Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1890-05-25

guest who comes in her parlor, and no
matter how weary she is she always
says the right thing to them and seems
to interpret their needs, always paying
most attention to shy people. - In
speaking of the training of girls Mrs.
Reed said that above everything else
they should be taught to be genuine:
whatever they did. to mean it, as
nothing was SO easily detected as insin-
certify.
MRS. SENATOR INGALLS, IDEAL.
Every woman has an ideal woman
whom some one of her sex almost
equals. As Mrs. Window is Mrs.
Reed IS, SO is a woman now almost for
gotten in Washington the ideal of that
thoroughly lovely woman, Mrs. ingalls,.
Mrs. Carlisle Patterson, according to
her, was the most perfect lady the capt.
tai has ever seen. Ten years ago Mrs.
Patterson was leader in society here,
and SO kindly was she that her good
deeds have lived after her reign. Mrs.
ingalls, describes her by saying that she
had quality which the most ignorant
person recognized but which the most
learned could not define. Said she:
MRS. Patterson used to come into my
treated her with more reverence than
they did my other guests. 1 used to
watch the effect that her presence
had on different people, and even those
who seemed most to lack delicate intui-
tion would appreciate her rare charm. /
once took a lady to call upon her whom
thought had every good quality but
one, that of delicacy of feeling. When
we came out she said, ''Was there ever
so perfect woman. She is like bit of
most fragile china. - But Mrs. Patter-
son had generations of good breeding
back of her though. 1 think a woman
can be perfect lady without that. In
deed, l have noticed members of her
own family who did not have q
touch of her peculiar gracIousness.
know woman who in my own city l
would easily put with Mrs. Patterson,
though she had neither wealth nor
great family to give it to her. She had
all sorts of adversities and yet she was
always the perfect lady. As l recall her
perfect character 1 think its peculiar
charm was in the fact that she never
omitted detail of kindness. Instead of
thinking kind things she always did
them, and 1 do not know whether that is
not the quality that most of all makes
the woman we recognize as 'tthe perfect
lady. 1t is true that Southern women
as a rule are held up as examples
of perfect womanliness, and l take it
1t is not because they are one whit more
kindly of heart, but because they study
the art of pleasing more, and 1 wonder,
too, If their seeming helplessIess does
not have much to do with their reputa-
ton. 1 have noticed that even if you do
so slight a thing as to ask them to your
dining groom to take cup of tea they
look at you in such a helpless fashion
that hutter of pity fills your heart and
you involuntarily take them out, all the
time thinking "what sweet woman!"
After this little talk Mrs. ingalls, wrote
a note, in which she so we'll defined the
qualities of the "perfeot lady'' that L
give it: ga woman may be cultivated,
accomplished, stylish and thoroughly au
fait in all the forms and customs of polite
society and still be lacking in the essen
tial qualities that make a lady. On the
other hand, a true lady may be neither
stylish or accustomed to society, but she
will grace any occasion she may honor
by her presence. The true lady possesses
the refinement of the heart and soul that |
reveals itself in every action. In train
ing daughter mother should endeavor
to instil kindness of heart and thought |
fulness of others, and to be thoroughly |
unselfsh.
Both Mrs. Miller, wife of the attorney |
general, and Mrs. Senator Hearst think |
that simplicity is the chiefest charm of a |
young girl, and Mrs. Miller says above |
everything else young girl should act |
so as to receive the praise OF older peo-
pie.
ONE OF MRS. SENATOR FRYE's STORIES.
According to Mrs. Senator Frye of |
Maine, Mrs. Hamilton Fish was one of
the most perfect ladies ever in official
life here. Her eight years. reign as the
wife of Gen. Grants secretary of state
was certainly unmatched in the annals of /
Washington women, and her acts and
decisions are still quoted. The story is
told of her when one of the other cabinet
ladies, at the close of Gen. Grants last
term, suggested that they lay down some
rule for the government of future csbi-
net ladies, saying with considerable
spirit: MADAME, we have done as we
chose. Let us permit our success