The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1891-03-29
THE MAN WE WANT
Feminine Ideas of What a Hus-
band Should Be.
THE SONS OF THE RFFETE EAST
Miss Minnie Wanamaker Talks Of Men and
Marriage-Carpet Knights and Ideal
Men-Some Interesting Girls.

WASHINGTON, March %, 1s9l.-[Special
correspondence of THE HERALD. - The
man we wantl This is the subject that fills
the souls Of the girls to-day. We all ex-
pect 10 marry at sometime. We all have our
man pictured out and though we may not
have seen him yet in flesh and blood, we
know just what he ought to be and how he
ought to look. At least this is SO Of most
Washington girls, and the publication of
my talks with number of them may bring
him TO the front. I called yesterday at the
home of the secretary OF agriculture and
asked Miss Rusk to tell me her ideal hus-
band. She replied:
al have never given the subject serious
thought, though you will scarcely believe
me, and / have never formed an ideal. don't
believe il ideals which have neither form
nor flesh, and besides what would be per
haps the Ideal for me, would not be desired
b.; another. One woman, for instance,
wants a domestic man while another wants
one fond of society, and at their wedding in
most cases both have chosen the direct OPP
posite of what they thought to be their
ideals. In my opinion a perfect husband
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sociability He should be able and willing
TO take his part upon occasions in the inno-
cent enjoyment of the social world and
share his wife's tastes whether they be do
mestic or otherwise. Above ali things he
must have intellect, and in these days OF
absorption in money getting, it is difficult
TO form an ideal among men who seek first
to know the value of the fathers bank ac-
count before risking their heart and hand
upon the daughter. Would you credit it,
continued Miss Rusk, while Indignation
flashed from her gentle eyes, "only few
days since, a gentleman acquaintance OF
whom had held high opinion, confded to
me that he had urged a certain friend to
devote himself to a certain woman of wealth
simply because of her money?n
THE WESTERN MEN THE BEST.
'iIn the east, think the young men lack
the energy and push which so largely char
acteriZes the men of the west" Miss Rusk
continued. ''More especially in Washing
ton there seems to be a considerable proper
ton, both young and old, who have nothing
wherewith to occupy thier time, give them
selves up TO an exclusively fashionable eS-
istence that must inevitably tend to their
deterioration of character. Their highest
aim is to kill time in as pleasant manner
as devoted attendance upon as many teas,
dinners and receptions and the destinations
of club life will permit. Doubtless there
are as many busy workers here as else
where, but the number is mostly confined
to poor clerks in government employ who
can seldom afford TO indulge in the diver
sions of the gay world outside of the four
walls of their daily drudglng. Here mems
bright intellects are yearly sacrificed to
the present needs of the family, who if I'M
hampered in this respect would build for
themselves name and fame in professional
or business careers, and whose talents
would Mt them to adorn society. 1t is in
fact now useless TO look for a hero of ro-
nance outside of the covers of a novel, and
my only ideals are bound in pasteboard and
not in flesh and BLOOD
ONE CHIEF JUSTICES DAUGHTERS PRIZE.
The eldest daughter of the chief justice,
Miss Grace Fuller, will on Easter Monday
marry Mr.. Archibald Brown of Chicago, and
the ceremony at the historic old church of
St. James, will be followed by large re
ueption at the house. This event has long
been looked forward to with interest by the
fashionable world of the capital who will
thus suffer the loss of another favorite.
''Have you then found your idealn'
asked of the bride prospective.
She laughingly replied, II have never
once in the past even considered the ques
ton, strange as such an assertion may
seem, for to tell the truth have never as
ISOLATED myself with the thought of matri.
mony, having up to the present time felt
convinced that ] should always live a life
of single blessedness. | must confess that
my change of views has greatly surprised
even myself and l can only account for il
on the principle of fatality. Doubtless as
have never formed an ideal, L shall be al
the happier IN the man of my choice, who
in,
picture l would have drawn, is all and even
more than my widest dreams could have
fancied. ! believe it is Adelaide Proctor
who says, Whom first we love, we seldom
we'd but in my case lies the exception
and | consider myself especially fortunate
in having drawn prize in the great matri
monial lottery"
MISS MINNIE wANAMAKER's IDEAL.
Miss Minnie Wanamaker is one of tn,
most loved and universally admired daugh
ters of the Cabinet She is tall, graceful
blonde with a sweet dignity Of manner ant
yivacity that wins for her friends where
ever she goes. She has enjoyed superio
advantages of seeing the world and learn
ing TO know its people while dwelling be
meath their own vine and fg-tree. On
would therefore think that the fair youn,
American would have formed for herself
some beau-ideal of manhood into who's,
keeping she would long ago have entrustet
her maiden heart. Yet strange to say whel
asked her TO give me candid description
nf her ideal husband, she confided to me tn
fact that in al sincerity she had neye
formed one.
~ fear you will Judge me very tickle,
she added, 'but to tell the truth find tina
lny fancy changes with every new acouain
tance of the masculine gender. This de
plorable fact goes to prove that in my day
dreams Of q future state of matrimonial
happiness there has been no definite pic
ture formed and in fact l believe that tn
romantic quality that marked the days o
1.-THE Children of the Abbey" has entirel,
died out IN this more hum drum age. Tn
young people of the 10th. century loo
more upon the practical side of life than
compatible with the development of tn
romance Of our natures. Should youn
man propose to the lady of his love in tn
same extraYagant style as that of whic
we read with so much pleasure in the oil
pomances, he would surely get laughed a
for his pains, where a less humble an
more manly avowal of his affection couche
in practical and plain terms would be re
ceived with the attention, and in case c
finding responsive chord, would doubles
meet with an acceptance equally unemt
tional and as much to the point as thong
it had been worded in the most poetlcal an
flowing terms"
SHE DOESN'T LIKE THE SOCIETY BEAU.
SIT is deplorable but true, ''..she continued
''that the majority of men ono meets in sc
ciety are perfect nonentities, without en-
or aim in life but to kill time in as pleasan
manner as circumstances and their fail
ers' generosity will permit while thei
brains are filled with nothing but the lates
gossip of the club or the newest style i
neckties. and their accomplishments con
fined to their feet. They are carpet knight
x-bosa ,,reGence in q ballroom ia an aora.