Telegram-herald., 1890-05-05

There Is more ch ance Of making mistakes
Esre and ia irving serious oGenss than
aay~hsrs else. 81 hen is cones 70 matters
81 importance. rhe tact u their impor-
tancs secufss thought aud care, zad Il
mistakes zrs ual8 70 comes from es-
llbera5s stupidity and NrCng ghszded-
Eess TIE llisr-kss ubieh are made
a5oaE Eidss. asvever, eons largely
from tholgl glrissaness, and very fre-
e1ently DO not admit u satisfactory
sTPlanation
ls - DO anasual thing, for example.
q End a nan or EoEnan sending = note
a al acquaintance or friend and 4d-
dresslnx TIE envelope Mr.. John smith
lnstsad of John Smith, Esq-
lt R0uld be tiacult ~ ten. perhaps.
~hy Be IS So 5ut Mr.. John saith - fstt
g. be a mean aHd dsFogatosy way OF
susscribing the envelope, and Is Is
faahion never ussd BY careful people.
go.n Smish. E-q. is he accepted for
uulA and unless the envelope = Ad-
dressed % a rFadesman or man IN =
distinctly inhsrlor walk 0i life. n ls the
formula which nust be esd. u IS not
even pernli Al BE 70 use Mr. smith when
fhs first name % ths gentleman fOr
whom ghe letter Is lnteaded is un-
known The proper forn11la Ia such a
case a. this Is. -- Saith. Esq noed
scarcely say. however. that the nan
Who Il driven ~ thLs disagreoable ne
cessisy wil inform himself as % his
e5rrospontenr's first name ~ The first
favorable opportunity. because the most
good d-n4rared person viii take IL as a
slight II ths people whom he knows do
not remeun ber hls full name. and that
eonsidsratiOn for the rights and feel
ings OF others. which We are bound
% have. demands enough attention 20
this point 70 secure accurate knowledge.
state the practice In this matter as
would IN any other matter, and Go not
pretend 70 explain OF justify H. One
obViOrs reason, however. why IL is bot
or - wriso John Smith. Esq., than Mr..
John Snish. - because Mr. and Mrs
ara so much alike when written that
che letters FOR husband and wife are
very apt 20 ret mixed up. I, John smith,
Esq.. Is written. however, and tho letters
90 his wife are addressed Mrs John
tnigh. there Is no chance Of any such
mistake occurring IN England, where
xhs Nnes between classes are drawn
perhaps moro distinctly than they are
hore. he ass OF Mr.. nnd Esq, "a more
carefully distinguished. remember
parsacalariy that M friend, Joseph
Ioabat was very much annoyed when
bs entered his yacht the Dauntless, For
q race on the other side. that his name
wss entered simply on the programme
ns Joseph LoubaI while the English
DTvners of ether yachts we're dis
rnsulshed by tho supplementary Esq.
When he called the s.tcnt ton of the
lrsSsets committee 20 this fact, they told
Ain hat Esq-, IN England was only AZ
6xod - ths na1no Of man who hold
property. snd as nc owned no property
bn England. that description could no.
% accorded him
4 The blEndering writer of letter =
wsrT sps 20 offend q sensitive CORES
poodsnt when he comes 20 write tho
noss itseiL This Ia particularly the
,russ n the correspondent Who receives
fhs letter fAnoios that Tho writer OF &.
thinks himself superior. II "a 10 IN
GsuL thing for writers 20 address cor
respondeDts as Dear Madam or Dear
Er even when their feelings are 81 the
ktnditsst This IL not allowable undar
ezy circumstances II y0u have any
aoq quaf1tance wfth Mr Smith AZ all vou
e-s bognd - addross him as NJ
Dear Mr. smith or dmply Dear
DIR. Smith. n you are really In
simabs win him. Dear smith or Ny
-.
bn he intimacy ~ long friendship OF %
l<inship. more a7sottonsts manners OF
address are appropriate As between
Dear Mr. Smith and Ny Dear Mr.
Smith. some authorities hold that Dear
edr Smith is less formal and rnore futi-
mate nan n lonser and mora elaborate
tbrasfng - t5e s4dress- But. This IL \
matter which is not really ~ great TN
Fortance. ard nay he determined each
rne for himself or herself
The only case where the beginning %
. nots with ST. or Dear Sir Is not indi-
cative 81 feeling 81 superiority on tbe
pars ~ tha writer. and his desire -
kssp the -orresoondent az a social dis
fsuce. IL where the noes ia hostile in ia
character u vaB have bee1 an sortu-
rate snon.Th to gee into entsnr dement's
With acme man or other With whom v0u
hsvs heid socisl -ciatioas and vou are
aadressinz him -01cerninC n serious
difference between ron. even AMOUNT
fnx - difference witch ca. only 10
serled hy meotinE on the ae,d q
honor. you ailress hin a. Sir or evcn
Desr Sir The uh-asing % such note