Lancaster daily intelligencer. [volume] (Lancaster, Pa.) 1864-1928, 1890-01-02
DAYS OF COURrsIiip.
some Hints To Lovers and Their Lassies
A plea for Frankness I'm Girls,

some Hints To Lovers and Their Lnssies.
A Plea for Frankness I'm Girls,
From the Pittsburg Dispatch.
l will very dif1idently give one or two
hints which have occurred to me as of
possible value TO some girl whose lover
happens to DO away on u Journey,
To such a case would say; Let frank
ness and reserve be your two watchw ords.
Courlship Is the gay novitiate to sober
marriage, but IL must always be remem-
bered that II is testing of each others
natures, trial of characters, which some
times at the last moment do not stand the
test, are proven 10 be unbleudable, and the
marriage never takes place. Reserve in
demeanor is, therefore, always to be borne
In mind. -
There is so much of what is called inno-
cent filtration" between young people in
this country, that an unsophisticated girl
thrown in the society ofa Young man given
to paying attentions without intentions to
the most attractive young girl ON the social
horizon, may sometimes be deceived by
such q light swain, and mistake for serious
courtsbip what Is only meant for pleasant
passing Of the time. ! think this is not
often the case, for u woman's instinct al
most infallibly tells her with what end a
man persistently seeks her society; still,
II does sometimes happen that "A very
young girl fsncies she is being courted.
when, in point of fact, she is only being
trifled with.
Until you have reason TO believe that
your love Is being sought, no matter how
much you may care for man, do not let
him know II. If he really wants your
love he Will not fear to risk refusal The
man who keeps his attentions to YOU a
secret, who is not willing that the whole
world should know he is your suitor, does
not deserve TO win you. III his vanity is
stronger than his love let him pass by: he
Is no true lover. Orlando wanted all the
dwellers In the forest of Arden to know
the secret of his love for Rosalind, so he
hung verses on the trees of the wood
praising her virtues and beauty; every
woman prefers an honest Orlando who.
whether his love is crowned with happi.
ness or not, Is willing all the world should
know that he loves her and has chosen
her for his own.
Ifyou are going to marry for love, for
the sake OF your future happiness be frank
with your suitor and with your betrothed.
II you are on the point OF marrying from
any other motiye-ambition, pique, fear of
being an old maid, or anxiety 20 provide
yourself with home, you need read no
farther, for have no advice to give you.
except ihnchs advice to those about TO get
married, don't" This lecture is ONLY
for true lovers, To no others doth IL apply.
feriect love casteth out fear. Ifyou have
net temper, jealous nature, a tendency
70 dispute, do not conceal it from yo,ir
ioVef, Tor ne VIII be better able to forgive
now than later OF course you are an
angel In his eyes, but all the same, if he he
the good fellow he ought to be, be knows
very well that girl-angels have plenty of
faults fthey did not. would they be III
mates for him and his kind forsooth9
DO not play the part of the girl with the
abominable temper, whose lover tested
her patience by bringing her each day
tangled skein to wind. The task was al
ways accomplished with the greatest sweet
ness. After they were married our
Petruchio found he had welded shrew.
How was ii possible that you could