Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1890-08-02

mother tries to finish some important
Homework, begging the mother to at
tend to their little wants. In the mean
time home comes the father of this abode.
in state that so scares his children thatthey
seek some hiding place to be out of his
sight and reach-under the influence of
some inroxicant liquor or out of humor
over the loss of money squandered in
faro game, horse-racing, or any of the
many vices to which men are addicted.
The mother must leave her crying or fret
ting children to pacify, if possible, the
wants of their drunken and brutal father;
get him to bed if he can be persuaded.
That scene over, she returns to her little
ones with a heavy heart, and thinking OF
the shame and disgrace brought on them
by their fathers actions.
Another is young girl raised in all the
luxury that wealth affords. Educated in
all the higher branches, that costs for
tune alone, she prefers teaching, not be-
cause she needs to, but because it is pleas
ure to be independent. In the course OF
few years she has small fortune she calls
her own. She has many admirers all
these years. Whether they admire her or
her money along with what she will re-
ceiye by inheritance, the reader can judge.
At last she listens to the sweet talk which
has been handed down to man from one
generation to the other since cur first par
ents. Each has gone through the same
scene. She picks, as she thinks, the right
one, but in reality it happens to be the
wrong one, but does not know it until too
late. She marTies a poor man, with
small salary; but, never mind, she will use
her own savings to start them in house
keeping and set her husband up in bust
ness with a good partner. She means to
help build up home, and is SATISFIED
with any inconvenience that comes. Things
go smoothly for seven or eight years; at
the end of that time there is large or
small family. as the case may be. The
mother is of course compelled to work
as she never worked before, hardly know
ing what the word meant before marri-
age. But small family requires great
deal of work of any mother, unless she
can hire it done. This being rare thing
with women starting in life the heavier
burden falls on her shoulders. Still she
is satisfied and tolls on. When, To- and
behold you her husband turns up miss
ing-has deserted her and her small fam
lily; left them without dollar, or friend
to get any help from; eloped with
young and handsome woman This wife
losing her beauty on taking up the cares
of married life; or else he gets tired of
married life and its cares and thinks he
will go 1t alone"
Now, is it any wonder that woman drifts
away from matrimony, and wants TO be in
dependent and escape such treatment? l
praise all women for their good sense. If
man is TO have good time in this world,
woman has the same right. Man claims
that man must rule, that the Supreme Be-
ing is a man; therefore man is first. Who
knows that? The Scripture tells US that,
bet if God is man then he must have
been born of mother. She must have
ruled until he was able to take the ruling
in his own hands. So in this case woman
ruled first and will last, if the world keeps
turning.
If were mother and had daughters |
would preach self-support to them, their
children and their nd-children, if l
lived to see them. Let mothers educate
their daughters have some trade chosen
for them to learn; let them have the earn
ings of their work for their own support,
and they will be free, Independent and en-
Joy life. So many girls are driven to de-
struction by being kept too close to work,
and denied of every cent they earn, event
ually they get disguised, and either marry
or go to destruction. From what? Just
| because they are allowed no liberties. An
other item copied by your paper from the
| Baltimore american is that in the reckless
scramble tor supremacy something of that
| mysterious and indefinable charm which
women possess for man will be lost. 1t
counts little whether that charm is lost or
not For if it is not lost before marriage it
is shortly after it. l will say twelve months
after that woman has no charms for man.
| And as for domesticity men want do
mestic wife, one that will make home
comfort when he chooses to spend an even
ing at home, look out for all his wants,
attend to all the household, as he will
have to go to the lodge one night, club
next, private lecture and so on, each night
and hour bringing its pleasures to him.
Occasionally he slips into dance-house
on his way home. This is hard on the
wife, but little cares the husband. He
married her because she was domestic and
economzing, and would keep his home to-
gether, rather tnan pull it to pieces. He
will tell her he will have a good time for
both; this is her satisfaction. Women, take
an old maids advice, beware of matri-
mony 1t is only trap for the young and
innocent.
As for the items alb aut collaborating,
which San Francisco papers have had the
audacitv TO publish and the other papers TO
w,
things don I suit them, let them start a fac
tory and manufacture such goods. Women
are not wanted in other businesses, and
this especial one they will not accept. l
must say l feel thankful when / hear of
women escaping this terrible ordeal to
which you allude. For where woman is
made slave of she is the worst kind of
slave. Take for instance e women of the
uncivilized nations all over the Oil world
the women of the Indian tribes of the
United States-what are they? Nothing
more than slaves for man. / am an old
woman, 60 years old now, but hope will
live to hear marriage spoken of as story
of olden times. But | do not expect much
change inside of one.half century. My
remains will be returned to dust long ere
that time. l will lay down the cares of this
life with that one thing on my mind
when woman will not marry. This is the
first article written by me in twenty-five
years. Before that time was regular cor
respondent for two papers in the East,
which have long since died out OF exist
ence. The articles that have been appear
ing in the papers of late are enough to vex
any woman, old or young. So | thought l
would write one article on woman's work
and marriage. Just to satisfy myself. |
could write or talk las all old maids are
talkers) ill Judgment Day, and still | will
glory in woman's independence. Yours
truly, Miss JENNIE M. SHELBY.
Sacramento county, Cal, July %, 1890.
Head for Business.