The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1890-11-08
MEN as rALkERs.
They DO Not Read Enough to Mako Their
Conversation Inter ssting.


Conversation Inter ssting.
The Boston Journal says that there
are three causes which 60 far to explain
the non-entertaining character Of the
average young man to the average young
person Of the opposite sex. Tho first Ia
that he is too much engrossed in him
self and the things which interest him.
The finest point Of courtesy in conver.
sation is to seek those subjects which
will interest the people with whom we
talk. The young man who goes into
society Of cultivated young women and
has nothing better to offer, as his con-
tribution to the conversation, than base
ball talk or "reminiscences of college
scrapes will make himself entertaining,
II at all, only by making himself ridicu-
lous, and that, it is safe to say, Is not
what he Is after. So with the various
other subjects, either Of business or OF
pleasure, which are chiefly the concern
OF men. They ought not to be forced
into conversation with women. If the
latter want to know about them, very
we'll, but the information should be
given as brightly and interesting as
possible, and without any appearance Of
condescending enlightenment. The
true gentleman who enters tho society
OF women with the Difference which he
should feel, will study them sufficiently
to know what things are likely to inter-
est them and what are not.
Another difficulty is that the average
young man is likely to make a mistake
as to the things which will interest
young women, even when he makes
sincere attempt to adapt his converse.
tion to them. Old notions die hard.
There are still great many young men
who can not understand that the young
women whom they know, some of them
at least, have minds which are capable
OF something more than small talk, of
fashion-plates or society gossip. Never.
theless, this is true. Nothing is more
calling to young women of cultivation
and intelligence than to be persistently
talked down to by the men Of their ac-
quaintance. Let the average young man
realize that the average young woman
with whom he talks knows probably at
least as much as he does, and he will
make his conversation better worth
while by putting little intellect into
it.
A third difficulty is that the average
young man is in serious danger of being
left behind Intellectually, by the aver
age young woman. We do not expect
that this alarming statement will be ac-
cepted without dispute. But we COM
mend to the solemn consideration of
young men the question whether
q young man, who in college gives
his chief thought to athletics and
after he leaves college is engrossed
in business, is likely to keep up with
his sister, or some other fellows sister,
who started with a mind at least as
bright as his, has had equal educational
advantages, and has both time and dis
position to improve herself We main
tain that no young man can afford to
deprive himself of the broadening and
elevating influence of good books. The
newspaper has its place, but it is not
The place of Shakespeare or Milton, of
Addison or Ruskin or any other of the |
great masters of English. Business has
It's exacting demands, but they can best |
DO met by a man who relieves the ten
sion upon his mind by occasional excur-
'ions in standard and current literature. |
II the young man of the period is to |
to the edification and enter |
'ainment of young women he must fill |
ais mind with something besides base
,all, or stocks, or politics. These may |
'nter into conversation, but they must
lot be its staple. To restore the proper
relations of the sexes,
he average young man must improve
lis habits of thought and speech in
more ways than one.