Wichita eagle., 1890-01-02
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VOMAN'S WORLD,
Facts and Fancies About the
Fair in Many Chimes.
IN THE HOME CIRCLE.
Useful Information for Mothers and
Housekeepers.
IN THE HOME CIRCLE.
THE SECRETS OF THE TOILET.

THE SECRETS OF THE TOILET.
Heroic Mothers of Continental Students.
What Most Women Read-Professor Ma
ria NATURALIZATION Harland's Views ON
Love and Friendship-The First English
Woman Journalist - Lunches for the
School Children-"oh. What Delicious
Bread"-women In Business-Learning
Self Control In Childhood.
The most important function Of an agree
able hostess begins after her guests are as.
sembled. She must endeavor to see that all
are happy and amused, she must try to pre-
vent deadlocks, and to promote a certain
amount of circulation among the company,
and at the same time she must not seem busy
or meddling, or interfere too much with in
dfvidual liberty. In other words she must
steer a nice course between individualism on
the one hand and Capitalization on the other
I think the modern theory Of hospitality
tends very much toward individualism O. e.,
allowing people to do ais they please tempered
by certain amount of intzoductions
A clever woman once described to me with
amusement, not unmired with contempt, the
conduct of q young hostess at c fashionable
watering place This young married woman
twho was old enough and experienced enough
to have known better, ''pranoed up and down
hox Until ,xL
then with another, leaving the rest of her
guests to amuse themselves as they best
couldl"
1t is even worse, however, to interfere too
much with ones guests, because most people
are inclined to resent anything that APP
proaches social dictation. Thus clever and
agreeable hostess of x has given great
offense to her guests by requesting them to
change places IN the middle of dinner party
and by disturbing conversations and break
ing up tete-a~tetes in an arbitFnry and high
handed way. The mistress Of the house must
sometimes break up conversations, where she
has reason to suppose that either Of the con-
veTsers is becoming waary, or where she
wishes to introduce them to other persons,
but this power needs to be exercised with
great discretion, and il the guests intimate
preference for Remaining as they are, the
point should be yielded gracefully and at
once.
1t has been said above that an agreeable
hostess always enjoys, or endeayors to enjoy,
her own entertainments hope that few la
dies are as maladroit as debutante, whosaid
not long ago, to guest at an afternoon tea,
Afternoon teas are horrid, aren't they? So
stupid and tiresomei Don't feel obliged to
stay, Just because it's my coming out partyi"
1t may seem strange thata young lady should
make such vary thoughtless and i'll bred
speech-but young people who have not be-
come accustomed to the ways Of the world
sometimes make these mistakes from desire
to be frank.
Ono Of the secrets of entertaining agreea-
bly, is to do SO often, for habit gives ease in
this, as in other matters.
Another very important point is that Of
treating all the guests alike as far as it is
possible to do So of welcoming them all with
cordiality, and endeavoring to see that all
have pleasant time
have beard an elderly lady severely criti-
cised for rushing across her parlor, kowtow-
Ing and bowling, and receiving with the great
est empressement an ugly old woman, simply
because she happened TO be countess" AS
the other guests had been received without
any such display Of joyful humility, they felt
somewhat jealous of their noble rival, rightly
arguing that Americans who have no titles,
and do not believe in distinctions of rank
ought to behave in q more consistent and
democratic manner.
1t is 30 be feared that our people sometimes
make themselves quite ridiculous by this
wide difference between their theory and
practice, and by the exaggerated care and
pains which they take to bestow their full
titles on members of the nobility. As in Eng
land these titles are not used on ordinary oc-
casions, save by interiors when they address
their superiors, il will be seen that Ameri-
cans place themselves in q false position by
such conduct OF course we do not wish to
appear discourteous or aggressive, but we
best respect others when remembering our
own self respect. Thus 1t seems to me I'M
American 30 introduce a Russian prince as
~his highness, Prince 'Cutazoff Hedzof' ~
NE designation prince" alone should be suffi-
cient.
There are certain guests upon whom a
hostess should bestow more attention than
xhe is at liberty to devote 10 all Thus 9
stranger, a new conner, or a very diffident
person needs special consideration at the
hands Of his hostess-while the belle of the
season, surrounded by admirers, can usually
be trusted to take care of hersef-Florence
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