The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-05-08

ABSOLUTELY PURE

polite people have come to regard as
necessaries. marriage has become a
vastly Tor serious undertaking thar
{ used to be, and is deferred until "A
later period of life.
People in cities who have been used
TO wearing good clothes, and to have
servants to wait on them, and to go
out OF town in summer, no longer
marry when the girl is eighteen and
the man twenty-five, saws a writer in
Scribner'S Magazine. The nan Is apt
to be nearing thirty before his income
will stand the matrimonial strain, and
the lady is proportionately ex-
~perienced. 1t would not be quite ac-
curate to say that, though it is harder
TO get married than Ii was, it is as
easy as ever to become engaged.
That would not be quite true. The
difficulty of getting income enough to
marry does deter. and wen prevent, a
great many betrothals; nevertheless,
engagements do often happen when
the prospect of marriage is remote,
and a reasonable percentage of them
last until marriage end them.
Long engagements are not popular,
but enough of them are running to
make the behavior of their bene-
ficiaries a fit subject for comment
in the interest of human happiness.
All the world loves a lover, but lovers
make a serious mistake when they
presume too far on the strength of the
worlds regard for them.
The polite world loves its lovers K
actly so long a they are interesting
and agreeable.
When they cease to be so its senti-
ments toward them take the form of
anxiety to have them married, which
may indeed be so extreme as to result
in practical efforts to put them in the
way of pairing, but which is more apt
to take the form of what is vulgarly
known as the cold shoulder.
Lovers who are intelligent, and who
are disposed to make themselves
agreeable, ought to be exceptionally
charming. They are enveloped in q
pleasant blaze of sentiment, which
makes them interesting. So long as
they are nice, all kind people are in a
conspiracy to indulge them and make
them think that life is lurid with rose
tints.
Their p%oliteness is the more appre-
ciated because it is thought to involve
especial self-sacrifce, and whatever
they do for the community's amuse-
ment is rated above its ordinary value
because they have done it. All the
worse, then, when lovers regard them
selves as temporarily exempt from the
ordinary obligations of politeness, and
abandon themselves to spooning and
mutual absorption.
Struck the Wrong Church.
Mrs. Mary E. Lease. the noted ALI
ancs lecturess of Wichita, Kan, made
a mistake in churches last Wedne sday
night at Independence, Mo-, where
she was billed for a lecture, says the
Baltimore Herald. She was to speak
in the old Presbyterian Church, which
was vacated one or two years ago by
the Presbyterians when they moved
into their new church. a couple Of
blockswest. Alighting from the dunn
my tram she walked calmly in and was
much gratified to see such a represent
tative body of we'll dressed and fine
looking Missourians to greet her on
her first appearance in Missouri. She
walked down the aisle and was about
to mount the pulpit when she was
confronted by n of the elders and
told that she was in the wrong pew;
that it was the regular Wednesday
evening prayer meeting. She with
drew precipitately and finally found
the right place, where there was an
audience of twenty-four men and one
somewhat, she delivered a short in
PRODUCTION, made a few excuses and
retired without delivering an address.