The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1890-05-07
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c!ia:"~;,'r ii i!!in WIin >l:UM-:rS. IT i,
ln i!!n hnndagr or Ei;;>iCrl, d, Tea; or
triumph, iai.uGc O" $i."cr~<, ~ 1t result
I'll II" battling tilat caILUl hr "Tadcd.
.\mG, IL, Il matter Ui tact, inc iS-ric IL
l.ly-Iuno bu!tir ~ ordinarily settled in
rhit!:l, u,;.
y ci,iid who il trained to srii.caniru
liz Il c.i!d may ',%-i, already Il true
il#H III Ills iii!ir:'' tu.' manly srli-iIl%5-
terry. : i.i:in ":lJ was not Trained iii
vhji,!;;uu'! 10 Srll-cJi!;rnl, Is h0pric~Sly
Il child III his combat. with himself :;
and lie ca:I never regain t!C vantage
"ruu!.d which his childhood gave to
him, iii TIC battle which then opened
before him, and in the thick Of which
he still imd5 himself. Ii is in q chlld'S
earlier struggles with himself that help
can casi>s: ic given 10 hi'n, and that II
- OF greatest value for his own devei-
uping Of character. Yet at that time Il
child has no such sr..Sc o! his need Ill
thiS direction a$ is sure to be hl: iii
m!iturer years hence it is that it rests
wi,h the parcnt- To decide, while the
child j. still child. whether the child
hal, be 4 slave Ia himself, or Il master
u himself; whether lis life, 50 far,
~hail be worthy or unworthy OF his
ni.h Possibilities Of munhocd.
\ Child'S first struggles with Linn
self ought to hc in IA" direction OF con-
trolling his impulse 60 give full play TO
his lungs ami his MUSCLES III the
yIJmItlin Of his nerves. AS sGOn ~
tnc nerves make themselves fc!t, llcy
prompt a child to cry, to thrash his
arms, to kick, and to twist his body OH
every side at the slightest pruvOcation
or ut none. UnlCss this prompting
Dc checked, the child will exhaust
himself in aimltSS cXc.ti"n, and Will
Increase his own discomfort Iy the
very means of its exhibit \ control
of himself at this point is possible to Il
child at iii age while he is yet unable
to speak, or TO understand what Is
spoken 10 him. II Il parent realizes
ilal thr child must l:c Induced to coll-
;rol himself, and seeks III loving firm
HCss 10 cause the child 10 realize thai
same truth, the child Will feel the pa
rents conviction, and viii yield 90 il,
:.vrn though he c:tiInOt comprehend
tAe meaning @! the lIarcnt's words ;ss
woris. 70 leave child to himself iS
t. put iiim at Il sad disadvantage in ali
the fu:ule cOnlUats Of his LIES war
fare; While TO give him wise help in
these earliest struggles, is to give him
help for all the following struggles.
rs soon as The child is able to under.
l.. l.,::i i,, him, Ian nI;,rIDI IN
i,r taught and trained 10 control his
impulse 20 cry and wr;the under the
pressure Of physical pain. When Il
rh!ld i;s~ ilj!cn and hart himself, or
las cu1 his finger, or has burned his
InnH. q. has been hit by an iiI-tircctcd
mis-. lie, ii is natural for him to shrek
with pain and fright, and ii is natural
!t,r his ;cudcr-hta;tca mother 10 shrink
,rCn Blaming i:im just lh"n for iiriul.-
i!:w in This. y mother has an uliiIi,-
,.:,ablc duty oi helping her child to
:.;in Il measure Of c"ntrui over himself,
~ rs 10 rcir, - his cries and to nUdcr-
sic his exhibit uf disturbed feeling. A
child can exercise scli-coM:rol under
Slch circumstances. Ills mother can
cuaNlc Liin 10 do 20. IT il better for
both child and nCt!icr that he shonld
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