The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1891-05-24
HE WOMAN WE WANT.
Washington City Beaux Tell
About Ideal Wives.
NAVAL OFFICERS STANDARD.
he bohemian Newspaper Man Can't
Afford TO Marry-An Army Lieu
tenants Thrifty spouse.


fullv realized and anxiously sought after
a,v the nri,neval lords of creation. In the
words of the old song,
Twas ever since the world began,
And II has always been the way,
For did not Adam, the very first man,
The very first woman obey?
Such being the state of tho case, and
men forever seeking these better halves
without which their lives are incomplete.
dull and savorlcss, the following represen-
tative views of some of the leading profess
sions among Washington beaux in refer
cnce to the question, will prove OF WIDE
spread interest and doubtless be OF practi-
cal value TO the matrimonially aspiring
class of young girls.
After getting together a budget of opin-
ions from the female standpoint, It was
suggested to me by prominent young
bachelor of our city that Turn about was
fair play and that the men should be al
lowed an opportunity to air their senti-
ments upon the all-important question.
THE Wire FOR NEWSPAPER MAN.
One Of my first interviews was with
pronlising young journalist, whose deyo-
sion to his chosen profession leaves little
time on bis hands for the sweet allure
ments Of Cupid. Yet all the same the sly
god has not neglected an opportunity of
waving his soft pinions across his path,
and beguiled him into chance visions OF
the fair "might be-" Mr.. L.. whose full
name we withhold for prudential motives,
replied to my query: II find it safer to
remain unwed than sacrifice so much OF
my independence and rather Bohemian
existence A single man may enjoy his
club, where game or so Of billiards or
pool may be INDUCED in without giving
cause for objection, while a married man
must be home with the twilight, ready TO
share his wife's interests and individual
society. regardless of opposing tastes and
the demands of alluring boon companions.
Then, too, no man should be willing
10 drag woman down to the hard strug-
gle for existence that every young journal
ist must wage before he may hope to at
tain competency. In truth ! think it
best not to jump out of the frying-pan
into the fire. Should / choose a wife,
however, would say, give me one who
can use typewriter in order that | may
dictate to her, and thereby secure a true
heipmeet in my work, and one who can
truly sympathize with with me in my
professional aspirations. For return /
will give her my love and the devotion
that her unseliishness so well deserves.
In word, my wife must be to me good
comrade, and willing to cheerfully share
the uncertainties of my lot"
THIS ONE MUST PAY HER OWN MESS BILL.
The following is concise but compre-
hensve view of the situation from the
standpoint of a naval officer whose broad
experience of life and personal attractions
Of mind and heart entitle his opinions to
be read with consideration and carefully
digested by those TO when they are sup
posed to be addressed. ] copy verbatim
bis note in reply to my query, that will
give pretty general idea of the senti-
ments of all brother officers.
Mas Grundy, Jr.: l received your note asking
Tor my views on the subject OF an ideal wife,
and more particularly one Tor naval man.
have never given the subject of matrimony
much consideration, and therefore my views
would not be OF much interest to any one. do
not believe that a uavar officer should get mar
rfed at all. but II he IL determined TO do So as
great many OF them are. do not see why his
ideal should be any different from that of a man
In any other profession. A good wife is good
wife the world over. The only ideal have ever
heard naval officers describe was one that could
pay her own mess bill.
Ideal men and women exist only in the fertile
IMAGINATION OF romancers. II we were 10 60
around the world in pursuit of our ideals, we
would have harder task than piogenes had in
finding an honest man.
believe in making your own Ideal, after find.
ing the right person. Ycu meet one that ia
attractive aud interesting and whom you are apt
at irst 10 admire aud then love Yon soc only
what Is good aud beautiful I'M them and thus
they become your ideal.
am afraid that getting married is like raising
the ante In Jackpot with only small pair. II
you have good luck you may improve aud Win
the pot, aud II not you may lose all YOU have.
As these are my private views / trust that Won
VIII throw this into the waste basket and never
lei them see the light of day. Yours faith.
fully, H.R. suIIIyaS
THIS BRIpEeRooM-ELEcr EXPECTS pERFEc-
TIox.
Here goes another from distinguished
member of the same branch of the service
whose bachelor existence will ere long he
solved into the universal fate towards
which the flowing stream Of love forever
tends. and as happy benedict he will no
longer be entitled 10 a space within the
present article. my wife" replied Lien
tenant -, who prefers not TO have his
name appear just now in print. must be
possessed of some practical idea of cook
ing, so that at least she may be capable of
experimenting that important branch n,
domestic economy with the most-to-be-de-
sired result of digestibe dishes served
In addition she must possess
Sufficient musical talent 20 enable her To
while away the quiet twilight hours of
home life with light ballads or soothins
airs upon the piano. But deliver me from
the classic scholar, in whose scientific
soul there is no room for ANYTHING he
heath the classics. / would have my wife
Neli-intormed in literature, in order that
she might share with me the pleasures of
Inc standard works and be able to discuss
WITH intelligence the current gossip of the
aaay, though devoid of pedantry and free
from that self-apnreciation that well-read
women occasionally indulge in 70 the feel
ing o. superiority over their less informed
husbands. My wife must not be so Gull
tuFed that she fails 10 look up
II her husband with that feeling Of
respect that proves the keynote
20 domestic peace Though he. perchance.
may not be In all things the ideal hero of
ner love. Above all things, she must
possess refinement of nature. g true gentle
woman, loving. tender and true. | do not
oe,olect 10 her dancing: in fact, consider
~NNN- ttaNtAAAANht sa3t sttAh 10 tOtL
women and men. but she should be willing
% be guided 10y her husband in the choice
y partners. Sufficiently woman of the
world 10 hold her own in the very best
soclety st home or abroad. In this re-
sspeet American girls always prove the
pest OF wives for naval officers. whose pro-
IesSlon constantly throws them among the
very hrst society among European can
l1als, and when accompanied by their
wives while resident for while in
..pSselgn ports, seldom fail 10 reap
we superior advantages of our more adj
sanced system of female education and
our women are universally popular. Ma
va officers who we'd English girls often 100
.ase and out their mistake. I know OF one
s ses, instance, for example, where a Young
,,euoN Of my acquaintance spends the