St. Paul daily globe., 1891-10-11
where the swimming bath was to have
been.

Whenever l look around and see how /
some men treat their wives on the !
money question l wonder that there are |
not more thieves and kleptOmaniacS |
than there are. Somebody-Dr.H Holmes, |
wasn't it?-said child'S education be-
gins I've forgotten how many years be-
fore it is born. 1t is really too much 10
expect honesty from child whose
mother was a beggar and thief. as
many woman in society is. 1tiS the
exception rather than the rule that all
American woman has dowry or mar
riage settlement. Most married women
are absolutely dependent on their huS-
bands purses. 1t is humiliating TO
Self-respecting woman to have her fall
gown or the new library carpet depend
OH so changeable a thing as mans
temper, which varies directly with the
state of his digestive apparatus. Nearly
every man feels that the things he gives
his wife are purely and simply gratu-
itous gifts for which she should be duly
thankful.
The oak and vine idea of marriage
does very well in theory and poetry.
but the modern marriage is not union
of superior and inferior, but partner
ship of equals. 1t seems cold-blOoded
to reduce marriage to business trans.
action. but that's the only way out of
the difficulty. The money question set
tied once for all, thousand stumbling
blocks are removed. A wife has right
to a certain and, so far as possible, fixed
allowance. 1t is not gift. She earns
it, and with it she is freed from the de-
grading necessity of begging or of Sc
cretly appropriating what she wants
There is more unhappiness over the
! money question than over any OF the
other questions that make us fancy that
marriage is failure. People use COM
mon sense about everything else on
earth but marriage, and until they
learn that one poor little rosy Cupid
can't draw load that would tire team
of heavy draft horses there Will always
| be divorce courts, unhappinesS and
misery, which shall be visited upon the
! children even unto the third and fourth
| generations.
Speaking of marriage, reminds me
that nowhere else in ali tins earth does
one see such display of utter rudeness
as at a fashionable ch6rch wedding.
| The wedding itself is very commend
able, for church service is far prettier
and much less trouble than ceremony
performed at home, and gives an OPP
| portunity of inviting more guests than
! the average house will hold. There's
no fault to be found with the guests,
| ard the ushers are irreprOachable. 1t is
the uninvited rabble that makes the
trouble. They collect at the church
door, and. if possible, crowd into the
| aisle. bent OH seeing the marriage OF
two people they probably never saw be-
d iNI ~ he q
| crowd of. well dressed. respectable peO-
pie, women for the most part. who are
| simply out of their heads with curios-
| ity At the Bunker-Powers wedding at
st. Johns Wednesday evening, the
| people about the door were i'll such a
hurry to get out and go about their
business that had it not been for the
generalShip of the ushers the train of
many a guest would have been torn
from her. What possesses ordinarily
well bred people to croxd into Il we'd
ding OF people who didn't know them
we'll enough to ask them to come. Is
quite beyond ordinary comprehension
Some very queer things one sees il
church. anyway. 1t has always seemed
to me that there should be no gilled
organ pipes stuck above a reed organ
no misleading frescoes or sham any
thing about the church. 1t alway.
makes ME feel dreadtnilY irrpligiou,
when Baptist clergyman puts OH rub
ber boots before performing tile cere
! many of baptism. ana my sense of tx
eternal fituess CT things received
! shock when | Strolled INFO a meeting o
clergymen at a church here in tow
"Wednesday afternoon. The pulpit desi
and r0strum were decorated with pro
/ fusion or flowers. One o. the cier@y