Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1891-11-15
TOO MUCH MARRYING.
Bessie Bramble Finds a Good Many
Points in Favor of Celibacy.
FASHIONABLE TO BE SINGLE NOW.
The Woman Who Esrus Her Own Living
Gets All the Honor Going.
no DISHONOG 70 BE AN OLD MAID
rwRrrrEN FOR THE prsPArcu.1


thing to do. In q wife they found q CON-
psnion-an able helper in getting along in
the world-aDd q partner in the founding
of . home, who would enhance their joys
and share their sorrows. Girls were brought
up to be wives, and bows to be husbands.
To begin in modest style and work up by
economy and thrift to ease and competence
was the rule.
But now with the increase of what the
grandfathers and grandmothers would have
deemed luxuries onlv for the rich, but
which are now considered necessities, the
question of marriage becomes much more
serious matter. The young man now, who
is not o fool, looks ahead and considers the
cost. The young girl now, who is sensible,
weighs Ter capacity for self-sacrifce and
takes thought as to whether love is strong
enough to make ''drudgery divine" and
whether it will have power to furnish in
spirstion and sufficient courage to enable
her to serve and labor all her life long-for
better or for worse-with board and clothes
only thrown in. A man who is meditating
upon matrimony, and has about reached the
conclusion that the happiest condition of
life will be found in home of his own with
the girl of his heart, will, if he is wise, not
rush into his anticipated bliss blindly
Trusting to His Lucky Stars,
or putting full faith in the pious maxim
that ''The Lord will provide, but he will
prudently take thought of the risks and re-
sponslbilities he proposes to assume, and
devoted himself TO saving enough money
TO go to housekeeping without hanging q
milestone of debt around his neck. He will
not want to have his house decorated with a
mortgage, nor have his dreams disturbed
BY visions of the sheriff and foreclosure
he will be anxious to guard against poverty
coming in at the door, while love fies out
of the window. With all his happy
dreams, his fond imagining., his castles IN
the air, he vet has sense enough TO remem-
Der that the cares of the world, and house
rent, and taxes, and bread and butter are
real and tangible things that come
home TO the happiest, and that love is
not proof against poverty, nor is it accepted
SIS security for the almighty dollar"
The prudent man moreover will be care
ful in the choice of a companion for life.
Addison SAYS that marriage enlsrges the
scene of our happiness and miseries. A
m5eTiage Of love is pleasant, marriage
of interest, easy; and g marriage where both
NEE, happy. A happy marriage has in it
all the pleasures Of friendship, all the en-
iovments of sense and reason, and indeed all
the sweets OF life" Addison himself made
Z MISS of it in his own marriage at an age
when prudence and philosophy might both
have been supposed to have governed his
aeti ms With all his brains and wisdom
his marriage was a great mistake" say
those who knew him, which only goes to |
add one more fact to prove Carlyle's asser- |
tion that the majority of men are fools-or |
words to that etiect-and the saving of /
smother wise man that 'tas rule men are
bigger fools in matters pertaining to love
than women"
Love Makes Men Blooming idiots.
1t is hardly necessary to stop to show the
proofs OF this as furnished bv cloud of
witnesses. Everybody knows that when q
man is deeply, msdly in love he usually
publishes himself as a blooming IDIOT for
the time being. His friends may use their
utmost endeavors to hammer prudence into
his head, but without avail They may
preach the doctrine of delay until his means
and his prospects will justify his assump-
ton of the responsibilities of marriage, but |
no! he is in love, he wants to get married at
once without let or hindrance, even if he
has tc borrow the money 10 buy his clothes
and pay the preacher. When he is very far
gone. be becomes so sentimentally silly that |
his love seems sheer madness, and nothing |
will bring him to his senses until the illu-
sion is dispelled by the disenchantments of |
prosaic, everyday married life.
1t may be because preachers have more
trust in Providence, but it does not seem as
if they were more given to making what the |
VIC d calls improvident marriages than any |
- IL e.,
gifted with common sense. In one of the |
goodv- -goodv novels that are imagined to be |
particularly fitted for the Sunday school Ii |
brary, the young minister about to take /
charge Of his first church insists upon be- |
ing married at once" He talks il over |
with bis best beloved. and by the arguments |
and reasons of a red-hot lover gains her |
consent. He then addresses himself to the |
domestic powers that be. ''Clara get mar
ried, indeed, said the wise elder sister. |
Why, sir, she said, warmly, "this child |
lsn : Mt TO take care OF you for year at |
least. She has never made q loaf of bread |
She knows nothing OF how to get up de-
cent dinner She is wholly ignorant as to |
the mysteries of starch and irons She can |
make little cake, but to roast, to broil, to |
make pies or manage a kitchen she has |
never learned. She is just out of school, |
and needs at least year Of practice to be-
come housekeeper."
How 1t Ended in the Novel
But so dead in love was that clergyman
that nothing could induce him to wait even
) month. Out of the depths of his wisdom
be replied: ''Oh, Clara will take up those
things by instinct 1 hav, no fear of her,
snd an willing to take the risk
Well, they were married inside of two
weeks, and the whole book is full Of the
trials and tribulations that resulted from
the Ignorance of both. The salary of the
minister was $500. On the strength of this
be bought q house and expected to save
FOO year 10 make his pavments.s But
with their most strenuous efforts, they could
not make both ends meet. let alone save
anything. The congregation-as congrega-
ions wili-talked over their pastors
domestic affairs. They 'tnebbed in" and
1iscoa-sed with sighs upon the shortcom-
ngs Of the minister's wife. They pitied
heir preacher in that his wife was extravs-
,ant Instead Of LAYING by a provision for
he proverbi2l rainy day, the young couple
got more and more deeply in debt and
black books. The worries and dis
preyed upon the preachers
mind and his sc mons fell of, and all through
he book everything went wrong Instead
If setting down their misfortunes to their
,wn lack of prudence, they imputed them
VI to Providence-who sent ''cares like
Wild deluge" and "storms of sorrow" as
riais of their faith-that is in public. In
he privacy of their own thoughts, there can