Telegram-herald., 1891-11-15

q ra~ IL youx most valuable diamond,
rot BY hlnging IL away ia Pet. not By
losing yszr tenpex over IL. bot by &c
cepGag the fact &ad making ths best Of
IL Pr0yids him with the eonvsnieaces
TOR Els indulgence, and De just as pleas
ant az before. Even sappo<,ny you are
lSrrow enough 10 consider smoking .
sin. wAo nzd= yoa ths Keeper Of another
persons eonscisnses Who sesNyoz Up
u judge of AIS sins. Aad 10 panish2 An
swer ns thatl The question yoa are to
struggle with is nct what Is his duty,
but wlat . yours Believe me, youpg
wife, whatever the Young Woman's
Gallss'' nave said. whatever the clergy
have preached. whatever the nswsps-
pers have thandered ~ us, q wife Is not
responsible for her husbands wrong
doing.
This Is heresy, but l wish could pro-
claim II froIa the house tops. do not
evea say that VITA who does her duty
Is not responsible. but I say, no matter
- har vices wife may descend 20, her
conduct Il rot the smallest excuse for
husbands shortcomings. L. hs . man
with Al the boasted strength Of man
hood, aad YET hands his moral character
over 70 some sip Of . girl-ons OF the
weaker sSx!'-to Keep straight for him:
II Is monstrous! And this false and man
degrading doctrine. constantly forced
upon sensitive and conscientious wives,
has destroyed both body and soul Of
more women than can be counted. IL
is time that the responsibility OF every
human being was put where 1t belongs
upon his own shoulders IL IS quite
time wives were enancip4ted from this
outrageous burden. and the sooner they
are. the happier for both Of them.
Neither. dear sister. should you turn
Your eager reforming efforts 70 the cor
rection OF bad manners or bad taste IN
dress-at least not rudely. Bring all the
tact you possess to the delicate task OF
hinung that MS ways might be i'm
proved, SO that he shall not feel mortified
or sat down upon" Be careful TO never
let him feel that his wife is his critic.
Should you then .obey" Should You
put him on pedestal and bow down to
him: Far from il! Have not said that
worship, that even sdulation, cultivates
a despot? Do not lend yourself 10 the
DEVELOPMENT Of that sort OF beast, for
he will surely-sooner or lster-turn and
rend you. And another objection to this
time honored scheme of obedience is its
effect upon yourself Just in the degree
that you exalt your husband to ruler
ship You degrade yourself to childish
ness. You remain in u state Of perpetual
childhood; you reach maturity Of years
without maturity of thought. BY this
means woman. equipped to comfort
ard to bless. to do her share in making
the world happier and better, Is dwarfed
and crippled; her powers die from disuse,
and not only is the world defrauded Of
itn due, ont husband and children them
selves suffer from her unworthiness to
nobly fill her high place.
And, again. don't cultivate selfshness
in that husband Of yours. This is the
pirfall fatal to the unselish wife. To
make everything revolve around him as
a pivot; to be sure that he is well and
generously served If every one else suffers;
tp he careful that he is never called upon
10 wait moment or to do without,
Whatever may be the family emergency;
TO beg that ne will not expose himself to
fatigue. whatever duty calls; to consent,
in fact-yss, even 10 connive-that every
ore else shall be sacrificed in order that
his path IN lie shall be without thorns
l need rcs picture the result. We have
all seen thciutolerable household tyrant,
growing ard laundering, browbeating
/ MS children, despising his wife. Can q
woman take pride in this work of her
hands? She cannot surely be surprised,
for has she not carefully taught him
that notEing but his desire is TO be con-
side-eG: Moreover, thcre is another
point to bc weighed by the Christian
wife. Thorns, hindrances, crosses, are
nee esSary 10 spiritual growth, else they
would not come in his way. Shall
che get her spiritual discipline and care
fully thwart the efforts of Providence to
administer hisS
Above al, don't let that invisible but
strong bond that unises you become q
yoke to press and chafe. Don't insist on
his giving up all the pleasures Of his
bscaslorhood at oncs-such unnatural
goodness might not be well for him-if
he goes out. do not protest: do not beg:
do not salk. Your weapon 10 to BE- so
interesting that he prefers to stay in.
Not interesting by acts unworthy of self
respecting womAnnood, but by intelli-
gent participation in his interests and
making the home more pleasant than
any other place. Nor is this at all de-
scending from tho dignified place you
should occupy. It in. on the contrary,
one of the most precious privileges in
the hands Of tho homemaker 10 give
pleasure al around. TO see that every
member Of the household u happy and
cared for. so far - she can accomplish it.
Don't try to wean your husband from
interest In things outside the home.
Many a wife feels when she has so cod
died and petted husband that he is
satisfied never To leave her side, 70 have
no interests but hers, that she has doue
well. Shs has no doubt turned out q
fine specimen Of dwsrfed manhood, self
ish. narrow minded. with . horizon
.ounded-as 10 prc5sbly her own-by
his own four walls. Avoid this mis-
take: foster mis- interest in the govern
ment Of his country and city. he 10 part
ly responsible for it: encourage by ell
arts in your power his curiosities sbous
the world outside his own country; try