The News-Herald. [volume] (Hillsboro, Highland Co., Ohio) 1886-1973, 1890-09-25
CROSS AND IMPATIENT.
Two Bad Traits Possessed by Too
Many Young Persons.
Let Us Have Moro OF "the Music That
Can Deepest Reach and Cure All Ills
by Cordial Speech" in Our Homes,
and Lead q Happy Life.

Dy CORDIAL speech' In Our Homes,
and Lead Happy Life.
"I believe, ".exclaimed bright little
woman one day, ''that I would rather
have really wicked person in the
house, If he would only be good-natured
than to live with the best one who was
cross"
This was extreme, says Harper's Ba-
Ear, but any one who has ever en-
dured the society of an irritable COM
panion for many days will feel sympa-
thy with even this strong statement.
Such companion is species of torture.
1t sometimes seems as though almost
every duty were more forcibly impressed
upon the young than the duty Of amia-
bility. In many quarters this vir-
tue is absolutely at disadvantage.
The cross ones are likely to get a repu-
tation for greater ability than the pleas
ant ones. "Fools," we are told, ''are
always amiable."
We plead for reform, and so pleads
everybody who happened to be in
certain house in an inland town, where
a handsome and fashionable young
woman was stopping with an aunt who
had every claim upon her tenderest con-
sideration.
"Are you going out to the cliff" the
young woman would demand Of her
aunt.
II don't know yet" the aunt would
respond, wearily.
"Oh, dear, ! wish you could ever
make up your mindp the niece would
fret.
"But must wait and see how feel
after my dinner" the invalid aunt would
protest.
eff it wasn't that it would be some-
| thing else," the niece would exclaim,
petulantly. You're always waiting,
always undecided. get so sick Of It'll"
The aunt bore her young charges Tor
superintendents) vagaries almost too
sweetly; but the hateful little bicker
and impudence Of the latter were unen-
durable to the outside listeners, before
whom she took no pains to control her
self. Yet this young girl was member
| Of church. She would not have lifted
her hand against her aunt, yet she gave
her daily worse insults than physical
blow.
The blow glove gives is but weak.
Does the mark yet discolor my cheek!
But when the heart suffers blow
win the pain pass as soon, do you know"
1t is to women that the poets are al
ways giving praise for their amiability.
1t was a woman to whom belonged those
"sweet lips whereon perpetually did reign
The summer calm of golden charity"
But it Is doubtful whether women are
really so equable as men. Xantippe
and poor Rips wife are types of very
large class.
It is reasonable to expect that women
should be less amiable than men. Emer-
son says: GAN healthy things are sweet
tempered" 1t is only within few
years that women have begun, as class,
to take proper care Of their health. Even
now they are not expert in the art, and
more than half our women are semi-in-
valids. A woman's mode Of dress, her
diet, her indoor and monotonous life,
have all been against her. Women are
more conscientious than men. They
ought to have more principle about
keeping q pleasant face on; but when
tho whole nervous system is ajar from
insufficient nourishment and close air,
On angel could not always keep her tenn
per. Itwas only she who felt go pretty
and so pleased all day" who "could not
take the trouble to be cross" When
one is baff1ed and thwarted all day,
crossness becomes luxury that most
women are too prone to indulge IN.
But oh! how it spoils and degrades
family lite! !. l2
SEQ word, how IL severethi
Oh, power Of life and death
In the tongue, ~ the Preacher saithr'
We may not all Of US be able to cult
~ate the highest virtues-eonstanoy
generosity, magnanimity-but we can
ala keep civil tongue for those around
us, and put on pleasant expression II
We try. Amiability has been pooh
poohed at too long. 1t Is the source Of
moro comfort and pleasure in any homo
in which It is practiced than many .
more vaunted virtue.
/" The mnEc that can deepest reach
And cure ell Ills b cordial speech"
By all means let us have more Of it In
our homes. rG .s..I.g r. .H-