Telegram-herald., 1891-09-04

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hAlf boar II their scg1asntancs NAY
prHlss a<r FACE. ner figure. Eex dancing
q nsr clothes. AID meet with eonplaeen.
acceptance. put t1ers are ether wome1
VINO would meet sach AsGixclty VITA
freezing rsbuks. 30 taAt man as need
70 % very careful in sns beginning oe
an acquaintance. alraoosh be may be
prstty sure that II hs knows my sweet
Lady Dlsdsin long enough ~ VIII como
70 the sAne potns N the end Ard.
rhsn. th@ro ara 90 mary ways Of talking
10 wozz-a sooar herself: personal ap-
pearancs 10 ths very crudest and most
elementary part Of the subject. bus il u
CAPABLE Of treatment IN Infinite variety.
Il ara sars yoa like Browning 10
says. ani shs. smiling placidly. asks
Why Bow can yoV judgeY
"Bec2ass notice you rse some Of his
wonderfully eloqusns turns OF speech
Yoa express yonrseH. II may % szy.
BrowningssGuely."
And soc - delighted.
Or 10 remarks: .'One can 80 at .
glance that you have travelled . great
deal; taat gracious and ready courtesy
IL only learned Ia the royal courts *
Europa"
Or. II notice that you always wear
hlies Of the valley, and use that SCENT
How delicate and refined it NJ
Perhaps there is nothing 90 fetching
10 . woman as 20 have her favcrite per-
fune and color noticed by an to whom
rhs has never mentioned them Or, GO
ing deeper. he appeals 70 some unusua.
knowledge be declares hsr TO possess upon
scme sbstruse subject. and begs for in
formation. or in most confidential and
tentative manner be speaks Of her low
ing nature. her sweetness Of disposition.
her gentle faith IN the goodness OF those
about her. and he warns her OF the dan
ger such an iunccent lamb - she incurs
by trusting tho wolves 20 fearisssly.
OF course he II no wolf, oh. no! But
probably the innocent lamb knows the
mayks Of wolf quite well. and will txke
care Of herself even while she seems i'm
phcitly to receive the warnings and rev.
slations Of her hind guide and mentor.
A man who can talk Judiciously and
sccepsably 70 . woman about herself
vii b voted By thst woman IN agree
able man. and n he has . pretty large
female Acquaintance he will have nu-
cleus of admirers 70 proclaim this opin-
tn-
But 10 be . universally agreeable man
"A man whom other men will admit TO
be agreeable. although they won't use
that word-requires something more.
A man TO be agreeable in general society,
at . dinner party. at . reception. at any
OF those places and times when tste-A-
t4tes are either impossible or In bad
taste. must DO able to talk 10 moro than
one person and upon impersonal topics
BE must know something about great
many subjects. and yet not have the air
OF instructing bis hearers. Nothing IL
much more irritating than the ex-cathe-
dra style, when the speaker seems 70
mount . rostrum and hold up his hand
for silence before each utterance. That
was the matter with the agreeable man
first mentioned, and he annoyed me 30
much that resolutely forgot all the val
uable information % carefully impaired.
Another rock upon which have seen
. great many men meet shipwreck II
unadaptability; they talk and talk well,
not too learnsdly and nos too satirically.
but they talk upon subjects which have
no interest for their audience. A gen.
tleman once called upon me and . bright
little girl who was visiting me. he
staid nearly two hours and he talked
almost without interrnission upon some
scheme for irrigating Arizona and es-
tablishing mills upon the artificial wa
ter courses. do not doubt that Il was
q most brilliant and interesting exposi-
tion II only We had cared anything ut
| oil about the irrigation Of Arizona. but
my entire vitality was absorbed in the
effort to keep awake and look politely
Interested. while my little friend made
Punch and Judy puppets out of her
handkerchief and some tidies. and at ap-
| propriate moments bobbed Mr. Punch's
head In assent or caused Columbine to
caper with delight
Certainly that man aid not know how
10 make himself a9rseablsi
People sometimes ask me, moving
that am familiar with most parts Of
the civilized world. where have found
! the most agreeable men and the most
acceptable companions
II y hard question to answer. for
ones taste changes 30 much from time
10 time, aud according to tho conditions
| Of ones own life.
In early youth was thrown much
with men Of Latin blood, Spaniards and
Frenchmen, and naturally learned TO
think their modes Of thought and
speech. their somewhat formal courtesy
and stately grace the most agreeable en-
| senbis In ths world. Later have seen
very much OF Englishmen. and nothing
can be more agreeable than the frank,
honest high bred courtesy Of true Eng.
lish gentleman, although hs cannot
claim much Of grace. vivacity O. versa
! tihty.
But today I give the palm 10 my own
eountrymen. for they com bine the splen.
did strength and honor of the English
man with the Wit and worldly wisdom
Of the Frenchmsn, and the Spaniard'l
appreciation OF and graceful devotion n
women; in fact. ~ the people Of these
United States are the uniou OF all thu
races Of the earth. where but amons
their men shonld We look for specimens
OF the beat qualities Of sll men7 Perhap.
this estimate will not hold good in al
directions; perhaps not every American
/ combines the roinancs OF the Spaniars
with the wit n the Frenchman, and th'