The Marietta journal. [volume] (Marietta, Ga.) 1866-1909, 1891-07-09
BAD TEMPERS.

themselves off as a relation of his.
Even when their characters as
faults cannot be denied, people are
found to palate them and minimize
their evil tendency. Among such
sins are envy, jealousy, pride and
bad temper.
To say that such one has rather
a hasty temper, or that he is diff,
cult to get on with, or that he is too
fond of having his own way, is hard
ly. in the opinion of many people,
to say anything really to his dis
credit; yet when We analyze that
disposition of mine which is com
monty called chad temper" we shall
find that it is neither more nor less
than the malignant desire of making
other people suffer pain.
Even in the case of hot or hasty
temper, this is true. No one would
use angry words to another if he
did not mean that they should
wound, and intend to relieves his
angry feelings by the suffering they
may cause.
The well known fact that mans
temper very often depends on his
| physical state for the time being is
often accepted as complete justif-
cation for petulance or savageness
of manner.
A man of nervous temperament,
or person afflicted with sluggish
liver, can no more help feeling ir-
rltable or gloomy than a man with
a wooden. leg can help limping, He
is entitled therefore, to some degree
of consideration from others on ac>
count of his natural defect; but after
all the men are not entirely slaves
of their nerves or their internal or
gans.
To feel irritation or dependency
is one thing; to allow such feeling
to master one and drive on whittier
they will is quite different matter.
1t is not an uncommon thing in
this, as in more serious matters, for
the world to make mistakes, and
ascribe to some men better tempers,
to other worse ones, than they actu-
ally possess.
A man may not only be thorough
ly selfish and exacting, but ready to
fly into passion, at small provo
cation, and yet pass for being good
tempered, simply because those.
around him are afraid to cross him.
and give him no opportunity for
breaking out,
His likes and dislikes are always
taken into account and considered
beforehand, this is known to him,
and the sacrifice is pleasing.
The members of his iamily--for
temper is chiefly a feature of. family
life-think that peace is cheaply
bought at the price of their own in
clination, and congratulate them
selves on the fact that papa or I'm
Gle Richard is in such a good tenn
per.
The fact is that he is in an abom-
inably bad one he is probably quite
unconscious of the fact, and uncon-
scious, too, that in their hearts the
other members of the family think
him nuisance, and breathe more
freely still when he is a hundred
miles away,
On the other hand, man may be
so confirmed grumbler that he may
be universally noted bore and a
person Of execrably bad temper,
while in reality he is no worse off in
that respect than many OF his neigh
bors. He grumbles more as a mat
ter of habit than anything else; and
plays, as it were, with his temper.
AS a rule, he dses not lose his
self control; he has nothing of that
cruel love of wounding other peo-
pies feelings, which is the essence
of really bad temper; he simply
fumes and iusses about because he
likes it.
Some ill-tempered men are loved
not only beyond their deserts but
beyond what one might think posi-
BILE. Perhaps this is because they
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