The times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1890-1903, 1890-06-08

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obliged to put up with his whims and
capricee, his fault-iinding and satire,
till the end of their mortal lives.
The misery an ill-tempercd father can
make Is exceeded only by the dire
wretchedness and hopelessuess which
follows in the wake of fretful. mo-
rose, discouraging and ill-to-please
mother. who. more than all human
/ beings else. is black frost in the home
garden, malarious influence in the
/ home atmosphere.
Fortunate for the family where the
parents are always good tempered /,
] Deeply 10 be commiseratcd the family
where they are usually the reverse
/ Consider a moment how helpless are
| the young people when 1t comes 10 the
question of dealing with the behavior
of parents. You may stand the baby in
the corner, and Danish little Jack TO the
room upstairs. if either is determined
I TO pOut. or storm. or cry, or be con
/ trary.' You may demonstrate with
I Ella, who is twelve, and desire John
/ Henry. who is nine. to change his low
cling countenance to bright from "a
sullen expression. How often do We
hear the mother say: Look pleasant,
my child, We cannot have cross looks
in the dining groom, or parior,' or
wherever it may be. But the child may
not thus rcprove the older person, nor
send him or her from its aggrieved lres-
ence, nor do anything, except bear in
silence what the parent imay choose to
impose.
Nine times out Of ten, of course, the
evil word is contagious, and the CON
tagion spreads. sunny-hearted and
sunny faced parents make sunny
hearted and smiling little folks. a
habit Of good humOr IN father and
mother becomes habit OF amiablllty
and real sweetness in the family circle.
from the boy ana girl in their teens TO
the youngster in the crib.
1t may be urged, and with truth, that
parents are often tried and troubled by
the anxieties of which children know
nothing. The problem Of ways and
means. the disappointed remittances,
the ships that never come IN, the bat
ties and defeats and sorrow double
edged that are the portions of later
life. are quite unknown TO our darliDgs,
except as the reflection from our per
turbed and untranquil spirits falls
upon theirs. Ii is we'll that life : morn
ing should be CHEEKY, and that they
who are bearing the heat and burden
of the day should be strong for
whatever may come. But with
need is promised grace. 1t Is
doubtful whether any man or woman
got through hard day more success
fully by scolding at its ills, and making
others miserable because its sky over
his head, or hers. was for the time OF
iron and brass. Such skies often melt
over brave hearts and true, and always,
whatever tie sky above our head, above
that again stretches heaven, and our
Father in heaven is always ready to
hear us when we pray, ana to send, II
need be. his angels to our relief.
There are people who are plodding
and toiling from morning till night.
day by day. year by year, that they
NAV leave fortune. or, at least.
competence. TO their children. To this
end they add field to field, pile up
stock in bank by labOrious thrift, deny
themselves everything except absolute
necessaries, and grow narrow and
shriveled. because out of sympathy
with the world beyond their own front
doors; and all for the life that
now is. for the fashion that passeth
away. Meager is the harvesting from
such seed sowing. Its right to be dill
gent. and 10 look we'll to the ways Of
ones household in pecuniary affairs;
but 1t is better TO cultivate grace and
amenities than to grow rich in money
and pauperized in soul. And no future
store of gold and silver can ever repay
10 ones children the loss that is theirs
if father and mother be i'll tempered,
churlish or hateful in the sight of God
and man-Chrisuan Intelligencer.