The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 18??-1935, 1891-03-27
With These "Elements Mixed In
Him''-BehOld a Man!'

Editor of the COLUMBIA HERALD:
I am aware that in taking up the
stupendOus subject L shall receive
severe criticism, as l belong TO that
class called "old maids" and my
ignorance of what is required OF
"Model Husband" is foregone con-
cIusion. And though in attempting
to give my views am reminded that
Pope has wisely said "Fools rush In
where angels fear to tread" L trust
this fact may not preclude the pos
sibIlity of trying to picture through
this medium, my ideal "Model
Husband :"
When noticed your advertise
ment, felt that it was the oppor-
unity of my life, consequently am
more than ever convinced that
Every dog has its day" is good
sound philosophy"
"There is tide in the affairs of men,
Which, taken at its flood" XXX
YOU know the balance, so take the
flood. seize nv pen, and with "calm
and placid mien" set forth the re-
auisite qualification, the general
makeup, of that rara avis.
In the first place, it is suPposable
that he marries one whom he loves,
without any consideration whatever
as to the state of her fathers pocket
book; marrieS a wOman-not an an
geI-he does not expect that, Tor the
best women as the "best men, are
moulded out of faults" She may
not be beautiful in person, though
lovely in heart and mind, and may
have a wart on her nose, yet he must
love and cherish her through and I'M
der all circumstances-GUd and all.
'"There is something cOnsOling and
encouraging in uglines5" some writer
has said, though what IL is L have
been unable to see, unless 1T be peace
able possession, for not even your
neighbor will want to borrow it; l
speak from experience.
As have said, this model marrles
a woman for her true worth. He
must never be ashamed of her IN So
ciety, as she may be so pressed with
household cares (Which is too often
the case with married womenl that
going out is a thing desired, but sell
dom attained; so when she does go,
he should be very considerable and
attentive.
If she appears little rusty in So
ciaI manuers, he should make due
allowance, re nembering that 1T is his
to mingle with the masses where he
every day meets new faces and fresh
scenes that keep up his interest in the
social world, while she may scarcely
have time to scan the "Weekly" (for
of course he takes the HERALD,) to
learn what is going on even IN her
own county. Then, Mr.. Editor, he
should never draw comparison be-
tween his wife, the mother OF his
children, and another woman.
Il
and no woman with any refinement
of feeling can take that quite calmly.
He should show preference for her
society, bestOWing those attentions
and cOurtesies that seem so small to
him, but mean, oh so much to her!
In other words, do little counting
after marriage.
Before that, he had used every art
known to him to appear well in her
ewes; how different then must he
seem to her after all of that is laid
aside. Another thing he must have
respect for her opinions, as she Ger
tainly has as much right to hers as
he, though they may differ. II pos
sibIe. Mr.. Editor, he should not bring
home upon his brow busine~s cares !;
but if it cannot be avoided, he will
secure sympathy and encouragement
by confiding in his wife. And right
here will say that the wife has
much to do with making this
"mOdel" husband. She must not be
too exacting, nor expect, too
much. Things can not always
move smoothly. Lovers have their
troubles, even when it is decidedly
polite for them to "put the best foot
| foremost" as the saying goes. Then
again "Spring would be but gloomy
weather, if we had nothing else but
| Spring"
This "model' should never leave
his companion feeling unpleasant be-
cause of some hasty word, or thought
less act, for business will Danish it
| from his memory while it will rankle
in her heart all the day long.
He should be cOnStderdte in Its
every sense, for thOughtlessness,
causes many heart-aches.
| Must show an interest in the things
that interest her,
Now Mr.. Editor this ''modep'
! should never 6rOIO-bedt, nor snub his
wife. You must know all women adj
mire brave men. 1t is nothing but
right if she shares his troubles, he
should not forget hers,
fretfuI, is it right for her to have az
the worry through the night as well
as day?
If the fire has to be made cold
mornings, he should not lie and do2e
and dream while wife craWls out in
cold room aud perhaps goes to the
| wood-shed for something dry to coax
the obstinate wood or coal into burn
ing. meanwhile tipping about as
quietly as possible, fearing to disturb
his morning nap-the poor dear
If cook fails to come some morning
"a thing that will happen in the best
regulated families) and wife ha:
breakfast to prepare, this model
will not fuss is the steak is Overdone
or the coffee if muddy, for he will
consider that she likes juicy tender
Lsteak, and needs 1.-The cups tina
/ cheer" as well as her liege lord.
He must put up the stove pip'
without losing his temper, and IL 1
button flies off the wrong time, or ht
has to "heel and toe" for want o.
darns, he should not contemplate di
vorce. l am fully alive to the tender
ness of this point, Mr.. Editor, anC
will only add, that he must be as pa
tient and still, as possible, under sucl
trying circumstances
One thing and not by any mean
the least, he should praise his wife
nothing sweeteF to ears except to tel
her he LOUes her.
This unfortunately, Is too Otter
taken for granted. All women ar
alike on this score. Zone touch o.
Nature makes all the world kin,
holds good in this; for, Mr.. Editor
you know as well az I do, that al