The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-12-14
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A msn should never propose from a
distance, two feet being the outside
limit allowable, except in very special
circumstances, nor with his gloves on;
and never on any account, should the
girl accept, must he brush the fringe
from off her forhead to look into her
eyes. Girls have been known to re-
fuse men after having accepted them
for that sole reason, although they
called it having doubts as to whether
they cared enough for them.
Proposals in dimly-lighted conserv-
atories should be avoided. In fact. az
a general principle, ''avoid doing any
thing as described in books; be your
natural selves" There would
not be so many futile proposals if they
were made more simply. Amongst
the various proposing specimens OF
mankind are the wild passions"
which clasp the objects of their love
in their arms and shower burning
kisses on the tops of the bent heads.
regardless of hairpins, while inco-
herent words are poured forth.
through the maze of which a girl vain
ly tries to catch the only word she
cares to hear.
And here, perhaps, is the best place
to divulge a secret which few men
know. Most girls have, at one time
or another, been told by their mothers,
MY dear, do not believe anything
any man may tell you till he says,
Will you be my wifeY'"-EtheI L. in
NeWark -EOenfng NeWS.
Spoiled Children.
Spoiled children are not the product
of effete civilization. They have al
ways existed, literally since the begin
ming of our race, for the first child was
Cain, and in the light of his subse-
quent career, we cannot doubt that
Eve allowed the wonderful little
creature his own way in everything.
Original sin was then so new, so fresh,
that the baby had it in its undiluted
potency, and the young mother, most
hapless of women, never had a mother
of her own to guide and instruct her.
Other instances of spoiled children
could be easily cited from the Scrip
ture records-Jacob, his mothers dar-
ling, and Absalom, the pride of
David's heart, coming at once to
mind-but it is not necessary to turn
to the past, we have the species al
ways with us; perhaps in our W
homes may be found choice, we'll de-
veloped specimens.
There are rigid dis~ciplinarians who
believe that a child should never be
permitted to have its own way, even
when that way is a good one. neither
injurious to itself nor disagreeable to
others. Were theirs the universal
rule originality would be totally sup
pressed, and the law of love become
obsolete. Brought up in the frigid
atmosphere of sternness and constant
repression, a child may learn to be-
have with perfect propriety, but it is
none the less a failure. and a pitiable
one.
The little ones are entitled to loving
care, to tender caresses, and sweet
words of endearment. 1t is only
when love becomes injudiciously in
dulgent that the processes OF spelling
begins. 1t is so pleasant and easy to
give way to little eXactions, to laugh
at the naughty yet winsome actions,
prlcklv thorns, the kittens sharp claws
are grown before we awaken to the
fact that our own precious darling lisa
high private at least, if not a COM
handing officer, in the great army of
enfdntS gates. 1t sounds better in
French-the foreign syllables are less
downright-but there is no softening
the hard reality away. And then,
with a remorseful consciousness that
it is oar child who has become a
''nuisance"-the favorite term applied
the spoiled children of other peo-
ple-we enter hurriedly and energetic
ally upon the task OF roofing up the
noxious weeds which are choking the
growth of all that is sweet and at
tractive in the youthful character.
And with a sigh of contrition we de-
plore our own failures and resolve to
be more vigilant. We will not, we
must not, let the little darlings be
by our inefficiency. And so,
taking courage, We begin over again,
cheerfully forward to the
days when, as g~randmothers, we can
the privileges of that dignity,
and spoil to our hearts content
Ha7pea's Bazar.
Germ II Knitting at the Opera.
Heavy opera flourishes here in all
grandeur. The performance gener-
ally begins at six O'Clock. and dinner
is eaten after instead of before the
performance. The German young
ladies are very much In the habit of
attending the opera without chap
erones or escorts.
l guess they don't need the chap
erones, but / cannot tell you whether
the absence Of escorts is from choice
or necessity. The American girls do
not take their knitting to operas and
concerts, but quite often the German
girls do.
There are several establishments
where you can get a fine luncaeon or
dinner and at the same time listen to
a most delightful concert from very
superior string bands. In n of
them, at a long table next to me, sat
fourteen pretty, red checked German
girls, the oldest of whom was not
more than eighteen.
They were a picture. Each one had
her knitting in her hands, and during
the whole performance the needles
were piled in perfect time with the
music. You never hear any conver-
sation while the music is going On.
The native people think it very
bad form, and they will instantly hiss
vigorously anyAmerican whothought-
lessly INDUCES in the practice, 50
common at home, of drowning the
sweetest notes in the buzz of common
place chatter. dresden Letter IN the