Herald and news. [volume] (West Randolph, Vt.) 1878-1943, 1890-06-26
poLlrENess IN THE HOME CIRCLE.
Points ON Etiquette That Young People
of Today Are Apt to Overlook.

Points on Etiquette That Young People
of Today Are Apt to Overlook.
True politeness is founded on considera-
ton for others; yet it is so much a matter
of form or habit that politeness is some
times shown where there is no consldera-
ton; it is sometimes neglected where there
is affection and every reason for KIND con-
alteration Thus, in the intercourse OF near
relatives. made familiar with each other by
daily meetings, there is naturally less Tor
mality than between people who are only
thrown together by chance for few hours
or DAYS at long intervals. But along Win
the LAYING aside of formality some neces
sary features of politeness are sometimes
sacrificed by relatives and very close friends.
The youth who is careful to salute his lazy
friends and acquaintance according tothe
usages of good society sometimes forgets
to nav the same respect TO his sister, not
because he is wanting in affectiorate re-
gard. but because he has grown so familiar
with her that it seems awkward to him to
treat her in any formal way. Yet when
he meets her in company he should, out OF
his consideration for her, be markedly po-
\ lite and attentive.
Although politeness necessarily follows
to a great extent set forms, it should have
have its origin in affection for the individ-
ual. or, in general way, consideration for
others. When the young man begins to
behave mt home with less politeness than
he exhibits abroad, there is much danger
that gradually he will lose that considera-
tion for his immediate relatives which he
should have and exhibit He may begin
by entering the family room without for
NAL greeting: absorbed in his own thoughts
or pursuits. he will soon begin TO leave his
sister and his mother TO look for them
I selves in the smaller Affairs Of life, and
gradually but surely he willtcultiyate sell
fish disposition in home affairs that will
make him bad or indifferent son OF
brother.
Ii Is "A small matter in itself whether a
Young man finds chair for his sister or
mother when they would be seated, antici-
pates their desire for a glass Of water,
cheerfully helps them TO their wraps, and
| offers them the thousand little attentions
without which, and in his absence, they
\ could get along very well by their own eN.
ertions but il is not a snail matter when
neglect of such attentions lessons his con
sideraton for them, develops his selfish
ness, and gradually undermines the afiec-
ton that should unite the family Polite
ness in society between acquaintance OF
friends is demanded By custom There Is
no need 60 remind readers that it should be
exhibited.
Politeness at home and between near
relatives even between husband and wife
though of much more Importance in every
way is not so obviously necessary, and Is
too often neglected. Gentlemen OF what
are known rs the ''old school were and arr
scrupulous in the observance Of the forms
of polite society toward their wives and
other female relatives, and in the home cir
Gle, but the later generation seems disposed
to treat relatives with less formality and
respect than is habitually shown strang
ers and acquaintance. The tendency
should be resisted, however and every en-
enlargement given in the home circle to m
observance Of the rules OF polite society
modified only by "A spontaneous exhibition
Of that greater affection which exists be
tween the members of a family group
! Baltimore sun.