Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1890-08-31
THE DIVORCE LAWS.

THE DIVORCE LAWS.
There is class of people that is badly
worried about the operation of the divorce
laws; and there has been a society organ
lied to make it more difficult to obtain
divorces and to make the laws upon the
subject the same in all the States. Under
lying the movement is the belief that
divorce, except for one cause, is unscrip-
tural, and hence with many the movement
partakes of a religious nature. With such
people of course the object is that our laws
shall not conflict with divine laws. But,
more generally, perhaps the purpose it to
put stop to what is considered a great
social evil. The rather indefinite aim is
to make marriage more happy and thus
throw protection about the home. All
who have the welfare of the home and
society at heart must lament the activity
of the Divorce Courts. But the Courts
are not the cause They are the effect
We might shut them up and thus, by
bringing men and women face to face with
the fact that when they promise each
other to stick for life it is a promise that
is binding, we might lead them to be a
great deal more careful about their inter-
course with each other, but we could not
insure happy marriages. Beginning at
the Divorce Court is not the place to be-
gin the reform of the evil we are trying to
reform. There is no objection at all to
smashing the Court. Upon the whole l
believe that society would be better off if
divorce were impossible, though there may
be two sides to the question. But until we
can
GET SOME MORE SENSE
Into the heads of men and women who
fall in love we shall fail in our real pur-
pose. A young man and young woman
fall in love-and so do old men and old
women for that matter-and the last ray
of good common sense falls into nothing
ness. In the majority of cases they at
once become irresponsible idiots. They
are utterly unapproachable with reason.
Evidence as clear as MONDAY against their
fitness for each other only makes them
love the harder and talk the softer. They
are each perfect in the others sight, and
the only thing outside of the burning, all
consuming sentiment in their hearts that
ever engrosses their thoughts for moment
is the improbability that human nature
will ever again reach such marvellous per-
fection as each exhibits to the other. In
time the wedding day comes and goes, and
with its going comes the stern reality of
things. Gradually, as the faults INSOFAR
able from human nature begin to creep
out, rude change comes to their dreams,
and it may continue to work until there is
only about one thing upon which they
agree, and that is that both have made
unmitigated fools of themselves. Divorce
Court or no Divorce Court, that agreement
will be made, and the future amity of the
family depends altogether upon whether
or not they
CONTINUE TO BE FOOLS.
Or turn about and exercise good Judgment.
Now, confess that | do not clearly see
how the difficulty is to be avoided as long
as human nature remains as 1t is. What
is needed is to impress men and women
with the solemn fact that there is great
deal about courtship and marriage besides
sentiment. Matrimony is one of the most
important business matters with which
people have anything to do. We can bet
ter afford to make a mistake in almost any
other direction, and before the important
step is taken the heart ought TO be kept
down and the mind awake until the most
serutinizing investigation Is made of char
acter, disposition, habits, etc, and it would
be well for each party to investigate him.
self or herself before giving much atten-
tion to the other party. The worst fraud
ever practieed in this world is for man
or woman who is utterly unfit fo- husband
or wife, to palm themselves off on some
body with all their defects. 1t is clear
swindle. There ought to be no difficulty
for people TO find out wha. their own fit.
ness for matrimony is, for people do NOT
fall in love with themselves to an extent
that utterly blinds them TO their imper-
fections.
A man of position and wealth is not al
ways pleasant fellow about the house.
have friend, lovely, intelligent woman,
who has an elegant home and wearing ap'
parel, but happen to know that she dare
not invest so cents without consulting the
lord of the mansion. Another,
THE WIFE OF MILLIONAIRE,
As she has no purse of her own, gets what
she wants and sends the bill to her huS.
band to storm over at his leisure. And
do yor know, l believe that Eve ate the
apple because shs wanted it, and she liked
il lust as we'll as Adam did, only she had
too much honor to slip around and throw
the blame on some one else. 1t IS the
lovers place to manage TO get the girl he
loves for a wife, and if both are what they
should be there will be no more effort in
that line needed to live happily together
as long as life shall last.
No, we did not promise to manage oul
husbands; neither do many OF the present
generation promise to obey. | have a
friend whose lover spoke to the minister
himself, saying he wished that word lef
out, as he was marrying woman, not &
child, and assure you it has always beer
my delight to notice that she always doe
everything in her power to please. Be
sides, ! believe that there are very few
women nowadays, if they find themselves
bound to a stake by log chain, would mo-
be glad to liberate themselves by sly HI
If they could. Then | don't believe thai
husbands have more care than wives do
/ think these things are very fairly bal
anced, and If trials must come they mus
be borne by both unfinchingly. Yes, LEI
us make home bright as possible, and witt
happy, sunshiny tempers, keep the gray
hairs out of both heads; that is, if we dom
like gray hairs, but for one do and gladly
say let them come. There is one thins
Solomon can say-neariy every man who
is worthy of crown gets it. How is i
that at the end of that stirring appea
should come in the just and natural bu
bitter cry against the laws that man has
made? Does that husband you reverence
so much believe that woman who mus
obey the laws should have a voice in max
ing them? If he does not he needs little
managing.
DESIRABLE GIRLS.
Nearly every desirable grip is gooc