The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1891-06-12
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in a recent number of Tile Press, entitled
women want to marry" gives some ex-
celleut reasons which accord with my own
views in many things; especially, that
women are as anxious to marry at the pres
ent day as at any other period Of the
worlds history. The girl who looks down
the lonely inches of coming years, with no
desire to marry, no desire for a husbands
or ehildren's love, has either had some
great disappointment which has destroyed
all her happy anticipations Of domestic
bliss, or she does lack heart sentiment
or human nature"
Married life has a charm for every
woman; it is associated with the word
"Home'' SO closely that one can scarce
ly separate the two. Caleb says
"Man can thrive and roam.
But women are scary critters, unless they
have q home"
That is quite true. 1t is without
doubt the life she would choose above all
others, and is the happiest if she posses ses
the undivided love of her husbands heart.
Still, tie facts remain, that women Of
the present day appear to hesitate to enter
that state which ali agree secures for her
the greatest possible happiness. Girls
pretty and attractive, who have admirers
aud ~suitors, are daily asked, why do you
not marry?'' One says, Nobody axed me,
sir" Another, 'I'm waiting for million
aire." Another, Il can't support a hus-
band" These saucy replies are untruth-
ful and not really meant to be believed.
Girls must parry the question some way so
as to get the best of their impertinent in
terlocutor.
After thinking the matter over | have
ventnFed with all d~elicacy of expression,
to write to some woman aud girls, who [
know have had opportunities for marry
ing. asking for a frank reason from them
selves, and their friends, why they do not
marry, with the assurance that no James
shall be made public. | lave received
twenty-five answers, all excepting two
bearing on one fact-the fear of beingdessrt.
ed for another. OF these two. one, a
wealthy lady now over 40 says
s.My father prevented me when a eifl
from marrying a poor, but worthy, a
He died soon after. | have always re-
manned true to his memory" The other :
sIf I marry | must leave my mother, whs
is a helpless invalid. l an her only child.
l shall never marry while she lives"
These two appear to be exceptional cases.
| i'll quote from two others. One signed,
seTwo Girls Who Stand Behind Counters
in a Large City"
1--WE see too much of the uufaithfulness
| Of husbands, daily. Married men come
here and meet by appointment women and
girls who are not their wives. and with
whom they have no legitimate business.
We know of many cases where girls are
| clothed handsomely, supplied with costly
jewelry, and taken to places of amusement
By men whose wives never see the inside
| of a lecture room or theatre, whose clothes
are indifferent, If not actually shabby, and
to whom costly jewelry is unknown as a
possession. Knowing this, we prefer to
plod along spending the money We cain in
| our own way, rather than to risk getting
a husband who leaves US il bitterness of
heart while he enjoys himself with an
other.
Another signed Two Girls" is more
saucy.
"Why do we not al to marry? We
do; but we are afraid we would be left in
| some lonely home while our husbands are
CONTRASTING the country flirting with girls
in every town and city. Between evils,
old maid or deserted wife, We will choose
the least, and can then have q share of the
flirting ourselves
Apropos to this,I will mention a CONVEX
sation | had with q young girl a few days
ago. Her parents had lately moved into a
large town. Ip reply to my question how
| she liked it she said: SOB, ever SO much,
there is SO much society. Quite a number of
travelling men stop there every evening; We
get acquainted with them and they take US
everywhere"
Bat said l, ''are not many of them
married."
perhaps, but their wives never know
It,"
Tie other eighteen letters, some OF them
| from girls of high social standing all bear
on the same subject, and relate such heart
breaking incidents, that we ask in amaze
ment ''Can these things be SOP
In former years wives stood but a slight
chance of being deserted, cases of the kind
were rare, and mostly by men of shady
! records. Business men, farm ers and me-
ehanics of upright habits had few tempta-
lions to lead them away from their fami-
lies. Besides their affections to those en-
deared to them by the ties of nature, there
were influences more remote Pride. re-
spectabiIity, the fear of disgracing their
| children. were all barriers around the hus-
band to Keep him true to his marriage
VOWS. These made it u matter OF SUCH
bare possibility that a woman would ever
be called upon to endure the heart-bitter-
ness of a deserted wife that ne girl feared
to risk that possibility. Butiemptations are