The Fort Worth gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-189?, 1891-04-02
YOUTHFUL FRIENDSHIPS.

our own writers Of later date Says:
\ rudy drop of manly blood
The slrging sea outswelis
abiding 10 the warm flow that courses
through the veins of j true friend. This IS
The estimate put upon the friendship of
men by men. and It IS fair TO suppose that
they knew of what they wrote. Friend
ships exist between women, but it admits
Of question whether it means al TO them
HAT il does in the other case. Women are
apt TO be hasty il selection. and the friend
ship that springs up il i night is toe sappy
10 stand the heat AID drOuth Of day Of
trial. / take ii tina; the truest friendships
are those which are cherished in the deep
rcca-scs of ones nature, and like the
diamonds that require ages 10 form, emit
brightest hues after they have been sub
uit,cd 10 harsh processes. These are
fricnus that Shakespeare would have one
graphic with hooks of steel, they fail not
nor faItcr Whether the question Of sex
should enter into the purpose in reaching
on, for friends IS one each person must de-
eide. yet ia making the choice it might be
well 10 remember the many friendships by
which meu and women have been mutually
benefited. Poets, statesmen and philo-
sophers have graciously acknowledged what
line friendship Of women has done for hem.
Women are prone to be more reticent in
such things. Yet few OF them have reached
ligh eminence who do not inwardly own to
The helping hand Of the "best friend "
Tina, friendship between the sexes has been
abused Is no argument against its being,
Tor il is only the good that is worth the
rountcrfciting.
AlusioH has been made TO guarding the
home, and The opinion was advanced that
uu parents rests the responsibility of select
ing proper associates for their children. BY
TINS guardianship is not meant a survcil-
Gucc that deprivcs children Of indepcnd-
Cuye, nor d secusiUn that is monastic, only
such guardianship as would be used to
drive away yenomous reptiles, or to place
out OF reach insidious poisons. Young peo-
pic naturally drift together and are mu-
tIaliy benefited if proper intimacies are
formed il boys and girls are taught TO put
suitable restraint upon themselves and to
rasnl, all sentimental folly That girl who
~,a, ia every man of her set \ probable
'o,,r, is not only silly in the extreme, but
she is losing much that would be of in
acuRblc I'D vantage 10 her in moulding
Iaractcr and developing her intellectual
Hfnre. While the young man who regards
girl associate as only the play thing of his
ule hours. and thinks his duty 10 her fully
uet in the language of hattery and insipid-
iE, las utterly failed TO read the sex,
ghpraBf bt4 Fa,.ryls lfrD.11f ca ,,-icn
The poverty of talk in modern drawing
room is p.t-able; exclude therefrom gossip
the last novel asd play, senseless fiattery
and silly love talk and there would be little
left 20 save from absolute silence. Much Of
this comes from want of proper social ar
raEgcmrut So long as society consists Of
iuu dress affairs and the tongue Of gossip
wags whenever a gentleman visits a house
quite regularly so long will there be re
=traint AT meeting followed by d dearth Of
sensible conversation. Men and women are
81 stimulus to each other; by intercourse
women grow intellectually strong and be-
como fined and gentle. The brain may
hc only gray matter and the microscope
may NOT be able 20 disclose difference be-
tween the matter shut up in woman's
sku.. and that IN the mans vet difference
exists \ thinking man spurs the thinking
woman To- a cultivation of higher conversa-
tiouM powers. while he, in his turn, pol
i>hes his Jewels of thought that these may
be III offerings toher whom lie respects.
There i, "a certain cruelty in barring
young pa2pl" from these friendly relation
ships Youth Is the time for seed sowing.
TIE future is all unknown. what its re-
quirrmcu's may be who can tell? Then
will the friends of thy youth become pre-
clous They have been kept safely hidden
in Z c heart and are ready for thy need.
The bes' friends. earliest chosen, and long
cs' retained friendships they were that
were built upon the rock of mutual respect
To an honorable man a girl friend is is sa-
orod as a sister. he can direct her thought.
guide her taucics and Guard her acts: he
stands 10 her ina different relation from
tina, Of brother and her girl faith once
fastened in him She viii come to him in
many little perp.eNiues. II is not for conf
ucuccs that such friendships are best, but
as has been said. because young women, and
the Older us well, gain in strength and in
y Nllt 'NlLl4 A4AllyIl linen, JOO. -
girls -u5Emcut Of men natures by associa-
fI.u VII. rhem She learns to compare one
r another. to weigh and to estimate, and
bis way the danger Of making an IN
,Ao.se when she comes 10 marry is
.'.cd Glamour IS dispelled; she under
...&~ herself better and having been ju-
H.-,y allowed = free home acquaintance
.r.-. gentlemen She Is not easily misled 10
.~ compliment and fair words are mean-
'ss. ami She learns 10 make iuster esti-
-...as because she has had free opportuni-
lies of comparison.
The danger tha; may attend the forua-
ton Of friendships are not imaginary. This
San only be arerted by prudence In a |
home where there are manageable sons
and daughters the heads of the household |
must exercise vigilance and use wise pre-
caution. Iutimacies should not be permit |
ted where either party would be objection |
able as a permanent member of the family. |
Not that every girl and boy should be |
looked upon As 4 probable candidate for |
mAtlimony but those familiarly admitted |
into the charmed circle should possess |
such sterling worth as TO warrant a friend |