The Monitor., 1890-12-12
Notes BY The way.

over to thee.
This boring into character is always
unpleasant. No one likes 10 ieel that he
is being mentally or morally dissected,
| Conscious as he may De vi weaknesses anu
imperfe ctions, he aoes not desire 10 leave
them patent To anuther's vision. IL tehas
| to embarrass and humiliate him, and
finally to ALLEVIATE him from the one VINO Is
thus ueering into his nature. He becomes
afraid OF hlm, and unwilling 10 give him
his presence or his confidence, ana thus
much good influence is prevented and much
| happiness is lost Even though no word
| OF reproof be uttered, il the spirit OF crl-
| ticism dwell III the heart, 1t Will come 10
the front, and make itself felt, and Will
| tend to separate us from those W ho might,
| by ympaJhy and klndiIDess, be drawn TO-
| ward US i'll friendIiress and good Will.
| To stand apart and look at man, strlv-
ing all the time to look through him, Will
| insensib bly, establish kind of antagonlsm,
| W hich it is impossible TO prevent. 1t puts
| men on opposite sides, lille II they JON
hands i'll generous confidence, each trust
ing the other, without enquirlng too close
ly INTO personal idiosyncraeies, the foun-
dation OF y good understanding ana OF
many possible friendship, may be lald.
Now can tell thee, this opened ones
| eyes to new sin which they may nave
possessed all uuawares. That is, mean
| though they really do possess this unhlndly
fault of "boriDg INTO character" The bor-
| ing may never nave been done iii an un!ov-
| ing spirit, but rather With the false hope,
/ or idea, that tie moIe one could learn OF
their dearest friends idiosy yLeracies the
| closer would those friends be drawn to-
| ward you because you had felt sufficient
| interest i'll them to make 4 study oi their
| character But | can tell thee, that When
| one looks at it from the side as above
given, it does show 1T up III a different,
| and unpleasant light ana am sure some Of
who wish to retain friends will have TO
| work by miloer, more pleasing plans, re-
membering:
| ave are all of us human, and all CT rs erring,
| And mercy within should ever be stirring"
| What does thee think? After all our
| long and pleasant anticipations not one OF
| our little party got to hear Anna Shaw.
| Disappointed? Well. | should say SO.
| Did she disappoint? No, she WAS on hand;
but long, dark road on a stormy night
| proved an ipsurmouniable barrier bet" cen
US and the coy opera house in which she
| addressed a far sized audience to their
| edification and delight. How We wished
| the electric lights and motor cars could be
| transported over lUlD our ltHlDSGld lOI
one evenings use, at least, then Friend
| Probabilities wou d not have received our
first consideration. However, as We grow
older we learn it is far better TO be con-
siderate, don't we? And il We don't
choose to be SO of our own free will, it
may be best that tie powers that be"
| step in to assist us a times As Il substi-
tute for the lecture | read What Gold
| Cannot Buy" by Mis- Alexander, in Lip
pincott's Magazine, and though gold Cor It's
| substitute) is very convenient to have
around, it showed how starved and cold
our lives would become if we priced it
above the heaven born affections.
"I'm glad learnt to love the things
That fortune neither takes nor brings:
I'm glad my spirit learnt to prize
| The smiling face of sunny skies"
| A week ago tonight the Ancient Order
| of United Workmen, of Swedesboro. gave
| a banquet to its members and friends, and
| was very largely attended. With men,
| bership of 101 members, accompanied by
| their wives and friend or so thrown in,
| thee may readily imagine what host sat
down to the five large tables loaded with
| fruits, nuts, cakes and ices, spread In
| Meley's hall. Each table had seating
capacity of fifty or more and there were
| lew vacant Stats. ne one 1Tdnu QlStp-
pointment to the committee of arrange
ments, as we'll as to the rest. WAS the fail
| ure of the grand officers to be present, five
of whom they full y expected, to set forth
tile aims Of the order in after. dinner
| speeches. But then it is best sometimes
| or rorganiZatiuns, we'll as individuals,
| I'D be thrown ON their own resuurceS-lt
| tends to show what material is in them
| and has tendency to strengthen them tor
other and it may be greater emergencies,
as they l.. turn naturally follow. So, with
Wn.. Mccullough as chairman, who said
he supposed our wants were partially sat
isfied, but deeply regretted that they were
not able to offer the intellectual feast they
had intended, they would do the best
they could for US under the circumstances
by calling on different members for i'm
promptu speeches. He proceeded to in
troduce Past Worthy Master Samuel II.
Moore, who gave some statistics of the
order as they occurred to him, saying
among other things that the A. O. L. w.
started % years ago; now it numbers ovel
600 600 members. Two years ago a lodge
was instituted at Swedesboro with &c
charter members. Now it has reached a
membership of 101, with new applications
constantly on the proposition books.
DR.. l.. A. Halsey considered it one of
the best works, outside the church, that
anyone can enter into. It IS simply a
laying by of two thousand dollars for our
wives and children at our death And
that it was the source of the greatest
surprise to him Why every body did not
rush to get into the order, which accept,
suitable candidates between the age OF
twenty-one and fifty years And that a
man is not fit to have Il family if he
advances the argument, die 10 win. y
f. P. Ohphant. Bridgeport; john Thorp,
principal SwedesborG Academy; DR.. De.
Croft, Mullica Hill; Rev. Mr. Walton OF
the NJ. L. Church all helped TO make the
evening pass very pleasantly, and surely
those who had the arranging of the many
details are to be congratulated upon the
general good management of the affair.
This organization, as | understand it. is
cheap kind of lie Insurance, and so
planned that it is impossible for any
grand official to skip with the funds,
making it reliable as well az btnt fetal.
To thy correspondent it was very pleas
ant, as a number of old friends (some with
whom had scarcely conversed III the last
decade) were met, and the threads that
then bound us were caught up, which had
a tendency, of course, to renew the pleasant
times of ten years ago.
Ten years. think of it. What marvellous
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