San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1891-01-08
MIXED CARAMELS.
The Sort of a Woman Would
Marry Were 1 Man.

Written for the LIGHT
Considering the fact that 1 naturally
look upon this matter from woman
standpoint, it is not impossible that
some of my sisters may say / am CIV
ing away family secrets.
1t was Governor Hill, of New York
I believe, who said that a man is of
no use for q year before, and 3 year
after marriage. The governor is an
old bachelor, you know, real woman
hating bachelor; but for all that he Is
nearer right than some who think
marriage o simple thing. Of course it
is great thing, in it's way, but a
great many don't understand the
way.
There are great many young
women who are not fit to marry, and
ii they do will bring unhappiness on
themselves and upon all who are as
ISOLATED with them. They may be
good looking, accomplished and
wealthy, yet they are so narrow
minded, and have been 80 completely
spoiled in raising and schooling that
they are totally unfit for becoming
wives, unless 1t be to men who are
looking for pets upon which to lavish
their wealth of affection.
Of what use is professional beauty
in home?
She is almost invariably crank,
has no desires In the world except to
be admired and fiattered. Her mind
is taken up with herself, and not
with the serious business of life.
know one of these unfortunate
creatures intimately, and often talk
with her about her future.
To my surprise she has no idea
whatever of the responsibilities OF
life, has never thought of what Is In
store for her; and her ambition seems
to be to figure as a society queen. A
friend of ours, and very prominent
young man he is, had called on her
several times, Ind from what heard
he seems to be well pleased with her,
but he calls no more. I mentioned
his name the other day, and she
said:
Him! Why, he hasn't money
enough to keep me in the style that L
expect to be kept in. Besides, he IS
mechanic, and you know mechanics
do not amount to much in society"
That touched me because l know
one mechanic that Is just as good as
any society man that ever lived.
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IfIwere a man, knowing women
as we'll as do, would be very care
full who married. In the first place
I would be certain that she had q
good mother, and had been well
trained in household duties, and that
she had been Obedient and loving.
The girl who Is allowed to have her
own way, to be saucy, and act III q
hateful manner, is almost certain to
grow up that way, and to be a very
disagreeable woman.
The girl, or the boy. who is re-
quired to do certain things at certain
times, and to understand they must
be done, will be far more patient and
forgiving than those who don't have
to do any thing. The girl who has
no share In home duties will have no
taste for them when she gets home
of her own.
1 would select girl who had, at
least, attended to her own room, and
arranged the parlor, but would prefer
one that had been brought up all
over the house. and could preside
with ease and grace anywhere from
the parlor to the kitchen. wouldn't
marry her with the expectation of
having her do all the housework, but
would expect her to havea practical
knowledge of it so that she would
know when it was done properly.
The girl that is allowed to grow up
in idleness will, nine times out of ten,
be an idle housewife. She may be
either lazy or Indifferent, or nervous,
gossipping and scolding, and / don't
know which is the worst, careless,
lazy wife, or one that scolds and
slashes.
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/ would marry woman of about 25
years, whose health is good, who has
a fair education, not vain of her pretty
face, but proud of the fact that she is
a lady. l would be quite certain that
she possesses q good disposition, Is
patient and reasonable, and has cour-
age enough to face the world, even if
she meet with adversely. A week
hearted wife is the most unwieldly
burden struggling man can possibly
have to bear.
would expect her to be independ-
emit in spirit, pleasant and dignified
in manners, truthful and affectionate.
Without affection there can be but
little real happiness. Every love-
warmed heart longs for 1t, and must
have it, even IL it is from poodle or
kitten. Sometimes wives go out
side of the family circle for 1t.
1 wouldn't care whether she has
money or not, so she has plenty of
common sense. Money does not bring
happiness. In fact it often brings