San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1891-07-28

| Juey owe uuCleS 10 JDein, ana through
them to society, which they must pay.
! For we all must contract TO assist each
other; if we did not owe to each other
liberation, support and protection mod
ern society would tumble to pieces. So
ciety must exist; if you imperil its exist
ence by refusing to agree to its require
ments it will crush you. The people at
whom l laughed in Newport were quite
right. after all. There was no reason
why they should have been tolerant
toward Il woman who rode over and
trampled down their moral flower gar
dens, especially as they knew that they
had planted no seeds and used no garden
ing implements but those advertised and
supplied by society. Their remonstrances
were perfectly proper, and if ever l meet
any of them again shall be tempted to
tell them So,
hope that my moral is easy to I'M
derstand.
Girls, be careful! Do not be led away
by your desires for racketing amuse-
ments and careless enjoyment. You
cannot take your lives into your own
hands and defy society! You cannot
live according to your own sweet wills!
If You endeavor to do so your ideas will
become more and more relaxed, and you
will wind up with big smash just as |
did. Observe, say to you again, observe
the rules which society prescribes. They
may be different in Ashantee from what
they are here-if you choose to go and
live in Ashantee you need not conform
to our notions-but they always exist
and insensibly make themselves felt.
They are always suited to the genius of
the people among which they are found,
and you must follow and not try to lead
unless you feel yourself inspired. But
then the inspiration must be direct, for
about inspiration.
If | had known the wisdom which
now possess little earlier l might have
avoided all my errors and married Mid
dleton Hall, and l should not have been
forced to wait-as L am now forced to
wait-before taking the absolute lead in
society as far as i'll me lies. For as the
emblems OF authority are the necessarieS
of Il mans existence, so are position and
consequence the base and the only solid
foundation for the existence of a wom-
m, bat in course of time this for which
I wait shall come to me. | will be an
arbitress, judge, and my example shall
be that of a woman who does her duty.
If | am mistaken in this-as do not
thiuk l am likely to bel will change
my theories yet once more, and believe
that woman is domestic animal. will
sit by the fire, purr, drink tea and knit
stockings.
And if had married Middleton Hall
how entirely satisfactory my life would
nave been. The wife of a man of splen-
i'll GjSuity and reputation, could have
a:=u.Ecd the position of leader in so
g., :: in far higher sense than simply
,.s.,t of popular belle, gay priestess of
'y,.-t5 and fuliies. My chosen acquaint-
ms would have been honorable, edr.-
Gated. literary. Ishould have had foolish
iutlmacies with nobody, and frivoHty
would have been beneath Inc. | should
have maintained a salon, and not even
my husband should always have shared
my Utmost confidence. But that cannot
be; have chosen for better for worse. |
recognize that fact, and can fairly say
that l am happy. As for emotional or
hysterical moods, | have none. | am
long past the time, and | can smile at
the recollection of it, when could dwell
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love in a cottage.
Ny life is practical, and | am glad to
think that l do not rest upon the conn
sells Of any directeur, lay or spiritual. Of
course do not mean to give the impress
sion that have not awakened to a sense
Of my duties in regard to religion. l
know now that for long time l was
very goddess woman. l go to church; |
take Il just interest in parish work; AN
directress of one hospital and visitor
to another. In word, know that re-
Iigi0n il one of my duties-the highest
81 thcin--and am persuaded that have
10 the best Of my ability thought over
the whole circle Of my duties, religion
.uIong them, aud give to each It's proper
..l&-a If attention.
we been deprived of one more ad
w.. =. Ivy ~ misf3rtunes. see other
".-."a ;.'!a 10 Indulge their finer feel
IS III IAeir associations with their
+. MES, thni" husbands and their chill
drsn. do not consider that such trans
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head of what have roughly condemned
us emotional absar,lities. They are in
tal]ectual they are proper, they are the
same feelings that one experiences on
reading an exquisite piece of tender de-
scription or witnessing a fine piece of
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