Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1890-09-28
THE GOSPEL OF REST.
Shirley Dare Says Women Work Too
Hard to Stay Beautiful.
OFTEN THEY'RE TOO TIRED TO EAT
A Few Moments on the Lounge Out of
Every Hour in the Day.
DIRECTIONS FOB FACIAL MASSAGE

WRITTEN FOR THE pIsPArcH.i
The letters with which readers have
favored me lately have been more than
usually interesting In their touches of char
acter and experience. They come from all
grades of society. Here are letters in angu.
lar fine lady's writing, so blind it racks the
nerves to decipher it; letters with monogram
in gold and colors or verified crests; gifls'
letters in handwriting and wording so much
alike am tempted to think they all come
from the same correspondent If it were not
for the post marks, so widely apart.
Here are letters from young women who
spend their days behind counters or in
Offices, but are none the less anxious to make
good impression by figure and complexion,
and letters from lively, sensible women
with household cares, whose epistles are
best worth reading generally Of all that
come, and those which tell of biting expert
ence and single-handed struggle-which get
read when other pages are put aside to wait
their time
FROM MOTHER OF TEN.
Violet, as a woman 46 years old and the
mother of ten children, as she writes, shall
AdFC Vic place Ol CONSIDERATION. NlOleb
still pays great regard 70 personal appear.
model to some of the 40 and over, but she de-
sires advice on massage for wrinkles.
What is the best unguent to rub into the
skin, not too expsnsive?"
Massage is doing wonders for New York
women, but we may as we'll at the same time
consider "Daisy's" letter, who wants similar
advice from another point of view. Daisy
knew nothing of work, having always
boarded until four years ago she married o
farmer, and now of course finds plenty to
do. II she can just get the hollows in her
cheeks filled up and her complexion cleared
she will be happier. She has tried the early
to bed and early to rise plan for the last four
years, getting up every morning at 4:30, and
is inclined to think it a humbug, for her
complexion is no better. Perhaps il she got
up for pleasure and not to work it would
make some difference.
THE GOSPEL OF REST.
Now Daisy and Violet both want to heed
the gospel of rest to erase wrinkles and fill
hollows in the cheeks. hope that precious
woman never took the notion of getting up
at 4:30 mornings from anything 7
ever wrote, for never counseled early ris.
ing and working hard all day for careworn
wives and mothers with young children.
Men and women have to learn yet that the
Almighty never sent them into the world to
work themselves into wrinkles and emacia-
tion, whether by child bearing, farming or
housekeeping.
A man, rich or not rich, would be ashamed
to have his working team or carriage horses
in use as thin and overweight as his wife,
or to tar them as hardly in proportion to
their strength as the woman who bears his
name. There is absolutely no adjustment
Of burdens to the strength or capacity of
women. Slender, unused to work, delicate
in every way, tenderly cared for before mar
riage, they find themselves assigned to the
duties of servant maid, of motherhood and
the head OF family, and expected to keep
up with the imposition somehow, with scant
indulgence till the breakdown.
IT MEANS HARDSHIP.
There is absolute inhumanity in the way
delicateiy reared girls are flung into mar
riage and the hardships of small fortunes
together. A mother who rears her daughters
for such lot should see that they are as
tough as whipcords and trained to work
from childhood as they are now trained Tor
the piano. Marriage and the care OF a fam
lily in all ordinary circumstances means
labor of the hardest kind for mind and body,
and If girls knew really its demands they
would look on proposal of marriage very
much as an invitation to enter the peniten-
tiary for term Of years.
And these overweight women want to
have the wrinkles taken out Of their faces
while they wait" To repair such wrinkles
they must remodel their lives. Neither
cosmetics nor massage will do good much
longer than the direct application is kept up
unless they obey the first great demand Of
their nature-rest Daisy must cease get
ting up at 4:30 to work unless she takes the
early day to get the main part of house
keeping over and is ready to lie down for
two hours.
REST THE cURE-ALL.
For Daisy toiling through her housekeep-
ing with her baby, since whose coming she
has never been well, the first prescription
is II hours rest If not sleep in q bed or on a
lounge on the piazza out of each "a. If her
achievements are limited to getting the fam
lily something to eat three times q day for q
while this rest must be taken or the family
will soon have to get their own dinners,
sans wife and housekeeper broken down..
Why, in the name OF common sense, when
capable help is almost unknown in farming
communities, and the mothers are worked
to insanity, should not boys be employed to
do the heavier part of the work, az the in
door man does in cities? Boys serve as
cooks on yachts and in coast hotels, where
they do all the cooking except pastry and
desserts, wash floors and table linen and
towels at a pinch. / have seen as good
laundrymen, American born, as ever ironed
shirts, and there is comfort in having help
with muscles to call on. Mr.. Daisy should
send one of his youngest workers up to the
house to wait on Mrs. Daisy three hours or
half day, if not all the time, and If she
cannot csjole that youth into more house.
keeping than he ever dreamed OF she is not
the woman she ought to be.
WHAT MRS. DAISY MUST EAT.
Help or no help, Daisy needs to keep
beef broth, spiced Cruel or rich juice of
stewed fruit, if not fresh juice, ready, and
take halt cupful or more every hour or
two. This will keep off the dragging faint |
pess which leaves one too tired to eat at din |
ner and will do as much as anything to fill |
the hollows in her CHEEKS. A few sips, |
taken often, without burdening the diges- |
ton, will keep the strength and flesh better |
than full meals and will leave one more ap- |
petite for the table.
Too many busy women, teachers and |
house keepers know what IL is to sit down to |
meals too tired to eat" 1t is injurious to |
eat solid meal in such state. The nerv-
Gus force has been diverted from the stomach |
and food is worse than useless. It is far bet
ter to bathe thef ace, top of head and back
Of the neck in cool water, with o dash of
lavender after il, the best nervous refresh
ment possible, and lie down ten minutes or
half an hour, before taking the cup of beef
uice with an egg stirred in just as the broth
is taken from the fire, and toasted Gra-
ham cracker, or some such fare will do
more to sustain q woman working on her
nerves than heartier fare, for which she feels