Telegram-herald., 1891-07-24

ukszid 30 Reared sitA Tender Watch
IcopJrisht. isi. ~ American Pre.s Assoeg.-
ton
In the language Of modern society.
young girls who ara leaving childhood
behind shem and entering the fairy
rnlm Of naid>nhood, are called buds"
Nsser was popular name more ftly APP
Died There Is nothing in nature more
dssicste. more sensitive 70 careless
hAastlns. Or moro fall Of beaateoas
peoniss than rose bud. It's eaIyx part
Ing 10 reveal shmpses Of the unsnllisd
petals within, but its delicacy cannot
campAre with that Of tho bloom and in
noccnoe Of girihood.
ln foreign lands tho young girl Is
guarded as II she were q bit OF fragile
crystal II she goes on the street for
prousenade she must be accompanied by
hSr mother or some elderly relative. and
even IN be- tips 10 and from school or
music Lesson she Is attended by trusted
naad At home she Is never alone. She
receives her acquaintances Of both sexes
with sweet maidenly grace and innocent
cortiah,y. bat always with some mem
bar II the hanseholl present. and she is
happier that it should DO so. for her
mother has taught her that. especially
when the guests are Young men. maiden
parity and dignity demand it.
This care Of the daughters OF the house
u ~ old AZ history. and sweet illusions
70 IL occur In all ancient writing In an
old Spanish ballad relating the exploits
OF tho Cid. the famous hero Of the Mid
die Ages. he is said 10 have spoken these
touching words when bidding farewell
to his wife as he departed To wage war
against the Moors:
Look well 10 thy daughters, nor let them be
aware.
Lost they comprehend the danger because they
see thy care.
And lose unconscious innocence; at home they
must abide.
Ior the safety cf the daughter is al the mo-
ther's aide.
Those ara sweet words which every
mother would do well to ponder and
learn a lesson from.
In this country we cannot follow the
the rigid regulations in regard 70 the
conduct OF young girls which still hold
sway in many lands Our more liberal
institutions. and tho different character
of our domestic life and Of social inter
course. make il unnecessary for US 10 do
&C.. But we csn and should watch our
girls much more carefully than we do.
That the safest and sweetest place fer
the daughter Is at the mothers side re-
mains a tr Ith through all ages and
through all changes Of domestic condi-
lions II Is often q necessity W send our
girls away from home to school, but in
this case the teacher assumes, for the
tina, the mothers place; she becomes
her deputy in the caro- OF the unfolding
bud. Ii is grave responsibility. and the
wise teacher in accepting il strives ut
the outset to win her pupils affection,
for the moment that love and confidence
begin tho pathway OK every teacher and
pupil is smooth.
There Is ssothiug more beautiful than
mother surrounded by her fair young
daughters. especially when harmony and
sympathy exist in the home circle. To
win tho daughters confidence AMI hold
it should b the mothers dearest ambi-
tion. she must keep herself young in
heart for the daughters sake, that she
may have the power to sympathize with
all the keen joys and SORROWS of youth.
This is not always easy. A mother has
many domestic cares and anxieties, and
she is too prone to pass lightly over mat
ters which are of the highest importance
to the girlish heart, often to refuse to
listen to them altogether. Don't bother
me now. | am busy" she viii say at
times. or. what is still more fatal to con-
fidence. she will utter some hasty word
Of condemnation. leaving the daughter
the conclusion that her mother looks
with stern disspproval on what the
young girl calls having y good time"
Youth wust have it's gceH time: it Is
righs and natural that il Alould. and
mother is in duty bound 10 join in and
make herself one Of the youthful crowd
II she does this from the beginning and
with discretion ner presence among the
young people IL more than welcome.
She IL an addition 10 the company, be-
loved elder sister," "a IL were. whose
clearer insight aud broader knowledge
~ life enable her 20 guide and restrain
youthful impulses without appearing to
do 30. Yonns people in these days are
easily led. bat they cannot be pushed
Neither do they feel that profound re-
spect for the opinion OF their elders
which existed in earlier times Old ideas
and old formulas are passing away. so
eiety Is becoming "emsncipated." and
the liberty OF thought and action pene-
trates tn the very heartof the household.
Tn aga Il stern discipline b. over.
A vfse mother recognizes this and
Yusss her yong and sxuberant daughter
by tire power Of love. II sha remains
'-old and formal and strive, 70 hold
her authority. like Tennyson's natron,
''wita little hoard of maxims preach
ing down daughters heart her infiu-
eoce vill be weakened. and although the
yoAn9 gri may still love her mother
teuderiy aha viii Keep her girlish life to
hersek. aud then sae danger begins. A
Girfs natural impulses srs pure and i'm
poosns: she does not see evil when il sp-
proschss her. and shs cannot Know the
sDsres which are ses along an apparently
smooth path unlese The mothers hand
gently points out the danger sud guides
her away from it.
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