The evening world., 1890-01-02

Tho husband who would snore on n sofa
without interruption must be either very
tired or very indifferent. In either case. II
| we're his wife, ! should find some urgent
reason for going to the dininR-room or
upper hall until he regnired dis senses. |
have every sympathy in the world for the
cares and veSations that the bread-winner
has to endure, but never would permit my
husband to give expression 20 fatigue In my
society. ! wouldn't mind a reduction in my
allowance or the stern necessity for having
10 wear a frock tho second season half as
much AZ Id mind the digrcspect Of one
yawn or 20 much AZ a catnap In my COM
pnny. II il wire to try and be sensible, and
not expect the honeymoon to last forever;
but II n man and wife are 10 he very good
friends, not an inch Of her respect must n
woman Weld.
81 like what she says about the fatigue Of
talking scnlskins. diamonds and bank notes.
Men arc not National banks, and none and
fine things do not constitute happiness.
There II something else TO live for. |
thoroughly agree with her about ailments.
| hate the women who have feelings and
nerves and aches that they are continually
thrustinn at me.
IF wero u man I would never abuse a
woman; but there are two kinds that |
could never abide-the one who naRgod me
aud the one who talked sick. I'd never
live with either. I'd provide for her, hut
Id ttay away until she got better or quit
~nRgRinR. | have had to work very hard for
my living, and when / get away from the
theatre ] have to have peace and fresh air
and something good TO eat. l don't care
what else | am allowed. but these are o.
s%entials, aud perhaps, knowing as | do
their value. l can pympathize with the
husbands who have to abide the pet pains
and headaches. the bad children and SER
wants, the sarcnsm and fault-finding aud
petty icalousics of frctful wives.
II like the view Annette Sidney takes Of
home life. and | believe with her that the
blame IL with the wife. She does forget
altogether too much. II is a great deal, 1t
seems TO me, for n man to give his name,
his home. his honor. and his worldly goods
to n woman. lie stands between her and
the world. lie IL responsible for her we'll
being. must bear the blame IL she crrs, and
gets no glory whatever for her triumph and
success. He Ia providor and defender of the
domestic fort. and M such deserves to be
looked after. cared for, respected and ten
derby considered.
"A woman can't helpi II II her love cools
and her feelings change. 1t isn't her fault.
Love ia involuntary and comes and goes
without our yolition. She has. however,
entered n contract to keep the peace of home
sacred, and she owes 1t to the firm TO do her
very best to establish the credit and main
tain the honor Of the house. She must for
get self, possess herself with patience, keep
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Sidncy's advice she will win III the end.
Blu it's all very funny that l, who have
never even had n sweetheart, and who
couldn't get a husband il l wanted one,
should have the presumption to sit az a Judge
in a contest for keeping a husband at home
evenings. Really, tremble at my own
h~nrdihood."
Mrs. Egbert Guernsey, who IN Justly proud
Of her husband. said that she meyer kept him
at home evenings when IL was possible to
drive him out. She thought that the very
first sentence in IL. NJ. +. -" letter won
the prize: MEN must go out evenings II
ONE expect to have the cobwebs
brushed out Of their heads" She says:
~. for one, want my husband to 90 out
and get ideas and bring them home to me-.
The best part Of my life is spent here at the
tireside. l don't 40 out any more than / am
obliged TO. but l encourage my husband to
do 80. because l think that the man who
stays about the house gets narrow. Life.
contact with the world and mingiing with
his fellow-beings broaden n man mind,
and that's what il wanted.
Its good to believe in people. Never
mind il We are deceived. Men are mortal
and none are infallible. Confidence, like
love, begctS confidence. would never call
an equal to account much less my husband,
but i am not ready to say that the king can
do no wrong The days of dcspotism are
over. and the monarchies are numbered. |
would never upbraid the king IL he
dragged his crminc in the mud, but should
let him see that he had grieved me.
II am at a loss to know Just what mean
ing the competitor puts on the arts of
Of coquetry.' And / don't like even the ref
erence SHE makes to kisses and white
arms / an opp sed to kissing on medical
principles. / think the habit pernicious.
| believe in realism more than emotion.
The caresses will do the mos. good il treas
ured To meet the rcverses, tho sorrows. the
disappointments, the obloquy that come to
most OF us at some time md wrench the
heart.
mo wife, | don't care what personal or
mental attractions she possesses. can afford
to neglect herself. Dress charms the senses
there's no question about it-and the older a
oma gets the greater need she has to
make a lovely appearance. She errs, too,
when she loses her hold ON study. Her
music, her knowledge of books, art and the
world of progress are the capital for what a
merchant would call fancy stock. Furniture
placed in a house doesn't make a home.
There must be a circle, and it, members
must be one in sympathy, love, interest.
There must be an atmosphere about and
through the interior, ana this the wife and
mother must make. l think, after all, what
the men of the day want is c~omradeshlr. OF,
rs the writer puts il, 'wifely bon cont
drddr.'
MEN are not dolls and they won't be fon-
died; like iogp they want 70 be fed, given a
rug before the fire and let alone, They
ant to blink aud think, bark occasionally
and after the chAse To be talked to aud
praised. Husbands want to find a friend in
the wife, mother II sweetheart. and when
they have it they do not abdicate the
throne, they do not seek counsel elsewhere,
nor does the husband ana father grow in