Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1890-02-02

Bul keep your eye fixed on the blue.
In your. dealings with others be upright, my
To your neighbor be generous and true;
You may lose at the time, but you will gain in
the end,
uyou keep your eye fixed on the blue.
Let your life be unseldsh; do good where you
For good IS your Father to you.
Should you meet 10 return, It's al excellent
To keep your eye fixed on the blue.
When life's course is finished, when life's work
And eternity breaks on your view,
You shall dwell in His presence, who helped
With your eye ever fixed On the blue.
FASCINATION Is NOT LovE.
The other day received letter from
one Of the many Daughters of Eve which
contained the following paragraph: 81
want to know if there is any such thing as
love. Now please take notice, want you
topublish this; l am not telling you my
wants in a private way, for then you might
think l have intentions which l have not.
What is love? We shall bar out diction-
aries. have always had an idea that it is
something once living, lived as long as we
did, and, in discussing this [ wish to take
only the period of life, extending from the
time one reaches the years of discretion
until FIVE years after ones marriage. All
other loves are born in one, or are the
result of long association. Does love exist
during the period mention%
Our vounp De0nle GROW nm with tho idao
that it does; that there is some one with
whom they will "fall in love-" therefore
they are, it may be unconsciously, on
the lookout for what they deem the signs
within them which prove, to their own
satisfaction, that such a one is known to
them. The signs, if they but knew it, are
only the response of a handsome face or
feature, or a romantic situation, or are but
the obedience to a stronger mind than
their own.
This feeling, which we shall call love,
generally results in marriage, and then
who dare tell them they have not been or
are not in love? They float above this
hard world, and floating is so pleasant
If rock shows itself or makes itself felt
ever so slightly, the love bids defiance and
for time they float little higher. This
love is thoughtful kind, obedient, COM
passionate, tender, considerate and every
thing else so pleasant to one but alas
alas there comes an hour when the bright
fire in the crate darts out wicked little
flares, swapping, fooled )" when the wind
disnally howls, "fooled; )" when the dog
looks with sad eyes into your face, saying,
81 anu sorry, but you are fooled" Even
the clock seems to measure off, oh, so
evenly, "fooled, fooled" There seems a |
stiffness in the house. something is dead |
and you know what it is.
Humanity does not like to be fooled. |
The worse it is fooled the more it will try |
TO hide it. A wife, finding her husband |
uneongenlal, will kill him, kill herself, di-
vorce him, run away or "make the best of |
it, To kill him would likely involve her
in a somewhat similar death. That, and |
killing herself, woman naturally shrinks
from; therefore she keeps these two alter
natives till the last. To divorce him is
almost impossible in Canada, and is looked |
on as sort Of disgrace almost equal to
running away; therefore we may class
these four as desperate means.
The way thought the most respectable |
in the nineteenth century is to make the |
best of it.
are making the best of it candidly tell |
what it means. Poor creatures, they hardly |
know what another experience would feel |
like. So many people have no character !
By their lives they say, ~ was born to |
live and die; let what is to be come along"
They do not know the great truth that |
what is to be will be unless they make an |
effort to bring about realization of their |
II ,f, ,t,,4 IL
rled life is no proof that love existed be- |
fore marriage. The lioness has love for
the lion.
Marriage is never the result of love, but
rather the desire for wealth or position,
fear of old maidenhood, necessity, the
prevalent idea that marriage is the usual,
customary, proper thing to do, expected of
you by the world, as it were, and that
sentimentality, widespread and most dar-
gerous falsely called love. l do not say a
marriage founded on any of these will
turn out unfortunate This world is
almost equally divided between happy and
unhappy exceptions, but if girls but knew
that this love is a thing to be spurned,
loathed and avoided as if it were some
dread disease, if they recognized it as a
form of insanity, we would have more
happy, healthy-looking households in our
land. People in this age laugh at Jacob
being engaged seven years to Rachael
They believe in short engagements, and
the result is so usual it has ceased TO he
wondered at-a man and woman agreea-
bic, when circumstances are very favora-
bic; cold, quarrelsome, or sarcastic gener-
ally the children, if any, in about the
same latitude and longitude as their par
ents.
Different causes can be brought forward
for this great evil-the belief that love
exists before marriage-the evil effects Of
which are boundless. 1t is harder remov-
ing cause than giving a cure. A long
engagement is very efficient.
should like to have other opinions on
this topic. wish to say in closing l do
not discourage marriage, nor yetlove, but |
maintain that happy married life can best
be attained by long and careful study Of
each others habits and nature, and mar
riage will always be very liable to fail as
its foundation is built of beautiful and
crazy idea called love.
SIX O'clock TEA.
A very pretty and effective entertain {
ment came within my experience a short
time age. 1t is what is called six
O'Clock tea for young ladies, the guests
about seventy-fve. After sup
per was served, the hostess brought in a S
large silver tray. on which was what ap.
peared to be heap of the freshest lettuce
leaves, crinkled and tender looking. At '
the stem Of each was slipo white paper,
on which were written quotations from S
standard authors. The attention of the
company was attracted by the call of S
bell, when the hostess announced that she c
would further serve her guests by giving
them "literary saladn Each was to C
take a leaf and guess the author of the t
quotation; should she guess rightly, she S
was to keep the leaf and wear it in her
eorsage; if she could not guess, it was to
De returned to the platter, and she might il
nave the privilege of trying again and as r
many times as She liked These who
guessed correctly could also repeat the a
rial. One or two succeeded in securing a Y
arge eorsage bouquet of the leaves, while b
ONE obtained none at ALL Sc
Gard 4ablac anJ 20 RI. ,rare aisc, r.