The News-Herald. [volume] (Hillsboro, Highland Co., Ohio) 1886-1973, 1890-07-10


dou Been Found Waatins
~ First sight.
are grave questions that confront many
people who have not yet come to feel
that marriage is lottery, says the Bos-
ton Globe.
Hence arise questions like the follow
ing:
/. How can tell when I lovep
Q. Can I afford to marry, II poor?
8. What sort Of person will / be
happy with9
4. Will I always be loved?
8. VIII I always love?
9. Will I ever see somebody whom I,
will love more?
2. Shall / marry young or shall walt
until am mature?
8. Should man marry Q widow?
0. Should girl marry widower?
10. Is II always we'll to marry II one
loves?
II. Is there love ut first sight?
10. What is love at first sight3
And many others. @
Ye who are married can best answer
many Of these questions. Only one who
has made experiments in marriage in all
It's phases could singly answer all Of
them. And not unlikely the result Of
such experiment would prove any thing
but edifying.
am, therefore, prepared only to give
the result Of my own venture in the
matrimonial boat as partial guide,
completing the latter by giving the re-
suits Of other mems and many women's
ventures, or marriages
Probably the first approach Of that
tender feeling known as love is felt
when at school red cheek seems to the
average boy lovely as a peach. and he
respects the possessor for her gift. May
be big blue eye strikes him as prettier
than any he has seen In the picture,
book mother bought him for Christmas
present, and he wishes that he might
have this living picture book near by to
look at when he chooses.
Now, she with the red cheek or she
with the big blue eye may see across the
aisle in the little school-room bright
little fellow whose clothes fit as nicely
and look as pretty as those Of the doll
she takes delight in fondling at home.
For doll is the first object outside
the immediate household for which your
your little daughter shows any liking.
The doll is her beau ideal. To win her
favor one must conform to that model.
It's shape, the color Of its hair and
eyes, its clothing, speak to her language
mystic and full Of meaning. To her 1t
is the symbol of mothers care, first
love, wifely devotion, and perhaps the
incentive of those sweet batteries that
in after years may turn some poor fell
lows head.
And as our impressions Of what we
need are true or false, so will possess
sions bring joy or sorrow, and when the
question comes to us, whom and when
shall we marry? we should inquire into
our needs and ascertain just what sort
Of partner will supply our needs.
The question should never resolve
itself into whether blonde should
marry blonde, whether brunette should
marry brunette. or whether partners
should be of different complexion. An
investigation on the complexion hypoth-
esis might prove entertaining, but
would, fear, bring us back to where
we started. But to my answers.
1. You arc in love when you absolute
ly need the object of your affection.
Q. A poor person can afford to marry II
marriage will increase the possibilities
Of escape from poverty.
8. You will be happy with the one
whose tastes, education and moral views
are similar to your own.
4. You will always be loved II you OBJ
serve the above rules and do not lose
sight Of the fact that
Still In mutual sunerance lies
The secret Of true living;
Love scarce is love that does not know
The sweetness Of forgiving.
8. You always will love II you realize
that obedience to duty is the only med
cine for conscience, and that perfect
happiness is this world ut least is but
the shadow Of q dream.
Q. You will see somebody whom you
will love more when your sense Of duty
becomes blunted, which will only hap
pen In case you have not observed the
first rule laid down.
z. Marry young II your nature has
developed fully; II not wait until your
nature has developed. Rather than
marry when undeveloped never marry
at all.
8. Marry widow according to rules
laid down previously.
0. Same as No. 8.
10. Always marry II you truly love, but
dc not confound fancy or infatuation
with the noble passion.
II and 10. There is love at hrst sight,
but 1t Is simply quick and mutual ap.
prehension Of similarity in tastes, odu-
cation and moral views.
Bugls Call Learned by . BIRD.
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