St. Paul daily globe., 1891-05-18
WHO NOT TO MARRY.
Advice Given to Young Folks by
Rev. S. w. Sample.

Rev. S. w. Sample.
"The American Home" was the
theme of Rev. S. w. Sample, at the
peoples meeting yesterday afternoon in
Century hall. He said that the most i'm
portant thing in the world was the
home. He had heard it said that the
Bible was the most important, and
if all the Bibles were burned,
it would be the greatest calam-
ity imaginable, bnt if such a thing
should happen the truths in our hearts
would still live and cast radiance not
only over our lives, but over posterity
as well. But how would it be if all
homes were destroyed? The an
cionts had no home life as
we know it. The Greeks used
their homes simply as a place for eat
ing and sleeping. The Romans to a
greater extent knew the home life as
the present age does. Still, their houses
were nothing but shells. made of gold
and marble on the outside and wood on
the inside, and the WOOD was often de-
cayed and worm-eaten. So it was with
that nation, and it is no wonder that
the great nations of past age, SO easily
succumbed to the advance of the fierce
GothS, who were still more of home
people. Some men have selfish home
as they do a selfish church, and both
are equally bad. A patriot may turn
his back on his home to fight, and we
fully praise him for so doing, as the
nations call is often greater than the
demands of the private home.
The increase of divorces in America
may be an indication of an increase of
immortality, but not necessarily so. We
often hear of families coming here
from the old country where divorces
are unknown, and in a-few years apply
ing for and obtaining a divorce. The
reason is that the wife has learned not
to put up with coarse brutality, as she
would have done back in Europe. This
indicates that they have reached q more
elevated sphere of life. A partial di-
vorce-that from bed and boards far
worse than absolute divorce, as it puts
a premium upon immortality and crime.
The greatest foe of the home is the
saloon. and if they could De crushed out
OF existence, submerged. the homes
would be far purer and happier. | do
not believe in high license. That does
not relieve us of the incubus, it only
gives few the privileges of selling. L
do not believe SO much harm is done by
a man taking his beer and wine home
to drink it. but it is the habit of stand
ing in saloon with boon companions
spending the money that is required in
the family. The temptations offered
by the open door of the saloon, with the
attractive appearance inside of glitter
ing glasses, Silverware and mirrors, to
the boys and young men is an meal
culable source of running their lives and
homes.
Another evil against a pure and ex-
alting home life is the custom of sell
ing the hand. the heart, the body and
the soul for mOney-marrying for
money. Disaster is sure to follow.
Never, under any consideration, young
woman, marry man in hopes of saw
ing him. If the reformation does not
come before marriage it certainly never
would after marriage. ANY young lady
having such an act in mind should
never think of doing SO until
her intended had saved up enough
to provide home, showing her he was
earnest in his reformation. What
should be done is to pray with him,
watch over his sick bed and nurse him
back to health and life, and through the
earneStneSS and depth of love reform
him; but it must be done before mar
riage. Never marry him until he has
reformed; better go through life alone
than marry the man you love who is
addicted to drink.
Marriage will never be what it should,
home will never be what it should, un-
til we keep from shutting up our child
rem and impressing upon them that
they must marry or be disgraced | say,
marry no man unless your heart loves
him; better live single ninety-nine
years, unless you can bow down and
worship your choice. You must honor
and respect him. Sometimes it is
heroic not to marry, and sometimes 1t is
damnable for persons to marry.