The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1890-11-24
YOUNG MAN.
Some Reasons Why Girls Find Him
Tiresome-He Needs to Know
Something 10 Please Them.

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There are three causes which go far
TO explain the Notwithstanding char
acter of the average young man to the
average young person OF the opposite
sex. The first is that he is too much
engrossed in himself and the things
which interest him. The finest point
in courtesy in conversation is to seek
those subjects which will interest the
people with whom we talk. The
young man who goes into the society
of cultivated young women and a
nothing better TO offer as his contrl-
button to the conversation than base
ball talk or "reminiscences OF
college scraps Will make
himself entertaining. If at all,
only by making himself ridicu-
lous, and that, it is safe to say, Is
not what he is after. So with the
various other subjects, either OF busi-
ness or of pleasure, which are chiefly
the concern OF men. They ought not
to be forced into conversation with
IN If the latter want to know
about them, very well, but the infor-
nation should be given as brightly
and interestingly as possible. and
without any appearance OF a cOn-
descending enlightenment. The true
gentleman who enters the society OF
women with the Difference which he
should feel, will study them suffi-
GENTLY TO know what things are likely
to interest them and what are not.
Another difficulty is that the aver
age young man is likely to make a
H. - - fhn fhfr~o xvhfoa will
interest young women, even when he
makes a sincere attempt to adapt his
conversation to them. Old notions
die hard. There are still a great
many Young men who cannot under
stand that the young women whom
they know, some of them at least,
have minds which are capable of
something more than small talk, of
fashion plates or society gossip.
Nevertheless, this is true. Nothing
is more CALLING to young women of
cultivation and intelligence than to
be persistently talked down to by the
men of their acquaintance. Let the
average young man realize that the
average young woman with whom he
talks knows probably at least as much
as he does, and he will make his con
versation better worth while by put
ting q little more intellect into it.
A third difficulty is that the average
young man is in serious danger OF
being left behind, intellectually, by
the average young IN We do
not expect that this alarming state
ment will be accepted without dis
pute. But we commend to the sol
emn consideration of young men the
question whether a young man, who
in college, gives his chief thought to
athletics, and after he leaves college
is engrossed with business, is likely to
keep up with his sister, or some other
fellows sister, who started with a.
mind at least as bright as his, has had
equal educational advantages. and
has both time and disposition to i'm
prove herself. We maintain that no
Young man can afford to deprive
himself of the broadening and eleva-
tinginfiuence of books. Thenews-
paper has It's lace, but it is not the place
of Shakespeare or Milton, of Addison
or Ruskin, or any other of the great
masters OF English. Business has its
exacting demands, but they can be
best met by a man who r~elievesethe
tension upon his mind by occasional
excursions in standard and current
literature. If the young man of the
period is to converse TO the e~dification
and entertainment of young women,
he must fill his mind with something
besides baseball, or stocks. or politics.
These may enter into conversation,
but they must not be its staple. To
restore the proper conversational
relations of the sexes, the average
young man must improve his habits
of thought and speech in more ways
than one.-BoSton Journal.
sranish Court Economy.