The Helena independent., 1890-03-09
REALM OF FAIR WOMEN.
The Difficulty of Knowing a Man
Before You Are Married
TO Him.
Woman Takes a Husband on
Credit, and Then Guards Him
from Bachelor Friends,
Points OF Dress During the Lenten Sea
son Which All Women Observe
Flirting with Princesscs.

put pray cuhsluer 'ne o'uei siUo Vi 'no
question, which seems TO me 10 DE much
more striking. How much does a girl
know-indeed how mucb cnn abe know
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o"ou' '"e Hn N"0 'V' u'''i "i' '''s
weddlng' WhN nothing NJ All, OF almost
nothing And il is 10 that very fact that
attribute the failure of most unsuccessful
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ANo yVsns "O''" piJ
uoesht become acquainted WIN het nus
nanu unlil aller Ihe knot mas oeen ueu. Is
J, astonishing, unuer hucn circumstances
!nSt sue SHOULD igge,queh'iy oe ulsappoih'eu
IN MN eiterwardi .,,
-. wiz venture 10 say, she continued,
that IN majority OF instances the young
wlte is CONSIDERABLY disappointed aiter
marriage III the man sne mas chosen; HOW
can ~ oe otherwlse. often tne laol must
ue anogeineT snatlsleu, ouo tnlh Is no,
tne case nappily' tne luea she mas Iormea
OF MN usually mas 70 be reconstructed
more OF less' ferhaps ne may DC satlsiac-
y t9Iy III MS new aspect ana perhaps not. Az
~ al events ne is NOT az an Hkely 10 appear
the same man ne did whlle she was engaged
" niih. puIlng tnat Perlou ne was gu hls
very best behavior, ana you Know what thht
signlies with young bachelor. nave
learned eoou oeal ABOUT sucn ,hlhRs rom
what my own husband mas toid met IL
astonishing now precious green l useu 10
De. ne ls perfect, OF course, put thch ,
believe MN 70 be aitogetner an exception.
surely your husband mas not been gui,ty
OF the CRIME OF giving MS own sex away
Not intentlonallyi but certain remarks
of his, made from time TO time, have en-
lightened me considerably. AS well as
make out, the typical young gentleman
whom one meets IN society leads sort OF
double lie all the tme. lie Is ike cat,
which IL gentle ana sleek, snoozing peace
fully by the neartn curing tne uuy. Dut NJ
night tights and caterwauls on the back
fences. 80 IT is with the agreeable young
bachelor. lie, too, IL as sleek and gentle
and pulfing as possible on all occas ons
when he is in the society of ladies'. One
meets him at parties and hnds him always
well-bred and delightful. lie comes 70
cal and makes himself charming. One en-
counters him on the street and he ls as
pleasil.7 and well-mannered as ever. lie Is
the sort Oh man whom the mammas look
upon, may be, with favorlng eve, and he
t is seen everywht re, always the personliica-
tlon OF everything that Is CONNIE II fault
Very likely he looks as innocent hs
baby; no one would imagine from
+ his appearance hat he ever did
f anything wrong. Ard yet how more than
! probable is 1t that 1e is wicked as wicked
,an be. II IS ten TO one that he has all sorts
,f vices. You WI md him IN his club pnr-
suing select few OF them-drinking, smok-
ng, playing poker or seven-up for money,
and telling naughty stories. Oh, / know
something about these things now myself.
And those bad practices have menti tilned
ire presumably only tne beginning. Mhat
ioes he do outside OF his club! Goodness
,nly knows. Certainly he is not always be-
laving himself IN n manner That he would
Ike to have reported IN detail TO the young
adles whom he calls upon ana dances with.
their society he Is one person. IN the
company OF other men he is altogether an
lther. The man the girl VINO is engaged 10
nm knows as her nance Is not the real man
u all, but creature entirely ARTIFICIAL. In
ne lower walks OF lie tnih Is not nearly 30
much the case; but in the fashionable world
veryone wears lnhsk.
but women, nave always understood,
lon't object 10 mems being trifie wicked
There is some truth III that, i ADMIT.
Women have grown accustomed to the no
ion that young men must SOW few Wild
ats and they are also aware oil the fact that
isn't quite healthy symptom tor
outh 10 be too good. Their idea Of what
1ens lndiscretlons consist IN are exceed
nely vague, but they are apt 10 thlnk that
uch indlscretlons, whatever tney are, must
awfully jolly, and even 10 say that II
pettlcoats they would be wicked too. 30,
Is a rule, they don't blame the men. don
lyself 80 very much. The trouble IL that
ian may have vices OF serious permanence
ithout its being known 10 the girl who pro-
oses to marry him. However, what have
ieant all along ls that young woman
nder such circumstances does not obtain
ny knowledge Of the character IN general
ay Of the man she accepts until he has
4un IN sDnnd AS moderate
egree OF wildness, anu matrimonial
omen are usually lndinereht 10 mat
hey rather ike 10 feel tnht tney are help-
" man out OF what he mas been before
ITO something pelter' nor are lucy us
)sed to be jealous OF the past unlike
en-"
Girls brothers VIII generahy teil them
they don't think TINS OF thht man uesira-
matrimonlally.
"Yes; but what does that amount tos
RI, II she likes a man, ls not gong 10 ils-
n very readily TO anything her brother
ls 10 say against nm. brotheri thoueh
may not be very devoted 10 MS sister, al.
ays thinks that no man IL Foou
ouph to marry her. II no says anything
ainst the fellow she fancles " Is rather
Il than not TO help things along, AS Tor
father, he IS not in the least likely 10
low ANYTHING worth mentioning that Is To
vounq man't dlscredit. however much
~ exist. He is not acquainted with the
unQer set, presumably; does not belong TO
same club, and has no sources Tor iufor-
ltion of the kind unless some one should
me 10 him and tell him as a
,tter of friendship that MIR. Snooks
mauyais suiet. But such thing as
- for ohyions reasons. is rarely done.
en n il did occur the daughter would
va fair show OF reason for declaring il
80 nonI;ce ana sbe would at once begin 10
,o-d .bo ch hisct ionnlle vonth as martvr
80 ~ ,e,secnt'on which is t6e
n,o.'Ii W dss,rsd Ven con't
y, ,niii Ill los,, ro,,na ,entisr,en of obiec-
wsi' hesp Souiis svr,..a,- srn.,ar r, ,l,,,r
naule uuoIals anu is ont ~,
use altogstuer, unu y tno ounk -,