, 1890-05-13

VIEWS anu 4 utNOlCu u NAhG4ul nun VI
two that night to considering the ques-
ton, coming to this conclusion:
The man who succeeds best with wo-
men must not know o much about
them, but must greatly desire to know
more. There is nc incentive TO interest
like mystery, and to the average man
there is no object in nature so mysterious
as the nature, the motives, the instincts
of a woman. The really delightful man
knows as little about these matters as
the noble savage does of a watch.
When the first missionary showed the
first Otaheitan his chronometer and told
him that it was alive and talked to him
the Otaheitan worshiped both man and
watch, and everybody was very comfort
able. Later on, when the m~issionary's
uneasy conscience made him pen the
watch, show its wheels and springs, show
how it WAS wound up and made to keep
time, the Otaheitan felt he had been hum
plugged and at once proceeded TO eat the
missionary and spoil the watch by treat
ing it with too little instead Of too great
respect.
Moral: Never tell how the watch goes.
But besides a great curiosity and inter
est in women the successful man must
nave a profound admiration for their
faults and foibles, rs well as for their
charms. | have seen men who were too
just, too logical, too mathematical to sue
coed with a sex which is fond of setting
its own fancies above the narrow restric-
tons of such IDEAS.
A man may playfully try TO make a
woman see that her course is opposed
both 10 law and reason, but If she de
clines to see anything of the sort he
must not appear or indeed feel shocked
or dismHyed, but gracefully concede the
point in question. Most women like to
be lectured a little, and argued with a
little, but they hate to be proved in the
wrong. A man must not take the one
Of a pedagogue, even II he is asked to
teach a pretty woma common law or
Euclid.
| remember once asking n man to show
me something about navigation, and
after some ~bewildering information he
began working out a problem in his
book.
What is IT. Show mer' said |, won
dering what absorbed him so.
"Oh, you-m-you wouldn't under
stand murmured he, with his whole
mind in the figures he was scratching
down.
Docs any woman suppose | ever liked
that man again?
Besides interest and admiration, and
delighted tolerance OF her foibles, the
successful man must have an excellent
memory and ready wit. Many a woman
has felt her regard for a man rise from
very temperate to summer heat by per-
ceiving that he remembered her words
of n year ago, or the fancy she had once
expressed for a particular perfume, a
flower, n color, n fad" Of any sort.
A very ugly man made himself charm
ing to me the other day by gently taking
n sandalwood fan from the hand of a
lady sitting mex me, and while chatting
with her and playing with the fan con-
irving TO get out the rivet in the handle
so that the whole thing collapsed, and
he, with ten thousand apologies, put it
in his pocket to be repaired.
II remembered your saying at the
Paris exposition that the smell of sandal
wood made you i'll" said he to me pres
emily, "and | am going out now to put
this in my %overcoat pocket"
When he came back he smelled Of
smoke, and | do not Mt all doubt, when
the fan was mended and he carried ii
home. that he said something very charm
ing to the pretty woman who owned it:
but nevertheless he said and did the
right thing at the right moment for me,
and | always like TO see him approach.
Again, a man must know something
and know how TO show that he knows IL.
Women adore power in a a 1t is
one of the innate instincts of tho sex.
Among savages and the classes which
come next to them in our civilization the
strongest and biggest man is the one who
can take his choice among the women of
his circle, and in the very most exalted
planes of the highest civilization the man
who can command the respect, the at
t%ention, the obedience of his fellow men
is he whose homage most delights wo-
man.
A man who is the jest and the butt of
other men, or even he who is treated
with n good humored familiarity border
ing on contempt, by his fellows, will per
haps arouse in women's breasts II certain
~tolerating acceptance, a half pity, half
amusement, very like that bestowed upon
the court jester or their W pet dwarf
by the court ladies of the olden time, but
he never will command more.
81 don't value what nobody else val
ues," said n woman the other day in
speaking of one of these court testers,
who was disposed to be very attentive to
her, and replied;
MY dear, you ARE enunciating one of
the great dogmas of our faith"
But after all the very most attractive
trait n man can possibly possess, and the
one surest to make him "A universal ia
yOrite among women, is intensity. A
bldSG, washed out, bored and languid
man never can be very much liked or de-
sired by women who nave to fight
against all those tendencies in them
selves. They var a man to be all alive,
to care very much about things, to put
his whole soul into the question of where
ones new picture should be hung, or
whether Russian ten or Roman punch is
the more refreshing.
One likes to lean back in the corner of
the sofa or II comfortable chair and watch
one of these vivid and earnest creatures
as he rearranges some ornaments on the
etagere, or demonstrates with pencil and
paper just where the boats lay in the
late regatta, or enthusiastically describes
the CLOSE shave" he had in driving his
tandem in the park yesterday.
And with all his enthusiasm and earn
estness he must be capable of instantly
perceiving when his energy is becoming
a little oppressive, and change to quietude
and gentleness with perfect good humor
and perfect contentment.
Another thing all women demand and
very few women or for that matter men