The Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1890-1906, 1890-05-11

LlOA, coming 10 LnlS cOnc1uS1Ol:
The man who succeeds best with wo-
men must not know too much about
them, but must greatly desire to know
more. There is no incentive to interest
ike mystery, and to the average man
there is no object IN nature so mysterious
as the nature, the motives. the instincts
of a woman. The really delightful man
| knows as little about these matters as
the noble savage does Of watch.
When the first missionary showed the
first Otaheitan his clronometer and told
him that it was alive and talked to him
the Otaheitan worshiped both man and
watch, and everybody was very comfort
abe. Later on, when the missionary's
uneasy conscience made him open the
watch, show its wheels and springs, show
how it was wound up and made TO keep
time, the Otaheitan felt he had been hum
plugged and at once proceeded to eat the
missionary and spoil the watch by treat
ing it with too little instead CT too great
respect
Moral: Never tell how the watch goes.
But besides great curiosity and inter
est in women the successful man must
have a profound admiration for their
faults and foibles, as well as for their
charms. have seen men who were too
just, too logical, too mathematical to sue
coed with a sex which is fond of setting
its own fancies above the narrow restric-
tons of such ideas.
A man may playfully try to make a
woman see that her course is opposed
both to law and reason, but if she de-
chnes to see anything of the sort he
must not appear or indeed feel shocked
or disnayed, but gracefully concede the
point in question. Most women like to
be lectured little, and argued with a
little, but they hate to be proved in the
wrong. A man must not take the tone
of pedagogue, even if he is asked to
teach pretty woman common law or
Euclid.
l remember once asking man to show
me something about navigation, and
after some bewildering information ne
began working out problem in his
book.
What is it? Show n1e!' said I, Won
dering what absorbed him so.
"Oh, you-m-you wouldn't under
stand murmured he, with his whole
mind in the figures he was scratching
down.
Does any woman suppose l ever liked
that man again?
Besides interest and admiration, and
delighted tolerance of her foibles, the
successful man must have an excellent
memory and ready wit. Many woman
has felt her regard for man rise from
very temperate to summer heat by per-
ceiving that ne remembered her words
of year ago, or the fancy she had once
expressed for particular perfume, a
flower, color, a fad of any sort.
4 very ugly man made himself charm
ing to me the other day by gently taking
a sandalwood fan from the hand of
lady sitting next me, and while chatting
with her and playing with the fan con-
irving to get out the rivet in the handle
so that the whole thing collapsed, and
he, with ten thousand apologies, put it
in his pocket to be repaired.
Il remembered your saying at the
Paris exposition that the smell Of sandal
wood made you ILL.," said he to me pres
emily, land l am going out now to put
this in my overcoat pocket"
When he came back he smelled of
smoke, and | do not at all doubt, when
the fan was mended and he carried it
home, that he said something very charm
ing to the pretty woman who owned it;
but nevertheless he said and did the
right thing at the right moment for me,
and l always like to see him approach.
Again, man must know something
and know how to show that he knows it. !
Women adore power in a man. 1t is
one of the innate instincts of the sex.
Among sayages and the classes which
come next to them in our civilization the
strongest and biggest man is the one who
can take his choice among the women Of
his circle, and in the very most exalted
planes Of the highest civilization the man
who can command the respect, the at
tention, the obedience of his fellow men
is he whose homage most delights wo-
man.
A man who is the Jest and the butt Of
other men, or even ne who Is treated
with good humored familiarity border
ing on contempt, by his fellows. will per
haps arouse in women's breasts a certain
tolerating acceptance, a half pity, half
very like that bestowed upon
the court jester or their own pet dwarf
by the court ladies Of the olden time, but
he never viii command more
81 don't value what nobody else val
ues." SAID woman the other day IN
speaking Of one Of these court testers,
who was disposed 70 be very attentive to
her, and l replied:
My dear, you are enunciatIng one Of /
the great dogInas Of our faith.
But after all the YER most attractive
trait man can possibly possess, and the
one surest to make him universal IA
vorite among women,sis intensity. a |
blQSe, washed out. bJrsd and languid /
man never can be very much liked OF de- /
sired bv women who have 70 fight /
against all those tendencies in them |
selves, They want man 70 be all alive !
TO care very much aboat things, to pat /
his whole soul into rhe question Of where /
ones new picture should be hung, or
Russian tea or Roman punch Is 4
the more refreshing.
One likes 70 lean beck IN the corner Of /
the sofa or 2 comfortable chair and watch /.
one OF these vivid and earnest creatures I!
as he rearrsnges soma ornaments On the /
etagere, OF demonstrates with pencil and 4
paper Just where the boats lay II the +.
lateregatta, or enthusiastically describes /
the "close shave" b. lad in driving his /
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