Ellsworth American., 1891-07-30
For the Ellsworth American |
Women and Home.

aocs u true woman SNOW 10 80 ooOu du-
vantage as in a pleasant home. In no
place does the broken hearted woman show
so plainly. The true home will go far
towards making the true woman, and some
times the true woman can do but little to-
wards making the model home. There
may be neatness and order, there may be
the judgment of an artist in the selection
of furniture, bric- a-brac, etc, but II there
he here a cross, ill natured father or hus-
band, profane or unprincipled son or
brother. who will say that skill in dress or
judgment in selection of drsperies goes far
to offset these? True they make the place
more endurable, but can they make home?
Homes not merely roof and room, Home
is where the heart can bloom
would not lessen one atom the respon-
sibility of woman wish all realized the
power for veal or woe that lies in woman.
but why not use AS good judgment in regard
to her as to men? There are many girls
as one writer has said simply waiting for
! chance TO marry" do not agree with
that writer, but think instead that so many
girls are useless because they are not
man who Is idle, why woman? Some
will say "a woman should have no ambi-
tion above being loving wife affection
ate sister, and fond mother" No one
I "a = l.,
kind father and consd,ratc brother. be-
cause he has pIofc> sion or trade and at
tends To it.
Oftentimes one sees women who show
their fondnc-S fpr family by stitching at
night a. well as day to make coats and
pants Tor the most meagre pay that the
mortgage NAV be lifted from II home or
thr children b. educated. Know many
Young girl doing some wurk they have
neither desire nor adaptation for, simply
because they have listened tn other. and
not chosen profession. Do YOU realize
what weak excuses are offered against
womeu> ha, ing place in the professions? p?
We are told If "A woman would be a phy>i-
clan she must stile her finer feelings. A
man with Tie right heart for successful
practitioner must be obliged 10 sttlc his
then, and if it makes the woman uuloyely
it will the man; for BRUSH men are not
attractive ii the sick room or outside. We
are told that women do not make good
collectors whatever their business An VI
u. told me this and is he good collect
Or: am told that he re.th,r charges,
keeps his books nor collects, but leaves it
to a woman, that woman. the mother Of
his children, keeper Of his house and look
er after his every comfort. very sue
cessful lawyer once told me. II earn the
money Mrs Bank takes care Of it," and
Mrs. Blank has made him financial sue
cess, for you know the adage that "A fool
can earn money" SC.
why not teach the girl that life Of
usefulness begins after the school room is
left; while she is there others are doing for
her, she is receiving; but her morr ardu-
ous duties will commence whcu she bid,
u
an opportunity to choose the profession
or employ mcnt they prefer, a. We do the
boys. and there will be more useful and
happy women and less ll--orted mar
ragcs. The excuse that such a course
will prove too hard for the average girl is
not true or an honest one, for women
have been allowed to wash ami sweep
from time mmemor.a, and no work can
require any more strength.
call TO mind some Of the women who
were born in toll and married men III fitted
to ease the burdens but who have wol kcd
their way to the top and dragged the hus-
bands with them. one a. . physician, an
other as newspaper correspondent and
author and 50 en-. How many clergymen
there are Who feed their focks on exceed
ingly poor sermons, and the congregation
would rebel only that the wife is SO useful
and such a help he is endured and draws
the salary which She earns for him
| would not be understood as crying
down" the other side, only trying to show
that 1t is time the men were advised 10
dress becomingly, To be continually pleas
ant,if they would hold the wife's affections,
be fond and devoted to family and not
seek the club room, or be interested in the
sporting world, 10 short, have no amb-
;ion beyond the home"
1t must be acknowledged that too few
h., 6 l,a
is possible The reasoa however is OBJ
vious-we undertake too many branches,
devote too little time to any one. The
woman who would make success of
dress-making must study the art; she who
would make success of the practice of
medicine must understand the science, bet
ter perhaps than her brother practitioner,
because people are doubling her more.
When women learn TO devote the time to
one line of duty and work, there will be
more who climb high in the road to
fame.
Although the sphere of woman's useful
ness has greatly widentd in few years,
there is still large chance for improve
meBt, and it is time the men realized their
duties in the home more plainly. In how
many families is the entire care of the
children given to the mother, when it
should be mutual duty and pleasure TO
train these children. How indifferent
many men dre to the interior of the home,
when if they had more interest there more
time would be spent within Its walls The
model home will be where husband and
wife, father and mother together train the
family; where the son realizes that father
is as interested in him as mother, where
father is the exam pie mother wishes him
to follow. 1t will be where the religious
instruction is not left entirely to mother
the educational to neither father nor moth
er. but together they lead these young
ones in the right paths. Too long has the
burden been thrown on the woman. 1t is
great compliment to think her capable
of it, but no woman and no man can make
the perfect home unless sustained and
helped by the other.
Why will it be impossible for business
woman to have pleasant home if assisted
by her husband? The true woman will not
continue any business to the detriment of
home, whether it be the home of husband
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