The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1890-12-24
Ruling in Love.

There are two ways of governing q
family the first is bY force; the sec
ond Is by love. Any father or moth
er who attempts to govern the home
by force deserves to lose their empire,
and will be sure to failin the long run.
Love is the golden chain which binds
q family together. railways increas-
es their joys and helps to enlighten
their cares. Solomon well says, Bet
ter is O. dinner of herbs where love is,
than stalled OK and hatred there
WITH" You can be loving yet firm,
gentle but resolute. in carrying out
your own views. Remember, moth
ers, you are moulding the characters
and fixing the destiny Of your chill
dren. See to it when you refuse, you
refuse, finally, and when you consent,
you consent cheerfully. It has been
sweetly said '",.... -
"a mothers love Is never cold,
A mothers love Ia never old,
A mothers love Is ever true,
A mothers love Is nine times new"
Rely upon it that in proportion as
this gentle yet powerful influence
reigns in your home, and influences
you in the training of the children,
YOU will succeed. A mothers love for
her children when under proper inf1u-
ence, Is the noblest and purest illustra-
ton of goodness We can conceive.
How it has raised her character, nerv-
ed her resolution, and fixed he pur-
pose! What wonders it has wrought!
what sacrifices it has prompted
Speaking of this, Jean Paul Richter
truly observes, 'The nobIest and fair
est quality with which Nature could
and must furnish woman for the bene-
fit of posterity was love the most
ardent, yet without return, and for an
object unlike herself. The child re-
ceives love, and kisses, and night
watchings, but at first it only answers
with rebutfs and the weak creature
which requires most pay least. But
the mother gives unceasingly-yea,
her love only becomes greater with
the necessity and thankfulness Of the.
recipient, and she feels the greatest
for the most feeble, as the father for
the strongest child" No doubt 1t was
this kind of love which prompted
Mrs. Wesley to act 80 wisely and swell
the training of her children. She
seems to have been able to regulate
even their crying with as much ease
as either the sleep or food? Her rule
was this, when child reached its first
anniversary it should be taug ht to fear
the rod, aud to cry softly, and the re-
suit was success.
Try, then, to make your home bright
and attractive to your children
Many boy and girl goes astray, not
because they have no home, but be-
cause the home lacks brightness, or,
in other words, Sunshine" Children
need smiles as much as flowers need
sunbeanls. It is warmth which leads
to growth and beauty in our gardens,
and it is equally needful in the home.
A moonlight night never imparts the
glow which a sunny day gives to all
around. In like manner home
where faces are dull and sour, words
are harsh, and fault-inding is a con-
slant thing, will never prove attrac-
tive to the children, but will Of neces-
sity lead them to seek their happiness
elsewhere. let it be constant study,
therefore, with you to remove out OF
the way everything which will him
der constant sunshine from resting up
on your home, so that the children
may feel sure that, however dark it
may be outside, it will be bright with
in,-John w. Kirton, LID.