The Sunday herald and weekly national intelligencer., 1890-12-28

nered?-A woman's Christmas Stocking.
Special Correspondence of SUNDAY HERALD.
New YORK, December 2G.-At fashionable
wedding the other day man said to me- "What
do women marry for ?n | thought little bit
and l said, Experience" And he answered
me, "What do you think men marry for ~ And
l told him l believed it was because men
thought it was the proper think to do, and that
although he wasn't supposed to be a partcu-
larly proper animal, man looked out very much
more for the prophecies than does woman
Women are lovely, exceptionally lovely, at
crticising the lack of thought displayed by an
other woman, but, blessed little idiots, for the
sake of a cause, or for the sake of a man, they
will rush ahead and never mind what the world
says, and it is the man who generally stops them
He thinks either of his business or his social po
sition, and he doesn't propose that either of
them will be affected by woman.
You see the day has gone by when man
would do anything for a woman; countries need
to be either very young or very old when this
sort of thing happens but after all l cant't help
but remember that question, ''What do women
marry for -
Some women marry because they want home
of their own. and these are my conclusions:
Some women marry because they haven't the
moral courage to remain single.
Some women marry because they want a little
more money in their purses and a little larger
credit at the shops.
Some women marry because they want to put
''Mrs.' on their visiting cards.
Some women marry because their mother
wants them to.
Some women marry because a man has asked
them to and they don't like to say no.
Some women marry for money-money, and
nothing else. These women get the money, and
with it great responsibilities they never dreamed
of.
Some women marry because they love the
man, because they want to be his wife, his
friend, and his helpmate; because they want to
make him feel that there is one woman in the
world whom he can love and cherish, and from
whom he will receive love and consideration in
return. Because they want him to feel that if
sorrow comes he has a sympathizing, loving
friend close beside him, and that in the dav of
Joy there is one who can give him smile for
smile. These are the women worth marryinp
The others are of little worth and never would
be missed, if they suddenly dropped out of the
matrimonial bonds.
HOW TO HAVE \ HAPPY YEAR.
want to wish everybody Happy New Year
want everybody to get their hearts desire,
and, more than everything else for everybody
to start the New Year Alright. It's yours-white
and unspotted; you can take the great blotter
of forgetfulness and obliterate all the meanesses
and sins of the past, and you can photograph
with remembrance all its goodness and kindness
You have GOT to learn TO look at the world
Alright, and, to do this SUCCESSFULLY you and I
my friend, want to assume not the green spec-
tacIes Of discomfort, not those that are too rosy
and make all things seem good, but glasses
made OF the finest and clearest pebbles and
which show to the locker through them every
thing as it really is. There are times when it
seems as if everybody had on the green glasses
that make envy, hatred, malice and all un-
charltableness most prominent, and, again, be-
cause life is sunshiny the rose colored ones are
assumed, and it is difficult to believe that any
body is unhappy or in trouble. Now, for 1891
we want the clear glasses, we want to see life,
people, books, pictures, and beautiful belong
ings just as they are, while we know there is
sadness, trouble, and misery, aud seeing this
clearly we are going, not onlyto open our hearts
and eyes to it, but our hands as well. That's
what we want to do for the New Year. That's
what will make it happy New Year.
ARE WE GOOD OR ILIcIANNERED?
Looking out in one way it may be announced
mat we are at once the most chivalric and the
woTstmannered nation in the world. Too much
independence Of constitution has resulted in
TOO much independence Of manner, and there is
very slight inclination to respect either illness
or Ole age. Fashionable women 20 to the opera,
display their charms, or their lack of them, be-
4ieye that throat like an elderly chickens is
made beautiful By an elaborate necklace, talk
through an entire scene and then when some
man who feels that, as he paid for it he would
ike TO hear the music, ventures to hiss at the
chatty contingent, they glare at him and con-
clude that he is a bore. Now, that tribe of
women deserve TO be hissed down, and every
one OF them ought to 60 home with their cheeks
flaming because Of the great rudeness, and for
the coming year study each day in every week
what real politeness is.
TOO MUCH IMPoLITENEss ABROAD.
We are greatly given to talking about respect
ing the rights Of the nation. We haven't the
least particle Of consideration fortheindiyidual
Lmpoitcness exists in every class Of society. and
is the one vice upon which the rich and poor agree
to Acet together Our young girls are in such
q hurry to have good time that they forget
the Difference due to older women; our sons are
IN such hurry TO make money ana to be howl
ing swcl.s that they never give a thought to the
experience Of their fathers, whose advice they
don't consider worth having, and whom they
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