The Democrat. (Scotland Neck, Halifax Co., N.C.) 1884-1896, 1891-08-20
SPEAK KINDLY.
RULE FOR HOME, BUSINESS
AND EVERY PLACE.
IT COSTS NOTHING AND SAWS MUCH


Why not? Why should not nus
bands and wives bound together
as they are in the most intimate OF
all earthly relations, and necessarily
in constant intercourse with each
other, consecIate and halloW the
sacred relation, and bless them
selves, by always using kind words
when they speak to each other!
vi here is the place for hard words,
angry words, and words of reproach
and bitterness? Such words always
leave a shalp sting behind them.
They are not the words of affection,
and become neither husband nor
wife, They contribute nothing
to the happiness of either, and are
the prolific source of large amount
of misery. The husband who abuses
the wife by his words, aud the wife
who snaps and snarls at her hGs-
band, are alike untrue to their
marital pledge, and really in a very
bad way. Such husbands and wives
ought at once to repent of their sins
against each other, and acquire
better affections and better manners.
Speak kindly. Why notS Why
,t,a,,1j NOT ,,orarto oIuavS ScaaE in
this way to their children, and why
should not children always so speak
to their parents? If parents TINS
speak, children will naturally learn
to do the same thing. The example
by the parents Will reproduce itself
in the practice and habits of the
children; and the latter will grow
up into manhood or wOmanhood
With a gentleness and sOftness of
manners, and carefulness in the
use Of words that is characteristic
of refined and cultivated beings.
| Authority, when exercised throug b
kind words, is scarcely felt simply
as authority X he element OF
severity is withdrawn from 1t, and
obedience TO 1t is secured by love.
Parents who allow themselves to
get into fits of passion with their
children, and then thunder and
storm at them in the language of
vehemence and anger, are making
a grave mistake in the family gov
ernment. Such parents need first
of all to govern themselves and put
their own passions under healthtul
restraint.
Speak kindly. Why not? Why
| should not brothers and sisters
living 10 the same house, eating at
the same table, and fed and clothed
by the same bounty, always speak
! to each other in this way? BY sc
dong they Will minister to eacL
others happiness, avoid petty quar-
rels, make home pleasant, cultivate
good affections, crafty their parents
AMI please God. AS they become
men and women they will be scat
tered hither and thitheI; and wheI
thus scattered it will be pleasan
for them to look back to their child
hood days, and remember that thel
intercourse with one another wa
kindly and affectionate. The friend
ship then formed will follow then
through lite.
Yes, speak kindly. Why not9-
Why should not men who are assC
ciated together IN business, stud
and practice the law of kind word
towards each other? Why shoul
not the master speak kindly to hi
servant? Why should not one spea
kindly to a stranger who may as
HIM question? Why should nc
those who differ IN opinion addres
eacn other In the use of respectfr
and kindly words? Why shoul
) not those, who oppose moral evil
temper their language with the la
: of kindness in the form of utterance
, Why should not the minister of tn
gospel, the doctor and the nurse i
tue sick room, the buyer and th
a seller, the banker and the merchan
+ the governor and the governed, th
s Judge on his bench, the warden {
d prison, and indeed, every ma
and every woman, on all occasion
/ in all circumstances, and under a
t pIovocations, both study aud pra
tice the law of kind words in tt
total intercourse OF life from til
cradle to the grave.
, We would like to have our rea
d erS, each one for himself, ponds
> these questions; and also the tit
). placed at the head of this artlcl
e There is an amazing power for GOO
:. or evil in words. A large part
q human Influence is exercise