Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1890-09-30

OOO0 FVW1s
Etiquette vas receutly dedned - com
mon sense set 90 rule; bat No dennitton
could b. further from correct, ssys thc
Ihlisdelphla i'rrss. Many an action
dictated By common scusc would bc IN
rouiraveuiion of established Observance
where forns of etiquette ARE set up, NJ
la the courts at q monarch ar prince.
Even In q democratic country Ike the
United states acts nj kindness may be
frequently construed as breaches of eth
queiie; but, unlike most EUROPEAN conf-
tries, an American acts on the Impulse
Of poiit~ness rather than la accordance
With any rigid rule.
Again, wrrr etiquette really common
sense Get to rule. the variations of Gus
tom In different countries, would indl-
cate that each nation had . different
standard of common sense. Thus, an
American going up or down stairs IN Q
publIc hotel does not feel u incumbent
on him On remove hls hat n lady should
be- on the .tslrs. On Europe u would he
considered very rude u man did not
uncover under such circumstances. An
American, entering q psrior, expects w"
lady 90 the house to RI. aud greet HIN.
In spain q lady would seem 'o forfeit
her self-rrspcct should 'hs exhibit :"
much forw ariness. No Que ever saw
man aud q woman arm Ia arm IN the
street. 90 q spanish city without know
Ing they werr foreigners. \ spanish
husband even never takes HE wife's arm
In public. Nor would q spanish woman
receive a male visitor alone. such is the
system 30 protection exercised over
~omen by hIdslgo, gr'ndcc. usde.msn
and peasant In the sunny land OF ro-
nance.
Among the notable guests At the Con-
.iituiioual Centennial banquet IN the
I'hilsdeiphia Acssl~my 10 Music In sop
tsmt,-r, tsS., we're the chinese Enyoys
Who accompanied Count Mltkiwies Ia
thl. country In connection With the con-
cs..ion. to q I'hi,sielphis syndicate.
Daring Oh. evening . note vas handed
"a the chief Envoy, q gra,--lcoklns.
elderly man. lie MS troubled Tor mo-
men,, aud then made an elaborate apol-
ag, In wrench for tho rudsn.-s 10 shlsh
l,- "a. compslloi to D. guilty, namely,
ih. wearing ~ his spectacle. in conpi-
nv long enough to rr-sd the note. u .s
rro.. breach ~ etiquette fora chlnam'n
"a wear eyeglasses or spectacle. ln CON-
psn,. snd u I. c'lu,lly lmpoliis ,o enter
|, ro.n With th. hat off. 4 genilemin
~ the Celestial klag,iom Away. rvm,ius
covered to show hl. respect. Another
plee~ Of Chinese etiquette noticeable IL
~. banquet Va. that. although the even
| ing was fins, the envoy. sorv fuhter
Io,,r.ho-. until they reached tho acssie-
NV CLOAK r-om AMI removed thru prior
Ia entering the smphlthestsf. Chinese
etiquette forbid. man to enter NON
With sailed .b"c.. AMI consequently over
shoes arr worn until arriving az the
hou.s.
An American would never think ~ ~
moving al. hat prior Ia .pr.king Ia sny
man On tb. street. In HOLLAND b.f"rr
speaking "a the most humble ln'li''inll
out 20 dcor. man unco,-f.. In IIol-
land, ten. msn and women rarely pur-
ch... AZ the same stores, bat In cs.e-
sh-rv they do, II q woman discovers
that men are assembled inside, IA. ~
ltirr. until they lsayr. \ live American
dorrk-ei.~r would probably .oon ch,ns-
lthl. feature of Dutch etiquette. The
Americans, English. Germans sni iiu.-
.ian. shake hand. With . m,n In bidding
him welcome. IN Arab's grr-tlns !. to
rub al. cheek against th,t 20 ih" I-.r."n
he salute. and Ia. him. \ fr-nchman
xelcome. friend 10y embracing sni
kissing him. ihoagh nv SLOW DEGREES this
custom I. being superseded.
The japanese custom. srr similar to
iho.e 10 China. II IL not an UNUSUAL
sight o. 49,. uumt~r - Japanese ~
no,. their sandals. sro.. their hands,
and CRY ''~par, me - when great man
ps..-., hut the custom u rapidly going
out ~ vogue since the l-l,.n ~ enliehi-
ment h,. hen spreading through the
Land. 4 peculiar mark ~ ..,e.m ln
Burm,h I. Ia ask p~rmis.iou "a smell q
Iper.on's face. aud then DECLARE Oh. pr
fume to d. o.. sweet ss some choice ros
Ter. The custom IL couhn-,i to Burmlh,
,nd u Do, likely 60 sprcad.
Ia America politeness goes, !. "
.h"uii, bcfur- all el.c. one rule can b"
laid down for general ob.rr,snc- shrrr
q person.. hi~s. ~ the proper thing "a
,lo are unsettled; lri him make himseli
II home. lie should 10 .o IN mtnnrr
tn create .om. respect Tor home, unlike
/ q Young msn Who called ~ the once III
a noted rhll,d~lphisn, .om"wh,i famous
for al. straightforward utisrance..
"Mak. yourself at home for fes min
utc.," .sld the owner ~ the of'icc Ia hi.
visitor.
The Young man, having seated him
elf somewhat comfortably, but mlstak.
Ing q table Tor q footstool, responded
chc-rfully: II Away. make myself at
hom-."
Then pity the people a, home, "a.
the quick response.