The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1891-11-22
BRIDES AND BONNETS.
'RAB's" lAIPRs ssIONs ONTHE WE'D
DINGS OF tbs AUTUMS.

Fashionable Weddings of the Day.
Marriage Among the Jews Young
Wives in Boarding Houses-How to
Live Natural Life-The Right Kind
of Wife-Bonnets Without an End
The story of a Pretty Bonnet-It
Yves Dream, But o, how Useless.
The End CT That Pretty Hat-Some
Things Upon Which Women Agree
and Disagree.
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NEW YORK, Nov. 21.-The getting and
giving in marriage continues on the in
crease. but the more weddings you go to the
more forcibly are you convinced that the
average bride In New York is neither young
nor beautiful, and that she is perfectly capa-
bic OF looking after the gentleman by her
side, who is counted Of SO little worth that
he Is not even spoken Of as best man at his
own wedding. Youth and beauty used to
be supposed to go with white satin and
orange blossoms, but a so-called swagger
air, and rather blase look oftenest accom-
pan-es them nowadays.
NOT MARRYING GIRL.
The New York girl is not over anxious TO
get married; she has too good time while
she IS single, and she doesn't propose to at
tach herself to one man too early in life: or
even to be counted among the young ma
irons before she is about Is. This is pure.
absolute, feminine selfishness. She doesn't
want TO marry for love; she wants position,
and the man with refined tastes whose in
come Is small will find it difficult to get a
bride from among the so-called fashionable
girls. He thinks he would like dear little
wife TO welcome him home, and TO listen to
him If he wants to talk about his affairs: or
to tell him of her day and after a while.
it's Just possible that he thinks that she will
carry IN her arms little bundle that will be
Toms baby and mine." for that's what she
VIII call 1t. He sees this vision going away
In the smoke of his pipe, and ne gets up,
shakes himself together, and goes to dress
for the opera, where he will talk to bright
women, good-looking women, brilliant
women. But they are not women who
will be willing to sacrifice one French gown.
one new bonnet, or one single pleasure for
an honest mans love. You think l am ex-
aggeratingg l am not.
You have only to read the descriptions of
fashionable weddings to find out who mar
ries the man who has just slender income
OF money and magnificent outcome of
love. These girls leave it until too late to
marry. They have theirown tastes settled,
and they seldom yield to a man. His infiu-
ence over them is generally slight, and, at
the best, the marriages are apt to be merely
comfortable no5 just happy ones. That
isn't right.
MARRIAGE AMONG THE JEWS.
There is one thing that like about the
Jews-that is their devotion TO their wives.
No men in the world are as considerable of
women for whom they care, and no men
give and create so much love in the heart of
their wives as do these men. l was talking
to Jewess about happy marriages, and !
put to her the question::
Are you happy in your marriage"
And she answered:
II am so happy that the days are not long
enough for me to be glad in"
Now, this was not a young girl, who had
been married two weeks, a year, or five
years; but woman who had grown-up
sous, and who still loved the husband of her
youth with greater ardor than she did in
the first year of her marriage l don't
know whose fault 1t is, but l should like to
know how many Gentiles could say that.
know there are plenty of men who do
wrong, but also know that there are
grea: many women who nag and worry
them into it. l know there are a great
many men who haven't large incomes
whose wives insist on living in boarding
houses, and think the place for married
people is home, even it consists Of a room,
or two chairs, bed and table.
YOUNG WIVES IN BOARDING HOUSES.
Dolly is a dear girl. but leave her alone all
day In boarding house, and she will get
into some sort of mischief, even ii it is ONLY
in being lazy. She is a soclabIe creature, and
after she bids you good-by she runs into the
parlor and talks to the other women, and
after awhile she goes out with them to walk,
to the matinee, and they all go tot he same
dressmaker. Now, these women may be
just as good as your Dolly, but don't be-
lieve it Is good thing for women. five or
SIX OF them, to be too much together They
grow too confidential. They discuss things
that they have no business to know about,
and some evening when you come home you
will find your room dark and no sign of
Dolly to meet you. She'll rush In about
fifteen minutes later and say that she and
Mrs. Chatterbox stayed out longer than they
intended. You are not a brute and YOU
don't like TO be disagreeabe to her about
this; but that is the time when little Ian
cashire treatment would be good for her, i.
e.. kicking her where her flesh predominates
with pair of wooden clogs. The treatment
is severe, but efiicacious.
TIE THEN AND THE NOW.
However, you don't give it to her. and
after awhile you get used to coming home to
dark room. fumbling around for the
matches, or getting one from a sympathetic
cbambermaid; and as you come uptown you
dinrer time, and you give a sigh because, ten
to one, Dolly wants to go to the theater. There
was time when going to the theater was a
great frolic. Saturday nights you and
Dolly went, and you had bit OF supper
afterward, and the other nights in the week
you two used to sit and talk, or you would
read and Dolly would work away at Christ
mas gifts for somebody, and she would drop
the Christmas gift once in awhile, and in
terrupt the reading by patting your hand,
or telling you for the millionth time what
good>looking fellow you were. Now she
don't seem to care.
HOW TO LIVE NATURAL LIFE.
If you are the average man you will find
some woman who does, and, if you are not,
you will plod along in your usual way until
some day you will be taken with the
pneumonia, something that will kill you
quick, and after you are gone and are cold
and still and can't hear her, poor Dolly will
cry and moan because Of what she has left
undone. Poor, weak Dolly. 1t would all
have been different if you had gone into a
little home Of your own, borne children to
keep you and your husband young, and
lived a natural loving life. never go 10
the funeral of a man and see the widow
weeping that don't wonder how much of
it Is remorse rather than grief. We women
leave so much undone-the little kiss, the
tender pressure of the hand, the gentle
touch, all mean much to man, aud give
him courage to express the affection that he
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