The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1891-04-10
SCRANTON, MISSISSIPPI. FRIDAY, APRIL

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reality happiness making.
A mothers match. making really
begins while her daughters edu-
cation is il progress. And 1t is one
of the strangest facts, that mothers
generally force this education in
The direction Of those qualities
likely 10 amuSe young men-muS-
ic, dancing. singing, dressing, play
ing games, chatting witlily, etc.
Now, such attractions are likely to
procure plenty Of filtration; bnI
young men rarely marry the girls
they hirt with. And why do not
mo hers consider, most of all, that
approaching perio1 in their ddugh-
lers' lives when they will, or ought
to, cease being made love to? Why
should the preparation for young
lad yhood absorb all a girls educa
tion For it is condition very
transient, and likely to be The
very reverse of what The rest Of
her life ought to be. How many
girls schools are considerable OF
this fact How many curricu-
lums contain any arrangements for
education for wifehOod or parent
hoodl Yet, what man wishes TO
pass his life with a woman whose
only charm is The power 10 amuse
him He might rs wisely dine
every day upon candy sugar.
1t is often said that Romance is
shocked at the idea of a mother
finding a husband for her daughter.
With equel truth il may be AS
serted thai Delicacv is shocked al
a young girl hunting a husband
entirely by herself. Mother and
home throw charm and a refine
ment around such efforts and no
good young man will refuse to ac-
knowledge the wisdom and res
probability Of the English custom
that "a wife is 10 be conrled on
her fathers hearthstone." Men all
need the corrective influence of a
noble social standard and it lsln
the home women create that stan
dard.
Mothers then ought TO supple
ment by their own experience the
ineXperience and emotions Of their
daughters and VAIN them against
passion which brings evil unless
guarded and directed to good ends.
For The marriages Of affections, on
which we are apt 10 prize our
selves are very often simple mar
rages OF youthful caprice. 1t must
be supposed if any marriages are
made by love, runaway matches
are. Yet how very, very few Of
such matches turn out well Ask
ing my own memory for the pro-
portion, am bound 10 admit that
of the large number | have known
not one was fortunate or happy in
its results.
II is very easy 10 resent this sup.
posed necessity OF guarding girl
ish innocence, but 1t is a necessity
in spite Of all protestations TO the
contrary. If. indeed, the young
are capable of self direction, then
mothers are a mistake and all that
Holy Writ and wise men have
said, is false and antiqualed aud
behind the youth of This genera.
tion.
But surely a mother who has
made all The conditions of her
daughters life for eighteen years,
may at least advise her child on
The making of her marriage and
her home. For if she be a good
mother, she will always consider,
that within due limits marriage
able daughter should be inlrusled |
with her destiny. She will know (
that it is one of the secrets Of wise
to manage as little as
p0ssoible, and never To interfere in
things of small moment. Need
less Interference, fussy affection,
want of tact, love of management,
surveillance, these are The
faults which drive girls
into what they cali love marriages,
but which are really marriages
made from self will, of desire of
change, or resllessness under q
homineering will, or even the sim
pie wish to go counter To some au.
Ihorltatively expressed wish of
father or mother.
Such girls risk men of whose
nntecedents they can make no in
luiry-that is a parents duly
ard whose income they take on
trust. Can a young girl say 10
her lover, 'How large is your in
come ~ She has, besides, roman
IIc idea that money considerations
soil marriage. She is quite willing
10 live in a cottage with the man
Df her heart.
And TOO often love IN a cottage
comes in for all the hariships of a
cottage without love. Not every
dinner of herbs is better than The
stalled OK and young ladies dis
posed 10 try The experiment with
Dut moiherly advice or interfer-
snce, must at least b. sure that
hey have The love which alone
.an make the dinner Of herbs at all
Dalaiable.