Waterbury evening Democrat., 1891-08-28
rHE BusTLINa HOUSEWIFE.
She 10 - Worker, But Has DomineerinR
tendencies.


There are some housexeepers of the
lively sort who are never contented till
they have stirred everyone else in the
family into as lively condition as their
own. If they enter a room, something
is sure to be wrong in it-people must
move their chairs, the table must be
turned about, the light must be
raised or lowered, a window must be
opened or closed; all is not right, but
all must be made right, and at once.
These good BUSTERS are those, among
others, who insist that everyone shall
rise in the morning at their own hour;
the hour suits them, therefore it shall
suit everyone else; they like to rise at
six, therefore everyone else in the
family must rise at six; breakfast must
be eaten in company and the
table cleared away - no break
fast for the delaying, OF if a
breakfast, there is SO much re-
proach with it as to make it's morsels
bitter. 1t is not to be regarded that
everyone needs eight hours sleep at
least, and younger people more, and
should have it; that some are poor
sleepers, and should be suffered to
make up in the morning what they have
missed at night; that some went to bed
late, delayed by work or pleasure; that
the brain repairs It's waste only in sleep,
and should have it's full chance to do So
1t Is of no consequence that some would
| rather have sleep than breakfast; that
the maid will not think of grumbling
| about the cup of tea and bit of toast
and egg, or dry biscuit and butter, with
! which these late corners and poor sleep
ers will be satisfied; good hot break
fast and everybody at the table is the
rule, and hurry-skurry, half asleep and
half awake, the rule must be obeyed.
They have always heard that early
rising, while the dew is on the thorn"
is healthy; their mother and their
grandmother rose; and, anyway, their
rule is to be enforced in the house
where they reign supreme, or they will
| know the reason why.
Or perhaps it Is not early rising that
is the house mothers especial burden,
but late going to bed; she thinks her
own hour again the proper hour for
everyone; she does not like anyone to
show a distaste or WEAKNESS of the
society of the others by leaving it early;
she wants the family to separate all at
once; and she keeps them wearying
and yawning round till she is ready to
lay down her cards or her books or her
sewing and say goodnight herself. Or
else it is the other way, and everyone
is hustled off to bed, whether they
would or no, because she always makes
it point to be the last one up in her
own house.
Or, just as possibly, her bone of con-
tention is reading aloud in the family.
1t matters not in the least then that
or would prefer conversation, or would
be satisfied with little silence. 1t is
her family; she is going to improve
it, whether wished or not, and all
other tastes and inclinations have to
bow to hers Just as possibly, too, it
is sewing for the poor that is her hobby;
and good-by then to fancy work, to mu-
sic, to painting, to amusement; the
sewing must be done in concert, and she
must be there to see; sewing for the
poor is certainly right, and no idea OF
wrong crosses her mind while she In
sists upon it, and allows no one the lib
erty of choice in relation to time OF
quantity, and by no means the liberty
of not doing it at all, If preferred.
Now this busting housewife of ours
has elements in her capable OF making
great happiness in house; but the diff
ficulty is that they are complicated with
others of just contrary capability
with self-will and self-conceit and
domineering tyranny. 1t is happiness
too, which she desires to make wher
she stops to think of anything but the
Joy of having her own way. She has
evidently great strength of body, fol-
she gets her maids up in the middle o.
: the night, and measures the powers Of
4 others by her own; she has some
originality and force of mind; and wha
she needs is the consideration of othel
peoples rights equally with her own
In reality, the youngest child In he1
household has rights which should bs
S regarded-rights to health and happi
o ness, at least SO far as they are to bt
f had; the oldest person has NJ
v less. Only that director o
household affairs who regards
these rights, who SO conducts and or
- ders things as to give every body thu
5 largest liberty that does not imping'
}; on the liberty of others, and is not in
d. compatible with the moral welfare O
n any, secures a state of we'll being il
h her family, moral and mental and spir
= itual, as well as physical, which is an
Il other word for happiness there. If sh
Old DuI DeUnlnk nerSelr, IL would be he
own happiness too that was secured
not only in seeing others happy, but il
O the fact that each individual who fel
" comfort and content to be due to he
IS wise discretion would in natural re
h Spouse make an exertion to see tina
e her own path was clear from trouble
l, and that everything she wished TO
l. should be hers. till the mutual spirit @
ir no
'e house into paradisaical condition. =
Harper's Bazaar.
Honor Not Saved.
Mr.. De Stvle-All is not lost. I hav
o paid every debt, and my honor is saved
U Mrs. De Style-Are we to go to New
port or Saratoga?