Telegram-herald. ([Grand Rapids, Mich.) 18??-1892, 1891-10-19

cry, wien We Know bow 10 serve IL
not with barharic Dsgnineenes aad
repletion. but with delicate sease Of
ftEess.
The frst duty Of guest who is asked
60 one Of these dinners Is to be punetusl
Who wishes 70 sit next Mr.. Many
Courses when he has been KEEP, waiting
for his dinner?
The hostess who knows how 10 invite
her guests ind 10 seat them afterwards.
Is power In the state. She helps to
refine, elevate and purify car great
American conglomerate.
She has not the Englsshman's Bible,
the Peerage. 10 help her seat her
guests. she must trust 10 her own in
tsiiigence to'to that Our great Amer
lean conglomerate repeis all idea Of
rank or the precedence" idea, which
is SO well understood in England Even
those more choice intelligences which
in older countries are put on glass
pedestals are not so elevated here As To
excite jealousy.
The highest grade of mediocrity Is
reached by this republican hostess 1t
Is not always safe rule at dinner 70
trust TO that.
Therefore the hostess has TO contend
with much that is puzzling In the seat.
ing of her guests.
But IL she says to herself: ~ will
place those people near each other who
are sympathetic" she win govern her
festive board with the intelligence OF
Elizabeth and the generosity Of Queen
Margharita.
The number of guests invited is an
other very important item OF course
this depends on the size of the dining
room and the wealth Of the giver. Ter
is a good number for small dinner and
easily managed. One good waiter. al
most two. get on easily. TweAty-four
people often sit down az modern din
ner-table and are well served by but
Ter and two men, although some luxur.
ious dinner givers have q man behind
each chair. That, however, in this
country. seems to SAVIOR of ostcntation.
dinner should be good basis for
mutual understanding. They say that
few great enterprises have been con-
ducted without it. People are sure &c
like each other much better after din
ing together. 1t is better to go nome
from dinner remembering how clever
everybody vas than to 20 home merely
10 wonder at the opulence that could
compass such q pageant.
A dinner should put every one ints
his best talking condition. The quipa
and quirks of excited fancy should come
gracefully. for society well arranged
brings about the attrition Of wits. II
one is comfortable aud well fed-not
gorged-he is in his best condition.
The more civilized the world gets the
more difficult it is to nmuse it. 1t is the
common complaint of the children OF
luxury that dinners are dull and society
stupid.
How can the reformer make society
more amusing and less tiresome?
The danger and trials and difficulties
of dinner-giving are manifold.
First, whom shall we ask? VIII they
come? 1t is often the fate of hostess
in the busy season to invite forty peo-
pie before she gets twelve. Having got
the twelve she then has perhaps few
days before tho dinner to receive the
unwelcorae news that Jones has a cold
/ Mrs. Brown has lost a relative and
Miss Malcontent has gone to Washing
! ton. The dinner has to be reconstruct
ed; deprived of it's original intention it
becomes q balloon which has lost bal
last. II goes drifting about and there
I is no health in it, and no purpose.
This is especially true also Of those dim
ners which are conducted on dcbt-pay-
lag principles:
How many hard-worled rich men in
America are bored to death by the gild-
ed and overburdened splendor of their
wives dinners and those to which they
/ are to CO. They sit looking at their
hands during two or three courses, poor
dyspeptics who cannot eat To relieve
I them. to bring them into communion
with their next neighbor with whom
they have nothing in common, what
shall one do?
And every body should go to . dinner
intending to be agreeable.
/ Zen ut q dinner, some will be urbIessed,
I However good the viands. and well dressed,
/ They always come to table With . sccwl,
I SGuin. with face OF verjuicc. DER each dish.
I Fault the poor flesh. and quarrel with the asa,
4 Curse cock. and wife. and loatainC. eat AID
grovl."
Such men should never be asked
/ twice, yet snch were DIR. johnson. and
i later on Abraham Hayward, invited
! out every night of their lives. II In a
4 poor requital for hospitality to allow
I any personal ill-tefnper TO interfere
with the pleasure OF the feast. Some
hostesscs send around the champagne
early 70 unloosen the tongues. and this
has generally good effect II the party
be dull. Excessive heat in a room is
the most beuumbing Of all overveights.
Let the hostess have plenty of oxygen
To begin with.
Now, for a little informal dinner of
eight, we might suggest thatthe hostess
writes:
DrAe Mas suIlrvAr.-wm yoa and Mr..
Sullivan dine With us On Thursday ~ half 3 asst
seven 70 meet AR and Mrs Evsrts quite In
forms.Iyf Ever yours truly.
MARI MONTGOMERY.
This accepted. which IL should be in
the first person cordially, as il is writ
ten. let as see what we would have for
dinner:
saerry. scup-scrrci "a + essence De vesu).
Holsters. sa1te a In Bonueyfoy. Chablis.
Veal Outlets. IA zirgara
Fried PotzosS Champagne,
Roast Red Head Duess Cnrraat Jelly,
Clar.i Carried Celery in glasses Olives.
Cheese, saiad
Ffezen Pudding
Grapes
OR II ron please. . brown soup. . whlteash
Or bass. roiied Saddle Of mutton, . pair a
swafrfs esfekene aut saEsi