The Kimball graphic. (Kimball, Brule County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1883-1905, 1890-07-11
To Mothers.in.Law.

Here is some good advice for moth
ers-in-law who are honestly anxious tc
see their daughters happy after mar
riage. says the N. Y. Tribune, and il
comes from IN expert in such matters,
If any one can be considered an expert
in cases of that kind. 1t is the advice
of the clerk of one of the courts in the
county courthouse. He is now owe,
20 years old and has been n clerk fol-
almost fifty Years. Nearly all of that
time he has been in the part of the
court where n large majority of the
divorce cases are tried. Besides this,
he has several daughters who are hap.
PLY married, and he is u keen observer
Of human nature. A suit for limited
divorce was tried in the part in which
he is clerk the other day. in which toe
much m%other-in-law was the principal
cause of complaint. After it was
finished. he said to the writer:
IN tell you what it is, after all that
has been said about mothers-in-law rs
dlsturbers of domestic happiness
among young married couples. but one.
quarter has been told that might be
said about the subject. l have watched
the proceedings in not only hundreds,
but ! presume thousands, of divorce
cases, and ! tell YOU scores of those
cases are brought to court in conse.
quence of mothers-in-law. The trouble
is, too, that the mother-in-law often
causes the disturbance by actions which
she honestly believes are for the best
interests of her daughter. and because
she thinks that she Is making her child
happy by her conduct. Not only that,
but she would consider herself derelict
in her duty to her offspring if she did
not do rs she often does when she
causes lhc disturbance.
This misrepresentation of her duty
very often causes serious trouble. if not
Il divorce suit. When my first daughter
was married she and her husband came
to my house to live, and they had moi
been married u month before they
were quarreling. l saw how things
were going aud l bought them q small
house in Brooklyn and sent them over
there to live. Since that time they
have lived happily together, and they
have never had a serious quarrel since
that time. When my other daughters
were married l insisted upon their go
ing away from home Immediately, and
they are now oil living happily with
their husbands. / tell you what. the
less o mother-in-law has to do with hel
daughter during the first few years o.
tho daughters married life the bette,
that daughter will get along with he,
husband. It's all right for n mother tc
visit her daughter for short periods, o.
course, but she must let the young PEG,
Pile run their w affairs to suit them
selves. From the many cases which
have come under my observation
know that there is nothing II young
nan with any spirit resents so quickly
as the interference by his mother-in
law In his domestic arrangements. A
young couple will make Il great many
mistakes, of course, during the first few
years Of their married life, but they
will learn by experience quickly enough
to be practical. and they will be all tn,
moro closely bound together in con
sequence of the experience. Whereas
if the mother-in-law thinks it is hel
duty to teach Thorn there will be no enc
of trouble, and their married life il
likely to end in Il divorce suit befor,
they have really become acquainted
with each other"