Deseret evening news. [volume] (Great Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1867-1920, 1891-11-23

Too ofisn We Are Prone to TIE fncossl,
crate ut the Feelings Of Others.


Too Often We Are Prone 10 Tie fncossld.
crate ot The Feelings Of Others.
An able writer strongly denonnccs tho
rudencss, which, however, he mildly terms
incousidoratensss. found among woman,
and must we not Ms a sex, plead guilty
20 this chargcY Not that I wish To- say
that the opposite sex are any better than
we; but n seems 10 me we ought 10 strive
20 b. little superior TO them Thcy ov.
poet ~ Of "a. you know. and why should
we disnppoint thrm'
Who has not overheard, or perhaps been
the victim Of the pert Temarks and criti.
oisms Of the young misses on tho street or
w the carl In shopping especially do we
It'd ample opportunity TO complain of the
rudcnoss among tHo s1 called "ccntlor
SEX" Can such persons truthfully be
termed gcnt'e' lu many cases we are
treated With the greatest imp1litoncis by
even Che saloslndiCs whose principal qual.
ilcot'lnE should De- pleasant manners.
have Ia mind "a prominent dry goods
houfs where the snlc,wdmen, with few cx.
ccptIona, arc 10 di.obilgIng and impcrti.
ncnt that one feels relieved when shopping
& over. I fully admit that these poor,
tired girls Rro frequently tho Victims OF
extreme rndcncss on the part oftho lady On
purchaser or shopper, but that Is no excuse
for her display of 10 temper Tor what olg1
Is this rudcncis 90 those whom she IL ex
pocicd 20 serve p0iltclyi There are also
scores OF women who, In the pruionoc u
their own sex are. OWING 10 their M man.
F'ncrs. simply unbranblg, while, when gen.
tlrmcu appear upon the scene, thcy imme.
diatrly become the very embodiment Of
pollicne.s aud grace.
was recently urged 70 attend special
bargain snlc. ' which opened a. certain
hour. aud was NOT only greatly surprised
but shocked at tho extwme rudencss cX-
hibitcd. The pushing, iostiing, tearing VI
goods out u the hands ~ would be- pur.
ohasors, IN any nothing u tho losing NJ
tompcrs and exhibitions Of anger. was such
~ cannot be described. l have firmly 70.
solved 10 mover, never attend another
"salc.s I could gY.on aud cnumrratc. per.
hnps, do2eug VI Instances NJ not incon.il.
orutencss. bat genuine rudoncss among tho
women uu the street or Ia the store, car
and various other places,
kind words aud pleasant manners cost
nothing, except p-fhnpl 10 the uuac.
customod; but whit n comfort and pleas.
uro they may he 20 those with whom we
come Ia contact Where politeucss has
been acquired IN childhood, Il comes nat.
utal throughout lie 10 be pleasant mud
agreeable In speech aud manner; therefore.
dear parents let this be- one ot your primo
dutios, 70 teach your children TO possess
well bred manners aud 10 give Kind words
wherever they may be-. Where parents
have failed, teacher may frequently du
wonders. uuI think every teacher should
consider if ONO. her principal dutIrs 10
allow nothing but pi, 1saut words and man.
ncrz within the schuOiroom
The teacher however, who says. George.
close that door, aud expects George to
say. "Ailss Brown, please help me with
this example, will mover meet with sue
cr,S. A child, especially girl, IN nine
cases ont OF ten considers the teacher at
least mouel Of perfection. md whether
In or out OF school takes the unaware
teacher ~ her model When little Mabel,
In playing school, proudly names hcr.cll
"Miss Smith, and sharply says to her a..
ray " doll pupils. stop that talking right
away or ri box your ears You can safely
Judge that Miss Smith Is not especially
gifted with pleasant voice o. mannors, taa
essential elements 10 successful teaching.
Therefore, dear teachers, beware what an
example you sct these innocent children
You would be surprised TO know how great
nn influence you have over them, but II
you could see them In their homes or n,
their play you would he convinced, and
assure you, you cannot be too careful In
your words and netlons nor too siringen,
In the cxacting Of pleasant words aud 20
lite manners from all pupils In your pres.
enec.-Emi!ie Hoffman In liousekecpcr.