St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1891-08-16

of ordinary common sense in the choice
of a life partner. Be that as 1t may,
have been trying, among vast number,
for some time to pick out what you
would call a provident and Judlclous
(and therefore happy match. L thlnk
l have found one, but [ am not quite
sure, yet. The cOmmCn phrase IN ref
erence to married people now Is, NV nat
strange cOuple~
You hear familiar expression good
many times and take no heed OF it.
But after a certain sage of repetition
it stamps itself as more striking than
something original. You fall to Won
denng on it. Why should so many
married people earn the disagreeaole
''iIl-matched' and the still more queS-
tionable adjective strange? You
don't know what prompts you to the
criticism on your acquaintance. I'm
sure don't. Only, of all the changes
and notifications of old-time customs
that mOdernity has wrought, those per-
tanning to the matrimonial state are,
perhaps, the StrangeSt. Yet nobody
seems to define. though all review, the
steadily moving revolution III llnger-
ing custom SO vital to the human race.
I
One fact has been established. The
years have brought the greatest change,
and. perhaps, the greatest good TO Wom-
an. She owes it to a growing intelligence
and a more liberal education, and wher-
ever YOU fiud this stirring. expanding
type she is gifted with more sense
whether she use it or mott in the choice
of life partner than all the men in her
district. You rarely find woman mar
ried to a man greatly inferior to herSelf
in intelligence, while the men who
marry women of inferior intellect num-
Der legion. 1t was favOrite practice
with great minds i'll the old days to
marry a woman beneath them mentally.
The practice continues, and causes
more havoc in domestic felicity at the
present day than even the thoughtful
dream.
A woman, generally speaking. can
compare well with the average man
morally. but her intellect, if up to the
standard, lacks sufficient cultivation to
compete well with that of man. But
there are great things to hope for when
every day offers to our own sex adVan-
tageS which often exceed our grasp. 1t
is an acknowledged fact that men see
more of the world than their wives;
and, however ignorant a husband may
be, he is bound to learn something each
day.
But wOamn's mind, unaccuStOmed
to intelligent thought before marriage,
becomes stagnant afterwards, and rem
derS her a source of constant discomfort
to those about her as we'll as herself, for
however much intelligence she may
lack, she is always quick to feel her de-
ficiency, though unable to remedy or
mo nnf
only turn out badly for those imme-
dIately concerned, but they are detri-
mental to the cause of wOman'S
advancement generally. Such a
wife may have girls and boys
of her own, who follow in her
footsteps and rear for her husband and
i herself lasting monuments of her own
incapability. Experience is said to be
| a good school. But we all know That
! men are slower to learn in 1t than our
own sex. They are still touched by the
| sight OF a pretty face, and youth and
| beauty Will draw them into matri-
mOniaI ENHANCEMENT more readily than
| any of the more solid qualities that dis
| tinguish many women to-day. Youth
| and beauty then must effect the
| revolution in mems feelings. 1t
! will only come when every girl
wants something beyond her per-
sonal charms: only, i'll short, when
woman's ambition does not exceed heI
industry. l feel perfectly safe in ad
vancing that last expression. because
know the ambition of my own sex
I something so hard to curb that their in
dustry will quicken to satisfy it before
they let pride go. Too numerous by fal
the examples of wretched marriages
whose source lies in a mans first heed
| lessness anda woman's ignorance. They
are the concern of our sex as much a:
that of the other. since, if the evil bt
eradicated.i it must be the woman'S task