The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-12-07

'IniS is my n0nSe, Sne eXclalmS, ana
what right has this woman to meddle
with my affairs? The battle commences
The husband dislikes to take sides. for
one is his mother and the other his wife.
Under the circumstances he reaches for
his hat and goes out to see a friend. 1
pity the man who tries to please Two
women who have wills of their own,
especially where each one has authority.
or supposes she has. In this instance
the difficulty arose from the self
assertiv-ness of the mother-in-law.
ut takes much wisdom and grace for
one who has been accustomed to dictate,
to adjust herself to her new surround
ings Women who are guided by reason,
rather than by impulse, can do this. Such
women are loved by all in the home.
They lift the trying relationship of
mother in-law into the sacred province of
motherhood. A man who marries
wife and has one of these
gain is to be highly congratulated.
I'VE seldom hear about the -on-in-law,
and yet he is often the disturbing elo-
ment. He ought not to allow his own
mother to badger his wife; neither should
his wife's mother set herself up as the
head of the home and endeavor to rule.
A home with two heads is a monstrosity
and cannot last long. / have seen two
headed animals iu the museum, but they
were not alive. Although woman under
our civilization is growing stronger every
day, yet she is the weaker party in the
home and wages an unequal fight with
her husband, should he turn on
her and try and make her miserable.
Il congratulate her. however, il she pos-
sesses mother who, swelling up with
righteous indignation and feeling herself
match for any ten men. confronts the
base fellow who has shattered her ugh
ter's happiness and makes him con- nu ii
trouble. l declare the irate, denunc to y
and pugnacious mother-in-law to o.
capital Sfnvention for keeping bad men
straight, or so scorchlng them with the
lava OF their indignation as to make
them leave their homes altogether. A
New York police justice has said that the
cause of the husbands abandonment of
his wife in most of the abandonment cases
that have come before him, was the moth
er-in-law.
BAD soNs-IN-LAw.
DOUBTLESS this was true. but / guar
antee that in nine cases out ten it was the
meanness of the son-in-law that made the
mother-in- law act as she did. If retrinu-
tion fell upon him in the torn of female
cyclone, if mother-in-law practically
chase him out of the home, SO much the
better for his poor wife.
Il am not afraid of the 1nother-in-law
abusing the son-in-law If the latter will
treat her daughter respectfully. She is
naturally disposed to love the man who
seeks her daughters welfare and tries to
make her life enjoyable. And now l want
to say a word in behalf of The much de-
rided mother-in-law. IT man Is a true
gentleman aud loves his wife, for her Ike
he will treat with great regard the woman
who is dearer to her than all others In
this great world, the mother who bore
her, watched over her so patiently during
the years of her infancy and youth
nursed her so tenderly in sickness. guided
her with good counsel, prayed over her
anxiously when none but God could hear,
trained her step by step and made her
virtually what she is. Deal gently with
that mother for her daughters sake, and
remember that during all these years she
has been rendering you invaluable SER
vice. Without that mother she would
not be the good woman she is to day.
THE CANTATA OF RUTH.
Previous TO the sermon, GauPs sacred
| cantata, Ruth" was rendered by the
| Tabernacle choir. The part of Ruth was
taken by Miss Florence Turner, who sang
theAmasic which felt +to-.~ her lot IN an ex,
| cellent manner. Miss Kate Moore, who
will be PLEASANTLY remembered by those
| who attended the last Melopoia concert.
sang the part of Naomi. The part of
| Orpah was well sustained by Mrs
| George A. Auness, considering that
it WAS this excellent singers first public
| appearance Mr.. John Gilies made an
! fine Boaz and the chorus showed the
! effects Of the excellent training of the
new musical director, Mr.. Victor Baier.
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