Middletown transcript., 1891-10-15

= While Eff6I5 66II5> a Eat p|pod
old adage "fhS1 true 5|iteness iskof
the heart, and Dot ol tie head" /
think We must al acknowledges that
the courtesy Of one land s frequently
syan absurdity in another. IS 8 gen-
eral rule. however, the uelI.bred man
or womaa is much the same The world
over. q No amount of travel, wealth,
! or even q college education, will ever
make q man kind at heart Or d coarse
woman well.bred. Generations of cul-
ture, constant intercourse with cult
\ Vased people, and annate refinement
rnusti tell ID the daily life.
s.. Good blood, the true blood of kind.
" hearts and thoughtful heads, will
make itself known everywhere; but
generations Of . nobility which exists
osly ID name are not worthy of reord.
50 Do you remember the, young Eng
/, lish lord who was so rude at table and
so vulgar in his manners that our cap
tain on q steamship was obliged to re-
quest him to sit elsewhere ?
-,fr, Do you remember, also, the gentle
and gracious. woman who won all
hearts by her voice and charming
manners, and yet was only the daugh-
ter Hof an ! honest Washer-woman ?
These exceptions prove the rule.
A well,bred woman never says or
does anything to wound another.
If she has unwittingly done 50, she
is honorable enough TO apologize at
once. 7las i,s.o;fns
No woman with the slightest claim
togood breeding will ever be guilty of
fiat contradiction !; a polite " Are you
not mistaken 2" has all the force Of de.
nial.or objection, without rudeness.
No well-bred person will ever rem
der another uncomfortable or un-
happy. The woman who sits upon
you in the horse car, or turns her
shoulder about to prevent others from
sitting down. or occupies two seats
whenshe pays for one, shows that good
breeding is Q stranger to her.
The woman who accepts seat with.
out courteous thanks, betrays her
vulgsrity. 1ae ns 80
The young airl who giggles, and
nudges her neighbors, or makes audi.
BILE comments on the aged or peculiar,
needs many lessons on good breeding.
Thewoman who tells her family affairs
in public Places is never well.bred.
TheIwoman who 10 unduly familiar
witkmen is neither Womanly or refined.
The woman who accepts an invita-.
'tion and neglects to answer it, or, if |
accepted, neglects to appear, or send
an apology, Is not well.bred.
The Moman who fails to send her
thanks for any courtesy whatsoever,
is not well.bred.
The woman who gushes over those
she dislikes, and treats them precisely
as she would treat those who are her
professed friends is untrue. and there
fore, ill-bred.
The woman who boasts that she is
cold and formal to all, because con-
reserve is fashionable" !" is not
well-bred, because the true poiiteness
Of the heart u not expressed 10 her life.
= Yhe young girl who criticises her
elders, and finds fault with her
mothers manners or speech, is not
only an ill-bred girl, hnt irreverent.
The girl who talks in q loud tone in
public and laughs loudly. is unmis-
takably vulgar. i
S The woman who is rude to the
Jerks in shops, and fails to recognize
he man or woman under the roughest
exterior, is not well:bred.
The woman who tries. to buy So
'lanket for 81, and ssysi" she can get
t elsewhere" when she, knows it is
Untrue, is not only ill-bred but unfit
o be the mother of children. Il
The woman who talks about z com.
amy manners ii meyer well bred for
be best company in the world are
hose of our own houeholds; they de-
erve oil the love, and Tenderness, and 4
weetness which we can bestow upon !.
hem, and the gracious manners ofIhe / !
omei must permeate the life. :
In short, any act which will not !,
ear the test of the Golden Rule, or is
'anting in Christian kindness, is 4
lark Of bad breeding. :
tAll good breeding includes kind :
ess, courtesy, unselishness, respect, s
set, gentleness and modesty of de- =
oftment, and all these and more, are (
ncluded in that beautiful injunction,
Love thy neighbor as thyself." 4
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