The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-12-16
WHERE MANY WOMEN FAIL
Their Homes Often the Reverse of
Sweet-The Cause of 1t All.

tionate, industrious, loyal woman
may become seems severe, but, alas! i
is too often true. 1t is the domestic
version of the mint, anise, and cum
min story SO constantly repeated il
human lives. The weightier matters
of the law come from the heart ano
soul of the individual. They cannot
be got with the labor of the hands.
They are Of the spiritual and mental
lie, growing, expanding, and doml-
mating the labor Of the hands in con-
slant proportion of their use, and,
little used, leaving the man or woman
sordid, petty, ignoble. And because
these matters cannot be weighed or
measured, but felt and experienced. is
perhaps why it is that they are harder
to grasp when practical duties fill the
hours. But in that grasp lies the KEY
of such q life as shall satisfy and bless
those within its influences. These
spiritual qualities become vivified
when transtused through q living, low
ing heart. They work hourly trans
formations in the labors of a day,
making homely toll beautiful, and
guiding aspirations always to kinder,
tenderer deeds.
No one should keep these high
ideals more constantly in the fore
ground of the life picture which each
of us is daily painting than the wife
and mother. The buster and more
work-a-day the life, the greater
should be the effort to think high
thoughts, and not to let the labor de-
scend into mere drudgery, akin to the
instructive routine of the animal.
Baking, sweeping, sewing, planning
these duties take the strength and
time of the majority OF housewives.
But every one car recall many houses
where every duty is exactly per-
formed, yet where the essence of
home life has evaporated. All is i'm
maculate, but the hearts of the family
are cold. There are no cobwebs, but
the minds are narrow and small.
Every material possession is there,
but the inmates seek pleasure, inter
est and sympathy else where. 1t may
S eem unjust to lay so much OF the de-
rerioration of a home at the wife's
door, but she is the bread dispenser,
and it is not alone the material food
she is to give forth, but that which
shall feed the ambitions, steady the
purposes, and purify the hearts of
those for whom she has assumed her
place.
A wife who has no interest in her
husbands. pursuits, or who cares not
to understand his perplexities, tails in
her opportunities. The wife who
shuts ont social pleasures and relaxa-
tions because they bore her or be-
cause she is too busy, errs. She either
forces her husband to seek pleasures
without her and drives the first
wedge of divergence between them, or
else shuts him into her own narrow
atmosphere. And SO. through all the
experiences of home life, the wife fails
if she looks at everything wholly from
a material standpoint.
1t is not strange when children hear
nothing but petty talk and see moth
ing but dull repeated work that they
grow up without a capacity for high
thoughts, and lacking the power to
resist moral temptations. Natures
grow on what they feed on. aud purity
OF motive and elevated purpose must
have their roots planted and watered
when the heart is young.
A roman who thinks that her house
work, which well nigh overwhelms
her. is all she can do. may be sure that
there is no better use for a portion of
her time than to daily lift herself out
of the narrow confines of her labors.
and to rest and refresh herself in new
interests and broader sympathies. Any
woman can do this, though all do not
climb the same pathway or reach the
same height. The opportunities may
be few and the advantages slight, but
faithfully used they will develop, and
step by step the way will lead eve on
ward and upward. And the first step
in the pathway is to see what piece OF
work can go undone, and the time
be saved, rather than how much more
mint, anise, and cummin the busy
housewife can crowd into her already
too hurried days.
Having thus breathed the broader
air, if only briefly, let her persevefe,
assured that in this way is to be build
ed the rounded, balanced character of
the good wife-a higher and nobler
creature than all the companies OF
..nsanagers" beneath the canopy of
heaven. Bdzar.
How to Make a Dress Look Well Always.
Be sure it fits well; that doesn't
mean that it should be too tight for
comfort.
See that it hangs exactly right.
When taking it off hang it up in
stead of throwing it in a heap to get
crnmpled.
Never omit sleeve protectors if you
need them at all.
Make war against all spots and press
plaitings that need it.
Mend any rent on the right side
with Rawlings of goods and press
carefully.
Replace braid as soon as worm and
brush whenever the dress needs it.
Have as handsome buttons as you
can afford; they give style to a plain
suit and are necessary on an elegant
one.
Ones Loss Another's Gain.
A young mar residing in one OF the
suburbs called on a young lady in ths
city n evening recently. and having
occasion to consult his watch found tt
his CONSERVATION that he had left il
at home. AS he did not wish to make
u mistake by remaining too late he
asked the Young lady the time, and
was informed that it was just 1890
He hastily made his departure as he
had to catch a train. On his way tC
the depot he congratulated himself
%ho% ~ rod oarfoiplxy IOna his chase