The Sunday herald and weekly national intelligencer., 1891-01-11

ache 1t is the headache that comes when you |
have tried to do your BEST when you have |
tried to be honorable and considerate of |
your neighbor, when you have taken of the
good things that come unto you and given
them to others gladly, and with a smiling face
and when all this is done and there is an unex-
pressed wonderment that you don't do more
and give more.
HEADACHES WHICH KILL WOMEN.
This sort of headache comes, too, from being
found fault with--a course of martyrdom calcu-
lated to make liar, thief, and a breaker of
every commandment by the woman who has to
endure it. To be told that you weren't cordial
enough to Jones, that you were too cordial to
Brown, and that there was no necessity for you
to freeze Robinson-to be told that you haven't
the first instinct of a housewife, else you would
know that when q man put paper away in his
desk that he really ought to have taken down
town, and of which you didn't remind him, for
the simple reason that you didn't know any
thing at all about it; to be told that you are
cross when you are so tired; that you are sulky
when you don't want to say anything, and
somebody belonging to you selects this special
time to bring some one in who has been told
that you are very bright woman-this is the
these little occurrences, that drive women either
into the arms of the devil or into the insane
asylum. can't offer any patent medicine to
cure it-I can only suggest that it is usually
our own people, the people we love, and who
think they love us, who give us such headaches,
that they begin the new year by an inoculation
of patience and consideration.
SOCIAL SETS OF NEW YORK.
Now is the time of year when you read about
the swell set, the swagger set, and the literary
set, and the people who don't know any of them
| sigh and wonder how to get into society. l do
! so wish that every woman in the world would
understand that she makes society for herself,
and that it is good, bad or Indifferent as she
| chooses. She wonders which is the best set in
| New York 1t is like the best set every place
| else. If it has riches it does not blazen them
forth. If its blood is blue its reputation is
white. Its daughters are not advertised in the
daily papers as professional beauties, and its
sons are not conspicuous among the horsey or
| fast set. 1t is charitable and kind. Its men
are honest and its women above reproach.
The sets you read about are rich yesterday, max
ing great display to-day its downfall is chroni-
cled tomorrow, and the people who formed it
are forgotten the day after. Its women rate
everything from money standpoint. and the
ups and downs of the street mean the increase
or decrease of their so-called friends.
NEW YoRK's LITERARY SET
has little to recommend it, except that the
women in it pose as writer's of renown, a name
which they mistake for notoriety. They talk
about subjects they do not understand in the
least, and most of them are examples of how
well-advertised pill is swallowed without ques-
ton as to what it contains. To get into any of
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ing, little money, skin somewhat thick, and
a tongue somewhat acrid, with good supply of
scandalous stories, will gain admission for a
woman, while, as for the maxwell, usually,
especially in the literary set, men are in such
demand that they are taken no matter how or
through whom they may come. You who are
off in some far village and wish you could see
all this gayety that you read about really can
afford to laugh it to scorn, for set does not
make society. Socetyis the gathering together
of two or three, five or six, or as many as you
will who find much in life about which they
agree, and who like to come together to ex-
change pleasant word, to have pleasant hour,
and to know that which is really and truly a
pleasure. The other is the basest imitation
even the people in it know that the gingerbread
is not improved by the gilt, or that it is worth
offering to anybody but the fool who jangles his
cap and bells as if he were proud of his position.
, WHAT WOMEN SHOULD WISH FOR.
) While you are wishing, wish for something
) better than getting into any of the sets, wher-
ever they may be.
r Wish that you may have broader mind and
S a more charitable tongue.
r Wish that you may not see SO quickly wherein
e is the fault, and that you may find without any
( trouble just where the virtue is.
: Wish that you may be contented-not with
+ out ambition, but seeing the good that sur
rounds you
Wish that you may have courteous manner
a kind word, and considerate thought fo
, every man, woman, and child in the world.
n Wish all these things with intensity-the,
Q will be worth having, and they will surely com
a unto you. BAB.
: Is This True?
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