The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1890-12-20

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rs no instinct Tor potluck and suecotash
and p1mpkin pies except 10 eat them
But are widows more persistent sdIs0fs
than maids are? There i deal of hyr-
motto in.suence abroad Many naan mar
ries. or il married, in hypnotic sleep y
is not by widows either that the fasa.
handkerchief is airted. and she eye allowed
10 do execution Widows, as . rule. are
deEnure- / believe most Of them are 2yerse
TO q second venture in natrimony- MOSS
OF them avow inveterate determination
not to marry again I am quite sure tAas
when many Of them yield their obJectsons
il Is from sense Of duty. wIdo%
brings with her into wIdowh00si
a sense Of carefulness- she can
not see, with indifference, the unprotected
members OF our sex cast loose IN life with
none 10 care Tor rhern- I have known
few widows who laid traps. yes few v no
caught husbands as spider catches aIesi
Erzt / never knew one 70 eat Eer ylcJlfn-
On the contrary how quickly p widow
transforms a diiapidated fellow Sne pats
him in shape much as she does the nassy
pillows; . pat and . slap here and there
and he becomes AZ once preSentao2e. -nc
understands his weak points az glance
There is really less risk IN marrying .
widow than Girl vino takes you 70 ne
Gabriel. or Azrael, or 81. john
You viii understand readily Therefore
that am not of the Weller way Of hs1inA-
ing. and that should not say 10 my SAM
Beware Of vieiders.p ON the contrary, be-
tween o green woman and , ripe one there
is Just the same difference that there - De-
tween . green Eig and q ripe one There $
really no good reason WHY q man sloIld
prefer . young inexperienced MISS y .
sound. seasoned. tried and proved Mrs
| should therefore say 70 my Fam, De.
twixt the two, Sam. take the widow, sam
she knows that men have their
faults. She will not look for per
lection in you, and will not
thro@ up the sponge il you exhibit few
unwizc freaks. The chances are her ilrss
husband had more than yourself, and SIZE
will not repeat the folly OF trying TO break
vcs4 to harness Is for her own weak
nesseS. Sam. they are partly cured and
parxIv suppressed and the rest OF them are
lust the ordinary ills that you must meet
IN married life Above all. sam, do not
begin with the idea that married life Is al
ways too holy for dyspepsia and rieuFaa-
best woman in two different lights accord
ing 20 the way the wind blows Only DC
convinced is i the wind, not the woman,
old fellow.
.Ah. what pity il is, Sam, that you,
aud every other man, cannot be wfdower
the first time you marry. Then y0u would
start out with the advantage OF experience
and. I DO believe. woEEd not make
fool Of yourself IS yoa ere sure 10 do on
the first trial. know. my boy. that now
YOU will 10 some things most ldIotIc. on
will criEiGise when you should help and
ympashize. You VIII quote your moth
er's skill sc pickles and d0ughnuts-your
mother. remember. was widow twice.
But If y0sf were 10 marry widow, YOUR
self i 0Il0wer- you w0lid see az a glance
that Il Won quoted YOUR iamented
hFst. she could do the same.
But she will not. she has had
experience. SO have you Won both under
stand that 10 get on nicely you have 10
draw the comparison the other way You
are to decide in favor Of her taFts and
ginger snaps. by comparison. They are
the best, decidedly. you ever tasted. BY
this course you will shortly have is co0ed
in y0ur ear that, although her nrst was all
the parsOn said OF him st the funeral. and
not = bit what his next neiGhbor said OF
him before the funeral. yet you are 50
agTeeahlel There are. in fact, Sam, great
possibilities in second marriage"
This topic of love never will wear out.
but il Is doubtful II anybody vet under
stands il. Tolstoi's solution that alt love
IS criminal IS only a grade worse than the
notion that any honest love is foolish
The more see Of IL and feel of il the more
it seems clear that We all need it. Ii is
based on personal imperfection. The only
law TO govern love is TO be sure to md
those for our friends who viii not increase
our defects. but will, on the contrary.
make up the deficiency. The nobIeSt love
is desire TO make up others lacks for
them. but il IS by no means wrong 70 seek
TO have oTsr needs supplied. So we md
those who are very parasitic and need to
lean on others