Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1891-03-29
THE MAN WE WANT.
Bellies of the Capital Describe Their
Ideals For Husbands.
EASTERN YOUNG MEN LACK PUSH,
Society Chappies Amuse but Never Gel
Serious Attention.
TWO FATHERS WHO ARE PERFECT
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TWO FATHERS WHO ARE PERFECT
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| WASHINGTON, March 28.-The man we
want. This is the subject that fills the
souls of the girls of to-day. We all expect to
marry at some time. We all have our man
pictured out, and though we may not have
seen him yet in flesh and blood, we know
just what he ought to be and how he ought
to look. At least this is so of most Wash
ington girls, and the publication of my
talks with q number of them may bring
him to the front called yesterday at the
home of the Secretary of Agriculture and
asked Miss Rusk to tell me her ideal hus-
band. She replied:
ST don't believe in ideals which have
| neither form nor flesh. One woman, for in
| stance wants a. domestic man, while another
wants one fond of society, and at their
wedding in most cases both have chosen the
direct opposite of what they thought to be
their ideals. In my opinion, perfect hus-
band should combine
Love of Domesticity With Sociability.
| He should be able and willing to take his
part upon occasions in the innocent enjoy
ment of the social world and share his
wifes tastes, whether they be domestic or
otherwise Above all things he must have
| intellect, and in these days of absorption in
money-getting. it is difficult to form an ideal
among men who seek first TO know the value
of the fathers bank account before risHing
their heart and hand upon the daughter.
"Would you credit it," continued Miss
| I'D; hor
gentle ewes, "only a few days since gentle
man acquaintance of whom had held a
high opinion, confided to me that he had
urged a certain friend to devote himself to
a certain woman of wealth simply because
of her money.
"In the East I think the young men lack
| the energy and push which so largely char
acterize the men OF the West" Miss Rusk
continued. "More especially in Washing
ton there seems to be considerable proper
ton, both young and old, who having moth
ing wherewith to occupy their time, give
themselves up to an exclusively fashionable
existence that must inevitably tend to their
deterioration of character. Their
Highest Aim Is to Kill Time
in as pleasant a manner as devoted attend
ance upon as many teas, dinners and recep-
tions and the fascinations of club life will
workers here as elsewhere, but the number
is mostly confined to poor clerks in Govern
meut employ who can seldom afford to in
dulge in the diversions of the gay world
outside of the four walls of their daily
drudging. 1t is in fact now useless to look
for hero of romance outside of the covers
of novel, and my only ideals are bound in
pasteboard and not in flesh and blood"
The eldest daughter of the Chief Justice,
Miss Grace Fuller, will on Easter Monday
marry Mr.. Archibald Brown, of Chicago.
and the ceremony at the historic old church
of st. Johns will be followed by a large re-
been looked forward to with interest by the
fashionable world of the capital, who will
thus suffer the loss of another favorite.
''Have you then found your ideal?"
asked of this bride prospective.
She laughingly replied, 'T have never
once in the past even considered the ques-
tion, strange as such an assertion may
seem, for to tell the truth 1 have never
associated myself with the thought of matri-
mony, having up to the present time felt
convinced that should always live
A Life Of Single Blessedness.
"I must confess that my change of views
has greatly surprised even myself, and
can only account for it on the principle of
fatality. Doubtless. as have never formed
an ideal, shall be all the happier in the
man of nv choice, who. though differing
n many respects from the picture would
have drawn, is all, and even more than my
widest dreams could have fancied. b.
lieve it is Adelaide Proctor who says
Whom first we love, We seldom wed, but
IN my case lays the exception, and I con-
slider myself especially fortunate in having
drawn a prize in the great matrimonial
lottery"
Miss Minnie Wanamaker is one of the
most loved and universally admired daugh-
tiers of the Cabinet. She is tall, graceful
blonde, with a sweet dignity of manner and
vivacity that wins for her friends wherever
she may go. She has enjoyed superior ad
yantages of seeing the world and learning to
know its people while dwelling beneath
their own vine and fig tree. One would
therefore think that the fair young Ameri-
can would have formed for herself some
beau ideal of manhood into whose keeping
she would long ago have entrusted her
maiden heart.
Her Ideals Change Rapidly.
Yet, strange to say, when 1 asked her to
give me candid description of her ideal
husband, she confded to me the fact that in
all sincerity she had never formed one. II
fear you will judge me very fckle," she
added. "but to tell you the truth 1 find that
my fancy changes with every new acquaint-
ance of the masculine gender. This de-
plorable fact goes to prove that in my day
dreams of future state of matrimonial hap
piness there has been no definite picture
formed, and, in fact, believe that the ro-
mantle quality that marked the days of
THE Children of the Abbey has entirely
died out in this more humdrum age.
1.-THE young people of the nineteenth GEN.
tury look more upon the practical side of
life than is compatible with the develop
ment of the romance of our natures. Should
n Young man propose TO the lady of his love
in tine same extravagant style as that of
which we read with so much pleasure in the
old romances, he would surely get laughed
at for his pains, where a less humble and
more manly avowal of his affection couched
in practical and plain terms would be re-
ceived with attention, and in case of finding
a responsive cord would doubtless meet with
an acceptance equally Unconditional and as
much to the point as though it had been
worded in the most poetical and. flowing
terms.
Doesn't Like the Society Beau.
s:It is deplorable. but true" she con-
tinued, "that the majority of men one meets
in society are perfect nonentities, without
end or aim in life but to kill time in as
pleasant a manner as circumstances and
their fathers generosity will permit while
their brains are filled with nothing but the
latest gossip of the club or the newest STYLES
in neckties, and their accomplishments con-
fined to their feet. They are carpet knights,
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