The morning call. [volume] (San Francisco [Calif.]) 1878-1895, 1890-04-06

mo, 1 don't mean that. l mean that the
sentiment Of society people is that any Of
these attentions, singly or taken together in
moderation, may be offered and accepted
without any imprOi riety. Good taste must
govern woman in this as in everything
else. OF course, II man pays all these at
tentions to married woman it is bound to
provoke the comment of the woman's
friends, or so-called friends, and no woman
must do anything which viii provoke
comment. just as soon as gossip is excited
over what she is doing she must call halt.
the friendship between a man and
woman may be perfectly proper. That has
nothing to do with the case. She must
avoid the very appearance of evil If she
is wise, as most American women are,
matters will never reach the point where
any comment is suggested but if they do
reach that point, the whole thing neces-
sarily must be dropped. Gossip is vital and
permeating and there is no arguing it down
except by removing the excuse for it,"
There Is one branch Of this subject on
which Mr. McAllister naturally did not care
to talk, and that was the branch which
deals with the possible action of the hus-
band when matters come to a critical point,
so far as the attentions of some man or
other to his wife are concerned, and reach a
stage where silence Is no longer possible.
Some clubmen say that, in case like this,
the only thing to do is to thrash the inter-
lOper. Another class of men who may or
may not have had experience to guide them
say that the very best thing to do is
to go to the gallant knight who in
sists on paying attentions to giddy
and thoughtless matron and tell him
that if he does not withdraw his atten-
lions very prompt resort will be had to
firearms. The only trouble with this
scheme is that very few men who hold any
kind OF position care to use such ex-
plosive measures, and threat Of this sort
is taken as an empty threat. Another
class of authorities on this delicate point
think that the wife alone should be dealt
with, and instructed to inform her admrer
that his attentions must be dropped aud his
visits to the husbands house must cease.
There is one trouble, however, with this
method; it is not always efficacious.
A number OF cases are to be found in So
ciety to-day where young and attractive
married women are accepting the attentions
of unmarried men, accepting them con-
stantly and without any particular disguise.
AND each OF these cases is marked by the
clandestine character to it which Ward Nc
Alllster, In volcing the sentiment of society,
declares cannot exist without suggesting
improperly. In two cases the women are
wives OIL mlllionalres, and in another case
the woman Is society woman of magnifi-
cent lace and figure, who Is included in
Ward McAlisters celebrated 100 beauties.
with husband, however who treats her
with persistent and systematic neglect,
There are other cases besides these and
there have been dozens Of them in the re-
cent history of social New York. The
young married women belonging TO what is
known as the Hampstead Hunting Set are
exceedingly frank, according TO all accounts,
in their acceptance of the compliments and
attentions Of their blithe young bachelor