The Seattle post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, Wash. Terr. [Wash.]) 1888-1914, 1890-06-16

forr,ps The bssusy u The face strikes ths
eye. ~ foue q tt1e yejce sf1rx ne heAst
a Gne yoIee. which d0es not mean Aoud
ore by any means. i always distdnrf che,
which c<n b. ur<~rinKsy hesrd vifbous
~zoys Oz fise speaker. Aa tnalsttncs INTER.
snce y nfW4ys sirn 81 neutai o. pbySicA
deficiency. which oaxks 70 b. prompeiy
Easssxed- And Is takes very bard WORK
osfen 70 RET IT, better Of this sscyeniy pro
nnnriass0u. Lam 10 speak II - easser
when you come doWn 10 The naorning 70
grunt In xasser 70 rUod morning than 70
say ffe Two wosds. bot ypu must NOS aliou
vours<if fsr;s ssxrssh. bocrish habit Of
RYnnsinx In tdare Of speech Neither. John
Alexander fassst you let your sleepy.
dreamy. ursnesai temper confrol You 80
that yon sp<Ak IN duf. thick tore II the
hack os the throat, which Is of all others
she nsrst sYyins voice 70 understand.
%sox srxerh Il an iGtoferaLse aEsoHt to
Others ard wassx Of time. vent 20 church
Yesterday aud sat out sermon which
rasresl fhirsy-five minutes Of the possible
forty years hare yet TO live. listening 70
sacia noyei and pfosonnc rtnsrxs - these.
-Auirsass are endowed with isfe, Human
beings hare reason. spoken ia . ponder
Gus was. - II ths speakers wits were
xooI-gasheFinT ezca scateizce. ION may
begievc | wcftd uos have wasted so much
of ms precious lie waiting on such sluggish
mud-h1si5g IL the sexton had not ,esfed
nse too far UP the aisle 20 get out without
making . Procession OF myself before the
congregations. Yen must learn 10 talk TO
the point and wifh ceieriiy-ihat IS. not
cbaffcring. but with smooth, fotdy now OF
language Without jerks or confusion
TO speak sxestly. make tine toilet OF your
mouth and nose wtfh care three times
day. There should be three minutes after
each meal given 20 personal cares, rInsing
~. nd -
thc handkerchief which should then make
its appearance o. seldom ~ possible. A
haiit 81 deep breathing also clears the
voice and gives * faliness and softness at
command.
Only good feeling and great kindness Of
nature can give sweefness-heart sweet
ness---fo voice, but the smooth. vibrating
tone that one listens for and wonders at
comes III physical weli~being. warm.
lively temper OF mind and body. which
may be cultivated by keeping ones
self yery comfortable and then getting oil
the work out at ones self he Is capable OF
doing.
What to say. and how to say it. is oil
there II to the art OF conversation True,
this i like saying that earth. air and wafer
nrs all there il to the world. ~ II IL were
simple a. beeswax. But II Is something TO
knos when yon want 10 begin 20 improve
tax. and that is by finding out just what
voii want 10 say. The other day a very
bright woman asked me how she should
write an advertisement for merchapt. l
asked her for an idea of what she wanted
TO say. ard the first sentence she uttered
was the announcement complete. II Was
simple. concise. perfect. Happily the forms
OF polite speech ARE laid aown for us-the
coed morning" for those We meet with
whom Ne are not intimate the how do
yog do" FOR friends and neighbors.
People aon' 4 always feel themselves the
central interest in creation or xish TO talk
about themselves. They are rather CON-
pliment.d hy talking about their tastes
rather than their affairs or personal inter-
ecss. You see tbs safe topics can only be
indicated by teaching yourself pretty de-
cideslly ghaI no. 10 say. Avoid questions
II you can. 1t sounds better 10 say: Il
hope you are not tired with scur long
walks. or s'you mnsi he tired OF IT, than
TO ask, Are you tired ?" or Have you
come far" Take everything creditsbie Tor
granted Of your companion. Don't ask
perforee, ''Do you like music ~ in crude
war. hu. lyon are musieai," with the very
fainfesl Questioning infection. ors"Yoa
play tennis. snprose9" And II your UNI
happy respondent does not understand
either OF these things. do not make him
any more unhappy by pause or comment,
but turn 10 something pieasanter Tor him.
Learn al the forms OF courteous and
complimentary speech, but use them with
distinction. You should know when to
say tia, you would be pleased 30 accept .
courtesy or attention. when you will he
happy" to do the same. and when you
will he glad. in the open heartedness OF
frank intimacy. Learn the shaoes Of
e;vility that give value TO intercourse and
meaning 10 cordially when il comes. Use
the sat aasi spice Of conversation freely.
but he choice OF yonr sugar, and. above all.
don he oiiy There are people so unctu-
ousiy po.it- that one near them feels like
being careful for fear he get grease on his
clothes. oas has 10 take all their smooth
words with much salt. Sincere courtesies
mead no flavofing added.