The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1890-08-16
REGARDING HusEANpo.
Some Atlanta Women Air Thc!: We've
Upon the Subject.

Upon the Subject
There is ono thing that young won,.
an who has but recently gone and got.
ten herself married should bc advised
against; that il are sentimental cffti.
sivencss upon coniugal happiness in tho
presence of women who have been we'd
some time. No matter how happily
mated these danes may be they feel in
duty bound to snub any expression OF
faith and contcntment on tho part OF
the bride of a few weeks. They like to
tell pleasant little stories concerning
the fidelity of implicitly trusted hus-
bands, their fondness for night keys,
club suppcrs, cards, their peculiar eXac-
tions, eccentricities and so forth.
/ chanced tho other day TO drop in
upon circle of those matrons when q
two weeks bride called Tho subject of
marriage was brought up, and the bride
venturcd to assert that it was not always
failure.
Then there was an expressive shrug
and cynical smile from her listeners,
one of whom said:
"oh, but you've only been married a
short while. It's all very pretty now, II
it would only last"
well" hopefully, "it has lasted with
my mother and father some twenty odd
years"
ITS an inheritance, then. Why,
wish I'd inherited n popularity of that
kind from my parents"
~ think American women are more
to be envied than any wives on earth"
said another IL had u friend who said
she never knew what happiness was un-
til she married an American. Her first
husband was a Spaniard, who loved her
madly, and her life was in danger from
his jealousy. The second was an English.
man, so cold and selfish that she'd rath.
er have had him kill her than live with
him. The third was an American.
neither warm nor cold, and he gave her
as much money as she wanted and let
her do as she pleased"
'Now that's my idea of happinessw
said a pretty young matron. What
could n woman want more than plenty
of liberty and plenty of money? What
is the jealous love of Spaniard besides
shekels and freedom?
81 don't believe in jealous husbands"
said woman whose husband might
have been so with some cause. "Very
jealous men are apt to be selfish. They
value you not for what you are, but for
what you are estimated to be by others.
Such men need constant stimulant to
their affections"
What sort of husbands do you all be-
lieve imp" exclaimed the newiy-madc
matron, desperately.
For my part" replied careful ma
tron with several daughters to marry,
IL should prefer n widower, well OFF,
and with no children, of course. He
should be about forty years old, and
must have been a devoted husband to
his first wife. Such Il man has lived
over the vagarics of youth. lie has
sowed wild oats, and anchored steadfast-
ly his ship of love until it was blown
away by the wind of eternity. lie has
known life's greatest joys and deepest
sorrows He knows how to appreciate
the love of woman, and
having learned many lessons in woman
nature he will neither lie too eXacting nor
uncomprehending of her little fancies |
lnd foibles. But I'd rather have the first |
love of man, even if it was exacting. |
and even if we didn't always understand |
each other. should want to feel that l |
had been the first to share his heart and |
life."
II believe widower of forty is pre-
ferable to n bachelor of the same age"
said one who had reason to know. "Peo-
Pile talk of its being better to be an old |
mans darling than a young mans slave,
but believe that the women who marry
Did bachelors are the worst slaves on
earth. Then, there are other objections
besides unreasoning selfishness to un-
married men from forty on. Such indi-
viduals seldom strike happy mean.
They are either prudes or roues. If the
former, they are fixed in their prim, old
maidish habits; If the latter, they have
4 past that will not tear investigation.
People are always talking of the
horror Of marrying old bachelors-men |
whose sentiment has generally soured,
whose tastes and habits have settled |
into selfish, narrow lives, who have liv-
ed so long without the companionship
Of women that they can't understand or
enjoy their natures when they get mar
'ied. Old bachelor husbands are crusty,
'uspicious-every thing. that should
;ause the women who have wed them to
be pitied."
Here tho party was interrupted by
jhe entrance of the hostess hus-
1and, and the just-married young
went to her home, doubt
ess with perturbed spirit. She has
life time to moralize upon matrimony,
md perhaps she can solve the riddle at
,he end.-Nlaud Andrews, in Atlanta
Roland for an Oliver.
In the early days of this town doc
or had occasion to employ neighbor,
lawyer, to tako charge of case.
somehow the case never got ahead any.