Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1891-02-01
MARRIED MAN AND BACHELOR.
Norfolk. January %, 1891.

Norfolk, January rs, 1871.
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MARRIED MAN AND BACHELOR.
A Confirmation of This Interesting Dis
QUESTION.
For the Dispatch.l
mo. 81
RICHMOND. January 20, 1891.
I Am clad Co see Bachelor" again in
the field. though he hits hard" hard
lv Thought so shlful swordsman would
be satisfied with so slight passage of
arms / was about 20 say so gallant
knight but ! fear my far trends might
say had no right TO give such title 70 q
"bacnelor.n Be this as IT may, am al
WAYS clad to meet him, though so gifted
and gallant a foe. Bachelor says / am
little inconsistent in urging matrimony
upon two inharmonious consideTatlons-
TO wit: Happiness and duty. These mo-
tives are not incopgruous. They may De
two roads. but,they lead TO the same pace.
Duty well performed leads TO happiness
and true happiness can only be
found in tie faithful discharge of
duty. II has been SAID that the
misery OF the lost will in part consist
in gazing upon the dreadful inscription
upon the walls OF has prison house, You
knew vour duty and you did IT not" The
seeking happiness by the departure from
the rough road of duty and by short cuts
hcross smooth and verdant fields has lead
to disaster and misery while the hard as
cent up the rugged and thoTny pain OF
duty has lead 20 sublime heights ana en-;
rapturihg prosperity. All Us not gold
that glitters." We all in Virginia endorse
the offen-nuoted words, 1.-The sublimest
word in the English language Is duty"
Don't be afraid. my friend. Of the trowning
heights of matrimony. They lead 10 end
less dav."
Bachelor would not put the hard yoke
of matrimony" upon woman's TENDER
shoulders" He would rather bear his own
burden alone. This may be kind. But
Bachelor does not understand the fair sex.
Womans sweetest odors are exhaled IN
burden beariug. You remember the pas
sage, You may break, you may crush, &c.
Her most beautiful flowers bloom only IN
the exercise of sympathy. true woman
is no butterfly. Love is the great and rlch
fountain of her nature, ana need only 70
be struck by the magic and wonder-work-
ing rod TO send forth its sparkling anu NE
giving waters. Without this all her nature
Is arid and dry. Cut the siuice for these
pent-up waters, my friend, and all this ard
waste Will bloom in beauty and verdure;
Love hopeth all things. beareth all
things, never faileth."
There are some coarse natures who thlnK
a wife il TO bear all mans burdens, TO DO
his hard manual work. inns IS mistake
Doth not even nature teach" otherwise.
Her anatomy bellies such doctrine. She
is no dray-horse. She is gazelle.
But to remove all doubt from my bache-
Ior friends mind as to woman's willingness
To wear the woke. "She is of age ask her."
She knows oil ABOUT 1t. Has given the sub
iect full consideration if she IS twenty-one,
rs she should be. Don't think, my friend
she is ignorant She is very clever. The
more / see of woman the more | am salts
fed she is moderated mentally. Gus
tom and a bad education heretofore
has kebt her in the background. She Is
now on the upgrade. Let the men look
ont for competition in the field of litera-
ture and art. But | must hasten. IN reply
to nv reference to Gods law to Adam, my
bachelor friend carries me to CHINA and
Belgium" and | think of the great Chi
nese walln and of the commentaries,
and hear Omnid Gala diriSd," &c, &c.
But find am writing to Nlrgnlans, not
TO Chinese and the "Belg@.n | fear few
numbers of the Dispatch reach those peo-
ME. | sometimes fear | love Virginia so
much that have little or no concern Tor
outside barbarians." Let rs build up
Virginia and the South. A nations great
ness is TO be found in her great men. Let
ia cultivate great men and women, too.
Nothing paws so well. Educate the men
and women thoroughly till lone can chase
q thousand"
Rut let me notice Bachelors more Sc
rious fear of populating "Sheol" with his
posteritv. There is risk in all things. No
thing yentured. nothing gained. A mer;
chant who begins business In hlchmond
will be told that not one in ten succeed
The farmer who lost $1,000 III tertillZlng
last year will buy as much on credit TINS
fall. The ship will weigh her anchor at New
York to-day, though the news OF steamer
going down with all hands on board has
lust been telegraphed from Liverpool. All
these disasters may happen, though no one
is responsible. All care and diligence
may have been observed, yet loss ana
death come. Human sagaclty fails utterly.
II NAV seem strange to my friend when
tell him that no such uncertainty neces-
sarily attends the venture to which would
invite him. Even in the time OF Joshua,
God said that lit shall be well witha good
mans childrens forever" Not for one
generation, but from generation to gene
ration. Solomon said train up q child,
&c" But the father must keep "all Gods
commandments" to claim this promise.
Here is "solid ground" If God be for us
who can be against us? But l think our
observation will in some sort sustain TINS
view. The majority of the children of
good, intelligent parents are good. There
are some black sheep. but the exceptions
proves the rule. In all or most all OF these
cases the fault is with the parents. This
consideration should have a most whole
some influence upon the conduct OF both
fathers and mothers. If il will not make
them wise and prudent what else can
Lastly, have plenty OF time for rest
and quiet" and without the pipe" which
salary of SIS, 900 would not induce me to
smoke. have from sunrise to breakfast,
and from to ~ p. NJ. for rest and solemn
silence" Is this not enoug b! II my friend
will only take my advice he will find no
difficulty in getting private room in his
own home where he can have all the quiet
and rest his tired soul may need, and If he
| will send me through the Dispatch his pho
tograph (omittine his age, if he please a. : l
| will arrange matters TO his entire satisfac-
ton so that he can safely "ioin the noble
army of martyrs" If he falls in the fight
he will find q soft bosom upon which to
| breathe out his noble life, and In the Ian
guage of Dickens, with children's faces
around his bed.n 4.