Lewiston teller. [volume] (Lewiston, North Idaho) 1878-1900, 1891-07-16
ONE OF HIS WEAKNESSES
CHARACTER DEVELOPED
MEN AFTER MARRiAoE'
. philosopher In Petticosts Disse'.s '"'
M.rr,ed Man-Advice to Girls 10y
One Who Processes TO
Know All About 1t.

One Who PFOiesecs
Know All About It.
Irving to please everyone is not only
, lost but deliberately thro"n,up
art: different people having totally az
farent tastes. There is only one tnins
more difficult in the world than ".
nlease a collection OF mixed types %
peonle. and that is to please ones nus
hand. AS rule-making allowances
for the usual three, or several. eScep,
tiors-a married man is discontenteO
man. and often as selfish as only Ino
HIGHER animals can be. The lover "ho
s;@hed .like furnace over his SWEEP,
hearts celestialness, after the ta'al
.leap in the dark" develops into
private groaner. The realization Oh
his dreams is as disappointing as the
first glimpse of the Niagara Falls ou'
"a the grandeur of these mighty cata-
racts grows on ones mind, the resem-
blance most emphatically ends mere.
It is not the feeling Of possession that
sits 80 heavily on his soul; 1t Is the
feeling of being possessed by announcer,
Now is the time to balance up ana
check over with himself his own VIZ
tues, Before marriage his leisure
hours were taken up in keeping long
lists of new beauties (about sixty to
the minute) OF that once only wonder
full woman on record, whom marriage
has diminished 100 per cent, more or
less. The lover who had not the
slightest doubt, was positively certain
that Mary was an improvement on the
sex when he makes his debut into the
sea o: matrimony straightway drifts
into an architectural mood. and COM
mences remodeling his wife on the
plan of-any other woman, and verb
ally rehearses into his wife's ears spec
ificatiops for her particular edification
and improvement. The little peculi-
arities which he thought so attractive
in the days of spring-time and court
ship, are now thorns in his side.
And now l would say to the women
who recognize certain traits OF their
own husbands in this article. on tho
differences between the celibate and
the married man, since to please your
husbands alone is almost out OF the
question, the next best thing is to
please him by pleasing yourselves
How? you will ask. A sensible woman
must never make herself miserable by
sitting down and brooding over the
thought that she has left more love
behind her than the present or the fu-
ture will ever bring. She must steer
against exaggerating her "wrongs,
and always try to be cheerful. She
must take for granted that life was
never intended to be one long honey
moon for her. She must get quickly
used to the 'matrimonial dialogue, ;
the husbands part of which is so fire.
quently punctuated with EXPLANATORY
and declamatory addresses to the res
idents Of the places above the earth
and sometimes to the residents Of tn,
places beneath the earth, whicheve
the case may be. She must Away
tell herself-impress it thoroughly OF
her mind-that she still loves her hus
band. That is the secret Of remainin!
| a comparatively happy woman. !
woman should not interpret every ap
parently disagreeable remark literally
She must not lose faith in the swee
thought that instead of having tina
, undesirable possession, a grumblin
husband, she is really only in the pos
, session of mild prevaricator.
woman must cultivate her capacity 70
= making excuses for her husband,
, she would be happy herself.
= Never insist upon the irrefutabilit
of the proofs of your opinions, a
, against his if you do not want sor
head for your husband and at tn
same time help to develop in hil
> qualities which are sure to make hi
, a most uncomfortable partner in tn
, government OF domestic life. A W,
r man who can prove facts to be facts
= neither desirable nor a companion
able wife to live with. At least this
the silent verdict of most men, thong
they would all strenuOusly deny tn,
q they were not open to conviction fro
n any source; and of course. etc., ct
a All wives have heard these declar
!. tons of an entire freedom from a
; prejudices whatever.
- There is one fault. which I a
. afraid | must confess is common
both sexes. and l cannot refrain fro
\. remarking right here that this is IL
: queerest world of men and women
~ ever knew. lncidently may also ad
a have never known any other wor
q but this. Many people have the hat
h of speaking in glowing terms OF the
friends and relatives. this excessi,
a admiration always being aroused aft
enc has ''been and gone and done it
= before marriage they detested all the
N relatives. and only comparison brin
# out their attractive qualities. II
" woman, who, after reading this articl
intends to start out on the expedite,
Of pleasing herself in the way abo
referred to- must sacrifice this lit
pet fault; and by acquiescing in h
g husbands views. whether they a
ss consistent or not, never failing to a
ie pear agreeable and cheerful in ii,
10 will have the satisfaction of knowi
ST that he has become so reconciled