Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1891-03-19

different ways what was my opinion ol
marriage. 1t seemed right that they
should be answered, and so | started
out on journey of discovery, seeking
for knowledge from wise men. l do
not think that women are capable of
deciding this question, for each one is
certain to judge from her own stand
point and that alone, and so she cannot
be said to look at the question in an un-
prejudiced way.
CLUB MAN ON MARRIAGE.
The first man met is man of clubs.
| looked at him and / said, sMr. Bach
elor is marriage failure ~ and he said.
"Mistress Bah, will answer you Just as
did man at my club the other night,
who propounded the same question. 1
said, Look around this room, crowded
with men; three quarters of them are
married ones; now, either the wife has
gone her way and the husband his, or
the woman is at home lonely; and in
any event, there is something wrong. If
everything was right, the married man
would be at his home, satisfied there.
and happy with his wife," He gave his
hat most beautiful lift, smiled sweetly
at me, and left me impressed with his
great knowledge of the world.
DOCTORS VIEW OF MATRIMoNY.
The next man whose fate it was to
meet my question was a doctor. Said
he, Marriage failure? No, it isn't a
failure, when the man gets the right
sort Of woman-and that woman is best
described as combination of the ideal
and the material. That combination
makes a perfect wife. But how many
men find her? Usually, as Balzac said
long ago, we go round the world look
ing for this woman. We want to lae
combination of comrade and wife in
one volume; but we seldom succeed.
We have to choose two, and the world
frowns at that"
THE IDEAS OF A BACHELOR,
The next man I asked had thought it
all out, had seen it from both sides. and
had concluded that the holy state of
matrlmony was one in which he did not
wish to enter; and these were his rea-
sons: "a man and woman get mar
ried, expect to be together 1855 DAYS in
the year, and never take the trouble to
find out whether they are calculated to
be happy together. The man doesn't
know whether the woman can control
her temper when he loses his and vice
versa, and they grow desperately weary
of each other. A man has d RIGHT 10
claim in marriage all that friendship
would give him, and great deal more.
Nine times out of ten be gets thoughts
less affection and no consideration"
Then answered here: eyes, but
WOMAN HAS SOME CLAIMS.
''She has a right to all that a lover
would give, to the consideration of
brother and certain amount of pater-
nal care. / am not inclined to excuse
women, for | think that while men may
all the sins of the Decalogue, a
woman can nag a man into fury that
could not be surpassed by raging lion.
| think, too, if women We're more wives
and less mothers, marriage wouldn't so
often be failure. Now, don't mistake
me about this, for | am devout be.
lever in babies; and don't think that
married woman has any right to shirk
either the joys or pains of motherhood;
put too often the interest of the babies
tre thought of first; the husband is me-
elected, or, at most, counted as neces-
ary evil. Women are undoubtedly
of habit, and once they drift
nto that dangerous sea of thoughtless-
less they are very apt to let the littl
'ark marked husband drift away, an
'ery often it cannot be lured back"
THE SECRET OF MARRIAGE.
"Yes," said the man, ga long time "a
clever somebody's Frenchwomans&
and that when passion and habit lie in
too long, habit wakens up to
nd that its companion has fled. Per-.
onally think that the average woman
ees too much of her husband; next,
nat she doesn't have sufficient num-
er OF outside things to interest him,
he can't understand this, for she knows
nat he found her interesting before she
as married, and she doesn't realize
nat being away from the people he is
nong, reading books and seeing plays,
doesn't see will give her no end of
right topics, and will make her talk
ell and Interestingly to him. For my
Yn part, as a man, / believe that L
yree with Disraeli, who SAID that the
'rfect friendship between man and
woman consisted in their going In diff
rent sets, meeting at 10 O'Clock over
t of supper, and discussing all they
ID seen as solution of the secret Of
lrriage."
WHY SOME MEN DON'T MARRY.
zone reason why men don't marry,
pecially in large cities, is because a
chelor with moderate income can
joy the theatres, the races, the little
ppers and dinners, his clubs, his pur-
: and fine linen, and the society Of
,men. Married, that income would
We to be divided by two, and within,
months marriage would bea failure"
at was another mans opinion. For
self, just gasped. They all knew
much. | thought little about love;
thought a little about Verona and
meo and Juliet, and then it dawned
me that if the ardent Romeo had
dded his beloved one, perhaps their
rriage might have been Il success, be-
lse house rents were not high in the
Italian town; people didn't wear the
lie expensive lingerie that they do
vadays. Romeo probably didn't re-
re the best brandy, and Juliet
lldn't have wanted Worth to have
lie her froeks. We like to read, write
talk about the ennobling influence
poverty. 1t may be ennobling when
go around with basket begging,
when you sell lead pencils on tie
ct; but defy anybody to prove that
teel poverty is desirable.
WIDOWS MAKE THE BEST WIVES?
ut to return to matrimony--which
It many people do when they hato
tried it The English arguists