Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1891-03-08
WOMEN AS TAKERS.
ApIscUssioN AS TO WHETHER THEY
SOMETIMES TALK roo MUCH.
Typos OF Women Who Make business OF
observation-disclosures May Blast
Matrimonial Chances.

That women talk more than men is GER
tain. That men converse better than women
Is more certain still. Very few women
have attained to that highest form in
conversation in which so many men have
graduated with distinction. To talk Is
not to converse, and, as rule, women
may be roughly classed asmere chatterers.
The very best orator among women will
not equal the second-best orator among
men. Nature, prejudice, training
all have forbidden it. Nor do think that,
every restriction being removed, and even
prejudice overcome, women Will ever e1cei
in this line. II is not their line. They are
too emotional. too excitable. too liable to
be carried away by the sentiment OF the
moment That they are well-meaning Is
beyond doubt, but their meanings are
many and various and uncontrolled. When
| say that, even overcoming prejudice:
they will not succeed as public speakers, /
say a great deal for prejudice dies hard.
and to kill it takes time.
NOT ALL oHATrERERs.
OF course. to declare all women mere
chatterers would be absurd. Yet it is the
few, not the many, who must be exempt
from this title. 1.-THE few" belong to the
the salt of the earth, so far AS the women
are concerned-to the clever ones. the
deeply read, tho thoughtful. THE
Many to the less'ieeply read--the light
hearted, the genial. There is third
class. certainly. but on it why dwell
It comes under the head of the dull
one"-that Is, the woman who is always
silent. because-ssd actl.she has nothing
to say; who would speak IL she could. but
she can't; the woman who sits on lounge
all night and seems to find great moral
support in the opening and shutting of her
fan, and who is distracted If the tail of her
gown is not properly posed. We all know.
this woman. AS rule she IS beautiful-to
look at.
To be forever at high pressure with only
high thoughts and high designs to sustain
one, TO never condescend TO things of low
estate-surely this is eventually to know
defeat.
How pleasant tor a change are the
trivial things of earth, the light gayeties;
TO exchange for the musty tome the soft,
smiling lip, the dainty touch, the in-
vitation to sit beside one on the low satin
lounge.
Girls who wish to make themselves at
tractive, especially 10 tho opposite sex,
sometimes talk too much, sometimes too
little. 1t would be difficult matter 10 de-
eide % to which is tho more at fault. but
should say the one who talked too much.
mails, like to hear their own voices. The
girl who will sit quietly beside them, quiet
ly but alphabetically, with one word
thrown in for their hundredth, and that to
the point, will in the long run be esteemed
by them above all others. Therefore the
GIRL who. bent on matrimonial designs.
talks too much to her would-be lover Is
almost assured of failure.
MAY TALK TO MARRIED MEN.
To the married man a woman may talk
as much as she likes TO the bachelor a
girl may not talk as much as she likes.
She must even be contented to let him
talk. whilo she looks on and admires, or
pretends to do so. 1t is not so terrible an
ordeal as il appears; IL has its reyenges.
Having listened until the last prayer at
the wedding ceremony Is completed, she
may then Qike the worm turn and declare
herself the one to be listened to for the
remainder of her existence.
doubtedly, like the children, should be
seen and not heard. This is the loud, the
fast, the horsey specimen, of whom proyi-
dentially there are as yet but few. The
less we hear of them the better. and of the
ghrieking sisterhood who would make all
sexes alike, or going even further vote for
the reduction of man to pulp, of them
what is to be said?
Decidedly such women talk too much, or
rather they give too much place 30 twad-
die, for to believe seriously in the theories
they promulgate would be impossible. Not
content with even the vain idea OF making
woman equal with man they go q step fur
Their, and try to make her superior to him.
The very striving toward this unattainable
point only proves the weakness of the
woman. Home is the proper sphere for her
there let her talk as much as ever she likes,
so long as her words are seasonable and
reasonable. The girl has great deal in
her hands, but the wife has great deal
more. Her price should be above rubies.
Let her talk at home, but let her talk be
to the purpose. Let it be to the comfort,
the consolation, the help, the delight OF
her husband. The DUCHESS.