The DeSmet leader. (DeSmet, Kingsbury Co., Dakota [S.D.]) 1883-1891, 1890-04-26
SOME FAULTS OF MEN.
What Women Think ot the FraIi-
ties of the Sex--Laying Down
Domestic Laws.
The Kind OF Man Tpey Would Not
MarVy-Different Typea Of
Social Faults.


q pretty young woman some seasons
out and known to be decidedly fastid.
ious declared that after q critical stu
dy OF mankind she lound it decidedly
easier to describe the kind OF man
that she wouldn't marry than the
kind OF man she would.
| 'What do you think Is the worst
sort OF man to marry?" asked the
other. &&%
.Weli, Iscarcely know. All sorts OF
mean men make mean husbands. dig.
sipated men, selfish men, unfaithfu'
men, cross men, jealous men, stingy
men-Why, could 60 on naming men
with disagreeable characteristics fore
ever. | believe, however, that the
worst fate on earth would be to be
married to q rich man with D. mean,
stinRy, little.soul."
"But il the man loved you," inter.
rupted sentimental maid, che
wouldn't be stingy to you.."
"If ! married such q rich nan it
wouldn't be for love. but for money.
and couldn't use all the little wheed.
ling ways for getting his ducats out OF
him that woman in love is mistress
Of Then to have him exact n strict
account OF every dime ] spent when !
had looked forward to spending his
money freely-well / think it would
kill me. i should look forward to
helping my poor friends and relatives,
and not to be able to do it would be
so hard"
"But don't believe any man would
be so strict" said the sentimental
girl.
"You don'tf Well, you just haven't
watched mean husbands as have.
Why. know o woman who married
one Of those rich, mean men, and
when she wanted to give some OF her
old clothes to some OF her poor rela-
tives he made her pack them all up
and send them out TO his plantation,
where he sold them 10 his negroes for
q good sum. He would give her as
many fine clothes as she wanted, for
he liked to have his wife appear we'll,
but she didn't care for dress, and she
was never allowed to spend money as
she wished. She made money on his
farm, selling fruit, IegRs, chickens. etc,
but she had to account to him for
| that even. It was never her money
her very own to do with as she pleas.
ed. Think that sort of a man would
make any woman utterly wretched.
As his wife she is worse than q ser
want, for she dosen't even have the
privilege of spending at her own sweet
will the money which ought tn be hers
an the wages for ner household duties.
In such q position, should quietly
fold my hands, and say: Now, /
charge you 80 much for my service as
housekeeper and oyerseer OF your
domestic affairs. Those wages are to
be mine without question, and il you
don't choose to give them, why get a
housekeepsr, and ! shall remain the
idle inmate OF your establishment"
"Smailer faults than this one can
make a man undesirable in girls
eyes" said pretty brunette.
Last summer paid q visit to some
friends in the country, and, while there.
fell in love and became engaged to a
young planter--a man handsome,
manly and really admirable In every
way. went from the country to Wis
it very swell people in the city and my
fiance called. The drawing room was
full OF gay people. He entered, wear
ing among other things, an expensive
white vest, and az he was being INTRO
duced he stumbled over q piano stool.
hated that man then aud there. /
could have forgiven the white vest,
but never the awkwardness. l pic
turedshim flirting the gravy over the
table as he served the turkey; / saw
him stepping on women's gowns at
entertainments; thought OF his awk-
uardness as host and guest until il
would have driven me mad had / not
bid him return to his native heath
and never let me egaze upon him more"
"a voice can 90 against man as
much as mans manner," said an.
other. 81 could never love man
who lisped. / should always feel
ashamed OF him and disgusted with
him no matter how clever or good
looking he was. To me lispins voice
is, in man or woman. always indi-
catiye OF deceit, and in the former the
idea OF effsminacy is added. I bad q
lisping beau once--a very bright, at.
traCtive fellow, tall and manly look
ingx Every body wondered nc my
reiusing him. /. myself didn't think
would until he asked me in accents
like q three-year old child b.
81 could marry lisper," said girl
feelingly, "rather than q man with
one ot these hioh keyed, cracked voic-
es. Nothing on earth would be more
mortifying than this sort OF q hus.
band. was ENGAGED to such q one,
and q friend was sounding his praises
when she paused and then said: oh,
but that voice, it Is Simply dreadful.
IL sounds real niggerish.' The words
remained with me. and Im unmarried
still. Thought Of our wedding journey,
and when the car stopped how the peo
| pie would be startled and turn and
stare az those cracked, piping tones
reached their ears. No matter what the
mans dignity, bearing or character
may De II he have this sort OF o voice he
cannot gain respect and admiration.
unless it be from an acquaintance
long and intimate enough TO discover
his true worth. Now, q woman may
love her husband dearly, and yet
thereis something missing n he dosen't
gain spontaneous admiration and re-.
spect from others.
"Let q man be- everything and lack
dignity, and he 10 unworthy In q
woman's eye" said Girl who has
had many lovers. 81 don't see how
an unuignified man ever happens to
get married. q man who makes fool
OF himself In public, who is q buffocn,
or would.be wit, painter, a singer OF
comic songs or q repeater OF poetry.
] always hated that sert OK male
creatures from the time ! put on long
frocks and went 20 nicnics III the hcii-
days. The boys who insisted on
wearing the girls hats, who said and