The Irish standard. [volume] (Minneapolis, Minn. ;) 1886-1920, 1890-08-09
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Ths sensible Views Of 81 Extremely
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on the much mboted question. 50 IS
Marriage as FAi. lure y d lady writes To
1.-THE Chicago Inter Ocean some remarks
$50 sensible that we can not but quote
them for the benefit Of our readers:
s A woman makes . failure OF marriage
unless she makes an effort to do great
deal more than is implied in her mar:
rage copt sIt - supposed that the
husband supplies the material for the
home. and they are very raw materials
indeed unless tho wife takes hold Of
those means with the hand Of q creator.
building up out Of them helps and asso-
Citations loved and needed by both.
And woman must put her soul into
her house, or ii is 8 hollow and sound
ing she'll 4
AS high as we must rate the accomp-
llsnmenG Of good housekeeping, it is not
all in the making of home. l know q
lady who was a marked failure as a
housekeeper who was the idol Of her
husband. and who graduated to the
world a family Of accomplished and
honored children. And there are wo-
men who in pain and weakness are con.
fined to their own rooms, yet who man
age to hold the power in an orderly
house and fill it full of love-light and
happiness sufficient for the comfort Of
all who cross it's threshold.
It is the quality Of recognizing and
filling need that is the essential quality
of success In marriage. Practically, if
a man comes home from, business with.
a headache. hungry for bit of sympa-
thy and love. and good deal Of quiet.
and finds his wife in a raging excite
ment over an elaborate dinner, and is
ordered to keep out Of the way and
amuse the children till the great pro
ceeding is eliminated. he is about as
unfortunate as the man who brings q
college friend home to dinner and finds
his wife in wrappers aud slippers deep
in a French novel. But the woman
who spies the coming friend from the
window slides out of her wrapper in q
twinkle and appears upon the scene in
due time with sou, cheering cup Of
French coffee, is the woman who
makes her husband envied among men.
Unfortunately women have hobbies.
and ride and ride and never perceive
that they are boring their companions
to death. There are men who would go
to war to bs rid Of paper flowers, hair
10 wers, rugs, tides and what not: and
there are men who think art and music
are inventions of the evil one to make
people miserable. Any one, anywhere.
who cultlvates a hobby at the expense
of other peoples comfort is making a
failure of life; but true politeness of the
heart between friend and friend, man
and wife, will 0bvlate the danger of
overdOne amusements.
1t is eaeier to forgive virtuous excess
Of zeal, and it is mostly excess of zeal
for excellence of some kind that causes
some women to be more exclusive house
wives than wives of men. The greatest
CHARITY should be extended to a woman
who makes her house so. perfect in de-
tail and polished in appearance that her
friends 20 into it with fear and trembl-
ing, for she is afflicted with a virtu0us
zeal. and has only overdrawn very
good thing. Housekeeping has its
fanatics and martyrs as we'll as any
other good cause.
But housekeeping conducted as
means of happiness and comfort, either
IN cabin or palace, is science that
no wife can neglect If she wishes to sus-
tain the law Of mutual helpfulness in
marriage.
A wife expects her husband upon
marriage to begin a course Of tOilin9
for her support without remission or
any suspension Of responsibility, and
why would he not expect her to aspire
to the greatest excellence in home
making? Just here is where the wedge
of dissolution frequently enters. A
woman fails to give as much as she le-
ceives-that is, she works from compul-
sion more than from desire to keep up
her side of the partnership With dignity