Telegram-herald. ([Grand Rapids, Mich.) 18??-1892, 1891-04-05
ABOUT ELOPENENTS
Why Refined Young Women Run
Away With coaehmsn.
ANGELS ENTERTAINED UylgARES
What 4 ats Z pssa Clark h AZ to Say Upon
Bhis saoJset-Aa Article fhat Win
Ne az tnssrsst to Asthsrs AID
DAught as Well.


pretty woman Is enough 70 set 1t in
blaze"
IL may DO similarly suggested that the
hearts OF most young maiaens are ready
formed shrines for heroes.
IL stands 20 reason. then. that IL the
young man has no sweet. pure girl 20
sst The ready kindlings ahght, and il good
material for her hero is not forthcoming.
Philotes viii Sc, fire to the one. and al
most any cpe who happens along, I'M
worthy though no may be. Will. IN the
absence Of the true Roland. play tho
hero 10 the ceaer.
The moral 10 all thoughtful parents
should be plain. Do not drive your
young people 10 construct their earthly
idols Of such coarse materials. All OF
your moralizing and Of the palnstaking
religious instruction which you have
presumably given are useless unless you
pursue q libsral. practical course with
your children IN regard 70 society. You
may wish them never 10 marry. but you
cannot force them 10 this position by
keeping them away from young COM
panlons. In dozen Indirect WAYS you
may impress upon them the undesirable
ity Of matrimony. but they almost ineyi-
taoly VIII be piqued into contrariness if
they are socially starved or openly for
hidden.
And il you do wish your children 10
marry happily when the proper time
comes, rs almost al good parents DO. you
are surely wrong not to give them the
best opportunities in your power to be-
come acquainted with other young peo-
pie in their own station in life.
Il do not wonder at it," said a wise
matron, when a young girl of good fam
lily eloped with an ignorant coachman.
Her parents have been so terribly afraid
that she would fall in love with some
body that they have scarcely ever allowed
her 10 SPEAK with young man. Her
elopement is only the legitimate result
of her isolation"
Another young girl in luxurious
home, a girl with n beautiful face, cool
mind and with many social advantages
possible to her, if her parents would coun-
tenance them, is on what the physicians
call IA decline" One sensible friend Of
the family declares that the trouble is
simply ''iranition." Her father and
mother have guarded her from all gen.
eral society. rs though it were some sort
of u poison. She travels in private cars
and closed carriages. She is taken yacht
ins with her parents. and perhaps q CON-
panion or two Of her own age ard sex;
she is allowed occasionally to attend
lawn parties and luncheon parties Of
yoang women, but she is kept ava,
from even the best brought up young
men, as though the poor. innocent young
fellows were deadly plague.
The young of the human race are SO
constituted that neither their bodies nor
their minds are healthy unless they have
a proper amount of society. The normal
and simple condition EXISTS when in the
large, patriarchal family Of boys and
girls the friends of all are back and forth
in the house, and little gatherings for
playing games, pulling candy and learn
ing lessons together are constantly going
on under the wise supervision and with
the participation Of the older members of
the households Interested IL is in these
sad new days of forlorn families Of one
or two spindliny, idolized, spoiled darl-
ings where the complications have arisen
which furnish the text for articles like
this.
In the hospitable Christian home,
where there is always the chance that
angels are being entertained unawares,
there Is likely to be very little trouble in
this direction. Children become accus-
toned to different kinds Of people, and
when they in turn become parents they
learn 10 know and TO practice upon the
truth OF Ihackeray's saying: "No train
ing is SO useful for children. great or
small. as tho company of their betters in
rank or natural parts, in whose society
they lose that overwhelming sense of
their own Importance which stay-at-
home people commonly learn" They
como 10 see that Is is in some sort a lib
eral education TO meet often with the
refined and cultivated OF whatever age.
and to discriminate between sach and
the vulgar and uninstractcl They will
never be driven for the lack OF knowing
better TO marry coachmen aud waiting
maids.
II is not denied that many co1chmen
and waiting maids are superior 70 some
Of the denizens OF Murray Hill and Beacon
street: nevertheless, one does not wish
to have ores daughters and sons marry
into these two classes Of
society until they have had ample op-
p0rtunity to compare them with other
young persons. and are satisfied that
and waiting maids are just
what they want.
Avoid large midnight parties The
vision Of this advice Is being recognized
by many even who move in the best
society. A prominent New
York uatron recently issued cards for a
dancing party for -four Young daughters
On which the hours were given AZ from
nine to twelve
Ia fact. something like this Is getting
70 be recognized ss necessary. IL one
would have plenty Of young men for
sach entertainments Nearly all our
desirable vounz nleu are workers They
cannot dance until two or three in The
morning. an res be clear headed for
their business or their lzw hooks The
next day The nee girls ike bat the
rouog men who work for living. Il Is
said. That nay "a cue reason for the
Improvement in party hours. bnt il is
siss true thsf oor1z non ser<e uss never
rfors Poverfsl and Ill prevailing tHan
slse il n tbs rear q 1891.
II ron have n yonr family Young
pecrle q fre-a ten - twenty vears old.
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