Telegram-herald. ([Grand Rapids, Mich.) 18??-1892, 1891-05-09


uonuma<fve q = eoid woman, We have
always t-sa soid thss sAs laxtsr h ths
CO.. eus - oas iosAs sroana ballroom.
Tor ius1nes. VI rocsptson. or ANY eol.
iccesun u young people wssrre there Is
hnsssy u movement and ehcsoe. which
ei&@ Of guis and young women do We
$50 most sars,andei. mass often upon
tbs docr. iuvisnd to the box s.at OF TIE
drag ~ shzs stern sssAs In .iss boar Is lt
ths fazR white ssa,as q SRI Who eel
iom opcns her aoulA and only family
stlrs It's eiasHic lines Ia a sntiss she
wtzoss clear blue eyer serm a. far away
and pa@ssoiaas IS tho sky. and whssse
finScn rust upoa yoms - eoidly sad
hShtiy - the petzk of . wAtsr hlyf Or
10 % tho gay. daughter iovsns. carly. pink
chseksd ifstls thing whosr fresh hls are
grsins upon an ear II white corn. and
whup ross tipped insers ossso Ia = CO.
qsssssssh grasp upon thoss Of her eava-
lios. while shs half Whispers some
sfrpllrry into his ear. Or - it tho
gushing girl who taps her foot upon
tho door and cries: Oh. this music
makes mo wild. II you dent ask
me- 70 dAncs this very minute I'll 20 by
nysslf:" or who cxclaims In infantile
sincerity. ''oh. please lot mo ST on tho
box sp~s and drive just little tiny bit
Of tho wayi' or. perhaps; LET mo light
your cigarette, DO! so love TO set q
Whit Of nioe tobacco, and-wont you
tells Mind. never. never. newer. Well.
do snnrsimes steal ono out Of my broth
ers room. and go away by myself and
smoke liz And then she allows herself
to DO persuaded TO take ono now. and
smokes 10 with much aplomb and no Ill
results.
Now which Of these Is tho most suc-
oessful girl Of our period: Which Is the
one the men like the best?
asked three of tho men of my &C.
quaintance. The frst namely replied,
Tho one who is most like you," to
which retortsd:
Neither oaeis like me or ever was.
was brought up in tho old fashioned
way-ander my parents wing-and was
simply jessns file when they married
me-"
The next man snid: 81 Ike them all;
admire pretty girls of all sorts and con-
ditions, and the one / am with 1T the
moment is the best one"
The third expert replied: II can only
answer you by confessing the theory /
have slowly built mp ont of my own ex-
perience. A man is not so constituted
as to be satisfied with one woman; he
needs q different companion at different
epochs Of his life, or even in the differ
ent moods Of each epoch. That is the
reason have never married. How can
tell that the calm, chilly and unap-
proachable woman who just now is my
delight would please me ten years hence?
Or il sa,rifice the present taste to the
future necsesity, how can tell what
sort Of woman / shall prefer in ten
years7 It is really q most harassing
question"
~ don't see how you can settle it ex-
cept by going to Utah" said l, sympa-
thctically.
True. have considered the subject
most seriously, but there are certain i'm
pedimenta A man may have many OBJ
jects Of admiration. but don't believe
he'd be very comfortable with moro than
one wife Both taste and reason, or
rather instinct, lead me always to be off
with the old love before am on with
the new. and shudder at the thought
of being permanently fettered to any Of
the past objects Of my fancy. am al
ready tired Of them, and If could not
get away should soon loathe the dear
creatures. Besides, doubt if the stately
garden lily which just now is the flower
Of my fancy grows in Utah. Her pure
white petals would shrink from the at
mosphere."
Then You prefer an undemonstrative
womanw exclaimed l, eagerly.
II do today" WAS the reply.
Not satisfied with these researches /
purs1ed them further, until became q
perfect Sphynx, propounding my conun-
drum to all corners, and never finding
the Edipus who could solve it satisfac-
torily until, after consulting many men
and some women. and making my own
observations at all sorts of times and
places, / came to the conclusion that the
question Is too complicated TO be settled
by yes or a no. or, indeed, by any posi-
tive and dogmatic reply.
Ny cynical friends confession that at
different times he liked different styles
OF women, and no one style satisfied him,
might be truthfully echoed by three-quar-
tiers of his sex AS general thing
very young man setting out in life with
some sort Of ideal in his mind, not gen.
orally copied from his sisters, finds 1t
most nearly realized in the statuesque and
garden lily style Of girl. He does not know
much about her. for she says 30 little
and looks 90 little and does 30 little
that she remains inscrutsble. but his
fancy invests her with all sorts Of lofty
Projections of mind and heart, and IL he
fails to rouse her sympathy or emotions
he meekly concludes that he IL 20 far be-
meath her level that she cannot descend
70 his feelings.
This kind Of Endymion fancy for the
moon does not generally terminate in
marriage, OF, IL IL does. sd IL Endymion's
waking when he discovers that his god
ds-s is only moonshine and his wife is
cold. hard, narrow woman who does not
Snow emotion 81 any sort, SIMPLY be
eause sbs does not feel any. and docs noe
even know her own deficiencies.
Bat instead of marrying. the lover
generally drifts on by slow degrees
into q warmer atmosphere. and seek
ing sympathy. falls In love With