Telegram-herald., 1891-11-15
THAT HUSBlSDUf YOURS
Alice Thorns hiller's Advice 70
Young Wives
EOE 70 KEEP Elm ALL YOCR OWs
Il Tea wsaia VIA ais Lxstiss Rs-P.et
~.s Aa.siisa lea Must Bear n
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Of Realities

"c~@c u I<Stt-A3 % coA1 esIl your
brief but brilliant rsip-whsn yoar
slightest wish wss law. your sEnils WAS
heaven, your tEswn was despair. You
have enjoyed, or sadnrsd. your grand
wedding. the gate OF mstrimony has
closed behind ysG, and now you are
doubtless shocked and zrievsd TO find
yourself face 70 face viEa the common
realities OF Efs. with new problems 20
grappis sEd new adjustments 10 ma5s.
But you should rot regret the change.
Unf0rtunate, indeed. were it for you If
those unnatural days could Be prolonged;
human nature Is weak, and constant adj
ulatioa produces a coneeit deadly 10
moral snd spiritual growth. Far better
ID return % common sense and nat
urai relation; far better that side by
side you and your Ehilom adorer should
meet hfe and its inssitAols trials.
knew case oaes gaeEe a young hus-
band. eaanored % the chivalric IDEAS Of
past ags. kep. up the minute personal
attentions, the exaggerated devotion or
eoartship lo-lx after marriase. The con
sequence WIS growth OF concelt IN the
wife thas made her absolutely intoiera-
bic, and the pair fell at last to the vul-
garity OF quarrshag. until the last YES
tige of respect, not 10 mention affection,
Was trsrplfd ansler theIr feet
Il "a FOR the young wife 70 step down
from toe pedestal TO which she has been
exalted and che-rfRry To resume her
place - a common mortal. IL il a criti-
cal moment in her life. and upon how
she meets IL depends nsr whole future.
Sac msy-in sudden and overwhelm-
ing despair-lay yioleut hands upon her
own lie. | have known this to happen.
Or shs may conclude that marriage is
for her total aud disastrous failure;
that her husband no longer cares for
her: that she has made . fatal blunder:
that her life Is wreck. Alas. how many
lives with fair prospects are blasted at
this pointi The wifs's state reacts upon
the husband. ofends and alsenates him,
90 that even X she succeeds somewhat
later in adjusting herself TO the new
conditions, the death blow has been
given 70 love.
There are several Why's, in ono of
which the perplexed and wounded soul
commonly resumes the task of living.
Sho may cast away al hope OF love. and
patch up . miserable substitute for the
happiness she dreamed Of, in filing her
hfe with fresh interests. She gives her
self up to love OF dress. or the triumphs
Of society: soc seeks forgetfulness ia
books, or fings hcr heart and soul into
WORKS OF charity. according to her nat
ural taste. Or the d;sillusioaized young
wife may fnd q poor sort OF rest for her
soul 10 throwing hsrsef waolly into her
work: sac may become housekeeping
fiend." lavisntng upon the contents o.
her four walls the love and care thai
should have brigh tened the lives ot hus-
bari and children, for this passion takes
hold Of . woman with an irresistible
power that sweeps everything before it.
Do We not AL know this unfortunate
creature, Have We not al suffered by
means Of her.
have one before nv window at thi.
moment. and. though know not her
name. or her face. indeed have seen
nothing belonging % her except the out
side Of her house ~ ths back. know she
belongs 20 this class. One small thing
betrays her. In the morning when toe
house Is put in order for the day. every
shade IL drawn down to an exact point,
and each pair Of outside blinds Is ixed
in certain position which never varies
be is cold or hot, sunshine or pouring
rain. The Stats are turned at the same
angle: the bliais stand open 30 far that
ths middle edges are ak inches apart,
and ara held thus By wire from edge
to sGgs. and some contrivance at the
hinges shas keeps them from moving
When SEQ this stiT array-and looz
with curiosity for il every morning-l
know the house IL On dress parade and
thst no home feeling whatever exists
behind shose too expressive blinds.
Other unhappy wives again meet their
fato in difsrsss way, by proclsimins
their grief TO tie worid: they lower
themselves 20 conase in their freads;
they sing Il ia dismal verses. or wall II
Ia possimistic novels. They pose as VIC
tins. aad trey usually cnd in the divorce
court. or sever the CALLING bonds in more
violent manner.
All shsss Ways. 90 familiar In every
society. ars terrible mistakes. There is
path Of wisdo--s. which shall sarn sor
row into Joy, and make up for that frss
ais2rpointuart tbonsand fold, and IL
Il for the wife 20 lead ia IL. for the true.
united home - always from the wisdom,
Of womsnhood. K Is rot given to man
30 make a hema
The FIRST thiug 20 b, done. then. yourx
wife. when yeu see the fair walls Of your
castle Of dreams tunbhng in ruin about
rour feet. Is 70 via your husband. lie
has alread~ taksn his turn in the court.
ship episode. row is is for ron to come
q he frent sad win Your hasbsnd. Not
"A his war. indeed: the mans and TIE
woman's war must always differ. thank
God. You won ySnr lover By the Gn-
corsrions witchsry Of maidenhood: you
must win your husband quite otherwise.
by true wernaolv worth.
New step np cut Of all this unwcrshi-
ness. nv sssssr. Rs wise: take your trne
place. noe ca pedestal above his heal.
~ ~ worselpesi. sot-oh. be surs not
~ hls feet. 70 be tranplei uFou. but by
his sisie. 70 Be respected. 20 De valued. 70
b. loved: ard tas love ef q good husband
a. thousand tines mere % De desired
than the anrsassnsn~ passion ef lover
Advice Al tais s~vortant point newt
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