The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1891-01-14
A HAPPY
Advance" Endeavors to Show What Con-
stitutes It.

ADVANCE EuueaNDfst TO SNOW MT OOu~
stitutes IL.
ESTEEMED HOWARD FRIENDs-You will
no doubt perceive that after a limited
mount of pure, indebted negligence, L
am bothering you again by knocking for
admittance.
l will now proceed to set forth a few of
nv thoughts in regard to the subject of
"What Is 1t that Makes a Happy Mar
riage?"
Two persons OF the opposite sex who
love each other in every sense the word
implies is what it takes to make a happy
marriage, in my estimation, and if | Inn
mistaken | am honest in it. 1t is no to
denied that some people marry to keep
their wealth in a limited territory, regard
less of their happiness in the near future,
and some may pronounce those marriages
happy ones, but l have a different name
for them. I'll venture to say that there
are very few, if any, who make ~loveless
marriages without afterward suffering
seasons of bitter regret. Although, when
a girl deliberately turns her back upon
wealth and chooses the man she loves, in
spite of his limited income. she may be
selecting a life that will have its trials and
privations, but, at all events. she is not
stultifying her higher nature. True
love-love in spite of faults
or rather, love founded on just apprecia-
ton of character, which teaches him or
her who loves that the one beloved, even
with faults, is better adapted than n
nfhar - ra,Iar ~ honDr DarDo ~ m,
one NAV remark, There are mistake
made in regard to true love" and I'll ads
NIT all that. However, 1 believe Provi--
dence wisely gives the most, if not all, an
instinct, as it were, by which to know
whom to love, and this instinct comes
not into play, not when we are chill
dren, but when We are grown up, and it
is as distinct from the infatustions of the
schoolgirl, or the collegian, as day is
from darkness. We fall into love, even
the wisest of us, and do not reason our
selves into it. We cannot analyze why
we love, but we feel that such or such a
one will make us happy. A strange thing
this love, which cometh to all, that should
be a basis of all marriages. Only
a glance from a pair of pretty
| eyes, a few words spoken from almost I'M
known lips and two hearts are ready and
anxious to face LIES stormy sea, to leave
father, mother, friends and home. l be-
lieve a matured woman or a matured
man who has learned to think and feel is
instinctively drawn towards or repealed
from persons of the other sex. This mag
netism often leads to love. Perhaps YOU
will remark. "why not always?" Because,
my dear friend, matured men or women
hold their feelings as a general rule under
more or less control, and are not willing
TO bestow their hearts unless they can also
give their esteem and | believe an ac-
quaintance formed under these circum-
stances ripens into love only when the sum
OF the good qualities in the beloved object
exceeds the sum of the bad ones, and
when besides the ~adaptability of character
each to each becomes more and more
apparent. | believe this is real love, and
nothing else is worthy of the name.
When persons marry With this sort of feel
ing on both sides there 8 surely no danger
of deception. Therefore, / will have the
audacity to repeat again, / believe that
true love Is what makes a happy mar
riage."
BLUE Jay" and Aunt Rebecca," please
accept my heartfelt thanks for your svm-
pathv. Howard, 4" Later On" and "Lu-
ala C1rnelia," many thanks for your adj
vice. l feel very grateful to all who well
coined me to the page. Hamlet" re-
member that representation is the thief
of time" and / am waiting for your re-
Spouse. Believe me, with the truest
esteem, your H. L. G. brother.
Eagletown, Ind. ADVANCE"