Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1890-05-25
FAULT-FINDING.
1T is ONLY A VICIOUS HABIT THAT
MAY BE CURED.
We Find What We Look Fora Habi
That Spoils Many Homes, Ruins
Beauty and Makes Unhappiness.

After all, does it pay to find fault? 1t
does not. Life is too short to be spent in
eternal fault-fnding; let US remember
this. 1t is such an easy thing to do, this
fault-fnding, that many of us drift into
the habit before we are aware of it, and a
habit either makes or mars, not only one
life, but many. There are many burdens
to bear as we go through life, many things
to be corrected, set right, or started over
again, but let it all be done, if possible,
without fault-fnding. Rebukes must be
administered sometimes, to servants or
children, to those in the household, and to
thae outside of it, but let the rebuke be
given without the fault-fnding tone, words
and manner. No one likes them, no one
wants them, no one takes them kindly.
They sink into the heart, but they do not
bring forth the right kind of fruit. Do
you think that child or servant goes
cheerfully to work to do, undo, or rectify
what you wish, if you order them in a
fault-fnding tone? By no means. They
go sullenly away from you, and perform
their work in sullen and perfunctory
way, thinking unkind thoughts of you and
wishing unkind wishes for you.
Faultfnding is vicious habit, and its et-
feet is deadly blight. 1t contaminates
every person within reach; it crushes out
of the home cheerfulness and Joy; it falls
like lead upon the spirits of the Young. It
is like the cloud, no bigger than mans
hand at first, but it increases in size until
it envelops the whole household. Chill
dren and servants succumb under its blight
ing influence, until, finally, the faultfinder
reigns supreme in the dreary kingdom of
home over oppressed and weary subjects,
who seek their pleasures beyond the walls
where dwells their despotic sovereign.
Is it worth while, for the pleasure of in
dulging in base habit, to make home un-
happy? Is it worth while, for want of a
little self-control, to make ones self de-
tested?
No, indeed, it is not. Every woman
should strive to be sunshine in shady
place." a glory in gloom, bright ray
among bright rays, instead of shadow
across the sunshine, cloud in bright
sky, drift of sable plumes before which
energy, cheerfulness and lightsomeness of
heart flee as before the coming of an newt
able and dreadful fate. Surely no woman who
is worthy to be called woman wishes to
be looked upon as an orge, tyrant, thing
to be avoided by all good, sensible and
agreeable people.
And not only Is woman VINO finds fault
terror to others, but she is degradation
to herself; for fault-fnding is degrading.
1t argues the desire to look for faults in
persons and things, and proves the fact
that the fault-fnder does do this. As a
demand always creates a supply, the fault
| finder is never at loss for material, and
practice in the vicious habit makes perfec-
tion, as does practice in everything else.
Soon the fault-fnder does not need to even
look for faults; they are around and about
her everywhere, as numerous as the spirits
in which the spiritualists believe, and her
entire time is occupied in telling people of
the faults of this person and of that person,
in this thing and in that thing.
Oh, it is so easy to find faults in every
thing and person in the world, ii YOU are
inclined to do so. But does the fault
finder ever stop to wonder how it is that
she is able to find so much fault? Does
she ever stop to wonder why it is that all
women do not find as much fault as she
does? Does she wonder how they can let
things 60, as they appear to, without max
ing fuss? Does she think that, perhaps,
they are less particular than she is about
this, that or the other thing? Does she
think that they have not souls as sensi-
tive as hers? No, she does not. The
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were she would sometimes analyze her own
motives, and their depths and blackness
would horrify her. She makes sweeping
statements regarding the motives of other
women, but she does not analyze them. If
she analyzed their motives with an un-
biased mind, she would discover that they
do not see the minor faults in things and
people, because they do not look for faults;
they look for beauties of character in per-
sons, for good and useful points in things.
After all, so much in this world depends
upon the way you look at things. 1t may
seem little thing, this looking at life
from cheerful or dismal point of view,
but it is, in reality very great thing.
Put on pair of blue spectacles, and
everything looks blue; green, and every
thing is green. And SO it is with the ewes
Of our mind. If we take cheerful view
of things, life will be far brighter. We
shall not see the faults in people, but their
virtues. If we look for pleasant things
we shall find them; or, at least, we shall
think that we find them, which is much
the same thing. We are very apt to find
what we look for; therefore, let us look for
light and happiness. 1t is all habit. And
it is just as easy to cultivate cheerful
habit as gloomy one. And when once a
habit takes strong hold of US, we all know
how hard it is to shake it off Let us,
then, cultivate habit of cheerfulness in
all circumstances of life, and habit Of
not finding fault. 1t is not the fault
finders who are going to do the great
deeds and make the world the richer be-
cause they have lived. No, these fault
finders have no time for anything but
faultfinding. 1t is the cheerful people
who help the world along, who make its
great inventions and laws, who build its
! monuments, write its poems and novels,
and who 60 down to the grave lamented
and honored.
A truce to all fault6nding; we will none
OF it. No faultinder shall sit at our
feasts or enter our doors,