The Durham recorder. [volume] (Durham, N.C.) 1879-19??, 1891-09-02
Don't Linger Over Your Fare
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New York World,
Do cultivate the art of leav
ing promptly; even if you can't
do it in an artistic way, learn to
do il somehow,
Some people seem to be an
chorea in the parlor when they
pay a call. To the flight of
time and the near approach of
her hostess dinner hour this
sort OF caller pays no attention.
Frequently she says, "Oh, !
must co. gets up, sits down
again, and goes on talking.
Presently she again says that
she must go, gets up and con.
tinues to talk. She gets into
the hall at length, and talks
there. Finally the anxious
visitee, who hears the baby cry
ing upstairs, gets the door open
for her guest, who makes a
supplementary call upon the
doorstep, exposing the other TO
pneumonia. At last she de-
scends the steps, and the host,
ess precipitately retreats and
shuts the door, for fear she will
think Of something else Co come
BACK and say.
The writer once heard of q
woman who, considerably
chagrined whom she knew had
these staying powers just as she
was preparing to keep an i'm
portant engagement, decided to
go into the parlor with her bon
net on and explain her hurry,
She even arranged with her hus-
band to come into the room and
remind" her ait the end of a
quarter of an hour.
The guest did not take a hint
from the bonnet beyond saying
that she would only stay d few
minutes, but when the.remlndef
came she exclaimed: :Oh,
then must go, of course, stood
up and remained talking sever.
al minutes more, walked to the
door and stopped again. Al
last Mrs. r., in desperation, sug-
gested that they should walk
along together as far as they
could. The visitor agreed, but
even st the corner where they
parted she stood talking long
enough for Mrs. r. to lose hel
ltrain and her appointment.
Shy and nervous young peo-
pie have the hardest time in
leaving, and are more to bt
pitied than blamed. Their suf-
feringis often great. They are
impressed with the idea that the
how Is of more consequence
than the what, and they keep
trying and trying to lead the
conversation up to what they
think will be a graceful depar-
ture. They are wishing them
selves away a great deal more
desperately than any oue elsC
can. They watch for pauses in
the conversation and clear theil
throats to introduce some varia'
tion upon LemueFs Il guess Ia
better be going" but they are
never quick enough. Some
body else begins to speak, and
they resign themselves with
sinking hearts to waiting an.
other ten minutes.
Still, is ii not always the cal.
ler's fault that she does not go.
Sometimes it is the hostess who
is the fluent person, wh3 ends
every sentence with a rising in.
Fiction, indicating that il is
only suspended, and that she
is going right on. In such case,
il may appear to the caller as il
il would BE- rude to interrupt
her, though she may have heard
the muiiied tiptoeing Of the rest
Of the family past the parloI
door and the subducd clatter OF
china from somewhere, and
have a painful suspicion that
dinner or tea is ready and they
don't want to ring the bell.
But there is one golden rule,
at least, that the caller may
stick to. When you once get
up ~ go, never sit down again.
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