Sturgis advertiser. (Sturgis, Dakota [S.D.]) 1887-1???, 1890-08-21
4 HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
BIZ ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.

Is is my constantly increasing con-
viiction that, after the marriage vows
are taken, two-thirds of the power
necessary to the creation of an endur-
ingly happy home lies with the wife.
It therefore follows that two-thirds of
the fault is hers where the home be-
comes failure.
[ would classify the failures of wives
in their duties as follows:
l. Those who lack iberality of mind
2. Those who complain and find fault;
3. Those who are selfishly wasteful
and extravagant; 4. Those who are
petty tyrants and "naggers;" 5. Those
who lack tact.
Now, If wife has love, patience,
good temper, beauty and accomplish
ments, yet any one of those five faults
above mentioned may serve to ruin her
home and make her husband wish he
was single again" A wife's love
should be as liberal as the loveof God.
She should study the daily habits of
her lover before she marries him, and
then she should allow his life to run as
nearly as it is possible in those old
channels of pleasure without trespass
ing upon the honor or purity of the
new relation. If you marry man
who has had a life filled with flirta-
tions, clubs, cards and races, do not
demand of him the sacrifice of any
thing but his fiirtations. That you
have the right to demand, but leave
| him his clubs and races, with no more
| restriction than he felt before marriage.
Add to those pleasures which he has
so long enjoyed the happiness of per-
fectly ordered home, and the sweetest
and most loving welcome when he re-
turns to you that it is possible for q
man to receive. No matter if you are
obliged to pass a good many lonely
hours to cultivate this iberality, it
will repay you ere long. Eight men
out of ten will appreciate this spirit
of generosity, and will in return plan
for the comfort and pleasure of the
wife.
It is foolish to expect husband, who
has entire access to his wife's society,
to make the same sacrifices to be with
her for an evening that the lover makes,
who is only admitted to the loved ones
presence for an hour. 1t is no indica-
ton of any lessening of love if he some
times goes out and leaves her at home.
A jewel may be very precious to us,
even if we do not always wish to wear
it in sight and gaze upon its brilliancy.
Some women seem to marry with the
idea that wife" means "interferer.
They set themselves to work at once to
revolutionize the mans whole life, and
demand attentions which, if they ex
ercised little gentle patience, woulo
be gladly given. I have seen wives
who laid plans for almost every hour OF
their husbands leisure time. Now, no
man likes this. It is natural for them
to be the planners and directors, and
the wife who in all ways strives to Ca
ter to her husbands tastes and comforts
will find him planning for her happi'
ness ere long. Nothing touches a MAI
of any feeling quicker than to see thai
his wife yields her wishes to his, and
gives up with ready sweetness in small
matters. Pay attention to any wish o.
{ his, no matter how trivial and foolish
, it may seem to you, and respond to his
requests cheerfully, not sullenly, anG
in little while you shall find him the
y tuOSU huu VI AICLA
OF course I am not writing of brutes o
! DULLES, but of men with hearts an
heads.
The woman who saves up her house
9 hold worries and her bodily pains an
g aches to entertain husband with o.
I his return home, drives sure nail i
! the coffin of conjugal happiness.
True marriage means subjugatio
Q Of self, and losing of ones selfish fee
1 ings in love for another. Every ma
J, ought to have the certainty that he Cal
find peace and rest from all strife an
:. fret in his home. Every husband ough
, to feel when he turns the key to ente
l his own door that he is sure of sweet
O er. welcome and more cheerful an
If restful atmosphere than he has foun
: outside of it. If each wife would max
u this the leading resolve of her life. tn
1t world would be revolutionized.