The morning call., 1891-09-28
MRS. LONGSHORE-POTTS.
Her Lecture Mt the Baldwin on
Love, Marriage and COurtship.

the TeUOWneu pnySICidu AN lcOtuiei, wac
TO deliver tue last lecture Of her course, one
on love, courtship and marriage. was some
what different from those which have
greeted her during the past week. 1t was not
composed of ladies only, but was MADE up
of ladies and gentlemen. and there was not
one who did not think, but thought that
he or she knew as much about the subject
as the next one. However. each was
prompted solely by desire to learn what
the doctor knew about the matter. Before
the doctor bid adieu for the afternoon 10
her audience, which by the way was good
sized one, and was made up of many OF the
prominent and intelligent people of this
city. the majority learned many whole
some truth, which, If carried out, would
lead to a great deal more happiness than
exists at present the world over. Inc lect-
ure was very we'll delivered by the doctor,
who has a happy way of making every QUE
feel interested while she talks. 1t was in
teresting, instructive and full of good sug-
gestions.
At the outset the doctor stated that the
subject of her lecture was not devoted 10
disease, but to loye-one which no doubts
more pleasing to an audience than dis
course upon the ills that the human body is
heir to. What is love?" is q question that
has frequently been asked. said the doctor,
but it is one that has never been salts
fact0rily answered, or. when answered al
all, the answers have been so numerous and
varied that it was impossible 10 arrive at
definite conclusion. The theologian tells us
that God is love, while the scientist tells us
that love is attractive and that If we search
through nature we will hnd all things have
an attraction for their kind. Who will say
that flowers, birds and animals are not
possessed OF souls? We know that they
love and we know that all creatures desire
reciprocated love. Love is different accord
ing to the one who loves. The difference Is
in the nature OF the person. In the timely
organized and honorable person love is akin
to the disposition of that person; in the in
diyldual that is coarse there is love, but that
love is like the individual.
In most eloquent and touching manner
the doctor described the mothers love
contcnded by many to be the hottest and
puresL lOve-at various stages in HE; Its
intensity for the babe Mt the breast. for tie
growing child she teaches at her knee, for
the child that is away from her immediate
guardianship. and declared that a mothers
love for her chlld-for her offspring is her
child always no matter what the age is
never dies until the mother is called away
by her Creator. She then spoke of fraternal
love, such as Christ gave to all. That love,
she said, which is pure and unselfisb, will
reclaim the drunkard and will elevate the
unfortunate who has fallen from honor 5
high estate"
DR.. Potts then turned her attention to
human love. conjugal love, and contended
that sermons on this theme ought to be fire.
quently preached; that the subject ought
to be frequently discussed in the home cir
Gle, because proper understanding of this
highly important subject, that affects the
welfare of millions, would prevent many
from plunging into misery. The man who
is keen in business, said the doctor, is so
full of that which is uppermost in his mind
that he is a dullald in the matter Of love
Now what does young girl know about
loveY asked the lecturer. Nothing COM
paratyely nothing, except what she has
gathered from some novel or in cOnversa-
ton with others of her own age, who are
equally ignorant as herself on that subject
Ask her what kind of bonnet she wants
and she will be able to tell you, but ask her
what kind of husband she wants and she
is at loss for an answer, or she will say
'Oh, | suppose some one to support me-
Marriage" the lecturer declared, rs not
only the most important, but the most
solemn business OF life. and as cOurtship is
the preliminary step toward marriage, those
who engage in it should go about it In u
businesS-llke manner. No one" said
she, would 90 out at night by the aid of a
candle or lantern TO purchase horse and
determine its good qualities, ana that being
the case, why 20 counting in manner no
less abSurd?"
In her advice to men, she said: ''If you
would select good wife learn 10 know her
wei DtlOTt you lDdht UtI SUCH. 10 HOl
make your visits to her house at times when
she is waiting and watching for you, but go
when you are not expected, and you will
see sights which will determine you as to
your hearts idol Drop in in the morning,
and If you find her at the waSh-tub with a
plain, neat, clean dress, collar around her
neck, hair neatly done up, then you Will dis
cover that she is a neat woman, and that
neaIness will run through life-a girl who is
neat will make neat wife-but If you find
her with sleeves half torn out, her dress not
buttoned, or else fastened with pin in
stead OF a button, put there because the
dress is old and a pin will do just as well,
find her with her hair up on one side and
down on the other, her clothing spotted with
grease, her shoes unlaced and down at the
heel, and you like her, take her, because no
one else will.
young lady's religious belief, her political
Ideas, if she is considerable of her father
and her other. if she does not speak i'll of
her associates, If she is truthful aud if she
is not unreasonably jealous. If you find
her to be possessed of these good qualities
and you really love her, then marry her, for
she will surely make a good wife. One
word of advice to young men: Do not
marry woman who is not a good house
keeper, nor one who Is inclined to gossip
and who is inclined to thwart you in your
established habits if those habits are good"
In her advice to young girls she said: IF
the young man who Is counting you speaks
i'll of his friends beware of him, in fact do
not accept him. If he is slovenly about his
business, If his clothes are soiled, his finger
nails in mourning and there is tobacco-juce
cunning down the corners OF his mouth. do
not have anything to do with him, for II
you yourself are neat you Will never be
happy with him. He may be model of
neatness when he calls upon you, but II you
discover that he has these faults and lays
them aside only when he calls upon you,
you may rest assured that he will revert to
them again after marriage. One thing in
forming your Judgment about young man,
the one who speaks kindly of his mother
and will not listen to or permit any one to
say anything ill of her is good man."
She then spoke of the advantage OF FORM
ing union with one who is not given to the
use of intoxicating liquor, after which she
dwelt upon many things that are conducive
to making home happy one. In her ad-
vice to married women she said:
Take an interest in your husband !;
always meet him with a smile; have his din
ner ready for him on time; speak kindly of
his friends; interest yourself In the ltera-
ture that p!eases him, and If he Is incln ed
enough to talk intelligently about it and be
sympathetic. Do not annoy him with your
Hetty household cares; always have your
rooms neat and fix yourself to receive him
in as attractive manner as you did before
marriage. | would not have you be sub
missive tool, but would have you stand firm
ly, yet gently, for all the rights that you are
entitled to, and you ca always have those
rights ii you will only treat your husband
pleasantly and make home more attractive
for him than the corner grocery or the club.
Do you know that there is wonderful power
In the words 1 love you spoken endearingly
aud sincerely to your husbandp The man
is never so old but that Those words, when
he knows that they come from the heart,
will make his blood Jingle with joy"
To the married men she gave some sound,
sensible advice and told them that the love
of good woman is worth all the world to
man and that 1t Is worth winning, Guilt
waiting and keeping. In conclusion the doc
tor declared that husband and wife should
always be truthful to one another. for, said
she, ''truthfulness is the mainstay Of mar
rage bliss"
A number of amusing anecdotes served as
O relish to the many truths laid down.
Five Generations Photographed. FsS
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