New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1890-03-09
M4RRLdGES or MEN or ABILITY.
AN INEXPLICABLE PUZZLE.
From The London Spectator.

From The London Spectator. H.,
We wonder whether the men who understand mon 1'' NV
The cyc'-and there certainly people WIN re
power in such degree a, % amount 10 s di6
wiser marriages than other folk The question: - ~
eult 10 answer. because there 80 lew peoP' ~,
whom one could be certain mat mex lgsI he reply
must he I'm tie negative illustrations can prove ITO
argument. where such a majority must remain un
al bar in every generation WIN specai V,sicDt
ciaractcrbut still, those We have given are sin'ac,
10 prove that even genius for selecting tic r-h %
Is no guarantee tine selection ol tlc I-It
certainly no other form Of ability l.. Leu any rcauv'
ouirHlv glance over Mr.. ThscltonDycr,s index pup
lslcd ihi, weck-wc are not recommending niS bool
,ylirh Is A most unsatisfactory specimen ol doom
najInc-and he Will come. think 70 the conclusion
mat the failures so i Gegoaa 10 the foolish Men OF
rruus make them in quite curious proportion " tiici
u ma, nn anu in the mmtde The lady who said Of
her friends that she had given up a,tcl ZIP, lgh
understand why any body married any Dody e.s n's
have ,. sah IN, nrc,;dcS the ablest men ont Of
tventy generations. Everywhere ana al al Hnes'
she world have found among great .iaIoI.' W.
.ib7e selections We fear, IN coiisiuei''Dc
in ali senses OF the Word-cascs OF nitcriy iheApicVo
Lundcrimg Hike Lord Sto~elis, VINO narro" :n n
ne mn r,pcnc-s his unusual wisdom, tarin
rh,ce If vic is really dictated by his brain
ner M alI The lady too who said that saying was
IN mo- Way original. Her judgment /, the Judgment
oirrtIy accurate of All that Itaer limited section Oh
nm,,i,'J amony whom free choice is allowed at all
E>trrcnccd reader, VIII bear out In saving that IN
,n ii. did they ever see IA circle OF any size IN winch
there va, NOT at least couple whose marrase ws
pronounced unntcllsibe. Or one IN Whch 'n tp c'
pirNlty not ocoa-iCnaIY nceP.iiru a., "a, ia ,,,
AFFINITY either I'm wife or husband nat du ne ne S Io
i'm her ~ or ,L. ina him ?" is to be one OF inc
many criticisms, and the one I" "hich tncio - r"T
seldom any reply. sometimes, Of conI So J, s.npu
criticism due not to any reality bat to that IhpeJ
;fsiDie veil which hides u from each oher. ana Mn''
Us intended perh3p,, to deepen me huNi' = ~
r.,ron ability but very often ia the cases sclcct-l W
the critic, it J, a. true ~ criticism Oh 'plo"' W.
rha' j., if yon viii think of it, something Of puzzle
Ny should asi np in c "' a companion for
life! That genus should not help him Is compiehen.
.cnns H. we all know that whatever De- It I, neither
"A cause nor "a consequence of the possession OF Jud2
c.ntnct of liz, aid con SANITY - I'm pccuniary
affairs or al least. used be. for the OBJ
born who used to be always debt Is dying
out and that -niu, aud IN the use % money az
Them apart and complain of the times in consequence.
The world hardly expect, man 81 genus 10 HIATT
IN. IN English poet, Of our a-c-and halilnclu9e'
blnudcr IN ratrmony a"2ng cVu .'V, r' the hes;
REPRESENTATIVE II genius pure and simple, the man man
WI" hi' 'h't p y, '-',. rd' - -heliey and his
Wlrfia-" somehow i"'i iiit II N"' ~ lln T." nm
precisely the bundcr which, without indorsns any oie
assured that D." did make 'h'iF' l''' Ntl.,i,,
auy emotion AZ the nluurrf' oil -'.tis ,,,re a,
m. -.cict belief which i, quite ncrsdicable,
u- and Matthew Arnold thr,r OF - III, ,',- ~.
mankind. that there Is some r'iauoh u'"ccn Htal LII
and insanity prevent, all wonder, ana j. pIpDdO'
the ultimate thou ofisn ne uncnu'flon, 'tu'e ~
the otherwise Immoral tolerance constanti' eXtended
cNen hv the good 10 those errors OF t'il"o H.,
b n other men they would heartily couIcIhh hu.
why allie men should make the same blunder Is "a a
/ constant cause 81 surprise. Inc '""'"l 80
that ''ey are carried away i} passion I'"usn u'.o
sometimes, n.r-; often be rnirr ara ~ any , ,is
dDs, not explain Why passion, men Hen 81 anoar
being VIC docs ho' IN ''l, ui' w, ,h tro, at
II j. said 10 b." All NQIln'u up III w ,r,,an
traction but allowing ~ ilIl power !" wv Ply,
real love exists Ii l. odd now seldom VIC am, H,o
choose the one friend ont of the WOrd 50 pIuiH +,
choD.e their Other friends without some SORT O..
Judgment. NOu Will 500 a woman marry inc . i
II an others least suited 20 h,i, ana tii'h sa,'rI
"A cir.l 81 friends round her whose cNe'th'' ~
iH' Increase her trouble h} rcnu,rlhs II Nor III
-r.uu.. ali do ''c same thnE, 'h"hEh II i
less perceived. thru 'Npitha'."ll 'iu,i'- III,