St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1891-01-26

way Will HGY6T have JHe slightest lutd
that he is being managed, but will re-
gard himself as monarch of all he sur
veys from the domestic hearth, and will
think he is doing all the managing HIM
self"
The Author of "Fauntleroy."
Show to manage husbands ?" said
Mrs. Frances Hodgson Burnett, the
authoress Of Little Lord Fauntleroy,"
echoing the question. you mean how
TO manage them to make them happy
In my judgment no man or woman,
married or single, can be made happy
by others. Others may afford us OPP
portunities of being happy, but no one
can compel us to be happy, whether we
will or not. Our happiness or unhap-
pineSs must ever depend largely upon
ourselves, let our surroundings and our
companions be what they may. You
remember Mark Tapley in Dickens
novel of Martin Chuzzlewit" You
know his great object in life was to be
jolly as he called it, underadverse cir
cumstances, aud he sought diligently to
place himself in the most depressing
situation possible IN order to prove that
a man may be cOntented and happy in
any condition if he only will.
In married life, as in everything else
in this world, there is everything in be-
ginning right, and the very beginning
is where the young man and the young
woman. who are to comprise the future
married couple, receive their first train
ing in early childhood. In most Of the
cases where marriage has proved fail
ure close investigation will show that
the husband or Wife-perhaps both
have never received proper business
or domestic training, and each has re-
lied On the other to make him or her
happy. This notion, in itself, is fatal
to happiness. The man or woman who
sits down and waits to be made happy
by his or her cOnjugal partner, and be-
comes angry with the said partner be-
cause he or she does not manufacture
the required amount of happiness, will,
in a short time, declare marriage fail
ure, and perhaps see relief in one Of
those divorces which may now be so
easily obtained with publicity.
IA girl whose natural domestic tastes
have been carefully developed, and who
has otherwise been properly trained,
will have very little trouble in making
a home what it should be, and one OF
the greatest of all points in managing
husband is to make home the most at
tractive of all places to him.
"a good story is told of two brothers
in-laW, one rich and the other poor,
meeting after long separation.
=" 'HoW do you spend your evenings"
asked the poor man.
10 at the club was the response.
AT the clubp exclaimed the poor
man in tone of deep commiseration.
That's not like home, is it,?
"'No, indeed it is not, thank Heaven!
If it were | should never co.
There are countless men like him
who seek the club as relief from home
because their wives do not know how TO
manage husbands by making home at
tractive.
Select Your NEOther-in.LaW.
"Like begets like. We cannot gather
figs from thiStles. Foolish mothers will
necessarily have foolish daughters, and
in marriage, especially at the present
day, it is almost as essential for young
man to select good mother-in-law as
good wife. Indeed, the former is al
most a guarantee of the latter.
''Since marriage is so generally re-
garded by society as the chief end and
aim of woman, and since all we see
around us in the world of fashion would
tend to confirm that idea, would not one
naturally suppose that III every one OF
the numerous higher schools and col
leges for women which now abound in
this country there would be profess
sor's char devoted to teaching the
art of how to make a model wife
Would we not expect to see mothers
teaching their daughters self-respect,
Self-denial and thought for others from
their very cradle? To find them instill-
ing lessons of kindness and charity and
thorOughness in everything.
"No girl who may sometime take her
place by mans side to be his COM
forter and helper in fighting the great
battle of life, the mother of his children
and the mistress of his home, can begin
too early to learn all there is to know of
domestic duties Let her be trained in
habits of order and neatneSs by being
rewarded for keeping her room and all
her clothing in perfect order. Let her
be instructed in cutting, sewing and
fitting by making her dolls clothes
with her own hands, and, above all, let
habits of observation and attention, Of
criticism and accuracy, and of Thought
and generalization be cultivated in her
from her earliest youth. LII thoroughly
trained in all these things, love. expert
ence, and common sense will lntultlvely
teach her all she should know of tie
great art of how to manage husband
when she first takes upon herself the
holy name of wife"
Harriet Beecher Stoves Views.
''Sam Slick says that managing wom-
Ell is like managing horses" said Mrs.
Harriet Beecher Stowe, when asked to
give her views. Gle says that the same
rules apply to both, and lays down the
following as golden precepts to be con-
stantIy borne in mind: Encourage
the timid, be gentle and steady with the
fractions, but lather the SuIky ones like
blazes.' Perhaps these rules would
apply equally well to the management
of husbands. The late Artemus Ward
used to tell good story of man who an
whip, and got badly managed himself
by the lady.
1--WE are all familiar with the anec-
dote of the young American wife who,
at the time when Thomas Hardy's best
novel was at the height of its pOpu-
larity, stepped into a bookstore on her
way home from shopping expedition
and then repaired to her dwelling and
presented her young husband with "A
Pair of Blue Eyes while young Irish
Wife,On her way home from hard days
washing. stopped INTO a whisky store
and then went to her residence and
gave her liege lord pair of black eyes.
But despite these noteworthy examples
the practice of managing husband by
physical force is not one to be com
mended, and, moreover, would be i'm
practicable in the greet majority of
cases. since the wife is usually the
weaker vessel.
Love and kindness. directed by in
telligence, good sense, and a tender,
delicate regard for his wishes, tastes
and feelings, guided by an intimate
knowledge of them, acquired by a pa
tient, close, and accurate observation
of his character, are the best factors to
employ i'll the management of hus-