Telegram-herald., 1890-07-01


people who have not ret cone 70 feel
that marriage IS lottery, says The bos-
t9n 0lobe.
Hence arise questions like the follow
ing.
/ How can tell when lover
g Can afford 10 marry, II poor?
8 49, sort OF person viii be
happy ~ith2
A. VIII l always be loved?
.. Will I always love?
O. win | ever see somebody whom
viii love more?
:. Shall marry young OF shall J wait
until | am mature2
: Should a man marry a widOw2
8. SHOULD girl marry q wigoweF?
10. Is II always well 70 marry II ono
loyes2
II. is there love at first sight?
u. What is love az first sight? -
And many others
Ye who are married can best answer
many of these questions Only one who
has made experl lments in marriage in all
It's phases could singly answer all OF
them. And not unlikely the result of
such experiment. would prove any thing
but edifying.
arr. therefore. prepared only to give
tho result of my own venture in tho
matrimonial boat IS a partial guide,
completing the latter by giving the re-
suits OF other mems and many womens
ventures, or marriages.
Probably the hrst approach OF that
tender feeling known as love is felt
when at school red cheek seems TO the
average boy lovely as a peach, and ho
respects the possessor for her gift May
be = big blue eye strikes him as prettior
than any he has seen in the picture
book mother bought him for a Christmas
present, and he wishes that he might
have this living picture book near by 10
look at when he chooses.
Now, she with the red cheek or she
with the big blue eye may see across the
aisle in the little school-room bright
little fellow whose clothes fit as nicely
and look as pretty as those of the doll
she takes delight in fondling at home
For doll is the first object outside
the immediate household for which your
your little daughter shows any liking.
The doll is her beau IDEAL To win her
favor one must conform TO that model.
Its shape, the color Of its hair and
eyes, its clothing, speak to her language
mystic and full of meaning. To her it
is the symbol of mothers care, first
love, wifely devotion, and perhaps tho
incentive of those sweet batteries that
in after years may turn some poor fel-
lows head.
And as our impressions OF what We
need are true or false, so will posses
sions bring Joy or sorrow, and when the
question comes to us, whom and when
shall we marry? we should inquire into
our needs and ascertain just what sort
of a partner will supply our needs
The question should never resolve
itself into whether blonde should
marry blonde. whether brunette should
marry brunette. or whether partners
should be OF different complexion. An
investigation on the complexion hypoth-
esis might prove entertaining. but
would, fear, bring us back to whore
we started. But to my answers
= l. You are in love when you absolute
ly need the object of your affection.
2. A poor person can afford To marry II
marriage will increase the possibilities
of escape from poverty.
8. You will be happy with the ono
whose tastes. education and moral views
are similar to your own.
T. You will always be loved II you OBJ
serve the above rules and do not lose
sight OF the fact that
I Still in mutual sulcrance lies
The secret OF true living;
Love scarce is love that does not know
The sweetness OF forgiving.
/ 3. You always W III love If you realize
that obedience to duty is the only med
cine for conscience, and that perfect
happiness is this world at least is but
the shadow of dream.
6. You will see somebody whom yor
will love moro when your sense OF duty
! becomes blunted, which will only hap
pen in case you have not observed the
first rule laid down.
7. Marry young IL your nature has
developed fully; IL not, wait until youi
nature has developed. Rather thar
marry when undeveloped never marry
at all.
5. Marry widow according to rule:
laid down previously.
o. Same as No s.
10. Always marry II you truly love, bu
do not confound fancy or infstuatior
with the noble passion.
II and IL. There IS love at first sight
but it Is simply quick and mutual ap
prehension Of similarity IN tastes, edu
cation And moral views