The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1890-07-20

was evidently attracted by her beauty,
but considered her youth barrier TO
any serious interest.
One morning they CHANGED to meet in
garden whittier she had gone to gather
| some roses. For a moment they were
alone, and he made some joking remark
about her admirers asking which was
| the favorite Would she indicate her
preference by the bestowal of rose? In
moment she had placed the whole fra
grant burden in his hands, at the same
time faltering something that told the
secret Of her heart.
There are bashful men, often very
honest fellows and deserving good wife,
who yet lack the courage to make pro-
posal, and to such timid suitors maiden
may with propriety give aid and com
fort. The story of John Alden's court
ship is one of the most charming of those
which record how woman has taken
the initiative The young pioneer was
as diffdent as he was handsome, and
never was girl better justified than
was the fair Priscilla when she silenced
his pleading in behalf of stout Capt.
Miles Standish by the famous question,
"Why don't you speak for yourself,
john"
Not only is it properly the right and
even the duty of loving maiden to help
out her wooer when the worldly advan-
tages are all on her side or he is too
bashful to disclose his passion, but there
IS some excuse to be offered for the girl
who assumes that he who offers a kiss
intends thereby to offer. his hand.
Too many men wander through the
world stealing from innocent young
creatures a little of the freshness of
their lives, seeking only the amusement
Of the moment, careless how much suf-
fering they may infiict. A kiss should
be the sacred symbol of betrothal, and
1t IS no more than proper to assume that
it is so intended
Some years ago gay man of the world
was riding on horseback beside lively
Washington belle By some means they
became separated from the rest of the
party. They were alone in a wooded
road, the twilight was falling, their
horses were walking slowly, very near
together. Yielding to the charm of the
moment, and attracted by the beauty of
the face that was dangerously close to his
own, the gentleman slipped his arm
around the lady's slender waist and their
lips met. After moment of pretty en-
barrassment she released herself from his
embrace and said gently:
You will see mamma in the morn
ing"
He was fairly caught, for she was of
a social position that protected her, but
had she been of less rank the assumption
might justly have been the same. No
man of nice honor ought to offer an en-
dearment to pure maiden without
honest intentions of marriage.
In thousands of cases men have been
punished for their carelessness in these
matters. Many man has lived in I'M
congenial and wretched marriage with
woman he would never have chosen,
because having been weak enough to
form habits of familiarity with her, he
had become entangled in an engagement
he could not break.
In conclusion, while by no means adj
vising the general adoption of DR.. Bush
nell's theory, it is safe to admit that it is
largely true that the men who are most
worth having need sometimes generous
encouragement from the woman they
would wed. A true lover is always
doubtful of his attractions, the very
power of his passion makes him diffident,
and many woman who would have
made noble wife and mother has re-
manned unwedded because she shrank
from granting the encouragement that
an excellent man needed. A good girl
who knows herself beloved need not be
too chary of giving some indication of
her own feelings. In all womanliness
and delicacy this may be graciously and
gracefully done.
.LLMI ~