The morning call., 1891-03-06
A BACHELoR,s SAY.
Mans General Immunity From Sorrow
and His Many Privileges.

Mans General Immunity From Sorrow
and His Many Privileges.
Editor lFomdn'S Column, Morning Call:
l do not know whether you will permit a
man to defend his sex from the aspersions
cast upon it by various writers in your
column, but the spirit of fairness usually
displayed by TIE CALL leaves me to hope
that you will.
To use slang exoression, at makes me
tired to read these constant complaints
about man having general immunity from
sorrow and his many privileges and
woman with her pains and penalties,
ever-no matter what her position-receiv-
ing the minimum of pleasure and the maxi
mum of pain"
This is the burden of the song of very
many of the contributors to your column,
and the worst Of it is that the blame for
this unhappy state of things is very I'M
justly charged to men; while, as matter of
fact-if it exists at ali-woman's special
woe is solely chargeable to herself.
/ think that in most cases where she CON-
plains of her lOt-for thank heaven she does
not always do So
HER PARTICULAR GRIEF
Is that she was not born Il man instead of a
woman.
Did it ever occur to one Of these ladies
that she can no more correctly judge Of
mans pleasure or pain in life than he can
estimate hers?
Man and woman from childhood to old
age are far more diverSely constituted men
tally than they are physically, aud l do not
believe that either can appreciate pleasure
or pain from the standpoint of the other
any more easily than Chinamau can un-
uersiand the enthusiasm of a Caucasian
over all operate selection rendered by the
Park Band, or than the latter could sympa-
thize with the former in the soul stirring
drama of the Chinese theater.
If let this figure of speech rest here. /.
s, or Bacnelette, or some other of your con-
trlbutorS would at once rush into print with
the statement that ] compared woman in
telIec,ually with Chinaman.
I THEREFORE, HASTEN TO EXPLAIN.
Let woman be tie Caucasian and | will be
the Chinamau myself Women are such
close loSlcians that one has to be particular
about these things.
But, seriously, while these contributors
are envyinI men their happy time in life
ana bewaling their own hard lot, many
weary buok-keepPr and business man raises
his tired eyes from his perpleXing accounts
and feels sense of refreshmcnt rs he sees
a bevy of ladies passing-his wife, perhaps,
among them-gayly laughing and chatter
Ing rs ladies sometimes do.
Deluded mani He thinks they are enjoy
ing themselves, and he feels happier in con-
SFNuCiNt- 11o d uldtltA VI ldSN NhtA art,
perhaps undergoing one of those fearful
ordeas known as 's0aial duties" or shop
ping" either one of which would be more
than his inferior endurance could stand up
under.
And then mans .''many privileges"'
am sorry L, 5. did not tell US more eX-
plicitly what they are. They must be many,
and | for one would like to see just
WHAT THEY look LIKE
From woman point of view.
| think that every man Of middle age,
whether successful in life or otherwise, will
bear me out in saying that the many
pleasures which seem TO lie before the boy
just entering mans estate-the many oppor-
tunties which seem to be his for the taking
each and every Que, unless it lie in the
line of his duty to himself in the develop
ment of true and noble manhood. will
turn to the bitterest of dead sea fruit the
moment after ii is within his grasp.
| believe that the sum Of pleasure and
pain is about equal for both man and
Woman. III woman has more power Of en-
durdnce of physical pain, and increased
appreciation OF pleasure over man, she is the
gamer by it, and it is very certain that when
wUmankind Will treat the dOwn-tr0dden
and unfortunate of their own sex with as
much consideration as is shown them as a
rule by men, and cease TO be the slaves of
fashion and Mrs Grundy, she will have no
cause whatever to envy any man either his
pleasures or his privileges.
1tdaed0. Feb. gS 1891 BACHELOR.