St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1890-02-23

IN SiiC VI WOIIltH WHO have
been wed some time. No matter how
happily mated these danes may be they
feel i'll duty bound to snub any express
sion of faith and contentment OH the
part OF the bride of few weeks. They
like to tell pleasant little stories CON
corning the fidelity of implicitly trusted
trusted husbands, their fondness for
night keys, club suppers, cards, their
peculiar eXactionS, eccentricities, and
so forth.
l CHANGED the other day 70 drop in
upon circle of these matrons when
two weeks bride called. The subject
OF marriage was brought up, and the
bride yentured to assert that it was not
always failure.
Then there was an expressive shrug
and cynical smile from the listeners,
one of whom said:
''Oh. but you've only been married
short while. It's all very pretty now,
if it would only last"
well hopefully it has lasted with
my mother and father some twenty odd
years"
ITS an Inheritance, then. why. l
wish I'd Inherited popularity of that
Kind from my parents"
II think American women are more
said another. II had a friend who said
she never knew what happiness was
until she married an American. Her
first husband was Spaniard, who loved
her madlv, and her life was in danger
from his jealousy. The second was an
Englishman, so cold and selfish that
she'd rather have had him kill her than
live with him. The third was an Amer
lean, neither warm nor cold. and he
gave her as much money as she wanted
and let her do as she pleased"
Now that's my idea of happinessr
said a pretty young matron. 'What
could woman want more than plenty
of liberty and plenty of money? What
is the jealous love of Spaniard beside
Shekels and freedom?"
II DON'T believe in jealous husbands"
said woman whose husband might
have been so with some cause. Every
jealous men are apt to be selfish. They
value you not for what you are, but for
what you are estimated to be by others.
Such men need a constant stimulant to
| their affections"
sWhat sort of husbands do you all be-
| lieve IMP" exclaimed the neWly-made
matron desperately.
For my part" replied careful ma
| iron with several daughters to marry,
81 should prefer a widower, well off
| and with no children, of course. He
should be about forty years old, and
must have been devoted husband to
| his first wife. Such a man has lived
over the vagaries of youth. He has
sowed wild oats, and anchored stead
tasty his ship of love until it was
blown away by the wind of eternity.
He has known llfe's greatest joys
| md In
! to appreciate profoundly the love of
woman; and, having learned many les
sons in woman-nature. he will neither
be too eXacting nor uncomprehending
| of her little fancieS and fOIbles. But
| I'd rather have the first love of man,
| even if it was eXacting, and even If we
| didn't always understand each other.
J / should want to feel that had been
the first to share his heart and life"
~
81 believe widower Of forty is pref
cradle to bachelor of the same age.''
said one who had reason to know. "Peo-
| pie talk of its being better to be an old
| mans darling then a young mans
slave; but L believe that the women
who marry old bachelors are the worst
| slaves Oh earth. Then, there are other
| objections besides unreaSOning selfish
| ness to unmarried men from forty on.
Such individuals seldom strike happy
mean. They are either prudes or roues.
| If the former they are fixed in their
prim. old-maidish habits; if the latter,
they have past that will not bear in
vestigation.
People are always talking of the hor-
ror of marrying old maids, and l can't
see why there isn't more said concern
ing the horror of marrying old bache-
olors-men whose sentiment has gener-
ally soured, whose tastes and habits
settled into selfish. narrow lives,
who have lived so long without the COM
panionship of women that they can't
understand or enjoy their nature when
they get married. Old bachelor hus-
bands are crusty, uspicieus-every-
thing that should cause the women who
have wed them to be pitied."
Here the party was interrupted by
the entrance of the hostess husband,
and the just married young woman
went to her home, doubtless with a
perturbed spirit. She has life time to
moralize upon matrimonys and perhaps
she can solve the riddle at the end.