The Jersey City news. (Jersey City [N.J.]) 1889-1906, 1890-11-05
Look Before you Leap.


1t is a popular fiction that a girl al
marry a m n without. as the saying is.
marrying his family. 1t is not true.
Sometimes a grape does spring from a
thorn, a a pure temperate son descends
from Il vile, sinful father. His mothers
blood. perhaps, has saved him. Still, In
marrying this man you marry the soiled
family record, and must. to soine extent,
share in the suffering caused by his
fathers sins. Heredity we may or may
not believe In, but we have all seen char
acteristics pass one generation by, to Up
pear In greater strength in the second.
You run the risk then, eyen If your hus-
band Is all That he should be, of being an
unhappy. anxious mother. In respect
to disease and insanity the same Law OBJ
tains. / am not speaking in favor Of the
selfish, m~ercenary marriage. but / am adj
vocating the intelligent counting Of the
cost before the contract Is signed. Parents
who would be shocked at their daughters
choosing, as an intimate friend, a girl OF
whose antecedents they knew nothing.
do not always refuse to allow that same
daughter TO marry a man those family
they meet for the first time at che we'd
ding.
1t is one thing to entertain an immacu-
lately attired caller who brings bonbons
In one hand and roses in the other, and
quite another TO see him of guard with
lis brothers aud sisters In his environ
ment, not the one your parents culture
and success have given you. He does not
seem like a stranger in your home, and
vet you might never be anything but an
alien in his.-Heten Jay, In Ladies' Home
Journal.
The Young Wife.
Here is a young wife who has won the
love of a man who has lived on a plane
more extended than her own, in a larger
way, among people accustomed to a life
that seems to her rs splendid as the life
of mobiles and princes. She has been born
and bred in Il country town; but novels
and periodicals and pictures have given
her an outlook on the broader world, and
as idea of life there, whether false or
true, that kindies her fancy. Is she
thinking OF the pure and clear mi she is
to make in all the rich chord of The new
luxurious days; of the way in which she
is to gain her husbands reverence, aud
prove TO him how lofty and tue a person.
atty may be that has developed without
wealth n its attendant advantages and
delights; of the way in which she is going
to keep all these in subsection, If not be-
meath her feet. yet as her slaves. and not
her masters. enjoying them as things by
the way. but not necessary to her best
lifes Is she going to hold her husbands
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simplicity, and be a refining and restrain
ing aud enno5ling influence In his career?
Or Is she-loving him very probably as a
woman must needs low the man she
marries and who entreats her tenderly-
going to show him how she loves his
money too: how the pearls he clasps
about her throat are as precious as the
kisses he lays on her mouth; how the flash
OF his diamonds as he bestows them on her
IS more dazzling to her thar his glances;
show him how she will sweep through
the splendid rooms into which he brings
her as to the manner born; how she will
command his coacnman and roll Ia his
coaches as ii she had never trodden a
rural road with springing step; how she
viii delight in her check-book. do justice
to her costly paraphernalia, and revel in
the region OF what is TO her in compare
son with the old lean purse, like thai OF
boundless expenditure, and make his
world understand that she Is everything
in knowledge of life aud sway of others
his mother was before her, or any
Plutonian dame indeed among them allp-
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