The state herald., 1890-08-29
IA GREAT MISTAKE.
Thu Marriage of People Who Are Net
Equal.
Or Whose Tastes Arc Not Of Similar Char.
aeeer-xaud Hows Write, Ct Some Of tho
Errors Of cho,ing Life Partasr--Maud is
Peculiarly Particular.

Errors Of cho,ing Life Partasr--Maud is
Peculiarly Particular.
So much is said In these days on the
subject OF happy and unhappy mar.
ringes, that every thinking person is
forced to give the matter Of judicious
and injudicious marriage not little
thought Among thoso writer's who
have touched upon IT. We find the
Usual types Of tho languld sentiment
mlist the perblind pessimist. the
cheerful optimist. the cynic. the satir-
ist. the man Of the world. and the SIM
pie, honest expounder Of common
sense. All OF these have said their
say. all Of them so fully and some OF
thcm 80 we'll that, wero tho subject IL
less vital one, it might vol DO called
threadbare.
There are, however, 90 many sides
to this question that there is always
something moro 10 DO said about it on
one head or another.
There is no hard-and- inst rulo that
can DO given TO secure happy mar
riage. Who has not seen the most UNI
likely matches. which have proved
wonderfully happy? Even tho old
youth and Grabbed ago
Cannot dwell together"
10 proved false now and then. Thorc
are notable instances Of tho happiest
unions between June aud January. ind
/ have known some when tho wife was
many years tho elder II we can give
no rule to insure successful welded
life there 10 one that We can give
which will not often fail to insure the
reverse. Where the balance OF the
power Ia In the hands OF tho intellect.
ually Inferior trouble Is very sure to
onsuo.
As IN instance, tako the casc-to
which there are many parallels Il
woman OF sensitive nature. who is by.
descent and education progressively
intellectual. mated with man who is
far behind her in quality md capacity
OF brain, but who Is endowed with u
massive unreasoning will, aud who is
materially the master OF the siluu,ion.
possessed OF fortune. whilo his wife
Is dowcrlcss. lie Is not intelligent
enough TO realize the unimpor,ancs
tbctween husband wlie) OF the
money question; everything that she
receives comes in the form OF gift
from him to her He gives her every
new dress. every jewel, every knick-
knack she possesses. and yet never
lets her feel that anything is hers in
her own right. but that they are hold
rs II vassnl holds his goods in fcalty
from his lord. Iio would be the Gus
todian not only OF her person and pos
sessions. but OF her mind ns well.
She must not read tho books OF such II
writer nor hear the teachings OF such
master; sho must not think their
thoughts. she must not hold their doe
trincs. What he believes, what his
mother believed. 1t is fitting and prop.
err that his wife should believe.
II tho wife finds IL. on the whole.
easier 70 yicld an outward compliance.
whilo ut heart sho rebels against hnv-
Ing her mind compressed. like n Chi
ncse woman's foot, she leads double
life. Externally ppssiYeiY. submissive.
In reality defiant aud dlsobcdient-this
means deceit. and deceit means unhnp.
plness, u gradual growing apart, II
coolness which too 0'tcn haricns into
aversion. On the other hand. II he
wife have high spirit aud will not
stoop to u ticlt lie. We havc open war
fare. the saddcst, tho most terrible Of
all strife
She refuses TO measure lie by his
small standards; she insists on her
rights OF FREQ und independent thought;
she Is willing 10 obey and serve him
for thrce-aud- twenty hours out OF the
day. but she claims the twenty fourth
for the freedom Of her own soul-he
denies the claim nothing but mira
clio can save them. The miracle Is
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