The Cambria freeman. [volume] (Ebensburg, Pa.) 1867-1938, 1890-01-10

which Is more than sometimes occurs
never knew a man to be elove-cracked
with a second or third fame; but the
end of a first-love disappointment Is
always serious, and sometimes disas-
trou5. 1t may lead only 10 a death Of
sentiment and susceptibility TO wOm-
ans affection, or it may dislocate the
intellectual powers, or the moral
But not too much can be said OF the
evil Of entering wedlock without the
discipline of a first love Men have
sometimes done this, and they are al
ways uutamed. hard and severe. A
man with keen, critical intellect can
never be satisfied with an ordinary
mate He will do by her as he does
by Smiths last essay-will pick out
her faults and see all her bIemishes
and failures. The poor woman is only
a magazine article, that he picks to
pieces instinctively. He has never
had a first love teach him TO trans
form people and things, to give the
rose-color TO dullness and to tone
down the MONDAY glare OF work-life.
He can not endure such bad habits as
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wives. Then If he have an imperious
disposition and an iron will. the con-
sequences are injustice and misery.
On the other hand, a man Of peculiar
" sensitive, loving disposition IS sure
to look for first love in his married
life He has a longing for that ideal
which he never created sudaciously
out of hand, and boldly declared he
had found, and then worshiped a
woman may be thankful she is not her
husband first love, but that he had
one that, having worshiped, he
learned after all was one of our com
mon humanity. and that goddesses
are not in corsets.
need not ask you II you remem-
Der your own first love You could
not love her now--of course not She
is possibly a dowdy of the worst sort,
married to coarse fellow that you
marveled she could tie herself 10, and
yet you see now it was all right; or
she is a simple, plain, matter-of-fact
wife of g matter-of-fact husband, and
the farthest possible remove from
any thing ethereal. How you ever
came 10 see angels wings on her Is
your puzzle But she served you ad-
mirably. A first love you must have,
or ought to have, and she was really
avery iudicious angel She did not hirt,
nor did she help you to be extrayagant
in your fancies. When the spell was
/ OF she became 8 good friend, and has
! been such ever since. There IL, how
! ever, quite q chance that your first
love has never returned your letters
and you have never returned hers,
! and that you both need TO think over
the warm sunrise Of your ife's loves,
and that 1t helps you in your welded
state. Your wife is not Jealous, or
ought not TO be. II she is sensible,
she will be thankful that come one
came before her TO Opon her Jimmie s
/ soul and teach him the amenities Of
love; she has him now all the more TO
herself and all the more OF him there
is 70 have. She would be IN = SD
predicament If he had mover had &
first love before herself
So you sec that first love holds s
place wholly distinct and quite unique.
1t is not love in the sense OF any other
love known. II is not logical or com
mon-sonsical. 1t does not show per-
cons IN their true light, indeed, il
sure OF false cQloriug and eGlrava
ganca 1t is q development OF imma
turity. 1t Is part OF human evOlu
tion. Welded love Is the wedding o,
Welding Of two who have been carrie.
beyond the period when they can b,
carried away from reason.
That would make an interesting his
tory II one could read the loves Q
the fifty most rounded, strongest char
ac.ers In history; but not the frs
loves. for those would be almost In,
same story retold. They rarely ge
into d mans biography, or are re
fcrred to in his autobiography. Ii.
tries to let them drop out Of sight
He counts only those later graphing.
of his heart after one whom ne desire
for LIES partner. The ancients never
told any thing Of man without giviu;
his love story. How delightful the
story OF the patriarchs, and their wan
derings after wives, and their wooing
OF kinswomenl But we need not be
icve there was no romance of tn
other sort in their lives They. a
We do, hid this chapter of their lives
1t docs not count in the same way IA
the rest of life counts. One woul
suppose, IN reading OF the Orient
that love had been reduced wholly TO
matter Of bargain and economy. ye
there Is nowhere else so much OF tn
idyllic and romantic
Our first loves linger with US in as
sociation with the old school-house o
the hill. They make music with
brooklet that tumbled down the shad
willow bank; they are remembered q
the perfume OF the long-gone Gin
namOn roses; they resurrect then
selves in our somber moods to tell u
that ideals are as real as the practics
and that our plain working life
capable Of richer phases. thin
there may be hints Of a finer life hor,
after beyond. Have you any old loy
; letters? Any old souvenirs OF you
: dream life? It was well that you ono
were soft and dreamy. Do not bur
, tnem.-St Louis Globe-DemocraL
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