devotion
to his chosen profession leaves little time on
his hands for the sweet allurements of Cupid
Yet, all the same, the sly god has not neg
lected an opportunity of waving his soft
pinions across his path and beguiled him into
chance visions of the fair ''might be-" Mr.
L., whose full name we withhold for
prudential motives, replies to my query: sI
find IL safer to remain nnwed than sacrifice 90
much OF my independence and rather Bo-
hemian existence. single man may enjoy
his club, where game or so of billiards or
pool may bo indalged In without giving cause
for objection, while married man
must be home with the twilight, ready
+<,s3 .t,s : t,ss ,fa,e
diYidual society, regardless of opposing
tastes and the demands Of alluring boon COM
panions. Then, too, no man should be will
ing to drag woman down to the hard struggle
for existence that every young Journalist must
wage before he may hopeto attain a compe-
tency. In truth, think it best not to Jump
out of the frying-pan into the fire. Should
choose wife, however, l would say, give me
one who can use typewriter in order that l
may dicate.to her, and thereby secure true
helpmeet in my work, and one who can truly
sympathize with me in my professional
aspirations. For return 1 will give her my
love and the devotion that her unselfishness
30 well deserves In word, my wife must be
to me good comrade' and willing to cheer
fully share the uncertainties of my lot.''
THIS ONE MUST PAY HER OWN MEss-BILL
The following is a concise but comprehen-
siye view of the situation from the standpoint
of a naval officer, whose broad experience of
life and personal attractions of mind and
heart entitle his opinions to be read with con-
sideration and carefully digested by those to
whom they are supposed to be addressed /. 1
copy verbatim his note in reply to my query,
that will give pretty general idea of the sem
timents of all brother officers: Ar
"MIss GRUNDY, JR.: / received your note
asking for my views on the subject of an
ideal wife, and, more particularly, one for
naval man.
81 have never given the subject of matri-
mony much consideration, and therefore my
views would not be of much interest to any
one. do not believe that naval officer
should get married at all, but if he is deter
mined to do SO, as great many of them are
/ do not see why his ideal should be any diff
ferent from that of man in any other pro-
fession. A good wife is good wife the world
over The only ideal l have ever heard naval
officers describe was one that could pay her
own messbill.
''ldeal men and women exist only in the
fertile Imagination of romancers. If we were
to go around the world In pursuit of our ideals
had in finding an honest man.
81 believe In making your own ideal after
finding the right person. You meet one that
is attractive and interesting, and whom you
are apt at first to admire and then love. You
see only what is good and beautiful In them,
and thus they become your ideal.
81 am afraid that getting married is like
raising the ante In Jackpot with only a small
pair. If you have good luck you may improve
and win the pot, and If not you may lose all
you have.
'As these are my private views, trust that
you will throw this into the waste-basket and
never let them see the light of day. Yours
faithfully, H. 4. SULLIVAN
THIS BRIDEGROOM ELECT EXPECTS PRRFRo-
TION.
Here goes another from distinguished
member of the same branch Of the service,