The weekly intelligencer. [volume] (Lexington, Mo.) 1891-1901, 1891-09-05
CHAT WITH GIRLS.
A Lady Talks With Our Daughters,
Sisters and Sweethearts.
THE MOTHERS LONELY HOURS
How IL Mothers Love to the Girls
May BE Amply Repaid-Make u
Girl of MOther-lIaye Her
Share Your joys.

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400 you know, dear girls, that
mothers are, in spite of our
busy lives, very, very lonely ut
tunes? Not through the day so
much, perhaps (although it has hap
pened thcn,) but towards evening, when
supper is over, the evening work done
up, and we are ready to rest.
Now, know girls are not heartless
nor meaningly Indifferent to the one
who has sacrificed the best part of her
is Oftentimes mothers own fault that
she is left to herself during the few
idle moments she can call her own; for
she has grown accustomed to believe
herself ssin the way of the young folks
and no more thinks of enjoying their
merriment than / do of-of-not enjoy
ing all the good times can capture as
jog along.
SO, you see, don't think you young
matter, and | haven't come to scold,
but to point out TO you the great chance
that lies within reach of yoHr pretty
hands-a chance to do mother a vast
amount of good.
To make right start, feel that |
shall be obliged to confess that it's
Young America that rules the homes of
to-day-that the boys and girls govern
the social side of our present life IN
these United States, and I'm sure, so
patent is the fact to all, that my con-
fession will startle no one. Granted
tins is sO--it goes to prove that my
ideas are pretty correct, and that it
rests with s.the children to add to or
take from mothers comfort and
pleasure.
All her maternal life long mother
has thought only of you, dear girls
thought of your welfare, your happi-
ness, your health, your daily needs,
both material and spiritual-has labor
ed with heart, hands and brain to give
you the best she could secure from old
Time in his flight, and, now that you
have grown to girlhood, and can dc
those little Offices that she has alway'
so cheerfully and willingly done fol
YOU for yourselves, you can take you
! turn at ministering and do for her.
. To begin with, don't let mothel
think that she can be in the way, ol
mar your pleasure by her presence
Make her comprehend that she bu
, adds to the glee, and that her partici
{ patton gives to any frolic an augment
ed delight. Draw her into your youth
= full atmosphere in spite of herself-ant
right here let me whisper a secret
t She'd love to enter INTO all your gaisty
and in her heart longs for Il share il
Q all your bright doings; but she feel
/ (atid too often with reason) that she i
not wanted. and that she is considered
too old to be able to share in you
S joys. Too old! Girls, when your owl
$ age is what hers is now, your cheek
V will burn with the fire of Indignation
1 and remorse that you ever entertaine'
: such Il thought of her-and, with tn
f realization of that sense OF perpetua
T. youth that lives in the heart OF ever
a woman, you will regret all the hour
e YOU allow her to sit alone and lonely
e while YOU chat, and dance, and laugh
s and make merry, with no thought
: the generous, self-sacrificing soul who
within hearing of all your glad gaiety
II lives the life of recluse.
= At first mother may rebel; she ha
e kept herself in the background so Ion
d that she cannot bear to be pushed fol
/. ward into the heart of your gay world
d But do not be discouraged. Set inn'
Is cent little traps to catch her and, whe
n captured, fence her about with yor
d affectlonate persistence, and oblige he
i to take part, even though mt first it |
10 negative part only, in your merr,
n making. Let it be understood by yot
IN young companions that the one WI
r makes mother the happiest is your be
4. friend: that he who is most attentiy
s, who is quickest to see to her comfor
" who denies himself the pleasure of
E. young persons society, that he m;
ne the better devote himself to her for
id while during his call upon you is I'll
ID one who may look for your sweetc
X smiles and most gracious favors. An
IN how quickly the dear young fellow
re recognize this-indeed, you will lii
re no reader conspiratOrs in your worti
re schemmg than the manly youths wi
to bask in the sunlight of your brigh
young eyes. If, however, they cam
hide their sense of irritation ut q
presence of IN elder-be only glad tn
they have shown the cloven foot
lie time and as soon as possible drop the
k, out of your lives. An honest boy W
ly feel honored by the regard of one
in knows to be your fast friend--yo
to mother-and each fresh evidence
s. her trust in him will elevate him in
d. own eyes and give an added touch
as manliness to his developing charact'
er If mother has not in her possessi
e, those little tritles that give women
IN feeling of being prettily dressed, de
IL Yourself some Article of apparel 4
so supply her lack. Believe me, that t
bv beautiful laces placed thus about moi
IT, er's throat will not fail to enhar
nd your own true loveliness thousar
fold, and the gown you have had p1
he vided for her has no shining fold in
rk its rich draperieS that does not add
so your own real grace; for the spirit
rts beauty cmanating from such mselii'
To ness is like unto halo-a radial
Ied that the eyes of love are quick to :
nd Let mother be lonely no longer.
ke, -sist upon her sharing your youth
rs. inyS-Shc will he very Obedient-l
,cd long years of toll and anxiety will
sht away from her, and reflex ot y'
rrlhood glow from her sweet IN
rd, Take her into your heart and Ii
lty throw open the door standing betwt
Ike your youth and her maturity, and co;
cor ing her across the threshold lead'
csc from her aulumnal quictudc i'll y,
llv gay realm of Spring-time, keep
i've there until YOU, too, must turn, al
in leaving he enchanted land, with mo
raj er close beside you, enter into Wont
hood. MRS. eiAif