Telegram-herald., 1891-05-22

Breouch cal 80 IN socsoey, ~ mr. that mat
~ m Elvzss. sxcs2s sssoag ~ nearest
ru1n01ss, Is borps b. our go. and rin
ssre dony knOw what would becoos Of
socsssy or u nan IN bis sociAl ru1Ations
II the wouen. - refuss the charge Of
hang gssst salkees. should form -
truss" and pat up the price Of speech
and hoard II In tho treasury Of their
own brsacs for while.
tired is on once myself. 1t was az
reception, add ! was tired aad tagged
and rsshax vezsd ~ some Jocoss remarks
some Of the nsn bad made about tbs 10
qaAslty Of women aad Tho iInpossssility
of thar Keeping anything 70 thems<ivcs,
% suddeaiy took . resolution Of silence,
nos % entire - that Of the woman whoss
story have told. bat ! resolved for once
% let somebody elsa DO at the expense Of
the conversation. and only 20 bear that
burden OF response and conpsacent list
sninx usually assumed by tho masculine
party.
II was really most smnsing; the very
goutleEaxn who had been ~ funny ct tho
expense Of womans loquscity was pre-
ssntsd to me, and smiled and bowed.
He made one of thoss brilliant remarks
about the weather usually opening
conversation I assented 70 his state
ment and remained silent, with my eyes
fixed upon his face in the expectant atti-
tude have SO often noticed in my mas
cuhne friends; in fact this gentleman
himself wore 1t az that very moment.
He cleared his throat. and said there was
most amiabiy and replied, ''Quite So"
Then no began to 6dges. glAncing help
lessly into my face. ~ mach IS TO say,
''Why don't you give mo . leadT But II
remained blandly uncorscious, and in
fused into my manner an air Of waiting
for him to speak that must have been
simply maddening. At last he said:
"You must meet great many people
In the course Of your travels"
"a great many" replied /, and closed
my lips.
''And-and-I suppose you like to,
don't you?"
Like to-what" asked I. with the
same sort Of judicial air / have noticed
in men when they are replying to what
they consider an irrational remark. And
wasn't this irrational?
''Oh, see people you know. and-and
all that sort Of thing. Don't you like to
see people"
"Do your" inquired briefly, and the
poor man, who thought he had at last
started me OF upon q topic congenial
to my experience, wiped his forehead
and stared sghsst at finding it thus
tossed back to him.
How the conversation, If you can call
Il 30, went on do not now remember,
but it certainly did not last very long.
and afterward heard that Mr.. So-and-
So considered Mrs. - the hardest per-
son to talk to he had ever met. / only
hope he may SEQ this letter, and decide
for himself whether tho self sacrificing
exersions most women make to keep up
. conversation in society Is matter Of
derisiou or Of admiration.
And not in society only. In the fam
lily circle, when the head Of the house
comes homo tired, rather cross and dis
posed to grumble at everything. does it
cheer and recuperate him to find silent
wife and daughters, each occupied with
her own thoughts or hcr book, and al
though ready to respond to his remarks
with perfect amiabihty, originating
nothing and relapsing into silence the
moment his questions are answered?
should like to see that experiment
tried. and recommend it to any woman
90 happy - to possess home, and whose
husband Is under the impression that
women are too loquacious. Don't let
him have any chance to call you glum
or suiky or ''in the dumps" BE perfect
ly bright and smiling. prettily dressed
and with q good dinner punctually
served. bat don't talk any more than is
absolutely necessary; don't, according to
your usual wifely fashion, bring out all
the little events Of your day, dressed up
in fancy garb of comic or pathetic or
marvellous hue; don't tell what Mrs.
Jones said about Mr.. Brown, nor how
queerly she was dressed; don't mention
what you had for lunch, nor how the
poulterer saved this pair Of pheasants on
purpose for you because last time you
thanked him % prettly. In fact, cut
of all superfiuity Of language and let
your yea be yea. and your nay nay. in
absolute strictness. don't believe one
woman in ten is able to do this whole
evening; not, mind you. because she
couldn't, but because she wouldn't-her
kind heart wouldn't let her; she would
watch out of the corner Of her eye tho
growing dependency, the gloom and
the dullness overspreading the face Of
the man she loved, and all at once she
would throw of her reticence, laugh like
brook just breaking through the ice.
perch upon her husbands knee, and be-
wilder him with such sparkling freshet
of chatter an that Same brook may ex-
hibit for the delight of the stately trees
whose roots she refreshes and reinvig-
crates
And that man, and many, many moro
Of his kind. knows at his heart, what
ever his tongue may say, that woman's
facility Of speech and willingness 10 use
il rightly is tbs true sunshine OF his
home.
And in other relations of life. A man
has q woman friend whom he loves 10
seek when be feels the need of fresh
impulse to his mental life and new hope
fulness and cheer in his work. whatever
that msy be. IL Is she who does tho
most Of the talking; sometimes he only
site and gases at her in that helpless sort
If fashion peculiar TO tired men-a sort