New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1891-02-08
HOME AND SOCIETY.
INTERESTING NOTES FOR WOMEN.

INTERESTING NOTES FOR WOMEN!
There is use in tryg to depreciae the questions
of society even the butterfly has its fight. 1t may
be that of the eagle. who, with It's broad pinions
Of strength outspread, with his wing on the wind
and his eye 10 the SUM-" scars into space: that
Of the lark who leaves the earthmsts and rises into
the purer ether: but oil the the butterfly has
its way of quitting this too material earth, and
one of his great advantages is that he huters pleas
antly within every ones view To add to the
.fnement of living 10 entertain well according 10 the
standard which fashion DEGREES, even TO make our
selves au fat" with the little ads of the moment is
permissible employment for our lighter hours; and TO
acquire the SAVIOR fare and savor vivre of society
is many womans obvious duty Great wealth may
become hers, and she may be required to take her
place in the great worldand that place she should
fiji well. Her husband may have risen into eminence
from modest beginnings, and she should be at his Sde
with "eben Gang und Shritt." Any one who has
mingled with several sets knows that there is an in
tangible something in fashionable society which is dc
sirabe in its way. To possess II gives and man
ner and apomb, and 1t is only acquired by contact
Our Creator is kinder to man than the preacher lie
made the butterflies and the apparently useless movers
and the whole cav teeming life OF the summer hours
There is no condemnation of pleasant living IN the
Bible The kings daughter wore gorgeous apparel.
The ancient feasts arranged with the most
minute care True religion is of the heart, and cen
he carried into ballroom or TO swell" dinner just
as well as TO a church festival or any other merry
making.
That possession of wealth is supreme test OF char
acter is obvious. That few can stand the ordeai Is
most unfortunately true. But the arts OF eheftinins'
dinners giving dressing, the knowledge Of the World
of doing things as they ought TO be done-tcre is no
harm per Sc In all that. To dear old scotch MIN
lister maiden Of his congregation, VINO was uhaolo "
resist the music, found dancing az 1alr was
brought by her parents for reprimand What lor
did We do it, JEANNE ?" he asked the fngh'ehcu ldsc
al meant nae harm. SIR she answered, weeping biI
terly "Then aye dance, jeanne, aye utAce' Ho ="
piled, to the establishment of the dspeasod parents
The aplomb with which white lies are tod III so
cietv Is amusing TO a cync. Nobody is deceived by
80 rbosa who inter the obvious untruths do not
really care If they are believed or not; they Simply
constitute court from which there is 10 appear. 40"
cannot saw / do not believe a wOrd you say you
must accept the lie as truth, ana tlal ohuS INC
matter If You have received any slight, any heeIec'
,he white lie apology is sufficient you have no grey
ance and therefore no right to show esel'i"en'' y
nevertheless you know and she Of 1t be woihah as
IN nine cases ont OF ten it IS to be- knows ana
what is more She knows you know, and does not care
You can cllafe inwardy, but you have 10 redress
An amusing instance Of this was brought under
observation the other day. Mrs b. had DIG u'i"c''
The guests had all arrived and still dinner was hO'
annonnced. 1t grew later and later the host became
Adpetv. only the fair mistress of the feast kept her
nerfect suavlty and aplomb Finally, after an ap-
parently intcrrninable period she said chee1uIy we
really cannot wait for so-and-so any more banning
a welI-known and also somewhat tardy d!ner-out who
had reputation for absent miIdedness. ne mas
nrobablv quite forgotten the evening"" and she
1arsbalIed her hungry guests into the dining room
The empty chair was there but the guest dld not
come and after a course or two the servants TeHoVcu
It and the feast went mcrrily on.
9Wby did YOU not come Mrs. BIS dnnerf' said
one of the convives TO the supposed delinquent rev
days after 81 have been asked there this winter
no affirmed so honestly that his statement carried con
viction But Mrs. b. said that II was on your ac
connt that we waited long for dinrer!" The man
laughed. "What woman she is! he SAID "DohH
YOU see that just her way OF dsposng OF an ell
barrassing situation for the time 0elnTF some
domestic contrctemps had occurred to delay dinner
and she suddenly hit upon the happy eXpedient OF
laying the blame upon me. dare say she was &c
LIGHTED with herself afterwad and she does not care
II you find it out not fou cannot tax hef VIVA H.
and II complain she will only laugh and tell me it
serves me right for having such bad reputation"
Candlemas Day February ., has gone by In sunshine
and soft breezes and every old weather prophet VINO
depends on such signs now shakes his head and pre-
diets long, cold winter TO come TOT
If Candlemas Day be dry and fair
Half the winter 10 come and MAR.
Accounting TO all authorities the green boughs and
reaths of Christmas must be removed before this day
Should any housewife DC 80 undy as 10 hcgeo' u uo
this the old rhyme says goblin will appear ior every
leaf neglected there" The snOwdrop, when blossoms
near this season in England, was formerly supposed
to spring up into bloom Condemns III hohor oil 'he
Virgin whence II was called the flower OF pufihoa-
tionn Antiquarians date Candlemas back 10 ancient
Greece where, in the month of February inc ltSNaI
In honor of Ceres was celebrated with cah"IcS III
remembrance of the long search of the harvest sOOues
for her daughter candle in hand. over the WOriu inc
snOwdrop no longer decorates the affairs OF ,"huie
mas The beautiful festival is not celebrated Win
It's old picturcsQueness. There is something e'se"
tally delightful in the light Of or of msf1au u
candles Candlc-licht throws soft halo over every
thing and is restful to the eyes.
Candles with scOnces should BIO used IN the ParIoI
than they are especially during " the sloniNe'
when il is not necessary to have stronger lGh oui
light sofens the tints of the complexion 50 tha' II
almost makes plain woman beautiful; ana Je"eIs '
never 50 brilliant under any other artificial Hsh''
The general use Of candles at dinners IS thing l"
be thankful for though now. to suit utll'ti'"
people who imagine candles "sputtcr and run u-Ff
are sham ones which are really lamps htted mo
candelabra. They arc convenient thah e"
candles and appcase the Pcnates which nave oon''
from Irish boys to reign over our hearths.
Silver shoe buckles in dainty small size any ~
large, square, p0npadour style, range from - % "
els pair in jewelry shops They recall that unhappy
Queen Of England whose misery lord made her "eai
fin buckles and conform in all in her dress u .