Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1891-04-30
WOMAN'S FADS AND FANCIES
"Bab" Discourses Upon q
Variety of Topics.
THE WOMAN WHO is POPULAR
And She Who is Liked by
Men.
Creepy Things for Feminine yeils--rhe
shoclsingly Realistic in the Drama--It
VIII Prove Boomerang--some Funny
Things in the World.

Special Correspondence Gazette and journal
NEW YORK, April PA don't believe
that the men of this world are credited
with being half as good as they are.
THE WOMAN LIKED BY MEN.
The natural instinct of man is to hs
a home and companion. Nine tiG
out of ten, instead OF this, he DO
a hall room in aboarding houss
and he has 70 take Whatevel
company he can. Very often h6l
knocks round, here, there and every
where, for while, then some day he
meets woman who is more or less
pleasant and who has the art Of making
him feel contented, and he devotes mostst
of his time after that to her. Everybody
holds up their hands In horror, and yet !
if you boil the whole thing down you
find out that the poor chap did as he
was doing because he was lonely. Then
why don't women get lonely2 Well,
they do; but the woman in the same
position in life gets into her room, re- /,
members that her frock needs new
binding; she is crocheting pair of Slip
pers, and she Is going to write letter
home, and as she has usually done con-
siderable talking during the day, she is
not consumed with the desire to talk all
evening. The man, however, as naslr-
ally longs for the companionship OF
woman, when he is lonely, as ne does
for water when lie is thirsty; real
thirsty, the sort Of thirst that only water
satisfies. don't see any remedy for it.
MODERN LIFE IN BOARDING HOUSES.
The unfortunate wretch says mar
riage is too expensive and The average
woman keeps on making him belieYe
that. He don't see any possibility of
making a home in a boarding bouse,
which is about as difficult 20 do as to
make home on the top of Cleopatra's
Needle. People have been happy in
boarding houses, but they can't make
homes there. Homes are not made for
the multitude, and that's the t,son CO.
operative housekeeping will leYer be
success. You know where it is sue
cessg Well then there is something
wrong with the people. But l can't
help thinking about that young man.
He may be your son or mine, and his
excuse for whatever he does, that of
loneliness, is pitiful one | can't offer
the remedy. | can only say to people
who have homes, think of this boy once
in while and let him into the charmed
circle, make him as far as possible one
of yourselves, let him see good women
and kind women, so that he won't ask
as did one wretched young fellow, "Are
there any good women in the worldg"
And when some one said his mother, he
answered with sigh, ooh, of course,
but then mother don't count"
THE WOMAN WHO is POPULAR.
Part of the trouble is that in a great
desire to be clever and charming, the
average woman forgets to be comfort
able, and it is the comfortable woman
who keeps mankind straight. She
mayn't know very much about Darwin
or Homer, but the woman who knows
how to say and do pleasant thing, the
woman who knows how to make man
feel at ease, is the one who is going TO
have the greatest control over him.
There is here woman who is not par
ticularly beautiful, who barely speaks
decent English, and who is said to have
the most marvellous power over men.
Fortunes have come to her, and
everybody has wondered why. I
had the curiosity to ask man who
knew her. said, ''there are five hun
dred women who are better looking,
thousands who are better educated, and
yet about this woman the men gather as
the bees do about the sugar. What's
the secret ?" And he answered: "A
pleasant manner. She always has an
agreeable greeting when you meet her,
she is sufficiently full of tact to put an
end to a disagreeable topic, ana no man
ever saw her out of temper. She's thor
oughly comfortable Now there, my
friends, is a woman for you to initiate
in some things. 1t is the old story of
the charmeuse not of necessity bein%
lovely to look upon.
HINT FOR THEATRICAL MANAGERe-
Do you go much to the theatrse fa
you do, have you noticed the tendency
to present plays In which hereditary dis
eases are made the subjects of great inn
portance2 And don't you think that it
is absolutely dreadful? We all like to
go to laugh at farce, to mix tears and
laughter at a good melodrama, to see
virtue triumphant and vice conquered;
but we don't go to hear a heroine give
the full details of hereditary insanity, or
pathetically cough through five acts and
dilate on the horrors of consumption. A
manager shows lack of business tact
when he presents such play. He does
not know who in that audience he is
hitting. There are few families that
nave nOV ldu elJuer consumption OF IN
sanity somewhere in them, and the
woman who may be crying next to me
is not crying because of the play, but is
crying because it brings up to her such
dreadful memories and such horrible
thoughts. When she goes home you can
be very sure she is going to keep the
rest of the family from going there She
doesn't want everybody else to have
their foelinps hurt as hers have been and
that's why it shows a lack of business
to put such play before the
public.
THEATRES WORST BOOMERANG.
Nobody would invite a friend who
wished to have merry evening to the
room of hospital, and yet
that's exactly what's done when
woman is taken to see one of
these medical horrors inappropriateiy
called plays. Have a motive in your
play if you wish. But let it be moral,
not a physical one. Dilate as much as
you please about the wrong of lying, of
stealing, of killing, and of wickedness
Of all kinds, but don't make your mo-
tive an illness of the body that is trans
mitted from father to son, or from
mother to daughter. You are sending
put boomerang, Mr. Manager, IFS
going to hit too many people in the
audience, and it is one that will tlv back
and knock out the receipts In the loS
office. The people who argue that III. ,
playhouse should be .. teacher forget
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