St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1890-08-03

income, his ideas as to what wife's
regular allowance should be. and all
those ct ceteras that used to weigh so
heavily with practical parents and mar
riageabIe daughters, the young
man who goes a-wooing to-day
is liable to meet such ques-
tions as "What are your habits?"
"What are your morals?' Where do
you pass your leisure hours?" "Doyou
frequent saloons?"-and unless the an
swers are satisfactory, thank God! our
young women are getting sufficient
sense and independence to earn their
own living, and pass young
men of loose morals by, no
matter how heavy their pocket
book may be, or how many ancestors
they may have trailing like ghosts down
the dead years behind them, or how
many honorables their relatives may
have bought and tackled to their
npmes. To be honest and independent!
My dear girl, there is nothing in the
whole world like it.
Gold, honor. fame, beauty-all fade
to insignificance beside the woman who
stands up proudly before the world, Sc
cure in her own convictions as to what
| is right and what is wrong, and says
the man who loves her and whom per-
haps she already loves: mo; will not
! sink to your level. | will do all in my
| power to lift you to mine, and, if you
rise, you will never regret 1T. for those
who dwell In this high. pure atmos-
| phere have exquisite pleasure that
those who grovel upon the earth never
| know.
''Think upon it, and take your choice;
leave your past life and you may have
my love. strong, pure, deathleSs. as
only the love of a woman who does not
| yield lightly can be; cling to your past
| life, or to anything which will shrink
before my clear eyes, and you may
never so much as lay your lips upon the
| hem of my gown The edelWelSS-
the rarest and purest of snow flowers
never looks downward, but always up
ward; and it is only gathered once in a
| while by one who climbs to it.
Do not Judge too harshly mans past
life. So much depends upon cIrcnm-
stances, influence, companions. But
Judge him sternly after he once pro-
fesses to love you. Make no allowances
for HIM then. or the day will come when
YOU will regret it in heartacheS and pas
sionate tears. If he does not love you
well enough to give up bad habits for
| your sake. L ask y0u-l peg yOu-IOr
your own happiness and for the happi-
ness of the women who must come after
you and who may follow in your foot
steps. do not trust him, do not make al
lowances for his shortcomings, do not
marry him! If we are to avoid divorces,
we must elevate, and make more diff
cult, marriage; if we would elevate
marriage, we must improve the morals
| and habits of men.
This is work that lies in women's
hands alone. Do not sink to any mans
level, but lift him up to yours; if you
cannot do this, let him go, though it
cause you suffering to do it. Better it
were to suffer now than to to feel your
heart crumble away, butby bit, through
all the future years. Stand upright
alone il need be-with hand and a
will ready for any work and any fate,
strong In your own independence and
in your own convictions of right and
wrong. ! believe there is no fate hap
pier or higher than that of a woman
who is married to man who is worthy
! of her: but let her find out before, and
not after, marriage whether he is or
not.