Fort Worth gazette. [volume] (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-1898, 1891-07-02
IN BRIEF.

lost art, and II the people OF today We're
:alled to give expression to their prefer
nee between the disjointed small talk of
he modern drawing-room and the tea
irinsings at Madame Thrale's, where DIR.
Johnston INDUCED in monoiogues of almost
endless duration. the choice would be easily
made in favor of the Iatter-dav mode.
Still, neither extreme is desirable, and if
here is art in conversation much Of it APP
pears to have been lost in the scramble Cor
The realities of life in a new world.
Doubtless much ridicule would be heaped
hrsan individual who was known to crave
Tor an evening in society, but sober second
thought suggests. why not prepare for con-
Fersaton, Would it not be better to spend
fifteen minutes before making an entree, in
thought as to what would furnish pleasant
topics for the evening? To prepare ones
self 10 scatter mere and there throughout
he company spiciness. seasoning and fresh
Tess is much ike exchanging the costume
worn Ill daily avocation, for one suitable to
lie evening. 4 tired man, care-worn
Woman and even the young woman who
yiggles from nervousness and is gossipy be-
:ause of an empty pate, would profit by the
change. Whenever d man or woman lifts
he curtain upon a new scene, whenever
hey provide :. new picture, whenever they
cad in pleasant ways there IS given a new
impetus to life, and freshness brought into
Iocal life is u good deed. Everyone who
Jnters society has their cares and disap-
,ointments, to say nothing of the real sor-
II feet must Tread, and that person who de-
fotes a few thoughts to the better way for
fitting the shadows or beguiling the tired
me into forgctfulness of burdens, merits
praise rather than ridicule. Reading"
Jad Lord Bacon, ''makes the full man."
Ind the full man ought TO overflow that all
who come within his orbit may catch the
precious drops he has gathered This
g removed from pedamtry, nor is it that
egOtism which obtrudes self and
wounds the self-love of others, it is simply
the compliment paid others by preparing
ones self to do their share in the company
from which it is expected TO derive pleas
ure if not profit. Persons so prepared go
clothed. The apartment of their intellect
is certainly preferable to an empty swept
and garnished apartment, and u state of
mental nake3ness in the house Of ones
friends.
Write, - said friend, chow to bring up
children. You can never fail to interest if
you viii write on that subject" Yet there
re those who are ever ready with sneer
at theory and seem to believe because they
have mothered a goodly number of young
stcrs they have mastered that most mtri-
cate on problems-the proper rearing of an
immortal being-without. perhaps, having
once FivGn a thought to the developing of
the higher nature Of the child. In re
action from Spartan methods, that dealt
with the child as an incipent soldier. and
from the Puritan, by which the child was
10 be treated as an embryo devil TO be pur-
gated by fire and scourge, children have
well nigh become masters of the situation.
Their elders are their servitors, and ven
Grafton for superiors and the law is almost
obsolete. la the discipline of family, if
that Is proper word to use in this connec-
ton. there ought 10 be golden mean The
development process and the restraining
process should he made to work harmo-
niously, and by the cultivation of the germ
of good their growth should be so rapid as
10 check, if not prevent, the developing of
whatever embryonic evil may be dormant.
one of the first lessons a wise parent
must learn is that repression is not the
true method of education, the first attain
-, IL,
a-d civil laws are right then the sou of
the child ana the citizen must be brought
into accord with the spirit of them. The
earlier the child learns harmonic duty
and desire, the earlier ne gains the victory
over self and in this way right-doing be-
comes easy. Whatever serves 10 counter
act tendency towards selishness and ar
tiiiciality is to be diligently sought after in
this era of scramble, when ambitions that
are petty are Wrapping noble natures and a
desire for wealth in danger of becoming
over-weeniEg. There is great danger that
harmonious development viii be checked if
indeed I growth of individual traits is not
fostered which will blunt the moral nature
md thereby imperial social order
y wise mother viii undoubtedly study the
lent of her Childs mind, she will inculcate
Il love of truth rather the fear of punish
ment for falsehood, she will teach the child
the right of proprietorship by first respect
ing the rights of the child she will in pleas
ant ways lead rather than drive, and if the
necessity arises will show that she rules
although the ruling be by love Above all,
shamming and seeming viii have no place
in n household where wisdom directs, and
in order TO avoid this there will be no set
ting up of arbitrary standards and requir-
ing children 10 conform to them. To require
impossibili,ieS bCgets hypocrisy. Children
only learn obedience by understanding and
love; other obedien is that of 4 slave or an
unwilling subject. Love tends to keeping
of the commandments and perfect love
castcth out fear, hence when the parent or
teacher has won the love and confidence of
the child unconscious regard for the wishes
Of the elders is certain result. It is the
old story of the pure fountain, the heart |
has the issues of life, and whether it is |
called soul or heart there education must |
begin. Into the child's play, into its home |
life Us well as into its studies there must be |
wholesome encouragement, and this can |
only be when those having youth IN charge |
recognize each child's individuality and |
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