The Cambria freeman. [volume] (Ebensburg, Pa.) 1867-1938, 1890-01-10
CUPID'S FIRST WOUNDS.
Thoughts on the Beautiful E1-
periences OF the Heart.
The First Love Is Merely a Preparation
for Better to Come How 1t AZ
feots and Helps Both Men
and Women.

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the same exaltation and freshness.
But l hold that there is in that first
stir Of the emotion by the opposite sex
a turn given to life, a color to our emo
tions, and lasting bias TO our whole
being that never Is given again. One
may love more wisely the second time,
and with a more lasting devotion. but
only the first love can give the abso-
Lutte thrill Of unalloyed bliss and open
the world to you as place of Joysome
work and worship. You are suddenly
awakened from boyhood and boyish-
ness, from irresponsibility and care
lessness concerning the future TO a
feeling of marvellous responsibility.
Behind you is the school, and play,
and obedience, and the fathers house;
ahead Is the exquisite pleasure OF
working for and teuderly guarding
a wife, and there is the new home to
which your imagination summons only
flowers, and song, and peace, and con-
tent Your love has not yet had q
single jar Here is a perfect thing.
The first love is rarely ever welded
1t is not so intended. Her mission is
to prepare the way for rational love
and safe marriage 1t is prema-
ture, preliminary, in the nature of
things is temporary, and has nothing
in it OF the home-making. The mar
ried love is economical. deliberative
and practical; the first love is neither
of these. 1t sees the world IN a false
light, because not full light Tho
color of all things Is no longer the
red Of life's sunrise, nor Is it yet the
yellow of sunset; it is rose color. If
our first loves were often welded, the
| result would, without doubt, be a
vast amount of misery. Marriage
! would, indeed, be c failure The
worst of all marriages are early mar
! riages, and the next worst are late
marriages Thoss that are very
early are sure to be lacking in COM
mon sense. The first experiences are
! babyish, and the result is childish
Quarrela The two contend over
, trifes. and, as for very late mar
| rlages, here again there Is quarrel
ing over trifes, because each one has
learned to have undisputed sway over
| personal matters The ideal mar
riage follows soon after the first love
has faded and the disappointment OF
burst bubbles and vanished air castles
has well healed.
II, unfortunately, the first love ends
in g speedy wedding, there Is first of
all the bosh and nonsense to be got
rid of. I do not mean that the gush
of first affection, the overflow and
flooding OF spring tenderness, are in
themselves nonsense, but they be-
] fr1
to our work-a-day world. They have
their place, but not in the family. II
they get there they have to be got rid
OF. And the coming down from airy
castles to cottages Ia some vast will
derness," and from that to plain city
fats, with g daily round of dreadful
prosaic duties, is neither easy nor
often successful, The chances are that
the change will come as collapse
and all affection will fail fat into dis
gust. Tho woman is likely first tc
come to the practical issue. and viii
either despise the sPoony style of her
partner. If he be Young and tender, OF
she will play a pettish part, as she
was used to do with her mother.
A woman rarely, although some
times, takes first love in the serious way
that the boy does. She is never more
different from man than at this point
She is more accustomed to affection
and TO its outbursta While it is true
that girl who has loved often is un.
fit TO be a true partner with one, ye
It must be understood that girl is al
ways In love Her friendships are o.
the same nature as love. Most girls
are by nature prepared to serve as oul
first loves
A man can have only ono first love
venture the surmise that q girl MAJ
have several In this way a nobl,
: girl is able TO break in and tam,
and render marriageable half a dozel
/ lads think l know one or two ol,
| maids who were peculiarly burdene'
in early life with lovers, but every on
? OF them first lovers. They were sensi
bic enough to comprehend this, and
instead OF seizing on one OF the sus
| | ceptible youths, marrying him out o
? ! hand, and so securing an escape from
2 / old maidism, they did what was sensi
ble and right, and are the happier 70
r It Bat they keep souvenirs OF thos
: days, and look them over with YER
/ gentle touch. Indeed. L think thos
t first loves served them, and still serve
Z 10 keep their hearts warm. The ben
eft Of first loveis most largely TO man
/ and the injury OF its dissipation les
Q hurtful TO woman
s First love affects different nature
E according 10 their makeup. II on
2 Re already Of a sensitive. gentle an
: rather soft texture, this first love
= likely to make him actually idiotic 70
= "a time. He becomes such a simPl,
t ton that his friends feel that he mu:
|. be taken in hand. The wisest of thcl
: undertake to discipline him, TO induC
G him 10 restrain his gush and sho
n some triie OF discretion, but entirol
= in vain. | know man, now OF gre;
A note in the land. who carried her le
d tiers in his breast pocket till it locke
p like o huge wen over his heart b
d the worst was he would pull them o.
h and read them TO any sort of acqua.n
ance. Ten TO one he wouId vas
II s-A4e one not a familiar for no 9th
10 purpose but TO tell the charms OF /
-e Inamorata, and TO read her letters. !
6. was superb scholar. and brig
every way; but on this topic he "
n the laughing-stock OF the town. I
IT whole thing went to pieces with
d crash, for what girls love can c
Z. dure such Stiffness? He survived I
:. disaster without impaired brain