Custer weekly chronicle. [volume] (Custer City, S.D.) 1890-1931, 1890-07-12

Here Is some good advice for moth
ers-in-law who are honestly anxious te
sec their daughters happy after mar
rage, says the N. Y. Tribune, and IL
comes from an expert in such matters,
If any n can be considered an expert
In cases Of that kind. Ii Is the advice
of the clerk of one of the courts in the
county courthouse. He Is nov over
20 years old and has been a clerk fol
almost fifty years. Nearly all of that
time he has been in the part OF the
court where a large majority OF the
divorce cases are tried. Besides this,
he has several daughters who are hap
PLY married, and he is a keen observer
Of human nature. A suit for limited
divorce was tried in the part In which
he Is clerk the other day, in which toe
much mother-in-law was the principal
Cause of complaint. After 1t was
finished. he said to the writer:
"Tll tell you what it is, after all that
has been said about mothers-in-law as
disturbers Of domestic happines,
among young married couples, but one.
quarter has been told that might be
said about the subject. | have watched
the proceedings in not only hundreds,
but ] presume thousands, of divorce
cases. and ] tell you scores OF those
cases are brought to court in conse-
auence of mothers-in-law. The trouble
Is, too, that the mother-in-law often
causes the disturbance by actions which
she honestly believes are for the best
interests of her daughter. and because
she thinks that she Is making her child
happy by her conduct. Not only that,
but she would consider herself derelict
in her duty to her offspring if she did
not do as she often does when she
causes lhe disturbance.
This misrepresentation of her duty
very often causes serious trouble, If not
q divorce suit. When my first daughter
was married she and her husband came
to my house to live, and they had not
been married n month before they
were quarreling. / saw how things
were going and bought them a small
house 10 Brooklyn and sent them over
there to live. Since hat time they
have lived happily together, and they
have never had a serious quarrel since
that time. When my other daughters
were married / insisted upon their 20.
ing away from home Immediately, and
they are now all living happily with
their husbands. / tell you what, the
less O mother-in-law has to do with heI
daughter during the first few years Oh
the daughters married life the better
that daughter will get along with hel
husband. It's all right for a mother &c
visit her daughter for short periods, Of
course, but she must let the young peo'
pie run their own affairs to suit them
selves. From the many cases which
have come under my observation
know that there is nothing a young
man with any spirit resents so quickly
as the interference by his mother-in'
law In his domestic arrangements. A
young couple will make a great many
mistakes, OF course, during the first few
years of their married life, but they
will learn by experience quickly enough
TO be practical, and they will be all thu
more closely bound together in con
sequence of the experience. Whereas
if the mother-in-law thinks it is he
duty to teach thom there will be no enc
Of trouble, and their married life j
likely to end in u divorce suit before
they have really become acquainted
with each other"