New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1890-07-27
HOME AND SOCIETY.
INTERESTING NOTES FOR MEN AID WOMEN

To begin WITH the guests must not be 10" mahS-'
tainv not more than can be comfortably 7c"'o'i ~
thc table with little space between each ' y,
| ,,.r ,,u,tocn Carries some danger with IT, Tor II
ro ucst through illness or Unforeseen crcums'a'c''
fails 20 appear the party becomes thf'ccn' "" ''"
peopc are supcrstitIOuS enough to oolcct Ser'u'N "
this number. For large dinner therefore, s'"''0'
or eighteen seem 10 make the best party uoue" N,"'
| hostcSscs after much experience prefer ~" VI ~
| TO a larger company -,
Having settled upon the number. the next consder'-
ton uust be az 10 the guests Themselves Now IL !,
n gerry common error 10 limit dinner party W h"'''
| corpics or TO so-cIcd "buds,' making as WIZ
distinct class II Is a plan which never haS m'o ""u
never viii make as thoroughly enlOyaDle s'''o''"s
! ~ a more mixed assembly Let the OLD ana !o""s'
the married and single, meet together; ana II o'o
darcs to be unconventional enough to nave one UT WV
moro mon than women 1t VIII gencraiy DC ""
great advantage there IS less danger OF di'appo
mcnt and more possibility of free circulation III 'o
dravlng room after dinner. or course, III lni7 o"'o
! thc Younger men or those most Intimate WIN u'o
family must 20 into the diningroOm partnerless' Inc
next important question to decide upon Is tc unS W
the party. The Invitations should not DC Sent wv
| long beforehand. II becomes great pore 10 huEo "
certain social duty hanging over one iof "eehs III
advance Ten days, or at most fortnight, VIII w
ouitc enough notice for the most formal dinners Even
if some desired grcsts plead a previous engagement
c chances are that their places can be readily hlico'
often with advantage 10 the general ente'ta""o"''
The notes Of invitation may be formally printer VT
written in a simple and friendly way IL makes ht'c
difference practically for the present fashion dictates
short and simple dinners In all cases. ana III INC
matter OF ladies' Dress 1t IS the custom 10 wear w"
necicd gowns, If desired, TO large ana sno' p'r'"'
alike. 10.
We come now 10 the best hour Tor dinners, n point
upon which tho most experienced differ seven han-
past : and 5 O'Clock have cach advantages ana as
advantages A quarter before is sensible hour as
hunsa
precisely at . thus insurng proper consideration %
the cook and al the same time giving Nh" guests M
teen minute latitude. 1t may be said inst here ua'
the growing fashion Of arriving late is absolutely IN
| parlonabc. especially omong young people, ~"
ho,c,, should allow her assembled friends 10 whit Tor
q lacgtrd alter twenty minutes grace Ihe mo;-
Conner must then find hi, way into The dning-room
| ami greet his hostess there lie has brought me
ayvlwardnc,s u the position upon himself ana VIII
| perhaps learn lesson for tile future. The ARRANGE
mcrt the guests OF the table, ana VINO sho"o aHc
| I'm Who is one Of the most difficult and yet perhaps
the most important part Of the dinner problem 9o'h'
hostos,cs display positive genius and gam Npu''
,lou for successful par-ic, wthOut auy apparent
trouble wife others founder about aud MAKE gorgeous
| blundey, 10 the end Of the chapter OF course ~
this country there Is no pue-t VI the p'e''occ
which In England IS imperative, and Ia many cases.
absurd but on tho other hand. there Is Illness III
th.re, which mnst be considered and observed. A.
