Barbour County index. [volume] (Medicine Lodge, Kan.) 1880-current, 1891-02-11
HOTEL MANNERS.


and Coarseness.
''He is away from home and it doesn't
matter"
IF young gentleman behaves that
way when among strangers, was the
quick rejoinder of bright lady at my
side, lit is because he is no gentleman
when at home"
This brought up the whole question
of hotel manners.
There is n gentleman's way of step
ping up to the register. If he busters,
demands impossible things in the way
of accommodations, treats the clerk as
if he were public door-mat, he is sim
ply coarse. He has no claim to be
called a gentleman. One will get his
rights far sooner by modest, self-re-
spectful demands. There is nothing
ruder than crowding at the desk,
snatching the pen, insisting on looking
over two or three pages to see who is in
the house before putting down your
own name, and thus keeping others
waiting, slapping an umbrella and bag
on the desk with bang, scolding the
porter, cursing the elevator, bawling at
your wife on the ladies' parlor landing
to Jump in" and thus making your ar
rival a general gale of wind.
A noisy room in hotel is sure to tell
its tale. Remember that in the apart
ments next door there may be true
gentleman or refined family of winter
boarders. Carousing and the bursts of
hilarious singing that come over the
transom-window, the call and shout
that greet newcomer at your door, or
as one boisterously talks in the hall to a
guest who is departing, all annoy the
genteel patrons of the house. They in
quire, and they find out, too, who it is
that is making all that disturbance of
their peace. The news travels to the
bank, to the exchange, and back to the
ruffian's native village or city.
There is always some one sick in a
hotel The unrestrained laughter of
the passageways and halls is a fearful
distress to some one on the very brink
of death. AS the halls are tufted with
rich carpeting so should conversation
in them be modulated to high-b
quiet.
A lady and gentleman pass into and
out of the apartments of a hotel with
: out apparently scrutinizing their fell
low-travelers. They mind their own
business, and they do not tell their own
business. At the table they do not pass
comments on others about then nor
audibly converse of their own private
: affairs They do not tell stories to pro-
woke each other to inordinate laughter
they wear an amiable and common
place air that eXcites no attention. They
treat the walters with gentility, re-
Numbering that they are not mere
hired machines, but real human
beings Often the man on woman who
brings my soup may be of finer grain
by nature than I n. At all events the
attendant at hotel knows thing or
two has seen much of life and has OBJ
served the manners of Senators and
Princesses. They laugh in derision, on
the sly, at the pretensions of ''the vulgar
rich" who impose on them, attempting
, to show off. Table manners at a hotel
, tell story. The natural way, the sim
pie and honest and kindly way tells of
, good breeding as nothing else oaa.
Rough criticism on the food or attend
ance reveal the boor.~
: If l order carriage, may do it in a
snowy way, which reveals that think
, am doing one grand thing. The clerk
| bows but he smiles to himself as he de-
tects that ] am not accustomed to a
, carriage.
If hang about the rotunda, reveal
: myself. / may be a man of wealthy
8 leisure, and then it is all right to appear
what / am, mere "looSer-on ia
, Vienna" but even then had better not
! strut nor make show of my small
change. But if am there on business,
l had better attend to my business,
, meet my callers in the reception parlor,
! or my own parlor, and not appear a
, simple hotel lounger, Such fellows are
in the way. They get the best chairs,
and by the best windows; they monop-
olize the papers and are forever study
ing the register like spies. They get a
bad name, even though they pay their
c bills promptly Especially am | talk
ing of house where business men
e meet OF course there are lnePe pleas,
e ure houses, Florida and seaside resorts,
: which are different
A lady can not be too careful of her
i manners in a hotel. She should remem-
r Der that if she is pretty and well-dressed
hIndreds are watching her. She should
e see none of this as she goes about her
t artless way Hotel admiration is a
thing a true lady never picks up any
n more than she would poison. 1t is diff
: ficult for her to even be much in the
; public rooms without her husband, or
S brother, or mother with her white hair.
= She can not sit long in the parlor: she
q can not read there. She may look out
of the winnow a few moments while
a waiting for some one, but she can not
long occupy the punlic parlor in a city
hotel alone.
. A lady, especially if she be young,
d will find hotel life very trying. the care
: necessary to escape compromise is so
great. If she is to make long stay and
be much alone, she must be provided
with pleasant private rooms and some
: occupation, like books or art She had
otherwise better go out for a walk. A
! female hotel loungerl Bahi
There is always woman hunter in
every hotel. Look ont for himl He is
! rich, and therefore the proprietor en-
dures him; but he Is bad. Do not let
him pick up even your glove in m ele-
vator. Take no passage-way. courtesies
. from him. To him an inch is an ell
sure. He win claim your acquaintance
: on the street. as "a friend from our
e house" DO not see him IN a hotel
| eternal vigilance is the price OF safety
: Harkley Harker, ia n. Y. Weekly,
!. -Tany. two pounds brown
sugar Ia kettle with pint of water,
let boil five minutes, stir IN four table
! spoonfuls o: butter and cook until If
! drops hard in water: flavor to taste
. Pof1r IN shallow buftered tins Mark