The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 18??-1935, 1891-05-01

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poor head aches and instead of dark
ening the room and administering
some soothing anodyne in q loving
way, he rattles his paper the louder
and persists IN reading louder, while
she, poor deluded creature, wonders
why he is not speaker of the Senate,
when a cigar box would have been
to exalted a prOcenium for him. Is
that a model? No, 1 pray heaven to
pity all poor women who have such
Nero's for husbands, and if my pray
er were heard and answered what a
shower of pity would descend. If
my lot had to be cast with such a
man, I'd pray to die, for it would be
martyrdOm to live.
Lets look at the other picture. The
model home, with its birds, flowers,
music, and above all its queen and the
model husband. A cheerful room,
neat and bright, the result of her
work; a neatly dressed wife with
smile of greeting for him so dear to
her. The moments are hours to her
without him, but he comes; the door
is open to receive him and q pair of
arms that take him into their never
tiring embrace. 1t is like the return
of a dove to it's mate and they COO and
WOO and smile AS though it were but
ycSIoEudy thcy ndu IOuuU Gn0 true
fountain of love. She sees the seal upon
his brow growing brighter each day.
He soothes her aching brow and puts
her sorrow to flight by snatches of lit
tie love songs as he wOoes her tired
spirit to rest upon his noble bosom.
Each heart beat Is for her and her
alone. She is his sunshine; she is his
idol; her sorrows are his and their
lives are one great harmonious chord,
like the peal of the grand organ OF
the sweet beyond. Love 10 the seal Of
that home; every tiny bouquet Is
Iadened with loves message as in the
days of woOing; each trinket whis-
pers OF his devotion and she knows it
and the whole world knows 1t and
recognizes that he is q Model Hus-
t md because he keeps the seal bright
and 1t shines from the depths of his
heart and eyes and is reflected upon
the outer nature.
She Is seen out with him on all oc-
casions; at church, lectures, picnics,
entertainments, receptions, etc. She
proves to be what he wishes her, the
queen of any realm, the half circle of
which he is the other half; his equal
and not his servant.
The world says; "Their honey
moon seems to be continuous" How
uldHy are dIEdIu VI Wndl Gu0 WOTlu
will say. The model husband is not,
model people. Always Judge of a
husband by lover. A lover who is
ashamed of his sweetheart; VIII
steals off from his associates for fear
of being "gued" and slips through
the dark alleys or un the shadiest
side of the street to avoid being seen,
thence to his "girl's" house to tell
her how much he loves her, is the
man to make wife become a second
Mrs. Caudle." 1 say beware of him,
"he has an axe to grind" Give me u
lover who delights to take advantage
of every occasion presented and some
times make occasions present them
selves that he may drop in and see
his beloved. The model lover or hus-
band delights in sending her flowers,
though it be only faded violet, re-
member that "crushed violets are
sweeter STILL" who takes especial
pleasure in sending her and giving
her little bijOus, bangle, n ring, a
pin to show his cleaning love aud
alteration for her even though it be
through the sparkling radiance of a
gem or the fragrance Of crushed
violet.
1 don't call any man a model hus-
leaves his wife without cook or any
wood except a cigar box to prepare
the food with, then comes home
with four or five chums to dine and
expect a dinner that would vie with
the royal table of a king; or il her
biscuits are not light and brown to
remark "they look like they were
baked in the moonlight" or tell her
the steak is so tough you can't
stick fork in the gravy. Do you
think woman could endure much
And there are millions of Just such |
men in this world and twice as many
ooys following in their footsteps.
Wouldn't it be much better and just
as easy to have a cook always on
hand, the wood invariably ready so
in a ca-e of emergency (when the
cook leaves because you growled at
having to pay herr the work would
not be so heavy. You (the husband)
should bring the water, split the
wood, MAKE the fires, set the table,
grind the coffee, steep the tea, toast
the bread, brOil the steak, run to the
spring house and skim the milk, and
In fact make yourself useful in saving
your wife of many steps and make
her feel proud OF you for your apt
ability to learn woman's work.
20, woman, tho only a part of
mans ribs" il you are the happy
possessor of such a treasure as this
model 1 have described, warn you
to-build a rock wall round him, for
soon the eyes OF the maIriageable
girls will be fastened upon him and
they will be putting "spiders in your
SOUP" II had such q treasure, ]
would hate to part with him, yet i
would rather death would separate
us than to part from him in any
other manner peculiar to this day.
and so 1 would pray like the man
who had neat but fussy wife, whom
the neighbors thought such q gift or
treasure, wO nd say
ayes, o treasure to me certainly has
been given,
But sometimes 1 wish could lay up
my treasure in Heaven"
There are many mistakes made
nowadays in marriage. One great
error most girls make and the boys
too, ia they marry thinking they
will be supported by the others
work the result Is they both are de-
ceived; both have to make a living
and both are unhappy. No model
man, as have said heretofore, will |
he can better her condition before |
marriage. He Is no model who |
would take herfrom brick mansion |
and put her in a hut; he is no model |
who would take her from brussels |
carpets and give her full dominion of
a bare house with rag carpet, his /
grandmother wove, on the best room;
he is no model who would take her |
from the piano or the painters pa
iette and put her to churning or
shing the garden fence. /
lon't mean to shield the woman from
work, for L think she should .'peT.
ate with him in all things. but if you |
will observe carefully, you will see
that nine out of ten marriages that |
take place in this day are marriages
that result in unhappiness; Why? |
Because they were wholly unprepa'
ID for marriage and Thought they |