a r1Ilc the cyci~ Of Il dinner must not consult Their
| own mclu1'ipns for u moment The responsibility 81
giving other pl"l,uW Is upon them Tor the evening
| The host VIII either merton quietly 10 each g"i'le
man present the lady hc j. 10 load 10 the dining ROM
or card with the hdie, names, enclosed m envelopes
and nddr. ed 20 their prctvc escorts Will be pre-
t,d 10 Tho gentlemen In the hall upon their arrival
by a servant An elderly lady, stranger. or bride
| wh, happens 10 be- present, VIII be- entitled 10 hI
hosts arm. Trcy should lead the way into the AN
| lu.rOorn. followed ~ the company III pa'rs' anu
a-t # an o. lady of the house with the gentleman
hc thinks N 70 honor II no especial guest b" PR
,u, f.. yohr kind heart dictate who will enjoy most
the little honor 81 ealius the way. 1t IS Just here
nn, .n-ilnrt and courtesy Will 7e't" the FcNed
question with rr,atc,t succc,' t" the feast
Tho usitiug ard tcmpcr,tur, Of the d'nng'rooms
rho oracntntion Of the tables the duties 81 the ser
y,r,, and lat but greatest Of all, III menu !'e'i
,,,. subjects TINT would take too much time - con
,acr h.r, Therefore come AT once TO the ehd oi
,l. dinner When the dessert has been dnIy dIS
cu--.d the ho-ts>, should rise from the table ana
wait Will" her lady guest, pass through tue d"o '"'o
,,i. drawlu..r,om. Here al must - IN spc ana span
order. the fire burning brightly the candles or "a.
,rocrly attended TO- and the coffee should b" served
while a LII, feminine chat and gossip are lnt'I
changed. Arcr a short interval II Is customary tx
the gentlemen 70 join the ladies. For an . ''o
'r, ,,rr.,,es NAV De- ordered IT half past 10. and
d, II O'Clock The g1yer u the tedst VIII EoH''a'N
have The Held Themselves. with plenty OF 'lhc p'o''
,bru fl review and ,rticlsc all that has taken place
|
why T. u that women have not the same IboFS NJ
ball thl. they Alvo at garden party Ana no" ''''
,ov ,rd M, restraints year nftcr year that society
f,p 49, upon thcm II Is all very wei lo1 ''e "'
who h,- bni 70 smile upon man 20 bTnS nm 10 nef
,,. - do her bidding and for the matroh VINO com
c,o,ds attention by The Obligation owed by tho@s VINO
,ut her dinner and ~ Ia her "pcrap"N ou' V' Wv
majority what slavery IS greater thnh tia' en- '''
i,,,,,. ~, a baul How quite too rtdlcnlouN II j.
OF,
-, o. a., boy IN hi twcuc, ready t. give hcg MS
- ., ,rn,ri A, for conversation between Weh
anal ,,o,,.n, all enjoyment is spoiled ID! the hea Oh
v The mans part That Ia NAV be- stuck a. "' en-
I ,,.s..s II IN rather msocnt fashion ana OH ''c
. -, chat ne Z, " stuck" A. for girls intelligent
rrc rr,t,irr- that they how can parents cuu'V
l. ,h ,d, that they must lose their young dignity D.,
i ,,, q, attract tie attention Of boys hlf OF "h"hl
i ar. their Inferior, N mind and manner ana !' "N'
"a, a moor GIL dol II she sieslc' anu ul'N' 'o
( .crsc and hattcrs and amuNes the Young "'c'' a'
w. - s,,ce.s. and If she docs not attract. no matter
,,,,, ,r veil bred She may be. she is left u pine
:, .,ort cycu the power walk across the room a.
. | = Tho yyer-. non compos mcnti'. II ms STATE .
= things is absurd for grown'up. sensible s"'' "o" '"
p mari, humllatlug It IS for older women 10 "c' u"
Il ,o,, 80, the favors that may lie v0uchSatd u
- ,,.,, ~, Tom Dick Harry. We are not Np''h."R
= w. r.,c,, 81 the successful ones; they have th'n
4 | n,ir,, a, Nc all know. and enjoy, perhaps te'
" ,,,umuh, over their sisters. but Oh uie "lao'S
p ,omcn who 20 TO balls and whose gooo uHo
lc ,tc deucndcnt ON the number Of men they can O.
~ -, tall, 10 them and walk them aboIt' upon ao"c ON
=, +, take them in 10 supper ah'-h c SV."'
- ,, AR a would be young woman-up0n parUo
/, "a. .crr,,n. women whose fear that they ulaN d.
N Ion neglected almost If not quite ncn'i'hcS L"
~ pleasure Of anticiratioh MA,
h a, cour,c the fault all les with the women Inc,
&c control society and II dozen leading hn'fo"s "'
NJ their successful daughters resolved tHut p''
al IN
ar -, t,.h, If locomot!on and circulation, ana Hho'"
rs r-istcutIy set thc example for few evening w
o. bnnld have peaceful revolution and the "nn'r,,'
~ ,,iro,o ,ouu he the type Of what true 'NihA''Io