The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1890-09-05
A DANGER TO AVOID.

Timely Words of Advice to the Accom-
plIshed and Progressive Girl of the
Period.
In these days, when women may
choose from almost as many occupations
as their brothers. there is danger that
the bread-winning occupations will re-
ceive undue attention in comparison
with that given the old-time occupation of
home-maklng. 1t is popular now for par
ents to give the girls trade, and i.tsgoing
to become more popular year by year I'M
less it becomes a cause of too great a
neglect of the principles of homemade
ing, for there are few parents who do not
want their daughters to be independents.
whatever position they may assume in
the abstract discussion of the subject.
This is especially true of mothers who
have been obliged to feel their depend
ence, and have been made far from hap
py in consequence. Men who have so
much to say against the advancement
of women would be surprised and cha
grined If they could know how much
they were doing, by their offensive at
tempts to assert their superiority. to
make women strive still harder for ad-
vancement.
These mothers are apt to become over
confident, and carried away by the one
idea that the daughter is to have bust
ness education, and be made independ-
ent of the duties which they have found
so irksome.
my daughter will not be likely to
marry" said lady few days ago. ''be-
cause she is abundantly able to take
care of herself 1 have not neglected to
show her something of the life which
married woman is compelled to lead.
and to compare it with the freedom and
independence of the woman who takes
care of herself"
That may be all very well, but there
is something of at least equal import
ance which this complacent mother has
neglected, and that is the persistence
shown by Mother Nature in the carry
ing out of her plans. Girls do not marry
so early in life when given the means
of independence, and larger proper
ton of them do not marry at all; but the
fact remains that most of them do
marry, and no mother has any right to
delude herself with the hope that her
girl will not be one of them, and there
fore will need none of the education
which will fit her to be a true home
maker. The adoption of that course
virtually places her in opposition to'the
true principles of Independence, by
weakening the influence of the home,
and renders it less possible for the girls
of the future to attain that independ-
ence which she Graves for her own. She
should remember that women are held
in highest respect in those countries
where the home is most sacred.
The principles of home-making should
be considered of the greatest import
ance in the education of every woman
without regard to any anticipated future
station in life. The woman who is
given a business education will come
nearest to being an ideal wife and
mother if her home training has not
been neglected; but it is fact that too
many mothers of the present day are
made so blind by the unpleasantness of
their own lives, that they are really un-
fit to train their daughters in any but
a one-sided way, and the greatest hope
for the homes of the next generation
lies in the amount of outside influence
which can be brought to bear upon our.
semi-independent girls by those who are
broad-minded enough to see both sides
of the question, and to realize and point
out the dangers which will arise from
too close adherence to either side
Housekeeper