The Dickinson press., 1891-01-24
A GIRLS TRUE SPHERE.
MARRIAGE NOT BY ANY MEANS THE
ONLY COURSE FOR HER.

MARRIAGE NOT BY ANY MEANS THE
ONLY COURSE FOR HER.
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Judge Pryor's Estimable Wife Gives Her
Opinion on How Girls Should Be
Trained-what She Herself Has Done.
What have women done? know
what these fingers have done. To re-
member all carries me back to Virginia
through the most exciting pages of
American history. They were trained
to do elegant embroidery and to play
well the best classical music. During
the Civil war and since they havo done
everything that fingers could do. In
war times they plated and sewed my
children's hats, made all their garments,
even little kid and cloth boots, while
their father was in prison.
After the struggle, in the experiment
we made to earn a living, these hands
copied briefs for tho lawyer, then too
poor to afford a clerk, the whilo sewing
for the seven dear children. They made
every robe from the christening to the
bridal for my two elder daughters, and
the work in which they have engaged
since has been most varied.
Woman's sphere is where the Lord has
placed her. Wo all deplore the condi-
tions that reduce young children and
tender women to hard labor for which
they have neither fitness nor strength,
but ] believe that things adjust them
selves in the end and we mold circum-
stances till we find our level. Home is a
sweet place, but it is not tho only place,
nor are maternal tho only duties of
womanhood. Life is made up of Sc
ries of conditions, and the talents of men
and women are equally varied.
EDUCATION is NECESSARY.
deny that woman needs n special
training for what you are pleased to
term tho profession of motherhood. Ma
ternal love is innate. 1t is part of wo-
mans nature She may DO holden in
her youth, n heartless lovor or u treach-
erous friend, false to every trust, and
still 10 good mother. Even the savage
brute is kind TO her young, and will risk
her life in protecting it. believe that
the training and education necessary to
the perfect development of womanhood
will fit tho girl for any sphere in life she
chooses to enter.
do not believe that marriage is all
this world holds for tho sex, nor that
wife should round herself to the four
walls of her home. 1t is necessary for
the height and breadth and freshness of
its atmosphere that she go out, mix with
tho elements and become imbued with
the spirit, the progress, the thought that
is accelerating tho motion of the earth.
The world is moving with a velocity
SO great that one cannot afford to stand
still, and the mother must be up and
about and around, even if she is obliged
to take her little brood with her, to
watch tho swelling tide am always
SO glad to welcome the young woman in
any new line. When l take up the news
paper begrudge the valuable space given
to the reports of the Four Hundred.
do not caro- to read about their coats of
arms, their coaches and coquetry.
want to know what the brave, bright
gifted young men and women are doing
and thinking about and striving for.
This talk about girls losing their
fenininity and unsexipg themselves in
industrial enterprises think idle and
senseless The very word "unsex" is to
me a misnonler, and if a woman becomes
coarse and bold and rough in business
II, fha orf x,yo,.11 :,,,J,, ~
school she would not be a lady in
parlor or a gentlewoman in any con-
dition. The decoIete dress does not
make woman vulgar.
MISTAKEN TRAINING.
The girl who stands behind the counter
to serve us and tho one who stands be-
hind the footlights to entertain us may
have the same nobility of purpose and
the same lofty principles as the one
privileged to i'll use and criticise her. 1t
is barely possible that our ladies do go
to Delmonico's for dinner or supper, that
they arc even reckless enough to sip a
glass of wine, and at the same time be
as intrinsically worthy and noble as the
woman in quiet russet garments who
views the scene from the other side of
the window.
That our girls want training there is
not doubt, neither has the inability of
some mothers been questioned. They
don't want piano lessons unless there is
an inborn love of music. The piano has
been tho ruination of more than one
generation of women. Another fallacy
is the hitherto universal tendency to di-
rect all energies to marriage. In the
south as soon as q daughter reached her
young ladyhood the mother at once pro-
ceeded to refurnish the house.
The girl went to the hair dresser and
had her tresses arrangedin a dozen differ
ent ways to find out which would be the
most becoming style; colors were tried
against her pretty face to get cher
color" she took her beauty maps, and
from every source, even the old servant
hint "to be sweet
In discussing a new acquaintance one
heard that she was very "beautiful and
clever and nice, but she was not pretty.
Being what we called pretty" was con
sidered a superior virtue, and everything
i'll tho girls training tended to this one
characteristic.
The victim was being decked for thu
sacrifice, although tho fond mother
would never admit that she was busy a
the art Of matchmaking. Prepare :
girl for the altar, for the duties of wifi
and mother, before even lover has pre-
sented himself? There is not only droll
cry to such situation, but the tinge O
indelicacy. l believe in giving the gir
the advantages Of good training ant
leaving her to decide whether she is bet
ter fitted for the inner or the cute
world, for the home or the professiona
life.-Mrs Gen. Pryor in New Yor1
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