The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 18??-1935, 1891-04-10
q MODEL HUSBAND.
Sixth Instamen of Letters this Interesting Question by
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entwine the teDdriIs of her affections.
No woman ever yet loved q weak
man; she feels only a cOntemptuous
pity, humiliating to her, and degrad-
ing to him.
Next to strength, comes devotion
to his wife, without which no hus-
band can be a model; L think few
in her affection. What to him Is
only an incident, may be of para
mount Importance to her.
"Man's love is of mans life a thing
apart,
lis wOman's whole existence"
She places her life happiness in his
hands, and the model husband will
not only love his wife devOtedly, but
will tell her so, and by his actions let
the whole world know it. Again the
model husband will not insist that
his wife shall see the world through
his spectacles. The world may ap-
pear blue to him, but he does not
wish it to be cerulian-tinted to her
He recognizes the fact that she is an
independent human being and allows
her to form her own friendships and
associations, without Interference
from him. 1t is not necessary that
man should be brilliant or even sue
cesssul to serve as a model, for the
mostsuccessful men are not the best
men. A wife never loves her husband
better for his successes, although she
feels pride in them which no one
else can.
The model husband will be as gen.
erous to his wife in the matter OF
spending-mOney as his means will
permit. He will not subject her to
the modification of asking for money,
neither give it to her with the air OF
one bestOwing aims; rather will he
ascertain where her purse is kept and
see that it is we'll supplied. However,
if he sees that she is extravagant be.
yOnd his means, he does not hesitate
to tell her so, and if she will not heed
his gentle remonstrance, but by her
thOughtless or reckless expenditure
is imperiling the family, he can, and
does, speak in the imperative mood,
and saves her from herself. Many q
man has been drawn into the vortiX
of financial ruin because he had not
the courage and firmness to say
must" or "must not" to his wife.
The model husband, however, is in
no sense of the word, a tyrant. The
instances in which q man has to as
sert his devinely bestowed supre-
macy, are very rare, and are doubt
less more painful to him than to her.
But If these emergencies do arise, he
dare not shirk his responsibility. The
fiat of the great creator, issued in
Edin, that the man should be the
head of the family, is irrevOcable,
and was not intended for Adam and
Eve alone, but for mankind, through
out all the centuries. But the very
fact that he has the power and right
to rule, makes him all the more gen
lie. The iron hand is hidden by the
glove of velvet, and the wife really
loves and hOnOrs the husband more
than if he resigned his supremacy to
her, thereby burdening her with
cares aud responsibilities beyond her
strength. 1t is to me an impenetrable
mystery why q woman should desire
to rule her husband.
The model husband will see that
his wife has her share in the pleasures
and recreations of life, as far as lies
in his power to do so. He will him
self escort her to places of entertain
ment and always show proper So
licitude for her pleasure and improve
ment.
In the many emergencie", incident
to family life, man shows his true
character. If the cook leaves he will
assist in the culinary department; he
will lay aside his paper il necessary
and rock the cradle, and in short,
will not consider it derogatory to his
dignity to assist his wife in anything
which comes to hand. After all,
trifles make up the sum of human
existence. Our happiness or unhap-
piness depends largely upon small
commonplace affairs. And the man,
who in every relation OF life is strong,
and true and faithful, who never for
gets that he is a lover as we'll as a hus-
band, may safely be pronounced a
model husband, and the woman who
assesses one is happy indeed.
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