Telegram-herald., 1891-06-09


seen the husband, and the first evening
Jaw very tired. rather erors looking
and mach laden man psod mp tie door
steps Ia q rain. Her friend saw him. too.
and shriekpg. oh. there's my honey
p.DtF" she rushed into the hall aud went
through the exercises mentioned above.
but In the midst Of her ordinations
came another voice. low and growly in
its tones. yet quite audible In the parlor:
Love me a lot, don't you. Bessie?'
"Oh. yes. yes, yes my own, own dear
est love! And you love your Bessie. don't
you. darling"
Yes, bat IL she didn't love mequite
som1ch. perhaps should love her more
was the reply; whercat Bessie laughed
as AZ a good joke.
OF course the man was o brute 10 say
such thing; bot, oh. dear me. how
many men think il, and don't say III
Men are predatory ANIMALS, loving 10
hunt, 20 pursue. TO capture, and to hold
by main force, and the moment the
prey ceases TO resist, the interest Of the
conquest IS over. All the hunters Of big
game tell us that the only chance Of
safety for the victim Of lion, tiger,
bear. on other beast Of prey. is to remain
perfectly passive and inert beneath his
claws, the least resistance rouses his en-
ergies, and he soon enforces o quiet never
10 be disturbed. The same instinct in
q modified form is TO be traced in the
lord Of creation; he only pursues while
the dear creature runs away, and dis
dams victim that is only too glad to re-
main in his grasp.
Amy msn constantly assured that his
wife lives, moves. breathes and has her
being solely in him; that she has fund
of cssresses and honeyed words always at
high water mark and eager for an out
let, becomes FIRST calmly confident, then
careless. and at the last bored and sur
feited by sweets for which he never is
allowed to get up an appetite by fasting.
l once travelled in company with q
somewhat cynical, but very delightful
man. who, as we neared the shores Of
orr native land, remarked:
Il wish the first twenty-four hours
after my arrival were well over! II is
SO hard to come up TO the expected mark
Of enthusiastic atfection!"
And vet this man had wooed his wife
with the ardor and perseverance of a
hero of romance The trouble was that,
whereas she had been a coy and coquet-
fish maiden, she was a very demonstra-
tive wife. and had choked out her hus-
bands affection with a perennial flood of
her own.
But often enough the establishment
comes from the other side, and results
from perverted idea of marital obIga-
tons
A man who is paying his addresses to
a young girl, or even TO an older woman,
holds himself under constant restraint
in all conversation bordering upon sub
jects unfit for an innocent and delicate
minded woman's ears. The stories, the
jests, the songs, the conundrums which
alleviate the tolls of the Office. the count
ing Yoom, the lunch counter, the club,
the bachelor dinner or the little supper,
are most vigorously ruled out from tho
conversation with which the man enter
tains his betrothed or any other respect
able woman. But the betrothed becomes
the wife, and all in a minute the new
made husband emancipates his tongue
from all reserves, throws aside all care
as TO whether what he has to say is tit
for the ears of carefully educated girl,
brings home the story, the jest, the con-
versation that only last week he would
have felt it an insult to repeat in her
presence. astonishes, shocks, repels her
in all her finer nature, and excuses HIM
self, if she demonstrates, by saying:
You know we're all one person now,
so l needn't mind what say"
But the girl is the same girl from
whom all toarseness or indelicacy has
been carefully kept, and she has never
realized that such matters could be
spoken of, FAR less that they are the
habitual Conversation of large class Of
men. including her own especial man.
Probably. poor little soul, she has ideal
lied this man into one of those heros de
roman never met with outside of ro-
nance or a young girls imagination;
she has fancied that he is so much bet
ter, wiser and stronger than she; that
her one great effort must be to keep up
with him. to Climb to his level. They
marry-his pursuit is over, and he throws
aside the fine costume of the chase, puts
on his soiled workaday clothes, lights
his pipe. and throwing himself upon the
couch with his heels higher than his
t,,a g..
of the new stories and delicate jests
with which 'the fellows" greeted his rs
turn among them. She, during this, his
first day of absence from her, has been
arranging the little souvenirs they have
brought home from the wedding jour
ney. putting away his clothes in the
chiffonier, not without some shy bluahes
and smiles that such matters should now
become her recognized duty, and in look
ing out two or three poems she means to
read to him this evening.
Just fancy the disiIlusionmenti Just
fancy how the hero de roman becomes a
fading phantom; how the feet Of clay oil
at once become moro conspicuous than
the head Of gold; how she feels insultei
and frightened and bewildered, and then
blanaes herself that she should feel 80,
and tries TO believe that she is poor. ig-
norant little fool, and that whatever her
husband thinks right to say to her must
be right
And 80 beoius in that womsn's hecrt a
conflict which more often than not eadi
by the destruction a all that VIVA les
and finest in her love. She may ueve1
car Il arnr, 20 hnrsaK hit abe knnNlA liz