Telegram-herald. ([Grand Rapids, Mich.) 18??-1892, 1891-03-26

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has specEaclesN
II Ia EOs al deceit. u course she feels
happy, a81 the world has long slnos
ams0ded TIA ost proFerb lato Be happy
Aaa yeah be good. and, fally conseioas
that critical eyes and ears follow ksr
every actlos, she taxes pleasure in max
Ing Is an aiInIsaols one.
Bat II this asw departure CONES from
no deeper motive; i. Il fact It Is Only
one CO the deoeits II love, il Is woEss
than USELESS. Tor there IA nothing more
murdsroaS - hove than the nowlodse
that IL has been obtained by faLse pre-
lenses.
II, courtship over and marriage -stsb-
hsAesa. the bride gradually drops all ELs
aIalasle ana ready obserysnSee that 80
pleased her lover; II a Eippiag and peeg-
Isl temper succeeds u the sweet patience
he has admired, II she IA careless and
negligent toward her parents, now that
there Is nothing n ore - gain from them;
II she shows herself selash and indo-
lent and ansympathetic toward himself,
she NAY be sure that his d.5ll1sionment
Will De AL Nc moro RAPID and thorough
because he had been led 70 believe IN
other things.
No. If girl begins ~ decciving her
lover as 10 hsr own character she had
better resolve, in the interest of her own
comfort, % keep up tae deceit for life,
and never let him hnl out that any
other course Is possible 70 her. She may,
in fact, very wisely adapt 10 her own
career the advice, IF you are going 10
tell lie tell a good one, and then stick
TO it,"
And / have seen cases where this
course has been 50 successfully pursued
that tlse husband and the former friends
Of his wife remained at variance for life
as - Ser character; one looked upon the
golden. and the other upon, let Us say,
the (German) silver of the shield. and
neither could believe that the other saw
straight.
do not think men, even when in love,
make such Wholesale pretence Of
change OF heart rs this. In the first
place, they seldom think their own faults
are Objectionable. and in the next they
have lordly fashion Of expecting the
women to accept them, faults and all.
''How your coat always smells of to-
bacco smoker' says she. making a little
moue rs she withdraws from close con-
tact with said coat.
''Oh, no, it doesn't; went up in the
smoking room at tho club, but the wind
has blown it all away-you don't smell
it." replies he, which statement can
hardly DO called deceit, but is often ac-
cepted by the weaker vessel as satisfac-
tory.
No, mems deccits Of love are more
generally with regard TO the shady cor
ners OF their lives, past or present. Prob
ably no woman ever accepted a mans
love without 1T once demanding a con
feseion rs to his ever having proffered
love TO any other woman, etc.
Now there are very few men. very
few indeed, who both can and will an
swer these questions truthfully. Some
times there are tender memories which
he shrinks from Offering TO his new love,
as one might toss ball to kitten.
Sometimes he has loved where he could
not offer marriage, and honor demands
that the whole affair shall remain secret,
even from the wife of his Later life.
Sometimes there are dark and disgrace
full secrets which il would be suicide TO
reveal, and sometimes. one is ashamed
to confess, a aan deliberately plans TO
carry on two lives. with one Of which
the innocent girl he asks to marry him
has no concern.
In whichever Of these channels the
truth may run, 1t is pretty certain that
il will not come to the surface in reply
To the tender inquiries of the fair one,
and it is only very young or very
credulous woman who will believe,
though be swear it, that her lover has
never kissed other lips than hers, or
whispered love to other ears. Nor, to
my mind. is it altogether desirable that
IL should be true; the nature OF man is
versatile, and ais appetite IS omnivcrous;
his teeth are adapted fer the tearing of
lamb a. well as for the MASKING of straw
berries and cherries. If he has never tasted
the one or the other, be sure his instinct
viii impel him 10 do so first or last, and it
is better that is should have been before
we knew him than after we have com
mitted our own hearts TO his keeping.
But II this ornuiverors appetite has
been fully tested. and IL the strswber-
ries appeal to the palate more highly
than the stronger meats. there Is GER
tain amount of probability of constancy
in the lsst direction so long as the deli
cate fruit retains its sweet and allur,ng
flavor. But how foolish Of the human
strawberry TO insist upon those grinders
saying they had never crushed meat. or
those incisor' that they had never cut
into an apple or banana!
A man cannot be sincere as to his past
experiences If lie is no better than the
average man. and TO insist upon his be-
ing so Is 20 drive him into a labyrinth OF
decent, where to be sure he Is generally
quite content 10 dwell. But this deceit
is utterly urjustiiiable aud unpardona-
bic when it concerns not only the pact
bat the present and the proposed future.
A man, like q woman. may, under the
influence OF n real love, assume a char
sctcr which has never hitherto been his:
he may resolve sincerely TO close the
gates Of thoee dark ways wherein he has
hitherto walked. and 70 let his future
path be open 20 the light Of day and to
tue closest scrutiny Of his wife's eyes.
and although he does not quite truth
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