The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1890-08-31
Divorce Laws.

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There is class of people that is badly
worried about the operation of the divorce
laws; and there has been society organ
lied to make it more difficult to obtain
divorces and to make the laws upon the
subject the same in all the states. Under
lying the movement is the belief that
divorce, except for one cause is unscrip
tural, ana hence with many the movement
partakes of a religious character. With
such people the object, of course, is that our
Jaws shall not conflict with divine laws
But, more gradually, perhaps the purpose
is TO put a stop to what is regarded as
great social evil. The rather indefinite aim
is to make marriage more generally happy,
and thus throw protection about the home.
ALI who have the welfare of the home and
of society at heart must lament the activity
of the divorce courts. But the courts are
not the cause. They are the effect. We
might shut them up, and thus by bringing
men and women face to face with the TACT
that when they promise each other to stick
for life it is a promise that is binding; we
might lead them to be great deal more
careful about their intercourse with each
other; we should not insure happy mar
riages. Beginning at the divorce courts is
not the place to begin the reform of the evil
which we are trying to reform. There is
no objection at all in smashing the courts.
Upon the whole, we believe that society
would be better off if divorces were impos-
sible, though there may be two sides to the
question. But until we can get some more
sense into the heads OF men and women
who fall in love, we shall fail in our real
purpose.
A young man and young woman fall in
love--anG SO do old men and old women for
that matter-and the last ray of good com
mon sense falls into nothingness. In the
majority of cases they al once become ire
Bponsible idiots They sre utterly map
proachahle with reason. Evidence as clear
as MONDAY against their fitness for each
other only make them love the harder and
talk the softer. They are each pertsct in
the others sight and the only thing outside
of the burning, all-consuming sentiment in
their hearts that ever engrosses their
thoughts for a moment is the improbability
that human nature will ever again reach
such marvellous perfection as each exhibits
to the other. In time the wedding day
comes and goes, and with its going comes
the stern reality of things. Gradually, as
the faults inseparable with human nature
begin to creep out, rude change comes to
their dreams, and it may continue to work
until there is only about one thing upon
which they agree, and that is that both
have made unmitigated fools of themselves.
Divorce courts or no divorce courts, that
agreement will be reached and the future
aunity of the family depends altogether upon
whether or not they continue to be fools or
turn about and exercise good Judgment
Now, we confess that we do not clearly
see how the difficulty is to be avoided as
long as human nature remains what it is
What is needed is the Importance of i'm
pressing men and women with the solemn
fact tnat there is great deal about court
ship ard matrimony besides sentiment
Matrimony is one of the most important
business matters people have anything t
do with. We can better afford to make mis-
takes about almost anything else: and be
fore the important step is taken the hear
ought to be kept down and the mind awake
until the most scrutiniziag investigation i
made of the character, disposition, habits
etc, and 1t would be well for each party U
investigate himself or herself before giyins
much attention to the other party. The
worst fraud ever practiced in this world i
for man or woman who is utterly unfit TO
husband or wife to palm themselves off Oh
somebody else with all their defects. Ii i
clear swindle. There ought to be no diff
ticulty for people to find out what their owl
fitness for matrimony is, for people do no
fall in love with themselves to an extern
that utterly blinds them TO their imported
tions.
a man of position or wealth is not AWAY
a pleasant fellow about the house. hav
friend, a lovely. intelligent woman, VIII
has an elegant home and wearing apparel
but happen to know that she dare not in
vest 30 cents without consulting the lord o
the mansion. Another, the wife of mil
lionaire, as she has no purse of her owr
gets what she wants and sends the bills t
her husband to storm over at his leisure
And, do you know, believe that Eve at
the apple because she wanted it and sh
liked ii Just as well as Adam did, only sh
had too much honor to slide around an
throw the blame on someone else. 1t is tn
lovers place to manage TO get the girl b
loves for wife, and if both are what the
should be there will be no more effort
that line needed to live happily together q
long as life lasts.
No, we did not promise 10 manage on
husbands; neither do many of the presef
generation promise to obey | have frien
whose lover spoke 10 the minister himse
saying he wished that word left out as b
was marrying woman, not child: and
assure you it has always been my delight
notice that she always does everything j
her power to please. Besides. / believ
that there are very few women now a-day
If they find themselves bound to a stake b
log chain, would not be glad to liberal
themselves by sly fib if they could Thel
don't believe that husbands have MOI
cares than wives do / think these thins
are very fairly balanced, and if cares mul
come they must be borne by both unfincl
ingly. Yes, let US make home as bright
possible, and with happy, sunshiney ten
pers keep the gray hairs out OF both head
that is if you don't like gray hairs, but
for one do and gladly say let them com
There is one thing Solomon can say-near
every man who is worthy of crown ge
it. How is it that at the end of that sti
ring appeal should come in the just and nj
tural but bitter cry against the laws tn
man has made. Does that husband W
reverence so much believe that WON;
who must obey the laws should have a vol
In making thems If he does he needs
little managing
The Desirable Girl
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cook. She is taught the art thoroughly.
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