The Press., 1891-04-30
w. C. T. U. DEPARTMENT.
SOMEBODY'S HUSBAND.

The magazines and newspapers now-a- days are so clogged up with "advice to women" that expert readers learn to skip all such paragraphs with the same agility developed in skipping the advertisements of patent medicines. In taking note of the needs of humanity, however, have discovered one little plot of ground hith- erto uncultivated by the moral adviser. We hear enough about the training that ought to be given our girls so that they may be prepared for wifehood and moth- erhood. would like to suggest to those having charge of children, that they train up the boys for husbandhood and father hood.
 have heard parents without number talk over the future of their boys as doc- tors, lawyers and merchants, but have heard very few devote much time or thought to the question of what kind of a husband or father their boy would be likely to make.
 It is certainly strange that there are so
 
 supposed to have the training of the chill dren, at least during the early and most impossible years. It is strange that wo- men, who know often by sad experience just how many and great trials come to every home circle, and know, also, how the patient forbearance and gentle loving sympathy of the head of the household would tide over the difficulty, should not teach their sons, as very first lesson, the principles of good husbandship.
 Some people seem to think that good husbands, like black berries down south, grow wild and "'thout any raisin'," but l tell you, it takes good deal of 'raisin' " to bring up 8 husband in the way he should go, and too often the bloom and sweetness of married life is lost in the process.
 Some people, again, consider that all that is necessary to the making of good husband is that he shall be sober and in. dustrious. But there are good many little things beside which go to the mak- ing of good husband, and the woman who gets hold of bad one soon discov. CTS this fact
 The greater part of domestic unhappi- ness hinges on the small things of life This is not new thought by any means but it is more common to suppose that these little things are the small omissions and commissions of the wife. Wome1 are advised not to scold, not to fret, not to sulk, not to forget to put on @ clear collar in the morning, not to forget te bang their hair, not to neglect the but tons, and to be sure that the coffee isn't muddy; but how about the dos and tho don'ts on the other side? Wouldn't 1t b. just as well to say to the husband, "Don' go home with your brow twisted in { Gordian knot and your voice like rasp ing saw; don't forget that 8 woman, ever though she be wife, does not want al unkempt sloven hanging around the house at odd hours; don't forget that a woman even though she be wife, does not lik, to have her ears polluted by language which the dictates of polite society forbio a man to use in public; don't forget tha woman, even though she be wife does not admire stinginess, gluttony, ol vulgarity in the man whom she has prom ised to honor and obey"
 Too often men forget that the mere as sumption of wifely duties does not de stroy a single womanly trait. Wifehooo and motherhood develop all that is swee and womanly, they destroy nothing How many white-souled women do yol suppose hide in their hearts the deat which they loved, while day after day thu empty semblance of those ideals mock their sight?
 If girl needs to be we'll trained tha she may nobly fulfill her duty as some body's wife, some day, does not bo. need yet more to be trained and disci plined that he may worthily fulfill the re sponsible duties which shall one day de volve upon him as somebody's husband -.Julia 4. Flirch.
 WOMEN IN THE OPINION OF THE PUBLIC