The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 18??-1935, 1891-05-29
Must Conquer His Faults.

Editor of the COLUMBIA HERALD:
The model husband is the man that
has made marriage a study, and con-
siders it a real affair, ana remembers
over every joy stands duty.
he must be thoroughly acquainted,
with the female constitution, and
character before entering the bonds of
matrimOny; and then attend closely to
the rules of hygiene.
He is the man that considered mar
riage incOmparably, the most Important
aud holy relation IN life; involving the
most sacred responsibilities and in
t1uences, social, civil and religious that
bear upon men. And it becomes neces-
sary to say without so considering it, he
cannot possess that pure uncontami-
mated feeling which alone capacitateS a
man for rightly approaching the tender
and loving nature of a true woman.
In the supremacy of self-control, con-
| sists one OF the projections of the ideal
man.
1t is the highest form of courage, the
base of all the virtues. To be a model
he must know that the marriage cere-
| mOny does not do away with the
| necessity of self control; he will still sub
due his passions, and maintain care
! Iul watch over haSLy words and actions.
He will consider the plain rules of
courtesy and Kindness, consideration
| and respect, as necessary now as In the
| spring-time of love.
| Occasionally differences of opinion
! Indicate mutual vitality, but the model
| husband will back all differences with y
due amount of common sense and self
| control.
And when the model man recognizes
a fault in his Detter-half, he will never
magnify it into a grand offence; but has
the knowledge to know, not once in a
| hundred times, do two natures brought
side by side harmonize in every part;
and he will graciousIy cOndesend her
weakness.
A stong temper is not necessarily a
bad temper, but to be a model, he must
resolutely hold his temper subject to
| reason.
And he will also cultivate SELF conf
dence, he will never let his pride be
wounded because, another man has one
moro talent than he; but show his
ability by the excellence of his work
and while admitting that practical tall
ents are, in their true sense, "a gift of God,
to be a model he must cultivate his tall
ents and bring them to per lection. He
will guard himself against thinking it Is
right to do the lesser when the greater
work awaits his hands. And should
fortune frown, he must rely on his own
resources, and look within himself for
the means where with TO combat the
ills, and remember life is too short,
for US to waste one moment in deplOr-
ing our lot. He must have u sterling
principle; purpose must be followed by
action, he must work as well as dream,
watch as well as pray. The model II
Will be punctual in all business tram
actions; In all engagements, his word Il
his bond. He is ohary in critieising and
never speaks ill of another what he
would not hear of himself.
He is temperate never sacrificing the
sentiments Of the soul to CRAFTY the
appetites of the body. Never sets an
example before his children that he
would not have them practice, but rears
them in the paths righteousness, He
will reign as king and honor his wife as
queen.
| l.. l.
partnership his full share of cheerful
ness, kindness, fOrbearance and COM
mon sense. He will protect his wife OF
all hardships possible.
He will sustain and cultivate what is
highest in his childrens nature; and
: teach them, that the way to avoid the
misfortune OF others, is to avoid theil
mistakes. Teach them the necessity Of
patience, and that kindness and gentle
speech are great deal easier to practice
than opposites."
: He will strive to have his home g
cheerful, hallOwed spot, within which
may be found that happiness and peace
which the world denies to its VOtarieS
The model husband will never spend
beyond his incomes but strive to have
his income oYer-balance his family
necessities. He will guard the BALI
box on one side, by common sense; anU
on the other side, by honesty.
l. The model man will ever remember,
kind word will last long after we are in
our graves. Better Lnan SOlu as q WOrO
titly spoken; he will try TO have a WORD
of counsel for the erring, word of kind
ness for the stranger, a word of sym
pathy for the Borrowing, and word OF
love for all. o man immortal live for
something. Be everathoughtful, brave
and true. Remember "the higher your
aim, the higher your attain"
Thousands of men live: pass off the
stage of life, and are heard of no more
Why? They did not particle of good
in the world. None were blest by them
None could point TO them as the instru.
ment CT their happiness. Not a line
they wrote; Not a word they spoke
C buld be recalled and so they were moi
remembered more than the insets o.
yesterday.
Will you thus live and die.
o man immortal live for sonnet hing
Conquer your faults, and leave beh inc
you a monument of virtue, that the
storms of time can never destroy
! Write your name by kindness, love and
mercy, on the hearts of the thousand
you come in contact with, year by year
and you will never be forgotten. Coco
deeds Will shine as bright as the stars
of heaven. JOS TICE.