The Sunday herald and weekly national intelligencer., 1890-10-05

Especial Correspondence of SUNDAY HERALD.
New YORK, Oct 3.
On the stage, in the newspapers, by the nov
elists, and among the people who discuss
things, to-day the marriage question is again to
the fore. Why men don't marry and why
women don't marry is talked over and talked
over until it would seem as if the subject were
worn threadbare, but it is always taken up
again at the next meeting.
l heard man say the other night, a man who
had been educated in the most conservative
manner, and who had seen much of life, 'What
l want is a companion who will be afTectionate.
DO not look for an ideal love, do not expect
to find an angel, but l would like to meet a
companion and comrade; one who, when l
wanted to be silent, didn't care to talk; one
who, when l wanted to discuss book, a pic
ture, bit of news, would be interested in
it; one who would be on one side of the fireside
when l was on the other and would make for
me home. And yet am not willing to bind
myself to any woman. l will not, even with
wedding ring, be tied" Sweet selfishness this
was
l told him this, and felt myself defender of
the cause of matrimony:
You will never get what you wish except in
a wife. The wife makes the home, makes the
home feeling, and is sufficiently loving and un-
selfish to give in to the whms and vagaries of
man. The other woman may interest you,
may be amusing, you may admire her beauty,
you may be proud of her wit, but she never can
make the place for your soul to rest in-that
must be encircled by golden band. AS for
ties-no ties are so strong as those that bind
man to his sins and none so difficult to break.
HOW WOMEN REGARD MARRIAGE
GAS to marriage, women are getting to look at
it in a much more sensible way than do men,
And woman just as carefully thinks out what
sort of companion she is going to have as she
does what sort of home she intends to make
for him. 1t goes without saying that she loves
him. For women are more essentially sensitive
of flesh than men, and seldom marry where they
dislike. January and June do occasionally wed
but usually June has gone a-Maying with young
love, had her heart hurt and is willing to accept
more or less chilling affection from January
and to be satisfied. Every woman can marry
even those with wooden legs, for if she can't
marry man who will be a companion to her
she can marry a man she can take care of: and
on my honor, there are women in this world in
whom the maternal is so strongly developed that
the greatest happiness of their married life is tax
ing care of the man who ought to be looking
after them. But it is just question of taste,
and if you prefer to care for Charlie and to study
out how his life shall be easy and I prefer to
care for Jack, and believe it is his duty to study
out how mine shall be made most comfortable,
that is entirely your business and mine.
MARRIAGE is NOT DECLINING.
''Just as many people get married now as ever
did, and tits something that will never, never go
of fash oct
crack-brained novests may write against it, and
morbid souls may moan over it, but ever since
the first marriage in the Garden of Eden we have
all had more or less of an inclination to 90 and
do likewise. Some marry and repent and some
repent because they don't marry; but as for any
body excepting wife making home for man
why, it is utter nonsense ~ 1t is needless to
say that after this TRADE even the selfish brute
in the shape of man who had given his opinion
in the beginning wilted-wilted perceptbly, and
my heart throbs with proud beat as l think it
possible that have made a convert. Between
you and me, am hoping that some nice rosy
faced girl who has just gotten back from the sea-
side will assist in the conversion, make him
more sensible man and husband
MOULDED TO THE FORM DIVINE.
We are all fitting around in summer frocks
lates! evolution of the American girl. She is
gloye-like in her get-up. Her gown is most
mysterious to behold, and the wopderment
among the club men is how she gets in it. |
could tell but won't But may mention that
neither a shoe-hon nor glove-buttoner are used
in the process The skirt (cloth, OF course) fits
her figure exactly a tiny gore just in front
making it quite smooth there while the curves
about her hips are fitted over as exactly as are
the gloves on her hand, In the back are
couple of double boX-pleats that give the neces-
sary fullness, but they never interfere with the
smoothness of the front, and are only there to
permit Mademoiselle to take the long swinging
step that just now she is affecting.
THE AMERICAN GIRLS FIGURE.
Her bodice is rather a long basque un-
trimmed, and not showing crease or awrinkle,
yet she can bend easily, and indeed in all her
movements suggests an unduation such as the
waves make. Only an American girl could
dress this way, for she is the only woman in the
world who has the figure to do it. Seldom over
medium size, she is usually extremely we'll
shaped about the hips, achieves the line Of
beauty in her back, and if her bust is small she
goes TO tailor who knows the value of curled
hair and cotton, and she does not present the
disgusting appearance of French women, who
even when they are quite young grow enor-
mously large about the bust. AS her feet are
small they show from beneath the plain skirt,
shod to perfection, and when | see her, this ex-
ponent of good form, 1 feel like rushing up,
shaking hands with her tellinU her how muob I