Lawrence democrat. (Lawrenceburg, Tenn.) 1884-1925, 1890-05-09
REGARDING HUSBANDS.
Some Atlanta Women Air Their Views
Upon the Subject,

upon the SuDJect'
There is one thing that q young wom-
an who has but recently gone and got
ten herself married should be advised
against; that is any sentimental effu-
siveness upon coniugal happiness in the
presence of women who have been wed
some time. No matter how happily
mated these danes may be they feel in
duty bound to snub any expression of
faith and contentment on the part of
the bride of few weeks. They like to
tell pleasant little stories concerning
the fidelity of implicitly trusted hus-
bands, their fondness for night keys,
club suppers, cards, their peculiar exac-
tions, eccentricities and so forth
CHANGED the other day to drop in
upon circle of those matrons when
two weeks bride called. The subject of
marriage was brought up, and the bride
ventured to assert that it was not always
a failure.
Then there was an expressive shrug
and cynical smile from her listeners,
one of whom said
"Oh, but you've only been married
short while. It's all very pretty now, if
it would only last"
"Well," hopefully, SIT has lasted with
my mother and father some twenty odd
years."
"It's an inheritance, then. Why,
wish I'D inherited popularity of that
kind from my parents"
81 think American women are more
to be envied than any wives on EARTH"
said another. 81 had a friend who said
she never knew what happiness was nm
til she married an American. Her first
husband was Spaniard, who loved her
madly, and her life was in danger from
his jealousy. The second was an English
man, so cold and selfish that she'd rath-
er have had him kill her than live with
him. The third was an American,
neither warm nor cold, and he gave her
as much money as she wanted and lot
her do as she pleased"
'Now that's my idea of happiness!"
said pretty young matron What
could woman want more than plenty
of liberty and plenty of money? What
is the jealous love of Spaniard besides
shekels and freedom?
81 don't believe in jealous husbands"
said a woman whose husband might
have been SO with some cause. Every
jealous men are apt to be selfish. They
value you not for what you are, but for
what you are estimated to be by others.
Such men need a constant stimulant to
their affections"
What sort Of husbands do you all be-
lieve imp" exclaimed the newly-made
matron, desperately.
For my part" replied careful ma
tron with several daughters to marry
81 should prefer widower, well of,
and with no children, of course. He
should be about forty years old, and
must have been a devoted husband to
his first wife. Such man has lived
over the vagaries of youth. He has
sowed wild oats, and anchored steadfast-
ly his ship of love until it was blown
away by the wind of eternity. He has
known life's greatest joys and deepest
sorrows He knows how to appreciate
profoundly the love of a woman, and
having learned many lessons in woman
nature he will neither be too exacting nor
uncomprehending of her little fancies
and foibles. But I'd rather have the first
love of a man, even if it was exacting,
and even if we didn't always understand
each other Ishould want to feel that /
had been the first to share his heart and
life"
81 believe widower of forty is pre-
ferable to bachelor of the same age"
said one who had reason to know. "Peo-
pie talk of its being better to be an old
mans darling than young mans slave,
but believe that the women who marry
old bachelors are the worst slaves on
earth. Then, there are other objections
besides unreasoning selfishness to I'M
married men from forty on. Such indi-
viduals seldom strike happy mean.
They are either prudes or roues. If the
former, they are fixed in their prim, old
maidish habits; if the latter, they have
past that will not bear investigation.
People are always talking of the
horror of marrying old bachelors
whose sentiment has generally soured,
whose tastes and habits have settled
into selfish, narrow lives, who have liv.
ed so long without the cOmpanionshir
of women that they can't understand or
enjoy their natures when they get mar
ried. Old bachelor husbands are crusty,
suspicious-every thing that should
cause the women who have wed them to
be pitied."
Here the party was interrupted by
the entrance of the hostess hus
band and the iust-married young
woman went to her home, doubt
less with perturbed spirit, She has Q
life time to moralize upon matrimony
and perhaps she can solve the riddle al
the end.-Maud Andrews, in Atlanta