The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1890-01-19
THE MODERN BRIDE.
Mrs. Harrison Says Girls Should
Choose Their Own Husbands.
ENGAGEMENTS MUST LAST a YEAR
srrrresrtps- Matrimonial Talk With Dozen
Washington Society Wonen-The
Right Age TO Marry.

WASHINGTON, Jan. Is, iS9O.-fSqecial
correspondence of THE HERALD What
should be the age Of the modern bpiSe.
This question foruas the subject cf my in
1erviews with the leading ladies o. Wash
iugton this week. OF the two hundred
mothers of daughters whom / saw at Pres
adent Harrison's last evening White House
reception, SIS per cent. were maF-led before
they were tweaty Tbesweet,brlght girls
whom they ckaperonea rangecCn age from
twenty to twenty eight. Tfeir mothers
married at seventeen, but they are in no
hurry to settle at twenty-four and tweaty
five. The prettiest and most'popular girls
at the capital, Miss Matte Mitchell, the
two Miss Maurys, Admiral Porteras
daughter EIlen, Miss Katy Beach, and u
score of others, have been Sout from three
to five seasons. The popularity of early
marriages is dying away;and the wives of
our statesmen now decidedly disappcove
Of their girls being mated when they IRE
still in their teens. the bakers d81en
of madaEnes whom quot, only Mrs. Gen
eral Logan and Mrs. Senator Mitchell have
anything to seq in fave, of old time mar
riages. Butt viii lettee ladies speak for
themselves.
gTE WEE OF THE PRESIDENT
Mrs BENJAMIN Harrison has decided
views on most subjects, and she has evil
IDENTIFY given this question some thought
She is very fond of.goung girls, and her
advice to them is worth taking Said she:
Instead of making twenty-five the
proper age to marry, should make it
twenty-five. AS aep,lle, a woman Is mar
ried two-thirds of her life, and she can
easily lepd two or three ou3 of those years
to what ought to be 90 happy period with
every girl, the years between school days
and marriage.
physically and mentally woman is at
her best at twenty-five, and that is the
time she should marry
''But your marriage took place at a much
younger. age, did itrotl'' l askSG.
'.Ye-es, L did marry a little younger -
she acknowledged, laughingly. 81 was
twenty, but in those days a girls educa-
ton Yves finished at sixteen or seventeen
and there was SO little for her to do as
comparSdwith the present"
Should girl choose for herself?n said
'.Yee, as rule, replied Mrs President
Harrison, "but not when girl is very
young. Marriage cannot concern any but
the parties to il; e nd they should decide,
although, i mustsconfess, that they some
times make poor work of it's
The first tady 81 the land has this to say
ahoutplarriages for position:
1Leye and respect but never position
Should, decide q woman's choice of hus
BAND
MRs.4ScHN' wANAEAKER.
Never before twenty ard rarely before
tweuay- three, ''yvas the reply of the post
master generals wife to the marriage
question. "a girl Should travel, meet
many men inuifferently, and when she
does decide THAT she leves any one she
should put that love to at least years
test When girls leave, school they are
susceptible to kindness from anyone they
meet.and they should never mistake that
feeling for love"
Thisjis the reply "of the mother of the
girl who is .confessedly the daintiest Of
uheaebutantes and WHOM. half the society
men of Washington already admire. Ye
she Was wife at the age at which th'
daughter is a debutante.
rEE WIFE, eF, oUR,ATEe1NEY- GENERAL.
Mrs. Acknowledgement Miller will hav.
any number of bright girls under hel
wing this season, and this is what she ha
to sG9E:
"a GIRLS not at her"kest physically un
til she istwer ty five, and, therefore, SHOULD
not marry much before that age as the
housekeeping duties require their bes
energies. Women who marry befor,
twenty often find themselves broken dowr
at thirty, iust when they should be enjoy
ing life the most. sFior health alone al
early marriaEeis inadyisabie."
In answer to the question, whether CIR
should ever marry for position, Mrs. Mil
Ter put the case in a nutshell when Sh
said
mo; for she has to -sitopposite her hus
band at meals three times a day, and posi-
ton Decent count il everyday inter
course
WHAT a CABINET DAUGHTER THINKS.
'What is position anyway" spoke u
Miss Florence, the ,pretty3daughter of tn
attorney generals house. Il spent wee
at the White House a>Short time ago, an
when saw h9w much more the public ha
49, of the President than Mrs. Harrison did,
thought that q should never marry for II
What is il. Anyway" she made sugges
tive gesture OF catching "a handful of al
and letting IL dissipate. latter you gras
for it you do not sEautE
There are times, however, Florence
when a girl should marry for "a home" sal
the mother. Not just to have roof owe
her head. but for the care good man wi
always give TO his wife. She should nc
marry for love alone, for matrimony re
quires more solid foundation than capri
cious love-
Can girl afford to marry a poor man I!
asked.
ssOf course she cam replied Mrs. Miller
''if he is frugal, of good habits and @
some business ability"
MRS. JUSTICE FIELDS ADVICE TO LOVERS.
81 tell all the girls / know, ">said Mr.:
Justice Field. who. although she has n
daughters of her own, always has half-s
dozen girls in her drawing room, Ito fall i
love correctly, if they must fall IN love a
all. l do not think girl should follow he
first fancy. She may think she loves a
eighteen, but is wise to wait until she
twenty-five, and then, as rule, she doe
not marry the one whom she selected a
first. Washington girls either marry yer
young or quite old, say at twenty-eight, Blu
they generally marry well'
s'Should the position of the lover affec
her dssices''
"a glri who has been properly bred. - n
piled Mrs. Field, Twill always give
thought to the position in life of the ma
she marries. While love should decide he
choice. ft is her right to weigh in her CIV
mind whether her future husband coul
give her anything like the home her fathe
mas given her"
MRS SENATOR M'MILLAN.
Mrs. Senator Mcmillan, of Michigan
will have half a-dozen million-dol beal
ties under her care this winter, but she
toe, is against the "dear girls" and thei
little love affairs. She said:
IT consider the two or three years afte
q girl leaves school the happiest OF her life
and il she can live it Independent Of an
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