The Manning times. [volume] (Manning, Clarendon County, S.C.) 1884-current, 1891-07-22
HOUSEHOLD NOTES.

one VINO QOcS not mean 70 'teCclft.
Her intentions are in the main good, rs
most of her friends realize; yet she has
the unfortunate faculty of misleading
people regarding her real sentiments
in everything she says and does. She
would he fairly overcome with grief
and vexation if any one were to tell
her that she was unreliable in word
or deed, for it has never entered Der
poor, silly head that she is anything
but the most sincere of women. OF
course, she is not morally lacking,
like the person who wilfully tells or
implies falsehood, but in her quiet
way she does even more harm than
the other can possibly accomplish by
her more direct and more easily de-
tected methods
The woman we have in view is as a
rule fairly well bred and by no means
ignorant or lacking in experience.
Indeed, she Las so many good quail
ties and has had so many advantages,
that we wonder how her character
could have received such al unpleas-
ant bias. Her imagination is so
strong that, without intending a false
hood, she can never quite adhere to
the facts OF any case she may wish to
relate. Thus the most commonplace
happening is embellished and distcrt-
ed until it is quite changed and no
one would recognize it. She de-
ceives nobody more completely than
herself, for the shred of real truth
upon which she builds her deceitful
story acts like the "little leaven" that
leayens the whole lump, and, to her
own mind, makes truth of the whole.
She mistakes society, too, for she is
often genuinely deceitful by being
over-polite. It was unnecessary for
her to make such friendly demon
stration when Mrs. A called the 9TH
er day, since she knew at the time
that she would be better pleased if
Mrs. A. never come to see her again.
She does not realize that she can be
genial and hospitable without acting
lie by Stimulating regard she does
feel. In her friendships she finds, per-
haps, the most fruitful field, for here
she can deceive in the most artistic
way. She is often deceitful by her
silence. She has heard that 'there
is time to laugh and time to cry, "
but she does not seem to know also
that there is time to speak. When
friends actions are assailed in her
presence she does not defend the ab-
sent one or strive to place the matter
in a different light, which she could
easily do did she not wish to curry
favor with the mischief-maker; but
this cowardice does not prevent her
telling her friend the next time they
meet that Mrs. G said such spiteful
things about her, which she herself
tried her best to contradict.
Then again, in the presence of mere
acquaintance, she does not hesitate
to observe and remark upon the faults
of some old friend who has always
been kind to her. Mrs. G., whom she
has known ali her life and who has
helped her over many difficulties, is
no doubt little hasty in her speech
and rather careless in her dress; but
the deceitful woman should not be
the first to point out these small
shortcomings, as you and 1 know she
does on every occasion.
Then this same deceitful woman
has another friend, who sang at the
charity concert last month. The sing
ing was certainly very inferior, but
does that excuse her for congratulate
ing and openly applauding the sing
er and afterwards quietly remarking
that her notes were all flat and that
it was so unfortunate the committee
should accept offers of such poorly
trained voices? OF course she does
the singer no real injury, but she
shows her own ability to 'wear two
faces under her hood" and her friends
having found this out, soon lose all
confidence in her sincerity.
So strongly has the habit Of mis-
leading and misrepreseuting taken
possession of her, that she is even de-
ceitful in the small affairs of domes-
tic life and to those she loves the best.
Her husband discovered her failing
years ago, and the knowledge that
she constantly deceives him in trivial
matters often rankles in his mind un-
til he unconsciously begins to doubt
her very love for him.
But the deceitful woman generally
contrives to avoid any decided out
break against her. She is so suave
and agreeable, that even we who
know her faults so well are still at
tracted to her, and find it quite i'm
possible to assail her. If brought
face to face with any of the obstacles
which her peculiar methods have
placed IN her path, she gracefully
walks around them, and tries to i'm
press upon you the fact that she had
nothing whatever to do with their be-
ing in her way. Thus she never
learns the genuine contempt in which
all true-hearted women hold her, and
she goes on her way TRANQUILITY un-
conscious that by her unlovely con-
duct she brings oiscredit upon her
self, her family and he, sex. 1t is, in
fact, this lack of perception which
causes her to persist in her unwoman-
ly and Improbable conduct-unprof-
liable because it deprives her of the
real pleasure which only true friend
ship can bring.
True, this woman is never deceitful
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