St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1891-02-08
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Whatts True societyl

A letter has come to me that seems
very pitiful. 1t is from bright girl
who writes well, who is well educated,
and whose complaint is that be-
cause she worked to earn her own
living, she fears she will never get
lin society,"" She is not the
only girl who writes in that way. She
is not the only one who seems to be-
lieve that society consists of few very
few fashionable people. whose mar
riages, balls and receptions are de-
scribed, and who, as maryland. I'M
doubtedly this girl-believe, constitute
society.
Now, my dear child. you were never
more mistaken in your life. Society is
the gathering together of people who
find pleasure in each others company;
good society is that where scandal IS
unknown, where men and women speak
we'll of each other where good breeding
is more appreciated than fine gowns,
and where the welcome, accompanying
a cup of tea, is thought to be of greater
worth than the formality of superb
dinner party. 1t is in your power to
make your own society good or bad.
You can surround yourself with such
pleasant people that others will want to
know you for the sake of knowing your
friends.
The most charming society l ever
knew was limited to five people. One
little artist, with the ambition of SAM
son and deal of ability. but who would
do anything from a dinner card to
fancy lefter-head that she might hon
estly earn her dinner. Two others
were men who wrote for very
well-known journals. but who had
not yet come into incomes that
gave them the power to send out Won
derfuIIy bound volumes OF their own
works. The fourth was little gentle
man who, day in and day out, kept the
worked away writing society verses.
The fifth was girl who could write
anything that was wanted. to order,
from fashion article to an OBJ
ituary, and from e dialect story
to poem on marriage. All of them
hard workers. Every one of them with
somebody else to take care OF beside
themselves, and yet of an evening, when
these five people met in the studio there
there was no brighter society in New
York. A cup of tea or coffee was
made by one of the deft girls;
and books, pictures and peo-
pie were talked about and enjoyed.
The story of how an evening gown was
made possible; the ludicrouS side of go
ing for two nights without ones dinner
and just getting bread and butter and
tea, were told about; and everybody
knew everybody so we'll that while the
funny side was laughed at there was
never a question asked that would
hurt, and there never was bit OF
chatting that wasn't thoroughly
good-natured. When well-known
writer, whose reputation was world
wide, came to the city, permission was
asked to bring him to the studio talk
by one of the men; the hostess con-
sented; he came, he saw and was con-
auered, and when he went away he
said: ''That is what [ call society,""
Now, take the moral from this, you
workers who wonder if you can get in
society, and make society for yourself.
About Some Wedding Belongings.
Somebody is going to get married to
the man she loves. wish the dear
little somebody all the happiness posi-
BILE, and l congratulate the man she
loves on gaining her. This somebody
wants to know what she shall get for
her wedding belongings, and by them
she means what kind OF linen. and how
much. Funnily enough, bridegroom Ill
prospective who had been told OF the
enormous trOusSeau that his future
bride was getting, said that it was not
very plimentary to him, inasmuch
as there seemed to be doubt i'll the
mind of the family as to whether he
would ever be able to buy her flannel
petticoat or not. And you know really
he told the truth; though it was in an
odd sort of way.
Pretty underwear, bought by the
dozens. is packed away, and grows vel
low and old. SO that this is my advice
to somebody: With what you already
possess. half dozen of everything you
are in the habit of wearing will be quite
sufficient, and, if the money which
you have is more than enough
for that number, be wise and put
it in the bank as a little neSt-egg
for the future-a neSt-egg that will
hatch out the dollars when you want to
give somebody a present, or remember
the birthday of the dearest man in the
world, and don't care to ask him to give
you the money to buy his own gift. And
don't get too many dresses. They go
out of style, and unless you are going to
entertain and be entertained a great
deal,you will really have very little need
for them. | tell you very good mantle
to provide yourself with-that famous
one of charity. Don't leave it out of
your trousseau, and use it continually to
cover the little faults of husband and
friends. 1t will be of more use to you
than almost anything you can buy. And
you certainly cannot afford to be with
out it. God bless you, little bride, and
take care of you and yours forever.
One Kind of a Temper.
Did you ever have an intimate &C
ouaintance with pretty white-haired
dog that the children ale rather given
to calling the fluffy haired dog? If you
did you must have found out that his
temper was eXatly like his hair-ex-
tremely fluffy. He can never be relied
upon. and is as likely to snap at his
dearest friend as at his most bitter
enemy: in fact. more likely, because he
is with his friend oftener than in the
company Of his foe.
Now, that is what | want you girls to
stop-Deing fluffy. You might call it
being snappish. out | like the other
word better: and so | say have your
bangs as fluffy as you like, but keep
your temper smooth and even. The
fact that somebody was snappish to
you. that they showed extreme fluff
ness doesn't excuse you one particle,
because the whole affair would
have ended if you had given cool,
quiet answer or else none at all. The
inclination to be very positive and very
assertive is peculiar to certain type of
girl-a girl who is clever, who is intelli-
gent, and who is little incisive in
speech is the one who is apt to fall into
being fluffy. She is always positive in
her knowledge, and will emphatically tell
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