The Port Gibson reveille. [volume] (Port Gibson, Miss.) 1890-current, 1890-10-03

The Sensible Views OF an Ex-
- tremely Sensible Woman
Something About the Secrets "a 81 Perfect
Home Life = Thc Science % Good
= rfeuss-Kocplng--H 30 Hear the
Unpleasant Things of Life.

to@ss-kcep}n GLOW 50 Hear the
Unpleasant Things of Life.
On the much mooted question, "Is Mar
riage Failuref" u lady writes 20 the Chica-
20 Inter Ocean soma remarks so sensible
that we can not but quote them for the
benefit OF our readers:
A woman makes a failure of marriage
unless she makes an effort 10 do a great
deal more than Is implied Ia her marriage
contract. IL issupposed that the husband
supplies the material for the home, and
they are very raw materials indeed unless
the wife takes hold OF those means with
the'hand OF creator, building up out OF
them helps aud associations loved and
needed by both. And q woman must put
her soul into her house, or II Is hollow
and sounding shell. ~ 4
As high as we must rate the accomplish
ment Of good housekeeping, II Is not all In
the making Of a home. know a lady who
was a marked failure as hOusekecper who
was the idol of her husband, and who
graduated TO the world family OF accom-
plished and honored children. And there arc
women who in pain and weakness are con-
fined 10 their own rooms, yet who manage
10 hold the power In an orderly house and
Ill it full OF love-light and happiness sum-
cieEt for the comfort Of all who cross its
threshold. : a, :.
IL is the quality of recognizing and filling
need that is the essential quality Of succesa
In marriage. Practically, n a man comes
home from business with headache, hun.
CRY for bit Of sympathy and love, and
good deal OF quiet, and finds bis wife In
raging excitement over an elaborate dinner,
-. n. a.
amuse the children till the great proceeding
Is eliminated, he Is about as unfortunate as
the man who brings q college friend homo
70 dinner and finds his wife In wrapper aud
slippers deep in French novel But the
woman who spies the coming friend from
the window slides out Of her wrapper in g
twinkle and appears upon the scene in due
time with a s0ul-cheering cup OF French
coffee, is the woman VINO makes her hus-
band envied among men. p .
Unfortunately women have hobbies, and
ride and ride and never perceive that they
are boring their companions 20 death.
There are men who would 20 TO war to be rid
Of paper flowers, hair flowers, rugs, tides
and what not; and there are men who think
art and music are inventions Of the evil one
TO make people miserable. Any one, any
where, who cultivates a hobby at the ex-
pense Of other peoples comfort Is making
failure Of life; but true politeness OF the
heart between friend and friend, man and
wife, will obviate the danger OF overdone
amusements. -. 49,
Il is easier 10 forgive virtuous excess Of
zeal, and IL Is mostly excess OF real for ex-
cellcnce OF some kind that causes some
women TO be more exclusively housewives
than wives Of men. The greatest charity
should be extended TO a woman who makes
her house 50 perfect in detail and pol
ishcd in appearance that her fliends go into
II with fear and trembling, for she is aflct-
cd with virtuous zeal, and has only over
drawn very good thing Housekeeping
has its fanatics and martyrs as well as any
other good cause. ~ q
But housekeeping conducted as means
OF happiness aud comfort, either In a cabin
or palace. Is a science that no wife can
neglect IL she wishes 70 sustain the Law OF
mutual hc1pfulncss In marriage. ~ 80 Z
A wife expects her husband upon mar
riage TO begin a course OF toiling for her
support without remission or any suspcn-
Sion Of responsibility, and why should he
not expect her 10 aspire TO the greatest
excellence in home makingl just here Is
where the wedge Of dissolution frequently
enters. A woman fails to give as much as
sho recclycs that Is. she works from COM
puIsIon more than from desire TO keep up
her side. of the partnership with dignity
and grace y !,
But one says: al work all the time;
work like a slaye.n Yes, my dear, you do
work like slave-just like a slave, and not
like a responsible being seeking an end and
not the means. You have braided little
Eya's dress up and down and allover, which
docs not holp little Eva, and your husband
would have appreciated you more had you
spent your evenings with folded hands and
happy face In your rocking-chair by hls
side You spend hours OF time on unneces-
sary things aud forget the essentials ofyour
partnership, which is to evolve as much
peace and comfort as possible out Of your
materials.
The science Of good housekeeping In
these days, when we can buy so many con-
veniences, Is not so much superiority in
any one thing as general excellence in
every thing. We do not need cooking
schools for girls so much as schools where
nll branches Of home-making are taught, In
order TO preserve the balance Of usefulness
In the girls mind. A man does not want TO
marry chef de cuisine, and It Is no won
der the papers make fun Of cooking schools.
To learn one department Of housekeeping
to the neglect Of every thing else is ruinous.
II woman Is TO marry, there is nothing
50 much to be valued as good health and
good sense and q very loving heart. and
thenit will follow that she will adapt her.
self to the calls upon her ability. When a
woman marries for life OF ease and doesn's
get It, there is certainly no remedy In her
case so long as she forgets that life Is q
struggle anywhere, and feels that she
should be excused from helping tocarry
the burdens OF those by whom she may be
surrounded.
The mutual bearance and forbearance OF
life is az greatly the secret Of happiness IN
marriage ss in any thing else. We have 70
tolerate unpleasant things In our com
panions In any relations of life, and why
try TO build up law OF marriars la any
other wayi
Wild Hogs in Florida n
Speaking Of the wild. hogs. Of Florida, .
correspondent of the Providence Journal.
says: The hogs are the hercest creatures