The Press., 1891-06-04
w. 1T. U. DEPARTMENT.
MOTHS OF MODERN MARRIAGE.

lessly worn, instead of right royal robe, which no true woman can put on, volun- tarily, without accepting the obligation to wear it with integrity, dignity and such grace as is possible to her.
 Hence is the air of our everyday life all a-fiutter with the wings of invisible moths-moths whose name is legion, and whose power of destructiveness is appall- ing. The varieties are infinite, some more mischievous than others-moths of ieal- ousy, moths of dissension, moths of riper sensitiveness all hidden away in thous- ands of royal robes, yet daily doing their deadly work in their attempt to destroy the institution of happy marriage.
 Nothing contained in our wardrobes is so fair, nothing so frail, nothing so liable to be eaten by moths. Yet how careless many of us are to protect it! What are the remedies
 strictly beware of jealousy, the petty jeal- ousy that would letter every thought and glance of the one you love. Admire the beauty, grace, wit and worth of other wo- men, and let your husband do the same; ; do this out of pure love for all things ad- mirable if you can. If not, do it for jus tice, for you have not a monopoly of all gifts and graces in your own proper per son; do it for prudence, that your hus- band may not think too much on the sub- ject of which he dare not speak to you ]; do it for pride, that men may not say we are the worst dictatOrs of our own sex.
 In the next place, trust your husband unless he has proved himself unworthy {; even then try to regain your lost faith, and, if necessary, "assume virtue if you have it not"
 Shun dissension. What matter, great or small, is worth quarreling about? If a little cloud of anger or misunderstanding arises between you, ,dispel it with burst of loving sunshine. Unless some high moral question is involved, and it rarely is, avoid explanations-which usually do more harm than good-and hysterical reconciliations which are bad for the nerves. Every ''scene" gives you an add ed wrinkle and ten gray hairs, and shakes your husbands faith in the firmness of his household happiness, faith he sorely needs to take out into the world where men rasp and women-other women charm him. Scenes persisted in will ruin your health and beauty, and make your husband brutally abusive, or as indiffer. ent to your tears as to the rain-drops on the window-pain. If you have so sinned against light and reason Otherwise com mon sense) as to quarrel with the man fol whom you would die, make haste to re- pent and believe; repent your own share in the quarrel, and believe, without ex acting the admission, that your husband does the same. There is no generosity 6 man so admires and appreciates in his wife as her willingness to absolve with. out confession. It appeals to him in pro- portion as he is incapable of understand. ing or practicing the same virtue.
 Again, be careful to have your little re- serves of thought and feeling, and grant your husband the same right. Don't seek to tell him your every thought-many ot them are not worth the telling-and don't ask to know his. This is not secretive ness, but common sense and delicacy; as much so as the feeling that prompts yo, to say your morning prayer inaudibly.
 A husband may at times be silent ane preoccupied, and yet it does not argu, that he is indifferent to, or tired of hii wife; he may be depressed, and yet no feel that marriage for him is failure he may be captious and fretful, yet fee no irritation against his wife. am no absolving men from the obligation to b. agreeable to their womankind, nor exten uating their frequent infractions of tht code of marital amenities; am only as suring you, for you own good, that these things are often the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual disaccord ance which you have not caused and abou which you would be unwise to grieve Learn to wait, and by y-and-by you will fint that business went wrong that day; or h' sat in 8 draft, and all his bones achet with an incipient cold; or he had eaten al indigestible meal (not at home, of course) and was depressed he knew not why Wait! wait! and when you have fount out what the matter was, you will b, thankful you did not weary him with fool ish questions. -.
 For such personal charms as may b. yours-and every woman has some thank God and nsGke the most of them Make of them gold, wherewith to gild tn letters which your sterling qualities o heart and brain have forged around you husband. Think it time we'll spent il choosing his favorite colors and styles and making yourself fair in his eyes.
 Interest yourself in all your husband' pursuits, and share such as you can. Yo cannot go to business with him, but yo can learn enough of it to listen under standingly when he talks of it, and to giv him quick sympathy, and often brigh idea which he will appreciate and use Share his pleasures take your holiday together, even if by so doing you mak them few and brief. Don't spend you summer in the mountains and at the seq shore, leaving him in the city; and don } stay at home in the autumn while he zoe to Europe. It is an ominous state C things when husband and wife can reall enjoy separate pleasures. P. I Rarnans.
 Professor John Gardner, of the depar ment of biology in the University of Go orado, has recently written remarkabl lecture entitled Biology and Woman
 Rights," in which, on the basis of h special studies, he takes the strongel ground in favor of the equality of me and women mentally, in society, befol the law, and in government. He cit,