Gloucester County Democrat., 1891-09-03


about her, and LIE warns her of the dam
ger such an innocent lamb as she incurs
by trusting the wolves 50 fearlessly.
OF course he is no wolf, Oh, MOI But
probably the innocent lamb knows the
marks of wolf quite well, and will take
care Of herself even while she seems i'm
plicitly to receive the warnings and rev
elations of her kind guide and mentor.
A man who can talk judiciously and
acceptably to woman about herself
will be voted by that woman all agree
able man. and If lie has pretty large
female acquaintance he will have nu-
cleus IF admirers to proclaim this opin-
ion
But to be a universally agreeable man
"a man whom other men viii admit to
be agreeable, although they won't use
that word-requires something more.
\ man to be agreeablein general society,
at dinner party, at a reception, at any
Of those places and times when t6te-a-
tttes are either impossible or i'll bad
taste, must be able to talk to more than
ono person and upon imperSons.l topics.
lie must know something about great
many subjects. and Yet not have the air
Of instructing his hearers. Nothing il
much more irritating than the ex-cathe-
dra style, when the speaker seems to
mount a rostrum and hold up his hand
for silence before each utterance. That
was the matter with the agreeable man
first mentioned, and he annoyed me 50
much that | resolutely forgot an the val
uable information SO carefully " impaired.
Another rock upon which | have seen
4 great many men meet shipwreck il
unadaptability; they talk and talk well,
not too learnedly and not too satiTically,
but they talk upon subjects which have
no interest for their audience A gen
tleman once called upon me and bright
little girl who was visiting me. He
staid nearly two hours and he talked
almost without intermission upon some
scheme for irrigating Arizona and es-
tablshing mills upon tine artificial wa
ter courses. do not doubt that it was
a most brilliant and interesting exposi-
ton if only we had cared anything at
all about the irrigation of Arizona, but
my entire vitality was absorbed in the
effort to keep awake and look politely
interested, while my little friend made
Punch and Judy puppets out Of her
handkerchief and some tides, and at ap-
propriate moments bobbed Mr. Punch's
head in assent or caused Columbine to
caper with delight
Certainly that man did not know how
TO make himself agreeable,
People sometimes ask me, knowing
that am familiar with most parts Of
The civilized world, where have found
she most agreeable MEN ana tile most
acceptable companions.
It j. i hard question to answer, for
eEe's taste changes so much from time
to time, and according to the conditions
of ones own life
In early youth / was thrown much
with men of Latin blood, Spaniards and
Frenchmen, and naturally learned to
think their modes of thought and
speech, their somewhat formal courtesy
ana stately grace the most agreeable en-
semble in the world Later | have seen
very much Of Englishmen, ana nothing
can be more agreeable than the frank,
honest high bred courtesy Of true Eng
hsh gentleman. although lie cannot
claim much of grace, vivaeity or versa
tilitv
But today give the palm to my own
countrymeu, for they combine the splen-
did strength and honor Of the English
man with tine wit and worldly wisdom
of the Frenchman. ami the Spaniards
appreciation Of and graceful devotion to
women. in fact, " the people Of these
United States are tile union Of all the
races 10 the earth. where but among
their men should we look for specn=e ems
Of the best qualities Of all men? Perhaps
this estimate viii not hold good in all
directions; perhaps not every American
combines the romance Of the Spaniard
with the wit Of the Frenchman, and the
nobleness Of the Englishman or the Ger
man ancestor Of the Englishman, but
the combination il very possible, and in
greater or les degree have seen it
among the agreeable Americans Of my
acquaintance.
said 50 tlre other day and my hearer
at once inquired.
"Whcre most frequently? North,
south, east or westss aud replied after
due consideration:
Il have found the agreeable man
north, south. east aud west.
Mrs. FRANK LESLIE