The daily state chronicle. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 188?-1891, 1890-12-24
OBSTACLES OF MARRIAGE.
On. Y. Herald.)

DO modern ways, fashions and Gus
toms disincline to matrimony?
Are we losing our grip on the old fash
loned home of the last generation 2
Moreover, what shall young man do
who is the fortunate or unfortunate pos
SCISSOR of large assortment of domestic
impulses which he has inherited, and
which, after taking a careful inventory
of his possessions, seem to be about all
he did inherit
If he has fallen over head and ears in
love, but has only slender income,
shall he go ahead as far as the altar, or
retreat 10 good order and smother Cupid
like the two Princes in the rower2
Will the girl of the period stand by
fellow in the struggle for existence, con
sent to live in rather humble quarters
and give up sealskln sacque for the
sake of domestic happiness Or is she
fishing for money, an equipage and
| splurge in the fashionable word2
These are some of the questions which
young New Yorker asks US 70 answer.
Very we'll. 1t is an interesting sub
| ject, and we are not averse to its discus
sion.
We are very optimistic and have no.
ton that domestic happiness is as much
priced as it ever was, and honest men
and pure women are quite as plenty.
| A lot of old mummles, who ought to
have been carted to the cemetery long
ago, get together once.in a whieand asth-
matically wheeze about the heartiess-
ness of the times, but their tangled jan
gle of morose criticism is very tiresone.
They are the leftover stock Of the last
century which nobody bought then be-
cause it wasn't wanted, and which can't
be given away now because it isn't worth
having.
The men who live On the avenue and
have an apoplectic bank account began
life with empty pockets and full heads
We have many time lounged through
the Park of an afternoon and watched
these big folk riding by. Gifted with a
good memory and having some knowl-
edge of the changes that have occurred
during the last forty years, we have re.
| called the days gone by. This man, fol-
! example, who makes the street tired
when he gives it a twist, and that mar
who drives his two-twenty team against
sharp nor wester until his cheeks are
3 crimsoned-well, do you know them
3 Oh, no; if you did you would stop grum
! bling. We do know them, and so WI
: smile and feel proud of a country which
2 gives man such opportunities.
q The first one wasn't worth dime il
! the days of lang syne, and the secont
; had tussle with circumstances whicl
D would make your hair curl. They boil
lived in the third story back and yer
n worse off than you are, but they ham
e mered away until Aladdin loaned then
n his lamp. Then they moved into col
q ner house, and fools talked about luck
y 1t wasn't luck; it was pluck.
Can such things be done nowadays
It Why, dear boy, they are being don
# right under your very nose. Histor
n hasn't got tired of repeating itself. Th
n same causes will produce the same effect
II till this little earth drops back int
chaos.
1t And will a young girl stand by by he
it lover as of old, share his poverty as we
as his ambition, sew on his buttons, kee
him in good repair, look after the snul
gerry, and with wifely loyalty take th
=. =. uphills and downhills as her grandmotl
W er did? Why, man, you are crazy
doubt it.
4, We rather think the fault is with yo1
q, a, not with the girl. If you are bound [
Ill have your club life with its constant e.
pense, if you feel it necessary to bet c
the races, to be dunned by your tailor,
live at tearing rate, to give the impre
sion that you are flush when you dof
el know how to pay your shoe bill, and
humbug yourself and the world, tt
young girl you prate about does we'll
hesitate. She shouldn't fling herse
't1 away on a worthless rogue who can't pr
a perly support himself and who is vain
en- trying to make both ends meet becau
~. be hasn't moral muscle enough to Ii
within his income. She wants ma
L. not a coward. She is comfortable in b
nd fathers house, and why should she e
en- change it to share your everlastil
rel stratching for money to keep the We
he from the door
on But if you have mettle, Independent
ow enough to wear an old coat until you c
aw paw for new one, and brains enough
ch make future for yourself, you will ha
ch no difficulty in finding woman who "
ic- start with you at any point where 70
income enables you to begin life a
stand by you to the end.
The popular talk about inability
marry because women expect too mu
of is all rot. There is not word Of tru
in it. There may be addle pated cir
but there are also stupid and silly me-
Both are to be equally avoided. E
af- given, man with head, heart anc
ket purpose, there are just as many WON
no. as there ever were who will follow a
share his fortunes through thick a
wy thin.
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