Iowa County democrat. [volume] (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1877-1938, 1890-10-24
PARENTS AND CHILDREN.
What Can Be Done to Preserve the
True Relations of Parent
and Child
Parents Should Treat Their Child
rem With Respect-Always
Compelling Obedience.
The Lessons Of Wise and ConSid-
crate Parents Are Seldom
Forgotten.

| Forgotten.
Vacation is over. Glad to come home;
families are beginning to settle themselves
in their old ways Even the tardiest lag
| gard will return TO take up his thread and
go on With the web which the summer in
terrupted. What shall the pattern be?
Who shall choose the colors? Some wo-
man surely, for since the goddess of wis
dom patronized the art of weav-
ing her sex has excelled in that cunning
| device, whether with divers coIors in
wool or with the subtle strands of human
! character.
a hundred men make an encampment,
| but one woman home" If the respon-
| sIbility be great so also is the opportunity.
| Wisais she who is able to rise above the
| trials which attend that honorable office to
| accept her privilege with thankfuness.
| Happy is she over whose house broOdS the
| home atmosphere.
| The JOnC winter evenings are very near.
/ What books, what work, what creation
| shall be chosen? Some woman must be
read to help over hard places or supply
the need, whatever it be. And men would
have it so. 1t is not in defiance of their
rights or to usurp their privilege
to supplement both. Home is the fair
heaven to which they scud when plans
mIscarry or friends prove faithless; for
whatever mans own character may be.
he always wishes his wife to be the
| synonym for all that is wise and good.
| Believing her worthy, it is no wonder he
leaves to her the guardianship of his home
! and allows himself to become a secondary
4 har +,S
and unity of purpose exist between the
husband and wife there will be no neces-
! sity for seper ate or individual laws. John
| Ruskin says that on no occasion did he
ever witness a conflict Of opinion between
his parents. That they had cherished diff
ferent views there is no doubt, but they
wisely refrained from discussing them in
! the presence of their son. All this, how
( ever, is not meantt to show that the man
! of the house is in duty bound to degener-
ate into a much petted, much -catered-to
parlor borader.
HE HAD TO BE AMUSED.
One rainy day at a summer resort one Of
the few women whose husband shared her
vacation asked in a discouraged tone,
"What weather." The reply came from
another wife why shouI more be done
for man than for a woman? Nobody is
longing for a wet day" Further CONVEX
sation led to the con- lecture that the anx-
lOuS woman S lord was so cross and un-
reasonable that she felt responsible even
for the weather. Doubtless she was used
to his ill-humor. At home probably the
children were sent 10 bed or kept quiet
when he came in, unless, perhaps, he chose
to play them so boisterously for half an
hour that half day of patience or discip
line was required to counteract the effect
of such unwonted excitement. This doubt
less, is an exceptional case; but it proves
my point and also Turkish prOverb that
The house rests not on the earth, but on
the wife. -"
Among the other visitors at this hotel
was aninvalid with a timid little daughter
One morning the child whispered a
secret into her mothers ear. She had
invited all the children to 4 o'clock tea
for that afternoon. 1t was formidable
piece of news; for the children" meant
an army of hungry mouths to fill, and re-
sources were few. However, without a
word of reprOach or a gesture of impatience
the mother sweetly accepted and discharg-
ed her child's obligation, whose unalloyed
happiness must have been ample compensa-
ton for all the trouble, if, indeed. she felt
it such. To the observers it was a curious
evidence of entire confidence between
mother and child, which promised much
for their future happiness.
SYMPATHY WITH CHILDISH WOES.
Perhaps the most exasperating answer
that ever falls from the lips of mortal is
the wel-meant, goOd-natured Il will see
about it or ''by-and-by,' which sounds so
| harmless. 1t is so hard to bother about
| the drinks of water" that thirsty chilli
/ rem are always wanting Just when one gets
| settled nicely with a new magazine or
| piece of fancy-work. Much of the misery
in the world may be traced to intemper-
ance or fatigue. Either gives the heart
! ache if 1t gets the misery. II am so tir-
| ed is a lame excuse for unkindness, but
it manages to hObble about with wonder
! full facility Not only tired mothers but
| all the grown-up family should remember
| that the little victims of their iil-humor do
not accredit the sharp reproof to fatigue
! A little time rescued from the club. society,
or the bargain table e'-seducing though
| they be-would be well spent in looking
| back over ones own youth, the better to
! bear with ones own family. The grace
| Is sometimes given to a woman to put her
self in the place of her child. Did she not
| tear her apron, and lose her books, and
! have the mumps? And were they not all
real sorrows? When she went to the foot.
or had tiff with Jack, was it easier to
bear that she was called naughty girl?
| Some mothers remember these things and
that they wanted pretty clothes. and had
beaux-when they We're old enough-and.
remembering. are not stiff and GUM when
| a young man comes to call on their
daughter.
Those who glover at their children's
| fyrp d. FIN +l,,k
have thrown a boomerang which is sure to
return. The straight way to the heart3 of
the young Is to take an interest In whatso-
ever concerns them. If their aims are low,
| their scope narrow, little tact will put In
their way means by which their minds may
be enlarged. 1t is worth the trying. In
proportion to our years do the small affairs
of life engross US. If the old could but
realize that youth delights in light and oc-
cupation we should turn up the gas and
gather friends about Us to make our even
lngs brighter A softly shaded lamp may
be esthetic, but to those in their teens
it is not cheerful. They will not be young
very long. After they once slip out OF the
parent nest they are never quite the same.
and yet
We are dull and thankless, and too slow
To catch the sunshine till it slips away.
Nevertheless there is a happy mean be-
! tween consideration and indulgence.
Give me a child until he is seven years
old, said wise man, land you may have
him the rest of his life The little foxes
that spoil the vines begin to spoil them
when the vines are young and tender.
Children are acute observers They are
quick to catch the spirit of their elders. If
the parents squabble the little ones are sure
to do so. If they are reprimanded passion
ately or promised a punishment which they
never get, they are not slow to make a
note of it for future use. A bright little
boy who had been naughty asked his
mother to postpone his punishment.
For, said the small philosopher, u have
noticed that when you do 1t right of 1t
hurts harder than if you forgot it a little "
OBEDIENCE Is STRENGTH.
Ear be 1t from my purpose to advocate
severity with the young, but | believe that
as the best and bravest officers In the army
are those who can best obey. so are the
best citizens those who learned In their
youth the art of prompt and implicit obed-
ienee. Rebellion against parental author
ity Is sure to become a frlll-grown habit
with teeth and claws If it be not strangled