The Stark County Democrat. [volume] (Canton, Ohio) 1833-1912, 1890-05-08
GLOWING oLD.
How 20 Live 10 Make All Ages in Life
Equal in the Joys OF Living
ny KATE KAUFMAN,

by KATE KAUFMAN,
Youth aud age, words by which We
generally mean 70 indicate times OF
lite, seem more properly 10 express
m0Ods0f mind, IN childhood we 20
member we often felt old, while IN ma
ture lite we have spells OF exuberanl
youth, One might sometimes say, ~
was old yesterday, / am young today,
With health, loving and being loved, II
Ia doubtful II we should ever feel old,
A lady, more noted for the brllianey
than the piety Of her remarks, has said |
II woman married her first lover for
tunatfly, ana became the healthy
mother of a few healthy children, she |
would unoOnsGOuRly live aud die with
out thought OF eternity
II perfection exists II requires no
completion, ID Ia tho woman whose deh,
tiny does not accomplish all phases OF
nature who sometimes faces with a
shudder the necessity Of growing old.
ItianOt loss of youth, for II IL a tur-
bulbnt time OF mental ana physical
growing pains, but the tradition taught
us that with our youth 20 our lovers
II Is useless 10 deny that with
blooming cheeks 20 many lovers, but
after twenty-five what q woman'a llfe
loaea In brllliancy II gains In genuine
ness
Tie loves Of mature age differ widely
from those OF youth, growing more fea'
sOnable, less vehement, lasting longer
exciting less, more guarded ana valued
because the preGlOuhneaa or love mas
been learned, ana aa ono learns by prae'
tice In every art 10 suppress the crude
and cultivate the pleasing, DO Ia tho aft
OF friendship,
30 / culture, mental and physical roba
ago OF lta horrors, Tor tho former IN
Olude6 u graceful renunelati0n OF whAl
must b. In eyitably lost, aud the latter
a Rotlening OF theintenalty OF youthful
dIstreBR, GOmpaul0nahip Is wished for
hut of q more spiritual type, and yet
there hngera the warmth.
TIE finer and more sensitive q w0'
manu nature, the more auceptlDle she
is 10 this pain OF missing or losing love,
aud less confidence she has IN the
stfength OF her charm. In "lelty'a
| Strange History" We follow with feel
| inc die heartachea OF the wife who
| lanoed ah6 had lost her husbands love-
We feel u tender sympathy for the bril-
liant Cleopatra who, In Anlonya aD
sence, calls her faith IN his lldellty "dtll'
cious poison" aud reminds herself tlht
she is no longer young, but "wrlnkled
deep In time"
A bright girl turning over the leaves
of LeWeh' "Life of Goethe" came upon
thlspaaaage, marked II was concerning
the Frau Won stein. "At the time she
met Goethe she was NJ the age, which
ln fascinating women, N OF pefilouA
fascination, she was three ana thirty
"Ah" exclaimed the girl, "when
was eighteen WAS glad 70 llnd u story
of a girl who was blooming ~ twenty,
When twenty, was glad 10 read Of q
girl VINO hadn't faded NJ twenty'hyel
/ am that old nov, and, perhaps, ono
reason like TGrgeneil'9 novels 30 well
is because he shows his dangerously
charming women 10 be twenty'nine
But here Ia one thirty-threel / believe
that Is the limit
But ig II the lmltY
Margaret Fuller who Is said TO have
had many lovers, married NJ thirty
seven. Long enough after for her 70
have tested The bond, she wrote
"My love for OS9oll Is most pure and
tender, nor has any one, except my
mother or little children, loved Inc 80
genuinely aa he does. To some have
been obliged 10 make myself known,
Others have loved me with q mixture
of fancy andenlhuaiaam, excited ~ my
talent Of embeiliBhing lite, But OsBoli
loves mG from simple Olllnityi no loves
TO be with me, and TO serve and Boothe
me-
This reminds us of one Of Mrs.
Browning's aonnetg, written 10 her hua'
band, beglnning'
II thou must love me, lol II be- Tor HauRhl
Except for loves sake only,
The great passion Of Mme, 10 Sl0Cl's
early life was for her father, She says
Sometimes, when cOnyersing with
me In hia retreat, he reviewed u period
OF his life the memory OF which deeply
moved me-that period when could
picture him 10 myself 80 young, 30 win
ming, 80 lonely That period when our
destinles might have been united for
eternity II fate had made us contem'
p0rariegl'
As years passed she shrank with hor'
ror from old age aud must often have
felt herself alone, for she wrolo'
owe cease 70 love ourselves when no
one loves u.s.
At forty nix love came TO her, and
"Bhe allowed herself 10 search the mag.
10 mirror Of two young, dazzling eyes
NJ. RocCa was more than twenty
years younger, and though the worldly
minded may zee In such union only
material for ridicule, the feeling heart
can but regard II with tender indulg'
ence.
Mime. dc In Fayette when thirty.
three found IN NJ dc Roehefoucauld
the "lrIend Of her soul He, twenty
years her senior, Is described Ds "g0uty
and cynical" but Of great gonleuess
and ineDte charm Of manner She ire
formed his heart" and had his celo
brated maXims been composed after
this time they would have gained In
charity, and most certainly ho would
not have said he had found love only
in novels
In one Of her Arst letters TO him, she
said, referring TO u very young man,
"Conyince him that our connection is
Of no Importance. hate mortally that
persons Of his age should suppose |
have affairs of gallantry, All persons
older than themselves appear 10 them a
hundred"
This friendship terminated with the
death Of M. de Ia liochefoucauld, thlr.
teen years later,
"But," exclaimed reader, "thig is
not about growing old, this 10 all about
love and friendship"
Mr.. Emerson concludes his essay on
old age by saying, "I have heard that
whoever loves Is In no condition old
and surely IL 10 pleasanter TO keep
oneself busy at loving than TO occupy
ones mind with that other disagreeable
matter
We cannot do better than often con.
template q beautiful character. Such