The Logan County banner. [volume] (Logan, W. Va.) 1889-1903, 1890-07-17
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n You wish to So Your Married Daughters
Happy Let Them Alone
Here iss6ine good advice for mothers
In lxHgsThy xfc honestly -anxiSas 20 seses
tiSsi{afaughters happy after marriage,
and Ii comes from an Expert In such
matters, II any one can be considered an
expert in cases of that kind. tits the
advice Of the clerk OF one Of the courts
IN the County, Court House. He Is now
over seventy years old and has been a
clerk for almost fifty years Nearly all
Of that time he has been in the part OF
the court where large majority of the
divorce cases are tried. Besides this,
he has several daughters who are happi-
" married, and he is keen observer OF
human nature. A suit for limited
divorce was tried in the part in which
he is clerk the, other day, in which too
much mother-in-law was the principal
cause of complaint. After it was fin
ished he said to the writer:
'Tll tell you what it Is, after all that
has been said about m0thers-in-law as
disturbers of domestic happiness among
young married couples, not one quarter
has been told that might be- said about
the subject. ! have watched the pro-
ceedings in not only hundreds, but
presume thousands, of divorce cascs,ands'
tell you scores of those cases are
brought to court in consequence OF
mothers-in-law. The trouble is, too.
that the mother-in-law often causes the
disturbance by actions which she hon
estly believes are for the best interests
Of her daughter, and because she thinks
that she Is making her child happy by
her conduct Not only that, but she
would consider herself derelict in her
duty to her offspring ifshe did not do
as she often does when she causes the
disturbance.
----ssF his misrepresentation of herd duty
very often causes serious trouble, If not
divorce suit. When my first daughter
was married, she and her husband came
to my house to live and they had not
been married month before they were
quarreling. / saw how things were
going and 7 bought them q small house
in Brooklyn and sent them over there to
live. Since that time they have lived
happily together and they have never
had serious quawel since chat time.
When my other daughters were married
insisted on their going away from home
Immediately, and they are row all living
happily with their husbands
~ tell you what, the less mother-in-
law has to do with her daughter during
the first few years of the daughters
married life the better that daughter
will get along with her husband It's
all right for mother TO visit her
daughter for short periods, of conrse,~but
she must let young peopfes rur their own
affairs to suit themselves. From the
many cases VIII CHI have come under my
observation, / know that there is nothing
young man with any spirit resents SO
quickly as the interference OF his mother
in-law in his domestic arrangements. A
young couple will make q great many
mistakes, of course, during tfIe first few
years of their married life, but they will
learn by experience, quickly enough, to
be practical, and they will be all tho
more closely bound together in eense--
quence of the experience. Whereas, if
the mother-in-law thinks it lis her duty
Ito teach them, there will be no ~end~ef
trouble, and their married life is likely
to end with divorce suit before they
have really become acquainted with each
other."-N. Y. Tribune.