The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-12-28

spite they were finally cast upon the
shore more dead thau alive. Ministers of
the Gospel are obliged to see many of
these matrimonial wrecks. In the con-
nubial world this Is known as deserticn
or separation. Sometimes skillful law
yer flshes them out of their difficu ties
and puts them on dry land again, not for
getting to charge roundly for his SER
vices.
Welded wRETCHEDNEss.
"Tnis is divorce. More frequently, how
ever, the contracting parties, after
awakening to the dread reality of the
situation into which they have flung
themselves, after berating one another
for their dual folly and rubbing their
bruised and battered limbs, hunt up
their shattered boat, patch it up az best
they eau. and then proceed upon their
voyage in anything but happy frame of
mind. There is much of this welded
wretchedness in the world. and it is prin-
cipally due 10 lack of proper fore
Thought. Young people do not look
ahead. They 90 not calculate upon the
consequences of their hasty action. They
thiuk only OF the passing moment,
"The huDpiest people in the world"
continued Mr.. Scudder, "are those WHO
are well married. There are two kinds
of fools In this world-those who are
fooled by .othersAend snose who fool
themselves"
His advice to the young women was
never to marry men they could not re-
Dect. The injunctlons 'uever have more
heart than you can throw off your heels, !"
might do Tor Il Don Juan, bnt not for re-
spectacle married people. Love, he said,
was the great hawser that fastened the
masculine Tug to the barge OF feminine
fidelity Like the mariners compass,
love pointed in but one direction. IL was
the most reliable, substantial thing in
this world. Young people should defin-
itely understand each other before en-
barking on matrimonial career
Frankness in courtship is necessary.
1t were better there should be scene in
the beginning than later ON. A Miss
Thompson was presented with a ring by
an uufavored suitor. Said the donor:-
This ring is emblematic of the love
bear you-it has no length" ut Is also
embematic of the love bear you," re-
Piled Miss Thompson ii has
no beginning" This incident DIR.
Scudder related in reference to the
pertinaceous young man who Is slow
to take hint. Love. he continued. was
sometimes dangerous aud disagreeable
thing to meddle with, and no one shou d
ever marry in pique or spite. The Doctor
had known some cases of marriage where
a woman married for support to turn out
fairly we'll. The basis of union should
always be mutual respect. which often
MARITAL GREED
Marrying for mouey was detestable. un-
less affection went with it. The funny
newspaper man WAS quite right when he
termed such matrimony without love,
Matter % money" The young women
were advised also to never marry a man
who is addicted t. any bad habits. "Don't
delude yourself" he said. ''into thinking
you can reform him after the marriage
II he drinks tell him plainly beforehand
he must either give up drink or give
you up. Standing upon any other
priuciple you are standing upou
qucksand. There'll be no love when
he comes nome drunk and pounds you in
to jelly. II he doesn't give it up, his love
is weak. He Is sea-robher-a catch
Throw him overheard aud cast your line
for another catch. Don't marry him if
he thinks more of an old pipe and bunch
OF cigarettes than he does or you"
DR.. Scudder disparaged the ''old mans
darling" idea of marriage. For woman
OF twenty to marry man of sixty was
shameful incongruitv. She was nothing
but well-paid nurse whose contract was
TO carry the old man through his second
childhood. II man and wife are not OF
the same taste, clash and discord were
sure TO follow.
AS to sectarian marriages, while the
minister did not believe inter-church
marriages the safest by any means. he
was glad that the Protestant and Roman
Catholic churches were fast coming to
the conclusion that the true Christian is
greater than The true Protestant or the
true Catholic. The marriage between a
Christian man and a Chrst-like woman
was bound to be followed by happiness.