The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1891-08-23

remedied. 'Why don't you tell the truth
about the parties" says this woman.
Don't say that party is enjoyable un-
less it is; and when a party is really bril-
liant, why say so, and people will believe it. y
This would be a good thing if it were pos
sible, but that it is not. No man, reporter
or otherwise, has right to publicly an
nounce that woman as a hostess is a
failure. IL is not true. A woman can fail
in everything else, but if she will, she can
still be q hostess. 1t is inherent Enter
tainment is one of the ramifications of the
receptivity and unselfishness of feminin-
| ity. 1t is to be seriously conjectured if
Eve was not the more quickly enticed into
the apple episode from the thought that it
| might afford Adam more pleasure.
1t is great act to call the little party of
six in the small frame house, with nuts
and mixed candy for refreshments, bril-
liant affair, and an occasion long to be re-
membered for its excellence. Some of the
guests may sneer at such an announce
ment, but it exactly meets the ideas of the
hostess and that is the aim TO be attained.
She, 1t Is, who has taken all the trouble
and the worry and expense for her friends
pleasure and she, it is, who should have
nothing else but praise. Exaggeration
never bad d better cause. The big
home with the crystal pointed
chandeliers, rich embroidered furniture
enameled finishes and sybaritic luxuri-
ance, may have been brilliant affair in
the eyes Of the hostess there. but from an
ethical standpoint it was no more brilliant
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around a-rosey arrangement in the little
sun-blistered, weather-beaten cottage next
door The guage OF the worthness of
party should be from the hostess lips. If
the guests want it criticised, it is easy to
satisfy them. They can stop going to the
houses where they feel bored, and the
cause for any harsh criticism is eliminated.
The people who want every party written
up as it really deserves are never able to
fix upon competent judge who shall de-
eide which it is. AS society is for pleasure,
it is eminently proper that all comments
should cOnspire to make it so. And for
optimism we will 20 to the hostess, every
time.
The hostess whom the reporter likes is
the woman who when he calls says, Il
guess the guests had a good time; we
played cards danced and had refreshments
or supper. Here is the list of names"
The society editor is through here in
two minutes: no clubbing about whether
it should be written up; no trying to think
of names; no useless descriptions of how
the guests sat. Here it all is in a nutshell
and the reporter blesses the hostess.
Sometimes, weddings are the worst pos
sible things 10 write about, and especially
the presents The brides mother will take
the reporter among these bridal trophies
and commence Now here is pretty
vase; [ want you to say something espe
ciaily nice about that. Here is water
SET isn't it pretty? Now please say some
thing especially nice about this. because it
is from very old friend. Here is paint !
ed PLAGUE. It's too sweet for anything. |
Please say something especially nice about |
it, too, because it will please her So" And |
so on and so on. The reporter is to say |
particularly nice about every |
thing. And sometimes, under pressure |
he does it. And Is he rewarded with re-
Of a box Of fragrant Havan- !
mas, that he would enjoy hugely? Oh no.
The editorial Office receives a box of varie
gated and musty cake That is all.
There is one crank hostess who is held !
above all denominations by the newspaper
men, and that is the woman who insists
On having the names Of the guests inserted
in the order of their social Importance
There WAS IL case here in Wichita some
time ago where brides mother named
the guests over to a reporter while he
v rote them down. She put certain man
and his wife first. Let US call them Mr.
and Mrs. Brown for convenience. 4 few
after, she asked if he had Mr. and
Mrs. Brown first on the list, The reporter
said they were. A little later she asked
him if he was sure Mr. and Mrs Brown
we're the very first He said Yes" As
ne was preparing to leave she said: Now,
he names will appear in the paper just as
gave them to you, will they not?" He
assured her. But to make sure of it she
slipped out on the porch and whispered as
re sped away: "You will see that Mr.. and
Mrs Browns names are first, won't yous"
But she had asked once too often. The
'eporter put them at the tail end of the
ong list of names He couldn't resist the
emptaton.