The Sunday herald and weekly national intelligencer., 1890-04-13
A LAY SERMON BY BAB.
HER SENSIBLE IDEAS ON MARRIAGE
AND DIVORCE.
Our Divorce Laws Too Loose-What Makes
Woman nLovable-woman's Duty to Her
Husband-Is Queen Victoria Right
Pretty woman's Spring bonnet.

Special Correspondence of SUNDAY HERALD.
New YORK, April II, 1890.
We regard this as a progressive age. We
believe we know more than any people in the
world, and every woman's daughter among us
would scofT at the idea of not being better
political economist than was her grandmother.
And vet she saves her money in the same way
and secretes it in precisely the same place.. G.,
her stocking. You think this isn't true =? Well,
then, you haven't seen the last new thing in
stockings. Way on the upper part of the leg is
set cute little pocket, with lap that buttons
over, and in this Mademoisele may put away
the roll of bank notes that represents her win
ter's savings.
WHERE WOMEN CARRY THEIR MONEY.
Women have always had curious ideas about
where to keep money when travelling. know
one who travelled from New York to Florida
with two thousand dollars between the sole of
her foot and her stocking and she slept with
her stockings on. Another one always pinned her
money Just inside her corsets until she was told
that If she tainted anywhere the first thing
good Samaritan would do would be to unloosen
her bodice and stays, and then some wicked
Pharisee would discover the ducats and grab
them. Since she has heard this she has taken
to pinning the fortune to the back of her cor
sets, claiming that, even il she were taken i'll,
as she would be laid flat on her back, insensi-
BILE or not, she would be sure of her treasure.
Women never appreciate the value of check
until it is cashed 1t doesn't seem like money
to them, and 1 feel certain that if the average
woman were offered her choice between five
hundred dollars in notes and thousand in
check and both were before her and she had
no time to think it out much, she would choose
tbo Er-o opdo Ind cl,a bad ha host
of the bargain. There is no exaggeratlon in the
story Of woman who, on hearing somebody
say that diamond cost fifteen hundred dollars,
asserted: "Oh, no. am sure 1t cost more than
that am sure it was something over thou
sand -
OUR LOOSE DIVORCE LAWS.
Somebody gave not very long ago what was
jocularly called ''divorce dinner,n as each
guest had either been divorced or had married q
divorce. The newspapers seemed to regard
ths as very funny. To anybody who thought
about it, itwas sad beyond expression. Do peo-
pie 90 to the altar and swear to be faithful to
each other, to honor each other, and to love
each other, only to go, after few years, into
the divorce court and show the world at large
that the faith was worthless the honor was dis
honor and the love was merely agross passion ?
Do men breathe vows of affection to women
only TO jest at them afterward? Do women
write words of love to men-words that seem to
come from their very hearts-only to have these
letters reproduced in the daily paper to make
glad the reader of petty scandals and to delight
those who enjoy the washing of soied linen il
public If had my way l would have every
State in the Union as is one Southern one, be
lieye-that is, without any divorce law The
facility with which divorce is gotten makes
every needless girl, every ghtless-tempered
man, flee to it to straighten out what is consd
cred their wrongs; whereas, if those two people
firmly believed that the oaths they had takeI
were forever, and that nothing but death coult
break them, they would be much less likely t.
so soon grow dissstifed with each other
WHAT MAKES WOMAN LOvABLE.
A woman learns to be forgiving, gentle, ant
considerate when she thinks that she wants he
husbands love forever, and man who finds thi
IN his wife is very apt to think more Of what vii
please her, and to regulate his habits, conside
his words and deeds with reference to her who
10 be the partner of his joys and sorrows throug
all his life. There are, of course, aggravate
cases where separation may be necessity, bu
il should only be a separation, legal one pro
tecting the wife and her children, but permit
hing neither to marry again. II this were tn
Law people would consider better when the
married. and divorce, please God, would be III
known.
DIVORCED WOMEN AT ESGLASD'S COURT.
have no personal liking for Queen Victor
but ! must say do think she is doing her dut
in refusing to receive divorced woman at cour
Understand this means woman who, throug
her own fault, has been divorced by her husbaI
OH the charge of adultery, and not one who, fl
Ghe same reason, has divorced him. Her Majes
welcomes the first Duchess Of Marlborough wit
Outstretched hands, while to the second one, wi
married divorced man, there Is no greeting Wha
ever. This distinction is keenly understood
England and in France, and the divorced one
eeiyes more or less social ostracism, while L
one who has done the dyorcng retains all soci
privileges. Here the same distinction is II
made, and as things go to-day people who a
divorced seem To be as gladly welcomed as if
such blot rested upon them Severe? | dor
think So
WHAT MARRIAGE REALLY MEANS.
Marriage will never be a perfect success
Dong as divorce is so prevalent. | say ''p
Faent" adyisedly because | think it, like
other malignant diseases, is contagious. .
ardent believer in marriage, yet maintain IL
marriage must be for good and for bad. III
itself is like an April day, half shower, half da
clouds, half sunshine, ending up with the Be
of Promise, which God himself has set in I
heavens as a sign. Now, when you take pa
ner for this day you want one with whom y