The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1890-11-02
To the Editor Of the Eagle.


Men say they have no curiosity; so they
will not read this article when they see il
Is not for them, but for my own sex. Sc
girls am going to tell you secret which
has more power to make you beautiful
than all the Bloom of Youth" you ever
bought. 1t is this: Don't be jealous. You
can't afford to be, because it makes you
disconnected, ugly and unhappy; it etches
lines OF peevishness around your mouth; it
takes the loneliness out of your eyes and
puts there suspicion and distrust; it spoils
the curve of your red lips; it clouds you
internal vision with smoke and you see
things dark, distorted and bent; it gives
you bad digestion and sallow complex
ION; 1t makes you disposed to attribute bad
motives to any person you inspect.
Jealousy and its accompanying fancies
are as consuming fire. OF all the pas
sions of the mind these are the worst They
will burn up all the good thoughts in you
What is a trihing indisposition in he girl
becomes chronic disease in the woman.
The peachy bloom of your girlish beauty
does not last long, and you will not have
! its kindly screen later in life, and you will
| find when you reach middle age
you will be just as anxious to be sweet
and lovable, as you are now at sixteen, so
| your beauty must depend on your good
ness, intelligence and nobility. Begin
now, to cultivate seeing the good, loving
the good, ard being the best you can. Dc
not think the change of things about you
will make you happy; it is the mind
which gives contentment; and If you
nourish morbid fancies nothing will bring
you happiness. Observe your masculine
friend; how comfortable he is 1t is not
easy to ruffie his complacency; he don't
worry over trifies like you do; he is not
often jealOus-how we all hate jealous
hearted man, and how much less patience
we have with him than he has with u.s.
You are more susceptible than your friend,
so you are more easily wounded. You are
more suspicious than he is because you
are more preceptive than he, hence you
have many more grievances, more or
less illusory, as the case may be-
You are not willing for your
sweetheart to know or appreciate,
any other woman in the world. Now, my
dear, don't begin life with the ERRONEOUS
idea, that there is a man on this earth who
is going to be so devoted to you, for any
length of time, that he will not see the
other pretty women, and ind time to adj
mire them. 1t is bad policy to make him
afraid TO say so to you when he meets an
admirable woman. and he would never
have chosen you, if he had not been able TO
discriminate between "A loving face, and an
unloving one. You are afraid his love
won't wear? We will suppose it is love
worth taking care of, or a girl of your re-
finement would never have allowed your
elf to care for him in the first place. SO
think it is not making too strong a state
ment when say if it does not wear that it
is your own fault. Beauty has great pow
er, but soul and intellect have more. You
will be able to keep any love which you
may be able to inspire, if you have some
good thoughts in that little heart of yours
to shine out of your eyes. Don't depend
on your pretty face to keep an intelligent
mans love. He is not going to be salts
fled with you unless he can make a COM
panion of you and can talk with you
about things in which he is interested; if
his highest ambitions and best thoughts
do not receive your encouragement and ~
probation, you can make up your mind
that he won't be true TO you, and the first
girl he meets who sympathizes with him,
and whom he can treat as an equal, will
take him away from you, even If she isn't
half so pretty. But when the love Of two
people is based upon a mental affinity it
promises eternal fidelity.
Jealousy never accomplished anything
1t never vet brought back a mans love;
but it can drive away love quicker than
any otter fault 1t will flatter him at first, |
but he will soon get tired of it and seek |
pleasanter company There is nothing
man hates more than TO be continually |
having little scenes about things of this |
kind. You must make man comfortable. |
or he won't worry if he don't see you more |
than once a month. Don't be enviOus. |
And above all. don't speak i'll of your sex
to a man; he don't like you for 4
it, and nothing makes him the 4
champion of your rival 50 quickly. /
II because of idleness, or a morbid mental 1
that you are jealous; it Is not 4
natural Where there is knowledge Of 4
actual wrong done, or disrespect shown 4
you, there is no JEALOUSY; you are outraged, 4
and you don't want any more /
Of that man. Ii is the suspicion of some
thing you don't wart to know, which in
your heart you don't believe, but which,
for some unaccountable reason, you try TO
find out, is that which makes up the pois-
onous petty jealousies
Hand in glove with jealousy goes gossip
ping Oh! the untold evil bit of mali
cious gossip, blown about by an i'll wind
IAN do. Put guard over your tongue
before you learn to do it by bitter expert
ance. 1t is so ill-bred TO gossip, TO say
nothing OF its being unchristian. Ques-
ton If a tale-bearer be better than a thief
Do not associate with woman addicted
% this vice. for the world has too many no
Die women in it for you TO waste Your time
With those who are glad TO tell Of peoples
nisfortunes. and who skim the filth of hu-
nanity to make it part of their life and
thoughts. There is only one way to be
happy and that is to be busy. Now take
pattern after your sweetheart, he
owes you "awfully," but he don't
1--WE YOU near all his thoughts:
7ou are only one Of his many interests Of
life: he has too many bright things to
.hink of, to get morbid; true, there is a
wider field for him Uolabor in. but i hardly
.hink all girls do as much as there is for
hem to do. Try first TO know yourself
md what accomplishment you have the
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