Saint Mary's beacon., 1891-04-30
(PSo'isaed b. Rsqusss)
HIhTs ON ETIQUETTE.

a gentleman may not leave a card
tor young lady. to whom he is introdu.
ced. unless her mother or chaperope
invites him to do 90.
Etiquette does not demand that q
gentleman should wear gloves when
he is making calls; ifhe does, he should
remove them before entering the
drawing-room. Ifs gentleman is able
to command leisure, he calls between
three and FIVE o'clock; but if he can.
not command the hours Of the day,
he calls between half. past eight aud
nine in the evening. When making
evening calls, gentlemen should ap-
pear in full dress.
Ii gentleman receives an invita-.
tion to ball from a stranger, he is
bound to send an immediate answer,
call the very next day, and then to
call after the entertainment.
If a lady is not sure she is known
to her hostess by name, she should
not fail to pronounce her own name.
A young lady should introduce her.
self as Miss Jones; never without the
Miss. A lady will always endeavor
to receive callers between the hours
mentioned. A visitor, once admitted,
must be seen at any cost. A lady
should never keep a visitor waiting,
except when unavoidable, and should
then apologize for the delay. Should
one visitor arrive almost Immediately
after another, the first after call Of
fifteen minutes or so, would be the
first to leave. When the visitor is a
lady, the hostess rises and shakes
hands when parting; if a gentleman
she retains her seat.
If on making a call you are intro.
ducad into a room where you are un.
known to those assembled, at once
mention your name and state upon
whom you have called. A first call
ought to be returned within three or
four days, a week at the outside.
Many ladies have tea served in the
sitting room every day. Should tea
be brought in while visitor is in the
drawing room, or should the hostess
be drinking tea when visitor is an
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ally think it incumbent on them TO
take a cup of tea when offered. If
tea is not served, the hostess should
never ask her visitor to take any re-
freshment; to do so would be deemed
breach of good manners. Callers
are not supposed to require anything
of this kind.
In the country, and in some neigh.
borhoods, il is etiquette for the old
established residents to call first upon
the newcomers, and this is a custom
which should be carefully observed.
BY it a kind of welcome is given to
the strangers, and it rests entirely
with the first callers TO decide wheth.
er the acquaintance first formed
should be nothing more than bow
ing one, or whether it should expand
into intimacy or friendship.
Unless a servant ia in the hall TO
open the door for departing guests,
the hostess should accompany them
to the door herself. Formal calls are
generally made twice year; but only
once year is binding, when no invi-
tations have been received that re-
quire calls in return. Cards bearing
the names Of the entire family can be
left once a year, or sent out for a tea,
or for the more formal business of be-.
ginning the season. For subsequent
and more particular calls, it is better
to have a personal card for each mem.
Der of the family, except for q young
lady in her first season.
The question, should cards and
notes of invitation be cent to people
in mourning, is answered BY decided,
Yes, they should. Of course no one
would think of obtruding an invita-.
tion upon a person who has had q
death in the house under q month.
But after that although it is mere
idle compliment, the compliment
shoald be paid. After a certain pc.
riod Of mourning, usually year, the
bereaved family should send cards,
marked in black, 10 all who have thus
remembered them.
A lady cannot leave cards upon an
other lady TO whom she has but re.
Gently been introduced. either at
dinner or q tea. She must meet her
several times in society, and feel cer-
tain that the acquaintance is desired
before venturing to leave cards. II
either Of the ladies expressed desire
to further the acquaintance BY asking