The Daily bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Hawaii]) 1882-1895, 1891-09-22

Nc mo THINGS EXACTLY ALlKEi
EVEN SHEEP POSSESS IDENTITY

Nc no THINGS EXACTLY ALIKE;
EVEN SHEEP POSSESS IDENTITY
The Attempt at Perfect Truth Induces
peceit--what shall Man say to His
Lady Love About Her Falrer RivAl2
The Young Girl's p"coit'.
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If. courtship over and marriage estab-
ished, the bride gradually drops all the
amiable and ready ubseryances that so
pleased her lover; II ahipping and peev-
ish temper succeeds the sweet patience
he has admired; i she is careless and
negligent toward her parents, now that
there is nothing more to gain from them;
if she shows uTeelf selfish and indo-
lent aud unsympathet1c toward himself,
she may be suie that bis disillusionnent
will be all the more rapid and thorough
because he had been led 10 believe in
other things
No. if II giIl begins by deceiving her
lover az to her own character she mad
better resolve, ia The interest Of her own
comfort, to keep up the deceit for life,
and never let him find out that any
other course is possible to her. She may,
in fact, very wisely adapt to her own
career tho advice, IF yon are going to
tell lie tell good one, and then stick
to it.
And have seen cases where this
course has been SO successfully pursued
that the husband and the former friends
of his wife remained ut variance for life
as to her character; one looked upon the
golden, and the other upon, let US say,
the (German) silver of the shield, and
neither could believe that the other saw
straight.
do not think men, even when IN love,
make such wholesale pretence of a
'change Of heart" as this. In the first
place, they seldom think their own faults
are Objectionable, and in the next they
have a lordly fashion of expecting the
women to accept them, faults and all.
"How your coat always smells Of to-
bacco smoker says she, making little
moue as she withdraws from close con
tact with said coat,
"Oh. no, it doesn't; | went up in the
smoking room at the club, but the wind
has blown il all away-y0u don't smell
it," replies he, which statement can
hardly be called deceit, ba, Il often ac-
cepted by the weaker vessel as satislac-
tory.
No, mems decelts Of low are more
generally with regard to the shady cor.
ners of their lives, past or present. Prob
ably no woman ever accepted mans
love without at once demanding II con
fession as to his ever having proffered
love to any other woman, etc.
Now there are Yory low men, seEy
few indeed, who both can and will i,n
swer these questions trnthfully Some
times there are tender memories whicl
he shrinks from Offering to his new love
as one might toss bail to kitten
Sometimes he has loved where he coult
not offer marriage, and honor demands
that the whole affair snail remain secret
even from the wife of his later life
Sometimes there are dark and disgrace
full secrets which it would be suicide t.
reveal, aud sometimes, one Is ASHAMED
to confess, a man deliberately plans t.
carry on two lives, with one of whicl
the innocent girl he asks to marry hin
has no concern.
In whichever of these channels tn
truth may run, it is pretty certain tha
it will not come to the surface In repl.
to the tender inquiries Of the fair one
and it is only very young or yer.
credulous woman who will believe
though he swear it, that her lover ha
never kissed other lips than hers, 0
whispered love to other ears. Nor, t
my mind, il it altogether desirable tina
it should be true; the nature OF man
versatile, and his appetite is omniverou'
his teeth are adapted for the tearing O
lamb as well as for the mashing Of straw
berries and cherries II hehas never taste
the one or the other, be sure his instinc
will inlal him TO do 50 first or last, and
is better that it should have been befor
we knew him than after we have con
mibted our own hearts to his keeping.
been fully tested, and if the strawbel
ries appeal to the palate more highl
than the stronger meats, there is ce
tain amount Of probability Of constanc
in the last direction 50 long rs the del
cate fruit retains It's sweet and allurln
flavor. But how foolish Of the huma
strawberry to insist upon those grihdel
saying they had never crushed meat, c
, those incisors that they had never CT
into an apple or Il banana!
A man cannot be sincere as to his pa
experiences if he is no better than Il
:. average man, and to insist upon his b.
ing so is to drive him into u labyrinth
deceit, where to be sure he is general
quite content to dwell. But this dece
is utterly unjustifiabia and unpardon
BILE when it concerns not only the pa
but the present ami the proposed tutur
i, A lnan, Like woman, may under Il
influence of real love, assume IA cha
acter which has never Hitherto been hi
II he may resolve sincerely TO close u
), gates OF those dark ways wherein be h
d hitherto walked, and 10 let his futu
II path be open to the light Of day and
e the clos.'st scrutiny of his wifes eye
Il and although he does not quite trut
q fully reply to the inquistion She is su
| to make with his ancient history,
may be forgiven if he Is really going
= make the future as lalr as he is now r.
resenting thn plst.