, 1890-03-30
APPROPRIATIONS USES.
Eleanor Kirk States a SyIIogism and
Proves 1t to BE Logical.
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The majority of women are not appre- |
ciated-or are not made to feel the genial
effects of appreciation.
Therefore the majority of women are
not happy.
This syllogism will be equally logical
if we substitute men for women, though
the statement would not be so correct, a
men on account of a more robust train
ing are not as a rule 50 dependent upon
the words of endearment and praise As
their wives and sisters.
The girl who has been tenderly trained
by a loving mother, who never failed to
give her full credit for every duty well
performed, suddenly finds herself in an.
other home with totally different sur.
~roundings. To this new abode she brings
her trained talents, her couscientiousness
and her desire for instant and constant
appreciation. Did Mary make a lemon
meringue in her fathers house, every
member of the family was called to ad.
mire it before it was cut, and not one ever
failed to say while eating it that it was
the best pie ever put into mortal mouth.
But Mary's meringue fares differently in
her new home.
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%solutely gobbles the first piece and passes
his plate for another almost before the
last mouthful is swallowed. He doesn't
say anything. The fact that he liked the
pie well enough to eat half of it makes
no favorable impression upon the Iittl,
wife who had thought lovingly of all that
John would say and do as she squeezed
her lemons and whipped her eggs t.
| frothiness. Then how many times sht
4 opened and shut that oven door to be sur,
| that the most delicate shade of brown
should be attained, and how ROSY were
her cheeks, how bright her eyes as sh,
set the perfect pie away to cool anC
danced off to array herself in her pref.
test dress md wait for her husband't
coming.
Now, Johns failure to do more than
eat the pie with relish will seem a very
small matter to the square rugged con
science, which regards as morbid this con
slant reaching out of the feminine sou
for something more tangible in the wa,
of appreciation. But Mary's enthusiasm
which quality, by the way. is the on,
that a least be spared and is general,
the first to succumb-is dampened an,
her feelings wounded. II John is at al
o~bseryant, he sees that the little wife i
more quiet than usual. But he does no
suspect that this nice lemon meringu
has had anything to do with the tire
eyes and the strained amer Wit
that masculine optimism which is "A bles.
ing to the man, whatever it may be t
the woman-the writer is thinking no,
of really good FELLOWSHIP says to him
self: Mary has overworked, but sh
will be all right tomorrow And thi
is quite satisfactory.
|. The question which his wife is hopin
and praying that he will ask does nc
leave his lips, and she, ashamed of he
hurt, and yet not strong enough to rail-
and be her own sweet self, broods owe
this apparent Indifference until time an
n more intimate acquaintance with he
husbands peCuliarities changes the sOr
spot into a scar. If these conditions con
tinue, though Mary may afterward
make numberless pies, she will nevei
make another with the same loving
pleasure, the same beautiful enthusiasm
True, John may not find fault with he
cooking, but he never praises it, and sc
that subtle something, that most neces.
sary and most vital spiritual spring and
impulse which cause AN affectionate
nature to do its best in anticipation OF
more love, is killed and buried ON the
very threshold of life. Such a funeral
as this turns n womau into an automa-
ton or Il machine, and there are many
such machines in the world.
That such an education as Mury's is
not the wisest education under the cir
cuInstunces, we are forced to admit,
but we are also obliged to admit that il
Mary's husband had been educated tC
meet enthusiasm with enthusiasm these
very qualities which have proved the
young wife's undoing would have made
an atmosphere of grace and refinement.
in which both husband and wife would
have grow nearer to each other and
nearer to the Great Heart of the uni
verse.
1t seems to the writer that the proper
curse for Mary to have taken concern
ing that meringue pie would ave been
after the meal was over to have seated
herself on her husbands incorporated
he was willing, and all good fellows are
and, with her arms about his neck, to
have asked him why he did not say hat
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]portunity of assuring him that words of
praise were exceedingly dean and abso-
lutely necessary to her happiness, anu
that partakiug heartily OF a delicaCy
made by her hands could never quite
satisfy her craving for appreciation.
Such a proceeding, so frank a confession,
in the start would be sufficient to insure
the preservation and proper fostering Of
wifely enthusiasm in the future.
Let US praise our comrades while they
are still with us, and not wait to rehearse
to the minister who will conduct the fu-
neral exercises the capabilities and I'M
selfish qualities Of our loved ones. 1t is
too late then.
The dying word, Of a woman who had
sinlled and repcnted brings he tears to
my eyes every time think Of them.
But why did you forsake your hus,
band?' the broken hearted mother in,
quired.
God forgive me, was the tragic an
swcr; that man praised me, and Tom
never did ELEANOR KIRK.
Two wealthy Massachusetts, women,
sharing the common impression that wo-
men cannot understand business, left the
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