The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-11-30
HINTS ABOUT MARRIAGE.
A Time to Marry and a Time to Re-
main Single.

The announcement that Pastor
butcher. of Grace Methodist Church. on
Tonnele avenue, would tell people
"When to Marry" proved a great attrac-
ton to Young men and maidens, married
men and women and even children
Girls OF uncertain age occupied the front
pews and maidens Of sweet sixteen aud
its vicinity packed the rear pews so as to
be near aspiring youths upon whom they
showered their sweetest smiles when
Pastor butcher scored a point in their
favor. Fidgety mothers, not anxious to
become mothers-in-law. were somewhat
anxious. but displeasing as parts of the
discourse may have been to them, 1t was
highly appreciated by members of the
fair sex who are deprived OF the pleasure
of receiving callers by their mammas who
are, they say, too careful" of them, and
who are TOO lofty in their aspirations"
That it was the PASTORS intention TO ar
ralgn mothers OF this class was ap-
parent. The discourse is the result of the
Pastors Investigations amongst his par
ishoners, the female portion OF which
in many Instances have laid their cases
before him, for mis- opinion.
Mr.. butcher dwelt at length upo the
solemnity of a marriage. which lS always
indicated by the presence OF the mother
of Jesus, Jesus himself and all HIS dis
ciples. One of our Lords first and
greatest miracles" said the Pastor. was
the Transforming of water into wine at a
wedding ceremony In ancient times the
parents OF both sides of the house selected
wives or husbands from the same tribe.
The IsraelileS married only 1sraelites, ana
these, like all other Ola Testa uent
truths, were perpetuated by Jesus Christ
and His disciples.
WHEN NOT TO MARRY.
1.-THE time not to marry Is when one has
nothing intellectual, moral. spiritual or
social to give. Marriage is not to take
place in the latter periods of life rs time
is SO short. Everything must be COM
bined, concentrated and consummated in
a short time. Jesus Christ flushed his
work in thirJy-three years and since that
time mans average existence has been
about that number of years. Marriages
contracted late in life are like a rose from
which there has been picked many petals.
1t is Then a harbinger of death rather
thar life. Marriage is not to be without
the largest element of Undivided affection
and acts promotive of the same.
1.-The time when marriage houll be
contracted to be productive of the largest
good ia the time when the contracting
parties are in their strength and vigor in
every respect and no much Last their
majority. AS a seQuent 10 the excellency
of early training aud care by parents, by
which mean moral and spiritual incul-
cation has taken place, a man az his
mai ority is able to care for The affairs
and events of life so that between twenty
one and twenty-five years. it has been
proven is the time to marry. Men who
had made the greatest impressions. upon
the world, whose deeds and histories are
in the archives of nations of the world,
have accomplished all great things in the
early periods of life. Greater events are
accomplished by greater men and lesser
men may accomplish smaller things.
EARLY MARRIAGES C~oUNsELLED.
I'm lieu OF the foregoing l recommend
earlv marriage There is less is ord;
there is the delightful sequence of thrifty,
hardy chilcren. Tnis much to be de-
plored. regretted sowing Of wild oats is
thus never thought of. As man is not
complete until he is married, it is very
important that he should complete aim
self, if for no other reason than by virtue
of his gaining manhood.
Some OF the charges against early
marriages come from parents Of a girl
who fear that she will not get as good a
home as she is leaving. This Is selfish
ness. If a girl loves IA young man and
her affections are returned, they should
be permitted to become united. ugh
tiers who are afraid to leave their homes
to risk poorer ones by marriage are COW.
ards, as they are not willing to help build
up what they desire and long for, namely
homes.
"Mothers desire to guard daughters
from the world. its strifes. pains. anx-
ieties, turnioils, and this statement is often
heard:-'My darling shall never pass
through what l have and in this way
girls are permitted to become intellect
uaily dull. with no physique, sufferers
from ennui and dressmakers. Girls fear
what some young fellows may think of
than, Gfrlo pnuadaus re rnn xyalt cural
for, cared for to such an extent that they
are di, qualified in any capacity for the
realities of this life. For a girl so
useless as this | know of no date late
enough for her to marry, nor have l heard
of any man who wants her. 1t was the
custom of the Greeks, Romans, Hebrews
aud Egyntians TO m AIRY early in life, and
the result is the long procession OF hardy
descendants. The Americans In former
years married young, and this is the
foundation of the brain and muscle
which has carried us through so we'll 10
this hour.
ADVICE TO MOTHERS.
"When mothers say that heir daughters
are not to work. not TO suffer, not to com-
bine to achieve. there is little in life, and
when their wedding bells will sound the
kneli of The decline and fail of the original
American stock, mothers break the chains
forged by smithies of love. This should
not be so. Let every girl know her own
mini. Let girls defy dressmakers. lay
aside cosmetics, and stand out as
the girl Miles Standish looked upon.
They nave minds, let me exercise them.
"Mothers of today should cease rearing
cultivated and useless girls, and infiueuc.
ing them to selfish. useless times in the
world, but rather to instill into their
minds an all consuming desire to
be-. to do and to dare to do more than
any women who have yet,lived. Mothers
should not interfere too much. Let them
love, let them unite with the man they
love and who loves them, and create
thereby happiness and goodness and not
unhappiness." Pastor Dntcner's dis
course was listened attentively TO by
everyone.