New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1891-06-21
HOME AND SOCIETY.
THINGS PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW.

There is nothing supremely attractive than
ptural courtesy and kindness TO strangers and vet
ve few either possess or take the trouble TO cultivate
this yery desirable attribute. New-lork girls es-
ecaIy we are sorry TO say often lack this gracious
ness Of manner and their rude indifference to people
mat they do not hspepn to know has often been mn.
taverably commented upon by those Of their own sex
from other places different SETS with whom they
happen to be thrown In contact II is not that they
oye actually hostile; the New-York society girl"
s,muy assumes that stronger is not of her world
and makes the outsider feel it by ignoring her alto
cether. pretty young Washington belle came back
from dance at well known Pifth-ave house half
crying.
3It was perfectly horrid" she exclaimed vehemently
10 her mother, and never want to 60 out in New
York again The moment entered the dressing room
began to feel uncomfortable, and felt happy
the entire evening. Aunty introduced me to one or
Two girls who bowed, looked at me, and then com
ence to talk 10 each other about people had never
heard of. Down stairs the men were Just as bad
Mrs. A. herself charming, and brought up as
many she could got hold of, and through her
got a few dances; but those men l had known in
Washington and who had been at our house came
near Poor Auntie felt sorry for 4
ought to have remembered how much depends in
EewYork upon the chaperonage under which new
girl is introduced, and have been so out Of it all
for the last few years. she said sweetly, just
Al
had such good time at home for the last Two winters
/ should have thought myself hacking; as it Is do
not care But more New-York balls for me,
Merc ."
But whereas girls err in this respect. through
thoughtlessneSs for they are really most goodn
when the ice is once broken, the young men are
even more inexcusable and fair stranger must be
plded indeed or brought out" by Of the dis
tinctly smart set to obtain suffcency of partners
at big dance small amount Of consideration costs
so very little, and the want of it stamps a per-
son as selfish snobbish. that it is amazing that
many apparently to seek such unenviable
reputation. 1t would be well indeed if men would
adopt the kindly welbred custom of the Germans who
not only do not avoid but invariably make ii point
TO be introduced to stranger, and to say few civil
words. 1t is impossible among those genuinely kind
people TO have the of dreadful isolation that
be felt by an outsider in a London or NewIork draw
ing room.
II a woman has her livelihood to gain, and has
at the same time no very pronounced taste or pro-
fession il would be good plan. first, to thoroughly
consider the needs Of humanity before she decides
her course Of action There certain things that
the world must have In the first place, people must
eat and they must be clothed-these necessities may
be claSsed Of first importance, and such acquisitions
must necessarily have money value. Then humanity
must be educated and amused and these essentials
may be considered in the second category Finally the
cultivation Of the comes into play, and there
arises a demand for that which Is most purely util
itanan but the acquisition of the latter must Doces
sary be limited more or less to the wealthy and
1.-THE demand In that quarter affected by the state of
the money market. Therefore. a means Of gaining
a livelihood, that which is purely artistic must in
evtaby be precarous. II is true that the professions
are open TO women; but it is one thing TO take
degree and quite another to be successful doctor or
q lawyer. How many patients clients viii d" fair
girl graduate" be likely TO obtain? For those, there
fore who must work perforce, and help or perhaps
support the dear home the uncertainty is not
70 be thought Of may be delightful to DO artist
but will the pictures sell? That Is the question. And
so back TO starting point. At all events
people eat 1t seems very odd that country
tnd lasses who have received liberal educatons
should not utilize the opportunities that lie at their
very DOORS and instead Of looking abroad for open
ing, should not put the viii and intellect and
ability into poultry raising market gardening or h0T
culture, which to-day is TemuneIatve. OF course
IN order TO compete successfully with men, who not
only sperinend their laborers, but work Themselves
9 woman would have TO give both her whole time and
attention, and would have TO supply the missing
manual labor which she could not do herself. But
there is no why woman should not personally
oversee her hands" Clad in appropriate garments
she could defy the weather. and If she adopts the plan
of an old lady we knew Of who a most successful
comfortable by providing camp-chair and sketching
umbrella which she can move from place to place
over her domain. Three hundred dollars profit per
acre we are told on good authority, is small allow
aDce for profits in market gardening witness the rates
of receipts and expenses which have been given for
one acre taking as an average the rates Of the past
fen wears: