St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1890-12-28
More Spinsters Are Yearly
Being Quietly Laid Upon
the Shelf.
Bachelordom Growing Sc
ductive to the Impression
able Young Man,
AS Will Be Seen by a Pen Pict-
ure Written by One Who
Knows.
The Question Now Arises,
"What Will Become Of
the Girls ?"

Why do young men show such antip-
athy to marriage?
This is question that is becoming
serious enough to engage the attention
of not only manageable women, but
the community at large. Fewer young
men marry now than generation ago.
and it is statistical fact that the num-
Der is getting smaller every year. Good
organization insures the success of
every gentleman'S club, and there is no
better real estate property than we'll
equipped apartment house for bach
elors.
Good, sweet women are aging and
Shriveling away, and the desirable meu
who would find them loving and lovable
as wives keep out of the way. fearing to
trust themselves to their subtle influ
ence. These young men are not at the
summer or winter resorts, they are not
on the ocean steamers. they are not in
church or in the little clubs for social
culture, and they are not at the dance
or the altar gates. They are simply
apathetic and manifestly Indifferent to
the society OF young women.
And the reasons?
Most young men who are compelled to
work for living fear that they are UNI
able to support wife. They look upon
the eXtravaganceS of fashion with abso-
lutte horror and hesitate and cogitate
long time before putting the
Matrimonial Moose
about their necks and laying their
sagacious noses against the rough side
of the grindStOne. There is no teacher
like experience, but experience comes
high. and the man who has lived and
observed counts himself wise and is
able to profit by the mistakes of his
friends.
Ask any young man about town if he
knows single family the machinery of
which runs on oiled wheels. Perhaps
he will say he does. but the chances are
in favor of his telling you that he thinks
not. The tendency Of the age is to-
wards prodigal extravaganza, vulgar
show and false ambition. A generation
ago it was not unusual for man of in
telligence and principle to marry on
$500 year, but that mans son to-day.
with an income of $1,000, considers that
sum insufficient for the support of the
woman he would be proud to have for
his wife.
The manageable youth communing
with himself says:
what do l gain by trip to the
altar?
1.-THE woman who could cook my
meals, darn, mend and
Wash My Clothes.
relieve me of the expense Of house
keeper and janitress, and nurse me
when fall i'll don't want. She would
be real help in the material world,
but would pine for cOmpanionship.
"The woman who could interest,
amuse. comfort, solace. strengthen and
encourage me knows nothing of the do
nestle sciences. and could not afford
to supply her with proper assistants.
eff | marry drudge | can save
money. live in comfort and get fat and
perhaps rich. If | marry gentle
woman. nineteenth century angel, /
shall starve and die of shame over her
discomfort"
This matter-of-fact young person
knows that he will not only have to d.
vide his income but cut down his cigars,
lose his innocent game of billiards and
cancel the casual taxes of popularity.
He must resign from the several social
and athletic clubs to which he belongs.
sell his stock in the yacht, lop off some
of his papers and magazines and be his
own barber and boots. In return he
gets the society of woman he does not
know and who may or may not prove
companionable when he has made her
acquaintance. He loves his ease, she
her vanities, and the selfishness that
forms the largest
Part of Human Motive
may be so developed in this man and
wife as to absolutely antagOniZe them.
The woman may lack consideration,
judgment, tact. She is likely to be am
bilious. discontinued and unreasonable,
and unless she is dense, stupid and nom
progressive there will be jars and bick-
erings. tongue lashings, tears, heart
aches and vain regrets in very short
time. These issues have occurred. In
deed, every social student has observed
them.
Our young candidate for matrimony
drops round to the homes of his friends
and quietly considers the different de-
! greeS of happiness that prevail. He is
kuick to observe that when he asks Tom
what he thinks of married life the lat
ter protests that he is the happiest man
living, and that there isn't money
enough in the United States treasury to
make him live alone again. Too much
prOtestatiOn weakens truth, as contin-
uance of the interview will prove. On
meeting this same prOdigiOuSiy happy
man leaving his Office next evening
Tom is invited to play game of pool.
Nothing would please me better, my
dear boy" Tom answers with sigh.
'but promised Mrs. B. l would he
home at g. But you have nothing to
do. Come, dine with me-" If the
young man accepts the chances are that
Mrs. B. will greet his arrival with
A Significant Elevation
0f {ln n
little dropping of the corners of her
mouth indicates that she is not wildly
Infatuated with the idea of having his
company for dinner. When the meal is
served he will perhaps notice widen
ing of Toms eyebrows, and then look
of resignation will settle on his face
when he finds that the soup is cold
The family hope by way of variety
throws his spoon in the gravyboat and
howls industriously when mamma be-
gins her company admOnitiOn.
The vulgar explanation of the host
ess, her regret at not knowing Tom had
maid-of- all-work impressed as waitress
for the occasion, the uncouth way she
handles the dishes, the STIFFNESS of the
small dining room, the paucity of food,
the unpalatable way it has been pre-
pared, all tend to recall the previous
night when he dined at little cafe with
bachelor Jack and had a capital dinner
with claret and cigars, no restraint OH
good fellowship. no frowsy awkward
slattern to spoil his appetite, no cold
soup, no soggy potatoes, no leaden
bread, no frigidly formal and Jelly affa-
BILE hostess to preside or rather subside,
and no infant terrible to mar the har-
mony. The spread was not expensive,
the food was abundant, the courses were
tempting, the cooking was good, and he
had
Feeling of Freedom
and physical coDtentment. After din
ner he beat Jack at game of pool and
then sauntered off to his room gay as a
bird and happy as Though he owned the
purse of Fortunatus, to finish Ruskins
immortal "Crown of Wild Olives"
Now. after politely eating the dinner
that has settled on his stomach like a
lump of MIR. Carnegie'5 well-protected
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