The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1890-04-20

How many parents there are. how
ever. who ore reader 10 provide play
things for their children than TO share
the DELIGHTS of their children Win
those piaythiugs; reader no set Their
children at notwithstanding. than TO
have part iu their children IS surprises
and epjoymenis of knowledge attain
ing. reader 90 make good. as far as they
can. all losses To their children. than To-
griove with their children over those
losses. Aud what a loss of power e.
those parents as parents, is this lack oi
sympathy with their chi dren as chil
dreu. There are, however, parents who
sy mlathize with their children 10 all
things. aud as result, they practically
train aud sway thsir children as theg
w.li: FOR when there is entire sympl-
thy between two persons. the stronger
one is necessarily the controlling force
with both.
I'm order 20 symUa.h'z8 with another
YOU must be able io pat yourself no his
place. mentally and cmOti0ua'ly. 20 oc
cupy. for Che time being, his point Of
view. a1d to see chat which bee Sees.
and as he secs lt. as he looks out thence.
To is not that your way of looking at 81.
s. has way from the start. bat ID is that
bis way of looking at 10 must be your
way while sou are taking your tart ln
an effort to show your sympathy with
him. I'm many relations of hfe. SYM
uathy would bo impossible between two
parties. because Of the differences OF
taste and temperament and habits oil
thought. but iu the case of parent and
child. the parent ought ,o be able Co.
learn Che chiid's WAYS of thinking aud
modes of Feeling. so as I'D come into
the possibility of sympathy with the
child at an times
How the child ought TO feel is one
thug. How the child does feel is quite
another thing. The parent may know
the former better lhan the child does.
but the latter the child knows better
than the parent. Jnui q parent has
learned Just how the child looks 20 ANY
matter. che parent Dis incapable of SD
coming alongside Of ihe child IN bis u.s.
innate of that matter ass Co win bis con
fdence and 10 wor, with him toward
more correct view OF it. To stand Oft
apart from the child and tell him how
De ought 90 think and feel. may DE O.
means OF dishearfeniug him. az De iiuos
himself 20 far from the correct stand
ard. But 90 stand with Che child ard
point him to the course he ought 60
pursue. is more likely to inspire him TO-
honest efforts in hat direction. until h.
comes TO think and to feel as Dis par.
ents would have him.
A parent misses au opportunity OF
gaining added power over his child
when he fails to sAow sympathy with
Chat child in the child enjOyments
and ordinary occupations. 10, indeed
the parent would be always ready 90
evidence an interest iu his chiids 5
PLAYS and companionships and studies.
the parent would grow into the very life
ofhschiid mail these spheres; and there
would be hardly less delight 90 the child
in talking those Things over with his
parent alterWard thanln going through
with them originally. But If Gle par
ent seems TO have no share with th.
child i'm any one or all OF these lines of
childhood experience. the child is nee
essarily shut away 20 far from his
parent. and compelled 10 live his life
there as If he were parentlcss.-Sun-
day School Times,