Fort Worth gazette. [volume] (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1891-1898, 1891-11-19

HOUSEHOLD.
The idea Of the gradual growth Of home
has been presented and also that the young
wife's first year can be admirably spent in
fostering that growth However. a twelve
month is not time sufficient for perfect de-
velopment; there must be even at the end
of year an air of newness about the house
that is not conducive to the home feeling.
As time goes on each member of family
should be made TO feel that there is some
| thing they can do toward evolving home.
In the flush of early married life woman
| Ito women love always includes the idea
of something done or endured for the one
| beloved) is apt to assume more duties than
in after years she will be able to fulfill,
and it is well in the beginning to encour-
| age the husband in feeling that home is one
spot where he not only rests, but where he
can find room for the exercise of such fan
cies as he may have for the identifying
| and adorning of the house and grounds.
| Encourage was the word used. If there is
a conflict of ideas it is wiser in the
wife to educate slowly than by ridicule to
discourage or vex In the home each one
must contribute to the general fund of
comfort, of pleasure and of happiness, and
unless this is done there is certain failure
in the effort. The burdens and the sacri-
fees should not all fall to one members
share, as is too often the case in these days
when mother is too often the sole burden
bearer. That ambition which leads parents
to make any sacrifice in order that their
children may have better advantages or be
spared from hardships to which they by
long vars of toll and deprivation have be-
come Injured is very beautiful TO look upon,
but is it just to the chldren9 Why should
mother slave in order that her daughters
hands may be soft? or why should father
bend at his desk without respite that his
son may read Creek A family should be a
colony like the bees, where all are workers in
moulding the cells and gathering sweetness
from the outside world to store in the home
which all have united in making.
1t is generally admitted that a boy is a
disturbing element in a home, but boys are
embryo men and must have that kind of de-
velopnent in the home which will fit them
for the important place men fill in the So
cial economy, and the mother who success
fully generals a family of boys deserves
laurels more than any commander of regu-
lar armies. Boys may be troublesome yet
they are born into the home and have
claim upon its duties and its privileges aud
no amount of Rstheticisn warrants de-
priving of their inherited rights; it is better
to sacrifice bric-a-brac, tapestries and all
fancy articles than TO compel a boy by irk-
some restraining to spend his idle hours
away from home, it may be with ruinous
associates. The writer was once shown
very handsome house; after visiting
the different suites of rooms and admiring
the taste displayed ''Now," said~ehis
mother, 'come into the basement" and
there, in large, cheerfully lighted room,
were evidences of boys. This" said she,
sis the boys workshop and play-room. 1t is
below stairs, and therefore the noise does
not disturb persons in other parts of the
house; here they bring their chums and do
whatever they please: sometimes they are
at the workbench using the tools buy for
them, and sometimes, not very often, and
usually at night, they are reading books
that are in their own bookcase. They have
their pets in yard and room at the barn,
and make 1t rule to do all L can to make
them feel proprietorship in the home, and
to seek in it their pleasures" This ar
rangement did not surprise, for in the boys
bedrooms the same wise thoughtfulness
had been observed. This mother had no
look of worry upon her genial face,
and as those five sons hung |
about her an on-looker could but feel that |
there was wisdom in her methods.
The interest of home certainly hinges |
upon each member of the family being al |
lowed individual rights, and upon their ex-
ercising such ingenuity and skill as will add |
to its beauty and its comfort. There is a |
rule in human nature that holds good in the |
home-we love that for which we can labor,
and whether it oe person or home, the idea |
Of possession, in a greater or less degree, |
enhances our interest and stimulates our
endeavors.