St. Paul daily globe., 1890-12-21

self-reliance and an ambition to prove
herself worthy Of the trust. / have
never seen an exception to the rule. in
that there is domestic comfort and har-
mOny In families where the wife is not
simply in name, but in deed. the hon
ored helpmeet of the husband. Such
confidence is, think, the secret of true
economy. Many years ago was deeply
interested In the bringing up of two
girls, both cousins. The families of
both were in well-to-do circumstances,
but they had widely different systems.3
I'm the one case the parents lavished
every luxury upon their daughter. and
her slightest wish was gratified to the
fullest extent. In the other case. the
child was taught from comparative in
fancy to appreciate the value of every
penny. and never to encourage waste in
the smallest measure. A regular sum
OF money, sufficient for the qualification
OF all reasonable childish wants, was
placed every week to her account, and
strict account required to be kept of
every penny. She was taught to shop
and consulted in the selecting OF. her
own clothes. era
IL often considered which was the
better of the two systems, and looked
anXlouSly for the results. To-day these
cousins are both grown and students at
college. In the first instance. the
woman has reaped the results q of
her lack of early training in help
less Inability to manage for herself in
the very simplest matters of practical
Importance. She at times actually
wears herself out in the effort to decide
the common questions of everyday oc-
currence. Her more fortunate cousin,
on the contrary, enjoys the satisfaction
of understanding thoroughly how to
manage her affairs in any and every
emergency.
Il think, in fact,' concluded Mrs.
MandersOn," ''every one is happier for
having been carefully taught the i'm
portance OF attention in money matters.
and you may say that l approve most
emphatically of giving young women an
opportunity to test their talents in a
practical manner"
Mrs. Lamar objects.
Mrs. L. Q. C. Lamar is the only dis
Senting voice in the universal verdict,
and she speaks from her lifelong eX-
perience of the Southern Open-handed
generosity.
Said she: at has been my expert
ence that the women of the South, with
few. If any, exceptions. make the very
ucated without thought of the little
questions of economy which figure so
conspicuOnsly in the domestic manage
ment of New England household, they
seem to possess natural instinct for
management.
when a Southern girl marrieS a
young man in mCder te circumstances,
She Invariably adapts herself to require
ments of the position, and undertakes
the control of house of moderate size
with as keen a delight as though she
had been always accustomed to petty
economies. | think the girls are often
eXtravagant simply from thoughtless
ness, aDd,aS soon as they realize the ne
cessity for retrenchment. they prove
themselves practical housewives"
Mrs.SpoOner's Personal Experience
Mrs. Senator Spooner'S opinion of this
allowance question is that of woman
who has tried an allowance and been
found wanting.
'SOme years ago." said she, "my hus-
band started me off at the beginning OF
the year with a dainty account book and
nice sum OF money, saying. Now, do
attempt to keep your account this year.
l had tried to do it before and had failed.
L dutifully promised to try again. After
few weeks had elapsed. my husband,
with an eXpectant expression, asked to
see the book. He glanced at the first
page then, and there, all right, wassthe
sum which he gave me. duly entered, I'M
very good style. 4
Ellis eyes wandered to the next pagel
where the very succinct statement VAS
down in black and white, Spent it .tll. 3
Naturally | prefer not to have an allow
ance. simply prefer to be allowed all.
the money l need, and no questions
asked. AS to daughters l think the.
discipline would be excellent, fostering
good, orderly business habits, economy.
and knowledge of the value of money!
which can only 6e obtained through the
experience of paying for your every
day adornments out of your own money!.
am also decidedly of the opinion that
any wife who wishes an allowance.
should have it. as her right to such an
arrangement is not to be questioned"