San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1890-12-31
MIXED oARAMELs.
Wound You be Happy If You Had
Your Own Way.

surely / would be happy If l had
my own way about things" said Mrs
Bellows, with sigh.
What do you mean by having your
own way?" asked.
"Weli, as it is / have to do things to
suit others, to do them in way
that does not suit my taste. There's
my husband, he must have griddle
cakes for breakfast, and Ii there
is one thing that l hate worse
| than another, it is to make grlddle
cakes. Then the doctor says Mollie
| should eat milk toast for breakfast
and supper to fatten her. Well, of all
things Z despise making toast. You
know how scorched and red your
hands get"
"Why not let Mollie make toast for
herself. She is old enough to do it,"
l suggested.
"But she won't do 1t. scold her
every hour In the day, but 1t does no
good. Then there are the boys, they
will not eat pork chops, but must
have beefsteak, SO you see 1t is an
awful job to geta meal"
''Do I understand you to say that
| it is disagreeable TO you to do things
to please your husband and your
children?n asked.
"Don't you see that it makes a per-
feet slave of me? Making griddle
cakes and toast, cooking meats that
/ do not like, and waiting on that
gang Of kickers, Is enough to make
one miserable"
"What would you do if you had
your way?"
"Well, would have some nice oat-
meal or wheat, eggs and coffee for
breakfast. 1t is no trouble to get that.
For dinner / would have some kind
of roast, and for supper canned sal
mon, or something of that kind. /
think light meals are better than
heavy ones. For my part could do
without breakfast, and a few bites of
bread and butter is all the supper 1
care for"
"And still you wonder why you
feel so weak. and why your teeth are
decaying, and why you have the neu-
ralgia SO much. The wonder is that
you have strength enough to live"
"But 1 wouldn't mind that if I
could have my own way and not have
to do this, that and everything for
everybody else and have nothing for
myself. How Is it that you get along
so pleasantly?"
cit is because take pleasure in
doing that which will please my hus-
band and children. To see them en-
joy q meal is all the pay want for
the trouble of preparing it,"
Don't you ever have to do things
that are unpleasant" she asked.
30, yes I do things that are dis.
agreeable at the time, but If the re.
suit is happiness for others I am more
than paid for the Inconvenience or
discomfort"
II don't see how you can do 1t, and
don't believe you could If You
had a husband who must have grid
die cakes or biscuits every morning."
nIf John should want them three
times day he could have them, and
1 would feel that was only
doing my duty In providing
them. He never refuses me anything
Iwantand 1 know he has to work hard
every day for the money necessary to
keep our home comfortable
"But that is no reason why he
should ask you to do things you dis
like"
HE has to do many disagreeable
things, and don't see that am any
better than he is. If it his duty to
provide means for the comfort of our
home, it is my duty to make proper
use of Them"
~ suppose it is ones duty to do so,
but it is awfully disagreeable," she
said.
mot if you love your husband and
children and delight in their comfort
and happiness"
1t is mistake to suppose that we
would be entirely happy if we were
absolutely free to do as we please.
For my own part have always
found more pleasure in doing for
others than in doing for myself, and
/ am quite certain that the same is
true of every woman. 1t is woman's
nature TO please others. and she is
happy accordingly as she succeeds.
Even in the matter of dress she
strives to please others. This is
shown by the fact that she doesn't
care much how she dresses when
alone, or in the presence of those
whom she is not anxious to please.
You can always tell whether q wife
loves and respects her husband by
the way she dresses and deports her.
self in his presence. If che DOESN'T
care for his respect and love she gives
no attention whatever to her personal
appearance. but goes around sloven-
ly and carelessly attired.
If her husban happens to admire
neatness IN attire you may depend
upon it that he will seek it elsewhere;
or rather he will be attracted by it
elsewhere.