The Daily bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Hawaii]) 1882-1895, 1890-07-31
FRIENDSHIP.

possess merit, the surprises are al
ways pleasant but with your friend
rs with your book, do not proceed |
too rapidly; far better to advance
lcisurely, to take time to think over |
that which is new, and comprehend |
that which seems old, so that when
the book or the character is per-
fectly understood YOU have no de-
sire to read the word 'fnis," but
keep your book or your friend as q
lifelong companion, This is as it
should be, but oh, alas how many
harmful things done in the name of
friendship. To one whom we like
and perhaps only deserves the name
of cquaintance--we give our CONT
dence without reserve; and 10 one
who perhaps in q year hence may
become stranger TO us and whose
interest was only manifested in us
for curiosity's sake, we open the sa-
cred precincts of our heart and find
ourselves in the clutches of an en-
envy far more fatal than the poison
Gus reptile. We have been led into
betraying our hopes and our aspira-
tons, our likes and dislilIcs, our
friends and our enemies have been
confdentially discussed as we sup
| posed-we open our eyes TO find the
world (rcady born critic that it isl
reads and knows Our innermost
thoughts from Il disadvantageous
point of view, and rates us rs a
trashy bool, to he read and cast
aside. Aud all for overdue conf
dence and trust, two of the most
beautiful traits in human character,
but must be treated with that tact
and intuition which acts as n safe
guard to all Observation-Disclosures. The
sad part of it all is, we are horn hui
man, and being human we commit
error, and even worse than that is
blunder; and the rigid and frigid
zone of society in our little city in
the tropics never forgives blunder
in human brother, unless it be-
comes vice; and then if it be
neatly Tabled and presented in due
regulation garb to the chosen people
of Israel for seven successive days,
on the seventh day of every week
they swallow it with comparative
relish; but the "blunder" which
has been committed in being your
self frank, honest and open, and
smiling when the rule was to appear
serious, can never quite be over
come. 1t is the price paid for intel
ligent liberty, and we can't murmur
if our bills are sent in TO us in due
order. But word of warning to
those who may follow in our path
way, join the church before enter
ing this port, and then be wary of
your confidential friends. Your en-
envy is harmless, one can attack an
enemyin open combat. For the sting
of a false friend, who has an anti
dote? And when on the other hand
we find friends who are true AND
) loyal, let rs study them more and
more, let us learn their priceless
worth, and when we can. administer
to their little wants and comforts,
let il be our chief pleasure and 9
course of principle with us that We
do not allow ourselves to he tvran.
meal with them, that we guard theil
feelings with that divine spark which
iightens their burdens and sympa
thises with their sorrows, and care
fully avoid making their ears re
ceptacle for ali of our trials, lest II
addition to their own they bccom,
over-freighted with sorrow and gu
companionship becomes the chail
that frets and galls-instead of tia
restful soothing influence whicl
d true love and friendship requires
Remember one thing, your friend
thoughts, beliefs and actions are he
own private affairs, and when vol
attempt to govern them you max
: OF her dish of amusing GOSSIP
and not the sacred tie of friendship
= Once having friend worth havin,
keep her. She is worth the stud
to do so, and you can do this b
acting your own true natural sci
instead of mimicing, simpering
whining hypocrite. There nee
never be one tinge of hypocrisy i
n yonr tone, only genuine considera
! ton for the small things whic
!: please or dlsplease her and lastin
* tenacity to cling to principles whic
r. are pure and good. DO friendship
+ give us rights, no, love may civ
N us few, such as joining in SYN
pathy, when our friend is in grie
or rejoicing with her when she
I'D glad, but never gives us the libert
TO be critical, to be impertinent, I
be inquisitive or to be rude. w
r. would treat a stranger TO courtes,
K, why should we ever forget it in on
rps friend? Because she loves u
IS, that only gives us the right to II
ht turn affection and give her renewc
OIL Vigor by kindnesses shown hi
% through us TO others in her absenc
II, Could we only expand our soul an
A. grasp that ideal life of Christ, v
wonld never crush poor fellow b
ings even with look, but with TIL
benign loving kindness take all |
the hand and lift mortality high
and higher. Selfishness though di
; guised under many names is Il
i enemy to Christianity and tr
- friendships. Let us guard it on {
sides and corners, for fear its co