Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1891-10-24
EXTREMES OVER A FIRST OFFEl

Depiorsble Mistakes which Young Women
Are Apt to Make.
From the St. Louis Globe Democrat.
There are two deplorable extremes into one
Of which young girl usually falls on receiving
her FIRST Offer
The worse and more frequent of these is
that Of fancying herself in love, when in re-
atty she doesn't care fig for her lover. The
other consists in a coquetsish pride which leads
her, against the dictates of her judgment and
the inclinations of her heart, to reject sutton,
however worthy.
with all the Accomplishments Of heart and
name and fortune-whether these be exalted or
lowly. he pays her the highest compliment in
his power. Undenisbly, she has q right to feel
complimented, and she must be untrue to her
womanhood does she not in some measure feel
so, even though her sutton be beneath her re-
gard; and the compliment will be valued very
much In proportion to her estimation Of the
man.
But take . young girl whose imagination Is
colored with the hues of q summers sun ris-
ing, whose dove-like soul is waiting on culver
ing wings for loves first message, whose gentle
heart pulsates in anticipation Of loves ecstasy
When in her May morn some one comes offer
| ing her the sweetest and brightest Of LIES
| fragrance and beauty-.does abe pause to see
| whether there be any dust on his garments
| any stain on his hand any film on his eyes.
| any baseness in his heart?
| mol Intoxicated with the perfume and be-
wIdered with the beauty, she stands in tho ra-
dance Of her rising sun and sees her lover be-
meath its golden light
Many woman has blighted her own life and
that Of the man abe loved by indulging pas
sion for coquetry. Having charms OF which
she is fully conscious, endowed, perhaps. with
the advantages Of wealth, position and accom-
plishments she proudly measures her power
and saysto herself:
Il am equal to great conquests. and shall I,
thus early, submit to be conquered? have
cords With which to lead many captive, and
shall yield my hands to be manacled? I have
power to bring The proud herd low-to melt
the heart Of stone-to wiring the nerve Of steel,
and shall put my own head on the block
my own heart in the erucible-my own nerves
In the wise? MOI When I have had . surfsit
| Of these delights-then-
But the time referred to in the long futurity
| Of the little word then" seldom comes to
the coquette. 1t will always be 'then." The
| accepted time" il never near when once We
have let the opportunity pass At eighteen
the coquette asks: who Is hep 1T twenty
eight where is hep
Assurediy, TO be loved implies some degree
Of loneliness, and she may be pardoned for feel
ing grstifed with this highest Of all compli-
ments-this subtlest Of all fsttery. But Why
should she unhesitatingly throw herself into
arms that may be extended only TO eusnare
herr On the other hand, why does she turn
proudly from the embrace Of one who may
hood?
Young girl, answer these questions to your
own hssrt, and when you receive your ''frst
oner be not 20 hattered or self deceived q
either to accept or reject without careful DE-
Don't imagine that this Il the iass "chancs''
that you viii ever have, neither, Tor the ssks Of
drifting. throw IL away.