Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1891-06-07
there Is nothing so beautiful. SO valuable


as this.
4. GOOD looking do not see how
man can marry woman whom he thinks
Is ugly. Is this possible? / am sure
knew one man 10 do this, and / lost my
former faith in him. There could be no
mistake upon the question Of her looks"
to a man not blind. Hence / feared my
friend had sold himself for few thousand
dollars. What low value must man
put upon himself and upon human happi-
ness who would do such q thing He got
second chance and married good
looking woman. infer he concluded he
made mistake the first time. As to what
constitutes a. good looks Is an open
question. Every man must be his own
Judge. Regularity of features Is something,
but expression and manner are, think,
more important. Regular features may be
as blank as white wall. A man must be
tool who would venture to marry q
woman whose face and manner were dis
agreeable to him. Not only the face but
the entire personal appearance should be
agreeable. Otherwise disgust and loath-
ing might follow a better and prolonged
association.
5. Education. II you are well educated
be sure to marry q woman OF fair culture.
IL YOU love books il would be very happy
if she loved them also. IL you lovo music
so should she. See that she has common
sense" also.
6. Don't marry beneath you. care not
il she has money. Money is external.
Breeding Internal. Nothing could DO more
unfortunate for a refined man than 10
marry low and coarse woman. L have seen
1t done and rice rersd. l have seen refined
women marry coarse and vulgar men. Alas
what O mistakel Such men have been
known to box their wife's cheeks in month.
II you visit girl at her home often and
know what good breeding is you will not
find it difficult TO know how she has been
reared. Talk TO her on various subjects
and study her sentiments and character
before you get ensnared. Use your best
common sense. Be frank yourself, and take
care not TO cheat the girl because you
will suffer by her mistake as well as by
your own. Fraud here by either party will
certainly come to grief Don't promise
much and don't claim that you have plenty
TO indulge all her real and fancied wants
when you know you have not. IL 1t Will
be necessary to practice great economy IN
the beginning let her know it fully. Keep
nothing back IL under these adverse cir
cumstsnces she is willing cheerfully to
marry you she is worth having. Try and
prove yourself man worthy OF her.
T. Position in society. Let every one
marry in their own sphere as a rule. Bet
ltT 70 uD lLdu uOhus VI tDulops IL W.
have aspirations, see whether they have
real foundation in your character and
prospects and lastly
s. Industry. Some people are born lazy.
It IS great misfortune. But 10 no respect
perhaps Ii there more prospect OF improve
ment by association, etc. 1t is surprising
how initiative we are in this respect. We
catch the step of the man we are walking
with. An overseer will get twice the
Il g..A g Il "A hn him a
moves quickly. If the husband is active
and energetic his wife will spur up. II
both are lazy alas alas Beware of girl
who is always late at church, at parties,
and railroad depots. She will be apt to
have late breakfast" which no indus
trous and busy man should tolerate. The
children will be late at morning prayers,
at day school. and Sunday school, and
at church. All Bible description of char
acter is perfect, and that OF a good
wife in the last chapter of Proverbs
friends, carefully from beginning TO end.
1t is too long to quote. IL Is true our
clothes from head to foot are not now. as
| then, made at home: but now, as then, the
house needs careful upervision-every-
thing should 10 neat and clean: the
kitchen and every room in the house
visited daily. Order should reign from
garrett TO basement. The wife should be
the first in the dining-room, waiting for
her guest Ny mothers cheerful face al
ways greeted me at the breakiast-table
always first in her place, and everything in
order. Here in the home begins the love
of law and order, of good manners, Of
purity. of patriotism, of fidelity, OF happi-
ness. of Heaven.
z. s. Now, if some wise matron will tell
the girls what sort of a man to marry. y
we may have an active market" this fall.
BENEDICT.