Fort Worth gazette. [volume] (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-1898, 1891-06-28
IN BRIEF.

Failed to give expression to their prefer
snce between the disiointed small talk Of
The modern drawing room and the tea
Rrinkings at Madame Thrale's, where DR..
Johnston INDUCED in monologues Of almost
endless duration, the choice would be easily
made in favor of the latter-day mode.
Still, neither extreme is desirable, and if
there is art in conversation much Of it ap-
pears to have been lost in the scramble Cor
the realities of life IL new world.
Doubtless much ridicule would be heaped
on an individual who was known to ''crave"
for an evening in society, but sober second
thought suggests, why not prepare for con-
versation2 Would not be better to spend
fifteen minutes before making an entree, in
thought as to what would furnish pleasant
topics for the EVENING" To prepare ones
self to scatter here and there throughout
the company spiciness, seasoning andfresh-
ness is much like exchanging the costume
worn in daily avocation, for one suitable to
woman and even the young woman who
giggles from nervousness and is gossipy be-
cause of an empty pate, would profit by the
change. Whenever a man or woman lifts
the curtain upon a new scene whenever
they provide 4 new picture, whenever they
lead in pleasant ways there is given new
impetus to life, and fresheess brought into
social life is a good deed. Everyone who
enters society has their cares and disap-
pointments, to say nothing of the real sor-
row that casts its shadow athwart the path
all feet must tread, and that person who de-
votes few thoughts to the better way for
lifting the shadows or beguiling the tired
one into forgetfulness of burdens, merits
praise rather than ridicule. Reading"
paid Lord Bacon, ''makes the full man,
and the full man ought to overflow that all
who come within his orbit may catch the
precious drops he has gathered. This
Is removed from pedantry, nor is it that
egotism which obtrudes self and
wounds the self-love of others, it is simply
the compliment paid others By preparing
pne's self 10 do their share in the company
from which it is expected TO derive pleas
nre if not profit. Persons so prepared go
rlothed. The apartment of their intellect
IS furnished for the occasion, and this state
Is certainly preferable to an empty swept
and garnished apartment, and state of
mental nakedness in the house of ones
friends. =. -.-.
Write" said friend, Chow to bring up
children. You can never fail to interest if
you will write on that subject" Yet there
are those who are ever ready with sheer
at theory and seem to believe because they
have mothered goodly number of young
sters they have mastered that most intri-
cate of problems-the proper rearing of an
immortal being-without, perhaps, having
once given thought to the developing of
the higher nature of the child. In a re-
action from Spartan methods, that dealt
with the child as an incipient soldier, and
from the Puritan, by which the child was
TO be treated as an embryo devil to be pur-
gated by fire and scourge, children have
well nigh become masters of the situation.
Their elders are their servitors, and VEN
GRAFTON for superiors and the law is almost
obsolete. In the discipline of family, if
that is proper word to use in this connec-
zion, there ought to be golden mean. The
development process and the restraining
process should be made to work harlno-
niously, and by the cultivation of the.germ
of good their growth should be so rapid as
to check, if not prevent the developing of
whatever embryonic evil may be dormant.
One of the first lessons a wise parent
must learn is that repression is not the
true method of education, the first attain
nent to be reached is harmony. If parental
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the child and the citizen must be brought
into accord with the spirit of them. The
Earlier the child learns to harmonic duty
and desire, the earlier he gains the victory
over self, and in this way right-doing be-
romcs easy. Whatever serves to counter
act tendency towards selfishness and ar
iificiality is to be diligently sought after in
this era of scramble, when ambitions that
are petty are warping noble natures and
desire for wealth in danger of becoming
over-weening. There is great danger that
harmonious development will be checked, if
indeed 4 growth of individual traits is not
fostered which will blunt the moral nature
aud thereby imperial social order
wise mother will undoubtedly study the
e.
q love of truth rather the fear of punish
ment for falsehood, she will teach the child
the right of proprietorship by first respect
Ing the rights of the child she will in pleas
ant ways lead rather than drive, and if the
necessity arises will show that she rules
although the ruling be by love. Above all,
shamming and seeming will have no place
in 4 household where wisdom directs, and
In order to avoid this there win be no set
ting mp of arbitrary standards and requir-
ing children TO conform to them To require
impossibilities begets hypocrisy. Children
only learn obedience by understanding and
love; other obedien c is that of a slave or an
unwilling subject. Love tends TO keeping
Of the commandments and perfect love
casteth out fear, hence when the parent or
teacher has won the love and confidence of
the child unconscious regard for the wishes
of the elders is u certain result 1t is the
Old story Of the pure fountain, the heart
has the issues of life, and whether it is
called soul or heart there education must
begin. Into the child's play, into its home