, 1890-05-13
ALL SORTS OF LOVERS.
WHAT KIND DO THE WOMEN LOVE
BESTf

The Looking GIass-The Lesson In
Savigaaon-I Don't value "hAr No
body Else Values
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What do all the women see to admire
In that fellow7 We men don't hke him!"
growled a remarkably nice, but remarka-
bly, u~nattractive, man in my ear, as we
watched Mr.. Nullus Memo walking up
and down the promenade with the pref
test woman Of the season upon his arm
and half a dozen more looking wistfully
after him
Perhaps you men don't like him just
because we women do" replied l un-
kindly, and then | turned like the worm
But I'll tell You one Of the things n
woman sees not to admire in you, if you
like"
.'Only one Of them asked my friend
sarcastically.
.'Only one at a time. 1t is in the very
worst taste while you sit beside n wo-
mar to show yourself jealous of the at
tention some other man Is attracting
from other women. The theory, no mat
ter how fimsy a theory it is, in the mind
Of every woman is, that she is sufficient
to engross all the attention Of the man
she is talking to for the moment, and to
envy Mr.. Nullus Memo his little success
Is to show that you would prefer his posi-
ticn to your own. Do you seer
Good heavensl Do you suppose !
would rather promenade with that pretty
baby than to talk with your
81 don't know, I'm sure. The only
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you showed me why you are not n favor
ite with women"
"Too kind of you'll Perhaps you will
give me some little instruction in the art
Of becoming So"
'If you will unbend the majesty OF
your brow, which is really too altogether
appalling-there, that is better-I will
give you one brief, comprehensive and
most effectual rule: Attend to only one
woman Mt a timer
And smiling benignly upon a Russian
diplomatic Just passing us, / took his arm
and sauntered away, leaving my Scotch
lord to digest my advice at his leisure.
Well, it was sound. There is nothing
a woman is quicker to perceive and surer
to resent than wandering attention, and
Think II one were TO study the character
istics Of those men who achieve phenome-
nal success among women, it would in
variably be found that they possessed the
power Of concentration In a marked de-
gree.
Everybody knows that n man need not
be handsome to be admired and beloved.
Some extraordinarily ugly men have car
ried all before them and distanced the
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Ninon de IEnclos did the fair young de
butdntes Of her time. Few men, in fact,
have the strength of mind to bear being
handsome without being vain.
| have lately said that beautiful wo-
men are seldom vain, although perfectly
conscious Of their beauty. They accept
the fact, are grateful for it, use it as a
weapon perhaps, but, II they have any
brains at all, do not suffer 1t TO absorb
their attention or to stamp itself upon
their manner 1t is like the m~ultiplica-
ton table, a thing to be learned and set
aside in the archives Of the mind for use
when it may be required, but not to be
paraded at other times.
With men this is not So; beauty with
them is an e%xtraneous gift; they are not
born to 1t, they do not need it, it does
not help them on in life, IL is not for
them the promise Of love and all that
makes life sweet to woman.
An ugly man knows very well that, If
he possesses ever in moderation the ele-
ments Of success in the IDorld, he can
marry. and marry well ut any time
he chooses, and his looks will have very
little to do with the matter. in fact are
rather a help than II h~indrance, for a
pretty woman knows very well that her
good looks are never so marked as when
set off by a foil.
Beauty is far more striking when she
walks beside the beast than when she
promenades with Apollo.
The handsome mar dresses with a
painful attention TO his complexion and
the color Of his eyes; the ugly man If he
thinks at all about his dress wears what
his beauty of the hour approves, and if
he ventures on n bit of color it is sure to
be her f~avorite color, although it may be
the most deadly possible for himself, and
beauty likes him infinitely better for the
compliment to her own taste than for
any amount of correct taste that had no
reference to her.
The handsome man seated beside a
pretty woman and opposite a mirror
steals chances now and then at his own
reflection and, as he f~ancies, unobserved,
pushes back his hair, straightens his
mustache or draws a quarter of an inch
more Of his handkerchief out of his
pocket.
The ugly mar under the same circum-
stances looks at the reflection of his COM
panion's face, and, if he dares, murmurs
something about "that charming picture
opposite"
The handsome man expects, nay, de
mands, the homage Of woman as a sort of
divine right; he feels that she whom he
distinguishes by his favor is in a manner
bound to be upon her best behavior, and
show 4 sense of her promotion by striv-
ing to deserve it; if she doesn't, why,
there are always the others, poor things!
No, 1t is not the handsome man whom
women prefer for admirers or for lovers,
unless indeed it is very silly, very weak,
very vapid women, who, having no self
respect, cannot feel 1t wounded, and no
attractions, cannot feel them sighted;
they, poor souls, since they never have
been and never hope to be adored, are
quite content to become adorers and en-
ulate the sunflower, which, fsst rooted
in its own quiet garden plot, follows its
glorious lord as he travels from east to
west, smiling upon a thousand other
flowers in his course, and meeting her
patient morning smile with an unabashed
brow.
well. if 1t isn't handsome men, who
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