Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1890-08-15
FAMlLIAnIriE, BY WORD OR Pes.


There is very little left to call the peo-
pie you love il YOU lavish words of aiiec-
ton on every stranger you meet If you
call IL young woman You have known
just half an hour Dear" and one you
have known three days Darling" there
will be no tender endearing term for Won
to address to those who have your whole
heart. Girls who are not of necessity
gushing, are often apt to speak in the
most familiar manner. Good speech i
certainly pure silver, but there are so
many times when SILENCE would outweigh
and be perfect gold, 10 tell Of ones
family affairs, to tell Of ones Joys and
worries to some one who has u sympa
thetic manner and seems to invite if, is
mt once weakness aud Il mi ,foE une
TO write letter in which You use en-
dcaring terms, ia which Won discuss per
s1nal matters, is more than merely indis
credit is dangerous. Don't you think
if you are Il bit familiar in ,peech orwith
the pen to a man, that he is going to
more than meet this half way? Don't
you think if you call him by his first
name he ia very apt to call you by yours,
and perhaps before people whom YOU do
not care to have think lightly of You:
If you permit him to speak Of things not
usually discussed, do not imagine for
one moment he is going to regard the
conversation as confidential. lie will al
ways tell it to somebody and YOU can
then imagine how much further down in
the esteem of two people You have gone.
Don permit amy man 10 be familiar with
You to the extent of calling YOU sofa
Girl, or citing you as Zone of The boys"
\ ou don't belong among the boys. and
you Shouldn't be counted there. Don't
let any man, unless YOU are bcthrothed
to him, kiss you Lips are of little worth
to John hieh have been pressed by Tom.
Dick aud Harry. II you write . letter
to man friend, don't put in black and
white that you are ''hs forever or that
YOU send Il great deal of love. even if il
be only III jest, but remain his livery cor
daily or very sincerely. Sincerity
and cordially are possible even with aC-
quaintanCcs that do not demand either
love, or an affection that is to last fotev
err | wish girls knew how very i'll bred
1t is to give, or permit famliar.tics in
word or pen from either men or women
Learn to keep your personal Affairs to
yourself. Learn to believe your first
name can only be used by those connect
ed with You by ties of blood, or having
the right given by deep love. Believe
me. you will never regret your self re-
spect as shown in this way. aud you will
never cease lamentjng permitting u too
familiar intercourse, that in he future
will rise up before You like Il ske leton at
feast. perfect friendship is Ike a
rose, after the time of its glory is pass
ed the leaves may be thrown into 4 Jar.
covered with spice and salt to bring ou'
the fragrance forever, and he Il delight
to you wherever it ia \ friendship that
is too familiar may also be- lllehed to a
rose. but one that early lotcs its leaves
they fall hpon the grouad and no one
treasures them enough to gather them
up and keep them as mcmcnto Of day
that have gone by. For while there
is sickly sweet smell. and then they
are blacks ned aud tliscolared, AID no o;lor
comes from then. Concludc then. in
forming your friendships, to make hose
only that can, When time separates you
two, make pleasant memory for the fit.
ture, and one that will not cause blush
to come upon your face -L1di-s H4me
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