The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1891-12-21
Hints ABOUT MARRIAGE
When Girls Should Wed
and When They
Shouldn't.
PASTOR SCUDDER'S IDEAS.
The Rev. Mr.. HallerOn Illustrates
The Mistakes That Women
Make About Dress.

The theme of DR.. Scudder's sermon at
the Tabernacle last evening was MAR
riage," and he based his remarks on the
text, Prove all things. Hold fast that
which is good"
Our subject this evening"" said Mr..
Scudder, sis marriage. Next to giving
ones self to God, no step is so important as
choosing a husband or wife. BE not
hasty in this matter of wedlock; test the
value of your available partner. and if he
proves worthy of your confidence and
esteem hold on to him for life time. If,
after careful reflection, you believe he
will not make good husband discard
him at once and run no risks. The re-
marks l have to make this evening will
be of cautionary character, for many
foolish things are done in the name of
owe which are afterward followed by
vain regrets.
"A we'll ordered marriage, the union of
two loving hearts for a life time, is one of
the divinest blessings, and fortunate in
deed are those who attain unto it. 1t is
my purpose to show young people how to
reach their matrimonial heaven, or to
avoid the domestic purgatory into which
SO many have thoughtlessly thrown them
sci yes.
NO EXCUSE FOR BIGAMY.
MEN ana women come into this world
in about equal numbers, so that polyga-
my and polyandry are abnormal, aud
homogeneous marriages are manifestly
ordained of God. In this country there is
slight preponderance of males over fe-
males, so that if every woman was Joined
in wedlock TO some man all would be
married aud there would be few men
to spare
"Our Western States and Territories
are crowded with marriageable men, but
the women who would make them good
wives are enamored of the great cities
and are unwilling to sacrifice the COM
forts of civilization even for man. 1t is
said that any young woman VINO goes to
Idaho is sure of an offer of marriage in
less than month after her arrival. So
| to all those who are really anxious for
matrimony would say. Young woman
90 West Another reason why mar
| riages are not frequent is because SO
many women are gong into business and
supporting themselves, while at the same
| time they lower the wages of the men
| and make il more difficult for the latter
| to support wife. With increasing edu
| cation, tine womanly ideal of what a hus-
| band ought to be advances, and unless
| they can find their beauX ideal, multi
| tudes restrain their motnerly instincts
| and refuse to marry.
| There is great danger, however, that
| young women will occasionally be carried
| away by some temporary intatuatlon, and
marry unwisely. 1t is surprising to see how
| thoughllessly some girls embark on the
sea of matrimony, and what trlf1es affect
| woman in the choice of a life partner.
| A mustache turns her head, and decides
| her destiny But women are not entirely
| to blame il this matter. Many young
mans head has been turned by doll face
| or dimpled chin, and he gives his heart
| and hand to the owner without even a
| thought as to her housekeeping ability or
| her disposition.
| A LIFE CONTRACT.
| NOW / would remind young people
| that marriage is for a life time. 1t Is
| something more than q f1irtation-it is
| living with a man forty or fifty years.
| Six months after the ceremony all your
romantic illusions will vanish. You find
| it is struggle ard pinch to keep
abreast of your social mbition, and un-
| less you are desperately in love with your
!. husband and he with you, and botn OF
you understand the spirit of compromise
| and practice 1t, your domestic career will
| be marred. Possibly Won may be tempted
| to break away from one another and thus
| put an end to your matrimonial farce.
| ''It is a fact that divorces are increasing
| in this country, and the prin cipal reason
| for these shattered households is the fact
| that the married couples were mismated
| from the start. In view of this l would
say to those meditating marriage;-'Go
| slow, my friends 1t is much easier to
| marry than obtain a divorce.
| TOO MUCH HASTE.
"It Is surprising upon what short ac-
| uuaintance some people will marry in
! this country. We read every week of
women marrying men who are already
married. Some facinating stranger
| comes suddenly upon the scene,
| and some foolish maiden leaps in
| to his open arms and lays her
| head upon his ureacherous shoulder
! without examining his record Some one
has said that marriage is lottery
! This deny, unless those who seek their
| partners proceed upon the same sense
less principles with those who dabble in
| lotteries.
Il offer another precaution to those
contemplating marriage: Even if you
| have known your man for years and are
| familiar with his record, be in no haste
| to we'd Test your love for him and his
| for you by at least years engagement
| and see if you are equally anxious for
| matrimony at the conclusion of that
period. Love, If it is the genuine, will
| keep. So take your tIme."