The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1890-09-28
A PROBLEM THAT Bothers Parents.

article on The Future of our Daughters
in the course of which, after pointing out
that sons, If they have health, intellectual
power and moral integrity, give & cir par
ents little anxiety, she says: But for our
daughters! Looking out upon the compli-
Gated, nervous life Of to-day, as it h lived
both within the home and without, what
problems, what complications, what vicis-
situdes, what dangers do we perceive en-
vironing theml As the best beginning we
know how to make, we educate them in all
the learning of the schools; we send them to
college; they become linguists and musicians
and artists. We recognize the significance
of personal attractivenesS. and encourage
them tn pay attention to all those adorn-
ments of dress and person which are con-
sistent with womanly refinement and dig
nifty. II, while the bloom of youth is still
! fresh upon their cheeks, the good and
faithful son of some other parents offers
his love and his hand, and that love Is
reciprocated, we perhaps think for little
that the problem is solved. The normal
| destiny of young woman is apparently
accomplished, we say, when she becomes
the wife of the man whom she loves and
who loves her. A home, wifehood, mother
| hood, tender love of husband and children
what have we left to desire for our daugh-
tersl We have that left to desire which
we eau never attain-the power 10 secure to
them the continuance of happy and favor
ing circumstances, life and love of husband,
home, property, income
Daughters are a source Of great anxiety
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does not cease at their marriage, because
of the I'm certainty whether or not they are
happily married. So many marriages
turn out badly that parents cannot help
being anxious about the future of their
daughter until time has demonstrated tina
their daughters have been trained wisely,
and have chosen husbands worthy of them
and capable of making them happy.
Parents are to blame for much of the
uuhappiness of their daughters. both be
fore and after marriage. They don't
bring them up properly. They
make pets OF them ami permit them to get
false notions of life. They fail to teach
them that life is something more than a
mere butterfly existence, and they send
them to the homes of their husbands with
out any OF the qualifications that are nee
essary to make home happy.
Many girl marries without knowing
how to manage servants or to take care of
a house. She has never been taught house
hold duties, and, consequently, when she
has home of her own she does not know
how to make it attractive. A home that is
not attractive is not & happy one. Love
does not remain there long. A husband
soon neglects wife who doesn't keep her
house clean and orderly, who doesn't pro-
vide an appetizing table and who does not
at all times present tidy appearance.
1t may not be necessary for wife to do
the cooking and washing, or to make the
beds and sweep the house, but she should
know how to do those things, so as to be
able to direct Others Servants quickly dis
cover whether their mistress is ignorant or
not of household duties, and the most
of them are very bad servants if
they are not directed by one who knows
what she wants done, how it should be
done, and has the necessary strength of
character to enforce obedience to her will.
1t is a mistaken kindness for parents to
bring up their daughters in idleness, think
ing that the time of hardships will come
soon enough, and that they should have a
good time while they can. Girls who are
trained in household duties, and who are
required to conform to wise rules and regu-
latlons, are much happier than those who
are permitted to do just as they please. and
whoidle away their lives in frivolous amuse-
ments until they are married. Those are the
kindest parents who make their daughters
understand that life means a great deal, and
who train them carefully for taking care of
homes of their own. So trained they are
helpmeets. and will remain sweethearts long
after they have become wives. They may
never have to undertake the drudgery Of
the household, but il fortune should frown
upon them they would be able to do so
cheerfully. In most cases it is in the power
of parents to make the future of their
daughters happy.