St. Tammany farmer. [volume] (Covington, La.) 1874-current, 1890-06-14
AFRAID OF the GIRLS
Embarrassment 0e Indian Studoato h The
Presence of Young W00eo.

FH0OOOeO OI y000R WOo0os
Tho Indian young men at Hampton
Institute are said to find it particularly
hard to be 1T case with the girls st IN
evening reception. In his native wilda
the Indian does not regard women with
awe, and would laugh at the idea Of BE-
ing afraid Of them. But when the In
dian student is invited to attend . party
and meet young girls Of his own and
other races, after the manner the white
people call society" he is panic-strick-
en-. They gather about the entrances
and peep furtively into the awful apart
ment. II any ladies have already ar
rived. the boys are quite likely to take
to their heels. After awhile they got
courage to return and peep again.
At last, some bold spirits venture to
cross the threshold an6 stand about the
doorway. These are gradually lured
further in; others follow; and by the
time the party is about to break up. the
bashful youths have begun to feel
somewhat at thOme-they join timidly In
easy games, and manage to say . few
words to the girls nearest them.
because we see something similar In
country parties composed entirely Of the
race which hatters itself with the con-
viction Of being superior" How dim
cult it Is to prevent all the men from
getting together in corner, whore
they can talk about politics. markets
and other topics which may be summed
up in the word ''shop." while the ladies
are left by themselves in another corner
to converse upon subjects which are
''shop" to them.
In this way men and women grow
more and more apart and unlike, until
finally the true society becomes impos-
sible. Even superior men, formed for
better things, remain in lifelong igno-
rance Of women. -.
In one of Stanley s letters the African
explorer says that he is absolutely un-
comfortable" whenever he speaks to .
woman. -
II can't talk to women" he adda I'm
their presence am just ~ much hypo-
critic rs any other man, and 1t gals mo
that I must act and be affected and
parody myself. for no earthly reason
but because I think, with other men,
that to speak and act otherwise would
not be appreciated" 8.
There il where his mistakes lie, and
no gives the explanation Of it when he
says. II have lived with men. not WON.
en-"
+ So have the Indiana So have those
white men mentioned above who herd
tOgether and talk shop. They do not
know how highly women value conver-
sation of another kind, in which they
can take An equal part. and to which
they can contribute more than an equal
share. '-
Mr.. Stanley has only to address II
dies with perfect sincerity. paying
them the just homage Of giving them
the best OF his mind and the cream Of
his knowledge, to discover that he can
carry the day against . whole room full
Of poets" who. he says. speak to wom-
en- as . giant might handle . baby,
fearing to break its bones with .
squeeze.
The French. 1t Is thought excel all
mankind in making society st once de-
ightful and salutary. The reason il
that women have their proper part in
it, IS they do in the moro indispensable
concerns Of life. and their proper part
in society is to reign over it. This
avoidance Of women in society, excuse
it - We may, is mere barbaric green-