Wood County reporter. [volume] (Grand Rapids [i.e. Wisconsin Rapids], Wis.) 1857-1923, 1890-05-29
ABOUT FAULTFINDINCS.
1t Is Only Vicious Habit that May
Be Cured.
Life Is Too Short to Be Spent in
Faultfinding-This Habit
Spells Many Lives.

Faultfinding-This Habit
Spells Many Lives.
After all, does it pay to frd fault? l
does not. Life is too short to be spent il
eternal faultfnding; let us remembe
this. 1t is such an easy thing to do, fault
finding, that many of us drift into tn,
habit before we are aware of it, and {
| habit it makes or mars, not only one life
but many. There are many burdens t.
bear as we 60 through life, many things
to be corrected, set right, or started ovel
again, but let it ell be done, if possible
without faultfnding. Rebukes must bt
administered sometimes, to servants OF
children, to those in the household and t.
those outside of it, but let the rebuke be
given without the faultfnding tone, words
and manner. No one likes them, no one
wants them, no one takes them kindly
They sink into the heart, but they do not
bring forth the right kink of fruit. Dc
you think that a child or servant goes
| cheerfully to work to do, undo, or rectify
what you wish, if you order them in q
faultfnding tone? By no means They
go sullenly away from you, and perform
their work in sullen and perfunctory
way, thing unkind thoughts of you and
wishing unkind wishes Of you.
Faultfnding is vicious habit, and its
effect is deadly blight. 1t contaminates
every person within reach; it brushes out
of the home cheerfulness and joy; it falls
like lead upon the spirits of the young.
It is like the cloud, no bigger than man S
how'd OF R,,f b,,4 ~ cir ,,,,t1
it envelopes the whole household. Children
and servants succumb under its blighting
influence, until, finally, the Pathfinder
resignes supreme In the dreary kingdom
of home over oppressed and weary subjects.
who seek their pleasures beyond the walls
where dwells their despotic sovereign.
1t is worth while, for the pleasure, of
induI ging in a base habit, to make home
happy? 1t is worth while, for want of a
little self-controll, to make ones self de-
tested.
No, indeed, it is not. Every woman
should strive to be sunshine in shady
place." glory in gloom, a bright ray
among bright rays, instead of a shadow
across the sunshine, cloud in a bright
sky. drift of sable plumes before which
energery, cheerfulness and ightsomeness
of heart flee as before the comming of an
inevitable and dreadful fate. Surely no
woman who is worthy to be called wom-
an wishes to be looked upon as an ogre, a
tyrant, thing to be avoided by all good,
sensible and agreeable people.
And not only is woman who finds
fault a terror to others, but she is de-
graduation to herself; for faultfnding is
degrading 1t argues the desire to look
for faults in persons and things, and
proves the fact that the Pathfinder does do
this As demand always creates a sup
ply, the Pathfinder is never at a loss for
material, and practice in the vicious habit
makes perfection, as does practice in
everything else. Soon the Pathfinder does
not need to even look for faults; they are
around and about her everywhere, as
numerous as the spirits in which the
spiritualists believe, and her entire time
is occupied in telling people of the faults
of this persons and of that person. In this
thing and in that thing.
Oh. it is so easy to find faults in every
thing and person in the world if you are
Inclined to do so. But does the fault
finder ever stop to wonder how 1T is that
she is able to find so much fault? Does
she wonder how they can let things go, as
they appear to, without making fuss
Does she think that, perhaps, they are less
particular than she is about this, that or
the other? Does she think that they have
not souls as sensitive as hers? No, she
does not. The Pathfinder is not given to
ANALYSIS if she were she would sometimes
analyze her own motives, and their depths
and blackness would horrify her. She
makes sweeping statements regarding the
motives of other women, but she does not
analvze them. If she analysed their
motives with an unbiased mind, she would
discover that they do not see the minor
faults in things and people. because they
do not look for faults; they look for beau
ties of character In persons, for good and
useful points in things.
After all, so much in this world depends
upon the way you look at things. 1t may
seem little thing, this looking at life
from cheerful or dismal point of view,
but it is, in reality very great thing.
Put on pair of blue spectales, and every
thing looks blue; green, and everything is
green. And so it is with the eyes OF our
mind. If we take cheerful view of
things, life will be far brighter. We
shall not see the faults in people, but
their virtues. If we look for pleasant
things, we shall find them; or, at least, we
shall think that we find them, which is
much the same thing. We are very apt
to find what we leek for; therefore, let us
look for light and happiness. 1t is all
habit And it is just as easy to cultivate
cheerful habit as a gloomy one: And
when once habit takes strong hold of
us. we all know how hard it is to shake it
off. Let us then cultivate a habit of
cheerfulness in all circumstances of life,
and habit of not finding fault. 1t is
not the faultfnders who are going to do
the great deeds and make the word the
richer because they had lived. No, these
faultfnders have no time for anything but
faultfnding. 1t is the cheerful people
who help the world along, who make its
great inventions and laws, who build its
monuments, write its poems md novels
and who 60 down to the grave lamentec
and honored.
A truce to all faultfnding; we will have
| none of it. No fault finder shall sit at oul
feasts or enter our doors.
MONUMENTS TO THE DEAD.
BY KATE THORN.
| New York Weekly.
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