Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1891-01-15
an unexpressed wonderment that you
don't do more and give more.


don't do more and give more.
HEADACHES WHICH KILL WOMEN.
This sort of headache comes, too, from
being found fault with--a course of
martyrdom calculated to make liar, a
thief, and breaker of every command
ment by the woman who has to endure
it, To be told that you weren't cordial
enough to Jones, that you were too cor
dial to Brown, and that there was no
necessity for you to freeze Robinson
to be told that you haven't the first in
stinct of housewife, else you would
know that when a man put paper
away in his desk that he really ought
to have taken down town, and Of which
you didn't remind him, for the simple
reason that you didn't know anything
at all about it; to be told that you are
cross when you are so tired; that you
are sulky when you don't want to say
anything, and somebody belonging to
you selects this special time to bring
some one in who has been told that you
are a very bright woman--this is the
sort of headache, the headache provoked
by all these little occurrences, that drive
women either into the arms of the devil
or into the insane asylum. can't offer
any patent medicine to cure it'll can
only suggest that as it is usually our
own people, the people we love, and
who think they love us, who give us
such headaches, that they begin the new
year by an incubation of patience and
consideration.
SOCIAL SETS OF NEW YORK.
Now is the time of year when you
read about the swell set, the swagger
set, and the literary set, and the people
who don't know any Of them sigh and
wonder how to get into society. do
so wish that every woman in the world
would understand that she makes
society for herself, and that it is good,
bad or Indifferent as she chooses. She
wonders which is the best set in New
York. 1t is like the best set every
place else. If it has riches, it does not
blazen them forth. If its blood is blue,
its reputation is white. Its daughters
are not advertised in the daily papers as
professional beauties, and its sons are
not conspicuous among the horsey or
fast set. 1t is charitable and kind. It's
men are honest and its women are above
reproach. The sets you read about are
rich yesterday, making great display
to-day; its downfall is chronicled to.
morrow, and the people who formed ii
are forgotten the day after. Its women
rate everything from a money stand
point, and the ups and downs of the
street mean the increase or decrease of
their so-called friends.
NEW YoRK's LITERARY SET
has little to recommend it, except that
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nown, name which they mistake for
notoriety, They talk about subjects they
do not understand in the least, and most
of them are examples of how well
advertised pill is swallowed without
question as to what it contains. To get
into any of the oft-quotcd sets is not
difficult; good dressing, little money,
a skin somewhat thick, and tongue
somewhat acrid, with a good supply of
scandalous stories, will gain admission
for a woman, while as for the man, well,
usually, especially in the literary set,
men are in such demand that they are
taken no matter how or through whom
they may come. You who are off in
some far village and wish you could see
all this gaiety that you read about, really
can afford to laugh it to scorn, for set
does not make society. Society is the
gathering together of two or three, five
or six, or as many as you will, who find
much in life about which they agree,
and who like to come together to ex-
change a pleasant word, to have a
pleasant hour, and to know that which
is really and truly pleasure The
other is the basest imitation-even the
people in it know that the gingerbread
is not improved by the gilt, or that it is
worth offering TO anybody but the fool
who jangles his cap and bells as if he
were proud of his position.
WHAT WOMEN SHOULD WISH FOR.
While you are wishing, wish for some
thing better than getting into any Of the
sets, wherever they may be.
Wish that You may have broader
mind and more charitable tongue.
Wish that you may not see so quickly
wherein is the fault, and that you may
find without any trouble just where the
virtue is.
Wish that you may be contented-not
without ambition, but seeing the good
that surrounds you,
Wish that You may have courteous
manner, a kind word, and considerate
thought for every man, woman, and
child in the world.
Wish all these things with intensity
they will be worth having, and they
Will surely come unto you. BAB.