The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1890-08-10

TtllG 10 Dc a3tNeN. S~14u Lave S-A-y O44S S~i'
Iege of refusing AZ. Wrong without
hat Of inviting Mr.. Wright, unless by
some wistful glance, some tremulous
tone, some subtle magnetism they can
convey an unspoken moaning which as
q general thing they would die rather
than reveal.
But you, lords of creation. you who
have only, as you believe, to ask and to
have; you VINO are wont to declare that
you would gladly exchange single bless
edness for married misery if only you
could find the right sort Of a girl moth
ing doubling, Of course, that she would
nave youy-it is TO you that am about to
give the offce;;" it is to you / will re-
veal tne secret Of the lucky number, and
tell you just where among the blushing
ranks OF maidenhood to throw the hand
kerchief, and which one OF a thousand
aspirants TO make happy, though she
mount to her throne over nine hundred
and ninety-nin bleeding hearts,
ChoOse-but no! had forgotten that
do not know exactly whom l am adj
dressing; and although there is touch
ing uniformity among the young men
Of my immediate circle, this letter will
be printed IN other places than New
York, and dare say slight variations Of
the type young man" may be found
under different circumstances than those
around Us in the metropolis. So really
cannot give the clear and simple advice
| was about to offer to my compatriots
whom 1 know SO wei, for it might turn
out, as in the case of a dear old Scotch
lady heard of, who. finding some medi-
cines not used after her husbands death,
consumed them gradually and indis-
criminately in her household lest
moneys worth should go to waste"
The vial 1 had already tipped up does
not contain panacaa, SO instead of adj
ministering it l VIII gcnerahze little,
and say:
Choose if you can a girl brought up in
your own sphere, and accustomed to no
greater luxury than you are modestly
sure Of being able to give her.
If she has been used to dainties and
more luxurious sur oundings than salts
fed your sisters and cousins don't flatter
yourself that any amount of love is going
to take their place in the long run; and
if she has been coarsely bred. and you
place her among Injuries, she will prob
ably over value thom and become a
snob and very extravaganza, or she Will
not fit herself to her surroundings, and
like the very weak young woman mar
ried by the Lord Of Burleigh, fret her
self, not TO death, but into dyspepsia, in
trying to accommodate herself to AN
honor unto which she was not born"
A nice boy, vino has unfortunately in
herited just enough money to keep him
in gilded idleness, asked mo the other day
what sort of girl he ought to marry,
and l promptly told him to select the
daughter of man just rising from the
ranks and not yet rich.
But, madame, like women born in
the purple, and as dainty as humming
birds!" demonstrated he with an injured
look
"Of course you do, dear child, and they
like YOU" replied !. But one of these
human humIning birds is more expensive
to keep than an ostrich, and not half SO
remunerulive She has been all her life
accustomed to honeysuckles full of honey
blooming at her feet, and she basls in
the sunshine and perisheS in the storm.
Her constant wear is Il brio choicer
than any Worth could supply, and her
Jewels are traditional. She don't know
how to live in any way but that IL which
she has been born and bred, and the
world she ornaments does not desire that
she should.
You admire her, of course, and sym
pathize with her, for you are somewhat
in the same line yourself, but you have
not an UNLIMITED fortune and you have
no power Of making it larger. You two
together would be absurdly happy and
charming to behold for one sweet sum-
mer day, and then when the night fell
and the cold wind and heavy rain came
you would shiver together for awhile,
then fall to peclling each others eyes
out, and finally either die or distress q
kindly but impatient world with the
spectacle of bedraggled, helpless, Grip
pied humming birds, no longer orna-
mental, and not in the least useful ex-
cept as a warning"
But can lIl-lry money. Some hum
ming birds are very Wei provided for"
Yes, you can marry money, and live
in your wifes house. and eat your wife's
bread, and drive in her carriage when
she goes down 10 collect her dividends,
for her fond papa, who probably has
made his own money, viii take very good
care to prevent you from handling any
of it. Your fingers are too t2perilg and
smooth and sOjgf6e to keep a good grasp
Of bank bills soiled b. TIE Crime and
sweat OF labor.
NO, my dear boy. the wife for you is
a girl WAC from her infancy has been
taught that a dollar contains a hundred
cents, and each cent has It's own value;
the daughter Cf man VINO is making
money and going 20 bs rich, but has not
yet made il nor got beyond keeping his
own ledgers; Of a mother httle vulgar
in her ways perhaps IS yet, but anxious
ly striving 10 relnoiel herself sad to
have her children brought up in a 'sq'ere'
above her own. Sueh a girl will have
4 very good school education; viii have
studied music, with the ever present
consciousness that the lessons cost
great deal Of money and must not be
wasted; VIII know the cost Of good
clothes cli the necessity OF cherishing
thonl; viii Ce very anblCeus OF social
success AID uog above working for it;
VIII take possession of yoQ and your
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