The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-01-02
THE HOME GIRL.
She Is the Safest Girl to Marry
Her Influence and Power.

being supreme in molding character
and disposition. The head and front
| of home is woman. 1t is her bower,
kof which she can make a paradise or
a hell for its inmates. To be an ex-
emplary homekeeper mot house
keeper, for that is of secondary inn
portancel, a young woman must be
trained and educated into it. She
must know the routine work, the
management of household affairs and
how to minister by heart and hand to
the comfort of its inmates. In order
to do this she must possess a love for
| home, and not be eve restless and
ready to leave it and go out into the
uncertainties of life outside the sacred
precincts.
When q young woman shows an In
clination to remain at home rather
than go out into the world which she
Is untitled for, she should receive the
praises rather than the condemnation
of friends and relatives. Where stern
necessity compels her to support her
self, she would be less than a true
woman If she failed to do SO. The
best philosophy of human happiness
Is to make the best OF whatever posi-
tion we are placed in. Many young
women go out into the world to work
simply because they are reproached
by friends for not doing so, hence the
derisive appellation of home girl SO
commonly used. Considered in its
right light. it is a glorious n for
young women to aspire to. The true
home girl is a queen in the Kingdom
r --- a2I saxvaI fl1of
young men strive for when ready TO
settle down in life.
Every well regulated household,
with half a dozen or so in the family,
needs other help than that which an
overworked mother can give, and 1t is
lust as well TO keep one of the daugh-
tiers at home to render such assistance
as is necessary as to hire outside help.
1t would be far better for the young
woman and the home as well. 1t
must be confessed that many are
averse to helping mother keep the
house in order, and not a few daugh-
tiers are so shiftless as to fail to care
for their own rooms.
The home girl, though she may
not know it, is fulfilling a grander
and nobler mission by her devotion to
home than a dozen of her girl friends
out in the world. She has planted
herself in woman's natural sphere,
doing womanis truest labor, and en-
dearing herself to those around the
hearthstone which she graces. Her
budding charms are blooming into
the choicest flowers that should grace
womanhood, and will make her life a
halo, a sunshine for those whom fate
destines to be near her.
The home girl has confidence in and
knows the value of q mother, who Is
the ideality that keeps pure her
mind, aspirations and desires. To her
she goes for sympathy and counsel,
and If she is offended by relative,
| friend OF lover mother knows all. She
values her lady friends highly, but
she does not put the confidence in
them she does in her mother. Her
mother was a girl once and exper-
fenced all the phases of girlhood, and
has had the experience and possesses
the right kind of love to advise the
daughter rightly.
A young man of a brilliant turn of
mind was paying attention to a young
lady several years ago, when the fates,
as he termed IL, parted them. He
went West and remained two years.
Correspondence was about his only
diversion, and it is needless to say his
sweetheart was his worst victim.
Upon his return he touched upon
their correspondence, and remarked:
Il suppose you and your lady friends
had some iaughable times over my
tiresome and foolish letters" to which
she replied, mo, VIII; / read them to
no one but mother"
To him this was an anomaly, so
much so that he thought the mother
knew his faults too well to surrender
her daughter to him, and he never
could muster up the courage to ask
her to make the sacrifice. IL he had
only known she read her letters to
mother.
The home is the proper place for
the development of those virtues in
woman which poets have sung and
written of for ages, and any young
woman who is so situated in life that
she can remain at home should con
slider herself fortunate, and appreciate
that home in the highest possible
manner.
Her friends who are out in the
world may be brighter and more bril-
liant for 1t, but it is at the sacrifice ol
a more enuobling virtue. They may
receive more attention and be in
greater demand among gentlemen,
but the sensible fellow who turns his
mind to matrimony seldom prefer:
them to the home girl.
AS a company for an evening at the
opera or a party any young lady of 6
vivacious turn of mind will serve the
purpose, and this is why some young
men are so ~variegated in their atten