The Black Hills union. [volume] (Rapid City, Pennington County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1889-1904, 1891-02-12
MAIDS, WIVES, AND WIDOWS.
Are Women Who Have Been Married
More Attractive than Young Girls.

MAIDS, WIVES, AND WIDOWS.
Arc Women who Have Been Married
More Attractive than Young Girls.
Can you tell me why widow is so
much more attractive to the average
man of middle age than girls who are
no older than the widow?" asked
maiden who is well up. in the twenties.
AT first thought l cannot, Arcplied
the bachelor friend whom she al.
dressed.
.c was uncertain as to what she
wasydriving ut, because he is paying
attentions to a widow who would have
been an old maid if she hadn't mar.
ried.
II thought you could tell nae, be-
cause you are always SO ready to give
a reason for everything" she said.
There must be reason for it" he
replied, '.and l will give the matter
my attention"
.'Po my mind a widow is more gid.
dy, more given to flirting, and more
foolish than young girl" said tho
lady. 'sWerc to be fresh, and act as
indiseipet as some wiidows; whom
y,u would aliaf;dSil speak to me- u
s.I that is true I am at loss to uil-
derstand how it las escaped my at
tcntion. There are several widows
on my list of lady acquaintances, and
i am quite certain they have always
behaved properly"
.'Maybe they are afraid to show thcil
hands when you are around, observed
the lady.
Possibly they are, but have never
noticed any disposition to be on their
good behavior when in my company"
"Wcll, you know this, that widows
as rule are boldcr, more forward and
more dcmonstrativc than maidens,"5
exclaimed the young lady apparently
determined to bring the argument to
conclusion.
II have heard so, but cannot say
that | know it to be true 1t is fact,
however, that widows are quite diff
ferent from girls. They have passed
through phases of life to which gr!s
arc strangers. They have been wives,
and probably mothers, and have moved
on these planes until they have los,
many of tho feelings and qualities that
charactorize the maiden. They are
more independent because they know
the ground they are treading, having
been over it; aud it is possible that
they are less diffi,Ient because their
maidcnly training has been forgot
| ten."
'.Tlen why cart I forget this train
ing and act boldly and independents
ly?"
because you are not a widow.
However, l think you are mistaken
when YOU say hat gentlemen will toll
| crate more bni,lnrss to widows than
to maidcus. For my own part can
not tolerate it as much, because they
ought To know better A Young,
tloughliess, innocent girl will be for
| given when II widow would be held to
strict account"
''inaeed, | In"w some who are much
| sought after whose manners are lust
| abnm;nabl"," observed the young lady
larL!y.
They may be sought after by men
who merely want to be entertained
but not by those who are in search OF
wives.
Eyes. but know gentlemen who
when there were young ladies abou
more refined, better looking, an,
wealthier."
The philosophy of it is just this
"A woman who is fascinating enoug!
to catch husband in her youth il
more likely to able to catch another Il
tile mature age of 80 than the nader
who has gone the same distanc,
in life without being able to catcl
oue."
.'riien You would prefer widow o
80 summers to a maiden Of as man,
wintersP'
81 didn't say so; but will say tha
think.the average widow OF 50, wh'
wants to marry, stands Il far bette
chance than the average maiden of :ht
same age
How does that bit of phiLosoph,
strike you?
Il woman cannot become widow
unless she is attractive enough to ge
husband; and it stands to rcasor
that if she could get one she can ge
another.
1t is Il great mistake to suppose tina
men marry women merely for tiei
good looks or for their accomplish,
rents. These play a part, but it i:
the heart or the spirit that wins. Til
average man is inclined t" yield to th'
powers of fascination and that suhtl
power lies neither in beauty nor man
nerS.
The practical wife-hunter looks t.
these. lust as he looks for tho lin
points in horse or at the DRAWN,
: and finish in picture.
The man who marries a face. III
ure, or fortune is fool, especiall
if it is happiness he is after.
,, Likewise the woman who marries
!, man because he dresses well, is fin
!, looking. or we'll hammered. These al
: desirable, but they constitute sma
= part of the real man. 1t is just hcl
chat the giddy girl gets her foot int
it. She mistakes the clothes for tl
man, and society smile aud manner
as the index to disposition.
She should remember that smil'
are as often the index of a perfect s.
of teeth as of.a sunny. cheerful hear
and that good clothes are as apt to il
dicate unpaid tailor bills and squal
dered fortunes as good taste and pien,
g of money. Piittsburg Commercial q
sette.
Queen Pia's Elaborate Dresses:
hear that that very dressy lad
Queen Pia of Portugal, has just SCI
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