Arizona republican., 1891-05-24
FAVORITE WOMEN. Dol Demonstrative Women Attract Men? An Interesting Article on
 the Subject. Old Time Young Ladies and the Girl of the PeriOd-My
 Friends Child.

 lCopyright, 1891, by American Press Associa-
 tion.l
 Twas extremely amused one day, when sitting with mother and daughter whom rank among my dear friends, at little bit of cynicism that came from the fresh young lips of the girl. Her mother, whose ideas and practice are largely based upon the innocence of Eden, was reproving her daughter for having been, as she fancied, little too forward in accepting young mans at tentions and an invitation to ride with him, and finally, with tremendous as- sumption of worldly wisdom, she said:
 1t Is a great mistake girls are making nowadays in being so accessible. Men don't value them half so much, or try half so hard to please them, for they see that they can please without trying, so why should they trouble themselves? If girl is cold and reserved and draws back, the men will be piqued into pur suit and exertion."
 Bravo, little mammaT cried the saucy daughter, clapping her hands and glancing at me, while, I am ashamed to say, joined in her merriment. "You have at last asserted your position as the cruel parient' and administered a crushing rebuke to your rebellious child! Bread and water, a locked cell, and per haps salutary chastisement must soon follow unless 1 reform. But, darling little mother, while you have been con cocting all that worldly wisdom the world has moved on, and nous auons change tout cela"-
 "Who's 'nousg" interrupted my friend. "The man or the woman?"
 ''The man frst-on the lead, as it were"-
 .'Slang!"
 "Yes, dear, just little one,' you know. But if the lords of creation take the lead what can we docile and sub missive inferior creatures do but follow? I'm sure that's good orthodox doctrine" Well, but over what course are they on the lead?" interposed I, anxious to get at the girls theory.
 "Why, they don't like the delicate re- serve and chilly dignity which mamma says was the favorite bait in her young days"
 My daughterr'
 "Oh, you didn't say bait, did you, tits nadmmdnS We'll, the men don't pursue and seek and all the rest of it worth a cent in these days, and girl who under takes those tactics is just left to enjoy her own chilly dignity in her own cold corner. In fact she's left out in the cold altoge H.J'."
 "Then the men like demonstrativ, women better than modest maidens, do theyT' asked my friend a little tartly, for few mothers like to be laughed at as old fashioned by their own daughters. The girl, too, was just little touched, and replied more seriously:
 "Oh, if you say modest that's quite another thing l fancy we're quite as modest as the 'prunes, prisms and pro priety' maidens, as you call them, of the last generation, but we're heap jol- Her.
 "Oh, childw
 "Yes, mamma, but what l want to convince you of is that men have grown at once lazier and more requiring than they were in your young days. They expect the girls to come quite half way to meet them, and if we don't they just turn to some one who will"
 'In fact, they lie under the tree and open their mouths waiting for the plums to drop in" suggested I, and my little friend replied with a sagacious nod:
 Exactly so, although good many of them won't take the trouble to open their mouths; they expect the plum to come and bump them openP
 And the plums are willing to accept the situation, are they| demanded her mother SCOT: ~Ylly.
 "Well, they don't want to wither on the tree," airily replied Missie with a gleeful glance at me.
 Driving home l revolved the question in my own mind, Was Missie right. or was her mo 'her? And I think l con cluded that the girl was correct as to facts and the mother as to theory.
 Certainly the ideal relation of man and maid is for her to smile sweetly from a balcony, and he to risk his neck in
 
 where she flies pursues"-the knight, after making humble protestations of his fealty, is put upon probation, and travels the world around to prove him. self worthy, never turning so much as the "tail of his eye" upon any other beauty, and coming back after seven years or so to receive his reward. Jacob served fourteen years for Rachel, and, as the Good Book tells us, thought 1t a mere trife compared with his love for her.
 But Jacobs are scarce in these days, and knights are generally more errant than faithful. A Penelope who sent her Ulysses away to seek fame and wealth in these days might knit and ravel Q great many tidies before she would wei come him back, and he would never re- sist Gree.
 l don't know why it is, but it is a painful truth that women are not wooed in these days so earnestly as they used to be, and are won much more easily.
 Is it because there are so many more of them in proportion to the men, or be- cause theT expect so much more when 1t comes to question of marriage?
 Or is,t that as our country grows older we are falling into the customs of those more mature civilizations where mar yiage is business affair. and the parents